,,fro/',s ,,laws ,,& ,,by-,,laws ,,( ,,am]ican ,,society ,a ,,cond5s$ ,,b ,,?or\gh ,,treatise ,,on ,,etiquette ,,& ,,its ,,usages ,,9 ,,am]ica1 ,,conta9+ ,,pla9 ,,& ,,reliable ,,directions ,,= ,,deportm5t ,,9 ,,e ,,situation ,,9 ,,life ,,on ,,! ,,foll[+ ,,subjects3 ,lett]s ( ,introduction1 ,salutes & ,salutations ,calls1 ,conv]sation1 ,invitations1 ,d9n] ,company1 ,balls1 ,morn+ & ,ev5+ ,p>ties1 ,visit+1 ,/reet ,etiquette1 ,rid+ & ,driv+1 ,travell+1 ,etiquette 9 ,*ur*1 ,etiquette = ,places ( ,amusem5t1 ,s]vants1 ,hotel ,etiquette1 ,etiquette at ,w$d+s1 ,baptisms & ,fun]als4 ,etiquette ) ,*ildr5 & at ! ,c>d ,table1 ,visit+ ,c>ds1 ,lettt]-,writ+1 ,! ,lady's ,toilet1 ,! ,g5tleman's ,toilet1 ,,besides ,,"o ,,hundr$ ,,unclassifi$ ,,laws ,,applicable ,,to ,,all ,,occasions ,by ,s4 ,a4 ,,fro/1 ,,au?or ,,( ,,fro/',s ,,lett]-,,writ]1 ,,etc4 #ahfi ,,preface4 ,= a long "t ! little book :i* we n[ (f] to ! public has be5 want$ 9 ! libr>y ( ! fa%ionable _w2 ! cu/oms1 ! etiquette1 ! diff]5t obligations :i* society imposes ^u ^? :o live 9 its mid/1 *ange frequ5tly1 & al?\gh ! g5]al pr9ciples are ! same1 al?\gh polit5ess & civility are ( all epoques & times1 nev]!less !re are few p]sons s entirely at home 9 all ! =ms t !y d n on "s occasion feel hesitation z to ! prop] mann] ( conduct+ !mselves4 ,inde$1 besides ! broad] & m ess5tial rules ( polit5ess1 !re are c]ta9 conv5tionalities adopt$ by good society1 :i*1 sanction$ by cu/om & absolute obligation1 _c1 )\t "s good reason1 be neglect$ by ! truly polite g5tleman or lady4 ,e day ! "q is rais$ :e!r su* & su* a cu/om is adopt$1 receiv$1 & prop]2 !re w con/antly arise a d\bt ab\t ! details ( "s c]emony1 ! prop] h\r = "s ent]ta9m5t1 ! true etiquette = "s occasion4 ,at su* a "t1 !re is a regret felt t !re is n at h&1 9 "o's own libr>y1 a safe guide1 an exp]i5c$ c\nsellor1 :o w answ] su* que/ions1 s trifl+ 9 appe>ance1 s important 9 reality4 ,a brea* ( etiquette1 an involunt>ily omission ( "s po9t ( polit5ess1 may (t5 h a s]i\s influ5ce ^u ! future ( ! p]petrator4 ,none ( ^! little details are to be scorn$ !y h ea* & e "o a value4 ,x is to meet ! want already m5tion$ t ?is little volume has be5 prep>$4 ,x makes no claim to orig9ality2 b its aim is to be p]fectly reliable4 ,engli%1 ,fr5*1 & ,am]ican au?orities ( weight h be5 consult$1 & no?+ admitt$ t 0 n sanction$ by exp]i5ce & ! cu/oms ( ! be/ society4 ,books1 x is v true1 h be5 already writt5 ^u ?is subject2 b !y are = ! mo/ "p fill$ ) useless details1 & (t5 d n conta9 :at is ( mo/ importance4 ,! aim ( ! ,editor ( ! pres5t "w has be5 to avoid bo? extremes1 to select only :at 0 useful1 reliable1 & well e/abli%$1 & to reject only :at 0 valueless or m]e repetition4 ,! subjects treat$ are all class$ t !y may h easy ref]5ce1 & admit ( consultation at a mom5t's notice4 ,! little book goes =? ) "o pret5sion only1 "o ambition alone--to be useful4 ,,cont5ts4 ,etiquette & ,its ,uses ,introductions ,lett]s ( ,introduction ,salutes & ,salutations ,calls ,conv]sation ,invitations ,d9n] ,company ,balls ,morn+ & ,ev5+ ,p>ties ,visit+ ,/reet ,etiquette ,rid+ & ,driv+ ,travell+ ,etiquette ,9 ,*ur* ,etiquette ,= ,places ( ,amusemf5t ,s]vants ,hotel ,etiquette ,w$d+ ,etiquette ,etiquette ,= ,baptisms ,etiquette ,= ,fun]als ,etiquette ( ! ,/udio ,table ,etiquette ,etiquette ,) ,*ildr5 ,games ,) ,c>ds ,visit+ ,c>ds ,lett] ,writ+ ,! ,lady's ,toilet ,! ,g5tleman's ,toilet ,miscellane\s --- ,,! ,,laws ,,& ,,by-,,laws ,,( ,,am]ican ,,society4 ,,etiquette ,,& ,,its ,,uses4 ,,!re are a great _m p1 9 o!r respects p]fectly e/imable 7:i* makes ! compla9t aga9/ !m ! m griev\s7 :o ma9ta9 t ! laws ( nature are ! only laws ( b9d+ =ce among ! units :i* compose society4 ,!y d n ass]t _! doctr9e 9 s _m words1 b practically !y av[ x1 & !y are n sl[ to express _! contempt = ! ridicul\s etiquette :i* is decl>$ by _! oppon5ts to be ess5tial to ! well be+ ( society4 ,^! p are probably a law to !mselves 9 su* matt]s2 !y obey 9 _! rules ( conduct ^? in/9cts ( propriety & good mann]s :i* 7 implant$ 9 !m at _! bir?1 & cultivat$ probably by _! education1 & !re=e !y h small ne$ to /udy especially h[ to conduct !mselves 9 _! int]c\rse ) society4 ,9 su* cases1 _! opposition to a writt5 code ( mann]s is r an affair ( !ory ?an ( practice1 & x seems r absurd t !y %\ld s emphatically d5\nce ! sy/em :i* !y !mselves1 by example r ?an precept1 ?or\ghly c>ry out4 ,!y w\ld be probably z av]se to committ+ any act ( rud5ess1 or any brea* ( polit5ess z ! w>me/ admir] ( ! primitive life ( ! ,indian w\ld be to liv+ himself 9 a dirty t5t1 & eat+ 8 food1 half cook$1 on a =k$-/ick ov] a camp fire4 ,= su* p ?is little code ( ! ,laws & ,by-,laws ( ,am]ican ,society is n writt54 ,!re are o!rs :o are equally fi]ce 9 _! d5unciations ( ! ridicul\s etiquette above m5tion$1 b :o h n ! same natural excuse = be+ s4 ,^! are ! rude1 r\gh natures1 :om no am\nt ( social rubb+1 or int]c\rse ) ! mo/ ref9$ w\ld poli%1 ?\gh ! pr(essors ( ! art ( good bre$+ poli%$ nev] s wisely4 ,!y act 9 _! rules ( conduct on a pr9ciple :olly selfi%1 mak+ _! own ease & com=t ! fir/1 if n inde$ ! sole aim1 reg>dless entirely ( ! am\nt ( inconv5i5ce or discom=t !y may occasion to o!rs4 ,!y are oblig$ to cry d[n1 = m]e consi/5cy's sake1 ! sy/em :i* condemns _! own c\rse ( action1 & :i* gives c]ta9 laws = gov]n+ ! conduct1 & c]ta9 o!r laws prohibit+ _m ( ! acts ( rud5ess :i* !y f9d s agreeable1 b :i* o!rs may reasonably object to z (f5sive4 ,su* p]sons1 too1 w ( c\rse freely express _! op9ion1 yet _! d5unciations w probably produce an exactly opposite effect to ! "o !y int5d1 _! own conduct prov+ ! p]nici\s influ5ce ( _! !ory4 ,_! abuse w be1 n ! expression1 half 9 bad9age1 ( m9ds prote/+ by anticipation aga9/ ! abuse ( =ms & c]emonies2 b ! ignorant invective ( co>se-m9d$ p aga9/ a pr9ciple t w\ld tame !m1 & m\ld !m into a m agreeable pres5ce4 ,!y exclaim l\dly aga9/ :at !y p]sonally dislike1 h[ev] b5eficial x may be ei!r to !mselves or o!rs4 ,= !m ?is little book ( ! ,laws & ,by-,laws ( ,am]ican ,society is n writt54 ,besides ! two classes already m5tion$1 !re is ano!r exce$+ly l>ge class ( society1 :i*1 f> f be+ boori% by nature1 yet f circum/ances lacks ! cultivation :i* alone w br+ ! conduct into su* tra9+ z w fit x practically = exhibition 9 society4 ,to ! p]sons compris+ ?is class1 x is n only a s\rce ( regret1 b ( absolute pa91 to be ignorant ( ! rules :i* make society coh]e1 :i* m>k out ! functions & duties ( ! v>i\s memb]s :i* comprise x1 & :i* gu>d alike aga9/ annoyances f ! imp]t95t1 & intrusions by ! ill-br$1 promot+ by organiz$ me?ods ! =mation ( desirable acqua9tance%ip & pleasant fri5d%ips1 :i* o!rwise might nev] take place4 ,isolation f society1 ! want ( prop] in/ruction1 ! ill effect ( bad example1 ! advice ( ! prejudic$1 ! association ) ! l[-br$1 & a hundr$ o!r causes1 may conspire to prev5t t intimacy ) ! c>d9al rules ( good behavior1 :i* decorum & good bre$+ h dictat$ = ! bett] guidance ( ! community4 ,x is = su* p]sons1 & = ! _m o!rs :o1 ?\gh n unacqua9t$ ) ! pr9ciples :i* %\ld guide !m 9 _! conduct1 are yet (t5 at fault ^u que/ions ( detail1 & sometimes commit errors1 :i* are ! m excusable t absolute rules1 d$uc$ f prec$5t & e/abli%$ by practice alone c\ld set !m "r1 t ?is code ( ,mod]n ,etiquette has be5 prep>$4 ,to !m x is (f]$ z supply+ a ne$ :i* x is _! mis=tune1 r ?an _! fault1 to exp]i5ce1 9 ! hope t x w be f\nd to conta9 a complete guide = !m 9 ! op5 pa?s & by-pa?s too ( good society4 ,be=e beg9n+ to lay d[n ! rules & ord9ances ( ,etiquette1 x w be well to say a few words ^u ,etiquette itself4 ,etiquette is1 9 po9t ( fact1 no?+ m nor less ?an ! law1 writt5 & unwritt51 :i* regulates ! society ( civiliz$ p1 di/+ui%+ !m f ! communities ( b>b>\s tribes1 ^: lives are h>d & _! mann]s /ill h>d]4 ,x is to a well discipl9$ & ref9$ m9d ! fundam5tal pr9ciple ( action 9 all int]c\rse ) society1 & !y are int]e/$ 9 ma9ta9+ x 9 its integrity1 & b\nd to he$ & obey its simple/ z well z m =mal precepts4 ,! real law-giv] is ! g5]al conv5i5ce1 speak+ ) au?ority & ! exp]i5ce ( _m ye>s2 & x w be f\nd t ev5 9 ^? cases1 :]e ! mean+ ( its rules may be some:at obscure at fir/ sight1 !re is an und]ly+ reason = ! regulation laid d[n4 ,etiquette1 l e o!r human in/itution1 is ( c\rse liable to abuse2 x may be trans=m$ f a conv5i5t & :olesome means ( produc+ univ]sal com=t into an inconv5i5t & burd5some re/ra9t ^u fre$om & ease4 ,x may become ! fir/ consid]ation1 in/ead ( m prop]ly ! second1 z is (t5 ! case ) ! in/rum5tal accompanim5t to a song1 & !n x becomes1 z does ! accompanim5t1 an intol]able nuisance4 ,! m]e =m1 ov]-rid+ & hid+ ! _s :i* %\ld control & guide x2 an entirely artificial /ate ( ?+s1 tak+ ! place ( ! natural1 mu/ inevitably produce discom=t & extravagance ( behavior4 ,nature is ?us made ! slave ( ,art1 in/ead ( ,art tak+ its prop] place z ! h&maid to ,nature4 ,etiquette1 to be p]fect1 !re=e1 mu/ be l a p]fectly fitt+ g>m5t1 :i*1 beautify+ & adorn+ ! p]son1 mu/ yet nev] cramp or re/ra9 p]fect fre$om ( movem5t4 ,any visible re/ra9t w m> its grace1 z a wr9kle w m> ! pure outl9e ( ! g>m5t4 ,mo/ p h he>d ( ! g5tleman 787 :o 0 p]fect 9 8 k ( ! laws ( etiquette1 & :o1 see+ a man dr[n+1 took (f 8 coat & 0 ab\t to plunge into ! wat] to rescue him1 :5 he sudd5ly rememb]$ t he _h nev] be5 introduc$ to ! /ruggl+ victim1 & resum+ 8 coat1 tranquilly proce$$ ^u 8 way4 ,n less absurd are a ?\s& in/ances :]e a reg>d = =mal mann]ism takes ! place ( ! easy grace t is ! m>k ( true polit5ess1 :i* be+ well acquir$ & habitual1 is nev] obtrusive or (f5sively prom95t4 ,too rigid an obs]vance ( ! laws ( etiquette makes !m an absurdity & a nuisance4 ,b1 because ! laws ( etiquette may be made a re/ra9t "u injudici\s managem5t1 x does n foll[ t !y %\ld be disreg>d$ or 9 any way set aside4 ,! abuse ( !m is no argum5t aga9/ !m1 any m ?an gluttony is any reason = />vation4 ,x is n ! food t is 9 fault1 b ! excess ( ! p]son p>tak+ ( x4 ,! fault mu/ be laid :olly & solely at ! door ( ^? :o misund]/& ! use & int5tion ( really s\nd & excell5t precepts4 ,! extravagance ( an ov]display ( etiquette is really only ano!r =m ( innate vulg>ity1 al?\gh !re are in/ances :i* may be drawn f ! side ( ov] ref9em5t1 f ! hi/ory ( p & societies1 :o become extravagant 9 _! devotion to :at !y deem good bre$+1 simply because1 l ! />s t look$ d[n ^u ,molly ,bawn1 !y'd no?+ else to d4 ,!re are to be f\nd1 ev5 9 grave hi/ory--amid ! records ( w>1 treaties1 conque/s1 adm9i/rations & revolutions-- acc\nts giv5 9 equally grave language ( deep que/ions ( etiquette :i* seem to h be5 debat$ & settl$ ) z mu* c>e & en]gy z ! mo/ s]i\s que/ions ( /ate affairs4 ,cases ( ?is sort are ann\nc$ & well f\nd$4 ,:oev] likes to see ! ext5t to :i* att5tion 0 giv5 to ! subject c seek in/ances 9 ! memoirs ( public *>act]s :o liv$ 9 ! sev5te5? c5tury1 9 ! di>ies ( m9ute detail]s l ! ,duke de ,/4 ,simon1 ,page to ,8 ,mo/ ,*ri/ian ,maje/y1 ,l\is ! ,f\rte5?2 l ,sir ,john ,f9ett1 ,ma/] ( ,c]emonies to ,*>les ! ,fir/1 & 9 ! dome/ic hi/ories ( ! c\rti]s & gr&ees ( ! ,spani% & ,v5etian c\rts4 ,=tunately1 ! "t has gone by :5 nice que/ions ab\t trifl+ po9ts ( etiquette s]v$ to light ! flame ( civil w>1 z once !y did 9 ,france1 & to set ! :ole ( ! upp] class 9 a k+dom 9 arms4 ,we owe ?is1 p]haps1 z mu* to ! g5]al increase ( civilization z to ! work+ ( any p>ticul> set ( rules or sy/em4 ,b ! pr9ciple :i* actuat$ ! ,fr5* nobility1 at ! "t allud$ to1 is an inh]5t "o 9 ! human m9d1 & w\ld be likely to repeat itself 9 "s %ape or ano!r1 n s viol5tly p]haps1 b /ill to repeat itself1 7 x n kept 9 *eck by ! kn[n laws ( society4 ,mr4 ,buckle tells u t z late z ! reign ( ,l\is ! ,f\rte5?1 ! "r to sit 9 ! pres5ce ( ! ,fr5* k+ 0 consid]$ to be a matt] ( su* gravity t 9 comp>ison ) x a m]e /ruggle = lib]ty fad$ into insignificance4 ,!re 0 a p]petual /riv+ :i* %\ld be acc\nt$ greate/4 ,accord+ to ! old code ( etiquette1 a duke's wife might sit 9 ! ,fr5* que5's pres5ce1 b no "o "u t rank c\ld d s4 ,a comb9ation ( m>quises1 c\nts1 & o!r nobles 0 =m$ & wrung f ! h& ( ,l\is ! ,f\rte5?1 ?is concession t ! ladies ( ! h\se ( ,b\illon might sit 9 ! pres5ce ( ! que54 ,b ?is 0 fuel to ! fire ( ! comb9$ noblem5's ang]2 two ho/ile p>ties 7 =m$1 & ! "q ( etiquette 0 ne>ly be+ decid$ by ! sword4 ,x requir$ all ! tact & /atesman%ip ( ,maz>9 to prev5t ?is1 & 9 ! end ! "r 0 conc$$ to ?ree ( ! mo/ di/+ui%$ ladies ( ! l[] ari/ocracy1 to sit d[n 9 ! pres5ce ( ! que54 ,^u ?is1 ! sup]ior nobility summon$ _! adh]5ts to ,p>is1 & really a sev]e /ruggle foll[$1 :i* end$ 9 ! la/ m5tion$ concession be+ revok$2 & s great 0 ! importance atta*$ to ! revocation t no?+ w\ld satisfy ! nobles %ort ( ! public )drawal be+ drawn up 9 a /ate pap]1 sign$ by ! que5's reg5t1 c\nt]sign$ by ! f\r secret>ies ( /ate1 & convey$ to ! assembly ( nobles by f\r m>%als ( ,france4 ,! ,fr5* memoirs ( ?is p]iod 7! sev5te5? c5tury7 ab\nd ) ref]5ces to j su* que/ions ( c\rt etiquette2 :o might use an arm-*air at c\rt2 :o 0 to be invit$ to ! royal d9n]2 :o might be kiss$ by ! que52 :at degree ( nobility entitl$ a man to be driv5 to ! ,l\vre 9 a coa*2 :e!r all dukes 7 equal1 or :e!r1 z "s ?\ght1 ! ,duke de ,b\illon1 hav+ once possess$ ! sov]eignty ( ,s$an1 0 sup]ior to ! ,duke de la ,ro*ef\cauld1 :o _h nev] possess$ any sov]eignty at all2 :o %\ld give ! k+ 8 napk9 at d9n]1 & :o might h ! honor ( assi/+ at ! toilet ( ! que54 ,! "q :e!r ! ,duke de ,beau=t ought or ought n to ent] ! c\ncil *amb] be=e ! ,duke de ,nem\rs1 & :e!r1 be+ !re1 he ought or ought n to sit above him1 caus$ a viol5t qu>rel betwe5 ! two dukes 9 #afeb1 a qu>rel :i*1 ( c\rse1 end$ 9 a duel1 & ! dea? ( ! ,duke de ,nem\rs4 ,! equally grave "q1 :e!r a duke %\ld sign be=e a m>%al 0 viol5tly disput$ betwe5 ! ,duke de ,rohan & "o ( ! m>%als ( ,h5ry ! ,f\r?1 & ! k+ 0 oblig$ to int]f]e 9 ! matt]4 ,^!1 ( c\rse1 are b s _m in/ances ( ! pr9ciple ( etiquette c>ri$ to an extravagant l5g?1 & simply prove ! dang] !re is 9 all[+ ?+s ( less importance to sup]s$e or take ! prec$5ce ( ^? ( great] weight4 ,!y s]ve to expla91 & 9 "s measure to excuse ! d5unciatory expressions :i* _m ?or\ghly well-br$ p use aga9/ etiquette1 su* expressions be+1 z be=e sugge/$1 m]ely prote/s utt]$ 9 anticipation ( a repetition ( ! absurdity :i* ov]-att5tion to c]emonies is liable to introduce4 ,b su* cases are really no argum5t aga9/ etiquette itself1 )\t def]5ce to :i* x w\ld be impossible to live 9 any?+ l fre$om f annoyance f p]sons naturally imp]t95t1 or 9 ! full enjoym5t ( t social lib]ty :i* e "o has a "r to expect4 ,good bre$+ is1 z ,"l ,*e/]field well says1 ! result ( mu* good s5se1 "s good nature1 & a little self-d5ial = ! sake ( o!rs1 & ) a view to obta9 ! same indulg5ce f !m4 ,"l ,bacon1 9 8 admirable essay on ,c]emonies1 says3 ,n to use c]emonies at all1 is to tea* o!rs n to use !m aga91 & s dim9i%e? respect to himself2 especially !y be n to be omitt$ to /rang]s & =mal natures2 b ! dwell+ ^u !m1 & exalt+ !m above ! moon is n only t$i\s1 b do? dim9i% ! fai? & cr$it ( him t speaks4 ,to quote aga9 f ,"l ,*e/]field1 :o says3 ,good s5se & good nature sugge/ civility 9 g5]al2 b 9 good bre$+ !re are a ?\s& little delicacies :i* are e/abli%$ only by cu/om4 ,x is precisely ^! little delicacies :i* con/itute ! diff]5ce betwe5 polit5ess & etiquette4 ,polit5ess is t inborn reg>d = o!rs :i* may dwell 9 ! he>t ( ! mo/ ignorant boor1 b etiquette is a code ( outw>d laws :i* mu/ be le>n$ by ! resid5t 9 good society1 ei!r f obs]vation or ! in/ruction ( o!rs4 ,x is a poor argum5t us$ aga9/ etiquette t x is n tru?ful1 & t unc\? mann]s are m frank & s9c]e ?an poli%$ & ref9$ ones4 ,is tru? !n a h$gehog1 always #c bri/l+ & (f5sive4 ,_c tru? be spok5 9 c\rte\s acc5ts f a k9d1 g5tle impulse1 z well z blurt$ out rudely & giv+ pa9 & mortification8 ,x is true t r\ghness & s9c]ity (t5 abide toge!r1 b w\ld x de/roy ! hone/y to poli% away ! r\ghness8 ,etiquette1 x is sometimes urg$1 is us$ to cloak :at is holl[1 unmean+ & false1 yet may x n also drape gracefully :at is true1 s9c]e & important8 ,true polit5ess mu/ come f ! he>t1 f an unselfi% desire to please o!rs & contribute to _! happ9ess2 :5 ^u ?is natural impulse is plac$ ! poli% ( a complete & ?or\gh k ( ! laws ( etiquette1 ! mann]s mu/ be p]fect & graceful4 ,etiquette add$ to natural polit5ess is z a beautiful jewel ^u a ta/eful dress4 ,rusk9 ?us def9es a g5tleman3 ,a g5tleman's fir/ "* is t firmness ( /ructure 9 ! body :i* r5d]s x capable ( ! mo/ delicate s5sation1 & ( t /ructure 9 ! m9d :i* r5d]s x capable ( ! mo/ delicate sympa?ies--"o may say simply f95ess ( nature4 ,?is is1 ( c\rse1 compatible ) h]oic bodily /r5g? & m5tal firmness2 9 fact1 h]oic /r5g? is n conceivable )\t su* delicacy4 ,elephant9e /r5g? may drive its way ?r\gh a =e/1 & feel no t\* ( ! b\ghs1 b ! :ite sk9 ( ,hom]'s ,atrides w\ld h felt a b5t rose leaf1 yet subdue its feel+s 9 gl[ ( battle1 & behave itself l iron4 ,i d n mean to call an elephant a vulg> animal2 b if y ?9k ab\t him c>efully1 y w f9d t 8 non- vulg>ity consi/s 9 su* g5tl5ess z is possible to elephant9e nature2 n 9 8 ins5sitive hide1 nor 9 8 clumsy foot1 b 9 ! way he w lift 8 foot if a *ild lies 9 8 way2 & 9 8 s5sitive trunk1 & /ill m s5sitive m9d1 & capability ( pique on po9ts ( honor4444 ,h5ce x w foll[1 t "o ( ! probable signs ( high bre$+ 9 m5 g5]ally w be _! k9dness & m]cifulness2 ^! always indicat+ m or less firmness ( make 9 ! m9d4 ,und\bt$ly ! fir/ law ( good bre$+ is unselfi%ness1 t ?or\gh =getfulness ( "o's own wants & com=ts1 & ?\ghtfulness = ! happ9ess & ease ( o!rs1 :i* is ! ,*ri/ian g5tleman's rule ( life2 :i* makes him yield ! easy *air to ano!r old] & weak] ?an himself1 & sit ^u a n>r[ b5*1 or p]haps /& up2 :i* selects = ano!r ! *oice/ portions ( ! di%es ^u ! table1 & uncompla9+ly d9es (f :at is left2 :i* he>s ) smil+ int]e/ ! well- worn anecdotes ( ! vet]an /ory-tell]2 :i* g5tly lifts ! little *ild1 :o has fall51 & com=ts ! sobb+ grief & t]ror2 :i* nev] =gets to endeavor to please o!rs1 & seems1 at lea/1 pleas$ ) all ef=ts made to ent]ta9 himself4 ,place ! code ( polit5ess beside t ( vulg>ity & see if ! "o does n conta9 all virtue1 ! o!r vice4 ,is n good temp] virtu\s & polite1 bad temp] vici\s & vulg>8 ,is n self d5ial virtu\s & polite1 selfi%ness vici\s & vulg>8 ,is n tru? virtu\s & polite1 sc&al vici\s & vulg>8 ,take e pr9ciple 9 ! conv5tional code ( ! p]fectly well-br$1 & s def9e x1 & n a virtue is rude4 ,true etiquette1 z we h said be=e1 is n polit5ess1 yet x is f\nd$ ^u ! same basis4 ,an ,engli% au?or says3 ,etiquette may be def9$ z ! m9or morality ( life4 ,no obs]vances1 h[ev] m9ute1 t t5d to sp>e ! feel+s ( o!rs1 c be class$ "u ! head ( trivialities2 & polit5ess1 :i* is b ano!r "n = g5]al amiability1 w oil ! creak+ :eels ( life m effectually ?an any ( ^? ungu5ts suppli$ by m]e weal? or /ation4 ,to be truly polite1 "o mu/ be at once good1 j & g5]\s1 has be5 well said by a mod]n ,fr5* writ]3 ,true polit5ess is ! outw>d visible sign ( ^? inw>d spiritual graces call$ mode/y1 unselfi%ness1 g5]osity4 ,! mann]s ( a g5tleman are ! index ( 8 s\l4 ,8 spee* is innoc5t1 because 8 life is pure2 8 ?\ghts are direct1 because 8 actions are upright2 8 be>+ is g5tle1 because 8 blood1 & 8 impulses1 & 8 tra9+ are g5tle also4 ,a true g5tleman is entirely free f e k9d ( pret5ce4 ,he avoids homage1 in/ead ( exact+ x4 ,m]e c]emonies h no attractions = him4 ,he seeks n only to say civil ?+s1 b to d !m4 ,8 hospitality1 ?\gh he>ty & s9c]e1 w be /rictly regulat$ by 8 means4 ,8 fri5ds w he *os5 = _! good qualities & good mann]s2 8 s]vants = _! ?\ghtfulness & hone/y2 8 occupations = _! usefulness1 or _! gracefulness1 or _! elevat+ t5d5cies1 :e!r moral1 or m5tal1 or political4 ,& s we come r\nd aga9 to our fir/ maxims1 i4e41 t 'good mann]s are ! k9dly fruit ( a ref9$ nature4' ,& if ?is be true ( mank9d1 h[ /ill m true is x ( womank9d6 ,grant$ t tru?fulness1 gracefulness1 consid]at5ess1 unselfi%ness1 are ess5tial to ! bre$+ ( a true g5tleman1 h[ inf9itely ess5tial mu/ !y be to ! bre$+ ( a true lady6 ,t h] tact %\ld be ev5 readi]1 h] sympa?ies ev5 t5d]]1 h] in/9ct ev5 f9] ?an ^? ( ! man1 seems only fit & natural4 ,9 h] polit5ess1 prevcyance1 & all ! m9or obs]vances ( etiquette1 are absolutely indisp5sable4 ,%e mu/ be ev5 m ^u h] gu>d ?an a man 9 all ^? niceties ( spee*1 look & mann]1 :i* are ! especial & indisp5sable cr$5tials ( good bre$+4 ,e little draw+-room c]emonial1 all ! laws ( society1 ! :ole etiquette ( hospitality mu/ be famili> to h]4 ,& ev5 9 ^! po9ts1 artificial ?\gh !y be1 h] be/ guide aft] all1 is t k9dness ( he>t :i* gives honor :]e honor is due1 & :i* is ev] anxi\s to sp>e ! feel+s & prejudices ( o!rs4 ,e mi/ress ( a h\se1 be x rememb]$1 is a m9or sov]eign1 ^u ^: b\nty ! com=t1 & happ9ess1 & ref9em5t ( h] little c\rt dep5ds4 ,%e mu/ take especial c>e t h] s]vants are capable1 well tra9$ & reliable1 & t h] dome/ic arrangem5ts are c>ri$ on z noiselessly & easily z if by ma*9]y4 ,9 a well ord]$ h\se ! ma*9]y is always 9 ord]1 & always works out ( sight4 ,no well-br$ woman talks ( h] s]vants1 ( h] d9n] arrangem5ts1 or ! affairs ( h] nurs]y4 ,"o feels ^! matt]s to be "u h] surveillance1 & t fact alone is a gu>antee ( _! good managem5t4 ,! amusem5ts & com=ts ( h] gue/s are provid$ = )\t discussion or comm5t2 & :atev] goes wrong is /udi\sly )held f ! conv]sation ( ! draw+-room4 ,& let no lady1 h[ev] "y1 h[ev] beautiful1 h[ev] gift$1 = "o mom5t imag9e t ! managem5t ( h] h\se c be neglect$ ) impunity4 ,if %e is ri* en\gh to provide an effici5t h\sekeep]1 well & good2 b1 ev5 s1 ! f9al responsibility mu/ /ill re/ ^u h]1 & h] alone4 ,no ta/es1 no pleasures mu/ /& 9 ! way ( ?is important duty2 & ev5 if t duty %\ld at fir/ seem irksome1 ! fulfillm5t ( x is sure to br+ its own rew>d4 ,! v atmosph]e ( ! h\se proclaims ! mi/ress4 ,! s]vants we> a *e]ful air1 & meet y ) c&id & fri5dly faces2 ! rooms are ta/efully furni%$2 an irreproa*able cleanl9ess & neatness reign ar\nd4 ,! unexpect$ gue/ f9ds an ord]ly table & an unemb>rass$ welcome4 ,9 su* a h\se1 sc&al f9ds no favor1 & conv]sation nev] deg5]ates into gossip4 ,9 su* a home1 peace & pl5ty & goodwill are p]man5t h\sehold gods4 ,! mo/ p]fect law ( polit5ess1 ! safe/ & sure/ guide 9 all t p]ta9s to ! true def9ition ( a g5tleman or lady is1 aft] all1 ! ,*ri/ian rule3 ,d unto o!rs z y w\ld o!rs %\ld d unto y4 ,no "o ) ?is = a guide c ev] fail 9 true1 g5u9e polit5ess1 & t polit5ess w soon lead him to le>n & rememb] all ! prevail+ rules ( e/abli%$ etiquette4 ,,introductions4 ,,nev] introduce p to ea* o!r unless y are sure ! acqua9tance s comm5c$ w be mutually agreeable4 ,a p]son :o1 f y\?1 social position or any o!r cause1 /&s 9 ! inf]ior position ( ! two p]sons to be introduc$ to ea* o!r1 mu/ be introduc$ to ! sup]ior4 ,a g5tleman is always to be introduc$ to a lady1 nev] a lady to a g5tleman4 ,at a ball1 x is ! "p ( ! ho/ & ho/ess to make introductions among/ ! gue/s2 b gue/s may ) p]fect propriety introduce fri5ds to ea* o!r4 ,g5tlem5 mu/ nev] introduce fri5ds to ladies1 )\t fir/ obta9+ special p]mission to d s1 & ?is p]mission %\ld be always grant$1 unless !re is a v /rong reason = ! refusal4 ,! ,fr5*1 & 9 a great measure ! ,engli%1 disp5se ) introductions at a private ball4 ,x is tak5 = grant$ t ! ho/ess has invit$ to h] ball only su* p z are fit to be mutually acqua9t$1 & ! fact t !y h be5 invit$ to meet ea* o!r is a suffici5t w>rant = self-introduction4 ,?is practice saves a great deal ( tr\ble1 b x applies only to balls 9 private h\ses4 ,at any public ball1 p>tn]s mu/ be introduc$ to ea* o!r2 inde$ x is bett] = ladies at su* ent]ta9m5ts1 to dance only ) ! g5tlem5 ( _! own p>ty1 or ) :om !y _h a previ\s acqua9tance4 ,special introductions may1 h[ev]1 be made ) propriety by ! ma/] ( c]emonies4 ,:5 introduc+ two g5tlem51 look fir/ to ! eld]1 or1 if !re is any diff]5ce 9 social /&+1 to ! sup]ior1 & ) a slight b[ say to him3 ,all[ me to introduce my fri5d1 ,mr4 ,jones1 to y2 !n turn+ to y\r fri5d1 repeat 8 "n1 & foll[ x by t ( ! g5tleman to :om he is introduc$1 ?us3 ,mr4 ,smi?1 all[ me to introduce my fri5d1 ,mr4 ,jones1 to y4 ,mr4 ,jones1 ,mr4 ,smi?4 ,9 introduc+ a g5tleman to a lady1 b[ slightly to ! latt]1 say+1 ,miss---1 all[ me to introduce ,mr4---2 ,mr4---1 7b[+ to him7 ,miss---4 ,:5 sev]al p]sons are introduc$ to "o1 x is suffici5t to "n ! s+le individual once1 repeat+ all ! names ( ! o!rs1 ?us3 ,mr4 ,johnson1 all[ me to introduce ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,james1 ,miss ,smi?son1 ,mr4 ,lewis1 ,mr4 ,johnson1 b[+ slightly to ea* :5 nam$4 ,%ak+ h&s aft] an introduction has tak5 place is m]ely optional1 n necess>y2 & is =bidd5 to an unm>ri$ lady to :om a g5tleman is introduc$4 ,a b[ is all t etiquette requires4 ,9 introduc+ "y p]sons to eld] ones ( good social /&+1 x is (t5 a k9dly act ( enc\ragem5t = ! latt] to %ake h&s1 ) a few cordial words4 ,x is n necess>y to introduce p :o meet at y\r h\se on morn+ calls1 ?\gh x may be done ) propriety if ! introduction has be5 previ\sly asc]ta9$ to be mutually pleasant4 ,x is optional aft] su* an introduction1 ) ! p>ties introduc$1 to cont9ue or drop ! acqua9tance s =m$4 ,)\t a =mal introduction1 ! m]ely meet+ at ! h\se ( a mutual fri5d1 does n w>rant any future recognition4 ,x re/s1 h[ev]1 aft] an introduction ) ! lady1 if betwe5 lady & g5tleman1 ) ! m>ri$ or eld] lady1 if betwe5 lady & lady1 & ) ! eld]1 if betwe5 g5tlem51 to cont9ue or drop ! acqua9tance4 ,g5tlem5 :o meet at ! h\se or rooms ( a mutual fri5d are n oblig$ to recognize "o ano!r if !y meet aga9 else:]e4 ,!re is no rule =bidd+ _! do+ s1 if agreeable to bo? p>ties1 b !re is no requirem5t ( etiquette oblig+ !m to appe> z if !y _h ev5 met be=e4 ,a lady is n oblig$ to aft]w>ds recognize a p>tn] ) :om %e may h danc$ at a ball4 ,x is entirely optional ) h] to d s or n2 & if %e has danc$ sev]al times ) ! g5tlem51 x w be a "q betwe5 h] & h] consci5ce h[ f> %e may consid] h]self ju/ifi$ 9 pass+ by )\t notice "o :o has ext5d$ to h] s mu* c\rtesy at a ball4 ,etiquette1 h[ev]1 does n require ev5 ! slighte/ recognition4 ,:5 /rang]s 9 a city are introduc$ to resid5ts x is cu/om>y to "n ! place f :i* !y come1 ?us3 ,all[ me to introduce to y my fri5d ,mr4 ,s*midt1 f ,g]many4 ,mr4 ,s*midt1 ,mr4 ,popk+2 or if introduc+ a travell]1 ,all[ me to introduce my fri5d ,mr4 ,rob9son1 lately return$ f ,egypt4 ,a pleasant op5+ is ?us (f]$ = conv]sation1 & a =eign] may h ! pleasure ( a salutation 9 8 own language4 ,an important duty 9 introduc+ fri5ds is to pron\nce ! "n ( ea* p>ty cle>ly & di/9ctly1 t no error or necessity = repetition may occur4 ,x is (t5 a positive k9dness to take advantage ( ! etiquette :i* disp5ses ) introductions at morn+ calls4 ,_m a witty1 tal5t$ p]son has _h a /upid bore pursue him ^u su* an introduction1 & ev5 ! "o necess>y conv]sation foll[+ an introduction is a pa9ful ef=t1 ow+ to ! entire uncong5iality ( ! p>ties introduc$4 ,a fri5d visit+ at y\r h\se mu/ be introduc$ to all call]s1 :o are b\nd to cont9ue ! acqua9tance z long z ! fri5d is y\r gue/4 ,s1 if :5 call+ ^u a fri5d1 y are introduc$ to a visitor1 y are b\nd to ext5d all c\rtesies & att5tions :i* y w\ld desire paid to y\r visitors 9 simil> circum/ances4 ,introductions1 giv5 at a p>ty to a /rang] visit+ 9 a city1 mu/ be foll[$ by recognition z long z ! visit cont9ues4 ,if1 :5 walk+ ) "o fri5d1 y %\ld meet ano!r1 x is n necess>y to introduce !m2 inde$1 y %\ld n d s )\t special reason = x4 ,nev]1 ev5 aft] an introduction1 />t a long conv]sation1 unless all cont9ue ! walk 9 ! same direction4 ,%\ld y1 :5 walk+ ) a fri5d1 meet a lady :o desires to speak to y1 y\r fri5d mu/ /op ) y1 yet an introduction "u su* circum/ances does n exact any future recognition4 ,si/]s1 bro!rs or o!r relatives may always be introduc$ to fri5ds :5 met casually4 ,if fri5ds meet at public places ( amusem5t & are accompani$ by /rang]s1 introductions are n requir$ by etiquette1 & if made d n oblige any future acqua9tance4 ,x is n necess>y to h an introduction 9 ord] to pay y\r respects to ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 except+ t ( ! ma/] ( c]emonies at ! receptions4 ,he w receive y\r c>d & pres5t y4 ,= a private int]view x is bett] to be introduc$ by a ,s5ator or a memb] ( ! ,h\se ( ,repres5tatives4 ,9 visit+ =eign c\rts1 introductions are m a matt] ( c]emony ?an 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,if y wi% to obta9 an introduction to ! ,emp]or ( ,france1 y mu/ address y\r reque/ to ! ,gr& ,*amb]la91 :i* may be done p]sonally or by lett]4 ,y\r /atem5t t y are an ,am]ican citiz51 & a ref]5ce to ! ,am]ican ,consul w procure y an int]view4 ,punctuality to ! h\r appo9t$ = ! int]view is ess5tial1 & ladies pres5t !mselves 9 full dress2 g5tlem5 9 a dress suit ( black1 :ite ve/1 gloves & neck-tie4 ,! c]emony ( pres5tation w be expla9$ be=e y are pres5t$4 ,9 ! ,engli% c\rt1 ! ladies mu/ be pres5t$ by a lady2 g5tlem5 by a g5tleman4 ,/rang]s mu/ h cr$5tials f ! ,consul be=e !y c be introduc$4 ,if at a d9n]1 a ball1 or ^u any occasion y are introduc$1 at a fri5d's h\se1 to "o ) :om y are n on good t]ms1 ?\gh x be y\r bitt]e/ enemy1 etiquette requires y to salute him or h] c\rte\sly1 & make no sign ( res5tm5t :il/ "u y\r fri5d's ro(4 ,if y are introduc$ z a petition] to any "o 9 au?ority1 t introduction does n au?orize y 9 claim+ an acqua9tance aft]w>ds4 ,nev] introduce p]sons :o may be relat$ to y1 )\t call+ _! full "n4 ,x is done v (t51 ev5 among/ well-br$ p1 f ?\ghtfulness1 z1 ,mrs4 ,james1 all[ me to introduce my c\s9 ,frank2 ,frank1 ,mrs4 ,james1 & poor ,mrs4 ,james is left entirely ignorant ( c\s9 ,frank's "n4 ,! prop] way is to "n ! relation%ip & also ! surname ( ! relative4 ,if y introduce a bro!r or si/] ev51 m>riage may h *ang$ ! "n ( "o4 ,y %\ld say3 ,mrs4 ,james1 all[ me to introduce to y my si/]1 ,miss ,curtis2 ,miss ,curtis1 ,mrs4 ,james4 ,if y are introduc$ to ! relative ( a fri5d1 etiquette requires y to consid] t relative an acqua9tance1 unless !re is "s special reason to ! contr>y4 ,x is be/ to avoid introductions 9 a public conveyance1 z few p l to h _! names call$ out 9 su* places4 ,if su* introductions are made1 h[ev]1 x %\ld be done z quietly z possible4 ,to introduce to a fri5d a p]son :o is 9 any way objectionable1 is an insult :i* fully ju/ifies a )drawal ( fri5d%ip4 ,a g5tleman %\ld always raise 8 hat1 if introduc$ 9 ! /reet1 to ei!r lady or g5tleman4 ,if introduc+ a =eign] or a g5tleman 9 ?is c\ntry1 ^: position gives him an honor>y title1 always give ! title4 ,?us1 if a memb] ( ,congress1 meet+ a ,g]man b>on at y\r h\se1 y introduce !m1 y say3 ,mr4 ,som]s1 all[ me to introduce to y my fri5d1 ! ,b>on von ,s*midt2 ,b>on von ,s*midt1 ! ,honorable ,mr4 ,som]s4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,introduction4 ,,lett]s ( introduction %\ld nev] be giv51 except to p]sons well kn[n to ! p]son introduc+ !m1 & address$ to ^? only :o h a long-/&+ fri5d%ip = ! writ]4 ,among/ p]sons b slightly acqua9t$1 su* lett]s are n only fooli% b positively dang]\s1 z y may ?us give y\r c\nt5ance to ^? :o w take advantage ( y\r c>elessness to br+ y into mortify+1 if n disgraceful positions4 ,ev5 among/ fri5ds ( long /&+ !y %\ld be giv5 v cauti\sly & sp>+ly1 z x is a great responsibility to s5d to y\r fri5d a visitor :o may prove disagreeable1 & y h no "r :atev] to call ^u comp>ative /rang]s to ext5d hospitality or c\rtesy to y\r fri5ds4 ,lett]s ( introduction %\ld always be z %ort & concise z possible4 ,if y wi% to s5d any in=mation to y\r fri5ds ab\t _! visitor1 s5d x 9 a sep>ate lett] by mail4 ,! utmo/ brevity is ( importance 9 ! lett] ( introduction1 z x is usually read 9 ! pres5ce ( ! p>ty introduc$1 & ! pause mu/ necess>ily be awkw>d4 ,y may 9 a lett] ( introduction use a few words ( w>m1 cordial feel+ t[>d y\r fri5d1 b praise ( any k9d is 9 z bad ta/e z x w\ld be at a p]sonal introduction4 ,?is rule1 h[ev]1 does n apply to lett]s introduc+ applicants = favor1 (fice or position1 :i* latt] come m /rictly "u ! head ( lett]s ( recomm5dation ?an m]ely lett]s ( introduction4 ,lett]s ( introduction mu/ be left unseal$ inv>iably2 !y %\ld be fold$ & address$ l any o!r lett]1 b x is a gross brea* ( etiquette to prev5t ! be>] f read+ :at y may h said ( him to y\r fri5d4 ,x is optional ) ! be>] to seal su* lett]s be=e deliv]y1 b x is cu/om>y to leave !m op54 ,a lett] ( introduction %\ld n1 unless circum/ances make x absolutely unavoidable1 be deliv]$ 9 p]son4 ,x %\ld be s5t1 ) ! c>d ( ! p]son introduc$1 to ! p]son to :om x is address$1 by a s]vant4 ,! p]son receiv+ x %\ld !n call at once or s5d a writt5 invitation to 8 h\se1 & ! p]son introduc$ may !n call 9 p]son4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! /ay 9 ! city is v %ort1 ^! =malities mu/ be omitt$1 & ! p]son introduc$ call 9 p]son1 s5d+ 9 8 lett] & c>d by a s]vant4 ,bus9ess lett]s ( introduction %\ld m5tion ! err& & bus9ess ( ! p>ty introduc$1 & if y\r own acqua9tance is ( rec5t date1 m5tion by :om y\r 7 y\rself introduc$4 ,lett]s introduc+ pr(essional arti/s may conta9 a few words expressive ( ! pleasure conf]r$ by ! tal5t or skill ( ! p]son introduc$4 ,lett]s ( introduction solicit+ favors %\ld be b seldom giv51 & nev] unless ! claims ^u bo? p>ties int]e/$ are v /rong4 ,!re is no rule ( etiquette prescrib+ ! exact am\nt ( att5tion requir$ to be %[n to ! be>] ( a lett] ( introduction by ! p]son to :om x is address$4 ,a ?\s& circum/ances ( "t1 place1 position1 leisure & disposition ( ! p>ties mu/ control ?is1 b z a rule1 ! mo/ g5]\s hospitality & c\rtesy x is possible to give1 %\ld be ext5d$ to y\r fri5d's fri5d4 ,x is a complim5t to bo? ! be>] & ! writ] ( ! lett]4 ,la ,fonta9e says3 ,a lett] ( introduction is a draft at sight1 & y mu/ ca% x4 ,x might be add$1 ,y mu/ ca% x 9 full1 nev] all[+ ! c\rtesy ex*ange to be aga9/ ! pres5t] ( ! draft4 ,lett]s ( introduction %\ld be> ^u ! envelope ! "n & address ( ! p>ty introduc$1 writt5 9 ! left h& corn]-- ?us3 ,,john ,,jones1 ,,esq41 ,no4 #gad --- ,/reet1 ,philadelphia4 ,introduc+ ,l4 ,f4 ,t[ns5d1 ,esq41 ( ,troy4 ,lett]s ( introduction to & f bus9ess m51 = bus9ess purposes1 may be deliv]$ by ! be>]s 9 p]son1 & etiquette does n require ! receiv] to ent]ta9 ! p]son introduc$ z ! private fri5d ( ! writ]4 ,good nature & native c\rtesy w\ld sugge/ "s att5tions1 :i* c\ld be increas$ accord+ to ! pleasure conf]r$ or receiv$1 b x is entirely optional4 ,lett]s ( introduction are v useful to travell]s1 or ^? ab\t to *ange _! place ( resid5ce2 c>e1 h[ev]1 %\ld be especially tak5 9 ! latt] case to pres5t p]sons to ea* o!r only1 :o w prove mutually agreeable1 z x is surely no fri5dly act to =ce ^u y\r fri5ds a life-long acqua9tance1 p]haps ) uncong5ial p]sons4 ,a =m is giv5 = an ord9>y lett] ( introduction1 to be v>i$ accord+ to circum/ances1 always be>+ 9 m9d t brevity is ess5tial1 long acqua9tance necess>y1 & "s claim on bo? p>ties important1 be=e giv+ any lett]s ( introduction to y\r fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,new ,york1 ,augu/ #ab1 #ahfi4 ,,james ,,wilcox1 ,,esq41 ,de> ,sir3--,all[ me to introduce to y my fri5d1 ,mr4 ,lov+1 :o w make a brief visit to y\r city4 ,any att5tion y may be able to %[ him1 dur+ 8 /ay1 w be appreciat$ z a favor by1 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 ,e4 ,b4 ,lyons4 7,to be direct$7 ,,james ,,wilcox1 ,,esq41 ,no4 #bjd --- ,/reet1 ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 ,introduc+ ,f4 ,g4 ,lov+1 ,esq41 ( ,new ,york4 ,9 receiv+ su* a lett]1 be> 9 m9d ! c\rtesy ext5d$ is really a complim5t to ! writ] ( ! lett]1 & su* hospitality & c\rtesy z y ext5d y are entitl$ to claim aga9 = y\r own fri5ds at "s future "t4 ,if y are 9 a position to d s1 y %\ld foll[ y\r fir/ call by an invitation to d9n]1 or to meet fri5ds 9 ! ev5+1 & if ! new com] is a /rang] 9 ! city1 select su* fri5ds to meet him or h]1 z w prove agreeable & valuable acqua9tances4 ,if y\r are a ba*elor or bo>d+1 & _c ext5d ! hospitalities ( a home1 (f] y\r s]vices z guide to po9ts ( int]e/ 9 ! city1 places ( public amusem5t1 9 %ort1 ext5d any c\rtesy y\r purse or leisure "t w w>rant4 ,x is contr>y to etiquette = ! be>] ( a lett] ( introduction to visit too frequ5tly ! h\se to :i* he has j be5 introduc$4 ,! fact t ,mr4 ,smi? is y\r only fri5d 9 t[n1 & has be5 cordial 9 8 invitations to make 8 h\se y\r home1 does n ju/ify y 9 pull+ too frequ5tly at ,mr4 ,smi?'s door-bell1 or pres5t+ y\rself at unseasonable h\rs 9 ,mrs4 ,smi?'s draw+-room4 ,9 travell+ abroad x is impossible to h too _m lett]s ( introduction4 ,!y take up b little room 9 a trunk1 b _! value :5 y f9d y\rself a /rang] 9 a /range l&1 _c be ov]-e/imat$4 ,,salutes ,,& ,,salutations4 ,,9 ?is c\ntry m5 d n embrace ea* o!r1 nor d !y ex*ange kisses1 :ile1 unless among/ intimate fri5ds1 ev5 ! fair sex n[ disp5se ) demon/rative salutations4 ,9 _m ,european c\ntries kisses are ex*ang$1 ev5 betwe5 g5tlem51 & an embrace is q 9 accordance ) ev5 a some:at =mal salutation4 ,9 ,am]ica1 h[ev]1 ^! demon/rations are mo/ly conf9$ to gu%+ misses & s*ool-girls4 ,m5 9 ?is c\ntry ackn[l$ge an introduction by ext5d+ ! "r h& 9 greet+--! :ole h&--= x is positively insult+ to (f] two f+]s1 z "s "u-br$ snobs w sometimes d1 & x is almo/ z bad to ext5d ! left h&1 unless two p]sons are introduc$ at ! same "t1 or ! "r h& is useless or occupi$2 9 any su* case apologize = ! h& ext5d$4 ,! "r h& is ! sword h&1 & its ext5sion to a fri5d is emblematic z a pro( ( peace1 & z a safegu>d aga9/ trea*]y4 ,9 (f]+ ! h& to a fri5d 9 ! h\se1 always remove ! glove1 & grasp ! h& giv5 9 return firmly = a mom5t4 ,9 ! /reet1 h[ev]1 ! glove may be reta9$1 if x w\ld cause an awkw>d pause to remove x2 b always 9 su* a case apologize = ! cov]$ h&4 ,9 %ak+ h&s1 d n try to wr+ !m (f ! wri/s1 nor press !m z 9 a vise1 nor pull !m z ?\gh !y 7 bell h&les1 nor fl+ ! two toge!r ) viol5ce1 s z to cause a report4 ,let ! palms grasp ea* o!r firmly1 b )\t any display ( en]gy1 & %ake ! h& mod]ately = a mom5t1 !n release x4 ,mr4 ,pecksniff 0 wont to clasp 8 left h& ov] 8 de> fri5d's "r h&1 re/+ 9 8 own "r4 ,?is practice may be v effective1 f a sc5ic po9t ( view1 b x is n c\nt5anc$ by any rule ( etiquette4 ,a lady mu/ fir/ recognize a g5tleman by b[+ be=e he is at lib]ty to salute h]4 ,%e is ! sole judge ( ! propriety ( recogniz+ him at all1 & etiquette requires ! /ricte/ def]5ce to h] desire 9 ?is respect4 ,%\ld %e recognize him1 he %\ld raise 8 hat a little f 8 head1 ) ! h& fur!/ f h]1 & return h] salutation ) a slight incl9ation ( ! body4 ,he may n obtrude himself ^u h] notice ev5 if he ?9ks %e has n obs]v$ him4 ,a lady %\ld nev] /op 9 ! /reet to salute a g5tleman fri5d1 nor may a g5tleman jo9 a lady 9 ! /reet4 ,%\ld a lady1 h[ev]1 /op 9 meet+ a g5tleman1 etiquette requires him to /op also1 no matt] h[ great 8 ha/e4 ,if he is really unable to /op any "t1 he mu/ at lea/ pause long en\gh to /ate ?is fact1 & apologize = leav+ h] 9 su* ha/e4 ,:5 a lady wi%es to end a conv]sation 9 ! /reet1 %e %\ld b[ slightly1 & ! g5tleman mu/ at once take 8 leave4 ,if a lady resumes h] walk )\t any pause 9 ! conv]sation1 a g5tleman is !n at lib]ty to jo9 h] 9 h] prom5ade4 ,m>ri$ ladies are all[$ m fre$om 9 su* matt]s ?an unm>ri$ ones4 ,x is aga9/ all e/abli%$ laws ( etiquette = "y unm>ri$ ladies to d m ?an b[ to g5tlem5 9 ! /reet1 unless ! fact ( relation%ip all[s "s violation ( /rict etiquette4 ,unless relat$1 or ^u t]ms ( intimate fri5d%ip ) a g5tleman1 a lady %\ld nev] salute except+ by a slightly =mal b[4 ,a nod is vulg>1 ev5 :5 ex*ang$ by intimate fri5ds4 ,9 h] own h\se1 h[ev]1 a lady %\ld ext5d h] h& 9 salutation to e gue/ :o crosses h] ?re%old4 ,froiss>t1 t *>m+ly qua9t writ]1 tells ( ! dame ( anci5t days ?us3 ,:5 ,sir ,walt] ,manny & 8 m5 return$ f a successful sortie out ( ,h5neb\ne1 ! *ronicle tells u1' ,! ,c\ntess de ,mont=t came d[n f ! ca/le to meet !m1 & ) a mo/ *e]ful c\nt5ance kiss$ ,sir ,walt] ,manny & all 8 companions1 "o aft] ! o!r1 l a noble & valiant dame4' ,mod]n etiquette w\ld h>dly speak 9 praise ( su* a lady 9 ! curr5t ye>4 ,on horseback a lady salutes by b[+ slightly4 ,a g5tleman1 grasp+ re9s & :ip 9 8 left h&1 raises 8 hat slightly ) 8 "r1 at ! same "t incl9+ ! body =w>d4 ,he may n1 h[ev]1 jo9 a lady rid+1 unless %e is escort$ only by a groom1 & !n he mu/ fir/ reque/ p]mission to d s4 ,nev] w a g5tleman s f> imitate a vulg> cl[n z to smack a fri5d on ! back1 poke him 9 ! ribs1 or by clapp+ 8 h& ^u 8 %\ld]4 ,x is equally bad ta/e to use a famili> %\t1 or ,hullo1 old boy6 or any o!r ,hail fell[1 well met phrase ( salutation4 ,if a g5tleman salutes ano!r by mi/ake1 ev5 if he has giv5 him an unc]emoni\s slap or poke1 x is etiquette to treat ! (f5d] ) ! utmo/ c\rtesy4 ,he w probably be suffici5tly emb>rass$1 :5 he discov]s 8 error1 )\t hav+ any blunt spee* made to add to 8 discomfiture4 ,if a g5tleman meet a g5tleman1 be may salute him by t\*+ 8 hat )\t remov+ x1 b if a lady be ) ei!r g5tleman bo? hats mu/ be lift$ 9 salutation4 ,if a g5tleman /ops to speak to a lady1 9 ! /reet1 he mu/ hold 8 hat 9 8 h& dur+ ! int]view1 unless %e reque/s him to replace x4 ,) a g5tleman fri5d etiquette does n require ?is =mality4 ,a g5tleman may b[ to a lady seat$ at a w9d[1 if he is pass+ on ! /reet1 b he mu/ n b[ f a w9d[ to a lady on ! /reet4 ,a g5tleman may nev] (f] to %ake h&s ) a lady1 b he mu/ accept su* an (f] on h] "p1 tak+ h] h& lightly b firmly 9 8 unglov$ "r "o1 & delicately %ak+ x = a mom5t4 ,a pressure is an insult 9 su* a case4 ,9 ent]+ a *ur* a g5tleman mu/ remove 8 hat z soon z 8 foot crosses ! ?re%old ( ! sacr$ edifice4 ,travell]s w (t5 omit ?is salutation 9 visit+ *ur*es abroad1 ^: fai? diff]s f _! own4 ,!re is no m c]ta9 sign ( ill bre$+ z well z irrev]5ce4 ,a g5tleman may always b[ to a lady he may meet on a airway1 ev5 if n acqua9t$4 ,if at ! foot ( ! /airs1 he mu/ b[1 pass h] & asc5d be=e h]4 ,if at ! head ( ! /airs1 he mu/ b[1 & wait = h] to prec$e him 9 ! desc5t4 ,if two fri5ds are walk+ toge!r & meet a fri5d ( "o1 a b[ is all ! salutation etiquette dem&s2 if1 h[ev]1 "o ( ! two /ops to speak to ! ?ird1 he owes ! fri5d he accompanies an apology = ! delay ?us occasion$4 ,9 ent]+ a room1 a g5tleman mu/ take 8 hat1 cane & gloves 9 8 left h&1 leav+ 8 "r h& free = salutation4 ,if a g5tleman1 walk+ ) a fri5d1 meets a lady ) :om 8 fri5d is acqua9t$1 he mu/ also b[1 al?\gh ! lady may be a /rang] to him4 ,! b[ mu/ be v slight & =mal1 m]ely1 9 fact1 a complim5t to 8 fri5d1 & a m>k ( respect to ! lady4 ,a g5tleman mu/ always return a b[ made to him 9 ! /reet1 ev5 if he fails to recognize ! p]son :o makes x4 ,x may be a p]son to :om he has be5 introduc$1 b ^: face he has =gott51 & if x is an error on ! "p ( ! o!r1 a c\rte\s return ( ! salute w greatly dim9i% ! emb>rassm5t ( ! mi/ak5 p>ty4 ,9 meet+ a p>ty ( fri5ds ) "s ( :om y are intimately acqua9t$1 & ) "s only slightly1 endeavor to make y\r salutations z equal z possible4 ,a =mal b[ to "o1 & a gu%+ demon/ration ( delight ov] ano!r is a brea* ( etiquette4 ,be c\rte\s & cordial to all4 ,if a =eign] salute y aft] ! fa%ion ( 8 own c\ntry1 d n draw back or all[ y\rself to smile1 b /rive to put him at 8 ease by tak+ no notice ( ! national salute4 ,kiss+ 9 public1 ev5 betwe5 intimate lady fri5ds1 is a vulg> p>ade ( affection1 t a truly ref9$ p]son w %r9k f4 ,x is an insult to return a cordial grasp ( ! h&1 & he>ty greet+1 by a cold b[ or a flabby ext5sion ( a portion ( ! h&4 ,ev5 if y d n approve ( ! famili> greet+ y %\ld return x ) "s %[ ( cordiality4 ,! ,c\ntess de --- speak+ ( salutations1 says3 ,x w\ld seem t good mann]s 7 orig9ally ! m]e expression ( submission f ! weak] to ! /rong]4 ,9 a rude /ate ( society e salutation is to ?is day an act ( wor%ip4 ,h5ce ! commone/ acts1 phrases & signs ( c\rtesy ) :i* we are n[ famili>1 date f ^? e>li] /ages :5 ! /rong h& rul$1 & ! inf]ior demon/rat$ 8 allegiance by /udi$ s]vility4 ,let u take = example ! words' ,sir' &' ,madam4'' ,sir' is d]iv$ f ,seigneur1 ,sieur'1 ,sire1 & orig9ally meant ,"l1 ,k+1 ,rul]1 & 9 its patri>*al s5se1 ,fa!r4 ,! title ( ,sire 0 la/ borne by "s ( ! anci5t feudal families ( ,france :o1 z ,seld5 has said1 'affect$ r to be /yl$ by ! "n ( ,sire ?an ,b>on1 z ,le ,sire de ,montmor5ci & ! l4' ,madam or ,madame1 corrupt$ by s]vants into ',ma'am1' & by ,mrs4 ,gamp & h] tribe into' ,mum1' is 9 sub/ance equival5t to' ,y\r exalt$1' or' ,y\r ,highness4' ,ma ,dame orig9ally mean+ high- born or /ately1 & be+ appli$ only to ladies ( ! highe/ rank4 ,to turn to our e-day =ms ( salutation4 ,we take (f our hats on visit+ an acqua9tance4 ,we b[ on be+ introduc$ to /rang]s4 ,we rise :5 visitors ent] our draw+-room4 ,we wave our h& to our fri5ds z he passes ! w9d[1 or drives away f our door4 ,! ,ori5tal1 9 l mann]1 leaves 8 %oes on ! ?re%old :5 he pays a visit4 ,! natives ( ! ,tonga ,isl&s kiss ! soles ( a *iefta9's feet4 ,! ,sib]ian peasant grovels 9 ! du/ be=e a ,russian noble4 ,ea* ( ^! acts has a prim>y1 a hi/orical significance4 ,! v ^w' salutation' 9 ! fir/ place1 d]iv$ z x is f' salutatio1' ! daily homage paid by a ,roman cli5t to 8 patron1 sugge/s 9 itself a hi/ory ( mann]s4 ,to b>e ! head 0 orig9ally an act ( submission to gods & rul]s4 ,a b[ is a modifi$ prote/ation4 ,a lady's c\rtesy is a modifi$ g5uflexion4 ,ris+ & /&+ are acts ( homage2 & :5 we wave our h& to ! fri5d on ! opposite side ( ! /reet1 we are unconsci\sly imitat+ ! ,romans :o1 z ,seld5 tells u1 us$ to /& some:at (f be=e ! images ( _! gods1 solemnly mov+ ! "r h& to ! lips & ca/+ x1 z if !y _h ca/ kisses4' ,aga91 m5 remove ! glove :5 !y %ake h&s ) a lady--a cu/om evid5tly ( feudal orig94 ,! knight remov$ 8 iron gauntlet1 ! pressure ( :i* w\ld h be5 all too h>% = ! palm ( a fair *atela9e1 & ! cu/om :i* began 9 necessity has travell$ d[n to u z a po9t ( etiquette4 ,g5]al salutations ( a mix$ company are n n[ 9 vogue 9 ! be/ society1 :]e etiquette requires t we recognize only our own fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,9 meet+ at a fri5d's h\se :]e y are visit+ a circle :o are all entire /rang]s to y1 rememb] t z mutual fri5ds ( ! ho/ & ho/ess y are b\nd :il/ "u ! same ro( to consid] y\rselves z acqua9tances4 ,no _s ( exclusiv5ess is an apology = a neglect ( ?is1 & no %yness c excuse a )draw+ into a corn]1 or cl++ to "o fri5d alone 9 su* a circle4 ,,calls4 ,,:5 ladies h1 accord+ to ! ,fr5* cu/om1 set ap>t "o morn+ or "o ev5+ 9 ! week = receiv+ call]s1 x is a brea* ( etiquette to call at any o!r "t1 unless a %ort visit 9 ! city or bus9ess t w n admit ( delay are ! excuses4 ,an h\r 9 ! ev5+1 & f t5 to tw5ty m9utes 9 ! morn+ are ! limits = a =mal call4 ,:5 !re is no "t ?us set ap>t1 =mal calls mu/ be paid 9 ! morn+1 b ) fri5ds ( long /&+ ! ev5+ call is n only p]missible1 b (t5 f> m welcome4 ,morn+ calls may be made by g5tlem5 9 society ^u all ! occasions foll[+3 ,9 answ] to a lett] ( introduction s5t to him1 or to return ! call if ! lett] is p]sonally pres5t$4 ,9 return = any hospitality (f]$ to him :5 visit+ ano!r city1 if ! ent]ta9] visit 8 own place ( abode4 ,9 return = any favor receiv$ or c\rtesy ext5d$ to him by ano!r g5tleman4 ,9 return = an invitation to ! h\se ( a fri5d1 :e!r ! invitation has be5 accept$ or decl9$1 & ?is call mu/ be made )9 ! week foll[+ t dur+ :i* ! ent]ta9m5t 0 giv54 ,on any occasion :5 a grief or a joy calls = expressions ( condol5ce or congratulation 9 ! circle ( 8 fri5ds4 ,to greet ! safe return ( any fri5d :o has be5 abroad1 or away f home = any l5g? ( "t4 ,foll[+ any occasion :5 a lady has accept$ 8 s]vices z an escort1 a g5tleman mu/ call to inquire aft] ! heal? ( 8 fair *>ge1 & mu/ n delay long] ?an ! day aft] t ^u :i* he has escort$ ! lady4 ,aft] a w$d+1 at ! "t appo9t$ = ! reception ( fri5ds4 ,:5 visit+ 9 ano!r city1 ^u any fri5ds !re1 or ^u ^? to :om lett]s ( introduction h be5 giv54 ,9 ask+ or grant+ a favor1 a call is dem&$ by etiquette4 ,! visit or call is a mu* bett] in/itution ?an ! vulg> suppose4 ,x is n )\t its objections1 consum+ valuable "t1 & giv+ occasion = gossip & small talk1 b x is ! mo/ agreeable & cu/om>y way ( turn+ a m]e acqua9tance into a fri5d4 ,9 a fri5dly call mu* ( ! re/ra9t ( meet+ 9 l>ge assemblies is ?r[n aside1 m9d meets m9d mu* m easily 9 an easy tete-a-tete conv]sation1 & ! conv]sation may be all[$ to p>take some:at m ( a p]sonal "* ?an x c\ld 9 ! ball-room or ev5+ p>ty4 ,fir/ calls require prompt return1 ev5 if y drop ! acqua9tance be=e ! second "o4 ,morn+ calls mu/ nev] be e>li] ?an noon1 ev5+ ones nev] lat] ?an n9e o'clock4 ,:5 call+1 if ! room seems cr[d$1 d n prolong y\r visit4 ,a g5tleman may nev] call ) a fri5d ^u a lady1 unless ! fri5d is previ\sly acqua9t$1 or he has obta9$ p]mission ( ! lady to introduce him4 ,9 mak+ a =mal call1 a g5tleman mu/ reta9 8 hat 9 8 h&4 ,an umbrella or cane may be left 9 ! hall1 nev] ! hat or gloves4 ,if ! call is made 9 ! ev5+1 ! hat & gloves mu/ be held until ! ho/ or ho/ess gives an invitation to lay !m aside & sp5d ! ev5+4 ,/rict etiquette requires t su* an invitation %all n be giv51 or if giv51 n accept$ on ! occasion ( a fir/ call4 ,9 mak+ an in=mal call 9 ! ev5+1 a g5tleman may leave hat1 gloves1 cane & ov]coat 9 ! hall4 ,no g5tleman w prolong a call if he f9ds 8 ho/ or ho/ess dress$ to g out4 ,a brief visit ) a promise to repeat x w place 8 ent]ta9]s at ease1 & ev5 if !y urge a long] /ay1 ! v fact t !y 7 prep>+ to g out1 proves _! desire to d s4 ,a c>d us$ 9 call+ mu/ nev] h any?+ ^u x1 b ! "n & address ( ! call]4 ,no?+ c %[ a great] ignorance ( ! cu/oms ( society ?an to use a bus9ess c>d = a fri5dly call4 ,a physician may put ! prefix ,dr4 or ! pr(essional ,m4,d41 ^u 8 c>d1 & an ,army or ,navy (fic] 8 rank & bran* ( s]vice4 ,?us a civilian's c>d mu/ be simply3 ,,james ,,lawton1 #dag ,l--- ,/reet4 ,a physician's3 ,,dr4 ,,j]ome ,,hayes1 #bah ,t--- ,/reet1 or ,,j]ome ,,hayes1 ,m4,d4 ,an ,army (fic]'s3 ,,lieut4 ,,james ,,b5nett1 ,u4 ,s4 ,a4 ,an ,naval (fic]'s3 ,,lieut4 ,,h5ry ,,keys]1 ,u4,s4,n4 ,9 receiv+ a g5tleman call]1 a g5tleman meets him at ! door1 takes 8 hat & cane1 & places a *air = him1 b a lady does n leave h] seat to receive a g5tleman1 slightly ris+ to b[1 & resum+ h] place aga9 :5 h] visitor is seat$2 9 receiv+ ano!r lady1 a lady %\ld rise & advance to meet h]1 also rise & accompany h] to ! door :5 leav+1 unless %e has o!r call]s1 9 :i* case1 %e is n requir$ to leave h] place1 only /&+ to bid h] call] f>ewell4 ,an ,engli% au?ority gives "s excell5t directions = call+ ^u occasions ( congratulation or condol5ce4 ,he says3 ,visits ( condol5ce & congratulation mu/ be made ab\t a week aft] ! ev5t4 ,if y are intimate ) ! p]son ^u :om y call1 y may ask1 9 ! fir/ case1 = admission2 if n1 x is bett] to leave only a c>d1 & make y\r k9d inquiries ( ! s]vant1 :o is g5]ally prim$ 9 :at mann] to answ] !m4 ,9 visits ( congratulation y %\ld always g 91 & be he>ty 9 y\r congratulations4 ,visits ( condol5ce are t]rible inflictions to bo? receiv] & giv]1 b !y may be made less s by avoid+1 z mu* z is consi/5t ) sympa?y1 any allusion to ! pa/4 ,! receiv] does well to ab/a9 f te>s4 ,a lady ( my acqua9tance1 :o _h lo/ h] husb&1 0 receiv+ su* a visit 9 h] be/ crape4 ,%e wept pr(usely = sometime ^u ! be/ broad-hemm$ cambric h&k]*iefs1 & !n turn+ to h] visitor said3 ',i am sure t y w be glad to he> t ,mr4 ,b4 has left me mo/ com=tably provid$ =4' ,h9c illae la*rymae4 ,p]haps !y w\ld h be5 m s9c]e if he _h left h] )\t a p5ny4 ,at ! same "t1 if y h n sympa?y & he>t en\gh to pump up a little condol5ce1 y w d bett] to avoid x1 b take c>e t y\r conv]sation is n too gay4 ,:atev] y may feel y mu/ respect ! sorr[s ( o!rs4 ,on m>riage1 c>ds are s5t r\nd to su* p z y wi% to keep among y\r acqua9tances1 & x is !n _! "p to call fir/ on ! "y c\ple1 :5 )9 di/ance4 ,a lady :5 call+ keeps h] p>asol 9 h] h&1 & is n requir$ to remove h] glove4 ,no dog1 h[ev] de> or int]e/+1 c be admitt$ to ! draw+-room1 & x is bad ta/e to h "o foll[ y f home1 if y int5d to make calls4 ,x is bett] = a lady n to h a *ild ) h] :5 pay+ calls1 unless x is tra9$ to sit sil5t1 or old en\gh to behave ) quiet propriety4 ,x is a sign ( l[-bre$+ to fidget ) ! hat1 cane or p>asol dur+ a call4 ,!y are introduc$ m]ely z signs t ! call] is 9 walk+ dress1 & are n int5d$1 ! hat to be :irl$ r\nd ! top ( ! cane1 ! cane to be employ$ 9 trac+ out ! patt]n ( ! c>pet1 or ! p>asol to be tapp$ on ! tee?1 or worse /ill1 suck$4 ,x is 9 bad ta/e = a call] to preface 8 or h] dep>ture by consult+ a wat*1 rem>k+1 ,n[ ,i mu/ g1 or ins9uat+ t ! ho/ess is we>y ( ! visitor4 ,rise :5 ready to g1 & express y\r pleasure at f9d+ y\r fri5ds at home1 foll[$ by a cordially express$ desire = a spe$y meet+ aga94 ,pelham said he always )drew :5 he said some?+ t produc$ a s5sation1 because he knew he mu/ leave su* an impression z w\ld make p wi% to see him aga94 ,! lady ( ! h\se %\ld always r+ :5 visitors rise to g1 t a s]vant may be ready to %[ !m out4 ,:5 o!r call]s arrive1 x is 9 bad ta/e to rise at once z if driv5 away4 ,let ! fir/ call] wat* = a favorable opportunity to retire gracefully4 ,if a g5tleman call+ sees a lady unescort$ rise to g1 he may ) p]fect propriety (f] to escort h] to h] c>riage1 ev5 if a /rang]1 b he mu/ return aga9 to make 8 own f>ewell b[ to ! ho/ess4 ,! mo/ trivial subjects are admissible = a call1 & x is n 9 good ta/e to discuss deep int]e/s1 political que/ions or matt]s ( grave mom5t4 ,if /rang]s are 9 ! room :5 a call] rises to leave1 c\rtesy requires only a slight b[ 9 pass+4 ,:5 call+1 etiquette requires t a c>d be s5t up4 ,x w %[ t y h call$1 & if fri5ds are at home1 w prev5t any confusion f mispronunciation ( y\r "n by ! s]vant4 ,:5 ! lady ( ! h\se is n at home1 a c>d mu/ be left1 & if !re are two or m ladies1 ! turn+ d[n ( "o corn] ( ! c>d signifies t ! call 0 int5d$ = all ! family1 ,if c>ds to be left prep>atory to leav+ t[n1 ! initials p4 p4 c4 7p\r pr5dre conge199 or1 pres5ts p>t+ complim5ts71 mu/ be writt5 9 ! left h& corn]4 ,if ! dep>ture is a hurri$ "o1 ! c>d may be s5t by a s]vant1 b x is 9 bett] ta/e to leave x 9 p]son4 ---- 99 ,to take leave4 ----- ,c>ds s5t dur+ ! illness ( any memb] ( ! family to :om !y are s5t1 mu/ be accompani$ by v]bal inquiries reg>d+ ! pati5t's heal?4 ,! same rule applies to ! survivors :5 c>ds ( condol5ce are s5t4 ,c>ds may be left or s5t ! day aft] a ball or l>ge ev5+ p>ty4 ,aft] a d9n] p>ty or small social ga!r+1 c>ds mu/ be left )9 ! foll[+ week4 ,:5 unable to accept an invitation to d9n]1 a call %\ld soon aft]w>ds be made to express regret at ! inability to be pres5t4 ,visits ( condol5ce are made )9 a week aft] ! b]eavem5t1 unless ! deceas$ be "o ( ! imm$iate family1 :5 a =tnight may be all[$ to int]v5e4 ,c>ds may1 h[ev]1 be left imm$iately aft] ! dea? is kn[n4 ,! fir/ call ( a /rang] mu/ be return$ )9 a week4 ,m>ri$ m5 are n oblig$ to make calls ( c]emony 9 p]son4 ,x is suffici5t = _! wives to leave _! c>ds ) _! own4 ,resid5ts 9 a place make ! fir/ call ^u any new com]s4 ,if a lady does n wi% to receive visitors1 h] s]vant mu/ be in/ruct$ to reply n at home1 to call]s4 ,?is is n meant to imply t %e is out ( ! h\se2 m]ely t %e is n home to call]s4 ,to say t %e is engag$ answ]s ! same purpose1 b su* answ]s mu/ be made ^u ! fir/ inquiry1 = if ! visitor is ann\nc$1 he or %e may conclude ! refusal is int5d$ = t especial call4 ,x is n necess>y1 nor is x cu/om>y 9 ! city1 to (f] refre%m5ts to call]s4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 especially if ! visitors h come f a di/ance1 x is n only c\rte\s1 b (t5 a positive k9dness to d s4 ,if a /rang] come to /ay at ! h\se ( a fri5d1 ^? :o are 9 ! habit ( visit+ at ! h\se %\ld call z soon z possible1 & su* calls %\ld be return$ at ! e>lie/ practicable opportunity4 ,a well-br$ p]son %\ld endeavor to be always prep>$ = call]s4 ,if x is impossible1 dur+ ! day1 to see y\r fri5ds1 in/ruct y\r s]vant to d5y !m at ! door1 b if once )9 h\se1 no p]sonal inconv5i5ce %\ld prev5t y f pres5t+ y\rself4 ,illness alone1 ei!r y\r own1 or t ( "s "o requir+ y\r con/ant att5tion1 c !n excuse y4 ,a lady %\ld avoid keep+ call]s wait+4 ,if !y call be=e ! h\rs etiquette has appo9t$1 x is bett] to see !m 9 ! morn+ dress ?an to make !m wait = a m elaborate toilet4 ,if !re is any fault1 x is _! own = intrud+ at improp] h\rs4 ,p]sons :o d n keep a c>riage %\ld n make visits ( c]emony 9 wet wea!r4 ,x is ill-br$ to ent] a draw+-room1 ) a h&some c>pet ^u x1 9 muddy boots & spatt]$ g>m5ts1 to /& a dripp+ umbrella beside y1 or deposit ov]-%oes 9 ! hall4 ,nev] resume y\r seat aft] hav+ once left x to say adieu4 ,!re is no?+ m awkw>d ?an to take leave twice4 ,a lady :o is receiv+ morn+ visits1 may keep "s trifl+ fancy-"w 9 h] h&1 if %e desires2 b draw+1 music1 writ+ or any o!r absorb+ occupation mu/ at once be laid aside4 ,9 receiv+ _m call]s at "o "t1 a well-br$ lady mu/ divide h] att5tions z equally z possible4 ,a tete-a-tete conv]sation is a gross brea* ( etiquette1 & no "o may receive any especial notice except+ any eld]ly p]son4 ,if1 dur+ a call any contretemps occur1 %ort5 y\r visit4 ,y\r ho/ess may pres]ve a smil+ s]5ity :ile a voice 9 ! di/ance proclaims t1 ,johnnie has fall5 d[n ! /airs1 or ,m>y has set ! nurs]y curta9s on fire1 b y may be c]ta9 %e w n res5t y\r dep>ture1 ev5 if y h n be5 two m9utes seat$4 ,if y f9d y\rself intrud+ ^u an e>ly d9n] h\r1 d n prolong y\r /ay4 ,a call may be made ^u a fri5d to :om "s good =tune has come1 z promotion 9 s]vice or o!r happy ev5t1 ev5 if he has n return$ ! la/ ( y\r visits4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette1 dur+ a call1 to draw ne> to ! fire to w>m y\r h&s & feet1 unless y are invit$ by ! mi/ress ( ! h\se to d s4 ,if y are alone 9 ! draw+- room = a "t1 :ile y\r visit is ann\nc$1 & !n g to ! fire1 leave y\r seat & advance to meet ! mi/ress ( ! h\se z %e ent]s1 & !n take ! seat %e po9ts out to y4 ,9 visit+ an invalid1 nev] (f] to g to ! room1 b wait = a invitation to d s4 ,a g5tleman :o is a confirm$ invalid1 may receive ! visits ( a lady fri5d1 b "u no o!r circum/ances4 ,calls made ei!r 9 p]son or by c>d1 dur+ an illness ( y\r own1 mu/ be return$ z soon z y are able to g abroad aga94 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to remove ! gloves :5 mak+ a =mal call4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to />e r\nd a room :5 y are mak+ a call4 ,9 pay+ visits ( condol5ce1 let y\r dress be subdu$4 ,x is (f5sive to put on y\r gaye/ attire to call ^u a fri5d 9 affliction1 & equally s to conv]se ^u su* subjects z balls1 op]a or simil> amusem5ts4 ,let ! m\rn] decide :e!r to speak ( ! rec5t sorr[ or n4 ,a lady :o all[s rem>ks to be made ^u a call]1 :o has j left ! room1 commits n only a brea* ( etiquette1 b a positive rud5ess & ill-natur$ act4 ,x is q easy to *eck any su* disposition by a grave res]ve1 & to turn ! conv]sation at once4 ,calls 9 ! c\ntry may be less c]emoni\s1 & ( long] duration ?an ^? 9 ! city4 ,x is an o/5tation almo/ unk9d = a lady to call ^u a fri5d 9 r$uc$ circum/ances1 ) any p>ade ( h] own weal? 9 equipage or dress4 ,no mi/ress ( ! h\se may ev] leave ! room :5 !re are visitors 9 x4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette = a call]1 :o is wait+ ! entrance ( ! ho/ess1 to op5 ! piano1 or to t\* x if x is op54 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to walk r\nd ! room :5 wait+ = y\r ho/ess1 exam9+ ! furniture or pictures4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette = a call] to op5 or %ut a door1 raise or l[] a w9d[ curta91 or 9 any way alt] ! arrangem5t ( a room4 ,_m consid] a clock on a draw+-room mantel a brea* ( etiquette1 z x seems to h9t to visitors to keep e>ly h\rs4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to turn y\r *air s z to br+ y\r back to any "o seat$ ne> to y4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette :5 mak+ a call1 to play ) any ornam5t 9 ! room1 f+] ! furniture or seem inde$ to be aw>e ( any?+ b ! company pres5t4 ,to prolong a call to ! next meal "t is a positive rud5ess1 z x =ces y\r ho/ess to invite y to ! table :e!r conv5i5t & agreeable or n4 ,9 call+ ^u fri5ds at a bo>d+h\se or a hotel1 always write _! names above y\r own ^u y\r c>d1 t x may be c]ta9 to be deliv]$ to ! "r p]son4 ,,conv]sation4 ,,!re are sev]al pr9cipal rules ( etiquette :i* mu/ be rigidly obs]v$ 9 conv]sation1 ! non-obs]vance ( :i* w at once /amp ! guilty p>ty z ignorant ( ! =ms & cu/oms ( polite society4 ,ungrammatical expressions are un=tunately too common ev5 among/ ^? :o h n ! excuse ( ignorance1 b :o fall into ! use ( !m m]ely f c>elessness1 or unconsci\s imitation ( o!rs4 ,says %e to me1 & o!r vulg>isms ( a l type1 are also a gross violation ( good ta/e 9 conv]sation4 ,! p]sonal pron\ns %\ld be us$ z little z possible :5 speak+ ( any "o1 ei!r pres5t or abs5t4 ,! "n ( ! lady or g5tleman to :om ref]5ce is made %\ld be repeat$ if necess>y1 b "u no circum/ances %\ld ! words %e or he1 accompani$ by a nod or j]k ( ! ?umb1 9 ! direction ( ! p]son spok5 (1 be employ$4 ,nev] talk ( any "o ) :om y may h held int]c\rse z t p>ty1 or a p>ty ( y\r acqua9tance4 ,avoid z utt]ly hateful ! use ( slang t]ms4 ,!re are surely words en\gh 9 ! ,engli% language to express all ! ?\ghts & ideas ( ! m9d1 & x is a sign ( pure vulg>ity to employ synonyms1 ! only rem>kable "p ( :i* is t !y d]ive _! exi/5ce solely f vulg> s\rces4 ,9 a g5tleman su* expressions are too sugge/ive ( l[ company1 & int]c\rse ) ! wor/ associates1 & 9 a lady su* expressions are too (f5sive to be tol]at$ at all 9 good society4 ,slang nev] ornam5t$ conv]sation1 b x inv>iably sullies & degrades x4 ,equally to be c5sur$ z a violation ( etiquette1 & m s 9 a moral po9t ( view1 is ! use ( pr(anity2 x is a sure m>k1 n only ( l[-bre$+1 b ( a n>r[1 degrad$ if n a positively vici\s m9d4 ,lamont says3 ,:atev] =tune may be made by p]jury1 ,i believe !re nev] 0 a man :o made a =tune by common swe>+4 ,x (t5 appe>s t m5 pay = swe>+1 b x seldom happ5s t !y are paid = x4 ,x is n easy to p]ceive :at honor or cr$it is connect$ ) x4 ,does any man receive promotion because he is a notable blu/]]8 ,or is any man advanc$ to dignity because he is exp]t at pr(ane swe>+8 ,nev]4 ,l[ mu/ be ! "* :i* su* imp]t95ce w exalt3 high mu/ be ! "* :i* su* imp]t95ce w n degrade4 ,inexcusable1 !re=e1 mu/ be ! practice :i* has nei!r reason nor passion to support x4 ,! drunk>d has 8 cups2 ! satiri/ 8 rev5ge2 ! ambiti\s man 8 pref]m5ts2 ! mis] 8 gold2 b ! common swe>] has no?+2 he is a fool at l>ge1 sells 8 s\l = naught1 & drudges 9 ! s]vice ( ! devil gratis4 ,swe>+ is void ( all plea1 x is n ! native (fspr+ ( ! s\l1 nor int]wov5 ) ! texture ( ! body1 nor any h[ alli$ to our frame4 ,=1 z ,tillotson expresses x1',?\gh "s m5 p\r out oa?s z if !y 7 natural1 yet no man 0 ev] born ( a swe>+ con/itution4' ,b x is a cu/om1 a l[ & paltry cu/om1 pick$ up by l[ & paltry spirits :o h no s5se ( honor1 no reg>d to dec5cy1 b are =c$ to sub/itute "s rhapsody ( nons5se to supply ! vacancy ( good s5se4 ,h5ce ! sill9ess ( ! practice c only be equall$ by ! sill9ess ( ^? :o adopt x4 ,x is exce$+ly rude1 no?+ 9 fact c be m s1 to talk to any "o p]son 9 ! pres5ce ( o!rs1 9 a language n und]/ood save by ! two p]sons us+ x--unless y are address+ a =eign] 9 8 own tongue1 & !n o!rs %\ld be made aw>e ( ! subject discuss$4 ,no?+ c be 9 worse ta/e ?an to speak 9 an unkn[n tongue1 to laugh & joke 9 a language :i* leaves ! re/ ( ! company 9 ignorance :e!r !y !mselves may n be ! subjects ( y\r rem>ks or mir?4 ,nev] hold y\r companion1 9 a conv]sation1 by ! buttonhole4 ,if y are oblig$ to deta9 him =cibly 9 ord] to say :at y wi%1 y are press+ ^u him :at is disagreeable or unwelcome1 & y commit a gross brea* ( etiquette 9 s do+4 ,to speak to "o p]son 9 a company 9 ambigu\s t]ms1 und]/ood by him alone1 z ,g---1 ,i saw ,mr4 ,h41 to-day1 & deliv]$ y\r message1 is z rude z if y w5t up to ,g--- & :isp]$ 9 8 e>4 ,d n int]l>d y\r conv]sation ) scraps ( =eign language4 ,x is an affectation ( k 9 "o direction1 & a sort ( tacit admission ( ignorance 9 ano!r2 = x w\ld seem to %[ t ! speak] 0 n well en\gh acqua9t$ ) 8 own language to be able to express by its aid t :i* c\ld really be told z well1 p]haps bett]1 by x ?an any o!r4 ,!re are c]ta9 expressions1 *iefly ,fr5*1 :i* h become dome/icat$ 9 ! ,engli% language1 & :i* may occasionally be employ$1 b only :5 !y come 9 v aptly2 ! con/ant or ext5d$ use ( !m is intol]able 9 good society4 ,quotations are to be avoid$ z mu* z possible4 ,:5 made1 !y %\ld be exce$+ly %ort4 ,!re c sc>cely be a great] annoyance to a company ?an = "o p]son to take up all ! "t & att5tion by recit+ a poem1 a spee*1 a passage f a book1 especially if x be ! speak]'s own book1 spee* or poem4 ,( c\rse1 if ! company meet especially = mutual enjoym5t 9 elocution or recitation1 ?is rule does n apply4 ,x is applicable only = g5]al society4 ,%ort1 pung5t1 epigrammatic quotations1 if suitable to ! subject ( conv]sation1 may be occasionally introduc$1 b _! use %\ld be ! exception1 n ! rule4 ,dr4 ,johnson says t 9 ord] to conv]se well1 !re mu/1 9 ! fir/ place1 be k--!re mu/ be mat]ials2 9 ! second place1 !re mu/ be a comm& ( words2 9 ! ?ird place1 !re mu/ be imag9ation to place ?+s 9 su* views z !y are n commonly se5 92 & 9 ! f\r? place1 !re mu/ be a pres5ce ( m9d1 & a resolution t is n to be ov]come by failure--?is la/ is an ess5tial requisite2 = want ( x _m p d n excel 9 conv]sation4 ,to be kn[n z an invet]ate tell] ( /ories1 is a great injury to a man 9 society4 ,a %ort1 brilliant anecdote1 t is especially applicable to ! conv]sation1 kn[n to be new & nev] pr9t$1 is all t a well-br$ man w ev] p]mit himself to inflict4 ,rem>ks hav+1 & int5d$ to h1 a d\ble mean+--ev5 puns --are utt]ly to be deprecat$4 ,x is a great lib]ty to appeal to ! private sympa?ies ( any "o1 by :i* ,i mean1 to ^? qualities or p]ceptions :i* are1 z x 71 a man's private prop]ty1 available = ! use ( 8 intimate fri5ds1 b n = ! g5]al public4 ,x seems almo/ ne$less to say t "u no circum/ances :atev] are any co>se allusions p]missible4 ,trite rem>ks are simply drags ^u conv]sation1 & may produce awkw>d effects4 ,x is told ( ,*>les ,lamb1 t he 0 "o day at d9n] at a fri5d's h\se1 :]e among/ a numb] ( lit]>y m5 0 a solit>y individual :o _h be5 invit$ = no app>5t reason4 ,! poor man ?\ght t1 be+ 9 su* company1 x behov$ him to talk ( "s "o or some?+ lit]>y4 ,9 an evil mom5t he said1 )\t be+ consci\s ( ! trit5ess ( 8 rem>k3 ,d y n ?9k1 sir1 t ,milton 0 a great g5ius8 ,*>les ,lamb gaz$ at him curi\sly1 rose1 w5t to ! sidebo>d & light$ a c&le1 ) :i* he advanc$1 9 solemn wise1 to :]e ! trite talk] sat1 & said z "o :o is ab\t to look at "s unusual object ( int]e/-hold+ 8 c&le ne> ! poor man's head ! :ile3 ,w y all[ me to exam9e ?is g5tleman's p]icranium8 ,lamb 0 und\bt$ly rude1 b ! o!r gave him enorm\s provocation4 ,political & religi\s topics are n 9 good ta/e 9 g5]al conv]sation4 ,x is almo/ impossible to avoid /rong p]sonal feel+ :5 a diff]5ce ( op9ion arises1 & su* discussions almo/ inv>iably lead to m w>m? ( expression & viol5ce ( argum5t ?an are compatible ) ! requirem5ts ( polite conv]sation4 ,to li/5 ) int]e/ & att5tion is z important 9 polite society z to conv]se well1 & x is 9 ! "* ( li/5] t ! elegant ref9em5t ( a man accu/om$ to society w soone/ prove itself4 ,no matt]s h[ flat1 /ale & unpr(itable1 ! rem>ks ( ano!r may be1 ! well-br$ man w li/5 ) an appe>ance at lea/ ( int]e/1 reply+ 9 su* a mann] z to %[ t he entirely foll[s ! ?read ( ! disc\rse4 ,avoid z mu* z possible all egotism2 9 conv]sation /ick closely to ,c>d9al ,wolsey's direction to love ?yself la/4 ,x is1 to say ! lea/ ( x1 unseemly = a man to be con/antly mak+ himself ! subject ( conv]sation4 ,at times x lays a man op5 to ! attacks :i* 8 /yle c]ta9ly invites--z 0 ! case ) ! egoti/ :o d>$ to talk mu* ( himself 9 ! pres5ce ( ,dr4 ,johnson1 :om he _h greatly irritat$ by 8 conceit$ talk4 ,! ,doctor avail$ himself ( an opportunity to cru% him4 ,oh1 inde$1 ,i did n "k t6 exclaim$ ! man1 ^u "s intellig5t rem>k made by "o ( ! company1 :]eupon ! ,doctor broke 9 )3 ,sir1 :at y d n "k w\ld fill a v l>ge libr>y4 ,!re us$ to be a joke aga9/ ,"l1 ,ersk9e1 :o 0 notably a talk] ( himself1 t ! pr9t]1 hav+ to pr9t a spee* :i* 8 lord%ip _h deliv]$1 s5t ^w to say t he 0 v sorry1 b he _h no m ',i's' 9 8 f\nts ?an w\ld suffice to set up half ! spee*4 ,! subject ( conv]sation & ! me?od ( h&l+ x %\ld be s ord]$ z n to (f5d ei!r directly or indirectly4 ,suitable subjects1 = "t & place1 =m an important consid]ation 9 polite conv]sation4 ,grave tones & important consid]ation are n suit$ = ! *it-*at ( a brief call or a social ev5+1 nor is small talk an appropriate introduction1 :5 ! meet+s are = ! purpose ( discuss+ s]i\s matt]s4 ,let gayety or gravity rule z place & occasion dem&4 ,ge/iculations are 9 excessively bad ta/e4 ,if y d n wi% to attract c5sori\s rem>k1 conv]se quietly & )\t ge/ure4 ,declamation is n conv]sation4 ,refra9 f ! use ( satire1 ev5 if y are ma/] ( ! art4 ,x is p]missible only z a gu>d aga9/ imp]t95ce1 or = ! purpose ( *eck+ p]sonalities1 or tr\blesome intrusions4 ,"u no circum/ances :atev] %\ld x be us$ m]ely = amusem5t's sake1 to produce an effect1 or 9 ord] to %[ (f "o's own wit4 ,x mu/ nev] be employ$ by a g5tleman aga9/ a lady1 ?\gh ladies are prone to indulge 9 ! use ( ?is wordy weapon4 ,_! ackn[l$g$ position %\ld1 9 ! eyes ( a true g5tleman1 %ield !m f all %afts ( satire4 ,if !y1 on ! o!r h&1 *oose to indulge 9 satire1 x is ! "p ( a g5tleman to remon/rate g5tly1 & if ! invective be cont9u$1 to )draw4 ,!re 0 a case 9 po9t dur+ ! ,au/ro-,prussian w>4 ,! ,gr& ,du*ess ( ---1 be+ visit$ by a ,prussian ,g5]al on bus9ess1 took occasion to p\r =? ^u him ! unmeasur$ viol5ce ( h] temp]1 :i* _h naturally en\gh be5 di/urb$ by ! success t _h att5d$ ! ,prussian arms1 & _h be5 at ! same "t s injuri\s to h] husb&'s int]e/s4 ,! ,prussian ,g5]al remon/rat$1 at fir/ mildly2 ! invective /ill fl[$1 :5 ! ,g5]al said he w\ld n h believ$ t a ,prussian (fic] c\ld h be5 call$ ^u to endure su* abuse f ! lips ( a high-born lady4 ,/ill ! ,gr& ,du*ess cont9u+ to ignore ! object ( ! ,g5]al's visit1 & cont9u+ also to p\r =? ! bitt]ness ( h] _s ^u him1 ! soldi] )drew1 n return+ rail+ = rail+1 b simply decl>+ t ! language us$ t[>ds him 0 absolutely intol]able4 ,d n attempt to speak ) ! m\? full4 ,d n1 h[ev] mu* y may be pleas$ ) any rem>k1 cry out ,bravo6 clap y\r h&s1 or p]mit any ge/ure1 sil5t or o!rwise1 to m>k y\r appreciation ( x4 ,a quiet expression ( pleasure1 or ! smil+ lip w %[ q z pla9ly y\r s5se ( ! wit1 or fitness ( ! rem>k4 ,if y are flatt]$1 repel x by quiet gravity4 ,y _c accept x )\t also accept+ ! contempt ( ! p]son :o (f]s x4 ,refra91 too1 f expressions ( flatt]y to o!rs2 y w surely (f5d any he>] :o has delicacy ( feel+ & ref9em5t4 ,if an error 9 language1 ei!r 9 pronunciation or gramm>1 escapes ^? ) :om y are conv]s+1 nev] %[ t y notice x4 ,to take occasion to repeat correctly ! same ^w or phrase1 is ill-br$ 9 ! extreme1 & z mu* s to correct x :5 spok54 ,9 address+ any "o & 9 g5]al conv]sation1 x w be well to be> 9 m9d ! advice ( ,polonius to 8 son ,la]tes3 ,be ?\ famili>1 b by no means vulg>2 b unless y h special reason1 d n too closely adh]e to 8 precept1 ,give e man ?9e e>1 b n ?y tongue4 ,?is w only s]ve to make y appe> res]v$ & retic5t1 :5 to be s w\ld be n only out ( place1 b ill-br$4 ,9 society1 a man %\ld make himself z agreeable z he c1 do+ 8 be/ to assi/ conv]sation1 z well by talk+ gracefully & easily1 z by li/5+ pati5tly1 ev5 ?\gh x be to a twice-told tale4 ,d n :i/le1 loll ab\t1 scrat* y\r head1 or fidget ) any portion ( y\r dress :ile speak+4 ',tis excessively awkw>d1 & indicative ( l[-bre$+4 ,/rictly avoid any?+ approa*+ to abs5ce ( m9d4 ,!re c be no?+ m (f5sive ?an a pre-occupi$ vacant expression1 an evid5t ab/raction ( self at ! v "t y are suppos$ to be li/5+ att5tively to all t is be+ said to y4 ,"l ,*e/]field said3 ,:5 ,i see a man abs5t 9 m9d4 ,i *oose to be abs5t 9 body4 ,& !re 0 really mu* reason 9 ! rem>k4 ,:isp]+ is atroci\s1 & _c be tol]at$4 ,x is almo/ z bad to endeavor to draw "o p]son f a g5]al conv]sation into a tete-a-tete discussion4 ,private affairs mu/ be delay$ = private int]views4 ,if1 h[ev]1 y f9d o!rs h be5 guilty ( ?is brea* ( etiquette1 & y are s plac$ z to ov]he> :at is int5d$ to be a secret communication1 y may ) p]fect propriety *ange y\r seat1 or if ?is is n practicable1 in=m ! p]sons s conv]s+1 t _! voices are audible to y4 ,unless y are actually afflict$ ) deafness1 nev] ask to h a s5t5ce repeat$4 ,x implies a w&]+ att5tion4 ,if y\r he>+ is defective1 say s1 & y\r companion w raise 8 voice4 ,nev] int]rupt a speak]4 ,x is equally rude to supply words ov] :i* y\r companion may hesitate a mom5t4 ,d n be guilty ( a r\gh comm5t on :at has be5 said1 by su* rem>ks z1 ,yes1 y mean s-&-s4 ,if y und]/& su* to be ! mean+ ( a rem>k1 act or answ] accord+ly2 if y are unc]ta91 try to f9d out 9 "s way t w n w\nd ! feel+s ( ! speak]4 ,9 g5]al conv]sation avoid argum5t4 ,x is too engross+ ( att5tion1 & is moreov] apt to break 9 ^u ! h>mony ( ! company4 ,if oblig$ to discuss a po9t1 d s ) suavity1 contradict+1 if necess>y1 ) extreme c\rtesy1 & if y see no prospect ( agreem5t1 f9i%+ (f ) "s happy good- natur$ rem>k to prove t y are n hurt or (f5d$4 ,:5 address+ a p]son1 look 9 8 or h] face1 n />+ly1 b frankly1 nev] fix+ y\r eyes on ! c>pet or y\r boots4 ,speak cle>ly & di/9ctly1 nev] mumbl+ y\r words1 & :ile avoid+ a %\t+ tone1 speak l\dly en\gh to ensure y\r rem>ks be+ he>d4 ,a v l[ tone ( voice w be he>d if ! words are cle>ly articulat$ & spok5 sl[ly en\gh = p]fect di/9ctness1 & is mu* m agreeable ?an hurri$1 g>bl$ spee* l\dly utt]$4 ,d n sit too close to y\r companion 9 conv]sation1 & avoid any appe>ance ( wi%+ secrecy4 ,l\d laugh+ & giggl+ are 9 excessively bad ta/e4 ,d n int]rupt y\rself by laugh+ at :at y are ab\t to say4 ,es*ew sc&al1 = 9 sc&al z 9 robb]y1 ! receiv] is always ?\ght z bad z ! ?ief4 ,mimicry is ! l[e/ & mo/ ill-br$ ( all buffoon]y4 ,swe>+1 sne]+1 private affairs ei!r ( y\rself or any o!r1 h long ago be5 bani%$ out ( ! conv]sation ( well-mann]$ p4 ,nev] suppose1 or nev] appe> to suppose y\rself ! subject ( ! conv]sation or laugh ( ! company4 ,ba%fulness is an inconv5i5t quality1 :i* a great au?ority has /at$ to be ! di/+ui%+ "* ( a booby4 ,nicknames are abom9able1 & are nev] all[$ 9 good society4 ,call p & ?+s by _! "r names1 & avoid affectations ( all k9ds4 ,if y\r fri5ds become ! subject ( conv]sation1 nev] comp>e "o ) ano!r1 or m5tion ! vices ( "o to add to ! lu/re ( virtue ( ! o!r4 ,f9d some?+ pleasant to say ( ea*1 t y may n e>n ! reputation ( a backbit]4 ,9 conv]s+ ) a =eign]1 betray no impati5ce if he hesitates = a ^w to express himself1 nor any ridicule if 8 language is faulty4 ,if y speak 8 own tongue1 say s :5 y beg9 ! conv]sation1 z ?is is nev] a m]e display ( an accompli%m5t1 b a true k9dness to a /rang] 9 a /range l&4 ,y are almo/ c]ta9 to give pleasure by s do+4 ,to speak con/antly ( public *>act]s or di/+ui%$ p z y\r intimate fri5ds1 ev5 if !y are s1 is a c]ta9 m>k ( l[-bre$+4 ,boa/+ ( y\r own position1 weal?1 luxuries or possessions ( any k9d is 9 equally bad ta/e4 ,nev] speak to a lit]>y p]son ( 8 works4 ,y may by an apt quotation or pleasant rem>k %[ t y are famili> ) !m1 b to "q an au?or ab\t 8 pr(ession is ill br$4 ,x is equally s to speak ( bus9ess matt]s to any man 9 g5]al society4 ,bus9ess m5 d n g into ! _w ( polite society to c>ry _! %op1 & !y w n ?ank y = rem9d+ !m ( "w 9 _! h\rs ( relaxation4 ,d n comm5ce any conv]sation by ! sugge/ion ( pa9ful or disagreeable topics4 ,to ask a fri5d abruptly1 ,= :om are y 9 m\rn+8 may be te>+ op5 anew a w\nd t 0 cov]$ = ! "t by int]c\rse ) society4 ,take o!r /eps to satisfy y\rself on ?is po9t4 ,by ! same tok51 d n say to a man1 ,t 0 an un=tunate affair1 t failure ( y\rs4 ,nev]1 directly or indirectly1 rub a sore4 ,d n ask que/ions :i* relate to ! private affairs ( ! p]son spok5 to1 & be gu>d$ aga9/ conduct :i* may look l an attempt to =ce confid5ce4 ,if too p]sev]+ 9 y\r inquiries y may be treat$1 & v prop]ly1 z "o might treat a highwayman :o s\ght to rob "o ( any o!r prop]ty4 ,a man's ?\ghts are c]ta9ly 8 own mo/ private possession1 & y mu/ be v intimate to seek to be admitt$ to a %>e 9 !m4 ,ev5 if y are s1 x is f> m delicate to wait until confid5ce is (f]$ to y4 ,a man has a p]fect "r to def5d himself f cross-exam9ation by any means1 except positive falsehood4 ,9 conv]s+ ) =eign]s d n disp>age any ( _! national cu/oms1 ev5 if !y are rude en\gh to attack y\rs4 ,y may1 pleasantly & frankly1 def5d ! in/itutions ( y\r native l&1 b n by comp>ison ) ! cu/oms ( o!r c\ntries4 ,if y\r companion is well-br$1 he w admit t y possibly und]/& ,am]ican cu/oms bett] ?an a =eign] c d2 if he is a l[-br$ man1 no rud5ess on y\r "p w correct 8 mann]s or views4 ,subjects or incid5ts calculat$ to disgu/ ! he>]s1 are to be avoid$ 9 polite conv]sation4 ,!re is a positive fasc9ation to "s p 9 describ+ sick5+ or revolt+ sc5es1 b well- br$ p w rememb] t "s are s5sitive ^u su* subjects1 & all w\ld pref] m agreeable topics4 ,d n use surnames alone1 ev5 if speak+ ( intimate fri5ds4 ,= a lady to speak ( h] husb& z ,smi? or ,jones1 is vulg> 9 ! extreme1 & x is l[-br$ also to say my husb&1 my wife or1 except among/ relatives1 to use ! ,*ri/ian "n only1 9 speak+ ( husb& or wife4 ,speak ( y\r own husb& or wife z1 ,mr4 or ,mrs4 ,b---1 & ( y\r fri5ds also by ! surname prefix z1 ,rememb] me to ,mr4 or ,mrs4 ,d4 ,let no m ?an "o p]son be speak+ at "o "t4 ,ridicule & p]sonal jok+ _c be too sev]ely c5sur$4 ,avoid an (fici\s (f] ( advice or y\r own op9ion1 & if y d give an op9ion1 be sure x is giv5 z su* & n z a fact4 ,if y w\ld pres]ve a "* = tru?fulness1 avoid ! too common fault ( exagg]ation4 ,:5 visit+1 be c>eful t y d n appe> to und]value any?+ ar\nd y by comp>+ x ) :at y h at home4 ,bew>e ( p]sonal abuse or invective4 ,rememb] :at ,%akespe>e put into ! mon? ( ,c>d9al ,wolsey1 :5 ! ,e>l ( ,surrey said to him on 8 disgrace3 ,n[ if y c blu% & cry 'guilty' ,c>d9al1 ,y'll %[ a little hone/y4 ,m>k ! pr\d dignity ( ! prelate's reply3 ,speak on1 sir2 ,i d>e y\r wor/ objections3 ,if ,i blu% ,x is to see a nobleman want mann]s4 ,punn+ is a vulg>ism t %\ld be scrupul\sly avoid$4 ,an invet]ate pun/]1 ?\gh 8 play ^u words may rise to ! ke5e/ wit1 is yet an insuff]able bore4 ,no "o feels secure 9 8 society1 or c guess :at ^w may be torn out ( a s]i\s or brilliant rem>k to be tortur$ into a vulg> witticism1 out ( place & uncall$ =4 ,prov]bs are n 9 good ta/e :5 introduc$ into conv]sation4 ,scriptural phrases are apt to subject ! speak] to a suspicion ( ins9c]ity1 & %\ld be us$ v seldom1 & ) ! utmo/ rev]5ce4 ,cant is simply dete/able4 ,religion is a subject too apt to lead to long argum5ts if n to positive alt]cation to be ! subject ( g5]al conv]sation4 ,rep>tee is n a weapon = e-day use4 ,!re are few :o c wield ?is poli%$ blade skillfully1 & :5 clumsy h&s grasp x1 x w w\nd bo? speak] & he>]4 ,! tal5t$ au?or ( ,good ,society1 says3 ,! great secret ( talk+ well is to adapt y\r conv]sation z skillfully z may be to y\r company4 ,"s m5 make a po9t ( talk+ commonplace to all ladies alike1 z if a woman c\ld only be a trifl]4 ,o!rs1 on ! contr>y1 seem to =get 9 :at respects ! education ( a lady diff]s f t ( a g5tleman1 & commit ! opposite error ( conv]s+ on topics ) :i* ladies are seldom acqua9t$4 ,a woman ( s5se has z mu* "r to be annoy$ by ! "o1 z a lady ( ord9>y education by ! o!r4 ,y _c pay a f9] complim5t to a woman ( ref9em5t & esprit1 ?an by lead+ ! conv]sation into su* a *annel z may m>k y\r appreciation ( h] sup]ior atta9m5ts4 ,x %\ld be rememb]$ t p take m int]e/ 9 _! own affairs ?an 9 any?+ else :i* y c "n4 ,9 tete-a- tete conv]sations1 !re=e1 lead a "m to talk ( h] *ildr51 a "y lady ( h] la/ ball1 an au?or ( 8 =?com+ book1 or an arti/ ( 8 exhibition picture4 ,hav+ furni%$ ! topic1 y ne$ only li/52 & y are ?\ght n only agreeable1 b ?or\ghly s5sible1 amiable & well- in=m$4 ,be c>eful1 on ! o!r h&1 n always to make a po9t ( talk+ to p]sons ^u g5]al matt]s relat+ to _! pr(essions4 ,to %[ an int]e/ 9 _! imm$iate conc]ns is flatt]+1 b to conv]se ) !m too mu* ab\t _! own art or pr(ession1 looks z if y ?\ght !m ignorant ( o!r topics4 ,rememb] 9 conv]sation t a voice 'g5tle & l[' is1 above all o!r extrane\s accompli%m5ts1 an excell5t ?+ 9 woman4 ,!re is a c]ta9 di/9ct b subdu$ tone ( voice :i* is peculi> to p]sons only ( ! be/ bre$+4 ,x is bett] to err by ! use ( too l[ ?an too l\d a tone4 ,l\d laught] is extremely objectionable 9 society4 ,conv]sation is a reflex ( "*4 ,! pret5ti\s1 ! illit]ate1 ! impati5t1 ! curi\s1 w z inevitably betray _! idiosyncrasies z ! mode/1 ! ev5 temp]$ & ! g5]\s4 ,/rive z we may1 we _c always be act+4 ,let u1 !re=e1 cultivate a tone ( m9d1 & a habit ( life1 ! betrayal ( :i* ne$ n put u to %ame 9 ! company ( ! pure & wise1 & ! re/ w be easy4 ,if we make ourselves wor?y ( ref9$ & intellig5t society1 we %all n be reject$ f x2 & 9 su* society we %all acquire by example all t we h fail$ to le>n f precept4 ,if y are conv]s+1 :5 int]rupt$ by a visitor1 &1 aft] ! cu/om>y greet+s1 resume ! conv]sation1 y mu/ recapitulate ! sub/ance ( x = ! b5efit ( ! new com]4 ,to inv>iably comm5ce a conv]sation by rem>ks on ! wea!r %[s a pov]ty ( ideas t is truly pitiable4 ,d n con/antly repeat ! "n ( a p]son ) :om y are conv]s+4 ,a p]son :o has travell$ w probably be sev]ely ridicul$ if con/antly ref]r+ to ! w9t] ,i sp5t 9 ,flor5ce1 or :5 ,i 0 9 ,london4 ,if conv]sation takes a tone t is (f5sive to good ta/e1 *>ity or ju/ice1 be sil5t4 ,d n be too ready to correct any /atem5t y may deem untrue4 ,y may be y\rself mi/ak54 ,,invitations4 ,,all invitations1 except+ d9n] invitations1 are issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! lady ( ! h\se alone4 ,d9n] invitations are issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! g5tleman & lady ( ! h\se1 or :5 ext5d$ to g5tlem5 only1 9 ! "n ( ! ho/ alone4 ,answ]s to invitations1 except+ su* d9n] invitations z are issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! g5tleman only1 mu/ be address$ to ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,:5 invitations are issu$ 9 ! height ( a fa%ionable season1 x is be/ to s5d !m out at lea/ a =tnight be=eh&4 ,= a small company1 & :5 gayety is n at its height1 a week's notice is suffici5t4 ,= a co/ume ball1 private !atricals or any occasion :5 elaborate dresses or prep>ations are ne$$1 a mon? %\ld be giv54 ,pr9t$ c>ds ( invitation are n en regle1 except+ = public occasions4 ,a small note pap] is ! only appropriate "o1 & may h ! initial lett] or monogram /amp$ ^u x1 & ! envelope4 ,any m fanciful decoration is 9 excessively bad ta/e4 ,! prop] =m = a d9n] invitation is3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,g--- reque/ ! favor ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,l---'s company at d9n]1 on ,tuesday1 ! #h? ( ,janu>y1 at #e o'clock4 ,or1 ,mr4 ,g--- reque/s ! pleasure ( ,mr4 ,l ---'s company at d9n]1 on ,tuesday1 ! #h? ( ,janu>y1 at #e o'clock4 ,! answ] accept+ ! invitation %\ld run z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,l--- h mu* pleasure 9 accept+ ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,g- --'s k9d invitation to d9n] on ! #h? ( ,janu>y4 ,if decl9$1 ! foll[+ =m mu/ be us$3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,l--- regret t a prior engagem5t 7or o!r reason /at$7 w prev5t _! accept+ ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,g---'s k9d invitation to d9n] on ! #h? ( ,janu>y4 ,%\ld ! invitation be decl9$1 "s reason = ! refusal mu/ be giv51 &1 unless an excuse 7:i* always savors m or less ( ! untru?ful7 be want$1 x is ! true/ polit5ess to assign ! cause :i* actually is ! prev5tive4 ,:atev] ! cause--sickness1 dome/ic tr\ble1 bus9ess or any o!r--x %\ld be /at$ z concisely z possible 9 ! answ]1 :i* 9 any case %\ld be dispat*$ z soon z possible 7c]ta9ly ! next day7 aft] ! receipt ( ! invitation1 t ! ho/ess may h "t to summon o!r gue/s 9 ! /ead ( ^? decl9+ h] fir/ invitations4 ,aft] an invitation is once accept$1 x %\ld be scrupul\sly obs]v$4 ,no?+ b ! mo/ absolute necessity %\ld prev5t y f go+1 & :5 su* necessity arises1 x %\ld be communicat$ directly1 ) a full explanation ( ! prev5t+ cause ev5 if x is )9 half an h\r ( ! appo9t$ d9n] "t4 ,if e>li]1 s5d ! explanation z soon z possible4 ,invitations to d9n] & ! answ]s mu/ be s5t by a special mess5g]4 ,! po/ is prov]bially unc]ta91 & ! non-arrival ( an expect$ invitation or its answ]1 may cause la/+ (f5ce4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette1 to say no?+ ( practical inconv5i5ce1 to br+ an unassort$ company toge!r at d9n]4 ,great p1 public *>act]s1 lit]>y celebrities or di/+ui%$ gue/s f any cause %\ld n be invit$ m]ely because !y are su*4 ,!y w be uncom=table if ! gue/s summon$ to meet !m are n cong5ial1 & ! rema9d] ( y\r company equally s4 ,no "o gue/ %\ld be too conspicu\s4 ,a h>moni\s bl5d+ ( ta/es & qualities %\ld be ! object 9 view4 ,p]sons mov+ 9 "o circle ( society %\ld n1 z a g5]al rule1 be invit$ to meet ^? :o move 9 ano!r circle4 ,a man ( /rong political bias 9 "o direction1 %\ld n be invit$ to meet a p>ty oppos$ to 8 views2 p]sons ( kn[n & m>k$ diff]5ces 9 religi\s matt]s %\ld n be invit$ to meet ea* o!r1 & above all1 avoid ! social collision ( ^? :om y "k to be p]sonal enemies4 ,! be/ guide 9 su* matt]s is common s5se1 c\pl$ ) a little judici\s =e?\ght4 ,invitations to l>ge balls %\ld be s5t out at lea/ a =tnight be=e ! "t appo9t$1 & are word$ ?us3 ,mrs4 ,l---'s complim5ts to ,miss ,g---1 & reque/s ! pleasure ( h] company at a ball1 on ,w$nesday1 ! #g? ( ,m>*1 at #i o'clock4 ,! answ] is z foll[s3 ,miss ,g---'s complim5ts to ,mrs4 ,l---1 & accepts ) pleasure h] k9d invitation = ,w$nesday1 ,m>* #g?4 ,or1 ,miss ,g--- regrets a rec5t dea? 9 h] family w prev5t h] accept+ ,mrs4 ,l---'s k9d invitation = ,m>* #g?4 ,an invitation to an ev5+ p>ty is word$3 ,mrs4 ,s--- complim5ts to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,t---1 & reque/s ! pleasure ( _! company on ,m>* #i?1 at #h o'clock4 ,su* an invitation calls = full ev5+ dress4 ,! answ] is ! same z = a ball invitation4 ,invitations to pic-nics1 private !atricals1 conc]ts1 tea p>ties & o!r ent]ta9m5ts1 g5]ally /ate ! nature ( su* ent]ta9m5t1 & are a little less =mal ?an ^? already giv54 ,= a musical p>ty3 ,mrs4 ,r-- reque/s ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,p---'s company1 on ,?ursday ev5+1 ,feb4 #aj?1 at #h o'clock1 to meet ! memb]s ( ! ,h>monia ,musical ,society4 ,& if y h a programme ( ! conc]t1 enclose x4 ,or1 ,mrs4 ,f--- expects a few fri5ds on ,monday ev5+ next1 at #h o'clock1 to take "p 9 "s dramatic read+s1 & w\ld be happy to h ,miss ,b--- jo9 ! p>ty4 ,or1 ,mrs4 ,s---'s complim5ts to ,miss ,p---1 & w\ld be pleas$ to h h] jo9 a pic-nic p>ty to ,p9e ,grove1 on ,w$nesday1 ,june #ad?4 ,c>riages />t f ,mrs4 ,s---'s at #i o'clock1 & a place w be res]v$ = ,miss ,p---4 ,notes ( invitation mu/ always be dat$1 & y\r address 9 full writt5 9 "o corn]1 ?us3 ,feb4 #f?1 #ah--4 ,miss ,m---4 reque/s ! pleasure ( ,miss ,n---'s company to a small ev5+ p>ty1 on ,friday ev5+ next1 at #h o'clock4 ,no4 #gfb ,r--- ,/reet4 ,! body ( ! invitation mu/ be 9 ! middle ( ! %eet1 & date a little above to ! "r1 ! address a little bel[ to ! left4 ,! envelopes conta9+ invitations mu/ be direct$ always to ! private resid5ce ( ! p]son invit$1 nev] to a place ( bus9ess or (fice4 ,:5 ! (fic]s ( a regim5t or a %ip are invit$ to an ent]ta9m5t1 & x is n possible to invite !m all1 x is cu/om>y to s5d an invitation to ! ,colonel or ,comm&]1 accompani$ by a c]ta9 numb] ( blank tickets1 if x be a public ball1 or by an intimation t ! ho/ w\ld be glad to see ,colonel or ,capta9 --- & s _m ( ! (fic]s ( ! regim5t or %ip4 ,invitations by a regim5t to a ball1 to be giv5 by ! (fic]s1 are word$ z foll[s3 ,col4 & ! (fic]s ( ! --- ,regim5t1 ,u4 ,s4 ,a4 7or o!r bran* ( ! s]vice71 reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,c--- 's company on ! #g? ( ,decemb]1 at #i o'clock4 ,r--- ,b>racks1 corn] ( --- & --- ,/reets4 ,answ]s %\ld be address$ to ! ,colonel ( ! regim5t1 & word$ ?us3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,c's complim5ts to ,colonel -- & ! (fic]s ( ! - ,regim5t1 ,u4 ,s4 ,a41 & accept ) pleasure _! polite invitation = ! #g? ( ,decemb]4 ,9 case an (fic] desires to invite 8 p]sonal fri5ds1 he encloses 8 own c>d 9 ! invitation1 b ^! mu/ all be issu$ 9 ! =m already giv51 ! c>d expla9+ to :i* (fic] ! complim5t is to be attribut$4 ,invitations to a ,naval ball are issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! ,capta9 & (fic]s ( ! ,u4 ,s4 ,%ip ---1 or simply 9 ! "n ( ,! ,(fic]s ( ! ,u4 ,s4 ,%ip ---4 ,on ! corn] ( ! c>d ! "n ( ! (fic] to :om ! answ]s are to be s5t1 %\ld be writt54 ,an (fic] ( high] rank1 or a public (ficial ( high position1 w signify on 8 c>d :at aide-de-camp or cl]k is to receive ! answ]s to 8 invitations1 & w issue !m 9 ! jo9t "n ( himself & wife1 ?us3 ,g5]al & ,mrs4 ,e--- reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,d---'s company1 on ,?ursday1 ! #f? ( ,novemb]1 at #h o'clock4 ,direct answ]s to ,capt4 ,e4 ,c---4 ,v]bal invitations are giv5 only :5 ! occasion is a v in=mal "o1 & imply pla9 dress1 e>ly h\rs & a small company4 ,invitations to conc]ts1 !atre or op]a1 %\ld be s5t 9 "t to secure good seats1 if accept$1 ,! usual /yle is3 ,mr4 ,g w\ld be mu* pleas$ to h ,mrs4 & ,miss ,hunt's company at ! op]a1 on ,w$nesday ev5+1 :5 ,la ,trovatore w be p]=m$ by ! ,italian tr\pe at ! ,academy ( ,music4 ,su* an invitation calls = an imm$iate answ] f ! eld] lady1 & %\ld be z foll[s3 ,mrs4 & ,miss ,hunt accept ) pleasure ,mr4 ,g---'s polite invitation to li/5 to a favorite op]a on ,w$nesday ev5+4 ,or if decl9$3 ,mrs4 ,hunt regrets t a prior engagem5t w prev5t h] own & ,miss ,hunt's acceptance ( ,mr4 ,g---'s polite invitation = ,w$nesday ev5+4 ,= a g5]al reception1 invitations are pr9t$ ^u c>ds1 ?us3 ,w$nesday ,ev5+1 ,janu>y #ad?1 ,no4 #cdh --- ,,/reet4 ,su* c>ds d n require any answ]4 ,,d9n] ,,company4 ,,on no occasion is a want ( punctuality m ill-br$ ?an at a d9n] p>ty1 :e!r x is ! gue/s :o are late1 or ! ho/ess :o all[s d9n] to be lat] ?an ! "t appo9t$4 ,belie rem>ks1 ) z mu* tru? z s>casm3 ,i h always be5 punctual to ! h\r ( d9n]1 = ,i "k t ^? :om ,i kept wait+ w\ld employ ^? unpleasant mom5ts to sum up all my faults4 ,to arrive too e>ly is to annoy ! lady ( ! h\se by di/urb+ h] at h] toilet4 ,to arrive too late is injuri\s to ! d9n]1 to ! temp] ( y\r ho/1 ( ! o!r gue/s & ( ! s]vants4 ,x is really a sad brea* ( etiquette to be lat] ?an ! h\r nam$ 9 y\r invitation = d9n]1 & f t5 to fifte5 m9utes be=e x is q soon en\gh = y\r arrival4 ,z reg>ds ! h\r = d9n]1 etiquette1 /rictly s call$1 has n prescrib$ any?+4 ,cu/om1 ! fa%ion1 conv5i5ce1 a score ( ?+s may control x4 ,f five to eight o'clock1 accord+ some:at to ! season ( ! ye>1 is ! pres5t fa%ionable limit4 ,by t "t ! bus9ess ( mo/ m5 is ov] = ! day1 :i* c sc>cely be said ( an h\r e>li] ?an five4 ,! lady ( ! h\se %\ld be 9 h] draw+-room1 ready to receive h] gue/s1 t5 or fifte5 m9utes be=e ! h\r fix$ = _! arrival1 & ! daught]s ( ! h\se %\ld be ) h]1 & n drop 9 "o by "o aft] ! gue/s' arrival4 ,! g5tleman ( ! h\se %\ld also be pres5t1 & 9 case x is a /rictly g5tleman's p>ty1 at :i* no ho/ess presides1 he mu/ be all ready be=e ! appo9t$ "t to d ! honors4 ,on gue/s be+ ann\nc$1 ! lady advances a few /eps t[>ds !m1 & %\ld receive !m cordially ) "s words ( welcome4 ,! ho/ess mu/ nev] betray any *agr9 at ! lat5ess ( a gue/1 b try to place ! un=tunate la/ arrival z mu* at ease z possible by h] cordial welcome & unemb>rass$ mann]4 ,be=e all ! gue/s h arriv$ ! lady %\ld h made h] arrangem5ts z to :at g5tleman & lady are to g 9 to d9n] toge!r1 & be=e d9n] is ann\nc$ ! g5tlem5 ( ! p>ty %\ld be in=m$ :at lady !y are to escort to ! table4 ,! g5tleman ( ! h\se (f]s 8 arm to ! lady mo/ honor$ among/ ! gue/s1 ! g5tleman mo/ di/+ui%$ (f]s 8 arm to ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,g5tlem5 give ! left arm to a lady1 except+ milit>y (fic]s 9 full dress1 :o give ! "r arm1 z ! sword is inconv5i5tly worn = (f]+ ! left4 ,9 all o!r cases ! "r arm mu/ be left free4 ,! ord] ( procession be+ settl$1 ! company move accord+ to x f ! draw+-room to ! d9+-room1 z soon z d9n] is ann\nc$4 ,! ho/ sits at ! bottom ( ! table1 ! ho/ess at ! top4 ,at ! "r ( ! ho/ is plac$ ! lady he escort$ f ! draw+-room1 & at ! "r ( ! ho/ess h] escort4 ,! next place ( honor is at ! left ( ! ho/ess4 ,x is a good plan1 & rapidly becom+ an e/abli%$ cu/om1 to h small c>ds ) ! names ( ! gue/s writt5 ^u !m1 laid ^u ! plate at ea* seat4 ,ea* "o ?us tak+ ! place assign$ prev5ts confusion1 & gives ! ho/ess ! privilege ( plac+ ne> to ea* o!r ! gue/s :o w prove mutually agreeable4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld /& beh9d _! respective *airs until all ! ladies are seat$1 & !n take _! own seats1 be+ c>eful t _! *airs d n /& ^u ! dresses ( ! ladies beside !m4 ,seats hav+ be5 apportion$ to all1 grace is said1 by a cl]gyman if !re is "o pres5t1 if n1 by ! ho/4 ,! cl]gyman %\ld be invit$ to say grace by ! ho/4 ,if ! d9n] is a la ,russe1 !re w n be any c>v+ done on ! table itself4 ,if ! p>ty is small1 m]e en famille1 ! ho/ess w h a di% be=e h]1 ! cont5ts ( :i* w h to be c>v$4 ,! g5tleman on h] "r h& %\ld 9 t case (f] to c>ve = h]1 b if %e decl9es1 %\ld n press ! (f]4 ,_m ladies are excell5t c>v]s1 & l to appe> s4 ,!re is no space 9 our little volume = directions ^u c>v+1 nor d !y =m any portion ( ! art ( etiquette4 ,all t etiquette has to say on ! subject is t y mu/ n /& up to c>ve2 y mu/ n pursue ! bird1 jo9t or :atev] ! meat may be1 all r\nd ! di%2 nor %\ld y comm5t ^u ! age ( ! f[l1 ! t\ghness ( ! meat or y\r own awkw>dness 9 c>v+4 ,if y really d n und]/& x1 d n attempt x2 say s & let ! wait] cut x up4 ,nev] be help$ twice to s\p or fi%1 & inde$ x appe>s l[ br$ to be twice s]v$ to any "o di%4 ,y may refuse ei!r s\p or fi%1 b make no comm5t if y d1 z to y\r lik+ or dislike = ! di%1 nor is x incumb5t ^u y to /ate t s\p does n agree ) y1 or t fi% always make y ill2 any su* rem>ks are rude4 ,simply to say no1 ?ank y1 9 refus+ a di%1 is all ! reply t /rict etiquette w all[ ^u ! subject4 ,no rem>ks %\ld be made by ! ho/ or ho/ess on ! refusal ( a gue/ to p>take ( a pr(f]$ di%4 ,press+ ! food ^u a gue/ ) ,oh1 d take "s1 or ,y mu/1 x 0 made by s- &-s1 or inde$ any rem>k ^u ! repa/1 is n only annoy+ to ! gue/1 b a pro( ( l[-bre$+ 9 ! ent]ta9]s4 ,!re is a sort ( hospitality ab\t x1 b x is a r\gh b>b>ism4 ,:o does n rememb] ! description ( ,bridget ,elias' hospitable gau*]ie 9 ,*>les ,lamb's ,poor ,relation1 :5 urg+ ! poor relation to eat ) ! spee*3 ,d take "s m2 rememb] y d n get pudd+ e day4 ,nev] %\ld a ho/ or ho/ess apologize = ! f>e set be=e _! gue/4 ,su* apologies are g5]ally a m]e fi%+ = complim5t1 untrue & 9 entirely bad ta/e4 ,9 invit+ 8 fri5ds to d9n]1 ! ho/ b9ds himself to set be=e !m ! be/ 8 h\se & purse c af=d1 & if ! f>e is good ! gue/ w soon f9d x out1 if bad1 no apologies w make x any bett]4 ,x is 9 bad ta/e to apologize to ! wait]s = ! tr\ble giv5 !m1 & betrays a lam5table ignorance ( ! cu/oms ( society4 ,!y are hir$ to wait ^u ! gue/s1 & x is no affair ( ^? gue/s h[ !y feel1 z long z !y dis*>ge _! duty4 ,to reprove a wait] is ! height ( ill-bre$+4 ,d n1 :5 a di% is br\ght to y1 say y pref] to be help$ aft] "s "o else4 ,accept or refuse :at is (f]$ to y1 & let ! wait] pass ! di% on4 ,a g5tleman1 h[ev]1 w see t ! lady he has escort$ to ! table is help$ z %e wi%es1 be=e he att5ds to 8 own d9n]1 b to int]f]e ) ! lady on ! o!r side ( him is all insult to h] escort4 ,he may ask ! lady "u 8 c>e if %e w be help$ f any di% (f]$ him1 be=e he accepts or decl9es = himself1 & w issue h] ord]s = h] to ! wait] :5 %e selects h] d9n]4 ,a g5tleman or a lady w always say ,?ank y to a wait]1 b no?+ m4 ,a gue/ mu/ nev] f9d fault ) any di% plac$ be=e him1 & to appe> to "q ! quality or fre%ness ( ! vi&s by smell+ or fa/idi\sly ta/+ !m1 is a positive insult to ! g5tleman :o has invit$ him to 8 table4 ,a ho/ or ho/ess may nev] f9d fault be=e _! gue/s1 nei!r ) ! d9n]1 ) ! s]vants1 nor ) ea* o!r4 ,burnt s\p1 fi% boil$ to rags1 und]done vegetables1 heavy pa/ry1 mu/ be endur$ ) smil+ equanimity4 ,no sc[l mu/ greet ! cra% t ann\nces ! fall ( a tray ( ! f9e/ glass1 no ^w ( remon/rance greet ! deluge ( a plate ( s\p ov] ! tableclo?4 ,if c>e has n be5 tak5 to secure fir/- rate cooks & well-tra9$ wait]s1 ! faults ( omission & commission mu/ be endur$ ) placid s]5ity4 ,aft] ! ladies h all be5 s]v$1 ! gue/s to ! "r ( ! ho/ess mu/ be att5d$ to1 !n ! gue/ on h] left1 & s on until all are s]v$4 ,t5 p]sons are all t "o cook c prop]ly prep>e a d9n] =1 & ?ree wait]s w be amply employ$ 9 wait+ ^u t numb]4 ,if m are invit$ ! attempt to make ! conv]sation g5]al _h bett] n be made1 b ! gue/s all[$ to conv]se tete-a-tete4 ,w9e %\ld be h&$ by ! wait]s aft] s\p4 ,to decl9e w9e by cov]+ ! m\? ( ! w9e-glass ) ! h& is an ill- br$ ge/ure4 ,say simply ,n any1 ?ank y1 & ! wait] w n fill y\r glass4 ,fi% foll[s next 9 ord]4 ,a slice1 neatly cut1 n ha%$ up by bad c>v+1 %\ld be plac$ ^u ea* plate1 ) a slice ( egg1 & fi% sauce4 ,if !re be a silv] knife1 use x to cut ! fi%4 ,if n1 take y\r =k 9 y\r "r h& & supply ! place ( ! knife by a small piece ( bread1 :i* y %\ld cut (f1 & :5 y\r fi% is eat51 leave ^u y\r plate4 ,d n eat z if y _h good f>e = ! fir/ "t 9 y\r life--t is to say1 d n eat rav5\sly1 & d n eat 9 a noticeable way4 ,nev] smack ! lips :5 eat+4 ,nev] take a long1 deep brea? aft] y f9i% eat+1 z if ! ex]cise _h fatigu$ y4 ,nev] make noises 9 y\r m\? or ?roat4 ,nev] suck y\r tee?1 or pass y\r tongue r\nd ! outside ( y\r gums4 ,nev]1 ev5 ) *eese1 put y\r knife into y\r m\?4 ,nev] pick y\r tee?1 or put y\r f+] into y\r m\?4 ,if y f9d y h a fi%-bone 9 y\r m\?1 cov] y\r lips ) a napk9 to remove x4 ,x is bett] to be v c>eful to remove all bones be=e putt+ fi% into y\r m\?4 ,on no acc\nt spit ! bones out ^u y\r plate4 ,nev] take ! bones ( f[l or birds up 9 y\r f+]s to gnaw or suck !m4 ,remove ! meat ) y\r knife1 & convey x to y\r m\? ) y\r =k1 nev] be+ too eag] to clean (f e p>ticle ( fle%4 ,wipe y\r f+] tips1 if soil$1 ^u ! table napk91 nev] ^u y\r tongue or ! table-clo?4 ,an elegant eat] w nev] h occasion to ?9k ( 8 f+]s4 ,nev] use ! table-clo? to wipe y\r m\?1 y might z well use x 9 place ( y\r pocket h&k]*ief4 ,nev] rem>k ^u :at is plac$ be=e y1 ei!r 9 praise or dispraise ( x4 ,nei!r dr9k nor speak :5 y h any?+ 9 y\r m\?4 ,:5 y are help$1 beg9 to eat1 )\t reg>d to ^? :o h already1 or h n yet1 be5 help$4 ,nev] wat* ! di%es z !y are uncov]$1 nor make any exclamation :5 y see _! cont5ts4 ,"u no circum/ances tuck y\r napk91 bib-fa%ion1 into y\r %irt coll>4 ,unfold x p>tially & put x 9 y\r lap1 cov]+ y\r knees4 ,a lady may slip a corn] "u h] belt if !re is dang] ( its slipp+ ^u h] dress1 b a g5tleman mu/ be awkw>d inde$ if he lets 8 napk9 fall ^u ! floor4 ,no g5tleman w ev] settle himself 9 8 *air1 pu%+ back 8 cuffs1 z if = a set-to1 at ! table4 ,if y make any g5]al rem>k1 d n look up at ! wait]s to see :at effect x has ^u !m4 ,if !y are well-tra9$ !y w n move a muscle at he>+ ! mo/ laughable /ory1 nor w !y give any sign :atev] t !y h n clos$ _! e>s l deaf add]s to all t has be5 go+ on4 ,9 any case1 h[ev]1 y mu/ refra9 f notic+ !m4 ,if y want any?+1 take ! occasion ( a wait] be+ ne> to y1 to ask = x 9 an und]tone4 ,to %\t out ,wait]6 or ord] "o ab\t1 z if y 7 9 a re/aurant1 is a c]ta9 m>k ( ill-bre$+4 ,unless ! p>ty is a v small "o1 g5]al conv]sation is impossible4 ,9 su* a case1 y mu/ conv]se ) ^? on ei!r side ( y1 n conf9+ y\r rem>ks exclusively to "o4 ,talk 9 a l[1 quiet tone1 b nev] 9 a :isp]4 ,to affect an air ( my/]y or secrecy at a d9n]-table1 is an insult to y\r companion & company assembl$4 ,x is 9 bad ta/e to =ce ! att5tion ( ! company ^u y\rself by l\d talk+ or l\d laugh+4 ,too _m jokes or anecdotes are 9 bad ta/e1 b ! subjects = conv]sation %\ld n be too s]i\s4 ,any g5tleman prop\nd+ a conundrum at ! d9n]-table des]ves to be tak5 away by ! police4 ,to use "o's own knife1 spoon or f+]s1 in/ead ( ! butt]knife1 sug>-tongs or salt-spoons1 is to p]suade ! company t y h nev] se5 ! latt] articles be=e1 & are unacqua9t$ ) _! use4 ,nev] eat all t is on y\r plate1 & above all nev] be guilty ( ! gau*]ie ( scrap+ y\r plate1 or pass+ y\r bread ov] x z if to clean x4 ,nev] fill y\r m\? s full t y _c conv]se2 at ! same "t avoid ! appe>ance ( m]ely play+ ) y\r food4 ,eat 9 small m\?fuls1 & r sl[ly ?an rapidly4 ,if ^u op5+ fruit y f9d x is n p]fect1 or !re is a worm 9 x1 pass y\r plate quietly & )\t rem>k to ! wait]1 :o w br+ y a clean "o4 ,none b a l[-br$ cl[n w ev] c>ry fruit or bon bons away f ! table4 ,dr9k+ w9e ) p is an old cu/om1 b x w n[-adays be f\nd to exi/ only among ! pa/ or pass+ g5]ation4 ,if y are1 h[ev]1 ask$ to take w9e ) any "o1 y %\ld fill y\r glass ) ! same sort ( w9e y\r fri5d has1 & raise x to y\r lips4 ,y ne$ only ta/e1 n act ^u ! pr9ciple ( no heel-taps4 ,a man w\ld be look$ ^u z a curiosity1 nay1 _m w\ld n und]/& :at he meant1 :o %\ld at ! pres5t day propose a s5tim5t be=e dr9k+ w9e4 ,nev] spit f y\r m\? ! sk9s ( grapes1 ! /ones or pips ( fruits4 ,receive !m ^u ! prongs ( y\r =k1 laid horizontally1 & place !m z conv5i5tly z s inelegant a process w all[ ^u ! edge ( y\r plate4 ,nev] play ) y\r f+]s ^u ! table4 ,nev] play ) y\r knife & =k1 fidget ) y\r salt-cell>1 balance y\r spoon on y\r tumbl]1 make pills ( y\r bread1 or p]=m any ( ^? vulg> antics un=tunately too (t5 se5 at table4 ,nev] 9 conv]sation1 illu/rate y\r rem>ks by plans drawn ^u ! table-clo? ) y\r nail1 or built ( y\r knife1 =k & spoon4 ,nev] /ret* y\r feet out "u ! table1 s z to t\* ^? ( y\r opposite neighbor4 ,x is q z bad to put !m up "u y ^u ! *air-b>1 or curl !m up "u ! *air itself4 ,try to take an easy position at table1 nei!r press+ closely up to x1 nor yet s f> away z to risk deposit+ y\r food ^u ! floor in/ead ( convey+ x to y\r m\?4 ,nev] t\* fruit ) y\r f+]s4 ,if y wi% to peel an apple1 a pe> or a pea*1 hold ! fruit on a =k 9 y\r left h&1 & peel ) a silv] knife 9 y\r "r4 ,eat x 9 small slices cut f ! :ole fruit1 b nev] bite x1 or any?+ else at table4 ,ne$ ,i say no fruit %\ld ev] be suck$ at ! table4 ,:5 ! ho/ess ?9ks h] lady fri5ds h tak5 z mu* dess]t z !y wi%1 %e cat*es ! eye ( ! pr9cipal among !m2 an int]*ange ( ocul> telegraph+ takes place1 ! ho/ess rises1 & ) h] all ! company rise2 ! g5tlem5 make a passage = ! ladies to pass2 ! "o :o is ne>e/ to ! door op5s x1 & holds x op5 until all ! ladies h pass$ out ( ! room4 ,z soon z ! ladies h retir$ ! g5tlem5 may resume _! seats = m w9e & conv]sation1 b x is a v poor complim5t to ! lady gue/s to l+] long 9 ! d9+-room4 ,! ladies ^u leav+ ! d9+-room1 retire to ! draw+- room1 & occupy !mselves until ! g5tlem5 aga9 jo9 !m4 ,x is well = ! ho/ess to h a res]ve =ce = ?is int]val1 ( photographic albums1 /]eoscopes1 annuals1 new music1 9 fact1 all ! ammunition %e c provide to make ?is (t5 t$i\s int]val pass pleasantly4 ,if y d9e 9 ! ,fr5* fa%ion1 ! g5tlem5 rise ) ! ladies1 ea* (f]+ 8 arm to ! lady he escort$ to d9n]1 & all proce$ to ! draw+-room toge!r4 ,if ! g5tlem5 rema9 to h c(fee s]v$ 9 ! d9+-room1 tea may be s]v$ 9 ! draw+-room to ! ladies4 ,^u return+ to ! draw+-room ! g5tlem5 %\ld nev] clu/] r\nd ! door1 b jo9 ! ladies at once1 /riv+ to repay ! hospitality ( ! ho/ess by mak+ !mselves z agreeable z possible to ! gue/s4 ,f two to ?ree h\rs aft] d9n] is ! prop] "t to leave ! h\se4 ,if ! d9n] is = ! g5tlem5 gue/s alone1 & ! lady ( h\se presides1 h] duties are ov] :5 %e rises aft] dess]t4 ,! g5tlem5 d n expect to f9d h] 9 ! draw+-room aga94 ,9 ?is case cig>s may be s]v$ ) ! c(fee1 & !n ! s]vants may retire1 unless especially summon$ to wait4 ,if smok+ is indulg$ 91 h plac$ ^u ! table a numb] ( small mat* boxes1 a%es receiv]s1 & betwe5 ! *airs spittoons4 ,& "h let me add a few words ^u smok+ tak5 f an ,engli% au?ority1 b :i*1 ) a few exceptions w apply equally well to lov]s ( ! we$ ^u ?is side ( ! wat]4 ,he says3 ,b :at %all ,i say ( ! fragrant we$ :i* ,raleigh taught our gallants to puff 9 capaci\s b[ls2 :i* a royal p$ant d5\nc$ 9 a fam\s ',c\nt]bla/1' :i* 8 flatt]+1 laureate1 ,b5 ,jonson1 ridicul$ to please 8 ma/]2 :i* our wives & si/]s prote/ gives rise to ! dirtie/ & mo/ unsociable habit a man c indulge 92 ( :i* "s fair fl[]s decl>e t !y love ! smell1 & o!rs t !y w nev] m>ry an indulg] 7:i*1 by ! way1 !y g5]ally end 9 do+72 :i* has won a fame ov] m space & among bett] m5 ?an ,noah's grape has ev] done2 :i* doctors /ill dispute ab\t1 & boys get sick ov]2 b :i* is ! solace ( ! we>y labor]2 ! support ( ! ill-f$2 ! refre%] ( ov]wr\ght bra9s2 ! soo!r ( angry fancies2 ! boa/ ( ! exquisite2 ! excuse ( ! idle2 ! companion ( ! philosoph]2 & ! t5? muse ( ! poet4 ,i w g nei!r into ! ! m$ical nor ! moral que/ions ab\t ! dreamy calm+ cl\d4 ,i w cont5t myself s f> ) say+ :at may be said = ev]y?+ t c bless & curse mank9d1 t 9 mod]ation x is at lea/ h>mless2 b :at is mod]ate & :at is n1 mu/ be det]m9$ 9 ea* individual case1 accord+ to ! habits & con/itution ( ! subjects4 ,if x cures a/hma1 x may de/roy dige/ion2 if x soo!s ! n]ves1 x may1 9 excess1 produce a *ronic irritability4 ,b ,i w reg>d x 9 a social po9t ( view1 &1 fir/ z a n>cotic1 notice its effects on ! individual "*4 ,i believe !n1 t 9 mod]ation x dim9i%es ! viol5ce ( ! passions1 & p>ticul>ly t ( ! temp]4 ,int]e/$ 9 ! subject1 ,i h tak5 c>e to seek in/ances ( memb]s ( ! same family hav+ ! same viol5t temp] by inh]itance1 ( :om ! "o has be5 calm$ d[n by smok+1 & ! o!r gone on 9 8 passionate c\rse4 ,i believe t x induces a habit ( calm reflectiv5ess1 :i* causes u to take less prejudic$1 p]haps less zeal\s views ( life1 & to be !re=e less irritable 9 our conv]se ) our fell[-creatures4 ,i am incl9$ to ?9k t ! cl]gy1 ! squire>*y & ! peasantry1 are ! mo/ prejudic$ & mo/ viol5t classes 9 ?is c\ntry 7,engl&72 !re may be o!r reasons = ?is1 b x is notewor?y t ^! are ! classes :i* smoke lea/4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ,i confess t x induces a c]ta9 lassitude1 & a l\ng+1 easy mode ( life1 :i* is fatal bo? to ! precision ( mann]s & ! vivacity ( conv]sation4 ,! m9d ( a smok] is contemplative r ?an active1 & if ! we$ cures our irritability1 x kills our wit4 ,i believe t x is a fallacy to suppose t x enc\rages dr9k+4 ,!re is m dr9k+ & less smok+ 9 ,engl& ?an 9 any o!r c\ntry ( ! ! civiliz$ _w4 ,!re 0 m dr9k+ among ! g5try ( la/ c5tury1 :o nev] smok$ at all4 ,smoke & w9e d n g well toge!r4 ,c(fee & be] are its be/ accompanim5ts2 & ! "o _c intoxicate1 ! o!r mu/ be l>gely imbib$ to d s4 ,i h obs]v$ among "y ba*elors t v little w9e is drunk 9 _! *amb]s1 & t be] is gradually tak+ its place4 ,! cig>1 too1 is an excuse = ris+ f ! d9n]-table1 :]e !re are no ladies to g to4 ,9 ano!r po9t ( view1 ,i am incl9$ to ?9k t smok+ has conduc$ to make ! society ( m51 :5 alone1 less riot\s1 less qu>relsome & ev5 less vici\s ?an x 04 ,:]e "y m5 n[ bl[ a common cl\d1 !y 7 =m]ly driv5 to a fe>ful consumption ( w9e2 & ?is 9 _! heads1 !y 7 ready & r\s$ to any iniquity4 ,b ! pipe is ! ba*elors wife4 ,) x1 he c endure solitude long]1 & is n =c$ into l[ society 9 ord] to %un x4 ,) x1 too1 ! idle c pass _m an h\r1 :i* o!rwise he w\ld h giv51 n to "w1 b to extravagant follies4 ,) x1 he is no long] re/less1 & impati5t = excitem5t ( any k9d4 ,we nev] he> n[ ( "y blades issu+ 9 b&s f _! w9e to beat ! wat* or di/urb ! slumb]+ citiz5s1 z we did ?irty or =ty ye>s ago1 :5 smok+ 0 /ill a r>ity2 !y are all puff+ h>mlessly 9 _! *amb]s n[4 ,b1 on ! o!r h&1 ,i =esee ) dread a too t5d] allegiance to ! pipe1 to ! de/ruction ( good society1 & ! ab&onm5t ( ! ladies4 ,no wond] !y hate x1 de> creatures6 ! pipe is ! wor/ rival a woman c h1 & x is "o ^: eyes %e _c scrat* out2 :o improves ) age1 :ile %e h]self decl9es2 :o has an art :i* no woman possesses1 t ( nev] we>y+ h] devotee2 :o is sil5t1 yet a companion2 co/s little1 yet gives mu* pleasure2 :o1 la/ly1 nev] upbraids1 & always yields ! same joy4 ,ah6 ?is is a p[]ful rival to wife or maid2 & no wond] t at la/ ! woman succumbs1 cons5ts1 &1 r ?an lose h] "l or ma/]1 ev5 supplies ! hat$ h]b ) h] own fair h&s4 ,!re are rules to limit ?is indulg5ce4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke1 nor ev5 ask to smoke1 9 ! company ( ! fair4 ,if !y "k t 9 a few m9utes y w be runn+ (f to y\r cig>1 ! fair w d well--say x is 9 a g>d51 or s--to all[ y to br+ x out & smoke x !re4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke1 aga91 9 ! /reets--t is1 9 daylight4 ,! deadly crime may be committ$1 l burgl>y1 aft] d>k1 b n be=e4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke 9 a room inhabit$ at times by ! ladies2 ?us1 a well-br$ man1 :o has a wife or si/]1 w n (f] to smoke 9 ! d9+-room aft] d9n]4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke 9 a public place1 :]e ladies are or might be2 = in/ance1 a fl[]-%[ or prom5ade4 ,"o may smoke 9 a railway-c>riage1 9 spite ( by-laws1 if "o has fir/ obta9$ ! cons5t ( e "o pres5t2 b if !re be a lady !re1 ?\gh %e give h] cons5t1 smoke n4 ,9 n9e cases out ( t51 %e w give x f good nature499 99,9 ,am]ica1 c>s are especially provid$ = smok]s1 & no g5tleman w violate etiquette by smok+ 9 any o!r4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke 9 a close c>riage2 "o may ask & obta9 leave to smoke1 :5 return+ f a pic-nic or exp$ition1 9 an op5 c>riage4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke 9 a !atre1 on a race-c\rse1 nor 9 *ur*4 ,?is la/ is n1 p]haps1 a ne$less caution4 ,9 ! ,belgian *ur*es y see a plac>d ann\nc+3 ,ici on ne ma*e pas du tabac4' ,"o mu/ nev] smoke :5 anybody %[s an objection to x4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke a pipe 9 ! /reets4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke at all 9 ! c(fee-room ( a hotel4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke1 )\t ask+ p]mission1 9 ! pres5ce ( a cl]gyman4 ,b if y smoke1 or if y are 9 ! company ( smok]s1 & are to appe> aft]w>ds 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies1 y mu/ *ange y\r clo!s to smoke 94 ,a ho/ :o invites y to smoke w g5]ally (f] y an old coat = ! purpose4 ,y mu/ also aft] smok+ r9se ! m\? well out1 & if possible bru% ! tee?4 ,y %\ld nev] smoke 9 ano!r p]son's h\se )\t leave1 & y %\ld n ask leave to d s1 if !re are ladies 9 ! h\se4 ,:5 y are go+ to smoke a cig>1 y %\ld (f] "o at ! same "t to anybody pres5t4 ,y %\ld always smoke a cig> giv5 to y :e!r good or bad1 & nev] make any rem>k ^u its quality4 ,at a g5tleman's p>ty x is ! ho/ alone :o may call ^u any ( ! company = a toa/1 a spee* or a song4 ,no matt] h[ mu* o!rs may desire x1 !y may nev] invite ea* o!r4 ,dur+ ! week foll[+ a d9n] p>ty1 x is etiquette = ea* gue/ to call ^u ! ho/ess1 & x is rude to delay ! call m ?an a =tnight4 ,9 conclud+ ?is *apt] we give f a mod]n ,engli% "w ! foll[+ bills ( f>e = d9n]s suit+ ! diff]5t seasons ( ! ye>1 :i* may be useful to "y h\sekeep]s3 ,,m5us ,,( ,,f\r ,,*oice ,,d9n]s1 ,,adapt$ ,,to ,,ea* ,,season ,,( ,,! ,,ye>4 ,,janu>y4--7,,= ,,t5 ,,p]sons47 ,consomme s\p1 ) qu5elles2 ,turbot1 ) ,dut* sauce4 ,,two ,,removes4--,braiz$ fillet ( veal1 l>d$ a la ,*ateaubri&2 ,roa/ turkey1 ) puree ( mu%rooms4 ,,f\r ,,entrees4--,oy/] ,kromeskys1 a la ,russe2 ,pork cutlets1 sauce ,rob]t2 ,p>tridges1 a la ,pr9ce ( ,wales2 ,supreme ( f[ls1 a la ,mac$o9e4 ,,second ,,c\rse4--,p9tail2 ,snipes4 ,,"o ,,remove4--,fondu ( ,p>mesan *eese4 ,,f\r ,,entremets4-,salad1 a la ,ra*el2 ,vol-au-v5t ( pres]v$ gre5gages2 ,plombi]es cream ic$2 ,braiz$ cel]y ) br[n sauce4 ,,april4-7,,= ,,eight ,,p]sons47 ,cray-fi% s\p2 ,spey tr\t1 p>sley sauce4 ,,two ,,removes4--,boil$ f[ls1 oy/] sauce2 ,glaz$ tongue ,a la j>d9i]e4 ,two ,,entrees4--,lamb cutlets1 asp>agus1 peas2 ,b\d9s ( rabbits1 a la ,re9e4 ,,second ,,c\rse4--,lob/] salad2 ,gre5 goose4 ,,f\r ,,entremets4--,orange fritt]s2 ,tapioca pudd+2 ,w9e jelly2 ,potatoes a la ,lyonnaise4 ,,june4--7,,= ,,twelve ,,p]sons47 ,puree ( gre5 peas1 s\p2 ,/ew$ /urgeon1 matelotte sauce2 ,fillets ( mack]el a la maitre d'hotel4 ,,two ,,removes4--,roa/ =e-qu>t] ( lamb2 ,spr+ *ick5s ,a la ,montmor5cy4 ,,f\r ,,entrees4--,fillets ( duckl+s1 ) gre5 peas2 ,mutton cutlets a la ,wyndham2 ,blanquette ( *ick5 ) cucumb]s2 ,timbale ( mac>oni a la ,milanaise4 ,,second ,,c\rse4--,pigeons2 ,lev]et4 ,,two ,,removes4--,flemi% gauff]s2 ,ic$ ,s\ffle4 ,,six ,,entremets4-,fr5* beans1 /ew$2 ,mayonnaise ( *ick52 ,peas a la ,francaise2 ,pea* jelly ) noyau2 ,love's wells glace ) *ocolate2 ,flave ( apricots & rice4 ,,octob]4--7,,= ,,eight ,,p]sons47 ,potage a la ,juli5ne2 ,bak$ haddock1 ,italian sauce4 ,,two ,,removes4--,braiz$ neck ( mutton1 en *]veuil2 ,roa/ pheasant a la ,*ipolata4 ,,two ,,entrees4--,pork cutlets1 tomato sauce2 ,curri$ rabbit & rice4 ,,second ,,c\rse4--,roa/ black-cock2 ,oy/] omelette4 ,,f\r ,,entremets4--,potatoes a la ,du*esse2 ,blanc mange2 ,apple t>tlets2 ,semol9a pudd+4 ,,m5u ,,( ,a ,,fir/ ,,rate ,,*ri/mas ,,d9n]4 ,turtle s\p2 ,turbot a la ,vatel2 ,fillets ( sole a la ,t>t>e4 ,,?ree ,,removes4--,roa/ turkey1 ,p]igueux sauce2 ,braiz$ ham a la j>d9i]e2 ,spic$ r\nd ( beef4 ,,f\r ,,entrees4--,m>r[ patties2 ,salmi ( pheasants a la f9anci]e2 ,sweet breads a la ,sa9t ,cl\d2 ,mutton cutlets a la ,vicomtesse4 ,,second ,,c\rse4--,woodcocks2 ,gr\se2 ,m9ce pies2 ,plum pud d+4 ,,six ,,entremets4--,broccoli ) ,p>mesan *eese2 ,italian creams2 ,cr\te a l',amanas2 ,salad a la ,ra*el2 ,m]+ues a la ,p>isi5ne2 ,pun* jelly4 ,,balls4 ,,! =m ( invitations w be f\nd on page #di4 ,an invitation to a ball %\ld be s5t out f two to ?ree weeks be=e ! ev5+1 & %\ld be answ]$ )9 a day or two ( be+ receiv$4 ,z to ! numb] ( gue/s to be invit$1 no precise rules c be laid d[n4 ,! size ( y\r room does n seem to be any guide4 ,! cu/om is to ask r m ?an twice z _m z y\r rooms w hold2 b "o-?ird m w be en\gh1 z x w all[ ( disappo9tm5ts at ! la/ mom5t1 ev5 if all h accept$ ! invitations4 ,besides1 dur+ ! gaye/ ( ! season1 ! fa%ion ( go+ to sev]al balls 9 "o night necessitates ensur+ ! pres5ce ( a suffici5tly l>ge numb] ( gue/s all ?r\gh ! ev5+4 ,if y really wi% = danc+1 d n exce$ ! la/ limits4 ,if1 h[ev]1 y\r aim is to h ! l>ge/ ball ( ! season1 a cru% & cr[d1 to make a s5sation1 !n invite y\r entire visit+ li/1 & endure ! consequ5ces4 ,a hundr$ gue/s con/itute a ball2 ov] t1 a l>ge ball2 "u t1 m]ely a dance4 ,"o ( ! fir/ requisites ( a ball-room is ?or\gh v5tilation1 especially if !re is a prospect ( a l>ge numb] ( gue/s4 ,"o ( ! mo/ desirable po9ts 9 a ball is to h a beautifully arrang$ room4 ,! floor mu/ be well wax$1 & p]fectly ev51 & x is well to draw a cord across two-?irds ( x1 n admitt+ m ?an c dance inside ! space s cut (f at once4 ,! ,fr5* make _! ball-rooms p]fect fl[]-g>d5s4 ,e com] has its imm5se b\quet2 ! walls are gracefully wrea!d2 b\quets1 baskets1 & exquisitely decorat$ pots ( gr[+ plants are plac$ 9 e available place4 ,! /aircases1 l&+s1 & supp]-room are all fill$ ) floral treasures1 h>moniz+ ) f9e effect ) ! brilliant lights & gay ! dresses ( ! ladies4 ,x adds to ! effect to conceal ! musicians beh9d a scre5 ( ev]gre5 & fl[]s4 ,! dress+-rooms %\ld be provid$ ) two s]vants apiece1 & small c>ds1 ) ! names ( ! invit$ gue/s ^u !m1 %\ld be 9 read9ess to p9 to ! wraps ( ea* "o4 ,9 ea* dress+-room1 h pl5ty ( wat]1 soap1 & t[els ^u ! wa%/&1 sev]al bru%es & combs1 small h&-mirrors1 p9- cu%ions well fill$1 & /ick pomade ^u ! bureau4 ,! ladies' room %\ld also h hair-p9s1 a "w-box 9 read9ess to repair any accid5tal rip or te>2 cologne1 h>t%orn1 & salts1 9 case ( fa9tness4 ,! g5tlem5's room %\ld be provid$ ) a boot-jack1 a :isk1 & a clo!s-bru%4 ,no "o %\ld accept an invitation to a ball :o _c or :o w n dance4 ,!y are m]e encumbrances4 ,no?+ is m try+ to ! feel+s ( a ho/ess ?an to see a numb] ( wallfl[]s ornam5t+ 787 h] ball-room4 ,! h\r at :i* "o may g to a ball v>ies f t5 o'clock 9 ! ev5+ until daybreak4 ,any "o :o att5ds sev]al balls 9 "o ev5+ w1 ( c\rse1 f9d x impossible to appe> at an e>ly h\r at ea* "o4 ,! lady ( ! h\se--:o %\ld1 if possible1 "k ! "n ( ev]ybody :o ent]s ! room--mu/ /& ne> ! door1 s z to receive h] gue/s1 to ea* ( :om %e mu/ f9d some?+ to say1 no matt] h[ trifl+4 ,! ho/ mu/ also be ne>1 to welcome arrivals1 & ! sons to introduce p4 ,! "y ladies mu/ see t ! dances are kept up1 & %\ld n dance !mselves till !y h f\nd p>tn]s = all _! fri5ds4 ,!y may ) p]fect propriety ask any g5tleman pres5t to be introduc$ to a p>tn]1 & he is b\nd to accept ! invitation2 b ! lady mu/ be c>eful :om %e asks4 ,_m pres5t may be entire /rang]s to h]4 ,miss ,a4 has br\ght h] betro!d2 ,miss ,b4 introduces h] c\s91 ,capta9 ---1 on a %ort leave ( abs5ce f 8 regim5t 9 ,texas2 ,miss ,c4 pres5ts h] bro!r1 j return$ f ,cali=nia2 ,miss ,d4 begs leave to introduce a c\s9 on a %ort visit to ! city2 ,miss ,e41 a belle1 has in=m$ a doz5 or two ( h] admir]s :]e !y may b[ to h] on ! ev5+ ( ! ball4 ,all ^! /rang]s b[ to ! ho/ess1 & mu/ be provid$ ) p>tn]s4 ,! ,man 9 ! ,club ,w9d[ says3 ,i h kn[n a case :]e a di/+ui%$-look+ "y man1 hav+ decl9$ ! lady's invitation to dance1 b be+ press$ by1' ,i c't make up ! lanc]s )\t y1' some:at reluctantly accept$1 p]=m$ 8 "p s well t 8 p>tn] 0 q eprise ) him1 & ev5 v5tur$ on a little flirtation4 ,y c imag9e h] dismay :51 a little lat] 9 ! ev5+1 %e saw h] *>m+ acqua9tance c>ry+ up a pile ( plates f ! kit*5 to ! supp]-room4 ,= ! fir/ "t 9 h] life1 %e _h danc$ ) an occasional wait]4 ,if a g5tleman act z escort to a lady1 he mu/ call at h] h\se1 at ! h\r %e appo9ts1 ) a c>riage1 & he is expect$ to s5d a b\quet 9 ! c\rse ( ! aft]noon4 ,^u rea*+ ! h\se ( ! ho/ess = ! ev5+1 he mu/ escort 8 fair *>ge to ! dress+-room1 leave h] at ! door1 make 8 own toilet z rapidly z possibly1 & return to meet ! lady at ! dress+-room door aga91 escort h] to ! ball-room1 & at once to ! ho/ess4 ,%e is oblig$ by etiquette to dance ! fir/ dance ) him2 b aft] t1 he may ) propriety all[ h] lib]ty to select o!r p>tn]s1 always wat*+1 h[ev]1 to see t %e is nev] neglect$4 ,he mu/ be h] escort to supp]1 & ready at any mom5t to leave ! ball-room to escort h] home aga94 ,if a g5tleman is unaccompani$ by a lady1 he mu/ invite "o ( ! ladies ( ! h\se = ! fir/ dance1 & yield gracefully if %e decl9es on ! plea ( want ( room or p>tn]s = all h] gue/s1 cons5t+ smil+ly if %e reque/s him to lead out ! homelie/ & mo/ awkw>d ( h] wall-fl[]s4 ,! music mu/ be fir/ a m>*1 !n a quadrille1 a polka1 a waltz1 a galop1 & s on1 ) two or ?ree r\nd dances to ea* quadrille1 until f\rte5 dances are complet$1 :5 ano!r m>* ann\nces supp]4 ,sev5 to t5 dances may foll[ supp]4 ,ea* gue/ mu/ be provid$ ) a ball-c>d ) a pr9t$ programme ( ! dances1 & space = ! engagem5ts ^u x1 & a t9y p5cil atta*$ to x4 ,_m ladies c>ry _! own engagem5t- c>d2 b !y mu/ dep5d ^u ! programme = ! ord] ( dances4 ,! fa%ion ( hang+ a few pr9t$ programmes 9 ! room is n consid]$ en regle4 ,! supp]-room mu/ be ?r[n op5 at midnight1 & rema9 op5 until ! ball closes4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 an extreme ( bad ta/e & l[ bre$+ = g5tlem5 to clu/] r\nd ! table 9 gr\ps & rema9 !re4 ,x is "o ( ! duties ( ! ho/ess to see t no "y lady loses h] supp] = want ( an escort to ! slipp]-room4 ,if !re are no "y g5tlem5 9 ! family1 %e mu/ reque/ "o ( h] gue/s to g to ! rescue ( ! =lorn maid54 ,no g5tleman mu/ wait until ! music has comm5c$ be=e select+ 8 p>tn]4 ,a lady :o decl9es danc+ on ! pretext ( fatigue mu/ dance no m1 unless %e has said %e wi%$ to re/ = t dance alone4 ,if a lady decl9e danc+ ) a g5tlem51 x is rude = him to turn f h] to ano!r lady :o has he>d ! refusal1 & invite h] to dance4 ,if ! fir/ lady has a prior engagem5t1 he mu/ seek ano!r p>tn] 9 ano!r "p ( ! room2 if %e refuses f fatigue or a dis9cl9ation to dance t set1 x is a complim5t to h] = him to rema9 beside h]1 & endeavor to ent]ta9 h] :ile ! dance is 9 progress4 ,a lady %\ld nev] give h] b\quet1 gloves1 & fan to a g5tleman to hold dur+ a dance1 unless he is h] husb&1 bro!r1 or escort = ! ev5+4 ,a g5tleman1 9 waltz+ ) a "y lady1 mu/ nev] encircle h] wai/ until ! dance actually comm5ces1 & drop 8 arm f ar\nd h] z soon z ! music ceases4 ,am]ican g5tlem5 w\ld d well to /udy ! waltz ) a ,g]man tea*]1 z !y und]/& m p]fectly ?an any o!rs ! mo/ delicate way ( danc+ ?is objectionable dance1 &1 above all1 h[ to hold a lady lightly & firmly )\t embrac+ h]4 ,:5 a lady expresses a desire to sit d[n be=e ! close ( a dance1 x is exce$+ly rude = a g5tlem5 to insi/ ^u a cont9uation ( ! dance4 ,he mu/ escort h] to a seat at once1 & !n express 8 regret at ! int]rupt$ pleasure4 ,%e may ) propriety release him to seek ano!r p>tn]1 b x is a poor complim5t = him to accept ! proposal4 ,a g5tleman %\ld nev] invite a lady to be 8 p>tn] 9 a dance ) :i* he is n p]fectly famili>4 ,x is tiresome 9 ! extreme to guide a p>tn] ?r\gh a dance1 & ! ballroom is n a danc+-s*ool = practice4 ,if a g5tleman takes a lady's seat dur+ a dance1 he mu/ rise f x z soon z ! dance is ov]1 n wait+ = h] to actually return to x1 z %e may hesitate to d if %e sees t x is occupi$4 ,no lady mu/ ent] or cross a ball-room unescort$4 ,no lady may refuse to be introduc$ to a g5tleman at a private ball2 b at a public ball %e may ) p]fect propriety refuse any introduction made by ! ma/] ( c]emonies1 or by m]e acqua9tances4 ,confid5tial conv]sation 9 a ball-room is 9 extreme bad ta/e4 ,d n be too p>ticul> ab\t danc+4 ,tak+ /eps 9 a quadrille is out ( date1 all ! figures be+ execut$ to a graceful walk4 ,to rema9 too late at a ball is n well-br$1 & seems to imply t y are unaccu/om$ to su* pleasures4 ,d n engage y\rself1 !re=e1 = ! la/ two or ?ree dances4 ,no g5tleman %\ld take ! vacant seat next to a lady unless he is acqua9t$ ) h]1 & n !n )\t fir/ ask+ p]mission4 ,a g5tleman mu/ (f] 8 arm1 nev] 8 h&1 to lead a lady to & f ! dance4 ,a lady mu/ be v c>eful n to engage h]self to two g5tlem5 = ! same dance1 unless1 = a r\nd dance1 %e /ates3 ,i am engag$ = ! fir/ half ( ! waltz1 b w dance ! second "p ) y4 ,9 t case1 %e mu/ tell h] fir/ p>tn] ( h] second engagem5t1 t %e may n (f5d him :5 %e takes ano!r p>tn] aft] leav+ him4 ,if a lady wi%es to decl9e danc+1 :e!r f dislike to ! g5tleman :o invites h]1 or f :atev] cause1 %e mu/ make "s excuse2 b %e mu/ nev] refuse po9t blank1 nor mu/ %e1 aft] hav+ refus$ to dance ) "o g5tleman1 cons5t to dance ) ano!r4 ,:5 introduc$1 x is suffici5t = a g5tleman to say to a lady1 ,may ,i h ! pleasure ( danc+ ?is waltz ) y1 ,miss ,c---8 or if ! lady be engag$ = ! fir/ dance foll[+ ! introduction1 he may reque/ ! favor ( putt+ 8 "n ^u h] engagem5t c>d = ano!r4 ,a "y lady %\ld n dance m ?an twice ) ! same g5tleman1 unless %e wants to be notic$1 or is indiff]5t :e!r %e be s or n4 ,a lady may consult h] own pleasure ab\t recogniz+ a ballroom acqua9tance at a future meet+4 ,e g5tleman mu/ make a po9t ( invit+ ! ladies ( ! h\se to dance2 & if he be k9d1 he w c]ta9ly devote himself--= a portion ( ! ev5+1 at lea/--to ^? ladies = :om ! ,may ( life has bloom$ & pass$ away1 & :o g5]ally sit r\nd ! room look+ wi/fully disconsolate4 ,aft] e dance foll[+ ! ann\ncem5t ( supp]1 (f] y\r p>tn] y\r arm1 & invite h] to ! supp]-room 7at a ball1 refre%m5ts are nev] h&$ r\nd74 ,%\ld %e decl9e go+1 or has already be5 !re1 take h] back to h] *ap]on1 or p>ty1 &1 procur+ a seat = h]1 ?ank h] = ! pleasure ! dance has af=d$ y4 ,no lady %\ld deta9 h] p>tn] long 9 ! supp]-room2 %e may be ?us =c+ him to be guilty ( ! rud5ess ( break+ an engagem5t ) ano!r lady = ! foll[+ dance4 ,no g5tleman %\ld l+] r\nd ! supp]-table4 ,y\r ho/ess invites y to a ball to dance1 & be agreeable1 n to haunt h] supp]-room1 z if y 7 />v+4 ,avoid all abs5ce ( m9d1 />+1 li/lessness1 & o!r ecc5tricities4 ,nev] sw+ y\r arms ab\t1 & try to avoid be+ conspicu\s 9 any way4 ,take ! p>tn] ) :om y may happ5 to be danc+ :5 supp] is ann\nc$ to ! supp]-table1 unless %e has come ) a g5tleman1 9 :i* case y mu/ n usurp 8 privilege4 ,if %e is dis5gag$1 escort h] to a seat 9 ! supp]-room1 if possible1 & see t %e is s]v$ ) ! di%es %e selects4 ,d n take y\r own supp] at ! same "t2 wait till ! lady has f9i%$2 !n take h] back to ! ball-room1 & repeat ! process1 if necess>y1 ) "s o!r lonely damsel4 ,:5 all ! ladies h be5 once to ! supp]-room1 ! g5tlem5 may ?9k ( _! own supp]4 ,gloves ( :ite kid mu/ be worn dur+ ! entire ev5+1 & x is well to h a fre% pair 9 read9ess to put on aft] supp]4 ,on quitt+ a ball1 x is n necess>y to take a =mal leave ( ! ho/ess4 ,inde$1 x is pref]able to make y\r dep>ture z quietly z possible1 9 ord] to prev5t ! o!rs f ?9k+ x lat] ?an p]haps x is1 & s break+ up ! ball at an e>li] h\r ?an ! ho/ess may desire4 ,if a g5tleman escorts a lady home f a ball1 %e is n oblig$ to invite him to ent]1 & if %e does s1 he mu/ decl9e ! invitation4 ,he mu/1 h[ev]1 reque/ p]mission to call ! foll[+ day or ev5+1 & he mu/ make t call4 ,a g5tleman 9 a ball-room _c be too c>eful n to injure ! delicate fabric worn by ! ladies ar\nd him4 ,spurs are 9 bad ta/e1 ev5 if a cavalry (fic] is o!rwise 9 full uni=m4 ,:ile "o dance is 9 progress1 x is n 9 good ta/e to make arrangem5ts = ano!r4 ,x is a gross brea* ( etiquette on ! "p ( ei!r a lady or a g5tleman to =get a ball-room engagem5t4 ,x is n accord+1 to etiquette = m>ri$ p to dance toge!r at ei!r a private or a public ball4 ,,morn+ ,,& ,,ev5+ ,,p>ties4 ,,p>ties 9 ! city comprise conv]saziones1 private conc]ts1 private !atricals1 soirees1 dramatic read+s1 tea-p>ties1 mat9ees--fact1 almo/ any 9-door ga!r+ toge!r ( p1 exclusive ( balls & d9n] companies4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 small danc+-p>ties1 tea-p>ties1 & conv]saziones are also compris$ "u ! head ( p>ties2 b ! outdoor occasions are ( mu* great] numb] & v>iety3 croquet p>ties1 sail+ p>ties1 boat+ p>ties1 pic-nics1 private fetes1 b]ry+ p>ties1 nutt+ p>ties1 ,may fe/ivals1 ,f\r? ( ,july fe/ivals --9 fact1 any?+ t w give an excuse = a day sp5t 9 out-door frolick+4 ,= a conv]sazione1 "u :i* head are includ$ ,receptions & ,at ,homes1 invitations %\ld be s5t out a week be=eh&4 ,conv]sation is1 z ! "n implies1 ! pr9cipal occupation = ! "t1 & :]e lit]>y p are ga!r$ toge!r1 or ^? engross$ 9 sci5tific matt]s1 ! sole "o4 ,= p>ties ( "y p1 h[ev]1 ! conv]sazione admits ( music & impromptu dances4 ,= all small ev5+ p>ties1 ! ho/ & ho/ess rema9 ne> ! door dur+ ! e>ly "p ( ! ev5+1 to receive _! gue/s4 ,late com]s1 h[ev]1 mu/ n expect to f9d !m /ill nail$ to ?is "o spot1 z1 aft] ! majority ( ! gue/s are assembl$1 _! duty is to circulate r\nd ! room & ent]ta9 !m4 ,!y %\ld1 h[ev]1 be quick to obs]ve any late arrivals1 & advance to welcome !m z soon z possible4 ,z ! gue/s ent] ! room1 ! ho/ess %\ld advance a /ep or two t[>ds !m1 speak+ a few words ( cordial welcome1 to ! eld] ladies fir/1 !n to ! y\ng] ones1 & f9ally to ! g5tlem54 ,if ! new com]s are /rang]s to ! re/ ( ! gue/s1 %e mu/ introduce !m at once to ^? pres5t2 if1 h[ev]1 !re are mutual fri5ds pres5t1 x is _! duty to leave ! ho/ess aft] a few m9utes1 t %e may be free to receive h] o!r fri5ds4 ,! ho/ess mu/ rema9 con/antly among/ h] gue/s4 ,= h] to fidget 9 & out con/antly1 z if cook+ ! supp]1 or tra9+ ! wait]s1 is a m>k ( l[ bre$+4 ,! mo/ p]fectly well-br$ ho/ess is ! "o :o seems to h no ?\ght beyond ! circle ( h] gue/s4 ,z _m rooms z possible %\ld be ?r[n op5 & suppli$ ) objects ( int]e/ 9 ! arts & sci5ces4 ,p ( "s public note1 :e!r = travel1 art1 le>n+1 sci5ce1 or any atta9m5t1 are (t5 plac$ ^u exhibition at ! conv]sazione4 ,if su* a lion is invit$1 x is well to h o!rs1 ev5 if ( less] magnitude1 to prev5t too mu* att5tion be+ conc5trat$ ^u "o gue/4 ,if a ho/ess sees t a tete-a-tete conv]sation is becom+ dull1 %e mu/ make x a trio by ! introduction ( "s sprightly ?ird1 or *ange ! duet by sub/itut+ ano!r p>tn] & c>ry+ (f "o to introduce else:]e4 ,if1 h[ev]1 any conv]sation seems to be animat$ & giv+ pleasure1 nei!r ( ! p>ties s engag$ w ?ank ! ho/ess = int]ruption4 ,if danc+ is introduc$1 ! etiquette ( ! ball-room is also ! etiquette = ! ev5+ p>ty4 ,x is be/ = ! ho/ess to provide a piani/1 if %e does n h]self preside at ! piano1 z x is excessively ill-br$ to expect "p ( ! gue/s to play = ! rema9d] to dance4 ,_m good-natur$ p f9d !mselves ?us victimiz$--invit$ because !y are always s will+ to play = danc+4 ,x is a good plan 9 a danc+ p>ty to h ices alone h&$ r\nd once or ev5 twice dur+ ! ev5+1 & a hot supp] lat]1 if at all4 ,ices1 lemonade1 cake1 confection]y1 & fruits are1 h[ev]1 q suffici5t refre%m5t = small p>ties4 ,if ! ev5+ ( a p>ty is /ormy1 ! ho/ess %\ld h a wait] at ! door1 ) a l>ge umbrella1 to escort ! gue/s f ! c>riages to ! h\se1 or1 bett] /ill1 h an awn+ /ret*$ across ! sidewalk4 ,if a p>ty is mix$-conv]sation1 music1 & danc+1 all =m+ a portion ( ! ev5+'s ent]ta9m5t-x is ! "p ( ! ho/ess to invite gue/s to s+ & play1 & %e mu/ be c>eful n to ov]look any amateurs 9 h] invitations4 ,if a gue/ decl9es1 x is 9 bad ta/e to urge ! p]=mance4 ,if ! lady ( ! h\se is h]self a good p]=m]1 %e mu/ play or s+ b once1 & !n aft] all o!rs h be5 fir/ invit$4 ,a gue/ %\ld only be invit$ to play once1 unless at a g5]ally express$ desire ( ! rema9d] ( ! company4 ,x is be/ = amateur p]=m]s to le>n a few pieces ( music )\t dep5d+ ^u _! notes1 z1 if !y s5d or c>ry notes1 x is a h9t t !y expect to be invit$ to play2 if !y d n1 !y are oblig$ to decl9e :5 invit$4 ,x is excessively rude to conv]se l\dly :5 any "o is play+ or s++4 ,if y\r companion does n cease talk+1 to li/51 conv]se 9 a v l[ tone1 & )draw f ! imm$iate vic9ity ( ! p]=m]4 ,on ! o!r h&1 if y are invit$ to play1 d n wait = quiet 9 ! room1 nor exhibit any annoyance if y\r mo/ exquisite passages are dr[n$ 9 ! buzz ( conv]sation4 ,a g5tleman :o is a good piani/ may1 ) p]fect propriety1 (f] 8 s]vices to ! ho/ess z or*e/ra = impromptu danc+1 or may (f] to relieve any lady s engag$1 to all[ h] to dance4 ,if1 h[ev]1 !re are m ladies ?an g5tlem51 & he is ne$$ to fill up a set1 he mu/ n insi/ ^u play+1 b g :]e he is mo/ ne$$4 ,nev] (f] to turn ! leaves = any "o play+ unless y c read music rapidly2 o!rwise y may confuse ! p]=m] by turn+ too soon or too late4 ,nev] (f] to s+ a second unless invit$ by ! lady :o is to s+ also4 ,! ho/ess may wi% h] fri5ds to he> a duet1 :i* w be disagreeable to ! p]=m]s4 ,memb]s ( ! same family1 c\s9s or o!r relatives1 %\ld n keep toge!r 9 g5]al society4 ,!y c see ea* o!r on o!r occasions1 & ! object ( p>ties is to promote sociality1 n exclusiv5ess4 ,if y are ask$ to play an accompanim5t1 d n seek to display y\r own tal5t1 b play s z to af=d ! be/ support possible = ! voice s++4 ,! same rule applies to a second 9 any in/rum5tal duet1 :i* is nev] int5d$ to dr[n ! s\nd ( ! lead+ in/rum5t4 ,:5 ! lady ( ! h\se invites any lady gue/ to s+ or play1 ! g5tleman /&+ ne>e/ to h] %\ld (f] 8 arm to escort h] to ! piano or h>p4 ,he %\ld /& ne> h] dur+ ! p]=mance ( ! music1 &1 if compet5t1 turn ! leaves ( h] music4 ,%e may also reque/ him to hold h] gloves1 b\quet & fan4 ,:5 %e rises1 he %\ld conduct h] to a seat1 & ?ank h] = ! pleasure %e has giv5 him & o!rs4 ,x is ill-br$ to comm5t ^u ! piano1 ev5 if %ock+ly out ( tune or worn out4 ,to look at a six-octave piano & decl9e play+ because all y\r music is writt5 = sev5 octaves1 is positively insult+ to a ho/ess4 ,if x is true1 decl9e ^u "s o!r pretext4 ,private conc]ts & !atricals ought to be v good to be successful4 ,pr(essional s+]s %\ld be secur$ = ! =m]1 & if amateurs s+1 !y mu/ be v confid5t ( _! own p[]s be=e mak+ ! attempt to appe> be=e an audi5ce1 ev5 ( p]sonal fri5ds4 ,betwe5 ! p>ts1 conv]sation may fl[1 b is rude 9 ! extreme dur+ ! p]=mances4 ,! be/ h\rs are f two to six or f eight to elev5 ,p4,m4 ,! rooms %\ld be arrang$ s z to all[ a cle> space at "o end = ! p]=m]s2 ! gue/s %\ld be seat$1 & a g5]al sil5ce prevail except+ dur+ ! int]vals ( ! p]=mance4 ,if ! conc]t is divid$ into two p>ts1 x is q p]missible to rise dur+ ! int]mission1 prom5ade if agreeable1 meet fri5ds1 & *ange seats1 be+ c>eful to be seat$ aga9 :5 ! p]=mance re-comm5ces4 ,= private !atricals1 only ! be/ amateurs %\ld be reta9$4 ,x is v rude to talk dur+ ! acts1 & :ile applause %\ld n be too boi/]\s1 disapproval by hiss+ or o!rwise is a ?+ unhe>d (4 ,ices & light refre%m5ts %\ld be h&$ r\nd betwe5 ! acts4 ,:]e !re is no arrangem5t = a private !atre1 & :]e ! curta9 is hung1 z is mo/ common1 betwe5 ! fold+-doors1 ! audi5ce-room mu/ be fill$ ) *airs or b5*es 9 r[s1 &1 if possible1 ! back r[s rais$ high] ?an ! o!rs4 ,^! are (t5 remov$ at ! close ( ! p]=mance1 & ! gue/s !n conv]se or dance4 ,to beat "t or hum ! air at a conc]t is 9 extremely bad ta/e4 ,x is ! "p ( ! ho/ess at a private conc]t & private !atricals--:i* latt] include *>ades1 tableaux1 prov]bs1 & dramatic read+s--to arrange ! programmes & apportion ! p>ts1 unless %e appo9ts a /age-manag] among/ h] gue/s4 ,! p]=m]s %\ld seek to aid h] by p]fect good-nature 9 accept+ h] arrangem5ts1 & by will+ness to accept any allott$ "p1 ev5 if di/a/eful or obscure4 ,all _c be fir/1 & ! p]=m] :o good-natur$ly accepts a small "p1 & p]=ms x well1 w probably be invit$ to a m conspicu\s position on ! next occasion4 ,! ho/ess or ho/ mu/ nev] take conspicu\s p>ts1 unless !y are solicit$ to d s by all ! re/ ( ! corps dramatique4 ,no?+ b ! mo/ absolute necessity1 or an excuse f "s v grave cause1 %\ld prev5t ! att5dance ( any "o :o has und]tak5 a "p4 ,x is a positive insult to ! re/ ( ! p>ty to inconv5i5ce !m by rema9+ away ^u "s trivial excuse1 = ! smalle/ "p mu/ be fill$ by somebody1 & x is n easy to furni% sub/itutes ^u su* occasions4 ,! ho/ess %\ld consult ea* p]=m] be=e allott+ to !m a "p1 & endeavor to suit ea* "o4 ,private conc]ts & private !atricals %\ld be foll[$ by a supp]1 z !y are fatigu+ = ! p]=m]s1 & (t5times z mu* s to ! audi5ce4 ,if a p>ty are invit$ to an in=mal dramatic read+1 x is n necess>y to divide ! room1 except+ by a l>ge table1 ^u :i* ! books are plac$4 ,! ho/ or ho/ess1 :ile endeavor+ to give to ea* gue/ ! mo/ favorable opportunity to display _! own p[]s1 %\ld /ill1 if !y are good read]s1 be ready to oblige _! gue/s by read+ also1 c>efully avoid+ any attempt to out%9e !m4 ,mat9ees are usually held 9 ! op5 air1 9 "s good gr\nd1 9 :i* a brass b& %\ld be play+1 & pl5ty ( good fl[]s display$1 embelli%$ by ! be/ dress$ p x is possible to assemble toge!r4 ,!re are n any introductions2 p amuse !mselves z be/ !y c4 ,lun*eon may be spread 9- doors1 or ^u tables "u ! trees1 or if t5ts are erect$1 inside ( ^!4 ,fruits1 ices1 salads1 cold meats1 confection]y- 9 %ort1 any cold collation1 ) w9e1 tea1 & c(fee1 %\ld be s]v$4 ,full morn+ dress is mo/ appropriate4 ,croquet p>ties are v fa%ionable1 & meet g5]ally at ab\t ?ree ,p4,m4 ,! ho/ %\ld be c>eful to h 8 gr\nds well %ad$1 8 mallets1 balls1 & o!r arrangem5ts 9 p]fect ord]4 ,seats = su* gue/s z are n play+ %\ld be scatt]$ ab\t 9 %ady places4 ,refre%m5ts may be h&$ r\nd betwe5 ! games1 or arrang$ z = mat9ees4 ,)9 ! pa/ few ye>s1 a species ( ent]ta9m5t ( a pa/ g5]ation has be5 reviv$ 9 ,engl&1 & "s attempts h be5 made to introduce x 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,x 01 & is1 call$ ! ,kettl$rum4 ,tea & c(fee1 ) biscuit & cake1 are s]v$ r\nd f five to half-pa/ five4 ,any "o 9 ! visit+ circle ( ! h\se may g )\t an invitation2 ! dress is full morn+ dress1 & ! gue/s dance until sev5 o'clock4 ,f !m gue/s (t5 g to d9n] p>ties1 & !nce to balls1 s t a man may be consid]$ to be 9 h>ness to society f five ,p4,m4 to #d ,a4,m41 & to be r h>dly driv51 too4 ,c]emony is laid aside ^u ^! occasions1 & p act ) great] fre$om ?an at m =mal ga!r+s4 ,9 c\ntry p>ties1 c]emony is (t5 requir$1 ev5 ^u occasions :]e m fre$om ( action w\ld be desirable4 ,inatt5tion to ?is matt] may give (f5ce1 z ! ho/ess may fancy h]self slight$ m]ely because %e is n city-br$4 ,avoid 9 c\ntry p>ties tread+ ^u delicate gr\nd1 talk+ ( local squabbles1 *ur* matt]s1 or ! ackn[l$g$ feud ( ! village4 ,be punctual to ! "t /at$ = any k9d ( a c\ntry p>ty1 z "o late arrival may delay ! c>riages1 boats1 or o!r conveyances ( an entire p>ty4 ,_m ( ^! exp$itions />t at a v e>ly h\r1 to avoid ! road dur+ ! heat ( ! day1 & if y accept ! invitation1 y mu/ rel9qui% y\r morn+ nap & appe> at ! appo9t$ "t4 ,seek out ! ho/ess ^u y\r arrival1 & if y c 9 any way assi/ h]1 ei!r by runn+ = t>dy s]vants1 pack+ lun*eon hamp]s1 arrang+ ! ord] ( vehicles1 or any o!r la/ duties1 d s ) alacrity4 ,private fetes 9 ! c\ntry correspond to mat9ees 9 t[n1 & ! same rules apply4 ,at pic-nics1 :e!r wat] or l& p>ties1 etiquette is set at naught2 yet ! true g5tleman & lady w nev] leave true c\rtesy & polit5ess at home1 ev5 if !y lay aside =ms & c]emonies4 ,ev]ybody is to enjoy ! "t & fre$om z mu* z possible1 )9 ! limits ( becom+ mir?2 yet an act ( rud5ess1 a disreg>d ( ! g5tle & delicate att5tions ( society1 w nev] increase ! pleasure4 ,g5tlem5 at pic-nics mu/ cons5t to become wait]s1 guides1 s]vants to ! ladies2 mu/ scale m\nta9s1 climb trees1 p]=m any feats desir$ by ! fair tyrants1 if !y fancy t lovely fl[]1 or exquisite bun* ( sea-we$1 9 impossible- to-get-at places4 ,if on a fi%+ p>ty1 x is ! g5tlem5's place to bait ! hooks = ! fair angl]s1 to assi/ !m 9 l&+ _! prey1 to f9d !m %ady nooks = seats1 & 9 e way to assi/ !m4 ,if nutt+ or b]ry+ are ! objects ( ! p>ty1 ! g5tlem5 mu/ climb ! nut-trees1 seek out ! b]ry-bu%es1 c>ry d\ble all[ances ( baskets & kettles1 & be ready = any assi/ance requir$ 9 climb+ f5ces or scrambl+ ov] rocks4 ,by ! way1 ! etiquette = climb+ a f5ce is = ! g5tleman to g ov] z gracefully z possible1 turn 8 back ^u ! lady1 & n look r\nd until %e claims 8 h& to spr+ f ! topmo/ b>4 ,%e w n ?ank him if he insi/s ^u %ov+ h] ov] fir/1 or wat*es h] :ile %e climbs up4 ,boi/]\s deportm5t is n 9 good ta/e4 ,ev5 ! mo/ romp+ games may be conduct$ z becomes ladies & g5tlem51 n z cl[ns4 ,c\ples %\ld avoid /ray+ too long or too f> f _! companions4 ,ev5 if ! lun*eon or d9n] is spread on ! grass1 or eat5 out ( a basket1 g5tlem5 w see to ! com=t ( ! ladies be=e eat+ !mselves1 &1 ne$ ,i say1 ! fre$om f ! re/ra9ts ( ! table af=ds no excuse = gluttony or rud5ess ( any description4 ,on return+ f a pic-nic1 ! ?anks ( ! p>ty are due to ! orig9ators ( x1 & %\ld be paid by ea* "o be=e ! company disp]ses4 ,s++ a comic song is a dang]\s exp]im5t1 z y may be p]sonal )\t int5d+ x4 ,an ,engli% lady ( rank1 speak+ ( an ev5+ p>ty1 says3 ,at an ev5+ p>ty1 giv5 expressly 9 honor ( a di/+ui%$ lady ( color1 we he>d a ?\ghtless amateur da% into ! broadly comic1 b t]ribly inappropriate' nigg]' song (' ',sally1 ,come ,up4' ,be=e he _h got ?r\gh ! fir/ v]se1 he _h p]ceiv$ 8 mi/ake1 & 0 s ov]:elm$ ) %ame t he c\ld sc>cely pres]ve suffici5t pres5ce ( m9d to c>ry him ?r\gh to ! end4 ,a mod]n writ] ( tal5t says3 ,y\r pleasure at any p>ty w dep5d f> m ^u :at y take ) y into ! room ?an ^u :at y f9d !re4 ,ambition1 vanity1 pride1 w all g ) anxiety1 & y w probably c>ry !m all home aga91 ) ! additional burd5 ( disappo9tm5t4 ,ev5 if !y are all gratifi$1 y w "k t o!rs are dislik+ y1 ev5 if envi\s ( y4 ,to g ) a s9c]e desire to please o!rs by amiability1 good-nature & sympa?y w probably result 9 y\r own popul>ity1 & if y entirely =get y\rself1 y w be a/oni%$ to f9d h[ mu* o!rs insi/ ^u rememb]+ y4 ,if at any morn+ or ev5+ p>ty y meet a di/+ui%$ gue/1 x is ill-br$ to foll[ him f "o place to ano!r1 li/5+ to e ^w he utt]s1 & mak+ him h ! uncom=table s5sation ( be+ />$ at4 ,impromptu *>ades are a v popul> amusem5t at ! pres5t day1 at bo? 9-door & out-door p>ties4 ,if y h no tal5t = !m1 y w only confuse o!rs & make y\rself appe> absurd by insi/+ ^u tak+ a "p2 b ev5 if y are dull1 d n refuse y\r assi/ance if x is really requir$1 try+1 by tact & mode/y1 to cov] up any defici5cy 9 wit or tal5t4 ,! be/ rule = ! managem5t ( p>ties1 be !y 9-door or out-door1 morn+ or ev5+1 city or c\ntry1 is to endeavor to f9d out ! wi%es ( ! majority ( ! gue/s & act ^u t k4 ,to =ce a l>ge p>ty ( p to li/5 to awkw>d1 bungl+ *>ades1 because two or ?ree amateur actors desire to %[ (f1 proves a want ( tact 9 ! ho/ess2 to all[ a few "y p to guide ! ent]ta9m5ts 9 a l>ge assembly ( old] & grav] ones1 is 9 equally bad ta/e2 x is1 ( c\rse1 bett] to assemble toge!r z f> z possible only ^? :o are likely to be cong5ial & int]e/$ 9 ! same subjects2 b ?is is n always possible1 & :]e ! company is mix$1 ! republican _s %\ld preside1 & ! majority rule4 ,"o ^w ( w>n+ to all :o give p>ties4 ,y c nev] tell :at ru9 may be comm5c+ :5 y urge w9es or intoxicat+ bev]ages ^u y\r "y gue/s4 ,y may be ! fir/ to /imulate ! appetite2 y may r5ew a passion t has be5 subdu$2 y may turn a wav]+ w f ! h>dly ga9$ resolution to ab/a94 ,!re are in/ances1 n a few1 b _m1 :]e ! love ( liquor1 conqu]$ & subdu$1 has be5 reviv$ 9 fi]ce/ heat by cordials1 br&i$ pea*es1 w9e-sauces1 & simil> app>5tly innoc5t refre%m5ts4 ,x is bett] to appe> mean ?an to tempt to ru91 & 9 ^! days ( temp]ance movem5ts1 no lady w be c5sur$ or misund]/ood :o bani%es e drop ( intoxicat+ liquor f h] table4 ,,visit+4 ,,nev] pay any visit ^u a g5]al invitation4 ,! ,spani% hidalgo1 :o decl>es to y t 8 h\se1 l&s1 all t he has1 are y\rs1 w\ld be greatly surpris$ if y appropriat$ any ( 8 ?+s4 ,x is ! same ?+1 m or less1 ) p else:]e :o give p g5]al invitations to take up _! qu>t]s 9 _! h\ses4 ,!re are in/ances ( visits ( a mon?'s duration be+ made ^u ! invitation1 ,if y visit ,b---1 ,i hope t y w n =get t ,i reside !re1 & w be v happy to see y4 ,yet1 ev5 :]e fri5ds are n newly made1 b ( long /&+1 x is be/ n to pay visits unless by special invitation4 ,a ?\s& ev5ts may occur to r5d] x inconv5i5t = "o fri5d to h company t _c be kn[n to ano!r1 hundr$s ( miles1 p]haps1 away4 ,if a fri5d really desires to ext5d hospitality to ano!r1 %e w s5d h] an invitation1 :i* c be accept$ ) ! prospect ( mutual conv5i5ce & pleasure4 ,ev5 9 travell+1 if y are unexpect$ly deta9$ 9 a city :]e y h fri5ds1 d n drive to _! h\se un9vit$4 ,g fir/ to a hotel1 & let !m "k ( y\r arrival1 leav+ x optional ) !m to ext5d hospitality4 ,to drive at once to ! h\se1 ) y\r baggage1 =ces an invitation1 :i* may cause mu* annoyance & inconv5i5ce1 ev5 if !y are really glad to see y1 & x also r5d]s y liable to be accus$ ( meanness & a desire to save y\r hotel bill4 ,if y are afraid y\r fri5ds w feel hurt if y d n make _! h\se y\r home1 at lea/ write to !m & asc]ta9 if !y c conv5i5tly receive y z y pass ?r\gh _! city4 ,ev5 ) relatives1 x is bett] to ann\nce y\r com+1 t y\r ho/ess may s arrange h] engagem5ts & h\sehold z to leave h] "t to really enjoy y\r visit4 ,a special invitation %\ld specify :o is invit$1 & no "o n m5tion$ %\ld g4 ,love me1 love my dog1 is a prov]b t w n apply 9 su* cases4 ,a p]son :o is invit$ to visit at a fri5d's h\se is n at lib]ty to br+ *ildr5 & s]vants :o 7 n includ$ 9 ! invitation4 ,a wife may1 ( c\rse1 accompany h] husb&1 unless !re be special reason to ! contr>y1 & a husb& mu/ always h ! opportunity ( accompany+ 8 wife1 or jo9+ h]4 ,if ! l5g? ( y\r visit is n specifi$ 9 y\r invitation1 a week is a good limit = y\r /ay4 ,at all ev5ts1 make a move at ! end ( t "t1 & if y are invit$ to /ay long]1 & "k t x is conv5i5t = y to d s1 ! "t c !n be def9itely decid$ ^u4 ,:5 y receive an invitation by lett]1 answ] x at ! e>lie/ possible mom5t1 & say decid$ly :e!r y accept or decl9e x4 ,to leave y\r fri5ds 9 d\bt may prev5t ! same invitation be+ ext5d$ to o!rs4 ,z soon z possible aft] accept+ an invitation1 write & let y\r fri5ds "k by :at tra9 to expect y1 & keep y\r engagem5t1 t y may n keep any "o wait+ = y at ! /ation = no?+4 ,if y are unavoidably deta9$1 write or telegraph & say s1 nam+ ano!r h\r = y\r arrival4 ,9 invit+ a fri5d to pay y a visit1 "n a season :5 w y w be able to devote mo/ ( y\r "t to _! ent]ta9m5t4 ,h always a room devot$ especially to y\r gue/1 & be sure t no "o intrudes !re )\t a special invitation1 & nev] ent] x y\rself )\t an invitation to d s4 ,be=e ! arrival ( a gue/1 see y\rself t ! room is 9 p]fect ord]1 well w>m$ if 9 w9t]1 %ad$ & cool if 9 summ]2 let !re be e conv5i5ce = ba? & *ange ( dress1 & writ+ mat]ials & /amps ready to write if desir$ be=e unpack+4 ,h always a fea!r b$ & mattress1 bo? fea!r & hair pill[s ^u ! b$1 t y\r gue/ may h ! *oice4 ,_m pref] fea!rs 9 ! w>me/ wea!r1 o!rs a mattress ev5 9 w9t]4 ,let ! fire1 9 w9t]1 be made e morn+ be=e y\r gue/ rises1 & keep a good supply ( fuel 9 ! room4 ,x is ! duty ( ! ho/ to s5d a c>riage to ! depot to meet an expect$ visitor1 & if possible to g himself4 ,aft] a w>m welcome1 %[ ! gue/ at once to ! room prep>$1 & give ample "t = a ba? & *ange ( dress1 if x is 9 ! day "t4 ,if ! arrival is late 9 ! ev5+1 h a sub/antial supp] prep>$1 & !n all[ ! travell] to retire1 be+ c>eful t on ! fir/ arrival ! breakfa/ c be ready at a late h\r1 t y\r fri5d may n be di/urb$ to breakfa/ ) ! family4 ,x is ! duty ( ! ho/ess to %>e ! meals ( a gue/1 no matt] h[ irregul>2 b any truly polite p]son w pay /rict att5tion to ! cu/om>y meal times4 ,:5 /ay+ ) fri5ds1 endeavor z mu* z possible to con=m to _! regul> habits4 ,be punctual at meal times4 ,asc]ta9 ov]-night ! h\r = breakfa/1 & be p>ticul> to be dress$ 9 "t = x4 ,aft] breakfa/1 x is cu/om>y to leave visitors to _! own devices1 unless "s special arrangem5t is made = ! =5oon2 b ! ho/ess %\ld introduce h] gue/s to ! piano1 billi>d-table1 portfolios libr>y-any device = pass+ "t at h] comm&2 & ! visitor %\ld accept ?is h9t1 & expect no fur!r att5tion dur+ ! =5oon4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 ! duty ( ! ho/ & ho/ess to accompany _! gue/s to any po9ts ( int]e/ 9 _! city or neighborhood1 to accompany !m if !y desire to d any %opp+1 & if !y h any special habit1 z ris+ late1 napp+ 9 ! aft]noon1 or o!r little self-indulg5ce1 to see t !y are nev] di/urb$ 9 x4 ,x is also a k9dly c\rtesy1 if y\r fri5ds h acqua9tances ill ! city beside y\rself1 to in=m !m ( _! arrival1 ev5 if /rang]s to y\rself1 & invite !m to call1 d9e1 or take tea dur+ ! visit4 ,if y give y\r gue/s a p>ty1 y mu/ invite all _! fri5ds 9 ! city1 ev5 if !y are /rang]s to y\rself4 ,invite !m 9 y\r gue/'s "n1 enclos+ y\r own invitation 9 !irs4 ,ho/ & ho/ess %\ld give up z mu* ( _! "t z possible to _! gue/s1 & %\ld see t !y are amus$ & tak5 c>e (4 ,x is a mi/ake1 h[ev]1 to suppose t visitors require con/ant att5tion1 & !y %\ld be c>eful n to bore !m by ov]-att5tion1 :i* savors ( fuss9ess4 ,a gue/ w (t5 "u su* circum/ances long = a lonely h\r to devote to music1 read+1 or sew+1 b does n l to express ! desire4 ,! true/ c\rtesy is = ! ho/ to make 8 visitor feel z mu* at home z possible1 & = ! visitor to di/urb ! ho/'s h\sehold z little z possible4 ,:]e a lady is visit+1 %e may ) p]fect propriety (f] to assi/ h] ho/ess 9 h] h\sehold duties or family sew+2 b if %e decl9es1 x is bad ta/e to insi/4 ,%e %\ld1 h[ev]1 leave h] ho/ess free = su* duties 9 ! morn+1 be+ always ready to jo9 h] 9 ! sitt+-room :5 %e is at leisure4 ,x is a graceful way to ackn[l$ge ! k9dness ( y\r ho/ess to "w :il/ ) h] ^u "s piece ( embroid]y1 a pianocov]1 a s(a-cu%ion1 or "s article ( dress1 :i* y pres5t to h] :5 f9i%$ z a mem5to ( y\r visit4 ,= a gue/ to make outside engagem5ts1 disreg>d ! meal times1 visit )\t consult+ ! ho/ or ho/ess1 is to treat ! h\se ( a fri5d z if x 7 a hotel1 & is n only rude1 b positively insult+4 ,x is be/1 if y are visit+ a l>ge city1 & desire to d %opp+ or to transact bus9ess1 to select ! h\rs :5 y "k y\r ent]ta9]s are o!rwise engag$ = su* bus9ess1 & n tax !m to accompany y1 unless !y h simil> affairs requir+ att5tion1 :5 x may be pleasant] to h company4 ,nei!r ho/ess nor gue/ may accept any invitations :i* d n include ! o!r4 ,if ei!r ho/ess or visitor is 9 m\rn+1 ! o!r mu/ decl9e all invitations dur+ ! visit1 giv+ t z a reason4 ,x is always accept$ 9 society z suffici5t excuse4 ,if any sudd5 tr\ble comes into a h\se :]e y are visit+1 try to be ( s]vice4 ,let y\r fri5d feel t y h n visit$ h] = gayety alone1 b are glad to sympa?ize 9 h] tr\ble4 ,if sickness or dea? come1 %>e ! nurs+1 try to relieve ! ho/ess ( "s ( h] family c>es1 if x is only tak+ ! *ildr5 into y\r own room or out = a walk2 be ready to d ! %opp+ requir$ = m\rn+1 & take away e pa9ful detail y c4 ,!re is no com=t s great z a really useful sympa?iz+ fri5d 9 times ( tr\ble2 yet if relatives come & require rooms1 if y f9d y are a re/ra9t & c be ( no use1 x is ! true/ k9dness to %ort5 y\r visit1 & leave ! m\rn]s free to com=t ea* o!r4 ,:5 visit+1 nev] dep5d ^u y\r ho/ = writ+ or sew+ mat]ials2 b x is a delicate att5tion = y1 if ho/ess1 to h y\r gue/'s room amply suppli$ ) bo?4 ,x is extremely rude = visitors to make comp>isons betwe5 ! h\se at :i* !y are visit+ & o!rs :]e !y h enjoy$ hospitality4 ,to in=m y\r ho/ess indirectly t h] h\se1 furniture1 table1 or s]vants are inf]ior to ^? ( o!r fri5ds1 is insult+1 & x is z mu* s to ca/ ! slur ^u ! fir/ h\se visit$ by vaunt+ ! sup]iority ( ! second4 ,to a c]ta9 ext5t1 use y\r fri5d's s]vants z y\r own :olly s z f> z y\r own p]sonal wants require _! s]vices4 ,ask = :atev] y want 9 y\r own room1 & give any requisite directions to ! s]vant :o waits ^u y4 ,d n tr\ble ! mi/ress ( ! h\se ) matt]s :i* 9 y\r own h\se y w\ld give to a s]vant4 ,at ! same "t1 avoid be+ tr\blesome2 put out y\r own wa%+1 & any extra "w y require done1 & nev] call ^u ! s]vants at h\rs :5 !y are o!rwise employ$4 ,if y are un=tunate en\gh dur+ a visit to injure any article ( furniture 9 y\r own room1 h x repair$ or replac$ at once at y\r own exp5se4 ,x is a graceful complim5t = a g5tleman dur+ a visit to br+ fl[]s1 fruit1 books1 or confection]y occasionally to ! ho/ess1 & a lady fri5d w be gratefully rememb]$ if %e is k9d to ! *ildr54 ,if a gift is made1 x mu/ be to ! ho/ess1 or if !re are sev]al *ildr51 to ! y\nge/4 ,if *ildr5 are ov] twelve ye>s old1 x is bett] to give any pres5t to ! "m2 b y w nev] give (f5ce by a gift to ! baby4 ,a g5tleman may give baby jewelry1 & a lady a piece ( h&some ne$lework4 ,y may be sure ! p>5ts w f9d no fault ) ?is ackn[l$gm5t ( _! hospitality4 ,always hold y\rself at ! disposal ( ^? 9 ^: h\se y are /ay+4 ,if !y propose to ride1 drive1 walk1 or o!r wise occupy ! day1 y mu/ take x = grant$ t ^! plans are made ) ref]5ce to y\r enjoym5t4 ,y %\ld receive !m ) *e]fulness & ent] into !m ) alacrity1 do+ y\r be/ to seem pleas$1 & be pleas$1 by ! ef=ts made to ent]ta9 y4 ,nev] m9d if x is ! tw5tie? "t y h driv5 to see ! lovely view f ! hill f\r miles f "h1 or y h paid a doz5 previ\s visits to t beautiful wat]fall j above ! lake2 y mu/ f9d a new tree to admire1 or a new po9t to sket* e "t y g4 ,x is n expect$ t ! ho/ or ho/ess c devote ! entire day to gue/s4 ,sir ,walt] ,scott's conduct t[>ds 8 gue/s at ,abbots=d furni%es a model ( hospitality4 ,he nev] saw !m till d9n]2 b :il/ he 0 busily engag$ 9 writ+1 he left 8 h\se1 s]vants1 c>riages1 horses1 & gr\nds at _! entire disposal4 ,byron gives a p]fect picture ( gue/ life at a c\ntry h\se3 ,! g5tlem5 got up betimes to %oot1 ,or hunt2 ! "y1 because !y lik$ ! sport ,! fir/ ?+ boys l1 aft] play & fruit2 ,! middle-ag$1 to make ! day m %ort2 ,= ennui is a gr[? ( ,engli% root1 ,?\gh nameless 9 our language-we retort ,! fact = words1 & let ! ,fr5* translate ,t awful yawn :i* sleep _c abate4 ,! eld]ly walk$ ?r\gh ! libr>y1 ,& tumbl$ books1 or criticiz$ ! pictures1 ,or saunt]$ ?r\gh ! g>d5 pite\sly1 ,& made ^u ! hot-h\se sev]al /rictures2 ,or rode a nag :i* trott$ n too high1 ,or 9 ! morn+ pap]s read _! lectures2 ,or on ! wat* _! long+ eyes w\ld fix1 ,long+ at sixty = ! h\r ( six4 ,b none 7 'g5e2' ! great h\r ( union ,0 rung by d9n]'s knell6 till !n all 7 ,ma/]s ( _! own "t-or 9 communion1 ,or solit>y1 z !y *ose to be> ,! h\rs1-:i* h[ to pass to few is kn[n4 ,ea* rose up at 8 own1 & _h to sp>e ,:at "t he *ose = dress1 & broke 8 fa/ ,:51 :]e1 & h[ he *ose = t repa/4' ,9 ?is c\ntry1 hospitality is b seldom conduct$ on ! lavi% broad scale possible at an ,engli% c\ntry resid5ce2 b1 z f> z possible1 x is bett] to all[ gue/s p]fect lib]ty = breakfa/ h\r & morn+ employm5ts4 ,great discretion mu/ be us$ among gue/s to avoid all criticism on _! ho/1 8 fri5ds1 8 h\sehold1 8 mann] ( liv+1 & all t conc]ns him4 ,if any?+ goes wrong dur+ ! visit1 "o %\ld seem n to see x4 ,if ! d9n] is late1 x is v impolite to appe> impati5t4 ,if any plan falls to ! gr\nd1 no comm5ts or disapproval mu/ be indulg$ 91 & no disappo9tm5t betray$4 ,if ! *ildr5 ( ! h\se are fracti\s1 or noisy1 or ill-br$1 a visitor mu/ nev] f9d fault ) _! behavior4 ,! same caution mu/ be ex]cis$ 9 ! treatm5t ( y\r fri5d's fri5ds4 ,!y may be su* z y d n c>e to become intimate )2 b y mu/ n ev9ce dislike or special avoidance1 & mu/ always h rec\rse r to a negative ?an a positive l9e ( conduct4 ,a p]son ( tact c always keep p at a di/ance )\t hurt+ _! feel+s4 ,y\r ho/'s horses1 c>riages1 books1 & gr\nds %\ld be ev5 m c>efully us$ ?an if !y 7 y\r own4 ,a goodnatur$ man w delight 9 see+ 8 visitors enjoy all ! good ?+s he places at _! disposal2 b !y %\ld n abuse 8 indulg5ce4 ,to ride a horse too f> or too fa/1 to dog's-e> or blot ! books 9 ! libr>y1 to ga!r *oice & favorite fl[]s1 are all signs ( an "u-br$ & selfi% nature4 ,above all1 we %\ld be ?\ghtful 9 our treatm5t ( ! s]vants1 nev] comm5t+ ^u _! %ortcom+s1 or scold+ !m4 ,! religi\s op9ions1 especially ( ^? f :om we are receiv+ hospitality1 mu/ on no acc\nt be %ock$1 sc(f$ at1 or 9 any way treat$ ) a want ( respect4 ,if our fri5ds g regul>ly to *ur*1 we %\ld accompany !m !re2 or1 )\t rem>k1 repair to ! place ( wor%ip mo/ agreeable to our own religi\s convictions4 ,if family pray]s are read1 we %\ld endeavor to be pres5t4 ,if sil5t grace is ! cu/om at meal times1 our heads mu/ also b[1 & a %ort m5tal pray] be said4 ,if ! ,sunday is obs]v$ ) great /rictness1 we %\ld refra9 f any pursuits to :i* objection c\ld possibly be made1 ev5 if !y appe> to ourselves p]fectly prop] & innoc5t4 ,9 %ort1 we mu/ rememb] t = ! "t ! feel+s & prejudices ( ! ho/ & ho/ess are our own4 ,!re is no occasion :5 x is m necess>y to rememb] t social int]c\rse is made up ( innum]able little acts ( k9dness1 self-d5ial1 *>ity1 *ivalry1 & good-fell[%ip1 ?an :5 a numb] ( p f9d !mselves ?r[n toge!r = companion%ip 9 ! h\se ( "s mutual fri5d4 ,lett]s deliv]$ 9 ! pres5ce ( ! ho/ or ho/ess1 or :5 ! o!r gue/s are pres5t1 mu/ n be op5$ until ! receiv] asks p]mission to read !m4 ,a lady may nev] (f] to pay any ( ! exp5ses incurr$ by tak+ h] ab\t--c>riage hire1 /eamboat f>es1 or su* outlay nor mu/ a g5tleman d s unless he is ! only g5tleman ( ! p>ty4 ,x w !n be well = ! ho/ess1 be=e />t+1 to h& him ! necess>y tickets previ\sly pur*as$4 ,:5 a gue/ is ready to leave y1 be sure t ! trunks are /rapp$ & ticket$1 a c>riage ready 9 good season1 a lun*eon prep>$ = refre%m5t ^u ! j\rney1 a sub/antial meal ready 9 good season = com=table enjoym5t ( x1 & ! dep>ture made z pleasant z possible4 ,welcome ! com+1 spe$ ! p>t+ gue/4 ,x is ! fir/ duty ( ! gue/1 aft] return+ home1 to write to ! ho/ or ho/ess1 express+ ! pleasure d]iv$ f ! visit1 & m5tion+ ea* memb] ( ! family by "n1 desir+ to be rememb]$ to all4 ,,/reet ,,etiquette4 ,,:5 a g5tleman recognizes a fri5d 9 ! c\rse ( 8 walk1 he mu/ lift 8 hat ) ! h& f>!/ f him4 ,lift+ ! hat is a suffici5t recognition betwe5 g5tlem52 b 9 meet+ a lady1 an old g5tleman1 or a cl]gyman1 x is necess>y to b[ also4 ,if a g5tleman wi%es to %ake h&s ) a fri5d1 he mu/ lift 8 hat ) ! left h&1 leav+ ! "r free to ext5d4 ,nev] mu/ he give 8 left h&1 or ext5d a portion ( ! "r4 ,! :ole "r h& is en regle4 ,a lady mu/ recognize a g5tleman1 by b[+1 be=e he is at lib]ty to ackn[l$ge an acqua9tance ) h]4 ,%\ld %e b[1 he mu/ lift 8 hat & b[ also4 ,if he is suffici5tly b>b>\s to h a cig> 9 8 m\?1 he mu/ remove x :ile b[+ to a lady4 ,if a g5tleman is walk+ ) a lady1 he %\ld insi/ ^u c>ry+ any book1 p>cel1 or umbrella %e may h ) h]4 ,no g5tleman may smoke :5 walk+ ) a lady4 ,he %\ld ev5 decl9e to d s ?\gh he may be ask$ to cont9ue smok+4 ,%\ld a lady /op a g5tleman to speak1 %e mu/ make a slight incl9ation ( ! head z a tok5 ( dismissal1 & he mu/ accept x z su*1 b[1 & leave h]4 ,no lady w be guilty ( ! vulg>ity ( suck+ ! head ( h] p>asol 9 ! /reet4 ,to eat any?+1 ev5 confection]y1 9 ! /reet1 is a sign ( l[ bre$+4 ,a g5tleman mu/ give a lady1 an old g5tleman1 or cl]gyman ) :om he may be walk+1 ! upp] side 7ne>e/ ! h\ses7 ( ! pavem5t4 ,if a g5tleman meets a lady fri5d :o is walk+ ) any "o he does n "k1 he mu/ n /op1 nor mu/ he /op if 8 companion is unacqua9t$ ) a lady fri5d :om he may *ance to meet4 ,! lady1 h[ev]1 has a p]fect "r to d z %e likes4 ,if %e %\ld /op1 ! /rang]s mu/ be introduc$1 & none ( ! gr\p %\ld g on & wait1 :e!r ! introduction be agreeable or n4 ,a lady %\ld avoid walk+ v rapidly4 ,x is v ungraceful & unbecom+4 ,sw++ ! arms is an awkw>d & ill-br$ habit4 ,= a lady to run across ! /reet1 to avoid a c>riage pass+1 is n only ill-br$1 b exce$+ly dang]\s4 ,to attempt to cross ! /reet betwe5 ! c>riages ( a fun]al procession is rude & disrespectful2 & we _c b comm5d ! =eign cu/om ( remov+ ! hat1 & /&+ 9 a respectful attitude until ! melan*oly tra9 has pass$4 ,:5 a g5tleman is walk+ alone1 he mu/ always turn aside to give ! upp] side ( ! pavem5t to a lady1 to any "o c>ry+ a heavy load1 to a cl]gyman1 or to an old g5tleman4 ,nev] pu% viol5tly ?r\gh a cr[d4 ,if a g5tleman or lady is really 9 ha/e1 a few c\rte\s words w op5 a passage m quickly ?an ! mo/ vigor\s pu%+ or %ov+4 ,if a lady is caught 9 a %[]1 & a g5tleman (f]s an umbrella1 %e may accept x1 if he is go+ 9 ! same direction z h]self & accompanies h]4 ,if n1 & he /ill insi/s1 etiquette requires ! return ( ! umbrella z soon z ! lady rea*es h] de/9ation4 ,no lady may accept ?is c\rtesy f a /range g5tleman1 b mu/ decl9e x firmly1 b politely4 ,/opp+ to />e 9 ! %op-w9d[s is aga9/ ! rules ( /rict etiquette4 ,if a g5tleman & lady are oblig$ to cross a n>r[ walk1 plank1 or slipp]y place1 ! lady may g fir/1 & ! g5tleman walk close beh9d h]1 to aid h] if ne$ful4 ,if ! place is %ort1 !n ! g5tleman %\ld g fir/1 & !n (f] 8 h& to assi/ ! lady across4 ,if a g5tleman meet a lady or old g5tleman at su* a cross+1 he may1 ) p]fect propriety1 assi/ !m 9 cross+1 ev5 if p]fect /rang]s to him4 ,a g5tleman mu/ hold 8 hat 9 8 h& if he /ops to inquire 8 own way1 or to direct ano!r4 ,if a g5tleman sees a lady alone hesitat+ at a bad cross+1 or leav+ a c>riage at an awkw>d place1 he may (f] 8 h& to assi/ h] 9 cross+ or alight+1 raise 8 hat1 b[1 & pass on4 ,a lady may1 ) p]fect propriety1 accept su* assi/ance f a /rang]1 ?ank+ him1 & return+ 8 b[4 ,if a lady leaves an omnibus or c> alone1 ! g5tleman ne>e/ ! door %\ld alight1 assi/ h] out1 & ent] ! omnibus aga94 ,g5tlem5 %\ld always pass up ! f>e ( ladies 9 an omnibus4 ,a lady is n expect$ to recognize any acqua9tance on ! opposite side ( ! /reet4 ,9 a public conveyance1 a g5tleman %\ld (f] 8 seat to any lady :o is /&+1 & ! lady %\ld ?ank him audibly = ! c\rtesy4 ,to turn 8 back ^u h] at once1 & ?us =ce h] to accept ! c\rtesy 9 sil5ce or %\t h] ?anks1 is rude4 ,a polite b[ ex*ang$ is a suffici5t ackn[l$gm5t4 ,l\d talk+ & laugh+ 9 ! /reet are sure signs ( vulg>ity4 ,nev] look back aft] any "o pass+2 x is extremely ill-br$4 ,/>+ is a m>k ( l[ bre$+4 ,:isp]+ 9 a public conveyance is excessively rude4 ,nev] call out l\dly to an acqua9tance :o may be pass+4 ,cutt+ is to be avoid$1 if possible4 ,!re are o!r ways ( conv9c+ a man t y w n "k him2 yet1 to "y ladies1 x is sometimes ! only means available to rid !m ( a tr\blesome acqua9tance4 ,cutt+ consi/s 9 publicly ignor+1 by de$1 &1 if ne$ be1 by ^w1 ! acqua9tance ( ! (f5sive p]son4 ,a /iff b[ w usually effect ! desir$ object2 if n1 a purpos$ non-recognition w probably succe$4 ,x mu/ be a v bad case :]e x is necess>y to tell "o y h n ! pleasure ( an acqua9tance ) !m4 ,a g5tleman mu/ nev] "u any circum/ances1 cut a lady2 an unm>ri$ lady may n cut a m>ri$ "o1 nor a "y man an old "o4 ,george ,,iv41 :5 ,pr9ce ( ,wales1 once cut ,beau ,brummell1 ) :om he _h qu>rell$4 ,! pair met 9 ,/4 ,james-/reet1 ea* walk+ ) a companion2 ! companions /opp$ to speak1 b ! ,pr9ce did n see ,brummell4 ,! latt]1 to be rev5g$1 & kn[+ ! horror ! ,pr9ce _h ( be+ consid]$ corpul5t1 said to 8 companion1 9 a /age :isp]1 be=e ! o!rs 7 out ( e>-%ot1 ,:o is y\r fat fri5d8 ,on meet+ & pass+ p 9 ! /reet1 keep to y\r "r h&1 except :5 giv+ ! upp] side ( ! pavem5t z be=e m5tion$4 ,let a lady walk+ ) a g5tleman h always ! upp] side ( ! pavem5t1 ev5 if he *anges sides at e turn+4 ,"y p]sons1 meet+ eld]ly fri5ds 9 ! /reet1 %\ld wait = a recognition be=e speak+1 & !n b[ respectfully4 ,to nod c>elessly at an old p]son is rude1 if n actually insult+4 ,if y meet two g5tlem5 9 ! /reet1 & wi% to speak to "o ( !m1 apologize to ! o!r1 & make ! det5tion z brief z possible4 ,if a g5tleman is ab\t to ent] or to leave a /ore1 & meets a lady 9 ! door-way1 he mu/ /& aside1 raise 8 hat1 & wait = h] to pass4 ,if ! door is clos$1 & %e is go+ ! same way z himself1 he mu/ pass be=e h]1 b[1 say+1 ,p]mit me1 or all[ me to op5 ! door1 op5 x1 & hold x op5 until %e has pass$4 ,a g5tleman walk+ ) a lady %\ld endeavor to accommodate 8 /eps to h]s1 n =ce h] to /ride along or trot ) %ort /eps or 8 long ones4 ,etiquette is too (t5 disreg>d$ 9 t gr& aim ( mo/ ladies' excursions on ! /reet--%opp+4 ,true polit5ess w lead a lady to pay "s att5tion to ! feel+s ( ! cl]ks & wom5 9 att5dance1 & !y are quick to obs]ve :o are ladylike1 & :o are n1 9 _! int]c\rse ) !m4 ,d n ent] a /ore unless y h "s err&4 ,ask = :at y want z explicitly z possible1 & d n take ! "t ( ! att5dants by exam9+ fifty ?+s t y d n want4 ,if y d n int5d to pur*ase goods1 b wi% to exam9e !m = future selections1 say s4 ,nev] try to *eap5 goods4 ,if ! price is too high = ! quality (f]$1 or w n suit y\r purse1 look else:]e = :at w bett] suit y4 ,d n /& hesitat+ at a c\nt]4 ,make up y\r m9d quickly1 or leave ! /ore to make y\r decision1 ev5 if y return aga94 ,be c>eful n to injure goods by h&l+4 ,nev] ask = patt]ns )\t apologiz+ = ! tr\ble1 & n !n unless y really int5d to return = ! goods1 z :5 y are %opp+ = a fri5d1 or wi% = ! judgm5t or ta/e ( ano!r p]son4 ,nev] give unnecess>y tr\ble4 ,x is be/ to h all bundles s5t home2 !y are awkw>d additions to a walk+-dress1 & boys are kept = t purpose 9 all well-arrang$ /ores4 ,nev] keep a cl]k wait+ :ile y *at ) a fri5d4 ,if y desire to speak ) y\r acqua9tances1 /& aside1 t ! cl]k may und]/& he is releas$ = ! "t1 & free to wait ^u o!r cu/om]s4 ,nev] call away a cl]k :o is wait+ ^u "s "o else4 ,wait1 if y h bus9ess ) an especial cl]k1 until y see t he is dis5gag$4 ,sne]+ rem>ks ^u goods is rude 9 ! extreme4 ,if !y d n suit y1 y are n oblig$ to buy !m2 b sp>e y\r comm5ts4 ,l\ng+ ov] a c\nt] is ill-br$4 ,putt+ y\r elb[s on a c\nt] is rude4 ,pu%+ aside ano!r p]son is an act ( ill-bre$+4 ,y mu/ nev] take hold ( a piece ( goods ano!r p]son is exam9+4 ,wait until x is replac$ ^u ! c\nt]1 :5 y are at lib]ty to take x up4 ,/age asides or :isp]+ 9 a /ore are rude4 ,x is rude to int]rupt fri5ds y may meet 9 a /ore1 to ask _! att5tion to y\r pur*ases1 be=e !y h f9i%$ mak+ _! own4 ,x is z rude to (f] y\r op9ion1 unask$1 ^u _! judgm5t or ta/e 9 selection ( goods4 ,a g5tleman walk+ ) two ladies may (f] an arm to ea* ( !m1 & !y may ?us s&wi* him if !y wi%2 b "u no circum/ances may a lady take ! arms ( g5tlem5 at ea* side ( h]4 ,if a g5tleman is walk+ ) two ladies 9 a ra9-/orm1 & !re is b "o umbrella1 he %\ld give x to 8 companions & walk outside4 ,no?+ c be m absurd ?an to see a g5tleman walk+ betwe5 two ladies hold+ an umbrella1 :i* p]fectly protects himself1 & s5ds little /reams ( wat] f e po9t on ! dresses ( ! ladies he is suppos$ to be %elt]+4 ,x is 9 bad ta/e to talk ( p]sonal matt]s 9 ! /reet1 or to call l\dly ! names ( p]sons y may m5tion4 ,x is impossible to say :o may be ne> to y4 ,to discuss fri5ds by "n 9 a public conveyance ( any k9d is rude 9 ! extreme4 ,if y meet a fri5d ) :om y wi% to %ake h&s1 nev] put out y\r own until y are q ne>1 z no?+ looks m awkw>d ?an h&s ext5d$ to grasp ea* o!r two or ?ree y>ds ap>t4 ,nev] turn a corn] at full spe$1 or y may f9d y\rself knock$ d[n or knock+ d[n ano!r by ! viol5t contact4 ,nev] b[ f a /ore to a p]son on ! /reet1 or f ! /reet to a p]son 9 a /ore4 ,nev] talk politics or religion 9 a public conveyance4 ,nev] /op to qu>rel ) a hack-driv]4 ,pay 8 f>e1 & dismiss him2 if y h any compla9t to make1 take 8 numb]1 & make x to ! prop] au?orities4 ,to keep a lady /&+ :ile y are disput+ ) a hack-man is extremely rude4 ,x is a sign ( ill-bre$+ to *ange y\r seat 9 a c> or omnibus4 ,if y are un=tunate en\gh to h a neighbor :o is positively annoy+ & un5durable1 x is bett] to get out & take ! next conveyance ?an to move to ! o!r side4 ,a g5tleman may move f a cr[d$ side to "o left comp>atively vacant2 b a lady %\ld n d ?is4 ,9 a city1 or 9 any lonely place1 a lady mu/ avoid be+ alone aft] nightfall1 if possible4 ,x exposes h]1 n only to insult1 b (t5 to positive dang]4 ,x is v mu* ! cu/om 9 small c\ntry places = two ladies to take ev5+ walks2 b x is bett] to h ! protection ( a g5tleman if conv5i5t4 ,x is bett] = a lady to decl9e ent]+ a c> or an omnibus t is already full4 ,%e mu/ ei!r /& up or =ce "s polite g5tleman to d s4 ,x is bett] to wait = ! next conveyance4 ,,rid+ ,,& ,,driv+4 ,,! rule ( ! road1 bo? 9 rid+ & driv+1 is always to ,keep to ! "r1 z ! law directs4 ,9 invit+ a lady to ride1 if a g5tleman _c (f] ! use ( 8 own horses1 or ! lady does n "n a horse to :i* %e has be5 accu/om$1 he mu/ be c>eful to select "o ( prov$ g5tl5ess1 & tra9$ to ! side-saddle & rid+-skirt4 ,x is exce$+ly dang]\s to all[ a lady to m\nt a horse :i* may be entirely /range to a lady's h& or habit2 & x is n well to tru/ ?is important matt] to a liv]y-/able keep] or s]vant4 ,a g5tleman mu/ be punctual to ! appo9t$ "t1 z x is disagreeable = a lady to sit wait+ 9-doors 9 a rid+-habit4 ,! lady1 too1 mu/ ex]cise /rict punctuality1 t ! horses may n become re/ive f long /&+4 ,arriv$ at ! h\se ( 8 fair companion1 ! g5tleman mu/ c>efully exam9e ! entire furniture ( h] horse4 ,he mu/ te/ ! firmness ( ! saddle & gir?s1 exam9e well ! /irrup lea!r1 gu>d aga9/ ! dang] ( any buckle all[+ a tongue ( lea!r to slip1 see t ! curb1 bridle1 head/all1 & re9s are 9 p]fect ord]2 = ! entire control ( ! horse is lo/ if "o ( ^! breaks or slips4 ,leav+ ^! matt]s to ! /able-m5 entirely is unsafe1 z ! con/ant h&l+ ( ! h>ness is apt to make !m c>eless 9 fa/5+ & te/+ x4 ,x is ! duty ( ! g5tleman to see ! lady com=tably seat$ 9 ! saddle be=e he m\nts himself4 ,hav+ fir/ ask$ p]mission1 he leads h] to ! horse4 ,a groom %\ld n be all[$ to r5d] any assi/ance1 if a g5tleman is pres5t1 except + to hold ! horse's head4 ,! lady /&s1 ) h] skirt ga!r$ 9 h] left h&1 on ! ne> side ( ! horse1 h] "r h& on ! pommel ( ! saddle1 & h] face turn$ t[>ds ! horse's head1 ,! g5tleman %\ld /& at ! horse's %\ld]1 fac+ ! lady1 & /oop s t h] left foot may re/ 9 8 h&4 ,:5 ! lady makes a spr+1 ! g5tleman %\ld1 ) g5tle firmness1 /eadily & promptly help h] foot up2 & :5 %e is 9 ! saddle1 he %\ld put h] foot 9 ! /irrup1 & smoo? h] skirt4 ,x requires "s practice to prop]ly assi/ a lady into ! saddle4 ,if ! h& is n p]fectly /eady1 x is v unpleasant1 & any j]k+ motion is n only disagreeable1 b positively dang]\s4 ,aft] ! lady is 9 ! saddle1 h] escort %\ld /& beside h] until %e has arrang$ h] skirt1 got a firm foo?old 9 ! /irrup1 & has h] re9s & :ip 9 ord]4 ,he may !n m\nt 8 own horse1 & take 8 position on ! lady's "r4 ,9 rid+ ) two ladies1 if bo? are good horsewom51 ! g5tleman %\ld ride to ! "r ( bo?2 b if !y are inexp]i5c$1 x is bett] = him to ride betwe5 !m1 to be ready to assi/ !m if necess>y4 ,a lady mu/ always give ! pace4 ,a g5tleman mu/ nev] t\* a lady's horse unless %e actually requires 8 aid2 b he %\ld be v wat*ful & ready = ! mo/ prompt att5tion if x is ne$$4 ,if a g5tleman on horseback meet a lady :o is walk+1 & /ops to speak to h]1 he mu/ dism\nt until %e b[s & leaves him4 ,a g5tleman mu/ g =w>d :5ev] a gate is to be op5$ or an ob/ruction to be remov$1 & cle> ! way = ! lady2 he mu/ leap fir/ :5 !re is a f5ce or dit* to be cross$2 he mu/ pay all tolls2 mu/ fir/ te/ any dang]\s-look+ place1 & mu/ try to select ! mo/ desirable roads4 ,9 dism\nt+1 a g5tleman mu/ (f] a lady 8 "r h&1 tak+ h] left1 & us+ 8 own left z a /ep = h] foot1 decl9+ x g5tly z soon z %e rises f ! saddle1 & be=e %e spr+s4 ,to spr+ f ! saddle is n only awkw>d1 b dang]\s1 & w (t5 confuse a g5tleman :o is accu/om$ only to ! prop] mode ( assi/+ ! ladies to :om he (f]s 8 s]vices z escort4 ,no g5tlem5 w =ce a lady to ride fa/] ?an1 %e may f9d agreeable1 by an endeavor to display 8 own horseman%ip4 ,a g5tleman mu/ be c>eful to protect 8 lady companion f ! du/ & mud1 z f> z possible2 & if !re is a *oice ( side = %ade1 he may1 ) propriety1 ride ^u h] left1 or fall a little beh9d h]1 to all[ h] to take advantage ( x4 ,9 rid+ ) an eld]ly g5tlem51 a y\ng] man %\ld ext5d all ! c\rtesies ( ! road1 ! %ady side1 ! *oice ( spe$1 ! *oice also ( direction1 &1 if !re be a diff]5ce1 ! be/ horse4 ,9 a c>riage1 :]e a coa*man is outside1 ! seat on ! "r h&1 fac+ ! horses1 is ! seat ( honor1 & %\ld be giv5 to a lady1 an eld]ly g5tleman1 or ! gue/4 ,9 ent]+ a c>riage1 be c>eful t y\r back is t[>ds ! scat y wi% to occupy4 ,! seat fac+ ! horses is always left by g5tleman = ladies4 ,if a lady & g5tleman alone ent] a c>riage toge!r1 ! g5tleman mu/ take ! seat opposite to ! lady1 unless %e invites him to sit beside h]4 ,a g5tleman be %\ld c>eful1 9 ent]+ a c>riage1 n to trample ^u ladies' dresses1 %ut _! %awls 9 ! door1 or commit any o!r gau*]ies4 ,x is q an art to ent] or leave a c>riage gracefully4 ,9 quitt+ a c>riage1 a g5tleman mu/ g fir/1 ev5 ?\gh he may h to tr\ble ! ladies by /epp+ across ! c>riage1 & he %\ld !n help ! ladies to alight1 tak+ c>e n to all[ ! :eel to soil _! dresses4 ,if !re be a man-s]vant ) ! c>riage1 a g5tleman w all[ him to l[] ! /eps1 & hold ! door op52 b he mu/ on no acc\nt all[ him to help ! ladies out :ile he himself /&s by4 ,a g5tleman w always convey ! ord]s ( ! ladies to ! coa*man4 ,if ! c>riage is driv5 by ! g5tleman himself1 !re are _m little po9ts ( etiquette :i* dem& att5tion4 ,:5 a g5tleman is ab\t to take a lady1 an old] g5tleman1 or a gue/ to drive1 he mu/ drive z close z possible to ! m\nt+ block or curb1 head 8 horse t[>ds ! middle ( ! road1 & back 8 buggy or wagon slightly1 sep>at+ ! =e & h9d :eels z mu* z possible4 ,?is is especially necess>y :5 a lady is to asc5d to ! wagon1 z x gives space = h] dress to avoid ! contact ( ! :eels1 & all[s room = ! driv] to tuck h] dress 9 aft] %e is seat$4 ,x is be/ to h always a c>riage-blanket to cov] entirely ! skirt ( a lady's dress1 t ! mud ( ! road may n spla% x4 ,:5 !re is a po/1 x is always safe/ to hit* ! horse securely1 & give bo? h&s to ! lady's s]vice4 ,nev] all[ ! horse to /& )\t "s hold ^u him2 if !re is no po/1 ! re9s mu/ be held firmly 9 "o h&1 :ile ! o!r assi/s ! lady4 ,no g5tleman w %[ (f 8 driv+1 if he f9ds 8 companion timid4 ,he w adopt ! pace mo/ agreeable to h]1 ev5 if x condemns him to a fun]al sl[ness4 ,x is c\rtesy = ! own] ( a wagon1 :5 driv+ a g5tleman fri5d1 to (f] him ! re9s1 b ! (f] %\ld nev] be accept$4 ,if1 :5 driv+ a long di/ance1 ) a h>d-m\!d horse1 ! companion c really relieve a tir$ driv]1 x is !n bo? c\rte\s & k9d to (f] to take ! re9s = a "t2 b x is n etiquette s to (f] "u any o!r circum/ances4 ,if y (f] a seat 9 a private c>riage to any fri5ds y may meet :il/ abroad1 y mu/ accompany !m to _! de/9ation1 no matt] h[ f> x may be out ( y\r own way4 ,= a g5tleman1 :5 driv+ ) a lady1 to put 8 arm across ! back ( ! seat1 ar\nd h]1 is a piece ( imp]t95ce :i* any well-br$ lady w v ju/ly res5t4 ,if (f]$ a seat 9 ! c>riage ( a g5tleman fri5d1 y %\ld motion him to be seat$ fir/2 b if he /&s aside = y1 b[1 & prec$e him4 ,aft] assi/+ a lady to h] seat1 be c]ta9 t h] p>asol1 %awl1 & fan are all conv5i5tly plac$ = h] use be=e y take y\r own seat4 ,all[ h] all ! space y c1 & be especially c>eful t ! motion ( y\r arms does n incommode h]4 ,if a lady wi%es to leave a c>riage1 & ! g5tleman rema9s 9 x to wait h] return1 he mu/ alight to assi/ h] out1 & also :5 %e ent]s x aga91 ev5 if he resumes 8 seat dur+ h] abs5ce4 ,x is a graceful act to leave a c>riage 9 ! prop] mann]4 ,9 ,engl&1 "y ladies are in/ruct$ 9 ! mann] ( ent]+ & leav+ a c>riage4 ,m4 ,m]cy ,d',arg5teau1 an ambassador ( ! la/ c5tury1 tells an anecdote illu/rative ( ! importance ( ?is4 ,he says3 ,! ,pr9cess ( ,hesse-,d>m/adt hav+ be5 desir$ by ! ,empress ( ,au/ria to br+ h] ?ree daught]s to c\rt1 9 ord] t h] ,imp]ial ,maje/y might *oose "o ( !m = a wife to "o ( h] sons1 drove up 9 h] coa* to ! palace gate4 ,sc>cely _h !y ent]$ ! pres5ce1 :51 be=e ev5 speak+ to !m1 ! ,empress w5t up to ! second daught]1 &1 tak+ h] by ! h&1 said3 ',i *oose ?is "y lady4' ,! "m1 a/oni%$ at ! sudd5ness ( h] *oice1 inquir$ :at _h actuat$ h]4 ',i wat*$ ! "y ladies get out ( _! c>riage1' said ! ,empress4 ',y\r elde/ daught] /epp$ on h] dress1 & only sav$ h]self f fall+ by an awkw>d scramble2 ! y\nge/ jump$ f ! coa* to ! gr\nd1 )\t t\*+ ! /eps2 ! second1 j lift+ h] dress 9 front1 s z %e desc5d$ to %[ ! po9t ( h] %oe1 calmly /epp$ f ! c>riage to ! gr\nd1 nei!r hurri$ly nor /iffly1 b ) grace & dignity4 ,%e is fit to be an empress4 ,h] elde/ si/] is too awkw>d2 h] y\nge/1 too wild4' ,rid+ & driv+ are accompli%m5ts 9 :i* x is v desirable = all ladies & g5tlem5 to be pr(ici5t4 ,to ride well1 "o mu/ be taught e>ly1 & h practice4 ,l swimm+1 rid+ _c be le>n$ f !oretical tea*+4 ,"l ,h]b]t1 ( ,*]bury1 says3 ,a good rid]1 on a good horse1 is z mu* above himself & o!rs z ! _w c make him4 ,,travell+4 ,,!re are _m little po9ts ( etiquette & c\rte\s obs]vances :i*1 if att5d$ to1 s]ve v mat]ially to light5 ! t$ium & fatigue ( travel1 ! non-obs]vance ( !m be+ at t5d$ ) proportionally disagreeable effects4 ,no situation c be nam$ :]e ! diff]5ce betwe5 ! well-br$ & ill-br$ ( ei!r sex is m m>k$ ?an :5 !y are ^u a j\rney2 & 9 ?is c\ntry1 :]e all classes are ?r[n into contact 9 ! v>i\s public conveyances1 ! annoyance ( rude company c sc>cely be exagg]at$4 ,! duties ( an escort to a lady are manifold & v>i\s1 & ! true lady w make !m z light z possible1 /riv+1 by h] own deportm5t & agreeable conv]sation1 to comp5sate h] g5tleman fri5d = ! tr\ble %e may occasion him4 ,to we>y him con/antly by compla9ts ( ! heat1 du/1 or flies2 to worry = half an h\r ov] "s unavoidable mi%ap or annoyance2 to lose or miss "s "p ( h] h&-baggage e five m9utes2 =c+ him to rise & se>* = :at %e ev5tually f9ds 9 h] own pocket2 to inquire e few mom5ts1 ,:]e are we n[8 :at "t is x8 are we ne>ly at our j\rney's end8 to delay him1 :5 ! tra9 or boat does /op1 = arrangem5ts t %\ld h be5 made t5 m9utes be=e2 to fidget ab\t h] baggage2 or to f9d con/ant fault ) :at he _c control1 are all faults 9 :i* lady travell]s are prone to indulge1 b :i* all m>k l[ bre$+1 f\nd$ ^u int5se selfi%ness4 ,good-nature1 p]fect c\rtesy1 pati5ce1 punctuality1 & an easy adaptation to p]haps unt[>d circum/ances m>k ! p]fect lady 9 travell+4 ,:5 y see a lady1 deta9$ p]haps = h\rs by a sn[-/orm1 pleasantly try+ to beguile ! "t by conv]sation1 reliev+ tir$ mo!rs1 p]haps1 ( ! c>e ( fretful *ildr51 je/+ pleasantly ^u ! unpleasant delay1 & utt]+ no compla9t or impati5t ^w1 ev5 if half froz5 or 9 utt] discom=t1 y may be c]ta9 y see a p]fectly well-br$ lady 9 e s5se ( ! words4 ,no lady %\ld ev] all[ h] escort to ent] ) h] any saloon devot$ exclusively to ! use ( ladies4 ,because he may be h] own husb&1 son1 fa!r1 or bro!r does n excuse h]1 z he _c /& 9 su* relation to o!rs pres5t4 ,if a lady 9 a c> or /age f9ds ! ex]tion ( talk+ tiresome or pa9ful1 %e may say s frankly1 & no g5tleman mu/ take (f5ce4 ,weak lungs may be really injur$ by ! ef=t made to be he>d above ! noise ( a locomotive or :eels4 ,9 travell+ alone1 a lady %\ld speak to ! conductor on a tra91 or1 9 a long /eam] passage1 introduce h]self to ! capta91 expla9+ h] unprotect$ situation1 & !y are b\nd to ext5d e c\rtesy 9 _! p[]4 ,x is bett] = a lady s travell+ to wait until ! ru% ( pass5g]s is ov] be=e quitt+ a tra9 or boat1 & !n1 if n wait+ to meet any "o1 leave ! /ation4 ,a lady travell+ alone may1 ) p]fect propriety1 accept c\rtesy f /range g5tlem51 su* z rais+ or l[]+ a w9d[1 ! (f] ( a h& across a slipp]y plank1 or any su* att5tion1 be+ c>eful always to ?ank him politely = ! same1 & 9 a tone t w n enc\rage conv]sation or fur!r advances4 ,any apology made dur+ a j\rney = accid5tal cru%+1 cr[d+1 rea*+ ov] ! seat1 or ! l1 mu/ be accept$1 a sil5t b c\rte\s b[ be+ ! be/ ackn[l$gm5t ( ! polit5ess dictat+ su* apology4 ,a g5tleman1 on ent]+ a public c>riage or omnibus1 mu/ nev] /ep be=e a lady1 b /& aside until %e ent]s1 rais+ ! hat slightly if %e ackn[l$ges 8 c\rtesy1 z a true lady w1 by a b[4 ,he may (f] to assi/ h] if %e appe>s to ne$ x1 ev5 if %e is a p]fect /rang] to him4 ,if a g5tleman cons5ts to act z escort to a lady1 he mu/ c>efully fulfill all ! requirem5ts ( t r ardu\s position4 ,if %e meets him at a :>f or depot1 he mu/ be a little be=e ! h\r = />t+1 to procure h] ticket1 *eck h] baggage1 & secure = h] a pleasant seat4 ,he mu/ nev] leave h] to /& 9 an (fice or ^u a :>f :il/ he att5ds to h] tickets & baggage2 b1 hav+ se5 h] com=tably seat$ 9 a ladies' room or cab91 return = ^? duties4 ,9 arriv+ at a /ation1 he mu/ see h] seat$ 9 a hack be=e he att5ds to ! trunks4 ,9 a hotel1 ! g5tleman mu/ escort ! lady to ! p>lor be=e secur+ h] room1 b n deta9 h] aft]w>ds4 ,h[ev] agreeable %e may be1 he may be c]ta9 %e is long+ to re/ aft] h] j\rney1 & remove ! travel /a9s f h] face & dress4 ,he mu/ at once escort h] to h] room1 asc]ta9 :at h\r x w be agreeable = h] take ! next meal1 & meet h] aga9 9 ! p>lor at t h\r4 ,he mu/ n leave h] ^u arriv+ at ! j\rney's end until he has escort$ h] to ! h\se1 & if he rema9s 9 ! city1 he mu/ call ! next day to inquire aft] h] heal?4 ,aft] t1 ! lady may cont9ue ! acqua9tance or n1 z %e pleases2 b if %e decl9es to d s1 by nonrecognition at ! next meet+1 he is at lib]ty to decl9e act+ 9 ! capacity ( escort to h] aga94 ,a g5tleman :o is travell+ alone may (f] little c\rtesies to /rang]s1 & ev5 to ladies1 c>efully ma9ta9+ a respectful mann]1 t may assure !m !y ne$ n fe> to enc\rage imp]t95ce by accept+ ! pr(]r$ civilities4 ,9 travell+ abroad1 ! true/ c\rtesy is to obs]ve z f> z practicable e national prejudice4 ,! old prov]b1 to d 9 ,rome z ,romans d1 is ! be/ rule ( etiquette 9 =eign travel4 ,! man :o affects a sup]cili\s disda9 = all =eign cu/oms & =ms w n conv9ce ! natives ( 8 va/ sup]iority1 b impress !m ) ! belief t he is an ill- br$ idiot4 ,! mo/ polite1 z well z agreeable travell]s are ^? :o w smil+ly dev\r m\se-pie & bird's-ne/ s\p 9 ,*9a1 d9e cont5t$ly ^u horse-/eak 9 ,p>is1 swall[ _! beef uncook$ 9 ,g]many1 ma9ta9 an unw9k+ gravity ov] ! hotte/ curry 9 ,india1 smoke _! hookah gratefully 9 ,turkey1 m\nt an elephant 9 ,ceylon1 &1 9 %ort1 con=m gracefully to any native cu/om1 h[ev] /range x may appe> to him4 ,comp>isons are odi\s1 & to be cont9ually ass]t+ t ev]y?+ 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates is va/ly sup]ior to ev]y?+ abroad is a m>k ( vulg>ity4 ,if y really ?9k !re is no?+ to be se5 abroad z good z y h at home1 :y1 y are fooli% n to /ay at home & enjoy ! be/4 ,a lady may1 "u c]ta9 circum/ances1 z1 if %e be a m>ri$ lady1 & n too "y1 beg9 a conv]sation ) a /range g5tlem52 b he mu/ n1 "u any circum/ances1 beg9 a conv]sation ) h]4 ,an unm>ri$ lady1 unless advanc$ 9 life1 is n suppos$ to beg9 conv]sation ) a /range g5tleman4 ,:5 a lady1 travell+ alone1 wi%es to desc5d f a railway c>1 x is ! duty ( ! g5tleman ne>e/ ! door to assi/ h] 9 alight+1 ev5 if he resumes 8 seat aga94 ,he may (f] to collect h] baggage1 call a hack1 or p]=m any s]vice h] escort w\ld h att5d$ to4 ,if a tra9 /op = refre%m5ts1 a g5tleman may1 ) p]fect propriety1 (f] to escort a /range lady1 :o is alone1 to ! refre%m5t-room1 or to br+ to h] any refre%m5ts %e may desire4 ,if %e accepts 8 (f]1 he mu/ see t %e is s]v$ ) all t %e desires be=e att5d+ to 8 own wants4 ,a lady may always accept su* an (f] ( att5tion1 ?ank+ ! g5tleman = 8 polit5ess1 & dismiss+ him by a c\rte\s b[1 :i* he mu/ accept z an intimation t 8 s]vices are no long] requir$4 ,smok+ 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies is unc\rte\s1 ev5 if !re is no law aga9/ x 9 ! c>1 /age1 or boat4 ,"s smok]s1 ( m invet]ate weakness 9 ! direction ( tobacco ?an ( /r5g? 9 polit5ess1 make a p>ade ( ask+ ! p]mission ( any lady :o may be pres5t2 b ?is is h>dly en\gh4 ,a lady w n l to refuse1 al?\gh %e may dislike ! smoke1 & %e ought n to be put to h] election betwe5 two alt]natives almo/ equally disagreeable4 ,if g5tlem5 only are pres5t1 ! "q %\ld be put to ea* & e "o ( !m :e!r !y h any objection to smok+ 9 _! pres5ce4 ,"o diss5ti5t voice %\ld c>ry ! day2 = no g5tleman has a "r to insi/ ^u 8 own special gratification if x w cause annoyance & discom=t to o!rs pres5t4 ,%\ld !re be no objection on ! "p ( ! entire p>ty1 ! g5tleman :o fir/ /rikes 8 fusee %\ld (f] x to any o!rs ne> him ab\t to indulge also be=e he uses x himself4 ,z reg>ds ! "r to h ! w9d[ up or d[n1 ! p]son :o sits fac+ ! ! eng9e has ! comm&4 ,ladies1 be+ pres5t1 %\ld1 ( c\rse1 be consult$1 no matt] on :i* side !y may be sitt+1 & _! wi% mu/ be consid]$ a f9al settlem5t ( ! "q4 ,if a g5tleman h any newspap]s1 he mu/ (f] !m fir/ to 8 travell+ companions4 ,if refus$1 he may use !m himself1 ?us leav+ !m free to read also if !y s desire4 ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,*ur*4 ,,9 visit+ a *ur* 9 :i* y h no pew ( y\r own1 wait 9 ! ve/ibule until ! sexton comes to y1 & reque/ him to %[ y to a seat4 ,x is extremely rude to ent] a pew )\t invitation if x is p>tially fill$1 or )\t p]mission if x is empty4 ,always ent] a *ur* sl[ly & rev]5tially4 ,a g5tleman mu/ remove 8 hat at ! door1 & nev] replace x until he is aga9 9 ! ve/ibule4 ,con=m /rictly to ! =ms ( wor%ip4 ,if y are n famili> ) !m1 rise1 kneel1 & sit z y see o!rs d4 ,nev] :isp] to a companion 9 *ur*4 ,nev] make any noise ) y\r feet or f+]s4 ,nev] />e r\nd ! build+4 ,nev] b[ to any fri5d :ile 9 ! *ur* itself4 ,greet+s may be ex*ang$ 9 ! ve/ibule aft] s]vice4 ,a g5tleman accompany+ a lady to a ,roman ,ca?olic *ur*1 ev5 if himself a ,prote/ant1 may (f] h] ! holy wat]1 & x mu/ be ) an unglov$ h&4 ,g5tlem5 mu/ pass up ! aisle beside _! lady companions until !y rea* ! pew1 !n advance a few /eps1 op5 ! door1 & /& aside until %e has ent]$1 !n ent]1 & close ! door aga94 ,x is a bad plan to leave ! hat outside1 z x is liable to be swept d[n ! aisle by ! skirts ( ladies pass+4 ,if !re is n room = x on ! seat1 x c be put ^u ! floor inside ! pew4 ,nev] pay any att5tion to ^? ar\nd y1 ev5 if !y are noisy or rude4 ,if y pass a book or a fan to a p]son 9 ! same pew1 or accept ! same att5tion1 x is n necess>y to speak4 ,a sil5t b[ is all t etiquette requires4 ,if y h room 9 y\r own pew1 & sea a /rang] ent]1 op5 ! door & motion him to ent]4 ,x is n necess>y to speak4 ,y may f9d ! place & po9t x out to a /rang]1 :o is unfamili> ) ! s]vice2 b d s sil5tly4 ,a lady %\ld nev] remove h] gloves 9 *ur*1 unless to use ! holy wat]1 or ! "r-h& glove at communion4 ,to come late to *ur* is n only ill-br$1 b disrespectful4 ,x is equally s to hurry away1 or to comm5ce prep>ations = dep>ture1 clos+ & putt+ away ! books1 & su* prep>ations1 be=e ! s]vice closes4 ,nev] keep any "o wait+ if y are invit$ or h invit$ !m to g to *ur*4 ,:5 visit+ a *ur* abroad1 n to att5d div9e s]vice1 b to see ! edifice1 *oose an h\r :5 !re is no s]vice4 ,if y f9d wor%ipp]s1 h[ev]1 are pres5t1 move quietly1 speak l[1 & endeavor n to di/urb _! devotions4 ,! godmo!r at a *ri/5+ mu/ accompany ! family ( h] little god*ild to & f ! *ur*1 & %\ld s5d h] gift 7usually a silv] cup7 ! day be=e4 ,9 att5d+ a fun]al n 9 y\r own family1 nev] leave ! pew until ! m\rn]s h pass$ into ! aisle2 b rise & /& :ile !y pass1 fall+ into y\r prop] place z ! procession passes y4 ,x is ill-br$ = g5tlem5 to congregate 9 ! ve/ibule ( a *ur* & !re *at famili>ly1 (t5 comm5t+ audibly ^u ! s]vice or ! congregation4 ,no true lady likes to run ?is gauntlet1 al?\gh 9 ?is c\ntry !y are too (t5 oblig$ to d s4 ,to %[ any disrespect to a =m ( wor%ip t may be new or /range to y is rude 9 ! extreme4 ,if y f9d x try+ to y\r own religi\s convictions1 y ne$ n aga9 visit *ur*es ( ! same d5om9ation2 b to sne] at a =m1 :ile 9 ! *ur* us+ t =m1 is insult+ & l[-br$4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,places ,,( ,,amusem5t4 ,a ,,g5tleman :o wi%es to invite a "y lady1 :o is n relat$ to him1 to visit any place ( public amusem5t ) him1 mu/1 ! fir/ "t t he invites h]1 also invite ano!r lady ( ! same family to accompany h]4 ,no "y lady %\ld visit public places ( amusem5t ) a g5tleman ) :om %e is b slightly acqua9t$1 alone4 ,x is a g5tleman's duty to invite a lady long en\gh be=e ! ev5+ ( ! p]=mance to be c]ta9 ( secur+ pleasant seats1 z x is b a poor complim5t to take h] :]e %e w be uncom=table1 or :]e %e c nei!r he> nor see4 ,al?\gh a c>riage may n be necess>y on acc\nt ( ! wea!r1 x is a m elegant way ( pay+ att5tion to a lady to provide "o4 ,nev] assume an air ( secrecy or my/]y 9 a public place2 & ev5 if y h ! "r to d s1 assume no lov]-l airs4 ,x is rude to conv]se l\dly1 especially dur+ ! p]=mance2 b a l[ tone is all t is necess>y2 n a :isp]4 ,to appe> to comm5t aside ^u ^? ne> y is extremely ill- br$4 ,a lady is n expect$ to b[ to a fri5d across a !atre or conc]t-room2 b a g5tleman may recognize 8 lady fri5ds4 ,a lady mu/ answ] a note ( invitation to visit a place ( public amusem5t z soon z possible1 z1 by delay1 %e may keep h] g5tleman fri5d 9 d\bt1 & deprive him ( ! pleasure ( invit+ ano!r fri5d if %e decl9es4 ,x is ill-br$ to arrive late at any public ent]ta9m5t1 & looks z if y 7 n suffici5tly ma/] ( y\r own "t to be punctual4 ,9 a !atre1 give y\r att5tion entirely to ! /age :5 ! curta9 is up2 to y\r companion :5 x is d[n4 ,x looks badly to see a lady />+ r\nd ! h\se ) an op]a-glass4 ,nev] is a mode/ dignity m becom+ ?an 9 a !atre4 ,to indulge 9 extravagant ge/ure1 laugh boi/]\sly1 flirt a fan conspicu\sly1 toy ) an eye-glass or op]a-glass1 indulge 9 l\ng+ attitudes1 :isp] aside1 are all unlady-l 9 ! extreme4 ,if y speak to y\r companion dur+ ! p]=mance1 d s 9 a l[ tone1 t y may n di/urb ^? :o are ne> y1 & wi% to he> ! actors4 ,9 ent]+ a conc]t-room or tile box ( a !atre1 a g5tleman %\ld prec$e a lady1 if !re is n room to walk beside h]1 until !y rea* ! seats1 !n h& h] to ! inn] "o1 tak+ ! outside "o himself4 ,9 go+ out1 if he _c (f] h] 8 arm1 he mu/ aga9 walk be=e h]1 until he rea*es ! lobby1 & !n (f] h] 8 arm4 ,boi/]\s applause & l\d laught] are ung5tlemanly4 ,x is 9 bad ta/e to di/ract y\r companion's int]e/ f ! p]=mance1 ev5 if y f9d x dull y\rself4 ,no g5tleman %\ld leave a lady alone = a mom5t 9 a public place ( amusem5t4 ,he may subject h] to annoyance1 or he may f9d ano!r lady 9 8 seat :5 he returns1 :i* w\ld sep>ate him f 8 companion until ! close ( ! p]=mance2 =1 al?\gh a g5tleman :5 alone %\ld (f] 8 seat to a lady or old g5tleman :o _c procure "o1 he is n expect$ to d s :5 escort+ a lady4 ,8 place is !n t ( protector to 8 *>ge1 & he mu/ n rel9qui% x = a mom5t4 ,secure a libretto1 or programme1 be=e tak+ y\r seat1 t y may n be oblig$ to rise to get "o4 ,at ! op]a1 conv]sation dur+ ! p]=mance is 9 ! wor/ ta/e4 ,! l[e/ tone w di/urb ! real lov]s ( music4 ,exclamations ( ,lovely6 ,exquisite6 ,h[ sweet6 & o!rs1 are all pro(s ( vulg>ity4 ,if y prom5ade at a conc]t or betwe5 ! acts at a !atre1 y may b[ to fri5ds ! fir/ "t y pass !m only4 ,a lady mu/ n all[ o!r g5tlem5 to jo9 h]1 if %e w\ld n (f5d h] escort1 & no g5tleman w /op a lady to speak to h]4 ,a conv]sation ( a mom5t or two is all t is all[able 9 su* meet+s4 ,if seats are secur$1 x is be/ to arrive ab\t five m9utes be=e ! comm5cem5t ( a p]=mance2 b if a g5tleman is escort+ a lady to an ent]ta9m5t :]e seats _c be secur$1 he %\ld call = h] at an e>ly h\r1 t %e may get a good place4 ,9 a picture-gall]y1 nev] /& conv]s+ be=e ! pa9t+s 9 su* a way z to int]rupt ! view ( o!rs4 ,if y wi% to conv]se1 /& aside or take seats & d s4 ,a g5tleman alone may jo9 lady fri5ds = a few mom5ts betwe5 ! acts at a !atre1 or 9 ! int]mission at a conc]t1 b only = a few mom5ts1 z _! escort has a prior claim ^u _! att5tion4 ,x is an act ( rud5ess to jo9 any p>ty ab\t to visit a place ( amusem5t1 or at "o1 unless urg5tly invit$1 & no "o ( ta/e w ev] =m a ?ird4 ,if two or ?ree ladies are 9 ! p>ty & b "o g5tleman1 ano!r g5tleman1 if well acqua9t$1 may (f] 8 s]vices z escort to "o ( ! ladies1 & if n all[$ to %>e ! exp5ses1 %\ld invite ! p>ty to p>take ( refre%m5ts aft] ! p]=mance is ov]4 ,always ent] a conc]t-hall or lecture-room z quietly z possible ,nev] pu% viol5tly ?r\gh a cr[d at a public place4 ,a lady w always f9d room made = h] if %e reque/s x1 or if x is reque/$ by h] escort4 ,aft] escort+ a lady to a place ( amusem5t1 a g5tleman may ask p]mission to call ! foll[+ morn+ or ev5+1 & ! lady mu/ be at home to receive t call4 ,%e %\ld take t opportunity to ?ank him = ! pleasure %e has enjoy$1 & f9d "s w>m words ( praise = ! p]=mance4 ,to sev]ely criticize on su* an occasion is rude to ! escort1 :o has int5d$ to give pleasure1 & ! p]=mance mu/ be bad inde$ :]e no?+ c be f\nd to m]it a ^w ( praise4 ,9 visit+ a fancy fair1 too _m p]sons act z if !y 7 9 a /ore1 *eap5+ ! articles (f]$ = sale1 & be+ c>eless ab\t _! criticisms & rem>ks4 ,x is impossible to tell :o may be w\nd$ by su* conduct4 ,! v lady :o (f]s y an article y pron\nce absolutely hide\s may h sp5t h\rs 9 its manufacture1 & feel proportionately hurt at y\r rem>ks4 ,c\rtesy & words ( praise are nev] m appreciat$ ?an by ^? :o h sp5t we>y h\rs 9 prep>+ = ?is mo/ tr\blesome ( all *>ities4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ! position ( a lady at ! table ( a fancy fair is necess>ily an expos$ "o1 & requires a great am\nt ( mode/ dignity to support x4 ,flirt+1 l\d talk+1 importunate entreaties to unwill+ fri5ds to buy y\r goods1 are all 9 bad ta/e2 & x is equally bad to leave y\r place e few mom5ts to visit ! refre%m5t-table 9 company ) y\r g5tlem5 fri5ds4 ,we he>d a lady boa/ once t %e _h be5 sev5te5 times 9 "o day to ! refre%m5t-table = ! good ( ! fair1 & we c\ld n b ?9k ! cause might h be5 aid$ )\t q su* a display ( ga/ronomic en]gy4 ,no true lady w foll[ fri5ds all ar\nd ! room (f]+ goods = sale1 nor =ce articles on reluctant pur*as]s by appeal+ to _! gallantry4 ,9 ent]+ a fancy fair :]e _m ladies are pres5t1 /rict etiquette requires a g5tleman to remove 8 hat1 & c>ry x :il/ 9 ! room1 b x is a rule mu* neglect$4 ,x is rude = a lady to take advantage ( ! rule :i* prev5ts a g5tleman f ask+ = *ange at a fair4 ,if he says1 9 pres5t+ a l>g] am\nt ?an ! pur*as$ article calls =1 ,pray accept ! balance = ! object = :i* y are work+1 %e may1 ( c\rse1 place ! gift 9 h] ca%-box2 o!rwise x is m lady-l to give back ! *ange4 ,,s]vants4 ,,x w\ld be difficult to express ! s5se ( etiquette on ?is subject bett] ?an by quot+ ,"l ,*e/]field's words3 ,i am m ^u my gu>d1 he writes1 z to my behavior to my s]vants & to o!rs :o are call$ my inf]iors ?an ,i am t[>ds my equals1 = fe> ( be+ suspect$ ( t mean & ung5]\s s5tim5t ( desir+ to make o!rs feel t diff]5ce :i* =tune has1 & p]haps too undes]v$ly1 made betwe5 u4 ,conduct t[>ds s]vants %\ld be always equal1 nev] viol5t1 nev] famili>4 ,speak to !m always ) civility1 b keep !m 9 _! prop] places4 ,give no occasion = !m to compla9 ( y2 b nev] suff] y\rself to compla9 ( !m )\t fir/ asc]ta9+ t y\r compla9t is j1 see+ t x has att5tion1 & t ! fault compla9$ ( is rem$i$4 ,bew>e ( giv+ s]vants ! in*2 !re is no class s prone1 "u su* circum/ances1 to take ! ell4 ,if /ay+ 9 a fri5d's h\se1 y may assume1 to a c]ta9 ext5t1 t y\r fri5d's s]vants are y\r s]vants4 ,b ?is mu/ be only s f> z y are y\rself conc]n$4 ,y mu/ n1 on any acc\nt1 give directions respect+ ! g5]al conduct ( ! m5age4 ,= all y\r own p]sonal wants1 h[ev]1 y are free to comm& _! s]vices4 ,ask = any?+1 "u _! control1 t may be lack+ 9 y\r own room2 = :atev] y ne$ at meal times2 let !m call y 9 ! morn+ if y sleep s\ndly2 d n s5d !m on err&s1 h[ev]1 )\t fir/ asc]ta9+ t x w n int]f]e ) _! regul> r\t9e ( h\sehold duty2 b d any?+ & ev]y?+ requir$ = y\r own p]sonal conv5i5ce & com=t ?r\gh ! s]vants4 ,x is contr>y to all laws ( etiquette to tr\ble y\r ho/ or ho/ess ) all y\r petty wants4 ,nev] apologize = ! tr\ble y give !m2 b if y %\ld1 ?r\gh illness or o!r cause1 occasion m "w ?an a visitor ord9>ily br+s to a h\sehold1 let ! gift1 :i*1 9 any case1 y w\ld make to ! s]vants on leav+ ! h\se1 be some:at heavi] ?an w\ld o!rwise h be5 necess>y4 ,?is "q ( fees to s]vants is a v important "o4 ,_m p are dispos$ to reg>d x z an imposition :i* is tol]at$ only ?r\gh ! =ce ( cu/om4 ,o!rs view x 9 ! light ( pay+ = an extra burd51 :i* _! pres5ce has laid ^u ! s]vant's %\ld]s4 ,! latt] view1 if n entirely ! correct "o1 is1 at lea/1 z reasonable z ! =m]1 & a g5]\s nature w probably adopt x4 ,! opposition w say1 ,b all _c af=d to make ^! pres5ts1 & ,! s]vants are hir$ on ! express und]/&+ t !y w h to s]ve _! employ]'s gue/s1 z "p ( ! "w !y are engag$ to d4 ,!re is some?+ 9 ?is2 b1 on ! o!r h&1 x might be ask$1 ,d any ( y :o compla9 ( hav+ to make ^! involunt>y gifts = extra s]vice on ! "p ( ! s]vants1 re/ satisfi$ 9 y\r own m9d :5 y\r pr(ession1 bus9ess1 or ! s]vice f :i* y draw y\r s\rce ( liv+1 requires extra ex]tions f y8 ,y are1 p]haps1 ! manag] ( ! greate/ bank t ev] 0 op5$1 or ! director ( ! l>ge/ dep>tm5t "u ! control ( ! ,/ate4 ,d y n1 :5 any?+ m ?an usual is requir$ ( y1 look =1 if y d n get1 extra remun]ation1 9 ! %ape ( promotion1 money1 or te/imonials8 ,i am sure y d1 if y w\ld speak hone/ly1 &1 if s1 h[ c y suppose s]vants %\ld expect o!rwise8 ,:e!r !y get all !y look =1 or ?9k !y ought to h1 is a sep>ate affair4 ,p]haps y1 too1 d n get all y deem y\rself to m]it4 ,! sy/em ( fees is1 no d\bt1 l all o!r human in/itutions1 liable to consid]able abuse4 ,at "o "t x 0 consid]$ b5ea? ! dignity ( a g5tleman to give any?+ b gold1 & :il/ t sup]/ition prevail$1 x mu/ d\btless h press$ v h>d ^u poor p1 to :om to g into society 0 to be ru9\sly f9$1 )\t ! privilege ( appeal4 ,ev5 at ! pres5t day1 !re are c]ta9 classes ( s]vants :o are z dea?1 & _c be satisfi$1 unless _! 'it*+ palms are heavily lad5 ) _! fee2 b !y are b r>ely approa*$ by poor] p4 ,) reg>d to ! am\nt ( fees to s]vants 9 a h\sehold1 x is n possible to lay d[n any precise rule4 ,mu* mu/ dep5d on ! l5g? ( ! visit1 ! position ( ! ma/] ( ! h\se1 & ! position 9 :i* y are suppos$ to /& t[>d him2 & on ea* ( ^! po9ts y mu/ ex]cise y\r own discretion1 & consult y\r own means or g5]osity4 ,g5tlem5 give fees to ! m5 s]vants only1 z a g5]al rule1 & ladies give to ! female s]vants only2 & ?\gh ! /rict obs]vance ( ?is rule may seem at times to "w inju/ice1 x is bett] to adh]e to x ?an to m> ! com=t & position ( ^? :o come aft] y1 & :o may n h ! means ( be+ lib]al ov] & above ! prescrib$ /&>d4 ,"u no circum/ances is a lady call$ ^u by ! rules ( etiquette to give fees to m5 s]vants2 ! lady's-maid & ! h\semaid are ! only ones %e is expect$ to rememb]2 b if a g5tleman visit :]e only female s]vants are employ$1 he %\ld make !m a pres5t on 8 dep>ture4 ,fee+ ! s]vants 9 a hotel is op5 to _m objections1 z x is apt to influ5ce !m unduly 9 second or ?ird arrivals at ! same h\se2 b x is a cu/om s fix$ t x has become second nature to !m to look = x4 ,x is c]ta9ly a p]son's own fault if he submits to be+ fleec$ by ! s]vants ill a hotel4 ,att5dance is c]ta9ly includ$ 9 ! high prices *>g$1 yet ! cu/om prevails 9 spite ( x1 & ^? :o d n comply ) x w soon f9d ! diff]5ce1 al?\gh !re may be no?+ suffici5tly imp]t95t or neglig5t = positive compla9t4 ,fees to railway port]s & o!rs are c]ta9ly n requir$ by ! rules ( etiquette to be paid4 ,! paym5t ( !m is inde$ =bidd5 by _m ( ! railway companies2 b ! receiv+ ( !m is w9k$ at1 ! result be+ t travell]s :o want att5dance are1 = ! mo/ "p1 oblig$ to pay = x4 ,! sy/em is1 h[ev]1 a p]nici\s "o1 & travell]s %\ld disc\rage x z mu* z possible1 if only = ! sake ( ^? :o _c af=d to su/a9 x4 ,i am sorry1 said a g5tleman to a port] 7ne$ we say an ,iri%man87 :o _h look$ aft] a numb] ( p>cels1 & /[$ !m conv5i5tly away 9 ! c>1 t ! regulations ( ! company d n all[ me to give y a %ill+4 ,if y\r honor1 repli$ ! port]1 ) a gr91 7 to lose two1 ,i %\ld "k :]e to f9d !m4 ,at a d9n] p>ty1 an ev5+ company1 a ball1 or l occasions1 x is cu/om>y1 on com+ away1 to give a trifle1 ! g5tleman to ! wait] :o h&s him 8 hat1 etc41 ! lady to ! att5dant 9 ! dress+-room2 b y are n call$ ^u to rememb] e s]vant 9 att5dance4 ,!re is a /ory told ( an old ,engli% g5tleman1 ri* en\gh to be above ! sugge/ion ( pov]ty1 & notori\sly lib]al en\gh to be above ! imputation ( meanness1 :o1 be+ at a d9n] p>ty1 0 pres5t$ by "o s]vant ) 8 hat4 ,to ?is man he gave a %ill+4 ,ano!r advanc$1 & help$ him into 8 coat1 & to him ! old g5tleman also gave a %ill+4 ,a ?ird gave him 8 cane1 & receiv$ 9 ex*ange a %ill+2 b :5 a f\r? approa*$1 be>+ 8 gloves1 ! old g5tleman gaz$ ^u him = a mom5t1 & !n said1 quietly3 ,y may keep !m1 my good man2 x'll be *eap] = me ?an to receive !m1 & !n walk$ out4 ,?is 01 h[ev]1 an abuse ( advantage on ! "p ( ! s]vants1 :i*1 if repeat$1 o!rs w\ld d well to rebuke 9 a simil> mann]4 ,an ,engli% writ] on ?is subject gives "s h9ts t w\ld be equally conducive to regul>ity & com=t if adopt$ 9 ?is c\ntry1 say+3 ,!re is no "q b t we %\ld seek to p]=m all our duties )\t hope ( recomp5se2 & yet1 z reg>ds our treatm5t ( s]vants1 we %\ld be especially c>eful t1 9 endeavor+ to make _! bodily com=t & m5tal improvem5t an object ( consid]ation1 we d n all[ ourselves to dwell ^u ! hope ( gratitude or affection f !m 9 return4 ,_m h done s1 & hav+1 ) t view1 be5 tempt$ to accord unwise indulg5ces & to ov]look s]i\s faults1 !y h f\nd t1 f> f ga9+ ! love ( _! s]vants1 !y h incurr$ _! contempt2 & :5 !y h p]ceiv$ t _! favors1 unappreciat$1 h l$ b to new encroa*m5ts1 !y h h>d5$ _! he>ts1 & ru%$ into an opposite extreme4 ,!n !y h consid]$ _! s]vants z m]e ma*9es1 f :i* labor mu/ be extort$ by all available means4 ,a man-s]vant is r>ely grateful1 & seldom atta*$4 ,he is g5]ally incapable ( appreciat+ ^? advantages :i*1 ) y\r cultivat$ judgm5t1 y "k to be mo/ conducive to 8 welf>e4 ,d y accord to him regul> h\rs1 & a /at$ all[ance ( "w2 d y refra9 f s5d+ him out because x is wet1 & he is unwell2 d y s]ve y\rself r ?an r+ = him at d9n] "t1 he w r>ely h ! grace to ?ank y 9 8 he>t = y\r con/ant consid]ation4 ,he> him4 ,he w ?us describe a com=table place3' ,!re 7 v few 9 ! family2 :5 !y w5t out ( a night1 we made x up 9 ! morn+2 we _h nice hot supp]s1 & ! cook made a good ha% = breakfa/1 & we always get lun*eon betwe5 t & d9n]2 & we 7 all v com=table toge!r1 & _h a fri5d 9 :5 we lik$4 ,ma/] swore at u sometimes1 b (t5 made u a pres5t = x :5 he _h be5 v viol5t2 a good-he>t$ man z ev] liv$1 & mi/ress 0 q ! lady1 & nev] m$dl$ ) s]vants4 ,x 0 a capital place4' ,s]vants' sympa?ies are ) _! equals4 ,!y feel = a poor s]vant run (f 8 legs1 & mop$ to dea?2 !y h no feel+ = a pa9/ak+ mi/ress1 economical bo? f pr9ciple & scanty means2 !y w\ld 7mo/ ( !m7 see h] prop]ty wa/$1 & h] confid5ce abus$ )\t compunction4 ,x is ! la/ ef=t ( virtue 9 a s]vant if1 )\t any private reason1 he %\ld dis*>ge 8 duty by in=m+ y ( ! injury :i* y are endur+ at ! h&s ( 8 fell[-s]vant4 ,x is an ef=t ( virtue2 = x w br+ d[n _m a bitt] taunt & h>d ^w ^u 8 fai?ful head4 ',i nev] got a s]vant out ( a place by tell+ tales on him1' w be said to him4 ,directly a s]vant dep>ts1 we all "k1 tongues ti$ be=e are loos5$ to ga9 our favor by app>5t c&or4 ,:5 x c avail u no?+1 we are told4 ,we all "k ?is1 & h said3',be sil5t n[2 y %\ld h m5tion$ ?is to me at ! "t x occurr$4' ,suppos+1 !n1 y h ! r>a avis1 ! s]vant t 'speaks at ! "t1' be *>y ( him--or let me say h] 7! be/ s]vants are wom574 ,oh6 z y value h]1 let h] n suppose y _c "p ) h]4 ,treat h] ) confid5ce1 b ) /rict imp>tiality2 reprove :]e necess>y1 mildly1 b decid$ly1 le/ %e %\ld presume 7p[] is s tempt+71 & compel y1 if y w\ld reta9 y\r fre$om1 to let h] g4 ,!re is "o ?+ a man-s]vant values beyond all t y\r k9dness & consid]ation c d = him--8 lib]ty2 lib]ty to eat1 dr9k1 & be m]ry1 ) y\r ?+s1 9 ! company ( 8 own fri5ds2 lib]ty to get ! h\semaid to clean 8 c&le/icks & br+ up 8 coals2 & ! h\semaid wi%es = lib]ty to lie 9 b$ 9 ! morn+1 because %e 0 up s late talk+ to ,john 9 ! pantry2 lib]ty to we> fl\nces & fl[]s4 ,! cook desires lib]ty too4 ,= ?is lib]ty1 if y grant x1 !y w despise y2 if y d5y x1 !y w respect y4 ,aim at _! e/eem2 despair ( _! love or gratitude2 make y\r place :at ! be/ class ( s]vants w value1 &1 ?\gh 9 _! he>t !y may n ?ank y = x1 y w ga91 p]haps1 "o s]vant out ( tw5ty :o w keep gross imposition & gross immorality at bay4 ,^! rem>ks c nev] be int5d$ to d5y ! w>m atta*m5t ( female s]vants to ! *ildr5 ( _! employ]s4 ,deep love1 no d\bt1 is lavi%$ by _m a woman on ! babe %e has nurs$4 ,!re is a great deal to be said on ! *apt] ( nurses2 :i* w\ld require to be dealt ) by itself4 ,mu* wisdom is requir$ 9 ! adm9i/ration ( a nurs]y1 to :i* b few g5]al rules w\ld apply4 ,cruel is ! tyranny ! nurse frequ5tly practises on ! p>5t1 :o (t5 refra9s f ent]+ h] nurs]y1 n f want ( love = h] *ildr51 b positive dread ( ! s\r looks :i* greet h]4 ,let h] be firm2 let no %r9k+ f griev+ h] d>l+1 :o w\ld 'break 8 he>t if 8 ,nana w5t1' det] h] f dis*>g+ ! encroa*+ s]vant4 ,on ! *oice ( s]vants mu* ( ! com=t ( ! "y h\sekeep] dep5ds4 ,x (t5 happ5s t h] *oice has be5 det]m9$ by appe>ance r ?an ! value ( "*4 ,if su* be ! case1 %e w h _m difficulties to enc\nt]4 ,x is1 9 ! pres5t day1 h>dly safe to take a s]vant if !re be a s+le objection to "*1 h[ev] x may be gloss$ ov] by ! p]son ref]r$ to on ?is po9t2 = !re is n[ an unheal?y disposition to pass ov] ! fail+s ( s]vants :o h left _! places1 & to make !m p]fect 9 ! eyes ( o!rs4 ,9 respect to sobriety1 _m p w n ackn[l$ge t a s]vant _h _h ! vice ( dr9k+1 b w cov] ! unpleasant tru? ) su* g5tle & plausible t]ms t x becomes difficult to compreh5d h[ f> ! h9t is gr\nd$1 or n4 ,be assur$ :5 a lady or g5tleman hesitates on ?is po9t1 or on t ( hone/y1 x is wis] n to engage a s]vant4 ,nor are y deviat+ f ,*ri/ian *>ity 9 n ov]look+ a d]eliction ( s mat]ial a sort4 ,! k9de/ plan to ! va/ community ( dome/ic s]vants is to be rigid 9 all important po9ts1 &1 hav+1 aft] a due exp]i5ce1 a j confid5ce 9 !m1 to be some:at m indulg5t to errors ( a m trivial nature4 ,x is always desirable to h1 if possible1 s]vants ( "o fai? ,b if x s happ5s t y h a ,roman ,ca?olic s]vant & a ,prote/ant 9 y\r s]vice1 y are b\nd to all[ ea* ! free ex]cise ( h] religion1 & y ought n to respect !m if1 out ( int]e/1 !y w con=m to y\rs4 ,an ex]cise ( au?ority on ?is po9t am\nts1 9 my op9ion1 to an act ( tyranny1 & x c only t5d to promote ins9c]ity1 &1 p]haps1 eng5d] skepticism 9 its object4 ,no?+ is1 inde$1 s dang]\s z to unsettle ! fai? ( ! l[] classes1 :o h nei!r "t nor opportunity ( fairly consid]+ subjects ( religi\s controv]sy4 ,:ile on ! subject ( s]vants1 ,i mu/ deprecate ! ov] indulg5ce ( ! pres5t sy/em t[>ds !m4 ,=m]ly !y 7 treat$ ) real k9dness2 b x 0 ! k9dness t exact$ duty 9 return1 & took a real int]e/ 9 ! welf>e ( ea* s]vant4 ,! reciprocal tie 9 =m] times betwe5 s]vant & ma/] 0 /rong2 n[ x is :olly gone4 ,! easy rule ( ma/]s & mi/resses proce$s f> m f indiff]5ce ?an f k9dness ( he>t2 = ! real *>ity is to keep s]vants /eadily to _! duties4 ,!y are a class ( p]sons to :om mu* leisure is de/ruction2 ! pursuits ( _! idle h\rs are seldom advantage\s to !m1 & !irs are n m9ds1 g5]ally1 :i* c ?rive 9 repose4 ,idl5ess1 to !m1 is peculi>ly ! root ( all evil2 = if _! "t is n sp5t 9 vici\s amusem5ts1 x is (t5 pass$ 9 sc&al1 discont5t1 & vanity4 ,9 writ+ ?us1 ,i d n recomm5d a h>d or inconsid]ate sy/em to s]vants4 ,!y require1 & 9 _m in/ances !y m]it1 all t c be done to alleviate a situation ( s]vitude4 ,!y ought n to be ! slaves ( caprice or ! victims ( temp]4 ,_! "w %\ld be measur$ out ) a j h&2 b x %\ld be regul>ly exact$ 9 z mu* p]fection z c be expect$ 9 v>iable & err+ human nature4 ,ano!r po9t on :i* ,i w\ld recomm5d firmness is t ( e>ly h\rs4 ,9 ?is respect1 example is z important z precept2 b1 h[ev] unc]ta9 y may be y\rself1 ,i w\ld n relax a rule ( ?is k9d2 = e com=t dur+ ! day dep5ds on ! e>ly ris+ ( y\r s]vants4 ,)\t ?is1 all _! sev]al dep>tm5ts are hurri$ ?r\gh or neglect$ 9 "s important respect4 ,y\r mode ( address to s]vants mu/ be decisive1 yet mild4 ,! au?oritative tone ,i d n recomm5d4 ,x is v unbecom+ to any "y p]son1 & x r>ely atta9s ! end desir$2 b !re is a quiet dignity ( deportm5t :i* few s]vants ev] c resi/4 ,?is %\ld be temp]$ ) k9dness1 :5 circum/ances call x =?1 b %\ld nev] desc5d to famili>ity2 = no caution is m truly k9d ?an t :i* conf9es s]vants /rictly to _! own sph]e4 ,mu* evil results f ! t5d5cy1 m especially ( ! v "y or ( v old mi/resses ( families1 to p>tiality4 ,commonly1 "o s]vant becomes ! almo/ av[$ favorite2 & x is difficult to say :e!r t display ( p>tiality is ! m p]nici\s to ! s]vant :o is ! object ( x1 or to ! rankl+ & jeal\s m9ds ( ! re/ ( ! h\sehold4 ,x is true t x is q impossible to avoid ent]ta9+ a great] degree ( confid5ce 9 "s s]vants ?an 9 o!rs2 b x %\ld be %[n ) a due reg>d to ! feel+s ( all4 ,x is1 ( c\rse1 all[able t[>ds ^? :o take a decid$ly responsible & confid5tial situation 9 a h\sehold4 ,/ill1 nev] let su* p]sons assume ! re9s ( gov]nm5t2 let !m act ! "p ( helmsm5 to ! vessel1 b n aspire to ! control ( ! capta94 ,x is g5]ally wise & "r1 aft] a due exp]i5ce ( ! pr9ciples & int5tions ( s]vants1 to place confid5ce 9 _! hone/y1 & to let !m h ! com=t ( kn[+ t y d s4 ,at ! same "t1 nev] cease to ex]cise a sy/em ( sup]vision4 ,! great pr9ciple ( h\sekeep+ is regul>ity1 & )\t ?is 7"o ( ! mo/ difficult ( ! m9or virtues to practise71 all ef=ts to promote ord] mu/ be ineffectual4 ,i h se5 en]getic wom51 clev] & well-int5tion$1 fail 9 atta9+ a good me?od1 ow+ to _! be+ unc]ta9 9 h\rs1 gov]n$ by impulse1 & caprici\s4 ,i h se5 wom51 inf]ior 9 capacity1 sl[1 & apa!tic1 make excell5t heads ( families1 z f> z _! h\sehold 0 conc]n$1 f _! /ead9ess & regul>ity4 ,_! v p[] ( endur+ monotony has be5 favorable to _! success 9 ?is way1 especially if !y are n call$ ^u to act 9 peculi> & difficult cases1 9 :i* _! actual inf]iority is traceable4 ,b ^! are n ! ord9>y circum/ances ( life4 ,9 ?is c\ntry1 s]vants are prov]bially m tr\blesome ?an 9 ,europe1 :]e s]vice is (t5 transmitt$ ?r\gh g5]ations 9 "o family4 ,"h1 ! h\sekeep] is oblig$ to *ange (t51 tak+ frequ5tly ! mo/ ignorant ( ! l[] classes ( =eign]s to tra9 into good & useful s]vants1 only to h !m become dissatisfi$ z soon z !y become acqua9t$ ) o!rs1 :o in/ill ! republican doctr9e ( p]fect equality into _! m9ds1 ru9+ !m = good s]vants4 ,!re are "s po9ts ( etiquette1 h[ev]1 ^u :i* e lady %\ld insi/3 ,nev] all[ a s]vant to keep p wait+ ^u ! door /ep4 ,nev] all[ s]vants to treat any "o disrespectfully4 ,nev] all[ s]vants to turn _! own prop] duties ov] to ! *ildr5 or o!r s]vants by a bribe4 ,_m fond p>5ts w\ld be amaz$ if !y knew h[ mu* runn+ & actual "w 0 p]=m$ by little ,nellie or ,*>lie1 & h[ _m fits ( my/]i\s indige/ion 7 caus$ by ! ri* cake1 c&y1 or half-ripe fruit t paid = ! s]vice & brib$ ! sil5ce4 ,nev] all[ a s]vant to keep a visitor /&+ p>ley+ on ! door-/ep1 :ile %e holds ! door aj>4 ,tra9 ! door-s]vant to admit any call] promptly1 %[ !m to ! p>lor1 br+ up _! c>ds at once1 & return ) y\r answ] or message4 ,!re are two occasions 9 a man's lifetime :5 may he make 8 acc\nt ) lib]ality to s]vants1 :e!r he w or :e!r he w n4 ,^! two are ! occasions ( 8 m>riage & 8 fun]al4 ,on 8 m>riage1 ! bridegroom is expect$ to make pres5ts to all ! s]vants ( 8 fa!r-9-law or "m-9-law1 r accord+ to _! expectations ?an accord+ to 8 means4 ,to old s]vants1 :o h be5 atta*$ to ! bride1 ! bridegroom w naturally wi% to give "s tok5 ( ! value he sets ^u _! devotion4 ,new dresses1 new %awls1 money1 or a h&some equival5t ( x1 are expect$4 ,money is usually giv5 to ! o!r s]vants2 ,! am\nts mu/1 ( c\rse1 dep5d1 9 a great degree1 ^u ! means ( ! bridegroom2 b he mu/ be prep>$ = a heavy outlay on ! occasion1 if ! s]vants be num]\s4 ,,hotel ,,etiquette4 ,,let u />t ?is *apt] by say+ t no ^w ( x is address$ to ! /]n] sex1 :o w f9d h9ts = _! etiquette "u ! head ( ,travell+2 b x is = ! especial guidance ( ladies1 _m ( :om 9 ?is indep5d5t c\ntry travel )\t escort4 ,:5 a lady arrives alone at a hotel1 %e %\ld1 if possible1 be provid$ ) a lett] ( introduction to ! proprietor2 %e %\ld s5d = him imm$iately ^u h] arrival1 pres5t h] lett]1 or h] c>d1 & m5tion ! "t = :i* %e desires to secure a room4 ,9 go+ to meals1 a lady %\ld reque/ "o ( ! wait]s to meet h] at ! d9+-room door1 & escort h] to ! table1 sav+ h] ! awkw>dness ( cross+ ! room alone1 & %[+ o!rs t %e is a regul> resid5t 9 ! h\se4 ,%e may keep ! s]vices ( ?is wait] at table dur+ h] /ay1 & %\ld give him a pres5t ( money be=e leav+4 ,9 giv+ an ord] at a public table1 a lady %\ld decide quickly :at di%es %e desires1 & ord] !m 9 a l[ b di/9ct tone4 ,no lady w />e r\nd ! room1 fidget ) h] napk91 plate1 knife1 or =k1 play ) ! salt1 or exhibit any awkw>d emb>rassm5t1 :ile wait+ = a meal to be s]v$4 ,x is all[able to look ov] a newspap] 9 ! int]val at breakfa/2 b ! habit1 q common1 ( c>ry+ a novel to ! table is n lady-l4 ,if a lady accepts any civility f a g5tleman at ! same table1 su* z plac+ butt]1 sug>1 or wat] ne>] to h] plate1 %e mu/ ?ank him2 b by no means />t a conv]sation ) him4 ,if a lady h fri5ds at ! table1 %e may conv]se 9 a l[1 quiet tone2 b any l\d tone1 laugh+ extravagantly1 or ge/iculations1 are exce$+ly ill-br$4 ,to comm5t ^u o!rs pres5t1 ei!r al\d or 9 a :isp]1 is extremely rude4 ,a lady mu/ nev] po9t to any di% %e wi%es pass$ to h]4 ,if %e _c call x by "n1 a well-tra9$ wait] w "k h] wi%es if %e looks at ! di%4 ,any bold action or boi/]\s deportm5t 9 a hotel w expose a lady to ! mo/ sev]e c5sure ( ! ref9$ ar\nd h]1 & may r5d] h] liable to miscon/ruction1 & imp]t95ce4 ,greet+s (f]$ by o!r ladies at ! table1 or 9 ! p>lor1 %\ld n be too ha/ily *eck$1 z ! acqua9tance s =m$ is nev] requir$ by etiquette to be recogniz$ else:]e4 ,a lady alone at a hotel %\ld we> ! mo/ mode/ & lea/ conspicu\s dress appropriate to ! h\r ( ! day4 ,full dress mu/ n be worn unless %e has an escort pres5t4 ,a lady %\ld nev] g alone to ! supp]-table aft] t5 o'clock4 ,if %e returns f an ent]ta9m5t at a lat] h\r1 & has no escort to supp]1 %e %\ld h t meal s5t to h] room4 ,a lady %\ld c>efully lock h] trunks be=e leav+ h] room at a hotel1 & %\ld give h] purse & jewelry into ! c>e ( ! proprietor on h] arrival1 r++ = !m if %e requires !m dur+ h] /ay4 ,no lady %\ld op5 a w9d[ 9 a hotel p>lor1 if !re are o!r ladies ne> x1 )\t fir/ asc]ta9+ t x w n inconv5i5ce !m4 ,no lady %\ld use ! piano ( a hotel un9vit$ if !re are o!rs 9 ! room4 ,x looks bold & =w>d to display ev5 ! mo/ f9i%$ musical education 9 ?is way4 ,x is /ill worse to s+4 ,a lady %\ld nev] g h]self to ! door ( a hotel to call a hack4 ,r+ = a s]vant to p]=m ?is (fice1 & he w br+ ! hack to ! ladies' entrance4 ,no lady %\ld /& or l+] 9 ! halls ( a hotel1 b pass ?r\gh !m quietly1 nev] /opp+ alone = a mom5t4 ,no lady %\ld /& alone at ! front w9d[s ( a hotel p>lor1 nor may %e walk out on ! por*1 or1 inde$1 any conspicu\s place4 ,a lady is n expect$ to recognize h] fri5ds across ! p>lor or d9+-room ( a hotel4 ,no scold+ ( s]vants is p]missible 9 a hotel4 ,if !y are neglig5t or disrespectful1 compla9 to ! h\sekeep] or l&lord2 x is _! bus9ess to keep ! dome/ics 9 ord]1 n t ( _! gue/s4 ,= a lady to g up ! /airs ( a hotel s++ is ill-br$1 & may expose h] to rud5ess4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to take any newspap]1 book1 or music y may f9d 9 a hotel p>lor to y\r own room1 ev5 if y return x4 ,loll+ or l\ng+ 9 a public p>lor c nev] be p]mitt$ to a lady4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette = a lady to t\* h] baggage 9 a hotel aft] x is pack$4 ,!re are pl5ty ( s]vants to att5d to x1 & !y %\ld c>ry to ! hack ev5 ! travell+- %awl1 sat*el1 & railway novel4 ,no?+ looks m awkw>d ?an to see a lady1 ) bo? h&s full1 /umbl+ up ! /eps ( a hotel hack4 ,no lady mu/ ev] pass 9 or out at ! public entrance ( a hotel4 ,!re is always an entrance = ladies especially1 & x is bold & unbecom+ = !m to be se5 9 ! "o appropriat$ to g5tlem54 ,a g5tleman :o w escort a lady ?r\gh ! public entrance %[s a lam5table ignorance ( ! usages ( hotel life4 ,,w$d+ ,,etiquette4 ,,to ^? :o require to be taught h[ !y may express !mselves 9 ^? delicate negotiations :i* prec$e ! "q ( m>riage1 ?is little book is n address$4 ,x is n propos$ to introduce =m & c]emony into t :i* %\ld spr+ purely & spontane\sly f ! he>t1 & :i* %\ld be ! mo/ natural expression ( a mo/ natural feel+1 9 connection ) :i* etiquette w\ld be simply a mock]y4 ,etiquette1 be+ only a sy/em devis$ & f\nd conv5i5t = ! social rule & guidance ( ! _m1 _c by any possibility be appli$ to ! conduct ( two :o may reasonably be suppos$ to be acqua9t$ ) ea* o!r's s5tim5ts be=e !y beg9 to speak ab\t !m4 ,if !y are n s acqua9t$1 all ! etiquette 9 ! _w _c help !m1 nor pres]ve !m f mak+ :at may be a blund] ( ! mo/ awkw>d k9d4 ,!re are p :o pr(ess to tea* h[ & 9 :at t]ms an (f] ( m>riage %\ld be made1 :e!r by lett] or by m\?1 &1 9 ei!r case1 :at %\ld be said4 ,i pret5d to no su* k1 believ+ t if ! he>t _c sugge/ ! way & ! words1 no?+ else c d s4 ,yet1 ! wis] way1 usually1 is 9 spee*4 ,lett]s are seldom expressive ( :at really passes 9 ! m9d ( a man2 or1 if expressive1 seem fooli%1 s9ce deep feel+s are liable to exagg]ation4 ,e writt5 ^w may be ! !me ( cavil4 ,/udy1 c>e1 :i* avail 9 e o!r species ( composition1 are dea? to ! lov]'s effusion4 ,a few s5t5ces1 spok5 9 e>ne/1 & brok5 by emotion1 are m eloqu5t ?an pages ( s5tim5t1 bo? to p>5ts & daught]4 ,! place ( etiquette1 ! social law :i* regulates ! conduct ( engag$ p t[>ds o!rs1 & ( o!r p t[>ds !m1 is imm$iately aft] ! ann\ncem5t ( ! engagem5t2 !n !re is scope = ! display ( good mann]s & good bre$+1 & !re are c]ta9 rules :i* mu/ be obs]v$4 ,"s memb]s ( ! g5tleman's family1 8 ne>e/ relations1 %\ld call ^u ! family ( ! lady1 & !y %\ld return ! call z soon z possible4 ,x is by no means necess>y t ! two families %\ld be intimate2 !re may be good & suffici5t reasons :y !y %\ld n be s2 all t is necess>y is ! %[ ( civility1 :i* is includ$ 9 ! int]*ange ( visits4 ,if ! family ( ! g5tleman does n reside 9 ! same city z t ( ! lady1 ! ann\ncem5t ( ! engagem5t %\ld be foll[$ by lett]s f 8 p>5ts or ne>e/ relatives to ! "y lady h]self or h] p>5ts4 ,k9dly & cordial feel+ %\ld be ! prevail+ tone ( su* lett]s1 & !y mu/ be answ]$ at once4 ,?\gh x is (t5 true t ! g5tleman :o aspires to love "o memb] ( a family mu/ make 8 acc\nt 9 lov+ all ! re/ 9 "s degree1 !re is no necessity = su* a display ( amiability on ! "p ( ! lady4 ,x is cu/om>y = ! g5tleman to make "s pres5t to 8 fiancee soon aft] ! engagem5t4 ,! mo/ elegant & desirable pres5t is a h&some r+1 ! engagem5t r+1 :i* %\ld be ei!r ( diamonds or pe>ls4 ,! lady sometimes returns a simil> r+1 or ! g5tleman has two made exactly simil>1 ea* ( ! betro!d we>+ "o4 ,! fir/ pres5t mu/ be made by ! g5tleman4 ,x is v prop] = ?is fir/ pres5t to be foll[$ by gifts ^u appo9t$ days1 z bir?days1 ,*ri/mas1 or ,new ,ye>'s ,day1 & ! lady is at p]fect lib]ty to return ! complim5t4 ,x is consid]$ m elegant = ! g5tleman to (f] jewelry1 ! lady "s gift :i* is ! "w ( h] own h&s1 z a h&some pair ( embroid]$ slipp]s1 a h&k]*ief ) ri*ly embroid]$ monograms1 a cig>-case embroid]$1 or "s simil> gift4 ,:5 once ! engagem5t is all[$1 x is ! cu/om to admit ! g5tleman into ! intimate society ( 8 newly-adopt$ relatives2 he is look$ ^u z some?+ m ?an a pot5tial memb] ( ! family2 he is implicitly tru/$ 9 e way4 ,x is a gross brea* ( good mann]s to omit ! g5tleman f any invitation 9 :i* 8 fiancee is includ$1 & !re are n _m "y ladies :o w\ld cons5t to accept su* an invitation4 ,!re is1 h[ev]1 no rule ( etiquette =bidd+ an engag$ lady to d s1 if %e s desires4 ,9 return = ! memb]%ip :i* is accord$ to him 9 ! lady's family1 ! engag$ man %\ld %[ all possible def]5ce t[>ds ! ( memb]s x1 especially to ! p>5ts4 ,t[>ds ! si/]s ( 8 lady love1 he %\ld be k9d2 & g5]ally att5tive1 & frank1 & cordial 9 8 int]c\rse ) h] bro!rs4 ,if !re are "y *ildr5 9 ! family1 no?+ w make him m popul> ) ! old] memb]s ?an an occasional gift ( toys or confection]y1 or an excursion dur+ ! holidays ) ! s*oolboys1 :o w readily swe> allegiance1 aft] su* a trip1 to ! man ,emily is go+ to m>ry1 or 7vulg> little wret*es t !y are7 to ,amelia's beau4 ,x is n accord+ to ! /rict laws ( etiquette = ! bro!rs & si/]s to call ! new memb] at fir/ by 8 ,*ri/ian "n4 ,mu* w dep5d on 8 age & 8 disposition4 ,!re are "s p :om "o c nev] address o!rwise ?an =mally1 :ile ) o!rs x seems p]fect nons5se to call !m o!rwise ?an by ! mo/ famili> t]m4 ,if n a positive requirem5t ( etiquette1 x is1 at lea/1 a politic ?+ to pay consid]able att5tion to ! future "m- 9-law4 ,to occupy a good place 9 h] e/eem & affection is to smoo? _m a furr[1 :i* o!rwise might trip "o up 9 8 walk ov] ! t5d] gr\nd t leads to matrimony4 ,an engag$ man %\ld nev] =get ! exce$+ly abnormal position he occupies ) ref]5ce to ! lady's family2 ! inconv5i5ce 8 pres5ce may occasion1 & ! am\nt ( =be>ance necess>y on _! p>ts to insure ev5 a fri5dly /atus = him 9 ! h\sehold4 ,he %\ld endeavor to repay ?is by a c>eful att5tion to ! g5]al rules ( ! family1 & ev5 to ! p>ticul> fancies ( ! memb]s2 he %\ld rigidly obs]ve _! h\rs = meals1 & be c>eful n to /ay lat] 9 ! ev5+ ?an ! usual h\r = ! h\sehold to retire4 ,!re %\ld be ! mo/ p]fect c&or1 on ! g5tleman's "p1 conc]n+ ! /ate ( 8 f9ancial affairs1 & he %\ld respectfully consid] ! worldly position ( ! family he is to ent]1 nev] do+ any?+ to hurt _! feel+s1 ei!r by ^w or act1 %\ld _! /atus be bel[ 8 own1 & nev] pr(ess+ scorn or contempt = weal? or p[]1 %\ld _! /atus be high] ?an 8 own4 ,dur+ ! arrangem5t ( pecuni>y matt]s1 a "y lady %\ld endeavor to und]/& :at is go+ on1 receiv+ x 9 a "r _s4 ,if %e has a private =tune1 %e %\ld1 9 all po9ts left to h]1 be g5]\s & confid+2 at ! same "t1 prud5t4 ,_m a man1 %e %\ld rememb]1 may ab\nd 9 excell5t qualities1 & yet be improvid5t4 ,he may mean to d well1 yet h a passion = build+2 he may be ! v s\l ( good nature1 yet be fond ( ! gam+-table2 he may h no wrong prop5sities1 & yet h a confus$ notion ( acc\nts1 & be "o ( ^? un=tunate m5 :o muddle away a great deal ( money1 no "o kn[s h[2 or he may be a too /rict economi/1 a man :o takes too good c>e ( ! p5ce1 till he tires 8 wife's life out ab\t an extra doll>2 or he may be facile1 or weakly good-natur$1 & h a fri5d :o preys on him1 & = :om he is dispos$ to become security4 ,f9ally1 ! belov$ ,*>les1 ,h5ry1 or ,reg9ald may h none ( ^! prop5sities1 b may *ance to be an hone/ m]*ant1 or a tradesman1 ) 8 float+ capital 9 bus9ess1 & a consequ5t risk ( be+ "o day ri*1 ! next a paup]4 ,^u e acc\nt1 !re=e1 x is necess>y = a "y lady to h a settlem5t on h]2 & %e %\ld n1 f a weak _s ( romance1 oppose h] fri5ds :o advise x1 s9ce x is = h] husb&'s advantage z well z h] own4 ,by mak+ a settlem5t1 !re is always a fund t _c be t\*$--a some?+1 h[ev] small1 z a provision = a wife & *ildr52 & :e!r %e h a =tune or n1 ?is ought to be made4 ,an all[ance = dress %\ld also be arrang$2 & ?is %\ld be adm9i/]$ 9 su* a way t a wife %\ld n h to ask = x at inconv5i5t times1 & ?us irritate h] husb&4 ,flirtations on ei!r side %\ld be avoid$1 n only z1 matt] ( etiquette1 b ( humanity4 ,no "o :o is really s9c]e 9 8 pr(essions w wi% to inflict pa9 on ! object ( 8 affections4 ,! same rem>k applies to ! o!r side4 ,c x be any?+ b pa9ful 9 ! extreme = a really lov+ he>t to see 9 ! belov$ "o a t5d5cy to trifle ) ! mo/ sacr$ emotions ( ! he>t8 ,x is n etiquette to make signal displays ( devotion 9 public1 or to be con/antly sitt+ ap>t f ! re/ ( ! company2 b1 on ! o!r h&1 ! au?orities w d well to make occasions :5 ! engag$ pair c be by !mselves1 do+ s1 n o/5tati\sly1 b r do+ x1 )\t speak+ ( x or draw+ att5tion to x4 ,no?+ c make an engag$ c\ple look m fooli%1 & feel m uncom=table1 ?an = ! family to quit ! room 9 :i* all h be5 sitt+1 ) "s su* rem>k z3 ,come away6 ,fanny & ,mr4 ,amor want ?is room to !mselves4 ,poor ,fanny6 ,9 equally bad ta/e is exclusiv5ess by ! happy c\ple !mselves4 ,_! devotions %\ld be res]v$ = a tete-a- tete1 & wom5 are g5]ally 9 fault :5 x is o!rwise4 ,!y l to exhibit _! conque/2 !y _c disp5se ) att5tions2 !y =get t ! demon/ration ( any peculi> condition ( ?+s 9 society mu/ make "s "o uncom=table3 ! "y ladies are uncom=table because !y are n equally happy2 ! "y g5tlem5 dete/ :at !y call nons5se2 ! old ?9k !re is a "t = all ?+s4 ,all sitt+ ap>t1 !re=e1 & especial displays are 9 bad ta/e2 & !y s (t5 accompany ins9c]ity1 t ! true/ affections are apt to be ^? :i* are res]v$ = ! g5u9e & he>tfelt intimacy ( private int]views4 ,at ! same "t1 airs ( indiff]5ce & avoidance %\ld be equally gu>d$ aga9/2 s9ce1 h[ev] /rong & mutual atta*m5t may be1 su* a l9e ( conduct is apt ne$lessly to mislead o!rs1 & s produce mis*ief4 ,true feel+1 & a ladylike consid]ation = o!rs--a po9t 9 :i* ! pres5t g5]ation ess5tially fails--are ! be/ guides = /e]+ betwe5 ! extremes ( demon/ration1 on ! "o h&1 & ( frigidity on ! o!r4 ,x is ! lady's exclusive privilege to appo9t ! w$d+-day2 & h[ev] impati5t ! lov]1 he mu/ submit pati5tly to h] decree ^u ?is important po9t4 ,:5 ! day is fix$1 x is cu/om>y = ! bridegroom to h ready = ! occasion a h&some pres5t1 usually a p>ure ( jewels1 b gov]n$1 ( c\rse1 by 8 means & g5]osity4 ,9 ,france1 ?is gift is call$ ! corbeille de m>iage1 & ! rule !re is to make its value t5 p] c5t4 ( ! bride's private =tune4 ,x consi/s ( a h&some basket or box1 conta9+ %awls1 jewels1 lace1 furs1 gloves1 fans1 & a purse conta9+ a sum ( money 9 new gold pieces4 ,?is gift is always plac$ on exhibition ) ! re/ ( ! w$d+ pres5ts4 ,x is etiquette = w$d+ pres5ts to be s5t always to ! bride1 nev] to ! bridegroom1 ?\gh !y be giv5 by fri5ds ( ! latt]4 ,!y may be s5t at any "t dur+ ! week previ\s to ! w$d+-day1 & x is cu/om>y to display !m1 h&somely arrang$ be=e ! c]emony4 ,9 s5d+ out invitations to a w$d+1 !re are two c>ds fold$ 9 ! invitation 9 ! envelope4 ,! invitation is 9 ! "n ( ! bride's "m-or if %e is n liv+1 ! relative or fri5d ne>e/ ! bride-& is z foll[s3 ,,mrs4 ,,leon ,,*ur* ,,at ,,home1 ,w$nesday1 ,octob] #bd?1 ,,f #aa ,,till #b o',,clock4 ,no4 #gd ,l--- ,,/reet4 ,! two c>ds1 "o l>ge & "o small1 are fold$ 9 ?is1 :i* is pr9t$ ^u h&some note-pap]4 ,^u ! l>ge c>d is engrav$3 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,t4 ,l4 ,,burns4 ,on ! small] "o3 ,,miss ,,c>ol9e ,,*ur*4 ,if1 h[ev]1 !re is no bridal reception on ! w$d+-day1 b ! "y p receive aft] _! return f ! bridal t\r1 ! c>d conta9+ _! jo9t names conta9s also ! date ( reception1 z3 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,t4 ,l4 ,,burns ,,at ,,home1 ,w$nesday1 ,nov5b] #ag?1 ,,f #aa ,,till #b ,o',,clock4 ,no4 #fad --- ,,/reet4 ,or1 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,t4 ,l4 ,,burns ,,at ,,home1 ,w$nesdays 9 ,novemnb]1 ,,f #aa ,,till #b ,o',,clock4 ,no4 #fad --- ,,/reet4 ,! bridal calls are n expect$ to be return$ until ! la/ day ( reception4 ,! bridegroom %\ld give to ! fir/ groomsman ! control ( affairs1 & ! money = ! necess>y exp5ses4 ,he x is :o pres5ts ! sn[y b\quet to ! bride1 ! bridegroom mak+ a simil> (f]+ to ! bridesmaids4 ,x is ! fir/ groomsman :o leads ! visitors up to ! "y c\ple = ! words ( congratulation4 ,x is he :o gives ! cl]gyman 8 fee1 :o engages ! c>riages1 &1 9 %ort1 makes all arrangem5ts4 ,if1 z is (t5 ! case1 ! :ole bridal p>ty g to ! depot to see ! happy pair />t = ! w$d+ trip1 x is !n ! fir/ groomsman :o secures tickets1 *ecks baggage1 & secures pleasant seats = ! ,b5$ict & bride4 ,x is 8 duty1 also1 to s5d ! notice ( ! m>riage to ! newspap]s4 ,9 ,engl& b "o groomsman1 or be/ man1 is all[$ to a bridal p>ty1 ?\gh ! bridesmaids may numb] a doz51 b 9 ?is c\ntry "o groomsman is all[$ = e bridesmaid4 ,if ! w$d+ takes place 9 *ur*1 x is cu/om>y to res]ve ! front seats 9 ! body ( ! *ur* = ! relatives ( ! "y c\ple4 ,x is ! height ( rud5ess = any "o1 :e!r cl]gyman1 bridegroom1 or any memb] ( ! bridal tra91 to keep ! bride wait+4 ,! cl]gyman %\ld be )9 ! rails1 ! bridegroom & groomsm5 %\ld be 9 ! ve/ry-room1 by ! "t bride is due at ! *ur*4 ,! bridesmaids may receive ! bride 9 ! ve/ibule1 or may accompany h] to ! *ur*4 ,! bridal p>ty %\ld meet 9 ! ve/ry-room4 ,!n ! bride1 lean+ on ! arm ( h] fa!r1 heads ! procession2 ! bridegroom1 ) ! bride's "m ^u 8 arm1 foll[s2 !n groomsm5 & bridesmaids 9 c\ples foll[4 ,at ! alt>1 ! bridegroom receives ! bride1 & ! c]emony beg9s4 ,! groomsm5 /& beh9d ! bridegroom1 ! bridesmaids beh9d ! bride4 ,! bride & bridegroom remove ! "r h&- glove 9 "s *ur*es2 9 o!rs x is n deem$ necess>y4 ,! bride /&s on ! left ( ! groom4 ,:5 ! w$d+ takes place at ! h\se ( ! bride1 x is cu/om>y to divide ! room1 ei!r by fold+ doors or a curta91 & all[ ! bridal p>ty to be gr\p$ be=e _! fri5ds see !m4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ?is is n conv5i5t1 !y ent] 9 ! same ord] z 9 *ur*4 ,x is some:at cu/om>y ( late = ! bride & groom to walk arm-9-arm to ! alt>2 b x is aga9/ e/abli%$ etiquette2 ! bride %\ld walk ) h] fa!r1 or1 if orphan$1 ) :oev] takes ! fa!r's place on ! occasion4 ,:]e a r+ is us$1 x is ! duty ( ! fir/ bridesmaid to remove ! bride's left-h& glove4 ,aft] ! c]emony1 ! p>5ts ( ! bride speak to h] fir/2 !n ! p>5ts ( ! bridegroom be=e o!r fri5ds4 ,aft] ! c]emony1 ! bride & groom g 9 ! same c>riage f ! *ur* to ! h\se1 or f ! h\se to ! railway depot4 ,if !re is a breakfa/ or supp]1 ! bride does n *ange h] dress until %e assumes h] travell+ dress4 ,if p>ties are giv5 to ! bride & groom1 ! groomsm5 & bridesmaids mu/ be also invit$1 &1 if !y pref]1 all may we> ! dress worn at ! w$d+4 ,?is is1 h[ev]1 optional4 ,dur+ ! =tnight foll[+ a w$d+1 fri5ds ( ! family %\ld call ^u ! "m ( ! bride4 ,x is contr>y to etiquette to we> m\rn+ to a w$d+4 ,ev5 9 ! case ( a wid[$ "m to ei!r ( ! happy pair1 x is cu/om>y to we> gray1 or "s neutral t9t1 ^u ! w$d+- day1 ev5 if ! deepe/ m\rn+ is resum$ aft]w>ds4 ,! bridal dress & ! co/ume ( ! bridesmaids are n matt]s t come s mu* )9 ! prov9ce ( etiquette z ( ! fa%ions1 :i* v>y z ! w9ds4 ,all t etiquette requires is t good ta/e %all guide ! :ole ( ! arrangem5ts4 ,pure :ite is ! only color worn by ! "y bride1 & ! full veil ( lace1 ) wrea? ( orange fl[]s1 is de rigueur2 b = a wid[1 pe>l-color or t9t$ silk1 )\t any veil or wrea?1 is bett]4 ,if ! bride is a maid5 no long] "y1 x is n 9 good ta/e to we> ! dress ( a y\?ful bride4 ,:ite gloves1 ve/s1 & ties are dem&$ = ! bridegroom & groomsm54 ,! bridesmaids may we> colors1 b a pretti] effect is produc$ by dresses ( pure :ite1 ) trimm+s only ( color4 ,! travell+ dress ( a bride %\ld be v mode/ 9 color & fa%ion1 z x is 9 extremely bad ta/e to draw att5tion to ! bride :5 travell+4 ,x is n etiquette1 at a w$d+ or w$d+ reception1 to congratulate ! bride2 x is ! bridegroom :o receives congratulations2 ! bride1 wi%es = h] future happ9ess4 ,a g5tleman or lady :o is acqua9t$ ) bo? bride & groom mu/ speak fir/ to ! bride2 b if a /rang] to ei!r1 may fir/ speak to ! "o ) :om he is already acqua9t$1 :o w !n introduce ! o!r4 ,if a /rang] to bo? bride & groom1 ! fir/ groomsman mu/ make ! introduction4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,baptisms4 ,,9 ! baptisms ( infants !re are c]ta9 cu/oms 9 ! _w ( good society1 indep5d5t ( ! religi\s c]emonies4 ,a few h9ts w suffice1 z ea* sect has its own peculi> =ms kn[n to ! memb]s ( t *ur*2 we d n pr(ess to guide ^!1 b m]ely ! worldly obs]vances4 ,x is n cu/om>y to invite m]e acqua9tances to be godfa!r or godmo!r to an infant2 ^! %\ld be tri$ fri5ds ( long /&+1 or bett] /ill1 ne> relations1 to :om ! obligations ?us impos$ w be pleasures & n tasks4 ,nev] invite any fri5ds to be godfa!r or godmo!r1 :o are n ( ! same *ur* z ! *ild to be baptiz$4 ,:5 y are invit$ to /& godfa!r or godmo!r to an infant1 nev] refuse )\t grave cause1 & !n d s imm$iately1 t ! p>5ts may h "t to make o!r arrangem5ts4 ,x is unk9d1 z well z impolite1 to refuse to act 9 ?is capacity t[>ds *ildr5 :o1 f pov]ty or o!r reasons1 may occupy an inf]ior position 9 society to y\r own4 ,x is cu/om>y to all[ ! godmo!r to select h]self ! godfa!r4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 cu/om>y = ! mat]nal gr&mo!r & ! pat]nal gr&fa!r to act z sponsors = ! fir/ *ild2 ! pat]nal gr&mo!r & ! mat]nal gr&fa!r z sponsors = ! second *ild4 ,if ! gr&-p>5ts are n liv+1 ! ne>e/ relatives ( ! same *ur* %\ld be invit$4 ,x is cu/om>y = ! sponsors to make ! babe a pres5t4 ,if x is a little boy1 ! godfa!r gives a silv] cup1 ) ! full "n engrav$ ^u x1 & ! godmo!r "s pretty piece ( silv]1 jewelry1 or dress4 ,if a little girl1 x is ! godmo!r :o gives ! cup1 & ! godfa!r ! o!r gift4 ,:]e ! sponsors are weal?y1 x is n unusual to fill ! *ri/5+- cup ) gold pieces4 ,! godmo!r (t5 adds to h] gift ! *ri/5+ robe & cap1 bo? trimm$ ) :ite ribbons--= a babe %\ld we> only pure :ite :5 pres5t$ = baptism4 ,x is contr>y to etiquette to invite "y p]sons to /& z sponsors = an infant4 ,9 ! ,roman ,ca?olic *ur*1 x is cu/om>y to baptize an infant z soon z possible4 ,if ! *ild is v delicate1 x is cu/om>y to s5d at once = ! prie/1 & h ! c]emony p] =m$ 9 ! b$-room2 b if ! babe is heal?y & likely to live1 x is usually tak5 to ! *ur* = baptism1 z "y z ! physician w p]mit4 ,9 ent]+ ! *ur*1 ! nurse1 c>ry+ ! *ild1 goes fir/2 !n foll[ ! sponsors1 :o d n walk arm-9-arm2 !n ! fa!r1 & aft] him ! invit$ gue/s4 ,:5 ! c]emony comm5ces1 ! sponsors /& on ea* side ( ! *ild1 ! godfa!r on ! "r1 & ! godmo!r on ! left4 ,! babe %\ld be held ly+ 9 ! arms ( ! nurse1 its head ^u ! "r arm4 ,! cap %\ld be ti$ s z to be easily unfa/5$ & remov$4 ,:5 ! prie/ asks :o are ! sponsors ( ! *ild1 x is suffici5t = !m to incl9e ! head1 )\t speak+4 ,baptism is a gratuit\s c]emony 9 ! *ur*1 b x is cu/om>y = ! fa!r to pres5t "s tok5 to ! (ficiat+ cl]gyman1 9 ! "n ( ! babe1 or1 :]e p>5ts are weal?y1 to make a h&some donation to ! poor ( ! p>i%1 ?r\gh ! cl]gyman4 ,9 ! ,prote/ant *ur*es1 x is cu/om>y to def] ! baptism until ! "m ( ! *ild c be pres5t4 ,x is always desirable to h ! c]emony p]=m$ 9 ! *ur*1 if possible2 b if !re is a necessity = x1 su* z ! illness ( ! *ild or ! p>5ts1 x c take place 9 ! h\se ( ! p>5ts1 by _! special reque/4 ,no "o %\ld ev] (f] to act z sponsor = a *ild4 ,x is ! privilege ( ! p>5ts to make ! selection among/ _! relatives or fri5ds4 ,if ! c]emony is p]=m$ at ! h\se ( ! p>5ts1 a c>riage mu/ be s5t to ! h\se ( ! cl]gyman to convey him to ! h\se ( ! p>5ts1 & wait until aft] ! c]emony1 to convey him home aga94 ,x is extremely rude to expect a cl]gyman to provide 8 own conveyance1 or to walk4 ,fri5ds invit$ to a *ri/5+ usually c>ry "s gift to ! babe2 g5tlem5 a gift ( silv]1 & ladies "s pretty piece ( ne$lework4 ,if ! c]emony is p]=m$ 9 ! h\se ( ! p>5ts1 or if ! gue/s return !re f ! *ur*1 ! only refre%m5ts requir$ by etiquette are cake & w9e4 ,! fa!r ( ! *ild usually gives a pres5t ( money to ! nurse :o c>ries ! babe to ! *ur*4 ,x is n etiquette to rema9 long at a *ri/5+2 & x is bett] ta/e = ! infant to be remov$ to ! nurs]y z soon z ! c]emony is ov]4 ,to keep a we>y "m sitt+ up ent]ta9+ gue/s1 or a cross1 tir$ *ild on exhibition1 are ei!r ( !m 9 bad ta/e4 ,= a gue/ to %[ any annoyance if a *ild cries l\dly1 or is 9 any way tr\blesome1 is ! height ( rud5ess4 ,rem>ks or ev5 fr[ns are =bidd5 entirely1 ev5 if ! infant screams s z to make ! voice ( ! cl]gyman entirely inaudible4 ,etiquette requires t ! babe be prais$ if x is %[n to ! gue/s1 ev5 if x is a little mon/] ( p9k ugl9ess4 ,ladies1 especially mo!rs1 w see some?+ beautiful1 if only its helpless innoc5ce1 & g5tlem5 mu/ behold infantile graces1 if !y _c actually behold !m4 ,"m's d>l+ mu/ be ! great attraction at a *ri/5+1 if x only improves ! occasion by a succession ( yells4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,fun]als4 ,,:5 ! sadde/ ( all ! c]emonies ( ?is life calls =? ! sympa?y ( fri5ds & relatives1 !re are _m little po9ts ! obs]vance ( :i* ev9ces a delicate consid]ation = ! m\rn]s1 & a respect = ! melan*oly occasion4 ,9 ent]+ ! h\se ( m\rn+1 a g5tleman mu/ remove 8 hat 9 ! hall1 & n replace x :ile 9 ! h\se4 ,l\d talk+ 9 ! *amb] ( dea? is a rud5ess :i* %[s n only a want ( respect = ! dead1 b a want ( consid]ation = ! grief ( ! survivors4 ,all qu>rels mu/ be =gott5 9 ! pres5ce ( dea?4 ,enemies :o meet at a fun]al are b\nd by etiquette1 if n by feel+1 to salute ea* o!r ) quiet gravity4 ,:il/ ! body ( ! dead rema9s 9 ! h\se1 no visitor mu/ expect to see ! memb]s ( ! b]eav$ family1 & no (f5ce may be tak5 if admission is refus$ to ! ne>e/ fri5ds4 ,! =malities necess>y ^u ! dea? ( a memb] ( a family entail ^u ! survivors _m pa9ful int]views1 _m directions1 & (t5 mo/ h>r[+ discussions4 ,x is1 !re=e1 cu/om>y to entru/ ^! details to "s relative or fri5d1 :o1 :ile ne> en\gh to c>efully direct ! affairs1 is yet able to be> ! try+ details bett] ?an ! memb]s ( ! imm$iate family4 ,x is be/ to select "s "o accu/om$ to ! dis*>ge ( ?is duty1 & m prud5t to "n a limit = ! exp5ses4 ,:]e !re are no fun]al arrangem5ts made 9 ! w1 ! p]son tak+ ?is *>ge may ask "o int]view ) ! ne>e/ relative1 b aft] t1 relieve !m ( all c>e 9 ! matt]4 ,if !re is no fri5d :o c und]take ^! try+ duties1 x is !n cu/om>y to make ! und]tak] ! ma/] ( ! pa9ful c]emonies4 ,to surr\nd ! fun]al c]emonies ) great p>ade & pomp is usually m ( a va9 & o/5tati\s display ?an an act ( respect t[>ds ! dead2 at ! same "t1 any meanness or p>simony is 9 bad ta/e4 ,! exp5ses %\ld be gov]n$ by ! position ( ! deceas$1 & ! means ( ! survivors4 ,if invitations are s5t out1 x is cu/om>y to h a numb] pr9t$1 & s5t to ! fri5ds4 ,! foll[+ is ! usual =m3 ,y are respectfully invit$ to att5d ! fun]al ( ,j4 ,j4 ,c1 on ,w$nesday1 ! #bd? ( ,may1 #ah-1 at #aj o'clock ,a4,m41 f 8 late resid5ce1 ,no4 #agd /reet4 ,to proce$ to ,laurel ,hill ,cemet]y4 ,or1 if ! s]vices are n at ! h\se3 ,y are respectfully invit$ to att5d ! fun]al ( ,j4 ,j4 ,c1 f ! *ur* ( ! ,inc>nation1 on ,w$nesday1 ! #bd? ( ,may1 at #aj o'clock ,a4,m4 ,to proce$ to ,laurel ,hill ,cemet]y4 ,x is contr>y to ! rules ( etiquette to s5d ^! invitations by po/4 ,a li/ ( ! p]sons invit$ mu/ be giv5 to ! p]son direct+ ! fun]al c]emonies1 & he w give ! und]tak] a li/ ( ! ord] 9 :i* ! gue/s are to be plac$ 9 ! c>riages1 if ! fun]al leaves ! city1 or ! ord] ( ! procession if ! gue/s g to ! grave on foot4 ,if ! invitation is giv5 ?r\gh ! newspap]s1 ! words ,)\t fur!r notice mu/ be add$1 & ! gue/s w n expect ano!r invitation4 ,! li/ is !n omitt$1 & no especial ord] obs]v$ 9 plac+ ! gue/s 9 c>riages or procession4 ,gue/s invit$ to a fun]al mu/ n pres5t !mselves be=e ! h\r appo9t$1 :5 ! corpse is g5]ally expos$ = ! la/ gaze ( ! fri5ds4 ,x is cu/om>y = ! family to pay _! la/ visit to ! c(f9 j be=e t h\r1 & all intrusion is aga9/ ! cu/oms ( society4 ,! corpse usually is expos$ 9 a draw+-room1 & ! family assemble 9 ano!r ap>tm5t1 if ! s]vices are to be conduct$ 9 *ur*1 & ! gue/s g f ! h\se !re4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! gue/s are invit$ to meet ! fun]al 9 *ur*1 ! c(f9 is usually plac$ 9 front ( ! *ancel1 ) ! lid remov$1 & fri5ds pass1 f ! feet to ! head1 up "o aisle & d[n ano!r1 aft] ! s]vices are ov]4 ,if ! gue/s assemble at ! h\se ( ! deceas$1 x is cu/om>y = "s ne> relative1 n ( ! imm$iate family1 to receive !m1 & d ! honors ( ! occasion4 ,! ladies ( ! family are nev] expect$ to see ! gue/s at a fun]al2 b x is optional ) ! g5tlem54 ,/rict etiquette at ! pres5t day d5ies ! ladies ( ! family ! privilege ( foll[+ ! corpse f ! h\se2 b x is a cu/om m honor$ 9 ! brea* ?an 9 ! obs]vance4 ,:5 ! fun]al procession is ready to />t1 ! cl]gyman leaves ! h\se fir/1 & ent]s a c>riage1 :i* prec$es ! he>se4 ,!n foll[s ! c(f91 :i* is plac$ 9 ! he>se2 ! next c>riage is = ! imm$iate family & relatives4 ,gue/s /& uncov]$ :ile ^! m\rn]s pass !m1 no salutation be+ expect$4 ,! g5tleman :o does ! honors %\ld prec$e ! family z !y pass f _! room to ! c>riages1 assi/ !m 91 close ! door1 & motion ! driv] to move sl[ly =w>d1 & to ! next c>riage to drive up to ! door4 ,! same ord] is obs]v$ at ! *ur* door1 :]e ! ma/] ( c]emonies assi/s ! m\rn]s to leave & re-ent] ! c>riages4 ,:5 ! private c>riage ( ! deceas$ foll[s ! he>se1 x %\ld be empty1 & prec$e ! o!r c>riages4 ,if ! fri5ds g on foot1 & ! wea!r is cold1 ! g5tlem5 may we> _! hats2 b if ! wea!r is mild1 x is cu/om>y to walk uncov]$1 ) ! hat 9 ! "r h&4 ,if ! hat is worn1 x mu/ be remov$ z ! c(f9 passes f ! he>se to ! *ur*1 :5 ! gue/s =m a d\ble l9e1 d[n :i* x is c>ri$1 & ! same l9e & obs]vance mu/ be made aft] ! s]vice1 z ! c(f9 is c>ri$ f ! *ur* to ! he>se aga94 ,if lady fri5ds att5d a fun]al1 if !y are n 9 m\rn+1 !y %\ld we> grave1 quiet colors4 ,to g to a fun]al 9 a gay dress is insult+4 ,^u ! c(f9 ( an infant or "y p]son1 x is cu/om>y to place a wrea? ( :ite fl[]s4 ,^u ! c(f9 ( a m>ri$ p]son1 a cross ( :ite fl[]s is usually plac$4 ,^u ! c(f9 ( an army or navy (fic]1 ! hat1 epaulets1 sword1 & sa% are plac$1 & x is cu/om>y to use ! flag to cov] ! c(f94 ,a suffici5t numb] ( c>riages %\ld be provid$ to c>ry all invit$ gue/s to ! cemet]y4 ,at ! cemet]y1 ! prie/ or cl]gyman walks 9 advance ( ! c(f91 & ! o!rs alight f ! c>riages & /& ar\nd ! grave4 ,aft] ! c>riages leave ! cemet]y1 x is n cu/om>y = ! gue/s to return to ! h\se ( ! m\rn]s2 b ea* may1 on re-ent]+ ! c>riage1 direct ! driv]1 9 a l[ tone1 :]e to drive him4 ,! family physician1 if able to att5d ! fun]al1 %\ld h a seat 9 ! c>riage foll[+ t ( ! imm$iate family4 ,! c>riage mu/ be s5t = ! prie/ or cl]gyman 9 "t = him to be punctually at ! h\se at ! appo9t$ h\r4 ,if gifts ( fl[]s are s5t to ! m\rn]s1 !y mu/ be :ite only1 & s5t on ! day ( ! fun]al e>ly en\gh to be us$ 9 ! decoration ( ! c(f94 ,if pall-be>]s are invit$1 !y mu/ be imm$iate fri5ds ( ! deceas$4 ,x is a =eign cu/om ( mu* beauty & significance to select "y *ildr5 = pall-be>]s = infants & *ildr51 dress+ !m 9 :ite1 & drap+ ! c(f9 9 :ite1 trimm$ ) silv] fr+e & cords4 ,if gloves & crape b&s are di/ribut$ to ! g5tlem5 gue/s1 !y mu/ be h&$ !m :5 !y fir/ ent] ! h\se4 ,x is a gross violation ( etiquette to make any selection 9 su* cases2 nobody expects to h gloves s giv5 z to fit ! h&s2 b !y mu/ be worn4 ,x is f> m elegant to pres5t y\rself already provid$ ) black kid gloves on y\r h&s1 & all[ ! und]tak] to provide y only ) ! crape4 ,fri5ds 9 deep m\rn+ are n expect$ to pay visits ( condol5ce1 & are excus$ f accept+ fun]al invitations2 b all o!rs are expect$ to accept !m4 ,x is b a poor complim5t to y\r fri5ds to att5d _! d9n]s1 receptions1 balls1 & p>ties1 & refuse to be pres5t :5 !y are 9 affliction1 or to pay ! la/ act ( respect to ! memory ( ^? !y love4 ,dur+ ! week foll[+ a fun]al1 fri5ds %\ld leave _! c>ds = ! family ( ! deceas$1 & call aga9 ab\t a =tnight lat]1 ask+ !n to see ! memb]s ( ! family4 ,x is n cu/om>y to ask to see ! family ( a deceas$ fri5d be=e ! fun]al2 b c>ds %\ld be s5t1 & (f]s ( s]vice s5t by note4 ,! lady fri5d ne>e/ ! family1 or a relative n ( ! imm$iate family1 is ! prop] p]son to pur*ase ! m\rn+ = ! ladies ( ! family1 & ! g5tleman fri5d or relative t = ! g5tlem54 ,no memb] ( ! imm$iate family ( ! deceas$ %\ld leave ! h\se betwe5 ! dea? & ! fun]al ^u any err& or pretext4 ,at ! fun]al ( a m\nt$ (fic]1 8 horse1 fully equipp$1 & drap$ 9 m\rn+1 %\ld be l$ by a s]vant aft] ! he>se4 ,if ! deceas$ belong$ to any society1 z ,free ,masons1 ,odd ,fell[s1 or su* organization1 ! society %\ld be invit$ ?r\gh a note s5t to ! ,presid5t1 & !y w s5d ^w to ! ma/] ( c]emonies if !re is any especial ord] 9 :i* !y wi% to foll[ ! corpse1 or any =m or c]emony peculi> to t ord] :i* !y w\ld l obs]v$4 ,^! invitations1 if giv5 ?r\gh ! newspap]s1 %\ld c>efully specify ! lodge or ord] to :i* ! deceas$ belong$4 ,! regalia 9 su* cases is usually display$ on ! c(f9-lid1 b remov$ be=e ! c(f9 leaves ! h\se4 ,:ite plumes are cu/om>y on ! he>se ( a "y p]son1 & black ones = m>ri$ & eld]ly p4 ,x is n cu/om>y to s5d invitations to ! fun]al ( a p]son :o has di$ ( contagi\s disease1 & ! /atem5t ( ! malady 9 ! newspap]s is g5]ally accept$ by ! fri5ds z an excuse = ! omission ( invitations4 ,9 visit+ a cemet]y1 x is an act ( rud5ess to /& ne> a lot :]e m\rn]s are assembl$1 or 9 any way to notice ^? :o are decorat+ ! graves ( fri5ds4 ,no "t c be nam$ :5 ! delicate att5tions & obs]vances ( etiquette are m grateful ?an :5 sorr[ is heavy on ! he>t1 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,! ,,/udio4 ,,!re are a few rules ( etiquette applicable to visitors to arti/s' /udios1 :i* x w be well to note1 ! m s because !y are special1 & might n sugge/ !mselves1 z a matt] ( c\rse1 ev5 to ^? to :om ,nature pres5t$ ! :ole code ( etiquette :5 %e gave !m a g5tle disposition4 ,x is n etiquette to ask an arti/ ! price ( 8 pictures at sight4 ,if a visitor sees a pa9t+ or a piece ( /atu>y :i* he wi%es to possess1 he asks simply t he may h ! refusal ( x2 or he says to ! arti/3 ,i wi% to h ?is picture1 if x is n dispos$ (4 ,aft] leav+ ! /udio1 ! visitor writes & asks ! price1 ( :i* he is in=m$ by ! arti/1 9 writ+4 ,%\ld ! price be l>g] ?an ! w\ld-be pur*as] is dispos$ to give1 he writes aga9 to t effect1 & x is no brea* ( etiquette to "n ! sum :i* he wi%$ to sp5d ^u ! "w ( art4 ,?is gives an opportunity to ! arti/ ( l[]+ 8 price4 ,x is n cu/om>y1 h[ev]1 to haggle ab\t ! sum1 & ! correspond5ce %\ld n be c>ri$ f>!r ?an above1 except x be an intimation f ! arti/ t he w accept ! t]ms ( ! pur*as]1 & t ! picture is subject to 8 ord]1 & w be s5t to him on fur!r in/ructions4 ,"s portrait pa9t]s h a practice :i*1 = obvi\s reasons1 _c be adopt$ by pa9t]s ( g5]al subjects4 ,!y h a c>d hung up 9 a conspicu\s "p ( ! /udio1 %[+ ! price at :i* !y w execute portraits ( ! sizes giv54 ,at ! bottom ( ?is c>d !re is g5]ally an intimation t half ! price mu/ be paid aft] ! fir/ sitt+1 ! rema9d] :5 ! portrait is complet$4 ,?is practice saves "t & tr\ble1 & x w\ld be well if o!r arti/s c\ld adopt "s sy/em :]eby ! price ( su* pa9t+s z !y may h = sale might be made kn[n to visitors4 ,b ! price ( a fancy picture is to be asc]ta9$ by ! arti/ only by :at x w br+1 & x is q likely t ! weal? ( ! buy]1 or 8 kn[n admiration = good pa9t+s1 may reasonably make a diff]5ce 9 ! sum ask$ by ! arti/1 :o might ask a l[] price ( a man :om he knew c\ld n af=d s mu*4 ,!re is no?+ wrong 9 ?is1 = an arti/ has z mu* "r to get z mu* m ?an ! m9imum price ( 8 picture z anybody else has to get ! be/ price = 8 labor or 8 m]*&ise4 ,portrait pa9t+ is1 h[ev]1 pretty mu* a repetition ( ! same sort ( "w1 & ! arti/ w\ld be ! la/ man 9 ! _w to admit t !re c\ld be su* diff]5ce 9 ! execution ( ! "w z to w>rant a scale ( prices 9 con=mity !re)4 ,x is n etiquette to visit ! /udio ( an arti/ except+ by special invitation1 & !n only at ! h\rs he may appo9t4 ,to g at any o!r "t is ill-br$2 = al?\gh he may be !re1 he w probably be unwill+ to be di/urb$ at 8 "w4 ,x is ill-br$ to take a "y *ild to visit ! /udio ( an arti/1 z !re are g5]ally articles !re ( value & easily brok5 or soil$2 & ev5 if ! *ild is well tra9$1 ! own] ( su* articles w\ld be 9 t]ror le/ !y %\ld be ru9$4 ,x is excessively ill-br$ to criticize h>%ly1 9 ! pres5ce ( an arti/1 ! works display$ 9 8 /udio4 ,extravagant praise is also 9 bad ta/e4 ,a few cordial words ( praise & pleasure %\ld1 ( c\rse1 be spok51 & a fri5d may sometimes po9t out :]e improvem5ts c\ld be made2 b x is a ?ankless task g5]ally1 & x is 9 mu* bett] ta/e to leave all criticism to ! public j\rnals1 :5 ! pa9t+s are on public exhibition4 ,x is aga9/ ! rules ( etiquette to keep an arti/ wait+1 if y are sitt+ = a portrait4 ,8 "t is ( value to him1 :atev] y\rs may be to y2 & x is equally rude to deta9 him aft] ! sitt+ is ov]4 ,8 polit5ess may h9d] him f ev5 h9t+ to y t y are trespass+ ^u 8 h\rs = "w1 ?\gh he may be frett+ sil5tly at y\r rud5ess 9 s do+4 ,x is contr>y to ! rules ( etiquette to look ar\nd a /udio 9 :i* y may be sitt+ = a portrait1 unless y are invit$ by an arti/ to d s4 ,x is aga9/ ! rules ( etiquette to ask to see an unf9i%$ picture1 ev5 if x is "o t is be+ pa9t$ by y\r own ord]4 ,to uncov] any picture or article 9 a /udio t may be veil$ or hidd5 f view is extremely rude4 ,x is equally s to turn a picture t is hung to face ! wall1 or /&+ fac+ x4 ,g5tlem5 mu/ nev] smoke 9 a /udio1 unless especially invit$ by ! arti/ to d s4 ,to :isp] 9 a /udio is excessively ill-br$2 = al?\gh y may make a rem>k entirely indep5d5t ( :at is ar\nd y1 y may re/ assur$ y w h ! cr$it ( hav+ ridicul$ or c5sur$ "s ( ! pictures y h be5 invit$ to exam9e4 ,to behave 9 a /udio z if y 7 9 a /ore1 pric+ pictures1 inquir+ ab\t :at is = public exhibition1 :at is n2 :o ord]$ ?is picture or t2 ^: portrait ?is or t may be2 or 9 any way rem9d+ ! arti/ t 8 g5ius is m]*&ise1 is rude & indelicate4 ,x is aga9/ ! rules ( etiquette to h&le ! pictures or o!r articles 9 a /udio4 ,x is extremely rude1 if an arti/ cont9ues 8 employm5t dur+ a visit to 8 /udio1 = ! visitor to /& beh9d him1 or v ne> him1 or 9 any way to seem to wat* 8 "w4 ,,table ,,etiquette4 ,,x is impossible = a lady or g5tleman to act ) p]fect ease & graceful mann] at table :5 9 company1 at a hotel or any public place1 unless !y habitually pay att5tion to ^? m9or po9ts ( etiquette1 :i* =m s di/9ctive a m>k ( p]fectly good bre$+4 ,habitual neglect ( ! c\rtesies & etiquette ( ! table w make !m appe> awkw>d re/ra9ts ^u occasions :5 !y are important4 ,if ! fa!r or "m ( a family accu/om ! *ildr51 by example z well z precept1 to be att5tive & polite to ea* o!r at e meal1 !y ne$ nev] fe> t !y w %ame !m by rud5ess or awkw>dness :5 !y g abroad4 ,ev5 :5 a p]son habitually eats alone1 x is bett] to d s gracefully & ) att5tion to ! rules ( etiquette1 t habits ( awkw>dness may n be =m$1 :i* x w be difficult to %ake (f :5 9 company4 ,to make noises :5 eat+1 suck+ s\p ) a gurgl+ s\nd1 *ew+ meat noisily1 swall[+ z if ) an ef=t1 smack+ ! lips1 or brea?+ heavily :ile ma/icat+ food1 are all m>ks ( l[ bre$+4 ,x is a bad habit to put l>ge pieces ( food into ! m\?4 ,if y are address$ sudd5ly ) y\r m\? s fill$1 y are oblig$ to make an awkw>d pause be=e answ]+1 or to run ! risk ( *ok+ by swall[+ ! great m\?ful too ha/ily4 ,nev] op5 ! napk9 entirely1 b let x lie on ! lap1 p>tly fold$4 ,sit nei!r v ne> nor v f> f ! table4 ,x is rude to move y\r arms at table s z to incommode ^? on ei!r side ( y4 ,ladies %\ld1 aft] seat+ !mselves1 endeavor to draw _! skirts into a space t w n cr[d ^? seat$ beside !m4 ,to lean back 9 ! *air is rude1 & surely no g5tleman w\ld ev] be guilty ( tipp+ 8 *air at table4 ,sit erect1 n /iffly1 b 9 an easy position4 ,bread mu/ always be brok51 nev] cut1 & c]ta9ly nev] bitt54 ,if a plate is s5t to y fill$ ) ! food y h select$1 keep x1 z o!rs may n h ! same *oice2 if ! plate conta9 "o di%1 su* z pie or pudd+1 y may pass x on to ^? beside y1 & wait till o!rs above y are s]v$ be=e res]v+ a plate = y\rself4 ,to eat v fa/ is inelegant2 to eat v sl[ly be>s an air ( affectation4 ,try to pres]ve ! happy m$ium4 ,x is a good plan to accu/om y\rself to eat ) ! left h&1 & ?us avoid %ift+ y\r knife & =k f "o h& to ! o!r4 ,a g5tleman w always see t ladies are s]v$ be=e eat+ himself1 ,avoid mak+ any noise on y\r plate ) y\r knife & =k4 ,x is aga9/ all rules ( etiquette to soak up gravy ) bread1 to scrape up sauce ) a spoon1 or to take up bones ) ! f+]s4 ,nev] cross ! knife & =k on a plate until y h f9i%$ eat+4 ,nev] hold y\r knife & =k erect 9 y\r h&s at ea* side ( y\r plate1 :5 conv]s+ at ! table4 ,nev] ask = a second help+4 ,x is ! duty ( ^? at ! head & foot ( ! table to (f] x4 ,to bl[ s\p to cool x1 or to p\r tea or c(fee into a sauc] = ! same purpose1 are acts ( awkw>dness nev] se5 9 polite society4 ,wait until !y are cool en\gh to be pleasant4 ,use ! salt-spoon1 butt]-knife1 & sug>-tongs ev5 :5 y are alone4 ,if y want to c\gh1 sneeze1 or bl[ y\r nose1 leave ! table4 ,if y h n "t1 turn away y\r head1 & lean back 9 y\r *air4 ,to pass a plate ) a knife or =k ^u x1 or a cup ) a spoon 9 x1 are acts ( rud5ess4 ,put y\r spoon 9 ! sauc]1 & y\r knife & =k on ! table1 until y are s]v$4 ,nev] hurry away f ! table z soon z y f9i% eat+1 if o!rs rema9 to conv]se4 ,if y are oblig$ to leave be=e a meal is f9i%$ or imm$iately aft]1 ask to be excus$ = s do+1 & apologize = ! necessity4 ,nev] m5tion at ! table any subject t is likely to disgu/ o!rs4 ,x is a piece ( rud5ess only too common1 & is to be sev]ely c5sur$4 ,_m :o are utt]ly )\t affectation are really s5sitive on su* po9ts1 & _! meal & com=t are bo? spoil$ if disgu/+ associations are sugge/$ at table4 ,at home1 if y use a napk9-r+1 fold y\r napk9 & replace x 9 ! r+ :5 y h done ) x4 ,if y are d9+ out1 nev] fold y\r napk91 b place x beside y\r plate4 ,none b a cl[n w\ld use ! table-clo? = a napk91 pick 8 tee? ) 8 =k1 put 8 f+]s 9 8 plate1 or wipe 8 face ) 8 napk94 ,if y are un=tunate en\gh to f9d any?+ disgu/+ 9 y\r food--a hair 9 ! s\p1 a coal 9 ! bread1 a worm 9 ! fruit1 or a fly 9 y\r c(fee--d n l\dly exclaim1 or di/urb ! appetite ( o!rs by m5tion ( y\r mi%ap4 ,remove ! disgu/+ object quietly1 or *ange y\r cup or plate )\t rem>k4 ,! ,fr5* poet1 ,delille1 tells ( an int]view betwe5 himself & ,m>m\tel1 :i* r humor\sly po9ts out h[ table etiquette may *ange4 ,delille & ,m>m\tel 7 d9+ toge!r1 9 ! mon? ( ,april1 #aghf2 & ! conv]sation happ5$ to turn ^u d9n] table cu/oms4 ,m>m\tel obs]v$ h[ _m little ?+s a well-br$ man 0 oblig$ to "k1 if he w\ld avoid be+ ridicul\s at ! table ( 8 fri5ds4 ,!y are1 inde$1 innum]able1 said ,delille1 & ! mo/ annoy+ fact ( all is1 t n all ! wit & good s5se 9 ! _w c help "o to div9e !m untaught4 ,a little :ile ago1 = in/ance1 ! ,abbe ,cosson1 :o is ,pr(essor ( ,lit]ature at ,college ,maz>91 0 describ+ to me a gr& d9n] to :i* he _h be5 invit$ at ,v]sailles1 & to :i* he _h sat d[n 9 ! company ( pe]s1 pr9ces1 & m>%als ( ,france4 ',i'll wag] n[1' said ,i1't y committ$ a hundr$ blund]s 9 ! etiquette ( ! table4' ',h[ s8' repli$ ! ,abbe1 some:at nettl$4 ',:at blund]s c\ld ,i make8 ,x seems to me t ,i did precisely z o!rs did4' ',& ,i1 on ! contr>y1 w\ld /ake my life t y did no?+ z o!rs did4 ,b let u beg9 at ! beg9n+1 & see :i* is "r4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 !re 0 y\r table napk9--:at did y d ) t :5 y sat d[n to table8' ',:at did ,i d ) my table napk98 ,:y1 ,i did l ! re/ ( ! gue/s3 ,i %ook x out ( ! folds1 spread x be=e me1 & fa/5$ "o corn] to my button-hole4' ',v well1 mon *]1 y 7 ! only p]son :o did s4 ,no "o %akes1 spreads1 & fa/5s a table napk9 9 t mann]4 ,y %\ld h only laid x across y\r knees4 ,:at s\p _h y8' ',turtle4' ',& h[ did y eat x 8' ',l e "o else1 ,i suppose4 ,i took my spoon 9 "o h& & my =k 9 ! o!r4' ',y\r =k8 ,good heav5s6 ,none b a savage eats s\p ) a =k4 ,b g on4 ,:at did y take next8' ',a boil$ egg4' ',good4 ,& :at did y d ) ! %ell8' ',n eat x1 c]ta9ly4 ,i left x1 ( c\rse1 9 ! egg-cup4' ',)\t break+ x ?r\gh ) y\r spoon8' ',)\t break+ x4' ',!n1 my de> fell[1 p]mit me to tell y t no "o eats an egg )\t break+ ! %ell1 & leav+ ! spoon /&+ 9 x4 ,& aft] y\r egg8' ',i ask$ = "s b\lli4' ',= b\lli6' ,x is a t]m t no "o uses4 ,y %\ld h ask$ = beef2 nev] = b\illi4 ,well1 & aft] ! b\illi8' ',i ask$ ! ,abbe de ,bad5villais = "s f[l4' ',wret*$ man6 ,f[l inde$6 ,y %\ld h ask$ = *ick5 or capon4 ,! ^w f[l is nev] he>d out ( ! kit*54 ,b all ?is applies only to :at y ate2 tell me some?+ ( :at y drank1 & h[ y ask$ = x4' ',i ask$ = ,*ampagne & ,bordeaux f ^? :o _h ! bottles be=e !m4' ',"k1 !n1 my good fri5d1 t only a wait]1 :o has no "t or brea? to sp>e1 asks = ,*ampagne or ,bordeaux4 ,a g5tleman asks = ,v9 de ,*ampagne & ,v9 de ,bordeaux4 ,b n[ in=m me h[ y ate y\r bread4' ',und\bt$ly l all ! re/ ( ! _w3 ,i cut x up into small squ>e pieces ) my knife4' ',!n let me tell y t no "o cuts bread2 y %\ld always break x4 ,let u g on to ! c(fee4 ,h[ did y dr9k y\rs8' ',p%aw6 ,at lea/1 ,i c\ld make no mi/ake 9 t4 ,x 0 boil+ hot2 s ,i p\r$ x1 a little at a "t1 9 ! sauc]1 & drank x z x cool$4' ',eh bi56 ,!n y assur$ly act$ z no o!r g5tleman 9 ! room4 ,no?+ c be m vulg> ?an to p\r tea or c(fee into a sauc]4 ,y %\ld h wait$ till x cool$1 & !n h drunk x f ! cup4 ,& n[ y see1 my de> c\s91 t s f> f do+ precisely z ! o!rs did1 y act$ 9 no "o respect accord+ to ! laws prescrib$ by etiquette4' ,,etiquette ,,) ,,*ildr54 ,,x is aga9/ ! rules ( /rict etiquette to take a *ild :5 mak+ =mal calls1 z !y are a re/ra9t ^u conv]sation1 ev5 if !y are n tr\blesome ab\t t\*+ =bidd5 articles1 or teas+ to g home4 ,nev] take a *ild to a fun]al1 ei!r to ! h\se ( m\rn+ or to ! cemet]y4 ,nev] all[ a *ild to take a meal at a fri5d's h\se )\t special invitation4 ,x is impossible to "k h[ mu* %e may be inconv5i5c$1 :ile h] reg>d = ! "m w\ld det] h] f s5d+ ! little visitor home aga94 ,nev] all[ a *ild to h&le goods 9 a /ore4 ,nev] s5d = *ildr5 to meet visitors 9 ! draw+-room1 unless ! visitors !mselves reque/ to see !m4 ,make _! /ay !n v brief1 & be c>eful t !y are n tr\blesome4 ,nev] take a *ild to *ur* until x is old en\gh to rema9 p]fectly quiet4 ,al?\gh y may be accu/om$ to its re/less movem5ts1 & n di/urb$ by !m1 o!rs ne> y w c]ta9ly feel annoy$ by !m4 ,x is n etiquette to put a *ild to sleep 9 ! room ( a gue/1 nor to all[ *ildr5 to g at all to a gue/'s room1 unless especially invit$ to d s1 & ev5 !n to make long /ay !re4 ,etiquette excludes *ildr5 f all companies giv5 to gr[n p]sons1 f all p>ties & balls1 except+ su* z are giv5 especially giv5 = _! pleasure4 ,:5 invit$ to walk or drive1 nev] take a *ild1 unless x has be5 invit$1 or y h reque/$ p]mission to d s2 ev5 9 ! latt] case1 ! cons5t is probably giv5 m f good nature ?an f any desire to h a juv5ile ?ird to ! p>ty4 ,nev] cr[d *ildr5 into pic-nic p>ties1 if !y h n be5 invit$4 ,!y g5]ally gr[ we>y & v tr\blesome be=e ! day is ov]4 ,nev] take a *ild to sp5d ! day ) a fri5d unless x has be5 includ$ 9 ! invitation4 ,nev] all[ *ildr5 to be 9 ! draw+ room if /rang]s are pres5t4 ,nev] all[ *ildr5 to h&le ! ornam5ts 9 ! draw+ room ( a fri5d4 ,nev] all[ a *ild to pull a visitor's dress1 play ) ! jewelry or ornam5ts %e may we>1 take h] p>asol or sat*el = a play?+1 or 9 any way annoy h]4 ,tra9 *ildr5 e>ly to answ] politely :5 address$1 to avoid re/less1 noisy motions :5 9 company1 & gradually inculcate a love ( ! g5tle c\rtesies ( life4 ,by mak+ ! rules ( etiquette habitual to !m1 y remove all awkw>dness & re/ra9t f _! mann]s :5 !y are old en\gh to g into society4 ,nev] s5d a *ild to sit ^u a s(a ) gr[n p1 unless !y express a desire to h x d s4 ,nev] cr[d a *ild into a c>riage seat betwe5 two gr[n p4 ,nev] all[ a *ild to play ) a visitor's hat or cane4 ,if *ildr5 are tal5t$1 be c>eful y d n we>y y\r fri5ds1 & de/roy _! own mode/y by %[+ !m (f1 ^u improp] occasions4 ,:at may seem wond]ful to an int]e/$ "m1 may be an unutt]able we>9ess to a gue/1 too polite to all[ ! "m to p]ceive ! incipi5t yawn4 ,nev] all[ *ildr5 to visit ^u ! invitation ( o!r *ildr54 ,:5 !y are invit$ by ! old] memb]s ( ! family1 x is "t to put on _! be/ bibs & tuck]s4 ,nev] take *ildr5 to a h\se ( m\rn+1 ev5 if y are an intimate fri5d4 ,! cu/om = hav+ *ildr5 9 ! draw+-room = morn+ or ev5+ p>ties1 or 9 ! d9+-room ) ! dess]t at d9n] companies1 is n only (t5 an annoyance to ! gue/s1 b bad = ! *ildr5 !mselves4 ,x is "o ( ! fir/ duties ( p>5ts to tra9 _! *ildr5 at home z !y w\ld h !m appe> abroad4 ,an ,engli% lady writes ?us3 ,if1 !n1 we desire t our *ildr5 %all become ladies & g5tlem51 c we make !m s1 ?9k y1 by lavi%+ money ^u =eign pr(essors1 danc+-ma/]s1 =eign travel1 tailors1 & dressmak]s8 ,ah1 no6 good bre$+ is f> less co/ly1 & beg9s f> e>li] ?an ^? ?+s4 ,let our little ones be nurtur$ 9 an atmosph]e ( g5tl5ess & k9dness f ! nurs]y upw>ds2 let !m gr[ up 9 a home :]e a rude ge/ure or an ill-temp]$ ^w are alike unkn[n2 :]e betwe5 fa!r & "m1 ma/] & s]vant1 mi/ress & maid1 fri5d & fri5d1 p>5t & *ild1 bro!r & si/]1 prevails ! law ( tru?1 ( k9dness1 ( consid]ation = o!rs1 & =getfulness ( self4 ,c !y c>ry into ! _w1 :i!r we s5d !m lat]1 aught ( co>s5ess1 ( untru?fulness1 ( slatt]nl9ess1 ( vulg>ity1 if _! home has be5 ord]ly1 if _! p>5ts h be5 ref9$1 _! s]vants well mann]$1 _! fri5ds & playmates k9dly & c>efully tra9$ z !mselves8 ,d we want our boys to succe$ 9 ! _w2 our girls to be admir$ & lov$2 _! ta/es to be elegant2 _! language *oice2 _! mann]s simple1 *>m+1 ref9$1 & graceful2 _! fri5d%ip elevat+8 !n we mu/ ourselves be :at we w\ld h our *ildr5 to be1 rememb]+ ! gold5 maxim1 t good mann]s1 l *>ity1 mu/ beg9 at home4 ,good mann]s are an imm5se social =ce4 ,we %\ld1 !re=e1 sp>e no pa9s to tea* our *ildr5 :at to d1 & :at to avoid do+1 9 _! pa?way ?r\gh life4 ,on utilit>ian z well z social pr9ciples1 we %\ld try to in/ruct our *ildr5 9 good mann]s2 = :e!r we wi% !m to succe$ 9 ! _w1 or to adorn society1 ! po9t is equally important4 ,we mu/ nev] lose sight ( ! fact1 t "h tea*]s & pr(essors c d little1 & t ! only way 9 :i* x 9 possible to acquire ! habits ( good society is to live 9 no o!r4 ,,games ,,) ,,c>ds4 ,,m>ri$ ladies & eld]ly g5tlem5 are all[$ to claim prec$5ce at ! c>d-table1 ov] s+le "y ladies & ! y\ng] m54 ,ladies ( a c]ta9 age1 if s+le1 c claim ! privileges ( ! c>d-table ) m>ri$ ladies4 ,etiquette does n require any "o to play unwill+ly4 ,x is v rude to urge ! reque/1 z _m h consci5ti\s scruples on ?is matt]1 ?\gh !y may n c>e to w\nd ! feel+s ( ^? play+ by proclaim+ !m4 ,x is n k9d1 h[ev]1 & !re=e x is n etiquette1 to refuse to play1 if !re are no su* scruples1 :5 ! refusal prev5ts a game be+ made up4 ,none %\ld attempt to play--:i/1 = in/ance--unless really able to d s mod]ately well4 ,x is n fair to impose a poor p>tn] ^u "o :o may be really fond ( ! game & play well4 ,x is n etiquette = ^? v fond ( c>d-play+ to victimize e gue/ by produc+ c>ds :5ev] !y call1 :e!r !y c>e = play+ or n4 ,_m w play f good- nature :o w\ld pref] to pass ! "t 9 conv]sation4 ,husb& & wife1 or any p>tn]s :o may be suppos$ to be intimately acqua9t$ ) ea* o!r's play1 %\ld n play toge!r4 ,x is tak+ an unfair advantage ( ! o!r c\ple = !m to play p>tn]s4 ,if play+ = /akes1 ! g5tleman pays = 8 lady p>tn] 9 ! ev5t ( loss2 b does n receive h] w9n+s4 ,all violations ( ! kn[n rules ( ! game are violations ( ! laws ( etiquette z well4 ,yet1 if su* violations are made1 !y %\ld be po9t$ out 9 a quiet & c\rte\s mann]1 n made ! subject ( viol5t dispute or c5sure4 ,any alt]cations are violations ( ! laws ( etiquette4 ,loss ( temp]1 no matt] h[ cont9u\s ! ill-luck1 is a brea* ( mann]s2 s are objurgations ( "o's p>tn]'s p]=mances1 & criticisms on ! play ( p>tn] or adv]s>y4 ,9 :i/1 z 9 m>riage1 ! p>tn] is tak5 = bett] = worse1 & 9 nei!r case %\ld an ill-assort$ c\ple try to make matt]s worse ?an !y are by grumbl+ & gr[l+ at ea* o!r4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to talk con/antly ^u o!r subjects :il/ engag$ 9 a game ( c>ds4 ,:i/1 z all good play]s "k1 is a game t requires close att5tion1 & almo/ absolute sil5ce2 & ! o!r games c be mu* di/urb$ by talk+4 ,to conv]se ) ^? :o are n play+ is /ill worse4 ,x is a violation ( all c\rtesy to all[ ! att5tion to be div]t$ at all4 ,if address$ :ile at ! game1 make y\r answ] z brief z polit5ess w p]mit1 & give y\r :ole att5tion to ! game aga94 ,no "o c play s well ) divid$ att5tion2 & y may be c]ta9 x is an annoyance to y\r p>tn]1 ev5 if y\r oppon5t does n object to x4 ,any appe>ance ( an und]/&+ betwe5 p>tn]s1 z smiles1 nods1 or w9ks1 are gross violations1 n only ( ! laws ( ! game1 b ( good mann]s4 ,to f+] ! c>ds :il/ !y are be+ dealt is a brea* ( good mann]s4 ,ev5 if y d n violate ! laws ( ! game by actually look+ at !m1 y are committ+ an error 9 etiquette by seem+ to be 9 any way aw>e ( _! exi/5ce be=e y are at lib]ty to take !m 9 y\r h&4 ,nev] />t a conv]sation t w\ld lead to long argum5t or discussion 9 ! pauses ( ! game4 ,small talk1 *it-*at1 is c]ta9ly admissible :il/ ! c>ds are be+ dealt1 b only ^u topics :i* c be readily dropp$ :5 ! play is aga9 ! lead+ subject4 ,to play c>ds ) an air ( we>9ess or ab/raction is positively rude4 ,if y are n int]e/$ 9 ! game1 /rive to appe> s1 & if y are n equal to t1 y _h bett] /op play+4 ,try to avoid argum5t ^u nice po9ts 9 play+4 ,ev5 if y are "r1 x is m c\rte\s to yield to y\r adv]s>y ?an to keep o!rs wait+ :il/ y prove y\r position4 ,etiquette by no means requires /akes ( money4 ,if c\nt]s are n provid$ = bett+ games1 y may refuse to bet1 )\t any brea* ( good mann]s4 ,9 y\r own h\se1 nev] (f] gue/s any b new c>ds to play )4 ,x is a violation ( etiquette to propose c>d-play+ 9 ano!r p]son's h\se4 ,?is is ! privilege ( ! ho/ or ho/ess1 & if !y d n sugge/ ! amusem5t1 x is absolutely rude = any "o else to d s4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to hurry o!rs :o are play+4 ,no?+ annoys a delib]ate play] m ?an to h a p>tn] or adv]s>y con/antly say+1 ,come1 play2 x is y\r turn n[1 or1 ,we are all wait+ = y4 ,ev5 if y take no pleasure 9 c>ds1 "s k ( ! etiquette & rules belong+ to ! games mo/ 9 vogue w be useful to y1 unless y object ^u pr9ciple to play+4 ,if s1 x is bett] at once to /ate ! fact4 ,if n1 & a f\r? h& is want$ at a rubb]1 or if ! re/ ( ! company sit d[n to a r\nd game1 y w be deem$ guilty ( a want ( polit5ess if y refuse to jo94 ,! games mo/ common are :i/1 loo1 eu*re1 v+t-un1 & speculation4 ,:i/ requires f\r play]s4 ,a pack ( c>ds be+ spread ^u ! table1 ) _! faces d[nw>d1 ! f\r play]s draw = p>tn]s4 ,^? :o draw ! two highe/1 & ^? :o draw ! two l[e/1 become p>tn]s4 ,! l[e/ ( all claims ! deal4 ,9 decl>+ t m>ri$ p may n play at ! same table1 society by no means und]/&s any?+ s disgraceful z di%one/ collusion2 b p]sons :o play regul>ly toge!r _c fail to "k s mu* ( ea* o!r's mode ( act+ "u giv5 circum/ances t ! *ances no long] rema9 p]fectly ev5 9 favor ( _! adv]s>ies4 ,,visit+ ,,c>ds4 ,,! fa%ion ( c>ds is a v>iable "o4 ,x may be ! fa%ion to- day to h !m l>ge1 squ>e1 & pr9t$ ^u r\gh surfaces2 to-morr[ !y may be small1 long1 & highly glaz$2 n[ !y are engrav$2 n[ writt54 ,9 fact1 !re are too _m freaks & *anges to m5tion all2 b etiquette requires always p]fect simplicity4 ,an ornam5tal visit+ c>d is simply dete/able4 ,glaz$ c>ds are n n[ 9 vogue1 b !y may be aga91 & ladies' c>ds are cut mu* small] ?an ^? us$ by g5tlem54 ,p]sons :o h a city & c\ntry resid5ce mu/ h two sets ( c>ds1 ) ! resid5ce at ! "t ( call+ engrav$ on ! left-h& corn]1 ?us3 ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,potts1 ,no4 #bg --- ,,/reet1 :ile ,mrs4 ,potts is 9 ! city1 & ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,potts1 ,,c$>s1 :5 ,mrs4 ,potts is out ( t[n4 ,visit+ c>ds mu/ nev] be> a bus9ess address4 ,all m]ely honor>y or (ficial designations mu/ be omitt$1 except 9 c>ds design$ = (ficial visits only4 ,(fic]s ( ! army or navy may use _! title or n1 z pref]r$1 z3 ,,capt4 ,,james ,,burns1 ,u4,s4,a41 ,or1 ,,james ,,burns1 ,u4,s4,a41 are ei!r ( !m correct1 ! =m] hav+ ! advantage ( putt+ ! receiv] 9 possession at once ( 8 visitor's rank1 ! latt] all[+ scope = promotion or *ange ( title4 ,= militia (fic]s to use _! titles ^u visit+ c>ds is a piece ( affectation utt]ly absurd4 ,memb]s ( ,congress are always entitl$ to use ! ,hon4 be=e ! "n on _! visit+ c>ds1 ev5 aft] _! t]m ( (fice has expir$4 ,judges & physicians are also all[$ to use _! titles2 b no o!r pr(essional m54 ,c>ds %\ld be engrav$ 9 simple ,italian *>act]s1 & )\t fl\ri%1 emboss$ surface1 or ev5 o/5tati\sly l>ge lett]s4 ,e visit+ c>d %\ld h ! address 9 small lett]s 9 ! left-h& corn]4 ,if us$ :5 9 a /range city1 ! usual address may be scor$ 9 lead-p5cil1 & ! tempor>y "o writt5 "u ! "n1 ?us3 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,,william ,,leigh1 ,no4 #bjg --- ,,/reet4 ,,/4 ,,james ,,hotel4 ,x is optional ) unm>ri$ ladies to use ! prefix to _! names4 ,g5tlem5 )\t milit>y1 naval1 (ficial1 or pr(essional titles g5]ally omit any prefix b may use ! abbreviation ,mr4 if !y desire4 ,autograph visit+ c>ds are conceit$ affectations4 ,! autograph ( di/+ui%$ *>act]s may be desirable2 b x is precisely t class ( p :o w\ld be lea/ likely to use !m4 ,a neatly engrav$ c>d is en regle2 pr9t$ ones look *eap1 & are n suitable = visit+4 ,p]sons 9 m\rn+ %\ld use c>ds ) black bord]s4 ,"y unm>ri$ ladies may use sep>ate c>ds1 or may h _! names add$ to _! "m's1 ?us3 ,,mrs4 ,,joseph ,,banks4 ,,miss ,,lucy ,,banks4 ,leave-tak+ c>ds h ,p4 ,p4 ,c4 7p\r pr5dre conge7 writt5 9 ! "r-h& corn]4 ,w$d+ c>ds are 9 ! be/ ta/e :5 p]fectly simple4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to leave a c>d aft] be+ in=m$ t ! p]son visit$ is at home4 ,:5 y h be5 in=m$ ( an important ev5t 9 ! family ( a fri5d-a bir?1 a m>riage1 or a dea?-if y are unable to (f] p]sonal congratulation or condol5ce1 y may leave a c>d )9 a week4 ,if y reside 9 ano!r city1 y may s5d y\r c>d by po/1 ) ! ^w felicitation "u ! "n4 ,a m\rnful ev5t calls = a lett]4 ,a c>d left = two or m memb]s ( ! same family mu/ h a corn] turn$ d[n4 ,a c>d ) a photograph portrait ^u x1 ?\gh to a c]ta9 ext5t fa%ionable1 is a vulg>ism t c nev] obta9 g5]al favor4 ,if y are a g5tleman1 y\r visage may be res]v$ by ! *amb]maid1 to exhibit z "o ( h] beaux1 & no lady1 surely1 w\ld ev] display h] face on a visit+ c>d4 ,g5tlem5 pres5t+ fl[]s or o!r gifts to ladies %\ld always atta* a c>d1 & ov] ! "n write1 ,) complim5ts (4 ,*ri/mas gifts1 :5 s5t1 %\ld be accompani$ by ! c>d ( ! giv]4 ,loans ( books or music1 :5 return$1 %\ld always be accompani$ by ! c>d ( ! borr[]4 ,,lett] ,,writ+4 ,,no "o %\ld write lett]s at all :o _c write 9 a cle>1 fair h&1 t ^? :o run may read4 ,9 a busy age l ! pres5t1 :5 e "o's "t has a c]ta9 value1 we h no "r to impose ! read+ ( hi]oglyphics ^u our correspond5ts4 ,i's %\ld be dott$1 t's cross$1 & capitals us$ 9 _! prop] places1 & only ! mo/ obvi\s abbreviations indulg$ 94 ,punctuation is equally de regueur2 ! mo/ unimportant lett]s %\ld be c>efully punctuat$2 & ! habit is s easily acquir$1 & s simple1 t aft] a :ile x entails no m "t or ?\ght ?an dott+ ! i's4 ,! h&writ+ ( a lady or g5tleman %\ld n be comm]cial or s*ola/ic1 b firm & *>act]i/ic4 ,all affectations 9 writ+ %\ld be avoid$1 su* z slop+ "o's h& to ! left1 ! use ( fl\ri%es1 undue size 9 ! *>act]s1 or a dim9utiv5ess ( ! same to try eyesight & pati5ce4 ,! signature %\ld be simple & uno/5tati\s4 ,no?+ c be m absurd ?an to see a p]son ^: "n c h no significance to ! _w 9 g5]al1 sign himself z elaborately z if he 7 ! ,pope or ,presid5t at lea/1 ,und]l9+ %\ld only be resort$ to :5 ! und]l9$ ^w is ( really great importance4 ,_m ladies c>ry ?is practice to excess1 & s rob x ( all significance1 z a speak] :o emphasiz$ e o!r ^w w\ld n be he$$ :5 he ne$$ to be emphatic4 ,:at c be m absurd ?an su* a s5t5ce z ! foll[+3 ,we are all v sorry to he> t y _c come to visit u ?is summ]1 z we expect$1 & wi% y\r bus9ess 0 n s engross+4 ,= ! ord9>y correspond5ce ( a lady or g5tleman x is advisable to use :ite note-pap] ( good quality1 & ! size di/+ui%$ z comm]cial note4 ,if monograms or initials are us$1 !y %\ld be z simple z possible1 & 9 :ite or black only4 ,gilt or color$ monograms are 9 bad ta/e4 ,r$ seal+-wax is admissible only = bus9ess lett]s1 & waf]s are entirely out ( /yle4 ,9 m\rn+1 ! pap] & envelopes may h a black bord] suitable to ! relation%ip ( ! dead1 & ! l5g? ( "t ! m\rn+ has be5 worn4 ,9 ! deepe/ m\rn+1 exagg]ations ( black bord] are unbecom+ & 9 bad ta/e4 ,real grief is always uno/5tati\s4 ,no lett] %\ld conta9 erasures "u any circum/ances4 ,! /amp %\ld be plac$ exactly 9 ! "r-h& corn] ( ! envelope2 x mu/ nei!r be up-side-d[n1 nor slant+1 nor 9 any way c>elessly affix$4 ,neglig5ce 9 ^! matt]s ev9ces a rud5ess to ! p]son to :om y write1 z h9t+ t y ?9k any?+ w d4 ,blots & sme>s are almo/ too gross pieces ( c>elessness to be comm5t$ ^u4 ,aft] t5 ye>s ( age1 !y are entirely inexcusable4 ,nev] omit y\r own "n & address f a lett]1 :e!r ( bus9ess or fri5d%ip4 ,9 writ+ to p]sons ) :om y are b slightly acqua9t$1 use z few words z possible4 ,y are n au?oriz$ 9 tak+ up mu* ( _! "t4 ,x is only 9 correspond5ce ) v intimate fri5ds t long lett]s are p]missible4 ,if occasion necessitates a lett] to a v busy p]son1 polit5ess requires t x %\ld be fram$ z curtly z is consi/5t ) civility & p]spicuity4 ,x is unp>donable to wa/e really valuable "t1 because we d n *oose to be at ! tr\ble ( conc5trat+ our ?\ghts & sp>+ our words4 ,9 writ+ to our fri5ds or acqua9tances1 we %\ld nev] communicate bad news abruptly2 b %\ld lead ! way to x 9 su* a mann] z to s(t5 ! bl[4 ,a great deal ( pa9 may be avoid$ by a prop] *oice ( words4 ,we %\ld scrupul\sly avoid writ+ too frequ5tly1 or at too great a l5g?1 ( our own losses & mis=tunes4 ,to d ?is is m]ely ?\ghtless egotism4 ,we may h a "r to expect sympa?y f our fri5ds1 b we h no "r to make our lett]s inflictions4 ,lett]s %\ld inv>iably be writt5 *e]fully if possible1 &1 at lea/1 9 a tone ( resignation4 ,an ill-temp]$ lett] is z great a mi/ake z a la*rymose "o4 ,no?+ is s inexp$i5t z to write a lett] 9 a fit ( indignation & ang]4 ,if y mu/ give way to y\r feel+s1 write y\r lett]1 b let x rema9 unpo/$ until ! next day2 read x ov] !n1 & y w probably put x 9 ! fire4 ,x is bett]1 if possible1 to seek an int]view ) ! p]son :o has wrong$ or affront$ y4 ,spok5 recrim9ation or repro( is =gott52 b :5 y h once writt5 d[n & issu$ y\r angry ?\ghts1 !y are irrevocable1 & a sure s\rce ( aft] regret4 ,9 deal+ ) ^? :o may h treat$ y unfairly1 be civil 9 y\r lett]s4 ,be z haughty z y please1 & /ate y\r grievance 9 pla91 unv>ni%$ t]ms1 & !re end4 ,if ! tru? does n /+1 no?+ y c add to x w d s2 & vitup]ation1 ?\gh x does n injure ! p]son ^u :om y be/[ x1 injures y\r own cause1 & detracts s]i\sly f ! prop] dignity ( y\r own position4 ,9 writ+1 z 9 conv]sation1 egotism is a capital (f5ce4 ,we h no m "r to be egoti/ic on pap] ?an we h a "r to be dull or disagreeable4 ,a lett] %\ld be l a visit1 bright1 inspirit+1 & a reflex ( our be/ mood4 ,above all1 x %\ld be k9d & sympa!tic4 ,!re are lett]s ^: arrival we hail z we %\ld t ( a new book by a delightful writ]1 or ! visit ( a brilliant acqua9tance4 ,aga91 !re are o!rs1 ! deliv]y ( :i*1 anticipat+ all ! dullness & v]bosity ) :i* !y are c]ta9 to be fill$1 we dread l ! incursions ( a well-kn[n bore4 ,:o w\ld n wi% to be ! writ] ( ! "o8 ,:o w\ld n take any am\nt ( pa9s ) 8 correspond5ce to avoid be+ dread$ z ! o!r8 ,always answ] any lett] t may be address$ to y1 no matt] :o ! writ] may be4 ,if ! lett] be f "o :o has no bus9ess to write to y1 nev]!less ackn[l$ge x1 & by y\r /yle & mann] *eck fur!r imp]t95ce4 ,?us3 ,,wa%+ton1 ,d4 ,c41 ,jan4 #g?1 #ah-4 ,,sir3 ,i write to ackn[l$ge ! receipt ( y\r lett] ( ! #e? in/41 acqua9t+ me ) y\r op9ion ( my spee* 9 ,congress on ! #bg? ultimo4 ,i am1 sir1 ,y\r ob$i5t s]vant1 ,,james ,m4 --- ,mr4 ,p4 ,c4 ,,littleton1 ,philadelphia4 ,bus9ess lett]s g5]ally h ! "n ( ! firm or p]son to :om !y are address$ writt5 above ! ,g5tlem54 or ,sir1 z3 ,messrs4 ,,dick ,,fitzg]ald3 ,g5tlem51 ,or1 ,,john ,,br[n1 ,,esq43 ,de> sir4 ,! "n ( ! place f :i* ! lett] is writt51 ! date1 ! full "n ( writ] & receiv]1 %\ld be giv5 9 "s "p ( a lett]4 ,! practice ( head+ a note ,monday1 )\t a date1 & sign+ x ,*>lie1 is v emb>rass+2 x makes x difficult to answ] a note unless imm$iately1 :5 ! day ( ! week c be readily id5tifi$ ) ! day ( ! mon?1 & :5 ! receiv] kn[s :o 8 correspond5t really is4 ,besides ?is1 9 ! ev5t ( ! lett] misc>ry+1 x _c be return$ if !re be no surname atta*$ to ! signature4 ,a mo/ important lawsuit 9 ,london 0 lo/ by a lett]1 ( great value & significance o!rwise1 be+ dropp$ f ! evid5ce = want ( id5tification1 be+ direct$1 ,de>e/ ,toot+s1 & sign$1 ,y\r lov+ ,poppets4 ,x may seem absurd t a lett] ( weight c\ld conta9 su* sill9ess2 b x 0 a fact4 ,d n write on scraps ( pap]1 z if y\r correspond5ce 7 n wor? ! co/ ( a prop] %eet4 ,nei!r use old envelopes turn$1 z "s p are wont to d4 ,always be sure t y\r lett] has suffici5t /amps ^u x to fully prepay its weight4 ,d n enclose /amps = an answ] unless ! matt] be a bus9ess "o1 & y\r own prop] affair4 ,%\ld y s5d manuscript subject to approval to an editor1 enclose /amps suffici5t to pay = its return4 ,y h no "r to put ano!r to ?is exp5se1 especially z y already require f him a sacrifice ( "t1 9 ord] to look ov] :at y h s5t4 ,anonym\s communications are bo? c[>dly & ill-br$4 ,"u no circum/ances %\ld !y be writt54 ,! fire is ! only fit asylum = !m :5 receiv$4 ,! ,gunp[d] ,plot might h be5 reveal$ op5h&$ly1 & ! anonym\s lett] ev5 9 t case ne>ly miss$ its aim4 ,! only anonym\s communications :i* c be tol]at$ are ! h>mless missives call$ val5t9es4 ,^!1 h[ev]1 h fall5 out ( favor 9 polite society4 ,*ildr5 & s]vants are ! *ief support]s ( ! manufactur]s ( ! gorge\s love-lett]s4 ,9 writ+ to a p]son :o is ! gue/ ( ano!r1 take c>e to place ! "n ( ! ho/ or ho/ess on ! cov] ( y\r lett]4 ,"s p address ! lett] 9 su* a case to ! ho/1 & inscribe ! "n ( _! correspond5t 9 ! left-h& corn]1 ?us3 ,,james ,,gordon1 ,,esq41 ,no4 #cdg --- ,/reet1 ,new ,york4 ,= ,mrs4 ,t4 ,c4 ,,bates4 ,?is practice is v likely to lead to an un9t5tional op5+ ( ! lett] by ! wrong p]son2 = a cursory glance at ! cov] w\ld seem to %[ t ! lett] 0 int5d$ = ! p]son ^: "n 0 mo/ prom95t4 ,! lett] %\ld h be5 direct$1 to ! p]son = :om x 0 int5d$ fir/1 ?us3 ,mrs4 ,t4 ,c4 ,,bates1 ,c>e ( ,,james ,,gordon1 ,esq41 ,no4 #cdg --- ,/reet1 ,new ,york4 ,unless v well acqua9t$ ) y\r correspond5t1 d n use t]ms imply+ intimacy4 ,bus9ess lett]s usually comm5ce ) ,sir1 ,g5tlem51 ,de> ,sir1 or ,de> ,sirs1 & end )1 ,i am1 ,sir 7or ,g5tlem571 ,y\r ob$i5t s]vant1 etc4 ,(ficial lett]s inv>iably beg9 ) ! title ( ! p]son address$1 & !n ,sir1 if a civilian or ! rank ( an (fic]4 ,if ! lett] be to ! head ( a ,dep>tm5t1 to a high ,gov]nm5t (ficial1 or to a sup]ior (fic]1 x is cu/om>y to write 9 a /ra9 a little m def]5tial ?an ord9>y1 s t1 in/ead ( say+1 z y w\ld to a fri5d1 ,i h to acqua9t y1 ,i h to ackn[l$ge ! receipt ( y\r lett]1 y w\ld say1 ,i h ! honor to ackn[l$ge4 ,! end+1 too1 ( su* lett]s %\ld be slightly diff]5t3 ,i h ! honor to be1 ,g5]al1 ,y\r ob$i5t s]vant1 tak+ ! place ( ,i am1 sir1 etc4 ,9 (ficial communications1 m>g9s are always left1 s z to all[ ( notations be+ made = ! purpose ( fram+ an answ]1 & ! backs ( ! pages %\ld be left blank = ! same purpose4 ,x is n cu/om>y to write d[n q to ! bottom ( ! page1 b to take ample room = ! sub/ance ( ! lett]4 ,unless writ+ (ficially1 or to "s public p]son1 x is n cu/om>y 9 ?is c\ntry to give a man all ! titles :i* may belong to him4 ,rememb] t brevity is ! s\l ( wit4 ,let y\r lett]s be concisely writt51 n too bluntly1 b 9 a cle>1 /raight=w>d /yle1 go+ at once to ! subjects y desire to m5tion1 ) z little preamble z possible4 ,use ! passive in/ead ( ! active voice4 ,to d s prev5ts ! cont9ual ?ru/+ =w>d ( ! fir/ p]son s+ul> into ! lett]1 & gives a m mode/ appe>ance to ! text4 ,%ort notes to /rang]s on bus9ess--z1 = in/ance1 9 ref]5ce to ! "* ( a s]vant1 ask+ = "s in=mation1 etc4--%\ld be writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son s+ul>1 ?us3 ,mrs4 ,wright pres5ts h] complim5ts to ,mrs4 ,left1 & w feel greatly oblig$ by any in=mation respect+ ! "* & qualifications ( ,jane ,broom1 :o has appli$ = a situation z h\semaid 9 ,mrs4 ,wright's h\sehold4 ,no4#bg ,f--- ,/reet1 ,jan #i?1 #ahfi4 ,! answ] %\ld also be writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 & %\ld conta9 z mu* in=mation z possible relative to ! po9ts inquir$ ab\t1 /at+ :e!r ! s]vant is hone/1 sob]1 & tru?ful1 & :at is h] exp]i5ce ( h] disposition & habits4 ,9 writ+ to a s]vant1 or to "o consid]ably bel[ y\r own /ation1 ! foll[+ =m may be us$3 ,jane ,broom is h]eby in=m$ t ,mrs4 ,wright is will+ to engage h] z h\semaid f ! #ae? ( ,janu>y1 #ahfi4 ,no4 #bg ,f ,/reet1 ,jan4 #aj?1 #ahfi4 ,or ?is3 ,jane ,broom--y\r "* is satisfactory1 & y c ent] my s]vice on ,saturday1 ! #ae? ( ,janu>y4 ,or ?is3 ,mrs4 ,wright is satisfi$ ) ,jane ,broom's "*1 & in=ms h] t %e may ent] ,mrs4 ,wright's s]vice z h\semaid on ,saturday next4 ,9 s5d+ any communication to a newspap] or magaz9e1 address to ,! ,editor1 & n to any private p]son connect$ ) ! publication4 ,by s do+1 y w bett] secure att5tion ?an if y tr\ble ! editor at 8 own h\se by address+ him by 8 own "n4 ,besides ?is1 "s "o may be act+ = ! editor1 & if he sees ! packet address$ to ! "n ( ! abs5tee1 he w n feel free to op5 x1 b w s5d x to him1 :]eby confusion & delay1 possibly loss ( ! manuscript1 may ensue4 ,!re are six p>ts to e lett]3 ! date1 ! complim5t>y address1 ! body ( ! lett]1 ! complim5t>y clos+1 ! signature1 ! address or sup]scription2 ?us3 7,date7 ,,pet]sburg1 ,va41 ,june #ah?1 #ahfi4 7,complim5t>y address7 ,,james ,,munroe1 ,esq43 ,,de> ,sir3 7,body ( ! lett]7 ,y\r mo/ welcome lett]1 ann\nc+ y\r int5tion ( visit+ our city1 rea*$ me ?is morn+4 ,i ha/5 to answ] to beg t y w make my h\se y\r home dur+ y\r /ay1 & in=m me by :at tra9 ,i may expect y1 t ,i may meet y at ! depot4 ,leav+ all else = ! fir/ conv]sation1 7,complim5t>y clos+7 ,i am1 my de> fri5d1 ,,y\rs ,,v ,,truly1 7,signature7 ,p4 ,t4 ,,jones4 7,address or ,sup]scription7 ,,james ,,munroe1 ,,esq41 ,bangor1 ,ma9e4 ,,! ,,lady',s ,,toilet4 ,,p]haps1 9 ^! days ( public & private ba?s1 x may seem a "w ( sup]]ogation to insi/ ^u cleanl9ess z ! fir/ requisite 9 a lady's toilet4 ,yet x may be z well to rem9d our fair read]s t fa/idi\sness on ?is head _c be c>ri$ too f>4 ,cleanl9ess is ! outw>d sign ( inw>d purity4 ,cleanl9ess is heal?1 & heal? is beauty4 ,we w beg91 !n1 ) ! bus9ess ( ! dress+-room1 :i* c be q well p]=m$ 9 ?ree-qu>t]s ( an h\r1 or ev5 less2 & %\ld at late/ be a*iev$ by eight o'clock 9 summ]1 & n9e 9 w9t]4 ,to sleep too mu* is z try+ to ! con/itution z to sleep too little4 ,to sleep too mu* is to r5d] oneself liable to all k9ds ( m9or ailm5ts1 bo? ( m9d & body4 ,x is a habit t _c be too sev]ely c5sur$1 especially 9 ! "y4 ,no "m has any "r to all[ h] "y daught]s to ru9 _! temp]1 heal?1 & complexion1 by ly+ 9 b$ till n9e or t5 o'clock4 ,e>ly ris+ conduces m to ! pres]vation ( heal?1 fre%ness1 & "y looks1 ?an any?+ 9 ! _w1 & ev5 to ! prop] pres]vation ( our m5tal faculties4 ,! ba? is a mo/ important object ( /udy4 ,x is n to be suppos$ t we wa% 9 ord] to become clean2 we wa% because we wi% to rema9 clean4 ,! ba? %\ld be tak5 by a p]son 9 good heal? once a day 9 w9t]1 & twice a day 9 summ]4 ,= p]sons ( really robu/ con/itutions1 a cold %[]-ba? may be recomm5d$2 b z a g5]al rule ! sponge-ba? is safe/ & mo/ conv5i5t4 ,cold wat] refre%es & invigorates1 b does n cleanse2 ^? p]sons1 !re=e1 :o daily use a cold ba? 9 ! morn+ %\ld frequ5tly use a w>m "o at night4 ,= cleans+ purposes1 ! wat] %\ld be ( f n9ety-six to "o hundr$ degrees1 or ev5 "o hundr$ & eight degrees2 b su* a ba? %\ld be sp>+ly indulg$ 91 z x exhau/s ! physical p[]s4 ,a tepid ba?1 v>y+ f eighty-five to n9ety-five degrees1 is p]haps ! safe/ = g5]al use1 ! m p>ticul>y z x answ]s ! purpose bo? ( refre%+ & cleans+4 ,x is n well to rema9 9 ! ba? = long] ?an two or ?ree m9utes4 ,a l>ge co>se sponge is be/ = ! purpose4 ,x is advisable to wet ! top ( ! head be=e ent]+ a cold ba?4 ,:e!r soap be us$ or n1 x is well to apply ! fle%-bru% g5tly to ! face & vigor\sly to ! :ole body4 ,no?+ improves ! complexion l ! daily use ( ! fle%-bru%4 ,:5 ! bru%+ is conclud$1 a huck-a-back or ,turki% t[el %\ld be us$ = ! f9al process ( dry+4 ,! tee? mu/ be scrupul\sly c>$ =4 ,if prop] c>e 7 tak5 ( ! tee? 9 y\?1 !re w\ld be less employm5t = ! d5ti/ 9 aft] life4 ,! ,am]icans ru9 _! tee? by dr9k+ ic$ dr9ks ) hot d9n]s2 ! ,spani% ladies by eat+ sug> all day long2 ! ,mexicans by smok+ cig>ettes4 ,v hot & v sweet ?+s %\ld be avoid$4 ,! tee? %\ld be c>efully bru%$1 n only night & morn+1 b aft] e meal4 ,v h>d too?-bru%es are n advisable1 & a simple too?-p[d] ( common *alk is saf] & m effectual ?an any quack]ies4 ,! onion1 we ne$ sc>cely obs]ve1 mu/ be ! =bidd5 fruit ( ! ,eve ( ! n9ete5? c5tury4 ,indige/ible food is also c]ta9 to affect ! sweetness ( ! brea?4 ,z soon z ! brea? becomes unpleasant1 "o may be q sure t ! dige/ive ma*9]y is out ( ord]4 ,! nails mu/ always be fa/idi\sly clean1 & nev] all[$ to gr[ inord9ately long4 ,9 ! cutt+ ( ! nails1 e c>e mu/ be giv5 to ! pres]vation ( ! %ape1 & to ! removal ( sup]flu\s sk94 ,a lib]al use ( ! nail-bru%1 w>m wat]1 & be/ ,w9dsor soap w insure ! pres]vation ( a delicate h&4 ,gloves mu/ ( c\rse be worn out ( doors2 & ev5 9 doors z mu* z possible4 ,! hair requires a good deal ( c>e1 ?\gh ( ! simple/ & mo/ in>tificial k9d4 ,! secret ( f9e & glossy hair is a clean hair-bru%2 & ladies :o keep no maid to p]=m ^? (fices = !m %\ld wa% _! hair-bru%es 9 hot wat] & soda e day4 ,e o!r day is ! m9imum ( wa%+ t a hair-bru% %\ld h4 ,once secure ! p]fect cleanl9ess ( y\r hair-bru%1 & ! re/ w be easy4 ,bru% ! hair c>efully bo? at night & morn+2 let x be occasionally cleans$ ) yolk ( egg beat5 up1 or a mixture ( glyc]9e & lime-juice1 & y w f9d no ne$ to resort to hair-doctors or quacks4 ,pomade & oil are /rictly to be avoid$2 b aft] a sea-wat] ba?1 or dur+ a sea j\rney1 a little w>m pomade w be useful 9 s(t5+ ! hair4 ,above all ?+s1 nev] attempt to *ange ! color ( ! hair by means ( fa%ionable dyes & fluids4 ,color s obta9$ _c h>monize naturally ) ! sk91 eyes1 & eyebr[s t ,nature has giv54 ,practices ( ?is k9d are simply & /rictly immode/4 ,!y ev9ce a s5seless desire = fa%ion1 & an equally s5seless eag]ness to attract4 ,auricomus hair-dyes1 l pa9t$ lips & *eeks1 & p5cill$ eyebr[s1 & complexions pur*as$1 are disgraceful to ! we>]s4 ,) reg>d to ! art ( obta9+ a good complexion1 let ladies be c>eful 9 reg>d to diet1 take regul> ex]cise 9 ! op5 air1 we> broad-brimm$ hats 9 ! sun1 & veils 9 ! w9d2 let !m avoid pe>l p[d]s & wa%es ( e k9d2 let !m1 above all ?+s1 g e>ly to b$1 & rise betimes 9 ! morn+2 & if by s do+ !y are n made beautiful =ev]1 !y c nev] be made s4 ,! face %\ld nev] be wa%$ :5 heat$ f ex]cise4 ,wipe ! p]spiration f ! sk91 & wait until x is suffici5tly cool be=e y ba!1 ev5 ) w>m wat]4 ,ra9-wat] is be/ = ! ba?4 ,9 case ( any eruption ^u ! sk91 no "t %\ld be lo/ 9 procur+ m$ical advice4 ,he :o doctors himself1 says ! prov]b1 has a fool = 8 physician4 ,) reg>d to dress1 x is impossible to d m ?an (f] a few g5]al obs]vations4 ,! fa%ion ( dress is = to-day2 b ! e/hetics ( dress are = all "t4 ,no matt] to :at absurd l5g?s fa%ion may g1 a woman ( ta/e w ev] avoid ! ridicul\s4 ,! mill9] & dressmak] may h&le ! scissors nev] s despotically1 b 9 matt]s ( color1 h>mony1 & contra/ !y rema9 "u ! control ( _! employ]4 ,dress1 inde$1 may fairly claim to be consid]$ 9 ! light ( a f9e art4 ,to dress well dem&s some?+ m ?an a full purse & a pretty figure4 ,x requires ta/e1 good s5se1 & ref9em5t4 ,a woman ( ta/e & good s5se w nei!r make dress h] fir/ nor h] la/ object 9 life4 ,%e w rememb] t no wife %\ld betray t total indiff]5ce = h] husb&'s ta/e :i* is impli$ 9 ! neglect ( h] appe>ance2 & %e w also rememb] t to dress consi/5tly & ta/efully is "o ( ! duties :i* %e owes to society4 ,!re is a ,spani% prov]b :i* says1 ,e hair has its %ad[4 ,s4 9 l mann]1 e lady1 h[ev] insignificant h] social position may appe> to h]self1 mu/ ex]cise a c]ta9 influ5ce on ! feel+s & op9ions ( o!rs4 ,if1 !re=e1 ! art ( dress+ appe>s ei!r too irksome or too frivol\s to su* ( ! fair sex z are engag$ 9 s]i\s occupations1 let !m rememb] t x p]=ms ! same "p 9 beautify+ dome/ic life z is p]=m$ by music & ! f9e arts 9 embelli%+ ! life moral & spiritual4 ,s long1 !re=e1 z dress m]ely occupies s mu* "t & requires s mu* money z we are fairly entitl$ to all[ x1 no?+ c be said aga9/ x4 ,:5 extravagant fa%ions are indulg$ 9--extravagant habits fo/]$ at any co/--& "u any circum/ances--! critic is q ju/ifi$ 9 8 /rictures1 h[ev] sev]e4 ,dress1 to be 9 p]fect ta/e1 ne$ n be co/ly2 & no woman ( "r feel+ w adorn h] p]son at ! exp5se ( h] husb&'s com=t or h] *ildr5's education4 ,z a "w ( art1 a well-dress$ woman is a /udy4 ,h] toilet w be z bi5 soignee & z well *os5 at ! family breakfa/-table z at a ball4 ,if %e loves bright colors & c we> !m ) impunity1 !y w be z h>moni\sly arrang$ z ! arti/ arranges 8 colors on ! palette4 ,if %e is "y1 h] dress w be y\?ful2 if %e is old1 x w n affect simplicity4 ,%e w always foll[ r ?an lead ! prevail+ fa%ion1 & r foll[ h] own fa%ion ?an violate good ta/e or common s5se4 ,! gold5 rule 9 dress is to avoid extremes4 ,d n be s orig9al 9 y\r dress z to be peculi>2 & d n affect fa%ions t are radically unbecom+ to y4 ,ladies t are nei!r v "y nor v /rik+ 9 appe>ance _c d bett] ?an we> quiet colors4 ,ladies :o are n ri* c always appe> well dress$1 ) a little c>e 9 ! *oice & arrangem5t ( ! mat]ials4 ,:atev] ! texture ( ! dress1 x %\ld be made by ! v be/ dressmak] y call af=d4 ,z well g to a ?ird or f\r?-rate d5ti/1 music-ma/]1 or doctor1 z g to a ?ird or f\r?-rate dressmak]4 ,! dressmak] is a woman's good or evil g5ius4 ,morn+ dress %\ld be faultless 9 its way4 ,= "y ladies1 m>ri$ or unm>ri$1 no?+ is pretti] 9 summ] ?an :ite or v light morn+ dresses ( wa%+ mat]ials4 ,light dresses mu/ be exquisitely fre% & clean1 ribbons fre%1 coll>s & cuffs irreproa*able4 ,all /uffs are to be rigidly es*ew$ except ^? ( ! v f9e/ k9d4 ,morn+ dress = eld]ly ladies ( weal? & position %\ld be ( d>k silk4 ,jewelry1 hair ornam5ts1 & light silk dresses are n p]missible = morn+ we>4 ,walk+ dress %\ld always be quiet4 ,ri* walk+ dress attracts att5tion1 :i* 9 ! /reet is n desirable4 ,= ! c>riage1 a lady may dress z elegantly z %e pleases4 ,eld]ly ladies %\ld always dress ri*ly4 ,any ?9 old lady may we> delicate colors1 :il/ a /\t1 florid p]son looks be/ 9 d>k or gray4 ,= "y z well z old1 ! "q ( color mu/1 h[ev]1 be det]m9$ by complexion & figure4 ,ri* colors h>monize ) ri* brunette complexions & d>k hair2 delicate colors are ! mo/ suitable = delicate & fragile /yles ( beauty4 ,= ball dresses1 light & diaphan\s mat]ials are worn2 silk dresses are n suitable = danc+4 ,black & sc>let1 black & violet1 or :ite1 are worn 9 m\rn+2 b ladies 9 deep m\rn+ %\ld n g to balls at all4 ,!y mu/ n dance1 & _! d>k dresses look out ( place 9 a gay assembly4 ,at d9n] p>ties1 unless ( a small1 fri5dly k9d1 only ! fulle/ dress is appropriate4 ,demi-toilette c be worn at unc]emoni\s d9n]s1 & ev5 high dresses1 if ! mat]ial be suffici5tly ri*4 ,x is bett] to we> real fl[]s at l>ge d9n] p>ties1 b artificial ones at balls2 s9ce ! =m] w\ld drop & fall to pieces ) ! heat & ! danc+4 ,mu* jewelry is out ( place = "y ladies at any "t2 &1 inde$1 !re is z mu* propriety to be obs]v$ 9 ! we>+ ( jewelry z 9 ! we>+ ( dresses4 ,diamonds1 pe>ls1 rubies1 & all transp>5t preci\s /ones belong to ev5+ dress1 & %\ld nev] be worn be=e d9n]4 ,9 ! morn+1 "o's r+s %\ld be ( ! simple/ k9d1 & "o's jewelry limit$ to a good broo*1 gold *a91 & wat*4 ,diamonds & pe>ls are z mu* out ( place dur+ ! morn+ z a l[ dress or a wrea?4 ,x is well to rememb] 9 ! *oice ( jewelry t m]e co/l9ess is n always ! te/ ( value2 & t an exquisite "w ( art1 su* z a f9e intaglio or cameo1 or a natural r>ity1 su* z a black pe>l1 is a possession m di/+ue ?an a l>ge brilliant :i* any "o :o has money en\gh c buy z well z y\rself4 ,( all preci\s /ones1 ! opal is ! mo/ lovely & commonplace4 ,no m]ely vulg> woman pur*ases an opal4 ,gloves1 %oes1 & boots mu/ always be faultless4 ,gloves _c be too light = ! c>riage1 or too d>k = ! /reets4 ,a woman ) ill-fitt+ gloves _c be said to be well dress$2 :ile to we> soil$ ones at y\r fri5d's soiree is to %[ h] t y ?9k lightly ( h]self & h] company4 ,x may be rem>k$1 by ! way1 t p]fumes %\ld be us$ only 9 ! ev5+1 & ) ! /ricte/ mod]ation4 ,p]fumes1 to be tol]able1 mu/ be ( ! mo/ re*]*e k9d4 ,"s p1 ( a s5sitive temp]am5t1 w\ld be made ill by ! smell ( musk or pat*\li4 ,f9ally1 let e lady rememb] ,dr4 ,johnson's criticism on a lady's dress3 ,i am sure %e 0 well dress$1 said ! ,doctor2 = ,i _c rememb] :at %e _h on4 ,,! ,,g5tleman',s ,,toilet4 ,,x has be5 aptly said t ! ba? des]ves an ,ord]4 ,! fir/ requisite ( a g5tleman's toilet is und\bt$ly ! ba?1 :i* %\ld be z brac+ z ! con/itution w all[1 & us$ morn+ & ev5+ 9 summ]1 & e day 9 w9t]4 ,c\ntry g5tlem51 :o live mu* 9 ! op5 air1 & take pl5ty ( ex]cise1 h no excuse = %irk+ ! cold %[]-ba?2 b d5iz5s ( cities1 & m5 :o are oblig$ to lead v s$5t>y lives1 _c indulge ) equal safety 9 ?is luxury1 & mu/ nev] cont9ue x 9 ! tee? ( reason & exp]i5ce4 ,only physiques ( f9e/ quality c endure1 mu* m b5efit by1 a cold-wat] %ock all ! ye> r\nd2 & ?\gh physique is always improvable1 great re=mation mu/ n be attempt$ ra%ly4 ,let ! ba? ( f sixty to sev5ty degrees be freely indulg$ 9 by ! /rong1 & ev5 by ! less robu/1 9 summ] "t2 b 9 w9t] a temp]ature v>y+ f eighty-five to n9ety-five degrees is ! safe/4 ,! fle%-bru% %\ld be vigor\sly appli$ to all p>ts ( ! body1 aft] :i* ! sk9 mu/ be c>efully dri$ ) ,turki% or huck-a-back t[els4 ,x is well to rema9 )\t clo?+ = "s little "t aft] ba?+4 ,no?+ is s heal?y z exposure ( ! body to air & sun2 a ,fr5* physician has recomm5d$ ! sun-ba? z a desirable hygi5ic practice4 ,a ba? 9 fre% wat] %\ld always be tak5 aft] a sea-dip4 ,! next ?+ to be done is to clean ! tee?4 ,?is %\ld be done ) a good h>d too?-bru% at lea/ twice a day4 ,smok]s %\ld r9se ! m\? imm$iately aft] smok+1 & %\ld be c>eful to keep ! tee? scrupul\sly clean4 ,! nails %\ld also be kept exquisitely clean & %ort4 ,long nails are are an abom9ation4 ,our advice to ^? :o %ave is1 l ,pun*'s advice to ^? ab\t to m>ry ,don't4 ,b x mu/ by no means be und]/ood t suff]+ ! be>d to gr[ is a process t obviates all tr\ble4 ,! be>d %\ld be c>efully & frequ5tly wa%$1 well trimm$1 & well comb$1 & ! hair & :isk]s kept scrupul\sly clean by ! help ( clean1 /iff hair-bru%es1 & soap & w>m wat]4 ,! /yle ( ! be>d %\ld be adapt$ to ! =m ( ! face2 b any affectation 9 ! cut ( ! be>d & :isk]s is v objectionable1 & augurs unmitigat$ vanity 9 ! we>]4 ,long hair is nev] indulg$ 9 except by pa9t]s & fiddl]s4 ,! m\/a*e %\ld be worn neat1 & n ov]l>ge4 ,beau ,brummell sp5t two h\rs 9 dress+2 b a g5tleman c p]=m all ! duties ( 8 toilet to p]fection 9 less ?an half t "t4 ,a great ,fr5* writ] has said1 ) z mu* grace z philosophy1 t ! arti/ & man ( lett]s ne$s only a black coat1 & ! abs5ce ( all pret5sion1 to place him on ! level ( ! be/ society4 ,x mu/ be obs]v$1 h[ev]1 t ?is rem>k applies only to ! intellectual work]s1 :o1 if !y d occasionally commit a m9or solecism 9 dress & mann]s1 are =giv5 on acc\nt ( _! fame & tal5ts4 ,x is n en\gh t a man %\ld be clev]1 or well educat$1 or well born1 to take 8 place 9 society2 he mu/ be acqua9t$ ) all t ?is *apt]1 &1 inde$1 ?is little volume ?r\gh\t1 pr(esses to tea*4 ,a g5tleman %\ld always be s well dress$ t 8 dress %all nev] be rem>k$ at all4 ,does ?is s\nd l an enigma8 ,x is n meant = "o4 ,x only implies t p]fect simplicity is p]fect elegance1 & t ! true te/ ( dress 9 ! toilet ( a g5tleman is its entire h>mony1 unobtrusiv5ess1 & becom+ness4 ,displays %\ld be avoid$4 ,let a s5sible man leave ! graces & luxuries ( dress to 8 wife1 daught]s1 & si/]s1 & n seek di/9ction 9 ! tr9kets on 8 wat*- *a91 or ! patt]n ( 8 wai/coat4 ,to be too mu* 9 ! fa%ion is z vulg> z to be too f> beh9d x4 ,no really well- br$ man foll[s e new cut he sees 9 8 tailor's fa%ion- book4 ,only v "y m5 are guilty ( ?is folly4 ,a man ^: dress is appropriate1 neat1 & clean1 w always look l a g5tleman2 b to dress appropriately1 "o mu/ h a v>i$ w>drobe4 ,?is %\ld n1 on ! av]age1 co/ m ?an a t5? "p ( 8 income4 ,no man c af=d m ?an a t5? ( 8 income = dress4 ,! au?or ( ,pelham has aptly said t a g5tleman's coat %\ld n fit too well4 ,!re is great tru? & subtlety 9 ?is obs]vation4 ,to be fitt$ too well is to look l a tailor's dummy4 ,9 ! morn+1 we> a frock coat1 & tr\s]s ( light or d>k color1 z befits ! season4 ,:5 9 ! c\ntry or at ! seaside1 gray or %oot+ co/umes are be/4 ,9 ! ev5+1 ?\gh y sp5d x alone ) y\r family1 we> a black dress suit2 & if y h sons1 br+ !m up to d ! same4 ,x is ! obs]vance ( ^! trifles 9 dome/ic etiquette t m>ks ! true g5tleman4 ,= ev5+ p>ties1 d9n] p>ties1 & balls we> a black dress coat1 black tr\s]s1 black silk or clo? wai/coat1 ?9 pat5t-lea!r boots1 a :ite cravat1 & :ite kid gloves4 ,abjure all fopp]ies1 su* z :ite silk l9+s1 silk coll>s1 etc42 above all1 ! %irt-front %\ld be pla94 ,at small1 unc]emoni\s p>ties1 gloves are n necess>y2 b1 :5 worn1 !y %\ld be new & fit well4 ,economy 9 gloves is an insult to society4 ,a man's jewelry %\ld be ( ! be/ & simple/ description4 ,false jewelry1 l e o!r =m ( falsehood & pret5ce1 is unmitigat$ vulg>ity4 ,elaborate /uds & sleeve-l9ks are all foppi% & vulg>4 ,a set ( good /uds1 a gold wat* & gu>d1 & "o h&some r+1 are z _m ornam5ts z a g5tleman c we> ) propriety4 ,= a r+1 ! man ( f9e ta/e w\ld pref] a preci\s antique intaglio to ! h&some/ diamond or ruby t c\ld be b\ght4 ,! mo/ elegant g5tleman ) :om ! au?or 0 ev] acqua9t$--a man famili> ) all ! c\rts ( ,europe--nev] wore any o!r %irt-/uds 9 full dress ?an ?ree valuable black pe>ls1 ea* ab\t ! size ( a pea1 & by no means beautiful to look ^u4 ,la/ly1 a man's jewelry %\ld always h "s use1 & n1 l a lady's1 be worn = ornam5t only4 ,color$ %irts may be worn 9 ! morn+2 b !y %\ld be small 9 patt]n & quiet 9 color4 ,fancy clo?s ( conspicu\s patt]ns are exce$+ly ojectionable4 ,) a color$ flannel %irt always we> a :ite coll> & wri/b&s4 ,! hat %\ld always be black2 & caps & /raw-hats are only admissible 9 summ]4 _/_/_/#aff ,if spectacles are necess>y1 !y %\ld be ( ! be/ & lighte/ make1 & m\nt$ 9 gold1 or blue /eel4 ,= weak sight1 blue or smoke-color$ glasses are ! be/2 gre5 glasses are dete/able4 ,a g5tleman %\ld nev] be se5 9 ! /reet )\t gloves4 ,wor/$ or cotton gloves are n p]missible4 ,a man's clo!s %\ld always be well bru%$1 & nev] ?readb>e or %abby4 ,no g5tleman c af=d to we> %abby clo!s4 ,= ! c\ntry1 or ! =eign t\r1 a g5tleman w select a co/ume ( "s light wool5 mat]ial1 flannel %irts1 ?ick boots1 & ev]y?+ to correspond4 ,d&yism is nev] m out ( place ?an on ! glaci]1 or among ! ,norwegian salmon fi%]ies4 ,!re are ?ree ?+s "o %\ld consult 9 ! matt] ( dress if "o w\ld always appe> l a g5tleman--viz41 exp5se1 com=t1 & society4 ,if !re is "o ?+ 9 ?is _w ab\t :i* we c ent]ta9 any degree ( moral c]ta9ty1 x is t we mu/ pay our tailor's bills4 ,if1 !re=e1 our means are disproportionate to our wants1 we mu/ rememb] ! old prov]b1 ,cut y\r coat accord+ to y\r clo?1 & dress z well z y possibly c ^u little money4 ,,miscellane\s2 ,,or1 ,,"o ,,hundr$ ,,unclassifi$ ,,laws ,,( ,,etiquette4 #a4 ,a ,,g5tleman mu/ always h& a lady a *air1 op5 ! door = h] to pass 9 or out1 remove any?+ t may be 9 h] way1 & pick up any?+ %e may drop1 ev5 if %e is an entire /rang] to him4 #b4 ,a g5tleman or lady w nev] look ov] ! %\ld] ( ano!r :o is ei!r read+ or writ+4 #c4 ,no g5tleman or lady w ev] be guilty ( p]sonality 9 conv]sation4 ,no wit1 h[ev] ke52 no s>casm1 h[ev] humor\s1 c make p]sonal rem>ks any?+ b rude & vulg>4 #d4 ,a g5tleman1 9 pass+ a lady :]e he mu/ /& aside to give h] space1 mu/ always remove 8 hat1 & incl9e 8 head slightly4 #e4 ,a lady1 9 su* a case1 mu/ always ackn[l$ge ! c\rtesy by a slight b[4 #f4 ,exagg]ation trespasses s closely ^u falsehood t x is n safe to tru/ x4 ,to adh]e /rictly to tru? c nev] lead into error4 #g4 ,conceit is ! vice or folly ( ! %all[-m9d$2 s if y w\ld n be ?\ght s avoid boa/+ or affectations ( any k9d4 ,! truly wise man is mode/1 & ! bragg>t & coxcomb are valu$ b little4 #h4 ,x is unladylike to /& ) arms a-kimbo or fold$4 #i4 ,x is a m>k ( l[ bre$+ to fidget ei!r ) ! h&s or feet2 to play ) ! wat*-*a91 toss ! gloves1 suck ! head ( a cane or h&le ( a p>asol1 or to fuss ) a coll> or necktie4 ,no?+ is a m c]ta9 sign ( g5tle bre$+ ?an quiet ease )\t /iffness or fidgett+4 #aj4 ,to sw+ ! foot1 or tap monoton\sly ) ! feet1 to drum ) ! f+]s on a table or w9d[1 are all brea*es ( etiquette4 #aa4 ,x is ill-br$ to speak ( p]sons ) :om y are b slightly acqua9t$ by _! fir/ "n4 #ab4 ,no true lady w ev] all[ h]self to speak ( a g5tleman by 8 surname )\t a prefix4 ,to he> a lady talk+ ( ,holmes or ,w>r51 in/ead ( ,mr4 ,holmes or ,dr4 ,w>r51 gives ! impression t %e is l[-br$4 #ac4 ,no g5tleman w ev] criticize a w9e (f]$ to him1 no matt] h[ poor x may be4 ,we give an in/ance ( undaunt$ etiquette1 :i* proves to :at an ext5t a well-br$ man may c>ry 8 c\rtesy3 ,9 ,engl& dur+ ! ,fr5* ,revolution1 ! ,duke ( ,b$=d invit$ ! emigrant ,duc de ,grammont to a spl5did d9n]1 "o ( ^? magnific5t ent]ta9m5ts :i* ,engli%m5 pride !mselves on giv+ to cr[n$ heads1 & _! good feel+ prompts !m to (f] to exiles4 ,dur+ dess]t1 a bottle ( ,con/antia 0 produc$1 :i* = age & flavor 0 suppos$ to be mat*less4 ,x 0 liquid gold 9 a cry/al flagon--a ray ( ! sun desc5d+ into a goblet2 x 0 nect> :i* 0 wor?y ( ,jove1 & 9 :i* ,bac*us w\ld h revell$4 ,! noble head ( ! h\se ( ,russell himself help$ 8 gue/ to a glass ( ?is *oice w9e1 & de ,grammont1 on ta/+ x1 decl>$ x to be excell5t4 ,! ,duke ( ,b$=d1 anxi\s to judge ( its quality1 p\r$ out a glass1 :i* no soon] approa*$ 8 lips ?an1 ) a horrible contortion1 he exclaim$3 ',:y1 :at on e>? is ?is8' ,! butl] approa*$1 took ! bottle & appli$ x to 8 no/rils1 &1 to ! dismay ( 8 ma/]1 pron\nc$ x to be ca/or-oil4 ,! ,duc de ,grammont _h swall[$ ?is horrid draught )\t w9c+4 #ad4 ,flatt]y is a brea* ( etiquette4 ,johnson says3 ,( all wild bea/s1 pres]ve me f a tyrant2 & ( all tame1 a flatt]]4 #ae4 ,no g5tleman may ev] break an engagem5t1 :e!r x be "o ( bus9ess or pleasure1 ) a lady1 or ) ano!r g5tleman4 ,if n bless$ ) a ret5tive memory1 he mu/ c>ry a note-book & record !re9 all 8 appo9tm5ts1 gu>d+1 by frequ5t ref]5ce1 aga9/ mak+ two = ! same day & h\r4 ,to break an engagem5t ) a lady is almo/ c]ta9 to give la/+ (f5ce1 & ) good cause4 #af4 ,irritability is a brea* ( good mann]s4 ,watts says3 ,to be angry ab\t trifles is mean & *ildi%2 to rage & be furi\s is bruti%1 & to ma9ta9 p]petual wra? is ak9 to ! practice & temp] ( fi5ds2 b to prev5t & suppress ris+ res5tm5t is wise & glori\s1 is manly & div9e4 #ag4 ,no?+ m>ks a g5tleman m truly ?an a /rict punctuality4 ,to keep ano!r wait+ is a brea* ( etiquette1 z well z (t5 a positive unk9dness4 #ah4 ,f9e fea!rs make f9e birds1 ! old prov]b tells u2 b no am\nt ( f9e dress+ w ev] make a lady4 ,true polit5ess1 g5tle c\rtesy & ref9em5t may be z m>k$ 9 a lady we>+ a calico dress & a sun-bonnet z 9 "o 9 full gala dress4 ,mrs4 ,?orpe1 ! celebrat$ ,engli% au?oress1 tells ( an int]view ) ,mrs4 ,wa%+ton1 ?an :om no m p]fect lady1 9 ! true acceptance ( ! t]m1 ev] liv$4 ,%e says3 ,z ,mrs4 ,wa%+ton 0 said to be s gr& a lady1 we ?\ght we mu/ put on our be/ bibs & b&s2 s we dress$ ourselves 9 our mo/ elegant ruffles & silks1 & 7 introduc$ to h] lady%ip2 & don't y ?9k we f\nd h] knitt+1 & ) h] *eck apron on6 ,%e receiv$ u v graci\sly & easily2 b aft] ! complim5ts 7 ov]1 %e resum$ h] knitt+4 ,!re we 7 )\t a /it* ( "w1 & sitt+ 9 /ate2 b ,g5]al ,wa%9ton's lady1 ) h] own h&s1 0 knitt+ /ock+s = h] husb&4 #ai4 ,to answ] a civil "q rudely1 or ev5 impati5tly1 is a gross brea* ( etiquette4 ,ev5 if x inconv5i5ces y or int]rupts y1 x w take no long] to answ] k9dly or politely ?an to w\nd or (f5d by cru/9ess4 #bj4 ,no g5tleman may ev] refuse an apology4 ,no matt] h[ great ! (f5ce1 h[ deep ! res5tm5t1 an apology c nev] be reject$4 ,x may n aga9 revive fri5d%ip2 b x mu/ prev5t qu>rell+4 #ba4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to intrude ^u a bus9ess man dur+ bus9ess h\rs4 #bb4 ,an invalid1 an eld]ly p]son1 or a lady mu/ be giv5 ! mo/ com=table *air 9 ! room1 mu/ be all[$ to select ! light & temp]ature1 & no true lady or g5tleman w ev] object to ! ex]cise ( ! privilege4 #bc4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette1 z well z an imp]t95ce ev] to "q a *ild or s]vant ^u family affairs4 #bd4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to exam9e a c>d-basket4 ,x is true !y are g5]ally expos$ 9 ! draw+-room2 b no true lady or g5tleman w ev] turn !m ov]4 #be4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to consult a wat* :5 9 company4 ,to d s1 & !n take leave1 is an absolute imp]t95ce1 z a pleasant circle may be brok5 at an e>ly h\r1 "u ! impression t x mu/ be late2 ,mr4 ,c--- hurri$ away s1 :5 he saw :at "t x 04 #bf4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette :5 9 company to try to attract ! att5tion ( "o p]son by signals1 a c\gh1 a poke1 or a nudge4 ,any appe>ance1 inde$1 ( privacy or my/]y is rude 9 company4 #bg4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to assume a lazy1 l\ng+ attitude 9 company4 ,if any "o is too weak or too ill to sit up & assume a prop] position1 he _h bett] /ay at home until he is /rong] or 9 bett] heal?4 #bh4 ,my/]i\s allusions are rude4 #bi4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette1 9 g5]al conv]sation1 to ref] to incid5ts kn[n to only "o ( ! company1 ?us =c+ a species ( tete-a-tete1 & )draw+ a p]haps unwill+ p>tn] f ! g5]al society4 #cj4 ,c>ds ( c]emony mu/ be answ]$ ei!r by a call1 a lett]1 or a return c>d1 )9 a week aft] _! reception4 #cb4 ,new-,ye>'s calls mu/ be made 9 p]son4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to s5d a c>d1 unless prev5t$ by illness f call+4 #cb4 ,nev] rise to take leave 9 ! mid/ ( an int]e/+ conv]sation2 wait until !re is a pause1 & !n )draw1 ) z little di/urbance z possible4 #cc4 ,if y are call+1 & ano!r p]son ent]s1 nev] (f] ! *air assign$ y by ! lady ( ! h\se2 x is h] privilege to decide :]e to place h] gue/s1 & an imp]t95ce on y\r "p to usurp h] place4 #cd4 ,a g5tleman w nev] talk ( 8 bus9ess affairs to a lady1 nor a lady we>y h] g5tlem5 fri5ds by an acc\nt ( h] dome/ic affairs4 #ce4 ,! only gifts t may be (f]$ or accept$ betwe5 ladies & g5tlem5 :o are n relat$ or engag$ are books1 fl[]s1 music1 or confection>y4 ,a lady :o accepts co/ly pres5ts ( jewelry puts h]self "u an obligation t %e may f9d tr\blesome1 & no true g5tleman w expose a lady to ! pa9 ( refus+ an improp] gift ( ?is k9d4 #cf4 ,9 ent]+ a room fill$ ) p1 x is etiquette to b[ slightly1 z a g5]al salutation1 be=e speak+ to ea* ( ^? assembl$4 #cg4 ,x is etiquette1 be=e tak+ a place at table1 to say ,good- morn+1 or ,good-ev5+1 to ^? 9 ! room be=e y1 & especially to ^? :o preside ov] ! meal4 #ch4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to g into company ) ! brea? ta9t$ by eat+ onions1 g>lic1 *eese1 or any o!r /rong- sc5t$ food4 #ci4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette = a g5tleman to ent] a lady's pres5ce smell+ ( tobacco or w9e4 #dj4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to s5d a pres5t hop+ = ano!r4 #da4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette ev] to ref] to a gift y h made1 a favor y h grant$1 or an obligation ( any k9d "u :i* ano!r lies ) reg>d to y4 #db4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette1 & %[s a sad want ( true delicacy1 to return a gift v soon4 ,an obligation ( t k9d1 if accept$ at all1 mu/ n be ?ru/ back at once 9 ! donor's face4 #dc4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette = a husb& or wife to speak ( ea* o!r by _! initial lett]4 ,:5 y he> a lady say+1 ,b41 gave me ?is1 or a g5tleman say+1 ,i always ref] su* matt]s to ,mrs4 ,p41 y may re/ assur$1 :atev] _! social /ation1 !y are l[-br$4 #dd4 ,civility1 says ,"l ,*e/]field1 is p>ticul>ly due to all wom52 & rememb] t no provocation :atsoev] c ju/ify any man 9 n be+ civil to e woman2 & ! greate/ man w\ld ju/ly be reckon$ a brute if he 7 n civil to ! meane/ woman4 ,x is due to _! sex1 & is ! only protection !y h aga9/ ! sup]ior /r5g? ( ours4 #de4 ,too great famili>ity t[>ds a new acqua9tance is a brea* ( etiquette4 ,y are less likely to (f5d by be+ too c]emoni\s4 #df4 ,to notice1 by look or ^w1 any de=mity1 any sc> ( mis=tune to ! face or figure ( a fri5d1 9 n only a brea* ( etiquette ( ! grosse/ k9d1 b is a want ( humanity & good feel+ z well4 #dg4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette1 :5 (f]+ a gift1 to repres5t x z valueless1 or useless to y\rself4 ,if y d n h x1 ! pigs w1 is a homely old prov]b 9 su* cases1 n acceptable 9 polite society4 #dh4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to laugh at y\r own wit4 ,if o!rs w n d t = y1 y _h bett] let y\r rem>k pass unnotic$4 #di4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to lean heavily ^u a table2 & also to tip a *air to & fro :5 y are talk+2 & y w be ju/ly puni%$ if y f9d y\rself sprawl+ on ! floor ) ! *air on top ( y4 #ej4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to write y\r own rem>ks 9 a borr[$ book4 #ea4 ,scold+ is ill-br$4 #eb4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette = a g5tleman to keep 8 hat on :5 h&+ a lady to a c>riage4 #ec4 ,! man :o w insult 8 inf]iors is a boor at he>t1 h[ev] poli%$ he may appe> among/ 8 equals1 or h[ev] def]5tial to 8 sup]iors4 #ed4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to display any ba%fulness 9 company4 ,"l ,*e/]field says3 ,z = ! mauvaise honte1 ,i hope y are above x4 ,y\r figure is l o!r p's2 ,i suppose y w c>e t y\r dress %all be s too1 & to avoid any s+ul>ity4 ,:at1 !n1 %\ld y be a%am$ (8 ,& :y n g into a mix$ company ) z mu* ease & z little conc]n z y w\ld g into y\r own room8 ,vice & ignorance are ! only ?+s ,i "k :i* "o ought to be a%am$ (2 keep cle> ( !m1 & y may g any:]e )\t fe> or conc]n4 ,i h kn[n "s p :o1 f feel+ ! pa9 & inconv5i5ce ( ?is mauvaise honte1 h ru%$ into ! o!r extreme1 & turn$ impud5t1 z c[>ds sometimes gr[ desp]ate f ! excess ( dang]2 b ?is1 too1 is c>efully to be avoid$1 !re be+ no?+ m g5]ally %ock+ ?an impud5ce4 ,! m$ium betwe5 ! two extremes m>ks out ! well- br$ man2 he feels himself firm & easy 9 all companies2 is mode/ )\t be+ ba%ful1 & /eady )\t be+ impud5t2 if he is a /rang]1 he obs]ves ) c>e ! mann]s & ways ( ! p mo/ e/eem$ at t place1 & con=ms to !m ) complaisance4 #ee4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to we> an air ( ab/raction 9 society if y\r m9d is really s absorb$ t y _c pay att5tion to :at is go+ on ar\nd y1 y _h bett] /ay at home4 ,an abs5t m9d is mu* m frequ5tly a pro( ( self- conceit ?an ( g5ius4 #ef4 ,ecc5tricity ( any k9d is 9 bad ta/e4 #eg4 ,to imitate ! mann]s1 voice1 attitude1 or ge/ures ( great m5 7 a folly almo/ too absurd to m5tion if x 7 n s common4 ,_m p]sons1 f a real or fanci$ p]sonal resemblance to "s celebrity1 w ape _! mann]s also1 z if m]e appe>ance w\ld make !m equally di/+ui%$4 #eh4 ,x is wis]1 if y h met ) rev]ses1 to )draw y\rself f society ?an to h society )draw f y4 #ei4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to assume p$antic airs2 to talk ( ! ,lat9 & ,greek au?ors1 & quote 9 ^? languages4 #fj4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to make a quotation 9 a =eign language & !n translate x1 !reby giv+ y\r li/5]s to und]/& t y d n consid] !m z well in=m$ z y\rself4 #fa4 ,%akespe>e says3 ,to ?9e own self be true1 ,& x mu/ foll[1 z ! night ! day1 ,?\ can/ n !n be false to any man4 #fb4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to contradict any "o4 #fc4 ,! man :o w\ld suff] himself to speak a ^w aga9/ a woman1 or to rail at wom5 g5]ally1 des]ves a rebuke rec5tly giv5 to a coxcomb at an ,engli% d9n]-p>ty1 :o 0 *eck$ 9 8 l\d abuse ( ! sex by "o ( ! company1 :o said3 ,i hope x is ! g5tleman's own "m & si/]s :o are ref]r$ to1 & n ours4 #fd4 ,if y try to make y\rself appe> m important ?an y really are1 y run ! risk ( be+ consid]$ less s4 #fe4 ,m>/on says3 ,i1 me1 & m9e1 %\ld be b[$ out ( g5teel circles4 ,egotism adorns no "o4 #ff4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to (f] a p>tn] 9 danc+ an unglov$ h&4 #fg4 ,spitt+ is z vulg> z x is disgu/+4 #fh4 ,! s*ol>1 )\t good bre$+1 is a p$ant2 ! philosoph]1 a cynic2 ! soldi]1 a brute2 & e man disagreeable1 says ,*e/]field4 #fi4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to betray an impli$ or involunt>y confid5ce1 ev5 if y h n be5 b\nd to secresy4 #gj4 ,bi%op ,bev]idge says3 ,nev] speak ( a man's virtues be=e 8 face1 nor ( 8 faults beh9d 8 back4 #ga4 ,9 private1 wat* y\r ?\ghts2 9 y\r family1 wat* y\r temp]2 9 society1 wat* y\r tongue4 #gb4 ,to arrive at ! he>t ( true c\rtesy1 says a mod]n writ]1 sep>ate ! onld ,engli% titles = ! well-br$2 !y 7 ! g5tle-man & g5tle-woman4 #gc4 ,x is bett] to live alone ?an 9 l[ company4 ,if y _c keep good company1 keep none4 #gd4 ,/]ne ?us def9es c\rt%ip3 ,true c\rt%ip consi/s 9 a numb] ( quiet1 g5tlemanly att5tions2 n s po9t$ z to al>m1 n s vague z to be misund]/ood4 #ge4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to ent] a room noisily1 slamm+ ! door1 or /amp+ heavily ^u ! floor4 #gf4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to make viol5t or abrupt movem5ts4 #gg4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to neglect call+ ^u y\r fri5ds4 ,visit+1 says a ,fr5* writ]1 =ms ! *ord :i* b9ds society toge!r1 & x is s firmly ti$ t 7 ! knot sev]$1 society w\ld p]i%4 #gh4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to select ! r\te :5 walk+ ) a lady1 unless %e has reque/$ y to d s4 #gi4 ,x is ill-br$ to refuse ! la/ piece on ! plate or di%1 if x is (f]$ to y1 z x implies a fe> t !re is no m 9 ! pantry4 #hj4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to und]take any commission = a fri5d & neglect to p]=m x4 ,=getfulness is no excuse4 #ha4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to answ] a s]i\s rem>k by a flippant "o4 #hb4 ,practical jok+ is a brea* ( etiquette t _c be too sev]ely c5sur$4 #hc4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to read :5 !re is any o!r p]son pres5t4 ,9 ! family circle1 a memb] :o op5s a book %\ld apologize = & expla9 8 app>5t rud5ess1 if oblig$ to /udy or ref] to ! volume4 #hd4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to yawn4 #he4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to bl[ ! nose l\dly4 #hf4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to suck ! tee?4 #hg4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to pick ! tee? or clean ! nails 9 company4 #hh4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to speak mu* ( y\r own p]=mances4 #hi4 ,x is a gross brea* ( etiquette to pass betwe5 two p]sons :o are conv]s+ toge!r4 #ij4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to pass be=e anybody4 ,if actually necess>y1 x mu/ be done ) an apology4 #ia4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to urge w9e ^u a gue/ :o has already decl9$ to dr9k4 #ib4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to write a lett] ( congratulation ^u m\rn+ pap]1 ev5 if x is habitually us$4 #ic4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to call a new acqua9tance by ! ,*ri/ian "n1 unless reque/$ to d s4 #id4 ,if y write reque/+ an autograph1 x is a brea* ( etiquette to omit to enclose a po/age-/amp = ! reply4 #ie4 ,ladies %\ld avoid ! use ( /rong p]fumes4 ,!y are unpleasant to nauseat+ to "s p]sons2 & x is a brea* ( etiquette to annoy o!r p4 #if4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to l5d a borr[$ book1 unless y h ! special p]mission ( ! own] to d s4 #ig4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette1 z well z a mo/ dang]\s exp]im5t1 to recomm5d rem$ies to an invalid :o is "u ! c>e ( a physician4 #ih4 ,a lady commits a brea* ( etiquette t am\nts to a gross impropriety by call+ ^u a g5tleman1 except+ ^u bus9ess1 at 8 place ( bus9ess4 ,ev5 relatives1 unless 9 ! imm$iate family1 _c receive calls f ladies at home4 #ii4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld nev] /& ^u ! he>?rug ) _! backs to ! fire1 ei!r 9 a fri5d's h\se or _! own4 #ajj4 ,=getfulness is a brea* ( etiquette4 ,x is impossible to be polite )\t cultivat+ a good memory4 ,! abs5t or self- absorb$ p]son :o =gets ! names ( 8 next-door neighbors1 recalls unlucky topics1 confuses ! p]sonal relation%ips ( 8 p]sonal fri5ds1 speaks ( ! dead z if !y 7 /ill liv+1 talks ( peole 9 _! he>+1 & commits a hundr$ su* blund]s )\t any malevol5t int5tion1 is sure to make enemies = himself1 & to w\nd ! feel+s ( o!rs4 ,c>elessness1 c>ri$ to a c]ta9 pit*1 becomes un*ri/ian4 ,x is n well1 says an old prov]b1 to talk ( ! gall[s to a man ^: fa!r 0 hang$4 ,"s p]sons are s notori\sly abs5t or =getful1 t _! fri5ds w say ( !m3 ,we mu/ n tell ,b---2 he is c]ta9 to tread on somebody's corns4 ,we mu/ ask him "s ev5+ :5 we are alone4 ,,end