,,how ,,to ,,succeed ,,by ,miss ,rosetta ,dunigan #aiai ,decoration ,price #be;c4 ,neilson ,printing ,co41 #dje ,beale ,ave41 ,memphis1 ,tenn4 ,illustration3 ,,rosetta ,,dunigan ,,preface ,those acts which go to form a person's influence are little things1 but they are potential for good or bad in the lives of others4 ,though they are as fleeting as the breath which gave them1 their influence is as enduring as they reach4 ,but may we strive to scatter loving1 cheering1 encouraging words1 to soothe the weary1 and awaken the nobler feelings of those with whom we daily come in contact4 ,the cause of great joys1 like those of sorrow1 are few and far between1 but every day brings us much good if we will but gather it4 ,all successful men are remarkable1 not only for general vigor1 but for their attention4 ,it is often that in view of these facts men will often neglect4 ,he who waits to do a great deal of good at once will never do anything4 ,in the complicated and marvelous machinery of circumstances it is absolutely impossible to decide what would have happened to some event if the smallest deviation had taken place in the march of those who preceded them4 ,the little things in youth accumulate into character in age and destiny in eternity4 ,little sins make up the grand total of life4 ,each day is brightened or clouded4 ,great things come but seldom1 and are often unrecognized until passed4 ,if a man conceives the idea of becoming eminent in learning1 and cannot toil through the many drudgeries necessary to carry him on1 his learning will soon be told4 ,or if he undertakes to become rich1 but despises the small and gradual advances by which wealth is acquired1 his expectations will be the sum of his riches4 ,the successful business man at home1 surrounded by articles of luxury1 is a spectacle calculated to spur on the toiler4 ,but the merchant at his office has had to work1 yes to toil over columns of figures to post his ledger2 and while you were carelessly spending a dollar1 he has ransacked his books to discover what has become of a stray shilling4 ,words may seem to us but little things1 but they possess a power beyond calculation4 ,they swiftly fly from us to others1 and we scarcely give them a passing thought4 ,failure a ,stepping ,stone to ,success4 ,it is a mistake to suppose that men succeed through success2 they much oftener succeed through failure4 ,there were hours of despondency when ,shakespeare thought himself no poet and ,raphael no painter1 when the greatest wits doubted the excellence of their happiest efforts4 ,many have to make up their need to encounter failure again and again before they finally succeed1 but if they have pluck the failure will only serve to arouse their energies1 and stimulate them to renewed efforts4 ,no one can tell how many of the world's most brilliant geniuses have succeed because of their first failures4 ,precept1 study1 advice and example could never have taught them so well as failure has done and this latter is often of more importance than the former4 ,we have read of our late ,b4 ,t4 ,washington1 we can realize the fact that from boyhood even till his death1 he sought an opportunity1 though the opportunity sometime seemed to be very small4 ,dr4 ,b4 ,t4 felt the need of an education yes1 he felt there was something he could do someday for the betterment of his race1 so he accepted the small opportunities and after became a man of fame1 integrity1 and honor1 he did not have the opportunity that most of the boys and girls have today1 but because of his determination he was able to live and die a man of fame and honor4 ,young ,ladies and ,gentlemen2 a great deal has been done to help improve to the race1 but do you know there is still more to be done1 and there is something that we can do4 ,there is more expected of us today than it was expected of men years ago2 so we must begin work more earlier in life4 ,young ,ladies and ,gentlemen2 let us put our whole heart mind and brains to work to help improve our race2 though we may fail but from this failure we can organize future success4 ,we may wish ourselves great but unless we do something we shall forever be a wisher4 ,we must realize that our ways in this world is like a wall under a row of trees1 checked with light and shade1 and because we cannot all walk along in the sunshine1 we therefore1 fix upon the darker passages and so lose all the comfort of the cheering ones4 ,there is no royal road to success1 the road that leads to success lies through fields of hard1 earnest and patient labor1 it calls on the young man and woman put forth all energy1 and bids him build well his foundation1 go to success since it will not come to you1 and remember even as steel is tempered by heat1 and through much hammering and changing original form1 is at last wrought into useful articles1 so in the history of many men do we find that they were attempered in the furnace of trials and afflictions4 ,let us then strive against despondency1 even when the way before us is both dark and dreary it still is worse than useless to give away to despondency4 ,energy and proper afflictions may recover what you have lost2 take heart2 pluck up courage2 give not over to despondency2 by confronting the evils of life they will lose their force4 ,we are able to know today that intelligence has awakened and spreaded out her hands1 and from time immemorial intellectual endowment have been crowned with bays of honor1 men have worshiped at the sign of intellect with almost an eastern idolatry1 the world at large has crowned education with its richest honors1 its pathway has been strewn with flowers1 its brow has won the loftiest plume1 and now we own schools1 we must prepare ourselves to meet the demand of the world1 rouse ourselves1 and do not allow our best years to slip past because we have not succeeded as we thought we would4 ,why2 because the man who never failed is a myth4 ,if we fail now and then do not be discouraged4 ,it is indeed a happy providence that given to mankind the bright shining sun of hope to dispel the gloom of despondency4 ,we have all seen the sunburst from behind the clouds and light up a storm swept landscape4 ,the trouble is1 that many of us when we are under any affliction1 are troubled with certain malicious melancholy1 never take notice of the most benighting ones4 ,we must bear in mind that it is only the past and experience of every successful man4 ,the most successful men oftener have the most failures4 ,these failures which to the feeble are mere stumbling blocks1 to the strong serve to remove the scales from their eyes so that they now see clearer1 and go on their way with a firmer tread and more determined mien1 and compel life to yield to them its most enduring trophies4 ,the world is not coming to an end1 nor society going to destruction1 because our petty plans have miscarried4 ,the present failure should only teach us to be more wary in the future and this will gather a rich harvest as the final outcome of our efforts4 ,the most successful men oftener has the most failures4 ,so if success were to crown our efforts now1 where would be the great success of our future4 ,,how ,,to ,,succeed--,,both ,,are ,,needed4 ,conditions are by no means what they should be unless there is opportunity for the full development of manners and politeness4 ,there is a great difference between manners and politeness4 ,manners is one thing and politeness is another4 ,a person possessed of these qualities1 though he had never seen a court1 is truly agreeable2 and if without them would continue a clown1 though he had been all his life a gentleman usher4 ,a traveler of taste at once perceives that the educated men are polite all the world over1 but that ignorant men are polite only at home4 ,good manners are well-nigh an essential part of life's education1 and their importance cannot be too largely magnified when we consider that they are the outward expression of an inward virtue4 ,social courtesies should emanate from the heart1 for remember always that the worth of manners consists in being the sincere expression of feelings4 ,like the dial of a watch1 they should indicate that the works within are good and true4 ,true civility needs no false lights to show its points4 ,it is the embodiment of truth1 the mere opening out of the inner self4 ,the truest politeness comes of sincerity4 ,it must be the outcome of the heart or it will make no lasting impression1 for no amount of polish will dispense with truthfulness4 ,to acquire that ease and grace of manners which distinguishes and is possessed by every well-bred person one must think of others rather than of one's self1 and study to please them even at one's own convenience4 ,the golden rule of life is also the law of politeness1 and such politeness implies self-sacrifice1 many struggles and conflicts4 ,it is an art and tact rather than an instinct and inspiration4 ,many a man who now stands ranked as a gentleman because his smile is ready and his bow exquisite1 is in reality unworthy of an honor1 since he cares more for the least incident pertaining to his own comfort than he does for the greatest occasion of discomfort to others4 ,a man of politeness and manners does not hint by words that he deems himself better1 wiser or richer than any one about him4 ,he is 8never stuck up10 nor looks down upon others because they have no titles1 honors or social position equal to his own4 ,he never boasts of his achievements by affecting to underrate what he has done4 ,he prefers to act rather than to talk1 to be busy rather than to seem1 above all things is distinguished by his deep insight and sympathy1 his quick perception of an attention to those little and apparently insignificant things that may cause pleasure or pain to others4 ,in giving his opinions he does not dogmatize4 ,he listens patiently and respectfully to all other men1 and1 if compelled to dissent from their opinions1 acknowledges his fallibility and asserts his own views in such a manner as to command the respect of all who hear him4 ,frankness and cordiality mark all his intercourse with his fellows and1 however high his station1 the humblest man feels instantly at ease in his presence4 ,the success or failure of one's plans have often turned upon the address and manner of the man4 ,if we wish to be successful men and women1 we must first be in possession of both politeness and manners4 ,,poverty ,,may ,,be ,a ,,bitter ,,draught1 ,,yet ,,it ,,often ,,is ,a ,,tonic4 ,the majority of the men of note in this country are not the sons of those fathers who could give them all they want1 and much more than they should have1 but are those who were brought up in cottages and cabins cutting their way through difficulties on every side to their present commanding position4 ,it is not prosperity so much as advertising1 not wealth so much as poverty1 that stimulates the perseverance of strong and healthy natures1 rouses their energies and develops their character4 ,indeed1 misfortune and poverty have frequently converted an indolent votary of society into a useful member of the community and made him a moving power in the great workshop of the world1 teaching men and developing the powers which ,nature has bestowed on them4 ,it can't be too often repeated that it is not the blessings of life1 its sunshine and calms1 that make men1 but its rugged experiences1 its storms and trials4 ,thousands of men are bemoaning present indigence who might have won riches and honor had they only been compelled by early poverty to develop their manhood4 ,poverty does more1 perhaps1 than anything else to develop the energetic1 self-reliant trait of character1 without which the highest ability makes but sorry work of life's battles4 ,of all poverty that of the mind is the most deplorable1 and is at the same time without excuse4 ,every one who wills it can lay in a rich store of mental wealth4 ,the poor man's purse may be empty1 but he has as much gold in the sunset1 and as much silver in the moon1 as anybody4 ,wealth of heart is not dependent upon wealth of purse4 ,thus the evils of poverty are much exaggerated1 and the evils1 if evils they be1 are often all for our own ultimate good4 ,poverty is the great test of civility and touch-stone of friendship4 ,it is one of the mysteries of our life that genius1 the noblest gift of ,god to man1 is nourished by poverty4 ,,the ,,vice ,,of ,,selfishness ,,displays ,,itself ,,in ,,many ,,ways4 ,the selfish person lives as if the world were made altogether for him1 and not he for the world1 to take in everything and part with nothing4 ,unselfish and noble acts are the most radiant epochs in the history of souls1 when wrought in earliest youth1 they lie in the memory of age4 ,selfishness contracts and narrows our benevolence and causes us1 like serpents1 to infold ourselves within ourselves1 and to turn out our stings to all the world besides4 ,as frost to the bud and blight to the blossom1 even such is self-interest to friendship1 for confidence cannot dwell where selfishness is porter at the gate4 ,selfishness is the bone of all life and dwarfs all the better nature of man4 ,it takes from him that feeling of kindly sympathy for others' good1 which is one of the most pleasing traits of manhood1 and in itself sets up self as the one whose good is to be chiefly sought4 ,these withering effects are to be seen not only in the high road and public places of life1 but in the nooks and bylanes as well4 ,not alone among conquerors and kings1 but among the humble and obscure in the unsanctified lust of wealth4 ,as heat changes the hitherto brittle metal into the elastic yielding1 yet deadly ,damascus blade1 so when the demon of avarice finds lodgment in the heart of men1 it changes all his better nature4 ,it may find him delighted to good and relieving the wants of others2 it leaves him one whose whole energy and power are turned to advancement of self alone4 ,,the ,,greatest ,,misfortune ,,of ,,all ,,is ,,not ,,to ,,be ,,able ,,to ,,bear ,,misfortune4 ,heaven in its mercy has placed the fountain of wisdom in the hidden and concealed depths of the soul1 that the children of misfortune might seek and find in its healthful waters the antidote and cordial of their cares4 ,knowledge and sorrow are blended together1 just as ignorance and folly4 ,man is like a sword in a shop window4 ,men that look upon the perfect blade do not dream of the process by which it was completed4 ,man is a sword2 daily life is the workshop and ,god is the artificer1 and the trials and sorrows of life the very things that fashion the man4 ,when borne down by trials they are sent only for instructions4 ,in youth we look forward1 the future appears calm as we approach manhood and womanhood life changes its appearance and becomes tempestuous and rough1 as the ocean changes before the storm4 ,in the changes of life real joy and grief are never far apart4 ,trials come in a thousand different forms and many avenues are open to their approach4 ,they come with the warm throbbing of our youthful lives1 keep pace with the measured tread of manhood's noon1 and depart not from the descending footsteps of decrepitude age4 ,we may not hope to be entirely free from either disciplinary trials or the fiery darts of the enemy until we are through with life's burdens4 ,men may be so old that ambition has no chain1 but they are never too old to experience trials4 ,misfortune gathers around great men as storms do around great mountains1 but1 like them1 they break the storms and purify the air4 ,those who have had misfortune are like those who know many languages4 ,they have learned to understand and be understood by all4 ,time is the rider that breaks youth4 ,to the young how bright the world looks--how full of novelty and enjoyment4 ,but as years pass on they are found to abound in sorrowful scenes as well as those pleasant scenes of toil1 suffering1 difficulty and perhaps misfortune and failure4 ,happy are they who can pass through misfortune with a firm mind and a pure heart1 encountering trials with cheerfulness and standing erect beneath even the heaviest burdens4 ,misfortune is a crown of thorns1 but it becomes a wreath of light on the brow which it has lacerated4 ,oh1 it is a cross on which the spirit groans4 ,let us learn to be able to bear our misfortune1 because every ,calvary has an ,olivet4 ,to every place of crucifixion there is likewise a place of ascension4 ,so to be successful in this life we must be able to bear misfortunes4 ,,adversity ,,the ,,touch ,,stone ,,of ,,character4 ,at a superficial view it appears that adversity happens to all alike1 without regard to rank or condition4 ,people are continually rising and falling in all degrees of association4 ,we often see men of high expectations cut down and left to struggle with despair and ruin4 ,much of the most useful work done by men and women has been amidst afflictions--sometimes as a relief from it1 sometimes as a sense of duty overwhelming their personal sorrows4 ,there beats not a heart but that has felt the force of adversity4 ,there is not an eye but has witnessed many scenes of sorrow4 ,how can we exercise the grace of contentment if all things succeed well1 or that of forgiveness if we have no enemies6 ,sad accidents and a state of adversity are the school of virtue4 ,it reduces our spirits to soberness and our counsels to moderation4 ,god1 who governs the world in mercy and wisdom1 never would have suffered the virtuous ones to endure so many afflictions did ,he not intend that they should be the seminary of comfort1 the nursery of virtue1 the exercise of wisdom and the trial of patience1 venturing for a crown and the gate of glory4 ,adversity sent by ,providence must be submitted to in a humble spirit1 or they will not conduce to lasting good4 ,as the musician straineth at his strings1 and yet breaketh none of them1 but maketh thereby a sweet melody and better concord4 ,adversity is the medicine of the mind4 ,if it is not pleasing it is wholesome4 ,no soul is so obscure that ,god does not take thought for its schooling4 ,the sun is the central light of the solar system2 but it has a mission to the ripening corn and the purpling cluster on the vine1 as well as the ponderous planet4 ,the sunshine that comes fluttering through the morning mists with healing on its wings1 and charging all the birds to singing1 should have also a message from ,god to sad hearts4 ,no soul is so grief-laden that it may not be lifted to sources of heavenly comfort by recognizing the divine love in the recurrence of earthly blessings4 ,in a great adversity there is no light either in the mind or in the sun1 for when the inward light is fed with fragrant oil there can be no darkness1 though clouds should cover the sun4 ,but when1 like a sacred lamp in the temple1 the inward light is quenched1 there is no light outwardly1 though a thousand suns should preside in the heavens4 ,,true ,,dignity ,,of ,,mind4 ,true dignity of mind is always modest in expression4 ,the grace of an action is gone as soon as we are convinced that it was done only that persons might applaud the act4 ,but he who is truly great1 and does good because it is his duty1 is not at all anxious that others should witness his acts4 ,his aim is to do good because it is right4 ,it is impossible to conceive of a truly great character and not think of one with the spirit of kindness4 ,true dignity of spirit will not dwell with the haughty in manner4 ,true dignity delights to take up its abode with the generous and those who seek to relieve the misery of others as they would their own4 ,as long as human nature is a mass of contradictions this is not to be wondered at4 ,but the influence of such men is ever working1 and will sooner or later show itself4 ,men such as these are the true life-blood of the community to which they belong4 ,true dignity of character is within the reach of all4 ,it is the result of patient endeavors after a life of goodness and1 when acquired1 cannot be swept unless by the consent of its possessor4 ,wealth may be lost by no fault of its possessor1 but greatness of soul is an abiding quality4 ,one may fail in his other aims2 the many accidents of life may bring to naught his most patient endeavors after worldly fame or success2 but he who strives for dignity of character will not fail of reward if he but diligently seek the same by earnest resolve and patient labor4 ,is there not in this a lesson of patience for many who are almost weary of striving for better things8 ,if success does not crown their ambitious efforts1 will they not be sustained by the smile of an approving conscience8 ,strong in this1 they can wait with patience till1 in the fullness of time1 their reward cometh4 ,,to ,,be ,,famous ,,we ,,must ,,be ,,ambitious4 ,young ladies and gentlemen1 an appeal to you4 ,the desire to be thought well of1 to desire to be great in goodness1 is in itself a noble quality of the mind1 and is often termed ambition4 ,if it is our ambition to gain distinction1 we will rob the weak and flatter the strong1 and become the fawning slave of those who are able to foist us above our betters and deck us with the titles and honors of the great without any regard to our own merit of respectability4 ,but if we are ambitious to do good1 without any regard for the fame we may win or the praise we may command1 our course will be honorable and our acts and deeds most worthy and good4 ,when we have done with the world the prints of our worthy ambition we will still remain in the minds of those who come after us to enjoy and reap the benefits1 for which they will revive our memory and retain our names in the lists of those whose labors have aided in enlightening the world and exalting the general interest of mankind4 ,much of the advancement of the world can be traced of the efforts of those who were moved by ambition to become famous4 ,ambition is like fire4 ,it is an excellent servant1 but a poor master4 ,as long as it is held strictly to integrity and honor1 and to conform to the requirements of justice1 there is but little danger of a man's having too much of it4 ,ambition is an excessive quality and1 as such1 is apt to lead us to the most extraordinary results4 ,but if our ambition leads us to excel or seek to excel in that which is good1 the currents it may induce us to support will be of great good4 ,but if it is stimulated by pride1 envy or vanity1 we will confine our support principally to the counter currents of life1 and thus leave behind us misery and destruction4 ,the happiness promised by ambition dissolves in sorrow just as we are about to grasp it4 ,it makes the same mistake concerning wealth4 ,she begins by accumulating power as a means of happiness1 but she finishes by continuing to accumulate it as an end4 ,,dark ,,and ,,full ,,of ,,disappointments ,,may ,,be ,,our ,,lot4 ,it is generally known that he who expects much will be often disappointed2 yet disappointment seldom cures us of expectations4 ,but one of the saddest thoughts that come to us in life is the thought that in this bright1 beautiful and joy-giving world of ours there are many shadowed lives4 ,there is but one way in which we can succeed1 when we admit that happiness is but a state of the mind1 and that success is the faithful performance of known duties1 then shall we acquire both4 ,though we may wander the wide world over and gather wealth and fame1 they will be found impotent to confer happiness1 and life to us will seem full of disappointments2 but it is because we failed to seek for life in that spirit of quiet content which conducts it4 ,it never happened to any man since the making of this world nor ever will1 to have all things according to his desires4 ,if you risk nothing1 of course you lose nothing4 ,let him who is enlisted for the war expect to meet the foe4 ,it is with life's troubles as with the risks of the battlefield--there is always less danger to the party who stands firm than to the one who gives way4 ,to give way to disappointments is to invite defeat4 ,to bravely cast about for means to resist them is to put them to flight1 and out of temporary misfortune by the foundation of a more glorious success1 by sending disappointments to the winds2 taking life as it is and with a strong will1 make life as near what it should be as possible4 ,the most pure lives sometimes are those who are met with the most disappointments4 ,with some it is the wreck of a great ambition4 ,yes1 he has built his ship and launched it on the sea of life loaded with the richest jewels of his strength and manhood4 ,and behold1 it comes back to him beaten and battered by the fury gale4 ,we may add some rays of sunshine to our path if we earnestly try to dispel the clouds of discontent that may arise in our bosom1 and by doing so enjoy fully the bountiful blessings that ,god our creator has given to his humblest creatures4 ,,memory ,,is ,,the ,,cabinet ,,of ,,the ,,imagination4 ,memory is the cord binding all the natural gifts and excellences together1 and though it is not wisdom in itself1 still it is the primary fundamental power without which there could be no other intellectual operations4 ,the memory of good actions is the starlight of the soul4 ,yes1 it tempers prosperity by recalling past distress1 by bringing up the thoughts of past joys4 ,it controls youth and delights old age4 ,without memory life would be a blank4 ,the mind must be made to think as to remember and to remember principles and outlines4 ,we think of faces1 and they return to us as plainly as when their presence gladdened our eyes4 ,when sorrow and trial1 care and temptation surrounded us how often do we gain courage and renewed strength by thinking of the past4 ,the course of none has been along so beaten a road that they remember not fondly some resting places in their journey--some turns in their path in which lovely prospects broke in upon them4 ,how much is spoken which deserves no remembrance1 and which does not serve as a simple link in one's existence not calling forth one result for others' need or thrilling one chord with nobler impulses4 ,the gift of memory is diversified to different people1 some having a taste of history1 some for literature and others delight in politics1 and so on through all the different phases of existence4 ,memory has been compared to a storehouse4 ,how much important then that we renew the mind to healthful actions instead of feeding it on poisons until it will produce nothing but poisonous thoughts4 ,transcriber's ,note ,inconsistent hyphenation 7touch-stone_/touch stone7 has been left as printed in the original4 ,a few obvious typographical errors have been corrected4 ,the sentence printed in the original as ,happy are they who can pass through h a firm mind and a pure heart1 encountering trials with cheerfulness and standing erect beneath even the heaviest burdens4 has been reconstructed as ,happy are they who can pass through misfortune with a firm mind and a pure heart1 encountering trials with cheerfulness and standing erect beneath even the heaviest burdens4