,,practical ,,etiquette ,,by ,n4 ,c4 ,,tw5tie? ,,?\s& ,entirely ,re-writt5 & ,enl>g$ ,,*icago ,a4 ,,flanagan4 ,,copyright1 #ahii1 ,,by ,a4 ,,flanagan ,,preface4 ,! v ext5sive sale ( ,practical ,etiquette1 a sale t has requir$ ! issuance ( a l>ge numb] ( editions ( ! little manual1 has be5 v gratify+ to its au?or1 z 0 also ! commission ( its publi%] to re-write & enl>ge ! "w4 ,?is commission1 h[ev]1 br\ght ) x a ke5 s5se ( responsibility1 = ! au?or feels t a new "w on etiquette c f9d a raison d'tre only 9 a fairly successful attempt at answ]+ practically e "q t c arise conc]n+ social relations1 at lea/ 9 ord9>y social life4 ,b to speak ) au?ority on all matt]s ( 8good =m0 is to speak dogmatically1 & s to speak is 9 itself n good =m4 ,nev]!less1 & 9 spite ( ?is dilemma1 ! au?or has attempt$ h]e9 to decide1 :5 compell$ to d s1 betwe5 conflict+ op9ions 9 m]e matt]s ( social cu/om1 & has giv5 z au?ority ! op9ion t seem$ to h] to con=m mo/ ne>ly to common s5se1 embody+ su* op9ion 9 an unqualifi$ /atem5t )\t cit+ au?ority4 ,=tunately1 social cu/oms are n[ s ne>ly uni=m 9 all p>ts ( ! c\ntry1 t "o famili> ) ! ways ( good society 9 ! ,we/ or 9 ! ,nor?1 is at home 9 good society 9 ! ,ea/ or 9 ! ,s\?4 ,! au?or is "u obligation to s _m p]sons = sugge/ions & advice1 z well z to _m au?ors1 t x does n seem be/ to give a li/ ( ! same1 especially z su* li/ c\ld be only a p>tial "o1 = _m ( h] fri5ds w\ld n desire m5tion ( _! names4 ,n4 ,c4 ,dec4 #a1 #ahii4 ,,cont5ts4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,,introductions #g ,,calls #i ,,c>ds #ae ,,visit+ #bj ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,,notes ,,( ,,invitation #ba ,,ann\ncem5t ,,c>ds #bf ,,w$d+ ,,invitations #cj ,,acceptances ,,& ,,regrets #cb ,,lett]s #ce ,,lett]s ,,( ,,introduction #ci ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,,d9n]s #da ,,lun*eons #dd ,,breakfa/s #dd ,,teas #dd ,,receptions #df ,,danc+ ,,p>ties #df ,,c>d ,,p>ties #dg ,,w$d+s #dh ,,w$d+ ,,gifts #eb ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>ies #ec ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,,conv]sation #ef ,,*ap]onage #fj ,,m>riage #fb ,,dome/ic ,,etiquette ,,& ,,duties #fd ,,*apt] ,v4 ,,dress #ff ,,gloves #fi ,,/reet ,,etiquette #gj ,,travel+ #gc ,,bicycl+ #ge ,,telephon+ #gf ,,*apt] ,,vi4 ,,! ,,table ,,& ,,s]vice ,,at ,,table #gi ,,habits ,,at ,,table #hf ,,s]vants ,,& ,,s]v+ #id ,,*apt] ,,vii4 ,,fun]als #ih ,,m\rn+ #ajj ,,*apt] ,,viii4 ,,polit5ess ,,( ,,"y ,,*ildr5 #ajb ,,s*ool-,,room ,,etiquette #ajh ,,*apt] ,,ix4 ,,(ficial ,,etiquette #aaa ,,*apt] ,x4 ,,bus9ess ,,correspond5ce #aac ,,lett]s ,,( ,,application1 ,,etc4 #aaf ,,*apt] ,,xi4 ,,g5]al ,,h9ts #abd ,,introduction4 8,true polit5ess is to d & say ,! k9de/ ?+ 9 ! k9de/ way40 ,if civil law is ! outgr[? ( reg>d = o!r p's rights1 social law is equally ! outgr[? ( reg>d = o!r p's feel+s & conv5i5ce4 ,social law is k9dness & good-w & ! desire to be agreeable codifi$4 ,a sy/em ( s mu* importance _c be unwor?y ( consid]ation4 ,! v ess5ce ( good mann]s is self-possession1 & self-possession is ano!r "n = self-=getfulness4 ,g5tility is nei!r 9 bir?1 mann]1 nor fa%ion1 b 9 ! m9d4 ,a high s5se ( honor1 a det]m9ation nev] to take a mean advantage ( ano!r1 & an adh]5ce to tru?1 delicacy1 & polit5ess t[>ds ^? ) :om "o may h deal+s1 are ! ess5tial & di/+ui%+ *>act]i/ics ( a g5tleman4 ,quietness 9 all ?+s is an ess5tial elem5t to a well-br$ p]son4 ,he %uns all outw>d display ( 8 p]sonality2 he c>es n to be se5 or he>d2 he es*ews noisy & gr&iloqu5t talk2 he avoids %[y & noticeable co/umes4 ,8 voice is l[2 8 words simple2 & 8 actions grave4 ,he holds himself habitually "u re/ra9t2 8 words nev] seem to vibrate ) emotion4 ,habits are said to be good or bad z ! result ( actions t are "r or wrong4 ,a man ( good habits is "o :o has = s long a "t practic$ "r ?9k+1 speak+1 & do+1 t he acts prop]ly f =ce ( habit4 ,good mann]s are n to be put on = p>ticul> occasions1 l f9e clo!s1 b !y %\ld be "o's second nature4 ,! simpl] & m easy & uncon/ra9$ "o's mann]s1 ! m he w impress p ) 8 good bre$+4 ,affectation is "o ( ! braz5 m>ks ( vulg>ity4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,i4 ,,introductions1 ,,calls1 ,,c>ds1 ,,visit+4 8,a beautiful behavior gives a high] pleasure ?an /atues or pictures2 x is ! f9e/ ( ! f9e arts40--,em]son4 ,,introductions4 ,9 introduc+ p]sons1 "o %\ld be c>eful to pron\nce ea* "n di/9ctly4 ,:5 ei!r "n is n p]fectly und]/ood1 a repetition ( x %\ld be reque/$ ( ! p]son mak+ ! introduction4 ,:5 introductions are giv51 x is ! man :o %\ld be pres5t$ to ! woman2 :5 two wom5 are introduc$1 x is ! y\ng] :o is pres5t$ to ! eld]4 ,= example1 9 pres5t+ ,mr4 ,jones to ,mrs4 ,smi?1 x is ,mrs4 ,smi?'s "n t is fir/ m5tion$4 ,! ^w 8introduce0 is pref]r$ to 8pres5t40 ,in=mal introductions are giv5 by m]ely m5tion+ ! names2 z1 8,mrs4 ,smi?1 ,mr4 ,jones10 & ?is is ord9>ily suffici5t4 ,9 introduc+ two si/]s1 ! eld] is 8,miss ,smi?0 & ! y\ng] 8,miss ,virg9ia ,smi?40 ,:5 two wom5 are introduc$ to ea* o!r1 x is n necess>y = ei!r to rise2 a b[ & a smile f ea* is suffici5t4 ,a woman does n rise :5 a man is pres5t$ to h]1 unless he is v old or is a p]son ( great importance4 ,^u be+ introduc$1 a m>ri$ woman may (f] h] h& to a man b x is n cu/om>y = a "y woman to d s4 ,x is ! duty ( a man :o att5ds a private ent]ta9m5t1 to h himself pres5t$ to e memb] ( ! family :om he does n "k4 ,an introduction 9 ! /reet c> is v bad =m4 ,"o %\ld nev] =get t x is difficult1 almo/ impossible1 = "s p to rememb] names & faces1 & t su* p actually suff] f _! inability to recognize & call by "n p]sons to :om !y may h be5 introduc$ rec5tly4 ,x is n uncommon to see "o approa* su* a p]son1 (f] h] h&1 & say1 if !re is n an imm$iate recognition1 8,i am afraid y d n rememb] me10 :ile ! p]son approa*$ /&s 9 agony1 & gradually makes an apology = h] poor memory1 & asks ! "n4 ,"o :o is truly polite1 :o is at all ?\ghtful = ano!r p]son's feel+s1 w\ld n be ! cause ( su* a sc5e4 ,%e w\ld prev5t x by say+3 8,i am ,mrs4 ,smi?4 ,i _h ! pleasure ( meet+ y at ,mrs4 ,br[n's lun*eon la/ ,?ursday20 or some?+ ( ! k9d4 ,:5ev] "o has reason to ?9k 8 "n or face may h be5 =gott51 he %\ld make himself kn[n1 9 approa*+ ano!r p]son1 by giv+ 8 "n at lea/4 ,,calls4 ,a fir/ call ought to be return$ )9 a v %ort "t4 ,a lady :5 receiv+ rises z h] call]s ent]1 & !y imm$iately advance to pay _! respects to h] be=e speak+ to o!rs4 ,a man takes any vacant *air1 )\t tr\bl+ ! ho/ess to look aft] him4 ,a man rises :5 wom5 ) :om he is talk+ rise to take _! leave4 ,wom5 call+ d n rise unless ^? :o are leav+ are fri5ds old] ?an !mselves4 ,:5 tak+ leave1 "o ought to *oose a mom5t :5 !re is a lull 9 ! conv]sation1 & !n take leave ( ! ho/ess1 lett+ "o b[ include ! o!rs 9 ! room4 ,"o mon? aft] ! bir? ( a *ild1 a call ( congratulation is made by acqua9tances4 ,a call ( condol5ce is made )9 t5 days aft] ! dea?1 if ! call] is on intimate t]ms ) ! family1 or )9 a mon? if o!rwise4 ,calls ( congratulation are due to ! newly m>ri$1 & to ! p>5ts :o gave ! invitations to ! m>riage4 ,a man invit$ by a woman to call ^u h]1 _c1 )\t great disc\rtesy1 neglect to pay ! call )9 a week4 ,a lady w nev] keep a call] wait+1 )\t s5d+ ^w t %e w be 9 imm$iately4 ,"o ought always to return a call1 b if ! acqua9tance is n desirable1 ! fir/ call may be ! la/4 ,"s wom5 only rise :5 _! call]s leave1 o!rs accompany !m z f> z ! draw+-room door2 b x is always polite = a ho/ess to accompany h] visitors to ! front door :5 !y take _! leave1 if !re is n a s]vant on h& to op5 ! door = !m4 ,! be/ br$ ho/esses ev5 g s f> z to accompany _! call]s to ! elevator 9 a hotel or an ap>tm5t-h\se4 ,( c\rse1 if "o has m ?an "o call] at a "t1 x w\ld be disc\rte\s to leave ! o!rs to accompany "o to ! door2 b1 o!rwise1 x is rude to p]mit a fri5d to g to ! door alone1 & get out z be/ %e may4 ,a bride :o is 8,at ,home aft] ,novemb] fir/10 %\ld make a po9t ( lit]ally /ay+ at home = an h\r or two e aft]noon dur+ ! mon? ( ,novemb] & ! e>ly "p ( ,decemb]4 ,%e %\ld be dress$ to receive call]s1 & %\ld h "s da9ty refre%m5ts ready to s]ve1--tea & s&wi*es or cake4 ,aft] ! fir/ week ( ,decemb] ! bride may beg9 to return h] calls1 call+ fir/ on ^? :o fir/ call$ ^u h]1 & s on4 ,:5 ! 8at home0 is a l>ge & =mal function1 ) engrav$ invitations & all ! accessories ( hir$ wait]s1 an elaborate repa/1 floral decorations1 etc41--su* z a debutante's com+ out1 a w$d+ reception1 or a reception to celebrate a w$d+ anniv]s>y1 & o!r l>ge ent]ta9m5ts ( ?is ord]1--an aft]-call is obligatory4 ,b an ord9>y 8at home0 does n dem& ano!r call1 = in/ance1 ! reception or 8days0 a bride has on h] return f h] w$d+ trip1 or :5 %e is settl$ 9 h] new home2 or a tea or 8days0 = :i* a ho/ess in=mally s5ds ! invitations writt5 or engrav$ on h] visit+ c>ds1 & receives ) little c]emony & s]ves only a mode/ m5u4 ,on ! contr>y1 ! ho/ess owes a return call to all :o att5d2 & only ^? :o 7 invit$1 b 7 unable to be pres5t1 are 9 debt to h]4 ,! l5g? ( "t prop] = "o to /ay at an 8at home0 dep5ds on circum/ances4 ,x is always a complim5t to "o's ho/ess to make a long visit at 8a day01 = x implies t "o is hav+ a pleasant "t2 b nobody %\ld /ay long en\gh to be a burd5 on ! ho/ess's hospitality1 or to deta9 h] f h] o!r gue/s4 ,if "o f9ds t %e does n "k any "o pres5t1 or if %e is n introduc$ to a cong5ial p]son ) :om %e c h a pleasant *at1 x w\ld be wise = h] to leave aft] a conv5tional t5 or fifte5 m9utes' call4 ,! call+ code dem&s t soon aft] a second call] is ann\nc$1 ! call] :o 0 fir/ pres5t %all take leave ( ! ho/ess4 ,! reason = ?is rule is obvi\s3 visitor numb] "o has already _h a little "t ( un9t]rupt$ tte--tte ) ! ho/ess be=e visitor numb] two appe>$1 & he or %e %\ld g5]\sly retire fir/1 s t visitor numb] two may h ! same privilege4 ,b :ile ?is is ! law1 x dep5ds some:at on circum/ances :e!r x is always c>ri$ out4 ,if ! fir/ call] is an intimate fri5d ( ! ho/ess1 & has come to h a long in=mal talk ) h]1 & ! second call] is m]ely a =mal visitor ^: obvi\s int5tion is to make a c]emoni\s visit1 !n ! fir/ com] may1 ) p]fect propriety1 out/ay ! o!r2 or if ! ho/ess has p>ticul>ly ask$ ! =m] to rema9 until aft] ! latt] goes1 he may d s1 &1 ( c\rse1 if ! fir/ visitor has come = "s special reason1 & ! visitor :o is ann\nc$ lat] int]rupts an important conv]sation1 :i*1 = bus9ess or o!r reasons1 %\ld be cont9u$1 ! =m] is naturally ju/ifi$ 9 transgress+ ! call+ code4 ,all ?+s be+ equal1 h[ev]1 x is ! place ( ! fir/ com] to be ! fir/ go]2 & "o mu/ h a v good excuse = out/ay+ a call] :o comes lat]4 ,gue/s :o are invit$ to att5d "o l>ge reception :i* is giv5 = ! express purpose ( introduc+ a "y woman into society1 %\ld make a call aft] ! reception1 b if ! dbutante is introduc$ at a s]ies ( 8days10 ! call]s ne$ call b once1 on "o ( ! 8days40 ,an invitation to any k9d ( 8day0 or reception dem&s a c>d f a p]son :o is unable to att5d ! function2 & ! c>d %\ld be s5t on ! day ( ! reception1 ev5 if ! invitation to ! function has be5 already answ]$1 & ev5 if an aft]-call is 9 ord]4 ,:5 "o calls on an acqua9tance :o is /ay+ ) a relative1 ! call] %\ld ask = ! latt] 7! ho/ess71 ev5 if %e does n "k h]1 & %e %\ld leave "o ( h] own & "o ( h] husb&'s c>ds = h]1 z well z "o ( ea* = h] fri5d4 ,x is n obligatory to leave two ( h] husb&'s c>ds = ea* woman4 ,ev5 9 ! mo/ =mal visit+1 x is optional :e!r "o leaves "o or two c>ds4 ,probably ! ho/ess w excuse h]self altoge!r2 b ! call] mu/ %[ h] ! c\rtesy ( ask+ = h]4 ,9 mak+ a call x is prop] to give "o's c>d to ! s]vant :o op5s ! door1 if x is n a regul> reception day2 b on su* an occasion ! c>d %\ld be left ei!r 9 ! dress+-room or on ! hall table 9 pass+ out4 ,9 mak+ a =mal call t5 m9utes is q long en\gh to /ay4 ,:5 "o is return+ visits & driv+1 x w\ld be 9 v bad ta/e to h ! coa*man get (f 8 box & take ! c>d to ! door4 ,x is ! woman's place to deliv] h] c>d 9 p]son1 unless %e has a footman to att5d to x = h]4 ,9 mak+ an ev5+ call a man %\ld appe> ab\t half-pa/ eight1 & rema9 an h\r4 ,ev5 if 8 visit is to ! daught]1 he %\ld ask = h] "m4 ,x is q prop]1 :5 mak+ calls ) a fri5d1 = "o to write h] "n 9 p5cil on h] fri5d's c>d1 if %e has no c>d ( h] own ) h]4 ,^? wom5 ^: h\seholds are mo/ mode/ f9d t ! day 8at home0 is a great conv5i5ce1 s9ce1 hav+ a special "t = receiv+ "o's fri5ds1 all necess>y arrangem5ts c be made be=eh&1 & no emb>rass+ situations are apt to occur4 ,:5 "o calls on a fri5d :o lives 9 a flat1 %e %\ld1 imm$iately aft] r++1 call ?r\gh ! tube h] "n & t ( ! p]son %e wi%es to see4 ,a man leaves 8 ov]coat1 hat1 & /ick 9 ! hall :5 mak+ an ev5+ call2 :5 call+ 9 ! aft]noon he leaves 8 ov]coat 9 ! hall1 b c>ries 8 hat & /ick into ! draw+-room ) him4 ,:5 a daught] is 9 ! p>lor1 & h] "m is ent]ta9+ call]s1 %e %\ld rise :5 h] "m does 9 bidd+ !m good-day4 ,x is v improp] = a "y girl :o is ill to receive m5 call]s 9 h] room4 ,,c>ds4 ,:5 an invitation to a reception is s5t 9 ! "n ( sev]al wom51 a gue/ %\ld leave or s5d c>ds = all ^: names are on ! invitation4 ,a woman leaves ) h] own c>ds ! c>ds ( ^? memb]s ( h] family :o are unable to call4 ,a "y woman1 :5 call+ ^u h] fri5ds ) a "y man :o is a /rang] to !m1 %\ld s5d 8 c>d ) h] own to ! ho/ess & o!r wom5 ( ! h\sehold4 ,9 mak+ =mal calls a visitor inv>iably h&s h] c>ds to ! s]vant :o op5s ! door ) a c>d tray 9 h] h&2 :5 call+ in=mally "o may simply give h] "n to ! s]vant at ! door1 b !n leaves no c>d lat]4 ,a m>ri$ woman1 :5 mak+ =mal calls1 leaves "o ( h] husb&'s & "o ( h] own c>ds = ! ho/ess & = e o!r woman %e asks = 9 ! h\se1 & "o ( h] husb&'s c>ds1 besides1 = ! ho/2 b1 :ile ?is is ! rule = =mal visit+1 x is q p]missible = a m>ri$ woman1 :5 call+ on a numb] ( wom5 :o reside 9 ! same h\se1 to leave1 besides h] own & h] husb&'s = ! ho/ & ho/ess1 only "o m ( ea* = all ! o!rs4 ,9 mak+ =mal visits1 & subsequ5t calls aft] ! fir/ =mal visit has be5 made1 a m>ri$ woman ne$ leave only "o ( h] husb&'s c>ds ) h] own2 & 9 mak+ a call 9 ackn[l$gm5t ( an invitation to an ent]ta9m5t to :i* %e alone 0 invit$1--su* z a woman's lun*eon1--%e %\ld leave only "o ( h] own4 ,! fa%ionable visit+ c>d v>ies 9 size2 b = a m>ri$ woman x is g5]ally pure :ite & v ?91 ) ! "n engrav$ 9 ord9>y script4 ,= a woman :o lives 9 ! c\ntry1 x is 9 good ta/e to h ! "n ( h] c\ntry place put j :]e1 if %e 7 9 ! city1 h] t[n address w\ld be1 :i* is 9 ! left h& l[] corn]4 ,if a woman receives 8at home0 c>ds = 8,tuesdays 9 ,febru>y10 & is prev5t$ f call+ on any ( ! ,tuesdays1 %e %\ld s5d h] c>d 9 an envelope1 ei!r by h& or mail1 on ! fir/ ,tuesday1 & call on ! ho/ess at ! e>lie/ opportunity on "s o!r day4 ,a man %\ld use a c>d engrav$1 z 8,mr4 ,george ,well+ton ,smi?10 n omitt+ ! prefix1 ) ! address 9 "o corn]1 if desir$4 ,! size ( ! c>d v>ies f "t to "t1 b x is small] ?an a woman's c>d4 ,! names ( "m & daught] or daught]s are (t5 engrav$ on "o c>d2 z1 444444444444444444444444444444444 4 4 4 ,,mrs4 ,,judson ,,br[n4 4 4 ,,miss ,,anna ,,br[n4 4 4 4 444444444444444444444444444444444 444444444444444444444444444 4 4 4 ,,mrs4 ,,judson ,,br[n4 4 4 ,,! ,,misses ,,br[n4 4 4 4 444444444444444444444444444 ,! foll[+ is ! usual =m = an unm>ri$ woman's c>d3 444444444444444444444444444 4 4 4 ,,miss ,,may ,,br[n1 4 4 4 4 #ab ,,p9e ,,/4 4 444444444444444444444444444 ,x is q prop] = a woman to reta9 h] deceas$ husb&'s "n on h] visit+ c>ds2 z1 8,mrs4 ,john ,smi?40 ,x is equally prop] = h] to use 8,mrs4 ,jane ,smi?0 = ! purpose4 ,:5 a call] is met by ! ho/ess at ! door1 %e %\ld drop h] c>d 9 ! c>d receiv] or leave x on ! hall table on h] way out4 ,! object ( su* a c>d is n to introduce p :5 visit+1 b z a rem9d] ( ! visit4 8,p4 ,p4 ,c40 c>ds %\ld be left on ! occasion ( a long abs5ce 7( ov] ?ree mon?s72 on leav+ t[n at ! close ( ! season2 on leav+ a neighborhood :]e "o has resid$ = ye>s1 or :]e "o has resid$ = mon?s & sometimes only = weeks1 b n :5 *ang+ h\ses 9 ! same neighborhood1 n ev5 :5 ab\t to be m>ri$1 unless "o's future home is to be 9 ano!r city4 ,! words p\r pr5dre cong signify to take leave4 8,r4 ,s4 ,v4 ,p40 means 8,repondez s'il v\s plait10 :i* is ! ,fr5* = 8,answ]1 if y please40 ,turn+ d[n ! corn] ( a visit+ c>d1 mean+ t ! call 0 made 9 p]son1 is no long] 9 vogue4 ,"o might leave h] c>d 9 p]son1 writ+ on x 8,) k9d inquiries10 :5 sickness or dea? has ent]$ ! h\sehold ( a fri5d1 & ?us %[ a delicate c\rtesy4 ,x is prop] = a ho/ess to %ake h&s ) a man visitor on 8 arrival & at 8 dep>ture4 ,x is an evid5ce ( v bad ta/e = a "y woman to s5d w$d+ c>ds to a m>ri$ man )\t includ+ 8 wife's "n1 ev5 if %e has no acqua9tance :atev] ) h]4 ,a "y girl :o is n 8out0 does n h visit+ c>ds4 ,if %e is ! olde/ or only daught] & is 9 society1 h] c>ds h ^u !m 8,miss ,smi?40 ,a woman %\ld nev] ask a man =mally call+ to take 8 hat1 or a woman to lay aside h] wraps4 ,a c>d s5t to an aft]noon reception repres5ts "o's self4 ,x %\ld be s5t ei!r by mail or mess5g]1 & nev] by a fri5d to deposit ^u ! receiv] ) h] own c>d4 ,,visit+4 ,a gue/ %\ld always asc]ta9 :at are ! usual h\rs ( ris+1 tak+ meals1 & retir+1 & !n con=m scrupul\sly to !m4 ,gue/s %\ld give z little tr\ble z possible1 & nev] apologize = ! extra tr\ble _! visit necess>ily occasions4 ,if a ride1 drive1 or walk is propos$ by "o ( ! family ent]ta9+1 a gue/ %\ld acquiesce z f> z h] /r5g? w all[1 & d all 9 h] p[] to seem pleas$ by ! ef=ts made = h] ent]ta9m5t4 ,^u tak+ "o's dep>ture1 x is expect$--& reasonably1 too--t "s ackn[l$gm5t be made ( ! pleasure t has be5 af=d$ "o4 ,x is also prop] ^u return+ home to in=m ! fri5ds j left ( "o's safe arrival4 ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,,notes ,,( ,,invitation1 ,,ann\ncem5t ,,c>ds1 ,,w$d+ ,,invitations1 ,,acceptances ,,& ,,regrets1 ,,lett]s1 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,introduction4 8,polit5ess is "o ( ^? advantages :i* we nev] e/imate rightly1 b by ! inconv5i5ce ( its loss40--,samuel ,johnson4 ,,notes ,,( ,,invitation4 ,notes ( invitation = ev5+ p>ties are issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! lady ( ! h\se2 z1 ,mrs4 ,james ,little reque/s ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,george ,:ite's company on ,monday ev5+1 ,m>* sev5te5?1 f n9e to twelve o'clock4,a ,! expression 8pres5ts complim5ts0 is obsolete1 z is also ! t]m 8polite10 :i* 0 =m]ly us$ 9 acceptances or regrets4 ,! ,engli% =m ( 8k9d0 or 8v k9d0 is n[ sub/itut$ 9 its place4 ,a v acceptable =m ( invitation = a "m 7if ! "m is n liv+1 ! fa!r's "n may be s us$7 & daught] is ?is3 ,mrs4 & ,miss ,graves at ,home1 ,?ursday1 ,octob] tw5ty-sev5?1 f eight to elev5 o'clock4 ,:5 a v l>ge d9n] p>ty is to be giv51 ! invitations %\ld be issu$ at lea/ two weeks 9 advance2 & if "s v celebrat$ p are to be invit$1 tw5ty-"o days %\ld elapse betwe5 s5d+ out ! invitations & ! day ( ! function4 ,= a small affair t5 days' notice is suffici5t4 ,invitations to l>ge teas %\ld be s5t out f\rte5 days 9 advance1 b = small ones a week's notice is suffici5t4 ,9 answ]+ an invitation s5t out 9 ! "n ( bo? "m & daught]1 "o %\ld address ! "m4 ,:5 s5d+ out invitations to ev5+ p>ties1 x is cu/om>y to d5ote ! amusem5t feature1 if !re is to be "o1 by nam+ x 9 ! l[] left h& corn]2 z1 8,danc+10 or 8,c>ds10 or 8,fancy dress & masks40 ,! h\r is designat$ ?us3 8,danc+ aft] n9e10 or 8,g]man at eight o'clock10 or 8,supp] at half aft] sev510 & und]nea? 8,danc+40 ,sometimes a sep>ate c>d is enclos$1 read+ 8,danc+ at n9e o'clock40 ,mrs4 ,george ,br[n reque/s ! pleasure ( ,miss ,lee's company on ,tuesday ev5+1 ,janu>y sev5?1 at n9e o'clock4 ,danc+4 #bba ,?irty-fif? ,/reet4 ,! correct =m ( invitation = an ent]ta9m5t :]e an elocutioni/ is to be ! pr9cipal feature is word$ z foll[s3 ,mrs4 ,james ,smi? reque/s ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,br[n's company on ,?ursday ev5+1 ,decemb] ! fir/1 at eight o'clock4 #abd ,jewell ,av5ue4 ,read+ by ,pr(essor ,william ,:ite4 ,an invitation to a rose or lawn p>ty might read ?us3 ,,mrs4 ,,james ,,smi?4 ,,! ,,misses ,,smi?4 ,,at ,,home ,,tuesday ,,ev5+1 ,,june ,,! ,,tw5ty-,,eigh?1 ,,at ,,eight ,o',,clock4 ,,rose ,,p>ty ,,to ,,meet #bab ,,%]idan ,,av5ue4 ,,! ,,misses ,,:ite4 ,9 writ+ invitations = a club = :i* "o is act+ z secret>y x w\ld be wise to put !m 9 ! ?ird p]son1 & !n !re w\ld be no emb>rassm5t ab\t ! arrangem5t ( names4 ,! words 8reception0 & 8at home0 are synonym\s4 ,ea* means an ent]ta9m5t :i* takes place betwe5 c]ta9 /at$ h\rs 9 ! aft]noon or ev5+1 :]e refre%m5ts are s]v$1 & no especial ord] ( amusem5t is provid$1 unless x is specifi$ 9 ! invitations4 ,to a 8reception0 or 8at home0 ! ho/ess g5]ally s5ds invitations to all on h] call+ li/4 ,^! l>ge functions are usually giv5 = "s especial purpose2 z1 to introduce a dbutante into society1 to celebrate a w$d+ anniv]s>y1 or = ! bride & groom aft] ! w$d+ c]emony1 or m]ely t ! ho/ess may meet all h] fri5ds4 ,!re is1 h[ev]1 a decid$ di/9ction betwe5 a reception or an 8at home0 & a tea or 8days40 ,an invitation to ! fir/ is engrav$ on a %eet ( note pap] or a l>ge siz$ c>d1 & is =mally word$4 ,! h\rs = ! aft]noon function are usually f f\r until sev51 & "o may expect to f9d at ! h\se or place ( ent]ta9m5t decorations ( fl[]s & gre5s1 & q an elaborate repa/ provid$2 b an invitation to a tea or to 8days0 does n imply t any?+ b ! simple/ k9d ( m5u w be s]v$1 nor t any b simple prep>ations w be made4 ,! invitations to ! latt] ent]ta9m5ts may be ! ho/ess's visit+ c>ds ) ! address & 8tea at f\r o'clock0 writt5 9 "o corn]2 or if ! ho/ess pref]s to receive in=mally on m ?an "o day1 %e may h ! =m 8,fridays10 or 8,fridays 9 ,febru>y10 or 8,fir/ & ?ird ,fridays 9 ,febru>y10 or :atev] days %e *ooses1 writt5 or engrav$ on h] c>ds4 ,! =mal lun*eon h\r is f "o to two o'clock4 ,aft]noon teas are usually at five4 ,"o's visit+ c>d c be us$ only = an invitation = an aft]noon 8at home20 invitations to d9n] or lun*eon mu/ be writt5 out4 ,9 s5d+ out c>ds = a tea "o %\ld simply write ! date & ! h\r 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]2 9 s5d+ a note1 :e!r by mess5g] or po/1 ! numb] ( ! h\se & ! "n ( ! /reet %\ld be writt5 out 9 full4 ,! foll[+ is a good =m ( invitation to an 8at home0 giv5 by sev]al wom53 ,,mrs4 ,,james ,,smi? ,,mrs4 ,,*>les ,,:ite ,,mrs4 ,,fr$]ick ,,br[n ,,at ,,home ,,saturday1 ,,april ,,! ,,sixte5? ,,at ,,f\r ,o',,clock #aab ,,madison ,,/reet ,! usual =m ( an invitation to a lun*eon is z foll[s3 ,,mrs4 ,,james ,,br[n ,,reque/s ,,! ,,pleasure ,,( ,,y\r ,,company ,,at ,,lun*eon ,,on ,,w$nesday1 ,,april ,,! ,,six?1 ,,at ,,"o ,o',,clock4 ,bel[ ?is & to ! "r w\ld be ! address1 & ! date on :i* ! invitation is writt54 ,! invitation = a musical may be word$ z foll[s3 ,mrs4 ,james ,smi? reque/s ! pleasure ( ,miss ,br[n's company on ,friday aft]noon1 ,m>* sev5te5?1 at two o'clock4 ,music4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 #bd ,que5 ,av5ue4 ,,ann\ncem5t ,,c>ds4 ,! simple/ way to ann\nce an engagem5t is = ea* ( ! engag$ c\ple to write %ort notes ( ann\ncem5t on ! same day to ea* "o's relatives & ne> fri5ds4 ,all ^! notes are s5t s t !y w be receiv$ at ! same "t4 ,!y are writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son on da9ty note pap]1 & ! be/ =m is ! simple/4 ,! "* ( ! note mu/ dep5d on ! intimacy betwe5 ! writ] & ! recipi5t4 ,a pretty & fa%ionable sequ5ce to ! ann\ncem5t is = ! bride to give a tea = ! express purpose ( receiv+ congratulations4 ,%e may m5tion x 9 h] notes ( ann\ncem5t1 & h] fianc may m5tion 9 8 notes t %e w be at home on a c]ta9 day at a c]ta9 h\r4 ,%e %\ld !n receive ) h] "m or "s old] relative1 & %e %\ld h "s light refre%m5t provid$ = h] call]s4 ,all h] "y fri5ds w call1 & all ! relatives & ne> fri5ds ( h] fianc4 ,! fianc %\ld be pres5t at ! tea1 or he may come be=e x is ov]1 b he %\ld n =mally receive ) 8 betro!d4 ,engagem5ts are (t5 ann\nc$ 9 ! newspap]s4 ,w$d+ ann\ncem5ts or invitations %\ld be s5t 9 envelopes address$ to ! fa!r & "m ( ! family1 to ! daught] or daught]s 7address$ z ! ,misses71 & to ea* ( ! gr[n sons4 ,all ^! invitations 9 _! envelopes may be enclos$ 9 an outside envelope address$ to ! p>5ts4 ,a w$d+ invitation or ann\ncem5t c>d %\ld always be address$ to bo? memb]s ( a m>ri$ c\ple1 ev5 if ! bride or groom :o s5ds x is acqua9t$ ) only "o4 ,! correct =m = w$d+ ann\ncem5t c>ds is z foll[s3 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,smi? ,,ann\nce ,,! ,,m>riage ,,( ,,_! ,,daught]1 ,,anna ,,to ,,mr4 ,,frank ,,br[n ,,on ,,saturday1 ,,octob] ,,! ,,tw5ty-,,second1 ,,eighte5 ,,hundr$ ,,& ,,n9ety-,,n9e4 ,,wa%+ton1 ,d4 ,c4 ,! bride's 8at home0 c>ds %\ld be sep>ate1 b enclos$ ) ! ann\ncem5ts1 & %\ld read z foll[s3 ,,at ,,home ,,tuesday ,,aft]noons ,,9 ,,janu>y4 #abe ,,we/ ,,fifte5? ,,/reet1 ,,new ,,york ,,city4 ,ann\ncem5t c>ds %\ld be s5t out imm$iately aft] ! w$d+ to e "o on ! bride's & groom's li/4 ,&1 aga91 w$d+ ann\ncem5t c>ds ne$ n be s5t out 9 any "o's "n4 ,! foll[+ is an example3 ,,m>ri$ ,,on ,,w$nesday1 ,,janu>y ,,! ,,eighte5?1 ,,eighte5 ,,hundr$ ,,& ,,n9ety-,,n9e ,,at ,,/4 ,,?omas' ,,*ur* ,,new ,,york1 ,,m>g>et ,,bak] ,,:ite ,,to ,,william ,,b>ton4 ,:5 a bride is an orphan x is cu/om>y = ! c>ds ann\nc+ h] w$d+ to be s5t 9 ! "n ( "o ( h] ne> relatives1 or else !y may read simply l ! "o giv5 above4 ,w$d+ ann\ncem5t c>ds dem& no ackn[l$gm5t f an acqua9tance ( ! bride :o lives at a di/ance1 unless a 8day0 or 8days0 are m5tion$ on !m1 :5 x is obligatory to s5d visit+ c>ds on ! 8day0 or ! fir/ "o ( ! 8days20 o!rwise1 if "o wi%es to be p>ticul>ly polite1 "o may s5d a visit+-c>d 9 ackn[l$gm5t ( ! ann\ncem5t1 b x is n obligatory to d s4 ,w$d+ ann\ncem5ts are s5t to fri5ds at home z well z to ^? abroad1 because ! c>ds are suppos$1 n only to sugge/ remembrance1 b to express a desire t ! acqua9tance %\ld be cont9u$ aft] ! "n is *ang$4 ,! bir? ( a baby is ann\nc$ 9 v>i\s ways1 !re be+ no especial rules ( etiquette = mak+ ! ann\ncem5t4 ,sometimes engrav$ c>ds be>+ ! baby's "n & date ( bir? are s5t by !mselves 9 small envelopes1 into :i* !y fit exactly2 sometimes !y g 9 an envelope ) ! "m's visit+-c>d1 & are writt5 in/ead ( engrav$4 ,^! c>ds %\ld be atta*$ to ! "m's visit+ c>ds by a piece ( :ite baby ribbon1 :i* is pass$ ?r\gh a hole made 9 ! top ( bo? c>ds & ti$ 9 a t9y b[4 ,!y %\ld be s5t out :5 ! "m is ready to receive calls4 ,,w$d+ ,,invitations4 ,w$d+ invitations %\ld be issu$ at lea/ two weeks be=e ! day ( ! affair4 ,x is cu/om>y = ! bridegroom to give to ! bride's "m a li/ ( 8 relatives & fri5ds to :om he w\ld l c>ds s5t1 & "s memb] ( ! bride's family att5ds to x4 ,:5 ! gue/s at a w$d+ are limit$ to ! imm$iate family1 ! invitations may be p]sonal notes s5t by ! bride's "m4 ,! notes may read l ! foll[+3 ,my ,de> ,m>y1--,x w give u all mu* pleasure if y w come to ! v quiet w$d+ ( my daught] ,ca!r9e to ,mr4 ,john ,m>t91 on ,saturday1 ,febru>y ! f\r?1 at twelve o'clock1 & rema9 to ! little breakfa/ t w foll[ ! c]emony4 ,only ! memb]s ( ! family w be pres5t4 ,hop+ t y may be ) u ! f\r?1 ,i am1 ,affectionately y\rs1 ,anna ,br[n4 ,a =mal invitation may read z foll[s3 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,,james ,m4 ,,moore ,,reque/ ,,! ,,pleasure ,,( ,,y\r ,,pres5ce ,,at ,,! ,,m>riage ,,( ,,_! ,,daught] ,,alice ,,to ,,*>les ,,alb]t ,,smi?1 ,,?ursday ,,ev5+1 ,,augu/ ,,tw5ty-,,f\r?1 ,,at ,,eight ,o',,clock1 #aba ,,sev5? ,,/reet ,,ea/1 ,,dav5port1 ,,i[a1 #ahii4 ,ano!r =m is z foll[s3 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,br[n ,,reque/ ,,! ,,pleasure ,,( ,,y\r ,,pres5ce ,,at ,,! ,,m>riage ,,breakfa/ ,,( ,,_! ,,daught] ,,m>y ,,l\ise ,,& ,,mr4 ,,*>les ,,alb]t ,,smi?1 ,,on ,,?ursday1 ,,octob] ,,! ,,six?1 ,,f ,,"o ,,until ,,?ree ,o',,clock4 #ae ,,prospect ,,/reet4 ,if ! bride is an orphan1 or if !re is any v good reason :y h] p>5ts' names %\ld n appe> on ! invitation1 ! latt] may be s5t 9 ! "n ( ! m>ri$ bro!r & 8 wife1 or 9 ! "n ( :oev] gives ! bride ! w$d+ reception4 ,x may read z foll[s3 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,,*>les ,,smi? ,,reque/ ,,! ,,honor ,,( ,,y\r ,,pres5ce ,,at ,,! ,,m>riage ,,( ,,_! ,,si/] ,,b]?a ,,wild ,,to ,,mr4 ,,james ,,montgom]y ,,br[n1 ,,on ,,w$nesday1 ,,octob] ,,! ,,twelf?1 ,,at ,,eight ,o',,clock4 #bdjj ,,fif? ,,/reet ,,s\?4 ,! foll[+ is a suitable =m = an invitation = a silv] w$d+3 ,,tw5ty-,,fif? ,,anniv]s>y4 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,,john ,h4 ,,smi? ,,at ,,home ,,saturday ,,ev',g1 ,,decemb] ,,tw5ty-,,sev5?1 ,,eighte5 ,,hundr$ ,,n9ety ,,n9e1 ,,f ,,eight ,,to ,,elev5 ,o',,clock4 ,,acceptances ,,& ,,regrets4 ,x is consid]$ v rude n to reply to an invitation imm$iately1 ei!r by note ( acceptance or regret4 ,9 writ+ acceptances "o %\ld nev] use 8w accept0 = 8accepts10 or 8to d9n]0 in/ead ( 8= d9n]0 or 8to d9e40 ,9 accept+ a d9n] invitation "o %\ld repeat ! h\r nam$ 9 ord] t1 if any mi/ake has be5 made1 x may be correct$4 ,an acceptance may be writt5 z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,frank ,w>r5 accept ) pleasure ,mrs4 ,john ,som]s' k9d invitation = ,monday ev5+1 ,octob] sev5?4 ,! foll[+ is a good =m = a note ( regret3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,james ,swift regret t1 ow+ to sickness1 !y are unable to accept ,mrs4 ,frank ,hall's k9d invitation = ,monday ev5+1 ,m>* #af?4 ,9 writ+ regrets1 :5 x is possible to d s1 "o %\ld give ! reason = n accept+ an invitation4 ,! be/ br$ p agree t an invitation to a w$d+ reception or a w$d+ breakfa/ dem&s a response1 :e!r or n a response is reque/$4 ,b x is ano!r "q :5 "o receives only an invitation to a *ur* c]emony1 or m]ely an ann\ncem5t c>d ) no 8at home0 c>d enclos$1 & does n "k ! bride & groom well en\gh to call4 ,if ! c>ds are s5t m]ely z a matt] ( c\rtesy because ( bus9ess relations or on acc\nt ( a =m] intimacy 9 ! families1 a call does n seem necess>y4 ,9 su* cases "o mu/ judge m or less = h]self1 & d :at seems natural4 ,if "o lives 9 a small place & ! bride comes !re z a /rang]1 x is g5]ally ! be/ way to call1 :atev] be ! =m ( ! c>ds receiv$4 ,=mal invitations to a *ur* w$d+ d n dem& an answ]1 unless "o is reque/$1 until ! day ( ! c]emony1 :5 ^? unable to att5d ackn[l$ge ! invitation ) visit+ c>ds address$ to ! fa!r & "m ( ! bride1 or to :oev] s5ds out ! invitations = ! w$d+4 ,invitations to a w$d+ reception & a bride's 8,at ,home0 dem& no o!r ackn[l$gm5t ?an visit+ c>ds s5t on ! day ( ! function by ^? unable to att5d4 ,a =mal invitation to a h\se w$d+ dem&s ! same ackn[l$gm5t z an invitation to a *ur* w$d+4 ,9 ackn[l$g+ an invitation to a w$d+1 a s+le woman s5ds "o ( h] visit+ c>ds 9 an envelope address$ to ! "m & fa!r ( ! bride on ! day ( ! w$d+4 ,a s+le man s5ds two ( 8 c>ds1 & a m>ri$ c\ple s5d "o ( ! wife's & two ( ! husb&'s c>ds4 ,to ! bride on h] 8,at ,home0 day1 c>ds %\ld be s5t 9 exactly ! same way4 ,a w$d+ reception1 if x takes place 9 ! ev5+1 dem&s full dress4 ,x is v c\rte\s to ackn[l$ge ! reception ( a 8comm5cem5t0 invitation4 ,x is v bad =m to write 8,congratulations0 on "o's visit+ c>d & s5d x 9 answ] to a w$d+ invitation4 ,if "o desires to s5d h] good wi%es to ! bride1 !n a p]sonal note w\ld be prop]4 ,x is also bad =m to s5d a visit+ c>d ) 8,regrets0 writt5 9 "o corn] in/ead ( writ+ ! prop] note4 ,if1 hav+ accept$ an invitation1 "o *anges h] m9d1 %e c]ta9ly ought to give "s reason :5 writ+ a note ( apology4 ,,lett]s4 ,9 writ+ lett]s & notes ( invitation1 acceptance1 regrets1 or introduction1 c]ta9 & specific rules ( etiquette1 orda9$ by cu/om1 hold despotic sway2 & unless "o is acqua9t$ ) ^!1 he mu/ be consid]$ by ^? :o are1 z m or less uncultivat$4 ,9 address+ an envelope "o surely ought to "k t ! fir/ l9e ( ! address %\ld be at or bel[ ! middle ( ! envelope1 & ! address %\ld be writt5 9 a pla9 h& devoid ( fl\ri%es4 ,! place = ! /amp is always ! upp] "r-h& corn]4 ,9 no way is "o's culture soon] made kn[n ?an by 8 mann] ( writ+ a note or lett]4 ,9 a =mal bus9ess lett] or 9 "o comm5c+ 8,de> ,sir0 or 8,de> ,madam10 ! "n ( ! p]son address$ is put at ! end ( ! lett] 9 ! left-h& corn]1 b x %\ld n be repeat$1 if x is us$ at ! head ( ! lett]4 ,! writ+ ( notes 9 ! ?ird p]son is n[ conf9$ to notes ( invitations1 acceptance1 & regret4 ,no?+ w\ld %[ great] ignorance ?an sign+ "o's "n to a note writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,9 address+ a cl]gyman x is cu/om>y to comm5ce ) 8,rev]5d ,sir40 ,doctors ( ,div9ity & ( ,m$ic9e are ?us di/+ui%$3 8,! ,rev4 ,james ,swift1 ,d4 ,d410 or 8,rev4 ,dr4 ,swift20 8,i4 ,g4 ,la?am1 ,m4 ,d410 or 8,dr4 ,la?am40 ,9 writ+ to s]vants1 x is cu/om>y to beg9 ?us3 8,to ,m>y ,bates1--,mrs4 ,:ite wi%es1 etc40 ,:5 a woman is writ+ to /rang]s :o w n "k :e!r to address h] 9 reply z 8,mrs40 or 8,miss10 ! address ( ! writ] %\ld be giv5 9 full1 aft] sign+ h] lett]1 z1 8,mrs4 ,jane ,smi?10 foll[$ by ! direction2 or1 if unm>ri$1 ! 8,miss0 %\ld be plac$ 9 m>ks ( p>5!sis prec$+ ! signature4 ,"o %\ld nev] sign h] "n z 8,mrs40 or 8,miss40 ,! =mal mann] ( address 9 a note or lett] writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son1 is1 8,my ,de> ,mrs4 ,br[n20 ! less =mal is 8,de> ,mrs4 ,br[n40 ,to an intimate fri5d "o may use ei!r4 8,de> ,m>y0 is less =mal ?an 8,my ,de> ,m>y10 & yet to "o :o is ne>1 ! real significance ( ! latt] =m is v sweet & full ( t5d] mean+4 ,h[ev]1 !re are no rigid laws to regulate ! correspond5ce ( fri5ds4 ,:5 a woman writes a p]sonal note to a man1 no matt] h[ slight h] acqua9tance may be ) him1 x %\ld beg9 8,my ,de> ,mr4 ,br[n40 ,ord9>y social correspond5ce1 :5 =w>d$ by ! h& ( an adult socially equal ) ! s5d]1 %\ld n be seal$4 ,if1 = "s reason1 a lett] mu/ be seal$1 !n ! po/ or "s o!r me?od ( lett] conveyance %\ld be us$4 ,! =m 8,address$0 on an envelope is m]ely ! relic ( an old legal =m t has no especial significance n[adays1 b is put on ! envelope z a matt] ( c\rtesy4 ,x means t ! cont5ts ( ! envelope are = ! p]son ^: "n is writt5 on ! outside4 ,x is v seldom us$1 & is q sup]flu\s4 ,only lett]s ( unm>ri$ wom5 & wid[s are address$ ) _! baptismal names4 ,all lett]s ( m>ri$ wom5 %\ld be> _! husb&'s names2 z1 8,mrs4 ,john ,h[e40 ,writ+ on ! fir/1 !n on ! ?ird1 !n crosswise on ! second & f\r? pages ( a lett]1 facilitates ! read+ & is 9 p]fectly good =m4 ,x is v bad ta/e = a doctor's wife to assume 8 title4 ,an invitation address$ to !m %\ld read 8,dr4 & ,mrs4 ,jones40 ,"o %\ld n write 8,mrs4 ,john ,br[n1 ne ,lottie ,smi?10 because "o is n born ) a ,*ri/ian "n2 in/ead1 "o w\ld write 8,mrs4 ,john ,br[n1 ne ,smi?40 ,! use ( p]fum$ /ation]y is n g5]al1 nor is x 9 good ta/e4 ,any lett] ( congratulation receiv$1 ev5 ?\gh x be f a p]son ) :om "o has only a slight acqua9tance1 requires an answ]4 ,no matt] h[ fond a "y girl may feel ( a man :om %e has kn[n = ye>s1 any lett]s1 :5 tr\ble comes to 8 family1 %\ld be address$ to 8 wife & n to him4 ,! fa%ion t obta9s ) ref]5ce to plac+ ! date on a lett] is to place x 9 ! upp] "r-h& corn]2 on a note x is usually plac$ 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]4 ,a "y girl :o receives lett]s f a man at ! po/-(fice )\t ! k ( h] "m is do+ some?+ wrong1 :i* 9 "t %e w c]ta9ly regret1 & :i*1 x is equally c]ta91 w result 9 tr\ble4 ,x is n 9 ! be/ ta/e to write lett]s ( fri5d%ip on ! typewrit]1 b x w always be excus$ 9 ! busy woman4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,introduction4 ,lett]s ( introduction are to be reg>d$ z c]tificates ( respectability & e/eem1 & %\ld only be giv5 by fri5ds ( ! p]son introduc$ & to fri5ds4 ,!y %\ld be brief & c>efully word$1 intimat+ ! mutual pleasure t "o feels ! acqua9tance w conf]1 b n complim5t+ ! be>] s op5ly t he w feel emb>rass$ 9 deliv]+ ! lett]4 ,su* lett]s are left unseal$4 ,!re is no great] insult ?an to treat a lett] ( introduction ) indiff]5ce4 ,a p]son ?us introduc$ ought to be call$ ^u at once1 & %[n any o!r little att5tion )9 "o's p[]4 ,9 ,engl& lett]s ( introduction are call$ 8tickets to s\p40 ,9 ,engl& ! p>ty hold+ a lett] ( introduction nev] takes x himself1 b s5ds x ) 8 c>d4 ,on ! ,cont95t ! rev]se is ! fa%ion4 ,9 ,am]ica ! ,engli% cu/om prevails1 ?\gh :]e a "y man has a lett] to "o _m ye>s 8 s5ior or to "o :o is to aid him 9 "s ent]prise1 he takes x himself at once4 ,a lett] ( introduction %\ld be some:at l ! foll[+3 ,my ,de> ,mr4 ,b>nes3 ,?is note w introduce to y my fri5d1 ,mr4 ,*>les ,smi?1 :om ,i "k y w be z glad to meet z he w be glad to meet y4 ,mr4 ,smi? is an old fri5d ( m9e1 & any k9dness y may be able to %[ him w be v mu* appreciat$ by me4 ,fai?fully y\rs1 ,anna ,m>t9 ,:ite4 ,be=e giv+ a lett] ( introduction "o %\ld be c]ta9 t ! p]sons introduc$ w be cong5ial to ea* o!r4 ,su* a lett] puts a c]ta9 obligation on ! p]son to :om x is address$3 he w be oblig$ to %[ ! be>] "s att5tion & hospitality4 ,x is1 !re=e1 n "r to make ! dem& ( a fri5d unless "o is c]ta9 t ! acqua9tance%ip w comp5sate him = ! tr\ble he may take4 ,,footnotes3 ,footnote ,a3 ,x is n[ q common to omit m>ks ( punctuation at ! end ( l9es 9 an invitation4 ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,,d9n]s1 ,,lun*eons1 ,,breakfa/s1 ,,teas1 ,,receptions1 ,,danc+ ,,p>ties1 ,,c>ds1 ,,p>ties1 ,,w$d+s1 ,,w$d+ ,,gifts1 ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>ies4 8,mann]s aim to facilitate life1 to get rid ( imp$im5ts40 ,,d9n]s4,b ,a 8d9n]0 is suppos$ to be an elaborate affair1 ) num]\s c\rses & ample s]vice1 & is usually giv5 at sev5 or eight o'clock 9 ! ev5+4 ,at a d9n] ! numb] ( c\rses naturally v>ies accord+ to ! ta/e & f9ancial condition ( ! ho/ess4 7,= arrangem5t ( ! table1 see ,*apt] ,,vi47 ,= a =mal d9n] ! c\rses usually consi/ ( s\p1 fi%1 a roa/ ) "o or m vegetables1 a salad1 an ice or ice cream1 cakes1 bonbons1 & black c(fee4 ,olives & salt$ almonds1 jellies1 etc41 g5]ally appe> 9 "s ( ! c\rses4 ,al?\gh ! foll[+ really belongs "u ! head ( 8,! ,table0 & 8,s]vice at ,table10 a repetition "h may n come amiss4 ,! att5dant places ea* di%1 9 succession1 be=e ! ho/ or ho/ess ) ! pile ( plates4 ,ea* plate is suppli$1 tak5 by ! att5dant on a small salv]1 & set1 f ! left1 be=e ! gue/4 ,a second di% :i* belongs to ! c\rse is pres5t$ at ! left ( ! gue/1 :o helps himself4 ,z a rule ! woman at ! "r ( ! ho/1 or ! elde/ woman1 %\ld be s]v$ fir/4 ,z soon z a c\rse is f9i%$1 ! plates are promptly remov$1 & ! next c\rse is s]v$ 9 ! same way4 ,be=e ! dess]t is br\ght on1 all crumbs %\ld be bru%$ f ! clo?4 ,! f+] b[ls1 :i* are br\ght 9 on a napk9 on a dess]t-plate & set at ! left ( ! plate1 are us$ by dipp+ ! f+]s 9 lightly & dry+ !m on ! napk94 ,!y %\ld be half full ( w>m wat] ) a bit ( lemon float+ 9 x4 ,:5 all h f9i%$ dess]t1 ! ho/ess gives ! signal1 by pu%+ back h] *air1 t d9n] is end$1 & ! gue/s repair to ! draw+-room1 ! olde/ lead+ & ! y\nge/ foll[+ la/1 ! m5 pass+ into ! libr>y or smok+-room4 ,seem+ly1 "o %\ld arrive at ! h\se :]e "o is invit$ to a d9n] or a lun*eon at exactly ! h\r m5tion$ 9 ! invitation2 b ! prop] ?+ at a =mal function is to get to ! h\se t5 m9utes aft] ! h\r ( ! meal1 & to be ann\nc$ 9 ! draw+-room five m9utes lat]4 ,! ho/1 ) ! gue/ ( honor1 leads ! way into ! d9+-room at a d9n]2 at a lun*eon ! ho/ess leads ! way alone or ) "o ( ! gue/s4 ,fifte5 m9utes is ! longe/ "t requir$ to wait = a t>dy gue/ :5 ! d9n] h\r 0 und]/ood1 z x always %\ld be4 ,if ! ho/ess ?9ks ! visitor has no acqua9tances 9 ! room1 %e introduces h] to two or ?ree p]sons :o are ne> h]1 & !n1 c\nt+ on h] k ( ! cu/oms ( society1 %e w feel q sure t h] gue/ w enjoy h]self4 ,a ho/ess %\ld nev] reprove a s]vant be=e a gue/1 z x is unpleasant = all conc]n$1 & by pass+ ov] ! annoyance h]self1 x may escape ! att5tion ( o!rs4 ,no accid5t mu/ seem to di/urb a ho/ess1 no disappo9tm5t emb>rass h]4 ,at =mal d9n] p>ties ! s]vant :o is detail$ to att5d to ! wants ( ! m5 gue/s h&s ea* "o1 z he leaves ! dress+-room1 an envelope conta9+ a c>d be>+ ! "n ( ! woman :om he is to take to d9n]4 ,,lun*eons4 ,lun*eons are usually giv5 betwe5 ! h\rs ( "o & two o'clock 9 ! aft]noon1 & to !m wom5 only are invit$4 ,! m5u is light] ?an = a d9n]1 & g5]ally consi/s ( %]bets1 oy/] patties1 scallop$ oy/]s1 sweet-breads1 s&wi*es1 salads1 ices1 *eese /icks1 fruit1 ice cream1 cakes1 bonbons1 salt$ almonds1 olives1 & black c(fee1 s]v$ 9 su* numb] & ord] ( c\rses z be/ suits ! ho/ess4 ,,breakfa/s4 ,! diff]5ce betwe5 a breakfa/ & a lun*eon is v slight4 ,on ! invitation ! ^w breakfa/ is us$ in/ead ( lun*eon1 & ! h\r is e>li] ?an = a lun*eon4 ,also m5 & woman may meet toge!r = a breakfa/1 & !re=e a few m solid c\rses are advisable4 ,o!rwise "o may be guid$ entirely 9 giv+ ! ent]ta9m5t by ! rules :i* apply to a lun*eon4 ,,teas4 ,a tea is ! simple/ & easie/ k9d ( an ent]ta9m5t to give1 = ! only ess5tial requisites = its success are prettily arrang$ receiv+-rooms1 ) z _m fl[]s z "o c af=d2 a graci\s ho/ess1 :o /&s dur+ ! h\rs ( ! function to receive h] gue/s & is prop]ly dress$ 9 a becom+ high-neck$ h\se dress2 a few o!r wom51 :o also receive 9 pretty dresses2 & a da9ty tea table1 :i* may be presid$ ov] by a woman fri5d or two ( ! ho/ess4 ,x is only necess>y to s]ve a mode/ m5u ( tea1 *ocolate or b\illon1 assort$ s&wi*es1 fancy cakes1 & bonbons4 ,! o!r factors to ! tea's success are pleasant wea!r & well tra9$ s]vants1 :o may assi/ 9 s]v+ ! tea & are al]t to op5 & close ! door = ! gue/s4 ,at a =mal function ( any k9d ! gue/s leave _! wraps 9 dress+-rooms1 :]e "o or m maids %\ld be on h& to assi/ wom5 9 _! dress+-room1 & a man to p]=m ! same s]vices 9 ! m5's dress+-room2 b at a small tea1 :]e1 z a rule1 ! gue/s d n remove _! /reet wraps1 x is only necess>y to h a maid 9 ! entrance hall to be ready1 if call$ on1 to d any s]vice4 ,x is n cu/om>y to (f] refre%m5ts to casual ev5+ call]s2 b if "o has a regul> ev5+ = receiv+1 %e may h a tea table 9 ! draw+-room1 & s]ve tea1 *ocolate1 s&wi*es1 cake1 etc41 z 9 ent]ta9+ on ! aft]noon ( a 8day40 ,,receptions4 ,on ! day ( ! reception1 ! ho/ess1 ) h] assi/ants1 %\ld receive ! gue/s1 /&+ at ! door ( ! draw+-room4 ,! refre%m5t tables %\ld be spread 9 ! d9+-room1 & prettily decorat$ ) fl[]s1 c&les 9 c&elabra or c&le/icks1 di%es ( bonbons & cakes1 plates ( s&wi*es1 & platt]s ( salad4 ,a b\illon urn may /& at "o end ( ! table ) cups1 & c(fee may be s]v$ f ! o!r end4 ,all t is necess>y = ! m5u is b\illon1 easily prep>$ 9 ! h\se f cann$ b\illon1 jelli$ tongue1 *ick5 salad1 & s&wi*es1 ices & cake1 fruit1 & c&ies4 ,c(fee & lemonade w suffice = bev]ages4 ,if "o c af=d to h a few pieces ( music1 s mu* ! bett]4 ,! musicians %\ld play f "s hidd5 nook4 ,"o or two s]vants 9 ! d9+-room1 & "o to op5 & %ut ! front door1 w be all t is necess>y4 ,,danc+ ,,p>ties4 ,= ! =m ( invitation ref] to ,*apt] ,,ii4 ,9 select+ a company = a danc+ p>ty ! ho/ess w naturally *oose only ^? :o dance1 & %e %\ld see1 z f> z possible1 t all ! wom5 are provid$ ) p>tn]s4 ,x is bett] to dance fir/ ) "o acqua9tance & !n ) ano!r1 r ?an to make "o's self conspicu\s by giv+ a great numb] ( dances to "o man4 ,a man gives ! fir/ & la/ dances to 8 p>tn] ( ! ev5+4 ,no man %\ld invite a "y woman to att5d a dress affair )\t provid+ a c>riage = h]4 ,:5 ! p>ty is small & in=mal1 x is all[able to g on ! /reet-c>s4 ,at ! end ( ! dance1 ! man %\ld (f] 8 arm to 8 p>tn]1 & take at lea/ "o turn ar\nd ! room be=e consign+ h] to h] seat4 ,a man :o c dance1 & w n1 ought to rema9 away f a ball4 ,if = any reason a girl %\ld refuse to dance ) "o man1 %e %\ld n accept ano!r invitation = ! same dance4 ,an invitation to a ball may be ask$ = a fri5d :o is a /rang] 9 t[n1 & has _h no opportunity ( mak+ ! acqua9tance ( ! "o :o gives ! ball4 ,a man %\ld n ask a girl1 to :om he has be5 introduc$ = ! purpose ( danc+ ) h]1 = m ?an two dances ! same ev5+4 ,,c>d ,,p>ties4 ,if giv51 prizes %\ld be c>efully *os51 s t !y may be 9 good ta/e & desirable4 ,! supp] %\ld be s]v$ at ! c>d tables aft] ! play+ is ov]4 ,a l>ge napk9 %\ld be spread on ! top ( ea* table1 & ! refre%m5ts s]v$ 9 c\rses4 ,,w$d+s4 ,= invitation =ms see ,*apt] ,,ii4 ,:5 a w$d+ takes place 9 a *ur* t has b "o entrance1 ! cu/om>y way = ! bridal procession to ent] is = ! groom & be/ man to walk 9 j beh9d ! m9i/]1 a little be=e ! o!rs1 & to take _! places at ! alt>2 !n ! u%]s ent]1 walk+ two by two2 !n ! bridesmaids 9 ! same ord]2 !n ! maid ( honor alone2 & la/ ! bride on h] fa!r's arm4 ,! bride's family ent] ! *ur* a few m9utes be=e ! m9i/] & ! groom & bridal p>ty4 ,a bride goes up to ! alt> ) h] veil ov] h] face1 b comes d[n ) x ?r[n back4 ,x is ! duty ( ! maid ( honor to ?r[ x back imm$iately aft] ! c]emony is end$4 ,:5 ! bride's "m gives h] away at a *ur* c]emony1 %e usually walks up ! aisle ) ! bride4 ,aft] %e has giv5 h] to ! groom1 %e /eps quietly & unescort$ to ! front pew1 :]e %e /ays dur+ ! rema9d] ( ! s]vice4 ,! bride may walk up ! aisle ) an att5dant in/ead ( ) h] "m1 :o 9 ?is case /eps f h] seat 9 ! front pew to ! *ancel :5 ! "t comes = h] to (ficiate1 & /eps back to h] seat aft]w>ds4 ,! bride & ! groom %\ld /& at ! w$d+ reception until !y h receiv$ ! congratulations ( all pres5t1 !n1 toge!r1 !y %\ld walk into ! room :]e ! breakfa/ is to be s]v$4 ,! o!rs foll[ z !y please1 ) ! exception ( ! p>5ts on bo? sides4 ,! groom's fa!r usually escorts ! bride's "m1 & vice v]sa4 ,x is n ! cu/om = a bride to remove h] gloves at ! w$d+4 ,! inside seam ( ! r+ f+] ( ! glove %\ld be ripp$ be=eh&2 & :5 ! "t comes = ! r+ to be put on1 ! bride m]ely slips (f ?is glove f+]1 & puts x back aga9 aft] ! r+ is on h] f+]4 ,at no w$d+ s]vice is x prop] = ! bride to ent] ! *ur* alone4 ,at a *ur* or h\se w$d+ :]e ! bride walks up ! aisle ) h] si/] act+ z ! maid ( honor1 in/ead ( ) a g5tleman escort1 %e ne$ n take ! arm ( h] att5dant1 z bo? ! ladies w look m graceful if walk+ sep>ately4 ,! maid ( honor %\ld c>ry a b\quet1 & ! bride a b\quet1 pray]-book1 or bible4 ,at a home w$d+ ! bride ent]s ! room on ! arm ( h] fa!r4 ,) a %ort dress %e w\ld n we> a veil4 ,! we>+ ( gloves at an in=mal w$d+ is entirely a matt] ( ta/e4 ,rec5tly at sev]al l>ge w$d+s !y 7 omitt$ by ! entire bridal p>ty4 ,! prettie/ way to make an aisle = ! bridal p>ty at a h\se w$d+ is = f\r *ildr5 to ent] ! room :]e ! c]emony w be1 j be=e ! bridal p>ty comes 91 & sep>ate ! gue/s into two gr\ps by /ret*+ two pieces ( :ite ribbon ! l5g? ( ! room4 ,a *ild /&s at ea* end ( ! two pieces ( ribbon1 hold+ x :ile ! bridal p>ty walks up betwe5 !m1 & dur+ ! s]vice4 ,u%]s may hold ! ribbons in/ead ( ! *ildr51 or ! ends may be fa/5$ ar\nd plants :i* are plac$ at ! requisite po9ts4 ,:]e !re is no side door ?r\gh :i* ! groom & be/ man may ent] ! room at a h\se w$d+1 !y come 9 by ! pr9cipal door j be=e ! bridal p>ty & j aft] ! m9i/]4 ,x is n cu/om>y = ! m5 at a w$d+ p>ty to kiss ! bride2 t is a lib]ty tak5 only by ! imm$iate memb]s ( ! family4 ,a bride1 if %e wi%es1 may omit ! bridal veil1 b %e %\ld !n we> a da9ty bonnet or picture hat4 ,! u%]s & be/ m5 are invit$ by ! bridegroom4 ,if ! *ur* w$d+ is a full dress "o1 foll[$ by an ev5+ reception1 x is prop] to we> an ev5+ g[n4 ,if x is 9 ! daytime1 a h&some visit+ dress & pretty bonnet are prop]4 ,at a daytime w$d+ ! gue/s seldom remove _! bonnets1 al?\gh1 ( c\rse1 heavy wraps are frequ5tly laid aside4 ,at an ev5+ affair "o goes 9 full dress )\t any?+ on "o's head4 ,! u%]s pres5t ! gue/s to ! bridal p>ty4 ,! bridesmaids are spok5 to by ! p !y "k1 b x is n necess>y t !y %\ld be address$ by ev]ybody4 ,a bride may we> h] w$d+ dress aft] h] w$d+ day z mu* or z little z %e *ooses4 ,= ! sake ( s5tim5t _m brides l to pres]ve _! w$d+ dresses intact to h& d[n to future g5]ations2 b a girl :o has to consid] economy _c af=d to consid] s5tim5t1 & (t5 ! w$d+ dress is conv]t$ into a l[ d9n] & ev5+ g[n soon aft] ! w$d+ day4 ,a bride may1 ) p]fect propriety1 we> h] w$d+ dress to ! reception giv5 h] aft] h] w$d+ by ! groom's "m4 ,( c\rse1 %e w we> x j z x 0 :5 %e 0 m>ri$1 high 9 ! neck1 unless ! reception takes place 9 ! ev5+ & dem&s ev5+ dress1 :51 accord+ to ! conv5tions1 x mu/ be cut l[4 ,a bridegroom is always expect$ to furni% ! b\quets t ! bride1 bridesmaids1 & all ! bride's att5dants c>ry at ! w$d+4 ,he %\ld le>n f ! bride ! fl[]s %e wi%es1 & %\ld ord] !m sev]al days be=e ! w$d+1 s t !y may be ready at ! bride's h\se :5 ! bridesmaids meet !re to g toge!r to ! *ur* or to ! place :]e ! c]emony is held4 ,besides furni%+ ^! b\quets1 ! groom provides ! u%]s & be/ m5 ) _! b\tonnires1 & gives !m also "s small s\v5ir1 &1 if he wi%es1 a ba*elor d9n] or supp] a day or two be=e ! w$d+4 ,!re are no w$d+ lun*eons n[adays4 ,e ent]ta9m5t ( ! k9d up to two o'clock is call$ a breakfa/1 & :5 x takes place 9 ! aft]noon or ev5+ x is call$ a reception4 ,,w$d+ ,,gifts4 ,! idea t a w$d+ invitation necessitates a pres5t has1 s5sibly en\gh1 gone out ( fa%ion1 & only ^? :o are b\nd by ties ( blood or close fri5d%ip h ! privilege ( s5d+ a gift to ! bride4 ,pres5ts %\ld be s5t z soon aft] receiv+ ! invitations z possible4 ,all w$d+ gifts1 ev5 f fri5ds ( ! groom :o may nev] h met ! bride1 are s5t to ! bride2 &1 if m>k$1 !y %\ld be engrav$ ) ! initials or monogram ( ! bride's maid5 "n1 or !y may h h] "n 9 full4 ,w$d+ pres5ts %\ld be ackn[l$g$ by ! bride-elect 9 a %ort p]sonal note1 :i* %\ld be writt5 & s5t imm$iately on receipt ( ! pres5t4 ,:5 sev]al fri5ds comb9e 9 giv+ a pres5t to ! bride1 %e %\ld write a lett] ( ?anks to ea* "o sep>ately1 s5d+ ! lett]s by po/4 ,x is p]fectly prop] to op5 a gift 9 ! pres5ce ( ! giv]1 & express "o's pleasure & gratitude on ! spot4 ,inde$1 x is mu* bett] =m to d s ?an to wait until ! giv] has gone4 ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>ies4 ,! pap] w$d+1 s t]m$1 is celebrat$ "o ye> aft] m>riage4 ,invitations %\ld be issu$ on heavy gray pap] or ?9 c>d-bo>d4 ,pres5ts may consi/ ( any article made ( pap] or papi] m*2 su*1 = in/ance1 z books1 engrav+s1 etc4 ,! wood5 w$d+ is celebrat$ five ye>s aft] m>riage4 ,invitations may be issu$ ^u wood5 c>ds1 or wood5 c>ds may be inclos$ ) an invitation writt5 or engrav$ ^u a %eet ( w$d+ note pap]4 ,! pres5ts may be any?+ made ( wood1 f a mu/>d spoon to a h\se or set ( furniture4 ,! t9 w$d+ comes t5 ye>s aft] m>riage4 ,invitation c>ds are sometimes cov]$ ) t9 foil1 or t9 c>ds are inclos$1 or1 if pref]r$1 ! invitation is pr9t$ on t9 bronze pap]4 ,pres5ts %\ld consi/ ( articles made ( t94 ,! cry/al w$d+1 fifte5 ye>s aft] m>riage1 is next 9 ord]4 ,c>ds may be issu$ ^u transp>5t pap]1 or ^u note pap] ) a c>d ( is+lass inclos$4 ,! *9a w$d+ takes place tw5ty ye>s aft] m>riage4 ,semi-transp>5t c>dbo>d w answ] = ! invitations4 ,! silv] w$d+ is celebrat$ on ! tw5ty-fif? anniv]s>y1 & is g5]ally an occasion ( mu* m importance ?an any ( ! =ego+ anniv]s>ies4 ,! invitations may be pr9t$ on silv] pap]1 & ! pres5ts are1 ( c\rse1 articles ( silv]4 ,! gold5 w$d+1 celebrat$ on ! fiftie? anniv]s>y ( ! m>riage1 may be said to be ! "o 9 :i* ! "y d homage to ! old4 ,x %\ld be conduct$ by ! ne> relatives or fri5ds ( ! c\ple1 & ! occasion %\ld be made "o ( retrospect1 ( enc\ragem5t1 & ( congratulation4 ,! invitations %\ld be on :ite pap] 9 gold lett]s1 & ! pres5ts %\ld be ( gold4 ,at ea* ( ^! anniv]s>ies x is cu/om>y to h ! m>riage c]emony re-p]=m$1 & all arrangem5ts = ! celebration are made 9 ab\t ! same mann] z = ! fir/ m>riage4 ,illu/ration ,,footnotes3 ,footnote ,b3 ,9 look+ up any "o po9t 9 ?is book1--z 8d9n]s10 = in/ance1--"o w be oblig$ sometimes to ref] to m ?an "o place4 ,*apt] ,,ii41 "u 8,notes ( ,invitation10 & ,*apt] ,i41 "u its ?ree diff]5t heads1 conta9 m or less in=mation conc]n+ 8d9n]s10 :i* x seems difficult to classify anymore closely ?an has be5 done4 ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,,conv]sation1 ,,*ap]onage1 ,,m>riage1 ,,dome/ic ,,etiquette ,,& ,,duties4 8,mann]s are n idle1 b are ! fruit ( noble natures & ( loyal m9ds40 ,,conv]sation4 ,! late ,dr4 ,george ,ripley 0 wont to say t ! secret ( be+ agreeable 9 conv]sation 0 to be honorable to ! ideas ( o!rs4 ,he affirm$ t "s p only half li/5$ to y1 because !y 7 consid]+1 ev5 :ile y spoke1 ) :at f9e words1 :at weal? ( wit1 !y %\ld reply1 & !y began to speak almo/ be=e y\r s5t5ce _h di$ ^u y\r lips4 ,^! p1 he said1 might be brilliant1 witty1 dazzl+1 b nev] c\ld !y be agreeable4 ,y d n love to talk to !m4 ,y feel t !y are impati5t = _! turn to come1 & t !y h no hospitality t[>ds y\r ?\ghts--none ( t g5tle fri5dl9ess :i* asks y\r idea & makes mu* ( x4 ,?is want ( hospitality to o!r p's ideas (t5 has its root 9 egotism1 b x is equally apt to be ! gr[? ( a secret want ( self-confid5ce1 a fe> t "o w n be ready to take "o's own "p well1--an uneasy self-consci\sness :i* makes real sympa!tic att5tion to ! ideas ( o!rs impossible4 ,agreeability1 read9ess 9 conv]sation1 tact & graci\sness ( mann] are great aids to popul>ity4 ,to possess ^! qualities "o mu/ h m>k$ consid]ation = o!rs1 & be ev] ready to manife/ x4 ,"o %\ld also be ready to recall faces & names4 ,?\gh "o has b few facts & ideas to draw ^u1 %e may /ill1 by mak+ suffici5t ef=t1 become a fair conv]sationali/4 ,if "o despair 9 ?is direction1 %e may at lea/ tra9 h]self to become an int]e/+ li/5]1 & %e w be surpris$ to f9d h[ popul> %e w be2 = ?ree-qu>t]s ( ! _w l to talk1 :ile to li/5 intellig5tly is a great tal5t4 ,! good li/5]1 by h] evid5t int]e/ 91 & sympa!tic att5tion to1 ! matt] ( conv]sation1 br+s out all t is be/ 9 ! "o ) :om %e talks4 ,diffid5t p =get _! %yness 9 h] pres5ce1 & leave h] ) ! com=table & novel conviction t !y h1 aft] all1 acquitt$ !mselves r well4 ,no well-br$ p]son w\ld be guilty ( ! gross rud5ess ( pick+ up a book or magaz9e & 8look+ ?r\gh0 x :ile pret5d+ to pay he$ to ! talk ( a fri5d4 ,! assurance1 8,i am only look+ at ! pictures ( ?is magaz9e1 n read+1 & ,i he> e ^w y say10 is no palliation ( ! (f5ce4 ,! speak] w\ld be ju/ifi$ 9 refus+ to cont9ue ! conv]sation until ! pictures _h be5 prop]ly /udi$4 ,if a spee* is wor? he>+1 x is wor?y ( respectful & e>ne/ att5tion4 ,no "o %\ld ev] monopolize ! conv]sation1 unless he wi%es to w9 = himself ! "n ( a bore4 ,a well-educat$ & f9ely cultur$ p]son proclaims himself by ! simplicity & t]s5ess ( 8 language4 ,9 conv]sation all prov9cialisms1 affectations ( =eign acc5ts1 mann]isms1 exagg]ations1 & slang are dete/able4 ,flippancy is z mu* an evid5ce ( ill-bre$+ z is ! p]petual smile1 ! w&]+ eye1 ! vacant />e1 or ! half-op5 m\? ( ! man :o is prep>+ to break 9 ^u ! conv]sation4 ,int]ruption ( ! spee* ( o!rs is a great s9 aga9/ good bre$+4 ,anecdotes %\ld be sp>sely introduc$ into a conv]sation1 le/ !y become /ale4 ,rep>tee mu/ be indulg$ 9 ) mod]ation4 ,puns are consid]$ vulg> by _m4 ,9 address+ p]sons ) titles1 "o ought always to add ! "n2 z1 8,:at d y ?9k1 ,doctor ,graves80 n1 8,:at d y ?9k1 ,doctor80 ,! great secret ( talk+ well is to adapt "o's conv]sation skillfully to ! he>]s4 ,9 a tte--tte conv]sation1 x is extremely ill-br$ to drop ! voice to a :isp]1 or to conv]se on private matt]s4 ,"o %\ld nev] try to hide ! lips 9 talk+ by putt+ up ! h& or a fan4 ,"o %\ld avoid long conv]sations 9 society ) memb]s ( 8 own family4 ,if an unf9i%$ conv]sation is cont9u$ aft] ! entrance ( a visitor1 its import %\ld be expla9$ to him4 ,?\gh bores f9d _! acc\nt 9 speak+ ill or well ( !mselves1 x is ! *>act]i/ic ( a g5tleman t he nev] speaks ( himself at all4 ,la ,bury]e says3 8,! great *>m ( conv]sation consi/s less 9 ! display ( "o's own wit & intellig5ce ?an 9 ! p[] to draw =? ! res\rces ( o!rs2 he :o leaves "o aft] a long conv]sation1 pleas$ ) himself & ! "p he has tak5 9 ! disc\rse1 w be ! o!r's w>me/ admir]40 ,9 society ! abs5t-m9d$ man is uncivil4 ,!re are _m p]sons :o comm5ce speak+ be=e !y "k :at !y are go+ to say4 ,! ill-natur$ _w1 :i* nev] misses an opportunity ( be+ sev]e1 decl>es !m to be fooli% & de/itute ( bra9s4 ,he :o kn[s ! _w1 w n be too ba%ful2 he :o kn[s himself1 w n be imprud5t4 ,!re is no sur] sign ( vulg>ity ?an ! p]petual boa/+ ( f9e ?+s at home4 ,"o %\ld be c>eful h[ freely he (f]s advice4 ,if "o keeps sil5t sometimes ^u subjects ( :i* he is kn[n to be a judge1 8 sil5ce1 :5 f ignorance1 w n discov] him4 ,"o %\ld n argue a po9t :5 x is possible to avoid x1 b :5 he does argue1 he %\ld d s 9 a g5tlemanly & dispassionate mann]4 ,"o %\ld nev] notice any mi/akes 9 ! language ( o!rs4 ,,*ap]onage4 ,! =eign cu/om t makes a *ap]one indisp5sable :]e "y p are ga!r$ toge!r at places ( public ent]ta9m5t1 has long obta9$ 9 ! cities ( ! ,ea/1 & 9 all conv5tional communities ev]y:]e4 ,no really fa%ionable p>ty is made up )\t a *ap]one4 ,a "y woman condemns h]self 9 ! eyes ( good society :o is obs]v$ to ent] alone ) a "y man a place ( public refre%m5t1 be ! re/aurant or tea room ev] s select4 ,br$ "u o!r conditions ( a society s necess>ily v>y+ z t 9 our broad ,am]ica1 a /rang] visit+ ,new ,york1 = in/ance1 might readily & innoc5tly make a mi/ake ( ?is nature1 & blu% at f9d+ h]self condemn$ = x4 ,9 ! same category ( (f5ses is rank$ t ( maid5s visit+ places ( public amusem5t "u ! escort ( "y m5 alone4 ,_m p>ts ( ! ,s\? & ,we/ all[ ?is to be done ) ! smil+ cons5t ( good society2 b 9 ,ea/]n cities x is consid]$ a violation ( good =m1 & = ! com=t1 if n ! conv5i5ce1 ( ! girl consid]+ x1 _h bett] be rank$ among ! lo/ privileges ^u :i* social evolution may look back ) fond regret4 ,x is always wise/1 :5 a numb] ( "y p are to h a p>ty1 to ask two or ?ree m>ri$ wom5 to be pres5t1 n only = propriety's sake1 b because !re w !n be no dang] ( any?+ unwi%$ = happ5+1 inasmu* z x is ! duty ( ! *ap]ones to make all social ent]ta9m5ts smoo? & pleasant4 ,:5 x is necess>y = a girl to pay long visits to a d5ti/'s (fice1 %e %\ld be accompani$ ei!r by h] "m1 or "s woman relative1 or maid4 ,! etiquette ( *ap]onage is mu* less /rict = a "y wid[ ?an = an unm>ri$ girl ( ! same age2 b x is important & 9 good ta/e = a woman :o is a wid[ to be v quiet & inconspicu\s 9 all %e does1 giv+ by h] behavior no opportunity = criticism4 ,,m>riage4 ,a "y girl's own safety1 z reg>ds h] pres5t & future happ9ess1 dem&s t %e receive att5tions f only ! be/ ( "y m51--^? ( :om h] reason w\ld approve1 if ! acqua9tance %\ld lead to m ?an acqua9tance4 ,p>5ts %\ld c>efully wat* ! "y m5 :o frequ5t _! h\ses1 9 ord] to see t undesirable intimacies are n =m$ ) _! daught]s1 = fri5d%ips & intimacies soon lead to love4 ,_m a girl1 feel+ conv9c$ t %e _h lov$ unwisely1 has ent]$ ^u ! m>ri$ /ate ) he>t & reason at v>iance1 :5 %e might h giv5 up ! acqua9tance1 9 ! beg9n+ ( x1 v easily4 ,! mo/ p]fect res]ve 9 c\rt%ip1 ev5 9 cases ( ! mo/ ard5t atta*m5t1 is indisp5sable to ! confid5ce & tru/ ( m>ri$ life to come4 ,all public display ( devotion %\ld be avoid$1 = x t5ds to less5 mutual respect1 & x makes ! actors ridicul\s 9 ! eyes or o!rs4 ,x is q possible = a man to %[ e conceivable att5tion to ! "o to :om he is engag$1 & yet to avoid committ+ ! slighte/ (f5ce aga9/ delicacy or good ta/e4 ,x is q possible = a man to %[ att5tion1 & ev5 assiduity up to a c]ta9 po9t1 )\t becom+ a lov]2 & x is equally possible = ! girl to let x be se5 t he is n disagreeable to h]1 )\t actually enc\rag+ him4 ,no man likes to be refus$1 & no man ( tact w risk a refusal4 ,long engagem5ts are usually ent]$ into by p :o are q "y1 b :o1 = "s reason1 _c m>ry4 ,z ! ye>s g on _! ta/es may *ange1 & yet ea* may feel t honor b9ds ! "o to ! o!r4 ,! woman *os5 by a man :5 he is tw5ty-"o is seldom ! woman he w\ld *ose :5 he is =ty4 ,:5 p m>ry "y !y gr[ accu/om$ to ea* o!r1 &1 oddly en\gh1 !y gr[ to be alike2 b dur+ a long engagem5t _! ta/es are apt to *ange1 & ! result is apt to be any?+ b a happy "o4 ,( c\rse1 !re are exceptions1 b1 g5]aliz+1 ! long engagem5t is to be fe>$4 ,,dome/ic ,,etiquette ,,& ,,duties4 ,etiquette is a compreh5sive t]m1 & its obs]vances are n[h]e m to be desir$ ?an 9 ! dome/ic circle4 ,if husb&s & wives1 g5]ally1 w\ld r5d] ea* o!r half ( ! little att5tions !y lavi%$ ^u ea* o!r be=e m>riage1 _! mutual happ9ess w\ld be m ?an d\bl$4 ,a wife %\ld nev] let h] husb& h cause to compla9 t %e is m agreeable abroad ?an at home1 nor see h] neglig5t ( dress & mann]s at home :5 x is ! rev]se 9 company4 ,if1 unhappily1 any misund]/&+s or annoyances occur betwe5 husb& & wife1 x is ill-br$ & unju/ = ei!r to repeat !m to a ?ird p]son4 ,fai?ful unto dea? 9 all ?+s %\ld be ! motto ( bo? husb& & wife2 & =be>ance ) ea* o!r's peculi>ities1 _! nev]-end+ ef=t to atta94 ,if a girl discov]s v soon aft] h] m>riage t %e has made a mi/ake1 x is wise/ = h] to make ! be/ ( x2 %e %\ld look = all t is good 9 h] husb& & try to =get t :i* %e dislikes4 ,!re are times :5 a legal sep>ation is necess>y1 b :5 p m>ry !y m>ry = bett] or = worse1 & if1 un=tunately1 x %\ld be = worse1 ev5 t does n release !m f ! solemn v[s :i* !y h tak54 ,x is n 9 good ta/e = a husb& & wife to call ea* o!r by ende>+ names 9 ! pres5ce ( o!rs4 ,a man has no "r :atev] to op5 8 wife's mail1 b a woman %\ld n receive any lett]s t %e w\ld n be will+ t h] husb& %\ld see4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,v4 ,,dress1 ,,gloves1 ,,/reet ,,etiquette1 ,,travel+1 ,,bicycl+1 ,,telephon+4 8,ref9em5t ( "* is said nev] to be f\nd ) vulg>ity ( dress40 ,,dress4 ,9 appropriat5ess our p h some?+ to le>n1 z has ! :ole _w1 = t matt]4 ,necklaces & jewels 9 ! morn+ are mon/r\s1 no matt] :at ! fa%ion ( ! mom5t may be1 & !re w come a "t :5 e "o w look ^u !m ) horror1 z e "o1 inde$1 us$ to d4 ,! day is pa/ :5 latitude or great v>iety 9 dress is consid]$ orig9al4 ,clo!s1 if !y are />tl+ at all1 mu/ be />tl+ 9 a degree to be borne4 ,a tra9 _c be worn :]e only a %ort skirt is 9 ord]1 nor c an abbreviat$ drap]y g :]e full dress is requir$4 ,a g>d5 p>ty1 = in/ance1 or an out-(-door tea at a private h\se dem&s a musl91 a silk1 or1 at any rate1 an elaborate toilet1 :ile at a golf club1 su* dress is absurd1 except = ! eld]ly or non-play]s4 ,9 w9t]1 frills & furbel[s1 if !y are worn at all1 are worn at l>ge teas1 ! pla9 tailor-made suit hav+ gone out = su* purposes4 ,h[ev]1 x is difficult to foll[ ! vag>ies ( fa%ion 9 ^! reg>ds4 ,= morn+ we>1 no dress c be too simple4 ,lun*eons are gr[+ m & m in=mal4 ,:5 di/ances are great1 h[ev]1 & "o dresses = calls 9 ! "p ( t[n :]e ! lun*eon is1 aft]w>d1 m elaborat5ess ( dress is all[$4 ,! be/ advice to all girls ^u ! subject mu/ be1 n to be ov]dress$1 nor yet to be c>eless 9 ! matt]4 ,!y %\ld attire !mselves accord+ to _! circum/ances1 & %\ld1 above all ?+s1 avoid all extremes ( fa%ion1 z well z all ecc5tricities ( /yle4 ,only quiet colors %\ld be worn ei!r to *ur* or on ! /reet1 & :]ev] girls g !y %\ld endeavor to be unconsci\s ( _! p]sonal appe>ance4 ,! woman :o is ov]dress$ at an aft]noon reception is mu* m uncom=table ?an %e :o is g[n$ ) ! simplicity ( a ,quak]4 ,a well fitt+ wool g[n1 a becom+ bonnet1 a fre% pair ( gloves1 & "o is suitably dress$ z a call]4 ,a girl ( f\rte5 %\ld n we> h] hair done up1 & h] g[n %\ld come j bel[ h] ankles4 ,x is n 9 good ta/e = a "y girl to we> diamond r+s2 if %e is =tunate en\gh to possess !m1 let h] keep !m c>efully until %e is old]1 & !n %e may we> !m ) p]fect propriety4 ,x is 9 v bad ta/e to we> a dress+-sacque :5 breakfa/+ 9 a public d9+-room ( a hotel4 ,su* an undress co/ume is only p]missible 9 "o's own room4 ,a frock coat is1 "u no circum/ances1 a correct g>m5t = a man to we> at an ev5+ dance1 nei!r is a ,tux$o or d9n] coat4 ,! prop] dress is a full dress suit1 ) :ite ve/ & :ite /r+ tie4 ,possibly a d9n] coat might be all[able at a v small & v in=mal dance1 b a frock coat nev]4 ,a man %\ld we> a :ite tie ) a dress suit at any l>ge =mal ent]ta9m5t1 su* z a ball1 ! op]a1 a w$d+ reception1 a l>ge d9n] p>ty1 etc41 & on all occasions :]e he we>s a :ite wai/coat4 ,he %\ld we> a black tie at ! !at]1 at a small d9n]1 9 call+1 & at home ) 8 d9n] coat4 ,ev5+ dress may be z gay z "o *ooses to make x1 ?\gh extremes are n desirable4 ,dresses made a suitable l5g? = walk+ are mu* m appropriate = ! /reet ?an ^? t are s long t _! we>]s become /reet clean]s4 ,neatness 9 a lady's dress is "o ( ! fir/ requisites4 ,to dress well requires good ta/e1 good s5se1 & ref9em5t4 ,! mo/ appropriate & becom+ dress is t :i* s h>monizes ) ! figure t ! app>el is unobs]v$4 ,a ho/ess %\ld be c>eful n to out-dress h] gue/s4 ,:5 go+ out "o %\ld consid] ! sort ( company %e is likely to meet1 & %\ld dress accord+ly4 ,! idea t 8dress makes ! man0 is a v false "o1 b a man does make1 or select1 r1 8 dress1 & is judg$ some:at 9 accordance ) t selection4 ,at a five o'clock *ur* w$d+ ! groom1 be/ man1 & u%]s all dress z ne>ly z possible alike4 ,! prop] co/ume or suit is a black frock coat1 gray tr\s]s1 black or fancy ve/+ wai/ coat1 :ite tie1 glac gloves1 pat5t lea!r boots1 & a tall hat4 ,,gloves4 ,a "y woman %\ld ( c\rse we> gloves ) a full ev5+ dress to any k9d ( an ev5+ ent]ta9m5t4 ,on tak+ "o's seat at a d9n] table or a c>d table "o may remove "o's gloves1 b n until !n2 & at ! !at] or op]a1 gloves %\ld be worn ?r\gh\t ! p]=mance & dur+ ! ev5+4 ,a man we>s light or :ite kid gloves to ! op]a1 dances1 a reception1 or any o!r =mal ev5+ ent]ta9m5t1 except a d9n]4 ,x is usual to remove "o's gloves :5 eat+ supp] at an ev5+ affair1 unless m]ely a cup ( b\illon or an ice may be *os51 & !n !re w\ld be no impropriety 9 keep+ on "o's gloves4 ,a man we>s gloves :5 call+1 & removes !m j be=e or j aft] ent]+ ! p>lor4 ,tan gloves may be worn at all h\rs ( ! day2 :ite or pe>l ones are prop] 9 ! ev5+1 :5 call+1 or at any place ( amusem5t4 ,no matt] h[ long "o's gloves are1 !y %\ld be entirely tak5 (f at supp]1 & be resum$ aga9 ^u return+ to ! draw+-room or aft] us+ ! f+] b[ls1 & be=e aris+ f ! fea/4 ,to we> gloves :ile play+ c>ds is an affectation ( elegance4 ,,/reet ,,etiquette4 ,a man (f]s 8 "r arm1 if ei!r1 to a woman on ! /reet 7also 9 ! h\se71 t %e may h h] "r h& free = hold+ h] p>asol or guid+ h] tra94 ,bo? common s5se & gallantry assign ! woman's place :]e x is = h] greate/ conv5i5ce1 & t is1 und5iably1 on ! "r ( ! man4 ,! rule = giv+ ! left arm 0 held good 9 ^? days :5 x 0 necess>y = m5 to pass to ! left1 ?us keep+ ! sword-arm free = self-protection or = ! protection ( ! wom51 b n[ ! pass+ is all to ! "r4 ,9 walk+ ) a woman a man *ooses ! out] side )\t any reg>d z to its be+ ei!r ! "r or ! left4 ,9 walk+ ) two wom5 he *ooses ! out] side also1 & nev] walks betwe5 !m4 ,a man walk+ ) a woman returns a b[ made to h]1 lift+ 8 hat1 al?\gh ! "o b[+ is a /rang] to him4 ,ladies d n talk or call across ! /reet4 ,m5 %\ld n smoke :5 driv+ or walk+ ) wom51 nor on prom5ades mu* frequ5t$1 :]e !y _c remove ! cig> f ! m\? :5ev] meet+ a woman4 ,"o %\ld nev] />e at ano!r4 ,a man :5 meet+ a woman :o is walk+ & ) :om he wi%es to conv]se1 does n all[ h] to /& :ile talk+1 b turns & walks ) h]4 ,a man _c refuse to return ! b[ ( any respectable woman4 ,if he does n wi% to recognize h] he mu/ avoid h]4 ,x is mu* less rude = wom5 to return a recognition coldly1 & ^u ! next occasion to turn away or to avoid a meet+1 ?an to give a 8cut direct40 ,a man prec$es a woman 9 pass+ ?r\gh a cr[d2 b wom5 prec$e m5 "u ord9>y circum/ances4 ,x is n prop] = a "y girl to walk alone ) a "y man aft] d>k1 unless %e is engag$ to him or he is a ne> relative ( h]s4 ,a "y woman %\ld meet a "y man ) :om %e has only a slight acqua9tance "u h] fa!r's or a prop] gu>dian's ro(4 ,:5 he has become well acqua9t$ ) h] & h] family or fri5ds1 %e may take occasional walks ) him alone 9 ! aft]noon1 b nev] 9 ! ev5+4 ,:5 two wom5 meet 9 a door-way1 ! y\ng] gives prec$5ce to ! eld]4 ,a man does n fir/ (f] to %ake h&s ) a woman unless he is v well acqua9t$ ) h]4 ,:5 x becomes necess>y = "o to address a man or woman ^: "n "o does n "k1 x %\ld be z 8,sir0 or 8,madam40 ,x is v bad ta/e = "y wom5 to eat c&y dur+ a !atrical p]=mance1 or1 inde$1 9 any public place4 ,,travel+4 ,"o c travel all ov] ! ,unit$ ,/ates alone1 & if %e conducts h]self quietly1 & z a lady %\ld1 %e w receive all due respect4 ,at ! same "t x is p]haps a little wis] to h a fri5d ) "o1 or ev51 if t is n possible1 to be put 9 ! c>e ( "s "o :o is mak+ ! same j\rney4 ,:5 a "y woman is travel+ alone & is oblig$ to /ay at a hotel1 %e is %[n to a reception room & s5ds = a cl]k to come to h]4 ,aft] ! bus9ess arrangem5ts are made1 %e ei!r gives him a c>d or tells him h] "n1 & he regi/]s = h]4 ,!re is no reason :y %e %\ld g into a public room or regi/] h]self4 ,x is n cu/om>y1 unless "o is )\t luggage1 to pay 9 advance at a hotel4 ,fees are usually giv5 on leav+ ! /eam] to ! /ew>d or /ew>dess1 deck /ew>d1 head wait]1 wait] ( ! p>ticul> table at :i* "o has tak5 8 meals1 & any o!r s]vants :o h made !mselves useful to him dur+ ! voyage4 ,! am\nt ( ! fees dep5ds on ! am\nt ( ! s]vice t has be5 requir$1 v>y+ f #a to #e = ea*4 ,liv+ 9 lodg+s abroad is mu* *eap] ?an liv+ 9 hotels1 & 9 mo/ ( ! l>ge cities su* accommodations may be _h at reasonable rates1 & are v com=table4 ,! prices = lodg+ v>y accord+ to location1 etc4 ,a /eam] trunk %\ld suffice = a travel] :o makes a %ort trip abroad & int5ds to sp5d all 8 "t travel+ & sight-see+4 ,money = a %ort trip c be c>ri$ on ! p]son1 9 a belt1 or a pocket hung ab\t ! neck4 ,= a trip ( "s l5g? a lett] ( cr$it is m conv5i5t1 & c be obta9$ f any bank+-h\se hav+ =eign connections4 ,9 "s c\ntries travel+ 9 ! second-class c>riages is v com=table2 9 o!rs x is n4 ,9 ,italy a travel] c be com=table only by travel+ fir/-class2 9 ,france second-class is n bad2 & 9 ,g]many & ,great ,brita9 x is p]fectly com=table1 & pref]able to fir/-class 9 _m respects4 ,a ru% & scramble at a railway ticket (fice is only c>ri$ on by ill-br$ p1 or by ^? :o appe> s at ! "t4 ,if a woman (f]s to seat h]self beside a man1 he %\ld rise at once & give h] ! *oice ( seats4 ,no real g5tlem5 w\ld be unm9dful ( ! com=t & conv5i5ce ( wom51 :ile travel+1 f a selfi% motive4 ,9 ! c>s "o has no "r to keep a w9d[ op51 if ! curr5t ( air ?us produc$ annoys ano!r4 ,a woman %\ld always be c>eful to ?ank a p]son = any little att5tion he may be/[ ^u h] :ile travel+4 ,,bicycl+4 ,z to rules ( polit5ess = bicycl]s1 "o :o is a true lady w %[ h]self to be "o z surely :5 rid+ a :eel z at any o!r "t1 n only by h] co/ume1 :i* w be unobtrusive 9 color1 cut1 & adju/m5t1 b by h] mann]1 :i* w be ev5 m quiet & self-possess$ ?an usual1 z %e well kn[s t by m\nt+ a :eel %e makes h]self m or less conspicu\s4 ,x goes )\t say+ t %e w n ride fa/ en\gh to attract undue att5tion2 t %e w n *ew gum2 & t %e w n all[ advances f /rang]s1 :o may1 l h]self1 be on a :eel1 &1 to all appe>ances1 may be g5tlem54 ,nei!r w %e ride (f alone aft] d>k1 nor take long rides 9 ! ev5+ att5d$ only by an escort4 ,9 ! daytime1 :5 out only ) a man fri5d1 %e w avoid /opp+ to re/ "u ! trees & 9 out ( ! way places4 ,too mu* c>e _c be tak51 especially by "y girls1 z to appe>ances4 ,_! v innoc5ce & ignorance lays !m op5 to criticism4 ,,telephon+4 ,= ! b5efit ( ^? :o b seldom make use ( ! telephone1 & consequ5tly feel m or less ill at ease :5 attempt+ to use "o1 & also = ^? :o1 f ignorance ( ! fir/ laws ( polit5ess1 or :o1 f ?\ghtlessness1 ignore !m1 a few h9ts ^u ! subject may n come amiss4 ,x is aft] hav+ call$ up 8,c5tral10 & be5 giv5 ! numb] reque/$1 t "o (t5 /&s 9 ne$ ( no small am\nt ( tact & good bre$+1 z well z ( "s idea ( ! be/ me?od ( proc$ure4 ,:5 !re are sev]al diff]5t p]sons us+ ! same l9e1 two or ?ree ( !m may mi/ake ! call = !irs1 & all ru% to ! telephone at once4 ,if at all /upid1 or lack+ 9 polit5ess1 !y w make x q unpleasant = ea* o!r4 ,! "o entitl$ to speak %\ld politely inquire = ! "o = :om %e has call$ at ! telephone1 also giv+ h] own "n z ! "o deliv]+ ! message4 ,if ?is does n suffice to enlight5 ^? :o sometimes keep call+ 8hello10 8hello10 )\t wait+ to le>n if !y are ! ones desir$1 ! "o talk+ %\ld aga9 ann\nce h]self1 & ! "n ( ! "o to :om %e wi%es to speak4 ,!n1 occasionally1 ev5 :ile 9 ! mid/ ( a conv]sation1 "s "o w break 9 ) a 8,hello60 8,:o is x80 8,:at d y want80 etc41 :i* is q di/ract+4 ,if "o c ga9 a he>+ 9 no o!r way1 x is well to say3 8,excuse me1 ,i hold ! l9e40 ,if ?is does n br+ ord] out ( *aos1 "o %\ld r+ (f & call aga94 ,"o %\ld be c>eful n to call up fri5ds at inconv5i5t h\rs1 & :5 "o is notifi$ by a s]vant1 or o!rwise1 t someone1 ! "n be+ giv51 is at ! telephone wi%+ to speak ) h]1 %e %\ld c]ta9ly be z exp$iti\s z possible 9 reply+2 =1 by hold+ ! wire1 %e is inconv5i5c+ o!rs1 z well z ! "o :o is wait+ = h]4 ,no lady ne$s to be w>n$ aga9/ speak+ disc\rte\sly "u any circum/ances to ! telephone assi/ants at ! c5tral (fice4 ,x is 9 ^! little ?+s t "o %[s h]self to be well-br$ or n4 ,none1 ( c\rse1 b ! mo/ in=mal ( invitations c be deliv]$ by telephone4 ,s]vants %\ld be taught always to answ] ! telephone politely & intellig5tly4 ,:5 answ]+1 a s]vant %\ld say ^: resid5ce x is1 if ask$1 n by giv+ ! family "n1 z 8,smi?10 b z 8,mr4 ,smi?10 & !n1 if ask$ :o is at ! in/rum5t1 %e %\ld reply1 8,mrs4 ,smi?'s cook0 or 8maid40 ,"o's individual mann]s1 & ord9>y polite or impolite =ms ( address1 are v noticeable :5 acc5tuat$ by ! telephone4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,vi4 ,,! ,,table ,,& ,,s]vice ,,at ,,table1 ,,habits ,,at ,,table1 ,,s]vants ,,& ,,s]v+4 8,god may =give s9s1 b awkw>dness has no =giv5ess 9 ,heav5 or e>?40--,haw?orne4 ,,! ,,table ,,& ,,s]vice ,,at ,,table4 ,! table looks be/ :5 n ov]-decorat$4 ,! h\sekeep] :o _c make *anges 9 h] table decoration f9ds t a mirror c5t]piece is a backgr\nd t multiplies ! beauty ( h] fl[]s1 fruit1 leaves1 or :atev] may con/itute ! decoration4 ,a unique & effective decoration = a lun*eon table is made ( long1 n>r[ b\quets ( :ite c>nations1 ti$ ) b[s ( yell[ sat9 ribbon1 & arrang$ s t ! ribbons all meet 9 ! c5t] ( ! table1 :ile ! po9ts are direct$ t[>ds ! gue/s4 ,! effect is ( a great gold5-he>t$ daisy4 ,a pretty conceit = decorat+ a da9ty table is to clu/] a numb] ( small palms toge!r 9 ! c5t] ( ! table4 ,ar\nd ^! place small f]ns1 :ile beyond ! latt] arrange y>ds ( smilax s z to conceal ! pots4 ,outside ( all h a flat bord] compos$ ( loose bun*es ( p9ks1 roses1 & maid5-hair f]ns4 ,tie ^! ) wide p9k sat9 ribbons1 a long end ( :i* %\ld ext5d f ea* b\quet d[n to ! place ( ea* ( ! wom5 gue/s1 & h h] "n pa9t$ 9 gold ^u x4 ,!n !re %\ld be b\tonnires ( p9k c>nations = ! m54 ,m5u c>ds are n ord9>ily us$ at any b ! mo/ =mal k9d ( an ent]ta9m5t4 ,!y are always se5 at l>ge functions1 m5's public d9n]s1 etc41 :i* are usually giv5 9 a hotel or re/aurant2 b 9 a private h\se individual m5u c>ds1 :e!r at a d9n] or a lun*eon1 are exceptional4 ,:5 ! d9n] is l>ge & =mal1 or ev5 :5 x numb]s only eight or t51 x is wise to h small c>ds ) ! names ( ! gue/s at ea* place at ! table1 &1 if ! gue/s are /rang]s to ea* o!r1 to h a tray 9 ! m5's dress+-room or hall :]e !y remove _! coats & hats ) t9y envelopes address$ to ea*1 conta9+ little c>ds on :i* is writt5 ! "n ( ! d9n] p>tn]4 ,! ho/ess mu/ see t1 z soon z two d9n] p>tn]s are 9 ! receiv+ room be=e d9n]1 !y meet ea* o!r1 & h a *ance = a little conv]sation be=e ! meal is ann\nc$2 & %e %\ld also make a po9t to introduce ea* woman be=e d9n] to ! man :o is to sit on ! o!r side ( h]4 ,introductions are n prop] at ! table1 & at a l>ge d9n] x is awkw>d to introduce all "o's gue/s to ea* o!r be=e ! meal4 ,at a small d9n]1 ( c\rse1 x is n necess>y to obs]ve all ?is =mality1 & ! ho/ess may introduce h] gue/s to ea* o!r )\t mu* c]emony1 :5 ! company numb]s only f\r or six2 b ) m1 ea* woman %\ld be provid$ ) a p>tn] :o escorts h] to ! table4 ,at a small function !re ne$ be b a few m9utes ( wait+ be=e ! gue/s are all seat$4 ,! gue/ ( honor sits at ! "r ( ! ho/4 ,z to ! mann] ( arrang+ ! table1 !re is "s diff]5ce ( op9ion4 ,h[ev]1 g5]ally speak+1 !re %\ld be a napk91 squ>ely fold$1 9 front ( ea* gue/1 & at ! left ( x ! =ks1 i4 e41 a fi% =k & a l>ge & a small ord9>y =k4 ,at ! "r ( ! napk9 %\ld be ! knives & spoons1 a glass1 bread-&-butt] plate 7if us$71 & a salt cell>2 & 9 ! c5t] ( ! table on an embroid]$ c5t]piece or circul> mirror1 ! floral decorations4 ,at ! head ( ! table1 ^u an embroid]$ squ>e1 are laid ! tea s]vice1--! urn1 ! cups & sauc]s1 ! cream pit*]1 sug> b[l1 etc42 at ! o!r end are plac$ ! di%es = s]v+4 ,scatt]$ ab\t on circul> doilies are ! di%es ( jelly1 pres]ves1 pickles 7sweet & s\r71 olives1 salt$ almonds1 etc4 ,*af+-di%es are us$ to prep>e su* di%es z t]rap91 oy/]s1 or :atev] may be cook$ absolutely on ! table4 ,a napk9 & plate1 or tray1 is be/ lik$ = remov+ crumbs4 ,f+] b[ls %\ld always foll[ ! la/ c\rse at =mal & in=mal meals alike1 except at breakfa/1 :51 if fruit is ! fir/ c\rse1 ! f+]-b[l is put on ! table :5 ! cov]s are laid ready = ! fruit c\rse4 ,spoon-hold]s are no long] us$1 b if "o %\ld be fanci$ x w\ld be bett] to put ! b[l ( ! spoon 9 ! hold] fir/4 ,unless "o s]ves some?+ m ?an waf]s1 small cakes1 tea1 & *ocolate on an 8at home0 day1 napk9s are n necess>y2 if1 h[ev]1 !re is "s di% t w soil ! f+]s or ! lips1 !n !re %\ld be a pile ( small napk9s on ! tea-table4 ,too?-picks %\ld n be put on ! table1 nor %\ld !y be us$ outside "o's own room4 ,x is n necess>y to fold "o's napk9 :5 only "o meal is to be eat5 9 ! h\se 9 :i* "o is /ay+4 ,! day = ty+ cakes1 s&wi*es1 etc41 ) ribbons has pass$4 ,! waitress %\ld /& ) a tray 9 h] h& beh9d ! ho/'s *air to receive ea* plate z x is fill$1 pass+ x to ! left ( ! gue/1 & wait+ = him to remove x4 ,:5 ! ho/ess is p\r+ tea or c(fee1 ! maid's place is by h] left side 9 wait+ = ! cups4 ,aft] t %e %\ld be on ! al]t to see :5 ! glasses ne$ fill+1 or :5 !re is bread1 pickles1 or any?+ to be pass$4 ,:5 remov+ ! plates x %\ld be f ! "r side ( ! gue/1 b ev]y?+ %\ld be (f]$ at ! left t ! "r h& may be us$ to receive x4 ,:5 a di% is pass$ & !re is no maid 9 att5dance1 "o %\ld help himself & pass x on4 ,if a di% is /&+ ne> "o1 "u su* circum/ances1 he may q prop]ly ask if he may help himself1 & d s4 ,:5 a plate is pass$ = a help+1 ! knife & =k are laid well to ! side ( ! plate1 s plac$ t !y w n fall (f1 & yet n be 9 ! way ( ! s]v]4 ,all ! appurt5ances ( ea* c\rse %\ld be remov$ be=e ! succe$+ "o is s]v$4 ,! bread-&-butt] plates1 h[ev]1 %\ld be remov$ be=e ! salad c\rse1 z crack]s & *eese are pass$ ) ?is1 ! salad plate be+ us$ to hold all ?ree ?+s4 ,! salt$ almonds %\ld be />t$ ab\t ! table by ! ho/ess soon aft] ! gue/s are seat$4 ,"s ho/esses possess cut-glass or *9a individual di%es1 on :i* ! almonds are plac$ :5 ! gue/ helps himself1 b x is q usual = !m to be plac$ on ! bread-&-butt] plate4 ,bonbons %\ld be pass$ by ! maid :5 ! c(fee is s]v$1 & eat5 f ! plate f :i* ! f+]-b[l & doily h be5 remov$4 ,x is n important :e!r tumbl]s or goblets are us$ on ! d9n]-table2 ea* season br+s its own cu/om4 ,! bread-&-butt] plates at a =mal d9n] s]ve ! purpose only ( bread plates1 z x is n cu/om>y to s]ve butt] on su* occasions4 ,if x is us$1 h[ev]1 butt] %\ld be made into t9y balls1 & "o or two plac$ on ea* bread-&-butt] plate4 ,x is cu/om>y to put ! vegetables s]v$ ) ! meat on ! same plate4 ,! use ( individual di%es = vegetables is no long] approv$4 ,oranges are seldom s]v$ at d9n] unless !y are specially prep>$1 t is1 ) ! sk9 tak5 (f1 & ! sections divid$1 9 :i* case ! fruit is eat5 f a =k4 ,*eese & crack]s ( "s sort are always s]v$ ) salad c\rses4 ,at a =mal d9n] b\illon or consomm is usually s]v$ 9 s\p-plates4 ,at a supp] or lun*eon x is (t5e/ s]v$ 9 cups4 ,! regulation cups are ^? hav+ h&les on ea* side4 ,:5 oy/]s are s]v$ on ! half-%ell1 !y are usually plac$ ^u ! table be=e ! meal is ann\nc$4 ,x is n cu/om>y to s]ve fruit z a fir/ c\rse at d9n]1 ?\gh at a lun* x is q prop]4 ,grape-fruit mu/ be s]v$ ice cold4 ,x is s]v$ 9 two ways3 ei!r x is cut 9 halves1 midway betwe5 ! blossom & ! /em end1 ! se$s remov$1 ! pulp loos5$ ) a %>p knife1 b s]v$ 9 ! natural sk91 to be eat5 ) a spoon2 or ! pulp & se$s are entirely remov$ f ! sk9 ) a %>p knife1 & ! edible "p only s]v$ 9 deep dess]t plates4 ,pulv]iz$ sug> %\ld accompany grape-fruit4 ,9 wait+ ^u plates1 "o %\ld nev] p\r gravy on ! food1 b place x at "o side4 ,! salad c\rse at d9n] always succe$s ! game c\rse4 ,aft] d9n] c(fee is s]v$ 9 small cups & )\t cream4 ,9 _m h\ses rock-c&y1 cru%$ 9 v small pieces1 is us$ z a sub/itute = sug>1 ! claim be+ made t x gives a pur] sweetness4 ,cut sug> is s]v$ ) c(fee1 & p[d]$ sug> ) fruit or oatmeal4 ,c(fee may be s]v$ at ! table or 9 ! draw+-room z is be/ lik$4 ,p are n ask$ if !y w h x2 x is s]v$ to !m4 ,only sug> is (f]$ ) black c(fee4 ,,habits ,,at ,,table4 ,no?+ indicates ! good bre$+ ( a man s mu* z 8 mann]s at table4 ,!re are a ?\s& little po9ts to be obs]v$1 :i*1 al?\gh n absolutely necess>y1 di/9ctly /amp ! ref9$ & well-br$ man4 ,a man may pass mu/] by dress+ well1 & may su/a9 himself tol]ably 9 conv]sation2 b1 if he is n ne>ly p]fect 9 table etiquette1 d9+ w betray him4 ,any unpleasant peculi>ity1 abruptness1 or co>s5ess ( mann] is especially (f5sive at table4 ,p are m easily disgu/$ at t "t ?an at any o!r4 ,"o %\ld nev] re/ ! arms ^u ! table1 b keep ! left h&1 :5 n 9 use1 ly+ quietly 9 ! lap4 ,a man gue/ %\ld nev] prec$e 8 ho/ess into or out ( ! d9+-room1 b %\ld wait respectfully by ! door = h] to pass4 ,a s\p-plate %\ld nev] be tilt$ = ! la/ spoonful4 ,! m\? %\ld be kept clos$ 9 eat+1 & z little noise made z possible4 ,a goblet %\ld be held by ! /em1 & n by ! b[l4 ,bread %\ld be brok5 & n cut be=e butt]+ x to eat4 ,a knife %\ld nev] be us$ at table except :]e "o is unable to cut 8 food ) 8 =k2 x %\ld nev] be us$ 9 convey+ food to ! m\?4 ,a knife %\ld be held by its h&le1 & ! f+] n all[$ to ext5d up on ! blade4 ,9 eat+ ) a =k x %\ld be held 9 ! "r h&4 ,! =k is g5]ally us$ ) ! t9es curv+ upw>d4 ,olives are eat5 f ! f+]s2 pickles1 f a =k4 ,x is usual to put ei!r a small =k or a long-h&l$ spoon ) a small b[l on ! di% conta9+ olives or pickles1 & "o %\ld use x 9 help+ "o's self4 ,! tips ( ! f+]s are put 9 ! f+]-b[ls & may !n moi/5 ! lips4 ,bo? lips & f+] tips are dri$ on ! napk91 :i* is n aft]w>ds fold$4 ,wat]melons are eat5 ) a =k1 & cantal\pes ) ei!r a spoon or a =k4 ,a bak$ potato %\ld be eat5 f ! plate aft] x has be5 pu%$ out ( its sk9 by ! =k4 ,dri$ beef is eat5 ) a =k4 ,grape se$s may be remov$ f ! m\? ) ! f+]s4 ,! se$s ( wat]melons %\ld be tak5 f ! fruit ) a =k be=e ! fruit is put into ! m\?4 ,fi% bones are tak5 f ! m\? ) ! f+]s4 ,c>e1 h[ev]1 is usually tak5 to leave z few bones z possible 9 ! fi%1 s9ce ! g5]al use ( ! silv] knife ) ! silv] =k has made x easy to sep>ate ! bones f ! meat4 ,bananas are brok5 ) a =k1 & a piece is convey$ to ! m\? on a =k4 ,:5 a s]vant (f]s "o a di%1 he %\ld help himself )\t tak+ x f h] h&4 ,:5 dr9k+ f a cup1 ! spoon %\ld be left 9 ! sauc]1 :]e x also rema9s :5 ! cup is empty4 ,x is n prop] to eat gravy ) bits ( bread2 in/ead1 x %\ld be reg>d$ z a sauce1 & simply eat5 on ! meat ( :i* x =ms a portion4 ,x is decre$ by cu/om t ! small bones ( any bird may be tak5 9 ! f+]s1 & ! meat eat5 f ! bone4 ,b ?is mu/ always be done da9tily4 ,:at is kn[n z 8lay] cake0 is eat5 f a =k1 & 9 s]v+ x "o uses ei!r a pie-knife or a tablespoon & a =k4 ,*eese is eat5 ) a =k4 ,aft]-d9n] c(fee is tak5 directly f ! cup1 & n f ! spoon4 ,crack]s %\ld be eat5 f ! h&1 & n be brok5 into s\p4 ,:5 bread is pass$1 "o takes a slice z x is cut1 & does n break x & leave a portion on ! plate4 ,bread is always eat5 f ! f+]s4 ,raw oy/]s are eat5 ) a small oy/]-=k f ! %ell4 ,9 help+ "o's self to salt1 ! little salt-spoon is us$1 & ! salt is plac$ on ! plate4 ,:5 /rawb]ries are s]v$ ) _! /ems on1 "o picks "o up by ! /em1 dips x into ! s(t sug> at ! side ( ! plate1 & eats x f ! /em4 ,bonbons are eat5 f ! f+]s4 ,if a spoon is 9 ! di% f :i* !y are s]v$1 !n "o uses x2 if n1 ! f+]s are prop]4 ,an apple or a pe> may be held on a =k1 & p>$ ) a knife2 or x may be qu>t]$1 & ea* qu>t] held 9 ! f+]s1 & !n p>$4 ,dates are eat5 f ! f+]s4 ,:5 "o answ]s 8?ank y0 to an invitation to p>take ( a c]ta9 di% at ! table1 8yes0 is meant4 ,"o %\ld break a small piece ( bread (f ! slice1 !n butt] x & eat x4 ,only v small *ildr5 9 ! nurs]y bite f a slice ( butt]$ bread4 ,"o ne$ n fe> to take ! la/ piece on ! plate :5 x is (f]$4 ,x w\ld be m impolite to refuse x4 ,x is v bad =m to pile up1 or 9 any way arrange ! plates or small di%es put be=e "o1 = ! b5efit ( ! wait]4 ,%e %\ld d h] own "w1 :i* is to take away ! plates )\t any help4 ,:5 "o wi%es = bread1 or any?+ ( t sort1 he %\ld simply ask = x1 ei!r address+ 8 reque/ to ! s]vant or1 if !re is none1 to :omev] ! bread may be ne>e/1 if x is on ! table4 ,^u leav+ ! table1 & ! signal = leav+ is giv5 :5 ! ho/ess rises1 "o's napk9 %\ld be plac$ ^u ! table unfold$1 unless "o is to rema9 = ano!r meal4 ,at a =mal d9n] p>ty ! ho/ %\ld ent] ! d9+-room fir/ & ) ! lady 9 ^: honor ! d9n] is giv52 ! ho/ess goes into ! d9+-room la/ ) ! mo/ important man gue/1 :o %\ld be seat$ at h] "r4 ,:]e m5us are us$ !y %\ld be plac$ on ! left-h& side1 beside ! =ks4 ,:5 ! d9n] is ov]1 at a signal f ! ho/ess1 ! wom5 rise & retire to ! draw+-room1 :]e c(fee is usually s]v$1 ! m5 rema9+ 9 ! d9+-room = c(fee & cig>s4 ,five o'clock tea may be s]v$ 9 a v>iety ( ways3 ! ho/ess may brew x h]self 9 a teapot ^u h] tea-table 9 ! p>lor2 %e may make x by p\r+ boil+ wat] ov] a tea-ball2 or x may be s]v$ by ei!r a man or maid s]vant 9 ! d9+-room4 ,its prop] accompanim5ts are sug>1 cream1 slic$ lemon1 & ei!r waf]s1 ?9 s&wi*es1 or cake4 ,x is 9 bett] =m to h a lun*eon s]v$ at a l>ge table1 especially :5 ! gue/s d n numb] m ?an tw5ty1 ?an to h small tables4 ,two o'clock is ! fa%ionable h\r = a lun*eon2 aft] x is ov] ! gue/s usually disp]se4 ,a ho/1 9 ent]ta9+ at a hotel or a re/aurant1 ev5 if he ent]ta9s only "o woman1 %\ld give ! ord] = ! meal himself1 & save h] ! slight emb>rassm5t x may be = h] to make h] own selection4 ,! mo/ c\rte\s ?+ is = him to ord] ! meal be=eh&1 b if ! occasion is v in=mal & he pref]s to wait until !y are at ! table1 he %\ld1 aft] he & 8 gue/ are seat$1 h& ! m5u to h] & ask if %e has any especial pref]5ce1 & !n1 respect+ h] wi%es1 give ! ord] himself to ! wait]4 ,if1 h[ev]1 fri5ds happ5 91 & are ask$ in=mally to /ay to a meal at a hotel1 !y may ord] !mselves :at !y want f ! m5u1 &1 if necess>y1 ! ho/ or ho/ess ( ! occasion may pay ! bill be=e leav+ ! d9+-room1 b ! bill %\ld n be paid until ! gue/s h dep>t$4 ,9 giv+ "o's ord] = d9n] at ! hotel1 oy/]s come fir/1 !n s\p1 fi%1 a roa/ or a bird1 ices1 :atev] dess]t may be desir$1 & c(fee4 ,v (t5 a woman is well s]v$1 :5 %e is alone1 by all[+ ! wait] to arrange a d9n] = h]4 ,if ! only gue/ at ! family d9n]-table is a man1 he %\ld n be s]v$ until all ! ladies ( ! family h be5 att5d$ to4 ,if ! ho/ess is ! only woman at ! table1 %e is s]v$ fir/1 z a lady is ( mo/ importance f a social /&po9t1 & x is always prop] to att5d to h] wants fir/4 ,aft] h] ! man :o is a visitor1 or ^: age gives him prec$5ce1 receives att5tion4 ,! gue/ ( honor at a tea arrives a little e>li] ?an ! o!r gue/s1 & rema9s some:at lat]1 b at a lun*eon or d9n] %e %\ld appe> at ! regulation "t4 ,"o %\ld remove "o's gloves at a lun*eon1 b ! reta9+ ( ! hat is entirely a matt] ( p]sonal ta/e4 ,! inconsid]ate gue/ :o arrives late = lun*eon or d9n] is %[n imm$iately into ! d9+-room1 & ! ho/ess does n leave h] gue/s1 b simply rises & motions him to a seat :5 he ent]s ! room4 ,t5 m9utes is ! "t usually all[$ = ea* c\rse :]e m ?an a six-c\rse d9n] is s]v$4 ,! correct & usual way ( seat+ a bridal p>ty at a w$d+ ent]ta9m5t is = ! groom to sit at "o end ( ! table1 & ! bride at ! o!r end1 ! be/ man on ! bride's "r1 & ! maid ( honor or fir/ bridemaid on ! groom's "r4 ,! o!r bridemaids & u%]s are plac$ :]ev] seems be/4 ,z a usual ?+1 ! p>5ts ( ! bride & groom d n sit at ! same table ) ! imm$iate bridal p>ty1 b at ano!r table1 toge!r ) ! ne> relatives on bo? sides1 & p]haps ! m9i/] :o (ficiat$ at ! w$d+ & 8 wife2 b if x seems desirable to h ! p>5ts at ! bridal table1 x is p]fectly prop] to seat !m !re4 ,!re are c]ta9 di/9ctive features ( a bridal table :i* mu/ be 9 evid5ce4 ,"o is ! w$d+ or bride's cake1 & ?is cake %\ld be ! c5tral ornam5t1 & %\ld be surr\nd$ ) a wrea? ( roses4 ,! place-c>ds %\ld h ! initials ( ! bride & groom wov5 toge!r = decoration1 & ! s\v5irs may be small sat9 boxes conta9+ w$d+ cake4 ,,s]vants ,,& ,,s]v+4 ,!re is s mu* to say ^u ! subject ( s]vants1 not)/&+ s mu* has already be5 said1 x is difficult to "k :]e to beg94 ,b1 9 ! fir/ place1 e woman %\ld rememb] t s]vants are1 l h]self1 human1 & t 9 our free ,am]ica1 !y are becom+ v indep5d5t1 n to say self-ass]tive4 ,?us a h\se mi/ress has no small matt] to deal ) :5 %e dem&s ob$i5ce & respectful att5tion f girls :o are g5]ally ignorant1 & (t5 impud5t & ill-br$4 ,! greate/ /r5g? ( ! mi/ress lies 9 h] p[] to control h]self1 & :ile %e mu/ dem& respectfulness f h] s]vants1 %e c (t5 avoid a cla% ) !m by us+ a little tact4 ,if !y are treat$ 9 a k9d1 ?\gh dignifi$1 mann]1 unless v deg5]ate1 !y w usually respond satisfactorily4 ,"o c speak1 ) p]fect propriety1 ( ! "o s]vant employ$ z 8! maid10 b n z 8our girl40 ,s]vants %\ld be expect$ to dress neatly1 & :]e !re is b "o1 %e %\ld h a clean :ite apron ready to put on :5 answ]+ ! door-bell1 be+ prep>$ ) a tray to receive ! call]'s c>d4 ,%e %\ld also "k1 be=e answ]+ ! bell1 :o is 9 & :o is n at home1 & :at excuse1 if any1 to make = ea* "o call$ =4 ,s]vants %\ld nev] be all[$ to call any memb] ( ! family f a di/ance1 z f ! foot ( ! /airs1 b %\ld g to ! "o to :om %e wi%es to speak1 & deliv] h] message4 ,x is h>d to say1 "u all circum/ances1 :at to expect ( a nurs]y gov]ness1 & :at %\ld be h] privileges4 ,to treat h] ) ! greate/ consid]ation is well wor? :ile2 = "o is comp5sat$ 9 be+ able to get an intellig5t1 ladylike woman :o may be tru/$ to guide h] *>ges wisely4 ,"o may ask a gov]ness to sleep 9 ! same room ) ! *ildr51 dress & undress !m1 eat ) !m1 & tea* !m1 & take ! entire *>ge ( !m2 b1 ( c\rse1 "o w provide "s attractive place = h] to sit dur+ ! ev5+1 :ile ! *ildr5 are asleep 9 h] room4 ,x is also necess>y to see t h] meals are well cook$ & c>efully s]v$1 & to p]mit h] to be free "o aft]noon & ev5+ e week4 ,%e %\ld be address$ z 8,miss ,smi?10 n by h] fir/ "n4 ,x is exp$i5t to sup]vise ! "w ( ! g5]al h\se-"w s]vant z mu* z possible2 & if x is m conv5i5t = h] to g up ! front /airs to ann\nce call]s1 & to g d[n !m to answ] ! front door1 c]ta9ly all[ h] to use ! front /airs in/ead ( ! back ones on occasions4 ,a waitress or p>lor-maid is no m privileg$ to use ! front /airs ?an a g5]al h\se-"w s]vant4 ,a nurse may be1 ) propriety1 :]ev] h] *>ges are all[$4 ,if a maid is expect$ to we> a cap1 x is usually furni%$ by ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,x is good =m to address ! s]vants "o kn[s :5 ent]+ a h\se1 & to ?ank !m = any att5tion4 ,x is un=tunate t ! ,engli% sy/em ( fee+ has come into vogue "h4 ,b x is q cu/om>y n[1 = a gue/1 aft] a visit1 ev5 a %ort "o1 to be/[ ^u a s]vant a small fee1 say1 ( a doll>4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,vii4 ,,fun]als1 ,,m\rn+4 ,civility implies self-sacrifice2 x is ! la/ t\*1 ! cr[n+ p]fection ( a noble "*4--,ma!ws4 ,,fun]als4 ,at no place is a lack ( sy/em1 & an obs]vance ( =mality1 m noticeable ?an at a fun]al4 ,an und]tak] g5]ally has *>ge ( ! details1 & :]e he is well in=m$ & has suffici5t assi/ance1 he c manage affairs nicely1 b !re is a great deal ( uno/5tati\s s]vice t may be done by fri5ds1 inde$1 mu/ be4 ,!y c assi/ ! s]vants 9 arrang+ ! h\se1 fl[]s1 etc41 be=e ! fun]al2 meet any :o may call at ! door2 & 9 e way /& betwe5 ! afflict$ family & ! outside _w4 ,( c\rse none b intimate fri5ds c be ( s]vice at su* a "t4 ,all o!rs1 no matt] h[ will+1 c b call at ! door ) (f]s ( s]vice1 & ev5 t %\ld n be c>ri$ f> en\gh to appe> intrusive4 ,at a h\se fun]al ! family rema9s up/airs1 or 9 a side room1 & is n se54 ,! rema9s are 9 ! draw+-room1 :]e !y are usually view$ by ^? pres5t :5 pass+ out4 ,! cl]gyman /&s ne> ! head ( ! casket1 if 9 s do+ 8 voice c be well he>d4 ,if !re is s++1 x is usually done by a qu>tet or by a small] numb] ( p]sons1 :o are seat$ at ! head ( ! /airs out ( sight & unaccompani$ by any musical in/rum5t4 ,^? :o are n go+ to ! cemet]y quietly disp]se at ! close ( ! s]vice4 ,c>riages are 9 wait+ = ! family1 & ! cortege moves z soon aft] ! close ( ! s]vice z possible4 ,9 ! meantime ! nurse 7if "o /ill rema9s at ! h\se71 or "s fri5d1 ) ! assi/ance ( ! s]vants1 makes ev]y?+ look z natural & pleasant z possible be=e ! return ( ! family4 ,if visitors come 9 lat]1 ( c\rse x dep5ds ^u circum/ances :e!r or n !y %\ld be admitt$4 ,*ur* fun]als are m =mal4 ,! congregation assembles1 & :5 ! c>riages conta9+ ! family arrive1 ! organ plays s(tly1 & ! procession ent]s1 ! relatives walk+ close to ! casket1 & sitt+ z ne> x z possible4 ,aft] ! s]vices ! procession moves out 9 ! same ord]1 & ! p 9 ! pews wait until is has pass$ on4 ,! crpe t is hung at ! door-bell has (t5 comb9$ ) x ribbon /ream]s1 ^? = ! ag$ be+ black1 = a y\ng] p]son purple1 & = a *ild :ite ) :ite crpe also4 ,fl[]s %\ld be s5t to ! b]eav$1 9 due "t aft] ! dea?1 9 tok5 ( sympa?y4 ,,m\rn+4 ,! putt+ on ( m\rn+ is a "q t %\ld be decid$ entirely by ^? mo/ deeply conc]n$4 ,_m families nev] foll[ ! cu/om1 & ev5 we> :ite in/ead ( black on ! day ( ! fun]al1 :ile o!rs seem to consid] ! we>+ ( crpe z a m>k ( respect %[n to ! dead4 ,to assume ! exp5se su* a *ange 9 clo?+ w\ld entail1 may sometimes be plac+ a burd5 ^u ! liv+ = ! sake ( ! dead1 :i* c]ta9ly nei!r cu/om nor reason %\ld dem&4 ,!n1 to _m1 ! we>+ ( crpe is s depress+ t x is a s9 aga9/ "o's self to put x on4 ,none b n>r[-m9d$1 uncultivat$ p]sons w\ld ev] ?9k ( criticis+ "o = n do+ s4 ,( c\rse "o w\ld naturally feel l dress+ 9 z subdu$ colors z possible1 if n 9 assum+ half m\rn+ 7black & :ite1 lav5d>1 drab1 etc47 if n deep black or crpe4 ,:5 m\rn+ is worn by a wife = a husb&1 x is worn f "o to two ye>s1 at lea/4 ,! "q ( we>+ m\rn+ = "o's betro!d mu/ be decid$ by "o's self1 = x is purely a p]sonal "q t ! laws ( etiquette d n gov]n4 ,:5 crpe is laid aside1 black-bord]$ pap] & black-bord]$ c>ds are no long] prop]4 ,:ile we>+ all black on ! /reet1 aft] crpe is laid aside1 "o may we>1 ) propriety1 all :ite 9 ! h\se4 ,:ile 9 deep m\rn+ "o does n g into society4 ,all t m\rn+ etiquette dem&s is t "o ackn[l$ge h] calls ) h] visit+ c>ds1 :i* %\ld be s5t 9 return = a call )9 two weeks aft] x is made1 & %\ld g by h& r ?an by mail4 ,"o s5ds invitations to "o's fri5ds :o are 9 m\rn+1 to %[ t !y are n =gott54 ,,*apt] ,,viii4 ,,polit5ess ,,( ,,"y ,,*ildr54 ,give a boy address & accompli%m5ts1 & y give him ! ma/]y ( palaces & =tunes :]ev] he goes4--,ralph ,waldo ,em]son4 ,a "m once ask$ a cl]gyman :5 %e %\ld beg9 to educate h] *ild1 !n ?ree ye>s old4 8,madam10 0 8 reply1 8y h lo/ ?ree ye>s already40 ,z soon z ! *ild c talk1 its lessons 9 polit5ess %\ld beg94 ,among a *ild's fir/ words %\ld be 8please0 & 8?ank y40 ,a *ild %\ld nev] be all[$ to leave ! table1 aft] x is old en\gh to und]/& & to say x1 )\t ask+ to be excus$4 ,a *ild %\ld be taught to pass beh9d & n be=e "o4 ,little boys %\ld nev] be all[$ to keep _! hats on 9 ! h\se4 ,*ildr51 :5 v "y1 %\ld be taught to be g5]\s & polite to _! little visitors1 &1 if necess>y1 to give up all ( any?+ :]e half w n d4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be taught to 8take turns0 9 play+ games1 & t no "o %\ld monopolize ! pleasante/ "p ( a game4 ,*ildr5 soon feel a pride 9 be+ little ladies & g5tlem51 r ?an 9 be+ rude & impolite4 ,if mo!rs w\ld impress ^u _! *ildr5's m9ds h[ /upid !y appe> :5 !y /& />+ at "o )\t answ]+ :5 address$ ) 8good morn+0 or a l salutation1 !y w\ld be anxi\s to "k :at to say1 & to say x4 ,*ildr5 d n always "k :at to answ] :5 address$4 ,!y ought to be taught1 s t !y may feel no emb>rassm5t4 ,:5 *ildr5 inconv5i5ce o!rs1 !y ought to be taught to say 8excuse me0 or 8beg p>don40 ,9 ! c>s1 or 9 any public place1 a boy or a girl %\ld always rise1 & give 8 or h] place to an old] p]son4 ,a *ild %\ld always le>n t x is bo? naughty & rude to contradict1 & to say 8:at =0 & 8:y10 :5 told to d any?+4 ,a "m :o is z c>eful ( h] *ild's moral nature & mann]s z ( 8 physical nature1 w gu>d him f naughty & rude playmates z closely z %e w\ld f measles or :oop+-c\gh4 ,a "m %\ld nev] all[ any disrespect 9 h] *ildr5's mann]s t[>d h]self1 nor t[>d any "o old] ?an !y are4 ,!y %\ld be taught especially to rev]5ce ! ag$4 ,habits ( polit5ess & k9dness to ! poor are ( great wor?1 & easily =m$ 9 *ildhood4 ,virtue is born ( good habits1 & ! =mation ( habits may be said to con/itute almo/ ! :ole "w ( education4 ,habits h be5 comp>$ to h&cuffs1 easily put on & difficult to rid "o's self (4 ,^? p>5ts :o regulate _! lives 9 accordance ) ! comm&s ( ! ,bible1 f9d _m v]ses :i* are ( great assi/ance 9 tea*+ polit5ess to "y *ildr51 su* z1 8,be ye c\rte\s "o to ano!r10 8,be respectful to y\r eld]10 8,d to o!rs z ye w\ld t !y %\ld d to y10 etc4 ,a *ild %\ld be ?or\ghly tra9$ ) reg>d to table mann]s4 ,! well-br$ *ild w n *ew 8 food ) 8 m\? half op51 talk ) x 9 8 m\?1 nor make any unnecess>y noises 9 eat+2 & he w h&le 8 knife & =k prop]ly4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be taught t x is v rude to look into draw]s or boxes1 or1 9 fact1 to m$dle ) or h&le any?+ away f home t is n int5d$ = !m to play )4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be made to und]/& t !y mu/ n ask too _m que/ions promiscu\sly1 su* z1 8,:]e are y go+80 8,:at h y !re80 etc4 ,a *ild %\ld be taught nev] to tease a playmate's "m1 or to h its own "m teas$ by a playmate4 ,teas+ %\ld n be all[$4 ,*ildr5 %\ld nev] be all[$ to say 8,i won't0 & 8,i w10 ev5 to ea* o!r4 ,*ildr5 %\ld nev] be all[$ to speak ( an eld] p]son by ! la/ "n )\t ! prop] prefix4 ,!y %\ld also be taught1 9 address+ boys & girls1 say1 sixte5 ye>s ( age1 to use ! prefix1 z 8,miss0 or 8,mr410 be=e ! giv5 "n2 ?us 8,miss ,alice0 or 8,mr4 ,george40 ,9 fact1 all p %\ld obs]ve ?is rule 9 address+ ! "y1 except 9 case ! old] p]son is v famili> ) ! y\ng]1 or 9 case ! latt] is too "y to be s address$4 ,*ildr5 are n[ taught to say1 8,yes1 mamma10 8,:at1 mamma80 8,?ank y1 mamma10 8,yes1 ,mrs4 ,all510 8,:at1 ,mrs4 ,all580 etc41 9 pref]5ce to 8,yes1 ma'am10 8,no1 ma'am10 etc4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be taught t x is rude to yawn )\t try+ to suppress x1 or )\t conceal+ ! m\? ) ! h&2 to :i/le or hum 9 ! pres5ce ( old] p]sons2 or to make any monoton\s noise ) feet or h&s1 beat+ "t1 etc42 to play ) napk9 r+s1 or any article at table dur+ meal "t2 to pick ! tee? ) ! f+]s2 to trim or clean "o's nails outside "o's room2 to l\nge any:]e 9 ! pres5ce ( company2 to place ! elb[s on ! table1 or to lean ^u x :ile eat+2 to speak ( abs5t p]sons by _! fir/ names1 :5 !y w\ld n s address !m if !y 7 pres5t2 to acquire ! habit ( say+ 8y "k10 8says he10 8says %e20 to use slang words2 to tattle2 to hide ! m\? ) ! h& :5 speak+2 to po9t at anyone or any?+ ) ! f+]2 to />e at p]sons2 to laugh at "o's own /ories or rem>ks2 to toss articles in/ead ( h&+ !m2 to leave ! table ) food 9 ! m\?2 to take possession ( a seat t belongs to ano!r )\t in/antly ris+ ^u 8 return2 to leave anyone )\t say+ 8good-by20 to int]rupt any "o 9 conv]sation2 to pu%2 to ridicule o!rs2 to pass1 )\t speak+1 any "o :om !y "k2 etc4 ,"s "y p are n z p>ticul> z !y %\ld be ab\t c]ta9 articles ( ! toilet1 su* z combs1 bru%es1 etc4 ,"o %\ld always h su* ?+s = 8 own individual use4 ,x is exce$+ly impolite to use any toilet article belong+ to ano!r4 ,x is ill-mann]$ to ask que/ions ab\t affairs t d n conc]n "o1 or to pry into ! private affairs ( "o's fri5ds4 ,to inquire ! co/ ( articles indiscrim9ately1 is impud5t4 ,if p>5ts are n at home :5 visitors come 91 or are too busy to see !m at once1 a *ild1 9 ! abs5ce ( a maid1 %\ld politely %[ !m 91 (f] !m a com=table *air1 %[ !m any?+ he ?9ks !y w be int]e/$ 91 & make e ef=t to ent]ta9 !m agreeably until su* "t z 8 p>5ts c take 8 place4 ,he %\ld !n politely )draw f ! room4 ,*ildr5 & "y p %\ld e>ly le>n n to monopolize ! be/ light or ! mo/ desirable seat 9 ! room1 b to look ab\t :5 anyone ent]s1 :e!r a gue/ or an old] memb] ( _! own family1 & see if by giv+ up _! own place ! new-com] may be made m com=table4 ,a boy ought to %[ to 8 "m & si/]s e att5tion he w\ld %[ to any o!r woman4 ,%\ld !y *ance to meet on ! /reet he %\ld politely raise 8 hat4 ,he %\ld all[ !m to pass fir/ ?r\gh a door1 give !m ! inside ( ! walk1 help !m into a c>riage1 & ev]y:]e & "u all circum/ances treat !m ) polit5ess & def]5ce4 ,girls %\ld ( c\rse treat _! bro!rs 9 ! same polite mann]2 = !y c h>dly expect to receive att5tions :]e !y are unwill+ to be/[ !m4 ,*ildr51 especially little boys1 %\ld be taught n to prec$e _! mo!rs1 or any woman1 into !at]s1 /reet c>s1 *ur*es1 elevators1 or into ! h\se or ev5 a room4 ,,s*ool-,,room ,,etiquette4 8,good mann]s are ! %ad[s ( virtues1 if n virtues !mselves40 ,if tea*]s realiz$ ! ine/imable am\nt ( good !y might accompli% by giv+ a little "t & ?\ght to ! mann]s ( _! pupils1 surely !y w\ld will+ly give x4 ,^? ( _! pupils :o h no prop] tra9+ at home w\ld ?us ga9 a k :i*1 9 aft] life1 w\ld prove a bless+4 ,& su* a c\rse act$ ^u by ! tea*] w\ld be ( great assi/ance to ! p>5ts ( ^? :o are well tra9$ at home2 = a l>ge portion ( a *ild's "t is sp5t 9 s*ool1 & "u conditions t require su* tra9+4 ,tea*]s mu/ treat _! s*ol>s politely if !y expect polite treatm5t f !m4 ,e tea*] %\ld see t no pupil is all[$ to treat ^? ( a l[] /ation 9 life ) disrespect4 ,x is a common occurr5ce = a tea*] to speak ) seem+ disrespect ( a pupil's p>5ts1 blam+ !m = ! pupil's lack ( int]e/ 9 s*ool1 truancy1 etc4 ,su* a c\rse is highly repreh5sible 9 ! tea*]1 & ga9s ! pupil's ill-w4 ,x is bett] to assume t ! p>5ts w\ld be displeas$ ) any?+ wrong 9 ! pupil1 & to appeal to ! pupil = 8 "m's or fa!r's sake4 ,a tea*] %\ld nev] all[ h]self or himself to be address$ by pupils z 8,tea*]10 b z ,miss or ,mr4 ,smi?4 ,if pupils w\ld take pa9s to bid a tea*] 8good-morn+0 & 8good-night10 !y w\ld appe> well 9 s do+1 & easily give pleasure to ano!r4 ,! entire atmosph]e ( a s*ool-room is dep5d5t ^u trifles4 ,:]e a tea*]1 by h] own actions & 9 accordance ) h] requirem5ts1 insures k9dness & polit5ess f all to all1 %e may feel almo/ sure ( ! success ( h] s*ool4 ,"y misses ought to be address$ by ! tea*] z 8,miss ,julia10 8,miss ,annie40 ,"y boys 7too "y to be address$ z ,mr47 %\ld be address$ z 8,ma/] ,br[n10 8,ma/] ,jones10 etc4 ,tea*]s %\ld use great discretion 9 reprov+ any un9t5tional rud5ess1 especially on ! "p ( ^? ignorant f lack ( home tra9+4 ,if su* 7 reprov$ g5tly & privately1 x w\ld be m efficaci\s & j4 ,no "o %\ld be all[$ to appe> to disadvantage f ignorance4 ,selfi%ness1 untru?fulness1 slang1 r[dyism1 egotism1 or any %[ ( sup]iority %\ld be correct$ 9 ! s*ool-room4 ,"y tea*]s h>dly realize ) :at fe> & dread mo!rs intru/ to !m _! c>efully re>$ *ildr51 especially "y ones4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,x4 ,,(ficial ,,etiquette4 8,good fa%ion re/s on realty1 & hates no?+ s mu* z pret5d]s40--,em]son4 ,all pres5tations to =eign c\rts are made ?r\gh ! national repres5tatives1 & f !m is receiv$ all ! in=mation desir$ 9 ref]5ce to ! necess>y =ms & c]emonies4 ,k+s & que5s are address$ z 8,y\r ,maje/y40 ,! ,pr9ce ( ,wales1 ! cr[n pr9ces1 & all o!r pr9ces & pr9cesses are address$ z 8,y\r ,royal ,highness40 ,! ,presid5t's 8levees0 at ,wa%+ton are op5 to all1 & are conduct$ v mu* z an ord9>y 8reception40 ,z "o ent]s1 an (ficial ann\nces him1 & he proce$s directly to ! presid5t & 8 lady1 & pays 8 respects4 ,! door ( ! ,:ite ,h\se may be said nev] to be clos$1 & any "o :o desires may call ^u its occupants z ^u ^? ( any o!r dwell+4 ,he may n1 h[ev]1 obta9 a p]sonal int]view4 ,?is1 to be secur$1 he mu/ seek 9 ! company ( an (ficial or intimate fri5d ( ! presid5t1 :o w be able to judge ( ! claims = att5tion ( a visitor4 ,no p>ticul> /yle ( dress is requir$ to make "o's appe>ance at ! ,republican ,c\rt4 ,no refre%m5ts are expect$ to be (f]$ at a presid5tial reception4 ,cu/om does n require t ! wife ( ! presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates %\ld return (ficial calls4 ,exception is made 9 ! case ( visit+ ,royalty4 ,! wives ( ! =eign ambassadors %\ld make ! fir/ call ^u ! wife ( ! vice-presid5t1 z %\ld ! wives ( ! cab9et (ficials4 ,at a function giv5 by (ficials ( =eign gov]nm5ts at ,wa%+ton1 ! wife ( ! secret>y ( /ate takes prec$5ce ov] ! wives ( ! =eign ambassadors4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xi4 ,,bus9ess ,,correspond5ce1 ,,applications1 ,,etc4 ,s9ce cu/om is ! pr9cipal magi/rate ( human life1 let m5 by all means endeavor to obta9 good cu/oms4--,"l ,bacon4 ,,correspond5ce4 ,,bus9ess ,,correspond5ce4 ,closely writt5 po/al c>ds & long lett]s meet ) little favor among bus9ess m52 !re=e x is important to make bus9ess correspond5ce z pla9 & brief z possible4 ,names ( places & p]sons %\ld be writt5 v pla9ly4 ,:5 a lett] is writt5 9 reply to ano!r1 ! date ( ! lett] to :i* ! reply is made %\ld be giv51 & x is an excell5t plan1 & "o t saves mu* "t1 to give 9 a lett] ! sub/ance ( ! "o to :i* x is a reply4 ,?is is especially desirable :5 accept+ a special (f] made 9 su* lett]1 ?us3 ,mr4 ,a4 ,,flanagan1 ,*icago1 ,ill9ois4 ,de> ,sir3 ,y\r favor ( ,feb4 #ae1 9 :i* y (f] u a disc\nt ( #cc-a_/c p] c5t4 on y\r books1 :5 pur*as$ 9 lots ( #ajj or m1 came duly4 ,we h]e) enclose our *eck = ?ree hundr$ doll>s 7#cjj471 = :i* please %ip u1 by freight ! foll[+3 #ajj copies ( 8,words2 ,_! ,use & ,abuse40 #ajj 8 8,gett+ on 9 ! ,_w40 #ajj 8 8,h\rs ) ,m5 & ,books40 ,respectfully1 ,,geo4 ,w4 ,,jones ,,co4 ,b\ld]1 ,colo41 ,april #c1 #ahii4 ,griggsville1 ,ill4 ,,messrs4 ,,h>p] ,,bro!rs1 ,new ,york4 ,g5tlem53 ,enclos$ is a po/-(fice ord] = #c1 = :i* please s5d me ,h>p]'s ,new ,mon?ly ,magaz9e = "o ye>1 beg9n+ ) ! ,may numb]4 ,respectfully1 7,,miss7 ,,s>a ,,br[n4 ,:5 writ+ a bus9ess lett]1 a m>ri$ woman %\ld sign h] "n z %e w\ld sign x :5 writ+ any o!r lett]2 t is1 by plac+ h] fir/ "n & surname 9 ! usual position ( ! signature1 & add+1 a little to ! left-h&1 h] "n 9 full1 ) ! address1 ?us3 ,/4 ,paul1 ,m9n41 ,nov4 #i?1 #ahii4 ,,messrs4 ,,h>p] ,,bro!rs1 ,new ,york4 ,g5tlem53 ,please s5d me "o copy ( 8,h[ ,wom5 ,%\ld ,ride10 = :i* y w f9d enclos$ "o doll> & tw5ty-five c5ts 7#a4be74 ,respectfully1 ,,emma ,c4 ,,b[54 ,,mrs4 ,,*>les ,e4 ,,b[51 #cbd ,dupont ,av5ue4 ,:5 writ+ to a p]son or firm = in=mation solely = "o's own b5efit1 a po/al c>d or a /amp$ envelope %\ld be enclos$ = a reply4 ,x is a too common cu/om among p unacqua9t$ ) ! rules ( bus9ess1 :5 s5d+ an ord] to "o firm1 to enclose money to be paid ano!r1 or ) :i* to make small pur*ases 9 "s o!r l9e1 to be s5t 9 ! package ord]$ f ! firm ) :i* ! correspond5ce is held4 ,! prop] way to d :5 "o wi%es to ord] goods f diff]5t h\ses 9 ! same city1 & yet h all ! goods %ipp$ 9 ! same package1 is to write an ord] to ea* firm reque/+ ! goods to be deliv]$ to ! firm ) :i* "o does ! mo/ bus9ess1 hav+1 ( c\rse1 notifi$ su* firm ( 8 action4 ,x has become s common among p to reque/ ev]y?+ 8by return mail0 t bus9ess m5 look ^u su* reque/s z a m]e =m1 r ?an z an evid5ce ( urg5cy4 ,if su* urg5cy exi/s1 x is well to /ate ! cause ( x 9 a few words1 & reque/ imm$iate att5tion to ! ord]1 ?us3 ,h>v>d1 ,ill41 ,nov4 #b1 #ahii4 ,,messrs4 ,a4 ,c4 ,,mcclurg ,,co41 ,*icago4 ,g5tlem53 ,i enclose h]e) #b1 = :i* please s5d me a copy ( ,longfell['s poetical works4 ,y w oblige me by s5d+ ! book by return mail1 z ,i wi% to use x on ! ev5+ ( ! #d? in/4 ,respectfully1 ,,james ,,wells4 ,:oev] writes a cau/ic lett] makes a mi/ake2 = x w d no good1 ev5 if !re seems to be a cause = x1 & if ! assum$ cause proves to be simply a mi/ake ! writ] w be humiliat$4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,application4 ,x is sometimes difficult to write a lett] ( application1 because "o mu/ speak ( himself & ( 8 ability to fill ! position s\ght1 & to d s )\t seem+ egoti/ic4 ,if ! applicant has _h exp]i5ce 9 "w simil> to t = :i* he applies1 a simple /atem5t ( ! fact1 ! l5g? ( "t engag$ 9 su* "w1 ! reason = quitt+ 8 la/ position1 & ! "n & address ( 8 =m] employ]1 %\ld =m ! sub/ance ( 8 lett]4 ,if he has _h no exp]i5ce1 he %\ld /ate :at advantages he has _h to qualify himself = ! "w1 & n boa/ t he c\ld soon & easily le>n to d x4 ,! foll[+ w exemplify ! po9ts3 #abd ,la ,salle ,/41 ,*icago1 ,sept4 #bd1 #ahii4 ,,messrs4 ,a4 ,g4 ,,bak] ,,co41 ,kirkwood1 ,ohio4 ,g5tlem53 ,i am in=m$ by a fri5d1 ,mr4 ,c4 ,a4 ,brooks1 ( y\r village1 t y are 9 want ( a book-keep]1 & ,i desire to make application = ! position4 ,i am a "y man1 b h _h sev]al ye>s exp]i5ce 9 keep+ books4 ,i am n[ 9 *>ge ( ! books ( ,messrs4 ,jones ,williams1 ( ?is city1 to :om ,i c ref] y = in=mation z to my ability & "*4 ,i desire to g to ! c\ntry1 & %\ld be glad to "w = y1 if y c pay me #gj p] mon?1 :i* is my pres5t sal>y4 ,v respectfully1 ,t4 ,r4 ,,mill]4 ,salem1 ,wis41 ,may #ae1 #ahii4 ,,messrs4 ,,cl>k ,,williams1 #ajg ,/ate ,/reet1 ,*icago4 ,g5tlem53 ,i am in=m$ t y\r %ipp+ cl]k is soon to leave1 & t ! position n[ held by him w be vacant4 ,i desire to apply = ! same1 b ,i am sorry to /ate t ,i h n _h any exp]i5ce 9 ?is p>ticul> l9e ( "w2 h[ev]1 ,i h be5 a g5]al cl]k 9 a village /ore1 & am famili> ) simple book-keep+1 :i* w\ld probably enable me to le>n ! "w ( a %ipp+ cl]k 9 a reasonable l5g? ( "t4 ,9 case y %\ld wi% to engage me on trial1 ,i w\ld gladly assi/1 )\t comp5sation1 y\r pres5t cl]k until ! end ( 8 engagem5t1 :i*1 ,i und]/&1 is ab\t ?ree weeks f date4 ,my pres5t employ] is ,mr4 ,g4 ,w4 ,web/]1 ( ?is place1 & he w d\btless answ] any inquiries conc]n+ my "w t y may address him4 ,respectfully1 ,,geo4 ,e4 ,,johnson4 ,su* lett]s %\ld always conta9 a /amp = a reply4 ,! /amp is atta*$ by its corn] or by a p9 to ! head ( ! lett]4 ,great precaution %\ld always be tak5 n to s5d a lett] ) insuffici5t po/age on x2 = ! additional po/age is collect$ f ! p]son to :om ! lett] is s5t1 & _m bus9ess m5 look ^u su* neglect z inexcusable1 if !y d n consid] x di%one/1 inasmu* z x compels o!rs to pay :at ! writ] %\ld h kn[n x 0 8 duty to pay4 ,an application = a position z tea*] 9 a public s*ool is (t5 v difficult to write1 because x is necess>y to say mu*1 & to say x1 9 "s cases1 to m5 :o are n ?or\ghly famili> ) bus9ess pr9ciples4 ,be=e giv+ any =ms1 "s sugge/ions :i* exp]i5ce has taught may be ( great importance4 ,! h&writ+ %\ld be natural4 ,if "o has a degree1 he %\ld n sign 8 "n ) x1 b /ate 9 8 lett] t he is a graduate1 nam+ ! in/itution f :i* he 0 graduat$4 ,all boa/+ %\ld be avoid$4 ,"o %\ld n ask a reply by return mail1 b he might enclose a po/al c>d or a /amp ) a reque/ to be in=m$ :5 ! bo>d meets to consid] applications4 ,"o ought n to "n z ref]5ces p]sons :o "k no?+ ab\t 8 "w2 = al?\gh !y may1 if consult$1 endeavor to praise him1 !y w %[ _! ignorance ( :at he has done1 & ! bo>d w naturally assume t he has no bett] ref]5ces4 ,z a rule x is n advisable to give te/imonials f m9i/]s or f c\nty sup]9t5d5ts1 unless ! writ]s c say t !y are famili> ) ! tea*]'s "w1 & h visit$ 8 s*ool4 ,v old te/imonials %\ld n be plac$ be=e a bo>d4 ,inde$1 x is d\btful :e!r any te/imonial1 unless x comes f a compet5t judge1 is ( value4 ,if bo>ds w\ld consult "o's ref]5ces1 or seek in=mation f outside s\rces1 x w\ld be only j to all conc]n$2 b z !y w n (t5 d ?is1 x is wise to s5d copies ( two or ?ree1 g5]ally n m1 good te/imonials1 & to h "o or two ( ! applicant's fri5ds write ! bo>d 9 8 behalf4 ,a lett] ( application1 especially if = ! position ( sup]9t5d5t or t ( pr9cipal1 %\ld be full & explicit1 specify+ ! opportunities ! writ] has _h to prep>e himself = ! position1 r ?an /at+ t he has done s-&-s1 = 9 ! latt] case x might seem l boa/+4 ,sometimes a %ort lett]1 unless circum/ances dem& a long "o1 w be mo/ favorably receiv$ by a bo>d4 ,! writ] once knew a v important position to be obta9$ by a correspond5ce ab\t z foll[s 7names ( places1 dates1 etc41 are omitt$73 ,,to ,,! ,,honorable ,,bo>d ,,( ,,education4 ,g5tlem53 ,i le>n ?r\gh a fri5d 9 y\r c\nty1 t ! position ( sup]9t5d5t ( y\r s*ool is vacant4 ,if ! position has n be5 fill$1 ,i desire to make application = ! same4 ,i am a graduate ( --------1 & h taught ?ree ye>s4 ,i am n[ pr9cipal ( ! -------- s*ools1 b desire to tea* 9 y\r ,/ate1 z my home is !re4 ,respectfully1 ------------------ ,a /amp 0 enclos$ = a reply4 ,! secret>y ( ! bo>d at once wrote ask+ = ref]5ces & /at+ ! sal>y paid4 ,! applicant repli$ t he did n wi% ! position at ! sal>y nam$1 & ?ank$ ! secret>y = ! tr\ble he _h be5 giv54 ,_h ! applicant writt5 a long lett]1 sett+ =? ! value ( 8 s]vices1 & urg+ ! bo>d to raise ! sal>y1 x is n probable t a reply w\ld h be5 receiv$ by him4 ,! simple /atem5t t he did n want ! position at ! sal>y nam$1 0 evid5ce to ! bo>d t he consid]$ 8 s]vices wor? m1 &1 moreov]1 t he _h confid5ce t he w\ld comm& m4 ,! secret>y repli$ to ! la/ %ort note1 ask+ = ref]5ces & at :at sal>y he w\ld accept ! position4 ,! in=mation 0 giv51 & 9 a few days ! applicant 0 reque/$ to meet ! bo>d ) ! assurance t ! position w\ld be giv5 him if ! int]view prov$ satisfactory1 :i* x did4 ,aft]w>ds ! applicant 0 in=m$ by ! presid5t ( ! bo>d t 8 %ort bus9ess-l lett]s1 writt5 9 an almo/ illegible b natural h&1 obta9$ = him ! place ov] ne>ly "o hundr$ applicants1 _m ( :om 7 college graduates ( long exp]i5ce 9 tea*+1 & :o _h basketfuls ( te/imonials1 b n "o ( :om _h writt5 ev5 a fairly good lett] ( application4 ,_m cities & t[ns h /at$ public exam9ations1 :i* applicants mu/ att5d be=e !y c be employ$4 ,! impression ( "* & ( qualification produc$ by a p]sonal int]view is deem$ s important t ev5 m9or appo9tm5ts are sc>cely giv5 to any "o n p]sonally kn[n to "o ( ! s*ool bo>d1 or to "s "o 9 ^: pr(essional judgm5t !y h great confid5ce4 ,prelim9>y inquiries ab\t positions are mo/ pr(itably made ?r\gh acqua9tances1 :o c advise "o :e!r to take any fur!r /eps4 ,"o might write z foll[s3 ,*icago1 ,ill41 ,nov4 #c1 #ahii4 ,my ,de> ,fri5d3 ,may ,i tr\ble y to asc]ta9 :e!r !re is any vacancy 9 ! s*ools at ,elg91 to :i* ,i w\ld h any prospect ( an appo9tm5t8 ,y w conf] a great favor ^u me if y w ask ! sup]9t5d5t1 & let me "k soon :at he says4 ,y c say to him t aft] ,i f9i%$ ! high s*ool c\rse at ,rac9e1 ,i taught a t]m 9 a di/rict s*ool 9 ,rac9e ,c\nty1 ,wis41 & 0 "o ye> 9 *>ge ( a prim>y dep>tm5t at ,wood/ock1 & t ,i _h *>ge ( ! gramm> dep>tm5t at ! latt] place la/ ye>4 ,y "k some?+ ( ! "w ,i h done1 & ,i c furni% te/imonials f ! s*ool (fic]s :]e ,i h taught4 ,y\rs v truly1 ,,emma ,c4 ,,b[54 ,if a favorable answ] is receiv$1 some?+ l ! foll[+ =m may be us$1 :i* is also a =m suitable to make application :]e "o is already acqua9t$1 & :]e =mal applications are expect$4 ,*icago1 ,ill41 ,jan4 #aj1 #ahii4 ,,mr4 ,c4 ,e4 ,,ryan1 ,supt4 ( ,public ,s*ools1 ,elg91 ,ill4 ,de> ,sir3 ,i desire to obta9 a position 9 ! s*ools ( y\r city4 ,i enclose a lett] f ,mr4 ,h5ry ,jones1 a director ( ,wood/ock1 :]e ,i la/ taught2 & ,i ref] y to ,mrs4 ,m>y ,smi?1 ( ,elg94 ,i pref] ! int]m$iate "w1 b w\ld n object to any position t ,i may be able to fill4 ,i complet$ ! c\rse 9 ! ,rac9e ,high ,s*ool1 & h taught a little m ?an two ye>s1 fir/ 9 a c\ntry s*ool1 !n 9 a prim>y s*ool a ye> at ,wood/ock1 :]e ,i aft]w>d _h *>ge ( ! gramm> room = a ye>4 ,please in=m me :5 & by :om c&idates are exam9$1 z well z :at vacancies !re are1 & be k9d en\gh to make any sugge/ions t y ?9k w be helpful to me4 ,v respectfully1 7,miss7 ,,emma ,c4 ,,b[54 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xi4 ,,g5]al ,,h9ts4 ,we rema9 %ackl$ by timidity till we h le>n$ to speak & act ) propriety4--,samuel ,johnson4 ,a man raises 8 hat :5 walk+ ) ano!r1 n only to 8 own acqua9tances1 b to ^? p]sons :o b[ to 8 companion1 :e!r he is acqua9t$ ) !m or n4 ,if a man meets a woman 9 a hotel corridor or hall he %\ld /ep aside1 all[+ h] to pass1 & rais+ 8 hat4 ,if 9 a public place a man h&s a woman any?+ %e has dropp$1 he %\ld raise 8 hat :5 (f]+ x to h]4 ,a well-br$ man raises 8 hat aft] pass+ ! f>e ( a woman 9 a c> or coa*4 ,?is does n mean t he has any desire to become acqua9t$ ) h]1 b x is 8 tribute to h] sex4 ,slight inaccuracies 9 /atem5ts %\ld n be correct$ 9 ! pres5ce ( o!rs4 ,"o %\ld give h] *ildr51 unless m>ri$1 _! ,*ri/ian names only1 or say 8my daught]0 or 8my son10 9 speak+ ( !m to anyone except+ s]vants4 ,m5 remove _! hats :5 9 elevators 9 ! pres5ce ( wom54 ,m5 hav+ occasion to pass be=e wom5 seat$ 9 lecture & conc]t rooms1 & all o!r places1 %\ld 8beg p>don10 & pass ) _! faces1 & n _! backs1 t[>d !m4 ,9 go+ up or d[n /airs1 a man prec$es a woman or walks by h] side4 ,to indulge 9 ridicule ( ano!r1 :e!r ! subject be pres5t or abs5t1 is to desc5d bel[ ! level ( g5tlemanly propriety4 ,a rev]5ce = religi\s obs]vances & religi\s op9ions is a di/+ui%+ trait ( a ref9$ m9d4 ,religi\s topics %\ld be avoid$ 9 conv]sation1 except :]e all are prep>$ to concur 9 a respectful treatm5t ( ! subject4 ,9 mix$ societies ! subject %\ld nev] be introduc$4 ,frequ5t consultation ( ! wat* or "t-piece is impolite1 ei!r :5 at home or abroad4 ,if at home1 x appe>s z if "o 7 tir$ ( ! company & wi%$ !m to be gone2 if abroad1 z if ! h\rs dragg$ heavily1 & "o 7 calculat+ h[ soon he w\ld be releas$4 ,x is v unbecom+ to exhibit petulance or angry feel+1 ?\gh x is indulg$ 9 l>gely 9 almo/ e circle4 ,! true g5tleman does n suff] 8 c\nt5ance to be easily ruffl$4 ,! "r ( privacy is sacr$1 & %\ld always be respect$4 ,x is exce$+ly improp] to ent] a private room )\t knock+4 ,no relation1 h[ev] intimate1 w ju/ify an abrupt intrusion ^u a private ap>tm5t4 ,likewise ! trunk1 boxes1 packets1 pap]s1 or lett]s ( any individual1 lock$ or unlock$1 seal$ or unseal$1 are sacr$4 ,x is ill-mann]$ ev5 to op5 a book-case1 or to read a writt5 pap] ly+ op51 )\t p]mission1 express$ or impli$4 ,memb]s ( ! same family %\ld nev] diff] ) ea* o!r 9 public4 ,"o %\ld nev] appe> to be ?9k+ ( 8 own p]sonal rights to ! res5t+ ( a little slight1 :e!r real or imag9>y4 ,9 small communities :]e ne> neighbors1 = conv5i5ce's sake1 borr[ back & =?1 great c>e %\ld be tak5 t ! practice does n become a nuisance1 z x surely does :5 x is indulg$ 9 too frequ5tly1 & :5 borr[$ articles are n spe$ily return$ & 9 good condition4 ,!re %\ld be no /9t$ measures 9 return+4 ,o/5tation is snobbi%1 z is all too great pr(usion4 ,to affect n to rememb] a p]son is despicable1 & reflects only on ! pret5d]4 ,"s conceit$ or ill-br$ p imag9e !y make !mselves important & p[]ful by be+ rude & insult+4 ,"o is judg$1 to a great ext5t1 by ! "* ( 8 associates4 ,"o %\ld be v c>eful h[ he asks = ! loan ( a book4 ,if int]e/ is %[n 9 "o1 its own] w (f] x = p]usal if will+ to l5d x4 ,:5 read+ a borr[$ book1 "o %\ld take ! be/ ( c>e ( x1 & return x z soon z possible4 ,no real lady or g5tlem5 w leave f+] pr9ts ^u its pages1 or turn d[n its leaves 9 place ( a book-m>k1 or scribble 9 x ) a p5cil1 or loan x to a ?ird p]son )\t ! k & cons5t ( ! own]4 ,a lack ( rev]5ce 9 "o 9 ! h\se ( ,god1 implies l[ p>5tage1 or a co>se nature t is n subject to ref9em5t4 ,to :isp] & laugh dur+ any public ent]ta9m5t proclaims "o's ill-bre$+1 & invades ! rights ( o!rs4 ,"o ought nev] to leave ! h\se aft] ! ev5+'s ent]ta9m5t )\t bidd+ ! ho/ess good-night1 & ackn[l$g+ ! pleasure ! ev5+ has af=d$ him4 ,! bus9ess man has no /ock-9-trade t pays him bett] ?an a good address4 ,x is only ^? p]sons & families ^: position is n a secure "o1 t are afraid to be se5 outside _! own social circle4 ,"o %\ld nev] reprove s]vants or *ildr5 be=e /rang]s4 ,a true lady w n betray h] a/oni%m5t at any violation ( conv5tional rules1 lea/ ( all w %e make x h] prov9ce to puni% ^? :o may make any su* violation4 ,if "o1 on meet+ ano!r1 fails to recall ! "n1 he %\ld frankly say s4 ,"o %\ld nev] recall himself to ! recollection ( a casual acqua9tance )\t at ! same "t m5tion+ 8 "n4 ,9 a flat-h\se a man %\ld take 8 hat & coat into ! ap>tm5t :]e he is go+ to call1 & n leave !m 9 ! hall on ! fir/ floor4 ,x is v bad ta/e1 ev5 9 q a l>ge p>ty1 = "y girls to visit a man at 8 (fice4 ,x is p]fectly good =m = a "m to invite to a little *ild's p>ty *ildr5 ^: p>5ts %e does n "k1 or :o h n yet call$ ^u h]4 ,! invitations g out 9 ! *ild's "n & to ! *ild's fri5ds4 ,x is extremely rude & ill-br$1 :5 at a bo>d+-h\se or hotel table1 to criticise ! food t is s]v$4 ,! fact t x is paid = makes x none ! less an evid5ce ( bad mann]s4 ,p :o are n satisfi$ :]e !y are bo>d+ %\ld always leave2 !y h no "r to make o!rs uncom=table by _! lack ( good-bre$+4 ,wom5 ( good-bre$+ d n p]mit !mselves to 8ov]look0 ^? to :om c\rtesies are due4 ,a man %\ld le>n to put 8 coat on 9 a public place ( ent]ta9m5t s t he w n require assi/ance f ! woman :o is ) him4 ,! "y woman to :om a seat is (f]$ %\ld take x1 unless h] companion is an old] woman1 :5 x w\ld be q prop] to ext5d ! c\rtesy to h]4 ,x is v bad ta/e1 ev5 = a frolic1 = a "y girl to assume boy's clo!s1 or get h]self up 9 any way t w t5d to make h]self look mascul9e4 ,!re is no impropriety 9 giv+ to ^? m5 fri5ds ) :om "o is well acqua9t$1 "s trifl+ s\v5ir at ,*ri/mas or ,ea/]1 or on bir?days4 ,x is cu/om>y = a "y man to s5d a "y woman only su* gifts z fl[]s1 c&y1 & books2 & z ^! pres5ts are s5t m]ely z a slight return = h] hospitality & invitations to h] h\se1 etc41 x is n necess>y = h] to s5d him any gift 9 return4 ,if1 h[ev]1 a "y woman & man are on intimate en\gh t]ms to ex*ange pres5ts1 %e may s5d him any small article = ! desk or toilet2 su* z a silv]-h&l$ :isk broom1 c\rt-pla/] case1 p5-wip]1 pap]-cutt]1 or books1 :i* are a good pres5t & always acceptable to any "o4 ,no?+ looks m ill-br$ ?an to see a "y man1 "u 8 p>5ts' ro(1 devot+ himself dur+ a :ole ev5+ entirely to "o "y woman to ! ignor+ ( ! o!rs4 ,a man :o is escort+ two wom5 9 ! /reet %\ld n walk betwe5 !m1 b on ! outside ( bo? ne> ! curb2 at ! !at] or at any place ( amusem5t or at *ur*1 he %\ld sit ne>e/ to ! aisle1 at ! side ( "o ( !m4 ,unless !re is "s good reason :y %e ne$s 8 support1 a man seldom (f]s 8 arm to a woman he escorts1 ev5 9 ! ev5+4 ,a husb& may (f] 8 arm to 8 wife1 ( c\rse1 & a man may pr(f] ?is help to an invalid or ag$ p]son4 ,a little delicate p]fume may be us$ ) propriety1 b a heavy p]fume1 & "o t sc5ts ! entire room 9 :i* ! p]son :o uses x happ5s to be1 is 9 v bad =m4 ,9 op5+ a door f ! hall to ! draw+-room1 a man %\ld hold x :ile a woman prec$es him 9 ent]+4 ,:5 "o's p>don is ask$ = "s slight inatt5tion1 an incl9ation ( ! head & a smile is ! be/ answ]4 ,! words 8g5tleman fri5d0 & 8lady fri5d0 h be5 s vulg>iz$ t mo/ well-br$ wom5 n[ say 8man fri5d0 or 8woman fri5d10 x be+ tak5 = grant$ t !y numb] among _! fri5ds only ladies & g5tlem54 ,cu/om nev] condones lib]ties1 no matt] h[ slight1 betwe5 "y m5 & wom54 ,:5 a woman is visit+1 any acqua9tance :o %\ld call ^u h] %\ld also ask = h] ho/ess1 & if %e is abs5t leave a c>d = h]4 ,x is consid]$ v bad ta/e = a "y girl to address a man ) :om h] acqua9tance is b slight by 8 ,*ri/ian "n4 ,no "y man has any "r to sp5d ! entire aft]noon & ev5+ e ,sunday at "o p>ticul> h\se1 to ! annoyance ( an entire family1 :o d n l to make him consci\s ( ! fact t !y consid] him a bore4 ,:5 a "y man is pay+ a visit1 & ! old] memb]s ( ! family are 9 ! room1 he %\ld1 9 leav+1 bid !m good-night fir/1 & aft]w>d say 8 f>ewell to ! "y girl on :om he has call$4 ,x is 9 bad ta/e = h] to g any fur!r ?an ! p>lor door ) him4 ,ev5 if a correspond5ce is ( a 8purely fri5dly "*10 x %\ld n exi/ betwe5 a m>ri$ woman & a "y man1 or betwe5 a m>ri$ man & a "y woman4 ,x is n good ta/e to ask "o's m5 fri5ds to buy tickets = *>ity affairs4 ,!y d n l to refuse1 & v (t51 ?\gh ! sum requir$ may be small1 !y _c af=d x4 ,!re is v great h>m 9 "y girls meet+ "y m5 9 secret2 ! m5 w h no respect = ! girls1 & no?+ b mortification = ! girls w be ! result4 ,x is q prop] to ?ank any public s]vant1 su* z a railroad conductor1 = any in=mation he may give1 b x is n necess>y to be effusive ab\t x4 ,x is n 9 good ta/e1 nor ev5 prop]1 = "y wom5 to g alone to a hotel to d9e ) a man4 ,:5 a girl is "y & pretty1 a ,platonic fri5d%ip is v difficult to keep up4 ,:5 a man fri5d has driv5 a woman 9 t[n to g to *ur* he %\ld take h] direct to ! *ur* & leave h] !re :ile he drives :]e 8 c>riage & horses are to wait until aft] ! s]vice4 ,( c\rse he w\ld walk to *ur* & jo9 h] !re4 ,x is n 9 good ta/e = diff]5t memb]s ( a p>ty to g (f 9 pairs1 & sp5d ! ev5+ alone on ! sea%ore4 ,x is n wise = a "y woman & "y man liv+ 9 ! same city to correspond4 ,if meet+ ea* o!r (t5 !y ought to be able to say all t is necess>y4 ,"o has no "r :atev] to read a po/al c>d address$ to ano!r )\t p]mission4 ,! v m9ute ! m>ri$ man beg9s to tell ( 8 wife's faults1 ! "t has come to cut 8 acqua9tance4 ,x is m ?an wrong = a "y girl to receive visits f a m>ri$ man4 ,9 ent]+ any public place a woman %\ld prec$e a man1 b go+ d[n ! aisle1 ! u%]1 ( c\rse1 w\ld prec$e h]4 ,a ho/ess /&s to receive h] visitors1 b %e does n advance to meet !m unless ! visitor %\ld be "s "o q old or ( su* importance t ! visit is ( great honor4 ,! ho/ess ext5ds h] h& to ! m5 :o call1 z well z to ! wom54 ,a woman is n suppos$ to recognize a man :o is "o ( a gr\p /&+ 9 a public place1 s9ce a mode/ girl w n look close en\gh at a gr\p ( m5 to recognize an acqua9tance4 ,no matt] h[ well a woman may "k a man1 x w\ld be 9 v bad =m to s5d him an invitation :i* does n include 8 wife1 unless x %\ld be at "s affair at :i* only m5 are to be pres5t4 ,a man %\ld %[ z mu* c\rtesy to a woman 9 8 employ z he does to ! wom5 he meets 9 social life4 ,x is n 9 good ta/e to visit at ! home ( "o's betro!d1 unless a p]sonal invitation is receiv$ f 8 "m4 ,two wom5 may att5d1 ) p]fect propriety1 a place ( amusem5t )\t an escort4 ,!y %\ld be1 h[ev]1 "u su* circum/ances1 exceptionally quiet 9 _! mann]s & _! dress4 ,9 escort+ a "y woman home1 a man %\ld g up ! /eps ) h]1 wait until ! door is op5$1 &1 z %e ent]s ! h\se1 raise 8 hat & say good-night4 ,if a "y girl 7 v ill1 !re w\ld be no impropriety 9 h] "m br++ h] betro!d to see h]1 al?\gh1 ( c\rse1 %e w\ld rema9 9 ! room dur+ 8 visit4 ,x is always prop] & c\rte\s = a p]son 9 *ur* to %>e ei!r pray]-book or hymnal ) anyone :o may be )\t ei!r4 ,!re is no impropriety 9 a woman's p]mitt+ a man fri5d to assi/ h] 9 putt+ on h] ov]-%oes4 ,if "o approves ( ! act+ or ! s5tim5t ( ! play1 !re is no impropriety 9 express+ g5tle applause1 b a l\d clapp+ ( ! h&s is decid$ly vulg>4 ,"o %\ld nev] prev5t p f leav+ 8 h\se :5 !y desire4 ,t is n hospitality4 ,x is tyranny2 x is tak+ a mean advantage ( _! unwill+ness to (f5d4 ,if a wom5 lives 9 a bo>d+ h\se & has only "o room1 x w\ld be v bad ta/e to receive any man visitor !re4 ,ev5 if x is n q s agreeable1 !y %\ld be receiv$ 9 ! public p>lor4 ,:5 a man & woman approa* a ho/ess toge!r1 ! ho/ess %\ld %ake h&s ) ! woman fir/4 ,:5 a man calls on a woman1 he %akes h&s ) h] on 8 arrival2 b1 unless he is v intimate 9 ! h\se1 a simple b[ is suffici5t :5 he leaves4 ,an unm>ri$ woman writ+ h] "n 9 a hotel regi/] %\ld prefix x ) 8,miss0 9 p>5!ses4 ,:5 a man fri5d has tak5 a lady to a conc]t1 %e %\ld ?ank him = 8 k9dness 9 hav+ giv5 h] a pleasant ev5+4 ,x is n advisable = a girl to delib]ately 8cut0 any man4 ,if %e wi%es to discont9ue h] acqua9tance ) a man :om %e _c respect1 x may be done gradually1 at fir/ by ! coole/ ( greet+s2 !n1 by a look 9 ! o!r direction2 & 9 "t all recognition w cease4 ,if a /rang] takes occasion to be polite to "o dur+ a /reet-c> accid5t1 all t is necess>y is a polite 8?ank y40 ,:5 a man :o is to escort a girl to an ent]ta9m5t calls = h] at h] own home1 x is prop] = h] to appe> ) h] wraps on1 & be ready to />t at once4 ,if a man is c\rte\s en\gh to op5 ! door ( a /ore or any public build+ = a woman1 %e %\ld ?ank him4 ,if a girl ( sixte5 goes to an ev5+ affair1 h] "m %\ld arrange to h ei!r a s]vant or a memb] ( ! 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