,transcriber's ,note3 ,text enclosed by underscores is in italics 7italics71 and text enclosed by equal signs is in bold 7bold74 ,an additional ,transcriber's ,note is at the end4 99 99 99 99 99 ,multum in ,parvo ,library4 ,entered at ,post ,office as ,second-,class matter4 ,vol4 ,i4 ,,june1 #ahid4 ,published ,monthly4 ,no4 #f4 ,dr4 ,courtney's ,guide ,,to ,happy ,marriage4 ,smallest ,magazine in the ,world4 ,subscription price1 #ej cts4 per year4 ,single copies1 #e cents each4 ,,published ,,by ,a4 ,b4 ,,courtney1 #fga ,tremont ,street1 ,boston4 99 99 99 99 99 ,,marriage ,,guide4 ,the ,newly ,wed4 ,we will suppose you have read and profited by the excellent suggestions contained in an article published in a previous issue of this library1 under the head of 8,how to ,woo1 ,win and ,wed40 ,you have succeeded in winning the object of your affections1 and have set sail upon the sea of matrimony4 ,it is often called a troublous sea4 ,such indeed it proves in truth to be for those who embark upon it not fully prepared for the voyage4 ,do you really1 married or unmarried1 know the full meaning of the word marriage4 ,it is something far more serious than a mere civil contract or religious ceremony4 ,these are only the marks of outward show4 ,there is a good deal behind these--a good deal that you ought to know1 and of which1 perchance1 you are ignorant4 ,the aim of this article is to give some practical advice to those who have already entered into the bonds of matrimony1 and it will not1 it is hoped1 come amiss to those about to marry1 but who have not yet taken the step that leads to misery or bliss4 8,marriage10 says ,selden1 8is a desperate thing2 the frogs in sop were extremely wise2 they had a great mind to some water1 but they would not leap into the well1 because they could not get out again40 ,would that most of us possessed the wisdom of the fabled frogs4 ,purpose of ,marriage4 ,marriage ought to be consummated as the result of mutual love and esteem1 and not for the purpose of simply gratifying the desires of our lower nature4 ,this last consideration is1 it must be acknowledged1 a controlling one with a great many people1 and marriages contracted in this manner are not generally1 and cannot hope to be1 happy ones4 ,the sacredness of the marriage relation ought never to be violated4 ,we must not forget that we are rational beings with a will to withstand the weaknesses of our animal natures4 ,happy and ,unhappy ,marriages4 ,a happy marriage is without doubt the ideal state of living1 the end for which mankind has always striven1 while an unhappy marriage is a veritable hell on earth4 ,examples of both of these states need not be given4 ,we see them every day4 ,to one who reads the daily papers regularly with particular note of the records of divorces1 assaults of drunken or jealous husbands1 the faithlessness of women and the elopements1 the thought must present itself that there are more unhappy marriages than happy ones4 ,this1 fortunately1 is not true4 ,where we read of one unhappy marriage and its terrible consequences there are ten happy ones of which the world never hears4 8,marriage10 writes ,addison1 8enlarges the scene of our happiness and miseries40 8,it is a mistake10 says another writer1 8to consider marriage merely as a scheme to happiness2 it is also a bond of service1 it is the most ancient of that social ministration which ,god has ordained for all human beings1 and which is symbolized by all the relations of nature40 ,still another writer says3 8,married life appears to me a sort of philosophical discipline1 training persons to honorable duties1 worthy of the good and wise4 ,few unmarried people are affected as they ought to be toward the public good1 and perceive what are really the most important objects in life40 ,how to be ,happy4 ,those who wish to lead happy married lives cannot do better than to follow a few rules which we present herewith4 ,husband and wife ought to maintain entire confidence in each other1 have no secrets each from the other2 don't quarrel2 have forbearance for each other's failings2 you have neither of you married an angel4 ,remember1 husband1 that of every dollar you own1 fifty cents belongs to your wife2 she is an equal partner with you in the business of life2 don't compel her to become a mere household drudge1 working for her board and clothes2 she did not marry you for that4 ,try to see the good points of your husband or wife2 don't magnify the faults2 we are all only human2 don't have the first quarrel and the second will never come4 ,golden ,precepts4 ,let the rebuke be preceded by a kiss4 ,don't require a request to be repeated4 ,never should both be angry at the same time4 ,be lovers all your life4 ,let the courtship be continued after marriage4 ,never neglect the other for all the world beside4 ,let each strive always to accommodate the other4 ,let the angry word be answered with a kiss4 ,bestow your warmest sympathies in each other's trials4 ,criticize as little as possible1 but if you find it necessary to criticize1 make your criticism in the most loving manner possible4 ,make no display of the sacrifices you make for each other4 ,never make remarks calculated to bring ridicule upon the other4 ,never deceive2 confidence once lost can never be wholly regained4 ,always use the most loving and gentle words when addressing each other4 ,let each study what pleasure he can bestow upon the other during the day4 ,always leave home with a tender good-bye and loving words4 ,they may be the last4 ,consult and advise together in all things4 ,when you feel like quarrelling1 discuss the whole thing together and you will come to an amicable settlement4 ,never reproach the other1 especially in the presence of others1 for an error which was committed with a good motive and with the best judgment at the time4 ,don't tell your friends the faults of your husband or wife4 ,the ,duty of the ,wife4 ,the wife's place is in the home4 ,that is her proper sphere of action1 and the one in which she ought to be most happy4 ,don't devote time to society matters while your house duties need to be done4 ,don't spend your time in making clothes for some naked boys in ,dooloboo who do not need them1 while your own children go about with patched or torn clothing4 ,greet your husband with a smile on his return from work4 ,don't scold your husband4 ,don't think your husband ought to be perfect4 ,are you yourself perfect8 ,be careful and economical in the expenditure of money for household purposes4 7,by the way1 your husband ought to make you the treasurer of the firm47 ,always dress neatly for your husband's sake4 ,you used to do it before marriage4 ,imagine your husband is still your lover4 ,treat your husband's friends politely4 ,this is an important part of your wifely duty4 ,don't spend money extravagantly for dress or other personal adornment4 ,the ,husband's ,duty4 ,don't think the woman you have married is yours1 body and soul4 ,don't be niggardly in money matters4 ,don't withhold from your wife your tender love and sympathy4 ,regard her as your dear sweetheart all through life4 ,always treat her with tender consideration4 ,don't try to argue with her4 ,a woman cannot reason2 she is guided rather by her womanly intuition1 which is rarely at fault4 ,follow the counsel of your wife4 ,many a man has done so and succeeded4 ,wisdom and foresight are possessed by women1 as well as men4 ,let your wife understand fully your business4 ,don't let her think you are earning fifty dollars a week when you are earning only thirty dollars1 or vice versa4 ,give your wife all the pleasure you can4 ,she needs it4 ,do not go about enjoying yourself with boon companions while your wife toils at home4 ,don't spend money for rum while your wife has to make over her old dresses4 ,if your wife is worthy of it 7most wives are71 praise her4 ,women like praise4 ,women are not as strongly built as men1 and are thus likely to be often in delicate health4 ,if so1 your wife may be petulant and cross4 ,make allowances for this and don't scold her4 ,don't interfere with your wife in the performance of the duties that belong peculiarly to her4 ,give her money enough to dress well1 even if you have to make sacrifices to do so4 ,treat her mother with becoming respect4 ,marrying for a ,home4 ,a good many women are foolish enough and dishonorable enough to marry merely for a home--foolish because they cannot expect such a marriage to result happily1 and dishonorable because they have deceived the man they married4 ,love ought to be the basis of all marriages4 ,joy and ,pleasure4 ,a married life is not one of unalloyed bliss4 ,we ought not to expect this4 ,it has its pains as well as its pleasures4 ,as ,margaret ,fuller says3 8,deceive not thyself by over-expecting happiness in the marriage state2 look not therein for contentment greater than ,god will give1 or a creature in this world can receive1 namely1 to be free from all inconveniences4 ,marriage is not1 like the hill of ,olympus1 wholly clear without clouds40 ,when misfortune comes to us1 and all the rest of the world deserts us1 we have those at home to whom to look in certain expectancy of sympathy and encouragement--wife and children4 ,as ,john ,taylor says3 8,a married man falling into misfortune is more apt to retrieve his situation in the world than a single one1 chiefly because his spirits are soothed and retrieved by domestic endearments1 and his self-respect kept alive by finding that1 although all abroad be darkness and humiliation1 yet there is a little world of love at home over which he is monarch40 ,a married man is more apt to labor for the good of all mankind1 while a single man is apt to be more selfish in his aims and endeavors4 ,the interests of a single man centre round himself1 while those of a married man embrace his whole family1 and in a larger degree the whole community4 ,don't ,board4 ,if you are a newly-married couple1 don't board4 ,go to keeping house as soon as possible4 ,don't get married if you can't do this4 ,a young woman ought to learn the duties and pleasures of housekeeping as soon after marriage as possible4 ,if she boards out1 she has little to occupy her time1 and is apt to pass her days in reading silly novels1 or to fall into that terrible habit of gossiping4 ,she ought to find pleasure in working for her husband1 and she can work for him best only in her own home1 preparing his meals and by the performance of other wifely duties4 ,as a mere boarder in somebody else's home1 she cannot do this4 ,there are many drawbacks and perplexities about housekeeping1 to be sure1 but these ought to be met and contended with with a brave spirit4 ,in the end1 having conquered1 it will be found that the pleasures far outweigh them4 ,a woman ought to take pleasure in looking after the home nest1 and ought not to leave to some unsympathetic boarding-housekeeper the task of preparing the daily meals for her husband4 ,the ,mother-in-,law4 ,a mother-in-law is often a blessing1 but few will admit the truth of this statement4 ,many men1 however1 have found her to be a ministering angel in disguise4 ,it is better1 nevertheless1 for the newly-married couple to live by themselves1 if possible1 and not be under the sway of a mother-in-law1 or other relative1 however kind and unselfish she or they may be4 ,they ought to strike out for themselves4 ,a mother-in-law1 however good her intention may be 7and no doubt her intentions are always good71 is pretty sure to prove meddlesome and dictatorial to a greater or less degree1 and end by being an element of discord in what ought to be a happy home4 ,you will find it better to paddle your own canoe1 even if you do not make very rapid or easy progress at first4 ,marriage a ,lottery4 ,marriage has been called a lottery4 ,fortunately it is a lottery in which there are a great many prizes4 ,let us give you this bit of advice in regard to marriage as a lottery3 ,try to think that you have drawn a prize4 ,thinking so will go a good way toward making the supposition a pleasant reality4 ,never lose sight of this fact4 ,if your husband or wife does not come up to the high standard which you have hoped for1 try to stifle the disappointment4 ,it might be worse4 ,start out well on the sea of matrimony4 8,many a marriage10 writes ,frederika ,bremer1 8has commenced like the morning1 red1 and perished like a mushroom4 ,wherefore8 ,because the married pair neglected to be as agreeable to each other after their union as they were before it4 ,seek always to please each other2 lavish not your love to-day2 remember that marriage has a morrow1 and again a morrow40 ,another writer on the same subject wisely says3 8,the happiness of married life depends on a power of making small sacrifices with readiness and cheerfulness4 ,few persons are ever called upon to make great sacrifices or to confer great favors2 but affection is kept alive1 and happiness secured1 by keeping up a constant warfare against little selfishness40 ,jealousy4 ,it is said that jealousy is an unmistakable sign of true love4 ,we are supposed to be jealous of those whom we most dearly love4 ,there may be some truth in this assertion1 but we incline rather to think that it is open to dispute4 ,only the weakest are the most jealous4 ,but the 8green-eyed0 monster has caused too much misery to treat the matter lightly4 ,where mutual love and respect and perfect confidence exist1 and where the married parties are sensible1 intellectual people1 jealousy rarely exists4 ,jealousy1 such as that which is said to be an infallible sign of true love1 is exhibited chiefly by silly young women1 married and single1 who have no serious grounds for suspicion against the object toward which their jealousy is directed4 ,if you are of an incurably jealous disposition1 never marry any one of the opposite sex who is good looking4 ,this will only add fuel to the fires of your jealousy4 ,marry a homely person--the homelier the better--one who is not likely to receive undesirable attentions from the opposite sex after marriage4 ,but the best advice of all is don't be jealous4 ,be sensible4 ,nine times out of ten you have no real cause for jealousy after all4 ,to be jealous of your husband or wife implies that you have married a partner who cannot be trusted4 ,have you married such a person8 ,probably not4 ,then why be jealous8 ,mental and ,physical ,exercise4 ,people in ill health cannot be expected to be happy whether they are married or single4 ,in order to preserve the health of mind and body1 the laws of health1 as regards pure air1 exercise1 food1 drink1 etc41 must be rigidly followed4 ,exercise is one of the best means of preserving health4 ,care must be taken1 however1 that the exercise be of a kind and amount suitable to the needs of each person4 ,recreation1 or a change of occupation 7but never idleness71 is sufficient exercise for some people4 ,but there is little recreation in a game of chess1 for instance1 in the case of a man employed in a counting-room all day4 ,his exercise should be taken out of doors1 and be such as to free the mind from the exactions of business4 ,the wealthy idler will find health in industry of some kind4 ,horseback riding is beneficial for those engaged in sedentary occupations1 such as bookkeeping1 office-work1 etc4 ,walking is the best kind of exercise of all1 and the most easily obtainable4 ,bicycle riding1 too1 is very good2 so are all open-air games when not indulged in to excess4 ,dancing is an agreeable and healthy recreation for those engaged in sedentary pursuits4 ,indeed1 it is considered second to none4 ,one of the worse cases of consumption has been known to have been cured by dancing1 practised daily for many months4 ,horseback riding is also very good for consumptives4 ,swimming is one of the best kinds of exercise4 ,all but babies have too little sleep4 ,everybody ought to get at least eight hours' sleep in a day4 ,insanity often results from want of sleep4 ,always sleep on the right side1 never on the back4 ,always breathe through the nose when asleep or awake4 ,never have a fire in your sleeping-room1 unless you are an invalid4 ,the need of cleanliness1 pure air1 pure water1 sunshine and a cheerful disposition1 etc41 are too well known to need insisting upon here4 ,these are necessary for the preservation of health1 and without health there can be no real happiness4 99 99 99 99 99 ,the ,art of ,ventriloquism4 ,illustration ,this great book was written by the celebrated ,frederic ,maccabe1 one of the most famous of the world's ventriloquists4 ,mr4 ,maccabe here clearly shows that ventriloquism is not a natural gift1 but that by training and practice it may be acquired by any one1 and it is certainly an accomplishment well worth cultivating1 for nothing will so amuse and mystify a social gathering as the feats of the ventriloquist4 ,he appears to be a man of a dozen voices4 ,in his natural tone of voice he asks a question1 and the answer appears to come from the depths of the chimney in the weak accents of a little child4 ,again1 we hear the voice of an old man appearing to proceed from the roof of the building1 the distant barking of a dog1 etc41 etc4 ,these wonderful imitations are performed without the slightest movement of the lips1 greatly to the astonishment of the audience4 ,would you not like to acquire this amusing and mystifying accomplishment8 ,you can do so easily and readily by studying the directions contained in this book1 which is the best and most complete instructor in the art of ventriloquism ever published4 ,it is a book of #fd large1 double-column pages1 bound in attractive colored paper covers1 and will be sent by mail post-paid upon receipt of only ,ten ,cents4 ,,keystone ,,book ,,co41 ,philadelphia1 ,pa4 ,how to ,spoil the ,boy4 ,eight ,every-,day ,rules4 ,if you want your gray hairs dishonored by a spoiled and ruined son1 adopt the following directions3 #a4 ,let him have plenty of spending money4 #b4 ,permit him to choose his own companions without restraint or direction4 #c4 ,give him a latch key1 and allow him to return home late in the evenings4 #d4 ,make no inquiries as to where and with whom he spends ,,his ,,leisure ,,moments4 #e4 ,give him to understand that manners make a good substitute for morality4 #f4 ,teach him to expect pay for every act of helpfulness to others4 #g4 ,allow him to occupy a seat in church with the boys rather than the pew with his parents4 #h4 ,permit him to regard the ,sunday school unsuitable for a boy on the verge of young manhood4 99 99 99 99 99 ,multum in ,parvo ,library4 ,no4 #a4 ,book of ,short ,stories and ,tid ,bits4 ,no4 #b4 ,how to ,become a ,lightning ,calculator4 ,this book teaches you how to add1 subtract1 divide and multiply instantaneously1 and will prove to be worth many dollars to you4 ,no4 #c4 ,art of ,love ,making and ,guide to ,etiquette4 ,this book is 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