,good ,=m & ,*ri/ian ,etiquette ,,mrs4 ,s4 ,m4 ,i4 ,,h5ry ,illu/ration3 ,decoration ,,review ,,& ,,h]ald ,,pub4 ,,co4 ,battle ,creek1 ,mi*4 ,*icago1 ,ill41 ,toronto1 ,ont41 ,atlanta1 ,ga4 ,copyright1 #aijj1 by ,,mrs4 ,s4 ,m4 ,i4 ,,h5ry4 ,preface4 ,let no "o :o %all d me ! honor to read ?is little book suppose t ,i h be5 8lay+ d[n a lot ( rules40 ,! mo/ t ,i h attempt$ is to po9t out "s ( ^? regulations :i* ! exp]i5ces ( ?\ghtful m5 & wom5 ( ! _w h f\nd necess>y to good social ord]1 z well z "s ( ^? ?+s t a long exp]i5ce 9 "w = ! un=tunate has discov]$ z requisite to ! prev5tion ( sc&als & consequ5t o/racism4 ,to h se5 consci5ti\s "y m5 & wom5 /ruggl+ aga9/ ! awful curr5t ( popul> reproa* because ( c]ta9 ?+s 9 conduct :i*1 :ile innoc5t to !m1 h inevitably ar\s$ suspicion 9 a suspici\s _w1 is to at lea/ wi% to help ^? :o h ask$ help1 or :o are will+ to receive x1 to ! end t !y may acquire t sort ( k :i* %all enable !m to avoid su* p]il & contempt4 ,! que/ions :i* appe> 9 ^! pages are bona fide que/ions1 writt5 & s5t to me by ^? :o ask$ !m = !mselves or o!rs4 ,! positions tak5 are all bas$ on :at ,i believe to be pr9ciples :i* mu/ lie at ! f\ndation ( any social life t w\ld keep itself unspott$ f ! _w1 & :i* c be us$ z a te/imony to ! gospel 9 ! sight ( a wick$ & unt[>d g5]ation4 ,i h n writt5 = ! _w4 ,_m writ]s h done t4 ,nor h ,i writt5 = ! nom9al ,*ri/ian2 b = ^? :o are e>ne/ly look+ = ! be/ means ( s]v+ ,god & humanity1 :ile !y are also look+ = t bless$ hope1--! glori\s appe>+ ( our ,"l4 ,s4 ,m4 ,i4 ,h5ry4 ,good ,=m4 ,i4 8,good =m0 is especially a society phrase1 b x is full ( mean+1 su* z has a direct be>+ on ev5 ! life & walk ( a mission>y4 ,x is ( suffici5t importance to engage ! att5tion ( any :o w\ld become cultur$1 & is practical & simple en\gh to become a subject ( /udy 9 ! mo/ common1 isolat$ home1 9 :i* *ildr5 are gr[+ up4 ,x is 9 good & bad =m t is f\nd a l>ge %>e ( all t diff]5ce :i* di/+ui%es ! lady or g5tleman f ! slatt]n & ! boor2 & 9 ! consid]ation giv5 to ?is "q ( mann]s x is once aga9 true t 8! *ildr5 ( ?is _w are wis] ?an ! *ildr5 ( light40 ,luke #af3h4 ,"o ( ! fir/ ef=ts t m5 or wom5 w make if !y h an 8ax to gr9d10 or 8some?+ to borr[10 w be to appe> well4 ,if !y h any?+ 8to pu%10 an advantage to secure1 :i* makes x necess>y t "s influ5tial p %all be 8won ov]0 to "s c]ta9 way ( ?9k+1 !y w /udy e movem5t1 turn1 & ^w2 le>n tact1 self-control1 or any?+ else by :i* !y c hope to succe$4 ,_m a man has practis$ facial expression = h\rs be=e a mirror1 n = amusem5t1 b = bus9ess2 to ! end t he might tone d[n or eradicate c]ta9 l9es :i* w\ld make an unfavorable impression ^u ^? :om he met1 & has c>efully cultivat$ 9 _! place ^? t w\ld be sure to give him a bett] introduction among ^? :om he int5d$ to use to 8 own pr(it or pleasure4 ,?is is con/antly done 9 ! int]e/s ( self1 & has (t5 result$ 9 =w>d+ ^? m]c5>y & sometimes crim9al ends = :i* x 0 design$4 ,= ! same purpose m5 le>n grace ( c>riage1--h[ to ent] & leave a room1 h[ to mod]ate e tone2 & practise labori\sly 9 private1 to fix z habit any?+ :i* !y believe to be desirable1 & eradicate any?+ t w\ld be a h9drance1 s t !y may nev] be tak5 (f gu>d by any ru% ( feel+1 & s jeop>dize ! selfi% int]e/s :i* are at /ake4 ,= ! same end little *ildr5 are put into tra9+ ( ! mo/ exact+ sort1 & gr[ up almo/ p]fect copies ( "s great ma/] 9 c]ta9 =ms :i*1 :ile 9 !mselves empty1 yet are l buckets1 capable ( hold+ any?+4 ,& until ,*ri/ians are will+ to labor z fai?fully to become w9some !mselves1 & tra9 _! *ildr5 to d ! be/ ( all "w 9 ! be/ ( all =ms1 !y h n yet come to love ! tru? z ! _w loves self4 ,! tru? is to be c>ri$ to all p1 high & l[4 ,a boor1 :o loves ! tru?1 & :o is fill$ ) ! ,holy ,_s1 may d a good "w 9 "s l9es4 ,if he has _h no opportunities to "k h[ to c>ry himself among m51 except su* k z comes by be+ a ,*ri/ian1 ,god w keep him :]e he c be us$1 & w use him to 8 glory1 & give him %eaves to br+ home at la/4 8,be a ,*ri/ian0 is an easy answ] to ! "q1 8,h[ %all ,i conduct myself 9 su* & su* a case80 ,b a man may be a ,*ri/ian1 & yet1 = ! lack ( "s specific in/ruction 9 c]ta9 =ms ( proc$ure1 p]petrate a blund] :i* w br+ ! laugh f ! pr(ane :om he wi%$ to ar\se to sob] ?\ght2 or make a mi/ake1 su* z w c>ry & widely scatt] a s]i\s misund]/&+ by :i* ,*ri/ w be reproa*$ & 8 "w h9d]$4 ,i am confid5t t 9 e home among all good ,*ri/ian p !re is a g5u9e desire to atta9 to ! be/ tra9+ 9 ev]y?+ t w make ?is be/ ( all "w g swiftly to ! ends ( ! e>?2 b ,i am also sure t _m h fail$ to appreciate t 8! cause0 has a "r to be c>ri$ by ! mo/ p]fect me?ods to :i* x is possible to atta94 ,! tru? is wor?y ( ! be/ ( all 8good =m0 9 home1 *ur*1 & social life4 ,good =m does n consi/ s mu* 9 putt+ on1 z 9 putt+ (f--keep+ (f--^? ?+s 9 deportm5t1 spee*1 & association :i* are especially ungraceful1 unw9some1 incorrect1 & improp]4 ,social good =m1 al?\gh x seems to be ( ! _w1 worldly1 repres5ts j :at ,*ri/ w\ld d if he 7 liv+ among m5 & wom5 9 ord9>y social relations4 ,! _w has tak5 ! be/ t worldly wisdom c compreh5d ( ! ,*ri/-life1 & c>efully embodi$ x 9 a c]ta9 code to :i* x pr(esses to hold itself2 to :i* x does hold itself 9 public1 :atev] x may d beh9d ! sc5es4 ,x is manife/ly true t ! man :o has ! m9d ( ,*ri/ ought to gr[1 apple-tree fa%ion1 z mu* ( c\rtesy1 g5tl5ess1 & all t goes to make an agreeable appe>ance1 z ! _w c possibly buy 9 ! m>ket ( good mann]s1 tie on & we>1 ,*ri/mas-tree fa%ion4 ,x is by 8 fir/ appe>ance t ! colporteur w op5 or close a door to ! tru? :i* he c>ries 9 a book1 or 9 samples ( heal? food4 ,8 mann] 9 ! homes :]e he is ent]ta9$1 9 public1 on ! tra91 ! /reet1 at camp-meet+1 or on ! plat=m1 w close or op5 ! he>ts ( ev5 ! hungry to ! spiritual food :i* ! m9i/] is s5t =? to s]ve 9 ! ,ma/]'s "n4 ,! mann] ( ^? :o occupy ! field w play no insignificant "p 9 ! "w ( build+ up ! s*ool1 ! college1 ! mission1 & 9 rea*+ ! utt]mo/ p>ts ) ! gospel2 & s9ce ! *ildr5 n[ "u tra9+ 9 ! homes ( ,*ri/ian work]s mu/ h a %>e 9 ! "w ( ,god 9 ?is "t :5 x means m ?an x ev] did = ! s]vants ( ,god to c>ry weights & h9drances1 x seems a good ?+ to take up ! consid]ation ( :at con/itutes 8,good ,=m10 or practical ,*ri/ian conduct4 ,i h _h my att5tion call$ to ?is subject by que/ions f "y p1 z well z p>5ts2 & ?is message conc]n+ h[ to meet p & h&le ! ?+s ( ?is mundane sph]e is to bo? p>5t & *ild1 boys1 girls1 & "y p1 :o are prep>+ = e>ne/ "w 9 ! _w4 ,,ii4 ,social life is important to ! "y2 x c n be safely ignor$ 9 s*ool life1 !re=e ,i mu/ h ^! int]e/s 9 m9d z ,i write1 & %all hope to help bo? ! anxi\s p>5t & ! ?\ghtful "y /ud5t :o w\ld "k h[ to d ! "r ?+ at all times4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 a great deal m important to be ?an to d2 = x is out ( ! be+ t ! do+ mu/ come4 ,! po9t requir+ ! mo/ anxi\s consid]ation is t we may le>n to truly "k & love ! pr9ciple ^u :i* safe conduct dep5ds4 ,he :o loves purity = its own sake--:o hates impurity because ( its vil5ess1 in/ead ( = ! pa9ful consequ5ces :i* foll[ its practise1 w nev] g v f> a/ray f ^? mann]s :i* are ( good report 9 any society on e>?4 ,he w in/9ctively avoid ! appe>ance ( evil z f> z he kn[s h[ evil appe>s4 ,!re are a few pr9ciples :i* are always a safegu>d & def5se to ^? :o w be controll$ by !m1 :i* if wov5 into famili> ?\ght w r5d] correctness 9 ! details ( conduct spontane\s & inevitable4 ,& yet circum/ances may modify ?is fact4 ,x is sometimes sl[ "w to get hold ( a pr9ciple2 & "s specific tea*+ z to j :at to d1 & :at n to d1 w (t5 be a great help to ev5 ^? :o are pure ( he>t1 & h a m9d to avoid ! appe>ance ( evil4 ,e detail ( life mu/ take note ( ! fact t ! human unit call$ man 0 creat$ male & female1 & mu/ beg9 8 e>?ly c>e] z boy & girl1 ea* at be/ b a half ( ?is unit4 ,?is1 ) _m correlat$ facts1 mu/ be kept be=e u 9 ! process ( tra9+4 ,up to a c]ta9 p]iod boys & girls c play toge!r & associate ) p]fect unconsci\sness ( any diff]5ce betwe5 !m1 b ! c>eful p>5t & tea*] mu/ be al]t ) ref]5ce to ! "t :5 nature awak5s1 aft] :i* _! association c only be safely on two l9es1--,*ri/ian "w & g5]al good fell[%ip2 & ^! always "u ! *ap]onage ( "s reliable & mature woman4 ,?is is especially necess>y 9 all l9es ( "w to :i* ,*ri/ian "y p 9 ^! days ( special activity among ! y\? w\ld be urg$1 su* z mission>y meet+s1 cottage meet+s1 ,sabba?-s*ool1 h\se-to-h\se visit+4 ,)\t su* *ap]onage1 boys & girls1 "y m5 & "y wom51 %\ld nev] g toge!r1 ev5 9 ,*ri/ian "w2 b girls by !mselves1 & boys by !mselves4 ,?is is made necess>y by ! fact t nature has be5 p]v]t$1 t ! enemy ( all purity has tak5 possession ( e av5ue ( ?\ght1 ev5 f ! cradle1 & has fill$ ! m9d ( *ildhood ) unpr(itable imag9+s1 = :i* ! only cure is ! k ( ! tru? pure & simple1 adapt$ to _! compreh5sion1 & su* opportunities = association z %all make !m mutual helps )\t /imulat+ t self-consci\sness t leads to curiosity & evil sugge/ion4 ,any allusion :i* w\ld give ! *ildr5 an idea ( ! anxi\s ?\ghts :i* y ent]ta9 = !m %\ld be /udi\sly avoid$4 ,tea* & practise !m 9 all :i* con/itutes true decorum :ile !y are /ill too "y to und]/& its significance & necessity1 s t :5 ! "t comes t ! y\? %all ne$ 8good =m0 habits = ! protection ( a good "n1 he w h !m already1 z a "p ( t second nature :i* good bre$+ produces4 ,! fir/ tea*+ w naturally apply )\t any ref]5ce to sex diff]5ces1 to t conduct :i* %\ld prevail betwe5 a company ( girls & boys ea* 9 companies by !mselves4 ,fir/1 z to mann]s 9 public4 ,boys & girls %\ld gr[ up ) ! idea t x is a great deal nic] = girls to keep ea* o!r company1 & = boys to d ! same1 ?an = boys & girls to g toge!r4 ,tea* y\r boy to protect ! girls ( 8 acqua9tance f any annoyance :i* 8 pres5ce any:]e c\ld produce4 ,make him und]/& t c>efulness 9 ?is reg>d is ! beg9n+ ( g5u9e manl9ess4 ,tea* bo? boys & girls to be res]v$ & mode/ 9 _! deportm5t t[>d all o!r boys & girls alike1 boys t[>d boys1 & girls t[>d girls4 ,t boi/]\s famili>ity among boys toge!r is s unbecom+ z always to bre$ contempt4 ,by ?is ,i w\ld n h my read]s inf] t good =m 9 behavior mu/ 9 ! lea/ int]f]e ) ! 8good times0 t *ildr5 & y\? ought to enjoy4 ,x does n prev5t t happy fre$om :i* c alone make real 8play0 possible4 ,runn+1 jump+1 climb+ trees1 %\t+1 halloo+1 c all be done )\t any violation ( a s+le pr9ciple ( good =m z appli$ to *ildhood life4 ,! tr\ble is t _m p>5ts & tea*]s h ! idea t any =m ( conduct to be 8good0 mu/ be gr[n-up & gray-head$1 :]eas "o ( ! v wor/ ( bad =ms is = a *ild to appe> old4 ,good =m1 ! g5u9e sort1 l e o!r good ?+1 w admit ( any conduct :i* w promote /r5g? ( body1 s\l1 & _s4 ,real /r5g?1 :i* mu/ always include ! :ole be+1 is p]fectly safe1 & a p]petual s\rce ( joy 9 ! ,holy ,gue/4 ,_m popul> plays & games1 h[ev]1 are s f> remov$ f e pr9ciple :i* %\ld control action & association1 t !y c n be indulg$ )\t rud5ess1 brutality1 & 9 _m cases t sort ( famili>ity :i* leads to immorality1 & %\ld be ?r[n into ! heap ) all o!r bad mann]s4 ,x is bad =m = two1 ?ree1 or m p]sons to walk 9 an irregul> huddle on ! /reet1 z *ildr5 sometimes d1 go+ backw>d fac+ ! re> ( ! procession 9 ord] t conv]sation may be c>ri$ on4 ,ev5 "y *ildr5 %\ld be taught t ! runn+1 leap+1 jump+1 l\d talk+ & laught]1 :i* w\ld be all "r 9 ! back y>d1 on "s playgr\nd1 or 9 ! op5 c\ntry1 is nev] to be indulg$ on ! public /reet2 t ! mom5t ! /reet is rea*$ ! deportm5t %\ld become quiet1 & h ?\ghtful ref]5ce to ! com=t ( ! public4 ,!y %\ld und]/& ! obvi\s reasons = ?is3 ,a runn+ *ild is practically a bl9d & deaf "o2 he mu/ h pl5ty ( room1 or he w be almo/ sure to collide ) some?+ or somebody2 9 t[n w be 9 dang] ( teams or c>s4 ,! rule = ! /reet %\ld be3 ,/eady1 quiet1 c>eful1 eyes to ! front1 no l\d talk+ or laugh+1 no play1 no swapp+ ( knives1 no read+1 no *ew+ or eat+1 no cle>+ ! ?roat or spitt+ if x c possibly be avoid$4 ,if ?is la/ is impossible1 let x be done 9 ! mo/ unobtrusive mann]1 beh9d a k]*ief2 9 %ort1 let no?+ be done :i* w\ld inevitably draw ! att5tion ( pass]s-by1 caus+ special notice & comm5t4 ,! craze = notoriety manife/s itself 9 a ?\s& repulsive =ms ( /reet behavior1 ?r\gh :i* ! grosse/ temptations attack ! untaught & c>eless2 & ^? p>5ts :o w\ld protect _! *ildr5 f _m nameless dang]s mu/ tea* !m good =m z appli$ to /reet life4 ,n[h]e does good bre$+ reveal itself m quickly ?an 9 ! quiet1 unobtrusive 8,i-am-m9d+-my-own-bus9ess0 air ( ! girl or boy1 :o1 ) an armful ( books held closely1 look+ nei!r to ! "r nor to ! left1 clips to & f s*ool2 or if walk+ & talk+ toge!r by twos1 x is ) /eady c>riage & voices s modulat$ t no pass]-by w ov]he> a ^w1 nor ?9k ( be+ jo/l$4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be taught by bo? ^w & example t :5 !y are ab\t to meet any p]son on ! /reet !y %\ld fall back into s+le file at ! "r1 :ile /ill f> en\gh di/ant z to obviate all dang] ( int]f]5ce4 ,:o has n f\nd himself caught on ! /reet 9 a mob ( s*oolgirls or boys1 (t5 bo? toge!r1 :o ne$lessly monopolize ! walk1 z ) l\d talk+1 wrangl+1 je/+1 jaws work+ at bo? words & gum1 !y publi% z ^u ! h\setop ! utt] lack ( good =m 9 ! homes f :i* !y h come8 ,! fir/ blame = ?is disgu/+ spectacle always falls ^u ! *ildr52 b 9 tru? x all belongs to ! homes out ( :i* !y h tumbl$ pell-mell )\t t in/ruction & ^? fix$ habits :i* w\ld h insur$ decorum & dec5cy4 ,e *ild %\ld be taught to give c\rte\s recognition to acqua9tances4 ,! boys %\ld lift ! cap to ea* o!r z well z to _! eld]s1 always to fa!r & "m1 if !y *ance to meet !m on ! /reet2 & ! girls by "s mode/ fem99e salute ( b[ or ^w4 ,b "s "o may object t x seems 8f>-fet*$0 to tra9 boys to ?is =mal mann]ism4 ,to :i* ,i reply 9 ! old adage t ! 8boy is fa!r ( ! man40 ,! man 9 e relation 9 life w foll[ ! lead ( boyi% habits unless inde$ 9 ! int]e/s ( "s great conviction or self-int]e/ he makes all ?+s new4 ,?is c be done1 b ev5 !n ! traces ( e>ly habits w (t5 rema9 to br+ %ame & confusion at "s critical po9t :5 pleasure or pr(it are at /ake4 ,,iii4 ,! social life ( boys & girls %\ld be recogniz$ & provid$ = z a dep>tm5t ( ! s*ool 9 :i* !y %all become educat$ 9 ^? ?+s :i* make = social righte\sness & purity lat] on4 ,z boys treat ea* o!r1 !y w1 z a rule1 treat ea* o!r z m54 ,z boys & girls behave t[>d ea* o!r1 s w !y z a rule behave z m5 & wom54 ,c\rtesy is necess>y to ! highe/ degree ( success 9 any ent]prise4 ,! boy :o is habitually c\rte\s t[>d o!r boys w be successful 9 w9n+ 8 way z a man among m5 ) any important message ) :i* he may be commission$2 & if he is s in/ruct$ t he is g5tle1 consid]ate1 & true to 8 "m1 si/]s1 & girl associates1 he w be a safe fri5d z a man1 a repres5tative ( ,*ri/ to 8 own wife & *ildr51 & help to make t home :i* mu/ /& z a witness = ,god 9 ! la/ days4 ,! *ildr5 9 ^: int]e/s ,i am writ+ mu/ be 9 a peculi> s5se mess5g]s ( light to ! _w4 ,!y w be on ! field ( action 9 ! v la/ sc5es ( ! e>?'s hi/ory1 :5 s\ls mu/ be snat*$ by a p[] ( :i* we h little compreh5sion--! p[] to w9 quickly2 ! p[] to reveal ! tru? z 9 a fla% ( light1 s t x w be recogniz$ at sight by ! bewild]$1 desp]ate s\l t has awak5$ at ! la/ mom5t to its p]il & privilege1 & ) scant space = rep5tance & cleans+1 cries out = help2 & ! ,holy ,_s mu/ f9d some:]e ^? :om he c tra9 & use = ! s]vice :i* 9 ^? days mu/ be done to rea* e creature1 high z well z l[1 ) ! gospel4 ,! tru? is wor?y ( ! be/ possible inve/m5t4 ,its mess5g]s %\ld be free f e (f5sive habit1 cu/om1 & mann]--?or\ghly equipp$ 9 all t is mo/ graceful1 mo/ s*ol>ly1 z g5u9e ,*ri/ian s*ol>%ip goes2 mo/ ref9$1 mo/ *a/e1 & agreeable 9 bo? public & private int]c\rse4 ,!y %\ld be ! mo/ suitably1 & t means ! mo/ simply & ta/efully1 dress$4 ,! !ory ( ! _w consid]s z 8good =m0 t ea* individual %\ld dress accord+ to ! class :i* he repres5ts2 & ! ,*ri/ian :o consci5ti\sly & consi/5tly dresses z 8 "n 8,*ri/ian0 w\ld indicate t he %\ld dress1 w be respect$ by ev5 ! frivol\s 8butt]fly ( fa%ion10 & w /& a good *ance ( a he>+ by t same 8butt]fly10 ev5 9 ! mo/ solemn message1 provid$ x is accompani$ ) ! simple1 easy c\rtesy ( good bre$+1 su* z c n be sudd5ly assum$ 8= effect10 b :i* is ! result ( life-long tra9+4 ,!re are hone/ s\ls among s-call$ 8social butt]flies10 & "s work]s mu/ be tra9$ to g out into ! highways :]e !y flit away _! hopeless lives1 z well z into ! byways & h$ges1 :]e social wrecks are huddl$ 9 d>kness & desolation4 ,! m5 & wom5 :o mu/ d ?is "w are n[ boys & girls 9 our homes or s*ools1 & v mu* :i* %all det]m9e ! scope ( _! influ5ce dep5ds ^u :at ! ,_s ( ,god %all f9d available 9 !m = use4 ,a truly well-tra9$1 c\rte\s man or woman c be us$ any:]e1 among any p2 :ile ! unc\? & untra9$ mu/ be kept 9 a limit$ sph]e4 ,! truly cultur$ man or woman ^: e gift & grace has be5 sanctifi$ & consecrat$1 w be m sure to "k :at to d 9 ! homes ( ! wret*$ & ! haunts ( vice = ! alleviation ( di/ress & ! sav+ ( a s\l ?an ^? :o h nev] ?\ght x wor? :ile to cultivate w9some qualities4 ,god has s arrang$ human life & relations t ev5 ! mo/ ari/ocratic & exclusive mu/ take note (1 & plan = do+1 ! same e-day ?+s t are alike common to all2 & ! only "q ( deportm5t :i* c ev] come betwe5 ! unc\? & ! ref9$1 conc]ns ! me?ods ( do+ ^! same mo/ common ?+s4 ,! "m 9 ! humble/ home1 ) ! mo/ meag] opportunities1 if %e has a high en\gh appreciation ( ! mission to :i* h] *ild is call$ z a repres5tative ( ! preci\s 8fai? ( ,jesus10 c1 9 him1 place at ! disposal ( ! ,holy ,_s su* graces ( g5tl5ess1 su* a beauty ( hol9ess1 su* w9some k9dl9ess1 su* tact & address1 z %all op5 ! way = any?+ :i* he has to br+4 ,b to d ?is %e mu/ beg9 ) ! *ild 9 8 relation to ! o!r *ildr5 ( 8 own age ) :om he /&s on an equal foot+4 ,to treat ) def]5ce & polit5ess only ^? :o because ( age or position are recogniz$ z 8 sup]iors1 w\ld tra9 ! *ild to sy*ophancy4 ,! man :o c lead o!r m51 except by "s appeal to selfi% or brutal passion1 is v h>d to f9d4 ,a 8man's way0 has pass$ into prov]b1 & /&s = he$lessness z reg>ds 8 treatm5t ( 8 equals4 ,8 natural s5se ( pity w make him k9d to ! helpless1 provid$ he c af=d x2 he w be respectful to ! respectable because 8 own respectability requires x2 & 8 g5]al int]e/ w lead him to c\rt ^? :o are 9 a position to be/[ favors2 b to be all t a consecrat$ ,*ri/ian companion might be to ^? :o are on ! same plane ) himself1 or :o are s outlaw$ by public s5tim5t t no accus] b consci5ce w\ld arise aga9/ him = any wrong done to !m1 is ! po9t ( failure 9 ! association ( m5 ) m5 & wom51 & is ! result ( an almo/ univ]sal idea t 8boys don't ne$ to be s v polite to ea* o!r10 nor 8s v p>ticul>0 z to j h[ !y talk :5 alone among !mselves1 & t ! silly girl or 8fall50 among wom5 is legitimate prey = any man4 ,x is by 8behavior0 t m5 & wom5 are protect$ f1 or expos$ to1 especial & peculi> temptations1 z well z made m or less effective 9 tru?-tea*+ & s\l-w9n+4 ,x may seem ridicul\s to make ! use ( a h&k]*ief ! subject ( grave consid]ation1 b x is a t]rible fact t ?is little scrap ( l95 has become m dang]\s ?an dynamite to ! ?\ghtless girl 9 h] te5s :o1 = lack ( prop] tea*+1 picks up ! little tricks ( /reet flirtation1 :i* h s defil$ x t x has become almo/ indec5t to h&le x outside ! seclusion ( "o's own room4 ,let a bright-fac$ girl take h] h&k]*ief 9 h& on ! /reet ( ev5 a small c\ntry village1 & %e w imm$iately become ! c5t] ( attraction to e lewd fell[ :o haunts public places1 until he has f\nd out :at %e int5ds to d ) x2 & ! code ( signals = :i* x is employ$ is ( su* a "* t ! mo/ innoc5t may be *>g$ ) a lewd invitation by :at might seem to be its necess>y use4 ,! same is true conc]n+ ! s\nd made by cle>+ ! ?roat & nasal passages1 & c\gh+4 ,^! are all us$ z signals ( vice2 & _m a giddy1 b innoc5t girl has f\nd h]self 9 situations ( great humiliation & dang]1 simply because %e _h n be5 =e>m$ ) a little k z to prop] conduct 9 ^! matt]s4 ,good =m requires t ! h&k]*ief be c>ri$ 9 ! pocket out ( sight2 nev] br\ght out 9 public except+ 9 a case ( necessity1 & !n us$ z unobtrusively z possible4 ,! importance ( ?is matt] is suffici5t to w>rant repetition ev5 to l9e ^u l9e & precept ^u precept4 ,^? :o w be able to d ! be/ s]vice 9 ! clos+ "w ( ! _w's hi/ory1 to w9 ! ri*e/ trophies = our com+ ,k+1 w be ^? :o1 toge!r ) ! 8comm&m5ts ( ,god & ! fai? ( ,jesus10 & ! fulness ( ! ,holy ,_s1 w "k & obs]ve 9 deportm5t t :i* ! _w recognizes z good =m4 ,,iv4 ,! :ole social problem1 z reg>ds pure liv+1 home-mak+1 & dome/ic com=t1 dep5ds on h[ "y p1 z su*1 %all deport !mselves t[>d ea* o!r4 ,"s good p h seem$ to suppose t1 provid$ ! *ildr5 7 conv]t$1 ev]y?+ else w\ld take c>e ( itself1 s t any specific in/ruction 9 8mann]s0 mu/ be sup]flu\s1 if n fooli%4 ,?is is a fallacy ( ! same ord] z t :i* assumes t if a man is call$ ( ,god to prea* ! gospel he ne$s no education or prep>ation1 only to /& up1 op5 8 m\?1 & give 8 vocal organs a *ance to play1 leav+ ,god to d ! re/2 :5 ! fact is t ,god w make good use ( e faculty1 & all ! culture t is provid$ = him1 b ( no m4 ,! "n ,*ri/ian %\ld /& = ! v be/ t is possible 9 education4 ,_m a ,*ri/ian man has br\ght reproa* on ! "n ( ,*ri/1 n because 8 he>t 0 bad1 b because 8 mann]s 74 ,_m a woman ( pure purpose1 :o w\ld n h committ$ a gross act = ! _w1 has ali5at$ h] husb&1 made h] neighbors suspici\s1 & lo/ h] good "n1 j because %e did n "k :at ?+s 7 ( good report1 & !re=e :at mu/ be ( evil report4 ,& ^! disa/]s result$ f lack ( prop] tra9+ 9 ! e>ly home on "s po9ts t seem too trivial to ?9k ab\t twice1 & :i*1 d\btless1 _m w feel h no place 9 a dignifi$ discussion any:]e4 ,& yet s9ce ^! small ?+s conc]n s mu* ( weal or woe1 s mu* ( honor or %ame1 we may well af=d to take "t = _! consid]ation4 ,"o ( ! ?+s mo/ commonly se51 & ab\t :i* all ! _w smiles1 is a boy & girl /&+ on opposite sides ( ! gate :i* op5s t[>d h] home4 ,!y h walk$ f s*ool or *ur* toge!r1 %e has ent]$ & clos$ ! gate1 & paus$ a mom5t = ano!r ^w2 he has tak5 ?is z an invitation to l+]1 & s !y /& laugh+ly or s]i\sly *att+1 sometimes long aft] d>k4 ,! _w calls x coquetry1 b ! "y p d n mean x z su*2 to !m x is probably f> remov$ f e evil ?\ght4 ,!y are innoc5t & hone/2 b y c n make ! _w1 t is look+ = evil1 believe t !y are n consci\sly flirt+4 ,x w e/imate !m accord+ly1 & soon beg9 to say1 8,t girl kn[s q z mu* z %e ought to20 & ! good ,*ri/ian p ( ! community w gr[ afraid ( h] z an associate = _! daught]s1 ev5 if ^? same daught]s d ! same ?+4 ,^! *ildr5 h se5 old] "y p1 p]haps "m & ! m9i/]1 /& & talk & laugh 9 ! same way4 ,"s may ask1 8,well1 :y n80 ,because x is n good =m1 because a bad social savor atta*es to x1 because1 no matt] :o does x1 unless !y are v ag$1 or are1 l ,cs>'s wife1 absolutely above suspicion 7& :o c v5ture to assume su* a ?+ = himself71 !y w lose 9 dignity1 suff] 9 reputation1 become ! butt ( "s sly joke f ! class ( p :o ne$ ! help t c only be giv5 by m5 & wom5 :o d n 8all[ _! good to be evil spok5 (40 ,if *ildr5 & "y p =m ! habit ( /opp+ to talk at ! gate1 !y w d x z m5 & wom52 & by do+ x1 draw ! evil eye1 & invite gossip4 ,tea* y\r boy & girl t good =m requires t :5 !y arrive at ! gate1 if !y wi% to cont9ue ! conv]sation1 bo? %\ld g on into ! h\se toge!r2 or t1 aft] he has op5$ ! gate & clos$ x aft] h]1 %e %\ld promptly say 8,good morn+10 or 8,good ev5+10 & he %\ld z promptly lift 8 hat1 & walk away4 ,if !y ent] ! h\se toge!r1 good =m requires t he1 if he be "y or old1 %\ld receive a family greet+1 & t ! memb]s ( ! family %all be free to come to ! p>lor or sitt+-room to :i* he has be5 tak51 to rema9 & %>e 9 ! conv]sation if !y wi%1 until ! call is end$4 ,two "y p %\ld nev] suppose t !y mu/ sit 9 a p>lor ) clos$ doors2 t fa!r1 "m1 & e "o else mu/ be kept out ( ! way because ,nellie's fri5d 7nev] call him a beau7 has come to sp5d ! ev5+4 ,!y %\ld nev] consid] x possible to ext5d t ev5+ into & pa/ ! l>ge h\rs ( ! night4 ,?is is "o ( ,satan's mo/ fruitful wreck+ devices1 ( :i* ! "y p w nev] ?9k1 !mselves1 unless _! tra9+ has t5d$ to pu% !m (f away f _! natural social guides1 & keep bad social models be=e !m4 ,:5 ! boy1 or "y man1 comes to sp5d an ev5+ because y h a daught]1 give him j z mu* ( y\rself z possible2 make y\rself s indisp5sable to ! "y p t !y w naturally come to y :]ev] y pref] to sit1 r ?an try to ent]ta9 ea* o!r )\t y4 ,?is is n an unhe>d ( ?+1 al?\gh "o w sometimes he> ,*ri/ian p answ] to ?is tea*+ z if x 7 v extreme inde$4 8,h[ !n w a "y man be able to say any?+ special to ! girl80 ,to :i* x may be answ]$ t if he is n able to f9d "s way :i* is p]fectly consi/5t ) e pr9ciple ( decorum1 he is n wor? li/5+ to2 & if t is true ( him1 x w be because he did n h 8 %>e ( ! "r sort ( home life & tra9+4 ,9 ! social _w1 :]e ,good ,=m is z b9d+ z ! ,decalogue is to ! ,*ri/ian1 fa!rs & mo!rs h made x impossible = a "y woman to ?9k ( ent]ta9+ h] "y man fri5d %ut away alone ) him4 ,/range to say1 x has be5 ! mode/ home1 ! ,*ri/ian p>5t1 :o has all[$ ,satan to set ?is trap = unw>y feet by leav+ ! "y daught]1 )\t "o ^w ( in/ruction1 to ent]ta9 "s "y man1 p]haps a /rang]1 :o pass$ z h] lov]1 %ut away 9 ! 8p>lor10 :ile ev]ybody 0 giv5 to und]/& t no "o mu/ di/urb ! my/]i\s solemnities ( 8keep+ company10 ev5 if !y %\ld cont9ue into ! small h\rs4 ,& z a result ( ?is disreg>d ( simple good =m1 :i* is z a f5ce aga9/ recogniz$ dang]1 untold s9 & sorr[ h result$4 ,v4 ,! mo/ worldly society decid$ long ago t x is v 8bad =m0 = boys & girls ( s*ool age to ?9k ( lov]s1 ( engagem5ts1 or ( m>riage4 ,n until ! day ( *ildi% ?+s is entirely pass$1 n until a "y man has "s settl$ purpose 9 life1 "s bus9ess or pr(ession :i* insures an income1 does 8,good ,society10 z x is call$1 smile ^u any 8s]i\s int5tions0 betwe5 "y p1 & e ef=t is made to hold ! *ildr5 ( ! social _w to ?is regulation4 ,all ?is is because ( ! fact :i* c n be repudiat$ t premature ?9k+ along ^! *annels is unheal?y1 & disqualifies ! y\? = any real e>ne/ prep>ation = practical life4 ,! _w !oretically consid]s ^! prep>atory ye>s s important1 & education s vital1 t ) e possible device x seeks to keep ! *ildr5 unconsci\s ( sex1 & ( ! burd5s :i* ?is consci\sness always br+s1 until !y h atta9$ some?+ l maturity4 ,( c\rse ! _w fails1 because x is try+ to d by %e] =ce ( human w1 & by human me?ods f outside influ5ce1 t :i* c only be accompli%$ by ! gr[+ f )9 ( a div9ely plant$ pr9ciple4 ,b t :i* ! _w is /ruggl+ aft]1 t ab\t :i* x has made s _m laws1 has writt5 & talk$ s mu*1 & 9 :i* x is s (t5 foil$1 ,*ri/ian p>5ts ought to f9d practical & easy1 because ( ! p[] ( ! ,_s :i* always accompanies e tru?4 ,x is a fact1 h[ev]1 t _m worldly homes h succe$$ at ?is po9t1 because !y h fai?fully taught ! pr9ciple1 ev5 if )\t pray] or fai?2 :ile _m ,*ri/ian homes h fail$1 ) all _! pray+ & s-call$ fai?1 because !y h ignor$ ! pr9ciple t m>riage is = m5 & wom51 n = *ildr52 & t any association :i* takes cognizance ( sex mu/ be = m>riage only2 t if x is = any o!r object1 x is coquetry1 flirt+1 & consequ5tly immoral4 ,?is %\ld be s fai?fully taught to ! gr[+ *ild1 & all words & conduct 9 home & ,*ri/ian social life %\ld be s "u ! control ( ?is pr9ciple1 & he %\ld be s taught ^? habits ( social int]c\rse :i* w protect him f premature & unheal?y ?\ght1 t he %all be able to gr[ up to ! "t ( 8 own home-mak+ untrammel$ by ! entanglem5ts ( unhall[$ associations & _! di/ract+ memories4 ,"h aga9 ! b\nd>ies ( safety are m>k$ by ?+s :i* seem trivial4 ,! social _w c\nts x z 8bad =m0 = "y p to ev5 %ake h&s ^u introduction1 because x has f\nd out to its %ame & disgrace t !re is dang] 9 a h&-%ake2 & ,i am free to say t ?is social extreme is bett] ?an ! fre$om :i* sometimes obta9s1 because by t ! "y p become practis$ 9 a loos5ess ( conduct :i* op5s ! way = tr\ble4 8,good =m0 ton$ d[n f ! extreme rigidity ( ! social _w1 s z to meet ! requirem5ts ( ord9>y ,*ri/ian int]c\rse1 w\ld tea* t ! h&-%ake %\ld be j :at its "n indicates--a clasp1 a %ake1 & !n a drop4 ,tea* y\r son t he %\ld nev] place any lady 9 ! emb>rass+ position ( hav+ h] h& cru%$1 or held "o second2 = if %e has be5 prop]ly taught1 %e w be sure t he is ei!r ignorant1 c>eless1 or ung5tlemanly 9 s do+2 & if %e is h]self ignorant & c>eless1 if %e is weak en\gh to all[ h] h& to be held1 %e is 9 a condition :]e %e ne$s to be protect$ f h]self2 & y\r son %\ld be able to be t protector4 ,tea* y\r daught] t if any man cl+s to h] f+]s :5 %e has giv5 him h] h& 9 fri5dly1 cordial fa%ion1 if he takes ! lib]ty ( plac+ 8 o!r h& "u h] elb[1 or tak+ hold ( h] arm1 t x is h] privilege & duty to tea* him t he has committ$ a brea* ( good mann]s by )draw+ h] h&1 =cibly if %e mu/1 & /epp+ out ( 8 rea*4 ,& any "y man :o is wor?y ( h] fri5d%ip w 9 8 he>t ?ank h] = ! rebuke1 & pr(it by x4 ,_m a boy :o has gr[n up 9 a family ( si/]s1 & among _! fri5ds1 has1 9 go+ out into ! _w1 _h to suff] ov] & ov] su* tortures ( *agr9 & %ame z 7 almo/ un5durable be=e he c\ld le>n ^? little ?+s 9 8good =m0 :i* %\ld h be5 taught him by precept & example 9 8 home f *ildhood2 & = a lack ( ! "r tea*+ 9 ?is 8h&-to-h&0 relation1 _m a boy has be5 tak5 captive by %ameless wom51 simply because he practis$ 9 ! wid] & m wick$ _w ! free habits :i* 7 common 9 ! neighborhood life at home1 :i*1 :ile nei!r "r nor safe !re1 7 n absolutely dang]\s1 because ea* knew ev]ybody1 & all 7 held to respectability by ! %ort re9 ( close social relations4 ,tea* y\r daught] t x is n 8good =m0 to all[ a "y man 9 walk+ ) h] to support h] /eps 9 any way1 unless %e has suff]$ "s sudd5 injury4 ,a spra9$ ankle w\ld excuse any necess>y help until a c>riage c\ld be call$2 or1 if ?is 7 out ( ! "q1 until %e 0 tak5 home4 ,if %e mu/ h help1 let h] take 8 arm1 & hold on2 b tea* y\r boy nev] to place 8 h& on a lady's wri/1 & lay h] arm along 8 own1 hold+ h] by h& & elb[4 ,?is is a mo/ vulg> me?od ( support+ any except+ "o's own wife1 si/]1 "m1 or "s ag$ woman4 ,!re is no possible reason :y any "y woman1 :o is 9 heal?1 %\ld1 ev5 aft] dusk1 ne$ support f any man4 ,%e ought to be able to keep h] place 9 ! road or field1 or on ! sidewalk1 j z well z he c1 & walk indep5d5tly ( 8 h& or arm4 ,! notion t a woman mu/ h a man's arm = support is (f ! same loaf ) all ! o!r nons5se :i* belongs to all ! re/ ( t 8cl++-v9e !ory0 :i* assumes t %e is ( necessity s mu* ! weak] z to ne$ 8 con/ant att5tion & c>e1 especially z long z %e is "y & attractive4 ,! old & wr9kl$ woman c z a rule take c>e ( h]self4 ,woman has be5 made weak] ?an man by ! s9ful habits ( life to :i* social cu/om condemn$ & held h] dur+ ! ,d>k ,ages4 ,?is subjugation 0 h] "p ( ! entail$ curse4 ,b f ?is1 ) all its disabilities1 %e is to become free 9 ,*ri/2 & our daught]s tra9$ 9 ,*ri/ian homes %\ld at lea/ be able to walk any:]e t a "y woman ought to g )\t lean+ on "s man = support4 ,h[ mu* m graceful are ! movem5ts ( m5 & wom5 z !y walk toge!r1 keep+ /ep1 b f> en\gh ap>t s t ea* is p]fectly free1 ?an :5 lock$ toge!r by ! arms1 especially 9 daylight1 on a smoo? pa?4 ,z age comes on1 x is a beautiful ?+ to see a son or daught] support+ ! /eps ( fa!r1 "m1 or gr&p>5ts2 b x is a pa!tic sc5e1 ! beauty ( :i* dep5ds entirely ^u its necessity4 ,z a %[ ( any special reg>d :i* two p may h = ea* o!r1 x is ridicul\s4 ,,vi4 ,good =m requires t 9 pass+ ?r\gh a door or gate ! y\ng] %all always /& aside = ! eld]1 & t c>e %all be tak5 to op5 & keep ! door1 especially if x sw+s bo? ways1 s t x %all n hit any "o 9 com+ to4 ,i 0 once =cibly rem9d$ ( ?is article ( ! 8good-=m0 code by see+ a vigor\s "y college /ud5t ru% ?r\gh a door )\t any reg>d to an eld]ly woman :om he met 9 ! passage1 & :om he almo/ knock$ (f h] feet 9 ! enc\nt]1 leav+ ! outside door to sw+ back aga9/ h] sl5d] h& z %e caught x to prev5t its hitt+ h] 9 ! face4 ,he seem$ utt]ly oblivi\s to ! fact t he _h met any "o1 & by ?is unconsci\s rud5ess he publi%$ abroad ! fact t he _h be5 re>$ 9 utt] disreg>d ( ord9>y c\rtesy4 ,?is "y man is try+ to d :at is "r2 he wi%es to d a good "w 9 ! _w1 b he is de/9$ to feel ! h&icap ( bad bre$+1 = :i* he is n responsible4 ,he w be responsible1 h[ev]1 = cont9uance 9 bad =m2 = bad bre$+ may be made tempor>y 9 its effects by an e>ne/ purpose to replace x by true culture4 ,i knew a "y man ^: bir? & surr\nd+s 9 boyhood 7 z unpromis+ z c\ld be imag9$4 ,8 fa!r 0 a v l[1 ignorant1 drunk5 fell[1 unclean & disgu/+ 9 all 8 habits1 ev5 :5 sob]4 ,8 "m c\ld nei!r read nor write1 al?\gh %e 0 possess$ ( intellig5ce & _m true1 womanly in/9cts1 su* z made x possible = ! hovel 9 :i* !y liv$ to be> "s semblance to a home4 ,?is boy1 :o 0 ! elde/ ( a l>ge family1 0 bright en\gh to attract ! att5tion ( a 8di/rict visitor10 0 clo!d1 & tak5 to ! ,sunday-s*ool1 & f !nce w5t on ?r\gh a c>e] ( self-d5ial1 self-tra9+1 & culture1 always seek+ ! be/ ?+s1 hold+ e advantage ga9$ f po9t to po9t1 f9i%+ 8 prep>atory "w z "o ( ! mo/ poli%$ & consecrat$ "y m5 ( a l>ge college circle1 pay+ 8 way by skill$ labor 9 a ma*9e-%op = a few h\rs ea* week1 :ile he 0 be+ equipp$ = a l>ge field ( usefulness4 ,he became especially di/+ui%$ = ! elegance ( 8 deportm5t t[>d all ) :om he *anc$ to be br\ght into association4 ,x 0 (t5 said1 8,he nev] =gets himself10 8,he always does ! admirable ?+10 8,y c dep5d on him to d ! elegant always10 & ! beauty ( x all 0 t ?is 0 a "p ( 8 ,*ri/ian life4 ,he 0 always want$1 b ! social _w t covet$ him knew t he c\ld n be _h = any?+ t 0 inconsi/5t ) ,*ri/4 ,tea* y\r boys & girls ?is pr9ciple ( def]5ce to _! eld]s1 by example1 z well z precept4 ,br+ !m up to practise x1 ) e o!r expression ( cultivat$ mann]s1 among !mselves z bro!rs & si/]s4 ,! eld] ones %\ld1 ( c\rse1 nev] dem& def]5ce2 t w\ld be ! wor/ ( all bad =ms4 ,no true lady or g5tleman w ev] notice any disreg>d ( p]sonal rights4 ,to dem& ?is recognition1 or to manife/ res5tm5t at its omission1 is to =feit "o's claim to x2 b let ea* be ready to recognize ! "r ( s5iority1 & t x is at lea/ graceful = ! y\ng] ones to yield place & position to _! eld] bro!rs1 si/]s1 & fri5ds4 ,a well-br$ girl or woman w op5 & hold ! door = an old1 eld]ly1 or feeble man2 w ent] aft] him1 & close ! door h]self1 al?\gh he1 if he has be5 tra9$ 9 ! habits ( ! 8old s*ool0 ( g5tlem51 might insi/ on r5d]+ to h] ! c\rtesy due h] sex1 & wait = h] to pass1 ev5 if %e %\ld be "y en\gh to be 8 gr&daught]2 b x w be a graci\s act = h] to unobtrusively hold ! humbl] place :i* prop]ly belongs to h]1 & wait until he passes 91 unless1 z might sometimes happ51 %e w\ld be 9 dang] ( attract+ undue att5tion by mak+ long] ef=t to ?w>t 8 c\rte\s designs1 z well z possibly cause delay to o!rs4 ,9 su* a case %e %\ld quietly ?ank him1 & pass on z quickly z %e c )\t ha/e1 s z to get out ( ! way4 ,among m5 & wom5 ( ! same g5]ation x is expect$ t a man w be always ready to p]=m all ^? little *ivalric c\rtesies = wom5 ev]y:]e :i* he w\ld l o!r m5 to t5d] to 8 own "m1 si/]1 wife1 or special fri5d1 & no m4 ,= a boy or man to treat any o!r woman ( ! same age bett] ?an he treats 8 own "m1 si/]1 or wife1 reveals ! bad1 disloyal he>t :i* w ta9t ! v be/ social 8good =m0 ) corruption4 ,to dem& f o!rs = "o's p]sonal fri5ds bett] treatm5t ?an he himself gives1 is to at once publi% t he is guilty ( ! mo/ contemptible =m ( selfi%ness4 8,i let no man abuse my folks b myself10 0 ! frank confession ( a "y man :o 0 always ready to fight any "o :o w\ld treat 8 8folks0 ) any?+ l ! neglect & disrespect t 0 8 con/ant habit4 ,! little att5tions :i* %\ld become habits 9 y\?1 because !y help to t appe>ance :i* w s]ve z adornm5t to e good doctr9e1 is ! plac+ ( ! *air 9 ! mo/ com=table position possible = ano!r2 seat+ gr&fa!r or gr&mo!r1 fa!r or "m at ! table2 ! adju/m5t ( a light2 pick+ up ! article t has be5 dropp$2 n wait+ to be ask$ to help if y %\ld see t fa!r1 "m1 or 9 fact1 any "o else1 is look+ = some?+ :i* !y d n seem to be able to f9d quickly1 or if !y are try+ to save y\r /eps by gett+ along ) "s inconv5i5ce :i* y c see might1 by a little ef=t on y\r "p1 be made to give place to conv5i5ce4 ,no?+ is ev] lo/ 89 ! long run0 by t sort ( ?\ghtful c>e = o!rs :i* is kn[n z polit5ess4 ,9 travel+1 or 9 pass+ 9 & out ( a cr[d$ *ur* or hall1 ! truly well-br$ man w nev] be f\nd /ruggl+ 9 ! mid/ ( a jam to get ?r\gh ! door into ! be/ seat1 or up into ! tra9 be=e any "o else4 ,if he %\ld be caught 9 a jam1 he w\ld n elb[ p "r & left2 b w\ld1 :ile protect+ 8 own p]son & ^? :o are dep5d5t ^u him f injury1 f9d 8 own *ance ( gett+ out ( ! tight place by help+ o!rs out4 ,9 ?is selfi% _w no?+ s quickly t\*es ! popul> he>t z t sort ( ,*ri/lik5ess :i* is recogniz$ z polit5ess to /rang]s 9 public places1 & z c>efulness 9 help+ ! weak1 & 9 refra9+ f add+ burd5s to ^? :o are h>d-press$ by responsibilities4 ,! man or woman :o obta9s control ( ! highe/ quality ( influ5ce is ! "o :o has ei!r f *ildhood be5 tra9$ to ?9k ^? ?\ghts t blossom out into beautiful consid]at5ess1 or :o has tak5 himself 9 h&1 & by vigor\s self-tra9+ has prun$ (f ! gr[? ( selfi% he$lessness1 & graft$ 9 ! g5tl] graces ( ! ,_s4 ,"o ,w4 ,c4 ,t4 ,u4 lectur] _h be5 pa9fully impress$ by ! fact t baggagem5 _h to h&le su* heavy trunks4 ,?is 0 be=e s _m little :eel$ contrivances _h be5 plac$ at _! disposal4 ,%e accord+ly suppli$ h]self ) two small trunks 9 place ( ! "o l>ge "o1 = no o!r reason ?an to save ! backs ( ! m54 ,h] k9d int5tion 0 kept to h]self = ye>s1 & x w5t unrecogniz$ at its full value until at l5g? "o day %e enc\nt]$ a grumpy old baggageman1 :o seem$ to h a special grudge aga9/ any woman ) two *ecks4 ,he 0 f ! fir/ mom5t v uncivil1 & ?reat5$ h] ) a *>ge = excess ( baggage4 ,%e said b little1 only w5t quietly along ! baggage-room ) him1 id5tifi$ ! two dim9utive p>cels1 & wait$4 ,he look$ at !m1 !n at h]1 color$ l "o :o 0 a%am$ ( himself1 & said3-- 8,be !m all80 8,yes1 ^? are all40 8,well1 :at made y make two ( 'em80 8,t is my way ( help+ to lift "o big trunk10 %e said4 8,y\r :at80 8,my way ( help+ y to lift "o big trunk40 8,x is8 ,well1 ,i nev]6 ,y did x to save our backs80 8,yes3 ,i nev] want$ any old man or boy to /ra9 himself ov] a big trunk = me1 s ,i divid$ m9e 9 two40 8,well60 ejaculat$ ! grumpy old fell[1 :o evid5tly did n "k any?+ m to say4 ,8 :ole he>t _h sudd5ly mell[$1 8 eyes grew r$1 & 8 h&s trembl$ z1 tak+ (f 8 cap1 he *ang$ ^? *ecks ) ! air ( "o :o 0 p]=m+ an act ( religion4 ,:5 he came ) ! two little bits ( metal to ! wait+ pass5g]1 /ill c>ry+ 8 cap 9 8 h&1 & :5 %e took !m ) a 8,?ank y10 & put !m 9 h] purse1 he look$ timidly into h] face z if to see if he c\ld possibly be =giv54 ,%e *ose n to make mu* ( ! incid5t1 s %e did n seem to notice 8 p]turbation1 b ) a simple 8,good day10 left ! baggage-room4 ,b %e knew v well t t old baggageman w\ld nev] =get1 & w\ld p]haps be k9d] to all ! big trunks 9 ! future = ! sake ( ^? little tw9 products ( h] k9d int5tion4 ,,vii4 8,h[ ,i wi% ,i knew j h[ "o ought to behave 9 go+ into public places1 meet+s1 & lectures10 said a "y woman rec5tly4 ,o!rs h ask$ simil> que/ions4 ,i h he>d some?+ l ?is m ?an once3 8,isn't x dreadful n to "k ! little ?+s t w\ld prev5t folks f look+ at y & smil+ 9 su* a mean way80 ,x is 8dreadful10 z well z unnecess>y t *ildr5 %\ld be left to gr[ up ignorant ( any ( ^? ?+s1 great or small1 :i* w make x possible = !m to ent] ! s*oolroom1 ! *ur*1 ! hall1 & move ab\t 9 su* a mann] z n to be objects ( unpleasant obs]vation to ^? :o make polit5ess a pr(ession4 ,all t has be5 said ab\t ! op5+ & clos+ ( doors1 & ! rules ( prec$5ce1 are always 9 full =ce1 & %\ld become s automatic t !y w nev] h to be rememb]$4 ,ev5 at home1 & 9 ! small c\ntry s*oolh\se place ( wor%ip !y %\ld be obs]v$1 if "o hopes to always d ! 8nice way40 ,9 a small congregation :]e 8ev]ybody kn[s ev]ybody10 !re is a great temptation to fall into v lax mann]s1 & s to cultivate habits t are h>d to ov]come1 & :i* w cause *agr9 by & by to ! "y man or woman :o wants to appe> well among /rang]s4 ,!re=e x is wise to tra9 ! *ildr5 to su* deportm5t 9 ! small *ur*1 or cottage meet+ t !y %all nev] be 9 dang] ( br++ reproa* on ! home :i* !y h left beh9d !m1 by unc\? or disord]ly behavior 9 any public assembly4 ,any place ( wor%ip %\ld be ent]$ quietly1 *ildr5 & p>5ts toge!r1 s+le file1 9 su* ord] t !re w be no jo/l+1 cr[d+1 or *ang+ ( places4 ,!re are two ways ( seat+ a family1 ei!r ( :i* is good =m4 ,9 "o case ! fa!r ent]s fir/1 foll[$ 9 ord] by ! "m1 ! y\nge/ *ild1 & !n ! o!rs accord+ to age1 s t ! elde/ comes la/4 ,at ! op5+ to ! pew1 or r[ ( *airs1 ! fa!r turns1 /&+ to face ! o!rs1 & waits until all h pass$ 9 & are seat$1 :5 he takes 8 place at ! entrance4 ,?is arrangem5t gives ! "m ! seat 9 ! f>!r corn]1 ) ! 8baby0 beside h]1 :ile ! elde/ *ild is next to ! fa!r4 ,9 ! o!r case ! elde/ *ild leads1 & passes into ! f>!r end ( ! seat1 foll[$ by ! o!r *ildr5 9 su* ord] z to leave ! 8baby0 next to ! "m1 :o sits 9 ! second place f ! end1 beside h] husb&4 ,sometimes :5 !re is a l>ge family1 x is necess>y to sep>ate ! *ildr5 by plac+ ! "m 9 ! mid/ ( !m betwe5 two re/less ones4 ,b :atev] ord] is necess>y1 let x be s matt]-(-c\rse t ! com+ 9 & seat+ %all be 9 t decor\s mann] :i* w impress ! *ildr5 ) ! sacr$ness ( ! s]vice = :i* !y h come4 ,tea* ! *ild t 9 ent]+ a seat or r[ ( *airs1 good =m requires t he %all pass cle> 9 to ! f>!/ vacant place1 or t if he has dropp$ d[n 9 ! end or middle ( ! r[1 & o!rs come to claim seats beyond him1 he %\ld always ei!r arise1 come out & /& to all[ !m to pass 91 or himself g on to ! f>!/ place4 ,tea* him1 nev]1 "u any circum/ances1 to make x necess>y = any "o to climb ov] 8 feet & legs to rea* a vacant place4 ,?is is "o ( ! mo/ common & wor/ =ms 9 :i* bad tra9+ 9 deportm5t manife/s itself4 ,also tea* y\r *ild to refuse to climb ov] anybody's feet4 ,in/ruct him ei!r to wait = a dec5t *ance to ent] t seat or to f9d ano!r4 ,! ludicr\s1 n to say unbecom+ appe>ance ( a woman :o tries to drag h]self ov] ! knees ( "s man :o rema9s immovable 9 ! end ( ! seat1 or :o attempts to draw himself up to 8make room0 = h] to pass1 is entirely out ( h>mony ) ! _s :i* %\ld prevail 9 a place ( wor%ip2 & ! "y man com+ f home ) ?is habit1 :i* has be5 =m$ by climb+ ov] 8 bro!rs & si/]s1 z well z p>5ts & gue/s1 & lett+ !m climb ov] him1 w be left "s sad day to wond] :y p /op at ! entrance to ! pew :]e he sits1 wait an in/ant1 look at him s que]ly1 & !n pass on1 z if !y 7 n will+ to occupy ! same seat ) him4 ,he may ?9k x is because he is f ! c\ntry1 because he is n /yli%ly dress$1 because !y are v 8/uck up10 :5 x is simply because !y d n *oose to climb ov] 8 legs to f9d a seat4 ,b y\r daught] %\ld be s taught t if %e mu/ /& 9 ! aisle & wait = "s man to get x into 8 head t he _h bett] move on1 or come out s z to all[ h] to pass1 %e %all d x k9dly & )\t contempt2 =1 ( c\rse1 ! poor fell[ w\ld d bett] if he only knew h[4 ,tea* by precept & example t wraps & rubb]s %\ld n be put on until aft] ! b5$iction4 ,if y\r boy %\ld gr[ up to ! dignity ( door-keep] 9 ! h\se ( ! ,"l1 he %\ld "k t extra seats %\ld nev] be remov$ f ! aisles1 nor doors be op5$1 until ! la/ 8am50 has be5 rev]5tly utt]$4 ,i believe t rev]5ce & a prop] und]/&+ ( ! mean+ ( ! sacr$ h\rs ( wor%ip w\ld be :olesomely inculcat$ by ! practise ( sitt+ d[n 9 sil5ce = two or ?ree m9utes aft] ! b5$iction1 or long en\gh = any necess>y ?+s to be done1 su* z ! ord]ly pass+ out ( ! congregation might require4 ,good =m requires t !re be no l\d talk+1 visit+1 laugh+1 bu/l+1 or confusion ( any sort 9 ! break+ up ( a congregation4 ,9 fact1 in/ead ( a break+ up1 x %\ld be a melt+ away1 ea* = himself seek+ to hold 9 ?\ght1 & c>ry ) him all t is possible ( ! subject :i* has be5 consid]$1 avoid+ ev]y?+ :i* t5ds to dissipate or to div]t ! m9d f its contemplation4 ,?is is ! good =m :i* nom9al ,*ri/ians require & tea*4 ,x is only ! =m1 if y please1 at ! be/ dead1 by :i* ! worldly pr(essor seems to be try+ to make up :at may be lack+ 9 real spiritual wor%ip2 b t v fact proves x to be m ?an ord9>ily wor?y ( consid]ation & adoption by ! mo/ spiritual4 ,^u ! same pr9ciple t our righte\sness mu/ exce$ ! righte\sness ( ! scribes & ,ph>isees %\ld our c\rtesy & good bre$+ exce$ t ( ! mo/ cultivat$ p ( ! _w4 ,t behavior :i* ev]ybody recognizes z becom+ ! h\se ( ! ,"l1 is t :i* w\ld mo/ c]ta9ly di/+ui% ,jesus if he %\ld come 9 among u2 & ! true wor%ip] :o w clo! himself ) ^! g5tle1 ,*ri/like graces ( conduct w be no less truly a ,*ri/ian1 :ile he w c]ta9ly be m quickly recogniz$ z su*4 ,,viii4 ,"o ( ! evils :i* ! good-=m code is int5d$ to control is t ( ! money & gift obligations1 & ! "p !y play 9 ! association ( "y p2 & 9 ?is ! burd5 ( pres]v+ ! j balance falls ^u ! "y woman1 al?\gh x is equally necess>y t bo? boys & girls %all be s in/ruct$ t !y %all ea* contribute an equal %>e ( t mutual protection :i* good =m is int5d$ to assure4 ,a s5tim5t /ill l+]s 9 ! social _w--a relic ( m$ieval gallantry--to ! effect t a "y man mu/ grant any?+ t a lady asks1 ev5 if1 to secure x1 he mu/ risk 8 life1 or "*1 or ! la/ 8qu>t]0 ) :i* he 0 to buy 8 d9n]4 ,?is ask+ on h] "p ne$ n be really ask+3 x may be only sugge/+1 or cons5t+ to accept4 ,%e may only exclaim1 8,oh1 w\ldn't a sleigh-ride be j too lovely = any?+60 ,%e may h become naughty en\gh1 )\t int5d+ any h>m1 to say ?is on purpose to make ! boy :om %e delights to tease beg9 m5tally to c\nt ov] 8 small supply ( *ange to see if he c possibly af=d ! rig4 ,girls h be5 kn[n to take a que] sort ( delight 9 lead+ a "y fell[ on to sp5d 8 la/ p5ny1 to contract a debt1 & g hungry1 because he did n bravely refuse to take ! h9ts t 7 int5d$ to lead him into exp5diture su* z he c\ld n af=d4 ,no girl :o has be5 prop]ly tra9$1 or :o has tru? & ! elem5ts ( womanl9ess )91 w ev] resort to any su* exp$i5t = h] pleasure1 b w keep h]self f all or any su* social entanglem5ts z w\ld lead to any?+ s base4 ,%e w n all[ a "y man to place h] "u obligation1 ev5 to ! ext5t ( c>-f>e4 ,tea* y\r gr[+ daught] t to receive a gift ( any sort f any boy or man outside ( ! imm$iate circle ( intimate1 well-kn[n family fri5ds1 is dang]\s1 if n disgraceful4 ,gift-giv+ & gift-receiv+ has come to be a vice4 ,x is (t5 int5d$ z a sly1 cov]t me?od ( buy+ y4 ,gifts are employ$ = 8padlock+ ! m\?0 ( ^? :o "k some?+ :i*1 if told1 might spoil "s selfi% or crim9al plot2 & ?is is by no means conf9$ to ,tammany ,hall4 ,_m a girl has kept "s dang]\s bit ( k hidd5 9 h] secret ?\ght1 & has be5 compromis$ by x1 simply because %e _h ?\ghtlessly accept$ "s bauble f "s man :om %e suppos$ to be a fri5d until1 ! ult]ior motive be+ reveal$1 %e discov]$ t ! gift 0 a bribe1 & its possession a confession ( di%onor2 & !n %e has f\nd h]self 9 a great /rait betwe5 h] desire to be free & yet to keep ! tr9ket4 ,i _h giv5 a pla9 talk to a company ( s*oolgirls2 & _m que/ions _h be5 pass$ up to me1 9 answ]+ :i* ,i _h t\*$ "s ( ^! po9ts4 ,at ! close ( ! meet+1 a few girls l+]$ to speak to me1 ea* wait+ to ask "s que/ions 8all = h]self alone40 ,s :ile ! o!rs wait$ at a safe di/ance1 !y came1 "o by "o1 to :isp] _! p]plexities 9 my e>4 ,h[ my he>t 0 tak5 captive by ^? girls1 z ) %amefac$ness1 ) trembl+ lips & burn+ *eeks1 !y ask$ me que/ions :i* 7 revelations bo? ( ! lack ( e>ly home tea*+ & ( ! me?ods by :i* an evil _w _h tri$ to make !m wise6 8,i h got afraid ( a lovely necklace t my fri5d gave me10 said "o ( !m4 8,i've wi%$ a hundr$ times he hadn't giv5 x2 b :at 9 ! _w c ,i d ) x80 8,s5d x back to him10 ,i said2 8tell him y "k m n[ ?an y did :5 y accept$ x1 & t y c n keep x40 8,b t w\ld make him furi\s4 ,i--,i--d>e n make him angry40 8,!n if he is s dang]\s1 y c]ta9ly d>e n h him = a fri5d4 ,if he is wor?y ( y\r fri5d%ip1 he w und]/& & respect y all ! m = ?is c\rse4 ,if he is n wor?y ( y\r fri5d%ip1 ! soon] y f9d x out1 ! bett]40 8,o--b--10 & ! poor girl bur/ into bitt] weep+4 ,!n aft] a few mom5ts1 ) a sudd5 firm resolution express$ 9 h] face1 %e dri$ h] eyes1 look$ up at me1 clasp$ my h&s z if to hold h]self by !m1 & said1 8,i'll d x1--,i'll d x "r (f1--& if he wants to make x h>d = me1 he may4 ,i've kept hone/1--,god kn[s ,i h1--& he kn[s x1 ?\gh he hasn't help$ me1 z he said he w\ld40 8,he promis$ to help y80 ,i ask$4 8,yes1 he did2 he said ,i c\ld tru/ him2 t he'd nev] let a girl be compromis$ 9 8 company 9 ! _w2 b if ,i _h done1 & gone1 z he insi/$1 le/ if ,i didn't he w\ld h be5 provok$1 ,i %\ld h be5 talk$ ab\t long ago4 ,i ?ank y s mu*4 ,i'll get rid ( x4 ,he may h 8 old necklace1 & keep x to give to 8 wife40 8,t is "r10 ,i said4 8,%e is ! only "o :o c we> or own x ) safety40 ,! "y man ) a good he>t1 :o is well taught 9 t :i* is be/ 9 good =m1 w nev] (f] to any lady outside 8 own imm$iate family circle any gift b fl[]s2 & ^? 9 ! mo/ delicate unobtrusive mann]1 su* z w leave h]1 9 receiv+ !m1 absolutely free to pass !m on to "s hospital pati5t if %e *ooses4 ,to make h] feel1 by ev5 a look1 t %e is "u any obligation to we> a fl[] because he s5ds x1 is to rob x ( its fragrance & beauty1 & make x fit only = ! du/ heap4 ,because ( ! possibilities :i* ,i h sugge/$1 & _m o!rs to :i* !y lead1 good =m requires t a "y lady %all make x practically impossible = any man n intimately relat$ to h] to sp5d any money1 or =ce any gifts1 ^u h]4 ,,ix4 ,i %\ld n d my :ole duty if ,i did n make "s ref]5ce to ! 8holy kiss10 nor yet contribute :at ,i c to enlight5 ! mo!rs :o honor me by read+ my book conc]n+ ! univ]sal b almo/ unspeakable que/ions t are always com+ into ! m9ds ( "y p ab\t ?is sacr$ =m ( salute4 ,y may "k z mu* ab\t ^! que/ions z ,i d1 p]haps m2 b !re is _m a "m :o nev] dream$ t !y c\ld infe/ any bra9 b h] own1 & %e nev] d>$ speak ( su* a ?+4 ,"o girl came to me1 h] face suffus$ ) blu%es1 b ) a det]m9$ expression ab\t h] m\?1 & said3-- 8,i am go+ to ask y some?+ "r out pla91 because ,i ?9k y w n laugh4 ,i've nev] d>$ ask anybody yet1 because ev]ybody always laughs 9 su* a mean way if y try to f9d out any?+ ab\t su* ?+s2 & ,i'd l to "k h[ girls are go+ to "k j :at to d4 ,n[ x's j ?is way3 ,i am go+ ) ,*>ley1 & he is a nice boy2 he wants to d :at is "r1 ,i "k he does1 b all ! boys h su* que] ideas ab\t _! #8rights4' ,:5 he takes me home f *ur* or any place--& ,i've j got s ,i dread to h him2 & sometimes ,i ?9k ,i won't g ) ano!r boy z long z ,i live1 because1 y see1 :5 ,i g to say #8,good night1' he--he ?9ks ,i am s que] because ,i won't let him kiss me4 ,b ,i won't2 ,i nev] let anybody b my own folks4 ,i don't l x4 ,i don't ?9k x's nice to d t way unless x's somebody y're sure (1 & love v mu*4 ,he says ,i'm que]2 & he gets provok$1 & says x's 8 "r1 if he goes ) me4 ,n[ ,i want to "k--is x80 8,no2 x is n10 ,i said1 positively1 & p]haps ) a little flavor ( indignation4 8,& no prop]ly in/ruct$ "y man w\ld make su* a claim4 ,he is n to blame1 ( c\rse10 ,i add$ m mildly1 8= he is "y1 too2 b y\r in/9cts are all "r2 !y are true2 !y are ( ,god :o made ! kiss1 & gave x its own place 9 common human language4 ,x belongs to ! home1 & to ! pure/ ,*ri/ian fell[%ip betwe5 man & man1 woman & woman2 to society1 nev]40 8,oh1 ,i am s glad ,i ask$ y60 %e said2 8= ,i 0 sure my feel+ ab\t x 0 "r4 ,b y "k "o doesn't l to (f5d "o's fri5d1 & "o doesn't l to be call$ que]4 ,b :at does make boys act s1--good boys1 too1 = ,*>ley is a good boy80 ,i c n br+ into ! compass ( ^! pages all t foll[$ 9 our talk1 b ,i w\ld l to give ! po9ts ( tru? to ! "y mo!rs = :om ,i write4 ,! answ] to my "y que/ion] is f\nd 9 ! fact t boys1 z well z girls1 h be5 left 9 ignorance ( ! pr9ciple1 z x is 9 ,god1 ( :i* ! kiss is "o =m ( expression1 & h be5 left to cat* up its p]v]sion z ,satan has und]tak5 to "w x into cu/om & habit1 9 ! _w4 ,any?+ :i* ,satan c n :olly spoil1 he w c\nt]feit2 or1 bett] yet = 8 purpose1 make s common1 if possible1 t x %all become wor?less1 z 0 ! case ) silv] 9 ! days ( ,solomon1 :5 x became z ! /ones ( ! /reet1 & 80 no?+ acc\nt$ (40 ,! kiss1 made common1 is ridicul\s4 ,to be wor? any?+1 x mu/ speak exclusively ! language ( a pure1 *angeless affection1 su* z is repres5t$ 9 ! love ( ,god = 8 *ildr54 ,x belongs m to ! p>5t & *ild1 bro!r & si/]1 ?an to fri5d & companion4 ,x is1 z be=e intimat$1 frat]nal1 n social4 ,z soon z any attempt is made to drag x into society1 x becomes disgu/+1 & is always soon driv5 out by /orms ( ridicule4 ,!re=e good =m has tak5 x 9 h&1 & has det]m9$ its sph]e & (fice ) ! mo/ arbitr>y insi/5ce4 ,& aga9 ! voice ( society is b an e*o ( ! voice ( tru? & purity4 ,good =m has decre$ t ! kiss1 public & indiscrim9ate1 is ei!r an indication ( unmitigat$ ru/icity1 ( %ameless immorality1 or is to be und]/ood z a joke1--v funny on its fir/ spontane\s utt]ance1 b v flat if repeat$4 ,indulg$ 9 private1 outside ! sacr$ b\nd>ies ( ! family1 betwe5 m5 & wom51 x is unp>donable1--unatonable1 at lea/ z f> z ! woman is conc]n$4 ,good =m requires t e "y lady %all be s well tra9$ t %e w keep h] lips absolutely unt\*$ = h] husb&1 aft] ! words h be5 spok5 t make him h] husb&4 ,! 8betro?al kiss0 ( ! romanc] has be5 br\ght "u suspicion 9 real life by ! fact t betro?al is1 9 our day1 n by any means equival5t to m>riage2 & ! "y man :o kn[s ! _w1 & yet suffici5tly reg>ds tru? & purity to seek !m 9 a wife1 w\ld va/ly pref] to f9d 8 lady fri5d rigidly det]m9$ to keep h] lips to h]self z long z !y two are yet twa91 r ?an to f9d !m always at ev5 8 comm&4 ,9 ! correspond5ce t has come to me z a result ( 8,/udies 9 ,home & ,*ild ,life10 is to be f\nd pitiful evid5ce ( ! ignorance 9 :i* "y p are all[$ to gr[ up1 ev5 9 a matt] :i* may seem1 l ?is "o1 trivial & bord]+ on ! ridicul\s4 ,! habit among *ildr5 ( kiss+ ev]ybody is little %ort ( vici\s4 ,kiss+ games ( e description are consid]$ vulg>1 any:]e outside ! imm$iate family circle1 & ev5 !n1 because ( ! tr5d ( habit1 !y are n good =m4 ,!re is great possibility ( infection 9 ! kiss4 ,! rema9s ( old tee?1 ! brea? & lips ( ^? :o are 9 any wise diseas$1 make kiss+ dang]\s4 ,x is well-nigh impossible to f9d a clean1 sweet m\? 9 ^! days ( human deg5]acy2 & because ( ^! facts ! little *ildr5 are expos$ to e malignant disord] t is afloat1 & _m t are hidd5 deep 9 ! f\l ci/]ns ( ! brok5-d[n body ( gr&p>5ts1 fa!r1 "m1 & ! /rang]s :o /raggle 9 & use _! 8rights0 on ! freely r5d]$ lips ( ! little innoc5ts4 ,! w>n+s ( sci5ce1 ( :i* s _m make light1 are timely1 & %\ld be religi\sly reg>d$ z ! au?ority ( ,god by e "o :o does n "k )9 himself t he has s fai?fully br\ght 8 :ole be+ into con=mity ) e law ( life & heal? t he is clean ?r\gh & ?r\gh1 s t ! s5sitive lips ( 8 babe c come to 8 ) ! same c]ta9ty ( a bless+ 9 ! c>ess t ! bee has :5 he goes to ! :ite clov] ( ! mead[4 ,he1 & he only1 :o has br\ght himself fully into h>mony ) bo? ! lett] & ! _s ( ,isaiah fifty-eight may freely give 8 lips to 8 *ild1 out ( :i* to dr9k 8 fill ( love4 ,& ! home t is br\ght into ?is beautiful accord ) ,*ri/ may be z ! g>d5 ( ! ,"l1 f :i* all lips %all1 ) e c>ess1 ga!r t ^w ( life t is sweet] ?an honey4 ,x4 ,! "t is at h& :5 ! tru? mu/ be tak5 into e lane & walk ( life--into k+'s palaces1 into halls ( le>n+1 into banquet rooms1 & into homes ( ref9em5t & culture1 z well z to ! haunts ( pov]ty & crime2 = ! :ole e>? mu/ be fill$ ) ! k ( ! ,"l4 ,no s\l mu/ be left to arise 9 ! second resurrection & say1 ,i did n "k ! way ( life1 or ,i w\ld n h be5 "h4 ,!re are be+ prep>$ 9 all ,*ri/ian homes ^? :o %all become ! mess5g]s ( ?is gospel ( ! k+dom to e rank1 grade1 & condition among m54 ,?is is a consid]ation = e ,*ri/ian "m & fa!r4 ,z among ! *ildr5 ( ,israel e maid5 held 9 h] he>t ! secret hope t %e might be ! "m ( ! promis$ se$ ( ,david1 s n[1 h[ev] humble & f> away f e c5t] ( influ5ce y\r home may be1 h[ev] meag] its furni%+1 h[ev] mu* y may seem to lack inc5tive to noble ef=t1 !re %\ld be inspiration 9 ! ?\ght t ! little *ild play+ ab\t y\r feet1 ^: life & habits y are mold+1 may be "o :o %all be call$ to be> ! vessel ( ! ,"l1 :i* is 8 ,^w1 fill$ ) ! holy oil ( 8 ,_s1 be=e "s c\ncil ( e>?'s great m51 & to answ] = ! pr9ciples by :i* ! _w is to receive its f9al te/4 ,by ?is ,i d n mean t he may be call$ to suff] m>tyrdom1--al?\gh t is possible--b ,i ref] to ! fact t he may h ! yet gr&] m9i/ry ( /&+ up to be quizz$ & cate*iz$ by ^? le>n$ 9 ! wisdom ( ! _w conc]n+ all t he has be5 taught ( ,*ri/ian pr9ciple1 heal?1 disease1 & life 9 ! ,holy ,gho/4 ,unque/ionably1 ?is "w is wait+ = "s select few ( our "y p 9 ! n f> di/ant future4 ,"s great c\ncil ( physicians w wi% to "k all ab\t :at ! m$ical mission>y physicians tea*1 & :y2 ! *emi/s ( ! _w w wi% to "k ! philosophy ( ! sy/em ( dietetics :i* w keep ! temple ( ,god 9 repair2 &1 z is almo/ always ! case among ! p ( ! _w1 !re w be eat+ & dr9k+ on a l>ge scale connect$ ) all ^! inve/igations2 & y\r boy or girl may h to accept ! place z gue/ ( honor at "s su* fea/1 & c>ry himself elegantly1 = ,*ri/'s sake & ! tru?'s2 = ! banquet1 ! d9n]1 ! lun*1 play an important "p 9 all social affairs to-day1 & w until ! end ( probation4 ,if a man ( means & social /&+ becomes int]e/$ en\gh 9 :at y "k ( ,*ri/ to he> y out on x1 he w make y a d9n]1 invite a few fri5ds1 & give y a *ance to talk & tell all y "k4 ,& if y "k h[ to take advantage ( ! opportunity--h[ to avoid giv+ (f5se by y\r mann] ( spee* & habits ( conduct2 if y "k h[ to *>m & w9 by y\r p]sonality1 y h plac$ at ! comm& ( tru? an in/rum5t t c be made effective :]e1 o!rwise1 no entrance c\ld be ga9$4 ,n[h]e is ! obs]vance ( good =m m necess>y to "o :o has "w to d 9 ! social _w ?an at ! table2 = "h bad habits may be giv5 su* disgu/+ publicity z to r5d] !m a cause ( reproa* to any good cause2 & ! obligation is ^u e ,*ri/ian home to see t its *ildr5 are s in/ruct$ t !y %all be ready to quickly fill any place to :i* ! "w may call1 & to /& ) dignity = ! tru? 9 any place t c be op5$ to its consid]ation4 ,a home ( weal? & elaborate appliances is n necess>y = su* tra9+4 ,a *ild :o is in/ruct$ 9 ! prop] use ( ! few simple ?+s t con/itute ! furni%+ ( ! mo/ humble home1 & 9 ^? rules ( good =m t ought to be ! natural ord] 9 any place1 w n be left to c>ry ) him into "s important convocation c>eless table habits1 :i*1 "u ! pressure ( a s5se ( responsibility1 w\ld c]ta9ly come to ! front1 9 place ( ! few bett] ways t he might h pick$ up & /or$ away = occasional & special use4 ,9 8act+ out j :at is 9 him10 he w n br+ himself & t :i* he repres5ts into ridicule2 ! opportunity ( giv+ ! tru? a *ance to %9e w n be lo/1 :ile hone/ s\ls are left 9 ! d>k2 ! brea? ( p]sonal contempt w n obscure ! "* ( ,*ri/1 :i* he is suppos$ to repres5t4 ,he w be accept$1 fir/1 because x is agreeable to look at him2 he w be he>d because no good reason appe>s :y he %\ld n be2 & aft] t1 ev]y?+ w dep5d on :at he really is & has d[n "u ! surface1 9 ! place :]e he lives alone ) ,god4 8,b10 y say1 8! ,"l1 :o calls a man to /& 9 any place1 w prev5t any disa/] to ! cause1 provid$ 8 s]vant is hone/40 ,yes1 ,god w be able to use ev5 8 s]vants' infirmities aft] he has 8help$0 !m 7,rom4 #h3bf72 i4 e41 add$ to !m 8 /r5g? & wisdom4 ,& ?is :i* we are consid]+ is all 9 ! nature ( helps to infirmity & ignorance4 ,x is 9 ! direct l9e ( legitimate education = ! v be/ ,*ri/ian s]vice4 ,! hone/-he>t$ labor] = ,god1 :o1 ) 8 he>t full ( love1 />ts out 9 8 ignorance & awkw>dness to 8d some?+0 = ,god & s\ls1 w f9d 8some?+0 to d2 b we are n[ consid]+ a "w :i* e man c\ld n d1 & yet :i* "s "o mu/ d4 ,,xi4 ,i mu/ believe t ! p>5ts :o fail1 f c>elessness or f 8lack ( ambition0--! holy sort1 :i* is equival5t to consecration & dilig5ce--to give ! *ild ! be/ possible prep>ation = a good "w1 w be held responsible = ! failure t w\ld h result$ if ,god _h n /epp$ 9 ) "s special helps & prev5t$ x4 ,love = ,god w cov] a multitude ( social s9s2 b ^? :o are responsible = ! s9s w sometime h _! reproa* to be>4 ,god does n l to h to cov] s9s2 he only does x s z to keep ?+s look+ z tidy z possible1 until !y c be put entirely out ( ! way4 ,covet ! be/ gifts = y\r *ild1 give him ! be/ possible social habits1 & !n turn him ov] to ,god = "w1 & ,god w f9d r>e s]vice = him4 ,!re are _m tea*+s z to :at con/itutes good =m at table4 ,x w\ld be impossible = ! ord9>y mortal s to acqua9t himself ) !m z to become a 8social success20 & ?is is f> f our purpose4 ,all we ne$ c>e ab\t is to see t ! habits =m$ are free f any?+ (f5sive4 ,society is k9d to "o :o is n ambiti\s = social di/9ction1--"o :o has some?+ to say t is wor? he>+1 :o repres5ts a pr9ciple1 or "s new ?+ ! discussion ( :i* may possibly furni% an agreeable div]sion1--v mu* aft] ! mann] ( ! ,a!nians 9 ,paul's "t2 s t ev5 if "o does n 8"k all ! ropes10 l "o 8to ! ,manor born10 he w be receiv$ & he>d1 provid$ he does n blund] into ! few ?+s :i* good =m has decre$ t he mu/ n d "u any circum/ances4 ,among ^! prohibit$ ?+s are ?ru/+ out ! elb[s f ! side s z to pu% 8 neighbor at table2 re/+ ! elb[s on ! table2 & ext5d+ ! legs "u x s z to br+ ! feet 9 ! way ( ^? belong+ to ! gue/ opposite4 ,if any gue/ does ^! ?+s1 he may be sure t !re w be at lea/ ?ree p ov] :om ! be/ & true/ ?+s t he c say w h v little influ5ce4 ,! eyes ( ^? :o *ance to glance 8 way w be s]i\sly (f5d$ & quickly av]t$ if he %\ld take up ev5 a half-slice ( bread & bite into x4 ,good =m says t bread mu/ be brok5 (f 9 small bits1 j :5 ne$$1 n spread1 b ) a small lump ( butt] plac$ ^u x 7provid$ "o uses butt]71 convey$ to ! m\? ) ! ?umb & f+] ( ! left h&4 ,y w be p]mitt$ to bite ! piece 9 two once if y wi%1 b no m2 t is1 x mu/ n be m ?an two 8m\?fuls0 to beg9 )4 ,"u no circum/ances mu/ any?+1 su* z fruit-pits1 etc41 be eject$ f ! m\? into a spoon1 =k1 or plate1 b tak5 f ! lips ) ! left ?umb & f+]1 & plac$ on ! plate4 ,nei!r bread nor any refuse is ev] to be plac$ on ! clo?1 b on ! side-di%es provid$2 or1 lack+ ^!1 on ! "o plate t is be+ us$4 ,food %\ld n be convey$ to ! m\? ) a knife1 b ) a =k1 always except+ s\p1 & su* sauce z mu/ be h&l$ ) a spoon4 ,d tea* y\r *ildr5 n to ?ru/ ! po9t ( ! spoon into ! m\?1 b to take its cont5ts ) ! lips f t "p ne>e/ ! h&le1 )\t ! lea/ possible s\nd4 ,tea* !m n to lift ! spoon s full t x w drip2 & z y\r boy gr[s up into mu/a*es he w ne$ to le>n h[ to take s\p & sauce )\t defil+ ^? manly ornam5ts1 or else to let s\p alone at ! banquet4 ,b y c tea* him f *ildhood to h&le 8 napk9 s deftly z to keep 8 lips clean1 ev5 aft] !y h put on _! ?at*4 ,z to ! napk91 by all means habituate ! *ild to its use1 ev5 if x be no?+ m ?an a squ>e ( old calico or fl\r-sack+1 hemm$1 or ev5 unhemm$4 ,he c le>n on a piece ( 8 "m's old apron h[ to use ! f9e l95 ( ! k+'s banquet-hall1 & d x s da9tily t ! apron & ! "m :o wore x d[n to napk9 dim5sions w conf] honor on ! k+'s damask4 ,o my si/] mo!rs 9 ! _m humbl] homes ( ^? :o love our ,"l & are look+ = 8 appe>+1 has x seem$ to y t any ( ^! ?+s t ,i h writt5 are trivial or burd5some1 :olly outside ! sph]e ( life 9 :i* y & y\r *ildr5 w ev] move8 ,are y s ov]burd5$ ) _m c>es t y feel1 :5 ! food is cook$ & plac$ 8anyh[10 t y\r "p is done2 t ! family may come 8j z x happ5s0 & eat1 simply to satisfy hung]1 z d ! cattle 9 ! field8 ,h y ?\ght t if y c\ld b get ?r\gh ! day anyh[1 y\r duty 0 done8 ,/ill y mu/ meet ! c]ta9ties t are be=e y4 ,y\r *ildr5 mu/ be> a "p 9 ! clos+ sc5es ( ! _w's hi/ory1--ask y\rself if !re is n some?+ = y 9 ^! ?+s t ,i h writt54 ,!y h be5 writt5 ) a mo/ solemn s5se ( _! importance4 ,!y are a "p ( ! gospel message2 !y conc]n ! "w :i* "s "o n[ 9 tra9+ mu/ d be=e ! ,"l c come4 ,! k ( h[ to prep>e & s]ve a hygi5ic d9n]1 z well z h[ to select suitable portions & decl9e o!rs1 at a worldly banquet1 may be absolutely necess>y to ! w9n+ ( s\ls 9 ! la/ call to ! _w4 ,,xii4 ,no?+ is ( m importance to success 9 any "w ?an conv]sation4 ,h[ to conv]se s z to w9 & n w\nd1 to bo? give & ga91 is an accompli%m5t :i* has v ne>ly pass$ into ! li/ ( lo/ arts4 ,& "h aga9 good =m comes to ! rescue1 & by its placid b arbitr>y code (fsets t lawlessness into :i* ev5 good m5 h fall5 9 excess ( zeal4 ,sixty ye>s ago ! rule = *ildr5 0 t !y 8%\ld be se5 & n he>d10 s t a *ild's talk 0 almo/ unkn[n 9 a company ( adults4 ,?is 0 s wrong t x has react$ 9 a sort ( wild fre$om ^u ! "p ( ! *ildr5 :i*1 uncorrect$1 develops into ! adult *att]-box & gossip1 ?an :i* no "* is m to be dread$4 ,bad habits ( conv]sation are v h>d to break1 & s9ce x is by ! 8calves 7or sacrifice7 ( ! lips0 t we are especially to honor ,god1 by 8words fitly spok510 & t we are to 8give a reason = ! fai? t is 9 u10 x is n ( small importance t we %\ld "k h[ to talk4 ,beg9 ) ! baby1 !re=e1 s t ! *ild %all gr[ up into correct =ms ( spee*1 & into t reg>d ( all good =m :i* %all n only give him at once ! e>s1 b ! he>ts ( ! p4 ,i sc>cely ne$ to say1 ,d n use slang1 = ?is is univ]sally und]/ood z out ( h>mony ) ,*ri/ian practise2 b yet x may n be amiss to say t ev5 ! _w ( society1 ^: laws ( behavior we are consid]+1 w\ld o/racize "o ^: language 0 punctuat$ ) mu* slang4 ,an oa? w\ld be m tol]able to s-call$ 8polite e>s40 ,money1 or prom95ce1 w = a "t give a man social passport 9 spite ( all mann] ( ill-bre$+4 ,he c buy a place & recognition ev5 f ^? :o despise him2 b ?is is n ! sort ( recognition 9 ! int]e/s ( :i* ,i am writ+4 ,i am plead+ = t :i* %all ga9 a he>+ = ! cu/odians ( a tru? )\t :i* no man c live1 & = ! reception ( :i* few are z yet prep>$4 ,x is = ! sake ( ! hone/ s\ls :o are 9 ! d>kness ( ! _w's 8culture0 t ,i am plead+4 ,!y h a "r to "k all t ! ,_s ( ,god has be5 s5d+ to 8 p conc]n+ t all-r\nd righte\sness t makes up ! sum ( t :ole gospel = ! :ole man1 :i* is includ$ 9 an utt]mo/ salvation2 & "s tongues mu/ be s cultur$ z to talk ! way op5 = tru? j z effectually z a wag c d x = fun1 a s+] op5 x = a song1 or money op5 x = bl9d boori%ness2 & ! quiet "m 9 ! home mu/ h a l>ge %>e ( ?is "w4 ,to ?is end tea* ! *ild t he mu/ li/5 :5 any o!r *ild is speak+ until he has f9i%$2 nev] to int]rupt1 or1 if x is necess>y to give "s in=mation1 to say1 = in/ance3 8,i beg y\r p>don1 b1--0 or1 8,willie1 if y please1 0 x n on ,w$nesday in/ead ( ,tuesday80 ,any int]ruption simply = gett+ 9 a ^w %\ld nev] be indulg$4 ,tea* him to wait pati5tly = a fair *ance to speak1 no matt] h[ great may be ! temptation to 8?ru/ 9 8 o>40 ,?is %\ld n be con/ru$ to include ^? playful int]ruptions 9 ! m]ry tangle ( words :i* all *ildr5 delight 9 8once 9 a :ile10 8j = fun40 ,tea* him to avoid all abrupt =ms ( expression1 su* z 8,give me t60 8,don't60 8,/op60 8,quit60 8,get out60 8,y %a'n't60 8,i won't60 ,if he nev] he>s su* phrases at home1 he w n be apt to cat* !m2 b if he %\ld1 a few little exp]i5ces su* z he w\ld c]ta9ly meet z a man ^u ent]+ ! social _w1 ) ! adult equival5ts ( ^! words1 w\ld tea* him t !y 7 v unpr(itable4 ,let him f9d out t he c get no?+ 9 t way1 & he w beg9 intuitively to cultivate 8 tongue to acceptable spee*4 ,x is n good =m to talk at table ab\t ! physical organs1 or ! processes ( dige/ion1 except+ :5 "s special occasion %\ld require1 & !n x %\ld be by ! mo/ delicate allusions4 ,! m5tion ( any =m ( disease1 or ( dea?1 w\ld be consid]$ exce$+ bad =m2 also any malodor\s topic ( any sort4 ,table conv]sation %\ld be su* z to inspire e good feel+2 appetiz+1 promotive ( good fell[%ip1 comrade%ip1 fai?1 hope2 optimi/ic 9 e s5se ( ! ^w4 ,! *ildr5 %\ld be taught t no compla9ts or grievances are to be m5tion$ !re1 because su* ?+s always h a t5d5cy to de/roy reli% = food1 & ret>d ! process ( dige/ion4 ,a *ronic grumbl] at ! table w ?reat5 a :ole family ) dyspepsia4 8,let y\r conv]sation be season$ ) salt10 is a good injunction2 & if ! ,scriptural rule is foll[$ at home1 ! *ild w gr[ up capable ( tak+ ! gospel message any:]e )\t p]sonal (f5se1 ev5 if he mu/ g into _m untri$ places4 ,nei!r w x be necess>y = him to 8prem$itate2 b :atsoev] %all be giv5 444 9 t h\r0 7,m>k #ac3aa7 he %all be able to speak4 ,i h conf9$ myself to ! ,=m1--a =m :i*1 ?\gh good1 is dead1--! lett] ( ! social code1 :i* is at be/ a lifeless ?+1 a burd51 a b>ri]1 (t5 a cause ( he>t-burn+ jeal\sy1 wra?1 ang]1 adult]ies1 & e sort ( cont5tion4 ,!re is no?+ s cruel z a qu>rel c>ri$ on "u ! cloak ( good =m4 ,! bitt] s>casm ( a w> wag$ ) polite words & phrases1 ! tones key$ to simulate t5d]ness & love1 z society requires1 b brea?+ ( hate1 makes a comb9ation 9 :i* ,satan is especially manife/$ z 9 no?+ else 9 ! _w4 ,truly ! lett] kille?4 ,! social code is all "r1 b1 lack+ ! ,_s1 x is a rott+ c>cass4 ,h[ev]1 s9ce x 0 model$ aft] ,*ri/1 x requires b t ! ,holy ,_s %all brea! life into x to make x an in/rum5t = ! accompli%m5t ( necess>y "w 9 c>ry+ ! gospel to e creature4 ,x is manife/ly bett] to be fill$ ) ! ,_s ?an cov]$ ) all ! =ms 9 ! _w2 b good =m1 vitaliz$1 w make any mess5g] s ready = any good "w 9 any field t he ne$ take no ?\ght h[ or :at he %all speak1 = x %all be giv5 him ! same h\r4 8,= x is n ye t speak1 b ! ,_s ( y\r ,fa!r :i* speake? 9 y40 ,matt4 #aj3bj4 ,,xiii4 ,ev5 good =m may be made too burd5some to be endur$1 & x is ! privilege ( consci5ti\s ,*ri/ian society to /rike ! happy m$ium betwe5 ?is oppressive =malism & ! true k9dly life :i* c cause ev5 ! violation ( all =m to be almo/ unnotic$4 ,x is bett] to h ! good life )\t ! good =m ?an to h ! good =m )\t ! good life2 b x is our privilege1 & duty z well1 to h bo?4 ,9 treat+ ^u ?is subject x mu/ n be =gott5 t !re are =ms & =ms4 ,ea* city aims to be a c5t] ( social good =m = itself & its suburbs4 ,ea* has its own little peculi>ities1 z1 = in/ance1 its own mann] ( us+ visit+ c>ds1--! size1 %ape1 turn+ ( ! corn]s ?is way & t z signals2 all ( :i* diff] accord+ to ! decree ( ! social lead]s ( a great c5t] ( social influ5ce2 & yet ! mann]s ( "o city w\ld nev] be consid]$ blund]s 9 any o!r1 h[ev] mu* !y might diff]1 provid$ !y 7 s9c]e1 easy1 adju/able1 & da9ty4 ,x is n1 h[ev]1 consid]$ elegant to ignore ! cu/oms ( ! p among :om y may visit4 ,t :i* y\r ho/ess consid]s good =m %\ld be good to y :ile y are h] gue/1 unless "s pr9ciple is violat$4 ,good =m requires concessions to ev5 ignorance )\t any ( ! 8,i-am-m-cultur$-?an-y0 air4 ,because ( ?is div]sity ( =ms x w be manife/ly impossible = any "o to "k j :at w\ld be consid]$ good =m 9 e detail ! _w ov]4 ,z 9 ev]y?+ else :i* involves pr9ciples & _! application1 x is true 9 ?is1 t if y "k & appreciate ! opportunities1 & keep y\r eyes op51 y w be able to avoid s]i\s mi/akes4 ,9 reply to _m que/ions ( a miscellane\s "* ,i b9d a little %eaf ( glean+s ) :i* to conclude ?is subject ( good =m4 8,:5 a g5tleman fri5d ( ! family calls1 is x prop] = ! wife to g on ) h] "w1 & n g to ! p>lor at all to welcome him1 b to leave him to be entirely ent]ta9$ by ! husb&8 ,or is x necess>y t %e g to ! p>lor1 & rema9 dur+ 8 visit8 ,w\ld x be prop] = h] to leave ! room dur+ 8 visit )\t ask+ to be excus$80 ,fir/ ( all ,i wi% to drop ! rem>k t ! ^w 8g5tleman0 is n good =m1 z commonly us$4 ,x has be5 s p]v]t$ & misus$ t x does n 9 ^! days ev5 mean t = :i* x 0 fir/ int5d$1--a man ( especially good mann]s4 ,!re are 8g5tlem5 ( ! clo?10 8g5tlem5 ( ! turf10 8! g5tleman ( ! road10 8! g5tleman ab\t t[n20--all slang phrases1 :i* h br\ght ! ^w into disrepute4 ,! comp\nd ^w 8g5tleman0 0 an ef=t ^u ! "p ( human society to make di/9ctions :i* ! ,creator _h refus$ to recognize4 ,he call$ man 8,,man40 ,"o c n be m ?an a man4 ,fur!rmore1 ! appropriation ( ! ^w 8g5tleman0 by ! 8ari/ocracy10 ! fact t 9 ! social _w !re is a 8g5tleman class10 has made ! expression inappropriate = univ]sal application4 ,in/ead ( speak+ ( y\r g5tleman fri5d1 speak ( y\r man fri5d4 ,!re=e ,i w say 9 reply to my que/ion] t :5 a man fri5d calls ^u ! husb& & family x is prop] = ! wife to occupy h]self ) "s "w kept at h& = su* occasions2 or1 if necess>y1 aft] %e has greet$ him1 & pass$ a few m9utes pleasantly 9 conv]sation1 %e may excuse h]self1 & g to h] h\sehold duties2 b if %e c d s1 x is v cordial1 & 9 e respect good =m1 = h] to take h] "w1 & ) "s graceful ^w ( apology1 su* z any man w\ld appreciate1 g on keep+ h] h&s busy1 :ile %e assi/s 9 ent]ta9+ h] husb&'s fri5d4 ,9 leav+ ! room %e %\ld ask to be excus$1 unless ! m5 are s occupi$ z to make x an int]ruption to d s4 ,if %e does n expect to return1 h[ev]1 %e %\ld make h] adieus1 & invite him to call aga91 be=e leav+ ! p>lor4 8,is x admissible = a lady to keep on ) h] sew+ or m5d+ :ile %e is ent]ta9+ a call]8 ,c %e take "s k9d ( fancy "w ) h] :ile %e is visit+ a fri5d or neighbor80 ,x is p]fectly admissible = a woman to keep on ) h] sew+ & m5d+ :ile %e is ent]ta9+ a call]1 provid$ %e speaks ( x 9 "s simple1 graceful fa%ion4 ,?is is a mu* bett] means ( manife/+ y\r appreciation ( a call] ?an to lay aside necess>y "w & take "s fancy article4 ,y c ev5 take y\r m5d+ ) y :ile visit+ a fri5d & neighbor1 & x w be appreciat$ m ?an fancy "w4 ,9 _m localities fancy "w1 especially = m>ri$ wom51 has fall5 into disfavor among ev5 society p4 ,!re is a social cult :i* makes mu* ( ev]y?+ practical4 ,x is a fad2--"h to-day1 gone to-morr[2 b x has prep>$ ! way = ev5 a /ock+-bag 9 ! b\doir ( "s social que53 ! /ock+s1 ( c\rse1 are suppos$ to be ( ! v f9e/ texture & quality1 & ! d>n+ 9 itself to be a piece ( f9e/ lace "w2 & yet "u ! cov] ( ?is supposition "o c take a real s]viceable hose & d good1 practical "w ^u x4 8,%\ld ! ho/ess (f] to take ! hat ( a g5tleman call]8 & :]e %\ld %e place x80 ,if he does n at once make 8 hat at home1 %e %\ld indicate :]e he c leave x4 ,x is bett] =m = h] to sugge/ t he c hang x ^u ! hat rack or peg 9 ! hall1 or lay x on ! table1 if he does n seem to "k t he c d s1 ?an x w\ld be to take x f him4 ,if he has be5 prop]ly in/ruct$1 z e boy %\ld be at home1 he w1 )\t any ef=t ^u h] "p1 relieve h] ( ! necessity ( look+ aft] 8 hat4 ,b if he appe>s emb>rass$ by x1 take x at once ) "s pleasant rem>k calculat$ to set him at ease1 & place x :]e x ought to be4 ,! prop] place is 9 ! hall1 if !re be a hall4 ,lack+ ?is1 any conv5i5t place is 9 ord]4 8,if a man fri5d happ5s to call :5 ! husb& is abs5t & ! wife alone1 %\ld %e invite him into ! p>lor & visit ) him80 ,su* a fri5d %\ld s "t 8 visits z to make reasonably sure t ! man ( ! h\se w\ld be at home1 b if he fails to d s1 x is ! bett] way to in=m him :5 ! husb& w return1 & invite him to call aga91 provid$ ?is w\ld be agreeable to bo? husb& & wife4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 bad =m to say1 8,come aga910 :5 y mean1 8,/ay away20 v bad =m = ! wife to invite any "o to call :o w\ld necess>ily be disagreeable to ! man ( ! h\se4 ,9 ^! days ( moral contam9ation & preval5t gossip1 good =m is a cons]vator ( good morals4 ,ev5 z reg>ds ! wife's relation to h] pa/or1 if ! husb& is n a ,*ri/ian1 &1 z (t5 happ5s1 dislikes m9i/]s z a class1 & makes a call any?+ b pleasant1 common polit5ess requires t all pa/oral visits %all include ! husb&4 8,:]e sev]al are invit$ to a d9n]1 is x necess>y = ! m5 to escort ! ladies to ! table8 or is x bett] = ea* to walk out indep5d5tly80 ,9 relation to d9n] mann]s1 ! ho/ess is expect$ to decide all =ms = h] company4 ,if %e wi%es to make x v =mal1 %e arranges j :at man %all take out a c]ta9 woman4 ,! c\ples w be s seat$ t a man & a woman w occupy alt]nate places4 ,e woman is expect$ to ent]ta9 fir/ h] own escort1 & !n to assi/ 9 ent]ta9+ ! "o :o sits next h] on ! o!r side1 & also occasionally to ex*ange a ^w ) ! "o :o sits opposite4 ,x is n1 h[ev]1 expect$ t "o w talk all ov] ! table1 nor t any "o voice w comm& g5]al att5tion until ! table is cle>$1 & ! aft]-d9n] program is call$4 8,if two g5tlem5 ) _! wives %\ld be rid+ 9 "o c>riage1 w\ld x be prop] = ! husb& & wife to be sep>at$1 & ea* g5tleman sit ) ! o!r man's wife80 ,if m>ri$ c\ples are rid+ toge!r ! mo/ graceful ?+ is = ! ho/ & ho/ess to take a gue/ to ent]ta92 ei!r = ! two m5 & ! two wom5 to sit toge!r1 or = ! c\ples to ex*ange companions4 ,x w\ld be an exce$+ly ungraci\s act = ! ho/ & ho/ess to sit toge!r dur+ ! ride1 ?us leav+ _! gue/s to ea* o!r alone4 ,9 any c\ntry good =m requires t husb&s & wives %\ld appreciate ea* o!r en\gh to consid] t !y are conf]r+ a favor by giv+ o!rs an opportunity to enjoy _! society2 & t !y %\ld at lea/ seem to tru/ ea* o!r to be fri5dly to o!r m5 & wom51 ev5 if !y qu>rel ab\t x :5 !y are alone4 ,! appe>ance ( suspicion is ! mo/ f\l ( all bad =ms2 x is1 9 fact1 ! v /5* f ! body ( moral dea?4 8,is x prop] = a woman to call 9 company ) h] husb& ^u a man :o lives alone8 8,is x prop] = a lady to visit a sick man :o is n a relative80 ,x is suitable = a woman to accompany h] husb& any:]e4 ,if ! husb& int5ds call+ on a man :o lives alone1 x is a v neighborly act = 8 wife to accompany him4 ,a fem99e pres5ce might bright5 ! home ( a social h]mit1 & w\ld surely be z a b5$iction to him if he 7 an invalid1 or 9 tr\ble4 ,9 visit+ a sick man x w\ld be bett] = two ladies to g toge!r1 provid$ no int]e/$ man fri5d or nurse c\ld accompany !m4 ,yet !re might be cases :]e x w\ld be necess>y1 & ! only ,*ri/ian ?+1 = a woman to call alone1 if %e mu/1 & r5d] any necess>y c>e4 ,?is %\ld1 h[ev]1 be only 9 case ( necessity4 ,! g5]al rule %\ld be obs]v$ z f> z possible1 t m5 %\ld c>e = m51 & wom5 = wom54 8,:5 leav+ a reception1 d9n]1 or any private ent]ta9m5t1 %\ld "o bid ! ho/ess good night fir/ be=e address+ ! o!rs8 ,or1 if !re are sev]al ladies belong+ to ! h\se1 w\ld x be be/ to address ! elde/ lady fir/8 ,i suppose x w\ld be ! same :5 ent]+ ! h\se4 ,i w\ld l to "k :at ! rules are 9 reg>d to ?is1 if !re are any40 ,! ho/ess takes prec$5ce ( all o!r memb]s ( ! h\sehold = ! "t be+4 ,if a p]son is requir$ by circum/ances to take an e>ly leave1 & ! ho/ess1 z is sometimes ! case1 be occupi$1 x is admissible to address o!rs fir/4 ,faultless mann]s require t if possible y\r p]sonal arrangem5ts %\ld be su* t y c accommodate y\rself to :atev] exig5cies may arise1 s t )\t any /ress or pressure ( any sort1 y c h "t to wait = an opportunity to speak fir/ to ! ho/ess1 & ann\nce t y are tak+ y\r leave4 ,!n ! way is op5 = any in=mal leave-tak+ & prep>ations :i* y may h to make1 res]v+ ! la/ ^w = ! ho/1 at ! door1 unless inde$1 z sometimes happ5s1 he /&s beside 8 wife at ! leave-tak+ z well z ! reception4 8,%\ld ! ho/ (f] to ent]ta9 ! company himself ) music1 or %\ld ! visitors invite him to ent]ta9 !m80 ,?is dep5ds ^u ! k9d ( ent]ta9m5t1 ! "* ( 8 visitors1 & ! pr(ici5cy ( ! ho/ z a musician4 ,if he is really a musician1 & has some?+ :i* he kn[s w\ld give pleasure to ! company1 x w\ld be expect$ t he w\ld favor !m4 ,a few words ( introduction1 n ( himself1 b ( ! music1 w\ld be appropriate2 b x %\ld be done 9 ! mo/ in=mal & unobtrusive mann] possible4 8,%\ld "o recognize & b[ to an acqua9tance :5 ^u ! opposite side ( ! /reet8 ,if "o meets a p]son ) :om %e is b slightly acqua9t$ & b[s1 !n meets him aga9 aft] an h\r or s1 is x necess>y to recognize him & b[ aga98 ,h[ %\ld a lady d at ! second meet+80 ,9 *anc+ to look up & recognize a famili> fri5d ^u ! opposite side ( ! /reet1 a slight incl9ation ( ! head on ! "p ( a woman is correct2 on ! "p ( a man or boy1 t\*+ or lift+ ! hat2 b a vocal greet+ at t di/ance w\ld be bad =m4 ,x is n necess>y to b[ e "t y meet 9 pass+ & repass+ (t5 dur+ ! day1 al?\gh "s sign ( recognition is always good2 b :5 ^u ! fir/ meet+ dur+ ! day prop] greet+s h be5 duly ex*ang$1 a slight incl9ation ( ! head1 a t\* ( ! hat1 a cordial glance is suffici5t4 ,m c\ld be made v tiresome if y 7 to meet (t5 :ile ab\t ! day's bus9ess4 8,is x good =m to use a too?pick at ! table80 ,x is bad =m to use a too?pick 9 any b ! mo/ private mann]4 ,its public appe>ance is always repulsive4 ,x %\ld nev] be us$ z an article ( table decoration4 ,x is "o ( ^? necess>y articles t c nev] be sugge/ive ( any?+ appetiz+ or graceful2 9 fact1 its sugge/ions are :olly ( ?+s conc]n+ :i* "o %\ld be z retic5t & retir$ z possible4 8,:i* is ! bett] =m1--to use ! =k 9 ! "r h&1 leav+ ! knife ly+ ^u ! plate1 or to take ! =k 9 ! left h&1 & use ! knife to pu% ! food ^u x8 ,9 %ort1 9 :i* h& %\ld ! =k prop]ly be held1 & :at is ! (fice ( ! knife at ! table80 ,! =k %\ld always be us$ 9 ! "r h&1 = cutt+1 tak+ up1 & convey+ food to ! m\?1 unless "o is left-h&$4 ,9 t case x %\ld be us$ 9 ! left h&4 ,! knife %\ld only be us$ = cutt+ :at c n be cut ) ! =k1 & :5 n 9 use1 %\ld lie on ! plate4 ,x has a v limit$ s]vice at ! table4 ,x w\ld be v awkw>d to use ! knife to pu% food on to ! =k1 because x is entirely unnecess>y4 8,%\ld bro!rs & si/]s call ^u ea* o!r 9 _! sleep+-rooms 9 connection ) bo>d+-s*ools80 ,^? :o are old en\gh to g away to bo>d+-s*ool %\ld come "u ! same regulations 9 su* matt]s z any o!r m5 & wom5 mu/ obs]ve4 ,! b$room is n design$ z a reception-room4 ,x has prop]ly only "o use4 ,if x mu/ = any reason be us$ z a /udy-room1 yet ! fact t x is a b$room makes x unfit = a visit+ place4 ,x is fur!rmore ! usual rule = two p]sons to occupy ! same room 9 ! s*ool home1 & manife/ly immode/ = si/] or bro!r to intrude ^u ! privacy ( ^! roommates4 ,besides ^! consid]ations ! association ( bro!rs & si/]s %\ld be ^u ! same plane ( mode/ deportm5t z betwe5 any o!r man & woman4 ,?is %\ld be taught ! *ildr5 9 ! home1 & practis$ ev]y:]e1 = ! purpose ( education & tra9+ prep>atory to meet+ ! conditions :i* exi/ 9 ! _w at l>ge4 8,"u :at circum/ances is x prop] = "y m5 & wom5 to correspond ) ea* o!r8 ,:]e n all[able1 give reasons40 ,:5 a ?or\gh acqua9tance betwe5 a "y man & woman has develop$ into t association :i* po9ts to m>riage1 & :5 !y mu/ necess>ily be sep>at$1 correspond5ce is "r4 ,su* correspond5ce %\ld n1 h[ev]1 be consid]$ too sacr$ to %>e ) fa!r & "m4 ,any?+ t c n be %>$ ) a good p>5t is dang]\s4 ,if !re is good reason = confid5ce betwe5 ! "y p :o are drawn t[>d ea* o!r1 & yet :o h _h no good opportunity to become ?or\ghly acqua9t$1 a correspond5ce = ! purpose ( acqua9tance is admissible1 al?\gh n :olly safe4 ,to correspond ) m ?an "o at a "t has e appe>ance ( evil1 & is too (t5 j z evil z x c appe> to be4 ,correspond5ce1 except+ z x leads up to m>riage1 %\ld be = bus9ess only1 z brief & =mal z possible1 & %\ld /op %ort :5 its purpose has be5 s]v$4 ,a religi\s correspond5ce betwe5 "y m5 & wom5 is "o ( ,satan's mo/ fruitful & pr(ane devices4 8,%\ld "y ladies at s*ool be p]mitt$ to receive calls f "y m58 ,if s1 "u :at circum/ances80 ,!re %\ld be connect$ ) ! "y wom5's home ( e s*ool a p>lor1 op5 & public to all at all times4 ,9 su* an ap>tm5t "y ladies 9 s*ool %\ld be able to receive calls1 "u prop] *ap]onage & advice f ^? :o h !m 9 *>ge4 ,promiscu\s call+ w\ld be bad =m1 & dang]\s to reputation4 8,is x be/ = "y m5 & "y wom5 to d mission>y "w = ea* o!r80 ,! only way 9 :i* !y c d mission>y "w = ea* o!r is 9 ea* "o mak+ ( him & h]self ! v be/ repres5tative ( ev]y?+ t is be/ & true/ 9 good mann]s1 accord+ to ! div9e model1 & !n leave ! detail "w = "y m5 to m51 & = "y wom5 to wom54 ,any man :o mu/ be l$ to ,*ri/ by "s woman1 in/ead ( "s good1 bro!rly man1 c nev] be sav$4 ,any woman :o c n be help$ by "s si/] woman1 or "m 9 ,israel1 c nev] be help$4 8,is x prop] = a company ( "y p to g out on a camp+ exp$ition = sev]al days1 ev5 ) a *ap]on80 ,?is w\ld dep5d on ! "* ( ! company4 ,"o *ap]on w\ld n be suffici5t = a company ( "y m5 & "y wom54 ,!re %\ld be *ap]ons1--a man = ! "y m51 & a woman = ! "y wom52 & if ! company is l>ge1 !re %\ld be a suffici5t numb] ( eld]ly companions to give !m all necess>y protection & support 9 ! enjoym5t ( ! occasion4 ,!re c\ld be no reason :y a select p>ty ( "y p1 prop]ly accompani$1 %\ld n enjoy an out+ ( ?is description4 ,b 9 su* a case x w\ld be n only bad =m1 b crim9al1 = any "y man or woman to take advantage ( ! occasion to break ov] any ( ! protective regulations ^u :i* all %\ld agree be=e />t+ out4 ,common polit5ess & good s5se w\ld lead ea* to co-op]ate ) all to secure ! mo/ p]fect good ord] 9 ! camp f beg9n+ to end1 by daylight & d>k4 8,is x prop] = "y p to take moonlight rides toge!r80 ,a moonlight ride = a company ( "y p1 accompani$ by fa!rs & mo!rs1 or tea*]s1 or suitable fri5ds ( mature age1 w\ld c]ta9ly be prop] & enjoyable4 ,"u no o!r circum/ances4 8,:at w\ld y say to a "y man :o w\ld /& ar\nd & talk ) a "y woman :ile %e is at "w80 ,t he 0 indulg+ 9 a v ru/ic & *ildi% proc$ure1 impolite 9 ! highe/ degree1 necess>ily h9d]+ & prolong+ ! "w ( ! "y woman1 & p]haps complicat+ all ! affairs ( ! day4 ,:at w\ld ,i say to him8--,t he _h bett] g & f9i% 8 "w :ile ,i f9i% m9e1 & !n if he has really any?+ to say1 come to ! family sitt+-room1 at "s suitable "t1 & we w talk x ov]4 8,:at is ! be/ way = a woman to meet indec5t rem>ks or actions f a man8 ,%\ld %e #8scor*' him1 or slap him 9 ! face80 ,nei!r4 ,to take ! slighte/ notice ( him or ( 8 rem>ks is to give ! man ! advantage4 ,at su* a "t z ?is rud5ess w\ld n be good =m4 ,! only safe c\rse w\ld be to ignore him z y w\ld ! buzz ( ! locu/ 9 ! tree1 or ! s\nd ( ! cable along ! track ( ! c> l9e4 ,y are oblig$ to be consci\s ( its pres5ce1 b y g on y\r way1 j ! same1 & let x buzz or ro>4 ,:atev] su* a fell[ may say or d1 nev] turn y\r eyes "o hair's bread?4 ,all[ him to wond] if y are really bl9d & deaf4 ,a ^w or act ( ev5 prote/ w\ld give him a *ance to reply4 ,"o ^w w\ld call = ano!r1 & no "o c\ld possibly =eca/ :]e x w\ld end4 8,:at c be done ) /ud5ts :o w n li/5 to ! advice ( tea*]s ^u que/ions ( prop] behavior1 :o w n believe :at is told !m ab\t ! "* ( ^? ) :om !y are associat+80 ,unless x is a re=m s*ool1 ! only ?+ w\ld be to s5d !m home4 8,:5 x is kn[n t a "y man or "y woman 9 s*ool is impure 9 ?\ght1 language1 & habit1 :at is ! duty ( ^? 9 au?ority 9 ! matt]80 ,x is impossible = any "o to "k ! ?\ghts ( any o!r be+1 s z to judge ( _! intr9sic "*4 ,! language & habits1 :5 judg$ f y\r /&po9t1 may be impure1 b !y may be really only ! result ( wrong me?ods & circum/ances ov] :i* ! *ild has no control1 & = :i* he is n at all responsible4 ,9 mann] & habit he may be vile1 & yet be no m responsible z f> z ?\ght & motive is conc]n$ ?an he w\ld be = hav+ ! measles4 ,he has simply be5 expos$1 caught x1 & ne$s to be cur$4 ,b :atev] ! ?\ght & inn] life may be1 if 8 language & habits 9 ! s*ool association are on ! impure level1 ! pupil %\ld c]ta9ly be kept 9 qu>ant9e at home1 unless ! s*ool is l a hospital prep>$ to take ! case1 & give ! treatm5t t w lead to m5tal & moral heal?4 8,9 :at respect does ! relation ( ^? 9 *>ge ( a s*ool home diff] f t ( ! p>5ts80 ,9 responsibility1 dur+ ! s*ool t]m1 !re is no diff]5ce4 ,9 po9t ( privilege ! p>5t has greatly ! advantage1 z he alone is capable ( und]/&+ ! secrets :i* may be lock$ away1 9 ! brea/ ( ! *ild1 f any possible discov]y by ! tea*]4 ,! responsibility ( p>5ts1 h[ev]1 nev] ends1 :ile t ( ! tea*] is limit$ to ! h\rs 9 ! s*ool1 & ! s*ool t]m4 ,! p>5ts' responsibility cov]s ! :ole life1 & c nev] be transf]r$4 8,is x good =m = /ud5ts 9 _! "w to eat bits ( food f ! di%es !y are h&l+80 ,x is n only bad =m1 b a v disgu/+ practise = any "o to pick up ?+s ly+ ab\t on plates1 table1 9 cupbo>ds1 or on fruit /&s1 public or private1 & put !m into ! m\?4 ,! only suitable place = eat+ is at ! table1 ! picnic basket1 or ! travel+ lun* box1 & t at ! meal-"t4 ,! habit ( nibbl+ is also productive ( _m v tr\blesome =ms ( disease4 ,good =m requires t "o %\ld be z neat & tidy 9 ! necess>y h&l+ & prep>+ ( food z 9 presid+ at or enjoy+ a banquet4 8,is x good =m = a g5tleman to put on a lady's skates80 ,any woman :o is able to skate is able to fa/5 h] own skates1 & %\ld feel a womanly contempt = t *ildi% =m ( incapacity t w\ld make h] will+ to receive t k9d ( att5tion f any man4 ,! corset$ woman1 truss$ l a f[l1 c n get d[n to h] feet s z to put on a pair ( skates2 b nei!r c %e skate en\gh to make x wor? :ile to take note ( h] ef=ts4 ,( c\rse %e mu/ h a man to p]=m ?is pu]ile s]vice = h]4 8,:at is ! prop] =m ( accept+ or decl9+ invitations to receptions1 w$d+s1 graduations1 etc48 ,%\ld an acceptance or refusal ( su* an invitation be accompani$ by a gift8 ,if s1 :at is ! mo/ appropriate1 & ! be/ =m 9 :i* to give x80 ,! above que/ions c all be answ]$ ^u ! same pr9ciple4 ,! =mula ( ackn[l$g+ invitations to receptions diff]s z widely z ! /yle ( c>ds2 b ! v be/ 8good =m0 is = ea* invit$ gue/ 9 h] own natural mann]1 9 a p]sonal1 k9dly note1 to ei!r accept1 or express regrets at n be+ able to att5d4 ,books on etiquette give an assortm5t ( /yles v>y+ 9 degrees ( /iffness1 :i* y c copy if y wi%1 b !y are ! mo/ ungraceful relics ( dead =m on record4 ,conc]n+ w$d+s3 9 _m circles x is suppos$ t a response to a w$d+ invitation mu/ necess>ily include a w$d+ gift2 b to assume t su* an ev5t is ! occasion ( solicit+ silv]w>e1 dry-goods1 & furniture is "o ( ! v wor/ ( all bad =ms4 ,! w$d+ gift has become "o ( ! mo/ tr\blesome expressions ( social hypocrisy4 ,if x c\ld be possible to aboli% x1 & give society a *ance to g back to ! simple habits ( fifty ye>s ago1 x w\ld be a bless+ inde$4 ,x is a mis=tune to a "y c\ple to receive ev5 "o gift t ei!r = its pret5d$ or real value w\ld make ! simple /yle 9 :i* !y w d\btless be oblig$ to beg9 life seem mean4 ,fl[]s or books are ! mo/ suitable ?+s to br+ to a w$d+1 & ev5 fl[]s may be s pr(use z to become vulg>4 ,?is does n ( c\rse include ^? gifts t w\ld naturally be made by ! family = ! purpose ( giv+ ! "y c\ple 8a />t 9 life40 8,:at are ! prop] conditions & =ms ^u :i* introductions %\ld take place80 ,good =m requires t no man %all address a lady )\t an introduction1 unless x be 9 a case ( extreme necessity4 ,an em]g5cy1 = ! "t be+1 nullifies all c]emony2 b aft] ! em]g5cy is pass$1 ! in=mal acqua9tance %\ld be end$4 ,e boy %\ld be s taught 9 ! home t z he gr[s up1 & goes out into ! _w1 he w n (f5d aga9/ good =m1 & br+ himself "u suspicion by intrud+ ^u ! notice ( any "y woman :om he may happ5 to fancy1 )\t ! =mality ( an introduction by "s "o ( :om he w h no reason to be a%am$4 ,good =m requires t ! introduction ( any two p]sons %\ld be by ! desire ( bo?4 ,! slighte/ objection ^u ! "p ( ei!r w\ld make ! introduction a gross intrusion4 ,! reasons = ?is are obvi\s4 ,society has se5 t aft] ! introduction1 any?+ may foll[1 & ! only *ance = a "y woman to protect h]self f undesirable & dang]\s association1 may be 9 ! rigid en=cem5t ( ?is simple rule ( rights4 ,! prop] =m ( introduction is t :i* is mo/ easy & graceful 9 mann] = ! "o :o is to d ! introduc+4 ,z 9 ev]y?+ else1 individuality %\ld be giv5 a *ance2 ! _s & mann] c>ries mu* m weight ?an ! words4 ,always1 h[ev]1 ! p]son :o is to be 9 any way advantag$ by ! introduction1 favor$ ei!r 9 pleasure or pr(it1 is ! "o :o is to be pres5t$ to ! o!r4 ,= in/ance1 ,mr4 ,lane has se5 ,miss ,mason1 & has recogniz$ h] z "o ^: acqua9tance he w\ld enjoy4 ,he asks a mutual fri5d to secure ! privilege ( ?is introduction2 ,miss ,mason has be5 ask$ ! favor ) ! assumption t x w be entirely = ,mr4 ,lane's advantage & pleasure4 ,miss ,mason is graci\s1 & cons5ts to grant ! reque/4 ,mr4 ,lane is !re=e br\ght to ! place :]e ! "y lady is wait+4 ,nev] %\ld a p]son :o is to receive ano!r be ask$ to come to be introduc$4 ,br+ ! c&idate = ?is social favor1 to ! "o ( :om x has be5 ask$1 & ^u approa*+1 y w say1 8,miss ,mason1 all[ me ! pleasure ( pres5t+ ,mr4 ,lane4 ,mr4 ,lane1 ,miss ,mason10 ^u :i* ,miss ,mason w b[ slightly1 ,mr4 ,lane a little m noticeably4 ,!y w n %ake h&s1 b w /&1 or p]haps be seat$1 & conv]se = a few mom5ts1 :5 ,mr4 ,lane w take 8 leave1 if he kn[s :at is good = him1 & wait = "s fur!r recognition f ,miss ,mason4 ,among v intimate fri5ds1 :]e x is well kn[n t an acqua9tance w\ld c]ta9ly be a mutual pleasure & b5efit1 ?is =mula is n always necess>y4 ,i h be5 giv+ ! /rict social good-=m code1 :i* is = protection aga9/ annoyances4 ,x w\ld be an un=tunate social misdemeanor = any p]son to make ! second ef=t to receive an introduction :i* has be5 once decl9$1 )\t "s advances f ! p]son :o _h made ! refusal4 ,:5 a "y man desires to cultivate ! acqua9tance ( a "y woman1 good =m requires t be=e he utt]s a ^w1 he %all frankly in=m h] p>5ts ( 8 wi%es1 & ask _! cons5t4 ,& ?is is "r2 & ev5 if _! decision is aga9/ him1 a "y man :o is wor?y ( a wife w h t reg>d = ! rights ( ! p>5t :i* w make him c>eful h[ he ru?lessly breaks into ! family circle4 ,he w give himself "t & opportunity to w9 ! p>5ts1 be=e he di/urbs ! m9d ( ! daught]4 ,! obs]vance ( good =m 9 su* matt]s w br+ a bless+1 & save unspeakable tr\ble1 ev5 if x %\ld require :at seems to ! he>t ( a y\? a great deal ( unreasonable delay4 8,aft] ! introduction %\ld ! mutual fri5d leave1 or rema9 & lead out 9 conv]sation80 ,aft] ! introduction ! newly made acqua9tances may or may n be left to _! own devices 9 foll[+ up ! introduction4 ,?is introduction does n "u any circum/ances b9d ! "y woman to any future recognition ( ! p]son :o has be5 introduc$ to h]4 ,%e may ru?lessly ignore him ! next "t %e meets him )\t any violation ( good =m1 x be+ suppos$ t %e has suffici5t reason = do+ s1 & he w h no occasion to compla94 ,he mu/ accept ! fact t he has _h all t he c receive ( pleasure or pr(it f ?is acqua9tance1 & be satisfi$ ) x1 unless he c by "s means s br+ himself 9 "s manly way to ! notice ( ?is "y woman t %e %all indicate h] wi% to cont9ue ! acqua9tance4 8,:at is good =m 9 dress = an ev5+ reception = bo? m5 & wom58 ,%\ld gloves be worn80 ,= a =mal reception1 society requires t a man %\ld we> black4 ,if ! ho/ we>s gloves1 ! m5 %\ld d s4 ,if ! ho/ess only we>s gloves1 only ! wom5 we> gloves4 ,at a w$d+ ! bride det]m9es :e!r gloves %all be worn4 ,x w\ld be v bad =m to we> gloves if ! bride's h&s 7 b>e4 ,! fa%ion *anges ) ref]5ce to :at is suitable = bo? m5 & wom51 b z a rule :at is kn[n z ! cutaway coat = m51 ) a :ite necktie1 makes an ev5+ dress = any occasion4 ,x ne$ n necess>ily be ( exp5sive mat]ial4 ,a great v>iety is admissible 9 wom5's co/ume at a reception4 ,if %e *ooses to we> h] bonnet1 %e may also we> a simple tailor-made g[n1 ( v pla9 /yle & color1 a travel+ dress1 or ev5 an ord9>y /reet dress2 or %e may be array$ l ! v]ie/ butt]fly 9 all ! colors ( ! ra9b[1 & /ill pres]ve unbrok5 ! rules ( good =m 9 dress accord+ to ! social code4 ,b ! pla9] /yle is unque/ionably ! bett] =m 9 e s5se ( ! ^w4 ,?is is a social concession to ! consci5ti\s ,*ri/ian elem5t 9 social life1 & an ef=t to reta9 x2 & ! m truly p c>ry consci5ce into dress1 z well z ! m !y cultivate e true ,*ri/ian grace1 ! m !y are appreciat$ ev5 by ^? :o give "t & ?\ght to :at seems to be frivol\s 9 cu/om & co/ume4 8,h[ %all "o cultivate ! art ( conv]sation80 ,fir/ ( all by conv]s+4 ,b to talk "o mu/ "k & ?9k4 ,select "s !me ( g5]al int]e/ & importance1 in=m y\rself conc]n+ x1 !n tra9 y\r m9d to me?odical h&l+ ( x2 ?9k x ov] 9 colloquial =m2 talk ab\t x to ! home folks1 /udy ! diction>y = a vocabul>y1 & use :at y f9d4 ,x is a good ?+ to h sev]al words at y\r tongue's end :i* mean ! same ?+1 or ne>ly s2 b x is v bad =m to 8talk book40 ,y c fill y\rself ) ! book1 b :5 x comes to express+ y\rself 9 conv]sation1 talk talk1--common language1 pure & simple1 %ort words su* z ev5 a *ild c und]/&4 ,! be/ conv]sationali/ is "o :o by say+ b little himself 7t little *oice1 cle>1 & true7 c draw o!rs out to a free expression ( _! ?\ghts1 mak+ ev5 ! sl[ & /amm]+ to feel 8at home40 ,x is bad =m to take advantage ( a social opportunity to air any private op9ions t mu/ necess>ily ar\se opposition & controv]sy4 ,conv]sation %\ld be l a refre%+ /ream1 hold+ all tru? 9 solution 9 su* =m t x %all be recogniz$ z sweet wat]s1 at :i* ! ?ir/y s\l may f9d refre%m5t4 ,! tru? :i* x conta9s c be tru/$ to d its "w 9 ?\ght & life1 z ! iron & magnesia may on blood & tissue4 8,:at is ! diff]5ce betwe5 good =m1 etiquette1 & e?ics80 ,good =m conta9s ! b>e pr9ciple1 etiquette applies ! pr9ciple1 & e?ics br+s consci5ce into ! practise ( x4 ,x is possible = etiquette to violate e pr9ciple ( bo? good =m & e?ics2 b good =m & e?ics w always agree :5 !y und]/& ea* o!r1 & w make a safe environm5t 9 :i* any *ild1 y\?1 man1 or woman may live1 love1 & labor4 ,n[h]e is ! obs]vance ( good =m m necess>y ?an dur+ a j\rney4 ,x is especially a safegu>d to ! "y & inexp]i5c$ aga9/ ! design+ & vici\s4 ,! rule is t ! travel+ dress %\ld be ( ! mo/ unobtrusive "*1 ( "s neutral color1 ) no %[y embelli%m5ts on hat or g[n1 some?+ :i* c be readily %ak5 or bru%$ free ( du/2 & t e movem5t %\ld be su* z to avoid attract+ att5tion2 t no acqua9tance %\ld be =m$ ) /rang]s1 unless x be "u circum/ances t c\ld admit ( no possible "q4 ,x is bad =m to /& & look ab\t 9 a wait+-room1 or to prom5ade ! plat=m1 to turn ! head & gaze at p1 or to ask que/ions ( any b (ficials4 ,^! ?+s1 trivial z !y may seem1 c>efully obs]v$1 help to keep a h$ge ( safety ab\t ! "y woman or boy :o is oblig$ to travel alone1 :ile only a slight dep>ture f ^! rules w (t5 op5 ! way = annoyance1 & ev5 dang]s su* z we c n discuss 9 ^! pages4 ,9 ! matt] ( ask+ que/ions1 ! prospective travel] %\ld in=m h]self conc]n+ ev]y?+ %e w ne$ to "k ( h] r\te1 etc41 z ?or\ghly z possible1 be=e %e />ts1 s z to make que/ion+ unnecess>y4 ,x is dang]\s to dep5d ev5 ^u m5 9 uni=m = in=mation beyond c]ta9 n>r[ limits4 ,d n expect a local ticket ag5t1 nor yet a railroad conductor1 brakeman1 or ,pullman c> port] to "k :at e pass5g] may ne$ to "k 9 ord] to rea* 8 de/9ation4 ,! man 9 uni=m is responsible = kn[+ "o or two ?+s & see+ t 8 own end ( ! "w is kept well 9 h&4 ,beyond t he has no (ficial responsibility1 & is (t5 z likely to abuse confid5ce1 & betray tru/+ ignorance1 z any o!r man4 ,if y are a "y girl travel+ alone1 compell$ to make a transf] across ! city1 nev] take a c>riage or cab1 b ! common public omnibus4 ,if y h a t$i\s wait be=e y1 d n try to relieve x by saunt]+ ab\t ! depot or /reet1 or any public places4 ,settle y\rself d[n ) det]m9ation to pati5tly & quietly endure 9 ! depot1 unless y "k "s suitable place to :i* y c g & sp5d ! "t4 ,d n ask1 receive1 or act ^u any advice f any /rang]s z to hotels1 or any o!r places :]e y c\ld sp5d ! h\rs m com=tably4 ,accept no invitations except+ f well-kn[n fri5ds1 & ev5 !n n to any ice-cream p>lors or re/aurants4 ,no?+ %ort ( a family invitation to "s good home %\ld turn y = a mom5t f y\r purpose to keep closely to ! l9e ( travel1 & endure h>dness ) good practical common s5se4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be taught 9 ! regul> r\t9e ( home life h[ to ent]ta9 & h[ to be ent]ta9$2 h[ to avoid ! necessity ( putt+ on 8company mann]s0 by always 9 all relations ( life obs]v+ ^? pr9ciples ( polit5ess :i* are summ$ up 9 ! gospel z express$ 9 t law ( lib]ty kn[n z ! ,gold5 ,rule4 ,z a ho/ess1 d n ov]load y\r gue/ ) att5tion4 ,no?+ is m we>isome ?an to be compell$ to w>d (f cont9ual intrusive ef=ts to make y happy & com=table z a gue/4 ,see t all necess>y provision is made = y\r gue/ be=e arrival1 t wat] = dr9k+ & ba?+1 ) glasses & t[els1 are 9 h] room 9 read9ess4 ,take y\r gue/ at once to ! room appo9t$ )\t /opp+ = introductions or greet+s2 inquire if any?+ fur!r is ne$$2 /ate ! h\r ( meals1 & any o!r regulations :i* mu/ 9 any mann] conc]n a transi5t memb] ( y\r h\sehold2 arrange to return 9 a half-h\r to lead ! way to ! family room = greet+s & introductions1 & !n )draw1 leav+ ! coa/ cle> = su* att5tion to p]sonal com=t z is always ne$$ ev5 aft] a %ort j\rney4 ,!re may be degrees ( intimacy t w\ld seem to naturally modify ^! good-=m requirem5ts1 b x w\ld be p]fectly safe to hold y\rself to !m1 ev5 if ! gue/ 7 y\r own "m1 si/]1 or bro!r4 ,if y\r gue/ is to make a long visit1 ev]y?+ l ef=t to secure 8 com=t %\ld be kept out ( sight4 ,9 fact1 all arrangem5ts %\ld be made s z to make ! visit a pleasure to all conc]n$2 & ?is c only be done by tak+ him into ! home life1 & go+ on j ! same 9 ev]y?+ z if y 7 alone z a family4 ,an invitation to a fri5d to visit y %\ld be = a def9ite "t1 & %\ld n ^u any acc\nt be ext5d$ unless y he>tily desire x4 ,n a ^w or h9t %\ld be dropp$ out ( s-call$ polit5ess1 :i*1 if tak5 lit]ally1 w\ld /ay 8 dep>ture "o h\r aft] ! "t limit has be5 rea*$4 ,! sort ( hypocrisy t w\ld say1 8,o don't hurry (f j yet10 :5 y feel 9 y\r he>t t y c n conv5i5tly h ! visit prolong$1 is v bad =m1 inde$1 & a griev\s wrong to y\r fri5d4 ,z a gue/1 "o %\ld at once fall into ! regul> ord] ( ! family life z ne>ly z x is possible to d s1 avoid+ ev]y?+ t w\ld add to labor = ho/ess or s]vants4 ,a gue/ %\ld give no ord]s to *ildr5 or s]vants4 ,all reque/s %\ld be made ( ho/ or ho/ess1 & left = !m to pass on z !y %all see fit4 ,good =m requires t ! gue/ %all be bl9d & deaf to any unpleasant episodes t may occur1 tak+ no "p 9 any disputes f ! *ildr5 up1 & t at any mom5t :5 8 pres5ce c\ld prove an emb>rassm5t1 he w f9d x necess>y to retire to 8 room1 take a /roll 9 ! wood or field1 or a 8day (f0 9 t[n2 & !n :5 ! "t limit = :i* 8 visit 0 plann$ has be5 rea*$1 he w take 8 dep>ture1 no matt] h[ w>mly he may be urg$ 8n to hurry40 ,give nei!r money nor eatables to ! *ildr54 ,make no plans :i* include !m )\t fir/ consult+ ho/ & ho/ess4 ,9 fact1 ! gue/ %\ld propose no?+1 plan no?+4 ,?is %\ld all be left to ho/ & ho/ess4 ,he %\ld make ( 8 pres5ce a pleasure to all1 :i* w leave no?+ m to be desir$4 ,let him f9d 8 place 9 ! dome/ic economy = ! 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