,,transcrib]',s ,,note ,italic text is d5ot$ by und]scores4 ,bold text is d5ot$ by equal signs4 ,obvi\s typographical errors & punctuation errors h be5 correct$ aft] c>eful comp>ison ) o!r occurr5ces )9 ! text & consultation ( ext]nal s\rces4 ,m detail c be f\nd at ! end ( ! book4 ,,by ,,alfr$ ,,ayres4 ,"s ,ill-us$ ,words4 ,a ,manual = ! use ( ^? :o desire to ,write & ,speak ,correctly4 #ahmo4 ,clo?1 #a4jj4 ,! ,or?opi/4 ,a ,pron\nc+ ,manual1 conta9+ ab\t ,f\r ,?\s& ,five ,hundr$ ,words1 includ+ a consid]able numb] ( ! ,names ( ,=eign ,au?ors1 ,arti/s1 etc41 t are (t5 mispron\nc$4 ,revis$ & enl>g$4 #ahmo4 ,clo?1 #a4be4 ,! ,v]bali/4 ,a ,manual devot$ to ,brief ,discussions ( ! ,"r & ! ,wrong ,use ( ,words1 & to "s ,o!r ,matt]s ( ,int]e/ to ^? :o w\ld ,speak & ,write ) ,propriety4 #ahmo4 ,clo?1 #a4be4 ,! ,m5tor4 ,a ,little ,book = ! ,guidance ( su* ,m5 & ,boys z w\ld ,appe> to ,advantage 9 ! ,society ( ,p]sons ( ! ,bett] ,sort4 #ahmo4 ,clo?1 #a4jj4 ,act+ & ,actors2 ,,elocution ,,& ,,elocutioni/s4 ,) ,preface by ,h>rison ,grey ,fiske2 ,introduction by ,edg> ,s4 ,w]n]2 ,prologue by ,james ,a4 ,waldron4 ,gramm> )\t a ,ma/]4 ,! ,engli% ,gramm> ,,( ,,william ,,cobbett4 ,c>efully ,revis$ & ,annotat$4 #ahmo4 ,clo?1 #a4jj1 ,new ,york3 ,d4 ,,appleton ,,co41 #gb ,fif? ,av5ue4 ,,! ,,m5tor ,a ,,little ,,book ,,= ,,! ,,guidance ,,( ,,su* ,,m5 ,,& ,,boys ,,z ,,w\ld ,,appe> ,,to ,,advantage ,,9 ,,! ,,society ,,( ,,p]sons ,,( ,,! ,,bett] ,,sort ,,by ,,alfr$ ,,ayres ,,au?or ,,( ,,! ,,or?o,,pi/1 ,,! ,,v]bali/1 ,,etc4 ,virtue itself (f5ds :5 c\pl$ ) =bidd+ mann]s4--,,middleton4 ,well dress$1 well br$1 well c>riag$1 ,is ticket good en\gh to pass u readily ,?r\gh e door4--,,c[p]4 ,a good mann] is ! be/ ?+ 9 ! _w1 ei!r to get "o a good "n or to supply ! want ( x4--,,anonym\s4 ,illu/ration3 7publi%]'s colophon7 ,,new ,,york ,d4 ,,appleton ,,& ,,company #aijb ,,copyright1 #ahhd1 ,,by ,,funk ,,& ,,wagnalls4 ,,copyright1 #ahid1 ,,by ,d4 ,,appleton ,,& ,,company4 ,,prefatory ,,note4 ,to select well among old ?+s is almo/ equal to inv5t+ new ones4--,,trublet4 ,to be welcome 9 ! society ( p]sons ( ! bett] sort1 :o are always p]sons ( culture & ref9em5t1 we mu/ ourselves be p]sons ( culture & ref9em5t1 i4e41 we mu/ "k & practise ! usages t obta9 9 ref9$ society1 & h "s acqua9tance ) lett]s & art4 ,9 ?is _w x is only l t seeks l4 ,^? t h no?+ 9 common1 ^: culture & bre$+ are unlike1 ^: ?\ghts are on diff]5t ?+s1 nev] seek ! society ( "o ano!r4 ,:at po9ts ( sympa?y are !re betwe5 ! t[n gallant & ! c\ntry sp>k1 betwe5 ! city belle & ! dairymaid8 ,if "o w\ld be receiv$ 9 ! bett] social circles1 "o's culture mu/ be ( ! k9d f\nd !re1 &1 above all1 "o's mann]s mu/ be m>k$ by ! obs]vance ( ^? usages t are to ref9$ social comm]ce :at ! oil is to ! eng9e4 ,x is (t5 said t weal? is ! sure/ passport to ! bett] circles ( society4 ,no?+ c\ld be fur!r f ! tru?4 ,! sure/ passport to ! bett] circles ( society is moral wor?1 supplem5t$ ) education1 a ?+ t is made up ( two o!r ?+s--in/ruction & bre$+4 ,true1 a little money is necess>y to make "o's self pres5table1 b ?is little w always suffice4 ,weal?1 we "k1 contributes greatly to m5's social success1 & = good & obvi\s reasons2 b x does n contribute m to social success ?an does di/9ction 9 intellectual pursuits4 ,laudable a*ievem5ts w ev] h q z l>ge a foll[+ z ple?oric purses4 ,l&s & goods are n ! ?+s we set ! highe/ value on1 _m z !re are t seem to ?9k s4 ,?is little book w be1 ,i tru/1 ( "s s]vice to ^? m5 t w\ld bett] _! acqua9tance ) ! usages t gov]n 9 ! polite _w2 & ,i am sure t he t le>ns half z mu* by read+ x z ,i h le>n$ 9 mak+ x w feel well repaid = ! "t he gives to x4 ,a4 ,a4 ,mann]s are ! ornam5t ( action4--,,smiles4 ,mann]s are ! less] morals ( life4--,,ari/otle4 ,little m9ds are vex$ ) trifles4--,,la ,,ro*ef\cauld4 ,x is always easy to say a rude ?+1 b nev] wise4--,,/acy4 ,m>riage is ! true road to ,p>adise4--,,de ,,la ,,f]ri,,re4 ,gu>d ! mann]s if y w\ld protect ! morals4--,,davidson4 ,ang] bl[s out ! lamp ( ! m9d4--,,rob]t ,g4 ,,+]soll4 ,good temp] is ! ess5ce ( good mann]s4--,,anonym\s4 ,polit5ess is ! expression or imitation ( social virtues4--,,duclos4 ,"s p get into ! bad habit ( be+ unhappy4--,,george ,,eliot4 ,he t has no "* is n a man3 he is only a ?+4--,,*am=t4 ,contempt %\ld be ! be/ conceal$ ( our s5tim5ts4--,,anonym\s4 ,s[ good s]vices2 sweet remembrances w gr[ f !m4--,,mme4 ,,de ,,/a,l4 ,good mann]s are ! %ad[s ( virtues1 if n virtues !mselves4--,,anonym\s4 ,consid]ation = woman is ! measure ( a nation's progress 9 social life4--,,gr,,goire4 ,9 all pr(essions & occupations1 good mann]s are necess>y to success4--,,mrs4 ,,w>d4 ,self-love is a balloon fill$ ) w9d1 f :i* tempe/s em]ge :5 prick$4--,,voltaire4 ,mann]s are ! hypocrisies ( nations2 ! hypocrisies are m or less p]fect$4--,,balzac4 ,an e>?ly fa!r :o _c gov]n by affection is n fit to be a fa!r4--,,rob]t ,g4 ,,+]soll4 ,x is g5]ally all[$ t ! =m+ & ! p]fect+ ( ! "* is difficult4--,,anonym\s4 ,respect y\r wife4 ,heap e>? ar\nd t fl[]1 b nev] drop any 9 ! *alice4--,a4 ,,de ,,musset4 ,good mann]s is ! art ( mak+ easy ! p]sons ) :om we are br\ght into contact4--,,anonym\s4 ,"o %\ld *oose = a wife only su* a woman z "o w\ld *oose = a fri5d1 7 %e a man4--,,j\b]t4 ,x is a great mis=tune n to h en\gh wit to speak well1 or n en\gh judgm5t to keep sil5t4--,,la ,,bruy,,re4 ,exp]i5ce & obs]vation 9 society are ! *ief means by :i* "o acquires ! poli% t society dem&s4--,,anonym\s4 ,let :at y say be to ! purpose1 & let x be s said t if we =get ! spee* we may recollect ! mann] ( x4--,,anonym\s4 ,! art ( conv]sation consi/s less 9 %[+ "o's own wit ?an 9 giv+ opportunity = ! display ( ! wit ( o!rs4--,,la ,,bruy,,re4 ,!re is no sur] pro( ( l[ orig91 or ( an innate meanness ( disposition1 ?an to be always talk+ & ?9k+ ( be+ g5teel4--,,hazlitt4 ,7 we z eloqu5t z angels1 we %\ld please "s m51 "s wom51 & "s *ildr51 mu* m by li/5+ ?an by talk+4--,,lacon4 ,if y speak ! s5se ( an angel 9 bad words1 & ) a disagreeable utt]ance1 nobody w he> y twice :o c help x4--,,*e/]field4 ,"o ( ! mo/ effectual ways ( pleas+ & ( mak+ "o's self lov$ is to be *e]ful2 joy s(t5s m he>ts ?an te>s4--,,mme4 ,,de ,,s>tory4 ,to live ) our enemies z if !y may "s "t become our fri5ds1 & to live ) our fri5ds z if !y may "s "t become our enemies1 is n a moral b a political maxim4--,,anonym\s4 ,!re is no flatt]y s exquisite z ! flatt]y ( li/5+4 ,x may be d\bt$ :e!r ! greate/ m9d is ev] pro( aga9/ x4 ,socrates may h lov$ ,plato be/ ( all 8 disciples because he li/5$ be/4--,,anonym\s4 ,?\gh conv]sation 9 its bett] "p ,may be e/eem$ a gift1 & n an art1 ,yet mu* dep5ds1 z 9 ! till]'s toil1 ,on culture & ! s[+ ( ! soil4 --,,c[p]4 ,,cont5ts ,,p]sonal ,,appe>ance1 page #aa ,dress1 p4 #ab4 ,jewelry1 wat*es1 etc41 p4 #ah4 ,! hair1 p4 #ba4 ,! be>d1 p4 #bb4 ,! nails1 p4 #bd4 ,! tee?1 p4 #bd4 ,canes1 p4 #bg4 ,full dress1 p4 #bh4 ,dress at in=mal ga!r+s1 p4 #bi1 etc41 etc41 etc4 ,,at ,,! ,,d9n]-,,table1 page #ca ,invitations & answ]s1 p4 #cb4 ,punctuality1 p4 #cc4 ,h[ to ent] ! draw+-room1 p4 #cd4 ,:5 d9n] is ann\nc$1 p4 #cf4 ,be>+ at ! table1 p4 #cg4 ,s\p1 p4 #ci4 ,fi%1 p4 #dj4 ,! knife & =k1 p4 #dj4 ,asp>agus1 p4 #dc4 ,! spoon controv]sy1 p4 #de4 ,boil$ eggs1 p4 #dg4 ,w9e-dr9k+1 p4 #ec4 ,f+]-b[ls & doilies1 p4 #ee4 ,:5 to fold y\r napk91 & :5 n to1 p4 #ef1 etc41 etc41 etc4 ,,9 ,,public1 page #eh ,h[ to walk1 p4 #ei4 ,to /&1 p4 #fj4 ,to sit1 p4 #fa4 ,salutations1 p4 #fa4 ,! lady--:i* side 9 ! /reet1 p4 #fg4 ,9 public conveyances1 p4 #fg4 ,9 a c>riage1 p4 #fh4 ,h[ to c>ry umbrella or cane1 p4 #fh4 ,h&-%ak+1 p4 #gj4 ,/reet introductions1 p4 #ga4 ,/reet recognitions1 p4 #gb4 ,smok+1 p4 #gc4 ,humm+ & :i/l+1 p4 #gf4 ,! ball-room1 p4 #gg4 ,p>ty calls1 p4 #ih4 ,c>d-play+1 p4 #ih4 ,places ( amusem5t1 p4 #ajj4 ,applause1 p4 #aje4 ,rema9 to ! end1 p4 #ajf4 ,b>-rooms1 p4 #ajh1 etc41 etc4 ,,conv]sation1 page #aji ,,calls ,,& ,,c>ds1 8 #aef ,,odds ,,& ,,ends1 8 #afi ,,:at ,,is ,a ,,g5tleman8 8 #aii ,simple nature1 h[ev] defective1 is bett] ?an ! lea/ objectionable affectation2 &1 defects = defects1 ^? t are natural are m be>able ?an affect$ virtues4--,,sa9t-,,evremond4 ,,p]sonal ,,appe>ance4 ,dress *anges ! mann]s4--,,voltaire4 ,^: g>m5ts )] %all receive fad$ smiles4--,,%]idan ,,kn[les4 ,m5 ( s5se foll[ fa%ion s f> t !y are nei!r conspicu\s = _! excess nor peculi> by _! opposition to x4--,,anonym\s4 ,! fam\s ,fr5* pa9t]1 ,gir>d1 :5 q "y1 0 ! be>] ( a lett] ( introduction to a high (fic] at ! c\rt ( ,napoleon ,i4 ,gir>d 0 poorly dress$1 & 8 reception 0 cold2 b ! c\rti] discov]$ 9 him su* evid5ces ( tal5t & good s5se t on ,gir>d's ris+ to take leave1 he arose also1 & accompani$ him to ! ante*amb]4 ,! *ange 9 ! c\rti]'s mann] 0 s m>k$ t ,gir>d c\ld n suppress an expression ( surprise4 8,my "y fri5d10 said ! c\rti]1 8we receive /rang]s accord+ to _! dress2 we take leave ( !m accord+ to _! m]its40 ,good clo!s are f> f be+ suffici5t to ga9 "o admittance to ! bett] circles ( society1 b )\t !m admittance is impossible4 ,:5 we g out into ! _w1 x is n suffici5t to d z o!rs d1 we mu/ also dress z o!rs dress4 ,he is be/ dress$ ^: dress attracts lea/ att5tion2 & 9 ord] n to attract att5tion1 "o's dress mu/ be seasonable1 appropriate1 con=m to ! prevail+ fa%ion1 )\t go+ 9 ! lea/ beyond x1 & appe> to be com=table4 ,x requires some?+ m ?an a full purse to enable "o to dress well3 x requires s5se1 ta/e1 ref9em5t4 ,inde$1 dress may be consid]$ 9 ! light ( a f9e art4 ,x is a pretty sure index ( "*1 & few dress really well t w\ld n be consid]$ p]sons ( culture4 ,9 dress1 z 9 all ?+s else1 ! gold5 rule is to avoid extremes4 ,! man ( s5se & ta/e nev] we>s any?+ t is 8l\d10 fla%y1 or peculi>2 he yields always to fa%ion1 b nev] is a slave to x4 ,! fir/ ?+ to be consid]$ 9 ! repl5i%+ ( "o's w>drobe is ! mat]ial4 ,?is %\ld always be good4 ,l[ pric$ /uffs are r>ely1 if ev]1 *eap1 & !y are c]ta9ly n *eap unless1 ?\gh l[-pric$1 !y are ( good quality4 ,z a rule1 "o suit ( clo!s t co/s fifty doll>s does m s]vice ?an two suits t co/ ! same sum4 ,& !n ! l[-pric$ suit nev] looks well1 :ile ! high-pric$ suit looks well to ! la/1 if x is kept clean & c>e is tak5 to h x occasionally press$ into %ape--a fact t few m5 prop]ly appreciate4 8,co/ly ?y habit z ?y purse c buy1 ,b n express$ 9 fancy2 ri*1 n gaudy1 ,= ! app>el (t proclaims ! man40 ,!re is b "o way to get a good fitt+ %irt1 & t is to h x made4 ,nor is ?is all4 ,y mu/ try "o on & h x 8fitt$10 & !n h ! o!rs made exactly l ! patt]n %irt4 ,ne>ly e man has "o %\ld] l[] ?an ! o!r1 & if ?is peculi>ity is n consid]$1 ! bosom ( a %irt w nev] sit smoo?ly4 ,x w bulge on ! l[-%\ld] side4 ,= sev]al reasons x is bett] to h %irts made op5 9 ! back4 ,yet op5-back$ %irts are less worn n[ ?an !y 72 inde$1 ! fa/idi\s n[adays we> only %irts op5 9 front4 ,!y fit bett] ar\nd ! neck4 ,x is bett] to h ! coll> sep>ate & = "s reasons ! cuffs also--dress %irts except$1 p]haps4 ,let y\r coll>s always be 9 & /rictly )9 ! fa%ion1 unless y w\ld look l a r[dy1 9 :i* case y are at lib]ty to g to any extreme y please & to gratify any vulg> caprice y may *ance to h4 ,y\r cuffs %\ld be no l>g] ?an is necess>y to admit ( y\r slipp+ y\r h& ?r\gh !m :5 !y are button$4 ,:y %\ld a man we> a cuff s l>ge t "o may see up to 8 elb[8 ,a cuff s l>ge t x slips d[n ov] ! h& has an un/hetic1 sl\*y look1 besides be+ 9 ! way & be+ v uncom=table 9 w>m wea!r4 ,color$ %irts may be worn travell+1 9 ! c\ntry1 &1 "s say1 9 ! morn+ 9 t[n2 b mo/ m5 ( ta/e pref] :ite4 ,! patt]n ( color$ %irts %\ld always be small & ! color quiet4 ,if ! coat1 tr\s]s1 & ve/ ( bus9ess & morn+ suits are n made ( ! same clo?1 ! coat & ve/ %\ld be ( ! same1 & be d>k] ?an ! tr\s]s4 ,m5 t _c or d n *oose to sp5d mu* money ) _! tailor1 %\ld always select d>k /uffs4 ,a d>k morn+ suit may be worn on _m occasions :]e ! we>+ ( a light suit w\ld be 9 s+ul>ly bad ta/e4 ,! fa%ion %\ld be foll[$1 b bew>e ( go+ to extremes1 if y w\ld n be tak5 = "o ( ^? vulg>1 empty-head$ fops t1 if spr+-bottom$ tr\s]s1 = example1 are ! mode1 insi/ on !irs be+ made to bell out at ! bottom till _! legs look z ?\gh !y _h be5 put on bottom up4 ,! wr9kles & 8knees0 %\ld be press$ out ( tr\s]s ab\t e two weeks4 ,! m closely wov5 ! clo? ! long] a g>m5t keeps its %ape4 ,! ve/ %\ld be kept button$ f bottom to top1 & ! buttons on bo? coat & ve/ %\ld be r5ew$ z soon z !y beg9 to %[ ! effects ( we>4 ,!re is always some?+ 8,jakey0 9 ! appe>ance ( a man t goes ab\t ) 8 ve/ half button$4 ,bo? coat & ve/ %\ld be made snug ar\nd ! wai/ & loose ov] ! *e/4 ,a g>m5t t is tight ar\nd ! wai/ t5ds to make ! we>] /& /raight1 :ile "o t is tight ov] ! *e/ t5ds to make him /oop4 ,! c>riage ( m5 t d n we> susp5d]s is g5]ally bett] ?an t ( m5 t d we> !m4 ,if a s+le-brea/$ g>m5t is too tight ov] ! *e/1 ! tr\ble is g5]ally beyond rem$y1 z ! tailor _c add to ! front2 9 a d\ble-brea/$ g>m5t1 ! mov+ ( ! buttons g5]ally suffices4 ,s+le-brea/$ ov]coats1 made ) a 8fly10 are mo/ worn1 & are1 f e po9t ( view1 ! mo/ desirable4 ,a %ort-wai/$1 d\ble-brea/$ ov]coat has be5 a good deal worn by q "y m5 ( late4 ,x is fa%ionable1 & w\ld1 p]haps1 become g5]ally popul>1 if x did n t5d to make ! we>] look l a footman4 ,! man ( ta/e always selects = 8 ov]coats d>k1 quiet colors4 ,!re is no?+ a man we>s 9 :i* he %[s 8 s5se or 8 want ( x m ?an 9 8 boots & %oes4 ,! man ( s5se & ta/e has 8 %oes made long1 broad 9 ! sole & 9 ! %ank1 & ) a big & only mod]ately high heel4 ,no matt] :at ! fa%ion *ances to be1 if y see a man t p9*es 8 toes1 y may be sure x w\ld take a v small hat to p9* 8 head4 ,! %oe t does n look com=table nev] looks well4 ,!re are _m ( ! ,new ,york wom5 t we> %oes t di/ort ! feet & are mo/ uncom=table2 su* %oes1 h[ev]1 are r>ely1 if ev]1 se5 on ! feet ( ! ,new ,york ladies4 ,_m p]sons h "o foot long] ?an ! o!r4 ,9 su* cases1 ! %oe = ! long] foot mu/ be made long] ?an ! o!r1 o!rwise ! long] foot w look to be ! %ort] :5 clo!d4 ,?is1 is some?+ t few %oemak]s "k4 ,! clo? ( ! tops ( gait]s %\ld always be d>k4 ,fancy %oe lea!r is1 if possible1 m (f5sive ?an fla%y neckties4 ,%ort1 n>r[-to$1 high-heel$ %oes (t5 cause ! big-toe nails to gr[ into ! fle%4 ,if tak5 9 "t1 ! tr\ble is easily rem$i$ by scrap+ ! nail on ! top1 cutt+ x 9 a semilun> =m1 ) ! concavity look+ =w>d1 & rais+ ! corn]s & putt+ a bit ( cork or cotton "u !m4 ,! nails ( ! big toes %\ld always be ?us cut1 c>e be+ tak5 to leave ! corn]s long4 ,9 no?+ t a man we>s is x less desirable--9 ,new ,york1 at lea/--to be among ! fir/ to adopt a new fa%ion ?an 9 ! hat1 especially ! silk hat4 ,"h1 ! new /yles 9 silk hats are fir/ se51 z a rule1 on ! heads ( ! w>d politicians1 ! keep]s ( ! dr9k+ saloons1 & ! gambl]s4 ,! lea/ desirable hat = city we> is ! s(t felt4 ,besides hav+ a sl\*y look1 x is n easy to get x (f "o's head gracefully 9 salut+ an acqua9tance 9 ! /reet4 ,!y are little worn by any b a few long-hair$ m51 :o affect ! picturesque4 ,a man's jewelry %\ld be good & simple4 ,false jewelry1 l e o!r =m ( falsehood1 is vulg>4 ,unlike a woman's jewelry1 a man's %\ld always seem to s]ve a purpose4 ,to ?is rule !re is1 z we %all see1 b "o exception4 ,a man's wat*1 to be 9 ?or\ghly good ta/e1 %\ld nev] be v l>ge1 nor v ?ick1 nor elaborately *as$1 nor %\ld x h a hunt+-case1 unless 8 bus9ess or pleasure r5d]s him liable to break a cry/al1 :5 he is out ( ! easy rea* ( a jewell] to replace x4 ,v l>ge1 fancifully *as$ wat*es always h a common1 *eap look2 no man ( any ta/e ev] *ooses "o4 ,z a rule1 ! m valuable ! wat* ! pla9] ! case4 ,! hunt+-cas$ wat* is c>ri$ l>gely by m5 t1 9 a measure at lea/1 want a wat* = ! same reason t a peacock wants a tail4 ,probably z desirable a wat*1 9 appe>ance at lea/1 z c\ld be f\nd any:]e1 is a pla9-cas$ op5-fac$ wat*1 sold by ,tiffany ,co4 ,x has :at !y call _! extra ?9 movem5t4 ,no?+ 9 ! way ( a wat* c\ld be m ta/eful4 ,! wat*-*a9 %\ld always be small & ! patt]n pla94 ,if ! l9ks are *as$1 ! *as+ mu/ n be elaborate4 ,no?+ does m t[>d vulg>iz+ a man's appe>ance ?an a big1 elaborately *as$ wat*-*a94 ,inde$1 ! "y man t we>s su* a *a9 & atta*es x 9 "o ( ! l[] button-holes ( 8 ve/ has tak5 a long /ride t[>d mak+ himself look l a b>b]'s appr5tice4 ,wat*-*a9s t g ar\nd ! neck are no long] worn4 ,! ve/-*a9 %\ld be atta*$ ne>ly z high up z x w rea*1 9 a button-hole1 & n 9 a hole specially made = ! purpose4 ,if a locket or seal is worn1 x %\ld be v pla94 ,if a man we>s a r+1 x %\ld be on ! ?ird f+] ( ! left h&4 ,?is is ! only piece ( jewelry a man is all[$ to we> t does n seem to s]ve a purpose4 ,"s ,engli%m5 ( culture & high social position we> n[adays m ?an "o r+1 & we> r+s on ! little f+] z well z on ! ?ird2 b ?is is an example t nei!r ta/e nor discretion w\ld c\nsel an ,am]ican to foll[4 ,all k9ds ( r+s are worn by m5 except clu/] r+s2 !y are worn by wom5 only4 ,sc>f-r+s & coll>-buttons ) sett+s are 9 v bad ta/e4 ,diamond /uds are n worn by m5 ( ! bett] sort1 ev5 :5 9 ev5+ dress2 !y are consid]$ vulg> & o/5tati\s4 ,?ree /uds 9 a dress %irt are to be pref]r$ to "o4 ,inde$1 ! s+le /ud is z un>ti/ic z any?+ well c\ld be4 ,fa%ion *anges 9 jewelry1 z 9 ev]y?+ else2 b if a man foll[s ! rule3 8,pla91 good1 & seem to s]ve a purpose10 he w nev] g f> wrong4 ,x %\ld n be necess>y to add t ! we>+ ( imitation diamonds is ! v extreme ( vulg>ity4 ,a man ( ta/e w\ld z soon be se5 ) r+s 9 8 e>s z ) an imitation diamond p9 or /ud 9 8 %irt bosom4 ,! g5u9e diamond or none1 & t nev] 9 a brea/p91 unless y d n object to be+ tak5 = a horse-jockey2 & nev] 9 a /ud1 unless y are 9 full ev5+ dress1 &1 ev5 !n1 pla9 gold or :ite enamell$ /uds are to be pref]r$4 ,sc>f-p9s %\ld1 9 /rictness1 be worn only 9 ,claud5t1 ,ascot1 & puff sc>fs2 p]missible1 h[ev]1 9 f\r-9-h&s4 ,n[adays1 ) few exceptions1 m5 we> ! hair v %ort1 & ! exceptions are n f\nd among m5 ( ta/e4 ,! mo/ arti/ic & becom+ cut is t t trims ! hair v %ort on ! sides & back ( ! head1 & leaves x comp>atively long on ! top1 = ! reason t a high head is always m pleas+ ?an a l[1 broad "o4 ,! 8"p0 %\ld be high up--9 ! middle1 if "o *ooses to put x !re4 ,p>t+ ! hair d[n ! back ( ! head1 z "s m5 d1 is only a little less objectionable ?an ! pla/]+ ( a lock d[n on ! =ehead--a fa%ion mu* affect$ by b>t5d]s & wait]s 9 oy/] saloons4 ,! head %\ld be frequ5tly wa%$1 especially 9 w>m wea!r2 o!rwise1 ! hair w h a disagreeable odor4 ,bru%+ ) a bru% t rea*es ! sk9 t5ds to keep ! hair f fall+ out4 ,pomatums & o!r inv5tions ( ! b>b]s are no long] us$4 ,mo/ m5 look be/ ) a full be>d1 if x is kept prop]ly trimm$ & is o!rwise prop]ly c>$ =4 ,a man ) a be>d t rea*es d[n ov] 8 *e/ or ) a m\/a*e t is s long z to be 9 ! way is a disgu/+ object to look on4 ,m5 t we> su* be>ds are g5]ally m5 t are n happy unless !y make donkeys ( !mselves 9 "s way--if n 9 "o1 !n 9 ano!r4 ,if a man %aves a "p ( ! face only1 he %\ld %ave t "p t is mo/ prom95t4 ,a man ) a prom95t *9 & ?9 *eeks %\ld %ave 8 *9 & let 8 be>d gr[ on ! sides ( 8 face2 on ! contr>y1 a man ) a retreat+ or a light *9 & full *eeks %\ld %ave 8 *eeks & let 8 be>d gr[ on 8 *94 ,9 %ort1 ! be>d %\ld be s trimm$1 if worn full1 or s cut1 if only a "p is worn1 z to give regul>ity to ! outl9e ( ! face4 ,! ecc5tricities "s m5 indulge 9 9 cutt+ _! be>ds is 9 v bad ta/e2 s also is ! tra9+ ( ! m\/a*e to ! "r & ! left la gr5adi]4 ,?is practice gives a man ! appe>ance ( hav+ no?+ else to d or to ?9k (2 & !n x is pretty sure to get him into ! habit ( cont9ually tugg+ at 8 m\/a*e--a habit t is n q s bad z w\ld be t ( suck+ 8 f+]s1 b ! diff]5ce is n great4 ,! color nature has giv5 to a man's be>d is always ! "o be/ suit$ to 8 complexion4 ,he t *anges t color1 no matt] :at ! color is1 only vulg>izes 8 appe>ance4 ,e man1 no matt] :o he is1 %\ld be able to %ave himself quickly & well4 ,if he has difficulty 9 le>n+ to use ! razor1 he %\ld p]sev]e 9 8 endeavors to le>n1 all[+ no?+ %ort ( ! loss ( at lea/ "o e> to disc\rage him4 ,! man t %aves at all %\ld %ave e day2 no man looks pres5table ) a two days' gr[? ( be>d on 8 face4 ,%av+ %\ld be z mu* a "p ( ! regul> morn+ toilet z ! bru%+ ( ! hair4 ,sev]al razors are necess>y1 z all razors 8tire0 by cont9ual use4 ,! microscope has %[n t ?is tir+ is due to ! dis>rang+ ( ! p>ticles ( ! /eel1 & t :5 a razor is all[$ to re/ = a suffici5t l5g? ( "t1 ! p>ticles readju/ !mselves1 re/or+ ! razor to its orig9al usefulness4 ,mu* dep5ds on hav+ a good /rap & kn[+ h[ to use x4 ,! nails %\ld be kept mod]ately long--v %ort nails h a plebeian look--& be s cut t !y are a little m po9t$ ?an ! upp] ends ( ! nails are4 ,!y %\ld n be scrap$1 & 9 cutt+ c>e %\ld be tak5 n to encroa* too mu* on ! angles4 ,ei!r practice1 9 "t1 results 9 s]i\s injury4 ,!y _c be kept 9 good %ape )\t us+ a file4 ,( c\rse ! nails %\ld be kept scrupul\sly clean4 ,! tee? ( mo/ p]sons1 if prop]ly c>$ = f *ildhood1 w n only nev] a*e1 b w also la/ a lifetime4 ,b h[ few sets ( tee? are prop]ly c>$ = f *ildhood6 ,! condition ( _! *ildr5's tee? is a matt] t comp>atively few p>5ts pay any att5tion to until ! *ildr5 compla9 ( hav+ ! too?a*e1 :]eas !y %\ld see t _! *ildr5's tee? are kept scrupul\sly clean1 t ! cavities 9 !m are fill$ be=e !y get l>ge en\gh to d any s]i\s h>m1 & t a d5ti/'s aid is call$ 91 if necess>y1 to secure regul>ity4 ,art c d m--mu* m--?an mo/ p ?9k to make a *ild's tee? gr[ 9 regul>4 ,x has be5 (t5 said t ! *ief reason s _m ,am]icans h bad tee? is t !y eat s mu* c&y & o!r sweetmeats4 ,?is is an error4 ,?is is n ! *ief reason4 ,! *ief reason is t we1 9 common ) _m p]sons ( o!r nations1 d n use our tee? suffici5tly2 we live almo/ exclusively on food t requires v little ma/icat+2 & z = ! front tee?1 we sc>cely use !m at all4 ,! *ild t is f$ on h>d-tack is likely to h mu* bett] tee? ?an ! *ild t is f$ on porridge4 ,next to disuse1 acids--pickles1 lemons1 & ! l--probably d ! tee? mo/ h>m4 ,!n come ! practices t t5d to dis>range ! /oma*--eat+ betwe5 meals & ! eat+ ( un:olesome food--& ! habit ( brea?+ ) ! m\? op54 ,!re are _m fooli% p]sons t ?9k t d5ti/s d m h>m ?an good1 & t "s ( !m d n hesitate to bore holes 9 _! pati5ts' tee? & !n fill !m 9 ord] to increase ! am\nt ( _! bills4 ,!y d no?+ ( ! sort4 ,n t !re are no d5ti/s t w\ld be suffici5tly di%one/ to d su* a ?+1 b !y w\ld n get paid = _! labor1 x w\ld be s great4 ,! *ief h>m d5ti/s d is 9 extract+ a*+ tee?1 9 compliance ) ! wi%es ( _! pati5ts1 :5 ! tee? %\ld be treat$ & pres]v$ by fill+4 ,a too? mu/ be 9 a sorry condition :5 a d5ti/ w extract x = "o ( 8 own family4 ,let any "o t w\ld keep 8 tee? g to a good d5ti/1 & submit to 8 discretion1 & n presume to dictate 9 a matt] he kn[s no?+ ab\t4 ,no man t does n keep 8 tee? clean looks l a g5tleman1 if he %[s !m4 ,if "o's tee? h be5 neglect$ until !y h become discolor$ & h accumulat$ a cov]+ ( t>t>1 "o mu/ fir/ g to a d5ti/ & h ! discoloration & t>t> remov$1 aft] :i* x is n a difficult matt] to keep !m 9 good condition4 ,a too?bru% %\ld n be too wide1 & %\ld be us$ on "o r[ ( tee? at a "t4 ,a v wide bru%1 us$ on bo? r[s at a "t1 nev] rea*es ! edges ( ! gum--! po9ts :]e ! t>t> always beg9s to accumulate4 ,! too?-p[d] us$ mu/ be soluble2 if x is n1 x gets betwe5 ! gums & ! neck ( ! too?1 rema9s !re1 & t5ds to inflame ! p]io/eum4 ,= ?is reason1 nei!r pulv]iz$ *>coal nor cig>-a%es %\ld be us$4 ,z a bru% does n rea* betwe5 ! tee?1 a %>p5$ /ick %\ld occasionally be us$ ) a p[d]4 ,at long int]vals a little pumice-/one1 if necess>y1 may also be us$ ) a /ick1 b great c>e %\ld be tak5 n to let x get "u ! edge ( ! gums4 ,d5ti/s g5]ally use orange wood4 ,m5 t d n h _! hair frequ5tly cut1 keep _! faces clean %av51 & _! tee? clean are nev] welcome 9 ! society ( ladies1 %\ld !y *ance to "k any4 ,!y may be well receiv$ by wom5 ( ! l[] ord]s1 b wom5 t are ladies are nev] drawn t[>d m5 t d n h ! appe>ance ( be+ neat 9 _! p]sons4 ,ladies may & (t5 d tol]ate su* m52 9 fact1 !y are (t5 compell$ to tol]ate !m1 b !y g5]ally d x ) ill-conceal$ reluctance4 ,m5 ( ta/e t c>ry canes select ^? t are /rong1 pla91 /iff1 light1 & small4 ,v l>ge canes are 9 v bad ta/e1 especially = "y m54 ,a few h9ts conc]n+ ! we>+ ( a man's clo!s %\ld suffice4 ,a full-dress suit consi/s ( a swall[-tail$ coat1 a l[ :ite or black s+le-brea/$ ve/1 black tr\s]s1 a :ite necktie1 a /&-up coll>1 787 a high black hat1 &1 prop]ly1 ( a pair ( v light kid gloves4 ,?is dress %\ld nev] be worn until ev5+1 i4e41 nev] previ\sly to ! d9n] h\r1 no matt] :at ! occasion4 ,!re are a few m51 9 ! l>ge cities1 :]e !y d9e late--at six or sev5 o'clock--t put on _! dress suits regul>ly e day be=e d9n] & we> !m = ! re/ ( ! day4 ,a :ite necktie %\ld nev] be worn except ) a full-dress suit1 save by cl]gym5 & a few eld]ly m5 t nev] we> any o!r color4 ,black tr\s]s %\ld nev] be worn except ) a dress coat1 save at fun]als4 ,a high hat %\ld n be worn ) a sack coat1 especially if ! color is light4 ,a l[ hat %\ld n be worn ) a long coat--a d\ble-brea/$ frock1 = example4 ,/raw hats %\ld be worn only ) light summ] suits4 ,d>k suits are to be pref]r$ = ,sundays1 especially 9 t[n1 & light suits %\ld nev] be worn to *ur* any:]e4 ,d\ble-brea/$ frock coats %\ld always be ( black or gray mat]ial4 ,at small1 in=mal ga!r+s mo/ m5 consid] !mselves suffici5tly dress$ :5 !y we> black frock coats & d>k tr\s]s4 ,inde$1 !re is no good reason :y m5 %\ld appe> 9 full dress on any occasion :]e ! ladies d n we> full dress4 ,at public ent]ta9m5ts1 = example1 :]e ! ladies we> _! bonnets1 ! man t we>s a black frock coat1 d>k tr\s]s1 & light kid gloves is bett] dress$--because m appropriately--?an he t we>s a full-dress suit4 ,true1 ! practice ( we>+ su* a suit on su* occasions entails additional exp5se1 z o!rwise a bus9ess or walk+ suit & a dress suit may be made to s]ve = all occasions4 ,at home1 ! fir/ consid]ation ) pretty ne>ly e man w always be com=t4 ,no man1 h[ev]1 t has any reg>d = ! proprieties w ev] appe> at ! table1 :e!r !re are any /rang]s pres5t or n1 or w %[ himself to any "o ) :om he is n on a famili> foot+1 9 8 %irt-sleeves4 ,,at ,,! ,,d9n]-,,table4 ,good humor makes "o di% a fea/4--,,wa%+ton4 ,animals fe$1 m5 eat2 b only m5 ( intellig5ce "k h[ to eat4--,,brillat-,,sav>94 ,"s philosoph] has v tru?fully said t he mu/ be a v great man t c af=d to ignore social obs]vances4 ,he might h add$ t ( all places--9 ,engli%-speak+ c\ntries at lea/--! "o :]e a man c lea/ af=d to ignore social obs]vances is ! d9n]-table4 ,x is !re t ! well-br$ man & ! ill-br$ man are ! mo/ /rongly contra/$2 & ! man t does n !re con=m to ^? usages t con/itute :at is call$ mann]s is likely soon to f9d ! doors ( ! bett] h\ses clos$ aga9/ him4 ,inde$1 su* m5 are n likely ev] to f9d _! way )9 !m4 8,d9n]-p>ties rank fir/ among all ent]ta9m5ts1 be+ ( m frequ5t occurr5ce1 & hav+ m social significance ?an any o!r =m ( ent]ta9m5t4 ,an invitation to d9n] conveys a great] m>k ( e/eem1 or fri5d%ip & cordiality t[>d ! gue/ invit$1 ?an is convey$ ) an invitation to any o!r social ga!r+1 x be+ ! highe/ social complim5t t is (f]$ by "o p]son to ano!r4 ,x is also a civility t c be easily int]*ang$1 :i* 9 itself gives x an advantage ov] all o!r civilities40 ,an invitation to d9e %\ld be promptly repli$ to1 :e!r y accept or decl9e4 ,x may run ?us3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ---- reque/ ! favor or pleasure ( ,mr4 ----'s company at d9n] on ----day1 ! ----1 at ---- o'clock4 ,! reply1 if an acceptance1 may be word$ ?us3 ,mr4 ---- has ! pleasure to accept ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ----'s k9d invitation to d9n] on ! ----4 ,if ! invitation be decl9$1 "s good reason %\ld be /at$3 ,mr4 ---- regrets t1 ow+ to a previ\s engagem5t or 9 consequ5ce ( leav+ t[n1 etc4 he _c h ! pleasure ( accept+ ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ----'s k9d invitation = ! ----4 ,! answ]1 :e!r affirmative or negative1 %\ld be address$ to ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 & despat*$ )9 tw5ty-f\r h\rs1 if possible1 ( ! receipt ( ! invitation4 ,hav+ accept$ an invitation1 be punctual4 8,to be too late is a crime1 & to be too e>ly a blund]40 ,y %\ld n fail to arrive )9 a v few m9utes aft] ! "t nam$1 say )9 five1 or t5 at mo/4 8,d9n]10 somebody has said1 8is ! hope ( ! hungry1 ! occupation ( ! idle1 ! re/ ( ! we>y1 & ! consolation ( ! mis]able60 ,x is c]ta9ly ! ev5t ( ! day t %\ld be honor$ ) punctuality4 ,9 g5]al1 well-br$ p & p t d9e out frequ5tly1 make a po9t ( arriv+ 9 good "t4 ,x is n well to arrive be=e ! h\r nam$1 z y might f9d no "o 9 ! draw+-room to receive y4 8,x is said t ,beau ,brummell _h1 among o!r follies1 t ( *oos+ to be always too late = d9n]4 ,:5ev] he 0 invit$ he lik$ to be wait$ =4 ,he consid]$ x a pro( ( 8 fa%ion & consequ5ce2 & ! high] ! rank ( 8 ent]ta9]1 ! lat] 0 ! arrival ( ?is impud5t p>v5u4 ,! ,m>quis ( ,ab]corn _h on sev]al occasions submitt$ sil5tly to ?is trial ( 8 pati5ce1 b at l5g? he resolv$ to be> x no long]4 ,accord+ly1 "o day1 :5 he _h invit$ ,brummell to d9e1 he desir$ to h ! d9n] on ! table punctually at ! appo9t$ "t4 ,! s]vants obey$1 & ,brummell & ! *eese arriv$ toge!r4 ,! wond]+ ,beau 0 desir$ by ! ma/] ( ! h\se to sit d[n4 ,he v\*saf$ no apology = :at _h happ5$1 b coolly said1 #8,i hope1 ,mr4 ,brummell1 *eese is n disagreeable to y4' ,! /ory runs t ,brummell 0 nev] aga9 late at t h\se40 ,on ent]+ ! draw+-room1 )\t look+ to ! "r or ! left1 y w g & pay y\r respects to ! ho/ess1 !n to ! o!r memb]s ( ! family1 & f9ally to any acqua9tances y may recognize4 ,%\ld y be /opp$1 on y\r way to ! ho/ess1 by an acqua9tance ignorant ( ! proprieties1 y w n refuse to respond to 8 greet+1 b w make ! response z brief z civility w p]mit4 ,take good c>e t y d n (f] y\r h& ei!r to ho/ess1 ho/1 or to any o!r memb] ( ! family4 ,= obvi\s reasons1 any (f] to %ake h&s %\ld come f !m4 ,on leav+1 y may (f] y\r h& to ^? ( y\r ent]ta9]s t (f]$ _! h&s to y :5 y arriv$4 ,b if ! family is l>ge1 x is z well to conf9e y\r =mal leave-tak+ to ! ho/ess & ! ho/4 ,x is bett] n to g ab\t ! draw+-room to hunt up & take leave ( all ! memb]s ( ! family1 z "s m5 d1 especially if y are among ! fir/ to take leave4 ,( c\rse x is /ill worse to g ! r\nds & take leave ( ! :ole company individually4 ,9 su* a proce$+ !re is always some?+ egoti/ic & patroniz+4 ,9 a ^w1 nev] make m ado 9 leave-tak+1 :atev] ! occasion1 ?an is really necess>y4 ,if !re is a lady ) y1 y w n ent] ! draw+-room arm 9 arm nor side by side4 ,! lady1 or ! ladies--if m ?an "o--w ent] ! room 9 advance ( y4 ,g5tlem5 d n we> gloves at d9n]-p>ties4 ,:5 d9n] is ann\nc$1 ! ho/ess w give ! signal to leave ! draw+-room4 ,a g5tleman does n *oose ! lady he w take 9 to d9n]4 ,! *oice is made = him ei!r by 8 ho/ or 8 ho/ess4 ,(f] :i*ev] arm y please4 ,on ?is po9t ! au?orities diff]4 ,mo/ m5 pref] to h a lady take ! "r arm4 ,9 "s c\ntries ?is is a matt] ( real importance1 ! "r side be+ ! place ( honor4 ,9 pass+ ?r\gh doors y w take ! lead1 until y rea* ! d9+-room1 :5 y may let ! lady pass fir/4 ,%\ld !re be a flight ( /eps to desc5d t are s n>r[ t x is necess>y to proce$ s+le file1 y may all[ ! lady to pass fir/1 or--bett] p]haps--g a /ep or two 9 advance ( h]4 ,if y g d[n side by side1 give h] ! side t[>d ! wall4 ,arriv$ at ! d9+-room1 y w assi/ y\r lady to be seat$1 & wait till all ! o!r ladies are 9 _! places be=e y take y\r seat4 ,! ho/ rema9s /&+ 9 8 place until all 8 gue/s are seat$4 ,abroad1 ! "q ( prec$5cy is a v important "o4 ,9 ?is c\ntry x is p]haps suffici5t = ! y\ng] p]sons to yield ! pas to ! old] 9 pass+ f ! draw+-room to ! d9+-room4 ,a man's be>+ at ! table dep5ds v mu* ^u ! di/ance he sits f x4 ,he %\ld sit r close2 inde$1 x is r>e t we see any "o sit too ne> ! table1 :ile we (t5 see p sit too f> f x4 ,?is is a fault t is wellnigh univ]sal ) ! ,g]mans--a p ^: table mann]s ,i w\ld n c\nsel any "o to copy4 ,sit close to ! table1 & sit erect4 ,if no grace is said1 y w imm$iately proce$ to unfold y\r napk9 & spread x ov] y\r lap4 ,!re are ^? t w\ld tell y p>tly to unfold x & ?r[ x ov] "o knee2 o!rs w\ld tell y to ?r[ x ov] bo? knees2 b :5 x is simply ?r[n ov] y\r knees1 x _c s]ve ! purpose = :i* x is suppli$--t ( protect+ y\r clo?+4 ,9 fact1 ! clo?+ ( no man t has a heavy m\/a*e is out ( dang]1 unless he virtually makes a bib ( 8 napk91 a ?+ t f "t immemorial has be5 consid]$ a s9 aga9/ good usage4 ,m5 t are n slaves to fickle fa%ion1 to ! dicta ( nobody kn[s :om1 w use _! napk9s s z to accompli% ! object = :i* !y are provid$4 ,a man ( s5se1 h[ev]1 w consid] ! occasion1 & be gov]n$ some:at by x4 ,previ\sly to be+ s]v$ & dur+ ! waits t occur betwe5 ! c\rses1 d n play ) ! knives1 ! =ks1 ! spoons1 or ) any?+ t is be=e y4 ,leave ev]y?+ z y f9d x1 unless y %\ld f9d a piece ( bread on y\r "r h&1 9 :i* case y may remove x to y\r left4 ,z soon z y are help$1 beg9 to eat1 or at lea/ beg9 to occupy y\rself ) :at y h be=e y4 ,d n wait till y\r neighbors are s]v$--a cu/om t 0 long ago ab&on$4 ,nev] (f] to pass to ano!r a plate to :i* y h be5 help$4 ,:at y\r ho/ or ho/ess s5ds y y %\ld reta94 ,! second c\rse1 at all =mal d9n]s1 h[ev] s]v$1 is usually a s\p1 :i*1 if its consi/5cy & ! be>d on y\r upp] lip w admit ( x1 y w take f ! side ( ! spoon1 be+ c>eful ! :ile to make no noise4 ,bett] f> to put y\r spoon into y\r m\?1 h&le & all1 ?an to make a noise 9 sipp+ y\r s\p1 z "s p d1 t c be he>d all ov] ! d9+-room2 bett] also put y\r spoon into y\r m\? ?an to slobb] or to bespatt] y\rself4 ,! writ] w\ld h to mat]ially %ort5 8 m\/a*e1 or to g )\t 8 daily di% ( s\p1 if he _h to take x f ! side ( ! spoon4 ,he is n will+ to d ei!r4 ,s\p1 :5 practicable1 %\ld be sipp$ f ! side ( ! spoon1 n1 z mo/ p suppose1 because !re is any objection to putt+ a spoon 9 ! m\?1 b because to put ! spoon 9 ! m\? ! elb[ mu/ be ext5d$1 :]eas1 :5 we sip f ! side ( ! spoon1 ! elb[ rema9s almo/ /ation>y at ! side1 ! spoon be+ manipulat$ :olly ) ! =e>m--a mu* m graceful movem5t1 because simpl] ?an t t ! putt+ ( ! spoon 9 ! m\? r5d]s necess>y4 ,n only s\p1 b ev]y?+ else eat5 ) a spoon %\ld be sipp$ f its side :5 practicable1 b !n only4 ,= any "o to attempt to sip f ! side ( ! spoon c]ta9 s\ps t are usually s]v$ ne>ly z ?ick z porridge--pea1 bean1 & tomato ) rice1 = example--is absurd4 ,no?+ has a m vulg> look ?an an obvi\s endeavor to be f9e4 ,! spoon %\ld be fill$ by an outw>d r ?an an inw>d movem5t1 & ! plate %\ld nev] be tilt$ to get ! la/ teaspoonful4 ,if y\r s\p is too hot1 d n bl[ x1 b wait till x cools4 ,9 eat+ x sit upright1 & d n re/ y\r =e>ms on ! table4 ,silv] fi%-knives are n[ f\nd on mo/ tables4 ,:]e !re are none1 fi% %\ld be eat5 ) a bit ( bread 9 ! left h& & a =k 9 ! "r4 ,nei!r s\p nor fi%1 :]e !re is any c]emony1 is ev] (f]$1 mu* less accept$1 twice4 ,at ! table1 ! mo/ difficult & ! mo/ important ?+ to le>n is to use ! knife & =k ?or\ghly well4 ,to d ?is bo? mu/ be s held t ! ends ( ! h&les are directly 9 ! palms ( ! h&1 i4e41 :5 ! po9t ( ! knife is us$4 ,at all tables :]e f\r-t9$ =ks are provid$1 ! knife %\ld be us$ only to divide ! food1 nev] to convey x to ! m\?4 ,= ?is purpose1 we use ei!r ! =k1 a spoon1 or ! f+]s4 ,z ! =k is n[ us$ almo/ exclusively to convey all k9ds ( food t h any consi/5cy to ! m\?1 x is v desirable t "o %\ld "k h[ to use x prop]ly4 ,!re is a "r & a wrong way1 a skilful & an awkw>d way to use x1 z well z to use any o!r implem5t4 ,! =k mu/ n be us$ 9 ! left h& ) ! t9es po9t+ upw>d1 i4e41 spoon fa%ion4 ,p]sons t s use x1 ?\gh !y may & g5]ally d ?9k !y are do+ q ! prop] ?+1 are really do+ z awkw>d a ?+ z x w\ld be possible = !m to d at ! table4 ,!y h--!y w d\btless be surpris$ to he>--_! lesson b half le>n$4 ,food t is convey$ to ! m\? ) ! =k held 9 ! left h& %\ld be tak5 up ei!r on ! po9t ( ! t9es1 or on _! convex side4 ,9 ! "r h&1 ! =k may be us$ ) ! t9es po9t+ upw>d or d[nw>d1 z "o w4 ,previ\sly to ! adv5t ( ! f\r-t9$ silv] =k1 :i* 0 introduc$ into ,engl& f ! ,cont95t ab\t ! ye> #ahad or #ahae1 ev]ybody ate ) ! knife--! ,*e/]fields1 ! ,brummels1 ! ,bless+tons1 ! ,sav>9s1 & all4 ,! fa/idi\s 7 v c>eful1 h[ev]1 n to put ! knife into ! m\? edge fir/4 ,t 0 avoid$ by ! well br$ !n z mu* z ! putt+ ! knife into ! m\? at all is avoid$ by ! well br$ n[4 ,eat+ ) ! knife is n1 9 itself1 a griev\s (f5ce2 x does n1 z "s pret5d1 endang] ! lips1 ev5 ?\gh ! knife is us$ edge fir/4 ,x is simply a matt] ( prejudice4 ,yet y\r lady ho/ess w\ld r y w\ld speak ill ( h] fri5ds & make bad puns ?an eat ) y\r knife at h] table4 ,:y8 ,because y\r eat+ ) y\r knife at h] table w\ld argue1 n[adays1 t %e associat$ ) l[-br$1 uncultur$ p4 ,%\ld y1 h[ev]1 f9d y\rself at a table :]e !y h ! old-fa%ion$ /eel =ks1 eat ) y\r knife1 z ! o!rs d1 & d n let x be se5 t y h any objection to do+ s1 nor let x be kn[n t y ev] d o!rwise4 ,he t advis$ u 8to d 9 ,rome z ! ,romans d0 0 a true g5tleman4 ,! =k is us$ 9 eat+ su* vegetables z c be easily manag$ ) x2 ^? t _c be easily manag$ ) x are eat5 ) a dess]t-spoon--peas1 /ew$ tomatoes1 & succota%1 = example1 especially :5 !y are s]v$ 9 small di%es4 ,a high ,engli% au?ority says3 8,eat peas ) a dess]t-spoon1 & curry also40 ,asp>agus may be h&l$ ) ! f+]s ( ! left h&4 ,s may ,s>atoga potatoes & olives4 ,on ?is subject we rec5tly clipp$ ! foll[+ p>agraph f "o ( our p]iodicals3 8,t !re is a v>iety ( ways to eat asp>agus1 "o may conv9ce "o's self by a s+le visit to ! d9+-room ( any ( our fa%ionable summ] hotels4 ,!re "o w see all ! me?ods ( c>ry+ ! /alk to ! m\?4 ,b ! ,p>is ,fig>o1 9 "o ( its #8,conseils p> ,j\r1' on #8,h[ is ,asp>agus ,eat5 9 ,good ,society8' says3 #8,"o mu/ c>efully ab/a9 f tak+ ! /alk 9 ! f+]s to dip x 9 ! sauce & aft]w>d put x 9 ! m\?1 z a great _m p d4 ,! tip %\ld be cut (f & eat5 by means ( ! =k1 ! re/ ( ! /alk be+ laid aside on ! plate1 ( c\rse )\t be+ t\*$ by ! f+]s4 ,^? t proce$ 9 any o!r way are b>b>ians4' ,we may obs]ve1 9 reply to #8,pau de ,p>is1' t _m p]sons belong+ to ! be/ society d n hesitate to eat asp>agus la bonne franquette1 & yet are by no means #8b>b>ians4' ,we d n agree ) our confrre = two reasons4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 ! exquisite vegetable _c be prop]ly appreciat$ unless eat5 9 ! way t excites ! ire ( our contempor>y4 ,our second reason is t1 f an art po9t ( view1 !re _c be a m *>m+ sight ?an to see a pretty woman #8c>ess+' a piece ( asp>agus40 ,gre5 corn %\ld be cut f ! cob & !n eat5 ) a =k4 ,fir/ run y\r knife ?r\gh ! middle ( ea* r[ ( k]nels & !n cut !m (f4 ,a dull knife is ! be/1 because x does n really cut ! k]nels (f1 b =ces !m out ( ! hulls4 ,*eese is eat5 ) a =k1 or is plac$1 ) a knife1 on bits ( bread & c>ri$ to ! m\? ) ! ?umb & f+]1 c>e be+ tak5 n to t\* ! *eese4 ,pies & pts1 z a rule1 are eat5 ) a =k only4 ,sometimes1 h[ev]1 x is necess>y to use a knife to divide ! cru/1 b n (t54 8,jellies1 blanc-mange1 ic$ pudd+s1 & ! l are eat510 says an ,engli% au?ority1 8) a =k1 z are all sweets suffici5tly sub/antial to admit ( x40 ,?is may be v s5sible1 b x w seem to _m p]sons1 z x does to ! writ]1 to be v s5seless4 ,by & by ! =k mania w bani% ! spoon altoge!r4 ,9 a late numb] ( ! ,london ,que5 ?is =k-&-spoon "q is discuss$ z foll[s3 8,b to g back to ! debatable l&s ( our own compatriots1 & ! odd ?+s t "s d1 & ! undecid$ cases t /ill give rise to controv]sy4 ,!re is t battlefield ( ! =k & ! spoon1 & :e!r ! =m] ought to be us$ = all sweets :atsoev]1 ) ! exception ( cu/>d & gooseb]ry food1 :i* answ] ! "q = !mselves2 or :e!r x is n bett] to use a spoon :]e slipp]9ess is an elem5t1 & #8! solution ( cont9uity' a condition4 ,"s p hunt _! ice1 = example1 ) a =k1 :i* lets ! melt+ m>g9 drop ?r\gh ! prongs2 & "s /ick _! small trid5t into jelly1 at ! risk ( see+ ! :ole ?+ slip (f l an amorph\s1 transluc5t1 gold-color$ snake4 ,! same ) su* comp\nds z cu/>d pudd+1 crme r5v]se1 & ! l1 :]e x is a feat ( skill to skew] ! sep>ate morsels deftly1 & :]e a small sea ( unutiliz$ juice is left on ! plate4 ,?is monoton\s use ( ! =k & crav5 fe> ( ! vulg>ity ly+ 9 ! spoon seems to u m]e table snobb]y4 ,x is a well-kn[n ,engli% axiom t ! =k is to be us$ 9 pref]5ce to ! spoon :5 possible & conv5i5t4 ,b ! p :o use x always--:5 sc>cely possible & decid$ly inconv5i5t--are p s desp]ately afraid ( n do+ ! "r ?+1 t !y d ! wrong out ( v flunkeyism & ( fe> ( ,mrs4 ,grundy 9 ! corn]4 ,x is ! same ) ! law ( eat+ all s(t meats ) ! =k only1 abjur+ ! knife4 ,on ! "o h&1 y w see p c\rage\sly hew+ ) _! knives at sweetbread1 suprme de volaille1 & ! l2 on ! o!r1 ! snobbi% f9e "w !mselves into a fev] ) _! =ks aga9/ a cutlet1 & w\ld n = ! lives ( !m use a knife to cut ) ease t :i* by ma9 =ce & at great discom=t !y c te> asund] ) a =k40 ,if y h occasion to help y\rself f a di%1 or if any "o else helps y1 move y\r plate q close to ! di%4 ,at a d9n] s]v$ 9 c\rses1 x is bett]1 z a rule1 n to take a second supply ( any?+4 ,x might delay ! d9n]4 ,! ,engli% eat boil$ eggs f ! %ell1 a cu/om t is foll[$ to "s ext5t 9 ?is c\ntry2 b mo/ ,am]icans pref] to break !m1 or to h !m brok51 into a glass1 a mode t c]ta9ly has its advantages1 & t w comm5d itself to ^? t h n "t to dawdle ov] _! breakfa/4 ,9 notic+ a little book on mann]s t rec5tly appe>$1 ! ,new ,york ,sun feel+ly inveighs 9 ?is wise aga9/ eat+ boil$ eggs f a glass3 8,we are glad to ?9k t ! "t has gone by :5 ,am]icans ) any pret5sions to ref9em5t ne$$ to be in=m$ t an egg beat5 up 9 a glass is an unsightly mess t has (t5 turn$ ! /oma* ( ! squeami% look]-on4 ,^? :o _c le>n to eat boil$ eggs f ! %ell w d well to avoid !m altoge!r4 ,if ! au?or ( ?is h&-book _h wat*$ ,am]ican exp]im5ts ) exhau/ive att5tion1 he might h deem$ x well to add t no "p ( ! cont5ts ( ! egg %\ld be all[$ to drip d[n ! outside ( ! %ell1 & t ! egg%ell1 :5 deplet$1 %\ld be brok5 be=e be+ deposit$ on ! plate40 ,x w\ld seem to be z unpleasant to ! writ] ( ?is p>agraph to see an egg eat5 f a glass z x is to a ,bav>ian to see a man wait till he gets ov] ! ?re%old ( a lag]-be] saloon be=e he takes 8 hat (f4 ,a matt] ( m]e prejudice 9 bo? cases4 ,if an egg brok5 into a glass is really 8an unsightly mess10 !n let u h "s opaque egg-glasses4 ,bread %\ld be brok54 ,to butt] a l>ge piece ( bread & !n bite x1 z *ildr5 d1 is some?+ ! kn[+ nev] d4 ,9 eat+ game or p\ltry d n t\* ! bones ) y\r f+]s4 ,to take a bone 9 ! f+]s = ! purpose ( pick+ x is look$ ^u z be+ a v inelegant proce$+4 ,nev] ge/iculate ) y\r knife or =k 9 y\r h&1 nor hold !m po9t+ upw>d :5 y are n us+ !m2 keep !m d[n on y\r plate4 ,nev] load up y\r =k ) food until y are ready to convey x to y\r m\?1 unless y are fami%+ & y ?9k y\r life dep5ds on y\r n los+ a second4 ,nev] put y\r own knife into ! butt] or ! salt if !re is a butt]-knife & a salt-spoon4 ,if y are compell$ to use y\r own knife1 fir/ wipe x z clean z possible on y\r bread4 ,nev] use y\r own knife or =k to help ano!r4 ,use r ! knife or =k ( ! p]son y help4 ,nev] s5d y\r knife & =k1 or ei!r ( !m1 on y\r plate :5 y s5d = a second supply4 ,!re are sev]al good reasons = n do+ s1 & n "o good reason = do+ s4 ,nev] hold y\r knife & =k mean:ile 9 y\r h&1 ei!r1 b lay !m d[n1 & t1 too1 ) some?+ "u !m--a piece ( bread1 = example--to protect ! table-clo?4 ,nev] c>ry y\r food to y\r m\? ) any curves or fl\ri%es1 unless y want to look z ?\gh y 7 air+ y\r company mann]s4 ,bett] a p\nd ( awkw>dness at any "t ?an an ounce ( self-consci\sness4 ,nev] use a /eel knife to cut fruit if !re is a silv] "o4 ,nev] /ick y\r elb[s out :5 y use y\r knife & =k4 ,keep !m close to y\r sides4 ,hav+ f9i%$ us+ y\r knife & =k1 lay !m on y\r plate1 side by side1 ) ! h&les po9t+ a little to y\r "r4 ,?is w be tak5 by an exp]i5c$ wait] z an intimation t y are ready to h y\r plate remov$4 ,:5ev] y use ! f+]s to convey any?+ to ! m\? or to remove any?+ f ! m\?1 let x be ! f+]s ( ! left h&4 ,:5 y eat a fruit t has a pit or a sk9 t is n swall[$1 ! pit or sk9 mu/ be remov$ f ! m\? ) ! f+]s ( ! left h&1 or ) a spoon or =k 9 ! "r4 ,any o!r mode is mo/ (f5sive4 ,tea1 c(fee1 *ocolate & ! l are drunk f ! cup & nev] f ! sauc]4 ,put y\r spoon 9 ! sauc] %\ld y s5d y\r cup to be refill$2 o!rwise1 x may be left 9 ! cup4 ,nev] bl[ y\r tea or c(fee2 if x is too hot to be drunk1 wait till x cools4 ,9 h&l+ glasses1 keep y\r f+]s a goodly di/ance f ! top1 b d n g to ! o!r extreme2 & if y h&le a goblet or a w9e-glass1 take hold ( ! /em only4 ,take hold ( ! b[l j above ! /em4 ,9 help+ y\rself to butt]1 take at once z mu* z y ?9k y %all require1 & try to leave ! roll 9 z good %ape z y f9d x4 ,9 return+ ! knife1 d n /ick x into ! roll1 b lay x on ! side ( ! plate4 ,9 ma/icat+ y\r food1 keep y\r m\? %ut2 o!rwise y w make a noise t w be v (f5sive to ^? ar\nd y4 ,don't eat 9 a m9c+1 da9ty mann]1 z ?\gh y _h no appetite1 nor dev\r y\r food z ?\gh y 7 fami%+4 ,eat z ?\gh y reli%$ y\r food1 b n z ?\gh y 7 afraid y w\ld n get en\gh4 ,don't attempt to talk ) a full m\?4 ,"o ?+ at a "t is z mu* z any man c d well4 ,few m5 talk well :5 !y d no?+ else1 & few m5 *ew _! food well :5 !y h no?+ else to d4 ,p>take sp>+ly ( delicacies1 :i* are g5]ally s]v$ 9 small quantities1 & decl9e !m if (f]$ a second "t4 ,%\ld y f9d a worm or an insect 9 y\r salad or 9 a plate ( fruit1 h& y\r plate to a wait]1 )\t comm5t1 & he w br+ y ano!r4 ,see t ! lady t y escort$ to ! table is well help$4 ,anticipate h] wants1 if possible4 ,nev] tip y\r *air1 nor l\nge back 9 x1 nor put y\r ?umbs 9 ! arm holes ( y\r wai/coat4 ,nev] hit* up y\r sleeves1 z "s m5 h ! habit ( do+1 z ?\gh y 7 go+ to make mud pies4 ,if ! conv]sation t5ds to be g5]al--& x %\ld t5d to be g5]al at a small d9n]-p>ty--take good he$ t y1 at lea/1 li/51 :i* is ! only sure way ,i "k ( = e man to appe> to advantage4 ,nev]1 "u any circum/ances1 no matt] :]e y are1 cry out 8,wait]60 ,no man ( any bre$+ ev] does x4 ,wait till y c cat* ! att5dant's eye1 & by a nod br+ him to y4 ,unless y are ask$ to d s1 nev] select any p>ticul> "p ( a di%2 b if y are ask$ *oose promptly1 ?\gh y may h no pref]5ce4 ,if a di% is di/a/eful to y decl9e x1 & )\t comm5t4 ,nev] put bones or ! pits ( fruit on ! table-clo?4 ,put !m on ! side ( y\r plate4 ,always wipe y\r m\? be=e dr9k+1 9 ord] t y may n grease ! brim ( y\r glass ) y\r lips4 ,tak+ w9e ) p & ! dr9k+ ( toa/s at private d9n]s are no long] ! fa%ion4 ,e "o dr9ks mu* or little or none at all z he *ooses1 )\t attract+ att5tion4 ,if1 h[ev]1 y %\ld f9d y\rself at a table :]e ! old cu/om is obs]v$1 y w n invite y\r ho/ to take w9e ) y2 x is 8 privilege to invite y4 ,if y are invit$ to dr9k ) an acqua9tance1 & y d n dr9k w9e1 b[1 raise y\r glass ( wat]1 & dr9k ) him4 ,if y d dr9k w9e1 take ! same sort z t select$ by ! p]son y dr9k )4 ,x is consid]$ ill br$ to empty y\r glass on ^! occasions or to dr9k a full glass ( w9e at a draught on any occasion4 ,:ile on ! subject ( w9e-dr9k+1 x may n be amiss to obs]ve t 9 ,engl& x is consid]$ inelegant to say 8port w9e0 or 8%]ry w9e40 ,9 ,engl& !y always say 8port0 or 8%]ry40 ,on ! o!r h&1 no well-br$ ,fr5*man ev] speaks ( w9es 9 any o!r way ?an z 8,v9 de ,*ampagne10 8,v9 de ,bordeaux10 & s on4 ,?us we see t :at is ! wrong ?+ to d 9 "o c\ntry is ! "r ?+ to d 9 ano!r4 ,d n (f] a lady w9e till %e has f9i%$ h] s\p4 ,d n hesitate to take ! la/ piece on a di% or ! la/ glass ( w9e 9 a decant] simply because x is ! la/4 ,to d s is to indirectly express ! fe> t y w\ld exhau/ ! supply4 ,avoid pick+ y\r tee? at ! table if possible2 b if pick !m y mu/1 d x1 if y c1 :5 y are n obs]v$4 8,!re is "o cont95tal cu/om10 says ! ,london ,que51 8:i* ! true-born ,briton holds 9 holy horror--t is1 ! use ( ^? conv5i5t little l5g?s ( wood :i* to e =eign] are z necess>y to 8 com=t z a napk9 = 8 m\? or wat] = 8 f+]s4 ,we ,engli% reg>d ! use ( ! too?pick z a b>b>ism1 a horror1 an indec5cy1 & w\ld n take "o ( ^? clean wood5 spills betwe5 our lips = all ! _w4 ,nev]!less1 a great _m ( u :o w\ld %udd] at ! iniquity ( a too?pick1 ?ru/ our f+]s into our m\?s & free our back tee? ) ^! natural #8cure-d5ts1' :i* gives a s+ul>ly wolfi% & awful appe>ance to ! op]ator1 & makes ! onlook] regret ! insul> prejudice :i* w n r use ! univ]sal cont95tal too?pick1 :]e91 at lea/1 if prop]ly & delicately done1 is no k9d ( indec5cy or disgu/40 ,! proc$ure ) f+]-b[ls & doilies diff]s some:at on diff]5t occasions1 ! diff]5ce dep5d+ ^u ! "t ! b[l is br\ght1 & :e!r a little :ite napk9 comes ) x4 ,if ! b[l1 ) a doily only1 comes on y\r dess]t-plate1 y w remove x to y\r left1 plac+ ! doily "u x4 ,:5 y come to use ! b[l1 y w wet y\r f+]s 9 ! p]fum$ wat] x conta9s1 & !n dry !m on y\r napk94 ,b if a little :ite napk9 is br\ght ) ! b[l & doily1 y w use t to wipe y\r f+]s on4 ,x is entirely p]missible to wet ! corn] ( y\r table-napk91 or ( ! little :ite napk9 t comes ) ! b[l1 & pass x ov] y\r lips4 ,( c\rse1 y w\ld d ?is be=e putt+ y\r f+]s 9 ! wat]4 ,if !re are any fruit-/a9s on y\r f+]s1 y w use ! bit ( lemon t comes 9 ! wat] to remove !m4 ,if an accid5t ( any k9d soev] %\ld occur dur+ d9n]1 ! cause be+ :o or :at x may1 y %\ld n seem to note x4 ,%\ld y be s un=tunate z to ov]turn or to break any?+1 y w\ld make no apology4 ,y might let y\r regret appe> 9 y\r face1 b x w\ld n be prop] to put x 9 words4 ,nev] fold y\r napk9 :]e y are invit$ = "o meal only1 nor at a hotel or re/aurant1 b lay x loosely on ! table4 ,by fold+ x y w\ld intimate t y ?\ght "s "o else might use x be=e x _h be5 s5t to ! laundry4 ,b if y are at a fri5d's h\se = a day or two or long]1 !n y w d ) y\r napk9 z y see ! memb]s ( ! family d ) !irs4 ,at ! la/ meal1 h[ev]1 y %\ld lay y\r napk9 on ! table unfold$4 ,if ! ladies )draw aft] d9n]1 leav+ ! g5tlem51 rise :5 !y leave ! table & rema9 /&+ until !y h left ! room4 ,! g5tleman t is seat$ ne>e/ ! door or t is quicke/ ( movem5t %\ld op5 ! door = ! ladies to pass out & close x aft] !m4 ,x is no long] ! cu/om = ! g5tlem5 to rema9 at ! table = m ?an fifte5 or tw5ty m9utes1 in/ead ( f ?ree qu>t]s ( an h\r to an h\r1 z =m]ly4 ,inde$1 !re are ^? t look ^u ! cu/om ( rema9+ at all z a relic ( b>b>ism4 ,"o %\ld rema9 9 ! draw+-room f half an h\r to an h\r aft] d9n]4 ,to leave soon] w\ld betray a lack ( good bre$+4 ,if y w\ld be :at y w\ld l to be--abroad1 take c>e t y are :at y w\ld l to be--at home4 ,,9 ,,public4 ,polit5ess is z natural to delicate natures z p]fume is to fl[]s4--,,de ,,f9od4 ,polit5ess is a curb t holds our wors] selves 9 *eck4--,,mme4 ,,de ,,bassanville4 ,! sure/ way to please is to =get "o's self1 & to ?9k only ( o!rs4--,,moncrief4 ,to be polite1 x is suffici5t to consid] ! com=t1 ! feel+s1 & ! rights ( o!rs4--,,anonym\s4 ,:at if ! mann]s imitat$ are fripp]y2 bett] fripp]y ?an brutality2 &1 aft] all1 !re is little dang] t ! intr9sic value ( ! /urdie/ iron w be impair$ by a coat+ ( ev5 ! mo/ diaphan\s gilt4--,,edg> ,,allan ,,poe4 ,we all judge "o ano!r1 & v prop]ly1 too1 by ext]nals4 ,mo/ m5 appe> l :at !y are1 & !re are ^? t are s exp]i5c$ 9 judg+ _! fell[s by _! appe>ance & be>+1 t !y r>ely err4 ,x is q z true t ! sure/ way to appe> l a g5tleman is to be "o1 z x is t ! sure/ way to appe> l an hone/ man is to be "o4 ,life is made up ( little ?+s1 & att5tion to !m is evid5ce ( a great r ?an ( a little m9d4 ,to a l>ge und]/&+ ev]y?+ is important1 & he t mo/ readily desc5ds to little ?+s is also ! mo/ compet5t to compass great ones4 ,9 ano!r *apt] ! subject ( appe>ance is treat$ (2 9 ?is ,i purpose to treat m especially ( be>+4 ,if a man w\ld appe> l a g5tleman1 he mu/ walk1 /&1 & sit l "o4 ,9 walk+ he %\ld1 above all1 avoid ev]y?+ t is unnatural or t smacks ( self-consci\sness4 ,h[ (t5 d we see m5 9 ! /reet ^: e movem5t tells u _! m9ds are *iefly on !mselves6 ,"o ?r[s 8 *e/ out la d9don1 :ile ano!r walks ) an abnormal /oop2 b bo? delight 9 a k9d ( roll+1 swagg]+ gait & an unnatural sw+ ( ! arms4 ,we all "k1 :5 we see su* a man1 no matt] :at 8 appe>ance 9 o!r respects may be1 t he is a p]son ( l[ bre$+4 ,n only is a man's walk an index ( 8 "* & ( ! grade ( 8 culture1 b x is also an index ( ! frame ( m9d he is 94 ,!re is ! ?\ghtful walk & ! ?\ghtless walk1 ! responsible walk & ! c>eless walk1 ! work]'s walk & ! idl]'s walk1 ! +5u\s walk & ! insidi\s walk1 & s on4 ,9 a ^w1 :at !re is 9 u we all c>ry 9 ess5tially ! same way2 h5ce ! sure/ way to h ! c>riage ( g5tility is to h g5tility to c>ry4 ,x is also necess>y t a man %\ld pay att5tion to ! mann] 9 :i* he /&s1 :5 he is 9 ! pres5ce ( o!rs1 & especially :5 he is 9 conv]sation ) any "o t[>d :om he w\ld be at all respectful4 ,dropp+ 9 ! hip1 spread+ ! feet wide ap>t1 putt+ ! h&s beh9d ! back1 putt+ ! ?umbs into ! arm-holes ( ! ve/--9 %ort1 /&+ 9 a non*alant1 take-x-easy mann] is n p]missible4 ,"o %\ld /& /ill & erect--some:at la militaire--& ! be/ place = ! h&s is :]e ! attraction ( gravitation takes !m1 :5 ! muscles ( ! arms are relax$4 ,?is position1 to ! tyro1 seems unnatural1 /iff1 & ungraceful1 :ile1 9 fact1 x is natural1 graceful1 & respectful4 ,?is is "o ( ! fir/ ?+s a danc+ ma/] %\ld tea* 8 pupils1 & x always is "o ( ! fir/ ?+s taught ! le>n] = ! /age4 ,nor is ! mann] 9 :i* a man sits ( less importance ?an ! mann] 9 :i* he walks or /&s4 ,! well-br$ man does n loll & l\nge 9 8 *air1 unless he is 9 ! society ( famili>s1 :]e "o's society /rait-jacket may1 accord+ to circum/ances1 be m or less loos5$4 ,9 %ort1 t k9d ( com=t t is f\nd 9 loll+ & l\ng+ & rock+ & tipp+ back "o's *air is incompatible ) a respectful be>+4 ,among ?or\ghly well-br$ p ! _w ov]1 usage h]e9 is v exact+4 ,9 public1 ! b[ is ! prop] mode ( salutation1 also "u c]ta9 circum/ances 9 private2 &1 accord+ to circum/ances1 x %\ld be famili>1 cordial1 respectful1 or =mal4 ,an incl9ation ( ! head or a ge/ure ) ! h& or cane suffices betwe5 m51 except :5 "o w\ld be specially def]5tial to age or position2 b 9 salut+ a lady1 ! hat %\ld be remov$4 ,a v common mode ( do+ ?is 9 ,new ,york1 at pres5t1 p>ticul>ly by ! y\ng] m51 is to j]k ! hat (f & sl+ x on z ha/ily z possible4 ,z ha/e is incompatible ) grace1 & z !re is an old pantomimic law t 8e picture mu/ be held0 = a long] or %ort] "t1 ! j]k-&-sl+ mann] ( remov+ ! hat1 9 salutation1 is n to be comm5d$4 ,! empressem5t a man puts into 8 salutations is graduat$ by circum/ances1 ! mo/ def]5tial mann] be+ to c>ry ! hat d[n ! full l5g? ( ! arm1 keep+ x !re until ! p]son salut$ has pass$4 ,if a man /ops to speak to a lady 9 ! /reet he %\ld rema9 uncov]$1 unless ! conv]sation %\ld be protract$1 :i* x is sure n to be1 if ei!r ( ! p>ties kn[s & c>es to obs]ve ! proprieties4 ,a well-br$ man1 meet+ a lady 9 a public place1 ?\gh %e is a ne> relative--wife1 "m1 or si/]--& ?\gh he may h p>t$ f h] b half an h\r be=e1 w salute h] z def]5tially z he w\ld salute a m]e acqua9tance4 ,! pass]s-by are ignorant ( ! relation%ip1 & to !m 8 def]5tial mann] says3 8,%e is a lady40 ,well-br$ m5 (t5 remove _! hats :5 ill-br$ m5 keep !m on2 = example1 9 second-class re/aurants & especially 9 oy/] saloons4 ,aga91 ! ill-br$ man1 ?\gh he may p]haps remove 8 hat 9 su* places1 w we> x ! entire l5g? ( ! room on ent]+ & leav+1 :]eas ! well-br$ man c>ries 8 hat z he passes ! o!r gue/s4 ,s1 too1 ! ill-br$ man (t5 we>s 8 hat until he rea*es 8 seat at a place ( amusem5t1 ?\gh 8 seat is "o ( ^? t are f>!/ f ! entrance4 ,! well-br$ man raises 8 hat if he passes a lady1 ?\gh a /rang]1 9 ! hall ( a hotel1 on ! /airs1 if he does h] any little s]vice1 z ! re/or+ ( h] fan1 h] glove1 or any?+1 or if %e makes an inquiry ( him or he ( h]4 ,he w n1 h[ev]1 z "s w\ld h u d1 raise 8 hat if he passes a lady's f>e 9 a /reet c> or an omnibus4 ,a lady's f>e sometimes passes ?r\gh ! h&s ( sev]al m5 be=e x rea*es ! ca%-box4 ,%\ld !y all raise _! hats1 or only ! fir/ "o1 or only ! la/ "o1 or %\ld no "o8 ,! foll[+ def5ce ( my lovely c\ntrywom5 w n be :olly out ( place "h4 ,x is f 8,social ,etiquette10 & ,i fully agree ) ! writ]--ca%-box except$4 ,%e says3 8,a g5tleman lifts 8 hat :5 (f]+ a s]vice to a /range lady4 ,x may be ! re/oration ( h] k]*ief or fan1 ! receiv+ ( h] *ange to pass x to ! ca%-box ( a /age1 ! op5+ ( h] umbrella z %e desc5ds f a c>riage--all ! same2 he lifts x be=e he (f]s 8 s]vice1 or dur+ ! c\rtesy1 if possible4 ,%e b[s1 &1 if %e *oose1 %e also smiles h] ackn[l$gm5t2 b %e does ! latt] fa9tly1 & %e does n speak4 ,to say #8,?ank y6' is n an excess ( ackn[l$gm5t1 b x has ceas$ to be etiquette4 ,a b[ may convey m gratitude ?an spee*40 8,?is la/ in=mation is m especially furni%$ to =eign]s1 :o consid] our ladies ungraci\s 9 "s ( ^! cu/oms1 & indelicately =w>d 9 o!rs4 ,9 ! matt] ( ?anks to /rang]s = any little att5tions !y be/[ ^u ladies1 we beg leave to e/abli% our own me?ods1 & no "o f9ds x necess>y to imitate ! ,g]man1 ! ,fr5*1 ! ,engli%1 or ! ,spani% 9 ^! delicate matt]s40 ,! be/ usage dem&s t ! hat be remov$ 9 ent]+ (fices :]e ! occupants are f\nd uncov]$4 ,x is ! cu/om to remove ! hats 9 hotel elevators1 :5 !re are ladies 9 !m2 b x is s inconv5i5t to d s :5 ! elevator is full1 t x w\ld be well if ! cu/om 7 ab&on$4 ,x is a surplusage de politesse1 at ! be/4 ,good usage does n dem& t a man %all remove 8 hat :5 he has bo? h&s occupi$4 ,x is bett]1 h[ev]1 = a man to remove 8 hat1 :5 ! occasion dem&s x1 if he c d s at all easily1 z ! lady t he salutes may n be aw>e t1 hav+ bo? h&s occupi$1 he %\ld n be expect$ to d s4 ,if a man is driv+1 he salutes ) a fl\ri% ( ! :ip1 if he is c>ry+ x2 if n1 ! "r h& be+ free1 he removes 8 hat4 ,a g5tleman walk+ ) an acqua9tance1 lady or g5tleman1 raises 8 hat to ^? p]sons t 8 acqua9tance salutes2 he does n1 h[ev]1 d m ?an simply raise x4 8,!re may be circum/ances10 says ! au?or ( 8,social ,etiquette10 8:5 a g5tleman may lift 8 hat to a pass+ lady1 ev5 ?\gh he _c b[ to h]4 ,%e may be (f5d$ ) him1 & yet he may respect & feel k9dly t[>d h]4 ,he may des]ve h] disreg>d1 & x is p]mitt$ him to express 8 cont9u$ rev]5ce by uncov]+ 8 head 9 h] pres5ce2 b he has no "r to look at h] z %e passes him4 ,he mu/ drop 8 eyes40 ,if a man meets a lady ) :om he is b slightly acqua9t$1 he %\ld wait = a look ( recognition f h] be=e he salutes h]4 8,a great deal ( nons5se10 says ,l\ise ,*&l] ,m\lton1 8has be5 talk$ ab\t ! "q ( ^: place x is to b[ fir/ :5 a lady & g5tleman meet 9 ! /reet or 9 any public assembly4 ,x is v absurd to say t a man %\ld always wait until a lady has recogniz$ him4 ,9 ?is1 z 9 mo/ o!r matt]s1 common-s5se & mutual conv5i5ce are ! only guides4 ,_m ladies are ne>-sight$1 _m o!rs f9d great difficulty 9 rememb]+ faces4 ,are !y1 because ( ^! drawbacks1 to be always deb>r$ ( ! pleasure ( a *ance meet+ ) "s agreeable man8 ,! important ?+ ( c\rse is t a man %\ld n presume40 8,:5 two p meet :o are really acqua9t$1 x is n ! man :o %\ld necess>ily b[ fir/1 or ! lady--x is simply :i*ev] ( !m is ! fir/ to p]ceive & recognize ! o!r4 ,if a lady is walk+ & meets a man :om %e kn[s well1 & :o desires to speak ) h]1 he w ( c\rse n commit ! awkw>dness ( keep+ h] /&+ 9 ! /reet1 b if he has "t w beg p]mission to jo9 h] = a few mom5ts1 & walk beside h] long en\gh = a brief *at40 ,9 our wide /reets1 ! cu/om ( giv+ ! lady ! wall-side ( ! pavem5t is n rigidly obs]v$1 b x %\ld be 9 ! n>r[ ones1 unless ! /reet is "o v mu* frequ5t$1 l "s ( our d[n-t[n /reets1 :5 x is bett] = ! lady to be always on ! g5tleman's "r1 :]e %e w be less jo/l$ by ! pass]s-by4 ,:5 two m5 walk toge!r1 x is usual = ! %ort] "o to take ! upp] side ( ! pavem5t1 :i* r5d]s ! diff]5ce 9 height less obs]vable4 ,9 public conveyances ! well-br$1 consid]ate man (f]s 8 seat to any "o t seems to ne$ x m ?an he does--to ! ag$ & infirm1 = example1 no matt] :at social /ratum !y may appe> to belong to1 to wom5 ) bundles or babies 9 _! arms4 ,su* z ^! %\ld always take prec$5ce ov] y\?1 beauty1 or social position4 ,9 a c>riage a g5tleman always gives ! back seat to ladies accompany+ him4 ,if a g5tleman drives out ) "o lady1 he always places h] on 8 "r1 :i* is ! seat ( honor2 unless1 ( c\rse1 x is a "o-seat$ vehicle1 :5 he drives4 ,nei!r 9 a c>riage nor any:]e else %\ld a man put 8 arm ov] ! back ( ! lady's seat4 ,if a man 7 to d s1 _m ladies w\ld reque/ him to )draw x4 ,if m5 /op 9 ! /reet to conv]se1 !y %\ld be c>eful n to /op :]e !y w be 9 ! way ( ! pass]s-by4 ,we (t5 see ! ?\ghtless & inconsid]ate /op directly opposite a cross+4 ,9 c>ry+ an umbrella or a cane "u y\r arm1 d n publi% y\r awkw>dness by c>ry+ x 9 su* a way z to make a cross ( y\rself1 ) ! lance end /ick+ out beh9d y1 endang]+ ! eyes ( o!rs4 ,place ! h&le end "u y\r arm1 & let ! lance end po9t =w>d & d[nw>d4 ,unless y h some?+ ( importance to communicate1 d n /op an acqua9tance 9 ! /reet dur+ bus9ess h\rs1 or1 p]haps1 x w\ld be bett] to say at any "t4 ,if an acqua9tance %\ld /op y 9 ! /reet :5 y\r "t is limit$1 y may ) p]fect propriety c\rte\sly excuse y\rself & ha/5 =w>d4 ,:5 walk+ ) an acqua9tance1 d n leave him to speak to ano!r acqua9tance )\t a ^w ( apology4 ,%\ld y be walk+ ) a lady1 d n leave h] alone if y c well avoid x4 ,if y see an acqua9tance to :om y h some?+ to say 9 conv]sation ) "s "o else1 d n g up & take possession ( him aft] ! fa%ion ( ! unbr$4 ,let him "k t y w\ld speak ) him & wait 8 leisure4 ,if he is a man ( any bre$+1 he w n keep y wait+ long4 ,"o salutation to a p]son pass+ on a prom5ade or drive is all t usage requires4 ,good usage does n all[ a man to smoke :5 driv+ or walk+ ) ladies4 ,z a rule1 a man %\ld n (f] to %ake h&s ) a lady :5 !y meet on neutral gr\nd4 ,9 8 own h\se1 yes2 9 h]s1 c]ta9ly n4 8,!re is a "r & a wrong way to %ake h&s10 says an ,engli% writ]4 8,x is horrible :5 y\r un(f5d+ digits are seiz$ 9 ! %>p compass ( a k9d ( vise1 & wrung & squeez$ until y feel z if !y 7 r$uc$ to a jelly4 ,x is n less horrible :5 y f9d !m ly+ 9 a limp1 n]veless clasp t makes no response to y\r he>ty greet+1 b *ills y l a lump ( ice4 ,%ake h&s z if y meant x--swiftly1 /r5u\sly1 & c\rte\sly1 nei!r us+ an undue pressure nor fall+ :olly sup9e4 ,y may judge ( ! "* ( a man f ! way 9 :i* he %akes h&s4 ,z = ! cold-blood$ creatures :o au/]ely (f] y "o or two f+]s1 ,i recomm5d y to ignore !m2 look l(tily ov] !m1 z if unconsci\s ( _! exi/5ce &--_! f+]s4 ,b if a lady does y ! honor to (f] y h] h&1 take x ) an air ( grateful def]5ce t w %[ h[ y appreciate ! honor2 d n drop x in/antly z if ! t\* sc>$ y1 nor hold x s long z to cause h] a feel+ ( uneas9ess40 ,tight-fitt+ gloves--kid & dogsk91 = example--%\ld nev] be remov$ to %ake h&s ) any "o1 nor %\ld a man ev] say1 8,excuse my glove40 ,!re is less h&%ak+ done n[ ?an =m]ly4 ,if y meet an acqua9tance 9 ! /reet :5 y are walk+ ) a fri5d1 d n introduce !m2 nor %\ld y ev] introduce p 9 public places1 unless y h good reason to believe t ! introduction w be agreeable--nay m1 is desir$ by bo? p>ties4 ,! univ]sal introduc] is a v unpleasant p]son to associate )4 ,9 introduc+ p]sons1 x is ! l[] t is introduc$ to ! high]1 &1 z a rule1 ! y\ng] to ! old]1 ! g5tleman to ! lady4 ,no "o w\ld ?9k ( introduc+ an octog5>ian to a girl ( sixte54 8,! introduction t entitles to recognition hav+ be5 once made10 says ,mrs4 ,w>d1 8x is ! duty ( ! y\ng] p]son to recall himself or h]self to ! recollection ( ! old] p]son1 if !re is mu* diff]5ce 9 age1 by b[+ ea* "t ( meet+1 until ! recognition becomes mutual4 ,z p]sons advance 9 life !y look = ^! att5tions on ! "p ( ! "y1 & x may be1 9 "s in/ances1 t x is ! only way ! "y h ( %[+ _! appreciation ( c\rtesies ext5d$ to !m by ! old or middle-ag$40 ,! au?or ( 8,social ,etiquette0 says3 8,ladies :o ent]ta9 hospitably & possess ho/s ( fri5ds are likely to invite _m "y g5tlem5 ) ^: families !y are famili>2 b z !y seldom h an opportunity ( see+ _! "y fri5ds except = a mom5t or two dur+ an ev5+ p>ty1 x w\ld be /range if sometimes ^! ladies %\ld n fail to recognize a rec5t gue/ :5 !y meet on ! prom5ade4 ,"y g5tlem5 are ov]-s5sitive ab\t ^! matt]s1 & imag9e t !re mu/ be a reason = ! app>5t indiff]5ce4 ,t ! lady invites him to h] h\se is an evid5ce ( h] reg>d1 b %e _c *>ge h] memory ) ! features ( h] multitude ( "y acqua9tances1 mu* z %e w\ld l to %[ ?is c\rtesy to !m all40 8,%\ld any "o10 says an au?ority 9 su* matt]s1 8wi% to avoid a b[+ acqua9tance ) a p]son :o has once be5 prop]ly introduc$1 he may d s by look+ aside1 or dropp+ ! eyes z ! p]son approa*es2 = if ! eyes meet !re is no alt]native1 b[ he mu/40 ,if a g5tleman meets a lady acqua9tance 9 ! /reet1 x is optional ) h] :e!r %e w /op or n4 ,if ! g5tleman has any?+ to say to h]1 he %\ld turn & walk ) h] until he has said :at he has to say4 ,:5 he takes leave ( h] he w b[ & raise 8 hat4 ,!re is no "o ?+1 p]haps1 9 :i* ! diff]5ce betwe5 ! well-br$ man & ! ill-br$ man m appe>s ?an 9 ! mann] 9 :i*1 ! place :]e1 & ! "t :5 !y smoke4 ,! well-br$ man does n smoke1 nor does he seem to smoke1 to %[ (f1 :]eas ! ill-br$ man v (t5 smokes 9 a self-consci\s mann] t seems to say3 8,look at me6 see h[ skilfully my lips hold ?is cig>2 h[ ,i c %ift x f "o side ( my m\? to ! o!r )\t t\*+ x ) my f+]s1 & h[ well ,i c articulate ) x 9 my m\?2 9 %ort1 look y :at p]fect control ,i h ov] my labial muscles1 &1 hav+ se51 admire60 ,9 %ort1 !re are _m l[-br$ "y m5--v _m--t appe> to smoke only to display _!--imag9$--grace & skill1 :51 9 fact1 9 smok+ z !y d1 :]e !y d1 & :5 !y d1 !y b publi% _! vulg>ity4 ,su* m5 are c]ta9ly n ( ! sort t ,%akespe>e accuses ( hav+ a 8vault+ ambition40 ,z !y smoke *iefly = %[1 a poor cig> answ]s _! purpose z well z a good "o2 consequ5tly1 !y usually buy ( ! k9d t are sold at ! rate ( two = a c5t4 ,! well-br$ man1 on ! contr>y1 ! g5tleman1 ! man t smokes only = ! love ( x1 puts b z mu* ( 8 cig> 9 8 m\? z is necess>y 9 ord] to draw x1 keeps x 9 8 m\? no long] ?an is necess>y1 & nev] fails to remove x :5 he talks1 or passes any "o t[>d :om he w\ld be respectful1 especially a lady4 ,fur!r1 our be/-br$ m5 nev] smoke 9 any /reet at an h\r :5 x is mu* frequ5t$1 nor 9 any public place :]e smok+ is likely to be (f5sive to o!rs4 ,=tunately1 nei!r 8"y ,am]ica0 nor 8old0 is mu* giv5 to smok+ a pipe outside ( 8 own domicile4 ,:5 we see a pipe 9 our /reets or 9 public places x is g5]ally 9 ! m\? ( ei!r an ,engli%man1 a ,canadian1 or an ,iri% hodc>ri]4 8,give up to #8cads' & #8snobs' ! practice ( smok+ 9 ! /reets or 9 a !atre10 says ! au?or ( 8,! ,glass ( ,fa%ion40 8,g5tlem5 nev] smoke 9 ! /reets1 except at night10 says ano!r4 8,a well-br$ man w nev] pass a lady ) a cig> 9 8 m\?1 :e!r he kn[s h] or n1 n ev5 9 a des]t10 says yet ano!r4 ,f ano!r writ] we h3 8,9 ! eyes ( p]sons ( ! be/ culture1 a cig> or a cig>ette 9 a man's m\?1 9 public places1 vulg>izes 8 appe>ance2 h5ce m5 ( ! be/ fa%ion nev] smoke 9 ! /reet1 except at night40 8,9 ,engl&10 says ,mrs4 ,duffey1 8a well-br$ man nev] smokes 9 ! /reet4 ,are we oblig$ to say t ?is rule does n hold 9 ?is c\ntry1 or %all we repeat x ) an emphasis on ! well br$8 ,at all ev5ts1 no g5tleman w ev] insult a lady by smok+ 9 ! /reets 9 h] company2 & 9 meet+ & salut+ a lady he w always remove 8 cig> f 8 m\?40 ,spitt+ is "o ( ^? ?+s t no man %\ld d1 if he c avoid x4 ,if 9 ! /reet1 common dec5cy1 x w\ld seem1 %\ld prompt a man to g to ! gutt] if he f9ds x necess>y to spit2 & if any:]e else1 x %\ld prompt him n to spit on ! floor1 be ! floor c>pet$ or n4 ,we (t5 see m5 spit on a c>pet1 especially 9 our !atres1 b we nev] see any man spit on a c>pet ( 8 own4 ,ano!r disagreeable habit is t ( go+ ab\t s++1 humm+1 or :i/l+4 ,! man t habitually does any "o ( ^! ?+s1 ei!r 9 ! /reet--no matt] :at ! h\r--9 ! halls ( hotels1 z he goes up & d[n /airs1 or 9 8 own ap>tm5ts1 :5 !re is any "o )9 he>+1 has ! mann]s ( a boor1 & des]ves ! calaboose = disord]ly conduct4 ,po9t+1 too1 z a habit %\ld be avoid$1 especially po9t+ ) ! ?umb ov] ! %\ld]1 :i* is a v inelegant action4 ,ano!r vulg> habit to be avoid$ is t ( go+ ab\t ) a too?pick 9 ! m\?4 8,! ball is ! p>adise ( love10 says an ,engli% writ]4 8,9 ! happy spr+-"t ( life1 :5 ! bra9 is f]tile 9 pleasant fancies1 & ! he>t ?robs ) unexpress$ hopes--:5 e day br+s ) x a new pleasure1 & e night a new reason = look+ =w>d ) joy\s anticipation to ! morr[--:5 our en]gies are z exhau/less z our spirits1 & no s5se ( fatigue or we>9ess c oppress u1 ! ball-room becomes an en*ant$ _w ( light & music & p]fume1 into :i* t ubiquit\s #8black c>e' ( ! ,roman poet dur/ n intrude1 :]e sorr[ is nev] se51 & pa/ & future are =gott5 9 ! innoc5t intoxications ( ! pres5t4 8,to ! "y e>1 :at s delightful z m]ry music8 ,to ! y\?ful eye1 :at s attractive z ! spectacle ( fair =ms gracefully revolv+ 9 ! s(t1 sweet mazes ( ! my/ic dance8 ,& if we "k t #8at ! ball' we %all meet t #8o!r half' ( "o's self--,romeo or ,juliet1 z ! case may be1 b ,romeo )\t 8 melan*oly1 & ,juliet )\t h] trag$y--c x be wond]$ at t x draws u ?i!r ) an irresi/ible attraction8 8,ah1 :5 ! noontide comes1 & already ! %ad[s ( ev5+ ga!r ov] our d[nw>d pa?1 h[ w remembrance br+ back to u ! days :5 x 0 bliss to t\* "o belov$ h&1 to take "o tru/+ =m 9 our rev]5t embrace--:5 x 0 joy untold = ,romeo & ,juliet to tread ! pa9t$ floor toge!r1 &1 side by side1 to circle r\nd & r\nd to ! /ra9s ( ,/rauss or ,gung'l6 ,& !n1 9 ! pauses ( ! dance1 ! brief :isp] on ! cool balcony or b5ea? ! broad palms ( ! cons]vatory6 ,& la/ ( all1 ! privilege ( drap+ ^? graceful %\ld]s ) ! protect+ %awl1 & ! la/ sweet pressure ( cl++ f+]s z ,juliet pass$ into ! c>riage t 0 to be> h] f our wi/ful gaze60 ,if a "y man w\ld g into society--& e "y man %\ld g into society--& if he le>n to dance1 z mo/ "y m5 d1 he %\ld le>n to dance prop]ly4 ,to compass ?is end1 x is ( ! fir/ importance t he select a good tea*]4 ,!re are n a few ( ! danc+-ma/]s n[adays--"s ( ! m fa%ionable ones1 too--t are q ignorant ( ! art !y pret5d to tea*4 ,z a natural consequ5ce1 _! pupils dance badly1 if !y c be really said to dance at all4 ,!y are ungraceful1 & d n m>k ! "t1 nor make any p]ceptible di/9ction betwe5 ! diff]5t r\nd dances1 :]eas ea* r\nd dance prop]ly has a di/9ctive /ep & movem5t4 ,9 danc+ ! r\nd dances1 9 ord] to dance gracefully1 nev] b5d =w>d1 b c>ry y\rself erect1 & d n b5d 9 ! knees2 nev] put y\r arm ar\nd y\r p>tn]'s wai/ f>!r ?an is necess>y to hold h] securely2 nev] ext5d y\r left arm la pump-h&le1 b keep y\r left h&1 firmly hold+ ! lady's "r1 opposite & a little bel[ y\r left %\ld]1 & put x n[h]e else2 nev] pass ar\nd ! hall m rapidly ?an ! measure compels y to pass--rapidity is incompatible ) grace--& always po9t ) ! toe to ! floor :5 ! foot is rais$4 ,take %ort /eps1 & take !m ) z little evid5t muscul> ex]tion z possible4 ,grace & ease1 or seem+ ease1 are insep>able4 ,! mo/ popul> ( ! r\nd dances n[adays is a dance t is call$ a waltz1 ?\gh x is no m l :at we call$ a waltz tw5ty-five ye>s ago1 nor any m l ! only dance ! ,europeans call a waltz n[1 ?an a m9uet is l a c\ntry break-d[n4 ,its popul>ity is l>gely1 if n :olly1 due to ! comp>ative ease ) :i* x is le>n$4 ,! danc+-ma/]s say t ! 8old-fa%ion$0 waltz1 z x is n[ call$1 is too h>d to le>n2 t !re are few t c le>n to dance x well2 t ! danc]s n[adays c>e little = grace ( movem5t2 t if !y are amus$ !y are cont5t1 & s on4 ,if ! waltz--! g5u9e waltz--is ! mo/ difficult ( all ! r\nd dances to le>n1 x is also ! mo/ fasc9at+ ( !m all = ! accompli%$ danc]1 & ! mo/ pleas+ to ! look]-on1 because ( all ! r\nd dances its movem5ts are made ) ! mo/ grace1 dignity1 precision1 & bi5sance4 ,if = no o!r reason1 ! waltz--s call$--( to-day _c be danc$ gracefully on acc\nt ( ! backw>d movem5t x dem&s4 ,he t has nev] _h any /hetic tra9+ 9 ! movem5ts ( ! body1 & especially he t has no innate s5se ( ! graceful may ?9k diff]5tly1 b ?is is true nev]!less4 ,ano!r reason1 & a v important "o too1 t ! movem5ts ( ?is dance _c be made gracefully is because !y compel ! danc] to c>ry himself ) 8 %\ld]s ?r[n some:at =w>d & ) ! knees a good deal b5t--two ?+s t are incompatible ) graceful physical action4 ,b p]haps ! mo/ s]i\s objection to ! waltz ( n[adays is ! habit ( 8rev]s+0 t is indulg$ 9 by ^? t dance x4 ,rev]s+ is simply a b>b>ism1 z ^? t indulge 9 x d n & _c avoid bump+ aga9/ ! o!r danc]s4 ,a man t dances ! r\nd dances well1 & does n rev]se1 nev] runs aga9/ anybody2 he goes j :]e he wants to g1 & goes n[h]e else1 & he always wants to g /raight ar\nd ! sides ( ! hall4 ,! plea ( ! rev]s] is t if he turns "o way all ! "t1 he gets dizzy4 ,nons5se6 ,9 ! days :5 !re 0 no rev]s+ done1 nobody compla9$ ( dizz9ess4 ,if1 at fir/1 !re is a t5d5cy t way1 x soon we>s (f4 ,!re is surely no pleasure 9 danc+1 if "o is cont9ually jo/l$1 & z long z rev]s+ is practis$1 danc]s w cont9ue to jo/le "o ano!r4 ,no man1 ( c\rse1 c dance ! r\nd dances well & gracefully1 unless he has a good p>tn]4 ,if he makes ! attempt ) a lady t does n "k ! /eps1 or t seems desir\s to re/ h] head on 8 %\ld]1 he w be q c]ta9 n to succe$4 ,danc]s ( ! r\nd dances %\ld always keep z f> ap>t z ! l5g? ( ! g5tleman's arm w p]mit1 & bo? %\ld /& erect1 ) ! %\ld]s well back4 ,to dance o!rwise is vulg> 9 ! extreme4 ,9 ! r\nd dances1 good usage dem&s t y make frequ5t pauses1 & t y d n race r\nd & r\nd until ! music ceases4 ,if y w\ld exhibit y\r p[]s ( endurance1 ent] ! field z a *ampion runn]4 8,i c\ld rave10 says a high ,engli% au?ority1 8?r\gh ?ree pages ab\t ! innoc5t enjoym5t ( a good waltz1 its grace & beauty1 b ,i w be practical in/ead1 & give y a few h9ts on ! subject4 8,! position is ! mo/ important po9t4 ,! lady & g5tleman be=e />t+ %\ld /& exactly opposite ea* o!r1 q upright1 & n1 z is s common 9 ,engl&1 pa9fully close to ea* o!r4 ,if ! man's h& be plac$ :]e x %\ld be1 at ! c5tre ( ! lady's wai/1 & n all r\nd x1 he w h z firm a hold & n be oblig$ to /oop1 or b5d to 8 "r4 ,! lady's head %\ld !n be turn$ a little t[>d h] left %\ld]1 & h] p>tn]'s some:at less t[>d 8 left1 9 ord] to pres]ve ! balance4 ,no?+ c be m atroci\s ?an to see a lady lay h] head on h] p>tn]'s %\ld]2 %e %\ld ?r[ h] head & %\ld]s a little back4 8,russian m5 und]take to p]=m 9 waltz+ ! same feat z ! ,au/rians 9 rid+1 & w dance r\nd ! room ) a glass ( w9e 9 ! left h& )\t spill+ a drop4 ,?is ev5ness 9 waltz+ is c]ta9ly v graceful1 b x c only be obta9$ by a slid+ /ep t is little practis$ 9 ,engl&4 ,! pace1 aga91 %\ld n be s rapid z to endang] o!r c\ples4 ,! knees %\ld be v little b5t 9 danc+1 & ! body /ill less s4 ,i d n "k :e!r x is worse to see a man #8sit d[n' 9 a waltz1 or to f9d him ) 8 head pok$ =w>d ov] y\r "y wife's %\ld]1 hot1 r$1 wild1 & 9 f> too close proximity to ! p>tn] ( y\r bosom1 :om he makes lit]ally ! p>tn] ( 8 own4 8,! rem>ks z to ! position 9 waltz+ apply to all r\nd dances4 ,! calm ease t m>ks ! man ( good ta/e makes ev5 ! swifte/ dances graceful & agreeable4 ,vehem5ce may be excus$ at an election b n 9 a ball-room4 8,danc+1 if x is a m]e trifle1 is "o to :i* great m9ds h n be5 a%am$ to /oop4 ,locke1 = in/ance1 speaks ( x z manly1 ,plato recomm5d$ x1 & ,socrates le>n$ ! ,a!nian polka ( ! day1 :5 he 0 q an old man1 & lik$ x v mu*4 ,"s "o has ev5 gone s f> z to call x #8! logic ( ! body2' & ,addison def5ds himself = mak+ x ! subject ( a disquisition40 8,no?+10 says ,mr4 ,cecil ,b4 ,h>tley1 8w give ease ( mann] & a graceful c>riage to a man m surely ?an ! k ( danc+4 ,he w1 9 its practice1 acquire easy motion1 a light /ep1 & le>n to use bo? h&s & feet well4 ,"s p be+ ba%ful & afraid ( attract+ att5tion 9 a ball-room or ev5+ p>ty1 d n take lessons 9 danc+1 ov]look+ ! fact t x is ^? :o d n take "p 9 ! amusem5t on su* occasions1 n ^? :o d1 t attract att5tion4 ,to all su* m5 ,i w\ld say1 ,le>n to dance6 ,y w f9d danc+ "o ( ! v be/ means = correct+ ba%fulness40 ,?is is all v well & v s5sible1 b ! mo/ weighty reason :y a man %\ld le>n to dance lies 9 ! fact t e man t goes into society %\ld be qualifi$ to take "p 9 society amusem5ts--9 %ort1 to d :at o!rs d1 & to d x well4 ,"h are "s injunctions ,i f9d 9 8,! ,glass ( ,fa%ion30 8,be> y\rself ) mod]ation 9 ! livelie/ measure4 ,"s c\ples g ?r\gh a waltz z if !y 7 danc+ d]vi%es1 & indulge 9 an ab&on t1 to say ! lea/1 is indecor\s4 8,lead y\r p>tn] ?r\gh a quadrille2 d n haul h]4 ,a lady's wai/ %\ld be sacr$1 & !re c be no excuse = clasp+ x z if y want$ to /eady y\rself by x4 8,dance quietly4 ,d n g ?r\gh y\r /eps z if y 7 a danc+-ma/]2 nor move y\r limbs wildly1 z if y 7 execut+ an ,indian w>-dance4 8,i am n sure t a man 9 a dress-coat & black tr\s]s1 go+ ?r\gh a quadrille or cotillon1 c be consid]$ ei!r a noble or a beautiful sight2 b ,i am sure t x is bett] he %\ld dance z if he knew some?+ ab\t x1 ?an l a c\ntry cl[n :o mi/akes muscul> activity = grace4 8,above all1 d n be prone to qu>rel 9 a ball-room2 x di/urbs ! h>mony ( ! company1 & %\ld be avoid$1 if possible4 ,recollect t a ?\s& little d]elictions f /rict propriety may occur ?r\gh ! ignorance or /upidity ( ! aggressor1 & n f any int5tion to annoy2 rememb]1 also1 t really well-br$ wom5 w n ?ank y = mak+ !m conspicu\s by ov]-(fici\sness 9 _! def5ce1 unless1 inde$1 !re is a s]i\s violation ( decorum4 ,9 small matt]s1 ladies are bo? able & will+ to take c>e ( !mselves1 & w\ld pref] be+ all[$ to ov]:elm ! unlucky (f5d] 9 _! own way4 8,y g to a ball to dance1 & n to /& aga9/ ! wall1 or by ! door1 ) ! smirk ( priggi%ness on y\r fooli% face1 z if ! :ole ?+ 7 a baw1 & ev]ybody 9 ! room unwor?y ( y\r augu/ notice4 ,if ,heav5 only #8gave y to see y\rself z o!rs see y1' re/ assur$ y w\ld adopt no su* idiotic conduct40 8,a man :o c dance1 & w n dance10 says ,mrs4 ,w>d1 8ought to /ay away f a ball4 ,:o has n enc\nt]$ t especial type ( ill-br$ man :o l\nges ar\nd doorways or /rolls ?r\gh a suite ( rooms1 look+ z if !re 7 n a creature pres5t wor? danc+ )60 8,a g5tleman ( g5u9e polit5ess10 says ,mrs4 ,duffey1 8w n give all 8 "t & att5tion to ! belles ( ! ev5+1 b w at lea/ devote a little ?\ght to ! wall-fl[]s :o sit =lorn & unatt5d$1 & :o b = him might h no opportunity to dance40 ,! wall-fl[] is a plant f\nd 9 e ball-room1 yet no "y lady1 no matt] h[ pla9 & un9t]e/+ %e may be1 ne$ ev] be "o4 ,let h] le>n to dance well & %e w always h p>tn]s4 ,at balls1 ! "r ( introduc+ re/s ma9ly ) ! ladies & g5tlem5 ( ! h\se1 b a *ap]one may introduce a g5tleman to h] *>ge1 & if a man is intimate ) a "y lady he may ask h] p]mission to introduce a fri5d4 ,an invitation to a private ball1 l o!r invitations1 %\ld be answ]$ imm$iately4 ,! ball dem&s ! fulle/ ( toilets3 dress suit1 :ite necktie1 /&-up coll>1 & /raw-color$ gloves1 :i* look :ite at night4 ,! gloves %\ld be worn ! :ole ev5+1 except at supp]1 aft] :i* m5 t c af=d x (t5 put on a fre% pair4 ,if alone1 g f ! dress+-room to ! ball-room & pay y\r respects to ! ho/ & ho/ess4 ,if !re are "y ladies 9 ! family1 take ! e>lie/ opportunity to speak to !m & to ask "o ( !m to dance ! fir/ set ) y4 ,if %e is engag$1 y may ask h] to dance ) y lat] 9 ! ev5+1 & !n y are at lib]ty to look = a p>tn] among ! gue/s4 ,9 ask+ a lady to dance ) y1 if y "k h] b slightly1 or if y h b j be5 introduc$ to h]1 x is suffici5t to say3 8,%all ,i1 or may ,i1 h ! honor1 or ! pleasure1 ( danc+ ! next set ) y80 or 8,w y honor me ) y\r h& = ! next set80 8,an applicant = ?is honor is always c>eful to recognize ! (fice & au?ority ( ! *ap]one :5 mak+ 8 reque/4 ,?is is consid]$ no m respect ?an is due to ! lady :o has k9dly und]tak5 ! c>e ( ! "y lady at a ball40 ,at ! end ( e dance1 says an au?ority1 a g5tleman %\ld (f] 8 "r arm to 8 p>tn]1 & at lea/ take h] once ar\nd ! room be=e consign+ h] to h] *ap]one4 ,ano!r au?ority says t a g5tleman %\ld return ! lady directly to h] *ap]one z soon z ! dance is f9i%$4 ,he may l+] "h to conv]se ) h]1 b n else:]e4 ,at a ball a g5tleman is introduc$ to a lady only t he may ask h] to dance ) him--! acqua9tance1 !re=e1 r>ely goes any f>!r4 ,:e!r x %all or n is entirely optional ) ! lady4 ,%\ld !y meet aft]w>d1 ! g5tleman w wait = a recognition be=e he speaks4 ,nor %\ld a g5tleman t is introduc$ to a "y lady at a ball ask h] = m ?an two dances ! same ev5+4 ,inde$1 ! %[+ ( m>k$ pref]5ces 9 society is always 9 que/ionable ta/e4 ,x is c]ta9 t x is 9 ! be/ circles t we see lea/ ( x4 ,a g5tleman tak+ a lady 9 to supp] %\ld reconduct h] to ! ball-room2 ! fact ( fri5ds jo9+ h]1 9 ! supp]-room1 w\ld n relieve him ( ! duty4 8,:ile ! lady is supp+ y mu/ /& by & talk to h]10 says 8,! ,man 9 ! ,club-,w9d[10 8att5d+ to e want1 & ! mo/ y c take y\rself is a glass ( *ampagne :5 y help h]4 ,y !n lead h] up-/airs aga91 & if y are n want$ !re any m1 y may /eal d[n & d a little quiet refre%m5t on y\r own acc\nt4 ,z long1 h[ev]1 z !re are _m ladies at ! table1 y h no "r to beg94 ,no?+ m>ks a man "h s mu* z gorg+ at supp]4 ,balls are meant = danc+1 n = eat+40 ,9 an ,engli% "w ( high au?ority1 entitl$ 8,mix+ 9 ,good ,society10 ,i f9d ! foll[+ admonitions3 8,nev] ent] a ball-room 9 o!r ?an full ev5+ dress1 & :ite or light kid gloves4 8,a g5tleman _c be too c>eful n to injure a lady's dress4 ,?is he is sure to d if he dances a r\nd dance ) h] )\t gloves40 8,! "y wom5 ( ! c\ntry10 says ,col4 ,donan1 8s5d =? a huge1 univ]sal wail ( indignant prote/ aga9/ ! unglov$ m5 :o p]si/ 9 leav+ _! f+]-m>ks on ! backs ( delicately t9t$ dresses at fa%ionable g]mans1 hops & balls4 ,f ,cape ,cod to ,corpus ,*ri/i1 no danc+ p>ty ev] takes place t is n foll[$ by a day ( lam5tation & execration on ! "p ( ! unhappy girls :o wake f dreams ( waltz & galop & quadrille1 to f9d _! da9ty co/umes ru9$ by ! b>e-paw pr9ts ( m5 = ^: ru?less crime aga9/ dec5cy !re is no excuse4 ,! fa%ion ( go+ )\t gloves orig9at$ 9 ! vile/ =eign flunkeyism4 ,! ,pr9ce ( ,wales =got 8 gloves "o ev5+ :5 he w5t to ! op]a1 & consequ5tly 0 compell$ to appe> ) 8 h&s uncov]$4 ,! next ev5+ e as99e toady & swell 9 ! !atre %[$ 8 h&s 9 native nak$ness1 & ! vulg> ap]y 0 promptly caught up on ?is side ( ! ocean4 ,let g5tlem5 rememb] t no unglov$ man c pret5d to be fully dress$4 8,x is an affront to a lady to hold h] h& beh9d y1 or on y\r hip1 :5 danc+ a r\nd dance4 8,nev] =get a ball-room engagem5t4 ,x is ! greate/ neglect & slight t a g5tleman c (f] a lady4 8,if a lady happ5s to =get a previ\s engagem5t1 & /& up ) ano!r p>tn]1 ! g5tleman :om %e has ?us slight$ is b\nd to believe t %e has act$ f inadv]t5ce1 & %\ld by no means suff] 8 pride to ma/] 8 good temp]4 ,to cause a disagreeable sc5e 9 a private ball-room is to affront y\r ho/ & ho/ess1 & to make y\rself absurd4 ,9 a public room x is n less repreh5sible4 8,always rememb] t good bre$+ & good temp]--or ! appe>ance ( good temp]--are insep>ably connect$4 8,h[ev] mu* pleasure a man may take 9 a lady's society1 he mu/ n ask h] to dance too frequ5tly4 ,engag$ p]sons w\ld d well to be> ?is 9 m9d4 ,a ball is too =mal a place = any "o to indulge 9 p]sonal pref]5ces ( any k9d4 8,la/ly1 a g5tleman %\ld n g to a ball unless he has previ\sly made up 8 m9d to be agreeable2 t is1 to dance ) ! pla9e/ z well z ) ! mo/ beautiful2 to take d[n an eld]ly *ap]one to supp]1 in/ead ( h] lovely *>ge1 ) a good grace2 to ent] into ! _s ( ! dance1 in/ead ( hang+ ab\t ! doorway2 to ab/a9 f immod]ate eat+1 dr9k+1 or talk+2 to submit to trifl+ annoyances ) *e]fulness2 9 fact1 to =get himself1 & contribute z mu* z possible to ! amusem5t ( o!rs40 ,if a g5tleman t is invit$ to a h\se on ! occasion ( an ent]ta9m5t is n acqua9t$ ) all ! memb]s ( ! family1 8 fir/ duty1 aft] speak+ to ! ho/ & ho/ess1 is to ask "s common fri5d to introduce him to ^? memb]s t he does n "k4 8,?\gh n cu/om>y = m>ri$ p]sons to dance toge!r 9 society1 ^? m5 :o wi% to %[ _! wives ! complim5t ( su* an unusual att5tion1 if !y possess any indep5d5ce1 w n be det]r$10 says ,mrs4 ,w>d1 8f do+ s by _! fe> ( any comm5ts f ,mrs4 ,grundy40 8,! soon] we recov] f ! effects ( ! ,puritanical idea t cl]gym5 ought nev] to be se5 at balls1 ! bett] = all :o att5d !m10 says ,mrs4 ,w>d4 8,:]e x is wrong = a cl]gyman to g1 x is wrong = any memb] ( 8 *ur* to be se540 ,! sons ( a h\se :]e an ent]ta9m5t is giv5 mu/ = t ev5+ refra9 f engag+ 9 any flirtations1 or f %[+ 9 any way _! pref]5ces4 ,no?+ is m at v>iance ) good bre$+ ?an = !m to d o!rwise4 ,x is _! imp]ative duty to see t no "o is neglect$4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n take a vacant seat next to a lady t is a /rang] to him1 nor next to an acqua9tance )\t fir/ ask+ h] p]mission4 ,always give y\r p>tn] y\r undivid$ att5tion4 ,to let y\r eyes w&] ab\t ! room1 or to betray an int]e/ 9 o!rs1 is ! rev]se ( flatt]+ to h]4 ,:5 y conduct y\r p>tn] back to h] seat1 d n rema9 too long 9 conv]sation ) h]4 ,we g into society to take "p 9 a g5]al int]*ange ( civilities1 & n to engage 9 prolong$ tte--ttes4 ,!re is a v old injunction t says t y %\ld nev] wait till ! music beg9s to engage y\r p>tn]4 ,?\gh a g5tleman w\ld naturally give special att5tion to a lady he escort$ to a ball1 he %\ld leave h] e opportunity to accept ! att5tions ( o!rs4 ,any attempt to monopolize h] society1 ?\gh %e 7 8 betro!d1 w\ld be ?or\ghly plebeian4 ,he %\ld call = h] punctually1 tak+ a b\quet = h] if he *ooses1 or1 bett]1 if ! _s moves him1 s5d+ "o 9 ! aft]noon ) 8 c>d4 ,arriv$1 he leaves h] at ! door ( ! ladies' dress+-room1 & himself goes to ! g5tlem5's4 ,hav+ arrang$ 8 dress & put on 8 :ite kid gloves1 he goes & waits at ! ladies' room till 8 companion appe>s1 :5 he escorts h] to ! ball-room4 ,hav+ ex*ang$ salutations ) ! ho/ess1 he leads h] to a seat4 ,he w dance ! fir/ set ) h] & also ano!r set 9 ! c\rse ( ! ev5+4 ,on no acc\nt w he dance two sets ) h] 9 succession4 ,dur+ ! re/ ( ! ev5+1 x is 8 duty to see t %e is n neglect$1 t %e is provid$ ) p>tn]s1 & ) an escort to supp]4 ,f9ally1 he w be ready to conduct h] home :5 %e expresses a wi% to g1 & w p]sonally inquire aft] h] heal? ! next day4 ,! au?or ( 8,social ,etiquette ( ,new ,york0 settles a "q ( "s mom5t1 q to h] satisfaction1 & also1 ,i am will+ to believe1 to ! satisfaction ( ! ladies g5]ally1 9 ?is wise3 8,n[1 j at ?is po9t arises a "q t has long be5 9 dispute1 & x may z well be settl$ at once3 #8,:i* side ( ! /airway1 ! rail or ! wall1 %\ld be accord$ to a lady8' 8,x has be5 discuss$ by g5tlem51 z if x 7 a matt] = !m to decide1 :i* x is n1 by any means4 ,su* ladies z h be5 giv5 _! *oice h inv>iably said3 #8,p]mit me to take y\r left arm ) my "r h&1 & x does n matt] :e!r x is wall or rail t ,i am ne>e/ 9 go+ up or d[n /airs4 ,i c bett] c>e = myself ?an y c c>e = me4' 8,sometimes ! turn+ or curv+ ( ! /aircase s n>r[s ! /eps on ! rail side z to make !m dang]\s to he$less feet4 ,9 su* a case a lady mu/ cl+ to ! arm ( h] escort1 or else clasp ! rail ) h] fre% & tightly-fitt+ gloves1 :i* la/ %e is nev] will+ to d if %e c avoid x4 8,( c\rse a g5tleman _c always wait to exam9e ! ar*itectural peculi>ities ( a /aircase be=e he decides :i* arm w be/ satisfy ! lady :om he desires to b5efit4 ,he is safe 9 (f]+ h] 8 left4 ,if %e decl9es assi/ance1 %e w *oose :i* "p ( ! /airs %e likes be/ to asc5d1 & ! g5tleman w prec$e h] by two or ?ree /eps4 ,on go+ d[n1 he is always slightly 9 advance ( h]4 ,?is arrangem5t settles ! "q satisfactorily to ! ladies1 & g5tlem5 h really no "r to a *oice 9 ?is matt]40 8,(t5] ?an o!rwise10 says 8,social ,etiquette10 8! lady ( to-day does n lean ^u ! arm ( h] escort1 b advances into ! salon unassi/$4 ,inde$1 ! anci5t cu/om is fall+ into disuse 9 our fa%ionable society4 8,! lady prec$es ! g5tleman by a /ep or two1 :5 ent]+ or pass+ out f an ap>tm5t1 provid$ %e does n reta9 8 arm4 ,9 ! highe/ circles ( ,france1 ! lady ent]s sev]al /eps 9 advance ( ! g5tleman at a =mal reception4 ,our cu/om ( prec$5ce is n q s pron\nc$ z t40 ,if y leave a ball1 or p>ty ( any k9d1 be=e ! music ceases1 d x z quietly z possible1 9 ord] t y\r go+ may n be obs]v$ by o!rs & s break up ! p>ty4 ,if y meet ! ho/ess on y\r way out take leave ( h] 9 su* a mann] t o!r gue/s may n obs]ve y4 ,z = look+ = h] x is q unnecess>y4 ,p>ty calls1 z !y are t]m$--i4e41 calls to recognize ! obligation = hav+ be5 honor$ ) an invitation--are made on ! ho/ess on h] fir/ regul> reception day aft] ! ent]ta9m5t1 :e!r y 7 at x or n4 ,if %e has no regul> reception day1 !n a call %\ld be made1 or c>ds left1 )91 at ! f>!/1 t5 days4 ,?\gh a man may take no great pleasure 9 c>d-play+1 x is v desirable t he %\ld be able to play ^? games t are mo/ play$ 9 society--9 ?is c\ntry1 :i/ & eu*re = example4 ,a man %\ld g into society z mu* to make himself useful z 9 se>* ( amusem5t4 ,if a f\r? h& is want$ at a rubb]1 he %\ld be able n only to take x1 b to acquit himself fairly well4 ,9 g5]al society1 ! c>d-table is g5]ally res]v$ = eld]ly p1 :o always take prec$5ce ov] ! "y4 ,husb& & wife %\ld n play 9 ! same table1 except :]e ! company is s small t x _c be avoid$4 ,! supposition is t !y are s well acqua9t$ ) ea* o!r's mode ( play+ t !y w\ld h an unfair advantage4 ,!n aga91 m>ri$ p g into society to ex*ange civilities ) o!rs & n ) !mselves4 ,nev]1 "u any circum/ances1 *eat or wilfully violate ! rules ( ! game4 ,to d ei!r is to be guilty ( a species ( buffoon]y4 ,nev] lose y\r temp] at ! c>d-table4 ,y %\ld n play unless y c be> ill-luck ) composure1 & c pass ov] any blund]s y\r p>tn] may make ) s]5ity4 ,unless y are play+ ) famili>s1 d n urge any "o to play fa/]4 ,! pati5t man is nev] uncivil4 ,"s ungallant mon/] has said t wom5 h only two passions1 love & av>ice1 & t1 ?\gh ! latt] ill-becomes !m1 yet x is s /rong t !y c r>ely conceal x at ! c>d-table4 ,= ?is reason1 he adds1 x is always pa9ful to see !m play :5 !re is any /ake4 ,z a rule 9 good society1 9 ?is c\ntry1 no /ake is play$ =1 & :5 !re is--"h z else:]e--x is und]/ood t ?\gh "o does play ) money "o does n play = money4 ,:5 ! c>ds are be+ dealt by ano!r1 keep y\r h&s out ( ! way1 & d n t\* y\r c>ds until all h be5 dealt4 ,9 play+1 ?r[ y\r c>ds d[n quietly1 & n viol5tly1 aft] ! fa%ion ( ! c>d-play]s "o sees 9 lag]-be] saloons4 8,! new etiquette reg>d+ co/ume at places ( amusem5t began only lately to %ape itself into =mality 9 ,new ,york4 ,x is n[ consid]$ q prop] = a g5tleman to att5d an op]a 9 a mat9e suit1 provid$ seats h be5 tak5 else:]e ?an 9 a box1 b he is limit$ 9 8 visits betwe5 ! acts to su* ( 8 acqua9tances z are also 9 demi-toilet1 unless he goes to ! foy] to *at ) prom5ad]s4 8,if a g5tleman is 9 full dress1 he may visit ev]y:]e 9 ! h\se1 b he w n seat himself 9 ! or*e/ra or 9 ! dress circle1 because 8 toilet w appe> out ( h>mony ) ! sob]] g>m5ts ab\t him40 ,?us wrote ! au?or ( 8,social ,etiquette ( ,new ,york10 9 #ahgh1 & yet ! fact is t !re are _m m5 9 ,new ,york t are 9 ! habit ( we>+ full dress at all our bett] !atres on all 8fir/ nights10 no matt] :]e _! seats may be1 & always :5 !y g to ! !atre accompani$ by ladies4 ,?us we see t op9ions 9 ?is matt] diff] mat]ially4 ,to ! writ] x seems t a morn+ suit--black frock coat & d>k tr\s]s--is fully z appropriate z full dress on all occasions :]e ! ladies are n expect$ to be 9 full dress1 :i* !y are n 9 any ( our p>quets or dress circles4 ,!re is some?+ sorely incongru\s 9 ! picture pres5t$ by a lady 9 a sob]1 high-neck$ g[n & an ext5sive hat seat$ beside a man 9 a swall[-tail$ coat1 a l[-cut wai/coat & a :ite necktie4 ,& !n does x n look v mu* z ?\gh he _h no demi-toilet suit ) :i* to make 8 appe>ance correspond ) t ( ! lady8 8,social ,etiquette0 says fur!r3 8,he may prop]ly we> gloves :5 he is n 9 full dress1 z ?is slight =mality ( attire is 9 keep+ ) ! /yle ( 8 co/ume4 ,if he we>s a dress coat & an ev5+ necktie1 x is p]missible = him to appe> )\t gloves40 ,= sev]al ye>s gloves 7 little worn by m51 especially ) full dress1 ev5 at danc+-p>ties & balls1 b ( late ! we>+ ( gloves1 p>ticul>ly at p>ties & balls1 is ! rule r ?an ! exception4 ,an unglov$ man c]ta9ly nev] looks dress$4 ,f pres5t indications gloves w soon be z g5]ally worn z !y ev] h be54 ,a g5tleman invit+ a lady to g ) him to an ent]ta9m5t1 !atrical1 musical1 or :atev] x may be1 %\ld take c>e to d s betimes1 & also 9 case full dress w be necess>y to let h] "k x4 ,?is is a consid]ation t (t5 has great weight ) a lady 9 decid+ :e!r %e %all accept or n4 ,unless a lady is 9 full dress1 or ! wea!r is bad1 x is n g5]ally deem$ necess>y1 9 ! cities at lea/1 to provide a c>riage4 ,wom5 ( ! be/ sort d n l to see m5 put !mselves to any exp5se t is n really dem&$ :5 !y (f] !m a civility1 no matt] :at _! circum/ances may be4 ,x is economy & n lavi%ness t comm&s respect1 among s5sible p1 ! _w ov]4 ,! vulg> synonym = o/5tation1 rememb]1 is splurge4 ,y %\ld always try to be 9 y\r seat be=e an ent]ta9m5t beg9s1 & if1 unavoidably1 y are late1 y %\ld await a fitt+ "t to g to x4 ,!re are _m ?\ghtless1 inconsid]ate1 /upid p t if !y *ance to arrive dur+ ! progress ( ! be/ sc5e 9 a play1 or dur+ ! s++ ( ! f9e/ aria 9 an op]a1 w imm$iately g to _! seats1 ?\gh 9 do+ s !y di/urb ! :ole h\se1 arti/s & all4 ,if y arrive late & !re are any back seats unoccupi$ take !m tempor>ily1 & if !re are none unoccupi$ rema9 /&+ until y c g to y\r seats )\t di/urb+ any "o4 ,y h no m "r to di/urb o!rs at a place ( amusem5t ?an y h to pick _! pockets1 = :5 y di/urb !m y rob !m ( a "p ( t = :i* !y h paid _! money4 ,9 f9d+ ! way to seats1 ! g5tleman %\ld prec$e ! lady1 if !re is no u%]2 if !re is an u%]1 ! lady %\ld prec$e ! g5tleman4 ,! lady always takes ! inn] seat4 ,if x is necess>y to pass o!rs to rea* y\r seats1 turn ! face & n ! back to ^? y pass4 ,if y\r seats are easy ( access & y\r companion has g5tlem5 acqua9tances 9 ! audi5ce1 y ne$ n fe> t %e w upbraid y = leav+ h] two or ?ree times 9 ! c\rse ( ! ev5+1 dur+ ! pauses1 9 ord] to give !m an opportunity to visit h]4 ,no?+ delights ! female he>t m ?an to h a bevy ( g5tlemanly-look+ m5 ga!r ab\t h] 9 public4 ,if %e has no acqua9tances to visit h]1 %e %\ld n be left alone m ?an once dur+ ! ev5+1 & !n n = m ?an a few m9utes4 ,at a place ( amusem5t y %\ld nev] rel9qui% y\r seat 9 favor ( a lady1 unless %e is a fri5d ( y\r companion1 or is ag$ or infirm1 & n !n )\t fir/ gett+ y\r companion's cons5t4 ,consid]ate p]sons nev] talk s l\d at a place ( amusem5t z to di/urb o!rs1 & none b snobs ev] make rem>ks ab\t a p]=mance 9 a tone t c be he>d by ^? 9 _! neighborhood4 ,we sometimes enc\nt] a k9d ( snobbi%ness 9 play-h\ses & conc]t-halls t is mu* giv5 to talk+ to its companions & at ^? sitt+ ne>4 ,x (t5 belongs to p]sons t h 8done0 _m l&s1 glanc+ at ! outside ( _m h\ses & see+ ! inside ( a few4 ,if y w\ld eat c&y1 oranges1 apples1 or nuts or any?+ else at ! !atre1 y w\ld d well to g to ! gall]y4 ,!re ! eat+ ( fruit & sweetmeats is mu* less likely to attract att5tion ?an 9 o!r p>ts ( ! h\se1 :]e y w\ld g5]ally f9d y\rself surr\nd$ by p]sons t are /rongly oppos$ to mun*+ at places ( amusem5t4 ,!re are _m m5 9 ?is c\ntry--b n 9 ,europe--t seem to ?9k x b5ea? _! dignity to applaud at a place ( amusem5t4 ,x is nev] b5ea? any man's dignity to recognize ! obligation :5 ano!r ex]ts himself to please him4 ,applause is ! only way ! auditor has ( te/ify+ 8 appreciation ( a p]=m]'s ef=ts & skill4 ,nor is ?is all4 ,!re is a selfi% reason :y ! auditor %\ld applaud3 )\t ?is k9d ( enc\ragem5t no p]=m]1 no matt] h[ great 8 exp]i5ce1 c d 8 be/4 ,intellig5t applause is no small "p ( ! return an actor or s+] gets = 8 ex]tions4 ,gratitude & recognition are two ( ! sweete/ ?+s 9 life1 & ! lack ( !m makes m misan?ropes ?an ev]y?+ else put toge!r4 ,f9ally1 if y rema9 to ! end ( a p]=mance1 rema9 inde$ to ! end--rema9 9 y\r seat & rema9 quiet until ! la/ ^w has be5 spok51 or ! la/ note has be5 sung4 ,be n "o ( ^? unbr$ p]sons t :5 ! end approa*es beg9 to make ready to g1 or p]haps get up & pu% pa/ o!rs1 di/urb+ ev]ybody 9 ! h\se1 play]s z well z auditors1 9 _! selfi% ha/e to rea* ! door4 ,i repeat3 ,y h no m "r to di/urb o!rs at a place ( amusem5t ?an y h to pick _! pockets1 = :5 y di/urb o!rs y rob !m ( a "p ( t = :i* !y h paid _! money4 ,if y pass ?r\gh a door t is clos$1 leave x clos$4 ,if y pass ?r\gh a door t has a spr+ on x1 see t x does n slam4 ,if y\r feet are muddy1 f9d "s means ( clean+ !m be=e y pass ?r\gh anybody's door4 ,if y pret5d to wa% y\r h&s1 wa% !m2 d n simply wet !m1 & !n wipe ! dirt (f on ! t[el4 ,if y visit be]-saloons or oy/]-saloons1 d n copy ! phraseology ( ! wait]s2 ! m5 t d x are nev] m5 ( ref9$ in/9cts4 ,nev] cry out 8e9s10 aft] ! fa%ion ( ! wait]s 9 be]-saloons1 nor 8"o10 or 8a /ew10 or 8a fry10 z ! wait]s d 9 oy/]-saloons4 ,if y w\ld be wor?y to live among well-br$1 "r-?9k+ p y w always consid] ! int]e/1 respect ! rights1 & /udy ! com=t ( o!rs4 ,= example1 if y visit a read+-room :]e ! aim is s to keep ! newspap]s t any p>ticul> "o c be easily f\nd1 y w always be c>eful to put ^? y read back 9 _! prop] places2 y w nev] scrat* a mat* on anybody's wall or woodwork2 y w nev] spit on anybody's floor1 :e!r c>pet$ or n2 y w nev] walk ov] ! uphol/]$ seats ( a place ( amusem5t1 & s on4 ,! do+ or ! leav+ undone ( little ?+s is a sure index ( a man's bre$+ or ( 8 lack ( x4 ,if y w\ld pres]ve y\r heal?1 nev] dr9k any?+ b wat] betwe5 meals4 ,if y w\ld pres]ve y\r good "n1 keep away f b>-rooms4 ,if y w\ld pres]ve y\r self-respect1 keep away f b>-rooms4 ,if y w\ld pres]ve y\r good mann]s1 keep away f b>-rooms4 ,if y w\ld pres]ve y\r good looks1 keep away f b>-rooms4 ,if y w\ld keep out ( ! clut*es ( ! devil1 keep away f b>-rooms4 ,,conv]sation4 ,! fir/ rule ( speak+ well is to ?9k well4--,,mme4 ,,de ,,lamb]t4 ,att5tion is a tacit & cont9ual complim5t4--,,mme4 ,,swet*9e4 ,gravity is a /ratagem inv5t$ to conceal ! pov]ty ( ! m9d4--,,la ,,ro*ef\cauld4 ,to discuss an op9ion ) a fool is l c>ry+ a lant]n be=e a bl9d man4--,,de ,,ga/on4 ,to use _m circum/ances ere y come to matt] is we>isome2 & to use none at all is blunt4--,,bacon4 ,t is ! happie/ conv]sation :]e !re is no competition1 no vanity1 b only a calm1 quiet int]*ange ( s5tim5t4--,,johnson4 ,if y y\r lips ,w\ld keep f slips1 ,five ?+s obs]ve ) c>e3 ,( :om y speak1 ,to :om y speak1 ,& h[1 & :51 & :]e4 ,if y y\r e>s ,w\ld save f je]s1 ,^! ?+s keep meekly hid3 ,myself & ,i1 ,& m9e & my1 ,& h[ ,i d or did4 ,?\gh !re are n _m p]sons t seem to ?9k s1 /ill x is true t ! value ( no o!r accompli%m5t c be comp>$ ) t ( a ?or\gh k ( "o's "m tongue1 be t tongue :at x may4 ,! mo/ ( u d m or less talk+ 9 ! c\rse ( e "o ( our wak+ h\rs1 & we impress ^? t he> u1 favorably or unfavorably--z f> z our culture is conc]n$--accord+ to ! mann] 9 :i* we express ourselves4 ,! tones ( ! voice1 ! con/ruction ( our s5t5ces1 ! *oice ( our words1 & ! mann] 9 :i* we pron\nce & articulate !m--all h _! influ5ce 9 impress+1 ei!r favorably or unfavorably1 ev5 ! mo/ unlett]$4 ,h[ desirable !n x is t we %\ld cultivate ! graces ( spee*1 :i* are fir/ among ! rudim5ts ( ! ,art ( ,conv]sation6 8,!re is a "p ( our education10 says a clev] ,engli% writ]1 8s important & s neglect$ 9 our s*ools & colleges1 t x _c be too highly impress$ on ! "y man t proposes to ent] society4 ,i mean ! "p t we le>n fir/ ( all ?+s1 yet (t5 h n le>n$ well :5 dea? eases u ( ! necessity--! art ( speak+ our own language4 ,9 e-day life ! value ( ,greek & ,lat91 ,fr5* & ,g]man is small1 :5 comp>$ ) t ( ,engli%4 ,we are (t5 enc\rag$ to raise a laugh at ,doctor ,syntax & ! tyranny ( gramm>1 b we may be c]ta9 t _m misund]/&+s arise f a want ( grammatical precision4 8,!re is no society )\t int]*ange ( ?\ght1 & s9ce ! be/ society is t 9 :i* ! be/ ?\ghts are int]*ang$ 9 ! be/ & mo/ compreh5sible mann]1 x foll[s t ,a ,,prop] ,,mode ,,( ,,express+ ,,ourselves ,,is ,,indisp5sable ,,9 ,,good ,,society40 8,! commone/ ?\ght well put10 says ano!r ,engli% writ]1 8is m useful1 9 a social po9t ( view1 ?an ! mo/ brilliant idea jumbl$ out4 ,:at is well express$ is easily seiz$1 & !re=e readily respond$ to2 ! mo/ poetic fancy may be lo/ to ! he>] if ! language t conveys x is obscure4 ,spee* is ! gift t di/+ui%es man f ! l[] animals & makes society possible4 ,he has b a poor appreciation ( 8 privilege z a human be+ :o neglects to cultivate #8,god's great gift ( spee*4'0 8,! mann] 9 :i* ?+s are said10 says a ,fr5* philosoph]1 8is almo/ z important z ! ?+s !mselves4 ,= "o man t judges y by y\r ?\ght !re are tw5ty t judge y by ! mann] 9 :i* y\r ?\ght is pres5t$4 ,n only %\ld y\r words be well *os51 b y\r be>+ %\ld be self-possess$ & ! tones ( y\r voice agreeable40 ,m4 ,l4 ,h41 9 ,lipp9cott's ,magaz9e = ,febru>y1 #ahhc1 writes v in/ructively on ! art ( conv]sation z foll[s3 8,h[ seldom x is t "o enjoys ! pleasure ( a real conv]sation1 tak+ ! ^w to mean some?+ m ?an ! casual *at ( call+ acqua9tances1 & some?+ diff]5t f ! confid5tial int]c\rse ( famili> fri5ds6 8,!re is no pa/ime m delightful 9 its way ?an ! leisurely talk ( a company ( cong5ial p]sons met = ! simple enjoym5t ( "o ano!r's society1 ! agreeable int]*ange ( ideas & s5tim5ts1 & x w\ld seem t ?is pleasure %\ld be an easily atta9able "o4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 h[ev]1 ! ent]ta9m5t is n s *eap & easy to be _h z might be suppos$4 8,x is a privilege re/rict$ mo/ly to ! dwell]s 9 our l>g] cities1 :]e1 al?\gh social life may h a t5d5cy to =m itself into sep>ate circles1 yet ea* ( ^! has a circumf]5ce great en\gh to include a suffici5t numb] ( p]sons dispos$ to draw toge!r by natural aff9ities4 ,9 our small] prov9cial cities & t[ns !re is1 g5]ally speak+1 no?+ t c be call$ society1 & conv]sation is n a lo/ art1 b an art unkn[n4 ,9 su* places z ^! ! ho/ess :o %\ld (f] h] gue/s no o!r ent]ta9m5t ?an ! conv]sation ( _! equals w\ld1 ,i fe>1 be ?\ght to provide = !m b badly4 ,if ?is be true1 x c]ta9ly is a reflection ^u ^? :o compose ?is prov9cial society s call$3 x seems to argue a lack ( bra9s1 culture1 & social tact1 :5 ! result ( _! ga!r+ toge!r is only a common bor$om4 8,yet1 on second ?\ghts1 ?is inability to make conv]sation a mutually agreeable ?+ has its p>tial explanation 9 ! circum/ances ( ! case4 ,ea* unit ( ! small prov9cial :ole lives 9 a n>r[ r\nd ( 8 own2 8 occupations & int]e/s are necess>ily mu* ! same z ^? ( 8 neighbor1 & x is n possible = ei!r ( !m to br+ any?+ v novel or amus+ by way ( contribution to ! social repa/4 ,! daily life ( ! resid5t ( a l>ge city is1 by comp>ison1 inf9itely v>i$ & full ( incid5t2 he d9es to-day ) ,b4 & meets ,c4 & ,d41 b to-day is n ! simple repetition ( ye/]day1 = !n x 0 ,a4 t ent]ta9$ him1 & ! gue/s 7 ,e4 & ,f4 8,d\btless !re is an ideal ( conv]sation t is n commonly realiz$4 ,x implies ! ga!r+ toge!r ( a c]ta9--n too l>ge--numb] ( m5 & wom51 ea* ( :om is bo? able & will+ to play 8 individual "p4 ,x does n ne$ ! possession ( brilliant gifts 9 e memb]1 nor ev5 9 any "o memb] ( ! company2 x ne$s only a fair am\nt ( intellig5ce & culture1 & ( t ready p]ception ( ! drift & mean+ ( ! words ( o!rs1 :i* may be call$ a sort ( intellectual tact4 #8,! :ole =ce ( conv]sation1' x has be5 said1 #8dep5ds ^u h[ mu* y c take = grant$4 ,vulg> *ess-play]s h to play ! game out4' 8,m ?an any?+ else1 conv]sation implies individual self-abnegation1 ! putt+ out ( sight ( l>ge egotisms & small vanities1 & cont5tm5t ) "o's due %>e ( att5tion only4 ,!re ne$ n be agreem5t ( op9ion1 b !re mu/ be mutual tol]ance4 8,x also implies individual responsibility & ! obligation ( e "o to give ( 8 be/4 ,intellectual slo? has no place at ! fea/ ( reason4 8,"o ne$ n %9e 9 ! talk1 b "o mu/ at lea/ be able to li/5 intellig5tly4 8,h[ mu* ( ! *>m ( words lies 9 ! mann] 9 :i* !y are spok56 ,our ?\ghts & s5tim5ts h n "o mode ( expression1 b a hundr$2 ! tone ( ! voice int]prets ! mean+ ( ! ^w1 ! glance & ! smile s(t5 or int5sify x4 8,conv]sation is seldom s agreeable z ar\nd a d9n]-table ( ! "r size1 :]e ! talk is g5]al & lively )\t confusion4 ,at a l>ge ga!r+1 :]e ! company inevitably breaks up into gr\ps1 conv]sation may fl\ri% m or less brightly1 b nev] q s well z :]e ! gue/s are few & cong5ial & =m b a s+le circle4 8,i (t5 wond] :y x is t !re is su* difficulty 9 gett+ p to unite 9 mak+ ! talk g5]al4 ,"s p]v]se in/9ct seems to drive !m to split ap>t2 ! =ce ( repulsion is /rong] ?an t ( attraction2 six or eight p]sons are engag$ 9 f\r duets1 &1 if ! talk beg9s to flag betwe5 numb]s "o & two1 no?+ bett] occurs to !m ?an to ex*ange p>tn]s ) ?ree & f\r & raise a di/ract+ cross-fire4 ,if ,i want to see a fri5d alone1 x is usually easy to accompli% x2 b if ,i try to hold a pleasant conv]sation ) ?ree or f\r o!r fri5ds at ! same "t1 !y too (t5 appe> to conspire toge!r to defeat my wi%40 ,if "o w\ld h an agreeable mann] 9 conv]sation1 !re are c]ta9 ?+s t mu/ be att5d$ to3 #a4 ,"o mu/ cultivate repose4 ,! man t fidgets1 tugs at 8 be>d1 runs 8 f+]s ?r\gh 8 hair1 rubs 8 h&s1 cracks 8 f+]-jo9ts1 grates 8 tee?1 or indulges 9 mu* ge/iculation1 :ile v likely he sits cross-legg$ & sw+s "o foot1 is nev] an agreeable p]son to talk )4 ,?is re/lessness is always an evid5ce ( weakness4 ,t k9d ( /r5g? t br+s ) x a feel+ t "o is equal to ! situation is always accompani$ ) t quiet self-possession t we call repose4 #b4 ,"o mu/ avoid int]rupt+4 ,always let y\r int]locutor f9i% :at he has to say4 ,note ! po9ts t y w\ld reply to1 & wait pati5tly till x is y\r turn to speak4 ,! _w is full ( ill-br$ p]sons t h ! habit ( break+ 9 on ! speak] z soon z he says any?+ !y w\ld reply to1 or t sugge/s a ?\ght4 ,wait1 ,i repeat1 & wait pati5tly & respectfully1 z ! ,am]ican ,indian always does1 till y\r int]locutor has f9i%$4 ,m5 t cont9ually int]rupt are always m5 ^: e>ly tra9+ 0 v faulty4 ,) su* m5 conv]sation is impossible4 #c4 ,"o mu/ le>n to li/54 ,x is n suffici5t to keep sil5t4 ,y %\ld be att5tive1 seem to be int]e/$ & n we> ! expression ( a m>tyr4 ,!re are ^? ^: mi5 :5 !y li/5 seems to say3 8,w he ev] get ?r\gh & let me give brea? to ! words ( wisdom60 or1 8,poor me1 h[ long w ?is torture la/60 or1 8,:5 y get ?r\gh1 ,i'll %[ y 9 a ^w or two :at nons5se y talk60 ,su* li/5]s are g5]ally p]sons t ?9k _! utt]ances mu* m heavily freight$ ) wisdom ?an o!r p ?9k !m4 #d4 ,"o mu/ le>n n to speak too long at a "t4 ,! social monologi/ is "o ( ! mo/ disagreeable *>act]s "o ev] meets )4 ,!re are two species ( !m4 ,to ! "o belong ^? egoti/ic1 patroniz+ creatures t seem to take pity on y & d all ! talk+ 9 ord] to put y at ease 9 _! augu/ pres5ce4 ,to ! o!r belong ^? m5 t talk mu* & say little2 t g ov] a deal ( surface & nev] get bel[ x2 t g r\nd & r\nd1 & up & d[n 9 se>* ( "s way to get at ! pi? ( ! matt]1 until !y f9ally give up ! *ase 9 despair4 ,( ! two species1 ! fir/ is ! lea/ tiresome--& ! lea/ num]\s--z !re is always some?+ ludicr\s1 & consequ5tly amus+1 9 _! coxcombry4 #e4 ,"o mu/ le>n--if "o c--to /ick to ! subject "u consid]ation4 ,paus+ to rem>k ^u ! irrelevant t may be sugge/$ 9 ! c\rse ( a conv]sation is a *>act]i/ic ( ! female m9d4 ,_m m51 h[ev]1 are z great s9n]s 9 ?is direction z are wom5 g5]ally4 ,?is is a fault peculi> to p]sons ( hazy m5tal vision1 & is v try+ to ^? ( cle>] p]ceptions4 #f4 ,"o mu/ le>n n to laugh at "o's own wit1 nor to *uckle at "o's own rem>ks4 ,!re are m5 t _c take "p 9 a conv]sation )\t fall+ into a broad gr91 :i* frequ5tly develops into a *uckle t r5d]s _! articulation indi/9ct4 ,?is is a habit t is among ! easie/ to correct4 #g4 ,"o mu/ le>n to control "o's temp]4 ,!re are ^? t habitually--& involunt>ily1 p]haps--take refuge 9 indignation ! mom5t !y are oppos$1 & especially if !y are oppos$ ) reasons t are too weighty = _! logic4 ,!n !re are o!rs t h s exalt$ an op9ion ( _! own op9ions t !y ?9k x presumption on ! "p ( ano!r to "q _! correctness & res5t any opposition z an indignity4 ,x is n ! wise t are lea/ respectful to ^? t v5ture to diff] f !m4 #h4 ,"o mu/ be c>eful to avoid a c]ta9 labial ge/iculation1 & a c]ta9 8,jakey0 toss ( ! head t "s unbr$ p indulge 91 :5 !y talk4 ,( all ! vulg> habits t vulg> p indulge 9 9 conv]sation1 ?is is "o ( ! mo/ vulg>4 #i4 ,nev]1 any:]e or "u any circum/ances1 talk ) a too?pick1 a cig>1 or a cig>ette 9 y\r m\?4 ,any?+ m disrespectful or m ?or\ghly l[ we r>ely h to compla9 (4 ,& yet we sometimes see m5 /&+ 9 ! /reet talk+ to wom5--n ladies1 = a lady does n all[ h]self to be treat$ ) su* disrespect--) cig>s 9 _! m\?s4 ,! au?or ( 8,mix+ 9 ,good ,society0 says3 8,we mu/ n br+ our gloomy moods or irritable temp] ) u into society4 ,to look pleasant is a duty we owe to o!rs4 ,"o is b\nd to li/5 ) ! appe>ance ( int]e/ ev5 to ! mo/ invet]ate pros] :o fa/5s ^u u 9 society2 to smile at a twice-told tale2 &1 9 %ort1 to make su* m9or sacrifices ( s9c]ity z good mann]s & good feel+ dem&4 8,9 conv]sation ! face %\ld we> some?+ t is ak9 to a smile2 a smile1 z x 71 bel[ ! surface4 8,we %\ld always look at ! p]son :o addresses u1 & li/5 def]5tially to :atev] he says4 ,:5 we make answ]1 we %\ld endeavor to express our be/ ?\ghts 9 our be/ mann]4 ,a loose mann] ( expression injures ourselves m ?an our int]locutor2 s9ce1 if we talk c>elessly to ^? :om we w n take ! tr\ble to please1 we %all feel at a loss = apt words & correct elocution :5 we ne$ !m4 8,always ?9k be=e y speak2 z ?us only c y acquire ! habit ( speak+ to ! purpose40 ,good talk]s are g5]ally delib]ate talk]s4 8,polite vulg>isms mu/ be scrupul\sly gu>d$ aga9/4 ,a well-educat$ p]son proclaims himself by ! simplicity & t]s5ess ( 8 language4 ,x is only ! half-educat$ :o indulge 9 f9e language1 & ?9k t long words & high-s\nd+ phrases are di/+u4 8,ev]y?+ approa*+ to extravagance 9 conv]sation is objectionable4 ,we %\ld endeavor to asc]ta9 ! precise mean+ ( ! words we employ1 & employ !m at ! "r "t only4 ,su* phrases z #8awfully hot1' #8imm5sely jolly1' #8abom9ably dull1' #8disgu/+ly mean1' etc4 etc41 are us$ 9 ! mo/ reckless mann]4 ,?is hyp]bolical way ( speak+ is m]e flippancy1 )\t wit or novelty to recomm5d x40 ,! late ,dr4 ,george ,ripley 0 wont to say t ! secret ( be+ agreeable 9 conv]sation 0 to be hospitable to ! ideas ( o!rs4 ,he affirm$ t "s p only half li/5$ to y1 because !y 7 consid]+1 ev5 :ile y spoke1 ) :at f9e words1 :at weal? ( wit1 !y %\ld reply1 & !y began to speak almo/ be=e y\r s5t5ce _h di$ f y\r lips4 ,^? p1 he said1 might be brilliant1 witty1 dazzl+1 b nev] c\ld !y be agreeable4 ,y d n love to talk to !m4 ,y feel t !y are impati5t = _! turn to come1 & t !y h no hospitality t[>d y\r ?\ghts--none ( t g5tle fri5dl9ess t asks y\r idea 9 & makes mu* ( x4 8,dean ,swift10 says an ,engli% writ]1 8) 8 ke5 eye = ! foibles ( 8 fell[s1 has put on record "s faults 9 conv]sation t e "o t wi%es to be an agreeable talk] %\ld make x 8 bus9ess to avoid4 8,he ju/ly condemns ! habit ( talk+ too mu*4 ,no man 9 a company has a "r to pr$om9ate 9 l5g? & frequ5cy ( spee*1 any m ?an a play] 9 an or*e/ra has a "r to conv]t ! p]=mance into a solo4 ,ev5 if a man c talk z well z a ,macaulay1 he has no "r to prev5t o!rs f talk+4 ,!y h come n to he> a lecture1 b to conv]se2 to talk z well z to li/52 to contribute z well z to receive4 ,ev5 ! li/5]s & admir]s t ga!r$ ar\nd ,macaulay sometimes long$ = a #8fla% ( sil5ce4' ,oh1 ! mis]y ( x1 :5 "s inord9ate gossip gets y by ! buttonhole & drums away at y\r a*+ tympanum ) an incessant cra% ( prattle6 8,/ill m we>isome is ! talk ( ^? :o w talk only ( !mselves2 ^: ev]la/+ #8,i' recurs 9 _! spee* z c]ta9ly z ! head ( ,*>les ! ,fir/ turn$ up 9 ! spee* ( ,mr4 ,dick4 ,!y deluge _! he>]s ) ! milk-&-wat] hi/ory ( _! say+s & do+s f *ildhood upw>d2 & relate ! annals ( _! diseases ) all ! symptoms & att5dant circum/ances4 ,to a talk] ( ?is sort to h ! measles is a delight--! small-pox a boon4 ,a g5tleman w nev] admit t 8 con/itution is any?+ b s\nd--9 conv]sation4 ,( all bores ! greate/ is he t c>ries 8 pills1 p[d]s1 & pla/]s into ! society ( 8 fri5ds2 t bids ! _w li/5 :5 he sneezes1 & ?9ks 8 rheumatism a matt] ( national conc]n4 8,o!rs1 z ! ,dean rem>ks1 are m dext]\s1 & ) great art w lie on ! wat* to hook 9 _! own praise3 #8,!y w call a witness to rememb] !y always =etold :at w\ld happ5 9 su* a case1 b none w\ld believe !m2 !y advis$ su* a man f ! beg9n+1 & told him ! consequ5ces j z !y happ5$1 b he w\ld h 8 own way4 ,o!rs make a vanity ( tell+ _! own faults2 !y are ! /range/ m5 9 ! _w2 !y _c dissemble2 !y own x is a folly2 !y h lo/ abundance ( advantages by x2 b if y %\ld give !m ! _w !y c\ld n help x2 !re is some?+ 9 _! nature t abhors ins9c]ity & con/ra9t--) _m o!r insuff]able topics ( ! same altitude4' 8,! mo/ successful talk] is ! man t has mo/ to say t is s5sible & ent]ta9+ on ! greate/ numb] ( subjects4 ,a speciali/ c nev] make a good conv]sationi/2 8 m9d runs always 9 "o groove4 8,swift comm5ts ^u two faults 9 conv]sation t appe> v diff]5t1 yet spr+ f ! same root & are equally blamable2 ! fir/1 an impati5ce to int]rupt o!rs2 ! second1 a great uneas9ess :5 we are ourselves int]rupt$4 ,! *ief objects ( all conv]sation1 :e!r conv]sation prop] or small talk1 are to ent]ta9 & improve our companions1 & 9 our own p]sons to be improv$ & ent]ta9$4 ,if we /eadily aim at ^! objects1 we %all c]ta9ly escape ! two faults indicat$ by ! dean4 ,if any man speak 9 company1 we may suppose he does x = 8 he>]s' sake1 & n = 8 own2 s t common discretion w tea* him n to =ce _! att5tion if !y are unwill+ to l5d x1 nor1 on ! o!r h&1 to int]rupt him :o is 9 possession1 because t is ! grosse/ mann] to indicate 8 conviction ( 8 own sup]iority4 8,!re are "s p10 says ,swift1 8^: good mann]s w n suff] !m to int]rupt y2 b1 :at is almo/ z bad1 !y w discov] abundance ( impati5ce1 & be ^u ! wat* until y h done1 because !y h />t$ some?+ 9 _! own ?\ghts t !y long to be deliv]$ (4 ,meantime1 !y are s f> f reg>d+ :at passes t _! imag9ations are :olly turn$ ^u :at !y h 9 res]ve1 = fe> x %\ld slip out ( _! memory2 & ?us !y conf9e _! inv5tion1 :i* might o!rwise range ov] a hundr$ ?+s fully z good & t might be mu* m naturally introduc$4 8,i ?9k t wit mu/ be introduc$ into conv]sation ) great res]ve4 ,su* a caution seems1 h[ev]1 little call$ =1 consid]+ ! limit$ numb] ( p]sons to :om x applies2 b !re is a *eap =m ( wit t mo/ ill-natur$ p]sons c plagi>ize1 & 9 a mix$ company its effects are n seldom disagreeable2 t is1 ! rep>tee1 or sm>t answ]1 :i* assur$ly does n turn away wra?2 ! epigrammatic imp]t95ce t "y speak]s suppose to be wit4 #8,x n[ passes = raill]y1' says ,swift1 #8to run a man d[n 9 disc\rse1 to put him out ( c\nt5ance & make him ridicul\s2 sometimes to expose ! defects ( 8 p]son or und]/&+2 on all :i* occasions he is oblig$ n to be angry1 to avoid ! imputation ( n be+ able to take a je/4 ,x is admirable to obs]ve "o :o is dext]\s at ?is art s+l+ out a weak adv]s>y1 gett+ ! laugh on 8 side1 & !n c>ry+ all be=e him4 ,! ,fr5*1 :5ce we borr[ ! ^w #8raill]y1' h a q diff]5t idea ( ! ?+1 & s _h we 9 ! polit] ages ( our fa!rs4 ,raill]y 0 to say some?+ t at fir/ appe>$ a reproa* or reflection1 b by "s turn ( wit1 unexpect$ & surpris+1 end$ always 9 a complim5t1 & to ! advantage ( ! p]son x 0 address$ to4 ,&1 surely1 "o ( ! be/ rules 9 conv]sation is1 nev] to say a ?+ t any ( ! company c reasonably wi% we _h left unsaid2 nor c !re well be any?+ m contr>y to ! ends = :i* p meet toge!r ?an to "p dissatisfi$ ) "o ano!r or ) !mselves4 8,?is fatal k9d ( sm>tness1 :i* all may ma/] :o h no reg>d = ! feel+s ( o!rs1 is v mu* m common n[1 ,i imag9e1 ?an 9 ,swift's "t1 :5 p c\ld h>dly be p]suad$ t wit & rud5ess 7 synonym\s4 ,x has f\nd its way into ! ,h\se ( ,commons1 :]e x is assidu\sly practis$ by m5 t h little hope by m wor?y means ( a*iev+ a reputation2 & on ! /age1 :]e1 9 #8draw+-rooms ri*ly uphol/]$1' ! *>act]s pass _! "t 9 say+ imp]t95t ?+s to "o ano!r4 ,t su* flippancy %\ld pass mu/] z wit _c1 h[ev]1 be wond]$ at 9 a g5]ation t mi/akes s5su\sness = poetry1 /heticism = art1 & *>latanism = /atesman%ip6 8,i h already made a di/9ction betwe5 conv]sation & small talk2 b aft] all1 ! cautions t apply to ! "o h a di/9ct ref]5ce to ! o!r4 ,i presume t a good conv]sationi/ is also a good small-talk]2 ?\gh1 ( c\rse1 ! rev]se does n foll[2 a man may %9e 9 small talk1 & prove v dull 9 conv]sation4 ,x is n my object or desire to depreciate small talk1 :i*1 9 ! pres5t condition ( society1 is a sub/itute = conv]sation1 & 9 any condition w\ld be a necess>y complem5t ( x4 ,we _c always be pass+ our five-p\nd notes2 we mu/ sometimes desc5d to inf]ior curr5cy1 & n only sov]eigns1 b cr[ns & two-%ill+ pieces h _! value4 ,besides1 we _c af=d to c>ry on an ex*ange by :i* we always lose4 ,we _c give our five-p\nd notes :5 o!rs /ake b %ill+s & sixp5ces4 ,b>t] is fair & pr(itable only :5 we get z mu* z we give4 ,our pockets may be full ( sov]eigns1 & yet we %all hesitate to give "o = a p5ny roll2 b to a man t has no?+ b c\nt]s 9 8 pocket1 x does n matt] :e!r ! roll co/ a p5ny or a %ill+4 ,! moral ( ?is is1 t we mu/ put p5ce into our purse z well z p\nds4 ,= want ( su* a precaution1 ! m$itative s*ol> is (t51 9 society1 at a loss to f9d topics ( conv]sation2 he has no?+ small en\gh to give1 & 8 companions h no?+ ) :i* to conduct an ex*ange4 ,x is wisdom1 !re=e1 to pay close att5tion to ?is matt] ( small talk1 & endeavor to arrive at a c]ta9 comm& ( & pr(ici5cy 9 x4 ,m5 ( ! highe/ gifts _c disp5se ) x if !y wi% to be at no disadvantage 9 _! ord9>y int]c\rse ) mank9d4 8,!re are _m sph]es 9 :i*1 ,i grant1 ! small-talk] w\ld be out ( place4 ,he w\ld make a sorry figure 9 an assembly ( s*ol>s & ?9k]s1 engag$ 9 ! discussion ( subjects z mom5t\s & z pr(\nd z ^? ) :i* ,goe! ov]:elm$ ! hapless ,excelmann4 ,8 true ar5a is ! d9n]-table4 ,x is !re he c make ! be/ use ( ! old1 famili> weapons4 ,he does n %un ! traditional allusions to ! wea!r or ! crops2 &1 inde$1 x is cle> t he mu/ beg9 on "s topic t he & 8 companions h 9 common4 ,t once f\nd1 o!rs w naturally spr+ out ( x2 b 9 pass+ to & f !m1 mu* dext]ity is requir$4 ,if ! small-talk] %[s any d\bt ( 8 own p[]s1 or puts himself =w>d too obtrusively1 he w come to grief1 z we all in/9ctively rebel aga9/ an attempt to drag u into conv]sation4 ,! /r+ t leads u mu/ be invisible4 ,! ex*ange ( small talk is l a game ( battl$oor 9 :i* an accompli%$ play] w sometimes design$ly drop 8 %uttlecock1 p>tly to flatt] & propitiate 8 p>tn]1 & p>tly = ! sake ( a prospective advantage4 ,:5 once he has full comm& ( ! game1 he w quietly take ! lead1 & guide x surely b g5tly into ! direction be/ adapt$ = ! display ( 8 p[]s4 ,! attractiv5ess ( skilfully manag$ talk ( ?is k9d is felt by ev]ybody2 & we rememb] ) pleasure ! ev5+ :51 unwitt+ly1 we 7 tak5 captive by "s man or woman ^: intellectual sup]iority1 p]haps1 we %\ld n be will+ to admit1 b :o1 we readily own1 enabl$ u to pass "s v pleasant h\rs4 8,b ?is small talk t s agreeably flavors conv]sation is diff]5t inde$ f t v small talk 9 :i* society n[adays indulges s unblu%+ly1 g :]e y w--n necess>ily1 z ,mr4 ,hale rem>ks1 into ! society ( ! suburban #8,r[' or #8,t]race' ( semi-deta*$ villas1 nor into t ( ! small prov9cial t[n1 or ! colonial g>rison2 b into t f\nd 9 ! homes & among ! families ( ,engli% g5tlem54 ,mr4 ,hale does n1 ,i ?9k1 exagg]ate :5 he says x is pa9ful to li/5 to ! g5]al conv]sation2 ! "n ( a common fri5d is m5tion$1 & some?+ t he or %e has said or done is comm5t$ ^u ) a fre$om t1 to be 9 any way ju/ifiable1 presupposes a ?or\gh k ( all sides ( ! case2 & ! m9or worries ( life1 s]vants1 babies1 & ! l1 furni% ! !me = a multif>i\s & protract$ discussion4 ,if !re is talk t %\ld disgu/ all ref9$ ta/es & ord9>ily intellig5t m9ds1 x is ! f>rago ( trivialities t makes ! daily /aple ( conv]sation 9 "s ( our ,engli% homes4 ,z a pro( t ,i d n exagg]ate1 let any "o refra9 = f\r-&-tw5ty h\rs f deal+ ) su* #8small be]1' & obs]ve h[ great a difficulty he w exp]i5ce 9 discov]+ subjects = conv]sation4 ,?is %[s h[ injuri\s ! habit is4 ,we fe$ s long on infant's food t we c dige/ no?+ m sub/antial4 ,our small talk resembles a h&-organ1 :i* is set to a c]ta9 numb] ( airs1 & gr9ds ?r\gh ^! ) monoton\s regul>ity4 8,i h dwelt at "s l5g? on ?is subject1 because x seems to me ( great importance4 ,! :ole tone ( society w\ld be rais$ if we c\ld raise its conv]sational /&>d2 if we c\ld lift x f v small talk to small talk & !nce to conv]sation4 ,wom5 especially may help t[>d a satisfactory result1 = at pres5t wom5 are ! great manufactur]s ( v small talk4 ,let !m rise to ! measure ( _! duties2 m5 w soon foll[ _! example1 & we %all live to see ! end ( ! v small-talk era4 8,9 c]ta9 #8,h9ts ^u ,etiquette1' by 1 publi%$ ne>ly half a c5tury ago1 b *>act]iz$ by a good s5se t mu/ always r5d] !m valuable1 ,i f9d a wise caution 9 ref]5ce to #8talk+ %op1' :i* ,i may add to my own emphatic w>n+ aga9/ ?is p>ticul>ly disagreeable cu/om4 #8,!re are few ?+s1' he says1 #8t display worse ta/e ?an ! introduction ( pr(essional topics 9 g5]al conv]sation1 especially if !re be ladies pres5t2 ! m9ds ( ^? m5 mu/ be mis]ably ill-/or$ :o _c f9d o!r subjects = conv]sation ?an _! own pr(essions4 ,:o has n felt ?is on hav+ be5 compell$ to li/5 to 8cl]ical slang10 mu/y college jokes1 & anecdotes dive/$ ( all int]e/ beyond ! atmosph]e ( a univ]sity2 or 8law-jokes10 ) 8good /ories0 ( 8le>n$ c\nsel20 8long y>ns10 or ! equally tiresome mu/]-roll ( 8our regim5t0--colonels dead1 maim$ majors retir$ on p5sions1 subs lo/ or 8ex*ang$10 gravitat+ betwe5 ,b\logne & ! 8,bankruptcy ,c\rt08 8#8,all su* exclusive topics are signs ei!r ( a limit$ intellect or ! mo/ lam5table ignorance4' ,!y are signs1 too1 ( exce$+ly bad bre$+2 = ! introduction ( a topic on :i* no "o c disc\rse b ! speak] necess>ily *okes out ! life ( a conv]sation1 & = ! lively talk ( ! _m sub/itutes a dre>y monologue4 ,!y imply an almo/ sup]natural egotism1 z if ! speak] believ$ t all ! _w mu/ p]=ce be int]e/$ 9 :atev] conc]ns him4 ,ne$less to say t ^! rem>ks d n apply to ! case ( an ackn[l$g$ #8exp]t' ^: op9ion has be5 invit$ on ! que/ions t ( "r fall )9 8 special prov9ce4 ,n[1 z a rule1 society c>es no?+ = ! individual2 & !re c be no great] error ?an = a man to put =w>d 9 conv]sation 8 individual ta/es1 op9ions1 views1 unless he has atta9$ to a position t entitles him to speak z "o hav+ au?ority4 ,& ev5 !n :at he says %\ld be g5]al 9 tone & application1 ) z little allusion z possible to himself4 ,nor %\ld he suff] 8 rem>ks to assume ! =m & proportions ( an oration1 le/ 8 he>]s1 9 spite ( !mselves1 betray _! we>9ess4 ,a ,/4 ,paul may prea*1 & yet ,euty*us fall asleep6 ,9 spite ( 8 reputation z ! ,ari/>*us ( 8 day1 ,samuel ,johnson c\ld irritate 8 he>]s into adm9i/]+ a rebuke to 8 v]bosity4 8,! colloquial inf]iority ( ! pres5t g5]ation is attribut$ by ,mr4 ,hannay purely to ! action ( ! press4 ,newspap]s1 novels1 magaz9es1 reviews1 he says1 ga!r up ! intellectual elem5ts ( our life l s _m electric ma*9es1 draw+ electricity f ! atmosph]e into !mselves4 ,ev]y?+1 he adds1 is record$ & discuss$ 9 pr9t1 & subjects h lo/ _! fre%ness long be=e fri5ds h assembl$ = ! ev5+4 ,& he concludes3 #8,:]e !re is talk ( a sup]ior "*1 x appe>s to affect ! epigrammatic =m2 & ?is is an unheal?y sign4 ,if !re 7 no o!r objection1 h[ r>ely c x avoid t appe>ance ( self-consci\sness & ef=t t is fatal to all elegance & ease4' 8,topics ( conv]sation are n f> to seek 9 ^! active days ( ours1 :5 ! ?\ghts ( m5 are wid5$ by ! process ( ! suns4 ,! curr5t hi/ory ( ! "t--! la/ drama or op]a or newe/ book1 ! sc5e ( w>--& !re is always w> some:]e--! la/ device ( "s scrupul\sly great or greatly unscrupul\s /atesman1 ! late/ exploit ( swimm] or m\nta9-climb]1 ! la/ inv5tion--^!1 & simil> !mes1 w call =? & ma9ta9 an agreeable discussion4 8,y mu/ le>n to express y\rself ) concis5ess & accuracy1 &1 if possible1 ) a happy turn ( expression t1 ?\gh x w n be wit1 w s\nd witty4 ,y\r talk %\ld n be 9 epigrams1 yet %\ld x be epigrammatic4 ,ar\nd ! d9n]-table1 elaborate criticism or argum5t1 pa?os or pr(undity w\ld be out ( place4 ,y are n to soliloquize l ,hamlet1 b to b&y light spee*es & %>p say+s l ,m]cutio4 ,( c\rse y w avoid bitt]ness2 !re mu/ be no v9eg>1 b a t\* ( lemon-juice w flavor ! mixture4 8,! epigrammatic is a valuable elem5t1 b %\ld nev] pr$om9ate1 s9ce good conv]sation fl[s f a happy union ( all ! p[]s4 ,to approximate to ?is1 a c]ta9 am\nt ( pa9/ak+ is necess>y2 &1 ?\gh artifice is dete/able1 we mu/ submit1 t talk may be z legitimately made a subject ( c>e & ?\ght z any o!r "p ( a man's humanity1 & t x is ridicul\s to s5d y\r m9d abroad 9 a /ate ( slov5l9ess :ile y be/[ on y\r body ! mo/ ref9$ c>e4 8,i w\ld e/abli% b "o great rule 9 conv]sation10 said ,ri*>d ,/eele1 8:i* is ?is1 t m5 %\ld n talk to please !mselves1 b to please ^? t he> !m4 ,?is w\ld make !m consid] :e!r :at !y speak be wor? he>+2 :e!r !re be ei!r wit or s5se 9 :at !y are ab\t to say1 & :e!r x be adapt$ to ! "t :51 ! place :]e1 & ! p]son to :om x is spok54 8,conv]sation is a reflex ( "*4 ,! envi\s1 ! pret5ti\s1 ! impati5t1 ! illit]ate1 w z surely betray _! idiosyncrasies 9 conv]sation z ! mode/1 ! ev5-temp]$1 & ! g5]\s4 ,/rive z we may1 we _c always be act+4 8,let u1 !re=e1 cultivate a tone ( m9d & a habit ( life1 ! betrayal ( :i* ne$ n put u to %ame 9 any company2 ! re/ w be easy4 8,if we make ourselves wor?y ( ref9$ & intellig5t society1 we %all n be reject$ f x2 & 9 su* society we %all acquire by example all t we h fail$ to le>n by precept4 8,!re is a c]ta9 di/9ct b subdu$ tone ( voice t is peculi> to p]sons ( ! be/ bre$+4 ,x is bett] to err by ! use ( too l[ ?an ( too l\d a tone4 8,a half op5$ m\?1 a smile ready to ov]fl[ at any mom5t into a laugh1 a vacant />e1 a w&]+ eye1 are all evid5ces ( ill-bre$+4 8,next to unexceptional diction1 correct pronunciation1 di/9ct enunciation1 & a frank1 self-controll$ be>+1 x is necess>y to be g5ial4 ,d n g into society unless y c make up y\r m9d to be *e]ful1 sympa!tic1 animat+ z well z animat$40 ,( ! late ,george ,eliot1 :o 0 "o ( ! mo/ agreeable talk]s ( h] "t1 "s "o has said3 8,%e _h "o r>e *>act]i/ic t gave a peculi> *>m to h] conv]sation4 ,%e _h no petty egotism1 no _s ( contradiction2 %e nev] talk$ = effect4 ,a happy ?\ght1 well express$1 fill$ h] ) delight2 9 a mom5t %e w\ld seize ! ?\ght & improve ^u x1 s t common p felt !mselves wise 9 h] pres5ce1 & p]haps ye>s aft] %e w\ld rem9d !m1 to _! pride & surprise1 ( ! good ?+s !y _h said40 ,avoid slang z y w\ld ! plague4 ,x is a great mi/ake to suppose t slang is 9 any way a sub/itute = wit4 ,x is always l[1 g5]ally co>se1 & n unfrequ5tly fooli%4 ,) ! exception ( cant1 !re is no?+ t is m to be %unn$4 ,we sometimes meet ) p]sons ( consid]able culture t int]l>d _! talk ) slang expressions1 b x is safe to ass]t t !y are always p]sons ( co>se natures4 8,es*ew ev]y?+ t savors ( ! irrev]5t1 &1 z y love me1 let n y\r tongue give way to slang6 ,! slang ( ! /hetic disciple ( sweetness & light--! slang ( ! new s*ool ( erotic poets--! slang ( ! art-critic--! slang ( ! /udios--! slang ( ! gre5 room--! slang ( ,mayfair--& ! slang ( ! ,haym>ket2 %un ea* & all z y w\ld flee f ! %ield ( ,m$usa6 ,pla9 ,engli% & pure1 f ! well undefil$ ( ! be/ writ]s & speak]s--let t be ! vehicle 9 :i* y\r op9ions are convey$1 & ! pla9] & pur] ! bett]40 ,pr(anity is absolutely incompatible ) g5u9e ref9em5t2 x is always ung5tlemanly1 &1 !re=e1 to be avoid$4 ,if ^? m5 t habitually int]l>d _! talk ) oa?s c\ld be made to see h[ (f5sive to dec5cy _! pr(anity is1 !y w\ld1 p]haps1 be less pr(ane4 ,really well-br$ m5 are v c>eful to avoid ! use ( improp] language ( e description4 8,immode/ words admit ( no def5ce1 ,= want ( dec5cy is want ( s5se40 8,x is n easy to p]ceive10 says ,lamont1 8:at honor or cr$it is connect$ ) swe>+4 ,x is a l[ & paltry habit1 pick$ up by l[ & paltry spirits :o h no s5se ( honor1 no reg>d = dec5cy1 b are =c$ to sub/itute "s rhapsody ( nons5se to supply ! vacancy ( good s5se4 ,! vulg>ity ( ! practice c be equall$ only by ! vulg>ity ( ^? :o indulge 9 x40 ,! ext5t to :i* "s m5 habitually int]l>d _! talk ) oa?s is disgu/+ ev5 to _m t1 on occasion1 d n !mselves hesitate to give expression to _! feel+s 9 oa?s portly & unctu\s4 ,among ! ?+s t are /udi\sly avoid$ 9 conv]sation by p]sons ( ta/e is ! use ( old1 ?readb>e quotations4 ,he t c't d bett] ?an to repeat su* old1 ?readb>e l9es z 8,v>iety is ! spice ( life10 8,di/ance l5ds en*antm5t to ! view10 8,a ?+ ( beauty is a joy =ev]10 8,a rose by any o!r "n w\ld smell z sweet10 & ! l1 w\ld appe> to bett] advantage by rema9+ sil5t4 8,sir0 & 8madam10 or 8ma'am10 are f> too mu* us$ by "s p]sons 9 ?is c\ntry1 especially 9 ! ,s\?4 ,9 ,engl& nei!r 8sir0 nor 8madam0 is consid]$ prop]1 "u ord9>y circum/ances1 except on ! lips ( inf]iors4 ,a man hav+ occasion to address a lady t is a /rang] to him %\ld always address h] z 8madam10 nev] z 8miss10 if %e has rea*$ ! age ( womanhood1 9 :i* case c\rtesy supposes t %e has ent]$ t /ate t all wom5 %\ld ent] z soon z !y are fitt$ = x4 ,"o ( ! ?+s t we %\ld be mo/ c>eful to gu>d aga9/ 9 conv]sation1 if we w\ld appe> to advantage 9 ! eyes ( p]sons ( ! bett] sort1 is undue famili>ity4 ,! man ( native ref9em5t1 z well z ! man ( culture1 is always c>eful to obs]ve--9 a great] or less degree1 accord+ to circum/ances--! conv5tionalities t obta9 9 ref9$ social int]c\rse4 ,p]haps ! mo/ repulsive "* to be met ) is ! y\? t seems to ?9k x makes him appe> va/ly m manly to ,jack1 ,jim1 or ,joe 8 acqua9tances1 9 address+ !m1 & to speak ( p]sons t he may1 or may n1 "k 9 a famili>1 disrespectful mann]4 ,to him ,mr4 ,%]idan ,%ort1 if he has occasion to speak ( him1 is simply 8,%$20 ,mr4 ,le/] ,bullock is simply 8,le/]20 ,mr4 ,john ,gu?b]t is simply 8old ,john10 & s on4 ,if ?is vulg> specim5 ( 8,"y ,am]ica0 has a fa!r1 he speaks ( him z 8 8old man10 & middle-ag$ & eld]ly m51 if !y h gr[n-up sons1 he designates z 8old man ,burt10 8old man ,h>rison10 etc4 ,?is k9d ( y\? is always "o ( ^? l\d-m\!d1 guffaw fell[s t ?9k !mselves1 z ! ,k5tuckian w\ld say1 8simply m\ntane\s40 ,/ory-tell+ 9 society is some?+ t ev5 ^? t tell /ories well %\ld indulge 9 b sp>+ly4 ,all /ories1 unless well told1 are tiresome2 & !n !re is always ! dang] t to "s ( ^? t are compell$ to li/5 !y w be a 8twice-told tale40 ,a s]i\s fault ( _m /ory-tell]s is t !y !mselves _c refra9 f laugh+ at ! humor ( _! own anecdotes4 ,all /ories %\ld be told cle>ly & t]sely1 & be s manag$ z to h a m>k$ climax2 & if ! tell] mu/ laugh at !m1 he %\ld be sure n to laugh until ! climax is rea*$4 ,! skilful d n ?9k x incumb5t on !m to tell /ories j z !y he> !m4 ,modifications t !y ?9k w r5d] !m m effective !y d n hesitate to make4 ,he t nev] w confess 8 ignorance nor admit t he has err$ 9 judgm5t publi%es 8 weakness :5 he ?9ks he is conceal+ x4 ,!re are no sur] indications ( /r5g? ?an c&or & frankness4 ,m5 ( s5se d n expect to be look$ ^u z be+ all-wise & infallible1 & !y "k t a frank confession t !y are ignorant or h err$1 always works to _! advantage2 & fur!r1 !y feel t !y are s wise & are s (t5 "r t !y c af=d to be frank 9 confess+ _! ignorance :5 !y are ignorant & _! errors :5 !y h err$4 8,a man %\ld nev] blu% 9 confess+ 8 errors10 says ,r\sseau1 8= he proves by ! av[al t he is wis] to-day ?an he 0 ye/]day40 ,relatives & intimate fri5ds %\ld be c>eful1 9 _! associations ) o!rs1 n to make an indiscreet or ung5]\s use ( ! k !y h ga9$ ( "o ano!r4 ,! wise man is sil5t 9 reg>d to ! weaknesses ( ^? ) :om he /&s 9 close relations4 ,inde$1 !re is some?+ g5]\s & noble 9 ! endeavor to make m5 ?9k z well ( "o ano!r z a reg>d = tru? w p]mit4 ,! habitual depreciator is "o ( ! weake/ & mo/ unlovable ( m54 ,"o ( ! ?+s we %\ld be mo/ /udi\s to avoid 9 conv]sation is p]v]sity4 ,!re are m5 t seem to ?9k x _! special mission 9 ?is _w to set o!rs "r4 ,say :at y may1 & say x z y may1 !y w imm$iately proce$ to %[ y t y are at lea/ p>tly1 if n :olly1 wrong4 ,z = agree+ ) y1 !y nev] d1 unless1 9 disagree+ ) a ?ird p]son1 !y agree ) y accid5tally4 ,x is h>dly necess>y to say t ?is p]v]s5ess is n a *>act]i/ic ( p]sons ( a g5]\s nature or a l>ge und]/&+4 ,x is ! product ( a feel+ closely alli$ to envy1 & is peculi> to m5 ( ov]we5+ conceit & inord9ate love ( adulation4 ,q unconsci\sly !y (t5times d little else ?an assail :atev] is advanc$ by o!rs1 solely because !y _c brook ! ?\ght t ! att5tion ( ! company be div]t$ f !mselves4 ,! old injunction1 8,if y _c speak well ( p1 speak ( !m n at all10 has nev] yet be5 he$$ by any "o1 nor %\ld x be1 = x is by ex*ang+ op9ions ( our acqua9tances & by discuss+ _! faults & weaknesses t we add to our k ( human nature1 ?an :i* few ?+s are m desirable4 8,!re are two k9ds ( gossip10 says an ,engli% writ]--8! good-humor$ & ! sc&al\s--! gossip t t\*es lightly on faults & foibles1 & amus+ incid5ts & curi\s contra/s1 & ! gossip t pe]s into ! privacy ( dome/ic life1 & inv5ts or misrepres5ts4 ,! latt] no "r-?9k+ p]son w indulge 9 or li/5 to2 ! =m] is ! salt ( ord9>y conv]sation4 ,we _c help tak+ an int]e/ 9 our fell[s1 & !re is no reason :y we %\ld n1 s long z t int]e/ is n malignant40 8,keep cle>10 says ,dr4 ,john ,hall1 8( p]sonalities 9 g5]al conv]sation4 ,talk ( ?+s1 objects1 ?\ghts4 ,! smalle/ m9ds occupy !mselves ) p]sons4 ,p]sonalities mu/ sometimes be talk$1 because we h to le>n & f9d out m5's *>act]i/ics = legitimate objects2 b x is to be ) confid5tial p]sons4 ,poor ,burns wrote & did _m fooli% ?+s1 b he 0 wise :5 he wrote to a "y fri5d3 8#8,ay1 tell y\r /ory free1 (f-h&1 ,:5 wi' a bosom crony2 ,b /ill keep some?+ to y\rsel' ,y'll sc>cely tell to ony4' 8,d n ne$lessly report ill ( o!rs4 ,!re are times :5 we are compell$ to say1 #8,i d n ?9k ,b\nc] a true & hone/ man4' ,b :5 !re is no ne$ to express an op9ion1 let poor ,b\nc] swagg] away4 ,o!rs w take 8 measure1 no d\bt1 & save y ! tr\ble ( analyz+ him & in/ruct+ !m4 ,& z f> z possible dwell on ! good side ( human be+s4 ,!re are family-bo>ds :]e a con/ant process ( depreciat+1 assign+ motives & cutt+ up "* goes =w>d4 ,!y are n pleasant places4 ,"o :o is heal?y does n wi% to d9e at a dissect+-table4 ,!re is evil en\gh 9 m51 ,god kn[s4 ,b x is n ! mission ( e "y man & woman to detail & report x all4 ,keep ! atmosph]e z pure z possible1 & fragrant ) g5tl5ess & *>ity40 ,p]sons ( k9dly natures take pleasure 9 repeat+ ! pleasant ?+s !y he> "o acqua9tance say ( ano!r2 on ! o!r h&1 p]sons ( an envi\s1 jeal\s nature repeat ! unpleasant ?+ !y he>1 or no?+4 ,!re is no?+ t does m to promote k9dly feel+ ?an ! repeat+ ( pleasant ?+s4 ,nev] say1 8,x is my op9ion10 or 8,i believe10 or 8,i ?9k0--expressions t diff] b little 9 mean+--:5 y are n ?or\ghly acqua9t$ ) ! matt]4 ,9 a matt] ( :i* a man has no k he c h no op9ion2 he c1 at ! mo/1 h an impression4 ,say1 !re=e1 :5 speak+ ( a matt] ( :i* y "k little or no?+1 if y w\ld talk l a man ( s5se1 8,my impression is10 or 8f ! little ,i "k ( ! matt]1 my impression is10 or 8,i "k only en\gh ( ! matt] to all[ myself an impression1 & t is10 or some?+ ( ! sort4 ,m5 t are always ready ) _! 8op9ion0 g5]ally h no op9ions ( any?+4 8,!re is a k9d ( p9-fea!r g5tility10 says 8,! ,v]bali/10 8t seems to h a settl$ av]sion to us+ ! t]ms man & woman4 ,well-br$ m51 m5 ( culture & ref9em5t--g5tlem51 9 %ort--use ! t]ms lady & g5tleman comp>atively little1 & !y are especially c>eful n to call !mselves g5tlem5 :5 !y c avoid x4 ,a g5tleman1 = example1 does n say1 #8,i1 ) "s o!r g5tlem51 w5t1' etc42 he is c>eful to leave out ! ^w o!r4 ,! m5 t use ^! t]ms mo/1 & especially ^? t lose no opportunity to proclaim !mselves g5tlem51 belong to t class ( m5 t cock _! hats on "o side ( _! heads1 & (t5 we> !m :5 & :]e g5tlem5 w\ld remove !m2 t pride !mselves on _! famili>ity ) ! late/ slang2 t proclaim _! indep5d5ce by %[+ ! lea/ possible consid]ation = o!rs2 t laugh long & l\d at _! own wit2 t we> a pr(usion ( *eap jewelry1 use bad gramm>1 & int]l>d _! talk ) big oa?s40 8,socially1 ! t]m g5tleman10 says ! ,london p]iodical1 ,all ! ,ye> ,r\nd1 8has become almo/ vulg>4 ,x is c]ta9ly less employ$ by g5tlem5 ?an by inf]ior p]sons4 ,! "o speaks ( #8a man ,i "k1' ! o!r ( #8a g5tleman ,i "k4' ,aga91 z reg>ds ! t]m lady4 ,x is q 9 accordance ) ! usages ( society to speak ( y\r acqua9tance ! du*ess z #8a v nice p]son4' ,p :o say #8a v nice lady' are n g5]ally ( a social class t has mu* to d ) du*esses40 8,! t]ms lady & g5tleman10 says ! ,london ,que51 8become 9 !mselves vulg> :5 misappli$1 & ! improp] application ( ! wrong t]m at ! wrong "t makes all ! diff]5ce 9 ! _w to e>s polite40 8,ba%fulness10 says ,bacon1 8is a great h9drance to a man bo? ( utt]+ 8 conceit & und]/&+ :at is prop\nd$ unto him2 :]e=e x is good to press himself =w>d ) discretion bo? 9 spee* & company ( ! bett] sort40 8,%yness10 says a mod]n writ]1 8cramps e motion1 clogs e ^w4 ,! only way to ov]come ! fault is to mix con/antly 9 society1 & ! habitual int]c\rse ) o!rs w give y ! ease ( mann] t %yness de/roys40 8,9 all k9ds ( spee*10 says ,bacon1 8ei!r pleasant1 grave1 sev]e1 or ord9>y1 x is conv5i5t to speak r sl[ly ?an ha/ily2 because ha/y spee* conf\nds ! memory1 & (t5times drives a man ei!r to a nonplus or unseemly /amm]+ ^u :at %\ld foll[2 :]eas a sl[ spee* confirme? ! memory1 adde? a conceit ( wisdom to ! he>]s1 besides a seeml9ess ( spee* & c\nt5ance40 ,! man ( real dignity1 ( real intellectual /r5g?1 nev] hesitates to e/abli% a sort ( fri5dly relation ) 8 s]vants & subord9ates4 ,if y see a man go+ ab\t ) a 8ramrod d[n 8 back10 look+ ov] ! heads ( 8 s]vants & subord9ates1 y may be sure t he kn[s j en\gh to "k t 8 dignity is a nursel+ & ne$s 8 con/ant att5tion4 ,be n 9 ha/e to take (f5ce2 be sure fir/ t an indignity is int5d$4 ,he t calls y h>d names1 if !y are unm]it$1 is b5ea? y\r res5tm5t2 if m]it$1 y h no "r to compla94 ,9 ei!r case1 n9e times 9 t51 ! bett] c\rse is to say little & g y\r way4 ,a well-br$ man seldom if ev] feels ju/ifi$ 9 indulg+ 9 recrim9ation4 ,alt]cations are z mu* to be avoid$ z p]sonal enc\nt]s4 ,x (t5 requires m c\rage to avoid a qu>rel ?an to engage 9 "o1 & !n ! c\rage t keeps "o out ( a qu>rel is ! c\rage ( ! philosoph]1 :ile ! c\rage t leads "o into a qu>rel is ! c\rage ( ! bully4 ,he t boa/s ( 8 pr[ess is a blackgu>d4 ,/e] wide ( ! /upid habit _m p]sons get into ( repeat+ que/ions t are ask$ !m1 & ( ask+ o!rs to repeat :at !y h said4 ,if y take ! tr\ble to obs]ve1 y w f9d y\r exp]i5ce ) ^! p to be some?+ l ?is3 8,w ?is /reet take me into ,*a?am ,squ>e80 8,*a?am ,squ>e1 did y say80 ,y g into a m5's furni%+ /ore & ask3 8,w y %[ me "s sixte5-in* coll>s80 8,sixte5 in*1 did y say80 ,y ask an acqua9tance3 8,h[ long h y be5 9 ,new ,york80 8,h[ long h ,i be5 9 ,new ,york1 did y say80 or1 8,:i* d y ?9k ! pretti] ( ! two80 8,:i* d ,i ?9k ! pretti]80 or1 8,i ?9k x w be w>m] to-morr[40 8,:at did y say80 or1 8,patti 0 ill & did n s+ la/ ev5+40 8,:at d y say1 ,patti didn't s+80 8,:5 d y expect to break y\rself ( ! habit ( ask+ me to repeat ev]y?+ ,i say1 or ( repeat+ ev]y?+ ov] aft] me80 8,:5 d ,i expect to break myself ( ! habit80 ,if y ?9k y h be5 und]/ood1 all y h to d1 z a rule1 is to keep sil5t & look y\r int]locutor full 9 ! face = a mom5t to be made sure ( x4 ,!re is a k9d ( comp>atively h>mless gossip t "s m5 indulge 91 t makes !m appe> v dim9utive 9 ! eyes ( m5 ( ! _w4 ,i ref] to ! habit "s m5 h ( mak+ :at may *ance to come to _! k ( o!r p's affairs & movem5ts ! subject ( conv]sation4 ,?\gh !re is g5]ally no?+ malici\s 9 ! gabble ( ^! busybodies1 x sometimes causes a deal ( unpleasantness4 ,m5 ^: ambition x is to appe> kn[+1 "k1 if !y did b "k x1 f> less ?an _! discreet-m\!d neighbors4 ,all writ]s on ! am5ities ( conv]sation agree t ! discussion ( politics & religion %\ld be exclud$ f g5]al society1 = ! reason t su* discussions are v liable to end unpleasantly4 ,yet ?is w\ld nev] be ! case1 if we 7 suffici5tly philosophic to reflect t we are all :at circum/ances h made u1 & t we1 ) only n[ & !n an exception1 %\ld be ( ! same op9ions z our neighbors _h we be5 re>$ "u l influ5ces4 ,:5 we c5sure ano!r = 8 way ( ?9k+1 if we did b "k x1 we f9d fault n ) him1 b ) ! surr\nd+s amid :i* he has gr[n up4 ,!re are b v few m5 9 ! _w t h op9ions t are really _! own1 i4e41 t are ! product ( _! own1 indep5d5t judgm5t4 ,mo/ m5 simply e*o ! op9ions t h *anc$ to fall to _! lot1 & _h o!r op9ions *anc$ to fall to _! lot--?\gh directly oppos$ to ^? !y n[ ent]ta9--!y w\ld1 9 l mann]1 h e*o$ !m--h f\ght = !m1 if occasion (f]$4 ,b z !re are v few ( u t are n sway$ by prejudice r ?an guid$ by philosophy1 politics & religion are1 & are pretty sure to rema91 dang]\s topics to introduce into ! social circle1 & t1 too1 = ! simple reason1 z already intimat$1 t !y are subjects ^u :i* p g5]ally feel s deeply t !y _c discuss !m calmly1 c\rte\sly1 & rationally4 ,we sometimes meet ) p]sons t lose no opportunity to say %>p ?+s--?+s t w\nd4 ,!y are occasionally p]sons ( "s wit1 b !y are nev] p]sons ( any wisdom1 or !y w\ld n d :at is sure to make !m _m enemies4 ,good mann]s )\t k9dl9ess is impossible4 ,p]sons ( ! be/ fa%ion avoid express+ !mselves 9 ! extravagant4 ,!y leave inflation to _! inf]iors1 ) _m ( :om no?+ %ort ( ! sup]lative w suffice4 ,f !m we he> su* expressions z 8awfully nice10 8bea/ly ugly10 8horridly /uck up10 8frightfully cold10 8simply magnific5t10 & 8j div9e10 :ile p]sons ( bett] culture1 to express ! same ?\ghts1 cont5t !mselves ) 8v pretty10 8v pla910 8r haughty10 8v cold10 8excell5t10 & ! l4 ,intemp]ance 9 ! use ( language1 l intemp]ance 9 ev]y?+ else1 is vulg>4 ,,calls ,,& ,,c>ds4 ,cu/om is a law ,z high z heav51 z wide z seas or l&4 --,,lansd[ne4 ,an ,engli% au?ority tells u t ! *ief ?+s to be consid]$ 9 mak+ calls are ! occasions & ! h\rs4 ,betwe5 fri5ds !re is little ne$ ( c]emony 9 ! matt]1 z a fri5dly visit may be made at almo/ any "t & on almo/ any occasion4 ,a man t c comm& 8 "t may make c]emoni\s calls1 9 mo/ ( ! l>ge cities1 at any h\r betwe5 two & five 9 ! aft]noon1 & ! man t has n ! leisure to call dur+ ! aft]noon may make calls 9 ! ev5+ aft] half pa/ eight4 ,! c>eless1 ignorant1 or ov]-eag] sometimes call e>li]1 = fe> ! lady may be out2 b ?is is n consid]$ good usage4 ,calls may be divid$ into ?ree classes3 #a4 ,visits ( c]emony4 #b4 ,visits ( congratulation or sympa?y4 #c4 ,g5]al calls4 ,c]emoni\s calls are ^? made to pres5t lett]s ( introduction1 or aft] d9n]s1 p>ties1 or balls4 ,9 call+ to pres5t a lett] ( introduction1 ! call] does n g 91 b simply leaves ! lett]1 ) 8 c>d & address4 ,9 return+ a call made ) a lett] ( introduction1 ! call] mu/ g 91 if ! p]son on :om he calls is at home4 ,if y\r lett] ( introduction is = a special purpose--:i* purpose %\ld be m5tion$ 9 ! lett]--y w s5d x 9 ) y\r c>d1 & ask = an int]view4 ,9 giv+ lett]s ( introduction1 y take a great responsibility4 ,y %\ld1 !re=e1 give !m only to p]sons t h y\r entire confid5ce & = :om y are will+ to be responsible4 ,!y %\ld be left op51 9 ord] t _! be>]s may acqua9t !mselves ) _! cont5ts4 ,a call %\ld be made )9 a week aft] balls1 danc+ p>ties1 or d9n]s to :i* y h be5 invit$1 :e!r y accept$ or n4 ,su* calls1 "s "o has said1 %\ld resemble wit 9 _! brevity1 n exce$+ ! l5g? ( a reasonable s]mon--say tw5ty or ?irty m9utes at ! mo/4 ,if dur+ y\r call ano!r visitor %\ld arrive1 y %\ld n appe> to %un him1 b %\ld wait two or ?ree m9utes1 & jo9 9 ! conv]sation be=e y take leave4 ,p]sons t out-sit two or ?ree call]s1 unless !re is "s special reason = _! do+ s1 are 9 dang] ( be+ call$ bores1 :o are p]sons t h n suffici5t tact to "k :5 !y %\ld take leave4 ,x is (t5 no easy matt] ei!r to "k :5 to take leave or h[ to take leave gracefully4 ,z a rule1 avoid all su* obs]vations z1 8,well1 ,i ?9k x is "t = me to be go+10 & d n look at y\r wat*4 ,! be/ way to make "o's exit1 :e!r ! conv]sation has begun to flag or n1 is to say some?+ effective1 z ,pelham 0 wont to d1 & )draw imm$iately !reaft]4 ,above all1 d n prolong y\r leave-tak+4 ,:5 y />t to g1 g4 ,int]m9able leave-tak]s are v tiresome4 ,a man %\ld nev] (f] to %ake h&s ) p]sons on :om he calls4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ^? on :om a man calls (f] him _! h&s :5 he arrives1 he may (f] !m 8 h& :5 he takes leave2 b ?is is by no means necess>y4 ,a man1 9 mak+ calls1 %\ld always c>ry 8 hat into ! draw+-room4 ,he may c>ry 8 cane also into ! draw+-room1 if he *ooses to d s1 b !re is no special reason :y he %\ld4 ,! c>ry+ ( "o's hat is suffici5t intimation t "o has n come to rema94 ,au?orities diff] ) reg>d to :at a man %all d ) 8 hat :5 he gets into ! draw+-room4 ,"o ,engli% au?ority says3 8,! hat %\ld nev] be laid on a table1 pian(orte1 or any article ( furniture1 b mu/ be held prop]ly 9 ! h&4 ,if y are compell$ to lay x aside1 put x on ! floor40 ,ano!r ,engli% au?ority says3 8,a g5tleman holds 8 hat until he has se5 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se & %ak5 h&s ) h]4 ,he w\ld !n ei!r place x on a *air or table ne> at h&1 or hold x 9 8 h& until he took leave40 ,m5 ( s5se & a little indep5d5ce w d z !y please4 ,:at objection c !re be to a man's putt+ 8 hat on a *air1 a table1 or a piano8 ,9 mak+ %ort calls1 a man %\ld hold 8 hat1 unless he %\ld want to use bo? h&s = "s o!r purpose4 ,b :e!r x is p]missible or n = a man to put 8 hat on "s article ( furniture1 x is c]ta9 t if he c>ries hat & cane into ! draw+-room1 he %\ld put !m d[n some:]e1 or hold !m /ill1 & n betray 8 gau*]ie by fl\ri%+ ! "o or twirl+ ! o!r4 ,a man %\ld nev] say1 8,excuse my glove10 nor1 if he is neatly glov$1 %\ld he remove 8 glove to %ake h&s ) any "o4 ,nev] take a seat on a s(a1 unless invit$ to d s2 nor 9 an arm-*air1 un9vit$1 unless !re are sev]al 9 ! room unoccupi$2 nor is x p]missible to leave y\r *air to get ne>] ! fire4 ,a g5tleman %\ld1 g5]ally1 rise :5 a lady ent]s ! draw+-room1 & rema9 /&+ till %e is seat$2 &1 ?\gh a /rang]1 he %\ld place a *air = h]1 if !re is n "o conv5i5t2 b n 8 own1 if !re is ano!r at h&4 ,a g5tleman %\ld also g5]ally rise if a lady leaves ! draw+-room1 & rema9 /&+ until %e has pass$ out4 ,nev] take any "o to call on ladies ( y\r acqua9tance be=e ask+ _! p]mission to d s4 ,:5 go+ to sp5d ! ev5+ ) a fri5d t y visit (t51 x is q prop] t y %\ld leave y\r hat 9 ! hall4 ,nev] take a dog into a draw+-room :5 y make a call4 ,= _m reasons a visitor has no "r to inflict ! society ( 8 dog on 8 acqua9tance4 ,a g5tleman t is invit$ by a lady to call _c1 )\t %[+ a want ( c\rtesy1 neglect to pay h] a call )9 a week or t5 days4 ,visits ( condol5ce are paid )9 a week1 or t5 days at mo/1 aft] ! ev5t t occasions !m4 ,p]sonal visits ( ?is k9d are made only by relatives & intimate fri5ds1 :o %\ld be c>eful to make ! conv]sation z little pa9ful z possible4 ,9 pay+ visits ( congratulation1 y %\ld always g 91 & be he>ty 9 y\r congratulations4 8,!re are _m great m510 says 8,! ,man 9 ! ,club-,w9d[10 8:o g unrew>d$ = ! s]vices !y r5d] humanity4 ,nay1 ev5 _! names are lo/1 :ile we daily bless _! inv5tions4 ,"o ( ^! is he1 if x 0 n a woman1 :o introduc$ ! use ( visit+-c>ds4 ,9 days ( yore a slate or a book 0 kept1 & y wrote y\r "n on x4 ,b !n t c\ld be done only :5 y\r acqua9tance 0 #8n at home4' ,to ! ,fr5* is due ! practice ( mak+ ! deliv]y ( a c>d s]ve ! purpose ( ! appe>ance ( ! p]son1 & ) ^? :o may h a l>ge acqua9tance ?is cu/om is becom+ v common 9 l>ge t[ns40 ,! fa%ion ( c>ds z to size1 mat]ial1 /yle ( engrav+1 & ! mode ( us+ !m1 is v v>iable4 ,visit+-c>ds1 at pres5t1 %\ld be small1 & pr9t$ on f9e1 ?9 bri/ol-bo>d1 9 ,italian script )\t any fl\ri%es4 ,! address 9 ! "r-h& corn]1 & if a memb] ( a club1 ! "n ( ! club 9 ! left-h& corn]4 ,glaz$ c>ds1 fac-similes & ornam5tal /yles ( lett]s are entirely out ( fa%ion4 ,! black bord]s ( m\rn+ c>ds v>y 9 wid? accord+ to circum/ances1 ! maximum wid? be+ ?ree eigh?s ( an in*1 :i* is d5om9at$ 8extra extra wide40 ,ne>ly all ,new ,york m5 h 8,mr40 on _! c>ds1 & yet 9 ,engl&1 :]e ! cu/om orig9at$1 accord+ to two au?orities be=e me1 ! practice is go+ out ( fa%ion4 ,"o ( !m says3 8,"s g5tlem5 & unm>ri$ ladies h adopt$ ! cont95tal cu/om ( omitt+ ! #8,mr4' & #8,miss' ^u _! c>ds2 z ,alfr$ ,john ,majoribanks2 or ,lucy ,c>r+ton4 ,& ! fa%ion is a good "o40 ,ano!r ,engli% writ] says3 8,to h #8,francis ,smi?' pr9t$ on ! c>d )\t ! prefix #8,mr4' w\ld be a gl>+ solecism1 & 9 ! wor/ possible ta/e40 ,! writ]s are bo? 8memb]s ( ! ari/ocracy40 ,milit>y or pr(essional titles take ! place ( ! 8,mr410 z1 8,capta9 ,john ,smi?10 8,colonel ,john ,smi?10 8,rev4 ,john ,smi?10 8,dr4 ,john ,smi?10 etc4 8,visit+-c>ds c "u no circum/ances be s5t by po/2 to d s w\ld betray ! greate/ ignorance ( :at is done 9 society4 ,c>ds mu/ be left 9 p]son10 says an ,engli% writ]4 8,x is = ?is c]emoni\s c>d-leav+ t x is n[ propos$ to s5d ! c>ds by po/1 :i* s5sible p 9 ,engl& are advocat+1 z well z s5sible p "h10 says an ,am]ican writ]4 ,! turn+-d[n ( ! corn] or ! end ( a c>d signifies t ! own] left x 9 p]son4 ,x is bett] usage1 because m rec5t1 to turn ! end4 ,9 c\ntries :]e great importance is atta*$ to su* little ?+s1 ev5 ^? t s5d _! c>ds by s]vants turn !m across "o end--usually ! "r end--z if !y _h left !m 9 p]son4 ,c>ds left on ,new ,ye>'s ,day1 or on any o!r reception day1 simply = ! purpose ( refre%+ ! memory ( ! ho/ess1 are nev] turn$ d[n4 ,usage 9 ^! matt]s v>ies n only 9 diff]5t c\ntries1 b (t5 9 ! diff]5t l>ge cities ( ! same c\ntry4 ,p]sons t are n sure t !y are ?or\ghly in=m$ %\ld inquire4 ,on reception days ! call] mu/ g 92 ! simple leav+ ( 8 c>d on ^? days does n suffice4 ,p4 ,p4 ,c4 c>ds are ! only c>ds t x is univ]sally consid]$ p]missible to s5d by po/4 ,to return a call1 made 9 p]son1 ) c>ds inclos$ 9 an envelope is an intimation t ! s5d] is n desir\s to cont9ue ! acqua9tance4 8,z reg>ds leav+ c>ds ^u new acqua9tances10 says ! ,engli% au?ority already quot$1 8a g5tleman may n leave a c>d ^u a m>ri$ lady1 or ! mi/ress ( a h\se1 to :om he has be5 introduc$1 h[ev] graci\s or agreeable %e may h be51 unless %e expressly asks him to call1 or gives him to und]/& 9 an unmi/akable mann] t 8 do+ s w\ld be agreeable to h]4 ,?is rule holds good1 :e!r ! introduction has tak5 place at a d9n]-p>ty1 at a ball1 at an #8at home1' at a c\ntry ga!r+1 or else:]e2 he w\ld n be au?oriz$ 9 leav+ 8 c>d on h] on su* slight acqua9tance%ip2 z1 if %e desir$ 8 fur!r acqua9tance1 %e w\ld make "s polite allusion to 8 call+ at h] h\se1 su* z1 #8,i hope we %all see y :5 we are 9 t[n ?is season1' or1 #8,i am always at home at five o'clock1 if y l to come to see u4' ,if a woman ( ! _w %e w\ld use "s su* =mula1 b w\ld n use a direct "o1 9 :i* case he w\ld leave 8 c>d on h] z soon aft]w>d z conv5i5t1 & he w\ld also leave a c>d = ! ma/] ( ! h\se1 ! lady's husb& or fa!r1 z ! case might be1 ev5 if he _h n made 8 acqua9tance :5 mak+ t ( ! lady4 8,a g5tleman may n "u any circum/ances leave 8 c>d on a "y lady to :om he has be5 introduc$1 unless h] "m1 *ap]one1 or ! lady "u ^: c>e %e is = ! "t1 gives him ! opportunity ( fur!r+ ! acqua9tance 9 ! mann] we h j indicat$4 ,! "y lady mu/ n take ! initiative h]self1 b mu/ leave x to h] "m or *ap]one to d s4 ,x w\ld be consid]$ #8ill-br$' 7 a g5tleman to ask1 #8if he might h ! pleasure ( call+1' etc40 ,b 9 ,am]ica1 accord+ to ! au?or ( 8,social ,etiquette ( ,new ,york10 a "y man may proce$ q diff]5tly4 ,%e says3 8,aft] a g5tleman has be5 introduc$ to a lady1 he may be 9 d\bt :e!r ! acqua9tance w prove agreeable to h]4 ,he may be too delicate to give h] ! unpleasantness ( refus+ him p]mission to call on h]1 %\ld he beg su* an honor4 ,!re=e1 if he covet h] acqua9tance1 he leaves 8 c>d at h] resid5ce1 & h] "m or *ap]one w s5d an invitation to him to visit ! family1 or1 p]haps1 to be pres5t at an ent]ta9m5t1 aft] :i* x is 8 duty to call & pay 8 respects4 ,if ! li/ ( acqua9tance be already too ext5sive1 no notice ne$ be tak5 ( ! c>d1 & he w wait = a recognition f ! ladies ( ! h\sehold :5 !y meet aga94 ,if ! acqua9tance be really desirable1 a prompt ackn[l$gm5t ( 8 desire to become acqua9t$ is admitt$ 9 "s ref9$ & acceptable =m4 8,a g5tleman10 says ! same writ]1 8w always promptly accept or decl9e an invitation to any?+4 ,x 0 once an unsettl$ "q :e!r or n receptions1 kettl$rums1 & ! l ga!r+s1 requir$ ! =mality ( a reply4 ,t vague d\bt is t]m9at$4 ,e invitation %\ld be answ]$1 & !n !re c be no misund]/&+40 ,g5tlem51 9 mak+ =mal calls1 ask if 8! ladies are at home40 ,if !y are n1 "s m5 leave a c>d = ea*1 :ile o!rs leave "o c>d only1 :i*1 x w\ld seem1 %\ld suffice4 ,if a g5tleman calls on a "y lady t is ! gue/ ( a lady he does n "k1 he w1 nev]!less1 ask to see h] ho/ess4 ,if a g5tleman receives an invitation f a new acqua9tance1 he %\ld leave 8 c>d on ho/ & ho/ess ! day aft] ! ent]ta9m5t1 :e!r he 0 pres5t or n4 ,rules ) reg>d to c>d-leav+ h little or no significance among intimate fri5ds4 ,,odds ,,& ,,ends4 ,mann]s are :at vex or soo!1 corrupt or purify1 exalt or debase1 b>b>ize or ref9e u1 by a con/ant1 /eady1 uni=m1 ins5sible op]ation1 l t ( ! air we brea! 94--,,burke4 ,,desire & fe> are ! two great spr+s ( human ef=t4 ,e fe> supposes an evil2 e desire a good4 ,:at are ! real evils & ! real goods8 ,:at are ! means by :i* ^! may be obta9$ & ^? avoid$8 ,?is rese>* is ! pr9cipal object ( philosophy1 :i*1 )\t exclud+ any tru?1 has man = its /udy & wisdom = its object1 & may be call$ ! 8,art ( ,liv+40 ,! o!r arts h b a mom5t>y utility2 ! utility ( ?is "o is con/ant4 ,x is ( e c\ntry1 ( e age1 ( e condition4 ,!re is n a mom5t ( our lives :5 x may n s]ve z a guide by po9t+ to ! duties we %\ld p]=m1 ! pleasures we may ta/e1 ! dang]s we %\ld %un4 ,,ang] is ! delirium ( (f5d$ pride4 ,x is r>ely useful1 & "o ( ^! brief p>oxysms ( folly may embitt] "o's :ole life4 ,he t cont5ds = 8 rights )\t los+ 8 temp] is n only m dignifi$1 b is also m effective ?an he t loses x4 ,to get angry ) an inf]ior is degrad+2 ) an equal1 dang]\s2 ) a sup]ior1 ridicul\s1 :ile t[>d all !re is dang] ( be+ unju/4 ,few ?+s are m impressive ?an to see calmness oppos$ to viol5ce1 ref9em5t to vulg>ity1 or decorum to ruffianism4 8,,! late ,d\glass ,j]rold lik5$ civility to an air-cu%ion--possess+ no tangible sub/ance1 yet s]v+ to ease ! jolts we enc\nt] 9 our j\rney+ ?r\gh life4 ,to say t a p]son is civil does n imply t he is agreeable1 yet civility is ! next /ep to be+ agreeable4 ,"s p]sons pride !mselves on be+ brusque or boori%1 & x is well to let su* h a wide b]? 9 :i* to ex]cise _! peculi>ities4 ,:ile wond]s may be accompli%$ 9 be+ civil & agreeable1 no?+ c be ga9$ by incivility4 ,x is ! mann]s t make ! man or ! woman4 ,! pres5ce ( an agreeable p]son is l a ray ( sun%9e t w>ms & halos ev]y?+ on :i* x falls1 :ile a disagreeable fell[ w *ill ! pleasante/ company ev] assembl$2 & x is "o ( ^? my/]ies t c nev] be solv$ :y !y are p]mitt$ to fl\ri% & h _! v5om\s exi/5ce1 unless !y are to be consid]$ z *ecks to prev5t u f a surfeit ( happ9ess 9 ?is _w40 ,,intellectual is m frequ5t ?an physical %ort-sight$ness1 & no?+ is m frequ5t ?an = ! important & ! true to escape ! vision ( ! vulg>4 ,x is n a ,socrates & 8 wisdom t are honor$ ) a great foll[+1 b a ,mahomet & 8 ignorance t e/abli% a sect t numb]s an eigh? ( ! population ( ! globe4 ,x is n ! laws ( ! pr(\nd & magnanim\s ,lycurgus t h come d[n to u1 b ^? ( ! p$ant ,!odosius & ! cruel ,ju/9ian4 ,if a tru? comes d[n to u f heav51 x does wisely to fir/ appe> 9 ! habilim5ts ( folly 9 ord] to gu>d aga9/ be+ at fir/ tak5 = an error4 8,,always suspect a man t affects great s(tness ( mann]1 an unruffl$ ev5ness ( temp]1 & an enunciation /udi$1 l[1 & delib]ate4 ,^! ?+s are all unnatural1 & bespeak a degree ( m5tal discipl9e into :i* he t has no purposes ( craft or design to answ] _c submit to drill himself4 ,! mo/ successful knaves are usually ( ?is description1 z smoo? z razors dipp$ 9 oil & z %>p4 ,!y affect ! innoc5ce ( ! dove1 :i* !y h n1 9 ord] to hide ! cunn+ ( ! s]p5t1 :i* !y h40 ,,to ! vulg>1 ! mo/ sublime tru?s are only prejudices because !y accept !m z !y accept error--)\t exam9ation4 ,:at is m humiliat+ to contemplate ?an ! univ]sality ( op9ion & ( fai? 9 ! same community6 ,we f9d a :ole p1 ) few exceptions1 ( "o way ( ?9k+1 & a little f>!r on1 ano!r p ) directly opposite ideas1 :ile ea* are equally conv9c$ ( ! correctness ( _! views4 ,!re is n a ridicul\s cu/om1 an absurd op9ion1 or an inhuman atrocity t1 9 "o c5tury or ano!r1 has n _h ! sanction ( ! law & ! approbation ( ! public4 ,if x is ! cu/om to wor%ip c]ta9 animals or plants1 z among ! anci5t ,egyptians1 = example--among :om1 h[ev]1 ?is wor%ip 0 only symbolic--! :ole nation pro/rate !mselves be=e !m1 & pron\nce ^? t diff] f !m hea!n dogs or impi\s b>b>ians4 ,?is cle>ly demon/rates t he t foll[s ! dictates ( consci5ce--a ?+ always ( cultivation--may foll[ "o ( ! wor/ ( guides4 ,:5 among ! ,greeks & ! ,c>?ag9ians1 & among ne>ly all ! p ( ! ,nor?1 !y sacrific$ human victims to ! gods ,orus1 ,agrolos1 ,kronos1 ,molock1 ,?or & ,wod52 :5 _! alt>s ran ) ! blood ( innoc5ce1 a "m sacrific+ h] son1 a son 8 fa!r2 or :51 9 ne>] times1 "o neighbor but*]$ ano!r1 "o bro!r ano!r1 x 0 ! dictates ( consci5ce t !y foll[$4 ,b we ne$ n g to hi/ory = evid5ce ( ! insuffici5cy ( consci5ce z a guide2 we h only to look ab\t u4 ,tru? & ju/ice are always ! same1 & are always )9 ! rea* ( reason1 :ile consci5ce v>ies to inf9ity4 ,x is "o 9 ,vi5na & ano!r 9 ,con/ant9ople1 "o 9 ,new ,york & ano!r 9 ! city ( ,mexico1 "o at ,dov] & ano!r across ! ,*annel at ,calais4 ,! highe/ intellig5ce exam9es be=e x accepts1 & rejects all t is oppos$ to reason4 8,,nev] %[ t y feel a slight4 ,?is is worldly wise z well z ,*ri/ian1 = no "o b a mean p]son w put a slight on ano!r1 & su* a p]son always pr(\ndly respects ! "o :o is unconsci\s ( 8 feeble spite4 ,nev] res5t publicly a lack ( c\rtesy2 x is 9 ! wor/ ta/e4 ,:at y d privately ab\t dropp+ su* an acqua9tance mu/ be left to y\rself4 ,to a p]son ( a noble m9d ! conte/s ( society mu/ ev] seem poor & frivol\s z !y ?9k ( ^! n>r[ enmities & l[ political manuvres1 b we "k t !y exi/1 & t we mu/ meet !m4 ,temp]1 detraction & small spite are z vulg> on a ,turkey c>pet & 9 a palace z !y are 9 a t5em5t h\se2 nay1 worse1 = ! educat$ conte/ants "k bett]4 ,nev] %[ a facti\s or p]emptory irritability 9 small ?+s4 ,be pati5t if a fri5d keeps y wait+4 ,be>1 z long z y c1 heat or a draught r ?an make o!rs uncom=table4 ,d n be fussy ab\t y\r suppos$ rights2 yield a disput$ po9t ( prec$5ce4 ,all society has to be made up ( ^! concessions2 !y are y\r unnumb]$ fri5ds 9 ! long run4 ,we are n always wrong :5 we qu>rel2 b if we meet our deadlie/ foe at a fri5d's h\se we are b\nd to treat him ) p]fect civility4 ,t is neutral gr\nd4 ,burke said t mann]s 7 m important ?an laws40 ,,mode/y is an admirable ?+ = a man to h1 9 appe>ance2 a que/ionable ?+ = him to h1 9 fact4 ,t t mo/ t5ds to make m5 mode/ is ! recollection ( ! /upid ?+s !y h done & said4 8,,z le>n+ & honor10 says ,*e/]field1 8are necess>y to ga9 y ! e/eem & admiration ( mank9d1 s polit5ess & good bre$+ are necess>y to make y welcome 9 society4 ,great tal5ts are above ! g5]ality ( ! _w1 :o nei!r possess !m !mselves nor judge ( !m rightly 9 o!rs2 b all are judges ( civility & an oblig+ mann]40 8,,good s5se mu/1 9 _m cases1 det]m9e good bre$+2 because ! same ?+ t w\ld be civil at "o "t & to "o p]son1 may be q o!rwise at ano!r "t & to ano!r p]son40 ,,!re is no sur] sign ( vulg>ity ?an ! disc\rte\s treatm5t ( ^? bel[ u 9 ! social scale4 ,let y\r mann] t[>d s]vants be g5tle & c\rte\s1 b n unduly famili>4 ,ask r ?an comm&4 ,x is bett] to inspire love ?an fe>4 ,! ma/] t is belov$ is bett] s]v$ ?an ! ma/] t is fe>$4 ,! _w ov]1 ! memb]s ( ! old ari/ocracy are m popul>--because !y are m affable--) ! l[] ord]s1 ?an are ! newly ri*4 ,,avoid ecc5tricities4 ,!y are sure indications ( weakness1 ( vanity1 & ( a badly balanc$ bra94 ,d z o!r p d1 dress z o!r p dress1 & 9 all ?+s con=m to e/abli%$ usages4 ,yet :ile we be> 9 m9d t :atev] is outr is vulg>1 we %\ld also be> 9 m9d t bl9d ob$i5ce to ! m&ates ( fa%ion is repulsive4 ,,we occasionally meet ) p]sons t pride !mselves on _! c&or & _! frankness4 ,^u a ne>] acqua9tance we g5]ally discov] t ! c&or ( :i* !y boa/ is b an exhibition ( _! egotism1 & t _! frankness is :at consid]ate p call rud5ess4 8,,h[ (t5 a bitt] spee* t has caus$ ke5 pa9 to ! he>] has be5 foll[$ by su* words z ^!1 z if 9 ju/ification ( ! unk9dness %[n3 #8,i'm a pla91 blunt p]son1 & ,i h to speak out j :at ,i ?9k4 ,p mu/ take me z ! ,"l made me4' ,any?+ mean] ?an su* an attempt to ?r[ ! responsibility = "o's ugl9ess ( temp] (f on ! ,"l x w\ld be h>d to imag9e4 ,frankness ( spee* is "o ?+1 b h>%ness is a v diff]5t ?+4 ,! ,"l nev] end[$ any man ) su* a disposition or put him 9 su* circum/ances t he 0 oblig$ to make /++1 cruel rem>ks4 ,"s m5 h m difficulty ?an o!rs 9 be+ sweet-temp]$ & k9dly spok51 b :5 "o fails x is 8 own fault4 ,! v attempt to ju/ify h>%ness 9 su* words z we h quot$ is evid5ce ( an uncom=table consci\sness ( guilt1 & proves t ! speak] does n believe :at he says4 ,let ! repulsiv5ess ( su* utt]ances :5 we he> !m tea* u h[ !y seem to o!rs :5 we make !m40 ,,z x is n possible always to avoid be+ ei!r too c]emoni\s or too famili>1 our greate/ c>e %\ld be n to err on ! side ( famili>ity1 :i*1 ! old prov]b tru?fully says1 bre$s contempt4 ,,he t dom9e]s ov] & insults ^? bel[ him is sure to cr+e & truckle to ^? above him4 ,,9 mo/ ?+s x is well to foll[ ! fa%ion1 b 9 all ?+s x is ill to foll[ ! fa%ion )\t discretion4 ,! man t all[s o!r p to ?9k = him 9 small ?+s is incapable ( ?9k+ = himself 9 great ones4 8,,all c]emonies10 says ,*e/]field1 8are 9 !mselves v silly ?+s2 yet a man ( ! _w mu/ "k !m4 ,!y are ! outworks ( mann]s1 :i* w\ld too (t5 be brok5 9 ^u if x 7 n = t def5ce t keeps ! enemy at a prop] di/ance4 ,= t reason ,i always treat fools & coxcombs ) great c]emony1 true good bre$+ n be+ a suffici5t b>ri] aga9/ !m40 ,,! he>?s ( tyrannical1 bully+ fa!rs & ( scold+1 compla9+ mo!rs are always ! sc5es ( cont9ual bick]+s4 ,!re1 !re is nev] union b ev] disunion4 ,if1 9 su* families1 !re exi/s any affection among _! memb]s1 !re is no %[ ( x4 ,,if y are a fa!r1 be ! companion ( y\r *ildr51 n _! drill-ma/]4 ,if _! love = y does n suffice to induce !m to d y\r bidd+1 ! fault is y\rs1 n !irs4 ,y\r wi%es %\ld be _! law1 & !y w be1 if x has be5 y\r habit to affectionately appeal to _! reason1 to _! s5se ( "r--9 %ort1 to _! nobl] in/9cts4 ,,n only "r ?9k+ m51 b wrong ?9k+ m5 t are s5sible1 are prompt 9 ! keep+ ( _! engagem5ts1 :e!r ( bus9ess or ( pleasure4 ,,be sl[ to make promises1 b hav+ made a promise d y\r utt]mo/ to keep y\r ^w4 ,e "t ano!r breaks 8 ^w ) y1 resolve anew nev] to fail to keep y\rs4 ,bad examples t5d ei!r to demoralize or to elevate4 ,!y elevate ^? 9 :om ! good naturally pr$om9ates4 ,,m5 ( s5se are (t5 look$ ^u z be+ conceit$ = no o!r reason ?an t ! fools "k !y look ^u !m z be+ s _m donkeys4 ,,!re are _m ignoble1 fooli%1 unbr$ m5 9 ! _w ^: policy is s %ortsight$ t !y cont9ually b[ to place r ?an to wor?4 ,!y =get t he t is up to-day may be d[n to-morr[1 & t no man is s insignificant t he is p[]less to d !m good or h>m4 ,su* m5 h n ev5 ! polit5ess ( enlight5$ selfi%ness4 ,,little m5 9 au?ority1 z a rule1 are on ! look-out = small occasions on :i* to %[ _! importance1 :ile 9 matt]s ( any magnitude !y readily yield ! lead to o!rs4 ,,! man ( s5se nev] does any?+ simply = fl\ri%1 to %[ (f1 = 8splurge40 ,he nev] makes pres5ts to any "o t he _c abundantly af=d to make4 ,he nev] goes to any exp5se t 8 means d n ju/ify4 ,he assumes t ^? ) :om he associates1 t he ent]ta9s1 t he ext5ds civilities to are s5sible p1 & he rememb]s t s5sible p always look ^u e k9d ( o/5tation z vulg>4 ,a ,,rec5t writ] on ! am5ities ( social int]c\rse says3 8,don't say #8,miss ,susan' or #8,miss ,m>y4' ,?is /rictly is p]missible ) s]vants only4 ,address "y ladies by _! surname1 ) prefix ( ,miss1 except :5 9 a family ( si/]s a di/9ction mu/ be made1 & !n give ! "n 9 full40 ,on ?is injunction1 ! breezy little ,/4 ,l\is ,spectator comm5ts1 ) z mu* s5se z humor1 ess5tially1 ?us3 8,i ?9k t su* a rule ( etiquette z ?is is r ,utopian :5 "o consid]s ! impossibility ( its practical en=cem5t4 ,suppose1 = in/ance1 t ,mr4 ,blank is play+ :i/ ) ?ree si/]s ( ! ,turtletack family1 :5 sudd5ly ,miss ,sempronia ,turtletack asks3 8#8,:at l$ ! la/ "t r\nd8' 8#8,clubs1 ,miss ,sempronia ,turtletack1' answ]s ,mr4 ,blank4 8#8,are y sure8' 8#8,q sure4 ,i l$ a small club1 ,miss ,!odosia ,turtletack foll[$ suit ) a small c>d1 ,miss ,elvira ,turtletack play$ h] k+1 & y1 ,miss ,sempronia ,turtletack1 trump$4'0 ,x is h>dly possible t any su* cu/om z ?is exi/s 9 any circle ( society 9 any c\ntry2 b if su* a cu/om does any:]e exi/1 x is 9 a circle s />*$ & /ay$ t x w\ld be difficult = an e-day mortal to brea! 9 x1 & s /ilt$ & /upid t no s5sible mortal w\ld want to brea! 9 x4 ,i ,,g out ( my way to give ! foll[+ extract wid] publicity1 b !re is s mu* 9 x t _m p]sons w\ld d well to take to he>t1 t ,i _c resi/ ! temptation to repr9t x4 ,i f9d x 9 ,our ,cont95t1 & x is f ! facile p5 ( ,mrs4 ,l\ise ,*&l] ,m\lton4 8,good bre$+1 l *>ity1 %\ld beg9 at home4 ,! days are pa/ :5 *ildr5 us$ to rise ! mom5t _! p>5ts ent]$ ! room :]e !y 7 & /& until !y _h receiv$ p]mission to sit4 ,b ! mi/ake is n[ made usually 9 ! o!r direction ( all[+ to small boys & girls too mu* lic5se to di/urb ! peace ( ! h\sehold4 ,i ?9k ! be/ way to tra9 *ildr5 9 c\rtesy w\ld be to obs]ve t[>d !m a scrupul\s polit5ess4 ,i w\ld g s f> z to say t we %\ld make x z mu* a po9t to li/5 to *ildr5 )\t int]rupt+ !m & to answ] !m z s9c]ely & respectfully z if !y 7 gr[n up4 ,& inde$ _m ( _! wise1 qua9t say+s are f> bett] wor? li/5+ to ?an ! /]eotyp$ commonplaces ( mo/ morn+ call]s4 ,( c\rse1 to all[ un9t]rupt$ *att] w\ld be to surr5d] ! repose ( ! h\sehold1 b x is v easy1 if *ildr5 are !mselves scrupul\sly respect$1 to tea* !m 9 turn scrupul\sly to respect ! conv5i5ce ( o!rs1 & to "k :5 to talk & :5 to be sil5t4 8,if a *ild is br\ght up 9 ! con/ant ex]cise ( c\rtesy t[>d bro!rs & si/]s & play-mates1 z well z t[>d p>5ts & uncles & aunts1 x w h little left to le>n z x gr[s old]4 ,i "k a bright & bewit*+ little girl :o 0 well in/ruct$ 9 table etiquette1 b :o =got h] lessons sometimes1 z ev5 old] p d n[ & !n4 ,! arrangem5t 0 made ) h] t = e solecism ( ?is sort %e 0 to pay a f9e ( five c5ts1 :ile = e simil> c>elessness t %e c\ld discov] 9 h] eld]s %e 0 to exact a f9e ( t5 c5ts1 _! exp]i5ce ( life be+ long] ?an h]s4 ,y may be sure t ,mi/ress ,bright ,eyes wat*$ ! proce$+s ( t table v c>efully4 ,no slighte/ disreg>d ( ! mo/ conv5tional etiquette escap$ h] quick vision1 & %e 0 an inflexible cr$itor & a fai?ful debtor4 ,x 0 ! prettie/ sight to see h]1 :5 consci\s ( "s failure on h] own "p1 g unhesitat+ly to h] money-box & pay *e]fully h] little tribute to ! outrag$ proprieties4 8,! be/ br\ght-up family ( *ildr5 ,i ev] knew 7 educat$ on ! pr9ciple ( always comm5d+ !m :5 x 0 possible to d s1 & lett+ sil5ce be ! repro( ( any wrong-do+ t 0 n really s]i\s4 ,i h he>d ! *ildr5 ( ?is h\sehold1 :5 _! "m _h fail$ to say any ^w ( comm5dation aft] "s social occasion1 ask z anxi\sly z possible1 #8,:at 0 x1 mamma8 ,i "k some?+ 0 wrong4 ,didn't we treat ! o!r *ildr5 well1 or 7 we too noisy8' ,9 t h\se repro( 0 nev] be/[$ uns\ght--only comm5dation1 ( :atev] x 0 possible to comm5d1 0 gratuit\s4 8,i ?9k ?is sy/em w\ld be z good = ^? gr[n-up *ildr51 ! husb&s & wives1 z = ^? /ill 9 ! nurs]y4 ,i once ask$ ! late ,hepwor? ,dixon1 ) :om ,i happ5$ to be talk+ on ?is subject1 :at he ?\ght 0 ! reason :y "s wom5 held _! husb&s' he>ts securely & =ev]1 :ile o!rs 7 b ! brief t5ants ( a few mon?s or ye>s4 #8,:at1' ,i ask$1 #8is ! quality 9 a woman t h] husb& loves longe/8' 8#8,t %e %\ld be a pill[1' answ]$ ,mr4 ,dixon1 & !n meet+ ! inquiry 9 my eyes1 he w5t on1 #8,yes1 t is :at a man ne$s 9 8 wife--some?+ to re/ 8 he>t on4 ,he has excitem5t & opposition en\gh 9 ! _w4 ,he wants to feel t !re is "o place :]e he is sure ( sympa?y1 a place t w give him ease z a pill[ gives x to a tir$ head4 ,d y ?9k a man w be tempt$ to turn f ! woman ^: eyes are 8 flatt]+ mirror--:o heals :]e o!rs w\nd8' 8,& surely he 0 "r4 ,we are grateful = ev5 a too flatt]+ fai? 9 u1 & if !re is any good 9 u at all1 we try to des]ve ?is fai?4 ,b t5d]ness 9 ! conjugal he>t is mu* m common ?an grace 9 ! conjugal mann]4 ,s9ce1 h[ev]1 next to t supreme good ( be+ satisfi$ 9 "o's own consci5ce is t second great good ( be+ satisfi$ 9 "o's own home1 surely no details ( mann] t t5d to su* a result are too slight to be obs]v$4 ,i believe 9 mak+ z pretty a toilet to greet ! return+ husb& z "o put on to await ! expect$ swee!>t2 &1 :5 ! husb& comes1 he makes a mi/ake v fatal to 8 own int]e/s if he fails to notice :at he w\ld h prais$ 9 o!r days4 ,x is a trite say+ t life is made up ( trifles2 b surely ! sum ( all ^! dome/ic trifles am\nts to ! diff]5ce betwe5 happ9ess & unhapp9ess40 ,,if y are ! head ( a family1 be sl[ to ass]t y\r au?ority2 rememb] t ab\t ! mo/ disgu/+ creature on e>? is ! dome/ic tyrant4 ,z we />t s we are likely to cont9ue2 if a man />ts z a dome/ic bully1 z a dome/ic bully he is likely to cont9ue to ! end1 mak+ himself unhappy & ^? ab\t him unhappy 8 life long4 8,half ( u f9d fault f habit2 b "s ( u1 we fe>1 d s f an inborn ugl9ess ( disposition40 ,,! mann] ( o!rs t[>d u is usually ! reflex ( our mann] t[>d !m4 ,z m5 h h[l$ into ! wood s x has ev] h[l$ out4 ,,b5ea? ! habitually g5tlemanly demeanor ( _m m5--yes1 v _m--!re lurks a _s ( bullyism t seems to avail itself ( e pretext to appe> on ! surface4 ,m5 t are ?us afflict$ are ev] ready = an alt]cation1 9 ord]1 x w\ld seem1 to %[ _! famili>ity ) ! ways & ! peculi> phraseology ( ! bragg>t & brawl]4 ,su* m5 always say t !y are g5tlem51 & g5tlem5 always say t su* m5 are blackgu>ds4 ,,=w>dness1 especially 9 ! y\?ful1 is some?+ to be c>efully gu>d$ aga9/4 ,! man1 old or "y1 ^: mann] is =w>d & 8l\d0 is nev] a welcome addition to a social circle4 ,! =w>d & l\d are g5]ally z inane z !y are noisy4 ,if "o obs]ves !m1 "o (t5 f9ds t :at !y say is b an elaboration ( ?\ghts already express$ by o!r memb]s ( ! company4 ,,if =w>dness is a ?+ to be avoid$1 diffid5ce is n less a ?+ t %\ld be cur$4 ,ea* is alike pro( ( a lack ( bre$+4 ,diffid5ce c be ?or\ghly cur$ only by acquir+ ! polite accompli%m5ts1 ( ^? 9 ^: society "o feels uncom=table4 ,! boor1 unless he is a d[nright blockhead1 nev] feels at ease 9 ! society ( ! cultur$4 ,,good mann]s g f> t[>d supply+ ! want ( good looks4 ,!y con/itute ! secret ( t fasc9ation t we (t5 see ex]t$ by p]sons t are n gift$ ) physical attractions4 ,,maxims ( ,/eph5 ,all51 ,mayor ( ,new ,york ,city f #ahba to #ahbc3 8,nev] be idle4 8,if y\r h&s _c be usefully employ$1 att5d to ! cultivation ( y\r m9d4 8,always speak ! tru?4 8,make few promises4 8,live up to y\r engagem5ts4 8,keep y\r own secrets1 if y h any4 8,:5 y speak to a p]son1 look him 9 ! face4 8,good company & good conv]sation are ! v s9ews ( virtue4 8,good "*,a is above all ?+s else4 8,y\r "*,a _c be ess5tially injur$ except by y\r own acts4 8,if any "o speaks evil ( y1 let y\r life be s t no "o w believe him4 8,dr9k no k9d ( intoxicat+ liquors4 8,ev] live1 mis=tune except$1 )9 y\r income4 8,:5 y retire to b$1 ?9k ov] :at y h done dur+ ! day4 8,make no ha/e to be ri*4 8,small & /eady ga9s give compet5cy ) tranquillity ( m9d4 8,nev] play at any game ( *ance4 8,avoid temptation ?r\gh fe> t y may n )/& x4 8,e>n money be=e y sp5d x4 8,nev] run into debt unless y see a way to get out4 8,nev] borr[ if y c possibly avoid x4 8,d n m>ry until y are able to support a wife4 8,nev] speak ill ( any "o4 8,be j be=e y are g5]\s4 8,keep y\rself innoc5t1 if y w\ld be happy4 8,save :5 y are "y1 to sp5d :5 y are old4 8,read ov] ! above maxims at lea/ once a week40 ,,if a man boa/s t he c\ld wor/ y 9 a set-to1 answ] t y ?9k x v likely z y h no exp]i5ce 9 fi/icuff+2 t y h nev] /ruck any "o & %\ld h>dly "k h[ to g to "w to d x4 ,if a man ?reat5 to d y bodily h>m1 ask him if he is 9 e>ne/4 ,if he says he is1 run4 ,!re is m glory 9 avoid+ a mle by runn+ away ?an !re is 9 rema9+ & com+ (f ! victor4 ,b--if ! devil be on ! side ( ! blackgu>d & he corn]s y1 tea* him1 to ! be/ ( y\r ability1 t y are n really a poltroon1 ?\gh y are q will+ t bullyism %\ld ?9k y "o4 ,,mr4 ,,sp>ks gives u a collection ( directions t ,wa%+ton call$ 8 8,rules ( ,civility & ,dec5t ,behavior 9 ,company40 ,!y are z foll[s3 8#a4 ,e action 9 company ought to be ) "s sign ( respect to ^? pres5t4 8#b4 ,9 ! pres5ce ( o!rs s+ n to y\rself ) a humm+ voice1 nor drum ) y\r f+]s or feet4 8#c4 ,speak n :5 o!rs speak2 sit n :5 o!rs /&1 & walk n :5 o!rs /op4 8#d4 ,turn n y\r back to o!rs1 especially 9 speak+2 jog n ! table or desk on :i* ano!r writes or reads2 lean n on any "o4 8#e4 ,be no flatt]]1 nei!r play ) any "o t delights n to be play$ )4 8#f4 ,read no lett]s1 books or pap]s 9 company2 b :5 !re is a necessity = do+ x1 ask leave4 ,come n ne> ! books or writ+s ( any "o s z to read !m unask$2 also look n nigh :5 ano!r is writ+ a lett]4 8#g4 ,let y\r c\nt5ance be pleasant1 b 9 s]i\s matt]s some:at grave4 8#h4 ,%[ n y\rself glad at ! mis=tune ( ano!r1 ?\gh he be y\r enemy4 8#i4 ,!y t are 9 dignity or 9 (fice h 9 all places prec$5cy2 b :ile !y are "y1 !y ought to respect ^? t are _! equals 9 bir? or o!r qualities1 ?\gh !y h no public *>ge4 8#aj4 ,x is good mann]s to pref] ^? to :om we speak be=e ourselves1 especially if !y be above u1 ) :om 9 no sort we ought to beg94 8#aa4 ,let y\r disc\rse ) m5 ( bus9ess be %ort & compreh5sive4 8#ab4 ,9 visit+ ! sick d n pres5tly play ! physician if y be n kn[+ !re94 8#ac4 ,9 writ+ or speak+ give to e p]son 8 due title accord+ to 8 degree & ! cu/om ( ! place4 8#ad4 ,/rive n ) y\r sup]iors 9 argum5t1 b always submit y\r judgm5t to o!rs ) mode/y4 8#ae4 ,und]take n to tea* y\r equal 9 ! art he himself possesses2 x savors ( arrogancy4 8#af4 ,:5 a man does all he c1 ?\gh x succe$s n well1 blame n him t did x4 8#ag4 ,be+ con/ra9$ to advise or to repreh5d any "o1 consid] :e!r x %\ld be done 9 public or 9 private1 pres5tly or at "s o!r "t1 also 9 :at t]ms to d x2 & 9 reprov+ %[ no signs ( *ol]1 b d x ) sweetness & mildness4 8#ah4 ,mock n nor je/ at any?+ ( importance2 break no je/s t are %>p or bit+2 & if y deliv] any?+ witty or pleasant1 ab/a9 f laugh+ !reat y\rself4 8#ai4 ,:]e9 y reprove ano!r be unblamable y\rself1 = example is ev] bett] ?an precept4 8#bj4 ,use no reproa*ful language to any "o1 nei!r curses nor revil+s4 8#ba4 ,be n ha/y to believe fly+ reports to ! disp>agem5t ( any "o4 8#bb4 ,9 y\r app>el be mode/1 & endeavor to accommodate nature r ?an to procure admiration4 ,keep to ! fa%ion ( y\r equals1 su* z are civil & ord]ly1 ) respect to "t & place4 8#bc4 ,play n ! peacock1 look+ ev]y:]e ab\t y to see if y are well deck$1 if y\r %oes fit well1 if y\r /ock+s sit neatly & clo!s h&somely4 8#bd4 ,associate y\rself ) m5 ( good quality if y e/eem y\r own reputation1 = x is bett] to be alone ?an 9 bad company4 8#be4 ,let y\r conv]sation be )\t malice or envy1 = x is a sign ( a tractable & comm5dable nature2 & 9 all causes ( passion admit reason to gov]n4 8#bf4 ,be n immode/ 9 urg+ y\r fri5d to discov] a secret4 8#bg4 ,utt] n base & frivol\s ?+s among gr[n & le>n$ m51 nor v difficult que/ions or subjects among ! ignorant1 nor ?+s h>d to be believ$4 8#bh4 ,speak n ( doleful ?+s 9 "t ( mir? nor at ! table2 speak n ( melan*oly ?+s1 z dea? & w\nds2 & if o!rs m5tion !m1 *ange1 if y c1 ! disc\rse4 ,tell n y\r dreams b to y\r intimate fri5ds4 8#bi4 ,break n a je/ :5 none take pleasure 9 mir?4 ,laugh n al\d1 nor at all )\t occasion4 ,d]ide no man's mis=tunes1 ?\gh !re seem to be "s cause4 8#cj4 ,speak n injuri\s words1 nei!r 9 je/ nor 9 e>ne/4 ,sc(f at none1 al?\gh !y give occasion4 8#ca4 ,be n =w>d1 b fri5dly & c\rte\s1 ! fir/ to salute1 he> & answ]1 & be n p5sive :5 x is "t to conv]se4 8#cb4 ,detract n f o!rs1 b nei!r be excessive 9 comm5d+4 8#cc4 ,g n ?i!r :]e y "k n :e!r y %all be welcome or n4 ,give n advice )\t be+ ask$2 & :5 ask$1 d x briefly4 8#cd4 ,if two cont5d toge!r1 take n ! "p ( ei!r uncon/ra9$1 & be n ob/9ate 9 y\r op9ion2 9 ?+s indiff]5t1 be ( ! major side4 8#ce4 ,repreh5d n ! imp]fections ( o!rs1 = t belongs to ma/]s1 p>5ts & sup]iors4 8#cf4 ,gaze n on ! m>ks or blemi%es ( o!rs1 nor ask h[ !y came4 ,:at y may speak 9 secret to y\r fri5d deliv] n be=e o!rs4 8#cg4 ,speak n 9 an unkn[n tongue 9 company1 b 9 y\r own language2 & t z ^? ( quality d1 & n z ! vulg>4 ,sublime matt]s treat s]i\sly4 8#ch4 ,?9k be=e y speak2 pron\nce n imp]fectly1 nor br+ out y\r words too ha/ily1 b ord]ly & di/9ctly4 8#ci4 ,:5 ano!r speaks1 be att5tive y\rself1 & di/urb n ! audi5ce4 ,if any hesitate 9 8 words1 help him n1 nor answ] him till 8 spee* be end$4 8#dj4 ,treat ) m5 at fit times ab\t bus9ess1 & :isp] n 9 ! company ( o!rs4 8#da4 ,make no comp>isons2 & if any ( ! company be comm5d$ = any brave act ( virtue1 comm5d n ano!r = ! same4 8#db4 ,be n apt to relate news if y "k n ! tru? !re(4 ,9 disc\rs+ ( ?+s y h he>d1 "n n y\r au?or always4 ,a secret discov] n4 8#dc4 ,be n curi\s to "k ! affairs ( o!rs1 nei!r approa* to ^? t speak 9 private4 8#dd4 ,und]take n :at y _c p]=m4 ,be c>eful to keep y\r promise4 8#de4 ,:5 y deliv] a matt]1 d x )\t passion & indiscretion1 h[ev] mean ! p]son may be y d x to4 8#df4 ,:5 y\r sup]iors talk to anybody1 he> !m2 nei!r speak nor laugh4 8#dg4 ,9 disputes be n s desir\s to ov]come z to give lib]ty to ea* "o to deliv] 8 op9ion1 & submit to ! judgm5t ( ! major "p1 especially if !y are judges ( ! dispute4 8#dh4 ,be n t$i\s 9 disc\rse1 make n digressions1 nor repeat (t5 ! same matt] ( disc\rse4 8#di4 ,speak no evil ( ! abs5t1 = x is unju/4 8#ej4 ,be n angry at table1 :atev] happ5s2 & if y h reason to be s %[ x n2 put on a *e]ful c\nt5ance1 especially if !re be /rang]s1 = good humor makes "o di% a fea/4 8#ea4 ,set n y\rself at ! upp] end ( ! table2 b if x be y\r due1 or if ! ma/] ( ! h\se w h x s1 cont5d n1 le/ y %\ld tr\ble ! company4 8#eb4 ,:5 y speak ( ,god or ,8 attributes1 let x be s]i\sly1 9 rev]5ce & honor1 & obey y\r natural p>5ts4 8#ec4 ,let y\r recreations be manful1 n s9ful4 8#ed4 ,labor to keep alive 9 y\r brea/ t little sp>k ( cele/ial fire call$ ,consci5ce40 ,,footnote3 ,a ,good "n--reputation--is probably :at is meant "h4 ,calumny may injure "o's good "n1 b x _c injure "o's "*4 ,,:at ,,is ,a ,,g5tleman8 ,education beg9s ! g5tleman2 b read+1 good company1 & reflection mu/ f9i% him4--,,locke4 ,a man ( poli%$ & agreeable mann]s1 z di/+ui%$ f ! vulg> & cl[ni%4--,,worce/]4 ,x w\ld be h>d to f9d two p]sons t fully agree ) reg>d to :at con/itutes a g5tleman4 ,x is f> easi] to tell :at a g5tleman is n ?an :at a g5tleman is4 ,= example1 we all agree t ! man is n a g5tleman t is ignorant ( ^? usages t1 by common cons5t1 regulate ref9$ social int]c\rse2 t does n1 9 8 dress1 con=m1 )9 c]ta9 limits at lea/1 to ! prevail+ modes2 t is desir\s to attract att5tion by affect+ ecc5tricities2 t be>s himself z ?\gh he ?\ght himself an object ( special att5tion1 i4e41 is self-consci\s2 t has no ?\ght = ! com=t1 ! feel+s1 or ! rights ( o!rs4 ,9 %ort1 we all agree t no man des]ves to be call$ a g5tleman t is n a man ( education2 i4e41 t is n suffici5tly acqua9t$ ) books & ) ! usages ( ref9$ social int]c\rse to acquit himself cr$itably 9 ! society ( cultivat$ p4 ,n moral wor?1 nor le>n+1 nor weal?1 nor all ?ree comb9$1 c1 unaid$1 make a g5tleman1 = ) all ?ree a man might be co>se1 unbr$1 uns*ool$ 9 ^? ?+s t no man c be ignorant ( & be welcome 9 ! society ( ! ref9$4 ,a mod]n ,engli% writ] says t to =mulate ! def9ition ( a g5tleman 9 negatives w\ld be easy4 8,z1 = in/ance10 he says1 8we may say t a true g5tleman does n soil 8 consci5ce ) falsehoods1 does n wa/e 8 "t on s5sual indulg5ce1 does n endeavor to make ! worse appe> ! bett] reason1 does n ridicule sacr$ ?+s1 does n wilfully give cause ( (f5ce to any1 does n seek to ov]rea* 8 neighbor1 does n =get ! respect due to womanhood1 or old age1 ! feeble or ! poor4 ,b1 to speak affirmatively10 he cont9ues1 8a g5tleman is "o ^: aims are g5]\s1 ^: tru/ is con/ant1 ^: ^w is nev] brok51 ^: honor is nev] /a9$1 :o is z g5tle z brave1 & z hone/ z wise1 :o wrongs no "o by ^w or de$1 & dignifies & embelli%es life by nobility ( ?\ght1 dep? ( feel+1 & grace ( mann]40 ,?ack]ay wrote ( ! g5tleman ?us3 8,:at is x to be a g5tleman8 ,is x n to be hone/1 to be g5tle1 to be g5]\s1 to be brave1 to be wise1 &1 possess+ all ^! qualities1 to ex]cise !m 9 ! mo/ graceful outw>d mann]8 ,ought n a g5tleman to be a loyal son1 a true husb&1 an hone/ fa!r8 ,ought n 8 life to be dec5t1 8 bills to be paid1 8 ta/es to be high & elegant1 8 aims 9 life l(ty & noble8 ,9 a ^w1 ought n ! biography ( ! ,fir/ ,g5tleman 9 ,europe to be ( su* a nature1 t x might be read 9 "y ladies' s*ools ) advantage1 & /udi$ ) pr(it 9 ! sem9>ies ( "y g5tlem580 ,ano!r ,engli% writ] says t ! prim>y ess5tials ( :at con/itutes ! true g5tleman are ,goodness1 ,g5tl5ess & ,unselfi%ness4 8,^u ^! qualities10 he says1 8are bas$ all ^? obs]vances & cu/oms t we class toge!r "u ! head ( ,good ,mann]s4 ,& ^! good mann]s1 be x rememb]$1 d n consi/ m]ely 9 ! art ( b[+ gracefully1 ( ent]+ a room prop]ly1 ( talk+ eloqu5tly1 ( be+ famili> ) ! m9or habits ( good society4 ,a man may h all ?is1 "k all ?is1 & yet1 if he is selfi%1 or ill-natur$1 or untru?ful1 fail ( be+ a g5tleman4 ,good mann]s are f> f be+ ! evid5ce ( good tra9+ only2 !y are also ! evid5ce ( a ref9$ nature4 ,!y are ! fruit ( good se$ s[n on good soil4 ,z a j & elevat$ ?\ght cle>ly & gracefully express$ is evid5ce ( a well-tra9$ m9d1 s e act1 h[ev] unimportant1 & e ge/ure1 h[ev] insignificant1 is evid5ce ( ! k9dly1 consid]ate1 mode/1 loyal nature ( ! true g5tleman1 or--( ! rev]se40 ,9 a /ory by ,spielhag51 ! di/+ui%$ ,g]man noveli/1 ,i f9d ! foll[+3 8,:at d y call a g5tleman80 ask$ ! ,duke4 8,w y give me a def9ition ( ! ^w80 8,t is n s easy1 my "l2 inde$1 ,i am n sure t x is possible to def9e ! ^w satisfactorily10 repli$ ,lady ,de ,v]e4 8,by resort+ to metaphors1 h[ev]1 ,i may p]haps be able to outl9e :at we all feel1 b are unable fully to describe4 ,a g5tleman is "o 9 :om ! vigor\s & ! delicate are happily unit$4 ,! s(t1 ! ref9$--all t comes f frequ5t+ ! society ( wom5 ( culture1 lies 9 ! #8g5tle2' ! /rong1 ! firm1 ! /]n--all t comes f battl+ ) m51 lies 9 ! #8man2' #8g5tle' implies ! possession ( all ! social1 #8man' ( all ! civil1 virtues2 #8man' is ! fi]y w9e1 #8g5tle' ! ta/eful goblet2 #8man' is ! %>p1 correct draw+1 #8g5tle1' ! w>m1 s(t color+2 #8g5tle' might be ! ,syb>ite1 :o is di/urb$ by ! fall+ ( a rose-leaf1 #8man' is ! ,brutus1 :o z judge kn[s n ev5 8 own *ild4 ,p]icles1 ! brave1 magnanim\s1 amiable1 ref9$ ,a!nian1 might be (f]$ z an example ( ! true g5tleman40 ,9 8 essay 9 ,! ,c5tury1 = ,octob]1 #ahhc1 on ! 8,*>act]i/ics ( ,london10 ,w4 ,j4 ,/illman contra/s ! ,engli% g5tleman ) ! be/ ,am]ican type z foll[s3 8,& x is 9 ?is v class t we f9d "h & !re t be/ type ( humanity1 z ! _w kn[s x1 ! true ,engli% g5tleman--a be+ ^: ext]ior decorum may be c\nt]feit$ by 8 emulator1 ^: inmo/ g5tl5ess & c\rtesy may be %ad[$ =? 9 pe] or peasant--:o loves 8 k9d1 & feels ! common bond ( div9e bir?1 b ^: mo/ p]fect union ( noble demeanor & l>ge-he>t$ness c only be f\nd :]e ! be/ type ( m9d has be5 p]mitt$ ! l>ge/ & ri*e/ culture1 & ! complete/ fre$om ( h]$it>y developm5t 9 ! mo/ favorable ext]nal circum/ances4 ,!re are nobles & noblem5--m5 :o seem to be consci\s only t surr\nd+ m5 are l[] ?an !y1 & o!rs ^: illum9ation p]vades e "o ne> !m & br+s all up into ! same _w ( light & sweetness4 ,! pre/ige ( nobility is f\nd$ on a true human in/9ct2 occasionally "o f9ds an ,engli% nobleman :o ju/ifies its exi/5ce1 & makes u snobs 9 spite ( our democracy4 8,i c\ld1 ,i am c]ta91 po9t to ,am]icans :o 9 e sub/antial trait ( ! g5tleman w /& comp>ison ) any ari/ocrat born--m5 9 :om g5tlehood has gr[n to h]$it>y rip5ess2 ! ?ird & f\r? g5]ations ( m5 :o h cultivat$ on ,am]ican soil ! virtues ( hone/y1 morality1 s9c]ity1 c\rtesy1 self-abnegation1 humanity1 b5evol5ce2 m5 & wom5 ^: babyhood 0 cradl$ 9 ^? influ5ces t make :at we call #8good bre$+1' & to :om ! v>i\s vulg>ities ( our p>v5u pr9ces are z =eign z to ! blue/-blood$ heir ( ,norm&y =tune2 & ?is is to me a m grateful & sympa!tic type ( humanity ?an t ( its ,engli% cong5]40 ,9 ! writ+s ( a ,gallic philosoph]1 ( a =m] g5]ation1 t ,i lately *anc$ ^u1 ,i f9d ! homme comme il faut--a man t is pretty ne>ly ! c\nt]p>t ( our g5tleman--describ$ ess5tially z foll[s3 ,at ! fir/ glance we discov] 9 him no?+ t arre/s ! att5tion4 ,he is simple1 calm1 +5u\s1 manly r ?an graceful1 s$ate r ?an animat$4 ,8 mann] is nei!r res]v$ nor demon/rative1 b att5tive1 respectful & gu>d$2 nei!r obsequi\s nor imp]i\s1 b calm & self-possess$4 ,8 polit5ess appe>s 9 acts r ?an 9 prote/ations4 ,?\gh he does n despise conv5tion1 he is n its slave2 he does n all[ himself to be hamp]$ by ! unimportant1 nor does he ev] see a he9\s (f5ce 9 a trifl+ brea* ( e/abli%$ usage4 ,8 dress is an index ( 8 "*3 simple1 appropriate1 h>moni\s4 ,! man ( ! _w pron\nces x ta/eful1 ! man ( ! p sees 9 x no?+ t is unusual1 & ! man ( s5se recognizes 9 x a c]ta9 indep5d5ce ( ! newe/ mode4 ,be+ ( ^? t make ha/e discreetly1 he /udies ! *>act]s ( 8 acqua9tances be=e giv+ !m 8 confid5ce4 ,9 conv]sation1 he is nei!r impati5t1 re/less1 nor hurri$1 & ?\gh he is c>eful 9 select+ 8 words1 he atta*es m importance to ! matt] ( 8 disc\rse ?an to ! mann]4 ,made to give ! tone1 he is cont5t to receive x3 he is wont to take z mu* pa9s to rema9 unnotic$ z _m ano!r takes to make himself se54 ,if he appe>s 9 a circle :]e he is n kn[n1 ! great] numb] see 9 him only a quiet1 pla9 man t1 despite 8 simplicity1 h[ev]1 has t ab\t him to :i* !y involunt>ily yield _! respect4 ,! sup]ficial1 ! presum+1 & ! malici\s1 ?\gh ignorant ( ! cause1 are emb>rass$ by 8 /eady1 se>*+ glance2 ! loyal & ! un=tunate1 on ! contr>y1 are drawn t[>d him1 feel+ t 9 him !y %all f9d a fri5d4 ,he is gu>d$ 9 speak+ ill ( o!rs1 a ?+ he nev] does b ) "r int5tions--z1 = example1 to unmask a hypocrite1 to puni% ! guilty1 or to protect ! weak4 ,9 speak+ ( 8 enemies1 he nev] =gets to be j2 he is n ( ^? t are bl9d to ! virtues ( ev5 ! mo/ unwor?y1 nor is he ( ^? t are s ung5]\s z to d5y !m4 ,he is temp]ate 9 su/a9+ 8 op9ions1 & opposes only to be bett] in=m$1 or to enliv5 ! conv]sation2 & (t5 he w sudd5ly ackn[l$ge 8 defeat1 & confess ) g5]\s s9c]ity t ! reasons ( 8 oppon5t are bett] ?an 8 own4 ,8 victories are n less noble4 ,8 aim is to enlight51 n to humiliate1 mu* less to (f5d4 ,if he f9ds t he is oppos$ by presumption1 ob/9acy or ignorance1 x is 8 habit to yield4 8,y may be "r10 he w say2 8my way ( see+ ?+s is (t5 errone\s1 & ?is1 q likely1 is ! case n[40 ,he avoids :at is likely to create discord1 seeks to promote k9dly feel+ among 8 fell[s1 & nev] pleads ! faults ( o!rs 9 ext5uation ( 8 own4 ,he is sl[ to take (f5ce1 opposes incivility ) urbanity1 & passion ) mod]ation4 ,wrong-do+ he acc\nts a weakness1 & he pleads weakness z its excuse2 ! wrong-do] excites 8 pity r ?an 8 hate4 ,he possesses1 9 a high degree1 ! happy faculty ( adapt+ himself to o!rs1 f :om he expects no m ?an !y c give & f :om he obta9s ! be/ !y h4 8,!re are few10 he says1 89 :om1 if we /udy !m1 we d n f9d "s e/imable qualities4 ,if ea* has 8 weaknesses1 s ea* has 8 virtues1 :i* x is = u to discov]40 ,h]e9 he excels4 ,! same day may see him dogmatize ) a p$ant1 reason ) a sage1 %9e 9 a social circle1 console ! un=tunate1 cont5d = ! rights ( humanity1 & swe> fidelity to ! woman ( 8 *oice4 ,he talks trade to ! %opkeep]1 politics to ! ambiti\s1 p]spective to ! pa9t]1 play-?+s to *ildhood1 h\se affairs to ! matron1 & probity to all4 ,all he says be>s ! impress ( a b5ign1 humane philosophy t is n[ grave & n[ gay1 z ! "t or ! place may dem&4 ,9 no?+ does 8 prud5ce m appe> ?an 9 8 pleasures1 = be _! "* :at x may1 !y nev] see him ov]/ep ! limit prescrib$ by dec5cy & self-respect4 ,t pleasure t injures no "o seems to him innoc5t1 & t recreation t foll[s labor seems to him reasonable4 ,hone/y ) him has become a sort ( in/9ct1 :i* he ex]cises )\t reflection4 ,! possibility t he c\ld take an ignoble advantage1 be wilfully unju/1 or betray a tru/1 mat]ial or confid5tial1 has nev] cross$ 8 ?\ght4 ,9 ! managem5t ( 8 mat]ial conc]ns1 he is a model4 ,9 l>ge exp5ditures he is gu>d$1 9 ord] t he may be ! bett] able to be lib]al 9 small ones4 ,he nev] is guilty ( t p>simony 9 little ?+s t disgraces m ?an display 9 great ones ev] exalts4 ,x is 8 special c>e to be discrim9at+ 9 8 b\nties1 mod]ate 9 8 exp5ditures & punctual 9 8 paym5ts4 ,he (t5 d5ies himself ! pleasures ( luxury to indulge 9 ^? ( b5evol5ce4 ,if mis=tune less5s 8 income1 he is prompt to retr5*2 he kn[s t ! fri5ds & acqua9tances he w lose %\ld n be acc\nt$ v]itable losses4 ,he is mode/ 9 prosp]ity1 resign$ 9 adv]sity1 & dignifi$ always4 ,if he speaks ( religion1 he *ooses c>efully ! "t & ! place4 ,:atev] ! prevail+ belief 9 ! community 9 :i* he lives1 he consid]s x z =m+ a "p ( ! laws1 & he respects :atev] contributes to /ability & ord]4 ,he attacks abuses only & seeks to de/roy only :at he c replace4 ,he takes no?+ on tru/1 b exam9es well be=e giv+ 8 ass5t2 & t religion f9ds mo/ favor ) him t atta*es mo/ importance to ! do+ ( good de$s4 ,! man t 9 8 eyes is ! mo/ truly religi\s is he t does mo/ = 8 fell[s4 ,he rejoices t b5efic5ce is held 9 l e/eem by all cre$s1 h[ev] widely may diff] _! dogmas1 & t ! v>i\s religions ( ! _w repose on ! belief 9 ! exi/5ce ( a ,supreme ,be+ t puni%es vice & rew>ds virtue4 ,he has ! mode/y to ?9k & ! hone/y to confess t z s _m millions are 9 error1 he also may err4 ,nor has he ! presumption1 l s _m ( 8 fell[s1 to set himself up z an infallible judge ( o!rs4 ,b he pities ^? presum+ motes t live b an in/ant1 come !y "k n :5ce1 & g !y "k n :]e1 & yet w\ld judge ! :ole by a "p1 & et]nity by a span1 conclude t all is b ! product ( *ance1 ass]t t :at passes _! reason is n reasonable1 & d5y ! exi/5ce ( ,him to :om millions ( ye>s are b a mom5t1 & millions ( miles b a po9t4 ,,! ,,end4 ,,books ,,by ,,alfr$ ,,ayres4 ,"s ,ill-us$ ,words4 ,a ,manual = ! ,use ( ^? :o ,desire to ,write & ,speak correctly4 #ahmo4 ,clo?1 #a4jj4 ,! book is level$ specially at "s half doz5 errors t are made by well-nigh e "o :o uses ! ,engli% language4 ,! ,or?opi/4 ,a ,pron\nc+ ,manual1 conta9+ ab\t ,f\r ,?\s& ,five ,hundr$ ,words1 includ+ a consid]able numb] ( ! names ( ,=eign ,au?ors1 ,arti/s1 etc41 t are (t5 mispron\nc$4 ,revis$ & enl>g$ edition4 #ahmo4 ,clo?1 #a4be4 8,x is suffici5t comm5dation ( ! 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