frontispiece,,! ,,mod]n ,,d9n]-,,table4 ,,mann]s ,,& ,,social ,,usages ,,by ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,%]wood ,m4,e4,w4 ,,au?or ,,( ,a ,,transplant$ ,,rose ,mann]s are ! %ad[s ( great virtues4--,:ateley ,solid ,fa%ion is fund$ polit5ess4--,em]son ,,new ,,& ,,enl>g$ ,,edition1 ,,revis$ ,,by ,,! ,,au?or ,,jun #aa #ahhg ,,pg ,,transcrib]',s ,,notes3 ,?is etiquette manual 0 probably orig9ally a s]ies ( columns 9 a newspap] or a magaz9e l ,h>p]'s1 z ! *apt]s on w$d+s 9 ! diff]5t seasons ref] to h[ ! fa%ions h *ang$ s9ce ! la/ "o--by ! orig9al copyright1 #ahhd1 ?\gh ! book v]sion appe>$ 9 #ahhg4 ,notable features among ! usual3 h[ to dance ! ,g]man1 or ,cotillon2 rem>ks & f\r *apt]s on ,engli%1 ,fr5*1 or o!rs 9 contra/ to ,am]ican cu/oms1 mak+ x a guide to ,european mann]s2 prop] behavior = ! s+le woman pa/ girlhood2 appropriate co/umes = _m occasions2 ?ree *apt]s on /aff & s]vants4 ,,preface4 ,!re is no c\ntry :]e !re are s _m p ask+ :at is prop] to d1 or1 inde$1 :]e !re are s _m g5u9ely anxi\s to d ! prop] ?+1 z 9 ! va/ conglom]ate :i* we call ! ,unit$ ,/ates ( ,am]ica4 ,! newness ( our c\ntry is p]petually r5ew$ by ! sudd5 mak+ ( =tunes1 & by ! abs5ce ( a h]$it>y1 reign+ set4 ,!re is no ari/ocracy "h :i* has ! "r & title to set ! fa%ions4 ,b a reign+ set1 :e!r x dep5d ^u h]$it>y "r or adv5titi\s weal?1 if x be possess$ ( a desire to lead & a disposition to hospitality1 becomes = a p]iod ! dictator ( fa%ion to a l>ge numb] ( look]s-on4 ,! travell+ _w1 liv+ f> f great c5tres1 goes to ,newport1 ,s>atoga1 ,new ,york1 ,wa%+ton1 ,philadelphia1 ,bo/on1 & gazes on :at is call$ ! late/ ,am]ican fa%ion4 ,?is1 ?\gh exploit$ by :at we may call = ! sake ( di/9ction ! new] set1 is influ5c$ & %ap$ 9 "s degree by p ( native ref9em5t & ta/e1 & t wide exp]i5ce :i* is ga9$ by travel & association ) broad & cultivat$ m9ds4 ,!y c\nt]act ! t5d5cy to vulg>ity1 :i* is ! great dang] ( a newly laun*$ society1 s t our social condition improves1 r ?an retrogrades1 ) e decade4 ,!re may be _m social puri/s :o w disagree ) u 9 ?is /atem5t4 ,m5 & wom5 educat$ 9 ! cre$s ( ! ,old ,_w1 ) ! good blood ( a long ance/ry ( quiet ladies & g5tlem51 f9d mod]n ,am]ican society1 p>ticul>ly 9 ,new ,york & at ,newport1 fa/1 furi\s1 & vulg>4 ,!re are1 ( c\rse1 excesses committ$ ev]y:]e 9 ! "n ( fa%ion2 b we _c see t !y are peculi> to ,am]ica4 ,we c only answ] t ! cre$ ( fa%ion is "o ( p]petual *ange4 ,!re is a ,c\ncil ( ,tr5t1 we may say1 e five ye>s1 p]haps ev5 e two ye>s1 9 our new & *angeful c\ntry1 & we le>n t1 foll[ z we may ei!r ! gr& old etiquette ( ,engl& or ! m gay & %ift+ social code ( ,france1 we /ill mu/ make an orig9al etiquette ( our own4 ,our political sy/em alone1 :]e ! l[e/ may rise to ! highe/ pref]m5t1 upsets 9 a measure all t ! ,old ,_w insi/s ^u 9 matt]s ( prec$5ce & =mality4 ,c]ta9 immutable pr9ciples rema9 common to all elegant p :o assume to ga!r society ab\t !m1 & :o wi% to ent] its portals2 ! abs5t-m9d$ s*ol> f 8 libr>y %\ld n ignore !m1 ! fre% "y f>m] f ! c\ntryside feels & recognizes _! importance4 ,if we are to live toge!r 9 unity we mu/ make society a pleasant ?+1 we mu/ obey c]ta9 =mal rules1 & ^! rules mu/ con=m to ! fa%ion ( ! p]iod4 ,& x is 9 no way d]ogatory to a new c\ntry l our own if on "s m9or po9ts ( etiquette we presume to diff] f ! old] _w4 ,we mu/ fit our g>m5ts to ! climate1 our mann]s to our =tunes & to our daily lives4 ,!re are1 h[ev]1 faults & inelegancies ( :i* =eign]s accuse u :i* we may d well to consid]4 ,"o ( ^! is ! great] fre$om all[$ 9 ! mann]s ( our "y wom5 a fre$om :i*1 z our ,new ,_w fills up ) p ( =eign bir?1 _c b lead to social di/urbances4 ,o!r national faults1 :i* ,engli% writ]s & critics k9dly po9t out1 are our bumpti\sness1 our spread- eagleism1 & our too great famili>ity & lack ( dignity1 etc4 ,in/ead ( gr[+ angry ov] ^! criticisms1 p]haps we might z well look into ! matt] dispassionately1 & see if we _c turn ! advice 9 "s degree to our advantage4 ,we c1 h[ev]1 decide = ourselves on c]ta9 po9ts ( etiquette :i* we borr[ f nobody2 !y are a "p ( our great nation1 ( our republican in/itutions1 & ( t cont95tal hospitality :i* gives a home to ! ,russian1 ! ,g]man1 ! ,fr5*man1 ! ,iri%man1 man1 & ! hea!n ,*9ee4 ,a some:at wide & ela/ic code1 z b\ndless z ! prairies1 c alone meet ! ne$s ( ^! diff]5t citiz5s4 ,! old traditions ( /ately mann]s1 s common to ! ,wa%+ton & ,jeff]son days1 h almo/ di$ out "h1 z simil> mann]s h di$ out all ov] ! _w4 ,! w> ( #ahfa swept away :at little 0 left ( t once important ,am]ican fact--a gr&fa!r4 ,we began all ov] aga92 & n[ !re comes up f ?is new] _w a flood ( que/ions3 ,h[ %all we manage all ?is8 ,h[ %all we use a =k8 ,:5 we> a dress-coat8 ,h[ & :5 & on :om %all we leave our c>ds8 ,h[ long & = :om %all we we> m\rn+8 ,:at is ! etiquette ( a w$d+8 ,h[ %all we give a d9n]-p>ty8 ,! "y h\sekeep] ( ,kansas writes z to ! mann]s %e %all tea* to h] *ildr52 ! m9]'s wife1 hav+ become ri*1 asks h[ %e %all arrange h] h\se1 call on h] neighbors1 write h] lett]s8 ,_m an anxi\s girl writes z to ! propriety ( driv+ out ) a g5tleman1 etc4 ,9 fact1 !re is "o great univ]sal "q1 ,:at is ! etiquette ( good society8 ,n a few p h tri$ to answ] ^! que/ions1 & h brok5 d[n 9 ! attempt4 ,_m h made valuable manuals1 z f> z !y w5t2 b writ]s on etiquette commonly fail1 = "o or two diff]5t reasons4 ,_m attempt to write :o "k no?+ ( good society by exp]i5ce1 & _! books are full ( ludicr\s errors4 ,o!rs h _h ! disadvantage ( kn[+ too mu*1 ( ignor+ ! beg9n+ ( ?+s1 ( suppos+ t ! p]son :o reads w take mu* = grant$4 ,= a p]son :o has an intuitive k ( etiquette1 :o has be5 br\ght up f 8 "m's knee 9 ! be/ society1 has always kn[n :at to d1 h[ to dress1 to :om to b[1 to write 9 ! simple/ way ab\t etiquette w\ld be impossible2 he w\ld nev] "k h[ little ! read]1 to ^: edification he 0 address+ himself1 knew ( ! matt]4 ,if1 h[ev]1 an anxi\s inquir] %\ld write & ask if ma%$ potato mu/ be eat5 ) a knife or a =k1 or if napk9s & f+] b[ls c be us$ at breakfa/1 ^? que/ions he c answ]4 ,x is ) an ef=t to answ] ?\s&s ( ^! que/ions1 writt5 9 good fai? to ,h>p]'s ,baz>1 t ?is book is und]tak54 ,! simplicity1 ! directness1 & ! evid5t desire to improve1 :i* *>act]ize ^! anonym\s lett]s1 are all mu* to be comm5d$4 ,_m p h f\nd !mselves sudd5ly conqu]ors ( mat]ial weal?1 ! mo/ successful coloni/s 9 ! _w1 ! heirs ( a great inh]itance1 ! build]s ( a new empire4 ,!re is a true ref9em5t manife/$ 9 _! que/ions4 ,n only d m5 & wom5 l to behave prop]ly !mselves1 b all desire to "k :at is ! be/ s*ool ( mann]s1 t !y may educate _! *ildr5 !re94 ,su* m9ds are ! be/ cons]vators ( law & ord]4 ,x is n a communi/ic _s t asks1 ,h[ c ,i d ?is ?+ 9 a bett] way8 ,x is t wise & lib]al cons]vatism :i* includes rev]5ce = law1 respect = age1 belief 9 religion1 & a desire = a ref9$ society4 ,a book on etiquette1 h[ev] pati5tly consid]$ & hone/ly writt51 mu/ h _m %ortcom+s1 & conta9 disput$ te/imony4 ,all we c d is endeavor to m5tion ^? fa%ions & cu/oms :i* we believe to be ! be/1 rememb]+ always1 z we h said1 t ! great law ( *ange goes on =ev]1 t our /ately gr&fa!rs _h fa%ions :i* we %\ld n[ consid] gross & unbecom+1 :ile we h cu/oms1 p>ticul>ly ( spee*1 :i* w\ld h %ock$ !m4 ,?is law ( *ange is n only "o :i* "t modifies1 b ) u ! ,s\?1 ! ,nor?1 ! ,ea/1 & ! ,we/ diff] z to c]ta9 po9ts ( etiquette4 ,all1 h[ev]1 agree 9 say+ t !re is a good society 9 ,am]ica ^: m&ates are supreme4 ,all feel t ! well-br$ man or woman is a recogniz$ in/itution4 ,ev]ybody laugh$ at ! mi/akes ( ,daisy ,mill]1 & saw :]e9 %e & h] "m 7 wrong4 ,indep5d5t ,am]ican girls may /ill *oose to travel )\t a *ap]on1 b !y mu/ be prep>$ to fight a well-f\nd$ prejudice if !y d4 ,!re is a recognition ( ! necessity ( good mann]s1 & a pr(\nd conviction1 let u hope1 t a graceful mann] is ! outcropp+ ( a well-regulat$ m9d & ( a good he>t4 ,,cont5ts4 ,,*apt] 444 ,,page ,i4 ,wom5 z ,lead]s 444 #ac ,,ii4 ,optional ,civilities 444 #bi ,,iii4 ,good & ,bad ,society 444 #cf ,,iv4 ,on ,introduc+ ,p 444 #dd ,v4 ,visit+ 444 #eh ,,vi4 ,invitations1 ,acceptances1 & ,regrets 444 #ff ,,vii4 ,c>ds ( ,complim5t1 ,c\rtesy1 ,condol5ce1 & ,congratulation 444 #gd ,,viii4 ,! ,etiquette ( ,w$d+s 444 #hb ,,ix4 ,:o ,pays = ! ,c>ds 444 #id ,x4 ,w$d+s aft] ,ea/] 444 #ajb ,,xi4 ,summ] ,w$d+s 444 #aaj ,,xii ,autumn ,w$d+s 444 #aag ,,xiii4 ,be=e ! ,w$d+ & ,aft] 444 #abe ,,xiv4 ,gold1 ,silv]1 & ,t9 ,w$d+s 444 #acc ,,xv4 ,! ,etiquette ( ,balls 444 #adb ,,xvi4 ,fa%ionable ,danc+ 444 #aej ,,xvii4 ,lett]s & ,lett] ,writ+ 444 #aei ,,xviii4 ,co/ly ?y ,habit 444 #afg ,xl,x4 ,dress+ = ,driv+ 444 #agd ,,xx4 ,incongruities ( ,dress 444 #aha ,,xxi4 ,etiquette ( ,m\rn+ 444 #ahh ,,xxii4 ,m\rn+ & ,fun]al ,usages 444 #bjj ,,xxiii4 ,lett]s ( ,condol5ce 444 #bjg ,,xxiv4 ,*ap]ons & ,_! ,duties 444 #bad ,,xxv4 ,etiquette = ,eld]ly ,girls 444 #bbc ,,xxvi4 ,new ,ye>'s ,calls 444 #bcj ,,xxvii4 ,mat9es ,& ,soires 444 #bci ,,xxviii4 ,aft]noon ,tea 444 #bdg ,,xxix4 ,caudle ,& ,*ri/5+ ,cups & ,c]emonies 444 #bee ,,xxx4 ,mod]n ,d9n] ,table 444 #bfa ,,xxxi4 ,lay+ ! ,d9n]-table 444 #bfi ,,xxxii4 ,favors & ,bonbonnires 444 #bgg ,,xxxiii4 ,d9n] ,table ,novelites 444 #bhe ,,xxxiv4 ,summ] ,d9n]s 444 #bib ,,xxxv4 ,lun*eons1 ,in=mal & ,social 444 #cjj ,,xxxvi4 ,supp] ,p>ties 444 #cjg ,,xxxvii4 ,simple ,d9n]s 444 #cad ,,xxxviii4 ,! ,small ,talk ( ,society 444 #cbj ,,xxxix4 ,g>d5 ,p>ties 444 #cbh ,,xl4 ,silv] ,w$d+s & ,o!r ,w$d+ ,anniv]s>ies 444 #cce ,,xli4 ,spr+ ,& ,summ] ,ent]ta9m5ts 444 #cdc ,,xlii4 ,floral ,tributes & ,decorations 444 #cec ,,xliii4 ,! ,=k & ! ,spoon 444 #cei ,,xliv4 ,napk9s & ,table-clo?s 444 #cfd ,,xlv4 ,s]vants1 _! ,dress & ,duties 444 #cga ,,xlvi4 ,h\se ) ,"o ,s]vant 444 #chj ,,xlvii4 ,h\se ) ,two ,s]vants 444 #hhf ,,xlviii4 ,h\se ) ,_m ,s]vants 444 #cid ,,xlix4 ,mann]s3 ,a ,/udy ,= ,! ,awkw>d & ! ,%y 444 #dja ,l4 ,h[ ,to ,treat ,a ,gue/ 444 #djh ,,li4 ,lady ,& ,g5tleman 444 #dae ,,lil ,! ,mann]s ( ! ,pa/ 444 #dbd ,,liii4 ,! ,mann]s ( ! ,optimi/ 444 #dhd ,,liv4 ,! ,mann]s ( ! ,sympa!tic 444 #dda ,,lv4 ,c]ta9 ,que/ions ,answ]$ 444 #dej ,,lvi4 ,engli% ,table ,mann]s & ,social ,usages4 444 #deg ,,lvii4 ,am]ican ,& ,engli% ,etiquette ,contra/$ 444 #dfe ,,lviii4 ,h[ ,to ,treat ,engli% ,p 444 #dgc ,,lix4 ,a ,=eign ,table ,d',hte1 & ,cas9o ,life ,abroad 444 #dhj ,,mann]s ,,& ,,social ,,usages4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,,wom5 ,,z ,,lead]s4 ,no?+ /rikes ! =eign] s mu* 7s9ce ! days ( ,de ,tocqueville1 ! fir/ to m5tion x7 z ! prom95t position ( woman 9 ! be/ society ( ,am]ica4 ,%e has almo/ no position 9 ! political _w4 ,%e is n a lead]1 an intrigante 9 politics1 z %e is 9 ,france4 ,we h no ,madame de ,/ael1 no ,pr9cess ,belgioso1 "h to make & unmake our ,presid5ts2 b wom5 d all ! social "w1 :i* 9 ,europe is done n only by wom51 b by "y ba*elors & old ones1 /atesm51 pr9ces1 ambassadors1 & atta*es4 ,(ficials are connect$ ) e c\rt ^: bus9ess x is to visit1 write & answ] invitations1 leave c>ds1 call1 & p]=m all ! multif>i\s duties ( ! social _w4 ,9 ,am]ica1 ! lady ( ! h\se does all ?is4 ,h] m5 are all 9 bus9ess or 9 pleasure1 h] sons are at "w or (f ya*t+4 ,!y _c sp5d "t to make _! d9n] calls--,mamma1 please leave my c>ds is ! leg5d writt5 on _! bann]s4 ,?us to wom51 z ! conductors ( social politics1 is committ$ ! c>d--t pa/ebo>d protocol1 ^: laws are well def9$ 9 e l& b our own4 ,n[1 9 t5 diff]5t books on etiquette :i* we h consult$ we f9d t5 diff]5t op9ions ^u ! subject ( fir/ calls1 z betwe5 two wom54 ,we _c1 !re=e1 presume to decide :]e s _m doctors disagree1 b give ! commonly receiv$ op9ions z express$ by ! cu/oms ( ,new ,york society4 ,:5 %\ld a lady call fir/ ^u a new & a desirable acqua9tance8 ,n ha/ily4 ,%e %\ld h met ! new & desirable acqua9tance1 %\ld h be5 prop]ly introduc$1 %\ld feel sure t h] acqua9tance is desir$4 ,! olde/ resid5t1 ! "o mo/ prom95t 9 fa%ion1 %\ld call fir/2 b1 if !re is no su* di/9ction1 two wom5 ne$ n =ev] /& at bay ea* wait+ = ! o!r to call4 ,a v admirable & polite exp$i5t has be53 sub/itut$ = a fir/ call 9 ! s5d+ out ( c>ds1 = sev]al days 9 ! mon?1 by a lady :o wi%es to beg9 h] social life1 we w say1 9 a new city4 ,^! may or may n be accompani$ by ! c>d ( "s well-kn[n fri5d4 ,if ^! c>ds br+ ! desir$ visits or ! c>ds ( ! desir$ gue/s1 ! beg9n] may feel t %e has />t$ on h] society c>e] ) no loss ( self respect4 ,^? :o d n respond are g5]ally 9 a m9ority4 ,too mu* ha/e 9 mak+ new acqua9tances1 h[ev]--pu%+1 z x is call$-_c be too mu* deprecat$4 ,fir/ calls %\ld be return$ )9 a week4 ,if a lady is invit$ to any ent]ta9m5t by a new acqua9tance1 :e!r ! invitation come ?r\gh a fri5d or n1 %e %\ld imm$iately leave c>ds1 & s5d ei!r a regret or an acceptance4 ,to lose "t 9 ?is matt] is a great rud5ess4 ,:e!r %e att5d ! ent]ta9m5t or n1 %e %\ld call aft] x )9 a week4 ,!n1 hav+ done all t is polite1 & hav+ %[n h]self a woman ( good-bre$+1 %e c keep up ! acqua9tance or n z %e pleases4 ,sometimes !re are reasons :y a lady does n wi% to keep up ! acqua9tance1 b %e mu/ n1 = h] own sake1 be oblivi\s to ! polit5ess ext5d$4 ,"s v rude p 9 ,new ,york h s5t back invitations1 or fail$ to recognize ! fir/ attempt at civility1 say+1 ,we don't "k ! p4 ,?is is n ! way to disc\rage unpleasant famili>ity4 ,9 ,new ,york1 ,bo/on1 & ,philadelphia1 & 9 ! l>ge cities ( ! ,we/1 & g5]ally 9 ! c\ntry3 t[ns1 resid5ts call fir/ ^u new-com]s2 b 9 ,wa%+ton ?is cu/om is rev]s$1 & ! new-com] calls fir/ ^u ! resid5t4 ,e "o--(ficials ( ! highe/ d[n to ! l[e/ grade returns ^! c>ds4 ,! visitor g5]ally f9ds himself invit$ to ! receptions ( ! ,presid5t & 8 ,cab9et1 etc4 ,?is arrangem5t is s conv5i5t t x is a ?\s& pities x does n g into op]ation all ov] ! c\ntry1 p>ticul>ly 9 ^? l>ge cities :]e ! resid5t _c "k if h] de>e/ fri5d be 9 t[n unless in=m$ 9 "s su* way ( ! fact4 ,?is does n1 z might be suppos$1 expose society to ! intrusion ( unwelcome visitors4 ,tact1 :i* is ! only guide ?r\gh ! mazes ( society1 w enable a woman to avoid any?+ l an unwelcome intimacy or a d\btful acqua9tance1 ev5 if su* a p]son %\ld call fir/4 ,n[ ! "q comes up1 & "h doctors disagree3 ,:5 may a lady call by proxy1 or :5 may %e s5d h] c>d1 or :5 mu/ %e call 9 p]son8 ,aft] a d9n]-p>ty a gue/ mu/ call 9 p]son & inquire if ! ho/ess is at home4 ,= o!r ent]ta9m5ts x is all[$1 9 ,new ,york1 t ! lady call by proxy1 or t %e simply s5d h] c>d4 ,9 s5d+ to inquire = a p]son's heal?1 c>ds may be s5t by a s]vant1 ) a k9dly message4 ,no fir/ visit %\ld1 h[ev]1 be return$ by c>d only2 ?is w\ld be consid]$ a slight1 unless foll[$ by an invitation4 ,! size ( ,new ,york1 ! great di/ances1 ! busy life ( a woman ( *>ities1 l>ge family1 & imm5se circle ( acqua9tances may r5d] a p]sonal visit almo/ impossible4 ,%e may be consid]$ to h done h] duty if %e 9 h] turn asks h] new acqua9tance to call on h] on a specifi$ day1 if %e is n h]self able to call4 ,ba*elors %\ld leave c>ds 7if !y ev] leave any7 on ! ma/] & mi/ress ( ! h\se1 &1 9 ,am]ica1 ^u ! "y ladies4 ,a g5tleman does n turn d[n ! corn]s ( 8 c>d--inde$1 t fa%ion has become almo/ obsolete1 except1 p]haps1 :]e a lady wi%es x di/9ctly und]/ood t %e has call$ 9 p]son4 ,! pla9] ! c>d ! bett]4 ,a small1 ?9 c>d = a g5tleman1 n glaz$1 ) 8 "n 9 small script & 8 address well engrav$ 9 ! corn]1 is 9 good ta/e4 ,a lady's c>d %\ld be l>g]1 b n glaz$ or ornam5t$ 9 any way4 ,x is a rule ) /ickl]s = good-bre$+ t aft] any ent]ta9m5t a g5tleman %\ld leave 8 c>d 9 p]son1 al?\gh1 z we h said1 he (t5 commits x to "s fem99e ag5cy4 ,no g5tleman %\ld call on a lady unless %e asks him to d s1 or unless he br+s a lett] ( introduction1 or unless he is tak5 by a lady :o is suffici5tly intimate to invite him to call4 ,a lady %\ld say to a g5tleman1 if %e wi%es him to call1 ,i hope t we %all see y1 or1 ,i am at home on ,monday1 or some?+ ( t sort4 ,if he receives an invitation to d9n] or to a ball f a /rang]1 he is b\nd to s5d an imm$iate answ]1 call ! v next day1 leave 8 c>d1 & !n to call aft] ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,?is1 at lea/1 is =eign etiquette1 & we _c d bett] ?an import x4 ,?is rule holds good = ! ent]ta9m5ts ( ba*elors1 :o %\ld leave _! c>ds on ea* o!r aft] an ent]ta9m5t1 unless ! intimacy is s great t no c>d- leav+ is expect$4 ,:5 a lady returns to t[n1 aft] an abs5ce 9 ,europe or 9 ! c\ntry1 x is /rict etiquette t %e %\ld leave c>ds on all h] acqua9tances & fri5ds if %e expects to ent]ta9 or to lead a gay1 social w9t]2 b z di/ances 9 our great cities are =midable1 z all ladies d n keep a c>riage1 z mo/ ladies h a great deal else to d besides mak+ visits1 ?is long & tr\blesome process is sometimes simplifi$ by giv+ a tea or a s]ies ( teas1 :i* enables ! lady1 by /ay+ at home on "o ev5+ ( a week1 or two or ?ree aft]noons ( a mon?1 to s5d out h] c>ds to t effect1 & to ?us %[ h] fri5ds t %e at lea/ rememb]s !m4 ,z society & c>d-leav+ ?us become rapidly complicat$1 a lady %\ld h a visit+-book1 into :i* h] li/ is c>efully copi$1 ) spaces = days & future engagem5ts4 ,a s]vant mu/ be taught to receive ! c>ds at ! door1 rememb] messages1 & recollect = :om !y are left1 z x is n prop] 9 call+ ^u ,mrs4 ,br[n at a private h\se to write h] "n on y\r c>d4 ,at a cr[d$ hotel ?is may be all[$1 b x is n etiquette 9 visit+ at private h\ses4 ,9 return+ visits1 obs]ve ! exact etiquette ( ! p]son :o has left ! fir/ c>d4 ,a call mu/ n be return$ ) a c>d only1 or a c>d by a call4 ,if a p]son s5d y a c>d by po/1 return a c>d by po/2 if a p]sonal visit is made1 return x by a p]sonal visit2 if y\r acqua9tance leave c>ds only1 )\t inquir+ if y are at home1 return ! same c\rtesy4 ,if %e has left ! c>ds ( ! g5tlem5 ( h] family1 return ^? ( ! g5tlem5 ( y\r family4 ,a "y lady's c>d %\ld almo/ always be accompani$ by t ( h] "m or h] *ap]on4 ,x is well1 on h] entrance into society1 t ! "n ( ! "y lady be engrav$ on h] "m's c>d4 ,aft] %e has be5 out a ye>1 %e may leave h] own c>d only4 ,"h ,am]ican etiquette beg9s to diff] f ,engli% etiquette4 ,9 ,london1 on ! o!r h&1 no "y lady leaves h] c>d3 if %e is mo!rless1 h] "n is engrav$ b5ea? ! "n ( h] fa!r1 & ! c>d ( h] *ap]on is left ) bo? until %e becomes a maid5 lady ( some:at mature if unc]ta9 age4 ,x is r>e n[ to see ! names ( bo? husb& & wife engrav$ on "o c>d1 z ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,br[n4 ,! lady has h] own c>d1 ,mrs4 ,octavius ,br[n1 or ) ! addition1 ,! ,misses ,br[n4 ,h] husb& has 8 sep>ate c>d2 ea* ( ! sons has 8 own c>d4 ,no titles are us$ on visit+-c>ds 9 ,am]ica1 save milit>y1 naval1 or judicial ones2 &1 inde$1 _m ( our mo/ di/+ui%$ judges h _h c>ds pr9t$ simply ) ! "n1 )\t prefix or affix4 ,mr4 ,web/]1 ,mr4 ,w9?rop1 ,h5ry ,clay are well-kn[n in/ances ( simplicity4 ,b a woman mu/ always use ! prefix ,mrs4 or ,miss4 ,a g5tleman may or may n use ! prefix ,mr41 z he pleases1 b wom5 mu/ treat !mselves ) m respect4 ,no c>d is less prop] ?an "o :i* is boldly engrav$ ,g]trude ,f4 ,br[n2 x %\ld be ,miss ,g]trude ,f4 ,br[n4 ,a m>ri$ lady always be>s h] husb&'s "n1 dur+ 8 life1 on h] c>d4 ,"s discussion is n[ go+ on z to :e!r %e %\ld cont9ue to call h]self ,mrs4 ,octavius ,br[n or ,mrs4 ,m>y ,br[n aft] 8 dea?4 ,! burd5 ( op9ion is 9 favor ( ! latt]--p>ticul>ly z a son may be> 8 fa!r's "n1 s !re w be two ,mrs4 ,octavius ,br[ns4 ,no lady wi%es to be kn[n z old ,mrs4 ,octavius ,br[n1 & z we d n use ! conv5i5t title ( ,d[ag]1 we may z well take ! alt]native ( ! ,*ri/ian "n4 ,we _c say ,mrs4 ,octavius ,br[n1 ,jr41 if ! husb& has ceas$ to be a junior4 ,_m m>ri$ ladies hesitate to disc>d ! "n by :i* !y h always be5 kn[n4 ,p]haps ! simple ,mrs4 ,br[n is ! be/1 aft] all4 ,no lady %\ld leave c>ds ^u an unm>ri$ g5tleman1 except 9 ! case ( 8 hav+ giv5 ent]ta9m5ts at :i* ladies 7 pres5t4 ,!n ! lady ( ! h\se %\ld drive to 8 door ) ! c>ds ( h]self & family1 all[+ ! footman to leave !m4 ,! "y ladies' names1 9 su* a case z ?is1 %\ld be engrav5 on _! "m's c>d4 ,we h no leisure class1 z ,h5ry ,james says 9 8 brilliant ,int]national ,episode2 b /ill "y m5 %\ld try to make "t to call on ^? :o ent]ta9 !m1 %[+ by "s sort ( p]sonal att5tion _! gratitude = ! polit5ess %[n !m4 ,am]ican "y m5 are1 z a rule1 v remiss ab\t ?is matt] ( call+ on ! ho/ess ^: hospitality !y accept4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n call on a "y lady )\t ask+ = h] "m or h] *ap]on4 ,nor %\ld he leave c>ds = h] alone1 b always leave "o = h] "m4 ,ladies c1 & (t5 d1 write in=mal invitations on ! visit+-c>d4 ,to teas1 read+s1 & small p>ties1 may be add$ ! day ( reception4 ,x is conv5i5t & prop] to s5d ^! c>ds by po/4 ,ev]y?+ c be s5t by po/ n[1 except an invitation to d9n]1 & t mu/ always be s5t by private h&1 & an answ] mu/ be imm$iately return$ 9 ! same =mal mann]4 ,aft] balls1 amateur conc]ts1 !atrical p>ties1 g>d5-p>ties1 or at homes1 c>ds %\ld be left by all invit$ gue/s )9 a week aft] ! invitation1 p>ticul>ly if ! invit$ gue/ has be5 oblig$ to decl9e4 ,^! c>ds may be left )\t inquir+ = ! ho/ess1 if "t presses2 b x is m polite to inquire = ! ho/ess1 ev5 if x is n h] day4 ,if x is h] reception day1 x w\ld be rude n to inquire1 ent]1 & pay a p]sonal visit4 ,aft] a d9n]1 "o mu/ inquire = ! ho/ess & pay a p]sonal visit4 ,x is necess>y to m5tion ?is fact1 because s _m ladies h got into ! habit 7hav+ l>ge acqua9tances7 ( leav+ or s5d+ c>ds 9 by a footman1 )\t inquir+ = ! ho/ess 7:o is g5]ally n at home71 t !re has gr[n up a confusion1 :i* leads to (f5ce be+ tak5 :]e none is meant4 ,x is n consid]$ necess>y to leave c>ds aft] a tea4 ,a lady leaves h] c>ds z %e ent]s ! hall1 pays h] visit1 & ! etiquette ( a visit+ acqua9tance is ?us e/abli%$ = a ye>4 ,%e %\ld1 h[ev]1 give a tea h]self1 ask+ all h] ent]ta9]s4 ,if a lady has be5 invit$ to a tea or o!r ent]ta9m5t ?r\gh a fri5d )\t hav+ kn[n h] ho/ess1 %e is b\nd to call soon2 b if ! invitation is n foll[$ up by a return c>d or ano!r invitation1 %e mu/ und]/& t ! acqua9tance is at an end4 ,%e may1 h[ev]1 invite h] new fri5d1 )9 a reasonable "t1 to "s ent]ta9m5t at h] own h\se1 & if t is accept$1 ! acqua9tance goes on4 ,x is soon asc]ta9$ by a "y woman :o beg9s life 9 a new city :e!r h] new fri5ds int5d to be fri5dly or ! rev]se4 ,a resid5t ( a t[n or village c call1 ) propriety1 on any new-com]4 ,! newcom] mu/ return ?is call2 b1 if %e does n desire a fur!r acqua9tance1 ?is c be ! end ( x4 ,! "t ( call+ mu/ 9 e t[n be settl$ by ! habits ( ! place2 aft] two o'clock & be=e six is1 h[ev]1 g5]ally safe4 ,9 ,engl& !y h a pleasant fa%ion ( call+ to inquire = invalids or afflict$ fri5ds1 & ( p5cill+ ! words k9d inquiries4 ,x has n obta9$ t popul>ity 9 ,am]ica :i* x des]ves1 & x w\ld be well to introduce x4 ,if a lady call on a p]son :o is a /rang] to h]1 & if %e has difficulty 9 impress+ h] "n on ! s]vant1 %e s5ds up h] c>d1 :ile %e waits to see if ! lady w receive h]4 ,b %e mu/ nev] on any occasion h& h] own c>d to h] ho/ess4 ,if %e ent]s ! p>lor & f9ds h] ho/ess !re1 %e mu/ introduce h]self by pron\nc+ h] own "n di/9ctly4 ,if %e is acqua9t$ ) ! lady1 %e simply gives h] "n to ! s]vant1 & does n s5d up h] c>d4 ,w$d+-c>ds h great prom95ce 9 ,am]ica1 b we ignore ^? elaborate fun]al-c>ds & *ri/5+-c>ds1 & pr9t$ c>ds ) ann\ncem5ts ( engagem5ts1 & _m o!r c>ds fa%ionable abroad4 ,) u ! c>ds ( ! bride & h] p>5ts1 & sometimes ( ! fianc1 are s5t to all fri5ds be=e ! w$d+1 & ^? ( ! invitation to ! w$d+ to a few only1 x may be1 or to all1 z ! family desire4 ,aft] ! m>riage1 ! c>ds ( ! m>ri$ pair1 ) _! address1 are s5t to all ^: acqua9tance is desir$4 ,husb&s & wives r>ely call toge!r 9 ,am]ica1 al?\gh !re is no law aga9/ _! do+ s4 ,x is unusual because1 z we h said1 we h no leisure class4 ,g5tlem5 are privileg$ to call on ,sunday1 aft] *ur*1 & on ,sunday ev5+s4 ,a "m & daught] %\ld call toge!r1 or1 if ! "m is an invalid1 ! daught] c call1 leav+ h] "m's c>d4 ,n at home is a prop] =mula1 if ladies are n receiv+2 nor does x involve a falsehood4 ,x m]ely means t ! lady is n at home to company4 ,! s]vant %\ld also add1 ,mrs4 ,br[n receives on ,tuesdays1 if ! lady has a day4 ,7 n ladies able to d5y !mselves to call]s !re w\ld be no "t 9 cr[d$ cities = any sort ( "w1 or repose1 or leisure = self- improvem5t4 ,=1 ) ! _m idle p :o seek to rid !mselves ( ! pa9 & p5alty ( _! own vapid society by call+ & mak+ somebody else ent]ta9 !m1 ) ! w&]+ book-ag5ts & begg>s1 or ) ev5 ! ov]fl[ ( society1 a lady w\ld f9d h] exi/5ce muddl$ away by ! poore/ & mo/ abject ( occupations--t ( receiv+ a numb] ( inconsid]ate1 & p]haps imp]t95t1 wa/]s ( "t4 ,x is well = all h\se-keep]s to devote "o day 9 ! week to ! reception ( visitors--! morn+ to tradespeople & ^? :o may wi% to see h] on bus9ess1 & ! aft]noon to ^? :o call socially4 ,x saves h] "t & simplifies matt]s4 ,no?+ is m vulg> ?an t a call] %\ld ask ! s]vant :]e 8 mi/ress is1 :5 %e w5t out1 :5 %e w be 91 h[ soon %e w be d[n1 etc4 ,all t a well-br$ s]vant %\ld say to su* que/ions is1 ,i d n "k1 madam4 ,a mi/ress %\ld in=m h] s]vant aft] breakfa/ :at he is to say to all com]s4 ,x is v (f5sive to a visitor to be let 91 & !n be told t %e _c see ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,%e feels p]sonally insult$1 & z if1 _h %e be5 "s o!r p]son1 ! lady ( ! h\se w\ld p]haps h se5 h]4 ,if a s]vant1 evid5tly ignorant & unc]ta9 ( 8 mi/ress & h] wi%es1 says1 ,i w see if ,mrs4 ,br[n w see y1 & u%]s y into ! p>lor1 x is only prop] to g 9 & wait4 ,b x is always well to say1 ,if ,mrs4 ,br[n is go+ out1 is dress+1 or is o!rwise engag$1 ask h] n to tr\ble h]self to come d[n4 ,mrs4 ,br[n w be v mu* oblig$ to y4 ,9 call+ on a fri5d :o is /ay+ ) p ) :om y are n acqua9t$1 always leave a c>d = ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,! lack ( ?is att5tion is sev]ely felt by new p :o may ent]ta9 a fa%ionable woman z _! gue/--"o :o receives _m calls f ^? :o d n "k h] ho/ess4 ,x is nev] prop] to call on a gue/ )\t ask+ = ! ho/ess4 ,aga91 if ! ho/ess be a v fa%ionable woman1 & ! visitor decid$ly n s1 x is equally vulg> to make "o's fri5d :o may be a gue/ 9 ! h\se a sort ( ent]+ w$ge = an acqua9tance2 a c>d %\ld be left1 b unaccompani$ by any reque/ to see ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,?is e lady w at once und]/&4 ,a lady :o has a gue/ /ay+ ) h] :o receives really calls %\ld always try to place a p>lor at h] disposal :]e %e c see h] fri5ds alone1 unless %e be a v "y p]son1 to :om ! *ap]onage ( ! ho/ess is indisp5sable4 ,if ! lady ( ! h\se is 9 ! draw+-room :5 ! visitor arrives to call on h] gue/1 %e is1 ( c\rse1 introduc$ & says a few words2 & if %e is n 9 ! room1 ! gue/ %\ld inquire ( ! visitor if ! lady ( ! h\se w see him or h]1 ?us giv+ h] a *ance to accept or decl9e4 ,9 call+ on ! sons or ! daught]s ( ! h\se1 e visitor %\ld leave a c>d = ! fa!r & "m4 ,if ladies are at home1 c>ds %\ld be left = ! g5tlem5 ( ! family4 ,9 ,europe a "y man is n all[$ to ask = ! "y ladies ( ! h\se 9 =mal p>lance1 nor is he all[$ to leave a c>d on !m--socially 9 ,europe ! jeune fille has no exi/5ce4 ,he calls on ! "m or *ap]on2 ! "y lady may be s5t =1 b he mu/ n inquire = h] fir/4 ,ev5 if %e is a "y lady at ! head ( a h\se1 he is n all[$ to call ^u h] )\t "s prelim9>ies2 "s amiable female fri5d mu/ manage to br+ !m toge!r4 ,9 ,am]ica ! o!r extreme has l$ to a v vici\s sy/em ( etiquette1 by :i* "y ladies are recogniz$ z altoge!r lead]s ( society1 receiv+ ! gue/s & pu%+ _! mo!rs into ! backgr\nd4 ,x w\ld amaze a l>ge numb] ( ambiti\s "y ladies to be told t x 0 n prop] t "y m5 %\ld call on !m & be receiv$ by !m alone4 ,b ! solution w\ld seem to be t ! "m or *ap]on %\ld advance to h] prop] place 9 ?is c\ntry1 & :ile tak+ c>e ( h] daught]1 appe>+ ) h] 9 public1 & receiv+ visits ) h]1 /ill p]mit t good-natur$ & well-int5d$ social int]c\rse betwe5 "y m5 & wom5 :i* is s seldom abus$1 & :i* has l$ to s _m happy m>riages4 ,x is "o ( ! po9ts yet debatable h[ mu* lib]ty %\ld be all[$ "y ladies4 ,c]ta9ly1 h[ev]1 we d n wi% to hold our "y girls up to ! scorn & ridicule ( ! noveli/ or ! =eign critic by ignor+ :at has be5 a recogniz$ t5et ( good mann]s s9ce society 0 =m$4 ,! fact t ! *ap]on is a necess>y in/itution1 & t to m>ri$ ladies & to eld]ly ladies %\ld be paid all due respect1 is a subject ( :i* we %all treat lat]4 ,no "y lady :o is visit+ 9 a /range city or c\ntry t[n %\ld ev] receive ! visits ( g5tlem5 )\t ask+ h] ho/ess & h] daught]s to come d[n & be introduc$ to !m2 nor %\ld %e ev] invite su* p]sons to call )\t ask+ h] ho/ess if x w\ld be agreeable4 ,to receive an ord9>y acqua9tance at any h\r1 ev5 t ( ! aft]noon reception1 )\t h] ho/ess w\ld be v bad mann]s4 ,we fe> ! practice is too common1 h[ev]4 ,h[ mu* worse to receive a lov]1 or a g5tleman :o may aspire to ! honor ( becom+ "o1 at unusual h\rs1 )\t say+ any?+ to ! lady ( ! h\se6 ,too _m "y ,am]ican girls are 9 ! habit ( do+ s3 mak+ ( _! fri5d's h\se a conv5i5ce by :i* an acqua9tance ) a "y man may be c>ri$ on--a "y man too1 p]haps1 :o has be5 =bidd5 h] own home4 ,a bride receives h] call]s aft] %e has settl$ d[n 9 h] m>ri$ home j z any lady does4 ,!re is no p>ticul> etiquette obs]v$4 ,%e s5ds out c>ds = two or ?ree reception days1 & h] fri5ds & new acqua9tances call or s5d c>ds on ^! days4 ,%e mu/ n1 h[ev]1 call on h] fri5ds until !y h call$ ^u h]4 ,z _m ( ^! call]s--fri5ds1 p]haps1 ( ! bridegroom--are unkn[n to ! bride1 x is well to h a s]vant ann\nce ! names2 & !y %\ld also leave _! c>ds 9 ! hall t %e may be able to "k :]e to return ! visits4 ,:at has s f> be5 said w s]ve to give a g5]al idea ( ! c>d & its uses1 & ( ! duties :i* x imposes ^u diff]5t memb]s ( society4 ,f>!r on 9 ?is volume we w take up1 9 mu* m p>ticul> fa%ion1 ! matt]s only allud$ to 9 ?is op5+ *apt]4 ,we may say t c>ds h *ang$ less 9 ! hi/ory ( etiquette & fa%ion ?an any?+ else4 ,!y1 ! %ift+ pa/ebo>ds1 are 9 /yle ab\t :at !y 7 fifty--nay1 a hundr$--ye>s ago4 ,! pla91 unglaz$ c>d ) f9e engrav$ script _c be improv$ ^u4 ,! pass+ fa%ion = engrav$ autographs1 = old ,engli%1 = ,g]man text1 all ^! fa%ions h _h b a brief h\r4 ,no?+ is 9 worse ta/e ?an = an ,am]ican to put a coat-(-arms on 8 c>d4 ,x only s]ves to make him ridicul\s4 ,a lady %\ld s5d up h] c>d by a s]vant1 b n deliv] x to ! lady ( ! h\se2 a c>d is y\rself1 !re=e if y meet a lady1 %e does n want two ( y4 ,if y wi% to leave y\r address1 leave a c>d on ! hall table4 ,"o does "r 9 leav+ a c>d on ! hall table at a reception1 & "o ne$ n call aga94 ,an invitation to "o's h\se cancels all indebt$ness4 ,if a c>d is left on a lady's reception1 %e %\ld make ! next call1 al?\gh _m busy society wom5 n[ nev] make calls1 except :5 !y receive invitations to aft]noon teas or receptions4 ,:5 a g5tleman calls on ladies :o are at home1 if he kn[s !m well he does n s5d up a c>d2 ! s]vant ann\nces 8 "n4 ,if he does n "k !m well1 he does s5d up a c>d4 ,"o c>d is suffici5t1 b he c inquire = !m all4 ,9 leav+ c>ds x is n necess>y to leave sev5 or eight1 b x is cu/om>y to leave two--"o = ! lady ( ! h\se1 ! o!r = ! re/ ( ! family or ! /rang] :o is )9 _! gates4 ,if a g5tleman wi%es p>ticul>ly to call on any "o memb]1 he says s to ! s]vant1 z ,take my c>d up to ,miss ,jones1 & he adds1 ,i %\ld l to see all ! ladies if !y are at home4 ,! tr\ble 9 answ]+ ?is "q is t au?orities diff]4 ,we give ! late/ ,london & ,new ,york fa%ion1 s f> z we "k1 & also :at we believe to be ! common-s5se view4 ,a g5tleman c ask fir/ = ! lady ( ! h\se1 !n = any o!r memb] ( ! family1 b he ne$ nev] leave m ?an two c>ds4 ,he mu/ 9 ?is1 z 9 all etiquette1 ex]cise common-s5se4 ,no "o c def9e all ! t5 ?\s& little po9ts4 ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,,optional ,,civilities4 ,!re are _m optional civilities 9 life :i* add v mu* to its *>m if obs]v$1 b :i* _c be call$ indisp5sable4 ,to ^? :i* are h>mless & graceful we %all give a cursory glance1 & to ^? :i* are d\btful & p]haps h>mful we %all also briefly allude1 leav+ x to ! common-s5se ( ! read] z to :e!r he w h]eaft] obs]ve 9 8 own mann]s ^! s-call$ optional civilities4 ,9 ,france1 :5 a g5tleman takes (f 8 hat 9 a w9dy /reet or 9 an expos$ passage-way1 & holds x 9 8 h& :ile talk+ to a lady1 %e always says1 ,c\vrez v\s 7,i beg ( y n to /& uncov]$74 ,a k9d-he>t$ woman says ?is to a boatman1 a coa*man1 a man ( l[ degree1 :o always takes (f 8 hat :5 a lady speaks to him4 ,n[ 9 our c\ntry1 un=tunately1 ! cabm5 h su* bad mann]s t a lady seldom has ! opportunity ( ?is optional civility1 =1 unlike a simil> class 9 ,europe1 ^? :o s]ve y = y\r money 9 ,am]ica (t5 ?r[ 9 a good deal ( incivility ) ! s]vice1 & no book ( etiquette is m ne$$ ?an "o :i* %\ld tea* %op-girls & %op-m5 ! beauty & advantages ( a respectful mann]4 ,if m5 :o drive c>riages & /reet cabs w\ld le>n ! mo/ advantage\s way ( mak+ money1 !y w\ld le>n to t\* _! hats to a lady :5 %e speaks to !m or gives an ord]4 ,x is always done 9 ! ,old ,_w1 & ?is respectful air adds inf9itely to ! pleasures ( =eign travel4 ,9 all =eign hotels ! l&lords en=ce su* respect on ! "p ( ! wait]s to ! gue/s ( ! hotel t if two compla9ts are made ( incivility1 ! man or woman compla9$ ( is imm$iately dismiss$4 ,9 a liv]y-/able1 if ! hir$ coa*man is compla9$ ( = an uncivil answ]1 or ev5 a sil5ce :i* is con/ru$ z incivility1 he is imm$iately dis*>g$4 ,on ! lake ( ,como1 if a lady /eps d[n to a :>f to hire a boat1 e boatman takes (f 8 cap until %e has f9i%$ speak+1 & rema9s uncov]$ until %e asks him to put on 8 hat4 ,n[ optional civilities1 su* z say+ to "o's inf]ior1 ,d n /& )\t y\r hat1 to "o's equal1 ,d n rise1 ,i beg ( y1 ,d n come out 9 ! ra9 to put me 9 my c>riage1 naturally occur to ! k9d-he>t$1 b !y may be cultivat$4 ,x us$ to be enum]at$ among ! uses ( =eign travel t a man w5t away a be> & came home a g5tleman4 ,x is n natural to ! ,anglo-,saxon race to be ov]polite4 ,!y h no petits so9s4 ,a husb& 9 ,france moves out an easy-*air = 8 wife1 & sets a foot/ool = e lady4 ,he h&s h] ! morn+ pap]1 he br+s a %awl if !re is dang] ( a draught1 he kisses h] h& :5 he comes 91 & he tries to make himself agreeable to h] 9 ! matt] ( ^! little optional civilities4 ,x has ! mo/ *>m+ effect ^u all dome/ic life1 & we f9d a curi\s allusion to ! polit5ess obs]v$ by ,fr5* sons t[>ds _! mo!rs & fa!rs 9 "o ( ,moli]e's com$ies1 :]e a prodigal son obs]ves to 8 fa!r1 :o comes to d5\nce him1 ,pray1 sir1 take a *air1 says ,prodigal2 y c\ld scold me s mu* m at y\r ease if y 7 seat$4 ,if ?is 0 a piece ( optional civility :i* _h 9 x a bit ( s>casm1 we c readily see t civility l5ds great /r5g? to satire1 & take a h9t f x 9 our treatm5t ( rude p4 ,a lady once ent]+ a cr[d$ %op1 :]e ! wom5 beh9d ! c\nt] 7 s+ul>ly inatt5tive & rude ev5 = ,am]ica1 rem>k$ to "o "y woman :o 0 l\ng+ on ! c\nt]1 & :o did n %[ any p>ticul> desire to s]ve h]1 ,my de>1 y make me a conv]t to ! ,saturday-aft]noon e>ly-clos+ rule1 & to ! plan = provid+ seats = saleswom51 = ,i see t fatigue has impair$ y\r usefulness to y\r employ]4 ,! l\ng] />t$ to h] feet ) fla%+ eyes4 ,i am z /rong z y are1 said %e1 v indignantly4 ,!n save y\rself a report at ! desk by %[+ me "s lace1 said ! lady1 9 a s(t voice1 ) a smile4 ,%e 0 s]v$ aft] ?is ) alacrity4 ,9 ,am]ica we are all work]s2 we h no privileg$ class2 we are e>n+ money 9 v>i\s s]vitudes1 call$ v>i\sly law1 m$ic9e1 div9ity1 lit]ature1 art1 m]cantile bus9ess1 or z cl]ks1 s]vants1 seam/resses1 & nurses1 & we owe x to our "w to d x n only hone/ly b pleasantly4 ,x is absolutely necess>y to success 9 ! la/-m5tion$ pr(ession t a woman h a pleasant mann]1 & x is a "p ( ! in/ruction ( ! tra9+-s*ool ( nurses1 t ( civility4 ,x is n e "o :o has a fasc9at+ mann]4 ,:at a great gift ( =tune x is6 ,b x is 9 e "o's p[] to try & cultivate a civil mann]4 ,9 ! matt] ( keep+ a hotel--a slang expression :i* has become a prov]b--h[ well ! wom5 9 ,europe und]/& _! bus9ess1 & h[ poorly ! wom5 9 ,am]ica und]/& !irs6 ,9 ,engl& & all ov] ! ,cont95t ! newly arriv$ /rang] is receiv$ by a woman neatly dress$1 ) pleasant1 respectful mann]s1 :o is ov]fl[+ ) optional civilities4 ,%e conducts ! lady to h] room1 asks if %e w h ! bl9ds drawn or op51 if %e w h hot wat] or cold1 if %e w\ld l a cup ( tea1 etc42 s5ds a neat *amb]maid to h] to take h] ord]s1 gets h] p5 & pap] = h] notes--9 fact1 treats h] z a lady %\ld treat a gue/4 ,ev5 9 v rural di/ricts ! l&lady comes out to h] own door to meet ! /rang]1 holds h] neat h& to assi/ h] to alight1 & p]=ms = h] all ! s]vice %e c :ile %e is "u h] ro(4 ,9 ,am]ica a lady may alight 9 :at is call$ a tav]n1 we>y1 travel-/a9$1 & ) a heada*e4 ,%e is %[n into a wait+-room :]e sits1 p]haps1 an ov]dress$ female 9 a rock+-*air viol5tly fann+ h]self4 ,%e le>ns t ?is is ! l&lady4 ,%e asks if %e c h a room1 "s hot wat]1 etc4 ,! answ] may be1 ,i don't "k2 ,i don't h to "w2 p]haps ,jim w tell y4 ,& x is to ! man ( ! h\se t ! travell] mu/ apply4 ,x is a favorable sign t ,am]ican m5 are nev] a%am$ to labor1 al?\gh !y may n ov]fl[ ) civility4 ,x is a v unfavorable sign = ! wom5 ( ,am]ica :5 !y are afraid or a%am$ ( "w1 & :5 !y hesitate to d t :i* is ne>e/ !m ) civility & int]e/4 ,ano!r te/ ( self-respect1 & "o :i* is sometimes lack+ 9 ^? :om ! _w calls fa%ionable1 ^? :o h ! possessions :i* ! majority ( u desire1 f9e h\ses1 f9e clo!s1 weal?1 good position1 etc41 is ! lack or ! pres5ce ( f9e c\rtesy1 :i* %all treat e "o s t he or %e is entirely at ease4 ,society is ! int]c\rse ( p]sons on a foot+ ( app>5t equality1 & if s1 any "o 9 x :o treats o!r p s z to make !m uncom=table is manife/ly unfit = society4 ,n[ an optional c\rtesy %\ld be ! unfail+ cu/om ( su* a woman1 we w say1 "o :o has ! p[] ( giv+ pa9 by a slight1 :o c w\nd am\r propre 9 ! %y1 c make a dbutante /amm] & blu%1 c annoy a %y y\? by a sne]4 ,h[ _m a girl has _h h] society life ru9$ by ! cruelty ( a society lead]6 h[ _m a "y man has _h 8 blood froz5 by a contemptu\s smile at 8 awkw>dness6 ,h[ mu* ( ! native good-w ( an impulsive p]son has be5 froz5 into a cau/ic & s>donic temp] by ! lack ( a little optional civility8 ,! s]vant :o comes = a place1 & seats h]self :ile ! lady :o speaks to h] is /&+1 is want+ 9 optional civility4 ,%e s9s f ignorance1 & %\ld be k9dly told ( h] (f5ce1 & taught bett] mann]s4 ,! ri* woman :o treats a gue/ impolitely1 ! l&lady :o sits 9 h] rock+-*air :ile ! travell] waits = ^? com=ts :i* h] h\se ( call invites1 all are guilty ( ! same (f5ce4 ,x hurts ! l&lady & ! s]vant m ne>ly ?an x does ! ri* woman1 because x r5d]s _! self-impos$ task ( gett+ a liv+ ! m difficult1 b x is equally repreh5sible 9 all ?ree4 ,good mann]s are said to be ! result ( a k9d he>t & c>eful home tra9+2 bad mann]s1 ! result ( a co>se nature & unwise tra9+4 ,we are prone to believe t bad mann]s 9 ,am]icans are almo/ purely f want ( ?\ght4 ,!re is no m g5]\s1 k9dly1 or bett] p 9 ! _w ?an ! /&>d ,am]ican1 b he is (t5 an untra9$ creature4 ,! ?\s&s ( emigrants :o l& on our %ores1 ) privileges :i* !y nev] ?\ght to h ?ru/ ^u !m1 h[ c !y imm$iately le>n good mann]s8 ,9 ! ,old ,_w tradition ( p[] is /ill s fre% t !y h to le>n respect = _! employ]s !re4 ,"h !re are no su* traditions4 ,! fir/ duty1 !n1 x w\ld seem1 bo? = ^? to :om =tune has be5 k9d & = ^? :o are /ill c\rt+ h] favors1 w\ld be to /udy optional civility2 n only ! dec5cies ( life1 b a little m4 ,n only be virtu\s1 b h ! %ad[s ( virtue4 ,be polite1 be engag+2 give a cordial b[1 a graci\s smile2 make sun%9e 9 a %ady place4 ,beg9 at home ) y\r optional civility4 ,n only avoid ^? s]i\s brea*es ( mann]s :i* %\ld cause a man to kick ano!r man d[n-/airs1 b g fur!r ?an good mann]s--h bett] mann]s4 ,let m5 raise _! hats to wom51 give up seats 9 c>s1 kiss ! h& ( an eld]ly lady if %e conf]s ! honor ( h] acqua9tance ^u !m1 protect ! weak1 assi/ ! fall51 & cultivate civility2 9 e class ( life ?is w\ld oil ! :eels2 & especially let ,am]ican wom5 seek to m5d _! mann]s4 ,optional civility does n 9 any way include famili>ity4 ,we d\bt :e!r x is n ! be/ ( all armor aga9/ x4 ,famili>ity is bad /yle4 ,x is n civility :i* causes "o lady to say to ano!r1 ,y\r bonnet is v unbecom+2 let me beg ( y to g to ano!r mill9]4 ,t is famili>ity1 :i* h[ev] mu* x may be suppos$ to be excess ( fri5d%ip1 is g5]ally ei!r caus$ by spite or by a defici5cy ( respect ,! latt] is nev] p>donable4 ,x is 9 d\btful ta/e to w>n p ( _! faults1 to comm5t ^u _! lack ( ta/e1 to c>ry !m disagreeable tid+s1 "u ! "n ( fri5d%ip4 ,on ! ,cont95t1 :]e diffid5ce is unkn[n1 :]e a man1 :oev] he may be1 has a "r to speak to 8 fell[-man 7if he does x civilly71 :]e a woman f9ds o!r wom5 mu* m polite to h] ?an wom5 are to ea* o!r 9 ?is c\ntry1 !re is no famili>ity4 ,x is almo/ an insult to t\* ! p]son2 = in/ance1 no "o places 8 h& on ! arm or %\ld] ( ano!r p]son unless !re is ! close/ intimacy2 b ev]y:]e !re is an optional civility freely giv5 betwe5 poor & poor1 ri* & poor1 ri* & ri*1 sup]iors & inf]iors1 betwe5 equals4 ,x w\ld be pleasant to foll[ ?is out 9 detail1 ! results are s agreeable & s honorable4 ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,,good ,,& ,,bad ,,society4 ,_m ( our correspond5ts ask u to def9e :at is meant by ! t]ms good society & bad society4 ,!y say t !y read 9 ! newspap]s ( ! good society 9 ,new ,york & ,wa%+ton & ,newport1 & t x is a record ( drunk5ness1 flirtation1 bad mann]s & gossip1 backbit+1 divorce1 & sl&]4 ,!y read t ! fa%ionable p at popul> resorts commit all sorts ( vulg>ities1 su* z talk+ al\d at ! op]a1 & di/urb+ _! neighbors2 t "y m5 g to a d9n]1 get drunk1 & break glasses2 & "o +5u\s "y girl rem>ks1 ,we d n call t good society 9 ,atlanta4 ,su* a lett] might h be5 writt5 to t c>eful *ronicl] ( good society 9 ! days ( ,*>les ,,ii41 old ,pepys ( c\rtly fame4 ,! "y maid5 ( ,h]t=d%ire1 f> f ! ,c\rt1 might well h ?\ght ( ,ro*e/] & su* gay sp>ks1 & ! ladies :o ?rew glasses ( w9e at !m1 z n altoge!r well-br$1 nor entitl$ to admission into good society4 ,we _c blame h]4 ,x is ! old /ory4 ,:]e1 too1 z 9 our l&1 pleasure & luxury rule a c]ta9 set :o enjoy no tradition ( good mann]s1 ! contradiction 9 t]ms is ! m app>5t4 ,ev5 ! ext]nal =ms ( respect to good mann]s are want+4 ,no su* ov]t vulg>ity1 = in/ance1 z talk+ al\d at ! op]a w ev] be endur$ 9 ,london1 because a p[]ful class ( really well-born & well-br$ p w hiss x d[n1 & insi/ on ! quiet :i* music1 ( all o!r ?+s1 dem&s4 ,t is :at we mean by a tradition ( good mann]s4 ,9 humbl] society1 we may say z 9 ! h\sehold ( a ,scot* peasant1 su* z 0 ! fa!r ( ,c>lyle1 ! brea*es ( mann]s :i* are (t5 se5 9 fa%ionable society w\ld nev] occur4 ,!y w\ld appe> p]fectly impossible to a p]son :o _h a really good he>t & a g5tle nature4 ,! mann]s ( a "y man ( fa%ion :o keeps 8 hat on :5 speak+ to a lady1 :o w\ld smoke 9 h] face1 & w\ld appe> indiff]5t to h] com=t at a supp]-table1 :o w\ld be contradictory & neglectful--su* mann]s w\ld h be5 impossible to ,?omas or ,john ,c>lyle1 re>$ z !y 7 9 ! humble/ pov]ty4 ,x 0 ! ,london swell :o d>$ to be rude 9 _! day z n[4 ,b ?is imp]t95ce & arrogance ( fa%ion %\ld n prev5t ! son ( a ,scot* peasant f acquir+1 or attempt+ to acquire1 ! conv5tional habits & mann]s ( a g5tleman4 ,if he h already ! grace ( high culture1 he %\ld seek to add to x ! k ( social laws1 :i* w r5d] him an agreeable p]son to be met 9 society4 ,he mu/ le>n h[ to write a graceful note1 & to answ] 8 invitations promptly2 he mu/ le>n ! etiquette ( dress & ( leav+ c>ds2 he mu/ le>n h[ to eat 8 d9n] gracefully1 &1 ev5 if he sees 9 good society m5 ( ext]nal poli% guilty ( a rud5ess :i* w\ld h %ock$ ! man :o 9 ! ,scot* ,highl&s f$ & milk$ ! c[s1 he /ill mu/ n =get t society dem&s some?+ :i* 0 n f\nd 9 ! f>m-y>d4 ,c>lyle1 himself ! greate/ radical & democrat 9 ! _w1 f\nd t life at ,craig5puttock w\ld n d all = him1 t he mu/ g to ,london & ,ed9burgh to rub (f 8 solit>y neglect ( mann]s1 & /rive to be l o!r p4 ,on ! o!r b&1 ! ,que5 ( ,engl& has j refus$ to receive ! ,duke ( ,m>lbor\gh because he notori\sly ill-treat$ ! be/ ( wives1 & _h be51 9 all 8 relations ( life1 :at !y call 9 ,engl& a cad4 ,%e has ev5 ask$ him to give back ! ,/> & ,g>t]1 ! insignia once worn by ! great duke1 :i* has nev] fall5 on %\ld]s s unwor?y z ^? ( ! late ,m>quis ( ,bl&=d1 n[ ,duke ( ,m>lbor\gh4 ,= all ?is ! _w has great reason to ?ank ! ,que51 = ! pres5t duke has be5 always 9 good society1 & su* is ! rev]5ce felt = rank & = h]$it>y "n 9 ,engl& t he might h cont9u$ 9 ! mo/ fa%ionable circles = all 8 bad behavi\r1 /ill be+ c\rt$ = "n & title1 _h n ! highe/ lady 9 ! l& rebuk$ him4 ,%e has refus$ to receive ! fri5ds ( ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales1 p>ticul>ly "s ( 8 ,am]ican favorites1 ?is good ,que51 because %e e/eems good mann]s & a virtu\s life z a "p ( good society4 ,n[1 ^? :o are n 9 society are apt to mi/ake all t is excessive1 all t is boori%1 all t is snobbi%1 all t is aggressive1 z be+ a "p ( t society4 ,9 ?is !y are wrong4 ,no "o e/imates ! gr&eur ( ! ocean by ! rubbi% ?r[n up on ! %ore4 ,fa%ionable society1 good society1 ! be/ society1 is compos$ ( ! v be/ p1 ! mo/ poli%$ & accompli%$1 religi\s1 moral1 & *>itable4 ,! high] ! civilization1 !re=e1 ! bett] ! society1 x be+ always borne 9 m9d t !re w be f\nd1 "h & !re1 ! objectionable outgr[?s ( a false luxury & ( an ins9c]e culture4 ,no d\bt1 among ! circles ( ! highe/ nobility1 :ile ! k+ & que5 may be p ( simple & unpret5d+ mann]s1 !re may be "s arrogant & self-suffici5t ma/] ( c]emonies1 "s ,malvolio ^: pomposity is 9 /range contra/ to ! good-bre$+ ( ,olivia4 ,x is ! less] /> :i* tw9kles mo/4 ,! ,s*ool = ,sc&al is a la/+ picture ( ! folly & frivolity ( a c]ta9 phase ( ,london society 9 ! pa/1 & x repeats itself 9 e decade4 ,!re is always a ,mrs4 ,c&\r1 a ,sir ,b5jam9 ,backbite1 & a sc&al\s college at ,newport1 9 ,new ,york1 ,milwaukee1 ,philadelphia1 ,bo/on1 ,baltimore1 ,*icago1 ,s>atoga1 ,long ,bran*1 :]ev] society congregates4 ,x is ! necess>y imp]fection1 ! seamy side4 ,su* is ! rev]se ( ! patt]n4 ,un=tunately1 ! "r side is n s easily describ$4 ,! colors ( a beautiful bit ( brocade are1 :5 se5 z a :ole1 s judici\sly bl5d$ t !y c h>dly be pron\nc$ ^u individually3 "o only admires ! t\t ensemble1 & t uncritically1 p]haps4 ,t society is bad ^: memb]s1 h[ev] t5aci\s !y be ( =ms ( etiquette & elaborate c]emonials1 h "o code ( mann]s = ^? :om !y deem _! equals1 & ano!r = ^? :om !y e/eem to be ( less importance to !m by reason ( age1 pecuni>y condition1 or relative social influ5ce4 ,bad mann]s are apt to prove ! concomitant ( a m9d & disposition t are none too good1 & ! fa%ionable woman :o slights & w\nds p because !y _c m9i/] to h] ambition1 *all5ges a m]ciless criticism ( h] own moral %ortcom+s4 ,a "y girl :o is imp]t95t or c>eless 9 h] demeanor to h] "m or h] "m's fri5ds2 :o goes ab\t )\t a *ap]on & talks slang2 :o is c>eless 9 h] be>+ t[>ds "y m51 p]mitt+ !m to treat h] z if %e 7 "o ( !mselves2 :o accepts ! att5tion ( a "y man ( bad "* or dissipat$ habits because he happ5s to be ri*2 :o is l\d 9 dress & r\gh 9 mann]--su* a "y girl is bad society1 be %e ! daught] ( an e>l or a but*]4 ,!re are _m su* in/ances ( audacity 9 ! s-call$ good society ( ,am]ica1 b su* p d n spoil x2 !y simply isolate !mselves4 ,a "y man is bad society :o is indiff]5t to ^? old] ?an himself1 :o neglects to ackn[l$ge invitations1 :o sits :ile a lady /&s1 :o goes to a ball & does n speak to 8 ho/1 :o is selfi%1 :o is notori\sly immoral & c>eless ( 8 good "n1 & :o ?r[s discr$it on 8 fa!r & "m by %[+ 8 ill-bre$+4 ,no matt] h[ ri*1 h[ ext]nally agreeable to ^? :om he may wi% to c\rt1 no matt] h[ mu* v>ni% ( outw>d mann] su* a man may possess1 he is bad society4 ,a p>v5ue :o assumes to keep o!r p out ( ! society :i* %e has j conqu]$1 ^: ?\ghts are :olly ^u social success 7:i* means1 ) h]1 kn[+ somebody :o has h]et(ore refus$ to "k h]71 :o is climb+1 & ?r[+ backw>d looks ( disda9 ^u ^? :o also climb--su* a woman1 un=tunately too common 9 ,am]ica1 is1 :5 %e happ5s to h a*iev$ a fa%ionable position1 "o ( ! wor/ in/ances ( bad society4 ,%e may be v prom95t1 p[]ful1 & influ5tial4 ,%e may h money & ent]ta91 & p desir\s ( be+ amus$ may c\rt h]1 & h] bad mann]s w be accept$ by ! c>eless obs]v] z "o ( ! concomitants ( fa%ion4 ,! rev]se is true4 ,%e is an int]lop] 9 ! circles ( good society1 & ! old fable ( ! ass 9 ! lion's sk9 fits h] precisely4 ,_m a du*ess 9 ,engl& is su* an int]lop]2 h] sup]cili\s airs betray ! falsity ( h] polit5ess1 b %e is oblig$ by ! rules ( ! ,c\rt at :i* %e has be5 educat$ to behave l a lady2 %e has to c\nt]feit good-bre$+2 %e _c1 %e d>e n1 behave z a woman :o has sudd5ly become ri* may sometimes1 nay does1 behave 9 ,am]ican society1 & /ill be receiv$4 ,x w ?us be se51 z has be5 happily express$1 t fa%ion has _m classes1 & _m rules ( probation & admission4 ,a "y p]son ignorant ( its laws %\ld n be delud$1 h[ev]1 by false appe>ances4 ,if a "y girl comes f ! mo/ seclud$ circles to ,s>atoga1 & sees "s h&some1 well-dress$1 conspicu\s woman mu* c\rt$1 lioniz$1 z x 71 & obs]ves 9 h] :at seems to be insol5t pret5ce1 unk9dness1 frivolity1 & sup]cili\sness1 let h] inquire & wait be=e %e accepts ?is bit ( brass = pure gold4 ,em]son def9es /]l+ fa%ion z fund$ tal5t4 ,its objects may be frivol\s or objectless2 b1 9 ! long-run1 its purposes are nei!r frivol\s nor accid5tal4 ,x is an ef=t = good society2 x is ! br++ toge!r ( admirable m5 & wom5 9 a pleasant way4 ,good-bre$+1 p]sonal sup]iority1 beauty1 g5ius1 culture1 are all v good ?+s4 ,e "o delights 9 a p]son ( *>m+ mann]s4 ,"s p w =give v great d]elictions 9 a p]son :o has *>m+ mann]s1 b ! truly good society is ! society ( ^? :o h virtue & good mann]s bo?4 ,"s ,engli%man ask$ an ,am]ican1 ,:at sort ( a c\ntry is ,am]ica8 ,x is a c\ntry :]e ev]ybody c tread on ev]ybody's toes1 0 ! answ]4 ,x is v bad society :]e any "o wi%es to tread on 8 neighbor's toes1 & worse yet :]e !re is a disposition to feel aggriev$1 or to %[ t "o feels aggriev$4 ,!re are c]ta9 p new 9 society :o are always hav+ _! toes trodd5 ^u4 ,!y say3 ,mrs4 ,br[n snubb$ me2 ,mrs4 ,smi? does n wi% to "k me2 ,mrs4 ,?ompson ought to h invit$ me4 ,i am z good z any ( !m4 ,?is is v bad society4 ,no woman ) self-respect w ev] say su* ?+s4 ,if "o meets ) rud5ess1 take no rev5ge1 ca/ no asp]sions4 ,wit & tact1 accompli%m5ts & social tal5ts1 may h elevat$ "s woman to a high] popul>ity ?an ano!r1 b no woman w ga9 t height by compla9+4 ,comm& ( temp]1 delicacy ( feel+1 & elegance ( mann]--all ^! are dem&$ ( ! p]sons :o become lead]s ( society1 & w\ld rema9 s4 ,!y alone are good society4 ,_! imitators may masqu]ade = a "t1 & tread on toes1 & fl+ scorn & insult ab\t !m :ile 9 a false & insecure supremacy2 b su* pret5d]s to ! ?rone are soon unseat$4 ,!re is a dreadful ,s$an & ,/rasburg await+ !m4 ,!y di/ru/ _! own flatt]]s2 _! appanage is n a solid "o4 ,p :o are look+ on at society f a di/ance mu/ rememb] t wom5 ( ! _w are n always worldly wom54 ,!y =get t brilliancy 9 society may be accompani$ by ! be/ he>t & ! /]ne/ pr9ciple4 ,! be/ p ( ! _w are ^? :o "k ! _w be/4 ,!y recognize ! fact t ?is _w %\ld be kn[n & s]v$ & treat$ ) z mu* respect & s9c]ity z t o!r _w1 :i* is to be our rew>d = hav+ conqu]$ ! "o 9 :i* we live n[4 ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,,on ,,introduc+ ,,p4 ,a lady 9 h] own h\se c 9 ^! ,unit$ ,/ates d pretty mu* z %e pleases1 b !re is "o ?+ 9 :i* our cultivat$ & exclusive city fa%ionable society seems agre$1 & t is1 t %e mu/ n introduce two ladies :o reside 9 ! same t[n4 ,x is an awkw>d & an emb>rass+ re/riction1 p>ticul>ly z ! o!r rule1 :i* r5d]s x easy en\gh--! ,engli% rule--t ! ro( is an introduction1 & t visitors c conv]se )\t fur!r notice1 is n und]/ood4 ,s awkw>d1 h[ev]1 are ,am]icans ab\t ?is1 t ev5 9 v good h\ses "o lady has spok5 to ano!r1 p]haps to a "y girl1 & has receiv$ no answ]1 because %e _h n be5 introduc$2 b ?is /ate ( ignorance is1 =tunately1 n v common4 ,x %\ld be met by ! surpris$ rejo9d] ( ! ,hoosi] s*ool-mi/ress3 ,don't y] "k en\gh to speak :5 y] spok5 to8 ,let e woman rememb]1 :e!r %e is f ! backwoods1 or f ! mo/ fa%ionable city h\se1 t no su* casual conv]sation c hurt h]4 ,x does n involve ! fur!r acqua9tance ( ^! two p]sons4 ,!y may cease to "k ea* o!r :5 !y g d[n ! front /eps2 & x w\ld be k9d] if !y w\ld bo? relieve ! lady ( ! h\se ( _! jo9t ent]ta9m5t by jo9+ 9 ! conv]sation1 or ev5 speak+ to ea* o!r4 ,a ho/ess 9 ?is l& is sometimes "y1 emb>rass$1 & n flu5t4 ,! pres5ce ( two ladies ) :om %e is n v well acqua9t$ h]self1 & bo? ( :om %e mu/ ent]ta91 pres5ts a fe>ful dilemma4 ,x is a k9dness to h]1 :i* %\ld outweigh ! dang]s ( mak+ an acqua9tance 9 ano!r set1 if ^? ladies conv]se a little ) ea* o!r4 ,if "o lady desires to be introduc$ to ano!r1 ! ho/ess %\ld ask if %e may d s1 ( c\rse unobtrusively4 ,sometimes ?is places "o lady 9 an unlucky position t[>ds ano!r4 ,%e does n "k exactly :at to d4 ,mrs4 ,s-&-s may h ! gift ( exclusiv5ess1 & may desire t ,mrs4 ,t-&-t %all n h ! privilege ( b[+ to h]4 ,gur[ski says1 9 8 v clev] book on ,am]ica1 t snobbi%ness is a peculi>ity ( ! fa%ionable set 9 ,am]ica1 because !y d n "k :]e !y /&4 ,x is ! peculi>ity ( vulg> p ev]y:]e1 :e!r !y sit on ?rones or keep liquor-%ops2 snobs are born--n made4 ,if1 ev]1 a lady has ?is gift or ?is drawback ( exclusiv5ess1 x is wrong to invade h] privacy by introduc+ p to h]4 ,introduc+ %\ld n be indiscrim9ately done ei!r at home or 9 society by any lady1 h[ev] k9d-he>t$4 ,h] own position mu/ be ma9ta9$1 & t may dem& a c]ta9 loyalty to h] own set4 ,%e mu/ be c>eful h[ %e lets loose on society an undesirable or aggressive man1 = in/ance1 or a great bore1 or a vulg>1 irritat+ woman4 ,^! w all be social ob/acles to ! "y ladies ( h] family1 :om %e mu/ fir/ consid]4 ,%e mu/ n add to ! emb>rassm5ts ( a lady :o has already too l>ge a visit+ li/4 ,unsolicit$ introductions are bad = bo? p>ties4 ,"s l>ge-he>t$ wom5 ( society are too g5]\s by half 9 ?is way4 ,a lady %\ld by adroit que/ions f9d out h[ a new acqua9tance w\ld be receiv$1 :e!r or n x is ! desire ( bo? p>ties to "k ea* o!r2 =1 if !re is ! slighte/ d\bt exi/+ on ?is po9t1 %e w be blam$ by bo?4 ,x is (t5 ! good-natur$ desire ( a sympa!tic p]son t ! p :om %e kn[s well %\ld "k ea* o!r4 ,%e !re=e /rives to br+ !m toge!r at lun* or d9n]1 b p]haps f9ds out aft]w>ds t "o ( ! ladies has p>ticul> objections to kn[+ ! o!r1 & %e is n ?ank$4 ,! disaffect$ lady %[s h] displeasure by be+ impolite to ! pu%+ lady1 z %e may consid] h]4 ,_h no introduction tak5 place1 %e argues1 %e might h ,/ill enjoy$ a reputation = polit5ess4 ,w>y wom5 ( ! _w are !re=e v %y ( introduc+ two wom5 to ea* o!r4 ,?is is ! awkw>d side4 ,! m agreeable &1 we may say1 humane side has its ?\s&s & ?\s&s ( support]s1 :o believe t a fri5dly introduction hurts no "o2 b we are n[ n talk+ ( k9dness1 b ( etiquette1 :i* is decid$ly oppos$ to indiscrim9ate introductions4 ,society is su* a complicat$ organization1 & its laws are s lam5tably unwritt51 yet s deeply engrav$ on c]ta9 m9ds1 t ^! ?+s become important to ^? :o are always w9d+ & unw9d+ ! *a9s ( fa%ion4 ,x is !re=e well to /ate x z a receiv$ rule t no g5tleman %\ld ev] be introduc$ to a lady unless h] p]mission has be5 ask$1 & %e be giv5 an opportunity to refuse2 & t no woman %\ld be introduc$ =mally to ano!r woman unless ! introduc] has consult$ ! wi%es ( bo? wom54 ,no delicate-m9d$ p]son w\ld ev] intrude h]self ^u ! notice ( a p]son to :om %e _h be5 casually introduc$ 9 a fri5d's draw+-room2 b all ! _w1 un=tunately1 is n made up ( delicate-m9d$ p]sons4 ,9 mak+ an introduction1 ! g5tleman is pres5t$ to ! lady ) "s su* in=mal spee* z ?is3 ,mrs4 ,a1 all[ me to pres5t ,mr4 ,b2 or1 ,mrs4 ,a1 ,mr4 ,b desires ! honor ( kn[+ y4 ,9 introduc+ two wom51 pres5t ! y\ng] to ! old] woman1 ! "q ( rank n hold+ good 9 our society :]e ! position ( ! husb&1 be he judge1 g5]al1 s5ator1 or presid5t ev51 does n give 8 wife fa%ionable position4 ,%e may be ( f> less importance 9 ! great _w ( society ?an "s ,mrs4 ,smi?1 :o1 hav+ no?+ else1 is set d[n z ( ! highe/ rank 9 t unpubli%$ b well-kn[n book ( h]aldry :i* is s ?or\ghly und]/ood 9 ,am]ica z a tradition4 ,x is ! prop] ?+ = a g5tleman to ask a mutual fri5d or an acqua9tance to introduce him to a lady1 & !re are few occasions :5 ?is reque/ is refus$4 ,9 our cr[d$ ballrooms1 *ap]ons (t5 ask "y m5 if !y w be introduc$ to _! *>ges4 ,x is bett] be=e ask+ ! "y m5 ( ?is pres5t luxuri\s age1 if !y w n only be introduc$1 b if !y propose to dance1 ) ! "y lady1 else t "y p]son may be mortifi$ by a snub4 ,x is pa9ful to record1 z we mu/1 t ! age ( *ivalry is pa/1 & t at a gay ball "y m5 appe> z supremely selfi%1 & desire g5]ally only introductions to ! reign+ belle1 or to an heiress1 n deign+ to look at ! humble wall-fl[]1 :o is nei!r1 b ^: womanhood %\ld comm& respect4 ,ballroom introductions are suppos$ to mean1 on ! "p ( ! g5tleman1 ei!r an int5tion to dance ) ! "y lady1 to walk ) h]1 or to talk to h] ?r\gh "o dance1 or to %[ h] "s att5tion4 ,m5 sc>cely ev] ask to be introduc$ to ea* o!r1 b if a lady1 ?r\gh "s desire ( h] own1 wi%es to pres5t !m1 %e %\ld nev] be met by indiff]5ce on _! "p4 ,m5 h a "r to be exclusive z to _! acqua9tances1 ( c\rse2 b at a lady's table1 or 9 h] p>lor1 !y %\ld nev] op5ly %[ di/a/e = ea* o!r's society be=e h]4 ,9 ,am]ica x is ! fa%ion to %ake h&s1 & mo/ wom51 if desir\s ( be+ cordial1 ext5d _! h&s ev5 on a fir/ introduction2 b x is1 p]haps1 m elegant to make a b[ only1 at a fir/ introduction4 ,9 h] own h\se a ho/ess %\ld always ext5d h] h& to a p]son br\ght to h] by a mutual fri5d1 & introduc$ = ! fir/ "t4 ,at a d9n]-p>ty1 a few m9utes be=e d9n]1 ! ho/ess introduces to a lady ! g5tleman :o is to take h] d[n to ! d9+-room1 b makes no fur!r introductions1 except 9 ! case ( a di/+ui%$ /rang]1 to :om all ! company are introduc$4 ,"h p1 z we h said1 are %y ( speak+1 b !y %\ld n be1 = ! room :]e !y meet is a suffici5t gu>antee t !y c conv]se )\t any loss ( dignity4 ,at l>ge ga!r+s 9 ! c\ntry x is prop] = ! lady to introduce h] gue/s to ea* o!r1 & x is p]fectly prop] to d ?is )\t ask+ p]mission ( ei!r p>ty4 ,a "m always introduces h] son or daught]1 a husb& 8 wife1 or a wife h] husb&1 )\t ask+ p]mission4 ,a g5tleman1 aft] be+ introduc$ to a lady1 mu/ wait = h] to b[ fir/ be=e he v5tures to claim h] z an acqua9tance4 ,?is is ,anglo-,saxon etiquette4 ,on ! ,cont95t1 h[ev]1 ! g5tleman b[s fir/4 ,!re ! matt] ( ! rais+ ! hat is also important4 ,an ,am]ican g5tleman takes 8 hat q (f to a lady2 a =eign] raises x b slightly1 & b[s ) a def]5tial air4 ,betwe5 ladies b slightly acqua9t$1 & j introduc$1 a v =mal b[ is all t is prop]2 acqua9tances & fri5ds b[ & smile2 intimate male fri5ds simply nod1 b all g5tlem5 ) ladies raise ! hat & b[ if ! lady recognizes a fri5d4 ,introductions :i* take place out-(-doors1 z on ! lawn-t5nis gr\nd1 9 ! hunt+ field1 9 ! /reet1 or 9 any casual way1 are n to be tak5 z necess>ily =mal1 unless ! lady *ooses s to consid] !m4 ,! same may be said ( introductions at a wat]+-place1 :]e a gr\p ( ladies walk+ toge!r may meet o!r ladies or g5tlem51 & jo9 =ces = a walk or drive4 ,introductions are ne$ful1 & %\ld be made by ! olde/ lady ( ! p>ty1 b are n to be consid]$ z mak+ an acqua9tance necess>y betwe5 ! p>ties if nei!r %\ld aft]w>ds wi% x4 ,x is univ]sally conc$$ n[ t ?is sort ( casual introduction does n involve ei!r lady 9 ! net-"w ( a future acqua9tance2 nor ne$ a lady recognize a g5tleman1 if %e does n *oose to d s1 aft] a wat]+-place introduction4 ,x is always1 h[ev]1 m polite to b[2 t civility hurts no "o4 ,!re are 9 our new c\ntry _m wom5 :o consid] !mselves fa%ionable lead]s--memb]s ( an exclusive set--& :o fe> if !y %\ld "k "s o!r wom5 out ( t set t !y w\ld imp]il _! social /&+4 ,^! p h no titles by :i* !y c be kn[n1 s !y pres]ve _! exclusiv5ess by disagreeable mann]s1 z "o w\ld h$ge a g>d5 by a bord] ( prickly-pe>4 ,! result is t mu* ill-feel+ is eng5d]$ 9 society1 & p :om ^! old ari/ocrats call ! n\veaux ri*es1 p>v5us1 etc41 are always hav+ _! feel+s hurt4 ,! fact rema9s t ! be/-br$ & mo/ truly ari/ocratic p d n f9d x necess>y to hurt any "o's feel+s4 ,an introduction nev] h>ms anybody1 & a woman ) ! slighte/ tact c keep (f a vulg> & a pu%+ p]son )\t be+ rude4 ,x is to be fe>$ t !re are vulg> natures among ^? :o aspire to be consid]$ exclusive1 & t !y are gratifi$ if !y c presumably increase _! own importance by seem+ exclusive2 b x is n necess>y to dwell on su* p4 ,! place giv5 "h to ! ill-br$ is only conc$$ to !m t "o may realize ! great dem&s made ^u ! tact & ! good feel+ ( a ho/ess4 ,%e mu/ h a quick appreh5sion2 %e may & w rememb]1 h[ev]1 t x is v easily =giv51 ?is k9d-he>t$ness--t x is bett] to s9 aga9/ etiquette ?an to d an unk9d ?+4 ,great pa9s %\ld be tak5 by a ho/ess to introduce %y p4 ,"y p are ^? ^: pleasure mu/ dep5d on introductions4 ,x is well = a lady 9 pres5t+ two /rang]s to say some?+ :i* may break ! ice1 & make ! conv]sation easy & agreeable2 z1 = in/ance1 ,mrs4 ,smi?1 all[ me to pres5t ,mr4 ,br[n1 :o has j arriv$ f ,new ,zeal&2 or1 ,mrs4 ,jones1 all[ me to pres5t ,mrs4 ,wals+ham1 ( ,wa%+ton--or ,san ,francisco1 s t ! two may naturally h a "q & answ] ready ) :i* to /ep ov] ! ?re%old ( conv]sation )\t tripp+4 ,at a five-o'clock tea or a l>ge reception !re are reasons :y a lady _c introduce any "o b ! daught] or si/] :om %e has 9 *>ge4 ,a lady :o comes & kn[s no "o sometimes goes away feel+ t h] ho/ess has be5 inatt5tive1 because no "o has spok5 to h]4 ,%e rememb]s ,europe1 :]e ! ro(-tree has be5 an introduction1 & :]e p spoke k9dly to h] & did n pass h] by4 ,d9n]-p>ties 9 /iff & =mal ,london h ?is great attraction3 a g5tleman /eps up & speaks to a lady1 al?\gh !y h nev] met be=e1 & (t5 takes h] d[n to d9n] )\t an introduction4 ,! wom5 *at aft] d9n] l old fri5ds2 e "o kn[s t ! ro( is a suffici5t gu>antee4 ,?is is z x %\ld be2 b great awkw>dness results 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates if "o lady speaks to ano!r & receives no answ]4 ,pray1 c y tell me :o ! piani/ is8 said a lead] ( society to a "y girl ne> h] at a private conc]t4 ,! "y lady look$ di/ress$ & blu%$1 & did n answ]4 ,hav+ se5 a deaf-mute 9 ! room :om %e knew1 ! speak] conclud$ t ?is "y lady belong$ to t class ( p]sons1 & 0 v mu* surpris$ :5 lat] ! ho/ess br\ght up ?is sil5t p]sonage & introduc$ h]4 ,i c\ld n speak to y be=e because ,i _h n be5 introduc$--b ! piani/ is ,mr4 ,mills1 rem>k$ ?is punctili\s p]son4 ,i1 h[ev]1 c\ld speak to y1 al?\gh we _h n be5 =mally pres5t$4 ,! ro( 0 a suffici5t gu>antee ( y\r respectability1 & ,i ?\ght f y\r n answ]+ t y 7 deaf & dumb1 said ! lady4 ,! rebuke 0 des]v$4 ,common-s5se mu/ int]pret etiquette2 nice cu/oms c\rtesy to great k+s4 ,society dep5ds ^u its social soo?say]s = all t is good 9 x4 ,a disagreeable woman c always f9d prec$5ts = be+ =mal & *ill+2 a f9e-temp]$ woman c always f9d reasons en\gh = be+ agreeable4 ,a woman w\ld r be a b5$iction ?an a curse1 "o w\ld ?9k4 ,we hold x prop]1 all ?+s consid]$1 t at d9n]-p>ties & receptions a ho/ess may introduce h] fri5ds to ea* o!r4 ,s long z !re is emb>rassm5t1 or ! mi/ake made by ! "y lady above m5tion$ :o w\ld n answ] a civil "q2 s long z ^! mi/akes & o!rs are made1 & ! result be /upidity & gloom1 & a p>ty sil5t & ?umb-twi/+1 in/ead ( gayly conv]s+1 z x %\ld be2 s long z p d n come toge!r easily--x is manife/ly prop] t ! ho/ess %\ld put h] f+] on ! social p5dulum1 & give x a sw+ to />t ! conv]sational clock4 ,all well-br$ p recognize ! propriety ( speak+ to ev5 an enemy at a d9n]-p>ty1 al?\gh !y w\ld suff] no recognition an h\r lat]4 ,! same pr9ciple holds good1 ( c\rse1 if1 9 ! true ex]cise ( h] hospitality1 ! ho/ess %\ld introduce "s p]son :om %e w\ld l to comm5d4 ,^! are ! exceptions :i* =m ! rule4 ,c>e %\ld be tak5 9 pres5t+ =eign]s to "y ladies2 sometimes titles are dubi\s4 ,"h1 a ho/ess is to be =giv5 if %e positively decl9es4 ,%e may say1 politely1 ,i h>dly ?9k ,i "k y well en\gh to d>e to pres5t y to t "y lady4 ,y mu/ wait until h] p>5ts 7or gu>dians1 or *ap]on7 w pres5t y4 ,b ! numb]s ( agreeable p :o are ready & wait+ to be introduc$ are _m4 ,! woman ( lit]>y di/9ction & ! possessor ( an honor$ "n may be inv9cibly %y & afraid to speak2 :ile h] next neighbor1 kn[+ h] fame p]haps1 & anxi\s to make h] acqua9tance1 miscon/rues %yness = pride--a masqu]ade :i* ba%fulness sometimes plays2 s two p1 ) volumes to say to ea* o!r1 rema9 sil5t z fi%es1 until ! k9dly magician comes along1 &1 by ! op5 sesame ( an introduction1 unlocks ! treasure :i* has be5 s deftly hidd54 ,a woman ( fa%ion may ent] an assembly ( ?9k]s & f9d h]self dread$ & %unn$1 until "s k9d ^w creates ! ent5te cordiale4 ,9 ! social ent]ta9m5ts ( ,new ,york1 ! majority pref] ^? :]e ! ho/ess introduces h] gue/s--"u1 ( c\rse1 ^! wise & prop] limitations4 ,z = =ms ( introduction1 ! simple/ are be/4 ,a lady %\ld introduce h] husb& z ,mr4 ,br[n1 ,g5]al ,br[n1 ,judge ,br[n4 ,if he has a title %e is always to give x to him4 ,our simple =ms ( titul> respect h be5 condemn$ abroad1 & we are accus$ ( be+ all colonels & g5]als2 b a wife %\ld /ill give h] husb& 8 title4 ,9 address+ ! ,presid5t we say ,mr4 ,presid5t1 b 8 wife %\ld say1 ,all[ me to introduce ! ,presid5t to y4 ,! mode/y ( ,mrs4 ,grant1 h[ev]1 nev] all[$ h] to call h] _m-titl$ husb& any?+ b ,mr4 ,grant1 :i* _h1 9 h] case1 a sweetness above all etiquette4 ,introductions 9 ! homely ,g]man fa!rl& are univ]sal1 ev]ybody pron\nc+ to ev]ybody else ! "n ( ! lady to :om he is talk+2 & among our ,g]man fell[-citiz5s we (t5 see a g5tleman convoy+ a lady ?r\gh a cr[d$ assemblage1 introduc+ h] to ev]ybody4 ,x is a simple1 cordial1 & pleasant ?+ en\gh1 z ) !m ! acqua9tance /ops !re2 & a b[ & smile hurt nobody4 ,no "o ( he>t or m9d ne$ feel afraid to talk & be agreeable1 :e!r introduc$ or n1 at a fri5d's h\se2 ev5 if %e meets ) ! rebuff ( a deaf-&-dumb neighbor1 %e ne$ n feel he>t-brok53 %e is "r1 & h] /iff acqua9tance is wrong4 ,if a g5tleman asks to be pres5t$ to a lady1 %e %\ld signify h] ass5t 9 a pleasant way1 & pay h] ho/ess1 ?r\gh :om ! reque/ comes1 ! complim5t ( at lea/ seem+ to be gratifi$ at ! introduction4 ,our ,am]ican ladies are sometimes a little lack+ 9 cordiality ( mann]1 (t5 receiv+ a new acqua9tance ) t "p ( _! con=mation :i* is kn[n z ! cold %\ld]4 ,a brusque disc\rtesy is bad1 a v effusive c\rtesy & a too l[ b[ are worse1 & an ov]:elm+ & patroniz+ mann] is atroci\s4 ,! prop] salutation lies j betwe5 ! two extremes3 ! ju/e milieu is ! prop] ?+ always4 ,9 seek+ introductions = ourselves1 :ile we ne$ n be %y ( mak+ a fir/ visit or ask+ = an introduction1 we mu/ /ill bew>e ( pu%4 ,!re are in/9cts 9 ! humble/ und]/&+ :i* w tell u :]e to draw ! l9e4 ,if a p]son is socially m prom95t ?an ourselves1 or m di/+ui%$ 9 any way1 we %\ld n be viol5tly anxi\s to take ! fir/ /ep2 we %\ld wait until "s happy *ance br\ght u toge!r1 = we mu/ be z firm 9 our self-respect z our neighbor is secure 9 h] exalt$ position4 ,weal? has h]et(ore _h v little p[] to give a p]son an exclusively fa%ionable position4 ,"*1 bre$+1 culture1 good connections--all mu/ help4 ,an ari/ocrat :o is su* by virtue ( an old & honor$ "n :i* has nev] be5 t>ni%$ is a p[] 9 ! newe/ society z 9 ! olde/2 b x is a %ad[y p[]1 felt r ?an describ$4 ,education is always a p[]4 ,to be sure1 !re is a tyranny 9 l>ge cities ( :at is kn[n z ! fa%ionable set1 =m$ ( p will+ to sp5d money2 :o make a sort ( alliance1 (f5sive & def5sive2 :o c give balls & p>ties & keep c]ta9 p out2 :o h ! place :i* _m covet2 :o are too mu* fe>$ & dread$4 ,if ^? :o desire an introduction to ?is set /rive = x too mu*1 !y w be sure to be snubb$2 = ?is circle lives by snubb+4 ,if su* an aspirant w wait pati5tly1 ei!r ! :ole autocratic set ( ladies w disb&--= su* sets dis5tangle easily--or else !y 9 _! turn w come knock+ at ! door & ask to be receiv$4 ,l'art de t5ir salon is n acquir$ 9 an h\r4 ,x takes _m ye>s = a new & an un9/ruct$ set to surm\nt all ! little awkw>dnesses1 ! dubi\s po9ts ( etiquette1 t come up 9 e new %uffle ( ! social c>ds2 b a mode/ & s]5e c\rtesy1 a civility :i* is n s]vile1 w be a good introduction into any society4 ,& x is well to h t philosophical _s :i* puts ! be/ possible int]pretation ^u ! conduct ( o!rs4 ,be n 9 ha/e to consid] y\rself neglect$4 ,self-respect does n easily receive an insult4 ,a lady :o is fully aw>e ( h] own respectability1 :o has always liv$ 9 ! be/ society1 is nev] afraid to b[ or call fir/1 or to introduce ! p :om %e may desire %\ld "k ea* o!r4 ,%e p]haps presumes on h] position1 b x is v r>e t su* a p]son (f5ds2 = tact is almo/ always ! concomitant ( social success4 ,!re has be5 a movem5t lately t[>ds ! /ately b[s & c\rtesies ( ! pa/ 9 our rec5t importation ( ,old-,_w fa%ions4 ,a lady sil5tly c\rtesies :5 introduc$1 a g5tleman makes a deep b[ )\t speak+4 ,we h _h ! cu/om ( h&-%ak+--& a v good cu/om x is--b p]haps ! late/ fa%ion 9 c]emoni\s introduction =bids x4 ,if a g5tleman c>ries 8 cru% hat1 & a lady h] fan & a b\quet1 h&-%ak+ may n be p]fectly conv5i5t4 ,h[ev]1 if a lady or g5tleman ext5ds a h&1 x %\ld be tak5 cordially4 ,always respond to ! greet+ 9 ! key-note ( ! giv]4 ,,*apt] ,v4 ,,visit+4 ,no t]m admits ( a wid] int]pretation ?an ?is2 no subject is capable ( a great] numb] ( subdivisions4 ,! matt] ( =mal visit+ has l$ to ! writ+ ( innum]able books4 ,! decay ( social visit+ is a cause ( regret to all ! old-fa%ion$ p :o rememb] h[ agreeable x 02 b our cities h gr[n too l>ge = x1 & 9 our villages ! population *anges too quickly4 ,! con/ant ef=t to make ! two sy/ems %ake h&s1 to add cordiality to =mality1 & to provide = all ! =c$ conditions ( a rapidly gr[+ & con/antly *ang+ society1 ^! are b a few ( ! difficulties att5d+ ?is subject4 ,! orig9al plan ( an acqua9tance 9 a =mal city circle 0 to call once or twice a ye> on all "o's fri5ds p]sonally1 ) ! hope & ! remote expectation ( f9d+ two or ?ree at home4 ,:5 society 0 small] 9 ,new ,york1 ?is 0 possible1 b x soon grew to be impossible1 z 9 all l>ge cities4 ,?is f9ally l$ to ! e/abli%m5t ( a reception day :i* held good all w9t]4 ,t became impossible & tiresome1 & 0 n>r[$ d[n to f\r ,tuesdays1 p]haps1 9 "o mon?2 t resolv$ itself into "o or two five-o'clock teas2 & !n aga91 if a lady got lame or lazy or luxuri\s1 ev5 ! la/ easy me?od ( receiv+ h] fri5ds became too on]\s1 & c>ds 7 left or s5t 9 an envelope4 ,n[1 accord+ to ! /rict rules ( etiquette1 "o c>d a ye> left at ! door1 or "o s5t 9 an envelope1 cont9ues ! acqua9tance4 ,we c nev] "k :at sudd5 pressure ( calamity1 :at /r+5t ne$ ( economy1 :at exig5cies ( "w1 may prompt a lady to give up h] visit+ = a season4 ,ev5 :5 !re is no app>5t cause1 society mu/ ask no que/ions1 b mu/ acquiesce 9 ! mo/ good-natur$ view ( ! subject4 ,/ill1 !re mu/ be uni=mity4 ,we are n pleas$ to receive ,mrs4 ,br[n's c>d by po/1 & !n to meet h] mak+ a p]sonal visit to our next neighbor4 ,we all wi% to receive our p]sonal visits1 & if a lady _c call on all h] =mal acqua9tances once1 %e _h bett] call on none4 ,if %e gives "o reception a ye> & invites all h] li/1 %e is !n at lib]ty to refra9 f ei!r call+ or s5d+ a c>d1 unless %e is ask$ to a w$d+ or d9n]1 a ladies' lun* or a *ri/5+1 or receives "s v p>ticul> invitation :i* %e mu/ return by an e>ly p]sonal call--! v =mal & ! punctili\s say )9 a week1 b t is (t5 impossible4 ,& if a lady h a day1 ! call %\ld be made on t day2 x is rude to ignore ! intimation4 ,"o %\ld try to call on a reception day4 ,b "h 9 a cr[d$ city ano!r complication comes 94 ,if a lady h f\r ,?ursdays 9 ,janu>y & sev]al o!r ladies h ,?ursdays1 x may be impossible to rea* all ^? ladies on _! reception day4 ,!re is no?+ = x1 !n1 b to good-natur$ly apologize1 & to regret t call+ h\rs are n[ r$uc$ to betwe5 f\r & six 9 l>ge cities4 ,"s p h too _m acqua9tances4 ,if !y hope to d any?+ 9 ! _w b drive ab\t & leave c>ds1 !y mu/ exon]ate !mselves f blame by giv+ a reception1 hav+ a day or an ev5+ = receiv+1 & !n tru/ to ! good-nature ( society1 or its =getfulness1 :i* is ab\t ! same ?+1 to excuse !m4 ,happy ^? ladies :o c give up an ev5+ a week to _! fri5ds2 t rubs out ! score on ! social slate1 besides giv+ a numb] ( p a *ance to sp5d a v agreeable h\r 9 t society :i* ga!rs ar\nd a hospitable lamp4 ,! dang] ( ?is k9d ( hospitality is t x is abus$ by bores1 :o are too apt to congregate 9 numb]s1 & to we> out ! lady ( ! h\se by us+ h] p>lor z a spot :]e !y are safe f ! ra9 & cold & free to be/[ _! t$i\sness on anybody1 h]self includ$4 ,!n a lady aft] committ+ h]self to a reception ev5+ (t5 wi%es to g out h]self4 ,x requires unselfi%ness to give up an ev5+ to t l>ge circle1 "s ( :om =get x1 "s g else:]e1 "s come too (t51 & sometimes1 alas6 no on e calls4 ,^! are ! drawbacks ( an ev5+ at home4 ,h[ev]1 x is a laudable cu/om2 "o c\ld wi% x 7 m common4 ,no "o c =get ! eloqu5t ?anks ( su* m5 z ,horace ,walpole1 & o!r p]sons ( di/9ction1 to ! ,misses ,b]ry1 9 ,london1 :o kept up _! ev5+ receptions = sixty ye>s4 ,b1 f ! trials ( ^? :o h too mu* visit+1 we turn to ! p :o h all ! means & appliances ( visit+ & no "o to visit4 ,! "y m>ri$ woman :o comes to ,new ,york1 or any o!r l>ge city1 (t5 passes ye>s ( lonel9ess be=e %e has made h] acqua9tances4 ,%e is prop]ly introduc$1 we w say by h] "m-9-law or "s o!r fri5d1 & !n1 aft] a r\nd ( visits 9 :i* %e has b1 p]haps1 imp]fectly appreh5d$ ! positions & names ( h] new acqua9tances1 %e has a long illness1 or %e is call$ into m\rn+1 or ! c>es ( ! nurs]y surr\nd h]1 & %e is %ut out f society until x has =gott5 h]2 & :5 %e is ready to em]ge1 x is difficult = h] to f9d h] place aga9 9 ! visit+-book4 ,if %e is en]getic & clev]1 %e surm\nts ?is difficulty by giv+ a s]ies ( receptions1 or engag+ 9 *>ities1 or work+ on "s committee1 mak+ h]self ( use to society 9 "s way2 & ?us picks up h] dropp$ /it*es4 ,b "s "y wom5 are )\t ! c\rage & tact to d ?is ?+2 !y wait1 expect+ t society w f9d !m out1 &1 tak+ !m up1 w d all ! "w & leave !m to accept or refuse civilities z !y please4 ,society nev] does ?is2 x has too mu* on its h&s2 a few conspicu\sly beautiful & gift$ p may occasionally receive su* an ovation1 b x is n = ! rank & file4 ,e "y woman %\ld try to make at lea/ "o p]sonal visit to ^? :o are old] ?an h]self1 & %e %\ld %[ *>ity t[>ds ^? :o d n return ?is visit imm$iately4 ,( c\rse1 %e has a "r to be piqu$ if h] visit be p]si/5tly ignor$2 & %e %\ld n press h]self ^u a cold or indiff]5t acqua9tance1 b %e %\ld be sl[ to wra?2 & if %e is once invit$ to ! old] lady's h\se1 x is wor? a doz5 calls s f> z ! int5tion ( civility is conc]n$4 ,x is prop] to call 9 p]son1 or to leave a c>d1 aft] an acqua9tance has lo/ a relative1 aft] an engagem5t is ann\nc$1 aft] a m>riage has tak5 place1 aft] a return f ,europe1 & ( c\rse aft] an invitation has be5 ext5d$2 b1 z society gr[s l>g] & l>g]1 ! fir/ f\r visits may be omitt$1 & c>ds s5t if x is impossible to pay ! visits p]sonally4 ,mo/ ladies 9 l>ge cities are invisible except on _! days2 9 ?is way alone c !y hope to h any "t = _! own individual ta/es1 be ^! :at !y may--*9a pa9t+1 au?or%ip1 embroid]y1 or music4 ,s ! =mal visit+ gets to be a m]e matt] ( c>d-leav+2 & ! witty au?or :o sugge/$ t !re %\ld be a cle>+-h\se = c>ds1 & :o hail$ ! ,cas9o at ,newport z a good in/itution = ! same1 0 n )\t g5ius4 ,"o hates to lose "t 9 ?is _w :ile greas+ ! ma*9]y1 & ! =mal1 p]functory c>d-leav+ is little else4 ,c\ld we all h abundant leisure & be sure to f9d our fri5ds at home1 :at m agreeable bus9ess ?an visit+8 ,to w&] f "o pleasant int]ior to ano!r1 to talk a little h>mless gossip1 to he> ! la/ mot1 ! be/ piece ( news1 to see "o's fri5ds1 _! *ildr51 & ! /rang] )9 _! gates--all ?is is *>m+2 x is ! ,utopia ( society2 x w\ld be ! apo!osis ( visit+--if !re 7 su* a ?+6 ,un=tunately1 x is impossible4 ,!re may be "h & !re a p]son ( su* exalt$ leisure t he c keep 8 acc\nts to society m>k$ 9 "o ( ^? purple sat9 manuals /amp$ ,visites1 & make ! prop] m>ks e day "u ! heads ( address1 receiv$1 return$ visits1 & reception days1 b he is a r>a avis4 ,c]ta9 rules are1 h[ev]1 immutable4 ,a fir/ call f a new acqua9tance %\ld be spe$ily return$4 ,^! are =mal calls1 & %\ld be made 9 p]son betwe5 ! h\rs ( f\r & six 9 ,new ,york & o!r l>ge cities4 ,e t[n has its own h\rs = receiv+1 h[ev]4 ,:5 call+ = ! fir/ "t on sev]al ladies n "m & daught]s 9 "o family1 a c>d %\ld be left on ea*4 ,9 ! fir/ call ( ! season1 a lady leaves h] own c>d & ^? ( h] husb&1 sons1 & daught]s4 ,a lady has a "r to leave h] c>d )\t ask+ = ! lady ( ! h\se if x is n h] day1 or if !re is any reason--su* z bad wea!r1 pressure ( engagem5ts1 or ! l--:i* r5d]s "t an important matt]4 ,if ladies are receiv+1 & %e is admitt$1 ! visitor %\ld leave h] husb&'s c>ds = ! g5tlem5 ( ! family on ! hall table4 ,/rang]s /ay+ 9 t[n :o wi% to be call$ ^u %\ld s5d _! c>ds by po/1 ) address atta*$1 to ^? :om !y w\ld l to see4 ,!re is no necessity ( call+ aft] a tea or g5]al reception if "o has att5d$ ! fe/ivity1 or has left or s5t a c>d on t day4 ,= reception days a lady we>s a pla91 d>k1 ri* dress1 tak+ c>e1 h[ev]1 nev] to be ov]dress$ at home4 ,%e rises :5 h] visitors ent]1 & is c>eful to seat h] fri5ds s t %e c h a ^w ) ea*4 ,if ?is is impossible1 %e keeps h] eye on ! rec5t arrivals to be sure to speak to e "o4 ,%e is to be =giv5 if %e pays m att5tion to ! ag$1 to "s di/+ui%$ /rang]1 or to "s "o :o has ! /ill high] claim ( mis=tune1 or to "o ( a mode/ & %r9k+ temp]am5t1 ?an to "o "y1 gay1 fa%ionable1 & ri*4 ,if %e neglects ^! =tunate visitors !y w n feel x2 if %e b[s l[ to !m & neglects ! o!rs1 %e betrays t %e is a snob4 ,if a lady is n sure t %e is kn[n by "n to h] ho/ess1 %e %\ld n fail to pron\nce h] own "n4 ,_m ladies s5d _! c>ds to ! "y brides :o h come into a fri5d's family1 & yet :o are )\t p]sonal acqua9tance4 ,_m1 alas6 =get faces1 s t a "n quickly pron\nc$ is a help4 ,9 ! ev5t ( an ex*ange ( calls betwe5 two ladies :o h nev] met 7& ?is has gone on = ye>s 9 ,new ,york1 sometimes until dea? has remov$ "o =ev]71 !y %\ld take an e>ly opportunity ( speak+ to ea* o!r at "s fri5d's h\se2 ! y\ng] %\ld approa* ! eld] & introduce h]self2 x is always reg>d$ z a k9dness2 or ! "o :o has receiv$ ! fir/ att5tion %\ld be ! fir/ to speak4 ,x is well always to leave a c>d 9 ! hall ev5 if "o is receiv$1 z x assi/s ! lady's memory 9 h] attempts to return ^! civilities4 ,c>ds ( condol5ce mu/ be return$ by a m\rn+-c>d s5t 9 an envelope at su* reasonable "t aft] ! dea? ( a relative z "o c det]m9e aga9 to take up ! bus9ess ( society4 ,:5 ! sep>ate c>d ( a lady is left1 ) h] reception day pr9t$ 9 "o corn]1 two c>ds ( h] husb& %\ld be left1 "o = ! lady1 ! o!r = ! ma/]1 ( ! h\se2 b aft] ! fir/ call ( ! season1 x is n necess>y to leave ! husb&'s c>d1 except aft] a d9n] invitation4 ,x is a conv5i5ce1 al?\gh n a univ]sal cu/om1 to h ! jo9t names ( husb& & wife1 z ,dr4 & ,mrs4 ,j4 ,b4 ,watson1 pr9t$ on "o c>d1 to use z a c>d ( condol5ce or congratulation1 b n z a visit+-c>d4 ,^! c>ds are us$ z ,p4 ,p4 ,c4 c>ds1 & c be s5t 9 an envelope by po/4 ,society is rapidly gett+ ov] its prejudice aga9/ s5d+ c>ds by po/4 ,9 ,europe x is always done1 & x is mu* saf]4 ,etiquette & hospitality h be5 r$uc$ to a sy/em 9 ! ,old ,_w4 ,x w\ld be mu* m conv5i5t c\ld we d t "h4 ,c]emoni\s visit+ is ! ma*9]y by :i* an acqua9tance is kept up 9 a circle too l>ge = social visit+2 b e lady %\ld try to make "o or two in=mal calls ea* w9t] on intimate fri5ds4 ,^! calls c be made 9 ! morn+ 9 ! pla9e/ walk+-dress1 & are c]ta9ly ! mo/ agreeable & flatt]+ ( all visits4 ,,*apt] ,,vi4 ,,invitations1 ,,acceptances1 ,,& ,,regrets4 ,! engrav+ ( invitation-c>ds has become ! important function ( m ?an "o ent]pris+ firm 9 e city1 s t x seems unnecess>y to say m ?an t ! mo/ pla9 & simple /yle ( engrav+ ! necess>y words is all t is requisite4 ,! ,engli% ambassador at ,rome has a pla91 /iff1 unglaz$ c>d ( a l>ge size1 on :i* is engrav$1 ,sir ,augu/us & ,lady ,paget reque/ ! pleasure ( company on ,?ursday ev5+1 ,novemb] fifte5?1 at t5 o'clock4 ,! favor ( an answ] is reque/$4 ,! lady ( ! h\se writes ! "n ( ! invit$ gue/ 9 ! blank space left be=e ! ^w company4 ,_m ent]ta9]s 9 ,am]ica keep ^! blanks1 or half-engrav$ invitations1 always on h&1 & ?us save !mselves ! tr\ble ( writ+ ! :ole c>d4 ,sometimes1 h[ev]1 ladies pref] to write _! own d9n] invitations4 ,! =mula %\ld always be1 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h5ry ,br[n reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,jones's company at d9n]4 ,novemb] fifte5?1 at sev5 o'clock1 #acb ,blank ,/4 ,we/4 ,^! invitations %\ld be imm$iately answ]$1 & ) a p]emptory acceptance or a regret4 ,nev] ent] into any discussion or prevision ) a d9n] invitation4 ,nev] write1 say+ y w come if y d n h to leave t[n1 or t y w try to come1 or1 if y are a m>ri$ pair1 t y w "o ( y come4 ,y\r ho/ess wants to "k exactly :o is com+ & :o isn't1 t %e may arrange h] table accord+ly4 ,simply say1 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,james ,jones accept ) pleasure ! polite invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h5ry ,br[n = d9n] on ,novemb] fifte5?1 at sev5 o'clock4 ,or if x is writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son1 accept 9 ! same in=mal mann]1 b quickly & decisively4 ,aft] hav+ accept$ a d9n] invitation1 if illness or any o!r cause int]f]e ) y\r go+ to ! d9n]1 s5d all imm$iate note to y\r ho/ess1 t %e may fill y\r place4 ,nev] selfi%ly keep ! place op5 = y\rself if !re is a d\bt ab\t y\r go+4 ,x has (t5 made or m>r$ ! pleasure ( a d9n]-p>ty1 ?is hesitancy on ! "p ( a gue/ to s5d 9 "t to h] ho/ess h] regrets1 caus$ by ! illness ( h] *ild1 or ! com+ on ( a cold1 or a dea? 9 ! family1 or any o!r calamity4 ,rememb] always t a d9n] is a mo/ =mal affair1 t x is ! highe/ social complim5t1 t its happy fulfilm5t is ( ! greate/ importance to ! ho/ess1 & t x mu/ be met 9 ! same =mal _s4 ,x precludes1 on h] "p1 ! necessity ( hav+ to make a fir/ call if %e be ! old] resid5t1 al?\gh %e g5]ally calls fir/4 ,"s "y neophytes 9 society1 hav+ be5 ask$ to a d9n] :]e ! eld]ly lady :o gave x _h =gott5 to enclose h] c>d1 ask$ if !y %\ld call aft]w>ds4 ,( c\rse !y 7 b\nd to d s1 al?\gh _! ho/ess %\ld h call$ or enclos$ h] c>d4 ,h[ev]1 "o invitation to d9n] is bett] ?an _m c>ds z a social complim5t4 ,we h be5 ask$ by _m1 ,to :om %\ld ! answ] to an invitation be address$8 ,if ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,br[n invite y1 answ] ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,br[n4 ,if ,mrs4 ,john ,jones asks y to a w$d+1 answ] ,mrs4 ,john ,jones4 ,ano!r ( our correspond5ts asks1 ,%all ,i respond to ! lady ( ! h\se or to ! bride if ask$ to a w$d+8 ,?is seems s impossible a confusion t we %\ld n ?9k ( m5tion+ s self-evid5t a fact _h n ! d\bt aris54 ,"o has no?+ to say to ! bride 9 answ]+ su* an invitation2 ! answ] is to be s5t to ! ho/ess1 :o writes4 ,always c>efully obs]ve ! =mula ( y\r invitation1 & answ] x exactly4 ,z to ! c>d ( ! ,engli% ambassador1 a g5tleman %\ld write3 ,mr4 ,alg]non ,gracie w d himself ! honor to accept ! invitation ( ,sir ,augu/us & ,lady ,paget4 ,9 ,am]ica he w\ld be a trifle less =mal1 say+1 ,mr4 ,alg]non ,gracie w h mu* pleasure 9 accept+ ! polite invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h5ry ,br[n4 ,we notice t on all ,engli% c>ds ! ,r4,s4,v4,p4 is omitt$1 & t a pla9 l9e ( ,engli% script is engrav$1 say+1 ,! favor ( an answ] is reque/$4 ,9 ?is c\ntry ! invitations to a d9n] are always 9 ! "n ( bo? ho/ & ho/ess1 b invitations to a ball1 at home1 a tea1 or g>d5-p>ty1 are 9 ! "n ( ! ho/ess alone4 ,at a w$d+ ! names ( bo? ho/ & ho/ess are giv54 ,& if a fa!r ent]ta9s = 8 daught]s1 he be+ a wid[]1 8 "n appe>s alone = h] w$d+2 b if 8 elde/ daught] presides ov] 8 h\sehold1 8 & h] "n appe> toge!r = d9n]s1 receptions1 & at homes4 ,_m wid[$ fa!rs1 h[ev]1 omit ! names ( _! daught]s on ! invitation4 ,a "y lady at ! head ( h] fa!r's h\se may1 if %e is no long] v "y1 issue h] own c>ds = a tea4 ,x is nev] prop] = v "y ladies to invite g5tlem5 9 _! own "n to visit at ! h\se1 call on !m1 or to come to d9n]4 ,! invitation mu/ come f ! fa!r1 "m1 or *ap]on4 ,at ! ,assembly1 ,patri>*s'1 ,*>ity ball1 or any public affair1 ! ^w ball is us$1 b no lady invites y to a ball at h] own h\se4 ,! words ,at ,home1 ) ,cotillion or ,danc+ 9 "o corn]1 & ! h\r & date1 alone are necess>y4 ,if x is to be a small1 in=mal dance1 ! ^w ,in=mal %\ld be engrav$ 9 "o corn]4 ,(fic]s ( ! army & navy giv+ a ball1 memb]s ( ! hunt1 ba*elors1 memb]s ( a club1 heads ( committees1 always reque/ ! pleasure1 or1 ! honor ( y\r company4 ,x is n prop] = a g5tleman to describe himself z at home2 he mu/ reque/ ! pleasure4 ,a ri* ba*elor ( ,utopia :o gave _m ent]ta9m5ts made ?is mi/ake1 & s5t a c>d--,mr4 ,horatio ,br[n4 ,at ,home4 ,tuesday1 ,novemb] f\rte5?4 ,tea at f\r--to a lady :o _h be5 an ambassadress4 ,%e imm$iately repli$3 ,mrs4 ,r\sby is v glad to he> t ,mr4 ,horatio ,br[n is at home--%e hopes t he w /ay !re2 b ( :at possible consequ5ce is t to ,mrs4 ,r\sby8 ,?is 0 a piece ( r\gh wit1 b x told ! "y man ( 8 mi/ake4 ,ano!r c>d1 issu$ ) ! s+ul> =mula1 ,mrs4 ,f]guson hopes to see ,mrs4 ,r\sby at ! *ur*1 on ! occasion ( ! w$d+ ( a daught]1 br\ght =? ! rebuke1 ,no?+ is s deceitful z human hope1 ,! phrase is an improp] "o4 ,mrs4 ,f]guson %\ld h reque/$ ! pleasure4 ,9 ask+ = an invitation to a ball = fri5ds1 ladies mu/ be cauti\s n to intrude too f>1 or to feel (f5d$ if refus$4 ,(t5 a ho/ess has a l>g] li/ ?an %e c fill1 & %e is n able to ask all :om %e w\ld wi% to invite4 ,!re=e a v great discretion is to be obs]v$ on ! "p ( ^? :o ask a favor4 ,a lady may always reque/ an invitation = di/+ui%$ /rang]s1 or = a "y danc+ man if %e c answ] = him 9 e way1 b r>ely = a m>ri$ c\ple1 & almo/ nev] = a c\ple liv+ 9 ! same city1 unless newly arriv$4 ,invitations to ev5+ or day receptions are g5]ally at home c>ds4 ,a lady may use h] own visit+ c>ds = five-o'clock tea4 ,= o!r ent]ta9m5ts1 ,music1 ,lawn-t5nis1 ,g>d5-p>ty1 ,read+s & ,recitals1 may be engrav$ 9 "o corn]1 or writt5 9 by ! lady h]self4 ,z = w$d+ invitations1 !y are almo/ inv>iably s5t out by ! p>5ts ( ! bride1 engrav$ 9 small script on note-pap]4 ,! /yle c always be obta9$ ( a fa%ionable engrav]4 ,!y %\ld be s5t out a =tnight be=e ! w$d+-day1 & are n to be answ]$ unless ! gue/s are reque/$ to att5d a sit-d[n breakfa/1 :5 ! answ] mu/ be z explicit z to a d9n]4 ,^? :o _c att5d ! w$d+ s5d or leave _! visit+-c>ds ei!r on ! day ( ! w$d+ or soon aft]4 ,invitations to a lun*eon are g5]ally writt5 by ! ho/ess on note-pap]1 & %\ld be r in=mal1 z lun*eon is an in=mal meal4 ,h[ev]1 n[adays ladies' lun*eons h become su* gr&1 consequ5tial1 & exp5sive affairs1 t invitations are engrav$ & s5t out a =tnight 9 advance1 & answ]$ imm$iately4 ,!re is ! same etiquette z at d9n] obs]v$ at ^! =mal lun*eons4 ,!re is su* a ?+1 h[ev]1 z a /&-up lun*eon--a sort ( reception ) banquet1 f :i* "o c\ld abs5t "o's self )\t be+ miss$4 ,punctuality 9 keep+ all engagem5ts is a feature ( a well-br$ "*1 9 society z well z 9 bus9ess1 & x _c be too ?or\ghly insi/$ ^u4 ,9 s5d+ a regret be p>ticul> to ^w y\r note mo/ respectfully4 ,nev] write ! ^w regrets on y\r c>d unless y wi% to insult y\r ho/ess4 ,s5d a c>d )\t any p5cill+ ^u x1 or write a note1 ?us3 ,mrs4 ,br[n regrets t a previ\s engagem5t w deprive h] ( ! pleasure ( accept+ ! polite invitation ( ,mrs4 ,jones4 ,no "o %\ld1 9 ! matt] ( accept+ or refus+ an invitation1 economize 8 polit5ess4 ,x is bett] to err on ! o!r side4 ,y\r fri5d has done 8 be/ 9 invit+ y4 ,! "q is (t5 ask$ u1 ,%\ld invitations be s5t to p 9 m\rn+8 ,( c\rse !y %\ld4 ,no "o w\ld kn[+ly intrude on a h\se 9 :i* !re is or has be5 dea? )9 a mon?2 b aft] t1 al?\gh x is an idle complim5t1 x is "o :i* mu/ be paid2 x is a "p ( ! ma*9]y ( society4 ,z invitations are n[ direct$ by ! hundr$s by hir$ amanu5ses1 a lady %\ld c>efully revise h] li/1 9 ord] t no names ( p]sons deceas$ may be writt5 on h] c>ds2 b ! memb]s ( ! family :o rema91 & :o h suff]$ a loss1 %\ld be c>efully rememb]$1 & %\ld n be pa9$ by see+ ! "n ( "o :o has dep>t$ includ$ 9 ! invitations or w$d+-c>ds4 ,p 9 deep m\rn+ are n invit$ to d9n]s or lun*eons1 b = w$d+s & l>ge ent]ta9m5ts c>ds are s5t z a tok5 ( remembrance & complim5t4 ,aft] a ye> ( m\rn+ ! b]eav$ family %\ld s5d out c>ds ) a n>r[ black edge to all :o h rememb]$ !m4 ,let x be und]/ood t 9 all c\ntries a c>d s5t by a private h& 9 an envelope is equival5t to a visit4 ,9 ,engl& "o s5t by po/ is equival5t to a visit1 except+ aft] a d9n]4 ,no?+ is p5cill$ on a c>d s5t by po/1 except ! ?ree lett]s ,p4,p4,c4 ,no su* words z accepts1 decl9es1 regrets %\ld be writt5 on a c>d4 ,z mu* ill-w is eng5d]$ 9 ,new ,york by ! loss ( c>ds = l>ge receptions & ! l1 "s ( :i* ! mess5g]-boys fl+ into ! gutt]1 x is a ?\s& pities t we _c agree to s5d all invitations by mail4 ,p always get lett]s t are s5t by po/1 p>ticul>ly ^? :i* !y c\ld d )\t4 ,:y %\ld !y n get _! m int]e/+ lett]s t conta9 invitations8 ,x is consid]$ ?or\ghly respectful 9 ,engl&1 & z our p are fond ( copy+ t /ately etiquette1 :y %\ld !y n foll[ ?is s5sible "p ( x8 ,x is 9 e s5se z complim5t>y to s5d a lett] by ! po/ z by ! dirty f+]s ( a hir$ mess5g]4 ,v few p 9 ?is c\ntry c af=d to s5d by _! own s]vants1 :o1 aga91 r>ely f9d ! "r address4 ,,*apt] ,,vii4 ,,c>ds ,,( ,,complim5t1 ,,c\rtesy1 ,,condol5ce1 ,,& ,,congratulation4 ,a di/+ui%$ lady ( ,new ,york1 on recov]+ f a sev]e illness1 issu$ a c>d :i* is a new dep>ture4 ,9 admir+ its fitness & ! ne$ :i* has exi/$ = j su* a c>d1 we wond] t none ( u h be=e inv5t$ some?+ s compact & /ately1 pleas+ & prop]--t h] ?\ght _h n be5 our ?\ght4 ,x reads ?us1 engrav$ 9 elegant script1 pla9 & mode/3 ,mrs4 pres5ts h] complim5ts & ?anks = rec5t k9d inquiries4 ,?is c>d1 s5t 9 an envelope :i* be>s ! family cre/ z a seal1 rea*$ all ^? :o _h left c>ds & inquiries = a useful & em95t memb] ( society1 :o lay = weeks trembl+ betwe5 life & dea?4 ,?is c>d is an att5tion to h] l>ge circle ( anxi\s fri5ds :i* only a k9d-he>t$ woman w\ld h ?\ght (1 & yet ! ?\ght 0 all2 = aft] t ! engrav] & ! secret>y c\ld d ! re/1 %[+ :at a labor-sav+ inv5tion x is to a busy woman :o is n yet suffici5tly /rong to write notes to all :o _h felt = h] sev]e suff]+4 ,! fir/ joy ( convalesc5ce is ( gratitude1 & ! second t we h creat$ an int]e/ & compassion among our fri5ds1 & t we 7 n alone z we /ruggl$ ) disease4 ,!re=e we may well recomm5d t ?is c>d %\ld become a fa%ion4 ,x meets a univ]sal want4 ,?is may be call$ "o ( ! c>ds ( complim5t--a phase ( c>d-leav+ to :i* we h h>dly rea*$ 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,x is ev5 m1 x is a he>tfelt & fri5dly blossom ( etiquette1 j out1 z we say ( ! apple-blossoms4 ,n[ z to ! use ( x by ! afflict$3 :y w\ld x n be well = p]sons :o h lo/ a fri5d also to h su* a c>d engrav$8 ,mr4 ,r begs to express 8 ?anks = y\r k9d sympa?y 9 8 rec5t b]eavem5t1 etc4 ,x w\ld save a _w ( lett]-writ+ to a p]son :o does n c>e to write lett]s1 & x w\ld be a v pleasant tok5 to receive :5 all o!r su* tok5s are impossible4 ,= p leave _! c>ds on a m\rn]1 & nev] "k :e!r !y h be5 receiv$ or n4 ,p>ticul>ly is ?is true ( ap>tm5t-h\ses2 & :5 p live 9 hotels1 :o kn[s :e!r ! c>d ev] rea*es its de/9ation8 ,we g5]ally f9d t x has n done s1 if we h ! c\rage to make ! inquiry4 ,^? c>ds :i* we s5d by a s]vant to make ! necess>y inquiries = a sick fri5d1 = ! happy "m & ! new-born baby1 are ess5tially c>ds ( complim5t4 ,9 excessively c]emoni\s circles ! visits ( c]emony on ^! occasions are v elaborate--z at ! ,c\rt ( ,spa91 = in/ance2 & a lady ( ,new ,york 0 once mu* amus$ at receiv+ ! c>d ( a sup]b ,spani% (ficial1 :o call$ on h] newly arriv$ daught] :5 ! latt] 0 ?ree days old1 leav+ a c>d = ! new daught]4 ,he ( c\rse left a c>d = ! happy mamma1 & did n ask to g f>!r ?an ! door1 b he came 9 /ate4 ,9 ,engl& ! family 7 wont to s5d *ri/5+ c>ds aft] a bir?1 b ?is has nev] be5 ! fa%ion 9 ?is c\ntry1 & x is disappe>+ 9 ,engl&4 ,! complim5t>y c>d issu$ = su* ev5ts is n[ g5]ally an invitation to p>take ( caudle--a v delici\s porridge made ( oatmeal & rais9s1 br&y1 spices1 & sug>1 & =mally s]v$ 9 ! lady's *amb] be=e ! mon?'s seclusion is brok54 ,x w be rememb]$ t ,tom ,?umb 0 dropp$ into a b[l ( f]mity1 :i* _m antiqu>ians suppose to h be5 caudle4 ,n[adays a caudle p>ty is a v gay1 dressy affair1 & giv5 ab\t six weeks aft] "y ma/] or mi/ress is ready to be congratulat$ or condol$ ) on 8 or h] entrance ^u ?is mundane sph]e4 ,we f9d 9 ,engli% books ( etiquette v =mal directions z to ^! c>ds ( complim5t4 ,c>ds to inquire aft] fri5ds dur+ illness mu/ be left 9 p]son1 & n s5t by po/4 ,on a lady's visit+-c>d mu/ be writt5 above ! pr9t$ "n1 ',to inquire1' & no?+ else %\ld be add$ to ^! words4 ,= ! purpose ( return+ ?anks1 pr9t$ c>ds are sold1 ) ! own]'s "n writt5 above ! pr9t$ words4 ,^! pr9t$ c>ds are g5]ally s5t by po/1 z !y are despat*$ :ile ! p]son inquir$ aft] is /ill an invalid4 ,^! c>ds are also us$ to convey ! intellig5ce ( ! s5d]'s recov]y4 ,!re=e !y w\ld n be s5t :ile ! p]son 0 9 dang] or s]i\sly ill4 ,b ?is has always seem$ to u a v poor &4 bus9ess-l way ( return+ k9d inquiries4 ,! pr9t$ c>d looks *eap4 ,f> bett] ! engrav$ & c>efully prep>$ c>d ( ,mrs4 1 :i* has ! effect ( a p]sonal complim5t4 ,we d n 9 ?is c\ntry s5d ^? hide\s fun]al or memorial c>ds :i* are sold 9 ,engl& at e /ation]'s to apprise "o's fri5ds ( a dea? 9 ! family4 ,!re is no ne$ ( ?is1 z ! newspap]s spread ! sad intellig5ce4 ,!re is1 h[ev]1 a v elaborate pap] call$ a faire "p1 issu$ 9 bo? ,engl& & ,france aft] a dea?1 9 :i* ! m\rn] ann\nces to y ! lam5t$ decease ( "s p]son connect$ ) him4 ,also on ! occasion ( a m>riage1 ^! elaborate pap]s1 engrav$ on a l>ge %eet ( lett]-pap]1 are s5t to all "o's acqua9tances 9 ,engl& & on ! ,cont95t4 ,visits ( condol5ce c beg9 ! week aft] ! ev5t :i* occasions !m4 ,p]sonal visits are only made by relatives or v intimate fri5ds1 :o w ( c\rse be _! own judges ( ! propriety ( speak+ fully ( ! grief :i* has desolat$ ! h\se4 ,! c>ds are left at ! door by ! p]son inquir+ = ! afflict$ p]sons1 & "o c>d is z good z half a doz54 ,x is n necess>y to deluge a m\rn+ family ) c>ds4 ,^! c>ds ne$ n be return$ = a ye>1 unless our sugge/ion be foll[$1 & ! c>d engrav$ z we h indicat$1 & !n s5t by po/4 ,x is n yet a fa%ion1 b x is 9 ! air1 & des]ves to be "o4 ,c>ds ( congratulation are left 9 p]son1 & if ! ladies are at home ! visitor %\ld g 91 & be he>ty 9 8 or h] good wi%es4 ,= su* visits a c>d s5t by po/ w\ld1 among intimate fri5ds1 be consid]$ cold-blood$4 ,x mu/ at lea/ be left 9 p]son4 ,n[ z to c>ds ( c]emony4 ,^! are to be =w>d$ to ^? :o h s5t invitations to w$d+s1 c>efully address$ to ! p]son :o invites y2 also aft] an ent]ta9m5t to :i* y h be5 ask$1 )9 a week aft] a d9n] 7?is mu/ be a p]sonal visit71 & on ! lady's day1 if %e has "o2 & we may add "h t if on mak+ a call a lady sees t %e is n recogniz$1 %e %\ld ha/5 to give h] "n4 7,?is 9 answ] to _m inquiries47 ,only calls ( pure c]emony are made by h&+ 9 c>ds1 z at a tea or g5]al reception1 etc4 ,:5 c>ds h be5 left once 9 ! season !y ne$ n be left aga94 ,"u ! mix$ heads ( c\rtesy & complim5t %\ld be ^? calls made to =mally ann\nce a betro?al4 ,! p>5ts leave ! c>ds ( ! betro!d pair1 ) _! own1 on all ! connections & fri5ds ( ! two families4 ,?is is a =mal ann\ncem5t1 & all :o receive ?is intimation %\ld make a congratulatory visit if possible4 ,z "y p are (t5 ask$ )\t _! p>5ts1 ! "q arises1 ,:at %\ld ! p>5ts d to %[ _! s5se ( ?is att5tion8 ,!y %\ld leave or s5d _! c>ds ) ^? ( _! *ildr5 :o h receiv$ ! invitation4 ,^! are c>ds ( c\rtesy4 ,c>ds ought n to be left on ! daught]s ( a family )\t also includ+ ! p>5ts 9 c\rte\s =mality4 ,g5tlem51 :5 call+ on any numb] ( ladies1 s5d 9 only "o c>d1 & c>ds left on a reception day :]e a p]son is visit+ are n b9d+ on ! visitor to return4 ,no sep>ate c>d is left on a gue/ on reception days4 ,:5 return+ visits ( c]emony1 z ! fir/ visit aft] a lett] ( introduction1 or z ann\nc+ y\r arrival 9 t[n or y\r int5d$ dep>ture1 "o may leave a c>d at ! door )\t inquir+ = ! lady4 ,att5tion to ^! little ?+s is a pro( at once ( self-respect & ( respect = "o's fri5ds4 ,!y soon become easy matt]s ( habit1 & ( memory4 ,to ! well-br$ !y are second nature4 ,no "o :o is desir\s ( pleas+ 9 society %\ld neglect !m4 ,a lady %\ld nev] call on a g5tleman unless pr(essionally or (ficially4 ,%e %\ld knock at 8 door1 s5d 9 h] c>d1 & be z c]emoni\s z possible1 if lawy]1 doctor1 or cl]gyman4 ,on ent]+ a cr[d$ draw+-room x may be impossible to f9d ! ho/ess at once1 s t 9 _m f9e h\ses 9 ,new ,york ! cu/om ( ann\nc+ ! "n has become a necess>y fa%ion4 ,x is impossible to attempt to be polite )\t cultivat+ a good memory4 ,! abs5t or self-absorb$ p]son :o =gets names & faces1 :o recalls unlucky topics1 confuses relation%ips1 speaks ( ! dead z if !y 7 liv+1 or talks ab\t an unlucky adv5ture 9 ! family1 :o plunges into p]sonalities1 :o metaphorically treads on a p]son's toes1 w nev] succe$ 9 society4 ,he mu/ consid] 8 c>ds ( c\rtesy4 ,! ,fr5* talk ( la politesse du foy]4 ,!y are full ( x4 ,small sacrifices1 little c\rtesies1 a k9dly _s1 insignificant att5tions1 self-control1 an all[ance = ! fail+s ( o!rs--^! g to make up ! elegance ( life4 ,true polit5ess has its roots v deep4 ,we %\ld n cultivate polit5ess m]ely f a wi% to please1 b because we w\ld consid] ! feel+s & sp>e ! "t ( o!rs4 ,c>ds ( complim5t & c\rtesy1 !re=e1 save "t z well z express a k9dly remembrance4 ,ev]y?+ 9 our busy _w--or :irl1 z "s p call x--t does ^! two ?+s is a valuable discov]y4 ,a c>d ( c\rtesy is always s5t ) fl[]s1 books1 bonbonni]es1 game1 sweetmeats1 fruits--any ( ! small gifts :i* are freely (f]$ among intimate fri5ds4 ,b 9 ackn[l$g+ ^! gifts or att5tions a c>d is n a suffici5t return4 ,nor is x prop] to write regrets or accepts on a c>d4 ,a note %\ld be writt5 9 ei!r case4 ,a c>d ( any sort mu/ be scrupul\sly pla94 ,w$d+ c>ds %\ld be z simple & uno/5tati\s z possible4 ,! c]emony ( pay+ visits & ( leav+ c>ds has be5 decid$ by ! satiri/ z mean+less1 /upid1 & useless2 b x und]lies ! v /ructure ( society4 ,visits ( =m1 visits ( c]emony1 are absolutely necess>y4 ,y c h>dly invite p to y\r h\se until y h call$ & h left a c>d4 ,& ?us "o has a safegu>d aga9/ intrusive & undesirable acqua9tances4 ,to /op an acqua9tance1 "o has b to /op leav+ c>ds4 ,x is ?us done quietly b securely4 ,g5tlem5 :o h no "t to call %\ld be repres5t$ by _! c>ds4 ,^! may well be tru/$ to ! h&s ( wife1 "m1 daught]1 si/]1 b %\ld be punctili\sly left4 ,! c>d may well be not$ z belong+ only to a high ord] ( developm5t4 ,no monkey1 no miss+ l9k1 no ,zulu1 no savage1 c>ries a c>d4 ,x is ! tool ( civilization1 its field-m>k & device4 ,x may be improv$2 x may be1 & has be51 abus$2 b x _c be disp5s$ ) "u our pres5t environm5t4 ,,*apt] ,,viii4 ,,! ,,etiquette ,,( ,,w$d+s4 ,sc>cely a week passes dur+ ! ye> t ! fa%ionable j\rnals d n publi% answ]s to correspond5ts on t subject ( all o!rs mo/ int]e/+ to "y ladies1 ! etiquette ( w$d+s4 ,no book c tell ! pla9 tru? ) suffici5t emphasis1 t ! etiquette at a gr& w$d+ is always ! same4 ,! next day "s "o writes to a newspap] aga91 ,%all ! bridegroom we> a dress-coat at ! h\r ( elev5 ,a4,m41 & :o pays = ! w$d+-c>ds8 ,! w$d+ ( to-day 9 ,engl& has set ! fa%ion = ,am]ica4 ,no man ev] puts on a dress-coat be=e 8 sev5-o'clock d9n]1 !re=e e bridegroom is dress$ 9 a frock-coat & light tr\s]s ( any patt]n he pleases2 9 o!r words1 he we>s a =mal morn+ dress1 drives to ! *ur* ) 8 be/ man1 & awaits ! arrival ( ! bride 9 ! ve/ry-room4 ,he may we> gloves or n z he *ooses4 ,! be/ man is ! intimate fri5d1 sometimes ! bro!r1 ( ! groom4 ,he accompanies him to ! *ur*1 z we h said1 foll[s him to ! alt>1 /&s at 8 "r h& a little beh9d him1 & holds 8 hat dur+ ! m>riage-s]vice4 ,aft] t is end$ he pays ! cl]gyman's fee1 accompanies1 9 a c\p by himself1 ! bridal p>ty home1 & !n assi/s ! u%]s to introduce fri5ds to ! bridal pair4 ,! bridegroom is all[$ to make :at pres5ts he pleases to ! bride1 & to s5d some?+ 9 ! nature ( a fan1 a locket1 a r+1 or a b\quet to ! bridesmaids2 he has also to buy ! w$d+-r+1 &1 ( c\rse1 he s5ds a b\quet to ! bride2 b he is n to furni% c>ds or c>riages or ! w$d+-breakfa/2 ?is is all done by ! bride's family4 ,9 ,engl& ! groom is expect$ to drive ! bride away 9 8 own c>riage1 b 9 ,am]ica ev5 t is n (t5 all[$4 ,! bride meantime is dress$ 9 gorge\s array1 g5]ally 9 :ite sat91 ) veil ( po9t-lace & orange blossoms1 & is driv5 to ! *ur* 9 a c>riage ) h] fa!r1 :o gives h] away4 ,h] "m & o!r relatives hav+ prec$$ h] take ! front seats4 ,h] bridesmaids %\ld also prec$e h]1 & await h] 9 ! *ancel ( ! *ur*4 ,! u%]s !n proce$ to =m ! procession ) :i* almo/ all city w$d+s are begun4 ,! u%]s fir/1 two & two2 !n ! bridesmaids1 two & two2 !n "s pretty *ildr5--bridesmaids "u t52 & !n ! bride1 lean+ on h] fa!r's "r arm4 ,sometimes ! *ild bridesmaids prec$e ! o!rs4 ,z ! cortege rea*es ! l[e/ alt>-/ep ! u%]s break ranks & g to ! "r & left2 ! bridesmaids also sep>ate1 go+ to ! "r & left1 leav+ a space = ! bridal pair4 ,z ! bride rea*es ! l[e/ /ep ! bridegroom advances1 takes h] by h] "r h&1 & conducts h] to ! alt>1 :]e !y bo? kneel4 ,! cl]gyman1 be+ already 9 8 place1 signifies to !m :5 to rise1 & !n proce$s to make ! twa9 "o4 ,! bridal pair walk d[n ! aisle arm-9-arm1 & are imm$iately conduct$ to ! c>riage & driv5 home2 ! re/ foll[4 ,9 "s cases1 b r>ely 9 ?is c\ntry1 a bridal regi/] is sign$ 9 ! ve/ry4 ,=m]ly brides remov$ ! :ole glove2 n[ !y adroitly cut ! f+] ( ! left-h& glove1 s t !y c remove t )\t pull+ (f ! :ole glove = ! r+4 ,su* is a *ur* w$d+1 p]=m$ a ?\s& times alike4 ,! organ peals =? ! w$d+-m>*1 ! cl]gyman pron\nces ! necess>y v[s to sl[ music1 or n1 z ! contract+ p>ties please4 ,music1 h[ev]1 adds v mu* to ?is c]emony4 ,9 a m>riage at home1 ! bridesmaids & be/ man are usually disp5s$ )4 ,! cl]gyman ent]s & faces ! company1 ! bridal pair foll[ & face him4 ,aft] ! c]emony ! cl]gyman retires1 & ! w$d$ pair receive congratulations4 ,an attempt has be5 made 9 ,am]ica to introduce ! ,engli% fa%ion ( a w$d+-breakfa/4 ,x is n z yet acclimat$1 b x is1 p]haps1 well to describe "h ! prop] etiquette4 ,! g5tlem5 & ladies :o are ask$ to ?is breakfa/ %\ld be appris$ ( t honor a =tnight 9 advance1 & %\ld accept or decl9e imm$iately1 z x has all ! =mality ( a d9n]1 & seats are1 ( c\rse1 v important4 ,on arriv+ at ! h\se :]e ! breakfa/ is to be held1 ! g5tlem5 leave _! hats 9 ! hall1 b ladies d n remove _! bonnets4 ,aft] greet+ ! bride & bridegroom1 & ! fa!r & "m1 ! company conv]se = a few mom5ts until breakfa/ is ann\nc$4 ,!n ! bride & groom g fir/1 foll[$ by ! bride's fa!r ) ! groom's "m1 !n ! groom's fa!r ) ! bride's "m1 !n ! be/ man ) ! fir/ bridesmaid1 !n ! bridesmaids ) att5dant g5tlem51 :o h be5 invit$ = ?is honor1 & !n ! o!r invit$ gue/s1 z ! bride's "m has arrang$4 ,c(fee & tea are n (f]$1 b b\illon1 salads1 birds1 oy/]s1 & o!r hot & cold di%es1 ices1 jellies1 etc41 are s]v$ at ?is breakfa/1 toge!r ) *ampagne & o!r w9es1 & f9ally ! w$d+-cake is set be=e ! bride1 & %e cuts a slice4 ,! heal? ( ! bride & groom is !n propos$ by ! g5tleman *os5 = ?is (fice1 g5]ally ! fa!r ( ! groom1 & respond$ to by ! fa!r ( ! bride4 ,! groom is sometimes expect$ to respond1 & he proposes ! heal? ( ! bridesmaids1 = :i* ! be/ man returns ?anks4 ,unless all are unusually happy speak]s1 ?is is apt to be awkw>d1 & /&-up breakfa/s are f> m commonly s]v$1 z ! ,fr5* say1 en buffet4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 ! possibility ( ask+ m p comm5ds ?is latt] practice1 & x is f> less tr\ble to s]ve a l>ge1 easy collation to a numb] ( p /&+ ab\t ?an to furni% :at is really a d9n] to a numb] sitt+ d[n4 ,w$d+ pres5ts are s5t any "t )9 two mon?s be=e ! w$d+1 ! e>li] ! bett]1 z _m brides l to arrange _! own tables arti/ically1 if ! pres5ts are %[n4 ,also1 all brides %\ld write a p]sonal note ?ank+ ea* giv] = 8 gift1 be x l>ge or small4 ,all p]sons :o s5d gifts %\ld be invit$ to ! w$d+ & to ! reception1 al?\gh ! conv]se ( ?is proposition does n hold true2 = n all :o are ask$ to ! w$d+ are expect$ to s5d gifts4 ,w$d+ pres5ts h n[ become almo/ absurdly gorge\s4 ,! old fa%ion1 :i* 0 />t$ among ! frugal ,dut*1 ( giv+ ! "y c\ple _! h\sehold ge> & a sum ( money ) :i* to beg91 has n[ deg5]at$ into a v bold display ( weal? & o/5tati\s g5]osity1 s t fri5ds ( mod]ate means are afraid to s5d any?+4 ,ev5 ! cu%ion on :i* a weal?y bride 9 ,new ,york 0 lately expect$ to kneel 0 s elaborately embroid]$ ) pe>ls t %e visibly hesitat$ to press x ) h] knee at ! alt>4 ,silv] & gold s]vices1 too preci\s to be tru/$ to ord9>y lock & key1 are display$ at ! w$d+ & imm$iately s5t (f to "s conv5i5t safe4 ,?is is "o ( ! necess>y & inevitable ov]gr[?s ( a luxury :i* we h n yet le>n$ to manage4 ,9 ,france !y d ?+s bett]1 ^? ne>e/ ( k9 subscrib+ a sum ( money1 :i* is s5t to ! bride's "m1 :o exp5ds x 9 ! bridal tr\sseau1 or 9 jewels or silv]1 z ! bride pleases4 ,s f> has ?is cu/om transc5d$ good ta/e t n[ _m p]sons ( ref9$ m9ds hesitate to %[ ! pres5ts4 ,aft] giv+ an h\r & a half to h] gue/s1 ! bride retires to *ange h] dress2 g5]ally h] mo/ intimate fri5ds accompany h]4 ,%e soon returns 9 h] travell+-dress1 & is met at ! foot ( ! /airs by ! groom1 :o has also *ang$ 8 dress4 ,! fa!r1 "m1 & intimate fri5ds kiss ! bride1 &1 z ! happy pair drive (f1 a %[] ( sat9 slipp]s & rice foll[s !m4 ,if "o slipp] alights on ! top ( ! c>riage1 luck is assur$ to !m =ev]4 ,w$d+-cake is no long] s5t ab\t4 ,x is neatly pack$ 9 boxes2 ea* gue/ takes "o1 if %e likes1 z %e leaves ! h\se4 ,w$d+-favors made ( :ite ribbon & artificial fl[]s are indisp5sable 9 ,engl&1 b ,am]ica has _h ! good ta/e to abjure !m until lately4 ,su* ornam5ts are us$ = ! horses' e>s & ! s]vants' coats 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,"h ! groom we>s a b\tonni]e ( natural fl[]s4 ,a wid[ %\ld nev] be accompani$ by bridesmaids1 or we> a veil or orange-blossoms at h] m>riage4 ,%e %\ld at *ur* we> a color$ silk & a bonnet4 ,%e %\ld be att5d$ by h] fa!r1 bro!r1 or "s ne> fri5d4 ,x is prop] = h] to remove h] fir/ w$d+-r+1 z ! we>+ ( t _c b be pa9ful to ! bridegroom4 ,if m>ri$ at home1 ! wid[ bride may we> a light silk & be bonnetless1 b %e %\ld n indulge 9 any ( ! signs ( fir/ bridal4 ,x is an explod$ idea t ( all[+ e "o to kiss ! bride4 ,x is only meet t ! ne> relatives d t4 ,! =mula = w$d+-c>ds is g5]ally ?is3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,br[n reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company at ! w$d+ ( _! daught] ,m>ia to ,john ,/anley1 at ,asc5sion ,*ur*1 on ,tuesday1 ,novemb] fifte5?1 at two o'clock4 ,^! invitations are engrav$ on note-pap]4 ,if fri5ds are invit$ to a w$d+-breakfa/ or a reception at ! h\se1 t fact is /at$ on a sep>ate c>d1 :i* is enclos$ 9 ! same envelope4 ,( c\rse 9 great cities1 ) a l>ge acqua9tance1 _m are ask$ to ! *ur* & n to ! h\se4 ,?is fact %\ld nev] give (f5ce4 ,! small] c>d runs 9 ?is fa%ion3 ,reception at #ii ,b ,/reet1 at half-pa/ two4 ,to ^! invitations ! invit$ gue/s make no response save to g or to leave c>ds4 ,all invit$ gue/s1 h[ev]1 are expect$ to call on ! "y c\ple & to invite !m dur+ ! ye>4 ,( c\rse !re are quiet] w$d+s & v simple arrangem5ts z to s]v+ refre%m5ts3 a w$d+-cake & a decant] ( %]ry (t5 are alone (f]$ to ! witnesses ( a w$d+4 ,_m brides pref] to be m>ri$ 9 travell+-dress & hat1 & leave imm$iately1 )\t congratulations4 ,! honey-moon 9 our busy l& is usually only a =tnight 9 ! sky1 & "s few bridal pairs pref] to sp5d x at ! quiet c\ntry h\se ( a fri5d1 z is ! ,engli% fa%ion4 ,b o!rs make a hurri$ trip to ,niag>a1 or to ! ,?\s& ,isl&s1 or g to ,europe1 z ! case may be4 ,x is extraord9>y t none /ay at home2 9 beg9n+ a new life all agree t a *ange ( place is ! fir/ requisite4 ,aft] ! return home1 bridal d9n]s & p>ties are (f]$ to ! bride1 & %e is treat$ ) di/9ction = ?ree mon?s4 ,h] pa? is (t5 /rew$ ) fl[]s f ! *ur* to h] own door1 & x is1 metaphorically1 s adorn$ dur+ ! fir/ few weeks ( m>ri$ life4 ,e "o ha/5s to welcome h] to h] new condition1 & %e has b to smile & accept ! amiable congratulations & att5tions :i* are %[]$ ^u h]4 ,let h] p>5ts rememb]1 h[ev]1 9 s5d+ c>ds aft] ! w$d+1 to let ! bride's fri5ds "k :]e %e c be f\nd 9 h] m>ri$ e/ate4 ,n[ z to ! "t = ! m>riage4 ,!re is some?+ exquisitely poetical 9 ! idea ( a ,june w$d+4 ,x is ! v mon? = ! s(t] emotions & = ! w$d+ j\rney4 ,9 ,engl& x is ! favorite mon? = m>riages4 ,may is consid]$ unlucky1 & 9 an old almanac ( #afgh we f9d ! foll[+ notice3 ,times prohibit+ m>riage3 ,m>riage comes 9 on ! #ac? day ( ,janu>y & at ,septuagesima ,sunday2 x is out aga9 until ,l[ ,sunday1 at :i* "t x comes 9 aga9 & goes n out until ,rogation ,sunday4 ,!nce x is =bidd5 until ,tr9ity ,sunday1 f :5ce x is un=bidd5 until ,adv5t ,sunday2 b !n x goes out & comes n 9 aga9 until ! #ah? ( ,janu>y next foll[+4 ,our brides h1 h[ev]1 all seasons = _! own1 except+ ,may1 z we h said1 & ,friday1 an unlucky day4 ,! mon? ( roses has v great recomm5dations4 ,! c]emony is apt to be p]=m$ 9 ! c\ntry at a pretty little *ur*1 :i* l5ds its alt>-rails gracefully to wrea?s1 & ^: ,go?ic w9d[s op5 ^u gre5 lawns & trim g>d5s4 ,! bride & h] maids c walk ov] ! delicate sw>d )\t soil+ _! slipp]s1 & an opportunity (f]s = c>ry+ p>asols made entirely ( fl[]s4 ,b if x is too f> to walk1 ! bride is driv5 to *ur* 9 h] fa!r's c>riage ) him alone1 h] "m1 si/]s1 & bridesmaids hav+ prec$$ h]4 ,9 ,engl& etiquette requires t ! bride & groom %\ld dep>t f ! *ur* 9 ! groom's c>riage4 ,x is /rict etiquette !re t ! groom furni% ! c>riage ) :i* !y return to ! w$d+-breakfa/ & aft]w>ds dep>t 9 /ate1 ) _m w$d+-favors on ! horses' heads1 & huge :ite b\quets on ! brea/s ( coa*man & footman4 ,x is 9 ,engl&1 also1 etiquette to drive ) f\r horses to ! place :]e ! honey-moon is to be sp5t2 b 9 ,am]ica ! drive is g5]ally to ! ne>e/ railway-/ation4 ,let u give a fur!r sket* ( ! duties ( ! be/ man4 ,he accompanies ! groom to ! *ur* & /&s ne> him1 wait+ at ! alt>1 until ! bride arrives2 !n he holds ! groom's hat4 ,he signs ! regi/] aft]w>ds z witness1 & pays ! cl]gyman's fee1 & !n foll[s ! bridal procession out ( ! *ur*1 jo9+ ! p>ty at ! h\se1 :]e he /ill fur!r assi/s ! groom by pres5t+ ! gue/s4 ,! bridesmaids sometimes =m a l9e ne> ! door at a ,june w$d+1 all[+ ! bride to walk ?r\gh ?is pretty alley-way to ! *ur*4 ,! bridegroom's relatives sit at ! "r ( ! alt> or communion rails1 ?us be+ on ! bridegroom's "r h&1 & ^? ( ! bride sit on ! left1 at ! bride's left h&4 ,! bridegroom & be/ man /& on ! cl]gyman's left h& at ! alt>4 ,! bride is tak5 by h] "r h& by ! groom1 & ( c\rse /&s on 8 left h&2 h] fa!r /&s a little beh9d h]4 ,sometimes ! female relatives /& 9 ! *ancel ) ! bridal gr\p1 b ?is1 c only happ5 9 a v l>ge *ur*2 & ! rector mu/ arrange ?is1 z 9 high *ur*es ! m>riages take place outside ! *ancel4 ,aft] ! c]emony is ov] ! cl]gyman b5ds ov] & congratulates ! "y p4 ,! bride !n takes ! left arm ( ! groom1 & passes d[n ! aisle1 foll[$ by h] bridesmaids & ! u%]s4 ,"s ( our correspond5ts h no good ask$ u :at ! be/ man is do+ at ?is mom5t8 ,probably wait+ 9 ! ve/ry1 or1 if n1 he hurries d[n a side aisle1 gets into a c>riage1 & drives to ! h\se :]e ! w$d+ reception is to be held4 ,octob] is a good mon? = bo? city & c\ntry w$d+s4 ,9 our climate1 ! brilliant ,octob] days1 n too w>m1 are admirable = ! city gue/s1 :o are invit$ to a c\ntry place = ! w$d+1 & c]ta9ly x is a pleasant season = ! w$d+ j\rney4 ,travell+ co/umes = brides 9 ,engl& are v elegant1 ev5 %[y4 ,velvet1 & ev5 light silks & sat9s1 are us$2 b 9 our c\ntry pla9 clo? & ca%m]e co/umes are m prop] & m fa%ionable4 ,= w$d+s 9 families :]e a dea? has rec5tly occurr$1 all fri5ds1 ev5 ! wid[$ "m1 %\ld lay aside _! m\rn+ = ! c]emony1 appe>+ 9 colors4 ,x is consid]$ unlucky & inappropriate to we> black at a w$d+4 ,9 our c\ntry a wid[$ "m appe>s at h] daught]'s w$d+ 9 purple velvet or silk2 9 ,engl& %e we>s deep c>d9al r$1 :i* is consid]$1 "u ^! circum/ances1 to be m\rn+1 or prop] = a p]son :o is 9 m\rn+4 ,we %\ld add t u%]s & groomsm5 are unkn[n at an ,engli% w$d+4 ,! sexton ( ! *ur* p]=ms ! functions :i* are att5d$ to "h by u%]s4 ,note4--,! "y p :o are ab\t to be m>ri$ make a li/ toge!r z to :om c>ds %\ld be s5t1 & all c>ds g f ! "y lady's family4 ,no "o ?9ks x /range to get c>ds = a w$d+4 ,a "y lady %\ld write a note ( ?anks to e "o :o s5ds h] a pres5t be=e %e leaves home2 all h] husb&'s fri5ds1 relatives1 etc41 all h] own1 & to p :om %e does n "k ^! notes %\ld especially be writt51 z _! gifts may be prompt$ by a s5se ( k9dness to h] p>5ts or h] fianc1 :i* %e %\ld recognize4 ,x is bett] ta/e to write ^! notes on note-pap] ?an on c>ds4 ,x is n necess>y to s5d c>ds to ea* memb] ( a family2 include !m all "u ! head ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,br[n & family4 ,x w\ld be prop] = a "y lady to s5d h] c>ds to a physician "u ^: c>e %e has be5 if %e 0 acqua9t$ ) him socially1 b x is n expect$ :5 ! acqua9tance is purely pr(essional4 ,a fa%ionable & popul> physician w\ld be swamp$ ) w$d+-c>ds if t 7 ! cu/om4 ,if1 h[ev]1 "o wi%es to %[ gratitude & remembrance1 !re w\ld be no impropriety 9 s5d+ c>ds to su* a g5tleman4 ,,*apt] ,,ix4 ,,:o ,,pays ,,= ,,! ,,c>ds8 ,we h receiv$ a numb] ( lett]s f our correspond5ts ask+ :e!r ! groom pays = ! w$d+ c>ds4 ,?is "q we h answ]$ s (t5 9 ! negative t we ?9k x well to expla9 ! philosophy ( ! etiquette ( w$d+s1 :i* is remotely f\nd$ on ! e>ly savage hi/ory ( mank9d1 & :i* be>s fruit 9 our lat] & m complex civilization1 /ill rem9d+ u ( ! pa/4 ,9 e>ly & 9 savage days ! man s\ght 8 bride h]oically1 & c>ri$ h] (f by =ce4 ,! ,t>t> /ill does ?is1 & ! idea only 0 improv$ 9 patri>*al days by ! pur*ase ( ! bride by ! labor ( h] husb&1 or by 8 weal? 9 flocks & h]ds4 ,x is /ill a !ory t ! bride is ?us c>ri$ (f4 ,always1 !re=e1 ! idea has be5 *]i%$ t ! bride is some?+ c>efully gu>d$1 & ! groom is look$ ^u z a sort ( fri5dly enemy1 :o comes to take away ! mu*-priz$ object f h] lov+ & jeal\s family4 ,?us ! long-*]i%$ !ory be>s fruit 9 ! ,engli% c]emonial1 :]e ! only c>riage furni%$ by ! groom is ! "o 9 :i* he drives ! bride away to ! sp5d+ ( ! honeymoon4 ,up to t "t he has _h no rights ( proprietor%ip4 ,ev5 ?is is n all[$ 9 ,am]ica among fa%ionable p1 ! bride's fa!r s5d+ !m 9 8 own c>riage on ! fir/ /age ( _! j\rney4 ,x is n etiquette = ! groom to furni% any?+ = 8 own w$d+ b ! r+ & a b\quet = ! bride1 pres5ts = ! bridesmaids & ! be/ man1 & "s tok5 to ! u%]s4 ,he pays ! cl]gyman4 ,he %\ld n pay = ! c>ds1 ! c>riages1 ! ent]ta9m5t1 or any?+ connect$ ) ! w$d+4 ,?is is decid$ 9 ! high c\rt ( etiquette4 ,t is ! prov9ce ( ! family ( ! bride1 & %\ld be insi/$ ^u4 ,if !y are n able to d ?is1 !re %\ld be no w$d+ & no c>ds4 ,x is bett] = a portionless girl to g to ! alt> 9 a travell+ dress1 & to s5d out no sort ( invitations or w$d+ c>ds1 ?an to all[ ! groom to pay = !m4 ,?is is n to ! disp>agem5t ( ! rights ( ! groom4 ,x is simply a prop] & univ]sal etiquette4 ,at ! alt> ! groom1 if he is a millionaire1 makes 8 wife 8 equal by say+1 ,) all my worldly goods ,i !e end[2 b until he has utt]$ ^! words %e has no claim on 8 purse = clo!s1 or c>ds1 or h\sehold furni%+1 or any?+ b ^? articles :i* come "u ! head ( su* gifts z x is a lov]'s prov9ce to give4 ,a v precise1 old-"t ari/ocrat ( ,new ,york broke h] daught]'s engagem5t to a g5tleman because he br\ght h] a dress f ,p>is4 ,%e said1 if he did n "k en\gh n to give h] daught] clo!s :ile %e 0 "u h] ro(1 he %\ld n h h]4 ,?is is an exagg]at$ feel+1 b ! pr9ciple is a s\nd "o4 ,! position ( a woman is s delicate1 ! relations ( engag$ p s unc]ta91 t x w\ld br+ ab\t an awkw>dness if ! g5tleman 7 to pay = ! %oes1 ! g[ns1 ! c>ds ( 8 betro!d4 ,suppose1 z 0 ! case twice la/ w9t]1 t an engagem5t ( m>riage is brok5 aft] ! c>ds are out4 ,:o is to repay ! bridegroom if he has paid = ! c>ds8 ,%\ld ! fa!r ( ! bride s5d him a *eck8 ,t w\ld be v insult+1 yet a family w\ld feel n]v\s ab\t be+ "u pecuni>y indebt$ness to a disc>d$ son-9-law4 ,! lady c return h] r+ & ! gifts h] lov] has made h]2 !y h suff]$ no contact t w injure !m4 ,b %e c\ld n return %oes or g[ns or bonnets4 ,x is !re=e wisely ord]$ by etiquette t ! lov] be all[$ to pay = no?+ t c\ld n be return$ to him )\t loss1 if ! engagem5t 7 dissolv$1 ev5 on ! w$d+ morn+4 ,( c\rse 9 primitive life ! lov] may pay = 8 lady-love1 z we w say 9 ! case ( a pair ( "y p :o come toge!r 9 a humble /ation4 ,su* m>riages are common 9 ,am]ica1 & _m ( ^! pairs h m\nt$ to ! v highe/ social rank4 ,b !y mu/ n attempt any?+ :i* is 9 imitation ( ! etiquette ( fa%ionable life unless !y c d x well & ?or\ghly4 ,no?+ is m honorable ?an a m>riage celebrat$ 9 ! pres5ce only ( fa!r1 "m1 & prie/4 ,two "y p unwill+ or unable to h spl5did dresses1 equipages1 c>ds1 & c]emony1 c always be m>ri$ ?is way1 & g to ! ,s5ate or ,:ite ,h\se aft]w>ds4 ,!y are n hamp]$ by x h]eaft]4 ,b ! bride %\ld nev] =get h] dignity4 ,%e %\ld nev] let ! groom pay = c>ds1 or = any?+1 unless x is ! m>riage lic5se1 :]ev] x is ne$ful 9 ?is c\ntry1 & ! cl]gyman's fee4 ,if %e does1 %e puts h]self 9 a false position4 ,a v s5sible obs]v]1 writ+ ( ,am]ica & its "y p1 & ! lib]ty all[$ !m1 says ! lib]ty1 or ! lic5se1 ( our y\? w h to be curtail$4 ,z our society becomes complex & artificial1 l old] societies 9 ,europe1 our *ildr5 w be =c$ to approximate to !m 9 /atus1 & p>5ts w h to wak5 to a s5se ( _! responsibilities4 ,?is is a rem>k :i* applies at once to t lib]ty p]mitt$ to engag$ c\ples 9 rural neighborhoods1 :]e ! "y girl is all[$ to g on a j\rney at h] lov]'s exp5se4 ,a girl's natural protectors %\ld "k bett] ?an to all[ ?is4 ,!y "k t h] purity is h] *ief attraction to man1 & t a c]ta9 coyness & virg9al fre%ness are ! d[ry %e %\ld br+ h] future husb&4 ,suppose t ?is engagem5t is brok5 (f4 ,h[ w %e be accept$ by ano!r lov] aft] hav+ enjoy$ ! hospitality ( ! fir/8 ,w\ld x n always make a disagreeable feel+ betwe5 ! two m51 al?\gh ,no4 #b might h p]fect respect = ! girl8 ,etiquette may sometimes make blund]s1 b x is g5]ally bas$ on a "r pr9ciple1 & "h x is und\bt$ly f\nd$ 9 tru? & ju/ice4 ,9 o!r c\ntries ?is tru? is s fully realiz$ t daught]s are gu>d$ by ! vigilance ( p>5ts almo/ to ! v]ge ( absurdity4 ,a "y girl is nev] all[$ to g out alone1 & no man is p]mitt$ to ent] ! h\sehold until 8 "* has und]gone ! close/ scrut9y4 ,m>riage is a unique contract1 & all ! v>i\s wrongs caus$ by ha/y m>riages1 all ! tr\bles be=e ! c\rts1 all ! divorces1 are multipli$ by ! c>elessness ( ,am]ican p>5ts1 :o1 believ+1 & truly believ+1 9 ! almo/ univ]sal purity ( _! daught]s1 are c>eless ( ! fold1 n rememb]+ ! "o black %eep4 ,?is evil ( excessive lib]ty & ( ! loose etiquette ( our "y p _c be root$ out by laws4 ,x mu/ beg9 at ! he>?-/one1 ,family life mu/ be re=m$2 "y ladies mu/ be br\ght up ) great] /rictness4 ,! bloom ( innoc5ce %\ld n be bru%$ (f by c>eless h&s4 ,if a "m leaves h] daught] matronless1 to receive att5tions )\t h] dignifi$ pres5ce1 %e op5s ! door to an unwor?y man1 :o may mean m>riage or n4 ,he may be a mo/ unsuitable husb& ev5 if he does mean m>riage4 ,if he takes ! "y lady ab\t1 pay+ = h] cab hire1 h] !atre tickets1 & h] j\rney+s1 & !n drops h]1 :om h !y to ?ank b !mselves t h] bloom is bru%$ (f1 t h] "* suff]s1 t %e is made ridicul\s1 & m>ries "s "o :om %e does n love1 = a home4 ,m51 z !y look back on _! own v>i$ exp]i5ce1 are apt to rememb] ) great respect ! wom5 :o 7 cold & di/ant4 ,!y love ! fruit :i* hung ! highe/1 ! fl[] :i* 0 gu>d$1 & :i* did n gr[ "u _! feet 9 ! highway4 ,!y look back ) vague wond] t !y 7 ev] infatuat$ ) a fa/ girl :o matur$ into a vulg> woman4 ,& we mu/ rememb] :at a fatal effect ^u m>riage is ! loos+ ( ! ties ( respect4 ,love )\t tru/ is )\t respect1 & if a lov] has n respect$ 8 fiance1 he w nev] respect 8 wife4 ,x is ! privilege ( ! bride to "n ! w$d+ day1 & ( h] fa!r & "m to pay = h] tr\sseau4 ,aft] ! w$d+ invitations are issu$ %e does n appe> 9 public4 ,! memb]s ( ! bride's family g to ! *ur* be=e ! bride2 ! bridegroom & 8 be/ man await !m at ! alt>4 ,! bride comes la/1 ) h] fa!r or bro!r1 :o is to give h] away4 ,%e is jo9$ at ! alt> /ep by h] fianc1 :o takes h] h&1 & !n %e becomes 8 = life4 ,all ^! trifles mean mu*1 z any "o c le>n :o goes ?r\gh ) ! pa9ful details ( a divorce suit4 ,n[ :5 ! circle ( fri5ds on bo? sides is v ext5sive1 x has ( late become cu/om>y to s5d invitations to "s :o are n call$ to ! w$d+ breakfa/ to att5d ! c]emony 9 *ur*4 ,?is sometimes takes ! place ( issu+ c>ds4 ,no "o ?9ks ( call+ on ! newly m>ri$ :o has n receiv$ ei!r an invitation to ! c]emony at *ur* or c>ds aft] _! e/abli%m5t 9 _! new home4 ,n[ "o ( our correspond5ts writes to u1 ,:o pays = ! aft]-c>ds8 ,9 mo/ cases ^! are ord]$ ) ! o!r c>ds1 & ! bride's "m pays = !m4 ,b if !y are ord]$ aft] ! m>riage1 ! groom may pay = ^! z he w\ld pay = 8 wife's ord9>y exp5ses4 ,/ill1 x is /rict] etiquette t ev5 ^! %\ld be paid = by ! bride's family4 ,p :o are ask$ to ! w$d+ s5d c>ds to ! h\se if !y _c att5d1 & 9 any case s5d or leave c>ds )9 t5 days aft]1 unless !y are 9 v deep m\rn+1 :5 a disp5sation is grant$ !m4 ,! etiquette ( a w$d+ at home does n diff] at all f ! etiquette ( a w$d+ 9 *ur* ) reg>d to c>ds4 ,a great confusion seems to exi/ 9 ! m9ds ( "s ( our correspond5ts z to :om !y %all s5d _! return c>ds on be+ invit$ to a w$d+4 ,"s ask3 ,%all ,i s5d !m to ! bride1 z ,i d n "k h] "m8 ,c]ta9ly n2 s5d !m to :omsoev] invites y4 ,aft]w>ds call on ! bride or s5d h] c>ds1 b ! fir/ & important c>d goes to ! lady :o gives ! w$d+4 ,! ord] ( ! religi\s "p ( ! c]emony is fix$ by ! *ur* 9 :i* x occurs4 ,! groom mu/ call on ! rector or cl]gyman1 see ! organi/1 & make :at arrangem5ts ! bride pleases1 b1 we repeat1 all exp5ses1 except+ ! fee to ! cl]gyman1 are borne by ! bride's family4 ,! sexton %\ld see to x t ! :ite ribbon is /ret*$ across ! aisle1 t ! awn+ & c>pet are 9 place1 & x w\ld be well if ! police regulations c\ld ext5d to ! gr\p ( idl]s :o cr[d ar\nd ! *ur* door1 to ! great inconv5i5ce ( ! gue/s4 ,a w$d+ invitation requires no answ]1 unless x be to a sit-d[n w$d+ breakfa/4 ,c>ds left aft]w>ds are all-suffici5t4 ,! sep>ate c>ds ( ! bride & groom are no long] includ$ 9 ! invitation4 ,no?+ black 9 ! way ( dress b ! g5tlem5's coats is admissible at a w$d+4 ,,*apt] ,x4 ,,w$d+s ,,aft] ,,ea/]4 ,we may expect a great deal ( color 9 ! com+ bridal tr\sseau1 beg9n+ at ! alt>4 ,! bridesmaids h ?us lo/ "o *ance ( di/+ui%+ !mselves by a diff]5t & a color$ dress4 ,b al?\gh "s ecc5tric brides may *oose to be m>ri$ 9 p9k1 we _c b believe1 f ! beautiful dresses :i* we h se51 t ! great] numb] w cont9ue to be w$d$ 9 :ite2 !re=e dressmak]s ne$ n turn pale4 ,& all our brides may rejoice t !y are n ,fr5* brides4 ,x is v tr\blesome to be m>ri$ 9 ,france1 especially if "o ( ! high contract+ p>ties be a =eign]4 ,a c]tificate ( baptism is requir$1 toge!r ) t ( ! m>riage ( ! fa!r & "m1 & a writt5 cons5t ( ! gr&fa!r & gr&mo!r1 if ei!r is alive & ! p>5ts dead4 ,! names ( ! p>ties are !n put up on ! door ( ! mairie1 or mayor's (fice1 = elev5 days4 ,9 ,engl& !re are f\r ways ( gett+ m>ri$4 ,! fir/ is by special lic5se1 :i* enables two p to be m>ri$ at any "t & at any place2 b ?is is v exp5sive1 co/+ fifty p\nds1 & is only obta9able ?r\gh an ar*bi%op4 ,!n !re is ! ord9>y lic5se1 :i* c be procur$ ei!r at ,doctors' ,commons or ?r\gh a cl]gyman1 :o mu/ also be a surrogate1 & resid5t 9 ! diocese :]e ! m>riage is to take place2 bo? p>ties mu/ swe> t !y are ( age1 or1 if m9ors1 t !y h ! cons5t ( _! p>5ts4 ,b to be m>ri$ by banns is consid]$ ! mo/ or?odox z well z ! mo/ economical way ( proce$+4 ,! banns mu/ be publi%$ 9 ! *ur* ( ! p>i% 9 :i* ! lady lives = ?ree consecutive ,sundays prior to ! m>riage1 also ! same law holds good = ! g5tleman1 & ! p>ties mu/ h resid$ fifte5 days 9 ! p>i%4 ,or ! knot may be ti$ at a lic5s$ *apel1 or at ! (fice ( a regi/r>1 notice be+ giv5 ?ree weeks previ\sly4 ,we m]ely quote ^! safegu>ds aga9/ imprud5t m>riages to %[ our brides h[ free !y are4 ,& p]haps1 z we sometimes f9d1 !y are too free2 !re is dang] t !re may be too mu* ease 9 ty+ ! knot t s _m wi% unti$ lat]1 judg+ f ! frequ5cy ( divorce4 ,h[ev]1 we w n ?r[ a damp] on t occasion :i* = :irl & bu/le & gayety & excitem5t is n equall$ by any o!r day 9 a p]son's life4 ,! city w$d+ 9 ,new ,york is m>k$ fir/ by ! arrival ( ! cat]]1 :o comes to spread ! w$d+ breakfa/2 & lat] on by ! flori/1 :o appe>s to decorate ! rooms1 to hang ! floral bell1 or to spread ! floral umbrella1 or to build a grotto ( fl[]s 9 ! b[-w9d[ :]e ! happy c\ple %all /&4 ,"s ( ! late/ freaks 9 floral fa%ion cause a b[] ( tall-gr[+ f]ns to be con/ruct$1 ! f]ns meet+ ov] ! bridal pair4 ,?is is1 ( c\rse1 suppos+ t ! w$d+ takes place at home4 ,!n ano!r con/ruction is a h\se entirely ( roses1 l>ge en\gh to hold ! bride & bridegroom4 ,?is is fir/ built ( bamboo or light wood1 !n cov]$ ?ick ) roses1 & is v beautiful & almo/ too fragrant4 ,if "s "o _h n sugge/$ ba?+-h\se1 z he look$ at ?is floral door to matrimony1 x w\ld h be5 p]fect4 ,x also looks a little l a confessional4 ,p]haps a fre] sweep is bett] = bo? bride & groom4 ,!re %\ld n be a close atmosph]e1 or too _m ov]fragrant fl[]s2 = at a home w$d+1 h[ev] well ! arrangem5ts h be5 anticipat$1 !re is always a little "t sp5t 9 wait+ = ! bride1 a few pres5ts arrive late1 & !re is always a slight confusion1 s t ! mamma is apt to be n]v\s & flu%$1 & ! bride agitat$4 ,a *ur* w$d+ involves a great deal m tr\ble ) c>riages = ! bridesmaids & = ! family1 & = ! bride & h] fa!r1 :o mu/ g toge!r to ! *ur*4 ,=tunately !re is no /]n law1 if e "o is late at *ur*1 = ! h\r appo9t$1 z 9 ,engl&4 ,!re ! law w\ld read1 ,! rite ( m>riage is to be p]=m$ betwe5 ! h\rs ( #h ,a4,m4 & noon1 ^u pa9 ( susp5sion & felony ) f\rte5 ye>s' transportation4 ,su* is ! /]n ord] to ! (ficiat+ prie/s4 ,! reason = ?is curi\s cu/om & ! t]rible p5alty await+ its infr+em5t is traceable1 x is said1 to ! wrongs committ$ on innoc5t p>ties by ! h$ge p>sons4 ,also1 alas6 because our ,engli% ance/ors 7 apt to be drunk aft] midday1 & unable to take an oa?4 ,"h ! gue/s arrive fir/ at ! *ur*4 ,! groom em]ges f ! ve/ry1 support$ by 8 be/ man1 & !n ! organ /rikes up ! ,w$d+ ,m>*4 ,two little girls1 beautifully dress$ 9 ,kate ,gre5away hats & :ite g[ns1 & ) imm5se sa%es1 c>ry+ b\quets1 come 9 fir/2 !n ! bridesmaids1 :o =m an av5ue4 ,!n ! bride & h] fa!r walk up to ! alt>1 :]e ! groom claims h]1 & h] fa!r /eps back4 ,! bride /&s on ! left h& ( ! bridegroom2 h] fir/ bridesmaid advances ne>ly beh9d h]1 ready to receive ! glove & b\quet4 ,aft] ! c]emony is ov]1 ! bride & groom walk d[n ! aisle fir/1 & ! *ildr5 foll[2 aft] !m ! bridesmaids1 !n ! u%]s1 !n ! fa!r & "m1 & s on4 ,sometimes ! u%]s g fir/1 to be ready to cloak ! bride1 op5 ! doors1 keep back ! p1 & g5]ally pres]ve ord]4 ,! sign+ ( ! regi/] 9 ! ve/ry is n an ,am]ican cu/om1 b x is n[ ! fa%ion to h a highly illum9at$ p>*m5t c]tificate sign$ by ! newly m>ri$ pair1 ) two or ?ree witnesses1 ! bridesmaids1 ! be/ man1 ! fa!r & "m1 & s on1 g5]ally be+ ! atte/+ p>ties4 ,if a sit-d[n w$d+ breakfa/ has be5 arrang$1 x occurs ab\t half an h\r aft] ! p>ties return f *ur*4 ,an attempt is be+ made to return to ! mann]s ( ! pa/1 & = ! bridegroom 7 la ,sir ,*>les ,gr&ison7 to wait on ! gue/s ) a napk9 on 8 arm4 ,?is (t5 makes mu* amusem5t1 & breaks 9 on ! =mality4 ,( c\rse 8 wait+ is v mu* ( a s9ecure & a joke4 ,! table = a w$d+ breakfa/ ( ?is sort %\ld be ( a horse%oe %ape4 ,b = a city w$d+1 :]e _m gue/s are to be invit$ 9 a circle :i* is =ev] wid5+1 ?is sort ( an exclusive breakfa/ is almo/ impossible1 & a l>ge table is g5]ally spread1 :]e ! gue/s g 9 un9vit$1 & are help$ by ! wait]s4 ,eight bridesmaids is a fa%ionable numb]2 & ! bride has1 ( c\rse1 ! privilege ( *oos+ ! dresses4 ,! prettie/ toilettes we h se5 7 ( heliotrope gaze ov] sat92 & aga9 clov] r$1 light$ up ) :ite lace4 ,! bonnets 7 ( :ite *ip1 ) fea!rs ( r$1 = ?is la/ dress2 broad hats ( yell[ sat91 ) yell[ plumes1 w surm\nt ! heliotrope bridesmaids4 ,"o set ( bridesmaids w we> ,nile-gre5 dresses1 ) p9k plumes 9 _! coiffures2 ano!r set1 probably ^? ) ! p9k bride1 w be 9 :ite sat9 & silv]4 ,a bride's dress has lately be5 ornam5t$ ) orange blossoms & lilacs4 ,! veil 0 fa/5$ on ) orange fl[]s2 ! corsage b\quet 0 ( orange fl[]s & lilacs mix$2 ! lace ov]-dress 0 caught up ) lilac sprays2 ! h& b\quet :olly ( lilacs2 ,! g>d5]'s success 9 produc+ ^! dw>f bu%es cov]$ ) :ite lilacs has giv5 u ! beautiful fl[] 9 great p]fection4 ,c[slips are to be us$ z corsage & h& b\quets = bridesmaids' dresses1 ! dresses be+ ( pale blue surah1 ) yell[ sat9 ,ga9sbor\gh hats1 & yell[ plumes4 ,:ite gloves & %oes are prop] = brides4 ,! :ite undress$ kid or ,sw$i% glove w be ! favorite2 & high pr9cesse dresses ) long sleeves are /ill pron\nc$ ! be/ /yle4 ,z = w$d+ pres5ts1 great favor is %[n to jewelry & articles some:at out ( ! common4 ,vases ( co/ly workman%ip1 brass w9e-cool]s1 enamell$ glass frames1 small mirrors set 9 silv]1 belt clasps1 p9s ( e sort ( conceit = ! hair1 *oice old ,l\is ,treize silv] boxes ( curi\s design1 & wat*es1 ev5 old m9iatures1 are all ( ! ord] ( ?+s mo/ desir$4 ,s _m ( our spr+ brides are go+ imm$iately to ,europe t x seems absurd to load !m d[n ) co/ly d9n] sets1 or ! usual lamps & pepp]-ca/]s4 ,^! may come lat]4 ,h[ mu* pretti] to give ! bride some?+ %e c we>6 ,w$d+ pres5ts1 if %[n1 w be 9 ! second-/ory front room1 spread on tables & surr\nd$ by fl[]s4 ,"s brides w give an aft]noon tea ! day be=e to %[ ! pres5ts to a few intimate fri5ds4 ,ea* pres5t w be> ! "n ( ! giv] on 8 or h] c>d4 ,"o bride int5ds to make a mo/ orig9al innovation4 ,in/ead ( go+ imm$iately out ( t[n1 %e w rema9 at home & att5d ! ,ba*elors' ,ball1 9 ! ev5+1 leav+ = ,philadelphia at ?ree 9 ! morn+4 ,at sev]al ( ! *ur* w$d+s ! gue/s are only bidd5 !re2 !re w be no reception4 ,wid[s :o are to be m>ri$ aga9 %\ld be rem9d$ t !y c nei!r h w$d+ favors nor we> a veil or orange blossoms4 ,a wid[ bride %\ld we> a bonnet1 %e %\ld h no bridesmaids1 & a pea*-blossom silk or velvet is a v pretty dress4 ,at a c]ta9 up-t[n w$d+ all ! g5tlem5 w we> a w$d+ favor except+ ! groom4 ,he always we>s only a fl[]4 ,w$d+ favors %\ld be made ( :ite ribbon & silv] leaves4 ,l>ge b\quets ( :ite fl[]s %\ld ornam5t ! e>s ( ! horses & ! coats ( ! coa*m5 & footm54 ,x is a matt] ( ta/e :e!r ! bride we>s h] gloves to ! alt> or :e!r %e goes up ) uncov]$ h&s4 ,high-,*ur* brides pref] ! latt] cu/om1 ,! bride c>ries a pray]-book1 if %e pref]s1 in/ead ( a b\quet4 ,! ,holy ,communion is adm9i/]$ to ! m>ri$ pair if !y desire x4 ,"o correspond5t inquires1 ,:o %\ld be ask$ to a w$d+8 ,we %\ld say all y\r visit+ li/1 or none4 ,!re is an unusual feel+ ab\t be+ left out at a w$d+1 & no explanation t x is a small & n g5]al invitation seems to satisfy ^? :o are ?us pass$ ov]4 ,x is mu* bett] to (f5d no "o on s important an occasion4 ,w$d+ c>ds & w$d+ /ation]y h n alt]$ at all4 ,! simple /yles are ! be/4 ,! bridal l95 %\ld be m>k$ ) ! maid5 "n ( ! bride4 ,if brides c\ld only f9d out "s way to let _! fri5ds "k :]e !y are to be f\nd aft] m>riage x1 w\ld be a great conv5i5ce4 ,! newe/ /yle ( engagem5t r+ is a diamond & a ruby1 or a diamond & a sapphire1 set at "r angles or diagonally4 ,bangles ) ! bridal monogram set 9 jewels are v pretty1 & a desirable ornam5t = ! bridesmaids' gifts1 s]v+ z a mem5to & a p>ticul>ly neat ornam5t4 ,!y seem to h entirely sup]s$$ ! locket4 ,! bride's "n cut 9 silv] or gold s]ves = a lace p91 & is q effective4 ,,*apt] ,,xi4 ,,summ] ,,w$d+s4 ,a new fa%ion 9 ! engrav+ ( ! w$d+ note-pap] is ! fir/ novelty ( ! e>ly summ] w$d+4 ,! c>d is entirely disc>d$1 & %eets ( note-pap]1 ) ! words ( ! invitation 9 v f9e runn+ script1 are n[ univ]sally us$1 )\t cre/s or ciph]s4 ,we are glad to see t ! v respectful =m ( invitation1 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,h4 ,br[n reque/ ! honor ( y\r pres5ce1 etc41 is return+ to fa%ionable favor4 ,x nev] %\ld h gone out4 ,no?+ is m self-respect+ ?an respect1 & :5 we ask our fri5ds to visit u we c well af=d to be unusually c\rte\s4 ,! brief1 curt1 & n too fri5dly ann\ncem5t1 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,h4 ,br[n reque/ y\r pres5ce1 etc41 etc41 may well yield to ! mu* m elegant & =mal complim5t4 ,f high social au?ority 9 ,new ,york we h an invitation mu* simpl] & m cordial1 also wor?y ( imitation3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,w9sl[ ,appleblossom reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company at ! w$d+ reception ( _! daught]1 on ,tuesday aft]noon ,june ! sixte5?4 ,?is is )\t c>ds or names1 presum+ t ! latt] w foll[ lat] on4 ,ano!r v compreh5sive & useful ann\ncem5t ( a w$d+1 f a lady liv+ out ( t[n1 conveys1 h[ev]1 on "o %eet ( pap] ! desir$ in=mation ( :]e to f9d ! bride3 ,mrs4 ,se? ,osborne ann\nces ! m>riage ( h] daught] ,m>gurite to ,mr4 ,joseph ,w5don1 on ,w$nesday1 ,septemb] ! n9?1 at ,bri/ol1 ,connecticut4 ,at ,home aft] ,janu>y fir/1 at #geh ,wood ,/reet4 ,?is c>d ( ann\ncem5t is a model ( concis5ess1 & answ]s ! (t-repeat$ "q1 ,:]e %all we g to f9d ! m>ri$ c\ple next w9t]8 ,9 arrang+ ! h\se = ! spr+ w$d+ ! flori/s h hit ^u a new device ( hav+ only "o fl[] 9 masses2 s we he> ( ! apple-blossom w$d+1 ! lilac w$d+1 ! lily w$d+1 ! rose w$d+ & ! daffodil w$d+1 ! violet w$d+1 & ! daisy w$d+4 ,s well has ?is be5 c>ri$ out t at a rec5t daisy w$d+ ! bride's lace & diamond ornam5ts bore ! daisy patt]n1 & ea* bridesmaid receiv$ a daisy p9 ) diamond c5tre4 ,?is fa%ion ( mass+ a s+le fl[] has its advantages :5 t fl[] is ! beautiful fea!ry lilac1 z ornam5tal z a plume2 b x is n to be comm5d$ :5 fl[]s are z sombre z ! violet1 :i* n[adays sugge/s fun]als4 ,daffodils are lovely & orig9al1 & apple-blossoms make a hall 9 a ,que5 ,anne mansion v decorative4 ,no "o ne$s to be told t roses look bett] = be+ mass$1 & x is a pretty conceit = a bride to make ! fl[] :i* 0 ! ornam5t ( h] w$d+ h] fl[] = life4 ,! passion = little girls z bridesmaids receives mu* enc\ragem5t at ! spr+ & summ] w$d+s4 ,"o is rem9d$ ( ! *ildr5 w$d+s ( ! fifte5? c5tury1 z ^! d>l+s1 we>+ ,kate ,gre5away hats1 walk up ! aisle1 prec$+ ! bride4 ,! "y bro!r ( ! bride1 a m]e boy1 :o1 9 ! fa!rless condition ( 8 si/]1 rec5tly gave h] away1 also pres5t$ a t\*+ picture4 ,x has become a fa%ion n[ to invoke y\? z well z age to give ! bless+s once suppos$ to be alone at ! beck & call ( ^? :om ,"t _h sanctifi$4 ,! bridal dresses are usually ( :ite sat9 & po9t lace1 a pref]5ce = tulle veils be+ v evid5t4 ,a p9 = ! veil1 ) a diamond ornam5t1 & five l>ge diamonds hang+ by little *a9s1 makes a v f9e effect1 & is a novelty4 ,! groom at a rec5t w$d+ gave cat's-eyes set r\nd ) diamonds to 8 u%]s = sc>f p9s1 ! cat's-eye be+ consid]$ a v lucky /one4 ,! u%]s & ! groom we> v l>ge b\tonni]es ( /ephanotis & g>d5ias1 or equally l>ge bun*es ( lilies-(-!-valley1 9 _! button-holes4 ,at "o ( ! c\ntry w$d+s ( ! spr+ a pip] 9 full ,scot* co/ume disc\rs$ mo/ eloqu5t music on ! lawn dur+ ! w$d+ c]emony4 ,?is 0 a complim5t to ! groom1 :o is a capta9 9 a ,highl& regim5t4 ,a prevail+ fa%ion = w$d+ pres5ts is to give heavy pieces ( furniture1 su* z sidebo>ds1 writ+-tables1 cab9ets1 & pianos4 ,a favorite dress = travell+ is heliotrope ca%m]e1 ) bonnet to mat*4 ,= a d>k bride no?+ is m becom+ ?an d>k blue tailormade ) :ite ve/ & sailor coll>4 ,gray ca%m]e ) /eel passem5t]ie has also be5 mu* 9 vogue4 ,a light gray mohair1 trimm$ ) lace ( ! same color1 0 also mu* admir$4 ,we h m5tion$ ! surr\nd+s ( ! brides1 b h n spok5 ( ! backgr\nd4 ,a scre5 hung ) :ite & purple lilacs =m$ ! backgr\nd ( "o fair bride1 a hang+ curta9 ( ,jacque-m9ot roses =m$ ! appropriate sett+ ( ano!r4 ,p]haps ! mo/ regal ( ^! floral scre5s 0 "o =m$ ( co/ly or*ids1 ea* wor? a =tune4 ,"o ( ! mo/ beautiful ( ! spr+ w$d+ dresses 0 made ( cream-:ite sat9 ov] a tulle petticoat1 ! tulle be+ held d[n by a long diagonal b& ( broad pe>l embroid]y1 ! sat9 tra9 trimm$ ) b[s ( ribbon 9 true-lov]s' knots embroid]$ 9 se$-pe>ls2 a %[] ( :ite lilacs trimm$ "o side ( ! skirt4 ,ano!r simple dress 0 made ( :ite silk1 trimm$ ) old ,v5etian po9t1 ! tra9 ( /rip$ ivory po9t & :ite sat9 dep5d+ la ,watteau f ! %\ld]s1 & fa/5$ at ! po9t ( ! wai/4 ,at ! side ?ree l>ge pleats =m$ a drap]y1 :i* 0 fr+$ ) orange-blossoms4 ,f ,engl& we he> ( ! mo/ curi\s comb9ations z to travell+-dresses4 ,biscuit-color$ canvas1 embroid]$ ar\nd ! polonaise 9 gre5 & gold1 :ile ! skirt is edg$ ) a broad b& ( gre5 velvet4 ,! new wooll5 laces ( all colors make a v good effect 9 ! go+-away dress ( a bride4 ,we are (t5 ask$ by summ] brides :e!r !y %\ld we> bonnets or r\nd hats = _! travell+-dress4 ,we unhesitat+ly say bonnets4 ,a v pretty w$d+ bonnet is made ( lead-color$ beads )\t f\ndation1 light & transp>5t2 /r+s ( r$ velvet & a bun* ( r$ plums complete ?is bonnet4 ,gold-color$ /raw1 trimm$ ) gold-br[n velvet & black net1 makes a pretty travell+-bonnet4 ,op5-"w black /raw trimm$ ) black lace & r$ roses1 v high 9 ! cr[n1 ) a split front1 is a v becom+ & appropriate bonnet = a spr+ co/ume4 ,a pretty dress = ! *ild bridemaids is a p9k faille slip cov]$ ) dott$ musl91 n ti$ 9 at ! wai/1 & ! broade/ ( high ,ga9sbor\gh hats ( pale p9k silk ) imm5se b[s1 f ! well-kn[n pictures ( ,ga9sbor\gh's pretty wom54 ,b if a summ] bride mu/ travel 9 a bonnet1 !re is no reason t h] tr\sseau %\ld n conta9 a l>ge ,leghorn hat1 ! /raw caught up on ! back 9 long loops1 ! spaces betwe5 fill$ 9 ) b[s ( heliotrope ribbon4 ,! cr[n %\ld be cov]$ ) :ite o/ri* tips4 ,?is is a v becom+ hat = a lawn p>ty4 ,x w\ld be a *>m+ addition to our well-kn[n & some:at worn-out ,w$d+-,m>*1 always play$ z ! bride walks up ! aisle1 if a *orus ( *oir boys w\ld s+ an epi?alamium1 z is n[ done 9 ,engl&4 ,^! fre% "y voices hail+ ! y\?ful c\ple w\ld be 9 keep+ ) ! *ild bridesmaids & ! y\?ful bro!rs4 ,nay1 !y w\ld sugge/ ^? frescoes ( ! ,italian villas :]e ,hym5 & ,cupid1 two immortal boys1 always prec$e ! happy pair4 ,x is a pleasant "p ( w$d+s ev]y:]e t ! fai?ful dome/ics :o h lov$ ! bride f *ildhood are expect$ to assi/ by _! pres5ce at ! c]emony1 ea* we>+ a w$d+ favor made by ! fair h& ( ! bride h]self4 ,an amus+ anecdote is told ( a ,york%ire coa*man1 :o1 newly arriv$ 9 ,am]ica1 0 to drive ! bride to *ur*4 ,n kn[+ him1 p>ticul>ly z he 0 a new addition to ! =ce1 ! bride s5t him 8 favor by ! h&s ( h] maid4 ,b ,york%ire decid$ /\tly aga9/ receiv+ su* a vic>i\s (f]+1 & rem>k$1 ,tell %e ,i'd r 'ave x f %e4 ,& s %e 0 oblig$ to come d[n & affix ! favor to 8 liv]y coat1 or he w\ld h resign$ ! ribbons4 ,! nurses1 ! cook1 ! maids1 & ! m5-s]vants 9 ,engl& always expect a w$d+ favor & a small gratuity at a w$d+1 & 9 ?is c\ntry %\ld be rememb]$ by a box ( cake1 & possibly by a new dress1 cap1 or bonnet1 or some?+ to recall ! day4 ,! plan ( s]v+ ! refre%m5ts at a buffet all ?r\gh ! reception reta9s its place z ! mo/ conv5i5t & appropriate ( =ms4 ,! w$d+ breakfa/1 :]e toa/s are drunk & spee*es made1 is practicable 9 ,engl&1 b h>dly "h1 :]e we are n to ! mann] born4 ,! old tra9$ dome/ics :o s]ve su* a fea/ c n be inv5t$ at w 9 ,am]ica1 s t x is bett] to all[ our well-fill$ tables to rema9 heavily lad51 z !y are1 ) da9ties :i* defy competition1 s]v$ by a corps ( wait]s4 ,! pretty plan ( cutt+ ! bride cake & hunt+ = a r+ has be5 long explod$1 z ! bridesmaids decl>e t x ru9s _! gloves1 & t 9 ^! days ( eighte5 buttons x is too mu* tr\ble to take (f & put on a glove = ! sake ( f9d+ a r+ 9 a bit ( greasy pa/ry4 ,h[ev]1 x might supplem5t a w$d+ supp]4 ,,*apt] ,,xii4 ,,autumn ,,w$d+s4 ,! fir/ ?+ :i* /rikes ! eye ( ! =tunate p]son :o is invit$ to see ! bridal gifts is ! pr$om9ance ( silv]-w>e4 ,we h n[ pass$ ! age ( bronze & t ( brass1 & silv] holds ! fir/ place ( importance4 ,n only ! c(fee & tea sets1 b ! d9n] sets & ! :ole furniture ( ! writ+-table1 & ev5 brooms & bru%es1 are made ) rep\ss silv] h&les--! la/1 ( c\rse1 = ! toilette1 z = du/+ velvet1 fea!rs1 bonnets1 etc4 ,! oxidiz$1 ugly1 discolor$ silv] is n s fa%ionable z x 01 & ! beautiful1 bright1 highly poli%$ silv]1 ) its own natural & unmat*able color1 has come 94 ,! salv]s af=d a spl5did surface = a monogram1 :i* is n[ copi$ f ! old ,dut* silv]1 & be>s _m a true-lov]s' knot1 & e sort & k9d ( ornam5tation2 sometimes ev5 a little v]se1 or posy1 z x 0 call$ 9 old5 "t4 ,"o tea-caddy at a rec5t w$d+ bore ! foll[+ almo/ obsolete rhyme1 :i* ,corydon might h s5t to ,phyllis 9 pa/oral times3 ,my he>t to y is giv52 ,oh d give y\rs to me3 ,we'll lock !m up toge!r1 ,& ?r[ away ! key4 ,x %\ld be add$ t ! silv] tea-caddy 0 9 ! %ape ( a he>t1 & t x _h a key4 ,v de> to ! he>t ( a h\sewife is ! tea-caddy :i* c be lock$4 ,ano!r unique pres5t 0 a gold tea scoop ( anci5t patt]n1 probably once a baby's pap spoon4 ,!re 7 also apo/le-spoons1 & little silv] canoes & o!r devices to hold cig>ettes & a%es2 little my/]i\s boxes = ! toilette1 to hold ! tongs = curl+ hair1 & hair-p9s2 mirror frames1 & ev5 *air-backs & tables--all ( silv]4 ,sev]al beautiful umbrellas1 ) all sorts ( h&les1 recall$ ! anecdote ( ! man :o said he fir/ saw 8 wife 9 a /orm1 m>ri$ h] 9 a /orm1 liv$ ) h] 9 a hurricane1 b buri$ h] 9 pleasant wea!r2 p>asols ) jewell$ h&les1 & beautiful pa9t$ fans1 are also favorite (f]+s to ! newly m>ri$4 ,fri5ds conspire to make _! (f]+s toge!r1 s t !re may be no duplicates1 & no pieces 9 ! silv] s]vice :i* d n mat*4 ,?is is a v excell5t plan4 ,old pieces l silv] tank>ds1 ,que5 ,anne silv]1 & ! ev] beautiful ,baltimore workman%ip1 are highly priz$4 ,x is no long] ! fa%ion to display ! pres5ts at ! w$d+4 ,!y are arrang$ 9 an upp] room1 & %[n to a few fri5ds ( ! bride ! day be=e ! c]emony4 ,nor is x ! fa%ion = ! bride to we> _m jewels4 ,^! are res]v$ = h] fir/ appe>ance z a m>ri$ woman4 ,clu/]s ( diamond />s1 daisies1 or primroses t c be gr\p$ toge!r are n[ favorite gifts4 ,9 ?is co/ly gift sev]al fri5ds jo9 aga91 z 9 ! silv] pres5tation4 ,diamond bracelets t c be us$ z necklaces are also favorite pres5ts4 ,all sorts ( vases1 bits ( *9a1 cloisonn1 clocks 7al?\gh !re is n su* a /amp$e ( clocks & lamps z a few ye>s ago71 *oice et*+s fram$1 & embroid]$ table-clo?s1 doyleys1 & useful cov]+s = bureau & wa%-/&s1 are 9 ord]4 ,! bride n[ pref]s simplicity 9 h] dress--spl5did & co/ly simplicity4 ,an elegant :ite-sat9 & a tulle veil1 ! latt] v full1 ! =m] extremely long & ) a sweep+ tra91 high corsage1 & long sleeves1 long :ite gloves1 & p]haps a fl[] 9 ! hair--su* is ! late/ fa%ion = an autumn bride4 ,! "y ladies say !y pref] t _! magnific5ce %\ld wait = ! days aft] m>riage1 :5 _! jewels c be worn4 ,!re is great s5se 9 ?is1 = a bride is int]e/+ en\gh :5 %e is simply attir$4 ,! solemnization ( ! m>riage %\ld be 9 a *ur*1 & a high ecclesia/ical function>y %\ld be ask$ to solemnize x4 ,! gue/s are br\ght 9 by ! u%]s1 :o1 by ! way1 n[ we> pe>l-color$ kid-gloves1 embroid]$ 9 black1 z d ! groom & be/ man4 ,! front seats are res]v$ = ! relatives & intimate fri5ds1 & ! head u%] has a pap] on :i* are writt5 ! names ( p entitl$ to ^! front seats4 ,! seats ?us res]v$ h a :ite ribbon z a l9e ( dem>cation4 ,music %\ld u%] 9 ! bride4 ,! fa%ion ( bridesmaids has gone out tempor>ily1 & "o p]son1 g5]ally a si/]1 alone accompanies ! bride to ! alt> z h] female aid4 ,! bride1 att5d$ by h] fa!r or ne> fri5d1 comes 9 la/1 aft] ! u%]s4 ,aft] h] "m1 si/]1 & family h prec$$ h]1 ^! ne> relatives gr\p !mselves ab\t ! alt> /eps4 ,h] si/]1 or "o bridesmaid1 /&s ne> h] at ! alt> rail1 & kneels ) h] & ! bridegroom1 z does ! be/ man4 ,! groom takes 8 bride f ! h& ( h] fa!r or ne>e/ fri5d1 :o !n retires & /&s a little beh9d ! bridal pair4 ,he mu/ be ne> en\gh to respond quickly :5 he he>s ! words1 ,:o give? ?is woman to be m>ri$ to ?is man8 ,! bride & groom walk out toge!r aft] ! c]emony1 foll[$ by ! ne>e/ relatives1 & proce$ to ! home :]e ! w$d+ breakfa/ is s]v$4 ,"h ! bridal pair /& "u an ar* ( autumn-leaves1 gold5-rod1 a/]s1 & o!r seasonable fl[]s1 & receive _! fri5ds1 :o are pres5t$ by ! u%]s4 ,! fa!r & "m d n take any /at$ position on ?is occasion1 b m+le ) ! gue/s1 & =m a "p ( ! company4 ,9 an opul5t c\ntryh\se1 if ! day is f9e1 little tables are set out on ! lawn1 ! ladies seat !mselves ar\nd1 & ! g5tlem5 c>ry ! refre%m5ts to !m2 or ! piazzas are beautifully decorat$ ) autumn b\ghs & f]ns1 fl[]s1 ev]gre5s1 & ! refre%m5ts are s]v$ !re4 ,if x is a bad day1 ( c\rse ! usual arrangem5ts ( a cr[d$ buffet are 9 ord]2 !re is no long] a sit-d[n w$d+ breakfa/2 x does n suit our ,am]ican ideas1 z rec5t exp]im5ts h prov$4 ,we h _m lett]s ask+ if ! g5tlem5 ( ! bride's family %\ld we> gloves4 ,!y %\ld1 &1 z we h indicat$1 !y %\ld be ( pe>l-color$ kid1 embroid]$ 9 ! seams ) black4 ,! "o bridesmaid mu/ be dress$ 9 colors4 ,at a rec5t v fa%ionable w$d+ ! bridesmaid wore bright butt]cup yell[1 a real ,directoire dress1 :ite lace skirt1 yell[ bodice1 hat trimm$ ) yell[--a v picturesque1 pretty co/ume4 ,! silk /ock+s & slipp]s 7 ( yell[1 ! hat ( ,leghorn1 v l>ge1 turn$ up at "o side1 yell[ plumes1 & long /ream]s ( yell[-velvet ribbon4 ,yell[ is n[ e/eem$ a favorite color & a =tunate "o4 ,x once 0 deem$ ! synonym = envy1 b t has pass$ away4 ,! c>ry+ ( an ivory pray]-book 0 f\nd to be att5d$ ) inconv5i5ce1 !re=e 0 discont9u$4 ,/ill1 if a "y lady wi%es to h h] pray]-book associat$ ) h] v[s at ! alt>1 %e c prop]ly c>ry x4 ,brides are1 h[ev]1 leav+ _! b\quets at home1 z ! imm5se size ( a mod]n b\quet int]f]$ ) ! giv+ & tak+ ( ! r+4 ,a v pretty bit ( ornam5tation = an autumn w$d+ is ! mak+ ( a piece ( tape/ry ( autumn leaves to hang beh9d ! bride z %e receives4 ,?is c be done by sew+ ! leaves on a piece ( drugget on :i* "s arti/ has drawn a clev] sket* ) *alk & *>coal4 ,we h se5 "s really elaborate & arti/ic gr\ps done 9 ?is way by e>ne/ & unselfi% girl fri5ds4 ,romeo & ,juliet1 ,hamlet & ,ophelia1 ,tri/an & ,iseult1 c ?us be made to s]ve z decorations4 ,! walls ( ! *ur* c1 ( c\rse1 be exquisitely decorat$ ) palms 9 an ,ori5tal patt]n1 fl[]s1 & leaves4 ,! season is "o :5 nature's b\nty is s pr(use t ev5 ! fruits c be press$ into s]vice4 ,c>e %\ld be tak5 n to put too _m tub]oses ab\t1 = ! p]fume is sick5+ to "s4 ,! engagem5t r+ %\ld be worn on ! ?ird f+] ( ! left h&4 ,x %\ld h a solitaire /one--ei!r a diamond or a color$ /one4 ,color$ /ones & diamonds1 set diagonally1 z a sapphire & a diamond1 are also worn2 b n a pe>l1 z1 accord+ to ! ,g]man idea1 pe>ls are te>s = a bride4 ,! w$d+ r+ is entirely diff]5t1 be+ m]ely a pla9 gold r+1 n v wide nor a squ>e b&1 z x 0 a few ye>s s9ce1 & ! engagem5t r+ is worn z a gu>d above ! w$d+ r+4 ,x is n usual = ! bride expectant to give a r+ to h] int5d$ husb&1 b _m girls l to give an engagem5t gift to _! betro!d4 ,inside ! engagem5t r+ is ! date ( ! engagem5t & ! initials ( ea* ( ! contract+ p>ties4 ,! w$d+ r+ has ! date ( ! m>riage & ! initials4 ,if ! m>riage takes place at home1 ! bride & groom ent] toge!r1 & take _! place be=e ! cl]gyman1 :o has already ent]$2 !n come ! fa!r & "m & o!r fri5ds4 ,a pair ( hassocks %\ld be arrang$ = ! bridal pair to kneel ^u1 & ! fa!r %\ld be ne> to all[ ! cl]gyman to see him :5 he asks = 8 au?ority4 ,= autumn w$d+s no?+ is s pretty = ! travell+-dress z a tailor-made co/ume ( v light clo?1 ) sacque to mat* = a cold day4 ,no travell+-dress %\ld ( itself be too heavy1 z our railway c>riages are kept s v w>m4 ,we h be5 ask$ to def9e ! mean+ ( ! ^w honeymoon4 ,x comes f ! ,g]mans1 :o drank mead1 or me!gl9--a bev]age made ( honey--= ?irty days aft] ! w$d+4 ,! bride-cake is no long] cut & s]v$ at w$d+s2 ! pres5t ( cake 9 boxes has sup]s$$ t4 ,at ! w$d+ breakfa/ ! ices are n[ pack$ 9 fancy boxes1 :i* be> nuptial mottoes & orange-blossoms & violets on _! surfaces4 ,z ! r+ is ! expressive emblem ( ! p]petuity ( ! compact1 & z ! bride-cake & cu/om>y libations =m significant symbols ( ! nect> sweets ( matrimony1 x w n d to bani% ! cake altoge!r1 al?\gh few p eat x1 & few wi% to c>ry x away4 ,among ! ,romans1 ,june 0 consid]$ ! mo/ propiti\s mon? = m>riage2 b ) ! ,anglo-,saxons ,octob] has always be5 a favorite & auspici\s season4 ,we f9d t ! fe/ival has always be5 obs]v$ 9 v mu* ! same way1 :e!r druidical1 pagan1 or ,*ri/ian4 ,we h be5 ask$1 ,:o %all conduct ! s+le bridesmaid to ! alt>8 ,x %\ld be ! bro!r ( ! groom1 h] own fianc1 or "s *os5 fri5d--nev] ! be/ man2 he does n leave 8 fri5d ! groom until he sees him fairly laun*$ on t hopeful b unc]ta9 sea ^: rev]ses & ^: smiles are be+ con/antly tempt$4 ,t man mu/ lead a happy life ,:o is direct$ by a wife4 ,:o's fre$ f matrimonial claims ,is sure to suff] = 8 pa9s4 ,?is is a posy = "s ,octob] silv]4 ,,*apt] ,,xiii4 ,,be=e ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,& ,,aft]4 ,! reception ( an engag$ girl by ! family ( h] future husb& %\ld be mo/ cordial1 & no "t %\ld be lo/ 9 giv+ h] a w>m welcome4 ,x is ! mom5t ( all o!rs :5 %e w feet su* a welcome mo/ gratefully1 & :5 any neglect w be c]ta9 to give h] ! ke5e/ unhapp9ess4 ,x is ! fa%ion = ! "m ( ! groom to invite bo? ! family ( ! expectant bride & h]self to a d9n] z soon z possible aft] ! =mal ann\ncem5t ( ! engagem5t4 ,! two families %\ld meet & %\ld make fri5d%ips at once4 ,?is is important4 ,x is to ^! ne> relatives t ! probable date ( ! w$d+-day is fir/ :isp]$1 9 "t to all[ ( mu* consultation & prep>ation 9 ! selection ( w$d+ gifts4 ,9 opul5t families ea* has sometimes giv5 ! "y c\ple a silv] d9n] s]vice & mu* silv] besides1 & ! rooms ( ! bride's fa!r's h\se look l a jewell]'s %op :5 ! pres5ts are %[n4 ,all ! magnific5t ormolu ornam5ts = ! *imney-piece1 h&some clocks & lamps1 fans 9 l>ge quantities1 spoons1 =ks by ! hundr$1 & ( late ye>s ! f9e gilt ornam5ts1 furniture1 camel's-hair %awls1 bracelets--all are pil$ up 9 mo/ admir$ confusion4 ,& :5 ! invitations are out1 !n come 9 ! out] _w ) _! m ha/ily procur$ gifts2 r>e specim5s ( *9a1 little pa9t+s1 ornam5ts = ! p]son--all1 all are 9 ord]4 ,a pres5t is g5]ally pack$ :]e x is b\ght1 & s5t ) ! giv]'s c>d f ! %op to ! bride directly4 ,%e %\ld always ackn[l$ge its arrival by a p]sonal note writt5 by h]self4 ,a "y bride once gave mortal (f5ce by n ?us ackn[l$g+ h] gifts4 ,%e said %e _h s _m t %e c\ld n f9d "t to write ! notes1 :i* 0 naturally consid]$ boa/ful & mo/ ungraci\s4 ,gifts :i* owe _! value to ! p]sonal ta/e or indu/ry ( ! fri5d :o s5ds are p>ticul>ly complim5t>y4 ,a piece ( embroid]y1 a pa9t+1 a wat]-color1 are mo/ flatt]+ gifts1 z !y betok5 a long & pr$et]m9$ int]e/4 ,no fri5d %\ld be det]r$ f s5d+ a small pres5t1 "o n repres5t+ a money value1 because o!r & ri*] p c s5d a m exp5sive "o4 ,(t5 ! little gift rema9s z a mo/ ende>+ & useful s\v5ir4 ,z = %[+ ! w$d+ gifts1 t is a ?+ :i* mu/ be left to individual ta/e4 ,"s p disapprove ( x1 & consid] x o/5tati\s2 o!rs h a l>ge room devot$ to ! display ( ! pres5ts1 & x is c]ta9ly amus+ to exam9e !m4 ,z = ! conduct ( ! betro!d pair dur+ _! engagem5t1 our ,am]ican mammas are apt to be some:at m l5i5t 9 _! views ( ! lib]ty to be all[$ ?an are ! ,engli%4 ,) ! latt]1 no "y lady is all[$ to drive alone ) h] fianc2 !re mu/ be a s]vant 9 att5dance4 ,no "y lady mu/ visit 9 ! family ( h] fianc1 unless he has a "m to receive h]4 ,nor is %e all[$ to g to ! !atre alone ) him1 or to travel "u 8 escort1 to /op at ! same hotel1 or to relax "o ( ^? rigid rules :i* a sev]e *ap]on w\ld en=ce2 & x mu/ be all[$ t ?is sev]e & c>eful att5tion to appe>ances is 9 ! be/ ta/e4 ,z = ! engagem5t-r+1 mod]n fa%ion prescribes a diamond solitaire1 :i* may range 9 price f two hundr$ & fifty to two ?\s& doll>s4 ,! matt] ( pres5tation is a secret betwe5 ! engag$ pair4 ,ev5+ w$d+s d n diff] f day w$d+s ess5tially1 except t ! bridegroom we>s ev5+ dress4 ,if ! w$d+ is at home1 ! space :]e ! bridal p>ty is to /& is usually m>k$ (f by a ribbon1 & ! cl]gyman comes d[n 9 8 robes be=e ! bridal pair2 !y face him1 & he faces ! company4 ,hassocks are prep>$ = !m to kneel ^u4 ,aft] ! c]emony ! cl]gyman retires1 & ! bridal p>ty take 8 place1 /&+ to receive _! fri5ds' congratulations4 ,%\ld !re be danc+ at a w$d+1 x is prop] = ! bride to op5 ! fir/ quadrille ) ! be/ man1 ! groom danc+ ) ! fir/ bridesmaid4 ,x is n1 h[ev]1 v cu/om>y = a bride to dance1 or = danc+ to occur at an ev5+ w$d+1 b x is n a bad old cu/om4 ,aft] ! bridal pair return f _! w$d+-t\r1 ! bridesmaids ea* give !m a d9n] or a p>ty1 or %[ "s att5tion1 if !y are s situat$ t !y c d s4 ,! memb]s ( ! two families1 also1 ea* give a d9n] to ! "y c\ple4 ,x is n[ a v conv5i5t & pleasant cu/om = ! bride to ann\nce ) h] w$d+-c>ds two or m reception days dur+ ! w9t] aft] h] m>riage1 on :i* h] fri5ds c call ^u h]4 ,! c]ta9ty ( f9d+ a bride at home is v pleas+4 ,on ^! occasions %e does n we> h] w$d+-dress1 b receives z if %e _h ent]$ society z "o ( its memb]s4 ,! w$d+ trapp+s are all put away1 & %e we>s a d>k silk1 :i* may be z h&some z %e *ooses4 ,z = we>+ h] w$d+-dress to balls or d9n]s aft] h] m>riage1 x is p]fectly prop] to d s1 if %e dive/s h]self ( h] veil & h] orange-blossoms4 ,! bride %\ld be v att5tive & conciliatory to all h] husb&'s fri5ds1 ,!y w look ) int]e/ ^u h] f ! mom5t !y he> ( ! engagem5t1 & x is 9 ! wor/ ta/e = h] to %[ indiff]5ce to !m4 ,quiet w$d+s1 ei!r 9 *ur* or at ! h\se1 are v mu* pref]r$ by "s families4 ,inde$1 ! ,fr5*1 f :om we h le>n$ _m--& might le>n m--lessons ( grace & good ta/e1 inf9itely pref] !m4 ,= a quiet w$d+ ! bride dresses 9 a travell+ dress & bonnet1 & dep>ts = h] w$d+-t\r4 ,x is ! cu/om 9 ,engl&1 z we h said1 = ! bride & groom to drive (f 9 _! own c>riage1 :i* is dress$ ) :ite ribbons1 ! coa*-man & groom we>+ :ite b\quets1 & favors adorn+ ! horses' e>s1 & = !m to take a mon?'s honeymoon4 ,!re also ! bride 7if %e be ,hannah ,ro?s*ild or ! ,b>oness ,burdett-,c\tts7 gives h] bridesmaids v elegant pres5ts1 z a locket or a bracelet1 :ile ! groom gives ! be/ man a sc>f-p9 or "s gift4 ,! ,am]ican cu/om is n s univ]sal4 ,h[ev]1 ei!r bride or groom gives some?+ to ! bridesmaid & a sc>f-p9 to ea* u%]4 ,?us a w$d+ becomes a v exp5sive & elaborate affair1 :i* quiet & economical p are sometimes oblig$ to avoid4 ,aft] ! m>riage invitations are issu$1 ! lady does n appe> 9 public4 ,! p]iod ( c>d-leav+ aft] a w$d+ is n yet def9itely fix$4 ,"s au?orities say t5 days1 b t 9 a cr[d$ city1 & ) an imm5se acqua9tance1 w\ld be q impossible4 ,if only invit$ to ! *ur*1 _m ladies consid] t !y p]=m _! :ole duty by leav+ a c>d sometime dur+ ! w9t]1 & includ+ ! "y c\ple 9 _! subsequ5t invitations4 ,v rigor\s p call1 h[ev]1 )9 t5 days1 & if invit$ to ! h\se1 ! call is /ill m imp]ative1 & %\ld be made soon aft] ! w$d+4 ,b if a "y c\ple d n s5d _! future address1 b only invite "o to a *ur*-w$d+1 !re is (t5 a v s]i\s difficulty 9 kn[+ :]e to call1 & ! fir/ visit mu/ be indef9itely po/pon$ until !y s5d c>ds notify+ _! fri5ds ( _! :]eab\ts4 ,w$d+ invitations require no answ]4 ,b p liv+ at a di/ance1 :o _c att5d ! w$d+1 %\ld s5d _! c>ds by mail1 to assure ! ho/s t ! invitation has be5 receiv$4 ,! usual =m = w$d+-c>ds is ?is3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,!odore ,*apman reque/ y\r pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught]1 on ,w$nesday ev5+1 ,novemb] f\r?1 at eight o'clock4 ,grace ,*ur*4 ,! c>d ( ! "y lady1 t ( h] int5d$ husb&1 & ano!r c>d to ! favor$-- ,at ,home aft] ! c]emony1 #g ,ea/ ,m>ket ,/reet-- is also enclos$4 ,p ) a l>ge acqua9tance _c always invite all _! fri5ds1 ( c\rse1 to a w$d+ reception1 & !re=e invite all to ! *ur*4 ,sometimes p :o are to give a small w$d+ at home reque/ an answ] to ! w$d+ invitation2 9 t case1 ( c\rse1 an answ] %\ld be s5t1 & p %\ld be v c>eful n to ignore ^! flatt]+ invitations4 ,any c>elessness is inexcusable :5 s important an ev5t is on ! tapis4 ,bridesmaids1 if prev5t$ by illness or sudd5 b]eavem5t f (ficiat+1 %\ld notify ! bride z soon z possible1 z x is a difficult ?+ aft] a bridal cortge is arrang$ to reorganize x4 ,z to ! w$d+-t\r1 x is no long] consid]$ obligatory1 nor is ! seclusion ( ! honey-moon dem&$4 ,a v fa%ionable girl :o m>ri$ an ,engli%man la/ summ] at ,newport return$ 9 ?ree days to take h] own h\se at ,newport1 & to receive & give out invitations4 ,if ! newly m>ri$ pair ?us beg9 h\se-keep+ 9 _! own way1 !y g5]ally issue a few ,at ,home c>ds1 & !reby op5 an easy door = future hospitalities4 ,c]ta9ly ! once p]functory bridal t\r is no long] deem$ ess5tial1 & ! m s5sible fa%ion exi/s ( ! tak+ ( a fri5d's h\se a few miles out ( t[n = a mon?4 ,if ! bridal pair g to a wat]+-place dur+ _! e>ly m>ri$ days1 !y %\ld be v c>eful ( outw>d display ( t5d]ness4 ,su* exhibitions 9 ! c>s or 9 public places z "o (t5 sees1 ( ! bride lay+ h] head on h] husb&'s %\ld]1 hold+ h&s1 or kiss+1 are at once vulg> & indec5t4 ,all public display ( an affectionate nature %\ld be s$ul\sly avoid$4 ,! affections are too sacr$ = su* outw>d %[+1 & ! look]s-on are 9 a v disagreeable position4 ,! ,fr5* call love-mak+ l'444444 deux1 & no egotism is agreeable4 ,p :o see a pair ( "y doves coo+ 9 public are apt to say t a qu>rel is n f> (f4 ,x is possible = a lov] to %[ e att5tion1 e assiduity1 & n to ov]do 8 demon/rations4 ,x is q possible = ! lady to be fond ( h] husb& )\t committ+ ! slighte/ (f5ce aga9/ good ta/e4 ,! "y c\ple are n expect$1 unless ,=tune has be5 exceptionally k9d1 to be imm$iately responsive 9 ! matt] ( ent]ta9m5ts4 ,! out] _w is only too happy to ent]ta9 !m4 ,no?+ c be m imprud5t ?an = a "y c\ple to ru% into exp5ditures :i* may endang] _! future happ9ess & peace ( m9d1 nor %\ld !y feel t !y are oblig$ at once to return ! d9n]s & ! p>ties giv5 to !m4 ,! "t w come1 d\btless1 :5 !y w be able to d s4 ,b ! ann\ncem5t ( a day on :i* ! bride w receive h] fri5ds is almo/ indisp5sable4 ,! refre%m5ts on ^! occasions %\ld n exce$ tea & cake1 or1 at ! mo/1 pun*1 tea1 *ocolate1 & cakes1 :i* may /& on a table at "o end ( ! room1 or may be h&$ by a wait]4 ,b\illon1 on a cold day ( w9t]1 is also 9 ord]1 & is p]haps ! mo/ s]viceable ( all simple refre%m5ts4 ,= 9 giv+ a f\r-o'clock tea1 or sev]al day receptions1 a l>ge ent]ta9m5t is decid$ly vulg>4 ,,*apt] ,,xiv4 ,,gold1 ,,silv]1 ,,& ,,t9 ,,w$d+s4 ,v few p h ! gold5 opportunity ( liv+ toge!r = fifty ye>s 9 ! holy e/ate ( matrimony4 ,:5 !y h ov]come 9 s great a degree ! _m infirmities ( ! fle%1 & ! common incompatibility ( temp]s1 !y des]ve to be congratulat$1 & to h a w$d+ fe/ivity :i* %all be z c]emoni\s z ! fir/ "o1 & twice z impressive4 ,b :at %all we give !m8 ,! gifts ( gold mu/ be some:at circumscrib$1 & !re=e ! injunction1 s sev]e & s unalt]able1 :i* holds good at t9 & silv] w$d+s1 t no pres5ts mu/ be giv5 ( any o!r metal ?an t designat$ by ! day1 does n hold good at a gold5 w$d+4 ,a c>d pr9t$ 9 gold lett]s1 ann\nc+ t ,john ,&]son & ,m>y ,br[n 7 m>ri$1 = in/ance1 9 #ahcj1 & w celebrate _! gold5 w$d+ 9 #ahhj1 is g5]ally ! only gold5 manife/ation4 ,"o ( ! c>ds rec5tly issu$ reads 9 ?is way3 #ahca4 #ahha4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,&]son1 ,at ,home ,novemb] tw5ty-fir/1 #ahha1 ,gold5 ,w$d+1 #ag ,c>mi*ael ,/reet1 at eight o'clock4 ,all done 9 gold1 on :ite1 ?ick ,engli% pap]1 t is ne>ly all ! exhibition ( gold necess>y at a gold5 w$d+1 unless "s fri5d gives ! ag$ bride a pres5t ( jewell]y4 ,! bride receives h] *ildr5 & gr&*ildr5 dress$ 9 "s article :i* %e wore at h] fir/ w$d+1 if any rema94 ,sometimes a veil1 or a h&k]*ief1 or a fan1 sc>cely ev] ! :ole dress1 has la/$ fifty ye>s1 & %e holds a b\quet ( :ite fl[]s4 ,a w$d+-cake is prep>$ ) a r+ 9 x1 & on ! fro/+ is ! date1 & ! monogram ( ! two1 :o h liv$ toge!r s long4 ,^! gold5 w$d+s are apt to be sad4 ,x is n well = ! old to keep anniv]s>ies--too _m gho/s come to ! fea/4 ,/ill1 if p are happy en\gh to wi% to d s1 !re c be no h>m 9 x4 ,_! surr\nd+s may possibly surpass _! fonde/ dreams1 b z x reg>ds !mselves1 ! contra/ is pa9ful4 ,!y h little 9 common ) bridal joys1 & unless x is ! wi% ( "s irrepressible desc5dant1 few old c\ples c>e to celebrate ! gold5 w$d+ save 9 _! he>ts4 ,if !y h />t$ at ! foot ( ! ladd]1 & h ris51 !y may n wi% to rememb] _! e>ly /ruggles2 if !y h />t$ high1 & h gradually sunk into pov]ty or ill heal?1 !y c]ta9ly d n wi% to photograph ^? bett] days by ! fi]ce light ( an anniv]s>y1 ,x is only ! v exceptionally good1 happy1 & s]5e p :o c af=d to celebrate a gold5 w$d+4 ,f> o!rwise ) ! silv] w$d+1 :i* comes 9 ?is c\ntry :ile p are /ill "y1 9 ! v prime ( life1 ,) mu* be=e !m1 & :5 to /op midway to take an acc\nt ( "o's fri5ds & "o's bless+s is a wise & a pleasant ?+4 ,! c>ds are issu$1 pr9t$ 9 silv]1 some:at 9 ?is /yle3 #ahef4 #ahha4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,c>t] reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company on ,w$nesday1 ,octob] ! tw5ty-sev5?1 at eight o'clock4 ,silv] ,w$d+4 ,john ,c>t]4 ,s>ah ,smi?4 ,su*1 at lea/1 is "o =m4 ,_m p d n1 h[ev]1 add _! names at ! end2 :ile1 aga91 "s g ev5 f>!r2 & transcribe ! m>riage notice f ! newspap] ( ! p]iod4 ,gifts ( silv] be+ comp>atively inexp5sive1 & always useful1 almo/ all fri5ds :o are invit$ s5d a gift ( silv]-w>e1 m>k$ ,silv] ,w$d+ or1 /ill bett]1 m>k$ ) an appropriate motto1 & ! initials ( ! pair1 engrav$ 9 a true-lov]'s knot4 ,9 old ,dut* silv] ^! pretty monograms & ! lov]'s knot are v common4 ,?is 0 probably put ^u ! orig9al w$d+ silv]1 & we "k t ! art 0 /udi$ by su* m5 z ,albre*t ,dr]1 ,b5v5uto ,cell9i1 & ,rub5s1 = we f9d among _! draw+s _m monograms & su* devices4 ,x adds v mu* to ! beauty ( a piece ( silv] to be> su* engrav+1 & x is always well to add a motto1 or a posy1 z ! bid phrase has x1 ?us inve/+ ! gift ) a p]sonal int]e/1 9 our abs5ce ( armorial be>+s4 ,s9ce _m pretty ornam5ts come 9 silv]1 x is possible to v>y ! gifts by sometimes pres5t+ flacons 7a p5dant flacon = ! *atela9e3 "s v arti/ic ?+s come 9 ?is pretty ornam5t n[1 ) color$ plaques repres5t+ antique figures1 etc474 ,sometimes a co/ly intaglio is sunk 9 silv] & set z a p94 ,clocks ( silv]1 bracelets1 /atu>y 9 silv]1 necklaces1 picture-frames1 & filigree p5dants hang+ to silv] necklaces :i* resemble pe>ls2 beautiful jewel-cases & boxes = ! toilet2 dress+-cases well furni%$ ) silv]2 h&-mirrors set 9 frett$ silv]2 bracelets1 p5dant seals1 & m$allions 9 high relief--all come n[ = gifts 9 ! second preci\s metal4 ,a v pretty gift 0 design$ by a "y arti/ = 8 "m on ! celebration ( h] silv] w$d+4 ,x 0 a monogram & love-knot aft] ! fa%ion ( ! sev5te5? c5tury1 & made1 :5 jo9$1 a sup]b belt-clasp1 ea* little ornam5t ( ! relief repeat+ ! two dates4 ,mantle clasps ( solid silv] ornam5t$ ) preci\s /ones1 & kn[n 9 ! ,middle ,ages z f]millets1 are pretty pres5ts1 & ^! ornam5ts c be also enri*$ ) gold & enamel )\t los+ _! silv] "*4 ,*im]ical animals & floral ornam5ts are (t5 us$ 9 enri*+ ^! agrafes4 ,mirrors set 9 silv] are v h&some = ! toilet-table2 also1 bru%es & combs c be made ( x4 ,all silv] is apt to t>ni%1 b a dip 9 wat] & ammonia cleans x at once1 & few p n[ l ! :ite foamy silv]2 t :i* has assum$ a gray t9t is mu* m admir$4 ,inde$1 arti/ic jewell]s h introduc$ ! hamm]$ silv]1 :i* looks l an old t9 teapot1 & to ! admir]s ( ! real silv] t9t is v ugly2 b x r5d]s ! we>+ ( a silv] *tela9e v mu* easi]1 = ! *a9s & ornam5ts :i* a lady n[ we>s on h] belt are sure to gr[ daily into ! fa%ion4 ,silv] p>asol h&les are also v fa%ionable4 ,we h enl>g$ ^u ?is subject ( gifts ( silv] 9 answ] to sev]al que/ions z to :at x is prop] to give at a silv] w$d+4 ,( c\rse ! weal?y c s5d pit*]s1 vases1 vegetable di%es1 s\p ture5s1 & wait]s4 ,all ! beautiful ?+s :i* are n[ made by our silv]smi?s are tempt+ to ! purse4 ,!re are also h&some silv] necklaces1 hold+ old & r>e co9s1 & curi\s wat*es ( silv]1 resembl+ fruits1 nuts1 & animals4 ,! f>!r back we g 9 ! hi/ory ( silv]-w>e1 ! bett] models we are sure to obta94 ,z = ! ent]ta9m5t1 x includes ! inevitable cake1 ( c\rse1 & ! bride puts ! knife into x z %e did tw5ty-five ye>s ago4 ,! r+ is eag]ly s\ght =4 ,!n a l>ge & pl5tiful repa/ is (f]$1 exactly l t ( any reception-table4 ,*ampagne is 9 ord]1 heal?s are drunk1 & spee*es made at mo/ ( ^! silv] w$d+s4 ,p>ticul>ly delightful are silv] w$d+s :i* are celebrat$ 9 ! c\ntry1 especially if ! h\se is l>ge en\gh to hold a numb] ( gue/s4 ,!n _m a cu/om c be obs]v$ ( peculi> significance & fri5dl9ess2 ev]ybody c help to prep>e ! fea/1 decorate ! h\se ) fl[]s1 & save ! bride f ^? te>ful mom5ts :i* come ) any retrospect4 ,all %\ld try to make ! sc5e a m]ry "o1 = !re is no o!r reason = its celebration4 ,t9 w$d+s1 :i* occur aft] t5 ye>s h pass$ ov] two m>ri$ heads1 are signals = a g5]al frolic4 ,n only are ! usual t9 ut5sils :i* c be us$ = ! kit*5 & h\sehold purposes (f]$1 b fanta/ic designs & ornam5ts are gott5 up = ! purpose ( rais+ a laugh4 ,"o "y bride receiv$ a h&some *eck f h] fa!r-9-law1 :o labell$ x ,t91 & s5t x to h] 9 a t9 pocket-book elaborately con/ruct$ = ! purpose4 ,"o v pretty t9 f5d] 0 con/ruct$ = ! fireplace ( ano!r1 & 0 n s ugly4 ,a t9 scre51 t9 *&eli]s1 t9 fans1 & t9 tables h be5 (f]$4 ,if ^! s]ve no o!r purpose1 !y d admirably = !atrical prop]ties lat]1 if ! family l private plays1 etc41 at home4 ,wood5 w$d+s occur aft] five ye>s ( m>riage1 & af=d ! bride mu* refurni%+ ( ! kit*51 & n[adays "s beautiful pres5ts ( wood-c>v+4 ,! wood5 w$d+1 :i* 0 begun 9 je/ ) a /ep-ladd] & a roll+-p9 sev]al ye>s ago1 n[ ?reat5s to become a v spl5did anniv]s>y inde$1 s9ce ! art ( c>v+ 9 wood is s popul>1 & s mu* practis$ by m5 & wom54 ,e "o is ready = a c>v$ box1 picture-frame1 scre51 sidebo>d1 *air1 bureau1 dress+-table1 crib1 or b$/ead4 ,let no "o be afraid to (f] a bit ( wood arti/ically c>v$4 ,ev]y?+ is 9 ord] b wood5 nutmegs2 !y are rul$ out4 ,at "o ( ! gold5 w$d+s ( ! ,ro?s*ilds we read ( su* pres5ts z a solid gold d9n] s]vice2 a *as$ cup ( ,b5v5uto ,cell9i 9 solid gold1 enri*$ ) preci\s /ones2 a box1 ) cov] ( gold1 9 ! e>ly ,r5aissance1 ) head ( ,m>ie de ,m$icis 9 oxidiz$ gold2 ( r+s f ,cyprus1 conta9+ sapphires f ! tombs ( ! ,crusad]s2 ( solid cry/als cut 9 dr9k+ cups1 ) h&les ( gold2 ( jade goblets set 9 gold sauc]s2 ( s++-birds 9 gold2 & ( toilet appliances1 all 9 solid gold1 n to speak ( *a9s1 r+s1 etc4 ,?is is luxury1 & z su* to be comm5d$ to ^? :o c af=d x4 ,b x mu/ entail great inconv5i5ce4 ,gold is s valuable t a small piece ( x goes a great way1 & ev5 a ,ro?s*ild w\ld n l to leave out a gold dress+-case1 le/ x might tempt ! mo/ hone/ ( wait+-wom54 ,no d\bt "s ( our millionaire ,am]icans c af=d su* gold5 w$d+-pres5ts1 b ( c\rse !y are r>e1 & ev5 if common1 w\ld be less 9 keep+ ?an "s less magnific5t gifts4 ,our republican simplicity w\ld be outrag$ & %ock$ at see+ s mu* co9 ( ! realm kept out ( circulation4 ,!re are1 h[ev]1 %\ld we wi% to make a pres5t to a bride ( fifty ye>s' /&+1 _m *>m+ bits ( gold jewell]y v becom+1 v arti/ic1 & n too exp5sive = a mod]ate purse4 ,!re are ! delicate productions ( ,ca/ellani1 ! gold & enamel ( ,v5ice1 ! gold-"w ( sev]al diff]5t colors :i* has become s arti/ic2 !re are ! mod]n antiques1 copi$ f ! ,pho5ician jewell]y f\nd at ,cyprus--^! made into p9s = ! cap1 p5dants = ! neck1 r+s & bracelets1 boxes = ! hold+ ( small sweetmeats1 s fa%ionable _m ye>s ago1 are pretty pres5ts = an eld]ly lady4 ,= a g5tleman x is m difficult to f9d s\v5irs4 ,we mu/ ackn[l$ge t x is always difficult to select a pres5t = a g5tleman4 ,unless he has z _m feet z ,bri>eus _h h&s1 or unless he is a c5tip$e1 he _c we> all ! slipp]s giv5 to him2 & ! %irt-/uds & sleeve-buttons are equally burd5some4 ,r+s are n[ =tunately 9 fa%ion1 & c be z exp5sive z "o pleases4 ,b "o almo/ regrets ! disuse ( snuff1 z t gave occasion = _m beautiful boxes4 ,x w\ld be difficult to f9d1 h[ev]1 su* gold snuffboxes z 7 once h&$ r\nd among mon>*s & among weal?y snuff]s4 ,! giv+ ( w$d+-pres5ts has _h to endure _m *anges s9ce its fir/ beg9n+1 :i* 0 a wise & g5]\s desire to help ! "y pair to beg9 h\se-keep+4 ,x has become n[ an occasion ( o/5tation4 ,s ) ! gifts at ! gold & silv] w$d+s4 ,!y h almo/ ceas$ to be fri5dly (f]+s1 & are (t5] a pro( ( ! giv]'s weal? ?an ( 8 love4 ,no wond] t "s delicate-m9d$ p1 wi%+ to celebrate _! silv] w$d+1 cause a l9e to be pr9t$ on _! invitations1 ,no pres5ts receiv$4 ,=eign]s h a beautiful cu/om1 :i* we h n1 ( rememb]+ e fte day1 e bir?day1 e sa9t's day1 9 a fri5d's cal5d>4 ,a b\quet1 a pres5t ( fruit1 a k9d note1 a little celebration :i* co/s no?+1 occurs 9 e family on papa's bir?day or mamma's fte day4 ,b z we h no?+ ( t sort1 & z mo/ p pref] t1 z 9 ! case ( ! h]o ( ! ,pirates1 a bir?day %all only come once 9 f\r ye>s1 x is well = u to celebrate ! t91 silv]1 & gold5 w$d+s4 ,! tw5tie? anniv]s>y ( "o's w$d+ is nev] celebrat$4 ,x is consid]$ v unlucky to d s4 ,! ,scot* ?9k "o or ! o!r w die )9 ! ye> if ! tw5tie? anniv]s>y is ev5 allud$ to4 ,,*apt] ,,xv4 ,,! ,,etiquette ,,( ,,balls4 ,a ho/ess mu/ n use ! ^w ball on h] invitation-c>ds4 ,%e may say1 ,mrs4 ,john ,br[n reque/s ! pleasure ( ! company ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,amos ,smi? on ,?ursday ev5+1 ,novemb] tw5ty-second1 at n9e o'clock4 ,danc+4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,or1 ,mrs4 ,john ,br[n ,at ,home ,?ursday ev5+1 ,novemb] tw5ty-second1 at n9e o'clock4 ,cotillion at t54 ,r4 ,s4 ,v4 ,p4 ,b %e %\ld n indicate fur!r ! purpose ( h] p>ty4 ,9 ,new ,york1 :]e "y ladies are introduc$ to society by means ( a ball at ,delmonico's1 ! invitation is frequ5tly word$1 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,amos ,smi? reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company ,?ursday ev5+1 ,novemb] tw5ty-second1 at n9e o'clock4 ,delmonico' s4 ,! c>d ( ! "y dbutante is sometimes 7al?\gh n always7 enclos$4 ,if ^! invitations are s5t to new acqua9tances1 or to /rang]s 9 t[n1 ! c>d ( ! g5tleman is enclos$ to g5tlem51 t ( bo? ! g5tleman & 8 wife to ladies & g5tlem51 if x is a fir/ invitation4 ,a ballroom %\ld be v well light$1 exce$+ly well v5tilat$1 & v gayly dress$4 ,x is ! height ( ! gayety ( ! day2 & al?\gh d9n] calls = h&some dress1 a ball dem&s x4 ,"y p]sons ( sl5d] figure pref] light1 diaphan\s dresses2 ! *ap]ons c we> heavy velvet & brocade4 ,jewels are 9 ord]4 ,a pr(usion ( fl[]s 9 ! h&s ( ! wom5 %\ld add _! brightness & p]fume to ! rooms4 ,! great numb] ( b\quets s5t to a dbutante is (t5 emb>rass+4 ,! pres5t fa%ion is to h !m hung1 by diff]5t ribbons1 on ! arm1 s t !y look z if almo/ a trimm+ to ! dress4 ,g5tlem5 :o h n select$ p>tn]s be=e ! ball come to _! ho/ess & ask to be pres5t$ to ladies :o w dance ) !m4 ,z a ho/ess _c leave h] place :ile receiv+1 & p come at all h\rs to a ball1 %e g5]ally asks two or ?ree well-kn[n society fri5ds to receive ) h]1 :o w take ?is "p ( h] duty (f h] h&s1 = no ho/ess likes to see wall-fl[]s at h] ball3 %e wi%es all h] "y p to enjoy !mselves4 ,well-br$ "y m5 always say to ! ho/ess t !y beg ( h] to introduce !m to ladies :o may be )\t p>tn]s1 z !y w\ld gladly make !mselves useful to h]4 ,aft] danc+ ) a lady1 & walk+ ab\t ! room ) h] = a few times1 a g5tleman is at p]fect lib]ty to take ! "y lady back to h] *ap]on & plead ano!r engagem5t4 ,a great drawback to balls 9 ,am]ica is ! lack ( conv5i5ce = ^? :o wi% to rema9 seat$4 ,9 ,europe1 :]e ! eld]ly are fir/ consid]$1 seats are plac$ ar\nd ! room1 some:at high1 = ! *ap]ons1 & at _! feet sit ! debutantes4 ,^! r$-cov]$ s(as1 9 two ti]s1 z x 71 are br\ght 9 by ! uphol/]] 7z we hire *airs = ! cr[d$ musicales or read+s s common 9 l>ge cities71 & are v conv5i5t4 ,x is /range t all l>ge halls are n furni%$ ) !m1 z !y make e "o com=table at v little exp5se1 & add to ! appe>ance ( ! room4 ,a r[ ( well-dress$ ladies1 9 velvet1 brocade1 & diamonds1 "s ) :ite hair1 c]ta9ly =ms a v di/+ui%$ backgr\nd = ^? :o sit at _! feet4 ,supp] is g5]ally s]v$ all ! ev5+ f a table on :i* fl[]s1 fruits1 c&elabra1 silv]1 & glass are display$1 & :i* is load$ ) hot oy/]s1 bon$ turkey1 salmon1 game pts1 salads1 ices1 jellies1 & fruits1 f ! comm5cem5t ( ! ev5+4 ,a hot supp]1 ) pl5tiful cups ( b\illon1 is s]v$ aga9 = ^? :o dance ! g]man4 ,b if ! ho/ess s pref]1 ! supp] is n s]v$ until %e gives ! ^w1 :5 h] husb& leads ! way ) ! mo/ di/+ui%$ lady pres5t1 ! re/ ( ! company foll[+4 ,! ho/ess r>ely goes 9 to supp] until e "o has be5 s]v$4 ,%e takes ! opportunity ( walk+ ab\t h] ballroom to see if e "o is happy & att5d$ to4 ,if %e does g to supp]1 x is 9 ord] to accompany "s di/+ui%$ gue/--l ! ,presid5t1 = in/ance4 ,?is is1 h[ev]1 a po9t :i* may be left to ! tact ( ! ho/ess4 ,a "y lady is n apt to =get h] ballroom engagem5ts1 b %e %\ld be sure n to d s4 ,%e mu/ be c>eful n to (f5d "o g5tleman by refus+ to dance ) him1 & !n accept+ ! (f] ( ano!r4 ,su* ?+s1 done by frivol\s girls1 injure a "y man's feel+s unnecess>ily1 & prove t ! "y lady has n _h ! tra9+ ( a g5tlewoman4 ,a "y man %\ld n =get if he has ask$ a "y lady = ! g]man4 ,he mu/ s5d h] a b\quet1 & be on h& to dance ) h]4 ,if kept away by sickness1 or a dea? 9 8 family1 he mu/ s5d h] a note be=e ! appo9t$ h\r4 ,x is n necess>y to take leave ( y\r ho/ess at a ball4 ,all t %e requires ( y is to b[ to h] on ent]+1 & to make y\rself z agreeable & happy z y c :ile 9 h] h\se4 ,"y m5 are n always z polite z !y %\ld be at balls4 ,!y ought1 if well-br$1 to look ab\t1 & see if any lady has be5 left unatt5d$ at supp]1 to ask if !y c g = refre%m5ts1 if !y c lead a lady to a seat1 g = a c>riage1 etc4 ,x is n an imp]t95ce = a "y man ?us to speak to a lady old] ?an himself1 ev5 if he has n be5 introduc$2 ! ro( is a suffici5t introduction = any su* purpose4 ,! fir/ p]sons ask$ to dance by ! "y g5tlem5 invit$ to a h\se %\ld be ! daught]s ( ! h\se4 ,to !m & to _! imm$iate relatives & fri5ds mu/ ! fir/ att5tions be paid4 ,x is n wise = "y ladies to jo9 9 e dance1 nor %\ld a "y *ap]on dance1 leav+ h] protege sitt+4 ,! v bad ,am]ican cu/om ( s5d+ sev]al "y girls to a ball ) a v "y *ap]on--p]haps "o ( _! numb] :o has j be5 m>ri$--has l$ to great vulg>ity 9 our ,am]ican city life1 n to say to t g5]al misappreh5sion ( =eign]s :i* (f5ds )\t correct+ our national vanity4 ,a "m %\ld endeavor to att5d balls ) h] daught]s1 & to /ay z long z !y d4 ,b _m mo!rs say1 ,we are n invit$3 !re is n room = u4 ,!n h] daught]s %\ld n accept4 ,x is a v poor ,am]ican cu/om n to invite ! mo!rs4 ,let a lady give two or ?ree balls1 if h] li/ is s l>ge t %e c only invite ! daught]s4 ,if x be absolutely necess>y to limit ! invitations1 ! fa!r %\ld g ) ! daught]s1 = :o else is to escort !m to _! c>riage1 take c>e ( !m if !y fa9t1 or look to _! special or accid5tal wants8 ,! fact t a few e/abli%$ old vet]ans ( society insi/ ^u lagg+ sup]flu\s on ! /age %\ld n det] ladies :o ent]ta9 f be+ true to ! ideas ( ! be/ society1 :i* c]ta9ly are 9 favor ( *ap]onage4 ,a lady %\ld n ov]cr[d h] rooms4 ,to put five hundr$ p into a hot room1 ) no *airs to re/ 91 & little air to brea!1 is to apply a v cruel te/ to fri5d%ip4 ,x is ?is impossibility ( putt+ "o's five hundr$ de> fri5ds into a n>r[ h\se :i* has l$ to ! giv+ ( balls at public rooms--an innovation :i* %ock$ a ,fr5* woman ( rank :o m>ri$ an ,am]ican4 ,y h no safegu>d = society 9 ,am]ica1 %e obs]v$1 b y\r homes4 ,no ari/ocracy1 no k+1 no c\rts1 no traditions1 b ! sacr$ "o ( home4 ,n[1 d y n run great risks :5 y ab&on y\r homes1 & br+ out y\r girls at a hotel8 ,!re is some?+ 9 h] wise rem>ks2 & ) ! c>elessness ( *ap]onage 9 cities :i* are n[ l>gely populat$ by irresponsible =eign]s ! dang]s increase4 ,! fir/ duty ( a g5tleman on ent]+ a ballroom is to make 8 b[ to ! lady ( ! h\se & to h] daught]s2 he %\ld !n /rive to f9d 8 ho/--a v difficult bus9ess sometimes4 ,"y m5 are to be v mu* c5sur$1 h[ev]1 :o d n f9d out _! ho/1 & insi/ on be+ pres5t$ to him4 ,pat]familias 9 ,am]ica is sometimes ?\ght to hold a v insignificant place 9 8 own h\se1 & be good = no?+ b to draw *ecks4 ,?is is indicative ( a v l[ social condition1 & no man invit$ to a g5tleman's h\se %\ld leave x until he has made 8 b[ to ! head !re(4 ,x is prop] = intimate fri5ds to ask = invitations = o!r fri5ds to a ball1 p>ticul>ly = "y g5tlem5 :o are danc+ m54 ,m prud5ce %\ld be ex]cis$ 9 ask+ 9 behalf ( ladies1 b ! ho/ess has always ! privilege ( say+ t h] li/ is full1 if %e does n wi% to invite h] fri5ds' fri5ds4 ,no (f5ce %\ld be tak5 if ?is refusal be giv5 politely4 ,9 a majority ( luxuri\s h\ses a tea-room is op5 f ! beg9n+ to ! end ( a ball1 frequ5tly on ! second /ory1 :]e b\illon1 tea1 c(fee1 & mac>oons are 9 ord]1 or a plate ( s&wi*es1 or any su* light refre%m5t1 = ^? :o d n wi% a heavy supp]4 ,a l>ge b[l ( ic$ lemonade is also 9 ?is room--a mo/ grateful refre%m5t aft] leav+ a hot ballroom4 ,! practice ( putt+ cra% ov] c>pets has prov$ s unheal?y to ! danc]s1 on acc\nt ( ! f9e fuzz :i* rises f x 9 danc+1 t x is n[ almo/ :olly ab&on$2 & p>quet floors are becom+ s common1 & ! danc+ on !m is s mu* m agreeable 9 e way1 t ladies h _! heavy p>lor c>pets tak5 up be=e a ball r ?an lay a cra%4 ,a smok+-room1 up or d[n /airs1 is set ap>t = ! g5tlem51 :]e1 9 "s h\ses1 cig>s & br&y & eff]vesc5t wat]s are furni%$4 ,if ?is provision be n made1 x is ! height ( indelicacy = g5tlem5 to smoke 9 ! dress+-rooms4 ,! bad conduct ( "y m5 at l>ge balls1 :]e !y abuse _! privileges by smok+1 gett+ drunk at supp]1 eat+ unreasonably1 blockad+ ! tables1 & behav+ 9 an unseemly mann]1 ev5 com+ to bl[s 9 ! supp]-rooms1 has be5 dwelt ^u 9 ! annals ( ! pa/1 :i* annals ev] rema9 a disgrace to ! "y fa%ionables ( any city4 ,happily1 su* brea*es ( decorum are n[ s r>e t !re is no ne$ to t\* ^u !m "h4 ,_m ( our correspond5ts ask ! emb>rass+ "q1 ,:o is x prop] to invite to a fir/ ball8 ,?is is a "q :i* _c be answ]$ 9 a g5]al way4 ,! tact & delicacy ( ! ho/ mu/ decide x4 ,at public balls !re %\ld be manag]s1 u%]s1 /ew>ds1 &1 if possible1 a committee ( ladies to receive4 ,x is v mu* m conducive to ! elegance ( a ball if !re be a recogniz$ ho/ess1 or committee ( ho/esses3 ! v aspect ( ! room is ?us improv$4 ,& to a /rang] f ano!r city ^! ladies %\ld be hospitable1 tak+ c>e t %e be introduc$ & treat$ ) suitable att5tion4 ,an awn+ & c>pet %\ld be plac$ at ! front entrance ( a h\se 9 :i* a ball is to be giv51 to protect ! gue/s aga9/ ! wea!r & ! gaze ( ! cr[d ( by-/&]s :o always ga!r 9 a great city to see ! well-dress$ ladies alight4 ,un=tunately1 9 a heavy ra9 ^! awn+s are mo/ objectionable2 !y are n wat]-pro(1 & z soon z !y are ?or\ghly wet !y af=d no protection :atev]4 ,! cotillion /yl$ ! ,g]man 0 fir/ danc$ by ! ,g]man c\rt j aft] ! battle ( ,wat]loo1 probably at ! ball at ,aix-la-,*apelle giv5 to ! alli$ sov]eigns4 ,favors are giv5 m]ely to promote enjoym5t & to give v>iety4 ,x is n necess>y t p be matrimonially engag$ to dance x4 ,"o engages 8 p>tn] = x z = any o!r dance4 ,x _h be5 fa%ionable 9 ,europe _m ye>s be=e x came to ?is c\ntry1 b has be5 danc$ "h = ov] =ty ye>s1 fir/ com+ out at ,wa%+ton4 ,,*apt] ,,xvi4 ,,fa%ionable ,,danc+4 ,! return to quadrilles at "s ( ! late/ balls at ,delmonico's 9 ! w9t] ( #ahhd 0 an important epo* 9 ! hi/ory ( danc+1 reit]at+ ! well-kn[n prov]b ( ! dressmak]s t ev]y?+ comes r\nd 9 fifty ye>s4 ,fa%ion seems to be p]5nial 9 ?is way1 = x is almo/ fifty ye>s--c]ta9ly =ty--s9ce ! quadrille 0 at ! height ( fa%ion4 ,9 ,g]many1 :]e !y dance = danc+'s sake1 ! quadrille 0 long ago vot$ rococo & /iff4 ,9 ,engl& & at c\rt balls x s]v$ always z a way1 a dignifi$ mann]1 = sov]eigns & p ( inconv5i5tly high rank to beg9 a ball1 to op5 a fe/ivity1 & x _h a sporadic exi/5ce 9 ! c\ntry & at ,wa%+ton ev5 dur+ ! ye>s :5 ! ,lanc]s1 a mu* liveli] dance1 _h *as$ x away f ! ,new ,york balls = a long p]iod ( "t4 ,! quadrille is a /ately & a conv]sational dance4 ,! figures are accurate1 & e "o %\ld "k !m well en\gh to respond to ! voice ( ! lead]4 ,b inasmu* z ! figures are always call+ "o away f 8 p>tn]1 ! fir/ law is to h a l>ge supply ( small-talk1 s t1 on rejo9+1 a rem>k & a smile may make up = lo/ "t4 ,a calm1 graceful c>riage1 ! p[] to make an elegant c\rtesy1 are necess>y to a lady4 ,no "o 9 ^! days takes /eps2 a sort ( galop is1 h[ev]1 all[$ 9 ! rapid figures ( ! quadrille4 ,a defiant mann]1 sometimes assum$ by a ba%ful man1 is out ( place1 al?\gh !re are c]ta9 figures :i* make a man feel r defiant4 ,"o ( ^! is :]e he is oblig$1 z cavali] seul1 to advance to ?ree ladies1 :o frequ5tly laugh at him4 ,!n a man %\ld equally avoid a boi/]\s demeanor 9 a quadrille2 n sw++ ! lady r\nd too gayly4 ,x is nev] a romp+ dance1 l ! ,virg9ia reel1 = in/ance4 ,all p are apt to walk ?r\gh a quadrille sl[ly1 to music1 until !y come to ! ladies' *a9 or ! prom5ade4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 p]missible to add a little sw++-/ep & a graceful danc+-movem5t to ?is /ately prom5ade4 ,a quadrille _c g on ev5ly if any confusion arises f ! ignorance1 ob/9acy1 or inatt5tion ( "o ( ! danc]s4 ,x is prop]1 !re=e1 if ignorant ( ! figures1 to consult a danc+-ma/] & to le>n !m4 ,x is a mo/ valuable dance1 z all ages1 sizes1 & conditions ( m5 & wom5 c jo9 9 x4 ,! "y1 old1 /\t1 ?91 lazy1 active1 maim$1 or s+le1 )\t loss ( ca/e1 c dance a quadrille4 ,no "o looks ridicul\s danc+ a quadrille4 ,x is decid$ly easi] ?an ! ,g]man1 makes a break 9 a tte- -tte conv]sation1 & enables a g5tleman to be polite to a lady :o may n be a good danc] = waltz or polka4 ,! morality ( r\nd dances seems n[ to be little que/ion$4 ,at any rate1 "y girls 9 ! pres5ce ( _! mo!rs are n suppos$ to come to h>m f _! enjoym5t4 ,danc+ is "o ( ! olde/1 ! mo/ hi/orical1 =ms ( amusem5t4 ,ev5 ,socrates le>n$ to dance4 ,!re is no long] an excommunication on ! waltz1 t dance :i* ,byron abus$4 ,9 ,engl& ! valse deux temps is /ill ! mo/ fa%ionable1 z x always w be ! mo/ beautiful1 ( dances4 ,"s ( ! critics ( all c\ntries h said t only ,g]mans1 ,russians1 & ,am]icans c dance x4 ,! ,g]mans dance x v quickly1 ) a great deal ( motion1 b r5d] x elegant by slack+ ! pace e n[ & !n4 ,! ,russians waltz s quietly1 on ! contr>y1 t !y c g r\nd ! room hold+ a brimm+ glass ( *ampagne )\t spill+ a drop4 ,?is ev5ness 9 waltz+ is v graceful1 & c only be rea*$ by long practice1 a good e> = music1 & a natural gracefulness4 ,"y ,am]icans1 :o1 z a rule1 are ! be/ danc]s 9 ! _w1 a*ieve ?is /ep to admiration4 ,x is ! g5tleman's duty 9 any r\nd dance to guide 8 fair companion gracefully2 he mu/ n risk a collision or ! *ance ( a fall4 ,a lady %\ld nev] waltz if %e feels dizzy4 ,x is a sign ( disease ( ! he>t1 & has br\ght on dea?4 ,nei!r %\ld %e /ep flat-foot$1 & make h] p>tn] c>ry h] r\nd2 b mu/ d h] "p ( ! "w1 & dance lightly & well1 or n at all4 ,!n1 aga91 nei!r %\ld h] p>tn] waltz on ! tip ( 8 toes1 nor lift 8 p>tn] too mu* (f ! floor2 all %\ld be smoo?1 graceful1 delicate4 ,! ,am]ican dance ( ! season is1 h[ev]1 ! polka--n ! old-fa%ion$ heel & toe1 b ! /ep1 quick & gay1 ( ! ,sclavonic nationalities4 ,x may be danc$ sl[ly or quickly4 ,x is always1 h[ev]1 a spirit$ /ep1 & ! music is und\bt$ly pretty4 ,! danc+-ma/]s describe ! /ep ( a polka z be+ a hop1 ?ree glides1 & a re/1 & ! music is two-f\r "t4 ,9 ord] to apply ! /ep to ! music "o mu/ make x 9 f\r-eight "t1 c\nt+ f\r to ea* measure ( ! music1 ea* measure tak+ ab\t a second ( "t by ! wat*4 ,! polka r$[a & ! polka maz\rka are modifications ( ?is /ep to diff]5t times4 ,! galop is ano!r fa%ionable dance ?is w9t]4 ,x is v easy1 & is danc$ to v quick music2 x is inspirit+ at ! end ( a ball4 ,! m9uet de la c\r 0 fir/ danc$ 9 ! anci5t prov9ce ( ,poit\1 ,france4 ,9 ,p>is1 9 #afec1 ,l\is ,,xiv41 :o 0 passionately fond ( x1 danc$ x to p]fection4 ,9 #agaj1 ,m>cel1 ! r5[n$ danc+-ma/]1 introduc$ x into ,engl&4 ,!n x w5t out = _m ye>s1 until ,que5 ,victoria reviv$ x at a bal co/um at ,buck+ham ,palace 9 #ahde4 ,9 ,new ,york x 0 reviv$ & ard5tly practis$ = ,mrs4 ,w4 ,k4 ,v&]bilt's spl5did fancy ball 9 #ahhc1 & x 0 mu* admir$4 ,!re seems no reason :y ! grace1 ! dignity1 ! cont9u\s movem5t2 ! c\rtesy1 ! pas grace1 ! skilfully-manag$ tra91 ! play ) ! fan1 %\ld n comm5d ?is elegant dance to ev5 our republican danc]s2 b x has n be5 danc$ ?is w9t]4 ,x is possibly too mu* tr\ble4 ,a danc+-ma/] work$ all w9t] to tea* x to ! p]=m]s ( ! la/ season4 ,to make a c\rtesy 7or1 z we are fond ( say+1 a curtsy7 prop]ly is a v difficult art1 yet all :o dance ! quadrille mu/ le>n x4 ,to c\rtesy to h] p>tn] ! lady /eps (f ) ! "r foot1 c>ry+ ne>ly all h] weight ^u x1 at ! same "t rais+ ! heel ( ! left foot1 ?us plac+ h]self 9 ! second position1 fac+ h] p>tn]1 c\nt+ "o4 ,%e !n glides ! left foot backw>d & across till ! toe ( ! left foot is directly beh9d ! "r heel1 ! feet ab\t "o half ( ! l5g? ( ! foot ap>t4 ,?is glide comm5ces on ! ball ( ! left foot1 & t]m9ates ) bo? feet flat ^u ! floor1 & ! transf] ( ! weight to ! backw>d foot4 ,! b5d+ ( ! knees & ! ca/+ d[n ( ! eyes beg9 ) ! comm5cem5t ( ! glide ) ! left foot1 & ! g5uflection is /eadily cont9u$ until ! left foot rea*es ! position requir$1 c\nt+ two2 !n1 )\t *ang+ ! weight f ! backw>d foot1 %e gradually rises1 at ! same "t rais+ ! =w>d heel & lift+ ! eyes1 until %e recov]s h] full height1 c\nt+ ?ree2 & f9ally transf]s ! weight to ! =w>d foot1 c\nt+ f\r4 ,su* is ! elaborate & ! graceful c\rtesy4 ,x %\ld be /udi$ ) a ma/]4 ,! ,g]man 7! ,cotillon1 z ! ,fr5* call x7 is1 h[ev]1 & probably long w be1 ! mo/ fa%ionable dance 9 society4 ,x ends e ball 9 ,new ,york1 ,wa%+ton1 ,bo/on1 ,philadelphia1 & ,newport2 x is a "p ( ! bus9ess ( life1 & dem&s consummate skill 9 its lead]%ip4 ,any numb] may jo9 9 x2 x (t5 rea*es twice ar\nd a l>ge ballroom4 ,all ! c\ples 9 x are reg>d$ z introduc$ to ea* o!r4 ,no lady c refuse to dance ) any g5tleman :o is br\ght to h] 9 ! ,g]man4 ,s long z %e rema9s 9 ! *>m$ circle %e mu/ dance ) any "o 9 x4 ,!re=e ! ,g]man mu/ only be introduc$ at select assemblies1 n at a public ball4 ,! lead] op5s ! ,g]man by motion+ to c]ta9 c\ples to make a t\r de valse r\nd ! room4 ,_m ( our correspond5ts write to ask u :at are ! late/ & ! favorite figures 9 ! ,g]man4 ,?is is a difficult "q to answ]1 z ! lead] always has 8 own favorite figures4 ,! ,g]man g5]ally beg9s ) l'avant trois d\ble1 :i* may be g5]ally describ$ ?us3 ! lead]1 hav+ p]=m$ ! t\r de valse ) 8 p>tn]1 leaves h]1 & br+s =w>d two o!r ladies2 8 lady br+s =w>d two o!r g5tlem52 ! two trios place !mselves opposite ea* o!r1 !n =w>d & back1 & ea* g5tleman ) ! lady 9 front ( him p]=ms a t\r de valse4 ,%\ld ! company be l>ge1 two or m c\ples may />t toge!r1 ea* c\ple *oos+ o!r ladies & g5tlem5 9 ! same mann] z ! fir/ c\ple4 ,!n comes ,la ,*aise aft] ! t\r de valse4 ,! lead] places 8 p>tn] 9 a *air 9 ! c5tre ( ! room2 he !n br+s =w>d two g5tlem5 & pres5ts !m to ! lady1 :o *ooses "o ( !m1 aft] :i* he seats ! g5tleman :o is reject$1 & br+s to him two ladies2 he also selects a p>tn]1 & ! lead] dances ) ! refus$ lady to h] place4 ,?is figure may be danc$ by any numb] ( c\ples4 ,les ,drapeaux is a favorite figure4 ,five or six duplicate sets ( small flags ( national or fancy devices mu/ be 9 read9ess4 ,! lead] takes a flag ( ea* patt]n1 & 8 p>tn] takes ! duplicate4 ,!y p]=m a t\r de valse4 ,! conductor !n pres5ts 8 flags to five or six ladies1 & 8 p>tn] pres5ts ! correspond+ flags to z _m g5tlem54 ,! g5tlem5 !n seek ! ladies hav+ ! duplicates1 & ) !m p]=m a t\r de valse1 wav+ ! flags z !y dance4 ,repeat$ by all ! c\ples4 ,les ,b\quets br+s 9 ! favors4 ,a numb] ( small b\quets & b\tonni]es are plac$ ^u a table or 9 a basket4 ,! fir/ c\ple p]=m a t\r de valse2 !y !n sep>ate4 ,! g5tleman takes a b\quet1 & ! lady a b\tonni]e4 ,!y n[ select new p>tn]s1 to :om !y pres5t ! b\quet & b\tonni]e1 ! lady atta*+ ! b\tonni]e to ! g5tleman's coat4 ,!y p]=m a t\r de valse ) _! new p>tn]s4 ,repeat$ by all ! c\ples4 ,o!r favors are frequ5tly sub/itut$ = b\quets & b\tonni]es1 su* z rosettes1 m9iature flags1 artificial butt]flies1 badges1 sa%es1 bonbons1 little bells 7! latt] be+ atta*$ to small pieces ( ribbon & p9n$ to ! coat or dress71 sc>f-p9s1 bangles1 fans1 caps1 imitation antique co9s1 brea/p9s1 lace p9s1 lockets2 & ev5 gifts ( great value1 su* z %awls1 sc>fs1 vases1 picture-frames1 writ+-desks1 & *airs 7repres5t$1 ( c\rse1 by tickets7 h be5 ?is w9t] introduc$ 9 ! g]man4 ,b ! *eap1 light1 fanta/ic ?+s are ! be/1 & contribute m to ! amusem5t ( ! company4 ,"s ( ! figures ( ! ,g]man bord] on ! romp4 ,"o ( ^! is call$ ,la ,corde4 ,a rope is /ret*$ by ! lead+ c\ple across ! room1 & ! g5tlem5 jump ov] x to rea* _! p>tn]s4 ,mu* amusem5t is occasion$ by ! tripp+ ( g5tlem5 :o are ?r[n by ! int5tional rais+ ( ! rope4 ,aft] all h rea*$ _! p>tn]s !y p]=m a t\r de valse1 & rega9 _! seats4 ,?is is a figure n to be comm5d$4 ,/ill less is ! figure call$ ,les ,masques4 ,! g5tlem5 put on masques resembl+ ,bully ,bottom & o!r grotesque faces & heads ( animals4 ,!y raise ^! heads above a scre51 ! ladies *oos+ p>tn]s )\t kn[+ !m2 ! g5tlem5 rema9 en masque until ! t]m9ation ( ! t\r de valse4 ,?is figure 0 danc$ at ,delmonico's & at ! ,brunswick la/ w9t]1 & ! mammas compla9$ t ! fun grew r too fa/ & furi\s4 ,les ,rubans is a v pretty figure4 ,six ribbons1 ea* ab\t a y>d 9 l5g?1 & ( v>i\s colors1 are atta*$ to "o end ( a /ick ab\t tw5ty-f\r in*es 9 l5g?1 also a duplicate set ( ribbons1 atta*$ to ano!r /ick1 mu/ be 9 read9ess4 ,! fir/ c\ple p]=m a t\r de valse1 !n sep>ate2 ! g5tleman takes "o set ( ribbons1 & /ops successively 9 front ( ! ladies :om he desires to select to take "p 9 ! figure2 ea* ( ^! ladies rises & takes hold ( ! loose end ( ! ribbon2 ! fir/ lady takes ! o!r set ( ribbons1 br++ =w>d ! six g5tlem5 9 ! same mann]4 ,! fir/ c\ple conduct ! ladies & g5tlem5 t[>ds ea* o!r1 & ea* g5tleman dances ) ! lady hold+ ! ribbon duplicate ( 8 own2 ! fir/ g5tleman dances ) 8 p>tn]4 ,we might g on indef9itely ) ^! figures1 b h no m space4 ,! position ( a danc] %\ld be le>n$ ) ! aid ( a tea*]4 ,! upp] "p ( ! body %\ld be quiet2 ! head held 9 a natural position1 nei!r turn$ to "o side nor ! o!r2 ! eyes nei!r ca/ d[n nor up4 ,! g5tleman %\ld put 8 arm firmly ar\nd a lady's wai/1 n hold+ h] too close1 b firmly hold+ h] "r h& ) 8 left "o2 ! lady turns ! palm ( h] "r h& d[nw>d2 h] "r arm %\ld be ne>ly /raight1 b n /iff4 ,! g5tleman's left arm %\ld be slightly b5t1 8 elb[ incl9$ slightly backw>d4 ,x is v inelegant1 h[ev]--inde$1 vulg>--to place ! jo9$ h&s aga9/ ! g5tleman's side or hip2 !y %\ld be kept cle> ( ! body4 ,! /ep %\ld be 9 unison2 if ! g5tleman b5ds 8 "r elb[ too mu*1 he draws ! lady's left %\ld] aga9/ 8 "r1 !reby draw+ ! lady too close4 ,! g5tleman's "r %\ld] & ! lady's left %\ld be z f> ap>t z ! o!r %\ld]s4 ,if a g5tleman does n hold 8 p>tn] prop]ly1 !reby caus+ h] ei!r to /ruggle to be free or else to dance wildly = want ( prop] support1 if he p]mits himself & p>tn] to collide ) o!r c\ples1 he _c be consid]$ a good danc]4 ,,*apt] ,,xvii4 ,,lett]s ,,& ,,lett]-,,writ+4 ,! p]son :o c write a graceful note is always spok5 ( ) phrases ( comm5dation4 ,! epi/ol>y art is said to be especially fem99e1 & ! noveli/s & essayi/s are full ( complim5ts to ! sex1 :i* is alt]nately prais$ & objurgat$1 z man feels well or ill4 ,bulw] says3 ,a woman is ! g5ius ( epi/ol>y communication4 ,ev5 m5 write bett] to a woman ?an to "o ( _! own sex4 ,no d\bt !y conjure up1 :ile writ+1 ! lov+1 li/5+ face1 ! t5d]1 p>don+ he>t1 ! ready te> ( sympa?y1 & passionate confid5ces ( he>t & bra9 fl[ rapidly f ! p54 ,b !re is no su* ?+ n[ z an epi/ol>y /yle4 ,our imm$iate ance/ors wrote bett] & long] lett]s ?an we d4 ,!y cov]$ ?ree pages ( l>ge lett]-pap] ) cr[-quill h&writ+1 fold$ ! pap] neatly1 tuck$ "o edge b5ea? ! o!r 7= !re 7 no envelopes71 & !n seal$ x ) a waf] or ) seal+-wax4 ,to s5d "o ( ^! epi/les 0 exp5sive--tw5ty-five c5ts f ,new ,york to ,bo/on4 ,h[ev]1 ! electric telegraph & *eap po/age & po/al-c>ds may h be5 said1 9 a way1 to h ru9$ correspond5ce 9 ! old s5se2 lov]s & fond mo!rs d\btless /ill write long lett]s1 b ! bus9ess ( ! lett]-writ] prop] is at an end4 ,! writ+ ( notes has1 h[ev]1 correspond+ly increas$2 & ! la/ t5 ye>s h se5 a pr(use introduction ( emblazon$ cre/ & ciph]1 pictorial design1 & elaborate monogram 9 ! corn]s ( ord9>y note-pap]4 ,! old illum9at$ missal ( ! monks1 ! fancy ( ! ,japanese1 ! ev]-ready ta/e ( ! ,fr5*1 all h be5 exhau/$ to satisfy t always hungry caprice :i* calls = some?+ new4 ,! frequ5cy ) :i* notes ^u bus9ess & pleasure mu/ fly across a city & a cont95t has done away1 also1 ) ! seal+-wax1 ^: def9ite1 r$1 cle>1 oval 0 a fixture ) our gr&fa!rs1 & :i* is /ill ! only elegant1 =mal1 & c]emoni\s way ackn[l$g$ 9 ,engl&1 ( seal+ a lett]4 ,!re 71 h[ev]1 s]i\s objections to ! use ( wax 9 ?is c\ntry1 :i* 7 discov]$ dur+ ! e>ly voyages to ,cali=nia4 ,! int5se heat ( ! ,i/hmus ( ,panama melt$ ! wax1 & lett]s 7 irretrievably glu$ toge!r1 to ! loss ( ! address & ! confusion ( ! po/ma/]4 ,s ! glu$ envelope--common1 *eap1 & necess>y--became ! almo/ prevail+ fa%ion = all notes z well z lett]s4 ,! ta/e = color$ note-pap] ) fl[]s 9 ! corn] 0 common among ! belles ( ?irty ye>s ago--! rose-color$ & sc5t$ billet-d\x is (t5 ref]r$ to 9 ! novels ( t p]iod4 ,b color$ note-pap] fell into disuse long ago1 & = ! la/ few ye>s we h n se5 ! heavy t9ts4 ,a few pale gre5s1 grays1 blues1 & lilacs h1 inde$1 f\nd a place 9 fa%ionable /ation]y1 & a deep c(fee-color$1 heavy pap] _h a little run ab\t ?ree ye>s ago2 b at ! pres5t mom5t no color t is appreciable is consid]$ /yli%1 unless x be cru1 :i* is only a creamy :ite4 ,a long truce is at la/ bidd5 to ! fanciful1 emblazon$1 & color$ monogram2 ! cre/ & ciph] are laid on ! %elf1 & ladies h simply ! address ( _! city resid5ce1 or ! "n ( _! c\ntry place1 pr9t$ 9 "o corn] 7g5]ally 9 color71 or1 late/ device ( fa%ion1 a fac-simile ( _! initials1 c>efully engrav$1 & da%$ across ! corn] ( ! note-pap]4 ,! day ( ! week1 also copi$ f _! own h&writ+1 is (t5 impress$ ^u ! squ>e c>ds n[ s mu* 9 use = %ort notes1 or on ! note-pap]4 ,!re is "o fa%ion :i* has nev] *ang$1 & w nev] *ange1 :i* is always 9 good ta/e1 & :i*1 p]haps1 w\ld be to-day ! mo/ p]fect ( all /yles1 & t is1 good1 pla91 ?ick1 ,engli% notepap]1 fold$ squ>e1 put 9 a squ>e envelope1 & seal$ ) r$ seal+-wax :i* be>s ! impr9t ( ! writ]'s coat ( arms4 ,no "o c make any mi/ake :o uses su* /ation]y z ?is 9 any "p ( ! _w4 ,on su* pap] & 9 su* =m are ambassadors' notes writt52 on su* pap] & 9 su* /yle w\ld ! ,pr9cess ,l\ise write h] notes4 ,h[ev]1 !re is no law aga9/ ! monogram4 ,_m ladies /ill pref] x1 & always use ! pap] :i* has become famili> to _! fri5ds4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 a pa/ r ?an a pres5t fa%ion4 ,! plan ( hav+ all ! note-pap] m>k$ ) ! address is an admirable "o1 = x effectually rem9ds ! p]son :o receives ! note :]e ! answ] %\ld be s5t--in=mation ( :i* "s ladies =get ! importance1 & :i* %\ld always be writt51 if n pr9t$1 at ! head ( a lett]4 ,x also gives a /yli% f9i% to ! appe>ance ( ! note-pap]1 is simple1 unpret5d+1 & useful4 ,! ink %\ld inv>iably be black4 ,f ! v sup]ior1 la/+ qualities ( a c]ta9 purple fluid1 :i* nev] became ?ick 9 ! ink/&1 c]ta9 ladies1 a few ye>s ago1 us$ ! purple & lilac inks v mu*4 ,b !y are n elegant2 !y are n 9 fa%ion2 ! be/ note-writ]s d n use !m4 ,! pla9 black ink1 :i* gives ! writt5 *>act]s great di/9ctness1 is ! only fa%ionable m$ium4 ,e lady %\ld /udy to acquire an elegant1 free1 & educat$ h&2 !re is no?+ s useful1 s sure to comm5d ! writ] ev]y:]e1 z su* a *irography2 :ile a cramp$1 poor1 slov5ly1 un$ucat$1 un=m$ h&writ+ is sure to produce ! impression ^u ! read] t ^? qualities are m or less indicative ( ! writ]'s "*4 ,! angul> ,engli% h& is at pres5t ! fa%ion1 al?\gh less legible & n m beautiful ?an ! r\nd h&4 ,we _c ent] into t great "q z to :e!r or n h&writ+ is indicative ( "*2 b we hold t a p]son's notes are g5]ally *>act]i/ic1 & t a neat1 fl[+1 graceful h&1 & a clean %eet1 free f blots1 are always agreeable to ! eye4 ,! writ] ( notes1 also1 mu/ c>efully discrim9ate betwe5 ! famili> note & ! note ( c]emony1 & %\ld le>n h[ to write bo?4 ,cu/om dem&s t we beg9 all notes 9 ! fir/ p]son1 ) ! =mula ( ,my de> ,mrs4 ,smi?1 & t we close ) ! expressions1 ,y\rs cordially1 ,y\rs ) mu* reg>d1 etc4 ,! laws ( etiquette d n p]mit u to use num]als1 z #c1 #d1 #e1 b dem& t we write out ?ree1 f\r1 five4 ,no abbreviations are all[$ 9 a note to a fri5d1 z1 ,sd be glad to see y2 "o mu/ write out1 ,i %\ld be glad to see y4 ,! old] lett]-writ]s 7 punctili\s ab\t writ+ ! fir/ ^w ( ! page bel[ ! la/ l9e ( ! page prec$+ x4 ,! date %\ld foll[ ! sign+ ( ! "n4 ,a great & v common mi/ake exi/+ among c>eless lett]-writ]s is ! confusion ( ! fir/ & ?ird p]sons2 z a *ild w\ld write1 ,miss ,lucy ,cl>k w be happy to come to d9n]1 b ,i am go+ some:]e else4 ,?is is1 ( c\rse1 wildly ignorant & improp]4 ,a note 9 answ] to an invitation %\ld be writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 if ! invitation be 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,no abbreviations1 no visible hurry1 b an elaborate & f9i%$ c]emony %\ld m>k su* epi/les4 ,= in/ance1 an acceptance ( a d9n] invitation mu/ be writt5 9 ?is =m3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,cadogan h great pleasure 9 accept+ ! polite invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,su!rl& = d9n] on ! sev5te5? in/41 at sev5 o'clock4 #ah ,lomb>d ,squ>e4 ,july six?4 ,"o lady 9 ,new ,york 0 kn[n to answ] a d9n] invitation simply ) ! words1 ,come ) pleasure4 ,x is unnecess>y to add t %e 0 nev] invit$ aga94 ,x is impossible to give p]sons m9ute directions z to ! /yle ( a note1 = t mu/ be ! outgr[? ( ye>s ( c>eful education1 tra9+1 & good m5tal p[]s4 ,to write a pretty note is also some:at ( a gift4 ,"s "y m5 & "y girls f9d x v easy1 o!rs c sc>cely acquire ! p[]4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 absolutely necess>y to /rive = x4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 arrange y\r ideas1 "k :at y want to say1 & approa* ! bus9ess ( writ+ a note ) a c]ta9 ?\ghtfulness4 ,if x is necess>y to write x ha/ily1 summon all y\r p[]s ( m9d1 & try to make x brief1 intelligible1 & compreh5sive4 ,above all ?+s1 spell correctly4 ,a ^w badly spell$ /&s out l a blot on a famili> or a c]emoni\s note4 ,d n s5d a blurr$1 blott$1 slov5ly note to any "o2 x w rema9 to call up a c]ta9 prejudice aga9/ y 9 ! m9d ( ! recipi5t4 ,! fa%ion is n n[1 z x once 01 imp]ative t a m>g9 be left ar\nd ! edge ( ! pap]4 ,p n[ write all ov] ! pap]1 & ?us aboli% a c]ta9 elegance :i* ! old lett]s und\bt$ly possess$4 ,b po/age is a consid]ation1 & all we c ask ( ! y\?ful lett]-writ]s is t !y w n cross _! lett]s4 ,plaid lett]s are ! horror ( all p :o h n ! eyes ( a hawk4 ,no lett] or note %\ld be writt5 on rul$ pap]4 ,to d s is bo? inelegant & unfa%ionable1 & savors ( ! s*ool-room4 ,e "y p]son %\ld le>n to write )\t l9es4 ,! squ>e c>ds are mu* us$1 & are q l>ge en\gh = ! transmission ( all t a lady ord9>ily wi%es to say 9 giv+ or accept+ an invitation4 ,! day ( ! week & ! address are (t5 pr9t$ on ! c>d4 ,squ>e envelopes h also driv5 ! long ones f ! table ( ! elegant note-writ]1 & ! cu/om ( clos+ all c]emoni\s notes ) seal+-wax is /ill adh]$ to by ! mo/ fa/idi\s4 ,x w\ld be absurd1 h[ev]1 to say t x is ne>ly z common z ! m conv5i5t habit ( moi/5+ ! gumm$ envelope1 b x is f> m elegant1 & e "y p]son %\ld le>n h[ to seal a note prop]ly4 ,to get a good impression f an engrav$ /one seal1 ano9t x lightly ) l9se$-oil1 to keep ! wax f adh]+2 !n du/ x ) r\ge p[d] to take (f ! gloss1 & press x quickly1 b firmly1 on ! melt$ wax4 ,dates & num]ical designations1 su* z ! numb] ( a h\se1 may be writt5 9 ,arabic figures1 b quantities %\ld be express$ 9 words4 ,few abbreviations are respectful4 ,a m>ri$ lady %\ld always be address$ ) ! prefix ( h] husb&'s ,*ri/ian "n4 ,9 ?is c\ntry1 :]e we h no titles1 x is ! cu/om to abbreviate ev]y?+ except ! title ( ,rev]5d1 :i* we always give to ! cl]gy4 ,b x w\ld be bett] if we made a practice ( giv+ to ea* p]son 8 special title1 & to all return$ ambassadors1 memb]s ( ,congress1 & memb]s ( ! ,legislature ! title ( ,honorable4 ,! ,roman ,ca?olic cl]gy & ! bi%ops ( ! ,episcopal & ,me?odi/ *ur*es %\ld be address$ by _! prop] titles1 & a note %\ld be1 l a salutation1 infus$ ) respect4 ,x honors ! writ] & ! p]son to :om x is writt51 :ile a c>eless lett] may injure bo?4 ,,*apt] ,,xviii4 ,,co/ly ,,?y ,,habit4 ,we are (t5 ask$ z to ! appropriate dress to be worn at aft]noon tea1 at balls1 at d9n]s1 *ri/5+s1 etc4 ,neatness & simple elegance %\ld always *>act]ize a lady1 & aft] t %e may be z exp5sive z %e pleases1 if only at ! "r "t4 ,& we may say "h t simplicity & pla9ness *>act]ize _m a ri* woman 9 a high place2 & "o c always tell a real lady f an imitation "o by h] /yle ( dress4 ,vulg>ity is readily se5 ev5 "u a co/ly g>m5t4 ,!re %\ld be h>mony & fitness1 & suitability z to age & times & seasons4 ,e "o c avoid vulg>ity & slov5l9ess2 & 9 ^! days1 :5 ! fa%ions travel by telegraph1 "o c be la mode4 ,fr5* wom5 h a g5ius = dress4 ,an old or a middle-ag$ woman und]/&s h[ to make ! be/ ( h]self 9 ! assort+ & h>moniz+ ( colors2 %e nev] commits ! mi/ake ( mak+ h]self too y\?ful4 ,9 our c\ntry we (t5 see an old woman b$iz5$ l a ,figurante1 imag9+ t %e %all ga9 ! graces ( y\? by borr[+ its g>m5ts4 ,all ?is ap+ ( y\?ful dress multiplies ! wr9kles ( old age1 & makes its decay m conspicu\s4 ,= balls 9 ?is c\ntry1 eld]ly wom5 are n expect$ to g 9 l[ neck unless !y wi% to1 s t ! *ap]on c we> a dress su* z %e w\ld we> at a d9n]--ei!r a velvet or brocade1 cut 9 ,pompad\r %ape1 ) a pr(usion ( beautiful lace4 ,all h] ornam5ts %\ld mat* 9 "*1 & %e %\ld be z unlike h] *>ge z possible4 ,! "y girls look be/ 9 light gossam] mat]ial1 9 tulle1 crepe1 or t>latan1 9 pale light colors or 9 :ite1 :ile an eld]ly1 /\t woman nev] looks s badly z 9 l[-neck$ light-color$ silks or sat9s1 ,"y wom5 look well 9 natural fl[]s2 eld]ly wom51 9 fea!rs & jewell$ head-dresses4 ,if eld]ly wom5 ) full figure we> l[-neck$ dresses1 a lace %awl or sc>f1 or some?+ ( t sort1 %\ld be ?r[n ov] ! neck2 & ! same advice might be giv5 to ?9 & scrawny figures4 ,a lady writes to u z to :at dress %\ld be worn at h] *ild's *ri/5+4 ,we %\ld advise a high-neck$ d>k silk2 x may be ( z h&some mat]ial z %e *ooses1 b x %\ld be pla9 & neat 9 g5]al effect4 ,no woman %\ld ov]dress 9 h] own h\se2 x is ! wor/ ta/e4 ,all dress %\ld correspond to ! _s ( ! ent]ta9m5t giv54 ,light-color$ silks1 sweep+ tra9s1 bonnets v gay & g>ni%$ ) fea!rs1 lace p>asols1 & light gloves1 are fit = c>riages at ! races1 b !y are out ( place = walk+ 9 ! /reets4 ,!y may d = a w$d+ reception1 b !y are n fit = a picnic or an excursion4 ,lawn p>ties1 fl[] %[s1 & prom5ade conc]ts1 %\ld all be dress$ = 9 a gay1 bright fa%ion2 & ! co/umes = ^! & = ya*t+ purposes may be z effective & coquetti% z possible2 b = *ur*1 = read+s1 = a morn+ conc]t1 = a walk1 or a morn+ call on foot1 a tailor-made co/ume1 ) pla91 d>k hat1 is ! mo/ to be admir$4 ,nev] we> a dressy bonnet 9 ! /reet4 ,! co/umes = picnics1 excursions1 j\rneys2 & ! sea-side %\ld be ( a /rong fabric1 simple cut1 & pla9 color4 ,?+s :i* w wa% are bett] = our climate4 ,s]ge1 twe$1 & piqu are ! be/4 ,a morn+ dress = a late breakfa/ may be z luxuri\s z "o pleases4 ,! mod]n fa%ion ( imitation lace put on 9 great quantities ov] a f\l>d or a g+ham1 a musl9 or a cotton1 made up prettily1 is suitable = wom5 ( all ages2 b an old company dress furbi%$ up to d duty at a wat]+-place is t]rible1 & n to be endur$4 ,x has be5 ! fa%ion ?is season to we> full-dress at w$d+s4 ,! bride & h] maids h appe>$ ) l[ neck & %ort sleeves 9 ! cold morn+ air at sev]al fa%ionable *ur*es4 ,! groom at ! same "t we>+ morn+ co/ume4 ,x is an era ( l[ necks4 ,! p5dulum ( fa%ion is sw++ t way4 ,we h spok5 ( ?is be=e1 s only record ! fact t ! l[ neck w prevail 9 _m summ] ev5+ dresses z well z = morn+ w$d+s4 ,! v tight fa%ion ( drap+ skirts %\ld make all wom5 v c>eful z to ! way !y sit d[n4 ,"s ,fr5*man said he c\ld tell a g5tleman by 8 walk2 ano!r has lately said t he c tell a lady by ! way %e sits d[n4 ,a woman is all[$ mu* less fre$om ( po/ure ?an a man4 ,he may *ange 8 position z he likes1 & loll or l\nge1 cross 8 legs1 or ev5 nurse 8 foot if he pleases2 b a woman mu/ h grace & dignity2 9 e ge/ure %e mu/ be ladylike4 ,any "o :o has se5 a great actress l ,modjeska sit d[n w "k :at an acquir$ grace x is4 ,a woman %\ld rememb] t %e belongs to a sex :i* _c af=d to be grotesque4 ,!re %\ld nev] be r[d9ess or c>elessness4 ,! mania = extravagant dress on ! /age1 ! pieces des robes1 is said to be "o ( ! greate/ enemies ( ! legitimate drama4 ,! lead+ lady mu/ h a conspicu\s display ( elaborate g[ns1 ! late/ inv5tions ( ! modi/es4 ,9 ,p>is ^! /age co/umes set ! fa%ions1 & bonnets & caps & g[ns become individualiz$ by _! names4 ,!y look v well on ! we>]s1 b !y look v badly on "s eld]ly1 pla91 middle-ag$1 /\t woman :o has adopt$ !m4 ,pla9 sat9s & velvet1 ri* & d>k brocades1 made by an arti/1 make any "o look well4 ,! eld]ly woman %\ld be able to move )\t ef=t or /ra9 ( any k9d2 a black silk well made is indisp5sable2 & ev5 a celebrity ( a by-gone day may be made to look h&some by a judici\s b n too brilliant toilette4 ,! dress call$ complim5t>y m\rn+1 :i* is r a contradiction 9 t]ms1 is n[ made v elegant & dressy4 ,black & :ite 9 all ! *anges1 & black bugles & bead trimm+1 all ! %ades ( lilac & ( purple1 are consid]$ by ! ,fr5* z prop] colors & trimm+s 9 go+ out ( black2 :ile = full m\rn+ ! ,engli% /ill pres]ve ! cap1 weep]s1 & veil1 ! pla9 musl9 coll> & cuffs1 ! crape dress1 l>ge black silk cloak1 crape bonnet & veil4 ,heavy1 o/5tati\s1 & exp5sive habilim5ts are (t5 worn 9 m\rn+1 b !y are n 9 ! be/ ta/e4 ,! pla9-surfac$ black silks are comm5dable4 ,= aft]noon tea 9 ?is c\ntry ! ho/ess g5]ally we>s a h&some high-neck$ g[n1 (t5 a comb9ation ( /amp$ or brocad$ velvet1 sat91 & silk4 ,%e r>ely we>s :at 9 ,engl& is call$ a tea-g[n1 :i* is a semi-loose g>m5t4 ,= visit+ at aft]noon teas no *ange is made f ! ord9>y walk+ dress1 unless ! ?ree or f\r ladies :o help receive come 9 h&some reception dresses4 ,a skirt ( light brocade ) a d>k velvet ov]-dress is v mu* worn at ^! receptions1 & if made by a ,fr5* arti/ is a beautiful dress4 ,^! d>k velvets are usually made high1 ) a v ri* lace ruff4 ,! high ,m$icean coll> & pretty ,m$icean cap ( velvet are 9 great favor ) ! middle-ag$ ladies ( ! pres5t day1 & are a v becom+ /yle ( dress = ! op]a4 ,! pres5t fa%ion ( full dress at ! op]a1 :ile x may n improve ! music1 c]ta9ly makes ! h\se look v pretty & /ately4 ,too _m dresses are a mi/ake1 ev5 = an opul5t woman4 ,!y get out ( fa%ion1 & except+ = a girl go+ out to _m balls !y are entirely unnecess>y4 ,a girl :o is danc+ ne$s to be p]petually r5ew$1 = %e %\ld be always fre%1 & ! we> & te> ( ! cotillion is enorm\s4 ,!re is no?+ s poor z a dirty1 fad$1 & pat*$-up ball-dress2 ! danc] _h bett] /ay at home ?an we> su*4 ,! fa%ion ( sleeves %\ld be consid]$4 ,a /\t woman looks v badly 9 a loose sleeve ( hang+ lace :i* only rea*es ! elb[4 ,x makes ! arm look twice z l>ge4 ,%e %\ld we>1 = a ?9 sleeve1 black lace to ! wri/1 ) b&s ( velvet runn+ d[n1 to dim9i% ! size ( ! arm4 ,all ^? lace sleeves to ! elb[1 ) drops ( gold1 or /eel trimm+1 or jets1 are v unbecom+2 no "o b ! slight %\ld we> !m4 ,tight lac+ is also v unbecom+ to ^? :o usually adopt x--wom5 ( ?irty-eight or =ty :o are gr[+ a little /\t4 ,9 ?us truss+ !mselves up !y simply get an unbecom+ r$ness ( ! face1 & are n ! h&some1 com=table-look+ creatures :i* ,heav5 int5d$ !y %\ld be4 ,two or ?ree beautiful wom5 well kn[n 9 society kill$ !mselves la/ ye> by tight lac+4 ,! effect ( an in* less wai/ 0 n app>5t en\gh to make ?is a wise sacrifice ( heal? & ease ( brea?+4 ,at a lady's lun* p>ty1 :i* is always an occasion = h&some dress1 & :]e bonnets are always worn1 ! faces ( ^? :o are too tightly dress$ always %[ ! /ra9 by a mo/ unbecom+ flu%2 & z ,am]ican rooms are always too w>m1 ! suff]+ mu/ be enorm\s4 ,x is a v fooli% plan1 also1 to />ve "o's self1 or bant1 = a graceful ?9ness2 wom5 only gr[ wr9kl$1 %[ cr['s-feet "u ! eyes1 & look less "y ?an ^? :o let !mselves alone4 ,a gorge\sly dress$ woman 9 ! prop] place is a f9e sight4 ,a well-dress$ woman is %e :o und]/&s h]self & h] surr\nd+s4 ,,*apt] ,,xix4 ,,dress+ ,,= ,,driv+4 ,no "o :o has se5 ! coa*+ p>ade 9 ,new ,york c h fail$ to obs]ve ! extraord9>y *ange :i* has come ov] ! fa%ion 9 dress = ?is conspicu\s occasion4 ,=m]ly ladies wore black silks1 or "s d>k or l[-ton$ color 9 wooll5 or cotton or silk2 & a woman :o %\ld h worn a :ite dress on top ( a coa* w\ld1 t5 ye>s ago1 h be5 ?\ght to make h]self undesirably conspicu\s4 ,n[ ! brighte/ color$ & ri*e/ silks1 orange1 blue1 p9k1 & lilac dresses1 trimm$ ) lace fl\nces1 d9n] dresses1 9 fact--all ! *>m+ confections ( ,wor? or ,piugat--are freely display$ on ! coa*-tops1 ) ! utmo/ graci\sness1 = e pass]-by to comm5t on4 ,! lady on ! top ( a coa* )\t a mantle appe>s v mu* z %e w\ld at a full-dress ball or d9n]4 ,%e !n compla9s t sometimes ill-natur$ rem>ks float up f ! gaz]s1 & t ! ladies are insult$4 ,! fa%ion began at ,long*amps & at ,ascot1 :]e1 especially at ! =m] place1 a lady 0 privileg$ to sit 9 h] victoria1 ) h] lilac silk full ruffl$ to ! wai/1 9 ! mo/ p]fect & ari/ocratic seclusion4 ,!n ! fa/ set ( ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales took x up1 & plung$ into rivalry 9 dress+ = ! public procession ?r\gh ! ,london /reets1 :]e a lady became z prom95t an object ( obs]vation z ! ,"l ,mayor's coa*4 ,x has be5 tak5 up & develop$ 9 ,am]ica until x has rea*$ a climax ( spl5dor &1 if we may say s1 inappropriat5ess1 t is *>act]i/ic ( ! foll[+ ( =eign fa%ions 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,h[ c a :ite sat91 trimm$ ) lace1 or an orange silk1 be ! dress 9 :i* a lady %\ld meet ! sun1 ! ra91 or ! du/ ( a coa*+ exp$ition8 ,is x ! dress 9 :i* %e feels t %e ought to meet ! gaze ( a mix$ assemblage 9 a cr[d$ hotel or 9 a mu* frequ5t$ ?or\ghf>e8 ,:at *ange ( dress c !re be left = ! draw+-room8 ,we are glad to see t ! ,pr9cess ( ,wales1 ^: ta/e seems to be z ne>ly p]fect z may be1 has det]m9$ to set h] pretty face aga9/ ?is exagg]at$ use ( color4 ,%e appe>$ rec5tly 9 ,london1 on top ( a coa*1 9 a suit ( navy-blue flannel4 ,aga91 %e & ! ,empress ( ,au/ria are describ$ z we>+ d>k1 neat suits ( drap d't1 & also broadclo? dresses4 ,"o c see ! delicate figures & ref9$ features ( ^! two royal beauties 9 ?is neat & inconspicu\s dress1 &1 :5 !y are contra/$ ) ! flaunt+ p9k & :ite & lace & orange dresses ( ^? :o are n royal1 h[ vulg> ! extravagance 9 color becomes6 ,our gr&mo!rs travell$ 9 broadclo? rid+-habits1 & we (t5 pity !m = ! heat & ! di/ress :i* !y mu/ h endur$ 9 ! heavy1 high-fitt+1 long-sleev$ g>m5ts2 yet we _c b ?9k !y w\ld h look$ bett] on top ( a coa* ?an _! gr&daught]s--:o %\ld rememb]1 :5 !y compla9 ( ! rude rem>ks1 t we h no ari/ocracy "h ^: feel+s ! mob is oblig$ to respect1 & t ! pla9] _! dress ! less apt !y w be to he> unpleasant epi!ts appli$ to !m4 ,9 ! pres5t some:at aggressive ,amazonian fa%ion1 :5 a woman drives a man 9 h] pony phaeton 7he sitt+ sev]al in*es bel[ h]71 !re is no d\bt mu* audacity un9t5tionally sugge/$ by a gay dress4 ,a vulg> man1 see+ a lady 9 :ite velvet1 ,spani% lace1 a l>ge hat--9 :at he consid]s a l\d dress--does n h ! idea ( mode/y or ( ref9em5t convey$ to 8 m9d by ! sight2 he is v apt to laugh1 & to say some?+ n :olly respectful4 ,!n ! lady says1 ,) h[ little respect wom5 are treat$ 9 l>ge cities1 or at ,newport1 or at ,s>atoga6 ,7 %e m pla9ly dress$1 9 a d>k f\l>d or an inconspicu\s flannel or clo? dress1 ) h] hat simply arrang$1 %e w\ld be q z pretty & bett] fitt$ = ! matt] %e has 9 h&1 & v mu* less expos$ to invidi\s comm5t4 ,wom5 dress pla9ly en\gh :5 tempt+ ! salt-sea wave1 & also :5 on horseback4 ,no?+ c\ld be simpl] ?an ! rid+-habit1 & yet is !re any dress s becom+8 ,b on ! coa* !y %\ld n be too f9e4 ,( c\rse1 wom5 c dress z !y please1 b if !y please to dress conspicu\sly !y mu/ be ready to take ! consequ5ces4 ,a few ye>s ago no lady w\ld v5ture into ! /reet unless a mantle or a sc>f cov]$ h] %\ld]s4 ,x 0 a lady-l precaution4 ,!n came ! +lori\s days ( ! ti$-backs1 a /yle ( dress mo/ unbecom+ to ! figure1 & n[ happily no m4 ,?is prepo/]\s fa%ion _h1 no d\bt1 its influ5ce on ! mann]s ( ! age4 ,bett] f>1 if wom5 w\ld p>ade _! *>ms1 ! c\rtly dresses ( ^? beauties ( ,bird-cage ,walk1 by ,/4 ,james's ,p>k1 :]e ,lady ,betty ,modi% 0 born--full1 long1 b\ffant brocades1 hair pil$ high1 long & graceful sc>fs1 & gloves rea*+ to ! elb[4 ,ev5 ! r\ge & p[d] 7 a mask to hide ! *eek :i* did or did n blu% :5 bold eyes 7 fa/5$ ^u x4 ,let u n be und]/ood1 h[ev]1 z extoll+ ^!4 ,! n9ete5?-c5tury beauty m\nts a coa* ) none ( ^! aids to %yness4 ,no sugge/ion ( hid+ any ( h] *>ms occurs to h]4 ,%e goes out on ! box seat )\t cloak or %awl1 or any?+ b a hat on ! back ( h] head & a gay p>asol betwe5 h] & a possible ?und]-/orm4 ,^! ladies are n memb]s ( an acclimatization society4 ,!y _c br+ ab\t a new climate4 ,d !y n suff] f cold8 ,d n ! breezes g ?r\gh !m8 ,answ]1 all ye pneumonias & diph!rias & rheumatisms6 ,!re is no delicacy 9 ! humor ) :i* ! funny pap]s & ! c>icaturi/s treat ^! v exagg]at$ co/umes4 ,no delicacy is requir$4 ,a *ange to a quiet] /yle ( dress w\ld soon abate ?is treatm5t ( :i* s _m ladies compla94 ,let !m dress l ! ,pr9cess ( ,wales & ! ,empress ( ,au/ria1 :5 9 ! conspicu\s high-relief ( ! coa*1 & ! result w be t ladies1 m>ri$ or s+le1 w n be subject$ to ! insults ( :i* s _m ( !m compla91 & ( :i* ! pap]s are full aft] e coa*+ p>ade4 ,lady rid]s are seldom oblig$ to compla9 ( ! incivility ( a pass]-by4 ,!irs are mode/ figures1 &1 z a g5]al ?+ n[adays1 !y ride well4 ,a lady c alight f h] horse & walk ab\t 9 a cr[d$ place )\t he>+ an (f5sive ^w3 %e is prop]ly dress$ = h] ex]cise4 ,nor1 aga91 is a "y lady 9 a lawn-t5nis suit assail$ by ! imp]t95t criticisms ( a mix$ cr[d ( by-/&]s4 ,?\s&s play at ,newport1 ,s>atoga1 & o!r places ( resort1 ) ?\s&s look+ on1 & no "o utt]s a ^w ( rebuke4 ,! %ort flannel skirt & close ,j]sey are ne$$ = ! active runn]1 & h] some:at ecc5tric appe>ance is condon$4 ,x is n consid]$ an exhibition or a %[1 b a good1 heal?y game ( physical ex]cise4 ,p feel an int]e/ & a pleasure 9 x4 ,x is l ! old-fa%ion$ m]ry-mak+ ( ! ,may-pole1 ! fri5dly j\/s ( neighbors on ! common play-gr\nd ( ! neighborhood1 ) ! dances "u ! walnut-trees ( sunny ,prov5ce4 ,! game is an invigorat+ "o1 & ev5 ^? :o d n "k x are pleas$ ) its animation4 ,we h hi!rto neglect$ t gymna/ic culture :i* made ! ,greeks ! graceful p !y 71 & :i* contribut$ to ! cultivation ( ! m9d4 ,nobody f9ds any?+ to laugh at 9 ei!r ( ^! co/umes2 b :5 p see a ball-dress m\nt$ high on a coa* !y are v apt to laugh at x2 & wom5 seldom come home f a coa*+ p>ade )\t a t+l+ *eek & a feel+ ( %ame because ( "s comm5t ^u _! dress & appe>ance4 ,a "y lady drove up1 la/ summ]1 to ! ,ocean ,h\se at ,newport 9 a pony phaeton1 & 0 (f5d$ because a g5tleman on ! piazza said1 ,t girl has a v small wai/1 & %e means u to see x4 ,:o 0 to blame8 ,! "y lady 0 dress$ 9 a v conspicu\s mann]3 %e _h nei!r mantle nor jacket ab\t h]1 & %e probably did mean t h] wai/ %\ld be se54 ,!re is a gr[+ objection all ov] ! _w to ! h\r-glass %ape once s fa%ionable1 & we ought to welcome x z ! be/ evid5ce ( a t5d5cy t[>ds a m s5sible =m ( dress1 z well z "o m conducive to heal? & ! :olesome dis*>ge ( a woman's natural & mo/ important functions4 ,b if a woman laces h]self into a sixte5-in* belt1 & !n clo!s h]self 9 brocade1 sat91 & bright colors1 & makes h]self conspicu\s1 %e %\ld n object to ! fact t m51 see+ h] ?r[ aside h] mantle1 comm5t ^u h] *>ms 9 no measur$ t]ms4 ,%e has no "o to blame b h]self4 ,we might add t by ?is ov]-dress+ wom5 deprive !mselves ( ! advantage ( contra/ 9 /yle4 ,lace1 9 p>ticul>1 is = ! h\se & = ! full-dress d9n] or ball4 ,s are ! light1 gay silks1 :i* h no fitness ( fold or ( texture = ! climb+ ( a coa*4 ,if bright colors are desir$1 let ladies *oose ! m]9os & nuns' veil+s = coa*+ dresses2 or1 bett] /ill1 let !m dress 9 d>k colors1 9 pla9 & inconspicu\s dresses1 :i* d n seem to defy bo? du/ & sun & ra9 z well4 ,on top ( a coa* !y are f> m expos$ to ! elem5ts ?an :5 on ! deck ( a ya*t4 ,nor1 because ! fa/ set ( ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales d s 9 ,london1 is !re any reason :y ,am]ican wom5 %\ld appe> on top ( a coa* dress$ 9 r$ velvet & :ite sat94 ,let !m rememb] ! fact t ! ,que5 _h plac$ ,w9dsor ,ca/le at ! disposal ( ! ,pr9ce = 8 use dur+ ,ascot week1 b t :5 %e le>n$ t two some:at conspicu\s ,am]ican beauties 7 expect$1 %e resc9d$ ! loan & told ! ,pr9ce to ent]ta9 8 gue/s else:]e4 ,,*apt] ,,xx4 ,,incongruities ,,( ,,dress4 ,we are all aw>e ( ! value ( a co/ume1 su* z ! dress ( ! ,pompad\r era3 ! ,swiss peasant's bodice1 ! ,norm&y cap1 ! faldetta ( ! ,maltese1 ! ,hung>ian national dress1 ! e>ly ,engli%1 ! ,puritan squ>e-cut1 ! ,spani% mantilla1 ! ,roman sc>f & :ite cap--all ^! come be=e u2 & z we m5tion ea* *>act]i/ic g>m5t !re /eps out on ! canvas ( memory a neat little figure1 9 :i* e detail f %oe to head-dress is h>moni\s4 ,no "o 9 8 wilde/ dreams1 h[ev]1 c\ld set out ) ! picture ( a m>quise1 & top x (f ) a ,norm&y cap4 ,nor c\ld he put p[d] on ! d>k hair ( ! jaunty little ,hung>ian4 ,! beauty ( ^! co/umes is se5 9 ea* z a :ole1 & n 9 ! p>ts sep>ately4 ,! m>quise mu/ we> p9k or blue1 or "s light color2 %e mu/ h ! long wai/1 ! squ>e-cut corsage1 ! l>ge hoop1 ! neat slipp]1 ) rosette & high heel1 ! r\ge & pat*es to supplem5t h] p[d]$ hair1 or %e is no m>quise4 ,! ,swiss peasant mu/ h ! %ort skirt1 ! :ite *emisette1 ! black velvet bodice1 ! cross & ribbon1 ! co>se %oes1 & ! head-dress ( h] canton2 ! ,norm&y peasant h] d>k1 /rik+ dress1 h] high-heel$1 gold-buckl$ %oe1 & h] :ite apron2 ! ,hung>ian h] neat1 milit>y sc>let jacket1 braid$ ) gold1 h] scant petticoat & milit>y boot1 h] high cap & fea!r4 ,! dress ( ! ,engli% peasant1 kn[n n[ z ! ,"m ,hubb>d hat & cloak1 v famili> to ! /ud5ts ( co/umes z belong+ to ! c\ntrywom5 ( ,%akspe>e's "t1 dem&s ! %ort1 bun*$-up petticoat & high-heel$1 high-cut %oes to make x p]fect4 ,we live 9 an age1 h[ev]1 :5 fa%ion1 irrespective ( arti/ic pr9ciple1 mixes up all ^! co/umes1 & borr[s a hat "h & a %oe !re1 ! effect ( ea* g>m5t1 div]t$ f its orig9al int5tion1 be+ lo/4 ,if all ?+s by _! season season$ are1 s is all dress 7or x %\ld be7 seasonable & compreh5sive1 congru\s & complete4 ,! "o great secret ( ! success ( ! ,fr5* z arti/s & magicians ( female co/ume is t !y consid] ! entire figure & its dem&s1 ! conditions ( life & ( luxury1 ! propriety ( ! sub/ance1 & ! ne$s ( ! we>]4 ,a lady :o is to tread a velvet c>pet or a p>quet$ floor does n ne$ a wood5 %oe2 %e ne$s a sat9 slipp] or boot4 ,yet 9 ! mod]n draw+-room we sometimes see a "y lady danc+ 9 a heavy ,balmoral boot :i* is only fitt$ = ! bogs & hea!r ( a ,scot* tramp4 ,! pres5ce ( a %ort dress 9 a draw+-room1 or ( a long tra9 9 ! /reet1 is "p ( ! g5]al incongruity ( dress4 ,! use ( ! ul/] & ! ,d]by hat became app>5t on ,engli% ya*ts1 :]e wom5 le>n$ to put !mselves 9 ! attitude ( m51 & v prop]ly adopt$ ! /orm jib2 b1 if "o ( ^? wom5 _h be5 told t %e w\ld1 soon] or lat]1 appe> 9 ?is dress 9 ! /reets ( ,london1 %e w\ld h be5 %ock$4 ,9 ! days ( ! ,fr5* emigration1 :5 highborn ladies escap$ on bo>d fri5dly vessels 9 ! h>bor ( ,honfleur1 _m ( !m _h on ! long-wai/$ & full-skirt$ ov]coats ( _! husb&s1 :o pref]r$ to %iv] r ?an endure ! pa9 ( see+ _! wives suff] f cold4 ,^! figures 7 obs]v$ by ,london tailors & dress-mak]s1 & out ( !m grew ! ,engli% pelisse :i* aft]w>ds came into fa%ion4 ,on a /\t ,engli%woman ! effect 0 s+ul>ly absurd1 & _m ( ! e>ly c>icatures give u ! b5efit ( ?is incongruity2 = al?\gh a small figure looks well 9 a pelisse1 a /\t "o nev] does4 ,! ,engli%woman :o weighs two or ?ree hundr$ p\nds %\ld we> a sacque1 a %awl1 or a loose cloak1 in/ead ( a tight-wai/$ pelisse4 ,h[ev]1 we are div]g+4 ,! s5se ( ! p]sonally becom+ is /ill ano!r bran* ( ! great subject ( dress4 ,a velvet dress1 = in/ance1 dem&s = its trimm+s exp5sive & real lace4 ,x %\ld n be supplem5t$ by ,breton or imitation ,val5ci5nes4 ,all ! v pretty imitation laces are appropriate = *eap silks1 popl9s1 summ] fabrics1 or dresses ( light & airy mat]ial2 b if ! sub/ance ( ! dress be ( ! ri*e/1 ! lace %\ld be 9 keep+ ) x4 ,s1 also1 9 respect to jewell]y3 no *eap or imitation jewell]y %\ld be worn ) an exp5sive dress4 ,x is z =eign to good ta/e z x w\ld be = a man to dress 8 head & body 9 ! mo/ fa%ionable ( hats & coats1 & 8 legs 9 :ite duck4 ,!re is incongruity 9 ! idea4 ,! same incongruity applies to a ta/e = :i* our c\ntrym5 h (t5 be5 blam$--a desire = ! magnific5t1 ,a woman :o puts on diamonds1 real lace1 & velvets 9 ! morn+ at a summ] wat]+-place is decid$ly incongru\s4 ,f> bett] be dress$ 9 a g+ham1 ) ,hamburg embroid]y1 & a /raw hat ) a h&k]*ief ti$ r\nd x1 n[ s pretty & s fa%ionable4 ,%e is !n ready = ! ocean or = ! m\nta9 drive1 ! scramble or ! sail4 ,h] boots %\ld be /rong1 h] gloves long & /\t4 ,%e ?us adapts h] attire to ! occasion4 ,9 ! ev5+ %e w h an opportunity = ! delicate boot & ! trail+ gauze or silk1 or t deft comb9ation ( all ! mat]ials kn[n z a ,wor? ,co/ume4 ,9 buy+ a hat a woman %\ld /& be=e a long ,psy*e glass1 & see h]self f head to foot4 ,(t5 a v pretty bonnet or hat :i* becomes ! face is absolutely dreadful 9 t wavy outl9e :i* is p]ceptible to ^? :o consid] ! effect z a :ole4 ,all c rememb] h[ absurd a l>ge figure look$ 9 ! r\nd poke hat & ! delicate ,fan*on bonnet1 & ! same result is br\ght ab\t by ! r\nd hat4 ,a l>ge figure %\ld be topp$ by a ,ga9sbor\gh or ,rub5s hat1 ) nodd+ plumes4 ,!n ! effect is excell5t & ! proportions are pres]v$4 ,no?+ c be m incongru\s1 aga91 ?an a long1 slim1 ae/hetic figure ) a head-ge> s disproportionately l>ge z to sugge/ a ,s&wi*-,isl&] ) 8 head-dress ( mats4 ,! ae/hetic craze has1 h[ev]1 br\ght 9 "o improvem5t 9 co/ume4 ,x is ! epaulett$ sleeve1 :i* gives expansion to s _m figures :i* are1 un=tunately1 too n>r[4 ,all physiologi/s are speculat+ on ! gr[+ n>r[ness ( *e/ 9 ! ,anglo-,saxon race4 ,x is s+ul>ly app>5t 9 ,am]ica4 ,to rem$y ?is1 "s +5i\s dress-mak] devis$ a little puff at ! top ( ! arm1 :i* is mo/ becom+4 ,x is also well adapt$ to ! clo? ( gold co/ume ( ! days ( ,francis ,i41 :i* mod]n luxury s mu* affects4 ,x is a ,frond sort ( co/ume1 ?is n9ete5?-c5tury dress1 & c well borr[ "s ( ! fe/ive features ( ! sixte5? & sev5te5? c5turies1 if !y be n incongru\s4 ,we1 l ^? ri* nobles & prosp]\s burgh]s1 h light$ on pip+ times ( peace2 we h f\nd a new ,india ( our own2 our galleons come lad5 ) ! spoils ( all c\ntries2 we are ri*1 & we are able to we> velvet & brocade4 ,b we %\ld be z true z !y to ! proprieties ( dress4 ,9 ! anci5t burgh] days ! ri*e/ citiz5 0 n p]mitt$ to we> velvet2 he _h 8 own picturesque coll>1 8 d>k-clo? suit1 8 becom+ hat4 ,he _h no idea ( ap+ ! cian1 ) 8 long hat & fea!r4 ,we are all patricians2 we c we> ei!r ! sob] suit or ! gay "o2 b d let u avoid incongruity4 ,a woman1 9 dress+ h]self = an ev5+ ( fe/ivity1 %\ld rememb] t1 f h] e>-r+s to h] fan1 all mu/ sugge/ & convey ! idea ( luxury4 ,a wood5 fan is v pretty 9 ! morn+ at a wat]+-place1 b x w n d 9 ! ev5+4 ,none ( ! mod]n *tela9e arrangem5ts1 h[ev] ornam5tal1 are appropriate = ev5+ use4 ,! *tela9e meant orig9ally ! *a9 on :i* ! lady ( ! h\se wore h] keys2 !re=e its e>ly association ( usefulness rema9s3 x is n luxuri\s 9 int5tion1 h[ev] mu* mod]n fa%ion may h adorn$ x4 ,_m a fa%ion has1 x is true1 ris5 f a l[ e/ate4 ,! ,ord] ( ! ,g>t] tells ( a mon>*'s caprice2 ! %oe-buckle & ! horse%oe h crept up into ! highe/ rank ( ornam5ts4 ,b z x takes ?ree g5]ations to make a g5tleman1 s does x take sev]al decades to give nobility to l[-born ornam5t4 ,we mu/ n try to =ce ?+s4 ,a "p ( ! gr[+ & sad incongruity ( mod]n dress appe>s 9 ! unavoidable awkw>dness ( a l>ge numb] ( b\quets4 ,a belle _c leave ! insignia ( bell$om at home1 nor c %e be s unk9d z to c>ry ,mr4 ,smi?'s fl[]s & ignore ,mr4 ,br[n's2 s %e appe>s ) h] arms & h&s full1 to ! inf9ite detrim5t ( h] dress & g5]al effect4 ,"s arrangem5t might be devis$ :]eby su* trophies c\ld be dragg$ 9 ! tra9 ( ! high-prie/ess ( fa%ion4 ,a little read+1 a little att5tion to ! /udy ( co/ume 7a beautiful /udy1 by-!-way71 w\ld soon tea* a "y woman to avoid ! incongru\s 9 dress4 ,"s p h ta/e z a natural gift3 !y "k h[ to dress f a consultation ) _! inn] selves4 ,o!rs1 alas6 are entirely )\t x4 ,! p :o make hats & coats & dresses = u are g5]ally )\t any compreh5sion ( ! hi/ory ( dress4 ,to !m ! hat ( ! ,r\ndhead & t ( ! ,cavali] h ! same mean+4 ,to all p ( ta/e & read+1 h[ev]1 !y are v diff]5t1 & all arti/s "k t ! co/umes :i* reta9 _! hold on ! _w h be5 pref]r$ & h endur$ because ( _! fitness to conditions ( climate & ! grace & ease ) :i* !y 7 worn4 ,,*apt] ,,xxi4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,m\rn+4 ,!re is no possibility ( t\*+ ^u ! subject ( dea? & burial1 & ! conditions "u :i* fun]als %\ld be conduct$1 )\t hurt+ "s "o's feel+s4 ,! ,duke ( ,su!rl&'s attempt 9 ,engl& to d away ) ! dreadful %ape :i* causes a %udd] to all :o h lo/ a fri5d--t ( ! c(f9--0 call$ irrev]5t1 because he sugge/$ t ! dead %\ld be buri$ 9 wick]-"w baskets1 ) f]n-leaves = %r\ds1 s t ! poor clay might ! m easily return to "m e>?4 ,^? :o favor cremation suff] aga9 a /ill m frantic dise/eem2 & yet e "o deplores ! pres5t gloomy app>atus & dismal obs]vances ( our occasions ( m\rn+4 ,dea? is /ill to ! mo/ ,*ri/ian & resign$ he>t a v t]rible fact1 a %ock to all :o live1 & its surr\nd+s1 d :at we w1 are pa9ful4 ,i smell ! m\ld above ! rose1 says ,hood1 9 8 pa!tic l9es on 8 daught]'s dea?4 ,!re=e1 we h a difficulty to cont5d ) 9 ! we>+ ( black1 :i* is ( itself1 to beg9 )1 negatory ( our pr(ess$ belief 9 ! resurrection4 ,we confess ! logic ( despair :5 we drape ourselves 9 its gloomy folds4 ,! dress :i* we %\ld we>1 "o w\ld ?9k1 might be blue1 ! color ( ! sky1 or :ite1 9 tok5 ( light :i* ! r$eem$ s\l has rea*$4 ,cu/om1 :i* makes slaves ( u all1 has decre$ t we %all we> black1 z a m>k ( respect to ^? we h lo/1 & z a %r\d = ourselves1 prote/+ aga9/ ! g5tle m9i/ration ( light & *e]fulness ) :i* our ,"l ev] /rives to rea* u4 ,?is is "o side ( ! "q2 b1 aga91 "o ^w z to its good (fices4 ,a m\rn+ dress does protect a woman :ile 9 deepe/ grief aga9/ ! untimely gayety ( a pass+ /rang]4 ,x is a wall1 a cell ( refuge4 ,beh9d a black veil %e c hide h]self z %e goes out = bus9ess or recreation1 fe>less ( any intrusion4 ,! black veil1 on ! o!r h&1 is mo/ unheal?y3 x h>ms ! eyes & x injures ! sk94 ,z x rubs aga9/ ! nose & =ehead x is almo/ c]ta9 to cause abrasions1 & (t5 makes an annoy+ sore4 ,to ! eyes enfeebl$ by weep+ x is sure to be dang]\s1 & mo/ oculi/s n[ =bid x4 ,! ,engli%1 f :om we borr[ our fa%ion 9 fun]al matt]s1 h a limitation provid$ by social law :i* is a useful ?+4 ,!y n[ decree t crape %all only be worn six mon?s1 ev5 = ! ne>e/ relative1 & t ! duration ( m\rn+ %all n exce$ a ye>4 ,a wife's m\rn+ = h] husb& is ! mo/ conv5tionally deep m\rn+ all[$1 & e "o :o has se5 an ,engli% wid[ w agree t %e makes a he>se ( h]self4 ,bombaz9e & crape1 a wid['s cap2 & a long2 ?ick veil--su* is ! mod]n ,engli% idea4 ,"s wid[s ev5 h ! cap made ( black crpe lisse1 b x is g5]ally ( :ite4 ,9 ?is c\ntry a wid['s fir/ m\rn+ dresses are cov]$ almo/ entirely ) crape1 a mo/ co/ly & disagreeable mat]ial1 easily ru9$ by ! dampness & du/--a sort ( p5it5tial & self-mortify+ dress1 & v ugly & v exp5sive4 ,!re are n[1 h[ev]1 o!r & m agreeable fabrics :i* also be> ! dead black1 lu/reless look :i* is alone consid]$ respectful to ! dead1 & :i* are n s co/ly z crape1 or s disagreeable to we>4 ,! ,h5rietta clo? & imp]ial s]ges are *os5 = heavy w9t] dresses1 :ile = ^? ( less weight are tamise clo?1 ,bayonnaise1 gr5ad9e1 nuns' veil+1 & ! ,am]ican silk4 ,our m\rn+ usages are n ov]load$ ) :at may be call$ ! pomp1 pride1 & circum/ance ( woe :i* *>act]ize ,engli% fun]als4 ,inde$1 s ov]done are m\rn+ c]emonies 9 ,engl&--:at ) ! hir$ mutes1 ! nodd+ plumes1 ! co/ly c(f91 & ! gifts ( gloves & b&s & r+s1 etc4--t ,lady ,georgiana ,milnor1 ( ,nunappleton1 9 ,york1 a great fri5d ( ! ,ar*bi%op1 wrote a book aga9/ ! abuse1 ord]$ h] own body to be buri$ 9 a p9e c(f91 & =bade h] s]vants & relatives to we> m\rn+4 ,h] wi%es 7 c>ri$ out to ! lett]4 ,a black1 clo?-cov]$ casket ) silv] m\nt+s is consid]$ 9 ! be/ ta/e1 & ! pall-be>]s are giv5 at mo/ a :ite sc>f & a pair ( black gloves4 ,ev5 ?is is n always done4 ,at "o "t ! traffic 9 ^! return$ b&s & gloves 0 q a =tune to ! und]tak]4 ,m\rn+ is v exp5sive1 & (t5 co/s a family m ?an !y c well af=d2 b x is a sacrifice t ev5 ! poore/ gladly make1 & ^? :o c lea/ af=d x (t5 we> ! be/ m\rn+1 s tyrannical is cu/om4 ,!y consid] x--by :at process ( reason+ no "o c und]/&1 unless x be out ( a h]$it>y belief t we hold 9 ! hea!n idea ( propitiat+ ! manes ( ! dep>t$--an act ( disrespect to ! memory ( ! dead if ! liv+ are n clad 9 gloomy black4 ,h[ev]1 our bus9ess is ) ! etiquette ( m\rn+4 ,wid[s we> deep m\rn+1 consi/+ ( wooll5 /uffs & crape1 = ab\t two ye>s1 & sometimes = life1 9 ,am]ica4 ,*ildr5 we> ! same = p>5ts = "o ye>1 & !n light5 x ) black silk1 trimm$ ) crape4 ,half-m\rn+ gradations ( gray1 purple1 or lilac h be5 ab&on$1 &1 in/ead1 comb9ations ( black & :ite are us$4 ,complim5t>y m\rn+ is black silk )\t crape4 ,! ,fr5* h ?ree grades ( m\rn+--deep1 ord9>y1 & half m\rn+4 ,9 deep m\rn+1 wooll5 clo?s only are worn2 9 ord9>y m\rn+1 silk & wooll52 9 half m\rn+1 gray & violet4 ,an ,am]ican lady is always %ock$ at ! gayety & *e]fulness ( ,fr5* m\rn+4 ,9 ,france1 etiquette prescribes m\rn+ = a husb& = "o ye> & six weeks--t is1 six mon?s ( deep m\rn+1 six ( ord9>y1 & six weeks ( half m\rn+4 ,= a wife1 a fa!r1 or a "m1 six mon?s--?ree deep & ?ree half m\rn+2 = a gr&p>5t1 two mon?s & a half ( slight m\rn+2 = a bro!r or a si/]1 two mon?s1 "o ( :i* is 9 deep m\rn+2 = an uncle or an aunt1 ?ree weeks ( ord9>y black4 ,9 ,am]ica1 ) no fixity ( rule1 ladies h be5 kn[n to g into deepe/ m\rn+ = _! own relatives or ^? ( _! husb&s1 or = p1 p]haps1 :om !y h nev] se51 & h rema9$ z gloomy monum5ts ( b]eavem5t = sev5 or t5 ye>s1 con/antly 9 black2 !n1 on los+ a *ild or a relative de>ly lov$1 !y h no extremity ( dress left to express ! real grief :i* fills _! lives--no deep] black to g into4 ,?is complim5t>y m\rn+ %\ld be1 z 9 ! ,fr5* cu/om1 limit$ to two or ?ree weeks4 ,! heal? ( a delicate *ild has be5 kn[n to be s]i\sly affect$ by ! con/ant spectacle ( 8 "m 9 deep m\rn+4 ,! p]iod ( a m\rn]'s retirem5t f ! _w has be5 v mu* %ort5$ ( late4 ,= "o ye> no =mal visit+ is und]tak51 nor is !re any gayety 9 ! h\se4 ,black is (t5 worn = a husb& or wife two ye>s1 = p>5ts "o ye>1 & = bro!rs & si/]s "o ye>2 a heavy black is light5$ aft] t p]iod4 ,ladies are beg9n+ to we> a small black gauze veil ov] ! face1 & are 9 ! habit ( ?r[+ ! heavy crape veil back ov] ! hat4 ,x is also prop] to we> a quiet black dress :5 go+ to a fun]al1 al?\gh ?is is n absolutely necess>y4 ,fri5ds %\ld call on ! b]eav$ family )9 a mon?1 n expect+1 ( c\rse1 to see !m4 ,k9d notes express+ sympa?y are mo/ welcome to ! afflict$ f intimate fri5ds1 & gifts ( fl[]s1 or any te/imonial ( sympa?y1 are ?\ghtful & appropriate4 ,c>ds & note-pap] are n[ put into m\rn+ by ^? :o desire to express conv5tionally _! regret = ! dead2 b v broad bord]s ( black look l o/5tation1 & are 9 und\bt$ bad ta/e4 ,no d\bt all ^! ?+s are prop] en\gh 9 _! way1 b a n>r[ bord] ( black tells ! /ory ( loss z well z an in* ( coal-black gloom4 ,! fa%ion ( we>+ h&k]*iefs :i* are made ) a two-in* squ>e ( :ite cambric & a f\r-in* bord] ( black may well be deprecat$4 ,a gay "y wid[ at ,wa%+ton 0 once se5 danc+ at a reception1 a few mon?s aft] ! dea? ( h] soldi] husb&1 ) a long black veil on1 & hold+ 9 h] black-glov$ h& "o ( ^! h&k]*iefs1 :i* look$ z if x _h be5 dipp$ 9 ink4 ,%e %\ld h dipp$ x 9 blood1 said a by-/&]4 ,"u su* circum/ances we le>n h[ mu* significance is to be atta*$ to ! grief express$ by a m\rn+ veil4 ,! m\rn+ :i* soldi]s1 sailors1 & c\rti]s we> has some?+ pa!tic & effective ab\t x4 ,a flag drap$ ) crape1 a gray cadet-sleeve ) a black b&1 or a long piece ( crape ab\t ! left arm ( a s5ator1 a black we$ on a hat1 ^! always t\* u4 ,!y w\ld ev5 appe> to sugge/ t ! light] ! black1 ! m fully ! feel+ ( ! he>t is express$4 ,if we love our dead1 !re is no dang] t we %all =get !m4 ,! cu/om>y suit ( solemn black is n ne$$ :5 we c we> x 9 our he>ts4 ,= light] m\rn+ jet is us$ on silk1 & !re is no d\bt t x makes a v h&some dress4 ,x is a s+ul> fact t !re is a c]ta9 com=t to "s p 9 we>+ v h&some black4 ,wor?1 on be+ ask$ to dress an ,am]ican wid[ :om he _h nev] se51 s5t = h] photograph1 = he said t he wi%$ to see :e!r %e 0 ! sort ( woman :o w\ld reli% a becom+ black4 ,v elegant dresses are made ) jet embroid]y on crape--! beautiful s(t ,fr5* crape--b lace is nev] m\rn+4 ,ev5 ! ,fr5*1 :o h v light ideas on ! subject1 d n trim ! mo/ ornam5tal dresses ) lace dur+ ! p]iod ( ev5 second m\rn+1 except :5 !y put ! wool5 yak lace on a clo? cloak or mantilla4 ,dur+ a v dressy half m\rn+1 h[ev]1 black lace may be worn on :ite silk2 b ?is is que/ionable4 ,diamond ornam5ts set 9 black enamel are all[$ ev5 9 ! deepe/ m\rn+1 & also pe>ls set 9 black4 ,! initials ( ! deceas$1 9 black brilliants or pe>ls1 are n[ set 9 lockets & sleeve-buttons1 or p9s4 ,gold ornam5ts are nev] worn 9 m\rn+4 ,:ite silk1 embroid]$ ) black jet1 is us$ 9 ! second /age ( c\rt m\rn+1 ) black gloves4 ,deep r$ is deem$ 9 ,engl& a prop] alt]native = m\rn+ black1 if ! we>] be call$ ^u to g to a w$d+ dur+ ! p]iod ( ! fir/ ye>'s m\rn+4 ,at ,/4 ,george's1 ,hanov] ,squ>e1 !re=e1 "o may (t5 see a wid[ assi/+ at ! w$d+ ( a daught] or a son1 & dress$ 9 a sup]b r$ brocade or velvet1 :i*1 directly ! w$d+ is ov]1 %e w disc>d = h] solemn black4 ,! "q ( black gloves is "o :i* tr\bles all :o are oblig$ to we> m\rn+ ?r\gh ! heat ( summ]4 ,! black kid glove is pa9fully w>m & smutty1 disfigur+ ! h& & soil+ ! h&k]*ief & face4 ,! ,sw$i% kid glove is n[ mu* m 9 vogue1 & ! silk glove is made ) su* neatness & ) su* a numb] ( buttons t x is equally /yli%1 & mu* cool] & m agreeable4 ,m\rn+ bonnets are worn r l>g] ?an ord9>y bonnets4 ,9 ,engl& !y are /ill made ( ! old-fa%ion$ cottage %ape1 & are v useful 9 c>ry+ ! heavy veil & 9 %ad+ ! face4 ,! ,que5 has always worn ?is /yle ( bonnet4 ,h] wid['s cap has nev] be5 laid aside1 & ) h] long veil ( :ite fall+ d[n h] back :5 %e appe>s at c\rt1 x makes ! mo/ becom+ dress t %e has ev] worn4 ,= su* a grief z h]s !re is some?+ appropriate & dignifi$ 9 h] adh]5ce to ! m\rn+-dress4 ,x fully expresses h] sad isolation3 = a que5 c h no ne> fri5ds4 ,! :ole ,engli% nation has sympa?iz$ ) h] grief1 & comm5d$ h] black dress4 ,nor c we criticise ! grief :i* causes a "m to we> m\rn+ = h] *ildr54 ,if x be any com=t to h] to wrap h]self 9 crape1 %e ought to d s4 ,! _w has no "r to qu>rel ) ^? :o pref] to put a%es on _! heads4 ,b = ! mock]y1 ! conv5tional absurdities1 & ! affectations :i* s readily l5d !mselves to c>icature 9 ! "n ( m\rn+1 no condemnation c be too /rong4 ,!re is a gh\l-l gha/l9ess 9 talk+ ab\t ornam5tal1 or becom+1 or complim5t>y m\rn+4 ,p ( s5se1 ( c\rse1 manage to dress )\t go+ to extremities 9 ei!r direction4 ,we see _m a pale-fac$ m\rn] ^: quiet m\rn+-dress tells ! /ory ( b]eavem5t )\t giv+ u ! pa9ful feel+ t crape is too ?ick1 or bombaz9e too heavy1 = com=t4 ,exagg]ation is to be deprecat$ 9 m\rn+ z 9 ev]y?+4 ,! disc>d+ ( m\rn+ %\ld be effect$ by gradations4 ,x %ocks p]sons ( good ta/e to see a light-he>t$ "y wid[ jump into colors1 z if %e _h be5 c\nt+ ! h\rs4 ,if black is to be disp5s$ )1 let its retirem5t be sl[ly & gracefully m>k$ by quiet co/umes1 z ! feel+ ( grief1 yield+ to ! k9dly influ5ce ( "t1 is %ad$ (f into resignation & *e]fulness4 ,we d n =get our dead1 b we m\rn = !m ) a feel+ :i* no long] p>takes ( angui%4 ,be=e a fun]al ! ladies ( a family see no "o b ! mo/ intimate fri5ds4 ,! g5tlem51 ( c\rse1 mu/ see ! cl]gyman & (ficials :o manage ! c]emony4 ,x is n[ ! almo/ univ]sal practice to c>ry ! rema9s to a *ur*1 :]e ! fri5ds ( ! family c pay ! la/ tribute ( respect )\t cr[d+ into a private h\se4 ,pallbe>]s are invit$ by note1 & assemble at ! h\se ( ! deceas$1 accompany+ ! rema9s1 aft] ! c]emonies at ! *ur*1 to _! f9al re/+-place4 ,! ne>e/ lady fri5ds seldom g to ! *ur* or to ! grave4 ,?is is1 h[ev]1 entirely a matt] ( feel+1 & !y c g if !y wi%4 ,aft] ! fun]al only ! memb]s ( ! family return to ! h\se1 & x is n expect$ t a b]eav$ wife or "m w see any "o o!r ?an ! memb]s ( h] family = sev]al weeks4 ,! prep>ations = a fun]al 9 ! h\se are committ$ to ! c>e ( an und]tak]1 :o removes ! furniture f ! draw+-room1 fill+ all ! space possible ) camp-/ools4 ,! cl]gyman reads ! s]vice at ! head ( ! c(f91 ! relatives be+ gr\p$ ar\nd4 ,! body1 if n disfigur$ by disease1 is (t5 dress$ 9 ! clo!s worn 9 life1 & laid 9 an op5 casket1 z if repos+ on a s(a1 & all fri5ds are ask$ to take a la/ look4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 a some:at gha/ly proce$+ to try to make ! dead look l ! liv+4 ,! body ( a man is usually dress$ 9 black4 ,a "y boy is laid out 9 8 e-day clo!s1 b surely ! "y ( bo? sexes look m fitly clad 9 ! :ite ca%m]e robe4 ,! cu/om ( decorat+ ! c(f9 ) fl[]s is a beautiful "o1 b has be51 9 l>ge cities1 s ov]done1 & s purely a matt] ( money1 t n[ ! reque/ is g5]ally made t no fl[]s be s5t4 ,9 ,engl& a lady ( ! c\rt we>s1 = h] p>5t1 crape & bombaz9e 7or its equival5t 9 any lu/reless clo?7 = ?ree mon?s4 ,%e goes n[h]e dur+ t p]iod4 ,aft] t %e we>s lu/reless silks1 trimm$ ) crape & jet1 & goes to c\rt if comm&$4 ,%e c also g to conc]ts )\t violat+ etiquette1 or to family w$d+s4 ,aft] six mon?s %e aga9 r$uces h] m\rn+ to black & :ite1 & c att5d ! draw+-room or g to small d9n]s4 ,= a husb& ! "t is exactly d\bl$1 b 9 nei!r case %\ld ! wid[ be se5 at a ball1 a !atre1 or an op]a until aft] "o ye> has elaps$4 ,9 ?is c\ntry no p]son 9 m\rn+ = a p>5t1 a *ild1 a bro!r1 or a husb&1 is expect$ to be se5 at a conc]t1 a d9n]1 a p>ty1 or at any o!r place ( public amusem5t1 be=e ?ree mon?s h pass$1 ,aft] t "o may be se5 at a conc]t4 ,b to g to ! op]a1 or a d9n]1 or a p>ty1 be=e six mon?s h elaps$1 is consid]$ he>tless & disrespectful4 ,inde$1 a deep m\rn+-dress at su* a place is an unpleasant anomaly4 ,if "o *oose1 z _m d1 n to we> m\rn+1 !n !y c g un*all5g$ to any place ( amusem5t1 = !y h ass]t$ _! "r to be indep5d5t2 b if !y put on m\rn+ !y mu/ respect its etiquette1 ,by _m :o sorr[ deeply1 & :o reg>d ! crape & solemn dress z a m>k ( respect to ! dead1 x is deem$ almo/ a s9 = a woman to g into ! /reet1 to drive1 or to walk1 = two ye>s1 )\t a deep crape veil ov] h] face4 ,x is a common rem>k ( ! c5sori\s t a p]son :o light5s h] m\rn+ be=e t "t did n c>e mu* = ! deceas$2 & _m p hold ! fact t a wid[ or an orphan we>s h] crape = two ye>s to be greatly to h] cr$it4 ,( c\rse1 no "o c say t a woman %\ld n we> m\rn+ all h] life if %e *oose1 b x is a s]i\s "q :e!r 9 s do+ %e does n injure ! welf>e & happ9ess ( ! liv+4 ,*ildr51 z we h said1 are (t5 /rangely affect$ by ?is %r\d+ ( _! mo!rs1 & m5 always dislike x4 ,common-s5se & common dec5cy1 h[ev]1 %\ld re/ra9 ! frivol\s f engag+ mu* 9 ! amusem5ts & gayeties ( life be=e six mon?s h pass$ aft] ! dea? ( any ne> fri5d4 ,if !y pret5d to we> black at all1 !y _c be too scrupul\s 9 respect+ ! re/ra9t :i* x imposes4 ,,*apt] ,,xxii4 ,,m\rn+ ,,& ,,fun]al ,,usages4 ,no?+ 9 our c\ntry is m undecid$ 9 ! public m9d ?an ! etiquette ( m\rn+4 ,x has n yet receiv$ t h]$it>y & positive "* :i* makes ! slighte/ dep>ture f receiv$ cu/om s repreh5sible 9 ,engl&4 ,we h n ! mutes1 or ! nodd+ fea!rs ( ! he>se1 t /ill =m "p ( ! ,engli% fun]al equipage2 nor is ! rank ( ! poor clay :i* travels to its la/ home illu/rat$ by ! pomp & c]emony ( its dep>ture4 ,/ill1 9 answ] to "s p]t95t que/ions1 we w (f] a few desultory rem>ks1 beg9n+ ) ! end1 z x 7--! return ( ! m\rn] to ! _w4 ,:5 p]sons :o h be5 9 m\rn+ wi% to re-ent] society1 !y %\ld leave c>ds on all _! fri5ds & acqua9tances1 z an intimation t !y are equal to ! pay+ & receiv+ ( calls4 ,until ?is intimation is giv51 society w n v5ture to intrude ^u ! m\rn]'s privacy4 ,9 eases :]e c>ds ( inquiry h be5 left1 ) ! words ,to inquire writt5 on ! top ( ! c>d1 ^! c>ds %\ld be repli$ to by c>ds ) ,?anks = k9d inquiries writt5 ^u !m2 b if c>ds = inquiry _h n be5 left1 ?is =m c be omitt$4 ,( c\rse !re is a k9d ( complim5t>y m\rn+ :i* does n necessitate seclusion--t :i* is worn out ( respect to a husb&'s relative :om "o may nev] h se54 ,b no "o we>+ a heavy crape veil %\ld g to a gay reception1 a w$d+1 or a !atre2 ! ?+ is incongru\s4 ,/ill less %\ld m\rn+ prev5t "o f tak+ prop] recreation3 ! m ! he>t a*es1 ! m %\ld "o try to ga9 *e]fulness & composure1 to he> music1 to see faces :i* "o loves3 ?is is a duty1 n m]ely a wise & s5sible rule4 ,yet x is well to h "s e/abli%$ cu/oms z to visit+ & dress 9 ord] t ! gay & ! he>tless may 9 obs]v+ !m avoid t :i* %ocks e "o--an appe>ance ( lack ( respect to ! memory ( ! dead--t all society may move on 9 dec5cy & ord]1 :i* is ! object & end ( ! /udy ( etiquette4 ,a he>tless wife :o1 in/ead ( be+ griev$ at ! dea? ( h] husb&1 is rejoic$ at x1 %\ld be taught t society w n respect h] unless %e pays to ! memory ( ! man ^: "n %e be>s t homage :i* vice pays to virtue1 a comm5dable respect to ! usages ( society 9 ! matt] ( m\rn+ & ( retirem5t f ! _w4 ,m\rn+ g>m5ts h ?is use1 t !y are a %ield to ! real m\rn]1 & !y are (t5 a curta9 ( respectability to ! p]son :o %\ld be a m\rn] b is n4 ,we %all !re=e borr[ f ! be/ ,engli% & ,am]ican au?orities :at we believe to be ! mo/ rec5t usages 9 ! etiquette ( m\rn+4 ,z = p]iods ( m\rn+1 we are told t a wid['s m\rn+ %\ld la/ eighte5 mon?s1 al?\gh 9 ,engl& x is some:at light5$ 9 twelve4 ,= ! fir/ six mon?s ! dress %\ld be ( crape clo?1 or ,h5rietta clo? cov]$ entirely ) crape1 coll> & cuffs ( :ite crape1 a crape bonnet ) a long crape veil1 & a wid['s cap ( :ite crape if pref]r$4 ,9 ,am]ica1 h[ev]1 wid[s' caps are n z univ]sally worn z 9 ,engl&4 ,dull black kid gloves are worn 9 fir/ m\rn+2 aft] t gants de ,su$e or silk gloves are prop]1 p>ticul>ly 9 summ]4 ,aft] six mon?s' m\rn+ ! crape c be remov$1 & gr5ad9e1 copeau fr+e1 & dead trimm+s us$1 if ! smell ( crape is (f5sive1 z x is to "s p4 ,aft] twelve mon?s ! wid['s cap is left (f1 & ! heavy veil is ex*ang$ = a light] "o1 & ! dress c be ( silk gr5ad9e1 pla9 black gros-gra91 or crape-trimm$ ca%m]e ) jet trimm+s1 & crpe lisse ab\t ! neck & sleeves4 ,all k9ds ( black fur & seal-sk9 are worn 9 deep m\rn+4 ,m\rn+ = a fa!r or "m %\ld la/ "o ye>4 ,dur+ half a ye> %\ld be worn ,h5rietta clo? or s]ge trimm$ ) crape1 at fir/ ) black tulle at ! wri/s & neck4 ,a deep veil is worn at ! back ( ! bonnet1 b n ov] ! head or face l ! wid['s veil1 :i* cov]s ! entire p]son :5 d[n4 ,?is fa%ion is v mu* object$ to by doctors1 :o ?9k _m diseases ( ! eye come by ?is means1 & advise = common use ?9 nun's-veil+ in/ead ( crape1 :i* %$s its p]nici\s dye into ! s5sitive no/rils1 produc+ cat>rhal disease z well z bl9dness & cat>act ( ! eye4 ,x is a ?\s& pities t fa%ion dictates ! crape veil1 b s x is4 ,x is ! v bann] ( woe1 & no "o has ! c\rage to g )\t x4 ,we c only sugge/ to m\rn]s we>+ x t !y %\ld p9 a small veil ( black tulle ov] ! eyes & nose1 & ?r[ back ! heavy crape z (t5 z possible1 = heal?'s sake4 ,jet ornam5ts alone %\ld be worn = eighte5 mon?s1 unless diamonds set z mem5toes are us$4 ,= half-m\rn+1 a bonnet ( silk or *ip1 trimm$ ) crape & ribbon4 ,m\rn+ fl[]s1 & crpe lisse at ! h&s & wri/s1 lead ! way to gray1 mauve1 & :ite-&-black toilettes aft] ! second ye>4 ,m\rn+ = a bro!r or si/] may be ! same2 = a /epfa!r or /epmo!r ! same2 = gr&p>5ts ! same2 b ! duration may be %ort]4 ,9 ,engl& ?is sort ( respectful m\rn+ only la/s ?ree mon?s4 ,m\rn+ = *ildr5 %\ld la/ n9e mon?s1 ,! fir/ ?ree ! dress %\ld be crape-trimm$1 ! m\rn+ less deep ?an t = a husb&4 ,no "o is ev] ready to take (f m\rn+2 !re=e ^! rules h ?is advantage--!y enable ! fri5ds ar\nd a grief-/rick5 "m to tell h] :5 is ! "t to make h] dress m *e]ful1 :i* %e is b\nd to d = ! sake ( ! survivors1 _m ( :om are p]haps affect$ = life by see+ a "m always 9 black4 ,x is well = mo!rs to rememb] ?is :5 sorr[ = a lo/ *ild makes all ! e>? seem b>r5 to !m4 ,we are (t5 ask$ :e!r lett]s ( condol5ce %\ld be writt5 on black-edg$ pap]4 ,decid$ly n1 unless ! writ] is 9 black4 ,! telegraph n[ fla%es messages ( respect & sympa?y across sea & l& l a voice f ! he>t4 ,p]haps x is bett] ?an any o!r ^w ( sympa?y1 al?\gh all :o c %\ld write to a b]eav$ p]son4 ,!re is no =mula possible = ^! lett]s2 !y mu/ be left to ! individual's good ta/e1 & p]haps ! simple/ & lea/ conv5tional are ! be/4 ,a c>d ) a few words p5cill$ on x has (t5 be5 ! be/ lett] ( condol5ce4 ,9 ,france a long & deeply edg$ m\rn+ lett] or address1 call$ a faire "p1 is s5t to e "o kn[n to ! family to advise !m ( a dea?4 ,9 ?is c\ntry t is n done1 al?\gh "s m5tion ( ! deceas$ is g5]ally s5t to fri5ds 9 ,europe :o w\ld n o!rwise he> ( ! dea?4 ,wives we> m\rn+ = ! relatives ( _! husb&s precisely z !y w\ld = _! own1 z w\ld husb&s = ! relatives ( _! wives4 ,wid[]s we> m\rn+ = _! wives two ye>s 9 ,engl&2 "h only "o ye>4 ,wid[]s g into society at a mu* e>li] date ?an wid[s1 x be+ a receiv$ rule t all g5tlem5 9 m\rn+ = relatives g into society v mu* soon] ?an ladies4 ,ladies ( ! family att5d ! fun]al ( a relative if !y are able to d s1 & we> _! deepe/ m\rn+4 ,s]vants are usually put 9 m\rn+ = ! head ( ! family--sometimes = any memb] ( x4 ,!y %\ld we> a pla9 black liv]y & we$s on _! hats2 ! inside l9+ ( ! family c>riage %\ld also be ( black4 ,! p]iod ( m\rn+ = an aunt or uncle or c\s9 is ( ?ree mon?s' duration1 & t "t at lea/ %\ld elapse be=e ! family g out or into gay company1 or are se5 at !atres or op]as1 etc4 ,we n[ come to ! sadde/ "p ( our subject1 ! consid]ation ( ! dead body1 s de>1 yet s soon to leave u2 s famili>1 yet s f> away--! ca/-(f dress1 ! belov$ clay4 ,du/ to du/1 a%es to a%es6 ,z = ! c(f91 x is simpl] ?an =m]ly2 &1 :ile l9$ ) sat9 & made ) c>e1 x is pla9 on ! outside--black clo?1 ) silv] plate = ! "n1 & silv] h&les1 be+ 9 ! mo/ mod]n ta/e4 ,!re are b few ( ! trapp+s ( woe4 ,at ! fun]al ( ,g5]al ,grant1 twice a ,presid5t1 & reg>d$ z ! savi\r ( 8 c\ntry1 !re 0 a gorge\s catafalque ( purple velvet1 b at ! ord9>y fun]al !re are none ( ^! trapp+s4 ,if our ri*e/ citiz5 7 to die to-morr[1 he w\ld probably be buri$ pla9ly4 ,yet x is t\*+ to see ) :at fidelity ! poore/ creature tries to bury h] dead dac5t4 ,! de/itute ,iri% woman begs = a few doll>s = ?is sacr$ duty1 & seldom 9 va94 ,x is a duty = ! ri* to put d[n o/5tation 9 fun]als1 = x is an exp5se :i* comes heavily on ^? :o h pov]ty add$ to grief4 ,9 dress+ ! rema9s = ! grave1 ^? ( a man are usually clad 9 8 habit z he liv$4 ,= a woman1 ta/es diff]3 a :ite robe & cap1 n necess>ily %r\dlike1 are decid$ly unexceptionable4 ,= "y p]sons & *ildr5 :ite ca%m]e robes & fl[]s are always mo/ appropriate4 ,! late c>d9al1 ^: spl5did obsequies & ^: regal ly+ 9 /ate 7 9 keep+ ) 8 high rank & ! gorge\s c]emonial ( 8 ,*ur*1 0 /rongly oppos$ to ! pr(use use ( fl[]s at fun]als1 & reque/$ t none be s5t to deck 8 lifeless clay4 ,he 0 a mode/ & humble man1 & always on ! "r side 9 ^! ?+s2 !re=e let 8 advice prevail4 ,a few fl[]s plac$ 9 ! dead h&1 p]haps a simple wrea?1 b n ^? unmean+ memorials :i* h become to real m\rn]s su* sad p]v]sities ( good ta/e1 su* a misuse ( fl[]s4 ,let ^? :o c af=d to s5d su* ?+s devote ! money to ! use ( poor mo!rs :o _c af=d to buy a c(f9 = a dead *ild or a coat = a liv+ "o4 ,9 ! c\rse ( a mon? aft] a dea? all fri5ds ( ! deceas$ are expect$ to leave c>ds on ! survivors1 & x is discretion>y :e!r ^! be writt5 on or n4 ,^! c>ds %\ld be c>efully pres]v$1 t1 :5 ! m\rn] is ready to return to ! _w1 !y may be prop]ly ackn[l$g$4 ,,*apt] ,,xxiii4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,condol5ce4 ,probably no bran* ( ! epi/ol>y art has ev] giv5 to fri5dly he>ts s mu* p]plexity z t :i* has to d ) writ+ to fri5ds 9 affliction4 ,x is delightful to sit d[n & wi% anybody joy2 to ov]fl[ ) congratulatory phrases ov] a favorable bit ( news2 to say h[ glad y are t y\r fri5d is engag$ or m>ri$1 or has inh]it$ a =tune1 has writt5 a successful book1 or has pa9t$ an immortal picture4 ,joy op5s ! closet ( language1 & ! gems ( expression are easily f\nd2 b ! f\nta9 ( feel+ be+ *ill$ by ! uncong5ial atmosph]e ( grief1 by ! sudd5 horror ( dea?1 or ! m t]rible brea? ( di%onor or %ame1 or ev5 by ! cold bla/ ( undes]v$ mis=tune1 leaves ! individual sympa?iz] 9 a mood ( p]plexity & ( sadness :i* is ( itself a mo/ disc\rag+ frame ( m9d = ! indit+ ( a lett]4 ,& yet we sympa?ize ) our fri5d3 we desire to tell him s4 ,we want to say1 ,my fri5d1 y\r grief is my grief2 no?+ c hurt y t does n hurt me4 ,i _c1 ( c\rse1 ent] into all y\r feel+s1 b to /& by & see y hurt1 & rema9 unmov$ myself1 is impossible4 ,all ?is we wi% to say2 b h[ %all we say x t our words may n hurt him a great deal m ?an he is hurt already8 ,h[ %all we lay our h& s t5d]ly on t sore spot t we may n inflict a fre% w\nd8 ,h[ c we say to a "m :o b5ds ov] a fre% grave1 t we regret ! loss %e has su/a9$ 9 ! dea? ( h] *ild8 ,c language measure ! dep?1 ! height1 ! imm5sity1 ! bitt]ness ( t grief8 ,:at %all we say t is n trite & commonplace--ev5 unfeel+8 ,%all we be pagan1 & say t :om ! gods love die "y1 or ,*ri/ian1 & rem>k t ,god does n will+ly afflict ! *ildr5 ( m58 ,%e has ?\ght ( t1 %e has he>d x1 alas6 (t5 be=e--b too (t51 z %e ?9ks n[4 ,%all we tell h] :at %e has lo/--h[ good1 h[ lov+1 h[ brave1 h[ admirable 0 ! _s :i* has j left ! fle%8 ,alas6 h[ well %e kn[s t6 ,h[ h] te>s well up z %e rememb]s ! sil5t =titude1 ! h]oic pati5ce "u ! pa9 t 0 to kill6 ,%all we quote anci5t philosoph]s & mod]n poets8 ,!y h all dwelt at great] or less l5g? ^u dea? & ! grave4 ,or %all we say1 9 simple & unprem$itat$ words1 ! ?\ghts :i* fill our own m9ds8 ,! p]son :o has to write ?is lett] may be a ready writ]1 :o f9ds fit expression at ! po9t ( 8 p51 & :o ov]fl[s ) ! language ( consolation--su* a "o ne$s no advice2 b to ! hundr$s :o d ne$ help we w\ld say t ! simple/ expressions are ! be/4 ,a di/ant fri5d1 ^u "o ( ^! occasions1 wrote a lett] z brief z brief might be1 b ( its k9d altoge!r p]fect4 ,x ran ?us3 ,i h he>d ( y\r great grief1 & ,i s5d y a simple pressure ( ! h&4 ,com+ f a gay & volatile p]son1 x _h = ! m\rn] great consolation2 pi\s quotations1 & ev5 ! commonplaces ( condol5ce1 w\ld h seem$ =c$4 ,und\bt$ly ^? p]sons d u great good1 or !y wi% to1 :o tell u to be resign$--t we h des]v$ ?is affliction2 t we suff] n[1 b t our pres5t suff]+s are no?+ to :at our future suff]+s %all be2 t we are only ent]+ ! portals ( agony1 & t e day w reveal to u ! magnitude ( our loss4 ,su* is ! =mula :i* c]ta9 p]sons use1 "u ! title ( lett]s ( condol5ce4 ,x is ! w9e mix$ ) gall :i* !y gave our ,"l to dr9k2 & z ,he refus$ x1 s may we4 ,!re are1 no d\bt1 p]sons ( a gloomy & a religi\s temp]am5t comb9$ :o delight 9 su* phrases2 :o quote ! lea/ consolatory ( ! texts ( ,scripture2 :o roll our grief z a sweet morsel "u _! tongues2 :o really envy ! position ( *ief m\rn] z "o ( great dignity & consid]able consequ5ce2 :o consid] crape & bombaz9e z a sort ( royal mantle conf]r+ di/9ction4 ,!re are _m su* p 9 ! _w4 ,dick5s & ,an?ony ,trollope h put !m into novels--solemn & ridicul\s ,malvolios2 !y exi/ 9 nature1 9 lit]ature1 & 9 art4 ,x adds a new t]ror to dea? :5 we reflect t su* p]sons w n fail to make x ! occasion ( lett]-writ+4 ,b ^? :o write to u /rongly & *e]fully1 :o d n dwell s mu* on our grief z on our rema9+ duties--!y are ! p :o help u4 ,to advise a m\rn] to g out into ! sun1 to resume 8 "w1 to help ! poor1 &1 above all1 to c>ry on ! ef=ts1 to emulate ! virtues ( ! deceas$--?is is com=t4 ,x is a v de> & consol+ ?+ to a b]eav$ fri5d to he> ! excell5ce ( ! dep>t$ extoll$1 to read & re-read all ( ! preci\s te/imony :i* is borne by outsid]s to ! sa9tly life end$--& !re are few s h>d-he>t$ z n to f9d some?+ good to say ( ! dead3 x is ! impulse ( human nature2 x und]lies all our philosophy & our religion2 x is ! /ret*+ out ( a h&1 & x com=ts ! afflict$4 ,b :at %all we say to ^? on :om disgrace has laid its heavy1 defil+ h&8 ,is x well to write to !m at all8 ,%all we n be mi/ak5 = ^? :o pr[l l jackals r\nd a grave1 & w n our motives be misund]/ood8 ,is n sympa?y sometimes malice 9 disguise8 ,does n ! phrase ,i am s sorry = y6 sometimes s\nd l ,i am s glad = myself8 ,und\bt$ly x does2 b a s9c]e fri5d %\ld n be re/ra9$1 ?r\gh fe> t 8 motive may be mi/ak51 f say+ t he wi%es to be> "s "p ( ! burd54 ,let him %[ t ! unhappy man is 9 8 ?\ghts1 t he w\ld l to help1 t he w\ld be glad to see him1 or take him out1 or s5d him a book1 or at lea/ write him a lett]4 ,su* a wi% z ?is w hurt no "o4 ,philosophy--"s qua9t & dry bit ( old ,s5eca1 or mod]n ,ro*ef\cauld--has (t5 help$ a /ruggl+ he>t :5 disgrace1 des]v$ or undes]v$1 has plac$ ! s\l 9 gyves ( iron4 ,sympa!tic p]sons1 ( n>r[ m9ds & imp]fect education1 (t5 h ! gift ( be+ able to say mo/ consolatory ?+s4 ,iri% s]vants1 = in/ance1 r>ely hurt ! feel+s ( a m\rn]4 ,!y bur/ out 9 ! language ( ,nature1 &1 if x is sometimes grotesque1 x is almo/ always com=t+4 ,x is ! educat$ & consci5ti\s p]son :o f9ds ! writ+ ( a lett] ( condol5ce difficult4 ,p]haps mu* ( our dread ( dea? is ! result ( a false education1 & ! we>+ ( black may aft] all be a mi/ake4 ,at ! mom5t :5 we ne$ bright colors1 fre% fl[]s1 sun%9e1 & beauty1 we hide ourselves beh9d crape veils & make our g>m5ts heavy ) a%es2 b z x is conv5tional x is 9 "o way a protection1 & is !re=e prop]4 ,no "o feels l v>y+ ! expressions ( a grief :i* has ! ,anglo-,saxon s]i\sness 9 x1 ! ,sc&9avian melan*oly ( a p f :om ,nature hides h]self beh9d a curta9 ( night4 ,to ! sunny & graceful ,greek ! road ( ! dead 0 ! ,via ,felice2 x 0 ! happy way1 ! gate ( fl[]s2 ! tombs 7 furni%$ z ! h\ses 71 ) images ( ! belov$1 & ! v]ie/ trifles :i* ! deceas$ _h lov$4 ,"o wond]s1 z ! tomb ( a *ild is op5$ on ! road out ( ,tanagra1 ne> ,a!ns1 & ! toys & hobby-horse & little %oes are f\nd !re91 if1 aft] all1 t fa!r & "m 7 n wis] ?an we :o1 l ,con/ance1 /uff out 8 vacant g>m5ts ) 8 =m4 ,is !re n some?+ q un5light5$ 9 ! p]si/5ce ) :i* we connect dea? ) gloom8 ,our correspond5ts (t5 ask u :5 a lett] ( condol5ce %\ld be writt58 ,z soon z possible4 ,d n be afraid to intrude on any grief1 ,x is g5]ally a welcome di/raction2 to ev5 ! mo/ morbid m\rn]1 to read a lett]2 & ^? :o are ,s /unn$ by grief z n to be able to write or to read w always h "s will+ s\l ne> !m :o w read & answ] = !m4 ,! afflict$1 h[ev]1 %\ld nev] be expect$ to answ] lett]s1 ,!y c & %\ld receive ! k9de/ & ! mo/ prompt t _! fri5ds c indite1 ,(t5 a phrase on :i* ! writ] has built no hope may be ! airy-bridge ov] :i* ! sorr[+ s\l returns sl[ly & bl9dly to peace & resignation4 ,:o w\ld miss ! *ance1 be x "o 9 t5 ?\s&1 ( build+ su* a bridge8 ,^? :o h suff]$ & be5 /rong1 ^? :om we love & respect1 ^? :o h ! hone/ fai? 9 human nature :i* enables !m to read aright ! riddle ( ?is /range _w1 ^? :o by fai? walk ov] burn+ pl\gh%>es & dread no evil1 ^? are ! p :o write ! be/ lett]s ( condol5ce4 ,!y d n dwell on our grief1 or exagg]ate x1 al?\gh !y are evid5tly writ+ to u ) a lump 9 ! ?roat & a te> 9 ! eye--!y d n say s1 b we feel x4 ,!y tell u ( ! c]ta9 influ5ce ( "t1 :i* w *ange our pres5t grief into our future joy4 ,!y say a few beautiful words ( ! fri5d :om we h lo/1 rec\nt _! own loss 9 him 9 a few fitt+ words ( e>ne/ sympa?y :i* may c>ry consolation1 if only by ! wi% ( ! writ]4 ,!y beg ( u to be pati5t4 ,god has br\ght life & immortality to light ?r\gh dea?1 & to ^? :om he has ?\ght wor?y to endure1 ?is ?\ght may ev] =m ! basis ( a lett] ( condol5ce4 ,give me1 said ! dy+ ,h]d]1 a great ?\ght1 t ,i may console myself ) t4 ,x is a pres5t ( no mean value1 a great ?\ght2 & if e lett] ( condol5ce c\ld be> ) x "o broad phrase ( hone/ sympa?y x w\ld be a bless$ in/rum5tality = c>ry+ pati5ce & resignation1 peace & com=t1 into ^? d>k places :]e ! suff]] is eat+ 8 he>t out ) grief1 or :]e ,ra*el weeps = h] *ildr51 & w n be com=t$1 because !y are n4 ,,*apt] ,,xxiv4 ,,*ap]ons ,,& ,,_! ,,duties4 ,x is /range t ! ,am]icans1 s prone to imitate ,briti% cu/oms1 h be5 sl[ to adopt t law ( ,engli% society :i* pron\nces a *ap]on an indisp5sable adjunct ( e unm>ri$ "y woman4 ,! read]s ( ,little ,dorrit w recall ! exce$+ly witty sket* ( ,mrs4 ,g5]al1 :o taught h] "y ladies to =m _! m\?s into a lady-l patt]n by say+ papa1 potatoes1 prunes1 & prism4 ,dick5s knew v little ( society1 & c>$ v little = its laws1 & 8 ladies & g5tlem5 7 pron\nc$ 9 ,engl& to be z great failures z 8 ,little ,nells & ,dick ,swivell]s 7 successes2 b he recogniz$ ! univ]sality ( *ap]ons4 ,8 portrait ( ,mrs4 ,g5]al 7! fir/ luxury :i* ,mr4 ,dorrit all[$ himself aft] inh]it+ 8 =tune7 %[s h[ univ]sal is ! necessity ( a *ap]on 9 ,engli% society1 & on ! ,cont95t1 to ! prop] introduction ( "y ladies1 & h[ entirely _! /yle dep5ds ^u _! *ap]on4 ,( c\rse ,dick5s made h] funny1 ( c\rse he made h] ridicul\s1 b he put h] !re4 ,an ,am]ican noveli/ w\ld n h ?\ght x wor? m5tion+1 nor w\ld an ,am]ican papa ) two mo!rless daught]s h ?\ght x necess>y1 if he travell$ ) !m1 to h a *ap]on = 8 daught]s4 ,( c\rse1 a "m is ! natural *ap]on ( h] daught]s1 & if %e und]/& h] duties & ! usages ( society !re is no?+ fur!r to be said4 ,b ! tr\ble is t _m ,am]ican mo!rs are exce$+ly c>eless on ?is po9t4 ,we ne$ n po9t to ! wond]ful ,mrs4 ,mill]--,daisy's "m--9 ,h5ry ,james1 ,jr4's1 photograph ( a l>ge class ( ,am]ican matrons--a woman :o lov$ h] daught]1 knew h[ to take c>e ( h] :5 %e 0 ill1 b did n "k 9 ! lea/ h[ to take c>e ( h] :5 %e 0 well2 :o all[$ h] to g ab\t ) "y m5 alone1 to get engag$1 if s %e pleas$1 & :o1 arriv+ at a p>ty aft] h] daught] _h appe>$1 r apologiz$ = com+ at all4 ,all ?is is notori\sly true1 & comes ( our crude civilization4 ,x is ! transition /ate4 ,until we le>n bett]1 we mu/ expect to be laugh$ at on ! ,p9cian ,hill1 & we mu/ expect ,engli% noveli/s to pa9t pictures ( u :i* we res5t1 & ,fr5* dramati/s to write plays 9 :i* we see ourselves held up z savages4 ,europeans h be5 9 ! habit ( tak+ c>e ( "y girls1 z if !y 7 ! preci\s porcela9 ( human clay4 ,! ,am]ican mamma treats h] beautiful daught] z if %e 7 a v common piece ( delft inde$1 & z if %e c\ld drift d[n ! /ream ( life1 knock+ all o!r vessels to pieces1 b escap+ injury to h]self4 ,ow+ to ! v rem>kable & /rong s5se ( propriety :i* ,am]ican wom5 innately possess--_! truly heal?y love ( virtue1 ! abs5ce ( any morbid suspicion ( wrong--?is rule has work$ bett] ?an any "o w\ld h d>$ hope4 ,ow+1 also1 to ! exceptionally respectful & *ivalr\s nature ( ,am]ican m51 x has be5 possible = a "y lady to travel unatt5d$ f ,ma9e to ,georgia1 or any:]e )9 ! new geographical limits ( our social gr[?4 ,mr4 ,h[ells f\nd$ a romance ^u ?is pr9ciple1 t ,am]ican wom5 d n ne$ a *ap]on4 ,yet we mu/ rememb] t all ! black %eep are n kill$ yet1 & we mu/ also rememb] t propriety mu/ be m att5d$ to z we cease to be a "y & primitive nation1 & z we ent] ! li/s ( ! ri*1 cultivat$1 luxuri\s p ( ! e>?4 ,little z we may c>e = ! op9ion ( =eign]s we d n wi% our "y ladies to appe> 9 _! eyes 9 a false attitude1 & "o ( ! fir/ necessities ( a prop] attitude1 "o ( ! fir/ dem&s ( a poli%$ society1 is ! pres5ce ( a *ap]on4 ,%e %\ld be a lady old en\gh to be ! "m ( h] *>ge1 & ( unexceptionable mann]4 ,%e mu/ "k society ?or\ghly h]self1 & respect its laws4 ,%e %\ld be above ! suspicion ( reproa* 9 "*1 & devot$ to h] "w4 ,9 ,engl& !re are hundr$s ( wid[s ( half-pay (fic]s--well-born1 well-tra9$1 well-educat$ wom5--:o c be hir$ = money1 z 0 ,mrs4 ,g5]al1 to play ?is "p4 ,!re is no su* class 9 ,am]ica1 b !re is almo/ always a lady :o w gladly p]=m ! task ( *ap]on+ mo!rless girls )\t remun]ation4 ,x is n consid]$ prop] 9 ,engl& = a wid[$ fa!r to place an unm>ri$ daught] at ! head ( 8 h\se )\t ! companion%ip ( a resid5t *ap]on1 & !re are grave objections to its be+ done "h4 ,we h all kn[n in/ances :]e su* lib]ty has be5 v bad = "y girls1 & :]e x has l$ to great sc&als :i* ! pres5ce ( a *ap]on w\ld h av]t$4 ,! duties ( a *ap]on are v h>d & unremitt+1 & sometimes v disagreeable4 ,%e mu/ accompany h] "y lady ev]y:]e2 %e mu/ sit 9 ! p>lor :5 %e receives g5tlem52 %e mu/ g ) h] to ! skat+-r9k1 ! ball1 ! p>ty1 ! races1 ! d9n]s1 & especially to !atre p>ties2 %e mu/ preside at ! table1 & act ! "p ( a "m1 s f> z %e c2 %e mu/ wat* ! *>act]s ( ! m5 :o approa* h] *>ge1 & endeavor to save ! inexp]i5c$ girl f ! dang]s ( a bad m>riage1 if possible4 ,to p]=m ?is feat1 & n to deg5]ate into a ,spani% du5na1 a dragon1 or a ,mrs4 ,g5]al--:o 0 simply a fool--is a v difficult task4 ,no d\bt a vivaci\s ,am]ican girl1 ) all h] inh]it$ hatr$ ( au?ority1 is a tr\blesome *>ge4 ,all "y p are rebels4 ,!y dislike be+ wat*$ & gu>d$4 ,!y h no idea :at ,hesp]idean fruit !y are1 & !y object to ! dragon decid$ly4 ,b a wise1 well-temp]$ woman c manage ! situation4 ,if %e h tact1 a *ap]on w add v mu* to ! happ9ess ( h] "y *>ge4 ,%e w see t ! prop] m5 are introduc$2 t h] "y lady is provid$ ) a p>tn] = ! g]man2 t %e is ask$ to nice places2 t %e goes well dress$ & prop]ly accompani$2 t %e gives ! return ball h]self 9 h&some /yle4 ,i owe1 said a weal?y wid[] 9 ,new ,york1 ^: daught]s all made rem>kably happy m>riages--,i owe all _! happ9ess to ,mrs4 ,con/ant1 :om ,i 0 s =tunate z to secure z _! *ap]on4 ,%e knew society 7:i* ,i did n71 z if x 7 9 h] pocket4 ,%e knew exactly :at girls ought to d1 & %e 0 s agreeable h]self t !y nev] dislik$ hav+ h] ) !m4 ,%e 0 v rigid1 too1 & w\ld n let !m /ay late at balls2 b !y lov$ & respect$ h] s mu* t !y nev] rebell$1 & n[ !y love h] z if %e 7 really _! "m4 ,a woman ( elegant mann]s & ( *>m+ "*1 :o w submit to ! slav]y--= x is little less--( be+ a *ap]on1 is h>d to f9d2 yet e mo!rless family %\ld try to secure su* a p]son4 ,9 travell+ 9 ,europe1 an accompli%$ *ap]on c d m = "y girls ?an any am\nt ( =tune4 ,%e has ! ?+ !y want--t is1 k4 ,) h] !y c g ev]y:]e--to picture-gall]ies1 !atres1 public & private balls1 & into society1 if !y wi% x4 ,x is etiquette to h a *ap]on1 & x is ! greate/ violation ( x n to h "o4 ,if a woman is protect$ by ! armor ( "w1 %e c disp5se ) a *ap]on4 ,! "y arti/ goes ab\t h] copy+ unque/ion$1 b 9 society1 ) its diff]5t laws1 %e mu/ be "u ! c>e ( an old] woman ?an h]self4 ,a *ap]on is indisp5sable to an engag$ girl4 ,! "m1 or "s lady fri5d1 %\ld always accompany a "y fiance on h] j\rneys to ! v>i\s places ( amusem5t & to ! wat]+-places4 ,no?+ is m vulg> 9 ! eyes ( our mod]n society ?an = an engag$ c\ple to travel toge!r or to g to ! !atre unaccompani$1 z 0 ! primitive cu/om4 ,?is w1 we "k1 %ock _m ,am]icans1 & be call$ a fooli% foll[+ ( =eign fa%ions4 ,b x is true2 &1 if x 7 only = ! looks ( ! ?+1 x is m dec5t1 m elegant1 & m correct = ! "y c\ple to be accompani$ by a *ap]on until m>ri$4 ,society all[s an engag$ girl to drive ) h] fianc 9 an op5 c>riage1 b x does n approve ( 8 tak+ h] 9 a close c>riage to an ev5+ p>ty4 ,!re are non-resid5t *ap]ons :o are mo/ popul> & mo/ useful4 ,?us1 "o mamma or eld]ly lady may *ap]on a numb] ( "y ladies to a d9n]1 or a drive on a coa*1 a sail d[n ! bay1 or a ball at ,we/ ,po9t4 ,?is lady looks aft] all h] "y *>ges1 & att5ds to _! propriety & _! happ9ess4 ,%e is ! gu>dian angel1 = ! mom5t1 ( _! conduct4 ,x is a c>e :i* "y m5 always admire & respect--?is ( a k9d1 well-br$ *ap]on1 :o does n all[ ! y\?ful spirits ( h] *>ges to run away ) !m4 ,! *ap]on1 if an intellig5t woman1 & ) ! sort ( social tal5t :i* a *ap]on ought to h1 is ! be/ fri5d ( a family ( %y girls4 ,%e br+s !m =w>d1 & places !m 9 a position 9 :i* !y c enjoy society2 = !re is a great deal ( tact requir$ 9 a l>ge city to make a retir+ girl enjoy h]self4 ,society dem&s a c]ta9 am\nt ( h&l+1 :i* only ! social exp]t und]/&s4 ,to ?is ! *ap]on %\ld be equal4 ,!re are "s wom5 :o h a social tal5t :i* is simply ,napoleonic4 ,!y manage x z a great g5]al does 8 corps de bataille4 ,aga91 !re are bad *ap]ons4 ,a flirtati\s m>ri$ woman :o is ?9k+ ( h]self only1 & :o takes "y girls ab\t m]ely to enable h]self to lead a gay life 7& ! _w is full ( su* wom571 is worse ?an no *ap]on at all4 ,%e is n a protection to ! "y lady1 & %e disgu/s ! honorable m5 :o w\ld l to approa* h] *>ge4 ,a v "y *ap]on1 b5t on pleasure1 :o und]takes to make respectable ! coa*+ p>ty1 b :o has no dignity ( "* to impress ^u x1 is a v poor "o4 ,_m ( ! mo/ flagrant violations ( propriety1 9 :at is call$ ! fa%ionable set1 h aris5 f ?is *oice ( "y *ap]ons1 :i* is a m]e begg+ ( ! "q1 & no *ap]onage at all4 ,too mu* *ampagne is drunk1 too late h\rs are kept1 silly /ories are circulat$1 & appe>ances are disreg>d$ by ^! gay girls & _! "y *ap]ons2 & yet !y dislike v mu* to see !mselves aft]w>ds held up to ridicule 9 ! pages ( a magaz9e by an ,engli%man1 ^: e s5tim5t ( propriety1 bo? educat$ & innate1 has be5 %ock$ by _! conduct4 ,a "y ,fr5*man :o visit$ ,am]ica a few ye>s ago =m$ ! wor/ judgm5t ( ,am]ican wom5 because he met "o alone at an arti/'s /udio4 ,he mis9t]pret$ ! pr(\ndly sacr$ & corrective influ5ces ( art4 ,x _h n occurr$ to ! lady t if %e w5t to see a picture %e w\ld be suspect$ ( wi%+ to see ! arti/4 ,/ill1 ! fact t su* a mi/ake c\ld be made %\ld r5d] ladies c>eful ( ev5 ! appe>ance ( evil4 ,a *ap]on %\ld 9 h] turn rememb] t %e mu/ n op5 a lett]1 ,%e mu/ n ex]cise an unwise surveillance4 ,%e mu/ n suspect h] *>ge4 ,all t sort ( ,spani% espionage is always outwitt$4 ,! mo/ successful *ap]ons are ^? :o love _! "y *>ges1 respect !m1 try to be 9 e way :at ! "m w\ld h be54 ,( c\rse1 all relations ( ?is sort are op5 to _m drawbacks on bo? sides1 b x is n impossible t x may be an agreeable relation1 if bo? p>ties ex]cise a little tact4 ,9 select+ a *ap]on = a "y *>ge1 let p>5ts or gu>dians be v p>ticul> z to ! pa/ hi/ory ( ! lady4 ,if %e has ev] be5 talk$ ab\t1 ev] suff]$ ! bad reputation ( flirt or coquette1 d n ?9k ( plac+ h] 9 t position4 ,clubs h long memories1 & ! fate ( m ?an "o "y heiress has be5 imp]ill$ by an injudici\s *oice ( a *ap]on4 ,if any woman %\ld h a spotless record & admirable "* x %\ld be ! *ap]on4 ,x w tell aga9/ h] *>ge if %e h n4 ,c]ta9 ne$y wom5 :o h be5 ladies1 & :o prec>i\sly atta* to society ?r\gh _! families1 are always seek+ = "s "y heiress4 ,^! wom5 are v poor *ap]ons1 & %\ld be avoid$4 ,?is bus9ess ( *ap]onage is a po9t :i* dem&s att5tion on ! "p ( c>eless ,am]ican mo!rs4 ,no "m %\ld be oblivi\s ( h] duty 9 ?is respect4 ,x does n imply t %e d\bts h] daught]'s honor or tru?1 or t %e ?9ks %e ne$s wat*+1 b x is prop] & respectable & necess>y t %e %\ld appe> by h] daught]'s side 9 society4 ,! _w is full ( traps4 ,x is impossible to be too c>eful ( ! reputation ( a "y lady1 & x improves ! tone ( society va/ly if an elegant & respectable woman ( middle age accompanies e "y p>ty4 ,x goes f> to sil5ce ! ceaseless clatt] ( gossip2 x is ! antidote to sc&al2 x makes ! air cle>]2 &1 above all1 x improves ! "*1 ! mann]s1 & elevates ! m9ds ( ! "y p :o are s happy z to enjoy ! society & to feel ! au?ority ( a cultivat$1 wise1 & good *ap]on4 ,,*apt] ,,xxv4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,eld]ly ,,girls4 ,a brisk correspond5t writes to u t %e f9ds our re/rictions z to ! etiquette :i* s+le wom5 %\ld foll[ some:at emb>rass+4 ,be+ n[ ?irty-five1 & at ! head ( h] fa!r's h\se1 ) no int5tion ( ev] m>ry+1 %e asks if %e requires a *ap]on2 if x is necess>y t %e %\ld obs]ve ! sev]e self-d5ial ( n ent]+ an arti/'s /udio )\t a gu>dian angel2 if %e mu/ nev] all[ a g5tleman to pay = h] !atre tickets2 if %e mu/1 9 %ort1 assume a matron's place 9 ! _w1 & nev] enjoy a matron's fre$om4 ,f h] lett] we c b believe t ?is "y lady ( ?irty-five is a v attractive p]son1 & t %e does n look h] age4 ,/ill1 z %e is at ! head ( h] fa!r's h\se1 etiquette does yield a po9t & all[s h] to judge = h]self z to ! proprieties :i* mu/ b5d to h]4 ,( c\rse ) e ye> ( a woman's life aft] tw5ty-five %e becomes less & less ! subject ( *ap]onage4 ,= "o ?+1 %e is bett] able to judge ( ! _w & its temptations2 9 ! second place1 a c]ta9 air :i* may n be less w9n+1 b :i* is c]ta9ly m mature1 has replac$ ! wild grace ( a giddy girlhood4 ,%e has1 ) ! assumption ( ye>s1 tak5 on a dignity :i*1 9 its way1 is fully ! comp5sation = "s lo/ bloom4 ,_m p pref] x4 ,b we mu/ say "h t %e is n yet1 9 ,european op9ion1 emancipat$ f t gu>dian%ip :i* society disp5ses ) = ! y\nge/ wid[4 ,%e mu/ h a companion if %e is a ri* woman2 & if %e is a poor "o %e mu/ jo9 "s p>ty ( fri5ds :5 %e travels4 ,%e c travel abroad ) h] maid1 b 9 ,p>is & o!r ,cont95tal cities a woman /ill "y-look+ _h bett] n d ?is4 ,%e is n safe f insult nor f injuri\s suspicion if %e signs h]self ,miss ,smi?1 & is )\t h] "m1 an eld]ly fri5d1 a companion1 or p>ty4 ,9 ,am]ica a woman c g any:]e & d almo/ any?+ )\t fe> ( insult4 ,b 9 ,europe1 :]e ! cu/om ( *ap]onage is s univ]sal1 %e mu/ be m circumspect4 ,z to visit+ an arti/'s /udio alone1 !re is 9 art itself an ennobl+ & purify+ influ5ce :i* %\ld be a protection4 ,b we mu/ n =get t saucy book by ,maurice ,s&1 9 :i* its au?or says t ! fir/ ?+ he obs]v$ 9 ,am]ica 0 t wom5 7ev5 respectable ones7 w5t alone to arti/s' /udios4 ,x w\ld seem wis]1 !re=e1 t a lady1 ?\gh ?irty-five1 %\ld be att5d$ 9 h] visits to /udios by a fri5d or companion4 ,?is simple exp$i5t sil5ces envi\s tongues1 & avoids ev5 ! remote/ appe>ance ( evil4 ,9 ! matt] ( pay+ = tickets1 if a lady ( ?irty-five wi%es to all[ a g5tleman to pay = h] admission to picture-gall]ies & !atres %e has an indisputable "r to d s4 ,b we are n fight+ = a "r1 only def9+ a law ( etiquette1 :5 we say t x is n g5]ally all[$ 9 ! be/ society1 abroad or "h4 ,9 ! case ( "y girls x is q unall[able1 b 9 ! case ( a lady ( ?irty-five x may be p]mitt$ z a sort ( cam>ad]ie1 z "o college fri5d may pay = ano!r4 ,! po9t is1 h[ev]1 a delicate "o4 ,m51 9 ! fre$om ( _! clubs1 rec\nt to ea* o!r ! clev] exp$i5ts :i* _m wom5 ( society use to extort f !m boxes = ! op]a & supp]s at ,delmonico's4 ,a woman %\ld rememb] t x may sometimes be v inconv5i5t to "y m5 :o are invit$ by h] to g to conc]ts & !atres to pay = ^! pleasures4 ,_m a poor fell[ :o has become a default] has to ?ank = x ! lady :o fir/ ask$ him to take h] to ,delmonico's to supp]4 ,he 0 a%am$ to tell h] t he 0 poor1 & he /ole t he might n seem a *url4 ,ano!r phase ( ! subject is t a lady 9 p]mitt+ a g5tleman to exp5d money = h] pleasures assumes an obligation to him :i* "t & *ance may r5d] oppressive4 ,) an old fri5d1 h[ev]1 "o ^: claim to fri5d%ip is well e/abli%$1 ! conditions are *ang$4 ,9 8 case !re c be no "q ( obligation1 & a woman may accept unhesitat+ly any ( ^? small att5tions & k9dnesses :i* fri5dly feel+ may prompt him to (f] to h]4 ,travell+ alone ) a g5tleman escort 0 at "o "t all[$ 9 ! ,we/4 ,a ,k5tucky woman ( t hi/oric p]iod1 be=e ! w>1 w\ld n h que/ion$ ! propriety ( x1 & a ,we/]n man ( to-day /ill has ! desire to pay ev]y?+1 ev]y:]e1 = a lady4 ,! increase 9 ! population ( ! ,we/]n ,/ates & ! gr[? ( a weal?y & fa%ionable society 9 ! l>ge t[ns h greatly modifi$ ?is _s ( unwise *ivalry1 & su* cu/oms are pass+ away ev5 on ! fronti]4 ,mr4 ,h[ells's novel1 ,! ,lady ( ! ,aroo/ook1 has acqua9t$ ,am]ican read]s ) ! unk9d criticism to :i* a "y lady :o travels 9 ,europe )\t a *ap]on is subject$1 & we believe t !re are few mammas :o w\ld desire to see _! daught]s 9 ! position ( ,miss ,lydia ,blood4 ,an old maid1 z our correspond5t playfully calls h]self1 may d almo/ any?+ )\t violat+ etiquette1 if %e cons5ts to become a *ap]on1 & takes ) h] a y\ng] p]son4 ,?us an aunt & niece c travel f> & wide2 ! position ( an eld] si/] is always dignifi$2 ! y\?ful head ( a h\se has a "r to ass]t h]self--%e mu/ d x--!re=e etiquette b[s to h] 7z nice cu/oms c\rtesy to great k+s74 ,!re is v mu* 9 ! appe>ance ( a woman4 ,x is a "p ( ! inju/ice ( nature t "s p look coquetti% :o are n s4 ,bad ta/e 9 dress1 a high color1 a natural fl[ ( spirits1 or a l\d laugh h (t5 caus$ a v good woman to be mis9t]pret$4 ,su* a woman %\ld be able to sit 9 judgm5t ^u h]self2 & rememb]+ t 9 a great city1 at a cr[d$ !atre1 or at a wat]+-place1 judgm5ts mu/ be ha/y & sup]ficial1 %e %\ld tone d[n h] natural exub]ance1 & take ) h] a female companion :o is ( a diff]5t type f h]self4 ,calm & cold ,puritanical p may n be m respectable ?an ! fre%-color$ & laugh+ old maids ( ?irty-five1 b !y look m s1 & 9 ?is _w wom5 mu/ consult appe>ances4 ,an eld]ly girl mu/ ev] ?9k h[ %e looks4 ,a woman :o at a wat]+-place dresses conspicu\sly1 we>s a peignoir to breakfa/1 dyes h] hair1 or looks z if %e did1 ties a :ite blond veil ov] h] locks & sits on a hotel piazza1 %[+ h] feet1 may be ! be/1 ! mo/ cultivat$ woman 9 ! h\se1 b a sup]ficial obs]v] w n ?9k s4 ,9 ! m9d ( e pass]-by w lurk ! feel+ t %e lacks ! fir/ grace ( womanhood1 mode/y--& 9 ! criticism ( a cr[d !re is /r5g?4 ,a man pass+ su* a p]son1 & contra/+ h] ) mode/ly dress$ & unobtrusive ladies1 w\ld naturally =m an unfavorable op9ion ( h]2 & 7 %e alone1 & h] "n ent]$ on ! books ( ! h\se z ,miss ,smi?1 he w\ld n be too sev]e if he ?\ght h] decid$ly ecc5tric1 & c]ta9ly bad /yle4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ,miss ,smi? 7 v pla9 & quiet1 & dress$ simply & 9 good ta/e1 or if %e sat on ! s&s look+ at ! sea1 or att5d$ an invalid or a y\ng] fri5d1 !n ,miss ,smi? might be z indep5d5t z %e pleas$3 %e w\ld suff] f no injuri\s comm5ts4 ,ev5 ! =eign]1 :o does n believe 9 ! ecc5tricities ( ! ,engli% mees1 w\ld h no ^w to say aga9/ h]4 ,a good-look+ eld]ly girl might say1 ,!re is1 !n1 a premium on ugl9ess2 b t we d n mean4 ,h&some wom5 c conduct !mselves s well t ! brea? ( reproa* ne$ n & does n t\* !m1 & ugly wom5 may & d sometimes ga9 an undes]v$ reproa*4 ,!re are "s p :o are born ) :at we call1 = want ( a bett] "n1 a p9*beck air4 ,_! jewell]y nev] looks l real gold2 _! mann] is always bad2 !y h ! faux air ( fa%ion1 n ! real "o4 ,su* p1 especially if s+le1 receive _m a snub :i* !y d n des]ve1 & to a woman ( ?is /yle a companion is almo/ necess>y4 ,=tunately !re are almo/ always two wom5 :o c jo9 =ces 9 travell+ or 9 liv+ toge!r1 & ! indep5d5ce ( su* a c\ple is delightful4 ,we h repeat$ te/imony 9 ,engli% lit]ature ( ! pleasant lives ( ! ,ladies ( ,llangoll51 ( ! lives ( ,miss ,jewsbury & ,lady ,morgan1 & ( ! model si/]s ,b]ry4 ,9 our own c\ntry we h almo/ aboli%$ ! idea t a companion is necess>y = wom5 ( tal5t :o are physicians or arti/s or musicians2 b to ^? :o are /ill 9 ! trammels ( private life we c say t ! pres5ce ( a companion ne$ n de/roy _! lib]ty1 & x may add v mu* to _! respectability & happ9ess4 ,!re is1 no d\bt1 a great pleasure 9 ! add$ fre$om ( life :i* comes to an eld]ly girl4 ,i c we> a velvet dress n[1 said an exce$+ly h&some woman on h] ?irtie? bir?day4 ,9 ,engl& an unm>ri$ woman ( fifty is call$ ,mrs41 if %e pref]s t title4 ,s _m delightful wom5 are late 9 lov+1 s _m are true to "s buri$ love1 s _m are eld]ly girls f *oice1 & f no neglect ( ! /rong] sex1 t to !m %\ld be accord$ all ! respect :i* is suppos$ to accrue naturally to ! m>ri$4 ,x takes a v sup]ior woman to be an old maid1 said ,miss ,s$gwick4 ,,*apt] ,,xxvi4 ,,new-,,ye>',s ,,calls4 ,le j\r de l'an1 z ! ,fr5* call ! fir/ day ( ,janu>y1 is inde$ ! pr9cipal day ( ! ye> to ^? :o /ill keep up ! cu/om ( call+ & receiv+ calls4 ,b 9 ,new ,york x is a cu/om :i* is 9 dang] ( fall+ into desuetude1 ow+ to ! size ( ! city & ! gr[? ( its population4 ,!re are1 h[ev]1 o!r t[ns & mu* c\ntry 7z ! ,indians say7 outside ( ,new ,york1 & !re are /ill hospitable bo>ds at :i* ! happy & ! light-he>t$1 ! gay & ! ?\ghtful1 may meet & ex*ange wi%es = a happy ,new-,ye>4 ,to ^? :o receive calls we w\ld say t x is well1 if possible1 to h e arrangem5t made two or ?ree days be=e ,new-,ye>'s1 z ! visit+ beg9s e>ly--sometimes at elev5 o'clock--if ! call] means to make a goodly day4 ,a lady %\ld h h] hair dress$ = ! day :5 %e rises1 & if h] dress be n too elaborate %e %\ld put x on !n1 s t %e may be 9 ! draw+-room :5 ! fir/ visitor arrives4 ,9 reg>d to ! "q ( dress1 we %\ld say t = eld]ly ladies black sat9 or velvet1 or any ( ! comb9ation dresses s fa%ionable n[1 ) h&some lace1 & ,sw$i% gloves ( pe>l or tan color 7n :ite kids2 ^! are decid$ly rococo1 & n 9 fa%ion71 w\ld be appropriate4 ,a black sat91 well made1 & trimm$ ) bead$ passem5t]ie1 is p]haps ! h&some/ dress t c\ld be worn by any "o4 ,brocad$ silk1 pla9 gros gra91 any?+ t a lady w\ld we> at ! w$d+ reception ( h] daught] is suitable1 al?\gh a pla9 dress is 9 bett] ta/e4 ,= "y ladies no?+ is s pretty z a dress ( light ca%m]e & silk1 cut high at ! ?roat4 ,^! dresses1 9 ! v pretty t9ts worn n[1 are extremely becom+1 w>m-look+1 & appropriate = a reception1 :5 ! door is be+ (t5 op5$4 ,:ite dresses ( ?ick silk or ca%m]e1 trimm$ ar\nd ! neck ) lace1 are also v elegant4 ,9 all c\ntries "y m>ri$ wom5 are all[$ to be z magnific5t z a picture ( ,m>ie de ,m$ici1 & c we> on ,new-,ye>'s day rose-color$ & :ite brocad$ silks1 ) pe>l trimm+s1 or pla9 ciel blue1 or prawn-color$ silk ov] :ite1 or emboss$ velvet1 or :at !y please1 s t ! dress is cut high1 & has sleeves to ! elb[4 ,ea* lady %\ld h ne> h] an erm9e cloak1 or a small camel's-hair %awl 9 case ( draughts4 ,x is n good ta/e to we> l[-neck$ or sleeveless dresses dur+ ! day-"t4 ,!y are worn by brides on _! w$d+-day sometimes1 b at receptions or on ,new-,ye>'s day sc>cely ev]4 ,:ile mu* magnific5ce is p]missible1 /ill a pla9 black or d>k silk dress1 if well made1 ) fre% ruffles at neck & wri/s1 is q z prop] z any?+ else1 & m5 g5]ally admire x m4 ,b :]e a lady has sev]al daught]s to receive ) h]1 %e %\ld /udy ! effect ( h] rooms1 & dress ! "y ladies 9 prettily contra/+ colors4 ,?is may be *eaply done by us+ ! s(t1 f9e m]9oes1 :i* are to be _h 9 all ! delicate & fa%ionable %ades4 ,%ort dresses ( ?is mat]ial are mu* us$2 b n[ t import$ dresses are s easily obta9$1 a "m ) _m daught]s to dress _c d bett] ?an buy co/umes simil> to ^? worn by economical ,fr5* ladies on _! j\r de l'an4 ,"o article ( dress is de rigeur4 ,) :atev] /yle ( co/ume1 gloves mu/ be worn4 ,a lady :o expects to h _m calls1 & :o wi%es to (f] refre%m5ts1 %\ld h hot tea & c(fee & a b[l ( pun* on a conv5i5t table2 or1 bett] /ill1 a silv] kettle fill$ ) b\illon /&+ 9 ! hall1 s t a g5tleman com+ 9 or go+ out c take a cup ( x unsolicit$4 ,if %e lives 9 an ,engli% basem5t h\se1 ?is table c be 9 ! l[] d9+-room4 ,9 a h\se ?ree rooms deep ! table & all ! refre%m5ts c be 9 ! usual d9+-room or 9 ! upp] back-p>lor4 ,( c\rse1 h] gr& spread c be z gorge\s z %e pleases4 ,hot oy/]s1 salads1 bon$ turkey1 quail1 & hot t]rap91 ) w9es ad libitum1 are (f]$ by ! weal?y2 b ?is is a difficult table to keep 9 ord] :5 t5 m5 call at "o o'clock1 & =ty at f\r1 & none betwe54 ,! be/ table is "o :i* is furni%$ ) bon$ turkey1 jelli$ tongues1 & pts1 s&wi*es1 & simil> di%es1 ) cake & fruit z decorative additions4 ,! mod]n & admirable adjunct ( a _s-lamp "u a teakettle keeps ! b\illon1 tea1 & c(fee always hot1 & ^!1 ) ! teacups necess>y to s]ve !m1 %\ld be on a small table at "o side4 ,a maid-s]vant1 neatly dress$1 %\ld be 9 con/ant att5dance on ?is table1 & a man-s]vant or two w be ne$$ to att5d ! door & to wait at table4 ,! man at ! door %\ld h a silv] tray or c>d-basket 9 :i* to receive ! c>ds ( visitors4 ,if a g5tleman is n kn[n to ! lady ( ! h\se1 he s5ds 9 8 c>d2 o!rwise he leaves x ) ! wait]1 :o deposits x 9 "s receptacle :]e x %\ld be kept until ! lady has leisure to exam9e ! c>ds ( all h] gue/s4 ,if a g5tleman is call+ on a "y lady1 & is n kn[n to ! ho/ess1 he s5ds 9 8 c>d to ! =m]1 :o pres5ts him to ! ho/ess & to all ! ladies pres5t4 ,if ! room is full1 an introduction to ! ho/ess only is necess>y4 ,if ! room is comp>atively empty1 x is mu* k9d] to pres5t a g5tleman to ea* lady1 z x t5ds to make conv]sation g5]al4 ,z a gue/ is ab\t to dep>t1 he %\ld be invit$ to take "s refre%m5t1 & be conduct$ t[>ds ! d9+-room = t purpose4 ,?is hospitality %\ld nev] be urg$1 z man is a creature :o d9es1 & is seldom will+ to all[ a lun*eon to spoil a d9n]4 ,9 a c\ntry neighborhood1 h[ev]1 or aft] a long walk1 a visitor is almo/ always glad to break 8 fa/ & enjoy a pickl$ oy/]1 a s&wi*1 or a cup ( b\illon4 ,! etiquette ( ,new-,ye>'s day comm&s1 p]emptorily1 t a g5tleman %all n be ask$ to take (f 8 ov]coat nor to be reliev$ ( 8 hat4 ,he w probably pref] to we> 8 ov]coat1 & to c>ry 8 hat 9 8 h& dur+ 8 brief visit4 ,if he wi%es to dispose ( ei!r1 he w d s 9 ! hall2 b on t po9t he is a free moral ag5t1 & x is n a "p ( ! duty ( a ho/ess to sugge/ :at he %all d ) 8 clo!s4 ,_m lett]s come to u ask+ ,:at subjects %\ld be talk$ ab\t dur+ a ,new-,ye>'s call4 ,alas6 we c only sugge/ ! wea!r & ! good wi%es appropriate to ! season4 ,! conv]sation is apt to be fragm5t>y4 ,"o good mot 0 evolv$ a few ye>s ago1 :5 roads 7 sn[y & ways 7 f\l4 ,a g5tleman compla9$ ( ! mud & ! dirty /reets4 ,yes1 said ! lady1 b x is v bright ov]head4 ,i am n go+ t way1 repli$ ! g5tleman4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n be urg$ to /ay :5 he calls4 ,he has g5]ally b five m9utes 9 :i* to express a desire t old & pleasant memories %all be cont9u$1 t new & cordial fri5d%ips %all be =m$1 & aft] t complim5t1 :i* e wall-br$ man pays a lady1 ,h[ rem>kably well y are look+ to-day6 he wi%es to be (f4 ,9 ,france x is ! cu/om = a g5tleman to we> a dress-coat :5 call+ on a great public function>y on ,new-,ye>'s day1 b x is n s 9 ,am]ica4 ,"h he %\ld1 we> ! dress 9 :i* he w\ld make an ord9>y morn+ visit4 ,:5 he ent]s a room he %\ld n remove 8 gloves1 nor %\ld he say1 z he greets 8 ho/ess1 ,excuse my glove4 ,he %\ld take h] glov$ h& 9 8 & give x a cordial pressure1 accord+ to our pleasant ,am]ican fa%ion4 ,:5 leav+1 ! c]emony is v brief--simply1 ,good-morn+1 or ,good-ev5+1 z ! case may be4 ,x is prop] = g5tlem5 to call late 9 ! ev5+ ( ,new-,ye>'s day1 & calls are made dur+ ! ensu+ ev5+s by p :o are o!rwise occupi$ 9 ! daytime4 ,if ! family are at d9n]1 or ! lady is fatigu$ ) ! day's duties1 ! s]vant mu/ say at ! door t ,mrs4 desires to be excus$4 ,he mu/ n pres5t ! c>d to h]1 & ?us oblige h] to s5d to h] visitor a message :i* might be tak5 z a p]sonal affront4 ,b %e mu/ h ! s]vant in/ruct$ to refuse all at c]ta9 h\rs2 !n none c be (f5d$4 ,_m ladies 9 ,new ,york are no long] at home on ,new-,ye>'s day2 & :5 ?is is ! case a basket is ti$ at ! door to receive c>ds4 ,!y d ?is because s _m g5tlem5 h giv5 up ! cu/om ( call+ t x seems to be dy+ out1 & all _! prep>ations = a reception become a holl[ mock]y4 ,h[ _m we>y wom5 h sat ) novel 9 h& & lun*eon-table spread1 wait+ = ! call]s :o did n come6 ,! practice ( s5d+ c>ds to g5tlem51 /at+ t a lady w\ld be at home on ,new-,ye>'s day1 has also v mu* gone out ( fa%ion1 ow+ to ! fact t g5tlem5 frequ5tly did n respond to !m4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 prop] t a m>ri$ lady return+ to h] home aft] a long abs5ce 9 ,europe1 or "o :o has *ang$ h] resid5ce1 or :o is liv+ at a hotel or bo>d+-h\se 7or :o is visit+ fri5ds71 %\ld s5d h] c>d to ^? g5tlem5 :om %e wi%es to receive4 ,x mu/ be rememb]$ t _m g5tlem51 g5]ally ^? no long] "y1 /ill l v mu* ! fa%ion ( visit+ on ,new-,ye>'s day1 & g to see z _m p z !y c 9 a brief w9t]'s sun%9e4 ,^! g5tlem5 deplore ! basket at ! door1 & ! decad5ce ( ! old cu/om 9 ,new ,york4 ,family fri5ds & old fri5ds1 ^? :om !y nev] see at any o!r "t1 are to be se5--or !y %\ld be se51 s ^! old fri5ds ?9k--on ,new-,ye>'s day4 ,a p]sonal call is m agreeable ?an a c>d4 ,let a g5tleman call1 & 9 p]son1 or take no notice ( ! day4 ,s say ! mo/ tru/wor?y au?orities1 & _! op9ion has an excell5t f\ndation ( common-s5se4 ,c\ld we only g back to ! old ,dut* t[n :]e ! cu/om />t$1 :]e all animosities 7 heal$1 all (f5ces =gott51 on ,new-,ye>'s day1 :5 ! good ,dut* h\sewives made _! own cakes & spic$ ! lov+-cup1 :5 all ! wom5 /ay$ at home to receive & all ! m5 call$1 :at a diff]5t ,new-,ye>'s day we %\ld enjoy 9 ,new ,york4 ,n[adays1 two or ?ree visitors arrive be=e ! ho/ess is ready to receive !m2 !n "o comes aft] %e has appe>$1 vani%es1 & %e rema9s alone = two h\rs2 !n =ty come4 ,%e rememb]s none ( _! names1 & has no rational or pr(itable conv]sation ) any ( !m4 ,b = ! abus]s ( ,new-,ye>'s day1 ! pret5d]s :o1 ) no "r to call1 come 9 "u cov] ( ! g5]al hospitality ( ! season--! bores1 :o on ?is day1 z on all days1 are only tiresome--we h no salve1 no pat5t cure4 ,a ho/ess mu/ receive !m ) ! utmo/ suavity1 & be z amiable & agreeable z possible4 ,new-,ye>'s day is a v brilliant "o at ,wa%+ton4 ,all ! _w calls on ! ,presid5t at twelve o'clock2 ! diplomats 9 full dress1 (fic]s ( ! army & navy 9 full uni=m1 & ! o!r p gr&ly attir$4 ,lat]1 ! heads ( dep>tm5ts1 cab9et m9i/]s1 judges1 etc41 receive ! less] lights ( society4 ,9 ,p>is ! same etiquette is obs]v$1 & e cl]k calls on 8 *ief4 ,9 a small city or village etiquette manages itself1 & ladies h only to let x be kn[n t !y w be at home1 ) hot c(fee & oy/]s1 to receive ! mo/ agreeable k9d ( call]s--^? :o come because !y really wi% to pay a visit1 to express goodwill1 & to ask = t expression ( fri5d%ip :i* our res]v$ ,anglo-,saxon natures are s prone to )hold4 ,9 ,new ,york a few ye>s ago ! temp]ance p made a great onslaught on ladies :o invit$ "y m5 to dr9k on ,new-,ye>'s day4 ,x 0 said to lead to mu* disord] & intemp]ance2 & s1 f fe> ( caus+ "o's bro!r to s91 _m h bani%$ ! famili> pun*-b[l4 ,9 a numb] ( well-kn[n h\ses 9 ,new ,york no lun*eon is (f]$1 & a cup ( b\illon or c(fee & a s&wi* is ! usual refre%m5t 9 ! ri*e/ & mo/ /yli% h\ses4 ,x w be se51 !re=e1 t x is a day ( l>ge/ lib]ty4 ,!re are no long] any sumptu>y laws2 b x is impossible to say :y ladies ( ! highe/ fa%ion 9 ,new ,york d n /ill make x a gala-day4 ,! multiplicity ( o!r ent]ta9m5ts1 ! unse5 yet all-p[]ful influ5ce ( fa%ion1 ^! ?+s m\ld ! _w ins5sibly4 ,yet 9 a ?\s& homes1 ?\s&s ( cordial h&s w be ext5d$ on ! great ,fir/ ( ,janu>y1 & to all ( !m we wi% a ,happy ,new ,ye>4 ,,*apt] ,,xxvii4 ,,mat9,,es ,,& ,,soir,,es4 ,a mat9e 9 ,am]ica means an aft]noon p]=mance at ! !atre ( a play or op]a4 ,9 ,europe x has a wid] significance1 any social ga!r+ be=e d9n] 9 ,france be+ call$ a mat9e1 z any p>ty aft] d9n] is call$ a soire4 ,! improp] application ( ano!r =eign ^w 0 /rik+ly manife/$ 9 ! old fa%ion ( call+ ! ,presid5t's ev5+ receptions levees4 ,! t]m levee1 z orig9ally us$1 meant lit]ally a k+'s gett+ up4 ,:5 he arose1 & :ile he 0 dress+1 su* ( 8 c\rti]s z 7 privileg$ to approa* him at ?is h\r ga!r$ 9 an ant]oom-wait+ to assi/ at 8 toilet1 to wi% him good morn+1 or p]haps pref] a reque/4 ,9 "t ?is morn+ ga!r+ grew to be an important c\rt c]emonial1 & "s "o ignorant ( ! mean+ ( ! ^w nam$ ,presid5t ,jackson's ev5+ receptions ! ,presid5t's levees4 ,s ) ! ^w mat9e4 ,fir/ us$ to indicate a day reception at c\rt1 x has n[ gr[n to mean a day p]=mance at a !atre4 ,sometimes a lady1 bold] ?an h] neighbors1 issues an invitation = a mat9e dansante1 or a mat9e musicale1 b ?is descriptive /yle is n common4 ,!re are _m advantages 9 a morn+ p>ty4 ,x af=ds to ladies :o d n g to ev5+ receptions ! pleasure ( meet+ in=mally1 & is also a well-*os5 occasion = introduc+ a new piani/ or s+]4 ,= a busy woman ( fa%ion no?+ c be m conv5i5tly tim$ ?an a mat9e1 :i* beg9s at two & ends at f\r or half pa/4 ,x does n int]f]e ) a five-o'clock tea or a drive 9 ! p>k1 nor unfit h] = a d9n] or an ev5+ ent]ta9m5t4 ,two o'clock is also a v good h\r = a l>ge & in=mal g5]al lun*1 if a lady wi%es to avoid ! exp5se1 =mality1 & tr\ble ( a sit-d[n lun*4 ,:ile ! busy ladies c g to a mat9e1 ! busy g5tleman _c2 & z m5 ( leisure 9 ,am]ica are few1 a morn+ ent]ta9m5t at a !atre or 9 society is almo/ always an assemblage ( wom54 ,to avoid ?is inequality ( sex1 _m ladies h _! mat9es on "s "o ( ! national holidays--,wa%+ton's ,bir?day1 ,?anksgiv+1 or ,decoration-day4 ,on ^! occasions a mat9e1 ev5 9 busy ,new ,york1 is well att5d$ by g5tlem54 ,:51 z sometimes happ5s1 a pr9ce1 a duke1 an ar*bi%op1 an au?or ( celebrity1 a ,tom ,hughes1 a ,"l ,h\ghton1 a ,dean ,/anley1 or "s desc5dant ( our ,fr5* allies at ,yorkt[n1 comes on a visit to our c\ntry1 "o ( ! mo/ satisfactory =ms ( ent]ta9m5t t we c (f] to him is a morn+ reception4 ,at an in=mal mat9e we may br+ to meet him su* au?ors1 arti/s1 cl]gym51 lawy]s1 editors1 /atesm51 ri* & public-spirit$ citiz5s1 & beautiful & cultivat$ wom5 ( society1 z we may be =tunate en\gh to "k4 ,! prim>y bus9ess ( society is to br+ toge!r ! v>i\s elem5ts ( :i* x is made up--its /ronge/ motive %\ld be to light5 up ! mom5t\s bus9ess ( life by an easy & fri5dly int]c\rse & int]*ange ( ideas4 ,b if we hope to br+ ab\t u m5 ( m9d & di/9ction1 our object mu/ be n only to be amus$ b to amuse4 ,to p]suade ^? eld]ly m5 :o are ma9ta9+ ! great ,am]ican "n at its pres5t high place 9 ! ,pan!on ( nations to sp5d a c\ple ( h\rs at a mat9e1 we mu/ (f] "s tempt+ bait z an equival5t4 ,a lady :o ent]ta9$ ,dean ,/anley said t %e p>ticul>ly enjoy$ h] own mat9e giv5 = him1 because ?r\gh 8 "n %e = ! fir/ "t induc$ ! di/+ui%$ cl]gy ( ,new ,york to come to h] h\se4 ,su* m5 are n tempt$ by ! frivolities ( a fa%ionable social life t lives by its vanity1 its excitem5t1 its rivalry & flirtation4 ,n t all fa%ionable society is op5 to su* reproa*1 b its t5d5cy is to lightness & empt9ess2 & we r>ely f9d really valuable m5 :o seek x4 ,!re=e a lady :o w\ld make h] h\se attractive to ! be/ society mu/ (f] x some?+ high] ?an t to :i* we may give ! g5]ic title fa%ion4 ,dress1 music1 danc+1 supp]1 are delightful accessories-!y are ornam5ts & /imulants1 n requisites4 ,= a good society we ne$ m5 & wom5 :o are good company1 z !y say 9 ,engl&--m5 & wom5 :o c talk4 ,nor is ! advantage all on "o side4 ,! free play ( bra91 ta/e1 & feel+ is a mo/ important refre%m5t to a man :o works h>d1 :e!r 9 ! pulpit or 9 ,wall ,/reet1 9 ! editorial *air or at ! dull gr9d ( au?or%ip4 ,! pa9t] %\ld wa% 8 bru%es & /rive = "s int]c\rse ( abid+ value ) ^? ^: lives diff] f 8 own4 ,! woman :o works %\ld also look ^u ! div]tissem5ts ( society z ne$$ recreation1 fruitful1 may be1 ( ! be/ culture4 ,on ! o!r h&1 no society is p]fect )\t ! elem5ts ( beauty1 grace1 ta/e1 ref9em5t1 & luxury4 ,we mu/ br+ all ^! v>i$ pot5tialities toge!r if we w\ld h a real & liv+ social life4 ,= t brilliant ?+ t we call society is a f9ely-wov5 fabric ( ?reads ( diff]5t sizes & colors ( contra/+ %ades4 ,x is n intrigue1 or ! display ( weal?1 or morbid excitem5t t mu/ b9d toge!r ?is social fabric1 b sympa?y1 t pleasant ?+ :i* ref9es & refre%es1 & knits up ! ravell$ sleeve ( c>e1 & leaves u /rong = ! battle ( life4 ,& 9 no mod]n =m ( ent]ta9m5t c we bett] produce ?is f9] atmosph]e1 ?is desirable sympa?y betwe5 ! _w ( fa%ion & t ( ?\ght1 ?an by mat9es1 :5 giv5 "u favorable circum/ances4 ,to be sure1 if we gave "o e day x w\ld be necess>y1 z we h said1 to disp5se ) a l>ge numb] ( g5tlem52 b ! occasional mat9ee is apt to cat* "s v good specim5s ( ! g5us homo1 & sometimes ! be/ specim5s4 ,x is prop] to (f] a v sub/antial buffet1 z p r>ely lun* be=e two o'clock1 & w be glad ( a bit ( bird1 a cup ( b\illon1 or a leaf ( salad4 ,x is mu* bett] to (f] su* an ent]ta9m5t e>li] ?an ! five-o'clock tea2 at :i* h\r p are sav+ _! appetites = d9n]4 ,a soire is a f> m difficult affair1 & calls = m subtle treatm5t4 ,x %\ld be1 n a ball1 b :at 0 =m]ly call$ an ev5+ p>ty4 ,x ne$ n exclude danc+1 b danc+ is n its excuse = be+4 ,x means a v bright conv]sazione1 or a read+1 or a musicale1 ) pretty ev5+ dress 7n necess>ily ball dress71 a supp]1 & e>ly h\rs4 ,su*1 at lea/1 0 its e>ly significance abroad4 ,x has ?is advantage 9 ,new ,york1 t x does attract g5tlem54 ,!y l v mu* ! easy-go+1 e>ly-h\r$ soire4 ,we mean1 ( c\rse1 ^? g5tlem5 :o no long] c>e = balls1 & if ari/ocracy is to be desir$1 ! rule ( ! be/1 at ,am]ican ent]ta9m5ts1 all aspirants = social di/9ction %\ld try to propitiate ^? m5 :o are be+ driv5 f ! ballroom by ! insol5ce & pret5sion ( ! l[] elem5ts ( fa%ionable society4 ,9 ,europe1 ! v qualities :i* make a man great 9 ! s5ate1 ! field1 or ! *amb] ( comm]ce1 give him a correspond+ em95ce 9 ! social _w4 ,_m a gray-mu/a*$ vet]an 9 ,p>is leads ! g]man4 ,a s5ator ( ,france aspires to appe> well 9 ! b\doir4 ,) ^! m5 social dext]ity is a requisite to success1 & is cultivat$ z a duty4 ,x is n s "h1 = ! two great factors ( success 9 ,am]ica1 weal? & le>n+1 d n always fit a man = society1 & /ill less does society adapt itself to !m4 ,! soire1 if prop]ly conduct$1 is an ent]ta9m5t to :i* c be br\ght ! be/ elem5ts ( our society3 eld]ly1 ?\ghtful1 & educat$ m54 ,a lady %\ld n1 h[ev]1 9 ! matt] ( dress1 conf\nd a soire ) a conc]t or reception4 ,x is ! height ( impropriety to we> a bonnet to ! =m]1 z has be5 done 9 ,new ,york1 to ! ev]la/+ disgu/ ( ! ho/ess4 ,:5 a ho/ess takes ! pa9s to issue an invitation to a soire a week or a =tnight be=e x is to occur1 %e %\ld be repaid by ! c>eful dress+ & e>ly arrival ( h] gue/s4 ,x may be prop] to g to an ev5+ reception 9 a bonnet1 b nev] to a soire or an ev5+ p>ty4 ,!re is no d\bt t weal? has become a p[] 9 ,am]ican society1 & t we are 9 dang] ( feel+ t1 if we h n weal?1 we c give nei!r mat9es nor soires2 b ?is is a mi/ake4 ,( c\rse ! possession ( weal? is mo/ desirable4 ,money is p[]1 & :5 x is well e>n$ x is a noble p[]2 b x does n comm& all ^? advantages :i* are ! v ess5ce ( social int]c\rse4 ,x may pamp] ! appetite1 b x does n always fe$ ! m9d4 ,!re is /ill a corn] left = ^? t h b little money4 ,a lady c give a mat9ee or a soiree 9 a small h\se ) v little exp5diture ( money2 & if %e has ! inspiration ( ! model ent]ta9]1 e "o :om %e honors ) an invitation w flock to h] small & unpret5d+ m5age4 ,!re are numb]s ( p 9 our l>ge cities :o c give great balls1 dazzle ! eye1 confuse & delight ! s5ses1 dr[n u 9 a s5su\s luxury2 b h[ few !re are :o1 9 a back /reet & 9 a humble h\se1 light t lamp by :i* ! ,misses ,b]ry summon$ to _! little p>lor ! clev]e/ & be/ p6 ,! elegant1 ! unpret5ti\s1 ! quiet soire to :i* ! woman ( fa%ion %all welcome ! littrateur & ! arti/1 ! ari/ocrat :o is at ! top ( ! social tree & ! millionaire :o rea*$ 8 culm9ation ye/]day1 w\ld seem to be t ,ultima ,?ule = :i* all p h be5 sigh+ ev] s9ce society 0 fir/ ?\ght (4 ,!re are "s ,am]icans :o are s fooli% z to affect ! pride ( ! h]$it>y ari/ocracies1 & :o h "s fanci$ traditional /&>d by :i* !y ?9k to keep _! blue blood pure4 ,a good old gr&fa!r :o _h tal5t1 or patriotism1 or broad views ( /atesman%ip1 :o did ! /ate "s s]vice1 is a relation to be pr\d (1 b 8 desc5dants %\ld take c>e to %[1 by "s m p]sonal excell5ce ?an t ( a social exclusiv5ess1 _! appreciation ( 8 hone/y & ability4 ,:at our gr&fa!rs 71 a ?\s& new-com]s n[ are4 ,!y made _! way--! e>ly ,am]ican m5--untrammell$ by class re/ra9ts2 !y arriv$ at weal? & di/9ction & social em95ce by _! own m]its2 !y toil$ = ! money :i* buys = _! gr&sons purple & f9e l954 ,& c\ld !y see ! pure & p]fect snob :o n[ sometimes be>s ! "n :i* !y left s unsulli$1 !y w\ld be exasp]at$ & a%am$1 ,( c\rse1 a c]ta9 exclusiv5ess mu/ m>k all our mat9es & soires2 !y w\ld fail ( ! *ief elem5t ( div]sion if we invit$ ev]ybody4 ,let u1 !re=e1 make sure ( ! ae/hetic & intellectual1 ! sympa!tic & ! g5ial1 & sift out ! pret5ti\s & ! impure4 ,! rogues1 ! pret5d]s1 ! adv5tur]s :o pu% into ! p5etralia ( our social circles are _m1 & x is to ! exclusion ( su* t a ho/ess %\ld devote h]self4 ,x is said t all wom5 are born ari/ocrats1 & x is sometimes said 9 ! same tone ) :i* ! speak] aft]w>ds adds t all wom5 are born fools4 ,a woman1 f h] f9] s5se1 enjoys luxury1 f9e clo?+1 gorge\s h\ses1 & all ! ref9em5ts t money c buy2 b ev5 ! mo/ idle & luxuri\s & fooli% woman desires t high] luxury :i* art & intellig5ce & delicate appreciation c alone br+2 ! two are necess>y to ea* o!r4 ,to a ho/ess ! difficulty ( ent]ta9+ 9 su* a mann] z to unite 9 a p]fect :ole ! f9anci]s1 ! philosoph]s1 ! cultivat$ =eign]s1 ! p ( fa%ion1 ! sympa!tic & ! arti/ic is v great2 b a ho/ess may br+ ab\t ! mo/ g5ial democracy at ! mod]n mat9e or soire if %e manages prop]ly4 ,,*apt] ,,xxviii4 ,,aft]noon ,,tea4 ,! five-o'clock tea began 9 ,engl&1 & is cont9u$ !re1 z a ne$$ refre%m5t aft] a day's hunt+1 driv+1 or out-(-door ex]cise1 be=e dress+ = d9n]--t v late d9n] ( ,engli% fa%ion4 ,x is believ$ t ! ,pr9cess ( ,wales set ! fa%ion by receiv+ 9 h] b\doir at "s c\ntryh\se 9 a v becom+ tea g[n1 :i* e lady kn[s to be ! mo/ luxuri\s *ange f ! tight rid+-habit or c>riage-dress4 ,h] fri5ds came 91 by h] graci\s invitation1 to h] sanctum1 betwe5 five & sev51 to take a cup ( tea ) h]4 ,! ,london belles 7 glad to h an excuse = a new ent]ta9m5t1 & gradually x grew to be a fa%ion1 at :i* p talk$ s fa/ & s l\d z to sugge/ ! noise ( a drum--a kettl$rum1 ! mo/ rattl+ ( all drums4 ,!n x 0 rememb]$ t an old-fa%ion$ ent]ta9m5t 0 call$ a drum1 & ! tea sugge/$ kettle1 & ! "n fitt$ ! circum/ances4 ,9 ,engl&1 :]e economy is s mu* ! fa%ion1 x 0 f9ally pron\nc$ an excell5t excuse = ! suppression ( exp5se1 & x came ov] to ,new ,york dur+ a calamit\s p]iod1 j aft] ,black ,friday4 ,ladies 7 glad to assemble _! fri5ds at an h\r conv5i5t = _! s]vants1 & ) an ent]ta9m5t inexp5sive to _! husb&s4 ,s a kettl$rum became ! mo/ fa%ionable ( ent]ta9m5ts4 ,p aft] a :ile =got its orig91 & gave a spl5did ball by daylight1 ) e luxury ( ! season1 & call$ x tea at five o'clock1 or else paid (f all _! social obligations by "o sweep+ tea1 :i* co/ !m no?+ b ! light+ ( ! gas & ! hir+ ( an additional wait]4 ,!y became s popul> t !y defeat$ !mselves1 & ladies _h to encompass five1 six1 sometimes n9e teas ( an aft]noon1 & ! :ole ( a cold ,saturday--! favorite day = teas--0 sp5t 9 a c>riage try+ to accompli% ! impossible4 ,! only aft]noon tea t %\ld prevail 9 a l>ge city l ,new ,york is t giv5 by "o or two ladies :o are usually at home at five o'clock e aft]noon4 ,if !re is a well-kn[n h\se :]e ! ho/ess has ! firmness & ! hospitality to be always seat$ 9 front ( h] blaz+ urn at t h\r1 %e is sure ( a cr[d ( g5tlem5 visitors1 :o come f d[n-t[n glad ( a cup ( tea & a *at & re/ betwe5 "w & d9n]4 ,! sight ( a pretty girl mak+ tea is always de> to ! mascul9e he>t4 ,_m ( our "y lawy]s1 brok]s1 & gay m5 ( ! hunt l a cup ( hot tea at five o'clock4 ,! mi/ake 0 9 ! p]v]sion ( ! idea1 ! mak+ x ! occasion = ! (ficial pres5tation ( a daught]1 or ! excuse = o!r & m elaborate ent]ta9m5ts4 ,s1 al?\gh _m a h\se is op5$ ?is w9t] at ! same conv5i5t h\r1 & ) p]haps only ! b\illon & tea-kettle & bit ( cake or s&wi* 7= really no "o wants m refre%m5t ?an ?is be=e d9n] & aft] lun*eon71 ! "n ( ^! aft]noon ent]ta9m5ts has be5 by mutual cons5t dropp$1 & we no long] see ! ^w kettl$rum or aft]noon tea on a c>d1 b simply ! date & ! h\r4 ,!re is a great deal to be said 9 ?is matt] on bo? sides4 ,! primal idea 0 a good "o4 ,to h a ga!r+ ( p )\t ! univ]sal oy/] 0 at fir/ a great relief4 ,! p :o _h n money = gr& spreads 7 enabl$ to %[ to _! m opul5t neighbors t !y too _h ! _s ( hospitality4 ,all :o h sp5t a w9t] 9 ,rome rememb] ! frugal ent]ta9m5t (f]$1 s t an arti/ ) no pl5tiful purse c\ld /ill ask a pr9ce to visit him4 ,x became ! reproa* ( ,am]icans t !y alone 7 a%am$ to be poor1 & t1 unless !y c\ld (f] an exp5sive supp]1 d9n]1 or lun*eon1 !y c\ld n ask _! fri5ds to come to see !m4 ,!n1 aga91 ! doctors1 x 0 urg$1 _h discov]$ t tea 0 ! be/ /imulant = ! a?lete & = ! bra9-work]4 ,engli% breakfa/ tea kept nobody awake1 & 0 ! mo/ delightful ( appetiz]s4 ,! cup ( tea & a s&wi* tak5 at five o'clock spoil$ no "o's d9n]4 ,! ladies ( ! h\se began ^! ent]ta9m5ts1 mode/ly receiv+ 9 pla9 b pretty dresses2 _! gue/s 7 ask$ to come 9 walk+-dress4 ,b soon ! o!r side ( ! /ory began to tell4 ,a lady go+ 9 velvet & furs into a heat$ room1 :]e gas add$ its discom=t to ! subt]ranean fires ( a furnace1 drank h] hot cup ( tea1 & came out to take a dreadful cold4 ,h] walk+ dress 0 manife/ly a dress inappropriate to a kettl$rum4 ,!n ! ho/ess & ! gue/s bo? became m dressy1 ! aft]noon tea lo/ its primitive "* & became a gay reception4 ,!n1 aga91 ! n]ves6 ,! doctors condemn ev5 ! aft]noon cup ( tea1 & decl>e t x is ! f\ndation ( mu* ( ! n]v\s pro/ration1 ! sleeplessness1 & ! nameless mis]y ( our ov]excit$ & c>eworn oxyg5 driv5 p4 ,we are ov]work$1 no d\bt4 ,we are an ov]civiliz$ set1 p>ticul>ly 9 ! l>ge cities1 & e "o mu/ decide = himself or h]self if tea is n an insidi\s enemy4 ,t ! introduction ( an in=mal & heal?ful & inexp5sive way ( ent]ta9+ is a gr& desid]atum no "o c fail to obs]ve & all[4 ,b ) ! gr[? ( an idea ! tea blossom$ into a supp]1 & ! little knot into a cr[d1 & ( c\rse ! "n became a misnom]4 ,! ideal ent]ta9m5t w\ld seem to be a ga!r+ betwe5 f\r & sev51 :i* is ?or\ghly und]/ood to be a l>ge gas-light$ p>ty1 :i* a lady ent]s prop]ly dress$ = a hot room1 hav+ a cloak :i* %e c ?r[ (f 9 ! hall1 & :]e %e c make h] call long or %ort1 z %e pleases1 & c f9d a cup ( hot b\illon if %e is cold1 or tea if %e pref]s x1 or a m elaborate lun* if h] ho/ess pleases2 & ?is ideal ent]ta9m5t is n aft]noon tea2 x is a reception4 ,x is well en\gh indicat$ by ! date on ! c>d1 & does n ne$ a "n4 ,! abuse ( ! aft]noon tea 0 t x took ! place ( o!r ent]ta9m5ts4 ,x has almo/ ru9$ ! e>ly ev5+ p>ty1 :i* 0 s pleasant a feature ( ! pa/4 ,p :o c\ld well af=d to give breakfa/s1 lun*es1 d9n]s1 & balls1 :]e m5 & wom5 c\ld meet ea* o!r1 & talk1 & "k ea* o!r well1 did n give !m2 !y gave an aft]noon tea4 ,x may be because we h no leisure class t we d n give breakfa/s4 ,9 all our ,anglomania x is /range t we h n copi$ t pla91 in=mal ?+1 an ,engli% breakfa/1 su* z ,sydney ,smi? 0 wont to give4 ,mr4 ,web/] writes home 9 #ahci3 ,9 ,engl& ! rule ( polit5ess is to be quiet1 act naturally1 take no airs1 & make no bu/le4 ,?is p]fect polit5ess has co/ a great deal ( drill4 ,he delight$ 9 ! ,engli% breakfa/s1 :]e he met ,boz1 ,tom ,moore1 ,wordswor?1 ,rog]s 7:o nev] gave any ent]ta9m5t b breakfa/s74 ,we are all work]s 9 ,am]ica1 yet we might h an occasional breakfa/-p>ty4 ,d9n]s & ladies' lun*es we "k v well h[ to give1 & !re are pl5ty ( !m4 ,p]haps ! only objection to !m is _! ov]sumptu\sness4 ,! ideal d9n]s ( ! pa/ at ,wa%+ton1 ) ! old ,virg9ia hospitality1 ! oy/]s1 t]rap91 wild turkeys1 v5ison1 s]v$ by negro cooks & wait]s1 ! ho/ess keep+ ! idea ( agreeability be=e h]1 in/ead ( c>+ pr9cipally = h] *9a1 h] glass1 & h] table-clo?4 ,^! gave way long ago 9 ,new ,york to ! great] luxury ( ! prosp]\s city1 & if !re 0 any loss1 x 0 9 ! conv]sation4 ,new ,york wom5 h be5 =c$ into a life ( ov]dress+1 danc+1 visit+1 %opp+1 ga9+ ! accompli%m5ts1 & %[+ !m (f1 & lead+ ! life ( society at its height2 ! m5 h be5 ov]:elm+ly engag$ 9 comm]ce1 & lat] 9 ,wall ,/reet4 ,no wond] t f\r o'clock 0 an h\r at :i* bo? paus$1 & call$ = a cup ( tea4 ,nor because ! "n has pass$ away-tempor>ily1 p]haps--w ! fa%ion pass4 ,p w /ill ga!r ar\nd ! /eam+ urn4 ,"y ladies f9d x a v pretty recreation to make ! tea-table attractive ) ! floral arrangem5ts1 ! basket ( cake1 ! s&wi*es1 ! silv] tea-caddy1 ! alcohol lamp burn+ "u ! silv] or copp] kettle1 ! padd$ cozy to keep ! tea w>m1 ! long table ar\nd :i* "y g5tlem5 & "y ladies c sit1 :ile mamma1 pati5t ,am]ican mamma--receives ! eld] p 9 ! p>lor4 ,x is no long] ! eld]ly lady :o presides at ! tea-kettle2 ! tabbies d n make or dr9k ! teas2 ! y\ng] pussies are ! que5s ( f\r-o'clock tea4 ,x is :isp]$ t x is a conv5i5t alias = flirtation1 or some?+ ev5 sweet]--t _m engagem5ts h be5 made at f\r-o'clock teas4 ,c]ta9ly x is a v good opportunity = %[+ "o's tea-cups4 ,! h&some *9a c be display$ at a f\r-o'clock tea1 if x is n too l>ge1 to ! be/ advantage4 ,! v e>ly assumption ( a gr& social ent]ta9m5t "u ! "n ( f\r-o'clock tea r blott$ out "o ( ! prettie/ features ( ! ,engli% tea1 t ( ! graceful g>m5t ! tea g[n4 ,tea g[ns 9 ,france1 "u ! rgime ( ,wor?1 h become mo/ luxuri\s g>m5ts4 ,!y are made ( silk1 sat91 velvet1 & l9$ ) delicate surah4 ,!y are trimm$ ) real & imitation lace1 & are ( ! mo/ delicate %ades ( p9k1 blue1 lav5d]1 & pe>l-color2 cascades ( lace ext5d d[n ! front4 ,9 ^!1 made loose to ! figure1 b /ill v elegant & mo/ becom+1 d ! ,engli% pr9cess1 ! du*ess1 & ! ,cont95tal coronet$ or royal dame1 or ! que5 ( fa%ion1 receive _! gue/s at aft]noon tea4 ,no wond] t 9 ea* bridal tr\sseau d we read ( ! wond]ful tea g[ns4 ,9 ,am]ica ladies h be5 9 ! habit ( always receiv+ 9 ! tight-fitt+ & elegant comb9ations ( silk1 surah1 brocade1 velvet1 & ca%m]e :i* fill ! w>drobe ( mod]n fa%ion4 ,! dresses ( delicate ca%m]e1 s becom+ to "y girls1 are always v mu* patroniz$ = aft]noon tea4 ,inde$1 ! "y lady dress$ = aft]noon tea 0 dress$ = d9n]4 ,9 ?is1 z our ,am]ican aft]noon teas h be5 manag$1 ! ,am]ican "y lady 0 "r1 = x is n conv5able1 accord+ to ,european ideas1 to we> a loose fl[+ robe ( ! tea-g[n patt]n out ( "o's b$room or b\doir4 ,x has be5 done by ignorant p at a wat]+-place1 b x nev] looks well4 ,x is really an undress1 al?\gh lace & sat9 may be us$ 9 its composition4 ,a pla91 high1 & tight-fitt+ garm5t is mu* ! m elegant dress = ! aft]noon teas z we give !m4 ,call x :at y w--reception1 kettl$rum1 aft]noon tea1 or some?+ )\t a "n--we h unconsci\sly1 imitat+ a v diff]5t sort ( in=mal ga!r+1 ga9$ an easy & a s5sible ent]ta9m5t 9 society1 f f\r to sev52 :i* seems to address itself to all k9ds ( ne$s4 ,we are prone 9 ,am]ica 7s =eign]s say7 to ov]do a ?+--p]haps1 also1 to und]do x4 ,be t z x may1 all agree ) ,"l ,h\ghton1 :o laugh$ at ! phrase1 t we "k h[ to h a good "t4 ,,*apt] ,,xxix4 ,,caudle ,,& ,,*ri/5+ ,,cups ,,& ,,c]emonies4 ,we are ask$ by _m "y mammas z to ! mean+ ( ! phrase caudle p>ties4 ,=m]ly ! p]sons :o call$ to congratulate ! happy possessor ( a new boy or girl 7 (f]$ mull$ w9e & plum-cake4 ,"s e>ly *ronicl] ?9ks t ! two got mix$1 & t caudle 0 ! result4 ,c]ta9 x is t a mo/ delici\s bev]age1 a k9d ( oatmeal gruel1 boil$ two days1 ) rais9s & spices1 & f9e old ,madeira 7"s say rum7 add$1 makes a di% fit to set be=e a k+1 & is (f]$ n[ to ! call]s on a "y mamma4 ,! old ,engli% cu/om 0 to h ?is bev]age s]v$ ?ree days aft] ! arrival ( ! little /rang]4 ,! caudle-cups1 pres]v$ 9 _m an old family1 are n[ eag]ly s\ght aft] z curiosities2 !y h two h&les1 s !y c\ld be pass$ f "o to ano!r4 ,!y 7 h&$ d[n z heirlooms :5 ^! c&le p>ties 7 m fa%ionable ?an !y h be51 until a rec5t date4 ,n[ !re is a decid$ idea ( re9troduc+ !m4 ,9 ^? days ! newly-made papa also ent]ta9$ 8 fri5ds ) a /ag p>ty1 :5 ba*elors & also ,b5$icks 7 invit$ to eat butt]$ toa/1 :i* 0 sug>$ & spread 9 a mighty pun*-b[l1 ov] :i* boil+-hot be] 0 p\r$4 ,aft] ! pun*-b[l 0 empti$1 ea* gue/ plac$ a piece ( money 9 ! b[l = ! nurse4 ,/rong ale 0 brew$1 & a pipe ( w9e laid by to be drunk on ! majority ( ! *ild4 ,?is greasy mess is =tunately n[ ext9ct1 b ! caudle1 a really delici\s di% or dr9k1 is ! fa%ion aga94 ,x is g5]ally (f]$ :5 ma/] or miss is ab\t six weeks old1 & mamma receives h] fri5ds 9 a tea g[n or "s pretty convalesc5t wrap1 v (t5 made ( velvet or plu% cut 9 ! =m ( a belt$-9 jacket & skirt1 or 9 "o long pr9cesse robe1 elaborately trimm$ ) cascades ( lace d[n ! front4 ,! baby is1 ( c\rse1 %[n1 b n mu* h&l$4 ,"s p>5ts h ! *ri/5+ & ! caudle p>ty toge!r1 b ( ?is1 x is said1 ! ,*ur* does n approve4 ,! selection ( god-p>5ts is always a delicate task4 ,x is a v great complim5t1 ( c\rse1 to ask any "o to /& 9 ?is relation1 highly reg>d$ 9 ,engl&1 b n s mu* ?\ght ( "h4 ,=m]ly !re 7 always two godfa!rs & two godmo!rs1 g5]ally *os5 f fri5ds & relations1 :o 7 expect$ to wat* ov] ! religi\s education ( ! "y *ild1 & to see t he 01 9 due "t1 confirm$4 ,9 all old c\ntries ?is relation%ip la/s ?r\gh life2 k9dly help & c\nsel be+ giv5 to ! *ild by ! godfa!r--ev5 to adoption 9 _m in/ances--%\ld ! p>5ts die4 ,b 9 our new c\ntry1 ) ! abs5ce ( an e/abli%$ ,*ur*1 & ) our belief 9 ! p[] ( e man to take c>e ( himself1 ?is beautiful relation%ip has be5 neglect$4 ,we are glad to see by our lett]s t x is be+ r5ew$1 & t p are ?9k+ m ( ^! "t-honor$ connections4 ,aft] a bir?1 fri5ds & acqua9tances %\ld call & s5d 9 _! c>ds1 or s5d !m by _! s]vants1 ) k9d inquiries4 ,:5 ! "m is ready to see h] fri5ds1 %e %\ld1 if %e wi%es1 signify t "t by s5d+ out c>ds = a caudle p>ty4 ,b let h] be r delib]ate ab\t ?is unless %e has a "m1 or aunt1 or si/] to take all ! tr\ble = h]4 ,! godfa!r & godmo!r g5]ally give "s little pres5t2 a silv] cup or porr+]1 knife1 =k1 & spoon1 silv] bas91 coral too?-cutt]1 or coral & bells1 7 ! =m] gifts2 b1 n[adays1 we he> ( "o weal?y godfa!r :o left a *eck = #ajj1jjj 9 ! baby's cradle2 & x is n unusual = ^? :o c d s to make "s v valuable inve/m5t = ! *ild1 p>ticul>ly if he be>s ! "n ( ! godfa!r4 ,"s p--inde$1 mo/ p--take _! *ildr5 to *ur* to be baptiz$1 & !n give a lun*eon at home aft]w>ds to :i* all are invit$1 especially ! (ficiat+ cl]gyman & 8 wife1 z well z ! sponsors4 ,! pres5ts %\ld be giv5 at ?is "t4 ,old-fa%ion$ p give ! baby "s salt & an egg = good luck1 & are p>ticul> t he %\ld be c>ri$ up-/airs be=e he is c>ri$ d[n1 & t :5 he goes out fir/ he %all be c>ri$ to ! h\se ( "s ne> & de> relative4 ,confirmation is 9 ! ,episcopal ,*ur* ! sequel to baptism2 & 9 ,france ?is is a beautiful & v important c]emony4 ,9 ! mon? ( ,may ! /reets are fill$ ) :ite doves--"y girls1 all 9 musl9 & lace veils1 go+ ) _! mo!rs or *ap]ons to be confirm$4 ,"h ! duty ( ! godfa!r or ! godmo!r comes 92 & if a *ild is an orphan1 or has c>eless or irreligi\s p>5ts1 ! ,*ur* holds ! godp>5t responsible t ^! *ildr5 be br\ght to ! bi%op to be confirm$4 ,notices ( confirmation to be held are always giv5 out 9 ! v>i\s *ur*es "s weeks prior to ! ev5t2 & p]sons desir\s ( be+ admitt$ to ! rite are reque/$ to make kn[n _! wi% & to give _! names to _! cl]gyman4 ,classes are =m$1 & in/ruction & prep>ation giv5 dur+ ! weeks prec$+ ! day :i* ! bi%op has appo9t$4 ,9 ,engl& a noble ,engli% lady is z mu* conc]n$ = h] goddaught] ?r\gh all ?is important p]iod z %e is = h] daught]4 ,9 ,france ! obligation is also consid]$ sacr$4 ,we h kn[n ( a lady :o made ! j\rney f ,montpelli] to ,p>is--al?\gh %e c\ld sc>cely af=d ! exp5se--to att5d ! confirmation ( h] goddaught]1 al?\gh ! "y girl _h a fa!r & "m4 ,x is a c]emony well wor? see+1 ei!r 9 ,engl& or ,france4 ,! girls walk 9 long processions ?r\gh ! /reets2 ! dress uni=mly ( :ite ) long veils4 ,y\?s foll[ 9 black suits1 black ties1 & gloves2 !y ent] "o aisle ( ! *ur*1 ! girls ! o!r4 ,:5 ! "t arrives = ! lay+ on ( h&s1 ! girls g fir/1 two & two2 !y give _! c>d or c]tificate into ! h&s ( ! bi%op's *apla91 :o /&s ne> to receive !m4 ,! c&idates kneel be=e ! bi%op1 :o lays 8 h&s sev]ally on _! heads4 ,( c\rse p]sons n belong+ to ! ,episcopal ,*ur* d n obs]ve ?is rite4 ,b z a belief 9 baptism is almo/ univ]sal1 !re is no reason :y ! godfa!r & godmo!r %\ld n be *os5 & adh]$ to4 ,we always "n our *ildr51 or we are apt to1 = "s de> fri5d2 & we w\ld all gladly believe t su* a fri5d%ip1 begun at ! alt> :5 he is be+ consecrat$ to a ,*ri/ian life1 may g ) him & be a help to ! de> little man4 ,9 our bellig]5t indep5d5ce & our fre$om f cre$s & cant we h ?r[n away too mu*1 & c af=d to reass]t our belief 9 & respect = a few old cu/oms4 ,royalty has always be5 a respect] ( ^! p[]s4 ,k+ ,edw>d ,,vi4 & 8 si/]s 7 ea* baptiz$ :5 only ?ree days old1 & ! c]emony1 :i* la/$ betwe5 two & ?ree days1 took place at night1 by tor*-light4 ,! *ild 0 c>ri$ "u a canopy1 prec$$ by g5tlem5 be>+ 9 /ate ! sponsors' gifts1 & att5d$ by a fl\ri% ( trumpets4 ,at a mod]n caudle p>ty ! invitations are s5t out a week 9 advance1 & read ?us3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,br[n reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company on ,tuesday aft]noon1 at ?ree o'clock4 #ah ,we/ ,k5t ,/reet4 ,caudle4 ',no pres5ts are expect$4' ,= ! honor ( be+ a godfa!r "o receives a note 9 ! fir/ p]son1 ask+ ! fri5d to assume t k9dly (fice1 & also m5tion+ ! fact t ! "n w be s & s4 ,if ! baby is nam$ = ! godfa!r1 a v h&some pres5t is usually made2 if n1 ! godfa!r or godmo!r /ill s5ds "s little tok5 ( reg>d4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 is entirely a matt] ( fancy4 ,no "o is oblig$ to give a pres5t1 ( c\rse4 ,! baby at 8 *ri/5+ is %[n (f 9 a spl5did robe1 v mu* belac$ & embroid]$1 & x is to be fe>$ t x is a day ( di/urbance = him4 ,babies %\ld n be too mu* excit$2 a quiet & humdrum exi/5ce1 a n too %[y nurse1 & regul> h\rs are conducive to a good con/itution = ^! delicate visitors4 ,! gay dresses & j+l+ ornam5ts ( ! ,roman nurses are n[ d5\nc$ by ! =eign doctors z be+ too excit+ to ! little eyes t are look+ out on a new _w4 ,!y are v pretty & picturesque1 & _m a travell+ mamma goes into a l>ge outlay = ^! bright colors & = ! peasant jewelry4 ,! practice ( mak+ a *ild ride backw>d 9 a pu%-wagon is also /]nly d5\nc$ by mod]n physicians4 ,fa%ionable mammas :o give caudle p>ties %\ld rememb] t 9 our h>% climate mat]nity is beset by mu* feebl5ess z to n]ves 9 bo? "m & *ild2 !re=e a long seclusion 9 ! nurs]y is advis$ be=e ! dang]\s p]iod ( ent]ta9+ "o's fri5ds beg9s4 ,let ! caudle p>ty wait1 & ! *ri/5+ be done quietly 9 "o's own b$room1 if ! infant is feeble4 ,%[ (f ! "y /rang] at a lat] date3 an ounce ( prev5tion is wor? a p\nd ( cure4 ,,*apt] ,,xxx4 ,,! ,,mod]n ,,d9n]-,,table4 ,! appo9tm5ts ( ! mod]n d9n]-table /rik+ly indicate t gr[? ( luxury ( :i* ! imm$iate pa/ has be5 s fruitful4 ,up to tw5ty ye>s ago a d9n]1 ev5 9 ! h\se ( a m]*ant pr9ce1 0 a pla9 affair4 ,!re 0 a :ite tableclo? ( d\ble damask2 !re 7 l>ge1 h&some napk9s2 !re 0 a ri* s]vice ( solid silv]1 & p]haps "s good *9a4 ,fl[]s1 if us$ at all1 7 n 9 pr(usion2 & z = glasses1 only a few ( pla9 :ite1 or p]haps a gre5 or a r$ "o = cl>et or hock1 7 plac$ at ! side ( ! plate4 ,( c\rse !re 7 v>iations & exceptions to ?is rule1 b !y 7 few & f> betwe54 ,"o man1 or (t5 "o maid-s]vant1 wait$ at ! table2 &1 z a protection = ! table-clo?1 mats 7 us$1 imply+ ! fe> t ! di% br\ght f ! top ( ! kit*5-range1 if set d[n1 w\ld leave a spot or /a94 ,all 0 on a simple or economical plan4 ,! gr& d9n]s 7 s]v$ by cat]]s1 :o s5t _! m5 to wait at !m1 :i* l$ to ! rem>k1 (t5 laugh$ at z %[+ ,engli% /upidity1 made by ! ,m>quis ( ,h>t+ton :5 he visit$ ,new ,york at ! "t ( our w>4 ,z he look$ at old ,pet] ,van ,dyck & 8 color$ assi/ants1 :om he _h se5 at e h\se at :i* he _h d9$1 he rem>k$1 ,h[ mu* all y\r s]vants resemble ea* o!r 9 ,am]ica6 ,x 0 really an un9t5tional s>casm1 b x might well h sugge/$ to our n\veaux ri*es ! propriety ( hav+ _! own tra9$ s]vants to d ! "w ( _! h\ses in/ead ( ^! outside m54 ,a degree ( elegance :i* we h n z a nation ev5 yet atta9$ is t ( hav+ a well-tra9$ corps ( dome/ic s]vants4 ,a mi/ress ( a h\se %\ld be capable ( tea*+ h] s]vants ! me?od ( lay+ a table & att5d+ x1 if %e has to take1 z we commonly mu/1 ! un$ucat$ ,iri%man f 8 native bogs z a h\se-s]vant4 ,if %e employs ! accompli%$ & well-recomm5d$ =eign s]vant1 he is too apt to dis>range h] e/abli%m5t by disp>ag+ ! scale on :i* x is conduct$1 & to eng5d] a _s ( discont5t 9 h] h\sehold4 ,s]vants ( a v high class1 :o c assume ! entire managem5t ( affairs1 are only possible to p ( great weal?1 & !y become tyrants1 & :olly dete/able to ! ma/] & mi/ress aft] a %ort slav]y4 ,"o ,new ,york butl] lately refus$ to wa% di%es1 tell+ 8 mi/ress t x w\ld ru9 8 f+]-nails4 ,b ?is man 0 a consummate s]vant1 :o laid ! table & att5d$ x1 ) an ease & grace t gave 8 mi/ress t pleasant feel+ ( c]ta9ty t all w\ld g well1 :i* is ! mo/ com=table ( all feel+s to a ho/ess1 & )\t :i* d9n]-giv+ is annoyance beyond all words4 ,! arrangem5t ( a d9n]-table & ! wait+ ^u x are ! mo/ important ( all ! duties ( a s]vant or s]vants1 & any betrayal ( ignorance1 any n]v\sness or noise1 any accid5t1 are to be deplor$1 %[+ z !y d want ( exp]i5ce & lack ( tra9+4 ,no "o wi%es to invite 8 fri5ds to be uncom=table4 ,^? dreadful d9n]s :i* ,?ack]ay describes1 at :i* p ) small incomes tri$ to rival ^? ( l>ge means1 w =ev] rema9 9 ! m9ds ( 8 read]s z among ! mo/ pa9ful ( all revelations ( %am4 ,we %\ld be real fir/1 & ornam5tal aft]w>ds4 ,9 a weal?y family a butl] & two footm5 are employ$1 & x is _! duty to "w toge!r 9 h>mony1 ! butl] hav+ control4 ,! two footm5 lay ! table1 ! butl] look+ on to see t x is prop]ly done4 ,! butl] takes c>e ( ! w9e1 & /&s beh9d 8 mi/ress's *air4 ,:]e only "o man is employ$1 ! :ole duty devolves ^u him1 & he has g5]ally ! assi/ance ( ! p>lor-maid4 ,:]e !re is only a maid-s]vant1 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se mu/ see t all necess>y arrangem5ts are made4 ,! introduction ( ! ext5sion-table into our long1 n>r[ d9+-rooms has l$ to ! expulsion ( ! pretty r\nd-table1 :i* is ( all o!rs ! mo/ *e]ful4 ,! ext5sion-table1 h[ev]1 is almo/ inevitable1 & "o ( ! ord9>y size1 ) two leaves add$1 w seat twelve p4 ,! public cat]]s say t e additional leaf gives room = f\r m p1 b ! ho/ess1 9 ord] to avoid cr[d+1 w\ld be wise if %e te/$ ?is ) h] d9+-room *airs4 ,new ,york d9n]-p>ties are (t5 cr[d$1 sixte5 be+ sometimes ask$ :5 ! table w only accommodate f\rte54 ,?is is a mi/ake1 z heat & cr[d+ %\ld be avoid$4 ,9 c\ntry h\ses1 or 9 ,philadelphia1 ,bo/on1 ,wa%+ton1 & o!r cities :]e ! d9+-rooms are ord9>ily l>g] ?an ^? 9 a ,new ,york h\se1 ! dang] ( cr[d+1 ( heat1 & want ( v5tilation1 is m easily avoid$2 b 9 a gas-light$1 furnace-heat$ room 9 ,new ,york ! suff]+s ( ! d9]s-out are sometimes t]rible4 ,! arrangem5ts = ! d9n]1 :e!r ! p>ty be t5 or tw5ty1 %\ld be ! same4 ,mu* has be5 said ab\t ! numb] to be invit$1 & !re is an old saw t "o %\ld n invite few] ?an ! ,graces nor m ?an ! ,muses4 ,?is p>tiality to unev5 numb]s ref]s to ! difficulty ( seat+ a p>ty ( eight1 9 :i* case1 if ! ho/ & ho/ess take ! head & foot ( ! table1 two g5tlem5 & two ladies w come toge!r4 ,b ! numb] ( ! ,graces be+ ?ree1 no worse numb] ?an t c\ld be select$ = a d9n]-p>ty2 & n9e w\ld be equally uncom=table at an ext5sion-table1 z x w\ld be necess>y to seat ?ree on "o side & f\r on ! o!r4 ,t5 is a good numb] = a small d9n]1 & easy to manage4 ,"o s]vant c wait on t5 p1 & d x well1 if well-tra9$4 ,tw5ty-f\r p (t5 sit d[n at a mod]n d9n]-table1 & are well s]v$ by a butl] & two m51 ?\gh "s luxuri\s d9n]-giv]s h a man beh9d ea* *air4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 is o/5tation4 ,a lady1 if %e issue invitations = a d9n] ( t5 or tw5ty1 %\ld d s a =tnight 9 advance1 & %\ld h h] c>ds engrav$ ?us3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,james ,norman reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,br[n's company at d9n] on ,?ursday1 ,febru>y eigh?1 at sev5 o'clock4 ,^! engrav$ =ms1 on note-pap]1 fill$ up ) ! necess>y "t & date1 are v conv5i5t & elegant1 & %\ld be answ]$ by ! =tunate recipi5t imm$iately1 9 ! mo/ =mal mann]1 & ! engagem5t %\ld be scrupul\sly kept if accept$4 ,if ! subsequ5t illness or dea? ( relatives1 or any o!r cause1 r5d]s ?is impossible1 ! ho/ess %\ld be imm$iately notifi$4 ,a g5tleman is nev] invit$ )\t 8 wife1 nor a lady )\t h] husb&1 unless great intimacy exi/s betwe5 ! p>ties1 & ! sudd5 ne$ ( ano!r gue/ makes ! reque/ imp]ative4 ,! usual h\r = d9n]-p>ties 9 ,am]ica is sev5 o'clock2 b :atev] ! h\r1 ! gue/s %\ld take c>e to be punctual to ! m9ute4 ,9 ! hall ! g5tleman %\ld f9d a c>d ) 8 "n1 & t ( ! lady :om he is to take 91 writt5 on x1 & also a small b\tonni]e1 :i* he places 9 8 button-hole4 ,on ent]+ ! draw+-room ! lady goes fir/1 n tak+ h] husb&'s arm4 ,if ! g5tleman is n acqua9t$ ) ! lady :om he is to take 9 to d9n]1 he asks 8 ho/ess to pres5t him to h]1 & he endeavors to place himself on an agreeeble foot+ ) h] be=e !y ent] ! d9+-room4 ,:5 ! la/ gue/ has arriv$1 d9n] is ready1 & ! butl] makes 8 ann\ncem5t4 ,! ho/ leads ! way1 ) ! lady to :om ! d9n] is giv51 & ! ho/ess foll[s la/1 ) ! g5tleman :om %e wi%es to honor4 ,! p :o ent] a mod]n d9+-room f9d a picture be=e !m1 :i* is ! result ( pa9/ak+ ?\ght1 ta/e1 & exp]i5ce1 &1 l all works ( art1 wor?y ( /udy4 ,! fir/ ?\ght ( ! obs]v] is1 ,:at a spl5did bit ( color6 ,! op5-"w1 :ite tableclo? lies on a r$ gr\nd1 & above x re/s a mat ( r$ velvet1 embroid]$ ) peacock's fea!rs & gold lace4 ,above ?is /&s a l>ge silv] salv] or oblong tray1 l9$ ) reflect+ glass1 on :i* ,dresd5 swan & silv] lilies seem float+ 9 a v]itable lake4 ,9 ! middle ( ?is long tray /&s a l(ty vase ( silv] or cry/al1 ) fl[]s & fruit cunn+ly dispos$ 9 x1 & ar\nd x are plac$ tropical v9es4 ,at ea* ( ! f\r corn]s ( ! table /& f\r ruby glass flagons set 9 gold1 /&>ds ( beautiful & r>e designs4 ,cups or silv]-gilt vases1 ) c5tres ( cut glass1 hold ! bonbons & small] fruits4 ,f\r c&elabra hold up r$ wax-c&les ) r$ %ades1 & flat1 glass tr\ghs1 fill$ ) fl[]s1 /& opposite ea* place1 gr\p$ 9 a floral patt]n4 ,at ea* place1 z ! s]vant draws back ! *air1 ! gue/ sees a bewild]+ numb] ( glass goblets1 w9e & *ampagne glasses1 sev]al =ks1 knives1 & spoons1 & a majolica plate hold+ oy/]s on ! half %ell1 ) a bit ( lemon 9 ! c5tre ( ! plate4 ,! napk91 deftly fold$1 holds a d9n]-roll1 :i* ! gue/ imm$iately removes4 ,! s]vants !n1 see+ all ! gue/s seat$1 pass r$ & black pepp]1 9 silv] pepp]-pots1 on a silv] tray4 ,a small1 peculi>ly-%ap$ =k is laid by ea* plate1 at ! "r h&1 = ! oy/]s4 ,al?\gh "s ladies n[ h all _! =ks laid on ! left h& ( ! plate1 ?is1 h[ev]1 is n usual4 ,aft] ! oy/]s are eat51 ! plates are remov$1 & two k9ds ( s\p are pass$--a :ite & a br[n s\p4 ,dur+ ?is "p ( ! d9n] ! gue/ has "t to look at ! beautiful ,que5 ,anne silv]1 ! h&some lamps1 if lamps are us$ 7we may m5tion ! fact t ab\t tw5ty-six c&les w well light a d9n] ( sixte5 p]sons71 & ! v>i\s colors ( lamp & c&le %ades4 ,!n ! beauty ( ! fl[]s1 &1 z ! d9n] goes on1 ! v>iety ( ! mod]n ,dresd5 *9a1 ! ,sevres1 ! ,royal ,worce/]1 & ! old blue c be discuss$ & admir$4 ,! s]vice is la ,russe2 t is1 ev]y?+ is h&$ by ! s]vants4 ,no?+ is se5 on ! table except ! w9es 7& only a few ( ^!71 ! bonbons1 & ! fruit4 ,no greasy di%es are all[$4 ,ea* lady has a b\quet1 possibly a pa9t$ reticule ( silk fill$ ) sug>-plums1 & sometimes a pretty fan or ribbon ) h] "n or monogram pa9t$ on x4 ,at 8 "r h& ea* gue/ f9ds a goblet ( elegantly-engrav$ glass = wat]1 two ( ! broad1 flat1 fl>+ %ape ( ! mod]n *ampagne glass 7al?\gh "s p are us+ ! long vase-l glass ( ! pa/ = *ampagne71 a beautiful ,bohemian gre5 glass1 app>5tly set ) gems1 = ! hock1 a ruby-r$ glass = ! cl>et1 two o!r l>ge :ite cl>et or ,burgundy glasses1 & ?ree w9e-glasses ( cut or engrav$ glass4 ,h>lequ9 glasses1 :i* give to ! table ! effect ( a b$ ( tulips1 are 9 fa%ion = ^? :o delight 9 color & v>iety4 ,! ho/ess may pref] ! mod]n nap]y1 s exquisitely embroid]$ 9 gold ?read1 :i* af=ds an opportunity to %[ ! family coat ( arms1 or ! h]aldic animals--! lion & ! two-head$ eagle & ! griff9--int]tw9$ 9 graceful %apes ar\nd ! :ole edge ( ! table & on ! napk9s4 ,z ! d9n] goes on ! gue/ revels 9 unexpect$ surprises 9 ! beauty ( ! plates1 "s ( :i* look z if made ( solid gold2 & :5 ! ,roman pun* is s]v$ x comes 9 ! he>t ( a r$1 r$ rose1 or 9 ! bosom ( a swan1 or ! cup ( a lily1 or ! "r little1 tight little life-say+ boat4 ,fai5ce1 *9a1 glass1 & ice are all press$ into ! s]vice ( ! ,roman pun*1 & sometimes ! prettie/ di% ( all is hewn out ( ice4 ,we w try to see h[ all ?is picture is made1 beg9n+ at ! lay+ ( ! table1 ! process ( :i* we w expla9 9 detail 9 ! next *apt]4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxi4 ,,lay+ ,,! ,,d9n]-,,table4 ,! table1 aft] be+ drawn out to its prop] l5g?1 %\ld be cov]$ ) a cotton-flannel tableclo?--:ite1 if ! table-cov] is ! ord9>y damask2 r$1 if ! op5 "w table-cov] is to be us$4 ,?is broad cotton flannel c be b\ght = eighty c5ts a y>d4 ,! table-clo?1 if ( :ite damask1 %\ld be p]fectly iron$1 ) "o long fold d[n ! middle1 :i* mu/ s]ve ! butl] = 8 ma!matical c5tre4 ,no "o c be a/ray 9 us+ f9e :ite damask4 ,if a lady wi%es to h ! m r>e ,russian embroid]y1 ! gold embroid]$ on ! op5-"w table-clo?1 %e c d s1 b let h] n put any clo? on h] table t w n wa%4 ,! mix$-up ?+s trimm$ ) velvet or sat9 or ribbon1 :i* are occasionally se5 on vulg> tables1 are dete/able4 ,! butl] !n lays ! r$ velvet c>pet1 or mat1 or ornam5tal cov]--:atev] x may be call$--d[n ! c5tre ( ! table1 to af=d a relief ( color to ! p]gne4 ,?is is a m]e fanciful adjunct1 & may be us$ or n2 b x has a v pretty effect ov] an op5work1 :ite table-clo?1 ) ! silv] tray ( ! p]gne re/+ ^u x4 ,9 _m families !re are silv] p]gnes :i* are heirlooms4 ,^! are n[ valu$ = old association's sake2 z are ! silv] c&le/icks & silv] compoti]s4 ,b :]e a family does n possess ^! table ornam5ts1 a c5tre piece ( glass is us$4 ,! flat basket ( fl[]s1 ov] :i* ! gue/s c\ld talk1 has be5 disc>d$1 & ! ornam5ts ( a d9n]-table are apt to be high1 includ+ ! lamps & c&elabra :i* at pres5t replace gas4 ,! table-clo? be+ laid1 ! c5tre & side ornam5ts plac$1 ! butl] sees t ea* footman has a clean t[el on 8 arm1 & !n proce$s to unlock ! plate *e/ & ! glass closet4 ,measur+ ) 8 h&1 f ! edge ( ! table to ! end ( 8 middle f+]1 he places ! fir/ glass4 ,?is measurem5t is cont9u$ ar\nd ! table1 & secures a uni=m l9e = ! wat] goblet1 & ! cl>et1 w9e1 hock1 & *ampagne glasses1 :i* are gr\p$ ab\t x4 ,he !n causes a plate to be put at ea* place1 l>ge en\gh to hold ! majolica plate ) ! oy/]s1 :i* w come lat]4 ,"o footman is detail$ to fold ! napk9s1 :i* %\ld be l>ge1 ?ick1 f9e1 & s]viceable = ?is /age ( ! d9n]4 ,! napk9s are n fold$ 9 any hotel device1 b simply 9 a ?ree-corn]$ pyramid t w /& hold+ ! roll or bread4 ,! knives1 =ks1 & spoons1 ea* ( :i* is wip$ by ! footman ) 8 clean t[el1 s t no dampness ( 8 own h& %all m> _! sp>kl+ cleanl9ess1 are !n di/ribut$4 ,^! %\ld be all ( silv]2 two knives1 ?ree =ks1 & a s\p-spoon be+ ! usual numb] laid at ea* plate4 ,be=e ea* plate is plac$ a little salt-cell>1 ei!r ( silv] or *9a1 9 "s fanciful %ape4 ,t9y :eelb>r[s are mu* us$4 ,a c>afe hold+ wat] %\ld be put on v late1 & be fre% f ! ice-*e/4 ,v ?9 glasses are n[ us$ = *oice %]ry & ,madeira1 & are n put on until ! latt] "p ( ! d9n]1 z !y may be brok54 ,m5u-hold]s or c>d-hold]s ( *9a or silv] are (t5 plac$ be=e ea* plate1 to hold ! c>d on :i* ! "n ( ! gue/ is pr9t$ & ! bill ( f>e f :i* he is to *oose4 ,^! may be disp5s$ )1 h[ev]1 & ! m5u & "n laid on ea* plate4 ,! butl] n[ turns 8 att5tion to 8 sidebo>ds & tables1 f :5ce he is to draw 8 supplies4 ,_m p make a mo/ o/5tati\s display ( plate & *9a on _! sidebo>ds1 & if "o has pretty ?+s :y n %[ !m8 ,! poor] & m mode/ h1 on _! sidebo>ds1 simply ! ?+s :i* w be ne$$4 ,b !re %\ld be a r[ ( l>ge =ks1 a r[ ( l>ge knives1 a r[ ( small ones1 a r[ ( table-spoons1 sauce-ladles1 dess]t- spoons1 fi%-slice & =k1 a few tumbl]s1 r[s ( cl>et1 %]ry1 & ,madeira glasses1 & ! res]ve ( d9n]-plates4 ,on ano!r table or sidebo>d %\ld be plac$ ! f+]-b[ls & glass dess]t-plates1 ! small] spoons & c(fee cups & sauc]s4 ,on ! table ne>e/ ! door %\ld be ! c>v+-knives & ! fir/ d9n]-plates to be us$4 ,"h ! head footman or ! butl] divides ! fi% & c>ves ! piece de resi/ance1 ! fillet ( beef1 ! haun* ( v5ison1 ! turkey1 or ! saddle ( mutton4 ,x is f ?is side-table t all ! d9n] %\ld be s]v$2 if ! d9+-room is small1 ! table c be plac$ 9 ! hall or adjac5t pantry4 ,z ! fi% is be+ s]v$1 ! fir/ footman %\ld (f] ,*ablis1 or "s k9d ( :ite w9e2 ) ! s\p1 %]ry2 ) ! roa/1 cl>et & *ampagne1 ea* gue/ be+ ask$ if he w h dry or sweet *ampagne4 ,z ! plates are remov$ !y %\ld n be kept 9 ! d9+- room1 b s5t to ! kit*5 imm$iately1 a maid /&+ outside to receive !m1 s t no disord] ( ! d9n] may rea* ! s5ses ( ! gue/s1 nor ev5 an unpleasant odor4 ,z ea* plate is remov$ a fre% plate mu/ be put 9 its place--g5]ally a v beautiful piece ( ,sevres1 decorat$ ) a l&scape1 fl[]s1 or faces4 ,sp>kl+ w9es1 hock & *ampagne1 are n decant$1 b are kept 9 ice-pails1 & op5$ z requir$4 ,on ! sidebo>d is plac$ ! w9e decant$ = ,use1 & p\r$ out z ne$$2 aft] ! game has be5 h&$1 decant]s ( *oice ,madeira & port are plac$ be=e ! ho/1 :o s5ds !m r\nd to 8 gue/s4 ,9 ,engl& a v useful little piece ( furniture1 call$ a d9n]- wagon1 is 9 ord]4 ,?is is a s]ies ( op5 %elves1 on :i* are plac$ ! extra napk9s or s]viettes to be us$2 = 9 ,engl& ! fir/ heavy napk9 is tak5 away1 & a m delicate "o br\ght ) ! ,roman pun*1 ) ! game ano!r1 & ) ! ices /ill ano!r4 ,on ?is d9n]-wagon are plac$ all ! dess]t- plates & ! f+]-glasses4 ,on ! plate :i* is to s]ve = ! ice is a gold ice-spoon1 & a silv] dess]t-knife & =k accompany ! f+]-b[l & glass plate4 ,?is d9n]-wagon also holds ! salad-b[l & spoon1 ( silv]1 ! salad-plates1 & ! silv] bread-basket1 9 :i* %\ld be ?9 slices ( br[n bread- &-butt]4 ,a *9a di% 9 ?ree comp>tm5ts1 ) *eese & butt] & biscuits to be pass$ ) ! salad1 ! extra sauces1 ! jellies = ! meats1 ! reli%es1 ! radi%es & cel]y1 ! olives & ! sift$ sug>-all ?+s ne$$ z access>ies ( ! d9n]-table-c be put on ?is d9n]-wagon1 or tag]e1 z x is call$ 9 ,france4 ,no table-spoons %\ld be laid on ! table1 except ^? to be us$ = s\p1 z ! /yle ( s]v+ la ,russe precludes _! be+ ne$$2 & ! extra spoons1 cruets1 & ca/]s are put on ! sidebo>d4 ,to wait on a l>ge d9n]-p>ty ! att5dants av]age "o to e ?ree p1 & :5 only a butl] & "o footman are kept1 x is necess>y to hire additional s]vants4 ,previ\s to ! ann\ncem5t ( ! d9n]1 ! footman places ! s\p-ture5s & ! s\p-plates on ! side-table4 ,z soon z ! oy/]s are eat51 & ! plates remov$1 ! butl] beg9s ) ! s\p1 & s5ds x r\nd by two footm51 "o on ea* side1 ea* c>ry+ two plates4 ,ea* footman %\ld approa* ! gue/s on ! left1 s t ! "r h& may be us$ = tak+ ! plate4 ,half a ladleful ( s\p is q en\gh to s]ve4 ,"s ladies nev] all[ _! butl] to d any?+ b h& ! w9e1 :i* he does at ! "r h& 7n ! left71 ask+ ea* p]son if he w h ,saut]ne1 dry or sweet *ampagne1 cl>et1 ,burgundy1 & s on4 ,b really clev] butl]s s]ve ! s\p1 c>ve1 & p\r out ! w9e z well4 ,an inexp]i5c$ s]vant %\ld nev] s]ve ! w9e2 x mu/ be done briskly & neatly1 n explosively or c>elessly4 ,! ov]fill+ ( ! glass %\ld be avoid$1 & s]vants %\ld be wat*$1 to see t !y give *ampagne only to ^? :o wi% x1 & t !y d n ov]fill glasses = ladies1 :o r>ely dr9k any?+4 ,a l>ge plate-basket or two1 = remov+ di%es & silv] t h be5 us$1 are necess>y1 & %\ld n be =gott54 ,! butl] r+s a bell :i* communicates ) ! kit*5 :5 he requires any?+1 & aft] ea* entre or c\rse he ?us gives ! signal to ! cook to s5d up ano!r4 ,hot d9n]-plates are prep>$ :5 ! fi% is remov$1 & on ^! hot plates ! butl] s]ves all ! meats2 ! gue/s are also s]v$ ) hot plates be=e ! entres1 except p t de foie gras1 = :i* a cold plate is necess>y4 ,"s discretion %\ld be %[n by ! s]vant :o passes ! entres4 ,a l>ge table-spoon & =k %\ld be plac$ on ! di%1 & ! di% !n held l[1 s t ! gue/ may help himself easily1 ! s]vant /&+ at 8 left h&4 ,he %\ld always h a small napk9 ov] 8 h& z he passes a di%4 ,a napk9 %\ld also be wrapp$ ar\nd ! *ampagne bottle1 z x is (t5 dripp+ ) moi/ure f ! ice-*e/4 ,x is ! butl]'s duty to make ! salad1 :i* he %\ld d ab\t half an h\r be=e d9n]4 ,!re are n[ s _m provocatives ( appetite t x w\ld seem z if we 7 all1 aft] ! mann] ( ,heliogabalus1 det]m9$ to eat & die4 ,! be/ ( ^! is ! ,roman pun*1 :i*1 com+ aft] ! heavy roa/s1 prep>es ! palate & /oma* = ! canvas- back ducks or o!r game4 ,!n comes ! salad & *eese1 !n ! ices & sweets1 & !n *eese sav\rie or *eese fondu4 ,?is is only toa/$ *eese1 9 a v elegant =m1 & is s]v$ 9 little silv] %ells1 sometimes z e>ly 9 ! d9n] z j aft] ! oy/]s1 b ! favorite "t is aft] ! sweets4 ,! dess]t is foll[$ by ! liqueurs1 :i* %\ld be p\r$ into v small glasses1 & h&$ by ! butl] on a small silv] wait]4 ,:5 ! ices are remov$1 a dess]t-plate ( glass1 ) a f+]-b[l1 is plac$ be=e ea* p]son1 ) two glasses1 "o = %]ry1 ! o!r = cl>et or ,burgundy1 & ! grapes1 pea*es1 pe>s1 & o!r fruits are !n pass$4 ,aft] ! fruits g r\nd1 ! sug>-plums & a little dri$ g+]--a v pleasant cons]ve --are pass$ be=e ! c(fee4 ,! ho/ess makes ! sign = retir+1 & ! d9n] breaks up4 ,! g5tlem5 are left to w9e & cig>s1 liqueurs & cognac1 & ! ladies retire to ! draw+-room to *at & take _! c(fee4 ,9 ! selection ( ! floral decoration = ! table ! lady ( ! h\se has ! f9al voice4 ,fl[]s :i* h a v heavy fragrance %\ld n be us$4 ,t roses & p9ks1 violets & lilacs1 are suitable1 goes )\t say+1 = !y are always delightful2 b ! heavy tropical odors ( jasm9e1 orange-blossom1 hyac9?1 & tub]ose %\ld be avoid$4 ,a v pretty decoration is obta9$ by us+ fl[]s ( "o color1 su* z ,jacquem9ot roses1 or sc>let c>nations1 :i*1 if plac$ 9 ! gleam+ cry/al glass1 produce a v brilliant & beautiful effect4 ,fl[]s %\ld n be put on ! table until j be=e d9n] is s]v$1 z !y are apt to be wilt$ by ! heat & ! lights4 ,we h us$ ! ,engli% t]m footman to indicate :at is usually call$ a wait] 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,a wait] 9 ,engl& is a hir$ hotel-h&1 n a private s]vant4 ,mu* ta/e & +5uity are exp5d$ on ! selection ( favors = ladies1 & ^! pretty fancies--bonbonni]es1 pa9t$ ribbons & reticules1 & fans cov]$ ) fl[]s--add greatly to ! elegance & luxury ( our mod]n d9n]-table4 ,a less reasonable conceit is t ( hav+ toys--su* z imitation musical in/rum5ts1 crack]s :i* make an unpleasant detonation1 imitations ( negro m9/rels1 balloons1 flags1 & pa/ebo>d lob/]s1 toads1 & insects--pres5t$ to ea* lady4 ,^! articles are nei!r ta/eful nor amus+1 & h no excuse = be+ except t !y af=d an opportunity = ! exp5diture ( m money4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxii4 ,,favors ,,& ,,bonbonni]es4 ,truly ! _w is v "y = its age4 ,we are nev] too old to admire a pretty favor or a ta/eful bonbonni]e2 &1 look+ back ov] ! season1 we rememb]1 z among ! mo/ *>m+ ( ! favors1 ^? ) fl[]s pa9t$ ^u silk5 bann]s1 ) ! own]'s "n int]tw9$4 ,! te*nical difficulties ( pa9t+ ^u silk are some:at conqu]$1 "o w\ld ?9k1 9 look+ at ! endless devices compos$ ( sat9 & pa9t$ fl[]s on ! lun*- tables4 ,little boxes cov]$ ) silk1 9 eight & six sid$ =ms1 ) panels let 91 on :i* are pa9t$ acorns & oak leaves1 rosebuds or lilies1 & always ! "n or ! ciph] ( ! recipi5t1 are v pretty4 ,! ,ea/]-egg has long be5 a favorite (f]+ 9 silk1 sat91 plu%1 & velvet1 9 cov]$1 egg-%ap$ boxes conta9+ bonbons2 ^!1 laid 9 a ne/ ( gold & silv] ?reads 9 a cloisonn basket1 af=d a v pretty s\v5ir to c>ry home f a lun*eon4 ,m5u-hold]s ( delicate gilt-"w are also add$ to ! o!r favors4 ,^! pretty little ?+s sometimes uphold a photograph1 or a porcela9 plate on :i* is pa9t$ ! lady's "n1 & also a few fl[]s4 ,! little porcela9 c>ds are n l>g] ?an a visit+-c>d1 & are (t5 v arti/ic4 ,! fam\s & famili> horse%oe1 9 silv] or silv]-gilt1 hold+ up ! m5u-c>d1 is ano!r pretty favor1 & a v nice "o to c>ry home1 z x becomes a p5hold] :5 x is put on ! writ+-table4 ,wire re/s1 %ap$ l ^? us$ = muskets 9 b>racks y>ds1 are also us$ = ! "n & m5u-c>ds4 ,plateaus1 %ells1 baskets1 figurettes1 vases hold+ fl[]s1 dolph9s1 ,tritons1 swan1 sea animals 79 crock]y71 roses :i* op5 & disclose ! sug>plums1 sprays ( coral1 & gilt con*-%ells1 are all pretty1 especially :5 fill$ ) fl[]s4 ,baskets 9 v>i\s /yles are (t5 se54 ,"o ti$ ) a broad ribbon at ! side is v useful z a "w-basket aft]w>ds4 ,op5-"w baskets1 l9$ ) crimson or sc>let or p9k or blue plu%1 ) ano!r l9+ ( silv] pap] to protect ! plums1 are v ta/eful4 ,a v pretty basket is "o hung betwe5 ?ree gilt h&les or poles1 & fill$ ) fl[]s or c&ies4 ,silv]$ & gild$ beetles1 or butt]flies1 fa/5$ on ! outside1 h a fanciful effect4 ,moss-cov]$ trays hold+ dri$ grasses & /raw1 & piles ( *ocolates t sugge/ ammunition1 are decorative & effective4 ,:eelb>r[s ( t9y size = fl[]s are a favorite conceit4 ,!y are made ( /raw-"w1 entirely gild$1 or pa9t$ black or br[n1 & pick$ out ) gold2 or p]haps pale gre51 ) a bord]+ ( br[n4 ,a v pretty "o may be made ( old cig>box wood2 on "o side a monogram pa9t$ 9 r$ & gold1 on ! o!r a spray ( autumn leaves4 ,c>v$-wood b>r[s fitt$ ) t9 inside may hold a gr[+ plant--/ephanotis1 hyac9?s1 f]ns1 ivy1 or any o!r h>dy plant--& are v pleas+ s\v5irs4 ,! designs = reticules & *tela9es are endless4 ,at a v exp5sive lun*eon1 to :i* tw5ty-f\r ladies sat d[n1 a silk reticule a foot squ>e1 fill$ ) ,maill>d's confections & decorat$ ) an exquisitely pa9t$ l&scape effect1 0 pres5t$ to ea* gue/4 ,^! lovely reticules may be any %ape1 & compos$ ( almo/ any mat]ial4 ,a v h&some /yle is an eight-sid$1 melon-%ap$ bag ( black sat91 ) a decoration ( bun*es ( sc>let fl[]s pa9t$ or embroid]$4 ,silk braid$ ) gold1 brocade1 & plu% comb9$1 & ,turki% t[ell+ ) an applique ( brilliant color1 are all suitable & effective4 ,9 ! w9t] a %ad$ sat9 muff1 9 :i* 0 hidd5 a bonbonni]e1 0 ! pres5t t made glad ! he>ts ( tw5ty- eight ladies4 ,^! are easily made 9 ! h\se1 & a plu% muff ) a bird's head is a favorite favor4 ,a pair ( bell[s is a pretty & inexp5sive bonbonni]e4 ,!y c be b\ght at ! confection]'s1 & are m satisfactory ?an :5 made at home2 b if "o is +5i\s1 x is possible1 ) a little pa/ebo>d1 gilt pap]1 silk1 & glue1 to turn out a v pretty little knickknack ( ?is k9d4 ,h[ev]1 ! ,fr5* d ^! ?+s s mu* bett] ?an we d t a lady giv+ a lun*-p>ty _h bett] buy all h] favors at "s :olesale place4 ,!re is a real economy 9 buy+ su* articles at ! :olesale /ores1 = ! retail deal]s d\ble ! price4 ,bronze1 iron1 & glass are all press$ into ! s]vice1 & occasionally we h at a lun* a :ole milit>y armam5t ( cannon1 muskets1 swords1 bronze helmets1 :ole suits ( armor1 tazza = jewell]y1 m9iature cases1 ink/&s1 & p[d]-boxes1 all to hold a few sug>-plums4 ,at a *ri/5+ p>ty all ! favors savor ( ! nurs]y--spl5did cradles ( fl[]s1 a bass9et ( brilliante trimm$ ) ribbons = a bonbonni]e1 p[d]-boxes1 puffs1 little socks fill$ ) sug> in/ead ( little feet1 an infant's cloak /&+ on end 7really ov] pa/ebo>d71 an infant's hood1 & ev5 ! flannel %irt has be5 copi$4 ,( c\rse ! baptismal di% & silv] cup are easily imitat$4 ,p]fum]y is introduc$ 9 little cut-glass bottles1 9 lead5 tubes l pa9t tubes1 9 p]fum$ artificial fl[]s1 9 sa*ets ( p[d]1 & 9 ! h&les ( fans4 ,boxes ( sat9wood1 small wood cov]s = music & blott+ cases1 pa9t$ by h&1 are r pretty favors4 ,! pla9 boxes & book cov]s c be b\ght & ornam5t$ by ! "y arti/s ( ! family4 ,no?+ is pretti] ?an an owl sitt+ on an ivy v9e = "o ( ^!4 ,! owl1 inde$1 plays a v conspicu\s "p at ! mod]n d9n]-table & lun*eon4 ,8 p[] ( look+ wise & be+ fooli% at ! same "t fits him = mod]n society4 ,he ent]s x z a pepp]-ca/]1 a fea!r$ bonbonni]e1 a pickle- hold] 79 *9a71 & is drawn1 pa9t$1 & photograph$ 9 e /yle4 ,a pun is made on 8 "n3 ,%\ld owl$ acqua9tance be =got8 etc4 ,he is a favorite 9 jewell]y1 & is (t5 c>v$ 9 jade4 ,inde$1 ! owl is hav+ 8 day1 hav+ _h ! night always to himself4 ,! squirrel1 ! dog1 ! frog t w\ld a-woo+ g1 ! :ite duck1 ! pig1 & ! m\se1 are all repres5t$ 9 *9a1 & 9 ! v>i\s silks & gauzes ( ,fr5* ta/e1 or 9 _! native sk9s1 or 9 any ( ! disguises t p may fancy4 ,be>s ) ragg$ /affs /& gu>d ov] a plate ( mod]n fai5ce1 z !y d ov] ! gates ( ,w>wick ,ca/le4 ,cats mew+1 cat*+ mice1 play+ on ! ,jews-h>p1 elephants full ( *oice/ confection]y1 lions & tig]s ) *ocolate insides1 & ev5 ! m>k$ face & long hair ( ,osc> ,wilde1 ! la/ hold+ )9 its ample cranium c>away-se$s in/ead ( bra9s1 play$ _! "p z favors4 ,! gre5 enamell$ dragon-fly1 gras%opp]s & beetles1 flies & wasps1 mo?s & butt]flies1 bright-t9t$ m&>9 ducks1 peacocks1 & o/ri*es1 tortoises cut 9 pebbles or made ( pa/ebo>d1 %rimps & crabs1 d all coldly furni% =? ! lun*-table z favors & bonbonni]es4 ,!n come pla/] or pa/ebo>d gondolas1 skiffs1 :]ries1 /eam%ips1 & f]ry-boats1 all made ) wondr\s skill & freight$ ) c>amels4 ,imitation rackets1 battl$oor & %uttlecock1 hoops & /icks1 ca/anets1 cup & ball1 tamb\r9es1 guit>s1 viol9s1 h&-organs1 banjos1 & drums1 all h _! little day z fa%ionable favors4 ,little /atuettes ( ,kate ,gre5away's qua9t *ildr5 n[ appe> z favors1 & are v *>m+4 ,nor is t flexible curta91 ! fan1 left out4 ,^? ( pap]1 pretty b n exp5sive1 are v common favors4 ,b ! opul5t (f] pretty sat9 fans pa9t$ ) ! recipi5t's monogram1 or else a fan :i* w mat* fl[]s & dress4 ,fans ( lace1 & ( tortoise-%ell & c>v$ ivory & s&al-wood1 are sometimes pres5t$1 b !y are too o/5tati\s4 ,let u say to ! giv]s ( fea/s1 be n too magnific5t1 b if y give a fan1 give "o t is good = some?+1 n a ?+ :i* breaks ) ! fir/ fall4 ,a v pretty set ( favors1 call$ fairies1 are little gr\ps ( *ildr5 pa9t$ on musl91 ) a backgr\nd ( ribbon4 ,! musl9 is s ?9 t ! *ildr5 seem float+ on air4 ,! lady's "n is also pa9t$ on ! ribbon4 ,we f9d t favors = g5tlem51 su* z sunfl[]s1 p9-cu%ions1 small purses1 sc>f-p9s1 & sleeve-buttons1 are m useful ?an ^? be/[$ ^u ladies1 b n s ornam5tal4 ,v pretty baskets1 call$ huits 7! baskets us$ by ! v9e- gr[]s to c>ry e>? = ! roots ( ! v9es71 are made ( /raw ornam5t$ ) artificial fl[]s & grasses1 & fill$ ) bonbons4 ,little ,leghorn hats trimm$ ) pompons ( musl91 blue1 p9k1 or :ite1 are fill$ ) natural fl[]s & hung on ! arm4 ,^! are a lovely v>iation4 ,fruits--! apple1 pe>1 orange1 & plum1 delightfully reali/ic-- are made ( composition1 & op5 to disclose mo/ unexpect$ se$s4 ,at tr[el1 a knife1 =k1 & spoon1 ( arti/ically pa9t$ wood1 & a pair ( o>s1 all claim a pass+ notice z arti/ic novelties4 ,bags ( plu%1 & silk embroid]$ ) daisies1 are v h&some & exp5sive favors2 heavily trimm$ ) lace1 !y co/ f\r doll>s apiece1 b are sold a little *eap] by ! doz54 ,blue sa%es1 ) fl[]s pa9t$ on pap] 7& atta*$ to ! sa% a pap] on :i* may be writt5 ! m5u71 co/ eighte5 doll>s a doz54 ,a di% ( snails1 fe>fully reali/ic1 c be b\ght = "o doll> a plate1 fruits = eighte5 doll>s a doz51 & fans any:]e f twelve up to a hundr$ doll>s a doz54 ,a ?\s& doll>s is n an unusual price = a lun*eon1 includ+ fl[]s & favors1 = eighte5 to tw5ty-f\r gue/s4 ,inde$1 a lun*eon 0 giv5 la/ w9t] = :i* ! ho/ess (f]$ a prize = copies 9 m9iature ( ! musical in/rum5ts us$ 9 ,pati5ce4 ,!y 7 furni%$ to h] = ?ree hundr$ doll>s4 ,! names ( ^! n[ almo/ obsolete in/rum5ts 7 rappaka1 tibia1 ar*lute1 tamb\r1 kiff>1 qu9teme1 rebel1 tuck91 ar*viola1 lyre1 s]p5t9e1 *luy1 viola da gamba1 balalaika1 gong1 ravana/ron1 mono*ord1 %opk>4 ,! ar*lute is ! m&ol94 ,!y repres5t$ all c\ntries1 & 7 delicate specim5s ( toy h&iwork4 ,we h n ent]$ into ! va/ field ( glass1 *9a1 porcela91 cloisonn1 ,dresd51 fai5ce jugs1 boxes1 plates1 bottles1 & vases1 :i* are all us$ z favors4 ,inde$1 x w\ld be impossible to describe half ( ! fancies :i* m9i/] to mod]n extravagance4 ,! bonbonni]e c co/ any?+1 f five to five hundr$ doll>s2 fifty doll>s = a sat9 box fill$ ) c&y is n an uncommon price4 ,sometimes1 :5 ! box is ( oxidiz$ silv]--a qua9t copy ( ! antique f ,b5v5uto ,cell9i--?is price is n too mu*2 b :5 x is a ?+ :i* t>ni%es 9 a mon?1 x seems ridicul\sly extravagant4 ,we h se5 v pretty & arti/ic *eap favors4 ,reticules made ( bright cotton1 or silk h&k]*iefs ) bord]s2 c>ds pa9t$ by ! arti/s ( ! family2 palm-leaf fans cov]$ ) real fl[]s1 or pa9t$ ) imitation ones2 sunfl[]s made ( pa/ebo>d1 ) portfolios beh9d !m2 pretty little p>asols ( fl[]s2 ,little ,r$ ,rid+-hood1 (ficiat+ z a receptacle = /ray p5nies2 ,japanese teapots1 ) ! cozy made at home2 little doyleys wr\ght ) delightful designs f ,pretty ,peggy1 & numb]less o!r graceful & *>m+ trifles4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxiii4 ,,d9n]-,,table ,,novelties4 ,"o w\ld ?9k t mod]n luxury _h rea*$ its ultimatum 9 ! delicate ref9em5ts ( d9n]-giv+1 b ea* d9n]-table reveals ! fact t ?is is an inexhau/ible subject4 ,! floral _w is capable ( an inf9ity ( surprises1 & ! la/ "o is a cameo ( fl[]s on a door1 %ap$ l a f\r-leav$ clov]4 ,! gue/s are ?us assur$ ( good-luck4 ,! horse%oe hav+ be5 s mu* us$ t x is n[ almo/ obsolete1 except 9 jewelry1 ! clov]-leaf has come 94 ,a v beautiful d9n] f> up ,fif? ,av5ue _h ?is w9t] an entirely new idea1 inasmu* z ! fl[]s 7 put ov]head4 ,! delicate v9e1 resembl+ gre5 asp>agus 9 its fragility1 0 susp5d$ f ! *&eli] to ! f\r corn]s ( ! room1 & on x 7 hung delicate roses1 lilies-(-!-valley1 p9ks1 & fragrant jasm9e1 :i* s5t d[n _! odors1 & occasionally dropp$ !mselves into a lady's lap4 ,?is is an exquisite bit ( luxury4 ,!n ! arrival1 two mon?s be=e ,ea/]1 ( ! fragrant1 beautiful ,ea/] lilies has add$ a magnific5t & /ately effect to ! c5tral b\quets4 ,x has be5 f\nd t ! isl& ( ,b]muda is a great res]voir ( ^! bulbs1 :i* are s5t up1 l _! unfragrant rivals ! onions1 by ! b>relful4 ,ev5 a piece ( a bulb w produce f ?ree to five lilies1 s t ^! f9e fl[]s are m *eap & pl5ty 9 ,janu>y ?an usually 9 ,april4 ,a d9+-room1 squ>e 9 %ape1 hung ) ri*ly-embroid]$1 old- gold tape/ry1 ) a r\nd table set = tw5ty1 ) silv] & glass & a great bun* ( lilies & gre5 f]ns 9 ! middle1 & a crazy quilt ( fl[]s ov] "o's head1 may well reproduce ! s5se ( dreaml& :i* mod]n luxury is try+ to foll[4 ,truly we live 9 ! days ( ,aladd94 ,six weeks aft] ! gr\nd 0 brok5 9 ,secret>y ,:itney's g>d5 9 ,wa%+ton = 8 ballroom1 ! company assembl$ 9 a magnific5t ap>tm5t ) flut$ gold- ceil+ & crimson brocade hang+s1 bronzes1 /atues1 & ,dresd5 c&le/icks1 & a l>ge wood fire at "o end1 9 :i* logs six feet long 7 burn+--all look+ z if x 7 "p ( an old b>onial ca/le ( ! ,middle ,ages4 ,! flori/s w furni% y r$ clov]s 9 ,janu>y if y give y\r ord] 9 ,octob]4 ,great bun*es ( fl[]s1 ( a pure sc>let unmix$ ) any o!r color1 are v fa%ionable1 & ! effect 9 a s(tly-light$ room is mo/ />tl+ & beautiful4 ,! light+ ( rooms by means ( lamps & c&les is giv+ ho/esses great annoyance4 ,!re is sc>cely a d9n]-p>ty b ! c&les set fire to _! fr+$ %ades1 & a conflagration ensues4 ,!n ! new lamps1 :i* give su* a respl5d5t light1 h be5 kn[n to melt ! metal ab\t ! wick1 & ! consequ5ces h be5 disa/r\s4 ,! next move w probably be ! dipp+ ( ! pap] 9 "s asbe/os or o!r anti-inflammable sub/ance1 s t !re w be no dang] ( fire at ! d9n]- table4 ,! scre5s put ov] ! c&les %\ld n h ?is pap]- fr+e2 x is v dang]\s4 ,b if a c&le scre5 takes fire1 h ! coolness to let x burn itself up )\t t\*+ x1 z ?us x w be entirely innocu\s1 al?\gh r appall+ to look at4 ,move a plate "u x to cat* ! fly+ fragm5ts1 & no h>m w be done2 b a well-int5tion$ ef=t to bl[ x out or to remove x g5]ally results 9 a v mu* m wide-spread conflagration4 ,*9a & glass g on improv+2 & !re are jewell$ goblets & c5tre-pieces ( yell[ glass cov]$ ) gold & :at looks l jewels4 ,knives & =ks are n[ to be _h ) cry/al h&les set 9 silv]1 v ornam5tal & clean-look+2 ^! come f ,bohemia4 ,! endless succession ( beautiful plates are m & m ,japanese 9 tone4 ,satsuma vases & jugs are (t5 s5t to a lady1 full ( beautiful roses1 ?us mak+ a la/+ s\v5ir ( :at w\ld be a p]i%able gift4 ,^! ,satsuma jugs are excell5t ?+s 9 :i* to plant hyac9?s1 & !y look well 9 ! c5tre ( ! d9n]-table ) ^! fl[]s gr[+ 9 !m4 ,fad$ fl[]s c be entirely re/or$ to fre%ness by clipp+ ! /ems & putt+ !m 9 v hot wat]2 !n set !m away f ! gas & furnace heat1 & !y come on ! d9n]-table fre% = sev]al days aft] _! disappe>ance 9 disgrace z fad$ or jad$ b\quets4 ,fl[]s ?us re/or$ h be5 put 9 a cold libr>y1 :]e ! wat]1 once hot1 has froz5 /iff1 & yet h borne ^! two extremes ( temp]ature )\t loss ( beauty--9 fact1 h la/$ pres5tably f ,monday morn+ to ,saturday night4 ,:at fl[]s _c /& is ! air we all live 9--at :at co/ to our fre%ness we f9d out 9 ! spr+--! ov]heat$ furnace & gas-lad5 air ( ! mod]n d9+-room4 ,! secret ( ! hot-wat] treatm5t is said to be ?is3 ! sap is s5t up into ! fl[] in/ead ( l+]+ 9 ! /ems4 ,roses respond to ?is treatm5t wond]fully4 ,! fa%ion ( we>+ l[-neck$ dresses at d9n] has become s pron\nc$ t ! morali/s beg9 to issue weekly essays aga9/ ?is revival z if x _h nev] be5 done be=e4 ,our virtu\s gr&mo!rs w\ld be a/oni%$ to he> t _! ball-dresses 7nev] cut high7 7 s immoral & indec5t4 ,! fact rema9s t a sleeveless g[n1 cut 9 a ,pompad\r =m1 is f> m ( a revelation ( figure ?an a l[-neck$ d9n]-dress prop]ly made4 ,!re is no l9e ( ! figure s de> to ! arti/ z t "o reveal$ f ! nape ( ! neck to ! %\ld]4 ,a beautiful back is ! delight ( ! sculptor4 ,no lady :o und]/&s ! f9e-art ( dress w\ld ev] h h] g[n cut too l[3 x is ugly1 besides be+ immode/4 ,! p]sons :o br+ discr$it on fa%ion are ^? :o mis9t]pret x4 ,! truly arti/ic modi/e cuts a l[-neck$ dress to reveal ! f9e l9es ( ! back1 b x is nev] 9 ,france cut too l[ 9 front4 ,! excessive heat ( an ,am]ican d9+-room makes ?is dress v mu* m com=table ?an ! high dresses :i* 7 br\ght 9 sev]al ye>s ago1 because a pr9cess _h a goitre :i* %e wi%$ to disguise3 ,no fulm9ations aga9/ fa%ion h ev] effect$ re=ms4 ,we mu/ take fa%ion z we f9d x1 & /rive to m\ld dress to our own /yle1 n slavi%ly adh]+ to1 b respectfully foll[+1 ! reign+ mode1 rememb]+ t all writ+s & edicts aga9/ ?is sub-rul] ( ! _w are l sunbeams fall+ on a /one wall4 ,! sunbeams vani%1 b ! /one wall rema9s4 ,! mod]n m>ri$ belle at a d9n] is apt to be dress$ 9 :ite1 ) mu* cry/al trimm+1 ) fea!rs 9 h] hair1 & ) diamonds on h] neck & arms1 & a pair ( long1 br[n ,sw$i% gloves drawn up to h] %\ld]s2 a fea!r fan ( o/ri* fea!rs hangs at h] side by a ribbon or a *a9 ( diamonds & pe>ls4 ,! long1 br[n ,sw$i% gloves are an anomaly2 !y d n suit ! re/ ( ?is exquisite dress1 b fa%ion decrees t !y %all be worn1 & !re=e !y are worn4 ,! f9e1 /ately fa%ion ( we>+ fea!rs 9 ! hair has return$1 & x is becom+ to middle-ag$ wom54 ,x gives !m a que5ly air4 ,"y girls look bett] = ! simple/ head-ge>2 !y we> _! hair high or l[ z !y consid] becom+4 ,mon/r\s & inconv5i5t b\quets are aga9 ! fa%ion1 & a v ugly fa%ion x is4 ,a lady does n "k :at to d ) h] two or ?ree b\quets at a musicale or a d9n]1 s !y are laid away on a table4 ,! only ?+ t c be done is to sit aft] d9n] ) !m 9 h] lap1 & ! prima donna at a musicale lays h]s on ! gr& piano4 ,m & m is x becom+ ! fa%ion to h music at ! end ( a d9n] 9 ! draw+-room1 in/ead ( hav+ x play$ dur+ d9n]4 ,elocutioni/s are ask$ 9 to amuse ! gue/s1 :o1 hav+ be5 f$ on t]rap9 & canvas-back ducks1 are n suppos$ to be 9 a talk+ mood4 ,?is may be ov]done4 ,_m p l to talk aft] d9n] ) ! p :o are ?us accid5tally br\ght toge!r2 = 9 our l>ge cities ! company assembl$ ab\t a d9n]-table are v (t5 fre% acqua9tances :o l to improve t opportunity to "k ea* o!r bett]4 ,we h spok5 ( ! dress ( ladies1 :i*1 if we 7 to pursue1 w\ld lead u into all ! details ( velvet1 sat91 & brocade1 & w\ld be a dep>ture f our subject2 let u !re=e glance at ! g5tlem5 at a mod]n1 mo/ mod]n1 d9n]4 ,! ve/s are cut v l[1 & exhibit a piqu embroid]$ %irt front held by "o /ud1 g5]ally a cat's-eye2 h[ev]1 ?ree /uds are p]missible4 ,:ite pla9-pleat$ l951 ) enamel /uds resembl+ l951 is also v fa%ionable4 ,a few "y m51 sometimes call$ dudes--no "o kn[s :y--we> p9k coral /uds or pe>ls1 g5]ally black pe>ls4 ,eld]ly g5tlem5 cont5t !mselves ) pla9-pleat$ %irt-fronts & :ite ties1 indulg+ ev5 9 we>+ _! wat*es 9 ! old way1 z fa%ion has re9troduc$ ! %ort ve/-*a9 s long bani%$4 ,x is pleasant to see ! old-fa%ion$ gold *a9 = ! neck reappe>+4 ,x always _h a pretty effect1 & is n[ mu* worn to support ! locket1 cross1 or m$allion portrait :i* ladies we> aft] ! ,l\is ,qu9ze fa%ion4 ,gold is m becom+ to d>k complexions ?an pe>ls1 & _m ladies hail ?is return to gold necklaces ) mu* delight4 ,g5tlem5 n[ we> pe>l-color$ gloves embroid]$ 9 black to d9n]s1 & d n remove !m until !y sit d[n to table4 ,seal r+s = ! ?ird f+] are replac+ ! sunk5 jewels 9 dead gold :i* h be5 s fa%ionable = sev]al ye>s = g5tlem54 ,all ! ornam5tation ( ! d9n]-table is high ?is w9t]--high c&le/icks1 high vases1 high glasses = ! fl[]s1 & tall glass compoti]s4 ,salt-cell>s are look+ up2 & a favorite device is a silv] vase1 ab\t two in*es high1 ) a %ell = salt4 ,silv] & silv]-gilt di%es1 hav+ be5 bani%$ = five ye>s1 are n[ reass]t+ _! pre-em95t fitness = ! mod]n d9n]- table4 ,p grew tir$ ( silv]1 & bani%$ x to ! plate- *e/4 ,n[ all ! old pieces are be+ burni%$ up & reappe>+2 & happy ! ho/ess :o has "s real old ,que5 ,anne4 ,z ! silv] doll> loses ca/e1 ! silv] s\p ture51 or1 z ! ,fr5* say1 ! s\pi]e 7& x is a good ^w71 rises 9 fa%ion1 & ! teapot ( our gr&mo!rs resumes its honor$ place4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxiv4 ,,summ] ,,d9n]s4 ,!re is a season :5 ! l+]]s 9 t[n accept ) pleasure an invitation to ! neighbor+ c\ntry h\se1 :]e ! lucky suburban cit likes to ent]ta9 8 fri5ds4 ,x is to be d\bt$1 h[ev]1 :e!r hospitality is an unmix$ pleasure to ^? :o ext5d x4 ,) ea* bless+ ( prosp]ity comes an att5dant evil1 & a lady :o has a c\ntry h\se has always to face ! fact t h] s]vants are apt to decamp 9 a body on ,saturday night1 & leave h] to take c>e ( h] gue/s z be/ %e may4 ,! ne>] to t[n ! great] ! necessity = runn+ a s]vant's omnibus1 :i* %all take ! dep>t+ (f5d] to ! tra91 & spe$ ! arrival ( h] successor4 ,no lady %\ld attempt to ent]ta9 9 ! c\ntry :o has n a good cook & a v compet5t wait] or waitress4 ,! latt]1 if well tra9$1 is 9 e respect z good z a man1 & 9 "s respects m desirable2 wom5-s]vants are usually quiet1 neat] ?an m5-s]vants1 z a rule1 & require less wait+ ^u4 ,bo? m5 & wom5 %\ld be requir$ to we> %oes t d n creak1 & to be immaculately neat 9 _! attire4 ,maid-s]vants %\ld always we> caps & :ite aprons1 & m5 dress-coats1 :ite cravats1 & p]fectly fre% l954 ,z ! d9n]s ( ! opul5t1 :o h butl]1 wait]s1 ,fr5* cook1 etc41 are q able to take c>e ( !mselves1 we pref] to answ] ! inquiries ( ^? ( our correspond5ts :o live 9 a simple mann]1 ) two or ?ree s]vants1 & :o wi% to ent]ta9 ) hospitality & )\t great exp5se4 ,! d9+-room ( _m c\ntry h\ses is small1 & n *e]fully furni%$4 ,! h\ses built rec5tly are improv$ 9 ?is respect1 h[ev]1 & n[ we w imag9e a l>ge room t has a pretty outlook on ! ,hudson1 c>pet$ ) fragrant matt+1 or ) a h>d-wood floor1 on :i* lie ,india rugs4 ,! table %\ld be oval1 z t %ape br+s gue/s ne> to ea* o!r4 ,! table-clo? %\ld be ( :ite damask1 & z fre% z sweet clov]1 = d9n]3 color$ clo?s are p]missible only = breakfa/ & tea4 ,! *airs %\ld be easy1 ) high1 slant+ backs4 ,= summ]1 cane *airs are mu* ! mo/ com=table1 al?\gh ^? cov]$ ) lea!r are v nice4 ,"s p pref] arm-*airs at d9n]1 b ! arms are inconv5i5t to _m1 &1 besides1 take a great deal ( room4 ,! armless d9n]-*airs are ! be/4 ,n[1 z a d9n] 9 ! c\ntry g5]ally occurs aft] ! g5tlem5 come f t[n1 ! matt] ( light has to be consid]$4 ,if our late brilliant sunsets d n supply en\gh1 h[ %all we light our summ] d9n]s8 ,few c\ntry h\ses h gas4 ,ev5 if !y h1 x w\ld be v hot1 & attract mosquitoes4 ,c&les are v pretty1 b exce$+ly tr\blesome4 ,! w9d bl[s ! flame to & fro2 ! insects flutt] into ! light2 an unhappy mo? seats himself on ! wick1 & burn+ into an unsightly cadav] makes a gutt] d[n "o side2 ! little r$-pap] %ades take fire1 & !re is a g5]al conflagration4 ,yet light is positively necess>y to dige/ion1 & no p>ty c be *e]ful )\t x4 ,!re=e1 try c>cel or mod]ator lamps ) pretty transp>5t %ades1 or a hang+ lamp ) gr\nd-glass %ade4 ,^! lamps1 fill$ ) k]os5e--& x mu/ be done neatly1 s t x w n smell--are ! be/ lamps = ! c\ntry d9n]4 ,if possible1 h[ev]1 h a c\ntry d9n] by ! light ( day2 x is mu* m *e]ful4 ,n[ = ! ornam5tation ( ! d9n]4 ,let x be ( fl[]s--wild ones1 if possible1 grasses1 clov]s1 butt]cups1 & a few fragrant roses or g>d5 fl[]s4 ,!re is no end to ! *eap decorative *9a articles t are sold n[ = ! use ( fl[]s4 ,a contempor>y m5tions or*ids plac$ 9 baskets on ! %\ld]s ( ,arcadian peasants2 lilies-(-!-valley1 ) leaves z pale z _! fl[]s1 :eel$ 9 b>r[s by ,cupids or set 9 *9a slipp]s2 crocuses gr[n 9 a *9a pot %ap$ l a ?umb$ copy ( ,victor ,hugo's ,notre ,dame de ,p>is2 or :ite tulips 9 a clu/] ( ?ree gilt sabots1 l>ge en\gh to =m a capital fl[]-/&1 m\nt$ on gilt1 ru/ic bran*es4 ,/\t pit*]s1 glass b[ls1 *9a b[ls1 & ev5 old teapots1 make pretty b\quet-hold]s4 ,! ,greek vase1 ! classic-%ap$1 old-fa%ion$ *ampagne glass1 are1 h[ev]1 unrivall$ = ! light grasses1 field daisies1 & fre% g>d5 fl[]s4 ,pretty1 mod]n ,engli% *9a1 ! *eap old blue1 ! :ite & gold1 or ! ,fr5*1 ) a color$ bord]1 are all good en\gh = a c\ntry d9n]2 = if p h two h\ses1 !y d n l to take _! fragile1 exp5sive *9a to ! c\ntry4 ,prettily-%ap$ ture5s & vegetable di%es add v mu* to ! com=t & happ9ess ( ! d9]s1 & =tunately !y are *eap & easily obta9$4 ,glass %\ld always be ?9 & f9e1 & tea & c(fee cups delicate to ! lip3 avoid ! ?ick crock]y ( a hotel4 ,= a c\ntry d9n] ! table %\ld be set ne> a w9d[1 or w9d[s1 if possible2 9 f9e wea!r1 9 ! hall or on ! wide v]&a4 ,if ! v]&a h long w9d[s1 ! s]vant c pass 9 & out easily4 ,!re %\ld be a side-bo>d & a side1 table1 relays ( knives1 =ks & spoons1 di%es & glasses n 9 use1 & a table f :i* ! s]vant c help ! s\p & c>ve ! jo9t1 z on a hot day no "o wi%es to see ^! two di%es on ! table4 ,a maid-s]vant %\ld be taught by h] mi/ress h[ to c>ve1 9 ord] to save "t & tr\ble4 ,s\p = a c\ntry d9n] %\ld be cle> b\illon1 ) mac>oni & *eese1 creme d'asp]ge1 or ,juli5ne1 :i* has 9 x all ! vegetables ( ! season4 ,heavy mock-turtle1 bean s\p1 or ox-tail are n 9 ord] = a c\ntry d9n]4 ,if ! lady ( ! h\se h a tal5t = cook]y1 %e %\ld h h] s\ps made ! day be=e1 all ! grease remov$ :5 ! /ock is cold1 & season !m h]self4 ,x is bett] 9 a c\ntry h\se to h "s cold di% t w s]ve z a res\rce if ! cook %\ld leave4 ,melton veal1 :i* c be prep>$ on ,monday & :i* w la/ until ,saturday1 is an excell5t /&-by2 & a cold boil$ or roa/ ham %\ld always be on ! side-bo>d4 ,a hungry man c make a com=table d9n] ( cold ham & a bak$ potato4 ,e c\ntry h\sehold] %\ld try to h a vegetable g>d51 = pease1 beans1 "y turnips1 & salads fre% ga!r$ are v sup]ior to ^? :i* ev5 ! be/ groc] furni%es4 ,& ( all ! luxuries ( a c\ntry d9n] ! fre% vegetables are ! greate/4 ,especially does ! tir$ citiz51 f$ on ! escul5ts ( ! corn] groc]y1 delight 9 ! gre5 pease1 ! crisp lettuce1 ! undefil$ /rawb]ries4 ,"o old epicure ( ,new ,york asks ( 8 c\ntry fri5ds only a piece ( boil$ salt pork ) vegetables1 a potato salad1 "s *eese1 five l>ge /rawb]ries1 & a cup ( c(fee4 ,! l>ge family ( salads help to make ! c\ntry d9n] delightful4 ,giv5 a cle> beef s\p1 a slice ( fre%-boil$ salmon1 a bit ( spr+ lamb ) m9t sauce1 "s gre5 pease & fre% potatoes1 a salad ( lettuce1 or slic$ tomatoes1 or potatoes ) a bit ( onion1 & y h a d9n] fit = a ,brillat-,sav>92 or v>y x ) a pair ( boil$ *ick5s1 & a j>d9i]e made ( all ! pease1 beans1 potatoes1 caulifl[]1 fre% beets1 ( ! day be=e1 simply treat$ to a ba? ( v9eg> & oil & pepp] & salt4 ,! lady :o has conqu]$ ! salad "q may laugh at ! caprices ( cooks1 & defy ! h\r at :i* ! tra9 leaves4 ,:at s good z an egg salad = a hungry company8 ,boil ! eggs h>d & slice !m1 cov] ) a mayonnaise dress+1 & put a few lettuce leaves ab\t ! plate1 & y h a su/a9+ meal4 ,_m families h cold meats & w>m vegetables = _! midday d9n] dur+ ! summ]4 ,?is is n heal?y4 ,let all ! d9n] be cold if ! meats are2 & a d9n] ( cold roa/ beef1 ( salad1 & cold asp>agus1 dress$ ) pepp]1 oil1 & v9eg>1 is n a bad meal4 ,x is bett] = almo/ ev]ybody1 h[ev]1 to eat a hot d9n]1 ev5 9 hot wea!r1 z ! dige/ion is aid$ by ! fri5dly p[] ( ! caloric4 ,inde$ dyspepsia1 almo/ univ]sal ) ,am]icans1 is attribut$ to ! habit :i* prevails 9 ?is c\ntry above all o!rs ( dr9k+ ice-wat]4 ,c>afes ( ice-wat]1 a silv] di% = ice1 & a pair ( ice- tongs1 %\ld be put on ! table = a summ] d9n]4 ,= dess]ts !re is an almo/ endless succession1 & ) cream 9 h] dairy1 & a pat5t ice-cream freez] 9 h] cuis9e1 ! h\se-keep] ne$ n lack delicate & delici\s di%es ( b]ries & fruits4 ,no hot pudd+s %\ld be s]v$1 or heavy pies2 b ! fruit t>t is an excell5t sweet1 & %\ld be made ravir2 ! pa/ry %\ld melt 9 ! m\?1 & ! fruit be /ew$ ) a great deal ( sug>4 ,cream %\ld be put on ! table 9 l>ge glass pit*]s1 = x is a great luxury ( ! c\ntry & ( ! summ] season4 ,! cold cu/>ds1 ,*>lotte-,russe1 & creams /iff5$ ) gelat9e & delicately flavor$1 are v nice = a summ] d9n]4 ,s is home-made cake1 :5 well made3 ?is1 inde$1 is always its only excuse = be+4 ,/ew$ fruit is a favorite dess]t 9 ,engl&1 & ! gooseb]ry1 :i* "h is b little us$1 is mu* lik$ !re4 ,am]icans pref] to eat fruit fre%1 & !re=e h n le>n$ to /ew x4 ,/ew+ is1 h[ev]1 a bran* ( cook]y well wor? ! att5tion ( a fir/-class h\se-keep]4 ,x makes ev5 ! cann$ abom9ations bett]1 & ! ,cali=nia cann$ apricot /ew$ ) sug> is "o ( ! mo/ delightful ( sweets1 & v :olesome2 cann$ pea*es /ew$ ) sug> lose ! ta/e ( t91 :i* sets ! tee? on edge1 & /ew$ currants are delici\s4 ,e h\se-keep] %\ld le>n to cook mac>oni well4 ,x is wor? :ile to sp5d an h\r at ,m>t9elli's1 = ?is ,italian /aple is economical1 & extremely palatable if prop]ly prep>$4 ,rice1 too1 %\ld h a place 9 a summ] bill ( f>e1 z an occasional sub/itute = potatoes1 :i* "s p _c eat4 ,= summ] d9n]s !re %\ld nev] be any?+ on ! table :5 ! gue/s sit d[n b ! fl[]s & ! dess]t1 ! ice- pit*]s or c>afes1 & b[ls ( ice1 ! glass1 *9a1 & silv]3 ! la/ ?ree %\ld all be simple1 & n pr(use4 ,_m families n[1 fe>+ burgl>s1 use only plat$ spoons1 knives1 =ks1 & di%es at _! c\ntry h\ses4 ,mod]n plate is s v good t !re is less objection to ?is ?an =m]ly2 b ! g5u9e h\se-keep] loves ! real silv] spoons & =ks1 & pref]s to use !m4 ,! o/5tati\s display ( silv]1 h[ev]1 is bad ta/e at a c\ntry d9n]4 ,glass di%es are mu* m elegant & appropriate1 & q exp5sive en\gh to be> ! title ( luxuries4 ,avoid all greasy & heavy di%es4 ,good roa/ beef1 mutton1 lamb1 veal1 *ick5s1 & fre% fi% are always 9 ord]1 = ! sy/em craves ! support ( ^! solids 9 summ] z well z 9 w9t]2 b d n (f] pork1 unless 9 ! mo/ delicate =m1 & !n 9 small quantities4 ,fri$ salt pork1 if n too fat1 is always a pleasant addition to ! broil$ bird4 ,broil$ fi%1 broil$ *ick51 broil$ ham1 broil$ /eaks & *ops1 are always satisfactory4 ,! grid-iron made ,/4 ,lawr5ce fit = ,heav51 & its qualities h be5 elevat+ & ref9+ ev] s9ce4 ,no?+ c be less heal?y or less agreeable to ! ta/e at a summ] d9n] ?an fri$ food4 ,! fry+-pan %\ld h be5 ?r[n into ! fire long ago1 & burn$ up4 ,! h\se-keep] liv+ ne> ! sea has an ample /ore to *oose f 9 ! too?some crab1 clam1 lob/]1 & o!r cru/acea4 ,! fre% fi%1 ! roa/ clams1 etc41 take ! place ( ! devill$ kidneys & broil$ bones ( ! w9t]4 ,b e h\sewife %\ld /udy ! m>kets ( h] neighborhood4 ,9 _m rural di/ricts ! but*]s give away1 or ?r[ to ! dogs1 sweetbreads & o!r morsels :i* are ! v ess5ce ( luxury4 ,calf's head is reject$ by ! rural buy]1 & a ,fr5*man :o _h ! physiologie du gt at 8 f+]-ends1 decl>$ t 9 a c\ntry place1 n five miles f ,new ,york1 he gave luxuri\s d9n]s on :at ! but*] ?rew away4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxv4 ,,lun*eons1 ,,in=mal ,,& ,,social4 ,! in=mal lun* is p]haps less und]/ood 9 ?is c\ntry ?an 9 any o!r1 because x is r>ely necess>y4 ,9 ! c\ntry x is call$ e>ly d9n]1 *ildr5's d9n]1 or ladies' d9n]2 9 ! city1 :5 ! g5tlem5 are all d[n t[n1 !n blossoms out ! elaborate ladies' lun*4 ,b 9 ,engl&1 at a c\ntry h\se1 & inde$ 9 ,london1 lun*eon is a recogniz$ & v delightful meal1 at :i* ! mo/ di/+ui%$ m5 & wom5 meet ov] a jo9t & a *]ry t>t1 & talk & laugh = an h\r )\t ! re/ra9t ( ! late & =mal d9n]4 ,x occupies a prom95t place 9 ! hi/ory ( hospitality1 & ,"l ,h\ghton1 among o!rs1 0 fam\s = 8 unc]emoni\s lun*es4 ,z x is und]/ood to be an in=mal meal1 ! invitations are g5]ally s5t only a %ort "t be=e ! day = :i* ! recipi5t is invit$1 & are writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son4 ,"l ,h\ghton's 7 apt to be simply1 ,come & lun* ) me to-morr[4 ,at our prom95t places ( summ] resort1 ladies :o h h\ses ( _! own g5]ally give _! male fri5ds a c>te blan*e invitation to lun*eon4 ,!y are expect$ to avail !mselves ( x )\t c]emony1 & at ,newport ! table is always laid ) ! extra knife & =k1 or two or ?ree1 z may be ?\ght necess>y4 ,ladies1 h[ev]1 %\ld be def9itely ask$ to ?is meal z to o!rs4 ,x is a v conv5i5t meal1 z x p]mits ( an irregul> numb]1 ( a sup]fluity ( ladies or g5tlem52 x is *atty & easy1 & is nei!r tr\blesome nor exp5sive4 ,! h\r ( lun*eon is /at$1 b sev]e punctuality is n insi/$ ^u4 ,a gue/ :o is told t he may drop 9 at half-pa/ "o o'clock e day w be =giv5 if he comes z late z two4 ,ladies may come 9 _! hats or bonnets2 g5tlem5 9 lawn-t5nis suits1 if !y wi%4 ,x is incumb5t ^u ! ho/ess b n ^u ! ho/ to be pres5t4 ,x is q immat]ial :]e ! gue/s sit1 & !y g 9 sep>ately1 n arm-9-arm4 ,ei!r :ite or color$ table-clo?s are equally prop]1 & "s p use ! b>e mahogany1 b ?is is unusual4 ,! mo/ conv5i5t & easy-go+ lun*eons are s]v$ f ! buffet or side-table1 & ! gue/s help !mselves to cold ham1 tongue1 roa/ beef1 etc4 ,! fruit & w9e & bread %\ld /& on ! table4 ,ea* *air has 9 front ( x two plates1 a napk9 ) bread1 two knives1 two =ks & spoons1 a small salt-cell>1 & ?ree glasses--a tumbl] = wat]1 a cl>et glass1 & a %]ry glass4 ,b\illon is sometimes (f]$ 9 summ]1 b n (t54 ,if s]v$ well1 x %\ld be 9 cups4 ,di%es ( dress$ salad1 a cold f[l1 game1 or hot *ops1 c be put be=e ! ho/ess or pass$ by ! s]vant4 ,s\p & fi% are nev] (f]$ at ^! lun*eons4 ,"s p pref] a hot lun*1 & *ops1 birds on toa/1 or a beef/eak1 ) ma%$ potatoes1 asp>agus1 or gre5 pease1 are suitable di%es4 ,x is prop] at a c\ntry place to (f] a full lun*eon1 or to h a cold jo9t on ! sidebo>d2 & aft] ! m s]i\s "p ( ! lun*eon has be5 remov$1 ! ho/ess c dismiss ! s]vants1 & s]ve ! ice-cream or t>t h]self1 ) ! assi/ance ( h] gue/s4 ,clean plates1 knives1 & =ks %\ld be 9 read9ess4 ,9 ,engl& a hot jo9t is always s]v$ f ! sidebo>d4 ,9 fact1 an ,engli% lun*eon is exactly :at a pla9 ,am]ican d9n] 0 =m]ly--a roa/ ( mutton or beef1 a few vegetables1 a t>t1 "s fruit1 & a glass ( %]ry4 ,b we h *ang$ ! practice consid]ably1 & n[ our luxuri\s c\ntry (f]s no?+ pla94 ,9 ?is c\ntry "o wait] g5]ally rema9s dur+ ! :ole meal1 & s]ves ! table z he w\ld at d9n]--only ) less c]emony4 ,x is p]fectly prop] at lun*eon = any "o to rise & help himself to :at he wi%es4 ,tea & c(fee are nev] s]v$ aft] lun*eon 9 ! draw+-room or d9+-room4 ,p are n expect$ to rema9 long aft] lun*eon1 z ! lady ( ! h\se may h engagem5ts = ! aft]noon4 ,9 _m h\ses ! butl] arranges ! lun*eon1 table ) fl[]s or fruit1 plates ( ?9 bread-& butt]1 jellies1 creams1 cakes1 & pres]ves1 a di% ( cold salmon mayonnaise1 & decant]s ( %]ry & cl>et4 ,he places a cold ham or *ick5 on ! sidebo>d1 & a pit*] ( ice-wat] on a side-table1 & !n leaves ! d9+-room1 & takes no he$ ( ! bas] wants ( humanity until d9n]-"t4 ,an und]man or footman takes ! place ( ?is l(ty be+1 & waits at table4 ,9 m mode/ h\ses1 :]e !re is only a maid-s]vant or "o man1 all arrangem5ts = ! lun*eon & = expect$ gue/s %\ld be made imm$iately aft] breakfa/4 ,if ! *ildr5 d9e ) ! family at lun*eon1 x1 ( c\rse1 becomes an important meal1 & %\ld include "o hot di% & a simple dess]t4 ,x is well = p liv+ 9 ! c\ntry1 & ) a c]ta9 degree ( /yle1 to /udy up ! me?ods ( mak+ salads & cold di%es1 = ^! come 9 s admirably = lun*eon t !y (t5 save a ho/ess great mortification4 ,by att5tion to small details a v humble repa/ may be mo/ elegant4 ,a silv] bread-basket = ! ?9 slices ( bread1 a pretty *eese-di%1 a napk9 ar\nd ! *eese1 pats ( butt] 9 a pretty di%1 fl[]s 9 vases1 fruits neatly s]v$--^! ?+s co/ little1 b !y add a ze/ to ! pleasures ( ! table4 ,if a hot lun*eon is s]v$1 x is n etiquette to put ! vegetables on ! table z at d9n]2 !y %\ld be h&$ by ! wait]4 ,! lun*eon-table is already full ( ! articles = dess]t1 & !re is no place = ! vegetables4 ,! hot entres or cold entres are plac$ be=e ! ma/] or mi/ress1 & ea* gue/ is ask$ :at he pref]s4 ,! :ole aspect ( lun*eon is ?us made p]fectly in=mal4 ,if a lady gives a m =mal lun*1 & has x s]v$ la ,russe1 ! fir/ entre--let u say *ops & gre5 pease--is h&$ by ! wait]1 comm5c+ ) ! lady :o sits on ! "r h& ( ! ma/] ( ! h\se4 ,?is is foll[$ by vegetables4 ,plates hav+ be5 r5ew$1 a salad & "s cold ham c be (f]$4 ,! wait] fills ! glasses ) %]ry1 or (f]s cl>et4 ,:5 *ampagne is s]v$ at lun*1 x is imm$iately aft] ! fir/ di% has be5 s]v$1 & cl>et & %]ry are n !n giv5 unless ask$ =4 ,aft] ! salad a fre% plate1 ) a dess]t-spoon & small =k ^u x1 is plac$ be=e ea* p]son4 ,! ice-cream1 pie1 or pudd+ is !n plac$ 9 front ( ! ho/ess1 :o cuts x1 & puts a portion on ea* plate4 ,aft] ^! da9ties h be5 discuss$1 a glass plate1 s]viette1 & f+]-b[l are plac$ be=e ea* gue/ = fruit4 ,! s]vant takes ! plate f 8 mi/ress aft] %e has fill$ x1 & h&s x to ! lady ( fir/ consid]ation1 & s on4 ,:5 only memb]s ( ! family are pres5t at lun*eon1 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se is help$ fir/4 ,fruit t>ts1 pudd+1 sweet omelette1 jellies1 blancmange1 & ice- cream are all prop] dess]t = lun*eon2 also lun*eon cake1 or ! pla9] sorts ( loaf-cake4 ,x is well 9 all h\seholds1 if possible1 = ! *ildr5 to breakfa/ & lun* ) _! p>5ts4 ,! tea*+ ( table mann]s _c be begun too soon4 ,b *ildr5 %\ld nev] be all[$ to tr\ble gue/s4 ,if n old en\gh to behave well at table1 gue/s %\ld n be invit$ to ! meals at :i* !y are pres5t4 ,x is v try+ to p>5ts1 gue/s1 & s]vants4 ,:5 lun*eon is to be an agreeable social repa/1 :i* gue/s are expect$ to %>e1 !n ! *ildr5 %\ld d9e else:]e4 ,no "m succe$s bett] 9 ! re>+ ( h] *ildr5 ?an %e :o has a nurs]y d9+-room1 :]e1 "u h] own eye1 h] bantl+s are prop]ly f$4 ,x is n s mu* tr\ble1 ei!r1 z "o w\ld ?9k4 ,table mats are no long] us$ 9 /yli% h\ses1 ei!r at lun*eon or at d9n]4 ,! wait] %\ld h a co>se t[el 9 ! butl]'s pantry1 & wipe ea* di% be=e he puts x on ! table4 ,m5u-c>ds are nev] us$ at lun*eon4 ,salt-cell>s & small wat] c>afes may be plac$ up & d[n ! lun*eon-table4 ,9 our c\ntry1 :]e s]vants run away & leave _! mi/ress :5 %e is expect+ gue/s1 x is well to be able to improvise a di% f su* mat]ials z may be at h&4 ,no?+ is bett] ?an a cod mayonnaise4 ,a cod boil$ 9 ! morn+ is a fri5d 9 ! aft]noon4 ,:5 x is cold remove ! sk9 & bones4 ,= sauce put "s ?ick cream 9 a porcela9 saucepan1 & ?ick5 x ) corn- fl\r :i* has be5 mix$ ) cold wat]4 ,:5 x beg9s to boil1 /ir 9 ! beat5 yolks ( two eggs4 ,z x cools1 beat x well to prev5t x f becom+ lumpy1 & :5 ne>ly cold1 /ir 9 ! juice ( two lemons1 a little t>ragon v9eg>1 a p9* ( salt1 & a s\pon ( ,cay5ne pepp]4 ,peel & slice "s v ripe tomatoes or cold potatoes2 /eep !m 9 v9eg>1 ) ,cay5ne1 p[d]$ g+]1 & pl5ty ( salt2 lay ^! ar\nd ! fi%1 & cov] ) ! cream sauce4 ,?is makes a v elegant cold di% = lun*eon4 ,! tomatoes or potatoes %\ld be tak5 out ( ! v9eg> & c>efully dra9$ be=e !y are plac$ ar\nd ! fi%4 ,"s giblets c>efully sav$ f ! ducks1 geese1 or *ick5s ( ye/]day's d9n] %\ld be /ew$ 9 good beef /ock1 & !n set away to cool4 ,put !m 9 a /ewpan ) dri$ split pease1 & boil !m until !y are r$uc$ to pulp2 s]ve ?is mixture hot on toa/1 &1 if prop]ly flavor$ ) salt & pepp]1 y h a good lun*eon di%4 ,vegetable salads ( beet-root1 potatoes1 & lettuce are always delici\s1 & ! c>eful h\sewife :o rises e>ly 9 ! morn+ & provides a r\nd ( cold corn$ beef1 pl5ty ( bread1 & a lun*eon cake1 ne$ n regret ! ephem]al cook1 or fe> ! com+ city gue/4 ,e c\ntry h\sewife %\ld le>n to g>ni% di%es ) cap]s1 a bord] ( wat]-cresses1 pla9 p>sley1 or vegetables cut into fancy =ms4 ,potatoes1 eggs1 & cold ha%$ meats1 9 _! unadorn$ simplicity1 d n come "u ! head ( luxuries4 ,b if ! ha%$ meat is c>efully w>m$ & well flavor$1 & put on toa/1 if ! potatoes are *opp$ & br[n$ & put ar\nd ! meat1 if ! eggs are boil$1 slic$1 & laid ar\nd z a g>ni%1 & a few cap]s & a bord] ( p>sley add$1 y h a ,delmonico rag\t t ,brillat-,sav>9 w\ld h enjoy$4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxvi4 ,,supp]-,,p>ties4 ,aft] a long retirem5t into ! %ades1 ! supp]-p>ty1 ! sit-d[n ,supp]1 once s de> to our ance/ors1 has be5 aga9 reviv$4 ,lead]s ( society at ,newport h f\nd t1 aft] ! he>ty lun* :i* ev]ybody eats !re at "o or ?ree o'clock ! twelve or f\rte5 c\rse d9n] at sev5 o'clock1 is too mu*2 t p come home reluctantly f _! ocean drive to dress2 & la/ summ]1 9 consequ5ce1 invitations 7 issu$ = supp]s at n9e or half-pa/ n9e4 ,! supp]s at private h\ses1 :i* _h previ\sly fall5 out ( fa%ion by reason ( ! conv5i5ce & popul>ity ( ! great re/aurants1 7 resum$4 ,! v late d9n]s 9 l>ge cities h1 no d\bt1 also prev5t$ ! supp] f be+ a favorite ent]ta9m5t2 b !re is no reason 7except ! disapproval ( doctors7 :y supp]s %\ld n be 9 fa%ion 9 ! c\ntry1 or :]e p d9e e>ly4 ,9 ,engl&1 :]e dige/ions are bett] ?an "h1 & :]e p eat m heavily1 ! supp]-tray is an in/itution1 & supp]s are g5]ally spread 9 e ,engli% c\ntry h\se2 & we may ackn[l$ge ! fact t ! supp]--! little supp] s de> to ! he>ts ( our fri5ds ( ! la/ c5tury--seems to be com+ aga9 into fa%ion "h4 ,no?+ c be m significant ?an t ,h>p]'s ,baz> receives _m lett]s ask+ = directions = sett+ ! table = supp]1 & = ! prop] s]vice ( ! meats :i* are to gayly cov] ! clo? & enri* ?is always pleasant repa/4 ,9 a g5]al way ! same s]vice is prop] at a supp] z at a d9n]1 ) ! s+le exception ( ! s\p-plates4 ,oy/]s on ! half-%ell & b\illon s]v$ 9 cups are ! fir/ two c\rses4 ,if a hot supp] is s]v$1 ! usual di%es are sweetbreads1 ) gre5 pease1 ctelettes la f9anci]e1 & "s sort ( game 9 season1 su* z re$-birds 9 autumn1 canvas-back ducks1 v5ison1 or woodcock2 salads ( e k9d are 9 ord]1 & are (t5 s]v$ ) ! game4 ,!n ices & fruit foll[4 ,*eese is r>ely (f]$1 al?\gh "s g\rmets insi/ t a little is necess>y ) ! salad4 ,aft] ea* c\rse all ! di%es & knives & =ks t h be5 9 use are replac$ by fre% ones1 & ! ord] & neatness ( ! table pres]v$ to ! end ( ! supp]4 ,we w\ld ?9k x unnecess>y to m5tion ?is mo/ obvi\s detail ( table decorum1 _h n sev]al correspond5ts ask$ to be in=m$ conc]n+ x4 ,!re is1 ( c\rse1 ! in=mal supp]1 at :i* ! di%es are all plac$ on a table toge!r1 z = a supp] at a l>ge ball4 ,meats1 dress$ salmon1 *ick5 croquettes1 salads1 jellies1 & ices are a "p ( ! al>m+ mlange ( :i* a gue/ is expect$ to p>take1 ) only su* discrim9ation z may be dictat$ by prud5ce or incl9ation4 ,b ?is is n ! sit d[n1 elegant supp] s wor?y to be reviv$1 ) its c\rses & its etiquette & its brilliant conv]sation1 :i* 0 ! delight ( our gr&mo!rs4 ,a l>ge c5tre-piece ( fl[]s1 ) fruit & c&ies 9 glass compoti]s1 & high =ms ( n\gat1 & o!r sug> devices1 are suitable /&>ds = an elegant supp]-table4 ,?ree sorts ( w9e may be plac$ on ! table 9 h&some decant]s--%]ry1 or ,madeira1 & ,burgundy4 ,! gue/s f9d oy/]s on ! half-%ell1 ) little fi% =ks1 all ready = !m4 ,! napk9 & bread are laid at ! side or 9 front ( ea* plate4 ,^! plates be+ remov$1 o!r pla9 plates are put 9 _! place1 & cups ( b\illon are s]v$1 ) gold teaspoons4 ,?is c\rse pass$1 o!r plates are put be=e ! gue/1 & "s *ick5 croquettes or lob/] f>ci is pass$4 ,%]ry or ,madeira %\ld already h be5 s]v$ ) ! ,oy/]s4 ,) ! ?ird c\rse ic$ *ampagne is (f]$4 ,!n foll[ game1 or fri$ oy/]s1 salads1 & a slice ( pt de foie gras1 ) p]haps tomato salad2 & subsequ5tly ices1 jellies1 fruit1 & c(fee1 & = ! g5tlem5 a glass ( br&y or cordial4 ,ea* c\rse is tak5 away be=e ! next is pres5t$4 ,birds & salad are s]v$ toge!r4 ,!re is a mu* simpl] supp] possible1 :i* is (t5 (f]$ by a hospitable ho/ess aft] ! op]a or !atre4 ,x consi/s ( a few ,oy/]s1 a pair ( cold roa/ *ick5s1 a di% ( lob/] or pla9 salad1 ) p]haps a glass ( *ampagne1 & "o sort ( ice-cream1 & involves v little tr\ble or exp5se1 & c be safely said to give z mu* pleasure z ! m sumptu\s fea/4 ,?is in=mal refre%m5t is (t5 plac$ on a r$ table-clo?1 ) a di% ( oranges & apples 9 ! c5tre ( ! table1 & "o s]vant is suffici5t4 ,!re %\ld be1 h[ev]1 ! same etiquette z to ! *ang+ ( plates1 knives1 & =ks1 etc41 z 9 ! m elaborate meal4 ,! good h\se-keep] :o gives a supp] e ev5+ to h] hungry family may le>n _m an appetiz+ device by read+ ,engli% books ( cook]y on ?is subject4 ,a ha%$ di% ( ! meat left f d9n]1 g>ni%$ ) p>sley1 a potato salad1 a few slices ( cold corn$ beef or ham1 "s pickl$ tongues1 bread1 butt]1 & *eese1 ) ale or cid]1 is ! supp] (f]$ at ne>ly e ,engli% h\se 9 ! c\ntry4 ,! silv] & glass1 ! *9a & ! fruit1 %\ld be z c>efully att5d$ to z = a d9n]1 & ev]y?+ z neat & z elegant z possible1 ev5 at an in=mal supp]4 ,oy/]s1 t univ]sal food ( ! ,am]ican1 are invaluable = a supp]4 ,fri$ oy/]s diffuse a disagreeable odor ?r\gh ! h\se1 !re=e !y are n z conv5i5t 9 a private dwell+ z scallop$ oy/]s1 :i* c be prep>$ 9 ! aft]noon1 & :i* s5d =? no odor :5 cook+4 ,broil$ oy/]s are v delicate1 & are a favorite di% at an in=mal supp]4 ,broil$ birds & broil$ bones are great delicacies1 b !y mu/ be prep>$ by a v good cook4 ,*ick5 9 v>i\s =ms ha%$1 fri$1 cold1 or 9 salad--is useful2 veal may be utiliz$ = all ^! ?+s1 if *ick5 is n =?com+4 ,! delicately treat$ *ick5 liv]s also make a v good di%1 & mu%rooms on toa/ are p]fect 9 _! season4 ,hot vegetables are nev] s]v$1 except gre5 pease ) "s o!r di%4 ,beef1 except 9 ! =m ( a fillet1 is nev] se5 at a sit-d[n supp]1 & ev5 a fillet is r too heavy4 ,lob/] 9 e =m is a favorite supp] delicacy1 & ! gr\se2 snipe1 woodcock1 teal2 canvasback1 & squab on toa/1 are always 9 ord]4 ,9 ^! days ( ,italian w>eh\ses & import$ delicacies1 ! press$ & jelli$ meats1 pts1 sausages1 & spic$ tongues furni% a v>iety = a cold supp]4 ,no supp] is p]fect )\t a salad4 ,! ,romans made mu* ( ?is meal1 & among _! delicacies 7 ! ass1 ! dog1 & ! snail1 sea-h$gehogs1 oy/]s1 asp>agus1 v5ison1 wild bo>1 sea-nettles1 fi%1 f[l1 game1 & cakes4 ,! ,g]mans to-day eat wild bo>1 head-*eese1 pickles1 goose's fle% dri$1 sausages1 *eese1 & salads = supp]1 & wa% d[n ) be]4 ,! ,fr5*1 "u ,l\is ,,xiv41 began to make ! supp] _! mo/ f9i%$ meal4 ,!y us$ gold & silv] di%es1 cry/al cups & goblets1 exquisite grapes cr[n$ ! p]gne1 & *oice/ fruits 7 s]v$ 9 gold5 di%es4 ,! cooks s5t up piquant sauces = ! delicately cook$ meats1 ! w9es 7 drunk hot & spic$4 ,! latt] are tak5 ic$ n[4 ,_m old h\se-keep]s1 h[ev]1 s]ve a ri*1 hot-mull$ port = a w9t] supp]4 ,x is a delici\s & n unheal?y bev]age1 & c be easily prep>$4 ,! doctors1 z we h said1 condemn a late supp]1 b ! pros & cons ( ?is subject admit ( discussion4 ,e "o1 inde$1 mu/ decide = himself4 ,few p c und]go excitem5t ( an ev5+--an op]a or play or conc]t1 or ev5 ! pleasant conv]sation ( an ev5+ p>ty-- )\t feel+ hungry4 ,) _m1 if su* an appetite is n appeas$ x w cause sleeplessness4 ,to eat lightly & to dr9k lightly at supp] is a natural in/9ct ) p if !y expect to g to b$ at once2 b excitem5t is a great aid to dige/ion1 & a heavy supp] sometimes gives no inconv5i5ce4 ,keats seems to h _h a vision ( a mod]n supp]-table :5 he wrote3 s(t he set ,a table1 & 444?rew !reon ,a clo? ( wov5 crimson1 gold1 & jet2 444f =? ! closet br\ght a heap ,( c&i$ apple1 qu9ce1 & plum1 & g\rd1 ,) jellies soo!r ?an ! creamy curd1 ,& luc5t syrops1 t9ct ) c9namon1 ,manna & dates3 444spic$ da9ties e "o4 ,! supp] be+ a meal purely ( luxury %\ld be v da9ty4 ,ev]y?+ %\ld be ta/eful & appetiz+2 ! w9es %\ld be excell5t1 ! cl>et n too cool1 ! *ampagne frapp1 or almo/ s1 ! ,madeira & ! port ! temp]ature ( ! room1 & ! %]ry cool4 ,if pun* is s]v$1 x %\ld be at ! end ( ! supp]4 ,_m indulg5t ho/esses n[ all[ "y g5tlem5 to smoke a cig>ette at ! supp]-table1 aft] ! eat+ & dr9k+ is at an end1 r ?an break up ! delici\s fl[ ( conv]sation :i* at ! close ( a supp] seems to be at its be/4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 %\ld n be done unless e lady at ! table acquiesces1 z ! smell ( tobacco-smoke sometimes gives wom5 an unpleasant s5sation4 ,supp]s at balls & p>ties include n[ all sorts ( cold & hot di%es1 ev5 a haun* ( v5ison1 & a fillet ( beef1 ) truffles2 a cold salmon dress$ ) a gre5 sauce2 oy/]s 9 e =m except raw--!y are n s]v$ at balls2 salads ( e description2 bon$ & truffl$ turkey & *ick52 pts ( game2 cold p>tridges & gr\se2 pt de foie gras2 our ,am]ican specialty1 hot canvas-back duck2 & ! ,baltimore turtle1 t]rap91 oy/] & game patties2 bonbons1 ices1 biscuits1 creams1 jellies1 & fruits1 ) *ampagne1 & sometimes1 ( lat] ye>s1 cl>et & ,moselle cup1 & *ampagne-cup--bev]ages :i* 7 n until lately kn[n 9 ,am]ica1 except at g5tlem5's clubs & on bo>d ya*ts1 b :i* are v agreeable mixtures1 & ga9+ 9 favor4 ,e lady %\ld "k h[ to mix cup1 z x is conv5i5t bo? = supp] & lawn-t5nis p>ties1 & is pref]able 9 its effects to ! heavi] article s common at p>ties--pun*4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxvii4 ,,simple ,,d9n]s4 ,to a*ieve a p]fect little d9n] ) small means at comm& is said to be a great intellectual feat4 ,d9n] means s mu*--a ,fr5* cook1 sev]al accompli%$ s]vants1 a v well-/ock$ *9a closet1 plate *e/1 & l95 *e/1 & fl[]s1 w9es1 bonbons1 & s on4 ,b we h kn[n _m simple little d9n]s giv5 by "y c\ples ) small means :i* 7 f> m enjoyable ?an ! gold & silv] diamond d9n]s4 ,giv51 fir/1 a k ( h[ to d x2 a good cook 7n a cordon bleu72 a neat maid-s]vant 9 cap & apron--if ! lady c c>ve 7:i* all ladies %\ld "k h[ to d72 if ! g5tleman has a good bottle ( cl>et1 & ano!r ( *ampagne--or nei!r1 if he disapproves ( !m2 if ! h\se is neatly & quietly furni%$1 ) ! late magaz9es on ! table2 if ! welcome is cordial1 & !re is no noise1 no fussy pret5ce--^! little d9n]s are v enjoyable1 & e "o is anxi\s to be invit$ to !m4 ,b p are fright5$ (f f simple ent]ta9m5ts by ! spl5dor ( ! great luxuri\s d9n]s giv5 by ! v ri*4 ,x is a fooli% fe>4 ,! lady :o wi%es to give a simple b good d9n] has fir/ to consult :at is seasonable4 ,%e mu/ (f] ! d9n] ( ! season1 n seek = ^? /rawb]ries 9 ,febru>y :i* are always s\r1 nor pea*es 9 ,june1 nor pease at ,*ri/mas4 ,=c$ fruit is nev] good4 ,= an autumnal small d9n] "h is a v good m5u3 ,%]ry4_/,oy/]s on ! half-%ell4_/,*ablis1 ,s\pe la ,re9e4 ,blue-fi%1 broil$4_/,hock1 ,filet de ,boeuf aux ,*ampignons4_/,*ampagne ,or1 ,roa/ ,beef or ,mutton4_/,cl>et4 ,roa/ ,p>tridges4_/ ,burgundy1 or ,%]ry ,salad ( ,tomatoes4 ,*eese4_/,liqueurs ,( c\rse1 9 ^! days1 cl>et & *ampagne are consid]$ q en\gh = a small d9n]1 & "o ne$ n (f] ! o!r w9es4 ,or1 z ,mrs4 ,h5d]son says 9 h] admirable cook-book1 a v good d9n] maybe giv5 ) cl>et alone4 ,a table cl>et to add to ! wat] is almo/ ! only w9e drunk 9 ,france or ,italy at an e-day d9n]4 ,( c\rse no w9e at all is expect$ at ! tables ( ^? ^: pr9ciples =bid alcoholic bev]ages1 & :o nev]!less give excell5t d9n]s )\t !m4 ,a p]fectly fre% :ite damask table-clo?1 napk9s ( equally delicate fabric1 spotless glass & silv]1 pretty *9a1 p]haps "o high glass di% cr[n$ ) fruit & fl[]s--sometimes only ! fruit--*airs t are com=table1 a room n too w>m1 ! dess]t s]v$ 9 good ta/e1 b n ov]load$--?is is all "o ne$s4 ,! ess5tials ( a good d9n] are b few4 ,! in=mal d9n] invitations %\ld be writt5 by ! lady h]self 9 ! fir/ p]son4 ,%e may s5d = h] fri5ds only a few days be=e %e wants !m to come4 ,%e %\ld be ready five m9utes be=e h] gue/s arrive1 & 9 ! p>lor1 s]5e & cool1 mi/ress ( h]self1 ?\gh *9a fall4 ,%e %\ld see h]self t ! d9n]-table is prop]ly laid1 ! *ampagne & %]ry ?or\ghly cool$1 ! places m>k$ out1 &1 above all1 ! gue/s prop]ly seat$4 ,ay1 !re's ! rub4 ,to invite ! prop] p to meet ea* o!r1 to seat !m s t !y c h an agreeable conv]sation1 t is ! try+ & crucial te/4 ,little d9n]s are social2 little d9n]s are in=mal2 little d9n]s make p fri5ds4 ,& we d n mean little 9 reg>d to numb]s or to ! am\nt ( good food2 we mean simple d9n]s4 ,all ! good managem5t ( a "y ho/ess or an old "o _c prev5t accid5t1 h[ev]4 ,! cook may get drunk2 ! wait] may fall & break a doz5 ( ! be/ plates2 ! husb& may be kept d[n t[n late1 & be dress+ 9 ! v room :]e ! ladies are to take (f _! cloaks 7,am]ican h\ses are frightfully inconv5i5t 9 ?is respect74 ,all t ! ho/ess c d is to pres]ve an inv9cible calm1 & try n to c>e--at lea/ n to %[ t %e c>es4 ,b aft] a few attempts ! giv+ ( a simple d9n] becomes v easy1 & x is ! be/ complim5t to a /rang]4 ,a g5tleman travell+ to see ! cu/oms ( a c\ntry is mu* m pleas$ to be ask$ to a mode/ repa/ :]e he meets 8 ho/ess & h] family ?an to a /ate d9n] :]e he is ticket$ (f & made m]ely "o at a banquet4 ,!n ! limitations ( a d9n] c be consid]$4 ,x is n k9d to keep gue/s m ?an an h\r1 or two h\rs at ! mo/1 at table4 ,fr5* d9n]s r>ely exce$ an h\r4 ,engli% d9n]s are too long & too heavy1 al?\gh ! conv]sation is apt to be brilliant4 ,at a simple d9n] "o c make x %ort4 ,x is bett] to s]ve c(fee 9 ! draw+-room1 al?\gh if ! ho/ & ho/ess are agre$ on ?is po9t1 & ! ladies c /& smoke1 x is s]v$ at table1 & ! g5tlem5 light _! cig>ettes4 ,9 "s h\ses smok+ is =bidd5 9 ! d9+-room4 ,! practice ( ! ladies retir+ fir/ is an ,engli% "o1 & ! ,fr5* consid] x b>b>\s4 ,:e!r we are gr[+ m ,fr5* or n1 we seem to be beg9n+ to d away ) ! sep>ation aft] d9n]4 ,x is ! cu/om at in=mal d9n]s = ! lady to help ! s\p & = ! g5tleman to c>ve2 !re=e ! important di%es are put on ! table4 ,b ! s]vants :o wait %\ld be taught to h sidetables & sidebo>ds s well plac$ t any?+ c be remov$ imm$iately aft] x is f9i%$4 ,a scre5 is a v useful adjunct 9 a d9+-room4 ,ineffici5t s]vants h a disagreeable habit ( runn+ 9 & out ( ! d9+-room 9 se>* ( some?+ t %\ld h be5 9 read9ess2 !re=e ! lady ( ! h\se _h bett] see be=eh& t ,fr5* rolls are plac$ "u e napk91 & a silv] basket full ( !m ready 9 res]ve4 ,also l>ge slices ( fre% s(t bread %\ld be on ! side table1 z e "o does n l h>d bread1 & %\ld be (f]$ a *oice4 ,! p[d]$ sug>1 ! butt]1 ! ca/]1 ! olives1 ! reli%es1 %\ld all be ?\ght ( & plac$ :]e ea* c be readily f\nd4 ,s]vants %\ld be taught to be noiseless1 & to avoid a hurri$ mann]4 ,9 plac+ any?+ on or tak+ any?+ (f a table a s]vant %\ld nev] rea* across a p]son seat$ at table = t purpose4 ,h[ev] hurri$ ! s]vant may be1 or h[ev] ne> at h& ! article1 %e %\ld be taught to walk quietly to ! left h& ( ea* gue/ to remove ?+s1 :ile %e %\ld pass ev]y?+ 9 ! same mann]1 giv+ ! gue/ ! option ( us+ 8 "r h& ) :i* to help himself4 ,s]vants %\ld h a silv] or plat$ knife-tray to remove ! gravy-spoon & c>v+ knife & =k be=e remov+ ! platt]4 ,all ! silv] %\ld be ?us remov$2 x makes a table mu* neat]4 ,s]vants %\ld be taught to put a plate & spoon & =k at e place be=e ea* c\rse4 ,aft] ! meats & be=e ! pie1 pudd+1 or ices1 ! table %\ld be c>efully cle>$ ( ev]y?+ b fruit & fl[]s--all plates1 glasses1 c>afes1 salt-cell>s1 knives & =ks1 & :atev] p]ta9s to ! d9n] %\ld be remov$1 & ! table- clo? well cle>$ ) bru% or crumb-scrap] on a silv] wait]1 & !n ! plates1 glasses1 spoons1 & =ks laid at ea* plate = ! dess]t4 ,if ?is is done e day1 x adds to a common d9n]1 & tra9s ! waitress to h] "w4 ,! d9n]1 ! di%es1 & ! plates %\ld all be hot4 ,! ord9>y plate-w>m] is n[ sup]s$$ by some?+ f> bett]1 9 :i* a hot brick is introduc$4 ,! mo/ re*]* d9n] is spoil$ if hot mutton is put on a cold plate4 ,! silv] di%es %\ld be heat$ by hot wat] 9 ! kit*51 ! hot d9n] plates mu/ be =?com+ f ! plate-w>m]1 nor mu/ ! roa/s or entres be all[$ to cool on _! way f ! kit*5 to ! d9+-room4 ,a s]vant %\ld h a ?umb napk9 ) :i* to h& ! hot di%es1 & a clean t[el beh9d ! scre5 ) :i* to wipe ! platt]s :i* h be5 s5t up on ! dumb-wait]4 ,on ^! trifles dep5d ! excell5ce ( ! simple d9n]4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxviii4 ,,! ,,small-,,talk ,,( ,,society4 ,"o ( ! clev]e/ que/ions ask$ lately is1 ,:at %all ,i talk ab\t at a d9n]-p>ty8 ,n[ if !re is a woman 9 ! _w :o does n "k :at to talk ab\t1 is x n a v difficult ?+ to tell h]8 ,"o c almo/ z well answ] su* a "q z1 ,:at %all ,i see out ( my eyes8 ,yet our "y lady is n ! fir/ p]son :o has dilat$ ( late ye>s ^u ! decay ( conv]sation1 nor ! only "o :o has sometimes felt ! heav9ess ( sil5ce desc5d ^u h] at a mod]n d9n]4 ,no d\bt ?is same great & unansw]able "q has be5 ask$ by _m a travell] :o1 = ! fir/ "t1 has sat next an ,engli%man ( good family 7p]haps ev5 ) a h&le to 8 "n71 :o has answ]$ all rem>ks by ! prov]bial b unsympa!tic ,oh6 ,inde$1 x is to be fe>$ t x is a fa%ion = "y m5 n[adays to appe> li/less1 to conceal :at ideas !y may happ5 to h1 to try to appe> /upid1 if !y are n s1 ?r[+ all ! burd5 ( ! conv]sation on ! lively1 vivaci\s1 good- humor$ girl1 or ! m accompli%$ m>ri$ woman1 :o may be ! next neighbor4 ,wom5's wits are prov]bially quick1 !y talk readily1 !y read & ?9k m ?an ! av]age "y man ( fa%ion is prone to d2 ! result is a quick & a ready tongue4 ,yet ! art ( keep+ up a fl[ ( agreeable & incessant small- talk1 n too heavy1 n pret5ti\s or egoti/ical1 n sc&al\s1 & n commonplace1 is an art t is r>e1 & h>dly to be priz$ too highly4 ,x has be5 well said t !re is a great diff]5ce betwe5 a brilliant conv]sationali/ & a ready small-talk]4 ,! =m] is apt to be fe>$1 & to produce a sil5ce ar\nd him4 ,we all rememb] ,macaulay & 8 brilliant fla%es ( sil5ce4 ,we all "k t !re are talk]s s di/+ui%$ t y mu/ n ask bo? ( !m to d9n] on ! same day le/ !y sil5ce ea* o!r1 :ile we "k o!rs :o br+ to u j an av]age am\nt ( tact1 facility ( expression1 g5iality1 & a pleasant gift at a quotation1 a bit ( rep>tee2 su* a p]son we call a ready small- talk]1 a mo/ agreeable p]son1 "o :o fright5s nobody & :o has a great popul>ity4 ,su* a "o has pl5ty ( small *ange1 v useful1 & m easy to h&le ?an ! v l>ge *eek ( ! conv]sationali/1 :o is a millionaire z to 8 memory1 le>n+1 & p[] ( rhetoric1 b :o _c & w n indulge 9 small- talk4 ,we respect ! "o2 we l ! o!r4 ,! fir/ po9t to be consid]$1 if "o has no inspiration 9 reg>d to small-talk1 w\ld seem to be ?is2 try to consid] :at subject w\ld mo/ int]e/ ! p]son next to y4 ,!re are p :o h no o!r tal5t1 :om we nev] call clev]1 b :o d possess ?is in/9ct1 & :o c talk mo/ sympa!tically1 :ile kn[+ sc>cely any?+ ab\t ! individual address$4 ,!re are o!rs :o are defici5t 9 ?is gift1 :o c only say ,really & ,inde$4 ,^! ,really & ,inde$ & ,oh p are ! despair ( ! d9n]-giv]4 ,! gay1 *atty1 light-he>t$ p :o c glide into a conv]sation easily1 are ! be/ ( d9n]-table companions1 ev5 if !y d sometimes talk too mu* ab\t ! wea!r & su* commonplaces4 ,x is a good plan = a %y "y p]son1 :o has no confid5ce 9 h] own p[]s ( conv]sation1 to =tify h]self ) sev]al topics ( g5]al int]e/1 su* z ! la/ new novel1 ! la/ op]a1 ! be/ & newe/ gall]y ( pictures1 or ! fl[] 9 fa%ion2 & to inv5t a =mula1 if words are want+ 9 h] organization1 z to h[ ^! subjects %\ld be introduc$ & h&l$4 ,_m ideas w occur to h]1 & %e c sil5tly arrange !m4 ,!n %e may keep ^! z a res]ve =ce1 us+ !m only :5 ! conv]sation drops1 or %e is unexpect$ly br\ght to ! necessity ( keep+ up ! ball alone4 ,"s p use ?is p[] r unfairly1 lead+ ! conv]sation up to ! po9t :]e !y wi% to ent]2 b ^! are n ! p :o ne$ help--!y c take c>e ( !mselves4 ,aft] talk+ a:ile 9 a p]functory mann]1 _m a %y "y p]son has be5 a/oni%$ by a sudd5 ru% ( brilliant ideas1 & f9ds h]self talk+ naturally & well )\t ef=t4 ,x is l ! laun*+ ( a %ip2 c]ta9 blocks ( %yness & habits ( m5tal res]ve are knock$ away1 & ! brave frigate ,small-,talk takes ! wat] l a ?+ ( life4 ,x dem&s mu* tact & clev]ness to t\* ^u ! ord9>y ev5ts ( ! day at a mix$ d9n]1 because1 9 ! fir/ place1 no?+ %\ld be said :i* c hurt any "o's feel+s1 politics1 religion1 & ! /ock m>ket be+ g5]ally rul$ out2 nor %\ld "o talk ab\t t :i* ev]ybody kn[s1 = su* small-talk is imp]t95t & irritat+4 ,no "o wi%es to be told t :i* he already und]/&s bett]1 p]haps1 ?an we d4 ,nor are matt]s ( too private a nature1 su* z "o's heal?1 or "o's s]vants1 or "o's disappo9tm5ts1 /ill less "o's good de$s1 to be talk$ ab\t4 ,commonplace p also sometimes try society v mu* by _! own inane & :olly useless criticisms4 ,suppos+ we take up music1 x is f> m agreeable to he> a p]son say1 ,h[ d y l ,nilsson8 ?an to he> him say1 ,i l ,nilsson1 & ,i h ^! reasons = lik+ h]4 ,let t come aft]w>ds4 ,:5 a p]son really qualifi$ to discuss arti/s1 or lit]>y p1 or arti/ic po9ts1 talks s5sibly & 9 a *atty1 easy way ab\t !m1 x is ! p]fection ( conv]sation2 b :5 "o :olly & utt]ly incompet5t to d s lays d[n ! law on su* subjects he or %e becomes a bore4 ,b if ! "y p]son :o does n "k h[ to talk treats ^! que/ions int]rogatively1 t5 *ances to "o1 unless %e is seat$ next an imbecile1 %e w get "s v good & light small-talk out ( h] next neighbor4 ,%e may give a mode/ p]sonal op9ion1 or n>rate h] own s5sations at ! op]a1 if %e c d s )\t egotism1 & %e %\ld always %[ a desire to be answ]$4 ,if music & lit]ature fail1 let h] try ! subjects ( danc+1 polo-play+1 & lawn-t5nis4 ,a v good /ory 0 told ( a bright ,new ,york girl & a v haw-haw-/upid ,engli%man at a ,newport d9n]4 ,! ,engli%man _h said ,oh1 & ,really1 & ,q s1 to ev]y?+ :i* ?is bright girl _h ask$ him1 :5 f9ally1 v tir$ & v angry1 %e said1 ,7 y ev] ?r[n 9 ! hunt+-field1 & 0 y\r head hurt8 ,! man turn$ & gaz$ admir+ly4 ,n[ y've got me1 0 ! reply4 ,& he talk$ all ! re/ ( ! d9n] ( 8 cropp]s4 ,p]haps x may n be necess>y or useful (t5 to unlock s ri* a rp]toire z ?is2 b x 0 a v welcome relief to ?is "y lady n to d all ! talk+ dur+ ?ree h\rs4 ,aft] a fir/ introduction !re is1 no d\bt1 "s difficulty 9 />t+ a conv]sation4 ,! wea!r1 ! newspap]1 ! la/ accid5t1 ! little dog1 ! bric- -brac1 ! love ( horses1 etc41 are good & unfail+ res\rces1 except t v few p h ! read9ess to rememb] ?is weal? ( subjects at once4 ,to recollect a ?+ apropos ( ! mom5t is ! gift ( ready-witt$ p alone1 & h[ _m rememb]1 h\rs aft]1 a circum/ance :i* w\ld h told at t p>ticul> mom5t ( emb>rassm5t :5 "o /ood twiddl+ 8 hat1 & ano!r twi/$ h] h&k]*ief4 ,! ,fr5* call l'esprit d'escali]--! wit ( ! /aircase--! gift ( rememb]+ ! good ?+ y might h said 9 ! draw+-room1 j too late1 z y g up-/airs4 ,h[ev]1 two new p g5]ally ov]come ?is mom5t ( emb>rassm5t1 & !n "s simple (f] ( s]vice1 su* z1 ,c ,i get y a *air8 ,is t w9d[ too cold8 ,c ,i br+ y "s tea8 occurs1 & !n ! small-talk foll[s4 ,! only curi\s "p ( ?is subject is t s little skill is %[n by ! av]age talk] 9 weav+ facts & incid5ts into 8 treatm5t ( subjects ( ev]yday "*1 & t he br+s s little intellig5ce to be> on 8 discussion ( !m4 ,x is n giv5 to e "o to be brilliant & amus+1 b1 ) a little ?\ght1 pass+ ev5ts may always give rise to pleasant conv]sation4 ,we h lately be5 visit$ by a succession ( brilliant sunsets1 conc]n+ :i* !re h be5 v>i\s !ories4 ,?is has be5 a *>m+ subject = conv]sation1 yet at ! av]age d9n] we h he>d b few p]sons m5tion ?is int]e/+ topic4 ,p]haps "o is afraid to />t a conv]sation ^u cele/ial sc5]y at a mod]n d9n]4 ,! ?+s may seem too remote1 yet x w\ld n be a bad idea4 ,gossip may promote small-talk among ^? :o are v intimate & :o live 9 a n>r[ circle4 ,b h[ pr(\ndly un9t]e/+ is x to an outsid]6--h[ useless to ! real man or woman ( ! _w6 ,t is1 unless x is lit]>y1 musical1 arti/ic gossip4 ,sc&al ru9s conv]sation1 & %\ld nev] be includ$ ev5 9 a def9ition ( small-talk4 ,polite1 humor\s1 vivaci\s1 speculative1 dry1 s>ca/ic1 epigrammatic1 intellectual1 & practical p all meet ar\nd a d9n]-table1 & mu* agreeable small-talk %\ld be ! result4 ,x is un=tunately true t !re is sometimes a failure 9 ?is respect4 ,let a ho/ess rememb] "o ?+3 !re is no *ance = vivacity ( intellect if h] room is too w>m2 h] fl[]s & h] gue/s w wilt toge!r4 ,!re are ^? also :o pref] h] good di%es to talk+1 & ! old g5tleman 9 ,pun* :o rebuk$ 8 lively neighbor = talk+ :ile !re 7 su* entres com+ 9 has 8 c\nt]p>ts among ourselves4 ,"s %y talk]s h a sort ( empirical way ( />t+ a subject ) a "q l ?is3 ,d y "k ! mean+ & d]ivation ( ! t]m 'bric- -brac8' ,d y believe 9 gho/s8 ,:at d y ?9k ( a ladies' club8 ,d y believe 9 *ance8 ,is !re m tal5t display$ 9 le>n+ ! viol9 ?an 9 play+ a fir/-rate game ( *ess8 etc4 ,^! are intellectual conundrums1 & may be repeat$ indef9itely :]e ! p]son que/ion$ is dispos$ to answ]4 ,) a fl[ ( good spirits & ! feel+ ( case :i* comes f a k ( society1 su* que/ions (t5 br+ out :at ,m>g>et ,full] call$ good talk4 ,b if y\r neighbor says ,oh1 ,really1 ,inde$1 ,i don't "k1 !n ! be/ way is to be purely practical1 & talk ( ! *airs & tables1 & ! exi/+ ord] ( ?+s1 ! l5g? ( tra9s1 or ! %ortness ( ! dresses ( ! "y ladies at ! la/ ball1 ! prevail+ idea t ice-wat] is unheal?y1 & o!r su* extremely easy ideas4 ,! s\nd ( "o's own voice is g5]ally v sweet 9 "o's own e>s2 let e lady try to cultivate a pleasant voice = ^? ( o!r p1 & also an agreeable & accurate pronunciation4 ,! v]ie/ no?+s s\nd well :5 ?us spok54 ,! be/ way to le>n h[ to talk is1 ( c\rse1 to le>n h[ to ?9k3 f full wells "o br+s up buckets full ( cle> wat]1 b !re c be small-talk )\t mu* ?\ght4 ,! fact rema9s t brilliant ?9k]s & s*ol>s are n always good talk]s1 & !re is no h>m 9 ! cultivation ( ! art ( conv]sation1 no h>m 9 a little cramm+1 if a p]son is afraid t language is n 8 /rong po9t4 ,! m]e/ trifle g5]ally suffices to />t ! fl[ ( small-talk1 & ! p]son :o c use ?is agreeable weapon ( society is always popul> & v mu* c\rt$4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxix4 ,,g>d5-,,p>ties4 ,_m ( our correspond5ts ask u1 ,:at %all we ord] = a g>d5-p>ty8 ,we mu/ answ] t ! fir/ ?+ to ord] is a f9e day4 ,9 ^! =tunate days ! morn+ revelations ( ,old ,probabilities give u an almo/ exact k ( :at ( ra9 or sun%9e ! future has 9 /ore4 ,a ra9 or tornado :i* />ts f ,alaska1 :]e ! wea!r is made n[adays1 w almo/ c]ta9ly be "h on ! ?ird day2 s ! ho/ess :o is will+ to s5d a ha/y bidd+ c p]haps avoid ra94 ,x is ! cu/om1 h[ev]1 to s5d invitations = ^! g>d5-p>ties a =tnight be=e !y are to occur4 ,at ,newport !y are arrang$ weeks be=eh&1 & if ! wea!r is bad ! ent]ta9m5t takes place 9-doors4 ,:5 invitations are giv5 to a suburban place to :i* p are expect$ to g by rail or any public means ( conveyance1 a c>d %\ld also be s5t /at+ ! h\rs at :i* tra9s leave1 :i* tra9 or boat to take1 & any o!r in=mation t may add to ! com=t ( ! gue/4 ,^! invitations are engrav$1 & pr9t$ on note-pap]1 :i* %\ld be p]fectly pla91 or be> ! family cre/ 9 wat]-m>k only1 & read some:at z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,edw9 ,smi? reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,conway ,br[n's company on ,tuesday1 ! ?irtie? ( ,july1 at f\r o'clock4 ,g>d5 ,p>ty4 ,yonk]s1 ,new ,york4 ,!n1 on ! c>d enclos$1 might be pr9t$1 ,c>riages w meet ! #c4cj tra9 f ,gr& ,c5tral ,depot4 ,if ! invitation is to a c\ntry place n easy ( access1 /ill m explicit directions %\ld be giv54 ,! g>d5-p>ty prop] is always held entirely 9 ! op5 air4 ,9 ,engl& ! refre%m5ts are s]v$ "u a m>quee 9 ! gr\nds1 & 9 t inclem5t clime no "o seems to ?9k x a h>d%ip if a %[] ( ra9 comes d[n1 & ru9s f9e silks & beautiful bonnets4 ,b 9 our f9e sun%9y l& we are v mu* afraid ( ra91 & our mal>i\s soil is n consid]$ always safe1 s t ! ?\ghtful ho/ess (t5 has h] table 9-doors1 piazzas fill$ ) *airs1 ,turkey rugs laid d[n on ! grass1 & e prep>ation made t ! eld]ly & timid & rheumatic may enjoy ! g>d5-p>ty )\t endang]+ _! heal?4 ,a ho/ess %\ld see t h] lawn-t5nis gr\nd is 9 ord]1 ! croquet laid out1 & ! ar*]y tools all 9 place1 s t h] gue/s may amuse !mselves ) ^! diff]5t games4 ,sometimes balls & races are add$ to ^! amusem5ts1 & (t5 a plat=m is laid = danc+1 if ! turf be n suffici5tly dry4 ,a b& ( musicians is ess5tial to a v elegant & successful g>d5- p>ty1 & a v>i$ selection ( music1 grave & gay1 %\ld be r5d]$4 ,al?\gh at a d9n]-p>ty !re is reason to fe> t an or*e/ra may be a nuisance1 at a g>d5-p>ty ! op5 air & space are suffici5t gu>antees aga9/ ?is dang]4 ,if ! ho/ess wi%es h] ent]ta9m5t to be s]v$ out-(-doors1 ( c\rse all ! di%es mu/ be cold4 ,salads1 cold birds1 & ham1 tongue1 & pt de foie gras1 cold pts1 & salmon dress$ ) a gre5 sauce1 jellies1 ,*>lottes1 ices1 cakes1 pun*1 & *ampagne1 are ! prop] ?+s to (f]4 ,a cup ( hot tea %\ld be always ready 9 ! h\se = ^? :o desire x4 ,at a g>d5-p>ty prop] ! ho/ess receives out on ! lawn1 we>+ h] hat or bonnet1 & takes x = grant$ t ! p>ty w be entirely out-(-doors4 ,! c>riages1 h[ev]1 drive up to ! door1 & ! ladies c g up-/airs & deposit _! wraps & bru% (f ! du/1 if !y wi%4 ,a s]vant %\ld be 9 att5dance to %[ ! gue/s to t "p ( ! gr\nds 9 :i* ! lady is receiv+4 ,at ,newport ^! p>ties are g5]ally conduct$ on ! pr9ciple ( an aft]noon tea1 & aft] ! mi/ress ( ! h\se has receiv$ h] gue/s1 !y w&] ?r\gh ! gr\nds1 &1 :5 we>y1 return to ! h\se = refre%m5t4 ,pt de foie gras1 s&wi*es1 cold birds1 plates ( delici\s jelli$ tongue1 lob/] salad1 & sometimes hot cakes & hot broil$ *ick51 are s]v$ at ^! high teas4 ,c(fee & tea & w9e are also (f]$1 b ^! are at mix$ ent]ta9m5ts :i* h gr[n out ( ! some:at unusual h\rs obs]v$ at ,newport 9 ! season4 ,!re is a sort ( public g>d5-p>ty 9 ?is c\ntry :i* prevails on semi-(ficial occasions1 su* z ! lay+ ( a f\ndation-/one = a public build+1 ! bir?day ( a prom95t individual1 a ,sunday-s*ool fe/ival1 or an ent]ta9m5t giv5 to a public function>y4 ,^! are banquets1 & = !m ! invitations are some:at g5]al1 & %\ld be (ficially issu$4 ,= ! private g>d5-p>ty x is prop] = a lady to ask = an invitation = a fri5d1 z !re is always pl5ty ( room2 b x %\ld also be obs]v$ t :]e ?is reque/ is n answ]$ affirmatively1 (f5ce %\ld n be tak54 ,x is sometimes v difficult = a lady to und]/& :y h] reque/ = an invitation to h] fri5d is refus$2 b %e %\ld nev] take ! refusal z a disc\rtesy to h]self4 ,!re may be reasons :i* _c be expla9$4 ,ladies always we> bonnets at a g>d5-p>ty1 & ! s5sible fa%ion ( %ort dresses has hi!rto prevail$2 b x is rumor$ t a rec5t edict ( ! ,pr9cess ( ,wales aga9/ %ort dresses at h] g>d5-p>ties w f9d foll[]s on ?is side ( ! wat]1 notably at ,newport1 :i* out-,h]ods ,h]od 9 its respect to ,engli% fa%ions4 ,inde$1 a long dress is v pretty on ! grass & "u ! trees4 ,at ,buck+ham ,palace a g>d5-p>ty giv5 to ! ,vic]oy ( ,egypt sev]al ye>s ago pres5t$ a v ,watteau-l picture4 ,wor?'s h&some/ dresses 7 freely display$1 & ! lovely gr\nds & old trees at ! back ( ! palace 7 9 f9e full dress = ! occasion4 ,9 fact1 ,engl& is ! l& = g>d5-p>ties1 ) its turf ( velvet s(tness1 its fl[+ lime-trees1 its spl5did old oaks1 & its f9i%$ l&scape g>d5+4 ,!re are b few places z yet 9 ,am]ica :i* af=d ! clipp$-box av5ues1 ! arcades ( blossom+ rose-v9es1 ! plea*$ alleys1 ! f9ely kept & p]fect gravel-walks1 or1 ,bett] ?an all1 ! quiet1 old-fa%ion$ g>d5s1 d[n :i* ! ladies may walk1 rivals ( ! fl[]s4 ,b !re are "s su* places2 & a gre5 lawn1 a few trees1 a good prospect1 a f9e day1 & some?+ to eat1 are really all ! absolute requirem5ts = a g>d5-p>ty4 ,9 ! neighborhood ( ,new ,york v *>m+ g>d5-p>ties h be5 giv53 at ! ,brooklyn ,navy-y>d & ! camp ( ! soldi]1 at ! head-qu>t]s ( ! (fic]s ( m>9es1 & at ! ev]-lovely ,gov]nor's ,isl&4 ,up ! ,hudson1 out at ,orange 7) its multitud9\s pretty settlem5ts71 all along ! coa/ ( ,long ,isl&1 ! g>d5-p>ty is almo/ imp]atively necess>y4 ,! own] ( a f9e place is expect$ to all[ ! un=tunates :o mu/ /ay 9 t[n at lea/ "o sniff ( 8 roses & new-m[n hay4 ,lawn-t5nis has _h a great %>e 9 mak+ ! g>d5-p>ty popul>2 & 9 remote c\ntry places ladies %\ld le>n h[ to give ^! p>ties1 &1 ) v little tr\ble1 make ! mo/ ( our f9e climate4 ,!re is no d\bt t a little awkw>dness is to be ov]come 9 ! beg9n+1 = no "o kn[s exactly :at to d4 ,depriv$ ( ! fri5dly %elt] ( a h\se1 gue/s w&] =lornly ab\t2 b a graceful & ready ho/ess w soon sugge/ t a croquet or lawn-t5nis p>ty be =m$1 or t a conte/ at ar*]y be ent]$ ^u1 or t ev5 a c>d-p>ty is 9 ord]1 or t a game ( *eck]s c be play$ "u ! trees4 ,s]vants %\ld be taught to pres]ve ! proprieties ( ! fea/1 if ! meal be s]v$ "u ! trees4 ,!re %\ld be no piles ( di%es1 knives1 =ks1 or spoons1 visible on ! gre5 grass2 baskets %\ld be 9 read9ess to c>ry (f ev]y?+ z soon z us$4 ,!re %\ld be a suffici5t quantity ( glass & *9a 9 use1 & pl5ty ( napk9s1 s t !re ne$ be no delay4 ,! lemonade & pun* b[ls %\ld be repl5i%$ f ! d9+-room z soon z !y %[ signs ( depletion1 & a set ( neat maid- s]vants c be advantage\sly employ$ 9 wat*+ ! table1 & see+ t ! cups1 spoons1 plates1 w9e-glasses1 & =ks are 9 suffici5t quantity & clean4 ,if tea is s]v$1 maid-s]vants are bett] ?an m51 z !y are c>eful t ! tea is hot1 & ! spoons1 cream1 & sug> =?com+4 ,fruit is an agreeable addition to a g>d5-p>ty ent]ta9m5t1 & p9es1 melons1 pea*es1 grapes1 /rawb]ries1 are all s]v$ 9 _! season4 ,pa9s %\ld be tak5 to h ^! fruits ( ! v be/ t c be obta9$4 ,cl>et-cup1 *ampagne-cup1 & soda-wat]1 br&y & %&y-gaff1 are provid$ on a sep>ate table = ! g5tlem52 ,apoll9>is wat]1 & ! v>i\s a]at$ wat]s s fa%ionable n[1 are also provid$4 ,al?\gh g5tlem5 help !mselves1 x is necess>y to h a s]vant 9 att5dance to remove ! w9e-glasses1 tumbl]s1 & goblets z !y are us$1 & to repl5i% ! decant]s & pit*]s z !y are empti$1 & to supply fre% glasses4 ,_m hospitable ho/s (f] _! gue/s old ,madeira1 %]ry1 & port4 ,! decant]s are plac$ on ! regul> lun*eon-table1 & glasses ( w9e are c>ri$ by s]vants1 on silv] trays1 to ! ladies :o are sitt+ on ! piazzas & "u ! trees4 ,small ?9 tumbl]s are us$ = ! cl>et & *ampagne cup1 :i* %\ld be held 9 silv] or glass pit*]s4 ,if /rawb]ries & cream are s]v$1 a small napk9 %\ld be put betwe5 ! sauc] & plate1 & a dess]t spoon & =k h&$ ) ea* plate4 ,! s]vants :o c>ry ab\t refre%m5ts f ! t5t or ! table :]e !y are s]v$ %\ld be w>n$ to be v c>eful 9 ?is "p ( ! s]vice1 z _m a f9e g[n has be5 spoil$1 by a di% ( /rawb]ries & cream or a glass ( pun* or lemonade be+ ov]turn$1 ?r\gh a s]vant's want ( c>e4 ,ices are n[ s]v$ at g>d5-p>ties 9 small pap] cups plac$ on ice-plates--a fa%ion :i* is v neat1 & :i* saves mu* ( ! muss9ess :i* has h]et(ore be5 a feature ( ^! ent]ta9m5ts4 ,numb]s ( small tables %\ld be br\ght ) ! camp-/ools1 & plac$ at conv5i5t int]vals1 :]e ! gue/s c deposit _! plates4 ,a lady %\ld n use h] h&some glass or *9a at ^! al fresco ent]ta9m5ts4 ,x is sure to be brok54 ,x is bett] to hire all ! necess>y glass1 silv]1 & *9a f ! cat]]1 z x saves a _w ( c\nt+ & tr\ble4 ,no d\bt ! g>d5-p>ty is a tr\blesome affair1 p>ticul>ly if ! refre%m5ts are out-(-doors1 b x is v beautiful & v amus+1 & wor? all ! tr\ble4 ,x is j z pleasant1 h[ev]1 if ! table is 9-doors4 ,,*apt] ,,xl4 ,,silv] ,,w$d+s ,,& ,,o!r ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>ies4 ,a v s5sible re=m is n[ be+ attempt$ 9 ! matt] ( silv] w$d+s4 ,x 0 once a dem& on ! purse ( at lea/ fifty doll>s to receive an invitation to a silv] w$d+1 because e "o 0 expect$ to s5d a piece ( silv]4 ,"s v ri* h\ses 9 ,new ,york are /ock$ ) silv] ) ! elaborate inscription1 ,silv] ,w$d+4 ,to ! c>ds ( to-day is app5d$1 ,no pres5ts receiv$1 :i* is a relief to ! impecuni\s4 ,^! c>ds are on pla9 :ite or silv]-gray pap]1 engrav$ 9 silv] lett]s1 ) ! "n ( ! lady z %e 0 kn[n be=e m>riage app5d$ bel[ t ( h] husb&2 ! date ( ! m>riage is also add$ bel[ ! names4 ,! ent]ta9m5t = a silv] w$d+1 to be p]fect1 %\ld occur at exactly ! h\r at :i* ! m>riage took place2 b z t has be5 f\nd to be inconv5i5t1 ! m>riage h\r is ignor$1 & ! p>ty takes place 9 ! ev5+ g5]ally1 & ) all ! *>act]i/ics ( a mod]n p>ty4 ,! bridal pair /& toge!r1 ( c\rse1 to receive1 & z _m ( ! orig9al p>ty ( ! groomsm5 & bridesmaids z c be got toge!r %\ld be induc$ to =m a "p ( ! gr\p4 ,!re c be no objection to ! s5d+ ( fl[]s1 & p>ticul> fri5ds :o wi% c1 ( c\rse1 s5d o!r gifts1 b !re %\ld be no obligation4 ,we may say "h t ! cu/om ( giv+ bridal gifts has become an outrage\s abuse ( a good idea4 ,f be+ a pretty cu/om :i* _h its basis 9 ! excell5t sy/em ( our ,dut* ance/ors1 :o comb9$ to help ! "y c\ple by pres5ts ( b$ & table l95 & necess>y table furniture & silv]1 x has n[ sometimes deg5]at$ into a =m ( o/5tation1 & is a great tax on ! fri5ds ( ! bride4 ,p 9 c]ta9 relations to ! family are ev5 expect$ to s5d c]ta9 gifts4 ,x has be5 kn[n to be ! case t ! bride all[$ "s (fici\s fri5d to sugge/ t %e %\ld h silv]1 or pe>ls1 or diamonds2 & a ri* old ba*elor uncle is sure to be told :at is expect$ f him4 ,b :5 a c\ple h rea*$ _! silv] w$d+1 & are able & will+ to celebrate x1 x may be suppos$ t !y are beyond ! necessity ( appeal+ to ! g5]osity ( _! fri5ds2 !re=e x is a good cu/om to h ?is phrase add$ to ! silv]-w$d+ invitation1 ,no pres5ts receiv$4 ,! "q has be5 ask$ if ! c]emony %\ld be p]=m$ ov] aga94 ,we %\ld say decid$ly n1 = great dang] has accru$ to ?\ghtless p]sons 9 ?us tamp]+ ) ! w$d+ c]emony4 ,any "o :o has read ,mrs4 ,oliphant's beautiful /ory ( ,madonna ,m>y w be /ruck at once ) ?is dang]4 ,x is n safe1 ev5 9 ! mo/ playful mann]1 to imitate t legal =m on :i* all society1 prop]ty1 legitimacy1 & ! safety ( home hang4 ,n[ z to ! dress ( ! bride ( tw5ty-five ye>s1 we %\ld say1 ,any color b black4 ,!re is an old sup]/ition aga9/ connect+ black ) w$d+s4 ,a silv] gray1 trimm$ ) /eel & lace1 has lately be5 us$ ) mu* success z a second bridal dress4 ,/ill less %\ld ! dress be :ite2 t has become s canoniz$ z ! w$d+ dress ( a virg9 bride t x is n ev5 prop] = a wid[ to we> x on h] second m>riage4 ,! %ades ( rose-color1 crimson1 or ^? beautiful mod]n comb9ations ( velvet & brocade :i* suit s _m matronly wom51 are all appropriate silv]-w$d+ dresses4 ,ladies %\ld n we> jewelry 9 ! morn+1 p>ticul>ly at _! own h\ses2 s if ! w$d+ is celebrat$ 9 ! morn+1 ! ho/ess %\ld take c>e n to be too spl5did4 ,ev5+ w$d+s are1 9 ^! anniv]s>ies1 f> m agreeable1 & c be celebrat$ ) m elaborate dress+4 ,x is n[ s mu* ! fa%ion to we> l[-neck$ dresses 7sleeveless dresses 7 worn by bridesmaids at an ev5+ w$d+ rec5tly7 t ! bride ( tw5ty-five ye>s c appe>1 if %e *ooses1 9 a l[-cut %ort- sleev$ d9n] dress & diamonds 9 ! ev5+4 ,z = ! groom1 he %\ld be 9 full ev5+ dress1 immaculate :ite tie1 & pe>l- color$ kid gloves4 ,he plays1 z he does at ! w$d+1 b a second>y "p4 ,inde$1 x has be5 jocosely said t he sometimes poses z a victim4 ,9 savage communities & among ! birds x is ! male :o we>s ! f9e clo!s2 9 ,*ri/ian society x is ! male :o dresses 9 black1 putt+ ! f9e fea!rs on 8 wife4 ,x is to h] t all ! honors are paid1 he play+ = ! "t b a second>y "p4 ,9 savage communities %e w\ld dig ! e>?1 wait ^u h] "l1 & /& beh9d him :ile he eats2 9 ! mod]n silv] w$d+ he helps h] to fri$ oy/]s & *ampagne1 & /&s :ile %e sits4 ,n[ z to :o %all be invit$4 ,a correspond5t writes ask+ if a silv] w$d+ celebrat$ 9 a new home w\ld n be a good opportunity = mak+ ! fir/ onset ( hospitality1 invit+ ^? neighbors :o 7 n kn[n be=e1 or at lea/ :o 7 n visit+ acqua9tances4 ,we %\ld ?9k x a v happy idea4 ,x is a complim5t to ask "o's fri5ds & neighbors to any c]emony or anniv]s>y 9 :i* our own deep feel+s are conc]n$1 su* z a *ri/5+1 a *ild's w$d+1 & ! celebration ( a bir?day4 ,:y n /ill m :5 a m>ri$ pair h wea!r$ ! /orms ( tw5ty-five ye>s8 ,p fully aw>e ( _! own respectability %\ld nev] be afraid to b[ fir/1 speak fir/1 or call fir/4 ,c\rtesy is ! mo/ cosmopolitan ( good qualities1 & polit5ess is "o ( ! sev5 capital virtues4 ,no p giv+ su* an invitation ne$ be hurt if x is receiv$ coldly4 ,!y only ?us f9d out :i* ( _! new neighbors are ! mo/ wor? cultivat+4 ,?is sort ( c\rtesy is z f> z possible f ! dreadful ^w pu%+4 ,z dress 0 made to dignify ! human body1 s a g5]\s c\rtesy clo!s ! m9d4 ,let no "o be afraid ( drap+ ! _s ) ?is purple & gold4 ,& 9 all fre% neighborhoods ! new-com]s %\ld try to cultivate society4 ,!re is some?+ 9 its attrition :i* /imulates ! m9d4 ,society bright5s up ! wits1 & causes ! dulle/ m9d to br+ its treasures to ! surface4 ,! w$d+ anniv]s>ies seem to beg9 ) ! fif? "o--! wood5 w$d+4 ,"h unique & appropriate pres5ts seem to be v *eap4 ,c$> tubs & b[ls & pails1 wood5 baskets fill$ ) fl[]s1 ,%ak] rock+-*airs & seats = ! v]&a1 c>v$ tables1 cab9ets ( oak1 wall brackets1 pa9t+s on wood1 wat]- colors fram$ 9 wood-c>v+s 9 bog oak1 & ev5 a load ( k9dl+ wood1 h be5 acceptably (f]$4 ,! bride c dress z gayly z %e pleases at ?is e>ly anniv]s>y4 ,!n comes ! t9 w$d+1 :i* n[ is v mu* welcom$ = ! pretty t9 c&le/icks t x br+s1 fre% f ,london furni%]s4 ,we he> ( gorge\s silv] w$d+s 9 ,cali=nia1 t l& ( gold & silv]1 :]e ! display ( toilettes ea* repres5t$ a l>ge =tune4 ,b1 aft] all1 ! s5tim5t is ! ?+1 ,z :51 amid ! rites div9e1 ,i took ?y tro?1 & plight$ m9e ,to !e1 sweet wife1 my second r+ ,a tok5 & a pl$ge ,i br+4 ,?is r+ %all w$1 till dea? u "p1 ,?y rip] virtues to my he>t--,^? virtues :i*1 be=e untri$1 ,! wife has add$ to ! bride4 ,! gold5 w$d+ is a r>e fe/ivity--! great m>riage bell made ( :eat fully ripe2 %eaves ( corn2 roses ( ! pure gold-color 7! ,m>%al ,niel is ! gold5-w$d+ fl[] p> excell5ce74 ,we c well imag9e ! p>lors beautifully decorat$ ) autumn leaves & ev]gre5s1 ! *ildr5 gr\p$ ab\t ! ag$ pair1 p]haps ev5 a great-gr&*ild z a *ild bridesmaid1 a bridal b\quet 9 ! ag$ :ite h&4 ,we c fancy no?+ m poetical & pa!tic ?an ?is fe/ivity4 ,:e!r or n a r+ %\ld be giv5 by ! husb& to ! wife on ?is occasion we mu/ leave to ! individual ta/e ( ! p>ties4 ,no d\bt x is a pleasant occasion = ! gift1 ,if %e1 by m]it s9ce disclos$1 ,prov$ twice ! woman ,i suppos$1 !re is no d\bt t %e des]ves ano!r r+4 ,we h read some:]e ( a cr[n-diamond w$d+2 x is ! sixty-fif? anniv]s>y4 ,iron w$d+s are1 we believe1 ! fifte5? anniv]s>y4 ,) silv]1 gold51 & diamond w$d+s we are tol]ably famili>1 b1 s f> z we "k1 a cr[n-diamond w$d+ su* z 0 celebrat$ a %ort "t ago at ,maebuell1 9 ! isl& ( ,als51 is a c]emony altoge!r )\t prec$5t 9 matrimonial annals4 ,hav+ complet$ _! sixty-fif? ye> ( conjugal bliss1 ,claus ,jacobs5 & 8 v5]able sp\se 7 solemnly bless$ by ! p>son ( _! p>i%1 & w5t1 = ! fif? "t 9 _! long w$d$ life1 ?r\gh ! =m ( mutual tro?-plight+ be=e ! alt> at :i* !y _h = ! fir/ "t be5 unit$ be=e ! battle ( ,wat]loo 0 f\ght4 ,! unit$ age ( ?is cr[n- diamant9e c\ple am\nt to "o hundr$ & sev5ty-eight ye>s6 ,we d\bt if ?is con/ant pair ne$$ any r+ to rem9d !m ( _! w$d$ duty4 ,x is /range t ! orig9 ( ! w$d+ r+ is lo/ 9 obscurity4 ,! fyancel1 or w$d+ r+1 is d\btless ( ,roman orig91 & 0 orig9ally giv5 at ! betro?al z a pl$ge ( ! engagem5t4 ,juv5al says t at ! comm5cem5t ( ! ,*ri/ian era a man plac$ a r+ on ! f+] ( ! lady :om he betro!d4 ,9 old5 times ! deliv]y ( a signet-r+ 0 a sign ( confid5ce4 ,! r+ is a symbol ( et]nity & con/ancy4 ,t x 0 plac$ on ! woman's left h& d5otes h] subjection1 & on ! r+ f+] because x press$ a ve9 :i* communicates directly ) ! he>t4 ,s univ]sal is ! cu/om ( we>+ ! w$d+ r+ among ,jews & ,*ri/ians t no m>ri$ woman is ev] se5 )\t h] pla9 gold circlet1 & %e reg>ds ! loss ( x z a s9i/] om52 & _m wom5 nev] remove x4 ,?is is1 h[ev]1 fooli%1 & x %\ld be tak5 (f & put on sev]al times at fir/1 s t any subsequ5t removal or loss ne$ n j> pa9fully on ! feel+s4 ,! bride-cake cut by ! bride1 ) ! w$d+ r+ = "s =tunate future sp\se1 seems to be /ill pot5t4 ,! tw5ty-five- ye>-old bride %\ld cut a few pieces1 !n leave o!rs to pass x2 x is a day on :i* %e %\ld be wait$ ^u4 ,"s p]sons1 9 celebrat+ _! tw5ty-fif? w$d+ day1 also repeat _! w$d+ j\rney1 & we "k a v pleasant little r\te 9 ,engl& call$ ! silv]-w$d+ j\rney1 b ?is is1 ( c\rse1 a matt] s entirely p]sonal t x _c be univ]sally recomm5d$4 ,! mo/ graceful silv]-w$d+ cu/om is = ! bride & bridegroom to receive ! greet+s ( _! fri5ds at fir/ =mally1 !n to leave ! m>riage bell or canopy ( fl[]s & to g ab\t among ! company1 becom+ aga9 ho/ & ho/ess4 ,!y %\ld sp>e _! *ildr51 fri5ds1 & !mselves te>s & sad recollections4 ,"s opul5t brides & bridegrooms make x a silv] w$d+ inde$ by s5d+ sub/antial pres5ts to ^? :o />t$ 9 life ) !m b h be5 less =tunate ?an !mselves4 ,,*apt] ,,xli4 ,,spr+ ,,& ,,summ] ,,ent]ta9m5ts4 ,z ! season advances & ! c\ntry bur/s into glori\s sudd5 spr+1 ! g>d5 p>ty1 ! c\ntry d9n]1 ! horseback excursions1 & ! asp>agus p>ties1 ! hunts & ! ya*t voyages1 ! lawn-t5nis & ar*]y1 ! visits to ! polo gr\nd1 & ! delights ( a visit to ! fri5ds :o live )9 an h\r ( ! city1 at ,orange & at ,morri/[n1 on ! seagirt %ore ( ,long ,isl& or up ! ,hudson1 beg9 to loom up be=e ! city-b\nd wor?y1 & to ?r[ a rose hue o'er 8 russet c>es4 ,n[ ! fir/ "q ) ! neophyte :o w\ld g to ! hunts 7= !y break ! ice 9 m s5ses ?an "o71 z ! fir/ ( ! spr+ out-(-door ent]ta9m5ts1 is1 ,:at does a "y girl require :o w\ld ride to h\nds8 = pale ,diana1 *a/e & fair1 no long] hunts on foot1 z %e did 9 ! days ( ,acteon4 ,%e mu/ h two ?or\gh-br$ hunt]s4 ,%e mu/ h a groom1 an ,engli% habit1 a c>efully-consid]$ outfit1 & %e mu/ be a p]fect & a fe>less horsewoman1 & n m9d a cropp]4 ,"o ( ! "y rid]s at ! ,mead[ ,brook ,hunt 0 ?r[n ov] h] horse's head into a dit* la/ spr+1 & got up decl>+ %e 0 n ev5 bruis$4 ,yes1 %e mu/ le>n ev5 h[ to fall (f h] horse )\t break+ h] ribs or h] nose4 ,x is an exp5sive amusem5t to be ,diana n[adays4 ,! result1 h[ev]1 ( long practice on horseback seems to be t a woman becomes almo/ a c5taur1 & m fe>less ?an a man4 ,!n ! hunt includes z its adjuncts to ! "y ladies c]ta9 m5 9 p9k4 ,!y =m on a roadside1 & ! ma/] ( ! hunt says1 ,ladies & g5tlem51 w y hunt8 & he motions to ! :ipp]-9--a gallant creature 9 p9k also-- to ?r[ (f ! dogs4 ,!n ! prettie/ =ty dogs1 all spott$1 />t on _! mad c>e]4 ,x is a beautiful sight1 ) ! r$-coat$ huntsm5 foll[+1 & x looks z if ! real fox w\ld be atta9able aft] a "t1 in/ead ( ! f>ce ( an anise-se$ bag :i* n[ s]ves to make ! gho/ ( a sc5t4 ,! l[1 s(t hat is a favorite ) our "y rid]s1 b !re is ?is to say = ! h>d hat1 x does break a fall4 ,_m a fair =ehead has be5 sav$ f a t]rible sc> by ! resi/ant h>d hat4 ,! habit ( rid+ e day & ( gett+ ?or\ghly accu/om$ to "o's seat %\ld prec$e ! d>+ attempt at a break-neck jump4 ,no "o %\ld pret5d to hunt :o has n a good seat1 a good horse1 & pl5ty ( n]ve4 ,mu* less %\ld an incompet5t rid] v5ture on a fri5d's horse4 ,x has be5 said 9 ,engl& t a man w =give y = break+ 8 own neck1 b n t ( 8 favorite hunt]4 ,z ! day = driv+ has come1 _m correspond5ts write to ask :at is ! be/ /yle ( equipage = a "y man4 ,we c only say t a tilbury & "o horse is v %[y1 t a dog-c>t is ! mo/ kn[+1 t a high *>iot is v /ately1 b t ! two-seat$ ,p>k wagon is ! mo/ appropriate 9 :i* to take out a lady4 ,!re %\ld always be a s]vant beh9d4 ,! art ( driv+ is simple en\gh1 b requires mu* practice4 ,! good driv] %\ld und]/& 8 horse well1 & turn 8 curves g5tly & sl[ly2 he mu/ "k h[ to h>ness & unh>ness a horse1 & be ready to m5d any trifl+ dis>rangem5t if !re is a break4 ,n[ z to driv+ 9 a c>riage ) ladies1 a correspond5t writes to ask ! etiquette :i* %\ld gov]n a g5tleman's conduct4 ,he takes 8 seat ) 8 back to ! horses1 opposite ! ladies1 nor %\ld he assume to sit beside a lady unless reque/$ to d s4 ,:5 ! c>riage /ops1 he %\ld jump out & assi/ h] to alight1 walk+ ) h] up h] own /eps1 & r++ ! bell4 ,9 ent]+ ! c>riage he %\ld put 8 left foot on ! /ep1 & ent] ! c>riage ) 8 "r foot4 ,?is is1 h[ev]1 suppos+ t he sits fac+ ! horses2 if he sits ) 8 back to ! horses1 he rev]ses ! process4 ,a g5tleman %\ld avoid tread+ on ladies' dresses1 or %utt+ !m 9 ! door4 ,ladies :o h c\ntry-h\ses %\ld le>n to drive z well z to ride4 ,inde$1 9 ^! days :5 "y wom5 drive alone 9 ! ,p>k 9 _! pony phaetons & little c>ts1 we ne$ h>dly advise t !y %\ld le>n to drive well4 ,z to boat+1 :i* is practis$ s l>gely by m51 we he> ( b few ladies :o pull ! o> ab\t ,new ,york2 b d\btless x w be done on inl& /reams & lakes4 ,"o g5tleman %\ld /ay 9 ! boat & help to /eady x1 unless ! o>swom5 are v exp]t4 ,%ort dresses & r\nd hats %\ld be worn1 ) no sup]9cumb5t drap]y1 ,z ! seat ( honor 9 a boat is t occupi$ by ! /roke o>1 x is etiquette = ! own] ( ! boat to (f] x to 8 fri5d if he be a r[]4 ,! asp>agus p>ty is a sort ( a long picnic1 9 :i* a p>ty ( fri5ds jo91 & drive or ride out to "s conv5i5t inn :]e a good d9n] c be s]v$1 ) ! advantage ( ! e>ly vegetable cut directly f ! gr\nd4 ,z ,long ,isl& is fam\s = its asp>agus1 ^! p>ties f ,new ,york g5]ally select "s conv5i5t locality !re1 ne> en\gh to ! city to be n too fatigu+ a drive4 ,! new passion = driv+ a coa* has n[ become s mu* ( an ,am]ican ta/e t we ne$ n describe ! pa/ime "h4 ,at lea/ f\r coa*es w />t f ,new ,york = "s neighbor+ t[n-,new ,ro*elle1 ,yonk]s1 etc4--dur+ ! summ]1 & !re is no bett] way ( sp5d+ a ,may day ?an on top ( "o4 ,z = al fresco ent]ta9m5ts1 game pie1 patties1 cold beef1 press$ tongue1 pott$ meats1 s&wi*es1 pt de foie gras1 *ampagne1 are all tak5 out 9 hamp]s1 & s]v$ on top ( ! coa* by ! ob$i5t valets at ! races1 = ^? p>ties :o g out ) f\r horses & a ,london coa* to see ! favorite run4 ,we are (t5 ask$ :at w\ld be ! appropriate co/ume = a lawn p>ty1 & we c only answ] t ! co/umes = ^! p>ties %\ld be ( a useful "*4 ,if x is a lawn p>ty at a v elegant h\se1 at ,newport or up ! ,hudson1 x may be1 h[ev]1 ( a delicacy & elegance n prop] if "o is ask$ out 9 ! c\ntry m]ely to h a good "t1 :5 a p]son w\ld be expos$ to ! wea!r1 ! we> & te> ( games1 & ( a long day 9 ! sun1 ,?ick boots are indisp5sable4 ,b if "o is invit$ to a w$d+ 9 ! c\ntry1 ev5 if ! lawn is to play a decid$ "p 9 ! ent]ta9m5t1 "o mu/ dress v h&somely4 ,at ! regul> lawn p>ty ! lady ( ! h\se & h] daught]s %\ld receive on ! lawn 9 _! bonnets4 ,ya*t+ is a favorite summ] ent]ta9m5t1 & = ^? :o love ! sea x is unp>allel$ = its excitem5t1 ,ya*t+ dresses %\ld be made ( s]ge or twe$1 & possess w>m? & durability1 & "y wom5 c trim !m accord+ to ta/e ) ! "n & insignia ( _! favorite ya*t4 ,= a lawn-t5nis p>ty ! play]s dress 9 flannels made = ! purpose1 & = a lady ! j]sey is indisp5sable1 z giv+ s mu* fre$om to ! arms4 ,^! p>ties beg9 9 ,may at all ! c\ntry-h\ses & c\ntry p>ks ab\t our l>g] t[ns1 & c]ta9ly furni% z mu* heal?ful amusem5t z any?+ c d4 ,ar*]y has n yet become acclimat$ 9 ,am]ica1 b !re are clubs 9 c]ta9 circles :i* promise a future = ?is game4 ,n[ = ^? :o g to c\ntry-h\ses to /ay ov] ,sunday1 z is ! fa%ion ab\t ,new ,york1 let u give "o ^w ( advice4 ,always hold y\rself at ! disposal ( ^? at ^: h\se y are /ay+4 ,if !y propose a plan ( action = y1 fall 9 ) x4 ,if y\r visit is prolong$ = a week1 endeavor to amuse y\rself z mu* z possible4 ,d n let y\r ho/ess see t y are dep5d5t on h] = amusem5t4 ,rememb]1 h[ev] welcome y may be1 y are n always want$4 ,a good ho/ess also le>ns :5 to let h] gue/s alone4 ,a g5tleman visitor :o nei!r %oots1 fi%es1 boats1 reads1 writes lett]s1 nor does any?+ b hang ab\t1 lett+ himself be amus$1 is an intol]able nuisance4 ,he _h bett] g to ! billi>d-room & practice c>oms by himself1 or retire to ! /ables & smoke4 ,a lady visitor %\ld %[ a simil> tact 9 retir+ to h] own room to read or write lett]s1 all[+ h] ho/ess to h h] morn+s or h] aft]noons to h]self1 z %e pleases4 ,"s p are born visitors4 ,!y h ! g5ius ( tact to p]ceive1 ! g5ius ( f9esse to execute1 case & frankness ( mann]1 a k ( ! _w t no?+ c surprise1 a calmness ( temp] t no?+ c di/urb1 & a k9dness ( disposition t c nev] be exhau/$4 ,su* a visitor is greatly 9 dem& ev]y:]e4 ,a good-natur$ ho/ & ho/ess place ev]y?+ at ! disposal ( a visitor--_! horses1 c>riages1 books1 & gr\nds4 ,& "h ! utmo/ delicacy %\ld be obs]v$4 ,nev] ride a horse too fa/ or too f>4 ,nev] take ! coa*man beyond 8 usual limits4 ,nev] pluck a fl[] 9 ! ornam5tal gr\nds )\t ask+ p]mission1 = 9 ^! days ( ornam5tal & fanciful g>d5+ x is necess>y to be c>eful & rememb] t ea* fl[] is a t9t 9 a well-consid]$ picture4 ,nev] dog's-e> or disfigure ! books1 or leave !m ly+ ab\t2 if y take !m f _! %elves1 put !m back4 ,be ?\ghtful 9 y\r treatm5t ( ! s]vants1 & give ^? :o imm$iately wait ^u y "s small gratuity4 ,& if family pray]s are read1 always try to be pres5t4 ,s mu* = ! possibility ( a summ] ent]ta9m5t at a c\ntry-h\se1 "o ( ! mo/ agreeable ( all1 if ! apple- blossoms are j out1 & ! *>m ( spr+ is ov] ! :ole sc5e4 ,we he> ( a ru/ic masqu]ade z "o ( ! spr+ ent]ta9m5ts at a c\ntry-h\se 9 ,orange4 ,?is1 x w\ld seem1 might be v suitable all ov] ! c\ntry1 if woods & wat] are ne> en\gh = ! %eph]ds & %eph]desses4 ,a copy ( ! g>d5 p>ties :i* made ,b\*] ! pa9t] t he 01 & 9 :i* we almo/ he> ! w9d ru/l+ ?r\gh ! s$ge1 ! refre%+ murmur ( ! f\nta91 & see ! gayly dress$ m>quise put h] violet slipp] on ! turf1 & ! elegant & /ately g5tlem5 z !y light up ! neighbor+ arbor ) _! f9e silk coats 9 8 pictures--a copy ( su* g>d5 p>ties z ^? :i* made ,watteau's fame 7he has put !m all on ! fans1 & ! "y p h only to copy !m7--?is w\ld inde$ be a ru/ic masqu]ade1 :i* might amuse & draw = a *>ity4 ,_m ( our c\ntry t[ns on ! bord]s ( lakes1 _m ( ! places ne> ,new ,york 9 _! own f9e gr\nds1 w\ld (f] a t]re/rial p>adise = su* a g>d5 p>ty4 ,to drive out to ,j]ome ,p>k to breakfa/1 to get ! e>ly /rawb]ry & ! delici\s cream--?is is a spr+ ent]ta9m5t :i* _m ( our bus9ess m5 indulge 91 com+ back to _! "w 9 ,new ,york refre%$ & invigorat$4 ,! m5 ( pleasure ( ?is p]iod h1 z !y h always _h1 an ample provision ( amusem5t--n always ! mo/ useful1 x is true--yet we are glad to see t ! out-(-door excitem5ts beg9 to di/ance ! excitem5ts ( ! gam+-table4 ,bett+ on ! turf is n c>ri$ to ! ru9\s ext5t "h t x is 9 ,engl&1 :ile ! polo1 ! base-ball1 ! boat+1 & ! rid+ to h\nds --op5 to ridicule z x is1 9 "s ways ( look+ at x--are all heal?ful4 ,! spr+ season has its little d9n]s1 lun*es1 & w$d+s1 b v few ev5+ ent]ta9m5ts4 ,aft] a "y girl has ransack$ ! fa%ionable _w all w9t]1 & be5 at all ! ftes & balls1 conc]ts1 op]as1 & supp]s1 %e does n c>e = p>ties 9 ,may4 ,su* infatuat$ ardor = amusem5t w\ld make sad havoc ( h] *>ms if %e did4 ,x is q en\gh if %e f9i%es h] excit+ w9t] ) a fancy dance or private !atricals at "s *>itable ent]ta9m5t4 ,a high tea is s]v$ 9 c\rses l a d9n]1 except+ ) less =mality4 ,! lady sits at "o end ( ! table ) ! silv] tea-tray be=e h]1 :ile ! g5tleman has be=e him cold *ick51 or ev51 p]haps1 a hot di% l roa/ p>tridges1 to c>ve4 ,frequ5tly scallop$ oy/]s are pass$1 & always salads1 s t ^? :o are 9 ! habit ( d9+ at t h\r h a solid meal4 ,!re are hot cakes & biscuits & sweetmeats on ! table1 s t x is really ! old-fa%ion$ tea ( our gr&mo!rs re-en=c$ by "s solid di%es4 ,x is int5d$ to save ! s]vants tr\ble on ,sunday ev5+1 b x is really m tr\ble to !m z n[ s]v$1 z x gives ! wait] additional di%es to wa%1 & q z mu* s]vice4 ,x saves ! cook1 h[ev]4 ,,*apt] ,,xlii4 ,,floral ,,tributes ,,& ,,decorations4 ,:5 e /eam] leav+ ^! %ores goes out lad5 ) p :o are weigh$ d[n ) fl[]s1 x _c b be a sev]e tax on ! +5uity ( ! flori/ to devise novel & appropriate =ms = ! typical basket t %all say bon voyage 9 a ?\s& new ways4 ,floral %ips1 an*ors1 />s1 crosses1 mottoes1 monograms1 & ev5 ! national flag1 h be5 us$ = ^! /eam] decorations4 ,b ! language ( fl[]s1 s ?or\ghly und]/ood among ! ,p]sians t a s+le fl[] expresses a complete decl>ation ( love1 an (f] ( m>riage1 &1 presumably1 a h9t at ! settlem5t1 is1 ) our m practical vision>ies & en?usia/s ( ! n9ete5? c5tury1 r an e*o ( ! /ock m>ket ?an a poetical fancy4 ,we fe> t no prima donna looks at h] fl[]s )\t a ?\ght ( h[ mu* !y h co/1 & t ! belle e/imates h] b\quet accord+ to ! comm]cial value ( a lily- (-!-valley z comp>$ ) t ( a ,jacquem9ot rose1 r ?an z fl[]s simply4 ,x is a pity t ! ov]:elm+ luxury ( an extravagant p]iod involves 9 its all-p[]ful grasp ev5 ! fl[]s ( ! field1 ^? g5]\s gifts ( sun%9e & ( ra94 ,b s x is4 ,x is a well-kn[n fact t ! lady :o w give h] ord] ?ree mon?s 9 advance = ! fl[]s ne$$ = h] daught]'s w$d+1 or = any o!r gr& c]emonial1 c1 by (f]+ a suffici5tly l>ge am\nt ( money1 comm& any fl[] %e wi%es4 ,ev5 daisies & butt]cups1 r$ clov] & :ite1 ! delicate =get-me-n ( ! g>d51 na/urtiums & m>igolds1 ! %y & t5d] anemone1 ! d&elion & lilacs & lilies-(-!- valley1 may be =c$ into unnatural bloom 9 ,janu>y4 ,x is a favorite caprice to put ! field-fl[]s ( ,june on a lun*-table 9 ,janu>y4 ,?is p>ticul> table is ! greate/ ( all ! consum]s ( fl[]s1 !re=e we may beg9 by describ+ "s ( ! new fancies develop$ by t extraord9>ily luxuri\s meal4 ,a lady's lun* mu/ %[ n only baskets ( magnific5t fl[]s up & d[n ! table2 b x mu/ also be> a basket or a b\quet = ea* lady4 ,"o ( ! mo/ regal lun*es1 giv5 to tw5ty-eight ladies1 set ! fa%ion = us+ little gilt baskets1 ) cov]s op5+ on ei!r side ( ! h&le--! k9d ( basket1 ( a l>g] size1 9 :i*1 9 ,new ,engl& & 9 ,old ,engl&1 ,dame ,trot c>ri$ h] multif>i\s p>cels home f m>ket4 ,^! pretty & useful baskets _h on ea* side a bun* ( fl[]s peep+ out ?r\gh ! op5 cov]1 & on ! gilt h&le 0 ti$ a ribbon correspond+ 9 color to ! fl[]s4 ,"o ( !m1 hav+ s(t p9k rosebuds ( exce$+ size & lovel9ess on "o side & a bun* ( lilies-(- !-valley on ! o!r1 ) a b[ ( p9k sat9 ribbon on ! h&le1 0 z pretty a picture z ev] ,kate ,gre5away devis$4 ,ano!r1 %[+ ! /rong contra/ ( purple pansies & yell[ daffodils1 & ti$ ) a lovely purple sat9 ribbon1 0 a dream ( ri* color4 ,! /iff1 =mal1 flat b\quets ( yell[ daffodils & bun*es ( violets1 ti$ ) purple ribbon1 make a v f9e effect laid 9 regul> ord] at ea* plate4 ,repetition ( a favorite idea 9 fl[]s is n ugly1 al?\gh x seems at fir/ v f> f ! primeval & delici\s confusion 9 :i* nature ?r[s h] b\quets d[n ^u upl& & mead[4 ,9 ! arrangem5t ( roses ! mo/ v>i$ & :imsical fancies may be display$1 al?\gh ! mo/ gorge\s effect is produc$1 p]haps1 by mass+ a s+le color or gr\p4 ,a basket ( ! p9k ,gloire de ,p>is1 h[ev]1 ) its r$undant gre5 foliage1 alt]nat$ ) deep-r$ ,jacquem9ots1 is a v spl5did fancy1 & w fill a room ) fragrance4 ,9 ,febru>y ^! roses co/ two doll>s apiece1 & x 0 no r>e sight to see f\r or six baskets1 ea* conta9+ =ty roses1 on "o table dur+ ! w9t] ( #ahhd4 ,we advise all ladies go+ into ! c\ntry to pur*ase "s ( ! little ,dame ,trot baskets1 z !y w be lovely :5 fill$ ) wild-fl[]s dur+ ! summ]4 ,inde$1 ! gilt basket1 fitt$ ) a t9 pan to hold e>? or wat]1 is su* a *eap & pretty receptacle = ei!r gr[+ or cut fl[]s t x ought to be a belong+ ( e d9n]-table4 ,f ! lun*-table1 ) its baskets & floral fancies1 we come to ! d9n]-table4 ,"h ! space is s valuable t ! floral bag1 an +5i\s plan by :i* roses may be hung at ! side ( ! we>]1 has be5 inv5t$4 ,?is is a novel & v pretty way ( we>+ fl[]s4 ,! roses or o!r fl[]s are ti$ toge!r ) wires1 9 ! %ape ( a reticule1 & a ribbon & p9 provid$1 s t ! lady may fa/5 h] floral trophy at h] side4 ,! baskets ( fl[]s & ! adornm5ts ( ! p]gne = a d9n] are v apt to be all ( "o fl[]4 ,if mix$1 !y are ( two sorts1 z yell[ roses & r$ ones1 or :ite & p9k1 or1 may be1 half ( lilacs & half ( roses1 or purple pansies & bright yell[ fl[]s4 ,"s tables are set ) sc>let c>nations alone1 & ! effect is v f9e4 ,= w$d+ decorations1 h\ses are n[ fill$ ) palm-trees 9 pots & orange-trees 9 full be>+4 ,an entire suite ( rooms is made into a b[] ( l>ge-leav$ plants4 ,mirrors are cov]$ ) v9es1 wrea?s1 & climb+ roses1 tra9$ across a trellis ( wire4 ,! bride /&s "u a floral umbrella1 :i* juts out into ! room4 ,! monograms ( bride & bridegroom are put 9 floral %ields aga9/ ! wall1 l ! c>t\*e on :i* ! names & ! titles ( an ,egyptian k+ are emblazon$ 9 ! solitude ( ! ,pyramids4 ,! b\quets c>ri$ by brides & bridesmaids are n[ extraord9>ily l>ge1 measur+ a foot or m across ! top4 ,tulips h always be5 favorite ornam5ts = ! d9n]-table4 ,^! fl[]s1 s f9e 9 draw+ & s spl5did 9 color1 produce an extremely brilliant effect 9 l>ge masses4 ,z ,ea/] approa*es1 lilies come 9 = especial notice1 & ! deep ,japan cup-lily1 gr\p$ ) ! /ately callas1 & ! g>d5-lily1 ) its long yell[ /am5s & ri* p]fume1 wor?ily fill ! p]gnes4 ,hyac9?s are lovely h>b+]s ( spr+1 & are beautiful 9 color2 b !re is a /rong objection to ?is fl[] z a decoration1 its heavy p]fume be+ unpleasant to "s p4 ,a fi%-basket fill$ ) bun*es ( lilies1 mignonette1 deep p9k moss-roses %ad$ to ! pale t9ts ( ! rose kn[n z ! ,b>oness de ,ro?s*ild1 ) a gl[+ c5tre ( w>m r$ ,jacquem9ots & a fr+e ( purple pansies & ,m>*al ,niels1 0 "o ( _m beautiful floral ornam5ts on a magnific5t d9n]- table4 ,9 spite ( ! attempt to prev5t ! extravagant use ( fl[]s at fun]als1 we /ill see on ^? sad occasions "s new & r poetic ideas express$ by floral emblems4 ,"o ( ^!1 call$ ! ,gates ,aj>1 0 v beautiful3 ! gates panell$ ) lilies1 & surm\nt$ by doves hold+ sprays ( passion-v9es 9 _! beaks4 ,palms cross$1 & clasp$ by roses & ribbons1 an oblique cross ( roses ly+ on a b$ ( ivy1 a basket made ( ivy & autumn leaves1 hold+ a %eaf ( gra9 & a sickle ( violets1 an ivy pill[ ) a cross ( fl[]s on "o side1 a bun* ( pansies held by a knot ( ribbon at "o corn]1 a cross made ( ivy alone1 a h>ve/-field made ( e>s ( :eat1 are "s ( ! _m new fun]eal designs :i* break ! monotony ( ! dreadful :ite crosses1 cr[ns1 & an*ors1 he>ts & wrea?s1 ( ! pa/4 ,x is no long] necess>y to exclude color f ^! tributes to ! dead4 ,inde$1 "s ( ! mo/ beautiful designs notic$ at rec5t fun]als h be5 compos$ ( color$ fl[]s4 ,= a *ri/5+1 a floral cradle or sw++ hammock1 a b[l1 a silv] cup full ( ! t9ie/ fl[]s1 are all favorite designs4 ,a l>ge table ( fl[]s1 ) ! baby's initials 9 ! c5tre1 0 s5t to "o happy "y "m on a rec5t auspici\s occasion2 & f> m lovely 0 a mang] ( fl[]s1 ) ! ,/> ( ! ,ea/ hang+ above x1 all made ( t pretty :ite fl[] ! ,/> ( ,be?lehem4 ,/range contra/s ( fl[]s h be5 made3 purple lilacs & ! blue =get-me-nots 7 a favorite comb9ation--/yli%1 n pretty1 0 ! :isp]$ criticism4 ,! yell[ m>igold1 a sort ( small sunfl[]1 has be5 ! favorite caprice = b\quets de corsage4 ,?is is z ne> to an actual sunfl[] z ! ae/hetes h v5tur$ to approa*4 ,) u1 p]haps1 !re is no m spl5did yell[ ?an ?is m>igold1 & x admirably sets (f a black or sage gre5 dress4 ,an extravagant lady1 at a ball1 wore ar\nd h] :ite dress skirt a fr+e ( real violets4 ,al?\gh less effective ?an ! artificial ones1 !y _h a pretty appe>ance until !y droop$ & fad$4 ,?is adornm5t co/ "o hundr$ & fifty doll>s4 ,a ra9b[ has be5 attempt$ 9 fl[]s1 b ) poor success4 ,x w look l a ribbon--a v h&some ribbon1 no d\bt2 b ! arc-en-ciel evades reproduction1 ev5 9 ! transc5d5t prismatic colors ( fl[]s4 ,ribbons h be5 us$ ) fl[]s1 & add mu* to _! effect2 =1 s9ce ! ,arcadian days ( ,rosal9d & ,celia1 a fl[]1 a ribbon1 & a pretty girl1 h be5 associat$ ) ea* o!r 9 prose1 poetry1 pa9t+1 & romance4 ,! hang+-baskets1 fill$ ) bloom+ plants1 trail]s1 & f]ns1 h be5 mu* us$ at w$d+s to add to ! b[]-l appe>ance ( ! rooms2 & alt>s & /eps ( *ur*es h be5 ri*ly adorn$ ) fl[]+ plants & palm-trees & o!r luxuriant foliage4 ,! prices paid = fl[]s h be5 enorm\s4 ,"o ?\s& doll>s = ! floral decorations = a s+le d9n] has n be5 an uncommon price4 ,b ! exp5diture ( su* l>ge sums = fl[]s has n be5 unpr(itable4 ,! fl[]s gr[ f9] e day1 &1 z an ent]pris+ flori/1 :o _h giv5 a rose tea to 8 patrons1 rem>k$1 ,e l>ge ord] inspires u to produce a f9] fl[]4 ,,*apt] ,,xliii4 ,,! ,,=k ,,& ,,! ,,spoon4 ,a correspond5t writes1 ,h[ %all ,i c>ry my =k to my m\?8 ,! =k %\ld be rais$ lat]ally to ! m\? ) ! "r h&2 ! elb[ %\ld nev] be crook$1 s z to br+ ! h& r\nd at a "r angle1 or ! =k directly opposite ! m\?4 ,! "m _c beg9 too e>ly to inculcate good mann]s at ! table1 & among ! fir/ ?+s t "y *ildr5 %\ld le>n is ! prop] use ( ! =k4 ,aga91 ! =k %\ld n be ov]load$4 ,to take meat & vegetables & pack !m on ! poor =k1 z if x 7 a bea/ ( burd51 is a common ,am]ican vulg>ity1 born ( our hurri$ way ( eat+ at railway-/ations & hotels4 ,b x is an unheal?y & an ill-mann]$ habit4 ,to take b little on ! =k at a "t1 a mod]ate m\?ful1 %[s good mann]s & ref9em5t4 ,! knife mu/ nev] be put into ! m\? at any "t--t is a remnant ( b>b>ism4 ,ano!r correspond5t asks1 ,%\ld *eese be eat5 ) a =k8 ,we say1 decid$ly1 ,yes1 al?\gh good au?orities decl>e t x may be put on a morsel ( bread ) a knife1 & ?us convey$ to ! m\?4 ,( c\rse we ref] to ! s(t *eeses--l ,gorgonzola1 ,brie1 cream-*eese1 ,neuf*atel1 ,limburg]1 & ! l--:i* are h>dly m manageable ?an butt]4 ,( ! h>d *eeses1 "o may convey a morsel to ! mon? ) ! ?umb & =ef+]2 b1 z a g5]al rule1 x is bett] to use ! =k4 ,n[ z to ! spoon3 x is to be us$ = s\p1 = /rawb]ries & cream1 = all /ew$ fruit & pres]ves1 & = melons1 :i*1 f _! juic9ess1 _c be conv5i5tly eat5 ) a =k4 ,pea*es & cream1 all ! wet di%es1 z ,mrs4 ,glasse 0 wont to call !m1 mu/ be eat5 ) a spoon4 ,roman pun* is always eat5 ) a spoon4 ,on elegant tables1 ea* plate or cov] is accompani$ by two l>ge silv] knives1 a small silv] knife & =k = fi%1 a small =k = ! oy/]s on ! half-%ell1 a l>ge table-spoon = s\p1 & ?ree l>ge =ks4 ,! napk9 is fold$ 9 ! c5tre1 ) a piece ( bread 9 x4 ,z ! d9n] progresses1 ! knife & =k & spoon :i* h be5 us$ are tak5 away ) ! plate4 ,?is saves confusion1 & ! s]vant has n to br+ fre% knives & =ks all ! "t4 ,fi% %\ld be eat5 ) silv] knife & =k2 = if x is full ( bones1 l %ad1 = in/ance1 x is v difficult to manage x )\t ! aid ( a knife4 ,= sweetbreads1 cutlets1 roa/ beef1 etc41 ! knife is also necess>y2 b = ! croquettes1 rissoles1 b\*es la ,re9e1 timbales1 & di%es ( t class1 ! =k alone is ne$$4 ,a majority ( ! made di%es 9 :i* ! ,fr5* excel are to be eat5 ) ! =k4 ,aft] ! d9n] has be5 eat51 & ! dess]t rea*$1 we mu/ see to x t ev]y?+ is cle>$ (f b ! table-clo?1 :i* is n[ nev] remov$4 ,a dess]t-plate is put be=e ea* gue/1 & a gold or silv] spoon1 a silv] dess]t spoon & =k1 & (t5 a que] little comb9ation ( =k & spoon1 call$ an ice-spoon4 ,9 ,engl&1 /rawb]ries are always s]v$ ) ! gre5 /ems1 & ea* "o is tak5 up ) ! f+]s1 dipp$ 9 sug>1 & ?us eat54 ,_m =eign]s p\r w9e ov] _! /rawb]ries1 & !n eat !m ) a =k1 b ?is seems to be detrim5tal to ! natural flavor ( ! k+ ( b]ries4 ,pe>s & apples %\ld be peel$ ) a silv] knife1 cut into qu>t]s1 & !n pick$ up ) ! f+]s4 ,oranges %\ld be peel$1 & cut or sep>at$1 z ! eat] *ooses4 ,grapes %\ld be eat5 f beh9d ! half-clos$ h&1 ! /ones & sk9 fall+ into ! f+]s unobs]v$1 & !nce to ! plate4 ,nev] swall[ ! /ones ( small fruits2 x is extremely dang]\s4 ,! p9eapple is almo/ ! only fruit :i* requires bo? knife & =k4 ,s mu* has ! =k come into use ( late t a wit obs]v$ t he took ev]y?+ ) x b aft]noon tea4 ,! ?ick *ocolate1 he obs]v$1 (t5 s]v$ at aft]noon ent]ta9m5ts1 c\ld be eat5 com=tably ) a =k1 p>ticul>ly ! :ipp$ cream on top ( x4 ,a knife & =k are bo? us$ 9 eat+ salad1 if x is n cut up be=e s]v+4 ,a l>ge lettuce leaf _c be easily manag$ )\t a knife1 & ( c\rse ! =k mu/ be us$ to c>ry x to ! m\?4 ,?us1 z bread1 butt]1 & *eese are s]v$ ) ! salad1 ! salad knife & =k are really ess5tial4 ,salt-cell>s are n[ plac$ at ea* plate1 & x is n improp] to take salt ) y\r knife4 ,dess]t-spoons & small =ks d n =m a "p ( ! orig9al cov]2 t is1 !y are n put on at ! beg9n+ ( ! d9n]1 b are plac$ be=e ! gue/s accord+ z !y are ne$$2 z1 = in/ance1 :5 ! ,roman pun* arrives be=e ! game1 & aft]w>ds :5 ! plum-pudd+ or pa/ry is s]v$ be=e ! ices4 ,! knives & =ks are plac$ on ea* side ( ! plate1 ready = ! h&4 ,= ! c(fee aft] d9n] a v small spoon is s]v$1 z a l>ge "o w\ld be out ( place 9 ! small cups t are us$4 ,inde$1 ! v>iety ( =ks & spoons n[ 9 use on a well-furni%$ table is a/oni%+4 ,"o ( our e/eem$ correspond5ts asks1 ,h[ mu* s\p %\ld be giv5 to ea* p]son8 ,a half-ladleful is q en\gh1 unless x is a c\ntry d9n]1 :]e a full ladleful may be giv5 )\t (f5ce2 b d n fill ! s\p-plate4 ,9 c>v+ a jo9t ( f[l ! ho/ ought to make sure ( ! condition ( bo? knife & =k4 ,( c\rse a good c>v] sees to bo? be=e d9n]4 ,! knife %\ld be ( ! be/ cutl]y1 well %>p5$1 & ! =k long1 /rong1 & furni%$ ) a gu>d4 ,9 us+ ! spoon be v c>eful n to put x too f> into ! m\?4 ,x is a fa%ion ) *ildr5 to poli% _! spoons 9 a some:at savage fa%ion1 b ! gue/ at a d9n]-p>ty %\ld rememb]1 9 ! matt] ( ! dess]t-spoon especially 7:i* is a r l>ge implem5t = ! m\?71 n to all[ ev5 ! clogg+ influ5ces ( cab9et pudd+ to induce him to give 8 spoon too mu* leeway2 z 9 all etiquette ( ! table1 ! spoon has its difficulties & dang]s4 ,p>ticul>ly has ! s\p-spoon its ,scylla & ,*>ybdis1 & if a c>eless eat] make a hiss+ s\nd z he eats 8 s\p1 ! well-br$ d9]-out looks r\nd ) dismay4 ,!re are always p happy 9 _! fa%ion ( eat+1 z 9 ev]y?+ else4 ,!re is no su* infallible pro( ( good-bre$+ & ( e>ly usage z ! conduct ( a man or woman at d9n]4 ,b1 z e "o has n _h ! advantage ( e>ly tra9+1 x is well to /udy ^! m9ute po9ts ( table etiquette1 t "o may le>n h[ to eat )\t (f5d+ ! s5sibility ( ! well-br$4 ,especially /udy ! =k & ! spoon4 ,!re is1 no d\bt1 a great div]sity ( op9ion on ! ,cont95t ) reg>d to ! =k4 ,x is a common ,g]man fa%ion1 ev5 ) pr9ces1 to put ! knife into ! mon?4 ,italians are n always p>ticul> z to its use1 & cultivat$ ,russians1 ,sw$es1 ,poles1 & ,danes (t5 eat ) _! knives or =ks indiscrim9ately4 ,b ,au/ria1 :i* foll[s ,fr5* fa%ions1 ! ,anglo-,saxon race 9 ,engl&1 ,am]ica1 & ! colonies1 all ,fr5* p1 & ^? elegant ,russians :o emulate ,fr5* mann]s1 deem ! =k ! prop] m$ium ( communication betwe5 ! plate & ! m\?4 ,,*apt] ,,xliv4 ,,napk9s ,,& ,,table-,,clo?s4 ,! elegance ( a table dep5ds ess5tially ^u its nap]y4 ,! pla9e/ ( meals is made a banquet if ! l95 be fre%1 f9e1 & smoo?1 & ! mo/ sumptu\s repa/ c be ru9$ by a soil$ & crumpl$ table-clo?4 ,! h\sewife :o wi%es to conduct h] h\se 9 elegance mu/ make up h] m9d to use five or six sets ( napk9s1 & to h sev]al doz5s ( ea* ready = possible dem&s4 ,a napk9 %\ld nev] be put on ! table a second "t until x has be5 rewa%$2 !re=e1 napk9-r+s %\ld be ab&on$-- relegat$ to ! nurs]y tea-table4 ,breakfa/ napk9s are ( a small] size ?an d9n] napk9s1 & are v pretty if !y be> ! initial lett] ( ! family 9 ! c5tre4 ,^? ( f9e1 d\ble damask1 ) a simple design1 su* z a sn[-drop or a ma!matical figure1 to mat* ! table-clo?1 are also pretty4 ,9 ! end1 ! economy 9 ! we> pays a "y h\se- keep] to inve/ well 9 ! be/ ( nap]y--d\ble damask1 good ,iri% l954 ,nev] buy poor or *eap napk9s2 !y are worn out almo/ imm$iately by wa%+4 ,co>se1 heavy napk9s are p]haps prop] = ! nurs]y & *ildr5's table4 ,if *ildr5 d9e ) _! p>5ts1 !y %\ld h a special set ( napk9s = _! use1 & "s v c>eful mammas make ^! ) tapes to tie ar\nd ! y\?ful necks4 ,x is bett] 9 a l>ge family1 :]e !re are *ildr51 to h heavy & co>se table-l95 = e-day use4 ,x is n an economy to buy color$ clo?s1 = !y mu/ be wa%$ z (t5 z if !y 7 :ite1 & no color /&s ! h>d usage ( ! laundry z well z pure :ite4 ,color$ nap]y is1 !re=e1 ! luxury ( a well-appo9t$ c\ntry h\se1 & has its use 9 mak+ ! breakfa/ & lun*eon table look a little unlike ! d9n]4 ,nev] use a p>ti-color$ damask = ! d9n]-table4 ,^? breakfa/ clo?s ( p9k1 or yell[1 or light-blue & :ite1 or drab1 are v pretty ) napk9s to mat*2 b aft] hav+ be5 wa%$ a few times !y become v dull 9 t9t1 & are n z agreeable to ! eye z :ite1 :i* gr[s :it] ) e summ]'s blea*+4 ,ladies :o live 9 ! city %\ld try to s5d all _! nap]y to ! c\ntry at lea/ once a ye>1 & let x lie on ! grass = a good blea*+4 ,x seems to keep clean] aft]w>ds4 ,= d9n]1 l>ge & h&some napk9s1 c>efully iron$ & fold$ simply1 ) a piece ( bread inside1 %\ld lie at ea* plate4 ,^! %\ld be remov$ :5 ! fruit c\rse is br\ght1 & ) ea* f+]-b[l %\ld be a color$ napk91 ) :i* to dry ! f+]s4 ,pretty little fanciful doyleys are n[ also put "u ! f+]- b[l1 m]ely to be look$ at4 ,embroid]$ ) qua9t designs1 ^! little ?ree-in* ?+s are v ornam5tal2 b ! real & s]viceable doyley %\ld n be =gott51 & may be laid ei!r beside or ov] ! top ( ! f+]-b[l4 ,_m ladies are s extravagant t !y h a second napk9 ( small size put on = t "p ( ! dess]t :i* prec$es ! fruit1 b ?is involves s mu* tr\ble to bo? ! gue/ & ! wait] t x is n ord9>ily done4 ,! napk9s made at ,b]l91 ) drawn ?read & knott$ fr+e & lace effects1 are v h&some4 ,!y are also made at ! ,s\? ,k5s+ton s*ools1 & 9 ,p>is1 & by ! ,decorative ,art ,society 9 ,new ,york1 & are beautifully wr\ght ) monogram & cre/ 9 r$1 :ite1 & blue ?read4 ,b no napk9 is ev] m ?or\ghly elegant ?an ! v ?ick1 f9e1 & sub/antial pla9 damask1 :i* becomes m pure & smoo? e "t t x is cleans$4 ,h[ev]1 z "o ( our great d9n]-giv]s 9 ,new ,york has ord]$ tw5ty-f\r doz5 ( ! h&some1 drawn-?read napk9s f "o e/abli%m5t at ,b]l91 we mu/ conclude t !y w become ! fa%ion4 ,:5 breakfa/ is made a =mal meal--t is1 :5 company is invit$ to come at a /at$ h\r--s]viettes1 or l>ge d9n]- napk9s1 mu/ be plac$ at ea* plate1 z = a d9n]4 ,b !y are nev] us$ at a /&-up breakfa/1 nor are doyleys or f+]- b[ls4 ,if any accid5t happ5s1 su* z ! spill+ ( a glass ( w9e or ! upsett+ ( a plate1 ! dbris %\ld be c>efully cle>$ away1 & ! wait] %\ld spread a clean napk9 ov] ! desecrat$ table-clo?4 ,l>ge1 :ite napk9s are inv>iably us$ at lun*eon1 & ! small] ones kept = breakfa/ & tea4 ,"s ladies l ! little1 fr+$ napk9s = tea1 b to look well ^! mu/ be v c>efully wa%$ & iron$4 ,nev] fa/5 y\r napk9 ar\nd y\r neck2 lay x across y\r knees1 conv5i5t to ! h&1 & lift "o corn] only to wipe ! m\?4 ,m5 :o we> a mu/a*e are p]mitt$ to saw ! m\? ) ! napk91 z if x 7 a be>+-re91 b = ladies ?is w\ld look too mascul9e4 ,napk9s at hotels are n[ fold$1 9 a half-wet condition1 into all sorts ( %apes3 a goose1 a swan1 a %ip1 a high boot1 are all favorite & fanciful designs2 b ?is is a dirty fa%ion1 requir+ ! manipulation ( h&s :i* are n always fre%1 & z ! napk9 mu/ be damp at ! fold+1 x is n always dry :5 %ak5 out4 ,no?+ is s unheal?y z a damp napk92 x causes agony to a delicate & n]v\s lady1 a man ) ! rose-cold1 a p]son ) neuralgia or rheumatism1 & is (f5sive to e "o4 ,nev] all[ a napk9 to be plac$ on ! table until x has be5 well air$4 ,!re is (t5 a conspiracy betwe5 ! wait] & ! laundress 9 great h\ses1 bo? wi%+ to %irk "w1 ! result ( :i* is t ! napk9s1 n prep>$ at ! prop] "t1 are put on ! table damp4 ,a h\se-keep] %\ld h a l>ge *e/ to conta9 nap]y :i* is n to be us$ e day4 ,?is res]v$ l95 %\ld be wa%$ & air$ once a ye> at lea/1 to keep x f m\ld+ & becom+ yell[4 ,our ,dut* ance/ors 7 v fond ( enri*+ a *e/ ( ?is k9d1 & _m h\sewives 9 ,new ,york & ,albany are to-day us+ l95 br\ght f ,holl& ?ree hundr$ ye>s ago4 ,! nap]y made 9 ,irel& has1 h[ev]1 9 our day tak5 ! place ( t manufactur$ 9 o!r c\ntries4 ,x is good1 *eap1 & sometimes v h&some1 & if x c be b\ght unadult]at$ ) cotton x w la/ _m ye>s4 ,v little />* %\ld be put 9 napk9s4 ,no "o wi%es to wipe a delicate lip on a bo>d1 & a /iff napk9 is v l t commodity4 ,at d9n]-p>ties 9 ,engl&1 9 ! days ( ,william ! ,f\r?1 a napk9 0 h&$ ) ea* plate4 ,z ! gue/ took 8 plate & new napk91 he all[$ ! "o :i* he _h us$ to fall to ! floor1 & :5 he w5t away f ! table he left a sn[y pile ( nap]y beh9d him4 ,! use ( l95 = ! table is "o ( ! olde/ ( fa%ions1 ,! e>ly ,italian tables 7 s]v$ ) su* beautiful lace-work$ napk9s t we _c equal !m to-day4 ,que5 ,elizabe?'s napk9s 7 edg$ ) lace made 9 ,fl&]s1 & 7 an important item ( exp5se 9 h] day-book4 ,fr+$1 embroid]$1 & color$ napk9s made ( silk are us$ by ,*9ese & ,japanese magnates4 ,^! articles may be wa%$1 & are re/or$ to _! orig9al purity by det]g5t ag5ts t are unkn[n to u4 ,! ,*9ese also use little napk9s ( pap]1 :i* are v conv5i5t = lun*eon baskets & picnics4 ,"o ( our correspond5ts asks u if %e %\ld fold h] napk9 be=e leav+ ! table4 ,at a fa%ionable meal1 no4 ,at a social tea or breakfa/1 yes1 if h] ho/ess does s4 ,!re is no absolute law on ?is subject4 ,at a fa%ionable d9n] no "o folds 8 napk94 ,he lets x drop to ! floor1 or lays x by ! side ( 8 plate unfold$4 ,:5 ! fruit napk9 is br\ght he takes x f ! glass plate on :i* x is laid1 & ei!r places x at 8 "r h& or across 8 knee1 & ! illum9at$ rag1 z "s wit call$ ! little embroid]$ doyley1 :i* is n meant = use1 is1 aft] hav+ be5 exam9$ & admir$1 laid on ! table1 beside ! f+]-b[l4 ,^! pretty little trifles c s]ve sev]al times ! purpose ( ornam5t+ ! f+]-b[l4 ,napk9s1 :5 laid away 9 a *e/ or draw]1 %\ld h "s pleasant1 cleanly h]b l lav5d] or sweet-grass1 or ! old- fa%ion$ clov]1 or bags ( ,ori5tal orris-root1 put betwe5 !m1 t !y may come to ! table smell+ ( ^! delici\s sc5ts4 ,no?+ is m c]ta9 to de/roy ! appetite ( a n]v\s dyspeptic ?an a napk9 t smells ( greasy soap4 ,!re is a laundry soap n[ 9 use :i* leaves a v unpleasant odor 9 ! l951 & napk9s (t5 smell s /rongly ( x z to take away ! desire = food4 ,p]haps ! influ5ce ( ,delmonico ^u ! public has be5 9 no?+ m /rongly %[n ?an 9 ! effect produc$ by 8 always immaculate nap]y4 ,x 0 n common 9 ,am]ican eat+- h\ses1 :5 he began1 to (f] clean table-clo?s & clean napk9s4 ,n[ no dec5t d9] w submit to any o!r ?an a clean napk94 ,e lady1 !re=e1 :o aspires to elegant h\sekeep+1 %\ld rememb] t %e mu/ nev] all[ ! same napk9 to be put on h] table twice4 ,once us$1 x mu/ be s5t to ! laundry be=e x is put on ! table aga94 ,,*apt] ,,xlv4 ,,s]vants1 ,,_! ,,dress ,,& ,,duties4 ,z we read t a ,we/ ,po9t hotel-keep] has rec5tly dismiss$ all 8 wait]s :o w\ld n %ave (f _! mu/a*es1 we mu/ beg9 to believe t ! h]et(ore he$less ,am]ican is consid]+ ! appe>ance ( 8 h\se & c>riage-s]vants4 ,9 ! e>ly days ( ! republic1 be=e ,?omas ,jeff]son ti$ 8 horse's re9 to ! pal+s ( ! f5ce & saunt]$ into ! ,capitol to be inaugurat$1 ! ari/ocrats ( ! v>i\s cities _h a liv]y = _! s]vants4 ,b aft] su* a da% ( cold wat] 9 ! face ( e/abli%$ usage by ! ,*ief ,magi/rate ( ! ,c\ntry1 _m ( ! old =ms & cu/oms ( ,colonial times fell into disuse1 & among o!rs ! we>+ ( a liv]y by s]v+-m54 ,a con/antly decl9+ grade ( %abb9ess 0 ! result ( ?is1 z ! driv] ( ! horses wore a coat & hat ( ! same /yle z 8 ma/]1 only less clean & new4 ,l _m ( our ,am]ican ideas s good 9 !ory1 ! outcome ( ?is attempt at ,lib]ty1 ,equality1 & ,frat]nity1 0 nei!r conducive to neatness nor elegance4 ,b s /rongly 0 ! prejudice aga9/ liv]ies in/ill$ into ! public m9d t only sev5 ye>s ago a g5tleman ( ! mo/ ari/ocratic circle ( ari/ocratic ,philadelphia decl>$ t he refra9$ f hav+ a liv]i$ s]vant beh9d 8 c>riage f fe> ( %ock+ public op9ion4 ,9 ,new ,york ! pres5ce ( a l>ge1 =eign1 social elem5t long ago br\ght ab\t a revulsion ( op9ion 9 ?is matt]1 & n[ mo/ p]sons :o desire a neat1 pla91 & appropriate /yle ( dress = _! coa*m5 & footm5 put !m 9 a liv]y1 = :i* ! ma/] pays4 ,^? :o are p>ticul> 9 su* matt]s d n all[ a wait] or a footman to we> a mu/a*e1 & require all m5-s]vants to be clean-%av51 except ! coa*man1 :o is p]mitt$ to we> :isk]s4 ,ea* mu/ h 8 hair cut %ort1 & ! wait] mu/ we> :ite gloves :ile wait+ at table or :5 h&+ refre%m5ts2 ev5 a glass ( wat] on a silv] salv] mu/ be br\ght ) a glov$ h&4 ,_m ladies h mu* tr\ble 9 impress+ ^u _! m5-s]vants ! necessity = p]sonal neatness4 ,! ord9>y attire ( a butl] is a black dress-coat1 ) :ite cravat & :ite cotton gloves4 ,a wait] :o att5ds ! door 9 a l>ge e/abli%m5t1 & :o is "o ( _m s]vants1 is usually 9 a quiet liv]y--a frock-coat ) brass buttons1 & a /rip$ wai/coat4 ,"s families affect ! sc>let wai/coat = _! footman1 :i*1 inde$1 may be us$ ) v good effect = ! negro s]vant4 ,neatness is indisp5sable2 a slov5ly & inatt5tive s]vant betrays a slov5ly h\sehold4 ,yet s]vants (t5 d _! employ]s great inju/ice4 ,!y are sl[ to respond to ! bell1 !y give uncivil answ]s1 !y d5y "o p]son & admit ano!r1 !y fail to deliv] notes1 !y are insol5t1 !y neglect ! ord]s ( ! mi/ress :5 %e is out4 ,we _c expect p]fection 9 our dome/ic s]vice1 b x is possible1 by pa9/ak+ & pati5t tea*+1 to create a respectable & helpful s]v+ class4 ,s]vants are v apt to take _! tone f _! employ]s--to be civil if !y are civil1 & insol5t if !y are insol5t4 ,! head ( ! h\se is v apt to be copi$ by 8 flunkies4 ,"o primal law we mu/ m5tion--a ho/ess %\ld nev] reprove h] s]vants 9 ! pres5ce ( h] gue/s2 x is cruel bo? to gue/ & s]vant1 & always %[s ! ho/ess 9 an unamiable light4 ,:atev] may g wrong1 ! lady ( ! h\se %\ld rema9 calm2 if %e is angui%$1 :o c be happy8 ,we h n "h1 nom9ally1 t helpful treasure kn[n 9 ,engl& z ! p>lor-maid4 ,we call h] a waitress1 & expect h] to d all ! "w ( "o floor4 ,su* a p]son c be tra9$ by a good h\sekeep] to be a mo/ admirable s]vant4 ,%e mu/ be told to rise e>ly1 to att5d to ! sweep+ ( ! door-/eps1 to op5 ! bl9ds1 to light ! fires1 & to lay ! breakfa/-table4 ,%e mu/ appe> 9 a neat calico dress1 :ite apron & cap1 & wait ^u ! family at breakfa/4 ,aft] breakfa/1 ! g5tlem5 w expect h] to bru% _! hats1 to br+ ov]coats & ov]%oes1 & to f9d ! umbrellas4 ,%e mu/ answ] ! door-bell z well1 s %\ld be nimble-foot$ & quick-witt$4 ,:5 breakfa/ is ov]1 %e mu/ remove ! di%es & wa% !m1 clean ! silv]1 & prep>e = ! next meal4 ,9 well-regulat$ h\seholds !re is a day = sweep+1 a day = silv] clean+1 a clay = mirror-poli%+1 & ano!r = mak+ bright & neat ! fireplaces2 b ea* "o ( ^! duties requires a c]ta9 %>e ( att5tion e day4 ,! p>lor mu/ be du/$1 & ! fires att5d$ to1 ( c\rse1 s ! p>lor-maid1 or ! waitress1 9 a l>ge family has mu* to d4 ,! be/ girls = ?is ardu\s situation are ,engli%1 b !y are v difficult to procure4 ,! ,g]mans are n apt to rema9 long ) "o family4 ,! be/ available p>lor-maids are ,iri%wom5 :o h liv$ "s "t 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,a s]vant (t5 s9s f ignorance1 !re=e "t sp5t 9 tea*+ h] is n wa/$4 ,%e %\ld be suppli$ ) su* ut5sils z facilitate "w1 & "o v good h\se-keep] decl>es t ! virtue ( a waitress dep5ds ^u an inf9ity ( cra%4 ,& !re is no d\bt t a l>ge supply ( t[els is a con/ant sugge/ion ( cleanl9ess t is a great moral support to a waitress4 ,9 ^! days1 :5 p>lors are fill$ ) bric- -brac1 a p>lor- maid has no "t to d laundry-"w1 except su* "p ( x z may p]ta9 to h] p]sonally4 ,! be/ ( all arrangem5ts is to hire a laundress1 :o w d all ! wa%+ ( ! h\se4 ,ev5 9 a v economical h\sehold ?is has be5 f\nd to be ! be/ plan1 o!rwise !re is always an unexpla9$ delay :5 ! bell r+s4 ,! appe>ance at ! door ( a di%evell$ maid1 ) arms cov]$ ) soapsuds1 is n ornam5tal4 ,if a cook c be f\nd :o w also und]take to d ! wa%+ & iron+1 x is a bett] & m satisfactory arrangem5t4 ,b 9 our gr[+ prosp]ity ?is function>y has assum$ new & extraord9>y importance1 & w d no?+ b cook4 ,a "y h\se-keep] beg9n+ h] life 9 a great city f9ds h]self frequ5tly confront$ ) ! necessity ( hav+ f\r s]vants--a cook1 a laundress1 a wait] or p>lor-maid 7sometimes bo?71 & a *amb]-maid4 ,none ( ^! excell5t auxili>ies is will+ to d ! o!r's "w3 !y g5]ally qu>rel4 ,s ! fir/ exp]i5ce ( h\se-keep+ is n agreeable4 ,b x is possible to f9d two s]vants :o1 if prop]ly tra9$1 w d all ! s]vice ( a small family1 & d x well4 ,! mi/ress mu/ c>efully def9e ! "w ( ea*1 or else hire !m ) ! und]/&+ t nei!r %all ev] say1 ,?is is n my "w4 ,x is sometimes q impossible to def9e :at is ! exact duty ( ea* s]vant4 ,our h\se-keep+ 9 ?is c\ntry is s *aotic1 & our frequ5t *anges ( h\se & =tune cause x to p>take s mu* ( ! nature ( a provisional gov]nm5t1 t e woman mu/ be a ,l\is ,napoleon1 & ready = a c\p d'tat at any mom5t4 ,! "o ?+ :i* e lady mu/ firmly dem& f h] s]vants is respect4 ,! h>ass$ & tr\bl$ ,am]ican woman :o has to cope ) ! wor/ s]vants 9 ! _w--! ill-tra9$1 incapable1 & vici\s peasantry ( ,europe1 :o come "h to be z good z anybody1 & :o see t x is easily possible to make a liv+ 9 ,am]ica :e!r !y are respectful or n--t woman has a v ardu\s task to p]=m4 ,b %e mu/ ga9 at lea/ outw>d respect by insi/+ ^u hav+ x1 & by %[+ h] s]vants t %e reg>ds x z ev5 a great] desid]atum ?an ! effici5t dis*>ge ( duties4 ,! mi/ress mu/ n lose h] temp]4 ,%e mu/ be calm1 imp]turbable1 & dignifi$1 always4 ,if %e gives an ord]1 %e mu/ insi/1 at :atev] p]sonal co/1 t x %all be obey$4 ,p]t9acity & inflexibility on ?is po9t are well be/[$4 ,:]e !re are *ildr51 ! nurse is1 ( c\rse1 a mo/ important "p ( ! h\sehold1 & (t5 gives m tr\ble ?an any ( ! o!r s]vants1 = %e is usually an eld]ly p]son1 impati5t ( control1 & set 9 h] ways4 ,! mi/ress mu/ make h] obey at once4 ,nurses are only human1 & c be made to con=m to ! rules by :i* humanity is gov]n$4 ,ladies h adopt$ = _! nurses ! ,fr5* /yle ( dress--d>k /uff g[ns1 :ite aprons1 & caps4 ,fr5* nurses are1 inde$1 v mu* ! fa%ion1 z x is deem$ all-important t *ildr5 %\ld le>n to speak ,fr5* z soon z !y c articulate4 ,b x is s difficult to f9d a ,fr5* nurse :o w speak ! tru? t _m mo!rs h r5\nc$ ! accompli%$ ,gaul & hir$ ! ,anglo- ,saxon1 :o is (t5 n m v]aci\s4 ,no d\bt !re 0 bett] s]vice :5 s]vants 7 few]1 & :5 ! mi/ress look$ well aft] ! ways ( h] h\sehold1 & p]=m$ c]ta9 dome/ic duties h]self4 ,9 ^? e>ly days x 0 %e :o made ! be/ pa/ry & sweetmeats4 ,x 0 %e :o wr\ght at ! quilt+-frame & nett$ ! be/ b$-curta9s4 ,x 0 %e :o d>n$ ! table-clo?1 ) a neatness & exactness t made ! v imp]fection a beauty4 ,x 0 %e :o made ! currant w9e & ! blackb]ry cordial4 ,%e knew all ! secrets ( cle> />*+1 & taught ! ignorant h[ to d _! "w ?r\gh h] educat$ intellig5ce4 ,%e _h1 h[ev]1 native ,am]icans to tea*1 & n ,iri%1 ,g]mans1 or ,sw$es4 ,n[1 few native-born ,am]icans w become s]vants1 & ! difficulties ( ! mi/ress are !reby increas$4 ,a s]vant _c be too c>efully taught h] duty to visitors4 ,hav+ fir/ asc]ta9$ :e!r h] mi/ress is at home or n1 9 ord] to save a lady ! tr\ble ( alight+ f h] c>riage1 %e %\ld answ] ! r+ ( ! door-bell )\t loss ( "t4 ,%e %\ld treat all call]s ) respect & civility1 b at ! same "t %e %\ld be able to discrim9ate betwe5 fri5d & foe1 & n unw>ily admit ^? innum]able *eats1 frauds1 & begg>s :o1 9 a respectable g>b1 =ce an entrance to "o's h\se = ! purpose ( !ft1 or p]haps to sell a cem5t = brok5 crock]y1 or ! la/ ?+ 9 hair-dye4 ,consci5ti\s s]vants :o compreh5d _! duties1 & :o try to p]=m !m1 %\ld1 aft] a c]ta9 c\rse ( discipl9e1 be all[$ to foll[ _! own me?ods ( work+4 ,int]f]5ce & fault-f9d+ injure ! temp] ( an inf]ior2 :ile suspicion is bad = anybody1 & especially op]ates aga9/ ! mak+ ( a good s]vant4 ,to assure y\r s]vants t y believe !m to be hone/ is to fix 9 !m ! habit ( hone/y4 ,to respect _! rights1 _! h\rs ( recreation1 _! religion1 _! feel+s1 to wi% !m good- night & good-morn+ 7aft] ! pretty ,g]man fa%ion71 to assi/ !m 9 ! writ+ ( _! lett]s & 9 ! prop] inve/m5t ( _! e>n+s1 to tea* !m to read & write & to make _! clo!s1 s t !y may be useful to !mselves :5 !y leave s]vitude--all ?is is ! pleasurable duty ( a good mi/ress1 & su* a c\rse makes good s]vants4 ,all ignorant natures seek a lead]2 all s]vants l to be comm&$ by a /rong1 hone/1 fair1 judici\s mi/ress4 ,!y seek h] praise2 !y fe> h] c5sure1 n z slaves dread ! :ip ( ! tyrant1 b z soldi]s respect _! sup]ior (fic]4 ,bad temp]1 inju/ice1 & tyranny make eye-s]vice1 b n he>t- s]vice4 ,irresolute p]sons :o d n "k _! own m9ds1 & _c rememb] _! own ord]s1 make v poor ma/]s & mi/resses4 ,x is bett] t !y %\ld give up ! bus9ess ( h\se-keep+1 & betake !mselves to ! liv+ 9 hotels or bo>d+-h\ses ) :i* our ,engli% c\s9s taunt u1 little kn[+ t ! nomadic life !y condemn is ! outcome ( _! own failure to make good citiz5s ( ^? (fsc\r+s ( jail & poorh\se & ,iri% %anty :i* !y s5d to u "u ! guise ( dome/ic s]vants4 ,famili>ity ) s]vants always ar\ses _! contempt2 a mi/ress c be k9d )\t be+ famili>4 ,%e mu/ rememb] t ! s]vant looks up to h] ov] ! great gulf ( a diff]5t condition ( life & habit--ov] ! great gulf ( ignorance1 & t1 9 ! ord] ( nature1 %e %\ld respect n only ! p]son 9 au?ority1 b ! be+1 z sup]ior to h]self4 ,?is salut>y influ5ce is ?r[n away if ! mi/ress desc5d to famili>ity & intimacy4 ,c]ta9 weak mi/resses v>y _! attitude t[>ds _! s]vants1 fir/ assum+ a famili>ity ( mann] :i* is disgu/+1 & :i* ! s]vant does n mi/ake = k9dness1 & !n a tyrannical sev]ity :i* is z unreasonable z ! famili>ity1 &1 l x1 is only a spasm ( an ill-regulat$ m9d4 ,s]vants %\ld we> ?9 %oes 9 ! h\se1 & be told to /ep lightly1 n to slam doors1 or drop *9a1 or to rattle =ks & spoons4 ,a quiet s]vant is ! mo/ c]ta9 ( dome/ic bless+s4 ,neatness1 good mann]s1 & fai?fulness h (t5 insur$ a /upid s]vant ( no great effici5cy a p]man5t home ) a family4 ,if to ^! qualities be add$ a cle> head1 an active body1 & a respectful mann]1 we h t r>e article--a p]fect s]vant4 ,,*apt] ,,xlvi4 ,,! ,,h\se ,,) ,,"o ,,s]vant4 ,_m l>ge families 9 ?is c\ntry employ b "o s]vant4 ,al?\gh :5 life 0 simpl] x 0 some:at easi] ?an x is n[ to conduct a h\se ) su* assi/ance z may be (f]$ by a maid-(- all-"w1 x 0 necess>y ev5 !n = ! ladies ( ! h\se to d "s portion ( ! light] dome/ic "w4 ,x is a v good plan1 :5 !re are sev]al daught]s 9 ! family1 to take turns ea* to te/ h] tal5t z a h\se-keep] & organiz]4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! mi/ress keep ! re9s 9 h] own h&s1 %e c detail "o ( ^! "y ladies to sweep & du/ ! p>lors1 ano!r to att5d to ! breakfa/ di%es1 ano!r to make sure t ! maid has n neglect$ any necess>y cleans+ ( ! b$rooms4 ,a "m ) "y *ildr5 mu/ h a ?or\ghly def9$ & und]/ood sy/em = ! daily "w to r5d] x possible = "o s]vant to p]=m x all4 ,! maid mu/ rise v e>ly on ,monday morn+1 & d "s "p ( ! laundry "w be=e breakfa/4 ,_m old ,am]ican s]vants 7:5 !re 7 su*7 put ! clo!s 9 wat] to soak1 & sometimes to boil1 on ,sunday night1 t night n hav+ ! religi\s significance 9 ,new ,engl& t ,saturday night _h4 ,n[adays1 h[ev]1 ,iri% girls expect to h a holiday e o!r ,sunday aft]noon & ev5+1 & x w\ld probably be va9 to expect ?is s]vice ( !m4 ,b at lea/ !y %\ld rise by five o'clock1 & d two h\rs' good "w be=e x is "t to prep>e ! breakfa/ & lay ! table4 ,a neat-h&$ ,phyllis w h a clean g[n1 cap1 & apron hang+ 9 ! kit*5 closet1 & slip !m on be=e %e c>ries 9 ! breakfa/1 :i* %e has cook$ & mu/ s]ve4 ,"s girls %[ great tact 9 ?is matt] ( appe>+ neat at ! "r "t1 b _m ( !m h to be taught by ! mi/ress to h a clean cap & apron 9 read9ess4 ,! mi/ress usually furni%es ^! items ( h] maid's attire1 & !y %\ld be ! prop]ty ( ! mi/ress1 & rema9 9 ! family ?r\gh all *anges ( s]vants4 ,!y c be b\ght at almo/ any repository conduct$ 9 ! int]e/ ( *>ity = less ?an !y c be made at home1 & a doz5 ( !m 9 a h\se greatly improves ! appe>ance ( ! s]vants4 ,! cook1 hav+ prep>$ ! breakfa/ & wait$ at table1 places 9 front ( h] mi/ress a neat1 wood5 tub1 ) a little cotton- y>n mop & two clean t[els1 & !n retreats to ! kit*5 ) ! heavy di%es & knives & =ks4 ,! lady proce$s to wa% ! glass1 silv]1 & *9a1 dra9+ ! ?+s on a wait]1 & wip+ !m on h] da9ty l95 t[els4 ,x is n a disagreeable op]ation1 & all g5tlem5 say !y l to eat & dr9k f ut5sils :i* h be5 wa%$ by a lady4 ,hav+ put away ! glass & *9a1 ! lady %akes ! table- clo?1 folds x1 & puts x away4 ,%e !n takes a light bru% broom & sweeps ! d9+-room1 & du/s x c>efully1 op5+ a w9d[ to air ! ap>tm5t4 ,:5 ?is is done %e sets ! p>lor 9 ord]4 ,! maid-(-all-"w %\ld1 9 ! mean "t1 make a visit to ! b$rooms1 & d ! heavy "w ( turn+ mattresses & mak+ b$s4 ,:5 ?is is accompli%$ %e mu/ return to ! kit*51 & aft] c>efully clean+ ! pots & kettles t h be5 9 use = ! morn+ meal1 devote an undivid$ att5tion to h] ardu\s duties z laundress4 ,a pla9 d9n] = wa%+-day--a beef/eak & "s boil$ potatoes1 a salad1 & a pie or pudd+ made on ! prec$+ ,saturday--is all t %\ld be requir$ ( a maid-(-all-"w on ,monday4 ,! aft]noon mu/ be sp5t 9 f9i%+ ! wa%+1 hang+ out ! clo!s1 & prep>+ ! tea--an easy & in=mal meal1 :i* %\ld consi/ ( some?+ easy to cook2 =1 aft] all t %e has done dur+ ! day1 ?is h>d-work$ girl mu/ tidy up h] kit*5 be=e %e c enjoy a well-e>n$ repose4 ,x is s annoy+ to a maid-(-all-"w to be oblig$ to op5 ! door = visitors t ladies (t5 h a little girl or boy = ?is purpose4 ,9 ! c\ntry x c be m easily manag$4 ,tuesday is iron+-day all ov] ! _w1 & ! maid mu/ be assi/$ 9 ?is "t ( em]g5cy by h] mi/ress4 ,mo/ ladies und]/& ! process ( cle> />*+ & ! be/ me?od ( iron+ f9e clo?+2 if !y d n1 !y %\ld4 ,9 fact1 a good h\se-keep] %\ld "k ev]y?+2 & :5 a lady gives h] att5tion to ?is class ( h\sehold duties %e is inv>iably m successful 9 p]=m+ !m ?an a p]son ( less education & intellig5ce4 ,on ,w$nesday ! maid mu/ bake a "p ( ! bread1 cake1 & pies t w be requir$ dur+ ! week4 ,9 ?is ! mi/ress helps1 mak+ ! light pa/ry1 /on+ ! rais9s1 wa%+ ! currants1 & beat+ ! eggs4 ,v (t5 a lady fond ( cook]y makes all h] da9ty di%es1 h] dess]ts1 & h] cakes & pies4 ,%e %\ld help h]self ) all sorts ( me*anical appliances4 ,%e %\ld h ! be/ ( egg-beat]s1 sug>-sift]s1 b[ls 9 pl5ty1 & t[els & aprons ad libitum4 ,%e has1 if %e be a sy/ematic h\se-keep]1 a /ore closet1 :i* is h] pride1 ) its neat1 labell$ spice-boxes1 & its pots ( pickles & pres]ves :i* %e has made h]self1 & :i*1 !re=e1 mu/ be nice4 ,! cook+ ( meat is a ?+ :i* s affects ! heal? ( p t e lady %\ld /udy x ?or\ghly4 ,no roa/s %\ld be bak$4 ,! =mul>y s\nds l a contradiction2 b x is ! cu/om 9 h\ses :]e ! necessity ( sav+ labor is an important consid]ation1 to put ! meat t %\ld be roa/$ 9 ! ov5 & bake x4 ,?is is v improp]1 z x dries up all ! juice1 :i* is ! life-giv+1 life-su/a9+ prop]ty ( ! meat4 ,let e "y h\se-keep] buy a ,dut* ov51 & ei!r roa/ ! meat be=e ! coals ( a good wood fire1 or be=e ! grat+ ( a range1 9 :i* coals take ! place ( wood4 ,by ?is me?od %e saves ^? prop]ties ( a piece ( roa/ beef :i* are ! mo/ valuable4 ,o!rwise h] roa/ meat w be a *ip1 a ta/eless & a dry morsel1 unpalatable & indige/ible4 ,! cook+ ( vegetables is also to be /udi$2 potatoes %\ld n be ov]-boil$ or und]done1 z !y are exce$+ly unheal?y if n prop]ly cook$4 ,bread mu/ be well knead$ & delicately bak$2 a woman :o und]/&s ! uses ( fire--& e h\sehold] %\ld--has /ol5 ! secret ( ,prome!us4 ,on ,?ursday ! maid mu/ sweep ! h\se ?or\ghly1 if !re are heavy c>pets1 z ?is is "w = ! /rong-arm$ & ! /rong- h&$4 ,! mi/ress c foll[ ) ! du/+-bru% & ! clo?1 &1 aga91 ! maid may come 9 h] foot/ep ) /ep- ladd]1 & wipe (f mirrors & w9d[s4 ,_m ladies h a diff]5t cal5d> f ?is1 & pref] to h _! "w done on diff]5t days2 b :atev] may be ! sy/em = ! managem5t ( a h\se1 x %\ld be /rictly c>ri$ out1 & all ! help t may accrue f punctuality & ord] r5d]$ to a maid 9 ! dis*>ge ( h] ardu\s & multif>i\s duties4 ,mo/ families h a sort ( g5]al h\se-clean+ on ,friday3 floors are scrubb$ & brasses clean$1 ! silv] giv5 a bett] cleans+1 & ! closets exam9$1 ! knives are sc\r$ m ?or\ghly1 & ! lady puts h] l95-closet 9 ord]1 ?r[+ sweet lav5d] betwe5 ! %eets4 ,on ,saturday m bread & cake are bak$1 ! ,sunday's d9n] prep>$1 t ! maid may h h] ,sunday aft]noon out1 & ! busy week is end$ ) a clean kit*51 a well-swept & g>ni%$ h\se1 & all ! cook+ done except ! ,sunday meat & vegetables4 ,to conduct ! bus9ess ( a h\se ?r\gh ! week1 ) ?ree meals ea* day1 & all ! "w well done2 by "o maid1 is a v cr$itable ?+ to ! mi/ress4 ,! ord] :i* is ,heav5's fir/ law mu/ be h] *ief help 9 ?is difficult matt]2 %e mu/ be will+ to d mu* ( ! light "w h]self1 & %e mu/ h a "y1 /rong1 will+ maid4 ,,*apt] ,,xlvii4 ,,! ,,h\se ,,) ,,two ,,s]vants4 ,! great problem ( ! "y or middle-ag$ h\se-keep] 9 l>ge cities is h[ to =m a neat1 happy1 com=table home1 & s to ord] ! h\se t two s]vants c accompli% all its "w4 ,^! two s]vants we call ! cook & ! wait]1 & !y mu/ d all t !re is to d1 includ+ ! wa%+4 ,:5 life 0 simpl]1 ?is 0 done )\t murmur+2 b n[ x is difficult to f9d good & tra9$ s]vants1 p>ticul>ly 9 ,new ,york1 :o w fill su* places4 ,= to p]=m ! "w ( a family--to black ! boots1 sweep & wa% ! sidewalk1 att5d ! door & lay ! table1 help ) ! wa%+ & iron+1 & make ! fires1 z well z sweep & du/1 & take c>e ( ! silv]-- w\ld seem to require ! h&s ( ,bri>eus4 ,x is bett] to hire a girl = g5]al h\se-"w1 & tra9 h] = h] "w z waitress1 ?an to take "o :o has clone no?+ else b wait at table4 ,be p>ticul>1 :5 engag+ a girl1 to tell h] :at %e has to d1 z _m ( ! l(ty k9d object p>ticul>ly to black+ boots2 & z x mu/ be done1 x is bett] to def9e x at once4 ,a girl fill+ ?is position %\ld h1 fir/1 ! advantage ( sy/em1 & ! family mu/ keep regul> h\rs4 ,%e mu/ rise at six1 or e>li]1 if necess>y1 op5 ! front-door & p>lor- bl9ds1 & ! d9+-room w9d[s1 & !n proce$ to cleanse ! front /eps & sidewalk1 poli% ! bell-pull1 & make all tidy ab\t ! mats4 ,%e mu/ next make ! fires1 if fires are us$ 9 ! h\se1 & c>ry d[n ! a%es1 c>efully deposit+ !m :]e !y w n communicate fire4 ,%e mu/ !n ga!r ! boots & %oes f ! doors ( ! sleep+-rooms1 & take !m to ! laundry1 :]e %e %\ld bru% !m1 hav+ a closet !re = h] bru%es & black+4 ,hav+ replac$ ! boots beside ! respective doors to :i* !y belong1 %e %\ld make h]self neat & clean1 put on h] cap & apron1 & !n prep>e = lay+ ! table = breakfa/4 ,?is %e does n d until %e has bru%$ up ! floor1 caus$ ! fire to burn brightly1 & 9 all respects made ! d9+-room respectable4 ,! lay+ ( ! table mu/ be a c>eful & neat op]ation2 a clean clo? %\ld be put on1 ) ! fold regul>ly runn+ d[n ! middle ( ! table1 ! silv] & glass & *9a plac$ neatly & 9 ord]1 ! urn-lamp light$1 & ! wat] put to boil1 ! napk9s fre% & well-fold$1 & ! *airs drawn up 9 ord] on ei!r side4 ,x is well wor? a mi/ress's :ile to preside at ?is "w = two or ?ree morn+s1 to see t h] maid und]/&s h] wi%es4 ,all be+ 9 ord]1 ! maid may r+ a bell1 or knock at ! doors1 or r\se ! family z !y may wi%4 ,:5 breakfa/ is ov] %e removes ! di%es1 & wa%es ! silv] & *9a 9 ! pantry4 ,aft] putt+ ev]y?+ away1 & op5+ a w9d[ 9 ! d9+- room1 %e proce$s to ! b$rooms4 ,e "o %\ld1 be=e leav+ 8 b$room1 op5 a w9d[ & turn back ! clo!s1 to air ! room & ! b$ ?or\ghly4 ,if ?is has be5 neglect$1 x is ! s]vant's bus9ess to d x1 & to make ! b$s1 wa% ! bas9s1 & leave ev]y?+ v clean4 ,%e mu/ also du/ ! bureaus & tables & *airs1 hang up ! dresses1 put away ! %oes1 & set ev]y?+ 9 ord]4 ,%e !n desc5ds to ! p>lor floor1 & makes x neat1 & !nce to ! kit*51 :]e1 if %e has "t1 %e does a little wa%+2 b if !re is to be lun*eon or e>ly d9n]1 %e _c d mu* until t is prep>$1 p>ticul>ly if x is h] duty to answ] a bell4 ,9 a doctor's h\se1 or 9 a h\se :]e !re are _m calls1 "s "o to att5d exclusively at ! door is almo/ indisp5sable4 ,aft] ! e>ly d9n] or lun*1 ! maid has a few h\rs' wa%+ & iron+ be=e gett+ ready = ! late d9n] or tea1 :i* is ! important meal ( ! day4 ,if %e is sy/ematic1 & ! family are punctual1 a girl c d a great deal ( wa%+ & iron+ on ,monday1 ,tuesday1 & ,w$nesday1 ev5 if %e has to answ] ! bell2 b if %e is n sy/ematic1 & ! meals are n at regul> h\rs1 %e _c d mu*4 ,on ,?ursday1 :i* we h already designat$ z sweep+ day1 %e mu/ sweep ! :ole h\se1 all ! c>pets1 %ake ! rugs 9 ! back y>d1 %ake & sweep d[n ! heavy curta9s1 & du/ ! mirror-frames ) a long fea!r-du/]4 ,! mi/ress c help h] by insi/+ t h] family %all leave _! rooms e>ly1 & by h]self refus+ to see visitors on sweep+ day4 ,on ,friday1 9 addition to ! usual daily "w1 ! silv] mu/ be poli%$1 ! brass rubb$1 & ! closets 7:i*1 9 ! hurry ( ! week's "w1 may h be5 neglect$71 c>efully clean$ & v5tilat$1 ,on ,friday aft]noon ! napk9s & t[els %\ld be wa%$4 ,on ,saturday ^! %\ld be iron$1 & ev]y?+1 s f> z possible1 made ready = ,sunday4 ,! cook1 meantime1 %\ld rise ev5 e>li] ?an ! wait]2 %\ld desc5d 9 "t to receive ! milkman1 ! iceman1 & ! breadman2 %\ld unlock ! basem5t-door1 sweep out ! hall1 & take 9 ! b>rels :i* h be5 left out ) ! a%es & o!r refuse4 ,a cook %\ld be in/ruct$ nev] to give away ! beef-dripp+1 z1 if cl>ifi$ 9 cold wat]1 x is excell5t = fry+ oy/]s1 etc41 & saves butt]4 ,! cook %\ld air ! kit*5 & laundry1 build ! fire 9 ! range1 & sweep c>efully be=e %e beg9s to cook4 ,a c>eful h\se-keep] takes c>e t h] cook %all make h] toilet 9 h] room1 n 9 ! kit*54 ,p>ticul>ly %\ld %e be made to arrange h] hair up/airs1 z "s cooks h an exce$+ly na/y habit ( comb+ _! hair 9 ! kit*54 ,x w repay a h\se-keep] to make sev]al visits to ! kit*5 at unexpect$ h\rs4 ,cooks v>y s decid$ly 9 _! way ( prep>+ meals t no g5]al directions c be giv52 b ! be/ %\ld be made to foll[ c]ta9 rules1 & ! wor/ %\ld be wat*$ & gu>d$4 ,a great cleanl9ess z to pots & kettles1 p>ticul>ly ! teakettle1 %\ld be insi/$ ^u1 & ! closets1 pails1 b>rels1 etc41 be c>efully wat*$4 ,_m a case ( typhoid fev] c be trac$ to ! cook's slop-pail1 or closets1 or s9k1 & no lady %\ld be c>eless ( look+ into all ^! places4 ,a cook1 prop]ly tra9$1 c get up a good breakfa/ out ( rema9s ( ! d9n] ( ! prec$+ day1 or "s pick$-up cod-fi%1 toa/1 potatoes slic$ & fri$1 or ma%$1 boil$1 /ew$1 or bak$4 ,! mak+ ( good cle> c(fee is n (t5 und]/ood by ! gre5 ,iri% cook4 ,! mi/ress mu/ tea* h] ?is useful art1 & also h[ to make good tea1 al?\gh ! latt] is g5]ally made on ! table4 ,) ! s5d+ up ( ! breakfa/ comes ! fir/ *ance ( a collision betwe5 cook & wait]2 & disagreeable1 bad-temp]$ s]vants make mu* ( ?is opportunity4 ,! cook 9 city h\ses puts ! d9n] on ! dumb-wait] & s5ds x up to ! wait]1 :o takes x (f4 ,all ! heavy meat-di%es & ! greasy plates are s5t d[n to ! cook to wa%1 & h]e9 lies _m a grievance :i* ! mi/ress c anticipate & prev5t by =bidd+ ! use ( ! dumb-wait] if x leads to qu>rell+1 & by mak+ ! maids c>ry all ! plates & di%es up & d[n4 ,?is c\rse ( treatm5t w soon cure !m ( _! little temp]s4 ,9 pla9 h\seholds ! cook has mu* less to d ?an ! wait]2 %e %\ld !re=e und]take ! great] "p ( ! wa%+ & iron+4 ,_m v good cooks w d all ! wa%+ & iron+ except ! table l95 & ! t[els us$ by ! wait]2 & if ?is arrangem5t is made at fir/1 no tr\ble ensues4 ,! great tr\ble 9 mo/ h\seholds comes f ! fact t ! "w is n def9itely divid$1 & t "o s]vant decl>es t ! o!r is impos+ ^u h]4 ,if a mi/ress is fair1 honorable1 /rict1 & att5tive1 %e c ?us c>ry on a l>ge h\sehold 7if !re are no "y *ildr57 ) two en]getic s]vants4 ,%e _c1 ( c\rse1 h elegant h\se-keep+2 x is a v ardu\s und]tak+ to conduct a city h\se ) ! assi/ance ( only two p4 ,_m "y h\se- keep]s become disc\rag$1 & _m old ones d s z well1 & s5d ! wa%+ & iron+ to a public laundry4 ,b z small incomes are ! rule1 & z mo/ p mu/ economize1 x has be5 done1 & x c be done4 ,! mi/ress w f9d x to h] advantage to h a v great pr(usion ( t[els & du/]s1 & also to supply ! kit*5 ) e requisite ut5sil = cook+ a good d9n]1 or = ! execution ( ! ord9>y daily "w--su* tools z an ice-hamm]1 a c-op5]1 pl5ty ( corkscrews1 a knife- %>p5] & sev]al l>ge1 /rong knives1 a meat-*opp] & bread-baskets1 /one pots & j>s4 ,! mod]n refrig]ator has simplifi$ kit*5-"w v mu*1 & no "o :o has liv$ long en\gh to rememb] :5 x 0 n us$ c fail to bless its airy & cool closets & its ord]ly arrangem5ts4 ,! privileges ( ^! h>d-work$ s]vants %\ld be respect$4 ,an ev5+ a week1 & e o!r ,sunday aft]noon1 is a =mula n to be =gott54 ,consid] :at x is to !m6 ,p]haps a visit to a sick si/] or "m1 a recreation mu* ne$$1 a simple pleasure1 b "o :i* is to !m :at a refre%+ book1 a visit to ! op]a1 or a drive 9 ! p>k1 is to _! employ]s4 ,only a v cruel mi/ress w ev] fail to keep h] promise to a fai?ful s]vant on ^! too infrequ5t holidays4 ,! e>ly ,sunday d9n] is an inconv5i5ce1 b x is due to ! girls :o c\nt on _! ,sunday out to h x always punctually giv5 to !m4 ,_m dev\t ,ca?olics make _! *ur*-go+ some:at inconv5i5t1 b !y %\ld n be ?w>t$ 9 x4 ,x is to !m some?+ m ?an x is to ,prote/ants1 & a dev\t ,ca?olic is to be respect$ & believ$ 94 ,no d\bt !re are v bad-temp]$ & disagreeable girls :o make a pret5ce ( religion1 b ! mi/ress %\ld be sl[ to condemn1 le/ %e wrong "o :o is s9c]ely pi\s4 ,9 sickness1 ,iri% girls are g5]ally k9d & accommodat+1 be+ !mselves unselfi%1 & are apt to %[ a bett] _s 9 a "t ( tr\ble ?an ! ,sw$es1 ! ,g]mans1 or ! ,scot*1 al?\gh ! latt] are possess$ ( m intellig5ce1 & are m readily tra9$ to habits ( ord] & sy/em4 ,! w>m he>t & ! confus$ bra91 ! want ( tru?1 ( ! av]age ,iri% s]vant w p]plex & annoy :ile x t\*es ! sympa?ies ( a woman ( g5]\s _s4 ,! wom5 :o w\ld make ! be/ h\se-s]vants are ,new ,engl& girls :o h be5 br\ght up 9 poor b com=table homes4 ,b !y w n be s]vants4 ,!y h imbib$ ! fooli% idea t ! position ( a girl :o does h\se-"w is inf]ior 9 g5tility to t ( "o :o works 9 a factory1 or a pr9t+-(fice1 or a mill9]'s %op4 ,x is a great mi/ake1 & "o :i* fills ! c\ntry ) incapable wives = ! work+-man2 = a woman :o _c make bread or cook a dec5t d9n] is a fraud if %e m>ry a poor man :o expects h] to d x4 ,t w\ld be a good & a great woman :o w\ld prea* a crusade aga9/ ?is false doctr9e--:o w\ld say to ! "y wom5 ( h] neighborhood1 ,i w give a m>riage portion to any ( y :o w g into dome/ic s]vice1 become good cooks & wait]s1 & w br+ me y\r c]tificates ( effici5cy at ! end ( five ye>s4 ,& if ^? :o employ c\ld h ^! cle> bra9s & ?rifty h&s1 h[ mu* m w\ld !y be will+ to give 9 doll>s & c5ts a mon?6 ,,*apt] ,,xlviii4 ,,! ,,h\se ,,) ,,_m ,,s]vants4 ,a lady :o assumes ! control ( an elegant h\se )\t previ\s tra9+ _h bett]1 = a ye> at lea/1 employ an ,engli% h\se- keep]1 :o w tea* h] ! sy/em necess>y to make s _m s]vants "w prop]ly toge!r2 =1 unless %e kn[s h[ to manage !m1 ea* s]vant w be a tr\ble in/ead ( a help1 & !re w be no end to t exasp]at+ compla9t1 ,t is n my "w4 ,! ,engli% h\se-keep] is giv5 full p[] by h] mi/ress to hire & dis*>ge s]vants1 to arrange _! meals1 _! h\rs1 & _! duties1 s z to make ! dome/ic :eels run smoo?ly1 & to a*ieve t p]fection ( s]vice :i* all :o h /ay$ 9 an ,engli% h\se c appreciate4 ,%e is a p]sonage ( mu* importance 9 ! h\se4 ,%e g5]ally dresses 9 moire antique1 & is l(ty 9 h] mann]s4 ,%e alone1 except ! maid1 approa*es ! mi/ress1 & receives su* g5]al ord]s z t lady may *oose to give4 ,! h\se-keep] has h] own room1 :]e %e takes h] meals alone1 or invites ^? :om %e wi%es to eat ) h]4 ,?us we see 9 ,engli% novels t ! *ildr5 sometimes take tea 9 ! h\se- keep]'s room4 ,x is g5]ally a com=table & snug place4 ,b 9 ?is c\ntry v few su* h\se-keep]s c be f\nd4 ,! be/ t c be done is to secure ! s]vices ( an effici5t p]son cont5t to be a s]vant h]self1 :o w be a c>e-tak]1 & w tra9 ! butl]1 ! footm51 & ! maid-s]vants 9 _! respective duties4 ,twelve s]vants are n infrequ5tly employ$ 9 l>ge h\ses 9 ?is c\ntry1 & 9 ,new ,york & at ,newport (t5 a l>g] numb]4 ,^!1 ) ! /aff ( assi/ants requir$ to cook & wa% = !m1 =m a l>ge =ce = a lady to control4 ,! h\se-keep] %\ld hire ! cook & scull]y-maid1 & be responsible = !m2 %e ord]s ! d9n] 7if ! lady *ooses72 %e gives out ! /ores2 ! h\se l95 is "u h] *>ge1 & %e mu/ att5d to m5d+ & repl5i%+ x2 %e mu/ wat* ov] ! *9a & silv]1 & e day visit all ! b$rooms to see t ! *amb]-maids h done _! duty1 & t writ+-pap] & ink & p5s are laid on ! tables ( invit$ gue/s1 & t c&les1 mat*es1 & soap & t[els are 9 _! respective places4 ,a h\se-keep] %\ld be able to make f9e dess]ts1 & to att5d to all ! sew+ ( ! family1 ) ! assi/ance ( a maid--t is1 ! m5d+1 & ! hemm+ ( ! t[els1 etc4 ,%e %\ld be firm & me?odical1 ) a natural habit ( comm&1 & imp>tial 9 h] deal+s1 b /rict & exact+2 %e %\ld compel ea* s]vant to d 8 duty1 z %e repres5ts ! mi/ress1 & %\ld be inve/$ ) h] au?ority4 ,x is %e :o mu/ receive ! dess]t :5 x comes f ! d9+-room1 wat* ! half-empti$ bottles ( w9e1 :i* m5- s]vants ne>ly always appropriate = _! own use1 & be1 9 all respects1 a wat*-dog = h] ma/]1 z 9 l>ge families s]vants are prone to /eal all t may fall 9 _! way4 ,un=tunately a bad h\se-keep] is worse ?an none1 & c /eal to h] he>t's cont5t4 ,su* a "o1 hir$ by a c>eless1 pleasure- lov+ lady 9 ,new ,york1 /ole 9 a twelvemon? en\gh to live on = sev]al ye>s4 ,! h\se-keep] & ! butl] are seldom fri5ds1 & consequ5tly _m p consid] x wise to hire a m>ri$ c\ple compet5t to p]=m ! duties ( ^! two positions4 ,if ! two are hone/1 ?is is an excell5t arrangem5t4 ,! butl] is answ]able = ! prop]ty put 9 8 *>ge1 & = ! prop] p]=mance ( ! duties ( ! footm5 "u 8 control4 ,he mu/ be ! judge ( :at m5 c & %\ld d4 ,he is giv5 ! c>e ( ! w9e1 al?\gh e g5tleman %\ld keep ! keys1 only giv+ j s mu* to ! butl] z he int5ds %all be us$ ea* day4 ,! plate is giv5 to ! butl]1 & he is made responsible = any articles miss+2 he also sees to ! pantry1 b has a maid or a footman to wa% ! di%es & cleanse ! silv]4 ,all ! arrangem5ts = d9n] devolve ^u him1 & :5 x is s]v$ he /&s beh9d 8 mi/ress's *air4 ,he looks aft] ! footman :o answ]s ! bell1 & takes c>e t he %all be prop]ly dress$ & at 8 po/4 ,9 h\ses :]e !re are two or ?ree footm5 ! butl] s]ves breakfa/1 lun*eon1 tea1 & d9n]1 assi/$ by su* ( 8 acolytes z he may *oose4 ,he %\ld also wait ^u 8 ma/]1 if requir$1 see t ! libr>y & smok+-room are air$ & 9 ord]1 ! newspap] br\ght 91 ! magaz9es cut1 & ! pap]- knife 9 its place4 ,_m g5tlem5 9 ?is c\ntry s5d _! butl]s to m>ket1 & leave entirely to !m ! arrangem5t ( ! table4 ,if !re is b "o footman 9 a l>ge h\se1 ! butl] has a great deal to d1 p>ticul>ly if ! family be a hospitable "o4 ,:5 ! footman is out ) ! c>riage ! butl] answ]s ! front-door bell1 b 9 v elegant h\ses !re are g5]ally two footm51 z ?is is n /rictly ! duty ( a butl]4 ,a lady's-maid is indisp5sable to ladies :o visit mu*1 b ?is class ( s]vant is ! mo/ difficult to manage4 ,ladies'-maids mu/ be told1 :5 hir$1 t !y c h no su* position 9 ,am]ica z !y h 9 ,engl&3 t !y mu/ make _! own b$s1 wa% _! own clo?+1 & eat ) ! o!r s]vants4 ,!y mu/ be fir/-rate hair-dress]s1 good pack]s ( trunks1 & und]/& dress-mak+ & f9e />*+1 & be amiable1 will+1 & pleasant4 ,a woman :o comb9es ^! qualifications comm&s v high wages1 & expects1 z h] p]quisite1 h] mi/ress's ca/-(f dresses4 ,fr5* maids are 9 great dem&1 z !y h a natural ta/e 9 all ?+s p]ta9+ to dress & ! toilet1 b !y are apt to be untru?ful & trea*]\s4 ,if a lady c get a peasant girl f "s rural di/rict1 %e w f9d h] a mo/ useful & valuable maid aft] %e has be5 taught4 ,_m ladies educate "s clev] girl :o has be5 maid = ! position ( h\se-keep]1 & su* a p]son1 :o c be tru/$ to hire an assi/ant1 becomes invaluable4 ,%e (t5 accompli%es all ! dress-mak+ & sew+ = ! h\sehold1 & h] sal>y ( ?irty doll>s a mon? is well e>n$4 ,z ! duties ( a lady's-maid1 :]e !re are "y ladies1 include att5d+ !m 9 ! /reets & to p>ties1 %e %\ld be a p]son ( unque/ion$ respectability4 ,! maid %\ld br+ up ! hot wat] = h] ladies1 & an e>ly cup ( tea1 prep>e _! ba?1 assi/ at _! toilet1 put _! clo!s away1 be ready to aid 9 e *ange ( dress1 put out _! v>i\s dresses = rid+1 d9+1 walk+1 & = aft]noon tea1 dress _! hair = d9n]1 & be ready to f9d = !m _! gloves1 %oes1 & o!r belong+s4 ,a maid c be1 & g5]ally is1 ! mo/ disagreeable ( creatures2 b "s ladies h ! tact to make good s]vants out ( mo/ unpromis+ mat]ials4 ,! maid1 if %e does n accompany h] mi/ress to a p>ty & wait = h] 9 ! dress+-room1 %\ld await h] arrival at home1 assi/ h] to undress1 comb & bru% h] hair1 & get ready ! ba?4 ,%e %\ld also h a cup ( hot tea or *ocolate 9 read9ess = h]4 ,%e mu/ keep h] clo!s 9 ord]1 sew new ruffles 9 h] dresses1 & d all ! mill9]y & dress-mak+ requir$ ( h]4 ,v (t5 ! maid is requir$ to att5d to ! bric- -brac & pretty ornam5ts ( ! mantel1 to keep fre% fl[]s 9 ! draw+-room or b$room1 &1 above all1 to wa% ! pet dog4 ,z almo/ all wom5 are fond ( dogs1 ?is is n a disagreeable duty to a ,fr5* maid1 & %e gives ,fif9e 8 ba? )\t grumbl+4 ,b if %e be expect$ to speak ,fr5* to ! *ildr51 %e sometimes rebels1 p>ticul>ly if %e & ! nurse %\ld n be good fri5ds4 ,a lady1 9 hir+ a maid1 %\ld specify ! extra duties %e w be requir$ to p]=m1 & ?us give h] ! option ( refus+ ! situation4 ,if %e accepts x1 %e mu/ be made /rictly to acc\nt = any neglect or omission ( h] "w4 ,a maid ) an indulg5t mi/ress is free 9 ! ev5+s1 aft] eight o'clock1 & e ,sunday aft]noon4 ,9 families :]e !re are _m *ildr51 two nurses are frequ5tly requir$--a head nurse & an assi/ant4 ,! nurs]y gov]ness is mu* (t5] employ$ n[ 9 ?is c\ntry ?an 9 =m] ye>s4 ,?is position is (t5 fill$ by well-mann]$ & well-educat$ "y wom51 :o are ! daught]s ( poor m51 & oblig$ to e>n _! own liv+4 ,^! "y wom51 if !y are good & amiable1 are invaluable to _! mi/resses4 ,!y p]=m ! duties ( a nurse1 wa% & dress ! *ildr51 eat ) !m & tea* !m1 ! nurs]y-maid do+ ! co>se1 r\gh "w ( ! nurs]y4 ,if a good nurs]y gov]ness c be f\nd1 %e is wor? h] weight 9 gold to h] employ]4 ,%e %\ld n cat ) ! s]vants2 !re %\ld be a sep>ate table = h] & h] *>ges4 ,?is meal is prep>$ by ! kit*5-maid1 :o is a v important function>y1 almo/ an "u-cook1 z ! *ief cook 9 su* an e/abli%m5t z we are describ+ is absorb$ 9 ! composition ( ! gr& di%es & d9n]s4 ,! kit*5-maid %\ld be a good pla9-cook1 & clev] 9 mak+ ! di%es suitable = *ildr54 ,mu* ( ! elem5t>y cook+ = ! d9+-room1 su* z ! f\ndation = sauces & s\ps1 & ! roa/$ & boil$ jo9ts1 is requir$ ( h]1 & %e also cooks ! s]vants' d9n]1 :i* %\ld be an entirely diff]5t meal f t s]v$ 9 ! d9+-room4 ,n9e meals a day are usually cook$ 9 a family liv+ 9 ?is mann]--breakfa/ = s]vants1 *ildr51 & ! ma/] & mi/ress1 ?ree2 *ildr5's d9n]1 s]vants' d9n]1 & lun*eon1 ano!r ?ree2 & ! gr& d9n] at sev51 ! *ildr5's tea1 & ! s]vants' supp]1 ! rema9+ ?ree4 ,:]e two footm5 are 9 att5dance1 ! head footman att5ds ! door1 waits on 8 mi/ress :5 %e drives out1 c>ries notes1 assi/s ! butl]1 lays ! table & cle>s x1 & wa%es glass1 *9a1 & silv]4 ,! "u-footman rises at six1 makes fires1 cleans boots1 trims & cleans ! lamps1 op5s ! %utt]s & ! front-door1 sweeps d[n ! /eps1 &1 inde$1 does ! r\gh] "p ( ! "w be=e ! o!r s]vants beg9 _! daily duties4 ,ea* %\ld be )\t mu/a*e1 clean %av51 & clad 9 neat liv]y4 ,8 l95 & :ite neck-tie %\ld be1 :5 he appe>s to wait on ! family at table or 9 any capacity1 immaculate4 ,! s]vants' meals %\ld be punctual & pl5te\s1 al?\gh n luxuri\s4 ,x is a bad plan to fe$ s]vants on ! luxuries ( ! ma/]'s table1 b a good cook w be able to comp\nd di%es = ! kit*5 t w be savory & palatable4 ,,*apt] ,,xlix4 ,,mann]s4--,a ,,/udy ,,= ,,! ,,awkw>d ,,& ,,! ,,%y4 ,x is a com=t to ^? ( u :o h felt ! cold p]spiration />t on ! br[1 at ! prospect ( ent]+ an unaccu/om$ sph]e1 to rememb] t ! be/ m5 & wom5 :om ! _w has kn[n h be51 9 _! day1 afflict$ ) %yness4 ,inde$1 x is to ! pa/ t we mu/ ref] :5 ! t]rible disease seizes u1 :5 ! tongue becomes dry 9 ! m\?1 ! h&s tremble1 & ! knees knock toge!r4 ,:o does n pity ! trembl+ boy :51 on ! ev5+ ( 8 fir/ p>ty1 he succumbs to ?is dreadful malady8 ,! color comes 9 spots on 8 face1 & 8 h&s are cold & clammy4 ,he sits d[n on ! /airs & wi%es he 7 dead4 ,a /range s5sation is runn+ d[n 8 back4 ,come1 ,pet]1 *e] up1 8 "m says1 n d>+ to tell him h[ %e sympa?izes ) him4 ,he is afraid to be afraid1 he is a%am$ to be a%am$4 ,no?+ c equal ?is mom5t ( agony4 ,! :ole room looks black be=e him z "s *ipp] little girl1 :o kn[s n ! mean+ ( ! ^w emb>rassm5t1 comes to greet him4 ,he crawls (f to ! fri5dly %elt] ( a gr\p ( boys1 & sees ! crav5 ( ! playgr\nd1 ! dunce ( ! s*ool1 ) a wond]ful self-possession1 lead (f 9 ! g]man ) ! prettie/ girl4 ,z he gr[s old]1 & becomes ! "y man ^: duty x is to g to d9n]s & aft]noon p>ties1 ?is t]rible weakness w aga9 ov]come him4 ,he has done well at college1 c make a v good spee* at ! club supp]s1 b at ! door ( a p>lor he feels himself a drivell+ idiot4 ,he assumes a c\rage1 if he has x n1 & da%es into a room 7:i* is full ( p7 z he w\ld attack a =lorn hope4 ,!re is safety 9 numb]s1 & he retires to a corn]4 ,:5 he goes to a tea-p>ty a batt]y ( fem99e eyes gazes at him ) a critical p]ception ( 8 y\? & rawness4 ,kn[+ t he ought to be supremely graceful & s]5e1 he /umbles ov] a foot/ool1 & he>s a suppress$ giggle4 ,he rea*es 8 ho/ess1 & wi%es %e 7 ! cannon's m\?1 9 ord] t 8 suff]+s might be end$2 b %e is n4 ,8 agony is to la/ ! :ole ev5+4 ,tea-p>ties are et]nal3 !y nev] end2 !y are l ! old-fa%ion$ ideas ( a future /ate ( torm5t--!y gr[ hott] & m /ifl+4 ,z ! ev5+ advances t[>ds et]nity he upsets ! cream-jug4 ,he summons all 8 w-p[]1 or he w\ld run away4 ,no2 retreat is impossible4 ,"o mu/ die at ! po/ ( duty4 ,he ?9ks ( all ! =mulas ( c\rage--,none b ! brave des]ve ! fair1 ,he ei!r fe>s 8 fate too mu*1 or 8 des]ts are small1 ,!re is no su* c[>d z self-consci\sness1 etc4 ,b ^! maxima are ( no avail4 ,8 feet are feet ( clay1 n good to /& on1 only good to /umble )4 ,8 h&s are cold1 tremul\s1 & useless4 ,!re is a v disagreeable feel+ 9 ! back ( 8 neck1 & a sp9n+ s5sation ab\t ! bra94 ,a que] rumbl+ seizes 8 e>s4 ,he has he>d t consci5ce makes c[>ds ( u all4 ,:at mortal s9 has he committ$8 ,8 moral s5se answ]s back1 ,none4 ,y are only t poor creature1 a ba%ful y\?4 ,& he bravely calls on all 8 n]ves1 muscles1 & bra9s to help him ?r\gh ?is ordeal4 ,he sees ! pity+ eyes ( ! woman to :om he is talk+ turn away f 8 c\nt5ance 7on :i* he kn[s t all 8 mis]able %yness has writt5 itself 9 legible *>act]s74 ,& ?is humiliation1 too8 he asks ( himself1 z %e br+s him ! usual refuge ( ! awkw>d--a portfolio ( photographs to look at4 ,wom5 are seldom tr\bl$1 at ! age at :i* m5 suff]1 ) ba%fulness or awkw>dness4 ,x is z if ,nature ?us comp5sat$ ! weak] vessel4 ,cruel are ^? wom51 h[ev]1 & mo/ to be reprobat$1 :o laugh at a ba%ful man6 ,! suff]+s ( a %y man w\ld fill a volume4 ,x is a n]v\s seizure = :i* no "p ( 8 organization is to blame2 he _c reason x away1 he c only cru% x by endur+ x3 ,to be> is to conqu] our ,fate4 ,"s m51 f9d+ ! play n wor? ! c&le1 give up society & ! _w2 o!rs g on1 suff]1 & come out cool vet]ans :o fe> no tea-p>ty1 h[ev] ov]:elm+ x may be4 ,x is ! prop] prov9ce ( p>5ts to h _! *ildr5 taught all ! accompli%m5ts ( ! body1 t !y1 l ! anci5t ,greeks1 may "k t e muscle w obey ! bra94 ,a %y1 awkw>d boy %\ld be tra9$ 9 danc+1 f5c+1 box+2 he %\ld be in/ruct$ 9 music1 elocution1 & public speak+2 he %\ld be s5t into society1 :atev] x may co/ him at fir/1 z c]ta9ly z he %\ld be s5t to ! d5ti/'s4 ,8 pres5t suff]+s may save him f lifelong annoyance4 ,to ! v be/ m5--! mo/ le>n$1 ! mo/ graceful1 ! mo/ eloqu5t1 ! mo/ successful--has come at "s "o "t or o!r ! dreadful agony ( ba%fulness4 ,inde$1 x is ! high] ord] ( man be+ t x mo/ surely attacks2 x is ! precursor ( _m excell5ces1 &1 l ! knight's vigil1 if pati5tly & bravely borne1 ! knight is twice ! h]o4 ,x is ?is recollection1 :i* c alone assuage ! suff]]1 t he %\ld always c>ry ) him4 ,he %\ld rememb] t ! comp\nd :i* he calls himself is ( all ?+s mo/ mix$4 ,! web ( our life is ( a m+l$ y>n1 good & ill toge!r4 ,two antagoni/ic races--x may be 8 ,gr&fa!r ,br[n & 8 ,gr&mo!r ,williams--are /ruggl+ 9 him = ! ma/]y2 & _! exce$+ly opposite natures are pull+ 8 arms & legs asund]4 ,he has to h>monize ?is antagonism be=e he becomes himself1 & x adds mu* to 8 confusion to see t poor little pret5d]1 ,tom ,titm\se1 talk+ & laugh+ & mak+ m]ry4 ,!re are1 h[ev]1 no ance/ral div]sities fight+ = ! possession ( ,tom ,titm\se4 ,! gr&fa!rs & gr&mo!rs ( ,tom ,titm\se 7 n p ( /rong "*2 !y 7 a decor\s race on bo? sides1 ) no heavy intellectual burd5s1 good en\gh p :o wore well4 ,b does our ba%ful man "k ?is8 ,no4 ,he simply rememb]s a passage 9 ! ,odyssey :i* ,tom ,titm\se c\ld n con/rue1 b :i* ! ba%ful man read1 to ! delight ( ! tutor3 ,o gods6 ,h[ belov$ he is1 & h[ honor$ by all m5 to :atsoev] l& or city he comes6 ,he br+s mu* booty f ,troy1 b we1 hav+ accompli%$ ! same j\rney1 are return+ home hav+ empty h&s6 ,& ?is mess5g] f ,troy is ,tom ,titm\se6 ,n t all poor s*ol>s & inf]ior m5 h f9e mann]s1 nor d all good s*ol>s & sup]ior m5 fail 9 ! draw+-room4 ,no rule is )\t an exception4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 a com=t to ^? :o are awkw>d & %y to rememb] t _m ( ! great & good & sup]ior m5 :o live 9 hi/ory h suff]$1 ev5 z !y suff]1 f ! p9-pricks ( ba%fulness4 ,! fir/ refuge ( ! inexp]i5c$1 ba%ful p]son is (t5 to assume a mann] ( extreme hauteur4 ,?is is1 p]haps1 a natural f5ce--or def5ce2 x is1 inde$1 a v conv5i5t armor1 & _m a woman has f\ght h] battle beh9d x ?r\gh life4 ,no d\bt x is ! armor ( ! _m s-call$ frigid p]sons1 male & female1 :o mu/ ei!r suff] ! pangs ( ba%fulness1 or affect a coldness :i* !y d n feel4 ,"s p are naturally encas$ 9 a column ( ice :i* !y _c break1 b )9 is a f\nta9 :i* w\ld bur/ out at ! lips 9 words ( k9dl9ess if only ! tongue c\ld speak !m4 ,^! limitations ( nature are v /range2 we _c expla9 !m4 ,x is only by ref]r+ to ,gr&fa!r ,br[n & ,gr&mo!r ,williams aga9 t we und]/& !m at all4 ,"o p]son w be furni%$ ) v l>ge feet & v small h&s1 ) a head disproportionately l>ge = ! body1 or "o z rem>kably small4 ,diff]5ces ( race mu/ acc\nt = ^! ecc5tricities ( nature2 we _c o!rwise expla9 !m1 nor ! m5tal antagonisms1 ,b ! awkw>d & ! %y d n always take refuge 9 a cold mann]2 ,sometimes !y /udy mann] z !y w\ld ! small-sword ex]cise1 & exploit x-) equal f]vor4 ,exagg]ation ( mann] is q z common a refuge = ^! un=tunates z ! o!r extreme ( calmness4 ,!y r5d] !mselves ridicul\s by ! l[ness ( _! b[s & ! vivid picturesqu5ess ( _! spee*4 ,!y1 z x 71 bur/ ! b\nds ( ! calyx1 & ! fl[] op5s too wide4 ,symmetry is lo/1 graceful outl9e is de/roy$4 ,_m a ba%ful man1 ?9k+ ( ,tom ,titm\se1 has become an acrobat 9 8 det]m9ation to be lively & easy4 ,he %\ld rememb] ! ju/e milieu1 recomm5d$ by ,%akespe>e :5 he says1 ,!y are z sick t surfeit ) too mu*4 ,z !y t />ve ) no?+4 ,! happy p :o are born unconsci\s ( _! bodies1 :o gr[ ?r\gh life m & m graceful1 easy1 cordial1 & agreeable2 ! happy few ,:o 7 nev] ba%ful1 nev] n]v\s1 nev] _h clammy h&s1 !y ne$ n read ^! pages--!y are n writt5 = su* bless$ eyes4 ,x is = ! well-mean+1 b %y & awkw>d1 p t ! mann]s ( artificial society are mo/ useful4 ,= ! b5efit ( su* p]sons we mu/ improve a c]emonial nicety into a sub/antial duty1 else we %all see a cultivat$ s*ol> confus$ be=e a set ( giggl+ girls1 & a man :o is all ,wisdom1 valor & le>n+1 play+ ! donkey at an ev5+ p>ty4 ,if he lack ! inf]ior arts ( polite behavior1 :o w take ! tr\ble to discov] a ,sir ,walt] ,raleigh beh9d 8 cravat8 ,a man :o is con/ra9$1 uneasy1 & ungraceful1 c spoil ! happ9ess ( a doz5 p4 ,!re=e he is b\nd to create an artificial mann]1 if a natural "o does n come to him1 rememb]+ always t mann]s are %ad[s ( virtues4 ,! mann]s ( artificial society h ?is to comm5d !m3 !y m$itate ! greate/ good to ! greate/ numb]4 ,we d n l ! ^w artificial1 or to comm5d any?+ :i* is suppos$ to be ! antipodes ( ! ^w s9c]e1 b x is a recipe1 a doctor's prescription t we are recomm5d+ z a cure = a disease4 ,good mann]s are to special societies :at good morals are to society 9 g5]al--_! cem5t & _! security4 ,true polit5ess creates p]fect ease & fre$om2 x & its ess5ce is to treat o!rs z y w\ld h o!rs treat y4 ,!re=e1 z y "k h[ emb>rass+ emb>rassm5t is to ev]ybody else1 /rive n to be emb>rass$4 ,,*apt] ,l4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,treat ,a ,,gue/4 ,no "o possess$ ( 8 s5ses w\ld invite a p]son to 8 c\ntry h\se = ! purpose ( mak+ him unhappy4 ,at lea/ s we %\ld say at fir/ ?\ght4 ,b x is an obvi\s fact t v _m gue/s are invit$ to ! c\ntry h\ses ( _! fri5ds1 & are made extremely mis]able :ile !re4 ,!y h to rise at unusual h\rs1 eat :5 !y are n hungry1 drive or walk or play t5nis :5 !y w\ld pref] to d ev]y?+ else1 & !y are oblig$ to give up ^? h\rs :i* are preci\s to !m = o!r duties or pleasures2 s t _m p1 aft] an exp]i5ce ( visit+1 are apt to say1 ,no m ( ! slav]y ( visit+ = me1 if y please6 ,n[ ! ,engli% 9 _! va/ c\ntry h\ses h r$uc$ ! cu/om ( visit+ & receiv+ _! fri5ds to a sy/em4 ,!y are said to be 9 all respects ! be/ ho/s 9 ! _w1 ! ma/]s ( ! lett+-alone sy/em4 ,a man :o owns a spl5did place ne> ,london invites a gue/ = ?ree days or m1 & c>efully sugge/s :5 he %all come & :5 he %all g--a v great po9t 9 hospitality4 ,he is invit$ to come by ! ?ree o'clock tra9 on ,monday1 & to leave by ! f\r o'clock tra9 on ,?ursday4 ,t means t he %all arrive be=e d9n] on ,monday1 & leave aft] lun*eon on ,?ursday4 ,if a gue/ _c acc$e to ^! h\rs1 he mu/ write & say s4 ,once arriv$1 he r>ely meets 8 ho/ or ho/ess until d9n]-"t4 ,he is conduct$ to 8 room1 a cup ( tea ) "s light refre%m5t is provid$1 & ! well-br$ s]vant 9 att5dance says at :at h\r be=e d9n] he w be receiv$ 9 ! draw+-room4 ,x is possible t "s memb] ( ! family may be dis5gag$ & may propose a drive be=e d9n]1 b ?is is n (t5 done2 ! gue/ is left to himself or h]self until d9n]4 ,g5]al & ,mrs4 ,grant 7 %[n to _! rooms at ,w9dsor ,ca/le1 & lock$ up !re1 :5 !y visit$ ! ,que51 until ! /ew>d came to tell !m t d9n] w\ld be s]v$ 9 half an h\r2 !y 7 !n conduct$ to ! gr& salon1 :]e ! ,que5 pres5tly ent]$4 ,9 less /ately resid5ces v mu* ! same c]emony is obs]v$4 ,! ho/ess1 aft] d9n] & be=e ! sep>ation = ! night1 tells h] gue/s t horses w be at _! disposal ! next morn+1 & also asks if !y w\ld l to play lawn- t5nis1 if !y wi% to explore ! p>k1 at :at h\r !y w breakfa/1 or if !y w breakfa/ 9 _! rooms4 ,lun*eon is at "o2 & %e w be happy to see !m at t in=mal meal4 ,?us ! gue/ has be=e him ! enviable privilege ( sp5d+ ! day z he pleases4 ,he ne$ n talk unless he *oose2 he may take a book & w&] (f "u ! trees2 he may take a horse & explore ! c\nty1 or he may drive 9 a victoria1 phaeton1 or any o!r sort ( c>riage4 ,to a lady :o has h] lett]s to write1 h] novel to read1 or h] e>ly heada*e to manage1 ?is lib]ty is preci\s4 ,x mu/ also be said t no "o is all[$ to feel neglect$ 9 an ,engli% h\se4 ,if a lady gue/ says1 ,i am a /rang]2 ,i %\ld l to see y\r f9e h\se & y\r lovely p>k1 "s "o is f\nd to accompany h]4 ,seldom ! ho/ess1 = %e has mu* else to d2 b !re is (t5 a s+le si/]1 a c\s91 or a v intellig5t gov]ness1 :o is summon$4 ,9 our c\ntry we _c (f] our gue/s all ^! advantages2 we c1 h[ev]1 (f] !m _! fre$om1 & give !m1 ) our limit$ hospitality1 _! *oice ( h\rs = breakfa/ & _! fre$om f our society4 ,b ! que/ion] may ask1 ,:y invite gue/s1 unless we wi% to see !m8 ,we d wi% to see !m--a "p ( ! day1 n ! :ole day4 ,no "o c sit & talk all day4 ,! ho/ess %\ld h h] privilege ( retir+ aft] ! mid-day meal1 ) h] novel1 = a nap1 & s %\ld ! gue/3 ,well-br$ p und]/& all ?is1 & are glad to give up ! pleasure ( social int]c\rse = an h\r ( solitude4 ,!re is no?+ s sure to repay "o 9 ! long run z ^! quiet h\rs4 ,if a lady invites ano!r to visit h] at ,newport or ,s>atoga1 %e %\ld ev9ce h] ?\ght = h] gue/'s com=t by provid+ h] ) horses & c>riage to pay h] own visits1 to take h] own drives1 or to d h] %opp+4 ,( c\rse1 ! pleasure ( two fri5ds is g5]ally to be toge!r1 & to d ! same ?+s2 b sometimes x is q ! rev]se4 ,! ta/es & habits ( two p /ay+ 9 ! same h\se may be v diff]5t1 & ea* %\ld respect ! peculi>ities ( ! o!r4 ,x co/s little "t & no money = an opul5t ,newport ho/ess to f9d out :at h] gue/ wi%es to d ) h] day1 & %e c easily1 ) a little tact1 all[ h] to be happy 9 h] own way4 ,g5tlem5 und]/& ?is mu* bett] ?an ladies1 & a g5tleman gue/ is all[$ to d v mu* z he pleases at ,newport4 ,no "o asks any?+ ab\t 8 plans = ! day1 except if he w d9e at home4 ,8 ho/ess may ask him to drive or ride ) h]1 or to g to ! ,cas9o1 p]haps2 b if %e be a well-br$ woman ( ! _w %e w n be angry if he refuses4 ,a lady gue/ has n1 h[ev]1 su* fre$om2 %e is apt to be a slave1 f ! fact t z yet ! ,am]ican ho/ess has n le>n$ t ! true/ hospitality is to let h] gue/ alone1 & to all[ h] to enjoy h]self 9 h] own way4 ,a ?or\ghly well-br$ gue/ makes no tr\ble 9 a h\se2 %e has ! in/9ct ( a lady1 & is c>eful t no plan ( h] ho/ess %all be dis>rang$ by h] pres5ce4 ,%e m5tions all h]1 sep>ate invitations1 desires to "k :5 h] ho/ess wi%es h] pres5ce1 if ! c>riage c take h] hi!r & yon1 or if %e may be all[$ to hire a c>riage4 ,!re are ho/esses1 "h & 9 ,engl&1 :o d n invite gue/s to _! h\ses = ! purpose ( mak+ !m happy1 b to add to _! own importance4 ,su* ho/esses are n apt to consid] ! individual rights ( any "o1 & !y use a gue/ m]ely to add to ! brilliancy ( _! p>ties1 & to make ! h\se m fa%ionable & attractive4 ,"s ill-br$ wom51 9 ord] to %[ _! p[]1 ev5 insult & ill treat ! p :o h accept$ _! pr(f]$ hospitality4 ,?is class ( ho/ess is1 =tunately1 n common1 b x is n unkn[n4 ,a ho/ess %\ld rememb] t1 :5 %e asks p to visit h]1 %e has two v important duties to p]=m--"o1 n to neglect h] gue/s2 ! o!r1 n to we>y !m by too mu* att5tion4 ,nev] give a gue/ ! impression t he is be+ ent]ta9$1 t he is on y\r m9d2 foll[ ! daily life ( y\r h\sehold & ( y\r duties z y desire1 tak+ c>e t y\r gue/ is nev] 9 an unpleasant position or neglect$4 ,if y h a tiresome gue/ :o insi/s ^u foll[+ y ar\nd & weigh+ heavily on y\r h&s1 be firm1 g to y\r own room1 & lock ! door4 ,if y h a sulky gue/ :o looks bor$1 ?r[ op5 ! libr>y-door1 ord] ! c>riage1 & make y\r own escape4 ,b if y h a v agreeable gue/ :o %[s e desire to please & be pleas$1 give t model gue/ ! privilege ( *oos+ h] own h\rs & h] own retirem5t4 ,! *>m ( an ,am]ican c\ntry-h\se is1 g5]ally1 t x is a home1 & sacr$ to home duties4 ,a model gue/ nev] infr+es = "o mom5t on ! rights ( ! ma/] ( ! h\se4 ,%e nev] spoils 8 d9n] or 8 drive by be+ late2 %e nev] s5ds him back to br+ h] p>asol2 %e nev] abuses 8 fri5ds or ! family dog2 %e is c>eful to ab/a9 f disagreeable topics2 %e jo9s 8 :i/-table if %e kn[s h[ to play2 b %e ought nev] to be oblig$ to rise an h\r e>li] ?an h] wont because he wi%es to take an e>ly tra9 = t[n4 ,^! e>ly-morn+1 p]functory breakfa/s are n times = conv]sation1 & !y ru9 ! day = _m bad sleep]s4 ,9 a c\ntry neighborhood a ho/ess has sometimes to ask h] gue/s to g to *ur* to he> a /upid prea*]1 & to g to h] c\ntry neighbors1 to become acqua9t$ ) :at may be ! slav]y ( c\ntry p>ties4 ,! gue/ %\ld always be all[$ to refuse ^! hospitalities2 &1 if he be a tir$ t[nsman1 he w pref] ! g>d51 ! woodl&1 ! retirem5t ( ! c\ntry1 to any *ur* or tea-p>ty 9 ! _w4 ,he _c ent] into 8 ho/'s int]e/s or 8 neighbor's4 ,leave him to 8 solitude if 9 t is 8 happ9ess4 ,at ,newport gue/ & ho/ess h (t5 diff]5t fri5ds & diff]5t invitations4 ,:5 ?is is und]/ood1 no tr\ble ensues if ! ho/ & ho/ess g out to d9n] & leave ! gue/ at home4 ,x (t5 happ5s t ?is is done1 & no lady ( good-bre$+ takes (f5ce4 ,( c\rse a nice d9n] is prep>$ = h]1 & %e is (t5 ask$ to invite a fri5d to %>e x4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ! gue/ (t5 has invitations :i* d n include ! ho/ess4 ,^! %\ld be spok5 ( 9 good season1 s t none ( ! ho/ess's plans may be dis>rang$1 t ! c>riage may be ord]$ 9 "t1 & ! gue/ s5t = at ! prop] h\r4 ,well-br$ p always accept ^! cont+5cies z a matt] ( c\rse1 & are nev] disconc]t$ by !m4 ,!re is no (fice 9 ! _w :i* %\ld be fill$ ) su* punctili\s' devotion1 propriety1 & self-respect z t ( ho/ess4 ,if a lady ev] all[s h] gue/ to feel t %e is a cause ( inconv5i5ce1 %e violates ! fir/ rule ( hospitality4 ,if %e fail 9 any way 9 h] obligations z ho/ess to a gue/ :om %e has invit$1 %e %[s h]self to be ill-br$ & ignorant ( ! fir/ pr9ciples ( polit5ess4 ,%e might bett] invite twelve p to d9n] & !n ask !m to d9e on ! pavem5t ?an ignore or )draw f a writt5 & accept$ invitation1 unless sickness or dea? af=d ! excuse2 & yet ho/esses h be5 kn[n to d ?is f m]e caprice4 ,b !y 7 necess>ily ill- br$ p4 ,,*apt] ,,li4 ,,lady ,,& ,,g5tleman4 ,! numb] ( que/ions ask$ by correspond5ts on ! subject ( ! prop] use ( ! famili> words lady & woman1 & ( ! titles ( m>ri$ wom51 induces ! reflection t ! woman "q is "o :i* rivals 9 univ]sal int]e/ ^? ( ,nihilism1 ,iri% rebellion1 & ! future presid5cy4 ,x is n1 h[ev]1 ( ultimate importance to a woman :at %e is call$1 z arose by any o!r "n w\ld smell z sweet1 b x is ( importance to ^? :o speak ( h]1 because by _! spee* %all ye "k !m1 :e!r fa%ionable or unfa%ionable1 :e!r old or "y1 :e!r welt-br$ or ill-br$1 :e!r /yli% or hopelessly rococo6 ,no?+1 = in/ance1 ,c be 9 worse ta/e ?an to say %e is a beautiful lady1 or a clev] lady4 ,"o %\ld always say beautiful woman1 clev] woman4 ,! w\ld-be g5teel make ?is mi/ake con/antly1 & 9 ! ,rosa-,matilda /yle ( novel ! g5tleman always kneels to ! lady1 & ! fair ladies are scatt]$ broadca/ ?r\gh ! book1 :ile ! f9e old ,saxon ^w woman is left out1 or n prop]ly us$4 ,n[ x w\ld be easy en\gh to correct ?is if we c\ld only tell our correspond5ts always to use ! ^w woman4 ,b un=tunately we are "h con/ra9$ to say t w\ld be equally bad =m4 ,no g5tleman w\ld say1 ,i am travell+ ) wom54 ,he w\ld say1 ,i am travell+ ) ladies4 ,he w\ld n say1 ,:5 ,i want to take my wom5 to ! !atre4 ,he w\ld say1 ,:5 ,i want to take my ladies4 ,he w\ld speak ( 8 daught]s z "y ladies1 etc41 etc4 ,b if he 7 writ+ a novel ab\t ^! same "y ladies1 he w\ld avoid ! ^w lady z feeble1 & 9 speak+ ( emotions1 looks1 qualities1 etc41 he w\ld use ! ^w woman4 ,!re=e1 z a gr& g5]ic di/9ction1 we c say t woman %\ld be us$ :5 ! realities ( life & "* are treat$ (4 ,lady %\ld be us$ to express ! outside *>act]i/ics1 ! conditions ( cultivat$ society1 & ! respectful1 di/ant1 & *ivalric etiquette :i* society claims = wom5 :5 memb]s !re(4 ,!n1 our qu]i/ may ask1 ,:y is ! t]m1 %e is a beautiful lady1 s hopelessly out ( /yle8 ,:y does x betray t ! speak] has n liv$ 9 a fa%ionable set8 ,:y mu/ we say nice woman1 clev] woman1 beautiful woman1 etc4 ,! only answ] to ?is is t ! latt] phraseology is a caprice ( fa%ion into :i* pla9-spok5 p 7 driv5 by ! affectations ( ! %abby-g5teel & half-in/ruct$ p]sons :o h ru9$ two good words = u by misapplication4 ,"o is g5teel1 :i* means g5tle1 & ! o!r is lady1 :i* means ev]y?+ :i* is ref9$1 cultivat$1 elegant1 & ari/ocratic4 ,!n z to ! t]m woman1 ?is nom5clature has be5 mu* affect$ by ! univ]sal sans-culottism ( ! ,fr5* ,revolution1 :5 ! que5 0 call$ citoy5ne4 ,mu*1 aga91 f a diff]5t cause1 comes f our own absurd want ( self-respect1 :i* has accru$ 9 ?is confusion ( etiquette 9 a republic1 z = in/ance1 ,i am a lady--z mu* a lady z anybody--& ,i want to be call$ a lady1 rem>k$ a nurse :o came = a situation to ! wife ( "o ( our presid5ts4 ,i h j engag$ a color$ lady z a cook1 rem>k$ a n\veau ri*e4 ,no wond] t :5 ! ^w came to be ?us misappli$ ! lov] ( good ,engli% undefil$ began to associate ! ^w lady ) pret5sion1 ignorance1 & bad gramm>4 ,/ill1 no real lady w\ld say to h] nurse1 ,a woman is com+ to /ay ) me4 ,to s]vants ! t]m lady1 z appli$ to a com+ gue/1 is indisp5sable4 ,s ( a g5tleman %e w\ld say to h] s]vant1 ,a g5tleman is com+ to /ay "h = a week2 b to h] husb& or son %e w\ld say1 ,he is a clev] man1 r ?an1 ,he is a clev] g5tleman4 ,we might almo/ say t no wom5 talk to m5 ab\t g5tlem51 & no m5 talk to wom5 ab\t ladies1 9 fa%ionable society4 ,a woman 9 good society speaks ( ! hunt+ m51 ! danc+ m51 ! talk+ m54 ,%e does n say g5tleman1 unless 9 "s su* connection z ?is1 ,no g5tleman w\ld d su* a ?+1 if "s brea* ( etiquette _h occurr$4 ,& yet no man w\ld come into a lady's draw+-room say+1 ,:]e are ! girls8 or ,:]e are ! wom58 ,he w\ld ,say2 ,:]e are ! "y ladies8 ,x !re=e requires a f9e e> & a f9e s5se ( mod]n fa%ion & ( et]nal propriety always to *oose ! "r ^w 9 ! delicate & almo/ unsettl$ e/ate ( ^! two epi!ts4 ,ladylike c nev] g out ( fa%ion4 ,x is at once a complim5t ( ! highe/ ord] & a sugge/ion ( subtle p]fection4 ,! ^w woman does n rea* up to ?is1 because 9 its broad & /rong etymology x may mean a wa%]-woman1 a fight+ woman1 a co>se woman1 alas6 a drunk5 woman4 ,if we he> ( a drunk5 lady1 we see a d[nfall1 a glimpse ( bett] days2 *loral1 opium1 ev5 cologne1 may h br\ght h] to x4 ,! ^w /ill saves h] mis]able reputation a little4 ,b ! words a drunk5 woman m]ely sugge/ :iskey1 degradation1 squalor1 dirt1 & ! t5em5t-h\se4 ,x is evid5t1 !re=e1 t we _c d )\t ! ^w lady4 ,x is ! outgr[? ( ye>s ( *ivalric devotion1 & ( t progress 9 ! hi/ory ( woman :i* has ev] be5 rais+ h] f h] l[ e/ate4 ,to ! ,*ri/ian religion fir/ does %e owe h] rise2 to ! in/itution ( *ivalry1 to ! gr[? ( civilization s9ce1 has woman ow$ h] cont9ual elevation4 ,%e c nev] g back to ! degradation ( ^? days :51 9 ,greece & ,rome1 %e 0 n all[$ to eat ) h] husb& & sons4 ,%e wait$ on !m z a s]vant4 ,n[ !y 9 e c\ntry s]ve h]1 if !y are g5tlem54 ,b1 ow+ to a curi\s twi/ 9 ! way ( look+ at ?+s1 %e is n[ und\bt$ly ! tyrant1 & 9 fa%ionable society %e is (t5 imp]i\sly ill-br$1 & requires t h] male slaves be 9 a /ate ( s]vitude to :i* ! ,egyptian bondage w\ld h be5 light frivolity4 ,am]ican wom5 are said to be faulty 9 mann]s1 p>ticul>ly 9 places ( public amusem5t1 9 railway travell+1 9 omnibuses1 & 9 %ops4 ,m5 compla9 v mu* t ! fair] sex are v brutal on ^! occasions4 ,i wi% wom5 w\ld behave l ladies1 said a man at a mat9e4 ,yes1 said 8 fri5d1 ,i wi% !y w\ld behave l m54 ,j !n a %>p fem99e elb[ 0 ?ru/ into 8 *e/4 ,i wi% g5tlem5 w\ld n cr[d s1 0 ! rem>k :i* accompani$ ! dig "u ! fif? rib f a p]son :om no "o c\ld call a lady4 ,9 speak+ to a s]vant1 ei!r a lady or a g5tleman w ev] be pati5t1 c\rte\s1 k9d1 n presum+ on 8 or h] p[]4 ,b !re %\ld always be a c]ta9 c]emony obs]v$1 & a t]m ( respect to ! p]son spok5 (4 ,!re=e a mi/ress w n say ,h ! girls come 98 ,is ,lucy home8 ,%e w say3 ,h ! "y ladies come 98 ,is ,miss ,lucy at home8 ,?is sort ( dignifi$ etiquette has ! happie/ & ! mo/ b5eficial result on ! relations ( mi/ress & s]vant4 ,9 mod]n lit]ature ! t]ms man & woman h ne>ly oblit]at$ ! words g5tleman & lady1 & we c h>dly imag9e a m absurd phrase ?an ! foll[+3 ,i ask$ ,m>y :at %e ?\ght ( ,*>les1 & %e said he 0 a beautiful g5tleman1 & ,*>les said t ,m>y 0 a lovely lady2 s x 0 q natural t ,i %\ld try to br+ !m toge!r1 etc41 etc4 ,/ill1 9 poetry we l ! ^w lady4 ,if my lady loves me true1 is mu* bett] ?an if my woman loves me true w\ld be2 s !re1 aga91 we h ! contradiction1 = ! ,anglo-,saxon rule ( us+ ! ^w woman :5 any?+ real or s9c]e 9 emotion is 9 "q is "h honor$ 9 ! brea*4 ,b ?is is "o ( ! _m %ad[y conflicts :i* complicate ?is subject4 ,! t]m lady is l ! ^w g5try 9 ,engl&--x is ela/ic4 ,all p]sons com+ )9 ! category ( g5try may att5d ! ,que5's ,draw+-room1 yet x is well und]/ood t bir?1 weal?1 association1 & position give ! raison d'tre = ! use ( su* a privilege1 & 9 t c>efully gu>d$ ,engli% society ! wife or daught]s ( an (fic] 9 ! navy or 9 a l9e regim5t ^: means are sl5d] & ^: position is obscure w\ld n be ju/ifi$ 9 pres5t+ !mselves at c\rt4 ,! same rem>k holds good ( ! wives & daught]s ( cl]gym51 b>ri/]s1 doctors1 au?ors1 & arti/s1 al?\gh ! husb&1 if em95t1 might att5d a leve if he wi%$4 ,yet ^! wom5 are v t5aci\s ( ! title ( lady1 & no tradesman's wife w\ld d5y x to !m1 :ile %e w\ld n1 if ev] s ri*1 aspire to be call$ a lady h]self4 ,i a9't no lady myself1 b ,i c af=d to h 'em z gov]nesses1 rem>k$ a ,mrs4 ,kicklebury on ! ,rh9e4 ,%e 0 n at all a%am$ ( ! fact t %e 0 no lady h]self1 yet h] compe] & equal 9 ,am]ica1 if %e kept a g9-%op1 w\ld insi/ ^u ! title ( lady4 ,a lady is a p]son ( ref9em5t1 ( education1 ( fa%ion1 ( bir?1 ( pre/ige1 ( a high] grade ( "s sort1 if we apply ! t]m rightly4 ,%e may be out ( place ?r\gh loss ( =tune1 or %e may h sulli$ h] title1 b a some?+ tells u t %e is /ill a lady4 ,we h a habit ( say+1 z "s p]son1 p]haps well deck$ out ) =tune's favors1 passes u1 ,%e is n a lady1 & e "o w "k :at we mean4 ,! phrase vulg> lady1 !re=e1 is an absurdity2 !re is no su* ?+2 z well talk ( a :ite blackbird2 ! t]m is self-contradictory4 ,if %e is vulg>1 %e is n a lady2 b !re is su* a ?+ z a vulg> woman1 & x is a v real ?+4 ,9 ,engl& !y h _m t]ms to express ! ^w woman :i* we h n4 ,a travell] 9 ! rural di/ricts speaks ( a k9dly old wife :o receiv$ me1 or a wret*$ old crone1 or a saucy lassie1 or a neat maid1 etc4 ,we %\ld use ! ^w woman1 or old woman1 or girl1 = all ^!4 ,n[ z to ! t]m old woman or old lady4 ,! latt] has a pretty s\nd4 ,we see ! s(t :ite curls1 s l floss silk1 ! delicate :ite camel's-hair %awl1 ! s(t lace & appropriate black sat9 g[n1 ! pretty old-fa%ion$ mann]1 & we see t ?is is a real lady4 ,%e may h h] tricks ( old-fa%ion$ spee*2 !y d n (f5d u4 ,to be sure1 %e has no slang2 %e does n talk ab\t awfully jolly1 or a gha/ly way (f2 %e does n talk ( ! boys z be+ a bully lot1 or ! girls z be+ bea/ly f9e2 %e does n say t %e is feel+ r se$y to-day1 etc4 ,no1 our old lady is a lady1 & x w\ld be 9 bad ta/e to call h] an old woman1 :i* someh[ s\nds disrespectful4 ,!re=e we mu/1 :ile begg+ ( our correspond5ts to use ! ^w woman :5ev] !y c1 tell !m n entirely to drop ! ^w lady4 ,! real lady or g5tleman is v mu* kn[n by ! voice1 ! *oice ( words1 ! appropriate t]m4 ,no?+ c be bett] ?an to err on ! side ( simplicity1 :i* is always bett] ?an gu%1 or ov]-ef=t1 or conceit ( spee*4 ,"o may be ignorant ( ! %ibbole? ( a good set1 yet speak mo/ excell5t ,engli%4 ,?ack]ay said ( ,george ! ,f\r? t !re 0 only "o reason :y he %\ld n h be5 call$ ! fir/ g5tleman 9 ,europe1 & t 0 because he 0 n a g5tleman4 ,b ( ! "y ,duke ( ,albany1 j deceas$1 no "o c\ld hesitate to speak z a g5tleman4 ,!re=e1 :ile we see t bir? does n always make a g5tleman1 we /ill get ! idea t x may help to make "o1 z we d n readily connect ! idea ) ,jeames1 :o 0 a g5tleman's g5tleman4 ,he might h be5 f9e1 b n noble4 ,z = titles = m>ri$ wom51 we h only ! "o ^w1 ,mrs41 n ev5 ! pretty ,fr5* ,madame4 ,b no woman %\ld write h]self ,mrs4 on h] *ecks or at ! foot ( h] notes2 n[h]e b 9 a hotel regi/] or on a c>d %\ld %e give h]self ?is title1 simple ?\gh x be4 ,%e is always1 if %e writes 9 ! fir/ p]son1 ,m>y ,smi?1 ev5 to a p]son %e does n "k4 ,?is seems to tr\ble "s p1 :o ask1 ,h[ w su* a p]son "k ,i am m>ri$8 ,:y %\ld !y8 ,if desir\s ( in=m+ "s di/ant s]vant or o!r p]son ( t fact1 add 9 a p>5!sis b5ea? ,m>y ,smi? ! important add5da1 ,mrs4 ,john ,smi?4 ,:5 wom5 are all[$ to vote1 p]haps fur!r complications may arise4 ,! tru? is1 wom5 h no real names4 ,!y simply are call$ by ! "n ( fa!r or husb&1 & if !y m>ry sev]al times may well beg9 to d\bt _! own id5tity4 ,happy ^? :o nev] h to sign b "o new "n to _! lett]s6 ,,*apt] ,,lii4 ,,! ,,mann]s ,,( ,,! ,,pa/4 ,9 ^! days1 amid :at has be5 /rongly /at$ z ! prevail+ m$iocrity ( mann]s1 a /udy ( ! mann]s ( ! pa/ w\ld seem to reveal to u ! fact t 9 ^? days ( c]emony a man :o 0 beset ) %yness ne$ !n h suff]$ less ?an he w\ld d n[ 9 ^! days ( imp]t95ce & brass4 ,a man 0 n !n expect$ to ent] a room & to da% at once into a lively conv]sation4 ,! /ately influ5ce ( ! m9uet de la c\r 0 ^u him2 he delib]ately ent]$ a room1 made a l[ b[1 & sat d[n1 wait+ to be spok5 to4 ,inde$1 we may g f>!r back & imag9e ourselves at ! c\rt ( ,l\is ,,xiv41 :5 ! _w 0 broadly sep>at$ into ! two classes--! noble & ! b\rgeois4 ,t _w :i* ,moli]e divid$ 9 8 dramatis p]sonae into ! c\rti]1 ! prov9cial noble1 & ! pla9 g5tleman2 & secondly1 into ! m5 ( law & m$ic9e1 ! m]*ant1 & ! %opkeep]4 ,^! divisions %all be = a mom5t consid]$4 ,n[1 all ^! m5 knew exactly1 f ! day :5 !y rea*$ t5 ye>s ( age1 h[ !y 7 expect$ to behave 9 ! sph]e ( life to :i* !y 7 call$4 ,! m>quis 0 in/ruct$ 9 e art ( graceful behavior1 ! bel air 0 taught him z we tea* our boys h[ to dance1 ev5 m ?or\ghly4 ,! gr& seigneur ( ^? days1 ! man :o w\ld n arrange ! folds ( 8 own cravat ) 8 own h&s1 & :o exact$ an obs]vance z punctili\s f 8 valets z if he 7 ! k+ himself1 t m>quis ( :om ! great ,moli]e makes su* fun1 ! c\rti] :om ev5 ! gr& mon>que lik$ to see ridicul$--?is man _h1 nev]!less1 good mann]s4 ,we see him reflect$ ) m>vell\s fidelity 9 ^? wond]ful com$ies ( ! ,fr5* ,%akespe>e2 he is m ?an ! fa%ion ( an epo*--he is "o ( ! et]nal types ( human nature4 ,we le>n :at a man becomes ^: bus9ess is deportm5t4 ,ev5 despicable z he is 9 ,le ,b\rgeois ,g5tilhomme---flatt]+1 borr[+ money1 *eat+ ! poor citiz51 & us+ 8 rank z a mask & excuse = 8 vices--we /ill read t x 0 su* a "o z he :o took poor ,moli]e's cold h&s 9 8 & put !m 9 8 muff1 :51 on ! la/ dreadful day ( ! actor's life 7) a lib]ality :i* does 8 memory immortal honor71 he /rove to play1 t fifty poor workm5 might receive _! daily pay4 ,x 0 su* a "o z ?is :o 0 k9d to poor ,moli]e4 ,!re 0 9 ^! g5s de c\r a copy ( f9e feel+1 ev5 if !y _h x n1 ,!y 7 polite & elegant1 mak+ ! p ab\t !m feel bett] = ! mom5t1 do+ graceful acts c\rte\sly1 & gild+ vice ) ! poli% ( p]fect mann]s4 ,! b\rgeois1 accord+ to ,moli]e1 0 z bad a man z ! c\rti]1 b he _h1 besides1 brutal mann]s2 & z = ! magi/rates & m]*ants1 !y 7 h>% & surly1 & v sp>+ ( civility4 ,no wond]1 :5 ! ,fr5* ,revolution came1 t "o ( ! victims1 regrett+ ! n-yet-=gott5 m>quis1 desir$ ! return ( ! ari/ocracy2 =1 said he1 ,i w\ld r be trampl$ ^u by a velvet slipp] ?an a wood5 %oe4 ,x is ! be/ def9ition ( mann]s--a velvet slipp] r ?an a wood5 %oe4 ,we ask v little ( ! p :om we casually meet b t ! salutation be pleasant2 & z we rememb] h[ _m crimes & mis=tunes h aris5 f sudd5 ang]1 caus$ sometimes by pure brea*es ( good mann]s1 we almo/ agree ) ,burke t mann]s are ( m importance ?an laws4 ,^u !m1 9 a great measure1 ! laws dep5d4 ,"s "o calls polit5ess b5evol5ce 9 trifles1 ! pref]5ce ( o!rs to ourselves 9 little1 daily1 h\rly occurr5ces 9 ! bus9ess ( life1 a bett] place1 a m commodi\s seat1 priority 9 be+ help$ at table1 etc4 ,n[1 9 all ^! m9or morals ! m>quis 0 a b5evol5t man2 he 0 affable & bo? well & fair spok51 & w\ld use /range sweetness & bl&i%m5t ( words :5 he desir$ to affect or p]suade any?+ t he took to he>t--t is1 ) 8 equals4 ,x is well to /udy ?is man1 & to rememb] t he 0 n always vile4 ,! ,pr9ce ( ,cond _h ^! mann]s & a g5]\s1 great he>t z well4 ,g5tl5ess really belongs to virtue1 & a sycophant c h>dly imitate x well4 ,! p]fect g5tleman is he :o has a /rong he>t "u ! silk5 d\blet ( a p]fect mann]4 ,we d n want all ! dec5t drap]y ( life torn (f2 we d n want to be told t we are full ( defects2 we d n wi% p to %[ u a lat5t antagonism2 & if we h 9 ourselves ! elem5ts ( r\ghness1 sev]ity ( judgm5t1 a critical eye :i* sees defects r ?an virtues1 we are b\nd to /udy h[ to tone d[n t native1 disagreeable temp]--j z we are b\nd to try to break ! icy =mality ( a res]v$ mann]1 & to cultivate a cordiality :i* we d n feel4 ,su* a comm& ov] ! %ortcom+s ( our own natures is n ins9c]ity1 z we (t5 f9d t ! ef=t to make ourselves agreeable t[>ds "s "o :om we dislike ends 9 lead+ u to l ! (f5d+ p]son4 ,we f9d t we h really be5 ! (f5d]1 go+ ab\t ) a moral tape-measure graduat$ by ourselves1 & measur+ ! opposite p>ty ) a s]5e conceit :i* has call$ itself pr9ciple or honor1 or "s high-s\nd+ "n1 :ile x 0 really no?+ b prejudice4 ,we %\ld try to c>ry ent]ta9m5t ) u1 & to seem ent]ta9$ ) our company4 ,a fri5dly behavior (t5 conciliates & pleases m ?an wit or brilliancy2 & "h we come back to ^? poli%$ mann]s ( ! pa/1 :i* 7 a p]fect drap]y1 & !re=e %\ld be /udi$1 & p]haps 9 a degree copi$1 by ! awkw>d & ! %y1 :o _c dep5d ^u !mselves = inspirations ( agreeability4 ,em]son says t fa%ion is good- s5se ent]ta9+ company2 x hates corn]s & %>p po9ts ( "*1 hates qu>relsome1 egoti/ical1 solit>y1 & gloomy p1 hates :atev] c int]f]e ) total bl5d+ ( p>ties1 :ile x values all p>ticul>ities z 9 ! highe/ degree refre%+ :i* c consi/ ) good-fell[%ip4 ,x does ! awkw>d & ! %y good to contemplate ^! words4 ,x may n imm$iately help !m to become graceful & self-possess$1 b x w c]ta9ly h a v good effect 9 induc+ !m to try4 ,we f9d t ! successful man ( ! _w has /udi$ ! temp] ( ! f9e/ sword4 ,he c b5d easily1 he is flexible1 he is pliant1 & yet he has n lo/ ! brav]y & ! p[] ( 8 weapon4 ,m5 ( ! b>1 = in/ance1 h be5 at ! tr\ble to con/ruct a sy/em ( polit5ess1 9 :i* ev5 an (f5sive self- e/imation takes on ! g>b ( humility4 ,! h>mony is pres]v$1 a trial goes on ) an appe>ance ( def]5ce & respect ea* to ! o!r1 highly1 mo/ highly1 comm5dable1 & produc+ law & ord] :]e o!rwise we might f9d /rife1 hatr$1 & w>f>e4 ,al?\gh ?is may be a mimic humility1 al?\gh ! complim5ts may be judg$ ins9c]e1 !y are /ill ! %ad[s ( ! v highe/ virtues4 ,! man :o is gu>d+ 8 spee* is rul+ 8 _s2 he is keep+ 8 temp]1 t furnace ( all affliction1 & ! l(ty *amb]s ( 8 bra9 are cool & full ( fre% air4 ,a man :o is by nature cl[ni%1 & :o has :at he calls a noble s9c]ity1 is v apt to d inju/ice to ! poli%$ man2 he %\ld1 h[ev]1 rememb] t ! mann] ( a vulg> man has fre$om )\t ease1 & t ! mann] ( a g5tleman has ease )\t fre$om4 ,a man ) an oblig+1 agreeable address may be j z s9c]e z if he _h ! noble art ( tread+ on ev]ybody's toes4 ,! putt]-d[n-^u-sy/em man is q z (t5 urg$ by love ( display z by a love ( tru?2 he is ung5]\s1 combative1 & ung5ial2 he is ! bravo ( society4 ,to "s p a f9e mann] is ! gift ( nature4 ,we see a "y p]son ent] a room1 make himself *>m+1 g ?r\gh ! transition p]iod ( boy to man1 always graceful1 & at man's e/ate aim to /ill possess t unconsci\s & flatt]+ grace1 t mo/ exquisite ta/e ( polit5ess1 :i* is a gift f ! gods4 ,he is exactly =m$ to please1 ?is lucky creature1 & all ?is is done = him by nature4 ,we are dispos$ to abuse ,"m ,nature :5 we ?9k ( ?is boy's h]itage ( joy comp>$ ) h] /ep-son1 to :om %e has giv5 ! burn+ blu%es1 ! awkw>d /ep1 ! heavy self-consci\sness1 ! unc\rtly gait1 ! hesitat+ spee*1 & ! ba%ful demeanor4 ,b no?+ w\ld be omitt$ by ei!r p>5t or *ild to cure ! boy if he _h a twi/$ ankle1 s no?+ %\ld be omitt$ t c1 cure ! twi/ ( %yness1 & !re=e a %y "y p]son %\ld n be expect$ to confront su* a trial4 ,& to ^? :o h ! br++ up ( %y "y p]sons we comm5d ^! excell5t words ( ,:ately3 ,!re are _m o!rwise s5sible p :o seek to cure a "y p]son ( t v common compla9t--%yness--by exhort+ him n to be %y1 tell+ him :at an awkw>d appe>ance x has1 & t x prev5ts 8 do+ himself ju/ice1 all ( :i* is manife/ly p\r+ oil on ! fire to qu5* x2 = ! v cause ( %yness is an ov]-anxiety z to :at p are ?9k+ ( y1 a morbid att5tion to y\r own appe>ance4 ,! c\rse1 !re=e1 t ought to be pursu$ is exactly ! rev]se4 ,! suff]] %\ld be exhort$ to ?9k z little z possible ab\t himself & ! op9ion =m$ ( him1 to be assur$ t mo/ ( ! company d n tr\ble _! heads ab\t him1 & to h>d5 him aga9/ any imp]t95t criticisms t he suppos$ to be go+ on1 tak+ c>e only to d :at is "r1 leav+ o!rs to say & to ?9k :at !y w4 ,all ?is philosophy is excell5t1 & is l ! s5sible ar*bi%op4 ,b ! pres5ce ( a set ( c>efully cultivat$1 artificial mann]s1 or a hat to hold 9 "o's h&1 w bett] help ! %y p]son :5 he is fir/ "u fire1 & :5 8 s5ses are ab\t des]t+ him1 ?an any moral maxims c be expect$ to d4 ,c>lyle speaks ( ! f9e mann]s ( 8 peasant fa!r 7:i* he does n seem to h inh]it$71 & he says3 ,i ?9k-t !y came f 8 hav+1 e>ly 9 life1 work$ = ,maxwell1 ( ,keir1 a ,scot* g5tleman ( great dignity & wor?1 :o gave to all ^? "u him a f9e impression ( ! gov]n+ classes4 ,old ,c>lyle _h no %ame 9 /&+ ) 8 hat (f z 8 l&lord pass$2 he _h no truckl+ _s ei!r ( pay+ c\rt to ^? ^: lot 9 life x 0 to be 8 sup]iors4 ,^? mann]s ( ! pa/ 7 /udi$2 !y _h1 no d\bt1 mu* ab\t !m :i* we %\ld n[ call /iff1 =mal1 & affect$1 b !y 7 a great help to ! awkw>d & ! %y4 ,9 ! pa/ our ance/ors _h ! help ( co/ume1 :i* we h n4 ,no?+ is m def5celess ?an a be+ 9 a dress-coat1 ) no pockets all[able 9 :i* he c put 8 h&s4 ,if a man is 9 a co/ume he =gets ! suff]+s ( ! coat & pantaloon4 ,he has a s5se ( be+ 9 a =tress4 ,a milit>y man once said t he always f\ght bett] 9 8 uni=m--t a fa%ionably cut coat & an e-day hat took all h]oism out ( him4 ,wom51 p>ticul>ly %y ones1 feel ! effect ( h&some clo!s z a re9=cem5t4 ,!re is an appui 9 a good g[n1 said ,madame de ,/al4 ,!re=e1 ! awkw>d & ! %y1 9 attempt+ to conqu] ! mann]s ( artificial society1 %\ld dress z well z possible4 ,p]haps to _! ta/e 9 dress d ,fr5*m5 owe mu* ( _! easy civility & _! success 9 social politics2 & h]e9 wom5 are v mu* m =tunate ?an m51 = !y c always ask1 ,is x becom+8 & c add ! h&k]*ief1 fan1 muff1 or mantle z a refuge = trembl+ h&s4 ,a man has only 8 pockets2 he does n wi% to always appe> ) 8 h&s 9 !m4 ,ta/e is said to be ! in/antane\s1 ready appreciation ( ! fitness ( ?+s4 ,to mo/ ( u :o may regret ! want ( x 9 ourselves1 x seems to be ! in/9ct ( ! =tunate few4 ,"s wom5 look z if !y _h simply blossom$ out ( _! inn] consci\sness into a beautiful toilet2 o!rs are ! creatures ( *ance1 & look z if _! clo!s _h be5 hurl$ at !m by a tornado4 ,"s wom51 o!rwise good & true1 h a sort ( moral want ( ta/e1 & we> too bright colors1 too _m glass beads1 too mu* hair1 & a comb9ation ( discordant mat]ials :i* causes ! he>t ( a good dress] to a*e ) angui%4 ,?is want ( ta/e runs across ! "* l an intellectual b>-s9i/]1 =c+ u to believe t _! conclusions are any?+ b legitimate4 ,p :o say innoc5tly ?+s :i* %ock y1 :o put ! li/5]s at a d9n]-table ^u t5t]-hooks1 are ei!r want+ 9 ta/e or _! m9ds are confus$ ) %yness4 ,a p]son ?us does great inju/ice to 8 own moral qualities :5 he p]mits himself to be misrepres5t$ by t disease ( :i* we speak4 ,%yness p]v]ts ! spee* m ?an vice ev54 ,b if a man or a woman c look d[n on a well-fitt+1 becom+ dress 7ev5 if x is ! b>r5 & =lorn dress :i* m5 wore to p>ties 9 #ahhb71 x is /ill an appui4 ,we "k h[ x (f5ds u to see a p]son 9 a dress :i* is inappropriate4 ,a *ief-ju/ice 9 ! w>-pa9t & fea!rs ( an ,indian *ief w\ld sc>cely be li/5$ to1 ev5 if 8 utt]ances 7 ^? ( a ,m>%all or a ,jay4 ,x takes a great p]son1 a c\rage\s p]son1 to be> ! %ame ( unbecom+ dress2 &1 no d\bt1 to a nature %y1 passionate1 pr\d1 & poor1 ! necessity ( we>+ poor or unbecom+ clo!s has be5 an injury = life4 ,he despis$ himself = 8 weakness1 b ! weakness rema9$4 ,:5 ! ,fr5* ,revolution came 9 ) its sans-culotteism1 & republican simplicity f\nd its p]fect expression 9 ,?omas ,jeff]son1 /ill1 ! prejudices ( p[d]$ hair & /iff brocades rema9$4 ,!y gradually disappe>$1 & ! man ( ! n9ete5? c5tury lo/ ! advantages ( becom+ dress1 & began anew ! battle ( life /ripp$ ( all 8 trapp+s4 ,mann]s w5t ) ^! fl[+ access>ies1 & ! abrupt spee*1 curt b[1 & r exagg]at$ simplicity ( ! pres5t day came 94 ,b x is a n unwor?y /udy--^! mann]s ( ! pa/4 ,we are return+1 at lea/ on ! fem99e side1 to a great & magnific5t pr9cess1 or que5ly1 /yle ( dress4 ,x is becom+ ! fa%ion to make a c\rtesy1 to fl\ri% a fan1 to be> "o's self ) dignity :5 9 ?is f9e co/ume4 ,_c ! elegance1 ! repose1 & ! respectfulness ( ! pa/ return also8 ,,*apt] ,,liii4 ,,! ,,mann]s ,,( ,,! ,,optimi/4 ,x is v easy to laugh at ! optimi/1 & to accuse him ( poetiz+ ! tru?4 ,no d\bt1 an optimi/ w see excell5ce1 beauty1 & tru? :]e pessimi/s see only degradation1 vice1 & ugl9ess4 ,! "o he>s ! night+ale1 ! o!r ! rav5 only4 ,to "o1 ! sunsett+ =ms a magic picture2 to ! o!r1 x is b a presage ( bad wea!r tomorr[4 ,"s p seem to look at nature ?r\gh a glass ( r$ w9e or 9 a ,claude ,lorra9e mirror2 to !m ! l&scape has ev] ! bloom ( summ] or a spr+-tide grace4 ,to o!rs1 x is always cl\dy1 dre>y1 dull4 ,! desolate rav9e1 ! /ony pa?1 ! blight$ hea?--t is all !y c f9d 9 a book :i* %\ld h a *apt] = ev]ybody4 ,& ! latt] are apt to call ! =m] dream]s1 vision>ies1 fools4 ,!y are dubb$ 9 society (t5 flatt]]s1 p ^: geese are all swans4 ,b are ^?1 !n1 ! fools :o see only ! pleasant side8 ,are !y alone ! vision>ies :o see ! be/ r ?an ! wor/8 ,x is /range t ! critics see only weakness 9 ! pleasant- spok51 & only tru? & safety 9 ^? :o croak4 ,! p]son :o sees a bright light 9 an eye o!rwise consid]$ dull1 :o di/ru/s ! la/ sc&al1 is suppos$ to be fooli%1 too easily pleas$1 & want+ 9 t wise scepticism :i* %\ld be ! h&maid ( common-s5se2 & if su* a p]son 9 tell+ a /ory poetizes ! tru?1 if x is a pr9ciple or a t5d5cy to believe ! be/ ( ev]ybody1 to take ev]ybody at _! highe/ note1 is %e any ! less canny8 ,has %e necess>ily less insight8 ,z !re are always two sides to a %ield1 :y n look at ! gold5 "o8 ,an excess ( ! organ ( hope has creat$ p l ,colonel ,sell]s 9 ! play1 :o delud$ himself t !re 7 millions 9 x1 :o l&$ 9 pov]ty & wreck$ 8 fri5ds2 b ?is excess is sc>cely a common "o4 ,f> m (t5 does disc\ragem5t p>alyze ?an does hope exalt4 ,^? :o h sun%9e = !mselves & to sp>e are apt to be happy & useful p2 !y are 9 ! aggregate ! successful p4 ,b1 al?\gh good-nature is temp]am5tal1 & al?\gh "s m5 & wom5 are1 by _! =ce ( imag9ation & *>ity1 =c$ to poetize ! tru?1 ! "q rema9s an op5 "o1 ,:i* is ! ne>e/ to tru?1 a pessimi/ or an optimi/8 ,tru? is a virtue m palpable & less %ad[y ?an we ?9k2 ,x is n easy to speak ! unv>ni%$1 uncorrupt$ tru? 7s ! lawy]s tell u74 ,! faculty ( obs]vation diff]s1 & ! faculty ( language is v>iable4 ,"s p h no intellectual appreh5sion ( ! tru?1 al?\gh !y morally believe 9 x4 ,p :o ab/ractly rev]e ! tru? h nev] be5 able to tell any?+ b falsehoods4 ,to su* ! p[] ( mak+ a /atem5t ei!r favorable or prejudicial dep5ds ^u ! mood ( ! mom5t1 n ^u fact4 ,!re=e a habit ( poetiz+ ! tru? w\ld seem to be ( ei!r excess ! safe/4 ,society becomes sometimes a hot-b$ ( evil passions--"o p]son succe$s at ! exp5se ( ano!r4 ,h[ sev]e is ! suff]+ proce$+ f social neglect & social /abs6 ,x might1 mu* ( x1 be smoo!d away by poetiz+ ! tru? ev] s little4 ,in/ead ( be>+ an ill-natur$ message1 suppose we c>ry an amiable "o4 ,in/ead ( believ+ t an insult 0 int5d$1 suppose a complim5t4 ,%\ld he upbraid1 ,i'll own t he prevail1 ,& s+ m sweetly ?an ! night+ale6 ,say t he fr[n1 ,i'll own 8 looks ,i view ,l morn+ roses newly dipp$ 9 dew4 ,p :o are ?us calmly s]5e & amiable ?r\gh ! fr[ns & smiles1 ! ups & d[ns1 ( a social c>e] are (t5 call$ worldly4 ,well1 let u suppose t !y are4 ,"s au?or has wisely said3 ,t ! _w %\ld be full ( worldl9ess seems z "r z t a /ream %\ld be full ( wat] or a liv+ body full ( blood4 ,to conqu] ?is _w1 to get out ( x a full1 ab\nd+1 agreeable life1 is :at we are put "h =4 ,else1 :y su* gifts z beauty1 tal5t1 heal?1 wit1 & a p[] ( enjoym5t be giv5 to u8 ,to be worldly1 or worldl+s1 is suppos$ to be incurr+ ! righte\s ang] ( ! good4 ,b is x n improp]ly us+ a t]m ( impli$ reproa*8 ,=1 al?\gh ! _w may be too mu* ) u1 & a worldl+ may be a be+ n fill$ to ! brim ) ! deep] qualities or ! highe/ aims1 /ill he is a man necess>y to ! day1 ! h\r1 ! sph]e :i* mu/ be suppli$ ) p fitt$ to its ne$s4 ,s ) a woman 9 society4 ,%e mu/ be a worldl+ 9 ! be/ s5se ( ! ^w4 ,%e mu/ keep up h] corn] ( ! great mantle ( ! ,field ( ! ,clo? ( ,gold4 ,%e mu/ fill ! social ar5a ) h] influ5ce2 = 9 society %e is a mo/ important factor4 ,!n1 z a complex ov]gr[? ( wants & fruitions has cov]$ our _w z ) a banyan-tree1 we mu/ h some?+ else to keep alive our umbrage\s gr[? ( art1 ref9em5t1 inv5tions1 luxuries1 & delicate s5sibilities4 ,we mu/ h weal?4 ,weal? is ! gold5 ess5ce ( ! out] _w1 & !re=e to be respect$4 ,( c\rse ! pessimi/ sees purse-pride1 pomp\s & outrage\s arrogance1 a cr++ ( ! pregnant h+es ( ! knee1 false /&>ds1 & a ?\s& faults 9 ?is admission4 ,& yet ! optimi/ f9ds ! v ri*1 ) b few exceptions1 amiable1 g5]\s1 & k9dly1 (t5 regrett+ t poor] fri5ds w all[ _! weal? to b> !m (f1 wi%+ (t5 t _! opul5ce ne$ n %ut !m (f f ! little d9n]s1 ! homely hospitality1 ! small gifts1 ! s9c]e c\rtesies ( ^? ^: means are mod]ate1 ,! *e]ful p :o are n dismay$ by ! sup]ior magnific5ce ( a fri5d are v apt to f9d t fri5d q z anxi\s = sympa?y & = k9dness z are ! poor1 especially if 8 weal? has caus$ him1 almo/ necess>ily1 to live ^u ! sup]ficial & ! ext]nal 9 life4 ,we all "k t !re is a worldly life1 poor 9 aim & n>r[ 9 radius1 :i* is z false z possible4 ,to live only = ?is _w1 ) its *ang+ fa%ions1 its imp]fect judgm5ts1 its tol]ation ( snobs & ( s9n]s1 its =giv5ess ( ignorance "u a high-s\nd+ "n1 its exagg]ation ( ! transi5t & ! artificial1 w\ld be a poor life inde$4 ,b1 if we c lift ourselves up into ! high] compreh5sion ( :at a noble ?+ ?is _w really is1 we may well aspire to be worldl+s4 ,julius ,caes> 0 a worldl+2 s 0 ,%akespe>e4 ,erasmus 0 a worldl+4 ,we might increase ! li/ indef9itely4 ,^! m5 br\ght ! l(tie/ tal5ts to ! use ( worldly ?+s4 ,!y %[$ h[ great conque/1 poetry1 ?\ght might become us$ = ! _w4 ,!y 7 full ( ?is _w4 ,to see ev]y?+ ?r\gh a poetic vision 7! only g5u9e idealization7 is & has be5 ! gift ( ! b5efactors ( our race4 ,brang] 0 ( ! _w1 worldly2 b c we give him up8 ,s 7 ! great arti/s :o flood$ ! _w ) light--,titian1 ,t9toretto1 ,correggio1 ,raphael1 ,rub5s1 ,watteau4 ,^! m5 poetiz$ ! tru?4 ,life 0 a brilliant drama1 a spl5did picture1 a g>d5 ev] fre% & fair2 ,! optimi/ c>ries a lamp ?r\gh d>k1 social ob/ructions4 ,i w\ld fa9 b9d up _m w\nds1 if ,i c\ld be assur$ t nei!r by /upidity nor by malice ,i ne$ make "o6 is h] motto1 ! true optimi/4 ,x is a f9e allegory ^u ! impli$ p[] ( society t ! poet ,m>vell us$ :5 he said he w\ld n dr9k w9e ) any "o to :om he c\ld n tru/ 8 life4 ,titian pa9t$ 8 wom5 ) all _! be/ po9ts visible4 ,!re 0 a c>eful %ad[ or drap]y :i* hid ! defects :i* none ( u are )\t2 b defects to ! eye ( ! optimi/ make beauty m attractive by contra/2 9 a portrait !y may bett] be hid p]haps4 ,to poetize ! tru? 9 ! sci5ce ( *>ity & =giv5ess c nev] be a great s94 ,if x is "o1 ! record+ angel w probably drop a te>4 ,?is t5d5cy to optimism is1 we ?9k1 m l t magic w& :i* ! great ideali/ wav$ ov] a tr\bl$ sea1 or l ^? sudd5 sunsets aft] a /orm1 :i* n only control ! wave1 b gild ! lead5 mass ) crimson & unexpect$ gold1 ^: brightness may rea* "s /orm-driv5 sail1 giv+ x ! light ( hope1 br++ ! %ip to a well-def9$ & hospitable %ore1 & regulat+1 ) a new attraction1 ! lately di/ract$ compass4 ,!re=e1 we d n hesitate to say t ! philosophy1 & ! cre$1 & ! mann]s ( ! optimi/ are good = society4 ,h[ev]1 8 excell5ce may well be criticis$2 x may ev5 sometimes take its place amid ^? excesses :i* are catalogu$ z amid ! de=mities ( exagg]at$ virtues4 ,we may be too good1 "s ( u1 9 "o s+le direction4 ,b ! r\nd$ & h>moni\s ,greek calm is h>d to f9d4 ,= repose & s]5ity ( m9d1 says a mod]n au?or1 we mu/ g back to ! ,greek temple & /atue1 ! ,greek epic & drama1 ! ,greek oration & moral treatise2 & mod]n education w nev] become truly effectual till x br+s m m9ds into happy contact ) ! ideal ( a balanc$1 h>moni\s developm5t ( all ! p[]s ( m9d1 body1 consci5ce1 & he>t4 ,& :o 0 a great] optimi/ ?an y\r ,a!nian8 ,he _h a passionate love ( nature1 a rapt & inf9ite adoration ( beauty1 & he diffus$ ! spl5did radiance ( 8 g5ius 9 mak+ life m attractive & ! grave less gloomy4 ,p]haps we ( a bright] fai? & a m c]ta9 revelation may borr[ some?+ f ?is hea!n ,greek4 ,,*apt] ,,liv4 ,,! ,,mann]s ,,( ,,! ,,sympa!tic4 ,sympa?y is ! mo/ delicate t5dril ( ! m9d1 & ! mo/ fasc9at+ gift :i* nature c give to u4 ,! mo/ preci\s associations ( ! human he>t clu/] ar\nd ! ^w1 & we love to rememb] ^? :o h sorr[$ ) u 9 sorr[1 & rejoic$ ) u :5 we 7 glad4 ,b = ! awkw>d & ! %y1 ! sympa!tic are ! v wor/ company4 ,!y d n wi% to be sympa?iz$ )--!y wi% to be ) p :o are cold & indiff]5t2 !y l %y p l !mselves4 ,put two %y p 9 a room toge!r1 & !y beg9 to talk ) unaccu/om$ glibness4 ,a %y woman always attracts a %y man4 ,b wom5 :o are gift$ ) t rapid1 gay impressionability :i* puts !m en rapport ) _! surr\nd+s1 :o h fancy & an excitable disposition1 a quick susceptibility to ! influ5ces ar\nd !m1 are v *>m+ 9 g5]al society1 b !y are t]rible to ! awkw>d & ! %y4 ,!y sympa?ize too mu*1 !y are too aw>e ( t burn+ %ame :i* ! suff]] desires to conceal4 ,! mom5t t a %y p]son sees be=e him a p]fectly unsympa!tic p]son1 "o :o is nei!r ?9k+ nor c>+ = him1 8 %yness beg9s to flee2 ! mom5t t he recognizes a fell[-suff]] he beg9s to feel a re9=cem5t ( en]gy4 ,if he be a lov]1 especially1 ! almo/ c]ta9 emb>rassm5t ( ! lady inspires him ) hope & ) r5ew$ c\rage4 ,a woman :o has a ba%ful lov]1 ev5 if %e is afflict$ ) %yness1 has be5 kn[n to f9d a way to help ! poor fell[ out ( 8 dilemma m ?an once4 ,haw?orne1 :o has left u ! mo/ complete & mo/ tragic hi/ory ( %yness :i* belongs to t long ros>y on :i* ! blu%es ( a life are /rung1 f\nd a woman 7! mo/ p]fect "*1 app>5tly1 :o ev] m>ri$ & made happy a great g5ius7 :o1 =tunately = him1 0 %y naturally1 al?\gh )\t t morbid %yness :i* accompani$ him ?r\gh life4 ,^? :o knew ,mrs4 ,haw?orne lat] f\nd h] possess$ ( great fasc9ation ( mann]1 ev5 9 g5]al society1 :]e ,haw?orne 0 q imp5etrable4 ,! /ory ( 8 runn+ d[n to ! ,concord ,riv] & tak+ boat to escape 8 visitors has be5 long famili> to u all4 ,mrs4 ,haw?orne1 no d\bt1 ) a woman's tact & a woman's g5]osity1 ov]came h] own %yness 9 ord] to receive ^? gue/s :om ,haw?orne ran away f1 & ?r\gh life rema9$ 8 bett] angel4 ,x 0 ?r\gh ?is abs5ce ( express$ sympa?y t ,engli% p became v agreeable to ,haw?orne4 ,he describes1 9 8 ,note ,book1 a spee* made by him at a d9n] 9 ,engl&3 ,:5 ,i 0 call$ ^u1 he says1 ,i rapp$ my head1 & x return$ a holl[ s\nd4 ,he _h1 h[ev]1 be5 sitt+ next to a %y ,engli% lawy]1 a man :o won ^u him by 8 quiet1 unobtrusive simplicity1 & :o1 9 "s well-*os5 words1 r made light ( d9n]-speak+ & its t]rors4 ,:5 ,haw?orne f9ally got up & made 8 spee*1 8 voice1 meantime1 hav+ a f>-(f & remote e*o1 & :51 z we le>n f o!rs1 a bur/ ( applause greet$ ! few well-*os5 words drawn up f t full well ( ?\ght1 t pellucid rill ( ,engli% undefil$1 ! unobtrusive g5tleman by 8 side applaud$1 & said to him1 ,x 0 h&somely done4 ,! complim5t pleas$ ! %y man4 ,x is ! only complim5t to himself :i* ,haw?orne ev] record$4 ,n[1 _h ,haw?orne be5 congratulat$ by a sympa!tic1 effusive ,am]ican :o _h clapp$ him on ! back1 & :o _h said1 ,oh1 nev] fe>--y w speak well6 he w\ld h said no?+4 ,! %y sprite 9 8 own eyes w\ld h read 9 8 neighbor's eyes ! dreadful tru? t 8 sympa!tic neighbor w\ld h indubitably betray$--a fe> t he w\ld n d well4 ,! phlegmatic & /ony ,engli%man nei!r felt nor c>$ :e!r ,haw?orne spoke well or ill2 &1 al?\gh pleas$ t he did speak well1 inve/$ no p>ticul> sympa?y 9 ! matt]1 ei!r = or aga9/1 & s sp>$ ,haw?orne's %yness ! la/ bitt] drop 9 ! cup1 :i* w\ld h be5 a recognition ( 8 own moral dread4 ,haw?orne bitt]ly records 8 own suff]+s4 ,he says1 9 "o ( 8 books1 ,at ?is "t ,i acquir$ ?is accurs$ habit ( solitude4 ,x has be5 said t ! ,haw?orne family 71 9 ! e>li] g5]ation1 afflict$ ) %yness almo/ z a disease-- c]ta9ly a curi\s freak ( nature 9 a family desc5d$ f robu/ sea-capta9s4 ,x only goes to prove h[ f> away are ! influ5ces :i* control our natures & our actions4 ,:e!r1 if ,haw?orne _h n be5 a %y man1 afflict$ ) a sort ( horror ( 8 species at times1 always av]se to lett+ himself g1 mis]able & morbid1 we %\ld h be5 ! inh]itors ( ! great =tune :i* he has left u1 is n = u to decide4 ,:e!r we %\ld h own$ ,! ,g5tle ,boy1 ! immortal ,sc>let ,lett]1 ,! ,h\se ) ,sev5 ,gables1 ! ,m>ble ,faun1 & all ! o!r wond]ful ?+s :i* grew out ( t seclud$ & gift$ nature1 _h he be5 born a *e]ful1 popul>1 & sympa!tic boy1 ) a danc+-s*ool mann]1 in/ead ( an awkw>d & %y y\? 7al?\gh an exce$+ly h&some "o71 we _c tell4 ,t is ! great secret beh9d ! veil4 ,! answ] is n yet made1 ! oracle has n spok51 & we mu/ n invade ! p5umbra ( g5ius4 ,x has always be5 a com=t to ! awkw>d & ! %y t ,wa%+ton c\ld n make an aft]-d9n] spee*2 & ! well-kn[n anecdote--,sit d[n1 ,mr4 ,wa%+ton1 y\r mode/y is ev5 great] ?an y\r valor --mu/ h consol$ _m a voiceless h]o4 ,wa%+ton ,irv+ tri$ to welcome ,dick5s1 b fail$ 9 ! attempt1 :ile ,dick5s 0 z voluble z he 0 gift$4 ,probably ! v surr\nd+s ( sympa!tic admir]s unn]v$ bo? ,wa%+ton & ,irv+1 al?\gh !re are "s m5 :o c nev] speak on _! legs1 z ! say+ goes1 9 any society4 ,o!r %y m5--m5 :o fe> g5]al society1 & %[ emb>rassm5t 9 ! e-day surr\nd+s--are eloqu5t :5 !y get on _! feet4 ,_m a %y boy at college has a/oni%$ 8 fri5ds by 8 ability 9 an aft]-d9n] spee*4 ,_m a voluble1 glib boy1 :o has be5 appo9t$ ! orator ( ! occasion1 fails utt]ly1 disappo9ts public expectation1 & sits d[n ) an uncom=table mantle ( failure ^u 8 %\ld]s4 ,!re=e1 ! ways ( %yness are inscrutable4 ,_m a woman :o has nev] kn[n :at x 0 to be ba%ful or %y has1 :5 call$ ^u to read a copy ( v]ses1 ev5 to a circle ( intimate fri5ds1 lo/ h] voice1 & has utt]ly brok5 d[n1 to h] own & h] fri5ds' great a/oni%m5t4 ,! voice is a trea*]\s s]vant2 x des]ts u1 trembles1 makes a failure ( x1 is n pres5t or acc\nt$ = (t5 :5 we ne$ its help4 ,x is n alone 9 ! %riek ( ! hy/]ical t we le>n ( its lawlessness1 x is 9 its complete retirem5t4 ,a bride1 (t51 ev5 :5 %e felt no o!r emb>rassm5t1 has f\nd t %e _h no voice ) :i* to make h] responses4 ,x simply 0 n !re6 ,a lady :o 0 pres5t$ at c\rt1 & :o felt--z %e describ$ h]self--wond]fully at h] ease1 began talk+1 &1 )\t wi%+ to speak l\d1 discov]$ t %e 0 %\t+ l a trumpet]4 ,! some:at unusual /ra9 :i* %e _h put ^u h]self1 dur+ ! ordeal ( be+ pres5t$ at ! ,engli% c\rt1 rev5g$ itself by an outp\r+ ( voice :i* %e c\ld n control4 ,_m %y p h recogniz$ 9 !mselves ?is curi\s & unconsci\s elevation ( ! voice4 ,x is n s common z a loss ( voice1 b x is q z uncontrollable4 ,! bron*ial tubes play u ano!r trick :5 we are fright5$3 ! voice is ! voice ( somebody else1 x has no resemblance to our own4 ,v5triloquism might well /udy ! ph5om5a ( %yness1 = ! voice becomes bass t 0 treble1 & soprano t :i* 0 contralto4 ,i dislike to h ,wil?orpe come to see me1 said a v %y woman --,i "k my voice w squeak s4 ,) h] ,wil?orpe1 :o = "s reason drove h] into an agony ( %yness1 _h ! effect ( mak+ h] talk 9 a high1 unnatural /ra91 excessively fatigu+4 ,! pres5ce ( "o's own family1 :o are naturally pa9fully sympa!tic1 has always _h ^u ! ba%ful & ! %y a mo/ evil effect4 ,i c nev] plead a cause be=e my fa!r8 ,nor ,i be=e my son1 said two di/+ui%$ lawy]s4 ,if mamma is 9 ! room1 ,i %all nev] be able to get ?r\gh my "p1 said a "y amateur actor4 ,b "h we mu/ pause to note ano!r exception 9 ! laws ( %yness4 ,9 ! false p]spective ( ! /age %yness (t5 disappe>s4 ,! %y man1 speak+ ! words1 & assum+ ! "* ( ano!r1 (t5 loses 8 %yness4 ,x is himself ( :om he is afraid1 n ( ,tony ,lumpk9 or ( ,*>les ,surface1 ( ,hamlet or ( ,claude ,melnotte4 ,beh9d _! masks he c speak well2 b if he at 8 own d9n]- table essays to speak1 & mamma wat*es him ) sympa!tic eyes1 & 8 bro!rs & si/]s are all li/5+1 he fails4 ,"l ,p]cy sees me fall4 ,yet x is ) our own p t we mu/ /& or fall1 live or die2 x is 9 our own circle t we mu/ conqu] our %yness4 ,n[1 ^! reflections are n int5d$ z an argum5t aga9/ sympa?y prop]ly express$4 ,a reasonable & judici\sly express$ sympa?y ) our fell[-be+s is ! v highe/ attribute ( our nature4 ,x unravels secrets m surely ?an ! highe/ critical faculty4 ,analysis ( motives t sway m5 & wom5 is l ! knife ( ! anatomi/3 x works on ! dead4 ,unite sympa?y to obs]vation1 & ! dead ,spr+ to life4 ,x is ?us to ! %y1 9 _! mom5ts ( tremor1 t we %\ld endeavor to be calmly unsympa!tic2 n cruel1 b indiff]5t1 unobs]vant4 ,n[1 wom5 ( g5ius :o obta9 a reflect$ compreh5sion ( c]ta9 aspects ( life ?r\gh sympa?y (t5 arrive at ! admirable result ( appreh5d+ ! suff]+s ( ! %y )\t seem+ to obs]ve !m4 ,su* a woman1 9 talk+ to a %y man1 w n seem to see him2 %e w prattle on ab\t h]self1 or tell "s funny anecdote ( h[ %e 0 tumbl$ out into ! sn[1 or h[ %e spill$ h] glass ( cl>et at d9n]1 or h[ %e got j too late to ! lecture2 & :ile %e is ?us absorb$ 9 h] little improvis$ autobiography1 ! %y man gets hold ( himself & ceases to be afraid ( h]4 ,?is is ! secret ( tact4 ,madame ,rcami]1 ! fam\s beauty1 0 always some:at %y4 ,%e 0 n a wit1 b %e possess$ ! gift ( draw+ out :at 0 be/ 9 o!rs4 ,h] biograph]s h blam$ h] t %e _h n a m impressionable temp]1 t %e 0 n m sympa!tic4 ,p]haps 79 spite ( h] c\rage :5 %e took up contributions 9 ! *ur*es dress$ z a ,neo-,greek7 %e 0 always hamp]$ by %yness4 ,%e c]ta9ly attract$ all ! be/ & mo/ gift$ ( h] "t1 & _h a noble fe>lessness 9 fri5d%ip1 & a con/ancy :i* %e %[$ by foll[+ ,madame de ,/al into exile1 & 9 h] devotion to ,ball5*e & ,*ateaubri&4 ,%e _h ! g5ius ( fri5d%ip1 a native s9c]ity1 a c]ta9 reality ( nature--^? f9e qualities :i* s (t5 accompany ! %y t we almo/1 z we read biography & hi/ory1 beg9 to ?9k t %yness is b a veil = all ! virtues4 ,p]haps to ?is %yness1 or to ?is hidd5 sympa?y1 did ,madame ,rcami] owe t p[] ov] all m5 :i* surviv$ h] wond]ful beauty4 ,! bl9d & poor old woman ( ! ,abbaye _h n lo/ h] *>m2 ! mo/ em95t m5 & wom5 ( h] day foll[$ h] !re1 & enjoy$ h] quiet 7n v eloqu5t7 conv]sation4 ,%e _h a :olesome he>t2 x kept h] f folly :5 %e 0 "y1 f a too ov]-facile s5sitiv5ess to :i* an impressionable1 sympa!tic temp]am5t w\ld h betray$ h]4 ,h] firm1 sweet nature 0 n flurri$ by excitem5t2 %e _h a /eadfa/ness 9 h] social relations :i* has left beh9d an ev]la/+ r5[n to h] "n4 ,& :at are1 aft] all1 ^! social relations :i* call = s mu* c\rage1 & :i* c create s mu* suff]+ to mo/ ( u z we conqu] = !m our awkw>dness & our %yness8 ,let u pause = a mom5t1 & try to be j4 ,let u contemplate ^! social e?ics1 :i* call = s mu* t is1 p]haps1 artificial & tr\blesome & contradictory4 ,society1 s long z x is ! congregation ( ! good1 ! witty1 ! bright1 ! intellig5t1 & ! gift$1 is ! ?+ mo/ necess>y to u all4 ,we are apt to l x & its excitem5ts almo/ too well1 or to hate x1 ) its excesses & its mi/akes1 too bitt]ly4 ,we are r>ely j to society4 ,! r\nd$ & h>moni\s & temp]ate und]/&+ & use ( society is1 h[ev]1 ! v end & aim ( education4 ,we are born to live ) ea* o!r & n = ourselves2 if we are *e]ful1 our *e]fulness 0 giv5 to u to make bright ! lives ( ^? ab\t u2 if we h g5ius1 t is a sacr$ tru/2 if we h beauty1 wit1 joy\sness1 x 0 giv5 u = ! delectation ( o!rs1 n = ourselves2 if we are awkw>d & %y1 we are b\nd to break ! cru/ & to %[ t )9 u is beauty1 *e]fulness1 & wit4 ,x is b ! fool :o loves excess4 ,! be/ human be+ %\ld mod]ately l society4 ,,*apt] ,,lv4 ,,c]ta9 ,,que/ions ,,answ]$4 ,we are ask$ by a correspond5t z to :5 a g5tleman %\ld we> 8 hat & :5 take x (f4 ,a g5tleman we>s 8 hat 9 ! /reet1 on a /eamboat deck1 rais+ x to a lady acqua9tance2 also 9 a prom5ade conc]t-room & picture-gall]y4 ,he nev] we>s x 9 a !atre or op]a-h\se1 & seldom 9 ! p>lors ( a hotel4 ,! etiquette ( rais+ ! hat on ! /aircases & 9 ! halls ( a hotel z g5tlem5 pass ladies is mu* comm5d$4 ,9 ,europe ea* man raises 8 hat z he passes a bi]1 or if a he>se c>ry+ a dead body passes him4 ,9 ?is c\ntry m5 simply raise _! hats z a fun]al cortge passes into a *ur*1 or at ! grave4 ,if a g5tleman1 p>ticul>ly an eld]ly "o1 takes (f 8 hat & /&s uncov]$ 9 a draughty place1 z ! foy] ( an op]a-h\se1 :ile talk+ to ladies1 x is prop] = "o ( !m to say1 ,pray resume y\r hat --a delicate att5tion deeply priz$ by a respectful man1 :o1 p]haps1 w\ld n o!rwise cov] 8 head4 ,aga91 our "y lady fri5ds ask u _m que/ions on ! subject ( propriety1 %[+ h[ anxi\s !y are to d "r1 b also prov+ h[ f> !y are f appreh5d+ :at 9 ,old-,_w cu/oms has be5 always consid]$ propriety4 ,9 our new c\ntry ! relations ( m5 & wom5 are necess>ily simple4 ,! :ole bus9ess ( etiquette is1 ( c\rse1 r$uc$ to ea* "o's s5se ( propriety1 & ! /&>d mu/ be *ang$ z ! circum/ances dem&4 ,z1 = in/ance1 a lady writes to "k if %e %\ld ?ank a g5tleman = pay+ = h] on an excursion4 ,n[ ?is involves a long answ]4 ,9 ,europe no "y lady c\ld accept an invitation to g z ! gue/ ( a "y g5tleman on an excursion1 & all[ him to pay = h]1 )\t los+ mu* reputation4 ,%e w\ld n 9 ei!r ,engl& or ,france be receiv$ 9 society aga94 ,%e %\ld be invit$ by ! g5tleman ?r\gh h] fa!r or "m1 & "o or bo? %\ld accompany an h]4 ,ev5 !n x is n cu/om>y = g5tlem5 to invite ladies to g on an excursion4 ,he c\ld invite ! lady's "m to *ap]on a !atre p>ty :i* he _h paid =4 ,ano!r "y lady asks if %e c\ld ) propriety buy ! tickets & take a "y g5tleman to ! !atre4 ,( c\rse %e c\ld1 if h] "m or *ap]on w\ld g ) h]2 b ev5 !n ! "m or *ap]on %\ld write ! note ( invitation4 ,b 9 our free c\ntry x is1 we he>1 p>ticul>ly 9 ! ,we/1 all[able = a "y lady & g5tleman to g (f on1 an excursion toge!r1 ! g5tleman pay+ all ! exp5ses4 ,if t is all[$1 !n1 ( c\rse--to answ] our correspond5t's "q %e %\ld ?ank him4 ,b if we 7 to answ] ! "y lady's lat] "q1 ,w\ld ?is be consid]$ etiquette8 we %\ld say1 decid$ly1 ,no4 ,ano!r "q :i* we are p]petually ask$ is ?is3 ,h[ to all[ a g5tleman a prop] degree ( fri5dly intimacy )\t all[+ him to ?9k himself too mu* ( a favorite4 ,"h we _c br+ 9 ei!r etiquette or cu/om to decide4 ,"o v g5]al law w\ld be n to accept too _m att5tions1 to %[ a c]ta9 res]ve 9 danc+ ) him or driv+ ) him4 ,x is always prop] = a g5tleman to take a "y lady out to drive 9 8 dog-c>t ) 8 s]vant beh9d1 if h] p>5ts approve2 b if x is done v (t51 ( c\rse x looks conspicu\s1 & ! lady runs ! risk ( be+ consid]$ engag$4 ,& %e kn[s1 ( c\rse1 :e!r h] looks & words give him reason to ?9k t he is a favorite4 ,%e mu/ decide all t h]self4 ,ano!r writes to ask u if %e %\ld take a g5tleman's hat & coat :5 he calls4 ,nev]4 ,let him take c>e ( ^?4 ,*ri/ianity & *ivalry1 mod]n & anci5t cu/om1 make a man ! s]vant ( wom54 ,! old =m ( salutation us$ by ,sir ,walt] ,raleigh & o!r c\rti]s 0 always1 ,y\r s]vant1 madam1 & x is ! prettie/ & mo/ admirable way = a man to address a woman 9 any language4 ,ano!r asks if %e %\ld introduce a g5tleman :o calls to h] "m4 ,?is1 we %\ld say1 w\ld answ] itself did n ! "q re-appe>4 ,( c\rse %e %\ld2 & h] "m %\ld always sit ) h] :5 %e is receiv+ a call f a g5tleman4 ,b if 9 our less] fa%ionable circles ! re/rictions ( etiquette are relax$1 let a "y lady always rememb] ^! g5]al pr9ciples1 t m5 w l & respect h] f> bett] if %e is extremely p>ticul> ab\t all[+ !m to pay = h]1 if %e refuses two invitations out ( ?ree1 if %e is dignifi$ & res]v$ r ?an if %e is ! rev]se4 ,at ,newport x is n[ ! fa%ion = "y ladies to drive "y m5 out 9 _! pony-phaetons ) a groom beh9d1 or ev5 )\t a groom2 b a g5tleman nev] takes out a lady 9 8 own c>riage )\t a s]vant4 ,g5tlem5 & ladies walk toge!r 9 ! daytime unatt5d$1 b if !y ride on horseback a groom is always 9 att5dance on ! lady4 ,9 rural neighborhoods :]e !re are no grooms1 & :]e a "y lady & g5tleman g (f = a drive unatt5d$1 !y h ?r[n ,old-,_w etiquette out ( ! w9d[1 & mu/ make a new etiquette ( _! own4 ,propriety1 mutual respect1 & ,am]ican *ivalry h done = wom5 :at all ! surveillance ( ,spani% du5nas & ( ,fr5* etiquette has done = ! "y girl ( ,europe4 ,if a woman is a work]1 an arti/1 a /ud5t1 or an au?or1 %e c walk ! ,qu>ti] ,lat9 ( ,p>is unh>m$4 ,b %e has 9 "w an armor ( pro(4 ,?is is n etiquette :5 %e comes into ! _w ( fa%ion4 ,%e mu/ obs]ve etiquette1 z %e w\ld d ! laws ( ,prussia or ( ,engl&1 if %e /&s on =eign %ores4 ,p]haps we c illu/rate ?is4 ,giv5 a pretty "y girl :o %all arrive on ! /eam] ,g]mania aft] be+ sev]al ye>s at s*ool 9 ,p>is1 ano!r :o comes 9 by rail f ,kansas1 ano!r f "s quiet1 remote "p ( ,georgia1 & leave !m all at ! ,new ,york ,hotel = a w9t]4 ,let u imag9e !m all introduc$ at a ,new ,york ball to ?ree g5tlem51 :o %all call on !m ! next day4 ,if ! girl educat$ 9 ,p>is1 sitt+ by h] mamma1 he>s ! o!rs talk to ! "y m5 %e w be %ock$4 ,! girls :o h be5 br\ght up f> f ! c5tres ( etiquette seem to h] to h no mode/y1 no propriety4 ,!y accept invitations f ! "y m5 to g to ! !atre alone1 to take drives1 & p]haps1 z we h said1 to g on an excursion4 ,to ! ,fr5* girl ?is seems to be a violation ( propriety2 b lat] on %e accepts an invitation to g out on a coa*1 ) p]haps t5 or twelve o!rs1 & ) a v "y *ap]on4 ,! p>ty does n return until twelve at night1 & z !y walk ?r\gh ! corridors to a late supp] ! "y ,we/]n girl meets !m1 & sees t ! "y m5 are already ! worse = w9e3 %e is apt to say1 ,:at a r[dy cr[d6 & to ?9k t1 aft] all1 etiquette p]mits its own s9s1 9 :i* %e is "r4 ,9 a g5]al /atem5t x may be z well to say t a sev]e etiquette w\ld prev5t a "y lady f receiv+ gifts f a "y man1 except bonbonni]es & b\quets4 ,x is n consid]$ prop] = him to (f] h] clo?+ ( any sort--z g[ns1 bonnets1 %awls1 or %oes--ev5 if he is engag$ to h]4 ,%e may use h] discretion ab\t accept+ a camel's-hair %awl f a man old en\gh to be h] fa!r1 b %e %\ld nev] receive jewell]y f any "o b a relative or h] fianc j be=e m>riage4 ,! reason = ?is is obvi\s4 ,x has be5 abus$--! privilege :i* all m5 desire1 t ( deck+ wom5 ) f9]y4 ,a "y lady %\ld n write lett]s to "y m51 or s5d !m pres5ts1 or take ! initiative 9 any way4 ,a fri5dly correspond5ce is v prop] if ! "m approves1 b ev5 ?is has its dang]s4 ,let a "y lady always rememb] t %e is to ! "y man an angel to rev]5ce until %e less5s ! di/ance betwe5 !m & ext+ui%es respect4 ,"y wom5 (t5 write to u z to :e!r x is prop] = !m to write lett]s ( condol5ce or congratulation to ladies old] ?an !mselves4 ,we %\ld say1 ,yes4 ,! respect ( "y girls is always felt gratefully by old] ladies4 ,! mann]s ( ! pres5t are va/ly to be object$ to on acc\nt ( a lack ( respect4 ,! r bitt] ,mr4 ,c>lyle wrote satirically ( ! mann]s ( "y ladies4 ,he ev5 _h 8 fl+ at _! laugh3 ,few are able to laugh :at c be call$ laugh+1 b only sniff & titt] f ! ?roat outw>d1 or at be/ produce "s :iffl+ husky ca*9nations z if !y 7 laugh+ ?r\gh wool4 ,( none su* comes good4 ,a "y lady mu/ n speak too l\d or be too boi/]\s2 %e mu/ ev5 tone d[n h] wit1 le/ %e be misund]/ood4 ,b %e ne$ n be dull1 or grumpy1 or ill-temp]$1 or c>eless ( h] mann]s1 p>ticul>ly to h] "m's old fri5ds4 ,%e mu/ n talk slang1 or be 9 any way mascul9e2 if %e is1 %e loses ! battle4 ,a "y lady is sometimes call$ ^u to be a ho/ess if h] "m is dead4 ,"h h] lib]ty becomes great]1 b %e %\ld always h an aunt or "s eld]ly fri5d by h] side to play *ap]on4 ,a "y lady may d any manual labor )\t los+ ca/e4 ,%e may be a good cook1 a f9e laundress1 a c>v] ( wood1 a pa9t]1 a sculptor1 an embroid]ess1 a writ]1 a physician1 & %e w be eligible1 if h] mann]s are good1 to ! be/ society any:]e4 ,b if %e outrage ! laws ( good-bre$+ 9 ! place :]e %e is1 %e _c expect to take h] place 9 society4 ,%\ld %e be se5 at ,newport driv+ two g5tlem5 9 h] pony-phaeton1 or %\ld %e & ano!r "y woman take a g5tleman betwe5 !m & drive d[n ,bellevue ,av5ue1 %e w\ld be taboo$4 ,x w\ld n be a wick$ act1 b x w\ld n look well2 x w\ld n be conv5able4 ,if %e dresses l\dly1 ) peculi> hats & a suspici\s complexion1 %e mu/ take ! consequ5ces4 ,%e mu/ be c>eful 7if %e is unkn[n7 n to attempt to copy ! follies ( well-kn[n fa%ionable wom54 ,:at w be =giv5 to ,mrs4 ,well ,kn[n ,upt[n w nev] be =giv5 to ,miss ,kansas4 ,society 9 ?is respect is v unju/--! _w is always unju/--b t is a "p ( ! tru? ( etiquette :i* is to be rememb]$2 x is f\nd$ on ! accid5tal conditions ( society1 hav+ = its backgr\nd1 h[ev]1 ! et]nal pr9ciples ( k9dness1 polit5ess1 & ! greate/ good ( society4 ,a "y lady :o is v prom95t 9 society %\ld n make h]self too common2 %e %\ld n appe> 9 too _m *>ades1 private !atricals1 tableaux1 etc4 ,%e %\ld ?9k ( ! violet by ! mossy /one4 ,%e mu/1 also1 at a wat]+-place rememb] t e act ( h]s is be+ criticis$ by a set ( look]s-on :o are n all fri5dly1 & %e mu/1 ere %e all[ h]self to be too mu* ( a belle1 rememb] to sil5ce envi\s tongues4 ,,*apt] ,,lvi4 ,,engli% ,,table ,,mann]s ,,& ,,social ,,usages4 ,9 no respect c ,am]ican & ,engli% etiquette be contra/$ m fully ?an 9 ! matt] ( ! e-day d9n]1 :i* 9 ,am]ica f9ds a lady 9 a pla9 silk dress1 high-neck$ & long-sleev$1 b at :i* ! ,engli% lady always appe>s 9 a semi-gr& toilette1 ) op5 ,pompad\r corsage & elb[ sleeves1 if n 9 l[-neck$1 full-dress attire2 :ile h] daught]s are uni=mly sleeveless1 & g5]ally 9 :ite dresses1 (t5 l[-neck$ 9 dep? ( w9t]4 ,at d9n] all ! m5 are 9 ev5+ dress1 ev5 if !re is no "o pres5t at ! "t b ! family4 ,! d9n] is n s good z ! ord9>y ,am]ican d9n]1 except 9 ! matt] ( fi%1 :i* is univ]sally v f9e4 ,! vegetables are few & poor1 & ! sweets1 z !y call dess]t1 are v bad4 ,a gooseb]ry t>t is all t is (f]$ to "o at an ord9>y d9n]1 al?\gh f9e /rawb]ries & a p9e are (t5 br\ght 9 aft]w>ds4 ,! d9n] is always s]v$ ) mu* /ate1 & aft]w>ds ! ladies all comb9e to amuse ! gue/s by _! tal5ts4 ,!re is no false %ame 9 ,engl& ab\t s++ & play+ ! piano4 ,ev5 poor p]=m]s d _! be/1 & contribute v mu* to ! pleasure ( ! company4 ,at ! table p d n talk mu*1 nor d !y ge/iculate z ,am]icans d4 ,!y eat v quietly1 & speak 9 l[ tones4 ,no matt]s ( family hi/ory or religion or political diff]5ces are discuss$ be=e ! s]vants4 ,talk+ ) ! m\? full is consid]$ an unp>donable vulg>ity4 ,all small pref]5ces = any p>ticul> di% are kept 9 ! backgr\nd4 ,no ho/ess ev] apologizes1 or appe>s to he> or see any?+ disagreeable4 ,if ! omelette s\ffle is a failure1 %e does n obs]ve x2 ! s]vant (f]s & )draws x1 nor is any "o di/urb$ !reby4 ,z soon z "o is help$ he mu/ beg9 to eat1 n wait+ = any "o else4 ,if ! vi& is too hot or too cold1 or is n :at ! visitor likes1 he pret5ds to eat x1 play+ ) knife & =k4 ,no gue/ ev] passes a plate or helps to any?+2 ! s]vant does all t4 ,s\p is tak5 f ! side ( ! spoon noiselessly4 ,s\p & fi% are n p>tak5 ( a second "t4 ,if !re is a jo9t1 & ! ma/] c>ves1 x is prop]1 h[ev]1 to ask = a second cut4 ,bread is pass$ by ! s]vants1 & mu/ be brok51 n cut1 aft]w>ds4 ,x is consid]$ gau*e to be undecid$ z to :e!r y w take cle> s\p or ?ick s\p2 decide quickly4 ,9 refus+ w9e1 simply say1 ,?anks2 ! s]vant kn[s !n t y d n take any4 ,! s]vants retire aft] h&+ ! dess]t1 & a few m9utes' free conv]sation is all[$4 ,!n ! lady ( ! h\se gives ! signal = ris+4 ,toa/s & tak+ w9e ) p are entirely out ( fa%ion2 nor d ! g5tlem5 rema9 long 9 ! d9+-room4 ,at ! ,engli% d9n]-table1 f ! pla9e/ to ! highe/1 !re is etiquette1 mann]1 f9e s]vice1 & ev]y?+ t ,engli%m5 enjoy4 ,! wit1 ! c\rti]1 ! beauty1 & ! poet aim at appe>+ well at d9n]4 ,! pleasures ( ! table1 says ,sav>91 br+ nei!r en*antm5t1 ec/asy1 nor transports1 b !y ga9 9 duration :at !y lose 9 int5sity2 !y incl9e u favorably t[>ds all o!r pleasures--at lea/ help to console u = ! loss ( !m4 ,at v few h\ses1 ev5 t ( a duke1 does "o see s elegant a table & su* a pr(usion ( fl[]s z at e millionaire's table 9 ,new ,york2 b "o does see sup]b old family silv] & ! mo/ beautiful table-l95 ev5 at a v pla9 abode4 ,! table is almo/ uni=mly light$ ) wax c&les4 ,hot c(fee is s]v$ imm$iately aft] d9n] 9 ! draw+-room4 ,plum-pudd+1 a sweet omelet1 or a v ri* plum-t>t is (t5 s]v$ 9 ! middle ( d9n]1 be=e ! game4 ,! salad always comes la/1 ) ! *eese4 ,?is is utt]ly unlike our ,am]ican etiquette4 ,tea is s]v$ 9 ,engli% c\ntry-h\ses f\r or five times a day4 ,x is always br\ght to y\r b$side be=e ris+2 x is p\r$ at breakfa/ & at lun*2 x is a necess>y ( life at five o'clock2 x is drunk j be=e go+ to b$4 ,probably ! cold1 damp climate has mu* to d ) ?is2 & ! tea is nev] v /rong1 b is excell5t1 be+ always fre%ly drawn1 n /eep$1 & is mo/ refre%+4 ,s]vants make ! r\nd ( ! table 9 pairs1 (f]+ ! condim5ts1 ! sauces1 ! vegetables1 & ! w9es4 ,! common- s5se ( ! ,engli% nation breaks out 9 _! d9n]s4 ,no?+ is (f]$ out ( season4 ,to make too great a display ( weal? is consid]$ b\rgeois & vulg> to a degree4 ,a *oice b n ov]sumptu\s d9n] meets y 9 ! be/ h\ses4 ,b to sit d[n to ! pla9e/ d9n]s1 z we d1 9 pla9 clo!s1 w\ld nev] be p]mitt$4 ,ev5 ladies 9 deep m\rn+ are expect$ to make "s slight *ange at d9n]4 ,ic$ dr9ks are nev] (f]$ 9 ,engl&1 nor 9 tru? are !y ne$$4 ,9 ,engl& no "o speaks ( %]ry w9e1 port w9e2 *ampagne w9e1 he always says %]ry1 port1 cl>et1 etc4 ,b 9 ,france "o always says v9 de ,*ampagne1 v9 de ,bordeaux1 etc4 ,x goes to %[ t :at is prop] 9 "o c\ntry is vulg> 9 ano!r4 ,x is /ill consid]$ prop] = ! man ( ! h\se to "k h[ to c>ve1 & at breakfa/ & lun* ! g5tlem5 pres5t always cut ! cold beef1 ! f[l1 ! press$ veal & ! tongue4 ,at a c\ntry-h\se d9n] ! lady (t5 helps ! s\p h]self4 ,ev5 at v quiet d9n]s a m5u is writt5 out by ! ho/ess & plac$ at ea* plate4 ,! c]emony ( ! fir/ lady be+ tak5 9 fir/ & all[$ to g out fir/ is always obs]v$ at ev5 a family d9n]4 ,no "o apologizes = any accid5t1 su* z ov]turn+ a glass ( cl>et1 or dropp+ a spoon1 or ev5 break+ a glass4 ,x is pass$ ov] 9 sil5ce4 ,no ,engli% lady ev] reproves h] s]vants at table1 nor ev5 be=e h] husb& & *ildr54 ,h] duty at table is to appe> s]5e & unruffl$4 ,%e puts h] gue/s at _! ease by appe>+ at ease h]self4 ,9 ?is respect ,engli% ho/esses are f> ahead ( ,am]ican ones4 ,9 ! matt] ( public holidays & ( _! amusem5ts ! ,engli% p behave v unlike ,am]ican p4 ,if !re is a week ( holidays1 z at ,:itsuntide1 all ! labor+ classes g out ( t[n & sp5d ! day 9 ! p>ks1 ! woods1 or ! c\ntry4 ,by ?is we mean %op-girls1 cl]ks 9 banks1 lawy]'s cl]ks1 "y arti/s1 & physicians1 all1 9 fact1 :o make _! bread by ! sweat ( _! br[s4 ,z = ! privileg$ classes1 !y g f ,london to _! e/ates1 put on pla9 clo!s1 & fi% or bunt1 or ! ladies g into ! woods to pick wild-fl[]s4 ,! real love ( nature1 :i* is s honorable a "p ( ! ,engli% "*1 breaks out 9 great & small4 ,9 ,am]ica a holiday is a day :5 p dress 9 _! be/1 & ei!r walk ! /reets ( a great city1 or else take drives1 or g to museums or !atres1 or d some?+ :i* smacks ( civilization4 ,h[ few put on _! pla9 clo!s & /\t %oes & g into ! woods6 ,h[ mu* bett] x w\ld be = !m if !y did6 ,at ,:itsuntide ! %op-girls ( ,london--a h>d work$ class--g d[n to ,epp+ ,=e/1 or to ,hampton ,c\rt1 or to ,w9dsor1 ) _! basket ( lun*1 & ev]y:]e "o sees ! sign ,hot ,wat] = ,tea1 :i* means t !y g into ! humble inn & pay a p5ny = ! use ( ! teapot & cup & ! hot wat]1 br++ _! own tea & sug>4 ,! economy :i* is a "p ( e ,engli%man's religion c\ld well be copi$ 9 ,am]ica4 ,ev5 a du*ess tries to save money1 say+ wisely t x is bett] to give x away 9 *>ity ?an to wa/e x4 ,an unpleasant feature ( ,engli% life is1 h[ev]1 ! op5 palm1 e "o be+ will+ to take a fee1 f a p5ny up to a %ill+1 = ! smalle/ s]vice4 ,! etiquette ( giv+ has to be le>n$4 ,a %ill+ is1 h[ev]1 z good z a gu9ea = ord9>y use2 no "o b an ,am]ican gives m4 ,! c>riage etiquette diff]s f ours1 z ! g5tleman ( ! family rides beside 8 wife1 all[+ 8 daught]s to ride backw>ds4 ,he also smokes 9 ! ,p>k 9 ! company ( ladies1 :i* looks boori%4 ,h[ev]1 no g5tleman sits beside a lady 9 driv+ unless he is h] husb&1 fa!r1 son1 or bro!r4 ,n ev5 an affianc$ lov] is p]mitt$ ?is seat4 ,x mu/ be confess$ t ! gr\ps 9 ,hyde ,p>k & 9 ,rott5 ,r[ & ab\t ! ,s]p5t9e h a solemn look1 ! p 9 ! c>riages r>ely *att+1 b sitt+ up 9 /ate to be look$ at1 ! p 9 *airs gravely />+ at ! o!rs4 ,none b ! p on horseback seem at _! ease2 !y *at z !y ride1 &1 all faultlessly cap>ison$ z !y are1 ) well-groom$ horses1 & s]vants beh9d1 !y seem gay & jolly4 ,9 ,am]ica x is ! eque/rian :o always looks preoccupi$ & solemn1 & z if ! horse 7 q en\gh to manage4 ,! footm5 are g5]ally p[d]$ & v neatly dress$ 9 liv]y1 9 ! swell c>riages1 b ! coa*m5 are n s highly gott5 up z =m]ly4 ,occasionally "o sees a v gr& fat old coa*man 9 wig & knee- bree*es1 b ,jeames ,yell[plu% is gr[+ a ?+ ( ! pa/ ev5 9 ,london4 ,a lady does n walk alone 9 ! ,p>k4 ,%e may walk alone to *ur*1 or to d h] %opp+1 b ev5 ?is is n common4 ,%e _h bett] take a hansom1 x n[ be+ prop] = ladies to g out to d9n] alone 9 full dress 9 "o ( ^! s+ul>ly op5 & expos$-look+ c>riages4 ,x is n an uncommon sight to see a lady 9 a diamond ti>a 9 a ,london hansom by ! blaz+ light ( a summ] sun4 ,?us :at we %\ld %un z a v public ?+ ! res]v$ ,engli% woman does 9 cr[d$ ,london1 & reg>ds x z prop]1 :ile %e smiles if %e sees an ,am]ican lady alone 9 a victoria 9 ,hyde ,p>k1 & w\ld consid] h] a v improp] p]son if %e ask$ a g5tleman to drive out ) h]--z we d 9 our ,p>k e day ( our lives--9 an op5 c>riage4 ,truly etiquette is a curi\s & arbitr>y ?+1 & diff]s 9 e c\ntry4 ,9 ,france1 :]e !y consid] ,engli% p frightfully gau*e1 all ?is etiquette is rev]s$1 & is v mu* m l ours 9 ,am]ica4 ,a ,fr5*man always takes (f 8 hat on ent]+ or leav+ a railway c>riage if ladies are 9 x4 ,an ,engli%man nev] takes 8 hat (f unless ! ,pr9cess ( ,wales is pass+1 or he meets an acqua9tance4 ,he sits ) x on 9 ! ,h\se ( ,commons1 9 ! read+-room ( a hotel1 at 8 club1 :]e x is 8 privilege to sulk2 b 9 8 own h\se he is ! mo/ *>m+ ( ho/s4 ,! rude/ & almo/ ! mo/ unk9d p]sons 9 ! _w1 if y meet !m )\t a lett] or an introduction 9 a public place1 ! ,engli% become 9 _! own h\ses ! mo/ g5tle1 lovely1 & polite ( all p4 ,if ! ladies meet 9 a fri5d's p>lor1 !re is none ( t snobbi% rud5ess :i* is ! fa%ion 9 ,am]ica1 :]e "o lady treats ano!r z if %e 7 afraid ( contam9ation1 & w n speak to h]4 ,! lady-9-wait+ to ,que5 ,victoria1 ! du*ess1 is n afraid ( h] nobility2 h] fri5d's ro( is an introduction2 %e speaks4 ,!re is a great s5se ( ! value ( a note4 ,if a lady writes a pretty note express+ ?anks = civilities (f]$ to h]1 all ! family call on h] & ?ank h] = h] polit5ess4 ,x is to be fe>$ t 9 ?is latt] piece ( good-bre$+ we are beh9d our ,engli% c\s9s4 ,! ,engli% call imm$iately aft] a p>ty1 an invitation1 or a lett] ( introduction4 ,an elegant & easy epi/ol>y /yle is ( great use 9 ,engl&2 & inde$ a lady is expect$ ev5 to write to an arti/ ask+ p]mission to call & see 8 pictures--a ?+ r>ely ?\ght ( 9 ,am]ica4 ,,*apt] ,,lvii4 ,,am]ican ,,& ,,engli% ,,etiquette ,,contra/$4 ,no soon] does ! ,am]ican travell] l& 9 ,engl& ?an are =c$ ^u 8 consid]ation ! /rik+ diff]5ces 9 ! etiquette ( ! two c\ntries1 ! language = common ?+s1 ! diff]5t sy/em ( int]c\rse betwe5 ! employee & ! employ]1 ! int5se respectfulness ( ! gu>d on ! railway1 ! wait] at ! hotel1 & ! port] :o %\ld]s a trunk1 & ! ,/ately manag]ess ( ! hotel1 :o greets a travell] z my lady1 & holds out h] h& = a %ill+4 ,?is respect /rikes him =cibly4 ,! ,am]ican 9 a simil> position w\ld n %[ ! polit5ess1 b %e w\ld disda9 ! %ill+4 ,no ,am]ican woman likes to take a fee1 lea/ ( all an ,am]ican l&lady4 ,9 ,engl& !re is no su* s5sitiv5ess4 ,ev]ybody c be fe$ :o does ev5 ! mo/ elevat$ s]vice4 ,! /ately g5tlem5 :o %[ ,w9dsor ,ca/le expect a %ill+4 ,n[ z to ! language = common ?+s4 ,no ,am]ican mu/ ask = an apo!c>y's %op2 he w\ld n be und]/ood4 ,he mu/ inquire = ! *emi/'s if he wants a dose ( m$ic9e4 ,apo!c>ies exi/$ 9 ,%akespe>e's "t1 z we le>n f ,romeo & ,juliet1 b !y are gone out s9ce4 ,! *emi/ has be5 born1 & v good *emicals he keeps4 ,z soon z an ,am]ican c dive/ himself ( 8 habit ( say+ baggage1 & rem>k t he desires 8 luggage s5t up by ! f\r tra91 ! bett] = him4 ,& x is ! bett] = him if he le>ns ! language ( ! c\ntry quickly4 ,language 9 ,engl&1 9 all classes1 is a mu* m elaborate & f9i%$ sci5ce ?an ) u4 ,e "o1 f ! cad to ! cab9et m9i/]1 speaks 8 s5t5ces ) :at seems to u at fir/ a /ilt$ ef=t4 ,!re is none ( ! easy drawl1 ! oblivion ( consonants1 :i* m>k our daily talk1 ,x is v beautiful 9 ! spee* ( wom5 9 ,engl&1 ?is cle> enunciation & ! prop] use ( words4 ,ev5 ! maid :o lights y\r fire asks y\r p]mission to d s 9 a /udi$ mann]1 giv+ ea* lett] its place4 ,! slang ( ,engl& is ! affectation ( ! few4 ,! g5]al public1 z we %\ld say1 speak our common language mo/ correctly4 ,at fir/ x s\nds affect$ & /ra9$1 b soon ! ,am]ican e> gr[s to appreciate x1 & f9ds ! pure well ( ,engli% undefil$4 ,! ,am]ican lady w be sure to be *>m$ ) ! mann]s ( ! v respectable p]son :o lets lodg+s1 & %e w be equally sure to be %ock$ at ! extortions ( ev5 ! mo/ hone/ & be/-mean+ ( !m4 ,ice1 lights1 an extra egg = breakfa/1 all ^! common luxuries1 :i* are giv5 away 9 ,am]ica1 & consid]$ z necess>ies ( exi/5ce1 are *>g$ = 9 ,engl&1 & if a ba? is requir$ 9 ! morn+ 9 ! tub :i* always /&s ne> ! wa%-/&1 an extra sixp5ce is requir$ = t commonplace adjunct ( ! toilette4 ,if ladies c>ry _! own w9e f ! /eam] to a lodg+-h\se1 & dr9k x !re1 or (f] x to _! fri5ds1 !y are *>g$ corkage4 ,on ask+ ! mean+ ( ?is n[ almo/ obsolete relic ( b>b>ism1 !y are in=m$ t ! lodg+-h\se keep] pays a tax ( tw5ty p\nds a ye> = ! privilege ( us+ w9e or spirits on ! premises1 & sev5 %ill+s--equal to ne>ly two doll>s ( our money--0 *>g$ an invalid lady :o op5$ "o bottle ( port & two little bottles ( *ampagne ( h] own 9 a lodg+-h\se 9 ,half-moon ,/reet4 ,z x 0 left on ! sidebo>d & ne>ly all drunk up by ! wait]1 ! lady demurr$1 b %e _h no r$ress4 ,a fri5d told h] aft]w>ds t %e %\ld h uncork$ h] bottles 9 h] b$room1 & call$ x m$ic9e4 ,^! abuses1 practis$ pr9cipally on ,am]icans1 are lead+ to ! f> wis] & m g5]\s plan ( hotel liv+1 :]e1 z ) u1 a man may "k h[ mu* he is pay+ a day1 & may lose ?is disagreeable s5se ( be+ p]petually pluck$4 ,no d\bt to ,engli% p1 :o "k h[ to cope ) ! l&lady1 :o are accu/om$ to dole out _! /ores v c>efully1 :o "k h[ to save a sixp5ce1 & w g )\t a lump ( sug> 9 _! tea r ?an pay = x1 ! lodg+-h\se liv+ has its conv5i5ces4 ,x c]ta9ly is quiet] & 9 "s respects m com=table ?an a hotel1 b x goes aga9/ ! gra9 = any "o accu/om$ to ! good breakfa/s1 ! he>ty lun*1 & ! excell5t d9n]s ( an ,am]ican hotel ( ! bett] class1 to h to pay = a dr9k ( ice-wat]1 & to be told t ! l&lady _c give him s\p & fi% on ! same day unless h] pay is rais$4 ,inde$1 x is difficult to make any positive t]ms2 ! extras w come 94 ,?is has l$ to ! build+ ( gigantic hotels 9 ,london on ! ,am]ican plan1 :i* arise rapidly on all sides4 ,! ,gr& ,hotel1 ! ,bri/ol1 ! ,fir/ ,av5ue ,hotel1 ! ,midl&1 ! ,nor?we/]n1 ! ,langham1 & ! ,royal are all bett] places = an ,am]ican ?an ! lodg+-h\se1 & !y are v little if any m exp5sive4 ,9 a lodg+-h\se a lady mu/ h a p>lor1 b 9 a hotel %e c sit 9 ! read+-room1 or write h] lett]s at "o ( ! half-doz5 little tables :i* %e w f9d 9 ea* ( ! _m wait+-rooms4 ,london is a v conv5i5t city = ! writ+ & po/+ ( lett]s4 ,=eign]s s5d out _! lett]s ( introduction & c>ds1 expect+ a reply 9 a few days1 :51 lo6 ! visitor is ann\nc$ z be+ outside4 ,"h1 aga91 ,london has ! advantage ( ,new ,york4 ,! imm$iate att5tion paid to a lett] ( introduction might %ame our m t>dy hospitality4 ,nev] 9 ! c\rse ( ! hi/ory ( ,engl& has self-respect+ ,london] neglect$ a lett] ( introduction4 ,if he is well-to-d1 he asks ! p]son :o br+s ! lett] to d9n]2 if he is poor1 he does :at he c4 ,he is n a%am$ to (f] m]ely ! hospitality ( a cup ( tea if he c d no m4 ,b he calls1 & he s5ds y tickets = ! ,zoo1 or he does some?+ to %[ 8 appreciation ( ! fri5d :o has giv5 ! lett]4 ,n[ 9 ,am]ica we are v t>dy ab\t all ?is1 & (t51 to our %ame1 take no notice ( lett]s ( introduction4 ,9 ! matt] ( dress ! ,am]ican lady f9ds a complete b\lev]sem5t ( h] own ideas4 ,:o w\ld n />e1 on alight+ at ! ,fif? ,av5ue ,hotel 9 ! hot sun%9e ( a ,june ev5+1 to f9d ladies troop+ 9 at ! public entrance dress$ 9 r$ & blue & gold1 ) %ort sleeves or no sleeves1 & v l[ corsage1 no cloak1 no head-cov]+8 ,& yet at ! ,gr& ,hotel 9 ,london ?is is ! nightly cu/om4 ,^! ladies are dress$ = !atre or op]a1 & !y g to d9e at a hotel fir/4 ,no bonnet is all[$ at any !atre1 s ! full dress 7:i* we %\ld deem v improp] at ,wallack's7 is dem&$ at e !atre 9 ,london4 ,( c\rse eld]ly & quiet ladies c g 9 high dresses1 b !y mu/ n we> bonnets4 ,! laws ( ! ,m$es & ,p]sians 7 n m /rictly en=c$ ?an is ?is law by ! cu/odians ( ! !atre1 :o are neatly dress$ wom5 u%]s ) becom+ caps4 ,"h1 aga91 is a diff]5ce ( cu/om1 z we h no wom5 u%]s 9 ,am]ica1 & 9 ?is respect ! ,engli% fa%ion is ! pretti]4 ,x w\ld be well1 if we c\ld introduce ! habit ( go+ to ! !atre bonnetless1 = our high hats are univ]sally d5\nc$ by ^? :o sit beh9d u4 ,! appe>ance ( ,engli% wom5 n[ to ! /rang] 9 ,london p>takes ( a "* ( l\dness1 except+ :5 on ! top ( a coa*4 ,!re !y are mo/ mode/ly & pla9ly dress$4 ,:ile our ,am]ican wom5 we> coa*+ dresses ( bright orange silks & :ite sat9s1 p9k trimm$ ) lace1 & s on1 ! ,engli% woman we>s a pla9 color$ dress1 ) a black mantilla or wrap1 & c>ries a d>k p>asol4 ,no bright] dress ?an a fawn-color$ f\l>d appe>s on a coa* 9 ! great ,london p>ade ( ! ,f\r- 9-,h&s4 ,"h ! ,london woman is m s5sible ?an h] ,am]ican c\s94 ,! ,am]icans :o n[ visit ,london are apt to be s pla9 & undemon/rative 9 dress t !y are call$ %abby4 ,p]haps al>m$ at ! comm5ts once made on _! l\dness ( dress1 ! ,am]ican woman has ton$ d[n1 & f9ds h]self less gay ?an %e sees is fa%ionable at ! !atre & op]a4 ,b %e may be sure ( "o ?+--%e %\ld be pla9ly dress$ r ?an ov]dress$4 ,z = d9n] p>ties1 "o is ask$ at eight or half-pa/ eight2 no "o is introduc$1 b e "o talks4 ,! conv]sation is apt to be l[-voic$1 b v bright & cordial--all ,engli% p unb5d+ at d9n]4 ,x is etiquette to leave a c>d next day aft] a ball1 & to call on a lady's reception day4 ,= ! out-(-door ftes at ,hurl+ton & ,s&hur/ & ! race days v brilliant toilettes ( %ort dresses1 gay bonnets1 & s on1 are prop]1 & z no "o c g to ! fir/ two )\t a special invitation1 ! p pres5t are apt to be swells1 & well wor? see+4 ,! coa*es :i* come out to ^! fe/ivities h well-dress$ wom5 on top1 b !y usually conceal _! gay dresses ) a wrap ( "s sombre color :ile driv+ ?r\gh ,london4 ,no "o makes ! slighte/ advance t[>ds an acqua9tance or an intimacy 9 ,london4 ,all is begun v =mally by ! pres5tation ( lett]s1 & aft] t ! invitation mu/ be imm$iately accept$ or decl9$1 & no p]son c1 )\t (f5d+ 8 ho/1 )draw f a lun* or d9n] )\t mak+ a mo/ reasonable excuse4 ,an ,am]ican g5tleman long resid5t 9 ,london compla9s ( 8 c\ntry-p 9 ?is respect4 ,he says !y accept 8 invitations to d9n]1 he gets toge!r a mo/ di/+ui%$ company to meet !m1 & at ! la/ mom5t !y s5d him ^w3 ,s sorry1 b h come 9 tir$ f ,ri*mond4 ,?9k we won't come4 ,?ank y4 ,n[ :]e is 8 d9n] p>ty8 ,?ree or f\r angry ,london]s1 :o might h gone to a doz5 diff]5t d9n]s1 are sulkily sitt+ ab\t wait+ = ^! ,am]icans :o take a d9n] invitation s lightly4 ,! ,london lun*eon1 :i* is a v pla9 meal comp>$ ) ours-- inde$1 only a family d9n]--is a favorite hospitality z ext5d$ to ,am]icans by busy m54 ,?us ,sir ,john ,millais1 ^: h\rs are wor? tw5ty p\nds apiece1 receives 8 fri5ds at a pla9 lun* 9 8 magnific5t h\se1 at a table at :i* 8 h&some wife & rosy daught]s assi/4 ,s ) ,alma ,tadema1 & ! lit]>y p ^: "t is money4 ,_m ( ! noble p1 ^: "t is n wor? s mu*1 also invite "o to lun*1 & always ! meal is an in=mal "o4 ,engli% ladies are v accompli%$ z a rule1 & sometimes come into ! draw+-room ) _! pa9t+ aprons ov] _! g[ns4 ,!y nev] look s well z on horseback1 :]e !y h a p]fection ( outfit & su* horses & grooms z our ,am]ican ladies z yet _c approa*4 ,! sc5e at ! corn] ( ,rott5 ,r[ ( a bright aft]noon 9 ! ,d]by week is unapproa*able 9 any c\ntry 9 ! _w4 ,_m ,am]ican ladies1 n kn[+ ! cu/oms ( ! c\ntry1 h1 ) _! g5tlem5 fri5ds1 m\nt$ a coa* at ! ,langham ,hotel1 & h driv5 to ! ,d]by1 com+ home v mu* %ock$ because !y 7 rudely acco/$4 ,n[ ladies %\ld nev] g to ! ,d]by4 ,x is n a lady race4 ,x is five hundr$ ?\s& p out on a spree1 & no lady is safe !re4 ,ascot1 on ! contr>y1 is a lady's race4 ,b !n %e %\ld h a box1 or else sit on ! top ( a coa*4 ,su* is ! etiquette4 ,x w\ld be bett] = all ,am]icans1 be=e ent]+ ,london society1 to le>n ! etiquette ( ^! ?+s f "s resid5t4 ,9 driv+ ab\t1 ! mo/ ari/ocratic lady c use ! mo/ plebeian conveyance4 ,! f\r-:eel] is ! favorite c>riage4 ,a s]vant calls !m f ! door-/ep ) a :i/le4 ,!y are v *eap--"o-&-sixp5ce = two miles1 includ+ a call n to exce$ fifte5 m9utes 7! call74 ,! hansom cab ) "o horse is equally *eap1 b n s easy to get 9 & out (4 ,bo? ^! vehicles1 ) trunks on top ( !m1 & a lady )91 drive ?r\gh ! ,p>k side by side ) ! /ately c>riages4 ,9 ?is respect ,london is m democratic ?an ,new ,york4 ,,*apt] ,,lviii4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,treat ,,engli% ,,p4 ,! highe/ lady 9 ! realm1 ,que5 ,victoria1 is always address$ by ! ladies & g5tlem5 ( h] h\sehold1 & by all memb]s ( ! ari/ocracy & g5try1 z ,ma'am1 n ,madam1 or ,y\r ,maje/y1 b simply1 ,yes1 ma'am1 ,no1 ma'am4 ,all classes n com+ )9 ! category ( g5try1 su* z ! l[] pr(essional classes1 ! middle classes1 ! l[] middle classes1 ! l[] classes 7s]vants71 w\ld address h] z ,y\r ,maje/y1 & n z ,ma'am4 ,! ,pr9ce ( ,wales is address$ z ,sir by ! ari/ocracy & g5try1 & nev] z ,y\r ,royal ,highness by ei!r ( ^! classes1 b by all o!r p he is address$ z ,y\r ,royal ,highness4 ,! o!r sons ( ,que5 ,victoria are address$ z ,sir by ! upp] classes1 b z ,y\r ,royal ,highness by ! middle & l[] classes1 & by all p]sons n com+ )9 ! category ( g5try2 & by g5try1 ,engli% p mean n only ! l&$ g5try1 b all p]sons belong+ to ! army & navy1 ! cl]gy1 ! b>1 ! m$ical & o!r pr(essions1 ! ari/ocracy ( art 7,sir ,fr$]ick ,leighton1 ! ,presid5t ( ! ,royal ,academy1 c always claim a private audi5ce ) ! sov]eign71 ! ari/ocracy ( weal?1 m]*ant pr9ces1 & ! lead+ ,city m]*ants & bank]s4 ,! ,pr9cess ( ,wales & all ! pr9cesses ( ! blood royal are address$ z ,ma'am by ! ari/ocracy & g5try1 b z ,y\r ,royal ,highness by all o!r classes4 ,a =eign pr9ce is address$ z ,pr9ce & ,sir by ! ari/ocracy & g5try1 & z ,y\r ,s]5e ,highness by all o!r classes2 & a =eign pr9cess w\ld be address$ z ,pr9cess by ! ari/ocracy1 or ,y\r ,s]5e ,highness by ! l[] grades1 b nev] z ,ma'am4 ,an ,engli% duke is address$ z ,duke by ! ari/ocracy & g5try1 & nev] z ,y\r ,grace by ! memb]s ( ei!r ( ^! classes2 b all o!r classes address him z ,y\r ,grace4 ,a m>quis is sometimes conv]sationally address$ by ! upp] classes z ,m>kis1 b g5]ally z ,"l ,a--1 & a m>*ioness z ,lady ,b--2 all o!r classes w\ld address !m z ,m>quis or ,m>*ioness4 ,! same rem>k holds good z to e>ls1 c\ntesses1 b>ons1 b>onnesses--all are ,"l ,b-- or ,lady ,b--4 ,b ,am]icans1 :o are always1 if pres5t$ at c\rt1 entitl$ to be consid]$ z ari/ocracy & g5try1 & z su* are always receiv$1 mu/ obs]ve t ,engli% p d n use titles (t5 ev5 9 speak+ to a duke4 ,x is only an ignorant p]son :o g>ni%es 8 conv]sation ) ^! titles4 ,let ! conv]sation ) ,"l ,b fl[ on )\t say+ ,my "l or ,"l ,b-- m frequ5tly ?an is absolutely necess>y4 ,"o v ignorant ,am]ican 9 ,london 0 laugh$ at = say+1 ,t isn't s1 "l1 to a nobleman4 ,he %\ld h said1 ,t isn't s1 ,i ?9k1 or1 ,t isn't s1 ,"l ,b--1 or my "l4 ,! daught]s ( dukes1 m>quises1 & e>ls are address$ z ,lady ,m>y1 ,lady ,gw5dol9e1 etc4 ,?is mu/ nev] be =gott51 & ! y\ng] sons ( dukes & m>quises are call$ ,"l ,john ,b--1 ,"l ,r&olph ,*ur*ill1 etc4 ,! wife ( ! y\ng] son %\ld always be address$ by bo? ! ,*ri/ian & surname ( h] husb& by ^? slightly acqua9t$ ) h]1 & by h] husb&'s ,*ri/ian "n only by h] intimate fri5ds4 ,?us ^? :o "k ,lady ,r&olph ,*ur*ill well address h] z ,lady ,r&olph4 ,! y\ng] sons ( e>ls1 visc\nts1 & b>ons be> ! c\rtesy title ( ,honorable1 z d ! female memb]s ( ! family2 b ?is is nev] us$ colloquially "u any circum/ances1 al?\gh always 9 address+ a lett] to !m4 ,b>onets are address$ by _! full title & surname1 z ,sir ,/af=d ,nor?cote1 etc41 by p]sons ( ! upp] classes1 & by _! titles & ,*ri/ian names by all l[] classes4 ,b>onets' wives are address$ z ,lady ,b--or ,lady ,c--4 ,!y %\ld n be address$ z ,lady ,?omas ,b--' t w\ld be to give !m ! rank ( ! wife ( a y\ng] son ( a duke or m>quis1 in/ead ( t ( a b>onet's wife only4 ,9 address+ =eign]s ( rank colloquially ! receiv$ rule is to address !m by _! individual titles )\t ! addition ( ! surname to _! titles4 ,9 case ( a pr9ce be+ a y\ng] son he is address$ z ,pr9ce ,h5ry1 z 9 ! case ( ,pr9ce ,h5ry ( ,batt5b]g4 ,! sons ( ! reign+ mon>*s are address$ z ,y\r ,imp]ial ,highness4 ,a =eign nobleman is address$ z ,monsieur le ,duc1 ,monsieur le ,comte1 ,monsieur le ,b>on1 etc42 b if !re is no prefix ( de1 ! individual is address$ z ,b>on ,ro?s*ild1 ,c\nt ,hoh5?al1 etc4 ,:ile x is prop] on ! ,cont95t to address an unm>ri$ woman z mademoiselle1 )\t ! surname1 9 ,engl& x w\ld be consid]$ v vulg>4 ,miss mu/ be foll[$ by ! surname4 ,! wives ( ar*bi%ops1 bi%ops1 & deans are simply ,mrs4 ,a--1 ,mrs4 ,b--1 etc41 :ile ! ar*bi%op & bi%op are always address$ z ,y\r ,grace & z ,my "l1 _! wives d]iv+ no prec$5cy & no title f _! husb&s' ecclesia/ical rank4 ,x is ! same ) milit>y p]sonages4 ,pe]esses inv>iably address _! husb&s by _! title2 ?us ! ,du*ess ( ,su!rl& calls h] husb& ,su!rl&1 etc4 ,b>onets' wives call _! husb&s ,sir ,john or ,sir ,george1 etc4 ,! ord] ( prec$5cy 9 ,engl& is /rictly adh]$ to1 & ,engli% matrons decl>e t x is ! greate/ conv5i5ce1 z x saves !m all ! tr\ble ( *oos+ :o %all g 9 fir/1 etc4 ,= ?is reason1 among o!rs1 ! ,book ( ! ,pe]age has be5 call$ ! ,engli%man's ,bible1 x is s (t5 consult$4 ,b ! "q ( h[ to treat ,engli% p has _m ano!r phase ?an t ( m]e title1 z we look at x f an ,am]ican po9t ( view4 ,:5 we visit ,engl& we take rank ) ! highe/1 & c well af=d to address ! que5 z ,ma'am4 ,9 fact1 we are expect$ to d s4 ,a well-br$1 well-educat$1 well-introduc$ ,am]ican has ! highe/ position 9 ! social scale4 ,he may n g 9 to d9n] ) a du*ess1 b he is g5]ally v well plac$4 ,z = a well- br$1 h&some woman1 !re is no end to ! privileges ( h] position 9 ,engl&1 if %e obs]ves two or ?ree rules4 ,%e %\ld n effuse too mu*1 nor be too g5]\s ( titles1 nor %\ld %e fail ( ! necess>y c\rtesy due always f gue/ to ho/ess4 ,%e %\ld h h]self pres5t$ at c\rt by h] ,m9i/] or by "s di/+ui%$ fri5d1 if ,%e wi%es to ent] fa%ionable society4 ,!n %e has ! privilege ( att5d+ any subsequ5t ,draw+-room1 & is eligible to invitations to ! c\rt bails & royal conc]ts1 etc4 ,am]ican wom5 h succe$$ wond]fully ( late ye>s 9 all =eign society f _! beauty1 _! wit1 & _! orig9ality4 ,f ! some:at p]il\s admiration ( ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales & o!r ,royal ,highnesses = ,am]ican beauties1 !re has gr[n up1 h[ev]1 a r presumptu\s boldness 9 "s wom51 :i* has r spe$ily br\ght !m into tr\ble1 & !re=e x may be advisable t ev5 a witty & v pretty woman %\ld hold h]self 9 *eck 9 ,engl&4 ,engli% p are v k9d 9 illness1 grief1 or 9 any?+ :i* is inevitable1 b !y are spe$ily *ill$ by any /ep t[>ds a too sudd5 intimacy4 ,!y res5t any?+ l pu%+ m ?an any o!r p 9 ! _w4 ,9 no c\ntry has intellect1 read+1 cultivation1 & k su* success z 9 ,engl&4 ,if a lady1 especially1 c talk well1 %e is invit$ ev]y:]e4 ,if %e c d any?+ to amuse ! company--z to s+ well1 tell =tunes by ! h&1 recite1 or play 9 *>ades or private !atricals--%e is almo/ sure ( ! highe/ social recognition4 ,%e is expect$ to dress well1 & ,am]icans are sure to d ?is4 ,! excess ( dress+ too mu* is to be disc\rag$4 ,x is f> bett] to be too pla9 ?an too f9e 9 ,engl&1 z1 inde$1 x is ev]y:]e2 an ov]dress$ woman is und5iably vulg> 9 any c\ntry4 ,if we c\ld le>n to treat ,engli% p z !y treat u 9 ! matt] ( introductions1 x w\ld be a great advance4 ,! ,engli% reg>d a lett] ( introduction z a sacr$ in/itution & an obligation :i* _c be disreg>d$4 ,if a lady takes a lett] to ,sir ,john ,b[r+1 & he has illness 9 8 family & _c ask h] to d9n]1 he comes to call on h]1 he s5ds h] tickets = e sort ( fl[] %[1 ! museums1 ! ,botanical ,g>d51 & all ! f9e ?+s2 he s5ds h] 8 c>riage--he evid5tly has h] on 8 m9d4 ,sir ,fr$]ick ,leighton1 ! mo/ c\rt$1 ! busie/ man 9 ,london1 is really s k9d1 s att5tive1 s assidu\s 9 8 response to lett]s ( introduction t "o hesitates to pres5t a lett] = fe> ( intrud+ on 8 indu/ri\s & valuable life4 ,( c\rse !re are disagreeable ,engli% p1 & !re is an animal kn[n z ! ,engli% snob1 ?an :i* !re is no ,tasmanian devil m disagreeable4 ,travell]s ev]y:]e h met ?is v>iety1 & "o w\ld ?9k t =m]ly x mu/ h be5 m common ?an x is n[4 ,!re are also ,engli% families :o h a ,cont95tal1 "o might say a cosmopolitan1 reputation = disagreeability1 z we h "s ,am]ican families1 well kn[n to hi/ory1 :o h an almo/ patrician & h]$it>y claim to ! wor/ mann]s 9 ! univ]se4 ,well-born be>s are kn[n all ov] ! _w1 b !y are 9 ! m9ority4 ,x is almo/ a sure sign ( base & ignoble blood to be badly mann]$4 ,& if ! ,am]ican visitor treats 8 ,engli% ho/ half z well z ! ho/ treats him1 he may feel assur$ t ! ent5te cordiale w soon be p]fect4 ,"o ne$ n treat ! av]age ,engli%man ei!r ) a too effusive cordiality or ) t half-contemptu\s fe> ( be+ snubb$ :i* is ( all ?+s ! mo/ disagreeable4 ,a sort ( *ip on ! %\ld] spread-eagleism =m]ly made a class ( ,am]icans unpopul>2 n[ ,am]icans are 9 favor 9 ,engl&1 & are treat$ mo/ cordially4 ,,*apt] ,,lix4 ,a ,,=eign ,,table ,d',,hote1 ,,& ,,cas9o ,,life ,,abroad4 ,life at a ,fr5* wat]+-place diff]s s ess5tially f t at our own ,s>atoga1 ,%>on1 ,ri*field1 ,newport1 & ,long ,bran*1 t a few items ( obs]vation may be indulg$ 9 to %[ u :at an imm5se improvem5t we c\ld introduce into our /udy ( amusem5t by foll[+ ! =eign fa%ions ( simplicity 9 eat+ & dr9k+4 ,! ,cont95tal p nev] eat t heavy e>ly meal :i* we call breakfa/4 ,!y take 9 _! rooms at eight o'clock a cup ( c(fee & a roll1 :at !y call caf complet1 or !y may pref] tea & oatmeal1 ! :ole ?+ v simple4 ,!n at ,aix-les ,ra9s or ,vi*y ! p "u treatm5t g to ! ba?1 tak+ a re/ aft]w>ds4 ,all ?is occupies an h\r4 ,!y !n rise & dress = ! elev5 o'clock djeun] la f\r*ette1 :i* is a =mal meal s]v$ 9 c\rses1 ) r$ w9e in/ead ( c(fee or tea4 ,?is is all t "o has to d 9 ! eat+ l9e until d9n]4 ,imag9e :at a f9e cle> day t gives "o4 ,h[ mu* un9t]rupt$ "t6 ,h[ mu* bett] = ! h\sekeep] 9 a small bo>d+-h\se6 ,& at a hotel :]e ! long1 heavy breakfa/1 f sev5 to elev51 keeps ! d9+-room greasy & badly v5tilat$ until ! tables mu/ be cle>$ = a "o or two o'clock d9n]1 x is to contra/ ord] ) disord]1 & neatness ) its rev]se4 ,! =eign breakfa/ at elev5 is a delici\s meal1 z w be se5 by ! foll[+ bills ( f>e3 oeufs au beurre noir2 saut pr9tani] 7a sort ( /ew ( meat & fre% vegetables72 vi&e froide pana*e2 salade de saison2 compote de fruit et ptiss]ie2 fromage1 fruit1 caf4 ,ano!r breakfa/ is3 oeufs au plat2 p\let la ,god>d2 c'telettes de m\ton grillees2 revi]e pommes de t]re2 flans d'apricot2 & s on1 ) e v>iety ( /ew$ pigeon1 tr\t f ! lake1 delici\s prep>ations ( sp9a*1 & always a v>iety ( ! *eeses :i* are s fre% & s heal?ful1 j br\ght f ! ,alp9e valleys4 ,! highly flavor$ ,alp9e /rawb]ries are add$ to ?is meal4 ,!n all eat+ is done = ! day until ! six or sev5 o'clock d9n]4 ,?is gives ! visitor a long & desirable day = excursions1 :i* 9 ! neighborhood ( ,aix are especially *>m+1 p>ticul>ly ! drive to ,*amb]y1 "o ( ! mo/ qua9tly int]e/+ ( t[ns1 ?r\gh ! magnific5t break 9 ! ,alps at ^: s\!rn portal /&s ,la ,gr&e ,*>treuse4 ,all ?is truly heal?y disposition ( "t & ( eat+ is "o reason :y a p]son comes home f a =eign wat]+-place 9 s mu* bett] trim1 morally1 m5tally1 & physically1 ?an f ! unheal?y gorg+ ( our ,am]ican summ] resorts4 ,at twelve or "o beg9s ! music at ! ,cas9o1 usually a pretty build+ 9 a g>d54 ,9 ?is %ady p>k ! mammas ) _! *ildr5 sit & li/5 to ! /ra9s ( ! be/ b&s 9 ,europe4 ,p>is s5ds h] arti/s f ! ,*telet1 & ! morn+ f9ds itself gone & well into ! aft]noon be=e ! outside pleasures ( ! ,cas9o are exhau/$4 ,"h1 ( c\rse1 trip up & d[n on ! light fanta/ic toe1 & 9 ! prettie/ co/umes ( ! day1 all ! daught]s ( ! e>?1 ) _! att5dant cavali]s4 ,!re are c]ta9 aspects ( a =eign wat]+-place ) :i* we h no?+ to d "h1 su* z ! gambl+ & ! ov]dress+ ( a c]ta9 class1 b all is ext]nally mo/ respectable4 ,at f\r or e>li] e "o goes to drive 9 ! voiture de place or ! voiture de remise1 ! latt] be+ a h&some hir$ c>riage ( a sup]ior class4 ,b ! voiture de place1 ) a ,savoy>d driv]1 is good en\gh4 ,he kn[s ! road2 8 /urdy horse is accu/om$ to ! hills2 he takes "o = ?ree francs an h\r--ab\t half :at is *>g$ at ,s>atoga or ,%>on or ,ri*field2 he expects a few c5ts z p\rboire1 t is all4 ,! vehicle is a humble sort ( victoria1 v easy & safe1 & ! drive is g5]ally ?r\gh sc5]y ( ! mo/ magnific5t description4 ,ladies at a =eign wat]+-place h g5]ally mu* to amuse !m at ! %ops4 ,antiquities ( all sorts1 especially old *9a 7p>ticul>ly old ,saxe71 also old c>v$ furniture f ! well- kn[n *ateaux ( ,savoy1 are f\nd at ,aix4 ,! prices are s small comp>$ ) :at su* curiosities w\ld br+ 9 ,new ,york t ! buy] is tempt$ to buy :at %e does n want1 =gett+ h[ mu* x w co/ to get x home4 ,old lace & bits ( embroid]y & /uffs are br\ght to ! door4 ,!re is no?+ too rococo = ! p]ipatetic v5d] 9 ^! =eign wat]+-places4 ,! d9n] is a v good "o4 ,cook$ by ,italian or ,fr5* cooks1 x may be some?+ ( ?is sort3 potage de riz2 lav>ets ,/4 ,h\lade2 filets de boeuf ,beaumaire 7a delici\s sauce ) basil mix$ 9 x1 a slight ta/e ( anise$72 b\*]s la re9e2 *apon roti au cresson2 asp]ge au bran*es2 glace au *ocolat2 caf2 or3 potage au ,crcy2 turbot aux cpres2 langue de boeuf2 petits pois1 lies au beurre2 bombe vanille2 ) fruits1 *eese1 & cakes1 & always ! w9e ( ! c\ntry1 = :i* no extra *>ge is made4 ,^! delici\s meals co/--! breakfa/ f\r francs 7w9e includ$71 ! d9n] t5 francs4 ,x w\ld be difficult 9 our c\ntry to f9d su* cook+ any:]e1 & = t price simply impossible4 ,music 9 ! ,cas9o gr\nds foll[s ! d9n]4 ,! pretty wom51 by ?is "t 9 ! %ort1 gay f\l>ds & 9 ! dressy hats 9 :i* !y w appe> lat] at ! ,cas9o ball1 are tripp+ up & d[n 9 ! gas-light$ gr\nds4 ,! sc5e is (t5 illum9at$ by fireworks4 ,at eight & a half ! :ole motley crew has ent]$ ! ,cas9o1 & !re ! mo/ amus+ danc+--valse1 galop1 & polka --is 9 vogue4 ,! ,pole is kn[n by 8 viol5t danc+2 he /rikes & flutt]s l a cock1 he cap]s 9 ! air1 he kicks 8 heels up to ! />s4 ,!re is he>t9ess 9 ! danc+ ( ! ,sw$es & ,danes1 !re is mettle 9 _! heels1 b no p cap] l ! ,poles4 ,! ,russians & ! ,am]icans dance ! be/4 ,!y are ! elegant danc]s ( ! _w4 ,fr5* wom5 dance beautifully3 ,a f9e1 sweet e>?quake1 g5tly mov$ ,by ! s(t w9d ( _! disp]s+ silks4 ,no lady appe>s at ! ,cas9o b>ehead$2 x is always ) hat or bonnet1 & %e lives 9 h] bonnet m or less ev5 at ! balls4 ,if a conc]t or a play is go+ on 9 ! little !atre1 ! same p take _! places 9 boxes or seats1 until e face becomes famili>1 z "o kn[s "o's %ipmates4 ,sometimes pleasant acqua9tances are ?us =m$4 ,a v free-&-easy sy/em ( etiquette p]mits danc+ betwe5 p>ties :o h n be5 introduc$1 & ! same privilege ext5ds to ! ask+ ( a p>ty ( ladies to take an ice4 ,all acqua9tance ceases on leav+ ! ,cas9o1 h[ev]1 unless ! lady *ooses to b[ to h] cavali]4 ,sometimes ! /ew>d ( ! ,cas9o gets up a fancy-dress ball "u ! patronage ( "s lady1 & !n ! motley crew appe> z hi/orical *>act]s4 ,x is a unique & gay spectacle4 ,"h 9 ! l& ( ! old ma/]s "s v f9e repres5tations ( ! be/ pictures are ha/ily improvis$1 & almo/ )\t any app>5t ef=t ! :ole ball is gott5 up ) _s & +5uity4 ,?is1 too1 among p :o nev] met ! day be=e ye/]day4 ,!re is a wide range ( co/ume all[$ = ^? :o take "p 9 ^! revelries4 ,! p>quet floor ( a =eign ,cas9o is ! mo/ p]fect ?+ = good danc+4 ,!y und]/& lay+ ^! floors !re bett] ?an we d1 & ! climate does n alt] !m1 z ) u4 ,!y are ! pleasante/ & easie/ ( all floors to dance ^u4 ,n ! lea/ /rik+ episode to an ,am]ican eye is ! sight ( _m prie/s & m5 9 ecclesia/ical g>m5ts at ^! ,cas9os4 ,! numb] ( prie/ly robes ev]y:]e /rikes ! visitor to a ,fr5* wat]+-place mo/ emphatically4 ,! s*oolma/]s are "y prie/s1 & walk ab\t ) _! boys1 & ! old prie/s are ev]y:]e4 ,a solemn procession crosses ! gay sc5e occasionally4 ,?ree or f\r acolytes be>+ c5s]s1 a gr\p ( m\rn]s1 a tall & /ately nun 9 gray robes & veil walk+ magnific5tly1 & mov+ h] lips 9 pray]2 !n a gr\p ( p2 !n a prie/ ) book 9 h& say+ al\d ! pray]s = ! dead2 !n ! black box1 ! c(f91 c>ri$ on a bi] by m51 ! motley cr[d uncov]+ z ! maje/y passes2 & ! boys foll[1 *ant+1 ,! glories ( our bir? & /ate ,are %ad[s1 n sub/antial ?+s2 ,!re is no armor aga9/ fate2 ,dea? lays 8 icy h& on k+s4 ,yes1 & on ! gay visitor at ! ,cas9o4 ,^! simple & uno/5tati\s fun]als are v impressive4 ,! prie/s always walk b>ehead$ ?r\gh ! /reets on ^! occasions1 & on _m o!rs4 ,inde$1 ! prie/ly head seems impati5t ( a hat4 ,! ftes ( ! peasants are ?+s to g & see1 & ! unalt]able diff]5ces ( rank are deeply impress$ on ! ,am]ican m9d4 ,an old peasant woman has br\ght *eese & milk into ,aix = =ty ye>s1 & n[1 9 h] sixties1 %e /ill br+s !m1 & walks eight miles a day4 ,!re is no hope t h] daught] w ev] jo9 9 ! gayeties ( ! ,cas9o1 z 9 ,am]ica %e might c]ta9ly aspire to d4 ,! daught] w be a peasant1 z h] "m 01 & f> happi] & m respectable = x1 & c]ta9ly m picturesque4 ,h[ _m ( ! peasant dresses h giv5 an idea to ! modi/e6 ,& "o sees 9 ! fields ( ,savoy ! high hat ) conical cr[n1 ) brim ei!r wide or flat1 :i* has n[ become s fa%ionable2 also ! flat mu%room hat ( /raw ) ! natural bun* ( corn & r$ poppy1 :i* has gone f ,fan*on up to ! du*ess4 ,!y bo? come f ! fields4 ,( c\rse horse-races1 =m$ aft] ! plan ( ,long*amps1 are insep>able f ! amusem5ts ( a ,fr5* wat]+-place2 & 9 proportion to ! numb] ( gue/s to be amus$2 ! horses come d[n f ! v>i\s /ables4 ,pigeon-%oot+ goes on all ! "t4 ,x is said t ! ,fr5* h a great] hatr$ ( ennui ?an any o!r p 9 ! _w4 ,!y d n "k :at x means4 ,!y amuse !mselves all ! "t1 & are nev] at a loss4 ,! well- br$ ,fr5* wom5 h z mu* en]gy & indu/ry z any ,new ,engl& woman1 b !y take _! amusem5t m resolutely1 nev] los+ music1 gayety1 & di/raction4 ,p]haps :at amuses !m might n amuse ! m sob] ,saxon1 b ! delicate embroid]y ( _! lives1 ) all t comes ?us *eaply to !m1 c]ta9ly makes !m a v delightful set4 ,_! mann]s are mo/ fasc9at+1 nev] selfi%1 nev] pond]\s1 nev] self-consci\s1 b always mo/ agreeable4 ,! ,fr5* woman is sui g5]is4 ,%e may no long] be v "y2 %e nev] 0 v h&some4 ,e s5sation t ! human m9d c exp]i5ce %e has exp]i5c$2 e caprice1 :im1 & fancy t human imag9ation c conceive %e has gratifi$4 ,%e is v intellig5t2 %e 0 born ) a p]fect ta/e 9 dress2 & %e is--all ! noveli/s to ! contr>y not)/&+--a v good wife1 an excell5t "m1 a *>m+ companion1 a mo/ useful & s5sible helpmeet1 ) a p]fect idea ( do+ h] half ( ! bus9ess ( life1 & ( gett+ out ( h] h\rs ( leisure all ! amusem5t %e c4 ,at a ,fr5* wat]+-place ! ,fr5* wom5 ( ! bett] class are mo/ entirely at home & int5sely agreeable4