,transcriber's ,note3 ,text enclosed by underscores is in italics 7italics74 ,additional ,transcriber's ,notes are at the end4 99 99 99 99 99 ,multum in ,parvo ,library4 ,vol4 ,i4 ,,march1 #ahid4 ,published ,monthly4 ,no4 #c4 ,,art ,,of ,,love-,,making4 ,smallest ,magazine in the ,world4 ,subscription price1 #ej cts4 per year4 ,single copies1 #e cents each4 ,,published ,,by ,a4 ,b4 ,,courtney1 #fga ,tremont ,street1 ,boston4 ,entered at ,post-,office as second-class matter4 ,,symptoms ,,of ,,love4 ,many young people1 particularly of the male kind1 imagine themselves in love when in truth they are not4 ,their supposed passion is but a fancy of the moment4 ,an ardent young man is introduced to a pretty or interesting girl1 and after a quarter of an hour's conversation is 7in his own opinion7 over head and ears in love with her4 ,if he is a sensible man he will not betray his weakness1 for should the result prove the correctness of his first impression1 there can be no harm of concealing the sudden passion4 ,if1 on the contrary1 he declares his partiality1 either by words or absurd behavior1 the flirt1 if she be sensible1 will be apt to look upon him with distrust1 or as a silly fellow with little or no stability of character4 ,it is impossible to know that you have a genuine feeling of love until long and intimate relations reveal to you the ways1 the disposition1 and even the inmost thoughts of the heart of your companion4 ,supposing1 then1 that there is no deception on either side--that two lovers have faithfully laid open their most secret feelings1 and mutually understand each other's tastes1 dislikes1 peculiarities and habits4 ,if all this knowledge increases rather than diminishes their friendship1 they may then begin to suspect that they are in love4 ,if all young couples would strictly adhere to this test before thinking of matrimony1 there would be few ill-assorted matches and a great many more happy homes4 ,flattery4 ,this is a powerful weapon in the art of making love4 ,never lived there yet man or woman but what in some way or other could be flattered4 ,the great point is to know in what way to use it4 ,there is a time and a place to use it4 ,a young lady will feel flattered if you get a chance1 young man1 to tell her mother about the good qualities of her daughter2 never fear but the daughter will hear of it1 for women cannot keep a secret4 ,trying your ,lover4 ,young ladies very often exercise a good deal of tact in trying a young man's love4 ,they will act different from what the real feelings of their hearts would be1 simply to try a young man's pluck1 if ,i must so call it4 ,young men1 don't weary in well doing1 you know that 8faint heart never won fair lady40 ,do not put too much stress upon any little remark a young lady may make1 for she often means directly the reverse1 especially if she is very young4 ,how to be a ,favorite with the ,opposite ,sex4 ,it will be observed that when a young man first finds himself in the company of the fair sex he is seldom free from a degree of bashfulness1 which renders him peculiarly awkward1 and he scarcely knows what he is doing or saying1 and ,i have known many such to commit errors that were truly laughable4 ,gentlemen will1 on every suitable occasion1 offer civilities to ladies of their acquaintance1 especially to those for whom they may have a particular attachment4 ,a gentleman meeting a lady is struck with her appearance1 and wishes to become better acquainted4 ,now1 before making any advances1 you should find out from some friend whether she is engaged1 or if any gentleman is paying particular attention to her--this might save you much future trouble4 ,finding she is not thus circumstanced1 you call her by name1 and say1 8,would it be agreeable to you for us to cultivate a more intimate acquaintance80 ,you need not say it in a tone as serious as if you were going to a funeral2 but in a light1 easy1 peaceful way1 as though half in fun4 ,you must not feel disappointed if she tells you such words as1 8,well1 we will see about it10 or 8,some other time we will talk it over40 ,something in this style will not be out of place1 for she may not be expecting anything of the kind and does not wish to give too prompt an answer4 ,if on any certain occasion you ask a lady for her company1 and she should say that she is engaged1 do not think anything strange of it1 for such may be the case2 and you must never let a lady see that you feel disappointed at any time about such matters4 ,gentlemen too often make themselves fools about ladies or a certain lady1 and the consequence is the ladies have their own fun laughing at them4 ,never make yourself a fool for any lady1 for it won't pay4 ,it is too often the case that young men amuse themselves by playing with the feelings of young ladies4 ,they visit them often1 they walk with them1 pay them divers attentions1 and after giving them an idea that they are attached to them1 they either leave them1 or1 what is worse1 never come to an explanation of their sentiments4 ,this is nothing less than acting the scoundrel2 it is truly dastardly--infamous4 ,this has been the cause of many a young and warm-hearted girl pining away by inches1 to fill a premature grave4 ,young ladies should never thus allow themselves to be trifled with4 ,when a gentleman pays you attentions for a length of time without giving you to understand what he wants--make him come to the point1 do not be backward1 or it may be your ruin4 ,very often you can bring a young man to the point by getting a little careless when he comes to see you4 ,you must appear to be more interested in something else4 ,this will make him feel very uneasy1 ,i can assure you1 if he loves you any1 and if he don't love you he has no right to be acting so1 for this simple fact may keep some other young man from courting who would make a better husband4 ,this is common sense1 and you should bear it in mind4 ,if this does not bring him to the point1 you can take your chance1 and tell him that a proper respect for yourself compels you to ask him his object in visiting you4 ,tell him that your friends and his are talking about it1 and that it is time you had an understanding4 ,never marry unless you love1 and are loved in return2 for without love no happiness1 and love that comes not before marriage comes not in a lifetime4 ,it is not right to give an immediate answer when your hand is solicited in marriage4 ,you should tell the gentleman that you had not been expecting a proposition of the kind1 and wish a little time to study the matter over1 and that you will give him an answer by some stated time1 which you can mention4 ,this will make the affair more interesting to all parties4 ,in the meantime ask your parents their opinion on the subject4 ,when the appointed time comes be certain you have your answer ready1 or else he might think you were coquetting him4 ,love and ,love-making4 ,a chapter on ,love6 ,can there be one so bold as to essay a description of love in prose8 ,nay1 leave it to the poet1 the painter2 but common prose is surely all unfit for such a theme4 ,so will the young say2 but as we are now old1 we may have the boldness to write of love in humble prose1 and to look at it in that prosaic aspect in which prudence and the cooler blood of experience have brought us to regard it4 ,love6 what is it8 ,it is as the perfume of the flower1 the song of the bird1 the dew of the morning1 the glorious sun of the summer's day--such is love to life4 ,fragile as a gossamer web--a vapor which a breath dispels2 but withal as the sea1 whose soundings cannot be taken for the depth thereof4 ,it is difficult to say at what period of early life the gentle-winged god's influence is most to be guarded against4 ,the young and blooming girl1 just budding into womanhood1 feels his power1 but does not to herself even acknowledge it2 nay1 she scarcely knows his presence4 ,all unused as she is to the arts of ,love1 how can she readily recognize his secret magic8 ,she is introduced to society2 the novelty of her dress1 the display of her charms1 hitherto concealed1 the care her modiste takes with that dress1 for the fuller development of each beauty1 are all new to her4 ,she goes forth to the world all bewilderment2 the child of the school-room to-day1 to-morrow arrays herself to conquer and be conquered4 ,thus far is simple2 thus far is what many mothers consider it their duty to attend to1 and leave the rest to fate4 ,but love is a deep study to those who would read it well and understand it4 ,the delicate-minded maiden blushes1 even when alone1 when first she confesses to herself she loves4 ,the truth has long before been known to those around1 who are more skilled in the art4 ,a particular dress is selected1 which is worn because the loved one says it is becoming2 the hair is arranged in accordance with the expression of his approbation4 ,polkas are only danced with him--songs are sung that he admires--the ball-room is dull1 dark1 empty1 till he arrives--the fair one's eyes1 like ,noah's dove1 wander without finding a resting place--the cheek is pale and anxious4 ,he enters2 for the first time she observes the room is in a blaze of light4 ,they are dancing2 the music is playing2 his eye wanders2 she is still anxious1 pale2 he recognizes her2 the young heart's-blood mantles her fair brow2 her eyes glisten2 her suddenly vermilion-tinted cheek and lip1 as he approaches1 proclaim silently but surely to the observer that ,love has lost another shaft from his full quiver4 ,and at this stage it is well for loving mothers to preserve their school-room power over their beautiful daughters4 ,how much misery might be afterwards spared1 if a mother's advice were now well given and received4 ,a daughter's thoughts should be delicately anticipated4 ,a mother's province is to guard1 by advice1 the future conduct of her child2 and of what avail will such advice be if the parent cannot read the state of that child's heart4 ,a mother should rather live over again her own sweet dream of love1 while listening to the gentle hopes and fears of the daughter whose confidence she has for the wisest motives won1 than by any expression repulse the young heart that is panting1 but half ashamed1 to hide her head in the bosom that nourished her1 and pour forth her soul to almost the only earthly being whose every heartstring will truly vibrate with her own4 ,ashamed6 we said2 why should the young have this feeling with a mother8 ,is not love the sweetest1 gentlest passion we are capable of--the great bond of life8 ,for what is life without love8 ,a desert1 a wilderness4 ,rules for ,courting4 #a4 ,marriage is so personal a business that it will be readily conceded that it concerns the contracting parties more than it does relations and friends4 ,for this reason the gentleman should first make sure that the affections of the young lady would1 in all probability1 centre upon himself1 before he proposes to the parents or guardians4 ,he should do this without entrapping the affections of the lady herself2 which course would1 should the engagement from family reasons fall to the ground1 entail misery upon her4 #b4 ,giving presents is always allowable2 but they should be confined to trifles before an actual engagement between the parties4 ,any perishable article may be given without regard to cost1 but valuable keepsakes should be reserved4 ,letters1 trinkets and valuable presents1 when engagements are broken off1 are always returned by both parties4 #c4 ,in courting a lady with whom you were not previously acquainted1 you should always address her as ,miss ,so-and-so1 or1 in case of much emphasis1 my dear ,miss ,so-and-so4 ,it is not allowable to be too familiar at first1 though if you have known her from childhood1 or have had a long intimacy in the family1 you may use her ,christian name4 ,after engagement1 use it exclusively when you address her4 ,this rule will apply to ladies also1 when addressing their beaux4 #d4 ,love letters are very absurd things when 7as they sometimes are7 made public4 ,the reason is1 they concern only two persons in the world--the writer and the receiver4 ,they should be plain1 fervent1 respectful1 and to the point4 ,never write a letter merely for the sake of writing2 let it always have some aim--a message1 an invitation2 or let it carry news of some kind4 #e4 ,in public1 or in company1 the conduct of lovers should be guarded4 ,avoid all show of extreme preference1 and never pass compliments4 ,neither caress nor chide before others1 nor call each other endearing names1 such as my dear1 honey1 pet1 etc41 etc4 ,this rule will apply to married people as well as to those in the chrysalis state4 #f4 ,if your suit is rejected by the lady you are expected to abandon it2 and1 should you decide to try a second time to win her favor1 do not be too importunate1 and never visit her without special leave4 ,many ardent young lovers lose their sweethearts irretrievably by haunting them1 when perhaps with proper management they might have succeeded4 ,a girl does not always know her own mind until she becomes disgusted4 #g4 ,in quarrels between lovers1 the man must always be at three-quarters of the expense of a reconciliation2 but the woman must have prepared the way from the moment of the quarrel4 ,except in cases of jealousy1 a quarrel generally begins on the side of the woman4 ,she is angry at first with herself1 or because familiarity with you begins to produce ennui1 or because she is too sure of you4 ,in place of giving quarrel for quarrel1 it is sufficient1 in such a case1 to excite her imagination1 to disquiet her heart1 to arouse her suspicions1 and all the little doubts and fears which prevent the current of true love from running smoothly4 #h4 ,caprice is a peculiarity of lovers that is often mistaken for inconstancy1 while they are really very different4 ,the one is a weakness of the heart1 the other a calculation of the mind4 ,caprice is the source of a thousand little disputes1 which in themselves are felicities4 ,it ravishes from love all that is lively1 gracious and gay4 ,it is a pardonable weakness in woman4 #i4 ,in attending balls1 neither the lady or the gentleman should dance with a strange partner1 except by each other's consent4 ,relatives and intimate friends may be taken as partners without this formality4 ,if the gentleman introduces a friend to his sweetheart she may consider this introduction as a tacit consent to her dancing with him2 and vice versa as regards the lady4 #aj4 ,during courtship1 should a gentleman meet one of his male friends at a party1 he is not obliged by etiquette to introduce his intended bride to him4 ,he can do as he pleases about it1 and should always ask the lady's consent previous to such introduction4 ,the same rule will apply to the lady1 though girls are generally proud enough to introduce their lovers1 if they think much of them4 #aa4 ,a man should never attempt to take liberties with his sweetheart during courtship--not even after the engagement4 ,such conduct is mean1 and a sign of low breeding4 ,good and virtuous girls1 though they are pained and displeased1 do not always resent such treatment4 ,others of a more energetic and fiery temperament are not afraid to show their displeasure4 ,every young lady should do so4 #ab4 ,where a young lady is shrewish and overbearing towards her lover it will not answer for him to yield too far to her caprices1 or she may despise him as pusillanimous4 ,some girls find fault and quarrel just for the pleasure of a reconciliation4 ,in such a case you are justified in opposing her to a certain extent1 but be careful and not go too far1 or she may 8fly off the handle0 in a pet1 and make it difficult for you to regain her favor4 #ac4 ,a young man should never pay particular attention to a girl he does not think of marrying4 ,male coquettes are humbugs1 and the ladies should never tolerate them4 ,if a girl suspects the sincerity of her lover1 she should show indifference to him by 8being particularly engaged0 when he calls4 ,if he is sincere in his attachment he will be all the more anxious for an interview4 ,treat him with polite indifference1 and if he is really in love he will think it about time to come to an understanding with you4 #ad4 ,to sum up3 you should never begin a courtship until you are old enough to marry--until you have the means1 or a fair prospect of them1 to support a wife--nor until you meet with a girl whose tastes1 peculiarities1 morals and habits of thinking you admire1 and you are perfectly sure that your regard for her is built upon reason1 not upon the caprice of the moment4 ,marriage4 ,to be happy in the married state is one of the most important things that can engage the attention of both sexes the world over4 ,what a lamentable fact it is that there are so many matches made that turn out to be the lifetime misery of both parties6 ,this can be avoided or prevented more by persons knowing what kind of a partner would suit them1 before getting married4 ,to be happy in wedlock persons must be properly mated4 ,every one should know what sort of a person they want for a partner4 ,for instance3 a gentleman who is fond of life and amusement1 and wants to enjoy everything as much as possible1 never should think of marrying a lady who feels the happiest when she is quietly sitting by her fireplace at home1 reading some book of science1 or fretting about the domestic affairs not being carried on to suit her4 ,what sort of a match would this make8 ,neither should a lady with bright auburn hair1 and vigorous1 lively constitution1 unite her destiny with a light-haired1 pale1 sickly1 thin-looking man that prefers to take the world easy in all things4 ,such a couple can never get along happily4 ,i will here give some directions by which the disposition of every one1 male or female1 may be told2 and as every one knows what sort of a partner they want1 there need not be any more trouble in matrimonial affairs after this4 ,persons with red hair are generally the most affectionate1 if they marry one who does not neglect them in the little attentions due from the one to the other in married life4 ,usually soft1 languid eyes are evidence of voluptuous dispositions4 ,in females1 they are thought a great beauty1 and indicate an amiable1 heartfelt affection4 ,in men1 they show but too well an effeminate disposition1 and very often they indicate a want of fidelity4 ,a man should never marry a woman older than himself1 it matters not what may be the other considerations2 and the woman who marries a man younger than she is must not feel disappointed if he does not prove true to her4 ,a person with a sharp ridge on the top of the nose is greatly endowed with the faculty of self-defence4 ,a good trait in man1 but if in woman1 take care for quarrels when you want your shirt buttons sewed on4 ,look out for persons who have what is called 8hook-billed noses10 for1 if such be your partner1 their rights will certainly be taken care of1 for they will do it themselves4 ,a nose that is thick and broad about midway and rather short1 indicates habits of economy--a good thing to observe in a female4 ,those having very inquisitive dispositions can be told by the horizontal length of the nose from the lip forwards4 ,a person with this sign large is very inquisitive1 asks a great many questions1 and takes means to find out the secrets of others4 ,those who can keep a secret may be told by the great breadth or expansion of the nostrils4 ,a person who is suspicious1 and will keep a close watch over everything around them1 has a long nose from the root downwards1 at a right angle with the horizontal length1 before spoken of4 ,the action of love on the chin is also frequently shown in the motion and position of the head1 a person with congeniality of feelings and a desire to be loved always throws the chin a little forward1 with eyes that have an upward look1 as if looking at something on the side of the wall1 or in the sky4 ,this is their habit1 as many call it4 ,a person capable of violent and ardent love for another generally throws their chin a little sidewise4 ,we thus see the signs of the right eyebrow1 at the inner extremity4 ,the upturning of the hairs of the inner extremity of the left eyebrow indicates one who will respect their companion in a high degree4 ,the muscular fibres passing from the top of the forehead to the middle of the eyebrow1 causing an elevation of the brow1 and the horizontal wrinkles on each side1 indicate an enthusiastic person1 and one full of hope2 the first being indicated on the left side1 and hope on the right4 ,these are both excellent traits4 ,a jealous person may be known by an oblique fulness below the under lip1 and has a rather pouting appearance4 ,a lady who will be apt 8to wear the trousers0 can be told by a small muscle1 passing from the top of the nose to the skin of the forehead between the eyebrows1 raising short transverse wrinkles over the root of the nose4 ,the same sign in a gentleman1 too full1 shows that he would be rather a master than a husband4 ,a lady whose front teeth are long and well shaped is generally very affectionate4 ,the same in man shows a kind disposition4 ,a fulness of the under lip1 in either male or female1 extending from the angle of the mouth obliquely1 and occupying the concavity between the lip and chin1 shows a bitterness of temper which no reasonable mind could tolerate4 ,we think that any person1 who has the ordinary powers of observation about them1 can form an opinion from what has been here given1 so that they need never be mistaken in the disposition of the one who is to be their bosom companion for life1 8for happiness or for woe1 through life they must go40 99 99 99 99 99 ,transcriber's ,notes3 ,punctuation has been made consistent4 ,the following change was made3 p4 #d3 ,missing letters were assumed to be wo 7it won't pay47