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 ,joseph9e ,turck ,bak]     ,,! ,,art   
,,( ,,conv]sation  ,,twelve ,,gold5     
,,rules     ,,gold5 ,,rule ,,numb] ,i   
,avoid unnecess>y details4   ,he4--,d y 
"k t :at y say always int]e/s me8       

,%e4--,t is because we are su* good     
comrades4  ,he4--,n altoge!r4 ,i ?9k t x
 is because y nev] dwell ^u details4    
,%e4--,!n1 "o is int]e/+ 9 conv]sation  
accord+ z "o omits details8             
,he4--,unnecess>y details4  ,%e4--,i    
rememb] t1 :5 visit+ "s fri5ds :om ,i _h
 n se5 = sev]al ye>s1 my ho/ess said to 
me1 ,ev] s9ce y\r arrival1 ,i h be5 try+
 to discov] :y y are s int]e/+ 9        
conv]sation1 & ,i h decid$ t x is       
because y omit unnecess>y details4 ,i   
felt t my ho/ess _h paid me a high      
complim5t4  ,he4--,yes2 b "o t y des]ve4
 ,n[1 ev5 9 tell+ ?is incid5t1 y 7      
direct4 ,! bore w\ld h side-track$1 &   
w\ld h told innum]able & irrelevant     
details4 ,i don't believe y c\ld bore a 
p]son if y 7 to try4  ,%e4--,i am q sure
 t ,i c\ld4 ,li/5 to ?is3 ,sev]al ye>s  
ago1--f\r ye>s ago j1--?is la/ ,june2   
no1 x 0 only ?ree ye>s ago1 because ,i  
rememb] n[ t f\r ye>s ago ,i did n att5d
 ! alumnae reunion ( our college1 & s x 
mu/ h be5 ?ree ye>s ago1--,i 0 ! gue/ ( 

"o ( ! memb]s ( my class1--,i 0 att5d+ !
 annual reunion ( ! alumnae ( our       
college1--almo/ e ye> ,i att5d ! alumnae
 reunion ( our college1--& on ?is       
occasion1 ,i 0 ! gue/ ( "o ( ! memb]s ( 
my class4 ,%e _h n be5 att5d+ !         
reunions1 & s ,i _h n se5 h] = sev]al   
ye>s1--five ye>s at lea/1 &----         
,he4--,p>don my int]ruption1 b y are a  
success4  ,%e4--,z a bore8  ,he4--,no2 z
 an imitator4 ,i ?9k t y %\ld h be5 an  
actress4  ,%e4--,yes2 ,i ?9k t ,nature  
int5d$ me = "o2 & ,i c\ld h act$4       
,inde$1 ,i usually f9d x difficult n to 
act2 t is1 ,i f9d x difficult to be     
myself4  ,he4--,l ,s5sational ,tommy 9  
,tommy & ,grizel8  ,%e4--,yes2 9 a way4 
,he4--,& :y 7 y n an actress8 ,0 x      
because y did n "k t y _h tal5t8        
,%e4--,f an opposite reason4 ,i _h s _m 
tal5ts t1 l ! woman 9 ,"m ,goose1 ,i    
h>dly knew :at to d4  ,he4--,t s\nds    
mode/4 ,y probably w\ld h be5 a great   
actress4  ,%e4--,i might n h be54       
,sometimes1 y "k1 p]sons :o are v gift$ 

seem to miss ! be/ t life has to (f]4   
,he4--,i h decid$ t y are int]e/+1 n    
because y d n sidetrack1 b because y h  
su* a /up5d\s am\nt ( conceit4 ,y seem  
to be fully aw>e ( :at y possess4 ,x is 
delightful4  ,%e4--,my tal5t or my      
conceit8  ,he4--,bo?4  ,%e4--,i am sure 
t if any "o else possess$ my tal5ts1 ,i 
%\ld n hesitate to speak ( !m4 ,:y %\ld 
,i n speak ( m9e8  ,he4--,t is "o way to
 look at x4 ,n[1 ,i suppose if ,i 7 to  
tell y t y 7 v gift$1 y w\ld say1 ,?ank 
y2 ,i ?9k t ,i am1 too1--or words to t  
effect4  ,%e4--,yes2 ,i ?9k t ,i %\ld   
respond 9 "s su* way4 ,:y %\ld ,i n8 ,:y
 %\ldn't ,i recognize my gifts & be     
?ankful = !m8  ,he4--,well1 usually1 y  
"k1 :5 any "o receives a complim5t1 he  
is apt to reg>d x z flatt]y1 & to treat 
x accord+ly2 or1 if he ?9ks ! praise is 
m]it$1 8 words are apt to belie 8       
?\ghts4  ,%e4--,yes1 b t brooks (       
ins9c]ity4 ,h[ev]1 we are a long way f  
our subject4 ,we 7 wond]+ :y "s p]sons  
bore & :y "s d n4 ,we decid$ t "o mu/ "u

 no circum/ances ent] into too _m       
details4  ,he4--,!y are ru9\s4 ,if a    
p]son is v polite1 he w feign an int]e/ 
t he does n feel4 ,(t51 h[ev]1 he       
betrays1 by an abs5t expression1 t !    
details h done _! deadly "w4 ,y always  
seem int]e/$1 ,i notice1 ev5 :5 !       
n>rator has w&]$ f ! ma9 road into      
innum]able by-pa?s4  ,%e4--,i appe>     
int]e/$1 because ,i am int]e/$1 = ,i am 
cont9ually on ! al]t to f9d out j h[ he 
is go+ to get back to ! ma9 road4 ,i    
f9d1 h[ev]1 t 9 ! majority ( cases1 he  
nev] gets back4 ,he is lo/ 9 su* a      
labyr9? t1 z comp>$ ) x1 ! ,g>d5 (      
,v]sailles & ! maze ( ,hampton ,c\rt are
 z naught2 & j z ^! _w-fam$ networks h a
 k9d ( attraction = ! curi\s1 s ,i f9d x
 int]e/+ to foll[ ! bore z he goes f "o 
intricate passage into ano!r 9 8        
endeavor to f9d an exit4 ,b ,i mu/ leave
 him to 8 fate1 or ,i1 too1 %all be lo/ 
9 a maze & %all n be able to f9d ! ma9  
pa?4  ,he4--,!n1 ,gold5 ,rule ,numb] ,i 
is3 ,,avoid ,,unnecess>y ,,details4 ,i  

%all try to rememb] ! rule1 & pr(it by  
its significance4     ,,gold5 ,,rule    
,,numb] ,,ii  ,d n ask "q numb] two     
until numb] "o has be5 answ]$4          
,he4--,s9ce our la/ visit1 ,i h be5     
notic+ ! faults ( my fri5ds 9           
conv]sation1 & ,i h conclud$ t ! mo/    
gl>+ fault "o c h is to ask que/ions &  
!n n wait = ! answ]s4 ,i h "o fri5d 9   
p>ticul> :o1 :5ev] he meets me asks 9 ! 
mo/ solicit\s way ab\t my family1 my    
heal?1 etc41 & !n be=e ,i h an          
opportunity to respond1 he proce$s to   
tell me ab\t himself1 8 family1 8 ills1 
& ! l4  ,%e4--,i "k ! species v well4 ,9
 fact1 ,i h classifi$ my fri5ds accord+ 
to _! respective m]its z li/5]s4        
,he4--,& :]e h y plac$ me8  ,%e4--,at ! 
head ( ! li/4  ,he4--,z ! greate/ (f5d]8
  ,%e4--,no2 z ! lea/4 ,y always wait   
until ,i answ] "o "q be=e y ask ano!r4  
,he4--,?ank y4 ,d ,i ask _m que/ions8   
,%e4--,n too _m4 ,y may h notic$ t !re  
are z _m p]sons :o ask too few que/ions 
z !re are :o ask too _m4  ,he4--,i mu/  

say t ,i _h nev] ?\ght ( t4  ,%e4--,to  
ask _m que/ions (t5 indicates an undue  
am\nt ( curiosity on ! "p ( ! que/ion]2 
to ask too few1 a lack ( int]e/4 ,!     
reason :y "s p]sons are s v prosaic &   
un9t]e/+ is t !y are entirely absorb$ 9 
!mselves2 9 consequ5ce1 !y ask few or no
 que/ions :atev]1 %[+ t !y are n 9 !    
lea/ conc]n$ 9 :at int]e/s _! fri5ds4   
,!re is a happy mean :]e "o %[s nei!r   
curiosity nor dis9t]e/4  ,he4--,9 ask+  
que/ions1 we are apt to /ir up a        
hornet's ne/1 s to speak1 = our fri5ds  
sometimes respond at su* l5g? t we are  
incl9$ to wi% t we _h %[n less int]e/4  
,%e4--,t is :]e x is s necess>y to      
rememb] ! gold5 rule t we spoke ( 9 our 
la/ conv]sation1 namely1 ,,avoid        
,,unnecess>y ,,details4  ,he4--,yes2 & z
 ,i h already told y1 t is :y y are     
always int]e/+2 y nev] bore "o ) a long 
/ory4  ,%e4--,i usually try to treat all
 my fri5ds z c>efully z if ea* "o bore a
 tag m>k$1 ,,?is ,,is ,,my ,,busy ,,day2
 ,,make ,,x ,,%ort4  ,he4--,yes2 or1    

,,if ,,y ,,h ,,any ,,"t ,,to ,,kill1    
,,kill ,,y\r ,,own4 ,at :at a rapid pace
 we live1 anyway4 ,p 9 ! c\ntry--!      
peasant class--are nev] 9 a hurry4 ,!y  
talk sl[ly1 eat sl[ly1 & "w at ! same   
lagg>d pace4  ,%e4--,9 o!r words1 !y    
exi/1 b d n live4 ,!y d n enjoy :at we  
enjoy4 ,a daily fea/ is spread be=e !m1 
b !y d n p>take ( x4 ,:at d !y "k ( gl[+
 sunsets & ( moonlit waves2 ( %ad$ walks
 ?r\gh pa?less woods2 ( n>r[ /reams     
9-wall$ ) trees8 ,! sunset tells !      
peasant only ( :at ! wea!r w br+ to 8   
crops2 ! /ret* ( velvet ?r\gh :i* !     
/reamlet w9ds1 ( gre5 pa/ures = 8       
flocks4 ,b ,i h gott5 away f my subject4
 ,9 o!r words1 l ! bore1 ,i h           
side-track$4  ,he4--,only :at y say does
 n bore4  ,%e4--,y mean1 n y4           
,he4--,nor any "o else4  ,%e4--,?ank y4 
,he4--,i %\ld ?ank y1 in/ead4 ,n[1 ,i am
 to rememb]1 fir/1 t ,gold5 ,rule ,numb]
 ,i is43 ,,avoid ,,unnecess>y ,,details4
 ,rule ,numb] ,,ii43 ,,d ,,n ,,ask ,,"q 
,,numb] ,,two ,,until ,,"q ,,numb] ,,"o 

,,has ,,be5 ,,answ]$2 &1 fur!rmore1 "o  
mu/ be nei!r too curi\s nor too         
dis9t]e/$2 t is1 "o mu/ n ask too few   
nor too _m que/ions2 j en\gh4 ,i fe> t  
,i %all f9d x difficult to obs]ve ?is   
rule1 b ,i %all try to acquire ! tact t 
is necess>y = "o to h4 ,may ,i practice 
! art :5 ) y8  ,%e4--,t w be *>m+1 & y  
may beg9 at once4     ,,gold5 ,,rule    
,,numb] ,,iii  ,d n int]rupt ano!r :ile 
he is speak+4   ,he4--,s we agree t !   
greate/ fault t a p]son c h is to ask   
que/ions1 & !n1 )\t wait+ = ! answ]s1 to
 plunge at once into a detail$ acc\nt ( 
8 own do+s4 ,i h discov]$ ano!r fault1 &
 "o1 ,i fe>1 t ,i1 too1 possess2 t is1  
to ask que/ions conc]n+ ! welf>e ( my   
fri5d & ( 8 family1 & !n aft] he has    
gott5 fairly "u way 9 ! recital ( 8     
woes1 to int]rupt him ) irrelevant      
rem>ks4  ,%e4--,i am sure t y hav5't ?is
 fault1 al?\gh x is v common4 ,x is bas$
 ^u ! pr9ciple t p1 z a rule1 are       
vitally conc]n$ only 9 :at conc]ns      
!mselves4 ,i h a fri5d :o ma9ta9s t no  

"o really enjoys li/5+ to :at ano!r has 
to say4 ,he says t ! int]e/$ 787 li/5]  
is int]e/$ only 9 hav+ ! o!r p]son f9i% 
9 ord] t he may h ! opportunity to tell 
8 /ory4  ,he4--,i note1 h[ev]1 t1 z a   
rule1 p recite _! woes1 & n _! weals4   
,b1 ( c\rse1 t dep5ds ^u ! individual4  
,"s p]sons always h a h>d luck /ory2    
o!rs1 dwell ^u ! bright happ5+s 9 _!    
lives4  ,%e4--,i ?9k we ea* c recall "s 
fri5d ^: greate/ pleasure is to pose z a
 m>tyr2 ano!r1 :o1 no matt] :at are 8   
ills1 has always some?+ ( int]e/ to     
imp>t p]ta9+ to "s good =tune1 fanci$ or
 o!rwise1 :i* has befall5 him4          
,he4--,speak+ ( our faults1 ,i ?9k t !  
be/ way to correct !m is to notice !m 9 
our fri5ds1 & !n to try to avoid !m4 ,b1
 ( c\rse1 y hav5't any4  ,%e4--,any     
fri5ds8  ,he4--,any faults1 ( c\rse4    
,%e4--,i fe> t y are n a good critic4   
,he4--,i may n be2 b y c]ta9ly h none ( 
! bad habits t we h enum]at$4           
,%e4--,oh6 y c\ldn't see !m if ,i _h4   
,he4--,f %e] /upidity8  ,%e4--,h>dly2   

only z f> z ,i am conc]n$1 y h become   
accu/om$ to ?9k ( me z did ,dick (      
,maisie1 9 ,! ,light t ,fail$ t ,! ,que5
 c d no wrong4  ,he4--,t rem9ds me--,i h
 j f9i%$ read+ ,! ,light t ,fail$1 & ,i 
am sure t ,i %all nev] get away f !     
awfulness ( x--! awfulness ( hav+ !     
light g out =ev]4  ,%e4--,kipl+ makes "o
 see x all s vividly1 :]e he says3  ',i 
%an't4' ,! voice rose 9 a wail1 ',my    
,god6 ,i'm bl9d1 & ! d>kness w nev] g   
away4' ,he made z if to leap f ! b$1 b  
,torp5h['s arms 7 ar\nd him1 &          
,torp5h['s *9 0 on 8 %\ld]1 & 8 brea? 0 
squeez$ out ( him4 ,he c\ld only gasp1  
',bl9d6'  ,he4--,& aga91 ! picture t    
,kipl+ draws ( ! bl9d man :o sudd5ly    
f9ds himself unable to d t :i* he has   
be5 accu/om$ to d4 ,i h ! book ) me3  ,a
 wise man 7:o is bl9d7 w keep 8 eyes on 
! floor & sit /ill4 ,= amusem5t he may  
pick coal1 lump by lump1 out ( a light  
scuttle1 ) ! tongs1 & pile x 9 a little 
heap by ! f5d]1 keep+ c\nt ( ! lumps1   
:i* mu/ all be put back aga91 "o by "o1 

& v c>efully4 ,he may set himself sums  
if he c>es to "w !m out2 he may talk to 
himself1 or to ! cat if %e *ooses to    
visit him2 & if 8 trade has be5 t ( an  
arti/ he may sket* 9 ! air ) 8 =ef+]3 b 
t is too mu* l draw+ a pig ) 8 eyes %ut4
 ,he may g to 8 book%elves & c\nt 8     
books1 rang+ !m 9 ord] ( _! size2 or to 
8 w>drobe & c\nt out 8 %irts1 lay+ !m 9 
piles ( two or ?ree on ! b$1 z !y suff] 
f fray$ cuffs or lo/ buttons4 ,ev5 ?is  
ent]ta9m5t we>ies aft] a "t2 & all !    
times are v1 v long4  ,i suppose t ?is  
portrayal is true to life4              
,%e4--,und\bt$ly1 9 a way2 b ,i _h a    
novel exp]i5ce :5 travel+ ,ea/ ?is      
summ]4 ,:ile on ! tra91 ,i saw a        
g5tleman1 :o 0 try+ to int]e/ a little  
boy1 :o did n respond to 8 advances4 ,i 
he>d him ask ! *ild :e!r he 0 a little  
boy1 & h[ old he 04 ,i saw !n t !       
g5tleman 0 bl9d1 & ?9k+ t he might pref]
 to talk ) me1 ,i introduc$ myself to   
him & f\nd him a mo/ delightful         
conv]sationali/4 ,he told me t he _h    

become bl9d v sudd5ly five ye>s ago1 b t
 8 "w _h n be5 int]rupt$ = a day s9ce4  
,8 position z manag] ( a l>ge           
corporation necessitat$ 8 frequ5t       
j\rney+ 9 railroad tra9s1 b he _h       
cont9u$ to travel z be=e1 sometimes ) 8 
secret>y1 & sometimes alone4 ,he 0 alone
 :5 ,i met him4 ,he 0 c]ta9ly           
delightfully *e]ful & ent]ta9+2 & )al1  
he 0 fully in=m$ on curr5t topics (     
int]e/4 ,x seem$ almo/ impossible to    
realize t he 0 bl9d4  ,he4--,8 case is  
extraord9>y2 b1 ( c\rse1 he 0 n an      
arti/1 z 0 poor ,dick1 be=e ! light w5t 
out4  ,i h j discov]$ ano!r reason :y y 
are s v int]e/+4 ,x is because y always 
h "s novel exp]i5ce to rec\nt4          
,%e4--,yes2 b y "k1 we decid$ t p did n 
c>e1 z a rule1 to he> o!rs talk4        
,he4--,well1 ,i %all retract my         
decision4 ,i h conclud$ t we usually l  
to he> o!rs talk1 if !y h some?+ int]e/+
 to tell4  ,%e4--,yes2 we are all       
*ildr51 9 a s5se4 ,tell u a /ory1 & we w
 li/51 provid$ ! /ory-tell] kn[s h[ to  

tell x4  ,he4--,d y "k :at ,i h be5 ?9k+
 ( :ile y 7 tell+ me ?is incid5t8       
,%e4--,t we _h gott5 a long way f our   
orig9al subject8  ,he4--,no2 ,i 0 ?9k+ (
 h[ mu* y _h said 9 comp>atively few    
words1 & t 9 tell+ ?is incid5t1 y _h    
c]ta9ly con=m$ to ,gold5 ,rule ,numb]   
,i43 ,,avoid ,,unnecess>y ,,details4    
,%e4--,& y h con=m$ to bo? ! rules t we 
h le>n$4  ,he4--,?ank y4 ,let me see1   
,gold5 ,rule ,numb] ,i4 is3 ,,avoid     
,,unnecess>y ,,details4 ,rule ,numb]    
,,ii43 ,,n ,,to ,,ask ,,"q ,,numb] ,,two
 ,,until ,,"q ,,numb] ,,"o ,,has ,,be5  
,,answ]$1 nor be too curi\s nor too     
dis9t]e/$2 t is1 d n ask too few nor too
 _m que/ions2 j en\gh4  ,%e4--,& our new
 rule1 ,gold5 ,rule ,numb] ,,iii43 ,,d  
,,n ,,int]rupt ,,ano!r ,,:ile ,,he ,,is 
,,speak+4  ,he4--,h[ frequ5tly ?is rule 
is brok56 ,_m p]sons1 :o ord9>ily are   
well br$1 h ! v bad habit ( int]rupt+   
o!rs4 ,b ,i des]ve no cr$it = obs]v+    
,gold5 ,rule ,numb] ,,iii41 = y are nev]
 tiresome2 y nev] tell a long /ory4     

,%e4--,no2 ,i don't d t4 ,i knew a      
g5tleman once :o us$ to say ) a groan1  
to 8 niece1 :o 0 r v]bose1 ,o ,alma6 ,y 
tell su* a long /ory4 ,make x %ort2 & s 
,i always try to make my /ory %ort4     
,,gold5 ,,rule ,,numb] ,,iv  ,d n       
contradict ano!r1 especially :5 !       
subject "u discussion is ( trivial      
importance4   ,he4--,we always seem to  
drift back to our favorite topic1 ,h[ n 
to bore4 ,at lea/1 we discuss x s       
frequ5tly1 t ,i assume we are mutually  
int]e/$4  ,%e4--,i assure y t ,i am v   
mu* int]e/$ 9 ev]y?+ t assi/s me 9 mak+ 
myself m pleas+ to my fri5ds4  ,he4--,if
 y w\ld n reg>d my complim5ts s         
dubi\sly1 ,i %\ld say t t w\ld be       
impossible4  ,%e4--,ano!r case ( !      
infallibility ( ! que58 ,b to g back to 
our subject1 ,i (t5 wond] :e!r ?is      
pleasure t we take 9 receiv+ ! approval 
( o!rs1 is n virtually ! root ( all     
good4 ,x is c]ta9ly mo/ =tunate t we d  
c>e = ! good op9ion ( our fell[-be+s1 & 
especially :]e we /rive to m]it x4      

,someh[1 we nev] seem to outgr[ our     
*ildi% love = rew>ds4 ,i suppose t if ! 
tru? 7 told1 mu* t we ?9k we d = ! sake 
( culture1 is really done = ! sake (    
,dame ,grundy4 ,( c\rse1 ,i d n mean z  
appli$ to va9 self-glorification1 b r to
 our high] aims & purposes4 ,mo/ ( u1 = 
example1 ?9k t we make great ef=ts along
 ! l9es ( self-improvem5t = !           
s\l-satisfaction t our ef=ts may give u2
 b ,i wond] h[ /eadfa/ly "o w\ld "w--ea*
 at 8 *os5 call+--if "o 7 on a des]t    
isl&1 remote f all ! haunts ( m54 ,b to 
return to our subject1 y say t y\r late/
 discov]y is t ev5 gr[n p]sons          
contradict "o ano!r4 ,i ?\ght t only    
*ildr5 _h ?is fault4  ,he4--,s did ,i2 b
 my att5tion 0 call$ to ?is a few days  
s9ce :5 visit+ my si/]4 ,:ile %e 0 tell+
 me some?+ ( great int]e/ to u bo?1 h]  
little daught] contradict$ h] sev]al    
times 9 ! c\rse ( our conv]sation4      
,p>tly because ,i 0 annoy$1 & p>tly     
because ,i wi%$ to tea* ! *ild a lesson1
 ,i said to my si/]1 ,h y ev] notic$ h[ 

frequ5tly *ildr5 contradict _! eld]s8 ,x
 is c]ta9ly "o ( ! greate/ faults t a   
*ild c h4 ,yes1 %e answ]$1 b _m gr[n    
p]sons h ! same fault4 ,& :5 ,i express$
 surprise1 %e add$1 ,if y are incl9$ to 
d\bt ! tru? ( ?is ass]tion1 j try to    
tell some?+ 9 ! he>+ ( o!rs :o are      
famili> ) ! /ory1 & y w soon disc]n t ! 
fault is n conf9$ to *ildr54 ,& !n ,i   
discov]$ ?is fault n only 9 o!rs1 b also
 9 myself4  ,%e4--,oh1 de>6 maybe ,i1   
too1 am guilty ( ! same (f5ce4  ,he4--,i
 am sure t y nev] contradict any "o 9 ! 
way t ,i mean4 ,x is c]ta9ly v emb>rass+
 to make a /atem5t1 & !n to h x         
contradict$1 ev5 ?\gh ! matt] is (      
little consequ5ce4  ,%e4--,h[ _m rules h
 we le>n$ s f>8  ,he4--,gold5 ,rule     
,numb] ,i4 is3 ,,avoid ,,unnecess>y     
,,details4 ,rule ,numb] ,,ii43 ,,d ,,n  
,,ask ,,"q ,,numb] ,,two ,,until ,,numb]
 ,,"o ,,has ,,be5 ,,answ]$2 ,,d ,,n ,,be
 ,,too ,,curi\s ,,nor ,,too ,,dis9t]e/$2
 t is1 d n ask too _m que/ions nor too  
few2 j en\gh4 ,rule ,numb] ,,iii43 ,,d  

,,n ,,int]rupt ,,ano!r ,,:ile ,,he ,,is 
,,speak+4  ,%e4--,& our new rule1 ,gold5
 ,rule ,numb] ,,iv43 ,,d ,,n            
,,contradict ,,ano!r1 ,,especially ,,:5 
,,! ,,subject ,,"u ,,discussion ,,is    
,,"o ,,( ,,trivial ,,importance4        
,he4--,s1 if ,mrs4 ,van ,/ret*] tells u 
t ,mrs4 ,de ,wat]s has cross$ ! ocean a 
doz5 times 9 z _m ye>s1 we are n to say1
 ,p>don u1 only six1 z %e goes abroad   
only once 9 two ye>s1 :i* makes j--,oh1 
yes6 j twelve times4  ,%e4--,yes1 !     
p]son :o contradicts1 frequ5tly re/ates 
! matt] m]ely 9 ano!r way4     ,,gold5  
,,rule ,,numb] ,v  ,d n d all ! talk+2  
give y\r tir$ li/5] a *ance4   ,he4--,y 
hav5't ask$ me ab\t my gold5 discov]y4  
,%e4--,oh1 de>6 is !re /ill ano!r rule  
to le>n8 ,y "k1 we h already _h f\r4    
,he4--,no2 ?is isn't a rule4 ,i h ab\t  
come to ! conclusion t p are *>m+ 9     
proportion z !y c rise above !          
commonplace4 ,( c\rse !y mu/ obs]ve all 
our gold5 rules1 b ?is obs]vance alone w
 n make !m int]e/+ 9 conv]sation4 ,la/  

night1 = example1 ,i nev] 0 s greatly   
bor$ z :5 talk+ ) a "y lady to :om ,i _h
 be5 rec5tly introduc$4 ,%e 0 s well br$
 t %e obs]v$ all ! gold5 rules f ,a to  
,z1 & yet %e 0 tiresome beyond          
endurance1 simply because %e hadn't a   
s\l4 ,%e 0 a ,phili/9e ( ! deepe/ dye4  
,i mu/ say t ,i am s conv5tional1 9 a   
way1 t ,i es*ew ,bohemianism1 b an      
out-&-out ,phili/9e1--give me a         
,bohemian e "t4  ,%e4--,!n1 ,i suppose t
 ,gold5 ,rule ,numb] ,v4 w\ld be3       
,,acquire ,a ,,s\l1--,,& ,,assume ,,"o  
,,if ,,y ,,h ,,x ,,n4  ,he4--,i suppose 
x is innate--"o's s\l1 :i* to me /&s =  
"o's love ( ! beautiful--= ! ideal4 ,y  
see1 :atev] y speak ab\t1 y lift out ( !
 commonplace4 ,life seems q wor? ! :ile1
 :5 ,i am ) y4 ,all ! inspir+           
?+s--books1 music1 pa9t+--take on a new 
mean+ :5 we talk ab\t !m4 ,la/ ev5+ my  
newly-made acqua9tance & ,i discuss$ ^! 
subjects1 b !y did n int]e/ me4 ,julia  
,m>l[e1 :om %e _h j se51 0 m]ely a      
pretty woman :o dress$ p]fectly2 ! late/

 book 0 some?+ t bor$1 b t _h to be read
 because ev]ybody else 0 read+ x4 ,music
 0 an unkn[n quantity4 ,:at %all we d ) 
,phili/9es l ?is8  ,%e4--,leave !m to _!
 idols4 ,!y w n be alone1 = !re are _m  
to keep !m company4 ,! tr\ble ) _m      
p]sons is t !y d n cultivate an         
admiration = ! beautiful--beautiful     
pictures1 exquisite music1 delightful   
books4 ,!y live 9 a _w ( mat]ialism4    
,h&some h\ses1 exquisite pa9t+s1        
well-fill$ libr>ies are to !m m]e       
possessions--valuable because !y are !  
embodi$ insignia ( weal?4 ,! p]son (    
high ideals delights 9 ! beautiful1     
because x br+s him into h>mony ) t      
p]fection = :i* he /rives4 ,9 a         
beautiful pa9t+1 he sees ! rea*+ out ( !
 arti/ to produce n :at is1 b :at %\ld  
be2 9 a great lit]>y production1 ! ma/] 
intellect t c mold words z wax 9 ! h&s (
 an artisan2 9 beautiful music1 ! s\l ( 
! compos] :o c make "o feel all t he has
 felt :5 "u ! magic sway ( h>mony2 &1 s1
 beautiful ?+s are lov$1 n alone =      

!mselves1 b = :at !y repres5t2 = no?+   
beautiful has ev] exi/$ )\t its ma/]    
creator--! p[] beh9d ! ?rone--:]e !     
mon>* beauty is at ! beck & call ( t    
giant--intellect4  ,he4--,!n1 if we are 
to belong to ! class :o love ! beautiful
 or :at x repres5ts1 we are to cultivate
 our s\ls--t "p ( u :i* br+s u en       
rapport ) ! div9e 9 ! univ]se4 ,we are n
 to be sordid2 we mu/ n wi% simply to   
possess--we mu/ cultivate a love = !    
ideal--= :at ! beautiful repres5ts4     
,%e4--,yes2 & ?is c be done4 ,9 our     
mod]n s*ools1 ! be/ 9 lit]ature1 9 art1 
9 music1 is br\ght to ! *ildr54 ,! *ild 
( to-day le>ns ( ,moz>t1 ( ,h&el1 (     
,wagn]1 & he>s _! music4 ,he sees       
repres5tations ( great ma/]pieces ( art1
 & le>ns to love ! beautiful ,madonnas (
 ,raphael--to "k ! pa9t+s ( ,rosa       
,bonheur--( ,jean ,francois ,millet4    
,?is education c n fail to in/ill 9     
*ildr5 a love = ! beautiful4 ,to !m ! _w
 takes on a roseate t+e1 :ile _! m9ds   
ev5tually become /ore-h\ses 9 :i* are   

g>n]$ ! treasur$ ?\ghts ( ! ages4 ,no?+ 
9 e-day life c be :olly commonplace2 ea*
 peculi> incid5t 9 life1 ea* peculi>    
mood ( nature br+s its accompany+       
sugge/ion4  ,he4--,d y "k1 y are say+   
:at ,i %\ld l to say1 b :at ,i _c f9d   
words to express4 ,possibly1 t is "o    
reason :y ,i enjoy y\r society m ?an t (
 all o!rs--because y say ! ?+s t ,i w\ld
 say1 if ,i c\ld b express my ?\ghts4 ,x
 is = ?is reason t we admire an au?or1  
because he puts into words :at we ?9k2  
:at we feel4  ,%e4--,i ?9k we %\ld add  
,gold5 ,rule ,numb] ,v4 to our li/1     
namely1 ,,d ,,n ,,d ,,all ,,! ,,talk+2  
,,give ,,y\r ,,tir$ ,,li/5] ,,an        
,,opportunity ,,to ,,speak4  ,he4--,i am
 sure t ,i w\ld r li/5 ?an talk :5 y are
 ) me4  ,%e4--,i am half incl9$ to      
believe y1 = y are c]ta9ly p]fect--z a  
li/5]4     ,,gold5 ,,rule ,,numb] ,,vi  
,be n cont9ually ! h]o ( y\r own /ory2  
&1 on ! o!r h&1 d n leave y\r /ory )\t a
 h]o4   ,he4--,%ips t pass 9 ! night1 & 
speak ea* o!r 9 pass+1      ,only a     

signal %[n & a di/ant voice 9 ! d>kness2
      ,s on ! ocean ( life1 we pass &   
speak "o ano!r1      ,only a look & a   
voice1 !n d>kness aga9 & a sil5ce4      
,%e4--,& :at recall$ ! poem8  ,he4--,i 0
 ?9k+ ( ! p :om we meet1 & :o speak u 9 
! pass+4 ,p :om we may nev] meet aga91 b
 :om we nev] c =get4  ,%e4--,t          
intangible some?+ :i* makes u wi% to    
become m closely associat$ ) our        
newly-made acqua9tance1--:at is x8 ,x is
 indef9able4 ,we meet "s "o at ! !at]1  
at ! club1 at ! social function1 & !re  
l+]s ) u = _m days1 ! remembrance ( !   
few brief mom5ts 9 :i* we felt t we 7 z 
tw9 spirits mov+ musically to a lute's  
well ord]$ law4 ,/range z x may seem1 we
 live 9 a _w ( p1--p to ! "r ( u1 p to !
 left ( u1 ev]y:]e ab\t u1 & only "h &  
!re a k9dr$ _s 9 ^: moral & m5tal       
atmosph]e we bask z 9 ! rays ( sun%9e4  
,?is some?+ t makes u feel t only !     
elem5t ( "t is ne$$ to make ( our       
newly-=m$ acqua9tance a fri5d t %all la/
 ?r\gh life1--:at is x8 ,a w>m h& clasp1

 a fri5dly ^w1 & 9 "o brief mom5t t     
my/]i\s some?+ t cl\ds ! s\l1 is ?r[n   
aside1 & 9 our sky a new /> appe>s z    
fix$ z ,pol>is 9 ! heav5s4  ,:5 we h an 
exp]i5ce ( ?is k9d1 al?\gh we may h     
int]*ang$ b few words ) our new fri5d1  
we feel intuitively t we c\ld sp5d _m   
h\rs toge!r & t we %\ld nev] tire (     
ex*ang+ ideas4  ,he4--,yes2 b does ?is n
 presuppose a m9d /or$ ) ^? treasur$    
?\ghts ab\t :i* we 7 speak+ 9 our la/   
conv]sation8  ,%e4--,possibly1 9 a s5se2
 b fir/ ( all1 x presupposes h>mony (   
ta/e1 ( feel+1 ( ideas4 ,?is does n     
mean1 ( c\rse1 t ea* %all agree ) ! o!r 
9 all ess5tials1 b t ea* %all h ! same  
broad & intellig5t way ( look+ at a     
subject1 & a consid]ation ea* = ! o!r's 
op9ions4  ,he4--,i ?9k1 ?\gh1 t z a     
basis = h>moni\s int]c\rse1 !re mu/ be  
an elim9ation ( self4 ,no "o :o is      
?or\ghly selfi% c int]e/ any "o b       
himself4 ,x seems to me t ! ideal       
relation betwe5 fri5ds presupposes an   
entire elim9ation ( self4  ,%e4--,n     

necess>ily s4 ,"o ( ! mo/ tiresome      
p]sons t ,i "k1 is a g5tleman :o nev]   
ref]s to himself1 to 8 aspirations1 or  
to 8 plans2 & = ?is reason1 he fails    
entirely to awak5 9 8 li/5] any int]e/ 9
 8 p]sonality :atsoev]4 ,he is !        
antipode ( ! p]son :o talks only ( :at  
int]e/s him4 ,! p]son :o uses discretion
 w n avoid all ref]5ce to himself1 nor w
 he cont9ually make himself ! h]o ( 8   
own /ory4 ,x behooves u all to exam9e   
ourselves1 & if we h ei!r "o ( ^! faults
 to rid ourselves ( x at once4 ,9       
direct+ ! tr5d ( conv]sation1 ! tactful 
p]son w *oose topics ( mutual int]e/4 ,p
 are int]e/+ n 9 proportion z !y rec\nt 
_! p]sonal exp]i5ces1 b z !y ev9ce a    
broad1 g5]al int]e/ 9 :at conc]ns o!rs4 
,he4--,we might add ano!r gold5 rule to 
our li/1--,gold5 ,rule ,numb] ,,vi3 ,,be
 ,,n ,,cont9ually ,,! ,,h]o ,,( ,,y\r   
,,own ,,/ory1 ,,nor ,,on ,,! ,,o!r ,,h&1
 ,,d ,,n ,,leave ,,y\r ,,/ory ,,)\t ,a  
,,h]o4 ,9 o!r words1 x is fatal to "o's 
success z a conv]sationali/ ei!r to     

elim9ate oneself entirely or to appe>   
self-c5t]$4  ,%e4--,y might say to be   
self-c5t]$4 ,selfi%ness is "o ( ! mo/   
disagreeable traits t a p]son c h1 & he 
:o has ?is to a m>k$ degree %\ld try to 
eradicate x4 ,"s "o has said1 ,if we _h 
to c\nt our ills1 we w\ld n *oose       
susp5se1 we might add1 ,if we _h to     
*oose our faults we %\ld n *oose        
selfi%ness4 ,a p]son may obs]ve all !   
gold5 rules t we h enum]at$1 b if he is 
at he>t a selfi% p]son1 8 conv]sation w 
lack ! *>m t emanates f ! :ole-s\l$     
individual ^: fir/ ?\ght is to int]e/ & 
ent]ta9 o!rs4 ,let u cultivate an       
unselfi% _s1 = )\t ?is1 our words w be b
 z s\nd+ brass & t9kl+ cymbals4         
,,gold5 ,,rule ,,numb] ,,vii  ,*oose    
subject ( mutual int]e/4   ,he4--,& "h  
we are aga9 at "o ( y\r *>m+ at homes1 &
 ,i1 z usual1 am ! only gue/4  ,x is    
delightful ( y to select = my visits ^? 
ev5+s :]e !re is no possibility ( our   
be+ int]rupt$ :ile discuss+ our favorite
 topic4  ,%e4--,if ,i 7 n at home on ^! 

occasions1 we %\ld h v little           
opportunity to talk ab\t ! subjects 9   
:i* we are mutually int]e/$4 ,x is      
decid$ly p>adoxical1 is x n1 to be at   
home "u ! circum/ances8  ,he4--,x is1 to
 say ! lea/1 decid$ly pleasant2 =1      
o!rwise1 h[ %\ld y be able to tea* me t 
delightful art--! ,art ( ,conv]sation8  
,i am j selfi% en\gh to exult 9 my be+ !
 only diplomat at y\r salons4           
,%e4--,:at is t l9e ab\t conv]sation's  
be+ l an or*e/ra :]e all ! in/rum5ts    
%\ld be> a "p1 b :]e none %\ld play     
toge!r8  ,he4--,to my ?9k+1 conv]sation 
is mo/ delightful :5 x is mo/ unlike an 
or*e/ra4 ,= my "p1 ,i pref] ^? *>m+ duos
 :]e ! sweet voice ( ! soprano rises f> 
above ! organ's swell4                  
,%e4--,conv]sation is m (t5 l an or*e/ra
 :]e all ! in/rum5ts play toge!r1 & :]e 
no p>ticul> "o c be he>d4 ,i see t a    
conv]sation 9 :i* _m take "p is n to y\r
 lik+4  ,he4--,z 9 music1 s ) my fri5ds1
 ,i pref] to foll[ ! individual2 to come
 into h>mony ) 8 ?\ghts & feel+s4 ,!    

trite say+ t corporations h no s\ls c be
 appli$ ) equal propriety to a body (   
individuals at a social function1 :]e ! 
bor$ look on _! faces %[s t !y h fail$  
to f9d a subject ( g5]al int]e/1 & are 9
 consequ5ce suff]+ 9 durance vile4      
,%e4--,conv]sation is enjoyable only :5 
! p>ticipants are equally int]e/$ 9 !   
subject "u discussion2 & :ile x is n    
difficult = two p]sons to f9d topics (  
mutual int]e/1 x is n s easy = sev]al   
individuals to hit ^u "s topic 9 :i* all
 are equally int]e/$2 consequ5tly1 !re  
is mu* great] opportunity = enjoym5t 9  
social conv]se :]e only two are ga!r$   
toge!r4  ,he4--,yes1 ,i "k2 no matt] h[ 
app>5tly dry a subject is to me1 x might
 be ( ke5 int]e/ to "s "o else4         
,%e4--,c]ta9ly4 ,only a few ev5+s s9ce1 
,i notic$1 at a social function1 a lady 
& g5tleman deeply engag$ = a long "t1 9 
! discussion ( "s topic 9 :i* ea* 0     
app>5tly vitally int]e/$4 ,i le>n$      
aft]w>ds t ! g5tleman 0 ! editor-9-*ief 
( a new diction>y rec5tly compil$1 & t !

 lady 0 ! tea*] ( ,engli% 9 a college4  
,!y 7 discuss+ ! relative m]its ( !     
diacritical m>k+s ( ! ,c5tury1 ,/&>d1 & 
,int]national diction>ies comp>$ ) ^? ( 
old ,web/]4  ,he4--,i %\ld call t an    
extremely dry subject4  ,%e4--,oh6 !y   
f\nd x fasc9at+4 ,!y really became      
excit$--n impolitely s--b deeply absorb$
 9 foll[+ ea* o!r ?r\gh ! maze ( half   
circles & dots1 /raight l9es & curv$4   
,he4--,t is :y p :om we meet--polite &  
k9dly p--try to draw u out1 to f9d :at  
we are int]e/$ 91 s z n to h+e !        
conv]sation on politics :5 x %\ld be on 
potatoes or on poetry4  ,%e4--,! :ole   
secret ( pleasant social conv]se lies 9 
! p>ticipants' f9d+ subjects ( mutual   
int]e/4 ,:y1 ,i h he>d two p]sons       
discuss by ! h\r ! feasibility ( rais+  
ducks z a means ( livelihood2 o!rs1 t ( 
manufactur+ a wa%+-ma*9e t w\ld wa% &   
boil clo?+ at ! same "t4 ,s y see1 x    
doesn't matt] :e!r ! topic is politics  
or poetry2 ! late/ "w 9 sci5ce or 9     
fiction2 :e!r x is music or pa9t+2 ! ma9

 po9t is t ! subject %all be ( mutual   
int]e/ to ^? discuss+ x4  ,he4--,!n we  
may add ano!r rule to our li/--,gold5   
,rule ,numb] ,,vii43 ,,*oose ,,subjects 
,,( ,,mutual ,,int]e/4 ,don't discuss   
politics :5 y %\ld be talk+ ab\t poetry2
 fact1 in/ead ( fiction2 sci5ce1 in/ead 
( sunsets4  ,%e4--,yes2 & be sure t bo? 
are equally int]e/$ or else "o or ! o!r 
w h t bor$ look to :i* y ref]r$ a %ort  
"t s9ce4  ,he4--,p sometimes appe>      
int]e/$ :5 !y are n4  ,%e4--,yes2 b !   
ke5 obs]v] w detect :e!r ! smile ext5ds 
f>!r ?an ! p>t$ lips4 ,if p w\ld be     
g5u9e1 & less artificial1 aft] a        
pleasant ev5+ sp5t 9 social conv]se1 !re
 w\ld l+] ) "o a memory z pleas+ & z    
refre%+ z is ! sweet fragrance waft$ f  
c\ntry clov] fields to ! travel] on !   
du/y road4 ,9 our social int]c\rse ) "o 
ano!r let u omit all unpleasant topics1 
& *oose only ^? 9 :i* bo? are equally   
int]e/$4     ,,gold5 ,,rule ,,numb]     
,,viii  ,be a good li/5]4   ,he4--,& "h 
we are aga9 9 y\r b[]--y\r b[] ( roses &

 c>nations4 ,x is always summ] "h1 = !re
 are always fl[]s4 ,y we> !m1 too1 z    
ano!r w\ld we> h] jewels4  ,illu/ration3
 ,,! ,,woman ,,) ,,! ,,rose       ,%e   
w5t by dale1 & %e w5t by d[n1     ,) a  
s+le rose 9 h] hair4   ,%e4--,?is is z  
,i l my fl[]s--ar\nd me & ab\t me4      
,cons]vatories h no *>m = me1 = "o _c   
live 9 a cons]vatory4 ,i l my roses1    
:]e1 z ,i sit & write1 ,i c inhale _!   
fragrance1 & see _! wondr\s beauty4 ,:at
 is m beautiful ?an a rose8             
,he4--,w\ldn't ,! ,woman ) ! ,rose make 
a nice title = a poem8  ,%e4--,y are    
really lack+ 9 orig9ality4 ,y nev] w\ld 
h ?\ght ( x 9 ! _w if ,! ,man ) ! ,hoe  
_h n sugge/$ x4  ,he4--,oh6 ,i agree ) y
 t ,i am n orig9al1 & t ! title 0       
sugge/$2 b n1 z y ?9k1 by ,! ,man ) !   
,hoe4  ,%e4--,ar5't we wa/+ valuable "t8
 ,y "k we 7 go+ to discuss ,gold5 ,rule 
,numb] ,,viii41 & we hav5't ev5 decid$  
:at x %all be4  ,he4--,be a good li/5]6 
,wasn't x ,addison :o said t ! mo/      
skillful flatt]y 0 to let a p]son talk  

on1 & be a good li/5]8 ,b someh[1 ?is   
has su* a r+ ( ins9c]ity4 ,n[1 ,i am    
sure t ,i %\ld n wi% to be beguil$ into 
?9k+ t ,i 0 ent]ta9+ my fri5d :51 9     
reality1 ,i 0 bor+ him4  ,%e4--,yes2 b a
 p]son :o obs]ves all our gold5 rules w 
n talk on4 ,y "k1 !re are few p]sons :o 
c talk on1 & n bore _! li/5]s4 ,( c\rse1
 if p 7 tactful & w\ld obs]ve ,gold5    
,rule ,numb] ,,vii4--,,*oose ,,topics   
,,9 ,,:i* ,,all ,,are ,,int]e/$--x w\ld 
n be necess>y = ! li/5] to feign an     
int]e/ if he has x n4  ,he4--,b :at are 
we go+ to d :5 we are 9 ! society ( ^?  
:o d n obs]ve ?is rule8                 
,%e4--,sometimes1 we c enjoy !          
conv]sation ( o!rs = reasons opposite to
 :at might be expect$4 ,= example1 a few
 days s9ce1 ,i 0 "o ( sev]al gue/s at a 
lun*eon1 & ,i 0 v mu* amus$ 9 not+ h[   
subjects1 :i* 9 !mselves seem$ v        
prosaic1 c\ld elicit s mu* en?usiasm 9  
_! discussion4 ,= example1 ! gue/s      
discuss$ ! mak+ ( salads1 & mu*         
en?usiasm 0 exp5d$ ov] a mixture (      

fruit1 nuts1 & olive oil4 ,! subject 0  
c]ta9ly highly relevant1 z ! v k9d (    
salad 9 "q 0 9 evid5ce1 call+ =?        
en?usia/ic encomiums f all4  ,he4--,i   
suppose y are (t5 amus$ at ! am\nt (    
int]e/ %[n 9 trivial subjects4          
,%e4--,no2 ,i1 too1 at times1 l to      
relax1 & to talk ab\t subjects t w\ld   
seem frivol\s to _m4 ,:ile mu* ( my "t &
 close att5tion mu/ necess>ily be giv5  
to /udy1 = ?is reason1 :5 !re is any    
div]t+ influ5ce1 ,i pref]1 occasionally1
 to =get ev]y?+ ( a s]i\s nature2 &1 l !
 bee t goes f fl[] to fl[] to sip ( ea* 
its sweetness1 s ,i enjoy pass+ f "o    
subject to ano!r1 discuss+ only lightly1
 ea* 9 turn4 ,s y see :e!r x is salads  
or pates2 ,mrs4 ,campbell or ,pad]ewski2
 %irr$ g[ns or pleat$1 ^! subjects at   
times may prove int]e/+ & div]t+4       
,he4--,b :5 a p]son is deeply int]e/$ 9 
"s special /udy t c\nts1 ,i c n see h[  
he c f9d mu* satisfaction 9 ! discussion
 ( topics s v =eign to 8 specialty4     
,%e4--,z ,i h j impli$1 ! speciali/ f9ds

 x necess>y to relax4 ,i h 9 m9d a not$ 
physician :o sp5ds _m ( 8 wak+ h\rs1 &  
h\rs :5 he %\ld be sleep+1 ei!r 9 8     
laboratory or ) 8 pati5ts2 b imm$iately 
:5 he ent]s 8 draw+-room to greet a     
fri5d1 he =gets 8 "w utt]ly1 = ! "t be+1
 & be=e _m m9utes h pass$1 8 li/5] is   
convuls$ ) laught] ov] "s new /ory--!   
late/ acquisition to ! ,doctor's /ock4  
,he4--,d y "k1 ,i (t5 wond] :y p d n    
cultivate ! art ( /ory-tell+4 ,x seems  
to me t if "o w\ld ent]ta9 "o's fri5ds  
n[ & !n ) a good /ory1 x w\ld enliv5 :at
 w\ld o!rwise be a v dull occasion4     
,%e4--,/ory-tell]s--good                
/ory-tell]s--are probably born1 n made2 
& yet1 ! p]son :o is n especially gift$ 
9 ?is art1 may succe$ 9 ent]ta9+ 8      
li/5]s1 provid$ t he has wit en\gh to   
rememb] ! po9t1 & to c\* 8 language s t 
! dn\em5t is n surmis$1 = surprise is an
 important elem5t 9 ! tell+ ( a /ory4   
,he4--,occasionally1 ,i he> a good /ory1
 & "o t ,i wi% to rememb]1 b ,i c nev]  
tru/ myself to repeat x = fe> t ,i %all 

commit ! flagrant s9 ( miss+ ! po9t2 & t
 omission w\ld1 ( c\rse1 be unp>donable4
  ,%e4--,i ?9k y might become a v       
successful reconteur1 if y w\ld give "s 
att5tion to ! art 9 "q4 ,( c\rse1 !     
important ?+ to rememb] is1 :at are !   
ess5tials1 to omit all unnecess>y       
details1 to keep ! li/5] 9 susp5se &1   
above all1 n to omit ! po9t4 ,we c n all
 be ,*>les ,lambs nor ,sydney ,smi?s1 b 
we c ea* h our little /ore ( funnycisms 
f :i* to draw :5 ! occasion is          
opportune1 or ! /ory relevant4          
,he4--,well1 ,i suppose we mu/ decide t 
"o mu/ be a good li/5] at all haz>ds1 & 
t "o mu/ f9d some?+ ( int]e/ 9 !        
conv]sation ( o!rs ev5 ?\gh ! subject   
may be salads :5 x %\ld be suffrage1 =  
example4 ,%all we make ,,be ,a ,,good   
,,li/5] ,,at ,,all ,,haz>ds ,gold5 ,rule
 ,numb] ,,viii48  ,%e4--,yes1 ,i suppose
 s2 b if we c\ld all rememb] & practice 
our o!r gold5 rules1 we %\ld n ne$ to   
add ?is "o to ! li/4  ,he4--,let me see 
:e!r ,i c enum]ate !m4        ,gold5    

,rule ,numb] #a4--;,avoid unnecess>y    
details4       #b4--;,d n ask "q numb]  
two until numb] "o has be5      answ]$1 
nor be too curi\s nor too dis9t]e/$2 t  
is1 d      n ask too _m que/ions nor too
 few4       #c4--;,d n int]rupt ano!r   
:ile he is speak+4       #d4--;,d n     
contradict ano!r1 especially :5 !       
subject "u      discussion is ( trivial 
importance4       #e4--;,d n d all !    
talk+2 give y\r tir$ li/5] a *ance4     
#f4--;,be n cont9ually ! h]o ( y\r own  
/ory2 & on !      o!r h&1 d n leave y\r 
/ory )\t a h]o4       #g4--;,*oose      
subjects ( mutual int]e/4       ,& our  
late/ acquisition1 ,gold5 ,rule ,numb]  
,,viii41 ,be a good      li/5]4         
,%e4--,y h done rem>kably well to       
rememb] all ^! rules4  ,he4--,hav5't ,i 
e>n$ a rew>d8  ,%e4--,:at %all x be8    
,he4--,! rose 9 y\r hair4  ,illu/ration3
       ,h[ radiantly do/ ?\ we> ?y      
jewels      ,^u ?y bosom fair1--made    
fair] /ill      ,by ,luna's silv]y      
beams4     ,,gold5 ,,rule ,,numb] ,,ix  

,make y\r spee* 9 h>mony ) y\r          
surr\nd+s4   ,he4--,let u walk along !  
%ore--away f our fri5ds at ! hotel4 ,!  
night is f> too beautiful to sp5d 9     
discuss+ ! m]its ( biscuit & honey      
comp>$ ) ^? ( /rawb]ries & cake4        
,%e4--,& ) su* a sky & su* a sc5e be=e  
!m6 ,& ! day--h[ p]fect x has be56      
99  99  99  99  ,! blue sky      ,lean$ 
sil5tly above1 & all its high      ,&   
azure-circl$ ro( b5ea? ! wave1      ,0  
imag$ back & seem$ ! deep to pave       
,) its transp>5t beauty4   ,he4--,oh6   
!y're n ?9k+ ( ! sea nor ( ! sky4       
,al?\gh :5 ,i saw "o ( ! ladies gaz+    
int5tly at ! moon1 ,i ?\ght t %e1 l y & 
me1 _h succumb$ to ! influ5ce ( its     
magic beams2 b ,i v soon became         
disillusion$1 = ,i he>d h] sudd5ly      
exclaim1 ,oh1 ,i wi% ,i _h "s ,wel%     
r>ebit6 ,i am s v fond ( ,wel% r>ebit4  
,%e4--,h] ?\ghts 7 evid5tly relevant1 z 
! moon probably sugge/$ to h]1 gre5     
*eese1 & f t1 x 0 only a /ep to ! toa/$ 
article4 ,i dislike to he> a p]son      

express a fondness = food4 ,i "k t x is 
correct to use fond 9 ?is way2 b to me  
fondness %\ld be us$ only ) ref]5ce to  
"o's fri5ds2 b to be fond ( ,wel%       
r>ebit6 ,i %\ld pref] to use ano!r      
expression4  ,he4--,( c\rse y ar5't fond
 ( any?+ b fl[]s1 & books1 &            
music1--,oh6 & ! moon4  ,%e4--,& p2 !y  
come fir/4  ,he4--,ev]ybody8  ,%e4--,n  
ev]ybody1 only a few4                   
,he4--,includ+----  ,%e4--,i ?9k t we   
%\ld g back to our fri5ds4  ,he4--,&    
discuss ,wel% r>ebit8 ,let u take ?is   
boat & glide ov] ! silv]y lake4 ,we c   
f9d m int]e/+ subjects to talk ab\t ?an 
edibles2 &1 if we _c1 we c at lea/ be   
sil5t & let ! glori\s night speak = u4  
,%e4--,because ( j su* nights1 ,i come  
"h e ye>4  ,he4--,b ! moon1 l ! sun1    
%9es ev]y:]e = all4  ,%e4--,yes1 b n    
ev]y:]e alike4 ,!re mu/ be trees )      
bran*es outspread to cat* its silv]y    
beams1 & giant hills 9 ! di/ance to =m a
 heavy backgr\nd4 ,! full moon %9+ on   
our great ,lake ,mi*igan is a glori\s   

sight1 b t :i* is ne$$ to make ! sc5e   
p]fect is n !re4 ,b "h--no?+ is want+4  
,o beaute\s ,lake6      ,h[ radiantly   
do/ ?\ we> ?y jewels      ,^u ?y bosom  
fair1--made fair] /ill              ,by 
,luna's silv]y beams4   ,he4--,! poet is
 nature's int]pret]4 ,he expresses :at  
we feel2 :at we %\ld wi% to say1 7 we   
able to express our ?\ghts 9 poetic     
language4 ,b sometimes he does n        
int]pret truly4 ,wasn't x ,br[n+ :o     
said3        ,nev] ! "t & ! place       
,& ! lov$ "o altoge!r8   ,%e4--,i don't 
see ! relevancy ( ! quotation4 ,we mu/ g
 back to ! hotel4 ,our fri5ds w miss u4 
,he4--,b y hav5't he>d my lesson yet1 z 
we us$ to say 9 s*ool4 ,i h to recite   
all ! gold5 rules1 & add our new "o4    
,:at %all x be8  ,%e4--,rule ,numb]     
,,ix43 ,,"o',s ,,spee* ,,%\ld ,,be ,,9  
,,h>mony ,,) ,,"o',s ,,surr\nd+s4       
,he4--,9 o!r words1 a p]son %\ld n talk 
ab\t *eese :5 ! moon w\ld be a m fitt+  
topic4  ,%e4--,or1 :5 x might be m fitt+
 to rema9 sil5t4  ,he4--,"s "o has said1

 ,sil5ce is ! virtue ( ! feeble1 b x is 
probably z (t5 ! virtue ( ! wise4       
,%e4--,x 0 ,c>lyle :o said3 ,consid] !  
significance ( ,,sil5ce3 x is b\ndless1 
nev] by m$itat+ to be exhau/$1          
unspeakably pr(itable to !e3 ,cease t   
*aotic hubbub1 :]e9 ?y own s\l runs to  
wa/e1 to confus$ suicidal dislocation & 
/upor2 out ( ,sil5ce comes ?y /r5g?4    
',spee* is silv]n1 ,sil5ce is gold52    
,spee* is human1 ,sil5ce is div9e4'     
,,gold5 ,,rule ,,numb] ,x  ,d n         
exagg]ate4   ,he4--,y may rememb] t "o (
 ! extracts t ,i read to y f my         
note-book ref]r$ to exagg]ation 9       
conv]sation4 ,d y "k1 ,i h be5 pay+     
att5tion to ?is fault1 & ,i f9d t x is  
decid$ly g5]al ev5 ) p :o are suppos$ to
 be hone/ & s9c]e4 ,x is really "o phase
 ( falsify+2 9 my op9ion1 x is a v      
disagreeable habit1 & "o t a p]son %\ld 
try to rid himself (4  ,%e4--,p>5ts c n 
be too c>eful 9 ! br++ up ( _! *ildr5 to
 see t !y d n =m ! habit ( exagg]at+ :at
 !y und]take to tell4 ,:y6 ,"s p]sons c 

n make ! simple/ /atem5t )\t exagg]at+ !
 facts4 ,= in/ance1 if "o und]takes to  
give ! price ( a g>m5t or ( "s          
furniture1 ! am\nt paid is always       
increas$ 9 ! tell+ ( ! /ory2 & s ) !    
n>ration ( trivial ev5ts--! speak] w    
enl>ge 8 /atem5ts until he pres5ts a    
di/ort$ picture to ! m5tal vision ( !   
li/5]4  ,! exagg]ation ( facts %\ld     
c]ta9ly be avoid$2 & a p]son c ov]come  
?is t5d5cy 9 himself1 if1 :5 he f9ds t  
he is mak+ a mis/atem5t1 he w correct   
himself1 & give a true v]sion4 ,=       
example1 if he f9ds t he is fix+ ! co/ (
 a possession at five doll>s1 :5 x %\ld 
be f\r doll>s & fifty c5ts1 he c correct
 ! error )\t ev5 betray+ 8 int5tion to  
falsify4 ,by do+ ?is1 he gradually tra9s
 himself to adh]e to facts2 =1 :ile !   
price ( ! article may be a matt] ( small
 consequ5ce1 x is a matt] ( f> m        
importance t ! p]son :o has ! habit %all
 correct 8 t5d5cy to mis/ate facts4 ,s  
aga91 :5 "o is n>rat+ an incid5t 9 "o's 
exp]i5ce1 ! same /rict adh]5ce to !     

facts %\ld be obs]v$4 ,9 ?is way a p]son
 e/abli%es a reputation = v]acity4 ,we  
all h fri5ds 9 ^: /atem5ts we place no  
reliance1 simply because we "k t !y     
inv>iably exagg]ate e fact t comes )9 _!
 obs]vation or exp]i5ce4 ,i "k ( no     
fault 9 conv]sation t is m griev\s ?an  
?is nor t c give "o su* a g5]al air (   
ins9c]ity 9 all ?+s4  ,he4--,i "k1 ,i h 
fri5ds :om ,i c n believe--no matt] h[  
s]i\s !y are 9 impress+ ^u me1 ! tru? ( 
! in=mation t !y are s will+ to imp>t4  
,%e4--,( c\rse1 :5 p]sons ( ?is k9d     
attack ! reputation ( o!rs !n1 inde$1   
does _! fault become a s]i\s "o2 b !re  
are _m1 o!rwise well-mean+1 p]sons :o   
w\ld n speak ill ( ano!r1 :o place      
!mselves cont9ually at a disadvantage by
 _! exagg]at$ spee*4 ,!re is !          
s*ool-girl1 = example1 :o f9ds e p]son &
 ?+ p]fectly lovely--or p]fectly horrid1
 z ! case may be2 :o _h ! mo/ beautiful 
"t 9 h] life la/ night2 :o f9ds h] tea*]
 div9e2 t5nis1 a dream (                
delight--ev]y?+1 no matt] :at1 is j     

d&y--or de>4 ,lat] 9 life1 %e may       
exagg]ate z to h] husb&'s income2 h]    
*ildr5's virtues or appe>ance2 ! price (
 h] g>m5ts--& 9 ?is way %e w acquire !  
un5viable reputation = ins9c]ity1       
unreliability4 ,no "o w give any cr$5ce 
to :at %e says1 simply because %e is    
kn[n always to exagg]ate ! facts4       
,he4--,i feel z y d1 & :5 ,i f9d myself 
enl>g+ ^u ! facts1 ,i try imm$iately to 
correct my fault & adh]e to an actual   
recital4  ,%e4--,( c\rse1 we "k t 9     
tell+ a /ory = ! sake ( its humor1 a    
p]son w sometimes lapse into an         
enl>gem5t ( ! details1 b1 z ,rudy>d     
,kipl+ w\ld say1 ,t is ano!r /ory4      
,he4--,_h we n bett] make ?is ,gold5    
,rule ,numb] ,x48  ,i wond] :e!r ,i c   
recite all ! ,gold5 ,rules3             
,gold5 ,rule ,numb] #a4--;,avoid        
unnecess>y details4       #b4--;,d n ask
 "q numb] two until numb] "o has be5    
answ]$1 nor be too curi\s nor too       
dis9t]e/$2 t is1 d      n ask too _m    
que/ions nor too few4       #c4--;,d n  

int]rupt ano!r :ile he is speak+4       
#d4--;,d n contradict ano!r1 especially 
:5 ! subject "u      discussion is (    
trivial importance4       #e4--;,d n d  
all ! talk+2 give y\r tir$ li/5] a      
*ance4       #f4--;,be n cont9ually !   
h]o ( y\r own /ory2 &1 on !      o!r h&1
 d n leave y\r /ory )\t a h]o4          
#g4--;,*oose subjects ( mutual int]e/4  
#h4--;,be a good li/5]4       #i4--,make
 y\r spee* 9 h>mony ) y\r surr\nd+s4    
#aj4--;,d n exagg]ate--our new rule4    
,,gold5 ,,rule ,,numb] ,,xi  ,indulge   
occasionally 9 a relevant quotation1 b d
 n g>ble x4   ,he4--,i h j be5 read+ a v
 int]e/+ article entitl$ ,le>n+ by      
,he>t1 & ,i h become impress$ ) ! idea t
 "o %\ld occasionally commit to memory  
inspir+ passages 9 v]se & prose4 ,9 !   
language ( ! au?or3 ,!y may come to u 9 
our dull mom5ts1 to refre% u z ) spr+   
fl[]s2 9 our selfi% mus+s1 to w9 u by   
pure delight f ! tyranny ( fooli%       
ca/le-build+1 self-congratulations1 &   
mean anxieties4 ,!y may be ) u 9 !      

work%op1 9 ! cr[d$ /reets1 by !         
fireside2 sometimes on pleasant         
hill-sides1 or by s\nd+ %ores2 noble    
fri5ds & companions--our own6 nev]      
intrusive1 ev] at h&1 com+ at our call4 
,%e4--,"s "o has said t an apt quotation
 is z good z an orig9al rem>k4 ,x is    
c]ta9ly always relevant4 ,we _c all be  
,wordswor?s or ,t5nysons2 ,*>les ,lambs 
or ,c>lyles1 b we c make "s ( _! be/    
?\ghts our own4 ,a conv]sation or a     
lett] 9 :i* "s *oice quotation f9ds a   
place1 is c]ta9ly ?us improv$ & lift$   
above ! commonplace4 ,x 0 ,johnson :o   
said t classical quotation 0 ! p>ole (  
lit]>y m5 all ov] ! _w4  ,he4--,= a long
 "t1 ,i h be5 copy+ 9 a note-book1      
extracts t h int]e/$ me1 b x did n occur
 to me to commit !m to memory4 ,h]eaft]1
 ,i %all d s1 = ,i am sure t x w add to 
my res\rces bo? 9 conv]sation & 9       
lett]-writ+4  ,%e4--,"s ( ! mo/         
delightful lett]s t ,i h ev] receiv$ h  
be5 ^? 9 :i* !re h be5 quotations1 s    
relevant1 s *>m+ t1 = ! "t be+1 !y seem$

 to h be5 writt5 = me alone4  ,he4--,i h
 always hesitat$ to int]polate my       
conv]sation or lett]s ) quotations1 =   
fe> t ,i might seem to be air+ my       
famili>ity ) classical lit]ature4       
,%e4--,( c\rse1 "o does n wi% to appe>  
p$antic2 & "o w n1 if "o w use !        
quotation = ! occasion1 in/ead ( mak+ an
 occasion = ! quotation4 ,! proportions1
 too1 ( a conv]sation or a lett] mu/ be 
pres]v$4 ,if "o is talk+ ab\t a         
commonplace subject1 ! quotation1 if "o 
is made1 %\ld be 9 keep+ ) ! ?\ght4 ,z a
 clev] writ] has said1 ,a dull face     
invites a dull fate1 & s ) a commonplace
 subject2 ! treatm5t %\ld be 9          
accordance ) x4  ,he4--,"s p]sons are   
nev] able to quote a passage or tell an 
anecdote )\t p]v]t+ ! mean+4 ,9 fact1 ,i
 h long be5 int]e/$ 9 notic+ h[ inexact 
! majority ( p are 9 mak+ /atem5ts ( all
 k9ds4 ,i c recall sev]al fri5ds :o are 
unreliable 9 :at !y say4 ,_! /atem5ts   
%\ld be *eck$ up--v]ifi$1 z we say 9    
bus9ess4  ,%e4--,z "s "o has said3 ,a   

g>bl$ quotation may be ! mo/ effectual  
p]v]sion ( an au?or's mean+2 & a p>tial 
repres5tation ( an incid5t 9 a man's    
life may be ! mo/ malignant ( all       
calumnies4  ,he4--,h[ v relevant t      
quotation is4 ,y h c]ta9ly j exemplifi$ 
y\r own sugge/ion1 namely1 t ! quotation
 %\ld be us$ to suit ! occasion4  ,%all 
we make ?is ,gold5 ,rule ,numb] ,,xi43  
,,occasionally ,,indulge ,,9 ,a         
,,relevant ,,quotation1 ,,b ,,d ,,n     
,,g>ble ,,x8  ,%e4--,c]ta9ly2 a ,gold5  
,rule t x is well occasionally to       
obs]ve4     ,,gold5 ,,rule ,,numb] ,,xii
  ,cultivate tact4   ,he4--,consid] !   
significance ( ,,sil5ce3 x is b\ndless1 
nev] by m$itat+ to be exhau/$1          
unspeakably pr(itable to !e4 ,cease t   
*aotic hubbub1 :]e9 ?y own s\l runs to  
wa/e to confus$ suicidal dislocation &  
/upor2 out ( ,,sil5ce comes ?y /r5g?4   
,spee* is silv]n1 sil5ce is gold52 spee*
 is human1 sil5ce is div9e4  ,%e4--,&   
:at sugge/$ ! l9es f ,c>lyle8           
,he4--,oh6 ,i 0 ?9k+ ( "o ( ! extracts 9

 my li/ ( quotations relevant to our    
subject1 ,! ,art ( ,conv]sation4 ,x is  
:5 y come close to a man 9 conv]sation t
 y discov] :at 8 real abilities are4 ,"o
 might add1 & :at !y are n4  ,%e4--,& ,i
 suppose t ! l9e sugge/$ ! ?\ght t1 9 _m
 in/ances1 to quote ,c>lyle aga91 ,spee*
 is silv]n1 sil5ce is gold52 spee* is   
human1 sil5ce is div9e4                 
,he4--,und\bt$ly1 9 _m in/ances1 x w\ld 
be bett] to pres]ve a discreet sil5ce   
?an to say t :i* is disagreeable or     
untru?ful4 ,( c\rse ! tactful p]son c   
frequ5tly s turn ! conv]sation z to be  
oblig$ to adopt nei!r alt]native4       
,%e4--,"o %\ld always be tru?ful1 & "o  
%\ld nev] say t :i* w\ld be displeas+ to
 ! li/5]1--( c\rse1 we mu/ except ^?    
semi-disagreeable ?+s :i* we sometimes  
feel privileg$ to say to our relatives  
or our be/ fri5ds1 on ! gr\nd t we are  
*ampions on ! side ( tru?4  ,he4--,i h  
always ma9ta9$ t x is only a true fri5d 
:o w tell ! unpleasant home tru?s4      
,%e4--,yes2 we c all rememb] occasions  

:5 our express$ res5tm5t at "s          
well-meant criticism (f]$ by a memb] ( !
 family1 = example1 0 met by ! rejo9d] t
 x 0 ! tru?4  ,he4--,! tru? is n always 
pleas+ to ! e>1 & ,i agree ) y t1 except
 9 ! case ( ! privileg$ few1 only !     
pleas+ ?+s %\ld be told4  ,%e4--,t is   
all--provid$1 ( c\rse1 t !y are at !    
same "t tru?ful4  ,he4--,& if !y are n8 
,%e4--,!n !y %\ld be left unsaid1 = "o's
 spee* %\ld nev] be ins9c]e or flippant4
  ,he4--,to be told t "o is n look+     
well1 or is look+ ill1 or old]1 z ! case
 may be1 is c]ta9ly n conducive to      
pleasant feel+s on ! "p ( ! li/5]4      
,%e4--,frequ5tly1 ! p]son :o w\ld n be  
guilty ( (f5ses ( ?is k9d1 w arrive at !
 same results 9 an indirect way4 ,=     
example1 ,a1 :o may be too polite to    
tell ,b t he is gett+ along 9 ye>s1 w   
ask him :e!r ! h&some "y lady se5 9 8   
company at ! !at] ! previ\s ev5+ is 8   
daught]1 ?9k+ ?us to complim5t him z be+
 ! pr\d p>5t ( s beautiful a maid52     
:]eas1 ,a1 :o prides himself ^u 8 y\?ful

 appe>ance1 & ?9ks t he is hold+ 8 own  
aga9/ ,fa!r ,"t1 fails to appreciate !  
w\ld-be complim5t4 ,mrs4 ,c in=ms ,mrs4 
,d t %e looks t5 ye>s y\ng] s9ce becom+ 
s /\t1 :ile ,mrs4 ,e4 advises ,mrs4 ,f4 
to buy a hat1 z up-to-date eld]ly wom5  
no long] we> bonnets2 & s on ?r\gh !    
alphabet4  ,he4--,oh6 ,i suppose x is   
impossible = p :o are s obtuse z ^! to g
 ?r\gh ! _w )\t blund]+ at e /ep4       
,%e4--,i don't "k4 ,x seems to me t ^!  
un?9k+ p might be taught to ?9k4        
,surely1 we c all le>n by obs]vation &  
exp]i5ce2 & x w\ld seem t p]sons fairly 
introspective might discov] t x is n    
direct spee* alone t w\nds or (f5ds4 ,we
 all "k t ! prettie/ complim5ts are (t5 
^? :i* are impli$2 &1 conv]sely1        
sometimes x is ! sugge/ive criticism or 
c5sure t w\nds ! mo/4  ,he4--,!n we mu/ 
rememb] t we %\ld keep our m9ds al]t2 t 
we mu/ n be f\nd napp+2 t x is n        
suffici5t t we refra9 f giv+ po9t$ home 
?ru/s1 b t we %\ld nev]1 ev5 by indirect
 spee*1 leave ) our li/5] an unpleasant 

memory4  ,%e4--,yes2 we meet "s p1--(t5 
only = a mom5t1--only once1 p]haps1 9 a 
lifetime2 b x is possible1 9 _m         
in/ances1 to make t mom5t l+] =ev] z a  
pleasant memory to t o!r4 ,we c all     
rememb] "s occasion :5 !re 0 m]ely a    
h&clasp1 :5 b few words 7 spok51 b !    
memory is ours =ev]4 ,some?+ t 0 said1  
p]haps1 seem+ly trivial1 b glorifi$ by !
 speak]'s smile1 by ! s9c]ity ( 8 he>t4 
,he4--,aft] all1 to sum x up1 x is ! ^w 
,t-,a-,c-,t1 or ! lack ( x1 t makes a   
p]son correspond+ly agreeable or        
disagreeable 9 8 social int]c\rse )     
ano!r4 ,someone has def9$ tact z ! art (
 pleas+1 & s ,i %\ld ?9k we might add   
?is m&ate to our gold5 rules--,cultivate
 ! art ( pleas+1--say ! "r ?+ or say    
no?+4  ,n[1 ,i am go+ to recite all our 
gold5 rules1 = ,i "k !m by he>t3        
,gold5 ,rule ,numb] #a4--;,avoid        
unnecess>y details4       #b4--;,d n ask
 "q numb] two until numb] "o has be5    
answ]$2 nor be too curi\s &1 too        
dis9t]e/$2 t is d      n ask too _m     

que/ions nor too few4       #c4--;,d n  
int]rupt ano!r :ile he is speak+4       
#d4--;,d n contradict ano!r1 especially 
:5 ! subject "u      discussion is (    
trivial importance4       #e4--;,d n d  
all ! talk+2 give y\r tir$ li/5] a      
*ance4       #f4--;,be n cont9ually !   
h]o ( y\r own /ory2 nor1 on !      o!r  
h&1 d n leave y\r /ory )\t a h]o4       
#g4--;,*oose subjects ( mutual int]e/4  
#h4--;,be a good li/5]4       #i4--,make
 y\r spee* 9 h>mony ) y\r surr\nd+s4    
#aj4--;,d n exagg]ate4                  
#aa4--;,indulge occasionally 9 a        
relevant quotation1 b d n      g>ble x4 
#ab4--;,cultivate tact--our new rule4   
,illu/ration3 ,decoration