,,m51 ,,wom51 ,,& ,,god  ,a ,,discussion
 ,,( ,,sex ,,que/ions ,,f ,,! ,,*ri/ian 
,,po9t ,,( ,,view      ,,by ,,! ,,rev4  
,a4 ,,h]b]t ,,gray1 ,d4 ,d4  ,,au?or ,,(
 ,,! ,,*ri/ian ,,adv5ture1 ,,z ,,tommy  
,,sees ,,u1 ,,etc4      ,,to ,,my ,,wife
  ,,:o ,,= ,,tw5ty-,,five ,,ye>s ,,has  
,,be5 ,,my ,,*ief ,,tea*] ,,& ,,has     
,,int]pret$ ,,life ,,& ,,god ,,to ,,me  
,,?r\gh ,,! ,,cont5ts ,,( ,,! ,,daily   
,,r\nd      ,,preface  ,?is book has be5
 writt5 at ! reque/ ( ! ,/ud5t ,*ri/ian 
,movem5t1 & is address$ 9 ! fir/ place  
to m5 & wom5 ( ! /ud5t age4 ,i h        
und]tak5 ! task ) great gladness because
 my long & happy contact ) m5 & wom5    
?r\gh ! ,/ud5t ,movem5t has taught me h[
 great is ! ne$ = a full] und]/&+ ( !   
problems ( sex1 & h[ possible x is t m5 
& wom5 %\ld f9d help ?r\gh ! timely     
sugge/ion ( "r & :olesome ?\ghts4  ,my  
bro!r1 ,dr4 ,*>les ,gray ( ,london1 has 
contribut$ a v valuable app5dix deal+ ) 
c]ta9 facts 9 a way :i* is only possible
 to a m$ical man1 & ,i am v greatly     

indebt$ to him = ?us enri*+ ?is volume4 
,x w be app>5t to all :o read x t ,i    
also owe a great deal to _m :o h %>$ )  
me _! k & exp]i5ce4 ,9 p>ticul> ,i owe  
mu* gratitude to a numb] ( g5]\s-he>t$  
wom5 :o h enabl$ me to write ! *apt]s   
:i* are m especially address$ to _! sex4
  ,i h delib]ately omitt$ f ^! pages any
 ref]5ce to disease4 ,i d t n because ,i
 am n impress$ by ! t]rible p5alties )  
:i* nature visits c]ta9 s9s1 b because  
,i d n believe 9 ! p[] ( fe> to deliv]  
u4 ,?\gh !re 7 no su* ?+ z v5]eal       
disease1 immorality w\ld /ill be a way (
 dea?1 & morality w\ld /ill be ! way (  
life & joy4 ,till we p]ceive t we are n 
on ! pa? ( progress4  ,books ( ?is sort 
h g5]ally be5 address$ specially ei!r to
 m5 or to wom54 ,i write to bo? alike   
because ,i am q sure t until m5 & wom5  
und]/& & help ea* o!r1 !re is go+ to be 
no happy solution to ! problems ( sex4  
,:5 !y d s le>n to co-op]ate ,i believe 
we %all z a race f9d our way out into t 
l>g] & happi] life :i* c only be ours :5

 we h accept$ ! facts ( sex & le>nt to  
use !m to ! enri*m5t ( human life & !   
glory ( ,god4  ,a4 ,,h]b]t ,,gray4      
,glasg[1 #aibb4      ,,cont5ts          
,,preface  ,,introduction  ,i4    ,,kn[+
 ,,! ,,facts  ,,ii4   ,,comrade%ip      
,,iii4  ,,love  ,,iv4   ,,fall+ ,,9     
,,love ,,& ,,gett+ ,,engag$  ,v4        
,,our ,,moral ,,/&>ds  ,,vi4   ,a       
,,man',s ,,/ruggle  ,,vii4              
,,pro/itution--,a ,,*apt] ,,= ,,m5      
,,viii4 ,a ,,girl',s ,,e>ly ,,days      
,,ix4   ,,involunt>y ,,celibacy  ,x4    
,,! ,,art ,,( ,,be+ ,,m>ri$  ,,xi4      
,,unhappy ,,m>riages  ,,xii4  ,,!       
,,influ5ce ,,( ,,social ,,conditions    
,,xiii4 ,,=gett+ ,,! ,,?+s ,,:i* ,,are  
,,beh9d  ,,app5dix--,,"s ,,( ,,!        
,,physiological ,,facts4 ,,by ,a4       
,,*>les ,e4 ,,gray1 ,m4,d4              
,,introduction  ,9 ! foll[+ pages ,i    
propose to write simply & pla9ly ab\t ! 
social1 p]sonal1 & bodily relations ( m5
 & wom51 & ab\t ! ways 9 :i* _! common  
life may atta9 to happ9ess1 h>mony1 &   

effici5cy4  ,i %all deal ) matt]s (t5   
h&l$ only ) mu* diffid5ce1 & ?\ght ( )  
uncom=table res]ve4 ,& ,i address myself
 to m5 & wom5 alike4  ,i d x all on !   
basis ( "o assumption1 namely1 t a ,god 
( love 9 design+ our human nature _c h  
put into x any?+ :i* is incapable ( a   
pure & happy ex]cise2 & 9 p>ticul> t 9  
mak+ ! sex int]e/ s c5tral1 p]man5t1 &  
p[]ful 9 human be+s ,he mu/ h _h "s     
great & beautiful purpose4 ,i />t1 9    
fact1 ) ! fai? t ! sexual elem5ts 9 our 
humanity1 once rightly und]/ood & f9ely 
h&l$1 make = ! enri*m5t ( human life1 = 
! increase ( our heal? & effici5cy1 & ! 
height5+ ( our joy4 ,i believe t no?+ is
 m necess>y = ! _w to-day ?an t we %\ld 
trace out ! ways 9 :i* ?is trem5d\s life
 =ce t is implant$ 9 u all may be us$ to
 =w>d ! high] aims ( our common life1 & 
to help ! race on its upw>d m>*4 ,& yet 
ev5 z ,i write ! ^w sexual ,i _c b      
rememb] t ! m]e ^w w = _m good p produce
 a s5sation ( di/a/e4 ,p>tly because !y 
h a s9c]e passion = purity1 & p>tly     

because ?is :ole subject has be5 defil$ 
= !m by ! excesses & indec5cies (       
mank9d1 !y d\bt :e!r x c be "r or useful
 to ?9k ab\t x at all4 ,!y reg>d ! facts
 ( sex ) a mixture ( fe>1 p]plexity1 &  
%ame1 & take !mselves to task if /ill "s
 curiosity ab\t !m l+]s 9 _! m9ds4      
,!re=e be=e ,i g any fur!r ,i w\ld l to 
ask su* p to realize t !y are d5y+ my   
initial assumption4 ,!y h n yet come to 
believe t !re is any div9e & holy       
purpose en%r9$ 9 ! sexual side ( life1  
al?\gh ,god is responsible = its place 9
 our humanity2 & ,i w\ld beg !m =?) to  
?9k ?is matt] out4  ,sex is no accid5t 9
 our humanity4 ,! function ( ! sexual   
elem5ts 9 our physical frame is s c5tral
 t unless !y be truly manag$ heal? &    
/r5g? are impossible4 ,_! relation is no
 less vital to our m5tal & ae/hetic     
life1 & !y appe> to control almo/       
absolutely our n]v\s /ability4 ,no man  
or woman atta9s to fullness & h>mony (  
life if ! sexual nature be ei!r neglect$
 or mismanag$4 ,no society is /rong &   

happy unless ?is "p ( life is truly     
adju/$4 ,x may ev5 be said t ! evils t  
come ?r\gh ! mismanagem5t ( sex         
relations h beat5 e civilization up to !
 pres5t4 ,& no d\bt x is natural en\gh  
to %udd] ov] ! abom9ations ( pro/itution
 & sex vice 9 g5]al1 & s to turn our    
m9ds away f ! :ole matt]4 ,b = all t our
 emotional en]gies w\ld be bett] employ$
 9 try+ to und]/& ?is titanic =ce1 & 9  
le>n+ h[ x may be utiliz$ = our upw>d   
progress4 ,m]e prohibitions h s utt]ly &
 entirely fail$ u t we ought n[ to      
realize t !re is no hope 9 !m alone4    
,:at we ne$ is a positive con/ructive   
ideal = ?is "p ( life :i* w indicate !  
real value ( ! sexual =ces 9 u1 & n     
leave "y m5 & wom5 p>tly p]plex$1 p>tly 
a%am$1 & p>tly annoy$ because !y are z !
 ,creator made !m4  ,& s ,i repeat we   
mu/ beg9 ) ! assumption t1 ?\gh we h n  
yet spelt x out1 ,god mu/ h _h "s great 
purpose ( love :5 ,he creat$ m5 & wom5 )
 a clamant sex in/9ct at ! c5t] ( _!    
p]sonalities4  ,hebrew in/9ct decl>$ t  

,god saw ev]y?+ t ,he _h made1 & behold 
x 0 v good4 ,*ri/ian in/9ct mu/ repeat !
 v]dict ) va/ly increas$ conviction1 =  
our humanity is su* t ! ,son ( ,god c\ld
 we> x4 ,he 0 n a%am$ to call u bre?r51 
& to be tempt$ l z we are4 ,to sugge/ t 
9 passion & 9 its ex]cise at ! bidd+ (  
love !re ne$ be any?+ t is n holy1 is to
 arraign ! ,creator4 ,sex love abus$ &  
misund]/ood has inde$ /rewn ! _w )      
trag$ies & disease4 ,b sex love is go+  
to rema94 ,n until we h le>nt to make x 
an in/rum5t = ! p]fection ( life & !    
height5+ ( vitality c we hope to rea* ! 
life :i* ! love ( ,god design$ = u2 & to
 t we %all n atta9 until we h d>$ to    
acquire k & ?r\gh k to atta9 to wisdom4 
,! ideal :i* /ill l+]s 9 _m m9ds1 ?\gh x
 is seldom op5ly confess$1 is t boys &  
girls1 "y m5 & wom51 %\ld be kept 9     
complete ignorance ( ! tru? ab\t _!     
sexual natures until !y m>ry1 & t !n !y 
%\ld be left to le>n all t !y ne$ to "k 
f ,"m ,nature direct4 ,t at lea/ w\ld   
seem to be a fair inf]5ce f ! fact ( !  

conspiracy ( sil5ce 9 :i* n9ety p] c5t (
 p>5ts h engag$ t[>ds ! be+s !y love    
be/4  ,un=tunately 9 ord] to c>ry out ! 
policy ?us impli$ x w\ld be necess>y to 
keep *ildr5 f associat+ ) o!r *ildr51 to
 =bid !m to read ! ,bible1 ! great      
classics ( lit]ature1 & ! daily         
pap]s--to keep !m f ! !atre1 & f ! /udy 
( nature--9 fact to br+ !m up 9 a _w :i*
 does n exi/4 ,= 9 all ! ways ,i h      
sugge/$ d boys & girls n[ collect g>bl$1
 half-true1 & di/ort$ notions ab\t      
sexual life4 ,& ev5 if x 7 possible to  
c>ry out ! policy x w\ld /ill n be      
desirable4 ,m>riage is n ! simple & easy
 ?+ :i* ! policy w\ld imply4 ,"m ,nature
 does n tea* "y c\ples all t !y ne$ to  
"k4 ,(t5 !y make s]i\s mi/akes 9 ! fir/ 
few days4 ,(t5 !y mi%&le & spoil !      
beautiful relation%ip on :i* !y h ent]$ 
to _! own disgu/ & disappo9tm5t4        
,unc\nt$ c\ples to-day h reason = !     
bitt]ness ) :i* !y compla9 t nobody ev] 
taught or help$ !m4 ,9 fact ! policy (  
sil5ce is z cruel z its assumptions are 

untrue4 ,ignorance is an impossibility =
 ! "y4 ,our *oice lies betwe5 g>bl$1    
di/ort$1 & defil$ k & a k t %all be     
clean1 innoc5t1 & helpful4 ,x has (t5   
happ5$ t m5 & wom5 br\ght up on ! policy
 ( sil5ce h fir/ le>nt ! facts ab\t life
 ?r\gh "s contact ) vice or s91 & ^? :o 
"k :at horrible suff]+s sudd5 discov]ies
 ( t sort may mean = s5sitive natures _c
 possibly h any d\bts rema9+ on ?is     
po9t4 ,!re are few m cruel ?+s possible 
?an to br+ a girl up 9 ! ignorance :i*  
is mi/ak5 = innoc5ce & !n to all[ h] to 
g out into ! _w to le>n ! tru? by *ance1
 or ?r\gh "s unclean m9d4  ,t is :y ,i  
gladly address myself to ! task ( ?is   
book1 9 :i* at lea/ "s ( ! tru? is told4
  ,( c\rse ! real issue t /&s 9 !       
backgr\nd "h is ! "o :i* conc]ns !      
nature ( true spirituality4 ,we are all 
agre$ t ! ess5tial greatness ( man lies 
9 ! fact t 9 him _s may rule ev]y?+     
else4 ,& until _s does ?us rule he has n
 rea*$ 8 true life1 ,b ! "q ( ! place ( 
! body 9 ! full life ( man /ill rema9s  

to be fac$ & ?\ght out4  ,! h]mits ( !  
des]t assum$ t ! way ( true life lay 9 !
 repression ( all bodily desire & z mu* 
negation ( ! body z is consi/5t ) m]e   
exi/5ce4 ,b 9 fact !y (t5 succe$$ 9 mak+
 life disgu/+1 & g5]ally 9 mak+ x       
useless4 ,x may be d\bt$ :e!r !y        
contribut$ any?+ to ! real problem (    
civilization4 ,yet _! mi/ake is /ill    
repeat$ 9 "p by _m good p4 ,_m /ill ?9k 
t ! way ( ! high] life consi/s 9 =gett+ 
! body z mu* z possible 9 ord] t ! s\l  
may live 9 fre$om4 ,!y admit ! body's   
ne$s ) reluctance1 & treat x z some?+ ) 
no ess5tial relation to _! spiritual    
activities4 ,(t5 !y willfully neglect ! 
duty ( heal?4 ,/ill m (t5 !y believe !y 
ought to reg>d ) disapproval ! clamant  
desires & crav+s ( our bodily natures4  
,b 9 s do+ !y miss ! real significance (
 ! ,inc>nation4 ,our life "h is an      
embodi$ life1 & x _c be f9e unless !    
body is f9ely temp]$4 ,t body is design$
 z ! in/rum5t ?r\gh :i* ! _s may f9d    
expression4 ,! fir/ ess5tial no d\bt is 

to submit x to discipl9e & s r$uce x to 
! place ( a s]vant4 ,at all co/s x mu/  
be br\ght "u control4 ,x mu/ be         
und]/ood1 & kept 9 good heal?4 ,& if ^! 
?+s be neglect$ ! life ( ! _s is hamp]$ 
& depress$4 ,b /ill _s mu/ express      
itself ?r\gh body1 & all ! weal? ( p[]s 
) :i* body is end[$ has significance &  
wor?4  ,= ?is reason ! attempt to keep  
spiritual & bodily activities sep>ate   
always rev5ges itself ^u its au?ors4 ,on
 ! "o h& x leads to an impov]i%m5t ( !  
spiritual life1 = on ^! t]ms ! _s is    
left ) no f9e in/rum5t ?r\gh :i* to     
express itself 9 ! real _w4 ,& on ! o!r 
h&1 bodily activities divorc$ f !       
control ( ! _s t5d to become m]e animal 
?+s & s to produce disgu/ & deg5]ation4 
,b inde$ ! body _c )\t disa/] be simply 
ignor$4 ,! attempt m]ely to repress its 
manifold urg5cies leads to a /ate 9 :i* 
^! =ces seek out = !mselves abnormal    
*annels ( activity1 s de/roy+ ! h>mony &
 balance ( life4 ,! ess5tial glory (    
human be+s lies 9 ! fact t 9 !m body &  

_s may be s w$d$ t _! activities are    
wov5 into "o h>moni\s :ole4 ,x 0 9 a    
mom5t ( real insight t ,rob]t ,br[n+    
cri$--              ,let u n always say1
            ',spite ( ?is fle% to-day1  
,i /rove1 made head1 ga9$ gr\nd ^u !    
:ole4'            ,z ! bird w+s & s+s1  
,let u cry1 ',all good ?+s ,are ours1   
nor s\l helps fle% m n[1 ?an fle% helps 
s\l4'  ,n[ all ?is is supremely true ( !
 sexual "p ( life4 ,if m]e lu/ is !     
vile/ ?+ on e>?1 pure love is ! mo/     
beautiful4 ,& :5 pure love dom9ates a   
life all ! sexual activities ( ! body   
may be transmut$ & r$eem$ until a       
complete life is atta9$ 9 :i* all !     
primal =ces ( our be+s f9d a happy      
ex]cise "u ! control ( a passion t is at
 once physical1 m5tal1 & spiritual4 ,b !
 body is n 9 ?is process d5i$4 ,x is    
accept$1 und]/ood1 & made to play its   
true "p4 ,if passion be truly h&l$ x    
provides ! driv+ =ce = a life t is      
effective1 c\rage\s1 & joy\s4 ,he is mo/
 truly liv+ a spiritual life :o has     

le>nt to use all ! p[]s ( 8 inc>nate    
nature 9 a life ( /r5u\s activity &     
loyal love4  ,i d n mean ( c\rse t !re  
is no place 9 ! highe/ type ( life =    
r5unciation4 ,nor d ,i mean = a mom5t t 
only 9 m>riage c greatness & fullness ( 
life be atta9$4 ,x is h>d to use words  
correctly at a "t :5 special mean+s h   
come to be atta*$ to su* words z        
repression & suppression4 ,:at !        
psy*ologi/s h discov]$ is t unconsci\s1 
or incomplete1 or unaccept$ repression (
 bodily in/9cts leads to a dang]\s      
condition4 ,he :o has n really surr5d]$ 
desire1 b simply tri$ to drive x        
und]gr\nd1 may inde$ reap tr\bles en\gh 
& to sp>e4  ,b x ne$s no psy*ological   
tra9+ to "k t delib]ate1 s9c]e1 &       
c\rage\s r5unciation ( ?is or t bodily  
desire = ! sake ( "s compell+ ideal may 
lead to ! v f9e/ k9d ( life4 ,only 9 ?is
 process ! body is n ignor$4 ,x is tak5 
into acc\nt4 ,nor are its =ces neglect$4
 ,?r\gh ! process te*nically describ$ z 
sublimation1 a way is to be f\nd :]eby  

life =ce re/ra9$ 9 "o direction f9ds o!r
 & mo/ valuable ways ( expression4      
99       99        99       99        99
  ,i write ?is book z "o :o has le>nt to
 ?ank ,god = all ! elem5ts 9 our normal 
humanity1 & ,i s5d x out ) ! pray] 9 my 
he>t t ?r\gh x "s may be help$ to a tru]
 und]/&+ ( !mselves :i* w ease _! way to
 success & joy & to t fullness ( human  
life :i* is ! div9e int5tion = u4       
,,*apt] ,i   ,,kn[+ ,,! ,,facts   ,!    
fir/ ess5tial equipm5t = a "r j\rney    
?r\gh ! c\ntry ( sexual exp]i5ce is t we
 %\ld "k ! tru? ab\t our bodies --^?    
temples ( ! ,holy ,gho/--& %\ld und]/& !
 mean+ ( ! emotions & desires :i*       
connect !mselves ) our physical         
con/itution4  ,fur!r1 because ! problem 
( sex c only be solv$ by ! coop]ation ( 
! sexes work+ toge!r 9 mutual und]/&+ x 
is "r t m5 %\ld "k a good deal ab\t     
wom5's bodies & vice v]sa4 ,su* k almo/ 
always begets sympa?y & a c]ta9         
intellig5t t5d]ness4 ,! lack ( x has (t5
 l$ to unconsci\s cruelties1 to         

misund]/&+s1 & ev5 to s]i\s mi/akes4 ,to
 m5tion "o in/ance only1 h[ c m5 be     
expect$ to treat ! o!r sex ) true       
consid]ation if !y d n "k t once a mon? 
= a p]iod wom5 ought to be sav$ f       
fatigue & /ra98 ,& yet !re are _m adult 
m5 9 t position ( ignorance4  ,b ?\gh ! 
detail$ facts are all clean1 & really   
easy to be und]/ood1 ! mann] 9 :i* !y   
are convey$ into our m9ds is ( vital    
importance4 ,i d n ?9k !y c be fully    
convey$ ?r\gh any pr9t$ page4 ,!y are   
too delicate = su* h&l+4 ,!y are n truly
 convey$ unless beh9d ! m]e words :i*   
express !m !re is a rev]5t s\l t c imp>t
 ! "r tone & emphasis to !m4 ,i w\ld q  
gladly attempt to put !m all d[n "h c\ld
 ,i only be assur$ t my words w\ld only 
be read by m5 or wom5 :5 alone & 9 a    
rev]5t mood4 ,t be+ impossible ,i c only
 beg9 by insi/+ t !y ought to be kn[n4  
,& ?is ,i c also d--,i c assure all "y p
 :o read ^! pages t !re is no?+ :atev] 9
 ! facts ( ! case to be afraid (--no?+ t
 !y _c "k ) p]fectly clean m9ds4 ,!re   

are no t]rible my/]ies 9 ! matt]4 ,!re  
are no horrors 9 normal sex life4 ,!    
tru? ev5 ab\t ! ultimate intimacies (   
body betwe5 m5 & wom5 is t :5 truly     
a*iev$ !y are beautiful1 & holy1 &      
happy4  ,b h[ are "y p to get ! "r k8 ,!
 wor/ possible way 9 :i* to get x is to 
pick x up bit by bit 9 connection ) evil
 /ories1 ! reports ( divorce cases1 & ! 
h9ts ( vice :i* lurk 9 life's %ad[y     
corn]s4 ,yet t has be5 ! mo/ common way 
9 ! pa/4 ,q little boys h pass$ on      
my/]i\s /ories f m\? to m\? defil+ !    
:ole matt]4 ,_m girls h fir/ begun to   
wond] & to ask que/ions :5 !y fir/ he>d 
( an illegitimate *ild4 ,words 9 !      
,bible1 su* z lascivi\sness & s on1 h   
/>t$ m]e s*ool *ildr5 ask+ que/ions to  
:i* probably !y only got di/ort$ answ]s 
f o!r s*ool *ildr54 ,j because _! p>5ts 
did n tell !m any?+1 !y h assum$ t !re  
mu/ be some?+ to be a%am$ ( 9 ! tru?4 ,&
 s n9ety p] c5t ( boys1 & ,i "k n :at   
proportion ( girls1 h ! subject ( sex   
spoil$ = !m ev5 be=e adolesc5ce4 ,sex1  

sexual exp]i5ce1 passion1 & s on are ?+s
 !y ?9k half unclean & yet annoy+ly     
int]e/+4 ,!y are half a%am$1 & yet rema9
 curi\s4 ,"s are half afraid4 ,"s r m   
?an half disgu/$4 ,"s inde$ try to bani%
 ! :ole subject f _! m9ds4 ,?is may seem
 to be a ref9$ ?+ to d2 b1 z we "k ) a  
new def9it5ess s9ce ! psy*ologi/s h     
explor$ ! matt]1 x is really a disa/r\s 
?+ to d4 ,= to adapt ourselves to sex is
 "o ( ! problems t _c be escap$4 ,9 ?is 
_w we _c live ! disembodi$ life4 ,:at we
 may d is to live a clean & happy bodily
 life1 b only if we build our h\se (    
life on k4  ,:]e=e to all "y m5 & wom5  
,i w\ld say--,get to "k ! real tru? f   
someone y c tru/4 ,g to "s old] man or  
woman ) a clean m9d & a l>ge he>t1 &    
le>n ab\t y\rself4 ,( c\rse ! be/ p 9 ! 
_w to g to are y\r own p>5ts2 b if = any
 reason t res\rce is n op5 to y1 g to a 
doctor or a m9i/] or "s s5ior fri5d4 ,x 
is wor? :ile to take a lot ( tr\ble to  
f9d ! "r p]son1 & x is /ill m wor? :ile 
to take tr\ble to avoid ! wrong p]son4  

,f9d someone :o has se5 ! h& ( ,god 9 ! 
facts ( sex & :o c !re=e talk ab\t !m   
)\t emb>rassm5t4 ,& d n let y\rself be  
det]r$ by ! fact t y may h made mi/akes 
already ( :i* y are a%am$4 ,mo/ ( u made
 mi/akes 9 our e>ly ye>s j because ( !  
same ignorance :i* has be5 y\r fate4 ,& 
!re=e we are n %ock$4 ,we are j sorry1 &
 w\ld l to help4 ,x is n true t mi/akes 
inevitably spoil ! future4 ,=giv5ess1   
recov]y1 & new life are possibilities = 
u all4 ,& if y h already made mi/akes   
?r\gh ignorance1 t is b "o reason m :y y
 %\ld "k ! tru? )\t delay4 ,:5 y are    
told ! tru? y w be le>n+ some?+ ab\t    
,god z well z ab\t y\rself1 = ,he made  
y4  ,nor is x only = y\r own sake t y   
ought to "k4 ,if y want to a*ieve       
helpful relations to m5 or wom51 &      
ultimately to a*ieve a "r relation to   
husb& or wife1 y ne$ to "k ! pla9 facts 
ab\t our inc>nate life4 ,m5 & wom5 (t5  
make ! "r way ( life m difficult = ea*  
o!r by m]e ignorance4 ,y ne$ to "k if y 
are to be really k9d4  ,i _c =get t :5  

"y m5 & wom5 ( s5sitive & ref9$ natures 
come to ?is k all at once1 :5 already   
adults1 x may at fir/ create a s5se (   
repulsion4 ,x does n d s = ^? :o h le>nt
 ! facts bit by bit z !y 7 ready = !m4  
,9 t case !y are accept$ easily &       
naturally4 ,b ) ! o!rs x may well be t j
 because !y h clean & delicate m9ds1 !y 
may at fir/ exp]i5ce "s real di/a/e :5  
!y come to und]/& ! creative processes  
?r\gh :i* !y 7 born4 ,b to any su* ,i   
w\ld say t aga9/ t possibility !y may be
 =e>m$1 if !y w b believe t :5 love     
takes two p into its *>ge ! physical    
consequ5ces all come to seem natural &  
"r & sacr$4 ,y ne$ nev] "k any?+ ( ^!   
matt]s at fir/ h& except :5 real love = 
"s man or woman has ma/]$ y1 & !n !     
exp]i5ces to :i* t love w lead y w be   
f\nd to be pure1 & simple1 & happy4 ,if 
y approa* ?is "p ( life ) reluctance or 
9 fe>1 or ) "s mi/ak5 s5se ( %ame1 y may
 spoil x1 & spoil somebody else's life 9
 addition4 ,b if y w believe ?is pla9   
witness1 :i* ?\s&s w\ld unite 9 (f]+ y1 

y may be greatly help$4 ,ultimately y\r 
way to success 9 ?is "p ( life lies 9   
accept+ y\r nature ) its sexual         
elem5ts-- n 9 try+ to be a sexless      
p]son4 ,t is n ! way ( purity4 ,x is !  
way ( folly4 ,!re=e aga9 ,i say--,d n be
 afraid ( ! facts4 ,^? :o h travel$ t   
c\ntry report to y ,!re is no?+ "h to be
 afraid (--at lea/ !re us$ to be no?+4  
,& n[ 9 case ^! pages are read by "s "y 
m>ri$ p]sons :o /ill h be=e !m ! *ance  
to s]ve _! own *ildr5 9 ?is matt]1 may  
,i insi/ t a solemn obligation re/s on  
!m to see t _! *ildr5 le>n ! tru? 9 a   
simple & natural way f ! lips ( _! fa!rs
 & mo!rs8 ,! ideal way 9 ?is connection 
is t *ildr5 %\ld le>n ab\t _! own bodies
 f ! same p :o fir/ tell !m ab\t ,god & 
goodness4 ,:5 t happ5s !re is no dang] t
 !y w slip into an unclean attitude     
t[>ds sex1 = *ildr5 ne>ly always accept 
! ?+s _! p>5ts tell !m z natural & "r   
?+s4  ,p]haps ! fir/ /ep 9 ! way is to  
decide nev] to tell *ildr5 any?+ t is n 
/rictly true4 ,:5 y\r little girls or   

boys ask h[ babies come1 tell !m t !y   
c\ld n und]/&1 b t y w tell !m z soon z 
!y are old en\gh4 ,& !n v e>ly tell !m  
at lea/ t babies come f ! bodies ( _!   
mo!rs4 ,! fir/ wrong turn t ! ?\ghts (  
_m ( u took 9 connection ) sex 0 :5 "s  
old] p]son 0 made emb>rass$ or angry by 
our natural que/ions4 ,we made a note !n
 & !re t !re mu/ be some?+ que] & wrong 
ab\t ! way babies come1 & ! impression  
sank d[n into ! unconsci\s "p ( u to br+
 =? mis*ief = ye>s to come4 ,b if a     
p>5t's own attitude to sex is clean &   
true he or %e w f9d x q possible to tell
 ! pla9 tru? to innoc5t little m9ds4 ,! 
fir/ bit ( k imp>t$1 namely t babies    
come f ! bodies ( _! mo!rs1 w (t5 beget 
a new attitude ( reg>d & *ivalry 9      
*ildr5 t[>ds _! own mo!rs4 ,i c say )   
c]ta9ty t x is v good = a boy to "k t = 
8 sake 8 own "m once w5t ?r\gh bo? pa9 &
 risk4  ,& !n let ! re/ all come        
naturally4 ,x is bett] to tell y\r      
*ildr5 9 almo/ any way ?an n to tell !m 
at all1 b ! be/ way is n to make a      

solemn occasion ( ! tell+1 b to let ! k 
pass f y to !m z incid5ts & occasions   
sugge/4 ,if y h contact ) nature 9      
common ) y\r *ildr5 ! occasions w be _m 
= tell+ !m ab\t fl[] & animal life4 ,&  
?is w naturally lead on to in/ruction   
ab\t human be+s4 ,ev5 if su* contact )  
nature %\ld be impossible1 life 9 any   
place & 9 any guise w assur$ly pres5t y 
) opportunities = y\r tea*+4 ,& 9 any   
case try to get 9 fir/4 ,be=e ! slime ( 
s*oolboy talk or ! follies ( s*oolgirl  
talk h defil$ ! subject tell y\r *ildr5 
ab\t x1 z ab\t some?+ sacr$ &           
beautiful--mu* too sacr$ & beautiful = !
 *att] ( idle h\rs 9 playgr\nds1 etc4 ,y
 w be surpris$1 if y h =gott5 y\r own   
*ildhood1 h[ e>ly x is necess>y to d all
 ?is if y are to get 9 fir/4 ,no g5]al  
rules ab\t ! "r age c be laid d[n4      
,*ildr5 diff] enorm\sly 9 reg>d to !    
ages at :i* !y pass f /age to /age 9 _! 
developm5t4 ,y w ne$ to wat* & to       
und]/&4 ,above all d n let y\r tell+    
take ! =m ( m]e prohibitions4 ,d n let x

 /& relat$ 9 ! fir/ case to w>n+s aga9/ 
s9s4 ,y d n want to associate ! idea (  
s9 9 ! fir/ case ) ?is subject at all4  
,:at y c d is to implant a c]ta9 rev]5ce
 9 a *ild's m9d 9 relation to ! :ole    
matt]1 & if y succe$ 9 t y w h =e>m$ y\r
 *ild aga9/ s94 ,i long to "k t *ildr5  
are le>n+ ab\t sex n 9 association )    
scold+s1 repro(s1 & w>n+s1 b r z "p ( ! 
spl5did tru? ( ,god4 ,x is ! association
 ( ! facts ( sex ) ! s9s ( m5 & wom5 t  
has spoilt ?is "p ( life = mo/ m9ds4 ,( 
c\rse x is only k9d to tell boys & girls
 :]e x is t !y may g wrong--x is        
necess>y to put !m on _! gu>d4 ,b t %\ld
 be a second>y matt]--a m]e addition to 
y\r tea*+4  ,my own exp]i5ce z a m9i/]  
has br\ght to my k sev]al v pa!tic      
in/ances ( h[ "y girls get into v s]i\s 
tr\ble j ?r\gh lack ( ! k _! mo!rs ought
 to h giv5 !m4 ,x seems possible /ill = 
a girl ev5 ( sev5te5 or eighte51 or ev5 
mu* old]1 to be almo/ incr$ibly         
ignorant1 & no words are too /rong to   
describe ! cruelty ( all[+ !m to face   

life 9 t condition4  ,9 any case let y\r
 tea*+ be1 9 g5]al t]ms at lea/1        
complete be=e adolesc5ce4 ,if y wait    
till adolesc5ce has begun1 ! tell+ may  
cause undue excitem5t4 ,if y f9i% y\r   
g5]al tea*+ be=e t /age x w save y\r    
*ild f mu* un:olesome curiosity4  ,& "h1
 ?\gh ! subject mu/ necess>ily be       
di/a/eful to _m1 z x is to myself1 ,i   
mu/ put 9 a ^w ab\t self-abuse4         
,footnote3 ,kn[+ f exp]i5ce t a good _m 
p>5ts d n ev5 "k :at self-abuse means1  
let me simply say t x consi/s 9 su* h&l+
 ( ! g5ital organs z creates emotional &
 physical sexual excitem5t ( a k9d t is 
obvi\sly unnatural4 ,9 rec5t ye>s a l>ge
 numb] ( m5 h giv5 me _! confid5ce1 s t 
,i am n speak+ f he>say :5 ,i /ate t a  
p]c5tage ( m5 :i* probably approximates 
to sev5ty-five are1 at lea/ = a "t1     
victims ( ?is habit4  ,i "k t x is easy 
to exagg]ate ! physical & m5tal evil    
effects ( x4 ,b :at is beyond all "q is 
t x produces bad psy*ic consequ5ces1 &  
does s leave m5 out ( conceit ) !mselves

 t :5 !y realize t !y h become victims  
to ! habit _! m5tal suff]+s are (t5     
pitifully acute4 ,inde$1 x is because my
 pity & sympa?y h be5 s drawn out to _m 
m5 ,i "k t ,i _c =be> to speak on behalf
 ( ^? :o may yet be sav$ f x4 ,! facts  
ab\t x are t ! habit is (t5 begun at an 
almo/ inconceivably e>ly age4 ,x is v   
(t5 begun )\t any s5se t x is wrong1 &  
c]ta9ly )\t any k ( h[ evil x is4 ,&    
once x has be5 begun1 x is horribly h>d 
to ab&on4 ,unc\nt$ good m5 h to confess 
to-day t 9 _! y\ng] days !y nev] did    
a*ieve lib]ation 9 spite ( con/ant      
ef=ts4 ,unc\nt$ m5 h br\ght ab\t 9 ?is  
way a c]ta9 p]v]sion ( _! natures )     
reg>d to _! sexual functions :i* cl\d$  
_! lives = _m ye>s4 ,& yet ! cure = ?is 
situation is v simple & almo/ easy4 ,!  
m5 :o h completely escap$ practically   
all te/ify t !y owe _! immunity to !    
k9dly & timely advice ( "s wise s5ior4  
,! habit is n natural1 & !re=e x is n   
h>d nev] to beg9 x4 ,if x has n be5     
begun 9 boyhood a v little det]m9ation w

 keep an adult man f fall+ into x4 ,&   
?is means t 9 ?is case p>5ts c1 if !y w1
 save ! ris+ g5]ation4 ,p]haps x is     
mo!rs *iefly :o w h to r5d] ?is s]vice j
 because ! habit is begun s v e>ly1 :ile
 boys are /ill 9 v close association )  
_! mo!rs4 ,i may seem to be contradict+ 
:at ,i h j said ab\t m]e w>n+s1 b ,i    
w\ld c]ta9ly say t any sort ( arre/+    
w>n+ is bett] ?an inaction 9 ! matt]4   
,yet ev5 9 ?is matt] any k9d ( h>% w>n+ 
is n ! be/ way4 ,a boy c be taught t !re
 is a c]ta9 sanctity ab\t c]ta9 p>ts ( 8
 body4 ,he c be taught to treat !m      
scrupul\sly & h>dily4 ,he c be giv5     
positive ideas :i* w save him1 ?\gh ,i  
also believe t he ought to be told )    
def9it5ess to avoid ?is p>ticul> sn>e4  
,i "k ( no o!r case 9 :i* a little wise 
love & timely vigilance may h su*       
trem5d\s results 9 sav+ a *ild f future 
suff]+ & mi/ake4 ,does any?+ m ne$ to be
 said to mo!rs :o really love _! sons6  
,i h writt5 ^! ?+s ab\t boys & m5       
because x is 9 t connection t ,i c speak

 f fir/-h& k4 ,b sev]al wom5 doctors h  
told me ( late t !re is a v real ne$ t  
girls also %\ld be help$ 9 view ( !     
simil> dang] :i* lies 9 _! pa?4 ,) !m ! 
habit is no d\bt mu* less common4 ,b x  
is common en\gh1 & has s]i\s en\gh      
consequ5ces1 to con/itute a call to     
p>5ts 9 _! case also4  ,mo/ ( ^? :o read
 ^! pages w !mselves be "y4 ,if !y h    
tr\bl$ to read ! p>agraphs ,i h j writt5
 a numb] ( !m w1 ,i "k1 be mov$ to say  
to !mselves1 ,we w\ld give any?+ if our 
p>5ts _h done ^! ?+s = u4 ,yes6 x is a  
great pity !y did n4 ,b d n be h>d ^u   
y\r p>5ts4 ,!y 7 ! victims ( a wrong    
tradition4 ,! conspiracy ( sil5ce _h 9  
_! day be5 giv5 almo/ religi\s          
sanctions4 ,"s ( !m 7 !mselves emb>rass$
 by ! :ole subject j because no clean   
p]suasions ab\t x 7 curr5t 9 _! y\?4 ,t 
0 _! calamity1 z x has 9 "p be5 y\rs4 ,b
 no su* calamity ne$ ov]take y\r *ildr54
 ,if y c & w cleanse y\r m9ds n[--if y w
 take ?is :ole subject out into !       
cleans+ light ( ,god1 & look at x !re   

till y h se5 ! div9e tru? ab\t sex--if y
 c escape emb>rassm5t & atta9 to        
?ankfulness1 !n y w be able to keep ?is 
:ole matt] clean = y\r *ildr54 ,y\r     
g5]ation has suff]$ mu*4 ,! next ne$ n4 
,& rememb] t :atev] doctors1 tea*]s1 &  
m9i/]s may d = ! nation1 x mu/ be p>5ts 
:o w save u 9 ! long run4  ,y at lea/ c 
get ready4      ,,*apt] ,,ii            
,,comrade%ip   ,! fir/ out/&+ social    
consequ5ce ( sex is ! mutual attraction 
( "y m5 & wom5 9 g5]al4 ,) apologies 9 !
 meantime to ! girls :o h no use = m5 & 
to ! que] m5 :o don't l girls1 ,i       
propose to speak to ! great majority4   
,to _m a heal?y & normal man !re is no?+
 s wond]ful or beautiful 9 all ,god's   
e>? z a woman4 ,& ! conv]se is (t5 true4
 ,! mo/ int]e/+ ?+ ab\t ! _w = _m ( ea* 
sex is t ! o!r sex is 9 x also4  ,^? :o 
%>e ! assumption on :i* ?is book is     
writt5 w agree t an influ5ce s /rong1 s 
pr(\nd1 & s univ]sal mu/ h "s f9e       
significance 9 ! div9e s*eme ( ?+s4 ,x  
is an elem5t 9 humanity :i* mu/ affect !

 :ole ( life4 ,to h&le x rightly mu/ be 
necess>y if life z a :ole is to succe$4 
,& ! fir/ /ep t[>ds a "r h&l+ ( x is to 
accept ! fact ( x gladly & op5ly4 ,!    
conv5tion l+]s t x is a little weak 9 a 
man to admit t he ne$s & craves woman's 
society1 & t = a girl to admit ! conv]se
 is n q mode/4 ,& ?us !re is (t5 a c]ta9
 furtive elem5t 9 ! relations ( ! sexes 
betwe5 fifte5 & tw5ty-five :i* is all ( 
x a great pity4 ,x is "h t ,mrs4 ,grundy
 has done u real injury4 ,! poor old de>
 has be5 s fussy & n]v\s ab\t x all4 ,%e
 has (t5 tri$ to close ! doors ^u free &
 :olesome fell[%ip1 & s has driv5 ! "y  
to f9d out o!r ways ( meet+4 ,b ev5 %e  
has n be5 able to keep ! sexes ap>t4 ,! 
tru? is t ! mutual relations ( m5 & wom5
 9 ! realm ( comrade%ip1 & q ap>t f     
m>riage1 may be s happy & enri*+--s     
exhil>at+ & s brac+--t "o may rev]5tly  
say ! :ole arrangem5t ( hav+ divid$     
mank9d into two su* gr\ps1 is "o ( ! mo/
 spl5did ( ! div9e ?\ghts4 ,= _m a man !
 joy & wor? ( life dep5d l>gely ^u wom54

 ,! ?+s he gets on 8 j\rney f 8 "m1 8   
si/]s1 & 8 girl fri5ds --f 8 wife1 8    
daught]s1 & ! wom5 fri5ds ( lat] days   
are ! gold5 ?+s 9 life4 ,& ,i "k t _m a 
woman w\ld say a correspond+ ?+ ab\t !  
life c>e] ( a woman4 ,t is ,god's       
plan--to make u dep5d5t on "o ano!r = ! 
/imuli1 ! inspirations1 & ! joys :i*    
prev5t life f becom+ drab & monoton\s4  
,9 ! beg9n+ ,god made !m male & female1 
because ,he lov$ !m4 ,he made !m        
glori\sly diff]5t t !y might enjoy &    
help ea* o!r4  ,x is "o ( ! my/]ies (   
hi/ory t = unc\nt$ c5turies man imag9$ t
 he only ne$$ woman 9 h] capacity z a   
wife & pot5tial "m--t = long ages woman 
_h no place 9 society except z wife or  
"m4 ,:y x 0 s long be=e ! _s ( ,god mov$
 wom5 to %att] t conception1 ,i d n     
und]/&4 ,b ) its %att]+ !re appe>$ = a  
"t a t5d5cy to imag9e t m5 & wom5 are 9 
mo/ ?+s practically ! same1 & t !       
diff]5ce ( sex is a v little ?+4 ,_m p  
seem$ incl9$ to believe t a woman is j !
 same sort ( be+ z a man1 except = "o   

special function--t ( mo!rhood--:i* c   
only be ex]cis$ occasionally1 & ne$ n be
 ex]cis$ at all4 ,t ,i am sure 0 a      
mi/ake ) ! possibility ( disa/] 9 x4 ,no
 d\bt !re are m5 ) _m fem99e            
*>act]i/ics1 & wom5 ) _m mascul9e ones4 
,b woman is n only physically diff]5t f 
man4 ,%e is diff]5t m5tally1            
emotionally1 & spiritually4 ,& t is j :y
 we ne$ h] s mu* 9 all life's dep>tm5ts4
  ,we ne$ woman 9 politics1 = in/ance1 j
 because %e is diff]5t f man4 ,if !     
ext5sion ( ! fran*ise to "s millions (  
wom5 _h meant m]ely t ! numb] ( p _h be5
 increas$ :o w\ld ?9k & vote simply z m5
 _h previ\sly ?\ght & vot$1 x w\ld h be5
 no great ev5t4 ,if wom5 memb]s (       
,p>liam5t are go+ to be m]e replicas ( !
 old type ( ,m4 ,p41 !n !y might z well 
save !mselves ! bondage ( ,we/m9/]1 = _!
 pres5ce !re w make no valuable         
diff]5ce4 ,b we d ne$ !m 9 !            
con/itu5cies & 9 ! ,h\se exactly because
 !y br+ new & diff]5t vital =ces to be> 
on ! conduct ( affairs4 ,exp]i5ce is    

already tea*+ u t m5 & wom5 ?9k m truly 
toge!r ?an !y d ap>t4 ,!re is some?+    
ab\t ! sweep & range ( man's ?\ght :i*  
is peculi>ly /imulat+ to woman's m9d1 & 
!re are aspects ( tru? to :i* m5 rema9  
bl9d until wom5 po9t !m out4 ,= ?is     
reason v (t5 mix$ committees act m      
wisely ?an committees ( only "o sex4 ,i 
suspect t ! same ?+ holds 9 relation to 
art1 & ev5 to sci5tific "w4 ,x c]ta9ly  
holds 9 connection ) social "w1 & *ur*  
"w4 ,9 fact 9 all life's dep>tm5ts1 ) a 
few obvi\s exceptions1 m5 & wom5        
supplem5t & /imulate "o ano!r1 & by     
comrade%ip make a bigg] & bett] ?+ (    
life ?an w\ld be possible o!rwise4  ,i  
am n assum+ t a f9e comrade%ip is       
necess>ily an easy ?+ to a*ieve4 ,i %\ld
 be surpris$ if x 71 = ,i "k ( no f9e   
?+s t c be atta9$ easily4 ,comrade%ip   
betwe5 ! sexes is rapidly spoilt by     
sill9ess4 ,x has to be bas$ ^u a        
consid]able am\nt ( re/ra9t4 ,x c be & x
 ought to be jolly1 b x becomes a poor  
?+ at once :5 ei!r man or woman =gets   

dignity4 ,we are /ill at ! exp]im5tal   
/age 9 travel+ ?r\gh ?is new c\ntry t   
has op5$ up to u )9 ! la/ tw5ty ye>s2 & 
if t is a reason = be+ v *>itable ab\t  
mi/akes1 x is also a reason = be+ al]t  
to f9d ! "r pa?s4  ,i am v mu* impress$ 
by ! opportunity t lies be=e /ud5ts z a 
class 9 ?is matt]4 ,9 mo/ ( our         
univ]sities & colleges m5 & wom5 meet 9 
! free/ way1 & !y only & = !mselves c   
discov] h[ ?is new k9d ( life is be/    
conduct$4 ,college rules & regulations  
are n go+ to d x = !m4 ,inde$ ! old]    
g5]ation is n go+ to d x = !m4 ,b if !y 
w f9d out ! "r way & e/abli% = !mselves 
! "r /&>ds & conv5tions1 !y may d an    
imm5se s]vice = ! re/ ( ! nation4 ,& ,i 
believe !y are already 9 l>ge measure   
do+ ?is4 ,my exp]i5ce has on ! :ole made
 me entirely hopeful1 & has deep5$ my   
fai? 9 ! fitness ( m5 & wom5 = fre$om4  
,none ! less & al?\gh ,i belong to !    
old] g5]ation1 ,i propose to (f] "s     
sugge/ions = ?is "p ( life4 ,i _c make  
mu* use ( ! ^w flirt+4 ,x has ne>ly z _m

 diff]5t mean+s z ,bol%evism4 ,by "s p x
 is appli$ to any high-spirit$ & happy  
int]c\rse betwe5 m5 & wom51 9 :i* case x
 signifies only a "r & good ?+4 ,"s p   
mean by x play+ at be+ 9 love1 9 :i*    
case x is a silly & unwor?y occupation  
:i* saps ! real love p[] 9 m5 & wom54   
,o!rs aga9 mean by x ! :ole bundle (    
silly & s5tim5tal mann]s :i* "s m5 & "s 
wom5 assume :5 9 ! pres5ce ( ! o!r sex1 
& 9 t s5se ( ! ^w flirt+ means j exactly
 ! fooli% ?+ t common s5se w\ld decl>e x
 to be4 ,:at ,i am q sure ( is t success
 9 ?is comrade%ip betwe5 ! sexes dep5ds 
^u ! discov]y ( a "r way :i* lies betwe5
 ! coldness :i* is ! negation ( good    
fell[%ip1 & ! undue famili>ity :i* is   
bo? dang]\s & undignifi$4 ,we m5 h 9 !  
pa/ be5 accu/om$ to boa/ t we w g j z f>
 t[>ds famili>ity z wom5 w all[1 & h    
decl>$ t ?is :ole matt] is "o :i* wom5  
mu/ regulate4 ,male op9ion on ! :ole us$
 to reg>d a man z some?+ less ?an a     
sport :o w\ld n take lib]ties :]ev] he  
saw !y w\ld n be res5t$4 ,to use any    

sort ( compulsion 0 inde$ held to be    
ung5tlemanly1 b %ort ( t m5 h recogniz$ 
no compulsion ( honor bidd+ !m refra9 f 
famili>ities4 ,t's ! girl's affair1 !y h
 (t5 said4 ,b ?is is really a flagrant  
case ( ! way 9 :i* we m5 deceive        
ourselves & assume positions t are bo?  
di%one/ & cruel4 ,i call ?is p>ticul> "o
 di%one/ because x is absurd = u to     
pret5d t our expectations & desires h no
 influ5ce on girls1 & t !re=e we h no   
responsibility = ev5ts4 ,( c\rse girls w
 t5d to give :at m5 9 g5]al p]si/ 9     
ask+4 ,!y are j z human z we are4 ,our  
conv5tional assumption t !y are always  
mi/resses ( ! situation--models ( p]fect
 self-ma/]y & und]/&+--is ridicul\s &   
unk9d4 ,x is ! age-long inju/ice :i* m5 
h practic$ t[>ds wom5 to pret5d t !y are
 creatures )\t passion & by nature      
always 9 control ( _! emotions4 ,we "k x
 is n true1 & yet we act on ! pret5ce t 
x is4 ,& ,i call ?is position ( ours    
cruel because !re is no reason :atev] :y
 we %\ld try to lay on wom5 ! :ole burd5

 ( ref9+ & controll+ our mutual         
relations4 ,:y %\ld we n take our %>e ( 
! task8 ,s9ce hi/ory began we h ask$ _m 
?+s ( wom51 & !n kept our real respect =
 ^? :o refus$ !m--a mean & c[>dly       
attitude4 ,wom5 are n angels & x is m]e 
s5tim5tal nons5se to pret5d t !y are4 ,b
 !y c be spl5did companions :5 m5 help  
!m t[>ds ! atta9+ ( t relation%ip4 ,(t5 
we h seem$ to want ( !m only s5tim5tal  
dalliance1 ) ! result t !y (t5 grant x4 
,b _m wom5 w\ld r pass m5 by altoge!r   
?an meet !m 9 t way1 al?\gh mo/ really  
long = "s relation%ip t w call into     
ex]cise ! m5tal1 ae/hetic1 & spiritual  
p[]s ( bo? m5 & wom54 ,inde$ !re is     
gr\nd = ?is *>ge aga9/ bo? m5 & wom51 t 
(t5 9 social int]c\rse ) "o ano!r !y    
susp5d ! ex]cise ( ! f9] p>ts ( _!      
natures4 ,we h all kn[n m5 ( great      
intellectual gifts & wide exp]i5ce :o :5
 ! ladies appe> promptly put on ! g>b ( 
m]e trifl]s4 ,& we h also kn[n wom5 ) v 
real lit]>y1 or arti/ic1 or intellectual
 gifts :o treat m5 prim>ily z be+s to be

 play$ )4 ,& s d _m p miss ! enri*+ joys
 ( companion%ip1 & make social int]c\rse
 petty & we>isome4 ,i believe mo/ wom5  
want to "k :atev] is big & /rong &      
effici5t 9 m5 & n m]ely to f9d out :e!r 
!y are good at bad9age4 ,& ?\gh _m m5   
?9k !y are afraid ( s]i\s & clev] wom51 
!y really 9 _! he>ts want to discov] !  
responsible & s9c]e qualities 9 !       
p]sonalities ( girls & n m]ely ! surface
 ones4  ,god =bid t we %\ld bani% *aff &
 je/ f our common life1 or pret5d to be 
old :ile /ill we are "y6 ,god =bid t we 
%\ld be prim & ,puritan :5 ! sun %9es & 
life calls6 ,!re are no silli] ?+s 9    
life ?an ! m]e affectations (           
intellectuality4 ,m]e solemnity is bo?  
an ugly & a futile ?+1 & no?+ is dull]  
?an a con/ant en=c$ e>ne/ness4 ,i       
rememb] a de> old celibate pr(essor (   
m9e :o1 hav+ met a numb] (              
self-consci\sly intellectual wom51      
became s annoy$ t at la/ :5 ask$ :e!r he
 did n rejoice 9 ! high] education (    
wom5 he broke out ) ! s5t5ce1 ,no6 ,i   

don't l clev] wom5--,i l silly girls4 ,!
 /ory may be apocryphal4 ,! man at lea/ 
0 human en\gh to h said x4 ,all t ,i am 
plead+ = is t m5 & wom5 %\ld cease to   
hide f "o ano!r ! deep] int]e/s &       
conc]ns t really are pres5t 9 _!        
lives--t !y %\ld n m]ely play toge!r b  
%\ld also ?9k toge!r4  ,z to ! detail$  
mann]s & cu/oms :i* %\ld control        
comrade%ip ,i claim no au?ority to speak
 dogmatically1 &1 z ,i h said1 ,i am    
sure ! ris+ g5]ation w h to settle ^!   
?+s = itself4 ,i am at lea/ sure t bo? !
 /ately coldness ( ,lady ,v]e de ,v]e & 
! famili>ity 9 :i* dignity is =gott5 are
 fatal4 ,i confess to ! hope t ! l9k+ ( 
arms & ! slapp+ ( "o ano!r on ! %\ld]   
are n go+ to be *>act]i/ics ( social    
int]c\rse 9 ! future4 ,& z to kiss+ ,i  
confess myself unblu%+ly                
cons]vative--,victorian if y w4 ,n9e    
times out ( t5 x may n be a ?+ wor? mak+
 any fuss ab\t4 ,b x is a mi/ake4       
,p>tly1 to put x bluntly1 because kiss+ 
sometimes ar\ses desires :i* kiss+ _c   

satisfy2 & p>tly because x is1 ,i       
believe1 a f9e in/9ct :i* sugge/s to bo?
 m5 & wom5 t !y %\ld keep _! kisses = ! 
"o p]son :o w or may "s day h love's "r 
to !m4  ,& "h ,i ?9k ,i ought to put d[n
 = ! sake ( girls a fact ( :i* !y are   
(t5 ignorant4 ,:5 y all[ m5 to embrace &
 kiss y--ev5 :5 y all[ !m less]         
famili>ities--y may g y\r way ?9k+ no m 
ab\t x & undi/urb$4 ,! :ole ?+ may n    
really h /irr$ y4 ,b ) m5 x is n s4 ,(t5
 by su* ?+s tumults are rais$ 9 !m :]eby
 ! way ( self-control & *a/ity is made  
cruelly difficult4 ,only "s ( y d x1 & y
 h done x g5]ally 9 ignorance4 ,:5 y    
realize ! tru? y w see t x is           
unk9d--possibly y may ev5 realize t x is
 dang]\s4 ,& yet ,i d n want to ov]/ate 
ev5 ?is po9t4 ,i he>d lately ( a girl   
:o1 hav+ be5 told ! tru?1 became s n]v\s
 t %e 0 afraid to sit )9 five feet ( a  
man & f\nd g5]al social int]c\rse spoilt
 = h]4 ,!re are no dang]s = m51 b on !  
contr>y !re is v great help = m51 9 !   
society ( girls :o w meet !m 9 a        

spontane\s1 natural1 & fri5dly way4 ,x  
is :5 ! girls :o %\ld be _! natural     
companions are f\nd to be prudi% & /iff 
t m5 are all too apt to look = o!r girls
 :o w at lea/ be fri5dly & (t5 mu* m ?an
 fri5dly4 ,all t ,i want girls to "k is 
t !re are dang]s on ! horizon ( ?is "p (
 life1 & to ask !m to use _! wisdom & _!
 common s5se4 ,:at ,i ask ( m5 is t !y  
%\ld cease meanly try+ to avoid         
responsibility 9 ?is connection1 & %\ld 
face _! half ( ! problem4 ,= ! problem  
is wor? solv+4 ,happy1 free1 :olesome   
companion%ip betwe5 m5 & wom5 is a brac+
 & spl5did ?+4 ,we _c possibly solve !  
:ole problem ( human life till we h     
atta9$ to x4  ,& n[ a la/ ^w to ! p to  
:om at ! beg9n+ ,i (f]$ an apology--to !
 exceptional "y p :o take no int]e/ 9 ! 
o!r sex4 ,i d n comm5d y\r attitude4 ,x 
is n wise4 ,if x is 9 y\r case in/9ctive
 & spontane\s y ne$ n worry1 = nature w 
soon cure x4 ,b if y h consci\sly adopt$
 x1 or are delib]ately reta9+ x1 y are  
mak+ a s]i\s mi/ake4 ,y are n sexless   

be+s1 & by adopt+ ?is attitude y are    
repress+ c]ta9 p>ts ( y\r natures :i* w 
"o day make _! pres5ce felt :e!r y l x  
or no1 & possibly 9 unhappy & unnatural 
ways4 ,girl fri5d%ips _c fully & f9ally 
satisfy any girl4 ,companion%ips ) o!r  
m5 are insuffici5t = any man4 ,in/9cts 9
 y\r be+s :i* may n be d5i$ dem& some?+ 
else4  ,if y h decid$ t !re is no?+ wor?
 :ile 9 ! fell[%ips t may exi/ betwe5 m5
 & wom51 surely x is pla9 t y mu/ be    
wrong1 = ! v]dict ( n9e-t5?s ( mank9d is
 aga9/ y4 ,if y h 9 y any positive      
antagonism to ! o!r sex1 t is 9 itself a
 manife/ation ( y\r sexual nature1 & a  
bad "o4  ,!re is a f9e1 breezy1 sunny _w
 full ( beauty1 int]e/1 & deep          
satisfaction = our humanity1 ! doors (  
:i* y are clos+ on y\rselves4 ,if "s p h
 travel$ !re unwisely or h lo/ _! way 9 
x1 t is only a c[>d's reason = /ay+     
outside4 ,?+s may seem to be go+ v well 
) y 9 spite ( y\r attitude :ile y are   
/ill 9 ! e>ly tw5ties--y may say t y are
 gett+ f life all t y want4 ,b z y      

approa* ! ?irties y w infallibly discov]
 y\r mi/ake4 ,nature w !n ass]t h]self4 
,a c]ta9 my/]i\s lonel9ess w ov]take y1 
& life w lose its flavor4 ,9 all mod]n  
life !re is no h>d] problem ?an ! "o :i*
 arises = ^? :o )\t any w ( _! own h to 
face t situation4 ,to c\rt x is m]e     
folly4 ,z a matt] ( fact beh9d y\r      
attitude !re lies conceal$ ! attempt to 
d5y y\r sex1 & t is ! "o impossible ?+  
to d4 ,y may control x1 discipl9e x1 or 
sublimate x2 b y w d no?+ b make tr\ble 
= y\rself till y h accept$ x4 ,if x     
annoys y to f9d t y are n suffici5t 9   
y\rself = y\rself--if 9 p>ticul> y res5t
 ! m]e sugge/ion t ! o!r sex %\ld 9 any 
way be necess>y to y\r complet5ess &    
happ9ess1 y are really qu>rell+ ) !     
e/abli%$ nature ( ?+s4 ,y may d t if y  
l1 b !re is always only "o end to !     
qu>rel4 ,x is we :o get brok51 n !      
et]nal ord]4      ,,*apt] ,,iii   ,,love
   ,! cr[n+ fact ab\t sex is t x makes  
possible ! exp]i5ce ( be+ 9 love4 ,i am 
sure t all possibility ( a "r h&l+ ( sex

 problems dep5ds ^u a true und]/&+ &    
valuation ( love-- t beautiful & imp]i\s
 emotion :i* ma/]s & trans=ms bo? m5 &  
wom51 :i* is closely l9k$ ) ! creative  
in/9ct1 & :i* at a c]ta9 /age 9 its gr[?
 calls into be+ ! :ole gr\p ( tumultu\s 
s5sations & dem&s kn[n z passion t x may
 a*ieve its own fulfillm5t4 ,if we "k ! 
tru? ab\t ?is matt] we %all ) comp>ative
 ease answ] mo/ ( ! que/ions :i* arise 9
 connection ) sex4  ,by :at div9e &     
my/]i\s in/9ct x is t love is awak5$ ,i 
d n "k4 ,a man may "k & appreciate a    
score ( wom51 & yet rema9 9 ! dep?s (   
him ess5tially unmov$2 & !n "s "o woman 
) no consci\s purpose w release "s      
secret spr+ ( life 9 ! dep?s ( 8        
p]sonality1 :]eby %e becomes = him h5ce 
=? ! c5t] ( ! _w4 ,x may happ5 t ?is    
love comes on ! heels ( k & gr[s out (  
fri5d%ip4 ,i believe !y are =tunate     
p]sons to :om ?+s happ5 9 ?is way4 ,b x 
may also be t ! my/]i\s in/9ct w d its  
"w at a fir/ meet+4 ,love at fir/ sight 
may be q incompreh5sible & unreasonable1

 b x is a fact none ! less4 ,"o meet+   
may fix ! de/9y ( a man or a woman1 ev5 
?\gh ! second may n occur = mon?s or ev5
 ye>s4  ,! days t imm$iately foll[ ?is  
exp]i5ce may n be happy days4 ,_m a man 
has to s]ve & wait ere he c awak5 love 9
 h] :o is to him ! "o woman 9 ! _w4 ,_m 
a woman has to wait & wond] & face      
di/ress4 ,!n1 too1 till ! /age ( mutual 
ackn[l$gm5t is rea*$ love makes m5 &    
wom5 awkw>d4 ,!y d unc\?1 crude1 &      
clumsy ?+s4 ,!y get into muddles4 ,!y   
make mi/akes4 ,x w\ld seem t "s delicate
 process ( mutual adju/m5t is (t5       
necess>y be=e two s\ls c really f9d ea* 
o!r1 & :ile ! /umbl+ prelim9>y days la/1
 love is (t5 a torture z well z a       
delight4 ,nor are ! be/ lov]s ! mo/     
successful at fir/4 ,a sup]ficial       
emotion may be easily h&l$1 b a deep "o 
w upset a man & make him /range to      
himself4 ,& s two p w maneuv] & w&] &   
baffle ea* o!r4 ,!y w (t5 be sure & !n  
unc]ta9 by turns1 & w wond] :e!r love   
does n *iefly mean hopeless             

complications4  ,b :5 two s\ls d really 
discov] ea* o!r1 !n at once a new life  
beg9s1 s radiant1 beautiful1 /imulat+1 &
 my/]i\s1 t ev5 ! poets h fail$ to f9d  
suffici5t words = x4 ,9 _! he>ts two    
lov]s always "k t ?is is :at !y 7 made  
=-- t ?is is ! v core & ess5ce ( human  
exi/5ce4 ,i ?9k !y g5]ally "k t !y h be5
 u%]$ into a h\se ( life ( :i* !y are q 
unwor?y1 & t !y take _! fir/ /eps !re9 9
 rev]5ce & 9 awe4  ,let me simply       
enum]ate "s ( ! manife/ consequ5ces (   
?is love4  #a4 ,f ! v fir/ love         
expresses itself z a rea*+ aft]         
intimacy4 ,= _m days two lov]s are busy 
tell+ ea* o!r all ab\t !mselves1 ab\t _!
 pa/ exp]i5ces1 _! hopes & aspirations1 
_! d\bts & fe>s1 _! relations to o!r p1 
& _! v>i\s circum/ances4 ,!y want to "k 
& be kn[n4 ,!y want to %>e ev]y?+4      
,t[>ds m]e fri5ds we d well to practice 
"s res]ve4 ,by talk+ ab\t ourselves we  
may be apt to bore !m4 ,b lov]s want to 
"k ev]y?+1 & are wise if !y h no        
res]ves4  #b4 ,!n1 secondly1 love       

obvi\sly increases ! vitality & s adds  
to ! physical beauty ( bo? m5 & wom54   
,inde$ x increases vigor ( all k9ds1    
produc+ new p[]s ( %e] physical & n]v\s 
endurance4 ,:at w a man :o is truly 9   
love n d = love's sake1 & t )\t ?9k+ (  
fatigue6 ,:at untold ?+s wom5 h         
accompli%$ "u ! spur ( ! same           
inspiration4  #c4 ,?irdly1 x awak5s !   
lat5t idealism ( bo?1 ,x is n by accid5t
 t m5 9 love are f\nd try+ to write     
poetry1 ?\gh x may be a bad accid5t if  
o!r p h to try to read x4 ,( c\rse we   
laugh at ?is nave habit1 because poetry 
seems a ?+ incongru\s ) ! ord9>y prosaic
 man1 ) 8 baggy tr\s]s & clumsy ways4 ,b
 = my "p ,i r incl9e to ?ank ,god t su* 
an impulse %\ld ev] di/urb ! av]age man4
 ,:at c\ld be bett] ?an t at "o /age ( 8
 life at lea/ he %\ld try to rea* ! />s4
 ,& if f ! works ( real poets we 7 to   
bani% all ! love-inspir$ poetry1 h[     
paltry w\ld ! rema9d] seem4  #d4 ,/ill  
fur!r1 love awak5s ! s\l4 ,our spiritual
 capacities %>e 9 ! g5]al /imulus :i* x 

br+s4 ,x is n by *ance t c\rt+ c\ples g 
to *ur*4 ,!y d n g simply to :isp] 9 !  
gall]y1 & if !y d hold h&s dur+ ! s]mon 
,i d n ?9k t ,god is ill pleas$4 ,!y g  
because ! inspiration ( love incl9es !m 
to long aft] ,god4 ,( c\rse x does4 ,all
 love is ( ,god1 & ?is special k9d be>s 
op5ly ^u x ! m>ks ( its div9e orig94 ,& 
:ile on ! "o h& x is true t love leads  
t[>ds religion1 x is equally true t )\t 
a s5se ( ?+s spiritual love _c be its   
p]fect self4 ,p]haps ! commone/ cause ( 
! failure ( love lies 9 "s arre/ (      
spiritual developm5t4 ,= :5 ! s\l is    
asleep1 :at is left ( love is a poor ?+4
  #e4 ,& !n1 fif?ly1 at "s po9t 9 its   
gr[? love summons passion into life4    
,:at has be5 hi!rto an emotion ( ! he>t 
becomes also a tumultu\s activity ( !   
:ole be+1 & love hav+ ma/]$ ! :ole      
inc>nate nature ( ea* 9 turn drives !   
two toge!r 9 t on5ess ( ! fle% :i* is ! 
decree ( ,god4 ,no d\bt x is j "h t !   
compulsions ( civiliz$ society set a    
s]i\s problem = ard5t lov]s4 ,primitive 

m5 probably knew no?+ ( a p]iod (       
engagem5t1 & lov]s w\ld proce$ to become
 :olly w$d$ j z soon z nature laid h]   
compell+ h& ^u !m4 ,b x is our glory t  
we are n simply ! tools ( natural =ces4 
,we belong to ! directorate 9 ?is life1 
& ev5 on ! =ce ( love we c impose times 
& seasons4 ,b :5 ! "r "t does come1 !n  
lov]s :o h already be5 atta9+ to union (
 he>t & m9d express _! passion also 9 ! 
union ( _! bodies1 & ?is wond]ful       
exp]i5ce1 :5 x does s ent] life1 is     
realiz$ z some?+ sacram5tal4 ,x is      
lit]ally & exactly an expression 9 !    
t]ms ( ! body ( some?+ :i* is already a 
spiritual fact4 ,no?+ satisfies real    
love except ?is complete m+l+ ( two     
p]sonalities4 ,x is n satisfi$ )\t      
physical intimacy1 & yet physical       
intimacy alone is n en\gh4 ,t :i* is    
satisfi$ by m]e physical intimacy is n  
love4 ,! full human passion :i* alone   
des]ves t "n calls also = intimacies (  
m9d & _s--= ! int]play ( two            
p]sonalities ?r\gh ! :ole /ret* ( _!    

p[]s4 ,b x _c be too /rongly said t on !
 t]ms ,i h indicat$ ! ultimate bodily   
union ( two lov]s is a beautiful & happy
 ?+4 ,x is felt to be some?+ ) l>ge     
spiritual consequ5ces4 ,9 "s my/]i\s way
 x really does b9d s\ls toge!r4 ,ea*    
kn[s t h5ce=? he or %e is b\nd to ! o!r 
= life1 & a man is usually mov$ by a    
gl[+ s5se ( rev]5t gratitude to ! woman 
:o has ?us trod ) him ! /range pa?s ( t 
new c\ntry4 ,consid]$ ap>t f love1 su*  
an exp]i5ce may seem to be gross1       
because ap>t f love x is gross4 ,b z an 
incid5t 9 ! communion ( two loyal he>ts 
x is realiz$ z a pure & natural ?+4     
,?r\gh x ! fle% is caught up into h>mony
 ) ! _s & is !reby r$eem$4 ,a c]ta9 new 
balance & repose ( be+ is atta9$ :]eby a
 :ole p]sonality w exp]i5ce a wond]ful  
s5se ( lib]ation4 ,footnote3 ,i d n ?9k 
! creative in/9ct (t5 ent]s into        
consci\sness at ?is po9t4 ,x does s ) "s
 wom51 b ) v few m54 ,z a rule ! real   
cont5t ( ! exp]i5ce is j an ard5t desire
 9 ea* = utt] ne>ness to ! o!r4 ,x is ! 

expression ( _! love t !y desire4 ,x is 
ea* o!r t !y love--n z yet any ?ird     
p]son4  #f4 ,& !n1 six?ly1 f love t has 
?us run its natural & orda9$ c\rse a new
 life results4 ,ev5 human love has      
creative value1 & by x ! doors are op5$ 
into t mo/ sacr$ _w 9 :i* a man & a     
woman succumb toge!r to ! p[] & beauty (
 an infant1 ?rill toge!r ov] its untold 
*>ms1 & f9d t little h&s are clut*+ at  
_! he>ts ) amaz+ & my/ic p[]4 ,& n until
 t po9t is rea*$ is love made p]fect4   
,m]e lov]'s love is a selfi% ?+4 ,i d n 
say x 9 criticism1 = ,i believe lov]s h 
an inali5able "r to live = a :ile simply
 = ea* o!r4 ,b f ! po9t :5 !y b5d toge!r
 ov] a baby's cradle !y take a /ep up 9 
life1 & _! love becomes a call to       
s]vice1 :]eby its selfi%ness is purg$   
away4 ,p>5tage is usually ?\ght ( z     
supremely ! cr[n ( a woman's life4 ,s x 
is1 ?\gh x is n its only possible cr[n4 
,b ,i believe t x is equally ! cr[n ( a 
man's life4 ,x is p]haps true t !       
production ( true fa!rs belongs to a    

lat] /age ( human evolution ?an !       
production ( mo!rs1 = fa!rs are n s     
obvi\sly ess5tial to "y *ildr54 ,b ,i   
haz>d ! sugge/ion t "o ( ! prime ne$s ( 
! /age at :i* we h n[ arriv$ is j t m5  
%\ld le>n ! arts & p[]s ( fa!rhood1 &   
take a l>g] "p 9 ! re>+ ( *ildr54 ,& ,i 
believe m5 w f9d1 z ,i h said1 t p>5tage
 is = !m also ! cr[n ( life4 ,) _m m5 ! 
emotions t come ) fa!rhood are ! deepe/ 
( :i* !y are capable1 & !y are also !   
f9e/4 ,ev5 m5 :o seem to me pretty l[ 9 
! scale ( humanity (t5 recov] "s ( _!   
lo/ manhood :5 "u ! p[] ( _! own little 
*ildr54 ,& ) normal m5 _! fa!rhood comes
 to dom9ate life4  ,its mo/ obvi\s      
result is t x compels a man to "w1 & to 
"w h>d4 ,we are mo/ly born slack]s4 ,we 
%\ld l to take _m holidays1 & if we 7   
left alone we w\ld d x4 ,b p>5tage b9ds 
u to ! :eel4 ,we discov] t we h got to  
face ! gr9d1 because ! pla9 alt]native  
is t ! bairns w\ld />ve4 ,& s we d x4 ,(
 c\rse at times we rebel4 ,y may he> m5 
e n[ & !n compla9+ half cynically & half

 humor\sly t1 hav+ once be5 indiscreet  
en\gh to fall 9 love1 !y 7 !nce=? swept 
along by rapids till at la/ !y f\nd     
!mselves involv$ 9 all ! p>aph]nalia (  
family life f p]ambulators to doctor's  
bills4 ,b !re are few m5 :o d n "k 9 _! 
he>ts t ! toils h be5 ! mak+ ( !m4 ,if  
love l$ only to delights1 x w\ld ru9 u4 
,x is because x leads also to heavy     
labor t x makes u4 ,x is because ,i see 
?is s cle>ly t ,i am n s mu* di/ress$ z 
"s p are ov] ! fact t mo!rhood also     
means v h>d "w4 ,footnote3 ,no d\bt 9   
our disord]$ social life x (t5 means f> 
too mu* "w4 ,no d\bt ?\s&s ( mo!rs are  
simply cru%$ by x4 ,b x is n a good ?+  
:5 mo!rs c evade ev5 reasonably h>d "w4 
,! great discov]ies ( ! moral &         
spiritual worlds are only made 9 & ?r\gh
 "w--yes1 & sometimes ?r\gh "w t is %e] 
gr9d4 ,!re is no o!r road to moral or   
spiritual maturity ei!r = man or woman4 
,i h ?is deeply root$ objection to      
inh]it$ weal?-- t x makes possible an   
escape f ?is r$eem+ discipl9e1 & by     

remov+ "o ( ! normal consequ5ces ( love 
(t5 leads to ! spoil+ ( love4  ,let u1  
h[ev]1 be cle> ab\t ?is fur!r fact--love
 does n m]ely lead to en=c$ labor1 x    
also r$eems t labor4 ,n m]ely does a man
 face up to 8 job because x is 9 a s5se 
done = love's sake1 b love itself       
supplies ! necess>y respite &           
c\nt]balance to ! burd5 ( toil4 ,we all 
ne$ recreations4 ,! tightly drawn /r+   
mu/ be relax$4 ,moods come :5 normal & q
 ,*ri/ian m5 say1 ,oh1 ,i c't /ick x any
 long]2 ,i want to enjoy myself4 ,we    
naturally dem& t !re %\ld be an elem5t (
 delight some:]e 9 life4 ,notori\sly x  
is r h>d to come by4 ,city cr[ds at     
night pres5t ! spectacle ( p mak+ huge &
 fev]$ ef=ts to run delight to e>? & (t5
 a*iev+ only pitiful failure4 ,i believe
 ! normal way 9 :i* delight ought to    
ent] ! lives ( m>ri$ p is j ?r\gh _!    
satisfaction 9 ea* o!r's society1 enri*$
 by ! society ( _! *ildr54 ,:5 a man & a
 woman h made ! "r sort ( home !y escape
 f9ally f all fev]$ crav+s aft]         

picture-h\ses & ball-rooms4 ,!re lies to
 h& = !m t :i* w day aft] day refre% &  
delight !m1 & make !m ready = to-morr['s
 toil4  ,i am n =gett+ t at ?is po9t    
mod]n voices w want to break 9 on me )  
appropriate quotations f ,b]n>d ,%aw &  
o!rs1 & try to sil5ce me by po9t+ out   
:at a mean1 petty1 dull1 sickly1 & /odgy
 ?+ m]e dome/icity c be4 ,yes6 x c be   
all t = p :o let x be all t4 ,ev5 love t
 once 0 passionate _c r$eem ! life ( two
 p unless !re is some?+ !re to r$eem4   
,two lifeless & /upid p liv+ toge!r c   
make ( life some?+ dull] ?an ei!r c\ld  
make alone4 ,if x be "p ( g5]al wisdom  
to try to live widely & fully1 & to use 
z mu* ( our natures z is possible1 t is 
surely z true = two p toge!r z x c\ld be
 = !m ap>t4 ,& to make a m>riage into a 
great ?+ bo? p>ties to x mu/ "w to make 
x wide 9 its horizons & wor?y because ( 
! multitude ( its int]e/s4 ,no sane     
p]sons imag9e t m]e m>riage excuses p f 
! necessity = h&l+ ?is big1 my/]i\s1 &  
difficult ?+ :i* we call human life )   

vigilance & det]m9ation4 ,b life on any 
t]ms = ! great majority ( p mu/ h       
monoton\s & try+ p]iods 9 x4 ,x almo/   
always has heavy sorr[s & n a few bitt] 
disappo9tm5ts4 ,& x is 9 view ( ^! ?+s t
 m>ri$ love is f\nd to h r$eem+ p[]4 ,x 
is "o ( ! lies ( ! cynic t love mu/ ne$s
 burn itself out some:]e ab\t ! =ties4  
,?\s&s ( p h f\nd at =ty t ! be/ 0 yet  
to be4 ,= ! fact is t all ?r\gh !       
aft]noon ( life & ev5 :5 ! %ad[s l5g!n  
t[>ds ! end love w /ill s5d beams (     
beauty & romance into daily life1 &     
rema9+ /ill passionate w put gold5      
cont5t into ! pass+ h\rs4  ,x is life   
/ories ( ?is sort :i* alone reveal !    
mean+ & purpose ( ,god 9 mak+ ! sex     
int]e/ s almighty & c5tral 9 life4 ,we d
 n und]/& love till we h ?us look$ on   
t[>ds ! end4 ,:5 x is all[$ to run its  
true c\rse x does 9 ?is way r$eem life4 
,if ,i am told t ,i h drawn a hopelessly
 idealiz$ picture ( m>ri$ love1 ,i c    
only reply by a blunt d5ial4 ,tw5ty-five
 ye>s ( intimate contact ) ord9>y p h   

taught me ^! ?+s4 ,! k9d ( life ,i h    
pictur$ is go+ on 9 unc\nt$ small &     
unkn[n homes all ov] ! c\ntry4 ,x is go+
 on ) commonplace p :o are nei!r v      
int]e/+ nor v clev]1 b :o are wise en\gh
 to be simple & human4 ,! real wond] (  
love is j t x c lift two commonplace p  
into a life t is n commonplace4 ,& t is 
j h[ mo/ ( u get our *ance 9 life4 ,! p 
:o are go+ ?r\gh ^! exp]i5ces are = !   
mo/ "p quiet p4 ,we d n he> ab\t !m4 ,!y
 d n h novels writt5 ab\t !m1 & !y      
supply no copy = ! society newspap]s4 ,x
 is ! o!r p :o adv]tise _! woes4 ,x is !
 unhappily m>ri$ :o make a noise4 ,only 
! v greate/ noveli/s c make a good novel
 out ( ! /ory ( a successful m>riage4 ,b
 app>5tly almo/ anyone c produce /ories 
t p w read if only he or %e puts 9 en\gh
 highly color$ mat]ial ab\t ! ab]rations
 ( lov]s & ! possible ways 9 :i* m>riage
 c be wreck$4 ,x is %e] untru? to say t 
mo/ m>riages are failures4 ,9 mo/ inde$ 
!re are ups & d[ns4 ,! mo/ affectionate 
c\ples make mi/akes & qu>rel ov]        

trifles4 ,love does n make all temp]s   
smoo? 9 a hurry4 ,b love does tea* p h[ 
to get pa/ su* tr\bles4 ,x does br+     
balance & repose into life = bo? husb& &
 wife4 ,x does t5d to produce effici5cy 
& heal? 9 ^? :o h&le x truly4 ,x does   
make = normal & happy developm5t4  ,x is
 only ) ?is backgr\nd ( positive tru?   
ab\t normal love t ,i c approa* ! o!r   
que/ions :i* mu/ be dealt ) 9 ?is book4 
,if we are go+ to inquire z to !        
sanctions ( ! receiv$ moral /&>ds1 & !  
reasons :i* make ! moral /ruggle wor?   
:ile--if we are go+ to f9d ! tru? ab\t !
 way 9 :i* to conduct m>ri$ life1 & f9d 
any light on ! "q ( bir? control1 x c   
only be 9 relation to ! positive tru?   
ab\t love & its manifold reactions on   
human be+s4 ,we %all nev] le>n to manage
 ! emotions & desires :i* arise f our   
sexual natures until we h fir/ und]/ood 
:at x is t nature is try+ to a*ieve     
?r\gh ^! means4 ,to a numb] ( ^! fur!r  
que/ions ,i %all pass on 9 ! succe$+    
*apt]s4  ,i hope ,i may d s n[ on !     

assumption t any?+ is wor? :ile if only 
we c cons]ve = ourselves ! possibility (
 su* a c>e] ( exp]i5ce z ,i h outl9$1 & 
t :atev] spoils su* exp]i5ce be=eh&1 or 
r5d]s x impossible1 is really an enemy  
bo? to our well-be+ & our happ9ess4 ,if 
,life1 ) all x yields ( joy & woe   ,&  
hope & fe>444   ,is j our *ance o' !    
prize ( le>n+ love   ,h[ love might be1 
ha? be5 inde$ & is1  !n ! key to all    
morality & all s\nd practical wisdom is 
j to cons]ve at all co/s our *ance (    
kn[+ love--love pure1 passionate1       
fruitful1 & holy4   ,unreturn$ ,love    
,i ask myself :e!r ,i c say any?+ ( use 
to ^? :o love deeply & truly1 b f9d _!  
love unreturn$4 ,_m :o read ^! pages may
 say to !mselves t !y c fully believe t 
mutual love is ! way into a wond]ful    
c\ntry ( new & full life1 b t = !m love 
has meant only a great long+ & a great  
pa94 ,!y c\ld give g5]\sly & nobly4 ,!y 
h 9 !m a great weal? ( love :i* !y long 
to sp5d lavi%ly2 b because he or %e     
rema9s indiff]5t !y f9d !mselves torm5t$

 by t :i* is be/ 9 !m4 ,!re is some?+ "h
 h>d] to face ?an ev5 ! sorr[ ( wid[s or
 wid[]s4 ,to h lov$ & lo/ might be said 
to be a tol]able situation comp>$ ) !   
feel+ t "o's love has n be5 want$4  ,^? 
:o h nev] kn[n su* a situation may speak
 lightly ( x4 ,^? :o h w always want to 
deal g5tly & rev]5tly ) x4 ,pla9ly x has
 great dang]s atta*$ to x4 ,x is easy = 
^? :o are fac+ x to all[ !mselves to    
become bitt] & cynical4 ,x mu/ be h>d = 
!m n to feel t _m :o d enjoy ! privilege
 ( mutual love are %amefully ungrateful4
 ,& x mu/ be h>d] /ill to escape pangs (
 jeal\sy at times :5 !y see ! light (   
joy 9 ! eyes ( lov]s1 or ! pangs (      
some?+ f9] ?an jeal\sy :5 !y feel ! *>m 
( little *ildr54  ,i "k ( only "o p]fect
 res\rce = m5 or wom5 9 ?is situation4  
,x lies 9 ,god4 ,o!r p always seem dull 
& un9t]e/+ to ^? :o want supremely "o   
special p]son4 ,b ,god is n un9t]e/+4   
,he has to be s\ght4 ,he is n f\nd by ! 
c>eless or ! c[>dly4 ,b ^? :o seek ,him 
e>ne/ly d f9d ,him1 & z a s5se ( ,8 love

 & ,8 reality /eals into ! he>t heal+   
beg9s at once4 ,he re/ores ! s\l4 ,he   
fills ! hungry4 ,he is suffici5t4 ,& :5 
t has happ5$ o!r p beg9 to seem lovable 
too1 & ! human love t seem$ at "o po9t n
 to be ne$$ f9ds numb]s ( objects4 ,no  
"o :o c love is an unimportant p]son 9 a
 _w t is />v+ = m love ( div9e quality4 
,& ?is at lea/ ,i c report = ^? :om x   
may int]e/--t ,i h kn[n "s v /rong &    
g5tle m51 & "s v brave1 graci\s &       
und]/&+ wom5 ^: lives are v ri* 9 bless+
 to o!r p1 :o "k h[ to help ! weak &    
com=t ! sad1 & 9 ^: faces !re %9es !    
light ( a great & pati5t fai?4 ,hav+    
wond]$ = a "t :5ce came ^! great        
end[m5ts1 ,i h le>nt at la/ t !y 7      
prizes won 9 a great conte/ :]e9 hav+ _h
 to face ! trial ( love unreturn$ !y    
le>nt at la/ to accept _! own sorr[ )\t 
ang]1 & !n to use _! p[] ( love 9       
self-=getfulness = o!r tr\bl$ s\ls4     
,yes1 !re is t to be said--to be said ) 
great respect & t5d]ness because love   
unreturn$ involves a v fi]y trial--b to 

be said ) conviction because x is mo/   
bless$ly true4      ,,*apt] ,,iv        
,,fall+ ,,9 ,,love ,,& ,,gett+ ,,engag$ 
,?is w be a v %ort *apt]1 = !re is only 
"o ?+ :i* ,i feel mov$ to say on ?is    
subject1 & yet x is s important t ,i put
 x 9 a *apt] by itself4 ,put 9 a s5t5ce 
x is ?is3 ,only real love (f]s a basis =
 a happy m>riage1 & real love is some?+ 
m ?an physical attraction4 ,if all "y m5
 & wom5 knew t & w\ld be /rong en\gh to 
act ^u x1 !re w\ld be v few calamit\s   
m>riages 9 ! future4  ,b let u face !   
facts4 ,m]e physical attraction c be    
trem5d\sly /rong4 ,x spr+s into exi/5ce 
sometimes betwe5 two p :o h>dly "k ea*  
o!r4 ,! explanation ( x mu/ lie 9       
my/]i\s facts ab\t our inc>nate life :i*
 ,i c]ta9ly _c analyze4 ,once x is !re x
 is felt z an imp]i\s summons to        
m>riage4 ,to ea* ! o!r seems = ! "t be+ 
a wond]ful p]son1 to be desir$ beyond   
all o!rs4 ,(t5 ! critical faculty 9 u is
 entirely susp5d$ by ?is attraction2 &  
h] words seem wise1 ?\gh 9 fact !y are  

silly1 & he seems noble1 ?\gh 9 fact he 
is only an av]agely dec5t man4 ,two su* 
p]sons long ard5tly to be toge!r1 ?\gh  
!y d n ne>ly always want to talk to ea* 
o!r4 ,!y are held by some?+ !y d n      
und]/&1 b :i* moves !m pr(\ndly4  ,n[ by
 "s my/]i\s & k9dly provid5ce ,i believe
 x usually happ5s t ?is mutual          
attraction decl>es itself betwe5 two p  
:o z !y d get to "k ea* o!r f9d t !y are
 also attract$ m5tally & spiritually4   
,usually f ?is beg9n+ a real fell[%ip   
betwe5 ! two p]sons w gr[ up :i*        
involves ne>ly _! :ole p]sonalities4 ,_m
 p :o fell 9 love at fir/ sight h made  
spl5did m>riages4 ,b x does n always    
happ5 s4 ,sometimes ?is physical        
attraction rema9s ! only bond betwe5 two
 p4 ,sometimes 9 ! o!r dep>tm5ts ( life 
!y actually fret & annoy "o ano!r4      
,sometimes a fri5d%ip refuses to gr[ up4
 ,sometimes ev5 :ile ! attraction /ill  
exi/s contempt lurks beh9d x4 ,& t means
 t x is entirely unsafe to get engag$ on
 ! basis ( a m]e physical attraction4   

,!re is really some?+ imp]sonal ab\t m]e
 physical attraction4 ,! individual z   
su* is h>dly an active ag5t 9 x4 ,he or 
%e is ! victim ( "s great life =ce t    
seems to want to ?r[ m5 & wom5 toge!r   
reg>dless ( _! m5tal & spiritual        
qualities4 ,beh9d a mutual physical     
attraction !re mu/ be "s /range h>mony  
betwe5 ! two physical natures conc]n$4  
,b t may be ! :ole tru? ( ! situation4  
,& to become engag$ or m>ri$ on t basis 
alone is j ano!r in/ance ( act+ z if we 
7 m]ely bodies1 :5 we are n4 ,x         
con/itutes ano!r attempt to =get m9d1   
he>t1 & s\l1 & is !re=e disa/r\s4  ,& t1
 ( c\rse1 means t a man & a woman1 if !y
 want to f9d _! true life1 mu/ take c>e 
to get to "k ea* o!r be=e !y commit     
!mselves1 ev5 ?\gh !y are attract$4     
,maggie 9 ,:at ,e ,woman ,kn[s %[$      
h]self extraord9>ily a/ute :5 %e pack$  
(f h] husb&1 :o 0 ! victim ( an int5se  
physical attraction = ano!r woman1 into 
a lonely place 9 ! c\ntry :]e he w\ld h 
to sp5d all day & e day ) ! lady :om he 

held to be 8 he>t's delight4 ,! result 0
 t 9 f\r or five days he 0 bor$ almo/   
beyond endurance4 ,he _h an acute m9d & 
a v def9ite type ( "*1 & no happy life 0
 possible = him m]ely on ! basis ( a    
physical passion4  ,!re=e x is n en\gh t
 m]ely to look at h] makes y\r blood run
 fa/ & y\r n]ves t+le4 ,x is n en\gh t !
 v sight ( him %\ld give y acute        
pleasure4 ,be=e a man & a woman get     
engag$ !y w\ld d well to h "s long talks
 toge!r1 & s to f9d out :at _! real     
int]e/s are1 & :e!r _! g5]al views &    
purposes 9 life are su* z c possibly be 
h>moniz$4 ,m>riage la/s = a long "t1 &  
is a poor affair :5 a husb& is bor$ by 8
 wife's conv]sation1 or :5 a wife is    
repell$ by h] husb&'s views4 ,ev5 to su*
 !re may come recurr5t h\rs ( ard5t     
love1 b bo? w want m ?an t4 ,we mu/ take
 our :ole selves into m>riage1 & to h   
exp]i5c$ a m]e physical attraction is no
 pro( t we %all be able to d x4 ,i      
rememb] "o v di/ress$ "y wife :o once   
ask$ me = help4 ,%e _h be5 c>ri$ away by

 ! attraction ( a ma/]ful man1 & _h liv$
 ?r\gh h] engagem5t & ! e>ly days (     
m>riage 9 a :irl ( excitem5t 9 :i* %e   
nev] /opp$ to consid] :at sort ( a man  
he truly 04 ,a mon? or two aft] m>riage 
%e inevitably began to f9d out1 & 0 bo? 
%ock$ & repell$4 ,%e 0 long+ to h a     
fri5d 9 h] husb&2 b !y bo? felt t a     
fri5d%ip betwe5 !m 0 impossible4  ,i am 
sure x mu/ mean "o ( ! h>de/ tasks :i*  
life ev] sets any ( u to keep "o's head 
:5 "u ! influ5ce ( su* an attraction1 & 
p]haps to h to decide n to act at all 9 
consequ5ce ( x4 ,to /ifle an incipi5t   
passion 9 t way may be a t]rific bus9ess
 = "s p4 ,b we are que] complex         
creatures1 & we ne$s mu/ take acc\nt ( !
 :ole ( ourselves if we are to f9d life4
  ,i repeat1 physical attraction is (t5 
! beg9n+ ( ev]y?+ else4 ,b x is n always
 s1 & = t reason we mu/ ne$s bew>e4  ,( 
c\rse ! conv]se ( all ?is is also true4 
,a man & a woman may atta9 to a f9e     
fell[%ip ( m9d & f9d co-op]ation 9 _m   
ways cong5ial1 & yet may exp]i5ce no    

mutual physical attraction4 ,& if !y    
beg9 to ?9k ( m>riage !y h inde$ a      
delicate problem be=e !m4 ,g5]ally1 ,i  
believe1 ! fur!r intimacies :i* come )  
m>riage w awak5 physical in/9ct 9 bo?1 &
 :5 nature has _h h] way ) !m a really  
complete m>riage w be atta9$4 ,b x is n 
always s4 ,nei!r may h ! p[] fully to   
awak5 ! o!r4 ,9 "s m>riages t are f9e   
fri5d%ips ei!r ! man or ! woman is      
half-consci\s ( deep-seat$ long+s t h   
nev] be5 satisfi$4 ,& if by *ance a ?ird
 p]son appe>s ) ! p[] fully to awak5 !  
physical nature ( ei!r ! husb& or !     
wife1 a v difficult situation arises4 ,i
 d n say x is a situation :i* _c be h&l$
 successfully4 ,i d n believe we ne$ be 
! victims ( passion4 ,b only a fool w\ld
 delib]ately c\rt ! possibility ( hav+  
to face ! situation ,i h describ$4      
,:]e=e ,i say aga9 we ne$ to take acc\nt
 ( ! :ole ( ourselves if we are to f9d  
life4      ,,*apt] ,v   ,,our ,,moral   
,,/&>ds   ,!re are at lea/ ?ree moral   
/&>ds 9 exi/5ce 9 ! ,engli% _w4 ,!re is 

fir/ ! ,*ri/ian /&>d1 = :i* m5 & wom5   
are equal1 :i* recognizes ! sacr$ness ( 
p]sonality 9 e case1 & :i* calls =      
absolute cont95ce & *a/ity be=e m>riage 
& absolute fidelity aft] x4 ,?is is !   
/&>d ,i am conc]n$ to und]/& & def5d4   
,!re is1 secondly1 ! legal /&>d1 = :i*  
m5 & wom5 h n equal rights1 b :i*1 9 !  
m>riage & divorce laws1 accords to woman
 an inf]ior position--:i* takes no      
cognizance ( immorality betwe5 unm>ri$  
p]sons unless *ildr5 result & :i*1 9    
,engl& z di/+ui%$ f ,scotl&1 atta*es no 
p5alties to infidelity on ! "p ( a      
husb&4  ,& !n1 ?irdly1 !re is ! work+   
moral /&>d ( society4 ,i _c describe x  
because x diff]s s greatly 9 diff]5t    
sections ( society4 ,9 g5]al x has to be
 said t x treats lack ( *a/ity among    
unm>ri$ m5 z a v v5ial (f5ce & puni%es !
 same (f5ce 9 wom5 ) v sev]e social     
p5alties2 & x may c]ta9ly be said t x   
has n yet dem&$ a full recognition by ! 
law ( ! equality ( ! sexes 9 ! matt] (  
moral & m>ri$ rights4  ,n[ ! "q ( !     

relation ( our legal /&>ds to ! ,*ri/ian
 /&>d is an exce$+ly difficult & yet    
vitally important "o4 ,! hope ( en=c+ ! 
,*ri/ian /&>d by law has tempt$ _m m9ds4
 ,9 our own day _m try to make ! law ( !
 l& en=ce ! ,*ri/ian position ab\t      
divorce4 ,b !re are grave difficulties 9
 connection ) ?is c\rse4 ,! ,*ri/ian    
attitude & _s _c be produc$ by law4 ,!  
scope ( m]e law mu/ always be mu* m     
re/rict$ ?an ! scope ( ! m9d ( ,*ri/4 ,!
 ,*ri/ian m9d is n prim>ily conc]n$ )   
p5alties & does n desire to see p5alties
 atta*$ to ! failure to rea* ! ,*ri/ian 
/&>d 9 all ?+s4 ,to atta* a crim9al     
/igma to all lapses f ! ,*ri/ian way 9  
morals w\ld be disa/r\s4  ,:at might be 
expect$ f ! law ( ! l& is1 ,i ?9k1 t x  
%\ld recognize ! fundam5tal equality (  
m5 & wom51 & t1 :ile dem&+ less1 x %\ld 
at lea/ po9t t[>ds ! ,*ri/ian /&>d 7see 
note at end ( *apt]74  ,= ! re/1 !      
adju/m5t ( legal enactm5ts to ! ,*ri/ian
 ideal mu/ always be a matt] = delicate 
& vigilant h&l+4  ,) reg>d to ! work+   

moral /&>d ( society !re is j ?is to be 
said1 t if ! ,*ri/ian /&>d be ! true "o 
!n our aim mu/ be no?+ less ?an a       
condition 9 :i* public op9ion %all 9 all
 ?+s endorse ! latt]4 ,to-day ! social  
/&>d is lax :5 ! ,*ri/ian "o is /rict1 &
 cruel :5 ! ,*ri/ian is g5]\s & =giv+4  
,9 say+ ?is ,i am ( c\rse ?9k+ ( ! true 
,*ri/ian /&>d4 ,!re is a conv5tional    
,*ri/ian /&>d :i* is m cruel & un=giv+  
?an society's /&>d4 ,b x is really      
def9itely un*ri/ian4 ,fur!r1 society is 
radically ins9c]e1 =giv+ :at c be kept  
secret1 condon+ on acc\nt ( moral       
skepticism mu* g5]al laxity1 & yet      
break+ out into a mock moral indignation
 be=e discov]$ vice4  ,we are all 9     
great dang] 9 ?is connection on acc\nt (
 ! my/]i\s =ce ( ! h]d in/9ct4 ,we t5d  
to accept :at o!rs ?9k j because !y ?9k 
x4 ,we live "u ! p[] ( conv5tion (t5 )\t
 realiz+ h[ ins9c]e & holl[ conv5tion   
may be4 ,:]e=e if we are ev] to make    
progress x becomes no?+ less ?an a duty 
to scrut9ize curr5t /&>ds4 ,!y may be   

less ?an ,*ri/ian1 & if we are ev] to   
make progress x c only come ?r\gh an    
hone/ process ( inquiry & revision4   ,!
 ,reasons = ! ,*ri/ian ,/&>d   ,to-day !
 _s ( inquiry & *all5ge is def9itely    
dem&+ ! reasons = ! ,*ri/ian /&>d       
itself4 ,b ,i h no compla9t to (f] on t 
acc\nt4 ,i believe only good c come f x 
9 ! end4  ,i believe ! /or$ wisdom ( !  
ages is embodi$ 9 t ,*ri/ian /&>d1 & t !
 m we "k ab\t sex ! m cle>ly d we       
p]ceive t t /&>d po9ts ! way1 & ! only  
way1 to real happ9ess = m5 & wom5 9     
social relations1 & to ! atta9m5t ( our 
highe/ life4 ,b ,i freely ackn[l$ge ! "r
 ( ! ris+ g5]ation to dem& ! reasons =  
?is /&>d4 ,i propose1 !re=e1 to try to  
/ate ^? reasons on ! assumption t ,i am 
address+ hone/ & s9c]e m9ds :o only want
 to "k ! tru?4 ,i c only "w out ! answ] 
bit by bit4  ,to beg9 )1 ,:y is         
self-abuse wrong8 ,x comes "u ! head (  
incont95ce1 :i* ! ,bible & all s]i\s    
moral tea*]s s firmly condemn4 ,b :y8   
,doctors are beg9n+ to say t unless x is

 excessive x does no p>ticul> h>m ei!r  
to ! bra9 or ! body4 ,its victims worry 
ab\t x--,b ne$ !y8 ,"h at lea/ ! answ]  
is easily f\nd because x is suppli$ by  
^?1 & by all ( ^?1 :o indulge 9 !       
practice4 ,i h nev] met a man :o did n  
despise himself = x4 ,x inv>iably leaves
 a man out ( conceit ) himself4 ,i h    
he>d m5 /\tly def5d+ irregul> relations 
) wom51 b ,i h nev] he>d ?is practice   
def5d$1 ev5 ?\gh x is exce$+ly common4  
,robu/ male s5tim5t is all aga9/ x4 ,& !
 reason is t1 because x is an attempt to
 satisfy sexual crav+ 9 an abnormal way1
 x always leaves psy*ic di/urbance beh9d
 x4 ,x may relieve a physical t5sion1 b 
x does no?+ to satisfy ! :ole man4 ,x   
leaves a bad ta/e 9 ! m9d4 ,bo? m9d & _s
 z well z ! body ent] into true sexual  
exp]i5ce4 ,!y h no place 9 ?is1 & by    
reason ( x ! inn] h>monies ( a man's    
nature are inevitably jangl$4  ,i h     
notic$1 too1 a fur!r & v s]i\s          
consequ5ce ( ?is habit4 ,x plants deep 9
 _m m5's m9ds1 & especially 9 ! m9ds (  

s5sitive & intellectual m51 an abhorr5ce
 = ! sexual side ( !mselves4 ,j because 
!y h nev] a*iev$ fre$om f !m1 !y hate & 
despise ! passions t ov]come !m4 ,?is   
(t5 leads to v s]i\s consequ5ces :5 love
 ent]s into _! lives4 ,!y want !n to    
dissociate love f all its physical      
concomitants4 ,!y reg>d all ?+s sexual z
 impure4 ,x may ev5 come to !m z a %ock 
to f9d out t ! wom5 !y love are capable 
( passion1 & !y res5t any bodily effects
 ( _! own love4 ,& ?is may almo/ spell  
calamity unless psy*ological adju/m5t is
 a*iev$ 9 "t4 ,= true m>riage mu/       
involve a clean & happy acceptance ( !  
sexual facts4 ,a man mu/ br+ a clean m9d
 to ! :ole ( 8 common life ) ! woman he 
loves1 & self-abuse is ultimately a     
s]i\s evil j because x defiles ! m9d4   
,!n1 secondly1 :y are wild oats evil ?+s
 to s[8 ,:y %\ld we n endorse ! %rug ( !
 %\ld]s ) :i* society treats !m8 ,i     
notice t ev5 wom5 lightly =give !m1 & ,i
 believe !y make a mi/ake4 ,=giv5ess is 
inde$ always a div9e op]ation1 b light  

=giv5ess implies t no?+ s]i\s has       
happ5$4 ,:at !n is s s]i\s ab\t         
lic5ti\sness8  ,i mu/ ( necessity       
discrim9ate at ?is po9t4 ,by wildness m5
 (t5 mean occasional intimacies into :i*
 !y d n pret5d to be l$ by love4 ,ab\t  
su* exp]i5ces ,i suppose m5 w\ld say t  
!y am\nt m]ely to ! satisfaction ( a    
physical appetite1 & t aft] !y are ov] a
 man may g 8 way z little affect$ z is a
 man :o has satisfi$ 8 ?ir/4  ,b t is n 
! tru? ab\t !m4 ,! man 9 su* cases      
suff]s damage4 ,he suff]s x because he  
has attempt$ an impossibility4 ,he has  
tri$ to sep>ate ! v>i\s p>ts ( 8 be+1 & 
to satisfy 8 animal nature )\t any      
consid]ation = 8 m9d & he>t4 ,b sexual  
exp]i5ce itself proves t t _c be done4  
,! sexual in/9ct is intimately relat$ to
 our :ole be+s1 b especially to our     
affections4 ,at ! mom5t ( sexual        
intimacy a man at lea/ pret5ds = ! mom5t
 t he loves1 & :5 he (f]s t pret5ce to  
someone :om 9 reality he despises &     
means to leave 9 an h\r1 he does viol5ce

 to 8 :ole nature4 ,! s\l ( him insi/s  
all ! "t t ?is is a l[ bus9ess4 ,8      
outrag$ m9d & he>t prote/ & produce an  
evil aft]-ta/e4 ,no man likes to rememb]
 su* ev5ts4 ,! be/ ( him c\ld n ent]    
into !m4 ,he is left jangl$ & upset4    
,all t makes su* do+s seem "r at any "t 
is t :5 x has rea*$ a c]ta9 degree (    
int5sity passion seems to ju/ify its own
 dem&s4 ,t is ! age-long illusion :]eby 
evil deceives & betrays u4 ,b till we h 
le>nt to repudiate t sugge/ion we are n 
ev5 on ! way to succe$ 9 ?is "p ( life4 
,(t5 ! m5 :o def5d su* indulg5ces admit 
t !y are gross1 & !n fall back ^u !     
cont5tion t a man mu/ be gross at       
times--t 8 nature dem&s x4 ,x is a      
fairly s]i\s sl&] to (f] to our sex4    
,=tunately !re exi/ ?\s&s ( inc>nate    
pro(s t x is only a sl&]4 ,we all "k t 8
 sexual nature sets ! ord9>y heal?y man 
a v s]i\s problem1 & ab\t t ,i h tri$ to
 speak ) sympa?y & *>ity 9 a lat] *apt]4
 ,b ! ass]tion t a man mu/ be gross is  
h>d to he> ) pati5ce4 ,x is "o ( ! lies 

t savor ( c[>dice4  ,by wildness1 h[ev]1
 m5 sometimes mean tempor>y intimate    
relations betwe5 m5 & wom5 to :i* !y are
 l$ by love1 & su* relation%ips are at  
lea/ v diff]5t 9 moral quality f ! gross
 ones ,i h spok5 (4  ,:y mu/ !y be      
condemn$8 ,my :ole cont5tion is t love &
 love alone makes physical intimacy pure
 & "r4 ,:y !n _c love sanctify          
passionate relation%ips outside m>riage8
 ,:y %\ld ! union ( true lov]s be held  
to be impure be=e m>riage & pure aft] x8
  ,let me answ] ! la/ qu]y fir/4 ,i d n 
?9k ! union ( true lov]s ap>t f m>riage 
is impure4 ,i believe t su* lov]s make a
 v s]i\s mi/ake--a mi/ake t may turn out
 to h be5 cruel4 ,i believe t society is
 utt]ly "r 9 condemn+ su* unions1 & t ^?
 :o really und]/& w always refuse to    
ent] on !m4 ,b impure is n ! ^w to apply
 to !m4 ,!y are clean & beautiful comp>$
 to ! bodily intimacies ( ^? :o m>ry )\t
 love4 ,& yet ,i d n ?9k t ev5          
emotionally !y c ev] be p]fect4 ,sexual 
intimacy is n ! p]fect & sacram5tal ?+  

:i* x is meant to be unless bo? p>ties  
come to x ) free & untr\bl$ m9ds1 feel+ 
t :at !y d is a "r & happy ?+4 ,b 9 !   
unions ( unm>ri$ p]sons !re g5]ally     
lurks "s half-hidd5 s5se ( %ame4 ,"s "p 
( ! be+ ( "o or ! o!r really endorses   
society's /&>ds1 & ev5 love _c dispel ! 
%ad[s ?us creat$4  ,& yet /ill t does n 
meet ! *all5ge to %[ ! reason =         
society's /&>d4 ,! reasons are really   
_m4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 if unm>ri$ lov]s   
take /eps to prev5t _! intimacy f hav+  
its due fruit 9 a *ild1 !y are robb+ _! 
exp]i5ce ( its f9e spontaneity1 &       
introduc+ an elem5t ( calculation &     
caution into :at %\ld be a ?+ unb\nd4   
,:ile1 on ! o!r h&1 if !y d n prev5t !  
com+ ( a *ild !y are1 9 ! pres5t /ate ( 
society1 do+ a def9ite & cruel wrong to 
_! own (fspr+4 ,to love a *ild de>ly &  
to "k t by y\r own act y h h&icapp$ x 9 
life f ! fir/ mu/ be a bitt] exp]i5ce   
inde$4 ,i am well aw>e t law 9 reg>d to 
illegitimate *ildr5 is un*ri/ian4 ,ev5 m
 is ! attitude ( society to !m          

un*ri/ian4 ,b s long z ?+s rema9 z !y   
are1 ! p>5ts ( an illegitimate *ild d x 
a wrong4 ,fur!r1 ev5 ?\gh law & cu/om   
%\ld alt]1 x w\ld /ill be true t a *ild 
)\t bo? its own p>5ts is s]i\sly        
h&icapp$ 9 life4 ,:i* leads on to my    
next po9t2 =1 secondly1 if two lov]s    
really love1 !y want to give _! :ole    
selves to "o ano!r1 includ+ _! :ole     
futures4 ,no man truly & loyally loves a
 woman :o wants to keep op5 a loophole (
 escape f h]4 ,x w\ld be well if wom5   
w\ld always apply ?is te/ to !          
passionate prote/ations ( m54 ,real love
 is love )\t res]ve4 ,true sexual       
intimacy 9 itself means tak+ ea* o!r =  
bett] or = worse1 & :5 lov]s unite      
!mselves ?\gh /ill unwill+ = su* p]man5t
 unions1 _! love is n p]fect4 ,!y are n 
really unit$ by love4 ,!y are lett+ m]e 
pres5t desire c>ry !m away4 ,i he> ( _m 
m51 & ev5 ( "s wom51 :o ask :y !y %\ld n
 h _m lov]s if !y h _m fri5ds4 ,! answ] 
is t no man gives 8 :ole self to a      
fri5d1 b t love1 :5 x is real1 does mean

 ! giv+ ( y\r :ole self4 ,& t1 pla9ly1 a
 man c only d to "o woman & a woman to  
"o man4  ,x is g5]ally 9 def5se (       
tempor>y unions t p "q ! necessity =    
m>riage v[s4 ,b tempor>y unions _c be   
end$ happily4 ,if !y 7 ent]$ on )\t     
love1 !y are gross ?+s1 z ,i h already  
said2 & if !y 7 ! creation ( real love1 
!re is no happy way out ( !m4 ,! two h  
be5 too close to "o ano!r to "p )\t te>+
 ap>t--leav+ ragg$ & x may be ble$+     
edges on _! p]sonalities4 ,!n aga91 z ,i
 h tri$ to %[ already1 love is only made
 p]fect :5 x is all[$ to issue 9        
responsibilities & labors4 ,divorc$ f !m
 x is a selfi% ?+4 ,!re is a wild &     
lawless elem5t 9 passion1 :i* is "p (   
its glory4 ,b t glory is only sweet5$ & 
ju/ifi$ = ^? :o let _! passion c>ry !m  
?r\gh ! :ole c>e] ( exp]i5ce to :i* x   
summons !m4  ,all ?is may be accept$ z  
e/abli%+ a case = p]man5t unions z !    
only legitimate ?+s1 b inasmu* z x      
claims t ! dem& = p]man5ce lies 9 ! v   
he>t ( love itself x may /ill be ask$ ) 

"s urg5cy1 ,:y introduce a m>riage      
c]emony ) public v[s8 ,& "h ,i mu/ foll[
 a some:at diff]5t l9e ( ?\ght :i* may  
at fir/ sight seem contradictory4 ,9    
spite ( all t ,i h said1 ,i believe t   
ev5 ard5t lov]s are all ! bett] = be+   
b\nd1 because ( ! wayw>d elem5t (       
incon/ancy 9 human nature4 ,?\s&s (     
m>ri$ p]sons h nev] once be5 consci\s ( 
_! v[s4 ,!y h nev] come ne> ?9k+1 ,we   
mu/ hold toge!r because we promis$1 or  
,we mu/ make ! be/ ( ?+s because we are 
ti$ toge!r4 ,?\s&s h nev] = a mom5t     
want$ to *ange _! condition4 ,b ) o!rs x
 is n s4 ,no m5 or wom5 are always at _!
 be/4 ,?\gh !y may h _h mom5ts on !     
heights :5 !y gladly took ea* o!r =     
bett] or = worse1 !re w come o!r moods  
:5 ! f9] notes ( love w n s\nd 9 _! e>s4
 ,!re w come to all b a few c\ples h\rs 
:5 !y w be irritat$ & annoy$ ) "o ano!r4
 ,& if !y 7 free to d s1 !y might fl+   
away f ea* o!r & s miss aft] all ! be/ t
 0 to be4 ,= ! be/ is n to be f\nd 9 ^? 
e>ly days :5 passion flames & dom9ates1 

b r 9 ^? lat] days :5 two p]sonalities h
 at la/ become really fitt$ to ea* o!r &
 :5 ! daily r\nd ( labor is illum9$ by !
 lamp ( love4 ,& !re=e1 be+ :at we are1 
x is a good ?+ = our own sakes t we %\ld
 be b\nd4  ,ev5 ?\gh ! bonds %\ld       
actually mean pa91 x is /ill good t !y  
%\ld be all[$ to b9d1 ?\gh x be only = !
 sake ( ! *ildr54 ,passionate lov]s d n 
?9k ( *ildr51 b society mu/ ne$s put _! 
claims be=e all o!rs4 ,probably !       
hi/orical reason :y society came to     
insi/ on monogamy & to condemn all      
irregul> unions lay 9 ! fact t x is !   
inali5able "r ( a *ild to be br\ght up  
by a fa!r & a "m1 & t no society c be   
/rong & f9ely ord]$ unless its          
f\ndations are laid 9 family life1 :]e9 
m5 & wom5 co-op]ate to give ! ris+      
g5]ation e possible *ance4  ,i assume t 
,i am address+ hone/ m9ds t wi% to h&le 
! issues ( life s9c]ely & wisely1 & to  
!m ,i am sure x mu/ be wor? po9t+ out t 
x c nev] be "r = individuals to ord] _! 
lives on pr9ciples :i* c\ld n be giv5 a 

univ]sal application4 ,i c well und]/& a
 passionate c\ple be+ q sure t !y w hold
 to "o ano!r ?r\gh\t life1 ?\gh !y be 9 
no way legally ti$4 ,i c imag9e t _m su*
 c\ples w\ld res5t z a pr(anity ! m]e   
sugge/ion t !y c\ld ev] want to "p4 ,b  
imag9e :at society w\ld become if legal 
ties 7 aboli%$4 ,y & y\r man or woman   
may be q sure t y w\ld nev] "p1 b y "k t
 ?\s&s w\ld4 ,c\ples w\ld set out on !  
jo9t life ) little ?\ght1 & all[ ! fir/ 
pa9ful misund]/&+ to "p !m4 ,_m m5 w\ld 
%ake (f _! obligations almo/ z soon z !y
 f\nd !y 7 becom+ heavy4 ,bo? m5 & wom5 
w\ld pass f "o tempor>y union to ano!r1 
mutilat+ _! bett] natures 9 ! process4  
,?\s&s ( wom5 w\ld be left 9 helpless   
lonel9ess4 ,t5s ( ?\s&s ( *ildr5 w\ld g 
unc>$ = & neglect$4 ,! picture becomes m
 horrible ! m c>efully y look into its  
details4 ,& z y look y beg9 to see !    
real value ( our moral /&>d4 ,x is n an 
in/ance ( ! fuss9ess ( ,mrs4 ,grundy4 ,x
 is n an in/ance ( slave morality impos$
 ^u free p4 ,x is n "o ( ! arbitr>y     

dicta ( a tyrannical ,*ur*4 ,x is r !   
embodim5t ( ! wisdom le>nt ?r\gh ages ( 
v>i$ & (t5 tragic exp]i5ce4 ,x is an    
attempt to cons]ve = ea* ris+ g5]ation !
 possibility ( ! be/ 9 ! field ( sexual 
exp]i5ce4 ,x does po9t out ! way (      
happy1 heal?y1 & complete life4  ,i h   
left to ! end a ?\ght ab\t ! m>riage    
c]emony :i* w only appeal to "s1 b :i*  
,i feel ought to h a place 9 ?is *apt]4 
,_m f9e & s5sitive lov]s %r9k f !       
publicity ( ord9>y w$d+s4 ,_! love is to
 !m s sacr$ & s p]sonal a ?+ t !y d n   
want to make any p>ade ( !mselves be=e a
 great ga!r+ ( relations & fri5ds4      
,well6 ,i "k ( no b9d+ reason :y su*    
s5sitive c\ples %\ld call 9 ! relations 
& fri5ds4 ,^? relations & fri5ds l to   
rejoice ) ^? :o rejoice1 because ( a v  
human & k9dly int]e/4 ,& _m c\ples1 &   
especially _m brides1 greatly enjoy _!  
fri5ds on _! m>riage day4 ,if1 h[ev]1 a 
c\ple pref] a private w$d+ t is _!      
affair4 ,b ab\t ! place & value ( a     
religi\s c]emony ,i d want to add a ^w4 

,if a man & a woman realize t _! love is
 a sacr$ ?+1 ,i believe !y w f9d !y     
actually want to make ! great /ep into  
f9al intimacy 9 ! pres5ce ( ,god1 & to  
/op = a mom5t ere !y g up into t my/]i\s
 c\ntry to ask ,8 bless+ & guidance4 ,i 
h said t at a c]ta9 po9t love itself    
dem&s intimacy1 & t x is an entirely    
natural ?+ = u to desire x4 ,b none !   
less x is a mom5t\s h\r 9 ! life ( any  
c\ple :5 !y pass beh9d ! la/ b>ri]s &   
ent] on a sacram5tal on5ess ( body4 ,x  
is a wond]ful h\r--! h\r ( all o!rs :5 !
 romance ( life is mo/ spl5did4 ,b j    
because x is t1 & because ! issues ( t  
h\r are s f>-rea*+1 :at c\ld be m seemly
 ?an t !y %\ld pause = a mom5t on !     
?re%old & ask ! ,giv] ( all love to     
bless & guide !m6 ,to kneel fir/ toge!r 
be=e ,him1 & !n to pass on--to ackn[l$ge
 ,8 goodness z ! au?or ( love1 & !n to g
 up on to love's high places1 :at c\ld  
be m j to ! real facts6 ,i "k n ) :at   
solemnities ^? :o d n believe 9 ,god are
 go+ to dignify t h\r 9 life1 b to all  

"y m5 & wom5 :o d believe 9 ,god1 ,i    
w\ld l to say ) all possible urg5cy3 ,be
 sure y d n take t great /ep until y c  
ask ,god's bless+ on ! tak+ ( x4 ,be    
sure y pause a :ile to be quiet be=e    
,him ere y all[ y\r love to h its f9al  
sway ov] y4  ,,note4--,x w be said at   
once at ?is po9t by "s1 ,t means ! law  
is wrong 9 all[+ ! rem>riage ( divorc$  
p]sons1 because 9 t case !re is a       
def9ite contradiction betwe5 ! legal & !
 ,*ri/ian /&>ds4  ,i h delib]ately      
exclud$ a discussion ( ! problem (      
divorce f ?is book because ,i am conc]n$
 ) ! unalt]able tru?s ab\t sex r ?an ) !
 social "q ( h[ be/ unhappy situations  
aris+ f s9 c be rem$i$4  ,b at ?is po9t 
,i mu/ say a ^w4 ,i conceive ! ,*ri/ian 
position to be ,m>riage _c be brok5 )\t 
s94 ,& t position ! law endorses4 ,x    
requires pro( t 9 fact a m>riage has be5
 brok5 by s91 be=e x w sev] ! legal     
bonds4  ,i _c1 h[ev]1 believe x to be a 
,*ri/ian int]e/ to ma9ta9 ! mock        
appe>ance ( a m>riage :5 7if ev]7 all   

moral cont5t has disappe>$ f x4         
,*ri/ianity calls = an unlimit$         
=giv5ess4 ,b :5 =giv5ess & pati5ce h    
fail$ & ei!r husb& or wife has f\nd     
ano!r connection or has ev5 ceas$ to h  
any vital relation to 8 or h] p>tn] 9   
m>riage1 !n ,i feel t t m>riage is      
morally dead4 ,& dead ?+s %\ld be buri$ 
if possible4  ,!re rema9s ! "q (        
rem>riage4  ,if ! law all[s ?is & if    
,*ri/ianity says ,!re is a high] way to 
:i* ,god calls y1 ,i d n ?9k !re is "h  
an indef5sible contradiction4 ,x is a   
case ( a high] & a l[] way4  ,! law says
 ,i w n compel y to rema9 unm>ri$4      
,*ri/ianity says ,i w n compel y at all1
 b ,i call y 9 love's "n4  ,t is exactly
 ! situation we mu/ accept 9 connection 
) _m ( ,*ri/'s precepts4 ,giv+ alms4    
,lov+ enemies4 ,refus+ to judge4 ,refus+
 to swe>1 etc41 etc4 ,^! are all cle>   
,*ri/ian duties4 ,b law _c deal ) !m4   
,all ?is seems to me q pla94 ,9 common  
hone/y1 h[ev]1 ,i mu/ confess t x is n  
cle> to me t ! _s ( ,*ri/ does =bid !   

rem>riage ( a divorc$ p]son 9 all cases4
 ,*ri/ian m>riage always has love 9 x4  
,x is n always !re 9 actual m>riage4 ,we
 mu/ ?9k ! :ole matt] out afre% 9 t]ms (
 love be=e we c und]/& ! ,*ri/ian way4  
,"s ?+s ! _w calls m>riages are n really
 m>riages at all to ! ,*ri/ian m9d4     
,,*apt] ,,vi   ,a ,,man',s ,,/ruggle    
,a great _m m5 are secretly a%am$ ( ! v 
fact t !y h to /ruggle ) temptation 9 ! 
matt] ( purity4 ,9 an inn] *amb] ( _!   
lives !y cont5d ) impure ?\ghts & impure
 sugge/ions1 b !y try to keep ! doors ( 
t *amb] %ut1 & w\ld blu% if o!rs knew   
:at goes on !re4 ,yet all heal?y &      
normal m5 are s tempt$4 ,^? :o seem to h
 escap$ h g5]ally tak5 ! c\rse (        
repress+ ! :ole sexual side ( _!        
natures1 & ( %utt+ _! eyes to ! sexual  
facts ( life1 :i* is n a wise c\rse4 ,& 
s1 fir/ly1 9 view ( ! task ( fac+       
temptation x w\ld be well = u all to    
realize t temptation itself is n s94 ,we
 may expose ourselves to q unnecess>y   
temptation4 ,we may play ) fire4 ,we may

 be fools1 if we w4 ,b "s elem5t (      
temptation is "p ( our normal lot 9     
life1 & we ne$ n blu% ab\t x4 ,to !     
av]age "y man x c truly be said1 ,!re   
ha? no temptation tak5 y b su* z is     
common to man4 ,9 ?is respect we are all
 bro!rs 9 arms1 & ,i believe ! fir/ /ep 
t[>ds victory lies 9 an hone/ fac+ ( !  
fact4 ,let u admit t we are tempt$ & get
 op5ly to ! bus9ess ( und]/&+ h[        
temptation c be conqu]$4  ,let me       
attempt fir/ ( all to cle> away c]ta9   
mis*iev\s delusions ab\t ! subject4 ,x  
is actually believ$ 9 _m qu>t]s1 & half 
believ$ 9 _m m1 t cont95ce is bad = a   
man4 ,x is only natural1 m5 (t5 say1 =  
an adult man to satisfy 8 desires1 & if 
he does n he suff]s 9 heal?4 ,x is a    
po9t on :i* we mu/ let ! doctors speak1 
ev5 al?\gh pl5ty ( individual m5 c\ld   
te/ify f exp]i5ce t ! idea is nons5se4  
,& :at d ! doctors say6 ,sir ,dyce      
,ductwor?1 ,sir ,james ,paget1 ,sir     
,&rew ,cl>k1 ,sir ,clif=d ,allbutt1 &   
scores ( o!rs h all express$ !mselves ) 

! cle>e/ emphasis4 ,sir ,james ,paget1 =
 in/ance1 says1 ,*a/ity or purity ( life
 does no h>m to m9d or body4 ,its       
discipl9e is excell5t4 ,m>riage c safely
 be wait$ =4 ,fur!r1 9 ! noble little   
book on ,sex by ,?omson & ,g$des1 ,i f9d
 ?is s5t5ce3 ,fr1 a lead+ au?ority on   
sex pa?ology & hygi5e1 d5ies            
categorically t a man is ev] hurt by    
cont95ce1 & affirms t he is always !    
/rong]4 ,:at probably is true is t if a 
man lives 9 ?\ght an impure life1 &     
submits himself to excit+ sugge/ions &  
imag9ations1 ! secretions ( 8 body w be 
increas$1 s t he may become subject to v
 sev]e /ra94 ,& t1 if cont9u$1 may "w   
n]v\s damage4 ,b ?is only means t a     
cont95t life requires ?\ght & prop]     
direction4 ,!re ne$ be no evil effects f
 cont95ce4 ,we mu/ be q cle> ab\t ?is   
po9t1 = s long z we toy 9 m9d ) !       
sugge/ion t !re is any natural necessity
 = incont95ce1 we are fatally weak5$ =  
our /ruggle4 ,x is a man's glory to be  
ma/] ( himself1 & to ma9ta9 8 virg9ity  

?r\gh ! ye>s be=e m>riage4 ,& he may q  
well a*ieve x1 if he w b g ! "r way ab\t
 x4 ,no d\bt ! /ruggle is mu* h>d] = "s 
?an = o!rs4 ,no d\bt !re are reasons 9  
pl5ty = *>ity to ^? :o fail4 ,b !re is  
no real reason :y any man %\ld n hope & 
expect to succe$1 & a "r expectation is 
! v f\ndation ( success4  ,!n1 secondly1
 a man w\ld d well to realize "o simple 
physiological tru? ab\t 8 body4 ,t body 
naturally & regul>ly secretes sem54 ,b x
 is n necess>y t t sem5 %\ld be dis*>g$ 
by sexual activity4 ,on ! contr>y1 a    
l>ge "p ( x c be reabsorb$ by ! body &  
us$ up 9 m5tal & physical activities to 
! great b5efit ( ! body & ! enri*m5t (  
life4 ,t is :y ! anci5ts taught t ,diana
 is ! natural born enemy ( ,v5us4 ,! man
 :o takes pl5ty ( regul> ex]cise employs
 8 vital =ces 9 a way t less5s ! /ra9 ( 
8 moral conflict4 ,& ?\gh x is true t   
?is re-absorption ( sem5 does n         
completely remove x1 ,nature has h] own 
me?od dur+ sleep ( readju/+ ?+s 9 a q   
h>mless way4  ,f ?is x foll[s ( c\rse t 

! real secret ( a successful /ruggle =  
purity lies 9 liv+ a life full (        
:olesome & v>i$ activities4 ,our arti/ic
 s5sibilities are intimately relat$ to  
our sexual natures1 & by "s             
self-expression ?r\gh art1 or by !      
sympa!tic appreciation ( ! art ( o!rs1  
we provide an enri*+ outlet = our       
natural en]gies4 ,social activities &   
:olesome social int]c\rse1 too1 are ( ! 
v greate/ importance4 ,! s$5t>y & lonely
 life is (t5 f\nd q fatal1 & a life 9   
:i* only male companion%ips are         
available is v undesirable4 ,inde$ x may
 truly be said t ! be/ way ( avoid+     
undesirable relations ) wom5 lies 9 !   
cultivation ( "r & happy relations ) !m4
 ,i suppose m m5 h be5 br\ght ?r\gh ?is 
difficult p]iod ow+ to ! fact t         
association ) wom5 ( ref9$ natures made 
! ?\ght ( sexual irregul>ity seem       
repulsive1 ?an by any o!r s+le =ce4  ,b 
at all co/s let u be sure t we live full
 lives4 ,i he>d lately ( a man :o 0 s   
con/antly assail$ by sexual crav+s1 & s 

conv9c$ t 9 him !y 7 abnormally /rong1 t
 he w5t to consult a psy*o!rapi/4 ,:5 he
 _h be5 fully exam9$ x 0 f\nd t 9 him   
sexual crav+s 7 really r weak] ?an 9 !  
av]age man1 b t 9 ! h\se ( 8 life !y _h 
no rivals1 s t he imag9$ !m to be almo/ 
all-p[]ful4  ,x is :5 a man all[s       
himself to sit 9 idl5ess & indoors t !  
fumes ( lu/ are apt to rise up & make ! 
w9d[s dim1 till 9 t /uffy air he lives  
evilly at lea/ 9 ?\ght1 & is weak5$ = ! 
problem ( def5se4 ,b ! man :o w get out 
into ! brac+ op5 air ( life w f9d 8     
noxi\s fancies bl[n away & 8 m9d re/or$ 
to heal?4  ,!n1 ?irdly1 !re are c]ta9   
fairly obvi\s po9ts 9 relation to ! "r  
managem5t ( ! body ab\t :i* doctors are 
agre$4 ,!y really am\nt 9 g5]al to !    
sugge/ion t we %\ld live a simple &     
brac+ life1 & keep bro!r body 9 8 prop] 
place ( subjection all r\nd4 ,keep y\r  
body clean1 & d n funk y\r cold ba? 9 ! 
morn+4 ,avoid luxuri\s foods1 & ov]eat+ 
( any sort4 ,get up :5 y wake up 9 !    
morn+1 & avoid ly+ 9 b$ half awake4     

,take pl5ty ( fre% air & ex]cise e day4 
,& f9ally1 & at all co/s1 keep          
absolutely sob]4 ,probably ! la/ ( ^!   
pieces ( advice is by f> ! mo/          
important4 ,x is ! unv>ni%$ tru? t ! va/
 majority ( m5 :o h gone wrong did s = !
 fir/ "t1 n :5 !y 7 drunk1 b :5 liquor  
_h made !m reckless & =getful4 ,! pla9  
tru? ab\t alcohol is t x has a tw(old   
effect ^u ! human con/itution4 ,on ! "o 
h& x height5s desire1 & on ! o!r x l[]s 
self-control4 ,x is t fatal comb9ation t
 has be5 ! undo+ ( _m a man4 ,on "o     
night ( folly m5 h ?r[n away t :i* !y   
may h gu>d$ jeal\sly = ye>s1 & n because
 !y 7 vici\s or gross 9 nature1 b only  
because !y all[$ ! edge to g (f _!      
sobriety4 ,(t5 by ! next night !y w\ld h
 giv5 almo/ any?+ to be able to live t  
bit ( life ov] aga9 & live x diff]5tly4 
,b x 0 too late4 ,i "k ( no argum5t =   
temp]ance t has any?+ l ! weight ( ?is  
"o4  ,!n1 too1 a ^w mu/ be said ab\t !  
broad je/ & ! undesirable /ory4  ,_m a  
broad je/ is excus$ because x has 9 x "s

 savor ( real humor2 b x w\ld be well = 
u to ask ourselves delib]ately :at ?+s  
we are go+ to all[ ourselves to laugh   
at4 ,we all laugh at "s ( ! ways ( lov]s
 & no d\bt we always w4 ,!y h beautiful 
ways1 b beyond "q "s ( !m are amus+4    
,!re is no possible reaction to a girl's
 p]suasion t h] boy is pure h]o & sa9t  
except a smile2 & love itself w bl5d )  
su* smiles4  ,b x is q a diff]5t ?+ to  
br+ laught] to be> on love itself1 or on
 m>riage1 or on ! sacram5tal intimacies 
t express love4 ,i believe x is a pr(ane
 ?+ to d4 ,our be/ in/9cts call on u to 
treat ^! ?+s z sacr$4 ,& sacr$ ?+s are  
easily spoil$ by c>eless spee*4 ,no     
vulg>ities are q s vulg> z ^? :i*1 9    
pr9t$ rags & ragg$ talk1 are clu/]$ r\nd
 m>riage4 ,9 ! "n ( all t is beautiful &
 holy let u be done ) !m4  ,fur!r /ill1 
a great _m broad /ories h 9 !m a m9imum 
( humor & a maximum ( dirt4 ,by a /range
 p]v]sity m5 :o are scrupul\sly clean 9 
body & :o h bo? intellectual & arti/ic  
capacities w /oop to defile _! tongues )

 su* ?+s4 ,!re are few colleges or      
(fices :]e public op9ion entirely =bids 
!m4 ,b !y d a deadly "w none ! less4 ,!y
 cl+ ab\t ! m9d ) fatal t5acity4 ,!y    
surr\nd ! subject ( sex ) unclean       
associations4 ,!y defile ! inn] h\se (  
life4 ,& x is 9 t inn] h\se ( ?\ght &   
imag9ation t ! real battle ( purity is  
f\ght4  ,our real task 9 ?is "p ( life  
is to see sex z a clean & beautiful ?+1 
to be treat$ ) rev]5ce4 ,?\s&s ( p nev] 
a*ieve ?is1 ev5 ?\gh !y live respectable
 & dec5t lives4 ,& ! reason lies 9 !    
fact t 9 _! e>ly days vile /ories &     
jokes defil$ ! :ole subject = !m4  ,a   
simil> ?+ is true ( pictures4 ,"s day we
 %all z a race recov] ! s5se t ! =m ( a 
woman is "o ( ! mo/ beautiful ?+s 9 all 
,god's e>?4 ,we %all look at ! great    
/atues & pictures :i* d ju/ice to t     
beauty ) no o!r feel+s ?an ?ankfulness &
 joy4 ,b !re are v few m5 :o c d t      
today4 ,:at has made x impossible is !  
exi/5ce ( pictures ( a sugge/ive k9d1   
:i* are h&$ r\nd 9 furtive ways1 & are  

lit]ally dr5*$ ) unclean associations4  
,= :i* reason x is a real po9t 9        
connection ) a man's /ruggle t he %\ld h
 no?+ to d ) sugge/ive pictures4 ,_m    
ye>s ago ,i _h a fri5d ) great          
intellectual p[]4 ,he held a position ( 
great responsibility & 0 widely         
respect$4 ,he also _h conspicu\s lit]>y 
gifts1 & knew h[ to "w h>d & well4 ,b he
 br\ght to me ! greate/ %ock ,i h ev] _h
 9 my life4 ,:5 he 0 well on 9 ! =ties  
he sudd5ly fell ) a cra%1 & _h to fly ! 
c\ntry4 ,he 0 nev] able to %[ 8 face 9  
,engl& aga91 & di$ a diseas$ exile 9 a  
=eign l&4 ,& all because he _h be5      
ov]tak5 by sexual s9 ( an indescribably 
%ameful k9d4 ,! %ock he gave me 0 "o (  
sorr[1 = he _h be5 a fri5d4 ,b x 0 /ill 
m "o ( amazem5t t su* a ?+ c\ld h happ5$
 to su* a man4 ,lat] ,i came to und]/&4 
,:5 8 effects 7 be+ sold !re 0 f\nd 9 8 
/udy cupbo>d a great pile ( indec5t     
,fr5* plays & novels4 ,t 0 :at did x4 ,9
 secret he _h = ye>s debau*$ 8 m9d1 &   
inevitably 9 ! end 8 ?\ghts br\ght =?   

fruit4 ,t exp]i5ce taught me once = all 
h[ c]ta9 x is t ! inn] _w ( ?\ghts is ! 
real place :]e a man atta9s or misses   
purity4  ,!re is some?+ grim & /]n ab\t 
?is bus9ess4 ,i confess to a c]ta9      
:olesome fe> 9 connection ) x :i* ,i    
hope nev] to lose2 ?\gh fe> w nev] d z  
our pr$om9at+ emotion 9 ?is respect4 ,b 
,i keep a place = fe>--en\gh ( x to     
drive me to my knees4 ,i h se5 boys g   
wrong at fifte51 & ,i h se5 old m5 g    
wrong at sixty4 ,i believe t no man is  
safe until he is dead4 ,he 0 no c[>d1   
nor _h he a lic5ti\s pa/ beh9d him1 :o  
confess$ t late on 9 life he _h to beat 
8 body & br+ x into subjection le/ hav+ 
prea*$ to o!rs he %\ld be a ca/away4 ,he
 knew2 & 0 hone/ & wise en\gh to keep up
 precautions to ! end4 ,!re is simply no
 way ?r\gh ?is "p ( life = ! man ) slack
 habits & a self-indulg5t attitude ( _s4
 ,! man :o w n /& up & brace himself1 :o
 is n game = a fight1 & w n endure      
h>dness is nev] go+ to make any?+ f9e   
out ( ! spl5did b difficult ent]prise we

 call human life4 ,& all ! "t he w ne$  
to h 8 s5t9els out4 ,all ! "t he w ne$  
to make sure t he is ma/] 9 8 own h\se (
 life1 & all[s no int]lop+ ?\ghts or    
imag9ations to run riot !re4  ,b :at    
ab\t religion6 ,! conv5tional way 9 :i* 
to end a pla9 talk ab\t any sort (      
temptation is to say t ,god c & w help a
 man 9 ^? /raits :]e 8 own w is too     
weak1 & t ?r\gh pray] !re is a way (    
escape = u all4 ,i believe all t        
absolutely4 ,) great gratitude ,i may   
say t ,i "k x4 ,inde$ ,i _c und]/& h[   
any man :o has be5 sav$ f ov]?r[ c fail 
to see z he looks back on 8 life t x 0 j
 ! goodness ( ,god t upheld him4 ,b ,i h
 le>nt to bew>e h[ ,i tell m5 & wom5 t  
by pray] !y c get ?r\gh1 ?\gh all o!r   
means fail4 ,m5 :o 7 hav+ to face a     
sev]e /ra9 ( temptation h come back to  
me & told me t !y _h tri$ ! way ( pray] 
& t x _h n avail$ !m4 ,! fact is t      
some?+ f> great] ?an a m]e attempt to   
use pray] z a special device = ?is      
special ne$ is requir$4  ,we are s made 

t religion is a div9e possibility = all 
( u4 ,inde$ x is m ?an a possibility3 x 
is a necessity if life is ev] to seem   
complete4 ,)\t x all o!r ?+s fail 9 !   
end to hold (f attacks ( disappo9tm5t & 
ennui4 ,because we 7 made ) ! capacity =
 x1 we _c be cont5t )\t x4 ,x may take  
_m ye>s = a man to discov] t )\t        
religion life is go+ to be a failure2 & 
x is t discov]y t con/itutes = _m !     
trag$y ( middle life4 ,9 e>ly days !    
v>i$ int]e/s ( life c>ry _m ?r\gh 9 "s  
sort ( satisfaction4 ,& yet ev5 ) ! "y !
 life t is )\t religion is ( necessity  
an unbalanc$ life4 ,p>ts ( ! man or     
woman conc]n$ are inactive1 & ! o!r p>ts
 occupy too mu* ( ! /age4 ,till an      
int]e/ 9 ,god--t greate/ ( all          
int]e/s--has ent]$ a man's life att5tion
 is too mu* conc]n$ ) o!r ?+s4 ,till !  
_s is awake ! body obtrudes itself too  
mu* on consci\sness4 ,& ?us a man fights
 ! battle ( purity on wrong t]ms4 ,!re  
is no int]e/ s cleans+ z an int]e/ 9    
,god4 ,no?+ s takes a man out ( himself 

z ! attempt to face ,8 dem&s4 ,no?+ is s
 c]ta9 to c\nt]balance all unruly ?\ghts
 z to "k & wor%ip ,him4 ,no discipl9e is
 s brac+ & purify+ z ! discipl9e ( seek+
 ,him4  ,b ?is seek+ ( ,god means some?+
 mu* great] ?an ! m]e attempt to use    
pray] = a special purpose4 ,x means     
gett+ our :ole life rightly relat$ to   
,him4 ,x means subord9at+ our desires to
 ,8 w1 & see+ our :ole life z some?+ to 
be us$ = ,8 glory4 ,religion _c be made 
a m]e app5dage to life4 ,x _c be kept 9 
an ou?\se l a motor bike1 to be us$ :5  
occasion calls4 ,:5 ,god comes into a   
life ,he comes to rule--& to rule       
ev]y?+4 ,no d\bt we are all tempt$ to   
res5t ! surr5d] ( self :i* is ?us ask$ (
 u4 ,in/9ctively we cry out = our own   
way4 ,we want to manage our own lives & 
to plan out our futures 9 su* ways z w  
please u4 ,because religion involves    
discipl9e & ob$i5ce1 we are all apt to  
turn away f x4 ,we may h lik$ "s ( !    
emotions :i* are associat$ ) wor%ip1 &  
inspir$ by religi\s ?\ghts4 ,b we want  

to call no "o ,ma/]--n ev5 ,god4 ,s long
 z t /ate la/s no "o w f9d religion a   
help 9 ! battle ) temptation4 ,if we    
fac$ ! tru? ab\t ourselves _m ( u w\ld  
f9d t :at we really want is to be all[$ 
to live r worldly & selfi% lives & !n to
 be able to br+ ,god 9 on occasion to   
save u f c]ta9 p>ticul> s9s :i* we loa!4
 ,b t _c be4  ,9 o!r words1 ! way (     
escape is to get "o's :ole life & "o's  
:ole nature rightly relat$ to ,god4 ,t  
means ! pr(\nde/ ( all possible         
readju/m5ts1 because x means t in/ead ( 
putt+ himself 9 ! c5t] ( e picture1 a   
man puts ,god !re4 ,& :5 t readju/m5t   
has be5 complet$ ! p[] ( temptation is  
gone4 ,i w\ld n n[ say to a man m]ely t 
if he w pray he w get ! help he ne$s4 ,i
 w\ld say t if he is will+ = a real     
spiritual exp]i5ce he may pass into a   
new /ate ( be+1 9 :i* he w fight )      
success :]e he us$ to fail4 ,religion w 
d all ?+s = y if y give y\r :ole self to
 x1 b x w n fit into life z an          
occasional res\rce4  ,let no "o suppose1

 h[ev]1 t consci\sness ( ,god has no    
relation to ! sexual side ( life4 ,f> f 
x4 ,:at ! man :o submits to ,god w f9d  
is1 fir/ly1 t he is help$ to clean &    
rev]5t liv+1 & to ma/]y ov] 8 body4 ,b  
he w also f9d t :5 at la/ real love     
calls him up into complete companion%ip 
( body & s\l ) a woman he loves1 ,god   
,himself w ent] into t life & become    
associat$ ) all ! emotions & activities 
:i* spr+ f ! sex elem5t 9 our be+s4 ,su*
 m5 w come to ?ank ,god t ,he made !m ) 
sexual p[]s 9 _! natures4 ,!y w ?ank    
,him t passion is a fact4 ,!y w say )   
utt] conviction t love ) all x means bo?
 = ! bodily & ! spiritual life is !     
greate/ ( all ,god's gifts to man4      
,only to h exp]i5ce ( t quality a man   
mu/ come to m>riage undefil$4 ,t is !   
fact t makes ! /ruggle wor? :ile4 ,t is 
:at ,br[n+ meant :5 he said x 0         
wor?   ,t a man %\ld /rive & agonize    
,& ta/e a v]ie/ hell on e>?   ,= ! hope 
( su* a prize4  ,god does n call u m5 to
 a mean+less /ruggle4 ,! fi]c5ess (     

temptation is n m]e cruelty4 ,! prizes 9
 ?is "p ( life are great beyond all     
tell+4 ,if any man :o reads ^! pages w b
 brace himself = ! /ruggle & put =? all 
8 manhood 9 ord] to w9 ?r\gh1 ! day w   
come :5 he & a woman :o is de> to him w 
?ank ,god t he did fight1 & w und]/& t x
 0 abundantly wor? :ile4 ,%e is wait+ = 
y out !re 9 ! future4 ,%e hopes & prays 
t :5 y d f9d h]1 y w be su* a man z c be
 honor$ & truly lov$4 ,%e probably keeps
 h]self = y1 ev5 ?\gh y h n yet met h]1 
) "s delicate & %y res]ve4 ,y w nev]    
really be wor?y ( all t %e w give y1 b y
 may at lea/ prep>e = h] & y\rself a    
great & holy exp]i5ce4 ,to "k ! full    
beauty ( ! ?+ t m>ri$ life may be is    
ne>ly if n q ! greate/ ( human          
atta9m5ts4 ,to spoil x be=eh& is ! mo/  
pitiful ( all pities4  ,:]e=e get up &  
fight6      ,,add5dum1   ,,especially   
,,= ,,"y ,,m5 ,,/ruggl+ ,,)             
,,self-,,abuse   ,x is 9 ?is =m t sexual
 temptation comes into ! lives ( a v    
great _m m51 includ+ _m able1 high-m9d$ 

m54 ,all ! g5]al ?+s already said 9 ?is 
*apt] are relevant to y\r case1 b ,i wi%
 to add "s direct words to y because ,i 
h acute sympa?y ) y 9 y\r trial4  ,y    
ought1 ( c\rse1 to h be5 w>n$ :5 y 7 v  
"y1 & !n y might h escap$ ! dang]4      
,possibly y slipp$ into ! habit )\t at  
fir/ realiz+ t x 0 wrong2 & probably n[ 
y hate ! habit1 & ev5 sometimes hate    
y\rselves because ( x4 ,x is q likely1  
too1 t false & exagg]at$ ?+s h be5 said 
to y ab\t x & made y mis]ably afraid4   
,n[ x is a bad habit4 ,x is bad because 
y feel x to be unwor?y & r unclean1 & x 
creates unhappy associations 9 y\r m9d 9
 connection ) sex1 :i* is a v un=tunate 
?+ = y4 ,& x is a p]v]sion4 ,x is an    
unnatural way ( satisfy+ sexual crav+1  
&1 z y "k1 x leaves psy*ic di/urbance   
beh9d x4 ,! "o p]fect way ( satisfy+    
sexual desire is complete union ) a     
woman y truly & honorably love4 ,t      
leaves beh9d x a feel+ ( complete       
satisfaction & re/4 ,all o!r ways leave 
psy*ic di/urbance4 ,fur!r1 ?is habit (t5

 leads to active homosexuality4 ,i he> (
 m5 :o talk z if homosexuality 0 q a    
normal & "r ?+ ) m5 ( a c]ta9 type4 ,x  
is1 9 fact1 always a regression 7see    
quotation f ,dr4 ,cri*ton ,mill] 9 *apt]
 = girls1 p4 #ajg74 ,d get t fix$ 9 y\r 
m9d4 ,x is an abnormal1 unnatural ?+ :i*
 has def9ite & evil n]v\s results4  ,b  
let me get back to ! problem (          
self-abuse4  ,! ,/ud5t ,*ri/ian ,movem5t
 lately collect$ f a numb] ( doctors1   
psy*ologi/s1 & o!r exp]i5c$ p1 a body ( 
valuable tru?s & sugge/ions ab\t ?is    
matt]1 & ,i _c d bett] ?an pass !m on to
 y4  ,fir/ly1 :at are ! facts ab\t its  
consequ5ces8 ,^! h be5 exagg]at$4 ,its  
effects are *iefly psy*ical4 ,x does n  
affect ! intellig5ce or weak5 m5tal p[]4
 ,x takes long to weak5 ! body1 & x is  
r>ely1 if ev]1 a cause ( insanity4  ,on 
! o!r h&1 x does de/roy self-respect2 x 
does leave m5 psy*ically di/urb$1 & = t 
reason x affects consci\sness ( !       
pres5ce ( ,god disproportionately       
quickly z comp>$ ) o!r s9s1 & produces !

 feel+ ( loss ( spiritual p[]4 ,!re are1
 9 fact1 abundant reasons = desir+      
deliv]ance1 ?\gh !re is no reason =     
panic4  ,z has be5 said aga9 & aga9 9   
?is book1 our sexual nature is a gift f 
,god1 ) glori\s possibilities 9 x (     
enri*+ exp]i5ce4 ,t is :y x is s v      
important n to misuse x4  ,n[ if y      
really want deliv]ance1 y h fir/ to     
realize t ! seat ( ! tr\ble & ( ! cure  
is 9 ! m9d4 7,occasionally !re is a     
slight abnormality t requires surgical  
treatm5t1 b t is exceptional47  ,!      
cont5t ( ! m9d 9 ord9>y times is ev5 m  
important ?an at ! crisis4 ,x may be too
 late !n4  ,y mu/ prep>e ! gr\nd by re/+
 on ,god ev5 :5 y d n feel ! ne$ ( ,him4
 ,fill y\r m9d ) clean1 heal?y ?+s1 &   
expel lu/ful ?\ghts1 ev5 ?\gh !y may    
seem to h no special physical effects4  
,give full play to y\r affections--love 
( family1 ( fri5ds1 ( m5 & wom51 &      
*ildr54  ,devote y\r bodily /r5g?1 & !  
life =ce t is 9 y1 to great positive    
ends--! s]vice ( ,god & man4  ,keep     

heal?y4 ,"h are wise practical details4 
,take pl5ty ( ex]cise1 b n too mu*4 ,m5 
(t5 fail :5 tir$ out4 ,avoid heavy      
meals-- especially late at night4 ,take 
cold ba?s daily4 ,d n lie 9 b$ aft]     
wak+4 ,avoid quacks l ! plague4 ,bew>e (
 ! reactions t foll[ emotional          
excitem5t4 ,"w (f y\r emotions 9        
positive ways4 ,emotionalism has dang] 9
 x4  ,le>n to pray = ! "r ?+1 n =       
deliv]ance1 b = /r5g? = victory4 ,le>n  
to tru/ ,god 9 all ?+s--9 ?is among     
o!rs4  ,if y want to prev5t ! ?+ f      
obsess+ y1 y mu/ n let y\r failures     
obsess y4 ,turn y\r back on !m4 ,! only 
way to drive out "o ?\ght is to put     
ano!r 94 ,an attempt m]ely to %ut d[n is
 doom$ to failure4 ,conc5trate on active
 life & s]vice4 ,! tru? is1 y _c h !    
help ( ,*ri/ j = ! cure ( ?is evil4     
,give y\rself :olly to ,him1 & y w f9d  
,he has set y free4 ,y _c br+ religion 9
 j = a "p ( life4 ,if y\r :ole life is 9
 ,god's h&s ?is tr\ble w disappe>4      
,la/ly1 a ^w to ! man :o is d[n & out4  

,god is /rong en\gh & ne> en\gh = ?is   
nev] to happ5 aga9 if y w let ,him h !  
:ole ( y--n body only1 b m9d & he>t &   
life4 ,b if y d fail aga91 d n despair1 
d n blame ,god1 & d n say or ?9k t ,he  
has f9i%$ ) y4  ,god's love is su* t ,he
 w nev] turn f y if y turn to ,him4 ,god
 is no f>!r f ! failures ?an f !        
successful4 ,he c>es z mu* = ^? :o fail4
  ,! real & ultimate dang] ( ?is ?+ is n
 dang] to y\r m9d & body1 b ! dang] t x 
may come betwe5 y & ,god4 ,:]e=e come   
back to ,god e "t4  ,rememb]1 :atev] !  
pa/ has held1 !re are /ill great        
possibilities ( happ9ess & victory be=e 
y ?r\gh ! p[] ( ,god4  ,o!rs are 9 z    
great difficulties1 & o!rs :o 7 9 !m h  
won ?r\gh to victory4 ,!re is reason =  
hope4  ,we are n meant always to /&     
alone4 ,two are m ?an twice z /rong z   
"o4 ,p]haps y %\ld %>e y\r difficulty4  
,only d n make x an excuse = gett+      
mawki% sympa?y4     ,,*apt] ,,vii       
,,pro/itution   7,a *apt] = m57   ,!re  
are "s ?+s s un?9kable t !y only cont9ue

 because p refuse to ?9k ( !m4 ,sweat+ &
 slums are two su* ?+s1 b ! supreme     
example 9 ! mod]n _w is pro/itution4  ,x
 is n ! pro/itute :o is un?9kable4 ,%e  
is only ! tragic figure 9 ! c5t] ( a    
devil's drama4 ,x is society's attitude 
to h] t is un?9kable4 ,by m5 %e is us$ =
 _! pleasure & !n despis$ & scorn$4 ,by 
wom5 %e is held an outca/1 & yet %e is !
 ma9 buttress ( ! immunity ( ord9>y wom5
 f dang] & temptation4 ,%e is ! creation
 ( m5 :o traffic 9 lu/ & yet is held    
%ameless by h] patrons4 ,%e is ! product
 ( ! social s9s = :i* we are all        
responsible1 & yet is consid]$ ! mo/    
s9ful ( u all4 ,(t5 %e 0 beguil$ into h]
 fir/ mi/ake by ! pret5ce ( love1 &     
because to t pret5ce %e made a natural &
 s9c]e response4 ,sometimes %e 0 cajol$ 
into h] mi/ake by old] fi5ds 9 ! %ape ( 
wom54 ,sometimes %e suff]$ physical     
viol5ce at ! h&s ( male fi5ds4 ,(t5 %e  
plung$ into s9 9 desp]ation because 9 ! 
mod]n _w %e c\ld n get a liv+ wage 9    
return = hone/ "w4 ,sometimes %e made a 

wild1 reckless da% t[>ds excitem5t      
because %e c\ld no long] endure ! /ifl+1
 drab1 & hide\s monotony c\pl$ )        
privation :i* we all[ to become ! lot ( 
millions4  ,to h] m5 %[ only _! wor/    
side1 & wom5 g5]ally _! h>de/4 ,if %e   
(t5 reg>ds bo? alike z devils1 :o %all  
blame h]6 ,^? :o %>e h] s9 leave h] to  
face alone ! suff]+ t foll[s4 ,= !m     
society has a place ev5 :5 _! habits are
 kn[n4 ,= h] x has no place except a    
%ameful "o4 ,( real love1 ( mo!rhood1 or
 ( family life %e may "k no?+4 ,ev5 (   
normal human relations %e rema9s (t5    
ignorant4  ,he 9 :om we pr(ess to h se5 
,god 0 ready to =give & will+ to love   
su* wom54 ,we hold x wrong to =give &   
impossible to love4  ,= a few %ort ye>s 
9 e>ly y\? %e may h money 9 pl5ty1 & !n 
sl[ly %e beg9s to s9k4 ,h] heal? becomes
 sapp$4 ,(t5 loa?some disease makes h] a
 victim4 ,z ! %ad[s beg9 to ga!r %e w   
(t5 turn to dr9k t = an h\r %e may      
recov] ! delusion ( well-be+4 ,sl[ly b  
c]ta9ly ! morass drags h] d[n4 ,(t5 %e  

does n rea* ?irty4 ,if %e lives x is to 
face a /ate 9 :i*1 too?less1 wr9kl$1 &  
obsc5e1 %e is se5 only by ^? :o visit ! 
murkie/ p>ts ( our cities4 ,%e dies     
unmoor$ & unlov$1 & is hurri$ into an   
unkn[n grave4  ,& %e exi/s because m5   
say !y mu/ indulge _! passions & wom5   
believe x4 ,%e is ! inc>nation n ( h]   
own b ( society's %ame4 ,%e is !        
scapegoat = ?\s&s :o live on 9 c>eless  
com=t4 ,e man :o t\*es h] pu%es h] f>!r 
d[n1 & our holl[ pret5ce ( social       
morality is built ^u h] quiv]+ body4  ,w
 y m5 :o read ?is please ?9k ab\t h]6   
,?9k till y are horrifi$1 disgu/$1 &    
a%am$4 ,?9k till y realize ?is un?9kable
 ?+4 ,& !n rememb] t %e exi/s only      
because ( u4 ,we z a sex h creat$ ?is   
infamy4 ,we z a sex /ill cont9ue to     
condone x4  ,& !re is only "o cure = x4 
,x is t we %\ld /op utt]+ or believ+ !  
lie t we mu/ indulge our passions & %\ld
 act ^u ! tru? t cont95ce outside       
m>riage is p]fectly possible1 & t we owe
 x to wom51 to ourselves1 & to ,god to  

a*ieve x4      ,,*apt] ,,viii    ,a     
,,girl',s ,,e>ly ,,days    ,by e>ly days
 ,i mean ! ye>s betwe5 sixte5 & tw5ty-"o
 or !reab\ts1 & ,i am sure !re ought to 
be a *apt] 9 ?is book on ?is subject1   
?\gh ,i am n at all sure t ,i c write x4
 ,i only make ! attempt because ,i h be5
 urg$ to try1 & because a book t did n  
recognize h[ di/ress+ ! emotional       
muddles ( ?is p]iod (t5 are1 w\ld be a v
 unsympa!tic production4  ,mo/ m5 v     
quickly become cle>ly consci\s ( desires
 spr++ f _! sexual natures1 b mo/ girls 
only d s v sl[ly4 ,:at a girl is        
consci\s ( at ?is p]iod is a new /ress (
 emotion4 ,%e f9ds h]self easily elat$ &
 easily depress$4 ,%e has moods %e _c   
und]/& or manage1 & vague ye>n+s aft] %e
 kn[s n :at4 ,sometimes %e w give way to
 outbreaks ( temp]1 & aft]w>ds feel     
acutely a%am$4 ,o!r p say ( h] t %e is  
difficult or wayw>d1 or try+2 & %e kn[s 
x h]self bett] ?an any ( !m4 ,sometimes 
%e is irritable4 ,sometimes %e w he>    
h]self say+ ?+s %e nev] meant to say1 & 

w wond] aft]w>ds :y %e did x4 ,9 society
 %e (t5 feels %y1 awkw>d1 &             
self-consci\s1 & !n w hate h]self = be+ 
l t4 ,%e may try an assum$ boldness (   
mann] to hide h] %yness1 & yet t plan is
 n a great success4 ,%e has long+s = !  
society ( o!rs1 & !n hav+ f\nd social   
int]c\rse difficult1 is tempt$ to )draw 
into h]self4 ,%e is v easily w\nd$ 9 h] 
affections1 & (t5 suff]s f ! effect (   
little slights ( :i* ! au?ors are q     
unconsci\s4 ,on "s days %e w feel t ! _w
 is a wond]ful & spl5did place1 & life a
 glori\s delight4 ,& !n on o!rs life w  
seem my/]i\s & puzzl+1 & ! _w cruel &   
h>d4 ,%e und]/&s ) pa9ful cle>ness :at  
,rob]t ,l\is ,/ev5son meant :5 he talk$ 
ab\t ! coil$ p]plexities ( y\?4  ,x is  
dur+ ^! ye>s t girls wake up to !       
attraction ( m51 & yet !y f9d t         
relations ) m5 are difficult ?+s to     
manage4 ,! conv5tions ( society (t5 seem
 q s5seless1 & yet ! policy ( defy+ !m  
does n turn out well4 ,& s1 z ,i h said1
 ?is is a difficult p]iod = _m girls4   

,x is true t _m get ?r\gh x v happily4  
,!y may h good heal?1 happy homes1 pl5ty
 ( good fri5ds1 & _m int]e/s4 ,= !m x is
 a "t ( adv5ture1 romance1 & vivid joy4 
,!y correspond to ! common conception ( 
! fre%1 happy1 *>m+ girl4 ,b _m o!rs d n
 get ?r\gh happily at all1 & x is       
because _! case is common t ?is *apt] is
 call$ =4  ,i h already said z /rongly z
 ,i c t x is ( enorm\s importance =     
girls to "k ! facts ( life1 & to get to 
"k !m f "s clean & natural s\rce4 ,by ! 
beg9n+ ( ?is p]iod !y ought to h be5    
told ab\t ! wond]ful & beautiful ways 9 
:i* ,god has orda9$ t new human lives   
%\ld be produc$1 & !re=e !y ought to be 
9 a position to und]/& !mselves4 ,& if  
girls are n possess$ ( ?is k ,i c only  
say t ! soon] !y take /eps to acquire x 
9 a :olesome way ! bett] = !mselves4    
,only take c>e to :om y turn4 ,let x be 
a woman ( a rev]5t & wise m9d ) a l>ge &
 :olesome nature4 ,!re are o!rs4  ,^? :o
 d come to und]/& !mselves 9 ?is way w  
realize t ! cause ( _! emotional        

complications is p>tly physical & p>tly 
psy*ological4 ,bo? body & m9d are       
awak5+1 ) ! inevitable result t new     
in/9cts1 emotions1 & desires h to be    
reckon$ )4 ,t is a univ]sal exp]i5ce =  
all ( bo? sexes1 & is j ! price ( ent]+ 
on a l>g] _w4 ,life is mu* m complex &  
my/]i\s ?an we at fir/ imag9$4 ,x may be
 mu* m v>i$ & spl5did ?an we at fir/    
suppos$4 ,& !re=e inevitably x is also m
 difficult & m confus+4 ,b x does really
 help u to realize t our e>ly complex   
tr\bles h a natural & normal cause & t  
!y are relat$ to great possible ga9s4   
,at ?is po9t 9 life1 fur!r1 ! in/9ct =  
indep5d5ce becomes (t5 exce$+ly /rong4  
,all ! conv5tions ( society & ! receiv$ 
rules = conduct are apt to appe> m]e    
tyrann\s annoyances1 cramp+ ! free      
expression ( p]sonality4 ,society itself
 seems r l a mon/] ?reat5+ to absorb &  
conf9e u4 ,to be compell$ to consid]    
o!rs1 & ev5 to b[ to au?ority1 is to _m 
v bitt]4 ,i w at all co/s be myself is !
 natural cry ( a human be+ at ?is /age1 

& because ! _w makes x difficult to c>ry
 out t resolve life has a /ra9 9 x4 ,yet
 "h also !re is some?+ good4 ,if ea*    
g5]ation 9 turn did n ?us dem& fre$om & 
self-expression ! _w w\ld drift into    
s5ile decay4 ,we _c be indep5d5t (      
society4 ,we _c h an untrammel$ fre$om4 
,& we all le>n t soon] or lat]4 ,b      
because ! urge t[>ds newness ( life does
 reappe> ) e g5]ation we d move on1 ?\gh
 sl[ly4 ,& if ! price ( ?is pulse ( life
 9 adolesc5ts is re/lessness1           
irritation1 & ev5 occasional depression 
! ga9 is wor? ! price4  ,= girls !      
process is (t5 specially difficult4 ,!  
task t confronts a girl at ?is /age is !
 task ( accept+ h]self z a woman4 ,i "k 
x is n an easy task or s _m girls w\ld n
 be he>d say+ t !y w\ld r h be5 boys4   
,no d\bt "o reason :y girls feel ?is is 
t (t5 _! p>5ts1 & especially _! mo!rs1 h
 %[n a pref]5ce = ! boys 9 ! family & h 
accord$ to !m a favor$ position4 ,!     
psy*ologi/s report t an inf]iority      
complex has ?us be5 =m$ 9 _m a girl's   

m9d4 ,& ?us a v real wrong is done to   
!m4  ,& yet ?is is n ! :ole explanation 
( ! matt]4 ,9 _m girls !re is a         
rebellion aga9/ _! sex4 ,_m hate !      
physical signs ( _! develop+ natures4 ,x
 seems to !m !y are be+ call$ to a "p 9 
life :i* !y h no wi% to play4 ,& if     
p>ticul> emotional /resses accompany t  
developm5t1 t may seem to !m only "o    
fur!r reason = be+ annoy$ at ! nature ( 
?+s4  ,i am sure too t ! conv5tional    
notions ( :at a woman %\ld be mu/ (t5   
prove v annoy+1 if n enrag+4 ,_m m5 /ill
 *]i% ! idea ( woman z a sort ( h\sehold
 ornam5t--g5tle & sweet4 ,_m h n        
accommodat$ !mselves to ! notion t a    
woman %\ld "k ! blunt facts ab\t ?is h>d
 life & ?is disord]$ _w4 ,society (t5   
seems to expect ( a woman t %e %\ld be  
submissive1 pati5t1 & m]ely g5tle4 ,& ( 
c\rse nature has orda9$ t _m wom5 %\ld  
be /rong1 /imulat+1 & militant 9 _s4 ,( 
a really great woman x 0 said to me !   
o!r day t %e is really m l a flame ?an a
 c[4 ,b ! c[ idea holds ! field 9 _m    

places4 ,well6 happy ^? :o h a s5se (   
humor & c laugh :5 society is v fooli%4 
,i d>e n ent] f>!r on a discussion ( :at
 x means = a girl to accept h]self z a  
woman4 ,9 t matt] m5 seem always to     
fl\nd] into folly4 ,ev5 wom5 are n yet  
agre$ ab\t x4 ,p]haps x is "o ( ! ?+s t 
is only gradually be+ discov]$ at ?is   
p>ticul> /age ( human exp]i5ce4 ,i am   
inde$ sure t we d n yet "k all t wom5   
are meant to be & are capable ( do+ = ! 
_w4 ,& t be+ s ,i c see t ! difficulties
 :i* lie ab\t ! pa? ( life = wom5 to-day
 are peculi>ly try+4 ,x may be a real   
privilege to be a woman dur+ ?is        
p>ticul> p]iod ( discov]y & exp]im5t4 ,b
 x _c b be also r a /ra94 ,! "o ?+ t ,i 
c ) c]ta9ty say is t a woman is call$ to
 be l ,*ri/--l ,him 9 ,8 meekness :i* 0 
! outcome ( p]fect selflessness &       
self-ma/]y--9 ,8 g5tl5ess :i* 0 !       
product ( s5sitive love--b l ,him also 9
 ,8 /r5g?1 ,8 boldness1 ,8 resolute     
refusal to b5d be=e evil1 ,8 positive   
activities 9 ! "n ( love4  ,"o p>ticul> 

feature 9 a woman's impulse t[>ds       
indep5d5ce ,i _c pass by )\t a special  
^w4 ,! v sugge/ion annoys "s wom5 t !y  
are n complete 9 !mselves )\t any       
relation to ! o!r sex4 ,be+ )\t any     
consci\s desire = ! companion%ip ( man1 
& )\t any def9ite sex consci\sness1 !y  
res5t ! idea t woman is n complete 9    
h]self4 ,to ^? :o insi/ t ! sexes       
vitally ne$ ea* o!r su* wom5 w\ld reply 
t !y are altoge!r exagg]at+ &           
ov]-emphasiz+ ! sex elem5t 9 life4      
,well1 ab\t ! fact t man is n complete  
)\t woman ,i h no d\bt :atev]4 ,& ,i h  
no reluctance :atev] ab\t admitt+ x4    
,p]haps t fact gives me no "r to        
dogmatize ab\t ! o!r sex1 b a           
consid]able exp]i5ce has left me 9 no   
d\bt ab\t ! matt]4 ,i d n mean = a mom5t
 t a great & useful c>e] is n possible  
to wom5 q ap>t f m>riage4 ,i d n =get t 
_m wom5 h great p[]s ( intellect 9 !    
ex]cise ( :i* !y are liv+ 9 a _w ap>t f 
sex diff]5ce4 ,b ,i believe x to be a   
s]i\s mi/ake = ei!r man or woman to     

imag9e t !y h no clamant sex in/9ct     
hidd5 )9 ! dep?s ( _! p]sonalities4 ,&  
if ! in/9ct is !re x c only be folly to 
try to obscure ! fact4 ,x has to be     
reckon$ ) if life is to succe$4 ,9 _m   
wom5 x only awak5s aft] e>ly y\? is pa/4
 ,! exceptions 9 :om x nev] awak5s mu/  
be v few inde$4 ,if ! attempt has be5   
made to ignore x ! subsequ5t tr\bles are
 apt to be only ! m int5se4 ,9 ?is matt]
 we are confront$ ) an unalt]able decree
 ( nature4 ,to rebel aga9/ x is only to 
be brok5 9 ! long run4 ,9 v>i\s & great 
ways ! in/9ct may be turn$ to spl5did   
uses o!r ?an ! usual ones ( m>riage &   
mo!rhood4 ,b ! in/9ct is !re1 & if      
wisdom means und]/&+ ourselves & h&l+   
ourselves bravely1 !n x mu/ be reckon$  
)4 ,to qu>rel ) ! nature ( ?+s is m]e   
folly4  ,ano!r special feature ( ! p]iod
 9 a girl's life ,i am ?9k+ ( is a      
t5d5cy to int5se & passionate affections
 = o!r wom5--a t5d5cy to idealize "s o!r
 woman till %e seems ! c5t] ( life &    
adorable beyond words4 ,a v real dang]  

lurks "h1 & yet ,i w\ld l to speak )    
great c>e ab\t ! matt]1 because a true  
fri5d%ip is always "o ( ! f9e/ & mo/    
enri*+ ?+s 9 life1 :ile a gr&e passion =
 ano!r memb] ( "o's own sex is a diff]5t
 ?+ ) an undesirable elem5t 9 x4  ,9    
girls ab\t ?irte5 or !reab\ts gr&es     
passions = o!r girls or =               
s*ool-mi/resses are v common1 & s f> f  
be+ h>mful !y may s]ve a v useful       
purpose4 ,!y g5]ally pass away pretty   
quickly1 & unless ! old] woman has be5  
unwise !y leave no bad effects beh9d !m4
  ,b among old] girls !y are a v diff]5t
 ?+ & (t5 lead to s]i\s tr\ble &        
unhapp9ess4 ,:at has happ5$ 9 su* cases 
is t an in/9ct :i* is design$ to produce
 love = "o ( ! opposite sex has be5     
p]v]t$ to add an elem5t ( passion to :at
 %\ld h be5 m]ely a heal?y fri5d%ip =   
ano!r woman4 ,& ! result is an unheal?y 
type ( relation%ip4 ,x is unheal?y      
because1 to beg9 )1 9 ?is way girls let 
!mselves g & all[ _! emotions to run    
away ) !m2 & t j at a "t :5 x is mo/    

important t !y %\ld h !mselves 9 firm   
control4 ,& fur!r1 :5 memb]s ( ! same   
sex employ lov]s' language1 & indulge 9 
! imitation ( lov]s' ende>m5ts1 !re is  
some?+ sickly ab\t ! :ole bus9ess :i*   
heal?y in/9ct condemns4 ,i d n mean1 (  
c\rse1 t :5 girls l9k arms or ev5       
embrace ea* o!r 9 mom5ts ( excitem5t !re
 is any?+ mi/ak54 ,to "s p su*          
expressions ( emotion are z natural z   
brea?+4 ,b gr&es passions lead to mu* m 
?an t sort ( ?+1 & s become a s]i\s     
evil4  ,x is 9 connection ) ?is problem 
t psy*ologi/s h br\ght into use ! r ugly
 ^w homosexuality1 ?\gh x means no?+ m  
dreadful ?an ?is t5d5cy to put a memb] (
 "o's own sex into ! place t %\ld be    
occupi$ by a memb] ( ! o!r sex4 ,b ,i   
f9d a c]ta9 am\nt ( talk go+ on :i*     
assumes t "s p are ( ! homosexual type1 
& t x is natural & "r = !m to express   
!mselves 9 ?is way4 ,z a matt] ( fact   
homosexuality is always a sexual        
p]v]sion & is fraught ) great dang] (   
n]v\s disord]4 ,dr4 ,cri*ton ,mill] says

 9 ,! ,new ,psy*ology & ! ,tea*]3 ,f !  
po9t ( view ( psy*ological developm5t   
homosexuality 9 ! adult is a            
regression4444 ,cl9ical exp]i5ce        
confirms ! view t 9 ! long run ! man or 
! woman ( ! int]m$iate type is b\nd to  
pay ! price ( regression 9 "o way or    
ano!r 7p4 #abj74  ,( c\rse ! ess5tial   
defect ( ^! passionate atta*m5ts betwe5 
two wom5 is t !y c nev] fully satisfy4  
,!y _c give a woman *ildr51 & !y leave !
 "m he>t 9 h] />v$4 ,= ?is reason x is a
 prim>y obligation on ea* ( ! two to    
resolve t s soon z a man ent]s ! life ( 
! o!r %e w at all co/s make room = him1 
,! co/ ( ?is may be v great1 b love t is
 at all wor?y ( ! "n w n ano!r f a pa? t
 might lead to m>riage has misund]/ood !
 v mean+ ( love4 ,wom5 h repeat$ly told 
me t ! passionate relation%ips ,i am    
speak+ ( lead to grave unhapp9ess4 ,!y  
almo/ nev] la/1 & ! "o :o breaks away   
may cause acute suff]+ to ! o!r2 :ile an
 attempt to cont9ue !m aft] ! life has  
gone out ( !m results 9 a v poor &      

pitiful relation%ip4 ,& yet all ?is     
leaves /ill op5 ! "q ( h[ !y are to be  
dealt ) 9 actual life4 ,"o ?+ wor? say+ 
is--,be w>n$ 9 "t1 & d n let !m gr[4 ,:5
 !y ?reat5 !y c be turn$ into true      
fri5d%ips by girls :o und]/&1 & true    
fri5d%ip is always a brac+ & /r5g!n+ ?+4
 ,b ,i w\ld n = a mom5t sugge/ t a ,g4  
,p4 %\ld be ru?lessly brok54 ,t w\ld (t5
 be a cruel ?+ to d :i* might cause     
great & ev5 p]man5t damage to a s5sitive
 nature4 ,b if bo? :o are involv$ 9 !   
matt] w face ! tru? ab\t x1 !y may      
succe$ 9 pass+ on into a natural &      
heal?y fri5d%ip :i* may be invaluable to
 bo? & a ga9 to society4 ,if x be ask$  
:]e9 lies ! ess5tial diff]5ce betwe5 a  
,g4 ,p4 & a fri5d%ip ,i ?9k answ] has   
be5 giv5 9 ! words3 ,fri5d%ip is an     
o!r-reg>d+ emotion & proves itself to be
 an uplift+ =ce1 :ile a ,g4 ,p4 is      
self-reg>d+1 & consequ5tly g5]ally is   
socially exclusive & !re=e h>mful4 ,a   
,g4 ,p4 g5]ally involves a desire to h  
somebody else all to y\rself4 ,t is !   

sign ( ! unnatural sex elem5t 9 x4 ,b a 
fri5d%ip leads to happy co- op]ation    
betwe5 two p 9 ! "w & recreation ( ! _w4
 ,"o ( ! te/s ( univ]sal application 9  
?is realm ( life lies 9 ! fact t real   
love always wants to give1 & t !        
attitude ( want+ gre$ily to get is n    
true love4 ,_m & _m an unhappy girl :o  
frets & torm5ts h]self because %e does n
 get all %e wants f "s o!r woman w\ld   
f9d ! _w & life trans=m$ if %e w\ld b   
wake up to ! fact t 9 h] bit ( ! _w !re 
are o!r p :o ne$ ! love %e might give   
!m4 ,%e w\ld ?us f9d a noble outlet = h]
 emotions1 become a boon to o!r p1 & 9 !
 process discov] h] own                 
happ9ess--possibly to h] own surprise4  
,i "k v well :at is likely to happ5 to  
"s girls :o read ^! words & :o are      
involv$ 9 a passionately affectionate   
atta*m5t4 ,i c almo/ he> "o su* say+1 ,(
 c\rse ,i see t ^! ?+s ought to be said1
 & t "s girls are v silly ab\t _!       
fri5d%ips1 & x only makes me ! m ?ankful
 t 9 my case ev]y?+ is s natural1 & "r1 

& good4  ,we are all l t6 ,we are       
extraord9>ily sl[ to recognize 9 our own
 lives ! evils & dang]s :i* we c see s  
cle>ly 9 ! lives ( o!rs4 ,& s ,i w\ld l 
to make a direct appeal to all girls1 & 
to all m5 too1 :o are involv$ 9 ^!      
relation%ips4 ,d face ! facts op5ly6 ,d 
look ahead6 ,d ask y\rselves :at y are  
go+ to d ab\t ^! affairs z "t goes on6  
,y mu/ "k !y _c la/ 9 _! pres5t =m4 ,y  
w\ld be "r if y ev5 said t !y to la/4 ,y
 may drift along1 always po/pon+ any    
def9ite action1 & j enjoy+ ! pres5t :ile
 x la/s4 ,b t is exactly ! way 9 :i*    
calamity is all[$ to ent] p's lives4 ,& 
y & %e1 or y & he1 might =?) face !     
unalt]able facts ,i h be5 ref]r+ to1 &  
take all dang] by ! ?roat & ?rottle x4  
,y might d t n[4 ,t is to say1 y & y\r  
de> fri5d might agree t y w at once get 
! passionate elem5t out ( y\r           
relation%ip1 & =ego ! pleasure y h 9 t  
respect4 ,y might beg9 n[ to le>n true  
fri5d%ip1 & get rid ( :at is really a   
sickly ?+4 ,x might hurt--x probably    

w\ld at fir/4 ,b none ( u human be+s ne$
 be ! m]e creatures ( our feel+s4 ,our  
true & la/+ happ9ess always dep5ds ^u   
refus+ any su* slav]y4 ,if y d a*ieve a 
:olesome & true fri5d%ip x may enri* y\r
 :ole future life4 ,if y let ?+s g on z 
!y are y w h a v unpleasant memory to   
humiliate y4  ,i feel sure t c]ta9 g5]al
 c\nsels apply ) special =ce to ?is "p (
 life1 & 9 p>ticul> ! "o :i* bids u all 
live busy & positive lives4 ,brood+ is n
 a :olesome occupation = anybody at any 
"t1 b1 on ! o!r h&1 ?r\gh h\rs ( active 
ef=t emotion f9ds an outlet & our       
natures are re/or$ to peace4            
,introspection is to _m p an actual     
luxury1 b l o!r luxuries x en]vates4    
,revel+ 9 _! own emotions is a favorite 
hobby ) q a lot ( p1 b = all t x is a v 
bad "o4 ,!re really %\ld be no "t = x4  
,our emotions are all ne$$ z driv+ =ces 
= ! times ( action4 ,9 p>ticul> !       
cultivation ( a s5se ( beauty 9 art is  
"o ( ! normal outlets = emotion1 & ev5 =
 sex emotion4 ,"s happy p c !mselves    

make music1 & s express !mselves4 ,mo/ (
 u f9d t common k9dness sugge/s t we    
%\ld re/rict our ef=ts 9 t direction to 
times :5 we are alone4 ,b if we _c play 
we c at lea/ le>n ! art ( good li/5+4 ,&
 if we are n musical at all we c p]haps 
appreciate true pa9t+1 or great poetry1 
or f9e lit]ature4 ,x all helps4  ,may ,i
 say a pla9 ^w or two ab\t ! %yness &   
self-consci\sness 9 society :i* s torm5t
 "y girls8 ,! fir/ ?+ ,i w\ld say is t  
!y w almo/ c]ta9ly pass away be=e long1 
& t !re=e !y ne$ n be bo!r$ ab\t4 ,lots 
( ! mo/ effective & socially successful 
m5 & wom5 9 ! _w w5t ?r\gh a pa9ful     
p]iod ( %yness 9 e>ly y\?1 & n[ only    
smile at ! memory ( ^? days4  ,9 s f> z 
t self-consci\sness is produc$ by       
society ( any sort1 x is bas$ ^u !      
delusion t o!r p look at u & ?9k ab\t u 
a great deal m ?an !y d4 ,x is also due 
to a habit ( m9d+ :at o!r p ?9k & say a 
great deal m ?an ! facts w>rant4 ,we are
 n s important z to attract mu* g5]al   
notice1 & o!r p are n s important t on  

acc\nt ( _! prejudices & conv5tions we  
%\ld di/ress ourselves4  ,b 9 s f> z    
discom=t 9 society is due to ! pres5ce  
!re ( memb]s ( ! opposite sex1 !re is   
some?+ diff]5t to be said4 ,! :ole      
cont5tion ( ?is book is t ! attraction  
:i* exi/s betwe5 ! sexes is a "r &      
:olesome ?+1 & t ! way ( wisdom is to   
accept ! fact ( x q simply4 ,:5 t is    
done x is f\nd possible to let t mutual 
attraction issue 9 fri5d%ip & cam>ad]ie 
( a k9d t enri*es & dignifies life4  ,( 
c\rse all ?is is mu* easi] = girls :o h 
be5 br\ght up ) boys4 ,!y le>n to be at 
home ) ! o!r sex1 n to be fussy &       
fooli%1 & n to trade ^u _! sex4 ,b t    
sort ( relation%ip to m5 is also q      
possible ev5 = ^? :o 7 n br\ght up )    
boys1 & 9 ! atta9+ to x girls f9d _!    
real peace ( m9d4  ,i w\ld also l to put
 d[n "h "s ?\ghts ab\t beautiful girls4 
,a beautiful girl always makes me want  
to d two ?+s4 ,"o is to ?ank ,god = mak+
 s lovely a ?+1 & ! o!r is to say a     
pray] t %e may h special help giv5 h] = 

h] specially difficult lot4 ,= beauty is
 bo? a v great gift & a v h>d ?+ to     
h&le4 ,"s ( y mu/ "k t y are beautiful1 
& y are sure to f9d ! fact excit+1      
delightful1 & yet emb>rass+4 ,y h great 
p[]s--p[]s ov] o!r wom5 & ov] *ildr5 9  
"p--& v great p[]s ov] m54 ,y c1 if y w1
 use t p[] to induce m5 to make fools ( 
!mselves4 ,y c let y\rselves slip into !
 habit ( liv+ on admiration & fe$+ on ! 
pleasure x gives y4 ,y c exploit y\r    
beauty to w9 ?r\gh x ?+s y d n really   
des]ve4 ,p w =give mu* to a beautiful   
woman1 & y c trade on t fact4 ,y c get a
 great deal ( y\r own way if y ma/] !   
art ( be+ *>m+ z well z beautiful2 & y c
 9 t way use y\r beauty to y\r own      
undo+1 & make x p>tly a curse to o!rs4  
,9 fact y are c]ta9 to h to face _m     
temptations :i* ! majority ( wom5       
escape4 ,t is ! h>d "p ( y\r lot4 ,all  
:o und]/& "k q well t life _c b be m    
complicat$ = y ?an = mo/1 & y h a v     
great claim on _! sympa?y4 ,b ! way to  
avoid y\r dang]s is n to pret5d to      

y\rself t y are n beautiful4 ,pret5ce   
nev] helps u4 ,! way is to face ! fact (
 y\r beauty1 realize t y did n create x1
 & !re=e ne$ n be va9 ab\t x1 & !n g on 
to decide :at use y are go+ to make ( ! 
p[] x gives y4 ,x c be us$ =            
,god--o!rwise ,he w\ld n h giv5 x4 ,x c 
be turn$ into influ5ce ( a v wond]ful   
k9d4 ,if y c induce m5 to make fools (  
!mselves1 y c also draw out all t is be/
 9 !m1 & inspire !m = f9e liv+4 ,9 pla9 
,engli%1 :5 a beautiful woman is also a 
good woman %e is "o ( ! greate/ boons to
 mank9d4 ,%e c give great pleasure to   
o!rs--b %e c d m1 %e c /ir ! lat5t      
idealism 9 m5 & wom5 9 wond]ful ways4   
,%e c move ?r\gh ! _w z a s\rce (       
graci\s1 k9dly1 & brac+ influ5ce4 ,(    
c\rse1 once aga91 ! ess5tial secret is  
to ?9k ( giv+ & n ( gett+1 to get self  
into ! backgr\nd & live = love &        
s]vice--to employ y\r great gift = !    
sake ( ! giv] ( x4 ,i suspect t x mu/   
ne$ a great deal ( self-discipl9e--     
p]haps m ?an a man c und]/&4 ,i am sure 

x mu/ ne$ a great deal ( pray]4 ,b x has
 be5 done1 & c be done aga94  ,& t leads
 me naturally to ! la/ ?+ ,i want to say
 9 ?is *apt]4 ,i h already said 9 !     
*apt] specially address$ to m5 t ! great
 help = ! difficult e>ly days ( life is 
to be f\nd 9 religion4 ,footnote3 ,cp4  
p4 #hj;ff4 ,& ( c\rse t is equally true 
= girls4  ,religion means hav+ a great &
 wor?y int]e/ at ! c5t] ( our lives1 :i*
 gives mean+ to ! :ole ( !m4 ,be+       
religi\s means t ! ess5tial & et]nal "p 
( u is com+ into life1 & x almo/        
necess>ily foll[s !n t ! o!r p>ts ( our 
p]sonalities slip into _! prop] places4 
,x means hav+ an object = our affections
 m ?an wor?y ( all our deepe/ emotions1 
& m ?an able to fill our empty he>ts4   
,religion 9 ! e>ly days ( life is       
g5]ally v emotional4 ,i believe t t is  
p]fectly "r & natural1 provid$ we also  
make ef=ts to be s9c]e & to love ! tru?4
 ,because x is emotional1 its value z an
 outlet = feel+ is v great4 ,x does n   
rema9 at its fir/ emotional level4 ,lat]

 on !re comes an inevitable *ange :5 _m 
?9k1 q wrongly1 t !y are los+ _!        
religion4 ,b at ! /age ,i am ?9k+ (     
religion naturally & normally expresses 
itself 9 int5se feel+4 ,we are all h]o  
wor%ipp]s at t /age ( life4 ,h]o        
wor%ipp+1 h[ev]1 is apt to get u into   
tr\ble1 = our h]oes fail u 9 "t4 ,! "o  
p]fect h]o :o nev] fails u is ,*ri/4 ,he
 alone nev] disappo9ts1 & to love ,him  
is to h all ! nobl] *ords 9 our be+s set
 9 motion4 ,we are sure to despair ( ev]
 becom+ wor?y ( ,him4 ,b no lead] ( m5 0
 ev] s will+ to take u z we are & make !
 be/ ( u4 ,to be ne> ,him may mean be+  
made to feel deeply a%am$4 ,9 ,8 pres5ce
 we are sure to feel small & mean4 ,b t 
also is a good ?+1 & 9 spite ( x ,he    
loves u4 ,9 o!r directions we seek )    
long+ to f9d love1 & (t5 fail4 ,) ,him  
we may be q sure ( f9d+ love4 ,& ,he    
goes on lov+ to ! end4  ,be+ lov$ by    
,him does at la/ draw out ! be/ 9 u4    
,inevitably we beg9 to want to be m     
wor?y--to s]ve & love o!rs = ,8 sake--to

 "k & love ! tru?--to f9d & wor%ip      
beauty4 ,& t means hav+ a life full (   
spl5did & wor?y int]e/s4  ,emotional    
muddles may 9 fact be ! lot ( mo/ ( u = 
a :ile4 ,b if at ! c5t] ( !m all !re is 
an hone/ love = ,*ri/1 !y _c ov]:elm u2 
& 9 ! long run we are sure to em]ge into
 ! life t has bo? peace & p[] 9 x4      
,,*apt] ,,ix   ,,involunt>y ,,celibacy  
,mod]n ,engl& has = _m g5]ations be5 a  
place s unheal?y = ! "y t a va/ problem 
has gr[n up 9 our mid/ :i* s]i\sly      
di/urbs ! normal adju/m5t ( sex         
relation%ips4 ,x w\ld seem to h be5     
,nature's int5tion t !re %\ld be        
slightly m m5 ?an wom5 9 ! _w1 = boy    
babies outnumb] girl babies ,footnote3  
,! actual figures are #ajeb boy babies  
to #ajjj girl babies4 ,:at x w\ld mean  
if !re 7 m adult m5 ?an wom5 9 ! _w x is
 h>d to imag9e4 ,x w\ld at once h       
enorm\s social consequ5ces4 ,no woman   
w\ld rema9 a celibate except by h] own  
*oice4 ,m5 w\ld h to behave !mselves 9  
ord] to w9 wives1 & w\ld cease to occupy

 ! demoraliz+ position ( be+ able to get
 wives :5ev] !y want !m4 ,x w\ld 9 fact 
mean a new _w 9 _m ways4  ,z ?+s are1   
h[ev]1 ! unheal?y conditions ( mod]n    
life produce a great] mortality among   
boy babies ?an among girl babies1 &     
males come to be 9 a m9ority4 ,?is /ate 
( affairs has be5 greatly aggravat$ by !
 w>1 b x 0 s]i\s ev5 be=e #aiad4 ,x 0 !n
 ! case t ! wom5 outnumb]$ ! m5 by ab\t 
a million4 ,! numb] mu/ be ne>] a       
million & a half to-day4  ,! result is t
 ov] a million wom5 h to face ! prospect
 ( a life 9 :i* _! mo/ deeply implant$  
in/9cts--! in/9cts = wifehood &         
mo!rhood--_c f9d _! normal satisfaction1
 & ! problem ?us creat$ is "o ( ! mo/   
difficult 9 ! :ole ( life4 ,x is1 (     
c\rse1 no?+ less ?an insult+ nons5se to 
talk ab\t ^! wom5 z sup]flu\s wom54     
,beh9d ! v phrase !re lurks ! old       
delusion t wom5 are only ne$$ 9 ! _w z  
wives & mo!rs4 ,z a matt] ( fact a great
 deal ( ! "w t is mo/ ne$$ 9 our        
civilization--"w 9 education1 art1      

lit]ature1 nurs+1 social s]vice1 & o!r  
dep>tm5ts ( life--is be+ done by ^!     
wom54  ,b :ile t is true x is also true 
t ! p]sonal life ( ! unm>ri$ woman      
pres5ts acute problems ( a mo/ intricate
 k9d4 ,probably only a woman c truly    
und]/& ^? problems or ju/ly e/imate _!  
urg5cy1 b no man ) any insight or       
sympa?y c fail to "k t ! lot ( ! unm>ri$
 woman involves secret /resses1         
unsatisfi$ ye>n+s1 & sometimes h\rs (   
d>k depression4 ,%e may be unm>ri$      
because %e has p]si/5tly refus$ to try  
to be satisfi$ ) any second be/4 ,z a   
witty woman fri5d ( m9e once put x1 %e  
may be unm>ri$ because ! atta9able 0 n  
desirable & ! desirable 0 n atta9able4  
,%e may be unm>ri$ because a v true lov]
 ( e>ly days w5t on be=e1 & %e has nev] 
felt able to put anyone else 9 8 place4 
,or %e may h lov$ truly "s man :o lov$  
ano!r4 ,or no?+ may ev] h happ5$ to     
awak5 consci\s love 9 h]1 9 :i* case x  
is /ill possible t h] nature may cry out
 at times = ! satisfaction ( its prim>y 

ne$s4 ,& :ile all ?is is true1 %e is    
conv5tionally suppos$ nev] to %[ by any 
sign t %e w\ld h lik$ to be m>ri$4      
,h[ev] mu* %e may suff] x is held       
unseemly = h] to %[ t %e suff]s1 or to  
ask = sympa?y4 ,%e is (t51 & ,i ?9k q   
indef5sibly1 d5i$ by social conv5tion ! 
/imulus ( any really intimate fri5d%ips 
) m54 ,%e is made ! subject ( unc\nt$   
?ird-rate jokes4 ,& if1 z life goes on1 
%e develops peculi>ities ( mann] or     
asp]ities ( temp]--if %e beg9s to lose  
vitality & grace1 ^! ?+s are not$ )     
contempt by p :o little imag9e h[ mu*   
real h]oism may lie conceal$ 9 ! object 
( _! scorn4 ,i believe1 h[ev]1 t ,i     
speak = a v l>ge numb] ( m5 :5 ,i       
confess t no?+ k9dles 9 me q ! same     
flame ( res5tm5t at ?+s z !y are1 z j   
?is fact t s _m graci\s & k9dly wom51   
pla9ly made = mo!rhood & fitt$ = a f9e  
"p 9 life1 %\ld f9d !mselves held 9 !   
clut*es ( ?is insi/5t problem4  ,x may  
well help all su* to realize ! fact /at$
 above1 namely1 t ! problem is no "p ( !

 et]nal & design$ ord] ( ?+s1 b "o ( !  
results ( our social misbehavior4 ,9 a v
 real s5se ! wom5 :o suff] 9 ?is matt]  
suff] vic>i\sly = ! s9s ( all society4  
,x is n !y :o are guilty1 b all mank9d4 
,= all :o mean resolutely to face !     
problem & to w9 ?r\gh to victory1 x is  
fir/ ( all ess5tial t !y %\ld realize ! 
fact t _! acute depressions & _!        
re/lessness ( m9d h really a q          
well-def9$ physical & psy*ological      
cause4 ,some:]e betwe5 tw5ty-five &     
?irty-five ^! depressions (t5 become v  
acute1 s t ! :ole horizon ( life is     
d>k5$4 ,s5sitive wom5 (t5 torm5t        
!mselves by wond]+ :at !y h done t is   
wrong1 = ( c\rse all depression is apt  
to take ! =m ( a s5se ( wrongdo+4       
,fur!r1 at ?is p]iod ! religi\s         
s5sibilities ( _m seem to suff] eclipse4
 ,!y c no long] respond 9 feel+ to any (
 ! sublime religi\s tru?s4 ,!y f9d !y _c
 pray4 ,no?+ seems to matt]4 ,! memory (
 e>li] days :5 life seem$ bright &      
religi\s fai? 0 confid5t seems only to  

mock !m4 ,_m are beset by def9ite       
intellectual difficulties & s are tempt$
 to a g5]al cynicism4 ,envy ( o!rs w    
sugge/ itself1 & ?\gh x be /]nly        
repress$1 x /ill adds to ! g5]al /ra91  
:ile good advice f o!rs w seem j ! la/  
/raw :i* _c be borne4  ,b "o half ( ?is 
problem has disappe>$ at once = _m f !  
day :5 !y fac$ ! pla9 tru? t ! cause (  
tr\ble is physical4 ,physiological      
processes ) c]ta9 inevitable            
psy*ological accompanim5ts are at !     
bottom ( x4 ,because _! natures h n     
receiv$ _! natural fulfillm5t a         
complicat$ situation has aris5 :i* _c be
 easily liv$ ?r\gh1 ?\gh x may be 9 !   
end triumphantly controll$4 ,& if x     
helps ord9>y p to le>n t sometimes :5 !y
 seem to be suff]+ f a s5se ( s9 !y are 
really only be+ plagu$ by indige/ion1 x 
may v mu* m help wom5 9 ?is difficult   
p]iod to "k t !y are only go+ ?r\gh an  
inevitable physical readju/m5t4 ,:at is 
happ5+ is t sexual desire--x may be 9   
vague1 unconsci\s1 & v g5]al =ms--is    

ass]t+ itself4 ,no?+ c\ld be m absurd   
?an to sugge/ t !re is any?+ wrong or   
immode/ 9 t fact4 ,x is q inevitable4   
,inde$1 ! fir/ /ep out ( ! tr\ble lies 9
 accept+ ! fact & !n 9 consid]+ h[ x is 
to be dealt )4  ,:at is ! way out ( ?is 
difficult bit ( life8 ,all said t c be  
said ab\t ! physical & psy*ological     
causes1 a v real problem rema9s4 ,!re   
mu/ be a way ( meet+ x :i* ends 9       
complete victory1 = wom5 :o h come ?r\gh
 x victori\sly are to be f\nd on all    
h&s4 ,:at has be5 ! secret ( _! victory8
 ,i pref] to let a woman beg9 ! answ]4  
,i ?9k1 writes "o1 t ! only possible ?+ 
= su* wom5 to d is to h _! eyes fix$ on 
,god1 & to "k t 9 "s my/]i\s & wond]ful 
way ,he und]/&s & meets all our ne$s4 ,i
 ?9k x ne$s a def9ite act--( our wills1 
our intellects1 & our emotions--an act (
 consecration & self-(f]+ to ,god1 &    
until t is done !re w be no peace4 ,&   
!n1 aft] express+ h] conviction z to !  
insuffici5cy ( ! policy ( m]e           
sublimation %e cont9ues1 ,i really      

believe t = wom5 a real act ( surr5d]--a
 joyful (f]+ to ,god--is ! only way4  ,i
 am sure ! ultimate wisdom ab\t ?is :ole
 matt] is conta9$ 9 ^? s5t5ces1 & ,i am 
sure because !re are num]\s o!r         
dep>tm5ts ( life 9 :i* simil> problems  
assail bo? m5 & wom51 & 9 relation to   
:i* ! way ( self-surr5d] is ! only      
possible way to life4  ,aft] all1 x is n
 only unm>ri$ wom5 :o h to face !       
exp]i5ce ( want+ passionately some?+ :i*
 !y _c h4 ,9 v>i\s =ms t *all5ge comes  
to mo/ m5 & wom5 :e!r m>ri$ or n4 ,our  
desires dem& "o ?+1 & life ) its imp]i\s
 au?ority (f]s some?+ diff]5t2 & x is   
p]haps 9 t way t mo/ ( u come to !      
crisis ( our lives4 ,x is easy to break 
oneself aga9/ a situation ( t sort4 ,x  
is easy to spoil life completely by an  
ob/9ate conc5tration on ! object t is   
be+ )held--to lose life by insi/+ on    
f9d+ x 9 "o's own *os5 way4 ,m5 & wom5  
alike make %ipwreck ( _! lives 9 t way e
 ye>4  ,b !re is ano!r way4 ,our real   
life is life 9 ,god1 & ! way into x is  

always ! way ( surr5d]4 ,to say ) utt]  
s9c]ity & abs5ce ( self-w1 ,"l1 :at wilt
 ,?\ h me to d8 is to beg9 to f9d       
deliv]ance at once4 ,we c\ld n & %\ld n 
surr5d] ?us to anybody else4 ,he alone  
p]fectly und]/&s4 ,b :5 we h put        
ourselves into ,8 h&s )\t res]ve1       
imm$iately life beg9s to arrange itself4
 ,) su* surr5d] !re comes a peace :i*   
no?+ else c br+4 ,i say x ) acute       
sympa?y = all /rong-will$1 high-spirit$ 
p1 = :om surr5d] is v difficult4 ,b ,i  
say x ) an assurance t is bas$ ^u !     
unanim\s v]dict ( ! s\ls ( all hi/ory :o
 h f\nd life4 ,i h le>n$1 said "o mu*   
h>ass$ & p]secut$ man1 9 :atsoev] /ate  
,i am !re9 to be cont5t4 ,he 0 cont5t   
because 9 :atsoev] /ate he might be he 0
 always 9 ! fell[%ip ( ,god1 & !re=e 9  
enjoym5t ( 8 ess5tial life4 ,he knew    
himself secure :atev] life might br+1 & 
ev5 ?\gh life itself %\ld end4 ,he 0    
inw>dly 9 a /ate ( pr(\nd peace &       
spiritual fre$om1 & t is :y all !       
graci\s p[]s ( 8 humanity 7 able to f9d 

free & beautiful expression4  ,s x mu/  
be ) all ( u4 ,we f9d our real life1 &  
we become ma/]s or mi/resses 9 life only
 :5 we h giv5 9 & all[$ ! love ( ,god to
 direct & su/a9 u4 ,= ! p>ticul> problem
 dealt ) 9 ?is *apt] & = all o!r pa9ful 
& press+ problems ( life1 ! way (       
victory is to seek & f9d ! life t is hid
 ) ,*ri/ 9 ,god4         99       99    
99       99       99  ,no d\bt at ?is   
po9t two que/ions w arise 9 ! m9ds ( "s4
 ,fir/ly1 "s w want to say1 ,all t is v 
well = ^? :o are religi\s1 b h[ ab\t ! p
 :o are n religi\s8 ,i h no answ] to t  
"q1 because ,i believe !re is none4     
,religion is n a sort ( hobby t j seems 
to suit c]ta9 peculi> p4 ,x is a prime  
necessity = all ( u4 ,9 a great _m o!r  
connections x becomes increas+ly pla9 to
 all :o h eyes to see t !re is no       
solution = ! problem ( life except ! "o 
:i* ,god ,himself (f]s to all seek+     
s\ls4 ,we may refuse to seek ,him1 b 9 s
 do+ we close ! prison doors aga9/      
ourselves4 ,i am n surpris$ t 9 /udy+ ! 

problems ( sex ,i f9d no answ] to ! mo/ 
acute ( !m ap>t f religion4 ,t is :at ,i
 %\ld expect4 ,is x likely t m5 & wom5  
:o 7 made = ,god %\ld ev] f9d any la/+  
satisfaction or any way to victory 9    
life ap>t f ,him8 ,& inde$1 9 ! p>ticul>
 connection ,i am n[ writ+ ab\t1 x is ! 
fact t n a few wom5 h liv$ to be almo/  
?ankful = ! problem ( involunt>y        
celibacy t once confront$ !m 9 s m5ac+ a
 way4 ,x ?rew !m back on ,god1 & _!     
exp]i5ce ( ,him has be5 s ri* t !y are  
?ankful = ! compulsion t drove !m into  
,8 fell[%ip4  ,!re is no my/]i\s hung] 9
 ! inn] life ( any woman--no re/less    
long+ ev] torm5ts h]--no pa9ful /resses 
ev] make h] life seem difficult--no we>y
 lonel9ess ev] makes ! _w seem desolate1
 b ,he und]/&s--p]fectly & utt]ly4 ,& if
 x be love t a woman longs =1 !re is no 
love l unto ,8 love--p]fect 9 t5d]ness1 
9 und]/&+ & 9 p[]4 ,yes1 ,god ,himself  
is ! f9al answ] to ! problem ( all lives
 t "h seem to be unfulfill$1 :e!r !y be 
lives ( m5 or wom54  ,! o!r "q t w be   

rais$ w be put 9 ^! words3 ,y h said t 9
 ! d>k h\rs t come to s _m wom5 religi\s
 feel+ seems to be susp5d$1 & yet y g on
 to say t ! way ( escape lies 9         
religion1 ,i "k t :at ,i h writt5 may   
seem = ?is reason utt]ly tantaliz+ to   
"s4 ,i "k t 9 g5]al x is 9 times :5 we  
mo/ ne$ religion t x is apt to seem mo/ 
remote f u4 ,mo/ ( u h be5 9 t dilemma4 
,b !re is a way out4 ,x consi/s p>tly 9 
rememb]+ t religion is n only a matt] ( 
feel+1 & t :5 feel+ fails u ! m9d & w   
rema94 ,b x consi/s /ill m 9 rememb]+ t 
religion is n s mu* our affair z ,god's4
 ,god does n only answ] ! pray]s ( p :o 
are feel+ religi\s4 ,if religion be :at 
! exp]i5ce ( ?\s&s decl>es x is1 !n we h
 reason to expect t our seek+ ( ,god w h
 results ev5 :5 our emotions seem dead4 
,we c at lea/ direct our ?\ght life4 ,we
 c set ourselves t[>ds ,him by !        
delib]ate direction ( att5tion4 ,we c   
?9k ! true & "r ?\ghts4 ,& 9 t way a    
religion beg9s to come into life t is   
t5fold m abid+ & su/a9+ ?an any religion

 t is a m]e matt] ( feel+4 ,x may ne$   
rigid self-discipl9e & really h>d "w ?us
 to direct att5tion & atta9 to a        
regulat$ ?\ght life4 ,b !n1 ,i am n     
sugge/+ t !re is an easy way ?r\gh ?is  
problem4 ,!re is a way1 & a way t leads 
to real victory2 b x is no m easy ?an   
any o!r pa? t leads to a great goal4  ,i
 %\ld l fur!r to draw on ! exp]i5ce (   
wom5 !mselves to add "s additional      
sugge/ions born ( common s5se &         
exp]im5t4 ,a v wise woman once suppli$  
?r\gh me "s h9ts to "o :o 0 go+ ?r\gh   
?is difficult p]iod1 & ,i am sure h]    
h9ts are wor? pass+ on to o!rs4 ,%e     
insi/$ t no woman at ?is /age %\ld      
attempt to live alone4 ,heal?y fri5d%ip 
) o!r wom5 is "o ( ! greate/ possible   
helps to success4 ,z ,i h not$ 9 a      
previ\s *apt]1 !re is a dang] t lurks n 
f> away 9 ?is connection4 ,b too mu* _c 
be said ( ! helpful & brac+ influ5ce (  
fri5d%ips t are kept really heal?y4 ,!n1
 x is a mi/ake = wom5 to live 9         
in/itutions :5 t c be avoid$4 ,x really 

helps to h "s room or rooms 9 ! c>e (   
:i* ! home-mak+ in/9ct c f9d expression1
 & :i* may ?us become a means to        
self-expression4 ,m important /ill1 my  
fri5d insi/$ t x is bett] at ?is p]iod  
to "w ) p ?an ) ?+s4 ,o!r p always t5d  
to draw u out ( ourselves1 if we w all[ 
t to happ54 ,!y make dem&s on our       
affections4 ,!y keep u 9 t\* ) real life
 & its va/ v>iety ( emotions & int]e/s4 
,!y make self-=getfulness possible4     
,fur!r1 x is important = su* wom5--z    
important z = all o!r p--to le>n ! tru? 
t ! way to w9 love is to give x4 ,:5 p  
suff] tortures ( lonel9ess x is         
ess5tially lonel9ess ( he>t4 ,l all o!r 
normal p]sons !y long to be lov$4 ,b    
no?+ is m futile 9 su* a situation ?an  
simply to sit d[n & wait = someone to   
come along & love u4 ,t way lies        
despair4 ,:at we c d is to awak5 to !   
fact t all ar\nd u are p :o also long to
 be lov$1 & t we h love to give !m if we
 w b be g5]\s4 ,!y may n seem v         
attractive p1 b 9 t case !y only ne$ our

 love ! m4 ,is x n be+ lov$ t makes p   
lovely6 ,& :5 wom5 r\se !mselves to use 
_! own love g5]\sly = o!rs1 !y          
beg9--always--to f9d ! doors (          
deliv]ance op5+4  ,a fur!r v great /ep w
 h be5 tak5 :5 x is realiz$ t ! life =ce
 :i* is n go+ to h its normal & natural 
outlet ne$ n on t acc\nt be wa/$4 ,x c  
be direct$ to o!r ends ) enorm\s b5efit 
to ! _w4 ,i _c hope to say any?+ on ?is 
po9t "o-half s adequate or s helpful z !
 *apt] ,miss ,royd5 has already writt5 9
 ,sex & ,common ,s5se4 ,out ( ! fullness
 ( k %e has ga9$ by an amaz+ly s5sitive 
sympa?y %e has !re writt5 ! be/ acc\nt  
,i h ev] se5 ( h[ ?w>t$ sex emotion c be
 sublimat$ to o!r ends1 & made an       
imm5sely effective =ce = ! progress ( ! 
race4 ,9 bo? m5 & wom5 sexuality is j   
life =ce4 ,if ! natural me?od (         
expression be d5i$ to x1 x w /ill seek  
out ways 9 :i* to express itself4 ,if x 
has be5 m]ely repress$ unwill+ly &      
incompletely ! results1 z ! psy*ologi/s 
are tell+ u1 are apt to be disa/r\s4 ,b 

if ! situation is op5ly fac$1 & hone/ly 
accept$--if a consci\s surr5d] ( !      
normal sex c>e] be a*iev$--!n x is      
possible to utilize ! life =ce t spr+s f
 our sex natures = great physical1      
m5tal1 or emotional activities1 & t )\t 
any ( ! evil results t foll[ f m]e      
repression4 ,9 fact by liv+ an abundant 
life 9 natural1 useful1 & absorb+ ways !
 problem becomes capable ( a truly happy
 solution4  ,i h writt5 ! ^w happy      
delib]ately4 ,b ,i am n sure t at fir/  
?is way out w seem happy4 ,useful x     
c]ta9ly w be1 b all said & done ,i fancy
 t "s residue ( regret w be apt to      
rema91 & t because ( x wom5 w be tempt$ 
to indulge 9 self-pity4 ,& self-pity bo?
 = m5 & wom5 is ! mo/ en]vat+ ( all     
emotional luxuries4 ,!re=e1 ,i wi% to   
ins]t "h a ^w ( grateful te/imony4 ,if !
 sublimation ( sex in/9ct seems to "s   
wom5 a poor & pale sub/itute = ! normal 
c>e] ( m>riage & mo!rhood1 ,i am at lea/
 sure t = society at l>ge x is a v      
bless$ sub/itute4 ,my *ief exp]i5ce (   

life has be5 9 ^? places call$ slums1   
:]e life is always se5 9 its mo/ drab & 
pitiful guise1 & ,i c speak ) c]ta9ty   
ab\t ?is problem 9 relation to !m4 ,9 ! 
di/ricts 9 :i* ,i h work$ !re h always  
be5 at lea/ a few unm>ri$ wom5 :o 7     
sp5d+ ) lavi% g5]osity _! :ole life =ce 
9 practical s]vice & sympa?y = ne$y     
*ildr51 h>ass$ mo!rs1 wayw>d m51 & !    
suff]]s ( ! di/rict 9 g5]al4 ,no memb]s 
( ! human race are liv+ any:]e ) great] 
effect4 ,no o!r wom5 are call$ bless$ ) 
great] s9c]ity4 ,half a doz5 9 p>ticul> 
,i c ?9k ( :o 9 ?is way h done m = !    
r$emption ( society 9 su* places ?an a  
score ( happily m>ri$ mo!rs c\ld h      
accompli%$4 ,i d n "k :e!r !y feel t !  
sublimation ( _! in/9cts has be5 a      
complete success1 b ,i d "k t hundr$s ( 
grateful p h no d\bt ab\t x :atev]4 ,!  
:ole _w 9 its mod]n guise is cry+ out = 
su* s]vices z wom5 alone c r5d]1 & if1  
on ! "o h&1 wom5 are ! *ief suff]]s     
?r\gh ! confusions ( human affairs1 !y h
 at lea/ a wond]ful *ance ( f9d+ &      

apply+ ! rem$y4 ,! _w c nev] make good  
to !m ! wrong x has done !m2 yet !y may1
 if !y w1 put ! _w inexpressibly 9 _!   
debt4 ,no d\bt mank9d does n des]ve x1 b
 ! "o p]fect lov] 9 hi/ory 0 will+ to   
die = an undes]v+ _w4 ,x c nev] be o!r  
?an a great call+ to foll[ :]e ,he leads
 ! way4  ,a woman ( great exp]i5ce tells
 me t "h ,i ought to sugge/ t 9 t       
m9ority ( cases :]e x is possible1 an   
unm>ri$ woman may ) great advantage     
adopt a *ild4 ,!re are _m *ildr5 9 ! _w 
to-day )\t p>5ts1 & ^! *ildr5 h a       
greatly less5$ *ance ( life4 ,b :5 "o ( 
^! *ildr5 is adopt$ 9 ! way sugge/$ a   
great b5efit is br\ght fir/ly to ! *ild1
 secondly to society1 & ?irdly to !     
woman h]self1 :o ?us acquires a wor?y   
object = all ! passionate devotion %e   
possesses4 ,hav+ kn[n ?is plan adopt$ 9 
sev]al in/ances1 ,i h wond]$ :y x is n m
 common1 at lea/ :5 f9ancial            
consid]ations make x a possibility4  ,no
 d\bt to take ?is c\rse or any ( ! o!r  
c\rses "h sugge/$ w ne$ c\rage4 ,b all  

successful ways ( life ne$ c\rage4 ,life
 itself is a *all5g+ summons to c\rage4 
,!re is no happy way ?r\gh = ^? :o sit  
d[n 9 fe> or :o give 9 to _! own        
di/resses4 ,fate is a tyrant only to ^? 
:o w n face him ) _s4 ,a full & satisfy+
 life has to be snat*$ f "u ! enemy's   
guns1 b x c be s snat*$4 ,nei!r m5 nor  
wom5 ne$ give 9 ?\gh (t5 defeat$4       
,unconqu]+ b unconqu]$ may be ! be/     
motto t we c hope to des]ve1 b = all ^? 
:o inscribe x on _! bann]s a /range     
happ9ess does creep into ! s\l4         
,,*apt] ,x   ,,! ,,art ,,( ,,be+ ,,m>ri$
   ,i   ,,h\sehold ,,h>mony   ,i h !    
greate/ sympa?y ) m>ri$ c\ples :o nev]  
read any books or pamphlets conta9+     
advice to m>ri$ p1 & are det]m9$ t !y   
nev] w4 ,once a man & a woman h left _! 
respective homes & set up 9 "o ( _! own 
_! common life is s entirely _! own     
affair1 & !y h su* a cle> "r to res5t   
all intrusions into x1 t ! policy (     
reject+ all advice be=eh& has cle>ly    
some?+ to be said = x4  ,& yet1 because 

no "o ne$ read ?is *apt] unless he or %e
 likes1 ,i put x 92 & if any wife or    
husb& does read x1 ,i hope t 9 t case   
bo? husb& & wife w d s4 ,i really write 
x n s mu* = ^? :o are already m>ri$1 z =
 ^? /ill unm>ri$4 ,x matt]s s mu*--s v v
 mu*--) :at preconceptions & assumptions
 we approa* w$d$ life4  ,( c\rse ,"m    
,nature tea*es ! great art ( liv+ 9 !   
m>ri$ /ate to ?\s&s4 ,two s5sible p     
end[$ ) "s pati5ce1 "s common s5se1 & a 
great deal ( affection h e "r to expect 
t )\t mu* difficulty !y w f9d = !mselves
 ! "r way 9 m>riage4 ,unc\nt$ c\ples :o 
read no books & nev] he>d ( psy*ology h 
made a lifelong success ( x simply by   
be+ natural1 brave1 unselfi%1 & really  
lov+4 ,_m su* simply wond] :5 !y he>    
o!rs talk ab\t ! difficulties1 dang]s1 &
 pa9ful exp]i5ces connect$ ) m>riage4   
,!y nev] f\nd ^! ?+s 9 _! m>riages4 ,!  
la/ ?+ ,i w\ld l to sugge/ to ! "y is t 
!y ne$ be afraid4 ,p]sonally ,i agree ) 
! man :o said t on 8 w$d+ day he _h     
ent]$ a new & spl5did c\ntry = :i* he   

felt q unwor?y & t he _h nev] s9ce ceas$
 to wond] & ?ank ,god = its beauties1   
its int]e/s1 & its delights4  ,yet !re  
are o!r c\ples--c\ples :o h made        
mi/akes1 & n[ talk r bitt]ly ab\t       
m>riage2 & x is because ,i believe t ev5
 a little m k & a little m pati5ce might
 h prev5t$ ^? mi/akes t ,i (f] ! foll[+ 
pages ) my congratulations & good wi%es 
to all :o are ab\t to m>ry4  ,!re are no
 absolute rules = ! conduct ( m>ri$     
life4 ,!re are only tru?s to be         
recogniz$4 ,we are all apt at times to  
wi% = absolute rules4 ,we ?9k !y w\ld   
make life easi]4 ,we ev5 wi% sometimes t
 ,jesus _h giv5 u absolute rules & n    
simply pr9ciples4 ,b 9 fact rules always
 turn out to be gall+ ?+s4 ,!y are n =  
free p]sonalities :o diff] enorm\sly 9  
con/itution & temp]am5t4 ,! "r way = ,a 
& ,b might prove to be j ! wrong way =  
,c & ,d4 ,! problem is "o :i* has to be 
work$ out by ea* c\ple afre%4 ,x is a   
problem ( mutual accommodation betwe5   
two p]sons ea* ( :om is an orig9al      

creation ( ,god4 ,x is ! problem ( tak+ 
two diff]5t life !mes & work+ !m into "o
 h>mony4  ,nor d ,i ?9k t we a*ieve mu* 
by ?9k+ or speak+ ( rights 9 ?is        
connection--ab\t 8 "r to rule "h1 & h]  
"r to be consid]$ !re4 ,no d\bt husb&s &
 wives h rights-- inali5able & augu/    
rights4 ,b m>ri$ life is "p ( love's    
doma91 & 9 t region ! language ( ! law  
c\rts is out ( place4 ,:5 ei!r ( ! two  
beg9s to ?9k ab\t en=c+ or claim+ rights
 some?+ has already gone wrong4  ,& ?is 
,i ?9k is *iefly a po9t = m5 to consid]4
 ,! conception ( a husb& z a sort ( ,cz>
 )9 8 own home /ill l+]s1 ?\gh x may n  
be op5ly proclaim$4 ,m5 /ill gr[ up ) ! 
idea t a wife %\ld be a sort (          
submissive & v *>m+ slave1 honor$ by    
occasional demon/rations ( affection1 & 
t ! :ole h\sehold %\ld be ord]$ to suit 
8 lord%ip's conv5i5ce4 ,su* m5 w protect
 _! wives1 give !m money1 make love to  
!m1 humor !m1 & honor !m 9 public2 & 9  
return w expect some?+ little %ort ( %e]
 submission4 ,beh9d all ?is lurks !     

half-consci\s idea t woman is man's     
inf]ior1 & t idea really does rema9     
hidd5 ev5 9 ! m9ds ( "s :o w\ld         
repudiate x4 ,! fact is t ! ultimate    
value ( m>riage--! ?+ t makes x good    
fun1 z well z a noble ?+--lies 9 ! fact 
t m5 & wom5 are s diff]5t2 t !y h n !   
same p[]s1 & c alt]nately take ! lead 9 
_! common life4 ,x is comrade%ip1 & n   
m]e occasional love-mak+1 t !y mu/      
a*ieve 9 ord] to be p]man5tly happy1 &  
comrade%ip is a relation 9 :i* ea* mu/  
be free to be 8 or h] natural self4     
,m>riage c be made a cramp+ ?+1 & !n 9  
"t x becomes almo/ an insuff]able ?+4 ,b
 if ea* w give ! o!r room to gr[ x c be 
an enl>g+ exp]i5ce4 ,x may conta9 ! sum 
( ! int]e/s ( two diff]5t p4 ,if mutual 
le>n+ is br\ght into x1 x dignifies !   
lives ( bo?4 ,i believe 9 ob$i5t wives4 
,b !n ,i also believe 9 ob$i5t husb&s4  
,if ,i did n foll[ my wife's lead 9 "s  
dep>tm5ts ( life1 ,i %\ld be nei!r m nor
 less ?an a fool4 ,& ,i believe t %e is 
q wise to foll[ my lead 9 "s o!r        

connections4  ,:at all ?is really po9ts 
to is t ! elem5t ( lib]ty is wor?       
cons]v+ )9 m>riage ) v great c>e4 ,:5 a 
wife has no private means x is an       
ess5tial ?+ = ! husb& to give h]        
regul>ly a /at$ all[ance & to ask no    
que/ions z to h[ x is sp5t4 ,x is a good
 ?+--a v good ?+--to make c]ta9 t1 if   
possible1 a wife has a holiday n[ & !n f
 ! heavy bondage ( h\sekeep+4 ,x is ev5 
a good ?+ t %e %\ld h a holiday n[ & !n 
f ! *>ms & joys ( family life4 ,= we m5 
are v l *ildr5 9 ! way we come to dep5d 
on our wives4 ,all our little woes mu/  
be br\ght to !m--f buttonless %irts to !
 pitiful tale ( our la/ defeat at golf4 
,! *ildr5 consult !m daily ab\t a hundr$
 ?+s z ( "r1 & _! husb&s mu/ (t5 seem to
 !m ! bigge/ bairns ( ! lot4 ,i q see :y
 wom5 l x4 ,b x mu/ get v we>+ at times4
 ,x surely is a good ?+ t n[ & !n a wife
 %\ld turn h] back on x all1 meet old   
fri5ds1 h days 9 :i* to enjoy h]self )\t
 any bo!rs1 & ev5 = a few h\rs =get h]  
exact+ if *>m+ dep5d5ts4  ,x is equally 

important n to =get a husb&'s lib]ty4   
,no d\bt a great deal ( cruelty lies to 
! *>ge ( husb&s :o are out night aft]   
night1 leav+ _! wives--already we>y aft]
 a day's heavy "w--to sit bor$ & alone1 
:ile !y enjoy ! company ( _! male       
fri5ds1 or hunt aft] _! favorite        
pleasures4 ,x is q "r t wives %\ld      
refuse to tol]ate su* treatm5t4 ,b !    
entire rev]sal ( t policy is apt to "w  
badly also4 ,a husb& %\ld n drop all !  
mascul9e int]e/s ( 8 life1 nor give up 8
 old fri5ds1 nor resign f all !         
responsibilities t w take him sometimes 
out at nights4 ,& a wise wife w n all[  
him to d x4 ,some:]e betwe5 ! two       
extremes ,i h indicat$ lies ! wise pa? 9
 ?is connection4  ,!n is x n "t t       
somebody boldly said t husb&s ought to d
 "s ( ! h\sework8 ,i h no "t to discuss 
! e?ical problem rais$ by ! h\seholds   
:]e paid s]vants d x all4 ,!y are a v   
small m9ority ( mod]n h\seholds1 & 9 all
 ! re/ ! wives d a great deal ( !       
h\sework--g5]ally all ( x4 ,"s ( x is   

heavy muscul> "w1 su* z c>ry+ coals or  
mov+ furniture4 ,! re/ makes up an      
employm5t :i* is m con/ant1 ne$s m      
bra9s1 & calls = m adm9i/rative capacity
 ?an any man c imag9e till he has tri$  
to d x4 ,( c\rse m5 say !y _c d su* "w4 
,:i* is pla9 rubbi%4 ,x only means t !y 
d n l do+ x4 ,nei!r d _m wom54 ,& m5 c d
 mo/ ( x p]fectly well if !y w only take
 ! tr\ble to le>n h[ x is done4 ,i d n  
mean t ,i propose = m5 su* jobs z mat*+ 
wools1 or mak+ babies' clo!s1 or arrang+
 ! draw+-room4 ,!re are limits to our   
p[]s4 ,b ,i d s]i\sly mean t sett+      
fires1 clean+ grates1 c>ry+ coals1 mak+ 
b$s1 wa%+ di%es1 cook+1 scrubb+ floors1 
clean+ brass & silv]1 etc41 etc4 are ?+s
 :i* ! av]age man c d q z well z !      
av]age woman4 ,:y !n %\ld !y all be pil$
 ^u ! we>y back ( ! woman8 ,because1 y  
probably say1 ! man mu/ hurry (f to     
bus9ess 9 ! morn+1 & comes home too tir$
 at night4 ,yes6 mo/ ( u really believ$ 
all t be=e ! w>1 & !n we began to make  
discov]ies4 ,"o 0 t !re c be a lot ( "t 

be=e a man goes (f to bus9ess1 & ano!r 0
 t ! man is n m tir$ by #f4cj p4m4 ?an !
 woman1 & c d a lot ( useful ?+s if he  
has ! w4 ,& ,i urge ?is po9t n only     
because x is 9 ! cle>e/ s5se only fair1 
b because until a man does 9 ?is way    
take 8 %>e ( ! home burd5 he _c und]/& 8
 wife's life1 & _c give h] intellig5t   
sympa?y4  ,! in/9ctive male attitude to 
h\sehold details is (t5 express$ 9 !    
phrase t !y are bally nons5se1 or some?+
 else equally picturesque4 ,b :5 a      
little exp]i5ce has taught a man h[ v   
uncom=table he w\ld be if ! details 7 n 
"r1 he is =?) able to be a mu* m        
intellig5t fri5d to 8 wife4 ,i d n ?9k  
fa!rs ev] really "k _! little *ildr5    
till !y h help$ 9 look+ aft] !m at      
b$time1 9 ! e>ly morn+1 & at meals4 ,&  
,i am sure t no man ev] kn[s :at a cr[d$
 & t]rific ?+ life c be till he has be5 
left at home alone = a :ole ev5+ to look
 aft] two or ?ree4 ,:5 he has und]gone t
 se>*+ exp]i5ce he w =?) respect 8 wife 
) a new s9c]ity4  ,x is extraord9>y too 

:at a jolly bus9ess h\sework c be :5 two
 p g at x toge!r & get all ! possible   
fun out ( x4 ,on ! o!r h&1 :5 x is all  
done by lonely p x c be vilely t$i\s4   
,?\s&s ( husb&s h no idea ( ?is4 ,if !y 
se>*$ _! own m9ds !y w\ld f9d t _! idea 
( _! own homes is t !y are places to be 
kept clean & com=table = !m1 & _! idea (
 _! own wives is t !y are wom5 ^: fir/  
duty is to m9i/] to _! com=t4 ,any      
sugge/ion t ?is may mean a v dull life =
 wives is met by a snort1 & "s mutt]$   
murmur ab\t poison\s mod]n nons5se4 ,b 9
 spite ( t or any o!r m brilliant       
adjectives t may be employ$ ! sugge/ion 
is unalt]ably true1 & if1 hav+ made life
 z dull z t = _! wives1 su* m5 f9d t    
m>riage itself is n turn+ out well1 x is
 high "t !y %\ld wake up to ! fact t !y 
!mselves are to blame4  ,& yet may "s   
k9dly ,provid5ce save u all f ! wom5 :o 
nev] =get ! h\se--^: dome/ic possessions
 seem to con/itute m]e ext5sions ( _!   
n]v\s sy/ems1 s t if y kick ! f5d] y    
give !m ! jumps--:o _c sit /ill once !y 

h se5 a speck ( du/1 & _c turn ) free   
m9ds to any wid] int]e/4 ,!y help to    
fill clubs & pubs4 ,b !y ru9 homes4 ,i  
want husb&s to %>e ! h\sework *iefly    
because 9 t way x w get done ! soon]1 & 
give bo? husb& & wife "s free "t4 ,if !y
 want really to live !y mu/ take c>e to 
get away at times f all su* m]ely       
dome/ic conc]ns4 ,if ne$ be let ! supp] 
di%es lie dirty1 b out ( sight1 until   
to-morr[--if ne$ be1 let y\r husb& we> a
 sock ) a hole 9 x--put (f cutt+ out    
baby's tr\s]s1 & ev5 let y\r new bl\se g
 )\t t alt]ation 9 ! meantime1 b on mo/ 
ev5+s at all co/s get "s "t to read1 or 
enjoy music1 or g out1 or talk1 or      
dream1 or d no?+4 ,! problem (          
civilization is unsolv$ = ^? :o let !   
h\se tyrannize ov] !m1 & ! problem (    
m>riage also4 ,all ( :i* may seem r     
trivial & unimportant to "s m51 b 9 my  
belief x is connect$ 9 a /rangely       
intimate way ) ! success ( life4  ,(    
c\rse ! conv]se to all ?is is t wives d 
well to ent] into _! husb&s' int]e/s4 ,x

 is (t5 done ) amaz+ success4 ,i c ?9k  
at ! mom5t ( doctors1 lawy]s1 eng9e]s1  
%opkeep]s1 s*ol>s1 writ]s1 f9anci]s1    
tea*]s1 & m9i/]s ^: wives h ent]$ ke5ly 
& ) intellig5ce into all _! c>es1 plans1
 & labors4 ,& 9 e su* case ! fri5d%ip   
betwe5 man & wife has be5 v close1 & !  
m>riage truly happy4 ,:5 ?is is n done1 
,i (t5 wond] :y4 ,i suppose "s wives d n
 und]/& _! husb&s' affairs at fir/1 & _c
 be bo!r$ try+ to und]/&4 ,i suppose t  
"s husb&s are too impati5t to expla91 & 
t o!rs really _c4 ,if s x is a pity4    
,possibly "s w\ld r n expla94 ,i h (t5  
wond]$ :at ! wives ( _m mod]n bus9ess m5
 ?9k ( mod]n bus9ess me?ods2 & ,i       
suspect t g5]ally !y simply d n "k !    
tru?4 ,b ,i repeat x is a v great pity  
:5 a wife has no relation to h] husb&'s 
bus9ess4 ,x means t he has a life q ap>t
 f h]4 ,& if x be said t _m a man wants 
to =get 8 bus9ess & all its worries z   
soon z he gets inside 8 own front door1 
x is equally true t (t5 su* m5 h worries
 !y _c =get1 & t !y w\ld be /rong] &    

happi] m5 if !y only knew :at a woman's 
sympa?y is4  ,all ( :i* seems to me s v 
important--s inevitably important-- t ,i
 _c b ?9k x %\ld be rememb]$ :5 "y m5 & 
wom5 are decid+ ab\t _! m>riages4 ,h y  
notic$ ! l9es on ! face ( t greate/ (   
m5--,abraham ,l9coln8 ,!y 7 !re 9 l>ge  
measure because he m>ri$ a woman :o c\ld
 n or w\ld n %>e 8 real life4   ,,ii    
,,physical ,,h>mony   ,x is beyond all  
"q t 9 _m cases :]e m>riage is n turn+  
out happily ! real cause lies 9 "s      
failure to a*ieve real & true adju/m5t (
 ! sexual relation%ip :i* m>riage       
involves4  ,"h aga9 !re are no absolute 
rules4 ,miss ,royd51 = in/ance1 has     
writt5 a mo/ notable *apt] call$ ,! ,s9 
( ! ,bridegroom 9 :i* ) f9e c&or %e     
po9ts out h[ cruel x may be = a husb& to
 suppose t on ! fir/ night ( 8 m>riage1 
& aft] a day ( great fatigue1 8 wife w  
necess>ily be emotionally attun$ = h]   
fir/ exp]i5ce ( intimacy1 & h[ fatal !  
results may be if he imposes himself ^u 
h] 9 an unresponsive h\r4 ,i am sure t e

 ^w 9 t *apt] is true & important4 ,i   
agree ) ! sugge/ion t e man %\ld read x 
be=e he m>ries4 ,b x is also true t _m  
c\ples :o did !n exp]i5ce intimacy c    
look back ^u ! fir/ night ( m>riage z on
 a sacr$ occasion :i* !y recall ) wond]4
  ,yes1 !re are no absolute rules4 ,b   
!re are unalt]able facts4 ,& ! supremely
 important "o "h is t sexual intimacy is
 only a p]fect exp]i5ce :5 x is a mutual
 exp]i5ce4 ,i ?9k ! delusion is ne>ly   
dead t woman is a passionless creature1 
:o w nev] actively desire h] husb& b :o 
ought to be will+ to receive him :5ev]  
he desires4 ,happy m>riages c only be   
built ^u ! grave ( t misconception4 ,x 0
 held to be a view honor+ to wom54 ,z a 
matt] ( fact x l$ to a great deal (     
cruelty4 ,no d\bt wom5 diff] greatly1 b 
9 e woman :o truly loves !re lies       
dormant ! capacity to become vibrantly  
alive 9 response to h] lov]1 & to meet  
him z a will+ & active p>ticipant 9 !   
sacram5t ( m>riage4 ,& till t dormant   
capacity has be5 /irr$ into life sexual 

intimacy may be actually repulsive1 ) ! 
result t *ildr5 may be born :o are n 9 !
 full s5se ! product ( creative love1 & 
t ! relations ( husb& & wife may rema9  
difficult & unsatisfy+ to bo?4  ,?is is 
n :at ,god orda9$4 ,!re is an art ( woo+
 :i* ,nature tea*es to _m m51 & w\ld1 ,i
 ?9k1 tea* to all m5 if !y 7 pati5t &   
will+ to le>n4 ,x consi/s 9 a love-mak+ 
t appeals to ! m9d1 ! he>t1 & ultimately
 ! body1 & ?r\gh x alone c a woman be   
attun$ = h] natural "p 9 m>riage4 ,x is 
h] inali5able "r ?us to be woo$ be=e    
sexual intimacy is ask$ =1 & husb&s :o  
are too impati5t to (f] su* woo+ d h] a 
real wrong4  ,!re are times :5 a woman  
_c respond1 & a true husb& mu/ le>n to  
recognize su* times4 ,"s ( !m are       
p]fectly obvi\s4 ,:5 a woman is n well1 
or is fatigu$--:5 pregnancy has advanc$ 
beyond its e>ly /ages--:5 full heal? has
 n be5 recov]$ aft] *ildbir?--at ^! & at
 o!r times ! conditions are n pres5t = a
 true sexual exp]i5ce1 & 9 ! "n ( 8 love
 a man mu/ le>n n to ask = :at _c be    

freely giv54  ,none ! less x is n always
 & only ! husb&s :o make mi/akes 9 ?is  
"p ( life4 ,a woman mu/ be at lea/ will+
 to be awak5$ & made responsive1 & _m   
wom5 h a /range p[] ( controll+ !mselves
 9 ?is matt]4 ,!y c repress _! natures  
ev5 :5 desire has begun to /ir4 ,!y c   
rema9 cold at w4 ,& !y d x = _m & v>i$  
reasons4 ,sometimes _! reasons are      
purely selfi%--!y _c or w n be bo!r$4   
,sometimes !y all[ a s5se ( pique ov] "s
 trifl+ grievance to inhibit _! natural 
in/9cts4 ,sometimes because !y %r9k f ! 
labors ( mo!rhood !y acquire a di/a/e = 
?is :ole side ( m>ri$ life4 ,& meantime 
_! husb&s are m5 9 :om ard5t love       
naturally1 inevitably1 & rightly        
produces a desire = intimacy4 ,!y may be
 will+ to be pati5t4 ,!y may /udy _!    
wives' moods1 & try to le>n to be       
*ivalr\s lov]s4 ,b if day aft] day !y   
meet ) no response--if on ! contr>y !y  
f9d _! wives delib]ately *eck+ all      
response1 is x n cle> t a situation is  
creat$ t _c b ?reat5 m>ri$ happ9ess8 ,is

 x n inevitable t husb&s s treat$ %\ld  
beg9 to wond] :e!r _! wives really love 
!m8 ,= love makes p unselfi%1 & equally 
x makes !m und]/&+4 ,on ! o!r h&1 :5    
wives d und]/&1 & le>n 9 ?is respect to 
be g5]\s1 !y b9d _! husb&s to !m 9 new  
*a9s ( affection4 ,9 "s husb&s almo/ !  
/ronge/ emotion !y h t[>ds _! wives is a
 s5se ( pr(\nd gratitude = a g5]osity t 
made ^? wives will+ to meet !m aga9 &   
aga9 9 love's high places1 & all[ !m t  
ultimate expression ( _! passion ?r\gh  
:i* nature is re/or$ to balance & peace4
 ,& surely x might help wives to atta9  
to t g5]osity if !y w\ld b rememb] t x  
is love = !m t k9dles passion1 & t x is 
an ev]-r5ew$ s5se ( _! lovabl5ess t     
keeps _! husb&s s eag]4  ,b !re is ano!r
 /range reason t keeps "s wives         
physically unresponsive1 & s prev5ts any
 p]fect sexual exp]i5ce4 ,x is a reason 
t only op]ates ) ref9$ & spiritually    
m9d$ wom51 & ?\gh its results may be v  
s]i\s x seems to !m a "r reason4 ,:at ,i
 am ?9k+ ( is a s5se t x is n q "r or q 

seemly or q ref9$ to all[ ! primitive   
in/9cts ( ! body to awak54 ,9 o!r words1
 su* wom5 are afraid ( passion 9        
!mselves1 & suspect t x is n q consi/5t 
) _! moral & religi\s ideals to all[ x  
to h sway4 ,& s !y nev] frankly & op5ly 
accept _! own sexuality4 ,x may be      
natural en\gh 9 view ( ! t]rible ways 9 
:i* m5 & wom5 h misus$ & degrad$        
passion4 ,x is almo/ inevitable :5 wom5 
h be5 br\ght up to believe t morality   
consi/s *iefly 9 self-suppression4 ,none
 ! less x is a mi/ak51 & ultimately an  
irrev]5t z well z a fatal misconception4
 ,x 0 ,jesus :o said1 ,he :i* made !m at
 ! beg9n+ made !m male & female & said1 
,= ?is cause %all a man leave fa!r & "m1
 & %all cleave to 8 wife3 & !y twa9 %all
 be "o fle%4 ,!re is a place 9 ! holy   
life = ! free1 happy1 & full expression 
( ! in/9cts & desires t are root$ 9 our 
sex natures4 ,! assum$ inevitable       
opposition betwe5 bodily & spiritual    
functions has no real exi/5ce4 ,we _c   
spiritualize ! body away4 ,to neglect or

 simply to repress x is a c\rse t comes 
to no good4 ,:at we c d is to accept1   
und]/&1 & !n use x rightly4 ,& :5 we d s
 x turns out t ! free & happy ex]cise ( 
bodily function w h>monize ) all ! re/ (
 our life till body1 s\l1 & _s atta9 to 
h>mony & unity4 ,i ?9k ?is reluctance to
 accept our real natures is wrong &     
unreasonable1 b my *ief feel+ ab\t x is 
a s5se ( pity t wom5 = reasons :i* seem 
to !m good %\ld none ! less miss ! joy &
 exaltation :i* might be !irs1 & %\ld   
compel _! husb&s to suff] also4  ,x is  
/range b x is true t ! two commone/     
reasons = ! failure ( m>riage 9 ?is     
aspect ( x are a lu/ful view ( x & a    
mi/ak5ly spiritual view ( x4 ,a lu/ful  
view ( x w lead p to be cont5t ) m]ely  
physical unity1 ?\gh !y are atta9+ to no
 union ( _! m5tal & spiritual lives4 ,& 
t means t m>riage is a v poor affair4 ,b
 on ! o!r h& ?is falsely spiritual view 
w lead to an attempt to leave ! body    
out4 ,& t is a c\rse ( folly = inc>nate 
spirits4 ,! real end ( m>riage is a     

unity 9 :i* body1 s\l1 & _s w all play a
 "p1 & no?+ else really satisfies4 ,x   
has be5 wisely said t !re are lib]at+ & 
h>moniz+ influ5ces :i* are imp>t$ by    
sexual union & :i* give :olesome balance
 & sanity to ! :ole organism provid$ t  
union is ! outcome ( psy*ic z well z    
physical ne$s4 4 4 4 ,?r\gh h>moni\s sex
 relation%ips a deep] spiritual unity is
 rea*$ ?an c possibly be d]iv$ f        
cont95ce ei!r 9 or out ( m>riage4  ,!   
wait+-rooms ( speciali/s 9 n]v\s disease
 are cr[d$ by m5 & wom5 suff]+ f n]ve   
tr\ble ?r\gh failure to atta9 h>moni\s  
sexual relations 9 m>ri$ life4 ,b _m (  
!m might h escap$ t fate _h !y only be5 
able to take ! simple ,*ri/ian view (   
!mselves & _! natural functions4 ,x 0 a 
,god ( love :o made u z we are1 & we    
only int]f]e ) ,8 plans = u :5 we try on
 ?is e>? to live z if we 7 out ( x1 or  
call t unclean :i* 9 ,8 wisdom ,he has  
set 9 ! c5t] ( our life4   ,,iii        
,,bir? ,,control   ,n only because !    
subject ( ,bir? ,control occupies a v   

great place 9 ! public att5tion j n[1 b 
also because x does raise v important & 
real que/ions = m>ri$ p]sons ,i wi% to  
speak %ortly ( x "h4  ,"s day1 p]haps1 !
 m$ical pr(ession w d ! public ! great  
s]vice ( issu+ "s au?oritative /atem5t  
ab\t ! physical aspects ( ! matt]1 = !re
 are issues ) :i* only m$ical m5 c deal 
wisely4  ,& yet x is f> f be+ only or   
ev5 ma9ly a m$ical "q4 ,! moral & social
 issues involv$ 9 x are ( great         
importance4  ,x is n[ a matt] ( common k
 t x is possible = two p]sons to live   
toge!r 9 sexual intimacy & yet avoid    
hav+ *ildr54 ,& ?is has creat$ new      
problems = ! m>ri$ & new dang]s = !     
unm>ri$4 ,probably x has _h a great deal
 to d ) ! rec5t increase ( irregul>     
sexual relation%ips outside m>riage4 ,! 
wom5 ^: sole motive = *a/ity 0 ! fe> (  
hav+ *ildr5 & s ( be+ op5ly disgrac$ are
 n[ set free to s9 aga9/ ! tru? )\t fe> 
( t p>ticul> p5alty4  ,i am n1 h[ev]1 9 
! meantime conc]n$ ) !m4 ,x is ! problem
 rais$ = m>ri$ p]sons t conc]ns me4     

,ab\t two ma9 po9ts ,i am q cle>4  ,9 ! 
fir/ place1 = two heal?y "y p]sons to   
m>ry ) ! def9ite int5tion ( hav+ no     
*ildr5 is1 ,i believe1 an un*ri/ian ?+4 
,if !y _c af=d to h *ildr5 !y _c af=d to
 m>ry4 ,if at ! beg9n+ !y int]f]e )     
nature !y spoil _! fir/ exp]i5ces (     
sexual intimacy1 :i* %\ld be spontane\s 
& untrammell$4 ,i ev5 believe t         
artificial attempts to po/pone ! arrival
 ( a fir/ *ild are a deplorable mi/ake4 
,! fir/ consummation ( love %\ld be     
closely foll[$ by p>5tage4 ,"s c\ples   
hav+ foll[$ ! plan ( po/pon+ p>5tage h1 
:5 x 0 too late1 f\nd t by ?is c\rse !y 
_h =feit$ ! possibility ( t great       
privilege4 ,( c\rse *ildr5 mean v h>d   
"w4 ,( c\rse !y re/rict ! fre$om ( p>5ts
 to pursue _! own pleasure1 & use up a  
l>ge proportion ( ! family income4 ,b ^!
 ?+s are a bless+ 9 disguise4           
,comp>ative pov]ty = "y c\ples is a     
brac+ & a useful discipl9e4 ,probably ! 
cream ( ! nation consi/s ( m5 & wom5    
re>$ 9 families ( f\r or five1 :]e !    

p>5ts gave mu* individual att5tion to   
ea* *ild1 & by self-d5ial help$ !m to a 
good />t 9 life4 ,:5 bir? control is    
resort$ to 9 ord] to avoid ! labors (   
family life x is a purely selfi% & q    
indef5sible ?+4  ,i am ?9k+ ( c\rse (   
heal?y p>5ts4 ,unheal?y p>5ts probably  
ought n to h *ildr5 at all4  ,! second  
po9t ,i am cle> ab\t is t = mo/ c\ples  
to h z _m *ildr5 z is possible is       
equally indef5sible4 ,mo/ heal?y c\ples 
c\ld h f> m *ildr5 ?an !y c d ju/ice to4
 ,9 fact ! plan ( unre/rict$ families   
results 9 a ?reefold wrong4 ,x is no?+  
less ?an cruel to wom54 ,! ov]burd5$    
mo!rs :o 7 conf9$ once a ye> or once 9  
eighte5 mon?s1 nev] all[$ to rega9 full 
/r5g? betwe5 conf9em5ts1 & made         
prematurely old1 are1 ,i hope1 a ?+ ( ! 
pa/4 ,m>riage on ^? t]ms did mean       
s]vitude4 ,fur!r1 ! plan is cruel to    
*ildr54 ,!y _c on ^! t]ms receive       
suffici5t att5tion4 ,!y are n giv5 a    
fair />t 9 life1 & 9 _m cases d n ev5   
receive suffici5t heal?y n\ri%m5t4 ,^!  

?+s are ( c\rse 9 "p due to ! artificial
 conditions ( mod]n life4 ,b !          
conditions are !re & _c be ignor$4 ,&   
?irdly1 ! plan involves a wrong to      
society4 ,we h great ne$ ( heal?y       
well-tra9$ *ildr51 b society z a :ole   
suff]s :5 *ildr5 are br\ght into ! _w :o
 _c be prop]ly c>$ =4  ,ab\t ?is po9t ,i
 conceive !re really _c be any d\bt     
:atev]4 ,& ?us ! problem ( bir? control 
=ces itself ^u our att5tion4 ,x is a    
duty to wom51 to *ildr51 & to ! /ate4 ,!
 really difficult "q is1 ,h[ is x to be 
a*iev$8  ,"o great ,*ur* 9 ,*ri/5dom    
replies1 ,by cont95ce1 & by no o!r      
me?od4 ,& !re are _m :o arrive at ! same
 position because !y hold t sexual      
intimacy is only ju/ifi$1 & is only     
holy1 :5 ! delib]ate purpose ( produc+  
*ildr5 ent]s into x4 ,z ,i see ! matt]  
we come "h to ! c5tral e?ical issue (   
?is :ole matt]4 ,is x true t sexual     
intimacy is only "r & beautiful :5 x is 
ent]$ ^u ) a creative purpose1 or is x  
also "r & sacram5tal z an expression (  

mutual affection8 ,or put               
diff]5tly--grant+ t two p]sons h all[$  
_! love to lead to p>5tage1 & h loyally 
accept$ ! burd5s ( family life1 may !y  
rightly cont9ue to live 9 intimacy aft] 
! po9t has be5 rea*$ at :i* !y "k !y    
ought n to h any m *ildr58 ,x is at ?is 
po9t t p ( unque/ionable moral e>ne/ness
 diff] acutely1 ,i am compell$ to take  
my /& ) ^? :o believe t sexual intimacy 
is "r & good 9 itself z an expression ( 
affection4 ,x has1 z a matt] ( fact1 a  
good _m o!r consequ5ces ?an ! production
 ( *ildr54 ,x con/itutes a bond ( v     
great wor? betwe5 two p]sons4 ,x is 9 _m
 int]e/+ ways b5eficial to a woman's    
physical sy/em2 & x br+s to m5 a g5]al  
balance & repose ( be+ :i* is ( enorm\s 
value4 ,i believe1 9 fact1 t 9 actual   
exp]i5ce x does ju/ify itself z a me?od 
( express+ affection4  ,! alt]native =  
?\s&s ( c\ples is n m]ely ! cessation ( 
sexual intimacy1 b also ab/95ce f all ! 
ende>+ intimacies :i* are natural &     
spontane\s 9 m>ri$ life4 ,!y mu/ n only 

sleep ap>t1 b 9 _m ways live ap>t4 ,&   
?is n only means pa9 ( he>t su* z w\ld  
take a v great deal to ju/ify x1 b also 
(t5 leads to s]i\s n]v\s tr\ble because 
( ! /ra9 :i* x involves4 ,i h insi/$    
aga9 & aga9 9 ^! pages t cont95ce is    
p]fectly possible = unm>ri$ m54 ,b      
cont95ce = a man liv+ 9 ! same h\se ) a 
woman :om he loves1 & ) :om he has _h   
exp]i5ce ( sexual intimacy1 is a v      
diff]5t ?+4 ,x is possible = "s--p]haps 
= _m1 & )\t s]i\s loss4 ,b = _m o!rs x  
is n possible except on t]ms :i* lead to
 s]i\s n]v\s tr\ble4 ,& = su* p]sons1 & 
on ! t]ms ,i h indicat$1 ,i believe     
conception control to be ! bett] way4   
,z to h[ t control %\ld be a*iev$ ,i h  
no special fitness to speak4 ,i w\ld    
advise any c\ple1 fac$ by ! problem1 to 
consult "s doctor ( repute till !y      
und]/& ! matt]1 & !n to f9d out =       
!mselves :at is = !m ! "r c\rse to      
adopt4  ,i "k t = "s p :at is call$ !   
sublimation ( sexual desire provides a  
successful way ( deal+ ) ! situation4   

,!y f9d !mselves able )\t any emotional 
loss to div]t to o!r directions & uses !
 en]gy ( _! sex natures4 ,b x is a      
mi/ake to imag9e t :at is possible = "o 
c\ple is necess>ily possible = all4     
,attempts at sublimation (t5 result 9   
m]e repression1 & on ! heels ( t come   
s]i\s tr\bles4      ,,*apt] ,,xi        
,,unhappy ,,m>riages   ,a good deal has 
already be5 said 9 ^! pages ab\t !      
causes ( failure 9 m>riage1 b ,i feel t 
a m def9ite deal+ ) ! problem ( unhappy 
m>riages is call$ =4  ,i d n recognize  
any problem 9 ^? cases :]e m>riage has n
 be5 bas$ ^u love4 ,:5 a man or a woman 
m>ries = f9ancial reasons1 or out ( a   
desire = a c]ta9 place 9 society1 or    
because ( a m]e desire to settle d[n 9  
life1 !n he or %e runs an enorm\s risk1 
& !re is no?+ to be surpris$ at if      
tr\ble foll[s4 ,s close an intimacy z   
m>riage involves is really only tol]able
 :5 love con/antly supplies reasons =   
pati5ce1 g5]osity & =giv5ess4 ,9 fact by
 m>ry+ = any o!r reason ?an love m5 &   

wom5 only make ! p]man5t & inevitable   
problems ( life a great deal h>d] to    
solve4 ,& a human life does always      
involve a problem ei!r 9 or out (       
m>riage4 ,life is a complex & p]plex+   
bus9ess4  ,b if x be true t _m m>riages 
beg9 ) int5se love & yet aft] "s "t turn
 out unhappily1 !n a v real problem is  
pres5t$ to our m9ds1 & probably :at ,i h
 already said ab\t ! wond] ( sex love1 &
 its h>moniz+ influ5ce on p]sonalities1 
has acc5tuat$ t problem = "s ( my       
read]s4 ,!re are _m wives :o once lov$  
_! husb&s int5sely1 b :o are n[         
labori\sly le>n+ to endure !m4 ,!re are 
_m husb&s :o felt t !y _h atta9$ to all 
t !y long$ = :5 !y m>ri$1 b :o n[ are   
almo/ giv+ up 9 despair ! task ( liv+   
ev5 peaceably ) _! wives4 ,_m su* p are 
he>d decl>+ t love is ! ar* deceiv] ( ! 
_w1 & t its p[] only la/s dur+ a few    
%ort h\rs 9 ! morn+ ( life4 ,= _m ! e>ly
 & wond]ful days ( m>riage rema9 only z 
a torm5t+ memory1 s entirely has ! color
 fad$ out ( _! lives4 ,& ,i "k t ! pa9 (

 su* situations is s int5se t ,i w\ld   
fa9 speak ( !m only ) consid]ation &    
sympa?y4  ,b none ! less ! broad fact   
has to be /at$ t 9 su* cases x is n     
m>riage t has fail$ b ! p involv$ 9     
m>riage4 ,!re is no?+ 9 ! :ole ( life s 
beautiful or s holy b t x c be spoilt :5
 mi%&l$1 & love is no exception to ?is4 
,i believe love is always felt z a call 
to unselfi%ness1 b x is a call t c be   
resi/$4 ,& :5 x is resi/$ & two selfi% p
 f9d !mselves ti$ toge!r = life1 all !  
conditions ( mis]y are pres5t4 ,selfi% p
 are ne>ly always unhappy p1 & two      
unhappy p c]ta9ly _c make a happy       
m>riage4  ,& yet ^! g5]alities d n c>ry 
u v f>4 ,unless we c discov] 9 fur!r    
detail :y m>riages fail1 ^! ?+s 7 bett] 
left unsaid4 ,i believe1 h[ev]1 we c    
discov] _m ( ! reasons4  ,to beg9 )1 a  
good _m unhappy husb&s are idle m54     
,hav+ no h>d "w to :i* !y mu/ give      
!mselves daily1 !y h to try to f9d      
int]e/ 9 life 9 "s o!r way4 ,& because  
!re is no o!r way !y inevitably f9d     

!mselves ?reat5$ ) bor$om4 ,:ile _! love
 0 new x seem$ to !m t x w\ld fill life 
= ev] ) romance & joy1 b s soon z ! fir/
 e>ly /ages ( m>riage 7 pa/ !y f\nd x   
fail+ !m4 ,su* m5 almo/ always become   
moody or re/less or irritable1 & if !y  
are mu* at home _! wives h to try to    
humor !m ?r\gh _! tr\bles4 ,x is m ?an  
any woman ought to be ask$ to d1 & m ?an
 any woman c cont9u\sly accompli%4 ,if  
su* m5 came home 9 ! ev5+ hone/ly tir$  
?r\gh try+ to d some?+ wor? do+ !y w\ld 
f9d _! homes a delightful solace4 ,b    
life's problem _c be solv$ by an idle   
man1 :e!r he be m>ri$ or unm>ri$4  ,& ! 
same is true = idle wives1 ?\gh !re are 
n s _m ( !m4 ,:5 a woman has turn$ ov]  
to h] s]vants all h\sehold c>es & ev5 ! 
c>e ( h] *ildr5 t %e may run aft]       
pleasure %e has *os5 to live on t]ms :i*
 nev] yet made anybody la/+ly happy4 ,we
 are by nature too big = t way ( life1 &
 soon] or lat] x fails to make u ev5    
cont5t4 ,love w light up ) a wond]ful   
color lives t are giv5 to hone/ "w1 b   

ev5 love _c make idl5ess o!r ?an a      
we>isome c>e]4 ,!n !re are c\ples :o h  
refus$ to h *ildr54 ,if ! reason be t "s
 possibility ( disease has made x seem  
wrong to h *ildr51 x may be t bo? w le>n
 to adapt !mselves to ?is limitation &  
to a*ieve happ9ess 9 spite ( x4 ,?\s&s (
 c\ples :o are *ildless aga9/ _! own    
wills h le>nt none ! less to live toge!r
 9 la/+ happ9ess4 ,b :5 *ildlessness is 
! result ( a m]e selfi% policy1 x (t5   
rev5ges itself ^u ! c\ple conc]n$4 ,!y h
 delib]ately refus$ satisfaction to "o (
 ! deepe/ in/9cts )9 !m1 & ?\gh !y may n
 realize x1 ^? suppress$ in/9cts de/roy 
_! h>mony ( be+4 ,!y d n face ! fact t  
!y h su* in/9cts1 because !y c\ld n meet
 !m ) any adequate reason = suppress+   
!m4 ,!y try to deceive !mselves into    
believ+ t ! in/9cts are n !re1 or !y    
repress !m f selfi% causes1 & life does 
n let !m (f4 ,love rema9s unsatisfi$4   
,its augu/ claims h be5 refus$4 ,& !re=e
 x does n & _c cont9ue to br+ !m joy4   
,ano!r reason = unhappy m>riages ,i h   

already spok5 ( 9 a previ\s *apt]4      
,sometimes !y 7 m>riages ( passion & n (
 love4 ,sometimes m5 & wom5 all[        
!mselves to be hurri$ into union by !   
driv+ =ce ( an almo/ imp]sonal ?+ t is  
purely physical 9 nature1 & ?\gh !y ?9k 
!y are act+ out ( love1 !y are leav+ out
 ! l>g] "p ( _! natures4 ,m9d & _s may h
 _h no "p at all 9 ! transaction4 ,&    
aft] su* a /ep !re is b\nd to come a    
pa9ful awak5+4 ,aft] a :ile he or %e w  
f9d t 9 ! mo/ intimate "p ( m>ri$ life  
only ! body is act+1 & !n two p :o h got
 v close to "o ano!r 9 "o respect may   
yet f9d t !y are /ill 9 _m ways /rang]s 
to ea* o!r4 ,t mu/ always be a mo/      
critical situation4 ,i believe t a      
successful way out ( x might almo/      
always be f\nd1 if only ! two conc]n$   
w\ld use mu* pati5ce & w\ld le>n mutual 
accommodation4 ,b pati5ce is n a        
univ]sal possession ei!r among m5 or    
wom51 & (t5 ra% & fooli% ?+s are said or
 done at su* times :i* seem to break    
hopelessly ! h\se ( dreams :i* up till  

!n _h seem$ s beautiful & s p]man5t4    
,if only m5 & wom5 c\ld le>n t ! love   
:i* makes happy m>riages is n m]e       
passion1 ?\gh x involves passion1 a _w (
 tr\bles might be avoid$4  ,! pla9 ?\gh 
unpalatable tru? ab\t a great _m        
m>riages is t1 ?\gh !re 0 love 9 !m at !
 beg9n+1 !re 0 n en\gh ( x4 ,(t5 !re 0  
en\gh to make ! man eag] & delight$ to  
enjoy 8 wife :5 %e 0 happy1 b n en\gh ( 
x to make him able & will+ to help h] :5
 %e 0 depress$4 ,!re 0 en\gh to make ea*
 able to take delight 9 ! *>ms ( ! o!r1 
b n en\gh to make ei!r will+ to =give ! 
faults 9 ! o!r1 & help him or h] to     
conqu] !m4 ,!re 0 en\gh = sunny days b n
 en\gh = foggy ones--en\gh to produce   
laught] b n en\gh to beget              
pati5ce--en\gh = admiration b n en\gh = 
und]/&+--en\gh = joy 9 ! o!r's successes
 b n en\gh = helpfulness aft] ! o!r _h  
fail$4 ,p]haps a woman w always seem 9  
"s ways a que] creature to a man4 ,x is 
c]ta9 t no man has always und]/ood any  
woman4 ,& ,i suppose a man always seems 

at times a /range1 *ildi%1 & primitive  
be+ to a woman1 s t %e also fails to    
a*ieve und]/&+4 ,b :5 und]/&+ has fail$ 
love is put to "o great te/4 ,no?+ c get
 a c\ple ?r\gh times :5 und]/&+ has     
fail$1 except love4 ,b love c d x :5 !re
 is en\gh ( x4  ,nor is t ! h>de/ ?+    
love has to d4 ,!re come times :51      
because nobody is always good1 & mo/ ( u
 are (t5 bad1 love has to face ! pla9   
fact ( s9 9 ! lov$ object4 ,at su* times
 to approve is impossible1 & w\ld be a  
real disloyalty4 ,to break out into m]e 
reproa*es is futile & irritat+4 ,to d   
no?+ is to let a se$ ( sep>ation s9k    
into ! common life4 ,yet ! situation c  
be met4 ,x c be met by real love1       
because love c =give4 ,=giv5ess does n  
mean condon+ wrong4 ,x does n mean      
bl9dness1 :i* is nev] a helpful ?+4 ,x  
means lov+ ! p]son :o has /umbl$ 9 spite
 ( ! fact1 & ev5 p]haps j because ( x4  
,x is at su* times t "o :o has fail$ mo/
 ne$s love1 & :5 !re=e love gets a      
supreme *ance4 ,b if a husb& or a wife  

has n en\gh love to take t *ance1 !n    
m>riage may fail4  ,& "h ,i am n talk+  
ab\t exceptional cases4 ,:oev] y are1 if
 y m>ry y are go+ to m>ry a s9n]--a man 
or a woman :o w "s day fall bel[ 8 be/  
self or h] be/ self4 ,& j because y love
 x w br+ y acute pa94 ,y w\ld d well to 
ask y\rself be=eh& :at y are go+ to d   
ab\t x4 ,& if y _c feel t y c\ld =give &
 g on lov+ all ! same1 y w\ld d well to 
?9k aga94 ,! :ole /ory ( "s unhappy     
m>riages is told 9 "o s5t5ce4 ,!re 0    
love 9 !m1 b n en\gh to produce         
=giv5ess4 ,yet ! ultimate pro( t true   
love is div9e 9 orig9 lies j 9 ! fact t 
true love c =give4  ,all ( :i* leads me 
on to ! real reason :y ,i write ?is     
*apt]4 ,m>riages (t5 fail because p (t5 
fail1 & p fail ultimately = "o c5tral   
reason--t !y h n ,god 9 _! lives4 ,i h  
read z mu* mod]n fiction z mo/ p4 ,&    
:ile ,i h plodd$ ?r\gh elaborately told 
tales ( ! suff]+s ( m>ri$ p1 my amazem5t
 has gr[n t ^! tales are almo/ )\t      
exception ! /ories ( p :o _h no consci\s

 relation to ,god4 ,_! au?ors seem to   
?9k x a mo/ int]e/+ ?+ t su* lives %\ld 
g wrong1 & !y base ^u t fact ! sugge/ion
 t life is ess5tially a tragic & r      
disappo9t+ matt]4 ,to me no?+ seems m   
inevitable & m entirely explicable ?an t
 on su* t]ms life %\ld fail1 & %\ld fail
 alike = ! m>ri$ & ! unm>ri$4 ,:at c\ld 
be m simple6  ,! ess5tial greatness (   
man lies 9 ! fact t he is capable (     
fell[%ip ) ,god4 ,x is 9 realiz+ t      
fell[%ip t he truly comes to himself4 ,9
 no?+ less ?an t c he ultimately f9d    
satisfaction4 ,! reason :y all less]    
exp]i5ces fail him is j t he 0 made =   
some?+ great] /ill4 ,^! less] exp]i5ces 
w c>ry him ?r\gh ! morn+ ( life & pa/ ! 
usual "t = m>riage4 ,b lat] on !        
unalt]able facts ab\t 8 nature beg9 to  
ass]t !mselves4 ,?\gh he does n always  
"k x--(t5 inde$ does n "k x--he beg9s to
 ne$ 8 ,god4 ,& till he f9ds ,god he is 
wrongly relat$ to ! :ole univ]se4 ,?\gh 
he w g5]ally fight aga9/ x a c]ta9      
sadness ?reat5s to settle on 8 _s4 ,he w

 try all ! old joys2 & ?\gh he may      
pron\nce !m /ill good1 a quiet voice )9 
w pron\nce !m n good en\gh4 ,he _c live 
ev5 on human love1 & a di/urb+ =ce w    
beg9 to tr\ble him ev5 :5 he is ) ! wife
 he has lov$ s well4 ,& s m>riage beg9s 
to fail4  ,i f9d ! psy*ologi/s say+ ?is 
) _! peculi> vocabul>y4 ,!y tell u t !  
individual has to a*ieve c]ta9          
adaptations if he is to f9d 8 h>moni\s &
 balanc$ life4 ,"o ( ^! is ! adaptation 
to society2 ano!r is ! adaptation to    
sex1 & a ?ird is ! adaptation to !      
inf9ite4 ,if = adaptation to ! inf9ite  
we put ! "t-honor$ phrase reconciliation
 ) ,god1 !n psy*ologi/s & religi\s      
tea*]s w be f\nd say+ id5tically ! same 
?+4 ,& all ?ree adaptations are         
necess>y4 ,adaptation to sex alone is n 
en\gh4 ,= ^? :o d "k ,god x turns out t 
_! human fell[%ip bas$ on love becomes s
 entirely at "o ) ! div9e fell[%ip1 t ! 
two almo/ cease to be felt z two &      
c]ta9ly ! human fell[%ip is enorm\sly   
enri*$4 ,b :]e ! div9e fell[%ip is a ?+ 

unkn[n a c]ta9 deep-seat$ we>9ess &     
lonel9ess w possess ! man1 let 8 human  
love be nev] s wond]ful4  ,:at ?\s&s ( p
 are dem&+ ( ! univ]se is t !re %\ld be 
"s way ( solv+ life's problems )\t      
religion4 ,& life 9 e c5tury has gone on
 demon/rat+ t !re is no way ( solv+ !m  
except ?r\gh religion4 ,i am us+        
religion 9 ! l>ge/ s5se1 :i* is also !  
true/ s5se4 ,i am n "h conc]n$ ) !      
dogmas ( any p>ticul> *ur*1 nor ) ! "q (
 ! ways 9 :i* religion %all express     
itself4 ,! tru? ,i am emphasiz+ is t )\t
 "s consci\s relation to 8 ,god man     
rema9s a /rang] 9 ! _w & an exile f 8   
spiritual peace2 & t su* m5 _c be happy 
or satisfy+ husb&s4 ,& ( c\rse all t ,i 
h writt5 z if ?9k+ only ( husb&s is     
equally true = wives4  ,i h be5 !       
p]plex$ & sympa!tic confidant ( a numb] 
( p :o ) dismay & sorr[ 7 f9d+ out t    
m>riage 0 fail+ !m4 ,9 almo/ all ^!     
cases religion _h be5 simply pass$ by z 
a ?+ h>dly relevant to real life1 & x   
has be5 pla9 beyond all "q t ! tr\ble 9 

! sph]e ( m>riage c\ld n be m5d$ till   
some?+ _h happ5$ to ! p]sons conc]n$--9 
o!r words1 till !y _h le>nt to seek &   
use ! help ( ,god4 ,& (t5 !y "k x =     
!mselves4 ,i ?9k :at ,i really ne$ is   
,god1 said "o v tr\bl$ wife to me a few 
ye>s ago4 ,b %e _h begun ) a long & mov+
 /ory ab\t h] m>riage4 ,%e inde$ w5t on 
to ask h[ ,god c be f\nd1 & x may be t  
"s ( my read]s w at once want to ask t  
"q1 ,i _c attempt to deal ) x "h & n[4  
,! fir/ great /ep t[>ds f9d+ ,him is to 
realize t we ne$ ,him1 & s to beg9 to   
seek ,him4 ,& = ! re/ ,i c only add t   
?\s&s ^u ?\s&s h prov$ 9 life ! tru? (  
:at ,jesus claim$ :5 ,he ann\nc$ ,i am !
 ,way4 ,i h writt5 ?is book l>gely      
because ,i h ) reason & out ( exp]i5ce s
 great a fai? 9 ! possibilities ( ! love
 t is consummat$ 9 m>riage t ,i w\ld fa9
 te/ify to o!rs conc]n+ x4 ,b ,i w\ld   
none ! less l to w>n any man or any     
woman le/ he or %e %\ld imag9e t by     
human love alone life's problem c be    
solv$4 ,)\t ,god we fail 9 life1 & !    

bitt]e/ "p ( ! failure = _m is t ev5 t  
beautiful & delicate ?+ m>riage fails ) 
! re/4 ,we are re/less till we re/ 9    
,!e1 & two re/less he>ts _c be happy    
he>ts ev5 ?\gh !y be jo9$ toge!r 9 !    
bonds ( love4      ,,*apt] ,,xii   ,,!  
,,influ5ce ,,( ,,social ,,conditions    
,let me beg9 ?is *apt] ) a qu]y4 ,is n  
all ! tr\ble 9 ! mod]n _w ov] ! sexual  
elem5t 9 life ! evid5ce ( some?+        
abnormal & di/ort$ 9 ! v con/itution (  
mod]n society8 ,or put diff]5tly1 w\ld x
 n turn out t if only m5 & wom5 7 set 9 
j & heal?y conditions1 giv5 real        
education & suffici5t means (           
self-expression1 ! sexual problem w\ld  
be f\nd v l>gely to h solv$ itself8 ,i  
_c (f] any dogmatic answ] to t qu]y1    
?\gh ,i h my own conviction t hi/ory w  
"o day answ] x ) an unmi/akable         
affirmative4 ,:at we c d ev5 n[ is to   
notice t e maladju/m5t 9 our pres5t     
social life t5ds to increase ! am\nt (  
failure 9 true sex morality4 ,all our   
call\sness ab\t social evils rev5ges    

itself ^u u by confront+ u ) an         
increas+ly m5ac+ problem 9 ?is          
connection1 & all hone/ s]vice devot$ to
 ! increase ( social heal? ( any sort is
 also help+ our moral progress4  ,& ,i  
wi% to amplify ?is po9t because ,i hope 
"s at lea/ ( ! read]s ( ?is book w f9d  
!mselves ask+ eag]ly :at c be done 9    
view ( ! s]i\sness ( sexual evil4 ,if ^?
 :o g wrong 9 sex matt]s are spoil+ _!  
lives at ! core1 :i* ( u w\ld n l to d  
some?+ to gu>d ! "y f w&]+1 & to help to
 clean ! mod]n _w6 ,!re=e x is a real   
satisfaction to be able to reply1 z ,i d
 ) complete conviction1 ,any?+ y d to   
help to br+ social ju/ice & g5]al heal? 
any ne>] is also help+ t[>ds ! solution 
( ?is "o problem4  ,let u consid] "s ( !
 out/&+ social evils f ?is po9t ( view4 
,i turn fir/ to ! matt] ( education     
because x is ! prim>y issue 9 e         
connection4 ,n[ education t /ops at     
f\rte5 is h>dly wor?y to be call$       
education at all4 ,x is aft] t age t ^? 
int]e/s awak5 :i* provide absorb+ life =

 boys & girls1 & ensure !m aga9/ ! pa9s 
& dang]s ( empty-m9d$ness4 ,x is also   
aft] t age t mo/ "y folks le>n ! ways & 
means ( self-expression4 ,probably also1
 at lea/ 9 ! case ( boys1 ! ye>s betwe5 
f\rte5 & sixte5 are j ! ye>s :5 !       
discipl9e ( s*ool life is mo/ valuable1 
& x is c]ta9 t dur+ t p]iod heal?y      
games1 play$ "u ! discipl9e ( /]nly     
en=c$ rules1 d mo/ to put boys into     
possession ( !mselves1 & to provide a   
wise outlet = _! abundant en]gies4      
,consid] !n :at happ5s s long z we      
cont9ue to s5d boys out ( s*ool at ! age
 ( f\rte54 ,!y g ) m9ds unawak5$ & !re=e
 empty4 ,!y face adolesc5ce 9 almo/     
complete fre$om f control4 ,!y v (t5 h  
f> too little opportunity = invigorat+  
games1 & !y d n "k h[ to express        
!mselves1 ?\gh vital en]gies are vibrant
 )9 !m4 ,x is only natural t !y %\ld f9d
 ord]ly ways ( life v dull1 & t 9       
pursuit ( excitem5t !y %\ld take to     
hooliganism4 ,n hav+ le>nt to appreciate
 ei!r lit]ature or art1 !y ei!r read    

no?+ or read /ories t are nei!r true nor
 dec5t4 ,!y respond only to :at is      
highly spic$ & h no?+ 9 _! m9ds to c\nt]
 balance ! m]etrici\s attractions (     
sugge/ive /ories & undesirable films4 ,!
 tru? ab\t ! p :o are fond ( blue /ories
 is (t5 7?\gh n always7 t ^? /ories     
accurately indicate _! intellectual     
level4 ,& ! un$ucat$ mod]n boy is (t5 at
 t level ?r\gh no fault ( 8 own4 ,x     
actually is h>d = m5 to :om ! wond] & ! 
spl5dor ( life h be5 reveal$ to f9d room
 9 _! m5tal life = indec5t tra%4 ,b till
 we really educate our boys we are s5d+ 
!m out into life un>m$ aga9/ "s ( its   
wor/ features4  ,& if ! g5]al failure ( 
education has ?is deplorable effect1 :at
 %all we say ( ! complete lack ( any    
special education relat+ to sex 9 at    
lea/ a majority ( mod]n s*ools8 ,i "k t 
t is a v difficult matt]4 ,i "k t disa/]
 may foll[ f any attempt to d x 9 a     
g5]al way ?r\gh class tea*+4 ,i "k too t
 x ought to be done by p>5ts4 ,b x is n 
done1 & bo? boys & girls g out to face !

 dang]s ( life 9 t[n & c\ntry )\t ! k ( 
physical facts :i* might guide !m into  
safety4 ,actual immorality is inde$     
uncommon betwe5 ! ages ( f\rte5 &       
sev5te51 b ^? ye>s are (t5 sp5t 9 a way 
t is ! wor/ possible prep>ation = !     
/ruggle t is to come4  ,i h put my ma9  
/ress on ! fact t education /ops at     
f\rte51 because to my m9d t is ! out/&+ 
defect ( our sy/em4 ,b ev5 ! education  
we d give is ill fitt$ to atta9 its true
 end4 ,x is n ! fault ( ! tea*]s4 ,_m ( 
!m d wond]ful "w1 & long to be all[$ to 
d bett] "w4 ,b ) classes ( f fifty to   
sev5ty ! mo/ heav5-born tea*] 9 ! _w _c 
a*ieve 8 purposes4 ,x is c]ta9 t lov]s (
 purity :o really und]/& human nature _c
 be among ! panic-/rick5 economi/s :o   
want to />ve education4   ,h\s+   ,h\s+ 
evils are ma9ly ( two k9ds4 ,h\ses are  
(t5 d>k1 damp1 & evil-smell+1 :i* means 
ill-heal?4 ,& h\ses are (t5 too small1  
:i* means t human be+s are pack$ s      
closely t privacy is impossible4 ,bo?   
results affect morality4 ,a man bel[ p> 

9 g5]al heal? is f> m susceptible to !  
lure ( evil ?an a really heal?y "o4 ,& !
 same is true ( girls4 ,!re are to be   
f\nd 9 "s corn]s ( our t[ns lewd &      
un:olesome-look+ y\?s ^: talk & ^:      
actions are unclean & sordid4 ,we p]haps
 %udd] z we pass by & s5se :at is _!    
moral condition1 b if we knew ! h\ses f 
:i* !y come we might h>dly wond]4 ,!n   
pla9ly x is ho/ile to :olesome liv+ :5  
husb& & wife _c h a sleep+-place sep>ate
 f ! re/ ( ! family1 & :5 gr[+ boys &   
girls %>e ! same room1 s t natural      
mode/y is confront$ ) con/ant ob/acles  
to its normal developm5t4 ,:5 ,i wrote  
"s pages back ab\t ! discipl9>y value ( 
! daily cold ba?1 ,i c\ld h>dly =be>    
/opp+ at t po9t to comm5t on ! fact t t 
prim>y condition = bodily & moral heal? 
is beyond ! rea* ( millions4 ,our h\s+  
has n yet rea*$ ! ba?room /&>d = !      
majority ( our p4  ,all ^! consid]ations
 are p]fectly obvi\s & h (t5 be5 urg$   
be=e4 ,b ?\gh ,i h kn[n ( _m cases :]e  
moral evil has foll[$ f bad h\s+        

conditions1 ,i h kn[n s _m in/ances :]e 
9 spite ( bad h\s+ conditions morality  
has be5 p]fectly pres]v$1 t ,i d n make 
s mu* ( ?is po9t z "s4 ,i h yet to le>n 
t morality is made safe by ! mo/        
elaborate & heal?y h\s+ conditions4 ,x  
is true t ! level ( morality is v l[    
inde$ 9 really ov]cr[d$ slums1 b x also 
is true t ! section ( ! population among
 :i* real purity is mo/ common is !     
artisan section1 & _m ( !m h to cont5d )
 v poor h\s+ conditions4 ,! ,royal      
,commission on ,v5]eal ,disease report$ 
t :ile ! class ( casual labor]s is !    
wor/ 9 ! c\ntry1 ! next 9 ! scale is !  
"o describ$ z middle & upp] classes4    
,travel+ we/ 9 our cities does n mean   
travel+ t[>ds morality4   ,sweat+   ,!re
 are ?ree ma9 directions 9 :i* sweat+   
t5ds to increase immorality4 ,9 ! fir/  
place l[ wages paid to m5 make m>riage v
 difficult1 & sometimes impossible4 ,&  
no?+ c\ld be worse = any community ?an t
 heal?y & robu/ m5 %\ld be deb>r$ f     
m>riage aft] tw5ty-"o by purely mat]ial 

consid]ations4 ,x is n impossible = a   
man to rema9 *a/e ?r\gh a lifetime (    
celibacy1 b = all t a society t en=ces  
celibacy on m5 aga9/ _! w is mak+       
immorality a practical c]ta9ty4  ,a     
p>ticul>ly mean =m ( ?is evil occurs 9  
connection ) ! liv+-9 sy/em :i* is      
impos$ by a good _m big %ops on _!      
employees4 ,i us$ to "k a numb] ( "y m5 
( m>riageable age :o 7 h\s$ 9 a great & 
b>e sort ( b>racks & giv5 9 addition a  
wage t 0 only en\gh to provide dress &  
necess>y etcet]as4 ,if1 desir+ to m>ry1 
!y said t !y wi%$ to live out & to      
receive ! equival5t ( _! bo>d & lodg+ 9 
money1 !y got 9 ^? pre-w> days #ah a ye>
 extra4 ,is x to be wond]$ at t 9 t     
section ( society x 0 a common say+ t   
only fools get m>ri$8 ,b x 0 n a *a/e   
section ( ! community4 ,m5 are v seldom 
*a/e :5 !y live 9 exclusively male      
communities4  ,!n1 secondly1 sweat+     
makes = immorality because x means t    
girls are paid wages :i* are q          
insuffici5t to support life4 ,"s ( !m   

live at home ) _! p>5ts & s get ?r\gh1 b
 ^? :o h to support !mselves become     
subject$ to a t]ribly sev]e temptation  
to add to _! />vation wages by ! sale ( 
!mselves4 ,x is /ill 9 ?is way t a      
consid]able p]c5tage ( ! pro/itutes ( ! 
c\ntry is creat$1 & ! numb] ( girls :o1 
?\gh n kn[n z pro/itutes1 h sacrific$ _!
 purity because ( f9ancial pressure mu/ 
be v great4  ,! ^w sweat+ also cov]s    
cases :]e work]s are subject$ to        
ov]work1 & unduly long h\rs2 & !re=e "u 
?is head ,i m5tion ! influ5ce ( ! /ra9 (
 long %op h\rs4 ,! improvem5t has be5   
great ( late 9 ?is respect1 b /ill !re  
are re/aurants & special %ops :]e ! /ra9
 on girls is v heavy4 ,& ! result is t  
aft] "w is ov] !y are fit = no?+ b walk+
 ab\t ! /reets 9 se>* ( div]sion4 ,_m   
inde$ :o live 9 ho/els h almo/ no *oice 
betwe5 walk+ 9 ! /reets or go+ to b$4   
,!re is no ne$ to say m4 ,fir/ girls are
 r5d]$ n]v\sly we>y & yet eag] = fre%   
air & movem5t1 & !n !y h to face all t  
/reet life may mean4 ,! recreations (f]$

 !m 9 c9emas & music-halls are (t5      
calculat$ to give !m j ! wrong sort (   
excitem5t4 ,& s fir/ !y are bor$ by     
monotony & long h\rs1 & !n play$ ^u by r
 l[ =ms ( sugge/ive art4 ,x is "h t     
girls' clubs & troops ( girl guides meet
 ! real ne$s ( girls2 & !y probably     
con/itute ! f9e/ influ5ce ( ! "r sort   
:i* mod]n life (f]s !m4   ,luxury   ,"o 
( ! mo/ s]i\s evils 9 ! mod]n _w is t a 
great _m m5 & wom5 h f> m money ?an is  
good = !m1 & t ( ^! a consid]able numb] 
are n "u any necessity to "w4 ,no?+ 9   
all ! wide _w is worse = a man ?an to h 
lots ( money & no?+ to d4 ,x is among ^!
 m5 t ! patrons ( exp5sive vice are to  
be f\nd4 ,( necessity su* m5 are bor$ by
 ord9>y life4 ,= life )\t "w 9 x is     
always bor+4 ,x foll[s t !y mu/ seek    
excitem5t1 & a v %ort "t suffices = !m  
to get all ! excitem5t possible out (   
innoc5t recreations4 ,:]e=e 9 pursuit ( 
some?+ to /ir !m !y take to ! div]sions 
t are n innoc5t1 & (t5 try to exploit _!
 own passions to give color to life4 ,_!

 exp5sive & luxuri\s ways ( life        
con/itute "o ( ! wor/ moral =ces 9 !    
community4 ,!y keep 9 exi/5ce to p&] to 
_! desires l>ge numb]s ( subord9ates ^: 
lives are also wor?less & )\t any       
productive value4 ,x is because ( !m t !
 life ( a c\rtesan seems to (f] gold5   
prizes to "s1 & ! hope ( reap+ su*      
prizes deludes _m4 ,because ?is is a    
mat]iali/ic age _! money gives !m p[]s  
to :i* !y h no moral "r1 & no m :olesome
 ?+ c\ld happ5 to ! :ole community ?an t
 ! necess>y *anges %\ld be work$ out :i*
 w\ld make su* noxi\s drones impossible 
9 ! future4 ,x is = ^! p t sweat$ work]s
 drudge & sweat4 ,& !n1 "u our curi\s & 
indef5sible laws ( inh]itance1 x is     
possible = weal? ?us creat$ to be pass$ 
on f g5]ation to g5]ation1 creat+ = ea* 
9 turn ! wor/ possible conditions = true
 life4 ,x is utt]ly unreasonable to hope
 t we %all ev] z a nation atta9 to moral
 heal? until ?is evil has be5 dealt )4  
,x seems to matt] little :e!r su* p are 
m>ri$ or unm>ri$2 9 bo? conditions !y   

make havoc ( sexual life1 & poison      
society4   ,dr9k   ,i h kept to ! la/ ! 
social evil :i* m ?an all ! o!rs put    
toge!r t5ds to produce sexual           
immorality4 ,z ,i h already said1 x is a
 comp>atively r>e ?+ = a man to g wrong 
= ! fir/ "t :5 he is entirely sob]4 ,x  
is ,bac*us t conducts m5 into ! c\rts ( 
,v5us4 ,mr4 ,flexn]1 :o = sci5tific     
reasons made a compreh5sive /udy (      
,pro/itution 9 ,europe1 reports t 9 e   
c\ntry ! :ole traffic is soak$ 9 dr9k4  
,!re are inhibitions 9 our humanity :i* 
make sexual vice repulsive to our ta/e1 
& !re are few :o c get pa/ ^!           
inhibitions until alcohol has dead5$ _! 
bett] feel+s4 ,man aft] man has told me 
t x 0 aft] "s fe/ive night :5 he _h tak5
 m w9e ?an ev] be=e t he fir/ fell4     
,unm>ri$ mo!rs h told me t :at happ5$ on
 ! night t 0 fatal to !m 0 t !y 7 cajol$
 into tak+ *ampagne or :isky1 & aft] t  
c\ld n well rememb] :at took place4  ,x 
is n too mu* to say t until we h grappl$
 ) ! dr9k evil 9 our mid/ we _c possibly

 hope to ma/] ?is great] evil :i* foll[s
 on ! heels ( intemp]ance4 ,?is "o      
consid]ation alone w\ld make me an      
en?usia/ic prohibitioni/4 ,we h tri$    
life on ! pres5t t]ms & x has beat5 u4  
,we h all[$ ! common sale ( a drug t is 
! prov$ enemy ( our be/ life4 ,x has    
damag$ u physically1 indu/rially1 &     
f9ancially4 ,b its mo/ deadly damage has
 be5 done 9 connection ) our sexual     
life4 ,x n only misleads ! unm>ri$1 b 9 
_m homes x is daily de/roy+ all         
possibility ( m>ri$ happ9ess4 ,no d\bt !
 difficulties ( temp]ance re=m are v    
great4 ,b ! real cause ( ! delay (      
effective re=m is want ( w 9 ! community
 z a :ole4 ,i _c b ?9k t if ! deadly &  
intimate connection betwe5 dr9k & sexual
 vice 7 realiz$1 ! w to effective re=m  
might appe> among u4  ,:5 ,i consid] all
 ! =ces :i* ,i h ?us briefly review$1 & 
rememb] t beh9d !m !re is ! p[] ( a     
c5tral & univ]sal human in/9ct1 ,i no   
long] wond] t sexual follies ab\nd 9 our
 c\ntry1 & t we h n yet solv$ ! problem 

( purity4 ,:at ,i d wond] at is t !re   
are hundr$s ( ?\s&s ( "y m5 & wom5 :o1 9
 spite ( all ^! facts1 insi/ on liv+    
clean & pure lives4 ,!re is some?+ 9    
human nature t fights v h>d = ! true way
 ( life4 ,boys & girls ) bad h]$it>y    
influ5ces to hamp] !m1 & br\ght up 9 v  
unfavorable surr\nd+s1 d yet con/antly  
refuse to succumb4 ,ev5 ^? :o h made    
mi/akes con/antly refuse to be beat51 & 
hold on t5aci\sly to ! n>r[ way4 ,?\gh !
 mod]n _w has be5 delug$ ) novels writt5
 to display sexual irregul>ities 9 a    
romantic light1 & to express contempt = 
,*ri/ian moral /&>ds1 & ?\gh no d\bt    
?\s&s h be5 misl$1 x rema9s true t      
surpris+ly l>ge numb]s refuse to be     
befool$ 9 su* ways4 ,i believe ! reason 
is t1 /rong z m]e physical desire may   
be1 love is a /rong] ?+ /ill4 ,& x is ! 
p[] ( love t keeps _m "r4 ,9 _m m5 x is 
love = an ideal woman t does x4 ,!y keep
 !mselves f evil because1 ?\gh !y may   
nev] h met h]1 !y believe "o day !y w1 &
 !y want to br+ h] _! be/ selves )\t any

 spot ( defilem5t4 ,9 _m girls love     
works 9 ! same r$emptive way4 ,& p]haps 
9 bo? :at is really work+ is a my/ic    
long+ aft] ! be/ t life c hold1 & a     
half-consci\s und]/&+ t t be/ is only = 
^? :o pres]ve unity betwe5 body & _s1 & 
keep ! body 9 bonds until ! pure comm& (
 love itself summons x to fre$om4  ,&   
yet x is infam\s t ! /ruggle %\ld be s  
h>d = s _m4 ,all ( u :o are ignorant or 
complac5t or skeptical ab\t ! social    
evils ( our "t are %>]s 9 ! iniquity (  
^? :o fall4 ,_m ( u live 9 mean         
satisfaction1 j because we ourselves h  
f\nd com=t & security2 t is h[ ^! evil  
=ces are able to g on ye> aft] ye> lead+
 ?\s&s to _! undo+4 ,if ! te/ ( a real  
passion = purity lies 9 c>+ ab\t ! =ces 
t make = impurity & c>+ to ! po9t (     
suff]+ = ^? :o fall1 !n ,i fe> few ( u h
 t passion 9 any really effective & holy
 =m4 ,& x w ne$ passion to compete ) !  
=ces t lie beh9d evil social conditions4
 ,!y are entr5*$ beh9d ! p[] ( money1 & 
,i "k ( only "o passion t is /rong] ?an 

money4  ,:5 w all :o really love take up
 ! *all5ge ( ?is disord]$ mod]n _w8 ,we 
talk4 ,we conf]4 ,we discuss social     
re=m4 ,b we d n love4 ,& t is :y ,mammon
 is able to laugh at u1 & g on dragg+   
our boys & girls d[n into ! mire4       
,,*apt] ,,xiii    ,,=gett+ ,,! ,,?+s    
,,:i* ,,are ,,beh9d    ,i h impli$ 9 ?is
 book t ! v be/ 9 sexual exp]i5ce is    
only = ^? :o keep !mselves unspott$ 9   
e>ly life1 & :o come to ! sacram5t (    
m>riage ) no previ\s & l[] exp]i5ce (   
sex intimacy4 ,i am ev5 sure t ! v be/  
is spoilt a little by all previ\s       
unwor?y ?9k+1 & by all p]v]se practices4
  ,i "k t t w s\nd a h>d say+ to v _m1 =
 !re are few :o h fulfill$ ^! conditions
 = kn[+ ! be/4 ,x mu/ seem to !m t ,i am
 practically say+ to !m1 ,y c nev] n[   
ent] into ! holy ( holies4 ,yet ,i _c   
alt] :at ,i h said1 h[ev] acute may be  
my sympa?y ) ^? :o h /umbl$4 ,i believe 
x is true1 & no good ev] came ( hid+ !  
tru?4 ,x is because x is true t ,i h su*
 confid5t hope = mank9d4 ,m5 & wom5 d 9 

_! he>ts want ! v be/1 & :5 !y come to  
"k :at are ! only t]ms on :i* t v be/ c 
be _h !y w1 ,i believe1 accept ^? t]ms4 
,b ?is w\ld be a cruel book1 & a false  
book too1 7 ,i to imply t !re is no way 
9 :i* ! pa/ c be =gott5 & =giv51 & no   
way into purity & joy ev5 = ^? :o h     
w&]$4 ,7 t s ,i c\ld n write at all ab\t
 ?is subject1 = x w\ld !n be too tragic4
  ,p]haps ! wor/ consequ5ce ( ab]rations
 9 ?\ght & conduct is t !y make x v v   
h>d to be p]fectly happy & una%am$ :5 at
 la/ love calls !m to ent] into ! inn]  
*amb]s ( m>riage & romance4 ,! %ad[s t  
re/ at times on t "p ( m>riage ev5 = "s 
v happy lov]s are due to ! fact t ! man 
7or sometimes ! woman7 0 once involv$ 9 
some?+ else be=e t 0 a little l x1 & yet
 0 haunt$ !n by a s5se ( wrong-do+ & s  
c\ld n h a p]fect exp]i5ce4 ,x is only  
to ! pure t all ?+s are pure4  ,b x is n
 true t ! pa/ ne$ dog & spoil ! future4 
,x is n true t s9 is irrem$iable1 nor t 
its /a9s rema9 = ev]4 ,! ess5tial &     
c5tral ?+ 9 ,*ri/ianity is ! ass]tion t 

!re is a rem$y = ! situation t s9       
creates4  ,i d n ?9k !re is any rem$y to
 be f\nd 9 simply try+ to ignore !      
pa/--or 9 say+ t our ab]rations 7 only  
^? ( n9ety p] c5t4 ( mank9d1 & 7 s      
natural z to be n wor? bo!r+ ab\t4 ,9   
su* ways we may pu% ! pa/ out ( sight1 b
 we d n deal ) x4 ,x rema9s !re ?\gh out
 ( sight4 ,= ! fact is t su* say+s d n q
 conv9ce u1 & !re=e !y _c kill ! pa/4   
,nor is !re any rem$y to be f\nd m]ely 9
 ! =giv5ess ( man or ( woman4 ,wom5 are 
prov]bially1 & p]haps div9ely1 will+ to 
=give4 ,b a woman's =giv5ess does n     
necess>ily make a man able to =give     
himself4 ,nor does x always cleanse an  
unclean inn] life4 ,to _m a man x has   
be5 j ! fact t 8 fiance or wife 0 s     
sublimely will+ & able to =give t has   
reveal$ to him 8 own unwor?9ess & made x
 /+ ! m4  ,no6 !re has got to be some?+ 
mu* m dra/ic 9 our lives if we are to   
get free f %ame & remorse4 ,we h got to 
g d[n into t /ony valley ( humiliation  
:]e m5 & wom5 face ! nak$ facts be=e _! 

,god1 & /op all attempt to hide or to   
deceive4 ,we h got to /op ! sophi/ries  
:i* are s de> to u1 & ?r\gh :i* we try  
to put ! blame on o!rs1 or on           
circum/ance1 or on fate4 ,we h got to   
face ! fact t ! evil ?+s--:atev] !y 71  
ei!r small or great--happ5$ because we 7
 weak--because we put pleasure be=e     
duty--because we gave 9 to lu/1 or evil 
sugge/ion1 or a crav5 long+ to please ! 
fle%4 ,yes6 ,!y happ5$ because we 7     
weak1 & t is a horrible ?+ to h to      
admit4 ,yet admitt+ x is ! only way to  
rega9 contact ) ! tru?4 ,& :at next8 ,! 
next ?+ is t 9 t extremity we f9d ,god4 
,x might seem t ,he w\ld probably be !  
la/ "o to be f\nd ?r\gh humiliation & ! 
op5 admission ( be+ impure4 ,b 9 actual 
exp]i5ce t is h[ ,he is f\nd4 ,t is ,8  
way--to meet ! man :o has discov]$ 8 own
 insuffici5cy--to int]v5e at ! desp]ate 
m9ute--to reveal to inc>nate weakness ,8
 et]nal /r5g?--to give a /range         
assurance t ,he ,himself is ab\t to     
enfold ! man or woman 9 ,8 p[]1 & tale  

*>ge ( ! future4 ,& :5 t has happ5$ a   
man kn[s :at to d ) 8 pa/4 ,he c leave x
 ) ,god1 & !n x loses at once all p[] to
 haunt him or put him to %ame4 ,x 0     
unclean1 b ! cleans+ fires ( ! div9e    
love h tak5 x 9 *>ge1 & its p[] is      
brok54 ,t is some?+ v diff]5t f try+ to 
hide x or trample ^u x4 ,t is really    
kill+ x1 & aft] t a man bo? may & c     
=get4  ,if any man be 9 ,*ri/ he is a   
new creature4 ,t is lit]ally true ev5 9 
?is connection4 ,spiritually a man      
ceases to be ! same p]son z ! "o :o 0   
once s weak & unclean4 ,he has ent]$ a  
new spiritual c\ntry4  ,exp]i5ce has    
prov$ all ?is ov] & ov] aga94 ,m5 :o 9  
e>ly y\? 7 wild h by ! grace ( ,god     
become s ess5tially pure z to become    
capable ( true & bless$ exp]i5ces ( love
 & all t love leads to ) a f9e woman4 ,b
 x does ne$ ! grace ( ,god4 ,^? :o      
attempt simply to =get & make light ( _!
 e>ly follies d n escape f !m4  ,& :y   
%\ld ,i n boldly say ! same ?+--exactly 
! same ?+-- ab\t a woman8 ,x is c]ta9ly 

true4 ,no "o s]i\sly believes t ! r$eem+
 grace ( ,god1 :i* is suffici5t = all   
o!r s9s1 fails be=e ?is "o4 ,no "o :o   
has und]/ood ,*ri/ d\bts t ,he c make a 
new woman1 & a pure & noble woman1 out (
 "o :o has /umbl$4 ,& yet curi\sly      
society has nev] le>nt to =give wom54 ,a
 man is all[$ to =get ! ?+s :i* are     
beh9d4 ,g5]ally a woman is compell$ to  
rememb] !m till ! v end4 ,i %all nev]   
=get be+ once at a meet+ ( m5 9 ,new    
,york :]e a v great ,am]ican woman spoke
 to u all on ?is subject4 ,%e po9t$ out 
to u t society _h nev] le>nt to control 
! evils ( ?is "p ( life because x _h    
nev] le>nt to adopt ! me?od ( ,jesus1   
:i* 0 frank & full =giv5ess4 ,we h be5  
afraid4 ,we h ?\ght x w\ld be socially  
disa/r\s4 ,b ,jesus _h no hesitation 9  
,8 voice :5 ,he said to a p5it5t        
,magdal5e1 ,nei!r d ,i condemn !e1 g &  
s9 no m4 ,( c\rse %e s9n$ no m4 ,!re is 
9 all ! univ]se no con/ra9+ =ce l t     
comb9ation ( =giv5ess & tru/4  ,i am    
sure we _c make our /&>d too high4 ,i am

 sure we ne$ to gu>d aga9/ all          
compromise 9 ?\ght ) its augu/ dem&s4 ,b
 ,i am equally sure we ne$ to le>n to   
=give g5]\sly if we are ev] to help ^?  
:o h /umbl$4 ,=giv+ s9n]s does n mean   
condon+ s91 else c\ld !re nev] be any   
div9e =giv5ess4 ,:at x does mean is lov+
 ! p]sons conc]n$4 ,till we le>n to     
ex]cise t div9e art1 we d b %ut ! doors 
( hope aga9/ s9n]s & pu% !m f>!r d[n4   
,( c\rse ?is means t = a pagan society  
!re is no *oice betwe5 a /]nly cold &   
cruel morality on ! "o h&1 & lic5se on !
 o!r4 ,= pagans _c =give4 ,!y alt]nate  
betwe5 a moral indiff]5ce 9 :i* !re is  
no hope = anybody1 & a cold & call\s    
condemnation ( s9n]s :i* is bo?         
hypocritical & cruel4 ,we h all se5 bo? 
policies 9 action & "k h[ hopeless !y   
bo? are4 ,b 9 exact proportion z we le>n
 to ?9k & feel ) ,*ri/ we %all le>n to  
=give1 & s do+ %all beg9 to h ma/]y ov] 
! evils 9 sex life t spr+ f ignorance1  
wayw>dness1 want ( discipl9e1 & !       
misund]/&+ ( love4 ,hi/ory is "o long   

record ( h[ by ! =ce ( law & by alt]nate
 sev]ity & c>elessness ! human race has 
tri$ to f9d = itself ! "r pa? ?r\gh ?is 
special c\ntry4 ,b ! record is l>gely "o
 ( failure4 ,!re is no way ( success = a
 society t dep5ds ^u su* =ces4 ,"h z 9 a
 doz5 o!r connections ! only way to life
 is t ,*ri/ian way :i* ! _w has s l>gely
 repudiat$4 ,mank9d want to make a      
success ( _! life 9 ?is _w--want to make
 ! mo/ possible ( x--b !y want x ap>t f 
! lead]%ip ( ,*ri/1 & s !y miss x4 ,he c
 %[ u ! way ( life if we w b li/51 b no 
o!r c4  ,& ,8 way is always & altoge!r !
 way ( love--love t c tame ! brute 9 u &
 make x a s]vant--love t c trans=m      
passion into a holy fire--love t makes  
m5 pati5t & wom5 g5]\s--t takes ! common
 ?+s ( life & makes !m sacr$-- & above  
all love t c hate s9 ) fi]ce s9c]ity1 & 
yet love & =give s9n]s4  ,x is aft] ?is 
fa%ion t ,god loves u4 ,we mu/ s love "o
 ano!r if we are to make human life     
great4  ,!re is ano!r & a l>g] s5se 9   
:i* !re is ne$ t we %\ld =get ! ?+s :i* 

are beh9d4 ,we ne$ z a race to escape f 
an evil pa/4 ,our greate/ dang] 9 ?is   
:ole connection is ! dang] ( moral      
skepticism4 ,sex vice has always be5    
common1 m5 say ) tru?2 & !n ) fatal     
unreason !y add1 & always w be4 ,t way  
lies %e] disa/]4 ,! :ole situation calls
 = fai? 9 man's future--fai? 9 8        
capacity = purity--fai? 9 love4 ,& t    
fai? is really b a "p ( any true fai? 9 
,god4  ,9 ! pa/ ev5 ,*ri/ian p h tri$ to
 evade ! problem ( sex4 ,! tru? ab\t x  
has n be5 op5ly s\ght4 ,its *all5ge has 
n be5 bravely met4 ,its possibilities h 
n be5 realiz$4 ,& !re=e fe>s1 suff]+s1  
excesses1 cruelties1 & inju/ice to wom5 
h degrad$ our common life4 ,! :ole matt]
 is c5tral = our civilization4 ,:ile we 
?9k & "w = recon/ruction we w\ld d well 
to rememb] t !re c be no happy &        
h>moni\s life = u till ?is :ole problem 
has be5 solv$--till we h le>nt to       
en?rone pure love 9 our mid/ & by its   
passionate & cleans+ p[] to subdue !    
brute & ex]cise our complete humanity to

 ! glory ( ,god4 ,love nev] faile?4 ,x  
purifies passion & dom9ates ! fle%4 ,if 
we believe 9 ,god we ne$s mu/ believe 9 
! triumph ( love2 & t means a div9e     
consummation at la/ to all our w&]+s &  
/ruggles 9 connection ) ,sex4           
,,app5dix    ,a ,,brief ,,sket* ,,( ,,"s
 ,,( ,,! ,,physiological ,,facts  ,,by  
,a4 ,,*>les ,e4 ,,gray1 ,m4,d4 7,,ed47  
,,app5dix   ,,"s ,,( ,,! ,,physiological
 ,,facts   ,( all ! vital =ces ) :i*    
liv+ ?+s are end[$1 ! two mo/ pot5t are 
! in/9ct = self-pres]vation & ! in/9ct =
 race-pres]vation4 ,?is latt] gives rise
 to ! reproductive urge4 ,s deep-seat$  
is ?is in/9ctive =ce1 t 9 _m in/ances 9 
! vegetable _w1 ! ?reat ( individual    
dea? results 9 a special ef=t (         
reproduction & ! individual dies to live
 9 ! next g5]ation4 ,a =ce :i* is ?us s 
insi/5t 9 ! :ole animal & vegetable _w  
is naturally n abs5t 9 ! human be+1 & x 
is well we %\ld def9itely recognize !   
fundam5tal p[] ( ?is1 9 e normal man &  
woman4 ,n seldom ! reproductive in/9ct  

is spok5 ( z a ?+ :i* c be put on "o    
side & ignor$4 ,all exp]i5ce & hi/ory   
prove t ?is is impossible1 & t ! attempt
 to d s ends 9 failure & disa/]4 ,b 9   
civiliz$ communities x is equally       
impossible to all[ su* a =ce to range   
unre/ra9$1 h5ce ! laws & cu/oms ( mod]n 
peoples4 ,b m]e ass5t to ext]nal        
au?ority c nev] a*ieve m ?an p>tial     
success4 ,:at is ne$$ is :ole-he>t$     
agreem5t ) an ideal :i* c only be atta9$
 by education ( e individual 9 a real   
und]/&+ ( !mselves & _! responsibilities
 9 sex matt]s4 ,x is due to ! fault (   
p>5ts & tea*]s1 r ?an _! own1 t _m m5 & 
wom5 are to-day pay+ ! p5alty ( hav+    
misus$ or abus$ ?is div9ely implant$    
in/9ct4   ,! ,law ( ,bi-sexual          
,reproduction   ,x is "o ( ,nature's    
plans t 9 ! g5esis ( a new individual   
two individuals %\ld take a %>e4 ,?is   
holds good ?r\gh\t ! :ole range ( liv+  
?+s except ! l[] =ms ( plant & animal   
life1 su* z fungi & animalcule4 ,b1 ) "o
 or two individual exceptions1 z plants 

& animals evolve1 ! union ( two elem5ts1
 male & female1 is ne$$ to />t ! amaz+ly
 complex process ( build+ a new         
individual4 ,?us 9 fl[]s ! /am5s1 !     
poll5 be>]s1 provide ! male elem5t :i*1 
?r\gh ! int]m$i>y ( ! pi/ils1 f]tilizes 
! egg 9 ! vesicle4 ,9 ! high] animals ! 
egg or ovum is produc$ by ! female1 & is
 f]tiliz$ by ! sp]m-cell produc$ by !   
male4 ,! necess>y union betwe5 ^! two   
ess5tial elem5ts is atta9$ 9 v>i\s ways4
 ,?us ! female salmon deposits h] eggs  
on a conv5i5t spot 9 ! b$ ( a /ream & ! 
att5dant male salmon !n projects ov] !m 
! sp]matozoa4 ,9 ! high] animals !re is 
a fur!r developm5t1 & special organs are
 evolv$ to ensure ! conjunction ( ! two 
elem5ts4 ,i h n space to describe 9     
detail ! effect ( ?is union ( ! two     
cells1 g5]ally spok5 ( z f]tilization4  
,x may be f\nd fully record$ /ep by /ep 
9 any biological manual4 ,v briefly1 !  
sp]m-cells1 :i* are active1 freely mov+ 
units1 sw>m r\nd ! egg-cell & "o ( !m   
ev5tually ent]s x4 ,! ess5tial "p ( !   

cells1 namely ! nuclei1 coalesce into "o
 nucleus1 & an active process ( cell    
division & multiplication is at once    
/>t$4 ,! s+le cell divides into two     
daught] cells1 !n aga9 into f\r1 & s on4
 ,v e>ly 9 developm5t1 ! cells1 :i* at  
fir/ appe> simil>1 become diff]5tiat$   
into diff]5t types1 b ! :ole ord]$      
sequ5ce ( ! developm5t ( an embryo is   
a*iev$ by ?is cell division &           
multiplication4 ,ea* orig9al cell       
conta9s a sub/ance :i*1 on acc\nt ( its 
be+ easily colorable ) artificial /a9s1 
is call$ *romat91 & ?is *romat9 is      
believ$ to be ! be>] ( ! h]$it>y        
qualities4 ,! cell division is s arrang$
 t ea* new cell receives an equal %>e ( 
! male & female *romat91 & ?is process  
is cont9u$ 9 e case ( cell division1 s t
 ev5tually1 9 e "p ( our bodies1 ! dual 
inh]itance rema9s complete4  ,b ?\gh bo?
 p>5ts h ?us an equal %>e 9 ! cellul>   
elem5ts ( ! new life1 x is ! female ^:  
reproductive organs provide = its       
n\ri%m5t & protection until bir? takes  

place4  ,! ,human ,sex ,organs   ,9 !   
female ^! consi/ ( ! womb or ut]us1 !   
ov>ies1 & a canal call$ ! vag9a :i*     
leads f ! l[] end ( ! ut]us to an       
ext]nal op5+1 ! vulva4 ,! ov>ies1 two 9 
numb]1 are situat$ "o on ea* side ( !   
ut]us4 ,! ut]us1 :i* is pe>-%ap$1 ) !   
apex d[nw>ds1 has ?ree op5+s1 "o at !   
apex & "o at ea* side at ! upp] "p4 ,^! 
two upp] op5+s are provid$ ) a tubule   
ext5sion1 ! ,fallopian tubes1 ^: out]   
ends are fr+$ & lie 9 close relation to 
! ov>ies4 ,! ova or egg-cells are       
develop$ 9 ! ov>ies1 & ?r\gh a complex &
 elaborate process a s+le cell comes to 
maturity f "t to "t4 ,x is !n dis*>g$   
into ! op5 end ( ! ,fallopian tube1     
rea*es !reby ! ut]us1 & if n f]tiliz$ is
 dis*>g$ ?r\gh ! l[] op5+ ( ! ut]us into
 ! vag9a4 ,x is n kn[n exactly :5 ?is   
dis*>ge ( ova takes place1 b x is       
believ$ to co9cide m or less ) ! mon?ly 
p]iod4 ,if1 h[ev]1 f]tilization ( ! ovum
 takes place1 x is n dis*>g$1 b rema9s 9
 ! ut]us4 ,! l9+ membrane ( ! ut]us gr[s

 r\nd & envelops x1 & ! wond]ful process
 ( cell division & multiplication       
proce$s :i* results 9 ! gr[? &          
developm5t ( a *ild4  ,^! v>i\s organs  
are situat$ 9 ! l[] "p ( ! abdom51 )9 ! 
protection ( ! bony pelvis or bas94 ,?is
 pelvis is1 comp>$ ) ! male pelvis1     
broad & %all[1 to provide = ! passage ( 
! fully develop$ *ild at bir?4 ,! vag9a 
is ! passage by :i*1 dur+ ! bir?        
process1 ! *ild rea*es ! out] _w1 & x is
 also ! sex organ by :i*1 9 ! female1 ! 
union ( ! male & female elem5ts1 ( :i*  
we h spok51 takes place 9 ! sex act4  ,!
 male sex organs consi/ ( ! te/icles1 9 
:i* ! sp]m-cells or sp]matozoa are      
evolv$1 ( a coil$ duct lead+ !re f1 & ( 
! di/9ctive male sex organ1 ! p5is4 ,?is
 la/ s]ves ! d\ble purpose ( provid+ an 
exit = ! cont5ts ( ! bladd] & = t       
emission ( ! sp]matozoa :i* occurs 9 !  
sex act4 ,!re are also c]ta9 gl&s       
situat$ 9 close relation to ?is duct :i*
 provide a fluid :i* is emitt$ at ! same
 "t z ! sp]matozoa1 ! :ole be+ t]m$ !   

sem9al fluid4 ,x is ?us cle> t 9 bo?    
sexes !re are ess5tial reproductive     
organs1 ! ov>ies 9 ! "o case1 ! te/icles
 9 ! o!r1 provid+ respectively ova &    
sp]m-cells1 & !re are also organs = !   
purpose ( secur+ ! union ( ^! two       
elem5ts1 namely ! vag9a 9 ! female & !  
p5is 9 ! male4 ,^! two sets ( organs =m 
! prim>y sex *>act]i/ics or actual sex  
organs4   ,! ,sex ,act   ,! special     
process :i* secures ?is union ( ! male &
 female elem5ts is t]m$ copulation or   
coitus4 ,x takes place 9 all w>m-blood$ 
animals1 z well z _m o!rs1 b 9 man1 ) 8 
highly develop$ m5tal & psy*ical        
qualities1 x is a truly complex exp]i5ce
 9 :i* body1 m9d & s\l all take _! "p4  
,physically its c5tral fact is !        
ejaculation ( ! sem9al fluid by ! male &
 its reception by ! female1 & ?is       
culm9ation ) its psy*ical concomitants  
is spok5 ( z ! orgasm4 ,be=e coitus is  
feasible1 ! organs design$ = ! purpose h
 to be br\ght into an appropriate /ate =
 its consummation4 ,! p5is & ! vulva are

 alike furni%$ ) erectile tissue4 ,!    
p5is has to be erect$ 9 ord] to p5etrate
 into ! vag9a1 :ile ! female organs add 
_! %>e 9 facilitat+ ! act bo? by !      
erection ( ! tissue r\nd ! vulva & by ! 
outp\r+ ( a lubricat+ secretion :i* ba!s
 all ! p>ts4 ,! me*anism ( ?is is a     
n]v\s "o1 & its orig9at+ cause :ile     
p>tly physical is *iefly m5tal1 due to !
 emotions ar\s$ by love & c\rt%ip1 & ?us
 9 e act ( coitus prop]ly realiz$1 an   
ess5tial prelim9>y is an abbreviat$     
c\rt%ip4 ,?is initial /age has be5      
describ$ z ! /age ( tumesc5ce1 & is     
succe$$ by ! introduction ( ! male organ
 into ! vag9a4 ,a motor n]ve dis*>ge    
foll[s :i* produces ejaculation ( !     
sem9al fluid & is = ! male ! climax ( ! 
orgasm4 ,! female is1 h[ev]1 by no means
 passive2 motor n]ve dis*>ges take place
 lead+ to rhy?mic contraction ( ! vag9a1
 & %e exp]i5ces1 or %\ld exp]i5ce1 a    
simil> orgasm to ! male4 ,! climax is   
foll[$ 9 bo? by a feel+ ( satisfaction &
 repose :i* g5]ally issues 9 refre%+    

sleep4 ,x is to be not$1 h[ev]1 t 9 !   
female ! :ole process is apt to be sl[] 
?an 9 ! male4 ,h] orgasm frequ5tly      
co9cides ) ! male1 b (t5 x comes lat]4  
,if ?is is n realiz$ by h] p>tn]1 &     
inconsid]ate ha/e be practic$1 !n1 9    
place ( satisfaction1 a /ate ( n]v\s    
t5sion may rema91 :i* is n only         
psy*ically delet]i\s1 b1 if repeat$1 may
 lead to actual illness4  ,i h spok5 ( !
 sex act z x %\ld be1 a f9e & l(ty      
emotional exp]i5ce ( two p betwe5 :om is
 ! bond ( love4 ,x is true t 9 ! female 
an entirely passive "p is               
physiologically possible1 & x is also   
true t 9 ! male1 :o is biologically !   
hunt+ & pursu+ animal1 spontane\s       
desires arise f "t to "t :i* are too (t5
 accord$ a bodily & di%>moni\s          
satisfaction4 ,di%>moni\s because x _c  
be too /rongly insi/$ ^u t ! completely 
satisfactory realization ( ! sex act    
involves ! p>ticipation ( e side ( human
 nature1 spiritual & physical1 & is !   
outcome ( an int5se desire = p]fect     

unity ) ! belov$4 ,h5ce m]e bodily      
satisfaction ( s5su\s desire mu/ h a    
di%>moni\s & det]iorat+ effect1 because 
x ignores a basal fact ( man1 namely _s1
 & leaves t side ( him />v$ &           
unsatisfi$4 ,& ! same is true ( all     
sexual ab]rations & p]v]sions4 ,?\gh !y 
may seem at ! mom5t to be unimportant1 !
 fact rema9s t !y are s9s aga9/ bo? ! _s
 & ! fle%1 & are foll[$ inexorably by _!
 own puni%m5t4  ,x is argu$ by "s t !   
sexual act %\ld be re/rict$ to          
occasions1 :5 !re is a def9ite int5tion 
( begett+ *ildr54 ,?is does n seem ei!r 
reasonable or desirable4 ,nature's plans
 7 c]ta9ly1 9 ! case ( human be+s1 n    
con/ruct$ on t basis4 ,x w\ld introduce 
an elem5t ( calculation & delib]ation   
into :at is naturally a f9ely spontane\s
 ?+1 & x w\ld put a q unnecess>y1 & 9 "s
 cases1 at lea/1 a h>mful1 /ra9 ^u two  
p4 ,z ,havelock ,ellis has put x3 ,ev5  
if sexual relation%ips _h no connection 
) procreation :atev]1 !y w\ld /ill be   
ju/ifiable1 & are1 inde$1 an            

indisp5sable aid to ! be/ moral         
developm5t ( ! individual2 = x is only 9
 s intimate a relation%ip z t ( sex t ! 
f9e/ graces & aptitudes ( life h full   
scope4 ,?is does n imply t m>ri$ life   
does n call = ! ex]cise ( self-re/ra9t &
 cont95ce1 9 ?is z 9 o!r respects4  ,^? 
:o reg>d m>ital relations z an          
opportunity = unbridl$ sexual indulg5ce 
are n likely to w9 success 9 an adv5ture
 ( consid]able difficulty 9 :i* all t is
 f9e 9 man or woman w f9d full scope =  
developm5t4 ,b x does mean t sexual     
intimacy has a value 9 itself z an      
expression 9 ! t]ms ( ! body ( ! love   
:i* unites husb& & wife1 & t1 :5 duly   
controll$1 x leads to heal? & g5]al     
h>mony4