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,dedicated  ,,to ,,the ,,young ,,wives  
,,who ,,desire ,,the ,,best ,,for       
,,themselves1 ,,for ,,their ,,husbands  
,,and ,,for ,,their ,,offspring         
,,preface   ,to this generation as to no
 other1 are we indebted for the         
awakening of woman4 ,not the awakening  
alone which has led her out of the old  
lines into nearly every avenue open to  
man in his pursuit of the necessities   
and luxuries of life2 but that other and
 larger awakening which has set her down
 face to face with herself1 and in her  
study of woman she has shown herself    
courageous4  ,bravely acknowledging her 
own limitations1 she has set herself the
 task of fortifying the weak points1    
curbing the more daring aspirations1 and
 getting herself into trim1 so to speak1
 that she may traverse the sea of life1 
without danger to herself1 her cargo1 or
 to any of the countless ships which    
follow in her wake1 or that pass her in 
the day or the night4  ,not all women   

have yet awakened1 and for those who    
have eyes to see1 and have seen1 a great
 work is still waiting to be done4 ,they
 must reach out and rouse their sisters4
 ,will they do it8 ,with our young wives
 rests the weal or woe of the future    
generations4 ,to them we say1 8,what of 
the future1 and what sort of souls shall
 you give to it80                       
,,emma ,f4 ,a4 ,,drake4                 
,,denver1 ,colorado1     ,united ,states
 of ,america4      ,february #ast1      
#aija4     ,,contents4                  
,,chapter ,i4                           
,,intelligence ,,of ,,the ,,young       
,,wife4      ,out of girlhood into      
wifehood4--,the setting up of a new     
home4--,woman's exalted place4--,earlier
 influences4--,importance     of        
intelligence4--,woman fitted by creator 
for wifehood     and motherhood4--,the  
position of reproductive organs in      
the body4--,dangers of crowding contents
 of abdomen4--,what     all young wives 
need to know4--,premium previously set  

upon ignorance4--,heredity4--,failures  
and successes of our                    
ancestors4--,faults and virtues         
transmitted through heredity1    #ba-ce 
,,chapter ,,ii4                         
,,home ,,and ,,dress4      ,preparations
 for successful home-makers4--,the      
importance of     sensible dress4--,an  
opportunity for reform4--,the conditions
 of     attractive dress4--,a question  
of healthfulness4--,what wives need     
to know concerning dress4--,the kind to 
be avoided4--,injurious     dress       
destroying the race4--,the ailments     
caused by wrong     dressing4--,the     
corset curse4--,a summary of the evils  
of dress1   #cg-df                      
,,chapter ,,iii4                        
,,health ,,of ,,the ,,young ,,wife4     
,health insures happiness4--,be         
ambitious for health4--,the scarcity    
of perfectly healthy women4--,fashion to
 the ,rescue4--,the boon     of         
health4--,necessity of ventilation and  
fresh air4--,duties to     the          

home4--,the greatness of woman's        
sphere4--,in the society                
drift4--,the extreme of wholly avoiding 
society4--,keeping in     the middle of 
the road4--,pleasures and recreations   
taken     together4--,taking time to    
keep young4--,mistakes which some       
husbands make4--,wrecks at the beginning
 of married life1        #dg-ee         
,,chapter ,,iv4                         
,,the ,,choice ,,of ,a ,,husband4       
,higher standards are being set up in   
the choice of a     husband4--,should be
 worthy of both love and respect4--,love
     likely to idealize the man4--,the  
real characteristics                    
necessary4--,deficiencies in character  
not to be supplied after                
marriage4--,the right to demand         
purity4--,young men who 8sow wild       
oats40--,importance of good             
health4--,weaknesses and diseases which 
descend from parents to children4--,the 
parents' part in aiding     to a wise   
choice4--,the value of the physician's  

counsel4--,one     capable of supporting
 wife and children4--,a dutiful son     
makes     a good husband4--,essential   
requisites enumerated4--,the father     
reproduced in his children4--,the       
equivalents which the wife     should   
bring to her husband1                   
#eg-fd                                  
,,chapter ,v4                    ,,what 
,,shall ,a ,,young ,,wife ,,expect ,,to 
,,be                              ,,to  
,,her ,,husband8      ,the young wife   
should seek to be her husband's equal1  
but not     his counterpart4--,the      
recognized centre of the home4--,woman's
     true greatness4--,man's            
helpmeet4--,mrs4 ,gladstone's part in   
her     husband's greatness4--,should   
attract her husband from the     club to
 the home4--,continuing to be attractive
 in dress and     manners4--,should     
accept both wifehood and                
motherhood4--,should     keep pace with 
his mental growth4--,guarding against   
improper     use of literary clubs1     

reading circles1 etc4--,solomon's       
picture     of the model young wife4--,a
 converted heathen's estimate of his    
,christian wife1                        
#fe-gb                                  
,,chapter ,,vi4                         
,,trousseau ,,and ,,wedding ,,presents4 
,husband and wife ruined before their   
8crane is     hung40--,the foolish and  
ruinous display at weddings4--,an       
illustration given4--,how wedding       
presents lead to debt and               
unhappiness4--,living does not need much
 machinery4--,mistake     of copying    
after people of large wealth4--,wise    
choice of     furniture4--,the best     
adornments for the home4--,the          
trousseaux of     our foremothers4--,the
 need of simplicity4--,artificialities  
that     make a veil between our souls  
and ,god1                         #gc-gh
                                        
,,chapter ,,vii4                        
,,the ,,marital ,,relations4      ,the  
subject approached with                 

reluctance4--,the marital state         
should be the most sacred of            
sanctuaries4--,wrongly interpreted      
it is the abode of darkness and         
sin4--,its influence for good or        
evil upon character4--,responsibility of
 mothers for the unhappy     lives of   
their daughters4--,commercial           
marriages4--,marriage as     it should  
be4--,the husband's danger from         
8aggressiveness40--,the     wife should 
not provoke the wrongs she              
suffers4--,marital                      
modesty4--,parenthood the justification 
of the marital     act4--,reproduction  
the primal purpose4--,harmony of purpose
 and     life4--,love's highest         
plane4--,the value of continence4--,the 
right     and wrong of marriage4--,the  
relation during gestation4--,effects    
of relation during gestation            
illustrated4--,the wrong-doings of      
good men4--,the fruits of               
ignorance4--,the better day coming1     
#gi-if                                  

,,chapter ,,viii4                       
,,preparation ,,for ,,motherhood4       
,motherhood the glory of                
womanhood4--,maternity natural and      
productive of health4--,prevalence of   
knowledge of methods used     to prevent
 conception4--,mothers should prepare   
their daughters     for                 
maternity4--,motherhood the sanction for
 wifehood4--,effect of     fixed habits 
of mother upon offspring4--,adjustment  
of clothing     to expectant            
motherhood4--,importance of proper      
exercise4--,the     sitz bath4--,effects
 of environment upon the unborn4--,why  
,italian     children resemble the      
madonnas4--,the child the expression of 
the     mother's thoughts4--,the five   
stages of prenatal culture stated       
and illustrated4--,the mother of the    
,wesleys4--,the child the heir     and  
expression of the mother's thought and  
life1              #ig-aab              
,,chapter ,,ix4                         
,,preparation ,,for ,,fatherhood4       

,the command to 8replenish the          
earth40--,preparation for     motherhood
 more written about than preparation for
     fatherhood4--,questions which would
 test the fitness of     young men for  
marriage4--,parents should know the     
character     of young men who desire   
their daughters in marriage4--,many     
young men of startling worth4--,the     
improving of a good                     
heritage4--,effects of bad morals and   
wayward habits4--,effects     of tobacco
 and alcoholics4--,how young women help 
to contribute     bad habits in young   
men4--,the years of rooting and weeding 
necessary4--,attaining the best4--,the  
father reproduced in his     children1  
#aac-aba                                
,,chapter ,x4                           
,,antenatal ,,infanticide4      ,the    
alarming prevalence of this hideous     
sin4--,how daughters     are            
initiated4--,how expectant mothers      
appeal to reputable                     
physicians4--,young women should be     

taught to associate the idea     of     
marriage with motherhood4--,destruction 
of own health and life     go hand in   
hand with prenatal murder4--,effect of  
such attempts     upon the physical life
 and character4--,life from the moment  
of     conception4--,the injustice and  
cruel wrongs inflicted upon wives     by
 uncontrolled passions of               
husbands4--,obligation of motherhood    
should be recognized4--,its             
blessings4--,the duty of the physician  
as educator of public sentiment1        
#abc-acd                                
,,chapter ,,xi4                   ,,the 
,,moral ,,responsibility ,,of ,,parents 
,,in                                    
,,heredity4      ,the duty of the       
present to future generations4--,darwin 
on     heredity4--,nature               
inexorable4--,the mother's investment of
     moulding power4--,the father's     
important part in the transmission      
of heredity4--,the parents workers      
together with ,god4--,parents     must  

reap what they sow4--,the law and the   
gospel of heredity     contrasted4--,the
 children of inebriates and             
others4--,lessons     from reformatory  
institutions4--,the outcast             
,margaret4--,the     mother of          
,samson4--,how a child became an        
embodiment of 8,the     ,lady of the    
,lake40--,the woman who desired to be   
the mother of                           
governors4--,importance of this study1  
#ace-ade                                
,,chapter ,,xii4                        
,,ailments ,,of ,,pregnancy4            
,pregnancy not an unnatural but a normal
 state4--,tendency to     neglect       
hygienic rules4--,morning               
sickness4--,how to correct              
it4--,important questions of            
diet4--,displaced uterus as cause     of
 nausea4--,mental                       
states4--,companionship4--,various      
gastric                                 
troubles4--,insomnia4--,hysteria4--,cons
tipation and how to correct             

it4--,longings4--,self-control4--,with  
proper care1 as a rule all     goes     
well1                                   
#adg-aed                                
,,chapter ,,xiii4                       
,,development ,,of ,,the ,f,,tus4       
,minuteness of the germ of human        
life4--,the embryo cell and     its     
store of food4--,its journey to the     
uterus4--,meeting the     spermatozon1  
conception occurs4--,the changes which  
take place     in the uterus4--,life is 
present the moment conception takes     
place4--,the mysterious development of  
the embryo4--,the sin of     tampering  
with the work of the infinite4--,the    
various changes in     the development  
of the embryo and ftus set forth4--,the 
changes     that occur each             
month4--,parenthood the benediction of  
husband     and wife1                   
#aee-afb                                
,,chapter ,,xiv4                        
,,baby',s ,,wardrobe4      ,the question
 that comes with fluttering signs of    

life4--,importance of wise choice of    
material and style of     dress4--,the  
blessedness of mother's joy in preparing
 baby's     clothing4--,the questions of
 dress important4--,formerly            
seemingly planned for discomfort4--,the 
8binder0 an instrument     of           
torture4--,better methods now           
prevail4--,the napkin4--,how to         
establish regular habits for baby4--,the
 pinning blanket4--,the     little      
shirt4--,baby's earliest and best dress 
described4--,the     complete wardrobe  
described4--,the furnishings of the     
basket4--,things which are not to baby's
 taste or comfort4--,the     later      
wardrobe1                               
#afc-aga                                
,,chapter ,,xv4                         
,,the ,,choice ,,of ,,physician ,,and   
,,nurse4      ,choice of physician and  
nurse of real consequence4--,choose     
a physician whom you can trust          
implicitly4--,a cleanly     man4--,the  
wife should make the selection4--,a     

,christian     physician4--,choice of   
nurse4--,wife most capable of making    
choice4--,advice of the physician       
desirable4--,she should be     pleasing 
to the                                  
wife4--,cleanliness4--,gentleness4--,a  
person of     individuality4--,neatness 
in manner and clothing4--,should be     
intelligent4--,physician and nurse      
should work in sympathy4--,a     good   
cook4--,able to converse1 but not a     
gossip4--,many such     physicians and  
nurses1                                 
#agc-agg                                
,,chapter ,,xvi4                        
,,the ,,birth ,,chamber4      ,memory's 
dissimilar pictures of birth-chamber    
scenes4--,newborn     souls welcomed to 
mother's arms and love4--,the rebellious
     mother with empty heart and        
unwilling arms4--,the older     children
 reflect the spirit of the mother toward
 the     newcomer4--,illustrations of   
conduct of intelligent children         
toward mother at birth period4--,how to 

calculate date of                       
confinement4--,birth chamber no terror  
for those who live                      
hygienically4--,ansthetics4--,their use 
explained4--,allaying                   
anxiety4--,earliest                     
premonitions4--,preparation4--,the three
 stages     of labor4--,tying the       
cord4--,the rest and joy that complete  
and     crown labor1                    
#agi-ahg                                
,,chapter ,,xvii4                       
,,surroundings ,,and ,,after-,,care ,,of
 ,,the                                  
,,mother4      ,maternity should have   
the largest and brightest room in the   
house4--,it is her coronation           
room4--,simplicity of labor with        
healthy women4--,science has reduced    
risk to the minimum4--,the              
exaltation of motherhood4--,the rest    
after labor4--,how to prepare     a bed 
for the parturient4--,deliverance of    
mother from friends     and             
visitors4--,sanitary pads4--,regular    

nursing4--,undisturbed     sleep4--,no  
binder necessary for mother4--,the care 
of the     breasts4--,diet4--,sitting   
up4--,six or eight weeks needed to      
regain     normal condition4--,the use  
of the douche4--,sore nipples4--,the    
bearing of children not to be           
dreaded4--,the joy of     motherhood1   
#ahi-bjj                                
,,chapter ,,xviii4                      
,,care ,,of ,,the ,,baby4      ,the more
 thoughtful treatment of babies than    
formerly4--,the     first attention that
 baby needs4--,its oil bath4--,the care 
of the eyes4--,the care of the placentic
 cord4--,baby's first     bath4--,its   
covering after the bath4--,the          
basket4--,regularity     in             
nursing4--,waking at night4--,rocking to
 sleep4--,quantity of     food4--,the   
appointments of the nursery4--,the      
mother and the care     of her own      
children4--,to her children the mother  
should be the     dearest creature in   
the world4--,the babies born of         

love4--,the     babies born in          
bitterness4--,the responsibilities and  
joys of     motherhood1                 
#bja-bab                                
,,chapter ,,xix4                        
,,the ,,mother ,,the ,,teacher4         
,food1 clothing and restraint not the   
mother's full duty to her               
children4--,teach them                  
self-knowledge4--,mother should give    
honest     answers to honest            
inquiries4--,ignorance leads to vice1   
and vice     to ruin4--,when shall      
children be taught physical             
truths4--,how to     teach little       
children physical truth4--,questions of 
sex should     be the most sacred things
 of their knowledge4--,how to teach the 
children in this sacred way4--,mothers  
should teach their boys as     well as  
the girls4--,how boys grow away from    
their mothers4--,how     mothers may win
 and hold their boys4--,an honest       
mother's     reward1                    
#bac-bbh                                

,,chapter ,,xx4                         
,,common ,,ailments ,,of ,,children4    
,little ailments4--,nursing babies      
affected by condition of                
mother4--,sleep and health4--,the baby's
 food4--,why babies are     restless    
when nursed from the right              
breast4--,children's symptoms     often 
more grave than the                     
ailment4--,illustrations4--,fevers      
and teething4--,vomiting4--,the cause of
 rash4--,pallid                         
children4--,chafing4--,babies do not cry
 without cause4--,need     of water and 
fresh air4--,sleeping in open           
air4--,relief in                        
constipation4--,important suggestions1  
#bbi-bcf                                
,,chapter ,,xxi4                        
,,guarding ,,against ,,secret ,,vice4   
,the mother's preparation as guide and  
protector of her                        
children4--,safeguards for tiny         
babyhood4--,cleanliness1     regularity1
 chafing1 pin worms1 servants1 nurse    

girls1 etc41     etc4--,how to teach and
 guard them during                      
childhood4--,safeguarding     the       
children with knowledge4--,inborn       
curiosity concerning     physical       
mysteries4--,how to meet these          
questions4--,sleeping     alone4--,how  
to correct vice where it exists4 ,the   
duty of     physicians to the           
public4--,symptoms which call for       
parental     watchfulness4--,results of 
secret vice4--,rewards of parental      
vigilance1                              
#bcg-bdd                                
,,chapter ,,xxii4                       
,,the ,,training ,,of ,,children4       
,the training which develops            
talents4--,when child-training should   
begin4--,the training of her children   
the mother's all-important              
calling4--,the influence of the mother's
 own character and     life4--,the      
children imitators of their             
parents4--,importance of     earliest   
training4--,spoiled                     

children4--,children's rights4--,the    
proper correction of children4--,broken 
promises and parental                   
falsehoods4--,value of tact in parental 
discipline4--,value of     parental     
sympathy4--,the mother1 herself1 the    
best gift to her     children4--,the    
choice of books and stories4--,the      
choice of     companions for the        
children4--,toys1 sports and            
amusements4--,an     appeal to mothers1 
#bde-bfb                                
,,chapter ,,xxiii4                      
,,body-,,building4      ,our duty to    
nourish1 strengthen and build up strong 
bodies4--,eradicating inherited         
infirmities4--,children inherit the     
permanent states of their parents4--,the
 parents' duty to those     who are not 
well born4--,what has been accomplished 
along these     lines4--,the relation of
 babies' clothing and food to physical  
growth4--,unwise feeding4--,the laws of 
nutrition4--,the relation     of food to
 national greatness4--,a list of good   

foods4--,the     relation of exercise to
 appetite4--,comparative value of meat  
and vegetables4--,importance of rest and
 sleep4--,regular sleeping              
hours4--,schools and nervousness in     
children4--,many children     are not   
properly nourished4--,food poorly       
prepared and poorly     served4--,the   
importance of hygienic cooking4--,the   
cause of     weak eyes in               
children4--,children and bare           
feet4--,the dosing     of children with 
nostrums4--,the use of brandy and wine  
in     cooking1                         
#bfc-bhe                                
,,chapter ,,xxiv4                       
,,mothers' ,,meetings1 ,,study ,,clubs  
,,and                                   
,,books4      ,the awakening along new  
lines4--,a better brand of              
mothers4--,books that will help along   
this line4--,mothers'     clubs as      
factors4--,their need in cities1        
villages1 and rural     communities4--,a
 rich mine1                             

#bhg-bib     ,,chapter ,i4              
,,intelligence ,,of ,,the ,,young       
,,wife4      ,out of ,girlhood into     
,wifehood4--,the ,setting up of a ,new  
,home4--,woman's ,exalted               
,place4--,earlier                       
,influences4--,importance     of        
,intelligence4--,woman ,fitted by       
,creator for ,wifehood     and          
,motherhood4--,the ,position of         
,reproductive ,organs in     the        
,body4--,dangers of ,crowding ,contents 
of ,abdomen4--,what     all ,young      
,wives ,need to ,know4--,premium        
,previously set     upon                
,ignorance4--,heredity4--,failures and  
,successes of our                       
,ancestors4--,faults and ,virtues       
,transmitted through ,heredity4   ,what 
a young wife ought to know is a large   
question1 and one which we neither hope 
nor expect to answer fully in this      
little book1 but if what we shall say   
shall set our girls to thinking a little
 more seriously and more exaltedly1 of  

the great possibilities which await     
them3 if it shall prepare them to enter 
the sacred realm of marriage with holier
 thoughts of the high duties they are   
assuming1 we shall be content1 feeling  
we have accomplished our purpose4  ,out 
of girlhood into wifehood1 seems a short
 step1 but it is one fraught with grave 
responsibilities4 ,if all along your    
girlhood way1 your aspirations have been
 high1 and you have been living for the 
best1 you are prepared for the new life 
and its duties2 if1 on the other hand1  
you have been drifting thoughtlessly1 as
 so many girls are allowed to do1 you   
will have little conception of what the 
future holds for you4  ,a new home at   
your touch is to be called into being2 a
 new altar reared1 upon which the       
sacrificial offerings shall be those of 
love1 and confidence1 and life1 and     
mutual endeavor1 and work1 not for self1
 but for that other self whom you have  
chosen out of all the world to be the   
sharer of everything that life means and

 that you hold dear4  8,and the ,lord   
said1 it is not good that the man should
 be alone2 ,i will make him an help meet
 for him40 ,and have you ever thought   
that in all these years we have made the
 mistake of writing these words together
 as one8 ,we lose half of the designed  
meaning when we do this4 8,meet means to
 have bestowed upon or sent to one3 to  
have befall one1 to have happen         
appropriately or deservedly4 ,how full  
of meaning with this definition do the  
two words become4 ,as if the ,creator   
left the calling into life of woman1    
until he saw the great need1 and then   
bestowed her as a blessing upon man3    
that goodness was only accomplished when
 he made woman to be a helper to man40  
,we are very sure that there was nothing
 in the creative thought1 of            
degradation1 in this giving of woman to 
man4 ,nothing of degradation in the     
thought of her sphere and work4 ,it is a
 work distinct from that of man1 and yet
 supplemental to it2 in many ways unlike

 his and yet not inferior to it4 ,it is 
a large half of the work of the great   
busy world--a work that is beautiful1   
noble1 helpful1 uplifting2 and when done
 in the spirit of love and willingness  
that should always characterize it1 it  
beautifies and ennobles the worker4     
,dear young wives1 begin your married   
lives with the thought that it is no    
mean place that you are called to fill1 
and make it your highest pleasure to fit
 yourselves for it worthily4  ,some of  
you have come from homes of wealth1     
where you have been accustomed to have  
every wish gratified1 often before it   
was expressed2 and it may be that the   
one you have chosen will not be as able 
to gratify your wishes4 ,be very sure   
that in the light of his love and       
companionship you will not miss the     
abundance to which you have hitherto    
been accustomed1 and take great care    
that you keep fast hold of this thought1
 and work it out into reality daily1    
through your oneness with him1 and your 

sweet1 strong1 self-assertive love4     
,together you can work up to the greater
 affluence in worldly things and grow   
the richer in character as you attain4  
,others of you have come from homes     
where the necessities of life must be   
planned for carefully1 and where        
luxuries were few4 ,perhaps the man who 
has chosen you for his mate1 may rejoice
 that the hard work and careful planning
 to make the ends meet1 which has been  
your lot hitherto1 will no longer be    
necessary1 for he will lift you to a    
home and position of plenty1 and his    
heart delights in so doing4 ,take care1 
dear young wife1 your lot will be beset 
with more difficulties than those spoken
 of above4 ,the invitations to ease and 
prodigality1 to which you have not been 
accustomed1 but which seem so delightful
 now1 will prove a snare to your higher 
womanhood and nobler self-contained     
independence of character1 if you do not
 put your better self on guard2 and all 
your strong lessons that were learned in

 your earlier life of patient endeavor  
will be forgotten in the new life of    
ease and pleasure4  ,others of you will 
begin from the same level the united    
climb towards success1 and your care    
will be1 that you do not let into your  
hearts the dangerous guests1 envy and   
greed4 ,either will spoil your home if  
entertained1 and prevent your gathering 
the sweets of life by the way4  ,in the 
days which precede marriage1 everything 
relating to it has been idealized1 and  
the awaking to the knowledge that       
ideality and reality are two very       
different things1 will come to you with 
a severe shock1 unless you bring to the 
issue all the good common sense and     
womanliness you possess4 ,the rose-color
 which everything assumed in courtship1 
is now toned down to a more sober hue1  
and it is yours to see that it becomes  
not too sombre2 but rather mingle with  
it enough of the vermilion and the rose 
to brighten the entire day of married   
life1 and glorify its sunset4 ,after    

all1 you have only reached the haven    
towards which your bark has been tending
 since your earliest recollection4      
,every day of your girlhood life has had
 in it some hope1 some confident        
thought1 some sweet vision1 of the days 
when you would be a woman1 and some one1
 the only one in all the world for you1 
would come a-wooing and prove to you    
surely that your life was planned as the
 complement of his2 that the home he    
intends to set up shall be perfect only 
when you consent to be its queen2 that  
his life1 in short1 is only waiting for 
its fulfilment--which really means      
fillfullment when you shall come in to  
fill it full4  ,should your love compel 
consent to this1 and should you have    
courage1 and unselfishness1 and power1  
and real character1 and self-abnegation1
 and hopefulness1 and help-fullness1 and
 uplifting patience1 and hidden         
leadership sufficient1 you will make of 
the two-in-one life a beautiful strength
 that shall bless the world4  ,now you  

have come to the realization of these   
dreams1 and never for a moment must your
 courage falter1 never for a moment your
 ideals be lowered4  ,if perchance some 
of you have come to wifehood uninformed 
upon all the questions of girlhood and  
womanhood1 which will prepare you for   
the sacred duties and responsibilities  
before you1 it is not yet too late to   
learn2 although this disadvantage       
confronts you1 that very much must be   
crowded into a short space of time1 and 
that many experiences will overtake you 
before you are prepared for them4 ,even 
at this do not be discouraged4          
,everything is possible to her who      
wills1 and if you will to prepare       
yourself better for wifehood and        
motherhood1 even at so late a day1 the  
way is open4 ,by enquiry you will find  
many books to help you1 and many        
motherly women1 who1 having learned in  
the dear school of experience1 are      
fitted to teach you the pitfalls you    
must avoid1 and encourage you with      

promises of success1 if you are patient4
  ,perhaps some of you approach wifehood
 with a dread of its cares and duties4  
,wrongly taught1 or wrongly thinking1   
you have a nameless dread that you      
cannot shake off1 and it distresses you4
 ,there is nothing to alarm you4        
,physically1 woman as created1 answers  
the question of fitness for the work    
laid upon her4  ,let us consider a      
little1 her peculiar adaptation1 and the
 suitability of each part to the purpose
 intended by the all-wise ,creator4     
,the nervous system is a little more    
highly organized than in man2 the heart 
and blood vessels adjusted to swifter   
work2 the brain quicker2 the muscles not
 so hard and tense4 ,in place of the    
logical1 she possesses the intuitive    
mind1 which makes her capable of        
reaching a conclusion while man is      
thinking about it4 ,she has less        
strength1 but greater endurance2 less   
daring in achievement1 but more         
patience2 less forcefulness1 but more   

quiet insistence2 less practicality1 but
 more of the sthetic2 less ambition to  
assume the great responsibilities of    
life1 but more painstaking in the little
 and no less important things which go  
so far towards making the days sweet and
 peaceful4 ,all these differences from  
man1 her companion1 but make her the    
more desirable and attractive4  ,unlike 
man in her physical form1 her departure 
from his type1 was to fit her for       
motherhood4 ,narrower shouldered and    
less muscular1 because not needing the  
brawn for lifting and laboring with her 
hands in the harder1 coarser way2 she is
 broader through the hips to give ample 
room for cradling her children4  ,the   
pelvis is the broad flat basin1 at the  
lower part of the body1 formed by the   
union of the two large bones1 the ossa  
inominata1 which bound it on either side
 and in front1 and the sacrum and coccyx
 which complete it behind4 ,the sacrum  
and coccyx are the nine lower vertebr of
 the spinal column1 five in the sacrum  

and four in the coccyx4  ,all the bones 
in the pelvis in woman are lighter and  
more delicate than in man--in whom they 
are designed mainly for strength--and   
the protuberances for the attachment of 
muscles are less prominent1 making a    
smoother inner surface in the pelvis of 
woman4 ,neither are the joints so       
inflexible as in man2 that of the coccyx
 with the sacrum being quite movable1   
while the union of the two bones in     
front will permit slight separation     
during the act of childbirth4  ,within  
this pelvis lie the internal generative 
organs1 namely1 the uterus1 or womb1 the
 ovaries and fallopian tubes1 and beside
 these the rectum and bladder4 ,the     
pelvis belongs to these organs and to   
these alone2 but how often their sphere 
is trespassed upon by the crowding down 
of the organs above1 is matter for grave
 consideration4 ,to each of these organs
 is given space sufficient1 if their    
room be not infringed upon by each other
 or by the abdominal viscera above4     

,first let us consider the unlawful     
demand made by one or the other organ   
within the pelvis for more space than   
rightfully belongs to it4 ,girls very   
often from want of thought1 and from    
ignorance of the gravity of results     
which such carelessness may lead to1    
neglect the regular evacuation of the   
bladder and bowels1 and the result is   
from the fulness of the bladder long    
continued1 a pushing of the uterus      
backward which may1 if the habit be kept
 up1 result in permanent displacement4  
,on the other hand1 from a neglect of   
the bowels1 a full rectum may force the 
uterus forward and downward4 ,if this   
carelessness is persisted in1 a         
displacement becomes a permanent        
condition1 and a consequent adhesion of 
the walls of the uterus to the          
neighboring organs often follows4 ,this1
 as you can readily see1 will make      
serious difficulty for the uterus when  
performing its functions in pregnancy1  
and brings on many nervous troubles     

which greatly affect the entire         
organism4  ,the womb too1 by its false  
position1 crowds the blood vessels of   
the pelvis1 and thus interferes with the
 circulation of the pelvic organs and   
all parts below4 ,added to this it      
interferes with the portal              
circulation1--or circulation through the
 liver1--and thus disturbs the          
distribution of blood in the digestive  
organs1 and all parts supplied by the   
blood-flow through the liver4 ,for this 
reason1 you can readily understand how  
many stomach troubles may be caused by  
wrong conditions in the pelvis4  ,as the
 bladder and rectum are capable of great
 distension1 when full they allow little
 space for the womb4 ,if when distended 
these organs always pushed the uterus   
upward1 the displacement would cause    
less serious results2 but on the        
contrary1 from the natural position of  
all the organs1 when crowded1 the       
tendency is downward2 especially is this
 so as the result of a neglected and    

distended rectum1 which causes the      
prolapse1 or falling of the womb with   
all its attendant ills4 ,and the evil   
does not always stop with this organ    
alone1 but may lead to grave bladder    
difficulties1 and to hemorrhoids and    
other rectal diseases4  ,the abdominal  
cavity1 or space between the diaphragm  
above and the pelvis below1 has also    
sufficient room for all the organs      
located in it1 but this cavity too is   
abused1 by faulty dressing1 and not only
 are the contents of the abdomen        
compelled to suffer2 but by their being 
crowded downward the contents of the    
pelvis are encroached upon1 and the ills
 ,i have already alluded to in the      
pelvis are further aggravated4  ,so much
 for the knowledge of the physical      
needed by the young wife1 and this is   
but a beginning4 ,in a book of this     
compass scarcely more than hints can be 
given4  ,every young woman before       
entering into marriage should have at   
least a fair knowledge of the following 

subjects4  #a4 ,the human organization1 
the various organs which compose it1 and
 the functions of each4  #b4 ,the care  
requisite to the healthy maintenance of 
these organs1 and the food required to  
nourish them4  #c4 ,how to dress so that
 organic functions may not be disturbed1
 and so that beauty and form may be     
preserved4  #d4 ,how to exercise so that
 muscles and nerves may be kept in      
vigor1 and the blood in active          
circulation4  #e4 ,how much rest to take
 thoroughly to recuperate the wasted    
energies1 and keep the spirits buoyant4 
#f4 ,what to deny one's self1 that      
health may be preserved and the temper  
kept sweet4  #g4 ,as a part of the great
 human family1 what is one's            
responsibility to herself1 to her       
family1 to the best use of her time1 and
 the generation which shall come after  
her8  #h4 ,is reproduction a multiplying
 of one's self2 and if so1 is she       
willing that herself1 just as she is1   
should be reproduced4  #i4 ,what faults 

and failings has she1 that she would not
 like to entail upon her offspring8     
#aj4 ,a thorough knowledge and          
understanding of the reproductive       
system4  #aa4 ,hereditary influences1   
and her moral responsibility in the     
inheritance of the generations to follow
 her4  ,to quote from ,dr4 ,wm4 ,capp1  
8,an appreciation of the situation      
cannot1 however1 be expected in the     
young who1 in the surge of mental and   
bodily development1 with its charming   
surprises of novelty1 heedlessly float  
along in the present quite unconscious  
of future dangers1 of which it is       
impossible for them to know1 except they
 be warned by trusted guides40 ,he then 
adds1 8,the best social interests of the
 race are in the keeping of faithful    
mothers4 ,their education1 both of      
intellect and heart1 should be of the   
highest order40  ,instead of any        
inducement having been offered our young
 people for extending their knowledge of
 self1 a premium has been put upon      

ignorance1 and the result has been in   
many cases disastrous to both health and
 morals4 ,the time is not far distant1  
we believe1 when our young people will  
refuse any longer to be considered1 in  
the knowledge of self1 ignorantly pure4 
,ignorance is not purity1 but is often  
the cause of the grossest impurity2     
while intelligent knowledge is          
productive of purity of the highest and 
noblest type4  ,further if our young    
wives would know themselves1 they must  
of necessity become acquainted with the 
peculiarities1 physical and mental1 of  
father1 mother1 grandfather and         
grandmother4 ,in other words1 they must 
not only know themselves as they are1   
but the families from which they sprang2
 then will they know1 measurably1 the   
possibilities of their natures1 and     
their limitations4  ,as well might the  
botanist talk of knowing the lovely     
,american ,beauty rose1 when he had only
 studied its form and color1 its budding
 and blossoming4 ,he could tell you of  

its beauty1 its fragrance1 its colors   
and its season2 but to know it          
perfectly1 he must go patiently back1   
through every member of the rose family 
which has a share in its production2 and
 study until he knows every strain which
 has combined to produce the beautiful  
harmonious entirety1 which we find in   
this full red rose4 ,so1 my dears1 go   
patiently back through the lines of your
 ancestry and learn your                
heritage--mental1 moral and physical4   
,could you add to this knowledge the    
share that environment and education can
 rightly claim1 and then deduce the     
possibilities which belong to such a    
life1 you would be at the threshold of  
achievement1 at the morning of a        
successful life1 if you are ready to    
enthrone a consecrated will1 and put    
real purpose into your life4  ,there is 
something1 perhaps1 in a family tree    
that is desirable2 but one to my liking 
must contain more than the names of the 
ancestors4 ,each must have his prominent

 characteristics attached1 his failures 
and his successes1 as necessary guides  
for his descendants4 ,it might not in   
many instances engender family pride1   
while on the other hand1 were these     
records possessed1 they could certainly 
be made a great incentive to noble      
endeavor4  ,is the human family of less 
consequence than the horse8 ,it would be
 an interesting study and full of       
suggestiveness1 to take down the books  
which contain the pedigree of our       
blooded horses1 and note how sire and   
dam through generations1 have           
transmitted their faults and virtues to 
their offspring4 ,further note how the  
possibilities of a colt are based upon  
the achievements of his progenitors4    
,alas6 ,man in his study and knowledge  
of the equine race has gotten far ahead 
of man in his study of the human family4
 ,i fancy that if a college for the     
training of fine horses were            
established1 one of the chief things in 
the curriculum would be a knowledge of  

pedigree4 ,and why8 ,because upon such  
knowledge is based the possibilities of 
the individual4     ,,chapter ,,ii4     
,,home ,,and ,,dress4      ,preparations
 for ,successful ,home-,makers4--,the   
,importance of     ,sensible            
,dress4--,an ,opportunity for           
,reform4--,the ,conditions of           
,attractive ,dress4--,a ,question of    
,healthfulness4--,what ,wives ,need     
to ,know ,concerning ,dress4--,the ,kind
 to be ,avoided4--,injurious     ,dress 
,destroying the ,race4--,the ,ailments  
,caused by ,wrong     ,dressing4--,the  
,corset ,curse4--,a ,summary of the     
,evils of ,dress4       8,home's not    
merely four square walls       ,though  
with pictures hung and gilded1     ,home
 is where affection calls1       ,home's
 a shrine the heart has builded40  ,it  
has been argued by the over-fastidious1 
when these great questions relating to  
our being and well-being are discussed1 
that it is better for our daughters that
 they should not know what awaits them  

in marriage1 8lest their heart fail     
them40 ,this cannot be best4 ,stepping  
into an unknown sphere with no definite 
knowledge of its demands and with no    
preparation to meet these demands1 will 
only occasion disheartenment1 if not    
downright discontent1 when the          
difficulties and responsibilities are   
met4  ,as well might a raw recruit enter
 the army with no knowledge of warfare  
and without having been drilled for     
service1 and expect at once to become a 
successful commander4 ,as well might one
 accept any other position of high trust
 in life1 without knowing what fitness  
was demanded1 and hence all unprepared  
for it1 the only qualification of the   
one accepting the trust being respect   
for and confidence in the employer1 and 
expect to render excellent service1 as  
for a wife to enter unprepared upon her 
high duties4 ,in either case1 by dint of
 hard and unremitting work1 a few might 
succeed1 but the many would fail4  ,a   
revised proverb says1 8,home was not    

built in a day40 ,to insure a successful
 home the home-maker must be a success1 
and to accomplish this there are years  
of thoughtful preparation necessary4    
,marguerite ,lindley says1 8,we cannot  
overdo the matter of discreetly rearing 
our girls4 ,they are to be the wives and
 mothers of the next generation1 and on 
them rests the matter of the prosperity 
of the nation4 ,the world is to be      
largely influenced by their abilities   
and strength1 and it rests with the     
educators of to-day to prepare them for 
the great work that is before them4 ,the
 keynote for harmony in mental and      
physical education has never yet been   
touched1 and will not be until their    
physical well-being is made supreme1 and
 the mental is based on its power40     
,jules ,michelet1 in his admirable book1
 ,l',amour--admirable for the time and  
for the people for whom it was          
written--says1 8,it would seem that     
,french mothers were determined to      
educate their daughters in all the      

non-essentials to wifehood and          
motherhood1 while the things that       
pertained to their own well-being1 and  
the well-being of home and family1 were 
utterly neglected40 ,again1 he says1    
8,every mother practices a kind of      
self-delusion4 ,she will say1 most      
emphatically1 #8,oh1 how ,i love my     
daughter1' and yet what does she do for 
her8 ,she does not prepare her for      
marriage either mentally or physically40
  ,when our daughters have had it burned
 in upon their inner consciousness that 
sensible dress and early hours1 hygienic
 food and habitual outdoor exercise1    
will do for them and the succeeding     
generations what nothing else can do2   
and when our young men show their       
appreciation of these things1 and       
commend them in the highest terms       
possible1 then will a better day dawn   
for the race1 and a real start be made  
for the true betterment of mankind4 ,is 
it not true1 that the majority of our   
young women emulate the fancies and     

customs upon which our young men put a  
premium8 ,here then is an opportunity   
for our wide-awake sons to set the pace 
in a reform that will tell more for the 
coming generations than they dream of4  
,says a late writer1 8,we may smile at  
but need not rebuke the instinct of the 
young girl to enhance by adornments her 
physical charms1 which nature already   
has made more attractive than all things
 else to man4 ,woman's innate solicitude
 is to please1 but this is not best     
accomplished by artificial manners or   
external show40  ,we see nothing wrong  
in adding to the first intent of        
dress--namely a covering--anything1 yes 
everything which may make it attractive1
 so long as it does not detract from its
 healthfulness and comfort4  ,is it not 
very strange that so many women of sense
 and wisdom1 and breadth of culture far 
beyond the ordinary1 will not hesitate  
to adopt and cling to customs of dress  
that are little less than barbarous4    
,does it not seem1 that among the large 

majority of women in civilized lands1   
the question is1 when dress is          
considered1 8,is it becoming80 or 8,is  
it within the reach of my pocketbook80  
while rarely is the consideration of    
healthfulness given any weight whatever4
 ,it is a lamentable truth1 but we must 
acknowledge it if we are honest4  ,dress
 is not alone a study in sthetics1 not  
alone a study in tastefulness1 not alone
 a study of fancy or fashion2 but first1
 last and always it should be a question
 of healthfulness2 and then all of the  
sthetic1 all of the fashion and fancy   
you desire may be added to it1 so long  
as they do not in any measure defeat its
 first purpose4  ,what do our young     
wives need to know concerning dress1    
that they may be better fitted for the  
responsibilities which await them8 ,they
 need to know what is harmful in the    
present fashion1 that they may in their 
larger wisdom1 avoid it1 and in its     
place adopt that which will insure      
health and happiness for themselves and 

their offspring4  ,to understand the    
dangers and institute the reforms       
necessary1 they must know the anatomy   
and physiology of the female body1 and  
what is necessary to keep each organ in 
perfect health4 ,this in a general way  
they learn in their school life1 as far 
as lungs1 heart and liver are concerned2
 but to go below the waist in knowledge1
 is considered indelicate in the        
extreme4  ,they must know that the      
corset1 in their growing girlhood1      
prevents their proper development1 and  
in their maturer years restricts them so
 that lungs1 heart1 and liver and       
abdominal organs can do but half their  
work1 and that very poorly4 ,they should
 be taught that allowing their clothes  
to hang from their hips is harmful in   
the extreme1 and induces a multitude of 
ills that unfit them for maternity4     
,let them think for a moment1 that the  
corset when worn tight enough to insure 
the form which is considered correct1 so
 narrows their lung capacity that they  

can but half inflate them1 and so a     
double duty is thrown upon the heart in 
its effort to purify the blood1 while an
 insufficient quantity of oxygen is     
given it for the purpose4 ,when the     
lungs are inflated to their fullest     
capacity1 there is only sufficient      
oxygen furnished to burn the waste      
material of the system which is thrown  
off through the blood4 ,what then must  
be the result when a half1 or a third of
 the lung capacity is used8  ,one       
physician has said3 8,woman by her      
injurious style of dress is doing as    
much to destroy the race as is man by   
alcoholism40 ,another physician1 ,dr4   
,ellis1 says1 8,the practice of tight   
lacing has done more within the last    
century towards the physical            
deterioration of civilized man1 than has
 war1 pestilence and famine combined40  
,frances ,willard said1 8,but woman's   
everlasting befrilled1 bedizened1 and   
bedraggled style of dress1 is to-day    
doing more harm to children unborn1 born

 and dying1 than all other causes that  
compel public attention40  ,again the   
corset when worn closely1 or worn at    
all1 we feel compelled to say1--because 
no woman who has worn a corset for years
 seems to be conscious that she is      
wearing it closely1--crowds the contents
 of the abdomen downward until these    
organs encroach upon the pelvic         
contents1 and the uterus is displaced1  
and the long train of ills which        
inevitably follows such displacement    
comes as the penalty4 ,not always does  
the punishment come at once1 but sooner 
or later it overtakes its victim1 if not
 before the climacteric1 surely1 then1  
at the period of middle life4  ,among   
the many ailments which come from       
displacements of the womb are           
constipation1 imperfect circulation1    
stomach difficulties1 broken down       
nerves1 headaches1 and a generally      
weakened condition which totally unfits 
the sufferer for motherhood or for any  
other responsibility of life4  ,another 

evil in dress1 which seems hard to      
overcome1 is the heavy weight imposed   
upon the hips4 ,this is1 to-day1 in a   
measure obviated by those who are able  
to wear the silk petticoats1 and        
silk-lined skirts2 for those who are not
 able to do this1 the burden is a heavy 
one1 unless great care is taken to      
lighten the dress as much as possible4  
,the well-made1 corded and boneless     
waist1 with shoulder straps1 and        
supports for all the skirts1 is the only
 reasonable thing2 and this must be     
loose enough to allow the waist ample   
room for development4 ,think of sixty   
millions of corsets sold in a year in   
,america1--one for nearly every man1    
woman and child in the land6 ,is it     
strange that our women are invalids1 and
 the ,american race fast dying out8 ,it 
is said that a ,french artist           
represented the devil in the dress and  
corset of a fashionable woman6 ,a       
terrible commentary upon feminine folly4
  ,mrs4 ,ecob1 in her book1 ,the        

,well-dressed ,woman1 which every young 
wife should read1 says3 8,the corset    
curse among women is more insidious than
 the drink curse among men4 ,total      
abstinence from both sins is the only   
safe ground4 ,a woman can no more be    
trusted with a corset1 than a drunkard  
with a glass of whiskey40  ,to sum up   
the evils of dress and suggest lines of 
study1 is all we have room for in our   
short space4  #a4 ,insufficient         
underwear4  #b4 ,the corset--which      
compresses the vital organs1 overheats  
the region it covers1 displaces the     
pelvic contents1 serves as an excuse for
 hanging the clothes upon the hips1     
impedes the circulation of the blood in 
the extremities1 lungs and brain1 and   
robs the wearer of freedom and grace of 
movement2 while it brings in the long   
line of ills which have doomed our      
,american women to invalidism1 and      
robbed their children1 if they have any1
 of their lawful inheritance1 good      
health4  #c4 ,heavy and trailing skirts1

 which burden the wearers1 and impede   
their motion4  #d4 ,inequality of       
clothing1 which covers the waist and    
abdomen1 which should not be overheated1
 with from ten to fifteen thicknesses1  
while the shoulders and limbs are often 
covered with but one thickness1 and that
 of cotton4  #e4 ,the high-heeled shoes 
which throw the body out of the natural 
poise1 and so displace the womb4  #f4   
,the general lack of thought of what    
dress should be in order to give health 
and comfort to its wearers4      8,evil 
is wrought by want of thought       ,as 
well as by want of heart40  ,our young  
wives should know these evils1 and      
institute a crusade against them1 so    
strong and forcible1 that intelligent   
common sense shall govern in dress1 and 
health and happiness be the blessed     
results1 in the home4     ,,chapter     
,,iii4  ,,health ,,of ,,the ,,young     
,,wife4      ,health ,insures           
,happiness4--,be ,ambitious for         
,health4--,the ,scarcity     of         

,perfectly ,healthy ,women4--,fashion to
 the ,rescue4--,the ,boon     of        
,health4--,necessity of ,ventilation and
 ,fresh ,air4--,duties to     the       
,home4--,the ,greatness of ,woman's     
,sphere4--,in the ,society              
,drift4--,the ,extreme of ,wholly       
,avoiding ,society4--,keeping in     the
 ,middle of the ,road4--,pleasures and  
,recreations ,taken                     
,together4--,taking ,time to ,keep      
,young4--,mistakes ,which ,some         
,husbands ,make4--,wrecks at the        
,beginning of ,married ,life4   ,to be a
 successful home-maker1 the young wife  
must be well and know how to conserve   
her health4 ,while the husband may be   
patience itself yet an invalid in the   
home1 and that invalid the home-maker1  
is a serious drawback to happiness4     
,sir ,james ,paget1 in a lecture on     
national health1 says1 8,we want more   
ambition for health4 ,i should like to  
see a personal ambition for health as   
keen as that for bravery1 for beauty1 or

 for success in our athletic games or   
field sports4 ,i wish there were such an
 ambition for the most perfect national 
health1 as there is for national renown 
in war1 in art1 or in commerce40  8,all 
women ought to know that invalidism1    
speaking generally--there are1 of       
course1 exceptions to this rule1--is a  
carefully cultivated condition1 quite as
 truly as the magnificent condition of  
the prize-fighter1 the race-horse or the
 gymnast40  ,it has become a rare thing1
 to-day1 to find a woman who counts     
herself perfectly healthy4 ,is it       
possible that womankind has become so   
susceptible to influence1 that she      
imagines herself ill when she is not8   
,we are more or less creatures of       
imitation1 and yield to the force of our
 surroundings without a murmur4 ,more   
than this1 we must admit that among the 
many a semi-invalidism is considered    
genteel and attractive4 ,true1 in the   
last few years we have made some effort 
to rise above this1 and a few have      

succeeded4  ,even ,dame ,fashion herself
 has started a line of reforms that we  
trust will continue popular1 until they 
have become fixtures4 ,short skirts1    
heavy shoes1 natural waists are sought  
by a fairly large number to-day2 but we 
dare not prophesy what would be the     
result did another turn of the wheel of 
fashion decree otherwise4 ,the agitation
 must be increased until no backward    
step is possible along these lines1 and 
until our daughters will desire comfort 
and healthfulness in dress1 rather than 
fashion1 and its frequent result1       
disease4  ,it is not enough that you as 
a wife1 come to your marriage with good 
health1 but that you do all in your     
power to conserve it in the days and    
months thereafter4 ,it is safe to say1  
if from principle and wise judgment you 
learn in the new relations during the   
first year1 how best to preserve and    
conserve your strength1 you will carry  
this knowledge and practice with you    
through life4  ,first you must consider 

health a priceless boon1 before you lose
 it4  ,in the new relations fix your    
habits of exercise and recreation       
carefully1 and adhere to them4 ,learn   
how to rest1 before you have reached the
 point nervously where rest is          
impossible4 ,do not presume too much    
upon your splendid health1 and overdo   
daily4 ,stop before you have reached the
 limit of your strength4  ,if you have  
not learned about the necessity of good 
ventilation in the home1 learn it at    
once1 and let in daily the fresh1 pure1 
life-giving sunshine and fresh air1     
room-fulls of it4 ,do not be afraid of  
adding to the fuel bill1 for warm air   
charged with poison will heat less      
easily than pure1 cold air which invites
 the warmth4 ,have plenty of fresh air  
in your sleeping rooms1 for it is quite 
necessary to your rising clear-brained  
and sweet-tempered2 and never forget    
that you will be largely responsible for
 the mental and moral atmosphere of the 
home4  ,be careful and guarded as to    

your society demands1 lest they steal   
your time and strength1 and you be      
unfitted for the real duties of your    
home4 ,home must hereafter always be to 
you first and foremost in your heart and
 duty1 if you fill your position truly4 
,be not misled by the false philosophy  
of the day1 that tends in many instances
 to underrate the home and its high     
blessedness in the life of woman4  ,an  
,eastern proverb tells us that1 8,the   
house rests upon the mother40 ,just as  
soon as you take upon yourself the vows 
that make you wife1 you become the      
mother of a home4 ,whether children ever
 come to bless it or not1 you are its   
mother4 ,yet few women appreciate the   
importance or power of this position4   
,with the grain of truth there is in it1
 there is a great deal of wasteful talk 
about woman1 and her narrow sphere4     
,even though she be tied to the home and
 the little ones1 yet her sphere is just
 as wide as she has a mind to make it4  
,four walls cannot shut in a            

large-hearted1 loving woman4 ,from the  
home blessed by her presence goes out a 
stream of mighty influence4  ,put into a
 woman's sphere all the depth and       
sweetness1 and wisdom1 and comfort1 that
 the words1 love1 home1 mother and      
children comprehend1 and dare to call   
her sphere narrow if you will6 ,to me it
 is so wide that ,i have seen few women 
who make themselves large enough to fill
 it1 and these few are not found among  
those who talk of its narrowness and    
drudgery4 ,the light of the home1 the   
beacon for the husband1 the teacher and 
guide for little feet1 the sharer in all
 the secrets and joys1 the consoler in  
all sorrows--how do the little          
annoyances and patience-trying cares    
dwindle into insignificance1 when       
compared with these4 ,what in public    
life can win her from a life like this1 
if she have it to do8  ,thoughtlessly   
many young wives get into the society   
drift before they know it1 and their    
best strength is wasted1 and they are   

laying the foundations for a young old  
age4 ,nervously overwrought1 hysteria   
comes in with its train of multitudinous
 ills1 and destroys both her comfort and
 that of the home4  ,on the other hand  
do not go to the opposite extreme1 which
 many young people in the first days of 
their married happiness selfishly fall  
into1 namely1 avoiding society          
altogether4 ,once out of the pleasant1  
social round of friends it is hard to   
regain your lost footing1 and you fret  
under it that your old friends are so   
cold and indifferent4  8,keep to the    
middle of the road10 in these things1   
and you will hold your youth and        
friends1 and make a home that it is good
 to go into4 ,as far as possible take   
your pleasures and recreations together4
 ,plan for each other in this1 and see  
how it keeps the sweetness in life4  ,a 
fresh1 bright1 young looking neighbor   
called on me a few days ago1 and when1  
during our conversation1 she spoke of   
her age as forty-two1 ,i was amazed1 and

 said3 8,i should never have thought you
 were more than thirty-five40  8,i have 
kept young10 she replied1 8and ,i know  
how4 ,if there has ever been pleasure   
taken in our family1 it is always       
planned for when ,i can enjoy it4 ,in   
the evening when the cares of the day   
are over1 or when ,i can get away from  
the cares at other times40 ,she has five
 splendid children1 and the promise of a
 sixth4 ,she does the larger part of her
 home work1 and yet takes time to keep  
young4  ,it rests with you largely1     
young wives1 during the first years of  
your lives together to fix the habits of
 our home in the duties of rest and     
recreation4 ,have firm principles about 
these matters and insist lovingly upon  
them4  ,and now a word upon a more      
delicate question1 but one which has    
much to do with settling and perfecting 
all the others1 or spoiling your        
happiness almost irremediably4 ,many a  
marriage which otherwise would have been
 happy1 is wrecked in the first days of 

the honeymoon4  ,frightened and timid1  
and filled with a vague unrest at the   
mysteries of marriage which await their 
revelation1 you place your destiny in   
the keeping of your husband1 for wedded 
happiness or wedded woe4 ,whispers and  
covert suggestions of the unwise ones   
about you1 as they allude to the life   
you are coming to1 have given you this  
unrest1 and it remains for the husband1 
by his loving considerateness to win you
 away from fearfulness to a sure        
confidence in himself4  ,many otherwise 
kind men have become possessed with the 
thought that every right is theirs      
immediately2 and in their inconsiderate1
 rapacious passion1 in the speedy       
consummation of marriage1 at whatever   
cost of pain or wounded feeling on the  
part of her whom they have taken to love
 and honor1 they well nigh wreck the    
after happiness of both in the first    
days of their united lives4  ,husband   
beware of the wrong of committing a     
veritable outrage upon the person of her

 whom ,god has given you as your        
companion1 and suffering ever after the 
stings of remorse1 that she never again 
can feel the same respect and love for  
you that she could1 had you been more   
considerate of her feelings and desires4
  ,it will be difficult for her to be   
persuaded that the animal nature does   
not control and dominate your love for  
her1 rather than the higher instincts of
 the soul4  ,it would be far better for 
every prospective bride if she suspects 
that the man who is to be her husband   
has not been informed in these things in
 a wholesome way1 either herself1 or    
through the intervention of a friend to 
put into his hands books that will teach
 him wisely and well these things upon  
which so much of his happiness depends4 
,i wish it were binding upon every young
 man before he stands at the marriage   
altar1 to read carefully and            
painstakingly ,dr4 ,stall's books for   
young men and young husbands4 ,with the 
earnest words and teachings of these    

books ringing in their hearts they could
 hardly live careless lives1 or make the
 mistakes which1 in ignorance of the    
great truths he inculcates1 they might  
otherwise do4     ,,chapter ,,iv4  ,,the
 ,,choice ,,of ,a ,,husband4            
,higher ,standards are ,being set up in 
the ,choice of a     ,husband4--,should 
be ,worthy of both ,love and            
,respect4--,love     ,likely to         
,idealize the ,man4--,the ,real         
,characteristics                        
,necessary4--,deficiencies in ,character
 not to be ,supplied ,after             
,marriage4--,the ,right to ,demand      
,purity4--,young ,men ,who 8,sow ,wild  
,oats40--,importance of ,good           
,health4--,weaknesses and ,diseases     
,which     ,descend from ,parents to    
,children4--,the ,parents' ,part in     
,aiding     to a ,wise ,choice4--,the   
,value of the ,physician's              
,counsel4--,one     ,capable of         
,supporting ,wife and ,children4--,a    
,dutiful ,son ,makes     a ,good        

,husband4--,essential ,requisites       
,enumerated4--,the ,father              
,reproduced in ,his ,children4--,the    
,equivalents ,which the ,wife           
,should bring to her ,husband4          
8,each generation of young men and women
 comes to the formation     of sex union
 with higher and higher demands for a   
true     marriage1 with ever growing    
needs for companionship4 ,each          
generation of men and women need and ask
 more of each other4     ,a woman is no 
longer content to have a #8kind         
husband'3 a man     is no longer content
 to have a patient                      
,griselda40--,,charlotte     ,,perkins  
,,stetson4      8,who weds for love     
alone may not be wise3     ,who weds    
without it angels must despise4         
,love and respect together must combine1
     ,to render marriage holy and       
divine3     ,and lack of either1 sure as
 fate1 destroys     ,continuation of the
 nuptial joys1     ,and brings regret   
and gloomy discontent     ,to put to    

rout each tender sentiment40--,,ella    
,,wheeler ,,wilcox4  ,what shall be the 
ruling characteristics of the man ,i    
shall marry8 is the question that every 
young girl has answered long before she 
may be conscious of it herself4 ,as one 
and another of her acquaintances marry1 
she mentally concludes that this and    
that trait which the new bridegroom     
possesses1 would not do at all were she 
the bride4 ,and so year after year the  
mental1 moral1 and physical make-up of  
the man she is to choose1 grows into    
completeness1 as this imaginary being is
 shaped to her liking4  ,james ,lane    
,allen says truly1 8,ideals are of two  
kinds4 ,there are those that correspond 
to our highest sense of perfection4     
,they express what we might be were     
life1 the world1 ourselves1 all         
different and better4 ,such ideals are  
like lighthouses2 but like lighthouses  
are not made to live in1 but for        
beacons4 ,neither can we live in such   
ideals4 ,but there are ideals of another

 sort4 ,it is these that are to burn for
 us1 not like lighthouses in the        
distance1 but like candles in our hands 
to light each step of the way40  ,when  
you began to love you began to idealize 
the man you loved1 and the danger is    
with most women1 that the ideal is so   
near perfection that the reality brings 
to them a rude and dangerous awakening4 
,dangerous1 because they allow the ideal
 to usurp the place which belongs to the
 real1 and because all the way along    
they are comparing the real in lover and
 husband1 with the ideal4  ,therefore1  
dear1 remember that you are human1 and  
since the real1 not the ideal matches   
your human nature1 expect the man who   
chooses you1 and whom you choose1 to be 
human also4  ,but there are certain     
characteristics1 certain                
soul-possessions1 that every young      
woman1 if she herself be really fitted  
for matrimony1 has a right to expect2   
nay more1 to demand1 of the man she     
chooses4 ,discovering that these are    

lacking1 let her not cheat herself with 
the belief that she can1 after marriage1
 school him in these missing qualities  
until they are fixed traits1 for the    
rule does not read that way4 ,the time  
for easy implantation of fixed          
characteristics is gone1 and whatever is
 now taken on1 is apt to set uneasily4  
,what sins and gross faults are coaxed  
down after marriage are very apt to     
leave glaring scars1 both in the        
husband's character and in the wife's   
soul4  ,the wife has a right to expect  
that the man she marries shall be as    
pure as herself1 and she has a right to 
know it4 ,how can she know it8 ,if she  
cannot devise a way to know this for a  
certainty1 as she values her happiness1 
let her take no step further4 ,better by
 far1 single blessedness1 than marriage 
with a moral leper4  ,that many of the  
young men who move in so-called         
first-class society1 are moral lepers1  
is as true as lamentable4 ,the          
complacency with which so many parents  

have said1 with an assumed sigh1 8,young
 men must sow their wild oats10 has     
prepared the soil for this waywardness  
to thrive in1 and the condoning which   
such sins receive when found in young   
men1 has cultivated the contagiousness  
until its prevalence is alarming in the 
extreme4  ,let her beware that she      
choose not her husband1 through         
sentiment alone4 ,sentiment is an unwise
 guide and always purblind4  ,should    
health be a consideration in choosing a 
husband8 ,most assuredly4 ,were the     
fortunes of none of the human family1   
save yourselves1 affected by your       
choice1 it would make less difference2  
but while with this generation lies in  
large measure the health and happiness  
of the next1 the question of health in  
matrimony is one of great importance4   
,when it is no longer a disputed        
question that consumption1 cancer1      
scrofula1 insanity1 and a host of lesser
 ills1 are transmitted from generation  
to generation1 any thoughtful young     

woman will consider her responsibility  
in the matter in question4 ,if you have 
the spirit of the martyrs in you1 and   
are prepared to give your life to       
nursing your husband and children1 even 
this self-abnegation will not atone for 
the wrong of thrusting upon the world   
more degenerates4  ,you would need to   
trace the history of only one such      
family through a few generations1 to    
note the mental1 moral and physical     
degeneration1 which results from the    
union of invalids4 ,even where but one  
of the parents is unhealthy1 it is a sad
 part of the law of heredity1 that the  
children more often follow the weaker   
parent1 rather than the stronger4  ,dr4 
,guernsey1 a well-known medical writer1 
says3 8,young men marrying with the     
slightest taint of syphilis in the      
blood1 will surely transmit the disease 
to their children4 ,beside this1        
thousands of abortions transpire every  
year from this cause alone1 the poison  
being so destructive as to kill the     

child in-utero1 before it is matured for
 birth2 and even if the child is born   
alive1 it is liable to break down with  
the most loathsome disorders1 and to die
 during dentition4 ,the few that survive
 this period are short-lived and        
unhealthy so long as they do live40     
,knowing this1 is it not true that too  
much has been said derogatory to the    
parents having part in choosing their   
children's companions in life8 ,if in   
anything the parents' opinion is of     
consequence1 it is here where the life  
happiness and usefulness of their       
children are concerned4 ,but the wisdom 
of the parents must be used in the early
 days of acquaintance1 before the       
attachment has blossomed into           
sentimental love4 ,then the wisdom is   
interposed too late4  ,in discovering   
the character of your daughter's        
associates1 the family physician should 
be a valuable assistant4 ,if he be a    
friend1 as well as physician1 he will   
gladly come to your aid4  8,a striking  

indication of the spreading uneasiness1 
in regard to marriage1 is given in a    
bill recently introduced into the ,ohio 
legislature1 whereby it was proposed    
that all candidates for marital union   
should be required to undergo           
examination1 and marriage be forbidden  
to such persons as shall be believed1   
through actual condition or hereditary  
tendencies1 to be unfit for the function
 of parentage40  ,our daughters have a  
right to consider the prospect of a     
comfortable support4 ,the man who has   
not already accumulated sufficient to   
support two1 or who has not in his      
business relations a sure promise of    
such ability1 has no right to ask any   
woman to join her fortunes with his4    
,love which will grow and strengthen in 
poverty1 is beautiful in sentiment1 but 
the poverty which nourishes such love is
 not the poverty which one marries into1
 but into which they are dragged by     
circumstances beyond the husband's      
control4  ,it has been well said1 that  

the young man who is a good son and     
brother will be a good husband2         
therefore it would be wise to accept an 
invitation to visit in the home of the  
one who seeks you as his mate4 ,mark    
well the consideration with which he    
treats his mother and sisters1 his      
father and brothers1 and judge whether  
it is assumed or natural4 ,if he is one 
who demands much waiting upon at home1  
be sure he will expect the same service 
of you2 and if you are not prepared to  
give it1 or are not perfectly sure you  
can reform him in this respect1 call a  
halt1 and give frankly your reasons for 
saying no to his proposal4 ,the leisure 
for repentance is far more wisely chosen
 before1 than after marriage4  ,finally 
in the choice of a husband1 the young   
woman should consider earnestly1 whether
 she would like this man to be          
reproduced in her children4 ,whether he 
has the tenderness1 the good judgment1  
the wise forethought1 the patience1 the 
forbearance1 the authority1 the nobility

 of character which will make him worthy
 the respect of wife and children4      
,honor1 truth1 courage1                 
daring1--properly restrained1--purity1  
strength1 ability to plan and achieve2  
authority1 not stubborn1 but based upon 
ability and power2 wise judgment1 and   
the unobtrusive use of it1 are the      
qualities which woman desires1 and      
rightly in the man she loves4 ,while1 in
 return she must bring to him as        
crowning qualities1 or she has not dealt
 fairly1 honor for honor1 truth for     
truth1 courage for courage1 endurance   
for strength--in short faculty for      
faculty1 not always the same1 but an    
equivalent4     ,,chapter ,v4  ,,what   
,,shall ,a ,,young ,,wife ,,expect ,,to 
,,be ,,to ,,her ,,husband8      ,the    
,young ,wife ,should ,seek to be ,her   
,husband's ,equal1 but not     ,his     
,counterpart4--,the ,recognized ,centre 
of the ,home4--,woman's     ,true       
,greatness4--,man's ,helpmeet4--,mrs4   
,gladstone's ,part in ,her              

,husband's ,greatness4--,should ,attract
 ,her ,husband from the     ,club to the
 ,home4--,continuing to be ,attractive  
in ,dress and     ,manners4--,should    
,accept both ,wifehood and              
,motherhood4--,should     ,keep ,pace   
with ,his ,mental ,growth4--,guarding   
,against ,improper     ,use of ,literary
 ,clubs1 ,reading ,circles1             
etc4--,solomon's ,picture     of the    
,model ,young ,wife4--,a ,converted     
,heathen's ,estimate of ,his            
,christian ,wife4       8,this is       
woman's mission1 more important than    
generation     even--to renew the heart 
of man4--,protected and nourished by    
man1     she in turn nourishes him with 
love40--,,jules ,,michelet4      8,the  
primal marriage was founded on          
instinct--a purely animal     attribute4
 ,as humanity developed and language    
grew1 instinct     became transformed   
into love4 ,to-day with the great       
proportion     of the human family1     
marriage has ceased to be a             

nature-guided     compact between the   
sexes1 and has become a sordid          
money-soiled1 commercial venture4 ,men  
and women are taught from     infancy1  
that one of the chief aims of life is to
 marry #8well1'     not                 
#8wisely4'0--,,john ,r4 ,,stephenson4   
,what shall the young wife expect to be 
to her husband8 ,first his equal1 but   
not his counterpart2 his complement1 not
 his synonym4 ,as long as the world     
stands1 woman must have her definite and
 specific work in it4 ,so long as the   
home exists woman will be its recognized
 centre4  ,a true woman would hardly    
care to exchange her delicate instinct1 
her deftness of finger1 her versatile   
mind--which enables her to do the many  
little and great things in our everyday 
home-life equally well--her quick       
perception1 her motherly all-aroundness1
 her sweet womanly loveliness1 for any  
other marketable thing1 or any other    
characteristic or capability attained by
 culture or training4 ,a true woman is a

 woman1 and she does not desire to be   
anything else1 unless she can add it to 
her womanliness4  ,if by force of       
circumstances she be driven out into the
 world to buy or sell1 to scheme or plan
 for self or family support1 she need   
not lose her womanly tenderness and     
attractiveness1 nor need she barter     
these for a right to stand in any       
position which she can fill well and    
with propriety4  ,she must needs1 as she
 contemplates marriage1 expect to be to 
the man she chooses1 all that he lacks  
to make the two-in-one life a completed 
whole4 ,if she have not the courage to  
attempt1 and the purpose to accomplish  
this1 she has no business to consider   
for a moment the marriage proposition4  
,while similarity of tastes has much to 
do with happy mating1 complementary     
accomplishments have also a large share 
in the true union of two lives4  ,the   
woman must not only be desirous of      
knowing about her husband's business1   
but should also seek to be capable of   

understanding and counselling in it4 ,in
 perplexity1 in trial1 in prosperity1   
she should stand by his side1 to advise1
 to comfort1 to rejoice with him4       
,there is a great deal of suggestiveness
 and significance in the estimate the   
,maker put upon the first wife created2 
namely1 8an helpmeet for him10 that is1 
8suitable for him40 ,nothing less than  
this should every woman be1 if she is to
 fulfill the highest purpose of         
marriage4  ,some one has said1 8,the    
conspicuous fact in ,mrs4 ,gladstone's  
life1 is that she was the helper and    
fellow-worker with her husband4 ,what he
 did was largely possible because she   
made it so4 ,she not merely lightened   
his cares2 she removed them4 ,she was   
the first and greatest of those women1  
who in our times have identified their  
own career and fame with those of their 
husband's4 ,she showed that no career of
 the modern woman is more important than
 that of wifehood1 motherhood1 and the  
builder of a home3 yet she proved that  

public life and civic service1 can be   
made sweet and strong1 only as the      
influence of a noble woman is permeating
 its spirit4 ,mr4 ,gladstone's public   
life was celebrated for its purity and  
lofty quality1 and in ,mrs4 ,gladstone's
 devotion and affection we can see the  
secret of this40  ,every young wife     
should be a good home-maker4 ,an        
,eastern proverb says3 8,the wife is the
 household40 ,and the ,japanese say1    
8,the house rests upon the mother40 ,o  
woman6 guard your treasure sacredly1    
this most priceless marriage gift1 the  
title and blessing of home-keeper4 ,she 
should make the home so attractive that 
no club can win him away from it in his 
leisure hours4 ,she should make it1 not 
only a haven of rest for him1 but a     
place for delightful entertainment of   
his friends at all suitable times4      
,however1 the thoughtful husband will   
not invite his friends to his home1 as a
 rule1 without a word sent to his wife1 
that she may make any little needed     

preparation1 and so be her happiest self
 with the guests4  ,i remember the      
advice an aged minister gave to a bride 
on her wedding day4 8,my dear1 be always
 so hospitable that no guest shall leave
 your home with other than feelings of  
delight40 ,she followed this advice to  
the letter and many times when busy with
 the cares of the home1 she was         
interrupted by the advent of an         
unexpected guest1 ,i have watched with  
interest the hearty welcome she gave    
them1 and the real gladness she put into
 their lives by her true hospitality4   
,the young wife should take not less1   
but more pains to make herself as       
attractive after as before marriage4 ,a 
soiled ribbon1 an untidy toilet1 may    
seem trifling things1 but they tell much
 of the esteem in which she holds her   
husband and her home4 ,not less but more
 care is needed to retain the love and  
respect of the man of her choice1 than  
to win it4 ,the pretty dress1 the color 
of the ribbon1 the manner of dressing   

the hair1 are not affected1 but chosen  
deliberately because she knows they are 
pleasing to him4  ,she should be the    
willing mother of his children4         
,marriage comprehends not only wifehood1
 but motherhood4 ,to-day this is hardly 
believed by the many1 and we may well   
mourn it as fatal1 not only to the      
future of the ,american race1 but to the
 best and highest interests of the home4
  ,she should seek to keep pace with him
 in his mental growth1 and never for a  
moment think that she is advancing his  
highest interests when she is denying   
herself that which would contribute to  
her development in order that he may    
advance4 ,the marriage contract is not  
so one-sided a matter as this4          
,everything is for the interests of     
both1 not one alone4 ,there is something
 heroically pathetic in the story of    
,nasby's ,hannah ,jane1 but something   
perniciously unjust and blameworthy as  
well4 ,many a divorce has come from such
 blind neglect of self1 that the        

interests of the husband may be         
advanced4 8,incompatibility10 is the    
plea1 a word full of tears1 when        
discovered after years of married life4 
,the thoughtful husband will never allow
 such self-abnegation on the part of the
 wife4 ,what he reads1 she should read2 
and if she have not the time1 he should 
read it aloud1 while her hands are busy 
with the household cares4 ,i remember   
well hearing ,mrs4 ,livermore say1 that 
she had her husband to thank for much of
 her mental growth1 and varied          
information4 8,he was determined10 she  
said1 8that ,i should read everything   
that he read2 and many times in our     
little parsonage in a western state1    
when ,i was busied about the work of the
 home1 he would come out into the       
kitchen1 heated as hot as the fiery     
furnace1 and read to me the book he was 
enjoying40  ,in the line of intellectual
 development there is a danger that must
 be guarded against4 ,in this day of    
literary clubs and reading circles1 the 

ambition to excel and keep pace with    
other women in mental culture1 will     
prove a snare if not guarded against4   
,all that the wife can do in outside    
work1 while not neglecting the higher   
duties of home and heart1 will only     
freshen and brighten her for            
companionship1 and give her glimpses1   
yes1 extended views1 of the world and   
its doings1 that will serve to broaden  
her horizon1 and bring her in closer    
touch with her husband in his wrestlings
 with the affairs of life4  ,the words  
of the wise man are not obsolete1 and   
are as timely to-day as when written4   
8,who can find a virtuous woman8 for her
 price is far above rubies4 ,the heart  
of her husband doth safely trust in her1
 so that he shall have no need of spoil4
 ,she will do him good and not evil all 
the days of her life4 ,strength and     
honor are her clothing2 and she shall   
rejoice in time to come4 ,she openeth   
her mouth with wisdom1 and in her tongue
 is the law of kindness2 she looketh to 

the ways of her household1 and eateth   
not the bread of idleness4 ,her children
 arise up and call her blessed1 her     
husband also1 and he praiseth her4 ,many
 daughters have done virtuously1 but    
thou excelleth them all40  ,a converted 
heathen said of his wife1 8,i do thank  
,god for my ,christian wife4 ,she has   
been such a help to me4 ,i nearly always
 take her advice4 ,in fact ,i may just  
as well tell you that ,i always take it1
 she is so wise40     ,,chapter ,,vi4   
,,trousseau ,,and ,,wedding ,,presents4 
,husband and ,wife ,ruined before ,their
 8,crane is     ,hung40--,the ,foolish  
and ,ruinous ,display at ,weddings4--,an
     ,illustration ,given4--,how        
,wedding ,presents ,lead to ,debt and   
,unhappiness4--,living ,does not ,need  
much ,machinery4--,mistake     of       
,copying after ,people of ,large        
,wealth4--,wise ,choice of              
,furniture4--,the best ,adornments for  
the ,home4--,the ,trousseaux of     our 
,foremothers4--,the ,need of            

,simplicity4--,artificialities ,that    
make a ,veil between our ,souls and     
,god4       8,be not vain1 oh my soul1  
and suffer not the din of thy vanity    
to deafen the ears of thy               
heart40--,,augustine4      8,it is      
possible so to complicate the machinery 
of living that     the very life itself 
is crushed among the wheels4 ,we may    
wrap     ourselves so in comfort until  
our breath is smothered in the          
folds4 ,the man whose wants are few is  
the man most likely to be     found     
carrying a light heart40--,w4 ,r4       
,,huntington4  ,many young married      
people are ruined before their 8crane is
 hung40 ,ruined through the false vanity
 engendered by the foolish display made 
in their attempt to follow the fashion  
in the preparations for the wedding1 and
 their start in life4  ,this could not  
be better illustrated than by an article
 in ,the ,ladies' ,home ,journal1 which 
,i quote in full4 ,while this does not  
typify all grades of society1 yet the   

same spirit of show and vanity permeates
 all4  8,a little woman who lives in one
 of the interminable rows of cheap1     
turreted1 showy houses1 came to me a few
 days ago1 pale with anxiety4 #8,kitty1'
 she said1 #8is going to be married to  
young ,holt1 who is a salesman in one of
 the department stores1 and ,i'm sure ,i
 don't know how we are to raise money   
for a wedding breakfast and a full      
choir4'  8,kitty's father is also a     
salesman on thirty dollars a week1 and  
there are four other girls4 ,oh1 the    
scrimping and saving that have gone on  
in that house to turn out ,kitty and her
 sisters fashionably clothed4 ,the cheap
 cuts of meat1 the rancid butter1 the   
beds without blankets1 the stoves       
without coal1 and the unpaid creditors1 
scowling out of every shop in the       
neighborhood when the old man passes by4
 ,he toils six days every week1 early   
and late without complaining1 and his   
wife spends his wages for1 as she       
thinks1 the best interests of his girls4

  8#8,white satin1 even the sleaziest1  
has gone up to a frightful price1' she  
moaned1 #8and ,i dare not count what the
 wedding breakfast will cost4'  8,when  
,i asked why there must be a wedding    
breakfast and a full choir1 she said1   
that every bride in their set had had   
both this summer1 and what would the    
,holts think if ,kitty came creeping    
like a pauper into their family8 #8,the 
,holts1' she assured me1 #8are          
high-flyers4 ,no indeed3 there shall be 
nothing half cut in any way about       
,kitty's wedding4'  8,the wedding       
breakfast is served and ,kitty1 7or     
,kathryn as she calls herself71 is      
married in the white satin4 ,she begins 
life in a showy1 tiny house1 chiefly    
furnished with her wedding presents4    
,she has no comfortable underclothing or
 bedding1 and not a dollar in her       
pocket4 ,but ,kathryn has her           
#8receiving days1' and is careful to    
order her cakes and caf frapp from the  
caterer who is patronized by the        

millionaire who employs her husband40   
,not what would we like1 and what can we
 afford8 but1 8,what do other people do1
 and what would they think did we do    
otherwise80--is the sentiment which     
controls the preparation of the young   
people1 in all grades of society1 in    
their beginning life together4 ,how     
refreshing to find occasionally a father
 and mother who care little what 8they  
say10 and who equip their daughters as  
becomes their station in life1 and their
 means1 regardless of what others about 
them are doing4  ,wedding presents are a
 happy reminder of a happy occasion1 but
 they often prove a snare in the demand 
for surroundings that are beyond the    
means of the recipients4 8,these are    
such very pretty and nice things that we
 really must have pretty things to go   
with them10 is the thought of the young 
people1 and in setting up much more is  
spent than they can afford1 and they are
 handicapped by debt1 and harassed by   
worry at the outset2 and what should be 

the happiest and most care-free time of 
their life is spoiled by this           
hydra-headed intruder1 debt4  ,it is but
 a repetition of the old story of the   
good woman1 who must have a new pair of 
andirons4 ,when they were set up in the 
best room in all their shiny newness1 a 
new carpet was a thing of necessity4    
,this was followed by new chairs to keep
 countenance with the carpet2 then      
curtains1 walls and all must be         
transformed and little wonder that the  
good man was appalled at the cost of one
 pair of inoffensive andirons4  8,living
 does not really need so much           
machinery10 is a trite and true         
sentiment4 ,oh for a blessed contentment
 that will make us happy with that which
 we can with propriety have4  ,the      
trouble begins1 but does not end1 with  
the trousseau of the bride4 ,if the     
means of both parties are moderate1 why 
attempt to copy the style and quantity  
of those who are not obliged to count   
their dollars8 ,a simple substantial    

outfit1 with nothing that shall not be  
useful1 and suited to the surroundings  
and station of the bride and groom1 is  
an evidence of good sense and           
commendable taste4  ,some one has said  
wisely1 8,there are no real distinctions
 among us1 and there cannot be unless we
 change our republic into a monarchy4   
,rank is a real possession of the       
,englishmen1 but we do not own it and   
never did1 and in trying to set up a    
sham1 pinchbeck imitation of it1 we are 
losing the solid strength and repose and
 wealth out of our lives40  ,when the   
bridal trousseau is wisely chosen1 the  
home will be furnished with like taste  
and wisdom4 ,the furniture that is      
really needed1 and that of the best1    
dresses the house far more elegantly    
than can a vulgar profusion of showy    
articles4 ,tinsel bric-a-brac1 cheap    
cushions and tidies and bed-coverings   
proclaim the uncultured taste of the    
home-keeper4 ,strong honest denim is far
 more elegant than sleazy satin for sofa

 pillows1 and has this virtue1 that it  
can be easily made as good as new by    
washing4 ,no hangings at all are better 
than cheap hangings at windows and      
doors1 unless they are of an honest     
cheapness that soap and water will not  
spoil1 but make as good as new4  ,our   
foremothers came to their wedding day   
supplied with chests filled with plain  
durable linen1 of their own weaving and 
fashioning1 bed-linen and quilts and    
spreads in substantial profusion2 but   
with little in the line of showy outside
 dress2 and their whole after lives were
 but the expression of the wisdom and   
good judgment of their beginning4  8,the
 crying need of many of us to-day1 is   
not for more1 but less4 ,we have too    
much1 so that our lives are robbed of   
all simplicity4 ,we are choked by our   
possessions1 as the ,roman maiden by the
 golden bracelets for which she betrayed
 the city4  8,our artificialities make a
 veil between our souls and ,god4 ,we   
have not mastered them1 but they have   

mastered us40     ,,chapter ,,vii4      
,,the ,,marital ,,relations4      ,the  
,subject ,approached ,with              
,reluctance4--,the ,marital ,state      
,should be the ,most ,sacred of         
,sanctuaries4--,wrongly ,interpreted    
it is the ,abode of ,darkness and       
,sin4--,its ,influence for ,good or     
,evil upon ,character4--,responsibility 
of ,mothers for the ,unhappy     ,lives 
of ,their ,daughters4--,commercial      
,marriages4--,marriage as     it ,should
 be4--,the ,husband's ,danger from      
8,aggressiveness40--,the     ,wife      
,should not ,provoke the ,wrongs ,she   
,suffers4--,marital                     
,modesty4--,parenthood the              
,justification of the ,marital          
,act4--,reproduction the ,primal        
,purpose4--,harmony of ,purpose and     
,life4--,love's ,highest ,plane4--,the  
,value of ,continence4--,the ,right     
and ,wrong of ,marriage4--,the ,relation
 ,during ,gestation4--,effects     of   
,relation ,during ,gestation            

,illustrated4--,the ,wrongdoings of     
,good ,men4--,the ,fruits of            
,ignorance4--,the ,better ,day ,coming4 
,we approach this chapter with a degree 
of reluctance1 because of the varying   
opinions entertained by many good       
people1 and because of the false notions
 which have crept into the conception of
 its responsibilities1 its duties1 its  
privileges1 its rights1 and its wrongs4 
,when the marital state is entered in   
the spirit of ,him who ordained it1 no  
sanctuary is more sacred2 when entered  
in the misconception of many men and    
women of modern times1 no relation is   
more of the abode of darkness and sin4  
,rightly interpreted1 and its privileges
 not abused1 its influence upon the     
individual and united lives1 is second  
to none for the development of strong   
noble character4 ,wrongly interpreted1  
and its liberties used as a license for 
unbridled desire1 while the great object
 for which the relation was instituted  
is not only not recognized1 but by every

 means avoided and abused1 it becomes a 
snare and degradation to the nobler     
instincts and aspirations1 and lets in a
 legion of evil spirits which lead      
farther and farther away from truth and 
righteousness4  ,when the marriage state
 is entered with the fixed determination
 to avoid parenthood1 while giving rein 
to lust1 can we wonder at the looseness 
of character developed and the deadening
 of conscience to all sin8 ,and what    
have been the causes which have led up  
to this state of things8 ,false notions 
of life1 low ideas of happiness1 lack of
 individuality and self-assertion where 
principle is concerned1 leaving ,god out
 of the question of marriage1 and vain1 
untaught mothers--these are the         
influences which have caused this state 
of things4  ,a late writer of a magazine
 article has said 8,if the recording    
angel is still keeping account of human 
things1 there are crimes going on record
 constantly against women1 and among the
 blackest of these are the millions of  

sins chalked down against mothers who   
are guilty of teaching this degrading   
error to their daughters1 that the      
gewgaws of fashion1 the luxury of a city
 home1 is the price for their daughter's
 body1 soul1 honor1 health and          
happiness4 ,alas6 the only happiness    
these modern girls1 raised for the      
matrimonial market1 know1 is found in   
the few years of innocence while they   
are still in the nursery4 ,and the      
remedy for this evil1 is there none8    
,there is none in law or virtue1 for    
those who have sold their womanhood for 
a mess of pottage4 ,but the young may be
 spared4 ,teach your daughters1 mothers1
 that happiness and health for          
themselves1 and strong bodies for their 
offspring1 are what should be dearest to
 a woman2 that they are more to be      
valued than all the riches of ,golconda2
 that marriage should be guided by      
nature1 not commercialism4 ,and1 young  
women1 be true to yourselves4 ,seek     
happiness and joy where they may be     

found4 ,be true to yourself1 and loyal  
to your own womanhood4 ,don't believe   
that love is old-fashioned or obsolete4 
,it is eternal4 ,it is nature's finger  
pointing the way to marriage that will  
always be happy40  ,no life can be      
imagined more miserable1 when the first 
glamour is worn off1 no matter how much 
of wealth and position and social       
standing is thrown in1 than a loveless  
marriage4 ,every responsibility becomes 
a hard fact1 every duty an unrequited   
labor1 every privilege1 at least to one 
of the contracting parties1 an unwelcome
 and nauseous gratification1 life itself
 a burden4  ,how different when love    
smooths the way1 and finds excuse for   
every trifling inconsistency2 when      
sorrows are shared1 not doubled1 when   
rights are respected1 when home means   
wife1 husband1 children1 happiness1 with
 ,god over all4  ,but we will put aside 
all the sad pictures and think of       
marriage as it should be1 and then      
measure its responsibilities4 ,hitherto 

you have1 since your majority1 in large 
measure sought your own pleasure2 now   
you have the pleasure of another to     
seek2 and you do it gladly4 ,not what is
 best for you alone1 but what is best   
for you two united in making a home1 in 
adding to the strength of both in the   
united life4  ,much has been said1 in   
these later days1 derogatory to the     
clause in our older marriage ceremonies 
which promises obedience4 ,in true      
marriages there is no thought of        
obedience or disobedience4 ,each seeks  
willingly the opinions and wishes of the
 other1 and1 so far as possible and     
best1 follows them2 but there must be no
 arbitrary wilfulness on the part of    
either1 and each must acknowledge the   
individuality of the other and respect  
the differences of opinion4 ,a ready    
yielding of trifling differences is a   
small price to pay for conjugal harmony1
 and every time it is done it adds      
loveliness to the one who yields4  ,in a
 late number of ,the ,ladies' ,home     

,journal1 ,mrs4 ,burton ,kingsland says1
 8,a readiness to give up in little     
things is the most tactful appeal       
possible for a return of courtesy1 at   
other times when the matter may be of   
importance to us4 ,it is a high         
attainment in politeness to allow others
 to be mistaken4 ,let a trifling        
misstatement pass unnoticed where no    
principle is involved1 and when a       
mistake is past remedy1 it is best to   
let the subject drop4 ,the argument of  
the #8,i told you so' character is      
always quite superfluous40  ,in no      
relation of life is self-control so     
needed1 in no relation can it be so     
subservient to our higher nature4  ,in  
the aggressive part of the human        
family1--aggressive in these            
relations1--there is great danger of    
allowing the lower nature to dominate   
the higher4 ,passion1 when master1      
overrides all other considerations1 and 
the selfishness1 which is so dangerous a
 part of human nature1 sees but one     

thing1--the accomplishment of desire4   
,no thought of the possible results     
hinders him1 and while nothing is       
hazarded on his part1 everything on     
hers--even this for the moment is       
forgotten2 and afterward he may well    
wonder how his better self was so lost  
to the tender sympathetic love and      
consideration in which he should always 
hold her4  ,be guarded1 ,o husband6 ,it 
is woman's nature to forgive1 and when  
she loves1 this impetuosity of passion  
uncontrolled1 can be many times         
forgiven4 ,aye1 even when too frequent  
maternity is thrust upon her2 but there 
comes a time when love and forgiveness  
have reached their limit1 and love      
struggles vainly to rise above disgust  
and loathing1 but it can never again    
attain to anything but tolerance4  ,but 
the wife is not always guiltless1 when  
this sad state of things has resulted1  
in what should have been a happy married
 life4 ,while the husband is the        
aggressive one1 yet she may1 by many    

little carelessnesses1 and thoughtless  
acts1 invite attentions which she       
afterward repels4 ,the womanly modesty  
which characterized her girlhood1 should
 always be preserved and observed2 and  
this innate dignity1 this strongly      
asserted individuality1 will tide them  
gloriously over many hard places4  ,the 
custom in many ,english homes of each   
having a room1 which is peculiarly one's
 own1 may seem to our freedom-loving    
natures1 a cold custom2 but is not this 
better when a proper self-control seems 
difficult1 than a freedom which         
degenerates into license8 ,true1 the    
door between these two rooms should     
seldom be shut1 but the fact that there 
are two rooms relieves of many          
temptations1 and prevents the           
familiarity1 which even in married life1
 breeds contempt4  ,there is a wise     
,eastern proverb which fits very        
beautifully here4 8,to satisfy the      
appetite is not always good4 ,this will 
the beasts do whenever they find        

provender4 ,man alone can say to        
himself1 thou shalt fast1 because ,i    
have willed it4 ,appetite thus          
conquered1 maketh man king over beasts2 
thus is he set apart from them1 and so  
do his thoughts soar above the earth1   
even unto the region of the heavens40   
,every young person should be taught    
before marriage1 that the closest       
conjugal relation should never be       
allowed without a willingness on the    
part of both that pregnancy should      
follow4 ,of course this does not always 
follow2 but allowed with the fear1 the  
dread1 the unwillingness that it may    
result1 it becomes a positive sin4 ,this
 may seem strong meat1 which almost     
borders on fanaticism1 to some2 but we  
are sure when it is considered in the   
light of the primal object of the       
marriage relation1 it will not be       
thought fanatical4 ,the very fact that  
conception may result at any time1      
proves that the conjugal relation was   
not instituted primarily for the        

gratification of the lower nature1 but  
for procreation4  ,i trust ,i will not  
be misunderstood1 in my statements upon 
this subject1 for in writing upon so    
delicate a theme as this it is very     
difficult to make one's self understood 
by all4 ,if all will read carefully the 
statement ,i have just made1 ,i think   
they will have no great difficulty in   
seeing the ground ,i take1 and which ,i 
believe is held by all fair-minded      
people1 namely3 ,that while ,god        
ordained the marriage relation          
primarily1 for the purpose of the       
perpetuity of the human race1 as his    
first command to the pair in ,eden would
 indicate1 8,be fruitful1 and multiply1 
and replenish the earth40 ,yet this is  
to be taken with all that is            
comprehended in the terms1 home1        
husband1 and wife4  ,therefore when ,i  
say1 that every young person should be  
taught before marriage1 that the closest
 conjugal relation should never be      
allowed1 without a willingness on the   

part of both that pregnancy should      
follow1 ,i mean simply what ,i hope ,i  
shall make clear throughout my book2    
that there shall be no pandering to     
sexual indulgence1 while there is       
unwillingness to bear as many children1 
as a proper manly and womanly ,christian
 temperance in these things will allow4 
,to fix an absolute rule of practice in 
these things1 and consider it binding   
upon all1 would be going out of my      
province1 and the province of this book4
 ,in this1 each pair must be judges for 
themselves3 but there needs must be1    
behind all their thoughts upon this     
subject1 right conceptions upon the holy
 relation they have entered into4  ,with
 the above rule fixed1 no other         
limitations1 or restrictions need be    
made4 ,everything will adjust itself to 
this rule1 and harmony and mutual       
respect will be engendered4  ,fix also  
the fact that the marriage relation is  
not one of license1 but of              
liberty--liberty for both equally4 ,not 

liberty for one1 and the grossest       
bondage for the other4 ,nowhere does the
 wife's opinion deserve greater respect 
and tolerance than here4 ,nowhere should
 her negative be so willingly accepted4 
,there is a higher plane of loving and  
living than the sexual nature furnishes4
 ,this has1 we doubt not1 been proven to
 most married people during those weeks 
and months when continence has been     
necessary4 ,then why should this        
overmaster other and higher             
considerations8  ,that many marriages   
are little better than licensed         
prostitution1 seems a hard thing to say2
 but when the lower nature is petted and
 indulged at the expense of the higher1 
it is a just thing to say1 however harsh
 it may seem4 ,in such cases the higher 
nature becomes more and more dwarfed1   
the animal nature more and more         
dominant4 ,let the husband learn the    
sweetness of conquest1 in the love he   
bears his wife1 in the tender           
consideration for her comfort and       

wishes4  ,there is a vast amount of     
vital force used in the production and  
expenditure of the seminal fluid4       
,wasted as the incontinence of so many  
lives allows it to be1 and prostituted  
to the simple gratification of fleshly  
desire1 it weakens and depraves4        
,conserved as legitimate control demands
 it to be1 it adds so much1 and more to 
the mental and moral force of the man1  
because it lifts him to a higher plane  
of being1 and gives to the mental and   
moral the vital force otherwise wasted4 
,rightly conceived and lived1 the       
marriage relation rounds out and        
completes character as nothing else can4
 ,it gives ample room for the           
cultivation of all the gifts and graces1
 it discourages selfishness1 it mellows 
and softens and beautifies the          
individual1 and gives a broader outlook 
on life4 ,wrongly conceived and lived1  
its results are the opposite4 ,it       
narrows the life and takes all the      
sweetness out of it4 ,and the products  

of loveless marriages1 what of them8    
,how can the children of such parents be
 other than disinherited from birth8    
,out of their lives has gone the        
sweetness and tender loveliness that    
comes of true mating1 true living4  ,the
 world is full of dwarfed minds and     
bodies1 dwarfed by their loveless and   
unwilling conception2 paranoiacs1       
cranks1 feeble-minded1 idiotic1         
epileptic1 diseased children1 for whom  
their parents are in great measure      
responsible4 ,and this state of things  
will obtain just as long as marriage is 
made a marketable thing1 and not the    
heart union of two lives4  ,i am well   
aware that many writers do not agree    
with me in these stronger sentiments1   
but studying the question in the light  
of creative purpose ,i feel certain the 
arguments in favor of unbridled license 
in these things cannot be justified4    
,further1 there are times when by common
 consent there should be no amorous     
approaches made to the wife1 and when   

none should be invited4 ,study the      
question as ,i will1 ,i can see no law  
or reason which justifies the husband in
 approaching the wife for the purpose of
 sexual gratification1 at any time      
during pregnancy4 ,it cannot but be a   
drain upon the strength of the wife1 and
 certainly can have no wholesome        
influence upon the unborn child1 and    
assuredly not upon the love and respect 
which the wife feels for the husband4   
,i cannot forbear quoting an            
8illustrative case0 entire1 from ,dr4   
,holbrook's book entitled1              
,stirpiculture3 8,how great is the      
influence on unborn offspring of the    
mother's mental condition1 as well as   
the effect over them of pleasant        
surroundings1 is shown by the following 
case4 ,a young girl attracted attention 
by her beauty and by the superiority of 
the type she exhibited over that of     
either of her parents1 and on her mother
 being spoken to on the subject she     
remarked3 #8,in my early married life my

 husband and ,i learned how to live in  
holy relations1 after ,god's ordinance4 
,my husband lovingly consented to let me
 live apart from him during the time ,i 
carried this little daughter under my   
heart1 and also while ,i was nursing    
her4 ,these were the happiest days of my
 life4 ,every day before my child was   
born1 ,i could have hugged myself with  
delight at the prospect of becoming a   
mother4 ,my husband and ,i were never so
 tenderly1 so harmoniously1 or so       
happily related to each other1 and ,i   
never loved him more deeply than during 
those blessed months4 ,i was surrounded 
by all beautiful things1 and one picture
 of a lovely face was especially in my  
thought4 ,my daughter looks more like   
that picture than she does like either  
of us4 ,from the time she was born she  
was like an exquisite rosebud--the      
flower of pure1 sanctified1 happy love4 
,she never cried at night1 was never    
fretful or nervous1 but was all smiles  
and winning baby ways1 filling our      

hearts and home with perpetual gladness4
 ,to this day1 and she is now fourteen  
years old1 ,i have never had the        
slightest difficulty in bringing her up4
 ,she turns naturally to the right1 and 
,i never knew her to be cross or        
impatient or hard to manage4 ,she has   
given me only comfort2 and ,i realize   
from an experience of just the opposite 
nature that the reason of all this is   
because my little girl had her          
birthright4'0  ,the future experience of
 this lady was however of a very        
different nature4 ,she added3 8,a few   
years later ,i was again about to become
 a mother1 but with what different      
feelings6 ,my husband had become        
contaminated with the popular idea that 
even more frequent relations were       
permissible during pregnancy4 ,i was    
powerless against this wicked sophistry1
 and was obliged to yield to his        
constant desires4 ,but how ,i suffered  
and cried2 how wretched ,i was2 how     
nervous and almost despairing4 ,worst of

 all1 ,i felt my love and trusting faith
 turning to dread and repulsion4  8,my  
little boy1 on whom my husband set high 
hopes1 was born after nine of the most  
unhappy1 distressing months of my life1 
a sickly1 nervous1 fretting             
child--myself in miniature--and after   
five years of life that was predestined 
by all the circumstances to be just what
 it was1 after giving us only anxiety   
and care1 he died1 leaving us sadder and
 wiser4 ,i have demonstrated to my own  
abundant satisfaction that there is but 
one right1 ,god-given way to beget and  
rear children1 and ,i know that ,i am   
only one of many who can corroborate    
this testimony40  ,again ,dr4 ,holbrook 
says3 8,we have evidence among primitive
 people that they understand the        
necessity of limiting offspring1 and    
practice it in a perfectly healthful    
way4 ,the natives in ,uganda1 a region  
in ,central ,africa1 offer an           
illustration3 #8,the women rarely have  
more than two or three children2 the    

practice being that when a woman has    
borne a child she is to live apart from 
her husband for two years1 at which age 
children are weaned4' ,seaman1 speaking 
of the ,fijians1 says3 #8,after         
childbirth1 husband and wife keep apart 
three and even four years1 so that no   
other baby may interfere with the time  
considered necessary for suckling       
children4'0  ,it occasionally happens   
that the wife during pregnancy is       
troubled with a passion far beyond what 
she has ever experienced at any other   
time4 ,this in every instance is due to 
some unnatural condition1 and should be 
considered a disease1 and for it the    
physician should be consulted4  ,the    
husband rightly rejoices in the name of 
protector of his wife1 and how quick is 
he to resent any slight or fancied      
insult which may be offered her4        
,nowhere can he show more loyally his   
love and respect for her1 than in the   
tender appreciation which he shows her  
in the control of her own person4 ,nay1 

more than yielding simply to her wishes1
 he should be the leader in these things
 if necessary1 and guide her into the   
stronger way4  ,the sedentary life of   
many men renders them a prey to the     
gratification of their lower natures4   
,to all such men exercise becomes a     
religious duty1 and should be practiced 
most persistently until their physical  
natures are well tired1 and the sexual  
nature will not then dominate the finer 
and nobler instincts of their being4  ,i
 was pained by the remark of a cultured 
lady1 when speaking of continence in the
 married life1 a few days ago in my     
office4 ,she said3 8,does it not seem a 
strange thing1 doctor1 that among those 
who seem most careless in these things1 
are many ministers and other good men   
from whom we should expect higher and   
nobler living40 ,i could but assent to  
this1 for doctors1 unfortunately for    
their comfort1 listen to many           
confessions of sadness and              
unrighteousness in marital relations1   

and some of them come from sources which
 the world would little dream of4  ,the 
lady added3 8,i have an intimate friend1
 a few years younger than myself1 who   
married a minister1 and one who stands  
high in the denomination of which he is 
a member4 ,they have had seven children1
 almost as fast as it is possible to    
have them1 and the wife is a broken-down
 woman1 spiritless and unhappy1 a common
 drudge at an age when she should be    
full of life and joy1 were things as    
they should be4 ,one remark shows the   
feeling which this state of affairs has 
engendered4 ,when ,i asked her why her  
husband allowed such a state of things  
to exist1 she said1 #8,he doesn't care1'
 and she said it with such a dispirited 
and utterly discouraged air that my     
heart ached for her40  ,when will a     
brighter day dawn for woman and for man 
in these things8 ,when our young people 
are trained to see these great questions
 in the light of ,god's purposes and    
have strength of character sufficient to

 make them conquerors over the false    
opinions of the world1 the temptations  
of the flesh1 and the wiles of the      
devil4  ,ignorance and misconception are
 at the bottom of all that is wrong in  
the marital relation4 ,no loving husband
 would for a moment allow himself to    
yield to the demands of his lower nature
 did he consider and appreciate rightly 
all that it meant to his wife1 his      
unborn children and to the generations  
to come4  ,there is such an             
incompatibility in the life of the man  
of high and noble instincts1 of generous
 nature1 and lofty aspirations1 in so   
pandering to the lustful1 so making     
provisions for the flesh1 and at such   
terrible cost to the one whom he should 
and does hold most dear6  ,let us pray  
and work that a brighter day may dawn   
speedily1 when the marital relation     
shall be freed from all that is gross   
and sensual1 and shall be the synonym   
for purity1 truth1 and righteousness4   
,in the ,greek1 the word for man--and   

this is the generic term1 comprehending 
woman--means a being with his face      
turned upward4 ,when we are looking     
upward our lives will be all the time   
tending upward1 and we shall draw our   
inspiration from ,him who lives above   
and ever leads ,his children into paths 
of truth and purity4     ,,chapter      
,,viii4  ,,preparation ,,for            
,,motherhood4      ,motherhood the      
,glory of ,womanhood4--,maternity       
,natural and     ,productive of         
,health4--,prevalence of ,knowledge of  
,methods ,used     to ,prevent          
,conception4--,mothers ,should ,prepare 
,their ,daughters     for               
,maternity4--,motherhood the ,sanction  
for ,wifehood4--,effect of     ,fixed   
,habits of ,mother upon                 
,offspring4--,adjustment of ,clothing   
to ,expectant ,motherhood4--,importance 
of ,proper ,exercise4--,the     ,sitz   
,bath4--,threatened                     
,miscarriages4--,effects of ,environment
 upon     the ,unborn4--,why ,italian   

,children ,resemble the ,madonnas4--,the
     ,child the ,expression of the      
,mother's ,thoughts4--,the ,five ,stages
     of ,prenatal ,culture ,stated and  
,illustrated4--,the ,mother of the      
,wesleys4--,the ,child the ,heir and    
,expression of the ,mother's            
,thought and ,life4                     
8,oh in woman how     ,mighty is the    
love of offspring3 ere     ,unto her    
wandering1 untaught mind1 unfolds       
,the mystery that is half divine1 half  
human1     ,of life1 of birth1 the love 
of unborn souls     ,within her1 and the
 mother yearning creeps     ,through her
 warm heart1 and stirs its hidden deeps 
,and grows and strengthens with each    
riper year40--,,ella ,,wheeler ,,wilcox4
  8,motherhood is not a remote          
contingency1 but the common duty and the
 common glory of womanhood40  8,they    
should know that the less children and  
the more servants in the home1 the less 
health and happiness1 other things being
 equal4 ,it is natural for women to bear

 children1 and unnatural to evade this  
function2 the everlastingly recurrent   
congestion of the generative organs1    
month after month1 year in and year out1
 without the rest of generation1        
promotes a true disease of these organs1
 and favors all the various growths     
which afflict so large a proportion of  
our women40  ,with the prevailing       
ignorance1 which has been the heritage  
of our daughters for so many            
generations1 no thought of preparation  
for motherhood has exercised them4 ,on  
the other hand1 much the larger majority
 of our young women come to the marriage
 altar1 far better informed in the      
methods of preventing conception1 or    
producing abortion after conception has 
really taken place1 than of any proper  
preparation for motherhood4 ,who are    
their teachers8 ,many who should blush  
with shame that they lend their         
influence to this nefarious business2   
this education in invalidism1 murder and
 suicide4 ,many1 who should be the      

teachers in truth and purity4 ,mothers1 
mothers-in-law1 sisters1 aunts1         
8friends10 young matrons1 who have      
become adepts in the business1 and whose
 punishment has not yet overtaken       
them--all these1 and many more4         
,christians8 ,yes1 professing           
,christians2 but who would hardly like  
to have their advice in these things    
written along side of their confession  
of faith in the records of the church4  
,they should remember that it is written
 in a larger book than that of a church1
 and written so large that all the world
 can read it by and by4  ,in the first  
steps of preparation for motherhood1 the
 mother should be the teacher4 ,that so 
few mothers are capable of teaching     
their daughters as they should1         
emphasizes the need of right teaching   
along these lines1 and the necessity of 
plain talks with mothers and daughters4 
,from a recent paper ,i clipped the     
following3 8,there is a story going the 
rounds1 that the last convention of the 

,national ,mothers' ,congress1 was not  
entirely successful1 owing to the fact1 
that only about one out of every ten    
delegates was even married4 ,since the  
object of the organization is the better
 care1 discipline and rearing of the    
young1 it has been determined that every
 delegate to the convention next month1 
must show her right to be there4 ,while 
many unmarried women are probably more  
capable of rearing children than many   
who are trying to1 no exceptions will be
 made to the rule of making the         
organization exclusively for mothers and
 wives40  ,to my mind the writer of this
 criticism has shown far less wisdom    
than those who appointed as delegates1  
unmarried women4 ,what better           
preparation for motherhood1 than        
listening to the wise discussions       
relative to the care and training of    
children8 ,hence the convention is      
conserving the wisest purpose when it   
admits as delegates the young and       
unmarried women4 ,had ,i the appointing 

power ,i would make at least half the   
delegates from this class4  ,all the way
 from childhood onward1 the wise mother 
will be instilling truths into the minds
 of her daughters1 that will be along   
the line of preparation for motherhood4 
,the early teaching of truth1 the early 
knowledge of self and sex relations1 the
 right estimate of marriage1 all these  
lessons are preparing the way for the   
later knowledge that precedes           
motherhood4  ,from the wedding day1 the 
young matron should shape her life to   
the probable and desired contingency of 
conception and maternity4 ,otherwise she
 has no right or title to wifehood4     
,while it has been proven that transient
 states of the parents have far less    
influence upon the offspring1 than fixed
 habits of mind1 yet much can be done by
 way of amending defects1 and fixing    
admirable and desired traits in         
character1 which before had been        
transient1 and thus influencing with    
greater power the minds of the          

offspring4  ,let this be always         
remembered that the stronger and more   
beautiful the mother becomes1 the more  
lovely will be her children4            
,soul-gardeners should all mothers be in
 a peculiar sense1 that the children    
which shall be given her1 may have good 
soil in which to generate and grow      
during antenatal life4  ,no sacrifice   
should be considered too great for her  
to make1 that this end may be conserved4
 ,as soon as she discovers herself      
pregnant1 she should modify her clothing
 to the comfort and healthfulness of    
herself and baby4 ,if she have already  
learned how to dress healthfully1 she   
will need to make few changes in the    
early months4 ,no weight of clothing    
should be allowed to rest upon the hips2
 everything must be supported from the  
shoulders4 ,the skirt and waist can be  
fashioned in one garment1 and so made   
that they can be let out to accommodate 
themselves to the growing need4 ,the    
dainty and pretty maternity gowns are   

everything that can be desired1 and can 
be so diversified that they meet all the
 wants of taste and change4 ,patterns   
for these can be bought at any reliable 
pattern house1 and the gown can be made 
as elaborate as fancy dictates4  ,the   
union suit of underclothing1 the union  
skirt and waist combined1 and the gown1 
are all that should be worn throughout  
the entire period4 ,if more warmth is   
needed it should be given in the        
undergarments4  ,exercise must be taken 
daily as a religious duty4 ,the common  
work which is to be done about the home1
 is as good as any system of physical   
exercise which can be devised for       
development and healthfulness throughout
 pregnancy2 however1 other movements for
 the special strengthening of the       
muscles of the back and abdomen may be  
taken with profit4  ,beginning with the 
fourth month sitz baths 7a bath taken in
 a sitting posture with only the parts  
about the hips submerged7 should be     
taken as often as twice weekly for the  

following three months1 and after this  
to the close of the period1 every night 
just before retiring4 ,the water should 
be as hot as can well be borne1 and the 
bath continued for at least fifteen or  
twenty minutes1 while a half hour can do
 no harm if it be enjoyed4 ,warm water  
should be added to keep the bath at an  
even temperature4 ,of course this should
 be taken in a warm room where there is 
no danger of a chill at the time or     
after4  ,with proper exercise and the   
baths1 there will be no need of         
bandaging to hold up the pendant        
abdomen1 for the strengthened muscles   
will do their work better than art can  
do it4  ,a word right here will not be  
out of place1 upon the subject of       
threatened miscarriages4 ,young wives   
who are uninformed on these things will 
often be greatly troubled at symptoms   
which to them may seem alarming1 which  
are not so at all1 while on the other   
hand they may pass over too lightly     
other symptoms that are really grave in 

character4  ,at any time throughout the 
pregnancy a flow of blood1 even if      
slight1 must be considered grave enough 
to call for the counsel of the          
physician4 ,pains simulating menstrual  
pains1 if at all aggravated must be     
looked after1 and not be allowed to     
continue4 ,great care should always be  
taken at what would have been were she  
not pregnant1 the regular monthly       
period1 as the greatest danger of       
miscarriage comes at these times4 ,no   
undue exercise should be taken1 but     
instead1 all the work1 recreation and   
exercise should be rather under the     
ordinary1 at these periods4  ,if        
miscarriage threatens1 the first symptom
 to cause alarm will be a flow of more  
or less amount1 and1 on the appearance  
of this the physician should be at once 
consulted4 ,following this there should 
be enforced rest1 preferably in a       
reclining position1 for several days1   
until all fears that there will be a    
return are allayed1 then the usual cares

 must be resumed with caution4  ,to     
guard against threatened miscarriage any
 young wife need only observe the rules 
which govern right living and           
carefulness1 and she need have no fear4 
,all this for preservation and care2 now
 a further word4  ,it has been remarked 
by travellers in ,italy1 that many of   
the native children bear a striking     
resemblance to the pictures of the child
 ,jesus1 from the adoration which the   
mothers give the ,madonnas4 ,the same   
truth is here again taught1 that we not 
only become like what we most love1 and 
think most about1 but that we may       
transmit this likeness to our little    
ones4 ,o mothers6 what an incentive to  
high and noble thinking1 and to worthy  
objects for our loves4  ,so far as      
inheritance goes this is too true1 but  
there is another side which we must not 
fail to emphasize4 ,surroundings and    
education1 with the grace of ,god1 may  
do very much to eradicate harmful       
hereditary tendencies4 ,yet the truth   

remains that the prevailing tendencies  
of a life are inborn1 and unless they   
are set in the right direction1 we do   
battle against them at fearful odds1 and
 with an expenditure of a vast amount of
 strength1 that used otherwise would    
give us a long push in the successful   
journey of life4  ,harriet ,prescott    
,spofford has in her inimitable way put 
the truth of this mother inheritance in 
these words3 8,no intelligence1 no      
cunning1 no benevolence1 could evade the
 inevitable4 ,for what she was1 that her
 child was4 ,you do not gather figs from
 thistles4 ,what she had made herself1  
she had made her child2 what she had    
become that her child became also4 ,in  
being born the child became all that40  
,that we may train the more             
systematically our little unborn babes1 
it will be well for us to study the five
 stages of prenatal culture4 ,in giving 
these stages1 ,i would not have you     
understand that at no other time except 
at these periods are the given          

characteristics of mind and body        
cultured and strengthened2 but that in  
these special periods they receive their
 strongest impetus and determination4   
,throughout the entire ten lunar months 
should we foster and culture all the    
sweet graces1 but especially in these   
times4  ,in the first two of the ten    
lunar months of pregnancy the physical  
nature of the little one is shaped4     
,during this time the mother should pay 
especial attention to physical exercises
 which will add to her strength and     
insure vigorous health through the      
remaining months4 ,in other words1 she  
should fix her habits of exercise in    
this period and adhere to them as       
closely as possible throughout the      
entire ten months4 ,as far as may be1   
put pleasure and diversion into your    
exercise4  ,look at beautiful pictures1 
study perfect pieces of statuary1 forbid
 as far as possible the contemplation of
 unsightly and imperfect models4 ,make  
your reading tend toward the same end   

and you will be rewarded with beautiful1
 vigorous children4 ,if it be true1 as  
we know it is1 that the dog-fancier can 
produce you a dog at will1 that will be 
marked as you order1 why may not this   
same law be demonstrated in the human   
family8 ,remember the story of ,jacob's 
sheep and the 8pilled rods0 for         
illustration in the animal kingdom4     
,during the third and fourth months the 
vital instincts are determined4 ,then   
the domestic and social affections and  
loves1 love of home and family1 are     
implanted4 ,how very much the future    
mother may do by making the home at this
 time the fairest place on earth2 and   
becoming so in love with it herself1    
that her child may forever in its after 
life repeat this affection4  8,in the   
fifth and sixth months the observing1 or
 perceptive powers are cultured and     
engrafted4 ,individuality1 form1 weight1
 color1 calculation1 time1 tune1        
language and the five external senses40 
,surely1 enough variety in study for    

this period4 ,if you are not observing1 
learn to be1 by persistent exercise2    
assert your individuality2 study        
independence in thought and action2 be  
self-reliant1 self-contained4 ,study    
form and outline until you can take them
 in at a glance4 ,if you have never     
cultivated an artistic taste do so at   
this time4 ,if you have not the time1   
talent or money to learn to execute     
pictures yourself1 you can at least     
study the beautiful things done by      
others1 and can implant the love for    
these things1 which may be highly       
developed in your child4 ,many an ideal 
to which you have never been able to    
give expression will thus be wrought out
 in the most glowing imagery hereafter  
by your children4 ,the things you have  
longed to be will find expression in    
their lives4  ,many a poet1 ,i believe1 
has been born of parents whose lives    
were poems1 but who were never able to  
express a couplet in rhyme or meter4    
8,susanna ,wesley1 with the song of     

praise and the gospel of peace in her   
heart1 bore and gave to the world two   
sons1 whose spiritual achievement in    
song and sermon set in motion a wave of 
blessing that has carried peace to      
thousands of souls the world over1 and  
will carry to the end of time4 ,herself 
no singer or preacher1 but living the   
song and the sermon that found          
expression in her sons40  ,truly nowhere
 does seed-sowing bring a hundredfold   
more surely1 than that implanted in the 
prenatal life of our babies4  8,in the  
fourth stage we develop the constructive
 and beautifying powers2 as             
constructiveness1 ideality1 sublimity1  
mirthfulness1 imitation1 suavity1 etc40 
,how much1 by giving during this period1
 these faculties in your own mind full  
play1 and judicious cultivation1 can you
 add of blessing and happy helpfulness  
to the little life growing to maturity  
under your heart4  8,the fifth and last 
stage of two months we may call the     
humanitarian and beneficent4 ,in this   

period1 the religious or worshipful     
aspirations1 spiritual or upward looking
 powers1 as hope1 veneration1           
benevolence1 charity1 etc41 etc41       
receive their impetus40  ,how beautiful 
is the thought that in the last two     
months while waiting for the little one 
to come into her arms1 the mother's     
thoughts should be especially directed  
toward the highest and noblest          
possibilities of her nature1 and that by
 so doing she may endow her child with  
these characteristics4  ,o mother1      
mother6 ,as you learn these things1     
prove them in your own life2 and then   
your work is only begun2 for you are    
bound by all the ties of our common     
sisterhood to pass them on to mothers   
less favored than you1 that they too may
 learn the possibilities bound up in    
motherhood4  ,a noble rule among the    
early ,christians was this3 8,whenever  
you learn a new and good thing1 go and  
find some one that does not know it1 and
 tell him of it40 ,a blessed rule for us

 as mothers to follow4 ,we who have had 
some of the higher opportunities have a 
great responsibility resting upon us4   
,i found a few months ago1 in one of our
 religious papers a little poem that    
appealed to me in its beauty and        
truthfulness4 ,i cut it out and read it 
over many times until the words were    
learned4 ,it is too true1 ,i said to    
myself1 but need it be so8 ,no2 it need 
not1 if we reach out for the noblest    
within us and claim our privileges4  ,i 
caught up my pen and in the meter that  
had sung itself into my heart1 ,i copied
 my own thoughts on the subject1 and ,i 
will give them both to you4   ,,the     
,,baby4  ,,by ,,emma ,a4 ,,lente4       
8,she is a little hindering thing10     
,the mother said1     8,i do not have an
 hour of peace           ,till she's in 
bed4      8,she clings unto my hand and 
gown           ,and follows me          
,about the house from room to room1     
,talks constantly4      8,she is a      
bundle full of nerves1           ,and   

wilful ways4     ,she does not sleep    
full sound at night1           ,scarce  
any1 days4      8,she doesn't like to   
hear the wind1           ,the dark she  
fears1     ,and piteously she calls to  
me           ,to wipe her tears4        
8,she is a little hindering thing10     
,the mother said1     8,but still she is
 my wine of life1           ,my daily   
bread40      ,the children what a load  
of care           ,their coming brings3 
,but oh1 the grief when ,god doth stoop 
,to give them wings4   ,,the ,,babies4  
,the children3 what if months before    
,we planned their lot1     ,and never in
 the passing weeks1         ,their good 
forgot8      ,what if1 as little        
garments grew         ,from busy hands1 
,we wrought with tender patient care    
,the soul's white bands8      ,and what 
if we both willed and prayed            
,that baby's life     ,should be a      
better one than ours         ',mid toil 
and strife8      ,so filled the weeks   
while waiting them         ,with full   

content1     ,that sweetness1 joy and   
bubbling life         ,were to them     
lent8      ,i'm sure this song would    
then be changed         ,and read more  
sweet2     ,we'd sing it to the dancing 
time         ,of baby feet4      ,she's 
such a little gladsome thing            
,the mother'd say1     ,i cannot have an
 hour of joy         ,when she's away4  
,she is a bundle full of rest           
,and joyous ways2     ,she sleeps so    
sweetly round at night1         ,and    
fills my days4      ,she doesn't mind   
about the wind1         ,the dark ne'er 
fears1     ,she laughs and sings and    
cuddles down         ,with smiles not   
tears4      ,she's such a little helping
 thing         ,the mother'd say2       
,and is my very wine of life            
,from day to day4      ,such children3  
what a load of love         ,their      
coming brings3     ,but oh the grief    
when parents fail         ,to give them 
wings4     ,,chapter ,,ix4              
,,preparation ,,for ,,fatherhood4       

,the ,command to 8,replenish the        
,earth40--,preparation for              
,motherhood ,more ,written ,about than  
,preparation for                        
,fatherhood4--,questions ,which ,would  
,test the ,fitness of     ,young ,men   
for ,marriage4--,parents ,should ,know  
the ,character     of ,young ,men ,who  
,desire ,their ,daughters in            
,marriage4--,many     ,young ,men of    
,startling ,worth4--,the ,improving of a
 ,good     ,heritage4--,effects of ,bad 
,morals and ,wayward ,habits4--,effects 
of ,tobacco and ,alcoholics4--,how      
,young ,women ,help to ,contribute      
,bad ,habits in ,young ,men4--,the      
,years of ,rooting and ,weeding         
,necessary4--,attaining the ,best4--,the
 ,father ,reproduced in ,his            
,children4       8,be fruitful1 multiply
 and replenish the earth40  ,webster    
defines 8,replenish03 ,to stock         
abundantly1 to make complete or perfect4
  8,it is a sad fact that many persons  
assume the responsibility of parents    

without any clear appreciation of its   
obligations4 ,to provide a shelter from 
the storm1 a proper amount of rations1  
and an irregular and spasmodic          
administration of discipline1 chiefly   
regulated by the nervous susceptibility 
of the parents1 rather than by the      
deserts of the child1 is their idea of  
parental duty40  ,far more has been     
written in these latter days concerning 
the preparation for motherhood1 than the
 preparation for fatherhood4 ,one would 
almost conclude that no especial fitting
 were needed to prepare young men to    
become parents4 ,because of the lack of 
strong public sentiment along these     
lines1 the many sons come to marriage   
with no adequate idea of the duties and 
responsibilities before them1 with no   
thought or knowledge of what they have1 
or should have1 to give to the next     
generation4  ,suppose a set of questions
 something like the following were      
handed to young men the week before     
their marriage1 what think you would be 

their answers8  ,do you bring to your   
bride the same purity that you expect   
from her8  ,what in your life and habits
 have you hidden1 and would you still   
hide from her8  ,what mental reservation
 do you make in respect to your         
liberties after marriage1 to indulge    
these habits8  ,what companions have    
you1 whom you would not care to bring to
 your home or introduce to your wife8   
,what 8wild oats0 have you sown that    
have left their seeds in your           
constitution to be transmitted to your  
children1 and they in turn to their     
children down through the generations8  
,how many hours of thought have you     
given to the wise1 earnest fitting for  
good fatherhood8  ,do you1 in the sight 
of ,god1 consider yourself fit to become
 the husband1 which all this close      
relation involves1 of a pure1 sweet1    
true woman8  ,these questions are simple
 questions1 and should in every         
allowable marriage1 admit of but one    
answer4 ,no father or mother should ever

 give their consent to companionship1   
much less to marriage of their          
daughters1 with men whom they have any  
reason to suppose could not answer these
 questions unblushingly1 and with honest
 eyes1 in the presence of the woman they
 seek as wife4  ,dear young woman1 you  
should know1 as you value your peace of 
mind1 what the young man really is to   
whom you plight your troth4 ,what he may
 seem to be to you1 what you have       
idealized him to be1 is not sufficient4 
,you owe it to yourself and to your     
unborn children1 to know what he really 
is2 and if he resents the questioning of
 your parents1 say the 8no10 now1 rather
 than live it1 in agony1 all your after 
life4  ,much that might have been said  
in this chapter ,i have already said in 
the chapter on the choice of a husband1 
and we will not repeat4  ,that there are
 many young men1 noble1 true1           
conscientious and pure in their sterling
 manhood we know2 and for such as these 
the warnings in this chapter are not    

written4 ,that there are parents who    
fully realize the necessity of training 
their children for parenthood1 and have 
all the way along given line upon line1 
precept upon precept1 toward this       
training1 we all know2 but that the     
number is not greater1 we sadly deplore4
  ,young men need to realize that sowing
 wild oats will never bring a harvest of
 wheat2 and that a bed of thistles will 
never yield a garland of flowers4 ,like 
will produce like1 as long as the world 
stands1 and we can never change it4  ,in
 preparation for fatherhood there is    
much that the best among young men would
 wish to change in their lives1 and they
 have this to comfort them2 that by     
painstaking perseverance any resolute   
person can do very much toward          
eradicating inborn tendencies1 and      
hereditary evils4 ,poor soil well       
enriched and carefully tended1 watered  
with the dew of ,god's grace1 will bring
 a marvelous harvest of good things1 and
 transform all future products2 while   

the best of fields1 with the wisest of  
care and tillage in the years past1 may 
grow to weeds and wastefulness in this  
generation1 if neglected4 ,therefore1   
while we have much to be grateful for in
 a good heritage1 and that we have a    
name which1 unlike poor little ,patsy's1
 will wash1 yet too much dependence     
cannot be placed upon this4 8,say not   
that ye have ,abraham to your father2 ,i
 say unto you that ,god is able of these
 stones to raise up children unto       
,abraham40  ,young man1 what sort of    
soil are you preparing for the growth of
 the next generation1 when you allow1   
for a little time even1 looseness of    
morals and wayward habits8 ,late hours1 
tippling1 mingling with the unclean1 the
 coarse jest and the coarser practice   
following1 are not good soil for the    
implantation later on of the higher     
virtues2 the danger is1 the desire for  
such implantation will be lost1 or if it
 in a measure remains1 the roots of the 
old weeds are there1 and the soil is    

cursed with the noisome seeds which will
 spring up and choke the wheat4 ,mayhap 
both may grow together1 and a harvest of
 wheat and tares be gathered1 but at    
what a cost of time and strength1 that  
might have been used in better things4  
,the use of alcoholics and tobacco      
enfeeble the mind and constitution1 and 
this enfeeblement accentuated is        
transmitted to the next generations4    
,many wives are struggling along in ill 
health that is directly traceable to the
 inhaling1 night after night1 of the    
breath of the husband1 poisoned with    
nicotine4 ,many a little one is wailing 
through its infancy1 and if it have     
strength sufficient1 inherited from its 
remote ancestors1 to pull it through1   
yet will it all its life suffer from its
 antenatal and postnatal poisoning2 and 
the chances are that as soon as it is   
old enough it will take up the habit    
which is already acquired1 to pass down 
along the line a more and more enfeebled
 heritage4  ,but the young are not all  

to blame1 they have not been instructed4
 ,they have floated along1 many times   
unmindful of the rapids they were       
nearing1 and have not awakened until    
they were engulfed4 ,and our daughters  
are not guiltless in this thing even4   
,how many times when the escort asks1   
8,is tobacco offensive to you80 have our
 thoughtless girls answered1 8,oh1 no10 
when at heart it was repulsive and      
sickening4 ,by and by1 after months of  
endurance it becomes bearable1 and they 
can make the reply with a degree of     
truthfulness2 for tobacco1 like sin1    
8,is a monster of such frightful mien1  
,that to be hated1 needs but to be seen2
     ,yet seen too oft familiar with its
 face1     ,we first endure1 then pity1 
then embrace40  ,when our dear girls    
have strength of character sufficient to
 say in response to such a query1 while 
lifting frank honest eyes3 8,shall ,i   
answer your question honestly8 then ,i  
must say1 it is very offensive to me2   
for ,i know it does you harm1 and ,i    

know as well that ,i cannot breathe the 
fumes of it even for an hour without    
physical harm to myself40  ,there is not
 one young man in a hundred1 who would  
not rejoice in the courage of such a    
girl1 and ten chances to one1 he would  
be telling his companions of the brave  
stand she had made1 and exulting in it4 
,young men of high attainment and noble 
purposes1 there is still something for  
you to do1 to transmit the best to your 
progeny4 ,make the noblest in you still 
nobler1 root out the weeds1 attain      
greater heights every year1 seek nobler 
companionship among books and men1      
choose for your mate the woman whose    
desires and ambitions are like your own1
 and your children will be a blessing to
 you and the world1 and may well 8rise  
up to call you blessed40  ,to the other 
class of young men1 we have only to say1
 there should be before them many years 
of rooting and weeding and killing out1 
and hard preparation1 before they should
 dare ask any good women to be their    

wives4 ,aye1 more1 before they should   
even dare to ask a woman like           
themselves1 for think of the double     
inheritance of such unfortunate children
 as might be theirs2 and think again how
 the world is cursed with such          
disinherited humanity now4  ,the motto  
8,without halting1 without rest1        
,pushing better up to best10  should be 
the sentiment of every young man1 in    
view of his preparation for fatherhood4 
,it is a lamentable fact that children  
have as often reason to lament their    
parentage1 as parents their wayward     
children4 ,but it is probably a merciful
 thing that most children of this class 
never realize it--merciful at least for 
them and their parents1 but not for the 
coming generations4  ,remember you are  
to reproduce yourself1 and in large     
measure what you are yourself that will 
your children be4 ,measure yourself     
carefully1 take account of stock and see
 what there is that you would have      
different1 what you would make better1  

what you would eradicate1 what new      
qualities you would engraft4 ,the little
 children1 to be1 in your home who are  
to call you father1 are not only to copy
 you when they are large enough and wise
 enough in their love to wish to be like
 you2 but they come into existence with 
inborn tendencies1 that perforce make   
them like you1 whether they will or not4
 ,happy the parents whose children never
 regret their inheritances4      8,it   
isn't all in the bringing up1       ,let
 folks say what they will1     ,you may 
silver polish a pewter cup1       ,but  
it will be pewter still40     ,,chapter 
,x4  ,,antenatal ,,infanticide4         
,the ,alarming ,prevalence of ,this     
,hideous ,sin4--,how ,daughters     are 
,initiated4--,how ,expectant ,mothers   
,appeal to ,reputable                   
,physicians4--,young ,women ,should be  
,taught to ,associate the ,idea     of  
,marriage with                          
,motherhood4--,destruction of own       
,health and ,life     go ,hand in ,hand 

with ,prenatal ,murder4--,effect of     
,such ,attempts     ,upon the ,physical 
,life and ,character4--,life from the   
,moment of     ,conception4--,the       
,injustice and ,cruel ,wrongs ,inflicted
 upon ,wives     by ,uncontrolled       
,passions of ,husbands4--,obligation of 
,motherhood     ,should be              
,recognized4--,its ,blessings4--,the    
,duty of the ,physician     as ,educator
 of ,public ,sentiment4       8,the     
destruction of the end or purpose of an 
institution     is virtually the        
destruction of the institution itself4  
,i     firmly believe that the greatest 
sin against ,god and the     greatest   
crime against society in the nineteenth 
century1 is     the covert attack1 which
 in one form or another1 excused by     
one consideration or another1 is being  
waged against ,god's     institution of 
marriage40--,,rev4 ,,brevard ,d4        
,,sinclair4  ,do our young women        
consider and really understand the giant
 evil which walks our streets sometimes 

covertly1 sometimes so openly1 that with
 eyes of discernment it can be easily   
detected8 ,this terrible evil that has  
been so excused1 so palliated that it   
stands out in the minds of many1        
dressed1 not in its hideous garb of sin 
and shame1 but tricked in taking dress  
and attractive coloring--so attractive  
that many of our matrons have pointed it
 out and introduced it to our fresh1    
beautiful daughters1 and introduced them
 into its mysteries1 and all the        
horrible sin this evil is heir to4  ,i  
speak of the shamefully prevalent evil  
of antenatal infanticide4  ,i quote     
again from ,mr4 ,sinclair4 8,a sin of   
such delicacy that people affect to be  
shocked when it is alluded to1 and yet a
 sin which is practiced1 applauded and  
commended so widely in private1 that    
even the children are not ignorant of   
its prevalence among their elders4      
,indeed a sin1 in which in many cases1  
daughters are deliberately nurtured and 
trained1 so that when opportunity is    

presented for its practice the          
conscience is so stultified and suborned
 by long training and familiarity with  
its hellish and poisonous consequences1 
that it is committed without            
compunction40  ,o mothers6 with us rests
 in large measure the righting of this  
terrible wrong4 ,are we aware ourselves 
of its loathsomeness1 and are we        
prepared to pronounce against it        
everywhere where our voices can be      
heard8 ,shall we teach our daughters    
that the institution of marriage is for 
home and children1 and that unless they 
are prepared to make the home and desire
 children1 they are committing a        
grievous sin to enter its sacred        
portals8  ,every reputable physician    
grows sick at heart many times1 when he 
is approached by these untaught and     
unscrupulous young and older women1 to  
ask him to be a party with them in the  
crime of murder1 and possible suicide4  
8,the sin is none the less heinous1 and 
the crime none the less wicked when it  

is performed by those who affect #8the  
best society1' or who with unworthy     
hands take the bread and wine at the    
communion table of a dying ,lord1 who   
pronounced ,his blessing on the pure in 
heart40  ,when an untaught young wife   
comes to us with a desire that she may  
be 8helped out of her difficulty10 and  
then proceeds to tell us that she does  
not want children so early in her       
married life2 that she wants to enjoy   
herself first for a while1 or she wants 
to make a visit1 or take a trip to      
,europe and cannot be in that condition2
 and that she has tried all the simple  
means that she knows of1 but has        
accomplished nothing2 we sit down       
patiently and tell her from the         
beginning the sin and danger of it all2 
danger1 not only to life1 but also to   
all the higher instincts of our nature2 
for when one deliberately takes a life1 
the conscience is seared to all sin1 and
 the pathway down to the lower depths is
 an easy one4 ,i can assure you1 this is

 no easy task1 for we have the teaching 
of friends and relatives1 yes1 and ,i   
grieve to say1 sometimes of mothers to  
undo6 ,oh the sorrow of it6  ,young     
women1 with you rests the hope of the   
world in the betterment of this sad     
state of things4 ,know that when you    
enter marriage with any other thought   
than that you will be the joyful mother 
of children1 you commit a grievous sin4 
,know that any plan you may have made to
 obviate this1 indefinitely1 while      
allowing the close marriage relation to 
exist1 is sinful and makes you partaker 
with abortionists1 and those who would  
destroy the holy institution of home and
 fireside4  ,when women who have grown  
older in years and experience enter my  
office with their specious reasoning1   
women who have no excuse for not knowing
 the evil thing which they are          
advocating1 ,i feel like denouncing them
 before the world as the enemies of ,god
 and womankind4 ,oh the shame that woman
 who should be the helper and           

inspiration in all good things should so
 lend her hand and heart to evil6  ,but 
the sin does not always stop with the   
murder4 ,many times her own life is a   
sacrifice to her sin1 or if not this1   
she is doomed to invalidism the         
remainder of her days4 ,truly1 as ,mr4  
,sinclair says1 8,many a woman is buried
 with ,christian burial1 over whose     
grave ought to be placed a tombstone    
with this inscription3 8,here lies a    
suicide1 assisted to her grave by her   
murderers--her husband1 her female      
counsellors1 and the conscienceless     
physician400  ,there is no excuse       
whatever for the crime of abortion4 ,the
 arguments are many that are made to    
ease the conscience1 or palliate the    
sin1 but not one of them will hold1     
before a tribunal of honest clean       
thinking people1 with ,god on the bench4
  ,it is wicked1 say they1 to bring so  
many children into the world that cannot
 be well taken care of2 8,i really have 
not the strength to take care of any    

more20 and they go on in their sinful   
practice until health is destroyed or   
life sacrificed4 8,i do not think that  
women should give their lives to bearing
 children1 and have no time for mental  
improvement10 they say again1 while they
 spend a great part of their time in    
devising means to prevent conception1 or
 in worry1 lest they may not succeed1   
while the little fragment of time and   
strength is given to the pursuit of     
8culture10 and at the age1 when1 had    
they borne their children and been      
joyful in training them1 they would have
 been vigorous and strong for years of  
mental work and wide culture4 ,at this  
very time because of what they have done
 they are pale broken-down women1 with  
no strength or ambition left for nobler 
pursuits than groaning over their       
ill-health or seeking alleviation for   
their sufferings4  ,but their sin does  
not stop with themselves1 but is written
 legibly upon the lives of the children1
 who1 in spite of their earnest endeavor

 to the contrary1 have stemmed the tide 
of evil1 and come to maturity of term1  
if not of vigor4  ,a late writer in a   
,christian journal has said1 8,there are
 thousands of miserable objects in our  
insane asylums1 hospitals1 yea1 in our  
jails1 who may honestly complain1 #8from
 our mothers cometh our misery4' ,the   
attempt to commit prenatal murder is    
frightfully common--as all women and    
physicians know--and where it does not  
kill1 malformations1 idiocy1 and        
distorted moral powers are too often the
 results4 ,for no one ever breaks into  
#8the house of life1' and is innocent or
 unpunished4 ,prenatal murder and       
self-murder walk hand in hand1 crying to
 heaven as loudly as did the blood of   
,abel4 ,and should these women          
personally seem to escape1 yet there    
will come a day when ,god will ask them 
one terrible question1 #8,where are the 
children that ,i gave you8'0  ,again    
they say1 8,there is no harm until there
 is life40 ,the moment conception takes 

place1 that moment there is life2 and   
whether the crime be committed in six   
hours1 six weeks or six months1 the sin 
is in all cases of equal enormity4      
,murder is in the intent1 not in the act
 alone4 ,when you intend to rid yourself
 of the little life if possible1 you    
have committed murder as surely as if   
the murdered child lay dead in your     
arms1 or it may chance live to denounce 
you with its disinherited life1 if not  
with its words4  ,but ,i would not      
denounce woman alone1 for the wrong does
 not lie wholly with her4 ,dr4 ,holbrook
 in an article on sanitary parentage1   
says3 8,that which polite language veils
 under the designation #8social evil1'  
and which desolates so many happy homes1
 and brings its quick harvest of misery1
 remorse1 disease and death1 chiefly    
lives because man does not know aright1 
does not truly reverence and honor      
woman1 and keep in subjection that which
 may become one of the monster passions 
in his heart1 and is thus continued from

 generation to generation40  ,often1 we 
believe1 are women driven to abortion1  
by maternity being thrust upon them1    
when they are already weakened by too   
frequent child-bearing4  ,a case of this
 kind came into my office a few days    
since4 ,a bright1 pretty little woman1  
scarcely more than a girl1 sat down     
before me with the exclamation1         
8,doctor1 ,i have missed my monthly     
period1 and have come in to have you    
give me something to set me right40     
8,are you married80 ,i questioned4      
8,yes10 she answered4 8,do you not think
 that you may be pregnant80 ,i enquired4
 8,yes3 ,i fear that ,i am10 she cried1 
with tears in her voice2 8but ,i have   
one little one1 not yet two years old1  
and a baby of eight months1 and it does 
not seem that ,i can have another one   
now40 ,she was but twenty-two years old1
 and ,i could not help mentally         
calculating1 what the number would be   
were she obliged to go on at this rate1 
until the child-bearing age was passed4 

,my heart ached for the child mother2   
but ,i could say to her only this3 8,my 
dear1 do you think it would be better   
for you to endanger your health1 and    
perhaps take your life1 and leave your  
two babies without a mother1 than to go 
on patiently and have this baby1 and    
live to care for them all80  ,i said to 
her1 8,never allow yourself to think for
 a moment1 of taking the life of a      
little unborn child2 it is murder1 dear1
 and nothing else4 ,i know you have not 
thought of it in this light4 ,go home1  
talk it over with your husband candidly1
 tell him that you will never be guilty 
of the sin of abortion1 no matter how   
many children you have4 ,insist upon the
 better way1 namely1 such continence in 
the marriage relation as shall not      
impose the burden of maternity upon you 
oftener than once in two or three years4
 ,help him to see that the selfish      
gratification of his desires are hardly 
worth while when secured at such a cost 
to your health and comfort4 ,make him to

 see that the children that come from   
such self-indulgence cannot be the      
strong1 vigorous and noble children they
 would be if generated under            
self-control4 ,occupy separate beds1 and
 help him by every means in your power  
to attain self-control1 and become      
master of his passions1 not their       
slave40 ,i do not know the outcome1 but 
,i feel certain that the little woman   
went home with something to think about1
 and ,i trust with profit4  ,above all1 
my dear young wives1 do not             
underestimate the mighty1 unequalled    
power of the mother of several children4
 ,and know this1 that no work is so     
productive of true culture1 in your own 
life1 as the proper bearing and rearing 
of children4 ,nothing so cultivates all 
the virtues that alone serve as the     
foundation of true education and wisdom4
 ,as your children grow you will be     
inspired to keep pace with them1 and    
when they have gone out from the home   
nest1 you will find ample time to read  

and study1 and you will have the        
consciousness of a life well spent to   
urge you on4  ,i believe firmly1 that   
for the best results1 offspring should  
be limited1 but limited in a legitimate 
way4 ,when temperate lives are lived1   
not more than five or six children come 
into a home1 and this is but a good     
family4 ,mothers of such families if    
they live within their means and 8look  
well to the ways of their households10  
are not fretted1 broken down women1 but 
hale and hearty1 and as children mature 
are ready for years of strenuous living1
 and community service4  ,no thwarting  
of nature has any ground for excuse1 and
 the so-called physician who peddles any
 theory or device for so doing has no   
right to the name1 and has no           
recognition among the ranks of the      
reputable of the honored profession of  
medicine4 ,his work is done in the dark 
and under the pledge of secrecy1 and so 
he marks himself of the abode of ,satan4
  ,no honorable physician can say1 8,i  

have never lent myself as a party to    
this crime1 hence my conscience is      
clear1 my duty done40 ,no3 your duty is 
not done4 ,physicians stand or should   
stand as the guardsmen of the unborn    
generations1 and as educators of public 
opinion along these lines2 and their    
pen1 their voice and their practice     
should form a trinity of power against  
the inroads of this alarmingly          
threatening evil--threatening to the    
best instincts of the moral nature of   
our time2 threatening to the future of  
our land1 when we consider the very few 
children born into our better homes1    
while in the byways1 among the lower    
classes1 the little ones swarm in       
hot-beds of sin4  ,at least four        
children should be born and grow to     
maturity in every ,american home in our 
land1 to keep good the present number of
 our people4 ,the average is far below  
this1 and the result is that the        
,american race is fast dying out4  ,we  
stand at the head of all the nations in 

the extent and enormity of this crime4  
,shall we not stand at the head in a    
true reformation8     ,,chapter ,,xi4   
,,the ,,moral ,,responsibility ,,of     
,,parents ,,in ,,heredity4      ,the    
,duty of the ,present to ,future        
,generations4--,darwin on               
,heredity4--,nature ,inexorable4--,the  
,mother's ,investment of     ,moulding  
,power4--,the ,father's ,important ,part
 in the ,transmission     of            
,heredity4--,the ,parents ,workers      
,together with ,god4--,parents     must 
,reap ,what ,they ,sow4--,the ,law and  
the ,gospel of ,heredity                
,contrasted4--,the ,children of         
,inebriates and ,others4--,lessons      
from ,reformatory ,institutions4--,the  
,outcast ,margaret4--,the     ,mother of
 ,samson4--,how a ,child ,became an     
,embodiment of 8,the     ,lady of the   
,lake40--,the ,woman ,who ,desired to be
 the ,mother of                         
,governors4--,importance of this ,study4
       8,often do the spirits of great  

events stride on before the events1     
,and in to-day already walks to-morrow40
      8,it is not just as we take it1   
,this mystical life of ours1     ,life's
 harvest will yield as we make it       
,a harvest of thorns or of flowers40    
8,instead of thy fathers shall be thy   
children1 whom thou mayest     make     
princes in all the earth40  ,francis    
,galton says3 8,i conclude that each    
generation has enormous powers over the 
natural gifts of those that follow1 and 
maintain that it is a duty that we owe  
to humanity to investigate the range of 
that power1 and to exercise it in a way 
that1 without being unwise toward       
ourselves1 shall be most advantageous to
 the future inhabitants of the earth40  
,mr4 ,darwin maintains in his theory of 
pangenesis1 that the gemmules of        
innumerable qualities1 derived from     
ancestral sources1 circulate in the     
blood and propagate themselves          
generation after generation still in the
 state of gemmules1 but fail in         

developing themselves into cells1       
because other antagonistic gemmules are 
prepotent and overmaster them1 in the   
struggle for points of attachment4      
,hence there is a vastly larger number  
of capabilities in every human being    
than ever find expression1 and for every
 patent element there are countless     
latent ones4 ,the character of a man is 
wholly formed through these gemmules    
that have succeeded in attaching        
themselves1 the remainder that have been
 overpowered by their antagonists count 
for nothing4  ,again he says1 8,the     
average proportion of gemmules modified 
by individual variation under various   
conditions preceding birth clearly      
admits of being determined by           
observation1 for the children will in   
the average1 inherit the gemmules in the
 same proportion that they existed in   
their parents4 ,it follows that the     
human race has a large control over its 
future forms of activity1 far more than 
an individual has over his own2 since   

the freedom of individuals is narrowly  
restricted by the cost in energy of     
exercising their wills40  ,we might go  
on indefinitely making quotations from  
undisputed authorities on this great    
science of heredity1 for to-day it has  
become almost an exact science4 ,in view
 of this the exclamation of a writer in 
the ,science of ,health is very         
pertinent4 8,who shall deliver us from  
our ancestors8 ,and if the fathers have 
eaten sour grapes1 who on earth shall   
prevent the children's teeth being set  
on edge8 ,not nature4 ,she is           
inexorable4 ,an eye for an eye1 and a   
tooth for a tooth1 is her law4 ,but     
between the unbroken law and its        
entailed consequences stands the mother1
 invested with a power which makes her  
either a ,nemesis or a redeemer4 ,this  
is the unwritten law in every mother's  
heart1 and ,i believe that in all the   
ages there have been women who have     
hearkened unto its voice4 ,the son that 
,hannah prayed so earnestly for1 and    

gave unto the ,lord before his birth1   
inherited a soul that had been to school
 before it drew its first breath4       
,slaves suckle slaves2 pure and         
enthusiastic women bring forth saints   
and heroes4 ,all history attests the    
fact that great men had great mothers40 
,that both in the law and the gospel of 
heredity1 of the two parents1 the mother
 has a far greater influence we believe 
firmly2 yet this does not relieve the   
father from responsibility4 ,the germ   
from him1 which is 8bone of his bone1   
flesh of his flesh10 contributed to the 
formation of the child in its beginning1
 must be of high nature and cultivation1
 seed from a noble sire1 or the little  
life is dwarfed from the outset1 and the
 mother must expend much precious time  
and strength in making good the terrible
 deficiencies which such a beginning    
entails1 and then mourn that so much can
 never be overcome4  ,what our children 
become depends upon two conditions2 what
 they are at birth1 and what environment

 makes them4 ,that the parents may make 
of their children almost what they will1
 that they are in a peculiar sense1     
workers together with ,god in the       
creative and formative periods1 that    
they may by self-culture and painstaking
 reproduce a generation superior to     
themselves1 are all truths big with     
responsibility and meaning4  ,that we   
reap what we sow1 is an inevitable law  
in the mental and moral as in the       
physical sphere4 ,while there is this   
great and awful law1 ,i am so thankful  
that we can emphasize the far greater   
and wider reaching gospel of heredity4  
,into this we can put all the sweet     
promises whose fulfillment is sure--if  
we are ever reaching up to the higher   
and nobler aspirations of our nature1   
and not degenerating to the lower tastes
 and inclinations4  ,for the law1 we    
have1 8visiting the iniquities of the   
fathers upon the children unto the third
 and fourth generation40 ,for the       
gospel1 8,and showing mercy unto        

thousands of 7generations7 of them that 
love ,me and keep ,my commandments40    
,for the law1 8,the fathers have eaten  
sour grapes and the children's teeth are
 set on edge40 ,for law and gospel both1
 8,as is the mother so is her daughter40
  ,for gospel1 8,instead of thy fathers 
shall be thy children whom thou mayest  
make princes in all the earth40 ,for    
law1 the sad history of the children of 
inebriates1 of tobacco users and of the 
insane2 also the history of many        
children born in polygamous ,utah1 of   
jealous mothers outraged at the loss or 
division of the love of their husbands4 
,ugly1 misshapen children1 mentally and 
morally4 8,disinherited childhood10 is  
written upon every line of their        
distorted lives4 ,go with our missionary
 teachers and learn from the aching     
hearts of these mothers1 the stories of 
anguish that in the passing stamped     
indelibly the characters of the little  
ones unborn2 listen while they tell you 
that they know only too well1 when their

 children were stamped with the         
vindictive revengeful spirits which so  
many of them manifest2 or were bowed    
down with a burden of sorrow too heavy  
to be borne4 ,hear the story of one such
 little one that literally wept its     
short life away1 without a cry1 getting 
from its mother an inheritance of tears1
 shed in silence under a pride that     
forbade a moan4  ,visit our almshouses  
and reformatories1 our orphanages1 our  
idiot asylums1 and get a few of the     
histories of the little inmates2 trace  
them back for three1 four or five       
generations1 and see how unmistakably   
woe has generated woe1 crime begotten   
crime1 and disease brought forth        
disease4  ,let us study this1 the dark  
side of the picture of heredity1 and    
seriously ask ourselves if it isn't time
 a new reform was instituted and the    
heart of philanthropy set to beating in 
sympathy1 not only with this great army 
of robbed1 disinherited children1 but as
 well with the yet unborn generations4  

,the great work for them must be done   
now1 not after they are ushered into a  
depraved1 diseased existence4  8,there  
is a story of one neglected little girl1
 poor ,margaret1 who never had a home1  
and who grew up a wretched outcast1     
living a life of sin and shame4 ,after  
seventy-five years it was reckoned that 
her descendants numbered twelve hundred2
 two hundred and eighty of whom were    
paupers1 and one hundred and forty      
habitual criminals1 while most of the   
whole degraded family cursed the country
 with vice1 crime1 pauperism1 and       
insanity40  ,finally for gospel1 we have
 the indisputable fact that we may by   
prayerful thought and systematic study  
make our children what we will4 ,read   
the story of the angel's appearance to  
the mother of ,samson1 when the child   
was promised1 and remember his          
direction4 8,and ,manoah said1 ,how     
shall we order the child and how shall  
we do unto him8 ,and the angel of the   
,lord said unto ,manoah1 of all that ,i 

said unto the woman let her beware4 ,she
 may not eat of anything that cometh of 
the vine1 neither let her drink wine nor
 strong drink1 nor eat any unclean      
thing2 all that ,i commanded her let her
 observe40 7,judges #ac3 #ac1 #ad47  ,a 
sweet story is told that illustrates the
 gospel side of heredity in a marvelous 
way4 ,a traveller in the west came to   
the house of a settler in a remote      
frontier district1 and asked for shelter
 for the night4 ,the parents had come   
from the east in an early day1 and were 
people of ordinary intelligence only4   
,among the children born to them in this
 western home were several sons1 coarse1
 boorish1 and altogether what their     
birth and environment would indicate4   
,the traveller was struck with the      
remarkable beauty and refinement of one 
child1 a daughter4 ,so different was she
 from her brothers that he made bold to 
ask the mother1 if she could explain why
 the daughter was so different from her 
brothers1 and how in her surroundings   

she had developed such grace and beauty4
  ,the mother looked up quickly with an 
intelligent smile1 pleased that her     
child should receive such appreciation4 
8,yes1 ,i can tell you1 ,i think1 why   
she differs so1 and to me it is a       
strange thing and ,i have often wondered
 if ,i have thought aright4 ,several    
months before my child was born1 one day
 there came to our cabin a colporteur   
with a variety of books for sale4 ,i was
 not much of a reader1 but my life was a
 lonely one1 shut out from all society  
as ,i was1 with nothing of comfort or   
beauty about me4 ,only one of the books 
attracted my attention1 a little        
blue-and-gold copy of ,scott's ,lady of 
,the ,lake4 ,it was illustrated1 and as 
,i turned it over in my hands1 and      
caught now and then a word that         
explained an illustration1 ,i was       
possessed with a desire to have the     
book4 ,we were poor and ,i knew that my 
husband would not understand the wish ,i
 had to own it4 ,i handed it back to the

 man and he went on his way4 ,i could   
not get the thought of the book out of  
my mind1 and did not sleep an hour that 
night4 ,as soon as the first peep of day
 began to show itself1 ,i rose and with 
the price of the book in my hand started
 for the nearest neighbor1 the next     
cabin where ,i thought the book agent   
must have stopped for the night4 ,i     
found him and got the book and came     
home4 ,through all the months before the
 little one came that book was my       
constant companion4 ,i read it and      
reread it1 until ,i knew much of it by  
heart4 ,every scene of the book was as  
vivid as a reality to me4 ,when the     
daughter came she was the ,lady of ,the 
,lake over again1 and was always just   
what you see her now40  ,dr4 ,holbrook  
says1 8,every child born into the world 
is essentially an experiment2 we cannot 
tell what its chief characteristics will
 be2 these depend upon the              
potentialities stored up in the         
germ-plasm40 ,then how much depends upon

 the parents1 that the germ-plasm be of 
fine quality1 and so insure fine        
products in their children4 ,in his book
 on ,stirpiculture1 ,dr4 ,holbrook says1
 8,the common people often get at truths
 in a rude way long before the          
scientists do4 ,many parents tell us    
their children are strongly influenced  
by some particular occupation of the    
mother during pregnancy4 ,so strong is  
this belief that many mothers are in our
 time trying to influence the characters
 of their unborn children by special    
modes of life1 by cultivating music1 or 
art1 or science1 in order to give the   
child a love for these pursuits40       
,apropos to this statement1 we can      
attest many instances that have come    
under our immediate observation4 ,study 
and research along certain lines1 and in
 special directions have brought the    
results desired1 and the children have  
become what they were trained to be in  
intra-uterine life4  8,what do you      
expect to do when you get to ,america80 

asked a fellow-passenger of a woman who 
was crossing the ,atlantic about a      
century ago4 8,do8 why raise governors  
for them40 ,and she was as good as her  
word1 for she became the mother of      
,general ,john ,sullivan1 the chief     
magistrate of ,new ,hampshire1 and of   
,james ,sullivan1 governor of           
,massachusetts4 8,she who thinks skim   
milk will transmit skim milk2 she who   
thinks cream will transmit cream40 ,this
 woman thought cream and lived it and   
transmitted the best to her children4   
,young women do not stop in your        
research with the few thoughts that can 
be given in a chapter like this1 but go 
on in the study until you know what it  
has to teach you and what you may give  
to your unborn children1 by painstaking 
study and culture of yourself4 ,begin by
 weeding out the habits and tendencies  
that you would not wish to transmit1 and
 by cultivating the qualities and       
accomplishments1 which you would delight
 to see repeated in your children4      

,depend upon it the study and care will 
reward you bountifully1 and you will do 
your part in furthering the knowledge of
 this great science1 which means so much
 to the generations to come4      8,a   
partnership with ,god is motherhood2    
,what strength1 what purity1 what       
self-control1     ,what love1 what      
wisdom1 should belong to her1       ,who
 helps ,god fashion an immortal soul40  
,,chapter ,,xii4  ,,ailments ,,of       
,,pregnancy4      ,pregnancy not an     
,unnatural but a ,normal                
,state4--,tendency to     ,neglect      
,hygienic ,rules4--,morning             
,sickness4--,how to ,correct            
it4--,important ,questions of           
,diet4--,displaced ,uterus as ,cause    
of ,nausea4--,mental                    
,states4--,companionship4--,various     
,gastric                                
,troubles4--,insomnia4--,hysteria4--,con
stipation and ,how to ,correct          
it4--,longings4--,self-control4--,with  
,proper ,care1 as a ,rule ,all     ,goes

 ,well4   ,there are several distressing
 ailments which afflict the pregnant    
woman1 and which are too often by the   
uninformed considered a necessity1 hence
 nothing is done for them4 ,leavitt has 
said wisely1 8,the general health is    
already frequently disturbed1 and the   
system in an enfeebled state1 when      
pregnancy is established4 ,the woman at 
once enters on the trying experiences of
 early gestation--attributing nearly all
 her symptoms to the physiological      
changes being wrought in her organism4  
,viewing them also as1 in great measure 
essential features of her condition1 she
 is prone to neglect proper attention to
 hygienic rules40  ,another mistake is  
too frequently made by the women1 and   
indulged by the physician1 namely1      
considering the pregnant state a        
pathological1 diseased1 or unnatural    
condition1 in every instance1 while it  
should be in the majority of cases      
purely a physiological1 natural and     
healthy condition4 ,true1 woman is not  

exempt during pregnancy from the various
 ills that assail her sex1 and the human
 family as a whole2 but that every      
ailment with which she is assailed      
should be attributed to her condition is
 a mistake1 and a greater mistake is to 
neglect proper treatment for these ills4
  ,the morning sickness is one of the   
most common and troublesome ailments of 
the parturient1 and one which is most   
often neglected4 ,but it is likewise one
 which can be controlled in the majority
 of instances4 ,do not neglect it1 but  
see to it at once4 ,plenty of exercise  
in the open air1 well-aired sleeping    
rooms1 pleasant surroundings and        
suitable food go far to mitigate this   
ill1 but the doctor will need to be     
consulted at times4 ,the diet of women  
suffering from morning sickness1 should 
be regulated1 and nothing deleterious to
 her allowed4 ,often the aggravated     
ailment can be traced to vagaries of    
appetite1 which have been foolishly     
indulged1 which corrected1 and a        

reasonable diet substituted1 will do    
much to aid the cure4 ,often a few      
mouthfuls of food or a cup of coffee    
taken in the morning before rising will 
prove of decided benefit1 and should be 
tried before medicines are resorted to4 
,the false notion that the pregnant     
woman 8must eat for two10 and so proceed
 to indulge her appetite to the utmost1 
should be corrected4 ,the appetite      
should be kept under in pregnancy as    
carefully as at any other time1 and     
rather than otherwise1 more care be     
taken in the selection of food1 and     
regularity of meals4  ,leavitt          
recommends as articles specially suited 
to the earlier months of pregnancy1 the 
following3--8,mutton-broth1             
chicken-broth1 oysters1 clams and fish4 
,when they have heretofore agreed1 the  
following may also be eaten3 beef1      
mutton1 chicken1 game1 eggs1 stale      
bread1 oat meal1 rice1 baked potatoes1  
spinach1 macaroni1 greens1 celery1 green
 peas1 lettuce1 asparagus1 oranges1     

grapes1 and stewed fruit4 ,desserts     
should in most instances be avoided40   
,these do not of course include all the 
harmless articles1 and a simple and     
comprehensive rule is this3 any article 
of food that is hygienic and does not   
disagree may be partaken of with        
impunity4  ,sometimes the nausea may be 
due to other causes than those exciting 
simple nausea4 ,if it is persistent and 
aggravated a displaced uterus may be the
 cause4 ,this when corrected will effect
 a cure like magic4  ,in the later      
months of pregnancy the nausea1 if any1 
is due to another cause than that which 
excites it in the earlier months4       
,compression and a changed character of 
the secretions1 are the exciting causes 
at this time1 yet even here attention to
 diet will do much toward correcting the
 distress4 8,at this period all articles
 of food which will increase the        
fermentative action1 so easily set up1  
ought to be avoided4 ,such are mainly   
those containing starch1 sugar and fat40

  ,the mental state of the woman needs  
careful attention as well as the        
physical4 ,among the early ,greeks a    
pregnant woman was held so much in      
reverence that she was guarded almost   
sacredly1 and shielded from all possible
 annoyances4 ,no troublesome or         
unsightly thing was allowed in her      
presence1 and she was surrounded with   
pleasing and delightful companions1     
pictures and occupations4 ,this might   
with profit be emulated by the people of
 to-day4 ,an unpleasant companion in the
 home1 a dull1 monotonous1 treadmill    
existence will often drive a pregnant   
woman to the verge of distraction2 while
 on the other hand the thought that she 
is the subject of tender solicitude and 
care1 that she is petted and indulged in
 her harmless desires1 will make the    
period of pregnancy a long holiday4     
,above all1 keep all croaking companions
 away4 ,you will find in every          
neighborhood1 women who delight to give 
in detail all the terrible cases they   

have ever heard or imagined1 and these  
are the women that you should shun1 and 
in plain words1 forbid the introduction 
of such topics if necessary4  ,sometimes
 another distressing gastric            
disturbance1 which may give much        
annoyance1 is a want of appetite1 or    
disgust for food4 ,a change of scene or 
surroundings for a time1 with an entire 
change of table1 will often be all that 
is necessary to correct this4 ,a visit  
to the mother or a dear friend1 will    
relieve the monotony1 and often give the
 change desired4 ,this very often is the
 result of mental disturbance rather    
than physical1 and so yields when the   
proper remedy1 change1 is prescribed and
 taken4  ,acidity of the stomach and    
heartburn can be relieved with the      
appropriate remedy4 8,temporary relief  
will often be afforded by a swallow of  
pure glycerine1 or a half teaspoonful   
dose of aromatic spirits of ammonia40   
,neuralgia of the stomach calls for the 
doctor4 ,ptyalism1 or an excessive flow 

of saliva2 pruritus1 or a distressing   
itching of the genitals or of the       
abdominal wall2 face-ache or neuralgia  
of the fifth nerve1 are all relieved    
only by the proper prescription from the
 physician4  ,insomnia1 which often     
proves very troublesome1 can often be   
cured by more outdoor air1 and diversion
 during the day1 and a brisk walk in the
 good fresh evening air1 followed by the
 sitz bath or bath taken in sitting     
posture1 with only the parts about the  
hips submerged in hot water just before 
retiring2 or a quick sponge bath1 rather
 cool than warm1 just before going to   
rest for the night will often act well  
as a sedative4  ,the urine in quality   
and quantity should be carefully looked 
after1 and should be examined by the    
physician several times during the later
 months of pregnancy1 that its condition
 may be known4  ,hysteria may appear in 
some of its various forms1 but when the 
cause1 which is more often than         
otherwise due to indigestion1 excessive 

fatigue1 loss of sleep1 unpleasant      
surroundings or companions1 8operating  
on a nervous system1 very sensitive1 and
 already a little out of tune0--when the
 cause is removed the hysteria will     
vanish4  ,constipation1 which in this   
state as in all others is more often    
than otherwise1 simply a bad habit1     
proves at many times a great annoyance4 
,care from the very outset should be    
taken to keep the bowels open4 ,often   
all that is necessary1 is proper        
attention to diet1 exercise and good    
air4 ,diminished intestinal action is   
doubtless an exciting cause1 and this   
can be met by greater activity on the   
part of the woman1 and a selection of   
food that is easily digested and        
laxative in character4 ,if constipation 
is neglected there may result an        
accumulation of feces or waste matter in
 the rectum and large intestine         
sometimes of great size1 which may prove
 a great obstruction to labor1 or even  
interrupt pregnancy prematurely4        

,fruits1 graham bread1 figs1 stewed     
prunes1 and liberal quantities of hot   
water sipped slowly1 thirty or forty    
minutes before each meal1 will often    
prove all the medicine needed4  ,the    
longings of pregnancy are a matter of   
notion and imagination run wild more    
often than otherwise4 ,a strong         
self-controlled woman is not troubled   
with any longings for things beyond her 
reach4 ,hence should she desire a thing 
that it will be difficult for her to    
get1 let her exercise reason1 and good  
judgment in the denial1 and the longing 
will not trouble her4  ,finally the     
woman during pregnancy should cultivate 
self-control1 and be governed by common 
sense in every event4 ,let wisdom guide 
her in the habits of exercise1 eating1  
occupation1 society and recreation1 and 
as a rule all will go well1 and there   
will be no cause for worry throughout   
the entire term4     ,,chapter ,,xiii4  
,,development ,,of ,,the ,f,,tus4       
,minuteness of the ,germ of ,human      

,life4--,the ,embryo ,cell and     ,its 
,store of ,food4--,its ,journey to the  
,uterus4--,meeting the     ,spermatozon1
 ,conception ,occurs4--,the ,changes    
,which take ,place     in the           
,uterus4--,life is ,present the ,moment 
,conception takes     ,place4--,the     
,mysterious ,development of the         
,embryo4--,the ,sin of     ,tampering   
with the ,work of the ,infinite4--,the  
,various ,changes in     the            
,development of the ,embryo and ,ftus   
set ,forth4--,the ,changes     that     
,occur each ,month4--,parenthood the    
,benediction of ,husband     and ,wife4 
,how does the tiny speck1 so tiny that  
it cannot be seen with the naked eye1   
only one hundred and twentieth of an    
inch in diameter1 how does this tiny    
atom of matter1 begin in its growth1    
continue and develop into the full grown
 child8 ,this little germ or ovum1 the  
part furnished by the mother1 in the    
creation of a human being1 contains the 
germinal vesicle1 or embryo cell1 and   

the stored up food for the early days of
 life after conception takes place4     
,after the ovum leaves the ovary1       
somewhere in its journey to the uterus  
or womb1 it is met by the spermatozon1  
or male element of conception1 and by   
their mysterious union the new life is  
begun4  ,coincident with the            
impregnation of the ovum1 active changes
 are inaugurated in the uterus4 ,the    
organ becomes more vascular1 increases  
in size1 its lining is thickened and    
softened1 thus in all ways preparing a  
soft bed1 or cradle1 for the nesting    
time and growth of the little one       
entrusted to its care4 ,during pregnancy
 the uterus enlarges from an area of    
sixteen square inches to three hundred  
and thirty-nine square inches in the    
fully developed state4 ,after delivery  
it does not resume its former shape and 
size1 but retains vestiges of the       
condition through which it has passed1  
its retained weight having increased    
fully an ounce and a half4  ,in some    

inconceivable way a notion has become   
prevalent1 that there is no life in the 
embryo until motion is felt by the      
mother4 ,how life enters then has been  
left by them an unexplained mystery4    
,that this professed belief is but a    
device of ,satan1 to excuse the         
shameless taking of life in-utero1 is   
the only method of accounting for its   
prevalence4 ,life1 organized life1      
begins the very moment conception takes 
place1 and is as surely life as that    
which exists when the little active     
creature is placed in its mother's arms4
  ,after conception takes place1 while  
yet the embryo is on the way to its     
nesting place1 many and rapid changes   
take place4 ,by a process of            
segmentation or division1 the contents  
of the ovum are broken into innumerable 
granular cells1 from which mass the     
whole organization of the embryo is     
gradually evolved4  ,how some of these  
cells are transformed into muscle1      
others into bone or cartilage or nerves1

 or brain1 or connective tissue1 when no
 difference can be distinguished in the 
various cells1 is among the mysteries of
 life which science has not yet         
fathomed4 ,that it does this we all     
know2 how it does it belongs wholly     
within the knowledge of creative wisdom4
  ,in tracing the steps of progress in  
the life of the embryo1 which ,i shall  
soon give1 let every young person who   
reads these pages learn once and        
forever1 that when she is tempted to rid
 herself of the product of conception1  
even the next moment after conception   
has taken place1 she is tempted to      
murder1 as surely as though the child   
were in her arms1 a living visible bit  
of humanity1 and she were plotting to   
take its life4 ,it is a terrible thing  
to tamper with the work of the          
,infinite1 and with nature's inexorable 
laws1 and punishment is sure to follow4 
,when the embryo has finished its       
journey1 and has settled itself for a   
long stay of nine months1 not of rest1  

but of ceaseless activity1 of growth and
 development so marvelous and sure1 it  
begins to draw its life from the uterus1
 for the stored up food in the ovum is  
already exhausted4 ,at first it draws by
 absorption through the membrane        
enclosing it1 then through the placenta 
or 8afterbirth10 which is created as the
 medium of communication for the        
life-giving force1 between mother and   
child4  ,up to the close of the third   
month we call this little new life an   
embryo2 after this time it is called a  
ftus4 ,for a full description of the    
embryo and ftus1 in the various stages  
of development1 we copy from ,leavitt's 
,science and ,art of ,obstetrics4  8,the
 ,first ,month4--,the embryo in the     
first week of gestation1 is a minute1   
gelatinous and semi-transparent mass1 of
 a greyish color1 presenting to the     
unaided eye no definite traces of either
 head or extremities4 ,the entire ovum  
measures but one-fourth of an inch1 and 
the embryo but one-twelfth2 but during  

the next week they double in dimensions4
 ,the coverings of the child are        
developed1 and it is attached to the    
uterus1 but does not yet draw its life  
from it4 ,at the close of the month the 
ovum is about the size of a pigeon's    
egg1 and weighs about forty grains4 ,the
 embryo is about three-fourths of an    
inch in extreme length1 and about       
one-third of an inch in direct          
measurement as it is coiled up4 ,the    
structures have so little bulk1 that    
when ruptured they easily escape        
attention1 in abortions1 generally      
passing with a clot4  8,second          
,month4--,at eight weeks the ovum is    
about the size of a hen's egg1 and it   
weighs from one hundred and eighty to   
three hundred grains1 and is about      
two-thirds of an inch in length from    
head to caudal curve4 ,its independent  
circulatory system is forming3          
indications of the external generative  
organs are visible3 and ossification has
 begun in several parts of the body4    

8,third ,month4--,the embryo weighs from
 three hundred to four hundred grains1  
and measures from two and a half to     
three and a half inches in length4 ,the 
forearm is well formed and the fingers  
are discernible4 ,the umbilical or navel
 cord is about two and a half inches in 
length4 ,the head is relatively large1  
the neck separates it from the trunk1   
and the eyes are prominent4 ,the chorion
 has lost most of its villi1 and the    
placenta is formed4 ,points of          
ossification are present in most of the 
bones4 ,thin membranous nails appear on 
the fingers and toes4 ,sex may be       
determined by presence or absence of the
 uterus4  8,fourth ,month4--,the ftus   
weighs five or six ounces1 and is about 
five inches long4 ,its sex is more      
distinct2 movements are visible4 ,the   
convolutions of the brain are beginning 
to form3 ossification is extending3 the 
placenta is increasing in size1 and the 
cord is about twelve inches long4 ,the  
head is one-fourth the length of the    

whole body4 ,the sutures and fontanelles
 are widely separated4 ,hair begins to  
appear on the scalp4 ,if born1 the ftus 
may live three or four hours4  8,fifth  
,month4--,ftal weight has increased to  
ten ounces1 and length to about nine    
inches4 ,the head is still relatively   
large4 ,fine hair1 7lanugo7 appears over
 the whole body4 ,ftal movements can be 
felt by the mother4 ,if born the ftus   
can live but a few hours4  8,sixth      
,month4--,weight about twenty-four      
ounces1 length eleven inches4 ,fat is   
found in the subcutaneous cellular      
tissue4 ,hair is darker and more        
abundant4 ,the membrana pupillaris      
exists but the eyelids separate4 ,if    
born at this time the ftus breathes     
freely1 but life is retained only a few 
hours1 with rare exceptions4  8,seventh 
,month4--,weight from three to four     
pounds1 length fourteen to fifteen      
inches4 ,the skin is wrinkled1 of red   
color and covered with vernix caseosa4  
,the pupillary membrane disappears4 ,if 

younger than twenty-eight weeks it is   
not likely to live4  8,eighth           
,month4--,weight from four to five      
pounds1 length from sixteen to eighteen 
inches4 ,development is now rather in   
thickness than length4 ,the nails are   
nearly perfect1 and the lanugo is       
disappearing from the face4 ,the navel  
is gradually approaching the centre of  
the body1 until now it has nearly       
reached the median point4 ,the cranial  
bones are easily molded under pressure1 
a point to be remembered as bearing on  
the question of induced labor in pelvic 
deformity4  8,ninth ,month--or at       
term4--,at the end of pregnancy the ftus
 weighs an average of six and a half or 
seven pounds1 and measures about twenty 
inches in length4 ,the average weight of
 mature males is greater than that of   
females4 ,at birth the ftus is covered  
with vernix caseosa1 a whitish tenacious
 substance1 composed of a mixture of    
surface epithelium1 down and the        
products of sebaceous glands4 ,during   

intra-uterine life it serves as a       
protection for the skin against the     
amniotic fluid4 ,it can be removed      
thoroughly only by preceding the use of 
water by a free use of oil40  ,so the   
baby grows until it reaches             
intra-uterine maturity1 and comes into  
our arms for cherishing4 ,pity1 pity the
 little one that comes with no love to  
receive it1 and pity more the mother of 
such a child4 ,no woman has a right to  
marry1 unless she desires offspring and 
is willing to fit herself for maternity4
 ,no man has a right to take upon       
himself the sacred vows that make him   
husband1 unless he comprehends all that 
it means1 and is measurably ready to    
meet its duties and responsibilities4   
,with such preparation1 and such        
understanding upon entering matrimony1  
we should see a nobler1 stronger race of
 men and women in the coming            
generations4     ,,chapter ,,xiv4       
,,baby',s ,,wardrobe4      ,the         
,question ,that ,comes with ,fluttering 

,signs of     ,life4--,importance of    
,wise ,choice of ,material and ,style of
     ,dress4--,the ,blessedness of      
,mother's ,joy in ,preparing ,baby's    
,clothing4--,the ,questions of ,dress   
,important4--,formerly     ,seemingly   
,planned for ,discomfort4--,the         
8,binder0 an ,instrument     of         
,torture4--,better ,methods now         
,prevail4--,the ,napkin4--,how to       
,establish ,regular ,habits for         
,baby4--,the ,pinning ,blanket4--,the   
,little ,shirt4--,baby's ,earliest and  
,best ,dress ,described4--,the          
,complete ,wardrobe ,described4--,the   
,furnishings of the                     
,basket4--,things ,which are not to     
,baby's ,taste or ,comfort4--,the       
,later ,wardrobe4   8,wherewithal shall 
my baby be clothed80 is a question that 
comes to every expectant mother--if her 
heart be filled with love for it--when  
she feels the first fluttering signs of 
life that announce to her listening     
heart1 8,mother1 ,i'm coming20 and she  

delights to prepare for her little one  
the softest1 daintiest1 richest things  
that her purse and time will allow4 ,if 
she is not always wise in her choice of 
material and trimming and style of      
dress1 it is because of ignorance1 more 
often than otherwise4 ,sometimes1 we    
fear from pride that her baby should    
make as fair a show in the flesh as the 
babies of her friends1 regardless of    
healthfulness or suitableness4  ,i would
 it were possible for every mother to   
prepare the first clothing of her coming
 little ones1 all herself2 for in such  
quiet times as women sit down to their  
needle alone1 in the waiting hours1     
thoughts and plans and high ambitions   
for the little ones hold them fast1 and 
the heart warms with each dainty stitch1
 while the mother love kindles and      
grows1 and the castles are built and    
peopled with baby and its friends and   
lovers4 ,far more often than we think1  
the choicest1 tenderest thoughts the    
woman is capable of1 and the highest1   

noblest ambitions of what her baby shall
 be1 and what she shall be to it1 are   
sewed into the little garments1 with her
 swiftly flying needle2 and more than   
this1 are woven into the very fibre and 
being of the little one4  ,the question 
of the baby's dress is one of large     
importance1 and one which in the past   
few years has received the attention    
which is its due4 ,formerly the comfort 
of the baby was little planned for2 and 
more than that1 it almost seems1 as we  
consider it to-day1 that the clothing of
 the little one was planned for         
discomfort2 as if a sacrificial thought 
must enter into its first experiences1  
to insure a proper amount of            
self-abnegation in later life4 ,now all 
this is changed and self-sacrifice and  
endurance are taught the baby in a more 
wholesome way4  ,that instrument of     
torture1 the band1 or more properly the 
8binder10 has been relegated to the     
shades by all sensible people1 and the  
thought that the ,all-wise ,creator     

planned and formed the human body so    
wisely that it needed none of man's     
inventions to supplement ,his creative  
wisdom1 is thoroughly believed by the   
many to-day2 and the baby is given the  
freedom in dress that its growing body  
and active limbs demand4  ,first of all 
the diaper or napkin must be considered4
 ,the large1 heavy cotton flannel       
diapers1 which are used so widely       
to-day1 deserve one criticism and       
caution4 ,there is danger1 if they are  
used in the earlier weeks that too much 
thickness will be folded down between   
the legs1 and the hips be thrown out of 
the natural position1 and thus an       
awkward1 ungraceful gait follow4        
,something much softer and more yielding
 should be used at first and this danger
 will be obviated4 ,a heavy1 firm       
cheesecloth ,i have found all that was  
necessary1 and these should not be made 
more than eighteen inches square1 for   
use in the early weeks4 ,ten or fifteen 
of these will be an ample supply1 and   

they should never be dried without a    
good rinsing after each using4 ,the     
cotton flannel squares can be used      
later1 but always with care not to fold 
too much between the legs1 and so crowd 
the soft yielding bones4 ,on the other  
hand the mother must guard against      
pinning the napkin too tightly about the
 hips1 for this draws the hips forward  
and the little one is in danger of      
becoming knock-kneed4 ,these seem simple
 cautions1 but many thoughtful women do 
not think of them4  ,the napkin can very
 soon be spared the soil of the baby's  
regular movements1 and only used as a   
guard against irregularities4 ,the baby 
while yet very young can be accustomed  
to a regular morning movement1 and can  
be held out while dressing1 over the    
little chamber1 and its bowels moved    
daily4 ,should there not be a degree of 
regularity about the time naturally1 it 
can soon become accustomed to one1 by   
aiding at a stated time1 with a little  
soap suppository which should be        

moistened before being inserted in the  
rectum4 ,this habit fixed and the       
greatest annoyance in the care of the   
baby is done away with4  ,all that is   
required in a band1 is a soft piece of  
flannel1 six or eight inches wide1 with 
the edge turned over1 once only1 on the 
right side1 and catch-stitched down4    
,these are to be worn only until the    
navel cord is detached and the stump    
healed1 then what is worn over the      
shoulders and legs is sufficient for the
 abdomen1 hence no band is needed for   
warmth4  ,next in the ,gertrude garments
 is the substitute for the pinning      
blanket1 which is no pinning blanket at 
all1 but a simple little garment1       
long-sleeved1 high-necked1 and cut in   
one piece1 like the outer garment or    
slip4 ,i would suggest but one change in
 this1 and for what ,i consider a good  
and sufficient reason4 ,if the little   
pinning-blanket1 of the ,gertrude       
pattern1 is soiled1 both that and all   
the outer garments must be removed when 

the change is made1 which may be        
necessary more than once a day4  ,the   
soft wool shirts1 that are found in all 
first-class stores1 ,i always recommend1
 and to take the place of the skirt part
 of the little gabrielle described      
above1 ,i fashion a pinning blanket as  
follows3 ,procure ,shaker flannel--half 
wool and half cotton1 as by this        
material shrinkage is avoided--that is  
as nearly a yard square as possible1 cut
 off one corner1 making the bias edge of
 the triangular piece cut off about     
eighteen inches long2 face the edge from
 which the corner has been cut1 with a  
bias piece of the flannel an inch and a 
half wide1 turning it over on the right 
side4 ,turn over the remaining sides of 
the blanket on the right side1          
cross-stitching it down neatly1 and you 
have the little garment complete4       
,after you have put on the band1 diaper 
and shirt1 place the middle of the faced
 edge of the pinning blanket at the     
middle of the back of the shirt1 at the 

waist line and secure it with a tiny    
safety pin2 lap the two ends at the     
front and pin them1 and then see how    
beautifully the two side corners lap    
over the feet1 and the lower corner1    
when brought up and pinned loosely1 that
 ample room be given the legs to stretch
 out and move about at will1 encases the
 abdomen and legs of the baby in a      
smooth soft covering1 guiltless of seam 
or gather4 ,when this is soiled it is a 
small matter to change it compared with 
changing the skirt and slip of the      
,gertrude costume4  ,over these for the 
first weeks all that is needed is a     
linen lawn slip1 twenty-seven inches in 
length from shoulders to bottom of hem1 
if it be summer1 or a wrapper of ,french
 flannel or outing flannel if it be     
winter4 ,dressed in this simple and     
unencumbered manner1 the little one will
 sleep and wake1 and eat and sleep      
again1 stretching itself in happy       
content1 and growing as nature intended 
it should in unconstrained freedom4     

,three each of shirts and bands1 and a  
half dozen each of the little pinning   
blankets and slips1 a dozen and a half  
of the small diapers1 and one or two    
squares of flannel to wrap the baby in  
when taken from the bed1 will furnish   
the baby's wardrobe well and amply for  
the first few months4  ,during these    
first months a more elaborate wardrobe  
may be furnished1 although it is far    
better to keep it in as simple and light
 clothing as possible for the time until
 the clothes are shortened1 when it will
 be taken out more and will need a      
little more attention to its toilet4 ,in
 place of the linen lawn slips a nice   
thing is slips made of china silk4      
,these are easily laundered and are soft
 and a little nicer than the cotton     
dress4  ,for the basket where the baby1 
it is hoped1 will spend most of its time
 for weeks1 you should have a thick soft
 pad of cotton covered with cheese cloth
 and quilted1 not tied1 loosely1 to     
cover the pillow placed in the bottom of

 the basket2 a square of flannel over   
this1 if you desire1 for a blanket1 and 
a soft knotted comfort1 with the knots  
outside1 for the cover4 ,the tiny pillow
 completes the furnishing for the       
sleeping basket4 ,put carefully away for
 remembrances all the handsomely        
embroidered pillow-slips1 daintily      
trimmed with ruffles and ribbons1 and   
the elaborate counterpanes of heavy     
piqu1 made heavier with yards of hamburg
 trimming and ribbon4 ,these will answer
 finely for heirlooms1 but are not at   
all suited to either the baby's taste or
 comfort4  ,the soft knitted socks will 
be needed for a winter baby1 and perhaps
 for summer1 if the baby is delicate1   
the feet moving about1 will get cold    
easily4 ,but far better than encumber   
the little one with clothing1 warm the  
basket bed with a hot water bottle or   
two4  ,for the later wardrobe1 little   
more will be needed than a slight       
modification of these already described4
 ,we should consider the baby's comfort1

 first1 last1 and all the time4 ,however
 proud we may be of it we should not    
allow ourselves to dress it for         
exhibition4 ,the baby is the centre of  
attraction1 not what it may be dressed  
in4 ,a supply of the linen lawn or china
 silk slips1 made larger but not longer1
 two or three flannel skirts1 fashioned 
without gathers at the waist1 and       
attached to a thin muslin waist without 
sleeves2 two or three cashmere or       
flannel jackets1 for the little one is  
large enough to be out of its basket a  
part of the time1 and needs a wrap that 
will not fall off easily1 and leave it  
exposed4 ,with this list you have all   
that is needed until the short clothes  
are provided2 then a more generous      
supply will be needed1 but never        
anything more elaborate4     ,,chapter  
,,xv4  ,,the ,,choice ,,of ,,physician  
,,and ,,nurse4      ,choice of          
,physician and ,nurse of ,real          
,consequence4--,choose     a ,physician 
,whom ,you can ,trust ,implicitly4--,a  

,cleanly     ,man4--,the ,wife ,should  
,make the ,selection4--,a ,christian    
,physician4--,choice of ,nurse4--,wife  
most ,capable of ,making                
,choice4--,advice of the ,physician     
,desirable4--,she ,should be            
,pleasing to the                        
,wife4--,cleanliness4--,gentleness4--,a 
,person of                              
,individuality4--,neatness in ,manner   
and ,clothing4--,should be              
,intelligent4--,physician and ,nurse    
,should ,work in ,sympathy4--,a         
,good ,cook4--,able to ,converse1 but   
not a ,gossip4--,many ,such             
,physicians and ,nurses4   ,the choice  
of a physician and nurse for the ordeal 
of maternity1 is a matter of real       
consequence4 ,it is not enough that you 
have a physician whom you have trusted  
in the common ailments of life1 and     
perforce must have him now1 lest he     
think it strange2 the question is1 do   
you desire him to minister to you at    
this time8  ,choose a clean man or woman

 as you value your life and comfort4    
,choose one to whom you can pin your    
trust1 and in whom you can confide      
implicitly4 ,choose one who is above    
reproach1 and can inspire you with      
courage and hopefulness4 ,choose a clean
 doctor physically4 ,they who do not    
delight in clean linen1 and clean hands1
 will hardly delight in cleanliness in  
their attentions to you4  ,finally the  
wife should have the unbiased choice of 
the physician1 unless there is some very
 good reason why she is not capable of a
 reasonable choice4 ,of course it is far
 better that the choice of one should be
 the choice of the other1 and that there
 be perfect harmony between husband and 
wife in the choice made1 both for their 
own peace of mind1 and for the comfort  
of the physician4 ,there are many cases 
on record of labor being delayed1 and   
much discomfort being caused by         
disappointment in the physician desired4
  ,above all choose a ,christian        
physician4 ,the counsel of the ,great   

,physician is never more needed than in 
birth travail1 and it is comforting to  
feel that the human friend upon whom you
 depend1 knows this power and           
helpfulness and can direct you to ,him4 
,in the choice of a nurse as great care 
and consideration are needed4 ,do not   
depend upon the selection made by a     
friend2 no one can choose for you4 ,you 
alone are the one concerned1 and you    
alone are capable of making the choice4 
,it is well to ask your physician to    
recommend a nurse1 or more than one1 and
 then ask for an interview1 and mark    
well every point1 before you make your  
choice4 ,remember you are to have her   
about you almost constantly for two or  
more weeks1 and unless she is pleasing  
to you in the outset1 depend upon it1   
she will almost inevitably become       
displeasing to you before her term of   
service is over4  ,she must be very     
cleanly in her person1 and guilty of no 
idiosyncrasies in dress or manner2 of   
gentle voice1 quiet and subdued1 clean  

of speech1 and self-conscious enough to 
know her ability and prove it4 ,she must
 have a strong individuality1 and an    
authority second to none save the       
physician's4 ,she must not wear squeaky 
shoes1 or wear rustling dresses1 or     
bright colors1 or jewelry or fancy      
trimmings of any sort4 ,quietness1      
unobtrusiveness1 ladylikeness1 and      
simplicity should characterize all her  
dress and manner and habits4  ,she need 
not be pretty1 but she must have the    
attractiveness of a good face1 and a    
kindly eye4 ,the prettier1 the more     
cultured and attractive1 the more       
versatile1 the better1 for she has a    
critical trio1 or perhaps quartet to    
please1 and must stand between her      
patient and all annoyances1 between her 
patient and all pleasures and desires   
that might be harmful4 ,she is to be the
 care-taker of mother and baby1 and the 
court of appeal1 of husband1 mother and 
all other relatives4 ,if she is         
vacillating and weak she can claim the  

respect of none of these4 ,if she be    
loud and imperious in her authority1    
lacking the quiet dignity upon which    
real power is based1 she will have      
little influence with either her patient
 or the family4  ,further the physician 
and nurse must be in sympathy1 or they  
cannot work together4 ,the physician is 
the authority1 and the nurse like ,eve  
to ,adam1 an help meet for him4 ,she is 
to have no authority independent of the 
physician1 save in an emergency1 when   
she must sometimes act without waiting  
to consult him4 ,again the nurse must   
know what to do and how to do it1       
without asking questions4 ,she must see 
and do with a quiet easy air of         
generalship1 that will make her patient 
wonder when so much gets done1 and how  
it could be done with so little noise or
 friction4  ,the nurse must be an       
excellent1 attractive and inviting cook4
 ,she must serve everything in a        
pleasing way1 and not so great a        
quantity but that her patient will wish 

there were more4  ,finally she must not 
be a talker2 she can read to you1       
converse with you1 but never gossip4    
,the more she knows of books and people 
the pleasanter her companionship4  ,such
 doctors and such nurses1 do you say1   
are hard to find8 ,no1 there are many of
 them1 but ,i fear the search for them  
is not always made with wise            
discrimination4 ,when such are sought   
for and demanded1 they will come to the 
front4  ,i fear we have too often sought
 for what we thought was ability1 but   
which rightly interpreted meant         
reputation1 and too seldom for real     
worth4 ,ian ,mac,laren's doctor of      
,drumtochty was not a man of wide or    
great reputation1 but of unlimited      
painstaking and faithfulness4 ,so are   
many of what the world calls common men4
 ,not that this true greatness does not 
ever go with a wide reputation1 but that
 it can as well be found with the common
 painstaking1 less gifted practitioner1 
and we should not forget it4            

,,chapter ,,xvi4  ,,the ,,birth         
,,chamber4      ,memory's ,dissimilar   
,pictures of ,birth-,chamber            
,scenes4--,newborn     ,souls ,welcomed 
to ,mother's ,arms and ,love4--,the     
,rebellious     ,mother with ,empty     
,heart and ,unwilling ,arms4--,the      
,older     ,children ,reflect the       
,spirit of the ,mother toward the       
,newcomer4--,illustrations of ,conduct  
of ,intelligent ,children     toward    
,mother at ,birth ,period4--,how to     
,calculate ,date of                     
,confinement4--,birth ,chamber no       
,terror for ,those who ,live            
,hygienically4--,ansthetics4--,their    
,use ,explained4--,allaying             
,anxiety4--,earliest                    
,premonitions4--,preparation4--,the     
,three ,stages     of ,labor4--,tying   
the ,cord4--,the ,rest and ,joy that    
,complete and     ,crown ,labor4   ,some
 of the darkest1 and some of the        
brightest pictures of life1 hung on the 
walls of memory1 have been painted for  

me in the birth chamber4 ,bright when   
the little newborn soul is welcomed to a
 mother's arms and love2 love that is   
months long and deep4 ,dark when there  
has been a bitter rebellion that she    
must be a mother at all1 and the little 
one comes into an empty heart and       
unwilling arms4  ,another class of      
pictures comes to me2 of the children   
trained by these mothers4 ,the one      
class1 children who are angry and       
rebellious that more little ones must   
come into the home1 prepared to greet   
them with a hateful welcome1 and looking
 upon their parents with a jealous      
distrust1 thinking they must be in some 
way responsible for this unhappy state  
of affairs4 ,is it not true that such   
children are but the echo of their      
parents' hearts8 ,the other class of    
children1 looking with love for the     
advent of the new brother or sister1    
cherishing it more and more every day1  
and giving their parents loving         
confidence4  ,two of the bright pictures

 come to my mind4 ,a little daughter who
 had been wisely taught where babies are
 first cradled1 became in her seventh   
year a little woman in comfort and      
care-taking consideration of the dear   
mamma4 8,what can ,i do to help you1    
mamma1 dear8 and if you should be taken 
sick all alone here1 you would call me  
and let me help you1 wouldn't you1      
mamma80 were questions often heard1 and 
they sank freighted with comforting     
love1 into the mother's heart4 ,this    
same daughter is now budding into       
womanhood and prepared to meet all its  
responsibilities and temptations1 and   
yet withal1 modest and winning in her   
girlish1 wise womanliness4  ,another    
picture4 ,i was called one night to     
attend a lady in her fifth confinement4 
,the husband had come for me and leaving
 me at the door of his home had gone for
 the nurse4 ,on entering1 ,i found the  
only attendant of the mother1 her twelve
 year old son4 ,with her hands in his1  
and his face full of sympathy and       

anxiety for her suffering1 he was giving
 her all the assistance that he could4  
,quiet and dignified he left the room as
 ,i entered1 but not before ,i had read 
in his face the lesson that had sunk    
into his very soul2 that mothers        
suffered for their children1 and for    
this should have all the love and tender
 consideration they could give them4 ,he
 was not an attractive boy1 nor a       
tractable one1 but the dear mother had  
taken the very safest means to hold him 
to herself1 and a mother-anchored boy or
 girl will not go far wrong4  ,so much  
for some retrospects of the birth       
chamber1 and now to the plain practical 
knowledge needed for those who are to   
experience its realities4  ,in reckoning
 the period of gestation the rule most  
easily followed is this4 ,add seven days
 to the date of the last menstruation1  
and count ahead nine months1 or backward
 three months1 and you have the probable
 time of confinement4 ,should you pass  
this time you would probably go on for  

two weeks1 as the most susceptible times
 for conception to take place are in the
 week following menstruation or a couple
 of days preceding the next period2     
which makes a difference of two weeks in
 the calculation4  ,if the bowels have  
been kept open by proper diet and care1 
and if the patient has kept up her daily
 exercise and baths1 she will come to   
the birth chamber well prepared and it  
need have no terrors for her4  ,to-day  
when ansthetics are given as a rule1 not
 an exception1 the chief bugbear of the 
parturient is lost or charmed away4 ,it 
does not need that the ansthetic be     
given to a surgical degree1 but simply  
sufficient to take away the severity of 
the pain4 ,i have found for the lying-in
 room the most satisfactory ansthetic to
 be the one1 two1 three1 mixture2 by    
which ,i mean a mixture of alcohol1     
chloroform1 and ether1 in the proportion
 of one part of alcohol1 two parts of   
chloroform1 and three parts of ether4   
,these parts may be varied however as   

the attending physician desires4 ,it is 
not a quick ansthetic1 but serves every 
purpose needed1 unless full ansthesia is
 sought4 ,the patient can manage this   
herself1 and it thus serves two         
purposes1 giving her something beside   
her discomfort to think of1 and taking  
away the pain so that there is little   
left to think about4  ,take a light     
drinking glass1 fill half full of       
absorbent cotton1 and drop a few drops  
of the mixture upon it2 at the beginning
 of a pain1 or a little before1 take a  
half dozen full breaths1 and the pain is
 toned down to a very bearable thing4   
,the patient can hold the glass1 and    
there is no danger of her taking too    
much1 as her hand will drop when she has
 enough to render her a little drowsy4  
,this should rarely be given1 until the 
second stage of labor begins1 as it will
 sometimes retard if given in the first 
stage4  ,in the last few days before    
labor1 there is often a nervous         
restlessness on the part of many women  

which can easily be appeased by the     
physician4 ,a few questions1 an         
examination if necessary1 the quiet     
assurance that everything is all right1 
will do much to quiet the unrest4 ,the  
home friends can likewise aid in this by
 judiciously suggesting changes1 and    
recreation a little out of the ordinary1
 or a loved visitor will tide over the  
intervening days beautifully4  ,there   
are at times during the last few days1  
pains that simulate labor pains1 and    
make the time drag heavily4 ,try and put
 by all thoughts of anxiety1 as you will
 have warning sufficient to give you    
time for every needed preparation4      
,should your pains come with any degree 
of regularity1 consult your physician   
about it1 that he may be on his guard   
and prepared for a call at any moment4  
,as soon as you have the premonition of 
regular pains1 unless the bowels have   
moved freely already that day1 they     
should be moved by a full enema or      
injection4 ,during the waiting time     

occupy yourself as pleasantly as        
possible1 keeping about the house or    
room1 until obliged to take to the bed1 
as the time will seem shorter and you   
can aid much by keeping about on the    
feet4 ,be cheerful1 courageous1 and     
strong2 remembering all the time that   
you are only fulfilling a natural law1  
and that the large majority of cases are
 simple and uncomplicated1 and give no  
trouble whatever4  ,let no one into the 
room who has not a cheery word to say   
and a bright face to give strength to   
the word4 ,long faces and solemnity are 
not wanted here1 but joy and gladness   
that the mystery of birth1 the coming   
into life of a new creation1 is to be   
enacted1 and this her time of           
8deliverance0 should be celebrated with 
joy4  ,should any foolish one dare      
whisper1 banish them at once1 and see to
 it that they do not return4 ,if you    
fear to offend1 send them on some needed
 errand that will take several hours1   
and pray that it will all be over before

 they return to rejoice with you4       
,there are three well marked stages of  
labor4 ,the first is perhaps to the     
novice the most tedious1 as one cannot  
see the progress made1 and there is a   
feeling that nothing is being           
accomplished4 ,this first stage is what 
is familiarly called the getting-ready  
stage1 that is1 the opening of the mouth
 of the uterus1 ready for the expulsion 
of the child4 ,many women keep about    
their work1 paying but little attention 
to this stage1 while a goodly number are
 unconscious of it entirely1 the        
contractions taking place in so orderly 
a manner1 that no pain is felt1 or if   
any1 very slight4 ,at this stage if     
tedious1 a good sitz bath will afford   
comfort1 and aid in the regular         
contractions4 ,often most of the        
discomfort at this time is because of   
nervousness4 ,keep cool1 jolly and      
cheerful and all will go well4  ,when   
there is a natural desire to bear down  
with a pain1 the second or expulsive    

stage has begun4 ,then you may          
administer your ansthetic1 giving as    
described above4  ,often this stage is  
very short and easily borne1 as the     
patient can note the progress made1 and 
sees the end nearer4 ,a recent patient  
who had had two children before1 felt   
very little discomfort during the first 
stage1 and recognizing the beginning of 
the second1 remarked at the first pain1 
8,that was not very hard1 but think how 
many more there must be40 ,the next pain
 came1 and she had hardly time to reach 
the bed1 before the little one was      
ushered into existence4 ,the chances are
 that if your dress has been hygienic1  
your exercise what it should have been1 
your baths kept up faithfully1 that you 
will be one of those who will be        
surprised at the ease of your labor4    
,the second stage terminates with the   
birth of the child4 ,a rest follows this
 of from a quarter to a half an hour1   
when follows the expulsion of the       
placenta1 or afterbirth1 which is the   

third stage4  ,a word here as to the    
best method of tying the placentic cord4
 ,a fancy obtains among a few physicians
 that the cord need not be tied1 if the 
child is not severed from the mother    
until the cord has ceased to pulsate4   
,however this may be1 ,i am sure you    
will feel more secure if the cord is    
well tied4 ,the latest and most approved
 method and one which is surest to      
prevent hemorrhage1 is this4 ,tie the   
placentic cord at a distance of about   
three inches from the body of the child1
 sever it just beyond the place where it
 is tied1 then fold it back and with the
 same thread tie the placentic cord     
again an inch from the child1 leaving   
the loop of cord as it is1 until it     
dries and falls off4 ,the fold and      
double tie make assurance doubly sure as
 far as hemorrhage is concerned4  ,the  
rest which follows the close of labor1  
rest of body and mind1 can be understood
 only when experienced1 no words can    
explain it4 ,the labor is over1 all that

 has been told you of terror and danger 
has not been yours1 and the pain is all 
forgotten in the joy that a child is    
born1 is yours1 and you hug it to your  
heart for very joy4 ,cherish it1 dear   
mother1 rejoice in it1 and train it to  
become a truly great child of a noble   
mother4     ,,chapter ,,xvii4           
,,surroundings ,,and ,,after-,,care ,,of
 ,,the ,,mother4      ,maternity ,should
 ,have the ,largest and ,brightest ,room
 in the     ,house4--,it is ,her        
,coronation ,room4--,simplicity of      
,labor with     ,healthy                
,women4--,science ,has ,reduced ,risk to
 the ,minimum4--,the     ,exaltation of 
,motherhood4--,the ,rest after          
,labor4--,how to ,prepare     a ,bed for
 the ,parturient4--,deliverance of      
,mother from ,friends     and           
,visitors4--,sanitary ,pads4--,regular  
,nursing4--,undisturbed     ,sleep4--,no
 ,binder ,necessary for ,mother4--,the  
,care of the                            
,breasts4--,diet4--,sitting ,up4--,six  

or ,eight ,weeks ,needed to ,regain     
,normal ,condition4--,the ,use of the   
,douche4--,sore ,nipples4--,the         
,bearing of ,children not to be         
,dreaded4--,the ,joy of ,motherhood4    
,the room chosen for the lying-in should
 be as large and warm and sunshiny as   
any room in the house4 ,it should be far
 enough from the living rooms to be     
quiet the greater part of the day1 and  
yet not so far as to feel isolated4 ,the
 centre of the home at this time is the 
little mother1 and the room in which she
 rests after her perilsome journey is   
the throne room1 where love and homage  
crown her queen1 and welcome right      
royally the little prince or princess1  
who has come to share her reign4        
,nothing unpleasant should be allowed to
 enter this room1 for the happy and     
quick getting up of the patient depends 
much upon the smooth running of the home
 machinery4 ,one hour of mental         
disturbance1 may add days to the        
lying-in1 and one discordant person can 

make more unrest and trouble than all   
the others combined can overcome4       
,therefore look well to the helpers in  
the home1 that they be in harmony with  
the home-keeper4  ,had we to deal with  
labor in its simplicity1 as a           
physiological act1 natural and          
uncomplicated with faulty living and    
semi-invalidism1 the physician's and    
attendant's duties in the days following
 delivery1 could be expressed in few    
words2 but owing to the results of our  
boasted civilization and high pressure  
living1 which too often in its mad rush 
has robbed womankind of the sturdy      
physique1 and sound brawn and endurance 
so much needed in the everyday          
emergencies of life1 she comes to the   
ordeal of maternity badly fitted for its
 strain1 and with little or no reserve  
power1 either to carry her through the  
hours of incomparable pain1 or to aid in
 her restoration in the days following4 
,in other words1 labor has come to be   
pathological or abnormal1 instead of    

physiological or normal1 in the majority
 of cases1 and as such1 the attendant   
cares have come to be correspondingly   
onerous4  ,that great changes have been 
made in the past thirty years since the 
promulgation of the germ theory of      
disease1 in the management of the       
lying-in room is unquestioned4 ,the     
patient is no longer left to the        
recuperative forces of nature alone1 but
 is aided as well by every wise         
provision of art and science1 and as a  
consequence the mortality rate of       
parturients has been reduced to a       
minimum4  ,but something more than      
getting the mother up is desired1       
namely1 getting her up as well and      
strong as ever4 ,child-bearing should   
not deplete a woman's strength1 neither 
should it detract from her beauty and   
freshness1 but should add charms1 even  
as it adds to her mental and spiritual  
attractiveness by the sweet             
consciousness and dignity that she is a 
mother1 and that henceforth a little    

soul looks to her for the interpretation
 of life's meaning1 and for the guiding 
of little feet along its devious paths4 
,oh mother1 what a privilege2 that you  
may shape this fair thing into a soul to
 your thought and ,god's liking1 for    
,his promises are sure along these      
lines4 ,listen6 8,instead of thy fathers
 shall be thy children1 whom thou mayest
 make princes in all the earth40 ,as if 
the dear ,lord were comforting ,his     
daughters in going out from the home    
nest1 and the peculiar protecting care  
of the father1 by reminding them that   
henceforth a sublimer thing awaited them
 than the protection of a father's love2
 namely1 themselves assuming the part of
 parent1 enfolding and shaping in their 
love1 the little lives1 according to    
,his will1 into fair and noble souls    
that shall bless the world and make it  
richer for their living4  ,immediately  
following delivery1 the physician in    
charge should see that his patient is   
made comfortable4 ,a rest of half an    

hour at least should be allowed her1    
while physician and nurse look after the
 little one4 ,then lacerations if any   
must be seen to--for they will occur    
occasionally even in the most skillfully
 conducted labors4  ,if the gown is     
turned up under the shoulders during    
delivery1 and held securely in place    
with a safety pin1 there will be no     
necessity for changing this1 and a      
toilet of the bruised and sore parts    
will take but a few moments1 and the    
mother will be ready for her long       
delightful rest4  ,it may not be out of 
place to give directions for making the 
bed preparatory to the confinement4     
,there is a right way and a wrong way   
for doing even this4 ,the bed should be 
made double4 ,first over the mattress   
should be placed a square of rubber     
sheeting--or oilcloth if the rubber is  
not easily obtainable--large enough to  
cover the entire middle of the bed1 and 
within eighteen inches of the head and  
foot4 ,this should be securely fastened 

at the four corners with safety pins1   
and at the middle on each edge1 to      
prevent wrinkling4 ,over this is placed 
a sheet covering the entire bed2 over   
this a sheet folded lengthwise1 then    
crosswise1 to make a square2 this is    
called the draw sheet1 and must be      
fastened at the corners with safety     
pins4 ,this is the first bed and that   
which is to remain after the toilet is  
made following delivery4 ,over this a   
third sheet is placed covering the      
entire bed1 then another draw sheet     
fastened as the other4 ,these last two  
are removed with small discomfort to the
 patient1 after delivery1 and a clean   
fresh bed remains4  ,an excellent thing 
to insure greater cleanliness1 is to    
prepare a bag about two feet square1    
made of old cotton cloth1 and filled to 
a thickness of three or four inches1    
with wheat bran4 ,this1 if placed       
directly under the body will absorb all 
the discharges1 and can be burned when  
removed1 and thus much washing be saved4

  ,now the mother should be left several
 hours undisturbed2 for she needs rest1 
and must have it4 ,one rule should be   
made inviolable for every lying-in room2
 namely1 no company should be allowed1  
other than the immediate family1 until  
the patient is sitting up2 then she will
 be strong enough to bear the 8ohs0 and 
8ahs0 of admiration1 and the wise and   
otherwise volumes of advice1 upon the   
care and training of the little one1    
which will be gratuitously bestowed4    
,the nurse will have no difficulty in   
carrying this out if she have the       
physician's authority to support her4   
,many little mothers have been hindered 
in their recovery1 and have finally     
gotten up weak and nervous1 through the 
indiscretions of their thoughtless1 if  
well-meaning friends4 ,the heartfelt    
prayer of every parturient should be1   
8,lord1 ,i am delivered of my child     
safely1 now deliver me from my friends40
  ,before confinement two dozen of      
napkins or pads should be prepared for  

the mother in the following manner4 ,get
 an ordinary grade of cheese cloth1 and 
enclose in a square of it folded        
corner-wise1 a strip of medicated cotton
 six inches long4 ,these can be used as 
napkins for the mother safely1 as they  
are aseptic1 and after they are soiled  
can be burned4 ,these are comparatively 
inexpensive1 as a pound of cotton will  
make the entire number4  ,if the        
confinement has been in every way a     
normal one1 the care necessary will be  
easily given4 ,to keep the baby quiet   
and contented1 and from the beginning   
free from night nursing1 that the mother
 may be insured a good period of rest1  
is one of the strongest aids to her     
speedy recovery4 ,what ,i mean by       
freedom from night feeding is this4 ,at 
ten o'clock the baby may be put to the  
breast1 and then not again until four or
 five in the morning4 ,that they can be 
thus taught1 and that they will thrive  
under it1 ,i have many times            
demonstrated2 and that the mother will  

thrive is a foregone conclusion4 ,this  
will be further discussed in the chapter
 on the care of the baby4  ,no binder   
for the mother is necessary1 as ,i have 
in my own practice many times           
demonstrated4 ,it seems to me a         
reflection on the creative work of the  
,maker4 ,they are used and recommended  
ostensibly as a support1 and to insure a
 good form after getting up2 while in   
reality they defeat the first purpose by
 crowding down the uterus instead of    
holding it in place2 while the muscles  
of the abdomen are quite capable of     
contracting and insuring the former     
figure1 without the use of a binder4    
,on the day following delivery the      
physician will see that the patient     
urinates freely1 and the bowels1 if they
 have been kept open before delivery1   
will need no attention until nature     
calls for an evacuation4 ,a simple enema
 of warm water will be all that is      
needed to aid in this4 ,immediately     
after delivery1 and after the toilet1 to

 patients who can take it1 ,i recommend 
a cup of hot milk1 to others a cup of   
beef tea made from beef extract1 if more
 acceptable than the milk4  ,until the  
mother's milk is established1 the food  
should be light and simple1 with not too
 much of liquid to stimulate too great a
 flow of milk4 ,if the milk comes with a
 rush the breasts may be painfully      
distended1 and more may be secreted than
 the baby will take4 ,if so1 all that   
will be needed is a gentle rubbing of   
the breasts from the circumference      
toward the nipple1 with the fingers     
dipped in hot lard4 ,the nurse if well  
chosen will be schooled in this1 and    
only enough milk should be rubbed out to
 relieve the breasts1 as very soon the  
little one will need all that is        
secreted4  ,after the milk is           
established the diet can be more        
generous1 and on the eighth day if all  
goes well1 the little mother can sit up 
in bed to eat her meals2 and after the  
tenth day she may have her wrapper on   

and slip out into a rocker for a few    
hours1 but she should avoid walking     
about for some days yet4 ,the reason for
 this carefulness8 ,the uterus which has
 enlarged from a tiny organ1 weighing a 
few ounces1 to many times its original  
size and weight1 cannot regain its      
original condition in a day4 ,to quote  
from ,leavitt again4 8,in normal cases  
complete involution1 7i4 e41 reduction  
to normal size71 is effected in six or  
eight weeks4 ,the progress of uterine   
diminution is graphically shown by      
,heschl1 from the weight of the organ at
 different periods4 ,immediately after  
delivery he found that it weighed       
twenty-two to twenty-four ounces2 in one
 week it was reduced to nineteen to     
twenty-one ounces2 at the end of the    
second week it weighed ten to eleven    
ounces2 at the close of the third week  
it weighed five to seven ounces2 and at 
eight weeks its weight was but a little 
in excess of that which preceded the    
first pregnancy40 ,all this methodical  

work of nature may be greatly hindered  
by carelessness and by getting up too   
early1 hence1 8make haste slowly40  ,the
 douche in the after care of the        
parturient has been variously discussed4
 ,a hot douche immediately following    
delivery1 to cleanse thoroughly the     
uterus of any clots or bits of membrane 
that may be hiding there1 is1 we        
believe1 productive of no harm1 and may 
obviate much trouble thereafter4 ,a     
daily douche of hot water containing a  
little calendula or listerine1 is       
cleansing and is often very grateful to 
the patient1 but is not1 in the absence 
of unnatural conditions1 a necessity4   
,nature undisturbed knows how to take   
care of the outlets1 in cleansing and   
recuperation1 if all has gone well4 ,in 
many cases the douching is overdone1 and
 is productive of weakness rather than  
strength4  ,should the nipples give     
trouble1 from sensitiveness or fissures1
 washing them off and dusting them with 
calendulated boracic acid1 or simply    

bathing with calendula1 may heal them   
very quickly4 ,if this alone fails1     
before each nursing apply over the      
nipple a piece of gold-beater's         
skin--which may be obtained of any      
reliable druggist--puncturing with      
several openings to allow the milk to   
pass through4 ,make a fresh application 
each time1 and by thus persistently     
keeping the lips of the child from the  
sensitive surfaces they are enabled to  
heal4  ,with all these careful          
directions1 dear young mothers1 do not  
be frightened into thinking that the    
bearing of children is something to be  
dreaded1 and something which involves   
great danger4 ,it is neither4 ,the      
bearing of children was intended in our 
creation and is a natural1 physiological
 process1 and the ,all-wise ,creator has
 amply fitted us for it4 ,if we come to 
maternity unprepared1 it must be because
 of ignorance on our part how to fit    
ourselves properly1 or from unhygienic  
and harmful ways of living4 ,heed the   

laws of health1 keep a sweet1 trustful  
spirit1 avoid excitement1 consider      
yourself strong enough for the great    
office for which nature designed you1   
and you will be the 8joyful mother of   
children40 ,otherwise your joy will be  
mixed with fear and a thousand foolish  
worries1 that totally unfit you for your
 high office4  ,be happy that you are   
capable of becoming a mother1 be happy  
when you have the promise1 and be       
happiest of all when you hold your      
little one in your arms4 ,train them1   
all that are given you1 to the fear of  
,god1 and for the good of mankind1 and  
you will be a great woman1 whether your 
name ever reaches beyond your immediate 
neighborhood or not4 ,it is a great     
thing to become a mother of children4   
,to become ,god's vicegerent in creating
 and training souls that may bring      
gladness and regeneration to the dark   
places of the earth4 ,mothers1 mothers6 
rate your privileges high1 and live and 
train to a glorious fulfillment of noble

 purposes these gifts from ,god4        
,,chapter ,,xviii4  ,,care ,,of ,,the   
,,baby4      ,the ,more ,thoughtful     
,treatment of ,babies ,than             
,formerly4--,the     ,first ,attention  
,that ,baby ,needs4--,its ,oil          
,bath4--,the ,care     of the           
,eyes4--,the ,care of the ,placentic    
,cord4--,baby's ,first     ,bath4--,its 
,covering ,after the ,bath4--,the       
,basket4--,regularity     in            
,nursing4--,waking at ,night4--,rocking 
to ,sleep4--,quantity of                
,food4--,the ,appointments of the       
,nursery4--,the ,mother and the ,care   
of her own ,children4--,to her ,children
 the ,mother ,should be the     ,dearest
 ,creature in the ,world4--,the ,babies 
,born of ,love4--,the     ,babies ,born 
in ,bitterness4--,the ,responsibilities 
and ,joys of     ,motherhood4       8,it
 is a mother1 said the ,angel1 who has  
already given her     child the welcome 
that makes a joyous soul4 ,he shall not 
miss     her smile4 ,he is what she is4 

,he will need love since he will        
give so much1 and she is all compact of 
love4 ,she is one of the     forces of  
life4 ,to be the mate of such a woman1  
the father of     such heirs1 as she    
will give1 is a fate a man might pray   
,god     for4 ,love has not grown stale 
with them1 their children are the       
very blossoms of it4 ,her eyes are      
deeper pools of love each               
year40--,,frances ,,hodgson ,,burnett4  
,time was when the little one and its   
comfort was not so thought of as it is  
to-day4 ,it was not considered that the 
little one in its tedious journey had   
become tired and needed rest2 or that   
its change of abodes and climates is so 
marked that the transition is not an    
easy one4 ,it was plunged into a full   
bath1 or exposed to the air1 was sponged
 over1 often with soap that was not too 
pure1 and the only resulting virtue was 
the full expansion of lungs1 because of 
the lusty crying from such rough        
handling4  ,to-day many physicians      

advocate wrapping the new baby in cotton
 batting1 covering it quite closely1 and
 laying it away in a warm corner for    
several hours1 until it becomes in a    
measure adjusted to the change of       
residence4 ,then1 instead of a thorough 
washing1 it is treated to an oil bath   
before a warm fire1 with only a small   
part of its body exposed at one time4   
,good clean lard is the best emollient1 
as it removes most easily the vernix    
caseosa with which the baby is more or  
less covered4 ,by some sweet oil is     
preferred4  ,after the little one has   
had its rest1 the nurse with her basket 
at hand1 her oil on the hearth well     
warmed1 is ready to give it its first   
dressing4 ,use a small piece of         
absorbent cotton for the sponge to oil  
it with4 ,cover the head well with the  
oil and with a soft piece of old linen  
rub it off1 and with it will come the   
cheesy substance called vernix caseosa1 
and leave the head clean4 ,do this with 
the entire body1 little by little1      

taking great care that all the creases1 
which are numerous1 shall be thoroughly 
clean and left well oiled1 that no      
chafing may follow4 ,for a week your    
baby will need no other than the oil    
bath daily1 and the restfulness and     
comfort of the little one will be       
expressed in sleep1 sleep1 ,,sleep4 ,the
 full bath in water should be reached by
 degrees only2 proceeding from a partial
 bath with sponge1 to a full sponge     
bath2 then as the baby grows stronger1  
put it into the tub4 ,approached in this
 way1 few babies but will take their    
bath with delight1 and look forward to  
it daily4  ,as soon as the baby is born1
 even before the cord is severed1 the   
eyes of the little one should be washed 
thoroughly4 ,with a soft bit of linen   
and a cup of warm water previously      
boiled1 the eyes can be readily         
cleansed1 and thus cared for1 you will  
rarely have any trouble with the eyes   
thereafter4 ,keep them turned from the  
light while dressing1 and at no time let

 a strong light fall upon the eyes4  ,in
 dressing the cord1 wrap it in a bit of 
absorbent cotton four inches square4    
,cut or tear a hole in the middle of    
this1 draw the loop of cord through1    
wrap the cotton about it and turn it up 
and hold it in place with the band      
pinned only sufficiently close to hold  
the cord and its dressing in place4 ,the
 cord will need no further attention    
until it has dried and dropped off1     
unless the band in slipping up pulls    
upon the dressing and irritates the     
little one4 ,dressed in this manner the 
navel heals smooth and clean1 and will  
need nothing further than a dusting with
 calendulated boracic acid1 should it   
not be perfectly dry when the cord      
drops4  ,an excellent blanket to receive
 the child from the bath is made of     
coarse ,germantown yarn1 knitted into a 
strip three-quarters of a yard wide1 and
 a yard and a half in length4 ,this is  
sufficiently large to wrap the baby well
 in until it is dry and ready to be     

dressed4 ,some prefer the receiving     
apron4 ,this is made of coarse1 heavy   
flannel1 and worn by the nurse at the   
time of the bath4 ,the baby is lifted   
from the tub1 and wrapped in the apron  
as in the blanket4  ,now the little one 
is ready for its first suit1 as         
described in the chapter on baby's      
dress1 and then to be put into its      
basket-bed for a long nap4 ,the         
cradle-basket hardly needs further      
description1 but a few words define it4 
,it is simply a well padded             
clothes-basket1 and may be ornamented as
 much or as little as the fancy         
dictates4 ,it serves as a snug nest for 
the little one1 as deep in the folds of 
the soft blankets and dainty pads it is 
securely sheltered from any draft1 and  
artificial warmth can be easily applied 
by hot water bottles at the sides and   
foot4  ,this basket should be its bed   
for months1 or until it is outgrown4    
8,but10 mothers sometimes say to me1 8it
 is so difficult to reach over and get  

the baby for feeding in the night20 and 
,i respond1 8,a well trained baby will  
have no night feeding40 ,remember that  
more can be taught the little one in the
 first few weeks1 than it can unlearn in
 the next few months without very       
diligent effort and patient persistence4
  ,should the little one make its advent
 in the night1 it is more easily broken 
to good habits1 than when it comes in   
the daytime4 ,why8 ,because it will     
sleep the remainder of the night and    
wake to be put to the breast some time  
during the day1 and then again toward   
night1 when it will be ready for another
 night of sleep4 ,of course this may    
seem a theoretical baby1 and not at all 
real2 and ,i will admit that some of    
these perverse little specimens of      
humanity put to flight every theory that
 has been or can be made1 while a few   
are models from the beginning4  ,if he  
does not like his surroundings1 and     
refuses to be comforted1 the night may  
have to be turned in to day for a short 

time1 when gradually he must be gotten  
into line for sleeping at night1 and    
having his wakeful time in the day4 ,fed
 at nine or ten at night1 if he is      
properly adjusted1 he will make no      
trouble until five or six in the        
morning4 ,should he nestle and fret1    
often a change in its position1 a dry   
napkin1 and a few drops of warm water1  
will send him off to sleep again for the
 remainder of the night4  ,that this can
 be done and the babies be heartier and 
stronger for it1 ,i have proven with    
three of my very own1 and many others   
under my care4 ,that the mother will be 
stronger for having her night's sleep   
uninterrupted goes without saying4      
,should the baby be troublesome at first
 and so get into bad habits1 the sooner 
it is broken of them and gotten into    
right ways the better for the mother and
 child4  ,however much the mother may   
enjoy it1 it is better for the little   
one not to be rocked to sleep4 ,fed and 
placed in its bed1 it will soon fall    

asleep1 and wake when its nap is over to
 lie there in content1 should it not be 
time for another meal4  ,the answer to  
the question1 how often shall the child 
be fed1 is1 that it depends upon the    
baby4 ,the rule1 however1 is once in two
 hours the first two months1 then       
lengthen the time by half an hour1 each 
month thereafter1 until it gets down to 
four meals a day1 which will be needed  
until it is a year old4 ,should it be so
 unfortunate as to be a bottle-fed baby1
 then the quantity must be regulated as 
well4 ,beginning with two ounces1       
gradually increase until the limit of   
six ounces has been reached4  ,this is  
the rule1 we have said1 but not quite   
all babies submit kindly to the rule4   
,you may be obliged to begin with a meal
 once in an hour and a half1 but if so1 
you can soon regulate it to the proper  
time1 and all will be well4 ,in talking 
with ,dr4 ,shipman1 who was at the head 
of a large foundlings' home in ,chicago1
 he said1 8,the first rule when a baby  

is brought in is to break it from night 
feeding1 and we have little difficulty  
in doing this after the first two or    
three nights40 ,the trouble too often   
is1 the parents need breaking in1 before
 they can patiently and persistently    
train a child in the right way4 ,their  
own habits are not fixed and methodical1
 and they find it difficult to train    
their children into right ways of living
 and doing4  ,the nursery should be a   
sunny1 pleasant room1 large and         
cheerful1 for here much of the time of  
the mother will be spent1 whether she be
 able to keep a nurse to share with her 
the care of the little one or not4 ,no  
true mother gives over the entire care  
of her children to a nurse1 however     
efficient and kindly and cultured and   
wise the nurse she may have1 may be2 but
 she will keep the oversight and spend  
hours daily with her little ones1 in    
their care and supervision and tender   
mothering1 which no one else can give   
the child which is part of her very     

self4 ,mother should be to them the     
dearest being in the world1 and no one  
should be allowed to come nearer them   
than she1 in her loving sympathetic     
devotion and care4  ,through all the    
months of pregnancy1 the thoughts of    
motherhood have been taking root in her 
heart 7we wish we might say in every    
case1 8watered by joy and gladness10 but
 not always is this so72 sometimes the  
roots are set in bitterness1 and the    
little soul growing to maturity under   
her heart1 is absorbing the bitterness1 
to the sorrow and hurt of all its after 
life4  ,of the first class ,mrs4        
,burnett has given us a lovely type4 ,a 
mother is looking down into the face of 
her firstborn1 and exclaims1 8,and this 
fair soul given to me from the outer    
bounds1 we know not1 and the little     
human body it wakened to life in2 think 
you that ,christ will help me to fold   
them in love1 high and pure enough1 and 
teach the human body to do honor to its 
soul8 ,surely that which ,he made in    

,his own image1 would not that it should
 despise itself and its own wonders1 but
 do them reverence and rejoice in them  
nobly1 honoring all their seasons and   
their changes4 ,i pray for a great soul1
 and great wit1 and great power to help 
this fair human thing to grow1 and love 
and live40 ,is it any wonder that she   
should say of such a mother1 8',twas not
 mere love she gave her offspring4 ,she 
gave them of her constant thought1 and  
of honor such as taught them reverence  
of themselves as of all other human     
things4 ,she was the noblest creature   
that they knew2 her beauty1 her great   
unswerving love1 her truth1 were things 
bearing to their child eyes the         
unchangingness of ,god's stars in       
heaven40  ,again ,mrs4 ,spofford in her 
incomparable little prose-poem1 ,the    
,nemesis of ,motherhood1 pictures one of
 the other mothers1 a vacuous1 trifling 
woman1 who utters the soul-cry1 when she
 began to wake to her real self1 as the 
little firstborn nestled in her bosom4  

8,do you suppose he knows ,i am his     
mother80 and the little head had        
snuggled into place4 ,she gazed at him  
in a bewildered wonder2 something seemed
 to be taking hold of her heartstrings4 
8,oh3 this scrap of a creature was part 
of her life itself2 she had made him2   
she had struck this spark of a soul into
 a being2 the idea2 the dear thing had a
 soul of course6 ,and she fell to       
wondering what kind of a soul it was4   
,what kind of a soul8 ,why didn't people
 say the son was the avatar of the      
mother8 ,a soul like hers to be sure4   
,heaven help her1 what kind of a soul   
was hers8 ,she saw herself4 ,that was   
the kind of a soul she had1 a little    
paltering1 worthless one1 and that was  
what she had given to her boy40  ,oh the
 sorrow of such motherhood6 ,sorrow for 
herself1 more sorrow for her children1  
and most sorrow for the great wide      
world1 into which her child has come to 
take a part--and which must of necessity
 be a sorrowful part1 unless he be      

regenerated4 ,and even then the         
superlative of sadness is this1 that he 
is not all he might have been had his   
progenitors given him his lawful        
inheritance4  ,mothers6 mothers6 choose 
and live for the highest and noblest in 
yourselves1 and for your children4      
,bless the world with your offspring4   
,crown them with your pure and noble    
life1 and your memory shall be blessed4 
,,chapter ,,xix4  ,,the ,,mother ,,the  
,,teacher4      ,mother's ,sphere in the
 ,home4--,mother as ,maker of           
,sunshine4--,food1     ,clothing and    
,restraint not the ,mother's ,full ,duty
 to ,her     ,children4--,teach ,them   
,self-knowledge4--,mother ,should ,give 
,honest     ,answers to ,honest         
,inquiries4--,ignorance ,leads to ,vice1
 and ,vice     to ,ruin4--,when ,shall  
,children be ,taught ,physical          
,truths4--,how     to ,teach ,little    
,children ,physical ,truth4--,questions 
of ,sex     ,should be the ,most ,sacred
 ,things of ,their ,knowledge4--,how to 

,teach the ,children in ,this ,sacred   
,way4--,the ,preparation for     the    
,lesson4--,mothers ,should ,teach ,their
 ,boys as ,well as the     ,girls4--,how
 ,boys ,grow ,away from ,their          
,mothers4--,how ,mothers ,may     ,win  
and ,hold ,their ,boys4--,an ,honest    
,mother's ,reward4--,a ,mother's        
,power ,over ,her ,children4       8,the
 best teacher is a wise mother4 ,she    
will thoroughly equip     the child for 
the journey of life2 she will place him 
on the     right road1 and she will fill
 his mind with such ideas of truth      
and justice as will enable him to       
withstand the temptations     of the    
world1 the flesh1 and the devil4 ,thrice
 happy is the     child who possesses   
such a mother4 ,he may have other       
teachers     in school and college1 but 
none whose influence is so              
far-reaching and lasting as             
hers40--,,thomas ,,hunter4      8,as is 
the mother so is her daughter40         
8,an ounce of mother is worth a pound of

 clergy40  ,a traveller and a native met
 upon the streets of ,tokio1 ,japan4 ,in
 the course of their conversation upon  
this wonderful land of the 8,rising     
,sun10 the native exclaimed3 8,but have 
you seen ,it80  8,it10 repeated the     
traveller1 8what do you mean by ,it80   
8,ah3 you would not ask had you seen    
,it40  ,they met again a few weeks      
later1 after the ,american had beheld   
the glories of the wonderful1           
indescribable 8,it0 of ,japan1--the     
,holy ,mountain1 the marvelous          
,fujiyama1 which rises thousands of feet
 above the level plain1 snow-capped1    
reflecting the rays of the sun in a     
thousand varied shades1 alone1 majestic1
 incomparable1 in its grandeur and      
beauty4  ,little wonder that the        
admiring natives call it the 8,it0 of   
,japan4 ,it might as truly1 among its   
kind1 be called the ,it of the world4   
,there were few words exchanged1 but the
 native was satisfied4 ,the ,it was     
understood and appreciated by the       

traveller4  ,months after the ,japanese 
visited ,america1 and from the ,pacific 
to the ,atlantic was eagerly searching  
for anything that would compare in      
natural beauty1 with this marvelous     
,holy ,mountain of his own land4 ,the   
,yosemite1 the majestic ,rockies1 the   
,national ,park1 ,niagara1 all were     
visited1 but nowhere could he find the  
one thing worthy the name4  ,as he      
became known1 the homes of ,america were
 thrown open to him4 ,at last he awoke  
one day and exclaimed in his delight1   
8,i have found it1 the ,it of ,america1 
and it is greater than that of my       
beloved land4 ,the ,it of ,america is   
her homes40  ,to this beautiful figure  
,i would add but one word4 ,the ,it of  
the home is the mother4 ,shall ,i prove 
it from the lips of a child8  ,willie1  
aged five1 bounded into the house one   
day1 exclaiming as he hung his hat in   
the hall1 8,this is my home40 ,a lady   
visitor said1 8,the house next door is  
just like this1 ,willie1 suppose you go 

over there and hang your hat in the     
hall1 that would be your home as much as
 this1 wouldn't it80  8,no ma'am10 said 
the little fellow4 8,why not80 asked the
 lady4 8',cause my mother does not live 
there10 was the triumphant reply4       
,truly the mother is the home1 and as   
well1 although unconscious of it1 she is
 the barometer of the home4 8,mamma1    
what makes it look so dark1 is it going 
to storm80 said my little one4 8,why1   
darling1 it isn't dark10 ,i answered2   
8the sun shines beautifully40 ,he ran to
 the window and came back exclaiming1   
8,why so it does1 mamma1 but it seems so
 dark here4 ,may ,i go out in the       
sunshine80  ,and then ,i was startled   
with the knowledge that the little one  
was under the shadow of my face1 for    
gloomy thoughts had held me all the     
morning1 and ,i had given myself to     
their companionship4 8,yes1 my darling10
 ,i said1 8you may go out and mamma will
 go with you40  ,when we came back      
laughing and cheery1 my baby added      

unconsciously another rebuke1 8,how     
lovely the house is now1 mamma1 and how 
it makes you smile40  ,is it not        
lamentably true that the many mothers   
consider their work done when they have 
fed and clothed their children1 and     
restrained them from the glaring evils  
of the day2 and is it not as true that  
many of them have given little or no    
thought as to the best methods in which 
these three things shall be done8 ,the  
question of preparation for maidenhood  
and boyhood1 for manhood and womanhood1 
is never considered for a moment4 ,it   
has not dawned upon the many that they  
should teach their children that they   
are a small part1 but nevertheless a    
very important part of the great living1
 thinking1 striving world4 ,that the    
next generation will be the better or   
the worse because they are a part of it4
 ,that they can fit themselves to be a  
blessing1 or neglecting the fitting1    
make themselves a curse to the coming   
generation4  ,teach them that before    

they can understand and help others1    
they must know themselves4 ,begin with  
their earliest instinctive questionings 
to answer truthfully1 and glorify the   
thoughts that nature has implanted in   
every human heart1 and that unless      
properly understood will become a snare 
and temptation to them4 ,many girls who 
have gone astray1 or in some measure    
have become victims of their ignorance1 
have said to me in their remorse1 8,oh1 
doctor1 if my mother had only taught me 
these things1 ,i should not have made   
the mistakes ,i have made4 ,why do      
mothers keep their girls in such        
ignorance80  ,and many a mother1 who has
 grown grey with the weight of care and 
years1 after listening to a talk on     
maternal responsibilities1 has          
exclaimed1 8,if ,i had only known these 
things while training my children1 what 
a difference it would have made with my 
boys and girls1 and how much of sorrow  
and regret ,i could have spared them all
 these years4 ,how much less of regret  

should ,i have had40  ,i like to think  
that in great measure1 the mother is    
responsible for what her children know  
and don't know4 ,ah1 but you say1 how   
can a mother be responsible for teaching
 her children aright when she has not   
been so taught herself8 ,doesn't this   
very question prove my statement8       
,because the mothers behind you have    
shirked their responsibility1 have you a
 right to shirk yours8 ,remember what we
 have already quoted1 8,what we need    
most is a generation of educated        
mothers40 ,and by this word 8educated0  
is not meant 8college trained0 alone1   
but thoughtful1 earnest1 wide-awake1    
self-cultured women as well1 who have at
 heart the highest good of themselves as
 well as those who come after them2 and 
who are willing to give time and careful
 painstaking thought and research to the
 care of the home and to the mental1    
moral and physical training of their    
children4 ,to such mothers every        
question of the little ones comes as the

 divine right exercised by the          
individual child1 and as such receives  
proper attention and reply4  ,never does
 such a mother turn her child away with 
the rebuke or fretful rejoinder1 that   
she has no time for such questions4 ,for
 what is a mother's time given but to   
guide the feet of her babies into true  
paths2 to be the answer book for all    
their puzzling problems8 ,a true woman  
never compels her children to go        
elsewhere for the answers to questions  
which she herself should give4 ,in      
answering be so truthful that they may  
never1 even in thought1 question your   
word4 ,blessed child of a more blessed  
mother1 was the little girl1 who when a 
mate questioned the truthfulness of a   
certain statement1 excitedly replied1   
while her eyes flashed1 8,it is so1 for 
my mamma said it was2 and if my mamma   
said it was so1 it is so if it isn't    
so40  ,when shall ,i begin to teach my  
children those things which pertain to  
their being and well-being1 many mothers

 ask2 and ,i would reply1 just as soon  
as they begin to question4 ,not always  
will it be wise to answer their         
questions fully2 but you may always1 and
 should answer them as far as best1 and 
then say1 8,that is all you can         
understand now1 but as you grow older   
mamma will tell you more about it4      
,always come to me when you want to know
 about these things1 for ,god gave you  
your mamma purposely to teach you in the
 right way1 and who ought to know as    
well as a mother what her children      
should know80 ,i am often asked1 8,isn't
 it unsafe to tell children all that    
they want to know8 will they not talk of
 it when and where they should not80    
,no1 not if you teach them aright4 ,if  
you do not tell them1 some one else     
will1 and often in a way which you      
should blush to know about4 ,unless you 
answer them frankly and truthfully      
concerning these pertinent questions of 
their being1 the entire realm of sex1 of
 nativity1 of fatherhood and motherhood1

 which should be among the most sacred  
things of their knowledge1 will be      
associated in their minds with sin1     
darkness and unholiness4  ,one needs to 
think long1 earnestly and prayerfully   
along these lines1 before these lessons 
can be taught in all their sweetness and
 purity4 ,we need to go patiently back  
and divest them of all their coarseness 
and sin1 with which wrong teaching1 or  
no teaching at all1 has clothed them1   
and then1 dressing them in their        
legitimate garments of whiteness and    
purity1 tell them to our girls and boys1
 so that it will be no longer necessary 
to say to our young men and women1      
8,know ,thyself0 for all shall know     
themselves1 from the least to the       
greatest1 and all that 8self0 stands    
for4  ,at the mother's knee is the true 
primary school for these great questions
 to be learned1 and happy the mother who
 can take her children through all the  
higher grades1 until their education in 
these things is completed4  ,every child

 is an animated interrogation point1 and
 they have a right to be1 for so they   
learn4 ,meet them with loving frankness 
and you will never need confess that you
 have lost the confidence of your       
children4 ,they will turn to you as     
steel to a magnet1 attracted by this    
loving bond of sympathy and             
truthfulness4 8,mamma1 where did ,i come
 from80 opens the way1 dear mother1 for 
the most beautiful truth you can teach  
your child1 next to its new birth4      
8,but ,i don't know how to teach it10   
you say2 then tell your little one1     
8that's a long question1 darling1 and   
mamma must think out the simplest way to
 answer it1 and in a few days ,i will   
tell you all about it40 ,then away to   
your own room and down on your knees    
before ,god1 until the subject is       
divested of every shadow of sin and     
darkness1 and then in this pure light   
think for your life1 and if you cannot  
formulate your thoughts as you would1   
hurry at your first leisure to the      

wisest woman you know in these things   
and talk with her about it4 ,it is so   
simple after all1 and if told in a      
matter-of-fact way1 with no hesitation  
or blushing1 it will be so received by  
your child4  ,the simplest way is to    
teach them that the egg from which the  
little bird or downy chicken comes1 is  
laid by the mamma bird or hen1 and then 
she sits upon it to keep it warm1 while 
it grows in the shell until it gets too 
large to stay there longer1 when it     
bursts the bonds and comes out a downy1 
active little bird or chicken4 8,in much
 the same way1 my darling1 you grew2    
only instead of your being able to see  
the little egg1 which was your          
beginning1 it was kept warm and snug in 
a little room in mamma's body1 while you
 grew from a tiny speck of an egg1 so   
small that you could not see it with the
 naked eye1 into a fat1 beautiful1      
rollicking baby2 then you came out      
through a little door made purposely for
 it1 and was nestled in mamma's bosom   

forever after4 ,i think it must be you  
are kept hidden away while you grow1    
because mammas are so busy1 you might be
 forgotten if you were in any other     
nest1 and you would get cold and die4   
,as it is1 mamma carries you wherever   
she goes1 and whatever she is doing2 and
 you are always nestled snugly and      
warmly in the little cradle ,god made   
purposely for you1 and where mamma can  
feel you moving about as you grow1 for  
you are right under her heart40  ,it    
will do them no harm to take them a     
little into the agony of the birth      
chamber2 they will love and reverence   
you the more1 and feel the closer bond4 
,one dear boy on hearing the story of   
his birth1 throwing his arms about his  
mother's neck1 while the tears streamed 
down his cheeks1 exclaimed1 8,oh1 how   
boys ought to love their mothers40      
,tell the boys as well as the girls1    
dear mothers1 and do not make the       
mistake so often made1 in thinking it   
will do no good to talk to the boys4 ,it

 will do all the good in the world1 and 
they will bless your memory for it2 aye1
 more1 their wives and all good women   
will bless you as well4 ,just one       
illustration to prove my point1 and to  
encourage mothers who have put off      
teaching their children later than they 
should4  ,a mother who had but one      
child1 a son1 who had grown to be       
fifteen1 untaught in these things1 as so
 many boys are1 had grown away from his 
mother and sought companionship that was
 not all it should have been1 outside   
the home4 ,the mother in a heart to     
heart talk with a friend1 expressed her 
grief that she had lost the confidence  
of her boy4 8,he has grown away from    
me10 she said4 8,i see10 said the       
friend1 8but why don't you tell him your
 condition0--she was expecting then a   
little one--8and nine chances in ten you
 will win him back40 8,oh10 said the    
mother1 8,i could never talk with him of
 such things4 ,what could ,i say80      
8,don't you suppose he knows already80  

said the friend4 8,yes1 ,i am sure he   
does1 for he seems shy and conscious    
when he looks at me40 8,then why be     
afraid to talk to him of it80  ,then    
followed a long earnest talk of what she
 had missed all these years in          
neglecting the teaching that the boy    
must and would have1 and had probably   
gotten from those who had clothed it in 
impurity and shame1 instead of purity   
and loveliness4 ,and a promise was      
exacted that she would talk with her boy
 and tell him as only a mother can1 of  
her condition1 and of her sorrow that   
she had lost his full confidence1 which 
she once had and delighted in so much4  
,but in her timidity the time passed and
 the confidence was not given until the 
very day of her confinement4 ,the boy   
rushed into the house and found the     
mother alone in the agony of labor1 the 
father having gone for the physician and
 nurse4  8,what is the matter1 mamma8   
,you are sick4 ,can't ,i help you80 ,at 
the loving question the broken promise  

came to mind1 and in the desperation    
born of her suffering1 she resolved to  
tell him still4 8,oh1 son1 darling1 ,i'm
 going to have a baby20 she groaned in  
her agony4 8,oh1 mamma1 why didn't you  
tell me that you needed me80 he         
exclaimed1 as he threw his arms around  
his mother's neck4 8,i thought you      
didn't want me to know1 because you     
never talked to me about such things1   
but ,i wish you had40 ,and they were    
crying together1 mother and son1        
thinking the same thoughts1 all reserve 
broken down1 loving in the same old way1
 and the lost confidence restored4  ,the
 questions relating to their being and  
to the mysteries of procreation are     
legitimate ones1 and demand a patient   
hearing4 ,they should be met with such  
pure candor1 that they shall never in   
the minds of innocent childhood be      
clothed in a mystery which is too often 
interpreted as sin4 ,little wonder that 
untaught boys grow to be men that       
trample upon every holy instinct of     

womanhood1 and set at naught the        
sacredness of maternity4  ,i have read  
somewhere of a great physician who gave 
finely illustrated lectures to women    
upon the subjects relating to maternity4
 ,one wise mother who had listened with 
wrapt interest to his talks1 called at  
his office one day with her twin boys   
seven years old4 8,doctor10 she said1   
8,i would like you to show my boys the  
beautiful anatomical plates that you use
 in your lectures1 and tell them about  
some of them40 8,certainly1 madam10 he  
replied1 8,i will gladly do so40  ,he   
turned them over one by one1 answering  
an eager question here and there1 put by
 the bright boys1 until he came to one  
illustrating twin pregnancy1 which he   
passed hastily over without giving an   
opportunity for sight or question4      
8,stop1 doctor10 said the mother4 8,that
 is the very one ,i want my boys to see4
 ,i have promised them that as soon as  
they were old enough ,i would tell them 
all about the little room in mamma's    

body where they grew for nine months    
before they came into her arms40  ,the  
doctor was struck with confusion and    
could not utter a word4 ,he who had     
stood before great audiences of adults  
and taught them unblushingly the secrets
 of being1 was silent before innocent   
childhood4 ,the mother was forced to be 
the teacher1 when she had looked to one 
wiser to enforce the lesson4 ,standing  
in the presence of the great doctor1 she
 told them in pure sweet words the story
 of their prenatal life and of her      
motherhood1 not forgetting to tell of   
the great pain which was all forgotten  
so soon in the gladness that her baby   
boys were born to her4  ,she finished1  
and there were tears upon the faces of  
all her listeners4 8,oh1 mamma1 how good
 boys ought to be to their mothers10    
said one of the twins2 while the doctor 
exclaimed1 8,madam1 that was the finest 
lecture upon the subject to which ,i    
ever listened4 ,go on so teaching your  
boys and they will be men that the world

 will be proud of and greatly need40    
,this is the kind of seed-sowing which  
not only bears a rich harvest of purity 
and innocent knowledge1 but as well     
keeps out the weeds of sin and impurity1
 which curiosity gratified by secret    
whisperings always sows4  8,the true    
mother is a teacher whether she is      
conscious of it or not1 and the true    
teacher uses the innate mother          
element--that which broods over the     
child and warms it into life--as much as
 she does her acquired knowledge40      
,just as surely as the child in prenatal
 life drew his nourishment mental1      
moral1 and physical1 from the mother1 so
 surely in postnatal life will he look  
to her for example1 for strength1 for   
encouragement in all virtues1 for       
warning against pitfalls1 for direction 
in all knowledge1 for comfort in sorrow1
 for real heart's-ease1 for cheer and   
inspiration in the race of life4 ,god   
pity and forgive the mother1 who has no 
storehouse from which her children can  

draw their supplies of comfort and      
courage and rest4  ,i like to think of  
the wonderful ,shepherd ,psalm as a     
prototype of what ,god designs the      
parents to be to their children4        
,remember the ancient shepherd led his  
sheep2 so should the mother1 in         
obedience to ,god and her higher nature1
 in loveliness1 in patience1 in hope1 in
 cheerfulness1 in sweet charity1 lead   
her little ones in the 8,paths of       
righteousness40     ,,chapter ,,xx4     
,,common ,,ailments ,,of ,,children4    
,little ,ailments4--,nursing ,babies    
,affected by ,condition of              
,mother4--,sleep and ,health4--,the     
,baby's ,food4--,why ,babies are        
,restless when ,nursed from the ,right  
,breast4--,children's ,symptoms         
often ,more ,grave than the             
,ailment4--,illustrations4--,fevers     
and ,teething4--,vomiting4--,the ,cause 
of ,rash4--,pallid                      
,children4--,chafing4--,babies do not   
,cry without ,cause4--,need     of      

,water and ,fresh ,air4--,sleeping in   
open ,air4--,relief in                  
,constipation4--,important ,suggestions4
   ,i speak of ailments of children not 
diseases1 since this is in no sense a   
8,doctor ,book40 ,in the common ailments
 every mother should be so well informed
 that she may not distress herself at a 
trifling indisposition1 neither show no 
concern when marked symptoms of disease 
are present4 ,there are many ailments to
 which the most healthy child is        
susceptible1 and for which no alarm need
 be felt1 as they are trifling and      
usually last but a few hours4  ,in      
nursing babies1 the child is very apt to
 be affected by the condition of the    
mother4 ,if the mother is quiet1 well   
balanced1 free from worry1 not subject  
to fits of anger1 does not overdo1 does 
not eat stimulating food1 keeps early   
hours2 in short is quiet1 self-contained
 and healthful1 the probability is that 
her children will be well1 easily       
managed children4 ,on the other hand1 if

 she be easily disturbed1 unbalanced1   
constantly going beyond her strength1   
eating forbidden things1 keeping late   
hours1 and thus using or rather wasting 
her energies1 she has not the vital     
force to give to her children1 and they 
suffer proportionately4 ,here again is  
exemplified the truth that what the     
mother is that will her child be4       
,sitting down when tired and overheated 
or excited to nurse your little one1 do 
not wonder if you have a cross1 fretful1
 and many times1 feverish child as the  
result4 ,when under a fit of anger1 the 
mother's milk has many times produced in
 the child very alarming symptoms1 and  
sometimes even caused death4 ,this1 in  
an exaggerated way1 shows us what the   
effect is upon the delicate nervous     
temperament of the child1 if the mother 
is not in healthful tone herself4  ,a   
healthy1 well-trained baby1 should in   
the first weeks1 sleep twenty out of the
 twenty-four hours4 ,the sleep should be
 quiet and natural1 and the baby will in

 the remaining four hours eat and       
stretch itself and grow4  ,regularity of
 feeding in the first few weeks will not
 be as possible as later1 for the little
 one will sleep over its feeding times4 
,do not imagine from this that when it  
does eat it should have a double        
quantity1 for the stomach has not       
expanded in its sleep1 and will hold no 
more than when fed each two hours4 ,it  
is estimated that a newborn baby's      
stomach will hold but three or four     
tablespoonfuls1 and this should regulate
 the quantity of food at each feeding1  
if the baby is bottle fed4 ,if a nursing
 baby1 nature regulates the quantity1 if
 regularity of habit is observed1 as no 
more is secreted than is needed1 as a   
rule4  ,in tiny babyhood the child's    
liver is very large in proportion to its
 size1 and the size of the other organs1
 hence it will sometimes make trouble   
when the child is nursed on the right   
side2 as the weight of the liver        
pressing on the full stomach causes     

distress4 ,when you observe that the    
child fusses after nursing the right    
breast1 hold it as when nursing the left
 breast with the feet under the right   
arm1 and when laying it down lay it on  
the right side1 and you will relieve the
 difficulty4  ,every mother should know 
that 8in early childhood there is no    
relation between the intensity of the   
symptoms1 and the material lesion1 or   
derangement4 ,the most intense fever    
with restlessness1 cries and spasmodic  
movements1 may disappear in twenty-four 
hours without leaving any traces4 ,the  
intense nervous excitability in a robust
 child will often communicate a false   
appearance of gravity1 to a trivial     
ailment40  ,i quote from ,eustace       
,smith1 ,m4,d41 this comforting thought3
 8,with regard to the temperature of    
children1 it may be noted that we must  
not allow ourselves to be deceived by   
sudden and rapid rise of temperature    
into the belief that the patient must   
necessarily be suffering from serious   

disease4 ,very slight causes will in    
infants produce a remarkable increase of
 heat2 and during natural dentition1    
just before the passage of the tooth    
through the gum1 a temperature of one   
hundred and four or one hundred and five
 degrees ,fahrenheit1 even in the       
morning is not at all an uncommon       
circumstance4 ,besides1 the normal      
temperature of young children is rather 
higher than that of the adult4 ,in a    
perfectly healthy child of three or four
 years old the thermometer will often   
register a morning temperature of       
ninety-nine and one-half4 ,the pulse of 
infants can seldom be counted except    
during sleep40  ,we must remember also  
that children breathe more quickly than 
adults4 ,about thirty respirations a    
minute for children under two years1 or 
nearly twice as many as in adult life4  
,also in a slight degree of             
indisposition the respirations may be   
quickened materially without cause for  
alarm4  ,the tongue1 if white1 usually  

indicates fever1 dyspepsia and          
intestinal irritation4 ,a red1 dry1 hot 
tongue points to inflammation of the    
mouth or stomach4  ,an intense fever may
 be occasioned in a child as the result 
of overfeeding or allowing indigestible 
things4  ,my experience has been that a 
child fed properly1 and allowed to rest 
sufficiently1 will have very slight or  
no difficulty when teething4 ,i do not  
agree wholly with the author quoted in  
the foregoing as to the cause of the    
fever in teething4 ,at this period of   
life the brain of the child is          
developing remarkably1 and if the       
stomach is not doing its work properly1 
or if more is imposed upon it than      
should be1 the result is an irritation  
of the brain1 and the whole system1 and 
consequent fever4 ,when we consider that
 the brain of the child in proportion to
 the size of the body1 is as one to     
eight1 while that of the adult is as one
 to forty or fifty1 we can see how a    
little disturbance may affect the child 

at this time4  ,vomiting1 unless long   
continued1 is of slight consequence in  
the baby2 since it is usually relieving 
an overloaded stomach1 or throwing up   
the food that has been churned          
unnaturally while the little one is     
tossed about by an overzealous relative4
 ,rocking vigorously is not a good thing
 for the child1 as it not only disturbs 
the stomach1 but irritates the brain1   
from the jarring4  ,a rash may appear on
 the child and be of no more moment than
 to remind you that you are feeding it  
improperly1 that its food is not        
agreeing with it1 or that teeth are     
about to appear4  ,if the child is thin 
and pale and does not grow1 it is not   
assimilating its food and the cause     
should be looked into at once4 ,it may  
be that a change is desirable4 ,in      
bottle-fed babies1 there is not so much 
of variety in its food as in a nursing  
baby1 because the mother's change of    
food from day to day1 varies the milk   
somewhat4 ,changing from one prepared   

food to another will often tide them    
over an indisposition1 as nothing else  
will4  ,chafing usually means that the  
little one has not been dried well when 
changing the napkin1 or allowed to go   
too long after the napkin is wet4       
,indigestion1 and a consequent acidity  
of the discharges may cause excoriation 
of the skin1 and this will need a change
 in the food or the proper medicine to  
correct4  ,a baby does not cry without  
cause4 ,it may be spoiled into crying to
 be tended1 but this is easily          
distinguished from a sick cry1 or a     
fretted cry from discomfort4  ,a baby   
should have plenty of water and fresh   
air2 two of the 8freest0 things and yet 
we stint the little one in them4 ,it    
should be given water every day several 
times1 and it often cries for want of   
it4 ,it should be taken out into the    
fresh air every day when pleasant1 and  
many times allowed to take its nap in   
the open air4 ,one of the healthiest1   
most robust babies ,i ever knew1 though 

beginning life as a little puny thing1  
was put into its little carriage and    
wrapped up warmly1 and wheeled out on   
the front porch for its nap twice daily4
 ,a light cover was thrown over the head
 of the carriage to protect the child   
from draughts4  ,if the baby is         
bottle-fed and constipated1 a small     
pinch of salt put into its food at each 
feeding will often effect a cure4       
,dress your little one warmly enough but
 not too warm1 keep it dry and          
comfortable1 feed it properly1 do not   
toss it about1 or disturb its sleep1 and
 you will be rewarded with a healthy and
 comfortable child that will daily be a 
greater and greater delight and         
blessing4     ,,chapter ,,xxi4          
,,guarding ,,against ,,secret ,,vice4   
,the ,mother's ,preparation as ,guide   
and ,protector of ,her                  
,children4--,safeguards for ,tiny       
,babyhood4--,cleanliness1               
,regularity1 ,chafing1 ,pin ,worms1     
,servants1 ,nurse ,girls1 etc41         

etc4--,how to ,teach and ,guard ,them   
,during ,childhood4--,safeguarding      
the ,children with ,knowledge4--,inborn 
,curiosity ,concerning     ,physical    
,mysteries4--,how to ,meet these        
,questions4--,sleeping     ,alone4--,how
 to ,correct ,vice where it             
,exists4--,the ,duty of     ,physicians 
to the ,public4--,symptoms which call   
for ,parental                           
,watchfulness4--,results of ,secret     
,vice4--,rewards of ,parental           
,vigilance4   ,how shall the mother     
prepare herself that she may be the     
guide and protector of her children past
 this dangerous shoal1 is a question    
that exercises every true woman's heart4
 ,in view of the myriads of temptations1
 we are led to exclaim here1 as in the  
contemplation of many other difficulties
 in child training1 8,who is sufficient 
for these things80  ,the carefulness in 
guarding against the entrance of this   
evil should begin back in tiny babyhood4
 ,perfect cleanliness1 the proper       

adjustment of the napkin1 and great care
 in the baths1 lest by roughness in     
washing an irritation be set up2 all    
these things must be thought about and  
watched carefully4 ,the food1 regularity
 of habits1 daily evacuation of the     
bowels1 all have their share in keeping 
the child in a healthy condition that   
precludes the unnatural state which     
invites the habit4  ,a chafed condition 
of the skin1 which causes itching and   
consequent rubbing of the parts1 may be 
the beginning of the habit before the   
child is old enough to be reasoned with1
 or able to understand the wrong and    
danger involved4  ,in little girls pin  
worms1 which work forward into the      
vagina1 and cause an irritation1 also a 
leucorrhal discharge1 even in babyhood1 
may so irritate that the habit is formed
 before the mother is aware of it4      
,there have been instances of servant   
girls1 who are left in the care of the  
little ones1 or unscrupulous nurse      
girls1 teaching the little ones the     

habit to keep them quiet1 so that they  
need not be troubled with their care4   
,mothers need to be ,argus-eyed1 to     
guard their babies from all the evils   
that beset them2 and having carried them
 past babyhood into inquiring childhood1
 nothing else is so potent in shielding 
them from the evil1 as wholesome truth  
taught in a sweet motherly way4 ,while  
yet very young1 they can be taught that 
the organs are to be used by them only  
for throwing off the waste water of the 
system1 but that they are so closely    
related to other parts of the body that 
handling them at all will hurt them and 
make them sick4 ,tell them that little  
children1 sometimes when they do not    
know this1 form the habit of handling   
themselves and as a result they become  
listless and sick1 and many times       
idiotic and insane1 or develop epileptic
 fits4 ,this will so impress them that  
they will not fall easily into the bad  
way2 for it is1 more often than         
otherwise1 an ignorant curiosity that   

leads them into the danger4  ,when      
mothers understand what a safeguard     
intelligent teaching of truth is to     
their children1 they will prepare       
themselves for it1 and will so keep     
their boys and girls in their confidence
 that they will have no secret from     
them4 ,when they feel and know that they
 can come to mother with all their      
enquiries1 and get honest recognition   
and teaching1 they will not care to go  
elsewhere when curiosity is aroused and 
they desire knowledge on any point4     
,this sweet confidence between mother   
and child cannot be too carefully       
nurtured4  ,there is an inborn curiosity
 concerning the physical being and its  
mysteries1 and the child has a right to 
be met fairly in its questionings1 and  
to be properly taught at the outset4 ,do
 not begin1 dear young mothers by       
turning your children away1 no matter   
how pertinent the question2 neither     
begin with a semi-falsehood1 or what is 
little worse or misleading1 an entire   

one4 ,your children will learn1 and if  
you do not teach them1 some one else    
less fitted will4 ,as soon as they are  
old enough to take in at least a part of
 the great truth1 tell them what those  
organs are for1 and how sacredly they   
should guard them1 if they expect to    
become fathers and mothers1 that will be
 a blessing to the world4  ,children    
very early begin to question and as     
early they should receive intelligent1  
honest answers to their enquiries4 ,oh6 
that the element of gross impurity were 
removed from the knowledge of the sexual
 nature2 and it will be when mothers    
have rightly learned the truth          
themselves1 and so teach it to their    
children4  ,you can all the way along1  
teach your children sufficient to       
gratify their legitimate curiosity and  
serve as a safeguard against their      
tampering with their bodies in a way to 
do them harm4 ,when you have taught them
 all you think they should know1 if you 
have dealt with them in a frank way1 and

 they have no reason to doubt your word1
 you will find them very easily         
satisfied with the remark1 8,this is all
 you can understand now1 my dear1 but as
 you get older and can understand       
better1 come to mamma with all you want 
to know1 and she will tell you40        
,fortify them also with this3 8,never   
ask any of the boys and girls about     
these things1 because there is a great  
deal said that is not true1 and they    
will not tell you right1 but come to    
mamma always1 and this shall be our     
secret1 that we will not tell any one   
else40 ,it is remarkable to see how this
 confidence generates pride in being    
able to have a secret with mamma and    
keeping it inviolate4  ,if there is the 
slightest tendency in your children to  
secret vice1 do not allow them to sleep 
together in the same bed1 as curiosity  
may lead them into danger4 ,keep them   
apart from other children1 except as you
 are present with them1 until you are   
sure they are old enough to be masters  

of themselves4  ,should you discover in 
your children what might seem a tendency
 toward this evil you can do much to    
eradicate it by attending strictly to   
hygienic rules4 ,keep from their food   
all that is stimulating1 as coffee1     
pepper1 spices1 pickles1 or condiments  
of any kind4 ,give them plain food at   
regular hours2 and before retiring1 to  
make sure of a refreshing night's sleep1
 give them a quick sponge bath of salt  
and water1 rubbing well after with a    
coarse towel4 ,the water should be only 
tepid1 and the subsequent rubbing       
vigorous4 ,in the morning a shower bath 
of cool water will insure good          
circulation1 and if followed by a brisk 
rubbing1 will add strength and tone4    
,children who incline to this weakness  
are listless and disinclined to         
exercise4 ,they must be encouraged to   
take all the outdoor exercise that they 
need1 and everything should be done to  
encourage them in it4 ,above all1 do not
 treat your child1 even if the habit is 

formed before you discover it1 as if he 
were a criminal4 ,he is unfortunate1 and
 ignorant of the wrong or the danger he 
is in4 ,lead him kindly away from the   
temptation and into strength by patient1
 kindly love and watchfulness1 added to 
your truthful teaching4  ,children1     
until they are old enough to be trusted1
 should not be out from under their     
mother's watchful eye1 or the care of a 
wise and trusted nurse1 and never away  
with companions who are not known to be 
thoroughly trustworthy4 ,when other     
children come to play with them they    
should not be left alone1 but even their
 play should be directed1 lest they get 
on dangerous ground4  ,says ,doctor     
,eldridge1 in his book on ,self         
,enervation1 8,an evil like this should 
receive far greater consideration at the
 hands of fathers and mothers1 and even 
the medical man1 than it hitherto has   
done4 ,it is the solemn and imperative  
duty of every physician to warn parents 
of this danger to their offspring1 and  

if possible to erect barriers against   
the tide of its destruction40  ,should  
you discover your child listless1 and   
preferring solitude rather than         
companionship1 averse to exercise1      
averted look1 nervous1 hypochondriacal1 
restless in sleep1 constipated1 pain in 
the back and lower extremities in the   
morning1 appetite vacillating1 hands    
cold and clammy2 if you have not already
 been suspicious1 watch carefully now1  
even though not half these symptoms are 
present4 ,another diagnostic symptom is 
this3 ,the body emits a peculiar1       
disagreeable smell1 and there is        
emaciation4  ,some of the terrible      
results are epilepsy1 idiocy1 catalepsy 
and insanity4 ,it has been discovered   
that out of eight hundred and sixteen   
cases of insanity in the ,new ,york     
,state ,insane ,asylum1 there were one  
hundred and seven addicted to this      
practice4  ,from their babyhood1 be     
watchful of your children's companions2 
allow no sensational books to be read2  

be sure of your helpers in their care2  
know where they are at all hours of the 
day and night2 be patient and prayerful 
in their training2 teach them truth1 and
 keep their confidence1 and you will be 
rewarded with strong1 pure boys and     
girls1 who can look into your eyes      
candidly and say1 8,mamma1 ,i am free   
from this habit which leads to so much  
misery40     ,,chapter ,,xxii4  ,,the   
,,training ,,of ,,children4      ,the   
,horse ,trainer's ,method4--,the        
,training ,which ,develops              
,talents4--,when ,child-training ,should
 ,begin4--,the ,training of ,her        
,children the ,mother's ,all-important  
,calling4--,the ,influence of     the   
,mother's ,own ,character and           
,life4--,the ,children ,imitators     of
 their ,parents4--,importance of        
,earliest ,training4--,spoiled          
,children4--,children's ,rights4--,the  
,proper ,correction of                  
,children4--,broken ,promises and       
,parental ,falsehoods4--,value of       

,tact in ,parental ,discipline4--,value 
of ,parental ,sympathy4--,the           
,mother1 ,herself1 the ,best ,gift to   
,her ,children4--,the ,choice     of    
,books and ,stories4--,the ,choice of   
,companions for the                     
,children4--,toys1 ,sports and          
,amusements4--,an ,appeal to ,mothers4  
,,molding ,,the ,,clay4      ,within    
their tiny hands my children hold       
,a ball of yielding clay1     ,and1 as  
they try some dainty form to mold1      
,i hear them softly say1     8,what     
shall we make8 an apple or a vase8      
,some marbles1 or a fan80     ,one      
little boy1 a smile upon his face1      
,says1 8,i shall make a man40           
,straightway1 with lengthened face1 he1 
at his task1       ,begins1 and 'neath  
the hands     ,unskilful1 weak1 and yet 
too proud to ask       ,for aid1 a form 
expands1     ,crude1 and yet not too    
poor to show the man       ,hid in the  
maker's thought--     ,how different yet
 if some skilled artisan       ,the ball

 of clay had wrought4      ,to-day      
within my hands my children lie1        
,i shape them as ,i will1     ,and seek 
for aid from ,him that is on high1      
,that ,he may with ,his skill     ,teach
 my weak1 willing hands to rightly mold 
,the clay that ,i have sought1     ,that
 in true forms of beauty may unfold     
,the ,maker's highest                   
thought4--,,transcript4      8,i        
regretted that you had no child1 because
 ,i thought your     heart would not    
receive that education for heaven which 
the     care of children alone can give4
 ,you are surprised perhaps1 for     you
 are thinking only of educating your    
child2 but let me tell     you that we  
parents are as much indebted to our     
children as     they to us40--,,anna ,e4
 ,,porter4      8,who is sufficient for 
these things80  ,in a recent magazine   
article1 on the training of horses1 ,i  
found the following3 8,the thoroughly   
competent trainer considers the colt's  
individuality and breeding1 for upon    

these depend the measures to be taken to
 develop the animal into a race-horse4  
,every good or bad quality in a         
race-horse is inherited from sire or    
dam2 courage1 endurance1 extreme speed1 
action1 ability to carry weight1        
soundness or unsoundness1 good or bad   
temper1 all these are matters of        
inheritance1 and must be carefully      
looked for by the trainer as he develops
 his horses4 ,the trainer is constantly 
devising schemes to counteract the      
faults and to make the best use of the  
good points of his horses4  8,the making
 of a thoroughbred race-horse cannot be 
called an exact science4 ,it develops1  
however1 an amount of patience1 courage 
and self-denial that is rarely          
engendered in callings better understood
 and more highly esteemed by the general
 public4 ,the trainer's life is a hard  
one and vicarious in the extreme40  ,it 
strikes me that in this we1 as parents  
and teachers1 have a grand suggestion in
 the right training of children4 ,with  

us a vicarious life would count for the 
coming generations of the human family4 
8,train up a child in the way he should 
go1 and when he is old he will not      
depart from it10 has been invested with 
a new meaning to me these past few      
years4 ,it not only means train him up  
in the correct moral way1 reverencing   
things sacred1 respecting father and    
mother1 being a pleasing child1 a good  
son1 a law-abiding citizen1 a blessing  
to home and society2 but it means as    
well1 train him up in the way he was    
intended to go1 from the endowment of   
birth1 heredity and education4 ,in other
 words do not warp1 from his birth1 a   
mechanic by trying to make a minister of
 him4 ,do not try to crowd a farmer into
 a lawyer's mold4 ,do not attempt to    
train into a carpenter one who is a born
 artist4 ,do not force your boys and    
girls through a literary college1 if a  
bent in some particular direction       
inclines them toward a technical        
education4 ,in short1 8,train up a child

 in the way he should go10 as well as in
 the way he should go4  ,the mother of  
the ,wesleys was once asked when she    
should begin to train the little three  
months' old baby she held in her arms4  
8,begin80 she replied1 8why ,i began    
three months ago40 ,her answer was      
admirable1 but she did not place the    
time sufficiently far back by many      
months4 ,when our daughters are rightly 
trained1 they will all the way along1   
from the time that marriage enters their
 minds1 be consciously educating        
themselves for motherhood1 and thus be  
in a large measure training their little
 ones even before they are promised4    
,does this seem too ideal to our young  
mothers1 and not at all practical8 ,it  
should not1 and ,i believe will not when
 it is carefully considered4 ,if any who
 reads these pages is already           
anticipating early motherhood they need 
not be discouraged1 for every succeeding
 child should be better than the one    
before4 ,every lesson she learns in the 

care and training of the first children 
should but make her the stronger for the
 duties of future mothering4 ,the       
trouble too often is that she allows her
 time and attention to be taken up with 
less important things1 and the fixing of
 the earlier lessons and learning new   
and better ones are neglected4 ,in other
 words1 motherhood is not to-day        
considered her all-important calling1   
and the little ones suffer from the     
mothers having fallen too deeply in love
 with other and less noble things4  ,all
 will agree with me1 when ,i say1 that  
we can only with great difficulty train 
in our children1 what we do not know as 
a part of ourselves4 ,are you calm and  
self-possessed8 ,then you can with      
little effort teach your children this  
valuable and telling characteristic4    
,are you governed by reason and         
judgment1 not impulse8 ,then you can    
train your child to this same strength4 
,are you of even temper8 ,then you will 
have little trouble with a              

stormy-tempered boy or girl4 ,are you   
charitable and careful in your speech1  
and kindly in your judgment of others8  
,your children are easily led in the    
same direction4  ,it is safe to say that
 only so far as we have travelled       
ourselves1 can we lead our children4    
,true we can point them onward1 and tell
 them of the desirableness of that way  
to travel in1 but their little feet are 
reluctant to try new paths1 unless the  
parent has tried them before them4  ,the
 story of the little son who had without
 permission followed his father up a    
steep and dangerous mountain climb1 and 
who at a particularly difficult point in
 the path1 made his presence known1 by  
calling out1 8,step carefully1 papa1 for
 ,i am coming in your footsteps10       
illustrates just what our example is to 
our children4 ,hence ,i say1 ,mrs4      
,wesley did not put the time of her     
beginning to train her baby1 back far   
enough by many years4 ,every step in the
 onward path which she had made in all  

the years of her own training was but a 
page in the training she was to give her
 boys and girls in the after years4 8,as
 is the mother so is her daughter10 is  
,god's truth1 although it is many times 
hard to face4  ,we desire to train our  
children to our ideals1 and they are    
ever reaching up to us as their ideals4 
,true1 this should spur us on to better 
things that our example shall be a more 
worthy copy1 but we waste much precious 
time when we must go to school in mature
 life to learn the lessons that should  
have been fixed in our youth4  ,first1  
let us remember that a child can be     
taught more bad habits in its early     
months than years of training can undo4 
,a methodical1 well taught baby becomes 
a tractable child1 as a rule2 while a   
haphazard baby1 humored in every whim1  
becomes a child and adult of the same   
demands4 ,have you not often met grown  
men and women that were just great      
overgrown spoiled babies8 ,you can read 
the history of their training1 or the   

lack of it1 in their habits1 their      
whims1 and their selfishness1 through   
the unmistakable lines these have       
written on their faces4  ,again we must 
remember that children have rights that 
we are bound to respect2 and unless we  
do respect them1 we can hardly expect   
them to regard our rights4 ,another fact
 is this2 that no two children can be   
trained alike4 ,each is a study by      
itself1 and each must be studied1 if we 
desire to attain success in the         
individual case4 ,but few absolute rules
 can be made2 for there must ever be a  
certain degree of flexibility about     
every law laid down in the home4  ,a    
request is far better than a command1   
but from the parent it should be        
regarded with such respect that it      
equals a command4 ,also there is a wide 
difference between a criticism and a    
kindly correction of a fault4 ,criticism
 antagonizes1 and arouses the anger of  
the child1 though he may not be old     
enough to analyze his feelings1 yet the 

spirit of rebellion is there1 and leaves
 its unpleasant results4 ,on the other  
hand the kindly correction1 with love   
shining all through it1 awakens a sorrow
 for the wrong1 and a determination     
never to repeat it4  8,johnnie1 what    
makes you do so8 ,it does seem to me    
that you are always doing something you 
ought not to do40 ,see the angry flash  
in little ,johnnie's eye1 and the sullen
 silence as he turns away1 with         
resentment at the wrong done him1       
written all over his quivering form4    
8,johnnie dear1 mamma does not like to  
have her son do so1 it is wrong and such
 things spoil boys and make them grow up
 in the wrong way4 ,think of it1 son1   
and see if you would like your life to  
go in the way that action would lead    
you40 ,a tender1 sorrowful light comes  
into the little face and a regret for   
the sin is expressed and forgiveness    
sought4  ,the first manner of           
correction1 if it can be called that1   
drives your little one away from you1   

while the second holds him to you1 as a 
traveller is bound to a trusted guide in
 a dangerous way4  ,oh6 the sorrow of   
the falsehoods told to little ones1     
under the guise of threats that are     
never realized4 ,in my hearing only a   
few days ago1 in the space of half an   
hour1 a mother told her child--a bright 
but of course spoiled little boy1 not   
more than three years old1 at least a   
half dozen deliberate falsehoods4 ,i say
 deliberate1 because she knew they were 
false1 and the saddest of all was the   
fact that the child recognized the      
untruths as well1 and was not moved by  
them an iota4  ,nowhere is there so much
 tactful wisdom needed as in the        
mother's dealings with her little ones4 
,how many times we fail by too great    
zeal1 how many times for not enough4    
,often1 not to notice the little        
naughtinesses is the wisest thing1 when 
these little wrongs are not positively  
sinful4 ,not noticing such wrongs       
insures their being forgotten sooner1   

and oftentimes the children are simply  
imitating in a childish way what they   
have seen in their elders4  ,the        
following incident will illustrate the  
wisdom of not heeding4 ,a little boy    
strutted up to his busy mother one day1 
and without a bit of prelude or         
postlude1 said1 8,gosh40 ,the wise      
mother took no notice1 and again        
standing directly in front of her1 and  
in a more emphatic tone1 he repeated the
 coarse word4 ,still no rebuke from the 
mother and no reproving look even4 ,as  
if bent on being heard and eliciting    
some rebuke which he evidently expected1
 he thrust his hands into his pockets1  
straightened up1 and with a stamp of his
 tiny foot1 said with double emphasis1  
8,gosh1 mamma40 ,then the undisturbed   
mother looked up with simply this1      
8,yes1 my son1 ,i heard40 ,he turned    
away crestfallen1 but the coarse word   
was never repeated4  ,in contrast1      
another mother with less of wisdom and  
more of the overdone zeal1 heard her    

little boy say1 8,darn40 ,she called him
 to her and with a very solemn voice    
said1 8,what did ,i hear my little boy  
say8 ,didn't ,i hear him say the        
naughty1 ,,naughty word1 darn10 and her 
voice sank to an awesome whisper4       
8,yes10 said the little fellow1 with an 
air of important badness1 8,i said it40 
8,come here and let me look in your     
mouth10 said the mother4 ,he opened his 
mouth with very little concern1 and     
really seeming to enjoy it4 8,oh-h-hh10 
said the unwise mamma1 8,i see two      
little black devils40 8,my-e-e-e10 said 
the little fellow2 8,darn1 darn1        
darn10--and then the mouth flew open    
wider still4 8,how many devils are there
 now1 mamma80 ,the mother's answer is   
not recorded1 but we trust she learned  
wisdom4  ,i have been exceedingly       
interested in noting what an ignorant   
horse-trainer can teach a wild1         
high-mettled colt4 ,how does he do it8  
,not by whipping1 not by thwarting and  
fretting1 but by patient1 persistent    

effort1 and much study of the particular
 training each colt needs4 ,he goes     
farther than this4 ,he studies the      
pedigree that he may better know how to 
correct the faults of his pupils4 ,is it
 not worth while for a mother to take as
 much pains and carefulness for the     
well-being of her precious charges8     
8,where is the flock that was given     
thee1 thy beautiful flock80 will be a   
question that mothers must meet1 and    
must answer sorrowfully in many cases4  
,the answer might well be taken from the
 same book1 8,the ,book10 in which the  
question is recorded4 8,as thy servant  
was busy here and there they were gone40
  ,parents must keep in sympathy with   
their children to understand and lead   
them4 ,the cares of business1 the       
demands of society1 clubs1 etc41 etc41  
will not excuse you4 ,there can be no   
business1 no demand upon your time that 
can begin to equal in importance the    
proper care of your children4 ,they are 
your charge1 and the responsibility can 

be relegated to none other4  ,i have    
read somewhere of a mother who by the   
rounds of social life1 and all the cares
 incident to it1 had given her children 
over to the care of a nurse1 until she  
awoke one day to realize that she was   
almost a stranger to her own children1  
and that they seemed to care little for 
her1 since they saw her so seldom4      
8,this will never do10 said the         
thoroughly awakened mother4 8,these are 
my children1 and as such1 demand my     
care1 and influence and love1 which ,i  
shall henceforth give them without      
stint40 ,she began at once4 ,every      
engagement which interfered with the    
loving care of her little brood1 was    
resolutely cancelled1 while she gave    
herself to redeeming the time that she  
had wasted1 and to regaining her place  
in her children's hearts which she had  
nearly lost4 ,was she successful1 ,i    
imagine ,i hear you ask4 ,did ever a    
mother put her hand and her heart to the
 accomplishment of a noble purpose1 and 

fail8 ,never4 ,and she never will4      
,delightful trips were planned and      
carried out1 all-day excursions1 long   
walks1 with a luncheon in some quiet    
place1 away from the crowd4 ,books were 
read1 lessons taught that sank1         
freighted with their wealth of wisdom1  
into the mother's1 as well as into the  
children's hearts4 ,oh the joy of that  
delightful season6 ,nothing in all her  
life could bear any comparison with it4 
,should she give it up and again enter  
society1 whose demands gave her little  
time for the pure pleasure she had      
enjoyed with her children8 ,she would   
leave it for her babies to decide4 ,as  
they gathered about her1 she said1 8,my 
darlings1 mamma has something she wishes
 you to settle for her4 ,shall we go on 
as we have been doing for the past happy
 months1 or shall mamma take again her  
place in society as she did before she  
knew her dear babies as she does now80  
8,oh1 mamma1 we can't get along without 
you now1 and you know you belong to us10

 said the oldest one1 and the sweet     
silence of the baby as she hugged the   
dear lost and found mother1 tightly     
about the neck1 was all the answer she  
needed4 8,now1 mamma dear1 would you    
have gone away from us again1 if we had 
said so80 8,no1 darling1 not even if you
 had said so1 for then ,i should have   
seen all the greater need of staying    
with my own children until they loved me
 again4 ,but ,i dared let you decide1   
for ,i knew what you would say4 ,bless  
my babies6 ,these months have been the  
happiest of my life1 and do you think ,i
 could leave you again8 ,i can have as  
much as ,i need of society and still    
live with my babies40  ,every parent is 
bound to be interested in all that      
should legitimately interest their      
children4 ,books1 games1 little         
excursions1 days off from business that 
the boys and girls may have their papas 
and mammas all to themselves1 are       
important things which no wise father or
 mother will neglect to consider4  ,as  

they grow older the sympathy and love   
you show for them when you deliberately 
put aside your book1 and read to them   
some childish story1 or bit of          
adventure1 will never be forgotten4 ,no 
wise man or woman ever loses interest in
 children's stories4 ,if they are worth 
your children's reading1 they are worth 
your reading4 ,it lies in the power of  
every parent to fashion their children's
 taste in literature4 ,choose wisely1   
for the matter is an important one4 ,do 
not make the mistake so often made of   
thinking that any child's book is good  
enough for the children4 ,this is not   
true4 ,there is as wide a difference in 
children's books as in books for adults4
 ,with all the delightful writers for   
the little ones1 there is no need of    
reading trashy things to the children4  
,your children's libraries will be an   
index of your literary taste1 and your  
highest care for them4 ,books are       
companions1 and should be chosen as     
wisely as you would choose their        

associates4  ,how in this day of public 
schools and free ,american loving       
democracy1 can ,i choose my children's  
companions8 ,ah2 but you can1 dear      
mother4 ,train them so wisely1 get the  
love of all that is good so instilled   
into their beings1 fix so surely the    
hatred of evil1 that they will          
instinctively choose companions worthy  
of them4 ,be kind to all1 but do not    
make close friends or companions of any 
but those who are good4 ,occasionally a 
wolf in sheep's clothing will be met1   
and you will need great tact to lead    
your child to see the falseness of      
character1 and to get away from it ere  
the influence has been hazardous4  ,let 
me illustrate4 ,a grown up boy fifteen  
or sixteen said one day to his mother1  
8,mamma1 some of the boys are going down
 to the ,gardens to-night after school1 
and may ,i go with them80 8,what is     
there to see and enjoy1 son80 8,oh ,i   
hardly know1 but the boys say there's   
lots of fun40 ,the mother gave her      

consent1 all the while knowing she would
 not have chosen the ,gardens as a      
suitable place for her boy to find      
amusement4 ,when he came home from      
school to leave his books1 he found his 
mother all ready to go out4 8,where are 
you going1 mamma80 asked the boy4 8,i   
thought ,i would go with you1 son1 ,i   
have never been there and ,i thought ,i 
would like to enjoy it with you40 8,but 
mamma1 ,i don't know as it is a good    
place for you to go to40 8,oh1 don't    
trouble about that1 son1 any place that 
you care to visit is suitable for your  
mother40  ,she was dressed in her       
prettiest and most girlish dress1 and   
outdid herself to be entertaining to her
 boy4 ,she said nothing in criticism of 
the place1 and went from one thing to   
another as the boy's fancy dictated4 ,in
 a covert glance she could see the      
disgust growing in her son's face1 as a 
coarse jest or a profane word came to   
them from the frequenters of the place1 
but never a word of fault-finding       

escaped her lips4 ,finally1 thoroughly  
disgusted1 her boy said1 8,let's go     
home1 mamma1 ,i'm tired of this sort of 
stuff40 8,very well1 son1 if you wish10 
said the little mother1 but not one word
 of comment or criticism of the place or
 surroundings1 for she saw that the     
lesson was learned4 ,on the following   
day she had her reward4 ,her son with   
several of his companions were in the   
yard under the window where she sat in  
hearing4 8,who was that girl you had    
with you at the ,gardens yesterday80    
said one of the boys4 8,it was my       
mother10 said her son4 8,whew10 said the
 boy1 8catch my mother to go to such a  
place60 ,then the brave answer came from
 her boy1 that brought tears of gladness
 to the mother's eyes4 8,well1 ,i want  
to tell you right here1 boys1 you'll    
never catch me going anywhere again     
where ,i can't take my mother4 ,of      
course she knew what kind of a place it 
was and wanted me to see that it was no 
place for me if it were not for her1 and

 ,i learned the lesson40 ,oh the wisdom 
of such a mother3 and the tactfulness4  
,when the children are young they should
 never be allowed away from home over   
night1 and should have no visitors to   
spend the night with them4 ,this cannot 
be too carefully guarded4 ,neither      
should they be allowed to play alone    
with companions whom you do not know1 or
 are not perfectly sure you can have    
full confidence in4  ,no playing out of 
doors after nightfall4 ,more evil is    
learned in evening hours than is dreamed
 of4 ,have toys and amusements1 and     
allow companions in the home1 and your  
children will not care to leave it for  
the streets4  ,be one with your children
 in their sports and games1 and make    
yourself so companionable that they will
 choose you before all others4  ,all the
 way along know what your boys and girls
 are reading4 ,it lies with you to form 
their tastes1 and direct their choice4  
,oh mothers1 forbear to neglect this    
great and blessed responsibility1 with  

which you are invested4 ,no work in all 
the world can equal it in importance1   
none in the rich harvest which is the   
result of painstaking sowing4 ,no       
cast-iron rules can be laid down1 for no
 two children are alike4 ,it is         
sufficient to say1 8,mothers1 be true to
 yourselves1 and esteem the trust       
committed to you as sacred beyond       
measure2 study to show yourselves       
approved #8workmen that need not to be  
ashamed1'0 and you will have reason to  
rejoice at the results of your labors4  
8,instead of thy fathers shall be thy   
children1 whom thou mayest make princes 
in all the earth40     ,,chapter        
,,xxiii4  ,,body-,,building4      ,our  
,duty to ,nourish1 ,strengthen and      
,build up ,strong                       
,bodies4--,eradicating ,inherited       
,infirmities4--,children ,inherit the   
,permanent ,states of ,their            
,parents4--,the ,parents' ,duty to      
,those     ,who are not ,well           
,born4--,what has ,been ,accomplished   

,along ,these     ,lines4--,the         
,relation of ,babies' ,clothing and     
,food to ,physical     ,growth4--,unwise
 ,feeding4--,the ,laws of               
,nutrition4--,the ,relation of     ,food
 to ,national ,greatness4--,the ,danger 
of ,overdressing4--,value     of        
,sunshine and ,air4--,a list of ,good   
,foods4--,the ,relation     of ,exercise
 to ,appetite4--,comparative ,value of  
,meat and     ,vegetables4--,importance 
of ,rest and ,sleep4--,regular ,sleeping
     ,hours4--,schools and ,nervousness 
in ,children4--,many ,children     are  
not ,properly ,nourished4--,food ,poorly
 ,prepared and ,poorly                  
,served4--,the ,importance of ,hygienic 
,cooking4--,the ,cause of     ,weak     
,eyes in ,children4--,children and ,bare
 ,feet4--,the ,dosing of     ,children  
,with ,nostrums4--,the ,use of ,brandy  
and ,wine in ,cooking4   ,i think it was
 ,dr4 ,j4 ,g4 ,holland who said1 8,we   
derive our best lessons1 not from what  
people say to us1 but from what their   

words make us say to ourselves40 ,in the
 wide subject which the heading of this 
chapter opens1 ,i can only hope to      
illustrate this truth4 ,perhaps by      
starting new lines of thought with some 
persons1 and in others intensifying and 
making broader lines of thought already 
entered upon4  ,said good ,george       
,mller1 8,my soul ,i commit to the care 
of ,god1 following ,his laws2 but my    
body ,he has given into my hands1 to    
care for1 nourish1 and strengthen1 that 
,i may build it up into ,his image40    
,could we remember oftener that it was  
meant to be after ,his likeness1 and the
 temple for ,his indwelling1 we should  
be less careless of the trust committed 
to us4 ,and again1 were we the only     
sufferers from the lack of care and     
neglect of our bodies1 it would matter  
less1 but we are sowing seed that will  
spring up and bear fruit1 8some thirty1 
some sixty and some an hundredfold10 in 
the generations to come2 and what also  
of the incalculable harm from our       

influence upon those about us8  ,could  
we return to the old ,spartan time when 
only the symmetrical1 healthy and       
vigorous were allowed to marry and bear 
children1 our task in body-building for 
the future would be less difficult2 but 
we have the rubbish accumulated by the  
mistakes of the body-builders behind us1
 through the past ages1 to clear away as
 best we can1 before we can properly    
enter upon our present task4 ,as it is1 
the problem resolves itself into        
this--to make the most of the material  
in hand1 in rooting out the bad1 and    
culturing the good4  ,to begin well1 the
 parents must bear in mind1 before the  
baby's beginning1 that the life of the  
little one will be in great measure     
determined by what they are1 not by what
 they may hope to be1 though even this  
has its influence4 ,it is a well-known  
fact in heredity that transient states  
of body and mind1 are not those which   
are most often entailed upon offspring1 
but the permanent states and conditions4

 ,what the mother eats1 what she thinks1
 what she enjoys1 what habits she allows
 to control her1 will shape largely the 
little life1 and make her after task in 
body-building a difficult1 or a         
comparatively easy one4 ,given a good   
foundation1 and the superstructure which
 rises upon it will be solid and        
enduring1 and as beautiful as the       
architect desires4  ,suppose the little 
one is not well-born1 it becomes the    
duty of the parents to choose its food1 
its dress1 its plays1 its surroundings1 
that they may make good as fast as      
possible1 the defects known to exist in 
it4 ,to do this most effectively1 they  
will need to counsel often with their   
medical adviser1 and become themselves  
conversant with the laws of hygienic    
living4  ,that very much can be done    
along these lines is a well attested    
fact1 and is beautifully illustrated in 
our ,foundlings' ,homes1 where little   
ones coming out of all sorts and        
conditions of society1 and many of them 

with the worst possible heredity1 are   
trained out of the evil ways toward     
which they incline physically1 and into 
the upward way which makes the perfect  
man and woman4 ,therefore we have no    
reason to be discouraged1 if we have not
 the most perfect model to begin with1  
but must instead do some molding and    
trimming off here and there before it   
stands forth the fair thing we desire4  
,the baby's clothing has much to do with
 its proper development1 as already     
indicated4 ,the food for the best       
development of the physical nature has  
also been emphasized1 but some further  
remarks will not be out of place4 ,i    
pity the little one that is cheated out 
of its rightful heritage1 its mother's  
breast4 ,this is a day of bottle-fed    
babies1 to the sorrow of the babies1 and
 the loss to the mother of many hours of
 sweet comfort comparable with nothing  
else she may ever have1 while the wee   
thing is taking its life from her       
breasts1 and she is thinking high       

thoughts of its future and what she     
shall be to it4 ,the mother who nurses  
her baby is much to blame1 if she does  
not drink in the sweet lessons which    
come to her1 of moral as well as        
physical dependence1 while the little   
one hangs upon and nestles in her bosom2
 and she does not dream of what she     
misses1 if she puts it off without a    
thought or a care of this1 the sweet    
lessons of cuddling1 nursing motherhood4
  ,if the little thing must be          
bottle-fed1 hold it in your arms1 as    
nearly in its natural position as       
possible1 and cuddle it1 while you hide 
as far as may be the ugly1 unsympathetic
 substitute1 the nursing-bottle4  ,ask  
many mothers how often they feed their  
babies1 and they will tell you in the   
sentiment1 if not the language of one   
who said1 8,well1 once in two or three  
hours usually1 but when it has colic1 or
 is restless it tugs away nearly all the
 time1 day and night1 until ,i am       
entirely worn out0--and ,i venture to   

say1 the baby is in the same condition4 
,the rule or no rule1 with such mothers1
 is1 when the baby cries feed it1 when  
it frets1 feed it2 when it wakes1 feed  
it2 when it goes to sleep1 feed it2 when
 it has colic1 feed it more2 and when it
 is really ailing1 feed it all the time4
 ,how much8 ,why all it will hold1 until
 it is full to overflowing1 and then    
wonder what ails the baby4 ,wise mothers
 smile at the absurdity2 but remember   
you are the enquiring ones who count    
ignorance in such things a shame1 7as   
you should71 and you are of the favored 
few1 while the great army of mothers    
belong to the other class4  ,for        
quantity and quality of food for the    
baby1 we refer the reader to the chapter
 on ,the ,care of the ,baby4  ,properly 
fed and properly dressed babies will    
need little medicine1 even a child born 
with an hereditary tendency to          
constipation1 can be coaxed out of it by
 regularity of good habits1 and food4   
,for older children and adult life the  

common sense and good judgment of the   
home-keeper must decide the quality of  
food best suited to their individual    
families4 ,for a subject which demands  
so much common sense for all mankind1   
and wise thinking1 less reasonable      
thought is spent upon it1 than upon any 
other branch of science the world over4 
,says a late writer1 8,it is universally
 known as a fact1 although not much     
considered1 that bone and blood1 brain  
and brawn1 are directly manufactured    
from food eaten4 ,it is now beginning to
 be discovered that for centuries people
 have not eaten the right foods to make 
the best bodies4 ,they have been        
ignorant of the physiological laws of   
nutrition1 of the proper combinations   
and proportions of essential elements1  
of the vital importance attaching to    
such knowledge4 ,they have cultivated   
artificial and abnormal tastes1 sought  
momentary gratification in eating1 and  
gradually demoralized their natural     
instincts40 ,there has been no study    

made of the development of nations as   
influenced by its food supply4 ,it would
 give much food for thought1 we have no 
doubt1 and be a cause for surprise that 
the quality and quantity of food could  
make so much difference4  ,dr4          
,henderson1 in the ,popular ,science    
,monthly1 says3 8,when you remember that
 we are dressed during the whole period 
of our social life1 and that we eat     
three times every day1 eleven hundred   
times a year1 it is astonishing that    
these very human arts 7dressing and     
eating7 have not been brought to greater
 perfection4 ,women weep1 work1 and     
suffer the same to-day as at the dawn of
 the race1 because they feed the young  
on forbidden fruit4 ,so the children    
grow into men and women with curved     
spines1 unshapely1 unsymmetrical forms1 
and damaged brains1 to suffer all       
through life with ills of both body and 
mind40  ,dr4 ,dio ,lewis was called at  
one time to see the child of a friend1  
who 8,did not know what was the matter  

with the dear little girl40 ,dr4 ,lewis 
looked her over carefully1 and then     
astonished the mother with a request for
 an entire suit of the child's clothing4
 ,when they were brought to him he took 
the little one with him1 and followed by
 the curious mother1 went out into the  
flower-garden4 ,he chose for his object 
lesson1 one of the most thrifty and     
beautiful of the many lovely rosebushes1
 and dressed it in the child's clothes2 
much to the delight of the little girl4 
8,what are you doing that funny thing   
for1 ,dr4 ,lewis80 she asked4 8,why ,i  
want to see whether this will grow as   
you do when it is dressed so finely in  
your clothes10 said the wise doctor4    
8,leave it just so until ,i come again  
day after to-morrow1 and we shall see   
how it likes it40  ,he came and of      
course found the thrifty bush withered  
and dying4 8,why1 what is the matter    
here80 said the doctor to the little    
one4  8,why don't you see1 doctor1 you  
have shut out all the sunshine and air1 

and of course it could not stand it40   
8,of course not1 my dear10 said ,dr4    
,lewis1 8and no more can you40 ,turning 
to the astonished mother1 he said1 8,do 
you see1 my friend1 what you have been  
doing for your little girl1 and do you  
now see what is the matter with her8    
,the child can no more live without a   
proper amount of sunshine and air than  
can the rosebush4 ,take off half the    
clothes she has been wearing1 put on    
lighter and looser things1 give her a   
sun-bath daily in a warm room1 and allow
 her only simple meals at regular hours1
 put her to bed at seven o'clock every  
night1 and you will hardly know her in  
six months40  ,the advice was followed  
and the child became healthy and        
vigorous4  ,the old text from 8,the     
,book10 8as a man thinketh in his heart 
so is he10 suggests another as true4 ,as
 a man eateth so is he4 8,the man who   
swallows spices1 condiments1 pickles1 or
 other irritating1 hot substances1 is   
almost certain to think irritating1 hot 

thoughts1 and to speak hot words40      
,plain1 simple food1 well cooked and    
daintily served1 will be as happily     
received by our families1 7if they have 
not been pampered until their tastes are
 vitiated and bad habits formed71 as the
 multitude of dishes which are called   
food1 but have no right to the name1    
which are daily set before many growing 
boys and girls4 ,the temptation into    
which many mothers fall of concocting1  
or allowing to be concocted1 8fine0     
dishes with long sounding names1 and    
which are good for little in nutrition1 
has much to do in creating depraved     
appetites which are averse to plain1    
substantial food1 which really builds   
bodies that are worth the having4  ,we  
can sympathize heartily with the plain  
old farmer1 whose lament is given in    
rhyme in a ,southern medical journal3   
8,we have a lot of salad things1 with   
dressing mayonnaise3     ,in place of   
oysters1 blue points1 fricaseed a dozen 
ways1     ,and orange roly-poly1 float1 

and peach meringue1 alas--     ,enough  
to wreck a stomach that is made of      
plated brass3     ,the good old things  
have passed away in silent1 sad retreat1
     ,we've a lot of high-falutin       
things1 but nothing much to eat4        
,and while ,i never say a word1 and     
always pleasant look1     ,i have had   
sore dyspepsy since my daughter learned 
to cook40  ,well cooked vegetables1     
bread made from unbolted flour which    
contains all the nutritive properties1  
cereals cooked sufficiently1 meat--not  
fried--once a day1 plenty of fruit      
cooked and uncooked1 milk and water1    
should be all that are allowed growing  
children2 and if desserts are given at  
all1 simple puddings1 not pie1 should be
 in the dietary4  ,a story is told of a 
mother who took her twelve-year-old boy 
to her physician1 complaining that he   
would eat only those things that he     
should not have1 and that he felt so    
poorly that she could not get him out to
 play4 ,the wise doctor advised her to  

take him out for a ride of two miles    
each day1 and compel him to run behind  
the carriage on the way home4 ,his food 
should be bread and milk three times    
daily1 allowing positively nothing else 
for a month4 ,he should be put to bed   
every night at eight o'clock1 and report
 to him in a month4 ,a few bread pills  
completed the prescription4 ,the result 
seemed marvelous to the mother1 and the 
medicine was 8wonderful40  ,it is       
undoubtedly true that as a rule we eat  
too much1 and are surely too much a     
meat-eating people for the best results4
 ,meat once daily is by the best        
authorities on the subject1 considered  
sufficient for our needs4 ,it gives     
nutritive elements in a more            
concentrated form1 but in this very fact
 the danger lies4  ,it will be well for 
us to remember that food effects        
temperament decidedly1 and we need only 
compare the different temperaments found
 in flesh eating and herb eating animals
 to learn the effect a generous meat    

diet has upon the human family4  ,i was 
interested in noticing the dietary of   
the world's bicycle champion1 for the   
longest six days' ride yet made4 ,it    
consisted of rice1 oatmeal1 barley1     
fruit1 boiled milk1 koumiss1 coffee1 and
 no meat4 ,arab porters1 who carry great
 loads trotting from six in the morning 
until six in the evening1 during one    
month of the year1 are by their religion
 forbidden to partake of food between   
sunrise and sunset4 ,their morning meal 
is not mentioned1 but at eventide they  
have a moderate meal of wheatmeal       
porridge mixed with large proportions of
 butter1 or olive oil4 8,the ,french    
inspectors who are in charge of these   
gangs of porters1 declare that during   
the month of fasting they do better work
 than at any other time because their   
strength is not needed for digestion40  
,these statements only prove to us1 that
 as a people1 we eat too much1 and of   
too rich food1 and such facts invite us 
to a plainer mode of living1 if we      

desire to conserve our strength and do  
our best for ourselves and mankind4  ,i 
have not touched upon the subject of    
rest which is an important one4 ,many   
children through lack of knowledge or   
carelessness are allowed to fall into   
pernicious habits concerning sleep4     
,oftentimes these bad habits are fixed  
in the child in its tiny babyhood1 when 
mother or nurse wakes the little one for
 the benefit of admiring friends4       
,there should be a fixed retiring-hour  
for the children1 and nothing should be 
allowed to interfere with it4 ,each     
child should have a bed by itself4      
,little thought is given to the         
detriment1 morally and physically1 of   
bed-fellows for children4 ,we have      
touched upon the moral danger in another
 chapter1 and speak here of the         
physical4 ,children of different        
temperaments draw much from each other  
of electrical and vital force1 and      
nearly always to the detriment of both4 
,in losing anything which properly      

belongs to it1 the system has lost its  
poise1 and must suffer from it          
proportionately4 ,children differ much  
in the quantity of covering required1   
hence cannot properly be put under the  
same amount without one or the other    
suffering4 ,the tendency is to throw off
 the clothes1 and colds result4  ,if you
 have had trouble with nervous          
fretfulness on the part of your         
children1 especially in the morning1 and
 they have been in the habit of sleeping
 together1 separate them at once and    
note the results4 ,one may be a very    
restless child1 while the other is      
quiet1 and the consequence is the sleep 
of both is made miserable4  ,from       
earliest childhood accustom your        
children to regular sleeping hours1 and 
do not begin by speaking in whispers and
 walking on tiptoe when the baby is     
asleep4 ,accustom them to sleeping with 
all the ordinary work or pleasure going 
on in the ordinary way4 ,of course the  
child should be in a room by itself if  

possible1 especially if there are other 
children about4  ,as a people we suffer 
from lack of sufficient rest4 ,we stint 
ourselves here as nowhere else1 and     
little wonder that we are a nervous1    
restless people1 with worn-out energies 
in early life4 ,too many women come to  
maternity tired and worn1 and the result
 is anything but promising for their    
children2 the chances are that their    
children are born with a heritage of    
sleeplessness1 and their care is a      
burden to their mothers and others4     
,there is something fine in our great   
public1 free school system1 but to me   
there is something wofully pathetic     
also4 ,when ,i find little tots1 from   
the third grade on1 nervous and anxious 
in the daily rush of lessons1 fearing   
lest they will fall below the imposed   
standard1 and so lose their grade1 or be
 obliged to pass the dreaded            
examination2 going about with fretted1  
careworn faces1 ,i think it time to cry 
a halt4 ,it is not the lessons they are 

crowded through1 but the lessons they   
master that are going to be of value to 
them4 ,is there not                     
a-crowding-them-all-into-the-same-mold1 
a-modeling-them-after-the-same-pattern  
danger1 that takes largely from their   
individuality1 and forbids the evolution
 of such geniuses as the past           
generations have known8 ,no doubt we    
know more than our ancestors1 but is it 
not a question whether we are wiser than
 they8 ,for this state of things ,i do  
not attach blame to the teachers1 the   
curricula of the schools are to blame4  
,this is a part of the everlasting rush 
of the ,american race1 and what is the  
remedy8 ,all this nervous strain draws  
largely upon the physical nature of the 
child1 and produces dwarfed bodies that 
are nerveless and tired1 at the expense 
of crowded brains4 ,when will our       
splendid educators see the wrong and    
devise a better way8  ,but not all the  
fault lies with the schools4 ,many of   
our children are not properly fed and   

rested when they enter the schoolroom1  
and the consequence is poor work        
languidly done4 ,to obviate this1 our   
home-keepers should be truly good cooks1
 and by this ,i mean one who knows how  
to make an appetizing meal from very    
little1 and that little plain4 ,she     
should know how to cook the plain solid 
foods in such a manner that her family  
will call it a royal meal1 and their    
health and physical vigor will prove it 
so4 ,like the mother in the little      
story1 8,bread and ,cheese and ,kisses10
 who1 when the meal was particularly    
scant1 would say1 8well1 dearies1 we    
have only bread and cheese and kisses   
to-night10 whereupon the kisses would be
 so warm and full of love1 and the love 
pats so tender1 that the little ones    
would sit down with hearts full of      
content and rise with thanksgiving and  
gladness4  ,do we half realize how very 
much the food we set before our families
 has to do with the contentment and     
temper of the home1 and of the school   

and business life8 ,a poorly prepared1  
and poorly served evening meal will send
 our children to a night of restless1   
dreamy1 unrefreshing sleep1 and an      
awakening in the morning1 fretful1      
disordered and poorly prepared for the  
day4 ,an unwisely chosen breakfast1     
carelessly prepared1 finishes the work1 
and our children enter the schoolrooms  
to endure the day as best they can1 a   
burden to themselves and their teachers4
  ,and right here1 the mothers who have 
not ordered their children before birth 
may take comfort in the thought that    
they may still do much for their future 
by properly nourishing them4 ,any woman 
may live a great life in giving the     
attention she should to the hygiene of  
cooking for the home2 for when she      
learns how much of knowledge is bound up
 in the chemistry of cooking1 she will  
explore many fields in her research1 and
 come out the winner in wide culture and
 loveliness4 ,much that is called       
cooking1 is but the throwing together of

 the ingredients in the easiest manner  
possible1 and often disguising the      
unpalatableness by spices and           
condiments4  ,the question of the       
weakness of our children's eyes1 has    
become a serious one4 ,what is the cause
 and what the remedy8 ,but a few words  
on the subject will suffice in a work   
like this4 ,there are doubtless various 
causes1 but among the most noticeable   
and most easily corrected are the       
following4  ,improperly lighted         
schoolrooms1 the windows being at the   
side and sometimes a part of them at the
 front4 ,the white walls1 the reflected 
light from which is very trying to the  
eyes4 ,the constant use of the eyes for 
near work1 which school life demands1   
and after the five hours in school1 the 
two1 three and sometimes four or five   
hours work out of school1 a part of     
which must be done by artificial light1 
and that often poor4  ,the almost       
constant adjustment of the eye for near 
vision1 which there must be by the city 

dwellers1 with the tall buildings       
shutting out the far-away look1 which   
rests the eye1 in allowing the muscles  
of accommodation to relax4 ,the poor    
print of the cheaper class of books put 
upon the market4 ,the inferior paper    
will not admit of a clear bold type1 and
 there must be a constant effort of the 
eye to adjust itself to the conditions4 
,much can be done to avoid the dangers1 
by teaching the children to close the   
eyes and rest them for a moment or two1 
whenever they feel tired1 or to look as 
far away as possible4  ,you have        
doubtless read of 8the barefoot cures10 
established in a few of our foreign     
cities1 with one1 ,i think1 in our own  
land4 ,the patients are required to go  
out in the dew-wet grass with bare feet1
 for a certain time every morning1 and  
thus to draw strength and electricity   
from mother earth4 ,could ,i accomplish 
it ,i would establish a barefoot cure in
 every home in the land4 ,isn't it      
really more than three-fourths pride1   

that forbids our letting our little ones
 pull off their shoes and stockings1 and
 revel for a time at least each day in  
the delicious freedom and coolness they 
could get from direct contact with      
mother earth8  ,have any of you a child 
who has not teased to go barefooted1 and
 why have you not allowed it8 ,do not1  
,i pray you1 cheat them out of this     
blissful freedom1 and simple            
health-giving measure4 ,put your pride  
behind you4 ,venture the possibility    
that the foot may become a little       
larger1 and let your boys and girls run 
barefooted for at least an hour or two  
each day1 in the back yard1 if you do   
not like their appearance in front1 or  
in the park1 if you have no back yards1 
and ,i venture to say you will have     
healthier1 happier1 heartier children   
than you have ever known4 ,no matter how
 delicate they are1 the more delicate   
the greater the need4 ,by judicious     
management at the beginning1 accustoming
 them to the change gradually and in the

 middle of the day1 they will rarely    
take cold4 ,after they have become      
habituated to it1 you will also find    
that their usual colds will disappear4  
,put the tiny babies out into the sand  
pile as soon as they can sit alone1 take
 off their moccasins and stockings1 and 
let their little feet come in contact   
with the warm sand and watch their      
delight4  ,and now ,i come to a common  
practice1 which although thoughtlessly  
acquired is none the less pernicious1   
namely1 the habit which many mothers    
have of dosing their children on all    
sorts of domestic nostrums1 simply on   
the reputation that they are good for   
the ailments of childhood1 with no idea 
of their fitness for the individual     
case1 or for any case4 ,the older ,i    
grow1 and the more ,i learn about       
medicines1 the more convinced ,i am that
 they are not to be tampered with4      
,could the composition of many of the   
so-called domestic remedies be known1   
mothers would stand appalled at their   

temerity in daring to administer them4  
,we cannot measure the evil results of  
this indiscriminate dosing4 ,why are so 
many of these compounds put upon the    
market8 ,simply because people stand    
ready and willing to use them1 and in   
doing so fancy they are sparing         
themselves a larger expense by way of a 
doctor's fee4  ,you would hardly need to
 go into our uneducated homes to find   
results of antikamnia 7self-ministered7 
antipyrine1 ananalgia1 or some other of 
the long list of anti's or their near   
relatives1 the various headache powders1
 anti-constipation teas1 pills1 etc41   
etc41 without end4 ,this habit among    
women1 together with the tobacco habit  
among men has wrecked many a little     
lifeboat before it weighed anchor1 and  
many an older craft has gone to pieces  
on the rocks because of them4  ,and now 
a last word on another bit of           
seed-sowing that brings forth more than 
an hundredfold in harvest4 ,mothers1 do 
you dream what you may be doing when you

 use brandy and wine in your cookery1 or
 the beer that makes your welsh rarebit 
8so much better10 to use a quotation    
from one who uses it4 ,is it safe in    
these days of intemperance to create the
 taste for alcoholics in your children  
that in after years may demand the      
gratification which drags them down to  
death1 and carries with them many       
others8 ,could we know the effects upon 
a transient guest often1 we would       
wonder1 how1 for the sake of custom we  
had allowed ourselves to play with the  
poison that destroys all that is        
beautiful in many homes1 and sends to   
death yearly a countless throng1 that   
some of our children may help to swell1 
if we do not do our utmost to stay it4  
,i have tried in these few hints on     
body-building to show young mothers how 
much they can do1 if they set about     
intelligently learning how to care for  
their children4 ,make the study a       
painstaking one1 and you will bless your
 families by your research1 and the     

world by the healthy men and women you  
send out4  ,a noble band of women1 which
 is yearly increasing1 have set         
themselves the task of instituting a new
 order of things1 and the great problems
 of childhood1 girlhood and boyhood1    
wifehood1 motherhood1 and fatherhood1   
are being studied with a will to master 
their mysteries1 and endow the coming   
generation with a clearer knowledge of  
the causes which have led to much of the
 sin and sorrow in home and society4    
,mother's meetings and ,congresses      
witness the awakening of many along     
these lines and herald a brighter future
 for our grandchildren than our children
 have enjoyed2 and that there is a call 
for such a book as this1 evidences the  
recognition of the need for knowledge   
along these lines4  ,some one has wisely
 said1 8what we need most is a          
generation of educated mothers40 ,the   
few are aware of this and have long     
since passed into the higher grades of  
such an education2 but for the many     

mothers who have not yet entered the    
schools1 such chapters as this are      
written4 ,to keep abreast of the        
questionings of her children1 to be     
thoroughly informed on all the subjects 
which touch their training and          
well-being is1 next to her religion1 the
 highest prerogative of woman to-day4   
,for any mother to be so prepared that  
she can teach her children truth1 and in
 such a wholesome way that it shall     
beautify their whole after lives1 and   
keep them close to her in counsel1 is a 
noble outlook for any woman4 ,and what  
other right or privilege can be above   
this8  ,i am coming to think that a     
woman is living a great life1 and doing 
a great service for humanity1 who trains
 well one child--if this be all she     
should and can have--,godward and       
manward4 ,true she may do this and do   
much else2 but if she be a mother1 all  
else she may do1 neglecting this1 can   
never bring to her or the world much    
blessing4 ,all else she may do while    

fulfilling well this duty1 will but make
 her the better mother and world-helper4
 ,no mother can divorce the home and    
fireside from her work and retain       
success and happiness4  ,j4 ,c4         
,fernauld has said truly1 8,with every  
mother the relation of motherhood should
 be the controlling one1 and in all     
doubtful cases1 mother duty should have 
the benefit of the doubt40 ,charles ,h4 
,parkhurst says3 8,society rises no     
higher than the mass1 and the measure of
 the home is the mother4 ,in the last   
analysis the world's downward pressure  
is sustained by woman1 and more than the
 public generally suspects1 the man's   
talent for achievement is supported by  
the wife's or mother's genius for quiet1
 patient1 continuous endurance40  8,a   
nation rises no higher than its         
mothers40  ,a beginning has been made in
 our schools toward a wider knowledge   
along the lines of being1 which heralds 
the day when teachers who are           
intelligent in these matters shall      

prepare our young people for the        
responsibilities of life--then those    
whose home training has been neglected1 
shall not come out of our schools       
unprepared1 but fitted to take their    
places as home-makers1 as fathers and   
mothers who shall be capable of training
 their children in the wisest way4      
,,chapter ,,xxiv4  ,,mothers'           
,,meetings1 ,,study ,,clubs ,,and       
,,books4      ,the ,awakening ,along    
,new ,lines4--,a ,better ,brand of      
,mothers4--,books that ,will ,help      
,along ,this ,line4--,mothers'          
,clubs as ,factors4--,their ,need in    
,cities1 ,villages1 and ,rural          
,communities4--,a ,rich ,mine4   ,a book
 like this cannot enter into close      
details1 or give minute directions2     
hence we have deemed it advisable to    
append a list of books and pamphlets    
which should be in every mother's       
library4 ,were every young wife to make 
a painstaking study of books like these 
with the fixed intent of preparing      

herself for motherhood1 what a          
millennial day would dawn for the race4 
,the following list 7to which have been 
added a few others7 ,i have copied from 
the library of a club of mothers1 who   
have interested themselves in gathering 
the best they could find in the line of 
instruction and helpfulness to a wife   
and mother4 ,this list may be further   
increased by many other helpful books1  
but serves as a suggestive list for     
those who are not conversant with such  
literature3      ,the ,children of ,the 
,future1               #a4jj            
,nora ,archibald ,smith4      ,what is  
,worth ,while8                          
4#ce               ,anna ,robertson     
,brown4      ,power ,through ,repose1   
#a4jj                 ,anna ,payson     
,call4      ,the ,republic of           
,childhood1 7#c vols47       #c4jj      
,kate ,douglass ,wiggin4      ,a        
,mother's ,ideals1                      
#a4ej              ,andrea ,hofer       
,proudfoot4      ,a ,study of ,child    

,nature1                   #a4jj        
,elizabeth ,harrison4      ,child       
,culture1                               
4#cj               ,hannah ,whitall     
,smith4      ,the ,home ,training of    
,children1              4#ej            
,j4 ,c4 ,fernauld4      ,literary       
,landmarks1                        #a4be
                   ,mary ,e4 ,burt4     
,gentle ,measures1                      
#a4be                   ,jacob ,abbott4 
,mothers the ,true ,reformers1          
4#aj               ,mrs4 ,w4 ,l4 ,w4    
,miller4      ,a ,treatise on ,prayer1  
4#ge             ,rev4 ,edward          
,bickersteith4      ,home ,making1      
#a4jj      ,loving ,my ,neighbor1       
4#ce      ,the ,golden ,gate of ,prayer1
                  4#ge                  
,rev4 ,j4 ,r4 ,miller1 ,d4 ,d4      ,the
 ,ministry of ,intercession1            
4#ge                ,rev4 ,andrew       
,murray4      ,stepping ,heavenward1    
4#ge                 ,mrs4 ,e4          
,prentiss4      ,with ,god in ,the      

,world1                     #a4jj       
,chas4 ,h4 ,brent4      ,the ,kingship  
of ,self ,control1               4#cj   
,wm4 ,george ,jordan4      ,from        
,girlhood to ,motherhood1               
4#cj                ,mary ,lowe         
,dickinson4      ,seed ,thoughts for    
,mothers1                  4#ce         
,mrs4 ,minnie ,e4 ,paul4      ,bringing 
up ,boys1                           4#ej
                 ,kate ,upson ,clark4   
,what a ,young ,boy ,ought to ,know1    
#a4jj      ,what a ,young ,man ,ought to
 ,know1            #a4jj      ,what a   
,young ,husband ,ought to ,know1        
#a4jj      ,what a ,man of ,forty-five  
,ought to ,know1    #a4jj               
,sylvanus ,stall1 ,d4 ,d4      ,what a  
,young ,girl ,ought to ,know1           
#a4jj      ,what a ,young ,woman ,ought 
to ,know1          #a4jj                
,mrs4 ,mary ,wood-,allen1 ,m4 ,d4       
,children1 ,their ,models and ,critics1 
4#ge                ,auretta ,r4        
,aldrich4      ,children's ,rights1     

#a4jj               ,kate ,douglass     
,wiggins4      ,great ,books as ,life   
,teachers1              #a4ej           
,newell ,dwight ,hillis4      ,letters  
to ,mothers1                            
#a4ej                   ,susan ,e4      
,blow4      ,character1                 
4#ge                   ,samuel ,smiles4 
,a ,holy ,temple1                       
4#je                 ,rev4 ,f4 ,b4      
,meyer4      ,a ,song of ,life1         
#a4be     ,life and ,love1              
#a4be              ,margaret ,warner    
,morley4      ,hints on ,child          
,training1                   #a4be      
,h4 ,clay ,trumbull1 ,d4 ,d4      ,bits 
of ,talks about ,home ,matters1         
#a4jj                       ,h4 ,h4     
,the ,study of ,children1               
#a4jj                  ,francis ,warner4
      ,the ,evening and ,the ,morning1  
#a4jj               ,rev4 ,armstrong    
,black4      ,christian ,nurture1       
#a4ej               ,horace ,bushnell1  
,d4 ,d4      ,the ,development of the   

,child1              #a4be     ,care of 
the ,child in ,health1                  
#a4be              ,nathan ,oppenheim1  
,m4 ,d4      ,the ,boy ,problem1        
4#ge                 ,wm4 ,byron        
,forbush4      ,of ,making ,one's ,self 
,beautiful1             4#ej            
,wm4 ,c4 ,gannett4      ,imago ,christi1
                             #a4ej      
,rev4 ,jas4 ,stalker1 ,d4 ,d4      ,home
 ,thoughts1                             
#a4ej                         ,c4       
,maternal ,responsibilities1            
4#aj               ,e4 ,f4 ,a4 ,drake1  
,m4 ,d4      ,from ,a ,child's          
,standpoint1                 #a4jj      
,florence ,hull ,winterburn4            
,education1                             
#a4jj                  ,herbert         
,spencer4  ,any of these books can be   
ordered through the ,vir ,publishing    
,company4  ,a score of copies of ,mary  
,wood-,allen's booklets have been sold  
among the members1 and copies of ,the   
,american ,mother1 ,the ,mothers'       

,journal1 and ,trained ,motherhood are  
taken4 ,this club meets once a month1   
and papers are read by the members1 or  
by some invited guest4 ,physicians and  
ministers1 school-teachers who have had 
success along certain lines2            
kindergartners1 and lawyers have spoken 
to this company of women4 ,each year a  
printed program is issued1 and the      
meetings are open to all who wish to    
attend1 whether members or not4 ,the    
discussions which have followed the     
papers1 have been interesting and       
profitable in the extreme4 ,one or two  
are appointed to open the discussion1   
and questions are freely asked4 ,this   
club is only three years old1 but it    
would be impossible to measure its      
influence for good1 and its suggestive  
helpfulness in the community4 ,would    
that there were a similar society of    
women in every city in our land4 ,yea1  
more1 in every village and rural        
community4 ,literary clubs and classes  
have multiplied1 all over our land1 ad  

infinitum2 and is it not time that      
mothers' classes were more common and   
popular8 ,depend upon it1 more pleasure 
and profit can be gotten out of such a  
class1 than from any other proposed line
 of study4 ,why8 ,because it goes to the
 very root of things1 and comes so near 
to the hearts of all that it can but    
create interest4  ,woman has done much  
in literary study and improvement1 but  
here is a mine that has not been worked 
as it should have been2 and depend upon 
it1 no richer field can be found in all 
the realm of art1 science or literature4
  ,,the ,,end4         99       99      
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,,publication      ,,in ,,the ,,united  
,,states     ,,the ,,vir ,,publishing   
,,company     #bbcg ,,land ,,title      
,,building     ,,philadelphia1 ,,pa4    
,,in ,,england     ,,the ,,vir          
,,publishing ,,company     #g ,,imperial
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,,london1 ,e4 ,c4      ,,in ,,canada    
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,,ontario         99       99       99  
99       99  ,maternity ,without        
,suffering  ,,by ,,mrs4 ,,emma ,f4 ,a4  
,,drake1 ,m4 ,d4  ,condensed ,table of  
,contents      ,,healthfulness ,,of     
,,child-,,bearing--,wrong notion about  
child-bearing     corrected--,dangerous 
subterfuges--,contrast between willing  
and unwilling mothers--,ennobling       
maternity--,causes of painful           
parturition--,suggestions for proper    
exercise--,errors in     diet--,a proper
 regimen--,a contributing cause to      
pain--,is     painless parturition      
possible8--,opinions of scientists      
and physicians--,reasons why some women 
have painless     child-bearing--,the   
author's experience as a physician--,the
     conditions necessary for painless  
maternity--,danger of     extreme       
methods--,effects of bad                
advisers--,contributing     factors of  
antenatal infanticide--,nothing to dread
 in normal     childbirth--,extreme     

methods not necessary4      ,,the       
,,crime ,,of ,,prenatal ,,murder--,the  
day of reckoning--,words     of         
warning--,the mother's accomplice--,how 
often to     have children--,dangerous  
practices--,the necessity of            
knowledge--,importance of a proper state
 of mind during     pregnancy--,how to  
make one's life noble--,the first steps 
in     meddlesome midwifery4      ,,the 
,,necessary ,,preparation ,,for         
,,motherhood--,exercise to be           
zealously sought--,home duties and      
domestic science--,the     best         
exercise--,some aids to physical        
development--,dress     during          
pregnancy--,the bath--,care of breasts  
and     abdomen--,choice of physician   
and nurse--,the husband's               
part--,ailments of                      
pregnancy--,troublesome ills--,morning  
sickness--,heartburn--,constipation--,th
e prevention and treatment of           
piles--,other ills--,causes of nervous  
apprehension--,other mental             

conditions--,birthmarks--,threatened    
miscarriage4      ,,heredity1           
,,predisposition ,,and                  
,,environment--,the mother's influence  
on the destiny of her child--,a         
profitable study--,what a mother     can
 do for her children--,reasons why later
 children are stronger     and brighter4
      ,,the ,,lying-,,in ,,chamber--,the
 room--,the bed--,the mother's          
dress--,the     articles                
necessary--,after the advent of the     
baby--,necessity     of knowledge--,the 
disturbing things--,signs of pregnancy  
and     the birth--,the rational or     
presumptive signs--,the time in         
reckoning--,the duration of             
pregnancy--,exceptional cases--,the     
disturbing stage of labor--,valuable    
suggestions--,directions for     the    
nurse--,propriety of ansthetics--,baby's
 wardrobe--,requisite                   
articles--,directions for their         
making--,baby's first trunk--,first     
toilet--,baby's first                   

dressing--,ensuring a night's rest--,the
     cradle--,hours of eating and       
sleeping--,proper kind of food4         
,price  #ej ,cents  net1 post free      
#b s4             99       99       99  
99       99  8,what a ,young ,girl      
,ought to ,know40  ,,by ,,mrs4 ,,mary   
,,wood-,,allen1 ,m4 ,d4  ,condensed     
,table of ,contents                     
,,part ,i      ,the origin of life--,one
 plan in all forms of life--,how plants 
grow from the seed--,they feed on the   
soil1 grow and mature--,how     the     
plant reproduces itself--,the flower1   
the pollen1 the pod1     the seed--,the 
office of bees and insects in           
fertilization4                          
,,part ,,ii      ,fishes and their      
young--,the parent fishes and the baby  
fishes--,the seeds of plants and eggs of
 fishes1 birds and     animals--,how    
fishes never know their baby            
offspring--,warm blooded                
animals--,lessons from birds--,their    
nests1 eggs and little ones4            

,,part ,,iii      ,animals and their    
young--,the place which ,god has        
prepared for     their young--,beginning
 their independent life--,human babies  
the     most helpless and dependent of  
all creatures--,the relations of        
parent and child--,the child a part of  
each parent--,heredity and     its      
lessons4                                
,,part ,,iv      ,the value of good     
health--,the care of the body--,the body
 a temple     to be kept holy--,girls   
should receive their instruction from   
their mothers--,the body the garment    
which the soul wears--,effects     of   
thoughts upon life and character--,value
 of good companions1     good books and 
good influences--,what it is to become a
 woman4      ,price  #a4jj  net1 per    
copy             #d s4          99      
99       99       99       99  8,what a 
,young ,girl ,ought to ,know40  ,,what  
,,eminent ,,people ,,say  ,francis ,e4  
,willard1 ,,ll4,d4      8,i do earnestly
 hope that this book1 founded on a      

strictly     scientific but not         
forgetting a strong ethical basis1 may  
be     well known and widely read by the
 dear girls in their teens and     the  
young women in their homes40  ,mrs4     
,elizabeth ,b4 ,grannis      8,these    
facts ought to be judiciously brought to
 the     intelligence of every child    
whenever it asks questions              
concerning its own origin40  ,mrs4      
,harriet ,lincoln ,coolidge      8,it is
 a book that mothers and daughters ought
 to own40  ,mrs4 ,katharine ,l4         
,stevenson      8,the book is strong1   
direct1 pure1 as healthy as a breeze    
from     the mountain-top40  ,mrs4      
,isabelle ,mac,donald ,alden1 8,pansy0  
8,it is just the book needed to teach   
what most people do not     know how to 
teach1 being scientific1 simple and     
plain-spoken1     yet delicate40  ,miss 
,grace ,h4 ,dodge      8,i know of no   
one who writes or speaks on these great 
subjects     with more womanly touch    
than ,mrs4 ,wood-,allen1 nor with deeper

     reverence4 ,when ,i listen to her  
,i feel that she has been     inspired  
by a ,higher ,power40  ,ira ,d4 ,sankey 
8,every mother in the land that has a   
daughter should secure for     her a    
copy of #8,what a ,young ,girl ,ought to
 ,know4' ,it will save     the world    
untold sorrow40         99       99     
99       99       99  8,what a ,young   
,woman ,ought to ,know40  ,,by ,,mrs4   
,,mary ,,wood-,,allen1 ,m4,d4           
,condensed ,table of ,contents          
,,part ,i                               
,,childhood ,,and ,,growth      ,woman's
 worth--,importance of care of the      
body--,how to obtain     health--,waste 
and repair--,questions of               
food--,importance of rest in            
sleep--,the office and importance of    
correct breathing--,injuries     from   
tight clothing--,physical               
culture--,exercise and                  
recreation--,the value of the bath4     
,,part ,,ii                             
,,womanhood      ,the endowment of new  

powers--,the conferring of life--,brain 
building and character formation--,soul 
and self--,special                      
physiology--,woman's special bodily     
endowments--,the crisis     in the      
girl's life--,ovulation and             
menstruation--,their                    
significance--,causes and cures of      
disturbed physical                      
conditions--,painful periods and        
displacements--,special care of         
health at special times--,many healthful
 suggestions suited     to the physical 
needs of young women--,secret vice and  
its     consequences--,the relation of  
pure young women to young               
men--,friendships4                      
,,part ,,iii      ,what is love--,should
 include mental conjugality1 spiritual  
sympathy and physical                   
attraction--,responsibility in          
marriage--,antecedents1 talents and     
habits of young man--,the     law of    
heredity--,beneficial--,effects of      
stimulants upon                         

offspring--,inherited effects of        
immorality--,good characteristics       
also transmitted--,requisites in a      
husband--,engagements--,benefits     of1
 evils of--,holding to the highest      
ideals--,weddings--,gifts1     tours and
 realities of life4      ,price  #a4jj  
net1 per copy1 post free             #d 
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99       99  8,what a ,young ,woman     
,ought to ,know40  ,,what ,,eminent     
,,people ,,say  ,lady ,henry ,somerset  
8,an extremely valuable book1 and ,i    
wish that it may be widely              
circulated40  ,mrs4 ,laura ,ormiston    
,chant      8,the book ought to be in   
the hands of every girl on her          
fifteenth birthday1 as a safe guide and 
teacher along the     difficult path of 
womanhood40  ,margaret ,warner ,morley  
8,there is an awful need for the book1  
and it does what it has     undertaken  
to do better than anything of the kind  
,i ever read40  ,mrs4 ,may ,wright      
,sewall      8,i am profoundly grateful 

that a subject of such information to   
young woman should be treated in a      
manner at once so noble and     so      
delicate40  ,elizabeth ,cady ,stanton   
8,it is a grave mistake for parents to  
try to keep their     children ignorant 
of the very questions on which they     
should     have scientific information40
  ,lillian ,m4 ,n4 ,stevens      8,there
 is a great need of carefully1          
delicately written books     upon the   
subjects treated in this series4 ,i am  
gratefully glad     that the author has 
succeeded so well1 and ,i trust great   
and     enduring good will be the       
result40  ,mrs4 ,matilda ,b4 ,carse     
8,it is pure and instructive on the     
delicate subjects that mean     so much 
to our daughters1 to their future as    
home-keepers1     wives and mothers1 and
 to the future generations40         99 
99       99       99       99  8,what a 
,woman of ,forty-five ,ought to ,know0  
,,by ,,mrs4 ,,emma ,f4 ,a4 ,,drake1 ,m4 
,d4  ,condensed ,table of ,contents     

,,knowledge ,,of ,,climacteric          
,,necessary      ,why women are not     
prepared to meet the climacteric--,the  
fear that unnerves many--,error of views
 concerning 8,change     of             
,life0--,correct teaching               
stated--,influence of medical           
literature--,three periods in a woman's 
life--,relation of early     habits to  
later aches and ills--,the              
menopause--,conditions which            
influence the period of the             
climacteric--,the age at which it       
usually appears--,effects of            
heredity--,childless women--,mothers of 
large families--,effects of different   
occupations--,excesses4                 
,,heralds ,,of ,,change--,,diseases     
,,and ,,remedies      ,mental states    
during menopause--,change in blood      
currents--,flushes1 chilliness1         
dizziness1 etc4--,nervous               
,symptoms--,disturbed mental and nervous
 equilibriums--,nature     as woman's   
helper--,troublesome ailments--,mental  

troubles     considered--,suggested     
help--,cancer--,benefits                
named--,apprehensions                   
dispelled--,how to banish               
worry--,simplifying daily duty--,an     
eminent     physician's prescription--,a
 word to single women--,reluctance of   
unmarried women to meet the             
menopause--,how to prolong one's        
youth--,dress during this period--,the  
mother 8,at ,sea0--,guarding     against
 becoming gloomy--,effects of patent    
medicine     advertising--,drug         
fiends--,lustful indulgence4            
,,what ,,both ,,husband ,,and ,,wife    
,,should ,,remember      ,slights and   
inattentions keenly felt by her--,need  
of patience--,a     word of private     
counsel--,value of little               
attentions--,wife's     duty to her     
husband--,holding husband's             
affections--,making home                
attractive--,unselfishness4             
,,auto-,,suggestion ,,and ,,other       
,,suggestions      ,influence of mind   

over body--,the mind as a curative      
agent--,how     to rise out of          
depression--,mental philosophy and      
physical     betterment--,relation of   
health to sight--,care of the           
teeth--,the                             
hair--,constipation--,self cure--,choice
 of foods--,exercise--,physical         
development--,exercise of mind and soul4
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,,by ,,the ,,press      8,will dispell  
apprehensions aroused by groundless     
forebodings40--,reformed ,church        
,messenger4      8,if the hygienic      
advice in this book is followed it will 
lengthen the lives of women and make    
their closing years the     happiest and
 most useful of all40--,herald and      
,presbyter4      8,in no line of        
literature1 perhaps1 is such a book so  
much     needed40--,new ,haven ,leader4 
8,those who peruse the book only from   

prurient curiosity will be              
disappointed40--,cleveland ,world4      
8,should be read by every woman nearing 
and passing middle                      
life40--,pittsburg ,gazette4            
8,written in that wholesome sympathetic 
manner characteristic     of all the    
books in the ,self and ,sex             
,series40--,cleveland ,daily     ,world4
      8,full of most admirable practical
 advice and it is written in     a      
sympathetic manner which is the outcome 
of oneness of sex     between the author
 and those whom she                     
addresses40--,syracuse     ,herald4     
8,there are some things that a woman of 
forty-five does not     know--things    
which she regards with more or less     
terror in the     expectation--which    
terror it is the object of ,mrs4 ,drake 
to     dispel40--,rochester ,herald4    
8,there is nothing in the book that     
could not be proclaimed from     the    
house-tops1 and there is everything in  
it that intelligent     and thoughtful  

women should read and keep for their    
daughters     to read when the proper   
time comes40--,newark ,daily            
,advertiser4         99       99        
99       99       99  8,what a ,young   
,boy ,ought to ,know40  ,,by ,,sylvanus 
,,stall1 ,d4 ,d4  ,condensed ,table of  
,contents                               
,,part ,i      ,god's purpose in        
endowing plants1 animals and man with   
reproductive power--,the question of the
 origin of life a natural     and proper
 one--,difference between creating and  
making--,how ,god     now creates or    
reproduces the flowers1 insects1 fishes 
and     animals--,the mamma and papa    
plants and the baby plants--,the mamma  
and papa nature in the stalk of         
corn--,the two natures united     in the
 same flower--,separated in other       
plants--,the office of     the wind and 
insects in fertilizing the flowers--,the
 mamma and     papa natures united in   
the same oyster--,the life of the baby  
oyster--,the two natures separated in   

the fishes--,the eggs and     the baby  
fishes--,how seeds are made to grow and 
how eggs are     hatched--,the beautiful
 lives of parent birds--,the bird's     
nest1     the eggs and the baby         
birds--,why the eggs of animals may not 
be     exposed in a nest--,the nest     
which ,god has prepared for them--,the  
hatching of the egg or the birth of the 
animal--,the creation of     ,adam and  
,eve--,god created man with power       
similar to his creative     power--,the 
purity of parentage4                    
,,part ,,ii      ,the manner in which   
the reproductive organs are injured in  
boys by abuse--,comparative anatomy1 or 
points of resemblance     between bodies
 of birds1 animals and man--,man the    
only animal     with a perfect          
hand--,with the hand he constructs1     
builds and     blesses--,with the hand  
he smites1 slays and injures others1 and
     degrades himself4                  
,,part ,,iii      ,the consequences in  
boys of the abuse of the reproductive   

organs--,need of proper                 
information--,the moral effects first to
     manifest themselves--,how secret   
sin affects the character of            
boys--,effects upon the body and the    
nerves--,effects upon the     brain and 
mind--,the physical effects that follow4
                            ,,parts ,,iv
 and ,v      ,how boys may preserve     
their bodies in purity and              
strength--,our     duty to aid others to
 avoid pernicious habits1 and to retain 
or     regain their purity and strength4
                           ,,parts ,,vi 
and ,,vii      ,how purity and strength 
may be measurably regained--,the age    
of adolescence or puberty and its       
attendant changes--,its     significance
 and its dangers4      ,price  #a4jj    
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,theodore ,l4 ,cuyler1 ,d4,d4           

8#8,what a ,young ,boy ,ought to ,know' 
ought to be in every home     where     
there is a boy40  ,lady ,henry ,somerset
      8,calculated to do an immense     
amount of good4 ,i sincerely hope     it
 may find its way to many homes40       
,joseph ,cook1 ,d4,d41 ,,ll4,d4         
8,it is everywhere suggestive1 inspiring
 and strategic in a     degree1 as ,i   
think1 not hitherto matched in          
literature of its     class40  ,charles 
,l4 ,thompson1 ,d4,d4      8,why was not
 this book written centuries ago80      
,anthony ,comstock      8,it lifts the  
mind and thoughts upon a high and lofty 
plane     upon delicate subjects40      
,edward ,w4 ,bok      8,it has appealed 
to me in a way which no other book of   
its kind     has40  ,bishop ,john ,h4   
,vincent1 ,d4,d41 ,,ll4,d4      8,you   
have handled with great delicacy and    
wisdom an exceedingly     difficult     
subject40  ,john ,willis ,baer      8,i 
feel confident that it can do great     
good1 and ,i mean that my     boys shall

 have the contents placed before them40 
,mrs4 ,mary ,a4 ,livermore1 ,,ll4,d4    
8,full of physiological truths1 which   
all children ought to     know1 at a    
proper age2 will be read by boys without
 awakening a     prurient thought40     
,josiah ,strong1 ,d4,d4      8,a foolish
 and culpable silence on the part of    
most parents     leaves their children  
to learn1 too often from vicious        
companions1 sacred truth in an          
unhallowed way40         99       99    
99       99       99  8,what a ,young   
,man ,ought to ,know40  ,,by ,,sylvanus 
,,stall1 ,d4 ,d4  ,condensed ,table of  
,contents                               
,,strength      ,the value of physical  
strength--,the weak man                 
handicapped--,threefold nature of       
man--,relation of the physical1         
intellectual and moral--,impair one1 you
 injure all--,the physical              
foundation--,man's strong sexual        
nature--,sexuality strongly     marked  
in all great men--,importance of manly  

mastery of sexual     nature--,personal 
purity--,only one moral standard for men
 and     women4                         
,,weakness      ,inherited              
weakness--,how overcome--,acquired      
weakness--,how     produced--,the       
effects of secret vice--,what should be 
done--,losses     in sleep--,when to    
consult a physician--,danger from quacks
     and charlatans--,what are normal   
and abnormal losses--,medical           
authorities quoted--,subject            
illustrated--,important directions4     
,,social ,,vice      ,alarming ignorance
 concerning the diseases which accompany
     vice--,why physicians do not       
acquaint their patients with the        
nature of these diseases--,the          
prevalence--,all forms of venereal      
diseases leave terrible                 
results--,character and consequences    
of gonorrha--,later                     
complications--,chordee1 stricture1     
blindness1 etc4--,how healthy brides    
become early and permanent              

invalids--,chancroid and chancre--,the  
primary1 secondary and     tertiary     
forms of syphilis--,the beginning1      
progress and end--,can     it ever be   
cured--,may the man ever marry--,effects
 upon wife and     children4            
,,the ,,reproductive ,,organs           
,their purpose and                      
prostitution--,marriage a great         
blessing--,difference between creation  
and procreation--,all life     from the 
seed or the egg--,the reproduction of   
plants1 fishes1     birds and animals   
contrasted--,an interesting study4      
,,man',s ,,relation ,,to ,,woman        
,importance of a right relation to      
women--,the nature of     marriage--,the
 friends and foes of marriage--,who     
should not     marry--,the selection of 
a wife--,some general rules--,importance
 of     great caution--,causes of       
unhappiness in married life--,early and 
late marriages4                         
,,hindrances ,,and ,,helps      ,the    
choice of companions1 books1 pictures1  

amusements1     recreations--,liquors   
and tobacco--,self-mastery--,right aim  
in     life--,industry1 early           
rising--,the influence of an ennobling  
affection--,education--,the ,sabbath1   
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8,of exceeding value to every youth just
 entering upon manhood4     ,it is      
written reverently but very plainly1 and
 ,i believe will     save a multitude of
 young men from evils unspeakable40     
,john ,clifford1 ,d4 ,d4      8,one of  
the best books for dawning manhood that 
has fallen     into my hands4 ,it goes  
to the roots of human living4 ,it is    
thoroughly manly4 ,dr4 ,stall has laid  
the rising generation     under an      
immense obligation40  ,j4 ,wilbur       
,chapman1 ,d4 ,d4      8,i bear willing 
testimony that ,i believe this book     

ought to be     in the hands of every   
young man in this country40  ,paul ,f4  
,munde1 ,m4 ,d41 ,,ll4 ,d4  ,professor  
of ,gyncology in the ,new ,york         
,polyclinic and at ,dartmouth ,college1 
says3      8,i most heartily commend not
 only the principle but the             
execution of what it aims to teach40    
,eugene ,h4 ,porter1 ,m4 ,d41 ,,ll4 ,d4 
,president of the ,homeopathic ,medical 
,society of the ,state of ,new ,york2   
,professor ,materia ,medica1 ,new ,york 
,homeopathic ,medical ,college1 etc41   
says3      8,we should especially       
commend the volume for its reliability  
in     statement1 and1 as a medical man1
 ,i highly indorse the medical          
teachings of the book4 ,it is           
trustworthy and sound4 ,it is a     work
 which should be in the hands of every  
young man40         99       99       99
       99       99  8,what a ,young     
,husband ,ought to ,know40  ,,by        
,,sylvanus ,,stall1 ,d4 ,d4  ,condensed 
,table of ,contents                     

,,part ,i               ,,what ,,he     
,,ought ,,to ,,know ,,concerning        
,,himself      ,the true foundation for 
happiness in married life--,physical1   
intellectual and sexual differences     
between men and women--,each            
complemental to the other1 and complete 
only when mated--,the     three theories
 regarding coition--,the correct        
theory--,the     physical cost of       
procreation--,illustrated in insects1   
animals     and man--,what is           
excess--,effects of marital             
continence--,the     husband's duty to  
his wife--,physical defects and         
deficiencies of     husband or          
wife--,misery entailed by vice--,effects
 upon wife--,upon     children--,purity 
and fidelity4                           
,,part ,,ii               ,,what ,,he   
,,ought ,,to ,,know ,,concerning ,,his  
,,wife                              ,i  
,,the ,,bride      ,marriage the most   
trying event in a woman's               
life--,earliest     mistake which most  

young husbands make--,few intelligent   
guardians of their brides--,threefold   
classification of     women--,causes of 
differences4                            
,,ii ,,the ,,wife      ,her manifold    
duties as wife1 mother and              
housekeeper--,god has     fitted her for
 her sphere--,the                       
mother-nature--,barrenness and          
sterility--,physical1 social1           
intellectual and moral benefits     of  
motherhood and fatherhood--,aversion and
 evasion--,god's     purpose in         
marriage--,limitation of                
offspring--,marital excess--,the        
wrongs which wives suffer because of    
ignorant and unthinking                 
husbands--,repellant periods in the life
 of woman4                              
,,iii ,,the ,,mother      ,purposed and 
prepared parenthood--,conception--,the  
marvels     of ftal life and            
growth--,changes during the months of   
gestation--,the husband's duty to wife  
and offspring--,what     the wife has a 

right to expect before and during       
confinement--,ignorant1 unthinking and  
unsympathetic husbands--,the     child  
in the home--,real life and genuine     
happiness--,the mother     while        
nursing--,protection of child from      
impure nurses4                          
,,part ,,iii             ,,what ,,he    
,,ought ,,to ,,know ,,concerning ,,his  
,,children      ,heredity--,prenatal    
influences--,physical conditions prior  
to     and at                           
conception--,stirpiculture--,essentials 
of seed1 soil     and care--8,longings10
 markings1 etc4--,can sex of offspring  
be     governed--,cause of              
idiocy--,blindness1 etc4--,the right to 
be     well-born--,parental discipline  
during first two years--,duties         
during childhood--,nursery              
influences--,honest answers to honest   
inquiries--,how to secure purity in     
thought and life of children4           
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99       99  8,what a ,young ,husband   
,ought to ,know0  ,,what ,,eminent      
,,people ,,say  ,chas4 ,m4 ,sheldon1 ,d4
 ,d4      8,i believe the book will do  
great good1 and ,i hope its message     
may be used for the bettering of the    
homes of the world40  ,rev4 ,f4 ,b4     
,meyer1 ,b4 ,a4      8,i greatly commend
 this series of manuals1 which are      
written     lucidly and purely1 and will
 afford the necessary information       
without pandering to unholy and sensual 
passion40  ,hon4 ,s4 ,m4 ,jones      8,i
 am glad to say that my study of it     
indicates that you have     been led by 
a pure love for your kind to write one  
of the most     helpful and valuable    
books that it has been my privilege to  
see     in many days40  ,bishop ,john   
,h4 ,vincent1 ,d4 ,d41 ,,ll4 ,d4        
8,straightforward1 clean1 kind1 clear   
and convincing4 ,a copy     ought to go 
with every marriage certificate40  ,rev4
 ,newell ,dwight ,hillis      8,it is a 
wholesome and helpful contribution to a 

most difficult     subject1 and its     
reading will help to make the ,american 
home     happier and more safely        
guarded40  ,rev4 ,a4 ,c4 ,dixon1 ,d4 ,d4
      8,i take pleasure in commending it
 to husbands1 young and old4     ,the   
vice of ignorance on these delicate but 
important subjects     has done much to 
increase the business of divorce courts 
and     wreck homes40  ,amos ,r4 ,wells 
8,the race would be infinitely stronger 
in body and soul if all     husbands    
would obtain this book and follow its   
precepts40         99       99       99 
99       99  8,what a ,man of           
,forty-five ,ought to ,know40  ,,by     
,,sylvanus ,,stall1 ,d4 ,d4  ,condensed 
,table of ,contents                     
,,part ,i               ,,what ,,he     
,,ought ,,to ,,know ,,concerning        
,,himself      ,prevalent ignorance     
concerning physical changes in men      
of middle-life--,sad results of such    
ignorance--,reasons for                 
change--,evidences of these             

changes--,husband and wife constitute   
a reproductive unit--,the two natures   
responsive in activity     and          
repose--,somewhat similar changes in    
both--,the age at which     climacteric 
or 8change of life0 occurs in           
men--,climacteric and     adolescence   
contrasted--,the testimony of medical   
men to the     fact--,only young men    
need the testimonials of                
authorities--,old     men know          
it--,compensations which follow the     
sexual hush--,physical     and mental   
effects--,changes more gradual than in  
women--,many men     intellectually at  
their best after sexual hush--,to them  
time     and experience open their      
richest treasures--,moderation in all   
things enjoined--,sexual moderation     
emphasized--,virility1 how              
destroyed1 how preserved--,effects of   
exercise1 food1 stimulants1     sleep1  
employment1 etc4--,functional           
disorders--,benefit of                  
intelligence--,enlargement of the       

prostate gland--,manifestations1        
cause and precautionary measures--,the  
marriage of men of middle               
life--,physical unfitness and           
effects--,rights of the unborn--,the    
years beyond--,the man at forty         
determines what the man at eighty       
shall be--,value of purpose to keep     
strong and bright--,examples4           
,,part ,,ii               ,,what ,,he   
,,ought ,,to ,,know ,,concerning ,,his  
,,wife      ,reproduction the primal    
purpose of marriage--,attractive and    
repellent periods in life of            
woman--,climacteric or change of        
life the most repellent                 
period--,disappearance of menstruation  
only an outward manifestation--,the     
phenomenon explained--,reasons     for  
change made plain--,not a period of     
stress for all women--,how     to meet  
the menopause--,occupation1 diet1 fresh 
air1 exercise1     sleep1 companionship1
 sexual repose1 etc41 etc4--,mortality  
and insanity greater among men--,the    

aches and ills which     attend the     
menopause--,aversion to husband1        
children and     friends--,physical     
changes which attend and follow change  
of life     in women--,modified sexual  
nature--,growths--,mental changes and   
conditions--,need of intelligence upon  
the part of husband and     others4     
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,,by ,,the ,,press      8,we do not     
hesitate to recommend40--,experience4   
8,a reliable and instructive guide1 in  
sexual matters and yet     pure and     
chaste in style40--,journal of          
,dermatology4      8,information of     
vital importance40--,pittsburgh         
,christian     ,advocate4      8,written
 in an honest1 frank1 and fearless      
way40--,christian     ,standard4        
8,it is a clean book which one should   
sit down to alone40--,the               
,evangelist4      8,these books deserve 

to be circulated by the                 
million40--,leslie's ,weekly4      8,to 
many men the guidance of this book will 
be a timely     benediction40--,chicago 
,appeal4      8,the utterance of one who
 has an accurate knowledge of           
men40--,brooklyn ,citizen4      8,it is 
a helpful book and in all important     
particulars sound in     its medical    
statements40--,baltimore ,sun4          
8,this book is recommendable not only to
 the intelligent layman     to read     
himself and hand to others1 but also to 
the physician1     who ought to welcome 
it as a means to refresh an important   
part     of his physiologic             
knowledge40--,alkaloidal ,clinic4       
8,a man who is a fool at forty-five 7and
 there are many of them7     is pretty  
hard to manage4 ,there are certain      
things which he     ought to know       
without being told1 but it is difficult 
to teach     him these things4 ,he needs
 reasoning with and plain talking to4   
,this book does it in a healthy1        

elevating manner4 ,these cases     are  
often very troublesome to the physician4
 ,it would be well     to have this book
 handy to lend to such patients4 ,this  
course     will help the physician to   
manage his patient and help the         
patient4 ,this book will do much good4  
,there has been a need for     just such
 a work40--,medical ,world4         99  
99       99       99       99  ,,just   
,,published  ,a ,new ,devotional ,book  
8,faces ,toward the ,light0  ,,by       
,,sylvanus ,,stall1 ,d4,d4  ,author of  
8,methods of ,church ,work10            
8,five-,minute ,object ,sermons to      
,children10 8,talks to the ,king's      
,children10 8,bible ,selections for     
,daily ,devotion10 etc4                 
,,some ,,chapters ,,in ,,the ,,book     
,glory ,after ,gloom4--,the ,dangerous  
,hour4--,the ,concealed                 
,future4--,gleaning for                 
,christ4--,hunger and                   
,health4--,direction and                
,destiny4--,god of the ,valleys4--,coins

 and ,christians4--,reserved            
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,better ,service4--,not ,knowing        
,whither4--,good1 but ,good for         
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     ,prayer ,office4--,how ,god        
,reveals ,himself4--,starting           
,late4--,source     of ,power4--,toiling
 at a ,heavy ,tow4--,what ,he ,gave and 
,what ,he     ,got4--,vacation          
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