,,hotel ,,cecil1 ,,london4 ,! ,mo/ ,fa%ionable & ,popul> ,hotel 9 ,europe4 ,,magnific5t ,,suites ,,( ,,rooms ,,= ,,public ,,private ,,banquets1 ,,receptions1 c4 8,,table ,,talk40 #b;d4 ,,weekly4 ,,on ,,all ,,book/alls4 ,,mann]s ,,= ,,m5 ,,mann]s ,,= ,,m5 ,,by ,,mrs4 ,,humphry 78,,madge0 ,,( 8,,tru?07 ,london ,,james ,,b[d5 #aj1 ,,h5rietta ,,/reet ,,cov5t ,,g>d51 ,w4,c4 #ahig ,,mann]s ,,= ,,m54 ,,fir/ ,,edition ,febru>y1 #ahig4 ,,second ,,edition ,m>*1 #ahig4 ,,cont5ts4 ,,page ,,woman',s ,,ideal ,,man #a ,,9 ,,! ,,/reet #ab ,,9 ,a ,,c>riage #bi ,,9 ,a ,,hansom #ca ,,smok+ #cb ,,9 ,,or ,,on ,,an ,,omnibus #cf ,,on ,,horseback #db ,,driv+ #df ,,games ,,& ,,recreations #ej ,,rule ,,( ,,! ,,road ,,on ,,! ,,riv] #ec ,,d9n]-,,p>ties #ee ,,public ,,d9n]s #hc ,,at ,a ,,re/aurant #hh ,,at ,,lun* #ia ,,five ,o',,clock ,,tea ,,& ,,aft]noon ,,at-,,homes #id ,,at ,,! ,,play #if ,,at ,a ,,ball #ajc ,,engagem5t ,,& ,,m>riage #ajh ,,dress #aac ,,c\ntry ,,life #aai ,,visit+-,,c>ds ,,& ,,calls #aba ,,mann] #aca ,,9 ,,*ur* #ade ,,correspond5ce #adh ,,p]sonal ,,spee* ,,) ,,royalty ,,& ,,rank #aeh ,,mann]s ,,= ,,m54 ,,woman',s ,,ideal ,,man4 ,i suppose !re 0 nev] yet a woman :o _h n some:]e set up on a p$e/al 9 h] bra9 an ideal ( manhood4 ,he is by no means immutable1 ?is p>agon4 ,on ! contr>y1 he *anges v (t54 ,sid5ote3 ,! ideal *anges ) ! ideali/4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! woman ^: ideal he is gr[s upw>d 9 e way z %e gr[s old]1 !n ^! *anges all g to improve him1 & by ! "t he is f9i%$ he is a v f9e creature4 ,he nev] is f9i%$ till ! bra9 ( 8 creator ceases to "w1 till %e has add$ h] la/ t\* to him1 & has laid d[n ! burd5 ( life & gone else:]e1 p]haps to "s happy l& :]e ideals are m frequ5tly realis$ ?an ev] happ5s "h4 ,sid5ote3 ,my ideal man4 ,l e o!r woman1 ,i h my ideal ( manhood4 ,! difficulty is to describe x4 ,fir/ ( all1 he mu/ be a g5tleman2 b t means s mu* t x1 9 its turn1 requires explanation4 ,g5tl5ess & moral /r5g? comb9$ mu/ be ! sali5t *>act]i/ics ( ! 8g5tleman10 toge!r ) t poli% t is nev] acquir$ b 9 "o way3 con/ant association ) ^? s happily plac$ t !y h enjoy$ ! influ5ces ( education & ref9em5t all ?r\gh _! lives4 ,he mu/ be ?\ghtful = o!rs1 k9d to wom5 & *ildr5 & all helpless ?+s1 t5d]-he>t$ to ! old & ! poor & ! unhappy1 b nev] fooli%ly weak 9 giv+ :]e gifts d ,sid5ote3 ,a man's bra9 %\ld be z f9e z 8 he>t4 h>m in/ead ( good--8 bra9 mu/ be z f9e z 8 he>t1 9 fact4 ,!re are few su* m52 b !y d exi/4 ,i "k "o or two4 ,reliable z rocks1 judici\s 9 e action1 dep5dable 9 trifles z well z ! l>ge affairs ( life1 full ( m]cy & k9dness to o!rs1 affectionate & well-lov$ 9 _! homes1 _! lives are pure & k9dly4 ,x 0 once said by a clev] man t no "o c\ld be a g5tleman all r\nd :o _h n ,sid5ote3 ,! furnace ( exp]i5ce4 knock$ ab\t ! _w & associat$ ) all sorts & conditions ( m51 high & l[1 ri* & poor1 good & bad4 ,exp]i5ces l ^! are l ! processes = ref9+ gold4 ,! man :o em]ges unh>m$ f ! fire ( pov]ty & its associations1 & :o reta9s 8 indep5d5t manl9ess 9 relations ) ^? high-plac$1 mu/ h )9 him a fibre ( /r5g? t is ! true ess5ce ( manl9ess4 ,s _m1 alas6 g d[n1 d[n1 :5 8puirti? cauld0 t\*es !m ) h] t]rible1 *illy f+]4 ,& s _m become obsequi\s & subs]vi5t1 false to !mselves1 9 deal+s ) ^? above !m4 ,well6 my ideal does nei!r4 ,he is always true to himself1 & 8_c !n be false to any man40 ,& he mu/ h a s5se ( hum\r1 too1 o!rwise he w\ld be f> ,sid5ote3 ,hum\r an ess5tial4 f p]fect4 ,h[ life is bright5$ by a s5se ( fun6 ,?9k ( :at breakfa/1 lun*1 & d9n] w\ld be if all 7 to be z solemn & z s]i\s z "s folk w\ld h x6 ,if good mann]s are n practis$ at home1 b are all[$ to lie by until occasion calls ^u _! we>] to assume !m1 !y are ,sid5ote3 ,on behavi\r 9 "o's own home4 sure to be a bad fit :5 donn$4 ,x may be a trifle ( ! smalle/ to acquire a habit ( say+ 8if y please0 & 8?ank y0 readily1 b x is no trifl+ defect 9 a "y man to fail to d s4 ,if he does n jump up to op5 ! door = 8 "m or si/]1 he may omit to d s "s day :5 ! neglect w tell aga9/ him 9 ! e/imation ( ^? to please :om he w\ld gladly give mu*4 ,c>elessness 9 dress & p]sonal appe>ance am\nt to bad mann]s4 ,9 ! home !re is sometimes a disagreeable neglig5ce 9 ?is respect4 ,at ! breakfa/-table unkempt hair1 unt5d$ f+]-nails1 & a f> f immaculate coll> are occasionally to be se51 especially on late-com]s :o d n practise ! +ratiat+ polit5ess ( punctuality4 ,l\ng+1 untidy habits are ano!r =m ( bad mann]s4 ,! ill-br$ "y man smokes ,sid5ote3 ,! ill-br$ "y man at home4 all ov] ! h\se1 up/airs & d[n/airs1 & ev5 9 8 "m's draw+-room4 ,he may be trac$ f room to room by ! litt] ( newspap]s & magaz9es he leaves beh9d him4 ,! pres5t fa%ion ( tak+ "o's read+ 9 pills1 s to speak1 snat*+ x 9 scrappy p>agraphs f weekly miscellanies1 is b too fav\rable to ?is lack ( ord]4 ,9 ?is "y man's own room !re is *aos4 ,! maids h endless tr\ble 9 cle>+ up aft] him4 ,8 tobacco is spill$ ov] tables1 *airs1 & c>pets4 ,8 h&k]*iefs1 ties1 socks1 & coll>s are ly+ ab\t 9 e corn] ( ! room4 ,he is too indol5t ev5 to put 8 boots outside ! door at night t !y may be clean$ 9 ! morn+4 ,to save himself tr\ble he bangs all ! doors in/ead ( g5tly lat*+ !m4 ,& yet1 p]haps1 if he c\ld b realise t all ?is is 8bad mann]s10 he w\ld become z neat z he is n[ ! rev]se1 & w\ld be z decorative at table z he is1 at ! pres5t mom5t1 unornam5tal4 ,x is n only "y m5 ^: /&>d ( behavi\r 9 ! home is a l[ "o4 ,ma/]s ( ! ,sid5ote3 8,"y0 m5 n alone culpable4 h\se1 fa!rs ( families1 m5 ( middle age1 :o are t]ribly put out if any "o fails 9 duty to !m1 are sometimes conspicu\sly ill-br$ 9 ev]yday matt]s4 ,!y are late = e meal1 to ! discom=t ( ! o!r memb]s ( ! family & ! great inconv5i5ce ( ! s]vants4 ,polite to ! _w outside1 !y are brusque & disagreeable 9 _! mann] at home3 r\gh to ! s]vants1 rude to _! wives1 & irritable ) _! *ildr54 ,sometimes a good he>t & consid]able family affection are hidd5 away beh9d all ?is1 b ! families ( su* m5 w\ld be v glad to comp\nd = a little less affection & hidd5 goodness & r m g5tl5ess & outw>d poli%4 ,ap>t f faults ( temp]1 m5 fall into c>eless habits ( spee* & mann] at home1 & "o =m ( ?is1 viz41 habitually us+ /rong language 9 ! pres5ce ,sid5ote3 ,on /rong language4 ( wom5 & *ildr51 is p>ticul>ly (f5sive4 ,besides1 x defeats itself2 = if ! =cible expressions are int5d$ to express disapprobation1 !y soon become weak & p[]less to d s1 because !y are us$ on e possible occasion4 ,aft] a "t !y lose all mean+4 ,i "k a family :]e !re are sons & daught]s1 ! latt] *>m+ & 9 e respect "y g5tlewom54 ,b ! sons fall f> bel[ _! level4 ,sid5ote3 ,a typical family4 ,!y come to ! door ) ?und]+ knocks t make e "o 9 ! h\se />t disagreeably ) surprise1 walk ?r\gh ! hall )\t introduc+ _! muddy boots to ei!r scrap] or doormat1 sit d[n to meals )\t ! usual prelim9>y ( h&-wa%+ & hair-bru%+1 & are altoge!r r\gh & unpres5table4 ,if fri5ds call at ! h\se ^! "y m5 ru% away f ! *ance ( enc\nt]+ !m2 or1 if !y _c help meet+ !m1 !y blu% sc>let1 look v gau*e & uncom=table1 & feel mis]able4 ,!y knock ?+s ov] out ( pure awkw>dness1 & nev] realise t ! secret ( ! :ole matt] is ! want ( self-tra9+4 ,sid5ote3 ,! secret ( ! :ole matt]4 ,girls are animat$ by a great] wi% to please1 an amiable desire t ne$ n be conf\nd$ ) vanity1 & ?is wi% has l$ ! si/]s ( ^! "y m5 to practise ^? small acts ( daily self-d5ial :i* aft] a:ile produce ! highe/ self-culture s f> z mann]s g4 ,sid5ote3 ,! fem99e motive4 ,:at is habitual neatness b con/ant co]cion ( human nature's innate indol5ce8 ,:at is polit5ess 9 ! home b ! outcome ( affection & self-respect1 & ! suppression ( all ^? natural in/9cts ( self-seek+ t1 all[$ _! way1 produce ! wor/ mann]s 9 ! _w8 ,if any "y man desires to be a p]fect g5tleman1 he mu/ beg9 9 8 own home4 ,sid5ote3 ,! "y man e "o loves4 ,x is delightful to see "s "y m5 unobtrusively att5tive to _! si/]s1 wat*ful ( e ne$ ( _! fa!r & "m1 *e]ful & pleasant 9 _! mann]1 full ( fun & brightness1 yet nev] los+ ! g5tl5ess t d5otes ! f9e nature1 & s belov$ 9 ! home = all ^! ende>+ qualities1 t :5 !y leave x !y are sadly miss$4 ,! fa!r misses !m = ! pleasant companion%ip2 ! si/]s miss !m = ! boyi% spirits & ! exub]ant fun t nev] exce$s ! b\nds ( good ta/e & ref9em5t2 & ! "m misses !m m ?an any "o else1 = no "o bett] ?an %e kn[s h[ _m times a day h] boys h set aside _! own wi%es 9 def]5ce to h]s1 quietly1 sil5tly1 uno/5tati\sly--9 a ^w1 out ( pure good mann]s1 9 ! deepe/1 highe/1 true/ s5se ( ! words4 ,sid5ote3 8,g5tle1 yet virile40 ,su* g5tle1 virile natures look out at ! _w ?r\gh ! c\nt5ance1 :i* is a lett] ( recomm5dation to !m :]ev] !y g4 ,i h b fa9tly sket*$ my ideal4 ,! foll[+ pages may fill 9 ! rema9+ t\*es4 ,_m m5 :o g out into ! _w :ile /ill v "y to e>n _! liv+ h few opportunities ( acquir+ a k ( social obs]vances4 ,sid5ote3 ,difficulties 9 ! way4 ,leav+ home :5 boys1 at an age :5 !y are utt]ly c>eless ( su* ?+s z etiquette & ! 8nice conduct ( a cane10 !y live 9 lodg+s or at bo>d+-h\ses ( ! *eap] sort1 :]e ! am5ities ( exi/5ce h to yield to its practicalities4 ,sid5ote3 8,:]e am5ities yield to practicalities40 ,meals are s]v$ 9 a fa%ion t means despat* r ?an elegance1 economy r ?an ta/e1 & v few h9ts c be pick$ up = ! guidance ( "y fell[s :5 !y ent] ! homes ( fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,sid5ote3 ,! p5alty ( ignorance4 ,_! anxiety to fall 9 accurately & easily ) ! obs]vances ( ^? !y meet on su* occasions is z great z x is natural4 ,!y "k well t to fail 9 ^! trifl+ acts ( omission & commission is tacitly to ackn[l$ge t !y are unv]s$ 9 ! ways ( good society4 ,sid5ote3 ,! aspirant is n necess>ily a snob4 ,!re is n necess>ily any snobbi%ness 9 ?is4 ,a man may be p]fectly manly & yet mo/ unwill+ to %[ himself inf]ior 9 any way to o!rs ( ! class to :i* he belongs by bir? & education4 ,ev5 %\ld ^? ) :om he occasionally associates be 8 sup]iors1 is he n "r to try to rise8 ,sid5ote3 ,culture & poli% are realities4 ,culture may mean little or no?+ to ! uncultur$4 ,poli% may be an empty ^w to ! unpoli%$4 ,b !y are realities1 & g f> to produce an inw>d & correspond+ ref9em5t ( m9d & _s4 ,!re are ?\s&s ( "y m5 9 ,london alone at ?is v mom5t :o are long+ to acquire ! ease & aplomb ( good society4 ,sid5ote3 ,! desire to rise des]ves enc\ragem5t4 ,! desire is wor?y ( all enc\ragem5t4 ,only ^? ) real good 9 !m c feel x4 ,! m5 :o are de/itute ( x are ^? :o associate ) _! inf]iors1 cont5t$ly accept a l[ moral /&>d1 adopt a mode ( spee* & action t is co>se & r\gh1 & f9ally let !mselves d[n to ! frequ5t+ ( public-h\ses & places ( amusem5t1 :]e ! ent]ta9m5t has be5 c>efully plann$ to suit ! un$ucat$1 ! l[-born1 & o!rs ^: vitiat$ ta/e leads !m to dislike :at is lovely & ( good report1 & to revel 9 ! rev]se4 ,b1 un=tunately1 _m a good fell[ has be5 driv5 to seek companion%ip ) ^? b5ea? him by ! v difficulty he exp]i5ces 9 gett+ on 9 society4 ,sid5ote3 ,m5 to be piti$4 ,he fancies t 8 small solecisms are ! subject ( obs]vation & comm5t1 & he suff]s agonies ( mauvaise honte4 ,sid5ote3 ,a ^w to girls4 ,girls (t5 laugh v unk9dly at %y y\?s1 :5 !y might f9d opportunities ( act+ ! good angel to !m1 & by ! ex]cise ( tact scre5+ f obs]vation ^? failures 9 good mann]s :i* are inevitable to ! inexp]i5c$4 ,:5 he f9ds himself ! butt ( a few giggl+ girls1 a "y man feels mis]ably uncom=table & humiliat$1 & he v[s to himself t he w nev] aga9 put himself 9 ! way ( su* annoyance4 ,consequ5tly he cuts good society1 n realis+ t he w\ld v soon ov]come ^! initial difficulties & feel at home 9 x4 ,he mu/ f9d amusem5t some:]e4 ,x is only natural to y\? to crave x4 ,at fir/ 8 ta/e is j>r$ by ^? inf]ior to him1 & 8 fa/idi\sness (f5d$ by _! mann]s4 ,sid5ote3 8,we fir/ endure1 !n pity1 !n embrace40 ,b1 su* is ! fatal adaptability ( human nature to :at is bad = x1 he soon becomes accu/om$ to all t he at fir/ object$ to1 & ev5 =gets t he _h ev] f\nd any?+ disagreeable 9 x4 ,aft] a few mon?s 8 spee* beg9s to assimilate ! errors ( ^? ab\t him 9 8 leisure h\rs4 ,he uses ! v expressions t j>r$ ^u him at fir/4 ,8 dress & c>riage det]iorate1 & he is well on 8 way d[nhill 9 life long be=e he realises t he has quitt$ 8 own level1 probably = ev]4 ,sid5ote3 8,if he _h only held 8 own60 ,& if only he _h held 8 own at a few ga!r+s1 & acquir$ exp]i5ce1 ev5 at ! co/ ( a little pres5t pa9 & mortification1 he w\ld 9 ! same int]val ( "t be enjoy+ society1 educat+ himself 9 its cu/oms1 & acquir+ t ext]ior poli% :i* comes ( intimate acqua9tance ) its rules & ease 9 practis+ !m4 ,%\ld ?is little manual ( mann]s be ( use to any su* 9 enabl+ !m to ma/] ! !ory1 z x 71 ( social cu/oms 9 ! educat$ classes1 x w h atta9$ its aim4 ,sid5ote3 ,! object ( ?is book4 ,i h always felt ! greate/ compassion = "y m5 :5 fir/ introduc$1 aft] s*ool & college life1 to ! r\t9e ( d9n]1 dance1 & ball4 ,sid5ote3 ,^? e>ly days6 ,i h n =gott5 ! days :5 %yness made my own he>t s9k at ! prospect ( a d9n]-p>ty & :5 ! h>de/ task on e>? 0 ! f9d+ ( no?+s to say to a p>tn] at a ball4 ,x is a mis]able feel+ ( confusion & gau*]ie1 & if ,i c 9 any way av]t x f o!rs x w be a s\rce ( great gratification to me4 ,,9 ,,! ,,/reet4 ,! rule ( ! road is a simple "o1 ?\gh x is (t5 =gott5 or neglect$--8,keep to ! "r40 ,sid5ote3 8,! rule ( ! road40 ,easy en\gh = wom51 x is complicat$ 9 ! case ( m5 by ! necessity ( always rema9+ on ! k]b side ( any lady !y may be accompany+4 ,%\ld ! lady keep to ! "r 9 meet+ or 9 pass+ o!r p]sons1 h] escort may ei!r keep by h] or g out 9 ! road4 ,he w be able to judge = himself :i* c\rse w be advisable4 ,sid5ote3 ,a man's duty is always to 8 lady4 ,8 fir/ duty is always to 8 companion1 b t ne$ n make him want+ 9 c\rtesy to o!r wom54 ,if rema9+ by ! side ( 8 companion %\ld involve any inconv5i5ce to ! ladies ( ! o!r p>ty1 !n he mu/ give up 8 position1 & g out into ! roadway to let ! latt] pass4 ,%\ld ^! be m51 no consid]ation is necess>y4 ,he keeps close by 8 lady's side4 ,sid5ote3 8,9 cr[d$ /reets40 ,9 cr[d$ /reets he may (t5 h to fall beh9d1 b he %\ld nev] all[ any "o to int]pose betwe5 h] & him4 ,%\ld ! pressure f ! cr[d become extreme1 8 duty is to protect h] f x z mu* z possible1 b nev] by putt+ 8 arm r\nd h] wai/4 ,a h& on ei!r side ! lady's %\ld]s is usually suffici5t4 ,sid5ote3 ,salutations4 ,9 meet+ acqua9tances a nod is suffici5t = a male fri5d1 unless 8 age or position is su* z to r5d] x advisable to raise ! hat4 ,%\ld a lady be ) ! acqua9tance1 any man meet+ !m mu/ raise 8 hat4 ,s mu/ ! individual walk+ ) ! lady4 ,! etiquette ( b[+ is a simple "o4 ,sid5ote3 ,! "r ( ackn[l$gm5t re/s ) ! lady4 ,male acqua9tances always wait = ackn[l$gem5t on ! "p ( female1 z well z f ^? m5 :o are _! sup]iors 9 age or position4 ,b ?is does n mean t !y are %yly to look away f !m & to ignore !m4 ,on ! contr>y1 !y mu/ %[ cle>ly by _! mann] t !y are on ! look-out = "s sign ( recognition & are ready to reply to x4 ,sid5ote3 ,on wait+ = ackn[l$gm5t4 ,%yness (t5 int]f]es ) ?is & makes a "y man look away1 & ?is is occasionally miscon/ru$ z indiff]5ce & res5t$ z su*4 ,! calm1 quiet1 collect$ expression ( face t suits ! occasion is n a*iev$ at once4 ,sometimes ! ov]-anxiety to make a good impression defeats itself1 produc+ a blu%+ eag]ness bett] suit$ to a girli% ?an a manly c\nt5ance4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 is a y\?ful fault t is n )\t its +ratiat+ side1 ?\gh "y m5 view x 9 !mselves & 9 ea* o!r ) unb\nd$ scorn4 ,sid5ote3 ,on self-contempt4 ,?is s5tim5t ( self-contempt is a frequ5t "o 9 "y p ( bo? sexes4 ,_! valuation ( !mselves v>ies z mu* z ! b>omet]1 & is z mu* affect$ by outw>d causes4 ,aft] a 8snub10 real or fanci$1 x goes d[n to z]o1 b z a rule x spe$ily recov]s itself1 & 9 mo/ "y m5 enjoys an agreeable !rmomet] ( #he or s 9 ! %ade6 ,! well-mann]$ man nev] puts out 8 h& 9 greet+ until a lady ext5ds h]s4 ,sid5ote3 ,(f]+ ! h&4 ,?is is a te/ ( good bre$+ t is con/antly appli$4 ,to ^? un9itiat$ 9 ! ways ( society1 x w\ld naturally appe> ! "r ?+ to give z cordial a greet+ z possible4 ,!re=e ! h& is held out1 ev5 on introduction to a p]fect /rang]4 ,?is is wrong4 ,! fir/ move 9 ! direction ( cordiality mu/ come f ! lady1 ! :ole code ( behavi\r be+ bas$ on ! assumption t %e is ! social sup]ior4 ,! same holds good ) eld]s & m5 ( high] rank4 ,:5 a man is introduc$ to ^! he raises 8 hat & b[s1 ?\gh slightly4 ,x is only to k+s & pr9ces t a l[ b[ is made1 or to ^? ^: "* & em95t position r5d] an introduction to !m a v high hon\r4 ,sid5ote3 ,introduc+ m5 to m54 ,9 introduc+ two m5 to ea* o!r ! "n ( ! inf]ior is m5tion$ fir/4 ,by ! inf]ior ,i mean ! y\ng]1 ! less important1 or ( l[] rank4 ,suppose "o ( ! two to be a famili> fri5d1 & ano!r a comp>atively new acqua9tance1 !n =mality requires t ! famili> fri5d %all be introduc$ to ! o!r1 be+ nam$ fir/4 ,! reason = ?is is t "o naturally /&s m on c]emony ) ! man "o kn[s lea/4 ,!re may be c\nt]act+ circum/ances1 h[ev]1 :i* w\ld t5d to rev]se ?is ord] ( ?+s1 b z a g5]al rule1 ! social rank ( bo? be+ equal1 ! above holds good4 ,sid5ote3 ,introduc+ m5 to ladies4 ,nev] introduce a lady to a g5tleman2 b always ! g5tleman to ! lady4 ,t is1 m5tion ! man's "n fir/1 address+ y\rself to ! woman--?us3 8,all[ me to introduce my fri5d ,mr4 ,smi?1 ,miss ,jones40 ,& foll[ ?is up imm$iately by say+1 8,miss ,jones10 address+ ,mr4 ,smi? z y d s4 ,x is a grave solecism to beg9 by introduc+ ! lady4 ,tyros v naturally conclude t ! lady's "n %\ld be fir/ m5tion$2 b on ?9k+ x ov] !y w soon p]ceive t to d s w\ld inf] t %e is ! less] consid]ation ( ! two4 ,sid5ote3 8,woman's social sup]iority40 ,x mu/ always be borne 9 m9d t ! assumption ( woman's social sup]iority lies at ! root ( ^! rules ( conduct4 ,x is bad mann]s to introduce p )\t p]mission4 ,sid5ote3 ,on p]mission to introduce4 ,nor mu/ ?is p]mission be ask$ 9 ! he>+ ( ! second p>ty4 ,if ,mr4 ,a4 wi%es to "k ,miss ,b41 ! lady's leave mu/ be obta9$ be=e he c be pres5t$ to h]4 ,! only exception to ?is rule is at a dance or ball1 :]e introductions ne$ n be reg>d$ z lead+ to acqua9tance%ip4 ,!y are only = ! dance1 & may be ignor$ next day4 ,sid5ote3 ,on recognition aft] a dance4 ,"h1 aga91 x is ! lady's privilege to ignore h] p>tn]1 if %e *oose4 ,b if %e %\ld b[ to him he mu/ raise 8 hat1 :e!r he desires to foll[ up ! acqua9tance%ip or n4 ,objections m frequ5tly arise on ! woman's side2 b %\ld a man pref] to drop ! matt] he c manage to convey 9 8 mann] a dis9cl9ation to d s1 & yet behave ) p]fect polit5ess4 ,a man ,i knew 0 once introduc$ at a ball to a girl1 ) :om he _h danc$ two or ?ree times4 ,be=e he met h] aga9 he he>d t %e _h be5 actively conc]n$ 9 circulat+ a sl&] ab\t ano!r girl :om circum/ances _h misrepres5t$4 ,i happ5$ to see ! next meet+ betwe5 ! two4 ,sid5ote3 ,eng9e]+ an awkw>d po9t4 ,! girl b[$1 smil$1 & %[$ "s sign ( an int5tion to /op & talk4 ,! man rais$ 8 hat1 look$ extremely solemn & unsociable1 & pass$ on4 ,x 0 en\gh4 ,! girl und]/ood t he did n wi% to resume ! ball-room acqua9tance%ip1 & v probably guess$ :y4 ,he did x beautifully4 ,sid5ote3 ,! hat & ! prom5ade4 ,be=e leav+ ! subject ( ! prom5ade1 ,i mu/ cle>ly expla9 t ! hat mu/ be rais$ ev5 9 salut+ a v famili> fri5d1 if 7a7 t fri5d is accompani$ by a lady1 & 7b7 :5 "o is oneself accompani$ by a lady1 ev5 if %e be only a "m or si/]4 ,x is "o ( ! signs ( ca/e t a man is equally polite to 8 relatives z he is to ! relatives ( o!rs4 ,sid5ote3 ,"o's duty to "o's own relatives4 ,we all "k :at to ?9k ( a man :o omits small social duties :]e 8 wife is conc]n$4 ,ev5 :5 he proves by pay+ !m duly to o!r wom5 t he is aw>e ( :at he ought to d1 he is at once set d[n z ill-br$--a 8cad10 9 fact4 ,sid5ote3 ,a case 9 po9t4 ,i once saw a ,"l ,mayor ( ,london ent] 8 c>riage be=e 8 wife1 :o scrambl$ 9 aft] him z ?\gh well accu/om$ to d s4 ,"o does n expect ! ref9em5t ( good mann]s f civic dignit>ies1 z a rule1 b ?is little action told ! spectators m ab\t ! man ?an !y w\ld ev] h f\nd out 9 ! newspap]s4 ,!y at once p]ceiv$ t he 0 unv]s$ 9 ! ways ( good society4 ,b "s "o may sugge/ t ?is may h be5 on "s /ate occasion1 :5 8 mayoral dignity oblig$ him to prec$e 8 wife4 ,sid5ote3 ,! lady fir/ "u e circum/ance4 ,no4 ,x 0 aft] a w$d+4 ,& besides1 c any "o fancy ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales 9 any circum/ances ent]+ 8 c>riage )\t hav+ previ\sly h&$ 9 ! ,pr9cess1 %\ld %e be 8 companion8 ,sid5ote3 ,:5 accompani$ by dogs4 ,if accompani$ by a dog1 or dogs1 _! own] mu/ hold himself responsible = _! good behavi\r4 ,if 8 pets trespass 9 any way he mu/ apologise = !m1 & d 8 be/ to repair any damage !y h done4 ,%\ld "o ( 8 dogs jump on a lady & make h] g[n muddy1 he mu/ (f] 8 s]vices & endeav\r to get rid ( ! traces ( ! accid5t1 if ! lady wi%es4 ,%\ld %e %[ a dis9cl9ation to accept 8 aid1 he mu/ at once )draw1 rais+ 8 hat z he does s4 ,%\ld 8 dog attack ano!r dog he mu/ imm$iately call him (f1 adm9i/] correction1 & apologise to ! own] ( ! dog assault$4 ,i saw a "y man once1 9 ^! circum/ances1 beat ! o!r dog1 aft] 8 own _h jump$ on x & bitt5 its e>6 ,he 0 dress$ l a g5tleman1 b 8 behavi\r gave a tru] indication ( him ?an did 8 g>m5ts4 ,sid5ote3 ,on :i/l+ & s++4 ,:i/l+ & s++ are incompatible ) ! conduct ( a g5tleman 9 ! /reet1 ?\gh ?is by no means applies to a quiet c\ntry road1 :]e c]emoni\s be>+ is n requir$4 ,sid5ote3 ,c>riage ( ! h&s4 ,nor is x p]mitt$ to we> ! h&s 9 ! pockets :5 walk+ 9 ! ,p>k1 or ! /reets ( a t[n or city4 ,?is is probably "o ( ! reasons t ! cane or /ick is /ill c>ri$1 ?\gh ! orig9al cause1 t ( self-def5ce 9 an age t 0 de/itute ( law & ord]1 =tunately exi/s no long]4 ,!re are m5 :o w\ld n "k :at to d ) _! h&s if !y _h n a cane or umbrella4 ,sid5ote3 ,a ^w to p>5ts4 ,?is is p>tly ! fault ( ^? :o h *>ge ( boys :5 !y are gr[+ & :o all[ !m to l\nge ab\t 9 slov5ly attitudes ) _! h&s = ev] 9 _! pockets4 ,!n :5 !y beg9 to ent] society !y are q at a loss4 ,sid5ote3 ,& s*oolma/]s4 ,at s*ools :]e boys are regul>ly drill$ ! :ole effect ( ! drill+ is done away ) by ! way 9 :i* ! boys are all[$ to sit & /& 9 ! mo/ rem>kable attitudes ( sl\*+ awkw>dness4 ,x is only :5 !y are at drill or out walk+ ) ! ma/]s t any notice is tak5 ( _! c>riage4 ,& yet x is an important po9t ) reg>d to heal? t ! %\ld]s %\ld be held well back1 ! *e/ =w>d1 & ! head up4 ,sid5ote3 ,on r5d]+ slight s]vices4 ,%\ld a man be s =tunate z to be ( "s s]vice to any lady 9 ! /reet1 su* z pick+ up a p>cel or sun%ade %e may h dropp$1 or help+ h] out ( any small difficulty1 he mu/ raise 8 hat & )draw at once4 ,su* trifl+ acts z ^! d n by any means con/itute an acqua9tance%ip1 & to rema9 by h] side :5 ! incid5t is ov] w\ld look l presum+ on :at he _h done1 z ?\gh x gave him a "r to h] cont9u$ ackn[l$gm5ts4 ,?is w\ld be ung5tlemanly4 ,at ! same "t1 ^! occurr5ces are sometimes delib]ately plann$ by girls & wom5 ) a direct view to scrap+ acqua9tance ) "y m54 ,sid5ote3 ,on girls mak+ advances4 ,x is sc>cely necess>y to say t girls :o /oop to ?is k9d ( manuvr+ are h>dly ev] g5tlewom54 ,memb]s ( good families h be5 kn[n to d su* ?+s 9 ! wild exub]ance ( y\? & high spirits1 b !y _c hope to reta9 ! respect ( ^? :o "k !m :5 !y delib]ately l[] !mselves 9 su* ways z ^!4 ,sid5ote3 ,! risk to "o's good "n4 ,pick+ up promiscu\s male acqua9tances is a practice fraught ) dang]4 ,x _c be d5i$ t girls ( ! l[] middle classes are (t5 prone to x2 & !re are ?\s&s ( "y m5 :o h no fem99e belong+s 9 ! great t[ns & cities :]e !y live1 & :o are f\nd responsive to ?is indiscrim9at+ mode ( mak+ acqua9tances4 ,sid5ote3 ,! me?od c produce little good4 ,b !y mu/ (t5 hesitate be=e *oos+ z wife a girl :o %[s s little discretion z to walk & talk ) "y m5 ( :om %e kn[s no?+ beyond :at !y *oose to tell h]4 ,sid5ote3 ,seaside 8,flirtations40 ,! seaside season is prolific 9 ^! *ance acqua9tance%ips--8flirtations10 z !y may p]haps be call$4 ,bicycl+ is well kn[n to fav\r !m4 ,b z !y are f> remov$ f ! practices ( ! class ( society to :i* belong ^? g5tlem5 ( :om ?is little book treats1 !y may be dismiss$ ) a few words ( advice4 ,%\ld any "y man become acqua9t$ ) a girl 9 ?is mann]1 let him %[ 8 innate *ivalry by treat+ h] 9 e way z he w\ld wi% 8 own si/] to be treat$ 9 simil> circum/ances4 ,sid5ote3 ,%\ld ! man become atta*$4 ,if he becomes atta*$ to h]1 let him fir/ f9d out all ab\t h] t he possibly c1 & %\ld :at he he>s be enc\rag+1 !n let him ask h] to introduce him to h] family z a suitor = h] h&4 ,%\ld ! girl fall 9 love ) him1 let him protect h] aga9/ h]self l a preux *evali]1 l an hon\rable & high-m9d$ ,engli% g5tleman4 ,sid5ote3 ,%\ld he be unable to reciprocate4 ,if he feels t he _c reciprocate h] s5tim5t1 he %\ld give up see+ h]4 ,%\ld %e1 z "s girls ( ! k9d h be5 kn[n to d1 pursue him ) lett]s mak+ appo9tm5ts1 %e makes 8 task ( r5unciation a difficult "o1 b he %\ld fulfil x nev]!less4 ,x is difficult 9 ?is way4 ,suppose a girl writes to a "y man3 8,meet me at ! tea-rooms1 ,no4 #ddj1 ,bond ,/reet1 to-morr[ aft]noon40 ,!re is no *ance ( reply+ 9 "t to prev5t h] go+ !re1 & to abs5t himself w\ld be to adm9i/] a sev]e snub to a girl :om he likes v well1 & :o has flatt]$ 8 self-love 9 _m ways dur+ _! acqua9tance%ip4 ,:at c he d8 ,sid5ote3 8,h] ultimate welf>e40 ,x is a po9t t he mu/ decide = himself1 tak+ all ! circum/ances into consid]ation1 & n =gett+ to reg>d h] ultimate welf>e 9 ! matt] at lea/ z mu* z 8 own actual wi%es4 ,?is may seem to "s "y m5 a v 8high-falut9'0 view to take ( su* a small matt] z meet+ a "y woman & hav+ tea toge!r4 ,mo/ ( !m1 f9d+ t a girl 0 gr[+ fond ( !m1 w\ld enc\rage ! feel+ by e means 9 _! p[]1 reg>dless ( :e!r x c\ld ev] end 9 m>riage1 & c>eless ( ev]y?+ beyond ! gratification ( _! own vanity4 ,sid5ote3 ,! view ( ! ord9>y "y man4 ,b !re are bright exceptions to ^! :o d n all[ !mselves to be c>ri$ away by ! flatt]y impli$ 9 a girl's att5tions1 & :o c consid] h] welf>e 9 selfless fa%ion4 ,sometimes fa/idi\s ta/e comes to _! aid & makes )drawal f an int]e/+ companion%ip comp>atively easy4 ,sid5ote3 ,! manly "y man does 8 own woo+4 ,=1 aft] all1 ! manly "y man has a prejudice 9 fav\r ( do+ 8 own woo+6 ,sid5ote3 ,invitations f girls4 ,x is n at all necess>y t a man %\ld accept invitations f a girl to meet h] at re/aurants1 subscription dances1 baza>s1 or any o!r place4 ,if a girl s f> =gets h]self1 & is s lack+ 9 mode/y & propriety z to make appo9tm5ts ) "y m5 9 su* ways z ^!1 %e _c be wor? mu*1 & may lead ! "y man into a v s]i\s scrape4 ,a public horse-:ipp+ is an extremely disagreeable ?+1 & yet cases h be5 kn[n :5 su* h be5 adm9i/]$ by irate bro!rs or fa!rs1 :5 ! only fault committ$ by ! "y man _h be5 to obey ! comm&s ( a =w>d & bold "y woman--"o ( ! sort to :om ,hamlet w\ld h said1 8,get !e to a nunn]y40 ,sid5ote3 ,!y are bett] ignor$4 ,su* invitations are bett] ignor$1 ?\gh x is difficult = ! av]age "y man to resi/ ! temptation ( be+ c\rt$ & flatt]$1 & ( seek+ ! society ( girls :o adm9i/] ^! pleasant att5tions4 ,b if _! /&>d is a high "o1 !y w\ld say to !mselves3 8,:at %\ld ,i l ano!r fell[ to d1 suppos+ ! girl 7 my si/]80 7,almo/ always he m5tally adds1 8,god =bid607 ,?is cle>s up ! "q = him at once4 ,if he is high-m9d$ & hon\rable he keeps away4 ,if he is unscrupul\s & self-indulg5t he meets ! girl & lets ! acqua9tance%ip drift on to dang]\s gr\nd4 ,sid5ote3 ,! dang] ( ! proce$+4 ,su* girls z ^! c nev] tell if a man ^: pa/ & pres5t & surr\nd+ circum/ances are unkn[n to h] is a sc\ndrel or o!rwise4 ,=tunately1 ! code ( mann]s obta9+ among/ ! educat$ & well-br\ght-up =bids all su* indiscrim9ate acqua9tance-mak+4 ,sid5ote3 ,! (f5d]s4 ,girls :o /oop to x are usually ^? :o h fail$ to secure att5tion 9 _! own circle1 & belong1 z a rule1 to ! sort ( girl :o m>ries a groom or runs away ) a good-look+ footman4 ,sid5ote3 ,(f]+ an unkn[n lady an umbrella4 ,a "y man once ask$ me if x w\ld be etiquette to (f] an unkn[n lady an umbrella 9 ! /reet1 suppos+ %e /ood 9 ne$ ( "o4 ,i repli$3 8,no lady w\ld accept ! (f] f a /rang]1 & ! o!r sort ( p]son might nev] return ! umbrella40 ,9 l>ge t[ns wom5 ( bre$+ soon le>n to view casual att5tions f well-dress$ m5 ) ! deepe/ di/ru/4 ,!y w\ld suff] any am\nt ( inconv5i5ce r ?an accept a fav\r f a /rang]1 kn[+ t s _m m5 make x _! amusem5t to pr[l ab\t ! /reets1 look+ aft] pretty faces & graceful figures1 & =c+ _! att5tions on ! own]s4 ,sid5ote3 ,a contemptible class ( m54 ,contemptible curs !y are1 :e!r "y or old1 & !y are ( all ages4 ,v "y girls h sometimes extremely unpleasant exp]i5ces ) su* m51 n only 9 ! /reets b 9 omnibuses1 trams1 & tra9s4 ,cultivat+ a g5tlemanly ext]ior1 !y c yet nev] be g5tlem51 & a good1 pure woman f9ds some?+ hateful 9 ! look ( _! eyes1 ! :ole expression ( _! faces4 ,sid5ote3 ,_! female c\nt]p>ts4 ,x _c be d5i$1 h[ev]1 t !re is a correspond+ class ( wom5 & girls :o make promiscu\s male acqua9tances 9 ! /reets1 & ! "y man le>ns to di/+ui% ^! f respectable memb]s ( ! community almo/ z soon z ! "y girl le>ns to dread & fe> ! pr[l+ man4 ,sid5ote3 ,(f]s ( s]vice f /rang]s n !re=e all[able4 ,! exi/5ce ( su* a /ate ( ?+s makes self-respect+ wom5 mo/ c>eful to accept no advances f a /rang]1 & ! true g5tleman1 und]/&+ ?is1 refra9s f (f]s ( assi/ance t he w\ld gladly make 7 society s con/itut$ z to be free f su* pe/s z ! above4 ,sid5ote3 ,on remov+ a cig> :5 pass+ a lady4 ,9 pass+ ladies on ! prom5ade1 9 ! /reet or ,p>k1 if a man *ance to be smok+1 he always takes 8 cig> f 8 m\?1 replac+ x :5 ! lady or ladies h pass$ on4 ,9 ! cr[d$ /reets ( great cities ?is1 if c>ri$ out 9 full entirety1 w\ld be too mu*4 ,!re=e x is obs]v$ only ) ref]5ce to su* ladies z pass ! smok] q closely4 8,i "k he is a g5tleman10 said a girl once ( a good-look+ "y fell[ ^: appe>ance _h pleas$ h]--8,i "k he is a g5tleman1 = he /opp$ smok+ directly he saw u40 ,x is 9 ! obs]vance ( little ?+s ( ?is k9d t "o %[s cle>ly "o's bre$+ or lack ( x4 ,:5 a "y man is walk+ ) a lady1 & happ5s to meet ano!r lady ) :om he is on m intimate t]ms ?an ) 8 companion1 he mu/ ask p>don ( ! latt] if he %\ld /op to speak4 ,sid5ote3 ,meet+ a m intimate acqua9tance :5 ) a lady4 8,excuse me = "o mom5t10 he w\ld say1 & 8 companion1 if a g5tlewoman1 w\ld walk "s y>ds on1 & !n sl[ly /roll along until he jo9$ h] aga94 ,! /rict rule is t :5 walk+ ) a lady a man %\ld nev] leave h] side4 ,sid5ote3 ,! rule = introductions 9 su* a case4 ,suppose a "y man 7 to meet 8 "m or si/] :ile he 0 9 ! company ( a lady unkn[n to !m1 he mu/ n introduce h] to !m or !m to h] )\t hav+ previ\sly obta9$ special p]mission on bo? sides4 ,!re are "y m5 :o make acqua9tance ) girls 9 a l[] walk ( life ?an _! own4 ,x w\ld be an insult to "m or si/] to introduce a mill9]'s appr5tice or an assi/ant 9 a %op1 or1 9 fact1 any "o :om he _h pick$ up )\t a regul> introduction4 ,sid5ote3 ,acqua9tance )\t introduction4 ,no respectable "y woman w\ld walk ) or talk ) any man to :om %e _h n _h a prop] introduction4 ,! inf]5ce is t ^? :o d s are n respectable1 & mu/ n1 !re=e1 be introduc$ to ^? :o are4 ,sid5ote3 ,/opp+ to speak to a lady4 ,! old rule 0 t :5 a g5tleman /opp$ to speak to a lady 9 ! /reet he walk$ a little way ) h] 9 ! direction 9 :i* %e _h be5 go+4 ,sid5ote3 ,! old rule & ! new4 ,b n[ ?is is less obs]v$ ?an x us$ to be4 ,! lady h]self1 if %e wi%es ! conv]sation to be a %ort "o1 /ops at once1 kn[+ t x w be easi] = a man to t]m9ate x 9 ^! circum/ances ?an if he 7 saunt]+ by h] side4 ,,9 ,a ,,c>riage4 ,sid5ote3 ,h&+ ladies to _! c>riage4 ,9 h&+ ladies to _! c>riage a man (f]s 8 "r arm to ! s5ior ( ! p>ty & walks ) h] to ! door1 op5+ x ) 8 left h&4 ,! o!rs w probably foll[ )\t escort1 b if n1 he mu/ (f] x to ea* 9 turn1 hold+ an umbrella ov] !m %\ld x be ra9+4 ,he closes ! door & conveys _! ord]s to ! footman or coa*man4 ,sid5ote3 ,! man takes ! back seat4 ,%\ld he be invit$ to ent] ! c>riage ) !m1 he always takes ! back seat--t is1 ) 8 back to ! horses--unless specially invit$ to ! front "o4 ,he mu/ n ei!r raise or l[] ! w9d[s unless reque/$ to d s4 ,sid5ote3 ,on smok+ 9 a c>riage4 ,%\ld he be smok+1 he ?r[s away 8 cig> or cig>ette at once4 ,if he %\ld be a v intimate acqua9tance ( ! lady1 he may ask h] p]mission to smoke1 b nev] o!rwise1 s9ce x is disagreeable = a woman to refuse su* p]mission1 & consequ5tly %e (t5 gives x :5 %e really dislikes ! smell ( tobacco1 especially 9 ! limit$ space ( a c>riage1 %\ld x be a clos$ "o4 ,sid5ote3 ,pronunciation ( 8br\gham40 ,x may be z well to m5tion "h t ! prop] pronunciation ( ! ^w 8br\gham0 is z ?\gh x 7 spell$ 8broom10 q %ort & monosyllabic4 ,?is is a trifle1 ( c\rse1 b1 l _m ano!r equally small matt]1 x is indicative ( ^? accu/om$ to good society4 ,,9 ,a ,,hansom4 ,sid5ote3 ,gu>d+ ! lady's dress4 ,9 h&+ a lady into a hansom c>e mu/ be tak5 to protect h] dress f ! muddy :eel4 ,! g5tleman asks if %e w\ld l ! glasses d[n1 & conveys h] in/ructions to ! driv]1 !n raises 8 hat z %e drives away4 ,sid5ote3 ,:5 accompany+ ! lady4 ,%\ld he be accompany+ h] 9 ! hansom1 %e seats h]self at ! ne>e/ side to ! pavem5t1 s t :5 he ent]s he w n h to g r\nd a corn]1 z x 74 ,9 ?is case he gives ! cabman in/ructions across ! ro( ( ! cab1 & if 8 companion wi%es ! glasses to be l[]$1 he asks = !m ?r\gh ! trap-door at ! top ( ! cab4 ,he mu/ nev] smoke :5 ! glasses are let d[n--to d s w\ld r5d] ! atmosph]e unbe>able to almo/ any woman4 ,b if he kn[s 8 p>tn] 9 ! drive suffici5tly well1 he c ask p]mission to smoke1 %\ld ! glasses n be requir$4 ,,smok+4 ,! etiquette 9 ?is1 z 9 _m o!r matt]s1 has q alt]$ dur+ ! la/ few ye>s4 ,at "o "t x 0 consid]$ a sign ( infam\sly bad ta/e to smoke 9 ! pres5ce ( wom5 9 any circum/ances4 ,b x is n[ no long] s4 ,sid5ote3 ,! doma9 ( ,pr9cess ,nicot9e4 ,s _m wom5 smoke !mselves1 t 9 "s h\ses ev5 ! draw+-room is ?r[n op5 to ,pr9cess ,nicot9e4 ,sid5ote3 ,! lead] ( ! fa%ion4 ,! example ( ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales has be5 l>gely in/rum5tal 9 sweep+ away ! old re/rictions4 ,he smokes almo/ incessantly4 ,on "o occasion1 at ! ,ranelagh ,club1 ,i notic$ t he consum$ f\r cig>s 9 rapid succession1 almo/ )\t five m9utes' int]val betwe5 !m4 ,! only "t t he left (f smok+1 dur+ ! ?ree h\rs t he rema9$ 9 ! ,pavilion ) ! ,pr9cess & o!r ladies1 0 = t5 m9utes :5 tea 0 h&$ r\nd4 ,sid5ote3 ,! l5g?s to :i* a smok] may n[ g4 ,x is n[ no uncommon ?+ to see a man 9 ev5+ dress smok+ 9 a br\gham ) a lady on _! way to op]a1 !atre1 or d9n] engagem5t4 ,?is is go+ r f>1 = a woman's ev5+ dress implies %ut w9d[s1 except 9 ! height ( summ]1 & h] g>m5ts become z mu* impregnat$ ) ! od\r ( tobacco z if %e _h h]self be5 smok+4 ,sid5ote3 ,on gett+ rid ( ! smell4 ,"s m5 h a knack ( ridd+ _! clo!s & !mselves ( ! fumes ( smoke 9 a wond]ful way4 ,p]haps "o reason ( ?is is t ! tobacco !y use is ( a mild sort4 ,sid5ote3 ,try ! clo!s-bru%4 ,p]haps ! dilig5t use ( ! clo!s-bru% is ano!r4 ,b !re are also m5 r\nd :om cl+ ! od\rs ( /ale tobacco ) a v disagreeable con/ancy4 ,:y x %\ld be s ,i _c pret5d to say4 ,x mu/ be due to c>elessness ( "s k9d1 & c>elessness 9 su* matt]s am\nts to bad mann]s4 ,ev5 to m5 :o smoke--& mu* m to ^? :o d n--! smell ( /ale tobacco is revolt+4 ,fancy1 !n1 h[ x mu/ (f5d ! olfactory n]ves ( wom54 ,su* m5 sugge/ ! /abley>d :ile !y are yet sev]al y>ds away6 ,sid5ote3 ,p]sonal cleanl9ess a hall-m>k ( ! ,engli% g5tleman4 ,a v delicate1 ev5 exquisite1 p]sonal cleanl9ess is *>act]i/ic ( ! true g5tleman1 & m p>ticul>ly ! ,engli% g5tleman1 :o is not$ all ! _w ov] = 8 devotion to 8 8tub0 & 8 immaculate propriety 9 all matt]s ( ! toilette4 ,?is is n claim+ too mu* = my c\ntrym54 ,x is ackn[l$g$ by o!r nations t ours is sup]ior 9 ?is respect4 ,once1 inde$1 ,i he>d a curi\s inv]sion ( ?is4 ,at a =eign hotel "o wait] said to ! o!r 9 _! mutual language3 8,:at dirty fell[s ^! ,engli% mu/ be to want su* a lot ( wa%+6 ,i've c>ri$ up f\r cans ( wat] to ,no4 #dg ?is morn+60 ,saunt]+ up ! /reet ( a small ,g]man t[n "o day1 two ,engli% ladies saw1 a c\ple ( hundr$ y>ds away1 a p>ty ( m5 /&+ admir+ an anci5t gateway4 ,sid5ote3 8,!y mu/ be ,engli%40 8,!y mu/ be ,engli%10 said "o ( ! ladies2 & be=e %e c\ld f9i% h] s5t5ce ! o!r f9i%$ x = h] 9 ! v words %e _h be5 ab\t to utt]3 8,!y are s beautifully clean60 ,sid5ote3 ,! close-cropp$ head4 ,?is *>act]i/ic is c>ri$ to an extreme 9 ! close clipp+ ( ! hair2 b z fa%ion orda9s t x mu/ be worn v %ort1 its behe/s mu/ be obey$ by all :o wi% to be 9 society & ( x4 ,sid5ote3 ,! 8long-hair$ fell[40 8,:o is t long-hair$ fell[80 is ! "q inv>iably ask$ ab\t any man ^: visits to ! b>b] are infrequ5t4 8,mu/ be an arti/ or a music man10 is ! frequ5t comm5t>y4 ,sometimes he is m]ely c>eless ( conv5tionalities1 & by be+ s proves t he is r 8out ( x0 :]e good society is conc]n$4 ,! rule appe>s to be t directly a man f9ds t he has any hair wor? bru%+1 he mu/ imm$iately g & h x cut4 ,x w\ld be mu* m becom+ if all[$ to gr[ a little long]1 b ?+s be+ z !y are1 only ! few c af=d to defy ! ord9>y cu/om4 ,,9 ,,or ,,on ,,an ,,omnibus4 ,sid5ote3 ,! humble omnibus4 ,! humble omnibus may be ?\ght by "s read]s too democratic a k9d ( conveyance to be consid]$ 9 a book on ,mann]s4 ,n at all6 ,!re are sev]al reasons :y x %\ld h a place 9 su* a volume4 ,sid5ote3 ,x is n[ us$ by all classes4 ,! fir/ is1 t dur+ ! la/ t5 ye>s or s ! omnibus has be5 l>gely us$ by wom5 ( ! educat$1 cultur$1 & well-dress$ classes4 ,ano!r & /rong] reason is t no consid]ations ( ! k9d %\ld affect a man's mann]s4 ,if he c behave l a g5tleman 9 a c>riage1 he is almo/ c]ta9 to d s 9 an omnibus1 & vice v]s4 ,x is ev5 m difficult 9 ! humbl] vehicle4 ,9 a c>riage "o is seldom cr[d$ up to ! degree t (t5 occurs 9 ! plebeian 8'bus40 ,9 fact1 !re are f> m opportunities = ! display ( good mann]s 9 ! latt] ?an 9 ! =m]4 ,_m ( !m are ( a negative "*4 ,sid5ote3 ,a f9e field = true c\rtesy4 ,true c\rtesy1 = in/ance1 w prev5t a man f infr++ ! rights ( 8 neighb\rs on ei!r side by occupy+ m ?an 8 own allott$ space4 ,sid5ote3 ,! man :o wants all ! room4 ,v /\t m5 are oblig$ to d s1 b at lea/ !y ne$ n spread out _! knees 9 a way t is calculat$ to aggravate ! evil4 ,nor ne$ !y arrange !mselves 9 a com=table oblique position1 ) ! result ( enhanc+ ! inconv5i5ce !y mu/ necess>ily cause to ^? ne> !m4 ,ev5 a ?9 man c take up a quantity ( room by ?us dispos+ himself at an angle ( =ty-five ) ! o!r occupants ( an omnibus4 ,! morn+ pap] may be conv]t$ into an (f5sive weapon 9 ! h&s ( ! rude & c>eless1 :o op5 x out to its fulle/ wid?1 reg>dless ( ! com=t ( ^? sitt+ next !m4 ,sid5ote3 ,! 8newspap]0 (f5d]4 ,newspap]s are r unwieldy ?+s to turn & twi/ ab\t 9 a limit$ space1 b ?is v circum/ance af=ds a man an opportunity ( display+ 8 skill 9 manipulat+ ! l>ge1 wide %eets1 )\t da%+ !m 9 ! face ( 8 ne>e/ neighb\r1 or knock+ up aga9/ anybody 9 a s]ies ( awkw>d movem5ts t a little c>e c\ld easily conv]t into leisurely1 graceful ones4 ,sid5ote3 ,! wet umbrella nuisance4 ,!re is ano!r way 9 :i* m5 are apt to be c>eless1 & t is 9 ! disposal ( a wet umbrella4 ,wom5 are ev5 m s1 b ^! rem>ks are int5d$ p>ticul>ly = m51 & beyond ackn[l$g+ t memb]s ( my own sex are equal s9n]s1 ,i mu/ leave !m out ( ! "q4 ,:5 any "o takes a dripp+ umbrella into an omnibus1 he mu/ *>ge himself ) ! task ( see+ t x annoys no "o b himself4 ,if he c1 at ! same "t1 protect himself1 well & good2 b he mu/ be altrui/ic 9 ! matt] & c>e = o!rs fir/2 ! alt]native be+ to prove himself lack+ 9 "o =m ( good mann]s4 ,he mu/ n ev5 let 8 wet umbrella lean up aga9/ a vacant "p ( ! cu%ion$ seat1 r5d]+ x damp = ! next com]4 ,sid5ote3 ,! rights ( ! abs5t4 ,8 social consci5ce _c be up to its "w if he p]mits himself to ignore ! "r ( ! abs5t to consid]ation1 m]ely because !y are abs5t4 ,all[+ umbrellas & /icks to protrude s z to trip up unw>y pass5g]s is ano!r ?+ to be avoid$4 ,sid5ote3 ,c>ry+ umbrellas & /icks4 ,c>ry+ a /ick or umbrella "u ! arm ) ! f]ule protrud+ at ! back & ?reat5+ ! eyes ( ^? :o walk beh9d1 is always a repreh5sible practice1 & "o t is fraught ) dang]1 & x is p]haps m ?an ev] dang]\s :5 ! proprietor is asc5d+ or desc5d+ ! /eps ( an omnibus4 ,at su* mom5ts pass5g]s are liable to sudd5 *ecks f v>i\s causes1 & ! resultant backw>d j]k c be q annoy+ en\gh to ^? beh9d )\t ! aggravation ( a po9t$ /ick assault+ !m4 ,i h se5 a girl's hat torn (f h] head 9 ?is way1 its num]\s secur+ p9s mak+ havoc 9 h] coiffure & elicit+ lively expressions ( pa94 ,sid5ote3 ,ent]+ & leav+ an omnibus4 ,x might appe> h>dly necess>y to advocate c>e 9 walk+ up pa/ o!r pass5g]s inside an omnibus1 = fe> ( tread+ on _! feet1 & to recomm5d a ^w ( apology 9 case ( any su* transgression4 ,b !re h be5 cases :i* po9t to ! desirability ( a ^w ( advice on su* po9ts4 ,sid5ote3 ,apology cov]s a multitude ( social s9s4 ,! ready apology cov]s a multitude ( social s9s4 ,f "s m5 x comes ) an expression ( su* e>ne/ solicitude t1 anxi\s to reassure !m1 "o q will+ly makes light ( ! damage done4 ,sid5ote3 ,! lady fir/1 ent]+ & leav+4 ,9 escort+ a lady a man h&s h] into ! omnibus be=e ent]+ x himself2 & if %e pref]s ! top1 he lets h] m\nt ! /aircase 9 front ( him4 ,!re seems to be an idea 9 ! l[ly classes t x is correct to prec$e a lady 9 asc5d+ /eps or /airs4 ,?is is n 9 accordance ) ! practice ( good society4 ,if circum/ances d n admit ( ! two walk+ abrea/1 !n ! lady goes fir/1 bo? 9 asc5d+ & desc5d+ any /airs4 ,x is by no means necess>y t any man %\ld resign 8 seat 9 or on an omnibus simply because a woman wi%es = x4 ,sid5ote3 ,on giv+ up "o's seat to a lady4 ,! conductor has no "r to ask 8if any g5tleman w g outside to oblige a lady02 & no g5tlewoman w\ld all[ him to ask su* a fav\r on h] behalf4 ,! inside pass5g]s h select$ inside seats1 !reby te/ify+ to _! pref]5ce = !m1 & !y %\ld be all[$ to reta9 !m )\t int]f]5ce4 ,sid5ote3 ,wom5 (f5d]s4 ,i h se5 a delicate-look+ boy1 rack$ ) a hack+ c\gh1 induc$ to ride outside on a cold & ra9y night 9 ord] t a fat1 rosy1 heal?y woman might h 8 inside seat4 ,i felt all ! m indignant on 8 behalf because ! woman nev] ev5 ?ank$ him4 ,x 0 no bus9ess ( m9e1 b ,i 0 rejoic$ to he> a man's voice mutt] 9 ! d>kness1 8,%e looks bett] able to face x ?an t pale-fac$ lad40 ,b ! woman wore a smug1 well-pleas$ air1 little kn[+ t h] fell[-pass5g]s 7 almo/ all reg>d+ h] ) a feel+ ( dislike4 ,sid5ote3 ,no lady w\ld reque/ ?is fav\r4 ,i repeat t no lady1 9 ! highe/ s5se ( ! t]m1 w\ld ev] p]mit ! conductor ( an omnibus to ask su* a fav\r = h]4 ,%e w\ld n ask x = h]self2 unlike a woman :om ,i saw1 "o day1 m\nt on ! /ep ( an omnibus & inquire ( ! 8insides10 8,won't any g5elman ride outside to oblige a lydy80 ! 8lydy0 be+ h]self4 ,x c nev] be out ( place = a man to give up 8 seat 9 fav\r ( ! old & infirm1 or = a woman ) a baby 9 h] arms4 ,sid5ote3 ,high] laws ?an etiquette4 ,b su* matt]s z ^! belong to a region ( he>t & m9d beyond m]e mann]s1 & x is useless to sugge/ any l9e ( action on su* subjects4 ,! impulse mu/ come f )94 ,sid5ote3 ,smok+ on ! top ( an omnibus4 ,!re h be5 wom5 s unreasonable z to compla9 ( m5 smok+ on ! top ( an omnibus4 ,c\ld any?+ be m illogical8 ,fir/1 !y invade ! seats t h be5 claim$ by man z 8 "r 7?\gh p]haps unju/ly7 = _m long ye>s1 & !n !y feel annoy$ because he smokes 9 _! pres5ce4 ,or1 to speak accurately1 !y are petulant because 8 tobacco is (t5 rank1 /rong1 & consequ5tly evil-smell+4 ,sid5ote3 ,a man is ju/ifi$ 9 s do+4 ,b no man ne$ feel x necess>y to put out 8 pipe or ?r[ away 8 cig> 9 ^! circum/ances4 ,%\ld he f9d himself s plac$ t ! w9d bl[s 8 smoke 9 ! face ( a woman1 he may propose to *ange seats ) h]1 9 ord] t %e may be sp>$ ! inconv5i5ce4 ,b no woman c\ld rationally expect him to d m4 ,,on ,,horseback4 ,sid5ote3 ,rid+ co/ume = ! ,p>k4 ,a great *ange has tak5 place dur+ ! la/ few ye>s 9 ! "* ( rid+ co/ume = ! ,p>k4 ,! subject may sc>cely be a suitable "o = a little book int5d$ = ^? unaccu/om$ to ! usages ( ! society ( ! weal?y4 ,b !re are almo/ always exceptional cases 9 :i* su* in=mation may be f\nd ( use4 ,sid5ote3 ,disappe>ance ( ! black coat4 ,only q old-fa%ion$ p ride 9 black coats1 ! usual ge> consi/+ ( knick]bock] suits ) ,norfolk1 or o!r c\ntry jacket1 br[n tops & b[l] hats4 ,x mu/ be admitt$ t ?is is a di/9ct ga9 9 picturesqu5ess4 ,/raw hats are (t5 se5 on rid]s 9 ! ,p>k1 b ^! h n q s good an effect4 ,! old =malities 9 dress are rapidly disappe>+4 ,sid5ote3 ,! scope & limitations ( ! twe$ suit4 ,a man may ride 9 t[n 9 a twe$ suit1 :i* once w\ld h be5 consid]$ highly het]odox4 ,he may ev5 walk ab\t ,london 9 ! height ( ! season 9 a twe$ suit1 b x is n consid]$ correct = him to jo9 8 fri5ds 9 ! ,p>k )\t rev]t+ to ! black coat & high hat4 ,_m an old /atesman is /ill to be se5 9 ! ,p>k rid+ 9 frock-coat & tall hat1 j z ,john ,lee* depict$ ! m5 ( 8 day4 ,!re are c]ta9 rules ( etiquette connect$ ) rid+ on horseback1 :i* no "o c af=d to ignore4 ,x is extremely ill-mann]$ to gallop noisily pa/ a m\nt$ lady1 ! risk be+ ( />tl+ h] horse & inconv5i5c+ h]1 if n subject+ h] to an accid5t4 ,sid5ote3 ,! rule ( ! road = eque/rians4 ,! rule ( ! road = eque/rians is to keep to ! left1 exactly ! opposite to t = p$e/rians4 ,9 pass+ o!rs 9 front a det\r is made to ! "r2 9 meet+ o!r rid]s or :eel traffic ( any sort ! rid] keeps close to ! left4 ,9 accompany+ a lady ! g5tleman keeps on h] "r h&1 :e!r 9 t[n or on c\ntry roads4 ,sid5ote3 ,at a meet ( h\nds4 ,at a meet ( h\nds1 :]e ladies 9 c>riages (t5 assemble1 x is n polite to keep too ne> !m if m\nt$ on a fidgety horse4 ,:5 ! h\nds ?r[ (f1 ! inexp]i5c$ 9 su* matt]s has a disagreeable way ( gett+ 9 front 9 8 eag]ness1 & sometimes ov]rid+ ! h\nds4 ,sid5ote3 8,a crime ( ! blacke/ dye40 ,?is1 9 ! eyes ( ! huntsman1 is n a fault2 x is a crime ( ! blacke/ dye4 ,if commission$ to take *>ge ( a lady 9 ! hunt+-field a man mu/ sacrifice 8 sport+ in/9cts to a c]ta9 ext5t 9 ord] to see h] safe ov] h] f5ces1 giv+ h] a lead1 or foll[+ h] lead z circum/ances may dictate4 ,8 desire to be 9 at ! dea? may be z great z h]s1 b he mu/ n indulge x at ! exp5se ( 8 polit5ess4 ,sid5ote3 ,a man's duty to 8 *>ge4 ,v (t5 8 *>ge may beg ( him to g on & leave h] to h] own devices4 ,sid5ote3 ,8 responsibility ends only ) ! hunt4 ,if he %\ld p]ceive t %e is really uncom=table ab\t keep+ him back he may possibly yield to h] p]suasion1 b 9 ! case ( any accid5t happ5+ to h] he w\ld be c]ta9ly call$ to acc\nt by ^? :o _h plac$ h] 9 8 *>ge4 ,sid5ote3 ,a common error4 ,"o ( ! mi/akes made by novices 9 ! hunt+-field is t ( gett+ !mselves up 9 8p9k10 ?\gh !y may n be a memb] ( any hunt4 ,?is is m p>ticul>ly ! case :5 ! packs are ne> t[n4 ,good ,we/ ,end tailors w\ld nev] all[ _! cli5ts to make su* mi/akes z ^!4 ,sid5ote3 ,advice to ! novice4 ,!y are ! be/ au?orities on all ! m9uti ( c\ntry rid+ co/ume1 & x is well = ! cu/om] to put himself unres]v$ly 9 ! h&s ( ! long-exp]i5c$ 9 su* matt]s4 ,( c\rse ?is means high *>ges4 ,exp]i5ce & skill are comm]cial commodities1 j z mu* z f9e clo? & silk l9+s1 b if a man c af=d to g a-hunt+ he ought to be able to af=d ! advice ( a good tailor4 ,sid5ote3 ,assi/+ a lady to h] m\nt4 ,9 m\nt+ a lady on horseback ! g5tleman takes h] left foot 9 8 "r h&1 & :5 %e spr+s he helps h] 9 ?is mann] to rea* ! saddle1 aft]w>ds adju/+ h] left foot 9 ! /irrup & arrang+ h] habit = h]4 ,,driv+ ,sid5ote3 8,keep to y\r left0 ,! same rule ( ! road applies to driv+ z to rid+4 ,9 ! cr[d$ traffic ( l>ge t[ns & cities x w\ld be difficult1 if n impossible1 to obs]ve ! good old rule ( c\rtesy t prohibits ! driv] ( any private c>riage f ov]tak+ & pass+ t ( a fri5d or neighb\r on ! road4 ,! memb]s ( ! ,f\r-9-,h& & ,coa*+ ,clubs /ill obs]ve x1 & seldom pass ea* o!r )\t an apologetic wave ( ! h& or rais+ ( ! hat4 ,sid5ote3 ,ackn[l$g+ salutes4 ,a g5tleman driv+ a mail phaeton 9 ! ,p>k ) a lady by 8 side mu/1 ( c\rse1 ackn[l$ge all salutes by rais+ 8 hat1 if he is suffici5tly exp]t to admit ( 8 do+ s )\t risk4 ,x is n e "o :o c emulate ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales1 :o1 :5 driv+ a coa*1 c take a cig> f 8 lips & raise 8 hat ) ! :ip-h&1 ! re9s1 ( c\rse1 be+ 9 ! left4 ,x is n unusual1 n[adays1 to see a man driv5 by a lady4 ,sid5ote3 ,h&+ a lady up to h] coa* seat4 ,9 su* a case he mu/ be on ! al]t to af=d h] e assi/ance 9 8 p[]4 ,9 h&+ a lady up to h] place on a coa* "s exp]tness is requir$1 especially :]e ! usual %ort ladd] is n available1 & %e has to m\nt fir/ on ! :eel & !n on to ! coa* itself4 ,sid5ote3 ,invitations to coa* drives4 ,! box-seat ( a coa* to ! left ( ! driv] is consid]$ ! place ( hon\r1 & ! lady invit$ to occupy x is v appreciative1 z a rule1 ( ?is m>k ( att5tion4 ,x is sc>cely necess>y to rem>k t a man mu/ be z c>eful ab\t ! invitations = a drive on 8 f\r-9-h& z he w\ld be 9 o!r circum/ances4 ,a lady w\ld res5t be+ ask$ to meet any "o unsuitable 9 a drive1 ev5 ?\gh ! latt] may be relegat$ to a back seat4 ,sid5ote3 ,a man may refuse a lady ! coa* re9s4 ,sometimes ladies are v anxi\s to take ! re9s & drive !mselves1 a circum/ance :i* has (t5 occasion$ agonies ( n]v\sness to o!r wom5 on ! coa*4 ,x is q possible to refuse su* a reque/ 9 a polite & g5tlemanly way1 p>tly by seem+ to ignore x or laugh+ x (f4 ,x is n a bad plan :5 "s su* reque/ is suppos$ to be imm95t to b9d oneself be=eh& by a promise to "o ( ! timid ladies4 ,?is promise c be produc$ ) great effect :5 occasion arises4 ,sid5ote3 ,on dism\nt+1 :5 call+ = a lady4 ,a man usually dism\nts :5 call+ = a lady to take h] = a ride1 if %e is to be m\nt$4 ,sometimes1 h[ev]1 ?is rule is remitt$1 z 9 ! case ( a re/ive & v fre% animal2 ! groom !n assi/s ! lady to m\nt4 ,! driv] ( a f\r-9-h& v seldom dism\nts 9 su* circum/ances1 ?\gh1 ( c\rse1 !re are exceptions to ?is z to almo/ all o!r rules4 ,sid5ote3 ,on smok+ :5 driv+4 ,x us$ to be consid]$ bad mann]s to smoke :5 driv+ ) a lady4 ,?is is n[ q ant$iluvian1 s to speak4 ,p]mission mu/1 ( c\rse1 always be ask$ ( ! lady4 ,x is sc>cely ev] refus$1 & x is almo/ an exceptional ?+ to see a man driv+ )\t a cig> betwe5 8 tee?4 ,%\ld ! lady driv5 meet "s acqua9tances unkn[n to h] *>iote]1 & wi% to /op & conv]se ) !m1 he raises 8 hat & awaits h] pleasure4 ,%e w probably introduce him1 b if n he takes no "p 9 ! conv]sation4 ,! only ?+ he c d is to rema9 passive1 b unless ! lady feels ju/ifi$ 9 introduc+ him x is an error ( ta/e on h] "p to ent] into conv]sation ) h] fri5ds4 ,sid5ote3 ,9 :i* case ! rule may be brok54 ,"s ladies h a great dis9cl9ation to m\nt a f\r-9-h& or mail phaeton until ! driv] is seat$ ) ! re9s 9 8 h& & 9 full comm& ( ! horses4 ,!re is no?+ surpris+ 9 ?is1 =1 aft] all1 ! groom :o /&s at ! head ( ! horses be=e ! />t has v little control ov] !m1 & "o or two disagreeable accid5ts h occurr$ 9 ?is way1 ! horses tak+ fright & escap+ f 8 grasp4 ,consequ5tly x w\ld be no brea* ( good mann]s = ! g5tleman driv+ to take 8 seat & ?us reassure 8 n]v\s companion4 ,,games ,,& ,,recreations4 ,sid5ote3 ,*ess & :i/ p]man5tly popul>4 ,a man :o c play a good game ( *ess1 or ev5 an excell5t rubb] ( :i/1 mu/ be aw>e t ! acquirem5t involves an education 9 itself4 ,nei!r is ev] likely to become unpopul> among ! be/ classes ( society4 ,*ess & :i/ clubs increase 9 numb] z "t goes on2 b = ! purposes ( ev]yday life less exig5t games are f\nd m useful4 ,sid5ote3 ,"o %\ld be able to play ! m9or games4 ,billi>ds1 backgammon1 pok]1 bzique1 bacc>at1 c>t1 draughts1 v+t-et-un1 & loo may be m5tion$ among ! m9or accompli%m5ts ) :i* ! mod]n "y man f9ds x conv5i5t to be equipp$4 ,t a bad use has be5 made ( "s ( ^! by conv]t+ !m into m$ia = gambl+ is n to be d5i$4 ,at ! same "t !re is no reason :y ^? :o play !m 9 mod]ation %\ld refra9 f do+ s because o!rs abuse r ?an use ^! means ( recreation4 ,sid5ote3 ,^! ?+s are innoc5t 9 !mselves4 ,a r\nd game af=ds a v innoc5t mode ( sp5d+ an enjoyable ev5+1 & c\ntry-h\se life especially is (t5 enliv5$ 9 ?is way4 ,sid5ote3 ,& (t5 q necess>y4 ,home life1 :e!r 9 t[n or c\ntry1 is apt to become monoton\s1 p>ticul>ly = ! "y memb]s ( ! family1 if !re is n occasionally an amus+ game got up to pass away ! ev5+ h\rs1 & any?+ t adds to ! attractions ( home mu/ at lea/ h "o excell5t recomm5dation4 ,sid5ote3 ,a man's bre$+ is %[n 9 8 play4 ,ap>t f o!r consid]ations1 ! demean\r ( a "y man :5 play+ c>ds af=ds a v good te/ ( 8 mann]s4 ,"s ( !m appe> to ?9k t ! only fun to be _h out ( ! game lies 9 *eat+--v op5 & transp>5t *eat+1 to be sure--b /ill suffici5t to spoil ! amusem5t ( o!rs4 ,a curi\s developm5t ( money gre$ is sometimes obs]vable 9 play]s1 :o w %[ extreme exasp]ation at ! loss ( s simple a co9 z a p5ny4 ,sid5ote3 ,irritability ov] games4 ,!re are _m fairly good-temp]$ m5 7& wom57 :o ev9ce extreme irritability ov] games ( any k9d4 ,to play ) su* z ^! is v disagreeable1 & ! t5d5cy to irascibility %\ld be firmly *eck$ by ^? :o wi% to be popul> 9 society4 ,! ho/ or ho/ess always takes ! lead 9 ^! games1 or else deputes "s "o else to d s4 ,x is a sign ( ill-bre$+ :5 any outsid] assumes ! comm& ( a game )\t hav+ be5 ask$ to d s4 ,sid5ote3 ,an outsid] may n take ! lead unsolicit$4 ,un=tunately1 gambl+ games are v popul> at "s h\ses1 & x is possible = a "y man1 be+ unaw>e ( ! fact1 to be drawn 9 & lose m ?an he c af=d be=e he c politely extricate himself4 ,sid5ote3 ,m5 & h\ses to be avoid$4 ,9 su* circum/ances ! only ?+ he c d is religi\sly to avoid any su* h\se 9 future4 ,x is a matt] ( notoriety t !re are m5 :o make good incomes by fleec+ ! "y & inexp]i5c$ :om !y invite to _! h\ses "u ! guise ( fri5d%ip2 b ev5 :5 !re is no delib]ate di%one/y 9 "q1 z 9 ^! cases1 ! ho/ or ho/ess1 out ( pure love ( gambl+1 draws 9 ! gue/s to play = high sums4 ,sid5ote3 ,?+s to be reckon$ )4 ,unp>donable1 x is true1 b su* ?+s h to be reckon$ )1 & avoid$1 if possible4 ,! matt] is n conf9$ to ,london2 c\ntry-h\se life has mu* to answ] = "u ! same head+4 ,,rule ,,( ,,! ,,road ,,on ,,! ,,riv]4 ,sid5ote3 ,! rule ( ! road on ! riv]4 ,!re is a rule ( ! road = ! riv]1 & ^? :o boat on ! ,?ames on cr[d$ days f]v5tly wi% t x 7 bett] und]/ood4 ,!re does n appe> to be any means ( acquir+ ! necess>y in=mation4 ,if su* means exi/ !y h nev] come "u my notice1 &1 = at lea/ "o summ]1 ,i sp5t _m h\rs daily 9 t agreeable =m ( ex]cise4 ,sid5ote3 ,) ! tide--! middle ( ! /ream4 ,boats com+ d[n ) ! tide keep ! middle ( ! riv]2 ^? go+ aga9/ x hug ! %ore on ei!r side1 b 9 pass+ o!r boats com+ 9 ! same direction !y mu/ g out 9 a semicircle1 leav+ ! front boat ! %ore4 ,t[-boats are always giv5 ?is advantage4 ,sid5ote3 ,up-/ream--ei!r %ore4 ,9 meet+ o!r boats com+ d[n/ream :i* really h no "r to ! %ore1 b are mi/ak5ly kept ne> ! m>g9 by inexp]i5c$ /e]]s1 ! boat go+ up-/ream %\ld n g out1 b keep t[>ds ! l&4 ,sid5ote3 ,! rights ( angl]s4 ,! rights ( ! num]\s angl]s %\ld be respect$2 & x is n only c\rte\s b politic to d s1 z x is disagreeable to h ! l9es entangl$ 9 ! boat4 ,sid5ote3 ,sail+-boats4 ,r[-boats give way to sail+-boats on ! riv]1 especially :5 ! latt] are tack+ to use ! breeze4 ,z to /eam-laun*es1 _! motto too (t5 appe>s to be t 8,might is "r40 ,occupants ( small boats keep a %>p look-out = ^!4 ,sid5ote3 ,pass+ ?r\gh locks4 ,9 pass+ ?r\gh ! locks ! usual polit5ess ( refra9+ f %oot+ ahead ( boats 9 front %\ld be obs]v$4 ,any active emulation ( ?is k9d is a v risky bus9ess 9 ! same way :5 pull+ a boat ov] ! roll]s4 ,a man is b\nd to yield ! pas to ladies or to any boat conta9+ ladies4 ,9 fact1 ! c\rtesies ( ! riv] may be summ$ up z simil> to ^? on l&4 ,,d9n]-,,p>ties4 ,sid5ote3 ,invitation4 8,mrs4 ,x4 reque/s ! pleasure ( ,mr4 ,l4's company at d9n] on ,?ursday1 ! #af? ( ,febru>y1 at eight o'clock40 ,sid5ote3 ,acceptance4 8,mr4 ,l4 accepts ) pleasure ,mrs4 ,x4's k9d invitation to d9n] on ,?ursday1 ! #af? ( ,febru>y40 ,sid5ote3 ,address ( ! ho/ess4 ,^! are ! prelim9>ies2 ! lady's address be+ on ! %eet ( pap] or c>d on :i* h] invitation has be5 writt54 ,sid5ote3 ,! usual int]val4 ,?ree weeks' notice is usual1 b sometimes1 9 ! season1 :5 _m p>ties are go+ on1 invitations are s5t out f\r1 five1 or six weeks be=eh&1 9 ord] to secure ! gue/s4 ,9 ! case ( 8lions0 ev5 long] invitations h be5 giv52 b z "o ( ! fir/ pr9ciples ( good bre$+ is nev] to 8corn]0 anybody1 x is sc>cely fair to invite ^? :o are 9 mu* reque/ )\t giv+ !m ! option ( refusal4 ,sid5ote3 ,unfairly long invitations4 ,an invitation ( sev5 or eight weeks' l5g? sc>cely all[s "o to plead a pre-engagem5t1 & (t5 defeats ! eag] ho/ess's own end by induc+ ! 8lion0 to accept )\t any int5tion ( be+ pres5t1 writ+ lat] on to 8r5age10 to use a good old :i/ t]m4 ,b z our "y man is sc>cely yet a 8lion10 & probably n ov]-burd5$ ) engagem5ts = d9n] or any o!r social function1 we may imag9e him accept+ ) a free m9d4 ,sid5ote3 ,break+ ! engagem5t4 ,%\ld any?+ int]v5e to prev5t him c>ry+ out 8 engagem5t1 he is 9 duty b\nd to let 8 ho/ess "k z e>ly z possible t he _c be pres5t at h] d9n]-p>ty4 ,?is is m especially & p>ticul>ly necess>y ) d9n]s1 ?\gh x holds good ) reg>d to all invitations4 ,sid5ote3 ,peculi> obligation ( ! d9]-out4 ,b ) d9n] !re is a peculi> obligation laid ^u ! gue/s4 ,! *oice & arrangem5t ( !m involves c>e on ! "p ( ! d9n]-giv]1 m s ?an 9 ! case ( any o!r meal4 ,9 fact1 d9n] /&s alone z an in/itution sacr$ to ! highe/ rites ( hospitality4 ,to be invit$ is an hon\r to ! "y man :o is j beg9n+ 8 social life4 ,to abs5t himself w\ld be a gross rud5ess1 unless he c\ld plead circum/ances ( a press+ nature4 ,x is consid]$ a great infraction ( good mann]s to wire on ! v day ( ! p>ty t "o _c d9e z arrang$1 unless some?+ has occurr$ to ju/ify su* conduct4 ,sid5ote3 ,on decl9+ at ! la/ mom5t4 ,! ho/ess c ) difficulty f9d a sub/itute at %ort notice1 & ! :ole plan ( h] table is de/roy$ by ! abs5ce ( "o p]son4 ,!re are few p :o w\ld n feel (f5d$ at be+ invit$ to fill a gap ( ! k9d1 & ?is is :at makes x s extremely disc\rte\s to disappo9t at ! la/ mom5t1 z x 74 ,sid5ote3 ,a 8fill-up0 invitation4 ,! un=tunate ho/ess ?9ks1 8,is !re any "o good-natur$ en\gh to come & fill ! vacant place80 ,sometimes ?is is ! raison d'tre ( a "y man's fir/ invitation4 ,let him accept x by all means1 ev5 ?\gh he is p]fectly aw>e t he 0 n 8 ent]ta9]'s fir/ *oice4 ,sid5ote3 ,"o's fir/ d9n]-p>ty4 ,_m a "y man feels n]v\s ab\t 8 fir/ d9n]-p>ty4 ,!re are a few puzzl+ ?+s t tr\ble him 9 prospect4 ,he wond]s if he %\ld we> gloves1 z ladies d1 tak+ !m (f at ! d9n]-table4 ,let me set 8 m9d at re/ on ?is small po9t1 at once4 ,sid5ote3 ,gloves n worn by m54 ,he ne$ n we> gloves4 ,9 fact1 he mu/ n4 ,ano!r little matt] to be rememb]$ is t a qu>t] ( an h\r's grace is always und]/ood 9 d9n] invitations4 ,%\ld ! h\r indicat$ be #h o'clock1 !n c>e mu/ be tak5 to "t ! arrival at five or t5 m9utes pa/ ! h\r4 ,sid5ote3 ,punctuality imp]ative4 ,b x is bett] to be too e>ly ?an too late4 ,a want ( punctuality at ?is meal is unp>donable4 ,x is ! v height ( rud5ess1 annoy+ to ! ho/ & ho/ess1 displeas+ to ! gue/s1 & reg>d$ z outrage\s by ! cook4 ,sid5ote3 ,"o's fir/ duty to "o's ho/ess4 ,:5 our "y man is %[n into ! draw+-room1 he at once goes up to 8 ho/ess1 no matt] :e!r !re is any "o he kn[s ne>] to ! door ?an ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,?is is always a fix$ rule1 :e!r x be on ! occasion ( a call or visit1 or on hav+ be5 invit$ to a p>ty ( any k9d4 ,:5 he has be5 greet$ by 8 ho/ess he looks r\nd ! room to see if !re is anyone pres5t :om he kn[s4 ,sid5ote3 ,!n acqua9tances4 ,if s1 he goes up to ! ladies fir/1 if !re are any ( 8 acqua9tance pres5t1 & aft]w>ds greets ! g5tlem54 ,8 ho/ w probably h %ak5 h&s ) him imm$iately aft] 8 wife has done s4 ,sid5ote3 ,introduction to p>tn]4 ,he w !n be told :at lady he is to take d[n to d9n]1 & be introduc$ to h]1 if he does n already "k h]4 ,he mu/ b[1 n %ake h&s1 & make small talk = h] dur+ ! int]val betwe5 8 introduction & ! ann\ncem5t ( d9n]4 ,sid5ote3 ,mak+ small talk4 ,"h is 8 fir/ real difficulty4 ,to conv]se ) a p]fect /rang] is always "o ( ! initial social accompli%m5ts to be le>n$1 & x is n at all an easy ?+ at fir/4 ,x ne$s practice4 ,sid5ote3 ,if possible1 avoid talk+ ab\t ! wea!r4 ,n9ety m5 out ( e hundr$ (f] a rem>k ^u ! wea!r2 b unless !re has be5 some?+ v extraord9>y go+ on 9 ! meteorological l9e1 x is bett] to avoid ?is subject if possible4 ,a girl at ,ascot said to me "o lovely day1 8,t's ! eigh? man :o has in=m$ me t x's a beautiful day40 ,up came a n9? ) ! v same obs]vation1 & bo? %e & ,i felt incl9$ to titt] l v s*oolgirls4 ,x is f> bett] to />t ) some?+ m orig9al4 ,sid5ote3 ,! fir/ p]son s+ul> n a good topic4 ,x is z well to keep ! pron\n 8,i0 9 ! backgr\nd j at fir/4 ,if y\r p>tn] is z nice z %e might be1 %e w soon give y abundant opportunity = talk+ ab\t y\rself4 ,sid5ote3 ,! beg9n]'s p>tn]4 ,by ! way1 a man mu/ n at 8 v fir/ d9n]-p>ty expect to be giv5 a pretty girl to take d[n4 ,he may possibly be s =tunate1 b ^? prizes are usually res]v$ = m5 ( m exp]i5ce 9 social life4 ,! "y man has probably be5 invit$ to make up ! necess>y numb] ( m51 & an unm>ri$ lady ( unc]ta9 age or an eld]ly woman )\t mu* claim to consid]ation w probably fall to 8 %>e4 ,sid5ote3 ,comp5sations4 ,h[ev]1 !re is ?is consolation1 %e w be excell5t = practis+ ^u4 ,he w\ld n m9d mak+ small mi/akes s mu* z if 8 p>tn] 7 a "y & *>m+ girl4 ,sid5ote3 ,! small-talk art n s difficult4 ,nor is ! art ( mak+ small talk s difficult z x w\ld be ) a pair ( bright & y\?ful eyes beam+ into y\r own1 & confus+ y into =getfulness ( all b _! own delightful language4 ,b :at to talk ab\t is ! puzzle ( ! mom5t4 ,sid5ote3 ,a good beg9n+4 ,i h kn[n a good beg9n+ made ) "s su*1 rem>k z1 8,d y "k ev]ybody "h80 ,?is leads p]haps to ! acquisition ( "s in=mation z to ! o!r gue/s4 ,sid5ote3 ,"s useful topics4 ,at table !re w be m to sugge/ topics4 ,! floral decorations (t5 lead up to conv]sation4 ,! col\rs ( ! fl[]s rem9d "o ( pictures1 & ! lady on "o's "r may be ask$ if %e has be5 to any exhibitions t may be op54 ,if s1 :at pictures %e lik$ be/4 ,does %e pa9t8 ,has %e read ! novel ( ! h\r8 ,:at %e ?9ks ( x8 ,does %e bike8 ,at ?is rate our novice gets on swimm+ly1 & may safely be left to himself4 ,sid5ote3 ,a few details4 ,i mu/ n omit "s small details deal+ ) ! gue/ on 8 arrival1 & on 8 way aft]w>ds f ! draw+-to ! d9+-room4 ,sid5ote3 ,on arrival4 ,! s]vant :o admits him takes 8 ov]coat & hat1 ei!r 9 ! hall or 9 a room set ap>t = ! purpose4 ,sid5ote3 ,! lady prec$es h] escort4 ,%\ld he be accompani$ by a lady he foll[s h] up/airs1 & %e ent]s ! room slightly 9 advance ( him1 probably ab\t a y>d or s4 ,! "y man mu/ n h ! appe>ance ( hang+ back1 h[ev]4 ,he walks /eadily & r briskly up ! room4 ,sid5ote3 ,tak+ d[n to d9n]4 ,:5 ! move to ! d9+-room is made1 ! g5tlem5 (f] to ! ladies ! arm :i* w place !m on ! wall side ( ! /aircase1 ?us avoid+ ! contact ( _! dresses ) ! balu/]s4 ,b %\ld ! d9+-room be1 z x v frequ5tly is1 on ! same floor z ! draw+-room1 !n ! "r arm is (f]$4 ,sid5ote3 ,positions at table4 ,! lady sits on ! "r ( h] escort at table4 ,! s]vants usually indicate ! seats t ! gue/s are to occupy4 ,sometimes ! ho/1 previ\sly in/ruct$ by ! ho/ess1 comes to ! rescue )1 8,y\r seat is "h1 ,i believe1 ,mr4 ,s-&-s10 :o imm$iately takes 8 lady to ! *air on ! "r ( ! two ! c\ple are to occupy4 ,! sy/em ( "n-c>ds is obs]v$ 9 "s circles1 b x is n a good "o4 ,sid5ote3 ,"n-c>ds4 ,x is di/ress+1 9 ^! days ( %ort sight & small rooms1 to see sev]al c\ples w&]+ ab\t endeav\r+ to deciph] ! names on ! small c>ds4 ,sid5ote3 ,! bett] plan4 ,x is mu* bett] = ! ho/ to h made himself ma/] ( ! ord] 9 :i* ! gue/s are to be seat$1 & z he ent]s ! d9+-room fir/ ) ! lady ( highe/ social importance1 he is ready to po9t out _! places to ea* c\ple z !y ent]4 ,sid5ote3 ,prelim9>ies at table4 ,! fir/ ?+ to be done on sitt+ d[n is to unfold ! table napk9 & place x across ! knee4 ,! m5u is !n consult$1 & a m5tal note made ( any fav\rite di%1 s t x may n be refus$4 ,b all ! "t a fl[ ( small talk mu/ be kept up ) "o's p>tn] ( ! h\r4 ,sometimes %e turns to talk ) ! man on h] "r4 ,!n h] escort may conv]se ) ! lady on 8 left1 if %e is dis5gag$4 ,b he mu/ always rememb] t 8 fir/ duty is to h] :om he took d[n4 ,sid5ote3 ,! w9eglasses4 ,!re w probably be ?ree or f\r w9eglasses on our "y fri5d's "r4 ,"o ( ^!--ei!r a long-/emm$1 wide-cupp$ glass or a small tumbl]--is = *ampagne4 ,! col\r$ glass is = hock1 ! sl5d]e/ & smalle/ is = %]ry1 & ! cl>et-glass occupies 9 dim5sions a midway betwe5 ^? ( ! *ampagne & cl>et-glass4 ,sid5ote3 ,knives & =ks4 ,) reg>d to ! knives & =ks1 ev]y?+ is n[ made v easy = ! novice by ! way 9 :i* ! table is laid4 ,sid5ote3 ,tak+ s\p4 ,! tablespoon is = s\p1 :i* mu/ be eat5 f ! side ( ! spoon close to ! po9t4 ,! fi% knife & =k are plac$ outside ! o!rs1 s z to be ready to ! h&1 ! fi% c\rse com+ directly aft] ! s\p4 ,sid5ote3 ,c>v+4 ,! di%es are usually all h&$ r\nd at d9n]-p>ties1 ! c>v+ be+ done at ! sidebo>d or 9 an imm$iately adjo9+ room1 b sometimes ! ho/ c>ves ! jo9t & game4 ,!re is occasionally a subtle reason = ?is pref]5ce1 n :olly unconnect$ ) a ta/e = ^? morsels t especially appeal to ! g\rm&4 ,! ho/ may desire to secure ^! = "s special1 appreciative gue/--or = himself6 ,9 "s families ! pr9cipal di%es are always plac$ be=e ! ma/] ( ! h\se to be c>v$4 ,maids]vants c r>ely c>ve well1 & butl]s h gone consid]ably out ( fa%ion 9 ! upp] middle classes ( society ( late ye>s4 ,sid5ote3 ,*oice ( di%es & w9es4 ,:5 (f]$ ! usual *oice ( di%es or w9es1 ! gue/ mu/ decide at once & indicate 8 *oice )\t delay4 ,any hesitation gives him ! air ( be+ unable to reject ei!r2 ( be+ 9 ! position1 ) reg>d to food1 occupi$ by ! poet :o wrote-- 8,h[ happy c\ld ,i be ) ei!r1 ,7 t'o!r de> *>m] away60 ,s he mu/ be prompt1 &1 %\ld ! di% be h&$ r\nd1 help himself )\t delay4 ,sid5ote3 ,help+ oneself4 ,on ?is v po9t ( help+ himself ,i h se5 "y m5 endure excruciat+ agonies ( %yness4 ,sometimes !y take ! m]e/ morsel ( "s excell5t di%1 ?\gh !y w\ld l v well to h "s m4 ,at o!r times !y help !mselves to f> too mu*1 because !y are s confus$ t !y w n take ! necess>y "t to sep>ate = _! own %>e a mod]ate quantity4 ,occasionally !y drop ! spoon or =k ) a clatt] into ! di%1 aft] :i* !y look int5sely mis]able = t5 m9utes or s4 ,sid5ote3 ,a useful reflection4 ,! be/ way to avoid all ?is is to pres]ve absolute self-possession by reflect+ t ! o!r gue/s are all too well occupi$ to pay any att5tion to su* trifl+ matt]s4 ,! self-consci\sness ( :i* %yness is ! outw>d & visible sign1 makes a "y man feel t e "o is obs]v+ him1 especially :5 he is awkw>d 9 h&l+ ?+s4 ,b he may console himself ) ! conviction t he is ( mu* less importance to !m ?an _! own d9n]1 to say no?+ ( ! ladies :o sit beside !m4 ,:5 ask$ to *oose betwe5 cl>et or hock1 he may ei!r m5tion "o or indicate ! glass4 ,sid5ote3 ,! ord] ( ! w9es4 8,%]ry1 sir10 is ! fir/ w9e h&$ r\nd4 ,!n comes ! *oice betwe5 cl>et & hock4 ,sid5ote3 ,indicat+4 ,aft]w>ds 8*ampagne1 sir80 usually answ]$ by slightly draw+ ! *ampagne-glass =w>d1 or by a nod2 sometimes by a %ake ( ! head4 ,sid5ote3 ,?ank+ s]vants4 ,an occasional 8,?anks0 to ! s]vant is n amiss1 b x is unnecess>y to keep on express+ gratitude4 ,"s p nev] dream ( say+ 8,?ank y40 ,o!rs say x out ( pure graci\sness ( mann] & g5tl5ess ( m9d4 ,s our "y man may take 8 *oice4 ,sid5ote3 ,maids]vants at table4 ,i h obs]v$ t :5 a neat & pretty p>l\rmaid waits at table %e is m likely to be ?ank$ ?an a mans]vant2 & ?is n only by g5tlem51 b by ladies z well4 ,i (f] no explanation ( :y ?is %\ld be s4 ,i m]ely record ! fact z ,i h not$ x4 ,! p]fection ( s]vice resolves itself into absolute accuracy ( ma*9]y unit$ to ! obs]vant wat*fulness ( long tra9+4 ,"o b>ely discov]s t "o ne$s bread :5 x is pres5t$ at "o's elb[4 ,sid5ote3 ,! p]fection ( s]vice4 ,9 ! same way1 vegetables1 w9e1 arat$ wat]s1 or :atev] "o may be dr9k+1 arrives at exactly ! "r mom5t4 ,! me*anism or organisation ( su* wait+ is s good t !re is no int]ruption ( conv]sation4 ,! s]vants und]/& t a m]e turn+ away f ! di% means rejection4 ,%\ld any gue/ f9d a difficulty 9 help+ himself1 !y simplify matt]s = him z mu* z possible4 ,sid5ote3 ,/udy+ ! m5u4 ,z ! di%es are n nam$ :5 !y are h&$ r\nd1 x is necess>y to /udy ! m5u 9 ord] to "k :at !y are4 ,"s "y p appe> to ?9k t x looks 8gre$y0 to pay mu* att5tion to ! in=mation giv5 on ! da9ty little bill ( f>e2 b ?is1 ( c\rse1 is "o ( y\?'s delusions4 ,i h se5 a %ort-sight$ "y man /ra9+ 8 eyes 9 ! endeav\r to read furtively ! names ( ! di%es on 8 m5u4 ,he w\ld h done f> bett] if he _h boldly tak5 x up 9 8 h& to exam9e x4 ,h[ev] hungry "o may be1 ! duty ( keep+ up a conv]sation mu/ n be neglect$4 ,! ,sid5ote3 ,a topic to be avoid$4 ,! vi&s mu/ nev] be *os5 z a topic1 = ei!r praise or blame4 ,if "o kn[s a girl v well1 "o may ask1 8,d y l sweets80 or "s su* "q1 b x is saf] ) /rang]s to avoid ! subject ( ! food provid$4 ,sid5ote3 ,mod]ation 9 w9es4 ,x is sc>cely necess>y to rem>k t dr9k+ too mu* w9e is a v bad phase ( ill mann]s4 ,at "o "t x 0 actually fa%ionable to become intoxicat$ aft] d9n]1 b ^? days are gone1 ,i am ?ankful to say4 ,! "y man :o exce$s 9 ?is way is soon made aw>e ( ! fact t he has giv5 8 ho/ess dire (f5ce4 ,he is nev] invit$ aga91 or n = a long "t4 ,! w9eglass is nev] dra9$ at a draught 9 polite society2 nor is x consid]$ polite to eat v quickly4 ,sid5ote3 ,z little noise z possible4 ,! knife1 =k1 & spoon are h&l$ z noiselessly z possible4 ,scrap+ ! edge ( ! knife aga9/ ! plate is unp>donable4 ,x produces a grat+ noise t is excessively unpleasant4 ,9 s5d+ a plate away to be repl5i%$1 ! d9] leaves 8 knife & =k or 8 spoon1 z ! case may be1 ^u x4 ,9 deal+ ) bread1 use nei!r knife nor =k4 ,sid5ote3 ,bread mu/ be brok54 ,x mu/ be brok5 ) ! f+]s4 ,!re is a /ory ( an abs5t-m9d$ & %ort-sight$ prelate :o1 ) ! rem>k1 8,my bread1 ,i ?9k80 dug 8 =k into ! :ite h& ( a lady :o sat beside him4 ,he _h be5 badly br\ght up1 or he w\ld n h us$ 8 =k1 & ! :ite h& w\ld h exp]i5c$ no?+ worse ?an a sudd5 grasp4 ,sid5ote3 ,! m\/a*e & s\p4 ,x requires "s exp]tness & practice = a man ) a m\/a*e to take s\p 9 a p]fectly in(f5sive mann]4 ,! accompli%m5t is wor? "s tr\ble4 ,sid5ote3 ,! m\?4 ,"s m51 :o %\ld "k bett] 7& "s wom51 too71 =get t ! m\? %\ld be kept clos$ :ile ma/ication is go+ on4 ,?is is a v important matt]4 ,sid5ote3 ,nature n a good guide 9 ?is matt]4 ,nature tea*es u to keep ! m\? op51 z any "o may see f ! way 9 :i* *ildr5 & uncultivat$ p]sons eat1 b good mann]s enjo9 ^u u t to adopt ! natural mode is to disgu/ & annoy ^? ) :om we sit at meat4 ,if ^! little ?+s h n be5 le>n$ 9 *ildhood1 x is difficult to ma/] !m aft]w>ds4 ,mo!rs %\ld also tea* _! boys 7& girls7 nev] to speak :ile food is 9 ! m\?1 & nev] to dr9k until x is q empty4 ,:o w\ld n be mortifi$ if he 7 to *oke ignom9i\sly at ! d9n]-table8 ,sid5ote3 ,h[ to eat a curry1 c4 ,! correct way to eat a curry is ) a spoon & =k2 b ?is is ! only meat di% t is eat5 9 ?is way4 ,sweetbreads & _m o!r entres are eat5 ) ! =k alone4 ,x is !n held 9 ! "r h&4 ,%\ld a knife be f\nd necess>y x c1 ( c\rse1 be us$4 ,vegetable entres are always eat5 ) a =k1 held 9 ! "r h&4 ,fi% is eat5 ) a silv] 7or plat$7 knife & =k4 ,sid5ote3 ,tak+ ,sauces4 ,sauces are nev] tak5 v pl5tifully4 ,! sauce ladle1 fill$1 w be g5]ally suffici5t4 ,i once saw a man1 9 help+ himself to oy/] sauce1 look scrut9is+ly 9 ! sauceboat & c>efully fi% ab\t = z _m oy/]s z he c\ld collect 9 ! ladle4 ,?is caus$ "s cov]t amusem5t1 except1 p]haps1 to ! la/ p]sons to :om ! sauce 0 h&$4 ,!y probably f\nd few oy/]s4 ,sid5ote3 ,foods t\*$ ) ! f+]s4 ,bread1 biscuits1 olives1 asp>agus1 cel]y1 & bonbons are ! =ms ( food t may be t\*$ ) ! f+]s4 ,!re us$ once to be a rule t a bone might be pick$1 if only ! f+] & ?umb 7 us$ 9 hold+ x4 ,b t 0 9 ! days :5 table cutl]y 0 f> f hav+ be5 br\ght to its pres5t condition ( p]fection4 ,!re is n[ no excuse = h&l+ bones--knives & =ks suffice2 & x is only 9 ! l[e/ grades ( society t !y are f\nd inadequate4 ,sid5ote3 ,salads4 ,9 help+ oneself to salad1 x mu/ be plac$ on ! cresc5t-%ap$ plate laid d[n = t purpose be=e x is h&$ r\nd4 ,?is plate is put at ! left side ( ! r\nd plate4 ,bo? knife & =k are (t5 necess>y ) salads1 b if !y are s5t to table z !y %\ld be1 ) ! lettuce & o!r vegetables brok5 small1 ! =k is q suffici5t4 ,x is always disagreeable to see a /eel knife us$ ) v9eg>1 & x %\ld be avoid$ :5ev] possible to d s4 ,sid5ote3 ,oy/]s4 ,oy/]s s]v$ on ! %ell are eat5 ) a fi%-knife & =k4 ,o!r fi% hors d'uvres are eat5 ) a fi%-=k4 ,sid5ote3 ,hors d'uvres ,x is n always possible to tell1 ei!r f ! appe>ance or "n ( ! hors d'uvre1 :e!r x consi/s ( fi% or meat4 ,9 t case x is saf] to use an ord9>y =k2 & = ?is reason3 ! fi%-knife has be5 laid = a fi% c\rse1 & if x %\ld h be5 previ\sly unnecess>ily us$ = ! hors d'uvre1 x w be ne$ful = ! s]vant to br+ ano!r4 ,fi% rissoles may be eat5 ) a fi%-=k only--9 fact1 any prep>ation t does n ne$ ! knife4 ,sid5ote3 ,a safe rule4 ,x is a safe rule nev] to use ei!r knife or spoon if ! =k w d4 ,) ice-pudd+ or ices 9 any =m a small spoon is us$4 ,n[ let u take ! d9n] f ! v beg9n+1 & g ?r\gh ! c\rses4 ,sid5ote3 ,! c\rses s]iatim4 ,sid5ote3 ,hors d'uvres4 ,fir/1 !re may be hors d'uvres1 small morsels ( v>i\s k9ds :i* are f\nd ready to h& :5 ! gue/s sit d[n4 ,i h already ref]r$ to ^!4 ,sid5ote3 ,s\p4 ,next comes s\p1 g5]ally "o ?ick & "o cle>4 ,! att5dant (f]s ! d9] a *oice1 & he mu/ promptly make x4 ,:5 x is set be=e him he beg9s at once1 n wait+ till e "o is s]v$4 ,sid5ote3 ,ta/e be=e salt+4 ,he takes up ! tablespoon1 plac$ ready at 8 "r h&1 & x is n consid]$ v good =m to imm$iately put "s salt into ! s\p be=e ta/+ x4 ,p :o pride !mselves on ! possession ( a clev] cook sometimes feel annoy$ at ! di/ru/ ( h] p[]s %[n 9 ?is simple action4 ,sid5ote3 ,! add5da to s\p4 ,) s\p small add5da are (t5 h&$4 ,! gue/ helps himself to ^!1 :e!r !y are crotons1 fri$ bread-crumbs or o!r supplem5t>y provision1 ) ! spoon h&$ r\nd on ! di%4 ,sid5ote3 ,:5 to beg9 d9+4 ,x is a v old-fa%ion$ piece ( good mann]s to wait till e "o is s]v$4 ,s old-fa%ion$ is x t x survives at pres5t only among ! uncultur$ classes4 ,! correct ?+ to d n[adays is to beg9 eat+ )\t ref]5ce to o!rs4 ,! old /yle mu/ n only h be5 try+ 9 consequ5ce ( see+ "o's food gr[ cold be=e "o's eyes1 b x mu/ also h be5 responsible = mak+ d9n] a v sl[ & t$i\s meal4 ,n[ ! att5dants remove ! plates f ! gue/s fir/ help$ directly ! =k is laid d[n1 & ?is greatly accel]ates ! s]vice4 ,sid5ote3 ,tilt+ ! s\p-plate4 ,sid5ote3 ,! direction ( ! tilt4 ,! s\p-plate1 if tilt$ at all1 is rais$ at ! side ne>e/ ! eat]1 s t ! s\p collects at ! fur!/ po9t f him4 ,x is g5]ally unnecess>y to tilt ! plate1 h[ev]4 ,b ! ?+ to avoid is pass+ ! left h& r\nd x 9 a half-embrace & tilt+ x t[>ds ! eat]4 ,?is is highly incorrect2 x is also dang]\s4 ,! s\p has be5 kn[n to spill on ! clo?1 & ev5 ov] ! d9]4 ,:5 ! s]vant is remov+ y\r s\p-plate he w sometimes ask1 8,any m1 sir80 to :i* y mu/ reply 9 ! negative4 ,a %ake ( ! head w suffice4 ,sid5ote3 ,nei!r s\p nor fi% may be help$ twice4 ,s\p is nev] help$ twice4 ,nor is fi%4 ,?is is ! next c\rse4 ,bread is always eat5 ) fi%4 ,i h already expla9$ t a silv] knife & =k are us$4 ,sid5ote3 ,fi% & fi% sauce4 ,! sauce h&$ is almo/ inv>iably accept$4 ,sometimes ! cruet is h&$ r\nd1 conta9+ "s sort ( condim5t suitable to ! fi% s]v$4 ,x is1 ( c\rse1 a matt] ( *oice :e!r ?is be accept$ or n4 ,v few d9]s "w /raight ?r\gh a m5u )\t omitt+ "s di%es4 ,sid5ote3 ,omitt+ di%es4 ,! idea ( giv+ s _m is t !re may be "s to suit all ta/es4 ,no "o is expect$ to take ( all1 ?\gh x is q p]missible to d s4 ,sid5ote3 ,entres4 ,aft] ! s\p & fi% ! entres are h&$ r\nd4 ,! di%es are pres5t$ at ! left side ( ! d9]1 & he helps himself ) 8 "r h&1 a tablespoon be+ plac$ on ! di% = t purpose2 or ) bo? h&s1 us+ spoon & =k1 %\ld ! nature ( ! di% r5d] ?is necess>y4 ,sid5ote3 ,accompanim5ts to di%es4 ,:5 slices f a jo9t1 or game1 or p\ltry are h&$ r\nd1 ! vegetables1 gravies1 & sauces accompany+ !m are h&$ aft]4 ,x is usual to wait = ^! etcet]as be=e beg9n+ ^u ! meat1 f[l1 v5ison1 or game4 ,= in/ance1 no "o w\ld comm5ce ^u a slice ( roa/ beef or mutton )\t potatoes or gravy1 nor ^u a piece ( pheasant )\t br[n$ bread-crumbs1 or bread sauce1 or gravy4 ,i say 8no "o0 w\ld d x1 b ,i h se5 x done1 :e!r 9 abs5ce ( m9d or f pressure ( appetite ,i _c pret5d to say4 ,x is a mi/ake1 h[ev]4 ,sid5ote3 ,sweets & *eese4 ,*eese is h&$ r\nd aft] ! sweets 9 ord] to prep>e ! palate = ! enjoym5t ( dess]t w9es4 ,?is1 at lea/1 0 ! orig9al mean+ ( introduc+ x at ?is /age ( ! meal4 ,sid5ote3 ,ice-pudd+4 ,b n[ ice-pudd+1 :5 s]v$1 foll[s x1 ?us contradictorily re-e/abli%+ ! reign ( sweets4 ,sid5ote3 ,sav\ries4 ,sav\ries are h&$ r\nd ) ! *eese c\rse4 ,^! are eat5 ) a =k4 ,ev5 a *eese fondu is eat5 ) a =k1 ?\gh ! cook occasionally fails to br+ x to ! requisite firmness ( consi/5cy1 9 :i* case x looks m suit$ to a spoon2 b ! =k mu/ d4 ,sid5ote3 ,cel]y4 ,cel]y is eat5 ) ! f+]s1 l asp>agus4 ,sid5ote3 ,asp>agus4 ,?is la/-nam$1 by ! way1 if too mu* cook$1 & consequ5tly v s(t & unmanageable1 may be eat5 ) ! =k1 b mu/ n be t\*$ ) ! knife4 ,& aga91 %\ld asp>agus be s]v$ ) ! melt$ butt] ?r[n ov] x1 x mu/ be eat5 ) a =k4 ,x v seldom is s s]v$1 b ,i h met ) ?is mode 9 "s h\ses4 ,*eese ramequ9s are eat5 ) ! f+]s4 ,sid5ote3 ,*eese1 h[ s]v$4 ,*eese itself is h&$ r\nd on a di% or plate ) ! pieces cut ready to "o's h&4 ,sid5ote3 ,*eese1 h[ eat54 ,! d9] helps himself ) ! knife laid ready beside ! pieces ( *eese1 n ) 8 own knife4 ,if wat]cress is h&$ r\nd1 x is tak5 up 9 ! f+]s & eat5 9 ! same way4 ,*eese is cut 9 small pieces & convey$ to ! m\? on a piece ( bread or biscuit4 ,v few p]sons cont9ue to eat x 9 ! old-fa%ion$ way by c>ry+ x to ! m\? ) ! knife4 ,i h se5 x tak5 up ) ! f+]s1 b z *eese is apt to smell r /rongly x is bett] to avoid t\*+ x4 ,sid5ote3 ,a safe rule ) sweets4 ,) reg>d to sweets1 x is a safe rule to use ! =k only :5 x suffices = ! "w 9 h&4 ,) t>ts1 z a rule1 bo? spoon & =k are necess>y1 especially :5 !re is syrup4 ,cold t>t c (t5 be com=tably eat5 ) a =k4 ,jellies & creams are eat5 ) a =k only2 ice-pudd+ ) an ice-spoon1 or1 fail+ t1 a teaspoon4 ,f ! mom5t "o has unfold$ "o's napk9 & plac$ ! bread x conta9$ at "o's left1 !re is no?+ m to d t conc]ns ! 8cov]10 z ! prep>ation = ea* d9]'s conv5i5ce is call$1 until ! dess]t-plate1 ) its d'oyley1 f+]-glass1 silv] knife & =k--& p]haps ice-plate & spoon 9 addition--is set d[n be=e "o4 ,sid5ote3 ,plac+ ! dess]t knife & =k4 ,sid5ote3 ,d'oyley & f+]-glass4 ,be=e ! or dess]t are h&$ r\nd1 "o mu/ place ! dess]t-knife & =k at "r & left1 respectively1 ( "o's plate1 &1 tak+ up ! f+]-glass c>efully 9 "o h&1 ) ! o!r place ! d'oyley on ! clo? to ! left ( "o's plate1 !n sett+ ! f+]-glass d[n ^u x4 ,i say 8c>efully10 because ^! glasses are (t5 ( ! lighte/ possible k9d1 & are occasionally ( a co/ly description4 ,besides1 r\gh h&l+ might t5d to spill ! wat] !y conta94 ,sid5ote3 ,dess]t4 ,) reg>d to ! dess]t fruits1 c41 !re are a few puzzles to be f\nd among !m = ! inexp]i5c$4 ,sid5ote3 ,grapes4 ,grapes pres5t "o ( ^!4 ,sid5ote3 ,expell+ sk9 & se$s4 ,!y are tak5 up s+ly1 & aft]w>ds ! sk9 & se$s h to be expell$ z unobtrusively z possible4 ,x is a matt] ( great difficulty to accompli% ?is by any o!r me?od ?an us+ ! h&1 !re=e ?is is ! accept$ cu/om4 ,! =ef+] is curv$ above ! m\? 9 a mann] :i* s]ves to conceal ! ejectm5t1 & ! sk9 & se$s are 9 ?is way convey$ to ! plate1 ! f+]s be+ aft]w>ds wip$ ) ! napk94 ,sid5ote3 ,bananas4 ,bananas are peel$ ) ! knife & =k1 & ! pieces are convey$ to ! m\? by means ( ! =k4 ,sid5ote3 ,oranges4 ,oranges are cut 9 two1 !n 9 f\r1 & ) ! aid ( knife & =k ! cont5ts ( ea* section are extract$ 9 two or m p>ts1 & c>ri$ to ! lips on ! =k4 ,sid5ote3 ,apples & pe>s1 c4 ,apples & pe>s are peel$ ) ! knife & =k2 pea*es1 apricots1 & nect>9es 9 ! same way4 ,sid5ote3 ,/rawb]ries4 ,/rawb]ries are tak5 by ! /em1 dipp$ 9 sug> & cream1 & c>ri$ to ! lips ) ! f+]s4 ,if ! fruit has be5 pick$ free ( husks & /em1 x may be bruis$ on ! plate ) sug> & cream1 & eat5 ) a spoon4 ,pres]v$ g+] is eat5 ) ! knife & =k4 ,sid5ote3 ,p9es & melons4 ,a spoon is necess>y ) p9es1 melons1 & v juicy /rawb]ries1 aft] !y h be5 prep>$ ) ! knife & =k4 ,sid5ote3 ,nuts4 ,nuts are crack$ ) ! nutcrack]s1 & !n extract$ by ! f+]s4 ,) filb]ts & ,brazil nuts ! knife & =k are call$ into requisition 9 ord] to free !m f sk91 b walnuts are too intricate = any?+ less wond]ful 9 me*anism ?an ! human h&4 ,9 view ( ?is1 !y are sometimes prep>$ be=e be+ s5t to table1 & ( late ye>s !y h be5 sold ready crack$ & peel$ = ?is purpose4 ,sid5ote3 ,almonds4 ,almonds are nev] s5t to table 9 _! %ells1 s t !y pres5t no difficulties to ! novice4 ,at dess]t !y are usually accompani$ by rais9s1 :i*1 l ! almonds1 are c>ri$ to ! m\? 9 ! f+]s4 ,sid5ote3 ,cry/allis$ fruits4 ,cry/allis$ fruits are cut ) ! knife & =k1 unless !y happ5 to be ( a small size1 su* z *]ries4 ,9 t case !y are eat5 :ole1 be+ c>ri$ to ! lips on ! =k4 ,sid5ote3 ,liqueurs4 ,liqueurs are h&$ r\nd at dess]t1 p\r$ out ready into ! small glasses t are call$ aft] !m4 ,!re is g5]ally a *oice1 su* z 8,*>treuse or ,bndict9e1 sir80 to :i* x is unnecess>y to reply1 8,bo?1 please10 z a hi/oric "y man did once4 ,sid5ote3 ,pass+ ! w9es4 ,! s]vants (t5 leave ! d9+-room :5 ! dess]t is plac$ on ! table1 & :5 ?is is s1 ! w9e is pass$ r\nd f h& to h&1 ea* g5tleman att5d+ fir/ to ! lady he has escort$ & !n help+ himself be=e pass+ on ! decant]1 cl>et jug1 or *ampagne bottle4 ,! good old fa%ion ( us+ silv] decant]-/&s has long disappe>$1 to ! detrim5t ( _m a good tableclo?4 ,s has ! g5ial & hospitable fa%ion ( dr9k+ w9e ) "o's gue/s1 & !y ) ea* o!r4 ,b ?is may be r a good ?+ 9 ! int]e/s ( temp]ance4 ,sid5ote3 ,! wat]-dr9k] n s+ul>4 ,apropos to ?is subject1 ,i may rem>k t !re is n[ no?+ s+ul> 9 dr9k+ no?+ b wat]4 ,! days are gone :5 a man 0 ?\ght a milksop because he c\ld n 8dr9k 8 bottle10 or if he refus$ w9e or spirits4 ,%\ld any "y man pref] wat]1 he asks = x :5 ! s]vants (f] him w9e4 ,he is !n (f]$ ,apoll9>is or di/ill$ wat] or soda-wat]1 or "s o!r prep>ation ( filt]$ & di/ill$ wat]1 & may *oose "s ( ^! 9 pref]5ce to pla9 wat]4 ,sid5ote3 8,"o w9e0 d9]s4 ,cl>et is ! fav\rite dess]t w9e ( ! day1 b port is /ill se5 at "s tables1 & x is usual to (f] *ampagne1 z _m pref] to dr9k only "o k9d ( w9e ?r\gh\t ! meal1 f />t to f9i%4 ,9 fact1 ?is is becom+ q a fa%ion 9 "s sets4 ,sid5ote3 ,cig>s & cig>ettes4 ,! ho/ provides cig>s & cig>ettes = 8 gue/s1 & x w\ld n be necess>y or advisable to produce "o's own supply4 ,sid5ote3 ,:5 ! ladies leave ! d9+-room4 ,:5 ! ladies rise to leave ! d9+-room1 ! g5tleman ne>e/ ! door op5s ! door = !m1 & /&s beside x until !y h all pass$ ?r\gh1 :5 he closes x aft] !m4 ,h[ev] anxi\s he may be to jo9 !m 9 ! draw+-room1 he mu/ n d s until ! o!rs make a move4 ,sometimes1 if he is v "y & r 8out ( x0 :5 politics or sport are "u discussion1 8 ho/ says to him1 8,i'm afraid y are bor$4 ,if y w\ld l to jo9 ! ladies1 don't /& on c]emony40 ,b on ! o!r h& he may dread ! ordeal ( ent]+ ! draw+-room alone1 & feel t ! saf] way is to wait = a convoy4 ,?is he mu/ decide = himself4 ,sid5ote3 ,a h9t f ! ho/4 ,p]haps 8 ho/ may wi% to talk confid5tially ) "s o!r gue/4 ,if he makes ?is app>5t to ! y\ng] man1 ! latt] mu/ accept any su* intimation z ! above1 und]/&+ x to be a c\rte\s mode ( dismiss+ him4 ,sid5ote3 ,! ord9>y rule :5 rejo9+ ! ladies4 ,! ord9>y rule is t ! g5tlem5 jo9 ! ladies all toge!r1 ! man ( highe/ position leav+ ! d9+-room fir/1 ! ho/ la/4 ,tea is !n c>ri$ r\nd 9 ! draw+-room1 & ! g5tlem5 take ! empty cups f ! ladies & put !m d[n 9 "s safe place1 out ( ! way ( risk ( accid5t4 ,sid5ote3 ,:5 a lady s+s or plays4 ,%\ld any lady s+ or play1 ! g5tleman ne>e/ to h] escorts h] to ! piano & helps h] to arrange h] music1 to dispose ( h] gloves1 fan1 h&k]*ief1 c4 ,sid5ote3 ,leav+ e>ly4 ,x is sc>cely etiquette = "y m5 to leave fir/ aft] a d9n]-p>ty4 ,x is m usual = ! eld]s ( ! p>ty to make ! fir/ move t[>ds dep>ture4 ,b %\ld ! "y man h an engagem5t ( a press+ k9d1 su* z a promise to escort ladies to a ball1 he mu/ )draw 9 good "t1 expla9+ ! position to 8 ho/ess4 ,no "o leaves aft] a d9n]-p>ty )\t say+ 8,good-night0 to 8 ho/ & ho/ess4 ,ev5 9 ! case ( an e>ly dep>ture1 be=e ! g5tlem5 h left ! d9+-room1 ! gue/ mu/ visit ! draw+-room to make 8 adieux1 n only to ! lady ( ! h\se1 b to any o!rs :o may be ( 8 acqua9tance4 ,^? :om he has met = ! fir/ "t t ev5+ may be salut$ ) a p>t+ b[4 ,at a =mal d9n]-p>ty ! ev5+ suit is imp]ative1 ) dress-coat1 :ite or black wai/coat1 black tr\s]s1 & :ite tie4 ,:5 d9+ ) fri5ds ) :om "o is on t]ms ( famili>ity1 ! d9n]-jacket may be sub/itut$ = ! coat4 ,black ties (t5 take ! place ( :ite4 ,pat5t-lea!r %oes or boots mu/ be worn4 ,x w\ld be unp>donable to appe> 9 ?ick walk+-boots or %oes2 & ! necessity = immaculately poli%$ footge> has co/ ! "y man ( ! pres5t day _m a cab4 ,8 v>ni%$ %oes mu/ %[ no trace ( mud or du/4 ,to tell ! tru?1 he (t5 c>ries a silk h&k]*ief 9 8 pocket :]e) to oblit]ate ! traces ( ! latt]4 ,! pocket-h&k]*ief us$ ) ev5+ dress mu/ be ( :ite cambric1 & ( z good a col\r z "o's wa%]woman w p]mit4 ,x ought to be ( f9e quality4 ,! hair mu/ be %ort & v well bru%$4 ,x us$ to be ! cu/om to tip ! s]vants on leav+ ! h\se :]e "o _h d9$ z a gue/1 b ?is has fall5 into disuse4 ,!re are _m m5 :o h& a silv] co9 to ! butl]1 or footman1 or wait+-maid :o helps !m into _! coats1 calls up _! c>riage1 or hails a cab = !m1 see+ !m into x1 or r5d]+ any o!r s]vice ( a simil> k9d4 ,?is is a matt] t ea* man mu/ decide = himself4 ,x is only necess>y to rem>k t ! cu/om ( giv+ %ill+s or half-cr[ns to ! s]vants aft] a d9n]-p>ty no long] reigns2 ?\gh !re are always good-natur$ folk :o w n let x absolutely die out4 ,,public ,,d9n]s4 ,! foll[+ in=mation is suppli$ by a g5tleman well-kn[n 9 ! ,city1 & ?or\ghly au fait 9 su* matt]s4 ,sid5ote3 ,public d9n]s4 8,public d9n]s may be class$ z ^? giv5 by associations1 or public bodies1 & ^? giv5 by in/itutions1 su* z "s ( ! great ,city companies4 ,sid5ote3 ,:5 giv5 by an association4 ,:5 giv5 by an association1 ! function is g5]ally manag$ by a committee1 :o h ! arrangem5t ( all ! details1 su* z *oos+ ! m5u1 ! w9es1 prep>+ ! programme ( music1 in/rum5tal or vocal1 & arrang+ ! due sequ5ce ( ! spee*es4 ,sid5ote3 ,on arrival4 ,a gue/ invit$ to su* an ent]ta9m5t :o may n be ( ! few highly plac$ p]sonages :o sit at ! cross-table or on ! das1 & f :om spee*es are expect$1 w1 on arriv+ at ! hall1 hotel1 or public in/itution select$1 f9d t ! fir/ ?+ requir$ ( him w be 8 invitation c>d4 ,9 ex*ange = ?is he w be h&$ a m or less elaborate m5u c>d1 :i* w also conta9 ! li/ ( music & a sket* %[+ ! positions ( ! gue/s' seats at ! tables4 ,sid5ote3 ,salut+ ! ho/s4 ,aft] deposit+ 8 hat & ov]coat 9 ! cloak-room1 receiv+ a numb]$ ticket = !m1 he ent]s ! reception-or draw+-room1 8 "n is ann\nc$1 & he passes into ! room1 goes up to ! memb]s ( ! committee1 :o /& by !mselves to receive ! gue/s1 b[s or %akes h&s1 & passes on to jo9 ! o!r gue/s :o are ei!r sitt+ or /&+ 9 gr\ps engag$ 9 conv]sation4 ,sid5ote3 ,:5 d9n] is ann\nc$4 ,:5 d9n] is ann\nc$ ! ho/s & ! highe/ 9 rank ( ! gue/s file into ! d9+-room & take up _! position by _! *airs1 foll[$ by ! re/2 any cl]gyman pres5t says grace on be+ ask$ to d s1 & ! banquet comm5ces4 ,sid5ote3 ,! ord] ( ! c]emony4 ,/rang]s sitt+ next to ea* o!r soon fall into conv]sation1 & aft] ! dispat* ( ! solid portion ( ! repa/ come ! spee*es4 ,music is play$ at int]vals1 p]haps a few songs sung by pr(essionals1 !n dess]t1 cig>s1 & c(fee1 aft] :i* ! gue/s f9d _! way to ! draw+-room = m g5]al conv]sation1 "s pref]r+ to leave )\t re-ent]+ ! draw+-room4 ,9 su* l>ge ga!r+s x is n necess>y to take leave ( _! ho/s1 z a rule4 ,sid5ote3 ,d9n]s giv5 by ,city ,companies4 8,d9n]s giv5 by ,city companies are v mu* on ! same pr9ciple4 ,! gue/ has b to don 8 ev5+ clo!s & c>ry himself ) easy composure1 n always q a simple matt] to ! inexp]i5c$1 if "o may judge f ! hurri$ /eps & ! sudd5 bob t _m give on ent]+ ! reception-room aft] arrival40 ,sid5ote3 ,d9n]s = *>ities4 ,at d9n]s giv5 on behalf ( *>ities1 x is well to g prep>$ ) a subscription1 z a collection is (t5 made on ^! occasions4 ,if n prep>$ to subscribe1 x is m discreet to /ay away4 ,sid5ote3 ,on tips4 ,) reg>d to tips ! only ones really recognis$ are ^? = :i* ! plates on ! cloak-room table are laid ready 9 expectation ( small silv] co9s4 ,?\gh no fees are actually necess>y at table1 ! initiat$ p]son is well aw>e t ! man beh9d 8 *air c adm9i/] to 8 wants & see t he is lib]ally provid$ ) vi&s & w9es or o!r matt]s )\t keep+ him wait+ long] ?an necess>y4 ,a tip1 quietly convey$ be=e ! d9n] is "u way1 is n by any means wa/$4 ,x sometimes happ5s t semi-(ficial d9n]s are giv5 at private h\ses1 :5 proprietors ( ,sid5ote3 ,semi-(ficial d9n]s at private h\ses4 newspap]s or weal?y m5 int]e/$ 9 c]ta9 und]tak+s1 ent]ta9 ! /aff ( ^? employ$4 ,9 su* circum/ances x may be z well to w>n ! gue/s aga9/ address+ ! footm5 z 8wait]40 ,?is may appe> to be sup]flu\s advice1 b ,i h myself be5 pres5t :5 ! mi/ake 0 made1 evid5tly to ! int5se indignation ( ! magnific5t be+ ?us address$4 ,at su* d9n]s z ^!1 ! ho/ treats 8 gue/s z 8 social equals = ! nonce4 ,by hav+ invit$ !m to 8 h\se he places himself 9 ! position ( reg>d+ !m z he w\ld 8 own fri5ds at 8 d9n]-table4 ,any infraction ( ?is w\ld be 9 ! wor/ ta/e4 ,x is also usual to ab/a9 f any bus9ess talk at su* times z ^!1 ! conv]sation be+ enc\rag$ to dwell on g5]al topics4 ,?\gh ! fiction ( social equality is ma9ta9$ by ! ho/1 ! gue/s ne$ n adopt a famili>1 free-&-easy mann] 9 response4 ,true manl9ess involves suffici5t self-respect to pres]ve ! possessor f fall+ into ?is error2 b x is1 p]haps1 a little difficult = ! novice1 on su* occasions1 to be> himself 9 su* wise z to avoid undue famili>ity on "o h& & an air ( /iffness & /&(fi%ness on ! o!r4 ,9 8 anxiety n to appe> to presume ^u ! fri5dl9ess ( 8 ho/'s mann]1 he is apt to we> a r repell5t air4 ,& ?is is m p>ticul>ly s :5 ! employ is by bir? ! equal1 if n ! sup]ior1 ( 8 ent]ta9]4 ,x (t5 happ5s t a man at ! head ( a great bus9ess has ris5 f obscure beg9n+s to ! comm& ( weal? & a high position 9 ! _w1 enjoy+ a title & _m ( ! extrane\s advantages ( rank4 ,among ^? :om he employs may be sev]al :o are 8 social sup]iors 9 all b weal?2 b any ( !m :o imag9e t ?is fact gives !m any claim ^u 8 consid]ation or entitles !m to conv]se ) him ^u a foot+ ( equality1 make a radical mi/ake4 ,_! position1 z reg>ds _! employ]1 is exactly t ju/ifi$ by _! /&+ 9 8 firm4 ,! true g5tleman is well aw>e ( ?is1 & w\ld nev] dream ( ass]t+ himself 9 any way on ! /r5g? ( be+ well-born or highly educat$4 ,he leaves all t k9d ( ?+ to ! man :o feels 8 claim to g5tlemanhood to be s %ad[y & insecure z to ne$ con/ant insi/ance4 ,besides1 ! ho/ is usually ! eld]1 & def]5ce to s5iority is an important "p ( good mann]s1 & sits extremely well ^u ! "y4 ,,at ,a ,,re/aurant4 ,sid5ote3 ,%\ld ladies reque/ refre%m5t4 ,:5 accompany+ ladies :o express a wi% = refre%m5t1 x is n necess>y to select a v exp5sive re/aurant or confection]'s4 ,"o suitable to ! social /atus ( ! p>ty %\ld be *os54 ,sid5ote3 ,! man pays4 ,! "y man mu/ pay = :at 8 companions eat & dr9k1 & v (t5 ?is is a mo/ emb>rass+ matt]4 ,he may h en\gh money 9 8 pocket to defray ! bill1 & he may n4 ,sid5ote3 ,?\gh he _c af=d x4 ,9 any case1 he is (t5 unable to af=d x1 b ! probabilities are t if he has ! :]e)al ab\t him1 he w pay 9 ord] to extricate himself f an awkw>d pr$icam5t1 ev5 ?\gh he may consequ5tly be crippl$ f9ancially = "s days to come4 ,if he has only two or ?ree %ill+s 9 8 pocket1 he feels extremely uncom=table4 ,sid5ote3 ,no well-br$ woman w\ld make ! reque/4 ,no well-br$ woman or girl w\ld ev] place an acqua9tance on ! horns ( su* a dilemma4 ,b un=tunately !re are _m girls & wom5 :o are lack+ 9 ta/e & ref9em5t1 & :o w\ld reg>d x z an excell5t joke to play su* a trick ^u a 8fell[10 z !y w\ld probably call him1 & enjoy 8 discom=t4 ,sid5ote3 ,! be/ c\rse to adopt4 ,! be/ ?+ to d 9 su* a case is to be p]fectly frank & op54 8,i'm extremely sorry1 b ,i h n suffici5t ca% ) me = ! purpose40 ,x is v disagreeable to h to say s1 b x is less mortify+ ?an to h to ackn[l$ge x to ! wait] at ! re/aurant4 ,a "y man told me t he _h once1 9 su* a case1 to leave ! table on pret5ce ( speak+ to ! proprietor & fly r\nd to a pawnbrok]'s to pl$ge 8 wat*4 ,sid5ote3 ,a well-br$ girl w\ld be> h] own exp5ses4 ,a really well-br$ girl or woman w\ld make x cle> t %e int5d$ to pay = h] own meal1 & t only on t condition w\ld %e accept ! escort ( ! "y man4 ,sid5ote3 ,on tak+ advantage ( a man's g5]osity4 ,sometimes aft] a run on a bicycle or a hot walk1 a "y man w say to 8 si/] & h] fri5d1 8,come 9 & h an ice40 ,if ! fri5d is "o ( ! unscrupul\s sort1 %e w v probably run him into :at1 = him1 is a consid]able exp5se4 ,he mu/ pay x1 h[ev]1 & ! wor/ ( x is t he _c sit !re & let h] eat all by h]self4 ,ev5 8 si/]1 %\ld %e be pres5t1 mu/ 9 good mann]s jo9 9 to a c]ta9 ext5t4 ,o!rwise ! impli$ repro( w\ld be too obvi\s = good bre$+4 ,,at ,,lun*4 ,lun*eon is a comp>atively in=mal meal4 ,sid5ote3 ,go+ d[n to lun*eon4 ,! gue/s d n pair (f1 z at d9n]1 b on ! meal be+ ann\nc$ ! ho/1 if !re be "o1 w\ld op5 ! door = ! ladies1 :o w\ld g d[n/airs1 foll[$ by ! ho/ess1 ! g5tlem5 beh9d h]4 ,sid5ote3 ,9 ! abs5ce ( ! ho/4 ,v (t5 ! ma/] ( ! h\se is abs5t at lun*eon1 9 :i* case ! ho/ess w\ld rise1 &1 address+ h] pr9cipal gue/1 w\ld propose to h] to lead ! way d[n/airs4 8,%all we g d[n to lun*1 ,mrs4 ,s-&-s80 w\ld be suffici5t4 ,! o!r ladies w\ld probably be suffici5tly v]s$ 9 ! laws ( society to refra9 f prec$+ ^? ( high] position1 & ! ho/ess w\ld always be ! la/ lady to leave ! draw+-room4 ,sid5ote3 ,positions at table4 ,! gue/s sit d[n :]e !y please1 ! ho/ or ho/ess sometimes mak+ a sugge/ion on ! matt]4 ,sid5ote3 ,aft] ! meal4 ,aft] ! meal ! gue/s return to ! draw+-room1 b only = a %ort "t4 ,! g5tlem5 resume _! ov]coats & take _! hats & umbrellas 9 ! hall1 :]e !y _h left !m4 ,sid5ote3 ,mak+ calls at lun*eon-"t4 ,%\ld a man make a call at lun*eon-"t1 he is (t5 ask$ to rema9 = ! meal4 ,9 t case he w\ld c>ry 8 hat & /ick into ! d9+-room ) him1 j z he w\ld if mak+ an ord9>y call4 ,b x is mu* bett] nev] to call any:]e at lun*-"t unless "o is on v famili> t]ms ) ! family4 ,_m "y m5 acquire a reputation = 8cadg+0 = lun* or d9n] 9 ?is way4 ,sid5ote3 ,invitations f "y memb]s ( ! family4 ,invitations f ! y\ng] memb]s ( ! family are n (ficial1 unless pla9ly endors$ by ! eld]s1 or "o ( !m4 8,miss ,lucy invit$ me to lun*0 is a poor plea4 8,frank ask$ me to come & d9e ?is ev5+10 is no bett]4 ,"y m5 _c be too p>ticul> ab\t ?is matt]4 8,i'll get my "m to ask y to d9n]1 old man10 w\ld be ! saf] sort ( invitation4 ,! lady ( ! h\se mu/ fix ! date1 & %e usually writes ! invitation h]self or gives x p]sonally4 ,sid5ote3 ,un5dors$ invitations f a daught] ( ! h\se4 ,%\ld a daught] ( ! h\se give a "y man an invitation to any meal1 )\t ref]5ce to h] fa!r or "m1 x w\ld be incorrect 9 ! highe/ degree to accept x4 ,z to *ildr51 _! invitations g = no?+1 ( c\rse1 ?\gh cases h be5 kn[n 9 :i* !y h be5 accept$4 8,i met little ,eddy 9 ! p>k1 & he made me come 9 ) him40 ,?is has a v poor & pitiable s\nd at lun*eon h\r or teatime4 ,sid5ote3 ,mak+ "o's adieux4 ,x is n necess>y to make "o's adieux to ea* gue/ 9 turn4 ,! ho/ess is tak5 leave ( fir/1 z a rule1 & ! lady1 or ladies1 ) :om "o has be5 conv]s+ w expect a special ^w & b[1 p]haps (f]+ a h&2 b a g5]al b[ w be suffici5t = ^? to :om "o is n v well kn[n4 ,x is only at family p>ties t "o has consci5ti\sly to g r\nd ! room %ak+ h&s ) ev]ybody4 ,,five ,o',,clock ,,tea ,,& ,,aft]noon ,,at-,,homes4 ,g5tlem5 are 9 great reque/ at five o'clock tea4 ,sid5ote3 ,duties ( m5 at five o'clock tea4 ,_! duties are r on]\s if !re are b "o or two m5 & ! usual cr[d ( ladies4 ,!y h to c>ry teacups ab\t1 h& sug>1 cream1 & cakes or muff9s1 & keep up all ! "t a /ream ( small talk1 z amus+ z !y c make x4 ,!y mu/ rise e "t a lady ent]s or leaves ! room1 op5+ ! door = h] exit if no "o else is ne>] to x1 &1 if 8 ho/ess reque/s him1 he mu/ see ! lady d[n/airs to h] c>riage or cab4 ,sid5ote3 ,8 own refre%m5t4 ,) reg>d to ! vi&s1 a man helps himself1 b n till he has se5 t all ! ladies 9 8 vic9ity h ev]y?+ !y c possibly want4 ,8 ho/ess1 or "s lady deput$ by h] to preside at ! tea-table1 gives him tea or c(fee1 & he adds sug> & cream4 ,sid5ote3 ,aft]noon at-homes4 ,) reg>d to aft]noon at-homes1 ! arrangem5ts are q diff]5t4 ,invitations are s5t out a =tnight or ?ree weeks be=e1 g5]ally ! latt]1 & 9 ! height ( ! season ev5 long]4 ,suppose ! "y man's "n to be ,edw>d ,smi?4 ,8 invitation w\ld be z foll[s3-- ------------------------------------- ,,mr4 ,,edw>d ,,smi?4 ,,lady ,,d>t ,,at ,,home1 ,tuesday1 ,novemb] #crd4 #d ,,to #g4 #ab1 ,ev]gre5 ,squ>e4 ,r4 ,s4 ,v4 ,p4 ------------------------------------- ,sid5ote3 ,accept+ invitation4 ,he replies1 on a %eet ( notepap]3--8,mr4 ,edw>d ,smi? has mu* pleasure 9 accept+ ,lady ,d>t's k9d invitation = ,tuesday aft]noon1 ,novemb] #crd40 ,sid5ote3 ,a great mi/ake4 ,x's a great mi/ake to write3--8,w h mu* pleasure 9 accept+40 ,accept+ is ! action ( ! pres5t mom5t :ile he is writ+ ! reply4 8,w h0 ref]s to ! future1 & is !re=e unsuitable4 ,! answ]+ ( invitations is a simple matt] en\gh1 b x is a te/ ( good bre$+4 ,,at ,,! ,,play4 ,sid5ote3 ,! und]br$ man at ! play4 ,at a !atre ! und]br$ man is (t5 9 evid5ce1 n only 9 ! l[-pric$ seats1 b also all ov] ! h\se4 ,he has be5 se5--& he>d--9 private boxes4 ,a well-kn[n music-hall celebrity adm9i/]$ a sca?+ repro( to "o ( ^!1 :o p]si/$ 9 talk+ l\dly :ile %e 0 s++4 ,/opp+ %ort1 %e look$ up at ! box 9 :i* he sat1 & cri$3 8,"o fool at a "t1 please10 aft] :i* he 0 z quiet z a m\se4 ,sid5ote3 ,ent]+ late4 ,x is a piece ( bad mann]s to ent] ! !atre late1 di/urb+ ! audi5ce & annoy+ ! play]s or s+]s4 ,sid5ote3 ,& leav+ e>ly4 ,x is equally rude to leave be=e ! ent]ta9m5t is end$1 unless ! int]val be *os5 :5 no?+ is go+ on4 ,at a conc]t ?is is p>ticul>ly true1 = !re are devotees ( music :o hang ^u e note & to :om x is a di/9ct loss to miss a s+le phrase ( ! compositions !y h come to he>4 ,sid5ote3 ,inatt5tion uncivil4 ,s+]s1 actors1 & actresses g5]ally possess ! s5sitive1 sympa!tic1 arti/ic temp]am5t1 & x is w\nd+ to !m to see memb]s ( ! audi5ce fidget+1 ru/l+ ab\t1 *att]+1 laugh+1 & o!rwise %[+ inatt5tion :5 !y are do+ _! be/ to ent]ta9 !m4 ,x is1 !re=e1 uncivil to betray inatt5tion4 ,sid5ote3 ,on appreciation4 ,a little appreciation goes a long way ) ! memb]s ( ! pr(essions ( music & ! drama4 ,an actor told me once t aft] hav+ made a c]ta9 spee* two or ?ree times )\t any sign ( amusem5t f ! audi5ce1 on ! f\r? night ( ! play a s+le silv]y note ( musical mir? 0 he>d f ! /alls4 ,x 0 b "o note--say ,e flat on ! treble clef--b ! audi5ce imm$iately jo9$ 91 p]ceiv+ ! po9t ( ! spee* z ?\gh x _h be5 illum9at$ = !m by ?is "o little laugh4 ,he decl>$ t ev] aft] t night 8 =m]ly unsuccessful 8l9es0 elicit$ a ro> ( laught]4 ,probably ?is 0 p>tly due to ! s5se ( enc\ragem5t he felt1 inspir+ him to due emphasis4 ,sid5ote3 ,9 tak+ ladies to a place ( ent]ta9m5t4 ,9 tak+ ladies to a place ( ent]ta9m5t a g5tleman h&s !m into _! c>riage1 a cab1 or an omnibus1 gett+ 9 la/4 ,arriv$ at _! de/9ation ! g5tleman alights fir/1 h&+ out ! ladies1 & giv+ any necess>y ord]s to ! coa*man1 or pay+ ! cabman's f>e4 ,by ! way1 x is always z well to give in/ructions to ! coa*man ab\t :]e he is to ,sid5ote3 ,in/ructions to ! coa*man4 be f\nd1 & at :at h\r he is to pick up 8 p>ty1 be=e ent]+ ! c>riage1 z policem5 view ) mu* disfav\r any prolong$ dialogue outside a place ( ent]ta9m5t :]e vehicles are sett+ d[n _! occupants 9 quick succession4 ,%\ld !re be a footman1 ( c\rse all ^! difficulties are obviat$1 z he c c>ry ! in/ructions to ! coa*man1 & also kn[s :]e to f9d ! c>riage :5 ! p]=mance is ov]4 ,sid5ote3 ,%\ld a hir$ br\gham be us$4 ,%\ld a hir$ br\gham be us$ z a conveyance 9 go+ to any place ( ent]ta9m5t1 or ev5 a p>ty at a private h\se1 x is an excell5t plan to give ! coa*man a bright-col\r$ h&k]*ief1 sc>let or orange p]haps1 t he may we> x conspicu\sly display$1 & c 9 ?is way be at once recognis$4 ,sid5ote3 ,to obviate wait+4 ,x is a mis]able bus9ess on a wet night to hunt = a br\gham up & d[n ill-light$ /reets :5 9 ev5+ dress & pat5t lea!r boots1 & any?+ t t5ds to %ort5 ! task is advisable4 ,nor d ladies enjoy wait+ 9 ! draughty ve/ibule ( op]a-h\se1 !atre1 or conc]t-room = an indef9ite p]iod :ile a %ort-sight$ cavali] is grop+ ab\t ! /reets = _! c>riage4 ,if x is a "q ( a cab1 ! commissionaire at ! door is ! be/ p]son to get "o1 :i* he w d = a small fee4 ,sid5ote3 ,a ^w ( w>n+4 ,"h aga9 a ^w ( w>n+ is ne$$4 ,!re are m5 :o1 9 _! special c>e ( ! ladies 9 _! *>ge1 =get t x is no "p ( ! duty ( a g5tleman to ignore ! claims ( o!r wom5 :o h n ! advantage ( belong+ to _! p>ty4 ,sid5ote3 ,consid]ation due to all wom54 ,i h se5 m5 :o ought to h kn[n bett] rudely pu%+ o!r ladies away f ! door ( a cab or railway c>riage 9 ord] t _! own wom5k9d may be well look$ aft]4 ,x is all v well to be att5tive & anxi\s to d "o's be/1 b x is ill-br$ to ! la/ degree to subject to rud5ess any ladies :o happ5 to be )\t a g5tleman to look aft] !m4 ,sid5ote3 ,an in/ance4 ,retribution foll[$ v swiftly 9 "o in/ance ( ! k9d4 ,at ,s&[n /ation "o day ! second special tra9 = ,wat]loo 0 com+ 91 & ! plat=m 0 cr[d$ ) gaily-dress$ wom51 tir$ & hot aft] ! walk across ! fields on a tropical ,july day4 ,a lady & small ,eton boy 7 toge!r1 & sudd5ly1 :5 ab\t to op5 ! door ( a c>riage at ! mom5t ! tra9 came to a /&/ill1 f\nd !mselves all b ?r[n d[n by a sweep+ motion ( ! arm ( a "y man :o 0 b5t on res]v+ t p>ticul> c>riage = 8 p>ty4 ,)\t a ^w ( apology to ! lady1 he %\t$ to 8 si/]s & fri5ds to 8,come on10 /ill hold+ back ! two :o _h wi%$ to get 94 ,!y ent]$ ! next comp>tm5t1 & z !y did s ! lady rem>k$ to h] companion1 8,:at an extremely ill-mann]$ p]son t is60 ,mean:ile ! p>ty next door 7 settl+ d[n & congratulat+ !mselves on hav+ secur$ seats1 :5 "o ( !m turn$ to _! ov]-zeal\s fri5d & rem>k$1 8,i saw ,lady ,blank get into ! next c>riage ) h] elde/ boy40 8,:o80 he ask$1 ) a sudd5 & rem>kable ru% ( col\r on 8 face4 ,! lady to :om he _h behav$ s rudely turn$ out to be "o f :om he _h t v morn+ receiv$ a long-desir$ invitation to sp5d a few days at h] c\ntry h\se 9 ! foll[+ mon?4 ,?is he ow$ to ! good (fices ( a fri5d 9 ! ,f4 ,o41 &1 delight$ at hav+ made su* a /ep 9 8 social c>e]1 he _h at once writt5 (f accept+ ! invitation4 ,x is sc>cely necess>y to add t he nev] made ! visit1 b _h to wire at ! la/ mom5t "o ( ^? conv5tional excuses t ! 8unco guid0 call fibs1 b :i* are only ! transp>5t devices adopt$ by society to lubricate "s ( ! m difficult ( its processes4 ,betwe5 ! acts ( a play ! mod]n man ?9ks x 8 duty to himself to g out & h a dr9k1 p]haps smoke a cig>ette4 ,sid5ote3 ,! int]val4 ,!re 0 a "t :51 _h any su* sugge/ion be5 made to a g5tleman :o _h con/itut$ himself ! escort ( a lady1 he w\ld h ask$1 ?\gh p]haps n 9 ,milton's words-- 8,& leave ?y fair side all ungu>d$1 lady80 ,b n[ ! majority ( "y m5 visit ! b> or ! foy]4 ,sid5ote3 ,h[ a man may w9 gold5 op9ions4 ,b :o %all say :at gold5 op9ions are won by ^? :o d n foll[ ! cu/om1 :o refra9 f acquir+ ! od\r ( tobacco1 or :iskey1 or br&y :ile !y are 9 ! company ( ladies 9 ! heat$ atmosph]e ( a !atre8 ,a lady sometimes says to ! m5 ( h] p>ty1 8,i see t !re is a g5]al /amp$e go+ on4 ,don't m9d me if y w\ld l to g out40 ,if !y g %e ?9ks1 8,oh1 !y are j l ! re/40 ,if !y /ay %e says to h] own he>t1 8,h[ delightful x is to f9d a man :o c d )\t a ,b4-&-,s4 or a smoke = two or ?ree h\rs60 & up he goes _m pegs 9 h] e/imation4 ,sid5ote3 ,o!r consid]ations4 ,ap>t f ! lady he is ) & consid]ations connect$ ) h]1 !re is ! inconv5i5ce to :i* _m ( ! audi5ce are subject$ by ! pass+ 9 & out ( s _m4 ,h[ev]1 x is a recognis$ cu/om1 s mu* s t a smok+ foy] is atta*$ to all ! be/ !atres1 & a w>n+ bell is rung 9 x by ! managem5t a few m9utes be=e ! ris+ ( ! curta94 ,sid5ote3 ,:5 refre%m5ts are br\ght ar\nd4 ,refre%m5ts are frequ5tly c>ri$ r\nd by att5dants to private boxes1 & sometimes 9 ! /alls z well4 ,%\ld !y appe>1 x is ! duty ( ! g5tleman ( ! p>ty to ask ! lady or ladies if !y wi% = any1 & to pay = :at is consum$4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 a r>e ?+ = ladies to eat or dr9k at ! play4 ,! g5tleman also pays = ! programme at ! few !atres :]e a *>ge is made4 ,sid5ote3 ,on unnecess>y paym5t = programmes4 ,i may m5tion1 by ! way1 t x is n consid]$ v good =m to pay = programmes at !atres :]e ! managem5t makes no *>ge4 ,in/ances h be5 kn[n :]e att5dants h be5 dis*>g$ = accept+ su* fees2 & ev5 ap>t f ?is1 x is tantam\nt to pres5t+ ! att5dant ) sixp5ce or a %ill+ if "o insi/s on pay+ = a programme or two provid$ free ( *>ge4 ,_m ( ! att5dants are sup]ior to accept+ x4 ,,at ,a ,,ball4 ,sid5ote3 ,! etiquette ( ! ball-room4 ,! etiquette ( ! ball-room is n difficult to acquire1 & yet !re are ?\s&s ( "y m5 go+ into society con/antly :o flagrantly fail 9 x4 ,_! bad mann]s are conspicu\s4 ,!y decl9e to dance unless ! prettie/ girls 9 ! room are 8trott$ out0 = !m1 block ! doorways1 haunt ! refre%m5t-room1 & aft] supp] promptly take _! leave4 ,c\ld any c\rse ( conduct be 9 worse ta/e8 ,& :at c a poor ho/ess d8 ,"y m5 are necess>y at dances1 & !y mu/ be invit$4 ,if !y w n dance1 :o %all make !m8 ,sid5ote3 8,! delight ( ! ho/ess's he>t40 ,! delight ( ! av]age ho/ess's he>t is ! well-br$ man1 unspoil$ by conceit1 :o c always be dep5d$ on to d 8 duty4 ,he arrives 9 good "t1 fills 8 c>d be=e v long1 & c be ask$ to dance ) a pla91 neglect$ wallfl[] or two )\t res5t+ x4 ,he takes 8 p>tn] duly to ! refre%m5t-room aft] ea* dance1 if %e wi%es to g1 & provides h] ) :atev] %e wi%es4 ,be=e leav+ h]1 he sees h] safe at h] *ap]on's side4 ,if he %\ld sit out a dance he returns 9 "t to claim 8 p>tn] = ! next1 n leav+ h] till x is half ov]1 z is ! wont ( "s "y m54 ,sid5ote3 ,self-d5ial ! secret ( good society4 ,! tru? is t society dem&s a nev]-end+ s]ies ( self-d5y+ actions f ^? :o belong to x1 & ! m *e]fully ^! are p]=m$1 ! m p]fect are ! mann]s4 ,:at c be m enjoyable ?an to sit 9 "s cool retreat ) a *>m+ girl1 enjoy+ "o ( ^? innoc5t flirtations t d s mu* to give ze/ to life8 ,b delightful ?\gh x be1 ! temptation to prolong x mu/ be resi/$1 if an expectant p>tn] is miss+ h] dance & wait+ 9 ! ball-room to be claim$4 ,sid5ote3 ,non-danc]s %\ld n accept invitations4 ,x is bad mann]s to g to a ball unless "o is accompli%$ 9 ! art ( danc+4 ,to d s is to take ! place ( "o :o may be m exp]t & !re=e 9 great] reque/4 ,consequ5tly1 e man :o wi%es to be a success 9 society mu/ le>n to dance4 ,!re are abundant opportunities = do+ s at ! v>i\s danc+ 8academies10 z !y are r unsuitably entitl$1 = !re is n mu* ab\t !m ( ! academical1 z g5]ally und]/ood4 ,sid5ote3 ,! value ( private lessons4 ,private lessons are de>] ?an ! o!rs1 b !y are really necess>y = mo/ m5 :o h n be5 taught to dance :5 boys4 ,! :ole att5tion ( ! tea*] %\ld be giv5 dur+ ! fir/ ?ree or f\r4 ,a man has s mu* to le>n 9 addition to ! correct movem5ts ( 8 feet4 ,he mu/ be taught to hold 8 head up1 to grasp 8 p>tn] g5tly b firmly1 n to tread on h] toes or knock 8 knees aga9/ h]s1 & also h[ to /e] 8 c\rse & h]s 9 an imag9>y cr[d$ room4 ,sid5ote3 ,! f9i%+ t\*es4 ,aft]w>ds come ! f9i%+ t\*es1 :51 p]fect 9 ! /eps & c>riage ( ! body1 ! le>n] is taught to glide g5tly f foot to foot1 regulat+ 8 pace z quickly or z sl[ly z he may wi%4 ,at fir/ ?is seems to be impossible1 = ! novice is incl9$ to 8ru% 8 f5ces10 z x 71 & he waltzes r\nd ! room at breakneck spe$1 mak+ himself giddy & brea?less1 & sometimes caus+ dire cata/rophe4 ,a girl f9ds x difficult to =give a man :o has made h] look ridicul\s4 ,sid5ote3 ,a fall3 g5]ally ! man's fault4 ,! fall ( a c\ple is n a frequ5t occurr5ce 9 a ball-room1 b :5 x does happ5 x is almo/ always ! man's fault4 ,girls take mu* m naturally to ! graceful movem5ts ( ! dance1 & are1 besides1 m (t5 taught 9 *ildhood ?an _! bro!rs4 ,sid5ote3 ,at a private ball4 ,at a private ball ! gue/ ent]s & greets 8 ho/ess be=e speak+ to any "o else4 ,%e %akes h&s ) him & passes him on to "s "o to introduce him to p>tn]s1 p]haps h] husb&1 p]haps h] son4 ,sid5ote3 ,! c>d %\ld be fill$ e>ly4 ,) ?is beg9n+ he w probably get on v well & may half-fill 8 c>d1 & he %\ld take c>e to d s at once1 = at "s balls ! nice girls are imm$iately snapp$ up & engag$ = ev5 ! extras be=e !y h be5 tw5ty m9utes 9 ! room4 8,are y engag$ = e dance1 ,miss ,grey8 ,c y sp>e me "o80 ,& ,miss ,grey probably gives him "o1 b if he is a /rang] ( ^: cali/h5ic pr[ess no?+ is kn[n1 %e is c>eful to give him only "o4 ,sometimes 8 p>tn]s1 if !y discov] t he dances well1 introduce him to _! si/]s & fri5ds4 ,if1 h[ev]1 he %\ld f9d himself left high & dry t[>ds ! end ( ! ev5+1 he %\ld g back to ! g5tlem5 ( ! h\se & ask !m to introduce him to somebody else4 ,"y m5 ( exp]i5ce 9 su* matt]s usually manage v well )\t ?is1 b ! novice has (t5 to face ! alt]native ( danc+ no m or ask+ to be introduc$4 ,sid5ote3 ,! 8supp]0 dance4 ,ho/esses sometimes make special introductions = ! 8supp]0 dance1 ! "o imm$iately prec$+ t meal4 ,?is means t ! man introduc$1 unless engag$ to dance x ) "s "o else1 is imp]atively call$ ^u to accept ! p>tn] (f]$ him & take h] d[n to supp]4 ,sid5ote3 ,ask+ a lady to dance4 ,9 ask+ a lady to dance x is usual to say1 8,w y give me ?is waltz80 or 8,may ,i h ?is b>n-dance80 ,"s "y m5 say1 8,w\ld y l to dance ?is8 ,come along !n60 b su* a =m ( address is only suit$ to intimates4 ,sid5ote3 ,aft] ! dance4 ,:5 ! dance is ov]1 & ! p>tn] left ) h] fri5ds1 ! man says1 8,?ank y10 b[s1 & leaves h]4 ,sid5ote3 ,see+ a lady to h] c>riage4 ,if he wi%es to see any lady to h] c>riage1 he asks h] p]mission to d s1 folds h] wraps r\nd h]1 h&s h] 91 & /&s until ! c>riage has gone "s y>ds away4 ,,engagem5t ,,& ,,m>riage4 ,! old-fa%ion$ rule t a man mu/ approa* ! fa!r ( a girl be=e (f]+ himself 9 m>riage to h] has n[1 to "s ext5t1 di$ out4 ,sid5ote3 ,a man may n propose :5 h] family object4 ,at ! same "t x is consid]$ di%on\rable = any "o to propose to a girl 9 ! face ( ! decid$ disapprobation ( h] family4 ,cl&e/9e c\rt%ip is also reg>d$ z di%on\rable1 except 9 circum/ances :]e ! girl is unhappy or oppress$ & ne$s a *ampion4 ,sid5ote3 ,proposal 9 p]son4 ,! usual way to ask = ! admir$ "o's h& 9 m>riage is 9 p]son4 ,?is is always pref]able to writ+1 ?\gh "s m5 h n ! c\rage to adopt ! fir/ c\rse4 ,sid5ote3 ,ask+ ! fa!r's p]mission4 ,%\ld ! lady accept ! (f]1 ! happy woo] mu/ take ! e>lie/ opportunity ( see+ h] fa!r1 or1 fail+ him1 h] ne>e/ fri5d1 & begg+ him to p]mit ! engagem5t4 ,%\ld he cons5t1 all is well2 b 9 ! contr>y case1 8 decision mu/ be accept$4 ,to all[ a girl to engage h]self aga9/ ! wi% ( h] family ,sid5ote3 ,%\ld ! fa!r refuse cons5t4 is to drag h] into a false position4 ,v (t5 submission to ! decree effects m t[>ds procur+ its rev]sal ?an viol5t opposition4 ,x is difficult1 ( c\rse1 = "y p to be pati5t1 b if !y c only manage a little ( x !y w\ld f9d ! tru? ( ! ,fr5* prov]b1 8,all ?+s come r\nd to ^? :o "k h[ to wait40 ,sid5ote3 ,! engagem5t r+4 ,imm$iately ^u hav+ ! engagem5t ratifi$1 ! accept$ suitor gives ! lady an engagem5t r+4 ,?is %\ld be z h&some a pres5t z he c af=d to buy4 ,toge!r ) all o!r pres5ts & correspond5ce on bo? sides1 ?is r+ mu/ be return$ if ! engagem5t %\ld be brok5 (f4 ,sid5ote3 ,"o's duty to "o's betro!d4 ,! accept$ man is 9 duty b\nd to sp5d mo/ ( 8 leisure ) 8 int5d$ bride4 ,he mu/ n g (f = a soj\rn abroad :ile %e is sp5d+ "s weeks by ! sea 9 ,engl&1 unless %e has express$ a wi% to t effect4 ,x w\ld be a consid]able 8snub0 to h] to d s4 ,sid5ote3 ,a significant ann\ncem5t4 ,society has sometimes be5 amus$ by ! ann\ncem5t "o day ( a 8m>riage hav+ be5 arrang$ betwe5 ,mr4 ,a4 & ,miss ,b410 & on ! next ( ! int5tion ( ,mr4 ,a4 to />t = a t\r r\nd ! _w4 ,?is almo/ always means t ! man has be5 entrapp$ into a proposal1 & w\ld will+ly retreat if he hon\rably c\ld4 ,su* ?+s happ5 only too (t54 ,manuvr+ mo!rs h mu* to answ] = 9 ! matt]4 ,worldly girls h (t5 suffici5t wisdom ( ! s]p5t to br+ a reluctant woo] to ! po9t &1 by imm$iately ann\nc+ ! engagem5t to _! fri5ds1 to make x extremely difficult = him to retreat4 ,sometimes a girl falls s wildly 9 love ) a man t %e creates a k9d ( correspond+1 ?\gh pass+1 f]v\r 9 him1 & :ile x la/s he believes himself 9 love1 ?\gh 8 emotions are only a mixture ( gratifi$ vanity & t physical attraction :i* ne$s true love to r$eem x f ! fle%ly sort4 ,sid5ote3 ,:5 a girl takes ! initiative4 ,%\ld m>riage foll[ ^u su* c\rt%ips z ^!1 :]e ! girl takes ev] ! initiative1 ! union is v seldom a happy "o4 ,! wife nev] feels sure t h] husb& really loves h] or w\ld h *os5 h]4 ,%e kn[s t he 0 h] *oice1 r ?an %e 81 & a rack+ jeal\sy seizes h] & makes h] n only mis]able h]self1 b a v uncom=table companion = him4 ,sid5ote3 ,! unhappy sequel4 ,he1 too1 (t5 f9ds :5 x is too late t %e fulfils none ( 8 ideals1 & is 9 _m ways a contra/ to ! girl he w\ld h *os5 if %e _h n :irl$ him into ! vortex ( h] own /rong feel+4 ,& he occasionally wond]s if %e may n "s day exp]i5ce a simil> /r5g? ( attraction = "s o!r man & let h]self be c>ri$ away by x z %e _h be5 by h] feel+ = him4 8,hot fires soon burn out10 he ?9ks1 & rememb]s ! w>n+ giv5 to ,o!llo3 8,%e ha? deceiv$ h] fa!r1 & may !e40 ,sid5ote3 ,long engagem5ts4 ,no man %\ld drag a girl into a long engagem5t4 ,nor %\ld any man propose to a girl until he is 9 a position to provide = h]4 ,sid5ote3 ,& unsuitable positions4 ,he is only /&+ 9 ! way ( o!r woo]s :o may be well suppli$ ) ?is _w's ge>4 ,su* trifles z weal? & ease may appe> z n\ght to ! m9d ( ! y\?ful lov]1 n to be weigh$ = a mom5t 9 ! balance ) love & "y romance4 ,! girl1 too1 may be ( ! same way ( ?9k+ at ! "t1 b x ! m behoves ! man1 ! /rong]1 to consid] h] & to rememb] t pov]ty is su* a bitt] & a cruel ?+ t x ev5 kills love at times4 ,sid5ote3 ,a man's duty to look at cold facts4 ,recrim9ation 9 ! home is a h>d ?+ to be>4 ,& yet h[ _m millions ( wom5 s9ce ! _w began h said to _! husb&3 8,oh1 :y did ,i ev] m>ry y8 ,i c\ld h done s mu* bett]40 ,& h[ _m m5 h said to _! wives3 8,well6 ,y 7 det]m9$ to h me1 s n[ y mu/ make ! be/ ( me40 ,h[ev]1 we w suppose ^! rocks & quicks&s pa/1 ! engag$ c\ple happy1 & ! w$d+ day at h&4 ,sid5ote3 ,! bridegroom's obligations4 ,cu/om dem&s t ! bridegroom %all pres5t h] b\quet to ! bride1 z well z b\quets & a pres5t ea* to ! bridesmaids4 ,he mu/ furni% ! h\se = ! bride 9 e detail1 n except+ ! h\se & table l951 :i*1 9 ! old days ( sp9n+-:eels1 0 wont to be contribut$ by ! bride h]self4 ,sid5ote3 ,! be/ man4 ,he mu/ provide ! w$d+ r+ & ! c>riage 9 :i* 8 be/ man & himself g to *ur*4 ,he pays ! fees to cl]gyman & cl]k1 b x is ! be/ man :o h&s !m ov]4 ,) him ! bridegroom waits at ! alt> till ! bride arrives4 ,%e takes h] place at 8 left h& = ! fir/ "t1 & at ! prop] mom5t he produces ! r+ :i* is ! symbol ( _! union4 ,sid5ote3 ,! bridegroom's dress4 ,! usual dress ( a bridegroom consi/s ( a v d>k blue frock-coat1 light tr\s]s1 light or :ite sc>f-tie1 pat5t boots1 & a new hat4 ,,dress4 ,x is absolutely true1 ?\gh 9 a v limit$ s5se1 t ! tailor makes ! man4 ,sid5ote3 ,importance ( dress4 ,if a man does n dress well 9 society he _c be a success4 ,if he commits flagrant errors 9 co/ume he w n be invit$ out v mu*1 ( t he may be c]ta94 ,sid5ote3 ,! p5alty ( solecisms ( co/ume4 ,if he goes to a g>d5 p>ty 9 a frock-coat & /raw hat1 he is condemn$ m univ]sally ?an if he _h committ$ "s crime4 ,! evid5ce ( ! latt] w\ld n be ^u him = all m5 to read1 z ! evid5ce ( 8 ignorance 9 social =ms is1 9 8 mi/ak5 notions ( dress4 ,?+s are m involv$ ?an ev] 9 ! s>torial l9e1 s9ce s _m new sports & pa/imes h sprung up = m54 ,sid5ote3 ,tailors n always to be reli$ on4 ,a man _c consult 8 tailor ^u e trifl+ detail1 ev5 if 8 tailor 7 always a p]fectly reliable au?ority1 :i* is n always ! case1 = !re are tailors & tailors4 ,a "y man's f9ances d n always all[ him to g to "o ( ! be/1 & ! second & ?ird-rate arti/s 9 clo? are apt to purvey second & ?ird-rate fa%ions to _! cu/om]s4 ,a brief summ>y ( ! =ms ( dress appropriate to v>i\s occasions may be ( "s use to ! inexp]i5c$4 ,x is obvi\s t to ent] into detail w\ld be out ( place 9 a matt] :]e *ange is ! ord] ( ! day4 ,sid5ote3 8,c]ta9 fix$ rules40 ,b !re are c]ta9 fix$ rules t are1 9 a s5se1 p]man5t1 & ) ^! ,i may succ9ctly deal4 ,sid5ote3 ,= morn+ we>4 ,= morn+ we> ! morn+-coat or jacket or ! twe$ suit is correct4 ,aft] lun*1 :5 9 t[n1 ! well-dress$ man may cont9ue to we> 8 morn+-coat or ! regulation frock-coat1 ) tr\s]s ( "s neat1 /rip$ grey mixture4 ,! tailor's "n = ! mat]ial ( ^! is 8mix$ *eviots40 ,sid5ote3 ,light tr\s]s4 ,x is n consid]$ good =m to we> v light tr\s]s except on special occasions1 su* z w$d+s1 g>d5 p>ties1 or aft]noon assemblies ( a fe/ive k9d4 ,ev5 !n x is bett] to err on ! quiet side ?an to be ov]-l\d4 ,sid5ote3 ,black coats4 ,! days ( broadclo? h long gone by1 & coats are n[ made ( vicuna clo? or black twill$ wor/$s1 ) a dull f9i% & ( an ela/ic quality4 ,wai/coats may be s+le or d\ble-brea/$4 ,!re is no re/riction z to ! col\r ( ! tie4 ,sid5ote3 ,! ,p>k suit4 ,! ,p>k suit may consi/ ( a grey or light-br[n frock-coat1 ) wai/coat & tr\s]s to mat*1 & ?is is ! usual dress = ,ascot1 ! sm>te/ ( all ! races4 ,at ,s&[n ! l[ hat & twe$ suit1 or long rac+ coat1 are worn1 except on su* days z ! ,pr9cess ( ,wales is pres5t1 :5 ! ,pr9ce sets ! example ( we>+ a black coat & silk hat1 & all o!r m5 are expect$ to foll[ 8 example4 ,sid5ote3 ,= a summ] morn+ 9 ! ,p>k4 ,= a morn+ walk 9 ! ,p>k 9 summ] ! /raw hat1 or l[ hat & twe$ suit1 are z correct z ! black coat & silk hat4 ,b x mu/ be rememb]$ t a /raw hat or l[ hat _c be worn ) a black coat ( any k9d4 ,sid5ote3 ,br[n boots4 ,! 8pot0 hat & br[n boots are p]missible ) an ov]coat1 "u :i* !re may be a twe$ suit1 b br[n boots may n o!rwise accompany a black coat1 ?\gh !y are admissible ) ! ,ascot suit4 ,sid5ote3 ,special suits4 ,!re are special suits = all k9ds ( outdoor amusem5ts1 su* z %oot+1 golf+1 t5nis1 boat+1 driv+1 rid+1 bicycl+1 fi%+1 hunt+1 c41 b into ! details ( ^! x is unnecess>y to ent]4 ,sid5ote3 ,spoil+ an o!rwise good effect4 ,x may be rem>k$1 h[ev]1 t x is easy to /ultify ! :ole effect ( ^!1 h[ev] p]fectly !y may be 8built0 by ! tailor1 by ! addition ( a s+le incongru\s article ( attire2 su* z a silk hat or pat5t boots ) a %oot+-suit4 ,sid5ote3 ,! mod]n dress-coat4 ,! dress-coat is no long] made ( broadclo?1 ! %9y f9i% ( :i* w\ld n[ h a v old-fa%ion$ appe>ance4 ,! ord9>y ev5+ coat is made ( an ela/ic twill clo?1 ) a dull f9i%4 ,its ela/icity makes x fit to p]fection :5 cut by a good tailor4 ,( c\rse x w\ld be incorrect to we> o!r ?an black tr\s]s ) x4 ,! wai/coat is mu* cut away1 to %[ a wide expanse ( immaculately got-up %irt-front4 ,?is is ! only correct co/ume = ev5+ we> on all occasions ( a =mal nature4 ,sid5ote3 ,! d9n]-jacket4 ,! d9n]-jacket has v l>gely sup]s$$ ! dress-coat = home we> & at d9n]s 9 h\ses :]e "o is a famili> gue/4 ,x is occasionally se5 at ! play1 too1 b x w\ld be incorrect to we> x :5 accompany+ ladies4 ,sid5ote3 ,on ev5+ dress at !atres4 ,etiquette is n n[ ne>ly s /rict z x us$ to be 9 ! matt] ( ev5+ dress 9 ! /alls1 private boxes1 & dress circle ( ! !atres4 ,i ?9k ?is is r to be deplor$1 b ! wave ( democracy t has p\r$ ov] society ( late has left its impress 9 ?is z 9 o!r matt]s4 ,?\gh !atre manag]s put on ! tickets special to ! be/ seats 8,ev5+ ,dress10 ,i h se5 half-a-doz5 m5 9 ! /alls dress$ 9 a v>iety ( unor?odox fa%ions1 & once1 9 ,augu/1 ,i ev5 saw a man 9 a boat+ suit come 91 /raw hat 9 h&1 &1 u%]$ by an unprote/+ att5dant1 take 8 seat4 ,9 ! (f-season1 :5 all ! fa%ionable p are out ( t[n1 ?is 0 n1 p]haps1 v surpris+4 ,sid5ote3 ,a c\rage\s "y man4 ,b he mu/ h be5 a c\rage\s "y man4 ,sid5ote3 ,m\rn+ dress4 ,m\rn+ = m5 seems almo/ a dead-lett] n[adays1 except 9 ! fir/ two or ?ree weeks aft] b]eavem5t4 ,a wid[]'s m\rn+ is n worn = m ?an a c\ple ( mon?s1 unless ! wid[] %\ld belong to ! num]\s class :o cl+ cons]vatively to old cu/oms1 & believe t to d(f 8 we$s w\ld imply "s disrespect to 8 late wife4 ,disraeli1 9 8 8,endymion10 puts ! foll[+ words 9 ! m\? ( ,mr4 ,vigo1 ! great tailor3-- ,sid5ote3 8,dress does n make a man40 8,dress does n make a man1 b x (t5 makes a successful "o4 ,! mo/ preci\s /one1 y "k1 mu/ be cut & poli%$4 ,i h kn[n _m an heiress lo/ by h] suitor be+ ill-dress$4 ,y mu/ dress accord+ to y\r age1 y\r pursuits1 y\r object 9 life2 y mu/ dress1 too1 9 "s cases1 accord+ to y\r set4 ,9 y\? a little fancy is r expect$1 b if political life be y\r object1 x %\ld be avoid$--at lea/ aft] "o-&-tw5ty4 ,sid5ote3 8,b x (t5 makes a successful "o40 ,i am dress+ two bro!rs n[1 m5 ( consid]able position2 "o is a m]e man ( pleasure1 ! o!r w probably be a ,m9i/] ( ,/ate4 ,!y are z l z two peas1 b 7 ,i to dress ! d&y & ! m9i/] ! same1 x w\ld be bad ta/e--x w\ld be ridicul\s4 ,no man gives me ! tr\ble :i* ,"l ,eglant9e does2 he has n made up 8 m9d :e!r he w be a great poet or a ,prime ,m9i/]4 #8,y mu/ *oose1 my "l1' ,i tell him4 #8,i _c s5d y out look+ l ,"l ,byron if y mean to be a ,cann+ or a ,pitt4' 8,:at all m5 %\ld avoid is ! #8%abby g5teel4' ,no man ev] gets ov] x4 ,i w save y f t4 ,y _h bett] be 9 rags40 ,,c\ntry ,,life4 ,sid5ote3 ,dress 9 ! c\ntry4 ,dress 9 ! c\ntry v>ies consid]ably 9 _m matt]s f t worn 9 t[n4 ,a boy's fir/ 8c\ntry suit0 aft] he leaves s*ool is a great ev5t to him4 ,sid5ote3 ,! fir/ suit ( twe$s4 ,at ,eton & ,h>r[ ! /yle ( dress might almo/ be call$ a uni=m1 & ! fir/ suit ( twe$s m>ks ! emancipation f s*ool-life4 ,:5 9 ! c\ntry he dons ^! ! fir/ ?+ 9 ! morn+1 unless he %\ld be on hunt+ or bicycl+ ?\ghts int5t1 or %\ld incl9e t[>ds t5nis1 boat+1 or ! sl[ delights ( angl+4 ,aft] lun* a *ange has occasionally to be made4 ,sid5ote3 ,at a g>d5 p>ty4 ,%\ld a g>d5 p>ty be 9 "q1 he may take 8 *oice betwe5 twe$ suit & l[ hat or cutaway coat ) silk hat4 ,if he happ5 to be great on t5nis ! twe$ suit w\ld be naturally 8 *oice1 unless x 7 di/9ctly und]/ood t ! game w\ld =m a prom95t feature ( ! aft]noon's ent]ta9m5t4 ,9 ?is case flannels w\ld be worn4 ,sometimes v c]emoni\s g>d5 p>ties take place 9 ! c\ntry1 :5 ,royalty or di/+ui%$ p]sons are expect$ to be pres5t1 :5 ! frock coat & its usual accompanim5ts w\ld n be out ( place4 ,sid5ote3 ,invitations to breakfa/4 ,invitations to breakfa/ 9 ! c\ntry are by no means unusual4 ,! dress w\ld consi/ ( t ord9>ily worn 9 ! morn+s1 :e!r twe$ suit1 knick]bock]s1 hunt+ or rid+ ge>1 or ! black morn+-coat or suit4 ,frequ5tly a silk hat is nev] se5 betwe5 ,sunday & ,sunday4 ,sid5ote3 ,*ur*-go+ co/ume4 ,*ur*go]s /ill1 to a c]ta9 ext5t1 affect x1 b 9 ^! days ( outdoor life1 bicycl+1 & s on1 ! co/ume worn by m5 9 *ur* is exp]i5c+ ! same modifications t *>act]ise x 9 o!r dep>tm5ts4 ,! details ( %oot+ suits c always be /udi$ 9 ! illu/rat$ adv]tisem5ts ( ! tailors4 ,a man's w>drobe is n[ almo/ z v>i$ z a woman's4 ,he has diff]5t co/umes = walk+1 rid+1 driv+1 visit+1 boat+1 hunt+1 %oot+1 golf+1 bicycl+1 t5nis1 & cricket1 d9+1 smok+1 & l\ng+1 football1 rac+1 & ya*t+1 to say no?+ ( uni=m & ,c\rt suit1 besides ! n[ develop+ motor-c> co/ume4 ,,visit+-,,c>ds ,,& ,,calls4 ,x is necess>y = e "y man to h a supply ( visit+-c>ds1 & = ^! !re is "o fix$ rule1 any dep>ture f :i* betok5s want ( k ( ! cu/oms ( well-br$ p4 ,sid5ote3 ,visit+-c>ds1 size & /yle4 ,! size mu/ be exactly ?ree in*es by "o & a half4 ,! pa/ebo>d mu/ be pure :ite & glossy & ! lett]+ mu/ be 9 italic4 ,an idea prevails among "y m5 ( a c]ta9 class t x is incorrect to put ! title 8,mr40 be=e _! own "n on a visit+-c>d4 ,?is is a great mi/ake4 ,n to put x is to %[ oneself lack+ 9 savoir faire4 ,sid5ote3 ,! cu/om>y or o!r title mu/ prec$e ! "n4 ,! "n mu/ always be prec$$ by 8,mr40 or 8,sir10 or o!r title4 ,! address mu/ occupy ! left-h& corn]1 & ! "n ( "o's club or clubs mu/ foll[ x4 ,sid5ote3 ,9 ! abs5ce ( a p]man5t address4 ,:5 a "y man has no p]man5t address1 x is well to h only 8 "n pr9t$1 fill+ 9 ! address 9 p5cil be=e leav+ or pres5t+ 8 c>d4 ,sid5ote3 ,! h\rs = call+4 ,! h\rs = call+ are f f\r to sev5 9 ! aft]noon1 b "y m5 :o are n on v intimate t]ms ) ! family %\ld c>efully ab/a9 f call+ aft] six o'clock1 le/ !y %\ld be ! la/ & solit>y call]4 ,sid5ote3 ,on arrival4 ,:5 ! door is op5$1 & ! "q1 8,is ,mrs4 ,blank at home80 answ]$ 9 ! affirmative1 ! visitor is invit$ to foll[ ! s]vant4 ,he may take (f 8 ov]coat if he wi%es1 b he mu/ c>ry 8 hat & /ick 9 8 h&4 ,! "r-h& glove mu/ be remov$4 ,! glov$ h& is nev] giv5 to a lady1 c]ta9 exceptional circum/ances prov+ ! rule4 ,sid5ote3 ,greet+ ! ho/ess4 ,arriv$ 9 ! draw+-room1 he holds 8 hat & glove 9 ! left h&1 greets ho/ess fir/1 %e %ak+ h&s ) him1 & !n he looks r\nd ! room & greets any acqua9tance he may recognise1 go+ up to !m if he kn[s !m well1 b[+ if 8 previ\s k ( !m has be5 slight4 ,hav+ tak5 8 seat1 he /ill holds 8 hat 9 8 h&1 & he mu/ f9d small talk z be/ he c1 = sitt+ sil5t is awkw>d = him & di/ress+ to 8 ho/ess4 ,%e1 by ! way1 w probably say1 8,w\ld y n l to put d[n y\r hat80 indicat+ "s spot :]e he may lay x4 ,! reason ( c>ry+ ! hat to ! draw+-room ,sid5ote3 ,! reason :y ! hat is c>ri$4 is a some:at subtle "o4 ,x is bas$ on ! supposition t ! mascul9e call] feels himself privileg$ 9 be+ p]mitt$ to pay 8 respects1 & feel+ himself on suff]ance1 is ready to leave 9 a mom5t1 hat 9 h&1 %\ld he n f9d 8 pres5ce agreeable & acceptable4 ,i h a private !ory t ?is cu/om is *]i%$ & kept up by m5 f a conviction t _! hats are mu* saf] 9 _! own sight 9 ! draw+-room ?an !y w\ld be d[n/airs 9 ! hall4 ,new umbrellas h be5 tak5 in/ead ( old1 z we all "k1 & new hats are q z tempt+1 if n m s4 ,sid5ote3 ,! c>d %\ld n be s5t up4 ,d n s5d y\r c>d up :5 mak+ a call4 ,?is is res]v$ = bus9ess m54 ,! s]vant asks y\r "n1 & x mu/ be giv5 v di/9ctly4 ,x w !n be ann\nc$ 9 a l\d1 cle> voice :5 ! door is op5$4 ,%\ld ! ho/ess %[ by h] mann] t %e has n recognis$ ! "n1 its own] mu/ recall himself to h] memory by say+1 8,i am ,mr4 ,s-&-s4 ,i _h ! pleasure (10 c41 c41 expla9+ ! circum/ances t l$ to ! call4 ,sid5ote3 ,leav+ ! c>d on dep>ture4 ,! visit+-c>d mu/ be left on ! hall table :5 ! call] goes away1 "o c>d = ! ladies ( ! h\se1 & "o = ! g5tleman or g5tlem51 :e!r ^! latt] h be5 pres5t or abs5t dur+ ! call4 ,%\ld ! lady call$ on be 8,n at home0 ! c>ds are giv5 to ! s]vant4 ,sid5ote3 ,r5d]+ an important s]vice4 ,:5 a man has r5d]$ an unkn[n lady "s really important s]vice1 z 9 ! case ( a /reet accid5t or "s o!r disagreeable circum/ance 9 :i* he has be5 able to av]t f h] "s unpleasantness :i* %e w\ld h o!rwise incurr$1 ! lady w probably ask him to let h] "k to :om %e is indebt$ = s mu* k9dness4 ,! prop] c\rse to pursue is to disclaim any special obligation1 b if ! lady p]si/s1 x is !n good mann]s to give ! "n4 ,%\ld ! g5tleman feel v mu* int]e/$ 9 ! lady1 he may say1 8,i %\ld v mu* l to call to-morr[ to f9d out if y are none ! worse = y\r adv5ture40 ,%e may !n give him h] address1 & he w\ld give h] 8 c>d4 ,sid5ote3 ,a trivial s]vice4 ,b ?is w\ld all be v mu* out ( place if ! affair _h be5 "s m]e matt] ( common c\rtesy1 su* z pick+ up "s article dropp$ by a lady & re/or+ x to h]4 ,a g5tleman 9 su* circum/ances raises 8 hat & retires z quickly z possible1 le/ ! lady %\ld imag9e t he c\ld base a claim to h] acqua9tance on ! p]=mance ( s trivial a s]vice4 ,x is only ! 8cad0 :o ?us presumes1 & ! 8cad-ess0 :o all[s him to d s4 ,visit+-c>ds are nev] s5t by po/4 ,!y d5ote a call 9 p]son4 ,sid5ote3 ,p4,p4,c4 ,c>ds4 ,! only exception to ?is rule is 9 s5d+ out ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds4 ,^! are always s5t by po/4 ,! lett]s d5ote p\r pr5dre cong 78to take leave071 & are us$ :5 x is f\nd impossible to call & say goodbye to all "o's circle ( acqua9tance4 ,a call aft] a ball or d9n]-p>ty mu/ be made )9 ! week1 & c>ds left4 ,sid5ote3 ,sickness & dea?4 ,9 call+ to inquire aft] ! welf>e ( an invalid1 or aft] ! family has suff]$ b]eavem5t1 c>ds are always left4 ,if a man is on intimate t]ms ) a family t has suff]$ b]eavem5t1 he sometimes uses c>ds ) a slight l9e ( black1 & %\ld he write a lett] ( condol5ce1 notepap] & envelopes ) ! same slight indication ( m\rn+ on !m4 ,?is expresses sympa?y & a p]sonal %>e 9 ! sorr[ felt4 ,9 mak+ a call aft] dea? has visit$ any family1 ! dress ( ! call] %\ld be attun$ to ! occasion1 & %\ld be ( a sombre ord]1 ?\gh x ne$ n be precisely m\rn+4 ,:5 a man is a frequ5t visitor to any h\se1 he may leave 8 hat & /ick 9 ! hall4 ,! umbrella is nev] tak5 into a draw+-room4 ,sid5ote3 ,aft] an invitation4 ,c>ds mu/ be left aft] an invitation1 :e!r ! latt] be accept$ or n4 ,9 case ( n wi%+ to pursue ! acqua9tance ( ! p]son :o s5t ! invitation1 x is suffici5t to leave ! c>ds )\t inquir+ :e!r ! lady is at home4 ,sid5ote3 ,t]m9at+ an acqua9tance%ip ) c\rtesy4 ,if a man %\ld wi%1 = any reason1 to c\rte\sly end an acqua9tance%ip1 he c d x )\t any ( ! intol]able 8cutt+10 a me?od resort$ to only by ! r\gh & uncultivat$4 ,sid5ote3 ,! f9al call4 ,he may make a call t1 9 8 own m9d1 he kn[s to be a f9al "o1 rema9+ only j ! qu>t] ( an h\r t is ! m9imum l5g? ( su* functions1 & pres]v+ a c]ta9 gravity ( demean\r :i* is z free f 8sulks0 z x is f o!r =ms ( bad temp]4 ,aft] ?is1 he may leave c>ds once m )\t ask+ if ! ladies ( ! family are at home4 ,9 ?is way he c gradually & ) p]fect c\rtesy break (f ! intimacy4 ,sid5ote3 ,9 ! /reet4 ,9 ! /reet he raises 8 hat b does n /op to speak4 ,x is q possible to ignore ! attempt to d s on ! opposite side1 b %\ld circum/ances be su* z to make x difficult to d s )\t positive rud5ess1 he mu/ /op1 putt+ an end to ! conv]sation at ! e>lie/ possible mom5t4 ,sid5ote3 ,duration ( call4 ,a call %\ld nev] ext5d ov] half an h\r unless ! call] be expressly reque/$ to prolong x4 ,sid5ote3 ,consult+ ! wat*4 ,a g5tleman nev] looks at 8 wat* dur+ a call1 at a d9n]-p>ty1 aft]noon reception or ball4 ,?is is prohibit$ because ! inf]5ce w\ld be t "t 0 dragg+ ) him & t he 0 anxi\s to get away4 ,a man may feel su* anxiety1 b he mu/ hide x if he w\ld be deem$ well-br$4 ,"y m5 :o d n pay _! duty call & leave a c>d aft] any ent]ta9m5t1 are likely to be omitt$ f ! li/ ( gue/s invit$ on "s succe$+ occasion4 ,sid5ote3 ,:5 a man f9ds himself 8dropp$40 ,occasionally x happ5s t a "y man f9ds himself 8dropp$0 by "s family ) :om he has be5 on t]ms ( intimacy4 ,he is deb>r$ by ! rules ( polite society f ask+ = an explanation1 x be+ a canon ( good bre$+ nev] to ask que/ions t are emb>rass+ to reply to4 ,?is has be5 embodi$ 9 a v outspok5 & unc]emoni\s phrase 8y ask me no que/ions1 ,i tell y no lies40 ,!re is a deep tru? 9 x1 nev]!less1 & ev5 9 family life x is well to obs]ve x4 ,sometimes ! reason a "y man is dropp$ 9 ?is way is t some?+ to 8 disadvantage has be5 discov]$4 ,sid5ote3 ,an occasional reason4 ,b n unfrequ5tly ! true reason is t "o ( ! daught]s ( ! h\se has %[n a pref]5ce = 8 society :i* ! p>5ts ?9k %\ld be *eck$4 ,girls ( ! pres5t day d n always ex]cise ! well-br$ self-control t is ! rule ( good society 9 su* matt]s4 ,to love uns\ght is a mis=tune = any girl1 lead+ inevitably to mu* mortification & humiliation1 b ^! may be m9imis$ if %e c only practice a dignifi$ retic5ce ab\t h] feel+s4 ,sid5ote3 ,putt+ out a feel]4 ,b %\ld a "y man ?us caprici\sly 7z x seems to him7 be left out 9 ! cold be on suffici5tly good t]ms ) a son ( ! h\se1 x w\ld be q 9 rule = him to put out a feel] or two on ! subject3 8,i say1 old fell[1 ,i wond] if ,i h be5 s un=tunate z to (f5d y\r p 9 any way80 ,he w soon discov]1 f ! aspect ( 8 int]locutor1 :e!r he is likely to ga9 any in=mation on ! matt]4 ,,calls ,,( ,,inquiry4 ,sid5ote3 ,call+ on fri5ds b]eav$4 ,9 call+ on fri5ds :o h suff]$ b]eavem5t1 aft] hav+ receiv$ _! c>d ( ?anks = k9d inquiries1 x is1 ( c\rse1 requisite t ! dress %\ld be ( ! quiete/ description4 ,a r$ tie1 = in/ance1 w\ld be horribly out ( place4 ,only 9 case ( v intimate fri5d%ips is ! call prolong$ beyond t5 m9utes or a qu>t] ( an h\r4 ,! call] takes 8 tone f t ( ! family4 ,sid5ote3 ,avoid+ ref]5ce to ! loss4 ,x is 9 ! wor/ ta/e to ref] to ! loss su/a9$ unless ! initiative is tak5 by "o ( ^? b]eav$4 ,?is is v seldom done1 & ! conv]sation is usually conduct$ on l9es calculat$ to av]t any di/urb+ rem>k4 ,no "o likes to break d[n or lose self-comm& except 9 seclusion2 &1 9 fact1 x is only necess>y to look into "o's own consci\sness 9 ord] to discov] :at is ! be/ c\rse to foll[ 9 su* cases4 ,sid5ote3 ,att5d+ ! fun]al4 ,%\ld a "y man be invit$ to att5d ! fun]al1 he mu/ we> m\rn+1 black gloves1 & black hatb&4 ,punctuality1 important at all times1 is p>ticul>ly ess5tial at ?is dre>y c]emonial4 ,! family usually provides c>riages1 b 9 ! case ( fri5ds :o possess equipages1 !y always take _! own4 ,x is ! cu/om to assemble at ! h\se1 or to g by fix$ tra9 %\ld ! family reside 9 ! c\ntry4 ,sid5ote3 ,invitations to return4 ,x is bett] n to accept any invitations to return to ! h\se aft]w>ds2 =1 z a rule1 ^! are only giv5 z a matt] ( =m4 ,sid5ote3 ,gifts ( fl[]s4 ,we (t5 see 9 newspap]s aft] ! ann\ncem5t ( a dea?1 a reque/ t no fl[]s may be s5t4 ,failure to comply ) ?is w\ld argue a want ( p]ception1 b :5 no su* intimation is made a fri5d may s5d fl[]s1 ! only ess5tial be+ t !y %\ld consi/ z a rule ( pure :ite fl[]s or or*ids1 pansies1 or violets4 ,occasionally an exception is made to ^! 9 ! case ( fav\rite fl[]s ( ! lo/ fri5d4 ,an exquisite g>l& ( pale tea-roses appe>$ among ! scores ( wrea?s se5 at ! fun]al ( "o ( our greate/ poets4 ,,mann]4 ,sid5ote3 ,! importance ( a good mann]4 ,x w\ld n be easy to ov]-e/imate ! importance ( a good mann] f a social po9t ( view4 ,x ranks f> above mu* m important qualities4 ,! 8r\gh diamonds0 :o conceal _! traditional good he>t "u a surly ext]ior are seldom happy p1 not)/&+ _! g5u9e ?or\ghness & real goodness4 ,sid5ote3 ,! qualities valu$ by society4 ,9 family life & 9 society a g5tle mann] 8cov]s a multitude ( s9s40 ,! _w & ! home reflect back to u ! face we pres5t to !m4 ,if we cultivate a bright & cordial mann] we %all be he>tily receiv$ by o!rs1 ?\gh ! real nature ( u lies b5ea? z cold & h>d z salt fre% f a m9e4 ,9 ! home ! coldness & h>dness are soon f\nd out1 b !y are p>tially condon$ = ! sake ( ! sup]ficial c\rtesy & k9dness4 ,9 society ! quality ( ! he>t matt]s little1 s long z ! surface is1 at ! same "t1 g5ial & poli%$4 ,sid5ote3 8,life is a l>ge bundle ( little ?+s40 ,life is *iefly made up ( small ?+s1 & if we le>n to take an int]e/ 9 ! trifl+ incid5ts ( our fri5ds' lives1 9 ! ev]yday occurr5ces 9 ! exi/5ce ( our acqua9tances1 we supply ! sympa!tic elem5t t tells s l>gely 9 our fav\r4 ,sid5ote3 ,simulation may induce reality4 ,& v (t5 ! simulation ( ?is int]e/ induces ! reality1 & our own life is bright5$ by p>ticipat+ 9 ! pleasures & ! happ9ess ( o!rs1 & deep5$ by %>+ 9 _! disappo9tm5ts1 & by do+ s help+ !m to ov]come !m4 ,) a cold1 =bidd+ mann] x is impossible to convey any su* impression4 ,sid5ote3 ,%yness4 ,b ?is (t5 comes f %yness1 n only 9 ! "y1 b all ?r\gh life4 ,! y\?ful =m ( %yness is self-consci\sness & self-di/ru/4 ,t :i* la/s ?r\gh life is ! fe> ( self-revelation4 ,sid5ote3 ,& retic5ce4 ,ev5 ! franke/ natures h (t5 ?is quality ( retic5ce1 :i* =bids !m to reveal ! inn] dep?s ( _! ?\ghts1 & makes !m hate to be div9$4 ,ro*ef\cauld says we all hate to be div9$1 ?\gh we l to div9e o!rs2 b _m ( u "k well :at a delightful ?+ x is to be read l an op5 book by ^? ^: ?\ghts reflect our own1 & ) :om we discov] ourselves to be 9 m5tal k9%ip4 ,sid5ote3 ,! ideal life--few fri5ds1 _m acqua9tances4 ,! ideal life is t :i* has few fri5ds b _m acqua9tances4 ,! fri5ds are close & firm ones1 8grappl$ to our he>ts ) hooks ( /eel10 & ! circle ( acqua9tances (f]s opportunities = add+ to _! numb]4 ,b )\t an agreeable mann] x is difficult to secure ^! inn] & out] sph]es ( social companion%ip4 ,sid5ote3 ,a recipe = ! =mation ( a good mann]4 ,7 ,i ask$ to give a recipe = ! =mation ( a good mann] ,i %\ld recomm5d an equal mixture ( self-confid5ce & humility z ! fir/ ess5tial1 !n a consid]able desire to please1 temp]$ by ! self-respect :i* pres]ves f (fici\sness & t annoy+ air ( 8+ratiat+0 !mselves t "s m5 assume 9 society4 ,!re mu/ be p]fect self-possession1 ?\gh 9 ! v "y ?is is sc>cely expect$1 a little becom+ %yness sitt+ v well ^u !m4 8,i l a %y man4 ,he's gett+ s sc>ce10 said a v pretty woman at a ball n long s9ce4 8,f9d "o1 quick1 & introduce him40 ,h] laugh+ emiss>ies w5t (f to se>* = ! desir$ article1 & aft] a :ile return$ ) ! report t ! only %y man 9 ! room 0 engag$ = e dance6 ,sid5ote3 ,add g5tl5ess to self-possession4 ,:5 self-possession has be5 acquir$ x is well to add on to x ! sav+ grace ( g5tl5ess4 ,?is quality is mu* misund]/ood by m54 ,9 wom5 !y adore x2 9 !mselves & ea* o!r !y und]value x4 ,b wom5 love g5tl5ess 9 m54 ,x is a mo/ tell+ piece ( ! necess>y equipm5t = society4 ,a g5tle mann]1 a g5tle voice1 & ! abs5ce ( all self-ass]tion1 t is at ! root ( ! matt]1 h won m love ?an good looks4 ,c>lyle call$ ! memb]s ( upp]-class society 8amiable /oics10 9 ref]5ce to ! equable s]5ity ( c\nt5ance & calm self-possession ( mann] ) :i* !y accept ^? occasionally try+ conditions ( social life :i* necessitate self-d5ial 9 matt]s great & small4 ,sid5ote3 8,amiable /oics40 ,?is placidity is ! result ( long tra9+4 ,n j at fir/ does a "y man b[ to ! decree ( 8 ho/ess :i* sep>ates him f ! girl he admires & tells him (f to take "s un9t]e/+ d[ag] to ! supp]-room4 ,b %\ld he ev9ce any sign ( discont5t ) ! arrangem5t he is at once convict$ ( ill-bre$+4 ,! man ( 8p]fect mann]s0 is he :o is calmly c\rte\s 9 all circum/ances1 z att5tive outw>dly to ! pla9 & ! eld]ly z he is to ! "y & pretty4 ,sid5ote3 ,! man ( 8p]fect mann]s40 ,x is difficult to r5\nce ! delightful tte--tte ) a *>m+ girl :5 ask$ by 8 ho/ess to dance ) "s poor wallfl[] :o has be5 neglect$ = half-a-doz5 dances4 ,b x has to be borne1 & ev5tually x br+s its own rew>d4 ,! 8duty0 dance is a h>d ?+1 & good mann]s involve a consid]able am\nt ( self-d5ial2 b repetition soon makes x comp>atively easy1 & invitations ( an agreeable k9d p\r 9 on ! "y man :o %[s himself will+ to practise ^? peculi> =ms ( selflessness1 opportunities = :i* s frequ5tly arise 9 society4 ,sid5ote3 ,self-d5ial n unrew>d$4 ,x is probably 9 imitation ( ?is surface equanimity t ! wood5 />e has be5 adopt$ s univ]sally by our gold5 y\?4 ,sid5ote3 ,! wood5 />e4 ,?is is useful = we>+ at "o's club or 9 ! /all ( a !atre1 & x at once /amps ! proprietor ( ! />e z be+ 89 x40 ,! fa%ion is n conf9$ to ,engl&4 ,x reigns 9 ,new ,york1 & ev5 9 f> ,au/ralia !re is a select cot]ie ( gold5 or gild$ y\? :o are beg9n+ to le>n h[ to ab/ract e atom ( expression f ! c\nt5ance1 & to look on vacantly or seem to d s4 ,z yet1 !re is no consid]able exp]tness a*iev$ 9 ! matt] 9 ,antipodean circles1 b 9 ,new ,york a v fair impression ( imbecility is convey$ 9 ! look ( ! ultra-fa%ionable "y man4 ,!re are v>i\s o!r important matt]s on :i* a transatlantic au?ority has be5 in/ruct+ ! y\? ( 8 g5]ation4 ,! "o involv+ ! mo/ s]i\s responsibility is connect$ ) c>ry+ a cane or /ick1 z x is bett] =m to call x4 ,sid5ote3 ,transatlantic etiquette4 ,x mu/ be left at home :5 go+ to bus9ess1 to *ur*1 or to make calls4 ,! idea ( ! latt] prohibition is t1 if a call is made on a lady cane 9 h&1 ! inf]5ce w\ld be t ! call] is on suffici5tly intimate t]ms to look 9 on h] casually at any "t4 ,!re is c]ta9ly subtlety 9 ?is view4 ,x is well t ! novice %\ld be made aw>e t ! l[e/ dep? ( vulg>ity is t\*$ by c>ry+ an umbrella 9 a case4 ,x is also an important item ( in=mation t ! gloves & cane mu/ be c>ri$ 9 ! same h&4 ,to d o!rwise is s]i\sly to err 9 social =ms4 ,our in/ructor decl>es t to att5d oratorios & philh>monic conc]ts is ?or\ghly bad =m1 indicat+ a t5d5cy to be p$antic4 ,x is mu* bett] to g to a horse %[4 ,x is by no means consid]$ correct to %ake h&s4 ,! prop] way is to take hold ( ! f+]s ( "o's acqua9tance at ! second jo9ts1 & be/[ ^u !m "o or two decisive little j]ks1 z ?\gh te/+ _! /r5g?4 8,no1 ,i ?ank y10 is a =m ( words no long] he>d 9 good society1 hav+ "s "t s9ce be5 replac$ by 8,no1 ?anks40 ,no man ) any claim to social position w\ld cons5t to pron\nce ! 8g0 at ! end ( ! pres5t p>ticiple ( v]bs4 8,com9' & go9'0 are ! correct =ms j n[4 8,don't y "k0 is ridicul\sly correct4 ,m5 ( p]ception d n c>e to be m accurate ?an o!rs ( _! set4 8,don't-*i-"k0 is m cu/om>y1 & ! pronunciation m>ks ! man z rid+ on ! topmo/ cre/ ( ! social wave4 ,!re mu/ be a /accato s\nd ab\t ! phrase1 :i* alt]nates pleasantly ) ! languid drawl4 ,! latt] is /ill 9 fav\r1 & accompanies admirably ! /udi$ lack ( animation 9 ! expression & g5]al wood5 look ( ! face4 ,to rev]t = a mom5t to ! cane1 or walk+-/ick4 ,sid5ote3 ,! /ick4 ,!re is mu* to be d$uc$ f ! mann] 9 :i* x is c>ri$4 ,! correct /yle is to hold x at an angle ( =ty-five degrees1 ) ! f]ule upp]mo/ & =w>d4 ,?is is ! sort ( ?+ t no man c\ld possibly discov] = himself4 ,! natural man w\ld incl9e to c>ry 8 /ick 9 su* fa%ion z w\ld t5d to direct its po9t to ! gr\nd4 ,?is unsophi/icat$ mode w\ld at once reveal him z un9itiat$ 9 ! m9or morals ( good mann]s4 ,! late/ mode ( arrang+ ! male hair1 z practis$ 9 ,new ,york1 & possibly ne>] home z well1 is wor? not+4 ,sid5ote3 ,! hair4 ,fir/ x is made ?or\ghly wet1 !n bru%$ & p>t$1 aft] :i* ! head is swa!d ) l95 b&s1 :i* are kept on until ! hair is ?or\ghly dry4 ,?is me?od produces ! pla/]$ appe>ance :i* is n[ recognis$ z good =m4 ,?\gh cordiality ( mann] is rapidly becom+ obsolete1 & is utt]ly condemn$ by all :o h /udi$ ! subject1 yet x is a recognis$ fact t amiability has n[ sup]s$$ s>casm1 & ! up-to-date "y man practises a c>eless sup]ficial b5evol5ce ( pron\nc+ e woman *>m+ & e man a good fell[4 ,sid5ote3 ,amiability4 ,! sca?+1 satiric wit ( ! la/ c5tury 0 z ! nadir to ?is z5i? ( appreciative recognition ( ! be/ t is 9 e human be+4 ,x is pleasant to be able to add to all ?is m9ute detail ab\t little sup]ficialities t ! "y man ( to-day is a va/ improvem5t on 8 pr$ecessors 9 v _m ways4 ,swe>+ is out ( fa%ion4 ,gett+ intoxicat$ is decid$ly 8l[10 & ^? :o disgrace !mselves 9 ?is way are soon cut by _! acqua9tance4 ,"s tw5ty ye>s s9ce ?+s 7 v diff]5t4 ,sid5ote3 ,! r[dyism ( tw5ty ye>s ago4 ,to get tipsy 0 reg>d$ z a pro( ( manl9ess4 ,to wr5* (f door-knock]s & play simil> s5seless pranks 0 consid]$ a =m ( wit1 & ! h]oes ( su* p]=mances 7 look$ on ) admir+ eyes by _! companions4 ,9 _m ways a high] /&>d n[ reigns4 ,sid5ote3 ,a high] moral /&>d n[ reigns4 ,! pictures ( ballet danc]s t us$ once to adorn a "y man's rooms h giv5 place to o!rs ( a high] class4 ,dissolute & unpr9cipl$ m5 get ! cold %\ld] f o!rs ( _! set1 & vice1 ?ank ,heav51 is ?or\ghly out ( fa%ion4 ,!re is /ill pl5ty ( folly4 ,x is insep>able f y\?4 ,b 9 matt]s ( m mom5t !re has be5 imm5se improvem5t go+ /eadily on = _m ye>s4 ,!re are "y m5 :o mi/ake arrogance ( mann]s = self-possession1 & :o conduct !mselves1 :5 9 society ) lift$ *9 & a haughty air t may accord v well ) _! own e/imate ( !mselves1 b seem r out ( place to onlook]s4 ,su* a man invites comp>isons betwe5 8 social des]ts & 8 impli$ conviction ( sup]iority4 ,sid5ote3 ,arrogance ( mann]s4 ,he may take 9 a few inexp]i5c$ girls & "y fell[s ( adolesc5t inability ( judgm5t1 b ev5 ^! triumphs are %ort-liv$1 & he is set d[n z a 8pomp\s ass10 to use ! "y man's phrase = describ+ him4 ,x is good mann]s to articulate di/9ctly1 & bad mann]s to neglect to d s4 ,sid5ote3 ,di/9ct articulation4 ,a man ne$ n exactly take lessons 9 elocution 7?\gh !y w\ld n be amiss71 b he c tea* himself to pron\nce cle>ly & use ! ,sid5ote3 ,tones ( voice4 tone ( voice t is be/ suit$ to ! v>i\s occasions :5 he conv]ses4 ,a brea?y voice is extremely disagreeable4 ,! syllables come out envelop$ 9 a sort ( w9dy ro>4 ,?is is ow+ to a wrong way ( brea?+1 & x c easily be cur$1 ) advantage to ! heal? z well z ! p]sonality4 ,sid5ote3 ,! confid5tial tone4 ,a v confid5tial tone is always us$ by "s m5 :5 !y speak to wom54 ,if !y m]ely 8hope y\r g[n did n get muddy0 !y look into "o's eyes & murmur l any suck+ dove4 ,b if _! articulation is indi/9ct !y are q a nuisance4 ,"o has to ask !m to repeat !mselves1 & ! nons5se !y talk %[s up v badly 9 an encore4 ,b :5 !y enunciate cle>ly _! devot$ murmur+s sometimes 8take0 v well4 ,x is n until a woman has se5 ?ree or f\r o!rs besides h]self approa*$ 9 ! same aft]noon or ev5+ ) simil> dev\t & pray]-l :isp]+ t %e beg9s to value ?is p>ticul>ity at its true wor?4 ,sid5ote3 ,! ^w 8fell[40 ,) ref]5ce to ! ^w 8fell[0 a subtle di/9ction or two mu/ be drawn4 ,9 l[ly circles a "y man is call$ 8a fell[02 "y m5 8fell[s40 ,s x is 9 good society1 b ) a di/9ct diff]5ce4 ,x is n v easy to make ?is diff]5ce cle>4 ,"y m5 ( good position ref] v commonly to o!rs ( _! acqua9tance z 8! fell[s10 b !y w\ld n use ! ^w to describe "y m5 g5]ally4 ,wom51 "y & old1 ( ! l[] classes speak ( "y m5 g5]ally z 8fell[s10 b g5tlewom5 nev] d s4 ,a lady nev] uses ! expression 8,a girl & a fell[40 ,at ! same "t %e may frequ5tly speak ( 8"y fell[s40 ,i am aw>e t !re is a want ( cle>ness 9 all ?is1 b x is a matt] among _m o!rs t c only be acquir$ by be+ accu/om$ to ! usages ( good society4 ,sid5ote3 ,! 8,autocrat's0 te/-^w4 ,! ,autocrat ( ! ,breakfa/-table said 9 "o ( 8 books t if he he>d a woman pron\nce ! ^w 8,h[10 he le>n$ m ab\t h] 9 an in/ant ?an a ?ird p]son c\ld tell him 9 an h\r4 ,if %e call$ x 8ha[10 %e reveal$ h]self z belong+ to ! uncultur$ classes4 ,9 ! same way1 if a girl 7 to say 8,i met a fell[ ye/]day10 %e w\ld unconsci\sly make a simil> self-revelation4 ,a "y man w\ld make an equal mi/ake if he 7 to speak ( 8my si/]'s fell[40 ,b he w\ld be correct en\gh if he 7 to say 8! fell[ my si/]'s engag$ to40 ,sid5ote3 8,twe$l$um & twe$l$ee40 ,^! little nuances ( expression rem9d "o ( ! old rhyme-- 8,/range t su* diff]5ce %\ld be ',twixt twe$l$um & twe$l$ee40 ,sid5ote3 ,small talk alone w n suffice4 ,?\gh small talk is z indisp5sable 9 social life z p5nies & halfp5nies 9 ! transactions ( ev]yday exi/5ce1 we mu/ also h conv]sational gold & silv] at our comm& if we wi% to be successful4 ,:5 ! prelim9>ies ( acqua9tance%ip are ov] !re is no necessity to keep up ! commonplaces ( small talk4 ,to d s is r insult+ to wom54 ,sid5ote3 8,talk+ d[n0 really an insult4 ,to be 8talk$ d[n to0 is always aggravat+1 especially :5 "o feels a conviction t ! p]son :o is ?us affably /oop+ = "o's b5efit belongs 9 reality to a l[] intellectual plane ?an "o's own4 ,sid5ote3 ,yet poli% alone (t5 succe$s4 ,at ! same "t1 _m "y m5 8) no?+ 9 !m0 are socially successful1 be+ possess$ ( ^? sup]ficial qualities & t outw>d poli% :i* are1 = ! purposes ( ev]yday int]c\rse1 m useful ?an abysmal p]sonal dep?s4 ,0 x ,goe! or ,s*ill] :o said t = dome/ic utility a f>?+ c&le is m useful ?an all ! />s ( heav58 ,a light playfulness ( fancy1 comb9$ ) ! g5tl5ess t c>efully avoids w\nd+ ev5 ! smalle/1 is a high recomm5dation 9 society2 b to be = ev] laugh+ is we>isome 9 ! extreme to ! spectators4 ,i make no apology = quot+ "h ! foll[+ passages f 8,mr4 ,br[n's ,lett]s to a ,"y ,man ,ab\t ,t[n0 f a ,pun* ( #ahdi4 8,mr4 ,br[n0 0 ,?ack]ay1 ,i believe4 ,sid5ote3 8,mr4 ,br[n's0 advice4 ,he says3-- 8,i besee* & implore y to make a po9t ( be+ intimate ) "o or two families :]e y c see k9d & well-br$ ,engli% ladies4 ,i h se5 wom5 ( all nations 9 ! _w1 b ,i nev] saw ! equals ( ,engli% wom5 7mean+1 ( c\rse1 to include our c\s9s ! ,mac,whirters ( ,glasg[ & ! ,o',tooles ( ,cork72 & ,i pray s9c]ely1 my boy1 t y may always h a woman = a fri5d40 99 99 99 99 99 8,x is bett] = y to pass an ev5+ once or twice a week 9 a lady's draw+-room1 ev5 ?\gh ! conv]sation is r sl[ & y "k ! girl's songs by he>t1 ?an 9 a club1 tav]n1 or smok+-room1 or pit ( a !atre40 99 99 99 99 99 8,rememb]1 if a h\se is pleasant1 & y l to rema9 9 x1 t to be well ) ! wom5 ( ! h\se is ! great1 ! vital po9t4 ,if x is a good h\se1 don't turn up y\r nose because y are only ask$ to come 9 ! ev5+1 :ile o!rs are invit$ to d9e4 ,recollect ! debts ( d9n]s :i* an hospitable family has to pay2 :o are y t y %\ld always be expect+ to ne/le "u ! mahogany8 ,agreeable acqua9tances are made j z well 9 ! draw+-room z 9 ! d9+-room4 ,g to tea brisk & good-hum\r$4 ,be det]m9$ to be pleas$4 ,talk to a d[ag]4 ,take a h& at :i/4 ,if y are musical1 & "k a song1 s+ x l a man4 ,nev] sulk ab\t danc+1 b (f ) y4 ,y w f9d y\r acqua9tance enl>ge4 ,mo!rs1 pleas$ ) y\r good hum\r1 w probably ask y to ,pockl+ton ,squ>e1 to a little p>ty4 ,y w get on--y w =m y\rself a circle4 ,y may m>ry a ri* girl1 or1 at any rate1 get ! *ance ( see+ a numb] ( ! k9d & ! pretty40 99 99 99 99 99 8,! dress+1 ! clean gloves1 & cab-hire1 are nuisances1 ,i grant y4 ,! idea ( ! p>ty itself is a bore1 b y mu/ g4 ,:5 y are at ! p>ty1 x is n s /upid2 !re is always some?+ pleasant = ! eye & att5tion ( an obs]vant man40 ,,9 ,,*ur*4 ,sid5ote3 ,on arriv+ late at *ur*4 ,i "k a "y man :o makes x a practice to arrive late 9 *ur* e ,sunday4 ,i (t5 wi% t he did n g to my *ur*1 = he makes me cordially despise him1 ?us di/urb+ ! calm & quiet ( ! prop] frame ( m9d = ,sundays4 ,i conclude t he likes to be look$ at1 ?\gh :y he %\ld d s is n app>5t4 ,x is1 9 fact1 n only rude1 b irrev]5t1 to be late 9 *ur* = ! beg9n+ ( ! s]vice4 ,if "o %\ld be accid5tally late1 x is good mann]s to wait till ! congregation rises f ! kneel+ po/ure be=e mak+ "o's way to a seat4 ,x is almo/ an awful ?+ to int]rupt a pray]4 ,b ,i h se5 p d x ) no m scruple ?an if !y 7 pass+ 9 a cr[d$ /reet4 ,sid5ote3 ,on ! space "o may occupy4 ,eighte5 in*es are ! measurem5t ( space all[$ to ea* sitt] 9 ! *ur*es4 ,9 "s x may be m2 9 o!rs x may be less4 ,b ,i h reason to believe t ?is is ! av]age4 ,n[1 if any man ( extra size %\ld f9d himself 9 a pew ) o!r p]sons1 he mu/1 9 common c\rtesy1 keep himself z well )9 ! limits ( eighte5 in*es z ! wid? ( 8 %\ld]s w all[4 ,b ,i h occasionally se5 q slim "y m5 sprawl f> beyond ! fronti] l9es4 ,sid5ote3 ,l\ng+4 ,l\ng+ is a habit ( ! day1 & !re are m5 :o get !mselves into m>vell\sly corkscrew attitudes1 9 *ur* z else:]e4 ,sid5ote3 ,fidgety m54 ,fidgety m5 are m s 9 *ur* ?an any:]e else4 ,!y seem to f9d x impossible to keep /ill4 ,sometimes !y ev5 produce a c\gh :]e) to amuse !mselves1 ?\gh !y are n tr\bl$ ) x at any o!r "t4 ,! *>m ( a reposeful mann] is d5i$ to !m4 ,rev]5ce = ! sacr$ place conduces to a quiet mann]2 b ?is is n always felt by ^? :o att5d public wor%ip4 ,sid5ote3 ,! conv5tional idea ( *ur* att5dance4 ,! conv5tional idea seems to be t su* assemblies are m]ely phases ( social life2 t x is respectable to be se5 !re2 & t ! s]vice & ! s]mon are ?+s to be worri$ ?r\gh 9 def]5ce to a preval5t idea t !y =m "p ( an in/itution t is g5]ally reg>d$ z excell5t4 ,sid5ote3 ,! true light to reg>d ! s]vices 94 ,! small m9ority are ^? :o reg>d *ur* s]vices 9 _! true light z lift+ ! ?\ghts above e>?ly ?+s1 & yet by no means unfitt+ !m = e>?4 ,:]e1 = in/ance1 c\ld a bett] law ( good mann]s be f\nd ?an 9 ! ,book ( ,books8 ,a glance at ! end ( ! f\r? *apt] ( ,ephesians w %[ a code ( conduct t1 if foll[$1 w\ld make a man a p]fect memb] ( society4 ,,correspond5ce4 ,sid5ote3 ,reply+ to lett]s4 ,x is impolite to leave lett]s unansw]$ = sev]al days1 especially if ! writ]s are ladies1 or1 if m51 sup]ior 9 age or /ation4 ,notes ( invitation %\ld be repli$ to )9 tw5ty-f\r h\rs4 ,sid5ote3 ,writ+ mat]ials4 ,pla9 :ite cream-laid notepap] & envelopes %\ld be us$1 ! latt] ei!r squ>e or wallet-%ap$1 b nev] ( ! oblong1 n>r[ %ape peculi> to bus9ess correspond5ce4 ,! address on ! notepap] %\ld be emboss$ or pr9t$ 9 simple *>act]s1 ov]-ornam5t be+ 9 ! wor/ ta/e4 ,if ! writ] is entitl$ to use a cre/1 x %\ld be produc$ z simply z possible1 ) or )\t ! family motto1 & free f ! gl[ ( v>i$ col\r 9 :i* "s m5 & wom5 delight4 ,!re are lett]s ^: devices 9 sc>let & gold are /rangely 9 contra/ ) ! meagre & disappo9t+ "* ( _! cont5ts4 ,!y make "o ?9k ( fri$ sprats s]v$ up on a gold entre di%4 ,! writ+ %\ld be cle>1 neat & legible1 ! ink black4 ,sid5ote3 ,! addressee's "n4 ,9 beg9n+ a lett] ) 8,sir0 or 8,madam10 ! omission ( ! "n is rem$i$ by inscrib+ x 9 ! left-h& corn] at ! bottom ( ! note4 ,9 comm]cial correspond5ce x seems to be ! rule to put ! "n ( ! addressee j above 8,de> ,sir0 or 8,madam40 ,sid5ote3 ,enclos+ reply envelopes4 ,%\ld x be advisable to enclose 9 any lett] an envelope = a reply1 ready address$1 x is n good =m to put 8,esq40 aft] "o's own "n 9 address+ x4 ,sid5ote3 ,address+ m>ri$ wom54 ,m>ri$ wom5 & wid[s are n address$ by _! own ,*ri/ian names1 b by ^? ( _! husb&s4 ,= in/ance1 no "o v]s$ 9 social =ms w\ld write 8,mrs4 ,m>y ,smi?10 b 8,mrs4 ,john ,smi?40 ,wid[s ( titl$ m5 h _! ,*ri/ian "n put be=e _! surname1 ?us1 8,laura ,lady ,l$d+10 8,m>ia ,m>*ioness ( ,adesbury10 8,georg9a ,visc\ntess ,m$way10 8,m>y ,du*ess ( ,blankton40 ,! unm>ri$ daught]s ( dukes1 m>quises1 & e>ls h _! ,*ri/ian "n inv>iably ins]t$ betwe5 _! c\rtesy title & surname1 z3 8,lady ,m>y ,bak]40 ,:5 m>ri$ !y reta9 ?is =m1 only sub/itut+ ! husb&'s surname = _! own1 z 8,lady ,m>y ,g>?40 ,b if _! husb& %\ld be a pe]1 !y m]ge _! c\rtesy title 9 84 ,sid5ote3 ,use ( ! ?ird p]son4 ,! ?ird p]son 9 correspond5ce is fall+ consid]ably into disuse1 & 8pres5t+ complim5ts0 is almo/ obsolete4 ,invitations ( a =mal k9d1 & _! replies1 are c\*$ 9 ! ?ird p]son1 b = purposes ( correspond5ce ) /rang]s x is almo/ always bett] to use ! fir/ p]son4 ,! exception is 9 reply+ to a lett] writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 :5 x is 9 bett] ta/e to reply 9 ! same way4 ,! ?ird p]son is also us$ 9 writ+ to tradespeople3 8,mr4 ,edlicott w feel oblig$ if ,mr4 ,jones w k9dly call on ,?ursday morn+ ) ref]5ce to "s repairs40 ,9 ?is case ! reply w\ld be writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son4 ,sid5ote3 ,lett]s ( introduction4 ,lett]s ( introduction1 says ,la ,fonta9e1 8are drafts t mu/ be ca%$ at sight40 ,!y are sometimes difficult to write1 especially if !y h be5 ask$ =1 n volunte]$4 ,!y are always left unseal$1 b %\ld !re be circum/ances ab\t ! p]son introduc$ :i* ! o!r p>ty %\ld "k1 x is well to communicate !m 9 a private lett]1 :i* %\ld be despat*$ s z to arrive be=e ! lett] ( introduction is pres5t$4 ,any "o receiv+ a lett] ( introduction w\ld imm$iately take /eps to %[ "s att5tion to ! individual introduc$4 ,! usual ?+ is to ask him to d9n]1 if he is a social equal2 to (f] 8 s]vices1 if he %\ld be a sup]ior2 & to asc]ta9 9 :at way "o c be useful to him1 if he is an inf]ior4 ,sid5ote3 ,a call mu/ prec$e invitations4 ,a p]sonal call mu/ prec$e all invitations4 ,?is is a fix$ & rigid rule1 ! exception be+ 9 ! case ( p]sons pres5t+ _! own lett]s ( introduction1 z is usually done4 ,b %\ld ! p]son to :om !y are address$ be out1 ! =mal call mu/ foll[4 ,sid5ote3 ,/yles ( address at ! beg9n+ ( a lett]4 ,all ladies1 f ! ,que5 d[nw>ds1 are address$ 9 beg9n+ a lett] z 8,madam02 all g5tlem51 f ! highe/ to ! l[e/1 z 8,sir40 ,tradesm51 h[ev]1 beg9 8,y\r ,royal ,highness10 8,y\r ,grace10 or 8,y\r ,lady%ip10 9 writ+ to _! titl$ employ]s4 ,!y also address _! lett]s q diff]5tly1 z w be se5 f ! foll[+ in/ructions3-- ,,addresses ,,( ,,lett]s4 ,h] ,maje/y ! ,que54 ,to ,8 ,royal ,highness ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales4 ,to ,h] ,royal ,highness ! ,pr9cess ( ,wales4 ,?is same =m is us$ 9 address+ communications to all o!r memb]s ( ! ,royal ,family1 add+ ! title :]e ! ^w 8,pr9ce0 or 8,pr9cess0 w\ld be incorrect1 z3-- ,to ,8 ,royal ,highness ! ,duke ( ,york4 ,to ,h] ,royal ,highness ! ,du*ess ( ,york4 ,bel[ ! rank ( royalty !re is ! di/9ction betwe5 lett]s address$ by p]sons on an equality ) ^? to :om =mal & !y write1 & by inf]iors4 ,sid5ote3 ,address = ! envelope--=mal & in=mal4 ,i %all call !m =mal & in=mal1 & range !m 9 sep>ate l9es4 ,in=mal4 ,=mal4 ,! ,duke ( ---- ,to ,8 ,grace ! ,duke ( ---- ,! ,du*ess ( ---- ,to ,h] ,grace ! ,du*ess ( ---- ,! ,m>quis ( ---- ,to ! ,mo/ ,hon\rable ! ,m>quis ( ---- ,! ,m>*ioness ( ---- ,to ! ,mo/ ,hon\rable ! ,m>*ioness ( ---- ,! ,e>l ( ---- ,to ! ,"r ,hon\rable ! ,e>l ( ---- ,! ,c\ntess ( ---- ,to ! ,"r ,hon\rable ! ,c\ntess ( ---- ,! ,visc\nt ---- ,! ,"r ,hon\rable ! ,visc\nt ---- ,! ,visc\ntess ---- ,! ,"r ,hon\rable ! ,visc\ntess ---- ,"l ---- ,! ,"r ,hon\rable ,"l ---- or ,b>on ---- ,lady ---- ,! ,"r ,hon\rable ,lady ---- or ,b>oness---- ,sid5ote3 ,address+ ,privy ,c\ncillors4 ,memb]s ( ! ,privy ,c\ncil are also address$ z 8,"r ,hon\rable10 9 ! same way z ,pe]s4 ,9 ?is case ! names ( common]s are n foll[$ by ! abbreviation 8,esq410 z3-- ,! ,"r ,hon\rable ,james ,balf\r1 ,m4,p4 ,sid5ote3 ,ambassadors4 ,ambassadors & _! wives are address$ z 8,8 ,excell5cy10 8,h] ,excell5cy10 ! p]sonal & (ficial titles foll[+ ! ^w1 z3-- ,to ,8 ,excell5cy ! ,e>l (----1 ,ambassador ,extraord9>y & ,pl5ipot5ti>y to ,france4 ,to ,h] ,excell5cy ! ,c\ntess (----4 ,o!r (ficial p]sonages are address$ 9 ! foll[+ way3-- ,to ,8 ,excell5cy ,"l ,blank1 ,"l ,lieut5ant ( ,irel&4 ,to ,8 ,grace ! ,ar*bi%op (----4 ,! ,"r ,rev]5d ! ,bi%op (----4 ,! ,v ,rev]5d ! ,dean (----4 ,sid5ote3 ,degrees4 ,academical di/9ctions are indicat$ by ! initials plac$ aft] ! "n--,,ll4,d4 = ,doctor ( ,laws & ,le>n+1 ,d4,d4 = ,doctor ( ,div9ity & s on4 ,sid5ote3 ,beg9n+ ! lett]4 ,s mu* = ! envelopes4 ,! prop] way to beg9 lett]s is z foll[s4 ,z ,i h m5tion$1 ! ,que5 is address$ z 8,madam0 9 ! inside ( a lett]4 ,a g5tleman writ+ ,sid5ote3 ,to ! ,que54 to ! ,que5 w\ld sign himself1 8,i h ! hon\r to submit myself1 ) pr(\nd respect1 ,y\r ,maje/y's mo/ devot$ subject & s]vant40 ,above ! ^w 8,madam0 %\ld be writt5 8,h] ,maje/y ! ,que540 ,"l ,beaconsfield /ruck out a l9e ( 8 own & 9 writ+ to ! ,que5 began1 8,mr4 ,disraeli10 cont9u+ 9 ! ?ird p]son & address+ ,h] ,maje/y 9 ! second4 ,sid5ote3 ,to ! ,pr9ce & ,pr9cess ( ,wales4 ,! ,pr9ce ( ,wales is address$ z 8,sir10 above ?is ^w be+ writt5 8,to ,8 ,royal ,highness ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales40 ,p]sons on intimate t]ms sometimes beg9 8,sir0 or 8,de> ,pr9ce10 o!rs 8,my de> ,pr9ce40 ,! ,pr9cess ( ,wales is occasionally address$ by fri5ds z 8,my de> ,pr9cess40 ,! two or?odox end+s to su* lett]s are respectively 8,y\r ,royal ,highness's dutiful & ob$i5t s]vant10 or 7a humbl] /yle7 8,y\r ,royal ,highness's dutiful & mo/ ob$i5t s]vant40 ,to all o!r ,royal ,pr9ces & ,pr9cesses ! end+ w\ld be 8,mo/ ,humble & ,ob$i5t ,s]vant40 ,sid5ote3 ,to a ,duke & ,du*ess4 ,dukes o!r ?an royal are address$ inside lett]s by intimates z 8,de> ,duke10 by o!rs 8,my ,"l ,duke1 may x please y\r ,grace40 ,9 writ+ to a ,du*ess h] title is plac$ above ! 8,madam40 ,9 =mal lett]s ,m>quises w\ld be address$ z 8,my ,"l ,m>quis40 ,sid5ote3 ,on omitt+ *ri/ian names f c\rtesy titles4 ,a v common =m ( mi/ake is t ( omitt+ ! ,*ri/ian "n f ! c\rtesy titles ( ! sons & daught]s ( dukes1 m>quises1 & e>ls4 ,! sons h ! title 8,"l0 prefix$ to ! ,*ri/ian & surname3 = in/ance1 8,"l ,alfr$ ,osborne10 8,"l ,h5ry ,som]set40 ,x is extremely incorrect to call ei!r ( ^! 8,"l ,osborne0 or 8,"l ,som]set40 ,! daught]s ( dukes1 m>quises & e>ls h ! title 8,lady0 be=e _! ,*ri/ian & surname2 8,lady ,emily ,h5eage10 = in/ance1 mu/ n be address$ z 8,lady ,h5eage40 ,%\ld %e m>ry a common] only ! surname is alt]$1 ! 8,lady ,emily0 rema9s4 ,?is may all appe> a little involv$ to ^? unaccu/om$ to titles1 b neglect ( ^! =ms indicates v cle>ly a lack ( savoir faire4 ,x is a s\rce ( great annoyance to ! own]s ( c\rtesy titles to h ! ,*ri/ian "n omitt$4 ,anybody1 ev5 a knight's wife1 may be a 8,lady ,smi?0 or 8,jones02 ! ins]tion ( ! ,*ri/ian "n be=e ! 8,smi?0 or 8,jones0 means t ! possessor is ! daught] ( a duke1 m>quis1 or e>l4 ,sid5ote3 ,beg9n+ a lett] to ! above4 ,9 beg9n+ a lett] to any ( ! above a /rang] w\ld say 8,de> ,lady ,m>y ,smi?10 b ! usual =m w\ld be 8,de> ,lady ,m>y40 ,inf]iors w\ld beg9 by writ+ ! lady's title ov] ! ^w 8,madam10 or m]ely beg9n+ 8,madam0 & writ+ ! title at ! end ( ! lett]4 ,sid5ote3 ,to an ambassador ) conclusion4 ,9 writ+ to an ambassador or 8 wife ! title is plac$ above ! ^w 8,sir0 or 8,madam40 ,inf]iors w\ld write 8,may x please y\r ,excell5cy10 & w\ld conclude ) 8,i h ! hon\r to be ,y\r ,excell5cy's mo/ humble1 ob$i5t s]vant40 ,sid5ote3 ,an ar*bi%op4 ,9 writ+ to an ar*bi%op a correspond5t w\ld beg9 8,y\r ,grace10 end+1 8,i rema9 ,y\r ,grace's mo/ ob$i5t s]vant40 ,sid5ote3 ,a bi%op4 ,to a bi%op ! =m w\ld be1 8,my ,"l10 or 8,"r ,rev]5d ,sir10 or 8,may x please ,y\r ,lord%ip10 ! la/ be+1 ( c\rse1 ! humble/ =m ( address4 ,! conclusion w\ld be1 ,i rema91 8,my ,"l0 7or 8,"r ,rev]5d ,sir07 8,y\r mo/ ob$i5t s]vant40 ,sid5ote3 ,a dean4 ,! beg9n+ ( a lett] to a dean w\ld be1 8,rev]5d ,sir0 or 8,mr4 ,dean10 ! title ( all ^! dignit>ies be+1 9 =mal lett]s1 indit$ above ! beg9n+4 ,^? hav+ slight acqua9tance w\ld beg91 8,de> ,mr4 ,dean40 ,/rang]s w\ld end ! lett]1 8,i h ! hon\r to be ,y\r mo/ ob$i5t s]vant40 ,sid5ote3 ,doctors ( ,div9ity4 ,doctors ( div9ity are address$ z 8,rev]5d ,sir10 z well z ar*deacons & all o!r cl]gy4 ,intimates w\ld beg9 lett]s to ! above )3 8,de> ,ar*bi%op10 8,de> ,bi%op10 8,de> ,dean10 or 8,de> ,doctor40 ,sid5ote3 ,(fic]s 9 ! army4 ,) ! sole exception ( lieut5ants 9 ! army1 all (fic]s h _! milit>y rank prefix$ to _! "n4 ,ensigns & lieut5ants are address$ z 8,esq40 ,sid5ote3 ,& navy4 ,9 ! navy admirals ( ! flag--:ite1 blue1 or r$--are address$ z 8,! ,hon\rable10 ?is be+ prefix$ to ! "n4 ,o!rwise a lett] w\ld beg9 8,sir10 & end1 8,i rema91 ,sir1 ,y\r ob$i5t s]vant40 ,commodores1 capta9s1 & lieut5ants 9 ! navy are all address$ 9 ! same way4 ,,p]sonal ,,spee* ,,) ,,royalty ,,& ,,rank4 ,sid5ote3 ,address+ ! ,que5 9 p]son4 ,x is sometimes difficult to "k h[ to address p]sonally p ( high rank4 ,! ,que5 is address$ z 8,ma'am0 by ^? imm$iately surr\nd+ h] p]son & by pr9cesses1 du*esses1 & o!rs :o are on t]ms t may be describ$ z ^? ( acqua9tance%ip ) h] ,maje/y4 ,all o!rs w\ld speak to h] z 8,y\r ,maje/y40 ,sid5ote3 ,! ,pr9cess ( ,wales4 ,! ,pr9cess ( ,wales & all o!r pr9cesses are 9 ! same way address$ z 8,ma'am10 or 8,y\r ,royal ,highness10 accord+ to ! position ( ! p]son speak+ to !m4 ,sid5ote3 ,! ,pr9ce ( ,wales & royal dukes4 ,! ,pr9ce ( ,wales1 ) all o!r royal dukes & pr9ces1 is address$ z 8,sir10 or 8,y\r ,royal ,highness02 ! ,duke ( ,teck z 8,y\r ,s]5e ,highness10 z well z _m =eign pr9ces4 ,equals w\ld address all ^! z 8,pr9ce40 ,sid5ote3 ,=mal & in=mal modes ( address+ nobility 9 p]son4 ,! foll[+ li/ w %[ ! correct modes ( address+ ! nobility in=mally & =mally1 9 conv]sation1 ! fir/ be+ ! cu/om among acqua9tances1 ! latt] by all o!rs3-- ,rank4 ,in=mal4 ,=mal4 ,duke ,duke4 ,y\r ,grace4 ,du*ess ,du*ess4 ,y\r ,grace4 ,m>quis ,"l ,a4 ,my ,"l1 or ,y\r ,lord%ip4 ,m>*ioness ,lady ,a4 ,my ,lady1 or ,y\r ,lady%ip4 ,e>l ,"l ,b4 ,my ,"l1 or ,y\r ,lord%ip4 ,c\ntess ,lady ,b4 ,my ,lady1 or ,y\r ,lady%ip4 ,visc\nt ,"l ,c4 ,my ,"l1 or ,y\r ,lord%ip4 ,visc\ntess ,lady ,c4 ,my ,lady1 or ,y\r ,lady%ip4 ,b>on ,"l ,d4 ,my ,"l1 or ,y\r ,lord%ip4 ,b>oness ,lady ,d4 ,my ,lady1 or ,y\r ,lady%ip4 ,x is "o ( ! rules ( etiquette t1 9 speak+ ) royal p]sons1 ! inf]ior leaves x to !m to orig9ate subjects ( conv]sation1 & nev] introduces any topic ( 8 own4 ,sid5ote3 ,lett]s ( condol5ce4 ,lett]s ( condol5ce are among ! mo/ difficult =ms ( composition4 ,!y are almo/ equally try+ to read & to write4 ,! be/ rule to be giv5 = ^! is to make !m z brief z possible4 ,if 8brevity is ! s\l ( wit10 x is also1 9 su* cases1 ! v he>t ( sympa?y4 ,a v usual fault committ$ is to beg9 by dilat+ ^u ! %ock or grief felt by ! writ]4 ,! absurdity ( ?is becomes app>5t :5 "o comp>es m5tally ! %ock or grief z felt by ! recipi5t4 ,two l9es convey+ ! expression ( sympa?y are bett] ?an pages ( ev5 ! mo/ eloqu5t composition4 ,m\rn]s require all _! =titude at times ( loss1 & any?+ likely to impair _! self-comm& is ! rev]se ( a k9dness4 ,sid5ote3 ,memoriam c>ds4 ,on he>+ or read+ ( ! dea? 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