,,etiquette ,,made ,,easy ,made ,easy ,s]ies ,,etiquette ,,made ,,easy ,,by ,,edw>d ,,summ]s ,,squi]1 ,m4 ,a4 ,illu/ration ,,new ,,york ,,edw>d ,j4 ,,clode ,,copyright1 #aiai1 ,,by ,,edw>d ,j4 ,,clode ,all rights res]v$ ,ent]$ at ,/ation]s' ,hall ,,pr9t$ ,,9 ,,! ,,unit$ ,,/ates ,,( ,,am]ica ,,preface ,,! ,,polite/ ,,man ( :om hi/ory has record 0 a ,norwegian4 ,a /rang] 9 a t[n ( ,norway ask$ a pass+ native ! way to a c]ta9 address4 ,! native rais$ 8 hat1 b[$1 & said3 8,sir1 ,i am v sorry1 b ,i d n "k40 ,! /rang] pass$ on4 ,a few m9utes lat]1 he he>d ! s\nd ( "s "o runn+ beh9d him4 ,he fac$ ab\t1 & recogniz$ ! native1 :o came1 halt$1 & aft] a few deep brea?s1 said1 :ile b[+ ) uplift$ hat3 8,sir1 aft] leav+ y1 ,i met my bro!r-9-law1 & ,i regret to tell y1 ,sir1 t he also does n "k40 ,9 spite ( ?is /ory ) its ,norwegian h]o1 fir/ place is usually giv5 to ! ,fr5* 9 matt]s ( polit5ess4 ,!re is an old /ory t illu/rates ) rem>kable precision ! national traits ( ,fr5*1 ,engli% & ,g]man4 ,?is has to d ) ! mann] ( light+ a cig>4 ,! ,fr5*man /rikes a mat*1 (f]s ! flame to 8 companions1 !n makes a light = himself4 ,! ,engli%man lights 8 own cig> fir/1 & !n (f]s ! mat* to 8 companions4 ,! ,g]man lights 8 own cig>1 !n ?r[s ! mat* away4 ,! brief recital conta9s some?+ deep] ?an m]e humor 9 its analysis ( national *>act]i/ics4 ,! consid]ation ( ! ,fr5*man = o!rs is inde$ ! ess5tial basis = all true c\rtesy4 ,g5u9e polit5ess has its root always 9 a v real reg>d = ! feel+s ( o!rs4 ,! anci5t prov]b decl>es t cleanl9ess is next to godl9ess4 ,9 fact1 s f> z conc]ns casual associations1 cleanl9ess is ! m important4 ,we h ord9>ily no?+ to d ) ! morals ( ^? :om we enc\nt] = a few fugitive mom5ts1 b ! mo/ fleet+ companion%ip ) a dirty p]son is (f5sive1 :ile a p]fect cleanl9ess is always pleas+ 9 its effect4 ,z a matt] ( fundam5tal c\rtesy t[>d o!rs1 we are requir$ to keep ourselves clean4 ,su* cleanl9ess may be excell5t z a hygi5ic measure1 b "o mo/ em95t physician has decl>$ t ba?+ is n ess5tial to heal?1 & he (f]s 9 pro( ( 8 ass]tion ! great numb] ( old p]sons !re are 9 ! _w4 ,b ^? ag$ unwa%$ w\ld be repulsive 9 ref9$ society4 ,_! condition w\ld di/ress o!rs4 ,q involunt>ily1 !y w\ld ?us be guilty ( disc\rtesy4 ,! pr9ciple ( consid]ation = o!rs t exalts cleanl9ess z a virtue is ! pr9ciple t actually fa%ions all ! ess5tial =ms ( polit5ess4 ,at a dec5t d9n]-table1 "o mu/ n smack 8 lips1 or make l\d noises 9 tak+ s\p f ! spoon1 = ! simple reason t su* behavior w annoy o!rs4 ,(t51 a sympa!tic p]son1 absolutely untaught 9 ! niceties ( etiquette1 w d ! "r ?+ by a natural in/9ct ( k9dl9ess1 :]e ano!r individual ( polite bre$+ w d ! wrong f %e] lack ( t fell[-feel+ :i* gives und]/&+4 ,nev]!less1 :ile ! noble/ c\rtesy mu/ spr+ always f ! he>t1 common conv5i5ce has settl$ on def9ite me?ods ( deportm5t = v>i\s occasions4 ,ignorance ( ^! details z to prop] conduct is n a matt] to be contemn$1 b "o to be regrett$1 because a p]son ?us ignorant1 no matt] h[ k9dly 8 int5tion1 mu/ (t5 di/urb o!rs by failure to d ! expect$ ?+ 9 ! expect$ way4 ,9 o!r words1 he lacks k ( :at are t]m$ ! proprieties4 ,x is ) ! int5tion ( (f]+ assi/ance to ^? f9d+ !mselves 9 d\bt z to ! niceties ( deportm5t t ?is book has be5 prep>$4 ,x is arrang$ ) ! cont5ts 9 alphabetical ord]1 s t ! topics are self-index$4 ,9 addition to ! bulk ( in=mation set =? 9 ! foll[+ pages1 !re ne$s only "o direction ( importance4 ,?is is bas$ on ! anci5t say+3 8,:5 9 ,rome1 d z ! ,romans d40 ,practically e community has its local cu/oms1 & ^! are always to be respect$4 ,!re is no?+ m snobbi% ?an criticism by a /rang] ( social =ms t are well e/abli%$4 ,x is always 8 duty to respect !m & to obs]ve !m4 ,o!rwise1 he displays t lack ( consid]ation = o!rs :i* is ! root ( all rud5ess4 ,"o sympa!tically dispos$ t[>d 8 fell[s :o avails himself ( ! in=mation 9 ?is book may re/ confid5t 9 ! assurance t he is inde$ ! possessor ( good mann]s4 ,,cont5ts ,,page ,,at ,,homes #ac ,,ba*elor ,,ho/s #bc ,,balls #bf ,,breakfa/s #ca ,,calls #cd ,,c>ds #de ,,d9n]s #fa ,,g>d5-,,p>ties #gj ,,h\se-,,p>ties #ge ,,introductions #hd ,,lett]s #ie ,,lun*eons #ajc ,,m\rn+ #ajf ,,musicales #aac ,,op]a #aag ,,private ,,!atricals #aba ,,receptions #abb ,,smok+ #abc ,,/airs #abd ,,/reet ,,etiquette #abe ,,table ,,mann]s #abh ,,teas #acc ,,!at]-,,p>ties #acd ,,w$d+s #ada ,etiquette ,made ,easy ,,at ,,homes ,,! ,,aft]noon ,,tea is p]haps ! mo/ popul> ( social functions1 & des]v$ly s1 s9ce x is ess5tially ( ! utmo/ simplicity1 yet may be exp&$ into a mo/ elaborate social affair4 ,9 ! orig9al simple =m1 ! ho/ess m]ely welcomes h] gue/s z !y come to h] on h] regul> day at home1 9 ! draw+-room1 & !re (f]s !m a cup ( tea s]v$ by h]self & light refre%m5ts ( s&wi*es & cakes & ! l4 ,! next developm5t 9 ! tea is 9 ! nature ( a small aft]noon reception1 or at home4 ,= ?is occasion1 ! ho/ess issues invitations a week 9 advance4 ,a visit+-c>d s]ves ! purpose1 ) a l9e writt5 bel[ ! "n3 ,w$nesday1 ,june f\r? f f\r until sev5 o'clock ,if !re is to be a gue/ ( honor1 an additional l9e may indicate ! fact3 ,to meet444444444444444444444444 ,! proc$ure = ! ho/ess at a function ( ?is sort is m =mal4 ,x is usual to h ! refre%m5ts 9 ! d9+-room1 ?\gh !y %\ld n be ( an elaborate "*4 ,! teapot is plac$ at "o end ( ! table1 & presid$ ov] by "s fri5d1 s9ce ! obligations ( ! ho/ess prev5t h] r5d]+ ?is hospitable s]vice 9 p]son4 ,! ?ird /age ( ! aft]noon tea has come to take ! place ( ! old-"t reception1 ?\gh x be>s m]ely ! designation 8,at ,home40 ,! requisite invitations mu/ be s5t out any "t f a week to a =tnight be=e ! date set4 ,= ^!1 an engrav$ =m is ess5tial4 ,!y are pr9t$ on heavy :ite bri/ol bo>d1 ( ! quality describ$ = d9n]-invitations1 & inclos$ 9 a s+le envelope4 ,!y may be issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! ho/ess alone1 or 9 ! names ( a ho/ess & h] daught] or daught]s1 or 9 ! names ( husb& & wife--?\gh ?is la/ is a v mod]n innovation4 ,! foll[+ w s]ve z a model3 ,mrs4 ,james ,fr5* ,putnam ,at ,home ,april ! sev5? ,f f\r until sev5 o'clock #bjh ,flagg ,av5ue ,if ! husb& jo9s ) ! wife 9 issu+ ! invitations1 ! only *ange is 9 ! fir/ l9e3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,james ,fr5* ,putnam ,:]e a daught] is to receive ) h] "m1 ! girl's "n appe>s j bel[ t ( ! matron3 ,mrs4 ,james ,fr5* ,putnam ,miss ,putnam ,:]e !re are two or m daught]s ?us associat$ ) ! "m1 !y are includ$ "u "o title4 ,?us3 ,mrs4 ,james ,fr5* ,putnam ,! ,misses ,putnam ,:5 a y\ng] si/] is to appe> at h] db1 h] "n 9 full is giv5 a l9e aft] ^? ( h] "m & eld] si/]3 ,mrs4 ,james ,fr5* ,putnam ,miss ,putnam ,miss ,hel5 ,l\ise ,putnam ,9 ! ev5t ( a gue/ ( honor1 ! invitation may emphasize ! pres5ce ( ?is p]sonage by a special engrav$ ann\ncem5t at ! head ( ! invitation3 ,to meet 44444444444444444444444444444444444444 ,! rema9d] ( ! invitation w foll[ any ( ! =ms indicat$ above4 ,or ! ann\ncem5t may appe> 9 "o engrav$ l9e at ! foot ( ! invitation3 ,to meet44444444444444444444444444444444 ,at a reception ( ?is "*1 ! ho/ess is oblig$ to rema9 on duty ne> ! door ( ! draw+-room ?r\gh\t ! h\rs set4 ,b a husb& or daught] receiv+ ) h]1 ?\gh expect$ to jo9 h] 9 receiv+ ! gue/s at ! outset & = a consid]able "t aft]w>d1 is n s rigidly held to ! "o place1 b aft] a "t may prop]ly move ab\t among ! gue/s ) hospitable int5t4 ,b a dbutante mu/ rema9 at ! po/ ( duty ) h] "m ?r\gh\t ! :ole "t4 ,9 rec5t ye>s1 !re has develop$ a pleasant cu/om by :i* ! dbutante invites a numb] ( h] "y fri5ds to jo9 h] 9 receiv+ ! o!r gue/s4 ,x is usual to ent]ta9 ^! at d9n] aft] ! reception4 ,! refre%m5ts = an occasion ( ?is sort are s]v$ 9 ! d9+-room ) s]vants 9 att5dance4 ,tea is p\r$ at "o end ( ! table1 & p]haps *ocolate at ! o!r1 :ile a b[l ( pun* is commonly at h&4 ,! refre%m5ts are ( ! buffet v>iety1 b !y may be z ri* & v>i$ z ! ho/ess *ooses4 ,at su* functions 9 ! city1 x is usual to lay a /rip ( c>pet f ! h\se door to ! curb1 & an awn+ rais$ ov] ?is (f]s protection to ! gue/s 9 inclem5t wea!r4 ,:]e ! li/ ( gue/s is long1 a liv]i$ s]vant at ! curb n only op5s ! doors ( ! motors1 b also issues *ecks by :i* ! c>s may be summon$ = ! dep>ture ( ! gue/s4 ,a butl] op5s ! h\se door z ! gue/ approa*es1 & gives directions z to ! dress+-rooms4 ,ano!r liv]i$ s]vant at ! door ( ! draw+-room ann\nces ea* gue/ by "n to ! ho/ess4 ,at su* affairs1 bo? ho/ess & wom5 gue/s we> :at is prop]ly t]m$ a reception-g[n--t is to say1 "o ( elegance & ri*ness1 ) a tra9 if ! prevail+ mode p]mits1 b n decollet or sleeveless4 ,hats ( a "* h>moni\s ) ! g[n are worn ?r\gh\t ! function1 z are gloves4 ,! m5 we> black frock coats & gray /rip$ tr\s]s1 ) ei!r a black wai/coat or a fancy "o accord+ to *oice4 ,:ile he leaves 8 coat & hat 9 ! dress+-room at su* =mal affairs1 a man reta9s 8 gloves1 ei!r keep+ ! left glove on ! h&1 & c>ry+ ! o!r1 or c>ry+ bo?4 ,! "r h& mu/ be b>e4 ,ea* woman gue/ leaves on a tray provid$ = t purpose 9 ! hall a c>d = h] ho/ess & "o = ea* ( any o!r wom5 receiv+4 ,%e may also leave simil>ly ! c>ds ( any o!r woman memb] ( h] family :o has be5 invit$1 b does n att5d4 ,! man leaves a c>d = 8 ho/ if !re is "o1 9 addition to ^? = ! ladies4 ,no reply is necess>y f "o invit$ to su* a reception1 ei!r ( acceptance or ( refusal4 ,! pres5ce ( ! gue/s is deem$ a suffici5t answ]4 ,9 ! ev5t ( non-att5dance1 ! gue/ mu/ be at pa9s to s5d c>ds1 & ^! %\ld be s tim$ 9 ! s5d+ t !y w rea* _! address on ! day ( ! at home1 pref]ably 9 ! aft]noon4 ,at cr[d$ affairs1 ! gue/ displays good mann]s z well z good s5se by mak+ ! /ay %ort4 ,tw5ty m9utes is a suffici5t "t1 & dep>ture %\ld n be delay$ mu* beyond a half-h\r4 ,x is bett] n to say f>ewell to ! ho/ess1 unless ! go+ %\ld be at a "t :5 few gue/s rema91 & %e is obvi\sly at leisure4 ,! punctili\s gue/ w make a po9t ( arriv+ nei!r too e>ly nor too late4 ,betwe5 half-pa/ f\r & six is recomm5d$4 ,! =mal ev5+ reception is less popul> ?an 9 =m] days1 b x /ill prevails to a limit$ ext5t4 ,! proc$ure ?r\gh\t is sub/antially ! same z = t ( ! aft]noon reception4 ,! word+ ( ! invitation is id5tical1 ) ! s+le exception ( ! "t specifi$4 ,! l9e t indicat$ ! h\rs f f\r until sev5 o'clock mu/ be *ang$ to read3 ,f n9e until elev5 o'clock ,or1 x may be prop]ly /at$1 if "o's ta/e s dictates3 ,aft] n9e o'clock ,:ile = ! ev5+ reception all o!r =mal details are ! same z = an aft]noon affair1 ! co/umes ( ! gue/s1 bo? m5 & wom51 are *ang$ z befits ! *ange 9 h\rs4 ,! m5 are scrupul\s 9 ! exactitude ( _! ev5+ g>b--swall[ tail1 :ite l95 & :ite cravat & :ite wai/coat1 & pat5t-lea!r %oes2 :ile ! wom5 array !mselves 9 _! h&some/ ev5+ g[ns1 decollet & sleeveless1 & display ! ri*e/ ( _! jewels4 ,,ba*elor ,,ho/s ,,:5 ,a ,,ba*elor ent]ta9s ei!r 9 ! aft]noon or ev5+1 he foll[s 9 a g5]al way ! proc$ure indicat$ = receptions "u ! head+ 8,at ,homes40 ,if ! affair is to be elaborate1 he may use engrav$ invitations4 ,mr4 ,h>tley ,fane ,treadwell reque/s ! pleasure ( 444444444444444444444444444444444 company on ,w$nesday aft]noon1 ,novemb] ! fir/ ,f f\r until sev5 o'clock ,n9e ,ea/ ,?ird ,/reet ,a ^w or two at ! bottom on ! left may indicate any special ent]ta9m5t1 su* z ,music4 ,b !re are c]ta9 proprieties to be obs]v$ t are peculi> to ! ba*elor4 ,= example1 he is n p]mitt$ to use a visit+-c>d ) a l9e writt5 on x = less =mal invitations4 ,in/ead1 he mu/ write a note 9 ! fir/ p]son1 or he may give ! invitation orally4 ,! invitations %\ld be issu$ a week or a little less be=e ! appo9t$ "t4 ,!re is "o o!r requirem5t ( vital importance4 ,! ba*elor mu/ always h a *ap]on pres5t = any ga!r+ t includes bo? sexes4 ,& %e mu/ be invit$ by note1 or orally--ev5 9 cases :]e ! =mal engrav$ invitations are employ$4 ,! *ap]on p\rs tea1 & on occasions :5 ! gue/s are seat$ at table1 %e is giv5 ! place on ! ho/'s "r1 unless !re is a gue/ ( honor1 :5 %e is giv5 ! position on 8 left4 ,! o!r wom5 gue/s mu/ take _! dep>ture at ! same "t z ! *ap]on1 unless !y pref] an e>li] h\r4 ,! pres5ce ( ! *ap]on at su* ent]ta9m5ts makes x unnecess>y = ! unm>ri$ girl to provide "o = h]self4 ,! *ap]on %\ld be a m>ri$ woman1 & h] husb& mu/ be includ$ among ! invit$ gue/s4 ,:5 a ba*elor wi%es to issue engrav$ invitations = a =mal d9n]-p>ty or lun*eon1 he uses ! =ms provid$ respectively 9 ! *apt]s entitl$ 8,d9n]s0 & 8,lun*eons40 ,! directions z to breakfa/s also w be f\nd appropriate 9 a g5]al way z set =? 9 ! special *apt]4 ,a ba*elor %\ld always be punctili\s 9 call+ on a *ap]on %ortly aft] any affair at :i* %e has (ficiat$1 9 ord] to t5d] 8 grateful appreciation ( h] s]vices 9 8 behalf4 ,,balls ,,! ,,invitations = a =mal ball are engrav$ on a %eet simil> to t us$ = d9n]-p>ties4 ,b1 l ! d9n]-invitations1 !y may also be writt5 by ! ho/ess4 ,9 s5d+ ^! invitations by mail only "o envelope is us$ :5 ! invitation is writt5 out4 ,b ! engrav$ =m is enclos$ fir/ 9 an unseal$ envelope ) m]ely ! "n ( ! gue/ on ! cov]4 ,?is is put 9 a second envelope1 :i* is seal$ & has bo? ! "n & address writt5 on x = po/+4 ,an engrav$ invitation1 h[ev]1 :5 deliv]$ by a mess5g] requires only a s+le envelope1 seal$4 ,^! invitations mu/ be s5t out n less ?an t5 days be=e ! date ( ! ball1 & !y may be issu$ ?ree weeks be=e ! appo9t$ "t4 ,! accept$ =m may be ei!r ( ^? foll[+3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,george ,:eatley reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company on ,w$nesday ev5+1 ,april ! second at half-pa/ n9e o'clock ,danc+ #ga ,hamilton ,place ,mrs4 ,george ,:eatley ,miss ,:eatley ,at ,home ,tuesday1 ,april ! n9? at elev5 o'clock ,danc+ #ga ,hamilton ,place ,x is p]missible to write ! initials1 ,r4s4v4p4 bel[ ! ^w ,danc+4 ,9 place ( ,danc+1 ! ^w ,cotillon may appe>1 if ! :ole ev5+ is to be devot$ especially to ?is dance4 ,s1 too1 ! words ,bal ,p\dr may be sub/itut$ = ,danc+1 if ! affair is to be a co/ume ball4 ,or any o!r =m ( ent]ta9m5t may be simil>ly indicat$4 ,! =m us$ 9 accept+ or decl9+ su* an invitation foll[s exactly ! word+ giv5 9 a lat] *apt] 9 connection ) d9n]-invitations4 ,x is ! duty ( ! ho/ess to greet h] gue/s z at a d9n]-p>ty1 & a daught] or daught]s may assi/ h] 9 h] hospitable duties1 b su* assi/ance is n requir$ ( !m4 ,! ho/1 also1 may jo9 8 wife 9 receiv+1 & may make himself socially useful by v>i\s att5tions to ! gue/s4 ,b su* action on 8 "p is discretion>y1 except t 9 ! case ( a woman gue/ ( p>ticul> importance1 he %\ld take h] 9 to supp] if ?is is s]v$ at tables4 ,:]e a buffet supp] is s]v$1 x is fitt+ t he %\ld escort v>i\s gue/s f "t to "t4 ,x is n always necess>y to invite mo!rs or *ap]ons to a private ball1 & 9 t case a girl may be s5t ) a maid to accompany h]4 ,:5 ! "m receives an invitation & accepts x1 %e may *oose n to rema91 b to leave aft] entru/+ h] daught] to ! c>e ( ! ho/ess1 or "s o!r fri5d4 ,at elaborate dances1 ! supp] at midnight is s]v$ on small tables1 at :i* ! gue/s are seat$4 ,! buffet supp] is popul> on acc\nt ( its conv5i5ce1 s9ce ! gue/s select :atev] pleases !m at any "t4 ,unlike ! rule z to d9n]s1 !re is no obligation = prompt arrival on ! ball gue/4 ,likewise1 ! gue/ may leave at any "t4 ,x is n necess>y to seek ! ho/ess = a f>ewell1 b if %e is ne>1 %e %\ld be address$ ) appropriate phrase 9 appreciation ( ! hospitality t has be5 enjoy$4 ,a girl at a ball usually e/abli%es h]self 9 a seat by h] *ap]on1 to :om %e returns accord+ to h] conv5i5ce aft] danc+4 ,x is p]fectly prop] = h]1 if at any "t %e wi%es to be rid ( a p>tn]1 to ask t he accompany h] back to ?is seat beside h] *ap]on4 ,ev5+ clo!s are ess5tial = ! male gue/ at a ball1 & ! we>+ ( :ite gloves is obligatory4 ,a c>eful man is v likely to provide himself ) an extra pair4 ,at in=mal dances1 unglov$ m5 (t5 cov] ! h& ) a h&k]*ief to avoid any risk ( soil+ a p>tn]'s bodice4 ,if a man s]ves z escort = a woman1 or = a girl & h] *ap]on1 x is a "p ( 8 duty to provide a c>riage to & fro4 ,! ball-dress = wom5 is usually ! mo/ elegant _! ta/e & means w contrive4 ,x is always decollet1 & commonly sleeveless4 ,,breakfa/s ,a ,,ho/ess ,,may ,,use h] visit+-c>d = invitations to breakfa/1 simply writ+ on x bel[ h] "n3 ,breakfa/ at elev5 o'clock ,april ! f\r? ,a m =mal affair may h an engrav$ invitation on pap] simil> to t us$ 9 ! case ( d9n]s4 ,?is w\ld h ! foll[+ =m3 ,mrs4 ,george ,v9ton ,?orne reque/s ! pleasure ( 44444444444444444444444444444444 company at breakfa/ on444444444444444444444444444444444444 at44444444444444444444444444444o'clock ,elev5 ,gre5 ,/reet ,or ! ho/ess may1 if %e pref]s1 write a brief note ( invitation 9 ! fir/ p]son4 ,:atev] =m is employ$1 ! invitations %\ld be s5t out a full week1 or a little m1 be=e ! date set = ! breakfa/4 ,! answ] to su* an invitation %\ld be s5t promptly1 :e!r 9 acceptance or 9 refusal4 ,! =m is id5tical ) t = d9n]-invitations1 except t ! ^w breakfa/ is sub/itut$ = ! ^w d9n]4 ,:]e ! invitation is a note writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son1 ! answ] mu/ foll[ ! same /yle4 ,a breakfa/ ( ! m in=mal sort1 ) no m ?an eight or t5 gue/s1 may beg9 z e>ly z t5 o'clock1 b a lat] h\r is pref]r$ = v c]emoni\s affairs1 ) noon mo/ e/eem$ z ! h\r4 ,grapefruit is usually s]v$1 ) f+]-b[l accompanim5t1 & ! meal t foll[s may be z simple or z elaborate z ! ta/e & res\rces ( ! ho/ess dictate4 ,usually bo? sexes are includ$ among ! gue/s at a breakfa/4 ,! wom5 remove _! gloves aft] tak+ _! places at table1 b n _! hats4 ,veils may be remov$ entirely or pu%$ up out ( ! way1 accord+ to ! we>]'s *oice4 ,! gue/ %\ld rema9 at lea/ a half-h\r aft] ! conclusion ( ! meal1 b n long] ?an an h\r unless ju/ifi$ by exceptional circum/ances4 ,frock or cutaway coats are worn by ! m51 & aft]noon dress by ! wom54 ,! co/umes = a t5 o'clock breakfa/ %\ld be some:at pla9] ?an = "o at ! m =mal h\r ( noon4 ,,calls ,,=mal ,,calls are to be made 9 ! aft]noon betwe5 ?ree o'clock & half-pa/ five4 ,if a ho/ess has a day at home1 =mal calls on h] %\ld be made on t day4 ,x is well also s to "t visits = congratulation or to return ?anks = any hospitality1 or ! l1 z to h !m also fall on ! day at home4 ,usually1 a due att5tion by visitors to ?is set "t = call+ is appreciat$ by a ho/ess4 ,:ile ! =mal h\rs = calls are 9 ! aft]noon z indicat$ above1 ! "t v>ies 9 diff]5t neighborhoods4 ,ev5+ calls are common 9 ! c\ntry necess>ily z a matt] ( conv5i5ce4 ,&1 :ile 9 ! city wom5 pay no =mal calls on ,sunday1 ^! are p]mitt$ 9 small] places4 ,ord9>ily1 too1 !re is lic5se 9 ! c\ntry z to ! l5g? ev5 ( =mal calls1 :i* may be ext5d$ )\t impropriety f> beyond ! limit ( fifte5 or tw5ty m9utes :i* is well e/abli%$ 9 ! city4 ,a new resid5t or visitor 9 any community %\ld be at pa9s to get in=mation z to ! local usage1 & con=m to x 9 all details4 ,x is p]missible = m5 9 our c\ntry to make social calls 9 ! aft]noon on ,sunday1 or 9 ! ev5+4 ,! exig5cies ( bus9ess are ! excuse = ! dep>ture f ! /rict] =m1 :i* /ill holds 9 ! case ( wom54 ,! h\r ( su* ev5+ calls 9 ! l>g] cities is f eight to n9e1 b ! "t is e>li] 9 small] t[ns & 9 ! c\ntry4 ,9 e in/ance1 ! local cu/om is to be foll[$4 ,( c\rse1 too1 m5 ( leisure may pay _! calls 9 ! aft]noon4 ,new resid5ts 9 a neighborhood mu/ await calls f ^? already e/abli%$ !re4 ,9 ! city1 ! fir/ calls ( ! social season %\ld be receiv$ by ! ho/ess :o fir/ s5ds out h] at-home c>ds4 ,:]e wom5 h met out ( t[n1 & wi% to cont9ue ! acqua9tance 9 ! city1 ! unm>ri$ woman %\ld call on ! matron1 or "o :o is "u any obligation = hospitality %\ld make ! fir/ call4 ,unless a di/9ction be drawn = "s su* reason1 ei!r may prop]ly pay ! fir/ visit4 ,x is notori\s t 9 ! l>ge cities !re is no welcome = ! newcom] f ! dwell] next door or across ! /reet4 ,! conditions ( city life ju/ify su* alo(ness4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ! conditions ( life 9 ! small] places w>rant exactly ! opposite 9 ! matt] ( hospitality4 ,x is ! recogniz$ duty ( ! old] resid5ts to welcome new arrivals by call+ on !m promptly1 aft] ! /rang]s h _h "t to dispose !mselves com=tably4 ,!re are _m v>ieties ( ^? calls t are impos$ by =mal c\rtesy4 ,?us1 9 ! matt] ( w$d+s1 x becomes ! duty ( any "o :o has tak5 (ficial "p 9 ! affair1 su* z a bride's-maid or a be/ man1 to call on ! "m ( ! bride )9 a few days aft] ! m>riage c]emony1 & also to call on ! bride imm$iately aft] h] return f ! honeymoon trip4 ,! l duty devolves on invit$ gue/s to a home w$d+1 to a w$d+-reception & to a w$d+-breakfa/4 ,a simil> =mal call %\ld be paid to ! ho/ess by ea* gue/ at a d9n]1 or breakfa/1 or o!r special ent]ta9m5t4 ,su* a call mu/ be made )9 two weeks4 ,! obligation is ! same ev5 9 cases :]e ! invitation has be5 decl9$4 ,z to ! return+ ( calls1 su* visits %\ld be made on ! day at home if !re is "o1 & o!rwise at a suitable "t accord+ to ! social usage ( ! neighborhood )9 a =tnight4 ,b ?is rul+ applies prop]ly only to ! return = a fir/ call4 ,aft]w>d1 a long] or %ort] int]val may elapse betwe5 visits accord+ to ! desire ( ! p>ties conc]n$4 ,a =m] acqua9tance may be ma9ta9$ m]ely by an annual ex*ange ( calls4 ,x mu/ be not$1 h[ev]1 t a call 9 p]son dem&s a p]sonal visit 9 return4 ,! =mal leav+ ( a c>d at ! door does n suffice4 ,p]sons giv+ up _! resid5ce 9 a community or go+ on a long j\rney %\ld s5d _! c>ds to _! full visit+-li/ ) ! initials ,p4p4c4 7,p\r pr5dre cong1 = leave-tak+74 ,x occurs (t5 t a p]son wi%es to call on a fri5d 9 ! home ( a /rang]4 ,su* a call is p]missible1 b ! visitor %\ld ask = ! ho/ess z well z ! fri5d1 & leave a c>d = h]4 ,9 ! matt] ( initiative1 x is fitt+ t an eld] woman %\ld invite a y\ng] to ! ex*ange ( c>ds & calls1 & t ! matron %\ld ?us invite ! maid54 ,:]e !re is equality ( ye>s or /ation1 ! fir/ advance mu/ dep5d on ! p]sonal incl9ations ( ! p>ties4 ,! proprieties 9 ref]5ce to calls betwe5 wom5 are ?us se5 to be simple en\gh4 ,!re is m complexity 9 ! proc$ure :5 x has to d ) ! call+ ( m5 on wom54 ,x is n deem$ prop] = a "y unm>ri$ woman to invite calls f m54 ,su* visits on _! "p are left to ! discretion ( ! "m or *ap]on4 ,b1 und\bt$ly1 ! dbutante w see to x t "m or *ap]on does n fail 9 h] functions4 ,z to ! old] wom51 & ^? m>ri$1 !re is "s v>iation locally 9 ! polite usage4 ,sometimes ! woman feels x h] privilege to invite ! man to call )\t await+ solicitation on 8 "p2 sometimes %e requires t ! advance %\ld be on ! "p ( ! man 9 ! =m ( a reque/ = p]mission to visit h]4 ,if any p]son requires t a def9ite "t %\ld be giv5 = ! emancipation ( a girl f ! social dom9ance ( h] "m or *ap]on1 x may be set at ab\t ! tw5ty-fif? ye>1 aft] :i* "t a "y woman is !oretically fitt$ to decide = h]self z to :o h] visitors %all be4 ,a "y woman ( s5sibility w be extremely *>y ( h] invitations to m51 & v sure be=e ext5d+ !m t !y are really desir$4 ,if at any "t a man fails to avail himself ( su* an invitation1 h] self-respect w n p]mit h] to repeat x4 ,! /rictness ( ! above rules ( conduct has be5 greatly relax$ 9 ! case ( ! av]age ,am]ican girl1 :o democratically insi/s f ! outset ( h] social c>e] on h] own *oice 9 ! matt] ( acqua9tances & fri5ds4 ,b ev5 ?is laxity does n p]mit an invitation to a man on ! fir/ meet+4 ,su* ha/e is nei!r good =m nor ord9>y prud5ce4 ,9 a consid]ation ( =mal calls1 x %\ld be not$ t 9 practise ! (fices ( ! wife are commonly accept$ 9 h] husb&'s behalf by h] leav+ 8 c>d :5 %e pays h] d9n]-call1 or ! l4 ,! exig5cies ( bus9ess are suppos$ to ju/ify ?is vic>i\s me?od4 ,:ile x is prop] = a woman to call ^u a man = bus9ess reasons1 social calls are =bidd54 ,calls ( condol5ce1 except :5 !re is an intimate fri5d%ip1 are prop]ly made by leav+ a c>d4 ,! expression ( sympa?y is usually be/ made by a brief note4 ,calls ( congratulation may be made by acqua9tances ( bo? sexes on a woman :o ann\nces h] engagem5t to be m>ri$4 ,calls foll[+ ! ann\ncem5t ( a bir? are expect$ by ! "m f ! wom5 ( h] acqua9tance4 ,! day at home is su* a social conv5i5ce t x is popul>1 n only 9 ! cities1 b 9 _m small] t[ns4 ,x is usually set = "o aft]noon 9 ! week1 sometimes = an aft]noon ea* two weeks dur+ ! social season4 ,! day %\ld appe> on ! visit+-c>d4 ,! h\rs = ent]ta9+ on ! day at home are f ?ree until six1 b ?is p]iod is frequ5tly ext5d$ = ano!r h\r4 ,! ho/ess %\ld devote h]self assidu\sly to h] gue/s1 & %\ld provide "s light =ms ( food & dr9k4 ,usually1 tea is s]v$4 ,suffici5t notice is giv5 ( ! day at home by s5d+ out ! visit+-c>ds at ! beg9n+ ( ! season4 ,"o advantage ( ! day at home is t x ju/ifies ! ho/ess 9 n receiv+ casual call]s on o!r occasions4 ,x is ! duty ( ! ho/ess to meet & address ea* gue/ ) a h&%ake4 8,h[ d y d1 ,mrs4 ,smi?8 ,i am s glad to see y60 or a simil> phrase1 %\ld be us$ 9 greet+ ea* arrival4 ,%e %\ld also introduce /rang]s to o!r gue/s ne> by4 ,%e %\ld n leave ! reception-room to make h] f>ewells to dep>t+ gue/s1 unless 9 case ( "s p]son ( p>ticul> di/9ction4 8,good-aft]noon1 ,mr4 ,br[n4 ,i %all hope to see y aga9 v soon10 or ! l1 af=ds a suffici5t =m ( f>ewell4 ,if ! husb& is pres5t dur+ 8 wife's at home1 he %\ld und]take to second h] hospitable ef=ts to ! be/ ( 8 ability1 %[+ att5tion to any requir+ x4 ,a woman call] does n remove h] gloves or veil1 or ev5 h] wrap1 unless x is a heavy "o4 ,b rubb]s & umbrella & any heavy out] g>m5t %\ld be left 9 ! hall4 ,= a man1 =mal polit5ess p]mits ! c>ry+ ( bo? hat & /ick into ! draw+-room4 ,b ?is rule is to-day m honor$ 9 ! brea* ?an 9 ! obs]vance4 ,&1 too1 ! "r h& at lea/ is usually unglov$4 ,! hat & /ick1 :5 c>ri$1 are held 9 ! left h&1 & %\ld be reta9$ ?r\gh\t ! call1 ?\gh x is p]missible to put !m d[n on ! floor beside "o1 = great] conv5i5ce :5 tak+ refre%m5ts4 ,:5 ! day at home is ( a =mal sort1 ! wom5 d n ex*ange kisses 9 greet+1 & ! gloves are n tak5 (f ev5 :5 tea is drunk4 ,,c>ds ,,visit+-,,c>ds are ( ?ree sizes1 :i* rema9 practically ! same ye> aft] ye>4 ,! l>ge/ is t us$ by matrons1 :ile t ( ! unm>ri$ woman is a v little small]1 & t ( ! man mu* small]4 ,! pres5t /yle z to mat]ials favors a poli%$ bri/ol bo>d t is :ite & sub/antial )\t be+ too heavy4 ,?is %\ld be pr9t$ f an engrav$ plate 9 black ink4 ,! lett]+ may be a runn+ script or old ,engli%4 ,"u no circum/ances %\ld a woman's c>d c>ry any prefix o!r ?an ,mrs4 or ,miss1 b "o or ! o!r ( ^! inv>iably appe>s4 ,?is rule does n apply 9 ! case ( pr(essional wom5 :o may wi% a di/9ctive c>d = bus9ess purposes1 ) its prefix ( ,dr4 or ,rev4 ,su* a c>d w\ld also c>ry ! address 9 ! l[] "r-h& corn] & p]haps (fice-h\rs 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]4 ,b ev5 ! pr(essional woman requires ! pla9] =m ( c>d = social purposes4 ,!re is a t5d5cy at pres5t to give ! "n 9 full on ! c>d4 ,= example1 ,mrs4 ,john ,james ,smi?1 or ,miss ,maude ,mac,arthur4 ,x is p]missible = ! s5ior matron ( a family to use only ! family "n on h] c>d ) ! prefix3 = example1 ,mrs4 ,full]4 ,x is m common1 h[ev]1 to omit ! ,*ri/ian "n ( an elde/ daught] :o is unm>ri$3 ,miss ,full]4 ,! o!r daught]s require ! ,*ri/ian "n on _! c>ds3 ,miss ,m>y ,full]1 ,miss ,gladys ,full]4 ,! t5d5cy 9 ?is c\ntry is /rongly aga9/ ! omission ( ! "n 9 ei!r ( ! above cases4 ,al?\gh x is p]fectly correct z a social usage1 x is oppos$ to ! _s ( our in/itutions4 ,!re is "s v>iation 9 ! use ( ! "n on ! c>d 9 ! case ( a wid[4 ,x is )9 ! woman's *oice :e!r %e w cont9ue to use ! ,*ri/ian "n ( h] husb& on ! c>d1 or w put h] own 9 place ( x4 ,9 o!r words1 %e may use ! same c>ds aft] ! dea? ( h] husb& z be=e if %e pref]s1 or %e may foll[ ! ,mrs4 ) h] own ,*ri/ian "n4 ,a common =m to-day gives ! woman's ,*ri/ian "n & ! surname to :i* %e 0 born & f9ally ! surname ( h] husb&4 ,a pres5t vogue p]mits also ! use ( only ! two surnames1 )\t ! ,*ri/ian "n4 ,?us1 ,m>y ,br[n m>ries ,james ,rob9son4 ,! husb& dies & ! wid[ *anges h] visit+-c>ds1 :i* h read1 ,mrs4 ,james ,rob9son1 s t !y n[ read1 ,mrs4 ,m>y ,rob9son4 ,!n pres5tly %e gr[s ambiti\s socially & has h] c>ds *ang$ to read1 ,mrs4 ,m>y ,br[n ,rob9son4 ,soon1 %e seizes on a new] /yle1 & aga9 *anges h] c>ds 9 accordance ) x to read1 ,mrs4 ,br[n ,rob9son4 ,x %\ld be not$ t ! v>iations 9 c>ds practis$ by wid[s are us$ also by divorc$ wom54 ,& :5 a divorce resumes h] maid5 "n %e prop]ly uses ) x ! prefix ,mrs41 n ,miss4 ,z a matt] ( /rict propriety1 a girl dur+ h] fir/ social season does n =mally use an individual c>d4 ,h] "n appe>s bel[ t ( h] "m 9 ! same lett]+4 ,:5 mak+ calls unaccompani$ by h] "m1 ! latt]'s "n is cross$ out ) a p5cil m>k4 ,:]e two daught]s ( ne>ly ! same age are conc]n$1 bo? are includ$ on ! "m's c>d by ! words ,! ,misses1 foll[$ by ! family "n4 ,! above details are appli$ especially to a dbutante 9 ! fir/ season4 ,aft]w>d1 a "y woman uses h] own individual c>d :5 call+ alone4 ,b ?is c>d %\ld n c>ry on x ! day at home4 ,! at-home /atem5t appe>s on ! "m's individual c>d4 ,x is giv5 also on ! c>d comb9+ ! names ( "m & daught]4 ,! comb9ation c>d may ) correctness be frequ5tly us$ 9 appropriate circum/ances until ! daught]'s m>riage4 ,! notice ( ! day at home is plac$ 9 ! l[] left-h& corn] ( ! c>d4 ,only ! day ( ! week is giv51 or ) su* qualification z may be requir$ if ! at-home day is n ( weekly recurr5ce4 ,! h\rs %\ld n be specifi$ unless !y are a di/9ct v>iation f ! cu/om>y "t1 betwe5 ?ree & six4 ,9 addition1 a "t limit to ! at homes may be specifi$4 ,?us1 ,fridays until ,m>*4 ,( c\rse1 ! beg9n+ is set = any individual by reception ( ! c>d4 ,a m>ri$ woman f9ds frequ5t use = a c>d 9 comb9ation ) h] husb&1 ?\gh ?is by no means takes ! place ( h] individual c>ds1 &1 :ile x be>s ! address 9 ! l[] "r-h& corn]1 does n usually give ! at-home day4 ,?is c>d may prop]ly be us$ = ^? =mal occasions 9 :i* h] husb& is conc]n$4 ,= example1 x may fitt+ly accompany a gift f husb& & wife4 ,x s]ves also = ann\nc+ a m>riage ) ! resid5ce ( ! bridal c\ple4 ,a man's visit+-c>d always c>ries ! prefix ,mr4 ,! s+le exception to ?is is :5 ,jr4 foll[s ! "n4 ,! "n is commonly giv5 9 full1 b x is p]missible to use only ! initial ( ! middle "n4 ,x is /rictly prop] = ! male head ( a family to use only ! family "n on 8 c>d1 prec$$ by ,mr4 ,?us1 ! head ( ! ,smi?s--c\ld he be locat$--might use on 8 visit+-c>d m]ely ,mr4 ,smi?1 in/ead ( ,mr4 ,john ,smi?4 ,! home address appe>s 9 ! l[] "r-h& corn] ( ! c>d1 & a ba*elor may add also ! "n ( a club 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]4 ,! bus9ess address1 ( c\rse1 %\ld nev] appe> on ! c>d us$ = social purposes4 ,likewise1 a day at home %\ld n be giv5 by a ba*elor ev5 ?\gh he may ent]ta9 regul>ly4 ,x is a safe rule to avoid titles on ! visit+-c>ds ( m5 z ( wom54 ,! only exceptions are 9 in/ances little likely to conc]n ! av]age read] ( ?is book4 ,su* in/ances are af=d$ by ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 ! ,vice-,presid5t1 ,ambassadors1 ! high] ,judici>y1 ,army & ,navy ,(fic]s1 cl]gym5 & physicians4 ,! cu/om 9 ! army1 h[ev]1 =bids any prefix except pla9 ,mr4 to an (fic] bel[ ! rank ( ,capta94 ,9 ! case ( all (fic]s ! nature ( 8 comm& is prop]ly /at$ 9 a l[] corn] ( ! c>d4 ,lawy]s & physicians %\ld h only ! home address on ! c>d us$ = social purposes4 ,ano!r c>d ) ! bus9ess address %\ld be us$ = bus9ess purposes4 ,b ,dr4 is prop]ly us$ by ! physician 9 place ( ,mr4 on 8 visit+-c>ds4 ,likewise1 a cl]gyman uses ,rev]5d1 or its abbreviation ,rev41 on all 8 c>ds1 :i* are commonly id5tical = bo? social & pr(essional uses4 ,! lett]s indicative ( degrees are n giv5 aft] ! "n on ! visit+-c>d1 ?\gh a s+le exception is sometimes made by cl]gym5 :o omit ,rev4 be=e _! names &1 9 lieu ( x1 use ,d4,d4 foll[+ ! "n4 ,:5 x becomes necess>y1 = any reason1 to write "o's "n on a visit+-c>d1 ! prefix ,mr4 %\ld be giv51 foll[+ ! ord9>y =m ( ! engrav$ c>d4 ,c>e %\ld be tak5 9 ! case ( m\rn+-c>ds to avoid a too o/5tati\s p>ade ( grief by an unduly broad m>g9 ( black4 ,some:at less ?an a half in* is p]missible = a wid['s c>d1 &1 aft] ! fir/ ye>1 x is well to h ?is wid? r$uc$4 ,(t51 o!r r$uctions 9 ! size ( ! bord] are made at int]vals ( six mon?s1 z long z ! p]iod ( m\rn+ cont9ues4 ,! c>d ( a wid[] mu/ c>ry a bord] proportionately n>r[]1 z its size is small] ?an a woman's c>d1 b ! decrease 9 wid? is made aft] ! same mann]4 ,:5 a woman elects to rema9 9 m\rn+ p]man5tly1 ! n>r[ black bord] may be reta9$ ?r\gh\t h] lifetime4 ,x is n cu/om>y to make v>iations 9 ! m\rn+ bord] = ! commemoration ( p]sons o!r ?an husb& or wife4 ,= ^!1 a fitt+ wid? is ab\t a twelf? "p ( an in*1 :i* rema9s ! same ?r\gh\t ! p]iod ( m\rn+4 ,:5 a call is made on a day at home1 ! c>d or c>ds are commonly left 9 ! hall on a tray plac$ = t purpose4 ,a m>ri$ woman call+ on ! at-home day ( ano!r m>ri$ woman = ! fir/ "t 9 ! season leaves h] own c>d & two ( h] husb&'s c>ds4 ,b 9 lat] calls on ! at-home day %e leaves h] c>d & ! two c>ds ( h] husb&'s only :5 ! call ackn[l$ges ent]ta9m5t (f]$ to !m by ! ho/ess4 ,!re has be5 consid]able simplification 9 rec5t ye>s z to ! leav+ ( c>ds4 ,!y are no long] weirdly b5t 9 sign ( deliv]y 9 p]son1 & a small] numb] are us$4 ,?us1 ?\gh ! ho/ess ref]r$ to above may h unm>ri$ daught]s receiv+ ) h]1 c>ds = !m ne$ n be left4 ,b ! pres5ce ( a m>ri$ daught] or a fri5d =mally assi/+ 9 ! reception ( ! gue/s requires ! leav+ ( a c>d4 ,a woman leaves no c>ds = ! m5 ( ! family :]e %e visits4 ,x is ! bus9ess ( ! wife to fulfill h] husb&'s =mal social duties by leav+ 8 c>ds ) h]s :5ev] ent]ta9m5t %\ld be ackn[l$g$4 ,:]e two sp9/]s %>e a resid5ce1 a woman call]1 ! fir/ "t 9 ! season1 %\ld leave two ( h] c>ds1 & also1 if %e is a m>ri$ woman1 two ( h] husb&'s4 ,s1 too1 a c>d %\ld be left = a daught] or si/] :o is ho/ess ( ! h\se1 ev5 ?\gh %e may be unm>ri$4 ,:5 an unm>ri$ girl uses h] individual c>d1 %e %\ld foll[ ! proc$ure indicat$ = ! matron 9 ! use ( h]s4 ,or %e may use ! comb9ation c>d ( h] "m & h]self z already describ$ above4 ,a call on a "m & daught] :o are out requires ! leav+ ( two c>ds4 ,! same proc$ure is necess>y 9 ! case ( a ho/ess :o has a fri5d /ay+ ) h]4 ,likewise1 a call made on a fri5d :o is a gue/ 9 ano!r's h\se dem&s ! leav+ ( two c>ds4 ,?is rule applies 9 ! case ( a man z well z ( a woman4 ,x %\ld be obs]v$ t two c>ds are deem$ suffici5t 9 mo/ cases4 ,:]e1 h[ev]1 ! ho/ess has a gue/ /ay+ ) h] & also daught]s ( h] own1 ?ree c>ds are to be left4 ,a man wi%+ to call on a p>ticul> woman mu/ be punctili\s 9 leav+ c>ds n only = ! p>ticul> "o 9 :om he is int]e/$1 b also = ! "m or *ap]on1 & /ill a ?ird = ! ho/4 ,b1 if a call is made on a woman on h] at-home day1 no c>d ne$ be left1 unless ! call is 9 ackn[l$gm5t ( ent]ta9m5t4 ,9 ! latt] case1 a s+le c>d is left = ! ho/4 ,x is advisable1 h[ev]1 t 9 8 fir/ call he %\ld leave a c>d = conv5i5ce 9 ! matt] ( address4 ,x is p]missible on c]ta9 occasions to leave visit+-c>ds ) ! s]vant at ! door1 or to s5d !m ?r\gh ! mail or by a mess5g]1 in/ead ( mak+ ! call 9 p]son4 ,sometimes a woman :o is ow+ a call ?us s5ds h] c>d along ) an invitation1 z = lun*eon or d9n]4 ,! invitation is consid]$ to ju/ify ! m]ely =mal matt] ( ! c>d4 ,s1 too1 a p]son receiv+ an invitation f a ho/ess :o is a /rang] mu/1 if ! invitation is decl9$1 leave c>ds )9 two weeks aft] ! date ( ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,an invalid may s5d c>ds ?r\gh ! po/ 9 ackn[l$gm5t ( calls ( inquiry1 & a woman 9 m\rn+ is able to fulfill h] obligations 9 ! same mann]4 ,c>ds are =mally left by all :o receive invitations to a *ur* w$d+1 & ! requirem5t is ! same = ^? to :om an ann\ncem5t ( ! m>riage is s5t4 ,su* c>ds are dem&$ ( m5 & wom5 bo?1 to be left = ! "m ( ! bride )9 a =tnight aft] ! c]emony4 ,c>ds are left )9 a prop] "t aft] any =m ( ent]ta9m5t to :i* ! memb]s ( a club are invit$1 ?\gh !re may be no o!r social acqua9tance ) ! ho/ess4 ,9 calls ( condol5ce or inquiry1 c>ds are always left4 ,!y may be us$ also1 z h]e9be=e /at$1 to ann\nce a prolong$ abs5ce or a *ange ( address4 ,:5 c>ds are left 9 p]son1 !y are deliv]$ to ! s]vant at ! door4 ,"o or two or ?ree are to be left accord+ to ! circum/ances4 ,! call] %\ld tell ! s]vant ! p]sons = :om ! c>ds are design$4 ,good ta/e dictates t calls ( inquiry conc]n+ ! condition ( a sick p]son %\ld be made 9 p]son4 ,c>ds %\ld be left at ! "t ( su* calls1 except 9 ! case ( intimates4 ,! c>ds %\ld n be mail$ or s5t by mess5g]4 ,ackn[l$gm5t ( c>ds ( condol5ce are made aft] a fun]al by a l>ge black-edg$ c>d ( ?anks1 :i* %\ld be s5t )9 a mon?4 ,su* c>ds are usually m]ely pr9t$1 n engrav$4 ,! word+ %\ld be ( ! simple/4 ,mrs4 ,jack ,rob9son returns ?anks to 44444444444444444444444444444 = h] k9d sympa?y ,! address ( ! "o s5d+ ! c>d %\ld appe> at ! bottom4 ,! =m is v>i$ accord+ to circum/ances4 ,?us3 ,mrs4 ,montgom]y ,james & ,family return ?anks = y\r k9d sympa?y ,"s p]sons pref] to leave _! visit+-c>ds ) ! m\rn+ bord] on ^? to :om ackn[l$gm5t is due1 in/ead ( s5d+ ! special c>d by mail4 ,p]sonal calls1 h[ev]1 are n made by ^? 9 m\rn+ )9 ?ree mon?s at lea/ ( ! "t ( ! fun]al4 ,if e>li] ackn[l$gm5t is to be made1 ! visit+-c>d ) m\rn+-bord] may be s5t by mail )9 a few weeks4 ,a ^w ( ?anks %\ld be writt5 on ! c>d4 ,= example3 ,) grateful appreciation ( y\r sympa?y ,! use ( ,p4p4c4 c>ds has already be5 describ$ 9 ! *apt] on calls4 ,x %\ld be add$ t !y are conv5i5t :5 "o is leav+ on %ort notice )\t "t to pay 9 p]son all calls due4 ,! ,p4p4c4 c>d involves no duty ( ackn[l$gm5t on ! "p ( its recipi5t4 ,a woman tempor>ily /opp+ 9 any place s5ds c>ds conta9+ h] address to any acqua9tances %e may h !re4 ,h] ord9>y visit+-c>d s]ves ! purpose1 ) a p5cil l9e drawn ?r\gh ! engrav$ address & ! tempor>y "o writt5 above x4 ,b a man1 9 ! same circum/ances1 makes 8 calls 9 p]son4 ,! new-born infant emb>ks on its social c>e] by means ( ! c>d4 ,! bir? ( a *ild is made kn[n to ! "m's social li/ by mail+ ! "m's c>d1 :i* has ti$ to x by a /rip ( :ite sat9 ribbon a c>d only a qu>t] z l>ge c>ry+ ! full "n ( ! baby4 ,9 ?is case1 ! prefix ,mr4 or ,miss is omitt$1 b ! date ( bir? appe>s 9 a l[] corn]4 ,! recipi5ts ( ^! c>ds are requir$ to call ) inquiry z to ! heal? ( ! s5d]s1 & to leave _! c>ds 9 return4 ,p]sons resid+ at a di/ance may po/ _! c>ds ( ackn[l$gm5t1 ) a p5cil$ phrase ( congratulation4 ,,d9n]s ,,=mal ,,invitations to d9n] %\ld be s5t betwe5 five & t5 days be=e ! date4 ,a ho/ess may use h] own discretion z to :e!r %e w write ! invitations by h& or use an engrav$ =m4 ,! word+ is ! same 9 ei!r case4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,walt] ,peck reque/ ! pleasure ( 4444444444444444444444444444444444444444 444 company at d9n] on44444444444444444ev5+ at444444444444444444444444o'clock #dja ,arm/rong ,/reet ,! engrav$ =m %\ld be pr9t$ on a l>ge1 heavy piece ( bri/ol bo>d 9 old ,engli% or block type1 or 9 script4 ,:5 ! d9n] has a gue/ ( honor1 notice ( ! fact may be giv5 by a l9e across ! bottom ( ! invitation3 ,to meet ,capta9 ,ar?ur ,%ayne ,or a special small c>d may be inclos$ ) ! invitation1 on :i* is engrav$ a simil> phrase4 ,:5 ! affair is ( extraord9>y importance1 ! =m ( invitation may dignify ! purpose by ann\nc+ x at ! outset4 ,to meet ,! ,bi%op ( ,albany ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,william ,a/or reque/ ! pleasure ( 4444444444444444444444444444444444444444 company at d9n] on444444444444444444444444444ev5+ at44444444444444444444444444444o'clock #dja ,arm/rong ,/reet ,= d9n]s to :i* only a small numb] ( p]sons are invit$ & ^! mutually acqua9t$1 ! =mal mode ( invitation is n requir$4 ,a simple note is suffici5t4 #ca ,hamilton ,place1 ,m>* #g?1 #aiai ,my ,de> ,mrs4 ,rob9son3 ,w y & ,mr4 ,rob9son1 if dis5gag$1 give u ! pleasure ( y\r company at d9n] on ,friday ! ?irte5?1 at half-pa/ sev5 o'clock8 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 ,edi? ,mac,arthur ,?is =m may be v>i$ accord+ to ! ta/e ( ! writ] & ! degree ( intimacy ) ! p]son to :om ! invitation is s5t4 ,:5 x becomes necess>y to invite "s "o to take ! place ( a gue/ :o is unable to be pres5t1 ?is late invitation %\ld n be ( ! =mal sort1 b %\ld be conta9$ 9 a note frankly expla9+ ! circum/ances4 ,su* invitations1 ( c\rse1 are nev] made to m]ely =mal acqua9tances4 ,! cu/om =m]ly prevail$ ( writ+ ! initials ,r4s4v4p41 on ! d9n] invitations1 ! initials ( ! ,fr5* words1 rpondez1 s'il v\s plat 7reply if y please74 ,b ?is usage has lo/ favor4 ,an invitation to d9n] dem&s an imm$iate answ]1 ei!r accept+ or decl9+4 ,! invitation _c be accept$ conditionally1 nor c ! decision be delay$4 ,! =m ( reply %\ld be z simple z ! =m ( ! invitation4 #ag ,nor? ,/reet ,april #cj?1 #aiai ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,sloan ,pott] accept ) pleasure ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,moreh\se's invitation to d9n] ,tuesday ev5+1 ,may ! six? at half-pa/ sev5 ,= a decl9ation1 ! foll[+ =m may be us$3 #ag ,nor? ,/reet ,april #cj1 #aiai ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,sloan ,pott] regret t _! abs5ce f ! city mu/ prev5t _! acceptance ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,moreh\se's invitation to d9n] on ,tuesday ev5+1 ,may ! six? at half-pa/ sev5 ,! invitation 9 ! =m ( a note is answ]$ simil>ly by a note4 ,?us3 #db ,*e/nut ,/reet ,april #cj1 #aiai ,my ,de> ,mrs4 ,moreh\se3 ,x is ) mu* pleasure t ,i accept y\r k9d invitation to d9n] on ,tuesday ev5+1 ! six?1 at half-pa/ sev5 o'clock4 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 ,hel5 ,pott] ,a decl9ation %\ld /ate a c\rte\s reason4 ,all su* answ]s are address$ to ! ho/ess alone4 ,if %e is m>ri$ ! husb& is1 nev]!less1 omitt$ f ! address4 ,! reply to an in=mal invitation %\ld always be correspond+ly in=mal4 ,= a =mal d9n]1 !re %\ld be an ev5 numb] ( gue/s1 eight or t51 or m1 ) ! sexes ev5ly divid$4 ,ei!r a r\nd or squ>e table w s]ve1 b x %\ld be l>ge en\gh to accommodate all ! p>ty )\t cr[d+4 ,a pad %\ld cov] ! table4 ,! :ite clo? ov] ?is %\ld be s l>ge t ! corn]s rea* ne>ly to ! floor4 ,a fold$ napk9 is plac$ on ea* plate1 ) a roll or piece ( bread laid )9 x4 ,?ree =ks are laid to ! left ( ! plate1 ) prongs up4 ,two /eel knives are to ! "r ( ! plate1 & !n a silv] knife1 ! edge ( ea* to ! left4 ,a s\p spoon foll[s ! silv] knife1 & !n an oy/] =k4 ,o!r ut5sils are sometimes add$1 b are n necess>y4 ,a goblet = wat] is plac$ be=e ! knives4 ,) x are gr\p$ :atev] w9e glasses may be requir$4 ,a small c>d ly+ on ! napk9 c>ries ! "n ( ! gue/ to be seat$ "h4 ,:5 d9n] is ann\nc$1 ! ho/ (f]s 8 arm to ! woman :o is to sit on 8 "r1 & leads ! way to ! d9+-room4 ,already1 9 welcom+ ! gue/s1 ! ho/ess has made kn[n ! d9n]-p>tn]s1 introduc+ !m :5 necess>y4 ,^! n[ foll[ 9 pairs to ! d9+-room4 ,! ho/ess br+s up ! re>4 ,! gue/s f9d _! places by ! c>ds4 ,! ho/ess does n rise 9 greet+ a late arrival1 ev5 a woman4 ,b ! ho/ does1 & sees to ! seat+ ( ! lagg>d4 ,x has long be5 ! cu/om = ! ladies to leave ! d9+-room aft] ! fruit c\rse1 & to h c(fee s]v$ 9 ! draw+-room4 ,9 su* case1 ! m5 /& until ! wom5 h pass$ out4 ,aft]w>d1 !y seat !mselves :]e !y please1 & smok+ is p]mitt$4 ,! pres5t-day t5d5cy1 h[ev]1 is t[>d less5+ ! "t ( ?is sep>ation & (t5 do+ away ) x altoge!r1 especially at less =mal d9n]s1 :i* o!rwise foll[ an ess5tially id5tical r\t9e4 ,bo? ho/ & ho/ess mu/ say f>ewell1 /&+1 ) a h&clasp1 to ea* gue/4 ,z = ! gue/1 8 fir/ duty is to arrive exactly on "t4 ,fifte5 m9utes ( delay is ! limit4 ,on c]emoni\s occasions1 ! ho/ess writes a lady's "n on a c>d1 & places x 9 an envelope4 ,?is is giv5 to ! male gue/ on 8 arrival by a s]vant1 & f x he le>ns ! id5tity ( ! "o he is to take 9 to d9n]4 ,:5 ! d9n] is ann\nc$1 he (f]s 8 arm1 & escorts ! woman into ! d9+-room1 :]e he pulls out h] *air1 & /&s until %e is seat$4 ,x is p]missible = d9n]-p>tn]s1 aft] ! op5+ c\rses1 to give "s att5tion to _! o!r imm$iate neighbors4 ,a gue/ is free to leave at any "t aft] ! conclusion ( ! d9n]4 ,usually1 an h\r is long en\gh to rema9 aft] ! meal is end$4 ,9 tak+ leave1 ! gue/ mu/ express a c\rte\s appreciation ( ! hospitality t has be5 ext5d$4 8,i am "u deep obligation to y1 ,mrs4 ,johnson1 = a mo/ delightful ev5+40 ,?is1 or any simil> pleasant phrases ( gratitude1 w s]ve4 ,! words ( appreciation %\ld be p>ticul>ly address$ to ! ho/ess always4 ,ev5+ dress is requir$ = all gue/s at a =mal d9n]4 ,= m51 ! regulation swall[-tail is imp]ative4 ,! we>+ ( a d9n]-jacket is n all[able on any occasion ( c]emony4 ,,g>d5-,,p>ties ,,g>d5-,,p>ties are probably de/9$ to gr[ 9 popul>ity 9 ?is c5tury1 = !y (f] "o ( ! simple/ & mo/ pleasant =ms ( ent]ta9m5t dur+ ^? seasons :5 ! outdoors is attractive4 ,= su* an affair1 ! ho/ess s5ds out invitations ab\t t5 days be=eh&4 ,^! may be engrav$ on :ite bri/ol bo>d1 9 :i* case ei!r "o ( two =ms is p]missible4 ,mrs4 ,melville ,/ratton ,at ,home ,friday aft]noon1 ,april ?ird f f\r until sev5 o'clock ,g>d5-,p>ty ,n9e ,p>k ,squ>e ,or3 ,mrs4 ,melville ,/ratton reque/s ! pleasure ( 44444444444444444444444444444 company on ,friday aft]noon ,april ?ird f f\r until sev5 o'clock ,g>d5-,p>ty ,n9e ,p>k ,squ>e ,if less pret5ti\sness is pref]r$ = ! occasion1 ! ho/ess may m]ely use a visit+-c>d4 ,bel[ h] "n %e writes3 ,g>d5-,p>ty1 ,april ?ird1 f\r to sev5 o'clock4 ,/ill a ?ird me?od ( issu+ ! invitations is by means ( a %ort note1 writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son4 ,! =mal engrav$ invitation dem&s a prompt reply1 writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,an acceptance might prop]ly take ?is mode ( expression3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,cl9ton ,brew/] accept ) pleasure ,mrs4 ,/ratton's k9d invitation = ,april ?ird4 ,?irty ,ab]ne!y ,r[ ,may tw5ty-fif?1 #aiai ,a refusal might be 9 ! foll[+ =m3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,cl9ton ,brew/] regret t a previ\s engagem5t prev5ts _! acceptance ( ,mrs4 ,/ratton's k9d invitation = ,april ?ird ,?irty ,ab]ne!y ,r[ ,may tw5ty-fif?1 #aiai ,:5 ! invitation is by means ( ! visit+-c>d1 an answ] is n obligatory4 ,yet1 x is well to ackn[l$ge ?is =m ( invitation1 also1 by s5d+ a %ort note writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son1 ei!r accept+ or refus+4 ,( c\rse1 :5 ! invitation itself takes ! =m ( a note1 ! answ] %\ld foll[ ! same /yle4 ,x is "p ( ! duty ( ! ho/ess to put h] h\se 9 ord]1 z well z ! gr\nds4 ,! gue/s on arriv+ may1 9 _m cases1 g )9 be=e greet+ ! ho/ess1 to lay aside wraps or heavy veils4 ,moreov]1 wea!r conditions may make x necess>y to seek %elt] indoors4 ,x is (t5 conv5i5t also to h ! refre%m5ts set out on ! por*4 ,^! %\ld include hot & cold tea1 pun* or cl>et-cup1 cakes1 s&wi*es1 salads1 fruits 9 season1 & ! l1 :i* are p>tak5 ( by ! gue/s accord+ to _! pleasure4 ,or a m>que may %elt] ! refre%m5ts--a t5t ro( set up at any desir$ place on ! lawn4 ,! ho/ess receives h] gue/s on ! lawn4 ,%e we>s an aft]noon g[n1 suitable = ! season1 & a hat4 ,b1 if %e pref]s1 %e may leave (f ! hat1 & use a p>asol 9 its /ead4 ,! wom5 gue/s1 too1 we> _! mo/ effective aft]noon g[ns & also hats & veils & gloves1 :i* are n tak5 (f4 ,! m5 may we> frock or morn+ coats & silk hats1 & ?is g>b is common at g>d5-p>ties 9 ,engl&4 ,9 ?is c\ntry1 h[ev]1 m com=table clo!s are popul>1 & flannels1 or o!r fabrics ( light mat]ial1 are favor$4 ,gue/s leave _! c>ds on a tray provid$ = t purpose 9 ! hallway ( ! h\se4 ,! requirem5ts conc]n+ c>ds h already be5 fully expla9$ 9 ! *apt]s on c>ds & at homes4 ,aft] greet+ ! ho/ess1 a gue/ mu/ rema9 = at lea/ tw5ty m9utes1 & may prop]ly cont9ue on ?r\gh\t ! :ole aft]noon4 ,discretion %\ld be us$ 9 ! matt] ( say+ f>ewell4 ,x %\ld be omitt$ if ! ho/ess is occupi$4 ,if %e is free1 good-bye may be spok51 & ) x a phrase 9 appreciation ( ! hospitality4 ,,h\se-,,p>ties ,,! ,,h\se-,,p>ty is made up ( any numb] ( gue/s1 f half a doz5 to a score1 & may be m]ely = a few days or = any desir$ l5g? ( "t4 ,b1 :atev] is to be ! l5g? ( ! gue/'s /ay1 x %\ld be specifically /at$ 9 ! invitation4 ,x is a common say+ t an invitation t sets no "t = ! visit is no invitation at all1 & ! say+ is q true4 ,s1 9 writ+ h] invitation1 a ho/ess m5tions ! exact day = ! gue/'s arrival1 &1 z well1 ! exact day ( dep>ture4 ,! invitation is always a note writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son4 ,! foll[+ may s]ve z an illu/ration3 ,! ,oaks1 ,hyde ,p>k4 ,april #aj1 #aiai4 ,de> ,mrs4 ,a%l&3 ,i %\ld be delight$ to h y come to u = ! next week-end1 & ,i hope t !re is no previ\s engagem5t to prev5t y\r giv+ u ?is pleasure4 ,! be/ tra9 = y to take f ! city is ! "o leav+ at ?ree 9 ! aft]noon4 ,mr4 ,lawr5ce w meet ?is at ! /ation "h on ,friday4 ,9 eag] anticipation ( y\r visit1 believe me1 ,cordially y\rs1 ,ella ,lawr5ce ,! gue/'s answ] to ! invitation mu/ be ( ! prompte/1 :e!r x accepts or rejects ! proposal ( a visit4 ,x %\ld1 ( c\rse1 be writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son4 ,! word+ is a matt] = ! individual ta/e1 & ! =m foll[+ is (f]$ m]ely z a sugge/ion4 #dg ,tremont ,/41 ,new ,york4 ,april #aa1 #aiai4 ,de> ,mrs4 ,lawr5ce3 ,i am m pleas$ ?an ,i c tell y to receive y\r k9d invitation1 s9ce !re is no?+ to prev5t my acceptance ( x4 ,i %all take ! ?ree o'clock tra9 on ,friday aft]noon = ,hyde ,p>k1 & ,i am look+ =w>d v eag]ly to be+ ) y s soon4 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 ,rob]ta ,a%l& ,! decl9ation ( ! invitation %\ld conta9 "s fitt+ expression ( regret1 & an explanation z to ! causes t r5d] an acceptance impossible4 ,x is imp]ative t a girl %\ld be met at ! /ation by h] ho/ 9 p]son1 or1 if conv5i5t1 pref]ably by ! ho/ess1 or p]haps by bo?4 ,b ?is att5tion is n obligatory 9 ! case ( a m>ri$ c\ple or ) a ba*elor gue/4 ,b ^!1 too1 %\ld be met at ! /ation by a s]vant if n by ! ho/1 & duly convey$ to ! h\se :]e !y are to be ent]ta9$4 ,! gue/ on arrival %\ld be welcom$ at ! entrance by ! ho/ess1 if %e has n be5 to ! /ation1 & aft] ! greet+s %e escorts ! gue/1 if ?is is a woman1 to ! *amb] %e is to occupy1 & !re leaves h] to fre%5 h]self aft] ! j\rney4 ,:5 ! luggage is br\ght 91 a compet5t maid w unpack x & di/ribute ! cont5ts ?r\gh ! draw]s ( ! bureau & 9 ! closet1 & r5d] su* o!r s]vices z may be requir$4 ,a less compet5t maid c at lea/ un/rap ! luggage1 remove trays1 & help 9 ! disposal ( ! cont5ts4 ,9 ! case ( a man1 aft] be+ greet$ by 8 ho/ess1 he is conduct$ to 8 room by ! ho/4 ,! w>drobe requirem5ts = ! visitor at a h\se-p>ty are regulat$ by ! probable nature ( ! ent]ta9m5t t w be provid$1 by ! season ( ! ye>1 & by ! p>ticul> social /atus ( ! ho/s4 ,no h>d-&-fa/ rule c be giv54 ,?us1 :]e a woman visits a c\ntry h\se = a few days 9 ! summ]1 %e ne$s no l>g] w>drobe ?an c be c>ri$ 9 ! t9ie/ ( trunks1 suitcase & hat-box4 ,! hat us$ = travel+ w s]ve h] also on occasion dur+ ! visit1 b %e w ne$ 9 addition a sport-hat = tramp+ or out-door games & ano!r hat ( suffici5t elegance = we> at a lawn p>ty or :]ev] m elaborate dress is necess>y4 ,! frocks %\ld foll[ ! l9es ?us indicat$1 & !re %\ld be a suffici5cy ( da9ty wai/s & footge> besides ! inevitable decollet g[ns = ev5+ we>4 ,= ! man1 also1 ev5+ clo!s are ess5tial1 & he %\ld be provid$ ) flannels1 besides ! bus9ess suit 9 :i* he travels4 ,= w9t]1 ! *ange 9 season w\ld dem& a correspond+ *ange 9 ! matt] ( dress1 especially = out ( doors4 ,! ho/ess plans suffici5t ent]ta9m5t = h] gue/s1 b1 if %e is discreet1 %e does n plan too _m ?+s4 ,x is cu/om>y to leave ! morn+s to ! devices ( ! gue/s1 to be occupi$ by !m accord+ to _! individual pleasure4 ,:]e a morn+ />t is requir$ on "s exp$ition1 su* z a picnic1 ! ho/ess is likely to leave ! ev5+ free f any special ent]ta9m5t4 ,x is ! duty ( ! gue/ to con=m to ! habits ( ! h\sehold4 ,if ! p>ty assembles toge!r = breakfa/1 he or %e mu/ make "o ( ! numb] ?\gh ! h\r may be too e>ly or too late = p]sonal conv5i5ce4 ,likewise1 ! gue/ %\ld accept su* disposal ( 8 or h] "t z ! ho/ess may *oose to make1 ev5 :5 ! pref]5ce w\ld be q o!rwise4 ,! tactful ho/ess1 ( c\rse1 /udies ! likes & dislikes ( h] gue/s1 & seeks to reconcile h] hospitality s f> z possible to _! prejudices4 ,x is cu/om>y to give tips on leav+ a h\se-p>ty to ^? s]vants ) :om ! gue/ has be5 br\ght m closely 9 contact4 ,! maid :o has att5d$ to ! room %\ld receive a doll> f ! visitor = a few days2 ! butl]1 if !re is "o1 %\ld receive a doll> & a half4 ,! am\nt = ! *auffeur %\ld be regulat$ to "s ext5t by 8 p]sonal s]vice 9 ! gue/'s behalf4 ,:]e !re has be5 none1 a doll> is suffici5t4 ,^! figures are applicable 9 ! cases ( unm>ri$ wom5 & ba*elors1 al?\gh ! t5d5cy ( ! latt] is to give m4 ,! sums nam$1 h[ev]1 are reg>d$ z acceptable by ! s]vants !mselves4 ,naturally1 !y enjoy ! lavi%1 ev5 prodigal tips giv5 by c]ta9 p]sons ( weal?1 :o are m o/5tati\s ?an discreet4 ,su* indiscretions1 h[ev]1 ne$ n set up a false /&>d = o!r gue/s4 ,9 ! case ( a husb& & wife1 ! tips to maid & butl]1 etc41 %\ld be increas$4 ,x is usual = ! wife to tip ! female s]vants1 :ile ! husb& satisfies ^? ( 8 own sex4 ,:5 ! c>e ( ! gue/'s %oes devolves on a h\se-boy1 he1 too1 %\ld be rememb]$ ) a half-doll>4 ,! male gue/s frequ5tly give a tip ( a doll> or m to ! cook4 ,x is ! duty ( ! ho/ess 9 ! case ( a woman visitor to bid h] f>ewell 9 p]son1 ev5 if ?is %\ld necessitate aris+ at an unpleasantly e>ly h\r4 ,b 9 ! case ( a man's leav+ ?us e>ly1 x suffices if %e makes h] f>ewell ! night be=e4 ,x !n becomes ! duty ( ! ho/ to att5d on ! gue/ = ! breakfa/ & dep>ture4 ,9 ab\t a week aft] su* a visit1 ! gue/ %\ld write a note to ! ho/ess1 express+ w>m appreciation ( ! hospitality ?us enjoy$4 ,x is also p]missible = ! gue/ to s5d a gift t is n too co/ly1 su* z a book1 or any simple ?+ t may s]ve z a tok5 ( remembrance4 ,b ?is is 9 no wise obligatory1 &1 9 fact1 good ta/e is likely to prev5t ! be/[al ( su* a gift 9 mo/ cases4 ,!re c\ld h>dly be any?+ less satisfactory to a ho/ess ?an a /r+ ( su* s\v5irs f h] :ilom gue/s4 ,:]e ! visit is a v %ort "o1 less ?an two days1 x is cu/om>y to disp5se ) ! bread-&-butt] lett]4 ,,introductions ,,simplicity ,,%\ld always *>act]ize good mann]s1 & ?is tru? applies especially 9 ! matt] ( introductions4 ,!re %\ld be no attempt at f9e phrases4 8,mrs4 ,smi?1 let me pres5t ,mr4 ,jones40 ,x is to be not$ t ! names ( bo? p]sons conc]n$ are giv54 ,!y %\ld be spok5 ) entire di/9ctness4 ,9 ?is =m1 a man is pres5t$ to a woman1 & ?is is ! rule to be g5]ally obs]v$4 ,x is admissible = ! introduction to conta9 an expression ( ! man's wi% = x4 8,mrs4 ,smi?1 ,mr4 ,jones desires to be pres5t$ to y40 ,slight v>iations 9 ! phras+ ( ^! =ms are p]mitt$4 ,= example1 aft] say+1 8,mrs4 ,smi?1 let me pres5t ,mr4 ,jones10 x is prop] to add "s su* phrase z1 8,he is v anxi\s to meet y40 ,x is always a m>k ( c\rtesy to reque/ a lady's p]mission 9 advance ( ! actual introduction4 ,:5 introductions are to be made betwe5 a woman1 :o is a newcom]1 & an assembly ( gue/s1 ! newcom] is giv5 ! =mal di/9ction ( receiv+ ! introductions4 8,miss ,br[n1 let me pres5t ,mrs4 ,rob9son1 ,miss ,rob9son1 ,miss ,hel5 ,rob9son1 ,mr4 ,jones1 ,mr4 ,truesdale40 ,(t51 ! =m ( introduction is curtail$1 especially :5 ! company is num]\s4 ,9 su* case1 m]ely ! names are spok51 t ( ! /rang] hav+ fir/ place4 8,miss ,br[n--,mrs4 ,rob9son1 ,miss ,rob9son1 ,miss ,hel5 ,rob9son1 ,mr4 ,jones1 ,mr4 ,truesdale40 ,c>e mu/ be tak5 to rememb] t ! p]son to :om ! introduction is made has ! place ( honor4 ,x is on ?is acc\nt t ! rule ( prop] proc$ure requires ! pres5tation ( a man to a woman1 & always ! pres5tation ( ! inf]ior to ! sup]ior1 al?\gh ! di/9ction is usually purely !oretical4 ,= example1 an unm>ri$ woman %\ld be pres5t$ to a matron4 ,s1 ! y\ng] p]son %\ld be pres5t$ to 8 or h] eld]s2 ! ord9>y p]son %\ld be pres5t$ to ! p]son ( di/9ction4 ,:]e m5 or wom5 are ( ne>ly equal age or /ation1 x is saf] n to discrim9ate betwe5 !m by pres5t+ "o to ! o!r4 ,x is en\gh m]ely to "n !m4 8,mr4 ,smi?1 ,mr4 ,rob9son40 ,or3 8,mrs4 ,jones1 ,mrs4 ,br[n40 ,x is a "p ( good tact on ! "p ( a ho/ or ho/ess 9 mak+ introductions to add a few words ( explanation z to "s p>ticul> int]e/ ( ea*1 :i* may be ( assi/ance to !m at ! beg9n+ ( _! conv]sation4 ,9 e in/ance1 ! greate/ c>e %\ld be tak5 by ! p]son mak+ an introduction to pron\nce bo? names ) ! utmo/ cle>ness4 ,no?+ is m annoy+ ?an an indi/9ct mumble t leaves ! he>]s un9=m$4 ,:51 = any reason1 "o fails to und]/& a /rang]'s "n at ! "t ( introduction1 x is p]missible to ask x4 8,p>don me1 b ,i did n und]/& ! "n40 ,!re are "s v>iations t %\ld be not$ z to ! mann] ( ackn[l$g+ an introduction4 ,9 h] own home1 a woman %\ld (f] h] h&1 :ile say+1 8,mrs4 ,smi?1 ,i am v glad to meet y10 or any simil> phrase ( cordial greet+4 ,b su* a cordial phrase is n to be us$ by a woman :5 a man is pres5t$ to h]1 unless %e is ! ho/ess4 ,a man1 on ! contr>y1 on receiv+ 8 introduction to a lady1 %\ld express 8 appreciation 9 a c\rte\s s5t5ce4 8,i am v glad to meet y1 ,miss ,rob9son40 ,! t5d5cy to-day is t[>d elim9ation ( h&%ak+ by wom5 on ! occasion ( an introduction1 except 9 ! case ( a ho/ess4 ,a slight b[ ( ! head1 a smile & ! repetition ( ! /rang]'s "n are deem$ en\gh4 ,b _m wom5 /ill pref] a less =mal mann]1 & give _! h& :5 an introduction is made4 ,x is ! duty ( a ho/ess to /& up :5 receiv+ an introduction4 ,?is applies equally :e!r ! /rang] is a man or a woman4 ,b a woman o!r ?an ! ho/ess1 :5 a memb] ( a gr\p1 rema9s seat$ dur+ any introduction to h] unless x is ( "o h] sup]ior 9 age or /ation1 :om %e %\ld honor by ris+4 ,o!rwise1 x is pref]able = a woman to /& 9 ackn[l$g+ an introduction ( "o ( h] own sex1 ?\gh %e %\ld rema9 seat$ :5 a man is pres5t$ to h]4 ,9 ,engl&1 x is usual to omit introductions among ^? ga!r$ 9 ! same h\se1 & gue/s are expect$ to conduct !mselves z acqua9tances )\t ?is =mality4 ,9 our c\ntry1 h[ev]1 ! cu/om has n prevail$ to any consid]able ext5t1 & x is n ord9>ily prop] = /rang]s to address ea* o!r )\t hav+ be5 introduc$1 ev5 ?\gh !y are fell[-gue/s4 ,a ho/ess %\ld introduce all h] gue/s "o to ano!r at ord9>y d9n]-p>ties1 lun*eons1 or breakfa/s4 ,b1 9 ! case ( v l>ge d9n]-p>ties1 %e is requir$ only to introduce ^? :o are to be p>tn]s at table1 ?\gh x is advisable = h] to make o!r introductions to any ext5t conv5i5t4 ,at ! table1 h[ev]1 introductions %\ld be c>efully avoid$4 ,if ! wom5 leave ! table be=e ! m51 o!r introductions may be made among !m 9 ! draw+-room4 ,! m51 too1 on return+ to ! draw+-room may be pres5t$ to su* wom5 z !y h n already met4 ,:5 a ho/ess receives at home1 %e %\ld introduce ea* new arrival to "s ( ! gue/s :o are ne> by4 ,if %e has an assi/ant 9 receiv+1 ea* gue/ %\ld be pres5t$4 ,on =mal occasions1 x is n h] duty to g ab\t among ! gue/s 9 ord] to introduce !m4 ,! ho/ess at a l>ge ball foll[s a simil> c\rse ( conduct4 ,b 9 less =mal affairs %e %\ld be at pa9s to see t no gue/ is neglect$1 & t ea*1 z f> z possible1 has a due %>e 9 ! danc+4 ,x is especially desirable on all =mal occasions1 su* z l>ge balls = example1 t a man wi%+ to pres5t a fri5d to a woman %\ld fir/ privately ask h] p]mission4 ,introductions ( a v casual sort %\ld nev] be tak5 too s]i\sly4 ,?is applies p>ticul>ly to ^? made 9 a public place1 su* z ! /reet1 :5 a p]son accompani$ by a fri5d meets an acqua9tance1 :o is a /rang] to t fri5d1 & !re is a pause = a brief *at4 ,usually1 !re is no occasion = an introduction "u ^! circum/ances1 & if "o is made x may be aft]w>d ignor$4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 only a r ext5sive conv]sation betwe5 ! acqua9tances w\ld ju/ify an introduction4 ,p]functory introductions ( ^? tempor>ily associat$ 9 a game on ! t5nis c\rt1 or ! l1 are to be reg>d$ z equally casual1 & n ( a sort necessitat+ subsequ5t recognition4 ,introductions may be =mally made by lett]4 ,9 su* case1 ! lett] %\ld deal exclusively ) ! introduction4 ,!re is no set =m1 b ! foll[+ w s]ve z a suffici5t guide1 to be v>i$ accord+ to p]sonal incl9ation3 ,burl+ton1 ,v]mont4 ,june #a1 #aiai4 ,my de> ,mrs4 ,smi?3 ,x gives me great pleasure to introduce to y my fri5d1 ,miss ,truesdale1 :o is ab\t to visit relatives 9 y\r city4 ,i %all deeply appreciate any c\rtesy y may %[ h]4 ,) k9de/ reg>ds to y\rself & ,mr4 ,smi?1 ,i am1 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 ,mabel ,pott] ,a simil> =m w suffice = ! introduction ( a man1 :e!r to ano!r man or to a woman4 ,discretion %\ld be ex]cis$ always 9 ! grant+ ( lett]s ( introduction1 & x is well to write a sep>ate lett] giv+ details conc]n+ ! p]son ?us introduc$4 ,! lett] ( introduction itself %\ld be plac$ 9 an address$ envelope1 :i* is left unseal$1 to be pres5t$ 9 p]son by ! "o to be introduc$4 ,in/ead ( a lett]1 a common practise uses ! visit+-c>d ( ! p]son mak+ ! introduction4 ,9 su* case1 a l9e is writt5 across ! top ( ! c>d4 ,introduc+ ,mr4 ,russell ,elliot ,?is c>d also is enclos$ )9 its prop] envelope1 duly address$1 b unseal$1 & deliv]$ to ! p]son = ^: b5efit x is giv54 ,x is common = a man to call at ! resid5ce ( ! p]son to :om ! introduction is address$1 & !re give ! envelope1 /ill unseal$1 to ! s]vant1 toge!r ) 8 own c>d4 ,9 ! abs5ce ( ! ho/ or ho/ess1 ! call] places 8 own c>d inside ! envelope1 :i* is !n seal$1 & left4 ,a woman nev] foll[s ?is proc$ure4 ,%e places h] c>d 9 ! envelope conta9+ ! introduction1 :i* is !n seal$1 & dropp$ 9 ! po/ = deliv]y4 ,"o receiv+ su* a lett] ( introduction1 :e!r man or woman1 is expect$1 if ! be>] is a woman1 to call on h] )9 two days' "t1 & to foll[ ?is up ) "s sort ( hospitable ent]ta9m5t4 ,if1 = any imp]ative reason1 a call is impossible1 a lett] %\ld be writt5 9 explanation4 ,! l proc$ure is foll[$ :5 bo? p>ties are m54 ,b :5 a man pres5ts su* a lett] ( introduction to a woman1 %e does n1 ( c\rse1 call ^u him1 b writes to ext5d h] hospitable (f]s4 ,,lett]s ,,! ,,mo/ ,,tr\blesome detail 9 lett]-writ+ is ! matt] ( address4 ,x %\ld be not$ t !re is a di/9ction betwe5 ,de> & ,my de>4 ,9 our c\ntry1 ! m =mal /yle is ) ! pron\n1 :ile ! pron\n is omitt$ 9 writ+ to fri5ds4 ,a lett] to a m]e acqua9tance beg9s ) ! words1 ,my de> 44444444444444444444444444444 ,b ! =m = an intimate is simply ,de> 44444444444444444444444444444 ,! usual address = bus9ess purposes & to ^? ) :om no social relations are e/abli%$ is ,de> ,sir4 ,! plural is us$ 9 address+ firms1 ,de> ,sirs1 or ! "o ^w ,g5tlem51 may be employ$4 ,9 address+ a man ) :om social relations are e/abli%$1 ! surname is us$1 prec$$ by ,de> or ,my de>1 accord+ to ! degree ( intimacy4 ,my de> ,mr4 ,hudson2 ,de> ,mr4 ,grant4 ,a woman :o is a /rang] may be address$ ei!r z ,madam or ,de> ,madam1 :e!r %e be m>ri$ or unm>ri$4 ,! =m 8,de> ,miss0 is to be avoid$ "u all circum/ances4 ,= ! woman ) :om ! writ] is =mally acqua9t$1 ! address is3 ,my de> ,mrs4 4444444444444444444444444444441 if %e is m>ri$1 & ,my de> ,miss 44444444444444444444444444441 if %e is unm>ri$4 ,:5 ! p]son is a fri5d1 %e %\ld be address$3 ,de> ,mrs4 44444444444444441 if %e is a m>ri$ woman1 & ,de> ,miss 44444444444444444444444444441 if %e is unm>ri$4 ,! full "n %\ld be sign$ to =mal lett]s4 ,! m>ri$ woman %\ld use h] own ,*ri/ian "n1 n h] husb&'s ) ! ,mrs4 prefix$4 ,b1 9 bus9ess communications to /rang]s1 %e may v prop]ly give h] husb&'s "n ) ! prefix ,mrs41 bel[ h] usual signature1 & inclos$ 9 p>5!sis4 ,simil>ly1 = ! sake ( cle>ness1 a bus9ess lett] by an unm>ri$ woman may h ,miss 9 p>5!sis be=e ! "n4 ,envelopes %\ld be address$ to ! recipi5t ) ! full "n & necess>y prefix---,mr41 ,mrs41 or ,miss4 ,! ,mr41 h[ev]1 mu/ be omitt$ if ,esq4 is writt5 aft] ! "n4 ,! ,engli% cu/om limits ! use ( ,esquire to ^? :o are te*nically g5tlem54 ,= example1 ,esq4 is plac$ aft] ! "n 9 address+ a b>ri/]1 b x mu/ n be us$ 9 writ+ to a tradesman1 :o is giv5 only ! prefix ,mr4 ,! prefix ,mr4 is us$ :5 ,junior or ,s5ior is indicat$ aft] ! "n by an abbreviation4 ,9 su* case1 ,esq4 mu/ nev] be writt54 ,x mu/ be not$ also t 9 ! case ( addresses1 z ) c>ds1 to :i* att5tion has already be5 giv51 ! husb&'s title mu/ n be giv5 to ! wife4 ,mrs4 ,colonel1 ,mrs4 ,doctor1 ,mrs4 ,pr(essor1 & ! l1 are b>b>isms1 :i* are n tol]at$ 9 ,am]ica or ,engl&4 ,! ,g]mans1 h[ev]1 use !m4 ,! phrase be=e ! signature to a lett] v>ies accord+ to ! circum/ances1 & especially accord+ to ! individual ta/e4 ,?us1 9 conclud+ a v =mal communication1 x is q prop] to use ! old-fa%ion$ word+1 ,i am1 my de> ,madam1 y\r ob$i5t s]vant4 ,an ord9>y conv5i5t =m t cov]s a wide field is1 ,i rema91 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 or ,y\rs fai?fully1 or ,y\rs cordially1 writ+ ,i rema9 on "o l9e1 & ! ,y\rs1 etc41 on ! l9e bel[4 ,?us3 ,i rema91 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 ,y\rs truly1 or ,v truly y\rs1 is be/ res]v$ = bus9ess communications4 ,y\rs respectfully is applicable = bus9ess communications1 & also = lett]s address$ to sup]iors1 & = use g5]ally z a r mean+less /yle4 ,m5 ( exalt$ position are commonly address$ z ,sir )\t any qualify+ ^w4 ,& ! =m 9 end+ is1 ,i h1 ,sir1 ! honor to rema9 ,y\r mo/ ob$i5t s]vant--,y\r1 etc41 =m+ a sep>ate l9e4 ,a lett] ( a social sort w\ld beg91 ,my de> ,mr4 ,presid5t4 ,! l =m w\ld suffice = ! vice-presid5t1 except = a lett] ( social "*1 :5 he %\ld be address$ by "n1 ,my de> ,mr4 4444444444444444444444444 ,a ju/ice ( ! supreme c\rt1 a s5ator1 a memb] ( ! h\se ( repres5tatives1 a cab9et (fic]1 ! gov]nor ( a /ate1 etc41 all h ! same =mal ,sir z ! address & ! correspond+ phrase 9 conclusion4 ,b !re is v>iation 9 ! address :5 ! lett] is ( social import4 ,! ju/ice may be address$ ,my de> ,ju/ice 444444444444444441 or ,de> ,mr4 ,ju/ice 444444444444444444 ,! s5ator is address$ ,my de> ,s5ator 444444444444444444444444 ,! repres5tative 9 congress is address$ ,my de> ,mr4 44444444444444444 ,on ! envelope1 ! =ms are respectively ,mr4 ,ju/ice 44444444444444444441 ,s5ator 444444444444444444444441 ,hon4 44444444444444 7= ! congressman74 ,! social lett] to a cab9et (fic] addresses him by "n1 ,my de> 444444444444444441 & has on ! envelope ,hon4 prec$+ ! "n & 8 (ficial designation foll[+ x4 ,a gov]nor is usually address$ ,my de> ,gov]nor 444444444444444444444444 ,& ! envelope %\ld h ! title prec$+ ! "n4 ,9 all cases except t ( ! ,presid5t1 ! conclusion ( a social lett] is a simple =m su* z1 ,i rema91 ,y\rs v s9c]ely4 ,a mayor is address$ ei!r z ,sir1 or ,y\r ,honor1 9 =mal communications1 & z ,my de> ,mayor 44444444444444444 9 social correspond5ce4 ,! envelope prop]ly gives him a full designation1 ,8 ,honor ! ,mayor ( 444444444444444444444 ,! "n foll[s1 writt5 on a l[] l9e4 ,! =m ( address is ! same = bo? (ficial & social lett]s 9 ! case ( a ,roman ,ca?olic ar*bi%op3 ,mo/ ,rev]5d & ,de> ,sir4 ,! conclusion %\ld run3 ,i h ! honor to rema9 ,y\r ob$i5t s]vant--,y\r1 etc41 be+ writt5 on a l[] l9e4 ,! envelope c>ries ,! ,mo/ ,rev]5d 444444444444444444444441 ,ar*bi%op ( 4444444444444444444 ,all lett]s to a c>d9al beg9 ,y\r ,em95ce4 ,! conclusion is ! same z to an ar*bi%op4 ,! envelope reads ,8 ,em95ce ,c>d9al 4444444444444444444444444 ,= a ,roman ,ca?olic bi%op all lett]s beg9 ,"r ,rev]5d & ,de> ,sir4 ,! conclusion is t us$ = ! prec$+ prelates4 ,on ! envelope3 ,! ,"r ,rev]5d 4444444444444444441 ,bi%op ( 444444444444 ,a ,prote/ant bi%op1 also1 is address$ ,"r ,rev]5d & ,de> ,sir (ficially1 b a social lett] beg9s ,my de> ,bi%op 444444444444444444444 ,! conclusion may take ! =m giv5 = ,roman ,ca?olic dignit>ies1 b = social lett]s x is suffici5t to write1 ,i rema9 ,y\rs s9c]ely4 ,! envelope reads3 ,! ,"r ,rev]5d 44444444444444441 ,bi%op ( 44444444444444444444444444444 ,bo? prie/s & ,prote/ant cl]gym5 are (ficially address$3 ,rev]5d & ,de> ,sir4 ,b1 9 a social lett]1 ! beg9n+ is ,de> ,fa!r 4444444444444444441 9 ! case ( a prie/2 :ile ! ,prote/ant m9i/] is address$ z ,de> ,mr4 4444444444444444444444441 or ,de> ,doctor 444444444444444444441 if he has su* a title4 ,! conclusion = ei!r ne$ be no m ?an3 ,i rema91 ,y\rs v s9c]ely4 ,! envelope be>s1 ,! ,rev]5d 44444444444444444444444 ,! possession ( degrees may be indicat$ by writ+ ! prop] initials aft] ! "n4 ,:]e ! cl]gyman has ! degree ( ,doctor1 ?is is sometimes us$ z an abbreviation prec$+ ! "n--,! ,rev]5d ,dr4 44444444444444444444444444 ,,lun*eons ,,! ,,etiquette = a lun*eon is ess5tially ! same z t = a breakfa/1 :i* has already be5 describ$4 ,b ! lun*eon at pres5t enjoys a popul>ity t is di/9ctive 9 "o respect3 x s]ves conv5i5tly v (t5 z a function :olly = ! ent]ta9m5t ( fem99e gue/s4 ,! usual h\r = a lun*eon is f "o to two o'clock4 ,! invitations1 unless ! affair is to be q in=mal1 %\ld be s5t out t5 days be=e ! date set4 ,z 9 ! case ( a breakfa/1 ! invitation may be s5t on a visit+-c>d1 writ+ bel[ ! "n3 ,lun*eon at "o o'clock ,april ! f\r? ,= an especially =mal affair1 ! invitation %\ld be engrav$ on squ>e :ite c>ds ( l>ge size1 simil> to ^? employ$ = d9n]-invitations4 ,mrs4 ,george ,v9ton ,?orne reque/s ! pleasure ( 4444444444444444444444444444444444444444 company at lun*eon on 444444444444444444444444444444 at 44444444444444444444444444 o'clock ,elev5 ,gre5 ,/reet ,a note writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son may convey ! invitation1 if ! ho/ess pref]s ?is mann]4 ,! acceptance or refusal ( an invitation may be 9 ! ?ird p]son1 foll[+ ! examples giv5 9 ! *apt] on d9n]s1 or x may be writt5 z a note 9 ! fir/ p]son4 ,9 ei!r case1 ! me?od us$ 9 ! invitation itself mu/ gov]n ! /yle ( ! reply4 ,at ! m =mal lun*eon1 ! m5u may be elaborate1 ) oy/]s1 b\illon1 fi%1 & o!r c\rses foll[+ to any desir$ ext5t1 b c>e mu/ be tak5 always t ! g5]al "* ( ! vi&s s]v$ mu/ n be ov]sub/antial4 ,! meal %\ld be ( a di/9ctively light] sort z comp>$ ) d9n]4 ,! wom5 gue/s usually we> _! mo/ effective frocks4 ,wraps are left 9 ! cloak-room provid$1 or1 if ?is is lack+1 9 ! hall4 ,! hats are n remov$1 b ! veil is ei!r pu%$ up out ( ! way1 or remov$1 accord+ to ! we>]'s pleasure4 ,! gloves are tak5 (f aft] arrival at table1 & left 9 ! lap1 cov]$ by ! napk94 ,a gue/ %\ld rema9 = at lea/ half an h\r aft] ! completion ( ! meal1 & f ?is m9imum ( "t up to an h\r or p]haps a little long]1 accord+ to ! p>ticul> circum/ances4 ,! f>ewell ( ea* gue/ %\ld1 ( c\rse1 conta9 "s phrase express+ appreciation ( ! hospitality enjoy$4 ,,m\rn+ ,,!re ,,is ,,room = s mu* v>iety 9 ! expression ( p]sonal ta/es z to ! matt] ( m\rn+ t h>d-&-fa/ rules are ( d\btful value4 ,!re is1 h[ev]1 "s degree ( exactness z to ! dress suitable = wid[s1 al?\gh1 ev5 9 ?is connection1 individual *oice & ! *anges ( fa%ion ex]t _! influ5ce to ! display ( diff]+ modes4 ,! wid['s m\rn+ may be divid$ into ?ree p]iods1 t]m$ respectively fir/1 second & ?ird4 ,! fir/ m\rn+ includes ! entire co/ume 9 black4 ,usually1 ! mat]ial ( ! dress is ( wor/$1 ) a trimm+ ( crpe4 ,! black bonnet is ( crpe1 & f x hangs a long veil1 also ( crpe4 ,=m]ly1 ^! veils 7 ( extreme l5g?1 rea*+ ev5 to ! hem ( ! g[n4 ,! t5d5cy has be51 h[ev]1 t[>d %ort5+ ! veil1 & ! pres5t fa%ion insi/s on only a mod]ate l5g?4 ,ano!r veil1 worn ov] ! face1 0 =m]ly bo? long & heavy1 b ! /yle has be5 modifi$1 & at pres5t x is ( light] texture & ( mu* brief] proportions4 ,! bonnet has :ite ru*+ )9 ! front edge1 & ! g[n is trimm$ ) %e] :ite cuffs1 & a coll> ( ! same mat]ial4 ,! gloves mu/ be ( dull black1 & ornam5ts ( dull jet1 ) a black-bord]$ h&k]*ief4 ,?is fir/ m\rn+ %\ld be worn = a full ye>4 ,a *ange may !n be made to second m\rn+1 9 :i* ! dress may be ( crpe de *9e or dull silk1 ) a hat c>ry+ black *iffon1 etc41 & ornam5ts ( dull jet4 ,! ?ird m\rn+ is assum$ aft] ano!r six mon?s4 ,9 ?is :ite & lilac are p]mitt$ to relieve ! somb]ness ( ! attire4 ,?is m\rn+ is worn = a p]iod ( six mon?s1 also1 aft] :i* colors may be resum$4 ,x %\ld be not$ t ! :ite ru*e on ! bonnet is ! "o di/9ctive feature ( ! fir/ m\rn+ t designates ! we>] z a wid[4 ,a woman may we> exactly ! same co/ume1 ) ! exception ( ?is :ite ru*e on ! bonnet1 9 ! m\rn+ = a p>5t1 a *ild1 a bro!r or a si/]4 ,! p]iod = we>+ m\rn+ 9 su* case1 & ! *anges 9 x1 may foll[ ! details giv5 above = wid[s4 ,m\rn+ = a p>5t-9-law is black1 ) ! crpe omitt$4 ,?is is worn = only a mon?1 & is foll[$ by any pref]r$ comb9ations ( black & :ite1 reliev$ by lilac1 = a =tnight or a little long]4 ,! m\rn+ = close relatives worn by a "y unm>ri$ woman does n include ! bonnet & veil4 ,in/ead1 a hat trimm$ ) crpe is worn1 & a black net veil ov] ! face is trimm$ ) crpe4 ,aft] six mon?s or a ye>1 ! crpe is omitt$ f hat & veil1 & also f ! g[n4 ,black & :ite & lilac are !n deem$ suitable4 ,usually1 h[ev]1 ! old] unm>ri$ wom5 we> ! veil & bonnet ( ! fir/ m\rn+1 z d wid[s1 b ) ! :ite ru*e omitt$4 ,m\rn+ is n usually adopt$ :5 ! dea? is ( relatives-9-law or ( a gr&p>5t4 ,?ree mon?s is ord9>ily suffici5t = m\rn+ 9 ! case ( an uncle or aunt1 & x does n include crpe4 ,ornam5ts may be worn1 ?\gh pref]ably ( a v quiet sort4 ,9 g5]al1 x is well to be> 9 m9d t m\rn+ %\ld n be worn except = ! memb]s ( "o's imm$iate family4 ,( c\rse1 ! p>ticul> circum/ances 9 ea* case mu/ be a det]m9+ factor4 ,= example1 :ile m\rn+ is n cu/om>ily worn = a c\s91 yet a girl :o _h made a home ) su* a relative might appropriately we> m\rn+ z = h] own "m4 ,crpe is n deem$ suitable = girls n yet old en\gh = a =mal entrance into society1 & *ildr5 %\ld be sp>$ ! lugubri\s trapp+s ( woe 9 e case4 ,b a girl ab\t sixte5 ye>s ( age1 on ! dea? ( a memb] ( ! family1 appropriately we>s a black dress1 reliev$ only by t\*es ( :ite1 & a black hat1 ) dull black ribbons4 ,%e %\ld leave (f jewelry1 b %e %\ld n c>ry a h&k]*ief ) black bord]4 ,! m\rn+ = a wid[] is (t5 divid$ into two p]iods4 ,dur+ ! fir/1 black is worn ?r\gh\t 9 ! co/ume1 ) :ite l954 ,! hat-b& is ( crpe4 ,! pres5t t5d5cy is to make ?is b& mu* n>r[] ?an x 0 ( yore4 ,x is left (f altoge!r aft] a ye>1 or p]haps eight mon?s1 z ! second m\rn+ beg9s4 ,! second m\rn+ p]mits ! use ( gray & :ite 9 ! co/ume4 ,a man's m\rn+ = a *ild1 p>5t1 bro!r or si/] may cont9ue = a full ye>1 or x may be put (f aft] six mon?s accord+ to 8 *oice4 ,! m\rn+ includes a hat-b& ( crpe4 ,if a man wi%es to we> m\rn+ = a m di/ant relative1 he may use ! black & :ite & gray ( ! wid[]'s second p]iod1 b m5 ord9>ily d n assume m\rn+ = any except close/ relations4 ,a m\rn+ b& on ! sleeve is sometimes worn by m51 b x is impossible to describe its significance f ! /&po9t ( propriety1 s9ce x is worn equally = ^? mo/ closely relat$ & = ^? mo/ di/antly1 )\t di/9ction1 & s9ce x is a cu/om d]iv$ orig9ally f ,engl&1 :]e x s]ves z a *eap me?od ( provid+ m\rn+ liv]ies = s]vants4 ,aft] ! loss ( a close relation1 a woman pays no calls = six mon?s4 ,aft] t "t1 %e may visit h] intimates1 b n on _! at-home days4 ,%e may also att5d conc]ts & !at] mat9es & ! l1 9 a v quiet way4 ,aft] a ye>1 %e may appe> at small d9n]s1 & at ! !at] 9 ! ev5+1 & ! l4 ,b box p>ties & all ! elaborate functions1 su* = example z balls1 mu/ n be resum$ until ! p]iod ( m\rn+ has expir$4 ,eld]ly wom5 are likely to pref] a m\rn+ g>b = ! rema9d] ( _! lifetime1 aft] ! dea? ( a husb&4 ,9 su* cases1 aft] p]haps two ye>s1 ! wid['s bonnet & veil are giv5 up1 & nun's veil+ is sub/itut$4 ,:ile ! g[n rema9s black1 ! crpe is omitt$ f x1 & ! m\rn+ h&k]*ief is no long] c>ri$4 ,jewelry is worn1 b n ( an o/5tati\s k9d4 ,,musicales ,,! ,,musicale is m]ely a =mal at home :]e music is made a special feature ( ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,?r\gh\t1 ! proc$ure is t ( an at home1 & ! details are to be f\nd 9 full 9 ! *apt] "u t head+4 ,! only =mal diff]5ce is 9 ! word+ ( ! invitation1 :i* makes m5tion ( music z ! feature4 ,! invitations are engrav$1 & may take ei!r ( ! two usual =ms1 accord+ to ! *oice ( ! ho/ess4 ,mrs4 ,george ,h4 ,baxt] reque/s ! pleasure ( 444444444444444444444444444444444444444 company at a musicale on ,friday ev5+1 ,may fir/ at half-pa/ n9e o'clock ,tw5ty-sev5 ,maple ,/reet ,or ! at-home =m may be us$ z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,george ,h4 ,baxt] ,at ,home ,friday ev5+1 ,may fir/ at half-pa/ n9e o'clock ,tw5ty-sev5 ,maple ,/reet ,music ,su* an affair 9 ! ev5+ is (t5 ( ! mo/ elaborate "*1 & is ess5tially a conc]t4 ,b a musicale may be giv5 ) equal propriety 9 ! aft]noon4 ,! =m = engrav$ invitations is precisely ! same1 ) ! s+le exception ( ! h\rs nam$1 = ! aft]noon ent]ta9m5t specifies ! "t z f f\r until sev5 o'clock4 ,= a less =mal occasion1 a ho/ess may ext5d h] invitations by s5d+ a visit+-c>d1 on :i* %e writes1 bel[ h] "n1 ,friday1 ,may fir/1 f\r to sev5 o'clock1 & und]nea? ?is ! s+le ^w ,music4 ,or 9 place ( ! ^w ,music1 %e may write ,to he> 44444444444444 add+ ! "n ( a p>ticul> p]=m]4 ,! obligations ( ! gue/s foll[ 9 all respects ^? to :i* att5tion has be5 already giv5 "u ! title 8,at ,homes40 ,?us1 9 ! matt] ( co/umes1 ! usage resembles t expla9$ conc]n+ correct g>b = bo? aft]noon & ev5+ receptions 9 ! e>li] *apt]4 ,x might be well to emphasize ! fact t no direct reply is requir$ = an invitation ann\nc+ t ! ho/ess w be at home on a c]ta9 date4 ,b ! case is q o!rwise :5 t =m ( invitation is employ$ :i* reque/s ! pleasure ( ! gue/'s company4 ,?is dem&s a prompt answ]1 :e!r ( acceptance or ( refusal1 :i* %\ld be c\*$ 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,?us3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h5ry ,sage ,beckett accept ) pleasure ,mrs4 ,baxt]'s k9d invitation = ,may fir/ ,n9ete5 ,w5twor? ,squ>e ,april tw5ty-fir/1 #aiai ,or1 9 ! ev5t ( inability to accept1 or dis9cl9ation1 ! answ] %\ld run z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h5ry ,sage ,beckett regret t a previ\s engagem5t prev5ts _! acceptance ( ,mrs4 ,baxt]'s k9d invitation = ,may fir/ ,n9ete5 ,w5twor? ,squ>e ,april tw5ty-fir/1 #aiai ,,op]a ,a ,,suffici5t ,,=m = an invitation to an op]a p>ty w be f\nd 9 ! *apt] on ! !at]1 :i* ne$s only a v]bal *ange to specify ! p>ticul> p]=mance at ! op]a in/ead ( at ! playh\se4 ,9 g5]al1 also1 ! proc$ure suit$ to att5dance at ! !at] is to be foll[$ 9 connection ) ! op]a4 ,b !re are c]ta9 diff]5ces t %\ld be reg>d$4 ,! dress = ! op]a is m =mal ?an = ! !at]1 g5]ally speak+4 ,! man1 = example1 usually keeps 8 :ite gloves on4 ,! woman1 = h] "p1 we>s a g[n t is sleeveless & decollet1 & displays jewels accord+ to h] means or ta/e4 ,an aigrette takes ! place ( ! hat t may be worn to ! !at]4 ,nev]!less1 x is q p]missible = a woman occupy+ a /all 9 ! or*e/ra at ! op]a to we> a co/ume ( ! sort commonly se5 at ! !at]4 ,visit+ at ! op]a is a di/9ctive feature1 facilitat$ z x is by ! numb] ( boxes1 s greatly 9 excess ( ^? ) :i* ! !at] is suppli$4 ,= x is ) ! boxes t ?is visit+ is *iefly conc]n$1 ?\gh x rea*es to "s ext5t to ! or*e/ra /alls4 ,betwe5 acts is ! prop] "t = su* calls1 :i* are usually1 b n exclusively1 paid by m54 ,a g5tleman may call on a lady ( 8 acqua9tance 9 a box1 ?\gh %e is a gue/ ( a ho/ or ho/ess :o is n kn[n to him4 ,9 su* case1 ! woman to :om he pays ! visit mu/ introduce him to h] ent]ta9]4 ,b an introduction ( ! sort is m]ely =mal1 & entails no necessity ( subsequ5t recognition by ei!r p>ty4 ,no m ?an five m9utes1 or ev5 less1 %\ld be giv5 to su* calls1 b "s discretion is p]mitt$ by ! p>ticul> circum/ances4 ,?us1 :]e !re are _m com+ & go+1 ! "t %\ld be %ort] ?an :5 !re are few o!r visitors1 or none4 ,! call %\ld nev] ext5d beyond ! end ( ! int]mission4 ,s9ce an op]a box is equipp$ ) a ve/ibule ( its own1 ! wom5 d n leave _! wraps 9 ! cloak-room1 b wait until _! arrival at ! box1 :5 !y are tak5 (f 9 ! ve/ibule4 ,aft]w>d1 on ent]+ ! box1 ! *ap]on & o!r old] wom5 prec$e ! y\ng]1 & are (f]$ ! *oice ( seats4 ,b !y usually pref] ! less conspicu\s positions1 & ! *airs at ! rail are giv5 to ! dbutantes1 or y\ng] matrons4 ,! exact arrangem5t is always a matt] = ! display ( tact on ! "p ( ho/ or ho/ess4 ,visit+ among ! /alls is necess>ily m limit$1 b is practis$ to any ext5t r5d]$ conv5i5t by location4 ,9 su* visit+1 ! ord9>y am5ities ( social int]c\rse are to be obs]v$4 ,! m51 = example1 mu/ /& :5 a lady ent]s ! box 9 :i* !y are seat$1 & !y %\ld rema9 /&+ until h] dep>ture1 or until %e has tak5 a *air4 ,,private ,,!atricals ,,private ,,!atricals are usually ! feature ( an ev5+ function4 ,! =m ( invitation is exactly ! same z = a musicale1 ) ! "o exception 9 sub/itut+ ,!atricals at t5 o'clock4 ,! phrase appe>s ?us 9 ! at-home =m ( ann\ncem5t4 ,:5 ! invitation reque/s ! pleasure ( ! gue/'s company1 ,at ,private ,!atricals is pref]r$ z ! descriptive /atem5t4 ,on occasions :5 ! !atricals are to be foll[$ by a dance1 ! ^w ,danc+ is add$ at ! bottom ( ! c>d4 ,! lett]s ,r4s4v4p4 are commonly employ$ 9 connection ) su* invitations1 & _! appe>ance on ! c>d emphasizes ! necessity ( a writt5 reply4 ,,receptions ,,all ,,details ( ! etiquette t has to d ) receptions1 :e!r !y are held 9 ! aft]noon or 9 ! ev5+1 are c>efully describ$ 9 ! *apt] treat+ v>i\s =ms ( ! at home4 ,,smok+ ,a ,,gue/ 9 ! home ( ano!r mu/ n smoke unless invit$ to d s by ho/ or ho/ess4 ,a man 9 ! pres5ce ( a lady mu/ n smoke unless he asks =1 & receives1 p]mission to d s4 ,a man %\ld n smoke :5 walk+ ) a woman 9 public4 ,a man mu/ n conv]se :ile hold+ cig>1 pipe1 or cig>ette 9 8 m\?4 ,,/airs ,,9 ,a ,,=m] g5]ation1 wom5 hid _! ankles1 & gave brief glimpses ( !m only by accid5t or naughty design4 ,x 0 !n requir$ ( a g5tleman t he %\ld prec$e a lady 9 asc5d+ /airs4 ,to-day1 fa%ion has cle>$ away all my/]y conc]n+ fem99e ankles1 & a g5tleman is p]mitt$ to foll[ ! lady z %e m\nts ! /airs4 ,,/reet ,,etiquette ,,:5 ,a ,,man & woman walk toge!r 9 ! /reet1 ! man's prop] position is usually on ! side t[>d ! curb1 & he ma9ta9s ?is place also :5 walk+ ) two wom54 ,he %\ld nev] /ation himself betwe5 !m1 unless "u ! in=mal circum/ances ( a c\ntry road1 or ! l4 ,9 ! day "t1 a man does n (f] a woman 8 arm :5 !y walk toge!r1 ?\gh ( c\rse he %\ld give h] ! support ( 8 h& "u h] elb[ :5 su* assi/ance is obvi\sly requir$1 z 9 m\nt+ ! /eps ( a c>4 ,b 9 ! ev5+ a man prop]ly (f]s 8 arm to a woman :5 !y are to walk toge!r1 & %e lays h] h& on 8 =e>m4 ,!y %\ld nev] hook arms4 ,:5 a man & woman :o are acqua9t$ ) ea* o!r meet 9 ! /reet1 x is ! woman's place to ext5d recognition by a nod & smile1 :i* latt] v>ies f coldness to w>m? accord+ to h] w4 ,on receiv+ su* recognition1 = :i* 9 any =mal acqua9tance he mu/ wait1 ! man raises 8 hat1 & at ! same "t b[s4 ,:5 a man is walk+ ) a woman1 he mu/ salute 9 ! same fa%ion any o!rs t pass :o recognize ei!r himself or 8 companion1 except t :]e ! p]son is n an acqua9tance ( 8 own1 he m]ely lifts 8 hat )\t b[+4 ,:5 a man enc\nt]s a woman on ! /reet1 & wi%es to talk ) h]1 he %\ld n deta9 h]1 b ) h] p]mission %\ld turn & walk beside h]4 ,! woman1 h[ev]1 is privileg$ ?us to reta9 ! man 9 conv]sation1 b %e %\ld )draw to "o side1 out ( ! way ( pass]s-by4 ,9 escort+ a woman 9 a c>1 ! man %\ld assi/ h] to ent]1 & !n foll[4 ,b 9 leav+1 he prec$es h] & desc5ds fir/1 !n turn+ to help h] d[n4 ,good s5se mu/ det]m9e ! precise conduct = propriety 9 v>i\s circum/ances4 ,ord9>ily1 :]e a c\ple _c well walk side by side1 ! man foll[s beh9d ! woman4 ,b :]e ! way is difficult = any reason1 he goes 9 advance--z1 = example1 :5 x becomes necess>y to =ce ! way ?r\gh a cr[d4 ,"s m5 make a po9t ( /&+ uncov]$ ?r\gh\t ! l5g? ( any conv]sation ) a woman 9 ! /reet4 ,?is mode is n to be enc\rag$1 especially 9 ! inclem5t nor!rn w9t]4 ,m]ely rais+ ! hat at meet+ & aga9 at p>t+ is q suffici5t4 ,,table ,,mann]s ,,deportm5t ,,at ,,table is ! mo/ important s+le item 9 ! total ( good mann]s4 ,yet1 ! requirem5ts are v simple--s simple inde$ t !re is little excuse = ^? :o fail 9 !m4 ,x %\ld h>dly be necess>y to say t ! position mu/ be "o ( well-balanc$ erectness4 ,a man's h&s %\ld be kept 9 8 lap :5 n busy4 ,s ( a woman's--=m]ly4 ,( rec5t ye>s1 a new cu/om has crept 91 & x is common to see a woman's =e>m or elb[ re/+ at ease on ! table4 ,! napk9 is only p>tly unfold$1 & laid across ! lap4 ,9 ! case ( a woman1 x cov]s h] gloves1 :i* %e has tak5 (f on seat+ h]self4 ,at ! end ( ! meal1 ! crumpl$ napk9 is laid beside ! plate4 ,b1 :5 mak+ an ext5d$ /ay ) fri5ds1 ! napk9 is fold$ if ! ho/ & ho/ess fold !irs 9 prep>ation = use at ano!r meal4 ,! knife is employ$ only = cutt+ purposes1 be+ !n held 9 ! "r h&4 ,x is aft]w>d put d[n1 :ile ! =k is transf]r$ to ! "r h& = pass+ food to ! m\?4 ,:5 n 9 use bo? knife & =k are left on ! plate4 ,!y %\ld n be held 9 ! h&s1 or laid d[n on ! table4 ,!y are to rema9 on ! plate also if x is s5t = ano!r help+4 ,:5 eat+ is end$1 knife & =k are laid toge!r on ! plate--p>allel1 po9ts to ! c5t]1 & ! =k t9es d[n4 ,! =k %\ld be us$ ?r\gh\t ) ! t9es d[nw>d4 ,x is only us$ spoon-fa%ion = small vegetables su* z peas4 ,! =k r ?an a spoon %\ld be us$ = eat+ ices1 melons1 & ! l4 ,x is us$ to fold lettuce & o!r salad leaves1 :i* mu/ n be cut ) a knife4 ,! knife is us$ only = cutt+1 & is aft]w>d laid d[n on ! plate4 ,bev]ages 9 glasses or cups are te/$ by sipp+ f a spoon1 :i* is !n laid d[n4 ,aft]w>d "o dr9ks directly f ! conta9]4 ,! spoon mu/ nev] be all[$ to /& 9 a cup or glass4 ,= tak+ s\p1 ! spoon is pu%$ =w>d1 n drawn t[>d "o4 ,! s\p plate is nev] tipp$4 ,! liquid mu/ be tak5 into ! m\? f ! side ( ! spoon nev] f ! end4 ,boil$ eggs are prop]ly eat5 ) a spoon1 ( c\rse1 z are jellies1 cu/>ds & ! l1 grape-fruit & v>i\s fruits s]v$ ) cream1 & c]eals4 ,a f+]-b[l is prop]ly us$ on f9i%+ a fruit c\rse4 ,a slight r9s+ ( ! f+]-tips suffices1 aft] :i* !y are wip$ on ! napk94 ,butt] is n s]v$ at =mal d9n]s4 ,at all o!r meals a special plate is laid = bread & butt]1 & a small knife ( silv] = spread+ ! butt]4 ,! bread is brok5 ) ! f+]s1 a m\?ful at a "t & sep>ately butt]$4 ,cake is eat5 ei!r 9 ! f+]s or ) a =k4 ,*eese is cut into small pieces4 ,ea* piece is plac$ on a m\?ful ( bread or crack]1 & !n eat5 f ! f+]s4 ,apples1 pe>s1 etc41 are qu>t]$1 peel$1 cut 9 m\?fuls1 & !n eat5 f ! f+]s4 ,small] fruits ) pits are eat5 f ! f+]s4 ,ea* pit is tak5 f ! m\? 9 ! clos$ h& & deposit$ on ! plate4 ,asp>agus is eat5 ) a =k4 ,t "p ( ! /alk n easily cut by ! =k is left4 ,b burr arti*okes are eat5 f ! f+]s a leaf at a "t1 aft] x has be5 dipp$ 9 ! sauce4 ,only ! he>t dem&s ! use ( a =k4 ,cel]y1 olives & radi%es are eat5 f ! f+]s4 ,s1 also1 are cry/alliz$ fruits1 almonds & o!r nuts4 ,:5 leav+ ! table at ! conclusion ( a meal else:]e ?an 9 "o's own h\se1 ! *air is left )\t be+ pu%$ back close to ! table4 ,,teas ,,9 ,,! ,,c\ntry1 :]e ! d9n] is 9 ! middle ( ! day1 ! ev5+ meal is call$ ei!r supp] or tea1 & an invitation to tea ord9>ily means an invitation to ! ev5+ meal4 ,9 ,engl&1 :]e aft]noon tea-s]v+ is univ]sal among all classes1 ! ev5+ meal is frequ5tly designat$ high tea4 ,! proprieties conc]n+ aft]noon tea are expla9$ 9 ! *apt] entitl$1 8,at ,homes40 ,,!at]-,,p>ties ,,:5 ,a ,,!at]-,,p>ty is to be giv51 x is n cu/om>y to use ! engrav$ =m ( invitations1 b notes writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son suffice4 #ig ,hamilton ,/reet1 ,may #a1 #aiai ,my de> ,miss ,hamm]3 ,w y give me ! pleasure ( d9+ ) me on ,w$nesday ev5+ ( next week1 at sev5 o'clock1 & ( aft]w>d witness+ ! new play at ! ,brooke ,!at]8 ,9 ! hope t y are free t ev5+ & k9dly dispos$ t[>d my invitation1 ,i rema91 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 ,m>y ,holmes ,to su* an invitation1 ! gue/ %\ld return an imm$iate reply1 ei!r ( acceptance or rejection1 writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son1 aft] ! mann] ( ! o!r missive4 ,x is )9 ! discretion ( ! ho/ or ho/ess to secure or*e/ra seats1 or a box4 ,c>e %\ld be tak51 9 ! case ( a box1 n to h a suffici5t numb] ( gue/s to cause cr[d+4 ,! invitations %\ld be s5t out ab\t a week be=e ! ev5+ ( ! p>ty1 b a long] or %ort] notice is p]missible4 ,a ba*elor may f9d x m conv5i5t to give 8 invitations 9 p]son1 orally1 & su* laxity is all[able on 8 "p4 ,! giv] ( ! ent]ta9m5t may use 8 or h] discretion 9 hav+ att5dance on ! play prec$$ by an e>ly d9n]-p>ty1 :i* may include all or only a "p ( 8 gue/s2 or hav+ x foll[$ by a supp]-p>ty4 ,or ! !at] alone may be deem$ a suffici5t ent]ta9m5t4 ,v (t51 a ho/ ord]s an omnibus to collect 8 gue/s = a !at]-p>ty & to c>ry !m to ! !at]1 & back home aft] ! p]=mance4 ,if ?is is done1 ! invitation %\ld specify ! fact1 & notify ! gue/ ( ! exact "t ( ! omnibus's arrival4 ,:5 a man invites an unm>ri$ woman to be 8 companion at ! !at]1 he is expect$ also to invite ano!r woman1 ei!r a relation or fri5d1 accord+ to circum/ances1 :o %all act z *ap]on4 ,b ?is rule is n too /rictly en=c$ :]e a fri5d%ip exi/s betwe5 a man & a sp9/] ( mature age4 ,x is ! duty ( ! man to call 9 p]son = 8 gue/s1 & to provide !m ) fitt+ transportation to & f ! !at]4 ,on _! arrival at ! !at]1 if ! wom5 leave _! wraps 9 ! cloak-room1 he also %\ld *eck 8 hat & coat4 ,he all[s ! ladies to prec$e him1 & inside ! !at] secures programs = !m1 & !n gives 8 *ecks to ! u%]4 ,! u%] n[ leads ! way1 ) ! ladies foll[+ & ! ho/ br++ up ! re>4 ,if he has reta9$ 8 coat & hat1 he places 8 hat "u ! seat & lays ! fold$ coat ov] ! back ( ! *air or holds x across 8 knees4 ,he is c>eful always to reta9 ! *ecks dur+ ! ev5+ s9ce lack ( !m might prove emb>rass+ if any error has be5 made 9 ! seat+ arrangem5ts1 z sometimes happ5s4 ,a man ?us escort+ ladies to ! !at] prop]ly rema9s ) !m ?r\gh\t ! p]=mance4 ,! only ju/ifiable excuse = leav+ !m = a few m9utes is :5 he occupies an aisle seat1 & !n only :5 dur+ an int]mission a fri5d comes to pay 8 respects1 :o c take 8 place until ! ris+ ( ! curta94 ,! man we>s ev5+ dress = ! !at]4 ,he %\ld by no means appe> 9 a tailless coat :5 act+ z an escort = ladies1 or :5 a gue/ 9 a p>ty t includes ladies4 ,he is p]mitt$1 h[ev]1 to remove 8 gloves on arrival at ! !at]4 ,! silk hat is (t5 inconv5i5t = !at] purposes1 & = t reason ! cru% hat has be5 pref]r$4 ,b ?is fold+ =m ( headge> has lo/ its vogue to a great ext5t1 & !re is a gr[+ t5d5cy t[>d ! use ( a black s(t hat = su* ev5+ we>4 ,! m usual =m ( woman's dress is n ! decollet ( ! ball-g[n1 b a less extreme /yle1 ) sleeves4 ,x is1 ( c\rse1 ( su* elegance z to suit ! occasion4 ,b ! l[-neck & sleeveless g[n is frequ5tly to be se51 m especially 9 ! boxes4 ,) ! less =mal co/ume1 a hat is worn4 ,?is & ! veil may be remov$ 9 ! cloak-room1 or1 if ! wrap is reta9$1 x may be kept on until ! seat is rea*$4 ,! out] g>m5t is !n fold$ & laid ov] ! back ( ! *air4 ,aft] hav+ seat$ h]self1 ! woman !n unp9s h] veil & removes x1 toge!r ) ! hat1 & ^! are aft]w>d held 9 ! lap4 ,if ! arrival at ! !at] is a little late1 & ! wraps are n left 9 ! cloak-room1 x is ! "p ( good ta/e to remove !m be=e pass+ d[n ! aisle to ! seats4 ,o!rwise1 _! removal becomes an unpleasant int]ruption to ^? seat$ ne> by4 ,?is same matt] ( consid]ation = ! rights ( o!rs is ! reason :y x is necess>y t ! hats %\ld be remov$1 s9ce x w\ld %ut (f ! view ( ! /age f ^? seat$ beh9d4 ,x %\ld be borne 9 m9d always1 also1 t ?is consid]ation = o!rs %\ld ext5d to ! matt] ( conv]sation dur+ ! p]=mance1 :i* mu/ be rigidly suppress$4 ,c>e ought to be tak5 9 e respect le/ !re be an impolite intrusion on ! rights ( o!rs4 ,if !re is supp] 9 a re/aurant aft] ! play1 ! wraps %\ld be left 9 ! cloak-room z a rule1 b a woman may reta9 "o ( a sort t is n cumb]some1 accord+ to h] pleasure4 ,! hat is n remov$ = ! meal4 ,! veil may ei!r be pu%$ up or tak5 (f accord+ to ! individual pref]5ce4 ,! gloves are remov$ aft] ! p>ty is seat$ at table1 & kept 9 ! lap "u ! napk9 until ! conclusion ( ! meal4 ,!y are put on aga9 be=e leav+ ! table4 ,,w$d+s ,,! ,,w$d+-,,invitations are s5t out fully two weeks be=e ! m>riage1 at lea/1 & !y may be s5t e>li]1 up to a limit ( two mon?s4 ,! invitation is engrav$ on :ite pap]1 ( :i* !re is a d\ble %eet4 ,! invitation itself mu/ occupy only ! fir/ page4 ,an av]age size is betwe5 sev5 & eight in*es 9 l5g? & ab\t an in* less 9 wid?4 ,script is usually pref]r$4 ,! invitation is fold$ once & plac$ 9 an unseal$ envelope ) ! gue/'s "n writt5 on x4 ,ano!r envelope is us$ to conta9 ?is1 on :i* are writt5 bo? ! "n & address1 & x is seal$ = deliv]y by po/ or mess5g]4 ,x %\ld be borne 9 m9d t1 :ile husb& & wife are jo9$ 9 a s+le invitation1 o!r memb]s ( ! family mu/ be sep>ately invit$1 except t m ?an "o daught] may be includ$ "u ! designation ,! ,misses 444444444444444444441 & simil>ly m ?an "o son1 ,! ,messrs4 444444444444444444444 ,o!rwise1 a daught] receives an individual invitation1 z does also a son4 ,9 cities1 on ! occasion ( *ur* w$d+s :]e /rang]s (t5 intrude1 x is common to inclose ) ! invitation a small c>d inscrib$3 ,please pres5t ?is c>d at ! ,*ur* ( ! ,inc>nation on ,tuesday1 ,june ! fir/ ,a /&>d =m = ! word+ ( ! invitation is z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h5ry ,l4 ,hudson reque/ ! honor ( y\r pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,h>riet to ,mr4 ,james ,meade ,tr[bridge on ,tuesday aft]noon1 ,june ! fir/ at half-pa/ ?ree o'clock ,! ,*ur* ( ! ,inc>nation ,baltimore ,! invitations are issu$ 9 ! names ( ! bride's p>5ts1 or1 lack+ !m1 9 ! "n ( h] ne>e/ relative1 unless ?is %\ld be an unm>ri$ si/]4 ,:5 ! invitations are issu$ by a bro!r1 8 "n only may be us$1 ev5 ?\gh he is m>ri$4 ,b :]e ! relation is a m>ri$ woman1 ! "n ( ! husb& also appe>s on ! invitations4 ,su* invitations issu$ by "s "o o!r ?an ! p>5ts foll[ ! =m giv5 above exactly1 save t ! full "n ( ! bride mu/ be giv5 in/ead ( h] ,*ri/ian "n alone1 &1 ( c\rse1 ! prop] relation%ip mu/ be indicat$ by a ^w sub/itut$ = daught]4 ,x is usual1 :5 ! bride is a /ep-daught]1 to specify ! relation%ip 9 ! invitation4 ,?us1 9 ! =m giv5 above1 if ,h>riet 7 ! daught] ( ,mrs4 ,hudson by a previ\s m>riage1 ! phrase w\ld run1 at ! m>riage ( ,mrs4 ,hudson's daught]1 ,h>riet ,blake ,ro?well4 ,if %e 7 ! daught] ( ,mr4 ,hudson1 ! phrase w\ld be1 at ! m>riage ( ,mr4 ,hudson's daught]1 ,h>riet4 ,! invitations to ei!r a w$d+-breakfa/ or reception is inclos$ ) ! invitation to ! c]emony1 b ! engrav$ c>d is ( ! ord9>y size4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h5ry ,l4 ,hudson reque/ ! pleasure ( 44444444444444444444444444 company on ,tuesday1 ,june fir/ at half-pa/ twelve o'clock ,?irty-six ,fremont ,av5ue ,b (t5 ! "n is omitt$1 & ! invitation may read simply3 ,reception ,f f\r o'clock ,?irty-six ,fremont ,av5ue ,! initials ,r4s4v4p4 may be us$ 9 ! l[] left-h& corn] ( ei!r =m4 ,! only ess5tial diff]5ce 9 ! =m ( ! invitation to a home-w$d+ is t in/ead ( ask+ = ! honor ( y\r pres5ce1 ! reque/ is = ! pleasure ( y\r company4 ,( c\rse1 ! home-address mu/ be giv5 at ! end1 in/ead ( ! "n ( ! *ur*4 ,:5 ! c]emony is to be p]=m$ 9 ! pres5ce ( only a limit$ numb] ( fri5ds1 ^? :o are to witness x receive ) _! invitation a small engrav$ c>d1 inscrib$ ,c]emony at ?ree o'clock1 or :atev] ! h\r may be4 ,ann\ncem5t-c>ds1 foll[+ ! celebration ( a quiet w$d+1 are s5t out on ! day ( ! m>riage4 ,! pap] us$ is ! same z t = ! invitations4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h5ry ,l4 ,hudson h ! honor ( ann\nc+ ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,h>riet to ,mr4 ,james ,meade ,tr[bridge on ,tuesday1 ,june ! fir/ at ! ,*ur* ( ,! ,inc>nation ,a comb9ation-c>d ( bride & groom1 ) _! address1 & p]haps h] at-home day1 may be inclos$ ) ! ann\ncem5t4 ,if1 = any reason1 ! ann\ncem5t-c>ds are n issu$ by ! bride's relatives1 !y may be s5t out by ! engag$ pair1 us+ ! bride's maid5 "n ,mr4 ,george ,h>t ,bagot & ,miss ,m>y ,elizabe? ,peck h ! honor ( ann\nc+ _! m>riage on ,monday1 ,june ! sev5? at ! ,*ur* ( ,! ,inc>nation ,albany ,unless ! invitation to a w$d+ c>ries ! lett]s ,r4s4v4p41 x does n require any reply1 b an invitation to ! reception or breakfa/ %\ld be ackn[l$g$ by two visit+-c>ds1 s5t to ! bride's p>5ts1 :5 att5dance is n possible or conv5i5t4 ,an acceptance or decl9ation is writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 & foll[s ! correspond+ =m 9 ref]5ce to a d9n]-invitation1 ) ! necess>y v]bal *ange1 sub/itut+1 w$d+-reception ( _! daught]1 = d9n]4 ,no ackn[l$gm5t is requir$ = ann\ncem5t-c>ds2 b x is well to call on1 or leave c>ds =1 ! bride's p>5ts4 ,x is impossible to /ate exactly all ! details 9 connection ) ! m>riage-c]emony1 s9ce ! v>iations 9 p]sonal ta/e & circum/ances are su* t ! w$d+ may be fitt+ly celebrat$ 9 almo/ regal /ate1 ) a doz5 bridesmaids & ev]y?+ else ) l pr(usion1 or ! rite may be c>ri$ out ) a pla9ness & simplicity t yet p]haps yields a significance m t\*+ ?an t ( ! gorge\s spectacle4 ,ea* circle 9 e community has its own accept$ traditions1 & x is always bett] t ^! %\ld be foll[$4 ,! vag>ies ( fa%ion may (t5 tempt its vot>ies to extravagances 9 foll[+ ! fads & fancies ( ! mom5t4 ,b !re %\ld be no frivol\s tamp]+ ) ! m>riage rite1 :i* is proclaim$ z a sacram5t by ! *ur*1 & %\ld be always e/eem$ z ! mo/ sacr$ act 9 ! lives ( ^? :o ?us make _! cov5ants toge!r4 ,x ne$ only be add$ t = an ev5+ w$d+ ! bridegroom we>s ! regulation ev5+ clo!s1 :ile = an h\r e>li] 9 ! day 8 co/ume includes a frock-coat ( black or d>k blue1 a black or :ite wai/coat1 & /rip$ tr\s]s ( a light] %ade ?an ! coat4 ,! sc>f %\ld be a :ite ascot1 caught ) a pe>l p94 ,he we>s pat5t-lea!r %oes & gray sude gloves4 ,a silk hat =ms ! headge> to accompany ei!r ! ev5+ dress or ! o!r4 ,a maid5 bride %\ld we> :ite & a veil ( tulle ) orange blossoms4 ,! g[n may be decollet & sleeveless = an ev5+ w$d+4 ,a woman :o has be5 m>ri$ be=e may we> any color pleas+ to h]1 b n :ite1 & %e mu/ n veil h]self1 nor display ! orange blossoms4 ,a tra9 prop]ly di/+ui%es ! w$d+-g[n4 ,on receipt ( an invitation to a w$d+1 any gift %\ld be s5t to ! bride )\t delay4 ,!re is no obligation on ! "p ( a m]ely =mal acqua9tance to s5d a gift :5 invit$ to a *ur* w$d+1 b x is p]missible4 ,su* an obligation exi/s = "o invit$ to ! breakfa/ or reception1 z well z "o to be among a limit$ numb] pres5t at ! actual m>riage on ! occasion ( a home w$d+4 ,sometimes1 ^? invit$ to a *ur* w$d+ compromise by s5d+ fl[]s4 ,! di/9ction betwe5 ! maid5 & ! matron is aga9 emphasiz$ 9 ! matt] ( ! b\quet c>ri$ by ! bride1 :i* = ! maid5 %\ld be ( :ite fl[]s1 su* z lilies ( ! valley1 :ile = ! woman x mu/ be at lea/ t\*$ ) color--p]haps ( or*ids4 ,illu/ration3 8,,made ,,easy0 ,,s]ies ,,!re is no royal road to le>n+4 ,,x is an old say+1 & a true "o1 9 a s5se3 = pr9ce & peasant mu/ alike travel ! pa?4 ,,yet1 !re are _m pa?s1 & great diff]5ces among !m1 z !y lead to ! temple ( k4 ,9 "s1 ! go+ is easy3 9 "s1 h>d4 ,9 "s1 ! j\rney+ is pleasant & pr(itable3 9 "s1 toilsome--a we>y scramble ov] _m /umbl+ blocks4 ,,! build] ( ! road is ! tea*]4 ,x is 8 task to smoo? ! way1 & to make x /raight3 or to leave x all clutt]$1 a twi/$1 haphaz>d c\rse1 t runs r\ghly & rea*es n[h]e4 ,,9 ! 8,made ,easy0 ,s]ies1 x has be5 ! publi%]'s purpose to provide = ! /ud5t ! be/ possible road to le>n+--a road truly royal 9 its simplicity1 its wor?3 a road wide & direct1 & free f fooli%1 ne$less litt]4 ,,! v>i\s writ]s ( ! books 9 ! s]ies h be5 *os5 = _! special fitness4 ,su* fitness includes1 9 ! fir/ place1 ma/]y ( ! p>ticul> subject3 9 ! second place1 ability to int]pret k to o!rs4 ,,"r tea*+ makes easy le>n+4 ,few subjects are really h>d to le>n1 :5 prop]ly set be=e ! pupil4 ,^! volumes are ! product ( a pa9/ak+ c>e to simplify e detail ( in/ruction1 yet to make x complete4 ,! result = ! /ud5t is1 inde$1 a le>n+ made easy1 yet none ! less exact1 ?or\gh1 :olly adequate = 8 ne$s4 99 99 99 99 99 ,! volumes n[ ready1 or 9 ! c\rse ( prep>ation--price #a4jj ea*--are3 ,ari?metic ,made ,easy ,spell+ ,made ,easy ,p5man%ip ,made ,easy ,gramm> ,made ,easy ,draw+ ,made ,easy ,dressmak+ ,made ,easy ,danc+ ,made ,easy ,etiquette ,made ,easy ,keep+ ,"y ,made ,easy ,love ,lett]s ,made ,easy ,%or?& ,made ,easy ,bookkeep+ ,made ,easy ,ent]ta9+ ,made ,easy ,tricks & ,magic ,made ,easy ,m5tal ,heal+ ,made ,easy ,fur!r titles w be add$ z opportunity pres5ts itself to secure ! prop] type ( manuscript4