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,,dansant0 ,dress & ,behavior ( ,gue/s--,dress & ,etiquette = ! ,ho/ess & ,h] ,assi/ants--,=mal & ,in=mal ,occasions--,:o ,may ,s5d ,fl[]s4 ,,iii4 ,,breakfa/s ,,& ,,lun*eons #cf ,h[ to ,give ,!m & ,:at to ,we>--,etiquette ( ! ,buffet ,lun*eon--,ent]ta9+ ,di/+ui%$ ,/rang]s4 ,,iv4 ,,d9n]s ,,=mal ,,& ,,in=mal #eb ,invitations & ,h[ to ,answ] ,!m--,telephone ,invitations--,h9ts = ! ,"y ,ho/ess--,dress = ,m5 & = ,wom5--,ent]+ & ,leav+ ! ,d9+-room--,etiquette ( ! ,=mal ,d9n]--,:5 to ,arrive & ,:5 to ,leave--,dress+-rooms--,d9n]-calls4 ,v4 ,,bridesmaids' ,,lun*eons1 ,,ba*elor ,,d9n]s1 ,,& #gd ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>ies ,gue/s to be ,invit$--,etiquette & ,dress = ,bridesmaids' ,lun*eons--,etiquette & ,dress = ,ba*elor ,d9n]s--,?+s to be ,done & ,?+s to be ,avoid$--,w$d+ ,anniv]s>ies--,! ,"r & ! ,wrong ,way to ,celebrate ,!m--,=m ( ,invitation4 ,,vi4 ,,h\se ,,& ,,*ur* ,,w$d+s #ie ,dress = ,bride1 ,bridegroom1 ,bridesmaids1 ,u%]s1 & ,o!r ,memb]s ( ! ,bridal ,p>ty--,dress ( ,gue/s--,gifts & ,h[ to ,pres5t ,!m--,etiquette ( ,h\se & ,*ur* ,w$d+s--,w$d+ ,breakfa/s & ,receptions--,ent]ta9+ ,out-(-t[n ,gue/s4 ,,vii4 ,,public ,,d9n]s ,,& ,,receptions #ace ,lun*eons ( ,wom5's ,clubs--,duties ( ,d9n] & ,reception ,committees--,arrangem5ts 9 ,suburban ,t[ns--,! ,c\rte\s & ! ,disc\rte\s ,gue/--,ev5+ ,dress & ,demi-toilette4 ,,viii4 ,,balls ,,& ,,dances #aed ,d9n] & ,subscription ,dances--,ro(-g>d5 ,dances--,reciprocal ,duties ( ! ,*ap]on & ,h] ,*>ge--,h[ to ,ent] & ,h[ to ,leave a ,ballroom--,objectionable ,/yles ( ,danc+--,! ,/ag ,l9e & ! ,dance ,programme--,! ,ho/ess & ,h] ,assi/ants--,! ,ho/--,introductions at ,public & at ,private ,dances--,duties ( ,floor ,committee--,supp] ,etiquette--,dress = ,"y ,girls & ,m>ri$ ,wom5--,dress = ,m54 ,,ix4 ,,automobile ,,trips #age ,! ,automobili/ z ,ho/--,provision = ,com=t ( ,gue/s--,duties ( ,gue/--,dress & ,luggage--,automobile ,picnics--,ent]ta9m5t ( ,*auffeur--,:5 a ,visit becomes a ,visitation4 ,x4 ,,bridge ,,p>ties ,,& ,,ev5+ ,,receptions #ahi ,arrangem5t ( ! ,c>d-tables--,play+ = ,prizes--,good & ,bad ,mann]s at ! ,c>d-table--,:y ,c]ta9 ,p are n ,ask$--,duties ( ,ho/ess--,c>d ,p>ties = ,*>ity--,dress & ,etiquette ( ,ev5+ ,receptions4 ,,xi4 ,,hotels1 ,,re/aurants1 ,,& ,,ro(-,,g>d5s #bjj ,h[ to ,ent]ta9 a ,gue/ at a ,hotel 9 ! ,city & 9 ! ,c\ntry--,etiquette = ! ,gue/ 9 ,hotels & ,re/aurants--,dress = ,morn+1 ,aft]noon1 & ,ev5+4 ,,xii4 ,,!at]1 ,,op]a1 ,,& ,,conc]t-,,hall #bae ,arrangem5ts = ,=mal & ,in=mal ,!at] ,p>ties--,! ,supp]--,! ,ba*elor & ,8 ,duties z ,ho/ & z ,gue/--,dress & ,behavior at ! ,op]a1 ,!at]1 & ,conc]t-hall4 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,,good ,,=m ,,= ,,all ,,occasions ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,,good ,,=m ,,= ,,all ,,occasions ,i ,,! ,,c\ntry ,,h\se ,etiquette & ,dress = ! ,week-end ,visitor4--,duties ( ! ,ho/4--,! ,neglectful & ! ,ov]-zeal\s ,ho/ess4--,bread-&-butt] ,lett]s4 ,,! special trunks n[ readily procurable = week-end visits rem9d u n to burd5 our fri5ds ) heavy or excessive luggage4 ,! visitor may h difficulty 9 decid+ :at co/umes to c>ry4 ,h5ce a consid]ate ho/ess (t5 m5tions 9 h] note ( invitation :at ! out-(-door amusem5ts are likely to be4 ,if a t5nis-c\rt1 golf-c\rse1 skat+-r9k1 or toboggan-slide is available1 %e does well to say s4 ,a ho/ :o lives by ! seaside w p]haps take 8 gue/s out 9 a canoe or a motor-boat or (f] !m ! pleasures ( surf-ba?+4 ,if ! week-end gue/ receives no fri5dly h9ts ab\t ! w>drobe ne$$1 %e mu/ be guid$ by a k ( ! ta/es & habits ( ! h\sehold %e is to visit4 ,if %e is 9 ignorance ( ^!1 %e w take into consid]ation ! age ( h] ho/s & ! k9d ( place 9 :i* !y live4 ,?us1 if ,doris is invit$ to /ay at ,newport or "s o!r gay & fa%ionable wat]+-place1 %e w ne$ h&som] co/umes & a great] v>iety ( !m ?an w\ld be appropriate at a quiet spot 9 ! real c\ntry4 ,9 ! same way1 if h] ent]ta9]s are ri* p ^: mode ( liv+ is v exp5sive & :o invite _m gue/s1 %e w require h] be/ clo!s4 ,?ree *anges ( co/ume %\ld ord9>ily suffice--a %ort1 pla9 skirt1 suitable = walk+ or out-(-door sports1 ) body ( ! same mat]ial or sep>ate %irt-wai/ ei!r :ite or ( correspond+ color1 an ev5+ g[n1 & "o = aft]noon or *ur* we>4 ,! la/ nam$ w suffice = ! ev5+ also if ,doris is /ay+ ) fri5ds :o live quietly 9 ! c\ntry4 ,an old b extremely conv5i5t arrangem5t is to h ! aft]noon co/ume made ) a removable yoke1 ?us s]v+ two purposes4 ,! ,engli% fa%ion ( we>+ a dcollet toilette = late d9n] is popul> ) ! sm>t set 9 our l>ge cities1 b is by no means g5]al 9 ,am]ica4 ,x is a pretty cu/om = "y girls1 & _m foll[ x1 we>+ simple frocks ( :ite musl9 or simil> mat]ial 9 _! own homes4 ,= a visit 9 ! c\ntry "o %\ld always take rubb]s or /\t %oes4 ,= t5nis1 rubb] soles are necess>y1 z ^? ( lea!r te> up ! c\rt4 ,:ile "s c\ntry ho/esses are v ?\ghtful ab\t provid+ extra wraps1 a wise gue/1 especially if %e is incl9$ to be *illy1 w c>ry a w>m coat or cloak4 ,an old] woman w\ld appe> 9 ! ev5+ 9 a dress cut out some:at at ! ?roat1 or ) a lace yoke or jabot if h] heal? did n p]mit ! exposure ( h] neck4 ,%e w\ld *oose silk or "s h&some mat]ial made up 9 a dressy way1 ) a tra9 long] or %ort] accord+ to ! fa%ion4 ,%ort dresses are mu* worn at ! pres5t mom5t4 ,doris %\ld take a pair ( long :ite gloves = ! ev5+1 z %e w ne$ !m if !re is to be a =mal d9n]1 also a pair ( dress slipp]s1 ) /ock+s to mat*4 ,= a week-end visit 9 summ] a "y man w\ld c>ry a pair ( :ite-flannel tr\s]s1 a s(t %irt ( flannel1 silk1 ,madras1 l951 or o!r mat]ial1 & golf or t5nis %oes4 ,he w\ld also take = ev5+ we> a d9n]-coat1 ) tr\s]s & wai/coat to mat*1 a black tie1 pat5t-lea!r pumps or l[ %oes1 & a c\ple ( dress-%irts4 ,dur+ ! heat ( midsumm] great latitude is all[$ 9 ! matt] ( ev5+ dress4 ,?us1 at ! in=mal weekly dances ( ! ,rumson ,c\ntry ,club1 at ,seabright1 ne> ,new ,york1 h>dly a dress-coat is to be se51 ! m5 all we>+ d9n]-coats4 ,_m ( !m sub/itute a :ite belt = a wai/coat1 :ite-duck tr\s]s = ! usual black ones1 & s(t :ite %irts or ^? ) n>r[ plaits = ! regulation /iff-bosom$ dress-%irt4 ,9 w9t] ! week-end visitor ) out-(-door ta/es w\ld take a sweat] & a toboggan-cap = skat+ or coa/+4 ,at ei!r season ( ! ye> he w\ld travel 9 8 bus9ess suit1 & w\ld we> ?is to *ur* %\ld 8 ho/s take him !re on ,sunday4 ,=mal aft]noon dress 7see ,*apt] ,,vi7 is ! correct attire 9 :i* to appe> at *ur*2 b bus9ess suits are (t5 worn & are p]missible = ! week-end visitor1 because he _c conv5i5tly c>ry _m v>ieties ( co/ume 9 a suit-case4 ,if ! ho/ess has nam$ a p>ticul> tra91 ! visitor %\ld always take t4 ,%\ld %e be delay$1 %e %\ld telephone or telegraph say+ :5 %e w arrive4 ,a ho/ liv+ 9 ! c\ntry usually s5ds a conveyance to ! /ation = 8 gue/s or comes to meet !m himself4 ,if ! c>riage or c> is a hir$ "o1 ! visitor (f]s to pay = x1 b does n insi/ ^u do+ s4 ,:]e ! trip to ! fri5d's h\se is made 9 a trolley-c>1 ! gue/ is seldom all[$ to pay 8 own f>e4 ,sometimes ! latt] arrives & !re is no "o to meet him4 ,= a man x is usually easy to hire a cab or take a trolley-c>4 ,= a "y girl travel+ alone ! situation may be awkw>d1 especially if ! place is unfamili> to h]4 ,aft] wait+ a little :ile = h] fri5ds1 x is p]fectly prop] = h] to call !m up ov] ! telephone & ask = directions4 ,x is usual to tell a gue/ soon aft] h] arrival ! h\rs = meals4 ,%\ld ?is be =gott5 & %\ld ! lun* or d9n] h\r be approa*+1 ,doris may make ! necess>y inquiries4 ,9 a v =mal h\sehold %e w\ld ask "o ( ! maids4 ,%\ld "o ( ! latt] (f] to unpack ,doris's trunk or suit-case ! "y girl may accept or n1 z %e pleases4 ,!re has be5 "s ef=t made to import f ari/ocratic c\ntries ! cu/om ( hav+ a valet or maid att5d to ?is duty & assi/ ! gue/ 9 8 or h] toilette4 ,! good-natur$ fun made ( ^! usages by rec5t writ]s rem9ds u t !y are inappropriate 9 a democratic c\ntry4 ,x is true t = c]ta9 /yles ( co/ume1 su* z a dress t fa/5s 9 ! back1 ! fair we>] ne$s a little assi/ance4 ,b z a rule ! ,am]ican _s makes u pref] to be indep5d5t1 :e!r ( k+s or ( lackeys4 ,self-reliance is almo/ indisp5sable 9 a l& :]e =tunes are lo/ z well z made ) su* spe$ & frequ5cy4 ,a gue/ %\ld be punctual at all meals & on all occasions4 ,) reg>d to breakfa/ a div]sity ( cu/oms exi/s1 ! family assembl+ = ! meal at mo/ h\ses1 :ile _m p pref] to take x 9 _! own rooms4 ,a gue/ w endeavor to con=m to ! usage ( ! h\sehold4 ,if ! ho/ess proposes to h 8 breakfa/ s5t up1 he may accept ! (f]1 unless he has reason to suppose t ?is w be inconv5i5t4 ,9 ! ev5+ he w be c>eful n to keep 8 ho/s up beyond ! h\r :5 !y ord9>ily retire = ! night4 ,= a week-end visit a gue/ places 8 "t at ! disposal ( 8 ent]ta9]s & does n usually make any engagem5ts else:]e4 ,%\ld x happ51 h[ev]1 t he wi%es especially to call on fri5ds 9 ! neighborhood1 he %\ld m5tion ?is soon aft] 8 arrival1 s t ! trip may be arrang$ = an h\r t w n int]f]e ) ! plans ( 8 ho/4 ,! agreeable gue/ falls 9 readily ) ^!4 ,he tries to h a pleasant "t himself & to contribute to ! pleasure ( o!rs1 ev5 if "s ( !m are t$i\s p4 ,he w enjoy talk+ ) ! mo/ int]e/+ p]son pres5t1 b w n try to monopolize ! lion ( ! occasion4 ,if an excursion is propos$ to see some?+ he has se5 _m times be=e1 or to d a ?+ he especially dislikes1 he w n say3 8,oh1 ,i "k t place by he>t60 or 8,:at a bore60 b w make ! be/ ( ! situation4 ,%\ld he h any 8p>lor tricks10 su* z ! ability to s+1 recite1 or tell =tunes1 he w be ready to display ^! at an opportune mom5t4 ,a gue/1 h[ev]1 %\ld foll[ r ?an lead4 ,x is ! prov9ce ( ! ho/ to make ! programme & arrangem5ts4 ,! visitor mu/ be c>eful n to behave z if he ?\ght x 0 8 p>ty6 ,:ile1 z we h said1 he w jo9 9 ! amusem5ts1 he w n ov]/ep ! limits prescrib$ by good-bre$+4 ,x sometimes happ5s t a gr\p ( "y p1 c>ri$ away by ! contagion ( high spirits1 w behave l boi/]\s s*ool-*ildr54 ,! mann]s ( our day are mu* less =mal ?an ^? ( an e>li] g5]ation1 b !y impose ( necessity a c]ta9 degree ( re/ra9t4 ,our girls & "y m5 mu/ rememb] t x is always easy to relapse into ! b>b>ism f :i* mank9d has em]g$ by a sl[ & t$i\s process4 ,z ! cultivat$ apple-tree t5ds always to return to ! wild crab1 s does our civilization1 if x is n vigilantly gu>d$1 incl9e to rev]t to ! savag]y ( ! primitive man4 ,a gue/ %\ld nev] feel oblig$ to jo9 9 any?+ :i* he consid]s wrong4 ,?us1 if x is propos$ to play c>ds = money he %\ld simply say1 8,c't we arrange ano!r table8 ,i always play = c(fee-beans10 or make "s o!r half-je/+ rem>k4 ,9 a ^w1 :ile he quietly ma9ta9s 8 own op9ions1 he %\ld avoid say+ any?+ 9 criticism ( ^? :o diff] ) him4 ,if he ?9ks x wrong to dr9k w9e or be]1 or does n c>e to d s1 he %\ld place 8 op5 h& palm d[nw>d aga9/ ! side ( ! glass :5 ! s]vant (f]s to fill ?is4 ,%\ld x be fill$ by mi/ake ! gue/ ne$ n feel compell$ to dr9k ! w9e4 ,among well-br$ p 8 failure to d s w\ld cause no comm5t4 ,x is only v "y & inexp]i5c$ or extremely timid p]sons :o fancy t x is necess>y to behave l ! prov]bial %eep bl9dly foll[+ ! lead]4 ,a girl :o %\ld und]take to smoke a cig>ette simply because ^? ar\nd h] 7 do+ s w\ld cle>ly demon/rate1 n h] good mann]s1 b h] lack ( backbone4 ,9 ! op9ion ( mo/ p !re is no?+ wick$ 9 ! use ( tobacco4 ,b ! great majority ( ,am]icans consid] x 9 bad ta/e = wom5 to smoke1 especially 9 public4 ,doris %\ld inquire 9 good season ab\t ! tra9s & asc]ta9 to :i* "o x w be conv5i5t to s5d h]4 ,%e %\ld nev] /ay beyond ! "t = :i* %e 0 orig9ally invit$1 unless "u exceptional circum/ances4 ,a week-end visit is suppos$ to t]m9ate on ,monday morn+1 or a bus9ess man may f9d x necess>y to leave on ,sunday ev5+4 ,! out-(-t[n ho/ess does well to select h] gue/s f ^? :o enjoy out-door sports or :o are fond ( ! c\ntry & its amusem5ts4 ,( c\rse1 su* a *oice is n always possible1 & 9 ! heat ( midsumm] e "o likes to h a brea? ( fre% air & to escape f ! noise & du/ ( ! city /reets4 ,= a h\se-p>ty x is be/ to ask p]sons ( m or less cong5ial ta/es1 :o w !re=e be likely to enjoy ! same ?+s4 ,:ile ! affair w be m successful if "s ( ! gue/s are already acqua9t$ ) "o ano!r1 an agreeable /rang] may add a pleasant v>iety4 ,p :o see "o ano!r con/antly 9 ! city may f9d x tiresome to meet at a week-end p>ty4 ,if nei!r ! ho/ess nor h] deputy goes to meet ! gue/ at ! /ation1 "s memb] ( ! family %\ld be on h& to welcome ! latt] on h] arrival at ! h\se4 ,! gue/-rooms %\ld be well air$1 made w>m 9 w9t] & cool 9 summ]4 ,unless ! ho/ess has s]vants :o are ?or\ghly reliable1 %e %\ld visit ^! ap>tm5ts be=e ! arrival ( h] fri5ds & make sure t all is 9 ord]1 ) ev]y?+ provid$ = ! com=t ( h] gue/s4 ,!re %\ld be pl5ty ( b$-clo!s suitable = ! "t ( ye>1 a supply ( /ation]y & sew+-mat]ials1 a few good books1 a well-light$ dress+-table1 "s bureau & closet space1 & ample wa%+ facilities4 ,at night ! visitor %\ld always f9d a pit*] or glass ( dr9k+-wat] 9 h] room & a few crack]s4 ,z we h already said1 ! ho/ess arranges ! programme = ! visit4 ,%e %\ld n1 h[ev]1 insi/ too /r5u\sly on its /rict fulfilm5t4 ,! ent]ta9m5t mu/ be fitt$ to ! gue/s2 !y %\ld n be expect$ to fit exactly into x1 z if !y 7 s _m pegs 9 a cribbage-bo>d4 ,! plans mu/ be ela/ic2 a wide m>g9 %\ld be left = ! ta/es & pref]5ces ( diff]5t individuals4 ,! ho/ess does well to ?9k out be=eh&1 p]haps to write d[n on pap]1 a provisional programme = ea* day4 ,b if e "o is happy play+ t5nis1 %e w n drag ! play]s out 9 a motor-c> simply because h] s*$ule says1 8,tuesday1 #e o'clock1 all ride 9 automobile06 ,h] social exp]i5ce has probably %[n h] t two p may talk s long toge!r z to become utt]ly bor$4 ,) an anxi\s eye %e sees t ,jack ,qu>t]back has be5 talk+ = half an h\r to ,ida ,v]gil1 ! clev] "y ,lat9i/ f ,vass>4 ,%e be>s d[n ^u !m1 dragg+ reluctant 9 h] wake ,?omas ,pundit1 a prize-w9n] f ! v]dant %ades ( ,pr9ceton4 ,n[ 9 break+ up ?is p>ticul> tte--tte1 ! *tela9e is mak+ ! mi/ake ( h] life4 ,ida has be5 li/5+ ) ! deepe/ int]e/ to ,jack's /ory ( h[ he /ood ,x---- on 8 head & made ! fam\s end-run t sav$ ! day = ,yale4 ,at ?is mom5t h] indiff]5ce to all ! classic au?ors is supreme4 ,%e greets ,pundit z coldly z if he 7 inde$ a ,lat9 lexicon in/ead ( a fairly good-look+ "y man4 ,9 ?is magical h\r ! glitt] ( 8 prizes is z no?+ to h]4 ,! ov]-zeal\s ho/ess p]ceives %e has made a mi/ake1 ?\gh %e play$ ! game accord+ to h] rules4 ,if ei!r p>ty _h %[n signs ( di/ress1 if ,ida _h yawn$ beh9d h] fan or ,jack _h ca/ furtive glances ar\nd ! room indicat+ a desire to escape1 ,mrs4 ,anxi\s w\ld h be5 ju/ifi$ 9 h] manuv]4 ,a c]ta9 ho/ess :o liv$ n a hundr$ miles f ! ,hub us$ to irritate h] gue/s v mu* by break+ up ! conv]sation at ! expiration ( :at %e consid]$ ! "t-limit4 ,%e ent]ta9$ s *>m+ly 9 o!r respects t p enjoy$ go+ to h] h\se4 ,b !y dislik$ v mu* h] habit ( int]rupt+ a talk4 ,mo/ p]sons pref] to direct _! own affairs4 ,! guid+ h& ( ! ho/ess %\ld be felt r ?an se54 ,:ile h] gue/s may rebel at ! social mat]nalism :i* hamp]s _! fre$om ( action1 !y pref] ,mrs4 ,anxi\s to ! in]t or cold & =mal h\se-mi/ress :o seems q indiff]5t to _! welf>e4 ,! neglectful ho/ess may be lazy or inexp]i5c$1 or %e may lack ! true _s ( hospitality4 ,9 ! fir/ case h] gue/s w =give h] if %e is try+ to d h] be/4 ,s9ce laz9ess is a =m ( selfi%ness1 ! woman :o takes no pa9s to provide ent]ta9m5t = h] fri5ds is seldom popul>4 ,! wor/ (f5d]1 h[ev]1 is ! ho/ess :o is s mu* occupi$ ) h] own amusem5ts t %e has nei!r "t nor ?\ght to be/[ on o!r p4 ,! "q naturally arises 9 _! m9ds1 8,:y did %e invite u8 ,0 x simply to %[ u h] f9ely appo9t$ h\sehold80 ,dur+ ! morn+ h\rs ! lady ( ! h\se may reasonably ask to be excus$4 ,%e may be 9 ! habit ( breakfa/+ 9 h] room1 :ile lat] lett]s & h\sehold c>es w occupy h] "t4 ,if %e does n expect to appe> until ! lun*eon-h\r1 h[ev]1 %e %\ld inquire ov]night :e!r !re is any?+ %e c d = h] gue/s 9 ! morn+4 ,al?\gh ^! w usually occupy !mselves & amuse "o ano!r 9 ! =5oon1 _! ent]ta9] w h "s plans probably = ! aft]noon & almo/ c]ta9ly = ! ev5+4 ,x is wise to arrange ! night be=e1 or betimes 9 ! morn+1 ! programme = ! day1 s t ! gue/s w "k :at to expect4 ,if ^! are all "y p & ! ho/ess an old] woman1 %e w h>dly take "p 9 ! m active out-(-door amusem5ts4 ,:]e !re is nei!r son nor daught] ( ! h\se1 z deputy 9 ! sports1 x (t5 happ5s t a "y fri5d acts = ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,! ho/ess %\ld1 if possible1 be on h& to receive ! adieux ( ! dep>t+ gue/s4 ,if ^! are to leave 9 ! morn+ & =get to inquire ov]night ab\t ! tra9 s]vice1 ! ho/ess may ) p]fect propriety ask at :at "t !y w\ld l to />t4 ,%e %\ld d s 9 a tactful way1 & might say1 = in/ance3 8,at :at h\r are y oblig$ to be 9 ,new ,york1 ,miss ,y----8 ,i %\ld l to let ! *auffeur "k to-night1 s t he may be ready 9 good season to take y to ! tra940 ,a 8bread-&-butt] lett]0 ?ank+ ! lady ( ! h\se = h] hospitality %\ld be writt5 )9 a few days ( ! visit4 ,if ! gue/ is a "y girl %e %\ld write v promptly1 9 ord] to let h] ho/ess "k ( h] safe arrival at h] de/9ation4 ,su* a note ne$ n be long1 b x %\ld %[ a cordial appreciation ( ! k9dness receiv$4 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,,ii ,,aft]noon ,,teas ,,& ,,receptions ,,= ,,! ,d,,butante--8,,? ,,dansant0 ,dress & ,behavior ( ,gue/s--,dress & ,etiquette = ! ,ho/ess & ,h] ,assi/ants--,=mal & ,in=mal ,occasions--,:o ,may ,s5d ,fl[]s4 ,,aft]noon teas ma9ta9 _! popul>ity because !y pres5t ! simple/ & easie/ way ( receiv+ "o's circle ( fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,l ! magic cloak ( fable1 !y exp& or %r9k to suit ! requirem5ts & res\rces ( e ho/ess1 :e!r %e be ri* or 9 mode/ circum/ances1 :e!r %e wi%es to ask sev]al hundr$ p]sons to a /ately city mansion or half a doz5 fri5ds to a quiet c\ntry villa4 ,= pres5t+ a "y girl to society !y are especially conv5i5t4 ,all ! old family fri5ds w appreciate ! opportunity ( see+ ! dbutante & welcom+ h] to h] new sph]e1 )\t go+ to ! tr\ble & exp5se ( buy+ a new ball-dress & hir+ a c>riage4 ,to _m eld]ly p1 ev5+ dances1 ) ! late h\rs1 indige/ible supp]s1 & fatigue necess>ily involv$1 are v di/a/eful4 ,! gue/ c judge ( ! nature ( ! aft]noon occasion by ! /yle ( ! invitation4 ,= a l>ge & =mal reception1 x is usual to s5d out "s little "t 9 advance engrav$ c>ds ( g5]\s size4 ,! "n ( ! dbutante is plac$ b5ea? t ( h] "m1 foll[$ by ! /atem5t t !y w be at home on su* & su* a day & h\r1 at numb] s-&-s 9 a c]ta9 /reet4 ,= a small] & less pret5ti\s occasion1 or = a s]ies ( teas1 ! ho/ess uses h] own visit+-c>ds1 on :i* h] daught]'s "n may also be engrav$4 ,! day or days & h\rs are sometimes writt5 9 & sometimes engrav$4 ,nei!r ( ^! =ms ( invitation requires any answ]1 except t ^? :o are unable to att5d ! affair s5d a visit+-c>d 9 "t to rea* ! h\se ! same day or ! day aft]4 ,if !re are two ho/esses 7! dbutante & h] "m1 = in/ance71 a lady %\ld s5d two c>ds4 ,a g5tleman sometimes s5ds ?ree1 ! ?ird be+ int5d$ = ! ma/] ( ! h\se4 ,no comm5ts %\ld be writt5 on ^!4 ,if "o desires to express especial regret to a ho/ess :om "o kn[s fairly well1 a note may accompany ! visit+-c>d4 ,! "q is sometimes ask$ by correspond5ts1 8,is x obligatory to att5d a s]ies ( teas or receptions to :i* an invitation has be5 receiv$80 ,c\rtesy dem&s t we %all1 if possible1 g to "o ( ! occasions4 ,only an intimate fri5d or a p]son especially invit$ w\ld att5d all ( !m4 ,%\ld "o be unable to g1 x is n necess>y to s5d c>ds ( ackn[l$gm5t until ! la/ ( ! aft]noons4 ,p]sons :o are 9 deep m\rn+1 or :o are prev5t$ by "s o!r reason f accept+ ! invitation1 sometimes s5d _! c>ds soon aft] x is receiv$ & s signify _! inability to be pres5t4 ,! prop] dress = gue/s at an aft]noon tea or reception is /reet or reception co/ume4 ,! latt]1 accord+ to pres5t fa%ion1 consi/s ( silk1 brocade1 velvet1 or o!r h&some mat]ial if ! we>] is a m>ri$ woman or a s+le "o :o is no long] 9 h] fir/ y\?4 ,x %\ld n be v light 9 color nor v %[y if x is to be worn 9 a public conveyance4 ,! woman :o appe>s 9 a v h&some toilette %\ld take a c>riage1 s9ce x is 9 bad ta/e to make oneself conspicu\s 9 tra9 or trolley-c>4 ,or %e may cov] up h] dress ) a long out] g>m5t--call$ 8,ca*e-misre0 by ! ,fr5*4 ,a "y girl es*ews brocades & o!r ri* fabrics4 ,h] reception co/ume may be ( wool5 or silk5 /uff1 b x %\ld pres]ve ! simplicity ( /yle :i* is at once appropriate & becom+ to "y p4 ,:ite gloves are dem&$ by ! pres5t fa%ion1 al?\gh "s ladies we> black ones1 :ile ! %ortness ( ! skirts makes da9ty footge> v desirable4 ,x is (f5d+ aga9/ good ta/e z well z aga9/ common s5se1 h[ev]1 to walk ?r\gh ! /reets 9 ! w9try season clad 9 slipp]s s ?9 & /ock+s s transp>5t t !y make ! behold] %iv]4 ,!y look z mu* out-(-place z heavy furs 9 ! heat ( summ]4 ,= teas 9 ! c\ntry great] in=mality is p]missible1 "s "y & pretty wom5 appe>+ 9 golf+ or skat+ co/ume1 ) r$ sweat] & cap to mat*4 ,su* a dress is n to be recomm5d$ = g5]al we>1 h[ev]1 few p]sons hav+ ! air & di/9ction necess>y to c>ry x (f4 ,! conv5tional co/ume = m5 at an aft]noon reception is 8=mal aft]noon dress0--i4e41 black cutaway or frock-coat1 black or fancy wai/coat1 d>k1 /rip$ tr\s]s1 pat5t-lea!r %oes1 & an ,ascot or f\r-9-h& tie4 ,a d>k-gray cutaway suit 7coat1 wai/coat1 & tr\s]s all be+ ( ! same mat]ial7 may also be worn4 ,x mu/ be confess$1 h[ev]1 t m5 n[ appe> 9 a div]sity ( co/umes on ^! occasions4 ,at tea-dances !y dress z !y f9d conv5i5t4 ,! lady ( ! h\se we>s a g[n ( silk1 sat91 velvet1 or o!r h&some mat]ial made ) a tra91 & ei!r high or some:at cut out 9 ! neck4 ,b>e ?roats are mu* 9 vogue at ! pres5t mom5t1 b x is ?\ght 9 bett] ta/e to res]ve ! full dcollet dress = late d9n] & ev5+ we>4 ,"s ho/esses put on gloves = a =mal reception1 o!rs d n4 ,! ladies :o p\r tea or assi/ 9 receiv+ ! gue/s arrive e>ly & appe> 9 a co/ume simil> to t ( ! ho/ess4 ,!y usually remove _! hats1 al?\gh ! old] wom5 sometimes pref] to keep !m on4 ,a :ite frock ( a ?91 transp>5t mat]ial1 made simply & ) little trimm+1 is ! prettie/ co/ume = ! dbutante4 ,accord+ to ! pres5t fa%ion ?is is (t5 cut almo/ z l[ 9 ! neck z an ev5+ dress4 ,! "y fri5ds :o act z h] assi/ants we> simil> g[ns ( "s light color4 ,if !y *oose silk5 fabrics1 ^! %\ld be ( light weight4 ,on arriv+1 ! visitor %\ld leave h] c>ds on ! hall-table1 unless ! p]son op5+ ! door c>ries a salv] = !m4 ,at a l>ge tea !re is usually a dress+-room1 :]e ! gue/ may leave h] out] wraps1 ) ! exception ( h] hat4 ,?is %e always reta9s4 ,:5 %e rea*es ! door ( ! draw+-room1 a man-s]vant may ask h] "n = ! purpose ( ann\nc+ x to ! ho/ess4 ,at a l>ge reception1 :]e _m p may be pres5t :om ! lady ( ! h\se kn[s v slightly1 su* a rem9d] is v conv5i5t4 ,9 a small c\ntry place or suburban t[n1 :]e all are acqua9t$1 x w\ld obvi\sly be out ( place4 ,if a gue/ he>s h] own "n bawl$ out 9 /5torian tones1 x rem9ds h] t h] fir/ duty on ent]+ ! draw+-room is to f9d ! ho/ess & %ake h&s ) h]4 ,:ile ! pres5t tango craze la/s ?is w sometimes be difficult4 ,) old & "y sp9n+ ab\t ! room l s _m danc+ d]vi%es1 ! visitor mu/ ?read h] way w>ily betwe5 ! c\ples1 le/ %e be run d[n z by a motor-c>4 ,9 ord] to prev5t su* a cata/rophe1 ! ,new ,york ho/ess :o is giv+ a tea-dance receives h] gue/s 9 ! tea-room2 or if %e does s 9 ! draw+-room %e arranges to h ! end :]e %e /&s kept cle> ( danc]s4 ,on ! left ( ! ho/ess /&s ! dbutante1 :o is pres5t$ to ! wom5 gue/s by h] "m1 ! m5 be+ introduc$ to h]4 ,!re may be assi/ant ho/esses 9 ! receiv+-l9e1 or !y may be scatt]$ ab\t ! rooms do+ ! honors ( ! h\se4 ,! visitor w\ld probably l to h a little *at ) ! lady ( ! h\se be=e pass+ on1 especially if %e kn[s few p]sons 9 ! room4 ,if %e arrives at ! cr[d$ h\r :5 a /ream ( p are ent]+1 %e mu/ only delay = a mom5t4 ,x is usually possible by wat*+ "o's *ance to return lat] :5 ! cr[d has ent]$ ! d9+-room & ! ho/esses h a little leisure to *at ) ^? :o really wi% to see !m4 ,a c\rte\s p]son is c>eful to pay due att5tion to ! lady ( ! h\se & to h "s talk ) h] %\ld opportunity (f]4 ,if ! gue/ f9ds any acqua9tances1 %e w enjoy ! occasion2 if %e does n1 %e may agree ) ! mascul9e v]dict t 8,teas are a bore40 ,x is ! pleasant prov9ce ( ! assi/ant ho/esses--usually "y fri5ds ( ! daught] ( ! h\se--to look aft] ! welf>e ( ! gue/s1 especially ( ^? :o appe> to be /rang]s4 ,! conv]sation1 x is true1 is brief & p]functory4 ,x is limit$ usually to an invitation to g into ! d9+-room1 ! visitor mumbl+ an acceptance & mov+ 9 ! direction indicat$4 ,to be ?us made welcome1 h[ev]1 by a "y girl ( graci\s mann]s gives a p]sonal t\* ( hospitality t is v agreeable4 ,! assi/ant ho/esses address 9 ?is way p]sons :om !y d n "k1 z well z fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,arriv$ at t ,mecca ( aft]noon teas1 ! d9+-room1 "o does n on a =mal occasion remove "o's gloves1 albeit x seems r a fooli% fa%ion to hold s&wi*es ) f+]s clad 9 :ite kid4 ,"h ! "y girls :o assi/ 9 wait+ ^u ! gue/s h ! advantage1 z !y may remove _! gloves if !y please4 ,! d9+-room is ! c5t] ( attraction on ^! occasions1 n only on acc\nt ( ! refre%m5ts1 b because x usually seems bright] & gay] ?an ! o!r ap>tm5ts1 unless danc+ is go+ on else:]e4 ,! gue/s %\ld resi/ ! temptation to l+] !re1 h[ev]1 z ! room is apt to gr[ hot & ov]cr[d$4 ,s9ce !re is n usually room = all at ! same "t1 evid5tly "o %\ld take "o's turn4 ,x is n necess>y to /ay long at an aft]noon tea4 ,dur+ ! height ( ! season 9 a l>ge city1 _m ( ^! affairs take place on ! same aft]noon1 ! gue/s go+ f "o to ano!r4 ,x suffices to rema9 f a qu>t] to a half h\r4 ,at a small & fri5dly 8tea0 or at a h\se :]e "o feels mu* at home1 p /ay long] if !y are amus$4 ,"o %\ld take leave ( ! ho/ess1 unless %e is s surr\nd$ ) p z to make ?is difficult4 ,at a l>ge reception1 ! com+ & go+ ( a con/ant /ream ( gue/s makes x necess>y = ! lady ( ! h\se to rema9 9 h] place or v ne> x ?r\gh\t ! aft]noon4 ,%e usually /&s 9 ! draw+-room ne> en\gh to ! entrance to be readily accessible1 & yet f> en\gh away to prev5t ! block+ ( ! doorway4 ,a cr[d w\ld be apt to =m !re if ! gue/s /opp$ at once to speak to ! ho/ess4 ,%e %\ld %ake h&s cordially ) all4 ,! dbutante does ! same1 al?\gh %e may1 if %e pref]1 simply b[ or c\rtesy to ! g5tlem54 ,%e rema9s beside h] "m ?r\gh\t ! aft]noon1 or c]ta9ly until all ! gue/s h arriv$4 ,at a small tea ! ho/ess feels at lib]ty to move ab\t m freely4 ,%e may ev5 ent] ! d9+-room late 9 ! aft]noon1 al?\gh %e mu/ be c>eful to return to h] position %\ld !re be late-com]s4 ,= a l>ge & =mal occasion 9 ! city1 a c>pet = ! sidewalk is provid$1 & usually an awn+4 ,a man is /ation$ at ! curb/one to op5 ! doors ( ! c>riages & to give *ecks to ! gue/s & ! driv]s or *auffeurs4 ,a s]vant1 usually a man1 /&s at ! front door1 op5+ x z soon z a gue/ appe>s4 ,"o or m maids are 9 ! dress+-room ready to assi/ ! ladies4 ,if a great _m gue/s are expect$1 !re are *ecks = ! coats4 ,we h already said t a man-s]vant %\ld be /ation$ j outside ! door ( ! draw+-room1 if ! names are to be ann\nc$4 ,9 ! d9+-room two or m cat]]'s assi/ants or exp]t waitresses w be ne$$ to wait ^u ! gue/s4 ,! p\r+ ( ! tea is su* a *>act]i/ic & pleasant feature ( ^! occasions t x is se5 (t51 al?\gh n always1 at l>ge & =mal receptions4 ,= small] affairs ! tea-table is indisp5sable4 ,an assi/ant ho/ess usually presides at ea* end ( ! table1 "o p\r+ c(fee1 *ocolate1 or b\illon1 ! o!r tea4 ,9 summ] cool bev]ages1 su* z lemonade1 fruit-pun*1 or w9e-cup1 may be us$2 b :]e old] p are pres5t1 tea1 ei!r ic$ or hot1 is almo/ indisp5sable4 ,:atev] ! season ( ! ye>1 if ! day is cold & wet a w>m dr9k %\ld be provid$4 ,s&wi*es ( _m k9ds1 little cakes1 bonbons1 & salt$ nuts are ! usual refre%m5ts1 to :i* ices are (t5 add$1 & occasionally salads & oy/]s4 ,! latt] are m appropriate = a reception to :i* m5 are ask$ ?an to a tea4 ,! "y fri5ds ( ! dbutante %\ld keep a wat*ful eye on ! gue/s to see t all are s]v$4 ,!y !mselves (t5 act z amateur waitresses4 ,x is v *>m+ to see a "y & pretty girl seat$ beh9d ! tea-urn4 ,c&or compels u to admit1 h[ev]1 t ! quality ( ! bev]age is m likely to be satisfactory :5 a p]son ( "s exp]i5ce (ficiates4 ,we d n =get t fair & bloom+ ,hebe 0 ! cup-be>] ( ! gods1 & we are delight$ to h h] mod]n repres5tative s]ve 9 t capacity4 ,b :y1 oh :y1 0 %e remov$ to make room = ,ganym$e8 ,9 ! abs5ce ( precise in=mation1 x is our op9ion t %e attempt$ n only to p\r out1 b to concoct1 ! nect> ( ,m\nt ,olympus4 ,be+ "y & giddy1 %e presumably gave honey to "s g\ty old deity to :om all sweets 7 =bidd51 h5ce lo/ h] position4 ,x is n a v difficult ?+ to make a good cup ( tea1 b x ne$s a little practice & undivid$ att5tion4 ,s9ce mo/ p]sons n[ l ! bev]age v weak1 !re %\ld be a l>ge supply ( hot wat]1 & ?is %\ld be frequ5tly repl5i%$4 ,little wire contrivances c be pur*as$ to take ! place ( ! silv] tea-ball2 or a numb] ( small bags may be made by ty+ up a few spoonfuls ( ! dry leaves 9 a piece ( *eese-clo?4 ,boil+ wat] is p\r$ ov] ! tea1 or ! latt] is imm]s$ = a mom5t 9 a cup :i* has j be5 fill$ ) hot wat]4 ,x %\ld be )drawn v quickly1 9 ord] to avoid ! unpleasant & un:olesome ta/e produc$ by all[+ ! leaves to /eep 9 ! hot fluid4 ,= l>ge & =mal receptions1 music ( a r subdu$ "* is sometimes provid$4 ,a /r+$ or*e/ra ( ?ree or f\r pieces may be /ation$ 9 a conv5i5t nook or corn]1 p>tially scre5$ f view by tall plants 9 pots or o!r v>iety ( gre5]y4 ,?is conv5tion makes "o smile1 because ! /\t ,g]man musicians are pla9ly visible among ! foliage1 _! spectacl$ faces & rotund figures contra/+ curi\sly ) ! sylvan groves 9 :i* !y are immur$4 ,d\btless ! arrangem5t conduces to _! com=t1 h[ev]1 & protects !m f ! c>eless feet ( pass]s-by4 ,if a co/um$ b& is employ$1 x is plac$ :]e x c be se5 & admir$4 ,if !re is to be danc+1 ! music is ( a l\d] & m pron\nc$ "*4 ,accord+ to ! fa%ion ( ! mom5t1 !re is su* a beat+ ( drums z w\ld delight ! he>t ( ! simple savage 9 8 =e/ wilds4 ,! floral decorations may be few & simple or elaborate & pr(use1 z ! ta/e & means ( ! ho/ess dictate4 ,at a reception = a dbutante1 ! draw+-rooms may be fill$ to ov]fl[+ ) b\quets & cut fl[]s s5t by fri5ds & admir]s4 ,x is n[ ! fa%ion to greet ! "y girl 9 ?is *>m+ way1 /rew+ h] pa? ) fragrant blossoms1 figuratively speak+4 ,_m ( ^! come1 d\btless1 f ! family connections1 b any fri5d or acqua9tance is at lib]ty to s5d fl[]s 9 mod]ation4 ,obvi\sly1 x w\ld n be 9 good ta/e = a "y man :o 0 only slightly acqua9t$ ) ! dbutante to ord] a v l>ge & exp5sive b\quet = h] com+-out reception4 ,9 a l>ge city x is possible to engage ! s]vices ( a flori/ = an h\r or two1 9 ord] to arrange ! floral gifts quickly & to ! be/ advantage4 ,o!rwise ! family may be ov]:elm$ by ! sudd5 avalan*e ( sweet blossoms1 & ! supply ( vases available may give out e>ly 9 ! day4 ,= a =mal reception 9 w9t] artificial light is ord9>ily us$1 ! %utt]s be+ clos$ or ! %ades drawn d[n4 ,at an in=mal tea x is pleasant to h ! daylight z long z x la/s2 b "o %\ld turn on ! electricity or ! gas be=e ! rooms beg9 to gr[ dim & gloomy4 ,z ! season advances & ! days become long]1 mo/ p f9d x refre%+ to let 9 ! sunlight4 ,= a small & in=mal tea x suffices to h two maid-s]vants 9 att5dance4 ,! waitress removes ! cups & spoons z soon z !y h be5 us$1 br+s 9 fre% supplies1 & assi/s 9 pass+ tea & cake to ! gue/s4 ,! o!r woman op5s ! door1 wa%es ! tea-?+s 9 ! butl]'s pantry1 & helps :]ev] %e is ne$$4 ,at a /udio or an ap>tm5t h\se 9 ! city1 or 9 a quiet village 9 ! c\ntry1 ! ho/ess & h] fri5ds sometimes att5d to all ^! duties !mselves4 ,! di%-wa%+ mu/1 ( c\rse1 be conduct$ 9 a sep>ate room1 or 9 case ( necessity x may take place beh9d a scre54 ,! "y girls slip on big aprons = ?is task & make m]ry ov] x4 ,tea-biscuits1 little fancy cakes1 & bonbons are ! refre%m5ts usually provid$4 ,s&wi*es are v popul>1 b !y are r tr\blesome to make & exp5sive to buy because ( ! labor involv$4 ,a 8curate's assi/ant0 is a conv5i5t adjunct = a small tea4 ,cake1 buns1 muff9s1 & butt]$ toa/ may be pass$ on ?is little ?ree-/ori$ /&4 ,a reception = a dbutante is (t5 foll[$ by a d9n] or a supp] = ! "y fri5ds :o h assi/$ h]4 ,"y m5 may be ask$ to ?is1 & !re w p]haps be an in=mal dance aft]w>d4 ,a supp] is f\nd by exp]i5ce to be bett] ?an a d9n]1 because ! consumption ( s&wi*es & o!r vi&s at ! tea takes ! edge (f e "o's appetite4 ,x mu/ be said t ! ? dansant has tak5 ! place ( ! ord9>y aft]noon tea to a consid]able ext5t4 ,alas = ! eld]ly d[ag]s :o f\nd ! latt] s enjoyable6 ,!re is no room = !m at ! danc+-tea1 & !y are n invit$ because !y w\ld be sure to come if !y 76 ,^! affairs are held at ,ladies' ,clubs or at private h\ses4 ,a numb] ( "y girls come )\t _! hats & act z ho/ess's assi/ants4 ,!y m+le ) ! gue/s & help 9 introduc+ p>tn]s to ! "y wom54 ,z has be5 said else:]e 9 ?is *apt]1 ! ho/ess usually receives 9 ! tea-room on ^! occasions4 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,,iii ,,breakfa/s ,,& ,,lun*eons ,h[ to ,give ,!m & ,:at to ,we>--,etiquette ( ! ,buffet ,lun*eon--,ent]ta9+ ,di/+ui%$ ,/rang]s4 ,,9 ! days ( our gr&mo!rs x 0 ! cu/om 9 ?is c\ntry to d9e 9 ! middle ( ! day or 9 ! e>ly aft]noon4 ,*ildr5 !n1 z n[1 c>ri$ bread-&-butt]1 cookies1 or "s light refre%m5t to s*ool4 ,! memb]s ( ! family :o rema9$ at home ei!r ate no?+ betwe5 breakfa/ & d9n] or took a light lun* if ! int]val 7 v long4 ,x mu/ be rememb]$ t ! old-fa%ion$ heavy ,am]ican breakfa/ /ay$ ! pangs ( hung] = a consid]able p]iod ( "t4 ,we are %ock$ 9 ^! days at ! idea ( eat+ he>tily 9 ! e>ly morn+4 ,we mu/ n =get t 9 ! middle ( ! la/ c5tury ! light ev5+ tea or supp]1 z x 0 call$1 0 mu* less satisfy+ ?an our mod]n late d9n]4 ,h5ce e "o 0 q ready & hungry = breakfa/4 ,lun*eon z a =mal meal 0 !n almo/ unkn[n 9 ,am]ica4 ,p :o wi%$ to ent]ta9 fri5ds e>ly 9 ! day1 & :o 7 famili> ) ,engli% cu/oms1 occasionally gave a breakfa/4 ,) ! adoption ( ! late d9n] ! evolution ( lun*eon z a midday repa/ naturally foll[$4 ,lun*-p>ties h long be5 extremely popul> 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,!y h completely ov]%ad[$ _! old] si/]1 ! 8breakfa/10 s t ! latt] t]m is n (t5 appli$ to midday ent]ta9m5ts1 except "u c]ta9 circum/ances4 ,?us we speak ( ! collation s]v$ at a morn+ w$d+ z a 8breakfa/10 & ! ^w is also us$ to describe club fe/ivities4 ,! lun*-p>ty be+ usually a ladies' affair1 x is sometimes said t ! pres5ce ( m5 *anges ! function to a breakfa/4 ,= ! re/1 ! two =ms ( ent]ta9m5t are v mu* alike save t ! e>li] meal1 9 ord] to des]ve its "n1 %\ld take place n lat] ?an twelve or soon aft]1 & %\ld be simpl] & less =mal 9 its appo9tm5ts ?an ! lat] "o4 ,?us1 pla9 l95 nap]y w\ld be m appropriate ?an a clo? trimm$ ) lace4 ,a breakfa/ usually beg9s ) fruit1 & includes a c\rse ( eggs s]v$ 9 "s =m4 ,o!rwise ! bill ( f>e is v mu* l t ( a lun*1 save t x is %ort]1 & ices & w9es are n s]v$ except at l>ge & =mal functions4 ,occasionally "s ent]pris+ ho/ess invites a few fri5ds to a breakfa/ t really des]ves its "n1 ! h\r be+ n9e or half-pa/ n9e o'clock4 ,travel]s ( di/9ction ^: "t is mu* occupi$ may /ill be op5 to engagem5ts 9 ! e>ly morn+4 ,a meal ( ?is sort mu/ necess>ily be brief & in=mal4 ,oranges1 melons1 or :atev] fruit is 9 season1 c]eal ) cream1 eggs & bacon or omelette1 broil$ *ick51 toa/ or muff9s ) orange m>malade or "s o!r k9d ( jam w\ld make a good m5u4 ,inde$1 ! *ick5 c\ld be omitt$ :]e only "o or two gue/s 7 expect$4 ,! lady ( ! h\se %\ld preside ov] ! tea & c(fee equipage1 ?us giv+ ! p]sonal t\* ( hospitality :i* is n possible at a m c]emoni\s meal4 ,*ocolate also may be s]v$4 ,breakfa/ plates ( good size %\ld be us$1 & 9 w9t] ^! %\ld be w>m$ = ! hot c\rse or c\rses4 ,! ho/ess may we> a pretty morn+ g[n or /reet dress 7) ! exception ( ! hat71 if %e expects to g out aft] breakfa/4 ,! gue/s leave soon aft] ! meal is ov]4 ,! wom5 we> a simple /reet co/ume2 or1 if !y are ab\t to take "p 9 "s sport1 !y may appe> 9 t5nis1 %oot+1 or o!r special dress4 ,!y d n remove _! hats4 ,!re 0 an attempt made rec5tly 9 ,new ,york to introduce ! danc+-breakfa/1 ! gue/s leav+ ! table & execut+ ! hesitation waltz or ! "o-/ep betwe5 ! c\rses4 ,! exp]im5t does n seem likely to be repeat$4 ,lun*eon is1 9 !ory at lea/1 always an in=mal meal4 ,h5ce ! invitations are usually convey$ 9 ! =m ( a fri5dly note or giv5 ov] ! telephone4 ,"s ho/esses use a p>tly engrav$ c>d = _! invitations to lun*eon1 fill+ 9 ! date1 h\r1 & "n ( gue/4 ,= a club or simil> function ! invitations are usually engrav$4 ,! gue/s may be few or _m1 z ! ho/ess pleases4 ,%e mu/ take into consid]ation1 h[ev]1 ! size ( h] d9+-table & ( h] rooms4 ,!re mu/ be space en\gh = ! att5dants to pass ar\nd ! =m] )\t cr[d+ ! gue/s4 ,! "y & inexp]i5c$ h\se-mi/ress may ne$ a ^w ( caution ab\t h] *9a & glass4 ,unless %e wi%es to inve/ 9 new di%es1 %e %\ld take an inv5tory ( !m be=e issu+ h] invitations4 ,x is awkw>d to ask eight gue/s & !n f9d y\r be/ dess]t-plates are a half-doz5 set4 ,:ile plates1 =ks1 etc41 may be wa%$1 & s be us$ a second "t at ! same meal1 x is bett] to h en\gh on h& = ! entire lun*eon4 ,wa%+ delays ! s]vice1 a ?+ n[ consid]$ v undesirable4 ,= ! woman :o possesses a h&some d9+-table x is cu/om>y to use a c5t]piece & place doilies1 ?us %[+ a portion ( ! poli%$ wood4 ,a :ite l95 table-clo? is always 9 good /yle1 h[ev]1 no matt] :at ! fad ( ! mom5t may be4 ,! c5t]pieces = ! b>e table n[ come ( g5]\s size1 be+ virtually m9iature lun*-clo?s4 ,"s are compos$ entirely ( lace1 & "s h a bord] ( t mat]ial4 ,! accompany+ place doilies %\ld h a pad or a piece ( canton flannel b5ea? !m1 to protect ! table f ! heat ( ! di%es4 ,a vase1 rose-b[l1 or lov+-cup fill$ ) fl[]s is plac$ 9 ! middle ( ! table4 ,if ?is is set on a silv] salv] x adds to ! decorative effect4 ,two or f\r small] vases ( correspond+ %ape & mat]ial may be plac$ 9 su* a way z to =m a holl[ squ>e ar\nd ! c5tral "o1 /&+ at "s di/ance f x4 ,a h&some di% ( fruit makes an effective c5t]piece1 or two di%es may =m "p ( ! decorative s*eme1 "o be+ plac$ on ei!r side ( ! table4 ,if artificial light is to be us$1 two c&elabra or f\r s+le c&le/icks may be set 9 ! spaces betwe5 ! vases4 ,! %ades ( ^! %\ld correspond 9 color ) ! fl[]s4 ,:]e !re is good daylight1 h[ev]1 x is 9 ! op9ion ( ! writ] greatly to be pref]r$4 ,little di%es ( olives1 radi%es1 cel]y--hors d'uvres1 z !y are call$--small fancy cakes1 bonbons1 & fruit1 ei!r fre% or dri$1 add to ! decorative effect4 ,a salt-cell> & pepp]-pot may be put at ea* place1 at ea* corn] ( ! table1 or on ! edge ( ! c5t]piece or lun*-clo?1 :]e x is suffici5tly l>ge to br+ !m )9 easy rea*4 ,a bread-&-butt] plate1 ) m9iature silv] knife1 is provid$ = ea* p]son4 ,x %\ld /& at ! left1 :]e two or ?ree silv] =ks--z _m z w be ne$$ be=e ! sweet c\rse--are also plac$4 ,at ! "r !re %\ld be a goblet or tumbl]1 a napk9 ) a roll or piece ( bread fold$ 9 x1 & "o or m knives z occasion may require4 ,if ! bones are left 9 ! fi%1 a silv] knife %\ld be provid$ = x1 & "o is sometimes put on = ! salad4 ,s9ce at lun*eon s\p is eat5 out ( cups ) two h&les in/ead ( f plates1 a dess]t-spoon or l>ge teaspoon is set at ! "r or at ! top ( ea* place4 ,if !re is grape-fruit1 a fruit-spoon or teaspoon w also be ne$$4 ,"o f+]-roll1 or two rolls if !y are v small1 may be put 9 ea* bread-&-butt] plate1 in/ead ( 9 ! napk94 ,! s]v+ ( w9e at lun*eon is rapidly go+ out ( fa%ion4 ,a ho/ess belong+ to ! old] g5]ation sometimes (f]s h] gue/s ,rh9e w9e--a light1 :ite w9e--or1 if !re are m5 pres5t1 %]ry or cl>et4 ,9 ?is case a w9e-glass is set beside ! wat]-goblet at ! "r ( ea* place1 & a decant] is plac$ on ! sidebo>d4 ,w9e-cup1 fruit-pun*1 & simil> bev]ages are s]v$ f a glass pit*]1 lemonade cups or small tumbl]s be+ sub/itut$ = w9e-glasses4 ,sl5d]1 n>r[ tumbl]s are also us$ = ,apoll9>is & o!r eff]vesc5t wat]s1 :i* are (t5 s]v$ in/ead ( w9e4 ,at a =mal lun* ! s]vice is all f ! side-table1 no di%es be+ set on ! d9n]-table ) ! exception ( ! ornam5tal ones m5tion$ above4 ,at an in=mal lun*eon or d9n]1 ! c>v+ may be done by ! head ( ! h\se1 9 accordance ) ! pleasant old cu/om4 ,_m p pref] ?is me?od1 ?9k+ x %[s m hospitality ?an ! s]vice la ,russe4 ,an exp]i5c$ waitress or butl] c att5d to ! wants ( six p]sons2 b = a =mal lun*-p>ty x is usual to h ! assi/ance ( a second maid or man :5 half a doz5 or m are pres5t4 ,9 h\ses :]e !re is mu* ent]ta9+1 ! p>lor-maid or *amb]maid is expect$ to help ! butl] or waitress :5ev] ! numb] ( gue/s makes ?is desirable4 ,9 all l>ge cities & 9 suburban t[ns ( good size x is easy to hire a cook or a waitress = ! day4 ,! correct dress = ! latt] is a pla9 black-/uff dress1 :ite apron ) bretelles1 a pla9 l95 coll> & cuffs4 ,to ?is a little :ite cap is add$1 unless ! maid objects to we>+ x on ! gr\nd t x is too mu* l a liv]y4 ,9 a free & democratic c\ntry no man or woman %\ld be oblig$ to we> ! latt]4 ,t x is a badge ( s]vitude1 ,?ack]ay long ago demon/rat$ 9 8 inimitable mann]4 ,:]e a butl] is employ$ he we>s morn+ co/ume at lun*eon--t is to say1 black coat & wai/coat1 d>k tr\s]s1 & black necktie4 ,! ho/ess %\ld make out h] bill ( f>e 9 good season1 z "s ( ! di%es--! s\p1 = in/ance--w ne$ to be cook$ on ! day prec$+ ! lun*eon4 ,a bride may be tempt$ by ! allur+ adv]tisem5ts bidd+ h] to 8add hot wat] & s]ve40 ,! old] matron kn[s t ! /ock prep>$ at home f fre% meat makes s\p t is mu* sup]ior to ! ready-made article4 ,9 a l>ge city "o c procure _m excell5t di%es at ! confection]'s & pa/ry-cook's4 ,= a l>ge buffet lun*eon1 z = a ball supp]1 ! ho/ess %\ld issue h] ord] to "s reliable firm ( cat]]s4 ,= a lun*-p>ty ( small] size1 %e %\ld endeavor to h ! di%es cook$ 9 h] own kit*54 ,almo/ e "o n[ pref]s home to hotel cook+1 if ! =m] is all t x %\ld be4 ,we %\ld advise ! "y ho/ess1 !re=e1 if %e or h] maid has a fair und]/&+ ( ! cul9>y art1 to h ! ma9 /aples ( h] bill ( f>e prep>$ at home4 ,c]ta9 articles x is usual to ord] f ! cat]]1 su* z patty-%ells & ices4 ,home-made ice-cream compos$ ( real cream is ! be/ ( all1 b x takes "t & tr\ble to prep>e4 ,x is well to te/ ! excell5ce ( a recipe 9 ! privacy ( ! family be=e (f]+ x to gue/s4 ,! bill ( f>e = a lun*eon is usually brief] n[ ?an =m]ly1 ! emphasis be+ laid on ! quality ( ! food r ?an on ! quantity4 ,fruit1 s\p1 fi%1 *ick5 or *ops1 salad1 a sweet c\rse1 & c(fee make a m5u t is amply suffici5t = mo/ p4 ,x may be ext5d$ by ! addition ( an entre--sweetbreads cream$ or mu%rooms1 p]haps--betwe5 ! fi% & ! meat c\rse4 ,! fi% may be omitt$1 or x may 8suff] a sea-*ange0 & become oy/] s\p4 ,a delici\s bill ( f>e rec5tly (f]$ at a lun* = six ladies consi/$ ( grape-fruit1 oy/] s\p1 fricasse$ *ick5 s]v$ ) sweet potatoes & /r+-beans1 lettuce salad1 br&i$ pea*es surr\nd$ ) :ipp$ cream1 c(fee1 little cakes1 & c&ies4 ,! bill ( f>e may be v>i$ 9 a great _m ways1 & l5g!n$ or %ort5$ to suit ! ta/es & circum/ances ( ! ho/ess & ! season ( ! ye>4 ,a lady ent]ta9+ two or ?ree fri5ds at lun* v in=mally c\ld (f] !m simply two or ?ree c\rses ) c(fee or *ocolate4 ,^! w\ld be s\p1 *ick5 or "s o!r =m ( meat ) vegetables1 & a sweet di%4 ,:5 ! wea!r becomes w>m 9 ! spr+1 ! s\p w\ld be replac$ by salad s]v$ aft] ! meat4 ,9 summ] cold di%es are popul>1 b x is always well to h "o or m hot c\rses4 ,c]ta9 old-fa%ion$ ho/esses /ill s]ve tea at lun*eon1 p\r+ x out !mselves1 & p]haps mak+ x at ! table4 ,! preval5ce ( ! aft]noon tea-dr9k+ habit has result$ 9 bani%+ ! 8cup t *e]s b does n inebriate0 f ! noonday meal 9 _m h\ses4 ,! ho/ess we>s a pretty h\se g[n or /reet dress1 z %e pref]s4 ,%e w *oose ! latt] if %e is go+ out z soon z h] fri5ds leave4 ,%e does n1 h[ev]1 we> a hat4 ,! gue/s come 9 /reet or reception co/ume1 brocades be+ mu* worn at ! pres5t "t by old] wom54 ,!y are invit$ to leave _! out] wraps 9 ! hall1 ! reception-room on ! gr\nd floor1 or up-/airs1 z ! ho/ess may f9d mo/ conv5i5t4 ,!y keep on hat & gloves1 h[ev]1 ! latt] be+ remov$ :5 !y sit d[n at ! table4 ,^! may be turn$ back at ! wri/ %\ld x be inconv5i5t to take !m (f altoge!r4 ,gue/s %\ld arrive at ! h\r nam$ or )9 five m9utes aft]w>d4 ,x is usual to wait a qu>t] ( an h\r = a late-com]4 ,to delay long] might int]f]e ) ! engagem5ts ( ! o!r gue/s1 besides spoil+ ! food4 ,if ! ho/ess has ineffici5t s]vants or only "o maid1 %e may f9d x necess>y to excuse h]self 9 ord] to inspect ! arrangem5ts ( ! table at ! la/ mom5t4 ,9 ?is case x is well to h a fri5d :o w take ! place ( ! ho/ess dur+ h] brief abs5ce4 ,! lun*eon is ann\nc$ 9 ! same way z d9n] 7see ,*apt] ,,iv74 ,! entrance to ! d9+-room is in=mal1 ! ho/ess lead+ ! way1 tak+ ) h]1 p]haps1 ! olde/ lady or ! gue/ ( honor4 ,! o!rs foll[ )\t special ord]1 save t m>ri$ wom5 prec$e "y girls4 ,if !re are m5 pres5t !y come la/4 ,usually a relative or famili> fri5d ( ! ho/ess takes ! foot ( ! table opposite ! latt]4 ,! gue/ ( honor sits at ! "r ( ! lady ( ! h\se2 ! o!r places ( di/9ction are at h] left & at ! "r & left ( ! assi/ant ho/ess4 ,unless ! occasion is a v =mal "o1 h[ev]1 a ho/ess w pay m att5tion to seat+ h] gue/s beside cong5ial neighbors ?an to arrang+ !m ) /rict reg>d to prec$5ce4 ,x is n[ usual to s]ve c(fee 9 ! draw+-room at ! conclusion ( ! lun*eon 9 ord] to avoid ! fatigue ( sitt+ too long at table4 ,! gue/s dep>t soon aft] ! conclusion ( ! meal1 z ! ho/ess may h o!r engagem5ts to fulfil4 ,9 ,new ,york ! :ole lun*-p>ty may vani% 9 t5 or fifte5 m9utes4 ,if ! ladies are n 9 ha/e or are hav+ a v pleasant "t1 !y rema9 long]4 ,9 ! c\ntry !y w\ld be v apt to d s4 ,at a =mal lun*eon ! gue/ ( honor %\ld be ! fir/ to take leave4 ,a lady :o has "s press+ engagem5t may excuse h]self )\t wait+ = ! =m]4 ,a buffet lun*eon is s]v$ f ! sidebo>d or f ! d9+-table1 ! gue/s sitt+ ab\t ! room4 ,x is a conv5i5t =m ( ent]ta9m5t :]e _m p are to be provid$ =1 or :]e x is unc]ta9 h[ _m w be pres5t4 ,! bill ( f>e %\ld consi/ = ! mo/ "p ( articles t d n require cutt+ up1 s9ce x is difficult to manage ?is ) a plate re/+ ^u "o's knees4 ,s&wi*es1 salads1 oy/]s1 croquettes1 & b\illon are all appropriate1 ) c(fee1 ices1 cake1 & bonbons4 ,at a simpl] lun*eon1 jellies or o!r sweet di%es may be sub/itut$ = ! ices4 ,t]rap91 cold salmon1 & o!r exp5sive da9ties may be add$ to ! bill ( f>e if ! ho/ desires4 ,if only a small numb] ( p]sons are pres5t1 s t all c be seat$ at ! same "t1 gue/s h ev]y?+ pass$ to !m by ! s]vants 9 att5dance4 ,! fa%ion ( ! mom5t is to use little squ>es ( s(t1 embroid]$ l95 = lun*eon2 b ^! d n af=d en\gh protection = ! dress :]e "o eats f ! lap1 & l>g] napk9s are to be pref]r$ = ?is purpose at a buffet lun*4 ,:]e no s]vants are pres5t ! lady ( ! h\se1 assi/$ by "o or two fri5ds1 waits on ! gue/s4 ,x is less =mal1 h[ev]1 :5 ! ho/ess asks all to help !mselves4 ,if !re are m5 pres5t !y wait ^u ! ladies4 ,?is me?od ( s]vice is apt to be extravagant1 h[ev]1 s9ce ! amateur wait]s (t5 give portions t are unduly l>ge4 ,x is bett] to h "s "o possess$ ( k & exp]i5ce to help to ! v>i\s di%es at ! table1 ! g5tlem5 !n pass+ ! plates to ! ladies4 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,,iv ,,d9n]s ,,=mal ,,& ,,in=mal ,invitations & ,h[ to ,answ] ,!m--,telephone ,invitations--,h9ts = ! ,"y ,ho/ess--,dress = ,m5 & = ,wom5--,ent]+ & ,leav+ ! ,d9+-room--,etiquette ( ! ,=mal ,d9n]--,:5 to ,arrive & ,:5 to ,leave--,dress+-rooms--,d9n]-calls4 ,,an engrav$ c>d is n[ us$ = ! invitations to a =mal d9n]1 spaces be+ left blank = ! day1 h\r1 & "n ( gue/1 z = in/ance3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,george ,hazleton reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,?omas ,all5's company at d9n] on ,?ursday1 ,april ! n9?1 at eight o'clock ,?irty-?ree ,hamilton ,place ,! invitations are giv5 9 ! "n ( husb& & wife4 ,a wid[ liv+ ) a gr[n-up son w\ld add 8 "n1 z a wid[] w\ld t ( a daught] 9 society4 ,d9n] invitations may be writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 or = an in=mal occasion 9 ! fir/4 ,small %eets ( p]fectly pla9 :ite note-pap] ( ! be/ quality1 ) envelopes to mat*1 are always good =m4 ,9 a democratic c\ntry cre/s are 9 que/ionable ta/e1 al?\gh "s p]sons use !m1 emboss$ 9 :ite4 ,! address is (t5 engrav$ 9 small & simple lett]+ at ! top ( ! page4 ,9 ! gay season 9 a l>ge city1 invitations to a =mal d9n] are s5t out two weeks or m be=eh&4 ,9 ,wa%+ton ! gue/s are sometimes invit$ a mon? 9 advance4 ,= an in=mal occasion a week or less suffices4 ,invitations by telephone are n[ extremely popul>1 b !y h "s decid$ disadvantages4 ,! p]son invit$1 be+ sudd5ly held up at ! po9t ( a gun1 z x 71 is likely to =get "s o!r engagem5t = ! same day & h\r1 or %e may feel con/ra9$ to accept :5 %e w\ld pref] to decl9e4 ,z %e has no writt5 record ( ! invitation1 x may slip h] memory4 ,h5ce ho/esses :o are v exact s5d a note1 9 addition to speak+ to _! fri5ds ov] ! telephone4 ,x is1 ( c\rse1 extremely conv5i5t to d ?is :5 engagem5ts mu/ be made at %ort notice4 ,a ho/ess desir+ to arrange a d9n] or o!r occasion 9 honor ( a c]ta9 gue/1 may asc]ta9 ov] ! telephone :e!r he c come on a c]ta9 ev5+1 & !n invite o!r fri5ds to meet him4 ,! answ] to an invitation to d9n] %\ld be s5t z promptly z possible1 )9 tw5ty-f\r h\rs at ! late/4 ,z husb& & wife are always invit$ toge!r1 except to a /ag d9n]1 s bo? mu/ ei!r accept or s5d regrets4 ,x is n good =m = "o to g )\t ! o!r1 unless to ! h\se ( a ne> relation or an intimate fri5d4 ,an exception is sometimes made to ?is rule 9 ! case ( a m>ri$ c\ple ( widely div]g5t ta/es4 ,?us a lit]>y man :o is fond ( society may h a wife :o does n l to d9e out1 or ^: heal? does n p]mit h] to d s4 ,if he is a v agreeable & popul> p]son1 x soon comes to be und]/ood among _! fri5ds t he w accept invitations :ile 8 wife _c4 ,al?\gh ?is disp5sation is occasionally grant$ to m5 & wom5 ( unusual *>m & ability1 ! av]age citiz5 is expect$ to adh]e /rictly to ! rule giv5 above4 ,! answ] to a d9n] invitation mu/ also be def9ite & exact4 ,if ,mrs4 ,jones is unc]ta9 :e!r or n %e or h] husb& w be able to att5d ! d9n]1 %e mu/ s5d regrets = bo?4 ,! answ] %\ld correspond 9 =m ) ! invitation4 8,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,samuel ,jones regret v mu* _! inability to accept ! k9d invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,lloyd ,griswold = d9n] on ,april elev5?10 or 8regret extremely t a previ\s engagem5t prev5ts _! accept+10 etc4 ,! day & h\r %\ld be repeat$ 9 an acceptance1 to gu>d aga9/ possible mi/akes4 ,a d9n] engagem5t mu/ nev] be brok5 except 9 case ( sickness or dea?4 ,%\ld "o fall ill or be oblig$ = any imp]ative reason to )draw ! acceptance ( ! invitation1 ! ho/ess %\ld be notifi$ at once 9 ord] t %e may if possible fill ! place left vacant4 ,= m5 ! prop] co/ume = late d9n] 7at six o'clock or aft]7 is regulation ev5+ dress--i4e41 black swall[-tail coat1 ) tr\s]s to mat*1 l[-cut :ite wai/coat1 :ite dress-%irt1 :ite lawn tie1 pumps or pat5t-lea!r %oes1 & black socks4 ,"s m51 especially ^? ( ! old] g5]ation1 /ill foll[ ! e>li] fa%ion :i* prescrib$ a black wai/coat4 ,! latt] is also worn ) m\rn+ co/ume4 ,at /ag d9n]s & small in=mal occasions ! d9n]-jacket replaces ! swall[-tail coat & is accompani$ by a pla9 black-silk tie4 ,?is mu/ be fre%ly fa/5$ :5ev] worn4 ,a 8made0 tie ( any sort is consid]$ among m5 to be 9 direct violation ( all rules ( social decorum4 ,we d n pret5d to und]/& :y1 b x is "o ( ! unalt]able laws ( mascul9e etiquette4 ,a :ite wai/coat is nev] worn ) a d9n]-jacket4 ,= a =mal d9n] ! prop] co/ume = wom5 is a l[-neck$ ev5+ g[n1 ) sleeves ei!r v %ort or ( ! l5g? requir$ by ! fa%ion prevail+ at ! mom5t4 ,x is by no means necess>y t ! bodice %\ld be extremely dcollet4 ,long gloves1 :ite or delicately t9t$1 dress-slipp]s1 & silk /ock+s complete ! co/ume4 ,! foot-ge> may mat* ! dress or x may be :ite or black4 ,ornam5ts may be worn 9 ! hair1 v>y+ ) ! fa%ion ( ! day4 ,eld]ly wom5 (t5 sub/itute a dress cut out slightly at ! neck1 ) elb[ or transp>5t sleeves1 = ! regulation dcollet g[n4 ,^? :o cat* cold v easily h _! dresses cut accord+ly4 ,= an in=mal d9n] ! usual co/ume 9 ,am]ica is ( ! sort j describ$4 ,"y wom5 select light colors z a rule4 ,velvets1 heavy brocades1 & simil> mat]ials appropriate = matrons are out ( place 9 ! toilette ( "y girls4 ,^? :o foll[ ! ,engli% fa%ion we> dcollet co/ume :e!r !y d9e at home or abroad4 ,! cu/om is by no means g5]al 9 ?is c\ntry1 h[ev]4 ,"o %\ld arrive at ! h\r nam$ 9 ! invitation or five m9utes lat]4 ,9 ! city x is a decid$ mi/ake to come e>li]1 z ! ho/ess may n be ready to receive h] fri5ds4 ,d\btless %e %\ld be1 b ! fact rema9s t 9 ! ru% & hurry ( t[n life %e sometimes does n desc5d to ! draw+-room until ! la/ mom5t4 ,gue/s com+ f a di/ance may f9d x difficult to calculate exactly ! "t requir$ to make ! trip to ! h\se ( ! ho/ess4 ,9 ?is case1 a lady arriv+ be=e ! "t w\ld expla9 ! matt] to ! p]son op5+ ! door4 ,%e might say3 8,please d n di/urb ,mrs4 ,s-&-s4 ,i "k t ,i am too e>ly1 & w wait 9 ! draw+-room until %e is ready to receive h] fri5ds40 ,9 ! c\ntry1 :]e p d n h s _m engagem5ts & :]e ! means ( communication are sl[] & less c]ta91 gue/s (t5 arrive a little be=e ! h\r nam$1 ?9k+ ?is bett] ?an to risk be+ late & s caus+ ! ho/ess inconv5i5ce4 ,a dress+-room %\ld be provid$ = ! ladies4 ,?is %\ld conta9 a mirror & dress+-table furni%$ ) bru% & comb1 p9s1 hair-p9s1 & o!r small accessories ( ! fem99e toilette4 ,a maid is usually 9 att5dance to assi/ 9 ! removal ( wraps4 ,a second room may be arrang$ = ! m51 or !y may leave _! coats & hats 9 ! hall4 ,!y also w ne$ a mirror1 & a man-s]vant may help !m to take (f & lat] to put on _! ov]%oes & greatcoats4 ,at a =mal d9n] ea* man receives a dim9utive envelope conta9+ a c>d ) ! "n ( ! lady :om he is to take 9 to d9n]4 ,?is may be h&$ to him on a salv] by ! butl] or ! waitress :5 he arrives1 or he may f9d x 9 ! dress+-room4 ,accord+ to a novel me?od1 ! envelope is omitt$ & a squ>e c>d made to d\ble into a long %ape is us$4 ,on ! inside are engrav$ ! words3 ,w y k9dly escort 4444444444444444444444444444444444444444 to d9n]8 ,! ho/ess fills 9 ! "n ( ! lady & puts t ( ! g5tleman on ! outside4 ,mr4 ,w>d ,mc,allister tells u 9 8 book t ?is is a ,bo/on fa%ion1 & t ! ,new ,york ho/esses ( 8 day 7 return+ to ! old me?od 8( assign+ ! gue/s 9 ! draw+-room40 ,:ile ! la/-m5tion$ way is to be pref]r$ = small & in=mal d9n]s1 c>ds are conv5i5t = c]emoni\s functions4 ,a ba%ful "y man sugge/s to u t !y h ! advantage ( giv+ ! g5tleman a few m9utes to ?9k ov] :at he %all say to 8 d9n]-p>tn] be=e he goes up to speak to h]4 ,x is no long] ! cu/om to ent] ! draw+-room arm-9-arm4 ,a g5tleman waits until ! ladies ( 8 p>ty appe> at ! door ( _! dress+-room1 & !n foll[s !m into ! draw+-room4 ,"h ! ho/ & ho/ess %\ld be /&+ 9 read9ess to give _! gue/s a cordial welcome4 ,! g5tleman v soon seeks ! lady :om he is to take into d9n]4 ,if he is n acqua9t$ ) h] he asks ! ho/ or ho/ess to pres5t him4 ,on a less =mal occasion !re w\ld be no c>ds1 ! lady ( ! h\se ask+ ea* man to take 9 a c]ta9 lady4 ,! cook %\ld be told be=eh& at :at h\r ! d9n] w be s]v$4 ,?is is usually fifte5 m9utes aft] t nam$ 9 ! invitations4 ,! butl] or waitress %\ld also be in=m$ ( ! numb] ( gue/s expect$1 9 ord] t he or %e may n ann\nce d9n] until all h arriv$4 ,! ho/ess h]self mu/ decide :e!r to wait beyond ! qu>t] ( an h\r = a t>dy gue/ or to ord] d9n] s]v$4 ,9 ju/ice to ! fri5ds already assembl$ %e w n 9 any ev5t delay long4 ,:5 all is 9 read9ess ! butl] or waitress advances a little way into ! room1 say+ 9 a l[ voice1 8,d9n] is s]v$40 ,if ! d9+-room is next door1 x suffices to draw ! portires or op5 ! fold+-doors4 ,at a =mal d9n] ! ho/ (f]s 8 "r arm to ! wife ( ! gue/ ( honor1 & ) h] leads ! way to ! table4 ,! o!r c\ples all foll[ arm-9-arm1 ! ho/ess com+ la/ ) ! mo/ di/+ui%$ man pres5t or ) ! "o = :om ! d9n] is giv54 ,9 (ficial circles 9 ,wa%+ton1 z 9 ,european society1 ! "q ( prec$5ce is a v s]i\s "o4 ,! ho/s mu/ arrange ) great c>e ! procession to ! d9+-room1 9 ord] t ea* p]son may h 8 prop] place4 ,9 o!r ,am]ican cities & t[ns ! rules are mu* less /rict4 ,! y\ng] make way = ! old]1 & m>ri$ wom5 take prec$5ce ( s+le ones4 ,if ! gue/s are invit$ to meet a m>ri$ c\ple1 ! ho/ w take 9 ! wife1 seat+ h] at 8 "r1 & ! ho/ess w g 9 ) ! husb&1 :o w sit at h] "r4 ,a bride is usually aw>d$ ! place ( honor1 a cl]gyman & 8 wife receiv+ simil> recognition4 ,a ho/ess sometimes ent]s ! d9+-room ) ! man :o is to sit on h] left--! second mo/ honorable place4 ,ea* g5tleman assi/s 9 seat+ ! lady "u 8 *>ge1 unless ?is (fice is p]=m$ by a s]vant4 ,if a cl]gyman is pres5t he is usually ask$ to say grace4 ,on sitt+ d[n at table ! ladies remove _! gloves & endeavor n to drop !m ^u ! floor4 ,s9ce a silk5 lap is v slipp]y1 x is difficult to prev5t ?is4 ,m51 h[ev]1 r dislike be+ oblig$ to dive head =emo/ "u ! table 9 ord] to recov] fan1 h&k]*ief1 or gloves = ! ?\ghtless fair4 ,! l>ge d9n]-napk9 is p>tially unfold$ & spread out ov] ! knees1 n tuck$ into a buttonhole4 ,! table is cov]$ ) a :ite damask clo? ( ! be/ quality4 ,accord+ to ! pres5t fa%ion1 ! c5t]piece %\ld be :ite4 ,x may be ( lace or embroid]y1 b nev] ( a mat]ial t w n wa%4 ,a lace or lace-trimm$ clo? %[+ ! b>e table ar\nd ! edges is sometimes us$ = d9n]4 ,! arrangem5t & decoration are mu* ! same z at a lun*-p>ty4 ,s9ce d9n] is ! mo/ =mal ( all meals1 ! ho/ess uses h] h&some/ silv]1 glass1 & *9a1 z well z an abundance ( beautiful fl[]s4 ,bread-&-butt] plates are bani%$ f ! table4 ,at a =mal d9n] butt] does n appe>1 ! !ory be+ t ! flavor+ & sauces make x unnecess>y4 ,if x is us$ x %\ld be pass$ f ! sidebo>d1 & a small individual butt]-plate set at ! left ( ea* place4 ,"h also are two or ?ree =ks1 ) ! t9es turn$ up4 ,at ! "r are laid a d9n]-knife1 a silv] fi%-knife 7if "o w be requir$71 a tablespoon or s\p-spoon1 & a tumbl] or goblet4 ,! napk91 conta9+ a roll or ?ick piece ( bread1 is put on ! empty or 8place0 plate or at ! "r4 ,! little =k = raw oy/]s is put "h also in/ead ( on ! left ) ! o!r =ks4 ,if w9e is to be s]v$ ! glass or glasses are set beside ! wat]-goblet4 ,! publication by ! insurance companies ( tables %[+ t ev5 a mod]ate use ( alcohol t5ds to %ort5 life has giv5 additional impetus to ! temp]ance movem5t4 ,! great gr[? ( ?is is damag+ to ! int]e/s ( ! deal]s 9 w9e4 ,x is amus+ to f9d t c]ta9 ,fr5*m5 reg>d x z a d>k conspiracy =m$ 9 ! int]e/s ( ! deal]s 9 m9]al wat]s4 ,:e!r ?is *>ge is true or n1 x is c]ta9 t ! use ( w9e at d9n]s has greatly dim9i%$ 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates4 ,cocktails are sometimes (f]$ 9 ! draw+-room z a sub/itute = w9e at d9n]4 ,if ladies are among ! gue/s1 ^! %\ld be made v mild4 ,x is p]fectly prop] to decl9e !m1 or inde$ w9e 9 any =m4 ,:]e ?is is n s]v$1 :iskey & wat] may be (f]$ to ! m54 ,to =eign]s :o are accu/om$ to tak+ w9e ) _! d9n]1 x is a privation to g )\t x4 ,a ho/ :o is ent]ta9+ =eign gue/s %\ld be> ?is 9 m9d1 ev5 if he himself is a teetotal]4 ,a nice "q ( e?ics "h arises4 ,if a man ?9ks x wick$ to (f] w9e to any "o1 %\ld he feel oblig$ to place x on 8 table8 ,ea* p]son mu/ answ] ?is accord+ to ! dictates ( 8 own consci5ce4 ,accord+ to ! old rule1 %]ry is ! w9e s]v$ ) s\p1 cl>et & *ampagne ) ! roa/4 ,"s ho/s (f] _! gue/s hock or saut]ne ) ! s\p1 & *ampagne lat] 9 ! meal4 ,o!rs give cl>et or *ampagne alone4 ,! la/-nam$ %\ld be cool$ on ice4 ,a napk9 is fa/5$ ar\nd ! neck ( ! bottle1 s9ce ?is is apt to be wet4 ,cl>et & ,burgundy sometimes ne$ to be w>m$ slightly1 z _! temp]ature %\ld approximate t ( ! room4 ,%]ry1 ,madeira1 port are always1 & cl>et usually1 put into decant]s4 ,x 0 =m]ly ! cu/om to set ^! on ! table2 b at c]emoni\s d9n]s w9e is n[ s]v$ f ! sidebo>d4 ,no m5u-c>ds are us$ at private h\ses4 ,a "n-c>d is set at ea* place4 ,accord+ to pres5t fa%ion1 ?is %\ld conta9 no ornam5t except ! cre/ or initials ( ! ho/ess done 9 gold1 ) edges to mat*4 ,at a rec5t d9n] at ! h\se ( a bi%op ! device on ! "n-c>d 0 a mit]4 ,decorative designs are res]v$ = anniv]s>y d9n]s & o!r special occasions4 ,cel]y1 olives1 radi%es1 & o!r hors d'uvres are usually relegat$ to ! side-table at a =mal d9n]4 ,! bill ( f>e = a d9n] or a lun*eon is mu* %ort] ?an =m]ly4 ,x is no long] ?\ght 9 good ta/e to emulate ! heavy fea/s ( ! anci5t ,romans4 ,_m p n[ hesitate to eat raw oy/]s1 s9ce !y sometimes convey typhoid-fev] g]ms4 ,canaps may replace !m z a fir/ c\rse1 or ,little ,neck clams1 grape-fruit1 or o!r fruit 9 its season may be us$4 ,if oy/]s are s]v$1 five or six are arrang$ 9 ea* plate1 ) a piece ( lemon 9 ! c5t]4 ,x is n[ ?\ght be/ to br+ ^! 9 fre% f ! ice-*e/1 aft] ! company h sat d[n to table4 ,! oy/]-plate is set on ! place-plate--i4e41 on ! "o already 9 place--:5 ! gue/s sit d[n at table4 ,! latt] is n tak5 away at ! conclusion ( ! c\rse1 b rema9s z a basis = ! s\p-plate4 ,ture5s are no long] us$1 ! s\p be+ s]v$ f ! pantry4 ,! plates %\ld be only p>tly fill$4 ,a c>eful s]vant c manage "o 9 ea* h&1 b x is ?\ght m elegant to h !m br\ght to ! table "o at a "t4 ,aft] ! removal ( ! s\p ! place-plates rema91 & are us$ = ! hors d'uvres4 ,^! sometimes prec$e ! s\p c\rse4 ,! fi% comes next1 hot plates be+ us$ = ?is z = all ! hot c\rses4 ,s9ce fi% is r ta/eless1 x is (t5 accompani$ by a sauce or by cucumb]s or tomatoes ) ,fr5* dress+4 ,potatoes also are s]v$ ) fi%4 ,an entre n[ foll[s1 & is succe$$ by ! pice de rsi/ance1 or pr9cipal meat c\rse4 ,) ! light5+ ( ! bill ( f>e1 filet ( beef is less us$ = ?is ?an =m]ly1 saddle ( mutton1 spr+ lamb1 or turkey be+ favorite di%es4 ,accord+ to mod]n cu/om1 only "o or at ! utmo/ two vegetables are s]v$ ) "o c\rse4 ,roman pun* is n[ res]v$ = public d9n]s4 ,! game c\rse ) salad comes next2 b "h aga9 we see a *ange1 s9ce lettuce1 cel]y1 or o!r vegetable salad may n[ be s]v$ ) *eese & crack]s or bread-&-butt]1 ! game be+ omitt$4 ,aft] ! salad ! table is cle>$ (f1 ! salt-cell>s & pepp]-pots be+ remov$ on a tray cov]$ ) a napk94 ,! crumbs are bru%$ (f ) a fold$ napk91 or on less =mal occasions ) a silv] crumb-scrap]4 ,! dess]t n[ foll[s1 = :i* ! h&some/ plates are res]v$4 ,^! are protect$ by pretty ornam5tal doilies1 on :i* are plac$ f+]-b[ls p>tly fill$ ) lukew>m wat]4 ,a fl[] or a fragrant leaf or two may float on its surface4 ,a glass plate is (t5 set "u ! f+]-b[l4 ,! latt] %\ld be promptly remov$ & set on "o side 9 ord] n to delay ! s]vice4 ,"s au?orities say t ! silv] knife1 =k1 & spoon %\ld n be plac$ on ! dess]t-plate :5 ! s]vant h&s ?is1 b %\ld be laid on ! table at ei!r side ( x4 ,if !y are put on ! plate ea* p]son removes !m at ! same "t z ! f+]-b[l4 ,! ices are !n pass$1 ! molds be+ suffici5tly cut ?r\gh be=eh& to enable ! gue/ to help himself readily4 ,if ! individual =m is us$1 "o is set be=e ea* p]son4 ,cake accompanies ! ice-cream1 :i* is eat5 f ! glass plate4 ,! latt] is !n remov$ by ! s]vant1 :ile ! gue/ takes (f ! doilies1 leav+ ! *9a plate 9 read9ess = ! fruit c\rse4 ,few p]sons take any ( ?is at a long d9n]1 unless x be ?ree or f\r grapes4 ,bonbons also are h&$ at ?is "t4 ,! lady at ! "r h& ( ! ho/ mu/ n[ be on ! look\t = ! signal to rise1 :i* ! ho/ess w convey to h] by a look or slight nod4 ,at a =mal d9n] ! g5tlem5 sometimes escort ! ladies back to ! draw+-room1 ! c\ples go+ arm-9-arm4 ,aft] see+ _! p>tn]s com=tably seat$1 ! m5 excuse !mselves by a b[ & return to ! d9+-room or repair to ! smok+-room1 :]e c(fee1 cig>s1 & liqueurs are s]v$4 ,sometimes ! m5 simply rise f ! table :5 ! ladies d1 & rema9 /&+ until ! latt] h pass$ out4 ,a s]vant op5s ! door or holds back ! portire1 or1 if none is 9 ! room at ! mom5t1 ! g5tleman ne>e/ ! entrance p]=ms ?is duty4 ,t9y cups ( /rong black c(fee accompani$ by sug>1 & sometimes by cream1 are h&$ on a tray to ! ladies 9 ! draw+-room4 ,sometimes ! s]vant takes 9 ! silv] c(fee-pot & asks ea* p]son if %e w h a cup1 fill+ x = h] if %e desires4 ,"o or two k9ds ( cordial are (f]$1 ! s]vant ask+ ! ladies 9 turn :i* k9d !y pref]1 & !n p\r+ x into t9y liqueur-glasses4 ,cig>ettes are (f]$ to ! wom5 at "s h\ses1 al?\gh ! cu/om is by no means g5]al4 ,_m ,am]ican ho/esses dislike v mu* to see memb]s ( _! own sex use tobacco1 consid]+ ?is 9 bad ta/e4 ,lat] 9 ! ev5+ ,apoll9>is or o!r sp>kl+ wat]s may be br\ght 94 ,! m5 rejo9 ! ladies 9 ! draw+-room aft] a %ort int]val ( "t4 ,music1 recitations1 or o!r =m ( ent]ta9m5t may be giv5 = ! amusem5t ( ! company4 ,danc+ is n[ popul> at all h\rs1 & p :o are fond ( c>ds f9i% ! ev5+ ) bridge or "s o!r game4 ,if ! ho/s h n arrang$ any aft]-d9n] programme1 ! gue/s take _! leave ab\t half an h\r aft] ! m5 h return$ to ! draw+-room4 ,!re is no absolute rule ab\t ?is1 z mu* dep5ds on ! lat5ess ( ! h\r4 ,if "s ( ^? pres5t are 8go+ on0 to a dance or a reception1 !y w excuse !mselves z soon z !y c )\t appe>+ brusque or disc\rte\s to _! ho/s4 ,accord+ to mod]n rule1 a d9n] %\ld n la/ m ?an an h\r & a half4 ,if ! gue/s sit d[n to table at a qu>t]-pa/ eight & arise f x at a qu>t] be=e t5 o'clock1 ! h\r = dep>ture w\ld be some:]e betwe5 half-pa/ t5 & elev5 o'clock4 ,! cu/om ( wait+ until ! lady :o is ! gue/ ( honor has tak5 h] leave is gr[+ 9 favor4 ,?is makes x incumb5t on h] n to l+] too long1 le/ %e %\ld inadv]t5tly deta9 o!rs :o desire to g4 ,"o ( ! mo/ important duties ( ! d9]-out is to talk & to li/5 to 8 next-door neighbors4 ,at a small d9n] ! conv]sation may become g5]al1 b :]e a great _m gue/s are seat$ at a l>ge table1 ?is is h>dly possible4 ,"s *>m+ talk] to :om x w\ld be delightful to li/5 may sit opposite to y1 or two or ?ree places away4 ,if y %\ld yield to ! temptation & neglect y\r d9n]-p>tn]1 or1 /ill worse1 if y %\ld talk across h] to ! m int]e/+ gue/1 y w\ld be committ+ a brea* ( good mann]s4 ,at a l>ge & =mal d9n]1 ! ho/ess talks fir/ to ! man on h] "r h& & lat] to ! "o on h] left4 ,! gue/s foll[ h] example1 turn+ to speak to ! o!r neighbor soon aft] %e does4 ,?is is call$ 8,! turn+ ( ! table40 ,if "o has receiv$ an invitation to d9n]1 x is necess>y to call 9 p]son )9 "o or two weeks aft] ! ev5t4 ,?is rule applies to o!r invitations also1 b x is con/ru$ ) special /rictness 9 ! case ( a d9n]4 ,9 ,new ,york1 ) its imm5se di/ances1 a busy man may be unable to make ! 8visit ( dige/ion0 )9 a =tnight4 ,9 ?is case he %\ld s5d 8 c>d by mail & call :5 he c comm& ! "t4 ,m5 n[ pay visits 9 ! late aft]noon1 at five or six o'clock1 =mal ev5+ calls hav+ gone out ( fa%ion 9 ! l>ge cities4 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,v ,,bridesmaids' ,,lun*eons1 ,,ba*elor ,,d9n]s1 ,,& ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>ies ,gue/s to be ,invit$--,etiquette & ,dress = ,bridesmaids' ,lun*eons--,etiquette & ,dress = ,ba*elor ,d9n]s--,?+s to be ,done & ,?+s to be ,avoid$--,w$d+ ,anniv]s>ies--,! ,"r & ! ,wrong ,way to ,celebrate ,!m--,=m ( ,invitation4 8,,h[ _m bridesmaids %all ,i h at my w$d+80 ,_m a "y girl asks h]self ?is "q1 to :i* x is n easy to give a categorical answ]4 ,we w1 h[ev]1 say to h]3 *oose y\r att5dants = ?is beautiful day 9 y\r life f among ^? y love & :o love y4 ,if y h sev]al si/]s & de> fri5ds1 ! selection may be a little difficult1 b d\btless !re are "s :o are ne>] to y ?an o!rs4 ,if y h no si/]s1 or if !y are all m>ri$1 y p]haps h "o or m c\s9s to repres5t ! family1 & y w want to include a si/] or o!r ne> relative ( y\r fianc = 8 sake4 ,let ! numb] ( y\r bridesmaids be decid$ by t ( ! "y wom5 y w\ld l to h ar\nd y at y\r w$d+1 provid$ always ?is is n s l>ge z to appe> o/5tati\s4 ,y %\ld also consid] ! "q ( exp5se1 s9ce x is n[ ! cu/om = ! bride to make a gift to ea* ( h] att5dants4 ,if ! c]emony takes place at *ur*1 h] family also pay = ! c>riages = ! bridesmaids4 ,a l>ge *ur* w$d+ is a v co/ly affair1 & a "y girl %\ld be consid]ate 9 ! dem&s ^u h] fa!r's purse4 ,! exp5diture = a w$d+ %\ld be 9 proportion to ! means ( ! bride's family1 s9ce etiquette dem&s t !y & n ! groom %\ld meet x4 ,if ! function is unduly elaborate1 unfavorable criticism is almo/ sure to result4 ,if y decide to be m>ri$ at home1 y w n h m ?an "o or two bridesmaids2 at *ur*1 f\r or six is a good numb]4 ,m ?an eight seem o/5tati\s1 unless "u exceptional circum/ances4 ,y may l 9 addition to h y\r si/] or de>e/ fri5d act z maid ( honor4 ,a "y m>ri$ woman sometimes acts z matron ( honor2 b ?is is 9 contrav5tion ( ! good old cu/om ( surr\nd+ ! bride ) a gr\p ( maid5s4 ,be sure to make y\r selection1 & to ask y\r fri5ds to (ficiate z bridesmaids1 9 good season4 ,x is y\r privilege to *oose ! co/umes !y are to we>4 ,9 do+ ?is we hope y w n be c>ri$ away by ! *>ms ( ! fa%ion-book models1 b w be> 9 m9d ! complexion & figure ( y\r fri5ds z !y actually exi/ 9 real life4 ,y w c]ta9ly want !m to look _! be/1 = y\r sake z well z _! own4 ,! bride is always ! great c5t] ( attraction1 b if %e has good ta/e %e w desire to h ! w$d+ cortge =m a h>moni\s :ole4 ,= ?is purpose ! co/umes ( ! bridesmaids may be all alike1 or !re may be a div]sity ( color+4 ,! two t walk toge!r %\ld be dress$ alike4 ,pray be c>eful also n to make ! toilettes s exp5sive z to be a /ra9 ^u ! means ( y\r "y fri5ds4 ,y may1 ( c\rse1 if y\r means or ^? ( y\r family p]mit1 pay = _! :ole outfit or = c]ta9 portions1 su* z hats or gloves4 ,b ?is is n cu/om>y1 al?\gh x is occasionally done by a bride ri* 9 ?is _w's ge>4 ,%\ld a "y woman give a lun*eon or a d9n] to h] bridesmaids8 ,! idea ( ?us ga!r+ h] mates ar\nd h] = ! la/ "t be=e %e ent]s ^u a new1 joy\s1 & yet s]i\s phase ( h] life is a v happy "o1 provid$ always t ! occasion does n furni% ! prov]bial la/ /raw ( ! camel's load4 ,! prep>ations = a mod]n *ur* w$d+ are s _m & s ext5sive t a bride may g to ! alt> utt]ly worn out & look+ n h] be/1 b h] wor/4 ,h] "m %\ld c]ta9ly gu>d a daught] v c>efully aga9/ ov]-fatigue2 b 9 _m cases %e obvi\sly does n4 ,to ! bridegroom ! p>ade & %[ are usually extremely di/a/eful1 & he only submits to !m because he _c help himself4 ,he goes ?r\gh ! try+ ordeal 9 ! _s ( ! good knights ( old1 t he may w9 8 8de> ladye0 = 8 own4 ,we _c1 !re=e1 advise our bride to give a bridesmaids' lun*eon if %e is already we>i$ by _m tasks4 ,9 ?is case we %\ld advise ! sub/itution ( an aft]noon tea1 to :i* %e may1 if %e pleases1 invite ! groom1 be/ man1 & u%]s4 ,p]haps1 h[ev]1 %e is s =tunate z to h relatives & fri5ds :o w take ! brunt ( ! fatigue1 or1 if %e is ri*1 clev] & exp]i5c$ wom5 c be hir$ to assi/ h]4 ,if %e decides to give a lun*eon1 %e %\ld select a day ne> en\gh t ( ! w$d+ to give a c]ta9 ?rill to ! occasion1 & yet n s ne> z to make ^! great ev5ts seem to cr[d "o ^u ! o!r4 ,%\ld ! bridesmaids live at a di/ance1 & come to ! home-t[n ( _! fri5d on purpose to att5d ! w$d+1 x may be necess>y to h ! lun* take place only two or ?ree days 9 advance4 ,a week is a bett] int]val1 h[ev]4 ,%\ld !re be "s "y fri5d :o is unable to s]ve z a bridesmaid--on acc\nt ( family m\rn+1 lam5ess1 or "s simil> drawback--! bride may l to include h] 9 ! invitations4 ,! bridesmaids d n appe> 9 any special co/ume1 b we> ! same sort ( dress z at any lun*1 reta9+ _! hats unless ! bride asks !m to remove !m4 ,! latt] we>s a pretty h\se dress suitable = ! aft]noon4 ,! lun*eon may be a h&some affair or simple & inexp5sive1 z ! "y ho/ess f9ds conv5i5t4 ,%e or a fri5d may l to pa9t ! place-c>ds1 :i* %\ld h devices appropriate to ! occasion4 ,true-lov]s' knots1 ,cupids1 he>ts & d>ts are always 9 ord]4 ,p9k is a favorite color = ! decorations1 gre5 & :ite also hav+ a pretty effect4 ,! traditional r+1 co91 & ?imble are (t5 plac$ 9 ! cake1 ea* girl c>efully scrut9iz+ h] piece to see :at h] future lot is to be4 ,! gifts to ! bridesmaids are usually aw>d$ at ?is lun*eon1 & %\ld be all alike4 ,"s small article ( jewelry to be worn at ! w$d+ is usually *os54 ,l',art ,n\veau sugge/s _m pretty ?+s t are n necess>ily exp5sive1 ! !ory be+ t jewelry %\ld please by color & design r ?an by co/l9ess4 ,broo*es1 p5dants1 bracelets1 hat-p9s1 or fans are among ! suitable gifts4 ,!y may be set "o at ea* place z s\v5irs4 ,s9ce ! bridesmaids' lun*eon is int5d$ to be a gay & m]ry r ?an a somb] & melan*oly affair1 x is well to ask "o or two ( ! gue/s to arrange "s amus+ feature = ! day4 ,?us1 if ! bride has _m admir]s1 a dance ( ! reject$ suitors w\ld be appropriate4 ,^! c\ld be repres5t$ by two ( ! company4 ,!y %\ld be furni%$ ) l>ge b&ana h&k]*iefs on :i* to weep copi\sly4 ,aft] tread+ a sl[ & melan*oly measure1 ea* %\ld break a /ick ov] 8 knee 9 accordance ) ! old tradition4 ,a d9n] is sometimes giv5 in/ead ( a lun*eon1 & to ?is ! groom1 be/ man1 & u%]s are occasionally ask$4 ,a novel way to give a bridesmaids' lun*eon w\ld be to ask ea* girl to prep>e be=eh& "o article ( ! bill ( f>e4 ,! bride also %\ld contribute some?+ ( h] own manufacture to ! m5u4 ,a judge1 duly app>el$ 9 wig & g[n1 %\ld be appo9t$ to aw>d ! prize to ! mak] ( ! mo/ too?some article1 or a fem99e jury ( ?ree might be impanel$4 ,! prize-w9n] %\ld h a blue ribbon decl>+ h] to be ! mo/ promis+ c&idate = matrimony4 ,at ! bride's place %\ld be a small s\v5ir album ) :ite cov]1 conta9+ ! receipts us$ = ! diff]5t articles ( ! bill ( f>e1 & m5tion+ ! s*ool or cook+-class :]e ea* girl _h acquir$ h] cul9>y skill4 ,x w\ld be q 9 ord] to inv5t imag9>y colleges & degrees1 phras$ 9 home-made ,lat91 z1 = in/ance1 ,cookia ,sup]ba ,prattii ,in/itutionis4 ,sometimes a bridesmaids' lun* is foll[$ by a rehe>sal ( ! w$d+ procession at ! *ur*1 ! u%]s & "y girls return+ to ! bride's home = aft]noon tea4 ,x is pleasant to h ! memb]s ( ! w$d+-p>ty meet be=eh& 9 ord] to make "o ano!r's acqua9tance4 ,?us a d9n] or a !at] p>ty = ! bridesmaids & u%]s is sometimes giv5 two or ?ree days be=e ! m>riage takes place4 ,%\ld ! bridegroom give a ba*elor d9n] to 8 u%]s & be/ man8 ,?is is a "q :i* ea* "y man mu/ decide = himself1 always tak+ into consid]ation ! ta/es & t5d5cies ( ^? :o w\ld compose ! p>ty4 ,x %\ld be frankly said t at c]ta9 occasions ( ?is sort 9 ! pa/1 too mu* w9e has be5 consum$ ) sad results4 ,!re=e if ! groom himself or any ( 8 intimate fri5ds f9ds temp]ance difficult1 x c]ta9ly is unwise to arrange a ba*elor d9n] & ?us fly 9 ! face ( ,provid5ce1 z old-fa%ion$ p w\ld say4 ,if ! d9n] is to take place1 x %\ld be )9 a =tnight or a week be=e ! w$d+4 ,x is well to h an int]val ( sev]al days elapse betwe5 ! two ev5ts4 ,! gue/s invit$ are ! be/ man1 u%]s1 & sometimes o!r intimate fri5ds ( ! groom & ! bro!rs ( ! bride4 ,black-clo? d9n]-jacket1 ) tr\s]s & l[-cut wai/coat to mat*1 dress-%irt1 & black tie compose ! prop] co/ume4 ,! d9n] is giv5 at ! groom's club or home or 9 a private d9+-room at "s good re/aurant4 ,! groom be+ ! ho/1 he sits at ! head ( ! table2 ! be/ man may be opposite to him or at 8 "r h&4 ,9 ! latt] case ! head u%] or ! bride's bro!r may take ! foot4 ,! provision ( w9e %\ld be a judici\s "o4 ,:5 ! d9n] is q advanc$ ! be/ man proposes ! bride's heal?4 ,all arise & dr9k ?is toa/ /&+4 ,accord+ to ! old cu/om1 ea* man snaps ! /em ( 8 w9e-glass betwe5 8 f+]s1 !n ?r[s x away4 ,! s\v5irs pres5t$ by ! groom to 8 be/ man & u%]s are laid at ea* place4 ,^! are usually sc>f-p9s1 al?\gh cuff-l9ks are sometimes giv54 ,beside ea* plate may also be a box done up ) :ite ribbon1 conta9+ ! gloves & tie to be worn at ! w$d+4 ,! be/ man usually ord]s ^!1 tak+ c>e to select gloves ( ! "r size1 b ! bridegroom pays ! bill4 ,a conv5i5t me?od is to give a li/ ( ! u%]s ) _! addresses to a hab]da%] ( e/abli%$ reputation4 ,he !n s5ds an engrav$ or pr9t$ c>d to ea* man1 say+ t ,mr4 ,s-&-,s has ord]$ gloves & tie = him & ask+ ! size ( 8 h&4 ,%\ld o!r gue/s besides ! be/ man & u%]s be at ! d9n]1 x w\ld be bett] n to pres5t ! s\v5irs1 ties1 etc41 b to s5d !m to ea* p]son's resid5ce or club4 ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>ies ,! w$d+ anniv]s>ies usually celebrat$ are ! fif?1 wood52 ! t5?1 t92 ! tw5ty-fif?1 silv]2 & ! fiftie?1 gold54 ,few c\ples live to obs]ve ! latt]1 & /ill few] ! sev5ty-fif?1 ! diamond w$d+4 ,! fif? & t5? anniv]s>ies are occasions ( fun & frolic4 ,! invitations may be giv5 ov] ! telephone or 9 any way pref]r$4 ,= a wood5 w$d+ a novel me?od w\ld be to divide ! ?9 end ( a %+le into sev]al portions ab\t ! size ( a po/al c>d1 writ+ or pa9t+ ! invitations on ^!4 ,! easie/ way is to use ! jo9t visit+-c>d ( ho/ & ho/ess1 writ+ on x3 ,w be at ,home on ,?ursday ev5+1 ,octob] twelf? add+ 9 ! corn] 8#aiaj-aiae40 ,! gue/s invit$ are usually famili> fri5ds4 ,!y tax _! +5uity to procure gifts ( appropriate mat]ial t w amuse ! company1 or s5d articles t w be useful4 ,wood5 spoons ( all sorts & sizes1 mammo? p5cils1 knife-trays1 wat*m5's rattles1 boxes l>ge & small1 t[el-racks1 *airs1 small tables--all are appropriate gifts4 ,x is easy to pur*ase at a toy /ore wood5 animals ( absurd %apes1 picture puzzles1 jump+-jacks1 etc4 ,two ( ! gue/s might repres5t a c\ple f ,noah's ark1 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,%em or ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ham4 ,!y %\ld be dress$ 9 ! traditional co/ume1 & %\ld move 9 a /iff & wood5 way4 ,ano!r pair c\ld appe> z jo9t$ dolls or o!r figures4 ,! decorations c\ld consi/ ( %av+s or ( pussy-will[ or o!r b\ghs4 ,= ! t5? anniv]s>y ! t9w>e %op furni%es ample mat]ial = gifts4 ,x is usually possible to get a t9smi? to make1 = a small *>ge1 articles ( "s special %ape4 ,! bride may be adorn$ ) a t9 ti>a & o!r ornam5ts1 ! groom we>+ a l>ge t9 fl[] 9 8 buttonhole4 ,a suit ( armor ( ! same mat]ial1 accompani$ by spe> & %ield1 might be pres5t$ to him ) due c]emony4 ,"o gue/ %\ld be ! spokesman = ! company & expla9 t1 ow+ to ! dang]s ( ! public roads1 x 0 ?\ght well to be/[ ^u _! fri5d "s means ( def5se aga9/ ! ubiquit\s automobile1 ! spe> be+ int5d$ to lift arrogant *auffeurs f ! p]* ( vantage4 ,to a silv]-w$d+ celebration a few intimate fri5ds ( ! family may be ask$1 or ! affair may take ! =m ( a reception4 ,! invitations may be engrav$ 9 silv] lett]s & may read3 #ahhi #aiad ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,?ompson reque/ ! pleasure ( 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 company on ,?ursday1 ,novemb] ! eigh?1 at half-pa/ eight o'clock ,or ! 8,at ,home0 =m may be us$4 ,x is be/ n to say 8silv]-w$d+10 z ?is might be ?\ght an intimation t gifts w\ld be acceptable4 ,inde$1 "s p are s anxi\s to avoid any appe>ance ( solicit+ pres5ts t !y give no intimation on ! c>d ( ! nature ( ! occasion4 ,o!rs add1 8,x is k9dly reque/$ t no gifts be s5t40 ,ne> relations & intimate fri5ds usually feel privileg$ to s5d "s suitable remembrance ( ! day1 an article ( silv] = ! writ+-table or toilette-table p]haps1 or any piece ( silv]w>e t !y ?9k w be acceptable4 ,x is always prop] to s5d fl[]s4 ,if ! reception is 9 ! ev5+1 ! silv]-w$d+ bride we>s ev5+ dress ( any color t is becom+ to h]4 ,gray1 lav5d]1 or purple is appropriate4 ,:ile :ite alone is n p]missible1 black-&-:ite may be worn2 ! bridal veil--if x be ( lace--may be drap$ ov] ! skirt or worn z a sc>f4 ,! g[n may be p>tially cut d[n at ! neck or full dcollet1 ! mat]ial be+ silk1 brocade1 velvet1 or o!r /uff z pref]r$4 ,! groom we>s regulation ev5+ dress ) :ite or light kid gloves 7see ,*apt] ,,vi74 ,he & ! bride /& toge!r to receive ! gue/s until all h arriv$1 :5 !y move ab\t ! room talk+ ) _! fri5ds4 ,! tone ( ! occasion mu/ n be too /iff & =mal1 b cordial yet dignifi$4 ,accord+ to "s au?orities1 ! decorations %\ld be :ite1 gre51 & silv]4 ,!re may be few fl[]s or an abundance ( !m4 ,if !y are all :ite ! result w be r try+ to matronly faces1 & ! effect a little incongru\s4 ,9 celebrat+ an anniv]s>y x is n wise to try to reproduce exactly ! orig9al occasion4 ,?is w\ld t5d to m>k 9 a pa9ful way ! passage ( "t4 ,j z ! bride ( tw5ty-five ye>s we>s a matronly co/ume r ?an a girli% dress t w\ld br+ into evid5ce ! wr9kles & cr['s-feet1 s ! decorations & c]emonies ( ! silv]-w$d+ mu/ reflect ! flight ( ! qu>t] ( a c5tury4 ,! fl[]s ( midsumm] are m appropriate ?an ^? associat$ especially ) e>ly spr+4 ,purple & :ite lilacs produce an excell5t effect1 z d roses n too pale 9 color1 or or*ids4 ,some?+ w1 ( c\rse1 dep5d ^u ! season ( ! ye>4 ,x adds int]e/ to ! occasion if ! cl]gyman :o p]=m$ ! m>riage c]emony1 ! u%]s1 & bridesmaids c be pres5t4 ,! latt] may /& ne> ! ho/ & ho/ess & assi/ !m 9 receiv+ ! company4 ,! "n 8silv] w$d+0 is some?+ ( a misnom]1 because ! celebration is conc]n$ only ) ! ev5ts foll[+ ! m>riage4 ,?us1 :ile ! anniv]s>y may reproduce 9 "s degree ! orig9al reception or breakfa/1 to attempt to repeat any "p ( ! c]emony w\ld be 9 ! wor/ possible ta/e1 to say ! lea/4 ,! collation is l t ( any ev5+ reception4 ,!re is usually a h&some w$d+-cake1 on :i* ! date ( ! w$d+ & ( ! tw5ty-fif? anniv]s>y1 toge!r ) ! initials ( husb& & wife1 are inscrib$4 ,silv] leaves may =m a "p ( its decoration4 ,! bride cuts ! fir/ slice1 z %e did tw5ty-five ye>s be=e4 ,x adds to ! fun ( ! occasion if ! cake conta9s a r+4 ,:]e w9e is s]v$1 x is usually *ampagne4 ,! be/ man or "s ne> fri5d or relative may give z a toa/ ! heal? ( ! h]o & h]o9e ( ! day1 to :i* ! husb& %\ld reply 9 a brief spee*4 ,!re may be o!r toa/s & spee*es4 ,accord+ to mod]n fa%ion1 ^! may be made )\t ! accompanim5t ( w9e4 ,! sons & daught]s ( ! h\se %\ld act z assi/ant ho/s & ho/esses1 mov+ ab\t among ! gue/s & ext5d+ a cordial welcome to all4 ,! arrangem5ts = a gold5-w$d+ fall naturally into ! h&s ( a daught] or a son4 ,^? ( ! y\ng] g5]ation mu/ be c>eful n to behave z if !y ?\ght _! p>5ts too old & too infirm to att5d to ! matt] p]sonally4 ,x requires great tact to assi/ ^? :o are decl9+ into ! vale ( ye>s 9 su* a way z n to depress or sadd5 !m or hurt _! feel+s4 ,! daught] %\ld take pa9s to %[ t %e is n try+ to sup]s$e h] p>5ts1 b simply to act z _! lieut5ant4 ,%e may well ?9k out be=eh& h] g5]al l9e ( action1 & !n lay x be=e h] "m1 consult+ ! latt] z ! h\sehold g5]al-9-*ief4 ,%e may casually rem9d h] "m t1 s9ce ! bride is sp>$ all possible c>e & anxiety by h] family1 ! same attitude t[>d h] %\ld be tak5 at ! celebration ( ! fiftie? anniv]s>y ( ! m>riage4 ,!re is (t5 a reunion ( ! m>ri$ c\ple & _! desc5dants at a l>ge family d9n]4 ,if x is desir$ to include ! :ole circle ( fri5ds 9 ! celebration1 ?is usually takes place 9 ! daytime1 s9ce an ev5+ affair might be too fatigu+ = ! eld]ly pair4 ,sometimes1 h[ev]1 a reception is held 9 ! ev5+ aft] ! family d9n]4 ,a good deal mu/ dep5d on ! /ate ( heal? ( ! bride & groom4 ,sons & daught]s %\ld rememb] t to greet & %ake h&s ) _m p is 9 itself fatigu+1 especially to ^? :o are no long] "y4 ,an aft]noon reception is an appropriate way to celebrate ! fiftie? anniv]s>y ( a m>riage4 ,! invitations w be mu* l ^? ( ! silv]-w$d+1 except t ! lett]+ %\ld be ( gold1 or black if pref]r$4 ,!y are usually engrav$ on a r l>ge :ite c>d4 ,if an answ] is desir$1 9 "o corn] may be ! /atem5t1 8,please s5d reply to ,mrs4 ----10 ) ! address ( ! daught]4 ,x is v easy to f9d suitable decorations1 s9ce almo/ any gold5 fl[] t is 9 season may be press$ into s]vice4 ,9 ! fall ( ! ye> no?+ is m beautiful ?an gold5rod2 autumn leaves also may be us$4 ,black-ey$ ,susans h a v decorative effect1 ! yell[ abutilon rem9ds ! behold] ( w$d+-bells1 & ,m>%al ,niel roses are always lovely4 ,gifts ( fl[]s may be ti$ ) gold5 ribbon4 ,at a fiftie? m>riage anniv]s>y :i* ! writ] rec5tly att5d$1 a small reception-room lead+ f ! draw+-room 0 almo/ fill$ ) pres5ts ( gold5 hue1 al?\gh _m 7 n made :olly ( ! preci\s metal itself4 ,pictures 9 gild$ frames1 can>y birds 9 cages ( ! prevail+ color ( ! day1 7 *e]ful gifts ( mod]ate exp5se4 ,a beautiful lov+-cup ( silv] heavily gild$ held ! c5t] ( ! table1 & )9 0 a purse ( gold pieces--a numb] ( fri5ds comb9+ to make ?is pres5t4 ,!re 7 _m o!r pieces ( silv]-gilt1 & "s ( solid gold4 ,! bride receiv$ a beautiful wat* & *a91 among o!r ?+s2 ! groom a p5cil & c>d-case ( ! preci\s metal4 ,husb& & wife receive toge!r at a gold5-w$d+4 ,sons & daught]s welcome ! gue/s1 b d n necess>ily /& beside _! p>5ts4 ,!y %\ld h a wat*ful eye ^u ! latt]1 h[ev]1 to see t !y d n become fatigu$4 ,"o advantage ( ! aft]noon reception = a gold5-w$d+ is ! well-kn[n t5d5cy ( ! gue/s to conc5trate 9 ! d9+-room1 ?us giv+ ! ho/ & ho/ess an opportunity to sit d[n & re/ if !y are tir$4 ,!y rema9 9 ! draw+-room1 any refre%m5ts !y may desire be+ br\ght to !m4 ,^! w be ! same z at any aft]noon tea or reception4 ,"s solid di%es su* z salads & oy/]s may be s]v$1 & !re may be a w$d+-cake4 ,! gold5-w$d+ bride may we> any color %e pleases except black4 ,! ugly fa%ion ( dress+ eld]ly wom5 9 h>d black is =tunately on ! wane1 s9ce x is extremely unbecom+ to !m4 ,delicate t9ts ( lav5d] & gray1 trimm$ ) s(t ruffles or lace1 are appropriate = ! bride ( fifty ye>s4 ,! groom we>s =mal aft]noon dress1 black frock or cutaway coat1 ) high wai/coat to mat*1 d>k tr\s]s1 & lav5d] sc>f4 ,if ! bride c>ries a b\quet1 x %\ld1 9 our op9ion1 be ( violets1 or*ids1 or gold5 fl[]s r ?an :ite ones1 al?\gh "s au?orities favor ! latt]4 ,! fifte5?1 cry/al1 & ! tw5tie?1 *9a1 w$d+s are occasionally obs]v$4 ,fri5ds may celebrate !m in=mally by a surprise p>ty1 at :i* gifts ( porcela9 or glassw>e are pres5t$ to a c\ple ^: *9a closets ne$ repl5i%+4 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,,vi ,,h\se ,,& ,,*ur* ,,w$d+s ,dress = ,bride1 ,bridegroom1 ,bridesmaids1 ,u%]s1 & ,o!r ,memb]s ( ! ,bridal ,p>ty--,dress ( ,gue/s--,gifts & ,h[ to ,pres5t ,!m--,etiquette ( ,h\se & ,*ur* ,w$d+s--,w$d+ ,breakfa/s & ,receptions--,ent]ta9+ ,out-(-t[n ,gue/s4 ,a ,,g[n ( :ite sat91 ) veil ( tulle1 pla9 or lace-trimm$1 or ( real lace1 has long be5 ! conv5tional bridal dress4 ,:ile ! bodice may1 9 accordance ) ! pres5t /yle1 be some:at cut out at ! neck & ! sleeves rea* only to ! elb[1 x mu/ nev] be full dcollet unless ! w$d+ takes place 9 ! ev5+4 ,! skirt %\ld h a tra9 v>y+ 9 l5g? ) ! fa%ion1 b nev] s long z to int]f]e ) ! bride's movem5ts4 ,sev]al y>ds ( sat9 trail+ ^u ! floor w result 9 pull+ h] head back at e /ep1 produc+ a v awkw>d & ugly effect4 ,a creamy t9t is m becom+ to mo/ "y wom5 ?an a blui% %ade ( :ite4 ,"s brides pref] silk1 f9e org&ie musl91 *iffon1 or o!r s(t mat]ial4 ,artificial orange fl[]s are usually worn 9 ! hair & sometimes on ! dress1 ! natural blossoms be+ v difficult to procure4 ,x is wise to engage a hair-dress] to put on ! w$d+-veil1 s9ce ?is is a task requir+ special skill4 ,if x is to be worn ov] ! face1 a sep>ate piece ( tulle %\ld be us$ = ! purpose4 ,! maid ( honor1 or fir/ bridesmaid1 takes ?is (f :5 ! bride turns to walk d[n ! aisle at ! conclusion ( ! c]emony4 ,:ite /ock+s ) :ite sat9 or kid slipp]s1 long :ite gloves1 & b\quet complete ! co/ume4 ,! 8%[]0 effect1 obta9$ by fa/5+ fl[]s at int]vals on long /ream]s ( n>r[ ribbon1 has1 9 ! op9ion ( ! writ]1 an extremely artificial look2 b _m p admire x4 ,! bridegroom usually gives ! bride "s piece ( jewelry to be worn on ! ev5tful day4 ,h] ornam5ts %\ld be ( diamonds1 pe>ls1 or o!r :ite or colorless /ones4 ,! bridegroom appe>s 9 =mal morn+ or1 z x is sometimes call$1 =mal aft]noon dress1 if ! c]emony takes place 9 ! daytime4 ,fa%ion long dem&$ t he %\ld we> a frock-coat1 b ?is impos+ g>m5t has suff]$ some?+ ( an eclipse1 ! cutaway (t5 replac+ x4 ,! tailors1 9 solemn convocation1 rec5tly decid$ t ! frock-coat c\ld n altoge!r be bani%$1 s9ce x is popul> ) ! great /atesm5 ( our nation4 ,:i*ev] /yle ( coat ! groom selects1 he we>s ) x a high-cut wai/coat to mat* or a :ite "o1 d>k /rip$ tr\s]s1 lav5d]1 gray1 or :ite silk f\r-9-h& tie1 pat5t-lea!r %oes1 & high silk hat4 ,a fancy wai/coat ( ano!r color is sometimes worn1 b x mu/ n be gay or l\d4 ,if gloves are worn1 !y %\ld be light-gray or :ite4 ,8 :ite b\tonnire b\quet is ! gift ( ! bride1 :o be/[s simil> decorations on ! u%]s4 ,^! g5tlem5 are all dress$ alike1 _! co/ume & t ( ! be/ man correspond+ to ! bridegroom's4 ,! bride's fa!r w probably pref] a frock-coat ) wai/coat to mat*4 ,z a rule all ! m5 pres5t at a w$d+ 9 ! morn+ or aft]noon don =mal morn+ dress4 ,9 ! summ] sack-coats & /raw hats are occasionally worn at a c\ntry w$d+4 ,if ! c]emony takes place 9 ! ev5+1 ! groom & u%]s appe> 9 black swall[-tail coats1 ) tr\s]s to mat*1 l[-cut :ite wai/coats1 n>r[ :ite lawn ties1 & pumps or pat5t-lea!r %oes4 ,! dress ( ! o!r m5 pres5t is ! same1 ?\gh "s may pref] to we> a black dress-wai/coat to mat* ! suit4 ,! bridesmaids' co/ume is usually ( "s pretty1 light color & s(t mat]ial4 ,?is %\ld1 l ! bride's1 be only slightly cut d[n 9 ! neck1 9 ! daytime4 ,! inevitable hat is an important feature1 & (t5 a *>m+ 8creation40 ,long :ite gloves & a b\quet complete ! co/ume4 ,! latt] is ! gift ( ! bridegroom1 & usually mat*es or tones 9 ) ! dress or its trimm+s4 ,! bride's "m we>s lilac1 gray1 black-&-:ite1 mauve1 or "s quiet color t is becom+ to h]1 ) bonnet or hat to mat*4 ,%e mu/ c>efully avoid any affectation ( y\? 9 h] co/ume1 s9ce ?is w\ld be 9 poor ta/e & w\ld inevitably cause unfavorable comm5t4 ,h5ce ! mat]ial ( h] g[n is ( heavi] fabric ?an t *os5 by ! y\ng] memb]s ( ! bridal p>ty4 ,silk1 sat91 velvet1 brocade are all appropriate4 ,! bodice %\ld be practically high 9 ! neck or only slightly cut out1 al?\gh x may h a lace yoke & trimm+s4 ,! bride's "m usually removes h] wrap be=e go+ up ! aisle1 an u%] c>ry+ x = h]4 ,! groom's "m we>s a simil> co/ume1 ! "y girls ( bo? families appe>+ 9 pretty high-neck$ frocks ( light color1 ) dressy hats4 ,no memb] ( ! bridal p>ty %\ld appe> 9 m\rn+ g>b4 ,! wid[$ "m1 ev51 lays x aside = ! day4 ,at a *ur* w$d+ all ! wom5 appe> 9 hats or bonnets1 accord+ to ! mod]n cu/om4 ,! gue/s we> h&some reception dress1 especially if !y are go+ on to ! h\se ( ! bride's p>5ts4 ,^? :o are ask$ only to ! c]emony we> _! be/ /reet co/ume ) :ite gloves4 ,:]e ! c]emony is p]=m$ at ! h\se 9 ! ev5+1 all we> ev5+ dress & g )\t hats4 ,= a home w$d+ 9 ! daytime ! gue/s reta9 ^!1 b ! bride's "m & o!r memb]s ( ! receiv+-p>ty appe> )\t !m4 ,a bride may pref] to be m>ri$ quietly 9 travel+-dress4 ,if ?is is ! co/ume 9 :i* %e int5ds actually to travel1 x %\ld be ( mat]ial & color suitable = t purpose4 ,a pretty & becom+ %ade %\ld be select$1 b n an extremely delicate "o4 ,clo? or o!r wool5 mat]ial is suitable = ! cold mon?s1 a silk5 or wool5 /uff ( light weight = summ]4 ,a pretty hat & :ite gloves complete ! co/ume1 or1 if pref]r$1 ^! may correspond 9 color ) ! dress4 ,a bride may1 if %e pleases1 be m>ri$ 9 a walk+-suit ( a v light color1 *ang+ ?is = a quiet] dress be=e %e />ts on ! w$d+ j\rney4 ,9 spite ( ! wide adv]tisem5t ( our fri5d ,miss ,phbe ,sn[1 x is n 9 good ta/e to we> :ite 9 a railway c>1 except 9 ! height ( summ]1 :5 wa%-dresses may be consid]$ p]missible on acc\nt ( ! heat4 ,a bride :o we>s :ite on h] w$d+ j\rney /amps h]self z prov9cial4 ,a "y woman :o is m>ri$ 9 travel+-dress does n h bridesmaids4 ,if %e wi%es to h a fri5d /& up ) h]1 ! latt] also %\ld be 9 /reet dress1 ) hat or bonnet4 ,,gifts ,,& ,,h[ ,,to ,,pres5t ,,!m ,:5 a "y c\ple are ab\t to beg9 life toge!r & to e/abli% a new home1 !y are confront$ at once ) ! unpleasant "q ( exp5se4 ,to furni% _! abode1 h[ev] simply1 takes a consid]able sum ( money4 ,h5ce1 some:]e 9 ! dim pa/ ! cu/om ( mak+ w$d+-pres5ts arose1 fri5ds assi/+ ! bridal pair 9 ! creation ( a home ( _! own4 ,s\nd political economy z well z pleasant s5tim5t1 !re=e1 und]lies ?is usage4 ,! welf>e & prosp]ity ( ! individual home promote ^? ( ! l>g] home--! ,/ate4 ,9 s5d+ gifts to a "y c\ple x is well to be> ?is tru? 9 m9d1 =1 al?\gh p]fectly self-evid5t1 x is (t5 =gott54 ,we %\ld try to select pres5ts t w be ( use to _! recipi5ts4 ,_! value ne$ n be m]ely mat]ial2 x may be spiritual or e/hetic4 ,beautiful pictures1 books ( solid & la/+ int]e/1 are z important features ( a dwell+ z *airs & tables4 ,silv]w>e is a /&>d gift because ( its usefulness4 ,x has n[ gr[n s mu* *eap]1 ! price be+ less ?an half :at x 0 "s ye>s ago1 t almo/ any "o c af=d to s5d an article made ( ?is metal4 ,"s brides h be5 fairly ov]load$ ) silv]1 receiv+ f> m ?an !y1 9 _! mode/ homes1 7 able to use4 ,h5ce x is well to consult a memb] ( ! bride's family or a ne> fri5d z to :at %e w\ld really l to receive4 ,! ma9 outfit ( silv]--a tea-s]vice1 "o or m doz5s ( ! diff]5t sizes ( =ks1 knives1 & spoons--are giv5 by ! imm$iate families ( ! bride & groom1 :5 _! means p]mit4 ,ne> relations--aunts1 uncles1 & c\s9s--sometimes jo9 9 ! gift or supplem5t x ) o!r ne$$ articles ( silv]w>e4 ,fri5ds also s5d l>ge or small pieces 9 accordance ) _! means & ) ! ne$s ( ! "y c\ple4 ,! fa%ion ( us+ ornam5tal & useful appliances made ( ?is metal = ! toilette-table1 ! desk1 etc41 has be5 s run into ! gr\nd1 *eap imitations h become s common1 t "s o!r mat]ial is n[ pref]r$--ivory or tortoise-%ell1 = in/ance4 ,jewelry is s de> to ! he>t ( woman & =ms s important a feature ( dress t mo/ brides l to receive x1 ev5 ?\gh x _c be class$ z a necess>y "p ( _! outfit4 ,:ile an eld]ly fri5d may s5d a jewel1 ! privilege is d5i$ to "y unm>ri$ m51 unless !y are relatives4 ,?is is an old rule ( ,mrs4 ,grundy1 :o also =bids ! be/[al ( any article ( clo?+ by "y ba*elor fri5ds4 ,bric--brac has m]cifully gone out ( fa%ion4 ,x is p]missible1 h[ev]1 to give 8objects ( art0 t des]ve ! "n4 ,intimate fri5ds sometimes s5d a doz5 ( %eets ) embroid]$ initials1 or a set ( h&some t[els4 ,! pretty articles ( decorative table l95 n[ s mu* 9 vogue1 lun*-clo?s1 c5t]pieces1 & doilies1 make v *>m+ w$d+-gifts4 ,*9a & glassw>e = ! table may be bo? pretty & useful4 ,relatives & old family fri5ds may s5d *ecks1 if !y *oose4 ,:5 an article is m>k$1 ! maid5 initials ( ! bride are us$4 ,! old cu/om ( m>k+ silv] ) ! initials ( ! giv5 names ( bo? ! bride & groom1 toge!r ) t ( ! la/ "n s soon to belong to !m bo?1 has be5 reviv$ to "s ext5t4 ,if ! article giv5 is "o likely to be duplicat$1 x is bett] n to h x m>k$1 because ! bride may wi% to ex*ange x4 ,inde$1 "s ?\ghtful p]sons say frankly3 8,if y want to *ange ?is1 pray d n hesitate to d s40 ,:ile s5tim5t makes u desire to keep ! gift *os5 by a fri5d1 x is und5iably inconv5i5t to possess "o doz5 pepp]-pots & n a s+le salt-cell>6 ,ow+ d\btless to ! 8total depravity ( inanimate ?+s10 !re is almo/ sure to be an ov]plus ( "s article & a deficit ( ano!r4 ,! "q is sometimes ask$1 8,:5 & h[ %all ,i pres5t my gift to ! bride80 ,! answ] to ! fir/ qu]y is1 ^u receipt ( ! invitation to ! w$d+ or z soon aft] z is conv5i5t4 ,x may happ5 t on acc\nt ( abs5ce1 illness1 or "s o!r good & suffici5t reason ! gift is delay$4 ,9 ?is case "o ne$ n hesitate to s5d x1 ) a note ( explanation1 aft] ! m>riage has tak5 place4 ,! la/ gift is sometimes receiv$ sev]al mon?s or ev5 a ye> aft] ! day ( ! nuptials4 ,manife/ly1 h[ev]1 x is be/ to s5d promptly4 ,!re is no =mal pres5tation1 h[ev]4 ,only intimate fri5ds are privileg$ to place ! gift 9 ! bride's h&s4 ,= all o!rs cu/om dem&s t x %all be s5t--express prepaid1 ( c\rse--to ! h\se ( h] p>5ts4 ,! family & fri5ds ( ! bridegroom con=m to ?is rule1 ev5 :5 !y are n p]sonally acqua9t$ ) 8 fiance4 ,! groom occasionally receives a few gifts = 8 p]sonal use1 :i* are s5t directly to him4 ,! easie/1 simple/1 & be/ way ( =w>d+ a w$d+-pres5t is to h x despat*$ f ! /ore :]e x is pur*as$4 ,9 a l>ge city ! jewel]'s1 silv]w>e1 & *9aw>e %ops keep small envelopes & blank c>ds = use1 9 case ! pur*as] has omitt$ to br+ h] own visit+-c>d4 ,on ?is ! giv] writes h] "n ) a brief message1 su* z3 8,) ! be/ wi%es ( ----10 8,) love & be/ wi%es10 or 8,wi%+ y all possible happ9ess40 ,m>ri$ p use _! jo9t c>d1 8,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,/eph5 ,curtis10 = ?is purpose4 ,! salesman %\ld be in/ruct$ to remove ! price & to d ! gift up 9 ! da9tie/ mann]1 :ite ribbon be+ (t5 employ$4 ,x is also wise = ! s5d] to give him h] address & ask to be notifi$ ( ! due arrival ( ! gift4 ,s9ce a receipt is n[ dem&$ by silv]smi?s & o!rs1 x w\ld be an easy matt] to give ! pur*as] ?is in=mation1 !reby sav+ anxiety to h] & tr\ble to ! bride's family4 ,! latt] are (t5 call$ up on ! telephone by fri5ds :o h n at ! mom5t receiv$ any ackn[l$gm5t ( _! pres5t4 ,x is ! pleasant duty ( ! bride to write promptly1 ?ank+ h] fri5ds cordially = ! sub/antial expression ( _! good w4 ,a *>m+ "y woman :o 0 ab\t to be m>ri$ said to me1 8,i write at once on receiv+ a pres5t2 9 ?is way ,i am sure to express ! delight ,i feel at ! mom5t40 ,x is q possible to d ?is :5 ! gifts beg9 to arrive4 ,b z ! "t = ! w$d+ draws ne>1 a bride ) a l>ge circle ( fri5ds is sometimes ov]:elm$ by ! great numb] ( packages receiv$ 9 a s+le day4 ,^? :o s5d _! pres5ts )9 ?ree or f\r days ( ! c]emony _c expect to h !m ackn[l$g$ spe$ily4 ,if unable to write be=e h] m>riage1 ! bride %\ld d s z soon aft]w>d z possible4 ,a c>eful record ( all ! gifts1 ) ! names & addresses ( ! s5d]s1 %\ld be made by "s memb] ( ! family1 z fa/ z !y arrive4 ,bride-books come especially = ! purpose1 & w be f\nd v conv5i5t by ^? possess+ a l>ge circle ( fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,9 ackn[l$g+ a w$d+-pres5t x is always well ei!r to "n ! gift or to allude to x 9 "s def9ite way1 z = in/ance3 ,y\r beautiful gift w n only make u ?9k ( y1 b w m>k ! passage ( ! h\rs & s help u to cultivate punctuality4 ,"s p]sons imag9e t an invitation to a w$d+ c>ries ) x ! obligation to make a pres5t1 & t ^? n ask$ give no?+4 ,?is is a mi/ake4 ,x %\ld r be said t any "o :o is invit$ is at lib]ty1 b n "u any obligation1 to s5d a gift4 ,relatives & intimate fri5ds w\ld d s1 :e!r invit$ or n4 ,circum/ances may make x imp]ative to h ! c]emony p]=m$ v quietly & to omit ! usual reception4 ,x is true t _m ( ^? invit$ to ! bride's h\se s5d a gift1 ?\gh by no means all4 ,a "y woman :o has a l>ge w$d+ w receive m pres5ts ?an "o :o simply s5ds out ann\ncem5t c>ds aft] ! c]emony4 ,! family cl]gyman & physician are n expect$ to make gifts1 = obvi\s reasons4 ,fri5ds :o are 9 m\rn+ d s1 ev5 if unable to att5d ! w$d+4 ,! exp5se ( ! pres5t %\ld be 9 a c]ta9 proportion to ! means ( ! giv]4 ,^? :o are tempt$ to give some?+ m exp5sive ?an !y c af=d %\ld rememb] t x w\ld be pa9ful to a bride possess$ ( delicacy ( feel+ to ?9k t %e _h ov]tax$ ! g5]osity ( a fri5d4 ,if "o _c af=d to sp5d mu* money1 "o %\ld atone = x by giv+ pl5ty ( ?\ght to ! selection ( ! gift4 ,= ?is purpose x is well to consult "s memb] ( ! family1 or an intimate fri5d1 ab\t ! bride's ta/es & wi%es4 ,a pres5t t is c>efully *os5 to meet ! ne$s ( ! recipi5t (t5 gives m pleasure ?an a v exp5sive article select$ at r&om4 ,bus9ess associates or ^? :o are "u obligations to ei!r ( ! two families s5d gifts if !y receive invitations4 ,! cu/om ( display+ ! pres5ts on ! day ( ! w$d+ has gone out ( fa%ion 9 l>ge cities4 ,x is ?\ght bett] to %[ !m only to intimate fri5ds1 :o are ask$ to call 9 an in=mal way %ortly be=e ! w$d+-day4 ,9 c\ntry places ! gifts are sometimes exhibit$ at ! reception on ! day ( ! m>riage4 ,!y are usually set out 9 an up-/airs room1 ! c>ds ( ! giv]s be+ remov$ 9 ord] to prev5t invidi\s comp>isons4 ,! gue/s invit$ to a w$d+ may be few or _m1 z ! bride's family f9d conv5i5t4 ,if ! c]emony is to take place at a l>ge *ur*1 invitations are (t5 s5t to all ^? on ! visit+-li/s ( ! p>5ts ( bo? "y p1 z well z to ! fri5ds ( ! latt]4 ,"s graci\s & ?\ghtful brides d n =get to s5d to c]ta9 p]sons n on _! visit+-li/s--humble fri5ds :o s9c]ely appreciate su* a remembrance4 ,if a "y woman pref]s to h only h] relatives & ne> fri5ds pres5t at h] m>riage1 %e w probably please h] fianc1 = m5 usually dislike v mu* ! p>ade & %[ ( a l>ge w$d+4 ,:]e only a limit$ circle are invit$ to att5d ! c]emony1 g5]al invitations are sometimes s5t out = ! reception foll[+ x4 ,?is arrangem5t c be made = ei!r a home or a *ur* w$d+4 ,! bride's "m mu/ be c>eful1 h[ev]1 n to ov]cr[d h] rooms4 ,9 summ] a c\ntry h\se may be readily enl>g$ by clos+ 9 ! piazzas1 or a l>ge t5t may be plac$ on ! lawn4 ,:5 ! :ole circle ( fri5ds & acqua9tances h be5 invit$ to ! *ur*1 !re w be no cause = compla9t if only relatives & intimate fri5ds are ask$ to ! reception4 ,w$d+ invitations %\ld be engrav$ on pla91 heavy :ite pap] ( ! be/ quality4 ,! family cre/ 9 :ite is sometimes emboss$ on ?is4 ,! envelopes mat* ! pap] & are )\t device or ornam5t4 ,! foll[+ is a prop] =m3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,amos ,lit*field reque/ ! honor ( y\r pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,l\isa ,alsop to ,mr4 ,james ,otis ,griswold on ! aft]noon ( ,?ursday1 ! f\r? ( ,novemb]1 at f\r o'clock at ! ,*ur* ( ! ,disciples ,am/]dam ,av5ue & ,eightie? ,/reet ,new ,york ,or a blank may be left & ! "n ( ! p]son invit$ be writt5 94 ,if !re are c>ds ( admission to ! *ur*1 !y may read3 ,please pres5t ?is c>d at ! ,*ur* ( ! ,disciples ,am/]dam ,av5ue & ,eightie? ,/reet on ,?ursday1 ! f\r? ( ,novemb] ,if _m gue/s are expect$1 a plan %\ld be made ( ! *ur*1 %[+ h[ ! numb]s ( ! pews run4 ,relatives & fri5ds are assign$ to ^! 9 ! ord] ( _! relation%ip or intimacy ) ! family1 ^? ne>e/ & de>e/ com+ next to ! alt>4 ,! numb] ( ! pew is writt5 on ! c>d ( admission to ! *ur*4 ,! u%]s are provid$ ) duplicate plans1 giv+ ! names ( ^! special gue/s & ! pews !y are to occupy4 ,ano!r me?od is to h c>ds engrav$3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 4 4 4 w please pres5t ?is c>d to an u%] ,! latt] c !n look up ! "n on 8 li/ & see :i* pew has be5 assign$ to t gue/4 ,! bride's family & fri5ds sit on ! left ( ! middle aisle1 ^? ( ! groom on ! "r4 ,! invitations to ! reception are usually engrav$ on a l>ge :ite c>d1 accord+ to ! foll[+ =mula3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,amos ,lit*field reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company or ( 4 4 4 4's company on ,?ursday1 ! f\r? ( ,novemb]1 at half aft] f\r o'clock at ,sev5te5 ,wav]ley ,place ,! fa%ion ( ask+ only a limit$ numb] ( p]sons to ! w$d+ & ( s5d+ out ann\ncem5t c>ds aft]w>d seems to be ga9+ 9 public favor4 ,^! c>ds are s5t to ! fri5ds & acqua9tances ( ! bride & groom & _! p>5ts4 ,a prop] =m is3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,amos ,lit*field h ! honor ( ann\nc+ ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,m>g>et ,l\ise to ,mr4 ,james ,otis ,griswold on ,?ursday1 ! f\r? ( ,novemb]1 ,"o ?\s& n9e hundr$ & f\rte5 at ,w9dym]e ,we/ ,m$=d1 ,massa*usetts ,! ann\ncem5t is engrav$ on ! same sort ( pap] z t us$ = w$d+ invitations4 ,) x may be inclos$ a c>d ) ! address ( ! newly m>ri$ c\ple3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,james ,otis ,griswold ,w be at home ,?ree hundr$ & f\r aft] ! tw5tie? ,we/ ,fiftie? ,/reet ( ,novemb] ,new ,york ,ann\ncem5ts are usually mail$ imm$iately aft] ! m>riage4 ,if ! 8,at ,home0 c>ds are s5t out ) ! invitations1 !y conta9 no "n1 b simply ! /atem5t3 ,w be at home aft] ! tw5tie? ( ,novemb] at ,=ty-f\r ,ea/ ,fiftie? ,/reet1 ,new ,york ,or special reception days may be m5tion$1 z3 ,?ursdays 9 ,decemb]4 ,! c>ds & all ! o!r exp5ses ( ! w$d+1 ) a few exceptions m5tion$ else:]e1 are paid = by ! bride's family4 ,a home w$d+ is ( necessity a simpl] affair ?an "o celebrat$ at *ur*4 ,accord+ to ! good old cu/om1 ! cl]gyman came 9 fir/1 a place be+ arrang$ = him at ! head ( ! room fac+ ! company4 ,! bride & groom !n ent]$ arm-9-arm1 tak+ up _! position 9 front ( ! m9i/]4 ,at ! conclusion ( ! c]emony ! latt] )drew to "o side & ! newly m>ri$ c\ple took 8 place1 turn+ ar\nd to receive ! congratulations ( relatives & fri5ds1 ^? ne>e/ & de>e/ greet+ !m fir/4 ,x has be5 f\nd conv5i5t1 h[ev]1 to m>k (f ) :ite ribbon an aisle d[n :i* ! bride & groom pass4 ,"y girls may hold ! f\r ends1 or ^! may be fa/5$4 ,! cortge is sometimes a m9iature copy ( t se5 9 ! *ur* c]emonial4 ,?us ! u%]s may lead ! procession1 a bridesmaid or two ent]+ next1 ! bride lean+ on h] fa!r's arm foll[+ !m4 ,) ?is arrangem5t ! groom & be/ man ent] a little be=eh&1 /&+ at ! left ( ! cl]gyman4 ,if ! giv+ away ( ! bride is to be omitt$1 ! procession may consi/ ( ! u%]s1 ! be/ man1 a bridesmaid1 & ! bride & groom1 ent]+ 9 ! ord] nam$4 ,!re are (t5 no bridesmaids at a h\se w$d+4 ,! old m>riage c]emony is s beautiful1 s hall[$ by tradition & s5tim5t1 t we are incl9$ to cl+ to x1 al?\gh "s ( its features are ar*aic rema9s ( an old] civilization4 ,n[ t s _m wom5 are indep5d5t citiz5s1 e>n+ _! own liv+ &1 9 _m c\ntries ( ,europe1 z well z 9 t5 ,/ates ( our ,union1 vot+ & hold+ public (fice1 x seems incongru\s to h !m 8giv5 away 9 m>riage40 ,ev5 9 cons]vative ,engl& ! "q ( dropp+ ! ^w 8obey0 f ! s]vice is n[ be+ agitat$ by no less] p]sonages ?an ! bi%ops ( ! ,e/abli%$ ,*ur*6 ,we read t "o ( ^! dignit>ies )drew 8 motion to ?is effect because he saw t ! ecclesia/ical body 0 n yet ready to pass x4 ,! *ur* select$ = ! w$d+ is usually ! "o :i* ! bride & h] family att5d4 ,if ?is is n l>ge en\gh to hold ! gue/s1 ano!r belong+ to ! same d5om9ation is sometimes pref]r$4 ,if ! groom lives 9 ! same t[n z ! bride1 he calls ^u ! cl]gyman & secures 8 s]vices = ! "t :5 ! c]emony is to be p]=m$4 ,if ! fianc lives at a di/ance1 x may be m conv5i5t to h ! arrangem5t made by ! bride's family4 ,9 ei!r ev5t ! groom pays ! cl]gyman's fee4 ,?is v>ies 9 am\nt ) ! =m]'s means & ) ! scale on :i* ! :ole affair is conduct$4 ,s9ce ! "q is left to 8 honor z a g5tleman1 he %\ld surely reimburse ! m9i/] 9 a mann] suit$ to 8 own dignity & to t ( ! occasion4 ,x is 9 ! wor/ possible ta/e to lavi% money on decorat+ ! sacr$ (fice 9 a respl5d5t mann] & !n repay its hospitality by h&+ its (ficial head a small & :olly inadequate sum4 ,= a l>ge & h&some w$d+ ! organi/ receives tw5ty-five doll>s & ! cl]gyman %\ld be giv5 fifty doll>s4 ,if ! bridegroom is a ri* man1 he sometimes d\bles ?is sum4 ,= a small & quiet w$d+1 ! fee w\ld v>y f t5 to tw5ty-five doll>s4 ,five doll>s is said to be ! m9imum4 ,! fee is inclos$ 9 an envelope & h&$ to ! be/ man4 ,x may consi/ ( gold1 new bank-bills1 or a *eck4 ,! la/-nam$ has obvi\s advantages1 = an abs5t-m9d$ be/ man sometimes =gets to give ! missive to ! cl]gyman4 ,gold pieces are (t5 pref]r$1 h[ev]1 s9ce ! old ,engli% cu/om prescrib$ t ! groom %\ld lay ^! & ! w$d+-r+ on ! op5 pray]-book held by ! cl]gyman4 ,! bridegroom also pays = ! r+4 ,if ! w$d+ is to take place at *ur*1 he provides ! conveyance :i* w take him & ! be/ man !re1 br++ ! latt] to ! bride's h\se = ! reception or breakfa/4 ,%\ld ! wea!r be bad or ! di/ance s great z to call = c>riages = ! u%]s1 he provides ^! also1 z well z ! c>riage 9 :i* he & ! bride />t on _! honeymoon trip4 ,he has no o!r exp5ses connect$ ) ! w$d+1 except ! b\quets1 s\v5irs1 etc41 spok5 ( else:]e4 ,! sexton1 organi/1 & flori/ %\ld all be notifi$ 9 good season4 ,! =m] w1 if x is reque/$1 h an awn+ & c>pet betwe5 ! *ur* door & ! curb4 ,= a l>ge w$d+ he w ne$ assi/ants to op5 ! doors ( ! vehicles z !y drive up1 to receive ! c>ds ( admission1 to keep ! l9e mov+ s t ! /reet w n be block$1 to call ! c>riages aft]w>d1 & to protect ! entrance f too great pressure by ! admir+ onlook]s4 ,! ,press has _h "s sad /ories ab\t ! rude behavior1 ! pu%+ & cr[d+ ( ! multitude1 :5 c]ta9 mu*-adv]tis$ w$d+s took place4 ,su* rud5ess is greatly to be deplor$4 ,x occurs to ! philosoph] t a simple & easy way to avoid ! pres5ce ( ^! ill-br$ ?rongs w\ld be to h ! religi\s c]emony conduct$ 9 a quiet] & simpl] mann]4 ,m5 & wom51 p>ticul>ly ! latt]1 are always anxi\s to behold a mu*-h]ald$ spectacle4 ,! organi/ %\ld be told ( ! musical selections made by ! bride4 ,sometimes he plays a subdu$ accompanim5t dur+ ! m>riage c]emony4 ,accord+ to a pleasant mod]n cu/om1 ! fl[]s are s5t f ! *ur* to hospitals aft] ! w$d+4 ,"s compet5t p]son is specially employ$ to att5d to ?is di/ribution4 ,x is contr>y bo? to good mann]s & to ! laws ( ! l& to h any rehe>sal ( ! m>riage c]emony4 ,"o ( ! procession (t5 takes place a day or two 9 advance4 ,! head u%] sets ! pace1 :i* %\ld be r sl[1 b n fun]eal4 ,a "y girl :o 0 giv5 away 9 m>riage by h] gr&fa!r n long ago 0 he>d to :isp] to ! latt]1 z !y w5t up ! aisle1 8,n s fa/1 gr&pa6 ,n s fa/60 ,if ! bride dislikes ! idea ( tak+ "p 9 ! rehe>sal1 %e may be replac$ by a fri5d4 ,! head u%] may be call$ ! ma/] ( c]emonies at ! *ur*4 ,he or "o ( 8 assi/ants %\ld be !re e>ly to see t ev]y?+ is prop]ly arrang$4 ,all ! u%]s %\ld be 9 _! places ?ree-qu>t]s ( an h\r or m be=e ! "t nam$ = ! w$d+4 ,!y /& at ! entrance to ! aisles & escort ! gue/s to ! seats assign$ !m4 ,=m]ly a b>ri] ( :ite ribbon or fl[]s m>k$ (f ! seats 9 ! middle aisle res]v$ = ! relatives & special fri5ds4 ,x is n[ ?\ght bett] n to f5ce (f ! aisle 9 ?is way1 b simply to indicate ! division by means ( a b[ or a bun* ( fl[]s4 ,if ! gue/s h c>ds on :i* _! names or ! numb]s ( ! pews !y are to occupy are writt51 !y d n give ^! up at ! door1 b reta9 !m to %[ to ! u%]4 ,:]e !re are no su* c>ds = 8 guidance1 he inquires ! "n & consults 8 li/ or 8 memory4 ,if he is n sure on :i* side ! gue/ belongs1 he asks :e!r ! latt] is a fri5d ( ! bride or ( ! groom4 ,! head u%]1 :o is /ation$ 9 ! middle aisle1 usually has "s acqua9tance ) mo/ ( ! *ief gue/s4 ,! groom & be/ man arrive 9 good season1 rema9+ 9 ! ve/ry or rob+-room until aft] ! cl]gyman has appe>$ ^u ! sc5e4 ,!y !n em]ge f _! concealm5t & /& at ! back ( ! *ancel1 wait+ = ! arrival ( ! bridal cortge4 ,! bride's "m does n =m "p ( ?is1 b is escort$ to h] place by an u%] %ortly be=e its appe>ance4 ,9 ! mean "t ! bridesmaids repair 9 _! c>riages to ! h\se ( ! bride1 9 ord] t all may />t toge!r = ! *ur*4 ,%e & h] fa!r %\ld be ready at ! h\r agre$ ^u1 _! c>riage br++ up ! re> ( ! little procession4 ,z x approa*es ! *ur*1 ! u%]s close 9 ! pews ( ! middle aisle by c>ry+ a :ite ribbon d[n ei!r side ( x4 ,?is %\ld n be remov$ until ! bridal p>ty has driv5 away at ! conclusion ( ! c]emony4 ,z ! c>riages ( ! bridal p>ty appe>1 ! u%]s see t all doors are clos$ f ! ve/ibule into ! *ur*1 z well z ^? lead+ into ! /reet1 except+ t by :i* ! cortge is to ent]4 ,! head bridesmaid1 or ! maid ( honor1 spreads out ! bride's tra91 unless ?is is done by a special att5dant4 ,! procession !n =ms1 ! doors ( ! c5tral aisle are ?r[n op51 & ! organi/ plays ! w$d+ m>*4 ,! u%]s come fir/1 walk+ 9 pairs2 ! bridesmaids foll[1 !n ! maid ( honor1 & la/ ( all ! bride ) h] fa!r4 ,! bridegroom comes =w>d1 takes ! bride's h&1 & leads h] be=e ! cl]gyman4 ,half ! bridesmaids & u%]s n[ turn to ! left & take up _! places ne> ! bridal c\ple1 ! o!r half d ! same on ! "r1 ! girls /&+ on ! inside1 ! m5 on ! outside4 ,if !re is a maid ( honor1 %e %\ld be at ! bride's left2 if !re is none1 !n ! fir/ bridesmaid takes ?is position 9 ord] to help h] fri5d pull (f h] left glove :5 ! r+ is to be put on1 to remove ! veil f h] face at ! close ( ! c]emony1 & to see t h] tra9 is prop]ly arrang$ z %e />ts to walk d[n ! aisle4 ,if ! bride & groom are to kneel d[n1 x is well to provide hassocks = ! purpose4 ,! bridesmaids & u%]s rema9 /&+1 h[ev]4 ,some?+ ( a s5sation 0 caus$ at a rec5t fa%ionable w$d+ 9 ,bo/on :5 an emotional "y man knelt d[n1 to ! con/]nation ( 8 fell[s4 ,! o!r u%]s 7 oblig$ to foll[ suit1 ! twelve go+ d[n ^u _! knees 9 a semicircle4 ,! fa!r ( ! bride rema9s /&+ a little beh9d ! "y c\ple1 until ! cl]gyman asks :o gives h] away4 ,he !n /eps =w>d & places h] "r h& 9 t ( ! cl]gyman1 :o 9 turn puts x 9 ! groom's "r h&4 ,?is is 9 accordance ) ! ritual ( ! ,episcopal ,*ur*4 ,sometimes ! fa!r intimates 8 cons5t m]ely by b[+1 b ! fir/ m5tion$ is ! bett] way4 ,8 "p 9 ! c]emony n[ be+ at an end1 he retires to ! pew :]e 8 wife is sitt+4 ,if ! bride's fa!r is n liv+1 h] olde/ bro!r or ne>e/ male relative gives h] away4 ,a wid[$ "m sometimes p]=ms ?is (fice4 ,gue/s %\ld come to ! *ur* 9 good season1 s t !y may be settl$ quietly 9 _! places be=e ! arrival ( ! bridal p>ty4 ,to come at ! la/ mom5t is n accord+ to good =m4 ,at ! conclusion ( ! c]emony !y %\ld rema9 9 ! pews until ! w$d+ procession & ! ne> relations h pass$ out4 ,^? :o h receiv$ invitations to ! reception !n g to ! h\se ( ! bride's p>5ts4 ,x is well n to ha/5 !re too rapidly1 h[ev]1 z ! bridal p>ty w ne$ a few mom5ts to arrange !mselves4 ,z ! bride's "m is ! ho/ess ( ! occasion1 %e & ! fa!r may /& ne> ! door ( ! draw+-room s z to greet ! gue/s z !y ent]4 ,/rang]s ask ! u%]s to pres5t !m4 ,all !n pass on to ! end ( ! ap>tm5t1 :]e ! bride & groom /& toge!r1 ! bridesmaids be+ on ! "r ( ! =m]2 or !y may be divid$ 9 ! same way z at ! *ur*1 half on ei!r side ( ! "y c\ple4 ,! groom's p>5ts /& ne> by4 ,! o!r gue/s %\ld be pres5t$ to !m4 ,! bride greets all cordially1 %ak+ h&s ) !m & pres5t+ to h] husb& ^? ) :om he is n acqua9t$4 ,only ne> relations & intimate fri5ds are privileg$ to kiss ! bride4 ,at a l>ge w$d+ reception !re is n "t to say mu* to ! newly m>ri$ c\ple1 z ! l9e passes on rapidly4 ,:]e !re is only a fri5dly acqua9tance1 x suffices to say1 8,i wi% y e possible happ9ess10 or some?+ ( ! sort4 ,if ! pres5ts are on exhibition1 ! gue/s g up-/airs to see !m & !n pass on into ! d9+-room4 ,?is me?od ( hav+ ! company g =w>d 9 l9e %\ld be adopt$ :]e _m p are pres5t4 ,x is quick] ?an ! old cu/om1 9 accordance ) :i* ! be/ man & u%]s escort$ ! gue/s up to ! bride & groom & ! p>5ts4 ,^! "y m5 are always on h&1 h[ev]1 act+ z ma/]s ( c]emony4 ,!y introduce /rang]s to ! bride & groom & ask p to g into ! d9+-room4 ,!re !y wait ^u ! ladies :o are )\t escort4 ,! collation is s]v$ f a l>ge c5tral table 9 ! d9+-room4 ,"s cat]]s arrange a buffet at ! side1 ?us tak+ up less space4 ,= a l>ge reception ! bill ( f>e w\ld comprise b\illon1 salads1 croquettes1 oy/]s 9 _! season1 ices1 little cakes1 & c(fee4 ,birds & o!r delicacies are sometimes add$4 ,if w9e is s]v$ x is usually *ampagne4 ,= a w$d+ 9 ! c\ntry ! m5u may be mu* simpl]1 *ick5 salad1 s&wi*es1 ice-cream1 & c(fee1 = in/ance4 ,inde$1 x is p]fectly prop]1 :]e only a few fri5ds are invit$1 to (f] cake & w9e alone4 ,! bride & groom rema9 9 _! places until all ! gue/s h _h an opportunity to greet !m4 ,?is means t !y w /ay !re dur+ ! great] "p ( ! reception1 if _m p]sons are pres5t4 ,:]e ! w$d+ is n a l>ge "o !y repair to ! d9+-room1 or refre%m5ts may be br\ght to !m 9 ! draw+-room4 ,9 ! =m] case ! be/ man or "s ne> fri5d proposes _! heal?1 all honor+ ! toa/ by /&+1 glass 9 h&1 & tak+ at lea/ a sip ( ! w9e4 ,! bride rema9s dur+ an h\r or m ( ! reception1 & !n )draws to assume h] travel+-dress4 ,a si/]1 ! maid ( honor1 or "o or m ( ! bridesmaids help h] to d ?is1 :ile ! "m comes 9 be=e h] daught] is ready to leave ! room4 ,! la/ good-by is1 ( c\rse1 = ?is de> p>5t4 ,! maid ( honor & ! be/ man d :at !y c to facilitate ! escape ( ! "y c\ple f ! fri5ds :o are wait+ 9 ! front hall to bomb>d !m ) rice1 confetti1 or fl[]s4 ,?is me?od ( salut+ ! bride & groom is s well e/abli%$ t x seems be/ to accept x philosophically & good-natur$ly4 ,"s "y m5 are n satisfi$ ) rice or confetti ?r[+1 b indulge 9 a r[dyism ( behavior t _c be too /rongly condemn$4 ,! bride creates a div]sion by dropp+ h] b\quet f ! elevator or ! top ( ! /airs4 ,h] "y wom5 fri5ds scramble = x1 ! p]son :o cat*es x be+ sure to m>ry )9 ! ye>1 accord+ to ! old sup]/ition4 ,:]e ! m>riage takes place at noon1 a w$d+ breakfa/ may be arrang$ = ! bridal p>ty alone1 or = z _m gue/s z ! h\se w hold com=tably4 ,9 ! w>m season ! v]&a & lawns ( a c\ntry h\se are also utiliz$4 ,! breakfa/ may be s]v$ 8en buffet0 z at a reception1 or ! company may be seat$ at "o or m tables1 9 accordance ) ! numb] pres5t4 ,! latt] is ! m elegant me?od1 b requires m s]vice4 ,if _m p]sons are invit$1 !re is usually a l>ge c5tral table ornam5t$ ) :ite fl[]s = ! bridal p>ty1 ) small] ones = ! re/ ( ! company4 ,:5 ! collation is ready ! groom gives 8 arm to ! bride & leads ! way to ! d9+-room1 foll[$ by ! bride's fa!r ) ! groom's "m1 ! groom's fa!r ) ! bride's "m1 ! be/ man ) ! maid ( honor or fir/ bridesmaid1 & ! o!r bridesmaids1 ea* be+ escort$ by an u%]4 ,sometimes ! cl]gyman :o p]=ms ! m>riage c]emony takes 9 ! bride's "m1 all[+ ! o!rs to prec$e !m z a ho/ess w\ld at a d9n]4 ,9 ?is case ! groom's fa!r takes 9 ! bride's aunt or "s o!r memb] ( h] family4 ,! newly m>ri$ c\ple sit side by side at ! head ( ! table1 ! bride's "m sitt+ at ! foot1 betwe5 ! groom's fa!r & ! cl]gyman4 ,accord+ to ano!r arrangem5t1 ! bride's fa!r ) ! groom's "m sits beside 8 daught]1 ! bride's "m ) ! groom's fa!r com+ next to ! bridegroom4 ,half ! bridesmaids & u%]s sit on ea* side ( ! table4 ,if ! newly m>ri$ c\ple sit 9 ! middle ( "o side in/ead ( at ! head1 ! bridesmaids & u%]s are plac$ opposite to !m4 ,%\ld ! size ( ! table p]mit & ! bride's "m s desire1 o!r relatives or fri5ds may be plac$ !re4 ,inde$1 at a small breakfa/ all ! gue/s are seat$ at "o table4 ,9 ?is case x is well to h place-c>ds4 ,at a l>ge w$d+ ! gue/s n belong+ to ! bridal p>ty foll[ ! latt] into ! d9+-room1 ent]+ )\t =mality4 ,sometimes ! small tables are arrang$ 9 ! adjo9+ rooms & 9 ! hall4 ,no place-c>ds are us$ = ^!4 ,! breakfa/ is s]v$ 9 c\rses1 end+ ) aft]-d9n] c(fee2 x is usually accompani$ by *ampagne4 ,x is accord+ to old tradition to h ! bride cut ! cake2 b %e does no?+ m ?an to ins]t ! knife1 ! att5dants divid+ x into slices & h&+ ^! ab\t4 ,! mo/ s5sible way ( di/ribut+ ! cake is to h x pack$ 9 boxes be=eh& by ! cat]]4 ,^! are arrang$ on a table 9 ! front hall1 a s]vant h&+ a box to ea* p]son z he leaves4 ,at ! close ( ! repa/1 ! heal? ( ! bride & groom is propos$ by ! be/ man1 by ! fa!r ( ! groom1 or by an old family fri5d4 ,! fa!r ( ! bride or ! bridegroom himself sometimes responds4 ,if any spee*es are to be made1 ! speak]s %\ld be notifi$ be=eh&4 ,at ! conclusion ( ^! or ( ! toa/s ! bride retires to put on h] travel+-dress4 ,:]e ! two families :o are ab\t to be unit$ by m>riage live at a di/ance f ea* o!r1 ! bride's p>5ts %\ld invite ! groom's fa!r & "m or o!r ne> relatives to /ay ) !m4 ,%\ld x n be conv5i5t to ex]cise ?is p]sonal hospitality1 !y %\ld engage rooms at a hotel = ^! out-(-t[n gue/s4 ,9 ! c\ntry or 9 a suburban t[n ! bride's aunts1 c\s9s1 & ne> fri5ds ?r[ op5 _! h\ses & ent]ta9 z _m ( ! w$d+-p>ty z !y c4 ,= ! rema9d]1 accommodations are secur$ at ! local inn or at a bo>d+-h\se4 ,all ?is %\ld be def9itely arrang$ be=eh&4 ,ea* lady :o has k9dly cons5t$ to act z a ho/ess %\ld write a p]sonal note ( invitation to ! gue/s allott$ to h]1 ask+ !m to /ay at h] h\se or ap>tm5t4 ,%e %\ld inquire at :at "t !y w arrive1 & %\ld g to meet ! ladies1 or s5d "s "o to d s1 on _! arrival at ! /ation4 ,if %e possesses an automobile or a c>riage or c borr[ "o1 %e w g 9 t4 ,x is c\rte\s to s5d a conveyance to meet ! g5tlem5 also2 b x is n necess>y1 z m5 c usually take c>e ( !mselves4 ,! bride's p>5ts ?us ex]cise a vic>i\s hospitality1 9 addition to do+ :at !y c p]sonally to make ! visitors welcome4 ,!y w1 if possible1 invite ! fri5ds f a di/ance to _! h\se on ! day prec$+ ! m>riage4 ,! ent]ta9m5t may take ! =m ( a d9n]1 or ! gue/s may be ask$ to come 9 ! ev5+ v in=mally4 ,! bride's family %\ld greet !m all ) mu* cordiality4 ,simple refre%m5ts su* z lemonade1 c(fee1 or ice-cream ) cake may be s]v$4 ,! pres5ts may be on view 9 a room up-/airs4 ,! bride's p>5ts d n pay ! hotel bills ( fri5ds & relatives com+ to ! w$d+ f a di/ance1 unless !y h invit$ ! latt] to come z _! gue/s4 ,!y may assume ?is exp5se if !y please1 b x is 9 no way obligatory = !m to d s4 ,:5 a w$d+ takes place 9 ! neighborhood ( a l>ge city & _m ( ! gue/s come by tra91 ! bride's family %\ld make sure t !re are conveyances at ! /ation to br+ to ! h\se or *ur* p]sons :o _c well walk4 ,if ! wea!r is good1 & ! /reet-c>s pass conv5i5tly ne>1 only a few c>riages may be ne$$4 ,if ! bride's fa!r is a man ( means1 he w engage vehicles ( "s sort to meet ! tra9 & transport all ! gue/s at 8 exp5se4 ,special c>s or special tra9s are sometimes provid$ = out-(-t[n w$d+s4 ,9 ?is case p]sons receiv+ invitations %\ld respond promptly & def9itely1 9 ord] t ! ho/ may "k :at railroad & o!r accommodations w be necess>y4 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,,vii ,,public ,,d9n]s ,,& ,,receptions ,lun*eons ( ,wom5's ,clubs--,duties ( ,d9n] & ,reception ,committees--,arrangem5ts 9 ,suburban ,t[ns--,! ,c\rte\s & ! ,disc\rte\s ,gue/--,ev5+ ,dress & ,demi-toilette4 ,,!re are sev]al def9itions ( ! phrase 8a public d9n]40 ,we may hold t x means only ^? l>ge g5]al functions1 usually ( a political nature1 :i* are virtually op5 to ! public on paym5t ( a c]ta9 sum at a /at$ "t4 ,or we may give ! t]m a mu* broad] application & include "u x all d9n]s t are n private1 su* z ! banquets ( clubs & societies1 to :i* tickets are pur*as$ by memb]s ( ! organization & _! fri5ds4 ,9 ?is *apt] ! phrase is us$ 9 its broad] & m g5]al mean+4 ,a public d9n] is usually a subscription affair1 all pay+ = _! tickets except ! specially invit$ gue/s4 ,^! are ( two classes--namely1 ! p]sons invit$ by ! association or club z a :ole1 & ^? :o are ask$ by ! individual memb]s4 ,an invitation to subscribe is s5t to all :o are likely to be int]e/$ 9 ! object ( ! occasion1 or to a small & select circle1 z ! case may dem&4 ,if ?is is to conta9 full in=mation1 a d\ble %eet ( :ite note-pap] %\ld be us$4 ,x may be ornam5t$ ) a suitable device1 su* z ! national flag or a lik5ess ( ! h]o ( ! day4 ,! matt] may be engrav$1 or pr9t$1 if ! "w is done 9 ?or\ghly good /yle4 ,pla9 black type ( two or ?ree sizes1 b all 9 ! same /yle1 has a v good effect4 ,! =mula = ! fir/ page may be z foll[s3 ,y are invit$ to att5d ,! ,second ,annual ,,wa%+ton',s ,,bir?day ,,d9n] ( ! ,,republican ,,p>ty to be held at ! ,,waldorf-,,a/oria ,fif? ,av5ue & ,?irty-?ird ,/reet ,new ,york ,city ,monday ev5+1 ,febru>y tw5ty-?ird ,n9ete5 hundr$ & fifte5 at sev5 o'clock ,ladies are invit$ ,! second page may conta9 ! li/ ( speak]s & _! subjects4 ,on ! ?ird page additional in=mation may be ins]t$1 z1 = in/ance3 ,,notice ,! d9n] w be s]v$ at #g3ae ,p4,m4 %>p1 & w end at #aa3ae ,p4,m4 %>p4 ,z x w be run on s*$ule "t1 y may dep5d on bo? h\rs4 ,tickets w be #e4jj ea*2 ! tables seat t54 ,please reply on ! inclos$ blank4 ,*ecks %\ld be made payable to ,john ,doe1 ,treasur]1 & s5t to him at #cb ,am/]dam ,av5ue1 ,new ,york ,city1 ,telephone #cghi ,spr+4 ,^? s5d+ 9 _! remittances at once w receive a pref]5ce 9 ! seat+4 ,! names ( ! memb]s ( ! ,d9n] ,committee foll[4 ,:]e x is unnecess>y to set =? ! attractions ( ! affair 9 ord] to procure subscrib]s1 ! li/ ( ! speak]s & committeem5 may be omitt$4 ,a pr9t$ subscription-blank & envelope address$ to ! treasur] are inclos$4 ,! plan ( s5d+ tickets )\t fir/ obta9+ p]mission to d s is /rongly object$ to by mo/ p1 & ) good reason4 ,! g5]al committee may be divid$ into two or ?ree small] ones--namely1 ! committees ( arrangem5ts1 ( invitations1 & ( ! floor4 ,all act z a reception committee on ! ev5+ ( ! d9n]1 & all we> badges4 ,!y ?us %[ _! au?ority & enable gue/s to appeal to !m = in=mation4 ,x is important t effici5t p]sons %all be *os5 z *airm5 & vice-*airm54 ,! latt]1 l ! vice-presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 may be call$ ^u to fulfil ! duties ( ! high] (fice4 ,:]e !re are sev]al committees x is well = _! heads to meet toge!r f "t to "t1 9 ord] to make sure t ! sph]e ( ea* is well def9$1 t all ! gr\nd is cov]$1 & t !re is no duplication ( "w4 ,! ma9 responsibility1 h[ev]1 re/s ) ! *airman ( ! g5]al or d9n] committee1 :o (t5 does ! great] "p ( ! "w4 ,he x is :o mu/ consult ) ! matre d'htel4 ,toge!r !y select a day & decide ^u ! m5u4 ,! ,waldorf-,a/oria is ! favorite place = m5's public d9n]s4 ,x is s mu* 9 dem& = ?is purpose t ! date ( a function is decid$ mon?s or ev5 a ye> 9 advance4 ,ab\t tw5ty-five p] c5t1 9 addition to ! price ( ! d9n] mu/ be all[$ = music1 fee to head wait]1 & o!r incid5tals4 ,?us1 if ! ent]ta9m5t is to co/ f\r doll>s1 ! price ( ! tickets %\ld be five doll>s2 if ! d9n] co/s two doll>s1 two doll>s & a half %\ld be *>g$4 ,:5 ! affair takes place at a fir/-class hotel !re is little cause = anxiety1 z ! managem5t furni% ! articles ( ! bill ( f>e & ! s]vice1 & are responsible = bo?4 ,:5 ! d9n] is held at a hall1 ! *airman ( ! d9n] committee %\ld employ a cat]] ( e/abli%$ reputation :o c be tru/$ to supply food ( ! prop] quality & quantity1 z well z a suffici5t numb] ( tra9$ wait]s "u ! control ( a compet5t head man4 ,?is function>y %\ld be pres5t at ! d9n] & direct 8 subord9ates z occasion may require4 ,:ile mod]n /&>ds ( ta/e d n dem& su* a numb] ( c\rses z 7 =m]ly provid$1 x is ess5tial t ! di%es %\ld be good ( _! k9d1 & t ! supply %\ld be l>ge en\gh to meet all reasonable requirem5ts4 ,x is c]ta9ly desirable to h ! s]vice rapid1 b gue/s %\ld h a little pati5ce1 = all _c be s]v$ at once4 ,to bribe ! wait]s at an occasion ( ?is sort is 8bad =m10 s9ce x is unfair to ! o!r gue/s & may result 9 utt] demoralization ( ! s]vice4 ,"s p eat _! d9n] be=e !y leave home1 att5d+ ! public function only = its social side & = ! pleasure ( he>+ ! spee*es4 ,) reg>d to fee+ ! wait]s at a public d9n]1 x %\ld be said t at a fir/-class hotel ! managem5t all[s no intimations or h9ts to be made on ?is subject4 ,ea* gue/ does z he sees fit 9 ! matt]--! fee+ is optional & p]sonal1 n collective4 ,! plac+ ( a plate on ! table & ?us hold+ up ! d9]s is sometimes se5 9 out-(-t[n places1 b is contr>y to good =m4 ,x may be said t at l>ge public d9n]s 9 ,new ,york ab\t half ! m5 fee ! wait]s4 ,w9e is n includ$ 9 ! m5u on ^! occasions4 ,^? :o ord] x d s at _! own exp5se1 & usually give a tip4 ,tw5ty-five c5ts is expect$ = a bottle ( *ampagne1 t5 or fifte5 c5ts = :ite w9e or cl>et4 ,9 ord] to insure good results1 ! committee ( arrangem5ts %\ld1 aft] consultation ) _! cat]]1 fix a c]ta9 day or h\r aft] :i* !y w refuse to receive subscriptions4 ,! temptation to admit additional gue/s at ! la/ mom5t %\ld be firmly resi/$4 ,9 ,new ,york ,city1 hotels usually refuse to arrange = ! seat+ ( additional gue/s aft] ?ree o'clock ( ! day ( ! banquet4 ,9 c\ntry places x is necess>y to give mu* long] notice4 ,at ! lun*eons ( ! ,/ate ,f$]ations ( ,wom5's ,clubs great discom=t ensues :5 ! delegates d n con=m to ! rules1 b arrive 9 l>ge numb]s )\t giv+ ! requir$ notice to ! ent]ta9m5t committee4 ,if ! place ( meet+ is 9 "s quiet c\ntry t[n1 ! latt] f9d x difficult or impossible to procure additional supplies ( food1 yet !y dislike v mu* to s5d ! visitors away hungry4 ,! result is (t5 delay1 confusion1 & dissatisfaction4 ,if a public d9n] is held 9 a place ( ?is sort1 :]e no good cat]] is available1 "s local organization ( wom5--^? belong+ to a c]ta9 *ur* or league--may be ask$ to furni% ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,if !y are capable p]sons & h _h "s exp]i5ce 9 "w ( ?is sort1 ! result w be satisfactory4 ,a simpl] bill ( f>e w\ld1 9 ?is in/ance1 replace ! m elaborate provisions ( ! pr(essional cat]]4 ,small tables seat+ f six to t5 gue/s are n[ pref]r$ to ! long ones =m]ly 9 vogue4 ,eight is ! numb] usually select$4 ,! table = ! speak]s & gue/s ( honor is plac$ on a plat=m 9 ! middle ( "o end ( ! room4 ,x is h&somely decorat$ & has seats on ?ree sides only1 ! f\r? be+ left vacant1 s t ! speak]s c see & be se54 ,! presid5t or *airman sits 9 ! middle1 ! mo/ di/+ui%$ gue/ on 8 "r1 ! p]son ( next consid]ation on 8 left4 ,if bo? m5 & wom5 are at ! table1 _! seats %\ld1 s f> z possible1 alt]nate4 ,a "n-c>d is set at ea* place1 toge!r ) ! bill ( f>e1 engrav$ or nicely pr9t$4 ,:5 ! gue/s are assign$ to small numb]$ tables1 place-c>ds are n us$1 b ea* gue/ is furni%$ ) a m5u4 ,! committee ( arrangem5ts %\ld provide "o or m cloak-rooms1 ) att5dants to *eck ! v>i\s articles ( clo?+4 ,if ladies are invit$1 !re %\ld be a special dress+ & cloak room = _! use1 also an awn+ & c>pet at ! entrance if ! wea!r is bad4 ,a man w be ne$$ to help ! ladies f _! c>riages & to call ^! at ! close ( ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,memb]s ( ! floor or reception committee1 we>+ _! badges1 %\ld be on h& to direct ! gue/s & to prev5t z f> z possible conge/ion 9 ! hallways2 or employees ( ! hotel may be /ation$ 9 ! corridors = ?is purpose4 ,! d9n] is usually prec$$ by an in=mal reception ( half or ?ree-qu>t]s ( an h\r1 9 ord] to give all an opportunity to meet ! *ief gue/s or *ief speak]4 ,x is held 9 "o ( ! p>lors ( ! e/abli%m5t1 ! presid5t ( ! organization1 ! *airman ( ! d9n] committee1 or ! toa/ma/] /&+ ) ! *ief gue/ at ! head ( ! room4 ,x is ! duty ( ! memb]s ( ! reception committee to see t all are pres5t$ to ?is di/+ui%$ c\ple4 ,!y move ab\t ! rooms1 captur+ & br++ up ^? gue/s :o h n yet spok5 to ! ho/s ( ! ev5+4 ,!y inquire ! names ( m5 ) :om !y are n p]sonally acqua9t$ & introduce !m to ! presid5t1 :o %akes h&s & 9 turn pres5ts !m to ! gue/ ( honor4 ,at ! receptions ( wom5's clubs !re is (t5 a receiv+-l9e consi/+ ( ! (fic]s ( ! body1 & sometimes "o or m di/+ui%$ gue/s4 ,! club memb]s & _! fri5ds g up & %ake h&s ) ! presid5t1 :o introduces !m to ! gue/ ( honor4 ,x is n necess>y to speak to all 9 ! receiv+-p>ty1 unless "o is p]sonally acqua9t$ ) !m4 ,:]e _m p]sons are pres5t !y usually g up 9 l9e4 ,a memb] ( ! floor committee may introduce !m to ! ho/ess ( ! ev5+4 ,if !re is no "o to p]=m ?is (fice = h]1 a gue/ %\ld pron\nce h] own "n4 ,x is ! cu/om 9 "s clubs to receive m]ely ) a graci\s b[ or c\rtesy1 ! presid5t %ak+ h&s only ) h] p]sonal fri5ds4 ,9 ?is case a gue/ :o does n "k any ( ! ladies makes a l[ b[ to include !m all1 & passes on4 ,:5 !re is no regul> reception1 ! company ga!r 9 ! draw+-rooms & *at toge!r until ! doors are op5$ into ! d9+-room4 ,! presid5t & *ief gue/ g fir/1 ! o!r gue/s ( honor foll[1 ea* escort$ by a memb] ( ! reception committee4 ,! rema9d] ( ! company d n =m 9 l9e1 b ent] z !y f9d conv5i5t4 ,at c]ta9 clubs--! ,national ,arts ( ,new ,york1 = in/ance--! g5tlem5 give _! arms to ! ladies1 z !y w\ld at a d9n] 9 a private h\se4 ,memb]s ( ! society %\ld in=m _! gue/s be=eh& ( ?is cu/om4 ,if a g5tleman has two ladies "u 8 c>e1 & is unable to f9d an escort = ei!r ( !m1 he %\ld (f] 8 arm to ! eld]1 ! y\ng] walk+ beside h]4 ,occasionally x is arrang$ at a public d9n] to h all g directly f ! dress+-rooms to ! d9+-hall4 ,?is saves ! r5t ( p>lors2 b x is mu* bett] to h a reception ( "s sort prec$e ! banquet4 ,!re are sev]al ways ( lett+ p "k :]e _! places are4 ,sometimes ! numb] ( ! table is pr9t$ on ! ticket1 & on ent]+ ! d9+-room x is only necess>y to hunt up ! correspond+ num]als4 ,^! are pa9t$ conspicu\sly on l>ge c>ds /&+ on ! v>i\s tables4 ,x is a bett]1 ?\gh m exp5sive1 plan to pr9t on l>ge %eets ( pap] ! li/ ( gue/s1 arrang$ alphabetically1 & ! numb] ( ! table at :i* ea* p]son is to sit4 ,^! are di/ribut$ to ev]ybody4 ,un=tunately1 at ! conv5tions ( "s associations ! memb]s d n decide to att5d ! d9n] until su* a late h\r ( ! day t ! unlucky committee ( arrangem5ts are oblig$ to sp5d ! aft]noon plann+ :]e all are to sit4 ,a few li/s ha/ily pr9t$ are fa/5$ up 9 ! assembly-room1 & ar\nd ^! ! m5 ga!r 9 flocks to try to asc]ta9 :]e _! seats are4 ,if ^! are 9 a remote "p ( ! hall1 ! gue/ %\ld make no comm5t1 b %\ld accept ! arrangem5ts made = him )\t compla9t4 ,! c\rte\s man does s1 :ile ! disc\rte\s "o grumbles & p]haps tries to h 8 seat *ang$4 ,i am sorry to say t "s p]sons :o ought to "k bett] ?9k t x is 8sm>t0 to ru% 9 ahead ( o!rs1 & to seize a place t belongs ( "r to "s "o else4 ,! man :o ?us trespasses on ! laws ( good-bre$+ %[s t he is n sm>t1 b only imp]fectly civiliz$4 ,if e "o foll[$ 8 example !re w\ld be an end to law & ord]1 & we %\ld return to b>b>ism4 ,s9ce x is usual = all to leave _! tables & draw ne> to ! speak]s at ! conclusion ( ! banquet1 a di/ant seat is n necess>ily a s]i\s drawback to "o's enjoym5t4 ,at a public d9n] ! tickets may or may n be tak5 up4 ,sometimes !re is a man 9 liv]y at ! door ( ! d9+-room :o p]=ms ?is (fice1 sometimes ea* wait] collects !m f ! d9]s at ! table :]e he is /ation$4 ,:5 ! plan ( pr9t+ a %eet conta9+ ! names ( all ! subscrib]s is foll[$1 & no "o is assign$ a seat aft] ?is li/ goes to press1 x is n really necess>y to take up ! tickets4 ,if any "o has =gott5 to pay1 ! committee c easily s5d him a bill4 ,:]e ! tickets are collect$1 x suffices = a man :o has =gott5 8 to give 8 visit+-c>d4 ,at m5's d9n]s no tickets are dem&$ f gue/s4 ,^? invit$ by ! association are seat$ at ! speak]'s or o!r special table1 & paid = by ! society4 ,^? ask$ by private memb]s are paid = by ! latt]4 ,a g5tleman :o engages a table = himself & 8 fri5ds is held responsible = x4 ,! society giv+ ! banquet is held responsible = ! :ole numb] ( p]sons actually pres5t at ! d9n]4 ,h5ce a c>eful c\nt ( !m mu/ be made4 ,aft] tak+ up ! tickets at ! diff]5t tables1 ! wait]s report to ! capta9 ( ! floor4 ,?is function>y in=ms ! *airman ( ! d9n] committee ( ! result ( ! c\nt ab\t ! "t :5 ! ?ird c\rse is put on4 ,x is n[ ! duty ( ! *airman to see t ! numb] has be5 correctly e/imat$4 ,he leaves 8 seat1 goes ab\t ! room & into ! gall]y if he pleases1 c\nt+ ! d9]s4 ,s9ce all ! tables seat ! same numb] ( p]sons1 usually eight1 ?is is n s difficult z x might appe>4 ,x takes "s "t1 h[ev]1 to c\nt sev]al hundr$ p1 especially z x mu/ be done a second "t if ! reckon+ ( ! *airman does n agree ) t ( ! capta9 ( ! floor4 ,:5 ?is (fic] ( ! association acts z toa/ma/] also1 z (t5 happ5s1 he has no "t to eat any d9n]1 & a supp] is s]v$ to him aft]w>d4 ,! "q may be ask$1 8,%\ld public d9n]s be op5$ ) grace80 ,!y (t5 are1 b ! cu/om is by no means univ]sal4 ,if a cl]gyman is at ! speak]'s table1 he w be reque/$ to ask a bless+4 ,a gue/ ( di/9ction is occasionally invit$ to d s1 sometimes to 8 great surprise4 ,x is always possible to use ! sil5t grace ( ! ,quak]s or ,fri5ds4 ,! usual =m is1 8,= :at we are ab\t to receive make u truly ?ankful10 etc4 ,^? :o f9d !mselves seat$ at table ) p :om !y d n "k %\ld rememb] t x is always c\rte\s to say a few words to "o's next-door neighbors1 ev5 if !y are /rang]s4 ,!y may prove to be v agreeable p4 ,! presid5t ( ! association1 or ! *airman ( ! committee 9 *>ge1 calls ! company to ord] at ! end ( ! d9n]4 ,he makes a %ort address himself1 & !n introduces ! speak]s 9 turn1 ) a few words ( complim5t or explanation4 ,a good toa/ma/] mu/ h a voice cle> & /rong en\gh to be he>d all ov] ! room4 ,he %\ld also be witty1 graci\s1 & tactful4 ,if ! presid5t is n well qualifi$ = ?is (fice1 ! vice-presid5t or "s o!r p]son %\ld be ask$ to make ! introductions4 ,x is sometimes arrang$ to h ! speak]s beg9 :ile ! d9n] is /ill 9 progress4 ,! rattl+ ( ! plates1 z ! s]vants remove & replace !m1 creates s mu* di/urbance t ?is plan %\ld be adopt$ only :]e ! s]vice has be5 delay$ & ! h\r is gr[+ late4 ,occasionally we he> ( a d9n] :]e all spee*-mak+ has be5 omitt$1 or replac$ by 8,voiceless ,spee*40 ,danc+ n[ t5ds to cr[d out all o!r =ms ( amusem5t at ent]ta9m5ts ( all sorts4 ,! regulation we> = a public1 z = a private1 d9n] is ev5+ dress4 ,at a political banquet1 h[ev]1 a v>iety ( co/umes may be se51 "s m5 com+ 9 bus9ess suits1 ei!r because !y f9d ?is m conv5i5t or because !y d n possess a dress-suit4 ,a man :o is a fai?ful adh]5t ( 8 p>ty may feel x to be 8 duty & 8 pleasure to att5d its fe/ivities4 ,at a /ag d9n] a d9n]-jacket ) black wai/coat1 black tr\s]s & tie may be worn4 ,_m wom5 we> l[-neck$ & %ort-sleev$ g[ns4 ,o!rs dislike do+ s on su* a public occasion4 ,!y we> h&some co/umes ( silk1 sat91 velvet1 brocade1 *iffon1 or o!r dressy mat]ial1 slightly cut d[n at ! neck & ) elb[-sleeves4 ,! ,fr5* call ?is 8demi-toilette10 signify+ t x is a half-way /age betwe5 e-day & full dress4 ,= a public reception 9 ! ev5+1 ! dress is mu* ! same z at a d9n]4 ,mo/ wom5 we> no hats1 b "s appe> 9 light-color$1 dressy bonnets4 ,z a public d9n] (t5 la/s v late1 _m p]sons slip quietly out betwe5 ! spee*es1 tak+ leave only ( ^? sitt+ next !m4 ,x is disc\rte\s to g out 9 ! middle ( an address4 ,if "o %\ld meet a memb] ( ! reception committee1 "o w\ld naturally express pleasure 9 ! ev5+'s ent]ta9m5t4 ,gue/s at ! speak]'s table w\ld take leave ( ! presid+ (fic]1 if seat$ ne> him4 ,! g5]al body ( d9]s d n ?9k x necess>y to take leave1 s9ce e man has paid = 8 own ticket1 & s is 9 a s5se 8 own ho/4 ,if anybody has any cause ( compla9t1 x is be/ to say no?+ ab\t x at ! "t1 b to speak or write aft]w>d to ! head ( ! prop] committee4 ,"o %\ld beg9 by prais+ ! ent]ta9m5t z a :ole1 & !n sugge/ 9 a c\rte\s way t su* & su* a matt] might p]haps be arrang$ diff]5tly on ! occasion ( ! next banquet4 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,,viii ,,balls ,,& ,,dances ,d9n] & ,subscription ,dances--,ro(-g>d5 ,dances--,reciprocal ,duties ( ! ,*ap]on & ,h] ,*>ge--,h[ to ,ent] & ,h[ to ,leave a ,ballroom--,objectionable ,/yles ( ,danc+--,! ,/ag ,l9e & ! ,dance ,programme--,! ,ho/ess & ,h] ,assi/ants--,! ,ho/--,introductions at ,public & at ,private ,dances--,duties ( ,floor ,committee--,supp] ,etiquette--,dress = ,"y ,girls & ,m>ri$ ,wom5--,dress = ,m54 ,,accord+ to ! rules ( good society1 h] "m1 or "s o!r *ap]on ( good position & suitable age1 %\ld always accompany a "y girl :5 %e goes to a ball or o!r dance 9 ! ev5+4 ,if ?is rule 7 always en=c$ z x %\ld be1 we %\ld n he> ( ! escapades :i* "s ?\ghtless "y wom5 h indulg$ 9 ( late ye>s4 ,! sw++ back ( ! p5dulum1 :i* is sure to foll[ an excess 9 "o direction1 w d\btless result be=e long 9 a /rict] *ap]onage4 ,suffice x to say t at pres5t1 :ile a matron is expect$ to g ) h] *>ge to public balls & dances & on _m o!r occasions1 at subscription affairs & at ^? 9 private h\ses %e (t5 does n d s4 ,x mu/ n be suppos$ t ! "y wom5 g alone or "u mascul9e escort4 ,?is w\ld be contr>y to good =m4 ,9 ! abs5ce ( ! "m a lady's-maid accompanies ! daught]1 waits = h] until ! dance is ov]1 & returns 9 ! c>riage ) h]4 ,! girls are n :olly )\t *ap]ons1 z ! patronesses act 9 ?is capacity4 ,x mu/ be rememb]$ also t ^! subscription dances are 9 a s5se private affairs1 al?\gh held 9 assembly-rooms4 ,! patronesses make out a li/ ( eligible p]sons :om !y ask to subscribe1 & p]mit no "o else to d s4 ,c]ta9 assemblies are arrang$ ^u ano!r plan1 ! patronesses ea* subscrib+ = twelve tickets1 & !n invit+ six m5 & five girls to be _! gue/s4 ,!y (t5 ask ^! "y ladies to d9e ) !m on ! ev5+ ( ! dance1 or ! girls may take d9n] ) fri5ds & all g on toge!r4 ,! case is v diff]5t ) ! aft]noon & ev5+ dances :i* h sprung up 9 su* great numb]s s9ce ! adv5t ( ! tango craze4 ,s9ce anybody is admitt$ :o pays ! entrance fee1 ^! are public affairs1 & n private 9 any s5se ( ! ^w4 ,! s-call$ *ap]on :o at "s places acts z mi/ress ( c]emonies is suppos$ to pass judgm5t on ! applicants = admission2 b evid5tly x w\ld n be possible = h] to ex]cise ?is "r ( judgm5t except 9 ! mo/ sup]ficial way4 ,to a dance ( ?is sort no "y woman %\ld ?9k ( go+ )\t a p]sonal *ap]on4 ,9 a city l ,new ,york we %\ld /rongly advise h] to att5d only aft]noon affairs1 & to rema9 an onlook]4 ,9 a small] place :]e e "o kn[s ev]ybody else1 & all are acqua9t$ ) ! p]son gett+ up ! dance1 ! case w\ld be diff]5t4 ,at a public dance ! *ap]on %\ld n p]mit any introductions to be made to ! "y girl "u h] *>ge by p]sons unkn[n to h]1 & %e mo/ c]ta9ly %\ld n all[ ! latt] to dance ) /rang]s4 ,! mi/ress ( c]emonies makes introductions :]e !y are desir$1 b to =m acqua9tances 9 a public resort ( ?is k9d is n accord+ to good =m1 & might inde$ be v unsafe4 ,/rang]s com+ to ,new ,york1 or any o!r l>ge city1 %\ld make c>eful inquiries be=e go+ to ro(-g>d5s or o!r places ( ent]ta9m5t :]e !re is danc+1 = :ile "s ( ^! are entirely respectable1 o!rs are n4 ,we h said t at a private or subscription dance a girl (t5 does n h a p]sonal *ap]on1 ! patronesses assum+ ! duties ( ! latt] 9 a g5]al way4 ,:5 a matron does accompany a "y woman1 x is ! duty ( ! =m] to promote ! pleasure ( h] "y *>ge1 to prev5t h] f =m+ undesirable acqua9tances & f mak+ h]self too conspicu\s4 ,= all ^! reasons %e ne$s to keep a wat*ful eye on h] daught] or o!r "y fri5d4 ,if ! girl w&]s (f into ! gall]y 9 ! company ( "s agreeable "y man1 mamma mu/ g or s5d aft] !m & bid !m return to ! floor ( ! ballroom4 ,a patroness w\ld d ?is 9 ! case ( an un*ap]on$ girl4 ,if a girl %[s too m>k$ a p>tiality = any individual1 ! "m :o is a clev] woman ( ! _w manages to break up ! tte--tte4 ,%e w\ld d ! same ?+ %\ld a man ( :om %e disapprov$ be introduc$ to h] daught]4 ,=m]ly a *ap]on wor?y ( ! "n sat /ill & s]v$ z an isl& ( refuge to ! "y woman "u h] c>e4 ,! latt] return$ to h] protect+ w+ to re/ betwe5 ! numb]s ( ! programme1 or :5 %e _h no p>tn] = supp] or dance4 ,:5ev] opportunity (f]$1 ! *ap]on introduc$ "y m5 to h] *>ge4 ,x mu/ be confess$ t ! mod]n conditions ( ! ballroom re/rict ! b5efic5t activity ( ! matron on _m occasions4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 %e f9ds x mu* h>d] to sit /ill4 ,no "o "u ! age ( ,me?uselah is immune f ! pres5t craze = danc+4 ,at ! ,*>ity ,ball 9 ,new ,york ?is ye> ! boxes 7 des]t$1 old z well z "y cap]+ ab\t on ! light fanta/ic toe4 ,9 ! second place1 ! new cu/om ( almo/ cont9u\s danc+ leaves few or no int]vals = re/4 ,h5ce a girl _c return to h] *ap]on s frequ5tly z "u ! old rgime4 ,y\? is apt to be selfi%1 (t5 ?r\gh ?\ghtlessness4 ,! "y woman :o is hav+ a delightful ev5+ mu/ n =get t ! h\rs w pass mu* m sl[ly = h] *ap]on4 ,ev5 if ! latt] dances h]self1 %e w n be able to cont9ue x s long z ^? ( ! y\ng] g5]ation4 ,a girl mu/ h "s consid]ation = h] "m & n keep h] up until an unconscionably late h\r4 ,if mamma s5ds ^w to h] daught] t x is "t to g home1 ! latt] %\ld come )\t unnecess>y delay4 ,! girl %\ld return to h] "m's side f "t to "t z opportunity (f]s1 especially if ! latt] kn[s few p & is hav+ a dull ev5+4 ,%e w1 ( c\rse1 always all[ ! old] lady to prec$e h]1 & w introduce h] "y fri5ds to h] *ap]on z occasion arises4 ,?us1 :5 !y make _! fir/ entrance into ! ballroom at ! beg9n+ ( ! ev5+1 ! latt] goes 9 a /ep or two 9 advance ( ! y\ng] woman4 ,if a man is ( ! p>ty1 he foll[s ! ladies4 ,! cu/om ( ent]+ arm-9-arm has gone entirely out ( fa%ion1 z we h already said4 ,at subscription dances 9 ,new ,york x is usual to ann\nce ! gue/s z !y g 91 a s]vant /&+ at ! door = ! purpose4 ,! patronesses %\ld be 9 l9e to receive !m2 b at "s dances !re is no "o to p]=m ! (fice4 ,^! (ficial ho/esses may greet all com]s ) a b[ or c\rtesy1 or !y may foll[ ! m cordial cu/om ( %ak+ h&s4 ,at ! subscription dances 9 ,new ,york ! la/-nam$ me?od is usually foll[$4 ,9 ,bo/on a girl is tak5 up to ! receiv+-l9e by an u%]4 ,%e !n makes a sweep+ c\rtesy to all ! patronesses1 & dances ) him4 ,:e!r !y %ake h&s or m]ely b[1 x is ! duty ( ! ladies :o receive to d s 9 a graci\s mann]1 z befits a ho/ess4 ,%\ld "o take leave ( ! latt] aft] a dance8 ,?is dep5ds ^u circum/ances4 ,! p]sons :o take _! dep>ture e>ly (t5 slip out quietly1 9 ord] n to adv]tise ! fact t !y are go+4 ,x is n altoge!r a complim5t to a ho/ess to leave e>ly 9 ! ev5+1 & if _m p did s x w\ld t5d to break up ! ball4 ,%\ld "o pass ne> ! lady ( ! h\se1 h[ev]1 polit5ess requires t "o %\ld bid h] good night & express pleasure 9 ! ev5+'s ent]ta9m5t or congratulate h] on its success4 ,lat] on1 :5 ! movem5t to g home becomes g5]al1 all take _! leave ( ! ho/ess1 & ( ! ho/1 if he is /&+ ne>4 ,! discussion ab\t ! m]its & dem]its ( ! new /yles ( danc+ has rag$ s vigor\sly 9 press & pulpit t e "o is famili> ) x4 ,! result ( all ?is debate has be5 good1 s9ce ! objectionable features h be5 to a great ext5t remov$4 ,:5 ! tango & ! o!r new dances 7 fir/ introduc$1 !re 0 a great deal ( unfavorable criticism ( ! me?od ( hold+ ! p>tn]1 & ( ! 8%ak+ & wiggl+0 motions ( ! body4 ,! latt] 0 a consequ5ce1 x is said1 ( ! sl[ movem5t ( ! music4 ,?is r5d]$ x difficult to dance )\t a sway+ accompanim5t4 ,by mak+ ! tempo a little m rapid x has be5 f\nd possible to elim9ate ! la/ feature1 & good danc]s h prov$ t ! tango1 "o-/ep1 & ! l c be execut$ well & gracefully )\t hold+ ! p>tn] too closely4 ,x is evid5t t ! new dances h be5 greatly modifi$1 & t !y w n be giv5 up at pres5t4 ,x is po9t$ out t !re always h be51 & p]haps always w be1 "s p]sons :o dance 9 a way t p ( ref9em5t disapprove (4 ,x is a rule ( good society to avoid ev]y?+ t makes a p]son conspicu\s1 h5ce amateur danc]s ( good ta/e d n take _! /eps 9 ! exagg]at$ & s5sational /yle suitable only = pr(essional p]=m]s4 ,a lady :o wi%es to give a l>ge dance usually hires an assembly-room1 unless %e possesses a v spaci\s h\se4 ,! arrangem5ts at ! front door1 9 ! dress+-rooms1 etc41 are ! same z ^? describ$ else:]e4 ,*ecks = ! wraps1 hats1 & coats w be ne$$1 cig>s & cig>ettes may be provid$ = ! m54 ,! use ( dance programmes has be5 ab&on$ to a great ext5t1 except at college1 milit>y1 & naval balls4 ,"h ! "y ladies (t5 come f a di/ance1 & ! dance-c>ds are fill$ out = !m be=eh& by _! bro!rs or fri5ds4 ,:]e a dbutante is to be introduc$ to society %e /&s beside h] "m1 :o %akes h&s cordially ) all h] gue/s & !n pres5ts h] daught] to ! ladies1 ! m5 be+ introduc$ to ! "y girl4 ,if ! old] daught]s assi/ 9 receiv+1 !y /& beyond ! y\nge/4 ,! husb& sometimes receives ) 8 wife1 & sometimes does n4 ,at a dance 9 a private h\se1 a great] responsibility devolves ^u ! ho/ess ?an 9 a subscription affair1 :]e a floor committee h ! managem5t ( matt]s4 ,%e endeavors to provide h] gue/s ) p>tn]s1 & makes "s introductions1 h] husb& & daught]s assi/+ h]4 ,at a subscription dance1 if a "y girl aft] mak+ h] b[ to ! patronesses fails to meet any "o :om %e kn[s1 "o ( ^! (ficial ho/esses or a memb] ( ! floor committee pres5ts a p>tn] to h]4 ,^! g5tlem5 we> a small b\tonnire to indicate _! (fice4 ,x is _! duty & pleasure to make ev]y?+ g (f well1 & to assi/ ! "y girls 9 any way t may be ne$$4 ,!y "k mo/ ( ! gue/s & make introductions4 ,accord+ to ! pres5t sy/em ( danc+1 a numb] ( ! m5 =m 8a /ag l9e0 ne> ! patronesses4 ,aft] a c\ple h danc$ "o or m times ar\nd ! room1 ano!r man /eps out f ?is l9e & 8breaks 910 z ! t]m is4 ,t is to say1 he int]rupts _! progress & asks ! girl to dance ) him4 ,?is %e %\ld c]ta9ly d1 unless !re is "s v special reason = refus+4 ,x w\ld be awkw>d = ! "y man to g back to ! l9e1 z e "o w\ld see t 8 invitation _h be5 decl9$4 ,x w\ld probably result 9 an awkw>d situation = ! girl also1 z to dance a long "t ) ! same p>tn] cont9u\sly is n[ consid]$ highly undesirable4 ,a "y woman :o does s runs ! risk ( be+ consid]$ a wall-fl[]4 ,if %e does n "k _m ( ! "y m5 pres5t1 x may happ5 t no "o w 8break 910 & x w become h] duty1 aft] a c]ta9 l5g? ( "t1 to release h] p>tn]4 ,!re are sev]al ways ( do+ ?is4 ,%e may ask to speak to ! patronesses or to ano!r girl4 ,9 ! la/ case an ex*ange ( p>tn]s may be effect$1 or ! "y man :om %e is releas+ may br+ up a ?ird man & pres5t him to ! o!r "y lady2 or our "y fri5d may appeal to a memb] ( ! floor committee4 ,he w p]haps dance ) h] himself1 or pres5t ano!r p>tn] to h]4 ,"y wom5 sometimes s]ve on ! floor committee at a dance4 ,^! are usually girls :o h be5 = "s ye>s 9 society4 ,:ile1 z has be5 said1 a "y woman %\ld n "u ord9>y circum/ances refuse to dance ) a man :o 8breaks 910 x is p]missible = h] to d s1 if h] p>tn] is unwill+ to release h]4 ,if he intimates to ! new-com] t x is 8 dance & t he does n want to give x up1 !n ! girl may1 if %e pleases1 g on danc+ ) him4 ,?is arrangem5t ( a /ag l9e ) frequ5t *ange ( p>tn]s is suitable only = private or semi-private affairs1 su* z subscription dances4 ,= a public ball ! old] me?od ( engag+ a p>tn] = an entire numb] is ! prop] "o4 ,= ! "t be+1 ! cotillion1 or ,g]man1 has gone v mu* out ( fa%ion4 ,! mod]n sy/em ( cont9u\s danc+ & tak+ only %ort turns ) ea* p>tn]1 makes x less ( a complim5t ?an =m]ly to engage a "y lady = a s+le dance4 ,h5ce special emphasis is n[ laid on ! invitation to supp]4 ,a man :o wi%es to make "s return = hospitality ext5d$ to him1 or to %[ a "y woman p>ticul> att5tion1 asks h] to g 9 to supp] ) him1 z he w\ld a few ye>s ago h engag$ h] = ! ,g]man4 ,h5ce x is v desirable = a girl to h ?is "p ( ! programme arrang$ 9 good season4 ,if %e has no p>tn] :5 ! supp]-h\r arrives1 %e is 9 r an awkw>d position1 especially if %e has no *ap]on4 ,! man ) :om %e is talk+ at ! mom5t w be oblig$ to excuse himself if he has previ\sly arrang$ to take 9 "s "o else4 ,%e %\ld ask him to escort h] to h] *ap]on1 if ! latt] is pres5t1 or to ! patronesses2 or %e may retire to ! dress+-room or g home4 ,occasionally "o girl jo9s ano!r :o is provid$ ) an escort1 b ?is is seldom advisable1 ev5 if ! two "y wom5 "k ea* o!r well4 ,s9ce 8,two are company b ?ree are a cr[d10 a girl does n wi% to spoil h] fri5d's pleasure by mak+ an unwelcome ?ird memb] ( ! p>ty4 ,if ! "y lady has a supp]-p>tn]1 ! "q may be ask$1 :at becomes ( h] *ap]on at a subscription dance8 ,! latt] sometimes goes into ! d9+-room ) "o ( ! old] m51 or %e jo9s ! patronesses4 ,^! ladies are n[ q indep5d5t1 & g 9 to supp] ) or )\t male escort1 z !y f9d conv5i5t1 s9ce few ( ! husb&s att5d ! dances4 ,! "y p m>* 9 aft] ! eld]s1 go+ 9 pairs1 b n arm-9-arm4 ,sometimes f\r or five c\ples arrange to h supp] toge!r1 & ?us make a m]ry affair ( x4 ,at a dance 9 a private h\se1 :5 ! musicians play ! m>* :i* indicates t all is 9 read9ess 9 ! d9+-room1 ! ho/ leads ! way ?i!r ) ! elde/ or ! mo/ di/+ui%$ lady pres5t4 ,! o!r gue/s foll[ )\t =mality4 ,! ho/ess makes sure t all h prec$$ h]1 or1 if "s ( ! ladies pref] to rema9 9 ! draw+-room1 %e despat*es a g5tleman or "o ( ! wait]s to att5d to _! wants4 ,?is 9 case ! s]vice is 8en buffet40 ,if little tables are provid$ = ! gue/s1 !n all %\ld be seat$ !reat4 ,%\ld ! supp]-room n be l>ge en\gh to conta9 ^! com=tably1 ! tables %\ld be br\ght 9 & di/ribut$ ab\t ! draw+-rooms & halls4 ,) ?is arrangem5t a c\rse supp] is provid$4 ,! buffet s]vice is easi] & calls = few] wait]s to s]ve ! gue/s4 ,! l>ge table1 deck$ ) lights1 fl[]s1 & _m good ?+s to eat1 produces a brilliant effect4 ,z mu* space z possible is procur$ by sett+ all ! *airs aga9/ ! walls ( ! d9+-room4 ,x mu/ be confess$1 h[ev]1 t :5 ! company is l>ge !re is (t5 an unpleasant jam 9 ! supp]-room4 ,b\illon1 salads1 croquettes1 oy/]s1 s&wi*es or rolls1 ices1 fancy cakes1 bonbons1 & c(fee con/itute ! usual bill ( f>e1 to :i* o!r & m exp5sive da9ties1 su* z t]rap9 & birds1 are sometimes add$4 ,= an in=mal dance ! m5u may be mu* simplifi$4 ,if w9e is s]v$1 x is usually *ampagne1 al?\gh less exp5sive & less 8heady0 bev]ages1 su* z light ,rh9e w9es1 are sometimes sub/itut$4 ,!re %\ld always be a pun*-b[l fill$ ) lemonade1 w9e-cup1 or pun* t is n too /rong1 plac$ 9 ! hall or else:]e = ! b5efit ( ?ir/y danc]s4 ,on a =mal occasion a s]vant ladles ?is out4 ,at an in=mal affair ! gue/s help !mselves4 ,at a l>ge public function1 su* z ! ,*>ity ,ball 9 ,new ,york1 ! floor committee make introductions if ^! are desir$1 b ! gue/s usually g ) _! own p>ties4 ,:]e ! tickets co/ five doll>s apiece1 9 addition to ! price ( ! supp]1 a c]ta9 degree ( exclusiv5ess is atta9$1 al?\gh1 z we all "k1 !re are _m p]sons :o h pl5ty ( money yet lack social culture & exp]i5ce4 ,! op5+ ( su* an affair is q impos+4 ,! (fic]s ( ! ball ent] 9 a gr& m>*1 ! patronesses com+ fir/ on ! arms ( ! gov]nors1 ! rema9+ memb]s ( ! committee foll[+ two by two1 all ! m5 we>+ badges4 ,:]e (fic]s ( ! army & navy take "p1 _! uni=ms add to ! brilliancy ( ! g5]al effect4 ,!re is usually no reception ( gue/s at su* a function1 & no =mal entrance to ! supp]-room4 ,! ?\ghtful man endeavors to h a table res]v$ = 8 p>ty :5 a great _m p are pres5t4 ,all ! l>ge hotels 9 ,new ,york n[ h ro(-g>d5s :]e !re is danc+ 9 ! aft]noon & ev5+4 ,_m p g to ^! z look]s-on1 ord]+ a cup ( tea1 ices1 & c(fee or w9e4 ,! price ( admission 9 ! daytime usually includes ! co/ ( ! tea4 ,at c]ta9 ( ! ev5+ resorts ! v objectionable cu/om exi/s ( *>g+ no entrance fee b dem&+ t gue/s %all pur*ase a bottle ( *ampagne4 ,^? :o refuse to ord] w9e & insi/ ^u hav+ a mild] bev]age are furni%$ ) c(fee at ! price ( "o doll> = ea* cup4 ,c>eful p d n patronize places ( ?is sort unless !y look 9 = a %ort "t z a matt] ( curiosity4 ,if !y wi% to dance1 !y g to hotels ( e/abli%$ reputation1 usually 9 p>ties ( f\r or six4 ,!y c ?us h a good "t toge!r & be entirely indep5d5t ( ! re/ ( ! company4 8,d9n] dances0 may be giv5 ei!r at ! resid5ce ( ! ho/ess or at assembly-rooms1 z is mo/ conv5i5t4 ,an ent]ta9m5t at a private h\se br+s ) x an atmosph]e ( hospitality :i* is lack+ 9 a hotel ballroom4 ,h5ce1 if ! affair is n on s l>ge a scale z to ov]cr[d h] rooms & if ^! h good h>d-wood floors1 ! ho/ess w probably decide to use h] own h\se4 ,if a l>ge numb] ( p]sons are to be invit$1 x w be necess>y to engage ! requisite space at a good hotel4 ,! ho/ess s5ds out two sets ( invitations2 ^? = ! d9n] are 9 h] own "n1 & t ( h] husb& also1 ) ! words 8,danc+ at elev50 or 8t510 z ! case may dem&1 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]4 ,! invitations = ! dance are 9 ! "n ( ! ho/ess alone4 ,!y may be 9 ! 8,at ,home0 or 8,reque/s ! pleasure0 =m4 ,! h\r = ! second "p ( ! ent]ta9m5t mu/ be late en\gh to insure ! t]m9ation ( ! d9n] be=e ! arrival ( ^? invit$ = ! danc+ only4 ,great pa9s mu/ be tak5 to h ! floors 9 fir/-class condition1 poli%$ suffici5tly1 yet n made too slipp]y4 ,= a small d9n] dance at a private h\se1 ! supp] %\ld be a simple affair1 s]v$ 8en buffet40 ,! comb9ation 8d9n] dance0 af=ds a pleasant way ( divid+ ! ev5+'s hospitality s t no ho/ess ne$ be unduly burd5$4 ,sev]al fri5ds arrange to give d9n]s on ! same ev5+1 "o ( ! circle und]tak+ to h a dance at h] h\se1 or at an assembly-room if %e pref]s4 ,9 ei!r case %e assumes ! exp5se ( ! occasion2 %e furni%es ! supp]1 engages ! musicians1 & ! hall also1 if ! affair takes place !re4 ,! gue/s 8g on0 9 automobiles or omnibuses f ! v>i\s h\ses :]e !y h be5 ent]ta9$1 meet+ at ! dwell+ ( ! late/ ho/ess1 or at ! assembly-room1 at t5 or elev5 o'clock4 ,! danc+ usually la/s till "o or two o'clock4 ,= a ball1 wom5 we> _! h&some/ clo!s1 & m>ri$ ladies adorn !mselves ) a pr(usion ( jewels4 ,all appe> 9 dcollet g[ns made ) %ort sleeves & m or less tra91 accord+ to ! fa%ion ( ! mom5t4 ,9 ,am]ica _m eld]ly ladies claim exemption f ?is fa%ion1 ?9k+ ! co/ume inappropriate to p]sons ( _! ye>s4 ,"h1 at lea/1 we are c]ta9ly m s5sible ?an our ,engli% si/]s1 :o make a sort ( feti% ( ! l[-neck$ g[n4 ,:ile "s ,am]ican wom5 c>ry ?is /yle to an immode/ extreme1 ! majority are too wise to d s4 ,ball dresses = m>ri$ ladies are made ( ri* & exp5sive mat]ials--silks1 sat9s1 brocades--trimm$ ) beautiful laces or comb9$ ) *iffon or o!r gauzy /uffs4 ,:ile a great deal ( jewelry is worn1 x is well to h a c]ta9 unity ( effect4 ,! woman :o puts on a great v>iety ( jewels comb9$ 9 a ta/eless way may produce a /rong impression ^u ! behold]1 b x w n be an agreeable "o4 ,= "y girls1 dcollet g[ns ( diaphan\s mat]ial1 ei!r :ite or ( a delicate t9t1 are ! mo/ appropriate & becom+4 ,!y %\ld we> little jewelry1 simplicity be+ ! keynote ( _! co/ume4 ,diamonds & ri* laces are n suitable = a dbutante4 ,m5 we> ! regulation ev5+ dress1 black swall[-tail coat ) tr\s]s to mat*1 l[-cut :ite wai/coat1 :ite dress-%irt1 pat5t-lea!r %oes or pumps1 black socks1 :ite lawn tie1 & :ite or light gloves4 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,,ix ,,automobile ,,trips ,! ,automobili/ z ,ho/--,provision = ,com=t ( ,gue/s--,duties ( ,gue/--,dress & ,luggage--,automobile ,picnics--,ent]ta9m5t ( ,*auffeur--,:5 a ,visit ,becomes a ,visitation4 ,,! own] ( an automobile is able to ent]ta9 8 fri5ds 9 a pleasant way ) comp>atively little tr\ble4 ,he c take !m out = a sp9 )\t int]f]+ ) ! ma*9]y ( ! h\sehold or giv+ extra "w to ! s]vants4 ,almo/ e "o enjoys motor+ 9 w>m wea!r1 & x is easy to /op = lun*eon at a c\ntry club or an inn or to h a picnic by ! wayside1 %\ld ! own] ( ! c> wi% to %[ m ?an m]e 8c>riage hospitality40 ,! trip may be %ort or long1 z he pleases1 & z he ?9ks w be agreeable to 8 gue/s4 ,if ^! are p]sons :o are n "y1 or :o are unaccu/om$ to motor+1 he mu/ be c>eful n to take !m too f> nor too fa/4 ,! fatigue ( go+ a long di/ance at a rapid rate is a sev]e tax on ! un9itiat$4 ,x is well to h ! excursion include "s object ( int]e/1 su* z a beautiful piece ( sc5]y or f9e build+s4 ,dur+ ! great heat1 motor+ = its own sake is f\nd v refre%+1 simply because ! rapidity ( ! motion makes e "o feel cool4 ,9 w9t] few p c>e to g out = pleasure trips1 b _m p]sons cont9ue to use _! c>s z a quick & conv5i5t way ( gett+ ab\t1 :5 ! sn[ & mud are n too bad4 ,x is a k9d att5tion to l5d a fri5d "o's automobile = a %opp+ t\r or = pay+ visits4 ,%e %\ld n deta9 x a mom5t aft] ! h\r nam$ = its return4 ,if none has be5 m5tion$1 %e may be able to f9d out f ! *auffeur h[ mu* "t ! trip is expect$ to occupy1 or calculate x h]self1 rememb]+ t "o %\ld n ov]tax ! g5]osity ( a fri5d4 ,hav+ decid$ ^u ! h\r :5 ! c> %\ld return1 x is well to say to ! *auffeur1 8,please let me "k :5 x is "t to turn back40 ,"o %\ld 9 any ev5t use ! c> only = a mod]ate di/ance1 s9ce e mile trav]s$ co/s a c]ta9 sum4 ,! automobili/ :o has invit$ "o or m ladies to g out ) him /ops = !m 9 8 c>4 ,arriv$ at _! dwell+1 he asks to h !m in=m$ t ! c> is !re1 & waits = !m 9 ! reception or draw+-room4 ,he assi/s 8 gue/s to ent] ! c>1 & wraps ! robe c>efully ar\nd !m1 tuck+ x 9 at ! sides4 ,9 w9t]1 pl5ty ( fur or heavy wool5 robes %\ld be provid$4 ,9 summ] light] ones w suffice1 ) l95 cov]s to protect ! dresses f ! du/4 ,= an op5 c>1 x is well to h sev]al pairs ( goggles ( diff]5t k9ds on h&1 & to (f] ^! to ! gue/s if a long trip is contemplat$ or if ! roads are du/y4 ,! ho/ asks :e!r ! ladies w\ld l ! w9d[s op5 or clos$1 & ! w9d-%ield up or d[n4 ,9 ! c\rse ( ! trip he repeats ^! inquiries1 especially if !re is a /rong breeze bl[+1 or if a *ange occurs 9 ! wea!r4 ,hav+ made sure t 8 gue/s are com=tably settl$1 he climbs 9 & takes 8 place4 ,:ile ! tonneau1 or ma9 body ( ! automobile1 is held to be ! place ( honor1 because x is less expos$ ?an ! front seats1 ! latt] are really m com=table 9 _m c>s because ! motion is less felt !re4 ,h5ce if ! ho/ is driv+ himself1 he w ask :e!r any ( 8 gue/s w\ld l to sit beside him4 ,"s "y lady w probably pref] to d s1 unless he is a v tiresome p]son4 ,a good driv] does n g too fa/1 & proce$s ) caution ov] ! r\gh places1 9 ord] n to %ake up ! occupants ( ! c>4 ,! ho/ decides 9 :at direction ! trip %all be1 al?\gh he may v prop]ly ask :e!r 8 gue/s w\ld l to g !re4 ,if reque/$ to d s1 ! latt] are at lib]ty to express _! *oice4 ,a c\rte\s p]son does n insi/1 h[ev]1 on be+ tak5 9 any special direction4 ,:]e ! propos$ trip is a long "o1 & ! gue/ has a lat] engagem5t1 he %\ld say frankly3 8,i %\ld enjoy v mu* go+ to ----1 b ,i fe> !re w n be "t1 z ,i h promis$ to be d[n-t[n at five o'clock40 ,if ! excursion is to be an all-day or ov]night affair1 x is usually arrang$ be=eh&4 ,:5 ! own] ( ! c> invites ! p>ty to g ) him at 8 exp5se & makes ?is evid5t by say+ explicitly1 8,i want y all to be my gue/s = ! trip10 he pays ! hotel bill & all o!r co/s4 ,he acts z ho/ j z he w\ld 9 8 own h\se1 ord]+ ! meals & nam+ ! h\rs :5 !y %all be s]v$4 ,he %\ld inquire :e!r any ( ! p>ty w\ld l to h breakfa/ s]v$ 9 _! own rooms4 ,he plans ! :ole trip & lays out ! c\rse to be trav]s$ ea* day4 ,!re are "s circum/ances1 h[ev]1 "u :i* ! automobili/ may v prop]ly (f] only a limit$ hospitality to 8 gue/s4 ,?us1 x may happ5 t a numb] ( fri5ds all wi% to g to see a football game or o!r a?letic conte/ 9 a neighbor+ t[n4 ,if "o ( ! numb] !n (f]s to take !m !re 9 8 c>1 x is und]/ood ( c\rse t 8 hospitality ext5ds only to ! means ( transportation4 ,all procure _! tickets be=eh&1 & ! exp5se ( ! ent]ta9m5t at ! hotel is divid$ among !m4 ,:5 "o is d\btful on :i* plan ! trip is to be conduct$1 "o %\ld by all means endeavor to pay "o's %>e4 ,x is be/ 9 a case ( ?is sort = a s+le individual to speak = ! re/4 ,he c say :5 ! "t comes = paym5t1 8,y mu/ let u "k1 ,john1 :at our %>e ( ! hotel bill is40 ,or x c\ld be propos$ be=eh& t "o ( ! numb] %\ld act z treasur]4 ,?is is an ungrateful (fice to fill1 s9ce "s "o is apt to =get to pay1 & dunn+ fri5ds is an unpleasant task4 ,! man select$ %\ld n be ! ho/1 :o may be ?\ght to h done 8 %>e4 ,he %\ld1 h[ev]1 be ! ri*e/ man ( ! p>ty2 fir/1 because x w be easi] = him ?an = 8 poor] comrades to be> any loss %\ld !re be "o2 second1 because 9 n9e cases out ( t5 ri* p c>e m ab\t money ?an poor ones2 ?ird1 because !y are m accu/om$ to mak+ f9ancial arrangem5ts4 ,h5ce ! job ( collect+ is less difficult = !m4 ,a gue/ %\ld emb>k on a motor-trip ) ! int5tion ( hav+ a good "t & enjoy+ all t !re is to be enjoy$4 ,he %\ld be prep>$ to take any delay or mi%ap ) *e]ful philosophy4 ,a man or a woman :o possesses ! true _s ( sport w n sulk or compla9 if ! tire bur/s or ! eng9e = "s my/]i\s reason refuses to "w4 ,all complicat$ ma*9]y is liable to accid5t1 & if "o enjoys all ! advantages ( v rapid motion1 "o mu/ expect f "t to "t to exp]i5ce ! drawbacks4 ,nei!r %\ld "o take x 9 dudgeon if ra9 comes on4 ,! ho/ _c be expect$ to insure good wea!r4 ,a gue/ sitt+ 9 ! re> mu/ n talk to ! driv]4 ,! latt] mu/ con/antly wat* ! road1 & _c turn 8 head to speak to any "o beh9d him )\t risk ( accid5t4 ,! automobile practically annihilates di/ance1 ?us greatly increas+ ! numb] ( places :i* c be readily rea*$ f any giv5 spot4 ,a picnic to :i* ! company g 9 motor-c>s may be t51 tw5ty1 or m miles away4 ,if _m p are to take "p 9 x1 ! site mu/ be select$ ) great c>e4 ,:5 half a doz5 fri5ds g (f = a frolic1 x does n s mu* matt] :at sort ( place !y *oose1 because if x does n come up to _! expectations !y c eat _! lun*eon )\t leav+ ! c>4 ,= a l>g] numb] all ! arrangem5ts %\ld be c>efully made 9 advance4 ,a committee ( "o or m %\ld visit ! *os5 spot be=eh&1 & get ! own]'s p]mission to hold ! picnic !re4 ,x is v sad = a p>ty ( fri5ds on pleasure b5t to be w>n$ (f ! gr\nds j z !y h _! :ole lun*eon unpack$ & spread out on ! grass4 ,yet ?is frequ5tly happ5s at places 9 ! neighborhood ( summ] resorts4 ,! city visitor1 misl$ by ! uncultivat$ aspect ( "s beautiful spot1 fails to realize t x is private prop]ty1 & t ! own]s may f9d x extremely inconv5i5t to h _! premises con/antly invad$ & _! privacy de/roy$4 ,"s own]s are will+ to all[ picknick]s to come to _! places1 provid$ p]mission is obta9$ be=eh&1 ! dbris remov$1 & no damage done to ! trees & %rubs4 ,! v&alism ( c]ta9 summ] visitors is h>dly believable4 ,!y w calmly leave ! unsightly & un:olesome rema9s ( _! repa/ ly+ ab\t to (f5d ! eyes & no/rils ( lat] com]s & to bre$ flies4 ,f>m]s & o!rs sometimes make a regul> *>ge = lett+ _! gr\nds = ! day4 ,our committee ( "o %\ld *oose a spot :]e ! grass is n too long1 & %\ld f9d out :e!r !re is any dang] ( an incursion by cattle4 ,x is v desirable to select a place ne> %ade-trees4 ,lun*eon-baskets furni%$ ) knives1 =ks1 etc41 c n[ be readily pur*as$4 ,cold wat]1 fruit-pun*1 or lemonade & hot c(fee may be conv5i5tly transport$ 9 ,!rmos bottles4 ,"s p c>ry *af+-di%es & prep>e scrambl$ eggs1 mu%rooms1 or ,wel% r>ebit on ! spot4 ,x is usual to h e "o contribute "s article to ! bill ( f>e at a picnic4 ,9 ord] t !re %all n be a surplus ( "o article & a %ortage ( ano!r1 ! p]sons or committee :o get up ! affair %\ld arrange ) ea* individual or p>ty :at !y %all br+4 ,if !re are tables at ! appo9t$ r5dezv\s1 cold ham1 *ick5s1 etc41 may be br\ght :ole4 ,if ! clo? is to be spread ^u ! grass1 ! c>v+ %\ld all be done be=eh&4 ,! idea ( a picnic is t x %all be a m or less unc]emoni\s occasion1 yet c>e mu/ be tak5 t in=mality does n deg5]ate into slov5ly disord]4 ,! food %\ld all be done up neatly & da9tily1 napk9s ( pap]1 if n ( l951 %\ld be provid$1 also knives & =ks & spoons :]e ^! w be ne$$4 ,! be/ results are secur$ by deput+ two or m p]sons to arrange ! table1 in/ead ( intru/+ ?is task to ! :ole company4 ,:5 ! fea/ is ready ! g5tlem5 pass ! di%es to ! ladies1 b x is a "p ( ! fun to h ! latt] assi/ 9 ! "w4 ,if !re are old] p pres5t1 !y are ask$ to sit /ill & be wait$ ^u4 ,at =mal picnics ! table is arrang$ & ! food set out by s]vants4 ,impromptu vaudeville1 *>ades1 tableaux1 or songs ) guit> accompanim5t make a pleasant end+ to ! affair1 :]e "t p]mits4 ,danc+ has always be5 popul> on ^! occasions4 ,!y are (t5 held at "s place ( resort :i* boa/s a hall or op5-air plat=m = ! danc]s4 ,9 dress+ = a trip 9 a motor-c>1 a woman %\ld we> a small1 close-fitt+ hat or an automobile bonnet4 ,?is & ! l>ge veil cov]+ x %\ld be securely fa/5$ d[n1 s t !re w be no dang] ( _! bl[+ away4 ,all sup]flu\s ribbons & /ream]s %\ld be avoid$ = ! same reason4 ,a du/-cloak ( l95 or pongee is a great protection 9 summ]4 ,z su* a g>m5t af=ds little w>m?1 ! t\ri/ %\ld provide h]self ) a clo? coat also4 ,m5 we> small caps & du/]s or light ov]coats4 ,s9ce !re is little room = luggage on a c>1 a gue/ :o is invit$ to g = a t\r %\ld take z little z possible1 pack+ x 9 a suit-case or bag1 or small automobile trunk1 if %e has receiv$ p]mission to c>ry "o4 ,s9ce motor+ is extremely du/y bus9ess1 x is well to take a *ange ( co/ume to we> 9 ! ev5+1 if ?is is to be sp5t at an inn4 ,f\l>ds & ,india silks are excell5t = ?is purpose1 z !y weigh s little & are n easily creas$ or tumbl$4 ,if "o has n space = an entire g[n1 a dressy wai/ %\ld be c>ri$4 ,! craze = motor+ has develop$ _m wayside inns scatt]$ along ! r\tes mo/ frequ5t$ by t\ri/s4 ,"s ( ^! are anci5t ho/elries1 or reproductions ( ! same1 *>m+ly furni%$ 9 ye old5 /yle4 ,"h travel]s by automobile /op = lun*1 aft]noon tea1 or d9n]1 or to sp5d ! night4 ,z inn-keep]s sometimes *>ge ! own]s ( motor-c>s extortionate prices1 ^? :o wi% to avoid great exp5se %\ld c>ry lun*-baskets ) !m4 ,!y c !n arrange an impromptu picnic by ! wayside & s be indep5d5t ( l&lords1 %\ld ! latt] be unreasonable 9 _! *>ges4 ,inde$1 _m p consid] ^! wayside lun*es "p ( ! fun ( a motor-trip4 ,!y />t (f = a t\r ( sev]al days1 equipp$ ) a l>ge basket conta9+ pl5ty ( provisions4 ,"s picturesque spot is *os5 = ! daily picnic1 ! basket be+ repl5i%$ at %ops or hotels en r\te1 %\ld ?is be necess>y4 ,p :o wi% to g on a motor-trip 9 ,europe n[ f9d x bett] to take ov] _! own c> & *auffeur1 r ?an to hire ^! on ! o!r side ( ! wat]4 ,x is necess>y1 h[ev]1 to procure a p]mit all[+ ! p>ty to cross f "o c\ntry into ano!r4 ,o!rwise ! travel] is subject to vexati\s delays at ! fronti]s4 ,! own] ( a c> mu/ always rememb] t ! *auffeur1 l ! pass5g]s1 requires food at regul> int]vals4 ,sometimes an all[ance is made to him & he gets 8 meals :]e he likes2 sometimes 8 employ] arranges = 8 ent]ta9m5t4 ,z he is usually ( a bett] class ?an ! ord9>y dome/ic1 he is n will+ to eat ) ! s]vants4 ,he pref]s to take 8 meals aft] 8 employ]1 b at ! same table4 ,if ! latt] is visit+ at an exp5sive inn1 & !re are *eap] ones ( a suitable "* 9 ! neighborhood1 he may reque/ 8 *auffeur to d9e or sp5d ! night at "o ( ^!1 furni%+ him ) ! money4 ,in/ead ( /ay+ at an inn1 ! automobili/ sometimes makes a visit to fri5ds 9 ! c\ntry4 ,:]e ?is is by invitation1 ! ho/ ent]ta9s ! *auffeur1 or arranges to h him c>$ = 9 ! neighborhood4 ,z ! t\r+ p>ty probably consi/s ( two or ?ree p 9 addition1 su* a visit1 if prolong$1 may readily become a tax on ! hospitality ( ! ho/4 ,h5ce ! /ay %\ld be limit$ to "o or two nights1 else x may become a 8visitation40 ,if a p>ty ( motori/s /op to lun* or sp5d ! night at a fri5d's h\se )\t previ\s invitation1 !y %\ld endeavor to provide = ! ent]ta9m5t ( _! *auffeur else:]e1 s9ce x w\ld h>dly be c\rte\s to put ?is additional /ra9 on ! hospitality ( _! ho/4 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,x ,,bridge ,,p>ties ,,& ,,ev5+ ,,receptions ,arrangem5t ( ! ,c>d-tables--,play+ = ,prizes--,good & ,bad ,mann]s at ! ,c>d-table--,:y ,c]ta9 ,p are n ,ask$--,duties ( ,ho/ess--,c>d ,p>ties = ,*>ity--,dress & ,etiquette ( ,ev5+ ,receptions4 ,,! extreme popul>ity ( bridge has some:at less5$ s9ce ! tango craze invad$ society4 ,c>d-play+ /ill has _m devotees1 h[ev]1 & is likely to h !m 9 ! future1 z 9 ! pa/4 ,:5 n c>ri$ on too /r5u\sly1 x af=ds a mild & g5tle =m ( amusem5t t is especially valuable to eld]ly p]sons1 or to y\ng] ones ( quiet ta/es4 ,= a bridge p>ty1 c>d-tables & light *airs c be hir$ f furniture /ores or cat]]s4 ,ord9>y tables may be us$1 provid$ !y are l>ge en\gh to seat f\r p]sons com=tably1 & n s l>ge z to make x difficult to rea* across !m to ga!r up ! tricks4 ,x is n[ ?\ght well to cov] !m ) a clo?1 al?\gh our gr&p>5ts us$ ! b>e mahogany1 if we may judge by ! tables t h come d[n to u4 ,ho/esses :o (t5 give c>d p>ties w f9d x conv5i5t to buy sev]al tables4 ,^! may be cov]$ ) gre5 baize or enamel clo?1 or uphol/]$ 9 silk or damask to mat* ! room4 ,9 ! latt] case "o %\ld h :ite l95 slips t c be tak5 (f & wa%$ e "t !y are us$4 ,small1 light *airs are pref]r$ to heavy ones1 & !y mu/ be ( ! "r height4 ,! ho/ess %\ld measure h] rooms be=eh&1 to see h[ _m p %e c accommodate com=tably4 ,space mu/ be left to pass betwe5 ! tables1 & ^! mu/ n be plac$ too ne> /eam-pipes or draughty w9d[s4 ,! draw+-rooms %\ld be well v5tilat$ be=e ! gue/s arrive1 yet n q s cool z !y w\ld be = a dance4 ,%\ld !y become close 9 ! c\rse ( ! ev5+1 ! ho/ess %\ld be c>eful n to op5 a w9d[ )\t w>n+ ^? 9 ! vic9ity t %e is ab\t to d s1 & s give !m an opportunity ( *ang+ _! seats4 ,9 a h\se furni%$ ) electric lights1 x is easy to h ! rooms well light$ yet n ov]heat$4 ,:]e x is necess>y to use lamps or c&les1 _! arrangem5t w require "s c>e4 ,!y mu/ be ne> en\gh ! play]s to enable !m to see1 yet nev] set on ! c>d-table itself4 ,x is dang]\s to place !m on /&s s small & light t !y are liable to be upset4 ,all ! p>aph]nalia us$ 9 ! game1 ! play+-c>ds1 scor+ tablets or c>ds1 c\nt]s1 etc41 mu/ be fre% & 9 good condition4 ,a p5cil t refuses to write furni%es "o ( ! peculi>ly exasp]at+1 ?\gh small1 mis]ies ( life4 ,if _m p are invit$1 new c>ds %\ld be provid$4 ,= progressive eu*re !re mu/ be pun*es & score-c>ds4 ,! ho/ess asks "s "o to d ! pun*+1 or att5ds to x h]self4 ,at a l>ge p>ty %e does n play unless x is necess>y to fill an empty place4 ,"s p]sons ?9k x no h>m to play = money1 provid$ ! /akes are v small4 ,! habit ( gambl+1 :i* 0 introduc$ into society 9 ?is c\ntry n _m ye>s ago1 has result$ 9 su* sc&als & s mu* evil t ! wise/ & safe/ way is to avoid x altoge!r4 ,ev5 :]e !re is play+ = money1 a ho/ess mu/ provide "o or m tables = ^? gue/s :o object to x on pr9ciple4 ,good =m & common s5se alike dem& ?is4 ,_m p become s excit$ by ! desire to w9 ! prize or /akes ( ! ev5+ t !y treat "o ano!r ) scanty polit5ess1 & ! un=tunate play] :o makes a mi/ake is (t5 r\ndly scold$ = h] c>elessness4 ,dur+ ! c>d mania :i* prevail$ at ,newport a ye> or two ago1 x 0 said t _m p did n speak z !y pass$ by1 ow+ to qu>rels ov] bridge4 ,to give prizes t are v h&some & exp5sive is n consid]$ to be 9 ! be/ ta/e4 ,! ho/ess %\ld take pa9s to secure articles t are pretty & attractive1 b n ( great money value4 ,x is also ?\ght be/ n to %[ !m until ! play+ is ov]4 ,"s p f9d x int]e/+ to play nom9ally1 b n actually1 = money4 ,a g5tleman :o took "p 9 a s]ies ( games :ile cross+ ! ,atlantic 0 reliev$ :5 ! voyage 0 ov] to f9d t ! ladies ( ! p>ty con/ru$ all ! f9ancial obligations 9 a purely ,pickwickian s5se4 ,! score 0 made out1 b no paym5ts 7 p]mitt$4 ,x ne$ sc>cely be said t a real debt at ! gam+-table is held to be "o ( honor1 = ! simple reason t !re is no legal obligation to pay x4 ,to induce a "y man or woman to play1 & p]haps lose a l>ge sum ( money1 may be ?\ght a great] (f5se aga9/ honor4 ,good =m dem&s t all :o take "p 9 a game ( c>ds %all pay /rict att5tion to x & foll[ ! rules4 ,n e "o c w91 b all %\ld d _! be/4 ,x is extremely annoy+ to devotees ( bridge to be int]rupt$ by conv]sation :ile ! h&s are be+ play$4 ,! great actress ,*>lotte ,cu%man once _h h] pati5ce sev]ely tax$ by a g5tleman :o p]si/$ 9 talk+ to h] p>tn]4 ,pres5tly %e said 9 h] ri*1 deep voice1 ) great emphasis3 8,rememb]1 ?is is :i/40 ,! effect 0 />tl+1 & ! (f5d] s9n$ no m1 at lea/ on t occasion4 ,if a play] does h] be/1 m _c be expect$ ( h]4 ,to f9d fault ) "o's p>tn]1 ask+ h] 9 an injur$ tone :y %e did n return a c]ta9 lead1 or :y %e play$ t ace ( he>ts second h&1 is decid$ly bad =m4 ,we mu/ always rememb] t among ladies & g5tlem5 c>d-play+ %\ld be consid]$ z an amusem5t1 s]i\s if y w1 b nev]!less a =m ( div]sion & n a matt] ( bus9ess4 ,h5ce ! well-br$ woman loses nei!r h] temp] nor h] philosophical _s4 ,%e may wi% to w91 b h] desire mu/ n be s ov]:elm+ z to make e "o feel uncom=table if %e loses4 ,if %e de/roys ! pleasure ( h] neighbors by sulk+1 by snubb+ or scold+ h] p>tn]1 %e has only h]self to ?ank if %e is n invit$ to c>d p>ties4 ,! habitual late-com] is also likely to be left out4 ,! p]son :o arrives aft] e "o has begun to play1 or :o leaves be=e ! games are ov]1 int]f]es s]i\sly ) ! pleasure ( o!rs4 ,z we h said above1 ! ho/ess does n play :5 _m p]sons are pres5t1 9 ord] t %e may be free to receive late-com]s & to h a g5]al sup]vision ( ! com=t & pleasure ( h] gue/s4 ,bridge p>ties may be arrang$ = ! aft]noon or ev5+1 or !y may take place 9 connection ) a lun*eon or a d9n]4 ,9 ei!r ( ! latt] cases x suffices to h lemonade or "s o!r cool+ dr9k h&$ to ! gue/s z !y sit at ! c>d-table4 ,"s ho/esses (f] s&wi*es also1 or give ices 9 ! ev5+2 o!rs s]ve tea 9 ! aft]noon4 ,:]e gue/s are invit$ to ! c>d p>ty only1 a light supp] is s]v$ 9 ! ev5+4 ,ho/esses :o expect to h bridge foll[ a d9n] %\ld ei!r invite c>d-play]s only or else arrange = ! ent]ta9m5t ( ^? :o d n take "p 9 ! game4 ,x is r =lorn = a s+le c\ple to be left out 9 ! cold :5 ! play]s retire to ano!r room & %ut ! doors to avoid be+ di/urb$4 ,! =m]1 hav+ no "o save _! ho/s to talk to1 soon take _! leave4 ,c>d p>ties are (t5 us$ z a means ( rais+ money = a *>ity1 or = ! "w ( a society4 ,^! may be giv5 at a hotel1 a woman's club-h\se1 or a private h\se4 ,9 ! case la/ m5tion$1 ! ho/ess ?r[s op5 h] rooms & provides ! refre%m5ts1 or a "p ( !m1 z may be pref]r$4 ,! memb]s ( ! society may ea* br+ a cake or "s s&wi*es1 ! lady ( ! h\se furni%+ tea & *ocolate4 ,x is usually arrang$ to h sev]al ladies buy a table apiece = a c]ta9 sum ( money4 ,if ?is is two doll>s1 !y sell ! s+le seats to _! fri5ds = fifty c5ts ea*1 or invite ! latt] to come z _! gue/s4 ,!y br+ _! own outfit--c>ds1 score1 & ! light1 collapsible tables t are easily c>ri$2 or ^! may be s5t be=eh& to ! h\se ( ! ho/ess4 ,occasionally an ent]pris+ memb] ( ! society br+s "s ( h] own h&iwork & (f]s x = sale1 ?us nett+ an additional sum = ! *>itable ent]prise4 ,ev5+ receptions1 unless enliv5$ by "s special attraction1 are less popul> n[ ?an 9 ! e>li] & simpl] society ( ! ,victorian era4 ,"o ( _! obvi\s advantages is t m5 c att5d !m1 ano!r is t !y enable ! ho/ess ) limit$ space at h] comm& to invite a numb] ( gue/s :o w\ld ov]cr[d h] rooms %\ld %e attempt to give a dance4 ,! ev5+ reception is a favorite =m ( ent]ta9m5t = introduc+ a di/+ui%$ gue/ to a circle ( fri5ds4 ,c]ta9 ho/esses 9 ,new ,york /ill receive on "o ev5+ 9 ! week1 & succe$ 9 ga!r+ 9 _! draw+-rooms an int]e/+ company ( lit]>y & arti/ic folk--p :o "k h[ to talk & :o enjoy do+ s4 ,a bride & groom may conv5i5tly issue c>ds = "o or m ev5+ receptions :5 !y are settl$ 9 _! new home4 ,!y ?us make !mselves kn[n to new fri5ds & r5ew acqua9tance ) old ones4 ,a reception 9 ! ev5+ is gay] ?an an affair 9 ! daytime1 yet x ne$ n necess>ily be =mal4 ,= a l>ge & h&some function1 engrav$ invitations 9 ! names ( bo? husb& & wife are issu$1 ! 8,at ,home0 =m be+ ord9>ily us$4 ,if x is 9 honor ( di/+ui%$ gue/s1 ! phrase1 8,to meet ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ---- ----0 is add$4 ,accord+ to /rict rule1 ! 8,at ,home0 =mula does n require an answ]4 ,x is always polite1 h[ev]1 to s5d regrets if "o is unable to att5d ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,= "o or m in=mal receptions1 ! jo9t visit+-c>d ( husb& & wife may be us$1 ) ! words 8,at ,home0 & ! date writt5 91 ! h\rs also 78#i to #aa0 9 ! city71 if desir$4 ,! arrangem5ts are ! same z = any ev5+ occasion4 ,! c5tral "p ( ! draw+-rooms is cle>$ ( furniture1 & vases1 small /&s1 or o!r articles liable to be knock$ ov] are remov$ to "s o!r "p ( ! h\se4 ,if ! occasion is a l>ge & /ately "o1 pott$ plants or o!r floral decorations may adorn ! rooms1 :ile an or*e/ra compos$ ( a few /r+$ in/rum5ts disc\rses sweet s\nds beh9d a leafy trellis4 ,a h&some supp] is s]v$ 9 ! d9+-room dur+ ! great] "p ( ! ev5+1 s9ce gue/s are suppos$ to come & g r ?an to /ay ?r\gh a reception4 ,x is 9 p]fectly good =m1 h[ev]1 to receive 9 a mu* m simple fa%ion1 9 accordance ) ! cu/oms ( good society 9 cont95tal ,europe4 ,x is n necess>y to provide ei!r music1 elaborate floral decorations1 or an exp5sive supp]4 ,9 ,italy1 :]e ev5+ receptions are a favorite =m ( ent]ta9m5t1 ladies ( rank give _! gue/s lemonade & biscuits1 or sponge-cake & w9e1 or no?+ at all6 ,at an occasion ( ?is sort husb& & wife usually receive toge!r1 pres5t+ all ! company to ! gue/ ( honor1 :o /&s beside !m4 ,at a =mal affair ! gue/s are usually ann\nc$ by a man-s]vant4 ,he inquires _! names & calls ^! out z !y ent] ! draw+-room4 ,"o does n leave c>ds at an ev5+ reception4 ,all we> ev5+ dress1 z describ$ 9 ,*apt] ,,vii4 ,ladies seldom we> hats1 h[ev]1 z !y occasionally d at a public reception4 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,,xi ,,hotels1 ,,re/aurants1 ,,& ,,ro(-,,g>d5s ,h[ to ,ent]ta9 a ,gue/ at a ,hotel 9 ! ,city & 9 ! ,c\ntry--,etiquette = ! ,gue/ 9 ,hotels & ,re/aurants--,dress = ,morn+1 ,aft]noon1 & ,ev5+4 ,,9 ^! days ( ap>tm5t-h\ses1 ! sp>e b$room has be5 necess>ily elim9at$ f _m h\seholds4 ,?is does n mean t hospitality to fri5ds f a di/ance has ceas$ to exi/1 b only t x mu/ be practis$ 9 a diff]5t way4 ,if "o has n suffici5t space to make a gue/ com=table 9 "o's own dwell+1 "o %\ld arrange = h] accommodation at a hotel4 ,! room mu/ be engag$1 & if possible visit$ be=eh&4 ,! ho/ess %\ld see ) h] own eyes1 or ) ^? ( a tru/wor?y ag5t1 t ! ap>tm5t is suffici5tly l>ge1 well light$ & heat$4 ,a pleasant outlook is desirable any:]e1 b indisp5sable 9 ! c\ntry4 ,a =eign g5tleman ( di/9ction att5d+ a c]ta9 congress 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates a ye> or two ago 0 qu>t]$ 9 a small1 /uffy1 inn] room4 ,s great 0 8 dissatisfaction t ! presid5t ( ! le>n$ body 0 summon$4 ,=tunately1 ! latt] 0 ( an +5i\s turn ( m9d4 ,spy+ a fire-escape on ! outside ( ! w9d[1 he expla9$ at "s l5g? to ! =eign] ! extreme desirability ( ! room--on acc\nt ( ! proximity ( ?is important mode ( exit4 ,! gue/ 0 entirely satisfi$ ) ! explanation1 & peace once m reign$ among ! philosoph]s4 ,if ! ho/'s means w p]mit1 he %\ld engage = 8 fri5d a room ) a ba?4 ,he %\ld also in/ruct ! cl]k at ! desk to h ! bill = room1 meals1 & s]vice pres5t$ to him & n to ! gue/4 ,! latt] w h no exp5se except fees to ! s]vants4 ,^! v>y ) ! l5g? ( ! /ay & ) ! "* ( ! hotel4 ,a woman is n expect$ to sp5d s mu* on tips z a man4 ,x is usually be/ = a transi5t gue/ to fee ! wait] at ea* meal1 s9ce ano!r man w probably be 9 att5dance at ! next "o4 ,! usual rule is to give t5 p] c5t4 ( ! sum paid = lun* or d9n]--t5 c5ts be+ ! m9imum--except at a re/aurant ( humble pret5sions1 :]e five w be gladly accept$ by ! waitress4 ,9 addition to fee+ ! wait]1 a lady gives a small sum to ! *amb]maid--tw5ty-five c5ts = a /ay ( a day or two4 ,t5 c5ts %\ld be suffici5t = ! port] :5 he br+s up a trunk1 & aga9 :5 he takes x away4 ,! ubiquit\s hall-boy /rongly resembles ! daught] ( ! horse-lee*4 ,"h aga91 z 9 ! case ( ! wait]1 ! safe/ way seems to be to h& him t5 c5ts1 ,i w n say :5ev] he appe>s1 b :5ev] he p]=ms any s]vice = ! gue/--su* z escort+ ! latt] to h] room on h] arrival1 or br++ a glass ( ice-wat]4 ,wom5 ( frugal m9d endeavor to call on ^! function>ies z little z !y c1 because ! c5ts readily m\nt into doll>s4 ,! elevator-boy receives few] tips ?an 8 p]ipatetic bro!r1 & ne$ n be fe$ aft] a %ort /ay4 ,x is always c\rte\s to s5d exact in=mation ab\t tra9s to a p]son com+ f a di/ance4 ,a man is usually able to take c>e ( himself1 b = a woman x is n altoge!r pleasant to arrive alone 9 a /range place4 ,! ho/ess %\ld meet h] fri5d at ! /ation1 or s5d "s "o else to d s & to br+ h] to ! hotel4 ,"h ! ho/ess %\ld %[ h] gue/ :]e to regi/] & see h] com=tably e/abli%$4 ,if unable to meet ! travel] at ! tra91 ! ho/ess %\ld call soon aft]w>d 9 ord] to welcome h] gue/ & to see t ! latt] has ev]y?+ t %e ne$s4 ,:]e ! fri5d f a di/ance has come = a special occasion1 su* z a lun*eon or a reception1 ! ho/ess calls to take h] to x & br+s h] back aft]w>d1 or s5ds a c>riage or c>4 ,! ho/ess %\ld invite ! gue/ to a meal at h] own h\se1 or if ?is is n possible %e usually arranges to lun* or d9e ) h] fri5d at ! hotel4 ,:5 ! "t comes = dep>ture1 %e pays ! hotel bill be=e h] gue/ appe>s on ! sc5e or aft] ! latt] has left1 escorts h] to ! tra91 & sees h] (f4 ,if a lady comes on ! invitation ( a club1 ! secret>y or *airman ( ent]ta9m5t acts z ho/ess & fulfils all ! duties nam$ above1 except t x is n obligatory to invite ! visitor to h] h\se1 al?\gh x is always k9d to d s4 ,!re is (t5 "s memb] ( ! society liv+ 9 ! hotel :o w invite ! lectur] to take "o or m meals at h] table1 & w see 9 a g5]al way aft] h] com=t4 ,"s speak]s1 h[ev]1 pref] to rema9 alone1 f9d+ x an extra fatigue to be ent]ta9$4 ,:5 a ho/ess invites a fri5d = a /ay ( sev]al days or a week1 %e endeavors to select a hotel 9 h] own neighborhood4 ,%e (t5 arranges to h ! latt] take all meals at h] h\se1 & plans = h] amusem5t z %e w\ld = a visitor "u h] own ro(4 ,%\ld ! di/ance1 or "s o!r circum/ance1 make x m conv5i5t = ! fri5d to use ! hotel d9+-room1 ! ho/ess %\ld call e morn+1 or r+ up on ! telephone1 to inquire h[ ! visitor is & make arrangem5ts = ! day's programme1 unless ?is has be5 agre$ ^u on ! previ\s ev5+4 ,9 ! city1 a gue/ f out ( t[n usually enjoys sight-see+1 ! !at]1 op]a1 & conc]ts4 ,a woman ( s]i\s ta/es likes to g to lectures & meet+s2 h] m light-m9d$ si/] enjoys %opp+4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 motor+1 boat+1 ba?+1 & ! v>i\s a?letic sports 9 _! season (f] a v>iety ( attractions4 ,if "o c arrange a numb] ( social ent]ta9m5ts = a fri5d1 & h h] ask$ out to lun* or d9e at o!r h\ses z well z at t ( ! ho/ess1 ?is is pay+ h] a special complim5t4 ,! be/ way to ent]ta9 a p>ty ( fri5ds at a re/aurant is to engage ! table & *oose ! bill ( f>e be=eh&4 ,:]e ! lun*eon or supp] is an impromptu affair1 ?is is n always possible4 ,! ho/ may !n consult 8 gue/s ab\t ! di%es1 or he may make out ! m5u & h& x to ! wait]4 ,if ! s]vice is la c>te1 x is r awkw>d to pass ! bill ( f>e to ! gue/s1 s9ce ! prices w />e !m 9 ! face4 ,^? :o h delicacy ( feel+ w hesitate to ord] co/ly di%es at ! exp5se ( ano!r p]son4 ,^? :o h no su* scruples may make ! bill too heavy = ! purse ( ! ho/4 ,!re=e ! latt] does well to keep ! bill ( f>e 9 8 own h&s & give ! ord] himself1 consult+ 8 gue/s fir/1 if he pleases4 ,x is g5]ally saf] to avoid novel or v elaborate di%es1 unless "o kn[s some?+ ab\t !m4 ,!y are less apt to be satisfactory1 & are lik$ by few] p ?an ! pla91 ord9>y articles ( food4 ,! p>ty may g toge!r to ! re/aurant1 aft] an ev5+ at ! !at] = in/ance1 or !y may meet !re = d9n] or lun*eon4 ,if ! affair takes place at a hotel1 ! gue/s assemble 9 a public p>lor4 ,:]e ! ho/ is a man1 a "y woman %\ld g "u ! *>ge ( h] "m or o!r *ap]on4 ,x is bad =m = a "y girl to take any meal at a re/aurant ) a "y man alone4 ,:5 a woman has rea*$ ! age ( ?irty & is /ill unm>ri$1 ! /rictness ( ?is rule is slightly relax$ 9 h] favor4 ,cu/om p]mits h] to lun* or take aft]noon tea ) a "y man :o is h] relative1 or a fri5d :om %e kn[s well4 ,b %e mu/ nei!r d9e nor sup ) him4 ,at "s re/aurants ladies are n admitt$ aft] a c]ta9 h\r )\t a male escort4 ,quiet1 middle-ag$ wom5 wi%+ to d9e at "s e/abli%m5t ( good reputation 9 ,new ,york h be5 ju/ly indignant :5 refus$ p]mission to d s4 ,! exi/5ce ( ?is regulation %[s u h[ c>eful "y wom5 mu/ be ab\t ! places :]e !y d9e4 ,!re are quiet re/aurants connect$ ) family hotels :]e !y c get _! d9n] )\t excit+ any rem>k4 ,at a ladies' lun* ! ho/ess leads ! way to ! d9+-room1 tak+ ) h] ! olde/ or ! mo/ di/+ui%$ woman pres5t4 ,! entry is )\t =mality1 z 9 ! case ( a lun*eon 9 a private h\se4 ,at a d9n] or supp] ! ho/ goes 9 advance ( 8 gue/s4 ,if ! p>ty consi/s ( "y p "u ! *>ge ( a *ap]on1 he asks h] to sit at 8 "r h& or opposite to him4 ,if x consi/s ( m>ri$ c\ples1 he reque/s ! elde/ or ! mo/ di/+ui%$ lady to take ! place at 8 "r4 ,a woman does n /ay alone at a hotel unless %e is no long] "y1 or unless %e is 9 "s bus9ess :i* makes ?is necess>y4 ,%e %\ld endeavor to *oose a quiet ho/elry1 & to s dress & act z to avoid attract+ att5tion4 ,at "s hotels1 ladies travel+ )\t trunks are n receiv$4 ,! cl]k at ! desk is usually a man ( good judgm5t & exp]i5ce4 ,he 8sizes up0 ! p]sons ask+ = rooms1 & if !y seem to him undesirable inmates = ! hotel1 !y w be in=m$ t ev]y?+ is engag$4 ,! fem99e gue/1 :5 travel+ alone = ! fir/ "t1 may feel "s trepidation z %e approa*es a c\ntry inn or city hotel4 ,%e w be reassur$ :5 %e rememb]s t x is ! bus9ess ( ! l&lord to ent]ta9 /rang]s1 & t ! liv+ ( e "o 9 ! e/abli%m5t dep5ds ^u 8 giv+ good s]vice to ! travel+ public4 ,9 a city hotel1 !re are hall-boys at e turn to %[ h] j :]e to g4 ,%e ent]s ! hotel by ! ladies' door1 if !re is "o1 & proce$s at once to ! desk4 ,"h %e inquires ab\t rooms & prices1 m5tions h[ long h] /ay is likely to be1 & regi/]s h] "n 9 ! hotel book4 ,if %e is a "y woman1 %e receives any g5tleman t may call on h] 9 ! public p>lor or reception-room1 & avoids be+ out late 9 ! ev5+ z mu* z possible4 ,:ile all gue/s h a "r to compla9 ( imp]fections 9 s]vice1 etc41 x is bad =m to f9d fault con/antly ab\t trivial matt]s4 ,"s p]sons fancy t behavior ( ?is sort gives !m an air ( importance1 :]eas 9 reality x %[s t !y are ei!r selfi% & qu]ul\s or lack+ 9 exp]i5ce4 ,! c\rte\s travel] is a bit philosophical4 ,he kn[s t delays w sometimes occur & t e "o _c be wait$ ^u fir/4 ,he w n all[ himself to be impos$ ^u )\t mak+ a remon/rance1 b he w n cont9ually ass]t 8 rights4 ,a lady travel+ alone ne$s to be especially c>eful ab\t ! mann] 9 :i* %e makes compla9ts at a hotel4 ,to he> a woman scold is unpleasant ev5 9 ! family circle1 b 9 a public place x is lam5table4 ,!re voice & temp] alike mu/ be kept "u /rict control4 ,"y girls d n1 ( c\rse1 /ay at a hotel 9 ! city or c\ntry unless accompani$ by "m or *ap]on4 ,at summ] resorts !y are sometimes ?\ghtless ab\t l\d talk & laught] 9 ! corridors & lobbies ( a hotel1 & ab\t sitt+ on ! v]&a 9 ! company ( an agreeable y\? until an unduly late h\r4 ,!y are s c>ri$ away by _! high spirits1 & are hav+ su* a delightful "t1 t !y =get h[ c5sori\s ! _w is4 ,!y =get t 9 a public place x is necess>y to be quiet] & m res]v$ 9 mann] ?an 9 a private h\se1 & ?us %[ t "o und]/&s & respects ! laws ( good-bre$+4 ,:5 /ay+ at a hotel1 "o %\ld be dress$ well b n 9 a conspicu\s way4 ,ladies may we> _! hats or n1 z !y f9d conv5i5t4 ,?us1 if "o 7 go+ out imm$iately aft] breakfa/1 "o w\ld come d[n 9 a simply made /reet co/ume4 ,mat9es & tea-g[ns are v *>m+ 9 ! privacy ( home1 b _! in=mality makes !m inappropriate at a hotel4 ,9 summ]1 pretty tub dresses1 :i* please ! behold] by _! fre%ness & simplicity1 are especially becom+ to "y wom54 ,old] ladies we> g[ns ( ! same mat]ial made 9 a /yle suitable to _! ye>s1 or appe> 9 f\l>ds1 voiles1 or o!r ?9 /uffs4 ,elaborate co/umes are n appropriate = ! morn+4 ,9 w9t] a lady may come d[n to breakfa/ at a hotel 9 a morn+ dress made all 9 "o piece1 or 9 a skirt ( wool5 /uff ) wai/ ( silk1 *iffon1 or o!r ?9 mat]ial ei!r :ite or ( ! same color z ! skirt4 ,= ! aft]noon a lady may reta9 h] /reet suit1 or %e may put on a h&som] "o4 ,if %e is n go+ out %e may pref] to we> a h\se dress ( m exp5sive mat]ial1 & made 9 a m elaborate /yle1 ?an w\ld be suitable 9 ! morn+4 ,accord+ to ! pres5t fa%ion1 su* a g[n w\ld be cut d[n at ! ?roat1 ) half-l5g? sleeves4 ,:e!r ! soj\rn] at a hotel *anges or does n *ange h] g[n 9 ! aft]noon1 %e %\ld d s = late d9n]1 s9ce morn+ co/ume w\ld n !n be appropriate4 ,z we h already se51 a v>iety ( dress is p]missible at ^! public places ( ent]ta9m5t1 because gue/s are arriv+1 dep>t+1 or go+ out = engagem5ts ( all sorts4 ,! g5]al rule1 h[ev]1 to :i* !re are "s exceptions1 prescribes ev5+ dress = ! ev5+4 ,at l>ge & fa%ionable hotels 9 ,new ,york1 _m ( ! wom5 we> dcollet g[ns4 ,a lady invit$ to a d9n] p>ty at "o ( ^! places w\ld dress z %e w\ld at a private h\se4 ,9 small] cities1 & at quiet] hotels1 l[-neck$ dresses are n s (t5 se54 ,if a lady int5ds to take an ev5+ tra9 %e may1 if %e pleases1 appe> at d9n] 9 travel+ hat & dress4 ,if %e is go+ to ! !at]1 op]a-h\se1 or conc]t-hall1 %e w we> ! k9d ( co/ume describ$ 9 ,*apt] ,,xii4 ,correspond5ts sometimes ask :at ! prop] dress is = ,sunday ev5+ at a hotel4 ,op9ions on ?is subject v>y 9 accordance ) p's religi\s views or inh]it$ traditions4 ,:ile ! old-fa%ion$ /rict obs]vance ( ! ,sabba? has be5 mu* relax$ bo? 9 ,engl& & 9 ,am]ica1 ! ,puritan view ( ! day /ill /rongly influ5ces ! mann]s & cu/oms ( ! c\ntry at l>ge4 ,^? :o hold to x pref] to dress quietly & to es*ew l[-neck$ g[ns on ,sunday ev5+4 ,!y appe> 9 co/umes suitable to we> at *ur*1 ev5 if !y h no int5tion ( go+ !re4 ,!re are _m o!r p1 especially 9 a cosmopolitan city l ,new ,york1 :o hold no su* view ( ! obs]vance ( ,sunday1 & dress !n z !y w\ld on any o!r day ( ! week4 ,ladies always reta9 _! hats 9 ! daytime at a re/aurant or ro(-g>d54 ,!y remove _! gloves on sitt+ d[n to table1 & ?r[ back or take (f _! out] wraps4 ,x is usually possible to *eck ^!1 b _m p object to ! delay involv$4 ,wom5 ( good ta/e pref] to dress quietly if !y att5d a danc+-tea at "o ( ^! places1 & ?us avoid attract+ special att5tion4 ,at c]ta9 re/aurants an ef=t is made to compel all gue/s to we> ev5+ dress4 ,?is is m]ely copy+ an ,engli% fa%ion ill-suit$ to a democratic c\ntry4 ,at ! ,hotel ,savoy 9 ,london !y en=ce su* a rule4 ,an ,am]ican lady :o _h rea*$ ! half-c5tury limit1 & did n c>e to appe> 9 public 9 a l[-neck$ dress1 w5t n long ago to ! re/aurant !re ) a p>ty ( "y fri5ds4 ,%e wore a new & exp5sive ,p>is dress & h] h&some/ jewels4 ,! "y p 7 all 9 ev5+ dress1 b because ! *ap]on did n h on a dcollet g[n !y 7 refus$ admission to ! re/aurant1 & 7 oblig$ to cont5t !mselves ) d9+ 9 ! grill-room6 ,at ! be/ hotels 9 ,new ,york1 su* z ,delmonico's1 ! ,a/or1 & ! ,plaza1 ladies may we> co/umes ) hats or full ev5+ dress1 z !y f9d mo/ conv5i5t4 ,= aft]noon dances at hotels & ro(-g>d5s1 m5 usually come 9 bus9ess suits4 ,aft] six o'clock ev5+ dress is ! prop] co/ume4 ,! d9n]-jacket1 or in=mal ev5+ dress1 z x may be call$1 is (t5 worn = danc+ at ro(-g>d5s1 because x is m com=table ?an ! long-tail$ dress-coat4 ,x is also us$ = unc]emoni\s occasions at hotels & re/aurants1 z x w\ld be else:]e 7see ,*apt]s ,,iv & ,,xii74 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,,xii ,,!at]1 ,,op]a1 ,,& ,,conc]t-,,hall ,arrangem5ts = ,=mal & ,in=mal ,!at] ,p>ties--,! ,supp]--,! ,ba*elor & ,8 ,duties z ,ho/ & z ,gue/--,dress & ,behavior at ! ,!at]1 ,op]a1 & ,conc]t-hall4 ,,an in=mal !at] p>ty may be an impromptu affair got up at %ort notice4 ,x may ei!r be a ,dut* treat1 :]e e "o pays = himself1 or "o or m p]sons may act z ho/s & invite ! o!rs to g at _! exp5se4 ,if a g5tleman & 8 wife ask ano!r lady to accompany !m1 !y %\ld ei!r call = h] or invite h] to d9e ) !m4 ,at ! conclusion ( ! p]=mance !y %\ld take h] home1 or ! husb& alone c\ld d s4 ,x is n necess>y to h a c>riage if ! /reet-c>s are ne> at h&4 ,if two ladies liv+ 9 ! same h\se are invit$1 ! tickets may be s5t to !m1 ask+ !m to meet _! ho/s at ! !at]4 ,unless !y are v "y wom51 x w be prop] = !m to g toge!r1 :]eas = a lady alone x w\ld n be q pleasant to d s4 ,:5 ! conc]t or play is ov]1 ! ho/ w see !m to _! c>riage or to ! /reet-c>4 ,if ! h\r is late1 he w (f] to escort !m home4 ,if !y assure him t !y are n afraid to g alone1 he w n insi/ ^u do+ s1 unless he believes ?is necess>y = _! protection4 ,two "y & pretty wom5 are liable to annoyance f rude pass]s-by at a late h\r 9 ! ev5+4 ,if a man wi%es to take a "y lady to ! !at] he mu/ invite h] "m or o!r *ap]on to be ( ! p>ty4 ,?is is a safe & excell5t rule to foll[1 & few exceptions %\ld be made to x4 ,9 ! case ( c\s9s or old fri5ds x is sometimes brok51 especially if ! lady is n 9 h] fir/ y\?4 ,b "y wom5 %\ld rememb] t1 z ! _w is v c5sori\s1 "o :o broke ?is rule (t5 w\ld be ! subject ( unfavorable comm5t4 ,a girl may1 ( c\rse1 g to ! !at] ) h] bro!r4 ,! g5tleman may invite a m>ri$ lady to matronize ! p>ty1 or he may ask ! girl to *oose h] own *ap]on4 ,he calls = bo? 8 gue/s2 fir/ = ! matron1 !n = ! "y lady4 ,at ! close ( ! p]=mance he escorts !m bo? to _! h\ses1 leav+ ! y\ng] woman fir/ at h] resid5ce1 & !n ! eld] "o at h]s4 ,:]e ! *ap]on has be5 provid$ by ! girl1 ! man may1 if he pref]s1 s5d !m ! tickets & meet !m at ! !at] or conc]t-hall1 wait+ = !m 9 ! lobby4 ,he w\ld c]ta9ly (f] at lea/ to escort !m home1 unless !y 7 go+ 9 a c>riage4 ,9 ?is case he w\ld cont5t himself ) ask+ ! man at ! door to call x1 or go+ to f9d x himself1 %\ld ?is be necess>y1 & putt+ !m safely into _! own conveyance4 ,he %\ld endeavor to f9d a %elt]$ place = !m to /& p5d+ ! arrival ( ! vehicle1 & keep a %>p look\t himself le/ ! c>riage lose its place 9 ! l9e & s make ! ladies wait = an undue l5g? ( "t4 ,= a l>ge & =mal !at] p>ty1 x is usual to invite ! gue/s to d9n]1 or to supp] aft] ! play or op]a4 ,9 ei!r case !y assemble at ! h\se ( ! ho/ess1 :o provides an omnibus1 automobile1 or o!r conveyance to take !m to & f ! playh\se4 ,%e mu/ "n an h\r e>ly en\gh to enable ! p>ty to rea* ! op]a-h\se or !at] 9 good season4 ,if %e asks h] fri5ds to d9e ) h]1 %e %\ld = ! same reason avoid a long bill ( f>e4 ,! gue/s %\ld be c>eful to come punctually4 ,%\ld any ( !m be deta9$1 !y %\ld telephone & ask ! ho/ess n to wait = !m4 ,to fail to keep an engagem5t = d9n] is consid]$ "o ( ! grave/ social s9s4 ,h[ mu* worse x is to spoil a !at] p>ty 9 addition by rema9+ away aft] promis+ to come6 ,! affair is m likely to g (f well if ! ho/ess introduces ^? gue/s :o d n already "k "o ano!r4 ,:olesale introductions are n[ ?\ght awkw>d & undesirable2 h5ce x is bett] to make ! pres5tations gradually1 "o or two at a "t4 ,^? :o are to sit next ea* o!r %\ld c]ta9ly be introduc$4 ,x is well to plan be=eh& ! seat+ ( ! gue/s4 ,if ! ho/ess has a p>ty ( "y p & is q at a loss z to _! pref]5ces1 %e may l to consult "o ( !m be=eh& on ?is important matt]4 ,to ea* man %\ld be h&$ two tickets4 ,^! may be inclos$ 9 an envelope1 ) a c>d be>+ ! "n ( ! lady :o is to sit next him at ! !at]4 ,%e also receives an envelope conta9+ ! "n ( h] !at] p>tn]4 ,?is arrangem5t is conv5i5t :]e _m p g toge!r4 ,if ! p>ty 7 to sit 9 a private box x w\ld be unnecess>y4 ,!re ! ladies sit 9 front1 ! g5tlem5 beh9d4 ,! old] wom5 are (f]$ ! be/ seats1 b usually pref] to let ! y\ng] ones take ! places :]e !y c see & be se54 ,at ! close ( ! p]=mance ! !at]-c>riage conveys all to _! homes1 leav+ ! wom5 gue/s fir/1 ! ho/ess next1 ! m5 la/ ( all1 al?\gh ! latt] (t5 *oose to walk4 ,if !re is to be a supp]1 x may be ei!r at ! h\se ( ! ho/ess or at a re/aurant ( unblemi%$ reputation4 ,! meal may be simple or elaborate4 ,a c\rse supp] is v mu* l a d9n] or lun*eon1 except t x is less =mal & ! bill ( f>e is light] & da9ti]4 ,few p c>e to eat a heavy meal late 9 ! ev5+4 ,raw oy/]s or ,little ,neck clams1 b\illon 9 cups1 an entre ( "s sort1 salad ) or )\t game1 ices1 fruit1 bonbons1 & black c(fee may be s]v$ 9 ! ord] nam$ by ^? :o c>e = a full m5u4 ,= a !at] p>ty x is n necess>y to (f] su* an elaborate bill ( f>e4 ,oy/]s1 cold *ick5 ) salad1 & ices are q en\gh = ! ho/ess to provide4 ,a *af+-di% supp] produces mu* fun & jollity among "y p1 or among ^? :o "k "o ano!r well4 ,x is n to be recomm5d$ = all sorts & conditions ( m51 h[ev]4 ,an in=mal meal ( ?is sort w\ld j> ^u ! ta/e ( ^? p]sons :o l to h ev]y?+ done accord+ to conv5tional me?ods & 9 a /]eotyp$ fa%ion4 ,! *af+-di% sets & /&s n[ furni% e conv5i5ce = prep>+ readily "o or m hot di%es4 ,wel% r>ebit1 oy/]s1 lob/]1 eggs1 & mu%rooms are all excell5t cook$ 9 ?is way1 to say no?+ ( ! m complicat$ di%es :i* require an exp]t to h&le successfully4 ,:]e ! supp] is giv5 at ! h\se ( ! ho/ess1 _! maids call = ! "y ladies !re1 & x is n necess>y = h] to s5d !m home4 ,if a ba*elor wi%es to give a !at] p>ty1 & to invite "y wom5 to be 8 gue/s1 he mu/ engage "s m>ri$ lady ( good social position & ( a c]ta9 age to act z *ap]on4 ,a "y m>ri$ woman is sometimes z full ( fun & high spirits z a girl4 ,no "o objects to h] natural gaiety if %e keeps x )9 due b\nds4 ,b x is n consid]$ q ! ?+ = a woman ( ?is sort to matronize "y girls4 ,a *ap]on %\ld h ! dignity :i* ye>s & exp]i5ce be/[1 ?\gh %e ne$ n be dull & /upid4 ,! gue/s all meet at ! resid5ce ( ?is lady1 ! ba*elor ho/ arriv+ a little e>li] ?an ! re/ 9 ord] to receive 8 fri5ds1 to introduce !m to ! *ap]on1 & to make su* o!r introductions z ! occasion dem&s4 ,p ( mod]ate means g to ! !at] 9 ! /reet-c>s if ! ev5+ is pleasant4 ,! m elegant me?od is to provide a !at]-c>riage2 b n e ba*elor c af=d s mu* exp5se z ?is w\ld involve4 ,he %\ld1 h[ev]1 pay 8 gue/s' f>e1 & = ?is purpose x is well to buy c> tickets be=eh&4 ,o!rwise ano!r man ( ! p>ty may rea* ! ticket-boo? fir/ & pur*ase !m be=e ! ho/ has an opportunity to d s4 ,at ! !at] or conc]t-hall ! ladies are p]mitt$ to pass ?r\gh ! wicket fir/1 ! ho/ /&+ on "o side & %[+ ! tickets4 ,he prec$es ! re/ ( ! p>ty go+ d[n ! aisle to ! seats1 9 ord] to po9t out to all :]e !y are to sit4 ,x may be arrang$ to h ! *ap]on g 9 fir/ & take ! inn]mo/ seat1 or %e may be plac$ next ! ho/1 :o sits ne>e/ ! aisle4 ,our ba*elor may take ! p>ty to a re/aurant = supp]1 to 8 club if ?is possesses a d9+-room = ladies1 or to 8 own ap>tm5t or /udio1 %\ld ?is be l>ge en\gh & conv5i5tly locat$4 ,9 ei!r ( ! fir/ two cases ! table %\ld be engag$ & ! m5u made out be=eh&4 ,if supp] is to be giv5 9 8 own rooms1 he %\ld h "o or m compet5t p]sons to set ! table1 d any cook+ t may be necess>y1 & h all 9 read9ess on ! arrival ( ! p>ty4 ,!re %\ld also be "o or m s]vants to wait on ! table1 unless ! affair is an extremely in=mal "o4 ,! ho/ leads ! way to ! d9+-room1 all foll[+ )\t c]emony4 ,! *ap]on sits at 8 "r1 or on ! opposite side ( ! table4 ,:5 supp] is ov] he may escort h]1 toge!r ) ! "y wom51 to h] h\se1 or ! !at]-c>riage may leave !m at _! h\ses1 provid$ ! matron ( ! occasion is ( ! p>ty & rema9s ) x until all ! "y girls h be5 tak5 to _! respective resid5ces4 ,! ho/ gets out fir/1 assi/s ea* ( 8 fair gue/s 9 turn to alight1 op5s ! door = h] ) ! lat*-key or r+s ! bell1 & does n leave h] until %e has be5 admitt$ to ! h\se4 ,:]e ! !at] p>ty is giv5 by a lady1 ! g5tleman sitt+ ne>e/ ! door ( ! conveyance p]=ms ?is s]vice1 unless !re is a footman 9 att5dance4 ,ev5+ dress is ! prop] co/ume = m5 at all p]=mances at ! op]a1 !at]1 & conc]t-hall t take place 9 ! ev5+4 ,?is is de rigueur = a !at] p>ty1 & at ! gr& op]a "u all circum/ances4 ,= ,engli% op]a & in=mal excursions to ! !at]1 ! d9n]-jacket is (t5 worn4 ,inde$1 our c\ntrym5 are v indep5d5t 9 ^! matt]s & claim ! "r to dress z !y please4 ,9 ,europe ! rules are /rict]4 ,a g5tleman ( my acqua9tance once w5t to ! op]a 9 ,p>is1 9 ! days ( ! old rgime1 we>+ an ord9>y black coat4 ,he 0 refus$ admission on ! gr\nd t ev5+ dress 0 necess>y4 ,be+ a ,yankee ( an +5i\s turn ( m9d1 he w5t out1 procur$ a pap] ( p9s1 fa/5$ up ! (f5d+ coat-tails into ! requir$ %ape1 & aga9 pres5t$ himself at ! op]a-h\se4 ,! au?orities1 argu+ d\btless t he _h fulfill$ ! lett] ( ! law1 admitt$ him1 s admirable is ! logic ( ! ,fr5*man6 ,! prop] co/ume = wom5 at ! !at] & op]a is ev5+ dress4 ,at ! gr& op]a 9 ,new ,york & o!r l>ge cities1 _m ladies we> dcollet g[ns1 toge!r ) a great deal ( jewelry1 al?\gh1 z we h said else:]e1 ?is is by no means a univ]sal cu/om4 ,all :o sit ei!r 9 ! boxes or 9 ! or*e/ra seats appe> 9 h&some toilettes & we> long :ite or black kid gloves4 ,a long ev5+ wrap made ( silk1 sat91 or o!r exp5sive mat]ial =ms an important "p ( op]a co/ume4 ,"o sees only a spr9kl+ ( l[-neck$ g[ns at ! !at]1 ,am]ican ladies usually pref]r+ to appe> !re 9 dresses ei!r high-neck$ or only slightly cut d[n4 ,_m we> a pretty1 light-color$1 dressy wai/ ) a d>k skirt1 s9ce ! latt] %[s little1 unless "o is sitt+ 9 a private box4 ,= a conc]t ! co/ume is ! same z = ! !at]4 ,some?+ w dep5d on ! season ( ! ye>1 ! nature ( ! occasion1 & ! locality4 ,= a special p]=mance1 ) high-pric$ tickets1 ! co/umes w\ld be m elaborate ?an = "o ) an ord9>y programme4 ,good =m dem&s t we %\ld always be m9dful ( ! rights1 com=t1 & pleasure ( o!r p :5 we att5d a !atrical or a musical p]=mance4 ,! p]sons compos+ ! audi5ce h paid = _! seats1 9 ! great majority ( cases at lea/1 & x is extremely ill-br$ to int]f]e ) _! pleasure by talk+ or laugh+4 ,! m5 & wom5 :o fancy t x is sm>t to d s %[ !mselves lack+ 9 true polit5ess4 ,"o %\ld endeavor to be punctual1 9 ord] n to di/urb "o's neighbors aft] ! curta9 has gone up or ! music has begun4 ,"s "o has to come la/1 ( c\rse1 & ! e>li] arrivals %\ld /& up & all[ ! seats ( _! *airs to fold back 9 ord] to all[ p to pass by !m ) z little discom=t z possible4 ,a man sitt+ next ! aisle %\ld /ep into x :5 a lady is ab\t to pass 94 ,x is c\rte\s b n obligatory = ! latt] to d ! same ?+4 ,^? :o arrive aft] ! p]=mance has begun %\ld remove _! wraps be=e !y g to _! seats1 9 ord] n to obscure _! neighbor's view ( ! /age :ile !y are do+ s4 ,!y mu/ also be c>eful n to di/urb ! latt] by ris+ or bu/l+ ab\t t[>d ! end ( ! play4 ,! go+ 9 & out betwe5 ! acts is r try+ to ^? :o are oblig$ to rise con/antly 9 ord] to let o!rs pass by4 ,h5ce1 unless "o has an aisle seat1 x is be/ to g out only once 9 ! c\rse ( ! ev5+4 ,:]e a l>ge numb] ( ! audi5ce d s1 z at ! op]a1 ! case is diff]5t4 ,! walk+ up & d[n ! foy] & ! corridors1 ! consum+ ( ices & lemonade1 are (t5 a "p ( ! regul> programme4 ,"o %\ld be c>eful to return to "o's seat :5 ! w>n+-bell r+s4 ,x is n[ ?or\ghly und]/ood t all ladies %\ld remove _! hats at ! !at]1 op]a1 & conc]t-hall4 ,occasionally !y are k9d en\gh to d s at a lecture4 ,a man :o is ) a p>ty ( ladies may excuse himself = a %ort abs5ce1 if he sees "s "o to :om he wi%es especially to speak4 ,b if he %\ld d s (t51 he w\ld be ?\ght neglectful & lack+ 9 c\rtesy by ! memb]s ( 8 p>ty4 ,if he is act+ z escort to "o lady1 he %\ld n leave h] 9 ord] to speak to any "o else1 unless ano!r man %\ld come to talk to h]1 9 :i* case he c\ld excuse himself1 b %\ld return be=e ! curta9 rises aga94 ---------------------------------------- -------------------------------- ,transcrib]'s note3 ,miss+ or obscur$ punctuation 0 correct$4 ,typographical errors 7 sil5tly correct$4 ,inconsi/5t spell+ & hyph5ation 7 made consi/5t only :5 a pr$om9ant =m 0 f\nd 9 ?is book4