,,transcrib]',s ,,note ,italic text is d5ot$ by und]scores4 ,bold text is d5ot$ by equal signs4 ,"s m9or *anges to ! text are not$ at ! end ( ! book4 ,,little ,,blue ,,book ,,no4 #ihh ,edit$ by ,e4 ,haldeman-,julius ,! ,art ( ,c\rt%ip ,clem5t ,wood ,,haldeman-,,julius ,,company ,,gir>d1 ,,kansas ,copyright1 #aibf1 ,haldeman-,julius ,company4 ,,pr9t$ ,,9 ,,! ,,unit$ ,,/ates ,,( ,,am]ica ,,cont5ts4 ,page #a4 ,:y ,"o ,mu/ ,woo #e ,! ,orig9 ( ,woo+ #e ,reasons ,aga9/ ,woo+ #h ,woo+ by ,wom5 #ab ,:at ,woo+ ,consi/s ( #ac #b4 ,:om to ,woo #ae ,physical ,mates #ae ,m5tal ,mates #ai ,social ,mates #bj ,special ,problems #bb #c4 ,h[ a ,man ,woos #be ,:om to ,woo #be ,object & ,me?od ( ,woo+ #bg ,problems ( ,woo+ #cb ,! ,proposal1 & ,aft] #cc ,c\rt%ip ,aft] ,m>riage #ce #d4 ,h[ a ,woman ,woos #cg ,fancy ,flirtations #cg ,judg+ ,m5 #ci 8,nice0 ,girl or ,human ,be+ #dc #e4 ,conduct ,dur+ ! ,engagem5t #dg ,conduct 9 ,public #dg ,9 ,private #ej ,t]m9ation ( ,engagem5ts #ec #f4 ,fam\s ,c\rt%ips #eg ,c\rt+ by ,poetry #eg ,great ,lov]s #ei ,,! ,,art ,,( ,,c\rt%ip ,,:y ,,"o ,,mu/ ,,woo ,! ,orig9 ( ,woo+4--,! normal man mu/ woo ! woman :o attracts him1 because ( an in/9ct plant$ deep 9 8 nature1 :i* _h its orig9 f> d[n 9 ! scale ( life4 ,! mod]n civiliz$ woman mu/ woo1 because ?is obligation has be5 laid ^u h] by man's re>rangem5t ( society1 dat+ f ! savage h\r :5 he end$ ! era ( woman-rule1 ! matri>*ate1 & took ! lead]%ip himself4 ,! fir/ sep>ate male appe>s at ab\t ! /age ( ! b>nacle 9 ! scale ( animal life4 ,! female b>nacle1 a %ellfi% atta*$ p]man5tly to a rock1 pi]1 or ! hull ( a %ip1 gives bir? to f two to sev5 little male consorts1 or husb&s1 :om %e keeps 9 little op5+s 9 h] %ell1 l pockets4 ,f among ^! pocket-husb&s %e picks out ! "o %e pleases to mate ) h]2 usually select+ ! l>ge/ 7= all are mu* small] ?an h]self71 &1 :]e sizes are equal1 ! "o t %e feels drawn to emotionally4 ,f ?is emotion gradually em]ges ! e/hetic s5se1 or s5se ( ! beautiful4 ,?us ! fir/ male did n h to d any woo+3 he 0 pick$1 l ! apple t "o day made ,ed5 vani% away4 ,z we rise high] 9 ! scale ( animal life1 say among ! spid]s & insects l ! grotesquely horrible pray+ mantis1 ! male has to woo3 & a bloody & savage mate he mu/ g aft]6 ,! female1 /ill l>g] ?an h] male1 sits back & waits = ! audaci\s mate to approa*4 ,he feels "o impell+ biological purpose3 to mate ) h]1 & make sure t (fspr+ w come4 ,nature has implant$ ?is ov]p[]+ in/9ct 9 him4 ,9 ! female1 are two appetites2 a fa9t] desire to mate1 & ord9>y hung]4 ,h] male mu/ satisfy bo?1 9 8 woo+4 ,z he approa*es h]1 ! ,!da ,b>a among insects grasps ! male & eats1 fir/ 8 head1 !n a leg or two1 & a "p ( 8 body4 ,:5 ! edge has be5 tak5 (f h] appetite1 %e re/s4 ,at ?is "t :at is left ( ! male completes ! mat+4 ,:5 h] hung] returns aga91 ! female f9i%es h] dev\r+ ( ! male4 ,! male bee1 :o outflies ! o!r males 9 ! l(ty nuptial flight ( ! que5 bee1 mates ) h] 9 ?9 high air f> above ! e>?2 & dies at ! mom5t ( mat+1 8 husk ( a body fall+1 l ,lucif] out ( heav51 to ! e>? f> bel[4 ,!re are o!r cases :]e mat+ spells dea? = ! male3 b ,nature is k9d] 9 mo/ mat+s1 & ! male survives4 ,:5 we rea* ! birds & ! mammals1 ! woo+ is a gorge\s ?+4 ,= ! male bird or bea/1 z a sl[ result ( female selection bas$ ^u h] e/hetic or beauty-lov+ s5se1 has develop$ into a f> m gorge\s creature ?an 8 mate4 ,! bright glitt] ( ! peacock1 ! gorge\s flame ( ! male tanag] & c>d9al bird1 ! gl[ ( gay tropical bird males1 ! lion's mane1 ! roo/]'s comb & fea!r display1 ! /ag's bran*+ antl]s1 ! humble billygoat's be>d1 ! man's be>d1 all h develop$ to /imulate ! jad$ eye ( ! female4 ,! mat+ songs1 f ! bird c>ols to ! :oop+ crane's /range h[ls1 ) bill op5$ to ! sky1 neck /iff z a ramrod1 & w+s pump+ out ! weird noises1 & f ! tomcat's cat]waul+ to ! corn] qu>tette's /range agonies ov] 8,sweet ,adel9e0--all h develop$ to /imulate ! bor$ e> ( ! female4 ,at mat+ "t1 ! male is (t5 a ridicul\s sight1 ) 8 /iff =mal dances & pranc+s be=e ! female1 ev5 among ! animals4 ,he mu/ woo3 t is :at he 0 made =4 ,! female 0 n made prim>ily to woo3 h] task is to live1 & to transmit life to ! g5]ations aft] h]4 ,! male1 orig9ally1 0 m]ely an incid5t 9 h] life4 ,?us ! normal boy & "y man came to ! woo+ p]iod ) a trem5d\s inw>d urge1 t gives !m no release until !y h woo$ & won4 ,! female matures e>li] 9 ! human race2 & girls pass ?r\gh a ye> or two ( excessive curiosity & int]e/ 9 ! male sex1 :5 _! boy fri5ds ( ! same age are ord9>ily entirely cold to all female *>ms4 ,! hidd5 h\r comes :5 boy alt]s to man4 ,8 voice *anges & l[]s1 9 t ridicul\s kaleidoscope ( s\nd t is humor\sly call$ 8! gosl+s40 ,a t9y fuzz appe>s on male lips1 *eeks1 & *93 ! "y man is z pr\d ( ! fir/ hair ( 8 incipi5t mu/a*e z if he 7 entitl$ to cr$it = x4 ,8 body alt]s1 & ! mat+ impulse sweeps ov] him4 ,no matt] h[ mu* he has sc(f$ at m]e girls be=e1 !y sudd5ly fill ! :ole horizon4 ,j z ! animals /rut to attract att5tion1 s boys & "y m5 dur+ ?is transition & %ortly aft]w>ds w d any?+ to ga9 ! gaze ( ev5 a pass+ girl4 ,!y talk 9 l\d tones on ! /reet1 !y jo/le a pass+ girl1 !y cut up absurd cap]s--all to ga9 ! fir/ look f a woman's eyes4 ,!n ?is bubbl+ simm]s d[n1 & !y set out on ! long *ase ( ! female1 :i* may occupy mu* ( _! lives !reaft]4 ,if ! boy or "y man cont9ues un9t]e/$ 9 girls1 ?is is a bad sign4 ,x may be ba%fulness3 we w take up t symptom & its cure lat]4 ,x may indicate "s inn] twi/1 :i* makes him pref] 8 own company1 or t ( memb]s ( 8 own sex1 to female company4 ,?is is1 spiritually at lea/1 a sort ( p]v]sion2 x is a /]ile attitude1 contr>y to ! wide purposes ( nature4 ,9 normal cases1 he c no m avoid woo+ ?an he c avoid feel+ hungry & go+ aft] food4 ,= t is :at he is on e>? =1 f a physical po9t ( view4 ,reasons ,aga9/ ,woo+4--,"l ,bacon1 t prosy old cynic :om misguid$ p]sons h s\ght to id5tify z ! au?or ( ! plays attribut$ to ,%akespe>e1 says 9 8 ,essays3 8,a wife & *ildr5 are imp$im5ts to great ent]prises1 ei!r ( virtue or mis*ief40 ,!re is ! smoke ( tru? "h1 b x po9ts to a fire v diff]5t f ! "o ! s>donic old politician int5d$4 ,great ent]prises ga9 mu* ( _! impetus1 f ! male's desire to /& well 9 ! female's eyes4 ,ano!r angle on ! matt] might be word$1 t ! en]gy :i* is implant$ 9 man = woo+ purposes may be deflect$ into ent]prises1 su* z piratical & milit>y c>e]s1 adv5ture trips & explorations4 ,b m (t5 ?an n1 ! spur t s5ds ! man into build+ a h\se1 or till+ a field1 into slic+ m\nta9s ap>t to w$ great oceans1 discov]+ a pole or a hidd5 h9t]l& civilization1 into a*ievem5t ( any di/+ui%$ k9d1 is ! desire to ga9 m]it 9 ! eyes ( "s specific woman1 or ( wom5 9 g5]al4 ,a great ?9k] has said t civilization is a sublimation1 or expression 9 ano!r =m1 ( ! primitive love desire4 ,a man1 because ( 8 %ort height1 or "s physical diseases or disability1 is rebuff$ 9 y\? by a woman3 to provide aga9/ a repetition ( ! rebuff1 he becomes a f9ancial figure 9 ,wall ,/reet1 or a conqu]or ( ! _w2 or1 at lea/1 he tries to a*ieve ?is4 ,?us ! spur ( fem99e approval is :at goads ! horse1 man1 to ent]prises ( virtue & mis*ief4 ,( c\rse1 woo+ does n necess>ily involve m>riage1 or ! man's assumption ( responsibility = ! *ildr54 ,_m m5 rema9 clos] to ! primitive1 & are satisfi$ to enjoy ! woman1 (t5 at great co/ to h]1 & !reaft] to ab&on h] ) :at *ildr5 %e may h z a result ( ! union4 ,su* m5 lose ! f9] fruits ( mat+1 ! long comrade%ip ( a compatible woman t makes life a complete enjoym5t1 r ?an a fragm5t>y "o4 ,! fact t a man has accept$ a wife & *ildr5 may tone d[n 8 _s ( adv5ture3 f absurd mascul9e displays1 8play+ to ! gall]ies0 ( mank9d1 8 en]gy is alt]$ to prop] cont9u+ c\rt%ip ( 8 wife1 & ! mak+ ( a home = h] & ! *ildr54 ,to t ext5t ,bacon is "r3 8great10 9 ! s5se ( fla%y & foolh>dy1 ent]prises 8( virtue or mis*ief0 are replac$ by ord9>y s5sible human liv+4 ,b !re is no loss to ! man1 r a ga94 ,aga91 ! fact ( acquir+ a wife & *ildr51 if ! man is well mat$1 acts z 8 *ief spur to /eady a*ievem5t 9 :atev] is 8 role 9 human life4 ,! unmat$ man is a wild1 reckless creature1 tak+ any k9d ( absurd risk1 s9k+ a ye>'s e>n+s 9 "o night's play at ! gambl+ table1 go+ on ro>+ dr9k+ p>ties1 reg>d+ wom5 z 8 prey r ?an z possible companions4 ,! well-mat$ man is a social unit1 or a "p ( "o1 at lea/4 ,! w&]lu/ is dra9$ away 9 ! humbl] yet l(ti] task ( build+ 8 own _w t[>d 8 dreams1 r ?an skyl>k+ ov] ! _w 9 ! va9 hope t some:]e he w f9d ! _w ( 8 dreams already built = him4 ,!re are dang]s 9 mat+1 grave dang]s3 ! divorce records ( ! c\ntry indicate _m ( !m4 ,! *ief "o is :]e ! man1 at an e>ly age1 contracts a m>riage ) a woman :o is a fit mate = him !n1 b lacks ! capacity = gr[? along ) him4 ,?is applies 9 _m cases :]e ! man makes a success !reaft] 9 any l9e4 ,:5 he 0 a t5-doll>-a-week man1 he m>ri$ a t5-doll>-a-week woman2 :5 he became a t5 ?\s& doll> a ye> man1 ! woman rema9$ a t5-doll>-a-week woman1 & became a di/9ct & dra9+ load ^u 8 back1 & a det]r5t to 8 cont9u$ success & happ9ess4 ,boswell1 ,johnson's biograph]1 may h _h ?is type 9 m9d :5 he wrote3 ,:il/ c\rt+1 & 9 honeymoon1 ,) ,kate's allurem5ts smitt51 ,i lov$ h] late1 ,i lov$ h] soon1 ,& call$ h] de>e/ kitt54 ,b n[ my kitt5's gr[n a cat1 ,& cross1 l o!r wives4 ,alas6 alas6 my hone/ ,matt1 ,i fe> %e has n9e lives4 ,9 8,h[ to ,love0 7,little ,blue ,book ,no4 #ih71 problems ( ?is nature 7 tak5 up & discuss$3 ! only rem$y be+1 :]e a m>riage becomes loveless1 to t]m9ate ! m>riage1 = ! b5efit ( ! man1 ! woman1 & ! *ildr5 conc]n$4 ,f ! woman's /&po9t1 ! *ief dang] 9 mat+ is t %e w get a man lack+ h] s5sitiv5ess1 & unable to gr[ into an appreciation ( x4 ,%e f9ds h]self mat$ = life to a crud]1 co>s]1 & incompatible male2 &1 :5 love dies1 & cruelty & infidelity take its place1 only ! rem$y indicat$ above w s]ve4 ,!re are all ^! dang]s3 b !y call r = a wis] c\rt%ip1 ?an = an abolition ( woo+ & mat+4 ,la/ly1 a man or woman is incomplete )\t c\rt%ip & mat+4 ,^? :o say t a man or woman c become a p]fect$1 r\nd$ human be+ )\t human love1 are deceiv]s1 spread+ a m5tal poison4 ,! man or woman :o goes too long )\t ! practice ( love contracts a case ( +r[+ love1 z pa9ful & morbid z an +r[+ to5ail4 ,all ! imm5se love en]gy /agnates & f\ls into a diseas$ nature1 hateful1 spiteful1 gossipy1 p]v]t$ & w>p$ f real humanness4 ,!re c be no ultimate reason aga9/ mat+4 ,! task is to woo well & mate wisely4 ,woo+ by ,wom54--,today1 contr>y to ! cu/om 9 ! sub-human _w & among ! e>lie/ savage m51 woman mu/ woo z well z man4 ,! reason lies 9 man's alt]ation ( ! /&>ds ( society4 ,! female animal is n z compet5t z h] mate 9 ! hunt & ! kill1 & 9 cop+ ) life4 ,m5 h r5d]$ wom5 incompet5t by ?\s&s ( ye>s ( ho?\se %elt]+ & by s]vile toil = _m m4 ,! woman today realizes1--we speak ( ! less intellig5t woman n[--t h] task 9 life is to obta9 a husb&1 z a p]man5t meal ticket1 & z provid] ( home1 clo?+1 & all ! re/ ( ! trem5d\s trifles ( civilization4 ,su* a mi/aught girl goes aft] a man z a fi%]man goes aft] a brook tr\t1 & m frequ5tly ?an is good = ! man l&s ! poor fi%1 & has him hook$ ?or\ghly !reaft]4 ,su* a woman has be5 taught t m>riage %\ld be bas$1 n ^u love1 b ^u a man's ability to c>e f9ancially = ! woman4 ,life's highe/ cr[n is a satisfy+ human love4 ,?is %e has n aim$ =1 & ?is %e does n get4 ,:5 %e aims l[1 %e scores l[3 &1 if ! man is wise1 he w dump h] & leave h] high & dry1 :5 x is too late = h] to g aft] ! f9] goal4 ,b ev5 ! wise woman today realizes t ! :ole social arrangem5t ( mat+ betwe5 ! sexes is ov]ca/ ) absurd taboos & re/rictions2 & t1 if %e is to mate happily1 %e mu/ rega9 "p ( woman's lo/ privilege ( *oice4 ,!re is no?+ 8unladylike0 9 h] do+ ! *oos+1 9 h] uno/5tati\s woo+1 &1 if necess>y1 9 h] propos+ m>riage h]self4 ,we w take up woman z a woo] lat]4 ,:at ,woo+ ,consi/s ,(4--,f ! /&po9t ( ei!r sex1 woo+ sup]ficially consi/s ( only "o ?+3 conque/ ( ! woman or man pursu$1 ! ga9+ ( ! ultimate favor1 if ! woman be pursu$1 ) or )\t m>riage1 & ! ga9+ ( m>riage1 if ! man is ! pursu$4 ,if woo+ is reg>d$ 9 ?is light1 x is possible t ! pursuit is always limit$1 if n errone\s4 ,= ! matt] ( conque/ is n ! ultimate "o 9 woo+ & mat+4 ,! prop] purpose ( woo+ is to *oose & w9 ! "r mate4 ,! matt] ( *oos+ br+s up ! second & f> m important elem5t ( woo+1 :i* might be describ$ z education 9 ! opposite sex4 ,society today makes no adequate provision = practical laboratory education 9 ! *>act]i/ics ( ! opposite sex3 a wis] civilization w supply ample facilities = ?is indisp5sable "p ( human education4 ,! man comes to adolesc5ce )\t any k ( woman1 beyond 8 slight in=mation conc]n+ 8 "m & 8 si/]s1 if he has any1 & casual contacts ) o!r girls & wom54 ,! girl comes to adolesc5ce z ill-in=m$4 ,yet soon !reaft] man & girl are call$ ^u to ent]1 )\t prelim9>y tra9+1 ! game or gamble ( secur+ a life mate1 :o w lift !m up or drag !m d[n !reaft]1 9 all ( _! ef=ts4 ,socially ?is is a crime4 ,! only ?+ t c p>tially supply ! lack ( in=mation1 today1 is ! woo+ p]iod4 ,=1 aft] m>riage1 x is difficult to end ! relation%ip2 &1 be=e m>riage1 if ! p>ties le>n !y are ill-suit$1 intellig5t m5 & wom5 /ill h a dignifi$ *ance to break (f ! unwise mat+ be=e x solidifies into ! *a9s ( m>riage4 ,keep 9 m9d1 !n1 t ! woo+ p]iod is prim>ily a "t = le>n+ ab\t ! o!r sex1 & its traits & ecc5tricities4 ,! "y man or woman 9 love %\ld /udy ! subject1 f books & f liv+ tea*]s1 z amply z possible3 & %\ld obs]ve o!r m5 & wom51 unm>ri$ & m>ri$1 ) eyes z cle> z he or %e c make !m4 ,if ! woo+ is reg>d$ z an education 9 love1 & especially 9 ! p]son woo$1 its value w be d\bl$4 ,,ii ,,:om ,,to ,,woo ,physical ,mates4--,! l[e/ =m ( mat+ is t on ! exclusively physical plane4 ,yet ?is is p]haps ! mo/ important aspect ( all4 ,if lov]s are n physically pleas+ & satisfactory to ea* o!r1 all ! f9ancial & o!r inducem5ts are wor?less4 ,! fir/ problem conc]ns ! respective ages ( ! p>ties4 ,%\ld !y be ( ! same ages8 ,if n1 :i* %\ld be old]8 ,on ?is po9t1 ,%akespe>e says3 ,let /ill ! woman take ,an eld] ?an h]self2 s we>s %e to him1 ,s sways %e level 9 h] husb&'s he>t4 ,=1 boy1 h[ev] we d praise ourselves1 ,our fancies are m giddy & in=m1 ,m long+1 wav]+1 soon] lo/ & won1 ,?an woman's are4 ,! woman matures e>li]2 s ! y\ng] woman is ! normal equival5t1 especially physically1 ( ! man a few ye>s old]4 ,?is is all "r = ! "t ( ! mat+3 b !reaft] ! man ov]comes ! woman's lead1 & soon surpasses h]2 & :51 at h] *ange ( life1 %e has l>gely f9i%$ h] physical function ( love-mak+1 ! man is /ill equipp$ z a woo] & lov]4 ,on ! o!r side ( ! same "q1 ! same poet wrote3 ,crabb$ ,age & ,y\? ,_c live toge!r3 ,y\? is full or pleasance1 ,age is full ( c>e2 ,y\? l summ] morn1 ,age l w9t] wea!r1 ,y\? l summ] brave1 ,age l w9t] b>e3 ,y\? is full ( sport1 ,age's brea? is %ort1 ,y\? is nimble1 ,age is lame2 ,y\? is hot & bold1 ,age is weak & cold1 ,y\? is wild1 & ,age is tame3-- ,age1 ,i d abhor !e1 ,y\?1 ,i d adore !e2 ,o6 my ,love1 my ,love is "y6 ,age1 ,i d defy !e-- ,o sweet %eph]d1 hie !e1 ,= me?9ks ?\ /ay'/ too long4 ,?is is wor? quot+ 9 full to drive home1 9 ! conc5trat$ phras+ ( a ma/]1 ! extreme diff]5ces betwe5 y\? & age4 ,:5 an eld]ly well-to-d man m>ries a "y & lovely girl1 z (t5 happ5s1 ?is may apply2 & :5 a "y man m>ries a woman old en\gh to be 8 "m1 ?is may also apply4 ,& yet1 ea* "o's problems ( ! *oice ( a mate is an individual problem3 no g5]al rules may be laid d[n4 ,! man's fir/ vague ideal ( ! woman he wi%es to love is made to imitate l>gely1 9 normal cases1 8 "m2 ! girl's1 h] fa!r4 ,if ?is fir/ ideal impression p]si/s ) great /r5g? !reaft]1 y\? w be happy only ) age4 ,if1 9 ! m normal case1 y\? desires y\? f9ally1 !n ! invaluable c\rt%ip p]iod %\ld h taught ?is lesson3 ! "y man or woman turns f ! int5d$ old] mate1 & ! evil is correct$ be=e x is too late4 ,! p]son fully exp]i5c$ 9 love w h exp]im5t$ 9 c\rt%ip ) p ( v>i\s ages1 to f9d :]e ! ideal lies4 ,too mu* exp]im5tation1 ( c\rse1 rubs (f some?+ ( ! bloom1 b if enlight5m5t foll[s ?is rubb+ (f ( ! bloom1 ! ?+ is wor?:ile4 ,z to dispositions1 aga9 no g5]al rule c be laid d[n4 ,biological sci5ce says ^? are mo/ happily mat$ ^: dispositions are opposite4 ,simil>ly1 biological sci5ce says t blonde %\ld mate ) brunette1 & tall ) %ort3 x mak+ no diff]5ce to sci5ce :e!r ! man is ! tall or %ort "o1 or ! woman ! %ort or tall "o4 ,biological sci5ce is true 9 g5]alities1 & does n pret5d to solve individual cases & pref]5ces4 ,! only recomm5dation is1 try ! "o y are fir/ attract$ to2 &1 if ! p]iod ( c\rt%ip indicates a mi/ake has be5 made1 & t incompatibility comes f opposite temp]am5ts1 or f ! same temp]am5ts1 try else:]e4 ,:5 %\ld "o woo & m>ry8 ,are e>ly or late m>riages advisable8 ,"h society's pres5t f9ancial arrangem5t comes 94 ,unless ! man or woman is weal?y already--& few are--! man _c af=d to support a wife1 9 pr(essional or :ite-coll>$ bus9ess life1 until he is f #be to #cj4 ,m>riage on a v small income may "w out successfully2 9 ! majority ( cases1 x does n4 ,! girl :o m>ries at eighte5 has h>dly _h "t to "k h] own m9d yet3 !re are argum5ts = wait+ until %e is #bb to #be1 or ev5 old]4 ,if ! man or woman matures sl[ly1 ?is is reason = lat] mat+4 ,! dang] 9 late mat+s is t ! man & woman h gr[n m fix$ & rigid 9 m9or matt]s3 m crot*ety1 m old-maidi% or old-manni%4 ,! "y are m adaptable4 ,all ( ^! ?+s mu/ be weigh$4 ,9 g5]al1 c\rt%ip %\ld beg9 soon aft] adolesc5ce1 & ! mat+ %\ld be ent]$ ^u z soon z ! "y man & "y woman feel t !y are completely unhappy unless liv+ toge!r4 ,heal? is an important matt]4 ,"s /ates require a heal? c]tificate f bo? man & woman2 & ?is is a wise precaution4 ,! man or woman v5]eally infect$ %\ld n be p]mitt$ to m>ry1 until m$ical sci5ce gives a clean bill ( heal?4 ,if a man m>ries a sickly & ail+ woman1 :o w become an invalid1 he is b\nd d[n to an excessive & unpleas+ load = life4 ,on ! o!r h&1 m>riage may end ! woman's invalidism1 :i* may h be5 assum$ subconsci\sly z a protection aga9/ be+ ov]work$ at home1 or :i* may be a case ( physical w>p+ caus$ by non-expression ( ! love en]gy4 ,if ! woman m>ries an invalid man1 unless %e wi%es to support him = life1 m unhapp9ess w foll[4 ,samuel ,butl]1 9 ,ere:on1 calls disease a crime2 & crime1 a m]e disease1 to be cur$ by doctors4 ,= ill heal?1 puni%m5t %\ld foll[4 ,?is attitude1 revolution>y 9 a high degree1 is 9 ! ma9 s\nd4 ,except 9 r>e cases1 only ! physically s\nd %\ld mate4 ,dur+ ! c\rt%ip1 ?is %\ld be gone into c>efully4 ,f ! physical /&po9t1 a man %\ld woo t woman or ^? wom5 :o attract him physically4 ,! woo+ p]iod w indicate :e!r any "o woman is cong5ial & increas+ly desirable4 ,no "o b a cong5ial woman :o is increas+ly desirable %\ld be p]man5tly mat$ )4 ,! girl %\ld be guid$ by ! same pr9ciple ( *oice4 ,m5tal ,mates4--,! =m] conception 0 t ! man 0 suppos$ to be ! intellectual "o1 by tra9+1 & by contact ) ! broad5+ influ5ces ( 8 "w1 & ( ! _w ( m52 & t ! woman %\ld be an intellectual weakl+1 t5d+ t[>d imbecility4 ,9 ! ,ori5tal _w1 ) its h>ems & h>em favorites1 ?is is at times ! situation a*iev$4 ,su* a me?od deprives love & mat+ ( its *ief glory3 ! intellectual companion%ip ( cong5ial spirits4 ,woman is no long] =bidd5 an education4 ,elem5t>y education is g5]ally h]s1 requir$ by law2 %e may h a college tra9+1 or its equival5t2 &1 9 g5]al1 9 life !reaft]1 if left ) "t on h] h&s at home1 %e is m lit]ate1 9 ! _w ( books & ideas1 ?an ! man2 al?\gh %e may h _h less p]sonal contact ) l>ge gr\ps ( m9ds1 su* z a man enc\nt]s 9 8 bus9ess & social connections4 ,! balance1 = ! ideal mat+1 %\ld sw+ clos]4 ,a woman is ! ga9] by practical exp]i5ce at work+1 s t %e may realize f ! /&po9t ( ! e>n] ! value ( a doll>1 & n measure x m]ely f ! /&po9t ( ! sp5d]4 ,a man once lock$ 8 bus9ess c>es up :5 he left ! (fice1 & nev] br\ght !m home2 or1 if he br\ght !m home1 br\ght !m m]ely z compla9ts1 un9telligible to 8 wife4 ,! ideal mat+ is :]e ! man & woman are equally int]e/$ & intellig5t 9 ! bus9ess welf>e1 & are1 9 effect1 p>tn]s1 z !y mu/ be 9 results4 ,?is /ate c r>ely be entirely rea*$4 ,b if1 dur+ ! c\rt%ip1 ! girl turns out to be a *att]-tongu$ & scatt]-bra9$ little fool1 ?is is a dang] signal to ! man1 to get out :ile ! gett+ is good4 ,! girl :o raves ov] ! movies1 dances l a fea!r1 & ?9ks l "o1 is n likely to be a fit mate or "m to ! man's *ildr54 ,! man :o turns out to be m]ely a w\ld-be %eik1 ) no ideas above pr(essional baseball or sp5d+ all he has made 9 a week 9 "o night1 is h>dly to be *os5 z a p]man5t mate4 ,unless su* a pair woo & w9 ea* o!r3 :i* makes two o!r p happy1 :o might h won ^! lemons & be5 unhappy !reaft]4 ,c\rt%ip is ! great te/+ "t1 to see :e!r ! two conc]n$ are cong5ial m5tally1 & :e!r !y app>5tly h simil> capacities ( m5tal gr[?4 ,social ,mates4--,%\ld a girl m>ry only a man well able to support h]8 ,%\ld a man m>ry only a girl :o is well (f f9ancially8 ,^! que/ions w\ld be absurd1 if curr5t /&>ds ( society did n let !m l>gely dictate _m ( ! mo/ unhappy m>riages among u4 ,"o %\ld m>ry = love1 prim>ily & almo/ entirely4 ,! purpose ( mat+ is to increase "o's happ9ess3 love _c be b\ght1 & ! ?+ call$ b\ght love _c increase happ9ess4 ,love 9 pov]ty has a h>d] r[ to hoe ?an love 9 comp>ative opul5ce3 b love 9 pov]ty is immeasurably bett] ?an %am love 9 opul5ce1 :i* gr[s soon en\gh to hatr$ 9 opul5ce4 ,let physical attractiv5ess1 plus m5tal cong5iality1 be ! t\*/ones dur+ ! woo+ p]iod4 ,! money w someh[ come to ^? :o are n utt]ly spiritual weakl+s1 & :o pres5t a lov+ & unit$ front to ! _w4 ,!y may nev] be well (f3 b !y w w9 m ( ! goal ( mat+ & life1 :i* is happ9ess1 ?an well-to-d hat]s ( _! mates4 ,! matt] ( social position is simil>4 ,! *ance ( happ9ess 9 m>riage today is n great :5 all advantages are 9 favor ( ! mat+ p>ties4 ,:5 to ?is is add$ a di/9ct diff]5ce 9 social /&+1 ?is makes ! problem h>d] ( solution4 ,let ?is fact1 :5 asc]ta9$1 put y on y\r gu>d4 ,b1 at ! same "t1 x is only "o fact among _m to be weigh$2 &1 if ! physical & m5tal attractions are /rong en\gh1 !y %\ld ov]weigh any inequality 9 re>+ & backgr\nd4 ,( all errors a*iev$ 9 mat+1 p]haps m>ry+ to re=m a man is ! wor/4 ,if a man _c ov]come 8 pet vices dur+ ! c\rt+ p]iod1 :5 he is free to fight ! battle out )9 himself1 x is almo/ a sure bet he w n alt] aft] m>riage4 ,ev5 if he tempor>ily ends ! faults or vices dur+ ! c\rt+1 he may slump lat]4 ,re=m+ a man 7or a girl ei!r7 is a trem5d\s gamble4 ,if y *oose to gamble ) y\r life1 & enjoy ! risk1 t is an excell5t reason = go+ ahead ) x4 ,b ! m normal human be+s w leave re=mation to ! p]son conc]n$1 & m>ry = o!r & s\nd] reasons4 ,special ,problems4--,%\ld a man be m>ri$ :o has s[$ 8 wild oats8 ,or %\ld a girl insi/ ^u ! man's com+ to ! mat+ pure8 ,%\ld a girl be m>ri$ :o has s[$ h] wild oats8 ,or %\ld a man insi/ ^u h] com+ to ! mat+ pure8 ,! av]age answ] is t ! man is ! ga9] by ! s[+ ( wild oats2 & t ! girl is ru9$ by ! practice4 ,ne$less to say1 ?is angle ( judgm5t is all wrong4 ,if ! s[+ ( wild oats consi/s 9 m]e amor\s exp]i5ce ) o!r wom51 or 9 ?is c\pl$ ) dr9k+1 ev5 to ! po9t ( mod]ate drunk5ness1 & gambl+ on a scale n too l>ge1 ! man is n injur$ = m>riage by ^!4 ,nor is ! girl injur$ 9 ! slighte/4 ,! object ( life is to a*ieve happ9ess4 ,! *ief me?od ( ga9+ ?is is by exp]i5c+ ! _w4 ,love exp]i5ce is no m h>mful 7unless pregnancy results7 ?an exp]i5ce 9 sampl+ diff]5t food m5us4 ,if disease has come1 t is a matt] = ! doctors to pass ^u1 & ! discussion ( heal? above cov]s x4 ,if ! girl has _h an illegitimate *ild1 society's ban is s /rong t ! case is alt]$ some:at4 ,?is is a factor to be weigh$ by bo? p>ties3 x does n ( necessity make ! girl any ! less fit z a mate1 ?an ! man w\ld be if he _h _h an illegitimate *ild by ano!r woman4 ,9 g5]al1 ! man is bett] (f = hav+ s[$ "s wild oats be=e m>riage3 he is less liable to pl[ a field ( po/-m>ital wild oats4 ,! same is true1 al?\gh 9 a slightly less degree1 ( ! girl4 ,! only diff]5ce is caus$ by ! weight ( social /&>ds ^u ! two sexes today4 ,%\ld a ba%ful man or woman woo or be woo$8 ,ba%fulness is 9 no wise discr$itable2 x is 9 g5]al a n]v\s trait :i* may be rem$i$4 ,x comes 9 g5]al f a want ( self-confid5ce4 ,9 g5]al1 ! ba%ful cont9ue plugg+ away 9 humble self-effacem5t2 &1 at times1 sudd5ly bur/ =? ) an a*ievem5t f> ahead ( t ( ! brassie/ individual1 self-confid5t f bir?4 ,! cure = ba%fulness is contact ) cr[ds1 :i* br+s soon] or lat] ! realization t y are n inf]ior 9 ! slighte/ to ! run ( humanity1 & are sup]ior to _m ( y\r associates4 ,some?+ ( ! ,c\ me?od--repeat+ to y\rself1 )\t int5tional compulsion1 8,i am important1 ,i believe 9 myself10 might help4 ,luckily = ! ba%ful1 !y ord9>ily attract ! opposite temp]am5t4 ,if ! husb& ( ! ba%ful woman does n make fun ( h] peculi>ity1 b sympa!tically br+s h] out1 & if ! wife ( ! ba%ful man does ! same1 ! ef=t becomes m ?an twice z successful4 ,9 g5]al1 ! ba%ful make mates z satisfactory1 or m satisfactory1 ?an ! self-confid5t4 ,is love at fir/ sight a possibility8 ,( c\rse1 & a frequ5t "o4 ,! normal man falls 9 love1 at fir/ sight1 ) e attractive woman he sees4 ,if ?is is an error1 take x z a confession4 ,_m a woman falls 9 love at fir/ sight ) a man :o satisfies h] ideal1 hi!rto unrealiz$4 ,if bo? feel ! emotion simultane\sly1 we h ! p]fect case4 ,! subsequ5t woo+ w indicate :e!r ?is is endur+ love1 or an illusion4 ,%\ld a man or woman woo sev]al p]sons at once8 ,9 g5]al1 especially 9 ! e>li] /ages ( ! woo+1 ?is is an advantage4 ,if y wi% to buy a jewel1 y are wise if y exam9e sev]al1 be=e mak+ y\r f9al *oice4 ,! same applies to woo+ = a mate4 ,we say at once1 because successive woo+ p]mits *oice really only ( "s subsequ5t love object2 :]eas ! fir/ may be1 aft] all1 ! mo/ suit$4 ,woo+ %\ld be done 9 hone/y2 s ! elem5t ( deception ( ! p>ties conc]n$ %\ld n ord9>ily be us$4 ,?is is n because x is e?ically wrong1 b because1 if f\nd out1 unpleasant consequ5ces may ensue4 ,b1 9 g5]al1 ! wid] ! *oice1 ! m satisfactory ! mat+ t foll[s4 ,p :o m>ry ! fir/ woman or man !y are infatuat$ ) are seldom well mat$4 ,s9ce trial woo+s are socially accept$1 !y %\ld be tak5 advantage (4 ,we c n[ proce$ to ! te*nique ( woo+4 ,,iii ,,h[ ,a ,,man ,,woos ,:om to ,woo4--,! fir/ ?+ to emphasize is t y are woo+ ! girl1 & n h] fa!r1 h] "m1 h] aunts1 or h] family 9 g5]al4 ,s9ce ! objects ( ! woo+ are 7#a7 to le>n :e!r ! girl is cong5ial1 & 7#b7 to p]suade h] t y are cong5ial1 & %\ld be accept$1 y w f9d t ! second object is a*iev$ be/ by mak+ y\rself attractive to h]4 ,9 cases :]e %e c>es = ! op9ion ( h] "m1 or fa!r1 or family1 x is ! "p ( wisdom to c\rt1 )9 reason1 ! family z well4 ,b ! ma9 ?+ is to woo ! girl4 ,! girl mu/ be will+ to be woo$1 soon] or lat]1 or y _h be/ cease y\r ef=ts4 ,9 normal cases1 %e w n object f ! />t4 ,if %e objects1 because %e is int]e/$ 9 someone else1 or ?9ks %e does n c>e to be made love to or to m>ry1 or because %e ?9ks !re is "s p]sonal reason :y y are di/a/eful1 y\r fir/ task is to cont9ue c\rte\sly 9 y\r suit1 until y te/ out :e!r or n y c remove ?is prelim9>y b>4 ,if %e is int]e/$ 9 "s "o else1 ?is becomes ! old conflict betwe5 males = ! female's favor3 & y w use ! me?ods indicat$ h]eaft]4 ,if %e pr(esses to be entirely un9t]e/$ 9 love & mat+1 unless %e is abnormal fundam5tally ?is is easy to ov]come4 ,lay aside y\r obvi\s woo+1 int]e/ y\rself 9 :atev] %e is int]e/$ 91 & qualify z a fri5d & companion 9 h] own int]e/s4 ,%e w soon1 if %e is normal1 recognize ! great value ( y\r companion%ip1 & f ?is love %\ld spe$ily gr[4 ,if ! objection is t %e f9ds "s trait 9 ! man t is di/a/eful to h]1 ?is dislike mu/ be ov]come4 ,p]haps ! objection is to "s mann]ism ( ! man's1 "s error ( spee*1 or "s habit :i* may be alt]$ by him4 ,9 su* cases1 if he desires to w9 ! girl's favor1 he mu/ ei!r *ange ! trait1 or conv9ce h] t %e does n really object to x4 ,( c\rse1 h] v objection may be an education to ! "y man1 bo? z to h] nature1 & z to h[ o!rs look ^u 8 actions4 ,if1 = objection1 %e objects to 8 fri5d%ip ) a c]ta9 man1 or to 8 go+ to baseball games1 he may1 aft] /udy+ out ! matt]1 decide t ! girl is too n>r[ 9 h] ideas to be 8 desir$ mate4 ,he %\ld1 ( c\rse1 fir/ try to educate h] attitude t[>d an acceptance ( 8 trait2 b1 if he fails1 ! _w is full ( girls1 & he may f9d mu* m happ9ess else:]e4 ,suppose h] objection is to "s error ( spee* t ! man con/antly commits4 ,9 ?is case1 8 task is to correct x1 n only to please ! girl1 b because h] objection has giv5 him an insight into h[ o!r p reg>d ! mi/ake :i* he may h always he>d made & made himself1 )\t excit+ comm5t4 ,six mon?s ago1 a girl :om ,i "k met a "y man1 ( good family1 fairly well-to-d1 fairly educat$ 7a c\ple ( college degrees1 ,i ?9k71 & a man :o _h travel$ r ext5sively 9 ,europe & ,s\? ,am]ica4 ,he play$ a good h& ( bridge1 0 int]e/$ 9 ! same arti/ic ?+s t ! girl 01 & 0 smitt5 ) h] f ! fir/4 ,aft] play+ ar\nd ) him = a c\ple ( mon?s1 %e refus$ to see him !reaft]1 except 9 a l>ge p>ty2 & absolutely refus$ to let him c\rt h] fur!r4 ,! reason c be ga!r$ f ?is typical specim5 ( 8 conv]sation4 8,i 0 at ! club1 see8 ,a lot ( ! fell[s 7 !re1 see8 ,& we decid$ to %oot a little bridge1 see8 ,on ! v fir/ h&1 see8 ,i _h f\r honors 9 diamonds1 & ,i bid two diamonds1 see80 ,tactfully ! girl _h po9t$ out t ! con/antly reit]at$ 8see0 j 0 n done by lit]ate p4 ,! man c\ld n or w\ld n *ange x3 & yet t small irksome trait 0 :at co/ him ! girl he want$4 ,9 m usual cases1 h[ev]1 ! girl is will+ to be woo$ f ! />t4 ,!n y\r task is easi]4 ,object & ,me?ods ( ,woo+4--,! object ( woo+1 9 addition to its value z education 9 ! opposite sex1 is to w9 ! reg>d ( ! o!r p]son1 if y cont9ue to desire h]1 & to w9 h] cons5t to ! mat+4 ,:at is ! practical me?od ( do+ ?is8 ,! easy & only :olly satisfactory way is to make y\rself attractive to ! girl1 s t y become indisp5sable to h] happ9ess1 h] enjoym5t ( any exp]i5ce1 & h] cont5t$ liv+4 ,let x be repeat$1 t ! man mu/ /& high 9 ! girl's eyes1 to give ! mat+ a *ance = success4 ,if ! girl takes a man z a la/ *ance1 because %e fe>s %e c get no o!r suitor1 ! *ance = happ9ess is less5$3 if at any "t lat] %e meets a m attractive man :o p]suades h] t he w\ld h propos$1 if %e _h wait$1 regret & dissatisfaction may set 91 & ! :ole love & m>riage relation%ip may be curdl$4 ,:5 a man s+les out a girl = 8 att5tion1 he _c avoid transplant+ ! situation back to ! old savage days1 :5 ! male pre5$ & /rutt$ be=e ! female1 anxi\s = h] approval4 ,:at are "s ( ! obvi\s ways to w9 h] approval1 :i* at times are neglect$ s disa/r\sly t ! man's *ances end at once8 ,notice ! man's difficult task3 to look at himself ) ! girl's eyes1 & furni% h] ) an increas+ly attractive picture ( himself4 ,"s g5ius utt]$ ! brilliant half tru? t love is bl9d4 ,luckily = all ( u1 ?is is l>gely true4 ,b a girl's p>5ts & relatives1 fri5ds1 & rival suitors1 w oblig+ly l5d _! eyes z glasses to h]3 & ! man may expect to f9d :at faults he has magnifi$ almo/ out ( recognition4 ,:at1 !n1 f ! girls' /&po9t1 w %e look = 9 ! man8 ,fir/ ( all1 girls are by nature neat] ?an m54 ,girls w all[ mu* latitude to a man = c>elessness 9 attire4 ,b ! man :o neglects su* simple toilet matt]s z ! c>e ( 8 nails1 & pres5ts himself ) a black rim "u !m2 :o lets 8 %irts & coll>s rema9 9 s]vice till !y are sooty2 ^: %oes are unnecess>ily unpoli%$1 on occasions :5 %e may expect to be judg$ by o!r eyes f ! /&po9t ( h] escort1--su* a neglectful man may z well "k t any "o ( ^! ?+s may damn him m 9 ! eyes ( ! girl ?an if he _h committ$ murd]4 ,secondly1 a girl w judge ! man by h[ %e ?9ks he w look 9 ! eyes ( h] fri5ds & associates4 ,if ! man is slightly ungrammatical1 & s are %e & h] fri5ds1 ?is makes no diff]5ce4 ,b1 if %e has m bookle>n+ ?an he1 & if h] fri5ds are critical 9 ?is reg>d1 & reg>d !mselves z at all highbr[i%1 ! man mu/ make x 8 job to gr[ up to h] lit]ate /&>ds4 8,i don't l t !re %[10 8!m sort ( pictures10 8mov+ pit*]s10 8,i ought to ( w5t10 & all ! re/ ( ! v]bal atrocities t ! ungrammatical blund] into1 mu/ be correct$4 ,w9n+ & keep+ a girl's reg>d mu/ be reg>d$ z s]i\sly z gett+ ahead 9 bus9ess4 ,woo+ ?us includes a c\rse 9 self-improvem5t1 along e l9e4 ,x w d no h>m to obta9 a book ( h&y helps 9 gramm>1 9 etiquette1 & ! l4 ,don't eat peas ) y\r knife1 or we> a r$ tie ) a d9n] jacket3 unless ! girl pref]s x4 ,9 t case1 ! advice is ! rev]se3 /udy ! prop] mi/akes to make4 ,lat] on1 y c gradually lead ! girl t[>d improv+ h]self4 ,make y\rself attractive 9 e way 9 ! eyes ( ! girl1 & ( ! relatives or fri5ds on ^: judgm5t %e relies4 ,! moral qualities g along ) ?is4 ,! normal girl w pref] a man :o /&s well 9 m5's eyes3 t is1 :o has ! reputation ( a he-man1 equipp$ ) at lea/ an av]age am\nt ( human c\rage4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 if ! la/ s5t5ce 7 tru]1 x w\ld be bett] = girls4 ,a l>ge numb] ( !m1 un=tunately1 pref] in/ead ! man :om wom5 l1 & m5 dislike3 ! p>lor liz>d type1 ! aft]noon tea snake specim51 ! namby-pamby woman-pleas] :o nev] makes a success ( any?+ 9 life except woo+ wom54 ,!re is a ?rill1 beyond d\bt1 9 be+ woo$ & kiss$ by su* a man3 !re is mu* unhapp9ess 9 a cont9u+ relation%ip ) him4 ,hav+ made y\rself attractive1 ! next ?+ is to make y\rself important & indisp5sable 9 ! girl's eyes4 ,if ! girl is s5sible1 a display ( s5sible ideas on matt]s ( life w aid2 if %e is frivol\s m9d$1 a display ( a frivol\s1 sp5d?rift nature is m %rewd4 ,d ! ?+s %e expects ( y3 date h] up z (t5 z %e desires--x may take all ( y\r %rewdness to asc]ta9 ! fact1 too4 ,take h]1 n ess5tially :]e y want to1 b :]e %e wants to g4 ,if y adore box+ mat*es1 & %e pref]s ,coney ,isl& & art museums1 po/pone ! box+ mat*es & take 9 ! o!rs4 ,if y l good music1 & %e c>es only = ! movies & baseball1 fir/ make up y\r m9d :e!r y want to cont9ue to woo h]2 &1 if y d1 especially at fir/1 take h] :]e %e wants to g1 & only sl[ly & tactfully spr9kle 9 ) ! c9ema ?rills & ! paid a?letics a small dose ( ,brahms & ,bee?ov54 ,d :at %e expects ( y3 & always d a little m4 ,t is1 d ! unexpect$ ?\ghtful little ?+s4 ,f9d out h] favorite foods1 *ew+ gums1 cig>ettes1 p1 amusem5ts2 & g out ( y\r way to provide h] ) ^!4 ,if y l *ewy *ocolates1 & %e dete/s c&y & adores pickles1 d n provide h] ) an elegant two p\nd box ( *ewy *ocolates4 ,don't be l ! m>ri$ man :o pres5ts 8 timid old-fa%ion$ wife ) a box ( cig>s = ,*ri/mas1 & !n smokes !m himself4 ,be m c\rte\s & ?\ghtful to h] 9 public t %e has a "r to expect4 ,?is advice is s\nd1 unless ! girl is ( ! r>e cl++ v9e type :o wants a man to bang h] ar\nd 9 alleg$ he-man /yle4 ,if t is :at %e wants1 give h] all ! bang+ %e c /&4 ,make y\r motto1 8,we ,/rive to ,please0--& d m ?an /rive4 ,y w want1 & %e w expect1 "s physical love f ! />t4 ,among diff]5t /rata ( society1 cu/oms z to kiss+ & c>ess+ diff]4 ,nev] give ! girl less ?an %e expects4 ,aft] y h f\nd out t %e likes to be kiss$1 y w disappo9t h] p]man5tly if y give h] ! sort ( kiss y w\ld give de> old ,aunt ,tabbie1 ag$ n9ety-eight 9 ! %ade4 ,yet rememb] to ?9k ( h] wi%es prim>ily3 don't give h] ! sort ( kisses y want fir/1 b ! k9d t %e wants4 ,y\r arti/ry w come 9 subtly lead+ h] to want ?+s t y want4 ,&1 once a woman is g5]ally satisfi$ ) a woo]1 & wants 8 approval1 %e moves swiftly to ! place :]e %e wants to please h] lov] 9 e way4 ,!n ! desires co9cide3 & ! man c read 8 own wi%es1 & "k !m = ! girl's z well4 ,problems ( ,woo+4--,! man %\ld f9d out :at he wants f ! girl--:e!r a m]e flirtation1 a tempor>y mat+1 or a p]man5t "o--& adapt 8 te*nique to ga9+ 8 goal4 ,= in/ance1 9 ! "q ( lett]s4 ,he %\ld d 8 be/ to satisfy a girl's crav+ = love lett]s1 if sep>ations occur4 ,9 all probability1 he _c satisfy h] desires "h3 :at %e really wants is 8 pres5ce1 & a ?\s&-page lett] does n give ! ?rill ( t4 ,ord9>ily x is n ! be/ tactics to spill ov] endlessly 9 a love lett]3 a *atty1 companionable lett]1 ) arti/ically word$ love phrases t h9t a va/ )held res]voir ( love1 is bett] z a rule ?an pages ( sug>y s5tim5tality4 ,except at ! v fir/1 :5 all rules ( sanity are laid aside4 ,& yet1 recall t1 if y desire subsequ5tly to retire f ! c\rt%ip1 love lett]s may be v emb>rass+4 ,try to phrase y\r lett]s s t !y mean ev]y?+ to ! girl1 & no?+ to ! outside _w1 :i* may h ! pleasure ( read+ !m 9 newspap] columns featur+ a brea* ( promise case4 ,x is well to keep ?is possibility 9 m9d f ! />t4 ,don't /ore up tr\ble = y\rself 9 ?is fa%ion4 ,be cryptic & allusive1 leav+ m ?an half = ! girl to read betwe5 ! l9es4 ,x may save y tr\ble 9 ! long run4 ,z = woo+ & propos+ by proxy1 ev5 ! mo/ ba%ful p]son _h j z well le>n t x is suicidal4 ,! proxy br+s a message to ! girl t %\ld come f ! belov$ man3 ins5sibly h] emotion goes out to ! be>] ( ! message4 ,capta9 ,miles ,/&i% s5t ,john ,ald5 to woo ,priscilla = him1 & ! maid5 wisely said1 8,:y don't y speak = y\rself1 ,john80 ,k+ ,edg>'s tru/$ c\ri] wrote ! k+ t ! maid5 he desir$ to w$ 0 ugly & :olly unattractive1 & !n proce$$ to m>ry h] himself = h] beauty1 = :i* ! k+ lat] lopp$ (f ! man's head4 ,woo+ by proxy is mu* worse ?an n woo+ at all4 ,z = qu>rels1 ! m exp]i5c$ woo] w h few or none ( !m4 ,beg9n]s 9 love w ins5sibly drift into !m4 ,n[ qu>rels h no place 9 mo/ real loves3 !y are a sign ( "s conceal$ dislike or av]sion1 :i* may take a m virul5t & co/ly =m aft] ! woo+ has be5 made irrevocable1 or comp>atively s1 by m>riage4 ,if ! qu>rel c be easily pat*$ up1 well & good2 b if qu>rels con/antly come1 x is a bad om54 ,! only exception is :]e bo? man & girl enjoy a qu>rel m ?an peace1 & mate 9 ord] to h a mate to qu>rel ) = life4 ,?is is abnormal2 &1 if y are a normal man or girl1 und]/& t qu>rels1 especially if !y are usually ov] trifles1 are a good w>n+ to break (f ! c\rt%ip & look else:]e4 ,! ,proposal1 & ,aft]4--,no s5sible girl today wants ! man to propose to h] fa!r1 or h] p>5ts1 be=e he proposes to h]4 ,aft] all1 he is n m>ry+ ! fa!r1 or ! p>5ts2 he is m>ry+ ! girl4 ,! fa!r or p>5ts are consult$ aft] ! plans are made1 = ratification & aid3 ! goal is ! mutual cons5t ( ! lov]s4 ,aga91 cu/oms z to ! s]i\sness ) :i* proposals are reg>d$ diff] /rik+ly 9 c]ta9 localities & at c]ta9 seasons4 ,9 ! ,s\?1 f :i* ,i came1 a girl is propos$ to almo/ z easily z %e is ask$ = a dance2 %e becomes engag$ z casually z %e accepts a dr9k ( wat]1 & breaks x (f :5ev] ! mood /rikes h]4 ,dur+ college days & ! girl's e>ly debutante days1 %e may be 8engag$0 to sev]al or half a doz5 m5 at a "t4 ,9 ! ,nor?1 ! cu/om is ord9>ily diff]5t4 ,aga91 !re are seasonal v>iations3 "y c\ples :o meet at a summ]+ place may become engag$ = _! mutual pleasure dur+ ! summ]1 ) no int5tion ( ev] see+ ea* o!r :5 !y return to _! regul> homes 9 ! autumn4 ,all ( ^! ?+s mu/ be tak5 into acc\nt4 ,don't /udy a book ( etiquette z to h[ to propose4 ,! m /ilt$ & =mal a proposal is1 ! easi] x is = ! girl to laugh at ! ridicul\sness ( ! situation4 ,real lov]s "k1 )\t ! words hav+ be5 said1 t _! equival5t 9 de$s has be5 a*iev$4 ,ev5 a slang proposal1 8,well1 honey1 %all we hit x (f toge!r80 may be f> m effective ?an 8,may ,i h ! honor ( mak+ y my wife80 ,be natural 9 ?is1 unless y h asc]ta9$ t ! girl desires ! frills4 ,9 t case1 give h] :at %e desires4 ,! acceptance may be giv5 ) a kiss1 or ) m]e words4 ,m usually1 ! girl w ask = "t to consid] ! matt]4 ,if %e means yes by ?is1 proce$ to make t cle> to h]4 ,if n1 keep aft] h] until y w9 ! acceptance1 or h] fri5dly refusal4 ,x is n h>d to read f a girl's refusal :e!r %e means a real objection1 or m]ely a delay4 ,if y really desire h]1 %e w be flatt]$ by y\r cont9u+ to woo h]1 & to make y\rself m & m attractive 9 h] eyes4 ,9 any case1 if %e is wor?y at all1 %e w ^w h] rejection s z nev] to w\nd ! man unnecess>ily4 ,if ! p>ties are suitable z mates1 a rejection alt]s soon en\gh to an acceptance4 ,c\rt%ip ,aft] ,m>riage4--,h[ to ,love 7,little ,blue ,book ,no4 #ih7 takes up ! problem ( h[ to act aft] ! mate has be5 won4 ,x may be briefly summ>iz$ "h ?us3 ! real lov]1 man or woman1 cont9ues ! c\rt%ip z long z ! mat+ la/s4 ,all t has be5 said ab\t mak+ oneself attractive 9 ! eyes ( ! o!r1 applies ) especial =ce to ?is woo+ aft] m>riage4 ,d y\r be/ to make a success ( ! mat+2 if y\r ef=ts fail1 & a sep>ation or divorce is necess>y1 y c nev] reproa* y\rself aft]w>ds ) ! accusation t y did n try y\r be/4 ,z = c\rt%ip ( o!r wom5 aft] m>riage1 or a woman's c\rt%ip ( o!r m5 aft] m>riage1 bo? ( ^! are kn[n2 &1 9 our pres5t organization ( society1 are natural4 ,! man :o is by nature promiscu\s1 or ! woman :o has ! same nature1 = 8 or h] happ9ess w be z fai?ful z possible4 ,if love comes t[>d ano!r woman or man1 ! lov] w come to x ) m arti/ry & m exp]i5ce ?an 9 ! e>li] attempts2 & ! te*nique ( woo+ %\ld be correspond+ly improv$4 ,,iv ,,h[ ,a ,,woman ,,woos ,fancy ,flirtations4--,mo/ textbooks on woo+ & c\rt%ip devote _! space allott$ to woman's woo+ to su* absurd devices z flirtation by p>asol1 fan1 glove1 h&k]*ief1 d9+ table signals1 w9d[ flirtation1 & fl[] flirtation4 ,! numb] ( p :o read su* silly books is limit$2 ! numb] among ^! :o rememb] :at !y h read is f> small]2 & p]haps no m5 are includ$ 9 ! latt] numb]4 ,?us no man w und]/& :at y\r signals mean4 ,a few ( ! *oice in/ructions giv5 are z foll[s3 ,p>asol ,flirtations ,c>ry+ x elevat$ 9 left h&--,desir+ acqua9tance4 ,c>ry+ x clos$ 9 left h&--,meet on ! fir/ cross+4 ,c>ry+ x clos$ 9 "r h& by ! side--,foll[ me4 ,clos+ x up--,i want to speak to y1 love4 ,sw++ to & fro on ! h&le1 on "r side--,i am m>ri$4 ,) h&le to lips--,kiss me4 ,! tr\ble is1 all wom5 mu/ c>ry _! p>asols someh[1 & 9 m ?an n9e cases out ( t51 !y h no fa9te/ dream ( ^! s-call$ signals4 ,if y ignore !m1 & !y are int5d$1 y insult ! lady2 if y act on !m--z1 = in/ance1 /epp+ up & kiss+ a /rang] :o has n]v\sly br\ght ! h&le ( h] p>asol to h] lips--y are liable to be f9$ #gej 9 ,p5nsylvania1 #b1ejj 9 ,new ,york ,/ate1 & ! va/ sum ( #a4ae 9 ,new ,j]sey4 ,?is :ole proc$ure is a bit too dumb ev5 = ,rot>y ,club memb]s & old maid s*ool tea*]s1 ! two classes :o seem to "k lea/ ab\t life4 ,n[ = ! fan3 ,fan ,flirtations ,draw+ across ! =ehead--,we are wat*$4 ,fann+ fa/--,i am engag$4 ,op5 & %ut--,y are cruel4 ,dropp+--,we w be fri5ds4 ,x fills space 9 ! books1 b don't try to foll[ x1 unless y wi% to get ! mo/ unpleasant surprise ( y\r c>e]4 ,we le>n t a girl :o drops bo? gloves means !reby 8,i love y02 t ! "r h& ) ! nak$ ?umb expos$ means 8,kiss me10 & s int]m9ably on4 ,s any?+ done ) ! h&k]*ief is suppos$ to mean "s t5d] message4 ,!re are #ba t5d] messages convey$ ) napk91 knife1 =k1 spoon1 & cup2 !re are #dj t5d] signals convey$ by f+] signals ?r\gh a w9d[1 p]haps ! dumbe/ be+3 ,clos+ h& to ! eye1 a la telescope--,i w\ld see y4 ,or take ! elaborate language ( fl[]s4 ,if a man s5ds a girl :ite roses1 q a possible gift if !y are ! mo/ attractive ?+s 9 ! flori/'s %op1 8 message1 also is1 8,i am too "y to m>ry yet06 ,if he pres5ts h] ) tansy1 "o ( ! lovelie/ ( ! daisy family1 8 message is 8,i decl>e w> aga9/ y40 ,! books omit a few ( ! m useful fl[]s & vegetables1 s we add !m "h z a supplem5t1 urg+ t !y be tri$ out at lea/4 ,s5d y\r girl "o ( ! foll[+ 7or s5d x to y\r man71 ) ! mean+ indicat$3 ,*rysan!mum--,i pref] ,norma ,talmadge to kiss+ at ,coney ,isl&4 ,caulifl[]--,my si/] is m>ri$ to a retir$ but*] ) a cork leg4 ,onion--,y w weep if y don't m>ry me4 ,japanese ,p]simmon--,kiss me1 my lips are ripe4 ,apple--,i'll be y\r ,eve1 if y c>e1 ,adam4 ,wild ,leek--,please 'phone ! plumb] = "m4 ,hav+ c>efully memoriz$ ?is li/1 proce$ to =get x1 & g ahead & woo naturally )\t x4 ,judg+ ,m54--,9 g5]al1 m5 h a fairly easy "t 9 judg+ ! girls !y g )4 ,=1 common op9ion to ! contr>y not)/&+1 a man is m secretive & %rewd] 9 hid+ 8 faults ?an a woman4 ,a girl :o is sp>+ 9 h] use ( pa9t & cosmetics ord9>ily is s5sible & fit to be a mate4 ,a girl :o ov]-r\ges & ov]-pa9ts is "o ( two ?+s3 ei!r typically 8fa/0 or an imitator ( h] favorite movie h]o9e4 ,ei!r may make a good mate4 ,9 ei!r case1 ! progress ( ! woo+ w soon tea* ! man :e!r ! girl has any conception ( happy mat+1 or is only a p>asite :o wants to be deck$ 9 f9e fea!rs & pr9cess$ ?r\gh life1 ) ! man pay+ ! bills4 ,:5 a girl comes to judge a man1 h] task is h>d]4 ,! man :o is lik$ by o!r m5 is1 9 mo/ cases1 to be pref]r$ to ! man :o is despis$ by m51 & ador$ by vapid wom54 ,!re is a class ( wom5 :o are m]e m5-hunt]s1 rang+ f ! out-&-out gold-digg]1 :o sells h] *>ms z %rewdly z %e c = outright gifts am\nt+ to support--& :o may rema91 9 ! eyes ( society1 a 8good girl0 9 spite ( x--to ! girl :o prote/s vehem5tly t %e despises ! gold-digg]1 yet sp5ds all h] en]gies 9 secur+ m5 to take h] to d9n] & ! !at]1 & to give h] gifts suffici5t = h] support1 or at lea/ suffici5t to give h] ! luxuries %e w\ld n o!rwise get4 ,^! p>asitic or spong+ wom5 are to be avoid$1 except by ! man :o wants !m frankly1 be+ will+ to pay ! price = ! tempor>y /imulus ( _! company4 ,!re is a f> l>g] class ( m5 :o prey on wom54 ,^! m5 are ! ve/iges ( ! social sy/em t is already dy+--! sy/em ( ! d\ble /&>d ( morals = m5 & wom51 by :i* a man 0 all[$ to s[ z ext5sive a crop ( wild oats z he c\ld1 ) social sanction2 & by :i* ! woman :o /ray$ a trifle f ! n>r[ pa? ( rectitude 0 !reaft] reg>d$ z a 8fall5 woman10 & any man's legitimate prey4 ,to su* m51 wom5 are ! goal ( man's pr$atory in/9cts4 ,x 0 a man's imp]ative to seek out innoc5t girls1 & s$uce z _m ( !m z possible1 tak+ no ?\ght = _! welf>e1 & c>+ only to %ield himself4 ,! girl :o resi/$ ! s$uctions 7& %e 0 equipp$ = resi/ance only ) an int5se & abid+ ignorance ( all ?+s conc]n+ sex life7 0 qualifi$ to be a man's wife2 ! o!r1 ! girl :o 0 deceiv$ by glib promises & a suave ext]ior into a surr5d] ( h] body1 & ! girl :o 0 will+ to exp]im5t ) love1 7 h5ce=? reg>d$ z fall5 wom51 & 7 disqualifi$ z p]man5t mates4 ,su* m5 exi/ today3 ! g5]al class ( travel+ salesman1 n q fairly1 is tak5 z an example ( su* m5 ( prey4 ,ne$less to say1 ! girl's task is to asc]ta9 at once if h] w\ld-be suitor belongs to ?is class4 ,if he does1 %e mu/ decide :e!r or n %e wi%es to play ) su* unwor?y fire4 ,x is a safe gamble t1 if %e gets him to ! po9t ( m>ry+1 ) any int5tion ( re=m+ him1 %e w fail 9 ! la/ und]tak+ by a trem5d\s m>g94 ,if %e wants ! exp]i5ce ( be+ s$uc$1 %e may g ahead & und]go x1 = ! man w be f\nd will+4 ,& mod]n /&>ds ( judgm5t hold t ! girl :o has s[$ h] wild oats is no m 8fall50 ?an ! man :o has s[$ 8 wild oats4 ,society is only sl[ly accept+ ?is po9t ( view2 b z m & m wom5 become wage-e>n]s1 z manag]s & own]s ( bus9esses1 z (fice work]s & /ore work]s1 !y are rea*+ ! po9t :]e !y c buy _! w ( ! _w1 & insi/ t _! wild oats be judg$ no m h>%ly ?an a man's4 ,! girl support$ by o!rs1 z ! girl liv+ at home1 _c af=d to run su* risks4 ,fur!rmore1 ev5 ! work+ girl has to face blackmail f ! s$uc]1 ! possible loss ( h] job1 & ! unpleasantnesses & exp5se ( be>+ an illegitimate *ild4 ,b if %e und]/&s matt]s ( sex1 & desires to g ahead1 t is h] bus9ess4 ,! m normal girl w reg>d su* a man z ! ve/igial ana*ronism t he is1 & w promptly give him 8 walk+ pap]s4 ,%e w conf9e h] acceptance ( c\rt%ip1 & h] woo+ itself1 to a man ) m intellig5ce & a m mod]n outlook ^u life4 ,%\ld a girl woo1 :5 %e is conv9c$ t ! man is wor?y to be h] mate8 ,!re is no reason 9 ! _w :y %e %\ld n4 ,h] object is to make h]self attractive to ! man3 & ?is usually involves pres]v+ a c]ta9 am\nt ( dignity4 ,?us h] woo+ %\ld1 z a rule1 be less obtrusive & m subtle ?an a man's4 ,b1 once hav+ decid$ t %e desires a man = a mate1 %e %\ld use e me?od ( prov+ h]self 8 invaluable companion--a campaign t ! man %\ld use 9 a simil> situation4 ,a little tactful que/ion+ on h] "p w soon discov] :]e ! man's ideals lie4 ,if he really wants a home-mak]1 & %e is will+ to give ?is r subs]vi5t role a trial1 %e c emphasize h] dome/ic capabilities1 cook him ta/y di%es if !re is an opportunity1 embroid] 8 h&k]*iefs1 & o!rwise %[ t %e fits into ! role ( 8 desir$ mate4 ,if he wants an intellectual companion prim>ily1 %e c indicate t %e qualifies 9 ?is respect4 ,9 g5]al1 !re is a prejudice aga9/ a woman's tak+ ! aggressive 9 ! actual woo+1 & ! f9al propos+4 ,?is prejudice is dissolv+4 ,woo+ & mat+ %\ld be matt]s ( mutual *oice3 & if1 = in/ance1 ! man is ! m backw>d & ba%ful ( ! two1 x is ! duty ( ! girl to aid him ov] ! difficult spot1 ev5 to ! ext5t ( do+ ! propos+4 ,j s %e pres]ves ! role ( be+ pleas+ & attractive1 !re is no limit to :at %e may e?ically d4 ,?is alt]+ /&>d c>ries ) x a *ange 9 ! man's attitude4 ,!re 0 once a s-call$ *ivalr\s attitude1 :i* w\ld prev5t a man's refus+ a woman1 9 su* a situation4 ,n[ su* *ivalry is bas$ ^u a false assumption1 & t5ds to produce lifelong unhapp9ess1 r ?an happ9ess4 ,aft] ! prelim9>ies h be5 f9i%$1 ! c\rse ( ! c\rt%ip & ! mat+ %\ld be m>k$ by z high a degree ( hone/y & s9c]ity z is possible4 ,ins9c]e *ivalry is a wreck] ( happ9ess4 ,if ! man does n want to m>ry ! girl1 x is 8 duty to say s1 j z s9c]ely z a girl w\ld refuse1 if ! roles 7 rev]s$4 ,he w1 ( c\rse1 phrase 8 rejection f9ally1 b at ! same "t s tactfully t ! girl w n feel insult$4 ,9 su* cases1 a good way is to refuse on ! gr\nd t ! man reg>ds himself z unwor?y3 a c\rte\s ins9c]ity :i* bo? w und]/&1 if ! man makes x cle> t 8 decision ^u ?is gr\nd is f9al4 8,nice0 ,girl or ,human ,be+8--,! old-fa%ion$ tra9+ ( girls develop$ !m into 8nice0 girls1 ) ,victorian prejudices1 ignorant ( ev]y?+ ess5tial to life4 ,! p5dulum has swung to ! o!r extreme3 ! mod]n g5]ation ( pett]s & neck]s1 :o h ! =efront ( today's picture1 are ! v rev]se ( ?is4 ,!re are /ill en\gh girls today1 :o h mu* ( ! old s-call$ 8nic5ess10 & h>dly t5d at all to ! pett+ type4 ,_m ( !m reta9 ?is f9icky & meticul\s nic5ess1 because !y are assur$1 by _! dumb eld]s1 t ?is makes !m m attractive 9 ! eyes ( m54 ,x does n4 ,unless y desire y\r man to cont9ue to divide womank9d into two classes--8nice0 wom5 l 8 wife1 to :om he may n tell a clev] risque /ory1 :om he w love physically only 9 a 8nice way02 & ! o!r type ( wom51 to :om he probably w turn soon] or lat]1 & !reaft] increas+ly1 = ! solid human com=t ( utt] physical mat+--unless y wi% y\r husb& to %>e 8 physical love ) less wor?y & m human wom51 y _h be/ get ov] y\r 8nic5ess0 z soon z possible1 & graduate into ! class ( human be+s4 ,"h is a typical problem4 ,a "y fri5d ( m9e 0 trem5d\sly intrigu$ by an attractive "y girl4 ,he told h] c5sor$ v]sions ( "s ( 8 favorite /ories1 su* z ! /ory ( ! negro prea*] :o ann\nc$ to 8 congregation3 8,br$dr5 an' si/r51 ,i aim to take my text1 dis mawn9'1 f de text #8,de widd]'s mite4'0 ,z he paus$ impressively1 a deacon 9 ! front r[ rose4 8,brudd]1 d]e's only "o ?+ wrong wid dat text3 ,dey d60 ,?is is a delightfully clev] /ory1 ) a subtle & in(f5sive d\ble mean+4 ,! girl put on h] 8nice/0 expression1 & said1 ) f9icky di/a/e 9 h] face1 8,h[ revolt+60 ,:5 %e _h made ! same response to all ef=ts on 8 "p to int]e/ h] 9 matt]s :i* m5 reg>d z almo/ too mild = a laugh1 & :i* o!r girls ( 8 acqua9tance 7 highly amus$ at1 he came to ! wise conclusion t ?is 0 n ! girl = him4 ,he _h no int5tion ( be+ saddl$ = life ) a girl ^: attitude 0 8,h[ revolt+60 ,he ceas$ to pay att5tions to h]1 & soon f\nd a mu* m admirable girl1 ) :om he is at pres5t happily m>ri$4 ,! 8,h[ revolt+60 girl /ill ?9ks t h] conduct 0 "r2 t ! man has l[]$ himself2 & w cont9ue to delude h]self s until %e wa/es into a v9eg>y old-maidhood4 ,if a girl has _h a normal re>+1 %e w n make ! mi/ake ( ?9k+ t ! ,puritans 7 "r3 t bodies end at ! neck & at ! %oe-tops1 ) no?+ betwe51 & t ord9>y human matt]s1 especially ^? t\*+ ! taboo$ facts ( life1 are nev] to be m5tion$ intimately betwe5 m5 & wom54 ,no matt] :at ! taboo be=e mat+1 aft] mat+ ! happy lov]s speak ) utt] frankness to ea* o!r4 ,a c]ta9 am\nt ( co>s5ess1 9 its place1 is a spl5did release = en]gy t w\ld o!rwise fe/] & w>p1 & lead ! lov]s to seek satisfaction outside ( ! mat+ relation%ip4 ,&1 s9ce ?is w come aft] mat+ 9 well-mat$ c\ples1 ev5 be=e ! mat+ an increas+ frankness w m>k ! int]c\rse ( an intellig5t "y man & "y woman4 ,!re is "o o!r ?+ to be rememb]$ by ! girl1 bo? z woo] & z woo$4 ,c\rt%ip is an education 9 ! opposite sex1 & 9 love3 & ?is education %\ld n be sup]ficial4 ,x is a common /atem5t ( doctors t engag$ p z a rule "k ea* o!r physically be=e ! m>riage4 ,i w take ?is up 9 ! next *apt]4 ,v ,,conduct ,,dur+ ,,! ,,engagem5t ,conduct 9 ,public4--,an engagem5t is a pl$ge1 mutually giv5 by two p1 t _! c\rt%ip is to t]m9ate 9 mat+ or m>riage4 ,?is is bo? a private & a public matt]4 ,p]sonal reasons may make x necess>y to keep ?is secret1 at lea/ = a "t4 ,x is pref]able1 f _m /&po9ts1 t x be ann\nc$ z soon z possible4 ,intimate fri5ds1 at lea/1 %\ld be let 9 on ! secret4 ,:5ev] possible1 x %\ld be made public4 ,= x affects o!r p1 & _! conduct t[>d ! engag$ c\ple1 z well z ! two !mselves4 ,an engagem5t1 luckily = m5 & wom51 is n irrevocable3 ,i w take up ! break+ ( engagem5ts lat]4 ,b x %\ld n be ent]$ ^u too casually4 ,?is is especially true :51 = in/ance1 two m5 woo "o girl4 ,if "o man p]suades h] to decide 9 8 favor & aga9/ ! o!r man1 he %\ld weigh m c>efully ?an usual 8 proposal4 ,=1 if he gets h] to surr5d] some?+ tangible--! c\rt%ip ( ! o!r man--= 8 own c\rt%ip1 x is less fair to h] !reaft] to break ! engagem5t4 ,%e has actually surr5d]$ some?+2 x may be impossible = h] subsequ5tly to accept ! att5tions ( ! o!r man1 :o w n r5ew an (f] once reject$4 ,a breakage 9 su* cases %\ld only be urg$ by ! man1 :5 ! happ9ess ( bo? cle>ly dem&s x4 ,! matt] ( an engagem5t r+ comes up1 z ! conv5tional way ( ann\nc+ to ! _w t ! girl is engag$4 ,!re is a decid$ feel+ today aga9/ w$d+ r+s1 orig9at+ z symbols ( s]vitude2 & ?is ext5ds1 among "s girls1 to a dislike ( engagem5t r+s z well4 ,= all _! jewel$ /ate1 !y repres5t a subjection1 a surr5d] ( fre$om to ! o!r p>ty4 ,! /+ ( ! subjection is less5$1 if bo? man & woman we> w$d+ r+s1 & bo? we> engagem5t r+s4 ,yet !re are m5 :o are n will+ to we> r+s3 &1 if ! girl objects1 x may be bett] = nei!r to we> !m4 ,z to *oice ( r+1 ! girl is wise/ :o makes sure t ! "y man does n exce$ 8 legitimate income = sp5d+1 9 pur*as+ h] a r+4 ,! object %\ld n be to secure a r+ slightly l>g] ?an any worn by h] girl fri5ds2 x %\ld be to we> an attractive tok5 ( an inn] affection4 ,!re is no s5se 9 go+ into love bl9dly1 ev5 at ?is /age3 x is ! girl's duty to f9d out :at h] fianc's f9ancial prospects are1 & = him to f9d out h]s4 ,s9ce !y propose to %>e f9ancial life toge!r1 !re is no s5se 9 ev5 />t+ ?is bl9dly4 ,z to ! r+1 x is true t x symbolizes a loss ( fre$om4 ,b x is also true t ?is loss ( fre$om is an actual ?+4 ,p>ties to an engagem5t mu/ ( necessity surr5d] mu*1 :5 !y decide to proce$ ) a c\rt%ip into a mat+ or m>riage4 ,be=e ! proposal is giv5 & accept$1 ! man & ! girl z well h ! :ole _w ( wom5 & m5 to *oose f3 ! proposal & its acceptance def9itely m>k a surr5d] ( all ! o!r possibilities1 9 favor ( ?is "o4 ,:5 y scan a m5u ( dess]ts1 y c select pie1 ice cream1 pudd+1 or _m ano!r *oice4 ,! *oice ( "o1 z a rule1 mu/ mean ! surr5d] ( ! "r to *oose any ( ! o!rs4 ,?is is1 z a rule1 z true ( lov]s z x is ( dess]ts4 ,s9ce1 !n1 ! loss ( fre$om is actual1 !re is no great extr9sic objection to ! cu/om ( ! we>+ ( r+s by bo?4 ,! comp5sations = ! loss ( fre$om %\ld ov]balance ! surr5d]4 ,a man _c =ev] balance 9 8 m9d ! rival possibilities ( settl+ 9 ,florida1 ,cali=nia1 ,*icago1 ,new ,york1 or "s village3 he mu/ soon] or lat] make up 8 m9d1 *oose "o1 & d 8 be/ to make 8 life a success !re4 ,x is s ) love4 ,! engag$ c\ple h giv5 up ! re/ ( ! _w z pot5tial mates3 & !y /ep at once1 & increas+ly1 into ! pleasure-g>d5 ( mat$ human love4 ,a m]e *oice ( all ! wom5 9 ! _w is n to be comp>$ ) ! actual embrace ( ! "o among ^! t y desire4 ,only ! man or woman ) an insatiable physical w&]lu/ w pref] ! w&]+ to ! arrival at ! goal ( love4 ,mat+ does n mean slav]y to ! o!r p>ty3 x means1 z a rule1 exclusive physical love ) "o p]son1 b con/ant human int]c\rse ) _m m4 ,!re is n ev5 ! slighte/ e?ical (f5se 9 a girl's acceptance ( att5tions f o!r m51 :i* /op %ort ( ! erotic4 ,%e c g to dances1 plays1 meals1 ) !m2 & a man c d ! same ) o!r girls4 ,life aft] mat+ w be monoton\s en\gh1 9 mo/ cases3 if ! engag$ c\ple dance exclusively ) ea* o!r1 ! monotony may comm5ce s soon t x w fright5 ! pair (f f ultimate m>riage4 ,z a rule1 o!r p incl9e to leave an engag$ c\ple alone anyh[3 x w be up to ! man & girl to enc\rage reasonable att5tions f o!rs4 ,?is is !oretically s\nd3 b ! elem5t ( human jeal\sy mu/ be tak5 into acc\nt4 ,if ei!r ( ! p>ties is excessively jeal\s1 s9ce ! lov]'s desire is to rema9 attractive 9 ! eyes ( ! o!r lov]1 !re mu/ be "s compromise4 ,jeal\sy p>takes ( ! nature ( a malignant disease3 root$ 9 a normal desire to possess ! lov$ "o1 x may deg5]ate into an insanity t wrecks all happ9ess4 ,if ! jeal\sy ( ! o!r p>ty is increas+ly extreme1 our advice is to end ! relation%ip4 ,if ! decision is to cont9ue x1 compromises w h to come 93 & ! girl or man w reta9 ! "r to g ) o!r p1 only to ! ext5t t ! jeal\s "o c be p]suad$ to p]mit4 ,?is calls = all ! tact & sympa?y 9 ! _w4 ,9 ,private4--,! conduct ( engag$ p 9 private mu/ keep 9 m9d ! purpose ( ! engagem5t4 ,?is is ! great te/+ p]iod ( compatibility & mutual adaptability4 ,if bo? p>ties are n adaptable1 a heavi] burd5 is laid ^u ! "o :o is4 ,if ! burd5 ( adju/+ oneself to ! :ims1 caprices1 & crot*ets ( ! o!r is too great1 !re is /ill ! *ance to t]m9ate ! engagem5t4 ,&1 if nei!r p>ty is adaptable1 !re seems no o!r happy way out ( ! situation4 ,! *ief problem confront+ ! engag$ girl is to :at ext5t %e w exp]im5t physically ) love4 ,z /at$1 _m doctors say t mo/ engag$ c\ples1 be=e m>riage1 h exp]i5c$ love fully4 ,?is is n an indictm5t1 b a /atem5t ( a fact4 ,!re are /rong argum5ts 9 its favor4 ,if a man & woman are n physically pleas+ to "o ano!r1 ! happ9ess ( ! m>riage is doom$ f ! />t4 ,if1 = in/ance1 "o ( ! mates is sexually frigid1 & "o passionate1 x is almo/ impossible = !m to satisfy ea* o!r3 & ! con/ant temptation w be pres5t to try to f9d satisfaction outside ( ! mat+ relation%ip1 a temptation t is (t5 yield$ to1 at times to ! wreckage ( ! relation%ip4 ,!re is no way = p to "k ! physical nature ( ! o!r1 )\t physical exp]im5tation4 ,! dang] 9 ! proc$ure is t ! man may turn out to be a pr$atory male1 :o becomes engag$ to girl aft] girl = ! m]e pleasure ( tempor>y enjoym5t ( h]4 ,?is is a dang] t ! girl mu/ run2 &1 if %e has made x h] task to /udy ! man's nature c>efully1 %e %\ld "k by n[ :e!r or n h] int5d$ mate is to be tru/$4 ,!re are _m wom5 :o believe t1 if a man is once giv5 ! ultimate favor1 he at once reg>ds ! girl z *eap5$ 9 8 eyes4 ,! cons5sus ( intellig5t op9ion seems to be to ! v o!r extreme3 t t _m a girl has wreck$ h] *ances = happ9ess1 by refus+ to grant ! ultimate favor4 ,only an abnormal man w habitually reg>d a woman :o yields to him z *eap5$4 ,z ! "t = ! f9al mat+ draws ne>1 & ! mutual desires rise t[>d _! cre/1 he may reg>d x z utt]ly unreasonable = ! girl to )hold long]4 ,! man is usually ! aggressor 9 su* cases2 &1 if ! woman is ! aggressor1 %e w h ! same op9ion ( ! man4 ,yet1 s9ce !re are risks on bo? sides ( ! matt]1 x rema9s a subject on :i* ! wise w give no advice1 b w leave x to ! two conc]n$ to "w out _! solution z wisely z !y c1 ) ! facts spread out be=e !m4 ,x is a matt] conc]n+ ! private relations ( ! engag$ c\ple1 :5 ! att5tions ( outsid]s pass ! /age ( ! non-erotic1 & approa* ! erotic4 ,:e!r a man %\ld be engag$ to two or m girls1 & a woman to two or m m51 at ! same "t1 affects ! p>ties conc]n$ too intimately to be reg>d$ z a matt] ( outsid]s4 ,!oretically1 !re is mu* to be said on bo? sides4 ,a real engagem5t--a def9ite pl$ge to m>ry--_c coexi/ ) an engagem5t to an outsid]4 ,! laws d n p]mit polygamy 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,yet :at are we to say ( a provisional engagem5t1 :]e ! p>ties m]ely assure ea* o!r t !y ?9k !y w m>ry ea* o!r1 yet at ! same "t (f] !mselves to ! _w z engag$8 ,if su* is ! agreem5t1 !re is less objection to concurr5t engagem5ts4 ,f ! /&po9t ( education 9 sex1 !re is some?+ to be said = ! idea4 ,common s5se w\ld favor x1 yet human nature runs c\nt] to common s5se too (t5 to let u /op "h4 ,x is bett]1 p]haps1 to let ! concurr5t c\rt%ips take place be=e ! =mal engagem5t2 & !n let ! *oice1 = ! "t be+ at lea/1 be an exclusive *oice4 ,if ei!r p>ty is attract$ outside1 to ! ext5t ( believ+ t m happ9ess lies 9 ! love ( ano!r1 ! engagem5t may be brok51 & ! o!r relation%ip comm5c$ & te/$4 ,t]m9ation ( ,engagem5ts4--,%\ld an engagem5t be %ort1 or long8 ,:at is ! prop] l5g?1 = ! happ9ess ( ! p>ties involv$8 ,we h scriptural au?ority = ! engagem5t la/+ f\rte5 ye>s3 ! /ory ( ,jacob c be /ret*$ into ?is int]pretation4 ,jacob1 :o lov$ ,ra*el1 agre$ ) h] fa!r to s]ve sev5 ye>s = h]4 ,frankly1 we h yet to meet ! woman :o is wor? su* a sacrifice2 &1 9 ?is case1 at ! end ( ! sev5 ye>s ,jacob1 trick$ by 8 prospective fa!r-9-law1 f\nd himself m>ri$ to ! eld] si/] ,leah1 in/ead ( to 8 belov$4 ,accord+ly1 he put 9 ano!r sev5 ye>s s]v+ = ,ra*el1 &1 f\rte5 ye>s aft] 8 engagem5t />t$1 0 w$ to h]4 ,especially 9 old-fa%ion$ c\ntry di/ricts1 long engagem5ts are (t5 kn[n1 & laugh$ at4 ,!re is ! /ory ( ! c\ntryman :o c\rt$ a s*oolmate = ye>s--until1 9 fact1 bo? _h drift$ f y\? t[>d ! end ( middle age4 8,:y don't y m>ry ,s>ah80 he 0 ask$4 8,m>ry h]60 9 surprise & dismay4 8,:y1 if ,i got m>ri$1 :]e 9 t>nation c\ld ,i g to sp5d my ev5+s80 ,long engagem5ts are n wise4 ,if ! two are sep>at$ by di/ance--if1 = in/ance1 ! "y man goes to ! city to make 8 f9ancial way1 s t m>riage is possible--!re is /rong *ance t ei!r he or %e w f9d a m suitable mate4 ,9 su* cases1 if ! orig9al engagem5t is c>ri$ out1 happ9ess is almo/ inevitable2 & ! break+ ( ! engagem5t may br+ unhapp9ess to at lea/ "o ( ! p>ties conc]n$4 ,if ! girl & man rema9 9 ! same city1 !y gradually gr[ old1 ap>t f ea* o!r4 ,_! little tricks & idiosyncrasies1 :i* liv+ toge!r c\ld h smoo!d out1 become p]man5t--h>d5$ into unb5dable ?+s4 ,!y come to reg>d ea* o!r z matt]s ( c\rse1 )\t ! exquisite physical ?rill :i* love %\ld mean4 ,!y h1 9 brief1 all ( ! discom=t & monotony ( m>riage )\t any ( its joys4 ,too brief engagem5ts are at times m dang]\s4 ,?is is especially true :]e ! man & girl h n kn[n ea* o!r be=e4 ,if !y h be5 rais$ side by side1 !re is small dang] ( be+ mat$ to a p]son :o w turn out1 on clos] acqua9tance1 to be ev]y?+ unwor?y4 ,! wise/ ?+ is to let ! engagem5t la/ a mon? or long]1 & !n1 if ! mat+ is desir$1 take ! plunge ev5 on a mod]ate income1 ?an risk ! dang] ( lett+ ! engagem5t become a t$i\s habit4 ,! normal t]m9ation ( an engagem5t is m>riage4 ,any book ( etiquette w tell y ! =mal ways to accept ! mad gamble ( m>riage1 ) all ( ! frills ( su* s]vice1 receptions1 honeymoons1 & ! l4 ,! honeymoon1 x may be po9t$ out1 or ! p]iod 9 :i* ! delud$ man & woman try to live on love alone1 is "o ( ! mo/ cruel inv5tions ev] made by man4 ,its almo/ inv>iable result 7unless x be m]ely a brief trip1 or a trip :i* ! p>ties desir$ to take anyh[7 is to s5d !m back to ! city ?or\ghly bor$ & disgu/$ ) ea* o!r1 & avid to int]e/ !mselves1 p]haps unduly1 9 p>ties outside ! mat$ relation%ip4 ,= ^? :o d n l ! antique pomp ( ! m>riage 9 *ur*1 !re is always ! simpl] c]emony ( be+ m>ri$ by a ju/ice ( ! peace1 mayor1 or ald]man4 ,& !re is1 luckily = m5 & wom51 ano!r t]m9ation possible1 & t is to break ! engagem5t4 ,?is %\ld n be done )\t grave reason--b f> m frequ5tly ?an ! actual break+s ( engagem5ts1 su* a reason exi/s4 ,! problem simply is1 :i* is bett]3 to act wisely & t]m9ate an unwise mat+1 :i* w\ld result 9 unhapp9ess1 at ! co/ ( "s slight tempor>y unhapp9ess2 or to ent] ^u a life-"t ( unhapp9ess1 or at be/ a long /ret* ( x1 breakable only by ! co/ly & elaborate me?od ( sep>ation or divorce1 :i* may require ! assumption by "o p>ty or ! o!r ( a guilt n actually e>n$4 ,:]e ! case is s cle>1 !re %\ld be no hesitation3 ! engagem5t %\ld be t]m9at$1 ! man accept+ ! blame out ( a *ivalr\s ins9c]ity socially und]/ood1 & ! p>ties p>t+1 if possible1 z fri5ds4 ,if ! matt] is /ill unc]ta91 bett] a po/ponem5t ?an a m>riage1 :i* may be rep5t$ soon en\gh4 ,only a mat+ :i* w br+ increas+ happ9ess is wise1 = t is ! object ( life1 & ( its playtime1 c\rt%ip4 ,,vi ,,fam\s ,,c\rt%ips ,c\rt+ by ,poetry4--,"o ( ! inv>iable effects ( ! love emotion is to inspire1 9 ! amor\s brea/1 ! delusion t ! man or woman :o is 9 love c write poetry4 ,mo/ p c feel poetry1 b writ+ x is ano!r /ory4 ,yet1 :5ev] any celebrat$ case ( brea* ( promise comes up1 we h ! poetic effusions ( him & h] publi%$ 9 ! pap]s1 = ! delectation ( ! multitude4 ,!re is good propag&a 9 c\rt+ ! lady ( y\r he>t1 or 9 reply+ to ! man ( y\r he>t1 9 ! words ( ,%elley or "s o!r great lov]--b y\r own words may n be z efficaci\s4 ,c\ntless poetic fir/ volumes 7& lat] ones1 too71 h[ev]1 are fill$ up ) ! ov]fl[ at woo+ "t1 & occasionally su* books are books :i* ! _w w\ld n will+ly sp>e4 ,a favorite record ( c\rt%ip by rhyme is ,lilies ( ! ,valley1 by ,p]cival ,w4 ,wells1 ( ,wantagh1 ,new ,york4 ,c\ld any woman resi/ /ra9s l ?is3 ,life's j begun6 ! fl[+ tide ,( love has /irr$ x into motion4 ,f>ewell to ba*elorhood's calm pride1 ,& welcome1 love's int5se emotion6 ,faulty z ! rhyme may be1 ! s5tim5t is flawless4 ,aga91 ,put ?y h& 9 m9e1 & kiss me t5d]ly1 ,beautiful ,lilian1 fa%ion$ s sl5d]ly2 ,place a kiss ^u my lips ) ?y de> lips s s(t1 ,& d n /op ) "o1 b kiss me (t4 ,h[ magically ! 8s(t0 evokes its rhym+ mate1 8(t40 8,s(t10 :i* at times is appli$ to bra9s1 "h ref]s to ! lips4 ,b = ! magic ( rhyme1 c\ld we h _h ! picture ( 8,lilian0 9 ! la/ two words ( ?is ma/]ly confession8 ,i love !e1 ,o ,i love !e1 ,lily2 /ay ,beside ?y ,p]cival & ) sweet kisses say ,t ?\ wilt always love him4 ,de>] ?an day ,art ?\ to me1 ,o ,lily--wanton fay6 ,yet a poet out ( ! ,village ,milton class1 say ,%akespe>e1 might be a saf] guide 9 y\r own ,muse flights4 ,%akespe>e's plays are saturat$ ) gorge\s examples ( c\rt%ip4 ,o!llo's magical woo+ ( ,desdemona is "o type4 ,"h ! simple w>rior & conqu]or us$ no me?od b ! pla9 unadorn$ /ory ( 8 de$s ( d>+4 ,! maid5's he>t capitulat$ to 8 indirect siege at ! fir/ attack4 ,a diff]5t love is ,romeo's1 saturat$ ) poetry3 ,alack1 !re lies m p]il 9 ?9e eye ,?an tw5ty ( _! swords2 look ?\ b sweet1 ,& ,i am pro( aga9/ _! enmity4444 ,sleep dwell ^u ?9e eyes1 peace 9 ?y brea/6 ,w\ld ,i 7 sleep & peace1 s sweet to re/6 ,!n !re is ! caveman-woo+ ( ,ca!r9e ! %rew by ,petru*io ! roi/]+ gallant--! mo/ amus+ c\rt%ip 9 ,%akespe>e1 ) ! possible exception ( 8 bluff ,engli% k+1 :o kn[s no ,fr5*1 & 8 woo+ ( ! spirit$ ,fr5* pr9cess1 :o kn[s no ,engli%4 ,b love speaks a language ( its own & ev5 ?is b> did n keep ! royal lov]s f und]/&+ ea* o!r4 ,!re is ! simple1 *ildlike woo+ ( ,f]d9& & ,mir&a 9 ,! ,tempe/1 & !re is ! passionate woo+--by ! woman ?is "t--( ,adonis by ,v5us3 8,v\*safe1 ?\1 wond]1 to alight ?y /e$1 ,& re9 8 pr\d head to ! saddle-b[2 ,if ?\ wilt deign ?is favor1 = ?y me$ ,a ?\s& honey secrets %alt ?\ "k3 ,"h come & sit1 :]e nev] s]p5t hisses1 ,& be+ set1 ,i'll smo!r !e ) kisses4 8,art ?\ a%am$ to kiss6 ,!n w9k aga91 ,& ,i w w9k2 s %all ! day seem night2 ,love keeps 8 revels :]e !re are b twa92 ,be bold to play1 our sport is n 9 sight3 ,^! blue-ve9'd violets :]eon we lean ,nev] c blab1 nor "k n :at we mean44440 ,& hav+ felt ! sweetness ( ! spoil1 ,) bl9dfold fury %e beg9s to =age2 ,h] face do? reek & smoke1 h] blood do? boil1 ,& c>eless lu/ /irs up a desp]ate c\rage2 ,plant+ oblivion1 beat+ reason back1 ,=gett+ %ame's pure blu% & honor's wrack4 ,timid maids & m5 may well be reassur$ by ?is tempe/ ( passion on ! "p ( love's que51 & by ! :ole gall]y ( ,%akespe>e's great lov]s4 ,great ,lov]s4--,! _w has its long roll ( great lov]s1 ^: names are sweet on ! tongues ( ! g5]ations t come aft] !m4 ,! ,bible1 9 ! ,song ( ,solomon1 has "o ( ! greate/ s]ies ( love lyrics 9 all lit]ature4 ,david lov$ 8 ,ba?-,%eba z a k+ loves2 & ,solomon 0 at lea/ effici5t1 ) 8 sev5 hundr$ wives1 pr9cesses1 & ?ree hundr$ concub9es4 ,hel5 ( ,sp>ta elop$ ) ,p>is ( ,troy1 & light$ ! conflagration t burn$ ! topless t[]s ( ,troy to ! gr\nd1 & embroil$ ! _w 9 ! ,trojan ,w> & inspir$ ! fir/ two ,greek epics4 ,dante saw ! girl ,beatrice pass+ him on ! /reet & z a result1 he wor%ipp$ h] !reaft] f a di/ance1 & lift$ h] 9 imag9ation1 9 8 ,div9e ,com$y1 to ! high ?rone ( heav54 ,don ,juan 0 ! great pr$atory lov]1 putt+ on a new love z easily z he slipp$ on a new g>m5t4 ,bluebe>d 7or ,gilles de ,rais7 0 ! blood?ir/y lov]2 ,cleopatra 0 ! _w's que51 ) ,pompey1 ,caes>1 & ,antony successively at h] feet4 ,9 m mod]n times1 ,casanova 0 ! g5tle/ great lov] ( all "t1 ) a roll ( loves z long z ,solomon's1 & f> m v>i$4 ,great secul> popes1 l ,alex&] ,,vi1 ! ,borgia1 7 great 9 love2 _m ( ! ,roman emp]ors 7 *iefly di/+ui%$ 9 ! li/s ( ,cupid4 ,caes> himself 0 nicknam$ 8! husb& ( all wom540 ,su* m5 & wom5 h made ! hi/ory ( love4 ,read _! love /ories1 z aids 9 y\r own suits4 ,among ! poets1 we h _h _m great lov]s4 ,%elley sp5t 8 life 9 a high ideali/ic pursuit ( ! ideal woman1 p\r+ out 8 dea?less lyrics to "s ,h>riet or ,m>y or ,jane or ,emilia :o captur$ 8 fancy = ! mom5t4 ,byron lov$ all ov] ,europe1 ,keats burn$ out 8 "y life 9 a wild adoration ( ,fanny ,brawne1 z 9 ?is sonnet3 ,i cry y m]cy--pity--love6--ay1 love6 ,m]ciful love t tantalizes n1 ,"o-?\ght$1 nev]-w&]+1 guileless love1 ,unmask'd1 & be+ se5--)\t a blot6 ,o6 let me h !e :ole1--all--all--be m9e6 ,t %ape1 t fairness1 t sweet m9or ze/ ,( love1 y\r kiss1--^? h&s1 ^? eyes div9e1 ,t w>m1 :ite1 luc5t1 million-pleasur$ brea/-- ,y\rself--y\r s\l--9 pity give me all1 ,)hold no atom's atom or ,i die1 ,or liv+ on1 p]haps1 y\r wret*$ ?rall1 ,=get1 9 ! mid/ ( idle mis]y1 ,life's purposes1--! palate ( my m9d ,los+ its gu/1 & my ambition bl9d6 ,burns 0 a magnific5t voice ( love1 :o enri*$ man ) _m ( 8 *oice/ love-songs4 ,poe n only 0 a great lov]1 b us$ ! same poems successively ) a numb] ( desir$ wom54 ,edna ,/4 ,v9c5t ,millay1 among mod]n poets1 has a *>m+ clev]ness 9 h] love-songs2 &1 inde$1 mod]n poetry is full ( excell5t love mat]ial4 ,"o ( ! mo/ effective mod]n love sonnets is ! dramatic ,pirate ,song1 f 8,leaf ,buds ,turn+ ,rose10 by ! au?or ( ,! ,eagle ,sonnets3 ,ahoy1 !re1 y slim craft ) ! virg9 ensign6 ,heave to--we are bo>d+6 ,y're a fancy prey ,to tread ! slipp]y plank1 or d y\r danc+ ,on air1 ov] ! w9d-b$evill$ spray4 ,l[ 9 ! wat]--y'll be rott5 ) treasure6 ,ay1 !re'll be hot blood f\l9' y\r clean decks ,:5 we %all tread y 9 our lordly pleasure ,!n scuttle y ) all ! plund]$ wrecks4 ,yet y're a raki% craft4444 ,h[ w\ld y l x ,to make "o m ( ! buccane]+ tell1 ,to raise ! ,jolly ,rog]1 & n /rike x ,9 ! face ( all ! puni%+ fleets ( hell8 ,by ,god1 we'll take y1 !n6 ,fair or f\l wea!r1 ,two ( ! black g5try1 (f toge!r6 ,an amus+ love /ory 9 rhyme is ,! ,lang ,coort9'1 by ,lewis ,c>roll1 be/ kn[n = ,alice 9 ,wond]l&4 ,! lov] = ye>s woo$ ! lady1 say+ no ^w ( 8 love4 ,%e us$ 8 gold r+s z a *a9 = h] doggie2 /uff$ ! dog's pill[ ) 8 repeat$ locks ( hair2 & :5 he s5t love lett]s f a f> c\ntry1 ) ! po/age /ill due on !m1 %e _h ! po/man take !m all away4 ,= ?irty ye>s he _h kept up ?is c\rt%ip3 & n[ at la/ he has come to propose4 ,b ! lady tells him1 t1 s9ce he has liv$ s satisfactorily = ?irty ye>s1 he c wait a bit long] yet4 ,he rep5ts1 z he leaves h]3 8,o1 if ,i f9d ano!r lady10 ,he said ) sighs & te>s1 8,i am sure my c\rt9' %all n be ,ano!r ?irty ye>s2 8,= if ,i f9d a lady gay ,exactly to my ta/e1 ,i'll pop ! "q1 aye or nay1 ,9 tw5ty ye>s1 at mo/60 ,!re is a real lesson = lov]s "h4 ,d n po/pone y\r proposal until y\r gr&*ildr5 are old en\gh to laugh at y\r t>d9ess4 ,! fir/ lov]s 7 ,adam & ,eve1 accord+ to ! ,g5esis /ory2 & ,milton1 9 8 l>gely unread ,p>adise ,lo/1 has told _! love 9 res\nd+ l9es4 ,! mo/ rec5t lov]s assumably include y :o are read+ ?is book4 ,love is an art1 z c\rt%ip & woo+ is an art3 & y\r task is to p]fect y\rself 9 ! art4 ,y %\ld make y\r woo+ s]ve ! d\ble function ( w9n+ ! mate y desire at ! mom5t1 & at ! same "t s]ve z an education to y 9 ! lov$ "o1 & ! opposite sex 9 g5]al4 ,bo? ! educational function1 & ! task ( w9n+ ! desir$ "o1 call = y\r highe/ abilities3 & ^! abilities w be %>p5$ & increas$ by a k ( man's lore ^u love1 & ! ups & d[ns ( ! great lov]s ( ! pa/4 ,s saturate y\rself1 dur+ ! lov+ p]iod1 ) ! lit]ature ( love3 read c>efully ! love /ories ( ! _w's great lov]s1 & con/antly increase y\r te*nique z woo]1 9 ! beg9n+ ( ! c\rt%ip1 9 ! actual engagem5t1 & 9 ! mo/ p]il\s ( all p]iods--t p]iod aft] ! m>riage has comm5c$4 ,!re is a ?ird purpose1 :i* h>dly ne$s m5tion1 & t is1 ! pleasure t y y\rself h 9 woo+4 ,pleasure consi/s 9 ! satisfy+ ( an appetite--n 9 ! satisfaction ( x2 :5 ! appetite is satisfi$1 y\r feel+ becomes negative4 ,! *ase is ! fun2 ! ga9+ ( ! goal is a m]e s5se ( accompli%m5t1 f> bel[ ! joy ( ! runn+4 ,man has n only ! appetite to enjoy love1 b ! add$ appetite = ! *ase3 & woman1 daught] ( man1 has ?is delight too1 & an implant$ pleasure 9 h] "p ( ! woo+4 ,h] "p is1 9 g5]al1 m passive ?an man's3 %e gets h] ?rill f see+ ! male or males cavort+ be=e h]1 9 ! endeavor to ga9 h] approval4 ,yet1 at times1 :5 ! wor?y male is backw>d or ba%ful1 or "y & inexp]i5c$1 %e w assume ! aggressive1 & be a v ,v5us 9 action4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 no matt] :o does ! actual woo+ & propos+1 x is today1 l>gely1 woman :o rules ! field4 ,h[ else expla9 h] elaborate & s$uctive dress+1 to w9 man's approval8 ,h] concealm5t ( ?is1 & display ( t *>m1 h] allur+ p]fume1 h] flatt]+ pret5se t ! man is ! wise/ be+ 9 ! univ]se1 h] cont9u+ att5tions to him 9 a ?\s& subtle little ways8 ,^! collectively weave a net :i* ev5 ! w>ie/ male fi% may n (t5 escape4 ,g to y\r woo+1 m51 ) all ! c\rage y c3 x is h>dly ! "t to reflect t y are be+ summon$ to ! slaught]1 z ! spid] nets h] prey1 z ! spid] nets h] mate4 ,x is pleasant to be a victim ( love3 & "s m5 f\nd x a pleasure to be su* a victim con/antly4 ,& :5 y h made y\rself an arti/ 9 woo+1 bo? 9 !ory & practice1 d n be /+y ) y\r lore1 b pass x on to o!r m5 & wom51 :o lack x4 ,= only ! great 9 love are great 9 life1 & great 9 joy4 ,,transcrib]',s ,,note ,page #f3 8& ! male surivives0 *ang$ to 8& ! male survives04 ,page #bj3 8:5 ! left ! (fice10 *ang$ to 8:5 he left ! (fice10 ,page #bf3 8h[ o!r p reg>$0 *ang$ to 8h[ o!r p reg>d0 ,page #bf3 8h always he> dmade0 *ang$ to 8h always he>d made0 ,page #cj3 89 m5s' eyes30 *ang$ to 89 m5's eyes30 ,page #ca3 8box ( *ewy *ololates0 *ang$ to 8box ( *ewy *ocolates0 ,page #cb3 8or a p]man5t "o30 *ang$ to 8or a p]man5t "o--0 ,page #cc3 8:olly unattractive30 *ang$ to 8:olly unattractive10 ,page #ce3 8ask "t to consid]0 *ang$ to 8ask = "t to consid]0 ,page #cg3 8,fancy ,flitations40 *ang$ to 8,fancy ,flirtations40 ,page #cg3 8space allot$ to0 *ang$ to 8space allott$ to0 ,page #dh3 8out :at h] fiance's0 *ang$ to 8out :at h] fianc's0 ,page #di3 8c elect pie0 *ang$ to 8c select pie0 ,page #eb3 8,! conc5sus ( intellig5t0 *ang$ to 8,! cons5sus ( intellig5t0 ,page #ec3 8( to 8 belov$0 *ang$ to 8( to 8 belov$40 ,page #eg3 8,,vi4 ,,fam\s ,,c\rt%ips0 *ang$ to 8,,vi ,,fam\s ,,c\rt%ips0 ,page #eh3 8p]il 9 ?is eye0 *ang$ to 8p]il 9 ?9e eye0 ,page #eh3 8aga9/ _! enmity4 40 *ang$ to 8aga9/ _! enmity44440 ,page #ei3 8,=gett+ %ames' pure0 *ang$ to 8,=gett+ %ame's pure0 ,page #fa3 8clev]ness 9 h] love songs0 *ang$ to 8clev]ness 9 h] love-songs0