,illustration3 ,,telling ,,the ,,story ,,of ,,life2 ,,the ,,present ,,day ,,idea ,,of ,,sex ,,instruction4 8,o1 ,,thou ,,child ,,of ,,many ,,prayers10 ,,self ,,knowledge ,,and ,,guide ,,to ,,sex ,,instruction ,,vital ,,facts ,,of ,,life ,,for ,,all ,,ages ,a ,complete and ,comprehensive ,guide to ,parents for the ,proper ,instruction of ,their ,children1 ,concerning the ,delicate ,questions of ,life2 ,timely ,help for the ,boy and ,girl1 at the ,ages of ,greatest ,danger1 with ,warnings of the ,pitfalls which ,lie ,hidden in ,their ,pathway1 ,,together ,,with ,vital ,information for the ,marriageable2 ,safe1 ,sane1 ,scientific ,counsel for the ,married of all ,ages1 including ,knowledge ,vital to those in ,middle ,life and ,declining ,years1 with a ,word of ,warning ,against the ,prevailing ,ignorance of ,god's ,sacred ,laws of ,sex and ,heredity ,,by ,,professor ,t4 ,w4 ,,shannon1 ,a4,m4 ,international ,lecturer on ,moral1 ,social and ,reform ,topics2 ,member of ,advisory ,board ,world's ,purity ,federation2 also ,author of ,eight other ,purity ,books ,with ,special ,chapters by ,hon4 ,stanley ,finch1 ,special ,commissioner for ,the ,suppression of the ,white ,slave ,traffic1 ,u4 ,s4 ,department of ,justice2 ,b4 ,s4 ,steadwell1 ,president ,world's ,purity ,federation and ,charles ,w4 ,eliot1 ,former ,president ,harvard ,university ,,introduced ,,by ,b4 ,s4 ,,steadwell ,publisher 8,the ,light10 ,official ,organ of ,the ,world's ,purity ,federation ,,published ,,exclusively ,,by ,,the ,s4 ,a4 ,,mullikin ,,company ,,marietta ,,ohio ,,copyrighted1 #aiac1 ,,by ,,the ,s4 ,a4 ,,mullikin ,,co4 ,agents wanted in all ,english-speaking countries4 ,address publishers at foot of title page4 ,dedicated ,,to ,,the ,,grandfathers ,,and ,,grandmothers1 ,,to ,,the ,,fathers ,,and ,,mothers1 ,,to ,,the ,,husbands ,,and ,,wives1 ,,to ,,the ,,bachelors ,,and ,,maids1 ,,to ,,the ,,young ,,men ,,and ,,young ,,women1 ,,to ,,the ,,boys ,,and ,,girls1 ,,to ,,the ,,babes ,,that ,,be ,,and ,,are ,,to ,,be1 ,,this ,,book ,,is ,,affectionately ,,dedicated ,,by ,,the ,,author4 ,illustration3 ,,yours ,,for ,,the ,,uplift ,,of ,,humanity ,t4,w4 ,shannon ,,preface ,truth like gold is unaffected in quality by its environment1 but the environment of truth does affect the character of the person receiving it4 ,half truths clothed in obscene language and imparted by the ignorant or vicious have made mental1 moral and physical wrecks of millions4 ,the same truth received from a pure mother1 noble father1 a good book or a wise teacher1 safeguards the youth and accomplishes untold good4 ,the purpose of this book is not only to enable parents1 teachers and all matured people1 to inform themselves more fully concerning the vital facts of life1 but it furnishes a specific guide to all parents1 who would know how to tell their children the sacred story of life1 and counsel intelligently with their sons and daughters at the ages of greatest danger and give them clean1 concise and scientific sex instruction with a view to safeguarding them against the demoralizing half truths of vicious or ignorant schoolmates1 servants or companions2 and to all others of sufficient age1 who have an opportunity for service to innocent and helpless children1 who would have a wise word at the right time2 and to the young man and young woman1 married or single1 who would avoid the pit-falls lying in the pathway of those ignorant of ,god's sacred laws of nature2 and to all mankind who seek to make the world better by more intelligent and better living4 ,the author of this book is sacrificing home life1 financial interests1 and much that is dear to all human hearts1 to humanity's cause4 ,he lectures by day and works and travels by night and is unable to meet half of the calls for service4 ,during engagements of two or three days he labors at night without money and without price in private interviews with young men after his lectures until midnight1 one1 two1 three and four o'clock in the morning1 hoping thereby to lend a helping hand to thousands to the end of nobler1 purer and better living4 ,in this work he has met with marvelous success4 ,he now hopes to send his vital messages to the four corners of the earth in book form in order that the influence of his work may be felt in wider circles than he may ever hope to reach in personal endeavors4 ,the spirit in which this book has been written is best expressed in the words of ,henry ,van ,dyke3 8,there is a loftier ambition than merely to stand high in the world4 ,it is to stoop down and lift mankind a little higher4 ,there is a nobler character than that which is merely incorruptible4 ,it is the character which acts as an antidote and preventive of corruption4 ,fearlessly to speak the words which bear witness to righteousness and truth and purity2 patiently to do the deeds which strengthen virtue and kindle hope in your fellow men2 generously to lend a hand to those who are trying to climb upward2 faithfully to give your support and your personal help to the efforts which are making to elevate and purify the social life of the world40 ,prof4 ,shannon observes that the spirit of society and the attitude of our government has been to protect our forests1 inspect our swine and neglect our children1 but that a wiser and more hopeful day is dawning4 ,more interest in the study and application of the laws of ,heredity has been taken in the past ten years than in the previous ninety4 ,newspapers and magazines contain articles by leaders of eugenic thought2 purity organizations are springing up throughout the country and sounding the word of warning against the prevailing ignorance of these subjects2 books are being written2 sermons and lectures delivered and the masses are becoming interested4 ,in this ,prof4 ,shannon is doing his part4 ,the sale of his books to date have reached in excess of a quarter of a million copies with no organized effort behind them4 ,each copy sold seems to sell two others1 and with the business growing by leaps and bounds and getting beyond his control1 the present publishers with a sales system unexcelled1 were selected as a medium for placing his messages literally into the homes of millions4 ,prof4 ,shannon is a member of the ,advisory ,board of the ,world's ,purity ,federation and lectures under the auspices of this movement4 ,eight years as teacher of ,biology1 after his graduation from college1 his experience in writing eight other purity books and years of research and lecturing on these subjects have eminently qualified him for the high position he holds to-day with the ,world's ,purity ,federation1 and as author of a number of books on moral1 social and reform topics which are to-day meeting with such an enormous sale4 ,he sends forth this volume on its mission of usefulness to the human race with the implicit faith that it will be the means of safeguarding the youth wherever it goes and make thousands of homes happier and brighter and the world a better place to live4 ,,the ,,publishers4 ,,introduction ,the saddest thing in all this world is a human wreck1--a man or a woman1 young or old1 who is undone and who1 in one or more walks of life1 is a failure4 ,there are so many of them6 ,mental wrecks1 physical wrecks1 nervous wrecks1 social wrecks1 business wrecks1 character wrecks4 ,the aspect of these derelicts is the more pitiable because of the possibilities before every well-born human being1 who1 with the endowment of intelligence and other gifts and powers bestowed upon him by a kind ,creator1 is capable of rising to heights of human perfection4 ,ample provision made for man's every need and want by ,god1 and yet we find misery where there ought to be happiness1 poverty where there ought to be riches1 darkness where there ought to be light1 ignorance where there ought to be knowledge1 vice where there ought to be virtue1 and turmoil and strife where there ought to be peace4 ,only too accurately do the poet's words apply3 8,of all the sad words of tongue or pen1 ,the saddest are these3 #8,it might have been4'0 ,this problem of human wreckage becomes more depressing when we consider that in the breast of every person there is an innate desire to live true1 to win success4 ,the day dreams of every boy and girl picture themselves as the hero or the heroine in the story which weaves into its plot their ideal men and women4 ,their ideals may be low1 that is the fault of their environment and training1 but their ideals always represent their own highest conceptions of manhood and womanhood4 ,but sooner or later struggle comes1 appetite craves1 and passion cries out1 and if they are unprepared for life's real conflict1 they go down1 and another failure is recorded and another wreck left to float and endanger every other craft upon life's seas1 until human wreckage is becoming so enormous that it is a question in the minds of scientists and sociologists as to how long humanity can keep up its present pace and survive the centuries4 ,the causes of human wrecks are many1 far too many to be tabulated or enumerated4 ,in a sentence they result from the principle that it is easier to coast than to climb2 so much easier to float than to struggle against the current4 ,like the weeds that kill out the crops1 just so is humanity beset by enumerable temptations at every turn1 social and economic customs force downward a great many who would otherwise rise to higher things1 and1 it is suspected1 that in the very nature of man there is a strong tendency to evil which can be overcome only by divine grace4 ,appetite and passion are the two forces to which man's higher aspirations most often give way4 ,intemperance and impurity1 in their broader meaning1 are the two bars upon which most human wrecks have stranded4 ,social impurity1 or the abuse of the sex function and nature1 is by far the most insidious1 and with respect to the number and degradation of its victims1 the greatest evil in the world to-day4 ,this book is one of the most valuable ever written because it treats fully and wisely this question of personal and social purity2 it points out the reefs1 the bars1 the snags1 the icebergs1 the shallow and dangerous places where human wrecks are made2 it guides those who accept it as their pilot into the deep waters of an unobstructed channel where the voyage of life will be ever safe1 successful1 glorious4 ,here will be found an incentive to climb rather than to coast1 an inspiration to struggle even against the current if in the struggle may be won some of the more valuable prizes of life4 ,here is a book that holds high the single standard of morality1 and demands that men shall be as pure as women2 it stands boldly for the education of the young in sex hygiene1 and proclaims a truth that ought long ago to have been universally known1 that it is the right of every person to know every knowable fact pertaining to themselves1 and that such knowledge ought to be imparted to them before the lack of it has brought injury to their lives4 ,this is a book that will help to forever banish that false modesty and prurient thinking which has made the tremendous growth of public vice a reality1 until every girl is in danger of enslavement and every boy threatened with its corruption4 ,this is not a pioneer book on these questions4 ,other most excellent works have preceded it1 for which we should all be grateful1 and have paved the way for this latest volume4 ,the excellence of this work consists largely in its completeness4 ,it is a book for the home1 for every home1 and for every member of the home4 ,it tells exactly what ought to be known concerning the sex nature and life of the individual1 and the normal relations of the family and society1 and best of all it teaches parents how to impart this saving knowledge to their children4 ,any and every home that takes this book as a friend and counselor1 and faithfully studies its pages1 will fortify every person within the portals of that home against the baneful influences of impurity and vice4 ,the writer has known ,prof4 ,t4 ,w4 ,shannon1 the talented author of this book1 for some years1 and we have watched his efforts with interest and admiration4 ,a voluminous writer1 a wide traveler1 he has probably reached more people with his uplifting message of purity through his books and upon the platform than any other living man of the same age4 ,his methods are never sensational and he does not stoop to uncovering all the cesspools of sin and vice1 but he leads people upward by directing their minds and hearts to the beauty and rewards of pure living and right thinking4 ,through the strength of his personality and the profound truth in his message1 he has helped thousands of college students and other young men to avoid the pitfalls which have brought disaster to so many young lives4 ,by education and experience ,prof4 ,shannon is eminently fitted to prepare just such a book as this and his authorship should at once entitle it to a high place among the standard works of the day dealing with these problems4 ,as the volume has received my own endorsement1 even so ,i trust it may be most cordially received into the homes of ,america1 that our sons and our daughters may be fortified through the truth1 presented in an attractive and safe and sane manner1 against the temptations which constantly meet them2 that human wrecks may be fewer1 and that every life may have a fair chance to attain all for which it was created4 ,b4 ,s4 ,,steadwell4 ,la ,crosse1 ,wisconsin1 ,december #ah1 #aiab4 ,,contents ,,first ,,division ,,the ,,home ,,chapter ,,page ,i ,,the ,,essentials ,,of ,a ,,home #ae ,,ii ,,the ,,father',s ,,relation ,,to ,,the ,,home #bd ,,iii ,,the ,,mother',s ,,relation ,,to ,,the ,,home #bi ,,iv ,,the ,,boy',s ,,relation ,,to ,,the ,,home #cd ,v ,,the ,,girl',s ,,relation ,,to ,,the ,,home #da ,,vi ,,training ,,and ,,government ,,in ,,the ,,home #dg ,,second ,,division ,,how ,,to ,,teach ,,social ,,purity ,,and ,,sex ,,truths ,,to ,a ,,child ,,vii ,,the ,,right ,,of ,a ,,child ,,to ,a ,,knowledge ,,of ,,sex #fc ,,viii ,,first ,,story--,,baby ,,plants #hg ,,ix ,,second ,,story--,,baby ,,oysters ,,and ,,fish #ii ,x ,,third ,,story--,,baby ,,birds #ajd ,,xi ,,fourth ,,story--,,baby ,,animals ,,and ,,man #ajh ,,xii ,,practical ,,questions ,,answered #aag ,,third ,,division ,,how ,,to ,,teach ,,social ,,purity ,,and ,,sex ,,truths ,,to ,a ,,girl ,,xiii ,a ,,talk ,,to ,,mothers #abb ,,xiv ,,mother',s ,,first ,,talk--,,the ,,female ,,form #acj ,,xv ,,mother',s ,,second ,,talk--,,dawning ,,of ,,womanhood #ach ,,xvi ,,mother',s ,,third ,,talk--,,choosing ,a ,,chum #adc ,,xvii ,,mother',s ,,fourth ,,talk--,,confidential ,,advice #adf ,,xviii ,,mother',s ,,fifth ,,talk--,a ,,small ,,girl',s ,,ethics #aeg ,,xix ,,mother',s ,,sixth ,,talk--,,how ,,to ,,grow ,,beautiful #afb ,,fourth ,,division ,,how ,,to ,,teach ,,social ,,purity ,,and ,,sex ,,truths ,,to ,a ,,boy ,,xx ,a ,,talk ,,to ,,fathers #aff ,,xxi ,,father',s ,,first ,,talk--,,boys ,,make ,,men #agc ,,xxii ,,father',s ,,second ,,talk--,,perfect ,,boys ,,make ,,perfect ,,men #ahb ,,xxiii ,,father',s ,,third ,,talk--,,imperfect ,,boys ,,make ,,imperfect ,,men #aie ,,xxiv ,,father',s ,,fourth ,,talk--,,how ,,to ,,live ,a ,,pure ,,life #bjd ,,xxv ,,father',s ,,fifth ,,talk--,,the ,,true ,,young ,,knight #baa ,,fifth ,,division ,,vital ,,facts ,,of ,,life ,,for ,,the ,,young ,,woman1 ,,married ,,or ,,single ,,xxvi ,,the ,,real ,,significance ,,of ,,sex #bah ,,xxvii ,,the ,,vicious ,,novel #bbe ,,xxviii ,,the ,,public ,,dance #bcb ,,xxix ,a ,,young ,,woman',s ,,ethics #bcg ,,xxx ,,the ,,wronged ,,girl #bde ,,xxxi ,,the ,,miracle ,,of ,,motherhood #beh ,,xxxii ,,practical ,,questions ,,answered #bff ,,xxxiii ,,beauty ,,by ,,bathing #bgf ,,xxxiv ,,physical ,,culture #bia ,,sixth ,,division ,,vital ,,facts ,,of ,,life ,,for ,,the ,,young ,,man1 ,,married ,,or ,,single ,,xxxv ,,the ,,deeper ,,significance ,,of ,,sex #cjd ,,xxxvi ,,continence #cac ,,xxxvii ,,prostitution #cah ,,xxxviii ,,venereal ,,diseases #cbb ,,xxxix ,a ,,young ,,man',s ,,ethics #cca ,,xl ,,manhood ,,wrecked ,,and ,,regained #ccg ,,xli ,,practical ,,questions ,,answered #cde ,,xlii ,,physical ,,culture #cga ,,seventh ,,division ,,heredity1 ,,or ,,vital ,,facts ,,for ,,the ,,married ,,and ,,marriageable ,,xliii ,,heredity1 ,a ,,fact #chf ,,xliv ,,heredity ,,and ,,reproduction #dac ,,xlv ,,choosing ,a ,,companion #dce ,,xlvi ,,physical1 ,,mental ,,and ,,moral ,,preparation ,,for ,,parenthood #dde ,,xlvii ,,prenatal ,,training #ded ,,xlviii ,,delinquencies1 ,,causes ,,and ,,remedies #dfh ,,xlix ,,birthmarks #did ,l ,,heredity1 ,,environment ,,and ,,redemption #ejf ,,li ,,courtship1 ,,marriage ,,and ,,divorce #eah ,,eighth ,,division ,,vital ,,facts ,,for ,,married ,,or ,,unmarried1 ,,of ,,middle ,,life ,,and ,,old ,,age ,,lii ,,vital ,,facts ,,concerning ,,the 8,,change ,,of ,,life0 ,,in ,,woman1 ,,and ,,the ,,years ,,to ,,follow #ebh ,,liii ,,vital ,,facts ,,concerning ,,the 8,,change ,,of ,,life0 ,,in ,,man1 ,,and ,,the ,,years ,,to ,,follow #edj ,,liv ,,practical ,,questions ,,answered #eej ,,ninth ,,division ,,moral1 ,,social ,,and ,,reform ,,topics ,,lv ,,school ,,instruction ,,in ,,sex ,,hygiene--,,by ,,charles ,w4 ,,eliot #efj ,,lvi ,,the ,,white ,,slave ,,traffic--,,by ,,hon4 ,,stanley ,w4 ,,finch #egj ,,lvii ,,the ,,purity ,,movement--,,by ,b4 ,s4 ,,steadwell #eii ,,list ,,of ,,illustrations ,,colored ,,plates ,telling the ,story of ,life ,frontispiece ,a ,gift from ,heaven ,god's ,richest ,blessing to a ,home ,i ,love ,you ,,half-,,tones ,,and ,,charts ,,page ,home #ag ,ideal ,relations in the ,home #ce ,let ,them ,play ,together #ci ,chums in the ,home #dc ,danger #gi ,flower #id ,female ,internal ,organs #acc ,sexual ,organs of ,male #ahf ,developing ,knighthood #bab ,friendship #bch ,beauty by ,bathing1 ,no4 #a #bgg ,beauty by ,bathing1 ,no4 #b #bgh ,beauty by ,bathing1 ,no4 #c #bhb ,beauty by ,bathing1 ,no4 #d #bhc ,beauty by ,bathing1 ,no4 #e #bij ,physical ,culture1 ,no4 #a-f #bie ,physical ,culture1 ,no4 #g-ab #big ,physical ,culture1 ,no4 #ac-ad #cjb ,physical ,culture ,exercise1 ,no4 #a #cge ,physical ,culture ,exercise1 ,no4 #b #cgf ,physical ,culture ,exercise1 ,no4 #c #cgg ,physical ,culture ,exercise1 ,no4 #d-e #cgh ,physical ,culture ,exercise1 ,no4 #f #cgi ,physical ,culture ,exercise1 ,no4 #g #chj ,physical ,culture ,exercise1 ,no4 #h #cha ,physical ,culture ,exercise1 ,no4 #i #chb ,physical ,culture ,exercise1 ,no4 #aj #chc ,physical ,culture ,exercise1 ,no4 #aa-ab #chd ,a ,wild ,rose #chh ,american ,beauty ,rose #chi ,a ,wild ,strawberry #cib ,a ,cultivated ,strawberry #cic ,results of ,personal ,liberty #djb ,protected #djc ,louise and ,mary ,carter1 ,twins #dah ,well ,born #ddf ,neglected #dgh ,heredity ,chart1 ,emma ,w4 #ejf ,heredity ,chart1 ,no4 #a #ejh ,heredity ,chart1 ,no4 #b-;,a #eji ,heredity ,chart1 ,no4 #b-;,b #eaa ,well ,preserved and ,contented ,old ,age #ebi ,climax of a ,well-,spent ,life #eda ,hon4 ,stanley ,w4 ,finch #ega ,john ,b4 ,hammond #ege ,touring ,purity ,conference at ,los ,angeles #egi ,touring ,purity ,conference1 ,chattanooga #ehc ,trial of a ,white ,slaver #eie ,b4 ,s4 ,steadwell #fja ,t4 ,albert ,moore1 ,d4,d #fje ,touring ,purity ,conference1 ,new ,orleans #faa ,illustration3 ,,home4 ,,self ,,knowledge ,,and ,,guide ,,to ,,sex ,,instruction ,,first ,,division ,,the ,,home ,,chapter ,i ,,the ,,essentials ,,of ,a ,,home ,the basic incentive for marriage4--,a completed home embraces a father1 mother and one or more children1 bound together by natural love for each other4 ,the initial step in home building is taken when a man and woman decide to assume the duties1 responsibilities and functions of marriage4 ,courtship and marriage may be prompted by a number of motives4 ,there is but one natural and worthy motive--,,love4 ,this motive may be a little out of date in some circles1 but it remains essential to a normal home1 a happy productive home4 ,this expression of love is awakened to conscious activity through acquaintance and friendship1 becomes a joyful reality in courtship1 is consummated in marriage and is perpetuated through life1 because of a chaste1 pure1 unselfish sex preference of one man for one woman and that one woman for that one man4 ,if for any reason1 this sex preference is ever broken1 the bonds of love between husband and wife will be weakened1 if not severed for all time4 ,this bond of union may be broken in a number of ways4 ,there may be other causes of domestic inharmony1 all of which can be adjusted so long as sex preference1 or love1 binds the two as one4 ,under the guidance of unselfish sex selection1 few mistakes would ever be made1 in the choice of a companion4 ,the tests of true love4--,a man and woman bound by pure love for each other1 may live in a shack or a humble rented cottage1 they may have to toil late and hard to support a family of growing children1 but they and the children will be happy and usually healthy and strong1 bound together by mutual love4 ,they will remain true to each other through adversity1 sickness and death4 ,mismated4--,if husband and wife are not bound to each other by a natural sex preference1 or love1 though they may hold in their possession broad acres of land1 railroad bonds and heavy deposits in the bank1 live in a mansion and move in the lite circles of society1 they will not love each other1 their children1 or be able to build a ,,real home4 ,other incentives for marriage4--,it is quite customary1 ,illustration3 ,a ,,good ,,argument ,,for ,,pure ,,living in some grades of society1 to choose a life companion for social or financial advantage4 ,such unions are not natural4 ,they are cold business transactions4 ,a man prompted by these motives sees in a woman the qualities of a good housekeeper1 a social queen1 or a financial gain4 ,a woman prompted by unnatural motives sees in a man opportunities for social prestige1 a life of luxury and ease4 ,they drift apart instead of their personalities blending1 through love1 as one4 ,soon he spends his days in his daily vocation and his evenings in the lodges4 ,she finds her only pleasure in following the latest fashions and devoting her time to various social functions4 ,each have their secrets and manage to avoid public disgrace4 ,should a child be born into such an unnatural home1 it would receive an unfortunate heredity and a still more unfortunate environment4 ,the initial of its life was accidental1 its prenatal rights were not regarded1 its advent was not welcomed1 it is now turned over to a hired nurse4 ,such a child is more unfortunate than an orphan4 ,in no true sense has it a father or mother4 ,this child1 when visitors are about1 or when the family is making a public display1 may be petted1 pampered and spoiled by its parents and on all occasions lavishly supplied with dress and toys2 thus egotism will be stimulated and propensities gratified and this child will be placed at a decided disadvantage in life4 ,compared with this child1 the little ragged street urchin is to be congratulated4 ,when the natural1 ,god-designed and ,god-honored1 sex instinct is perverted and base desire supplants love1 in the choice of a companion1 the home instinct is degraded1 love dethroned and inharmony prevails4 ,the ,romance1 of ,courtship and the ,honeymoon1 is ,transitory4 ,there is a certain amount of the glamour1 mystery1 novelty1 romance and poetry connected with courtship and the honeymoon1 while perhaps natural at the time1 but in the very nature of the case cannot be permanent4 ,the plain1 practical1 everyday experiences of life must become prominent in every successful home4 ,the fairyland1 of flowery visions1 rippling streams of sentiment1 poetic fancies of bliss and the lunar and stellar raptures of love1 must yield1 after a period of such experiences1 to mundane realities where these beautiful dreams terminate and air castles are destroyed and life once more becomes real4 ,when the termination of this romantic period comes to the young wife1 whose vision of marriage was received from sensational novels1 fashion journals1 the theater and gay social gatherings1 and to the young husband1 kid-gloved1 well-starched and much-cravatted1 it will be unexpected and very disastrous to their imaginary love4 ,cruel and prudish are they1 who are responsible for creating artificial social visions in the minds of the youth4 ,but when the termination of romance comes to the young husband and wife1 whose courtship and marriage have been true to nature1 this will be supplanted by the dawning consciousness of life's real mission in marriage and they will discover that the truest1 sweetest and most enduring pleasures and joys of life have only begun4 ,the first born4--,fortunate and happy is that young couple1 who1 before the romance of marriage is over1 becomes aware that preparations must be made for the first little stranger into their home4 ,if the faint prophecies1 of the approaching advent of their first-born1 thrill their lives with hopeful and joyful anticipations1 marriage will now have a deeper significance1 the bonds of love and dependence become stronger and the pleasures of life more real4 ,the supremest moment of marriage comes when the young husband1 who for the first time1 in the birth chamber1 stands by his wife's side1 holding her hands in his2 stoops and kisses her lips1 cheeks and brow1 as she bravely and beautifully endures the throes of parturition4 ,such an experience is enough to transform a brute into a man4 ,when the first-born is placed to the young mother's breast1 a deep1 profound1 but quiet happiness knows no bounds in two hearts that beat as one4 ,this is the primary purpose of marriage4 ,a cooing baby is nature's own sequel to the honeymoon4 ,illustration3 ,,god',s ,,richest ,,blessing ,,to ,a ,,home4 ,health1 happiness and life worth living is made possible through parenthood4 ,if a child was intelligently planned for and warmly welcomed into every home1 the first year of married life1 then one by one at reasonable intervals until the family consists of four to eight healthy1 happy1 well-cared-for children1 most of the problems of marriage would be solved4 ,the childless homes4--,all efforts to evade the fiat of nature and ,god1 8multiply and replenish the earth10 not justified by the authors of this law1 will lead to health blighted1 happiness destroyed1 a home wrecked and two souls will be arrested in their endless progress4 ,in homes1 voluntarily childless1 and in homes where one or two little intruders were accidentally and unwillingly admitted1 can be found the most serious and perplexing social problems4 ,childless homes made happy4--,the involuntarily childless homes1 and the homes voluntarily childless1 because of justifiable reasons1 need not be unhappy4 ,their paternal and maternal natures may be developed by adopting homeless children4 ,in this land there are many such happy homes4 ,if the mother love1 in childless homes1 annually wasted on poodle dogs1 was expended on homeless children1 there would soon be no childless homes1 orphan homes and homeless children1 and more happiness in the world4 ,how shall family troubles be solved8--,while natural sex preference and the birth of children solve almost all the domestic problems and make possible the solution of all family troubles1 they do not render the husband and wife immune to all differences1 disagreements1 incompatibilities and perplexities4 ,it is not possible for the husband to see everything from his wife's view point1 or the wife to see everything from the husband's point of view4 ,if they differ in taste1 retain their personalities1 have lofty ambitions1 possess sensitive natures and have their individual ideals1 they will often differ in their opinions1 and1 occasionally very good people will find themselves in disastrous disputes4 ,commendable ideals and virtues1 as well as faults1 may become the sources of domestic trouble4 ,what should they do--separate8 ,no4 ,secure a divorce8 ,certainly not4 ,let these steps be the last possible resort4 ,where a family of children are to be scattered and injured by the disgrace1 perhaps a divorce should not be sought1 on any grounds4 ,the bleeding hearts and blasted hopes caused by one divorce is greater than that caused by a score of deaths4 ,divorce degrades morals1 withers ideals and causes untold human suffering4 ,what is the remedy8 ,agree to let past differences1 disagreements and quarrels remain in the past4 ,don't bring the dead yesterdays over into the living to-days4 ,each morning1 give each other a clean slate4 ,resolve each morning to please1 rather than to displease your partner4 ,by doing this1 irreconcilable differences will gradually disappear4 ,this does not mean that they should lose their individualities1 or compromise with their convictions4 ,this is not a radical or expensive remedy1 but one that works in nearly every case4 ,,chapter ,,ii ,,the ,,father',s ,,relation ,,to ,,the ,,home ,the father is the head of the home4--,the character of the home determines the character of the church1 society and the nation4 ,the home is the most important of all earthly institutions4 ,the problems of society1 the church and the nation1 if ever solved1 must be largely solved in the home4 ,the home is both a civil and divine institution4 ,civil and divine law place the husband and father at the head of the home4 ,no teacher sustains a more vital relation to society1 no minister to his congregation1 no king to his empire1 or president to his republic1 than does the conscientious father1 who does his best to build an ideal home4 ,he is truly serving ,god and his country1 in the highest sense4 ,in the work of building a home1 he is serving society and the church in a higher sense than he would be1 were he neglecting his family1 by writing books1 teaching school1 delivering lectures or preaching sermons4 ,his relation to his wife4--,the relation of husband and wife is a partnership affair4 ,in every sense they are equal partners4 ,their rights and privileges are equal4 ,their part in building a home is not1 in all respects1 the same4 ,the service of one is as important as the other4 ,neither can build a home without the other4 ,their service is incomparable4 ,he is to furnish financial support4--,nature has fitted man mentally and physically for devising means of earning a support for his family4 ,whatever occupation1 calling or profession he may engage in1 he should put forth the best effort of which he is capable to produce an income that will support his family decently4 ,the amount of money he can furnish his wife1 will depend upon his earnings4 ,they should talk over this matter as partners4 ,one has as much right to the income as the other4 ,they should not spend more than is produced4 ,if the income is small1 both should economize4 ,they should endeavor to save something each year1 even if the income is small4 ,money is stored-up human energy4 ,if the income is large1 they should be more liberal in the use of it1 but it is always a sin to waste money4 ,the husband has no right to cause his wife to beg him for money1 to meet her personal expenses or the expenses of the children4 ,the money is not exclusively his own4 ,home building is a partnership in which every member of the home is interested in every dollar produced4 ,legally the father may spend his money on his selfish indulgences4 ,morally he has no right to spend the home company money in a way that will not benefit each member of the home4 ,for a father to annually spend fifty or more dollars on tobacco or drink and refuse corresponding amounts to his wife and children to be spent needlessly by them1 is as dishonest1 as for a member of a firm1 or the president of a bank to misappropriate the funds of a partner or a depositor4 ,he is to furnish moral support4--,for a man to build a reputation for honesty1 truthfulness1 sobriety and virtue and to possess a good character are of more value to his wife and children1 as a home builder1 than to be able to produce large earnings and to be free with the same4 ,when a man assumes the responsibility of building a home1 his family have a right to demand of him honesty1 integrity1 sobriety and virtue4 ,he has no more right to rob them of one than the other4 ,he is to love his wife4--,while the romance of courtship and the honeymoon cannot be continued for life1 yet he should always show her a deep respect1 a manly courtesy1 a true love and absolute loyalty to his marriage vow4 ,the relation of the father to his children4--,each child born into the home is a new member added to the partnership4 ,the children have financial1 social and moral rights that should be respected by the parents4 ,while civil law and ,god place the father at the head of the home1 this does not give him special rights and privileges1 or constitute him a boss or ruler1 but he should so conduct himself that the family will regard him as their protector1 supporter and adviser4 ,he should not swear1 tell vulgar stories1 use tobacco or indulge in strong drink unless he is willing for each member of his family to follow his example4 ,as partners in the home1 they have the same moral rights as himself4 ,he should be to his children a chum1 a friend1 a companion4 ,he should constantly endeavor to make the children happy4 ,there are times1 in the home1 when the father's decision must be law4 ,he must support his family4 ,the law holds him responsible for their support and for their deportment as citizens4 ,as long as they are under age1 if they contract a debt or damage property1 the law holds the father responsible4 ,this responsibility makes it necessary for him to decide some things1 in a way that a child may not wish to coincide4 ,this should be done in a dignified and pleasant way4 ,the father should never allow himself to become angry or to use hasty and abusive language in correcting a child4 ,if he does1 he demonstrates his own weakness and inability to be a real father4 ,punishment of some natural kind is sometimes necessary1 but corporal punishment1 as a rule1 is brutal4 ,the father should so conduct himself as to command the respect1 reverence and love of his children4 ,he should be sociable and gentle1 as well as dignified and strong4 ,he should have their complete confidence1 so they will come to him with their problems and troubles4 ,the sacred service of a true father in the home1 can only be equaled by the service of the mother4 ,the fathers who toil long and late1 study and strive to support1 educate and train a family of children to become good citizens and devoted ,christians1 will receive a rich reward here and a royal welcome yonder4 ,,chapter ,,iii ,,the ,,mother',s ,,relation ,,to ,,the ,,home ,husband and wife equal partners4--,in the partnership of building a home1 the wife is1 in the truest and fullest sense1 an equal partner with her husband4 ,equal rights and privileges should characterize their financial1 social and moral relations4 ,they are complements of each other4 ,neither is ever completed until the other half is found4 ,they are essential to each other's highest development4 ,neither can build a home without the other4 ,their relations to the home are of equal importance4 ,how they differ4--,they differ in their functional relations to the building of a home4 ,while their interests are mutual and their duties often overlap each other1 yet they differ in some respects in their relations to the home4 ,the husband is the producer2 nature and ,god place on him the responsibility of feeding1 clothing1 sheltering and educating the family4 ,the wife is the housekeeper2 nature and ,god place on her the duty of motherhood and the love and care of children4 ,both husband and wife need special preparation before and after marriage for their respective relations to the home4 ,marriage means motherhood4--,unless a woman loves little children and desires to teach and train boys and girls to become ideal men and women1 she should not think of accepting a marriage proposition4 ,marriage is for the purpose of offspring4 ,all girls should train and develop themselves with a view to the sacred functions of motherhood4 ,those who are mentally opposed to and physically incapable of motherhood should decline marriage4 ,such women can and should find some other occupation better fitted to their tastes1 or physical condition1 where they can be contented and help make the world better4 ,a farce4--,in apartment houses1 hotels and lodging places are to be found men and women living together under a form of legal matrimonial alliance1 where the true idea of home is not contemplated1 children are not wanted and no domestic happiness anticipated4 ,these are human abodes1 where the echo of birth is never heard2 where the thrill of joy1 caused by cooing babies1 is never felt2 and where conversation is never disturbed by romping children4 ,this is a home only in name4 ,this is a place of lodging where two miserable selfish beings are waiting for death to step in and end the farce4 ,a good substitute for a home4--,i was once entertained in a home where the husband and wife had crossed over the half century line of life4 ,during my first day in that home1 every few hours1 the husband or wife would bring in from two to six boys and girls introducing them to me as their boys and girls4 ,when the number had run up in the neighborhood of twenty1 that home got interesting4 ,when ,i inquired how often they had been married and how many children they had1 ,i was informed that they were only borrowing them from the neighbors4 ,i never saw a home with a greater influence for good4 ,though childless1 their home was a heaven2 for the neighboring children resorted1 played games1 and received instructions of the highest order there4 ,the children were trained to hunt up the old1 the sick and the poor and to daily carry them flowers gathered from the yard and garden of this old couple4 ,this was an ideal imitation of the real thing--a model home4 ,i wish every childless home could be converted into such an ideal imitation1 or a real home4 ,a good housekeeper4--,one of the qualifications a wife should have is a reasonable practical knowledge of how to keep house4 ,it may not be necessary for her to do all her house work1 but she should understand how it should be done4 ,a man has as much right to demand that his wife know how to wash clothes1 bake bread1 sweep a room1 and make a bed1 as she has to expect him to be industrious1 know how to form or conduct his business or profession4 ,she must know how to do these things in order to properly manage a well-ordered home4 ,she should know the value of a dollar4--,the wife should know the value of a dollar and how to invest it in food1 clothing and household comforts4 ,to do this1 she must make these things a study4 ,unreasonable extravagance of wives has caused many unhappy homes4 ,she should keep herself attractive4--,she could never have won her husband had she not made herself attractive4 ,marriage does not lessen man's interest in his wife's attractiveness4 ,the wise woman will not permit her husband to become ashamed of her4 ,she should be industrious4--,a reasonable amount of physical exercise is just as essential to a woman's health as it is for a man4 ,the indolent wife who settles down in an easy chair and reads novels all day1 satisfied with the fact that she is married and unconscious or indifferent to the fact that she must keep her husband's respect1 is likely to lose his respect and love4 ,she should take an interest in her husband's affairs4--,a wife should know enough of her husband's business or professional affairs to enable her to appreciate his ambitions and to sympathize with him in his trials4 ,in this way1 some women help to make their husband's success4 ,there is quite a difference between interest and encouragement1 and in interference4 ,one leads to success2 the other to failure4 ,home first4--,a good wife or mother will make the interests of her home first4 ,if her home is first1 in her mind and heart1 she will not find time or inclination to gossip about her neighbors1 or to contrive new ways of amusing herself4 ,her home interests will completely fill her life1 consume her time1 satisfy her sthetic nature and furnish her the greatest opportunities for ,christian service in the world4 ,this does not preclude membership in a humanitarian society1 a reading circle1 or church4 ,great as this service may be1 it is not equal to the home4 ,a home builder is never justifiable in neglecting her home duties for her obligations to a club1 a lodge or the church4 ,by spending a few hours1 in practical contact with other housewives at a social meeting or church1 she is all the better able to perform her home duties4 ,but these things should be subordinate to the duties of home building4 ,christ in the home will mean ,christ in society1 the church and the nation4 ,the anteroom to heaven4--,when a woman has entered married life with her prince1 determined to make a real wife and mother1 she has chosen the highest and most fascinating career that is possible for a woman4 ,her home will be an anteroom to heaven4 ,,chapter ,,iv ,,the ,,boy',s ,,relation ,,to ,,the ,,home ,the boy problem4--,the boy problem is becoming one of unusual interest to writers1 teachers1 lecturers1 ministers and parents4 ,books1 teaching1 lecturing and preaching can aid some1 but the real problem of the boy must be solved in the home4 ,a boy should be treated differently from his sister4--,the mental make-up of a boy1 his superior strength1 his natural aspirations and his duties in life1 require that some of his training should differ from that of the girl4 ,he should be taught to work4--,one of the most important steps in the solution of the boy problem is to have the boy actively engaged in some wholesome1 pleasant and rational way4 ,he should be given work that is worth doing well and that will be of use to him in future life4 ,this training should begin in childhood and continue until he is matured4 ,every day he should have some task to perform and he should never be allowed to neglect his work4 ,boys enjoy making money4--,a boy should be ,illustration3 ,,ideal ,,relations ,,of ,,children ,,in ,,the ,,home given a chance to make some money4 ,rarely should money be given to a child4 ,it is far better for him to earn it4 ,he will in this way learn the value of a dollar4 ,he should be encouraged to deposit his money in bank1 to loan it1 on interest1 or to wisely invest it4 ,it is a great deal better for a boy to invest and lose than to spend his earnings for candy or a ticket to a ten cent show4 ,a boy had as well be allowed to swear1 drink and steal as to waste his money4 ,if started right most boys would take pride in saving their money4 ,usually when parents wish their children to have candy or some other luxury1 it would be wiser for them to pay for it1 than for the children to do so4 ,a child should be encouraged to give1 out of his own money1 to the needy1 ,sunday ,school and church4 ,boys should have their own room in the house1 their own things in the room and their property rights should be respected4 ,when he fails1 he should be encouraged2 when downhearted1 he should be boosted and when he succeeds1 he should be praised and commended4 ,give the average boy a chance and he will make a man4 ,his future vocation4--,very early1 boys show aptitude toward special vocations4 ,when they do1 they should be encouraged in every way possible4 ,however1 they should not be nagged and forced to follow any vocation for which they may have shown interest and natural skill4 ,furnish them helps and books and allow them to develop their own individualities4 ,parents should not choose the boy's vocation for him4 ,they should not interfere with his choice1 unless it be pernicious4 ,morally1 his training should be the same as that of his sister4--,parents1 who hold to two sets of morals1 do right for the girl and do as you please for the boy1 are not qualified to train a boy4 ,a boy should be trained to believe that whatever is morally wrong for his sister and mother is equally wrong for him2 it is just as ungentlemanly for him to swear1 as it would be unladylike for his mother and sister to swear2 that it is just as wrong for him to use vulgar and obscene language as it would be for his mother and sister to do so2 that if he can drink and be sexually impure and remain a gentleman1 his mother and sister can indulge in the same vices and remain perfect ladies4 ,if parents believe in the double standard of morals1 that the boy must sow his 8wild oats10 most likely he will4 ,there is no sane reason why a boy should swear and his sister should not1 why a boy should use tobacco and his sister should not1 why a boy should drink and his sister should not1 or why a boy should be sexually impure and his sister should not4 ,the boy1 with the single standard of morals instilled in his mind1 is incomparably more likely to make a useful1 successful1 great and good man than the boy trained to believe in the double standard4 ,boys should play with girls4--,boys are1 by nature1 inclined to be rough1 rude1 coarse and untidy4 ,they need to associate with girls who naturally have just the opposite tendencies4 ,it is refining for boys to learn to enjoy the games of girls4 ,a girl's ambition is to be beautiful2 a boy's ambition is to be strong4 ,these preferences are natural and they should be encouraged in them4 ,all boys delight in displaying their physical powers4 ,thus1 they are led to test their strength with their sisters and often display roughness and rudeness4 ,they should be carefully instructed that it is natural for girls not to be as strong as boys1 and that for this reason they should protect girls and never be rude with them4 ,boys should have a place and the proper means of taking exercise4 ,the boy and his mother4--,the mother and her boy should be chums4 ,they should keep on the most intimate terms4 ,the mother can often instill1 into the mind and heart of her boy1 a refined nature1 gentle feelings1 pure motives and a manly purpose1 in a way that is not aggressive1 and yet it is permanent4 ,a boy's companions4--,it is important for a boy to have good companions4 ,if he has been trained as indicated1 he will not rebel when his parents offer ,illustration3 ,,let ,,them ,,play ,,together suggestions4 ,however they should endeavor not to appear to be choosing his companions4 ,going to college4--,many boys would be better off never to go to college4 ,the contaminating influences of some colleges cannot be overestimated4 ,of all rowdyism1 college rowdyism is the most demoralizing4 ,in very recent years special efforts have been made in some of our colleges to eliminate this objectionable feature4 ,there are some colleges where the manly1 the moral and the religious predominate and the boy is fully as safe as at home4 ,before a boy is sent to college he should be fortified and safeguarded against college contaminations4 ,parents should investigate college morals before making the choice of a college for their boy4 ,,chapter ,v ,,the ,,girl',s ,,relation ,,to ,,the ,,home ,the girl in the home is a member of the partnership plan of the family4 ,she should have the same financial1 social and moral rights of her brother4 ,her moral training should be no better than his4 ,if she is properly trained in the home1 her services are as valuable as her brother's and she should have the same financial rights4 ,the girl and her father4--,the father1 if worthy of being such1 should have the confidence1 respect and love of his daughter4 ,she should feel free to approach him with her wishes and her problems4 ,his advice and council will be of great value to her in her social relation with young men4 ,many girls fail to show themselves interested in their father4 ,girls should be attentive1 kind and loving in their relations to their father4 ,the girl and her mother4--,a mother should not forget the experience of her girlhood4 ,though busy and burdened with many cares1 she should take time to talk1 often and intimately1 with her daughter1 of her own girlhood1 her own temptations1 her own experiences in the various vicissitudes of life4 ,by wisely cultivating the relation of a sympathetic companionship1 the mother can often bridge her daughter over that period of adolescence1 when many girls come to regard their mothers as 8old fogies40 ,this is a stage of growth in a girl's life4 ,it usually occurs when they are in the high school4 ,they openly and unkindly criticise their mother's dress1 speech1 advice1 council and religion4 ,this is a period of development that girls pass through4 ,the right relation between the girl and her mother would save the mother from many tears and heartaches and the girl from many regretful memories of misconception and blindness4 ,fortunate1 is the girl1 who has never had an attack of 8high school snobbery10 who has never spoken lightly of the imaginary deficiencies of mother2 but1 who has always found it a joy to divide gifts with mother1 to hand her the prettiest rose and to read her a choice story4 ,the girl and her brother4--,girls do not always appreciate the influence they are exerting over their brothers4 ,a boy's estimate of woman is often received from his sister's influence4 ,a sister has it largely in her power to make her brother gentle1 true and pure4 ,she can make home attractive and pleasant for him and thus save her brother from seeking pleasures in questionable places and ways4 ,brothers and ,illustration3 ,,chums ,,in ,,the ,,home sisters should grow up together1 be educated together1 play together and1 as far as possible1 help each other4 ,their joys and sorrows1 aims and purposes should be mutual4 ,her lack of physical strength1 her natural tastes and aspirations1 her duties and mission in life1 being in many respects different from her brother1 require a line of preparation unlike her brother receives4 ,her first and most valuable training4--,marriage is not the only goal toward which a young woman may turn1 but it is the most natural1 important and worthy4 ,most all girls look forward to marriage as a possible and desirable goal4 ,perhaps no woman would refuse marriage1 if the right man should propose4 ,it is for this reason that every girl should prepare herself thoroughly to be a housekeeper1 a wife and a mother4 ,this should be her first and most thorough training4 ,she should not rest satisfied until she has learned every phase of how to keep house1 to care for the wants of small children and to manage hired help4 ,this training should begin in childhood4 ,a girl should be able to dress herself and to keep her own room by the time she is ten years old4 ,whatever may be her career in life1 she will always be the better off because she is a good housekeeper4 ,she may not have to be a housekeeper1 for she may have servants1 still she is all the better off1 as she will understand how to manage the servants4 ,the independent girl4--,in addition to having prepared herself for a housekeeper1 a wife and a mother1 she should now prepare herself for some vocation in life4 ,the right man may not present himself1 she may be called upon to support an aged mother or father1 or an invalid husband1 and she will need to know how to earn a living4 ,a girl1 unprepared to support herself1 waiting year after year for some man to come and marry her1 is an object of profound pity4 ,if the right man comes along and marries her1 all is well4 ,but she often marries the wrong fellow1 or waits for many weary years and yet1 he never comes4 ,a generation ago few opportunities of earning a support were open to a girl4 ,conditions have changed1 woman's ideals have grown and the world offers her other vocations than housekeeping1 wifehood and motherhood1 and unless these come in very attractive form she can choose the vocation of art1 music1 teaching1 stenography1 book-keeping or some other calling4 ,by the time she is eighteen1 a girl should be able to keep a house or earn a living in some business way4 ,this will give her an assurance of independence4 ,regardless of the wealth of her parents1 she should have these two qualifications4 ,if her parents are poor and she is ambitious1 she can now work her way through college1 if she desires4 ,if the morals of a girl have been properly safeguarded by her mother's training and teaching1 the independent girl is little more likely to fall than the girl who remains at home and waits for a husband4 ,the independent girl who goes out into the world with her brother1 shoulders the same burdens1 wrestles with the same problems1 fights the same battles and overcomes the same difficulties1 will meet a better class of men than those who would likely seek her out in her home4 ,she is more likely to be happily married1 than if she remained at home4 ,she is now better fitted to be a housekeeper1 wife and mother1 than if she had remained at home4 ,she has learned how to produce a dollar1 she now knows the value of it and how1 wisely1 to spend it4 ,illustration3 ,,mother',s ,,responsibility4 ,,chapter ,,vi ,,training ,,and ,,government ,,in ,,the ,,home ,home a unit of government4--,as already observed1 the home is a partnership4 ,it is a unit of government4 ,in an ideal unit of home government1 every member is governed by and through an intelligent understanding of the customs1 rules and laws1 a conscientious recognition of what is right and wrong and the golden rule of love4 ,each have equal rights4 ,what is wrong for one is equally wrong for each and all4 ,what is right for one is equally right for each and all4 ,such a home is a unit of government where parents and children are organized under a constitution of intellect1 conscience and love2 for the purpose of building character1 fitting themselves for larger citizenship in this life and the life that is to be the sequence to this one4 ,the home is the biggest institution in the world4 ,home building is the noblest and highest vocation in life4 ,its responsibilities are stupendous1 its possibilities are limitless and its rewards are infinite4 ,home builders should be the best qualified and the most skillful of architects4 ,the training of a child4--,solomon said1 8train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it40 ,the thoughts1 actions and habits of childhood have much to do with a child's future character and possibilities4 ,when a child's training is commenced in early childhood1 was it begun soon enough8 ,after a noted surgeon had examined a patient1 turning to a friend he said1 8,if ,i could have had this patient two generations ago1 ,i could have saved his life40 ,when ,oliver ,wendell ,holmes was asked when a child's training should begin1 he replied1 8,at least one hundred years before he is born40 ,sometimes it happens that good children are made bad and bad children are made worse by the company they keep before they are born4 ,the little boy was not far wrong1 who1 when he found his mother lamenting the choice she had made of a life companion1 said1 8,mamma1 we made a bad choice when we chose papa1 didn't we80 ,some children have made an equally bad choice of their mammas and some appear to have made a doubly bad choice of both parents4 ,each child must be studied4--,a child is not easily understood4 ,no two children are alike4 ,each child has a very complex nature4 ,he is the product of the ages4 ,the complex nature of his parents are blended into his being1 producing a more complex being4 ,he is not a duplicate of either4 ,he has received from his parents a blending of their natures2 in a limited way1 what they inherited from his grandparents and their grandparents back to ,adam4 ,parents and teachers should try to discover his latent forces1 his slumbering passions1 his genius1 his inherent propensities and native goodness4 ,they should wisely use nature's laws and ,god's gifts1 in constraining1 controlling and eradicating the inherited and acquainted tendencies that are pernicious2 also in drawing out1 giving direction to and developing the inherited and acquired good in his life4 ,importance of early training4--,children in the home are to be trained4 ,their prenatal culture1 the most important part of a child's education1 may have been respected or neglected4 ,this cannot be altered now4 ,the next agency to be utilized in the child's training is environment4 ,this can be applied from its birth4 ,the child is more susceptible to external influences in babyhood than in childhood1 in childhood than in youth1 in youth than in maturity4 ,the child becomes more fixed in disposition and character and more difficult to change as he grows older4 ,the training of parents4--,if ,i were a perfect sage1 philosopher or ,christian1 or all three combined into a perfect teacher1 ,i would much prefer the task of training one hundred little children than the task of training ten parents 7including the author7 how to train their children4 ,most parents need to devote three hours1 to a careful analysis and study of their inherited and acquired weaknesses1 to one devoted to a similar study of a child4 ,a study of disposition4--,such peculiarities of mind and disposition as cruelty1 ambition1 firmness1 conscientiousness and affection may be so pronounced in one's life as to bias his judgment and unfit him for the training of children4 ,when one of these characteristics is very dominant in a father or mother1 it will most likely appear in an exaggerated form in one or more of the children4 ,like excites like1 is a law that should be thoroughly understood by parents4 ,where firmness is very pronounced in both parents and child1 there will be a constant clash unless one or both exercise full self-control4 ,such a child should be controlled largely by love4 ,a severe or cruel parent will make a coward of a timid child and a criminal of a self-willed child4 ,the over-conscientious parent will disgust one child and make a fanatic of another4 ,the over-affectionate parent will appeal alone to the affections and leave the will of a child undeveloped4 ,appealing alone to the ambition of a very proud1 ambitious child is likely to make him conceited and egotistical4 ,for a parent to quarrel1 have a fit of anger or to use violence is degrading and demonstrates his weakness and incapacity to be at the head of a family4 ,at the same time1 these mental states tend to awaken similar feelings in the child1 which usually result in a clash4 ,if the child had first displayed anger1 this could have been overcome by self-control1 kindness and love on the part of the parent4 ,the law of influence4--,if you want to arouse a desirable feeling1 sentiment1 emotion or conviction in another1 you must be controlled by that mental and moral state and allow it to emanate from you4 ,if you are controlled1 by an undesirable thought or feeling1 others must have self-control enough to resist your influence1 or soon they will be controlled by a similar mental state4 ,thus1 we see that unless parents exercise judgment and self-control1 they will often use methods that are unwise and harmful4 ,defects in our homes and schools4--,one of the saddest defects in our home training and our system of education is1 that when a child reaches maturity in the home or graduates from the high school or college1 he knows more about other things than he does about himself and the essentials of building a home4 ,how to analyze1 study1 know and control one's self2 how to understand1 train and govern children would be of far greater value in the education of young men and women than many departments of study we now emphasize4 ,the function of the home4--,the children are in the home for the primary purpose of being developed into ideal men and women4 ,to accomplish this end is the mission of parents4 ,to do this effectively parents must possess high ideals4 ,these ideals include such training and education as will lead to a strong and healthy body1 a keen and well-trained intellect1 a moral and religious character and an abiding faith in ,god4 ,physical training4--,the physical1 mental and moral natures are intimately and vitally related4 ,one influences each of the other two4 ,the physical health and strength of a child hinders or helps the mental and moral life4 ,the proper time to overcome the weakness of any physical function1 or inherited physical weakness1 is in childhood4 ,this is done by proper dieting1 hygienic living1 bathing1 exercise and sexual chastity4 ,improperly prepared and unwholesome food are the chief causes of death among infants and a leading cause of impaired indigestion in childhood4 ,the kind of food used1 effects the mind and character of the child4 ,too much candy1 rich pastries and meat are not good for a child1 or grown people either4 ,use of medicine4--,one hundred million dollars 7#ajj1jjj1jjj7 are spent annually on patent medicine and fully that much or more on mineral drugs4 ,we are not animals4 ,we do not know how to live4 ,few men would be willing to give a lawyer ten dollars to tell him how to keep out of trouble1 but he will give him all he has to get him out of trouble4 ,few would give ten dollars to a doctor for preventive advice1 but they will pay a doctor all they possess1 for a cure4 ,oliver ,wendell ,holmes had a custom of saying1 8,if all the drugs of the world were thrown into the sea1 it would be a blessing to humanity1 but a curse to the fish40 ,children should be kept healthy by hygienic living4 ,use of condiments1 coffee1 tobacco1 etc4--,condiments1 tea1 coffee and tobacco are not foods--they stimulate--they do not strengthen2 they create unnatural appetites and inflame the passions4 ,no one would drink tea or coffee were it not for the tannin and caffeine contained in them4 ,if these drugs were removed1 these drinks would be no more tempting than a cup of warm water4 ,most people1 who use these drinks would consider it a sin to go to a drug store1 buy some pure tannin or caffeine1 dilute it with water1 sweeten it with sugar and drink it4 ,the tobacco habit is an enormous evil4--,it creates a demand for something stronger4 ,it paves the way for the whisky habit4 ,drunkenness is largely due to a pathological physical condition4 ,remove the causes1 coffee1 tobacco and sensuality and it will do more to check drunkenness than all the legislation that can be secured in the next century4 ,mental training4--,the mental training of children is very largely committed to school and college teachers4 ,parents should take a very intense interest in the child's education4 ,they should study the talents and discover and strengthen the weaker faculties of the child4 ,most children get their minds 8stuffed0 with unassimilated facts4 ,nothing is clear to them4 ,they do not remember what they have learned4 ,they cannot reason logically4 ,they have had their minds 8stuffed40 ,parents as well as teachers1 can largely prevent this4 ,from the earliest mental training of the child1 he should be trained to take a personal interest in knowing things4 ,he should be taught to think4 ,encourage a child to ask questions4 ,if he asks questions which he should understand1 have him answer them and give his reasons for the answer4 ,in some cases ask him questions that will suggest an answer4 ,getting a child started right is the more important half of his education4 ,he will look after the other half4 ,moral training4--,the object of all moral training of a child is self-government or self-control4 ,before a child is capable of self-government1 he must be taught to distinguish between right and wrong4 ,this is largely the work of the intellect4 ,his conscience must be awakened and quickened4 ,conscience is a natural instinct through which ,god's spirit and man's conception1 of right and wrong1 prompts him to moral action1 and which condemns the action he conceives to be wrong and approves the action he conceives to be right4 ,the will must be so trained and developed that a child is able to will to do what he knows to be right and his conscience approves4 ,he is now a perfectly free agent1 a law to himself4 ,he is governed from within and need not to be governed from without4 ,this moral training requires years and should begin in infancy4 ,let the baby alone4--,good babies are made bad by receiving too much attention4 ,the baby should not be lifted from the cradle1 fondled and coddled1 kissed and talked to1 simply because it gurgles or makes an innocent attempt to be noticed4 ,this is needless attention4 ,at first it is disagreeable to the child4 ,later a demand is created and the child is spoiled4 ,if left alone babies would entertain themselves much of the time4 ,when a baby is learning to crawl and walk1 observe the 8let alone0 policy as much as possible4 ,keep an eye on the child to see that it does not get hurt4 ,what you do not want it to have1 put out of its reach4 ,it should be safeguarded from places of danger4 ,if these precautions are taken1 you will be saved the excuse for that endless round of 8don't get hurt10 8don't touch that10 8don't do that10 etc4 ,by these endless 8don'ts0 children are taught disobedience4 ,if the child falls1 unless it is hurt1 do not run and pick it up4 ,let it alone1 it will get up4 ,in this way you teach it to be independent and self-reliant4 ,if you run and pick it up1 the child gets the idea that you were to blame4 ,later1 when it falls1 it screams1 cries and gets angry4 ,perhaps you hit the object and teach the child that the object over which it fell was at fault4 ,this is deception and has a bad effect4 ,give the child something to do4--,teach it to dress itself1 to take off and put on its shoes and stockings4 ,it should have a special place to put these1 on retiring4 ,it should have a drawer or a room where it can put its individual belongings4 ,this teaches the child the idea of responsibility4 ,the first idea of wrongdoing4--,when a child eats some forbidden thing1 or does some forbidden act1 from which it suffers1 it can be led to see that it has violated the laws of nature4 ,if possible1 alleviate the pain1 but the lesson which nature would teach1 through pain1 should be emphasized4 ,the child should see that the pain came as a result of violating the laws of nature4 ,a little later in life1 the child can be taught that all desires1 thoughts1 words and acts that are helpful to self and others are right and those that injure self and others are wrong4 ,these principles can be applied gradually to the laws of the home1 of society and ,god4 ,parents should agree4--,there should be a perfect agreement between parents1 with respect to the government in the home4 ,where parents disagree1 children lose all respect for parental authority4 ,differences should be discussed by parents1 only when the children are not present4 ,punishment in the home4--,whipping1 slapping and cuffing are relics of savagery4 ,whipping should never be resorted to except in extreme cases4 ,it is not the natural consequence of disobedience4 ,it never appeals to a child's sense of justice4 ,punishment should always be natural and consistent with justice4 ,some examples will illustrate these principles1 as follows3 ,a child is called to breakfast--it does not come4 ,stubbornness or disobedience is the cause4 ,what should be a natural punishment8 ,scolding1 slapping1 jerking the child up and forcing it to the table8 ,no--there is no logical connection4 ,the punishment should consist in the child's doing without its breakfast4 ,this should be explained to the child3 ,a boy loses his toy4 ,should he be pitied and another bought for him8 ,certainly not4 ,should he be whipped8 ,this would not be natural4 ,he simply goes without his toy until he finds it3 ,a boy steals some object4 ,should he be whipped8 ,no4 ,his attention should be called to the nature of his sin4 ,he should be compelled1 if necessary1 to return the stolen object and confess his wrong4 ,the deep sense of humiliation is the natural punishment4 ,let him feel the full force of it3 ,a boy uses tobacco4 ,should he be whipped8 ,certainly not1 as long as his teacher1 the family doctor1 the minister and the father use it4 ,no child on earth could see any connection between the wrong and the punishment4 ,what should be done8 ,nine times out of ten1 under present conditions1 the boy will use tobacco1 in spite of all that a mother can do4 ,so long as doctors1 teachers1 ministers and fathers use tobacco1 legislation against the cigarette will increase our youthful criminals4 ,if a father has a moral right to use tobacco1 so has his boy4 ,if the boy can be led to see clearly that the use of tobacco is wrong1 if his conscience can be awakened and if his personal will can be brought to constantly oppose the use of it1 then he can be saved4 ,,this ,,is ,,the ,,only ,,remedy4 ,study the offense4--,find the natural consequence4 ,become an example of obedience to every law1 for your child4 ,show the child the results of wrong living and the benefits of right living4 ,this will usually obviate all punishment1 aside from what nature inflicts4 ,corporal punishment4--,if corporal punishment be unavoidable1 it should not be administered when either parent or child is angry4 ,this would only increase the cause that made the punishment necessary4 ,in most cases it would be best to postpone the punishment until the next day4 ,only a very rebellious child can be helped by this method4 ,scolding and threatening4--,from a hotel window ,i heard a mother say to her twelve-year-old girl1 8,i will gouge your eyes out40 8,i will slap your head off1 you little hussy40 ,a child treated in this way becomes willful or spiteful1 loses self-respect or respect for the parent4 ,scolding and threatening children are sins against their finer natures4 ,three good rules4--,the author's father would not employ men on his farm without the understanding that they were not to swear1 speak vulgarly about a woman1 or tell a 8ghost0 or 8bugaboo0 story in the presence of his children4 ,a servant1 man or woman1 about your business or home1 can undo or counteract in a few hours or days1 in a single statement or story1 picture or book1 act or habit1 the life efforts of a noble father and a pure mother4 ,one of the purest men recently said to me1 8,when ,i was only fifteen years of age ,i heard a servant utter one sentence that required a score of years to get its effects eradicated40 ,men have told me of the pernicious effects of servants1 dating back to when they were two and three years old4 ,frightful stories and startling statements1 of impending dangers1 destroy the natural freedom1 independence and courage of many children for life4 ,once ,i sat by the side of a nervous mother holding a nervous four-year-old girl in her lap1 as our train sped forward at the rate of fifty miles an hour1 over one of those magnificent stretches on a western prairie4 ,we had discussed heredity1 child training and other interesting and vital subjects1 when she referred to her nervous little girl and told me how at night she would notice her little body twitching1 jerking1 floundering and all at once she would awake with a scream having dreamed that she was falling from some dizzy height toward jagged rocks and certain death beneath2 or that some huge angry beast1 poised on tiptoes and in the act of pouncing upon her and tearing her body into shreds--a horrible nightmare4 ,about the time she had finished describing one of those fearful experiences and was in the act of asking me for advice1 we were passing an object on the outside that interested the little girl2 quickly she turned and began peering through the window4 ,she was in no danger4 ,her head was not projected beyond the window4 ,the nervous mother grabbed the little girl by the body and cried1 8,you are falling6 ,you are falling60 ,my reply to her request for advice was1 8,my6 if you should handle me that way1 ,i would have a half dozen nightmares here in open daylight40 ,i told that mother that her daughter's nervousness was due to bad heredity and bad environment and that she was responsible for both4 ,personal purity4--,as soon as a child begins to enquire about its origin1 it is old enough to be told the truth in the right way4 ,some children become interested when they are three and four1 all normal children by the time they are seven4 ,since the inquiring mind will not rest satisfied until a plausible answer has been received1 and since the ignorant and vicious youth is ever alert and anxious to give this information in a pernicious way1 it behooves the thoughtful parents to safeguard their children with the truth told in the right way4 ,no normal boy should reach the age of eight1 or girl the age of ten1 before they have been told the story of life4 ,children often discover1 or are taught1 the secret vice at a very early age4 ,sex consciousness and pleasure may be early developed because of some unnatural conditions of the sex organs4 ,for this reason1 parents should know that these parts are normal in their children4 ,when children are observed to frequently handle1 or scratch these organs1 unnatural conditions should be suspected4 ,the child should not be slapped or scolded1 rather call in the family physician4 ,trying to keep a child ignorant concerning this vice is impossible1 therefore unwise4 ,there is not one boy in fifty who does not know of the vice1 and understands the language used to describe it4 ,trying to keep a child from vicious companions is good as far as it goes1 but the facts are that the child is most likely to discover the vice himself1 while it is hardly possible to keep a child entirely away from the vicious4 ,the only sane method is to teach the child the laws of personal purity4 ,if the secret vice is to be prevented1 some children should receive council when they are six1 others at eight1 all by the time they are ten or twelve4 ,children have inherited lustful tendencies4 ,their troubles are more largely from within than from without4 ,hence the children that have been most carefully guarded from bad company and kept in ignorance are usually the ones who are most injured by the secret sin4 ,a single talk to a child is not sufficient4 ,we frequently instruct and appeal to the child to be obedient1 truthful and honest2 in like manner we should at reasonable periods instruct and encourage him to keep his thoughts and desires pure4 ,,second ,,division ,,how ,,to ,,teach ,,social ,,purity ,,and ,,sex ,,truths ,,to ,a ,,child ,,chapter ,,vii ,,the ,,right ,,of ,a ,,child ,,to ,a ,,knowledge ,,of ,,sex ,social conditions of childhood changed4--,the social conditions of childhood have changed much in the last fifty years4 ,just as our children have opportunities and possibilities far greater than had we when we were children2 so they are exposed to temptations and dangers greater than were we1 when we were children4 ,the suggestive1 and oft-times positively obscene pictures on post cards1 in books and on billboards2 the viciously immoral literature2 the cheap moving picture shows of to-day1 were not social problems threatening the purity of our childhood4 ,knowledge of self important4--,there were ethical1 biological and vital truths that our parents1 because of mock modesty and a false and inadequate education1 failed to give us in our childhood4 ,this was a serious defect in our early education4 ,we met with temptations1 were often overcome by them and we are not what we might have been had we been safeguarded by a better knowledge of ourselves4 ,but1 because of the better social conditions of our childhood1 we were better able to grow up without this information and with less injury to ourselves1 than our children can1 without this information1 under present social conditions4 ,if we would safeguard the character of the children of to-day and the youths of to-morrow and the manhood and the womanhood of the succeeding day we must give our children a correct knowledge of themselves4 ,the confidence of childhood4--,when children are born1 they have a capacity for learning how to stand alone1 crawl1 walk1 love and hate1 speak and read1 to judge of what is right and wrong4 ,all they may come to know in the future1 true or false1 good or evil1 they must learn4 ,coming into our homes without knowledge and utterly helpless1 they naturally come to recognize their parents as their rightful teachers and to have absolute confidence in them4 ,ask a child from three to ten years old who he thinks is the best man in the world4 ,the reply will be1 8my papa40 ,ask him who he thinks is the best woman in the world4 ,the instinctive reply will be1 8my mamma40 ,the answer may be true or false1 but we do not question the sincerity of the child4 ,the greatest calamity that can come to that child1 comes when he is compelled by convincing evidence to reverse in his judgment this sincere and implicit faith in the goodness of his parents4 ,no greater misfortune than this1 can come to the parents4 ,this natural and complete confidence and dependence of the child gives the parents a very decided advantage over all other teachers in the future training of the child4 ,inquisitiveness of childhood4--,it is because of this natural confidence that the child goes to the parents with his many questions4 ,the almost ceaseless activity and playfulness of a child1 are in response to nature's call for exercise in the natural and healthful development of every organ of the body4 ,the many questions of a child are in response to nature's call for exercise in the development of every faculty of the mind4 ,the unfolding1 growing1 developing mind of a child naturally asks questions4 ,it is for this reason that a child is said to be an animated interrogation point4 ,some of the questions of a child may perplex a philosopher1 tax the patience of a ,job1 or embarrass a brass monkey2 but the naturalness and sincerity of the child demand honesty1 frankness and wisdom on the part of parents4 ,how did ,i get into this world8--,at the age of three1 four and five the child will begin to ask questions as1 8,where does the rain come from8 ,where does the snow come from8 ,where do the clouds come from80 ,when kittens1 pups1 pigs1 a calf1 a colt are born1 the child very naturally asks about their origin4 ,the child is told repeatedly that he is four1 five or six years old2 that he has had that number of birthdays and has seen that number of ,christmases4 ,he remembers only half of them4 ,he listens with interest to his parents as they relate some thrilling event of years gone by4 ,a bright inquiring child will naturally ask1 8,mamma1 was ,i in the world at that time80 ,the mamma replies1 8,no1 darling1 that happened six months before you were born40 ,how very natural it was for the child to ask1 8,well1 mamma1 where was ,i at that time8 ,how did ,i get into the world80 ,an angel could not be more sincere1 or ask a purer question4 ,this was no evidence of the child's depravity4 ,when ,i find a child of seven or eight years old who has not asked about his origin1 ,i know that one of three conditions will explain this unusual mental state of the child4 7#a7 ,the parents have not encouraged the child's mental development by permitting him to be free in asking questions4 7#b7 ,the child has heard the story of life told by vicious companions1 in half truths1 clothed in vulgar language and is keeping his information a secret from his parents4 7#c7 ,the child is not developing quite as fast as ,i would like for my child to develop4 ,the unsatisfied mind4--,when the inquiring mind of a child has once become interested in this question1 it is not possible for him to be satisfied until a plausible answer has been received4 ,the child's future1 physical1 mental and moral life more largely depends upon the answer given to this question1 than to any other question of his childhood4 ,the most vital part of a child's education neglected4--,in the past1 parents1 teachers1 reformers and ministers have very largely held to the old theory1 that1 if children are to be kept pure and innocent1 they must be kept ignorant of all information pertaining to sex4 ,we have them learn the physiology1 anatomy and hygiene of their brain1 heart1 lungs1 digestive and nervous systems as if their very lives depended upon a correct knowledge of these parts2 but we have allowed them to grow up in total ignorance concerning the sacred sanctuary and function of human reproduction1 upon which so much of health1 happiness and success in life depends4 ,mistakes of the past4--,in the past all faithful parents have loved their children as much as we have loved our children4 ,they were as much interested in safeguarding the virtue of their children as are the parents of to-day4 ,they endeavored to train their children in harmony with their ideals of right4 ,our parents1 in their childhood1 got the idea that all language and information concerning sex was essentially impure4 ,all their information was received from vicious1 ignorant sources4 ,in matured life1 they came to see that all the words and language they had heard pertaining to sex and all the mental and moral impressions they had received1 had done them great harm4 ,their experience led them unwisely to conclude that all information of this kind is injurious to a child4 ,they failed to see the difference between receiving only half-truths1 expressed in vulgar words and phrases1 taught by the vicious and ignorant2 and in receiving the pure truth1 in chaste language from the lips of a wise teacher1 a noble father or a pure mother4 ,a nugget of gold may be pure gold1 whether found in a mud hole1 a slop bucket1 a tar bucket1 or a clear stream of water4 ,but1 if you come in contact with the surroundings of the gold1 your remaining clean1 becoming cleaner1 or becoming soiled1 will depend on the place where you find the gold4 ,the effects1 good or bad1 of sex knowledge1 upon a child are largely determined by where and how he gets his information4 ,if he gets this information from a careful and wise teacher no harm can come from it4 ,if he gets the information from the misinformed and the impure1 only harm will follow4 ,to teach sex truths1 two qualifications necessary4--,you would not think of having your child taught mathematics by one1 who1 himself1 was never properly taught1 or who knew only half-truths about mathematics4 ,you might not demand of him a moral qualification1 if he possessed the intellectual equipment4 ,but1 in the teaching of sex1 a moral qualification is even more necessary than the intellectual4 ,but few adults are prepared to tell the story of life to a child1 and fewer still are prepared to give additional instruction as the child grows older4 ,for one to do this work successfully two qualifications are absolutely necessary4 7#a7 ,parents and teachers must have a moral qualification4 ,they must regard the organs of sex and their functions as pure and sacred4 ,if they have the taint of lasciviousness in their thoughts of the creative function1 it would be a dangerous experiment for them to attempt to teach their children about the origin of life1 or to give other instruction to those more advanced in years4 ,the misinformation and false education they received in childhood and the consequent mock modesty1 are the greatest difficulties in the way of their performing this sacred duty to their children4 ,for this reason the adult classes are as much in need of correct instruction in sex as are the children4 7#b7 ,parents and teachers must have a mental qualification4 ,one-fifth of the names referring to the organs of sex1 their functions and their abuse1 that adults are forced to use when they try to express their thoughts about sex1 could not be found in the dictionary1 and1 one-half of those that could be found in the dictionary would not refer in their meaning1 even remotely1 to the sexual system4 ,they picked up these words in childhood from ignorant schoolmates and companions whose minds were tainted with debasing thoughts of sex4 ,the use of these vulgar words1 in the presence of a boy who has heard them before1 suggests to his mind that which is lascivious4 ,those who would teach these things1 to the young or old1 should be able to command a chaste1 clean1 plain1 language4 ,how a father failed4--,during one of my courses of lectures1 a cultured lawyer invited me to his office for an interview4 ,he reproduced1 in language and gesture as best he could1 a speech he had made to his twelve-year old boy warning him of the dangers of the secret sin4 ,i saw the lawyer was deeply interested in his boy4 ,he loved him and was deeply concerned about his future4 ,the language he used was the same he had learned when a boy and the same his boy had evidently heard on the playground4 ,i question whether the father's advice did his son much good4 ,here was a case where good service was neutralized by suggestive language4 ,how a teacher failed4--,a few months ago ,i lectured in a city where immorality was appalling4 ,the superintendent of schools called into the chapel about six hundred boys1 from ten to eighteen1 and attempted to lecture them on social purity4 ,he soon became embarrassed1 used some street terms1 excited lascivious thoughts1 looks1 smiles and laughter among the boys and utterly failed in his efforts4 ,if this lawyer and teacher failed with the advantages and solicitude they must have had1 would not the great mass of parents1 teachers and ministers fail for the same reasons4 ,parents not wholly responsible4--,a few editors1 doctors and reformers have censured parents severely for not teaching their children the truth on these subjects4 ,they should remember that ten years ago a very few parents had read a sane book or listened to an intelligent lecture on these subjects4 ,their only information had been gained from the playground and street on the sly4 ,courses of lectures1 adapted to age and sex1 should be given in every community4 ,ministers1 teachers1 physicians1 merchants1 parents1 young and old1 educated and uneducated1 all should hear them4 ,a few standard books on sex-hygiene and social purity should be put in every home4 ,jesus said1 8,ye shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free40 ,more people are in physical1 mental and moral slavery because of ignorance concerning the laws of sex1 than all other causes combined4 ,it follows that those who have learned the truth should impart it to those who have it not4 ,how children have been treated in the past4--,we have seen how parents have been led in the past to conclude that all information as to the origin of life is injurious to a child4 ,for a child to inquire1 8,where was ,i before ,i was born8 ,how did ,i get into this world80 was a sure sign of his depravity4 ,as a result of these traditionary ideas some parents have slapped a child for asking about his origin4 ,still1 others have scolded and ordered the child from the room1 commanding him never to ask such ugly questions again4 ,what must be the feelings of a child treated in such an unappreciative and heartless way6 ,such treatment has never satisfied the inquiring mind of any child4 ,under such treatment a child will go off alone1 pained and puzzled to know what was wrong in that simple1 natural1 honest question4 ,in most cases the child's question has been evaded by some one of a hundred falsehoods about 8swamps10 8sinkholes10 8hollow logs and stumps10 8bird nests10 8storks10 8old women10 8doctor's satchel10 and 8under a cabbage head40 ,when only a small boy1 ,i was called from my bed early one spring morning to see a beautiful colt the mare had found4 ,for awhile ,i looked at the colt with admiration and wonder4 ,then ,i very naturally inquired1 8,where did the mare find her colt80 ,i was told that she found it in a nearby brush pile4 ,for the next six months no brush pile escaped my eager eyes4 ,an example4--,on my second lecture trip through ,canada1 a father told me how he answered his little girl's question1 8,papa1 how did ,i get into this world80 ,his answer was as follows3 8,daughter1 ,god dropped you out of heaven one day while it was raining4 ,papa saw you falling from a cloud and ran out and caught you in his arms and brought you into the house40 ,that father was boasting of his tact and wisdom4 ,another example4--,a mother in the ,south1 in reply to a similar question asked by her five-year-old boy1 said3 8,son1 ,god sent you into this town on the ,cotton ,belt train1 about three o'clock one afternoon4 ,the doctor was at the depot and saw you4 ,he knew that we wanted a little boy1 so he put you in his satchel and brought you to mamma40 ,when this mother related this to me1 her boy was nine years old and had not asked her another word about his origin4 ,at the close of my lecture1 with tears in her eyes1 she said3 8,professor1 do you suppose that my little boy has been hearing vulgar stories and is keeping his information a secret from mamma80 8,yes1 nine times out of ten1 if you have a bright boy10 was my reply4 ,upon investigation she found that her boy had been hearing vulgar talk for about three years4 ,how long do you suppose it will take that boy to eradicate from his mind and heart the evil effects of such training8 ,it is not a question whether your child and mine shall get this information or not4 ,that question is settled4 ,the child will get the information4 ,the questions for us to settle are3 ,when shall this information be given8 ,who shall give it8 ,what shall be given8 ,how shall it be given8 ,results of the old method4--,i shall not call in question the love1 sincerity and honesty of these parents4 ,in most cases they were sincere and did the best they knew how4 ,i am concerned about the results of this time-honored method4 ,did the old method of deception1 misleading and false replies ever satisfy the inquiring mind of a child8 ,did the old method ever make a child wiser8 ,did it ever lead a child to regard human reproduction as delicate1 sacred and pure8 ,did it ever lead a child to greater love and faith in its parents8 ,only negative answers can be given to all these questions4 ,how the child finds out4--,as a rule1 it is not long after a child becomes interested in his origin until some older child1 a playmate or servant will say1 8,i know something that you do not know4 ,you would like to know it4 ,it is how little children come into this world4 ,i will tell you all about it1 if you will not tell your mamma and papa about it40 ,i do not care how good the child may be1 how well trained1 or how obedient3 such is the intense interest of a child in the mystery of his life that he will agree to keep the story a secret4 ,now the child listens eagerly to the half-truths1 couched in impure language and gets a perverted vision of the origin of life4 ,what are some of the results8--,five very sad misfortunes have come to the child4 7#a7 ,the child has learned that his parents evaded his question2 in most cases1 he discovers the answer to have been a falsehood4 7#b7 ,to the extent that the child comprehends the falsehood1 does he lose confidence in his parents4 7#c7 ,he has learned to keep these vital matters a secret from his parents4 7#d7 ,the child cannot think of his parents' relation to the initial of his life1 except in terms of vulgarity4 ,early images do not easily leave the mind of a child4 ,ugly words1 impure pictures1 obscene language1 with all their vile suggestiveness1 ofttimes remain through life4 7#e7 ,he regards the organs of sex and their functions as vile and sinful4 ,god never planned that any human being should entertain any such degrading and demoralizing views of the divinely created organs and function of human reproduction4 ,it is impossible to estimate the evil effects of this false training4 ,yet1 there are many people1 often very religious1 who estimate their modesty1 refinement and culture by the degree of conscious shame they have when questions of sex are referred to4 ,just to the extent that we fail to see that ,god is the author of sex1 that sex is sacred and pure1 our glory and not our shame1 has a false training degraded us4 ,boys lose confidence in their parents4--,you ask1 does a child lose confidence in his parents when he has discovered that they have told him a falsehood about his origin8 ,certainly he does4 ,in the past three years not fewer than seven hundred and fifty young men from eighteen to thirty-five have written me for advice in regard to their youthful indiscretions4 ,one question ,i have invariably asked those young men1 8,did your father ever warn you of your sexual dangers80 ,only two have replied in the affirmative4 ,those young men were once as innocent and pure as your little boy4 ,they first went to their parents for information about these delicate matters4 ,they were treated as ,i have described4 ,they received their information from sources and in a way that led to sexual abuse4 ,girls lose confidence in mother4--,while on a seven thousand-mile lecture trip1 in company with twenty other lecturers1 conducting purity conventions in many of the large cities in the ,united ,states and ,canada1 after the evening sessions were over1 in company with one or two detectives and other parties of our crowd1 we visited the 8red light0 districts and saw several thousand erring girls from twelve to twenty years old4 ,those girls were once as innocent1 pure and sweet as yours or mine4 ,they first went to their mothers and asked about the origin of their lives4 ,those were golden opportunities for safeguarding the virtue of those girls4 ,more easily than at any other time in life could those girls have been impressed with the sacredness of sex4 ,at no other time in life is it so true that 8an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure40 ,much more of ,christian effort is put forth to rescue the fallen than to prevent the youths from falling4 ,more churches are open to lectures on rescue work than on preventive work4 ,more money can be raised for rescue work than can be raised to prevent youths from falling4 ,boys and girls want to know the real truth4--,one morning a number of high school boys requested that ,i give them a lecture more advanced than the one ,i had given4 ,while passing through the hall1 at the close of this special lecture to the young men1 ,i was approached by the lady principal with the request from the high school girls for a special lecture4 ,she told me that fourteen had made the request and that several added3 8,we wish that ,prof4 ,shannon was a lady lecturer4 ,there are so many things we would like to know1 but would hesitate to ask a gentleman lecturer40 ,then the lady teacher added1 8,i said1 girls1 why do you not ask your mamma for such information80 ,with hands uplifted1 a look of surprise1 a gasp for breath1 those girls replied3 8,i would not think of asking mamma such questions40 ,why not8 ,let me tell you why4 ,when they were little innocent girls they went to their mothers with their first questions of sex4 ,they were treated as already indicated4 ,their inquiring minds and unsatisfied interests in the mysteries of life led them to go elsewhere for this information4 ,it was at this point in their lives that a chasm started to form between themselves and their mothers4 ,there is not one boy in twenty-five who will go voluntarily to his father for information or advice about his sex-nature4 ,the same statement is almost as true about girls and their mothers4 #a1jjj1jjj children adrift4--#a1ejj1jjj children are born annually in this ,christian nation4 ,one-third of this number die before they are ten years old4 ,annually one million children inquire1 8,how did ,i get into this world80 ,not more than one in twenty receive a kind1 truthful and intelligent reply4 ,more than nine-tenths are treated in one of the following ways3 7#a7 ,told some one of fifty falsehoods4 7#b7 ,a slap1 with orders to clear out4 7#c7 ,some form of ridicule1 such as 8shame on you40 8,don't let me hear you ask such an ugly question again40 8,i am disgusted with you40 ,that settles it4 ,the golden cords of confidence and influence are severed4 ,never again will those children go to their parents for information pertaining to sex4 ,elsewhere1 they will find friends who will gladly give them the information4 ,these children1 one million strong1 are now adrift on the storm-tossed sea of passion1 without chart or compass2 drifting1 drifting1 drifting for years toward ports1 to them1 unknown4 ,illustration3 ,,danger6 ,the virtue of a quarter of a million of boys sacrificed4--,time passes4 ,the boys are now sixteen to twenty-five4 ,they have boon and base companions4 ,their imaginations are at fever heat with morbid interest and their ambitions are aflame with daring4 ,one quarter of a million young men annually sacrifice the priceless gem of manhood's virtue just here4 ,now1 they are nearing the fearful rapids of vice where most of this number annually become diseased and many perish as sex-maniacs in the awful maelstrom of lust4 #fj1jjj girls annually4--,with the passing of time1 the girls from twelve to seventeen1 many without the safeguard of knowledge1 are associating freely1 gayly with their boon male companions1 exposed to all the temptations and dangers incident to young womanhood4 ,many1 many thousand young women annually sacrifice the priceless gem of womanhood's virtue just here4 ,owing to the double standard of morals1 sixty thousand of this number are forced against their own wills into the public maelstroms of immorality4 ,who is to blame4--,thousands of poor prudish parents line the shores1 and1 with broken1 bleeding hearts are crying out in anguish1 8,my ,god1 my ,god1 why has this awful blow fallen on us80 ,the poor1 ignorant1 diseased1 exiled1 passion-ridden children1 in many cases beyond the reach of the home1 society and the church1 exclaim1 8,oh1 if ,i had only been told of these dangers60 ,all along the almost socially inaccessible rock-bound shores of this sea of human passion1 the churches and philanthropists are building and maintaining rescue and foundling homes at an outlay of millions in money4 ,they are not1 and cannot1 rescue one in twenty4 ,the foundling homes are crowded to a dangerous1 unsanitary overflowing with illegitimate children1 whose mothers are out in the rapids of vice1 or entirely lost in the maelstrom of immorality4 ,too long have the churches been satisfied with snatching1 here and there1 a piece of human wreckage from the waves of vice1 instead of erecting a lighthouse system of properly warning and informing the childhood of the land4 ,the new way4--,we have seen the results of the old way of dealing with children in matters of sex4 ,is there a new and better way8 ,we shall see4 8,ye shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free40 ,the new and better way is to tell the truth to the child4 ,how shall a child be told4--,one day when our little girls were four and six1 wife said1 8,husband1 ,i am in trouble about our little girls4 ,they are asking where they were before they were born and how they got into this world4 ,how am ,i to answer them80 8,tell them the truth10 was my reply4 8,but1 they are not old enough to be told the whole truth10 was her reply4 ,we talked over the problem and arrived at the following solution of the problem3 ,since ,i had been a teacher of biology for years1 and it was presumed that ,i was familiar with the stories of life among the plants and animals1 it was agreed that ,i should at once tell them a nice little story about ,god's beautiful plan of bringing all the little plants into the world4 ,six months later ,i was to tell them the story of life about the oysters and fish4 ,every six months to a year ,i was to tell them a more advanced story4 ,as they were girls1 wife reserved the right to tell them the last story to be told when they were nine and ten4 ,these stories were all told in the order given4 ,our girls are now twelve and fourteen4 ,we have never had an occasion to regret that we have followed this natural method of instructing them4 ,they seem to have no morbid curiosity about questions of sex4 ,they look upon the facts as being natural1 sacred and pure4 ,wife and ,i can approach them on these subjects without embarrassment to them or us4 ,when should a child be told8--,the average boy should be told all these stories by the time he is eight1 not later than nine4 ,the average girl should be told all these stories by the time she is nine1 not later than ten4 ,the developing mind of the average child and the social influences to which he is exposed1 demand that he be safeguarded by the whole truth1 this early in life4 ,while the girl and boy develop alike until they are ten or eleven1 the boy being exposed to vicious companions more than is his sister1 he should be told the story of life earlier than she4 ,at the age of seven1 boys know more about these things than the girls do at ten and twelve4 ,you had better tell the child the truth at six1 than to have him told by the vicious at the age of seven4 ,if a child could understand the story of life at three1 and was properly trained afterward1 this information could not do him one particle of harm4 ,this statement is either absolutely true1 or ,god is the author of a plan of human increase1 the knowledge of which is essentially sinful4 ,personally1 ,i decline to believe the latter4 ,if the child has been informed by vicious playmates or servants and his mind has been tainted1 the only sane and safe method is to tell him the full truth as quickly as possible1 regardless of his age4 ,if the child has been allowed to grow up to the age of nine or ten1 ignorant of the story of life1 ,i would tell him all the stories1 beginning with the first story1 telling them only a few days apart4 ,where parents are not prepared to do this1 ,i would advise them to place a suitable book1 presenting these stories in a clear1 chaste and interesting way1 in the hands of the child1 saying1 8,here is a very interesting little book telling you just what you will be interested in knowing and what ,i would like for you to understand40 ,the ideal way4--,the ideal way would be to start with the child when he first inquires about his origin1 telling him the first story about the plants4 ,promise to tell him other stories about the oysters1 fish1 insects1 birds1 animals and man as he grows older and can understand them4 ,where a child is naturally very inquisitive and insists on knowing more1 ,i would not hold him off too long for the next story4 ,how to introduce each new story4--,i would introduce each new story by reviewing the story of the plants and flowers4 ,there are at least three reasons for this4 7#a7 ,you can go into all the details of reproduction in the flower without danger of awakening the sex consciousness of the child4 7#b7 ,it saves going into the detail when you have come to the higher animals and man4 ,the child's mind usually comprehends more than we give it credit for4 ,if he understands the details of reproduction in the flower1 his innocent fancy will fill in the details when he hears the other stories4 7#c7 ,if he has been so unfortunate as to fall in with bad company at any time and his mind has been tainted with their stories1 there is no means you can use in ridding his mind of impurity1 quite so effectively1 as by telling him the story of life in the flower4 ,teaching these truths in the public schools4--,the violation of the laws of sex is the chief cause of physical1 mental and moral degeneracy4 ,the degenerate classes are increasing at an appalling rate4 ,correct sex-instruction in childhood is the most important and effective step in the solution of this problem4 ,there is a growing conviction among the students of sociology that sex-hygiene should be taught in the public schools4 ,there are some teachers in all departments of school work1 who1 in morals at least1 are not fitted for this delicate work4 ,at present1 an extremely few have the educational qualification for this delicate work4 ,when teachers are required to take a course of training in these subjects1 there will still be but few who are possessed of the natural talent for effectively and wisely presenting these subjects to children of the different grades4 ,already colleges and universities and even a few high schools have begun to teach sex hygiene in a limited scientific way4 ,this work will first be introduced into the high school work and later1 gradually be introduced into the lower grades4 ,definite instruction will not be given1 for many years at least1 and possibly never1 to boys under eight1 and girls under ten or eleven4 ,if this statement is true1 it will be seen that the schools will have left the first and most important part of this training to be done in the home4 ,the teaching of morals in the public school can never be substituted for the teaching of morals in the home4 ,the present great awakening on these subjects will shortly result in three-fourths of the parents teaching these truths in their homes4 ,since one-fourth of the children do not get any moral instruction in the home and they do not go to ,sunday school or church1 the public school is the only place where they can be given moral training for citizenship4 ,how this can be done4--,in my opinion1 the safest and most effective method of dealing with these questions in the public schools1 for the present at least1 would be for the school boards in two or three counties to select and employ a gentleman and a lady lecturer1 having natural gifts1 moral and educational qualifications1 whose duty it shall be to lecture to all the boys and girls2 the male lecturer1 lecturing to the boys and the lady lecturer1 lecturing to the girls4 ,all other teachers should be required to be sufficiently versed in these matters to enable them to solve any individual problems that may arise in their social relations to the pupils in school4 ,,chapter ,,viii ,,the ,,first ,,story--,,baby ,,plants ,the author's experience4--,when our girls1 ,fay and ,fern1 were six and four years of age1 they became interested in learning about their coming into the world4 ,their mamma had told me of their puzzling questions4 ,we agreed that ,i should tell them a story of life1 every six months or a year1 until they were nine or ten4 ,then their mamma should tell them the last story1 the story of their life4 ,a few days later some young men1 whom we were helping through college1 and ,i were working among the flowers1 when one of the girls made some inquiry about the relation of birds4 ,this naturally opened the way for my first talk4 ,i promised her and her sister a very interesting story at the rest hour at noon4 ,as ever1 they were both anxious to hear a new story4 ,dinner over1 they followed me into the greenhouse4 ,i gathered a number of flowers and invited them to be seated near me while ,i told them the story4 ,praise a child for asking4--,i opened the story by saying1 8,mamma tells me that you have become interested in knowing where you were before you were born and how you got into this world4 ,we have talked together about your interest in this matter and we are glad that you have asked these questions1 and especially because you came first to us4 ,for you to ask these questions so early in life indicates that you are very bright and intelligent4 ,we are your natural teachers4 ,we love you as no one else does or can4 ,in the future1 anything you wish to know about yourselves1 come to us and we will take pleasure in telling you all that is best for you to know40 ,why the child should be told gradually4--,you would like to be able to read and understand all there is in the fourth reader4 ,there is nothing in the fourth reader that could do you a particle of harm4 ,there are many things in the fourth reader that you could not understand4 ,papa and mamma might read and try to explain them to you4 ,still1 there would be some things that we could not make plain to you1 for the reason that you are not old enough for your little minds to grasp them4 ,you understand that you must learn first what there is in the first reader4 ,when you have learned all there is in it1 then you are ready for the second reader4 ,the mastery of the second reader prepares you for the third and the third reader prepares you for the fourth4 ,there are some things that you understand to-day1 that you could not understand six months ago4 ,this great world is full of things that you cannot understand now2 but1 as you grow older and your mind grows stronger1 step by step1 you will learn and understand things that you cannot understand now4 ,there are so many things in this world that may be known1 that no one lives long enough to learn them all4 ,just so1 you would like to know how ,god brings little children into this world4 ,this is ,god's wonderful plan4 ,it could not do you a bit of harm to know all about it1 if you could understand it4 ,but you are not old enough now4 ,papa can tell you a beautiful story about how ,god brings all the little sprigs of grass1 weeds1 vegetables and trees into the world now1 and in a few months ,i can tell you about the mussels1 oysters and fish4 ,then1 when you are a year older1 ,i will tell you about the birds2 later1 ,i will tell you about the higher animals4 ,when you are eight or ten1 mamma will tell you the last story--,god's beautiful plan of bringing little children into the home4 ,some things right one time and wrong at another4--,you are both old enough to know that there are some things we do that is right for us to do under certain conditions1 but would be very wrong for us to do under other conditions4 ,some things would be right to do during the week1 but wrong if done on ,sunday4 ,every few days you take an all-over bath4 ,it is perfectly right for you to take these baths and for your mamma to help you4 ,all people1 who desire to live cleanly lives and enjoy good health1 take frequent all-over baths4 ,but you have noticed that when you take baths1 other people are not invited to be present1 not even papa is present4 ,this is because our bodies are sacred4 ,we wear clothing that our bodies may not be exposed to the gaze of other people4 ,we do not speak the name of ,god and ,jesus in a light and frivolous way because these names are sacred4 ,why we do not talk about the origin of life4--,one of the most delicate1 pure and sacred experiences connected with human life is ,god's beautiful plan of bringing little children into the home4 ,it is so sacred1 pure and delicate that good people seldom speak of it1 and never in a light and foolish way4 ,it is for this reason that you have never heard your mamma and papa speak of it4 ,it is right for fathers and mothers1 husbands and wives to speak to each other about this matter2 also1 for grown people1 when there is some good reason for doing so4 ,it is not wise or best for little children to talk about how children come into the world except to their parents4 ,we are your natural teachers and we want you always to feel free to come to us with questions about things of this nature4 ,when you are older you will understand better why papa gives you this advice4 ,many men and women1 boys and girls have not been carefully trained to be good4 ,they get angry and quarrel or fight1 use bad language1 break the ,sabbath1 and do many other wrong things4 ,some appear to take pleasure in doing wrong and in leading others to do wrong4 ,this class of people do not look upon ,god's plan of bringing little children into the world as being pure and sacred4 ,they use very bad language when they try to talk about the story of life or tell it to others4 ,when little children hear these people talk about the story of life1 their little minds and hearts are filled with bad words and very wicked thoughts4 ,in this way many little boys and girls are started wrong in life and they are sure to have a hard and painful struggle to rid themselves of impure thoughts1 words and habits in after life4 ,it may not be very long until some schoolmate or someone older than you will say1 8,i know something that you don't4 ,you would like to know it and ,i will tell you1 if you will not tell your papa and mamma about it40 ,now1 girls1 whenever someone wants to tell you something and asks you not to tell your mamma and papa1 you may be sure that it is wrong1 that it will injure you1 and most likely it is false4 ,mamma and papa would advise you to say to them1 8,we don't want to hear anything that we cannot talk about to mamma and papa40 ,story of the plants4--,the story of life that papa will tell you to-day will be about the plants1 vegetables and trees1 how their young come into the world4 ,papa has gathered some beautiful flowers with which to illustrate the story4 ,this will be our first lesson in ,botany4 ,every part of a plant has special names4 ,many of the names are too difficult for you to remember4 ,when you get older you will learn and remember the names4 ,the story of life in all flowering plants begins in the flower4 ,the outer parts4--,at sight1 we notice that the many parts of a flower are arranged in whorls or circles4 ,the outer whorl is called the 7#a7 calix4 ,you will notice that in some of these flowers1 the calix is highly colored1 in others it looks like little green leaves and in some of the flowers the calix is absent4 ,you will observe that in some flowers the calix is composed of four or more parts4 ,these separate parts are called 7#b7 sepals4 ,in other flowers the sepals have grown together so they appear to be only one sepal4 ,in such flowers we count the sepals by the small notches on top4 ,the second whorl is called the 7#c7 corolla4 ,this whorl is usually the most highly colored part of the flower4 ,if either of these whorls is absent in a flower1 it is the calix4 ,sometimes both whorls are absent4 ,the separate parts of the corolla are called 7#d7 petals4 ,sometimes the petals are separate from the base of the flower4 ,in other flowers they are more or less united4 ,the papa parts4--,while the calix and corolla form the most attractive and beautiful parts1 they are not the most important parts of a flower4 ,the prettiest things are not always the best or most useful things4 ,let us now carefully examine these central organs4 ,they are called the essential organs4 ,were it not for these organs in the flowers1 no new grasses1 plants1 vegetables and trees would come into this world4 ,such a misfortune would rob this world of most of its beauty and much of its value4 ,in this flower1 the next whorl consists of a number of small slender organs4 ,these are called 7#e7 stamens4 ,they are the father parts of the flower and possess the father nature4 ,on top of these organs are little delicate bodies1 poised lightly1 and filled with a very fine dust4 ,these little bodies are called 7#f7 anthers4 ,the fine grains of powder are called pollen4 ,you can rub the pollen off with your finger4 ,this dust varies slightly in color in different flowers4 ,the mamma parts4--,the central organ in this flower is called the pistil4 ,the pistil is composed of three parts4 ,at the base of the pistil is the 7#g7 pod1 more correctly called the ovary4 ,in the ovary little seed are formed4 ,on top of the ovary is a slender organ called the style4 ,on top of the style is a spongy enlargement called the 7#i7 stigma4 ,the stigma1 style and ovary form the mother part of the flower and possess the mother nature4 ,in some plants each flower has more than one pistil4 ,illustration ,how the papa and mamma natures unite4--,when the pollen is ripe1 the anther cells burst open and the little1 light1 powdery pollen falls out and it is carried by gravity1 the wind or by insects to the stigma4 ,the little pores of the stigma open and admit the grains of pollen and the style carries the pollen to the ovary where it unites with the little seed4 ,the seed are then said to be fertilized4 ,this means that the father and mother natures have united in the seed4 ,the seed grow and develop in the ovary4 ,while this is being done1 food for the little baby plants to live on while only a day or two old1 is being stored up in the seed4 ,in such seed is the tiny beginning of a future plant4 ,the seed ripen in the pod4 ,the pod bursts open and the seed fall upon the ground1 or men gather them1 and later plant them in the soil4 ,the spring sunshine and rain cause the seed to sprout and as tiny stems appear above the ground1 only an inch or so high1 they are nothing in the world but little baby sprigs of grass1 little baby weeds1 little baby vegetables or little baby trees4 ,when ,god created the first grasses1 plants and trees1 ,he commanded them to be 8fruitful and multiply40 ,in this story you have learned how all the grown-up plants and trees obey this command of ,god4 ,the two natures do not always exist in the same flower4--,in the flowers we have studied1 we found both the male and female organs in the same flower4 ,each flower possessed the two natures1 male and female4 ,but this is not true of all plants and trees4 ,in some plants and trees flowers can be found having only stamens4 ,these would be father-flowers4 ,they could not produce seed or fruit4 ,on some plants and trees may be found flowers having only pistils4 ,these are mother-flowers4 ,flowers of these two kinds may be found growing on the same limb of a plant or tree1 or on different limbs1 or on different trees4 ,the poplar and willow trees are examples of the last kind4 ,in the case of the ,indian corn1 the ear of corn1 including the cob1 the grains1 shuck and silk form the mother part of the cornstalk4 ,the tassel of the cornstalk is the father part and contains the father nature4 ,the tassel produces a great deal of pollen4 ,you have1 on passing through a patch of corn1 noticed the pollen falling everywhere and covering everything4 ,ears of corn sometimes have as many as #ajjj grains of corn to the cob4 ,each grain sends out one or more little silks beyond the shuck to catch some of the pollen4 ,should these little silks fail to catch the grains of pollen1 no grains of corn would form on the cob4 ,the father and mother natures must unite if little seed are formed4 ,from this we learn why it is that every little sprig of grass1 weed1 vegetable1 and tree must have a father and mother and their natures must unite4 ,the three methods4--,we mentioned three ways by which the pollen from the male organs is carried to the stigma of the female organ3 wind1 gravity and insects4 ,in the corn1 the ears are below the tassel and gravity is all that is necessary to carry the pollen to the silks4 ,where one tree bears bloom having only stamens and another tree of the same species bears flowers having only pistils1 nature may use both the wind and insects in carrying the pollen from the male to the female tree4 ,in some plants and trees the blooms are so constructed that gravity and the wind are of but little service4 ,in such flowers a sweet juice is formed at the base of the flower4 ,this attracts the bees and insects4 ,as they press down into the flower to sip the sweet juice they rub off some of the pollen on to their wings1 legs and back4 ,the next flower they enter1 some of this pollen is rubbed off on the stigma of that flower4 ,in this way the seed are fertilized4 ,from this we see that the real purpose of the sweet juice in the flower1 is not produced for food for the insects1 but for the purpose of attracting the insects so they may carry the pollen from one flower to another4 ,a most wise1 sacred and beautiful plan4--,in this little story1 you have learned in a general way ,god's plan of bringing all little grasses1 plants1 vegetables and trees into being that come from a seed4 ,you have learned two great laws1 namely2 every plant that comes from a seed must have a father and mother1 and1 the father and mother natures must unite in the seed4 ,these two great laws are just as true in the animals and in the human family as among the plants4 ,when we most admire a beautiful bed of flowers or a blooming tree1 when we gather a bouquet of flowers to wear1 or offer to a friend1 at that very moment the two natures are uniting for the purpose of increasing their kind4 ,god is the author of the male and female organs of the plants and for this reason the union of their two natures is sacred and pure4 ,plants were the first living things that ,god made2 man was the last4 ,the plants were at the bottom of ,god's work of creation2 man was at the top4 ,if the same laws we have found in the plants1 that enable them to bring their little children into the world1 are the same laws that enable human fathers and mothers to bring their little children into the world1 and since we found this plan to be sacred and pure among all the flowers2 then this same plan1 when used in the human family1 must be pure and sacred4 ,if man is so much higher in the scale of life than the flower1 then these laws must be even more sacred in the human family4 ,this will show you how very degrading it is to entertain low and vulgar thoughts about the coming of little children into this world1 as some people do4 ,,chapter ,,ix ,,the ,,second ,,story--,,baby ,,oysters ,,and ,,fish ,the story of baby oysters4--,before telling this story to my little girls ,i reviewed the story of the plants4 ,this refreshed in their minds certain very important laws that they had learned in the first talk4 ,this talk was given when they were about six and eight years old4 ,in studying the story of life among the plants1 you will remember that we learned that in most plants the male and female organs of sex were in the same flower4 ,among the lower forms of animal life1 we find both the male and female natures in the same animal4 ,the oyster furnishes a good example4 ,these little animals are surrounded with and fastened to a very hard and heavy shell4 ,these animals live in great masses and their shells are cemented together4 ,growing in this way they cannot move about1 or mix and mingle with each other4 ,the mother parts of the oyster produce little eggs which are fertilized by a substance formed by other organs containing the father nature4 ,the fertilized egg1 when laid1 floats off and becomes attached to the shell of some oyster on a nearby rock4 ,later1 it hatches and the little baby oyster forms about its body a hard shell that is made larger as the little animal grows4 ,in this way the little oysters come into the world4 ,among the oysters1 we find the same laws that we found in the plants1 i4 e41 each baby oyster must have a father and mother and the father and mother natures must unite4 ,in the plants the father and mother natures unite in a little seed2 in the oyster this union takes place in a little egg4 ,when ,god made the fish1 lizards1 snakes1 birds and higher animals1 he gave to one a papa or male nature1 with suitable sexual organs2 to another animal of the same kind he gave a mamma or female nature1 with suitable female or sexual organs4 ,in the plants we find that the female sexual organs1 the ovaries1 produced little seed4 ,we found that the male sexual organs1 the stamens1 produced a fine powdery substance called pollen4 ,among the animals1 the sexual organs of the mother produces little eggs and the sexual organs of the father produces a fluid called semen4 ,the story of baby fish4--,now we will study the fish4 ,in the spring season of the year thousands of tiny eggs are formed in the ovaries of the mother fish4 ,when these eggs are matured1 the mother fishes swim in large crowds1 called 8schools10 from the deep water of a stream1 river or sea to some shallow place that seems to them to be suitable for a nest or home for their young4 ,the mother fishes lay their eggs in a mass of albuminous substance1 like the white of an egg1 that spreads out in a very thin sheet holding the little eggs one in a place and close together4 ,the father fishes swim along sometimes a foot1 a yard or more behind the mothers and expel from their bodies the semen that unites with and fertilizes the eggs4 ,this special fluid of the male fish is formed by his sexual glands1 called testes4 ,in this way the father nature unites with the mother nature to produce every little fish that comes into this world4 ,why the mother fish lays so many eggs4--,the female fish forms thousands of these little eggs in her body each year4 ,the female codfish has been known to lay as many as #f1jjj1jjj eggs in one season4 ,you could not count as many in a lifetime4 ,the reason why the mother fish produces so many eggs is1 that not one fish egg in twenty-five1 on an average1 will ever hatch and not more than one out of twenty-five little fishes ever grow to be an inch long4 ,they have little1 or no1 protection1 and they have so many enemies4 ,there are hogs1 turtles1 crocodiles and alligators2 the ducks1 geese and other water fowls2 as well as most of the fish that feed upon fish eggs and small fish4 ,that the streams1 rivers and seas may be kept supplied with an abundance of fish1 ,god has planned for the mother fish to lay thousands of eggs4 ,all baby fish are orphans4--,most kinds of fish leave their eggs as soon as they are laid and fertilized and never see or know their young4 ,there are a few male fish1 known as game fish1 which swim over and around the eggs until they are hatched to keep other kinds of fish from eating the eggs4 ,as soon as the eggs are hatched1 he leaves4 ,in this way all little fish grow up as orphans4 ,they never know or enjoy the presence of their parents4 ,the parent fish do not labor or sacrifice for their young1 and1 for this reason1 they have no love for them4 ,should they ever meet their young in the river or sea they would have no way of knowing them or of feeling any sense of joy4 ,fish do not pair off4--,we found in the study of the plants that the seed were fertilized while in the pod or ovary4 ,in the fish we found that the eggs are fertilized outside of the mother's body4 ,in nearly all the animals above the fish the eggs or ova are fertilized while in the mother's body4 ,there is no love between the male and the female fish4 ,they do not pair off and live in families4 ,among all the spiders1 lizards1 serpents1 many of the insects1 crawfish1 frogs and toads there is a tendency1 at certain seasons1 for the male to choose a female with a view to a home and family4 ,but among all the animals we have named1 many of the male and female animals part or leave each other as soon as the eggs are fertilized1 and all the others leave each other as soon as the eggs are hatched4 ,the love of the male for the female lasts but for a little time2 while there is no love for their young after they are hatched4 ,before the young are hatched some of their parents show interest in their eggs and make some provisions for their young when hatched4 ,but this is all done before the young are hatched4 ,the young all grow up as little orphans4 ,,chapter ,x ,,the ,,third ,,story--,,baby ,,birds ,when our little girls were seven and nine this talk was given4 ,the previous stories were reviewed bringing out the resemblances and differences4 ,they were permitted to ask questions4 ,in this talk they were very alert to see and apply all the lessons learned from previous stories4 ,the beginning of love4--,in this review of the story of life1 among the plants and fish1 we found no love or personal feeling between the male and female4 ,among the insects and reptiles we found that the males and females choose each other1 when led by instinct to bring their young into the world4 ,from the fish to the birds we find the simplest form of love and interest on the part of the parents in their young4 ,this is shown by the care the parents take in the protection and care of the eggs and the food prepared for the young before they are hatched4 ,the male crawfish picks up the fertilized eggs with his feelers1 that are arranged in a double row underneath his tail1 and1 by means of these feelers1 he carries the eggs close to his body until they are nearly ready to hatch4 ,the frogs and toads show great tenderness for their eggs4 ,a great many books have been written about all these animals and when you are older you will be greatly interested in learning more of the detail of reproduction among these curious animals4 ,among all the animals we have studied the male and female separate as soon as the eggs are fertilized and laid1 in other cases as soon as the eggs begin to hatch4 ,the parent animals show no interest in their young after they are hatched and their children never know their parents or love them4 ,the ant and the bee4--,two exceptions should be made to the above statement1 the bee and the ant4 ,they do not pair off and mate1 as do other insects1 but they live in colonies1 or societies4 ,they do not seem to have any special interest in their offspring or even a mate1 but in the whole community of bees or ants4 ,the perfect social organizations they form and the homes they build rival the skill and intelligence of man4 ,there are some interesting books written about the bee and ant by persons who have spent years in studying them4 ,when you are older you may be interested in reading such books4 ,baby birds4--,we will study ,god's plan among the birds4 ,in studying the family life of the birds we find a higher form of instinct1 more love and care for each other and their young than among the animals we have studied4 ,we often feel disgusted at the ugly1 slimy toads1 lizards and serpents living in swamps and pools4 ,but not so with the birds4 ,most of them are very interesting and beautiful and some are fine musicians4 ,among most of the wild birds of the fields and forests1 in the spring time the male chooses among the females the one that most suits his fancy and they are mated or married4 ,when they decide to raise them a family they build them a nest4 ,this is their home4 ,the partridge and lark build their nests on the ground1 the swallow in chimneys1 the pigeons in barns1 the woodcocks and woodpeckers in hollow limbs1 the wild ducks and geese on the ledges of rocky cliffs1 or in the high grass and weeds on the edge of a lake1 but most birds build their homes in bushes and trees4 ,the cuckoo does not build a nest1 but lays her eggs in the nest of other birds1 to get rid of all labor and trouble of hatching1 feeding and rearing her young4 ,we feel a natural contempt for the cuckoo4 ,in every female bird there are organs called ovaries where at certain seasons little eggs are formed4 ,while small or soft they are fertilized by the male bird4 ,as the egg grows in the body of the mother bird a hard thin shell is formed around them4 ,when the eggs are fully formed and the nest is completed1 the mother bird lays the eggs in the nest1 usually one egg a day4 ,for several days these eggs must have some extra heat or they will not hatch4 ,among most birds1 the mother sits on her eggs so that the warmth of her body will cause the fertilized cell in each egg to form the little bird4 ,while she sits on the eggs the father bird gathers fresh berries and worms and brings them to the mother bird to eat4 ,when not bringing her water or food1 he is usually found perched upon a nearby limb cheering his wife by talking and singing to her4 ,when her little legs become tired1 he will take her place1 while she goes and finds fresh food or water4 ,when the little birds are hatched1 from sunrise to sunset the parents are busy catching worms and insects and feeding their young4 ,as their children grow older and larger1 in some mysterious way1 they teach them the danger of men and guns1 cats and snakes4 ,when they are about grown they are taught to fly4 ,from this time until the next spring they will live in flocks1 when they will again mate and raise a family4 ,in this way all the beautiful feathery songsters are brought into this world4 ,,chapter ,,xi ,,the ,,fourth ,,story--,,baby ,,animals ,,and ,,man ,as the days and months glided by1 our little girls were greeted one autumn morning by the advent of a little baby brother4 ,wife had given consent1 years gone by1 for me to tell the foregoing stories of life2 but1 only a few months before the above event1 she had requested the privilege of telling this last story1 as the girls would naturally ask of her how the little fellow came4 ,this she told them1 in a way no doubt1 better than ,i could have done4 ,in lecturing to multiplied thousands of boys and many hundreds of girls1 ,i have told the stories of life much as ,i did to my little girls1 with this story added4 ,baby animals4--,we will now study ,god's plan of increase in the higher animals and man4 ,we shall find many striking resemblances and interesting variations between the lower forms of life that we have studied and the higher forms that we shall now study4 ,all along the ascending scale of life we have found male and female organs of sex1 possessing male and female natures4 ,we have found that the male organs of sex produce a fertilizing substance called pollen in plants and semen in animals2 that the female organs of sex produce seeds in plants and eggs in animals4 ,we have found that every new plant1 fish1 insect1 and bird comes from the union of the pollen with the seed1 or the semen with the eggs4 ,this last fact is true of the higher animals and man4 ,we found that the seed of the plants are fertilized in the ovaries of the mother organs2 that eggs of fish are fertilized outside of the body of the mother2 that the eggs of insects and birds are fertilized inside of the mother's body4 ,this last plan is also true of the higher animals and man4 ,we found that the seed of plants were sown or planted in the soil2 that the eggs of fish were deposited in water2 that the eggs of insects and birds were laid in some specially arranged place for them1 usually called nests4 ,in the higher animals and man the young starts from a tiny fertilized egg and grows in an organ in the mother's body1 called the womb1 until it is strong and old enough to be born4 ,the earliest stage of plant life in the little seed is called an embryo4 ,when the seed has been planted and the little embryo appears above ground1 it is then a little baby plant4 ,the earliest stage of animal life in the egg of the fish1 insect or bird1 is an embryo4 ,the mother part of the plant stores up food in the seed and the growing embryo feeds upon this food1 until its little roots have grown down into the soil where they can take up food from the soil and the blades or leaves are large enough to receive light and heat from the sun and food from the atmosphere4 ,the mother fish1 insect and bird store up food in their eggs for the little embryos to live upon until they are hatched4 ,among the higher animals and man1 the embryo begins with the tiny fertilized egg in the mother's womb and receives nourishment and life from the mother's blood through a duct1 called the placenta1 which is connected with the mother's womb at one end while the other end connects with the body of the embryo at a point called the navel4 ,in this way the mother furnishes the young with all the air1 food1 water and life that it gets until it is born4 ,among the higher animals and man the young when born are very tender and helpless4 ,for several weeks or months they are fed on milk from their mother's breasts4 ,in higher forms of life the birth of young is attended by greater sacrifice and suffering than in lower forms of life4 ,for months1 and in the case of man1 for years1 the parents must labor and sacrifice to feed1 protect and educate them4 ,birth in the human family is attended by greater suffering and the little baby is more helpless and tender1 and for this reason requires more tender care than the young of any other animal4 ,you have observed that in the lower forms of life where the parents do not have to suffer to bring their young into the world or labor to provide for them food or shelter that they do not love their young4 ,as we ascend the scale of life in our study1 we find that love exists between the parents and young just in proportion as the parents suffer and labor for their young4 ,one of the most impressive and effective ways of telling the story of life in man was told by a wise and queenly mother in the following true story4 ,this mother introduces the story by telling how solicitous she became about her little boy when he was about seven or eight years old4 ,he was in the public school where he was likely any day to hear the story of life from some wicked boy4 ,she was anxious that her boy should hear this story first from his mother's lips4 ,how a mother told the story of life to her boy4--,in telling the story1 the mother said3 ,one morning1 the opportunity that ,i had been praying and watching for1 came4 ,i observed my little boy playing rather roughly1 not cruelly1 with the pet cat4 ,speaking kindly to him1 ,i said1 8,son1 don't be rough with the old cat2 handle her gently40 8,why1 mamma80 he replied4 8,son1 mamma cannot make the reason clear to you now1 but you obey mamma and in about ten days1 mamma will tell you a very beautiful story1 and1 then you will understand40 ,as those days glided by1 with pride ,i observed the unusual attention and kindness he showed the old cat4 ,one morning1 about ten days later1 he came running into my presence1 perfectly delighted1 wonderfully elated1 and overflowing with joy1 he invited me out the back way to see what he had found4 ,i anticipated his discovery1 but ,i wanted him to have all the pleasure4 ,so1 ,i offered him my hand while he proudly led the way4 ,as we stepped from the back porch1 turning he pointed his finger under the floor2 ,i looked1 and there was the old mother cat and by her side were four as beautiful little kittens1 basking in the sunlight1 as the human eye ever saw4 ,he bragged about having found them2 called my attention to their color and markings2 and claimed two of them as his own4 ,we sat down on a rustic seat where we could still see them4 ,we admired their plumpness1 color1 eyes and playfulness and chatted together about them4 ,at length ,i said1 8,son1 do you remember about ten days ago when you were playing rather roughly and ,i asked you to handle the old cat tenderly80 ,promptly he replied2 8,yes1 mamma1 and you promised me that in about ten days you would tell me a beautiful story that would explain why ,i should handle the old cat kindly4 ,can you tell me that story this morning80 8,yes1 son1 mamma is ready to tell you the sweetest and purest story that a mother can tell her son4 ,when mamma asked you to be kind to the old cat1 those four little kittens were then in her body4 ,that was why the old cat was larger than she is now4 ,the little kittens were then much smaller and very tender1 and1 had you been rough with the old cat1 you might have injured them2 and1 then1 they might have been born crippled1 deformed or dead4 ,when they were born three or four days ago their little eyes were so tender that the full light of the sun would have put out their sight1 so they were born with their eyelids closed and glued together4 ,the old cat knew how tender their eyes would be1 so three or four days ago she went away back under the dark floor and gave them birth4 ,as they have grown older and their eyes have become stronger1 every few hours the old cat has brought them a few feet nearer the light4 ,meanwhile1 their eyelids have gradually opened until they can now look up at the sun as well as you can4 ,if they had been born out in the open1 the full light of the sun would have made their tender little eyes very sore or put them out40 ,by this time ,i saw that my boy was very anxious to ask me a question4 ,i was just as eager for him to ask it4 ,i believed that he was going to ask the very question that my mother heart longed for him to ask2 the very question that ,i believed ,god wanted my little boy to ask4 ,i paused and looked into his little upturned face4 ,as his deep1 true blue eyes met mine1 spontaneously1 naturally1 seriously he enquired1 8,mamma1 was ,i once in your body1 too80 8,yes1 son1 you were formed in mamma's body1 in a little nest or home underneath mamma's heart4 ,you started as a little cell4 ,for two hundred and eighty long days1 nine full months1 nearly a whole year1 you were growing in mamma's body4 ,mamma knew that you were there and loved and prayed for you long before you were born4 ,mamma had to be careful not to meet with an accident lest you might be born crippled1 deformed or dead4 ,mamma had to be cautious about the food she ate1 the air she breathed1 the water she drank1 the exercise she took1 all she thought and did2 because you were united to mamma by a little cord filled with blood vessels1 through which mamma was supplying you from her blood with all the materials necessary for your forming body1 mind and soul4 ,in this way you were being influenced by mamma4 ,mamma was anxious that you might have a healthy and perfect body and grow up to be a smart1 good and great man4 ,if mamma had been angry1 untruthful or dishonest during these months that you were a part of her1 you might have been born with an ugly disposition1 tendency to steal or be untruthful4 ,mamma was very careful about all she thought1 said and did during the months you were a part of her body4 8,mamma knew about the day that you would leave your little home and come into this world4 ,for hours mamma suffered great pain4 ,the faithful doctor was present and did all he could to lessen mamma's suffering4 ,papa stood at my side1 held my hands in his1 often stooped over and kissed my lips1 cheeks and brow4 ,as soon as you were born1 the air rushed into your lungs and you cried1 just as all little babies do when they are born alive4 ,mamma heard your baby cry and it thrilled her with joy known only to a mother1 when she knows that her little baby is alive4 ,but1 son1 when you were born and for many weeks and months1 you were tiny1 tender and helpless4 ,no one in this world1 and1 ,god could not have found an angel in all of heaven who could have cared for you as well as mamma could4 ,mamma fed you at her breast1 held you in her lap1 fondled you in her arms and sung lullabies to you4 ,when you were only a few weeks old you would have the colic4 ,all night long your little body would be racked with pain and mamma would walk the floor with you1 rub your little body and sing to you40 ,by this time my little boy was standing up close by my side1 had both arms thrown around my neck1 his little lips were kissing my cheek1 and tears were rolling down his on to mine4 ,then he said1 8,mamma1 ,i am glad you have told me that story4 ,i love you better now4 ,i did not know that you loved and prayed for me before you ever saw me2 that you were so careful that ,i might be well born2 that you had to suffer so much when ,i was born2 and that you cared for me so good when ,i was so small and when ,i was sick4 ,this story will help me love you better and ,i will try never to disobey or tell you a falsehood40 99 99 99 99 99 ,do you not see how much better it was for this boy to hear the story of his life from the pure lips of his loving mother1 than to hear it first from the lips of some ignorant and wicked boy or man8 ,well this is the story of your life4 ,you cannot understand now how much your mamma suffered in bringing you into this world4 ,then1 both your father and mother have made many sacrifices for you and are deeply interested in your future4 ,if you should make a shipwreck of life1 ,i am sure that their old days would be spent in grief4 ,how can you repay your parents for all their sacrifices8 ,if you will keep your thoughts1 words and actions pure1 every time your parents see or think of you1 they will be thrilled with joy and appreciation4 ,will you not now promise yourself and promise ,god that by ,his forgiveness of the past1 grace and help now and in the future1 that you will keep yourself pure8 ,when you have done this will you not go and kiss mamma1 and tell her that you love her better than ever before and that you are determined to live up to her prayers and wishes8 ,,chapter ,,xii ,,practical ,,questions ,,and ,,answers ,when should parents begin telling a child of his origin8--,when a child asks about his origin he is old enough to be told the first story4 ,some children will ask about this by the time they are three or four years old1 others not until they are five or six4 ,a normally developing child will certainly become interested in this matter by the sixth year4 ,if a child has not asked about his origin by the time he is six1 it would be wise for the parents to ascertain by questioning him whether he has received this information elsewhere4 ,if they find he has gained this information from the vicious1 what should they do8--,i would suggest that they wisely1 tactfully and kindly ask him to tell them all he has heard1 promising him that they will tell him the real truth in a number of very interesting stories4 ,if he has received only very limited information1 ,i would tell him at once the story of the plants and promise him another story in a few days or weeks about the oysters4 ,if he has received considerable information in half-truth and learned several vulgar expressions1 ,i would tell him these stories of life1 one at the time and one each day until ,i had covered all the half-truths he had learned4 ,i would endeavor skillfully to impress him with the sacredness of the laws of life4 ,i would try to induce him to discard every false name he has learned by giving him the chaste pure names4 ,i would teach him that we should be modest and discreet regarding these organs1 and when and how to speak of them2 that we should carefully avoid entertaining the idea they are in themselves sinful or that they are our shame and humiliation2 that these organs and their functions are sacred1 delicate and pure2 and that they are our pride and our glory4 ,if this advice were universally followed by teachers1 ministers and parents among all children over ten1 youths and adults1 it would immediately reform and purify society4 8,if a child1 especially a boy1 is not fully satisfied with the information contained in these stories1 and should ask for a more detailed explanation of the child's origin1 how would you answer him80--,i would first try to decide whether the child is prompted by natural or morbid curiosity4 ,if the child is sincere1 very bright and inquisitive1 you will have a very pleasant task and one that should result in only good to the child4 ,i would start with the plant and show just how the two natures reach each other in the seed4 ,then ,i would pass in my detailed explanation to the oyster and fish4 ,i would call his attention to the real visible examples of mating among the insects1 birds1 and domestic animals4 ,i would call his attention to the father and mother of insects and birds as they build their cells and nests to receive their eggs when laid4 ,i would call attention to the fact that food is stored up in the egg or cell for the young before and after it is hatched4 ,i would call his attention to the fact that among the animals where the young is born alive1 that the mother furnishes the young with food before it is born4 ,if the child has witnessed the mating of the birds and domestic animals and this is explained to him in detail1 the necessity for a detailed discussion of human mating will be avoided4 ,the child could be informed that human mating is practically the same4 ,if the child is prompted by morbid curiosity1 the task is a more difficult one1 the ideal results are not so certain1 but the above method is the only one that can be safely followed4 ,to be able to give sex and social purity truths effectively to children and youths1 what qualifications should parents and teachers have8--,they should have tact or skill4 ,it is possible to approach them in such a way as to do great harm4 ,this qualification comes to one as a result of careful study of these subjects1 the consciousness of personal responsibility and a realization of the child's need of being safeguarded by a clear knowledge of the truth4 7#b7 ,they should be able to discard all words and phrases they learned from the ignorant on the street and playground4 ,they should be able to use a chaste1 simple1 scientific sex vocabulary4 7#c7 ,they should be free from all mental and moral taint4 ,no one can tell or willingly listen to a lascivious joke and then be able to tell effectively a child of his origin1 the functions of his sexual system and his temptations and dangers in connection with them4 8,would it be safe for all parents and teachers to give sex information to children80--,it would1 if all possessed the qualifications mentioned4 ,a thief is not the proper person to teach honesty to a child4 ,a liar is not the proper person to teach truth4 ,a tobacco-using father is not the one to teach his boy not to use cigarettes4 ,a swearing man is not qualified to teach his boy not to swear4 ,occasionally a child is saved from one or more of these vices by becoming utterly disgusted with the vice in his father4 ,the child is an imitator4 ,the child is quick to detect the difference between teaching and practice4 ,one must practice what he teaches1 if he expects his child or pupil to accept and follow his teaching4 ,if parents and teachers do not possess these qualifications1 what should they do8--,it is their duty to prepare themselves for this service4 ,under present social conditions1 they are not qualified to be at the head of a family1 or to teach children unless they have these qualifications4 ,those who have these responsibilities upon them and feel that they cannot at present effectively perform these duties can secure the services of others or they can place in the hands of a child or youth a safe and interesting book containing what the child needs to know4 ,if a child is told these delicate truths will he not tell other children about them8--,that will depend upon the nature of the child1 the way he has been trained and the tact used in telling the story of life4 ,some children have inherited a gossipy nature and some have been unfortunately trained4 ,they would4 ,but most children would not seek to inform other children2 they would not seek this information from the vicious when they know they could obtain the truth from parents and teachers4 ,,third ,,division ,,how ,,to ,,teach ,,social ,,purity ,,and ,,sex ,,truths ,,to ,a ,,girl ,,chapter ,,xiii ,a ,,talk ,,to ,,mothers ,similar information needed by the boy and girl4--,thus far the author has dealt with the best methods of telling the story of life to a child4 ,these stories can be as effectively and appropriately given by one parent as by the other4 ,where children develop early or where they are very inquisitive1 it would be well to begin earlier and tell the stories faster than you would to the other class of children4 ,boys and girls are neuter as to gender until they are ten and eleven years old4 ,the information given to one may be given to the other4 ,carefully ascertain if your child is perfectly normal in his or her sexual organs4 ,this is too vital to be neglected4 ,a simple operation performed on a boy or girl when only a few days1 weeks1 months1 or years old would often save a child from a life of impure thoughts and vicious habits4 ,how to satisfy morbid curiosity4--,every possible means should be used to keep small boys and girls from acquiring and cultivating morbid curiosity about the sexual organs of each other4 ,this is not accomplished by telling them that the difference between a boy and girl is that one wears trousers and the other dresses4 ,this can be prevented or overcome by having small boys and girls in the home both together under the mother's watchful care4 ,while bathing or dressing the baby1 the older boys or girls may be permitted to view and admire baby's body4 ,in one of these ways the mother can in a perfectly natural and modest way make it possible for the children to observe the difference between boys and girls4 ,most likely one will ask some question pertaining to this difference4 ,the mother can then explain that the organs of sex make the difference between boys and girls2 that these organs of the boy will cause him to grow up to be a man and these organs of a girl will cause her to grow up to be a woman4 ,the earlier in life the boy and girl becomes acquainted with this difference1 the less of morbid curiosity they will develop4 ,the boy of ten4--,when the boy reaches the tenth year he begins to look upon life from the masculine point of view and his father is his natural teacher4 ,if the father is dead or careless the mother should see that her boy is given such information as his developing boyhood and manhood demands4 ,the informed mother could do this herself1 other mothers could have the family physician give her boy talks or she can secure suitable books that will furnish him this information4 ,the mother should be careful to purchase for her boy only such books as are perfectly chaste1 accurate and adapted to his age4 ,the girl of ten4--,when the girl reaches her tenth and eleventh year she begins to look upon life from the feminine point of view and her mother becomes her natural teacher4 ,but if mother is dead or indifferent the father should see that his daughter receives from himself1 a lady doctor1 or buy for her a good and appropriate book containing what her developing girlhood and womanhood demands4 ,advantages of beginning early4--,there are several advantages in beginning this instruction early2 your child's first impression regarding the organs of sex will be that they are pure and sacred1 you retain your child's confidence1 and your child will feel free to come to you for future instruction4 ,if you do not begin early your children get this information from the vicious and ignorant youths1 their mind and hearts will be filled with impurity1 you lose their confidence and they may reach a condition where they will not allow you or anyone else to advise them on these matters4 ,wise instruction needed4--,when a girl is eleven she has reached an age where her approaching womanhood demands other lines of sex instruction4 ,the study of social questions has made rapid progress in the last ten years4 ,there are few sincere1 thoughtful parents who do not recognize the need of wise instruction in these matters for children4 ,wise mothers are asking1 ,what1 ,when and ,how ,shall the ,truth be ,told8 ,a talk on the dawning of womanhood4--,the mother should give her daughter instruction concerning her approaching adolescence4 ,this should be given before the courses start4 ,this change usually occurs when the girl is from twelve to fourteen4 ,in girls of precocious development1 this change may occur in the eleventh year4 ,many mothers say nothing to their daughters about this period of life4 ,this is a very great mistake4 ,when it occurs in the life of the uninformed girl1 she is often greatly frightened and resorts to some injurious device1 such as cold water1 to stop the work of nature4 ,through doctors1 husbands and wives ,i have found that many women owe their poor health to mothers who failed to give this natural and vital information4 ,the female form4--,in this talk the mother should inform her daughter about her organs of sex1 their ,god-given functions and the meaning of the change that is likely to come to her at any time4 ,don't intimate that she has organs to be ashamed of1 but teach her that these organs form the sacred sanctuary which will one day enable her to become the sweetest and holiest of ,god's creatures--a pure1 happy mother4 ,ask her to notify you of the first signs of this change and promise to give her another talk about how to care for herself at the time4 ,be a companion to the daughter4--,a true mother will be her daughter's best 8chum0 cultivating the most intimate confidence and companionship4 ,if you will do this1 your daughter will be free to come to you for information and advice pertaining to her sex problems and you will rarely have to say to her1 8,thou shalt not40 ,a confidential talk4--,by the time the girl is twelve the mother should have a confidential talk with her about the secret vice4 ,while girls are not so likely to be taught or to discover this vice1 and are not likely to practice it to the extent of boys1 yet authorities claim that one-third of the females practice the secret sin at some time in life and to some extent4 ,it is claimed by some authorities that more women1 than men1 are in the asylum because of this vice4 ,this is because their nervous system is so much more delicate than is the case in men4 ,in schools and sometimes among servants in the home may be found a sex-pervert who will take a fiendish delight in teaching this vice to a little girl4 ,mothers cannot be too cautious about these dangers4 ,a real transition4--,few mothers begin to comprehend the mental phases that attend the dawning of womanhood4 ,the building of the new sex life means a real transition from one distinct period of life to another1 from the experiences of girlhood to womanhood4 ,for the first four years of adolescence there is a constant clash in her mind between the feeling of the girl that was and the woman that is to be4 ,this is caused by the creation of a new life1 the sex life1 whose immediate functions is to change her from girlhood to womanhood4 ,this new life is stimulating rapid growth and changes in many organs of the body1 awakening the social nature1 quickening every faculty of the mind and giving new impulses to the moral nature4 ,no wonder that the girl does not always understand herself4 ,the mother needs to be tact and wisdom combined1 if she is to understand her daughter and assist her in giving proper direction to this new life4 ,inform your daughter that these strange experiences are due to the changes that are taking place in her body and mind2 that she will often have tendencies to be peevish1 irritable1 cry and take offense1 to be sentimental and self-conscious4 ,remind her that you have not forgotten the experiences of your girlhood1 that you are sympathetic1 that you are interested in helping her overcome all wrong tendencies and that you will gladly aid her all you can in the direction of this new life to the development of charming1 ideal womanhood4 ,important advice to mothers4--,gradually everything pertaining to her womanhood should be told her4 ,instill into her mind slowly and cautiously the beauties of wifehood and the sacredness of motherhood and teach her that these glorious honors in their perfection come only to those who know themselves1 think pure thoughts and live pure lives4 ,don't tease little girls about sweethearts4 ,don't rush them into society4 ,allow them to remain innocent1 playful girls as long as possible4 ,when fourteen or fifteen1 tactfully impress upon her mind that unkissed lips will be the most queenly gift that she can offer her king at the marriage altar2 that virginity of mind and body will be appreciated by him as of more value than the most costly jewels4 ,teach her to demand a white life of her male friends and admirers1 and1 to demand as pure a life of her coming prince as he will demand of her4 ,,no ,,one ,,had ,,told ,,her4 ,she was just in the bloom of life's morning2 ,she was happy1 and free1 and fair2 ,and a glance in her bright eyes would tell you ,of nothing but innocence there4 ,she was waiting for some one to tell her1 ,as she stood with reluctant feet1 ,on the banks of the wonderful river ,where childhood and womanhood meet4 ,she waited1 but still no one told her ,the secret of life so sublime2 ,and she held not the safeguard of knowledge ,in life's beautiful morning time4 ,the flower so sweetly unfolding ,was crushed by a rough hand one day1 ,and the jewel1 so sacred1 so precious1 ,was stolen and taken away4--,selected4 ,,chapter ,,xiv ,,mother',s ,,first ,,talk--,,the ,,female ,,form ,you have been told ,god's plans in bringing all the little fish1 plants1 birds1 animals and human babies into the world4 ,you have enjoyed all these stories4 ,we have not gone into detail in these talks4 ,when you are older1 if you desire you can study the laws of life more thoroughly4 ,we have tried to satisfy your inquiring mind and lead you to see that ,god's laws of increasing life are pure and sacred4 ,all these years you have been a little girl4 ,you have been growing larger and wiser all the time4 ,you have worn short dresses1 loved your dolls1 played with little boys and girls2 you have been innocent1 free from care1 jolly and happy4 ,you will be a girl for several years to come4 ,you should not be in a hurry to get away from the joys1 pleasures1 and ways of girlhood4 ,however1 ,god has not planned for you to be a girl always4 ,he has wisely planned for you to grow and change in body and mind1 from a girl into a woman1 that you may some day be a mother4 ,a review4--,in previous talks we found that every little baby plant and animal had a father and a mother4 ,we found that the pollen produced by the small organs of the flower had to unite with the seed formed by the mother organs1 before a little plant could come into the world4 ,we found among the animals that little eggs were formed by organs in the mother's body1 called ovaries1 just as seed are formed by ovaries in the flowers4 ,we also found that these little eggs formed by the mother organs could not become baby animals without the union of a life-giving substance from the father animals4 ,in the higher animals1 where the mother nurses her young with milk formed by the mother's breasts1 we find many resemblances to the lower animals1 with some very interesting additions to the reproductive organs4 ,among some of the lower animals1 such1 for example1 as mussels and fish1 no provision is made to nourish and feed their young2 some1 such as the bee1 store up food in cells2 while still others1 such as the bird1 provide food for the young for some days after they are hatched4 ,mothers of the higher animals and man4--,in the higher animals1 the mother supplies her young with food for weeks or months after they are born1 by means of organs called breasts or udders4 ,these organs are not found among the lower animals4 ,they are vitally associated with1 and therefore a part of1 the female organs of sex of the higher animals and man4 ,how mothers in the lower and higher forms of life differ4--,among the higher animals1 the eggs are formed by ovaries1 just as in the case of plants and the lower animals4 ,here we find another important addition to the female organs of sex4 ,as soon as the egg is formed by the ovary it passes1 by means of a duct called the fallopian tube1 into a pear-shaped vessel called the uterus1 or womb4 ,here1 if the egg is fertilized by the male substance1 it becomes attached to the wall of the womb4 ,at this point of the womb1 a cord is formed1 containing a vein and artery1 called the placenta4 ,the placenta connects with the body of the young at a point called the navel4 ,the forming young receives its air1 food1 and life through the cord from the mother's blood4 ,there is a very close resemblance between the creative organs and their functions in the higher animals and man4 ,we could not become fathers and mothers without these special organs of sex4 ,the essential female organs of sex4--,these consist of ovaries1 oviducts1 womb1 vagina and breasts4 ,all these organs1 except the breasts1 are on the inside of the body--in the lower part of the abdomen4 ,in a mature woman the 7#a7 ovaries1 two in number1 are small almond-shaped glands just below the navel and are four or five inches apart1 one located in the left side of the body and the other in the right4 ,the ovaries are enveloped in a broad1 thin1 strong membrane and connect with the upper part of the 7#b7 womb by slender cords called 7#c7 oviducts4 ,illustration ,location and function of the ovaries4--,there takes place in every girl1 when she is from twelve to fifteen1 a remarkable change1 called puberty1 or adolescence4 ,from this time on1 until she is forty to forty-five years old1 there will be formed in one of the ovaries every four weeks a tiny egg1 or ovum4 ,the ovum is less than #a_/abj of an inch in diameter4 ,when this little egg breaks through the membrane of the ovary1 it would drop down into the cavity of the body were it not for a most wonderful provision4 ,the oviducts1 or1 as they are often called1 the fallopian tubes1 are ducts connected with the upper part of the womb1 are three inches in length and have finger-like ends4 ,when the little egg breaks through the membrane of the ovary1 the little fingers of the oviducts close about the ovary and receive the little egg which then enters the tiny mouth of the oviduct and is conveyed through its small cavity to the womb4 ,the location and function of the womb and vagina4--,the womb1 or uterus1 is located midway between the ovaries on the right and left1 and between the bladder in front and the rectum behind4 ,the ovaries and the womb are supported near the center of the abdomen by means of cords and muscles stretched across from the walls of the abdomen4 ,the womb is a pear-shaped muscular organ with the small end pointing downward1 and in a matured woman is three inches in length1 two inches in width and with walls one-half inch thick4 ,the cavity of the womb is small and has three openings1 two near the top leading into the oviducts and one at the bottom opening into the 7#d7 vagina4 ,it will be seen from the cut that the lower end of the womb dips into the upper end of the vagina about one inch4 ,this part of the womb is called the 7#e7 os uteri1 or mouth of the womb4 ,the vagina in a grown woman is from four to six inches in length1 of firm but very elastic tissue4 ,it aids in holding the womb in position1 serves as a passageway for the menstrual fluid to pass from the body1 and has other purposes that will be mentioned in another chapter4 ,the breasts4--,the form and position of the 7#f7 breasts1 or mammary glands1 being known to you1 it is not necessary for me to describe them here4 ,through the nerves they are closely related to the other sexual organs4 ,with the approach of puberty they make considerable growth4 ,however1 it is not common for a girl's breasts to develop to any considerable size before she is married4 ,when she becomes a mother1 the hundreds of tiny glands in her breasts form milk from her blood with which to nourish her child4 ,the creative energy4--,from the dawning of puberty1 all through life1 day and night1 asleep and awake1 the breasts and other sexual organs are generating an energy that is being distributed throughout her entire being4 ,it is this energy that helps to develop the girl into perfect womanhood4 ,if the breasts and ovaries of a small girl could be painlessly and skillfully removed without injury to any part of her body1 she would not develop into perfect womanhood in other respects4 ,this experiment proves that these organs are secreting an energy that is necessary in developing and maintaining an ideal womanhood4 ,information concerning the external organs4--,the word vulva is the name of the lower external female organs of sex4 ,it is composed of the following parts3 7#a7 ,the labia majora are the outer and larger lips or folds2 7#b7 ,the labia minora are the smaller and more concealed lips2 7#c7 ,the mons ,veneris is the prominent1 eminence formed by fatty tissue situated just in front and above the labia majora2 7#d7 ,the hymen is a very thin membrane which partly closes the opening to the vagina2 7#e7 ,the clitoris is a small organ of an erectile structure and is the site of passion in the female4 ,this organ is situated near the upper and front part of the opening into the vagina and between the folds of the labia minora4 ,connected with this organ is a small tough membrane or ligament called the frenum which corresponds to the frenulum of the male4 ,sometimes1 though rarely1 this is short and tight or broad and hooded4 ,when this is the case the parts become irritated at times causing sex consciousness and passion2 and when it does the girl will rub or scratch these organs4 ,if she does this often she will become conscious of a sense of pleasure4 ,she will then handle the organs for the purpose of producing this pleasure4 ,in this way a girl will learn a vicious habit1 the nature and effects of which we will study in another talk4 ,while only a few girls have this trouble1 it is very necessary that the causes be removed4 ,should you find yourself frequently rubbing these organs you should speak to mamma about it4 ,confidential advice4--,in the mucous membrane of these external organs of sex are thousands of little glands that secrete a foul1 filthy substance called smegma4 ,if this is not removed frequently with a damp cloth1 it will irritate these organs and produce an offensive odor4 ,if you should discover that you are frequently scratching those organs1 or have an unnatural feeling1 you should consult your mamma for advice4 ,your health1 happiness1 life and character are1 to a considerable extent1 based on these organs' being natural and normal4 ,,chapter ,,xv ,,mother',s ,,second ,,talk--,,dawning ,,of ,,womanhood ,an interesting change in a girl's life4--,in the previous talk1 we found that ,god has planned for a most interesting change to take place in a girl's life4 ,this change from girlhood to womanhood1 called puberty1 and covering a period of eight years1 is brought about by certain changes in the sexual organs4 ,at birth these organs are inactive and remain so until the girl1 in this climate1 is thirteen or fourteen years of age4 ,in the ,southern states it occurs a year sooner4 ,in ,central ,america1 puberty comes when the girl is ten and eleven4 ,in ,canada this change comes a year later than here4 ,thus we see that climatic conditions either hasten or retard this change4 ,in climates where puberty is delayed to the fourteenth and fifteenth years1 girls are healthier1 more energetic and live longer than in warm climates4 ,this would indicate that the longer puberty is delayed in a girl's life1 if she is otherwise healthy1 the better for her4 ,if the girl keeps company with wild girls1 enjoys obscene jokes1 reads cheap novels1 entertains impure thoughts or handles her sexual organs1 she may cause puberty to come on six months sooner than it naturally would come--a misfortune indeed for her4 ,in a few girls1 especially those who develop rapidly1 puberty may occur in the eleventh year4 ,signs of puberty4--,during this period of puberty1 or adolescence1 which usually lasts for eight years1 she is changing from a girl to a woman4 ,this is one of the most important events in a girl's life4 ,the approach of this period is usually heralded by an uneasy feeling in the small of the back1 heaviness about the ovaries1 sometimes by headaches and possibly by pains in other parts of the body4 ,one of the ovaries has formed a little egg or ovum4 ,a flow of mucus tinged with blood1 formed by the mucous membrane of the womb1 passes from the body by way of the vagina4 ,this usually lasts about four days4 ,meanwhile the ovum is conveyed by the fallopian tube to the womb where1 after the flow has ceased1 it remains several days1 before passing from the body by way of the vagina4 ,menstruation4--,the discharge is called the menstrual fluid4 ,if the girl is healthy1 this will occur once each lunar month1 or every twenty-eight days4 ,it is for this reason that the flow is called menstruation4 ,this word comes from the ,latin word 8mensis10 meaning a month4 ,this monthly experience is known by several names1 8,menses10 8periods10 8courses10 and 8unwell40 ,the doctors use the term 8,menses10 and this is doubtless the best one to use4 ,how made regular and painless4--,when a girl has good health1 does not expose herself so as to take colds1 dresses so as not to compress her body and push these organs out of their proper place1 takes plenty of outdoor exercise1 keeps her mind pure and free from ugly thoughts1 and does not abuse her sexual organs1 she will be regular in her menses and will feel but little inconvenience or pain4 ,experience shows that just in proportion as a girl fails to follow the rules ,i have just stated1 will her menses be irregular and painful4 ,physical1 mental and moral changes4--,it will be noticed in the first stages of puberty that the limbs are growing larger and more shapely1 the shoulders are growing backward and downward1 the chest is expanding1 the breasts are enlarging1 the skin is becoming more delicate and rosy1 the hips are growing broader1 the hair is growing thicker1 longer and more glossy1 and the voice is developing richer tones4 ,with all these physical changes that are taking place1 the mental and moral natures are changing as well4 ,the girl will now take a keener interest in society1 and in mental and moral matters4 ,these changes show that the developing sex life is making a woman of the girl4 ,the charms of womanhood4--,this new life is making her attractive1 lovable1 sociable1 brilliant and attractive4 ,this new life adds very much to the natural charms of a girl1 making the naturally beautiful girl more beautiful and the homely girl more attractive4 ,the girl with a 8doll face10 and weak in her sexual nature1 will not be as attractive as the more homely girl whose normal sexual life has given her these personal charms of a healthy1 strong womanhood4 ,when you see or feel the first signs of this change1 consult your mamma1 and she will give you directions and advice about how to care for your person during the menses4 ,this is a perfectly natural experience that all girls have4 ,it indicates that the special organs are developing and preparing for motherhood4 ,menstruation is not a disease2 it is a natural function4 ,girls should be proud of this new accession to their girlhood4 ,health1 happiness1 and beauty of womanhood and the sacred function of motherhood1 which will one day declare them the sweetest and holiest of ,god's creatures are vitally related to this function4 ,girls with perfect health1 who are usefully and happily employed1 who entertain no base ideas of this function and who pay no special attention to it1 experience little or no pain and little flow4 ,meaning of menstruation4--,ovulation and menstruation usually occur about the same time4 ,ovulation consists in the formation of an ovum or egg by one of the ovaries once a month4 ,without the formation of the ovum motherhood would not be possible4 ,menstruation consists of a flow of bloody mucus formed by the velvety lining of the womb4 ,this has the effect of purifying a woman's blood and preparing the womb to receive the ovum4 ,after this change first takes place several years will be required before she is old enough to marry and raise a family4 ,until she is married1 the ovum each month lingers in the womb a few days and then passes out4 ,when she is married1 if she and her husband are strong and healthy1 at the close of some menstrual period a cell from the husband will unite with one of these little eggs1 which will become attached to the velvety walls of the womb1 the door to the womb will close1 and this beginning life will grow for two hundred and eighty days1 when the door of the womb will open and a little baby will be born into the home4 ,,chapter ,,xvi ,,mother',s ,,third ,,talk--,,choosing ,a ,,chum ,early ,adolescence4--,you are now entering upon that period of a girl's life known as the adolescence period4 ,you are now passing from girlhood to womanhood4 ,this period will be about seven to eight years long4 ,the first four years will be the most important years of your life4 ,this is true for many reasons4 ,during this period you will be largely a girl and partly a woman4 ,the mind of the girl that was and the woman that you will be1 will occasionally cause you to have confusing experiences4 ,you will have many new and strange feelings1 emotions1 impulses4 ,during these years you will need the advice of those older than yourself4 ,new social desires4--,one of the new experiences you will have1 will be the desire for social privileges4 ,you will want a little girl chum4 ,this is perfectly natural4 ,god has given you a social nature4 ,you should cultivate your social gifts4 ,this will enlarge your happiness and usefulness4 ,why a girl wants a chum4--,the reason small girls desire chums is because the new sex life stimulates and awakens the social nature4 ,this is a period in a girl's life when she is especially interested in things romantic and sensational4 ,girls naturally choose their special chums1 and it is so easy for them to engage in conversation that they would not want their mothers to hear4 ,this sensational friendship might lead to exaggeration1 disobedience1 and the secret meetings with other girls or boys4 ,it is not hard for a mother to see how her daughter might become thoughtless1 rash1 indiscreet and be overtaken in some very great wrong4 ,a girl needs two chums4--,in this period of life little girls need two chums1 her mother and a girl friend4 ,she will often need her mother's advice in the choice of a girl chum4 ,choosing the right chum4--,if you wish to have one or more girl friends1 you should exercise great care in your choice4 ,if you find a girl inclined to exaggeration1 to use by-words1 to use improper language while talking about her boy friends1 to desire secret meetings with boys1 however attractive she may be1 you should not be chummy with her4 ,to form intimate friendship with such girls would be a great risk4 ,you will find it safest always to be chaste1 sincere and dignified in conversation1 even with a girl chum4 ,this does not mean that you should not have innocent fun4 ,the wise girl4--,the wise girl will take her mother into her confidence and ask for advice in the choice of her chum4 ,mamma will always appreciate the opportunity to be to you a chum1 a friend1 a companion and a mother4 ,,chapter ,,xvii ,,mother',s ,,fourth ,,talk4--,,confidential ,,advice ,organs of sex can be abused4--,in other talks we learned the names1 position and functions of the different parts of the female form4 ,in this lesson we will study one of the abuses of the organs1 and the effects4 ,in childhood1 youth and middle and old age the organs of sex may be abused in several ways4 ,if girls knew their delicate nature and their sacred mission1 ,i am sure they would never abuse these organs4 ,the more delicate and sacred an organ is1 the more serious will be the penalty following its abuse4 ,the abuse of these most delicate organs of the body results in poor health1 poor development1 much suffering1 and should the victims marry1 their children would be puny1 sickly and short-lived4 ,the bearing of strong1 healthy1 beautiful1 playful children is woman's highest mission4 ,it is for this reason that girls should understand the nature and functions of these organs and the results of abusing them4 ,the secret sin--how learned4--,the special abuse we shall consider at this time is one that small girls are liable to learn or to have taught them by companions or servants4 ,this habit has several names4 ,it is called the 8secret sin10 or 8secret vice10 for the reason that every organ of the body1 faculty of the mind and power of the soul is abused by it2 8self-pollution10 because it is filthy2 or 8masturbation10 which comes from two words meaning the abuse of the body with the hand4 ,this abuse consists in rubbing or handling the sexual organs so as to excite them and bring on a feeling of pleasure4 ,usually this vice is taught a girl by some companion4 ,if a girl does not keep these parts clean1 they become irritated and she will be disposed to rub or scratch them4 ,in this way she would likely awaken a sense of pleasure and finally discover the vice4 ,it sometimes occurs1 not often1 that a small ligament or membrane1 called the frenum1 is too short or broad1 and this causes irritation and leads a girl to discover the secret vice4 ,if you should find yourself inclined to rub those parts often1 you should mention it to mamma4 ,a girl may1 by pressing this part of her body against some object1 or by sitting with her feet underneath her1 with the sole or heel of a shoe pressing or rubbing against these organs1 discover this vice4 ,what you should not do4--,from these illustrations you will learn that you should never handle or rub these organs except to wash and keep them clean4 ,when you study these organs with a view to understanding them1 or when you think of their sacred functions1 these mental relations to these organs never do them harm4 ,but when you entertain thoughts about them that you would not be willing to express to your mother2 when you read an immoral book1 look upon an obscene picture or engage in improper conversation about these organs1 then these mental states cause the blood to rush to these organs and sex consciousness and passion follow4 ,a girl cannot keep from the secret sin if she permits her mind to engage in wrong thinking4 ,the moral effect of the sin4--,perhaps the first effect of this sin is to be seen in the moral nature4 ,the expression in the girl's face often indicates that she is conscious of wrong doing4 ,she will likely become irritable1 peevish and disobedient4 ,she will not take the interest in prayer1 the ,bible1 good books and the church she once did4 ,the mental effects4--,the constant excitement of the organs of sex leads to many forms of nerve trouble4 ,the mind becomes sluggish and stupid4 ,memory fails and sometimes the poor victim becomes insane4 ,this habit leads to a gloomy1 despondent1 discouraged state of mind4 ,one does not longer enjoy life4 ,because of this mental state many commit suicide4 ,the physical effects4--,perhaps the most noticeable effects of this vice are to be found in the physical system4 ,the eyes become hollow and lusterless1 complexion sallow1 cheeks haggard1 lips and ears pale1 muscles soft and flabby1 the breasts shrink1 the bodily form is stooped and weak4 ,every time the life-giving blood is caused by this sin to rush in undue quantities to these organs1 it returns to the heart with less of life and more impurities4 ,such girls will grow up to be weak1 puny women and will suffer from dyspepsia1 consumption and nervous troubles4 ,if you have learned to misuse these organs1 you must determine that you will never do it again4 ,by keeping the mind pure and never abusing these organs you will develop a healthy and perfect body1 a bright and cheerful mind1 a charming1 winning personality1 and live to be useful and happy4 ,two letters from young women4--,from a large number of letters received from young ladies who have heard the author's lectures or read his books1 the following letters are added to this chapter4 ,a big-hearted man in ,canada gave #ejj copies of ,perfect ,manhood to that number of young men4 ,fortunately1 a young woman who was greatly in need of help1 read one of these books4 ,these letters tell the sad story of thousands1 whom the author is anxious to help4 ,first ,letter4-- ----,m--1 ,,canada4 ,dear ,professor3 ,you will doubtless be surprised at receiving a letter from a young lady of twenty-seven1 on a very delicate subject4 ,recently1 ,i read one of your books1 8,perfect ,manhood10 presented by a friend to my brother4 ,it was a great revelation to me4 ,i wish ,i could have read it when ,i was twelve4 ,when eleven1 ,i was taught the secret sin by older girls4 ,i continued the habit until ,i read your book4 ,i never received one word of instruction about this vice from parents1 teachers1 or physicians4 ,when twenty1 ,i became an invalid4 ,for one year ,i was placed in a hospital and treated by eminent specialists4 ,i improved much4 ,when ,i was twenty-four1 my mind failed me and ,i was placed in a private institution4 ,i am now very gloomy1 despondent and ,i constantly dread a return of mental trouble4 ,i will greatly appreciate the favor if you can give me some additional advice and help4 ,please help me if you can4 ,most sincerely1 ---- ,some four times a year1 for three years1 ,i received a letter from her4 ,for eighteen months her letters indicated a hard-fought battle1 small victories and a strong determination to win out4 ,each succeeding letter indicated greater victories4 ,in her last letter she assured me that her womanhood had been restored and that she was entertaining a marriage proposition from a worthy and very superior young man4 ,professor ,t4 ,w4 ,shannon1 ,city4 ,,dear ,,sir3 ,i heard your lecture this afternoon and am now going to write for help and advice4 ,first1 ,i shall tell you the story4 ,like most children1 ,i began quite early in childhood to ask about my origin1 and received answers that were falsehoods4 ,i do not remember just what ,i was first told1 but the replies given did not satisfy my enquiring mind4 ,i eagerly listened to the vulgar stories of servants and schoolmates and before ,i was twelve years old my mind was taken up with lascivious thoughts and vulgar expressions4 ,two months before ,i was thirteen1 ,i was taught how to practice that awful habit1 the secret sin4 ,i became a slave to it4 ,i could not stop4 ,in the spring after ,i was fourteen ,i was converted4 ,again ,i tried1 oh so hard1 to quit this habit1 but ,i could not4 ,my mind was filled with those ugly words and ,i could not expel them4 ,this sin is still troubling me and ,i can't get rid of it4 ,oh1 ,i would give anything if ,i could4 ,now1 ,i am away from home attending college1 and ,i know that my parents 7especially mamma7 are worried4 ,they fear that ,i1 being young1 and1 as they think1 ignorant of all these things1 may bring disgrace to them4 ,last winter a friend gave me a book entitled1 8,letters of ,love to ,our ,girls10 but mamma and papa hid it4 ,i asked them why they did so4 ,i received the answer1 8,it is a book that no married person should read1 let alone a young girl40 ,i have a little sister nine years old4 ,for four years she has often asked questions about the origin of animals4 ,when a colt is born or a calf1 or kitten1 or pigs1 she always asks the same question4 8,where did ,dolly find her colt8 ,where did ,lily find her calf80 etc41 and they always put her off with some falsehood4 ,please advise me how ,i may be able to rid myself of this habit4 ,yours in earnest1 ---- ,i gave her the following advice3 8,dear ,friend3 ,your letter received4 ,in reply1 ,i am glad you had the courage to ask for advice and to state facts so frankly4 ,your trouble began with your false training in childhood4 ,if you had been taught the sacredness of the sexual organs and their functions1 your mind would have been safeguarded against this vice4 ,instead1 you received the very opposite information4 ,half-truths1 clothed in vulgar language1 received from the ignorant and vicious1 lead naturally to a morbid interest in matters of sex and consequently to a habit of lascivious thinking4 ,impure thinking causes the blood to rush to the sexual organs4 ,the inflamed and gorged condition1 due to this rush of blood to these parts1 results in frequent experiences of sex consciousness and passion4 ,this leads very naturally to the handling of the organs of sex4 ,that you may clearly understand the relation of the mind to the secret sin1 and what you must do if you would break from it1 ,i will use the following illustration3 ,suppose that you have been at hard work for five or six hours and have had nothing to eat during the time4 ,you now come into the presence of a well-spread table1 or a basket full of luscious fruit4 ,you must wait ten minutes for others to take their places at the table4 ,you become quite conscious of hunger2 you remember how the kinds of food taste1 how you have enjoyed them before1 and you are eager to begin eating4 ,these mental states cause the blood to rush to the salivary glands4 ,they are stimulated to unusual activity4 ,under these conditions the saliva flows rapidly4 ,just at this moment1 something unusual occurs4 ,the blinding flash of lightning followed quickly by a deafening peal of thunder4 ,looking out you see some limbs falling from a nearby tree4 ,you run to the window and for ten minutes your attention is wholly called from the thought of food4 ,now the saliva is flowing just fast enough to keep your mouth pleasantly moist4 ,excitement over1 you again become interested in the food1 hunger returns1 you begin once more to entertain pleasant thoughts about the food1 blood rushes to the mouth and the salivary glands are stimulated and the saliva is formed many times faster than when your mind was wholly engaged in the exciting scene a few minutes before4 ,when you allow your mind to entertain impure thoughts and words1 the blood rushes to the genital organs and they become inflamed1 resulting in passion4 ,now your victory over this habit will come just as fast as you can learn to get control of your mind in these matters4 ,this is not done in a day4 ,for five or six years you have allowed your mind to entertain wrong thoughts4 ,in this way you have brought about a condition in which the slightest suggestions relating to sex1 any pressure or friction of clothing or irritation of parts causes the blood to rush to these organs apparently without your willing it4 ,this will gradually cease as you begin to get control of your mind4 ,there are several things that will help you4 ,when you are tempted to entertain impure thoughts or to practice the sin1 immediately engage your mind in something else4 ,pray1 read the ,bible or some good book1 write a letter to mamma or some friend1 perform some duty or take a walk1 anything that will take your mind from the temptation4 ,refuse to handle these organs except to keep them clean4 ,bathing the parts in cold water tends to allay passion4 ,if you have in your possession any suggestive pictures or questionable literature1 destroy them4 ,cultivate the habit of looking upon every young man as you would upon your brother or father4 ,one of the most common effects of this habit is discouragement1 gloominess1 despondency4 ,these mental states must be overcome4 ,constantly a firm 8,i will break from this habit10 8,i will have only pure thoughts40 ,don't chide and condemn yourself any more because of the errors of the past4 ,god has mercifully and lovingly forgiven them and graciously offers to give you strength and grace with which to win the battles of the future4 ,hopefully1 cheerfully and bravely face the future4 ,you may occasionally meet with defeat4 ,if so1 try again4 ,no lasting defeat can come to one who keeps on trying4 ,victory will crown the persistent effort4 ,we often help ourselves by helping others4 ,you are only one of the many girls who have had a similar experience4 ,the battles you are fighting in your life will enable you to be a blessing to other weak ones4 ,if ,i can be of any help to you in the future1 write me4 ,if this letter helps you in any small degree to win a victory1 pass the blessing on to another4 8,very sincerely1 8,t4 ,w4 ,s40 ,,chapter ,,xviii ,,mother',s ,,fifth ,,talk--,a ,,small ,,girl',s ,,ethics ,the social nature4--,you are now of an age when you will appreciate a heart to heart talk on the social relations of small girls and boys4 ,god gave to us our social natures4 ,it is our social nature that leads us to desire new acquaintances1 to be with old friends1 to be in large gatherings of people1 and to have special friends4 ,a reasonable amount of social activity is essential to our well-being4 ,most of our real pleasure in life grows out of our relation to society4 ,genuine innocent pleasure is nature's greatest tonic4 ,innocent games1 a big romp1 a good laugh1 all help to develop the body1 prolong life and increase one's usefulness4 ,plays1 games1 a good time1 should form a large part of childhood4 ,the boy's masculine nature leads him often to prefer games that require strength1 endurance and daring4 ,the girl's feminine nature leads her often to prefer games that require less of strength1 endurance and danger4 ,it is for this reason that boys enjoy games of football and baseball and girls enjoy their dolls1 tennis and croquet4 ,boys and girls should play together4--,while boys prefer to play with boys much of the time and girls prefer to play with girls much of the time1 yet their opposite natures lead them to enjoy being with each other in conversation and games4 ,in most homes and communities1 boys and girls are nearly equally divided as to number4 ,this would indicate that ,god planned for boys and girls to be much with each other4 ,the sex and social nature4--,god has given us a sexual nature as well as a social nature4 ,if boys and girls have not learned bad language1 engaged in impure thoughts or formed habits of vice1 they have been rarely conscious of their sex nature before the dawning of puberty4 ,after puberty the organs of sex are generating a sex life that results in occasional sex consciousness4 ,this is not an injury1 not a sin4 ,if we keep our minds pure1 avoid everything that would excite these organs1 this new sex life will make wonderful changes in every organ of the body1 faculty of the mind and power of the soul4 ,the consciousness of sex1 or what may be correctly called passion1 simply means that we are in possession of creative energy4 ,by keeping the mind pure1 taking plenty of physical exercise1 mental study and sympathizing with and loving everybody1 this sex life will be built into the muscles and brain tissue1 giving strength of body1 brilliancy of mind and warmth of soul4 ,the developing sex life is slowly and gradually preparing them for fatherhood and motherhood4 ,this preparation is not completed until they are matured4 ,the girl does not mature until she is about twenty and the boy until he is about twenty-four4 ,during the eight years of adolescence for the girl and ten for the boy1 she is gradually passing out of girlhood into womanhood and he from boyhood into manhood4 ,during the first half of these periods1 she is more girl than woman1 he is more boy than man4 ,during these early years the boy may be a manly boy and the girl a womanly girl1 but they are still children4 ,they should still play together without any thought of being sweethearts4 ,it is natural for a girl to admire one boy more than she does another because he is gallant1 kind and manly4 ,for like reasons1 it is natural for small boys to admire one girl more than another4 ,occasionally these little experiences of admiration take on the more serious form of love4 ,if older people do not encourage or tease them their little spasms of love will soon disappear4 ,it is best for boys and girls not to think of each other as sweethearts and lovers until they are nearer matured4 ,the 8boy-struck0 girl and the 8girl-struck0 boy4--,they range in age from ten to twenty4 ,they excite the pity of some1 the disgust of others and the love and appreciation of none4 ,they will carry on an insane or ridiculous conversation over the phone for an hour1 or stand on the street corner and engage in the most silly nonsense4 ,he is usually a cigarette-smoking nonentity and she a simpering1 giggling1 flirting1 amusing imitation of what she would like to be4 ,in the schoolroom they pass notes and receive low grades4 ,she carries her dressing to the extreme limit of idiocy1 disfiguring her body and ruining her health4 ,as she grows older she takes lonely midnight strolls and buggy rides4 ,it will be a miracle if the 8boy-struck0 girl does not fall4 ,even if she does not fall into disgrace1 it will be difficult for her to regain her self-respect and the confidence of her neighbors4 ,confidential social advice4--,while the association of boys and girls is natural1 enjoyable1 and has its blessings1 it is not without its temptations and dangers4 ,passion should never be aroused4 ,in associating with boys1 girls should be very careful in regard to their dress4 ,they should not wear dresses that unnecessarily expose their breasts or limbs2 they should never use a word or expression that would suggest wrong thoughts to their boy friends2 they should never go off alone with boys2 and they should never permit a boy to hold their hands1 pinch their arms1 play with their hair1 hug or kiss them4 ,all these things tend to arouse passion in a way and to an extent exceedingly dangerous4 ,a class of dangerous boys4--,it will be well for you to remember that many boys are very wicked4 ,poor boys6 ,in many cases they have not been trained to be polite1 kind1 and pure4 ,they have no idea how sinful it is to use obscene language1 to be immodest1 and by these methods to seek to ruin the character and life of a girl4 ,such boys would rather ruin a girl than be president4 ,girls should be careful not to associate with this class of boys4 ,the true1 the pure boys4--,some boys are as innocent and pure as most girls are4 ,good boys and young men who have been well trained are always kind1 courteous1 brave1 true1 and pure4 ,association with this class of boys is always helpful4 ,girlhood comes but once4--,don't be in a hurry to grow into womanhood4 ,be a joyful1 playful1 happy little girl just as long as you can4 ,of course you will not want to play or be with your friends all the time1 or even most of the time4 ,you will be in school much of the time4 ,you will want to spend some time on your music1 in learning how to make your clothing1 how to care for the bedrooms1 and how to cook4 ,you will wish to form high ideals and gain inspiration from reading books of travel1 of history1 some fiction of high moral and literary tone1 biographies of great and good people1 the best magazines and1 of course1 you will not leave the ,bible out of your daily reading4 ,,chapter ,,xix ,,mother',s ,,sixth ,,talk--,,how ,,to ,,grow ,,beautiful ,a girl's vanity4--,when girls reach the age of fifteen and sixteen their personal interest in personal beauty is apparent4 ,their frequent use of the mirror1 a mania for primping3 poring over such glaring headlines as1 8,become ,beautiful10 8,don't be ,fat10 8,be ,plump10 8,beautiful ,dresses1 a ,woman's crown of ,glory10 8,cure for ,pimples and ,black-heads10 found in the papers and magazines1 all indicate a girl's interest in being beautiful4 ,there are two kinds of beauty4--,physical beauty and intellectual and spiritual beauty4 ,not all can have the first1 but all can have the latter4 ,the first1 unfortunately1 may be a source of temptation and danger2 the latter1 fortunately1 a blessing4 ,physical homeliness1 entire or in part1 may be outgrown1 or cured by hygienic living and judicious treatment1 or it may be over-shadowed by the possession of lovely traits of character4 ,beauty and the sex nature4--,no young woman1 however beautiful physically1 can develop a charming1 attractive personality unless she possesses a normal sex nature4 ,this end may be achieved by maintaining a hopeful1 cheerful and perfectly chaste state of mind and perfect freedom from all habits of vice4 ,in this way the vital energy of womanhood can be easily directed so as to carry life and health to every organ and part of the body4 ,puberty pimples4--,soon after the dawning of puberty1 many girls are troubled with pimples4 ,they usually appear on the face1 often only on the forehead4 ,the back may be affected in the same way4 ,they usually last two1 three or more years and resist every effort to remove them4 ,the girl had just as well make up her mind to endure them until nature takes them away4 ,it was once thought that they were evidences of the practice of the secret vice4 ,in some cases this is true4 ,but in most cases they are inseparable from the early years of puberty4 ,treatment4--,by following certain simple rules this trouble may be very much reduced4 ,avoid eating highly seasoned foods and rich pastries4 ,take plenty of open-air exercise4 ,massage the face with the hands1 using a good quality of absorbent cream4 ,if cold baths are begun in the summer time1 so as not to shock the system1 this is very valuable4 ,during the menses1 plenty of warm water should be used4 ,absolute cleanliness will prevent many forms of female troubles4 ,how to correct some kinds of homeliness4--,stringy1 greasy or dull hair may be made a crown of beauty by scrupulous care1 tasteful arrangement and the use of suitable decorations4 ,where the bodily form is too thin or too fat1 or scrawny and angular1 correct habits of eating and exercise are the natural remedies4 ,very thin persons will usually gain flesh by taking open-air exercise and eating nutritious food4 ,fleshy persons can usually reduce their flesh by eating two meals a day1 eating a less nutritious diet and by taking more exercise4 ,if this advice is introduced gradually no inconvenience will be noticed4 ,a substitute for physical beauty4--,there are some forms of physical irregularities1 such as prominent ears1 large and irregular teeth2 a receding chin or forehead2 thick or thin lips2 a long or ill-shaped mouth2 small1 expressionless eyes2 a large1 flat or pug nose1 none of which can be remedied by the advice given4 ,she must develop the truest form of beauty--a charming1 winsome personality1 a lovely character4 ,she will then possess a charm that cannot be excelled by any physical queen of beauty1 and that she may retain long after the glow of physical loveliness has faded4 ,some 8musts0 and 8must-nots40--,she must cease frowning and learn to smile2 she must repress anger and resentment1 and turn the other cheek2 she must not seek favors1 but discover the joy of bestowing blessings on others2 she must intensely interest herself in everything that will stimulate and develop the intellect1 expand the soul and enlarge her spiritual vision2 she must revel in the sweetest strains of music and the most bewitching beauties of art and nature4 ,by following this advice1 the naturally beautiful girl will add a new charm to her attractiveness1 and the homely girl will transform her defects into seeming beauties and develop the indefinable loveliness of a beautiful character4 ,,fourth ,,division ,,how ,,to ,,teach ,,social ,,purity ,,and ,,sex ,,truths ,,to ,a ,,boy ,,chapter ,,xx ,a ,,talk ,,to ,,fathers ,the importance of fatherhood4--,in the past we have written1 talked and sung of the duties1 responsibilities1 faithfulness1 sacrifice and love of motherhood4 ,is there any reason why the father should have less of these sacred parental qualities than the mother8 ,did not ,god in his early revelations to his chosen people honor fatherhood as much as motherhood in his relation to the training of children8 ,in no other way has ,god bestowed larger capacity1 power1 honor and responsibility upon man than when he made him capable of fatherhood4 ,fatherhood--the giving of life to another--makes man a co-worker with ,god in the creation of human beings4 ,this creative relation to children gives dignity1 sacredness and immeasurable responsibility to fatherhood4 ,the father is the son's natural teacher4--,if a man at the head of a home is to measure up to the full meaning of fatherhood1 he must assume the responsibility of teaching purity and sex truths to his boy1 instead of leaving him to get his primary sex culture from the playground2 his preparatory sex enlightenment from the street2 and his complete course of sex education from the saloon1 the gambling house and the brothel1 where the moral atmosphere is saturated with all that is vicious and polluting2 where the vilest pictures are to be seen1 vilest conversation is to be heard and the vilest associations are to be formed4 ,the wise father looks after less important phases of his son's education4--,if his son decides to be a farmer1 he tells him all he knows about farming and sends him to an agricultural college4 ,if he decides to practice medicine1 he tells him all he knows about medicine and sends him to a medical college4 ,his interest in his son would lead him to follow this plan should he choose some other calling or profession4 ,compared to the education1 training and development of a boy in relation to the teaching of purity and sex truths1 all other training pales into insignificance4 ,the boy can just as easily become a successful farmer without a knowledge of agriculture1 horticulture and stock-raising2 he can as easily become a successful physician without a knowledge of medicine2 he can as easily become a successful lawyer without a knowledge of laws1 as he can develop into a pure1 virile manhood without a correct knowledge of his sex nature4 ,since half truths are often more injurious than ignorance1 and since the enfolding sex life of a boy demands information1 and since he will get this information true or false1 it logically follows that correct sex education is the only safe method to be followed in the complete education of the boy4 ,the father who holds to unethical ideals4--,the father who holds to or practices the double standard of morals is not qualified to teach these truths to his son4 ,if he believes that it is a smaller sin for his son to be immoral than for his daughter2 if he believes in the 8sex necessity lie0 for his son and absolute virginity for his daughter2 if he uses vulgar words or indulges in lascivious stories1 he is disqualified for this sacred duty of a father4 ,recently ,i lectured in a town of several thousand inhabitants where the mayor boasted of taking his seventeen-year-old son to ,st4 ,louis and introducing him to an immoral life4 ,such a father's influence on his own son is a withering1 paralyzing1 blighting curse4 ,the sons of such beastly sires are to be pitied4 ,the model father4--,i assume that ,i am now addressing a model father1 one who1 at least1 desires to be a worthy example and a wise teacher and trainer of his son4 ,the model father should not only be pure in outward life1 but he should regard the organs of sex and their functions as pure and sacred1 he should possess a fair knowledge of sex and be able to use only pure language in his confidential talks with his son4 ,i am fully aware that very few fathers have had an opportunity to hear a series of lectures or to read a good book on these lines that would help them perform this duty4 ,the mission of this book is to aid and inspire every sincere father in his duty of supplying his son with these truths4 ,how to proceed4--,this is not a difficult problem to the young father who is fairly well informed and who has strong convictions of his duty4 ,he can start with his son1 as soon as he asks about his origin1 and tell him the stories of life1 six months or a year apart1 and continue to give him such information as his developing boyhood and manhood demand4 ,but to the uninformed father1 out in middle life1 aroused for the first time to the great need of this teaching and to his personal responsibility to his boys ranging from five to twenty years old1 this is not an easy problem4 ,in this case ,i would suggest that1 if possible1 he should avail himself of hearing a good course of lectures1 and buy for himself a practical and complete book on sex for himself and smaller books adapted to the age and sex of his children4 ,if he has a boy from five to eight years old1 begin by telling him the story of how plants are brought into the world4 ,if he has a boy ten to fifteen1 ,i would advise that he put in his hands a book containing stories of life from plants to man and encourage him to read it4 ,if there is real companionship between the father and son1 a better plan would be for them to read the book together and talk with each other4 ,when this is done and a few days have passed the father should give him a book containing such information as a boy from ten to fourteen should know4 ,and if proper companionship exists1 they should read this book and talk over its revelations together4 ,when this is done the boy should be encouraged to talk over any personal problem he may have4 ,it would be well for the father to inquire of his son1 if he has any irritation or soreness in his sexual organs1 if the prepuce is capable of passing back and if the frenulum is too short4 ,the boy should understand that he will be welcomed at any time to return with his problems and to ask for information4 ,if he has a boy over fifteen he should be presented with a book that covers the problems of a young man4 ,if there is a companionable relation between the father and his son1 it would be well for them to read and talk over the revelations of this book4 ,the son should be encouraged to ask questions and to talk about his personal problems4 ,when should a boy be informed of the secret sin8--,in no case should this be postponed until a boy is twelve4 ,out of one thousand of the young men who have read 8,perfect ,manhood0 and in that way were lead to write me about their troubles not one in twenty-five learned the habit after he was twelve1 many commenced when they were eight and ten1 a few when five and six1 one stating that so far as he knew he was born practicing the vice4 ,lecturing to nearly one hundred thousand young men a year and having several thousand a year to interview me1 in this way the conclusion from my correspondence is confirmed4 ,when a boy is fourteen he should be given a more complete talk on the nature and effects of the secret sin4 ,if he is found to be guilty he should be induced to break off4 ,if his sexual desire is due to a tight prepuce1 this should be treated by the family physician4 ,if due to a tight frenulum1 this requires the attention of a doctor4 ,as a rule his sexual excitement grows out of a mind that has been filled with lascivious thoughts from some schoolmate or servant4 ,this can be corrected by satisfying the boy's morbid curiosity with the truth and a faithful warning of the dangers of this vice4 ,fathers should not be suspicious but watchful4--,a wise father will have a frank1 positive understanding with every servant in the home and employee on the farm1 or in his business1 that he is not to encourage vice by vulgar conversation1 vicious practice1 or by presenting the child with a vile book or showing him a lude picture4 ,keep an eye on the little visitors--and the big ones too4 ,there are in circulation some most inconceivable immoral books that teach children every phase of sex perversion4 ,i recently secured such a book and it was estimated by the school board that two hundred or more boys from twelve to sixteen had read it4 ,only a few months ago the president of a female college living in the girls' dormitory told me of how one of the college girls had introduced his three-year-old boy to the vice4 ,about the same time and in the same ,state1 an editor said to me1 8,professor1 you don't realize the temptations to which the small ,southern boy is exposed in his relation to the colored help about the home40 ,a wise father will be on the guard from the time his boy has quit the cradle until he has passed safely through the stormy period of adolescence4 ,,chapter ,,xxi ,,father',s ,,first ,,talk--,,boys ,,make ,,men ,trees are grown-up sprouts2 dogs are grown-up pups2 horses are grown-up colts2 and men are grown-up boys4 ,a crooked1 scarred sprout will produce an ugly1 useless tree2 a starved1 neglected and abused pup will grow up to be a cowardly or vicious dog2 a spoiled colt will make a vicious horse2 boys who are not trained to work1 study and be moral will grow up to be lazy1 stupid and bad4 ,a perfect tree1 dog1 horse must be trained4--,if you want a perfect tree1 one that will be straight and shapely1 one that will afford perfect shade or bear large1 luscious fruit1 you will have to give it proper care and training while it is young4 ,if you want to have a perfect dog1 one that will be large and handsome1 one that will do what you want him to do1 you must give him good care and training while he is young4 ,if you would have a perfect horse1 one with elastic bearing and beautiful form1 one that will be gentle1 go the gaits and travel fast1 you must feed1 groom and train him while he is young4 ,boys need training4--,if you would become a perfect man1 you must be wisely trained and taught4 ,a large part of this you can and must do for yourself4 ,you must get a true idea of what it takes to make a perfect man4 ,you must desire and purpose daily to live that life that will help you to reach your ideal4 ,you must be willing to be trained and taught by those who are older and wiser than yourself4 ,boys want to be men4--,all boys really want to be men4 ,they are great imitators4 ,they look at men and decide what man they would rather be like4 ,what a pity that all men are not what they appear to be to the inexperienced boy4 ,so many appear to the boy to be real men1 when they are not4 ,boys try to follow their examples and fail4 ,it is so easy for a boy to make a mistake in what is required of him to become a perfect man4 ,how one boy tried to be a man4--,i am quite intimately and personally acquainted with a man1 who1 when a boy1 lived on a farm near a small town4 ,like all boys he longed to be a man4 ,some of his ideas were good and some were false4 ,when he was about eight years old1 he decided that if he could only ride a big bay horse and take a sack of corn to mill1 then he would be a man4 ,it was a happy day when he was allowed to do this4 ,having carefully balanced a sack of corn on the horse's back1 his father placed him on the horse behind the sack and started him to the mill4 ,illustration3 ,i ,,wait ,,for ,,my ,,future4 ,that was the happiest day of his life4 ,as he rode along the street of the village1 all the boys and girls1 men and women1 seemed to be out on purpose to look at him4 ,he could almost hear them saying1 8,yonder goes ---- to mill this morning4 ,see what a big man he is40 ,that boy never felt more like a man in his life than he did that morning4 ,what do you suppose happened as he went back home8 ,it was the saddest experience that boy ever had up to that time4 ,his sack fell off4 ,then he cried like a boy4 ,he felt like a boy4 ,he acted like a boy4 ,he knew that he was only a little boy4 ,for several weeks he was willing to be only a little boy4 ,use of profanity4--,it is perfectly natural for a boy to long to be a man4 ,so1 it was not long before that boy again wanted to be a man4 ,this time1 a boy1 some three years older than he1 was visiting his home4 ,his friend was some three inches taller1 twenty pounds heavier and a few grades higher in school than he4 ,as these boys rambled over the fields1 climbed trees1 and played together1 my little friend had to listen to a constant stream of oaths1 pouring from the lips of his visitor4 ,he had been taught that swearing was a very great sin4 ,had he heard a little dirty street waif1 or an old bloated1 swaggering drunkard swearing1 it would have been disgusting4 ,but this time1 swearing did not sound so badly4 ,his friend wore fine clothes1 his family had wealth and culture and this seemed to change the nature of swearing in this case4 ,before that day was over our little friend had decided that the only difference between him and his friend was1 that his visitor could swear and he could not4 ,he felt1 that1 if he could only swear1 instantly he would grow six inches taller1 twenty pounds heavier and a great deal smarter4 ,he finally decided to try it4 ,while they were walking by the back porch1 he made the effort of his life and out came a big ugly oath4 ,his heart hurt him4 ,his conscience condemned him4 ,he was sure that ,god heard him4 ,he had dishonored his father and mother4 ,he had insulted ,god4 ,he wondered if his mother was not near4 ,glancing quickly over his shoulder1 he saw his mother on the porch1 and the expression on her face showed that she was much grieved4 ,when the visitor had returned home and our little friend had danced at the end of a peach tree switch for some moments1 he decided that swearing would not make a man4 ,this was his first1 last and only oath4 ,he has never ceased to thank and love his mother for her faithful training4 ,almost all men and boys who swear started where he did4 ,they thought swearing would make them taller1 heavier1 wealthier1 and smarter4 ,this sin has never helped a boy to become a man4 ,if a boy can swear and be manly1 his mother and sister can swear and be perfectly ladylike4 ,no man or boy can give a good reason why he swears4 ,intelligent people are supposed to understand and mean what they talk about4 ,idiots do not4 ,not one man or boy in a hundred1 who swears1 understands and means what he says4 ,the words that he uses make him call upon ,god to send something or someone to hell4 ,he does not understand or mean this4 ,idiots would be excusable for swearing2 sensible men and boys are not4 ,the kind of clothing a boy wears1 the house he lives in1 and the carriage he rides in1 do not make his swearing manly4 ,use of tobacco4--,months went by4 ,this boy's noble father had crossed over the river into heaven4 ,he and his widowed mother were visiting among their relatives who lived in a rough country1 many miles from their home4 ,one night1 after making a long journey on horseback1 he slept so well that he did not wake until the sun was an hour high4 ,on arising1 he found that his cousin1 a boy fifteen years old1 had been out in the woods and had killed a number of squirrels before breakfast4 ,in his estimation1 his cousin was a hero1 a great man4 ,breakfast over1 they rambled over a large tobacco farm4 ,they became very chummy4 ,at length they came to a large tobacco barn4 ,his cousin pulled off a leaf of tobacco1 rolled up a shapely cigar1 lighted it and began smoking4 ,as our friend stood and watched those dense clouds of smoke pour from the mouth and nose of his cousin1 he whispered to himself1 8,now ,i know why you can kill a mess of squirrels before breakfast4 ,if ,i could smoke1 ,i could do the same thing40 ,once more he decided he would try to be a man4 ,he selected the largest leaf that he could find4 ,when he had finished making his first cigar1 it resembled a saw log about as much as it did a first-class ,havana4 ,his cousin noticed that he could not get it into his mouth1 and said1 8,you take my cigar and keep it going for a few minutes and ,i will make you one40 ,he kept it going for a few minutes1 then it kept him going for about three hours4 ,he lost little less than ten pounds of his former weight in a hurry4 ,he was soon so weak that he could scarcely walk back to the house4 ,his mother and friends were greatly frightened4 ,his cousin's face was as pale as a sheet4 ,there was not a doctor in ten miles of the place4 ,many remedies were thought of and used4 ,none did any good4 ,finally1 his uncle's father1 quite an old man1 suggested that the best remedy1 ever used in those parts of ,kentucky for sick stomach1 was a sweetened toddy4 ,this boy had been taught that the use of tobacco was a great sin and that the use of whisky was a still greater sin4 ,he had acted very much like a fool and felt like one4 ,he understood his case better than they did4 ,he reasoned like this3 8if whisky is worse than tobacco1 the remedy they want me to take will kill me40 ,but1 he was between two fires4 ,if he confessed what he had done1 he would get a switching1 and if he took the remedy they were offering1 he would die4 ,what do you suppose that boy did8 ,he was determined to keep his secret and he did not want to die1 so1 for convenience1 he became a ,christian ,scientist1 denied that he was sick and got well4 ,this was his first1 last and only experience in the use of tobacco4 ,why boys are tempted4--,perhaps the average boy has no greater temptation than to use tobacco4 ,he sees merchants1 lawyers1 doctors1 occasionally a minister1 and often his father using it4 ,he does not see the expense side of the habit1 because prosperous business men use it4 ,he does not see the filthy side of it1 because nicely dressed men use it4 ,he does not see the injury to body and mind1 for doctors use it4 ,he does not see the wrong in the use of it1 for good men use it4 ,he does not see that thousands of children are in rags1 live in rented cabins1 go hungry and are deprived of many comforts and pleasures because the father has spent #ej a year for one or two score years on tobacco4 ,he does not quite understand that doctors and sometimes ministers1 like other men1 die of a tobacco heart4 ,he does not desire to imitate the dirty1 ragged1 stupid tobacco using wag on the street corner4 ,he wants to be like the man dressed in broadcloth1 wearing a fine beaver hat1 twirling a golden-headed cane1 with sparkling diamond ring and shirt studs and smoking a twenty-five cent cigar4 ,the cigarette habit4--,the worst form of the tobacco habit is the use of the cigarette4 ,when a boy falls into this habit1 at the age of ten to fourteen1 he never develops properly in his body or mind4 ,you will understand this statement better1 when it is referred to in another chapter4 ,the boy who uses tobacco does not progress well in his studies4 ,this has been tested in nearly all our military and naval schools as well as in other schools and colleges4 ,boys who use tobacco will gradually lose respect and courtesy for ladies4 ,it is claimed by those who have studied the effects of the cigarette habit that it causes the boy to become dishonest4 ,it is for these reasons that many business men will not employ a boy who is guilty of this habit4 ,there are many other wrongs that boys are tempted to engage in1 that if yielded to will result in habits that prevent boys from becoming perfect men4 ,it is hard for boys to see the injury that dishonesty and gambling1 disobedience to parents and breaking the ,sabbath will do for them4 ,some boys take pleasure in doing wrong and leading other boys to do wrong4 ,if you keep company with them1 do as they do1 you will get a wrong start in life and find it a hard struggle later in life1 when you would like to be a real man4 ,the kind of boys who make men4--,someone has said1 8,a dead fish can float down stream1 but it takes a live one to swim up stream40 ,any kind of a boy can float down the stream of life1 have what he calls a good time in the world1 live and die and never be missed4 ,it takes a boy with a strong1 healthy body1 a sound mind1 a pure heart and clean life1 brave1 determined and true to make a perfect man4 ,you will need more than a strong will and the help of true friends1 if you would resist the many temptations that are sure to come1 be a perfect boy and become a perfect man4 ,christ alone can purify the heart and help you to live a clean life4 ,,chapter ,,xxii ,,father',s ,,second ,,talk--,,perfect ,,boys ,,make ,,perfect ,,men ,why we are given sexual organs4--,you have learned ,god's beautiful and sacred plan of bringing into this world baby plants1 fish1 birds1 animals and human beings4 ,you learned from the stories of the plants and animals that ,god provided them with organs of sex1 for the purpose of increasing their kind4 ,when little children are born they have organs of sex4 ,a boy's sexual organs have several important uses4 ,they are as important to a boy as his mouth1 ears1 eyes or heart4 ,they are just as pure as any other organs of his body4 ,these organs are very sacred4 ,it is through their proper use that men and women obey ,god's command to 8be fruitful and multiply40 ,without sexual organs1 new plants1 animals and human beings could not come into the world4 ,they are not sinful4--,we should never think of these organs as being sinful4 ,they are not4 ,the true names of these organs are as pure as the words baby1 home1 mother1 ,bible1 heaven1 angels1 ,god1 so far as a word is concerned4 ,the true names of these organs are found in the dictionary4 ,your sister and mother can find these words in the dictionary and just what they mean4 ,they are placed in the dictionary because they are clean words and are a part of our language4 ,the names of these organs are pure4--,unfortunately1 almost all boys have received their first information about sex from the vicious4 ,such teachers are ignorant for they do not know the true names of these organs or their true purposes4 ,they are vicious because their teaching is largely false and they fill the minds of boys with impure thoughts and ideas4 ,let twenty boys write down on paper all the names of their sexual organs that they have ever learned and not less than thirty names would be found among them4 ,now go to the dictionary and look for these names4 ,one out of every five cannot be found1 for the reason that it is not a part of our language4 ,the other words do not1 even remotely1 refer in meaning to the sexual organs4 ,this is a sample of the ignorance of such men and boys who are always ready to tell a boy something that he is not to tell his parents4 ,such teaching is a very great evil4 ,it has poisoned the minds and hearts of thousands of boys and started them on the road to ruin4 ,it is very important that you fix the thought in your mind that these organs are as pure as any other organ in the body and that their names are just as pure as any other word in the language4 ,there are many reasons why we should not expose these organs or talk about them1 except when it is right or necessary for us to do so4 ,we should learn all we can about our lungs1 hearts1 brains and other organs of the body4 ,when we can see these organs or pictures of them1 they help to make many things plain to us that would be difficult for us to understand4 ,for this reason we have placed the cut of a boy's body in this book1 showing the urinary and sexual organs4 ,the urinary organs4--,the urinary system consists of the following organs3 ,two 7#a7 kidneys1 only one can be shown in the cut4 ,the kidneys are located just above the small of the back and in front of the spinal column1 or backbone4 ,the kidneys take up water1 waste matter and impurities from the blood4 ,in this way the kidneys help to keep the blood pure4 ,this liquid mixture is called urine4 ,the use of tobacco and strong drink injures the kidneys1 and prevents them from doing all the work that they need to do in order to keep the blood pure and the body healthy and strong4 ,as fast as the kidneys form the urine it is carried by two ducts1 called the 7#b7 ureters1 one leading from each kidney1 and emptied into the 7#c7 bladder4 ,here it is stored until we wish to discharge it from our bodies4 ,the urine is discharged from the body by a duct that leads through the external sexual organ1 and this duct is called the 7#d7 urethra4 ,this process of discharging the urine is called urinating4 ,this is a perfectly natural act4 ,there is no more sin in urinating than in shedding a tear4 ,because of unfortunate training1 many boys think of this act as sinful4 ,the words and expressions they have learned for this act have been associated for years with low thoughts4 ,it is for this reason that you should cease to use those false words and expressions and learn to say1 8,i desire to urinate10 or 8,i have urinated40 ,the sexual organs4--,some of the sexual organs are on the outside of the body and some are on the inside of the body4 ,those on the outside of the body are perfectly familiar to all boys4 ,the external organ through which the 7#d7 urethra passes is called the 7#e7 penis4 ,this organ is not shown in the cut1 its position being shown by the figure 7#e74 ,at the end of this organ is a sheath of loose skin1 called the prepuce or foreskin4 ,in some boys the prepuce is quite long and tight4 ,when the boys of the ,jewish race are eight days old they are circumcised4 ,this act consists in cutting off that portion of the prepuce that extends beyond the head of the penis4 ,the act is performed with a sharp knife and causes but little pain4 ,ninety millions of ,mohammedans practice circumcision4 ,this ,illustration should be performed on many boys in this country when they are only a few days old4 ,there are a number of reasons for this4 ,underneath the folds of the prepuce are hundreds of little glands that secrete a substance that should be removed daily with water1 or a wet rag4 ,when the prepuce will not glide back over the head of the penis1 it cannot be kept clean4 ,in such cases the secretion becomes white and hard and causes irritation4 ,boys in this condition will often scratch this organ4 ,in many cases1 these boys do not get along well in school1 they are nervous1 have fits and spasms1 and this scratching often leads to a bad habit4 ,when the prepuce of a boy will not glide back1 becomes red1 sore and swollen1 he should ask his father to have a doctor treat him4 ,the doctor will know how to enlarge the opening1 break up the adhesion and glide it back4 ,underneath the penis is a sack1 called the 7#f7 scrotum1 in which are suspended two glands1 called the 7#g7 testicles4 ,the 7#g7 indicates where these glands would be if placed in the cut4 ,leading off from the 7#h7 descending artery are two small arteries1 called the 7#i7 spermatic arteries4 ,they carry pure blood to the testicles4 ,leading back from the testicles are two small veins that separate from the spermatic arteries and are called the 7#aj7 spermatic veins4 ,connected with each testicle is a duct1 called the 7#aa7 vas deferens that passes up through the loins and over the bladder and becomes enlarged into a small vessel called the 7#ab7 ampulla4 ,the ampullae open into the urethra4 ,near the ampullae1 and behind them1 are two larger vessels1 called the 7#ac7 seminal vessels4 ,these vessels connect with the urethra by a small duct1 at the point where the ampullae do4 ,surrounding the neck of the bladder1 the lower portion of the ampullae1 the seminal vessels and the deep urethra is a very important gland1 called the 7#ad7 prostate gland4 ,connected with the urethra and only a short distance from the prostate1 are two small glands1 called the 7#ae7 ,cowper's glands4 ,these glands and vessels are all very tender4 ,they are protected by being placed on the inside of the body4 ,because of bad habits connected with the organs on the outside1 many men suffer much pain from diseased conditions of the organs on the inside4 ,puberty4--,when a boy is born1 he has all these organs4 ,the testicles and the glands on the inside are inactive until he reaches the age of fourteen and a half4 ,until this time he has been only a boy4 ,at about this age the glands become active and begin to slowly form from the blood a fluid called semen4 ,this period in a boy's life is called puberty4 ,it is at this time that he starts toward manhood4 ,we shall find later that he will not be a perfect man until he is twenty-four4 ,during these ten years he will be changing gradually into a man4 ,there is no way by which a boy can come suddenly to manhood4 ,some things hasten puberty4--,there are some things that will hasten puberty4 ,several thousand miles ,south1 puberty comes on a boy a few months sooner than it does here4 ,several thousand miles ,north1 puberty comes later than here4 ,thus we see that a warm climate tends to hasten the arrival of puberty1 and a cold climate will tend to retard it4 ,this is the main reason why puberty1 in the colored race1 comes a few months sooner than it does in the white race4 ,for centuries the negro lived in the hot climates of ,africa4 ,in this country he has lived largely in the ,south4 ,vulgar language1 impure thoughts and the cigarette habit will tend to hasten puberty4 ,these bad habits arouse passion and lead to the formation of semen before the body is prepared to absorb it4 ,this leads to the habit of wasting this energy from the body4 ,it will be noticed by you that the cigarette smoking and vulgar boys grow up to have a pale or a dark complexion and many are stunted and ugly4 ,using cigarettes before you are fifteen will do you more harm than to use them after that age4 ,the nature and value of the creative life4--,the wisest doctors tell us that one drop of semen is worth twenty drops of blood2 one ounce is worth twenty ounces of the purest blood4 ,if a discharge of this energy were taken from the body of a healthy1 strong man1 twenty-five years old1 and placed in a small glass test-tube and allowed to settle for ten hours1 it would divide itself into two unequal parts4 ,the upper and smaller portion would be thin1 clear and slightly oily4 ,it would look just like joint water4 ,the lower and larger portion would be thick and milkish in color1 with many little 7#af7 sperm cells4 ,these cells can be seen only under the microscope4 ,they are in the shape of a tadpole1 except they are longer in proportion4 ,they are very active at first1 but when the fluid becomes chilled they soon die4 ,they are formed from the blood and contain life4 ,the condition of an unwell man4--,if a discharge is removed from a man that is in poor health1 a man who drinks liquor1 uses much tobacco1 or wastes this energy from his body1 it will be found that the amount1 as a rule1 is much smaller1 the parts reversed1 sperm cells fewer in number1 smaller in size1 slower in movements1 than in the discharge taken from a healthy man4 ,this illustration shows how bad habits injure the blood and rob a man of his energy4 ,how sex helps to change a boy into a man4--,we are now able to study how this new life1 this vital force1 changes a perfect boy into a perfect man4 ,we find that this energy is formed from the blood and contains life4 ,these sperm cells contain physical1 mental and soul life4 ,this will be made plain to you1 when you learn1 that1 when one of these sperm cells of a father unites with the cell of a mother1 under proper conditions1 the result will be a child having physical1 mental and soul life4 ,a boy has physical1 mental and soul life when he is born1 but he has not as much as he will have when he is grown4 ,if he grows up to be a man1 he will need more of this energy and life4 ,this is the work of the sexual glands4 ,they form1 by the help of the blood1 this energy4 ,this energy is absorbed by the body and carried by the blood to every part of his being4 ,it is in this way that this energy helps the body to grow1 and the mind and soul to develop4 ,two full brother colts4--,the use of this fluid can be illustrated in several ways4 ,if two brother colts grow up side by side1 they will look much alike when grown4 ,if one of them be castrated when young1 he will not develop as well as the other one4 ,the castrated horse is called a gelding4 ,the other one is called a stallion4 ,the stallion has a high arched neck1 dilated nostrils1 sparkling eyes1 a heavy thick mane and tail1 broad1 deep hip and chest muscles and an elastic bearing4 ,he commands the attention and admiration of all beholders4 ,a boy can't manage him4 ,it takes a strong man to control him4 ,turn him out in the field with one hundred geldings and he will rule all of them4 ,the only difference between these horses was that one had had his testicles removed and the other had not4 ,the gelding could not form from his blood any of this valuable energy4 ,this energy was formed by the stallion and absorbed by his body where it gave him perfect development1 an elastic bearing1 fiery eyes1 strong muscles and lots of vitality4 ,two full brother chickens4--,take two full brother chickens1 put them in the same pen1 give them the same food and shelter and when they are grown they will look very much alike4 ,suppose that when these roosters were small one of them had been caponized1 that is1 his glands had been removed1 what would have been the result8 ,the one not caponized would grow a large red comb1 ear lobes and wattles1 long glossy neck and tail feathers and long1 strong spurs4 ,in the case of the other bird1 his comb1 ear lobes and wattles1 neck and tail feathers and legs would resemble an old hen that had not laid an egg for months4 ,if food is scarce1 the first bird will scratch for worms and catch insects for a living2 the other one will starve4 ,if food is thrown down for the old hen and her brood of chickens1 the first bird will step up and pick up a bit of the food with his beak1 drop it1 then step back1 point his beak at the food1 glance up at the old hen1 look down at the chickens and cluck to them to come up and eat the food4 ,when they are through1 if some food is left1 he will eat it4 ,if not1 he goes out and finds him a meal4 ,the capon will rush up to the food1 with one foot crushing the life out of a chicken and the other crushing the life out of another chicken2 he hurriedly eats the food and does not offer any to the old hen and her chickens4 ,if an old hawk or owl comes to catch the chickens1 the first bird will fight the enemy until the hen and chickens find shelter4 ,the capon sneaks under the floor4 ,the first bird retained his glands1 formed that vital energy1 absorbed it back into his body2 this made him industrious1 gallant and brave4 ,the capon formed none of this energy1 and he could not develop a perfect body1 be industrious1 gallant and brave4 ,eunuchs4--,long years ago1 men would select some boys that they wanted to be slaves and remove their sexual glands when they were quite young4 ,such boys were called eunuchs4 ,when they were twenty-five years old they differed much from other men4 ,they grew only a few scattering short hairs on their faces2 their vocal organs never developed so as to produce a deep base voice2 their shoulders never became broad and square2 being cowardly they were never sent to the battlefield1 they did not care to own property and had no desire for an education4 ,now1 compare in your mind1 the manly man with the eunuch4 ,this energy gives him his beard1 square shoulders1 bass voice1 brilliant mind1 snap and vim1 push and enterprise1 bravery and attractive manliness4 ,if you would be a perfect man4--,while it is now very rare for a boy to be made a eunuch1 yet it is very common to see young men who are dull and stupid1 lifeless and lazy1 stunted and ugly4 ,in most cases this is due to their having wasted this energy4 ,from these illustrations we see that the sexual energy strengthens and develops every organ of the body1 faculty of the mind and power of the soul4 ,if a boy would have a strong1 healthy and perfect body1 this energy must be kept in the body and built into the muscles4 ,if he would have a strong and brilliant mind1 this energy must be directed to the brain4 ,if he would be strong in moral character1 he must learn how to use it in his moral nature4 ,in the chapter on how to live a pure life this will all be made plain to you4 ,,chapter ,,xxiii ,,father',s ,,third ,,talk--,,imperfect ,,boys ,,become ,,imperfect ,,men ,why some trees1 kittens1 calves1 colts1 do not become perfect4--,in the last chapter we found how perfect boys become perfect men4 ,in this chapter we shall find why some boys do not become perfect men4 ,if a crooked sprout is not made straight before it gets to be a young tree1 it can never entirely outgrow the defect4 ,if it received a wound before it grew to be a young tree1 nature may heal the wound but the scar will indicate a weak place when it is grown4 ,if the wound is a deep one1 decay may follow and its life greatly shortened4 ,if a kitten1 calf or colt be starved or crippled while young1 they will rarely outgrow these defects4 ,boys may injure themselves4--,there are many ways by which a boy may injure himself physically1 mentally and morally and prevent perfection in his manhood4 ,we have learned that when the mind is kept pure and no bad habits are formed1 that the sexual life will gradually change a boy into a perfect man4 ,now we are to study the bad effects of wasting this energy4 ,why are there so many men with defective bodies8 ,when we study the lower animals in their wild state1 or when the domestic animals have been well kept by their owners1 we find nearly all of them to be perfect4 ,this is due to the fact that the lower animals have not violated the laws of sex4 ,they do not waste their sexual energy4 ,many defective men4--,if you were to visit some of the insane asylums and look into the faces of from one to two thousand of the unfortunates1 you would see some who do not possess a sign of intelligence4 ,many of them were born of parents who had violated these laws4 ,many are personally guilty and have brought on their own ruin4 ,in the penitentiaries and hospitals we find that many are there because they have been guilty of the same wrongs4 ,if many of these poor people had read the book you are reading1 they would now be well and happy4 ,the following story is told by an author3 ,robbing a vine of its life4--8,when ,i was only a small boy1 one lovely spring morning1 ,i stepped up to a vigorous young grapevine1 at the time the sap was rising and flowing out the branches to every bursting bud and cluster of blooms4 ,i had watched my father bore holes in the sugar maple trees1 a century old1 and we would use the sap to make syrup and maple sugar4 ,i did not know that this really injured the old trees and that tapping them when ten or twenty years old would have very seriously injured them4 ,so1 with my knife1 ,i cut a hole in the vine some two feet from the ground4 ,at once the sap flowed as freely as from an old sugar tree4 ,i stood by proudly and watched the sap flow out4 ,soon a puddle of sap had formed at the foot of the vine and the ground became damp all around4 ,an hour passed and still the sap flowed4 ,i became frightened4 ,i wondered whether1 at that rate1 the vine would not disappear after a while4 ,with mud1 made from the sap and soil1 ,i tried to stop up the wound and stop the flow4 ,quickly the flowing sap dissolved the mud and washed it down4 ,after repeated failures1 ,i ran to the house and got some rags and strings and tried to stop the flow1 but soon the rags would get damp and the sap flowed as before4 8,i decided to leave the vine to its own fate4 ,the next morning ,i ventured out to see what had occurred4 ,the vine looked as it did the day before4 ,i found that kind nature had formed a reddish substance and had filled the wound and stopped the flow4 ,that day ,i cut another hole in the vine4 ,again the sap flowed but not so freely as the day before4 ,day after day ,i repeated this for ten days4 ,will you be surprised when ,i tell you that the buds never matured into full size leaves1 the clusters of blooms never matured into large clusters of grapes1 and that the vine did not live many years8 ,i had robbed the vine of its very life40 ,some boys and men sap their life4--,now there is an act that is performed by many boys and men by which they waste the vital fluid from their bodies4 ,this act soon becomes a habit4 ,it has the same effect upon them that we found in the vine4 ,instead of their eyes glowing with luster1 they become dull and sunken4 ,instead of their cheeks having the rosy look of youth and health the face becomes pale4 ,instead of offering a hearty warm handshake1 it is lifeless and cold4 ,instead of muscles being hard and elastic1 they are soft and weak4 ,instead of bright1 alert minds1 they are dull and listless4 ,instead of an elastic bearing and a straightforward step1 there are the languid movements and the swaggering walk4 ,boys do not know that it will hurt them4--,very early in life some boys learn to handle the sexual organs so as to produce a sense of pleasure4 ,not one in a hundred has been told that this habit will injure him4 ,they have an idea that this will make them men4 ,you will some day1 if you have not already1 hear boys boasting of committing this sin2 or they will want to teach it to you4 ,these poor ignorant fellows have not been taught that it is wrong and will injure them4 ,they are to be pitied4 ,they need a friend that will take them off1 one at a time1 and have a friendly talk with them4 ,you may some time have a chance to give such advice4 ,where a boy will not take your advice1 it is not safe to make him your companion4 ,the habit is often commenced early4--,many boys begin this habit before they are twelve1 sometimes as early as five and six4 ,they have watched young men and boys older than themselves4 ,they do not know that the glands do not begin the secretion of this energy until after they are fourteen to fifteen4 ,they try to follow the example of older boys4 ,while there is no waste of sexual material1 it injures the nerves and pollutes the mind and starts a habit that1 unless stopped in the early teens1 will be hard to break off from later4 ,usually when a boy gets to be fourteen his conscience begins to tell him that the habit is wrong4 ,fortunately1 many boys quit at this age1 some check themselves1 others go recklessly on to their certain ruin4 ,when a boy breaks from the habit at fourteen or fifteen1 this new energy soon overcomes the bad effects of the habit4 ,if he continues until he is a young man1 eighteen or twenty1 he will have a harder struggle to break from the habit1 and it will require a longer period for nature to overcome the bad effects of the habit4 ,boys who go on through life practicing the habit never amount to much and in many cases shorten their lives4 ,how to keep from the habit4--,i hope you have never formed the habit4 ,it is not necessary to do so4 ,it is far wiser never to commit the sin4 ,if you will keep your hands off your sexual organs1 refuse to let your mind entertain impure thoughts1 your lips to speak vulgar words1 your ears to listen to obscene stories1 your eyes to look upon impure pictures1 you can master your passions1 be pure and clean4 ,some effects of the habit4--,some of the effects of this sin are as follows3 ,it injures the morals4 ,the victim will take on a guilty look2 may become irritable and cross2 may avoid good company and seek the vile2 may quit reading the ,bible and going to church4 ,this is one class4 ,they are called bad boys4 ,there is another class that are affected differently and would usually be called good boys4 ,they are very modest1 retiring fellows1 rather shy of girls and would be shocked at immodest language4 ,as the habit fastens itself more firmly1 they become more sensitive1 stay more alone1 the presence of girls becomes more embarrassing to them1 they become quite suspicious and feel that everybody knows of their guilt4 ,in both of these cases1 if the habit is continued1 it will get the mastery of them and will be very difficult to quit4 ,the latter class will feel gloomy and discouraged4 ,they feel that everything is going wrong and that everybody is against them4 ,this is due to the effect of the sin upon their nervous system4 ,it is hard for them to dismiss this idea4 ,this state of mind will unfit them for business of any kind4 ,unless they break from the sin and dismiss these gloomy feelings1 they can't hope to succeed4 ,it injures the mind and morals4--,the boy who practices the secret sin will one day find that he is falling back in his classes4 ,his memory is not as good as it once was4 ,he cannot solve problems as easily as he once could4 ,if a kind-hearted1 wealthy man should offer to put all the young men in a town of ten thousand people through college and meet all their expenses1 on the conditions that they study hard and stand their examinations1 not half of them would accept his kindness4 ,why8 ,they have wasted this energy and are without ambition4 ,the young men who have been wise enough to live pure lives1 have so much manly ambition that poverty will not keep them from graduating4 ,many young men who die from consumption when from eighteen to thirty years old are victims of this sin4 ,in a few cases the sin leads to epilepsy or insanity4 ,it injures the sexual organs4--,the sexual organs become soft and flabby1 when this sin is practiced much4 ,sometimes they do not develop properly4 ,the most common effect of the habit is varicocele4 ,this often occurs at the age of eighteen4 ,the blood vessels in the scrotum become gorged with impure blood and feel like a mass of tangled cords4 ,there will be felt a very unpleasant dragging pain in these cords and the left gland4 ,soon the left gland will waste away until it is no larger than in a small boy4 ,sometimes both glands become affected4 ,passion aroused by the mind and handling the organs1 even when the habit is not practiced1 will cause this disease4 ,there are other bad effects that do not occur until the boy is a man and it is not necessary to mention them here4 ,you have learned enough for you to know that boys should not form the habit1 and1 if they have1 they should break away from the habit at once4 ,how to quit the habit4--,where a boy has commenced the habit and desires to quit1 there are some things he should know and do4 ,the feeling of sexual desire1 called passion1 is caused almost entirely by the mind4 ,as long as a boy can keep his mind on something else1 he will not have these desires4 ,he will need to avoid those things that lead the mind to think about these organs4 ,handling and looking at the organs direct the mind to them4 ,looking at the pictures of partly dressed girls1 reading obscene books1 talking vulgarly or entertaining impure thoughts will all cause passion4 ,all these things must be carefully avoided4 ,you can bring your will into play and become able to say and mean it1 8,i will never again commit the act40 ,but1 best of all1 ,god can help you and offers to do so4 ,go often to ,him in prayer4 ,ask ,him to purify your mind and heart and give you strength to live a pure life4 ,ask ,him to help you to keep all ,his laws1 to be a ,christian and to become a perfect man4 ,,chapter ,,xxiv ,,father',s ,,fourth ,,talk--,,how ,,to ,,live ,a ,,pure ,,life ,the adolescent period4--,the first distinct period of a boy's life is his boyhood4 ,this closes when puberty dawns4 ,this usually occurs when he is about fourteen and a half4 ,this is followed by a period of ten years1 called adolescence4 ,during these years he is changing from boyhood to manhood4 ,in his feelings1 thoughts1 looks and ways1 he resembles the boy he was and the man he is to be4 ,in this mixed state1 he is a problem4 ,his whole after life is to be largely determined by this period4 ,the most important part of this period is the first three years1 from fourteen to seventeen4 ,these three years are called puberty period4 ,during these three years his sexual nature develops rapidly4 ,still he is much more a boy1 during this period1 than he is a man4 ,this is the most critical period of a boy's life4 ,he is coming into possession of powers that are new to him1 he does not understand them1 he is not prepared by nature to control them4 ,he needs the advice and instruction of a wise father1 teacher or book at this period of his life4 ,if a boy is wisely trained during these three years and he follows the good advice given him1 there is little danger of his going wrong in the future4 ,a boy can live pure4--,there is an idea among boys and men1 that it is not best for them to live a pure life4 ,some of them think that doctors teach that they should gratify themselves in some way4 ,there is not one intelligent1 honorable doctor who teaches this lie4 ,there are a few 8quack0 doctors1 whose practice is largely among wicked men1 who teach this lie4 ,when one of these 8quacks0 tells a boy this1 the boy tells twenty other boys and each of them whispers it to twenty more boys1 and in this way many come to believe the lie4 ,they reason like this1 8,if ,i put my arm in a sling for a year or more1 ,i lose the use of my arm through the non-use of it4 ,therefore1 if ,i do not gratify my passions1 ,i will lose my sexual powers40 ,to one1 who does not understand his sexual nature1 this looks like good reasoning4 ,but it will not stand the test of a simple illustration4 ,here is a woman who gives birth to a child when she is twenty and nurses it perfectly at her breast4 ,this is the first time her breasts have performed this function1 though they have been capable of doing so for five years4 ,suppose she does not become a mother again until she is forty4 ,again she nurses her baby as perfectly as she did the first time4 ,but1 there were nineteen years in her life1 during which these glands did not feed a child4 ,the breasts of a woman are a part of her sexual system4 ,these organs have a double function4 ,one is being performed all the time1 day and night2 that of secreting an energy that is absorbed back into her body and that adds to her strength1 health and beauty4 ,the second function is to secrete milk for her baby when she becomes a mother4 ,the first function helps to keep her in a condition where the second function can be performed when she becomes a mother4 ,the sexual organs have two functions4--,now1 in the case of a boy or a man1 the sexual organs have a double function4 ,the first function is to secrete a peculiar energy that is absorbed by the body4 ,it is this energy that makes a boy a perfect boy when he is fourteen or fifteen1 that changes him from a perfect boy into a perfect man1 and that keeps up his perfect manhood through life4 ,we usually speak of a boy's sexual glands as being wholly inactive1 having nothing to do until he reaches puberty4 ,this is not true4 ,it is true however that what we call semen is not formed by his glands until puberty4 ,if two boys were made eunuchs1 one when only a few days old and the other when puberty came1 there would be quite a difference between them at the age of twenty-five4 ,both would be inferior men1 but the second would be in many respects superior to the first4 ,this can be explained only on the ground that the glands of the second boy formed a vital energy before puberty1 and it was this energy that made the difference between them4 ,now we see that this first function of our sexual nature is going on all the time4 ,it is this function that keeps the sexual system in a condition1 when at the proper age and under proper conditions1 the man can become a father4 ,these illustrations absolutely show that a boy1 or a young man1 does not have to gratify his passions4 ,a boy can live as pure a life as a girl4 ,the effects of impure thinking4--,the secret of living a pure life is in controlling the mind and knowing how to use this energy4 ,the mind has the power to stimulate many of the glands of the body to greater activity4 ,for example1 suppose that you have been hard at work for six hours1 then you come into the presence of some fine fruit or a table spread with good things4 ,what happens8 ,your mouth begins to water4 ,what causes this8 ,the sight of food4 ,not exactly4 ,the sight of the food caused your mind to think of the food1 to long for it4 ,you remember how the different things taste4 ,the longer you have to wait1 the more your mouth waters4 ,now the philosophy of it is this1 your mind is stimulating the little salivary glands in your mouth and causing them to secrete the saliva rapidly4 ,just now you hear some one crying1 ,fire6 ,fire6 ,looking through the window1 you see the neighbor's building is on fire4 ,you rush over and for one hour you try to put out the flames1 save some property or someone's life4 ,your mind is wholly withdrawn from all thought of food4 ,during that hour your salivary glands secrete just enough saliva to keep your mouth moist1 perhaps the heat and labor left your mouth dry4 ,now you return home and your attention is called back to the food4 ,again the saliva is formed rapidly1 ten or twenty times as fast as while you were fighting the fire4 ,now1 when a boy has impure thoughts in relation to his sexual organs1 the mind stimulates passion4 ,if he is under the age of puberty1 constant passion will injure his nervous system1 lead him to form the secret sin and will misdirect that energy so that he will fail to be a perfect boy1 when puberty dawns4 ,after puberty dawns1 impure thinking and all impure states of the mind will so stimulate the sexual glands that they will secrete more semen than the body can absorb4 ,what cannot be absorbed will in some way be wasted from the body4 ,it is in this way that boys become imperfect men4 ,nothing that a boy can do is more important than for him to keep his mind pure4 ,two things will help him2 a ,christian life and a strong will4 ,one is a gift2 the other must be cultivated4 ,ways of using up this energy4--,it is very important for a boy or young man to know how to use this energy4 ,we know that if this energy is wasted1 it leaves the body weak1 makes the mind stupid and hurts us morally4 ,we have learned that when this energy is retained1 our physical strength is increased1 our minds are more alert and our moral natures develop better4 ,this shows that this energy can be directed to these parts of our being4 ,how is this to be done8 ,let a boy who is conscious of sexual desire1 tempted to practice the secret sin1 take a brisk walk for three or four miles and his passion is gone4 ,what became of it8 ,he directed the energy to his muscles and expressed it in labor4 ,here is another boy with passion1 he too is tempted to waste this energy4 ,he has a hard lesson in mathematics4 ,let him will to take his mind off sex and force it to solve those problems4 ,in an hour or two passion is gone4 ,what became of it8 ,this time he directed it to his brain and it increased his mental power4 ,here is another boy4 ,his body is healthy and strong1 his mind is bright1 but he is cold1 unkind1 unsympathetic and indifferent to the claims of the needy4 ,he has passion and is tempted to waste his energy4 ,what should he do8 ,let him spend an hour loving the unlovely1 boosting the discouraged1 speaking kind words and doing noble deeds and his passion will be gone4 ,what became of it8 ,he built his energy into his sentiments1 feelings and moral nature4 ,the meaning of passion4--,the consciousness of passion is the voice of nature telling you that you have an extra supply of creative energy on hand1 that you can use in performing physical1 mental and moral service4 ,if this energy is wasted1 it will unfit you to perform the service4 ,it is for you to decide what use you will make of this energy4 ,would you prefer momentary pleasure8 ,then1 you can find it in sexual gratification4 ,but you should remember that pay-day comes later4 ,inferior manhood1 disease1 suffering1 sorrow1 regret and failure lie in the road of all who live in vice4 ,only perverted ideals and views of life would lead one to seek pleasure on the plane of an animal4 ,man's highest1 truest and sweetest pleasures come from the consciousness of perfect physical1 mental and moral development4 ,self-management1 self-control1 self-government will keep us in harmony with nature and ,god and result in true happiness and success4 ,,chapter ,,xxv ,,father',s ,,fifth ,,talk--,,the ,,true ,,young ,,knight ,the true young knight4--,a true young knight is a boy1 or young man1 who is strong1 brave1 ambitious1 intelligent1 gallant and pure4 ,the knights of the ,middle ,ages were strong men4 ,they practiced athletics1 took their outdoor sports and were proud of their physical strength4 ,in those days1 one with a weak1 defective body could not be a knight4 ,they were also1 brave men4 ,they would die for what they believed to be right4 ,they were very gallant toward women4 ,they would offer every courtesy and respect to girlhood1 womanhood1 wifehood and motherhood4 ,they had to be pure men to be strong1 brave1 gallant and manly4 ,a knight would die in defense of womanhood4 ,the purpose of this chapter is to inspire you to become a true knight in your social relations with girls and ladies4 ,the proper social relations of boys and girls1 men and women1 is one of the best ways of developing the social side of our lives1 of improving the mind and strengthening our moral natures4 ,god has made us social beings4 ,he wants us to enjoy life4 ,illustration3 ,,developing ,,knighthood ,treat all girls as you would have boys treat your sister4--,until girls are sixteen and boys are eighteen1 when thrown together1 it is wisest and best for them to engage in plays and games as children without any thought of being sweethearts4 ,small boys should learn that it is not manly for them to squeeze the hand of a girl1 tease1 pinch or pull a girl's hair and he should not think of such an ungentlemanly thing as to try to kiss a girl4 ,the reason for this advice is1 these relations tend to create in the mind thoughts that a true knight will not entertain4 ,you would not want a boy to treat your sister in this way4 ,a boy who would treat another boy's sister as he would not want her brother to treat his sister1 is not a true knight4 ,nature and ,god teach that man is woman's protector4 ,the truest bravery4--,the boy who would expose himself to danger and death to save a girl from drowning or being crushed by a street car1 is brave and deserves much praise4 ,but he is not as brave and does not deserve as much praise1 as does the boy who defends the honor and purity of a girl1 not his sister4 ,to positively refuse to allow a boy to talk about a girl in your presence in a way that you would not allow him to speak to your sister1 is the courage of a knight4 ,the good name of a girl is worth more to her than money1 houses and lands4 ,it is so easy for boys1 who engage in obscene language about girls1 to invent and tell some story about some girl who is perfectly innocent1 and1 in this way1 start others to talking about her4 ,this is called slander4 ,it is one of the most unmanly and cowardly deeds a boy can be guilty of4 ,this is a very common sin among a class of boys4 ,a boy cannot become a true knight who allows himself to have wrong thoughts about girls1 much less to talk about them4 ,all vulgar men were once vulgar boys4 ,if you will cultivate a hatred for vulgarity while you are a boy1 you will hate it when you are a man4 ,bad company4--,when hundreds of prisoners were asked1 8,what brought you to this80 they replied1 8,bad company brought us to this40 ,no doubt that more boys go wrong through bad company than through any other agency4 ,when a boy keeps bad company1 it will be very hard for him not to do as they do4 ,many times he will do wrong rather than be called 8baby40 ,a true knight will be interested in helping a bad boy to overcome his temptations1 but he cannot run the risk of being injured by making a bad boy his companion4 ,if he associates with the rude1 listens to vulgarity long1 he will become rude and vulgar4 ,boys should protect girls4--,the very thought of a boy's insulting your sister causes a feeling of great hatred to rise in your breast4 ,why is this8 ,girls are not as strong as boys4 ,they need protection4 ,that feeling comes to you because you know that you are your sister's protector4 ,this is bravery4 ,but the knightliest young knight1 is the boy who will not speak an unmanly word about another boy's sister and will bravely and kindly rebuke the boy who does4 ,the true knight has one standard of morals4--,no young knight would play and associate with a girl who uses cigarettes1 vulgarity or swears4 ,then1 if he is a brave1 true knight1 he will not ask for better company than he is willing to give4 ,the true knight of the twentieth century will have but one standard of morals4 ,ever since the days of savagery1 when man could swap1 exchange or sell his daughters in the same way that he could his property1 society has been accustomed to a double standard of morals--purity and temperance for woman1 do as you please for boys and men4 ,in the days of savagery1 the value of a girl on the marriage market was determined by her being pure4 ,if she had been impure1 no man wanted to buy her to become his wife1 but she was stoned to death or forced to become a slave4 ,man was free4 ,no one owned him4 ,he could live just as he pleased4 ,woman could not do as she pleased4 ,her very life1 the privilege of becoming a wife and a mother all depended on her being pure4 ,is it not strange that people have allowed this relic of savagery to pass down the centuries without correcting it4 ,people take what is customary to be right4 ,they do not try to decide whether a custom is fair1 just and right or not4 ,it is hard to rid our minds of this old custom4 ,if you should see a girl or woman walking along the street of a city smoking you would condemn her as a bad woman4 ,but there goes a man doing the same thing4 ,is he as bad as the woman8 ,we judge that he is not4 ,unless we know him to be a bad man1 we regard and treat him as a gentleman4 ,on a street corner or in a hotel you hear a girl or woman swearing and using the most obscene language4 ,you do not hesitate to believe that she is bad4 ,you would frown upon her in society4 ,you would scorn her association4 ,even the guilty man would not respect such a woman4 ,this is because custom has biased our very thinking4 ,the very best people are unfair to the girl and the woman4 ,they forgive in man what they condemn in the girl and woman4 ,will you enlist in the new knighthood8--,there was never an organized effort to break down and destroy the double standard of morals until some twenty years ago4 ,in ,england there are several hundred organizations of young men1 in some of these there are several hundred members1 and they have pledged themselves to live as pure lives as the girls they expect some day to marry4 ,every one of these boys and young men is a knight4 ,these organizations are being formed throughout ,canada1 and there are some being formed in the ,united ,states4 ,the world has never offered such a grand and great opportunity for boys to become knights as it does in this century4 ,in the days of chivalry1 the young man who gave his life to protect the honor of a lady was a truer knight than the man who gave his life on the battlefield to protect his country4 ,it takes a higher form of bravery and manhood to protect the virtue of girlhood and womanhood than it does to face whizzing bullets1 booming cannons1 and exploding shells4 ,the great purity movement of this age1 with its ever-increasing army of brave1 determined and self-sacrificing authors and lecturers1 is enlisting and marshalling an army of knights destined to overthrow this monster of savagery4 ,all over this country thousands of brave boys and men are enlisting4 ,this great twentieth century crusade against vice is summoning to its ranks every chivalrous boy and man and every good girl and woman4 ,here is the chance to be a true knight4 ,will you enlist8 ,we invite you4 ,we welcome you to become a true knight4 ,,fifth ,,division ,,vital ,,facts ,,of ,,life ,,for ,,the ,,young ,,woman1 ,,married ,,or ,,single ,,chapter ,,xxvi ,,the ,,real ,,significance ,,of ,,sex ,views of the past4--,in the past1 sex has been regarded as vitally a part of our physical organism4 ,we are now learning that sex is vitally and substantially a part of our psychic nature--physical1 mental and moral life4 ,in the male1 this sex life may become chemicalized and find expression on a purely physical plane1 but this is not its true or highest function4 ,its highest function in relation to the individual1 male or female1 is the creation of new life--physical1 mental and moral4 ,its highest function in relation to society is that of reproduction4 ,the unsexed male horse4--,if the male horse be deprived of certain sexual glands when he is a year old1 at maturity he will not have the sparkling eye2 the high arched muscular neck2 the heavy flowing mane and tail2 the deep hip and chest muscles1 and the elastic bearing of the stallion4 ,the caponized male bird4--,if a male bird be caponized1 he will not grow a large comb1 ear-lobes and wattles1 long glossy1 flowing neck and tail feathers1 or strong sharp spurs on his legs2 he will be without gallantry1 courage and energy4 ,the eunuch4--,if a boy be made a eunuch1 when he is twenty-five he will have no beard1 unless it be a few short scattering hairs2 his voice will be devoid of the deep bass tones of a man2 his shoulders will be round and drooped like a girl's2 he will be without bravery1 gallantry1 ambition1 energy and will be very limited in mental capacity4 ,the unsexed girl4--,if the ovaries and breasts of a small girl should be removed1 when she is twenty she would not have the graceful outlines of limbs1 body1 shoulders1 neck and face2 her skin would not become thin and fair2 her cheeks would not have the ruddy glow2 her eyes would not be bright and expressive2 her hair would not be long1 heavy and glossy2 her voice would not be rich and tender1 sympathetic and musical2 she would not take a keen interest in intellectual1 moral and social questions2 she would be a woman devoid of many of the physical1 mental and moral characteristics belonging to attractive1 beautiful womanhood4 ,without these organs of sex it would not be possible for a girl to develop into attractive normal womanhood4 ,should these organs be removed after she has attained maturity1 she and her friends would notice a gradual loss in her physical1 mental and moral tone4 ,the two functions of the sexual glands4--,these easily recognized and well established facts show that these organs perform an involuntary and continuous function that is vitally related to the attainment and maintenance of perfect womanhood4 ,we know that whatever interferes with this function will prevent the attainment and maintenance of these ideals4 ,what is the nature of this function8 ,the monthly creation of the ovum and the monthly period do not answer the question1 for both represent a sacrifice4 ,the function of becoming a mother does not explain it1 for the reason that perfect womanhood may be attained and maintained in the single life4 ,the explanation lies in the fact that the sexual glands of a woman1 breasts and ovaries1 each have two functions--a periodic and special function and a continuous involuntary function4 ,after the dawning of puberty the ovaries1 once every twenty-eight days1 produce an egg or ovum4 ,this is their periodic function4 ,should she become a mother and nurse her child1 this function of lactation would be the periodic function of the breasts4 ,the continuous function4--,day and night1 asleep and awake1 both the breasts and the ovaries are generating an internal secretion that is being absorbed and used by every organ of the body1 faculty of the mind and attribute of the moral nature4 ,this continuous function1 not only aids in the attainment and maintenance of perfect womanhood1 but enables her to perform perfectly the periodic functions of motherhood and lactation4 ,the generation1 absorption1 distribution and assimilation of the sex life in the development and normal functions of womanhood are controlled by natural laws1 but these laws may be aided or interfered with by the individual4 ,as a result of morbid sex heredity1 ignorance of sex laws and a false education1 most people misdirect their sex life4 ,when we learn to plan intelligently for the creation of children1 to respect their prenatal rights1 to give them a warm and loving welcome into our homes and wisely to instruct them in regard to their sex natures1 the sex life will then be intelligently directed towards the development of a more perfect manhood and womanhood4 ,the relation of the mind to the salivary glands4--,it is quite important for one to understand the relation of the mind to the functions of the sexual system4 ,the mind has the power to stimulate many of the glands of the body to unusual activity4 ,in the presence of delicious fruit1 or a table spread with tempting food1 the mind stimulates the salivary glands to increased activity4 ,the blood flows freely to the glands and they secrete saliva many times as fast as they would when the mind is engaged in other things4 ,if1 when the saliva is being secreted so rapidly the mind should be suddenly directed to something else the unusual flow of saliva would cease4 ,the relation of the mind to the organs of generation4--,the mind can awaken1 intensify1 and prolong a desire for food4 ,this causes a rush of blood to the salivary glands1 stimulating them to unusual activity in the secretion of saliva4 ,in the same way the mind can awaken1 intensify and prolong sexual excitement4 ,this causes a rush of blood to the genital glands and stimulates them to unusual activity4 ,in the male1 this results in the dissipation of the vital energy by voluntary or involuntary discharges of the vital fluid4 ,in the female1 the internal secretions or vital energy does not become chemicalized as in the male1 but is directed to wrong channels or is dissipated by radiation4 ,there are some authors who hold that the injuries sustained by the female1 due to impure habits of thinking1 the secret sin1 or sexual excesses1 are not caused by dissipated sexual life1 but are due to the strain upon the nervous system4 ,we have already observed that the development of the feminine physical and mental characteristics during adolescence and the maintenance of womanhood are due to the generation of an internal secretion of the genital glands4 ,the nerves1 as well as all other organs of the body1 faculties of the mind and powers of the soul1 are injured by the dissipation of this energy4 ,what produces impure thoughts4--,whatever leads the mind to entertain lascivious thoughts about matters of sex will cause an excess of blood to flow to the genital organs1 resulting in sex consciousness and passion4 ,the reading of novels tainted with immoral suggestions1 admiring obscene pictures1 engaging in the public round dance or waltz1 kissing1 caressing1 teasing1 fondling1 or what modern society calls 8spooning0 if indulged in by the sexes1 will produce these results4 ,self-pollution1 or the secret sin1 is more common among the females than was formerly believed4 ,these indulgences lead to abnormal sexual desire1 weaken the will and make it possible for the girl to surrender the priceless gem of virtue4 ,effects of impure thinking4--,the dissipation of the sex life in any one or more of these ways will slowly undermine the physical1 mental and moral health4 ,the victim loses the snap and luster of the eye1 the ruddy glow of health1 plumpness of features1 and becomes conscious of bodily lassitude1 nervousness1 loss of mental and moral tone4 ,dissipation of the sex life will explain many a nervous invalid and consumptive patient4 ,it is for you to decide4--,the continuous involuntary function of the creative organs is to generate this creative force1 this life principle4 ,it is for you to decide what use you will make of it4 ,if you keep your mind pure1 eat only wholesome food1 take plenty of exercise1 breathe deeply1 sleep in properly ventilated rooms1 spend much time in ,god's out-of-doors1 this creative life will vitalize the blood1 give elasticity and strength to the muscles1 and will express itself in physical health1 strength and beauty4 ,by keeping your mind pure1 following the forgotten physical directions1 taking plenty of mental exercise in reading books of high mental and moral tone1 hearing good speakers and indulging in independent thought1 this vital principle will be directed to the brain1 where it will be converted into intellectual brilliancy and mental vigor4 ,if you keep your mind pure and follow the physical directions given1 cultivate an unselfish interest in the well-being of others1 sympathize with the sorrowing1 boost the discouraged1 love the unlovely1 help to bear the burdens of others1 recognize your need of ,christ1 surrender your life to ,him1 this ,god-given creative life will be directed to the moral nature4 ,this is ,perfect ,womanhood4 ,,chapter ,,xxvii ,,the ,,vicious ,,novel ,the introduction4--,since you were a very small girl ,i have very carefully selected the stories told you and the books and papers read to you4 ,what we read very largely determines our thoughts1 words1 actions and character4 ,in the past ,i have told you many stories of my childhood1 stories ,i had heard1 stories found in the ,bible and good books1 besides reading many good books to you4 ,during these years ,i have selected many simple interesting books for you to read4 ,i made the selection for you because ,i knew what books were too difficult for you2 what books would interest you2 what books would do you good and what books would do you harm4 ,then you enjoyed those stories which most appealed to a child4 ,why girls are fond of novels4--,usually the novel craze comes on a girl when she is about fifteen years of age4 ,this is because of certain changes that are taking place4 ,god has made her a social being4 ,about this time in a girl's life the developing sex nature is stimulating and awakening the social nature4 ,thoughts of a lover1 courtship1 marriage1 wifehood and motherhood are occasionally entertained by her4 ,this is perfectly natural4 ,the reason she wants to read novels is because they deal with the social experiences and this appeals to and satisfies her developing social life4 ,she is in a period of transition4--,wonderful changes are now taking place1 not only in the delicate curves of bust and hips1 in the dainty coloring and superb vitality of body1 but also in the thoughts1 feelings and emotions4 ,at this time a girl is passing from girlhood to womanhood4 ,it is the developing sex life that is producing all of these new changes4 ,with this new life and new experiences come new dangers4 ,prior to this time there has been but little difference between her mind and that of her brother's4 ,but1 now1 this new life is developing the woman in her4 ,in this transition period1 she is conscious of the girl she was and partly is1 and of the woman she is to be and partly is4 ,this is rather a mixed experience4 ,this accounts for the girl's changeable states of mind1 emotions1 feelings and sentiments4 ,if this new life is properly directed1 it will contribute much to the joy1 charm1 and beauty of an ideal womanhood4 ,the difference between a good novel and a bad novel4--,the world is being flooded with novels1 good and bad4 ,they are very popular because they are light reading and appeal to the social nature4 ,their authors write largely about courtship and marriage4 ,some of these books are good and some dangerously bad4 ,a good novel is one that is high in literary and moral tone1 true to life and gives one a natural and true idea of noble manhood and pure womanhood2 of their social relations in courtship1 marriage and parentage4 ,a good novel can be read by a girl to her parents or before a company of young people without embarrassment4 ,a bad novel is one that is either highly sensational1 intensely romantic1 untrue to life1 tainted with immorality1 or in some way gives one a perverted vision of all the sacred relations of life4 ,a novel that a girl would be ashamed to read before her parents1 or a group of friends1 belongs to that class of literature that should be tabooed4 ,the effects of the vicious novel4--,if the girl reads the questionable or vicious novels1 fancies them1 admires their heroes and heroines1 and in her mind condones their indiscretions1 excuses their sins1--as the author does1--the influence cannot be otherwise than bad4 ,such novels must give an unnatural tone to her thoughts1 feelings and sentiments4 ,cause and effect are always inseparably related4 ,the outward life is the enfolding of the inner life of feelings1 sentiments and emotions4 ,this inner life is affected by what we read4 ,if a girl delights in reading novels that condone1 excuse1 or advocate a girl receiving caresses1 kisses and keeping late hours at night with a beau1 she will not likely greet her prince at the marriage altar with the rare queenly gift of unkissed lips4 ,if she delights to read the novels whose heroine was angelic in all things1 except in the insignificant item of personal purity1 she too will be in danger of lacking that same element of character when she marries1 should she be so fortunate as to become a wife4 ,if she delights in reading novels1 whose married heroines lived 8double lives10 she too1 one day may be guilty of imitating the heroines she worshiped4 ,novels which are untrue to life1 tainted with immorality1 certainly account for many girls going astray1 many who overtrust their lovers1 and many uncongenial marriages and many divorces4 ,the title of a novel usually indicates its contents4 ,novels with sensational titles or titles suggesting unnatural and immoral thoughts1 appealing to the morbid and baser feelings should be avoided4 ,how to direct and conserve the creative life4--,this new life1 the sex life of a girl1 if rightly retained and directed will give strength1 health1 beauty and perfection of the body2 alertness1 strength and brilliancy of every faculty of the mind and power of the soul4 ,the sex life is three-fold in its nature1 being related to the physical1 mental and soul life4 ,it is a law of human biology that the direction of this energy is very largely under the direction of the mind4 ,if one desires bodily development and will take regular and systematic physical training1 this energy can be built into the muscles giving them the body of an athlete4 ,if one desires intellectual development and will regularly and systematically exercise every faculty of the mind1 this energy will be directed to the brain1 resulting in intellectual brilliancy4 ,the same law applies with equal force to the development of the feelings1 sentiments and emotions of the moral nature4 ,if we take normal physical1 mental and moral exercise1 this energy will be conserved in the blood1 which is the life1 and directed so as to produce a perfect development4 ,sin alone has brought conflict and inharmony into our three-fold nature and prevents perfect happiness and perfect development4 ,this is an appalling fact4 ,we are hereditarily degenerate4 ,god's grace and the right exercise of the will in relation to perfect self-control are necessary conditions of individual and race improvement4 ,if lascivious thoughts are allowed control of the will1 this creative life will be misdirected1 the generative system will become abnormal1 resulting in sexual weakness and depriving the entire being of the benefits of this energy4 ,the relation of reading to the disposition of the sex life4--,a fondness for reading highly romantic1 intensely sensational1 untrue and immoral novels is abnormal and lead to a misdirection of this creative life4 ,there is the romantic element in our nature which should be developed1 but it should not be over-developed4 ,we should have a balanced development4 ,the degenerate elements in our nature1 inherited or acquired1 should be suppressed and eliminated4 ,the vicious novel increases the creation of the sex life and at the same time misdirects it4 ,this intensifies our degeneracy4 ,reading good literature1 facts or fiction1 or both1 is normal and leads to a natural generation of and distribution of this energy4 ,girls should read a general line of good literature4 ,the romantic nature is especially active in youth4 ,it is for this reason that the youth is inclined to read only fiction4 ,if in young life we would develop properly1 we should choose a general line of reading1 embracing some of the standard books of fiction1 history1 travel1 poetry1 biography1 essays and religion4 ,advice concerning books4--,every young person should possess some good books of his own1 even if but few4 ,they should read good books4 ,time is too valuable to be wasted in reading bad or even mediocre books4 ,in this way they keep company with the great men and women of this day and of the past4 ,in this way they become heirs to the intellectual and spiritual wealth of the past and are intimately associated with and related to the mental and spiritual aristocracy of the present4 ,they may not be recognized in their community as belonging to the 8upper tens10 but they can keep company with the best men and women of the ages by reading good books4 ,just as we have read and talked together about good books and stories in the past1 so ,i trust we shall find it pleasant and profitable to be companionable in our reading in the future4 ,i will be glad to aid you in the selection of such books and magazines as will be pleasant and profitable for you to read in the near future4 ,i will always appreciate the privilege of hearing you read a book that you like1 of discussing the merits of a book with you1 or of giving you the best advice that ,i am capable of giving with reference to any book that you may desire to read4 ,,chapter ,,xxviii ,,the ,,public ,,dance ,why attractive4--,dancing is one of the social temptations that come to young girls when they are fifteen and older4 ,the gliding1 swaying movements of the dance1 the brilliantly lighted halls1 the intoxicating strains of fast music1 the gay and jovial throng and the display of dress appeal strongly to the feelings of young people4 ,dancing in itself is not sinful or objectionable4--,there is nothing intrinsically wrong in the act of dancing4 ,there is nothing sinful in the act of bathing the entire body4 ,but the act can be performed under social conditions when it would not be only a sin but a crime4 ,there could be no moral objection to the dancing together of young men1 neither could there be any moral objection to the dancing of young ladies with each other4 ,individuals could dance alone1 brothers and sisters and near relatives from homes of culture1 refinement and good morals could dance together without committing a moral wrong4 ,or if society had remained satisfied with the old 8,virginia reel0 or the 8square dance0 little harm would come of it4 ,dancing with these restrictions1 is seldom engaged in to-day for the reason that the pleasure found in the waltz and round dance is so largely diminished4 ,the secret of the dance's hold on society4--,if modern dancing were restricted to the chaste and pure1 and limited to the parlors of the best homes and safeguarded by the presence of the heads of that home1 dancing would lose much of its attractive hold upon society4 ,if the dancing of the sexes together were prohibited by law and should the government provide well equipped dance halls in every village and city to be used free of charge1 with the one restriction that the sexes dance separate1 there would be little temptation to dance4 ,this reveals the true secret of the public dance4 ,here is about the relation assumed by young people in executing the dance as we have it to-day4 ,the young man places his right arm around the waist of the young lady2 she places her head against his left shoulder1 her heaving breasts are against his1 her right hand is held in his left1 he places his foot1 sometimes his leg1 between hers4 ,to this must be added1 the young lady1 if properly attired1 must wear a sleeveless1 low-necked dress exposing1 in part1 her secondary sexual charms1 the breasts2 wine1 ale and beer are often indulged in freely by many of the young men and occasionally by some of the young women4 ,the public dance a menace to society4--,from this description you will easily see that the public dance1 as we have it to-day1 appears to have been especially contrived1 in all of its appointments1 to awaken and arouse the sex nature4 ,it is for this reason almost all truly religious people and churches condemn the public dance4 ,in almost all communities the public dance has been relegated by the best classes of society to a lower class4 ,there are some communities where the dance is encouraged in homes of wealth1 culture and refinement4 ,for a few years at least1 they pride themselves in the fact that only the best are invited4 ,here1 of course1 the harm would be reduced to some degree4 ,many erring women attribute their fall in part1 or entirely to the public dance4 ,many vicious young men use the dance as their most successful means of accomplishing the ruin of young girls4 ,when the young woman assumes for the first time the relation of the dance1 her sense of womanly modesty is greatly shocked4 ,if she continues to dance1 this relation becomes less embarrassing4 ,if she becomes very fond of dancing1 this will usually be due to her passions being aroused by the magnetic1 amorous influence of her partner in the dance4 ,she will not enjoy dancing with men who fail to excite in her those agreeable feelings4 ,she will be popular with this class of men to the extent that she is able to respond to their amorous nature4 ,she will not fully realize that the pleasure she enjoys1 while dancing1 is inseparable from her sex nature2 she may never fall1 but constant sexual excitement caused by the dance will produce all the evil effects of the secret sin4 ,other objections4--,aside from this main objection1 there are a number of other objections4 ,the flimsy dress1 late hours at night1 over-exertion and poorly ventilated halls are in violation of the simple laws of health4 ,it fosters unfortunate social distinctions1 leads many young people to violate the wishes of their parents and their church vows1 keeps many from ,christ1 and interferes with the spiritual life of others4 ,it is responsible for not a few life-long invalids1 premature deaths from heart trouble and consumption1 ruined marriages and cursed children with illegitimacy4 ,it has broken the hearts1 bowed the heads1 carved lines of sorrow on the face and silvered the hair of loving devoted parents4 ,right information needed4--,few young people understand the nature of the dance4 ,those who have condemned it have rarely done so in the right spirit or given a satisfactory reason why the public dance is wrong4 ,owing to the relation of the modern dance to the sex nature it would usually be wiser to discuss it before single sex audiences4 ,if young people1 who are interested in developing a perfect manhood and womanhood1 understood how the modern dance complicates each other's sex problems1 they would discard the dance from their social programmes4 ,i am sure they would arrange for other forms of diversions and entertainment4 ,the cold-blooded facts are1 few1 if any1 vigorous young men and women can persist long in the modern dance and maintain perfectly chaste thoughts and emotions4 ,it is a sad thought that many young people are not interested in developing perfect manhood and perfect womanhood4 ,they are not likely to heed the advice of this talk4 ,by all who understand the value of the creative life1 the importance of keeping the mind pure1 this advice will be appreciated and heeded4 ,,chapter ,,xxix ,a ,,young ,,woman',s ,,ethics ,girlhood4--,we have talked with each other about a small girl's ethics1 the proper social relations of girls with boys4 ,your girlhood has been one of innocence1 playfulness and unbounded joy4 ,i have noticed with real pleasure that you have not been in a hurry to leave the period of girlhood4 ,although you will soon be seventeen1 and you are quite as large as your mother1 you will not be a mature woman until you are about twenty4 ,occasional association with young men4--,you have had one or two schoolroom flirtations1 of small consequence1 a few times you have been escorted home from school or church by youths who had but recently reached the dignity of 8long pants10 but you are now of an age when you will be thrown more in company with young men4 ,many will call to see you whom you will entertain no thought of marrying4 ,for several years your social relation with young men will be only that of friendship4 ,to associate occasionally with young men who are socially1 intellectually ,illustration3 ,,friendship4 and morally1 your equal is natural1 enjoyable and in many ways very helpful4 ,girls should demand a single standard of morals4--,you should treat young men as you would wish young women to treat your brother4 ,many young men will want to call1 whose habits and character are such that you cannot associate with them1 without injury to your social and moral standing4 ,if you do not know a young man's record1 who seeks your company1 have your papa or brother look it up4 ,be frank1 kind and positive in your explanation that you cannot encourage his attentions because of his evil habits and his bad record4 ,assure him that you will gladly assist him to reform and to step up to the standard you hold for a young man1 but that you cannot and will not approve of his life by stepping down to his plane4 ,if all girls would demand a 8white life0 of young men1 fewer would sow their 8wild oats40 ,if all sensible and moral girls would frankly and kindly express their disapproval of the filthy1 expensive and injurious habits of using tobacco and drink1 there would be fewer 8boozers0 and unfortunate appendixes to the wet end of cigarettes4 ,many young men are indiscreet or immoral4--,in your association with young men be natural1 be yourself1 be frank1 use good sense1 guard against any indiscretion in yourself or in young men4 ,it is a custom with many young men to try to hold the girl's hand1 to play with her hair1 to pinch her arms1 to pat her cheeks1 to drop carelessly their hands in her lap1 or to place their arms about her neck or waist4 ,unless densely ignorant1 such young men are vicious4 ,all the males among the lower animals1 at certain seasons1 make a peculiar noise recognized by the females as a 8sex call10 and the males have their peculiar methods of teasing the females inviting their consent to the sexual act4 ,whether young people put this sex interpretation on pinching1 caressing1 hugging and kissing or not1 it is1 in its final analysis1 a sex call4 ,these are the methods used by the seducer4 ,these are the indiscretions into which uninformed youths easily drift to their ruin4 ,if a young man appears to be ignorant of the real nature of these indiscretions1 he is to be pitied and helped4 ,if he persists in these indiscretions1 he should not be extended the courtesy of an invitation to make another call4 ,if you allow one young man to kiss you1 he believes that you allow others the same privilege1 whether you do or not4 ,young men who possess one spark of manhood will admire and respect you more than the girls they may kiss4 ,be sensible4--,in your conversation with young men1 have something sensible and interesting to say4 ,have some charming story to read or tell them4 ,have them read or tell you a story4 ,this will enable you to help them cultivate an interest in intellectual matters4 ,many young people get into the habit of indulging in the most insane and ridiculous conversation4 8,hands off40--,moonlight walks along unfrequented streets or roads1 night buggy rides1 late hours in the parlor1 low-necked dresses and suggestive post cards1 photos and pictures are unnecessary sources of temptation4 ,when young women permit these social privileges and conditions1 young men naturally conclude that they are easy victims4 ,the clear-eyed1 frank1 pure1 common-sense girl will have but little trouble in letting young men know her disapproval of that which is questionable1 indiscreet or undignified4 ,they will soon learn to respect her convictions4 ,she will seldom find it necessary to enforce her ideals in an aggressive way4 ,she will kindly1 tactfully and positively enforce the rule1 8hands off02 she will keep ever in her mind the ideal of manhood she hopes one day to realize in her king4 ,she will never do or say anything while entertaining young men that would displease the mental image of her future prince4 ,letter writing4--,if you should correspond with a young man1 be interesting1 sensible1 cautious and sincere4 ,you should never put in a letter to a young man1 what you would object to your mother's reading4 ,you would be surprised to know how many young men compare their letters from young women4 ,if you will remember this and consider the possible consequence1 you will be cautious what you put in a letter4 ,ethics of the engaged4--,thus far we have studied the ethics of young women in their relation to young men1 as friends only4 ,friendship may assume a more serious nature and ripen into love4 ,love is the strongest and at the same time the weakest1 the most fickle2 the most far-sighted and the blindest2 the wisest and sometimes the most foolish1 of human attributes4 ,love should listen to the voice of reason1 judgment and will4 ,that experience1 called love1 that makes courtship so delightful and beautiful1 marriage desirable and sacred1 that harmonizes differences1 blends personalities1 and makes the two one1 is the child of the sex life4 ,when the sex life is normal1 the two having lived virtuous lives1 love will be pure and intense4 ,if one1 or both have misused their sex life1 lust1 the child of sensuality1 may be easily mistaken for love4 ,harmony1 happiness and heaven will reign in the home where both have been pure before marriage and remain true to each other after marriage4 ,where one or both break their marriage vows the bond of love is broken4 ,the deed may never be confessed1 but the estrangement will be felt4 ,lust is responsible for most unfortunate marriages1 domestic inharmonies and divorces4 ,lust on the part of one1 and love on the part of the other1 can never make a happy marriage4 ,pure love on the part of both is the only thing that can stand the inevitable tests of marriage4 ,some advice4--,shun sudden emotions1 cultivate sincerity1 covet neither beauty nor wealth1 be true to the best that is within you2 don't be in a hurry to become engaged2 the first chance may not be the best2 wait for the coming of your prince4 ,until he comes1 don't trifle with your affections or the affections of a gentleman friend by making marriage engagements4 ,this is dangerous1 as well as a very great sin4 ,when you have found your prince1 you should not postpone marriage by a long engagement4 ,it is not necessary or wise to wait until you are as well equipped for housekeeping as your parents now are4 ,long engagements4--,if your prince is healthy1 industrious1 economical and has a few hundred ahead2 or if he has a good education and a good position1 with the other qualities1 he can make a living for his family4 ,if either of these conditions exists1 a long engagement should be avoided4 ,if either of these conditions does not exist a definite engagement with a man would be unwise4 ,hasty marriages4--,the other extreme of hasty marriage is to be condemned4 ,if marriage takes place when one or both are immature1 the offspring must suffer4 ,if an engagement follows a very brief acquaintance1 disagreeable qualities may be discovered later1 to be followed by a broken engagement4 ,hasty and brief engagements often terminate in the divorce courts4 ,closing advice4--,when friendship has ripened into love1 the vital question being asked and answered2 fraternal relations established between the families2 and the engagement is a blissful reality1 what then should be the rules governing the young woman's ethics8 ,inflexible rules would be difficult to give4 ,much depends upon the man to whom she is engaged and the length of the engagement4 ,during the pending engagement both should remember that they are not married1 and hence there are liberties in the married life that are not theirs until the civil phase of marriage has completed their oneness4 ,all embracing and sitting in each other's lap should be entirely avoided4 ,pictures1 showbills and post cards have taught in recent years some very vicious lessons to the youth4 ,an occasional good-by kiss between the engaged1 at the close of a call1 just before parting1 unaccompanied by an embrace should result in no harm to either4 ,she should be frank1 sincere and earnest1 versatile1 entertaining and affectionate1 but very discreet4 ,if she follows these simple and essential rules1 she and her prince will be all the happier during their pending engagement and will respect and love each other all the more through life4 ,,chapter ,,xxx ,,the ,,wronged ,,girl ,why most girls go wrong4--,in my talk on a young woman's ethics1 ,i endeavored to give you such information and advice1 regarding your association with young men1 as would safeguard your character4 ,few girls have been as well informed by their mothers in these matters as they should have been4 ,as a result of ignorance1 many girls1 even out of our best homes1 annually fall4 ,were all girls taught by their mothers along this important line and could they see the tragic consequence of going wrong1 it is evident that very few young women would ever go astray4 ,few women go wrong from choice4--,it should be said1 in justice to fallen women1 that but few would have gone wrong1 had it not been for the seductive wiles of designing men4 ,man is woman's natural protector4 ,women naturally trust men1 and look to them for protection4 ,the young man who lives a pure life1 maintained by noble1 pure ideas1 is a safe guardian of a young woman's virtue4 ,unfortunately such young men are the exceptions and not the rule4 ,most young men receive their first lessons in matters of sex from ignorant1 sinful men4 ,from their early teens their highest ideas of manhood involve the ruin of some girl4 ,the training that most boys and young men receive leads naturally to these perverted ideas4 ,as a result of this false training the natural feelings of being a friend1 a champion1 a protector of a girl's honor and virtue are gradually transformed into the sentiments of a libertine4 ,such young men are found in all grades of society4 ,they cultivate the acquaintance of innocent1 unsuspecting girls1 make love to them1 win their confidence and affections1 set dates for early marriage1 then practice their seductive methods with vows of marriage oft repeated1 pluck the lily of virtue and leave their victims to suffer endless remorse1 while they gloat over their successes1 go unwhipped and lose no social prestige4 ,if motherhood does not expose her sin4--,if this betrayal does not result in her becoming a mother1 and her betrayer does not expose her sin to the public1 her problems will be much more easily solved4 ,but1 even if she is so fortunate as to escape motherhood and her betrayer does not boast to others of what he has done1 yet no pen can portray1 no rhetoric can describe and no imagination can conceive her fearful dreams1 her fevered memories and her agonies of remorse4 ,if motherhood does expose her sin4--,the gravest problems arise where the girl is to become a mother4 ,to shield herself and to save her family from disgrace1 her first thought will be to use some means to rid herself of the unborn life4 ,in this awful hour of conscious guilt1 mental bewilderment and soul agony the girl would gladly welcome death in any form rather than face the inevitable exposure that awaits her4 ,god only knows how many girls commit suicide and how many mysterious deaths might be explained by this cause4 ,where they succeed in destroying the unwelcome life1 physical health is often wrecked4 ,but suppose that death or ill health does not follow1 what must be the effects on the mind and soul that follow this cold-blooded act of willful prenatal murder4 ,if her lover refuses marriage1 she should confess to her mother4--,it is not to be wondered at that so many girls1 when deceived in a love affair1 rather than face unforgiving parents1 a cold and heartless world1 a social condition that excuses in man what is an unpardonable sin in woman1 choose a life of immorality in a house of shame4 ,this unkindness1 this injustice1 this down-right cruelty toward woman is a relic of savagery that clings on to civilization with a tenacity that even ,christianity has thus far failed to eradicate4 ,until the truth of a 8,white life for two0 frees us from this monster of injustice1 what should the wronged girl do8 ,to commit suicide1 to murder her unborn child1 to run away from home and give herself over to an immoral life only adds greater sins to the one already committed4 ,poor1 weak1 ignorant1 confiding girl1 her lot is now a hard one4 ,if there were anything remotely akin to manhood in her betrayer1 he would now do the only thing he can do that is right--marry her4 ,if he refuses1 then she should at once go to her parents and make the most humiliating confession a human being can make4 ,it may require more effort to do this than to try to solve the problem in any other way1 but usually this is best4 ,sometimes the parents will pity and forgive1 sometimes they will cast her out4 ,the last should never be true4 ,could the parents only realize how much of her fall was due to their lack of proper education1 how much was due to passion they may have bequeathed her1 they would not cast her out from home at such a time4 ,homes for the unfortunate girls4--,her parents1 brothers and sisters have social rights that must be respected4 ,for her to remain at home during her sickness would attract unnecessary attention to the event and subject innocent members of the family to needless humiliation due to the ridicule and scorn of the neighbors4 ,there are homes in all our large cities for the unfortunate girl where she can spend a few months before and after the birth of her child4 ,should the child be still-born1 or die soon after birth1 by going away from home1 she and her family may be shielded from the curiosity and scorn of the friends and neighbors4 ,she should be true to her child4--,new problems arise if her child lives4 ,most young illegitimate mothers give their children over to some 8,home ,finders ,institution40 ,circumstances may sometimes justify1 or seem to justify1 this disposition of the child4 ,the child is bone of her bone1 blood of her blood1 life of her life4 ,she is largely responsible for bringing the innocent1 helpless child into the world2 she should not add to her personal sin and to her sin against the child by deserting and leaving it to the cold mercies of a selfish1 unsympathetic world4 ,if her parents sympathize with and forgive her1 they will most likely have her return to their home with the child4 ,the women of the community will circulate the scandal on her return until they wear all the reports thread-bare4 ,but the girl must make up her mind to face this1 live an ideal life and endure the sneers until she lives it down4 ,this will be a severe trial1 but she will have a chance to show the world what a beautiful life a wronged woman can live when given a half chance4 ,if driven from home4--,if her parents drive her from home1 her experience becomes the bitterest known to a human being4 ,but she should not despair4 ,he who said to the woman1 8caught in the act10 8go and sin no more0 is ever ready to help bear her burdens and speak to her the same words of forgiveness and cheer4 ,in all large cities there are 8,homes for the ,friendless10 where friendless girls may go without charge until after they recover from confinement4 ,a real living incident4--,i will tell you a real1 living incident which is only one among many of the human tragedies1 with shifting variations1 occurring annually in nearly every community1 enacted upon the dramatic stage of modern society's double standard of morals4 ,a young lady of twenty-four years1 a teacher in a city high school1 during a revival became deeply concerned about her spiritual interests4 ,after seeking ,christ for some four days1 she said to her spiritual adviser3 8,i am in great trouble4 ,i can't get to ,god in the condition ,i am in4 ,since the death of my father and only brother1 you are the only person to whom ,i have felt that ,i could confide matters of such a personal and delicate nature as ,i feel compelled to relate to you4 ,since ,i came to your city four years ago1 ,i have assumed the title of #8,mrs1' allowing widowhood to be inferred4 ,i have never been married4 ,i am wearing the name of the man1 who by every possible moral right should have married me and been a true husband to me4 ,i am a mother and my little girl of six summers is wearing the name of her father1 which civil law says she has no right to wear4 ,my mother1 sisters1 relatives and former friends all are under the impression that ,i am divorced4 8,if ,i become a ,christian1 ,i want to unite with the church4 ,if ,i give the name ,i am now wearing to be placed on the church register1 ,i shall be living and practicing a lie4 ,if ,i give my maiden name1 ,i shall expose my mistake1 bring disgrace upon my family1 brand my child with illegitimacy1 and lose my position as a teacher1 whereby ,i make my living1 support my child and am able to live a pure life4 ,what must ,i do80 ,the person to whom she related this story was greatly perplexed for an answer4 ,though a godly man1 a minister1 the double standard of morals had so biased his thinking that he was not prepared to give her a fair and just answer4 ,hoping that additional light might help him out of his dilemma1 he asked her to tell him what led to her fall4 ,she replied1 8,after the death of father and brother1 our bread winners and protectors1 mother1 sisters and ,i made our living by keeping student boarders from a church college4 ,one of our boarders1 a young law student1 made love to me1 won my affections and complete confidence4 ,we were engaged to be married on the day of his graduation4 ,only a few months before this event he asked for privileges that belonged only to the married4 ,i was perfectly shocked and dazed4 ,i resented the request as an insult4 ,he insisted that he meant no offense1 that he considered that we loved and trusted each other as much as we possibly could after we were married4 ,he insisted that we were as truly one as if we were married1 that the mere legal phase was only a custom and had no moral significance and that it was very common for the engaged to enjoy this privilege4 ,after many days of entreaty1 promise of marriage oft repeated1 and loving caresses1 ,i made the profound mistake of my life4 8,some weeks before the commencement1 ,i discovered that ,i was to be a mother4 ,i pleaded with him for immediate marriage4 ,he insisted that marriage would interfere seriously with his examination work and that he was to begin his legal profession in a distant state and that marriage could be safely delayed until commencement4 ,on the gay day of his graduation he suggested that he had our future home in a distant state rented and furnished awaiting our arrival4 ,he suggested that marriage there would be rather romantic4 ,i accepted the idea4 ,we arrived in the town1 on a late night train1 where he was to practice law4 ,a hackman conveyed us to our new home4 ,i found it as he had described it4 ,we spent the night as husband and wife4 ,the next morning he suggested that we had thoughtlessly made a very serious mistake1 that to get married there would ruin me socially and him in his profession4 ,he suggested a plan that appeared wise to me1 viz43 after a few weeks to take a train to some distant state and there be married4 ,later he suggested that we had better wait until the baby was born4 ,not until the child was two years old did ,i ever doubt his purpose of marriage4 8,one day a doubt took possession of me4 ,i grew desperate in my determination4 ,on his return home1 ,i faced him and demanded immediate marriage1 refusing to live with him longer unless he took immediate steps to correct the mistakes of the past4 ,i pleaded for the rights of his child1 for my rights4 ,once more he renewed his fidelity and promised to arrange immediately his business so we could make the trip in a week or ten days4 ,meanwhile he secretly dissolved partnership1 disposed of almost all his property1 took a midnight train1 without a good-by kiss1 and left for parts unknown4 8,i sold off our furniture1 wrote mother that husband and ,i had disagreed and had separated1 that ,i would send her my little girl and would help support the family by teaching40 ,the minister's mistake4--,then she said to the minister1 8,i never meant to be a sinner1 ,i am living a pure life4 ,what must ,i do80 ,the minister advised her to confess to the church what she had done and said that he would plead with the church to forgive and stand by her4 ,if this woman had followed the minister's advice she would have lost her position as a teacher1 she would have lost her social standing1 she would not have been given a sympathetic and loving welcome into the church1 she would have brought disgrace upon her home and placed society's stigma of illegitimacy upon her child4 ,the minister would not have demanded a similar confession from the man who was far more guilty than she4 ,that conscientious minister would insist upon restitution's being made for stolen property1 as a condition of divine forgiveness1 but a libertine may pluck the lily of purity from a maiden's brow1 and rob his child of sacred birth1 allow mother and child to die in poverty1 their grocer's and doctor's bills to go unpaid1 the public to bury them in the potter's field1 while he revels in luxury and enjoys social distinction1 and no restitution is required in his case1 as a condition of divine favor1 membership in the church1 or a triumphant entrance into endless bliss4 ,blinded by the double standard4--,she could not meet the minister's condition4 ,he was conscientious and could not make what to him would have been a compromise with sin4 ,not fully appreciating that moral law is higher than civil law2 that what is sometimes civilly wrong is morally right2 that centuries of submission to the double standard of morals has so biased the public mind that even the best of society are incapable of always giving the wronged girl a square deal2 she at last postponed her decision for the ,christ4 ,the meeting closed1 later the school closed and then she left the city and her whereabouts became unknown to the minister4 ,was she scarlet or was she white4--,you will observe that this girl is not to be classed in character with the girls who purposely give themselves to a life of shame4 ,this girl never meant to be bad4 ,she over-loved and over-trusted the man to whom she was engaged4 ,she had no father or brother to advise and protect her4 ,she was not informed as to the seductive wiles of the libertine4 ,hers was a profound mistake4 ,suppose that her chum across the street had made the same mistake and her lover had kept his promise of marriage1 would her chum's sin have been less than hers8 ,certainly not4 ,of the two women and their children1 the first deserves more sympathy1 mercy and love4 ,she and her child had a moral right to his name4--,when the world's purity movement shall have relegated the double standard of morals back to the dark ages of savagery where it originated1 and shall have established in the hearts of men the ,christ standard1 the 8single standard10 a 8white life for two10 then civil law will be made to harmonize with the moral law and the wronged girl and her child will be given the legal right to the name of the man who ought to be to them a husband and father1 with all the legal rights of support and a division of his property at his death4 ,her deceiver was under absolute moral obligation to give them his legal name4 ,then she and her child had an absolute moral right to wear his name4 ,is it ever right for a wronged woman to choose the title ,mrs48--,if to avoid the scorn1 sneers and jeers of an un,christ-like social condition1 and as an aid in securing honorable employment while she supports her child and struggles to live a pure life1 who would dare blame a wronged girl1 if she would choose to call herself 8,mrs410 and let widowhood be inferred8 ,if a wronged girl becomes a mother1 if she is turned away from her home1 if she desires to be a true mother to her own child1 she will find it impossible to find honorable employment as a single girl with a baby and to avoid immoral solicitations from vicious men1 unless she assumes the title of 8,mrs40 ,when she will find it necessary to tell her child4--,when her child is old enough to understand and appreciate her misfortune1 she will find it necessary to make an explanation to her child4 ,this will be a very difficult thing to do4 ,but if she has been a true mother1 she will not lose the confidence and love of her child4 ,tell her story to her lover4--,if an opportunity of marriage comes1 she should tell her story to her lover4 ,if he is noble1 and his love for her is genuine1 and her character is all he believes it to be1 he will likely forgive and marry her4 ,if her mistake is publicly known1 or she is a mother1 her lover will very likely find it out1 and it will be easier to forgive before marriage than after4 ,when not necessary to confess the wrong4--,if her sin has not been made public and she has not been a mother1 ,i would not advise that she make confession to her lover4 ,men who have been even more guilty do not confess their sins4 ,she will1 all her life1 shed many bitter tears and suffer many heart agonies because of her mistake4 ,these sad experiences may make her all the more patient1 kind and loving4 ,i have told you these sad1 sad tragedies that come to many girls who over-love and over-trust1 that you may more perfectly sympathize with and help the erring ones and be safeguarded against the wiles of men4 ,,chapter ,,xxxi ,,the ,,miracle ,,of ,,motherhood ,sublime miracle of motherhood4--,my talks to you would not be complete without a study of the sublime miracle of motherhood1 the creation of a new life4 ,it is no wonder that motherhood1 in all ages and by the great of all nations1 has been treated with due respect and reverence4 ,ovulation4--,in this talk we shall begin with the beginning of life and trace life's development up to birth4 ,the formation of an egg1 or ovum1 by one of the ovaries once every twenty-eight days is called ovulation4 ,when the ovum matures it breaks through the membrane of the ovary and the little muscular fingers of the oviduct1 on that side1 take up the ovum and convey it to the womb4 ,this usually takes place during menstruation and the egg enters the womb near the cessation of the flow4 ,sometimes the egg may reach the womb before menstruation begins4 ,it is possible for an egg to form at any time between periods of menstruation1 but this is of unusual occurrence4 ,impregnation4--,if1 in either of these events1 the husband and wife1 being both of matured age1 vigorous1 ,illustration3 ,a ,,happy ,,mother4 healthy and strong1 engage in the reproductive act1 the wife will conceive4 ,when one of the sperm cells of the husband unites with the germ cell or egg of the wife1 conception or impregnation takes place4 ,this is the beginning of life1 the creative moment of a new life1 a new being4 ,it is at this creative moment that an immortal soul is started upon its eternal voyage1 nine months before it makes its visible appearance in the world4 ,all life begins with a cell4--,every living being begins life as a single cell of protoplasm4 ,the cell from which a child is formed is produced by the union of two cells1 the germ cell of the mother and the sperm cell of the father4 ,the germ cell is much larger than the sperm cell4 ,at the point where the sperm cell enters the ovum a new cell is formed4 ,this new cell is the beginning of a new life and is called the embryo4 ,the embryo receives its nourishment for several days from the food material stored up in the ovum4 ,when the sperm cell fuses with this minute ovum1 #a-abjth of an inch in diameter1 the ovum becomes attached to the velvety inner surface of the womb4 ,at this point of the womb the mucous membrane begins a rapid growth and in a very few hours has enveloped the ovum4 ,what takes place the first twenty-four hours4--,in the rapidly growing ovum marvelous processes are going on4 ,in part the physical processes have been studied4 ,the vital and psychical processes that are taking place1 far more wonderful than the physical1 cannot be understood or comprehended by mortal man4 ,so rapidly has the embryonic cell divided itself into two cells1 these two into four cells1 and these into eight1 then into sixteen1 until many thousand cells have been produced in the first twenty-four hours4 ,the first thirty days4--,during the next thirty days this multiplication of cells by division goes on rapidly4 ,the embryo is now receiving life1 air1 water and nourishment from the mother through the rudimentary beginning of the placenta4 ,the placenta when developed is a membrane composed largely of blood vessels1 entirely surrounding the embryo and is attached to the womb near the top4 ,at this point the umbilical cord1 which connects with the child at a point called the navel1 merges into and becomes a part of the placenta4 ,these thousands of cells1 under the control of some invisible agency or law within the mother and the embryo1 begin to arrange themselves in layers and groups4 ,in this way the rudimentary organs one by one1 step by step1 begin to form4 ,at the end of the first thirty days the embryo is about one inch long and one-fourth of an inch in diameter4 ,at this time it has no resemblance to a human being4 ,separate from all connection with the mother1 no scientist could tell whether it is the embryo of a rat1 a rabbit1 a dog or a human being4 ,it is this resident physical1 mental and soul-life received from its parents that will determine for it a human body4 ,the second thirty days4--,during the next thirty days1 new cells will be produced rapidly1 new organs will be started1 other organs will take on more definite form and the embryo will be many times larger and will have a very distinct resemblance to a human being4 ,during the latter part of the second month this human embryo will possess a very distinct appendage resembling a tail2 the neck will be nearly as large around as the body2 the arms and legs1 fingers and toes1 ears1 eyes1 nose and mouth will all be quite distinct1 and the head will appear overgrown4 ,the embryo at the close of the second month will be about four inches in length and one and one-half inches in diameter4 ,the relations between the mother and the embryo4--,the little embryo has projecting from its body1 at the point called the navel1 a large cord1 larger around than one of its legs4 ,this cord is called the umbilical cord and connects the embryo with the upper part of the womb4 ,here the cord seems to branch out and to form a rather thick membrane which entirely surrounds the embryo4 ,where the umbilical cord connects with the womb there are thousands of small blood vessels4 ,here the blood of the mother bathes the blood vessels of the umbilical cord4 ,in this way the embryo absorbs from the mother's blood the materials from which its bones1 muscles1 brain1 nerves and spinal cord are built4 ,in this way the blood of the mother furnishes her forming child pure oxygen4 ,in this way also the mother is furnishing the embryo with life--physical1 mental and spirit life4 ,here1 too1 she gives it joyous or sorrowful thoughts1 a good or bad disposition1 a frail or strong constitution1 mental brilliancy or mental dullness1 and influences its character in many ways before it sees the light of day4 ,the order of special maternal attention4--,during the first three and four months the mother should breathe the purest air1 drink the purest water and eat plenty of wholesome1 nutritious food4 ,the physical health1 strength and perfect development of the child's body are largely determined during these months4 ,during the fifth and sixth months the nervous system1 including the brain centers1 is being organized and developed4 ,attention to mental exercise during these months and the months following will influence the child favorably in after-life4 ,the moral nature of the child is more largely influenced by the mother during the eighth and ninth months than during the previous months4 ,this indicates roughly the order of special attention that should be given by the mother to her forming child4 ,symptoms of impregnation4--,after impregnation has taken place and the days and months pass by1 certain signs appear which tell her that she is to become a mother4 ,the menses stop1 the breasts enlarge1 a dark color appears about the nipples1 the abdomen enlarges and about the fourth month she feels the distinct movements of the fetus4 ,this movement is called fetal life4 ,however1 life existed in the embryo from the beginning4 ,feeling the movements of the fetus only indicates that the fetus has grown to where it has strength enough to make its presence known4 ,birth4--,at the end of two hundred and eighty long days1 nine full months1 three-fourths of a year1 the strong muscles of the womb contract1 and all the muscles of the abdominal and pelvic cavities are called into action to expel the child from its maternal cradle or home4 ,all of nature's maternal processes1 from the initial of life in the tiny egg1 through all the mysterious and interesting changes of embryonic and fetal development1 until the babe is easily and quickly conveyed by muscular energy from its warm1 cozy1 maternal abode and introduced to a world of independent life and activity1 are a sublime miracle--the miracle of motherhood4 ,the maternal instinct4--,the maternal instinct is inherent in every normal girl4 ,it is this maternal nature that prompts little girls to play with their dolls and with childish glee and innocent sincerity to organize their doll families into beautiful imitation of real life4 ,the natural desire of every girl1 as she matures during the years of adolescence1 is that she may one day become a mother4 ,a perfect body essential to ideal motherhood4--,the beautiful ideals of wifehood and the sacred ideals of motherhood can come in their fullness only to those who make themselves worthy4 ,the broad-minded1 sensible girl will not bind her young growing figure with a corset1 pinch her undeveloped feet by wearing tight1 high-heeled shoes1 ruin her neck with high1 stiff collars1 expose her shoulders and bosom to the varying changes of temperature by wearing low-necked dresses1 ruin her health and throttle her mind and soul in a cradle of ignorance4 ,the independent girl4--,all girls should qualify themselves for some vocation1 aside from marriage4 ,the girl who stays at home and has nothing to do but dress and primp and wait for some man to come along and marry her is likely to develop into a flippant1 extravagant social nonentity4 ,the girl who qualifies herself for some vocation will not be a burden to her parents4 ,she will learn the value of money1 will acquire self-confidence and personal dignity1 will multiply the red corpuscles in her blood1 and thus be able to give her hand and heart to her coming prince with the knowledge that she is quite capable of entering upon the new duties of home-building4 ,all girls should have training for motherhood4--,but whatever be the place or position to which you may aspire1 you should also seek the training necessary to ideal motherhood4 ,your mother instinct calls for plenty of roomy quarters for the fetus4 ,it is the mother instinct that demands open-air athletics1 free chest expansion and a correct poise and carriage of body4 ,it is the mother love that calls for books and magazines that give special articles on courtship1 marriage and the sacred mission of motherhood4 ,,chapter ,,xxxii ,,some ,,practical ,,questions ,,answered ,how young can a girl become a mother8--,it would be possible but not likely for her to become pregnant soon after her first menstruation4 ,if the ova should be fertilized at that time she would become a mother4 ,in most cases the ova would be too weak for impregnation to be perfect4 ,should it occur1 as it does in some cases1 soon after puberty begins1 it is always unfortunate for the girl and her child4 ,how old should a woman be before she becomes a mother8--,she is not a matured woman until the close of her adolescence1 which is about the twentieth year4 ,marriage means motherhood4 ,motherhood should not take place until she is matured or practically so4 ,marriage before eighteen should be universally discouraged4 ,children born of mature parents are healthier1 stronger1 and live longer than do the children of immature parents4 ,is there any way to lessen the inconvenience and pain of menstruation and child-bearing8--,women of the savage races1 women of the laboring classes of ,europe1 and to some extent laboring women of this country1 do not suffer the inconvenience of menstruation and the pain of child-bearing that most women do4 ,if our girls and women took more outdoor exercise1 if they did not displace their sexual organs by tight lacing1 if they did not abuse these organs in other ways in single and married life1 they would suffer less of penalties peculiar to women4 ,habits practiced for generations become fixed characteristics and are transmitted to children4 ,hence part of the suffering of present-day womanhood is due to the errors of the past4 ,what causes displacement of the womb8--,by reading ,mother's ,first ,talk you will be able to fix in your mind the location of the womb and ovaries4 ,you will find that they are near the center of the abdomen1 just behind the bladder and are supported from above by long1 broad and round ligaments4 ,these ligaments are stretched across the abdominal cavity and are attached to the abdominal walls4 ,the small end of the womb rests upon the vagina4 ,this tube being flexible affords but little support for the womb4 ,if a woman wears a corset1 or tight waist band above her hips1 the organs of the abdomen will be pressed downward4 ,this is the principal cause of the womb's being forced down into the vagina1 bent upon itself1 tipped forward or backward4 ,the displacement of the womb interferes with the functions of the bladder and rectum4 ,leucorrha and inflamed conditions of the womb often follow4 ,the fault is not in ,god's arrangement of these organs1 but in woman's slavish devotion to fashion4 ,were all girls taught by means of charts the location of these organs1 and their relation to the other organs of the abdomen1 fewer girls would try to be like fashion plates4 ,is there some natural method by which a woman can replace her own womb and avoid exposure1 operation and expense8--,yes2 if the following advice is followed early enough3 ,having removed your outer clothing1 so as to give you perfect freedom1 assume a position on the bed that will throw your hips above the rest of the body4 ,this is easily accomplished by kneeling and then bending forward until the head and shoulders rest upon a pillow4 ,now contract the muscles of the abdomen in such a way as to appear to be trying to draw air into the body through the vagina4 ,in this way all the abdominal organs are drawn toward the chest4 ,when the womb falls into place1 a gurgling sound will be heard caused by the air rushing into the vagina and the womb4 ,this is the evidence that the womb has dropped back into its proper place4 ,now assume an easy position and be perfectly quiet for one or two hours4 ,then arise1 dress and go about your duties4 ,don't strain yourself or over-work4 ,very likely the womb will continue to drop out of place for several days4 ,keep up this method and soon the womb will remain in place4 ,very likely you will not succeed in replacing the womb1 the first effort4 ,it may be several days before you succeed4 ,what are the causes of ovarian trouble8--,the answer to the last question applies in this case4 ,anything that interferes with the menstrual period1 such as taking cold1 lascivious thought1 secret vices2 if married1 sexual excesses4 ,these conditions cause a rush of blood to the sexual organs1 and this keeps them inflamed4 ,should a woman have her womb and ovaries removed because of these conditions8--,only in the most extreme cases1 and1 even then1 only upon the united opinion of several capable and honest physicians4 ,in recent years operations for these troubles have been too frequent4 ,a woman is never quite herself after one of these operations4 ,if women were taught plainly and scientifically how to obey the laws of sex they would in almost all cases recover without an operation4 ,it is generally estimated by hospital authorities that from sixty-five to eighty per cent4 of married women who are operated upon in their sexual organs have been infected by gonorrha4 ,in almost every case they were infected by their husbands who thought they were cured4 ,in the initial stage this is usually treated by the wife as leucorrha2 later she is treated by the doctor1 or operated upon and the real cause is kept secret from her4 ,in most cases an operation might be avoided1 by going with her trouble at once to a doctor4 ,how may young women know they are marrying men free from venereal infection8--,this will not be possible in all cases4 ,a young lady should not become engaged to a young man until she is acquainted with his record4 ,she could have her brother or father look up his record4 ,your family doctor1 or some reliable doctor that knows him1 might be profitably interviewed4 ,when we have laid aside our mock modesty and foolish prudery and shall come to regard these questions in a practical way1 matured young women will not hesitate to ask the young man for a statement from a reliable physician1 showing that he is free from all communicable diseases4 ,what is the cause of pimples on the face and sometimes on a girl's back from twelve to seventeen8--,they are due to the change she is passing through4 ,by some they have been considered as evidences of the secret sin1 but they are not1 at least in many cases4 ,many girls have these bumps who are perfectly free from the secret sin4 ,it is true that they may be caused in some cases by the secret vice4 ,what remedy would you suggest for these puberty pimples8--,tonics1 lotions and cosmetics will do no good4 ,common-sense remedies may mitigate this evil4 ,avoid rich pastries and highly seasoned foods1 take plenty of outdoor exercise1 bathe frequently1 forget your pimples and be cheerful and happy4 ,this is the best you can do4 ,nature in her own good time will remove the pimples4 ,is there a safe way by which a young woman can develop her bust8--,several methods are advertised4 ,most of them are fakes4 ,the vacuum method is perhaps the least injurious4 ,if a young woman keeps her body healthy1 does not abuse her organs of sex mentally or mechanically1 her bust should be normal4 ,the greatest injury done by any of these artificial methods is1 they lead a girl to be lascivious in her thoughts4 ,by studying the lower animals we find that motherhood is nature's plan of developing the bust4 ,it is natural for single girls to have small breasts4 ,there are some exceptions to this rule4 ,it is1 therefore1 unwise to try to enlarge them4 ,what injuries may follow artificial development of the breasts8--,flabbiness1 inability to nurse a child1 tumors and cancers4 ,what effect upon the morals of men has the wearing of low-necked dresses by girls and married women8--,all normal adolescent youths and adults possess sexuality4 ,occasional consciousness of sexual desire is natural4 ,these experiences simply indicate that we are in possession of creative energy4 ,if we keep control of our thoughts about the opposite sex1 this energy will be converted into physical strength1 mental brilliancy and soul beauty4 ,it is through the influence of the sex life upon the social nature that the opposite sexes are attracted to each other and their association is made sacred1 beautiful1 enjoyable and mutually uplifting4 ,god's greatest blessings to man may be abused by misuse4 ,this is preminently true of our ,god-given sexual nature4 ,improper thinking about the opposite sex leads to special excitement of the sexual organs and results in conscious sexual desire4 ,in the normal man such thoughts and wishes are awakened by suggestive and inviting environment4 ,a dress that only partially conceals the breasts of a woman1 that reveals the delicate curves of hips and limbs1 has this influence upon the mind of the normal man4 ,the normal man usually fights off these temptations4 ,sometimes they overcome him4 ,few men are normal4 ,licentiousness is transmissible4 ,most men have inherited very strong tendencies toward lust4 ,most men have received an unfortunate training from childhood4 ,this has led to mental sex perversion4 ,improperly dressed women are a special temptation to these weak men4 ,the time has come for a reform in woman's dress4 ,she should not dress in a way that makes her a source of temptation to men4 ,it is natural for a woman to desire the attention1 courtesy1 gallantry1 respect1 reverence and love of men4 ,the normal sex nature in woman will develop those indefinable feminine physical1 mental and moral charms4 ,if she dresses modestly and becomingly1 if she is discreet1 versatile and entertaining1 she will have her admirers4 ,is there any relation between the nude in art and immodesty8--,yes and no4 ,there are great masterpieces of beautiful figures of men and women1 which stand for some lofty ideal1 which represent some phase of ideal thought in life1 some exposition of grace and strength1 and1 while they are nude1 they are no more immodest than perfect landscapes4 ,there are other famous nude figures of men and women which appear conscious of their nudity4 ,such have a bad influence4 ,there are some ignorant or evil-minded people who would be injured as much by one of these classes of art as by the other4 ,are there reliable tests of the virginity of a girl8--,the only test which a man has a right to make before or after marriage is a modest demeanor1 absence of familiarity1 a pure state of mind and an innocent expression in the face and look of the eye4 ,the physical presence of the hymen1 or a flow of blood at the consummation of marriage1 should not be made the test of a young wife's virginity4 ,in some cases the hymen is absent from birth and in others only partially represented4 ,where girls may have had leucorrha the parts are relaxed and no blood appears4 ,in stout blonds the presence of blood is the exception and not the rule4 ,what is the relation of 8spooning0 to the sex problems of young people8--,this is a growing evil4 ,it is the kindergarten to prostitution4 ,young people cannot engage in 8spooning0 and maintain a pure state of mind4 ,when the mind is engaged in sensual thoughts and wishes the sexual system is stimulated and inflamed by a rush of blood to those parts and passion becomes more or less intense4 ,in this state virtue is in great danger4 ,what is the relation of suggestive pictures and books to the problems of sex in young people8--,the suggestive sentences and pictures on post cards1 bill boards1 the novel and serial story all tainted with immorality2 and in the moving pictures found in most five and ten cent shows1 are positively pernicious4 ,they lead young people to believe that hugging1 kissing1 lying or sitting on each other's lap1 and all other forms of 8spooning10 are natural1 harmless and a necessary part of the entertainment among young people4 ,the young man who would offer to present a young woman with a suggestive post card or book is stupidly ignorant or viciously immoral4 ,if young ladies value their virtue and have the proper regard for young men1 they will not accept such cards and book1 nor allow them in their parlors4 ,all women and girls and all virtuous men should protest against the production1 sale and distribution of all books1 cards1 and pictures encouraging 8spooning0 and the improper dress of the female as an insult to virtuous girlhood and womanhood and dangerous to the virtue of boyhood and manhood4 ,,chapter ,,xxxiii ,,beauty ,,of ,,bathing 7,by ,annette ,kellermann4--,by ,permission of ,physical ,culture47 ,in presenting to our readers the opinions and advice of ,annette ,kellermann1 we publish the words of one who knows whereof she speaks4 ,miss ,kellermann is celebrated for the beauty of her face and form as she is for her remarkable proficiency as an athlete4 ,more than that1 she is one who has fought her way from indifferent health to strength and beauty of the highest order1 and her discussion of this subject should prove very readable4--,the ,editor4 ,architects of beauty4--,nearly everyone looks upon beauty as an extraneous 8something40 ,here is a quality which is in the greatest measure a physical endowment1 yet the average woman casting about for means of cultivating it never for one moment seeks for its acquirement through physical means4 ,all sorts of devices and medicines and complicated and costly methods are believed in and followed1 as though beauty were bestowed in about the same fashion that a poster is slapped on a billboard4 ,gazing at the stars1 she sees not what lies to her hand4 ,for beauty1 poetical though its conception may be1 has its roots in prosaic ground4 ,the same factors which build up flesh and blood1 bones1 muscle and nerves of the body are the architects of beauty4 ,beauty is of the body and not apart from it1 and its builders are those processes which maintain bodily health3 breathing1 eating1 drinking1 exercise1 bathing and sleep4 ,its acquisition does not depend on chance1 but its development lies within the control of each one of us4 ,illustration3 ,a complete air bath should be given the body several times each week1 even though early rising is thus made necessary4 ,in the following pages ,i shall try to tell clearly of the simple1 easily-to-be-observed methods that can make each woman as beautiful as it is possible for her to be4 ,when ,i think of how these simple1 sensible and effective methods are neglected1 through ignorance or thoughtlessness1 and the torturous treatment so many members of my sex undergo3 the face-skinning2 the incasing in unbearable rubber undergarments to reduce flesh and the countless other 8treatments0 of which they are willing dupes1 ,i marvel and am almost ashamed of the amazing credulity shown by my sex4 ,illustration3 ,frequent and vigorous massage of the face and upper parts of the body is a great aid to beauty building4 ,beauty building through the bath4--,i shall discuss 8,beauty ,building ,through the ,bath0 because the various forms of baths properly applied can improve the appearance to a remarkable degree and ,i shall therefore write at some length on this particular measure as a means of attaining or enhancing the physical charms4 ',tis a trite phrase that cleanliness is the handmaiden of beauty1 and the first office of the bath is to clean4 ,the skin is one of the organs by means of which the body is relieved of waste4 ,its depurating action is unremitting and thus there is constantly exuded on the surface waste matters4 ,hence1 unless frequently bathed1 the skin suffers in appearance1 firstly1 by reason of its uncleanliness2 secondly1 becoming clogged up1 the wastes are not readily eliminated from the blood1 which becomes impure4 ,in consequence1 the whole system suffers1 the skin taking on a yellowish tinge1 and the complexion becoming dull and sallow and coarsened by enlarged pores4 ,cold and warm baths4--,the warm bath is taken daily by many people1 who believe that only thus can perfect cleanliness be insured4 ,there are opposing views as to whether the daily bath should be warm or cold2 but one should not be confused by the conflicting opinions1 the reason therefor being that differences between individuals necessitate varying practices1 some being benefited by the cold1 some by the daily warm bath1 etc4 ,when the daily bath is a cold one1 a hot bath must be taken twice or thrice weekly to cleanse the body1 for cold water has no cleansing power4 ,the cold bath is a stimulant or tonic4 ,the effect of the cold bath is to close the pores of the skin1 and the blood is driven into the body4 ,but on emerging from the bath1 a 8reaction0 sets in3 the blood rushing to the skin in quantities1 reddening it and making it glow with warmth4 ,the body should be quickly and vigorously rubbed dry with a ,turkish towel1 as it increases the good effects of the reaction4 ,the cold bath should be a very brief one1 and the warm bath1 when taken daily1 should not exceed ten minutes in duration4 ,the latter should be followed by a cold sponge bath4 ,if1 because one is lacking in vitality or from other causes the reaction does not follow1 the effect of the cold bath is to depress instead of benefit4 ,the bath should never be taken if one is cold1 one should be thoroughly warm before it1 and it is best taken after exercise for this reason4 ,it is easy to inure oneself to the cold bath4--,begin taking daily baths at a comfortable temperature1 gradually lowering it from week to week1 till you can take it cold or almost as cold as it comes from the faucet4 ,or one can accustom one's self to them by taking a cold sponge bath in the beginning1 standing on a cloth or towel wrung out in hot water1 or by standing in a few inches of hot water1 if this is required1 to lessen the shock4 ,but if despite these precautions you do not recuperate properly from the cold bath1 it is not for you1 for you are not benefited by it4 ,both hot and cold bathing accelerate the circulation1 the first relaxing the tissues1 the latter giving them tone and firmness4 ,the friction bath4--,but1 perhaps1 one of the most valuable of baths for the skin1 one that never fails to improve its texture and color is a bath that does not require water--the friction bath4 ,it stimulates the circulation to the skin and thoroughly cleanses it4 ,the friction bath is self-applied by means of two soft bristled brushes4 ,beginning at the forehead1 the face and neck are thoroughly brushed1 then each arm in turn 7working upward from the hand to the shoulder71 then using both brushes together1 the shoulders1 chest1 sides1 abdomen1 back and lastly the legs1 brushing from the ankles upward4 ,the treatment is continued till each part of the skin is in a glow4 ,it will be hard to reach the back of the body1 but do the best you can4 ,when taking the friction bath for the first time1 it will be necessary to avoid vigorous brushing and not to continue the treatment very long1 as in the beginning the skin is easily irritated1 but as the treatment ,illustration3 ,friction baths with a flesh brush--not too stiff--will insure a smooth1 satin-like skin with a glow of health4 is continued from day to day1 the skin becomes accustomed to it1 and it may be made as vigorous as desired4 ,the friction bath will put one's skin in splendid condition1 and it will not be possible for pimples1 blackheads1 or other eruptions to develop when the friction bath is a regular practice4 ,the ordinary ,turkish towel may be used for the friction rub instead of the brushes4 ,illustration3 ,in the absence of flesh-brushes1 one may go over the body with a good1 heavy bath towel to stimulate the skin and bring to it the rich glow of health4 ,the relation of air to beauty4--,so much for baths and bathing4 ,a great deal more that is both interesting and helpful can be said1 but enough has been told to point out their value4 ,in the order of their importance will be described other measures which directly develop charm of face and form4 ,first of all1 as that on which every moment of life is dependent we ought to consider air and its relation to the appearance4 ,oxygen has been called the 8sweeper of the living body40 ,every two minutes the blood loaded with wastes is brought to the lungs to be purified4 ,just think how important it is that the air be absolutely fresh and pure1 and vitalized by the sunshine4 ,if it has been vitiated from any cause1 as by rebreathing so that it is lacking in oxygen and full of impurities1 the blood1 instead of being purified and vivified1 is sent back1 with but a part of its waste removed1 impaired1 and becoming more and more devitalized and poisoned from the breathing of the impure air4 ,the whole system suffers from the effects of the bad air4 ,effects of foul air4--,during every moment in which impure air is breathed1 uncleanliness is fostered within the body1 and even if disease in acute or chronic form does not follow1 the whole bodily tone is greatly lowered4 ,just what opportunity attractiveness has to develop in such a body is apparent4 ,the eyes are dull1 the complexion muddy1 and scarcely in any way does the appearance escape deterioration4 ,yet it is so uncommon for the air of our dwelling and working places to be pure1 as to be a treat when it is obtained4 ,it is true that the average girl or woman cannot control the conditions in her place of work1 but she can in her home1 or at any rate in her own room1 and sleeping or waking1 she should have her room thoroughly ventilated4 ,air baths4--,choked in its shroud of clothing1 the skin is greatly hampered in the discharge of its functions4 ,such a measure as the friction greatly mitigates this evil influence of clothing as it is worn nowadays1 and keeps the skin in working order and health4 ,lacking this special care1 it is not putting it too strongly to say that it suffers--and severely4 ,but what the skin needs is that air and sun have a free access to it4 ,how pallid and sickly of hue the skins of so many people are4 ,and how1 lacking especial care1 can they be otherwise1 in the darkened prison formed by the conventional clothing4 ,remember that exudations are constantly taking place from the skin1 and that in a slight degree it breathes through its pores4 ,exposed to the air1 the emanations from its pores would immediately be dissipated and diffused on the atmosphere instead of being retained by the clothing to cling about the body4 ,we are compelled to wear what we can get in the way of clothing1 but it is a simple matter to take a bath in the air and sunshine1 and so for a few minutes daily permit these purifying influences access to our skins4 ,the girl who goes to business daily is limited in her opportunities to practice this valuable measure1 but she who stays home can easily arrange daily for a sun and air bath4 ,the business girl can take an air bath before retiring and in the summer an air and sun bath on arising in the morning before donning her ordinary costume4 ,remove every stitch of clothing so that the air can play freely over the body4 ,these are only suggestions1 for one's own convenience must determine when air or sun baths can be indulged in4 ,exercise is the elixir of youth4--,if pure air and sunshine are the cleansers and the vitalizers of the body1 exercise may be said to be the molder and beautifier of the bodily form4 ,but exercise does more than make the muscles shapely and develop the body to beautiful proportions1 and give it poise and grace4 ,exercise is the elixir of youth4 ,it is the method whereby youthfulness of facial and bodily appearance is preserved1 and which conserves youthful energies4 ,it effectually wards off the dreaded old age signs4 ,the physiological effects of exercise are these3 circulation and respiration are accelerated1 all the bodily functions are stimulated1 and through lungs and skin effete matter rapidly thrown off1 old cells are broken down and replaced by new4 ,the body feels as old and worn out as the cells of which it is made up4 ,regular exercise prevents the accumulation of half-dead cells2 it breaks them down rapidly and eliminates them1 so that they be replaced with fresh vital ones4 ,as to the sort of exercise1 it is desirable and indeed necessary that a systematic series of movements which sufficiently exercise every part of the body be practiced daily4 ,this is the only way to insure exercising regularly1 which alone is of benefit1 spasmodic exercise sometimes being valueless4 ,exercise in the open air4--,exercise quickens the heart-rate1 and thus the blood requires a greatly increased amount of oxygen4 ,one should therefore never exercise in an unventilated room1 and for this reason exercise in the open air is vastly more beneficial than when taken indoors4 ,in fact1 one should get outdoors often and where circumstances admit the outdoor life 7a phrase on everyone's tongue these days7 should be lived as much as possible4 ,one should not1 of course1 fail to adopt a special system of exercises1 for this insures that every muscle will be regularly used1 and it is quite likely that one's activities1 whether outdoors or indoors will but partly use the muscular system4 ,of outdoor exercise1 walking is ideal1 and can be taken at all seasons4 ,and1 of course1 all outdoor games and sports are valuable4 ,exercise in play is the thing1 for it so completely diverts the mind as well as recreates the body4 ,of all exercises1 ,i personally regard1 and authorities support my views1 swimming as first in rank1 the peer of them all4 ,every muscle is exercised by it1 it is taken in the open air1 and then there is the tonic of the water4 ,diet4--,there are other measures of which it is necessary to speak and they are too important to miss mention4 ,she who seeks to improve her appearance or preserve it unblemished cannot afford to neglect her diet--for remember that it is from food that flesh and blood are formed4 ,in greater or lesser degree1 bad food and that improperly eaten can retard improvement from other measures followed4 ,it is impossible to do more than briefly pass on this subject in its relation to this discussion on how beauty can be attained4 ,it is of chief interest to point out that even where no other factors are at work1 disfiguring eruptions on the face are not infrequently caused by errors in this respect4 ,to be sure there are no special 8beauty diets40 ,the only thing that is necessary is to avoid such foods as cause a maximum of work on the part of the vital organs1 and give only a minimum of nutriment in return4 ,rich1 heavy pastry1 pickled foods1 white flour products1 are all in the above-mentioned class1 while cereals1 eggs1 milk1 cheese1 nuts1 fruits and vegetables1 rightly prepared1 properly masticated1 can be depended upon to make good1 rich1 red blood1 firm flesh and muscle1 and altogether help greatly in enhancing personal charm and appearance4 ,sleep4--,we hear much about 8beauty sleep40 ,really1 all sleep is beauty sleep4 ,it is then that the exhausted nerves regain tone1 and the body generally undergoes a restorative process4 ,nothing more surely undermines beauty than lack of sleep4 ,it leaves its mark behind in dull eyes and even loss of flesh4 ,but in sleep1 too1 there is a right and wrong way4 ,the right way is to sleep in a well-aired bed in a properly ventilated room4 ,the outdoor sleeping room is the ideal one1 but it cannot always be arranged1 so the next best thing is the indoor one with windows wide open4 ,one should awaken in the morning fresh and bright and strong4 ,do not cover yourself heavily1 just enough to keep comfortable4 ,the wrong way is--but why waste time in description4 ,it is everything the right way is not1 and consequently one wakes up tired1 heavy and dull-eyed4 ,hair1 face and teeth4--,aside from the constitutional measures spoken of1 there is a word or two to be said in favor of simple local treatment that the beauty seeker should resort to daily4 ,i mean the little nightly attentions to the hair1 face and teeth4 ,the hair will be much healthier and brighter if carefully brushed and aired after the unnatural confinement of the day4 ,the teeth must be well cleaned1 so that there are no tiny particles of food lodged between them to become decomposed and endanger the teeth4 ,the simplest of tooth powders is all that is necessary1 but the brushing after each meal1 if possible1 and especially the last thing at night1 should not be neglected4 ,the use of a pure face cream to soothe the skin from the day's irritation and exposure is also advisable1 though ,i do not approve of using cream instead of water1 as is sometimes advised4 ,soap and water are the best cleansing agents4 ,illustration3 ,persistent massage of the scalp and frequent brushing of the hair are essential to the maintenance of the beauty of woman's crowning glory4 ,,chapter ,,xxxiv ,,physical ,,culture 7,by ,george ,r4 ,borden1 ,physical ,director47 ,fresh air and exercise are fast being considered the best health producers in the world1 yet how sadly neglected2 as hundreds of women give evidence every day1 with the dull eye1 flat chest and lifeless carriage4 ,every woman would like to be attractive1 but few are willing to devote any time to its acquirement4 ,what arouses our admiration when seeing a statue of ,minerva or ,venus8 ,it is the abounding life of the whole body1 finely developed chest and limbs and well-poised head4 ,let us learn how to breathe1 how to walk with a strong and graceful carriage4 ,a small amount of time each day spent in systematic exercise with deep breathing would change many a weak woman to a healthy1 vital1 living person with the grace and beauty of perfect health and a fine physique4 ,look around at any gathering of women and note if the majority are not very far from our ideal of physical perfection4 ,i care not how beautiful the face if it is accompanied by narrow shoulders1 thin neck and a flat chest1 the possessor must give way to her plainer sister who knows the value of daily expansion of lungs with every muscle under control1 perfect digestion and fine circulation4 ,naturally the plea is the lack of time for exercise2 do not women find time for reading1 fancy work1 calling and a multitude of other affairs1 which might a thousand times better be spent in preparing themselves for a healthy life8 ,if more time were spent in the fresh air and in keeping the body under control1 there would be fewer peevish1 tired-out1 nervous women in the world1 for the one who realizes the value of these things is too healthy to be aught but good natured and happy4 ,walking is one of the best exercises in the world1 yet the crowded trolley with its impure air is largely filled with women who could not walk a mile4 ,how many of my readers can walk three miles and have it only serve to make them feel how well worth while is life8 ,the majority of women think several squares a long walk1 and ,i know many who take the car for a quarter of a mile1 walk through the stores and return on the car1 then wonder why they do not sleep well4 ,every girl and woman that works1 either in the home or elsewhere1 needs exercise to develop muscles not in use1 and improve circulation4 ,isn't it worth a few minutes a day to feel yourself physically ready for any emergency1 digestion good1 nerves a thing of the past1 and abounding life in every muscle8 ,of course these things cannot come in a week or month1 but let your daily exercise be as regular as your meals1 walk with the idea of getting all the good you can out of it1 when you are seated1 don't sink down in a heap1 keep your lungs expanded and bend at the hips not at the waist as we are so prone to do while sewing1 writing1 and engaged in kindred occupations2 a thing which leads to so many round shoulders and narrow chests4 ,when you are walking alone instead of planning your next work1 give a little thought to breathing and how you are carrying yourself4 ,inhale as you walk1 retain the breath for a few steps then slowly exhale4 ,hold the head well up1 shoulders back1 chest high1 hips in and let your limbs have a free swing and you soon look and feel as if walking were a joy4 ,the exercises following are so arranged that anyone can do them4 ,ten minutes each morning should be given to them followed by a bath and a towel rub if convenient4 ,if bath is not possible1 a thorough rubbing of the body with a rough towel is the next best thing4 ,at some time during the day a brisk walk followed by a few exercises before retiring and never forgetting the deep breathing will quicken the results4 ,have plenty of fresh air at night as well as day and eat substantial food and see if the results are not all you could ask4 ,the value of exercise is in the amount of life and vigor put in it4 ,better not exercise at all than to do it carelessly4 ,,first ,,series ,repeat each exercise from twelve to twenty-four times4 ,exercise #a4--,position of ,fig4 #a4 ,swing the arms forward till they touch in front1 return to side 7,fig4 #a74 ,ex4 #b4--,swing the arms to vertical4 ,see ,fig4 #i for position of arms4 ,return to ,fig4 #a4 ,ex4 #c4--,swing the arms backward as far as possible4 ,ex4 #d4--,swing both the arms downward to the hips and return to position 7,fig4 #a74 ,ex4 #e4--,position of ,fig4 #a4 ,swing the hands to the shoulders by flexing the arms at the elbows 7palms up74 ,ex4 #f4--,position of ,fig4 #a4 ,swing the hands to the arm pits by flexing the arms at the elbows 7palms down74 ,ex4 #g4--,position of ,fig4 #a4 ,circumduct the arms1 making the fingers describe a circle and the whole arm a cone4 7,arms perfectly straight47 ,illustration ,ex4 #h4--,open and shut the fingers1 gripping the fist as tightly as possible1 also extending them as far as possible4 ,ex4 #i4--,position of ,fig4 #a4 ,keep the arms on a level with the shoulders1 bend the body sideward to the left as far as possible4 7,see ,fig4 #b47 ,ex4 #aj4--,same as ,ex4 #i1 to the right side4 ,ex4 #aa4--;,combine ,ex4 #i-aj4 ,ex4 #ab4--,position of ,fig4 #a4 ,rotate 7twist7 the body sideward left as far as possible4 ,see ,fig4 #c for position4 ,keep feet in place4 ,ex4 #ac4--,same as ,ex4 #ab1 to the right side4 ,ex4 #ad4--;,combine ,ex4 #aa and #ab4 ,rotate from side to side1 arms to be kept on a level with the shoulders and rigid4 ,ex4 #ae4--;,hands placed on hips1 bend forward and swing hands downward toward the toes as far as possible4 ,see ,fig4 #d4 ,ex4 #af4--,position of ,fig4 #d4 ,hold and swing both arms sideward up as far as possible4 ,ex4 #ag4--,same position4 ,swing the arms forward up as far as possible1 arms will then be straight out over the head4 ,,second ,,series ,position of ,fig4 #e4 ,arms folded and the left toe touching at the side4 ,illustration ,exercise #a4--;,hop on the right foot and touch the left foot across in front of the right1 at the same time unfold the arms and swing them sideward to their own sides4 ,see ,fig4 #a for the position of the arms4 ,ex4 #b4--,same as ,ex4 #a1 with the right foot4 ,ex4 #c4--;,hop on right foot1 the left foot in position of ,fig4 #e4 ,ex4 #d4--;,hop on the left1 right toe to the side4 ,ex4 #e4--;,arms in position of ,fig4 #e and the left toe extended forward till the toe touches the floor2 hop on right1 keeping the left leg extended4 ,ex4 #f4--,same as ,ex4 #e1 with the right foot forward4 ,ex4 #g4--;,hands on hips1 raise the left knee high up in front with the toe pointed downward4 ,see ,fig4 #f4 ,ex4 #h4--,same as ,ex4 #g1 with the right leg4 ,ex4 #i4--,position of ,fig4 #f4 ,hold1 straighten the knee1 raising the foot on a level with the thigh4 ,ex4 #aj4--,same with the right leg4 ,ex4 #aa4--;,hands on the hips feet together1 swing the left foot sideward left as far as possible with the weight of the body resting on the right leg4 ,ex4 #ab4--,same as ,ex4 #aa1 with the right leg4 ,,third ,,series ,hands on the back of the head4 ,see ,fig4 #g4 ,exercise #a4--;,bend the body as far forward as possible1 keeping hands on head4 ,ex4 #b4--;,bend body sideward left as far as possible4 ,ex4 #c4--;,bend body sideward right as far as possible4 ,ex4 #d4--;,alternate left and right4 ,ex4 #e4--,keep the fingers locked as in ,fig4 #g1 thrust the hands upward to vertical till arms are straight4 ,ex4 #f4--,position of ,fig4 #g4 ,draw the head forward with the hands1 keep the back straight1 resist with the neck muscles4 ,ex4 #g4--;,draw the head backward and resist with the hands4 ,ex4 #h4--,swing the elbows forward till they touch in front of the face1 then swing them backward as far as possible4 ,ex4 #i4--,position3 ,feet together1 arms down to the side1 lean forward and swing the arms to the side1 lift left leg upward about five inches1 leg and arms rigid4 ,see ,fig4 #h4 ,ex4 #aj4--,same as ,ex4 #i1 with right leg extended4 ,ex4 #aa4--,position of ,fig4 #h4 ,hold1 swing arms forward till they touch4 ,repeat several times4 ,ex4 #ab4--,position of ,fig4 #h4 ,swing left foot forward till foot is about #h inches above floor1 lean backward to keep the balance4 ,do not let the left foot touch the floor4 ,repeat several times4 ,ex4 #ac4--,position3 ,swing the arms upward to vertical and rise on toes as high as possible 7,fig4 #i74 ,ex4 #ad4--,same position as ,ex4 #i 7,fig4 #h74 ,hold that position and hop on the right foot at least twelve times4 ,ex4 #ae4--,same as ,ex4 #ad1 hopping on the left foot4 ,ex4 #af4--;,hands on the hips1 rise high on the toes4 ,ex4 #ag4--;,hands on the hips1 raise the toes off the floor1 weight on the heels4 ,ex4 #ah4--,position3 7,squat7 lower the body by bending the knees as low as possible and swing the arms forward up to the front horizontal4 ,ex4 #ai4--,same as ,ex4 #ah1 but swing arms sideward up to side horizontal4 ,,fourth ,,series ,towel ,position with the towel on the back of the neck4 7,fig4 #aj47 ,exercise #a4--,straighten the arms1 thrusting the towel to vertical4 ,ex4 #b4--,pull with the left hand till the arm is straight out to the side and the right arm is across the neck4 ,ex4 #c4--,same as ,ex4 #b1 with the right arm4 ,ex4 #d4--;,fig4 #aj1 bend body sideward left4 ,ex4 #e4--;,fig4 #aj1 bend body sideward right4 ,ex4 #f4--;,combine left and right4 ,ex4 #g4--;,bend body forward1 keeping towel in position4 ,ex4 #h4--,towel up to vertical1 bend forward and swing towel down to the toes4 ,ex4 #i4--,swing the towel downward and backward to the hips4 ,take a wide grasp on towel4 ,ex4 #aj4--,towel on back of hips 7see ,fig4 #aa71 bend body forward and swing towel upward to vertical4 ,ex4 #aa4--,position of ,fig4 #aa4 ,bend body sideward left as far as possible1 swinging towel right4 ,ex4 #ab4--,same as ,ex4 #aa1 bend body right4 ,ex4 #ac4--;,alternate left and right4 ,ex4 #ad4--7,squat7 lower the body by bending the knees till the towel touches the heels4 ,ex4 #ae4--,position of ,fig4 #aa4 ,swing towel backward as far as possible without bending the back4 ,ex4 #af4--,position3 ,towel across in front of hips1 arms rigid1 swing towel to the left and in a vertical position4 ,see ,fig4 #ab4 ,ex4 #ag4--,same to the right4 ,ex4 #ah4--;,bend forward1 touching towel to toes4 ,see ,fig4 #d for position of body4 ,,fifth ,,series ,floor ,exercises ,sit on the floor or bed with the legs straight1 knees touching the floor4 ,exercise #a4--,swing arms to side horizontal and back as far as possible 7,fig4 #ac72 then swing forward1 touching the fingers to the toes4 ,ex4 #b4--,swing arms to vertical 7see ,fig4 #ad for position of arms71 then swing to toes4 ,ex4 #c4--;,flex left leg and swing arms to vertical 7,fig4 #ad74 ,ex4 #d4--;,flex right leg and swing arms to vertical 7,fig4 #ad74 ,ex4 #e4--;,flex both legs4 ,ex4 #f4--;,hands on floor1 swing left leg to left side4 ,ex4 #g4--;,hands on floor1 swing right leg to right side4 ,ex4 #h4--;,hands on floor1 swing both legs to their own side4 ,ex4 #i4--;,extend the toes as far as possible1 then flex them4 ,illustration3 ,,fig4 #ac4 ,illustration3 ,,fig4 #ad4 ,ex4 #aj4--;,arms at side in ,fig4 #ac2 swing the arms forward and clap hands in front1 also extend the toes at same time4 ,ex4 #aa4--;,hands on floor1 keep knees straight1 raise the left foot as high off the floor as possible4 ,ex4 #ab4--,same as ,ex4 #aa1 with right leg4 ,ex4 #ac4--;,both feet4 ,ex4 #ad4--;,hands on floor1 swing to vertical and clap hands over head4 ,many exercises can be added to the above by lying on the floor and raising the feet1 etc4 ,,sixth ,,division ,,vital ,,facts ,,of ,,life ,,for ,,the ,,young ,,man1 ,,married ,,or ,,single ,,chapter ,,xxxv ,,the ,,deeper ,,significance ,,of ,,sex ,you are now old enough to be exposed to all of the temptations and dangers incident to your approaching and rapidly developing manhood4 ,previously1 we have referred to many things in an elementary way1 which you should now have more fully explained4 ,there are a number of practical and vital facts connected with the sexual organs and their separate and combined functions of which you should have a thorough knowledge4 ,the nature of the sexual life4--,the child resembles the father physically1 mentally and morally1 because the sperm cell formed from the father's blood1 that took part in the initial of the child's life1 had in it the essence of the father's life1 physical1 mental and moral4 ,for the same reason the child resembles the mother in these three ways4 ,when the males of the domestic animals are deprived of their generative glands they are not able to develop the peculiar physical masculine characteristics that distinguish them from the females4 ,they are also less independent1 more inactive and show less rudimentary manifestations of intelligence4 ,if man be made an eunuch1 when he is a boy1 he never fully develops masculine characteristics1 and he develops little mental and moral tone4 ,similar results would follow in the female1 if her generative glands were removed in childhood4 ,it is quite noticeable that any form of sexual dissipation usually underminds the physical health1 weakens the mental faculties and leads to loss in moral tone4 ,it is equally noticeable that the intelligent retention of this energy leads to physical improvement1 intellectual brilliancy and soul enlargement4 ,these illustrations reveal that the creative life has other uses than selfish gratification and unselfish reproduction4 ,it is vitally related to the psychic life1 health and happiness of the individual4 ,other purposes of sex4--,the primary purpose of sex is that of reproduction4 ,there are many reasons why the reproductive function of sex should be limited to a period of twenty-five years--from twenty-five to fifty years of age4 ,statistics show that this is man's period of greatest reproductive possibility4 ,children born to men of younger or older age do not receive as favorable heredity as children born within the period mentioned4 ,the sexual organs1 like all other organs1 require activity4 ,two boys are made eunuchs2 one at six months of age and the other just before puberty4 ,the last mentioned develops much better in physical1 mental and moral tone4 ,this shows that these glands are active1 that they generate energy1 even before puberty1 which is essential to their health and the development of every part of the boy4 ,but even the boy1 made an eunuch at fourteen1 will be a very defective man at twenty-five4 ,this indicates that the sexual glands are generating a creative energy1 during this period of adolescence1 that is needed to prepare him for the period of largest possibilities of fatherhood4 ,as a general rule1 until he is twenty-four1 this sex life should never be expressed for reproductive purposes4 ,the young man has other needs for it4 ,when he arrives at his fiftieth milestone1 if he has conserved this energy1 in youth1 he will thus have added thirty or more years to the fifty already lived4 ,the old men who wear a halo of health1 energy1 nobility1 happiness and purity 7there are but few71 are men1 who in youth1 young manhood and middle life1 conserved the energy of manhood4 ,man is hereditarily degenerate4--,man cannot understand1 why his hardest battles are not with enemies on the outside1 but with his own inherent inclinations to do wrong2 why he makes such slow progress2 why the mass of his fellow men are so indifferent to the development of ideal manhood1 until he gets a vision of the real cause of human degeneracy4 ,the one basic cause of all degeneracy in the past and present has been and is the dissipation of the creative life4 ,it is possible and highly probable that the original cause of the origin of degeneracy involved the violation of the laws of sex4 ,all practical and independent students of sociology are rapidly recognizing that this is the chief cause of the present day degeneracy4 ,they are recognizing that most children are the products of uncontrolled desire1 that their prenatal rights were not respected1 that many were not warmly welcomed at birth1 and but few are properly instructed in regard to the laws of sex and the importance of purity4 ,they see that the hope of the nation and the human race is to come back to nature1 be natural1 not to substitute artificial laws for nature's laws1 but to intelligently study and apply the laws of nature4 ,they see that the initial of every child's life should be intelligently and prayerfully planned1 prenatally protected1 also the birth warmly welcomed1 environment safeguarded and education natural and wise4 ,the sexual system has two functions4--,take three brothers who have received good heredity and give them the best environment4 ,we will make this difference between these boys2 the first is made an eunuch when one year old1 the second when he is fourteen1 the third is permitted to grow up normal4 ,when they reach maturity1 we find they have developed differently4 ,the first has grown only a few scattering short hairs on his face1 his voice is like a girl1 his shoulders are round and drooped2 he is cowardly1 without capacity for business1 with but very little mental capacity and wholly without mental ambition4 ,the second one has slight but noticeable improvements in all of these particulars4 ,the third is normal4 ,these facts show that the sexual organs have two functions1 and that the organs of a small boy are not wholly inactive as believed by most people4 ,before puberty these glands are generating an energy of great value to the boy that cannot be chemicalized and ejected from the body4 ,when puberty dawns1 the sexual organs become more noticeably active and a part of this energy1 at least1 becomes chemicalized into a fluid containing active cell life which may be absorbed by the body or ejected from the body4 ,before puberty this sex life helps to change the baby into a perfect boy4 ,from fourteen to twenty-four this sex life helps to change the perfect boy into a perfect man4 ,in these two periods the sex life has the one special mission1 making a perfect man4 ,in the latter 8teens0 and early 8twenties0 it would be possible to force this sex life into the function of reproduction4 ,but this is not its natural mission during these early years4 ,he now enters the period of greatest reproductive possibilities4 ,this period should last for twenty-four to twenty-six years4 ,during this period this creative life has two distinct functions4 ,the first in importance is that of reproduction4 ,this is the highest1 noblest1 purest and most sacred function of manhood4 ,in rare cases1 such as an unfortunate heredity1 accident or disease1 over which the man has had no control1 may unfit him for normal reproduction4 ,he is to be pitied not censured4 ,through the effects of bad habits1 upon sexual manhood1 many men are unfit for normal reproduction4 ,the second function of this creative life is to maintain perfect manhood4 ,sexual excess in the married life is just as much a violation of the laws of sex as sexual vice before marriage4 ,the fourth period in a man's life begins when he is forty-five to fifty-five1 and includes the remainder of his life4 ,during this period the creative life has the one primary mission of maintaining his manhood4 ,while the reproductive function remains possible it rarely would be advisable to express this energy in this way4 ,the creative life4--,until recent years nearly all students of sexology considered sex as essentially physical4 ,now the idea is growing that sex is vitally a part of the physical1 mental and soul life of the individual4 ,the sexual organs are simply the generators of the creative life and mediums through which this creative life is expressed in reproduction4 ,the meaning of passion4--,the consciousness of normal sexual desire is not an evidence of sinfulness and it is not an excuse for dissipation4 ,sexual desire rightfully interpreted means that we are conscious of the possession of creative life4 ,this can be utilized in several ways4 ,it can be built into the body1 into the mind1 into the moral nature1 it can be used in reproducing the species1 or it can be dissipated4 ,man must decide the way he will use it4 ,the disposition he makes of his sex life will determine whether he and others are blessed or injured by the use he makes of it4 ,how to build this creative life into the body4--,on the road might be seen a pair of strong draught horses pulling a wagon containing only an armful of wood4 ,becoming interested in knowing why those horses are not able to pull a larger load1 you find1 upon investigation1 the wagon to be so frail that1 if you should double the load the wagon would break down4 ,the horses represent a strong1 educated mind and the wagon a frail body4 ,such a person is handicapped in the march of life4 ,others with stronger bodies1 but with less of mental ability1 will win more honors1 receive larger remuneration and accomplish more in life4 ,one needs a strong healthy body in which to train the mind and achieve results4 ,in most cases1 it is a sin and a shame not to have a sound and perfect body4 ,by keeping the mind pure1 taking regular1 systematic physical exercise1 deep prolonged breathing and observing ordinary health laws this creative life can be built into tissue and muscle1 developing the body of an athlete4 ,there are examples where men1 who by the secret vice1 have brought on initial stages of consumption1 afterward broke from the vice and by control of the mind and physical culture cured the disease1 restored health and developed a fine physique4 ,how to build the creative life into a greater mind4--,the organs of generation are life generators4 ,they create life1 physical1 mental and spiritual4 ,this life is embodied in a very nutritious substance4 ,this valuable food material1 with its essence of pure life1 if not dissipated by vice1 is absorbed by the blood4 ,nature sends the blood most freely to the parts most used4 ,if physical exercise is taken and the mind neglected1 the body will be strong and the mind weak4 ,if both the mind and body are uniformly exercised1 they will be uniformly developed4 ,if the mind is allowed to revel in lascivious thoughts many times as much of this creative life will be formed as the blood can absorb4 ,thus the blood is robbed of nutritious material and life that should never have been removed4 ,this surplus cannot be reclaimed by the body but must be dissipated4 ,keeping the mind pure is of paramount importance4 ,to do this1 the mind must constantly be engaged in some worthy activity4 ,keep company with great men and women by reading their articles in magazines and their books4 ,think great thoughts of your own4 ,be hopeful1 cheerful and determined4 ,the prize of a great mind will be yours4 ,how to build the creative life into a larger social and moral life4--,emotions1 sentiments1 feelings1 hope1 faith and charity are essential elements of a man's nature4 ,he is not a full man1 a well rounded man1 a perfect man if these elements of his nature are neglected4 ,these elements of his nature are fed on spiritual exercise4 ,man's degeneracy is an appalling fact4 ,regeneration1 or ,christ is a necessity in every life4 ,christ loved the unlovely1 inspired the discouraged1 wept with those that wept1 and lifted the burdens of struggling ones4 ,by following this example we will build ,his life1 our creative life1 into a larger social and moral life4 ,,chapter ,,xxxvi ,,continence ,it has been several months now since we had our last confidential talk4 ,many changes have taken place in your body and mind during these months4 ,you have been inclined to be more with large boys and young men and this is due to the changes that are going on4 ,with the coming months you will have less the feelings of the boy and more the feelings of the man4 ,the two forms of incontinence4--,i have been anxious to have a talk with you on the subject of continence4 ,by this word as applied to young men1 we mean abstinence from all voluntary sexual gratification4 ,having given you talks on the subject of the 8solitary vice10 which is one form of sexual gratification1 ,i will now talk with you about the other form of incontinence1 cohabitation or sexual relation with women4 ,a false idea4--,there is a widely prevailing idea among young men that they must gratify their sexual desire in some way1 and that if they do not they will lose their reproductive power1 or their ability to become fathers4 ,they have an idea that sexual gratification is essential to sexual and physical health1 mental development and manliness4 ,they think young men are weak-minded and incapable who do not gratify themselves in one of these two ways4 ,where did they get this idea8 ,the wrong application of biological law4--,they will tell you that doctors teach that young men should gratify themselves4 ,they will tell you then that the non-use of an organ will lead to the loss of its function4 ,the illustration they use is1 8,if the arm be kept in a sling for a year1 one will find he has lost the use of his arm for several days4 ,if the arm should be kept in a sling for ten years1 he would likely lose the use of his arm for life and the arm would wither2 therefore1 if a young man should live a continent life for ten years1 his sexual organs would atrophy and he would lose his powers of fatherhood40 ,no reliable physician holds to the sexual necessity theory4--,in reply to these arguments1 no intelligent and reliable physician to-day teaches sex necessity4 ,some ignorant1 unreliable1 8quack0 doctor occasionally tells a young man that his physical1 mental and sexual strength will be ruined unless he indulges in sexual gratification4 ,this young man will tell twenty young men what he has learned and each of these will tell twenty others4 ,it is in this way that so many young men get the idea that doctors advise sexual indulgence4 ,continence does not destroy virility4--,ten years1 twenty years1 or even more1 of absolute continent living will no more cause a man to lose his virility than twenty years of absence from nursing a child will destroy the function of lactation in a woman4 ,only the unreliable doctors advocate sexual necessity4--,in every profession of men there are some fakes4 ,this is as true of the medical profession as it is of other professions4 ,in all large cities and in many small towns there are ignorant1 unreliable and unscrupulous doctors4 ,in almost every ,state1 ,i have had young men to tell me that they have been advised by doctors to visit the prostitute4 ,such frauds are a great social and moral misfortune to any community4 ,the high-minded1 capable1 honorable doctors all advocate continence for young men4 ,they are real friends to young men4 ,even the young man who has made his mistakes will find the advice and treatment of this class of doctors to be far the safest and cheapest in the end4 ,unanswerable arguments4--,it is not an uncommon occurrence to hear some very prominent citizen advocate the necessity for a few public characters in every community to conserve the health of young men by ministering to their sexual necessity and in this way protecting the virtue of innocent girls and respectable women4 ,the test of sincerity and honesty of a man who claims to believe in foreign missions1 is his willingness to go1 to allow his child to go1 or to help support those who do go as missionaries4 ,the test of the sincerity and honesty of a man who advocates the necessity for the immoral woman1 is his willingness to contribute a mother1 wife1 sister1 or daughter to the philanthropic interest of masculine health and the safeguarding of innocent girls and respectable women4 ,if he is not willing to make this contribution he is not honest and not sincere when he advocates public prostitution4 ,if public prostitution protects innocent girls and respectable women from the abnormal man1 cases of rape and seduction would occur most frequently where there are no lewd women4 ,but the reverse is true4 ,the continent young men would be guilty of committing all the assaults on female virtue4 ,but it is the incontinent men who commit all the crimes of this kind4 ,if the social evil is a necessity and the immoral woman protects the virtue of the innocent girls and virtuous wives1 is she not a benefactor8 ,who is engaged in a more commendable1 philanthropic or ,christian service8 ,then why should she be treated as an outcast8 ,should she not be invited as a guest of honor at our social functions8 ,should she not sing in the choir1 or sit in a front pew in the most aristocratic church8 ,the pugilist and athlete1 in their training for special tests of strength1 endurance1 and skill1 abstain for long periods from all sexual gratification4 ,it is by living a continent life that the lower animals1 unmolested by man1 reach a state of physical perfection4 ,effects of incontinence upon the married life4--,an incontinent single life will naturally lead to excesses in the married life4 ,such young men get the idea that marriage means unlimited gratification4 ,with these perverted views they enter and soil the sacred precincts of marriage and parentage4 ,by marital excess1 indulged in by no other animal or savage1 their health is injured1 their lives are shortened and their children are poorly born4 ,this is a very common harvest reaped in the married life4 ,back of this harvest1 and back of the sowing is ignorance4 ,from these facts and many others that could be had we see that absolute continence is not unnatural1 but it is the only sane solution to a young man's sex problems4 ,,chapter ,,xxxvii ,,prostitution ,we have talked over many of the problems of boys and young men4 ,you are now sixteen and new problems are constantly coming up in your life for solution4 ,i would like to speak with you on this occasion about the very vital problem of illicit intercourse with women4 ,by this expression is meant all sexual intercourse with women outside of holy wedlock4 ,men are as fallen as women4--,when this sin occurs among single people it is fornication1 when among the married1 it is adultery4 ,whether this occurs among the single or the married1 it is prostitution4 ,in this sin there is no difference1 in character1 between the male and the female1 the married and the single prostitute2 in either case1 the priceless gem of virtue has been forfeited4 ,men think less of their virtue than women4--,partly due to a bad heredity and largely due to a false training and the existence of a double standard of morals1 boys and men are more willing to sacrifice their virtue than are girls and women4 ,there are a few degenerate girls and some who have been reared in immoral homes who willingly sacrifice their virtue4 ,but these represent only a very small part of the girls who annually fall4 ,most of those who are known as fallen women were induced to fall by designing men4 ,many methods are used to accomplish the fall of girls4 ,lady clerks1 stenographers and servants in homes and hotels receive such meager wages that they are often unable to meet their necessary expenses4 ,men have taken advantage of their financial need and by skillful advances1 artful entreaties and by offering to supplement their income for special favors1 they succeed in ruining many girls4 ,few women go wrong from choice4--,some men use the dance1 the theater1 alcoholic drinks1 certain stimulating drugs1 buggy rides and late hours at night as means of accomplishing their fiendish purposes4 ,victory once won1 clandestine relations are continued until the girl finds that she is to be a mother1 or her guilt becoming known1 being often forced from her own home1 ostracized by society1 shunned by professing ,christians1 she now becomes an outcast4 ,few girls ever go wrong from choice4 ,great as her sin is1 it is small compared with his4 ,there is not greater sin and crime than his4 ,possessed of one spark of manhood1 he would marry the girl2 instead1 he is more likely to boast of his achievement4 ,no less a sin because the fallen woman accepts a 8price40--,young men often ask1 8,what harm can there be in seeking sexual gratification with a woman who voluntarily gives her consent for a price80 ,there are many reasons why this is wrong4 ,the ,bible condemns it as a very great sin4 ,civil law condemns adultery as a crime4 ,by both civil and divine law it is considered as great a crime as stealing1 murder or drunkenness4 ,if men controlled their passions1 there would be no fallen women4 ,if men would not visit them1 they would reform or become ,christians4 ,thus men are not only largely responsible for the fall of women1 but they are largely responsible for their remaining fallen4 ,man's appreciation of pure women destroyed4--,constant association with fallen women degrades or destroys a man's conception and appreciation of pure womanhood4 ,he may become so degraded as to believe that all women have their 8price40 ,such a man could not appreciate a pure sister1 daughter1 wife or mother4 ,such men become sensualists and should they marry1 their excesses would wreck the health and happiness of their wives1 and their children would receive an unfortunate heredity4 ,a great physical risk4--,for physical reasons a visit to the fallen women would be a hazardous risk4 ,these women are nearly always diseased4 ,in this way young men become diseased and they infect their wives and transmit serious troubles to their children4 ,self-respect lost4--,from a moral point of view a visit to the strange woman is wholly inadmissible4 ,you could never wholly recover your self-respect4 ,a young man has no moral right to demand purity of his sweetheart at the marriage altar unless he can offer her a pure life4 ,danger of becoming an illegitimate father4--,finally1 through illicit intercourse a young man is constantly in danger of becoming a father4 ,an illegitimate father never loves1 feeds1 clothes1 shelters1 educates and trains his own child4 ,every instinct of nature demands this much of him4 ,the child is blood of his blood1 bone of his bone1 life of his life2 it is as truly his child as if it had been conceived in wedlock4 ,sin that will so degrade a man as to leave him without sense of honor1 justice and right in his relation to his own child certainly has no equal in the catalogue of crime4 ,the pure man is worthy of a pure wife4--,the young man who keeps himself as pure as a virgin will be worthy of one of ,god's queenly women1 he will be capable of making her a kingly husband1 and1 conscious of their dignity1 purity and virility1 he and his wife will become the happy parents of a brood of fair girls and lusty boys4 ,,chapter ,,xxxviii ,,venereal ,,diseases ,the bad cold 8fallacy40--,most boys and young men are disposed to think of venereal diseases as a joke4 ,they often compare them with a bad cold4 ,they are often heard to boast of having had one or more attacks from which they easily recovered4 ,this is due to the fact that these young men have no just conception of the grave consequence of these diseases4 ,two principal diseases4--,there are two principal kinds of venereal disease3 gonorrhea1 in street vernacular known as clap1 and syphilis1 popularly called pox4 ,these diseases are due to specific disease germs and require a specific treatment4 ,these diseases originate as a result of illicit intercourse1 never originating in the married life where husband and wife are true to each other4 ,sometimes a husband or wife may be infected by accidentally coming in contact with the disease germs by kissing an infected person1 the use of public towels1 closets1 etc4 ,as old as prostitution4--,venereal diseases are as old as prostitution4 ,these diseases evidently originated as a result of prostitution4 ,venereal diseases are known to have been in existence more than #bjjj years ,b4,c4 ,all venereal diseases were thought to be one until #ahch4 ,these diseases may be acquired by the use of a closet1 towel or bath tub previously used by an infected person4 ,the immoral woman dangerous4--,all immoral women1 whether they live in public houses or in private homes1 are diseased some of the time1 and some of them are diseased all the time4 ,no young man can know1 not even a doctor1 when a man may or may not be infected by having sexual relations with either class of these women4 ,facts show that eighty per cent4 of the young men of this country become infected with gonorrhea between the ages of eighteen and thirty4 ,this would indicate that only a few who visit the immoral woman escape1 because at least ten per cent4 of our young men never visit fallen women4 ,the ten per cent4 of our young men is increasing4 ,immediate medical attention4--,should a young man be so thoughtless and unfortunate as to visit one of these women and become infected1 he should go at once to a competent physician and follow his advice and take his treatment4 ,he should not postpone treatment one hour1 send off for some remedy he sees advertised1 or go and get some patent remedy to be obtained at a drug store4 ,money1 time1 health and even life itself are too valuable to be hazarded in this way4 ,if this advice were always followed the diseases could in many cases be cured in their first stage and most of the after evil results be prevented4 ,discovery of the disease germs4--,in #ahgi1 ,dr4 ,neisser discovered the specific germ of gonorrhea1 called the ,neisser gonococcus4 ,in #ahie1 two ,german doctors discovered the germ of syphilis1 spirochet pallida4 ,gonorrhea4--,the disease appears from three to five days after exposure1 and is heralded by the swelling of the urethra1 and an itching1 burning sensation during urination4 ,these symptoms continue for a week or ten days when a thick greenish yellow discharge begins4 ,under careful and prompt treatment the disease may be permanently cured4 ,even under prompt and skillful treatment some cases have a persistent tendency to run into a chronic condition4 ,complicated chronic conditions often occur from poor treatment or neglect4 ,when the disease reaches a chronic form it is likely to continue for years4 ,some of the complications of this disease are3 chronic inflammation of the mucous membrane of the urethra1 accompanied by a constant discharge4 ,stricture4--,a tightening or narrowing of the urethra at some point4 ,this is called stricture4 ,urinating becomes difficult and painful4 ,a lengthy and difficult treatment may be required and sometimes a painful operation4 ,inflammation of the prostate4--,if the prostate gland becomes the seat of this disease1 it will cause great inconvenience and may result in painful treatment1 surgical operation1 loss of health and mental vigor1 with possible loss of the power to become a father4 ,if both testes become inflamed1 the victim often becomes sterile4 ,a dangerous and painful operation is sometimes required4 ,he will never be what he once was1 or might have been4 ,gonorrheal rheumatism4--,if the gonorrheal germs get into the blood and find their way to the joints of the bones1 the result is gonorrheal rheumatism4 ,this is one of the most painful and difficult diseases to be cured known to medical science4 ,ophthalmia4--,should some of this poisonous pus be transferred to his eye or the eye of another1 it would cause gonorrheal ophthalmia1 a disease of the eye that often results in blindness in a few hours or unsightly sore eyes for life4 ,wife and children the greatest sufferers4--,if the guilty young man were the only one to suffer1 it would not be so serious4 ,his future wife and children may be the greatest sufferers4 ,it is now known that these disease germs may remain for years in a young man's body in an inactive and weakened state2 and that too1 after he thinks he is perfectly cured4 ,in this condition he is likely to infect his wife4 ,these weakened germs will now take on new life in her body and produce gonorrheal conditions4 ,she will mistake the disease for leucorrhea and treat herself for a time4 ,during this loss of time1 various complications have developed4 ,one or more of her sexual organs are now inflamed and ulcerated4 ,one organ after another may have to be removed by a surgical operation to save her life4 ,tumors1 nodules1 and ulcers must be removed by the knife4 ,the doctor feels that it is best to leave the husband1 as well as the wife1 to believe that the whole trouble is due to the weakness of woman4 ,perhaps the wife dies under the knife and leaves a husband and children4 ,in preaching her funeral1 the pastor tries to console the bereaved by laboring to reconcile ,providence and the unfortunate death4 ,blind children4--,if she becomes a mother before these operations are made1 as the child passes from her body it gets some of the gonorrheal germs in its little eyes and in a few hours or days it is totally blind from gonorrheal ophthalmia4 ,or1 if the doctor suspects this trouble and puts a drop or two of a solution of silver nitrate in the eyes of the new-born baby1 no serious trouble may come to the child because of the father's sin4 ,an eminent physician in ,germany says that there are #cj1jjj blind people in ,germany because of gonorrheal ophthalmia4 ,no statistics have been kept in this country1 but reliable physicians claim that there must be as many as #ae1jjj4 ,what right has a young man to engage in a sin that will cause his wife and child a lifetime of suffering8 ,syphilis is by no means as common as gonorrhea1 there being only eight to eighteen per cent4 of the young men who contract this disease as compared with eighty per cent4 who contract the other4 ,the germs that produce gonorrhea have only to come in contact with the mucous membrane for infection to follow4 ,the germs of syphilis have to reach the blood by means of a sore or small crack in the skin or mucous membrane4 ,three stages of syphilis4--,syphilis develops by three stages1 known as primary1 secondary and tertiary syphilis4 ,if treated promptly and properly during the first stage1 it may be cured without great injury following1 or danger of return4 ,in other stages a much longer treatment will be required1 with many possible complications and dangers4 ,before the doctor can check the disease it may attack the bones1 muscles1 arteries and the internal organs4 ,this disease causes #ij per cent4 of locomotor ataxia1 much of apoplexy1 paralysis and sudden deaths long after the disease is supposed to be cured4 ,it is a prolific cause of insanity4 ,the descendants of a syphilitic father or mother are often still-born1 die prematurely1 or become insane later in life4 ,syphilis shortens the lives of its victims one-third4 ,an innocent person can be infected4--,by using or handling something used by a diseased person an innocent person may be infected4 ,a person infected with one of these diseases is absolutely unclean and dangerous4 ,there are better reasons for putting such a man in the pesthouse than one who has smallpox4 ,a certificate of good health should be required4--,it will not be long before a young man will have to present a certificate of freedom from these diseases1 obtained from a reputable physician1 before he is granted a license to be married4 ,an example4--,the ,president of a college ,y4 ,m4 ,c4 ,a4 recently said to me1 8,five years ago ,i was in poor health due to a long and excessive practice of the secret vice4 ,i went to a doctor for advice4 ,he suggested that ,i should occasionally visit the prostitute4 ,i made but one visit4 ,that night ,i caught syphilis4 ,for five years ,i have been under the treatment of doctors4 ,i have been to ,hot ,springs4 ,doctors tell me that ,i cannot be cured under two more years of this treatment4 ,even then1 the risk of its return will be so great they say1 that ,i should never think of marrying40 ,then he added1 8,that is what one visit has cost me4 ,three times in these five years ,i have planned to commit suicide40 ,another example4--,only a few days since a young man called at my office for an interview4 ,his story was1 8,three years ago ,i was induced by other boys to visit the #8,red ,light' district of this city4 ,on my second visit ,i was infected with gonorrhea4 ,my income was small4 ,the doctor's fees were beyond my reach4 ,i tried patent remedies sold in drug stores guaranteed to cure the worst case in three to five days4 ,failing to cure myself in this way ,i was compelled to go to doctors4 ,at times ,i seem to be cured4 ,then ,i make another visit and the old trouble comes back on me4 ,this has been repeated three times in two years4 ,i am now in a worse shape than ,i have ever been40 ,he then asked my advice4 ,i told him to select the most reliable doctor he could find1 and regardless of price take his treatment until he was pronounced cured4 ,then twice a year for several years1 to have a ,state ,health ,board to make a microscopic examination4 ,if they find no gonococci for two or three years1 he might consider himself well4 ,but marriage will then be a risky proposition4 ,these two recent cases are selected from a thousand experiences related to me in the last five years1 many of which were far worse than these4 ,the reader can judge for himself whether or not these diseases are no worse than a 8bad cold40 ,,chapter ,,xxxix ,a ,,young ,,man',s ,,ethics ,you have a social nature4--,this nature should be developed4 ,boys and girls1 men and women1 are complements of each other4 ,every boy needs a sister and every girl needs a brother4 ,it is a good thing for boys and girls of different families to be schoolmates and occasionally to engage together in games4 ,where co-educational colleges are wisely managed1 young men and women develop socially in a more normal way than when they are separated4 ,the matured young man is never quite himself until he finds his mate4 ,the same can be said with equal force of the matured woman4 ,relation of the social and sex natures4--,the social nature of an eunuch has been arrested in its development to such an extent that he appears to be without a social nature4 ,he does not attract the opposite sex1 admires no woman1 has no interest in children1 and does not care to mingle with people in a social way4 ,the secret sin often causes a young man to be exceedingly indifferent and to shun the company of young women4 ,these facts show clearly that there is a vital relation between the sexual nature and the social nature4 ,if developed and kept normal1 they will contribute much to the enjoyment of life4 ,like all great blessings they have their dangers4 ,whatever1 in the social relations of young men and women1 leads to the excitement of the sexual instinct means danger1 temptations and ofttimes social disaster4 ,almost all men have either inherited or acquired a strong tendency toward easy sexual excitement4 ,most young men are ignorant of their weakness and the laws of sexual excitement4 ,in these regards the birds and lower animals are much truer to nature than is1 degenerate1 man4 ,among them the sexual exciting relations1 preparatory to the reproductive act1 are never indulged in by the male except during the mating season4 ,the lower animals never violate these laws of normal sexual excitement4 ,a pernicious custom4--,many young men1 ignorant of these laws1 prompted by an over-developed sexual condition1 have the habit of pinching the arms of girls1 patting their cheeks and chins1 squeezing their hands1 playing with the hair1 hugging and kissing them1 and other indiscreet and dangerous habits4 ,these relations are known by modern society as 8spooning40 ,it is seriously common4 ,it is more dangerous to physical1 sexual1 mental and moral health than the secret sin or prostitution4 ,it is the kindergarten for both4 ,few young people would ever fall were it not for these pernicious and foolish customs4 ,you should treat every young lady as you would have other young men treat your sister4 ,you should have a correct knowledge of these laws and by an intelligent choice and a manly1 strong purpose1 refuse ever to engage with young women in any social relation that would endanger your honor or their virtue4 ,friendship and love4--,for a number of years you may for social reasons wish to call occasionally on one or more girls for whom you will entertain only thoughts of friendship4 ,however1 friendship occasionally assumes a more serious turn and is transformed mysteriously into love4 ,if this love is natural1 prompted by your paternal nature1 approved by your reason and judgment1 no mistake will be made4 ,love can be blinded by lust1 paralyzed by wealth and hypnotized by beauty and in either event1 marriage would be a failure4 ,a good wife is a helpmate4--,if a young man has perfect control of his sex nature1 ,i would not advise marriage before he is twenty-three or four4 ,if he has a few hundred dollars ahead1 a good education1 or a good paying position1 has good health and has found the girl of his choice1 he should not postpone marriage until he has accumulated more4 ,a good wife is a helpmate4 ,long engagements4--,such engagements are seldom necessary and rarely advisable4 ,don't be in a hurry4 ,the first chance may not be the best one4 ,study her and her family well4 ,your children's rights should be respected2 choose for them a good mother4 ,a young man should never trifle with his affections or the affections of young women by numerous engagements4 ,this is a serious matter4 ,the affectional nature can be trifled with until it cannot be relied upon4 ,certain rights not yours4--,after you are satisfied with the choice you have made1 the important question been asked1 a favorable answer received1 and the engagement has been effected with the approval of both families1 remember that there are privileges that are not yours until the legal phase of marriage has completed your oneness4 ,any violation of chastity before marriage is a sin against society1 weakens self-respect1 causes a loss of confidence in each other1 and often leads to domestic discord in the future4 ,when you call4--,after the engagement is made you will want to be with your betrothed much of the time4 ,when together have something sensible to talk about4 ,it is a good thing for lovers to read interesting stories to each other4 ,while sentiment and the occasional repetition of the avowal of marriage will add interest to these calls yet this can be over-done and becomes very monotonous4 ,be frank1 sincere1 versatile and entertaining1 but be discreet4 ,the nuptial night4--,in relation to the nuptial night there is some very delicate and vital information every engaged young man should possess4 ,the primary purpose of marriage is reproduction4 ,marriage is said to be 8,consummated in the first act of cohabitation40 ,in ,greece it was a custom for three days to intervene between the marriage ceremony and the 8consummation of marriage40 ,this was a very wise custom4 ,the bride is usually nervous1 exhausted and excited over the occasion4 ,however much she may love her husband1 he is yet to her a stranger4 ,this nuptial night should be a night of sweetest1 tenderest courtship4 ,the bride should be promptly assured that she will be protected by her lover and that no sexual demand will be made until she extends the invitation4 ,you have often noticed reports in the daily papers of the young bride deserting her husband a day or two after marriage1 or committing suicide4 ,their husbands were ignorant1 low and brutal1 in almost every case4 ,a young man should understand that his bride is not in a condition of body and mind to meet the sudden change which the marital relation brings4 ,the considerate young husband4--,if a young husband is considerate1 awaits his wife's invitation1 practices self-control and moderation for the first few weeks of marriage1 his wife will be spared much anxiety1 nervousness1 and possibly diseases of the genital organs and an invalid condition for life4 ,if an engaged young man is informed1 sensible and pure1 and his bride possesses these qualities1 there would be nothing indiscreet1 unmanly1 or even unchristian for him to assure his betrothed that she need have no fear in approaching the nuptial night4 ,,chapter ,,xl ,,manhood ,,wrecked ,,and ,,regained ,few perfect men4--,when we study man in his relation to the world about him1 in relation to his physical1 mental and moral possibilities1 we get a glimpse of what nature and his ,creator planned for him to be4 ,in sacred and profane history1 on the farm and in the shop1 behind the counter and at the bar2 in ,congress and in ,senate1 on the platform and in the pulpit2 we find some splendid examples of ideal manhood4 ,but look at humanity in the mass4 ,how few perfect men do you find in a community6 ,look at the enervated and stunted fathers1 the nervous and sickly mothers1 the puny and weak children1 the poorly developed babies and dwarfed minds1 the crowded reformatories1 penitentiaries and asylums4 ,why are sixty-seven per cent4 of the children defective at birth8 ,why the aimless1 shiftless1 purposeless1 ne'er-do-well men8 ,why so much of deteriorated manhood8 ,the causes are many4 ,many people are ignorant of the most common laws of health4 ,many live in unappeased hunger and some are improperly fed4 ,whisky1 tobacco1 opium and morphine are all doing their part in wrecking manhood4 ,but the most prolific cause of blighted manhood is the sin of sensuality4 ,it is fully equal to all other causes combined4 ,one state health board asserts that if all men understood the laws of sex and kept them1 there would not be the need of one doctor in ten that we now have4 ,this indicates the injurious physical effects of this sin4 ,wrecked minds4--,an eminent doctor of ,france claims that the insanity of eighty-two per cent4 of all the females and seventy-eight per cent4 of all the males in the asylums of that nation involves their sexual mechanism1 function1 or both1 and that early sex instruction would have wholly precluded much of it and postponed the mental break much later in life in many other cases4 ,this indicates the mental effects of this sin4 ,kept from ,christ4--,more people are kept from ,christ and more fail to live the ,christian life because of their sex problem than because of all other problems put together4 ,this indicates the moral effects of this sin4 ,regained--extent4--,the extent to which injured1 impaired or wrecked manhood due to dissipated sex life1 may be regained1 will be determined by the number of years he has indulged1 the excessiveness of his vice1 his age when he reforms1 the exercise of his will and the help he seeks from ,god4 ,when nature is given a fair show1 it is wonderful what she will do in a few years4 ,when ,god is given a fair chance in a man's life1 it is equally wonderful what he can do for a man4 ,god and nature work together in the restoration of manhood4 ,the diagnosis4--,a study of the causes and the conditions of wrecked manhood will aid us to understand what must be done1 if manhood is to be restored4 ,nearly all cases of sexually injured or wrecked manhood first originated in wrong mental relations to matters of sex4 ,the mind has the power to excite to greater than normal activity many of the glands of the body4 ,in the presence of food1 or fancying that one is in the presence of food1 the mind so influences the salivary glands that they secrete saliva much faster than at other times4 ,in the same way1 when the mind is called to the sexual organs1 and thought and desire for sexual gratification are aroused by handling these organs1 or when gazing upon lewd pictures1 reading obscene literature1 telling or hearing a smutty joke1 8spooning0 with a girl1 reveling in lascivious desire1 or when constipated these organs are stimulated to unusual activity4 ,blood rushes to the genital organs1 the capillaries are dilated and gorged with blood and many times as much semen is formed in a given period1 as would be formed1 if the mind was otherwise engaged4 ,the body has its limit in absorbing the vital substance4 ,much of it that should never have been taken from the blood must be thrown off from the body by seminal emissions1 the secret vice1 prostitution or marital excess4 ,when improper mental relations are continued for months or years1 gradually there is established a tendency for too much blood to flow to the genitals1 the capillaries become easily dilated1 the organs are constantly excited and inflamed and the habit of generating too much semen is formed4 ,this leads to impaired manhood4 ,all causes of wrong mental thinking must be avoided4--,if constipated1 this must be corrected4 ,if accustomed to handling the organs with the hands1 this must be stopped4 ,learn instinctively to shun the vulgar story teller1 close your eyes to every lewd picture1 burn every obscene book in your possession1 keep company with only the discreet1 chaste girls who wear a full dress1 banish every lascivious thought1 and keep your mind engaged in other things4 ,this desired mental control does not come in a moment1 an hour1 a day or a month of effort4 ,it will take a year1 it may take more to become master of the mind4 ,a young man must quit the sin4 ,it can be done at once1 but not in every case4 ,it may take months or a year4 ,if a true conversion to ,christ means anything1 it means a purification of the mind from a willful choice to engage in impure thoughts4 ,from my point of view this is one of the most important steps for a young man to take in the solution of his sex problem4 ,a pathological condition4--,it is vitally important for a young man to understand that1 even when he has fully decided in his mind on reform and has accepted ,christ1 that this reformation of mind and regeneration in his moral nature do not change the pathological condition of the genital organs1 due to years of violating nature's laws4 ,these steps are all important4 ,restoration to manhood would not be possible without one or both4 ,the physiological facts are1 years of wrong thinking1 the secret vice or prostitution has established a tendency for too much blood to flow to these parts and consequently too much semen is formed4 ,this will continue until nature has had time to restore normal conditions4 ,this could never be done by nature without the causes being removed4 ,nature's work of restoration is always gradual4 ,she cannot be hurried4 ,she always does her best4 ,her best is always measured by the opportunity given her4 ,start in time1 be faithful in removing all hindrances and she will accomplish results4 ,hindrances and helps4--,you cannot help nature in this trouble by using drugs1 stimulants or galvanic batteries4 ,marriage only substitutes one form of sexual waste for another4 ,prostitution is not a remedy2 that simply destroys two souls and bodies instead of one4 ,the use of tobacco and alcoholic drinks tends to inflame the passions4 ,these habits must be entirely quit if restored manhood is desired4 ,absolute cleanliness1 bathing of parts with cold water1 eating nature's foods1 vegetables and cereals1 meat sparingly1 if at all1 taking plenty of open air exercise1 including deep breathing2 these are the remedies nature delights in using4 ,a fact that should be clearly understood4--,after one has fully decided upon a changed life1 at certain periods he will be very severely tested by the constant recurrence of impure thoughts and a strong desire for sexual gratification4 ,many men doubt their conversion or decide that there is no hope for them4 ,if they yield and practice the secret vice1 they chide and condemn themselves1 become despondent and decide there is no hope for them4 ,they should understand that these thoughts and desires are not of moral choice1 but they arise purely from a pathological condition of the genital organs4 ,the changed mind and heart did not stop the usual flow of blood to these organs and the generation of too much semen4 ,the surplus could not be absorbed by the body4 ,it caused the ducts and vessels to become gorged4 ,it was this condition that caused the improper thoughts and desires4 ,nature has a relief for this while she is gradually producing a cure4 ,the relief is a seminal emission4 ,if these men would resist the temptation for a few more hours or a day1 nature would come to their help with an emission4 ,then for several days they would be free from impure thoughts and desires4 ,the next period would not be so severe4 ,the will would be stronger and resistance easier4 ,if this is kept up1 less and less blood will go to the genital organs1 less and less semen will be formed1 and after one1 two or three years a normal condition will be established and manhood restored4 ,if venerealized1 consult a good doctor4--,if wrecked manhood involves some form of venereal complication1 the sufferer should go to the most reliable home physician he can find1 take his treatment and follow his directions4 ,even in these cases1 if the directions given are followed1 the remedies given by the doctor will be made more effective4 ,all out of the asylum can if they will4--,to the young man with seminal weakness1 or loss of virility1 we can offer no easy1 short cuts to recovery4 ,for years you have violated nature's laws4 ,the way back is not easy4 ,only the brave and the determined will make it4 ,all out of the asylum can if they will4 ,there is hope1 there is help1 there is recovery4 ,it is worth fighting a lifetime for4 ,to the great army of young men who are unchaste in minds1 many in habits1 conscious of no serious results1 as yet1 we would wave the flag of warning4 ,,chapter ,,xli ,,practical ,,questions ,,answered ,are men naturally more passionate than women8--,the accumulated hereditary effects of the double standard for centuries and his acquired tendencies have made man more sensual than woman4 ,reasoning from the lower animals and from all natural conditions there is no reason why a woman should be less passionate than man4 ,centuries of false training in impure mental revelings1 obscene language and vicious habits have had a growing tendency to establish lust in man4 ,most of man's lust is the child of his own cultivation4 ,if the double standard had never existed and men and women had been equally moral1 men would be no more passionate than woman and both would be better sexed and far less sensual4 ,what are the causes of acquired sensuality in men8--,the chief cause is wrong mental relations to matters of sex and reproduction4 ,the following are contributory causes3 ,the false impressions made by parents on the child2 the half truths clothed in the most obscene language received from servants and playmates2 obscene books1 pictures1 shows and the dance4 ,all these lead to sexual excitement through the mind4 ,the use of tobacco and alcoholic drinks tend to inflame the passions4 ,what are the principal causes of sterility in men8--,some authorities claim that twenty per cent4 of childless homes are due to men having had certain chronic forms of gonorrhea4 ,excessive use of tobacco and alcoholic drinks produces temporary sterility4 ,the secret sin1 when continued for many years1 often results in temporary sterility4 ,the inability to become a father1 due to one of the last causes1 may be regained on one or more years of abstinence from the cause4 ,loss of reproductive powers due to gonorrhea1 in most cases cannot be restored4 ,eighty per cent4 of sterility among married women is due to gonorrheal infection4 ,in nearly every case they were infected by their husbands who thought themselves cured4 ,from these facts we see that men1 not women1 are largely responsible for sterile homes4 ,are occasional seminal emissions natural8--,if men inherited normal sexual conditions and never violated sexual laws1 it is reasonable to suppose that men would be as free from sexual losses as are the males of lower animals4 ,but this ideal state does not exist with men4 ,nature has wisely provided for the escape of all surplus secretions from the various glands of the sexual system4 ,this occurs without any special shock to the nervous system and the amount of loss is usually small4 ,often what is called an emission is but the loss of fluid from the seminal vessels and not from the testes4 ,this does not contain true semen4 ,practically no harm results from these last discharges4 ,when do these emissions begin on a young man8--,this depends upon the sexual development and the habits of the youth4 ,in some it occurs much earlier than in others4 ,if a young man has lived a continent life1 he may expect an occasional emission when he is eighteen or twenty4 ,if he has used narcotics1 entertained impure thoughts1 or practiced the secret sin1 he may expect them sooner4 ,all young men who practice the secret vice would have frequent emissions if they were not disposing of their surplus energy in this way4 ,the young man who thus voluntarily gratifies his sexual desires is losing more energy than he would be doing if he were to discontinue the habit4 ,among many letters received recently are letters from two young men living nearly a thousand miles apart4 ,their cases are very similar4 ,each began the secret sin when he was only six or seven years old2 both were taught the vice by companions older than they2 neither ever received a word of warning from a parent or teacher4 ,one got to practicing the vice as often as seven times a day before he was thirteen4 ,he is now eighteen and having emissions as often as four times a night4 ,he has varicocele on both sides4 ,the other one is now twenty-two1 has practiced the secret sin as often as four times a day1 and now has varicocele on the left side4 ,of course these are extreme cases1 but they are more common than most people think4 ,are there some young men who never have emissions8--,it is no doubt true that all normal young men who are living pure lives have an occasional emission4 ,in a few young men it may occur during urination and therefore be unobserved4 ,a young man who willfully dissipates his energy as fast as it is formed1 by means of masturbation or prostitution1 may not have emissions4 ,but let him stop his bad habits and he will experience them4 ,are seminal emissions injurious8--,unnatural emissions are injurious2 the natural emissions are not4 ,what is the difference between a natural and an unnatural emission8--,the natural emission is a discharge from the seminal vessels2 the unnatural emission is a discharge from the testes4 ,the natural one contains no sperm cells2 the unnatural one does4 ,the first is wholly involuntary2 the second one is due to sexual excitement caused usually by impure thinking4 ,if a young man keeps his mind pure and avoids all habits that excite the sexual organs1 practically all the sexual life formed by the testes will be absorbed4 ,whenever he maintains a high state of passion for several minutes1 several hundred of the latent sperm cells in the epididymis will take on active life and be sent over to the ampull1 and emissions under this condition would contain many sperm cells4 ,this is why the unnatural emission is injurious4 ,owing largely to our artificial methods of living1 when a boy is eighteen1 the seminal vessels secrete more than can be absorbed4 ,the surplus is thrown off from one to four times a month4 ,this is nature's plan of relieving the gorged condition4 ,how can one prevent too frequent emissions8--,such dietetic measures as eating non-stimulating foods1 discontinuing the use of tobacco and alcoholic drinks1 and such hygienic measures as emptying the bowels and bladder just before retiring1 sleeping on the side1 and preventing constipation1 will aid in the control of emissions4 ,but the most important measure to be used is that of mental control4 ,the cure in all cases will be gradual and the time required will depend on the condition of the victim and his determination to conquer the habit4 ,can seminal weakness or loss of manhood be cured by the use of medicine of any kind8--,the idea that a young man suffering from this trouble1 by opening his mouth and swallowing pills or drinking medicines1 can cure himself is an absolute false hope4 ,no intelligent1 conscientious doctor will advise the use of drugs for seminal weakness4 ,the only safe1 sane and sound prescription that can be given one in this condition is a strict continent life1 aided by pure thinking1 proper diet1 and hygiene4 ,would you advise the use of any drug or medicine in case of seminal weakness8--,absolutely1 ,no4 ,i have no confidence in medicine for such cases4 ,in no case place your trouble in the hands of a specialist who claims to cure seminal weakness4 ,your home doctor is your best friend when you need medical advice4 ,no well informed doctor will recommend the use of drugs in such cases4 ,how may manhood be restored8--,one suffering from seminal weakness must abandon the secret sin1 get control of his mind1 have only pure thoughts1 exercise the mind along other lines1 take plenty of outdoor exercise and avoid all stimulating foods and drinks1 especially narcotics4 ,if not a ,christian1 become one at once4 ,a genuine conversion will be the most helpful means of bringing his mind to a pure state of thinking4 ,remember that the creation and distribution of this energy is largely under the control of the will4 ,how long will it take a young man to recover from the effects of masturbation8--,there are so many things to be considered in each individual case that this question cannot be answered in other than general terms4 ,the age when the habit was commenced1 the age when the habit was quit1 the frequency and the number of years of indulgence1 the inherited constitution1 the extent of lascivious thinking and the use or non-use of coffee1 tea1 tobacco and alcoholic drinks1 all play a part in the correct answer to the question4 ,i recall one young man of a frail constitution and a nervous temperament1 who had practiced the vice two to four times a week for four years4 ,he had nearly all the complications resulting from a greater excess and a much longer period of indulgence4 ,he used coffee1 tobacco1 and had been addicted to much impure thinking4 ,his will-power was weak4 ,he had a long1 hard struggle in breaking the habit4 ,it required four years for him to recover4 ,here is a remarkable example4 ,one of my correspondents1 twenty-eight years old1 began the habit at the age of eight and practiced the habit two and three times a day for twenty years4 ,he had very few of the troubles following the habit of masturbation4 ,satisfactory recovery took place in a year's time4 ,he had everything to his advantage4 ,he had inherited an ideal constitution and moral tendencies4 ,he had never used coffee1 tea1 tobacco or alcoholic drinks4 ,he had never allowed himself to indulge in obscene language1 to read immoral books1 to associate with bad company or to have improper thought about women4 ,he had cultivated studious and industrious habits1 and tried hard to live a ,christian life4 ,these ideal conditions had largely counteracted the injurious effects of the secret sin and made recovery possible in the brief period of one year4 ,i regard this as the most remarkable case that ,i have ever had under my advisement4 ,where one has practiced the secret sin from four to ten or more years and had the symptoms of greatly injured or lost manhood1 it will require from one to four years for nature to restore his manly powers4 ,nature cannot counteract the loss of vitality and restore years of waste in a few days or weeks of time4 ,where one has been a victim of this habit for years he must be patient with nature4 ,years of practice have established a stream of waste from his body4 ,in most cases it will require six months to one year for nature to check this waste4 ,until this is done1 the patient cannot hope to be conscious of the delightful thrill of manhood being restored4 ,just here1 ,i find many of my correspondents become discouraged4 ,failing to realize results in a few weeks1 they are tempted to feel that the advice found in this book will not bring relief when followed1 or that their case is a helpless one4 ,they need to be patient with nature in her slow but sure method of producing real results4 ,what per cent4 of children should be circumcised and when8--,the best physicians are not agreed on this4 ,many would say one-fourth to one-third4 ,it is best to do this when the boy is only a few days or weeks old4 ,should a young man be circumcised after he is grown8--,if the prepuce passes back freely and there is no irritation or soreness1 ,i would not advise circumcision4 ,if there is1 ,i would advise circumcision4 ,in extreme cases of the secret sin1 circumcision would help in breaking off the habit4 ,is there some method of dilating the prepuce and thus avoiding the necessity for circumcision8--,yes4 ,in many cases doctors are able to break up the adhesions and dilate the prepuce as a substitute for circumcision4 ,in this matter most parents neglect their boys4 ,when the prepuce is not passed back every few days and the secretion removed1 an adhesion takes place between the prepuce and the head of the penis4 ,a large number of boys labor for years1 from the age of six to twelve trying to pass the prepuce back4 ,they have not the right motive in doing this4 ,it is impossible for them to handle this organ in this way1 several times a day for months or years1 without discovering the secret sin4 ,in this way they dilate the prepuce and break up the adhesions4 ,it is strange that this experience among boys has not suggested to parents the following natural and practical method of solving this problem4 ,where the prepuce passes back naturally in babyhood1 the mother should occasionally take a damp cloth and remove the secretion4 ,when the boy is two years old the mother should have the boy trained to do this every two or three days4 ,where the prepuce is long and the opening small1 if the mother1 every time she cares for the little fellow's body1 would endeavor to pull the prepuce back1 by the time the boy is one year old1 nine times out of ten1 the problem would be solved4 ,this should be done so gradually and carefully as not to produce soreness4 ,if this is done before the boy is three years old sex consciousness and passion need not be awakened4 ,i would not advise the mother to begin this after the boy is two or three years old4 ,is there a safe method by which small organs1 due to the secret sin1 may be enlarged8--,there are some methods advertised by 8quacks0 and certain firms1 but most of them are unreliable or injurious4 ,the vacuum method is perhaps the most satisfactory4 ,this consists of an appliance that removes the external pressure from the organ and allows the blood to rush into the capillaries4 ,this practice must be kept up for a considerable time to be effective4 ,while this is the most natural method1 ,i would not1 in any case1 advise the use of it4 ,any method used tends to call the attention to the organs and this leads to continual sexual weakness4 ,a restored virility is of far more importance than the size of the organ4 ,because this organ varies in size1 many men who have practiced the secret vice to some extent1 fear that this organ has become in a measure atrophied4 ,would you advise marriage as a remedy for weak manhood8--,no4 ,one would simply substitute marital excess for excessive self-abuse or prostitution4 ,if a man has impaired his manhood he should recover his manhood by conserving sexual life1 proper diet and physical exercise for a few years before he marries4 ,what effect will a period of self-abuse have upon one's offspring8--,perfect children are born of parents having a strong vitality4 ,this vice weakens the vitality4 ,where a young man has noticeably injured his nerves1 his vitality1 his health1 he should seek to regain his manly powers before he thinks of becoming a father4 ,should a young man marry who has for a number of years practiced masturbation8--,it is always best for a young man who has practiced the secret vice for five1 ten or fifteen years to quit the habit and live a continent life for one or more years4 ,during this time he becomes normal in his sexual life and sexual demands4 ,if he has practiced the habit only in a very limited way1 so that he is not suffering from any bad consequences1 postponement of marriage is not necessary4 ,what should a young man do when he discovers that he has varicocele8--,the approach of this disease is first noticed by a dilation of the cord leading to the epididymis of the left testis4 ,when the veins become full of impure blood and feel like a handful of tangled earthworms and the left gland becomes painfully tender and begins to become much reduced in size1 then the individual has a real case of varicocele4 ,if1 when the veins are only moderately large and there is but little soreness1 the causes are abandoned1 no serious results may follow4 ,this disease is caused chiefly by the secret sin and impure thinking4 ,in some cases it is caused by a bruise or the 8falling of the mumps40 ,the patient must abandon the cause2 if it be the secret sin1 quit it2 if impure thinking1 quit that2 if 8spooning0 with girls1 a most common cause1 be a gentleman and quit it4 ,buy two silken suspensories1 so they can be kept clean4 ,the suspensory holds the testes up close to the body and prevents much of the uneasy dragging feeling4 ,if this advice is followed for several months a surgical operation need never be necessary4 ,not one of several hundred young men who have carefully followed this advice have had to be operated on4 ,if the patient fails to get relief and cure after several months of following this advice1 he should consult a home physician4 ,does varicocele caused by the 8falling of mumps10 lead to sterility8--,it does not4 ,if neglected1 varicocele1 however caused1 may lead slowly to sexual weakness and this finally to temporary sterility1 or inability to become a father4 ,prompt attention should be given to the advice found in the answer to the previous question4 ,when a testicle has become reduced in size can it be restored to normal size8--,if in the earliest stage of varicocele1 before the gland has become much reduced1 the advice found elsewhere in this book is followed1 the gland may become normal in size4 ,when the gland has become much reduced in size1 it will not be possible to restore it fully4 ,when a young man has become infected with venereal disease1 should he treat himself with a patent remedy purchased in a drug store or send away for a remedy8--,a young man's money1 health and life are too valuable to be jeopardized by resorting to either method4 ,most of these drug store remedies advertised in gentlemen's closets are guaranteed to produce a cure in one to five days1 and1 it is further guaranteed1 that the disease will never return4 ,there should be a law prohibiting the sale of such drugs4 ,they are an encouragement to uninformed men to visit the prostitute4 ,when the young man finds that the patent remedy has failed to cure him1 he is then perhaps in a chronic state of infection4 ,now the best medical talent may fail to produce a permanent cure4 ,should a young man who has had a venereal disease in a chronic form ever marry8--,few questions are more important and few more difficult to answer4 ,the right of being a husband and father may be annulled by inherited defects or acquired conditions4 ,the wife and child have incontrovertible rights4 ,the specific disease germs producing gonorrhea have been found in the genital vessels and ducts ten years after the victim considered himself cured1 and the germs producing syphilis have been found in a man's brain twenty-two years after he considered himself cured4 ,sixty-five per cent4 of married women who are operated on in their pelvic and abdominal cavities1 a very large per cent4 of imbecile children1 and eighty per cent4 of blind infants are traceable to uncured infection in their husbands and fathers4 ,where the diseases have been properly treated and a cure has been effected in the first stage1 no serious after effects will be experienced4 ,where the seeming cure has been effected several months or years after taking the disease1 quite a large per cent4 are never free from the effects4 ,if such men marry at all1 marriage should be delayed a few years after they consider themselves cured4 ,at intervals of once or twice a year they should be carefully examined by the ,state ,health ,board4 ,if no disease germs are found after two1 four or more years1 the individual may marry with some measure of assurance that he will not infect his wife or child4 ,even when these necessary precautions have been taken1 children to the third and fourth generations may have to suffer for life for the sins of their fathers4 ,can gonorrhea and syphilis be permanently cured8--,if gonorrhea is promptly and properly treated1 it can1 in many cases1 be cured without danger of return or any serious effects being transmitted to the wife or child4 ,it is also a fact that in many cases of gonorrhea1 even when properly treated1 there is a strong tendency to run into chronic conditions4 ,when the disease has been neglected or poorly treated1 or when a case by its own persistency runs into a chronic state1 many such cases are never cured so that they may not return in some form4 ,weakened germs have been known to remain in a quiescent condition in the genital ducts for years4 ,in recent years many prominent physicians have changed their views regarding venereal diseases1 as they are now known to be more insidious and persistent than was formerly thought4 ,some physicians claim that syphilis may sometimes be cured2 but many eminent physicians claim that it is quite probable that when one has once been infected with syphilis that his body is never entirely free from the disease germs4 ,some authorities claim that the syphilitic germ has been found in the brain twenty years after the disease was contracted4 ,many leading physicians now consider gonorrhea worse than syphilis4 ,when a man experiences a sexual desire1 does that not indicate that the desire should be satisfied8--,sexual desire results from the conscious possession of creative energy4 ,this creative energy can be disposed of in any one of the following ways3 7#a7 ,for procreation2 7#b7 ,built into the body and converted into health1 strength1 labor and length of days2 7#c7 ,built into the brain and converted into mental attainments and achievements2 7#d7 ,built into the feelings1 sentiment1 emotions1 and converted into sympathy1 love and service2 7#e7 ,it can be selfishly dissipated and reveal its misuse in a blighted1 wasted life4 ,what disposition shall be made of this creative energy is up to the individual to decide4 ,how can a young man judge of his sweetheart's virtue8--,in the same way that a sensible girl would decide upon the virtue of her best gentleman friend4 ,she would consider his reputation1 the company he keeps1 his general demeanor and his facial indications of chastity4 ,a modest demeanor1 absence of familiarity1 a pure mind1 innocent expressions on the face1 and look in the eye1 are the only evidences of a young woman's virtue by which a young man can be guided4 ,would it be wise for a young man to test the virtue of his best girl by using the methods of the seducer8--,how would he feel if he knew that some young man was practicing the same test on his sister8 ,not very comfortable1 if he had a spark of manhood about him4 ,there is no excuse for or justice in such a test4 ,under the pressure of the seductive methods used1 promise of marriage oft repeated1 a pure girl might be induced to surrender her all to the one she loves and trusts4 ,as a rule1 such a young man would then refuse to marry the girl he has ruined4 ,if he does marry her1 the mistake may mar their future happiness4 ,would it be proper for a young man to ask his sweetheart if she has kept her virtue8--,certainly1 if he can first assure her that he has kept his own4 ,if he cannot offer a square deal he should1 at least1 be willing to take chances4 ,if a young woman is not a virgin should she be expected to confess this to her lover8--,if it were customary for men to make such confessions1 then it would be fair for a woman to do the same4 ,since men do not consider it wise or necessary for them to confess their sins before or after marriage1 they should not expect this of women4 ,if the question of virtue is raised1 let the innocent party introduce it4 ,if the arm is not exercised it becomes helpless1 withered and weak4 ,if a young man should remain single for five to ten years and live a continent life1 will not his sexual organs lose their function1 wither and atrophy8--,these questions appear to present a most perfect analogy4 ,based on the information the average young man is supposed to have1 even if he be a college or university graduate1 not one out of a hundred could extricate himself from the conclusion1 that he must reach1 viz41 continence in the single life leads to a loss of the reproductive powers and to atrophy of parts4 ,when we consider that this is the argument of the immoral doctor1 the ignorant and the vicious1 the classes to whom young men of the past have been compelled to go for all their sex information1 it is not surprising that almost all young men hold to the 8sex necessity lie40 ,in the past1 ministers1 teachers and parents have not been in possession of facts with which to combat this sexual heresy4 ,the solution of this problem lies in the fact that the male and female organs of reproduction have two functions4 ,one is a continuous and regular function1 taking place day and night1 asleep and awake4 ,the other is a periodic and special function4 ,to illustrate3 ,the breasts of a woman are a part of her reproductive system4 ,a married woman becomes a mother for the first time at the age of twenty4 ,she nurses her babe at her breasts4 ,this function is called lactation4 ,but1 it would have been possible for her to become a mother at fifteen and to nurse her child4 ,then1 there were five years during which she did not perform the function of lactation1 and yet1 she did not lose this function4 ,suppose she does not become a mother the second time until she is forty4 ,again her breasts perform this special function as perfectly as they did the first time4 ,but1 remember1 there were nineteen years during which she did not perform this function1 and yet1 she did not lose this function4 ,the other sexual organs of a woman have special and periodic functions1 such as1 menstruation and ovulation4 ,the normal performance of these special functions is determined by their general and continuous function4 ,if the female sexual glands1 ovaries and breasts1 were removed from a girl in her infancy1 she would never develop the indescribable physical1 mental and social charms of ideal womanhood4 ,if these glands were removed at any other age under forty1 she would lose in physical1 mental and moral tone4 ,this illustrates the nature of the general and continuous function of these organs4 ,this function consists in these organs generating an internal secretion which1 if not interfered with1 will build and maintain a perfect womanhood4 ,this continuous function gives constant activity to these organs2 keeps them healthy and strong and prevents the loss of their special function1 that of motherhood4 ,day and night1 asleep and awake1 the male sexual glands are generating an internal secretion which1 if retained in the body1 will build and maintain perfect manhood4 ,it is this continuous function that gives constant activity to these organs1 keeps them healthy and strong and prevents the loss of their special function of reproduction4 ,what effect upon his sex problems has a young man's keeping company with young women8--,we have a social nature4 ,it should be normally developed4 ,the sex nature and the social nature are vitally related4 ,improper social relations lead to sensuality and proper social relations lead to purity of manhood and womanhood4 ,if a young man would develop an ideal social nature1 he should to a reasonable extent1 associate with modest1 discreet and chaste young women4 ,this is natural and in every way helpful4 ,if a young man who has sexual weakness1 due to youthful indiscretions1 purposes reform and desires to regain his manhood1 he will find association with young women of the above type to be very helpful4 ,the normal young man1 as well as the sexually weak1 should studiously avoid association with girls whose actions1 conversation or dress suggests impure thought4 ,what is the relation of 8spooning0 to a young man's sex problems8--,a single example of 8spooning0 will answer this question4 ,january #ai1 #aiab1 a college young man1 in a personal interview1 explained that since ,april #adth he had been completely impotent and wanted to know of me1 if there was any hope for him to have his manhood restored4 ,i assured him that there was4 ,he then asked me what he must do4 ,my reply was1 8,that depends upon what you have been doing40 ,i found that he had been guilty of the secret vice and prostitution to only a limited degree4 ,convinced that these habits would not explain his condition1 ,i said to him1 8,the trouble is in your mind4 ,you have in some way aroused and maintained a high state of sexual excitement for hours at a time and over a period of months or years4 ,can you explain80 ,he confessed that for nearly two years he had spent two or three hours1 two or three times a week1 in company with a girl friend who permitted him to hold her hands1 play with her hair1 pat her cheeks and chin1 kiss1 caress and even fondle her breasts1 but absolutely refused to permit further advances4 ,then ,i explained to him how this intense sexual excitement had brought on varicocele1 loss of sexual power and spermatorrhea4 ,spooning is a growing evil4 ,it is more injurious than the secret sin4 ,our suggestive post cards1 pictures on billboards1 novels and serial stories1 and the moving pictures in five and ten cent shows are all giving young people the idea that spooning is natural and expected as a part of the entertainment1 when a young man calls to see his 8best girl40 ,the girl who permits spooning will lose many of her personal physical charms4 ,the eyes that once sparkled with intelligence and glowed with luster become lusterless1 stupid and sunken2 the cheeks once rosy and plump become pale and poor2 the handshake that was once warm and full of life1 is now cold and lifeless4 ,health is gone4 ,she ends her days in heart trouble1 wrecked nerves or consumption4 ,if cohabitation is not a physical and sexual necessity1 or conducive to health1 why do married people live longer and have better health than those who remain single8--,as a rule married people are more temperate in their sexual lives than are the single4 ,but this does not prove that sexual gratification is ever conducive to health and long life4 ,all nature contradicts such a conclusion4 ,the embodiment of life in seed is a universal sacrifice4 ,many flowering plants wither1 fade and die as soon as they embody life in their seed4 ,if young fruit trees bear fruit too early in life1 they are stunted in their growth and die prematurely4 ,there is a suspension of growth in all the vegetable kingdom as soon as the function of reproduction is completed4 ,among the lowest forms of animal life1 as soon as the eggs are fertilized1 the animal dies4 ,among all the higher animals1 including man1 there is abundant evidence of some bodily depression and nervous exhaustion after each act of cohabitation1 showing the act to be one of sacrifice4 ,the arrested growth1 susceptibility to disease and premature decay among plants1 trees and animals1 when premature or over-production occurs1 are significant illustrations of the baneful effects of youthful dissipation of the sex principle and of marital excesses4 ,all nature teaches that the normal expression of sex is the unselfish act of embodying life in a new being and that means sacrifice4 ,the story of the cross is typical of all nature4 ,christ sacrificed his life that humanity might have redemptive life through a process of spiritual reproduction1 regeneration4 ,through centuries of bad heredity1 a misunderstanding of the nature and true function of sex and years of violation of sex laws have combined to give men an abnormal sex nature4 ,it has remained for the people of this country to discover and apply the laws of heredity1 to learn the true nature and function of sex and to restore to humanity a normal sex nature4 ,the results of centuries cannot be corrected in one generation4 ,few men will be able to reach the ideal life1 but it is the privilege of every man to struggle toward the ideal4 ,for young people to regard sexual gratification as the one reason for marriage is positively degrading and shows that our ideas of marriage should be corrected4 ,there are many reasons why the married life is the ideal life4 ,man is a social being4 ,he needs a companion4 ,he is not complete in himself4 ,he represents only one-half of a complete being4 ,he is never quite satisfied until he finds the other half1 the complement of himself4 ,a demand for companionship is found in the very physical1 mental and moral natures of man and woman4 ,their constant association1 their mutual home interests and sacrifice for their children are very conducive to health1 happiness and a long life4 ,what is the philosophy of the relation of sex to a happy courtship and marriage8--,the sexual life forms the basis of these experiences4 ,without the creative principle1 these social relations would be impossible4 ,the love and magnetism that draw the sexes together in courtship and marriage1 that harmonize their differences and blend their personalities and make the husband and wife one are the expressions of the sexual life4 ,young people who get the idea that marriage means unrestricted sexual privilege1 will sooner or later land in the divorce court1 or be compelled to live miserably together4 ,if they live in harmony with the laws of sex1 their honeymoon will be lifelong4 ,my subject is before you4 ,while we may differ as to some minor particulars1 we are agreed that the violation of the laws of sex is the most prolific source of wrecked manhood1 and that a pure life is the only possible road to perfect manhood4 ,i have tried to lead you to loathe and abhor all forms of sexual impurity and to form a purpose as lasting as life and as strong as death1 that you will never again violate the laws of sexual purity4 ,the attainment and maintenance of perfect manhood1 the recovery of wrecked manhood1 the transmission of potential perfect manhood to your offspring1 all absolutely depend upon your faithfulness to the principles of sexual purity enunciated in this book4 ,if the truths presented in this book keep one boy out of the pit of sensuality1 or if they lead one poor faltering man to form an undying purpose to become pure1 or if just one man finds help1 strength and life through faith in ,christ1 the author is repaid a thousand-fold4 ,it is a higher honor to wear a crown of perfect manhood than to wear the crown of an angel4 ,,chapter ,,xlii ,,physical ,,culture ,the cuts illustrating the first eleven exercises with descriptive matter1 are taken from 8,fasting1 ,hydropathy and ,exercise0 by permission of the authors ,bernarr ,mac,fadden and ,felix ,oswald1 ,a4,m41 ,m4,d4--,the ,author4 ,the importance of physical culture4--,this chapter is added for the reason that perfect health1 perfect development1 perfect virility1 perfect manhood is not possible without physical culture4 ,physical culture includes bathing and exercise4 ,the healthful functioning1 of the entire digestive system1 the kidneys1 the liver1 the lungs1 the heart and the brain1 are related1 vitally1 to physical culture4 ,likewise the retention1 absorption1 distribution and assimilation of the creative life are also vitally related4 ,bathing and massaging the body and physical exercise have a remedial effect upon almost all physical disorders4 ,the functions of the skin4-,stop the functions of the skin three minutes and death follows4 ,the skin has two functions1 one is to eliminate poisons from the body and the other is to conserve and regulate the heat of the body4 ,the wild tribes4--,in prehistoric times the people wore little or no clothing4 ,in some of the coldest countries wild tribes go almost naked4 ,under these conditions consumption and many modern diseases are unknown4 ,clothing is not needed by these people4 ,the skin is able to conserve sufficient heat4 ,modern customs4--,the wearing of clothing and the neglect of physical culture has to a large extent destroyed the natural functions of the skin4 ,the function of conserving heat is nearly lost by the skin4 ,when the skin is not kept clean and healthy it loses1 to some degree1 its power to eliminate poisons4 ,when this occurs the kidneys are forced to do overwork4 ,this results in kidney disease4 ,getting back to nature4--,for people to go naked again is out of the question4 ,modest1 pure-minded1 civilized people must wear clothing4 ,clothing conceals defects1 improves bodily appearance and protects the body from heat and cold4 ,getting back to nature simply means that we are to restore to the skin its natural functions of conserving heat and eliminating poisons4 ,the air bath4--,in athletic exercise the skin is incidentally exposed to the air and sunshine4 ,this largely accounts for the benefits derived4 ,on arising each morning fifteen minutes should be devoted to restoring and maintaining the natural functions of the skin4 ,this is done by throwing off the clothing in a fairly cool room1 exposing the skin to the air4 ,the skin should be rubbed with the hands or a fairly rough towel until it is stimulated into warmth4 ,it is well to vary the rubbing1 using the hands part of the time and the towel part of the time4 ,after the skin has become warm1 one can take fifteen minutes of physical exercise1 attend to shaving and other features of his toilet1 remaining1 meantime1 entirely or partly naked1 to a very great advantage4 ,the open air bath can take place of much of the cold and hot water bathing4 ,water baths should be taken twice or three times a week and those should be followed by ten or fifteen minutes' rubbing the body and exercising1 in the open air4 ,colds prevented4--,a person who is able to warm himself by friction during an air bath1 in a fairly cool room1 renders himself practically immune to colds4 ,colds cause catarrh1 tonsilitis1 bronchitis1 pneumonia1 pleurisy4 ,pneumonia causes consumption4 ,if one can prevent taking cold he will escape many of the ills of life4 ,in addition to this1 when the skin performs its functions properly and the internal organs are doing the same1 the person is practically immune to acute contagious diseases4 ,the air bath should be taken in a room that is properly ventilated4 ,if the friction is performed vigorously1 with the mouth closed1 this will enforce deep1 nasal breathing4 ,this will prevent catarrh1 enlarged tonsils and adenoids1 and1 if continued long enough1 will cure mild cases and will assist in the cure of all cases4 ,rules for physical exercise4--,physical exercise should not be taken for one hour after a hearty meal4 ,the best time for exercising is immediately after arising each morning4 ,if one desires to take a cold or warm bath1 he should take the air bath first4 ,following the water bath1 he should rub his body with his hands and a ,turkish towel until a warm glow is felt all over his body4 ,then should follow his physical exercise4 ,the lightest dress compatible with decency and comfort should be worn during the exercises described in this chapter4 ,he should not continue any exercise to the point of excessive fatigue4 ,breathing pauses will frequently be required at first1 but these intervals will be less frequent as the lungs develop4 ,value of physical exercise4--,the beneficial effects of physical culture cannot be overestimated4 ,it strengthens and develops the muscles4 ,it restores the natural functions of the skin4 ,by exercising the muscles of the external organs of the body1 exercise is given to the muscles of the internal organs4 ,by restoring the natural functions of the skin and giving normal exercise to the internal organs we correct the functional disorders of the digestive system1 the heart and the lungs1 and restore to them their natural functions4 ,the good effects will be noticed1 in some ways1 from the start2 in other ways several months may be required4 ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #a4--,reclining on right side and raising left arm1 with dumb-bell in hand and elbow rigid from hips to high over head4 ,same exercise with right arm while reclining on left side4 ,inhale deep breath as arm goes back4 ,exercise ,no4 #a4--,reclining on right side raising left arm1 with dumb-bell in hand and elbow rigid from hips to high over head4 ,repeat this some ten or fifteen times4 ,now turn on the right side and repeat this exercise with the left hand4 ,inhale a deep breath each time as the arm goes back4 ,this exercise helps to expand the chest walls and to develop certain muscles of the arms and side4 ,it is especially valuable for one who feels debilitated1 and is of value in several phases of heart disease4 ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #b4--,reclining on right side and raising left leg as high as possible and the same exercise taken with right leg while reclining on left side4 ,exercise ,no4 #b4--,reclining on right side1 raising left leg as high as possible4 ,repeat this a number of times4 ,now recline on the left side and raise the right leg as high as possible4 ,this exercise develops the muscles of the legs1 hips and abdomen4 ,it strengthens the digestive system and will improve an injured spine4 ,exercise ,no4 #c4--,recline on back and cross right leg over left as far as possible1 and vice versa4 ,this movement brings into activity some muscles of the legs often neglected4 ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #c4--,reclining on back and crossing right leg over left1 as far as possible1 and vice versa4 ,exercise ,no4 #d4--,reclining on back1 with dumb-bells1 or any object weighing one to two pounds in hands1 at sides1 raising same with elbows rigid1 and cross arms over chest4 ,this brings into activity several muscles of the arms1 shoulders and walls of the body1 stimulating the action of the lungs4 ,this is especially valuable where one is unable to leave his bed4 ,exercise ,no4 #e4--,reclining1 bring right leg up1 clasp hands over knee and pull leg up as far as possible and vice versa4 ,this exercise brings into play a large variety of muscles1 especially the muscles of the abdomen4 ,it is a constipation cure4 ,with a little effort one can voluntarily exercise the muscles of the ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #d4--,reclining on back1 with dumb-bells in hands at side1 raising same with elbows rigid1 and crossing arms over chest4 ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #e4--,reclining1 bring right leg up1 clasping hands over knee and pulling leg up as far as possible4 abdomen in such a way as to cause the intestines to move in a circle1 first to the right1 then to the left1 finally drawing them up and down4 ,this combined with the foregoing exercise1 if practiced daily1 will relieve and cure many cases of constipation4 ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #f4--,reclining and bringing arms from far back straight upward with elbows rigid1 to straight over chest1 drawing deep breath and retaining same during movement4 ,exercise ,no4 #f4--,reclining with dumb-bells in hands1 bring arms from far back straight upward with elbows rigid1 to straight over chest2 draw a deep breath and retain same during the movement4 ,this is1 in part1 the exercise used in reviving half-drowned persons4 ,in addition to the fine muscular movements1 it aids in deep breathing and is a fine lung tonic4 ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #g4--,reclining and raising left leg as high as possible1 with knee straight1 and repeat same with right leg4 ,exercise ,no4 #g4--,reclining on back1 raise left leg as high as possible1 with knee straight4 ,repeat several times3 also1 repeat this exercise with right leg4 ,this is a modification of ,number #b4 ,a splendid exercise for the hips and has a wholesome effect upon the spine4 ,exercise ,no4 #h4--,stand1 with hands on hips1 sway the body in a circular manner1 to the right1 left1 backward and forward4 ,it is a splendid exercise for stimulating the intestines4 ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #h4--,standing1 hands on hips1 circulatory body exercise1 swaying body in circular manner right1 left1 back and forward4 ,exercise ,no4 #i4--,reclining on back1 with both hands1 grasp some object back of head2 now1 holding the knees rigid1 raise both feet to a vertical position4 ,this exercise is rather severe at first4 ,it should be repeated several times4 ,it exercises the abdominal and hip muscles4 ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #i4--,reclining1 hands grasping something back of head1 raising both feet to vertical position4 ,exercise ,no4 #aj4--,reclining on stomach1 raise left leg1 with knee straight1 as high as possible2 same with right4 ,repeat these exercises several times4 ,this exercise is tiring at first4 ,it limbers up the joints4 ,for a person who has been accustomed to inactivity1 as in the case of bedridden invalids1 this is a valuable exercise4 ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #aj4--,reclining on stomach1 raising left leg with knee straight1 as high as possible2 same with right4 ,exercise ,no4 #aa4--,recline on stomach1 grasp dumb-bells in both hands1 raise arms from hanging ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #aa4--,reclining on stomach1 grasping dumb-bells in hand1 raising arms from hanging position to position illustrated4 ,illustration3 ,,exercise ,,no4 #ab4--,reclining arms hanging1 raising bells upward and outward from the body1 level with shoulders4 ,reversing that motion by bringing bells from position illustrated in ,no4 #aa to position on level with the shoulders1 as illustrated in ,no4 #ab4 position to position illustrated4 ,this exercise will strengthen the muscles of the neck and shoulders4 ,if one has sustained some injury that threatens tetanus1 or 8lock-jaw0 complications1 the application of this exercise would often break the spell4 8,keep moving your arms1 keep moving your arms10 was ,dr4 ,benjamin ,rush's constant advice to persons threatened with tetanic complications4 ,exercise ,no4 #ab4--,reclining with arm hanging1 raise dumb-bells upward and outward from the body1 level with shoulders4 ,reverse this motion by bringing bells1 from position illustrated in ,no4 #aa1 to position on level with shoulders1 as illustrated in this exercise4 ,in value and results this exercise is very much like ,no4 #aa4 ,consumptive microbes will have a poor chance to effect a lodging in a body getting the benefit of these exercises4 ,,seventh ,,division ,,heredity1 ,,or ,,vital ,,facts ,,for ,,the ,,married ,,and ,,marriageable ,,chapter ,,xliii ,,heredity1 ,a ,,fact ,a critic answered4--,during a lecture in a western city the author gave his audience an opportunity to ask questions and state their objections to his views on heredity4 ,one of his auditors declared that he did not believe in heredity4 ,he was then asked whether he believed in the improvement of mankind4 8,certainly10 was the objector's reply4 8,how do you suggest that this improvement may be accomplished80 8,i believe in ideal environment40 8,so do ,i2 but1 ,i also believe in the agencies of ideal heredity and the grace of ,god40 8,i don't know anything about your last agency and ,i do not believe in your first2 but ,i do believe in ideal environment40 8,do you understand farming80 8,i am a farmer40 8,very good2 suppose you have a field you wish to plant in corn4 ,you have access to two cribs4 ,one is filled with nubbins2 the other with large1 shapely1 well-matured ears of corn4 ,from which of the two cribs would you select your seed corn80 8,i would select from the one containing the better corn40 8,but1 you have just stated that you do not believe in heredity40 8,now1 ,professor1 you are talking about corn40 8,yes1 ,i am telling you how to improve corn by the intelligent control of heredity4 ,suppose you have no stock1 but you wish to begin raising stock4 ,your father has some scrub stock and some pedigreed stock4 ,he is willing for you to select your breeding stock without cost4 ,from which of the two grades would you select80 8,i would certainly select from the pedigreed class40 8,but you have informed me that you do not believe in heredity40 8,now you are talking about hogs1 cattle and horses40 8,yes1 ,i am trying to explain to you that in the improvement of our domestic animals we are wise enough to use the agency of heredity4 ,suppose you had a daughter of marriageable age and she is entertaining a marriage proposition from each of two ,illustration3 ,a ,,wild ,,rose4--,nature ,gave us ,this4 ,illustration3 ,,american ,,beauty ,,rose4--,good ,heredity and ,environment ,produced ,this4 young men4 ,she comes to you for your fatherly advice and counsel4 ,you know the records of the two young men4 ,one is rich and rotten1 the son of a corrupt politician4 ,the other young man has good parents1 a clean record1 all the physical1 mental and moral qualities of a real man1 but he is poor4 ,nine times out of ten you would advise your daughter to take the fellow that is rich and rotten4 ,you have good corn sense1 good hog sense1 good cow sense and good horse sense2 but you have mighty poor son-in-law sense40 ,when my audience ceased applauding1 ,i held a book up before them and allowed it to represent a ten-acre field to be planted in corn4 ,i assumed that all parts of the field were to have the same quality and richness of soil1 uniform rain-fall and sunshine1 and the corn to receive uniform cultivation4 ,in this event the corn in all parts of the field would have the same environment4 ,then ,i said to my audience1 8,if there is nothing in heredity and you plant one-half of this field in corn selected from nubbins and the other in corn selected from large1 shapely1 full matured ears1 the side of the field planted in nubbins will produce as fine corn as the other side40 ,if there is nothing in heredity1 and all in environment1 the offspring from the vicious cow will be as docile and as safe as the offspring from the gentle cow2 the offspring from the scrub horse with a six-minute record can be trained to trot as fast as the colt whose parents had a record of a mile in less than two minutes2 and the children of the degenerate class will be as healthy and well developed1 as intellectual and moral as the children of the normal parents4 ,heredity in plant life4--,there is operative in every sprig of grass1 weed1 vegetable1 shrub1 and tree two agencies--heredity and environment4 ,what they are and what they are to be are wholly determined by these two agencies4 ,in the past fifty and seventy-five years we have doubled the size1 variety and quality of our vegetables and fruits4 ,nature gave us the wild rose1 bearing a small bloom with five petals2 nature and man have produced the large1 shapely1 fragrant1 beautiful rose of the yard and garden1 bearing from fifty to one hundred petals to the bloom4 ,nature gave us the knotty wild strawberry2 nature and man have produced the large1 luscious strawberry of the market and table4 ,if our cultivated and highly developed vegetables and fruits had been left to the careless farmer1 or in their wild state1 with their heredity and environment without intelligent control1 a ,keifer pear and an ,alberta peach would not have been produced in a million years4 ,heredity in animal life4--,in the last fifty and one hundred years intelligent man1 through the wise control of heredity and environment1 has produced the ,illustration3 ,a ,,wild ,,strawberry4--,nature ,gave us ,this4 ,illustration3 ,,cultivated ,,strawberry4--,good ,heredity and ,environment ,produced ,this4 popular breeds of fine poultry2 the ,pointer and ,setter dogs2 the ,poland ,china1 ,berkshire and ,duroc hogs2 the ,southdown and ,merino sheep2 the ,durham1 ,jersey and ,holstein cattle2 ,percheron1 ,coach and ,hambletonian horses4 ,nature gave us the long-horned1 crooked-limbed1 brindle-haired wild cow2 nature and man have produced the ,durham4 ,nature gave us the wild horse that could trot at best a mile in six minutes and1 when well broken1 was worth twelve dollars and a half2 nature and man have produced the ,hambletonian that makes a mile in less than two minutes and sells for twenty thousand4 ,nature gave us the razor-backed1 long-snouted1 acorn-splitting ,arkansas hog2 nature and man have produced the beautiful grunter of the barnyard and the performing pig of the circus4 ,the careless breeder or unaided nature could not have produced these results in centuries of time4 ,man proudly claims the honor of making these improvements4 ,he maintains great stock shows and stock journals1 visits foreign countries and pays fabulous prices that he may constantly improve his stock4 ,he secures large appropriations from government revenues with which to prevent the spread of hog cholera among his hogs and ,texas fever among his cattle4 ,so great is man's interest in these improvements that nearly all men take one or more agricultural1 bee1 poultry and stock journals and their wives take poodle dog journals4 ,why this interest8 ,money and pleasure4 ,money and pleasure more valuable than manhood4--,we have seen what man has accomplished among the vegetables1 fruits and domestic animals1 now let us study his wisdom in the application of these agencies in the human family4 ,when we study man in relation to the world about him1 his physical1 mental and moral possibilities1 and from ,revelation1 we get a glimpse of what the human race ought to be4 ,in both sacred and profane history we find some specimens of noble1 ideal manhood4 ,on the farm and in the shop1 behind the counter and at the bar1 in congress and in senate1 on the platform and in the pulpit1 we find some1 who1 by inheritance1 environment1 personal effort and the grace of ,god1 have become examples of ideal manhood4 ,but look at men in the mass4 ,how few examples of perfect manhood do you find in a crowd of ten thousand men8 ,look at the enervated and stunted fathers2 the nervous and sickly mothers2 the puny and weakly children2 the poorly developed bodies and dwarfed minds4 ,why should sixty-seven per cent4 of our children be physically or mentally defective at birth8 ,why should one hundred and sixty-five children out of every thousand born in country places and two hundred and twenty in the cities1 die in their first year8 ,ninety-five per cent4 of the well-cared-for lower animals are perfect at birth and ninety per cent4 grow to old age and are rarely sick4 ,why should crime1 insanity1 feeble-mindedness and epilepsy have increased three hundred per cent4 during the last twenty years8 ,why this remarkable improvement among vegetables1 fruits and domestic animals1 and this appalling degeneracy among men8 ,love of money and pleasure explains the one2 man's fallen condition explains the other4 ,dollars and pleasure in one2 sacrifice1 manhood and womanhood in the other4 ,heredity versus environment4--,if there is nothing in heredity1 and all in the environment1 given the same environment1 the offspring from the vicious horse will be as easily broken and be as safe as the offspring from the docile horse2 the offspring from the horse that can make a mile at best in six minutes can be trained to trot as fast as the offspring whose parents could make a mile in less than two minutes4 ,my contention is that the same intelligence that has produced the beautiful fragrant rose1 the splendid vegetables1 the luscious fruits and our present improved varieties of domestic animals1 can produce similar improvements in the human family4 ,heredity applied by the early ,romans4--,in the early history of ,rome1 custom and law made it a special honor to be a ,roman mother4 ,she was surrounded by examples of courage1 bravery1 strength1 power1 heroism and purity4 ,special homage was shown her on the streets1 at the arena1 and when viewing the marching victorious armies4 ,such treatment and such environment made it possible for the ,roman mother to become a real help in making ,rome the mistress of the world4 ,had this courtesy1 gallantry1 manly attention1 respect and reverence for girlhood1 womanhood1 wifehood and motherhood continued1 ,rome might never have fallen4 ,have we the gallantry1 courtesy1 respect and reverence for womanhood as in former days8 ,a quarter of a century ago it was indeed a rare thing that a man would be so thoughtless as to smoke or swear in the presence of a woman2 now it is a very common occurrence4 ,plato's views4--,plato1 a heathen philosopher1 born more than two thousand years ago1 who never heard of the ,bible or the ,savior1 made a careful study of the laws of heredity1 and for the improvement of men suggested laws that would do honor to our day4 ,in his ,republic he suggested that parentageable married people be prohibited from the use of wine4 ,wine included all alcoholic drinks4 ,he also suggested that the inferior classes should be restricted in marriage and that marriage should be encouraged among the superior classes4 ,under the teaching of ,plato1 ,lycurgus1 in his reign1 assuming that children were more the property of the nation than of their own parents1 sought to have all children well born4 ,in two hundred years that small nation is said to have produced twenty-eight of the master minds of the world4 ,genius is hereditary4--,aristotle's father was a scholar and a philosopher4 ,beecher's father was a scholarly preacher4 ,william ,pitt's father at the age of twenty-seven was at the head of the ,english government4 ,lord ,bacon's father was a great scholar and statesman4 ,darwin was the product of several generations containing a number of geniuses4 ,the ,bach family of musicians in ,germany is a fine example of musical heredity4 ,among them were nineteen musicians of eminence4 ,fifty-seven of their names are found in the ,dictionary of ,music4 ,at family reunions there were counted as many as two hundred and fifty church organists and choir leaders4 ,the genius for music appears to be as easily transmitted as that for art or militarism4 ,there appears to be only a very few exceptions among the great musical geniuses4 ,csar1 ,alexander1 ,wellington and ,hannibal seem to have inherited a genius for war4 ,napoleon ,bonaparte's ,corsican mother1 before his birth1 accompanied her husband to the field of war1 exposing herself to deprivation and danger1 and being elated and thrilled by every victory4 ,when a child1 he showed the military spirit4 ,as a man of eighteen and twenty he was a failure and attempted suicide4 ,when twenty-three he was given a chance to quell a raging mob in ,paris1 and crushed it in his first effort4 ,from that time until ,england chained him he conquered everything before him4 ,from the days of the ,crusades to the war with ,spain we find the ,lees were military leaders4 ,cromwell and ,grant appear to be exceptions to the rule4 ,max ,jukes4--,vice1 as well as virtue1 runs in families4 ,max ,jukes was born in #agjc4 ,both he and his wife were born of inferior parents4 ,he was a drinking man and seemed to delight in breaking law4 ,his wife was a common prostitute4 ,we have identified and studied eleven hundred and three of his descendants4 ,one hundred and twenty-six were thieves and murderers and spent several years in the penal institutions1 ninety female prostitutes1 one hundred and forty-five drunkards2 two hundred and eighty-five were viciously diseased and four hundred had either consumption1 epilepsy1 or were feeble-minded4 ,eleven hundred and three were delinquents--not one a good citizen4 ,they cost ,new ,york a million and a quarter dollars4 ,jonathan ,edwards4--,jonathan ,edwards was born in #agbj4 ,he and his wife had splendid heredity4 ,they were well educated4 ,they were converted to ,christ in childhood4 ,we have identified and studied thirteen hundred and ninety-four of their descendants4 ,we find thirteen university presidents2 one hundred and twenty-three college and university professors2 thirty-two eminent authors2 ninety-six physicians2 over two hundred ministers2 four hundred successful business men2 one vice president2 mayors of large cities1 ,u4 ,s4 senators and congressmen2 ministers to foreign ports2 only one left a stain on the family record--,aaron ,burr who fought a duel with ,alexander ,hamilton4 ,the potency of heredity4--,suppose that the environments of these two families could have been reversed and their heredity left the same1 could you then have written the figures after ,max ,jukes that we have written after ,edwards1 or vice versa8 ,no real student of sociological conditions believes that we could4 ,environment certainly had much to do with both of these families2 but all students of heredity believe that in these families heredity was as great as1 or even a greater factor than1 environment4 ,the dependent and delinquent descendants of ,max ,jukes were the products of bad heredity1 bad environment and the rejection of ,christ2 the great and good descendants of ,edwards were the products of good heredity1 good environment and the grace of ,god4 ,bible and heredity4--,in the ,old and ,new ,testament1 the writers of nearly every book appear to recognize the potency of heredity4 ,we can refer to only a few of them here as proof of the fact of heredity4 ,god told ,sampson's mother that she must drink no strong wine and eat no impure food4 ,david gives a most excellent statement of the results of good heredity3 8,but the mercy of the ,lord is from everlasting to everlasting upon them that fear him and his righteousness unto children's children40 ,the word fear1 as applied in this case1 means perfect obedience prompted by respect1 reverence and love for one in authority4 ,the ,jews1 who could trace their lineal descent to ,abraham1 often boasted of their inherited superiority over other ,jews and people of other nations4 ,paul1 writing to ,timothy1 said1 8,when ,i call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee1 which dwelt first in thy grandmother ,lois1 and thy mother ,eunice10 etc4 ,in this statement ,paul accounts1 in part at least1 for the strong faith and beautiful ,christian character of ,timothy1 on the basis of heredity4 ,david explains the sins of his life as being due1 in part at least1 to a bad heredity4 8,i was shapen in sin and in iniquity did my mother conceive me40 ,iniquities of fathers visited upon their children4--,in ,exodus #bj3e1 we find a most remarkable statement of the hereditary results of obedience to law and of disobedience4 8,i1 the ,lord thy ,god1 am a jealous ,illustration3 ,,results ,,of 8,,personal ,,liberty40--,the young man whose picture appears on this page was studied by the author4 ,his sister who died at the age of five months was afflicted like himself4 ,the initial of their lives occurred during the drunken debauch of their father4 ,illustration3 ,,protected4--,the above illustration of highly bred1 highly trained and highly protected animals1 showing a cow valued at #ac1jjj1 hogs valued at over #d1jjj each and a horse at #e1jjj1 serves as a striking contrast to the illustration on the opposite page4 ,god1 visiting the iniquities of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generations of them that hate me1 and showing mercy to thousands of them that love me and keep my commandments40 ,this is a much misunderstood passage4 ,god does not arbitrarily choose to force a punishment upon an innocent child whose father ignorantly or viciously violated law any more than he breaks the leg or neck of a man who accidentally or with suicidal intent falls from the top of a building4 ,god has wisely placed all men under a variety of laws4 ,the laws are all planned for man's good4 ,if we keep all law1 we develop manhood and womanhood4 ,by the agency of heredity we transmit to our children the possibility of manhood and womanhood superior to that which we inherited4 ,if we constantly violate law1 we acquire physical1 mental and moral degeneracy and transmit to our posterity defective conditions4 ,in this way ,god has planned for each succeeding generation to become superior to the preceding one4 ,the statement is made that the iniquities of fathers are visited upon their children unto the third and fourth generations1 and that 8righteousness0 is shown unto 8thousands of them0 7generations74 ,why did ,god limit his first statement to the third and fourth generation8 ,because there is no fifth generation of continuous and unbroken iniquity4 ,here are two modern proofs of the truthfulness of this ancient text4 ,a modern proof4--,two thousand erring girls were interrogated with reference to the sobriety of their parents4 ,seventy per cent4 had either drunken fathers or drunken mothers1 or both4 ,in one state penitentiary the author found seventy-two per cent4 of the inmates had either drunken fathers or drunken mothers1 or both4 ,recent investigations in one of the state reformatories for women show eighty-five per cent1 had either drunken fathers or mothers1 or both4 ,twenty-two per cent4 of the feeble-minded1 the insane and the epileptic had the initials of their lives to take place during a drunken debauch4 ,here is a husband and wife2 both are habitually under the influence of alcohol4 ,suppose their children follow their example and marry companions addicted to strong drink1 and the children of the next generation follow the example of their parents and marry companions addicted to strong drink1 and this is continued1 what will be the result8 ,there will be no fifth generation4 ,in the first generation might have been found a daughter in the house of shame1 a son in the chain gang of crime1 a feeble-minded child1 an epileptic1 or one or more alcoholics4 ,as a result of four generations of consecutive drunkenness1 degeneracy would become so great as to result in complete sterility4 ,another proof4--,in every institution for the feeble-minded are to be found inmates who have the 8,hotchinson notched teeth10 8crowfoot tracts0 in the palate and throat1 certain marks on the body--scientific proofs that such are congenital syphilitics4 ,some ancestor1 two or three generations gone by1 lived an immoral life1 became infected with a vicious disease and transmitted the degenerative influences down the line to where it ended in complete degeneracy4 ,who is responsible8--,is this a punishment from ,god upon innocent1 helpless children8 ,no4 ,god is in no sense responsible for it4 ,is nature8 ,no4 ,who is responsible8 ,men who sow their wild oats and boast of their 8personal liberty0 to do as they please4 ,have ,god and nature any part in this8 ,yes4 ,god and nature in infinite interest1 mercy and love for the unborn millions who would be blighted with inconceivable degeneracy and suffering1 should they be born of such degenerate parents1 say1 8,we have given these descendants four generations in which to prevent further degeneracy by marrying into pure and sober families1 by reformation or by redemption10 and since they have not availed themselves of these restorative and redemptive means1 reproduction must cease4 ,morbid heredity and bad environment4--,bad environment and bad heredity explain the presence of every convict in our penal institutions and every inmate in the asylums4 ,laws and political administration that tolerate1 regulate and encourage strong drink and social immorality1 the two chief causes of degeneracy1 and the parents who indulged in these iniquities1 are largely responsible for these thousands of defective and delinquent beings who are crowding our asylums and penal institutions to a dangerous and unsanitary overflowing4 ,father1 son and grand-son1 uncles and cousins galore crowd these institutions4 ,much of their mail is from relatives and bears the postmark of a similar institution1 showing that crime and insanity run in families4 ,man's development originally under two agencies4--,it is evident that ,god originally placed man's development under the intelligent control of heredity and environment4 ,if man had as wisely applied these agencies to his own improvement as he now does to the improvement of the vegetable and animal kingdoms1 he would have developed to the highest possible physical1 mental and moral attainments4 ,his fall4--,man's present condition of hereditary and acquired degeneracy clearly reveals that somewhere in human history he has thrown himself out of harmony with physical1 mental and moral laws governing his well-being4 ,the record of man's fall as given in ,genesis is at least the figure of a great fact in human history4 ,man's fall involved the violation of some law or laws vitally related to his physical1 mental and moral natures4 ,need of a third agency4--,the results of his fall were transmissible4 ,in his fallen state he was not able to use heredity and environment to their normal capacity4 ,his fall resulted in abnormal heredity and environment4 ,without an additional agency fallen man was incapable of recovery4 ,hence his need of redemption and the ,redeemer4 ,now man has at his command his intelligence1 his will and the grace of ,god1 by which he may improve himself1 improve his environment1 and as a result of his improved physical1 mental and moral condition1 he may transmit to his posterity the possibilities of manhood and womanhood superior to what he himself inherited4 ,just to the extent that man has received a good or a bad heredity1 keeps or violates law1 accepts or rejects the grace of ,god1 just to that extent does he recover or degenerate1 create a good or a bad environment1 and will transmit a good or a bad heredity to his posterity4 ,greatest blessing of parents4--,what is the greatest blessing of parentage8 8,riches10 is the answer4 ,lots of fools think that4 ,the greatest blessing of parents to their children is a good heredity4 ,what a child is at birth he has received largely from his parents4 ,what he receives at birth largely determines his future4 ,greatest blessing of society4--,what is the greatest blessing of society to a child8 ,it is a good environment4 ,parents can form only a part of their child's environment4 ,society as a whole furnishes the environment of a child4 ,no individual1 no class of men1 no lawmaker1 no municipality1 county1 state or nation has the shadow of a moral right to place by vote or official act1 or permit by passive toleration a lascivious picture1 a vile book1 a questionable resort1 a place of vice1 a saloon or a gambling den that may lead a boy or girl to ruin4 ,whoever assumes that right is an enemy to the social and moral well-being of society4 ,god's greatest gift to men is salvation through ,his ,son4 ,bad heredity and environment are the only difficulties in the way of all men's accepting ,christ4 ,the complete effects of any one or two of these agencies are impossible without the normal application of the other4 ,no one can wholly take the place of the other two1 and no two can wholly take the place of the other one4 ,these three agencies should be ever active in every life4 ,three agencies necessary4--,you might as well try to make a triangle out of two sides as to try to produce physical1 mental and moral perfection in man by the use of environment and the grace of ,god1 when the individual has inherited little or no physical1 mental and moral basis for development4 ,if a child has received ideal heredity1 but is left without educational opportunities and compelled to grow up in an immoral atmosphere1 never entering a ,sunday school or church1 it would be impossible for him to develop scholarship or ,christian character4 ,if one has good heredity and good environment and leaves the grace of ,god out of his life1 he is not what a man should be and will fall short of the true object of life4 ,is there a remedy8--,if man's present degeneracy had its origin in the violation of law2 if the evil physical1 mental and moral effects have1 in some measure1 been transmitted from one generation to succeeding ones1 until all men are more or less hereditarily degenerate2 is there a remedy1 or are we the subjects of fate8 ,must each succeeding generation continue to inherit a possible increase of degeneracy as we have done in the past8 ,relation of the three agencies4--,nature and man create environment4 ,the tendency of nature is to furnish only good environment for man4 ,man has it in his power to help or to hinder nature4 ,the more depraved man is the more he hinders nature and produces for himself and others a bad environment4 ,if hereditary degeneracy could be eliminated from the race1 there would be no immoral environment4 ,bad environment is produced by degenerate men4 ,degeneracy is both inherited and acquired4 ,inherited degeneracy indulged1 and acquired degeneracy are both transmissible4 ,if it were possible1 under present conditions1 for one never to violate a law as a result of ,god's grace and his own volition he could not directly and personally transmit tendencies towards evil1 and he would transmit his inherited tendencies towards evil in a less degree than he inherited them4 ,even with ideal heredity1 environment and the grace of ,god1 one or more generations could not entirely overcome the bad effects of all preceding generations4 ,the need of ,christ4--,each individual is the sum total of all the influences1 good and bad1 of all preceding lineal generations4 ,the inherited good and bad antagonize each other and are modified by environment and the grace of ,god4 ,if the good predominates1 the bent of that individual will be toward the good1 and vice versa4 ,his approach to perfection will be determined by his heredity1 his environment and by his relation to ,christ4 ,since all men always will be the sum total of all the influences of the past1 they will always need the ,christ4 ,there will always be enough temptations in the world to develop the heroic in man4 ,the race can be improved4--,but it is reasonable that through the ideal application of these three agencies one generation can to a very marked degree overcome the evil effects of the past and transmit less degeneracy than it received4 ,if each individual would embrace the grace of ,god1 create for himself and others an ideal environment1 this process continued would ultimately give us a race free from the present serious condition of physical1 mental and moral degeneracy4 ,if this conclusion is not practical1 logical and correct1 then science and revelation fail to give us a remedy for present race degeneracy4 ,if this is the correct solution of our physical1 mental1 social and moral problems1 all education1 legislation1 religious and personal efforts to bring about race regeneration will continue to fail until the three-fold scientific and scriptural gospel of good heredity1 good environment and the grace of ,god for every child1 finds its proper place in all our personal efforts1 teaching1 administration1 legislation1 and preaching4 ,,chapter ,,xliv ,,heredity ,,and ,,reproduction ,life is real4--,what is life8 ,many theories have been offered by the leading materialistic students of the past and present1 but all have signally failed to tell us what life is in its ultimate essence4 ,all attempts to discover life by aid of the scalpel1 microscope and chemical analysis have likewise failed4 ,this class of scientists has made several attempts to explain life as being the phenomena of matter undergoing certain peculiar chemical changes1 or due to molecular motion4 ,they have failed to recognize two great realms of existence1 the material and the immaterial1 the visible and the invisible1 the tangible and the intangible4 ,life1 physical1 mental and spiritual1 though invisible and immaterial1 is none the less real in its essence4 ,the materialists have tried hard to explain reproduction and heredity on a physical basis4 ,by this method they have failed to explain many of the most common facts4 ,the germ cell4--,the difference between the germ cells of the lower animals and man is not in their structure1 or their chemical elements1 but in their inherent life4 ,here are three germ cells4 ,as fast as the scientist is capable of analyzing them they may be absolutely identical in their physical anatomy1 yet one may contain the life of a rabbit1 another the life of a dog1 and still another the soul of a man4 ,the physical anatomy does not determine whether the offspring is to be a rabbit1 a dog1 or a human being4 ,it is the resident life that determines this4 ,physical organs are the mediums through which life reproduces itself4 ,the heredity of the offspring is determined by the many influences brought to bear upon it before birth and upon the lives of the ancestors4 ,masculine and feminine principal4--,the organic world is pregnant with two primary and vital principles1 the masculine and the feminine4 ,every plant1 lower animal1 and man is reproduced by the union of these principles4 ,in the lower forms of plant and animal life these two principles reside in the same organism4 ,reproduction takes place within the parent organism by the union of these two natures4 ,the parent organism divides and becomes two distinct organisms4 ,this is reproduction by division4 ,reproduction in the lower forms of life4--,in the next higher forms of plant and animal life these two principles reside in the same individuals1 but in separate organs4 ,these organs possessing the female nature produce seeds or eggs4 ,the organs possessing the male nature produce a fertilizing substance called pollen or semen4 ,reproduction takes place by the fusion of the male and female cells4 ,in the higher animals and man these principles reside in separate individuals4 ,in some mysterious way the procreative cells have residing within themselves1 in rudimentary form1 all the attributes of the parents4 ,sex is in the life principle4--,once sex was considered a part of the physical organism4 ,now we are beginning to see that sex is vitally and substantially related to life4 ,when a little plant comes into the world it is because the masculine and feminine sex principles have united on the plane of physical life4 ,like begets like4 ,the baby plant did not possess animal life1 intellectual life1 or moral life for the reason that the parent plant could not transmit a form of life it did not possess in its masculine and feminine nature4 ,when the little animal comes into this world it is because the masculine and feminine principles have united on the plane of instinctive animal life and1 among the higher classes of animals1 rudimentary mental life4 ,reproduction man4--,man is organized on higher planes than the rest of the organic world4 ,man possesses not only the highest form of physical life1 but also mental and spiritual life4 ,sex in man is primarily and substantially related to his physical1 mental and spiritual life4 ,the sperm cell of the father is formed from his blood and possesses the essence of his three-fold nature4 ,the germ cell of the mother is formed from her blood and possesses the essence of her three-fold nature4 ,when these two cells1 masculine and feminine1 unite under proper conditions1 a human being having a physical1 mental and moral nature1 is started upon its endless voyage1 nine months before it makes its visible appearance in the world4 ,when ,god made the body of primitive man ,he 8breathed into him the breath of life 7,hebrew lives7 and man became a living soul10 having power of self-propagation and the power to transmit potential procreative power from one generation to another4 ,man's relation to the past4--,each new being at the initial of life is the sum total of all the influences1 good and bad1 of his ancestry back to ,adam4 ,the child is largely the product of his parents4 ,he is not a duplicate of either1 but the product of their blended personalities1 being influenced much by his grand-parents1 less and less as his ancestry becomes more and more remote4 ,during embryonic and fetal development the child will tend to unfold in all departments of its nature according to the pattern received from its ancestors1 but this may be more or less influenced by maternal impressions4 ,after birth the child has two agents that will ever be active1 heredity and environment4 ,these two agents at their best are never perfect4 ,hence the child will ever need a third agent1 the grace of ,god4 ,why children in the same home differ4--,here is a family of five children4 ,they differ from each other quite as much as if they represented five families4 ,now1 if heredity does not explain this difference1 then the children1 having the same environment1 would be alike4 ,the children in the same home differ from each other for the reason that the parents1 at the creative moment1 did not sustain to each child the same combination of physical1 mental and moral relations4 ,at the creative moment of the second child the parents were not in the same physical1 mental and moral states they were at the creative moment of the first4 ,they had each changed in their physical states of health1 their mental interests and in their moral and religious convictions and experiences4 ,for the same reason each child differs from all the others in the family4 ,though they had the same environments1 no two were alike4 ,so great is the influence of heredity that no two people can be made alike by giving to them the same environment4 ,twins4--,if two persons could receive the same heredity and environment1 they would be exactly alike4 ,the nearest approach we have to this is in the case of twins4 ,nearly one-half of twins are so much alike ,illustration3 ,,louise ,,and ,,may ,,carter1 ,,twins4 that it is difficult to tell them apart4 ,other twins resemble each other more than children in the same home born months apart4 ,why some are alike and others are not4--,if the creative moment of twins were the same1 or nearly the same1 the parents sustained to each the same combination of influences4 ,if their creative moments occurred hours or even days apart1 then there was time for one or both parents to sustain a different relation to one1 from that they sustained to the other4 ,this accounts for the difference between some twins4 ,not only do twins resemble each other physically1 but often their mental and moral tastes and tendencies are very much alike4 ,twin brothers4--,i once met twin brothers sixty-seven years old4 ,they had been lost to each other for fourteen years4 ,they still resembled each other1 dressed alike1 wore their beards and hair alike1 talked and laughed alike4 ,sixty-seven years had not greatly modified their physical and mental resemblance4 ,twin children usually inherit similar perfections or imperfections4 ,this ,i have noticed for a number of years4 ,where ,i am now writing is a club-footed1 rheumatic boy4 ,his twin brother is feeble-minded4 ,in an adjoining state a few days ago ,i studied a young man who was helpless from his arms down4 ,his twin sister was helpless at birth and died in childhood4 ,these examples indicate that the before-birth influences being the same1 were the causes of these defects in the offspring4 ,an objection answered4--,a man said to me1 8,i don't believe in heredity40 ,i asked him why he did not4 ,he replied1 8,i know of a drunken father who had four sons2 two were dissipated from their youth and two were #8teetotalers4' ,if the father had had anything to do with this1 all would have been drunkards40 ,my reply was1 8,the father through the laws of heredity may have transmitted to two of his boys tendencies toward drunkenness and to the other two1 tendencies toward sobriety4 ,in the case of the first two1 the father might have1 in his mental and moral natures1 favored intemperance1 longed for alcohol1 or been on a drunken debauch at the initial of their lives4 ,with reference to the last two1 the father might have temporarily reformed1 mentally and morally1 he might have been strongly opposed to the use of strong drink at the initial of their lives4 8,again the mother might have had very light convictions on temperance prior to the birth of the first two and very strong mental and moral opposition prior to the birth of the last two4 ,again something in the form of environment may have led the last two to overcome their inherited tendencies toward drink40 ,materialistic theory fails4--,materialistic philosophers admit that heredity tends to reproduce the likeness of the parents in the child4 ,they try to explain this on a purely physical basis4 ,prof4 ,huxley1 ,mr4 ,spencer and the more modern ,weismann1 while they have each coined some new technical terms with which to convey their materialistic ideas1 suppose that each procreative cell1 masculine and feminine1 contains a representative material something from every atom of the respective body from which it was formed4 ,in this way the child has a body with marked resemblance to its parents4 ,since1 according to their theory1 all mental and moral phenomena are due to chemical changes and molecular disturbances in the brain1 and since the child inherited a brain like its parents1 the molecular movements of the child's brain will be like the molecular movements in the brains of its parents2 hence it will have inherited the mental and moral characteristics of the father and mother4 ,life is a unit4--,it takes only a few days for the procreative cells to be elaborated and matured4 ,here is a child4 ,the initial of its life occurred twenty years after its parents had their right arms amputated4 ,how could the procreative cells that formed the initial of that child's life have in them a material representation from the right arms of those parents that had been amputated twenty years before the birth of the child8 ,suppose that the parents had undergone a much larger mutilation of the body1 leaving them only the organs necessary to continued life and propagation1 would the child have inherited the absent parts8 ,yes4 ,why8 ,for the reason that sex is in the life of the individual1 and not simply in the material substance of the body4 ,a human body may have had some of the members removed but the physical life remains a unit4 ,the embryo formed by the union of a masculine and a feminine cell will have a unit of physical life4 ,during the nine months of gestation this unit of embryonic physical life will be incarnated in a unit of physical organism4 ,should a lobe of the brain of each parent1 through which some mental or moral attribute functions1 be removed1 the child would inherit a unit of brain organism1 for the reason that it inherited from the parents a unit of mental and moral life4 ,sex a resident part of life4--,these illustrations show that sex is vitally related to the physical1 mental and moral life2 that the physical nature of the child is the product of the union of the masculine and feminine principles of the physical life of the parents represented in the procreative cells2 that the mental nature of the child is the product of the union of the masculine and feminine principles of the mental life of the parents represented in the procreative cells2 that the spiritual nature of the child is the product of the union of the masculine and feminine principles of the spiritual life of the parents represented in the procreative cells4 ,the three-fold life of a child is the product of the blending of the three-fold life of its parents4 ,heredity explained4--,the ,bible tells us that 8the blood is the life40 ,science cannot express this truth better4 ,the three-fold expressions of life are not in the blood4 ,the blood furnishes life for every cell4 ,physical1 mental and moral states are influenced by the conditions of the blood4 ,these three natures meet and influence each other in the blood4 ,jesus appealed to the will of the patient4 8,wilt thou be made whole80 8,arise1 take up thy bed and walk40 8,stretch forth thy hand40 ,jesus recognized the influence of the mind1 expressed in will1 as well as the spiritual expressed in faith1 as a means of physical restoration4 ,every successful doctor1 whatever may be his medical views1 recognizes the value of a strong purpose to recover4 ,effects of different mental states4--,men and animals alike lick a fresh wound4 ,nature teaches them that the saliva alleviates pain and heals the wound4 ,if an angry person bites you1 or you lick a wound after an hour of intense anger1 you have a wound with all the symptoms of poison and it will be difficult to cure4 ,hundreds of cases are on record where angry mothers nursing their babies have thereby thrown them into convulsions or spasms4 ,jealousy will result in digestive disturbances4 ,one can grieve so much over the loss of property or some member of the home by death as to injure the health4 ,it is claimed that a great chemist took the various secretions from a subject that had been intensely angry for hours and succeeded in removing from the various secretions more than a score of poisons4 ,in the case of another subject swayed by holy impulses1 the kindest of feelings1 the purest of love1 he removed more than a score of wholesome1 nutritious ingredients without a single poison4 ,mental and moral states influence the offspring4--,if right mental and moral states will give to the saliva1 secreted from the blood1 curative properties2 and wrong mental and moral states will give the saliva a poisonous nature2 if right mental and moral states influence the milk secreted by the breasts of a mother in a normal way2 and wrong mental and moral states will so influence the mother's blood as to throw her four-months-old nursing babe into spasms1 cannot the father's mental and moral states influence the creative secretions from his blood1 and the mother's mental and moral states1 at the creative moment and during the nine months of embryonic and fetal development1 influence the creative and life sustaining and life-developing secretions from her blood8 ,who was to blame8--,i once met a family during one of my lecture courses and was entertained in the home over night4 ,their children1 five in number1 all during my lecture picked at each other1 scratched each other1 fought each other1 fussed1 quarreled and cried4 ,as we rode in the carriage to their home and during our visit those youngsters kept up this same line of entertainment4 ,after ,i had retired the man stepped into my room and whispered to me that he and his wife were in great trouble1 that they had been at the point of separation for ten years and asked me to teach them how to live happily together1 and to be less miserable4 ,i asked him to tell me the cause of their inharmony4 8,oh1 there is but one trouble between wife and me60 ,he spoke as if that were quite insignificant4 ,finally he told me that the trouble in the home was1 8neither of us can control our tempers40 ,as he left my room ,i realized that for once in life ,i had a government contract on my hands4 ,then ,i mused3 8,ten years of quarreling1 ten years of disagreement1 ten years of family feuds and family strife and these parents have transmitted more of bad disposition to their children than the children will be able to conquer in a lifetime1 or these parents will be able to whip out of them before they are of age1 chasing them around over a three-hundred-acre farm40 ,continuing my meditation ,i thought3 8,if ,i had the power to make laws1 ,i would make a law of mercy for such unfortunate children as these4 ,that law would provide that where parents transmit as much unnecessary devilment to their children as these parents have to theirs1 that the children should have the legal right to whip their daddies and mammies40 ,the child not an exact duplicate of either parent4--,these parents had produced their mental and moral states in their children4 ,these illustrations will help you to understand the philosophy of heredity4 ,the two cells that unite to form the initial of every new life are elaborated from the blood of their respective parents and each cell has the physical1 mental and moral natures of its parents in potential form4 ,were it possible for a child to inherit its size1 form1 features1 disposition1 tendencies1 etc41 from only one of its parents1 and to grow to maturity uninfluenced by environment and education1 it would necessarily be an exact duplicate of that parent4 ,because of its dual parentage1 the maternal impressions received before birth1 and the ever varying influences of environment and education1 the child will be unlike any other person that ever lived4 ,the child resembles both4--,these cells often remain in the bodies of the respective parents for several days before the initial of a life takes place4 ,it follows that the mental and moral states1 as well as the physical condition of the parents1 for many days before conception takes place1 will influence the child4 ,there is no doubt but the remote conditions of the parents are transmitted1 but not so certainly and so fully as the existing1 or recently existing1 states of the parents4 ,at the initial moment the three natures of each of the parents will be greatly modified in the union of the cells4 ,if the separate natures of the parents did not blend in the child1 the child would have two mental natures1 two moral natures and two physical natures4 ,the modification of the inherited tendencies from each parent will depend largely upon the relative strength of these natures in the parents4 ,hence1 where the same characteristic exists in each parent it will appear in the child in a reduced1 duplicated or exaggerated form4 ,prenatal opportunities4--,during prenatal life1 the forming child in the mother's body is supplied with its physical1 mental and moral building material from the mother's blood4 ,during the first twelve months of its postnatal life1 or the period of lactation1 the mother's blood1 environment and education are the child's sources of physical development4 ,during these periods the child is almost wholly pliable in the hands of its physical sculptors and mental and moral teachers4 ,the prenatal existence of a child affords the parents their greatest opportunity to train the child1 8in the way it should go40 ,mother's advantage4--,from these facts we see that the mother has the advantage of the father in influencing the forming body1 the plastic brain and the sensitive soul of the child4 ,owing to the double standard of morals it is certainly a blessing to the world that this is true4 ,whatever is undesirable in the father1 especially in his moral life1 in a measure may be overcome by the mother4 ,the story of ,abraham's two sons1 ,isaac1 the true son1 and ,ishmael1 the son of the bond woman1 is a familiar illustration of this truth4 ,isaac became a good man2 ,ishmael became a bad man1 the founder of the ,ishmaelites1 8whose hand was against every man40 ,do you recall to memory a mother fallen in character8 ,what has become of her children8 ,daughters fallen and sons worthless1 often without an exception4 ,suppose women all lived as men do1 what would be the effect on the coming generation8 ,suppose men and women were alike temperate1 honest1 truthful and pure1 our civilization would be as much superior to the present as the present civilization is superior to heathenism4 ,the mother's larger hereditary influence proven4--,do you recall a drunken mother8 ,how about the children8 ,dissipated and delinquent4 ,a young lawyer1 gifted1 conceited1 ambitious and eager for position and power had1 according to his views1 but one thing in his way to the goal of success--money4 ,after thinking over the surest and best methods of getting money he decided to marry it4 ,his first opportunity was a wealthy feeble-minded heiress4 ,he married her4 ,to their marriage five children were born4 ,three were positively mentally weak4 ,the other two were noticeably so4 ,of these two1 the first was a natural thief and the other a natural liar4 ,only one child resembled the young lawyer1 the last one4 ,when training should begin4--,it was a saying of a ,yale president that 8a child's training should begin with its grandparents40 ,another has said1 8,a child's training should begin one hundred years before it is born40 ,there is more truth in those quaint sayings than many are willing to accept4 ,most parents give their children no premeditated and intelligent prenatal training1 and many think that when the child has become accountable is soon enough for its training to begin4 ,children products of blind chance4--,there is an idea among many that every child comes straight from ,god and made to ,his order1 and that parents are obediently to receive them when ,god sends them4 ,let the child be beautiful or homely1 blonde or brunette1 girl or boy1 strong or feeble-minded1 good or bad1 no matter1 ,god gave the child4 ,some think these things are all accidents1 fortunes or misfortunes1 or they belong to 8the unknowable40 ,there are no accidents4 ,every effect has its cause4 ,nothing comes by chance alone4 ,unalterable and invariable law governs everything4 ,the law of heredity is as unerring as the law of gravitation4 ,our ignorance of the law does not prevent its operation4 ,robbed of their birthright4--,the great mass of people are not well-born4 ,aside from the degenerate criminal and the feeble-minded1 universally recognized products of heredity1 most people are below what nature would teach us they should be4 ,they were born with mediocre capacities for business success and intellectual attainment4 ,give them the earliest and best advantages and training that this country affords and marked improvements will be made by them1 but they will not make great men in any line of life work1 for the simple reason that they cannot4 ,it takes some natural capacity for the highest success4 ,occasionally a child of unusual gifts is born of parents much below the average4 ,the parents and their friends are likely to believe the gift to be a special divine bestowment4 ,but1 if the child's prenatal history could be fully known this would be accounted for on the basis of hereditary law4 ,the unscientific farmer may occasionally raise a fine ear of corn or a very large crop of potatoes4 ,but the intelligent1 scientific farmer raises only the best4 ,sowing wild oats4--,if girls were addicted to loafing on the streets1 swearing and telling vulgar stories1 smoking and drinking1 gambling and going to questionable places1 we should not consider this good training for wifehood and motherhood4 ,no intelligent man would choose such a girl to be the wife of his bosom1 the queen of his home1 the mother of his children4 ,he is an ardent believer in the training of girls before marriage for wifehood and motherhood4 ,boys who engage in any of these sins are as much unfitting themselves for parentage as girls would be4 8,oh1 but a reformed rake makes the best husband40 ,if he makes the shadow of one1 it will be a miracle of grace that he does it4 ,no 8rake0 can in his own strength make a good father4 ,if by ,god's help he makes a good husband and father1 this will be done in spite of his former life1 and1 not because he had been a 8rake40 ,sowing wild oats in youth does not make it easier to be good in after life1 but more difficult4 ,boys and young men should live with a view to husbandhood and fatherhood4 ,immature parents4--,experienced stock raisers will not breed inferior or immature stock4 ,if one or both animals to be used for breeding purposes be young1 immature1 the offspring will be inferior4 ,all leading physiologists place man's maturity at about twenty-four and a woman's at about twenty4 ,if continence in thought and life controlled our social relations1 it would be best for the human family if marriage did not take place until maturity4 ,under existing social conditions1 sexual dissipation1 and its dangers1 it is perhaps best1 in some cases1 that they marry a few years younger4 ,but for fifteen-and sixteen-year-old girls and nineteen-and twenty-year-old boys to marry is a decided physiological and psychological mistake4 ,children can no more parent normal children than can pigs1 colts1 and kids parent normal young4 ,a great sociologist says that four to six per cent4 more children whose mothers married at sixteen will die in their first year than among children whose mothers married at twenty2 and that six to ten per cent4 more children whose fathers married at twenty will die in their first year than among children whose fathers married at twenty-four4 ,an ideal family4--,at the close of a lecture on heredity in a college town1 a gentleman invited me to take dinner at his home the next day4 ,i accepted his invitation4 ,from eleven o'clock to twelve he and ,i sat in front of his little cottage home chatting pleasantly4 ,when the college bell announced the noon hour1 he turned and said1 8,when my two boys and my girl return home for dinner ,i want you to study them as examples of intelligently applied laws of parental preparation1 prenatal training1 good environment and the ,grace of ,god40 ,a few minutes later my attention was called to the rattling of the gate4 ,turning1 ,i beheld two fine specimens of physical manhood and an equally fine specimen of physical womanhood4 ,on closer acquaintance ,i found they were leaders in all their classes1 leaders in the best circles of society and leaders in church work4 ,dinner over1 the young people returned to college2 dishes were cleared away1 and father1 mother and ,i sat in front of that same cottage home2 the conversation naturally drifted to heredity and to the young people4 ,the father humbly but proudly said1 8,professor1 if wife and ,i should sell all we have1 including our wardrobe1 we could not raise #a1ejj4 ,we have never been ambitious for broad acres of land1 a palatial home or heavy deposits in the bank4 ,we have had just one all-controlling purpose in our married life1 and that has been to give to the world a family of children who will honor us after we are dead1 be a blessing to the world and glorify ,god40 ,my reply was1 8,you have certainly erected to your memory three splendid monuments1 monuments far grander than if you had worn out your muscle and brains in the production of sordid silver and gold and had left to your children a round million1 and they1 out of their gratitude1 had erected to your memory a marble shaft piercing the very sky40 ,i said it then1 ,i have repeated it many times since1 8,i wish ,i had the money to pay the transportation and hotel bills of this family on my lecture trips and at the close of a lecture on heredity1 could call this family to the platform as a living example of intelligently applied principles of eugenics40 ,if the initial moment of every child born into this world were intelligently planned for1 its prenatal rights respected1 its advent warmly welcomed1 its environments wisely chosen and it were early led to accept ,christ1 every family would be equal to this family1 and the next generation much superior to this4 ,will you1 gentle reader1 model your ideals after this home1 teach these truths to others1 and teach them to teach these truths to still others8 ,if you will1 then you will have done your part towards the world's redemption4 ,,chapter ,,xlv ,,choosing ,a ,,companion ,indications of constitutional degeneracy4--,feeble-mindedness1 epilepsy1 insanity1 scrofula1 cancer1 rheumatism and gout are the outward indications of constitutional degeneracy and inherited tendencies which are often transmitted from one generation to another of a deteriorating family4 ,these conditions in nearly every instance were due either to strong drink or to sexual sin4 ,in most cases consumption may be added to the above list4 ,choosing a degenerate companion4--,if you and your family have a clear record of physical1 mental and moral health1 you can form habits of vice or marry into a family addicted to vice or into a family constitutionally degenerate and hand down to your posterity hereditary conditions and tendencies4 ,a clear bill of health to your children4--,if you and your family have a bad record of health1 you can1 by a virtuous and temperate life1 strict observance of the laws of health1 and an intelligent choice of a companion1 largely overcome the effects of bad heredity and environment in yourself and transmit a clean bill of health to your children4 ,neurotics4--,don't marry into a neurotic family4 ,your partner might become insane and your children be afflicted4 ,drunkards4--,don't marry into a family where there are several drunkards and don't marry a person addicted to strong drink4 ,remember that you are choosing the father or the mother of your children2 and that choice is final4 ,if children could choose their parents1 they would hesitate before making such a choice4 ,consumptives4--,if you are suffering from any form of tubercular disease1 you should not marry4 ,neither should you marry one having consumption1 nor into a family where consumption is common4 ,it is possible to overcome all tendencies to consumption and to effect a cure in the earliest stages4 ,consumption and cancer4--,for a person having consumption to marry into a home where cancer is common would be a combination fraught with great danger to the offspring4 ,the children would be handicapped from birth with frail bodies1 liable to similar diseases1 and most of them would die during adolescence1 or before4 ,the worst results follow where both companions have inherited the same disease4 ,a low vitality4--,a parent cannot transmit to the child what he does not possess himself4 ,children of immoral parents1 invalid parents1 feeble-minded parents1 sexually exhausted parents will necessarily inherit impoverished vitality4 ,the immature4--,in all countries where immature marriages are tolerated or encouraged the children are small1 wretched1 unhealthy and shortlived4 ,this was observed in the days of ,greece1 in past generations in ,france1 to-day in ,india and may be observed wherever encouraged in our country4 ,from four to ten per cent1 more children born of immature parents will die in the first year than among children of matured parents4 ,idiocy and physical imperfections2 a lack of energy and courage will be quite common among them4 ,as a rule girls mature at twenty and boys at twenty-four4 ,marriage earlier than these ages should be considered immature4 ,difference as to age4--,the young man1 as a rule1 should be four to six years older than his bride4 ,unless a man's strength and vigor are exceptionally well maintained1 he should not become a father after he is fifty4 ,sociologists claim that a larger per cent4 of the children born after their fathers were fifty become sexual offenders1 dishonest and criminals than among children whose fathers were younger4 ,criminals4--,don't marry into a family where there is a number of criminals4 ,where crime is common in a family you will find many of the outward signs of constitutional degeneracy mentioned in the first paragraph of this chapter4 ,frequency of crime in a family indicates deterioration4 ,wealth should have no influence4--,the choice of a companion should not be influenced by money interests1 base desires1 or any other unworthy motive4 ,if one's choice is influenced in one of these ways domestic harmony and well-born children will not be possible4 ,masculine women and feminine men4--,don't marry an effeminate man4 ,don't marry a masculine woman4 ,the masculine should predominate in man4 ,the feminine should predominate in woman4 ,where the feminine nature predominates in the wife and the masculine nature in the husband soul-union will be possible1 domestic harmony will prevail and the children will be well-born4 ,marriage of cousins4--,don't marry into a family where first and second cousins have married for several generations4 ,this custom gradually leads to constitutional degeneracy4 ,should first cousins marry where there have been no previous intermarriages1 no serious defects will likely be transmitted to the children4 ,value of chastity4--,true marriage is based on genuine1 pure love and the harmonious mental and temperamental adaptation4 ,true love between the sexes is the child of the sex life4 ,when lascivious thinking and habits change sexuality into sensuality lust becomes a substitute for love4 ,if the real cause of divorce were known it would be found in most cases to be due to the dissipation of the vital energy1 which is the basis of love4 ,in nearly every case man is responsible for his home's being wrecked4 ,in the choice of a companion1 chastity is of vital importance4 ,temperaments4--,authorities recognize three distinct temperaments3 the motive1 the vital and the nervous or mental4 ,where the motive organs1 the muscles and bones1 predominate1 the physical powers will be most prominent4 ,where the vital organs1 indicated by a heavy-set body and a full chest1 predominate1 the manifestations of life will be most prominent4 ,where the nervous system predominates1 the mental powers will be most prominent4 ,motive temperament4--,the motive temperament is indicated by bones broad and large2 muscles slim1 firm and tough2 the individual is tall1 angular1 brow prominent1 cheek-bones high1 shoulders broad1 chest full1 eyes and hair usually dark4 ,such persons are usually very pronounced in their views2 firm1 ambitious1 stern and severe4 ,two persons having very pronounced motive temperaments should not marry4 ,there would be two bosses in the home and the children would be willful and unsociable4 ,nervous temperament4--,the nervous temperament is indicated by sharp features1 light frame1 head rather large1 face oval1 forehead high1 eyes expressive1 movements quick1 neck slender and feelings usually intense4 ,should parties of this temperament marry disagreements would be frequent and the children would be delicate1 weak and over precocious4 ,vital temperament4--,the vital temperament is indicated by a rather low1 heavy-set body1 hands and feet small1 neck short and thick1 chest full1 shoulders broad1 face and head round1 hair and eyes generally light4 ,persons of this temperament are1 as a rule1 not great students1 inclined to be impulsive1 very sociable1 versatile1 cheerful and ardent and liable to be fickle4 ,where these characteristics are very pronounced1 marriage with a person of another temperament would be advisable4 ,however1 most persons of the vital type have a harmonious1 balanced temperament4 ,here likes may marry like4 ,like should not marry like4--,if one has a very pronounced motive temperament he should choose a companion having a more plump and symmetrical form1 with a genial and yielding nature4 ,this would be conducive to domestic harmony and would give the children a favorable heredity4 ,the law of compliments4--,one with a pronounced nervous temperament should select a companion having a vital temperament or one having a moderate motive temperament4 ,if young people were prompted by unselfish motives and a pure chaste love1 mistakes in marriage would be extremely rare4 ,where choice of a companion is determined by financial interests1 sensual desire1 or other selfish motives1 the soul is denied its prerogative in the selection of a mate4 ,no man in a normal condition and prompted by unselfish motives would select for his companion a masculine woman1 a consumptive1 a neurotic or one with an excessive motive or nervous temperament1 and vice versa4 ,the subjective minds of possible soul-mates come naturally and easily to comprehend each other's joys and sorrows1 longings and love4 ,most married people are fairly well-mated and comparatively happy4 ,their adaptation to each other and their soul oneness grew out of a natural affinity to which they unselfishly yielded rather than from an intelligent choice based on a knowledge of the laws of adaptation4 ,mismates4--,perhaps one-half of the married are not well-mated1 for reasons already stated4 ,owing to the fact that so many are mismated1 a condition growing out of artificial and unnatural social1 economic and moral conditions1 the advice of this chapter should be carefully studied by young people before they make the choice of a life companion4 ,atavism4--,all students of natural history have occasionally observed among plants and animals the reappearance of something that belonged to their remote progenitors1 but which did not belong to their immediate parents4 ,this tendency for remote ancestral characteristics to reappear after lying dormant for one or more generations1 is called atavism4 ,this fact is sometimes observed in the human family4 ,examples4--,as a rule1 when one child in the home possesses some marked morbid tendency or special gift not possessed by other members of the family1 it can be accounted for on the basis of some initial or maternal impression4 ,but this is not always true4 ,a deaf mute may be born in a home and the cause traced to some remote deaf mute ancestor4 ,consumption1 insanity and other diseases may disappear for one or more generations and then reappear4 ,this is a fact recognized by many physicians4 ,two first cousins from families remarkably free from intemperance were ruined by intemperance4 ,both seemed powerless from the first indulgence to resist the habit4 ,one was dissipated from childhood1 the other did not begin until he was twenty and was a wreck in six brief years4 ,their grandfather was a periodic drinker4 ,the appetite had slumbered in one generation but broke out in the next4 ,love the basis of marriage4--,in the choice of a life companion one should be absolutely sure that his choice is prompted by pure and unselfish love4 ,if love in courtship and marriage is genuine it will have but one idol4 ,selfish interests and base desires may lead one to admire and worship more than one1 but this is not love4 ,chastity the basis of genuine love4--,this genuine love that draws young people into beautiful courtship1 happy marriage and makes them one is vitally related to the sex nature4 ,without sexuality this expression of the affectional nature would not be possible4 ,when this ,god-honored1 love-creating nature is converted into sensuality1 lust1 not love1 reigns in courtship and marriage4 ,love tested4--,the genuineness of love may be tested in several ways4 ,whenever the choice is largely determined by financial interests or social prestige the parties are drawn to each other for selfish reasons1 and not by unmixed love4 ,if a young woman wins a companion by wearing low-necked dresses1 permitting young men to hold her hands1 play with her hair1 kiss and caress her1 by going with them to public dances1 and low theatrical entertainments1 she makes her appeal on the plane of the sensual4 ,courtship and marriage on this plane are a travesty on love4 ,it is not always easy for the vigorous and healthy to distinguish between selfish interest1 base desire and love4 ,a good test would be for lovers to cease their calls and correspondence for ten days2 meanwhile they should attend social functions and call on and accept calls from others4 ,if they find it impossible to admire and love some other person and their love for each other remains intense and warm under these conditions1 they may safely conclude that their love is genuine4 ,,chapter ,,xlvi ,,physical1 ,,mental ,,and ,,moral ,,preparation ,,for ,,parentage ,the right of a child to receive good heredity4--,every child has an absolute right to be well-born4 ,to receive a good inheritance is worth infinitely more than to be born in a palace and inherit millions in money4 ,the prenatal period of a child is more important than any other period in its earthly life4 ,parents are responsible to the child1 to society and to ,god for what they bequeath to the child at birth4 ,the child well trained till its birth is fully half trained4 ,if the child inherits a good basis for a strong and healthy body1 mind and morals1 it can make a success in life4 ,it is true that some parents prefer leaving the physical1 mental and moral possibilities of their children to providence or 8blind chance10 to practicing a little self-denial4 ,but it is certainly the desire of all thoughtful parents to have their children well-born4 ,planning for the initial of a life4--,the initial of every child should be intelligently planned4 ,only parents who have their sexual nature under control1 or those who can and will bring it under control1 can do this4 ,this can be done most easily by parents who in their youth were trained to see that the primary use of the sexual energy and function is to build up and maintain perfect manhood and womanhood through life and for procreative purposes in the married life1 and not for unrestricted selfish pleasure4 ,illustration3 ,,well ,,born4--,mark ,henry ,woodward1 age seven months2 weight eighteen pounds2 clings on to a horizontal bar for a full minute2 food1 breast-fed2 health1 never sick4 ,why few children are well-born4--,where married people have been falsely educated in the idea that marriage means unrestricted indulgence1 and under this delusion have created unnatural demand1 a horde of evils will follow4 ,if this unfortunate class care only for a selfish pleasure1 the children will follow each other closely and will receive a poor heredity4 ,if they use preventive means to restrict the size of the family1 the few children born into the homes will be far more unfortunately born4 ,excess in the marriage relation impoverishes the body1 mind and soul and unfits for true parentage those who practice such excess4 ,every device used to prevent conception or to destroy unborn life will work untold injury to the parents1 and the occasional1 accidental and unwelcome child will receive a most unfortunate heredity4 ,the mental and moral states1 as well as the physical condition1 of the parents1 for months before and at the initial moment and during gestation must necessarily become a part of the child4 ,whatever is received into our physical1 mental and moral life becomes an essential part of ourselves and is transmissible to our offspring4 ,prospective parents should not at any time engage in anything that would be undesirable if reproduced in their children4 ,intelligent preparation4--,a knowledge of the laws of heredity will enable parents largely to overcome in their children any undesirable qualities possessed by themselves or their parents and to transmit to their children desirable qualities in a larger degree than that possessed by themselves4 ,in planning for a child1 the parents should carefully study each other's good and bad qualities1 weak and strong points1 their active and latent talents with a view to an intelligent cultivation of their good qualities and the restraining of the bad1 strengthening their weak points and calling into activity every valuable latent capacity4 ,in this way they may transmit only the best to the child4 ,both parents should ardently desire a child4 ,both should begin the preparation months before the initial of the new life and both should continue the preparations until the child is born4 ,while the father's direct hereditary influence upon the child ceases with the inception of life1 his continued training will encourage and inspire his wife to continue her training until the birth of the child4 ,physical preparation4--,both husband and wife should be in a perfectly healthy condition while planning for a child4 ,the intelligent stock breeder appreciates this statement4 ,he knows that the offspring will be defective if either of the parents is in a low state of vitality4 ,systematic treatment and feeding will be followed until the animal is brought to a normal condition before the initial of reproduction is allowed4 ,the healthy or unhealthy condition of the blood determines the health of the body4 ,the blood is the creative source of new life4 ,every new life is affected by the physical condition of its parents' blood4 ,it is a sin and a crime for parents knowingly to inflict physical weakness upon their children4 ,is it not strange that men will take every precaution to have their stock well-born and yet utterly ignore these essential precautions in relation to their children8 ,there are some married people who have physical ailments that render them permanently unfit for parentage4 ,such should be wise enough to refrain from becoming parents4 ,an invalid mother4--,when a mere boy ,i overheard a man say1 8,this is our twelfth child in a little over fourteen years and my wife has not been out of the bed since the birth of the first child40 ,i think there were two other children born into this home4 ,only one of these children lived to reach middle life4 ,there is not an intelligent stock raiser in the world that would allow propagation among his swine under these conditions4 ,this man was not brutal to his family4 ,he was a kind husband and a loving father1 but he was ignorant and thoughtless4 ,he was controlled by the false teachings of 8,physical necessity10 and 8the wife's body belongs to the husband40 ,we must recognize that the unborn have absolute and inalienable rights which we must not violate4 ,no man has a right to engage in the creative act when he or his wife is in a physical1 mental or moral condition that would1 if transmitted1 be undesirable in the possible offspring4 ,morbid conditions transmissible4--,since incompetency1 thievishness1 drunkenness1 tuberculosis1 venereal poison1 idiocy1 insanity and criminal degeneracy may all be transmitted from parents to children1 and to children's children2 young people before marriage should ascertain whether any of these conditions exist in the families of the prospective union4 ,the father who spends his time lounging on street corners and telling questionable anecdotes cannot parent an industrious child4 ,no thoughtful girl will marry an idle young man4 ,the society mother4--,mothers who lead in the dissipation of modern social life1 such as balls1 card parties1 theaters1 wine suppers1 seldom have children that are well-born either physically1 mentally or morally4 ,their children are strongly inclined to the same dissipations4 ,the need of rest4--,both parents should be well rested in body for several days before the initial of a new life takes place4 ,if the vitality in their blood has been much exhausted by overwork1 the creative cells will be lacking in vitality and the offspring will be weakened in its constitution4 ,thoughtfully decide upon an ideal child in body1 mind and character and try to embody this ideal in your daily life and in this way you will transmit these ideal conditions to your child4 8,like begets like0 is an invariable law4 ,at the conception of life an immortal being is started with a heritage of possibilities obtained from its parents4 ,it is bone of their bone1 flesh of their flesh1 mind of their mind1 soul of their soul4 ,it cannot be otherwise than like the parents were at the time of the conception4 ,practical dietetics4--,the increase in population among the very poor is far greater than among the more prosperous classes4 ,their vitality is often very low1 due to lack of proper nourishment4 ,if the charity workers in our churches would look after this class of prospective mothers and see that they are supplied during gestation and lactation with wholesome and nutritious food1 they would be engaged in the highest form of ,christian service1 and many of these mothers would give to their country better citizens than those which come from the homes of wealth4 ,the time will come when the governments will declare for international peace and will appropriate a few hundred millions each year for the prospective mothers whose income is not sufficient to meet their needs1 instead of appropriating their surplus funds to old soldiers4 ,it is important that every mother be supplied during these periods with the best quality of nutritious food4 ,effects of narcotics4--,if the father is addicted to the use of tobacco or alcoholic drinks1 he should abandon the habit1 if for no other reason1 because of its evil effects upon his offspring4 ,one has only to study the children of a few men who are heavy drinkers or tobacco users to see the unmistakable effects of the narcotic habits of parents upon their children4 ,in ,france there are annually twenty thousand more deaths than births4 ,eminent ,french doctors attribute part of this to the inveterate tobacco users4 ,they claim that this class of men are often sterile1 or their children die prematurely4 ,suppressing evil tendencies4--8,like begets like40 ,parents cannot transmit to their children what they themselves do not possess in a latent or active state4 ,by awakening a slumbering talent and exercising it with zeal it may be reproduced in an intensified form in the child4 ,by refraining from a bad habit1 or ceasing to use an undesirable trait and by cultivating a mental opposition to it1 the parents may be able to prevent1 partly or wholly1 its reappearance in the child4 ,this law will apply to any case where tobacco or whisky habit1 dishonesty1 bad temper1 idleness1 licentiousness or any other bad trait has existed in the parents or their immediate ancestors4 ,effects of culture4--,prospective parents should read the best literature1 attend lecture courses1 outline a course of study and follow it1 and try to think beyond their usual meditations4 ,their affection for each other should be strong and pure4 ,in relation to society1 they should pay especial attention to honesty1 charity1 friendliness and love4 ,their sthetic natures should be developed by the study and admiration of nature and art4 ,bible reading1 singing and prayer1 good works and spiritual devotion should form a part of their daily programme4 ,it will do no good to practice these things in a half-hearted way4 ,they must be made a part of our life if they are to influence favorably the future child4 ,primal purpose of marriage4--,the primary purpose of marriage is parentage4 ,no greater early obligation rests upon married people than grows out of the function of parentage4 ,no greater early honor1 reward1 or happiness comes to the married than when this ,god-honored duty is faithfully performed4 ,no greater service can be rendered our children1 society and ,god1 than when we parent children whose bodies are sound and healthy1 minds vigorous and bright1 dispositions sweet1 lives grand1 noble and ,christlike4 ,,chapter ,,xlvii ,,prenatal ,,training ,one-half trained before birth4--,this chapter will be devoted to the training of children before they are born4 ,it is believed by some students of eugenics that heredity is fully as potent as environment and that a child often receives one-half its training before it is born4 ,oliver ,wendell ,holmes often said1 8,a child's training should begin with his grand-parents40 ,the proverb1 8,train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it10 to be proven to be absolutely true1 must include both prenatal and postnatal training of a child4 ,in other chapters reference is made to what children may inherit from their grand-parents and parents4 ,in this we shall refer to the influence of parental conditions at the creative moment1 and the mental and moral influence of the mother during gestation4 ,transmission of acquired characteristics possible4--,the transmission of fixed characteristics is accepted by all4 ,the transmission of acquired characteristics is quite generally accepted4 ,the materialistic student does not accept it1 claiming that the only relation between the mother and the child is that of nutrition4 ,we admit that the nervous system of the mother is not connected with the nervous system of the child1 but we insist that 8the blood is the life40 ,the mother's physical1 mental and moral life is in her blood4 ,through her blood the mother furnishes the child not only with air1 water and food1 but with life4 ,in the chapter1 ,reproduction and ,heredity1 we explained how the blood is affected by the transient mental states4 ,love and anger1 joy and fear1 grief and jealousy all change the character of the blood and influence the vital energy4 ,the new psychology is rapidly demonstrating that one mind may influence another independent of physical communication4 ,by one or both of these methods1 acquired characteristics of the father and mother are transmitted to their children4 ,drs4 ,fowler and ,cowan4--,fowler says1 8,all existing parental states are stamped on the offspring40 ,dr4 ,john ,cowan says1 8,the fundamental principles of genius in reproduction are that through the rightly directed wills of the father and mother1 preceding and during antenatal life1 the child's form of body1 character of mind and purity of soul are formed and established4 ,in its plastic state during antenatal life1 like clay in the hands of the potter1 it can be molded absolutely into any form of body and soul the parents may knowingly desire40 ,an example4--,the origin of the ,setter1 ,pointer1 ,hound or ,shepherd dog will illustrate the transmission of acquired characteristics4 ,the peculiar characteristics of all these dogs were once acquired4 ,for example1 some hunter observed that his dog would 8set0 or 8point0 when game was located by the sense of smell4 ,this hunter encouraged his dog in the practice of this characteristic4 ,he knew that some of the offspring of this dog would tend to do the same thing4 ,by breeding with a view of developing a variety of dogs with this characteristic we have the ,pointer dog4 ,the father should co-operate4--,while the father's direct hereditary influence over his child ceases at conception1 his responsibility for what the child receives up to its birth is fully equal to the mother's responsibility4 ,he can help or hinder the mother in her work of prenatal culture4 ,where the husband fails to supply his wife with all that is necessary to her health1 strength1 mental and moral activity1 and happiness1 he becomes largely responsible for the bad effects on the child4 ,the order of training4--,the prenatal culture received by a child grows out of the physical1 mental and moral states and activities of the mother during gestation4 ,the physical organism of the child forms first4 ,the brain1 in which the mental and moral natures are to reside1 develops last4 ,this would indicate the periods when greatest stress should be placed upon the physical1 mental and moral training of the child4 ,the physical outlines of the body first become organized during the first four or five months1 then the brains and nervous system4 ,the mother's preparation4--,the physical condition of the child at birth1 well formed or deformed1 healthy or unhealthy1 strong or weak1 will in no small way be determined by the mother's being provided with plenty of nutritious food1 pure air and water1 pleasant exercise1 and such clothing as will give the body perfect freedom and comfort4 ,the mental and moral tendencies and capacities of the child will depend much on the mother's continuing the advice given in the chapter on ,parental ,preparation4 ,inventive genius4--,during a lecture course in a western city1 a young machinist called me into his shop and showed me three inventions he had patented and a most intricate piece of machinery that he was then working on4 ,he was only twenty-two years old4 ,he and his parents had often wondered why he was the only member of the family1 on either side1 as far back as they could trace1 with an inventive turn of mind4 ,under my lectures the parents had solved the mystery4 ,ten or twelve months prior to the birth of this young man1 the father had worked on a prospect or invention for several weeks with all the enthusiasm of anticipated success4 ,he laid the matter aside and the very fact of his once being interested in an invention had seemed to fade from his memory4 ,the father's intense mental interest during those weeks so influenced his life-giving blood that he was able to transmit the hereditary gift of inventive genius to his son4 ,two girls4--,i am intimately and personally acquainted with a family where there are two girls4 ,prior to the birth of the first the mother kept house1 did light work1 read the best literature and was systematic in her devotion4 ,in case of the second girl1 the professional life of the father had changed and this made it necessary for the mother to be guest and hostess of many social functions4 ,the parents had made a study of the laws of heredity and in both cases tried to apply these laws4 ,the children are now thirteen and fifteen4 ,they are obedient1 intelligent1 and religious1 but the different environments of the mother are fully registered in the children4 ,the first has strong business tendencies1 is an all-round student1 but limited in her social gifts2 the second one takes to art1 elocution1 music1 has a fine memory which enables her to advance well in all her studies1 and she can entertain anything from a baby to an old man or woman4 ,golden hair4--,in a ,missouri town a mother invited me into her husband's store and gave me her experience4 ,from her early teens she had entertained a wish that should she ever become a mother1 her child might have golden hair4 ,when she discovered that she was to be a mother she asked her husband to get her two pictures--one to be the picture of a perfect boy1 the other1 the picture of a perfect girl1 each to have golden hair4 ,while in ,st4 ,louis purchasing a stock of goods1 he secured the pictures desired4 ,she placed them in her room where she could frequently see and admire them4 ,she called my attention to the dark hair of her husband and self1 then1 proudly1 to the golden hair of a five-year-old son4 ,testimony of a doctor4--,at ,d----1 ,mo41 an old physician told me of a family in his practice where the wife had been married twice4 ,she and her second husband have black hair4 ,the first child born to the second marriage had red hair4 ,the doctor had a way of accounting for the red hair of the child to me that was not satisfactory4 ,i said1 8,doctor1 which of the two husbands was the superior80 8,oh10 he said1 8there was no comparison1 the contrast was so great4 ,the first husband was in every sense a very superior man and the second one was very inferior40 ,then ,i replied1 8,prior to the birth of the red-haired child the mental pictures of the two men were constantly in the stream of mental consciousness4 ,the mental picture most conspicuous and most admirable was the first husband40 ,the effects of a mother's dishonesty4--,i have studied a number of kleptomaniacs4 ,in almost all cases1 where facts could be obtained1 dishonesty was found in one or both of the parents4 ,i studied a case in a ,kentucky town4 ,the mother would sit up until her husband had retired4 ,then she would slip a small amount of change from his pockets4 ,this was continued during gestation4 ,when the girl1 born under these conditions1 was eighteen years old1 she could not keep from stealing money1 jewelry1 and other things she desired4 ,she was never arrested4 ,the parents would pay for or return what she had stolen4 ,the effects of a mother's anger4--,while preparing this book for the printers1 ,i am in a ,missouri city1 where ,i have become personally acquainted with the following incidents3 ,a wife1 thinking she had passed the 8change of life10 was much surprised and greatly disappointed when she found she was again to become a mother4 ,her love for her husband turned to hate4 ,the period of gestation was one of regret1 unpleasantness and anger4 ,from birth her child was uncontrollable4 ,teachers could not manage him4 ,he was a source of danger on the playground4 ,neighbors would not allow their children to visit him4 ,when he was fourteen he tried to kill his mother with a butcher knife4 ,a year later he assaulted a visiting pastor4 ,when he was angry he would froth at the mouth and scream as a madman4 ,a born criminal4--,at the close of a lecture on heredity1 a reliable and aged doctor told me the following incident3 8,when ,i was a young doctor1 a father came for me to call to see a sick member of his family4 ,his little girl met us at the front gate1 threw her arms about her father's legs and looked wistfully into his face4 ,he picked her up in his arms1 carried her into the room and while ,i looked after the patient she caressed and kissed her papa4 ,the brother1 some two years older1 had found his sister's paper dolls and was tearing off their heads with a vengeance4 ,looking up1 he noticed the pet cat entering the room4 ,leaving the mutilated and scattered dolls and seizing a long splinter from the wood box1 he caught the cat1 and holding it to the floor with his left hand1 he tried to cut the cat's head off with the splinter4 ,soon the dog entered2 releasing the cat1 he stood by the side of the cringing dog and was trying to cut his head off4 ,when my services were finished1 the father followed me out to the front gate and asked me whether ,i had noticed the difference in the children4 ,i told him ,i had4 ,then he explained that the little girl was wanted in the home and the boy was not4 ,i lived to see that boy sentenced for a term of years in the penitentiary for a crime he had committed40 ,many suicidal and homicidal tendencies are received in this way4 ,lasciviousness transmissible4--,no morbid conditions are so fully and generally transmitted as are the results of uncontrolled sexual desire among married people4 ,most children are the result of uncontrolled desire and their prenatal rights are not respected4 ,this explains much of precocious sex awakening in childhood1 the stormy period of adolescence and the fearful wreckage of virtue in youth and middle life4 ,we have inherited from our ancestors and are transmitting sensual tendencies to our children4 ,we can never solve the problems of social vice until the initial of childhood is intelligently planned for1 prenatal rights are respected and the child given proper sex instruction4 ,we are slow to learn4--8,ye shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free40 ,even the wisest and best of the human family are slow to learn this truth1 and were it not for the consequences of long practiced errors1 we should perhaps never learn some truths4 ,we are learning slowly that sexually exhausted fathers and mothers do not parent superior children4 ,this is causing thousands of thinking people and conscientious parents to inquire for the truth that will bring freedom from sensual slavery4 ,sexuality and sensuality4--,sexuality1 or the sexual instinct1 is one thing1 and sensuality1 or sexual perversion1 is another4 ,one is ,god-given and ,god-honored2 the other is a human product resulting from bad heredity1 a false education and a misuse of the sexual function4 ,the first is to be appreciated1 the second to be suppressed1 and1 as far as possible1 eradicated4 ,vitality determines results4--,man has a three-fold nature2 physical1 mental and moral4 ,in this life these natures are related and dependent4 ,the sexual instinct has its seat in the physical nature1 but in its functions it is closely related to the mental and moral4 ,whenever the sexual life is misdirected the mental and moral natures suffer4 ,the sexual nature produces life--physical1 mental and moral4 ,it is by restraining this life force1 this psychic force1 this vital energy1 within the body1 and learning to direct it properly1 that physical health and strength are attained and maintained2 that intellectual vigor and brilliancy are realized2 and that our emotional nature is developed in its expressions of tender feelings1 purest love1 truest sympathy1 and passionate interest in the welfare of our fellow men4 ,no one can have intellectual and moral development or enjoy a high degree of intellectual and spiritual life1 if the sex function is abused4 ,parents with strong1 healthy sexual natures parent the most perfect children4 ,young married people should understand sexology4--,thousands of young married people have never received any instruction from books1 parents or doctors regarding correct sexual relations in the married life4 ,many of these have learned from sad experience that marriage does not mean unrestricted sexual liberty4 ,many who have sought the needed information from friends and books have been confused by conflicting opinions4 ,the husband and wife who desire to be anything1 physically1 mentally or morally1 must retain in their bodies as much as possible their sexual energy4 ,in this is found the elasticity and strength of the muscles1 versatility of the mind1 strength and vigor of the constitution1 which lend an indefinable charm to the masculine and feminine graces4 ,all sorts of drugs and contrivances have been used by many married people to dodge the natural consequences of the sexual relations4 ,every attempt of this kind has resulted in some form of physical1 mental or moral injury to those who have tried it1 and it has strewn their pathway with a horde of physical weaklings and moral degenerates4 ,all preventive and abortive methods1 drugs and contrivances cannot be too severely condemned4 ,legitimate indulgence in the marital relation is allowable only when the act can be made a complete one2 when1 should conception occur1 it would be a welcome result4 ,an occasional union between husband and wife1 if prompted by pure love1 is not necessarily injurious or morally wrong4 ,but when indulged in1 it creates an unnatural desire and substitutes lust for love4 ,g4 ,campbell ,morgan says1 8,animalism has been for ages the curse of the marriage relation40 ,seventy-five physicians of ,new ,york ,city signed the following statement3 8,in view of the widespread suffering from physical diseases and moral deterioration inseparable from unchaste living1 the undersigned members of ,new ,york and vicinity unite in declaring it as our opinion that chastity1 a pure and continent life for both sexes1 is consistent with the best conditions of mental1 physical and moral health40 ,the ,wesleyan ,methodist says1 8,the open and absolute assertion that every wife has the absolute right to determine her relationship to motherhood may make trouble1 but it is the kind of trouble which must come in some homes before wifehood becomes anything more than a form of the basest kind of slavery40 ,dr4 ,winfield ,scott ,hall1 in ,reproduction and ,sexual ,hygiene1 says1 8,there is another sacrifice1 if it be so called1 which the husband is called upon to make during the pregnancy of his wife2 namely1 to abstain absolutely from sexual intercourse4 ,all other animals observe this period of continence4 ,nature demands that man observe it4 ,the author submits this question to all fair-minded men2 is it not due the wife that she be not asked to satisfy the recurring sexual desires of the husband during the period when her life and its energies are so sacred to the race1 to society and to the family8 ,the author submits this question because some men are known to transgress this law of nature40 ,prof4 ,n4 ,n4 ,riddell says1 8,the present ethics of marriage licenses that which degrades the affections and destroys the possibilities of harmony4 ,the abuse of the generative function is the chief cause of domestic inharmony1 divorce and shame1 inherited lascivious tendencies and the vices and crime which follow4 ,three-fourths of the race have their origin in uncontrolled desire1 while less than one-half of the remainder are as well-born as they might have been40 ,a suggestion4--,the author would suggest that the reader pause one moment before he criticises or rejects the opinions of the great and godly men4 ,what right has a married man to preach1 teach and demand continence among young people1 his sons and daughters1 if he cannot practice self-restraint on a level with the savage and the lower animals8 ,the violations of the laws of sex are the chief causes of human degeneracy4 ,where married people have been falsely educated in the idea that marriage means unrestricted indulgence and under this delusion have created unnatural demand1 a horde of evils will follow4 ,if this unfortunate class care only for a selfish pleasure1 the children will follow each other closely and will receive a poor heredity4 ,if they use preventive means to restrict the size of the family1 the few children born into the home will receive an unfortunate heredity4 ,excess in marriage impoverishes the body1 mind and soul and unfits for true parentage4 ,every device used to prevent conception or to destroy unwelcome life will injure the parents and the occasional accidental and unwelcome child will receive a most unfortunate heredity4 ,the mental and moral states1 as well as the physical condition of the parents1 for months before and at the initial moment and during gestation1 must necessarily become a part of the child4 ,,chapter ,,xlviii ,,delinquency--,,causes ,,and ,,remedies ,purity1 a nation's strength4--,the strength and perpetuity of a nation consist not in its standing army1 mighty navy1 millions of population1 strong fortifications1 inexhaustible resources of wealth1 but in the purity and strength of its manhood and womanhood4 ,babylon1 ,greece and ,rome did not fall because of a shortage of men1 weakness of fortifications1 exhausted resources or lack of warships1 but because of a degenerate manhood and womanhood4 ,the home threatened4--,are there agencies of degeneracy operating in our social fabric that threaten our nation's strength and perpetuity8 ,we shall see4 ,the greatest social problems of the church and state must be solved in the home4 ,whatever agencies destroy the home will ultimately destroy society1 the church and the nation4 ,the divorce problem4--,that ,god-ordained and ,god-honored institution1 the home--in its purity1 strength1 and influence1 was never more in danger than now4 ,the home is an organized institution1 consisting of husband1 wife and one or more children1 bound by the most sacred vows1 the purest love and harmony4 ,the home1 the basis of society1 the church and the nation is in danger4 ,homes are being wrecked nearly as fast as they are being built4 ,divorce is on the increase2 marriage and births are on the decrease4 ,in #ahgj1 we had one divorce to every thirty-eight marriages4 ,in #aijj1 we had one divorce to every fourteen and one-quarter marriages4 ,now we are having one to every eleven marriages4 ,last year ,canada had only seventeen divorces4 ,an ,ohio daily gave one county in that state the credit of one hundred and thirty-two divorces in twelve months4 ,canada has better social customs1 better marriage and better divorce laws than we have4 ,there1 a girl rarely keeps company with a young man before she is eighteen and rarely gets married until after she is twenty4 ,here1 she is often teased about sweethearts when she is five1 taught to avoid being an old maid when she is seven1 when ten she is making goo-goo eyes at the boys1 when eleven she is passing notes to every ,tom1 ,dick and ,harry in the schoolroom1 when twelve she is desperately in love1 when thirteen she is engaged and goes buggy riding and roams the streets at late hours with boys1 when fifteen she is in the divorce court1 and six months later she has her second husband4 ,social dangers4--,a nation whose social customs encourage innocent1 playful1 fourteen-and fifteen-year-old girls to enter society and meet the temptations and dangers incident to matured womanhood need not be surprised when she finds that one-half of her #cjj1jjj erring women fell before they were seventeen and that one-half of her divorces are among women who married before they were seventeen4 ,our social customs should be changed so as to safeguard the virtue of our boys and girls during the stormy period of early adolescence4 ,new marriage laws needed4--,one of the best remedies for the present divorce evil would be a campaign of education and legislation on courtship and marriage4 ,marriage needs to be elevated in the public mind to a plane of dignity1 honor and responsibility4 ,to secure this we need uniform state laws requiring of all candidates for marriage a fair knowledge of heredity and prenatal culture1 the duties and responsibilities of marriage and parentage and of marital rights4 ,for this to be possible1 all candidates for marriage should be required to register their proposed marriage with the county clerk two months before the license is issued1 and their proposed marriage should be published in at least one paper during this time4 ,this would prevent clandestine and bigamous marriages and would deprive the ,white ,slave procurer of one of his chief methods of securing his victims4 ,when a proposed marriage is registered1 the state should furnish each with a book presenting in simple language such information as is indicated above4 ,they should be required to give evidence of having a fair knowledge of the facts contained in the book and to present a certificate of good physical and mental health before the license is finally issued4 ,how enforced4--,these rules and laws should be taught1 required and enforced in a spirit that would lead the public to see1 and the candidates for marriage to feel1 that these young people are assuming responsibilities and that the state is conferring an honor and trust upon them far greater than a governor-elect assumes and the state confers on him when he takes the oath of office4 ,the home builder is a nation builder4 ,such education and legislation would not only promote domestic harmony1 reduce the divorce evil1 give to children a good heredity1 but it would check the growth of all forms of human degeneracy and add to our nation's strength and life and make for greater domestic happiness4 ,effects of bad customs4--,i would not censure those who have married in childhood4 ,the mistake has been made4 ,bad customs have led many good people to make mistakes4 ,the custom of thrusting little girls into society1 resulting in immature marriages1 should be checked4 ,chief cause of homicide and suicide4--,there are one and a half million children born in the ,united ,states annually4 ,it is estimated that there are #bej1jjj abortions that come to medical attention4 ,if this number require medical attention then there must be #ajj1jjj who succeed without medical attention4 ,one thousand prenatal murders a day4 ,then there must be #ajj1jjj attempts to destroy unwelcome life which fail4 ,children born under these conditions cannot receive a good heredity4 ,many will be born with suicidal and homicidal tendencies4 ,this is no doubt the chief cause of homicides and suicides4 ,there were #agb1jjj illegal murders last year and nearly half that number of suicides4 ,one homicide every thirty seconds and one suicide every seventy seconds is our criminal record4 ,crime has increased #cjj per cent4 above the normal increase of population in the last twenty years4 ,crime has increased two and one-half times faster among children than among adults4 ,this last is due in part to a lack of moral training in the home and school1 to the vivid and attractive portrayal of crime in the cheap shows1 and at the same time it is largely due to the increase of abortion among mothers4 ,the causes of crime among adults are as follows3 fifteen per cent4 of our foreign born population commit thirty-five per cent4 of our crime1 drunkenness1 non-enforcement of law and criminal abortion4 ,some leading students of heredity believe that efforts to destroy unwelcome life is the principal cause of crime4 ,a doctor's testimony4--,at the close of a lecture in ,st4 ,louis1 one of the doctors present told me of a lady in good standing in society and the church1 who came to his office and requested his services in producing abortion4 ,her reason was that she had three children and her husband's income was not sufficient to support four children4 ,he suggested that if the presence of four children in the home would lead to the death of the whole family by starvation1 that she return home and kill one of the three4 ,she was horrified at the doctor's suggestion that she murder one of the children4 ,the doctor explained that if she followed his suggestion her health would be protected and there would be but one guilty of murder1 while1 if he followed her wish1 her health would be injured and there would be two responsible for the murder of her unborn child4 8,but1 doctor10 she replied1 8that would not be murder1 would it8 ,i have not felt its movements40 ,the doctor explained to her how life began at the moment of conception1 how the little embryo was as much a living human being as when it had become strong enough to make its movements known4 ,the true mother-love triumphed and she returned home resolving to protect1 love1 welcome and toil for four instead of three4 ,men as guilty as women4--,ignorance concerning sex1 the rights of marriage and the double standard of marriage are responsible for this crime which exists in the church as well as on the outside4 ,men are fully as responsible for race suicide as women are4 ,social and economic conditions are largely responsible for families shrinking from an average of eight children to two in less than a century4 ,if these conditions were normal large families would be commendable4 ,a large family of fourteen children will always be more honorable than an imitation consisting of a husband1 wife and a poodle dog4 ,sensible women are convinced that a family of from four to six children well born and well environed is wiser than double this number poorly born and poorly environed4 ,they will1 if necessary1 prefer going through life childless to bearing defective children4 ,two kinds of race suicide4--,criminal prevention and willful abortion4 ,this is the only form of race suicide the public recognizes4 ,this cannot be too severely condemned by the press1 platform and pulpit4 ,but there is another form of 8race suicide10 equally great1 but largely overlooked4 ,defective children born of enslaved motherhood4 ,sensual men are largely responsible for this form4 ,which would be the greater crime1 for a nation to pass out of existence because children are not born1 or to have a dense population of paupers1 idiots1 imbeciles1 thieves1 suicides and homicides--the children of drunken1 feeble-minded1 criminal and otherwise defective parents1 born of stupid ignorance and blind chance8 ,multiple child-bearing produces invalid wives and kills many loving mothers and fills our penitentiaries and asylums with delinquents4 ,the rights of motherhood4--,let us instill into every heart a desire for pure1 perfect parenthood4 ,let the wife who must bear and rear the children decide when she can perform this sacred duty perfectly4 ,let every child be well born and 8race suicide0 will become a thing of the past4 ,what shall be done8--,what shall we do with the dependent classes8 ,this is one of the great problems to be solved4 ,taxpayers1 philanthropists1 lawmakers1 doctors and ,christian workers are all deeply interested in a wise adjustment of this problem because of their interest in these classes and also because we have found our present methods inadequate4 ,paupers1 idiots1 imbeciles1 the insane and criminals appeal to our pity1 charity and love4 ,a practical demonstration of this is found in the millions of dollars annually appropriated from our taxes and the gifts of charity1 and from thousands of healthy1 normal people whose lives are devoted to ministering to the needs of these social unfortunates4 ,many degenerates are diseased4--,the degenerate criminals1 imbeciles and insane are now understood to be diseased4 ,a very large per cent4 have inherited this condition4 ,some were even foredoomed to their fate4 ,perhaps twenty per cent4 of the inmates of our penal institutions are serving their second1 third and fourth terms4 ,son1 father and grandfather are to be found side by side in our prisons4 ,the daily mail received by the inmates of the asylums1 reform schools and penitentiaries1 coming so largely from relatives in similar institutions1 proves that these conditions run in families4 ,there are nearly #cej1jjj imbeciles1 insane and epileptic people in the ,united ,states4 ,our asylums are overflowing with inmates4 ,many states have doubled the capacity of these institutions in the last ten years and still they are unable to accommodate all the worthy applicants4 ,two causes of degeneracy4--,there are two chief agencies of degeneracy1 strong drink and the violation of the laws of sex4 ,in one state penitentiary ,i found seventy-two per cent4 of the inmates had a drunken father1 mother1 or both4 ,it was found in a certain reformatory for women that seventy-five per cent4 had a drunken father1 mother1 or both4 ,in one penitentiary ,i found that more than three out of four had venereal disease requiring medical attention when they were admitted4 ,limited investigation indicates that twenty-two per cent4 of the inmates of the asylums were conceived during a drunken debauch4 ,many of the inmates had the ,hotchinson notched teeth1 crowfoot tracks in the palate and throat1 conclusive proof of a syphilitic ancestor4 ,spitzka the great neurologist of ,new ,york1 says1 8,the birth-rate of the high grade and low grade imbecile is double that of the normal population40 ,not only do these classes contribute more than double their proportion to the annual birth-rate1 but they are a source of moral corruption to society1 as many of their offspring become paupers1 insane and criminals4 ,the solution4--,with crime1 imbecility and insanity increasing at the rate of #bjj to #cjj per cent4 every twenty years1 thinking people are beginning to see that the only reasonable solution to the problem that confronts us is to stop the production among all undesirable classes4 ,this can be done by the application of laws of heredity1 the enactment of adequate laws regulating the marriage of certain classes and depriving the hereditary degenerates of the creative function4 ,protected1 inspected1 neglected4--,our government is not slow in the enactment of suitable laws favorable to the protection of the forests and the inspection of the hog1 cow and horse1 and in making splendid appropriations for the improvement of different breeds1 but it has made no law to prevent the ,illustration3 ,,neglected6 ,the above chart illustrates the attitude of our government and the commercial spirit of our age toward forests1 domestic animals1 mothers and children4 ,if our mothers and children could be given a commercial value1 based on their beauty1 perfection of form1 health and character1 rated in value on a par with a #b1fjj chicken1 a #d1fjj hog1 a #ac1jjj cow1 or a #bj1jjj horse1 the initial of every child would be intelligently planned for1 its prenatal rights would be respected1 its nativity warmly welcomed and its environments would be wisely safe-guarded4 constantly increasing production of intellectual and moral degenerates4 ,millions are willingly appropriated to aid in the invention and purchase of deadly weapons with which the human family may be destroyed4 ,thousands of the healthiest young men are called to the army and the criminal and idiotic are left to keep up the work of propagation4 ,all our states maintain a ,health ,board1 the duty of which is to prevent the spread of smallpox1 yellow fever1 diphtheria1 etc4 ,we have state officers to inspect cattle and to use measures to prevent ,texas fever4 ,our state fairs give large premiums to the fastest trotter1 the best ,durhams1 ,southdowns and ,poland ,chinas4 ,mothers and children are neglected4 ,marriage of the feeble-minded4--,our laws are such that the county clerk must grant marriage license to criminals1 paupers1 drunkards1 prostitutes and the feeble-minded1 if they are of the proper age1 or have their parents' consent4 ,where a couple of this class have secured their legal right to marry1 they hunt up a preacher who1 standing before them with civil and ecclesiastical authority1 says1 8,whom ,god hath joined together let no man put asunder40 ,such is a crime against society1 an insult to the holy estate of marriage1 a curse to future generations1 and a libel on ,god4 ,i don't believe that ,god ever sanctions such unions4 ,when the states make laws prohibiting such marriages they will hasten the millennium of marriage4 ,more dangerous than smallpox4--,if ,i carelessly expose others to smallpox2 if ,i refuse to remove filth from my premises1 dangerous to the community's health2 if ,i knowingly sell diseased meat to my customers1 ,i shall be arrested and punished4 ,but a man may live a fast life1 acquire a disease that will poison his wife1 also his children to the third and fourth generations2 in this way he can worse than murder his wife and children and go unwhipped and unpunished4 ,effects of alcoholic fathers4--,if statistics can be relied on1 drunkards produce one hundred per cent4 more of the alcoholics1 criminals1 and mental defectives than do the sober men4 ,in justice to overtaxed citizens and the demands of the coming generation we should enact a law preventing the marriage of habitual drunkards4 ,the periodic drunkard should be required to remain sober for a considerable time before his marriage and give reasonable evidence that his reformation is permanent4 ,property qualification4--,a property qualification1 or its equivalent in an established remunerative calling1 profession or occupation1 should be required as a condition for marriage license4 ,it is a known fact that pauper families furnish more than their proportion of criminals and other classes of dependents4 ,the victim of venereal disease4--,persons having a venereal disease1 in a mild form1 should be allowed to marry only when a competent health board1 after careful examination1 decides that they are entirely free from poison1 then1 and then only after a reasonable time has expired since being treated4 ,if the applicant for marriage license has at one time had one of the worst forms of venereal disease1 he should be forever debarred from the privilege of marriage4 ,the need of these restrictive and prohibitory marriage laws will be better understood and appreciated by you when ,i give a few statements from the best obtainable authority4 ,eighty per cent1 of the children born blind is due to gonorrhal infection4 7,education with ,med4 ,prof47 ,this is nearly always due to the uncured condition of the father4 ,neiser tells us that there are over #cj1jjj blind persons in ,germany whose blindness is due to gonorrhal ophthalmia4 ,pinnard claims that sixty to seventy per cent4 of hereditary syphilitics die at or before birth1 and that those who survive are unfit to meet the battles of life2 #bj1jjj children die every year in ,france from syphilitic conditions4 ,dr4 ,fournier states that in his practice seventy-five per cent4 of the syphilis in married women could be traced to their husbands4 ,dr4 ,morrow puts it at seventy per cent4 ,a large per cent4 of the surgical operations of a sexual nature among married women is due to venereal disease contracted from their husbands4 ,sterilization a remedy4--,to prevent unsuitable marriages1 by law1 would in a measure bring relief1 yet1 the degenerate1 criminals and imbeciles would1 to a considerable extent1 continue their propagation4 ,this class cares but little for marriage4 ,the ablest physicians of this country1 the leaders in the great purity movement1 and many advanced thinkers in other professions1 are rapidly committing themselves to the opinion that all the worst cases of hereditary degeneracy should be deprived of the creative function4 ,in females this operation is attended by only one-sixth the fatalities of child-birth4 ,in males it is attended by no danger to life4 ,the results would be absolutely effectual4 ,the feeble-minded class would be much more easily managed and the degenerate criminal would settle down to the life of a peaceable citizen4 ,at first1 one naturally opposes this measure as a solution to the problem4 ,later1 all opposition to it vanishes and it then appears to be a most kind1 benevolent and philanthropic solution of this vital problem4 ,the drunkard's home4--,more of our delinquent and dependent children are traceable to hereditary alcoholism than any other one cause save lust4 ,the conditions and environments of a drunkard's home are very unfavorable to normal hereditary influences4 ,seventy per cent4 more of the drunkard's children are defective from birth than those from sober parents4 ,in the average drunkard's home1 the wife is deprived of much or all that would be conducive to the best maternal conditions1 such as plenty of nutritious food1 good associations1 wholesome recreation1 good reading matter1 freedom1 cheerfulness1 and proper attention and courtesy on the part of her husband4 ,instead of these conditions1 she is poorly fed1 surrounded by rough associations1 lives in a rented shack without flowers or pictures1 is overworked1 timid1 depressed and discouraged1 deprived of a thousand little comforts a maternal heart longs for1 and often tyrannized over by a rum-embruted husband4 ,defective offspring from alcoholics4--,children born under these conditions cannot receive a good heredity4 ,the children of drunken parents nearly always receive a bad heredity4 ,this is especially true when the initial of a life takes place during or immediately following a drunken debauch4 ,if the wives of drunkards had better environments during periods of gestation1 they could more largely overcome the bad influences of their husbands upon their children4 ,but1 environed as they are1 they cannot prevent their own unfortunate influence over their children1 much less that of their husbands4 ,intemperance and crime1 lust and idiocy4--,the mental and moral states of the drunkard are not only expressed in a desire for more drink2 but at one time he is exceedingly lustful2 at another time he is quite silly1 idiotic and foolish2 at still another time he is angry1 cruel and dangerous4 ,we often find all these morbid conditions strongly marked in his children4 ,some inherit alcoholic1 some lustful1 some epileptic1 feeble-minded or insane criminal tendencies4 ,his blood1 being saturated with alcohol1 is in a low state of vitality4 ,this is proven by the drunkard's inability to resist disease4 ,the low state of vitality in the blood of the drunkard accounts for the defectiveness of a large per cent4 of his children4 ,more of the children of drunkards die before they are two years old than of any other class except the venerealized4 ,authorities from all civilized nations estimate that from forty to eighty per cent4 of all crime is traceable to the use of alcoholic drink1 and many of these criminals received a bad heredity from drunken parents2 twenty-two per cent4 of all insanity and eighty per cent4 of epilepsy is traceable to drunken parents2 seventy per cent4 of all immoral women had drunken parents4 ,effects of personal liberty4--,one day while campaigning a county in ,missouri for local option1 ,i called at a home to get directions to my next engagement to lecture4 ,i rapped three times at the door4 ,three times a voice from within said1 8,come in40 ,finally1 ,i opened the door and entered4 ,a mother sat in a chair on the opposite side of the room holding in her arms a nine-year-old boy4 ,i noticed that the boy was as helpless as a twenty-four-hour-old baby4 ,while giving me directions she was feeding the boy with a spoon4 ,i remarked1 8,friend1 ,i observe that you have in your arms an unfortunate child4 ,i have studied many unfortunate cases1 lectured a good deal on heredity and have written a book on heredity4 ,if you do not object1 ,i would like to ask you some questions about your child40 ,in tones of anguish1 such as only a broken-hearted mother could utter1 she said1 8,i guess that no poor mother has ever had to bear a greater burden than ,i have4 ,this is my first child1 on the bed is my fifth child1 only six weeks old4 ,when this boy was four years old1 during a spell of whooping cough1 he got into this condition4 ,for five years ,i have cared for this boy as ,i would a helpless baby4 ,during these five years ,i have become a mother three times and have buried three children who became as helpless as this one4 ,the three that are dead were seemingly all right at birth1 but became helpless during attacks of hives and teething4 ,i don't know whether we will be able to raise the baby or not40 ,no pen can portray1 no tongue can tell1 no imagination can conceive the heartaches of this unfortunate mother4 ,i asked whether she and her husband were related by blood1 or whether there had been intermarriage in the past on either side8 ,she replied in the negative4 ,i asked other questions and failed to locate the trouble4 ,finally1 ,i asked1 8,were there any drunkards on either side of your family80 8,on my side of our family there were no drunkards2 on the father's side of my husband's family one-half of the men were drunkards2 on his mother's side most of the men were drunkards10 was her reply4 8,does your husband drink80 ,i enquired4 ,with some embarrassment1 she said1 8,he drinks1 but never gets to where he can't attend to business40 ,from other sources ,i found him to be a very heavy drinker4 ,such men often boast that they have a right to drink if they want to1 get drunk if they want to1 kill themselves if they want to4 ,what right did that drunken father and his drunken ancestry have to inflame their minds and brutalize their passions and thereby burden that innocent woman with all that sacrifice1 suffering and heartache and to bring these helpless little children into this world foredoomed to such defectiveness8 ,i answer1 they did not have the shadow of a right to indulge in a habit that would deprive their descendants from developing on the earth plane4 ,two more examples4--,in the town of ,m----1 ,illinois1 is a young lady of twenty-six winters unbroken by a joyful spring or summer4 ,the initial of her life took place during the drunken debauch of her worse than worthless drunken father4 ,many times a day and often several times an hour she has spells4 ,i have witnessed her go through many of them4 ,the approach of one of these spells would be first noticed by the enlarged eyes and the exposure of the white of the eye4 ,then the muscles in the eye1 face1 neck and body would contract and pull her face into her lap4 ,after remaining in that tortuous position for some minutes1 the muscles would relax and she would resume a normal one4 ,in that same town1 just to the right of my tent1 lived one of the wealthiest citizens4 ,three children had been born into his home4 ,each had died of epileptic fits before it was two years old4 ,the family physician1 who had made a life study of heredity1 told me that to his own personal knowledge the initial of each child's life took place during or immediately following a drunken debauch of the father4 ,a visit to an asylum4--,not as a means of punishment1 but as a means of enlightenment and conviction1 ,i wish every drinking man and every man who favors the maintenance of the saloon could spend a few days in the insane asylums of this country4 ,let them be taken through the wards of the feeble-minded and the insane and at the close of the day listen for one hour to a discussion of the causes of insanity among the inmates4 ,in this lecture1 let them learn that twenty-two out of every one hundred cases of insanity are due to drunkenness4 ,let them spend the next day in the epileptic wards and witness from ten to twenty of those unfortunates have epileptic fits1 which usually last from thirty minutes to one hour4 ,at the close of this day have them attend a lecture given by an eminent authority on epilepsy4 ,after such an experience1 ,i will guarantee that every honest man1 when he is convinced that twenty-two per cent4 of the insane and eighty-eight per cent4 of the epileptics are the results of drunkenness1 would be converted to the prohibition of the liquor traffic4 ,you had just as well put the balance of that crowd in a reform school or in some ward of the asylum without further delay or expense4 ,they are helpless cases4 ,personal liberty versus the rights of others4--,i fully appreciate the value of personal liberty4 ,one's personal liberty to do right should never be infringed upon4 ,one's personal liberty is circumscribed by the welfare of others4 ,his liberty to do as he pleases ends where the welfare of someone else begins4 ,you can get mad at me if you wish1 grit your teeth1 clench your fist1 swing your fist in a circle1 vertically1 horizontally and off at a tangent2 anywhere you wish1 just so you don't strike my nose4 ,but if you do1 your personal liberty ends where my nose begins4 ,you have the liberty to walk up and down these aisles1 sidewalks1 streets1 public roads1 up and down the railroad track1 over these hills and hollows1 put your old number 8nines0 down wherever you want to put them1 but remember1 when you put one of your number 8nines0 down on one of my corns1 your personal liberty ends where my corn begins4 ,your personal liberty to drink1 get drunk1 inflame your mind1 brutalize your passions ends right where the welfare of your unborn posterity begins4 ,you have not the shadow of a right to indulge in any bad habit that will cause your children to receive from you some form of bad heredity4 ,your unborn descendants have the individual1 inalienable1 absolute right to inherit from you the best physical1 mental and moral possibilities of manhood and womanhood4 ,there is not a man but has the paternal instinct deeply impressed upon his very nature4 ,god placed it there4 ,it is to that principle of fatherhood1 prospective or real1 that ,i make my final appeal4 ,boys1 men1 don't entertain thoughts1 indulge in acts or form habits that you would not want to see reproduced in your offspring4 ,owing to the prevalent use of tobacco among all classes1 including doctors1 teachers and ministers1 many are inclined to doubt the hereditary influence of tobacco4 ,dr4 ,pidduck in the ,london ,lancet says1 8,in no instance is a sin of the fathers more strikingly visited on the children than in the sin of tobacco-smoking4 ,the enervation1 the hypochondriasis1 the hysteria1 the insanity1 the suffering lives and early deaths of the children of inveterate tobacco-smokers bear ample testimony to the feebleness and unsoundness of the constitution transmitted by the victims of this pernicious habit40 ,effects of tobacco4--,the most eminent physicians of ,france tell us that the rapid decline in the birth-rate of that nation is due1 in part1 to the inveterate tobacco users1 as shown by such a large number of this class being at the head of childless homes4 ,children of tobacco users4--,just as drunkenness may not always manifest itself in a desire for alcohol1 but may manifest itself in the form of insanity1 idiocy1 epilepsy1 lasciviousness or criminal tendencies2 so1 in the children of the inveterate tobacco users the evil effects are often shown in one or more morbid conditions4 ,one has but to study the children of a few excessive users of the weed to be convinced that they do not possess the physical endurance and strength of the fathers4 ,the children of this class of fathers are usually puny1 weak and nervous4 ,it is not an easy thing to convince a robust1 healthy man that his habit is laying the foundation for constitutional degeneracy in his children and grandchildren4 ,where both use tobacco4--,where the husband and wife both use tobacco the injurious effects on the immediate children are very noticeable4 ,this is because the mother has more hereditary influence over the children than does the father4 ,tobacco and degeneracy4--,you cannot always judge of the hereditary effects of bad habits in one generation4 ,in the first generation the effects may not be noticeable4 ,if the bad habits are continued for a few generations the defective descendants multiply4 ,suppose that a husband and wife are both heavy users of tobacco2 that all their children follow their examples and marry companions addicted to the use of tobacco2 that their grandchildren all follow the example of their ancestors and marry companions who are inveterate users2 and suppose this continued until the fourth generation1 who can estimate the resulting degeneracy8 ,it is probable that in many cases degeneracy would be complete and there would be no fifth generation4 ,fathers transmit morbid tendencies more to their sons than to their daughters4--,objectors to acquired characteristics being transmitted often ask why girls as well as boys do not inherit appetites for tobacco and whisky4 ,many girls are just as conscious of an abnormal appetite for stimulants as their brothers are4 ,more women are addicted to the use of wine and the cigarette than is generally supposed4 ,but for the companionship and protection of mother and a social law that would discard them from society1 more would form these habits than do4 ,it is a recognized fact that where one sex acquires a characteristic that becomes fixed by continued custom1 that this characteristic will be transmitted mostly along the line of that sex4 ,that relic of savagery1 the 8double standard of morals10 temperance for woman and intemperance for man1 purity for woman and impurity for man1 do right for woman and do as you please for man1 has1 after centuries of practice1 become to a considerable extent constitutional in the two sexes4 ,hence1 girls inherit less of lasciviousness1 less of tendency toward the use of tobacco and strong drink4 ,this double standard of morals originated among the savage races who owned their wives and daughters4 ,they sold1 swapped1 exchanged their daughters on the marriage markets as they would dispose of other property4 ,a daughter's value was largely based on her virtue4 ,if she had forfeited this priceless gem of womanhood she was brutally stoned to death or forced into the most cruel servitude4 ,a heroic struggle4--,there are thousands of brave1 true men who advocate and live the white life4 ,thousands more are struggling heroically to win the laurels of a white life4 ,others are getting the vision and are falling into line4 ,gentle reader1 if you are not one of us1 we extend to you a warm welcome2 if you are1 we are glad of your fellowship4 ,,chapter ,,xlix ,,abnormal ,,maternal ,,impressions1 ,,or ,,birthmarks ,extent of birthmarks4--,in other chapters ,i have discussed normal1 prenatal influences4 ,in this chapter1 ,i will discuss abnormal mental influences of the mother1 resulting in what are commonly called birthmarks4 ,the best statistics available on the subject indicate that but one child in every #b1jjj is marked4 ,personally1 ,i am inclined to believe that birthmarks are about twice this frequent4 ,the laity think that the per cent4 is even larger1 as each individual has seen or heard of several cases4 ,only the nervous mothers4--,perhaps not one mother in twenty could mark her child4 ,only those mothers who are very susceptible to unusual mental impressions mark their children4 ,nervous1 gloomy1 despondent1 excitable mothers are liable to do this4 ,practically nineteen-twentieths of the mothers need not have a moment's fear of marking their child4 ,if these facts are true1 then it follows that there are many children who in their prenatal state possessed a temperament not susceptible to abnormal maternal impressions4 ,such a child1 in all probability1 could not be marked1 even if the mother had passed through mental states favorable to marking her child4 ,the materialist puzzled4--,birthmarks cannot be explained on a physiological or materialistic basis4 ,only as we recognize the supremacy of the mental nature of man over his body can we understand these hereditary influences4 ,almost all ,christian doctors and scientists recognize the fact of birthmarks4 ,men of these professions1 who are materialistic in their belief1 treat the subject of birthmarks as a relic of superstition4 ,not being able to explain them1 they relegate all birthmarks to the 8unknowables10 calling them freaks or monstrosities4 ,a government pet4--,after one of the doctors in a state insane asylum1 appointed to this position by the governor for some political favor he had done and without any regard to his qualifications1 had conducted me through all the wards1 ,i said1 8,doctor1 what emphasis do you put upon heredity in your study and treatment of the inmates of this institution80 8,very little10 he replied4 8,do you believe that mental and moral states of the mother have any influence over her child before it is born80 ,to this question he replied1 8,i believe nutrition and pelvic environment are the only prenatal relations between the child and its mother40 ,i then asked him to explain some of the following cases of birthmarks by his theory4 ,he did not believe in birthmarks at all1 and stated that as he did not have the opportunity to investigate the pelvic conditions of the mothers1 he should not be expected to explain the cases ,i gave him4 ,i will leave the reader to judge whether that little political pet could have explained the following cases with his theory4 ,explanation4--,birthmarks can be explained only by the influences of the mother's mental states upon the forming child in her body4 ,no single mentation could possibly mark her child in a very perceptible way4 ,it is the constant repetition of the mental image in the mother's mind that finally takes expression in the physical form of the child4 ,to illustrate1 the first conscious mentation1 after an act of murder1 does not give the criminal the facial expression of a murderer4 ,but after days of thinking of his crime1 even if there were no eye witnesses to his crime and he were not even suspected of guilt1 yet his face gradually takes on the features of a criminal4 ,he cannot remove that criminal look with soap and water1 or by crying or laughing4 ,that conscious thought of his crime oft repeated has finally taken expression in physical form4 ,a genuine conversion to ,christ alone can remove the criminal look4 ,the same is true of all classes of criminals4 ,harmony of mental states between husband and wife finally establishes a decided resemblance4 ,mother and child vitally one4--,the physical organism of man is never more susceptible to mental impression than during its plastic state before birth4 ,the mother and her child are in continuous vital communication with each other4 ,in a very vital sense the mother is the architect of her child4 ,if the mother keeps herself in a perfectly normal state1 the child will most likely be normal4 ,any abnormal state the mother may pass through may have its abnormal influence upon her child4 ,the effect of a constant mental repetition4--,the initial mentation1 whether it be a scare1 anger1 sympathy1 grief1 desire or disgust locates and starts the birthmarks4 ,if this unusual initial mental image were never repeated1 the effect on the child would be hardly perceptible4 ,if the murderer could prevent the return of the mental picture of his crime1 the criminal look in his face would not become noticeable4 ,it is the constant repetition of the first mental state that finally takes permanent form in the child's body4 ,how to prevent marking a child4--,how can susceptible mothers prevent marking their children8 ,by refusing to repeat the mental image4 ,they should keep their minds engaged in other matters4 ,banish the mental picture every time it occurs in the stream of consciousness4 ,in this way birthmarks may be largely prevented4 ,the following cases are only a few that ,i have studied personally and know to be true4 ,i have had many friends tell me of cases known to them1 many of which would be very interesting to you1 but ,i refrain from the use of them in this lecture4 ,frightened by a crawfish4--,rev4 ,t4 of ----1 had a right thumb that was double to the first joint4 ,he told me that his mother1 while washing clothes at a stream1 turned over a flat rock and a crawfish caught her by the thumb with one of its big claws4 ,in her fright she flung the crawfish out on the bank4 ,i studied another case that was very nearly a duplicate of this one4 ,these are examples of fright4 ,arkansas mother4--,while ,i was filling an engagement in the town of ----1 ,ark41 the pastor's wife became the mother of a little girl whose fingers were quite long and the joints of the fingers1 hands and arms1 stiff4 ,she was quite nervous and despondent during gestation4 ,she told me that one day when she was alone at home and especially gloomy and nervous1 she heard some one rap at the door and looking up she saw a man standing at the door with deformed hands4 ,frightened at a mole4--,i went out eleven miles from ,g4 ,c41 state of ----1 to study a very sad case in the home of a cultured young couple4 ,the child was two years old4 ,its hands were turned with the palms backwards and its arms were not over six inches long4 ,it preferred to crawl rather than walk4 ,on the floor it handled itself like a mole4 ,the mother told me that in the early months of gestation she was greatly frightened at a mole4 ,marked by anger4--,while giving a course of lectures in the city of ,c41 ,missouri1 one day while walking down a street ,i noticed a four-year-old white-headed boy with a big patch of jet-black hair on the right side of his head4 ,the contrast between the black and the white was very striking4 ,the father told me that he and his wife were undecided what one of two possible causes was responsible for the birthmark4 ,he said1 8,one day1 while my wife stood on the back porch1 a negro stabbed a man and when he saw an officer approaching he leaped over our yard fence and ran across our back yard4 ,seeing that he was running into the arms of another officer1 he threw down his knife in the deep grass4 ,the next day he got out on bail and came to our home and asked for permission to look for his knife4 ,the other possible cause was1 my wife and her neighbor had fallen out4 ,one day this lady called at our home and my wife considered her an intruder1 the old trouble was renewed and my wife pulled her hair4 ,this lady had very black hair4 ,now we do not know which of those occurrences is responsible for the patch of black hair on the boy40 ,i replied1 8,i know with almost absolute certainty40 ,he asked for my opinion and reason4 ,my reply was1 8,had it been caused by the negro1 the patch of black hair would have been kinky4 ,nature is always true to itself4 ,i once knew a case where a mother was frightened by an angry dog and on her child was a patch of canine hair4 ,the fact that the hair in the mark on the child is straight black hair shows that it was due to your wife's pulling the hair of her neighbor40 ,this is a case due to unusual anger4 ,marked by disgust4--,after giving a special lecture to ladies in the city of ,t----1 ,kan41 an elderly lady1 in company with a friend1 sought an interview with me4 ,she told me the following sad personal experience3 8,one summer1 husband persuaded me to go with him and the children to our county fair4 ,being quite nervous and easily fatigued1 ,i requested that ,i be permitted to spend the time in the carriage while he and the children enjoyed the fair4 ,i had been sitting in the carriage but a short time when ,i noticed a crowd gathering around some object of attraction and ,i decided to go and see what it was4 ,on a table stood a four-year-old boy wearing the false head of an old man4 ,there was nothing grotesque or unnatural about the head4 ,but the contrast produced in me a feeling of disgust4 ,the thought was suggested to me1 some one might be frightened at that boy and mark her child1 but ,i will not1 for ,i am disgusted4 ,i wondered that others did not feel disgusted as ,i did4 ,on returning to my carriage the feeling of disgust and the mental picture of the child remained with me4 ,when husband and children came ,i related to them what ,i had seen4 ,for weeks after this event the mental picture of the child with the head of an old man would appear in the stream of consciousness accompanied with a feeling of disgust4 ,after two days of parturition1 a seven-month child was removed from my body by an operation4 ,its head was abnormally large and had the appearance of an old man40 ,here was a case due to disgust4 ,marked by sympathy4--,ten days ago ,i was entertained by a family having a very nervous temperament4 ,the son-in-law sat in a rocking chair on the front veranda holding his three-year-old child in his arms4 ,the child was helpless1 emaciated and in breathing made a wheezing noise4 ,this condition had obtained since her birth4 ,during the period of gestation1 a sickly1 poor1 wheezing1 half-grown hog was kept in the yard and cared for by the nervous mother of the child4 ,the condition of the hog constantly enlisted the sympathy of the mother4 ,this was the history of the case as told me by the child's father4 ,this birthmark was caused by unusual sympathy4 ,an amusing case4--,in most cases abnormal maternal impressions do not result in serious injuries to children4 ,while lecturing at ,m----1 ,ky41 ,i was told by a mother how she had marked one of her children4 ,she had listened1 a few days before1 to some lady callers explaining the cause of a woman's giving birth to twins4 ,these uninformed women claimed that if a prospective mother should find and become interested in a number of twin objects in nature1 such as eggs with double yolks1 twin apples1 peaches1 ears of corn1 potatoes1 tomatoes1 etc41 that she would most certainly be the mother of twins4 ,a few days after this conversation she was gathering cucumbers4 ,the vines were wet and the ground soaked by frequent showers4 ,for this reason she was barefooted4 ,she stooped over to remove from between two toes a small object that had lodged between them4 ,the object proved to be a most perfect small twin cucumber4 ,the mother recalled the conversation of her friends1 and this experience came up in her mind so often that she would not have been surprised at twins4 ,the child born later had the most perfect twin toes4 ,a sad case4--,while delivering a lecture on heredity in a leading ,western college my attention was called to a very intelligent face in the audience4 ,it was a young lady who appeared to have no hands or arms4 ,later ,i observed tiny undeveloped hands largely concealed by very short sleeves4 ,at the close of the address ,i asked the president about her4 ,he informed me that she was unusually bright and that her affliction was from birth4 ,he arranged for me to have an interview with her4 ,i found that she had two and three fingers to the hand and that her hands and arms had not grown since birth4 ,in every other particular she was a most attractive and perfect figure4 ,her mother's explanation was that before her birth she was one day holding her brother1 then a baby1 in her lap while operating the sewing machine4 ,the little fellow put his hand where the needle was forced through his finger4 ,the mother fainted4 ,the mental picture in the mother's mind was that some of the baby's fingers were cut off4 ,the mental impression lingered in the mother's mind4 ,the young lady's arms were about six inches long4 ,on one hand there were two fingers1 on the other there were three fingers4 ,her arms and hands had not grown any since birth4 ,otherwise she was normally developed4 ,marked her child twice4--,about the close of a lecture in one of the ,central ,western states1 a lady asked me to call at the ,cash ,store1 explaining that she wanted an hour's interview with me4 ,i found her to be a lady of extremely susceptible temperament1 refined and cultured1 but a bundle of nerves4 ,she was the mother of three little nervous children4 ,before calling in her oldest child1 which she had marked twice1 she explained her experience4 ,she said1 8,in our early marriage we owned a cow that we were very proud of4 ,husband and ,i had often wished that she were dehorned4 ,one morning my husband's brother secretly dehorned her4 ,the servant boy finding it out ran to the house and urged me to go out to the barn and see what had occurred4 ,when ,i rushed suddenly upon the scene1 ,i seized the fingers of the right hand with the left and screamed4 ,there were several large clear blisters on the cow's head4 ,when my little girl was born the index finger of the right hand was off at the second joint1 the other three fingers were entirely absent and several blisters had to be removed by the physician4 8,during the second or third month of gestation ,i was told that one of the neighbors had given birth to a child with one foot turned entirely around4 ,my curiosity led me to go over and see the child4 ,when our girl was born her left foot was turned completely around1 the toes pointing backwards4 ,we have spent sixteen hundred dollars trying to have the foot turned back4 ,we have succeeded only in a small measure40 ,then she said1 8,i never heard of birthmarks until after my child was born4 ,if ,i could have heard your series of lectures1 it would have been worth a fortune to me4 ,i believe this misfortune could and would have been avoided40 ,the reader must not conclude that these pathetic cases are common4 ,they are not4 ,the cases cited here represent fully one-half of the extreme cases that ,i have personally studied during years of travel and lecturing4 ,they forcefully illustrate the possibilities of maternal impressions on the forming child4 ,,chapter ,l ,,heredity1 ,,environment ,,and ,,redemption ,illustration3 ,,heredity ,,chart ,,of ,,emma ,w4 ,the burden of the feeble-minded4--,the history of ,emma ,w41 at one time an inmate of ,letchworth ,village1 a ,new ,york institution for the feeble-minded1 should be convincing that it is bad policy to let the feeble-minded drift in and out of the almshouse2 that it is but humanity and economy to segregate them1 and to strike at the causes of mental defect4 ,emma ,w4 came to life in an almshouse1 stamped with illegitimacy and feeble-mindedness4 ,her family's record reads3 mother1 two brothers1 and a sister feeble-minded2 mother's father feeble-minded and mother's mother tuberculous4 ,when a second child was expected the mother was induced by well-meaning people to marry the father1 who was a drunken epileptic4 ,two children were born4 ,still later the same well-meaning people aided her to get a divorce in order to marry the father of another child about to be born4 ,since then four more have been born4 ,all of these children are feeble-minded4 ,entire family1 with exception of the oldest child1 is at large4 ,the accompanying chart1 taken from ,the ,survey1 ,march #b1 #aiab1 shows graphically her heredity4 ,our studies at ,vineland have shown that #fe per cent4 of feeble-minded people are the children of feeble-minded people2 in other words1 that the condition is strongly hereditary4 ,therefore1 if these people are allowed to become parents1 they will bring into the world another group of people like themselves who will thus perpetuate the social waste4 ,the following charts show the heredity of two families4 ,we have two hundred like these--#fe per cent4 of all our inmates show such history4 ,the symbols used in the charts are the following3 ,square indicates male4 ,circle indicates female4 ,a capital letter indicates disease1 habit1 or condition1 as follows3 ,a1 alcoholic 7habitual drunkard72 ,b1 blind2 ,c1 criminal2 ,d1 deaf2 ,e1 epileptic2 ,f1 feeble-minded1 either black letter1 or white letter on black ground 7the former when sex is unknown72 ,i1 insane2 ,n1 normal2 ,sx1 grave sexual offender2 ,sy1 syphilitic2 ,t1 tuberculosis4 ,any of these letters may be used with no square or circle when sex is unknown4 ,when even the letter is omitted the vertical line points to the fact that there was an individual of whom nothing is known4 ,small black circle indicates miscarriage--time is given 7in months7 when known1 also cause2 stillbirth is shown as a miscarriage at nine months2 b born2 d died2 m married2 inf infancy2 hand shows which child is in the institution for feeble-minded2 illeg illegitimate2 heavy line under any symbol indicates that the person is in some institution at the expense of society4 ,illustration3 ,chart ,i4 ,chart ,i shows the descendants of a feeble-minded woman who was married twice4 ,her first husband was normal4 ,there were four normal children1 one of whom is alcoholic4 ,this alcoholic son married a normal woman and produced two feeble-minded and three normal children4 ,this is another instance of the defect skipping a generation1 being transmitted by the grandmother through the father4 ,the second marriage of this feeble-minded woman was with an alcoholic and immoral man4 ,the result was four feeble-minded children4 ,one of these became alcoholic and syphilitic and married a feeble-minded woman4 ,she was one of three imbecile children1 born of two imbecile parents4 ,the result here could1 of course1 be nothing but defectives4 ,there were two stillborn1 and three that died in infancy4 ,six others lived to be determined feeble-minded4 ,one of these was a criminal4 ,two are in the institution at ,vineland4 ,the mother's sister also has a feeble-minded son4 ,illustration3 ,,chart ,,ii ,a4 ,chart ,,ii 7in two parts7 is in some ways the most astonishing one we have4 ,there are in the institution at ,vineland five children representing1 as we had always supposed1 three entirely independent families4 ,we discovered1 however1 that they all belonged to one stock4 ,in ,chart ,,ii1 ,a1 the central figure1 the alcoholic father of three of the children in the institution1 married for his third wife a woman who was a prostitute and a keeper of a house of ill fame1 herself feeble-minded1 and with five feeble-minded brothers and sisters4 ,one of these sisters is the grandmother represented on ,chart ,,ii1 ,b4 ,on ,a it will be seen that this alcoholic man was four times married4 ,he comes from a good family but was spoiled in his bringing up1 became alcoholic and immoral--a degenerate man4 ,his first wife1 however1 was a normal woman and it is claimed that the two children were normal4 ,for his second wife1 he took out of the poorhouse a feeble-minded woman4 ,her children were3 two normal1 one that died young1 and one feeble-minded4 ,he married the third time4 ,the woman was the prostitute above referred to4 ,she had three illegitimate children1 all feeble-minded4 ,after their marriage1 they had three children1 all of whom are feeble-minded4 ,two of these are in this institution4 ,the father then deserted this woman and married a fourth wife1 who is alcoholic and a prostitute4 ,of this union1 however1 there are no children4 ,there is1 moreover1 very strong evidence that he is the father of the third child in this institution by another woman1 who is also feeble-minded4 ,illustration3 ,chart ,,ii ,b4 ,chart ,,ii1 ,b1 will be understood if we note that the mother's mother is a sister of the third wife of the much-married man of ,chart ,,ii1 ,a4 ,this sister married a feeble-minded man1 and the result of that union was seven feeble-minded children1 of whom one is a criminal and one an epileptic4 ,four are married4 ,the feeble-minded epileptic woman married a normal man1 who is one of a fairly good family4 ,his mother was insane1 the father died in an almshouse2 however1 we find no mental defect4 ,as the result of this marriage1 we have seven feeble-minded children1 four others that died in infancy1 and there were two miscarriages4 ,this is the fourth child of this strain that is in our institution4 ,the fifth one referred to is a half-sister of the other girl referred to on ,chart ,,ii1 ,a4 ,the foregoing charts and description were taken from the article of ,henry ,h4 ,goddard1 ,ph4,d41 ,director of ,vineland1 ,n4 ,j41 ,school for ,feeble-minded1 in the ,march #bnd1 #aiab1 issue of the ,survey4 ,the agencies of improvement4--,in all organic life1 vegetable1 animal and man1 two agencies are ever operative2 heredity and environment4 ,in plant life these two agencies operate entirely on the physical plain4 ,this is perhaps true among the lower forms of animal life4 ,but1 among the higher forms of animal life1 we find very distinct manifestations of rudimentary intelligence4 ,among the higher animals1 experiments show that these agencies are operative on the physical and mental plains4 ,in man these agencies are operative on the physical1 mental and moral plains4 ,among plants and animals1 where these two agencies are under the intelligent control of man1 improvements are marked and rapid4 ,where they are not under the control of man1 progress is scarcely perceptible4 ,plants and animals live in harmony with law1 man appears to be largely out of harmony with law2 plants and animals keep law1 man violates law4 ,that man is fallen and needs additional help to heredity and environment is apparent to all who think4 ,this help we call conversion1 regeneration or redemption4 ,it is not the province of this chapter to advocate any theory of religion4 ,the purpose of this chapter is to show the relation of these agencies in the improvement of the human race4 ,what one receives at birth constitutes his heredity4--,this consists of a normal or defective physical constitution1 the natural bent of mind and its rudimentary possibilities and the innate tendencies toward good or evil4 ,the physical1 mental and moral influences one receives after birth constitute his environment4 ,ideal environment tends to direct1 develop and to mature the results of good heredity and to correct the results of bad heredity4 ,bad environment tends to neutralize the effects of good heredity and to intensify the effects of bad heredity4 ,if a child has inherited a frail constitution1 this can be overcome largely or entirely by proper physical training1 appropriate food and observing other health laws4 ,in such cases1 heavy drugging will do but little good4 ,if nature is aided by intelligent parents1 who have inspired their unfortunate child with an intense interest and purpose to out-grow every defect1 he will accomplish wonders4 ,if a child has inherited a tendency toward tuberculosis1 this can be entirely overcome by physical training1 deep breathing1 nutritious food and ventilated bed rooms4 ,the same is true of many other physical defects4 ,our mental possibilities are largely inherited4--,schools and colleges do not produce great minds4 ,they direct1 train and develop the inherited mental possibilities4 ,children of mediocrity should have every possible encouragement and opportunity for mental improvement4 ,they cannot succeed without it4 ,their offspring will inherit improved mental possibilities1 if their parents are wisely trained in childhood4 ,children who have inherited special genius will succeed in spite of limited opportunities1 but they will succeed better by having the advantage of a good education4 ,a practical study of the psychology of childhood1 in relation to mental heredity1 would lead parents and teachers to be more patient1 sympathetic and wise in the mental training of many children4 ,heredity and moral tendencies4--,heredity is just as potential in the moral realm as in the physical and mental4 ,children inherit tendencies toward good or evil1 virtue or vice4 ,what they inherit morally is determined by the relation of their ancestors to moral laws4 ,parental responsibility4--,parents are not only responsible for the number of children born in the home1 whether few or many1 close together or far apart1 but they are also largely responsible for their children's being born with strong or weak constitutions1 brilliant or stupid minds1 good or bad tendencies4 ,when this responsibility is more fully understood by parents1 their children will be better born4 ,the greatest blessing parents can bequeath to their children is not wealth1 but a good heredity4 ,a very large part of a child's training1 good or bad1 is prenatal4 ,right from birth1 before environment has had time to influence the child1 examples of children who are easily trained1 and cases that are trained with the greatest difficulty1 are perfectly familiar to all of us4 ,environment is fully as potential in a child's life as is heredity4--,a child may receive the most unfavorable heredity1 and good environment may lead the child to become much superior to his parents1 brothers and sisters4 ,again1 a child may receive the very best heredity1 and a bad environment may lead him to mental neglect and moral disaster4 ,parents can determine largely the heredity of the child2 but they can furnish only a small part of a child's environment4 ,unknown to the parents1 a playmate1 a neighbor1 a servant1 in a few words or a single act1 may give a child an impulse toward vice that may lead the child into years of sin4 ,the real cause of the child's going wrong may ever remain unknown to the parents4 ,value of early environment4--,the total of a child's environment is furnished by the whole of society4 ,fortunately1 parents have largely the control of the first years of a child's environment4 ,unfortunately1 most parents have tried to safeguard the virtue of their children by keeping them ignorant of everything pertaining to their sex natures4 ,just here parents have often failed because of their false idea of good environment4 ,ignorance of the sex nature is not a safeguard4 ,children are often engaging in sexual sins months or years before the parents dream of danger4 ,many servants employed in and about the home are impure in mind or practice or both2 often they are sex perverts4 ,they take a fiendish delight in teaching vice to even a small child4 ,parents cannot be too careful in the selection of servants4 ,they should have the most positive understanding that no profanity1 obscenity or vice is to be engaged in by the servant4 ,sexual vice is the most common and dangerous vice of childhood4 ,it always leads to other forms of wrong-doing4 ,proper sex instruction1 given by the parents at the right time and in the right way1 is the only sane safeguard to the virtue of childhood4 ,heredity1 environment1 ,christ4--,a bad environment may lead a child of good heredity for a number of years into vice and sin2 but the inherent good tendencies often assert themselves and help the prodigal to return4 ,a child with a bad heredity1 made and kept good by an ideal environment1 is never as strong or safe as a child of good heredity and good environment4 ,every child at birth is the sum total of all the influences1 good and bad1 along the line of his lineage back to ,adam4 ,every child has more or less of hereditary degeneracy4 ,all children are exposed more or less to bad environment4 ,all children need to accept ,christ1 to be transformed by ,his power and freed from the domination of inherited and acquired evil4 ,good heredity and good environment make it easy for children to accept ,christ and live the ,christ life4 ,bad heredity and bad environment make it difficult for children to accept and live the ,christ life4 ,it is the duty of parents to know and practice the laws of heredity and prenatal culture2 to furnish the child as far as possible with a good environment and a sane knowledge of himself2 and to influence him to accept ,christ4 ,each child's duty to himself is to recognize his conscious personal obligation to himself and to society1 of mastering every inherited and acquired weakness1 of developing fully every inherent possibility1 and of accepting ,christ as a necessity to the fullest attainment of the loftiest ideals4 ,god's greatest blessing1 offered to every individual1 is personal redemption through faith in ,his ,son4 ,these three agencies1 good heredity1 good environment1 and redemption2 or right generation1 right education and regeneration1 are essential to a perfect life4 ,,chapter ,,li ,,courtship1 ,,marriage ,,and ,,divorce ,the modern girl4--,a quarter of a century ago a community knew a year ahead when one of its young women was going to be married4 ,in this fast age1 some parents don't find it out until after their daughter has been married six months or more4 ,when the author was a boy1 the engaged girl spent her spare time piecing quilts1 making feather pillows and beds1 drying apples1 peaches and pumpkins1 making preserves1 gathering garden seed and raising a flock of chickens4 ,she had religious convictions4 ,the ,bible idea of a woman is a 8help meet40 ,she was preparing to help meet the expenses of a home4 ,the modern girl too often helps spend her gentleman friend's hard-earned money at the soda fountain1 on livery rigs and at the ten cent shows4 ,thousands of young men are not getting married to-day1 because they are afraid of the expense of these modern help-eats1 help-wears and help-spends4 ,customs have changed4--,true1 times and customs have changed and much of the work of women a quarter of a century ago is no longer profitable4 ,the ,illustration same is true of the work of men4 ,but these changes do not justify a large number of girls idling away a number of years waiting for men to come along and marry them4 ,such girls make extravagant wives4 ,they cannot know the value of a dollar4 ,the independent girl4--,parents should furnish their daughter with remunerative labor1 or they should see that she is fitted for some position that will enable her to be independent4 ,the independent girl is no more likely to fall than the idle girl at home4 ,the independent girl who gets out into the world with her brother1 shoulders the same burdens1 masters the same difficulties1 fights the same battles1 acquires a poise and dignity1 a freedom of action and speech1 a knowledge of business and economy that give her an attractiveness that the idle fashion-plate girl on the bargain counter of the marriage market cannot compete with4 ,this class of girls do not have to marry the first chance that comes around in order to have a home4 ,parents too anxious to get their girls married4--,the financial burden of supporting from two to four idle girls is no small item4 ,many parents are anxious to get them married as soon as possible4 ,the girls soon find it out4 ,when ten years old1 such girls are making goo-goo eyes at the boys2 when eleven1 they are passing notes to every ,tom1 ,dick and ,harry in the schoolroom2 when twelve1 they are desperately in love2 when thirteen and fourteen1 they have their mother's consent to marry2 when fifteen1 they are in the divorce courts1 and three months later they have their second husbands4 ,one of the ,st4 ,louis dailies1 over one year ago1 had a notice of two 8runaways40 ,one girl was twelve and the other thirteen4 ,when overtaken by their fathers1 brought back home and locked up in a room1 to prevent a second attempt1 one admitted to a reporter that up to that time she had not learned that ,santa ,claus was not a real being and the other sent for her dolls to play with4 ,another case4--,in one town in which ,i lectured ,i was told of a mother who accompanied her thirteen-year-old-daughter and an eighteen-year-old boy to the county clerk's office and gave her consent to her daughter's marriage4 ,to the clerk's question1 8,don't you think your daughter rather young to be married80 she replied4 8,gee1 ,i got married when ,i was thirteen and my oldest daughter got married when she was fourteen40 ,didn't she need the protection of an asylum8 ,a woman in ,arkansas4--,in ,arkansas1 you know what does not happen anywhere else sometimes happens in that state4 ,i found a woman who ran away to get married when she was thirteen1 had been married three times1 had three divorced husbands1 three families of children1 aggregating twelve in number2 was still a young woman and trying to get married the fourth time4 ,that was courtship1 marriage and divorce with a vengeance6 ,in this country anything can get married4--,a confirmed degenerate criminal can marry1 as soon as his term expires in a reformatory1 or penitentiary4 ,a feeble-minded person can improve a little1 be returned home1 and get married4 ,a few years later we are supporting them and their delinquent progeny4 ,we can never empty the reformatories1 penitentiaries and asylums until we quit producing these classes4 ,immature marriages can no more produce perfect offspring than can the mating of immature domestic animals4 ,the girl is not mature until she is nineteen or twenty and a boy until he is twenty-two or twenty-four4 ,better customs and laws needed4--,we are in need of social and legal reform in the social relations of young people1 marriage and divorce4 ,in ,england and ,canada1 rarely does a girl keep company with a young man as a sweetheart before she is eighteen and rarely married before she is nineteen or twenty4 ,she is usually chaperoned by an older woman when she goes out to drive1 attend a lecture or to take a stroll with a young man4 ,in this country1 little1 innocent1 undeveloped1 irresponsible girls are permitted to go buggy riding at night1 attend cheap shows and go on excursions unchaperoned1 with young men whose reputations are not the best4 ,we are reaping the fearful harvest4 ,one-half of our erring girls fell before they were seventeen1 and over one-half of our divorces occur among women who married before they were seventeen4 ,our social customs make it possible for one-half of our erring girls to fall before they know the name of the act that involves their character and destiny4 ,girls sixteen years old have not had time to develop mentally to where they can safely choose a companion for life4 ,if a girl1 one day younger than eighteen1 should buy a pig without her father's consent1 the law gives him the right to compel the former owner to take the pig back and to return to him the money4 ,the state reasons that a girl under eighteen is not sufficiently developed in judgment to be held responsible for buying a pig4 ,but1 according to our customs and laws1 a girl can intelligently tie herself up for life to the unfortunate appendix to the wet end of a cigarette1 or a miserable old jug-handle1 and be held responsible for her choice4 ,in other words1 we think that it takes less judgment for a girl to choose a life partner than it does to buy a half-grown hog4 ,divorce is on the increase4--,births and marriages are on the decrease4 ,in #ahgj1 we had one divorce to every thirty-eight marriages4 ,in #aijj1 we had one divorce to every fourteen and a half marriages4 ,now we are having one divorce to every eleven and a quarter marriages4 ,i noticed in one of the ,ohio dailies a few days ago that one county had one hundred and thirty-two divorces in twelve months4 ,all last year1 ,canada had only seventeen divorces4 ,several counties in the ,united ,states1 each had ten times as many divorces last year1 as did the entire ,dominion of ,canada4 ,canada has more stringent marriage and divorce laws than the ,united ,states4 ,it is the maternal and paternal instincts that prompt the lower animals to pair off and mate4 ,their love for each other and their young is the child of their sex nature4 ,the desexed lower animals are devoid of the instinct that prompts wooing and mating4 ,it is the promptings of the paternal and maternal natures1 which are inseparable from the normal sex nature1 that lead to a beautiful and joyful courtship1 to a harmonious1 happy marriage and to a family of fair daughters and lusty sons4 ,causes of wrecked homes4--8,intemperance10 8abuse10 8non-support10 or 8desertion10 reply the jury in the court room and the judge on the bench4 ,these are1 usually1 only indirect causes4 ,the one main cause of wrecked homes1 the abuse of marital rights1 is rarely mentioned in the court room4 ,if all married people were normal in their sex natures1 unselfish love would reign in the homes and divorce courts would be largely a thing of the past4 ,through universal ignorance of the true nature and functions of the ,god-given1 ,god-honored and sacred sanctuary of reproduction1 the youth1 by mental and mechanical abuse of these functions1 becomes more or less sensual4 ,sexuality is slowly transformed into sensuality and love into lust4 ,ignorant of the laws of life1 the duties and responsibilities of marriage and parentage1 men are often prompted more by uncontrolled desire than by unselfish love in their choice of a wife1 they are largely governed by physical attractions1 or wealth4 ,the present ethics of marriage makes the wife submit to the sensual demands of the husband4 ,this view of marriage converts love into lust1 prevents the harmonizing of their differences1 the proper blending of their personalities and the two never become one4 ,divorce is not the cause of wrecked homes4--,wrecked homes are the cause of divorce4 ,the divorce problem will be solved in the solution of the home problems4 ,the home problems will be largely solved when children and youths receive proper sex instruction1 when young people are properly safeguarded in their social relations as friends and lovers1 and when they are properly educated in home-building4 ,marriage a civil and ,divine institution4--,the sacred institution of marriage is being trifled with4 ,easy to get married1 and easy to get divorced1 are a nation's shame and will quickly bring a nation's fall4 ,by a system of sane education and legislation the paramount importance1 dignity1 responsibility and sacredness of marriage over other institutions would be impressed on the mind of the masses4 ,marriage is both a civil and religious institution4 ,civil law should protect the rights of marriage and judiciously determine who shall and who shall not marry4 ,the marriage ceremony should be performed1 when possible1 in a church and a minister of recognized qualifications should officiate4 ,the church should be decorated not only with flowers and foliage1 but also the nation's flag and colors should have prominent display4 ,not only should some of the church officers be present1 but also1 some of the civil officers should be present4 ,the church and state should bear this expense4 ,no marriage fees should be charged or expected from rich or poor4 ,the parties to be married and the community would see that the state and church are substantially interested in home and nation building4 ,in this way marriage would be placed on a high and dignified basis4 ,when a man and woman take the marriage vows1 they have assumed duties and responsibilities more vital and far greater than does a governor or president-elect assume1 when he takes the oath of office4 ,the primary purpose of marriage is to increase the species4 ,in this function they are to serve the nation by helping to furnish the next generation of citizens4 ,the most illiterate and poverty-stricken couple1 who faithfully do their best to raise a family of children1 are of far more value to a nation's strength and perpetuity than a millionaire home consisting of husband1 wife and a poodle dog4 ,new marriage laws4--,we should have uniform state laws restricting the marriage of men and women who are in advanced stages of consumption1 of the feeble-minded1 the confirmed criminal1 the degenerate and the venereally diseased4 ,we need uniform state laws requiring a reasonable knowledge of the laws of life1 of marital rights1 of heredity and prenatal culture and of the duties and responsibilities of marriage and parentage4 ,to make such restrictions and education possible all candidates for marriage should be required to register their proposed marriage with the county clerk at least three months before the license is granted4 ,at the expense of the state1 this proposed marriage should be announced through at least one paper during this period4 ,this publicity would prevent all clandestine marriages and would rob the white slave procurer of one of his chief methods of securing his victims4 ,in recent years1 in nearly every community1 a stranger has won the affections of an unsuspecting girl and the confidence of her family1 married her1 and in six months time it was whispered that he had another family somewhere that he ought to be supporting4 ,the white slaver uses the love method very effectively4 ,the law suggested would prevent these impositions and crimes against society4 ,when the proposed marriage is registered1 the state should furnish each with a book presenting in simple language the information to which reference was made in a preceding paragraph4 ,at the expiration of three months1 let them give satisfactory evidence of a reasonable knowledge of the teaching of the book4 ,before the marriage license is finally granted1 each should furnish the state with a certificate of good health4 ,this would prevent the marriage of the physically and mentally unfit4 ,if properly enforced1 these new marriage laws would promote domestic harmony1 prevent untold misery1 stop the crime of feticide1 reduce the annual birth of defective children and increase the birth-rate of normal children4 ,the young man should have not less than five hundred dollars in money or property1 or he should have a fair education and a position with adequate income to support a wife4 ,,eighth ,,division ,,vital ,,facts ,,for ,,the ,,married ,,or ,,unmarried1 ,,of ,,middle ,,life ,,and ,,old ,,age ,,chapter ,,lii ,,vital ,,facts ,,concerning ,,the ,,change ,,of ,,the ,,life ,,in ,,woman ,,and ,,the ,,years ,,to ,,follow ,similarity of changes in the sexes4--,men and women are complements of each other4 ,they have two correspondingly important and similar periods in life4 ,in man1 the first is when the genital glands begin to secrete procreative life4 ,this usually occurs when he is from fourteen to fifteen4 ,this change indicates that nature has begun her work of preparing the male genital organs for their primal function--fatherhood4 ,nature's processes work gradually4 ,she is apparently in no hurry4 ,if not interfered with1 she will accomplish a perfect work4 ,hence we find1 that while nature is preparing the boy for fatherhood1 this function is not possible for three or four years after the change begins2 and that the function performed at this time would mean a defective child4 ,careful investigations show that among children whose fathers married at ,illustration3 ,,well ,,preserved ,,and ,,contented ,,in ,,old ,,age twenty or younger1 eight to ten per cent4 more of these children die in the first year than among children whose fathers married at twenty-four or later4 ,this would indicate that the sexual life of the male has a double creative function4 ,the first is to create a father1 which requires eight to ten years4 ,this1 however1 is only preparatory to the second1 the primal function of fatherhood4 ,the second change in man occurs when he is from forty-five to fifty-five and the physical indications are that this period of procreation should close4 ,in woman1 the first important period usually occurs from twelve to fourteen1 when the functions of menstruation and ovulation begin4 ,the change indicates that nature has begun her work of fitting the female genital organs for their primal function--motherhood4 ,in woman as in man1 nature takes her own time4 ,as a rule motherhood would not be possible for a year or two after this change has begun4 ,even then the child would reveal defects4 ,carefully gathered facts show that among children1 whose mothers married at sixteen1 four to five per cent4 more die in the first year than among children whose mothers married at or near twenty4 ,this would indicate that the sexual life of the female has a double creative function4 ,the first is to create a mother1 which requires a period of six to eight years4 ,this1 however1 also is only preparatory to the primal functions of the sexual life--motherhood4 ,the second change in a woman's life occurs when she is from forty to forty-nine and the physical changes which occur bring her procreative period of life to a close4 ,the primal purpose of marriage4--,if boys and girls were properly trained and safeguarded1 if our customs and habits of life were natural instead of artificial2 they would use up their sexual energy in their various activities4 ,under such normal conditions the gradually developing paternal and maternal instincts1 which are the products of maturing sexual life1 would be under perfect control and lead them to marry for the primal purpose of procreating the species and perpetuating the race4 ,this ,god-implanted paternal and maternal instinct1 in their relation to the normally developing sexual natures1 are so strong that matured young people are willing to assume every burden connected with maintaining a home and every sacrifice incident to raising a family of children4 ,maternity not an affliction4--,no normal wife1 properly educated1 who has the right view of marriage1 looks upon maternity as an affliction4 ,no woman1 capable of normal motherhood should marry1 who considers maternity a great affliction4 ,the woman who is willing to sell the use of her body to one man in marriage for the consideration of being married1 for food1 clothing and shelter1 and who deliberately and willfully avoids maternity1 is but little better than the woman who prostitutes herself to a number of men for a price4 ,the motives that lead a man and woman to commit prostitution outside of the bonds of marriage cannot be made sacred and pure by the sanction of law and a marriage ceremony4 ,when husband and wife are mutually agreed1 in this crime1 he is as guilty as she4 ,procreative periods in the sexes4--,the possible procreative period of man extends from about seventeen to the close of life4 ,his normal procreative period extends from about twenty-four to the beginning of his change of life4 ,the possible procreative period of woman extends from puberty to the close of the change of life4 ,her normal procreative period extends from about twenty to the beginning of her change of life4 ,function of menstruation4--,the function of menstruation is to prepare the womb for the reception of embryonic life4 ,since the womb during menstruation is not prepared for the reception of this beginning life1 the wife instinctively repels the sexual approaches of her husband4 ,pregnancy a period of continence4--,when impregnation occurs and the womb becomes the closed home of embryonic life1 sexual desire largely or entirely ceases in the normal woman4 ,she now enters a nine-month period of gestation4 ,again it is natural for her to repel sexual approaches of her husband4 ,all the pregnant females among the lower animals and savage man faithfully repel the approach of their mates during gestation4 ,this law is violated alone by semi-civilized and civilized man4 ,the females among the lower animals and savage men do not dread maternity and the males are normal and do not force their demands upon their mates during gestation4 ,why maternity is regarded as an affliction4--,among the civilized races1 artificial customs1 a false education and a selfish devotion to an unnatural social system1 lead many women to dread maternity and to look upon this most sacred and glorious function of womanhood as a very great social affliction4 ,enslaved motherhood the crowning curse of the age4--,the artificial life of civilization leads men to become sexually abnormal4 ,law1 custom and a misinterpretation of certain passages of the ,bible have given men and women the erroneous idea that the wife must submit herself to the husband's sexual demands1 even during pregnancy4 ,hence the civilized woman submits to her husband's demands4 ,another reason why she does not repel his approaches is because she feels that the 8worst has already happened40 ,enslaved motherhood is the crowning curse of an artificial civilization4 ,if ,bible students had given more sincere thought and time to the study of the redemptive meaning of1 8,and knew her not till she had brought forth her firstborn son2 and he 7,joseph7 called his name ,jesus10 than they have to the doubtful meaning of a passage found in the writings of ,paul1 past legislation1 education and evangelization would have accomplished more in the redemption of the race from the slavery and curse of lust4 ,mysteries made clear4--,when we keep in mind the primal purpose of marriage1 the function of menstruation1 the period of normal child bearing1 it will not be difficult for us to understand why there should come a change in middle-aged woman1 when menstruation1 ovulation and child bearing should cease4 ,understanding that normal passion in woman is nature's call for maternity1 the reason for her repelling the approaches of her husband1 during the change of life1 and why sexual desire largely ceases with this change1 will be clear to us4 ,when the thoughtful husband1 who loves his companion1 understands the nature of this experience in the wife1 he will be more considerate1 sympathetic and self-controlled4 ,continence during this change will not only be a blessing to his wife1 but it will be of physical and mental benefit to himself4 ,the age when the change of life occurs4--,in this country1 as a rule1 the change of life occurs from forty to fifty4 ,a few thousand miles south it occurs sooner4 ,climatic conditions hasten or retard both puberty and the change of life4 ,if the age at the dawning of puberty is multiplied by three1 this will give the age when the change of life will usually begin4 ,there are other causes that may hasten or retard the approach of this change4 ,women have been known to reach the age of sixty and one woman to reach the age of seventy1 before the change occurred4 ,on the other hand there are cases where the change has occurred as early thirty-five and rare cases as early as twenty-eight and thirty4 ,other names for the change of life4--,this change is sometimes known as the 8menopause10 referring to the cessation of the function of menstruation4 ,it is also referred to as the 8climacteric0 period1 meaning that a climax in life has been reached4 ,the nature of the change4--,as a result of this change the period of reproduction ceases4 ,to affect this change ovulation must cease4 ,as menstruation is normally associated with ovulation1 this must cease4 ,the ovaries become reduced in size1 the walls of the womb become thinner and the whole sexual system is undergoing a change1 adapting itself to the new order of things1 which will be a part of her life for years to come4 ,the duration of the change of life4--,no general rule can be stated as to the length of this period4 ,the average time is from two to three years4 ,occasionally it covers a period of six or seven and in rare cases ten or twelve years4 ,in rare cases the period has been known to be only a few weeks or months in length4 ,in some women the change causes but little inconvenience4 ,evidences of the change4--,the approach of the change of life may be heralded by a variety of symptoms1 which may in part be present in one woman and absent in another4 ,the menstrual change manifests itself in a number of ways4 ,in one woman the flow may cease at the approach of the menopause1 never to return4 ,in other cases the intervals of flow are irregular4 ,in still others1 menstruation may be frequent1 almost continuous1 or at times amount to flooding4 ,in some cases the abdomen swells1 a feeling of fullness is experienced and the woman may be convinced that she is pregnant4 ,any one or more of the following symptoms may be experienced3 dizziness1 trouble with the sight1 voice1 heart1 lungs1 constipation1 diarrhea1 neuralgia of the joints1 limbs and head4 ,these symptoms can be greatly modified by exercise of the will4 ,a woman need not be alarmed at any one or more of these symptoms4 ,they are due to a readjustment of the body to the new conditions that are to follow4 ,while this is a real crisis in a woman's life1 it does not follow that there is any serious danger4 ,yet she should take every precaution to keep herself in a good condition4 ,some precautions4--,fifteen or twenty minutes of time should be given1 to light exercise1 each day4 ,there will be a tendency in most cases toward constipation4 ,drink one or two glasses of water on rising each morning and drink freely during the day1 make a meal occasionally of fruits4 ,if this does not correct the trouble1 flush the colon with tepid water4 ,special attention should be given to the diet4 ,this should be wholesome and nutritious4 ,she should never over-eat4 ,if inclined to be nervous1 coffee and tea should not be used2 if at all1 with moderation4 ,other stimulating drinks should be avoided4 ,she should have some light occupation of interest to her4 ,idleness during this period may lead to despondency1 melancholy1 or hysteria4 ,her mind should be engaged in something all the time4 ,we are learning more and more that the body is very much subject to the mind4 ,a feeling of dejection and despondency and many other ailments associated with this change can be greatly reduced by a strong will4 ,this is not saying that all of her discomforts are imaginary4 ,they are largely real1 but they can be greatly reduced by self-control4 ,some physical disorders4--,at the time of the change of life1 any one of a number of physical troubles may arise4 ,in the event of any of these1 a reliable physician should be consulted4 ,apparent flooding or small hemorrhages may occur4 ,this usually gives rise to great alarm4 ,unless the amount appears excessive1 no serious concern need to be felt4 ,fibroid tumors of the womb and cancer of the womb or breasts are more likely to occur at this period of life than any other4 ,these troubles are largely due to miscarriages1 willful abortions1 injuries done the womb at birth or some bruise of the breasts4 ,where these troubles occur1 a physician should be consulted4 ,they usually yield to proper treatment4 ,changes in the reproductive system4--,about the close of the change of life in a woman1 the ovaries become reduced in size1 the walls of the womb thinner and smaller in size and the vagina undergoes a similar change4 ,similar changes occur in the sexual organs of the male4 ,sex problems explained4--,as already observed1 sexual desire begins to abate with the approach of the change of life in both sexes4 ,if this does not occur1 it shows an abnormal sexual condition1 or some aggravating cause in some neighboring organ4 ,occasionally all desire ceases in the woman at the beginning of the period4 ,in other cases it does so gradually for a few years4 ,if the husband has practiced reasonable self-control1 the experience in his case is somewhat similar4 ,he should have no sexual relations during the change of life in his wife4 ,if the husband wishes to protect the health of his wife and himself1 prolong their lives1 increase their usefulness and happiness he must bring himself to complete self-control4 ,the later half of life4--,when the reproductive system has been readjusted1 by the change of life processes1 to the new conditions of the closing period of this life1 if both are considerate of each other's comfort and happiness1 they soon realize that they have entered into an existence of a larger manhood and womanhood1 with limitless opportunities of loving each other1 of enjoying life1 of being useful and a blessing to the world4 ,the transient pleasures of passion are not to be compared by them with the abiding delights1 pleasures and joys that flow from intellectual and spiritual natures surrounded by a halo of glory that indicate a readiness for a golden sunset and a final transition into another period of existence circumscribed by the eternities and limited in progress and joy only by the inexhaustible resources of the ,infinite4 ,,chapter ,,liii ,,vital ,,facts ,,concerning ,,the 8,,change ,,of ,,life0 ,,in ,,man1 ,,and ,,the ,,years ,,to ,,follow ,strange as it may seem1 middle-aged and old men are quite as ignorant of their sexual natures and the changes incident to their age1 as is the average youth4 ,very few men know that at the age of forty-five to fifty-five a gradual but distinct and vital change will occur in their lives4 ,important periods of life4--,a boy of seven has a very distinct and intense interest in the origin of animals and man4 ,when he is fourteen puberty dawns and he enters the 8stormy period of adolescence40 ,when twenty-two to twenty-four his sexual powers are matured and he enters a period of some twenty-five years during which his procreative powers are at their best4 ,it is in this period of life that nature indicates he should become the father of children4 ,in this period his physical strength is greatest and his mental and moral development are most active4 ,he is now capable of transmitting the largest endowments to his children4 ,it is natural that at the close of this period1 of largest reproductive possibilities1 sexual ,illustration3 ,,the ,,climax ,,of ,a ,,well ,,spent ,,life desire should begin to subside4 ,this is what occurs at this period in a man's life4 8,change of life0 in man and woman4--,this occurs some six to ten years later in the male than in the female4 ,the change is more gradual and less marked in the man than in the woman4 ,after the 8change of life0 in woman1 she becomes entirely sterile4 ,if man is well-preserved1 sterility in him does not take place with this change and may not until years later4 ,in the female1 the 8change of life0 may embrace a period of one to three or four years1 and longer in some cases4 ,in the male1 the period is usually longer4 ,in both1 it is a crisis4 ,good or bad health1 happiness or misery1 a long or short life1 success or failure1 may be the issues of this crucial period of life4 ,the next ten1 twenty or more years of life will be largely determined by the previous life1 the care taken at this time and the sexual control in the future4 ,woman becomes sterile at the close of this period1 man does not4 ,most men have known of one or more old worn-out libertines who make their regular visits to houses of shame4 ,they suppose these men to be as virile as in their youth4 ,men do not generally understand that these old men1 who have lead a dissolute and vicious life1 are often mental sex perverts even years after they are sterile and1 have become impotent through loss of erectile power4 ,a degrading form of ignorance4--,i have had scores of old men from forty-five to seventy-five1 to seek personal interviews with me1 whose real motives were to ascertain some way of rejuvenating their flagging sexual powers4 ,i recall one man1 a nervous wreck1 over sixty1 who confessed to me that each night he retired with a pad of ice about his loins for the purpose of restoring partial potency once a week4 ,another old man who had passed his three-quarter of a century milestone complained of his wife's indifference and refusals1 she being nearly as old as himself4 ,such ignorance is far less excusable and far more degrading than that of being unable to read1 write or spell4 ,sexual desire begins to wane4--,during the menses and the nine months of gestation1 the wife has little or no sexual desire4 ,in fact her inclination is to repel every approach of the husband4 ,during that period1 known as the 8change of life10 the wife has no sexual desire and naturally tries to ward off every approach of her mate4 ,during this period the menstrual flow is sometimes frequent1 almost constant4 ,she is passing through an experience of nervous stress and mental trial4 ,the husband should refrain from all sexual demands during this change4 ,if they are well mated as to age1 he is four1 six or ten years his wife's senior4 ,at this age his sexual desires should be weakening4 ,a man of this age1 if normal1 should experience no difficulty in living a continent life4 ,not an unfortunate period4--,these should not be considered unfortunate periods in life4 ,proper restraint at this time will bring compensations to those who understand and heed nature's laws4 ,if men understood that the waning of sexual desire was natural1 they certainly would welcome the change and would not use various methods of stimulating and awakening sexual desire4 ,minor indications4--,there are several minor signs which when they occur at or near the same time indicate the presence of this change in man4 ,they are as follows3 ,a notable loss of memory1 loss of sight1 streaks of gray appearing in the hair and beard and an ease of physical and mental fatigue4 ,one or more of these conditions often exist and are due to other causes4 ,positive indications4--,the most positive indications of the presence of this change in man are3 longer intervals between periods of sexual desire2 a less intensity of sexual desire2 a greater fatigue following sexual congress2 frequency of desire to urinate2 slowness to begin urinating2 and irritation about the neck of the bladder4 ,if one has been pure in thought1 chaste in language and clean in life1 this period will be postponed to later years in life and the symptoms will be less marked4 ,two advantages4--,there are at least two reasons why men should welcome the waning of sexual desire when the change of life occurs4 ,one is that the period of life1 when they are capable of transmitting the best possibilities to their children has passed4 ,the other is that they will need to conserve their sex life1 with a view to thirty years more of health1 happiness1 activity1 usefulness1 a glorious sunset and a triumphant entrance into the next life4 ,a larger life4--,a continent single and a temperate married life will make it easy for the middle-aged man to conserve his energy the balance of his days4 ,while his bodily powers may gradually wane1 the real man within will rise to a height1 grandeur and majesty never before possible4 ,we have all known and read of a few old men who never arrived at their climax of intellectual and moral greatness until they were sixty and seventy4 ,gladstone was greater at eighty than he was at fifty4 ,a sad old age4--,the indiscretions of youth and the excess of middle life place many old men where they are physically helpless1 great sufferers1 make no mental progress and often but little moral progress in old age4 ,a chance to conserve energy4--,it should not be understood that a decline in sexual desire means the cessation of creative energy1 a decline in general health1 efficiency or happiness4 ,nature is giving man a chance to conserve his creative energy1 to maintain his health1 to increase his efficiency and to perfect his happiness4 ,marriage of old men4--,there is no reason why an old bachelor or widower should not marry provided they marry a woman near their age4 ,but there are many reasons why he should not marry a gay young girl4 ,he marries her for sensual reasons2 she marries him for his money4 ,he would not marry her1 if she were near his age2 she would not marry him1 if he were poor4 ,such marriages not only violate physical law1 but the mental and moral as well4 ,as a rule there is but little love in such a union4 ,for want of physical harmony their differences are not harmonized and their personalities do not blend into oneness4 ,the rights of his first children4--,if he has a family of children they are likely to be older than his young wife4 ,it will be quite impossible for her to be a real mother to the children4 ,family troubles will most likely follow4 ,he must take the part of his wife and mistreat his children or vice versa4 ,children of senile men defective4--,if he marries a gay young girl for sensual reasons1 he will indulge in the marital relations too frequently4 ,this will lead to great personal injury to himself4 ,should additional children be born into his home1 they would in most every case receive an unfortunate heredity4 ,all authorities are agreed that a very large per cent4 of the children born to senile fathers will be precocious of mind1 frail of body and a disappointment in after life4 ,physical ailments common4--,men who have received a fair heredity1 led correct sexual lives1 guarded their diet1 taken plenty of exercise and sleep1 bathed freely1 used but little1 or no1 tea1 coffee1 tobacco1 or liquors1 will be free from most all the ailments common to middle life and old age4 ,gout1 vertigo1 rheumatism1 apoplexy1 paralysis and piles are a few of the common physical ailments to be found among men of this age4 ,any or all these diseases may result from sexual excesses or venereal diseases1 still they are often due to other causes4 ,while great sexual moderation1 even complete continence1 will be helpful in all these diseases1 a competent home physician should be consulted4 ,paralysis and apoplexy are more likely to come in old age to men who have been excessive than to men who have lived temperate or continent lives4 ,where one has had syphilis1 these diseases are likely to occur at any time in life4 ,if he has not had syphilis1 these diseases are not likely to occur until late in life1 if at all4 ,heart trouble4--,where this exists in middle life the individuals should guard against sudden emotions or over-exercise4 ,occasionally an old man is found dead in his bed4 ,the explanation given to the public is heart failure or apoplexy4 ,this was the general cause4 ,in many cases1 the immediate occasion of the sudden death was the stress and strain of sexual excitement on the heart or the brain4 ,again1 sometimes we read of an old man being found dead in a 8scarlet0 home4 ,in such cases1 we know that while the real cause was apoplexy or heart failure1 that the immediate cause was sexual excitement4 ,genito-uninary diseases4--,many diseases connected with the urinary and genital organs1 due to gonorrhea contracted in youth1 may appear in the man of middle life or old age4 ,the disease regarded by the thoughtless youth as a trifle1 is now regarded by the old man as serious4 ,should kidney trouble1 gravel in the bladder1 inflammation or enlargement of the prostate gland occur1 a competent resident physician should be consulted4 ,final word4--,to the young man this chapter is a faithful flagman2 to the man of middle age it demands an arrest of thought1 serious reflection and a manly continence2 to the old worn-out rou1 engulfed in the maelstrom of lust1 a last 8life-line0 is thrown2 to the well-preserved old man it will inspire a pleasant reminiscence of a pure youth1 a temperate manhood1 a conservative of energy in middle life1 and it will add a deep sense of gratitude to the many joys of a glorious old age4 ,,chapter ,,liv ,,practical ,,questions ,,answered ,what is the primary purpose of marriage8--,while there are several subordinate reasons for marriage1 the one paramount reason is that of having and rearing a family4 ,the only admissible reason for not having children is positive incapacity or mental and physical unfitness4 ,how many children should there be to a family8--,the number should vary according to circumstances4 ,every child has an incontrovertible right to be well born and to be well cared for after he is born4 ,it is far better to have three to six children1 who have good heredity and who are properly cared for and trained1 than to have ten or twelve unfortunately born and largely neglected4 ,where the parents are both strong and healthy and are able to support them1 a large family is commendable4 ,is it wrong purposely to limit the size of the family8--,if no laws are violated and the limitation is made to safeguard the wife's health and the best interests of the children1 there can be no wrong done4 ,does nature use any safeguards to the wife's health and the right of children8--,she does4 ,the woman is sterile before puberty1 after the change of life1 in most cases during the period while nursing a child1 and a few days between the menses4 ,at what periods during the month is a wife most likely to become a mother8--,just before or after the menses4 ,what would be a natural method of regulating the size of the family8--,have sexual relations for procreation only1 or for a few days only1 about midway between monthly periods4 ,is the last always safe8--,no4 ,impregnation with this precaution might occur1 but it would be rare4 ,if a woman's menses are irregular1 or if she ovulates at one time and menstruates at another1 she would be likely to become pregnant at any time4 ,this last case is very rare among women4 ,are there other methods used8--,yes1 but none of them can be recommended4 ,they are unnatural4 ,they violate nature4 ,those who use them suffer sooner or later4 ,one of the most common is that of withdrawal4 ,this has all the bad effects of the secret sin on both husband and wife4 ,injections and the use of artificial contrivances1 while in some cases appearing to violate the laws of health but slightly1 lead to excess and thereby become morally and physically wrong4 ,in this way tumors1 ulcers and other physical ailments and poor health may be produced4 ,what are some of the evil effects of over child bearing8--,among feeble wives1 much of womb diseases can be traced to this4 ,puny1 sickly and short-lived children are other results4 ,then there are some women who suffer greatly during pregnancy and each time their lives are endangered4 ,what is 8race suicide08--,there are three kinds of race suicide1 all of which are very prevalent among ,american born people1 7#a7 ,the various methods of preventing conception4 ,this is perhaps the most common4 7#b7 ,willful abortion1 or prenatal murder4 ,it is estimated that #bej1jjj cases come to medical attention annually4 ,if this is true1 perhaps #ajj1jjj succeed in destroying prenatal life without medical attention4 ,this would mean #a1jjj prenatal murders daily in the ,united ,states4 ,if these figures are true1 then it is reasonable to suppose that #ajj1jjj attempts are made that fail4 ,many of these unwelcome children inherit a tendency toward homicide or suicide4 ,this is evidently one of the main causes of the appalling increase of crime4 ,as a rule1 men who have not learned self-control are more responsible for this crime than are their wives4 ,this is a national sin1 found in all grades of society4 ,this sin cannot be checked until people learn self-control and all youths are safeguarded in their sexual development by being given a correct knowledge of sex4 7#c7 ,the third form of 8race suicide0 is the ever-increasing production of degenerates4 ,the chief causes of this form of 8race suicide0 are strong drink and lust4 ,how frequently should husband and wife have sexual relations8--,there are three theories held by people4 7#a7 ,for procreation only4 ,where both mutually agree and have perfect self-control1 no harm can come from this plan4 ,there is no more necessity for sex gratification in the married life than in the single4 ,those who have this self-control will be able to avoid all dangers1 sins1 and diseases incident to a lack of control4 ,there are some difficulties connected with this theory4 ,this self-control is not possessed by the mass of mankind4 ,where one companion tries to force this view the other may be driven to marital infidelity1 or family discord which may lead to the divorce court4 7#b7 ,some consider marital congress to be an act of love4 ,where this is confined to once1 twice or thrice a month and to a few days midway between the menses1 except when a child is desired1 no wrong will be done2 the sacred fire of love will be kept aglow in their hearts1 health will reign in their lives1 the initial of each child can be intelligently planned for1 his prenatal rights be respected1 his nativity be warmly welcomed and he be given the best possible environment4 7#c7 ,the other theory is that of physical necessity1 especially for man4 ,among the unmarried this theory leads to prostitution or the secret sin4 ,among the married it means legal prostitution1 leads to marital excess1 poor health of parents1 loss of vitality1 puny1 scrawny1 short-lived children and to 8race suicide40 ,should coition take place during pregnancy8--,among the lower animals sexual indulgence never occurs during pregnancy4 ,we are told that the savage races observe this law4 ,doctors differ on this subject4 ,all agree that it should seldom occur4 ,there is a growing conviction among some of the most eminent physicians that man should observe the law that nature demands of the lower animals and that savage man respects4 ,what injurious effects may follow sexual intercourse during pregnancy8--,it robs the mother and child of the vitality that both of them need4 ,sometimes it causes miscarriage4 ,if the initial of a child's life takes place as a result of uncontrolled sexual desire and its prenatal rights are not respected1 it will inherit sensual tendencies4 ,the fact that it is recorded in the ,gospels1 with great clearness and emphasis1 that 8,joseph knew not ,mary until after ,jesus was born10 has a redemptive significance for the human family of which but few theologians have ever caught a glimpse4 ,what is the difference between impotence and sterility in man8--,the first is an inability to perform the act of coition4 ,a sterile man may be able to perform the act of coition1 but his semen contains no sperm cells1 or at least1 no healthy sperm cells4 ,the first could become a father1 if he could perform the act of coition2 the second can perform the act1 but cannot become a father4 ,what are the causes of impotency8--,the inability to consummate marriage is very rare4 ,venereal disease is the chief cause of impotency4 ,malformation of parts from birth or accident1 self-abuse1 obesity and the use of opium are other causes4 ,in many cases impotency can be cured4 ,where a man knows himself to be impotent he should not marry4 ,wives have a contempt and a most perfect aversion for impotent husbands4 ,what are the causes of sterility in man8--,sterility is much more common than impotency4 ,venereal disease is the most common cause4 ,excessive secret sin may temporarily deprive the semen of its fecundating power4 ,some malformation of parts is sometimes responsible4 ,is the wife ever incapable of coition8--,very rarely4 ,excessive sensitiveness of the parts is the most common cause4 ,in such cases1 which are very rare1 the sexual act would be so painful as to be wholly unbearable4 ,such cases require medical treatment4 ,the sooner it is begun1 the better4 ,a very rigid hymen1 or the vagina being partly absent from birth1 or grown together from an accident1 may make coition impossible4 ,in the first and last case a surgical operation can remove the difficulty4 ,eighty per cent4 of sterile wives1 are due to gonorrheal infection received from their husbands who thought themselves cured4 ,should husband and wife sleep together or in separate beds8--,in many cases1 owing to lack of self-control1 it would be better for them to sleep in separate beds4 ,if there is no other reason why they should sleep apart1 and they have self-control1 it would be better to sleep in the same bed4 ,are women as passionate as men8--,centuries1 of the double standard of morals1 have established by heredity1 more of passion in man than exists in the average woman4 ,among the lower animals1 except where they have been forced into polygamy by man1 the male controls himself fully as easily as does the female4 ,many women do not feel any sexual excitement whatever1 others only to a limited degree4 ,this is doubly true of women during pregnancy1 and lactation4 ,most normal women seek sexual gratification to please their husbands or out of a desire for motherhood4 ,there are some women who have inherited or acquired strong sensual natures4 ,should coition take place during the menses8--,absolutely no4 ,for sanitary and hygienic reasons1 if no other4 ,what is the 8climacteric0 period1 or the 8change of life0 in a woman8--,this occurs between forty and forty-nine years of age4 ,it usually covers a period of from two to five years4 ,the menstrual flow often occurs every few days4 ,this is often a critical period in a woman's life4 ,when this is completed they are sterile1 or incapable of reproduction4 ,should sexual relations take place during the 8change of life08--,for sanitary reasons1 it should not4 ,for the hygienic reason1 that it would most likely cause flooding1 it should not4 ,is there a corresponding period in a man's life8--,yes4 ,it usually occurs some five or ten years later and is more gradual4 ,if he is well preserved he does not become impotent or sterile4 ,the sexual appetite begins to abate and they no longer experience perfect erection4 ,there are also physical changes taking place that make this period a crisis in his life4 ,certain brain affections1 sometimes resulting in unexpected death1 is due to sexual indulgence at this time4 ,many men do not know1 that if they are to have a beautiful sunset1 they must conserve their sexual life4 ,is there any way to determine the sex of a child8--,this is evidently governed by some definite law1 which has not been discovered4 ,many theories have been advanced1 but none are generally accepted4 ,what is the best season of the year for conception to take place8--,in the spring4 ,a larger per cent4 of the children are healthy and long-lived than when the initial of their lives occur at other times4 ,what is the difference between an abortion and a miscarriage8--- ,the first is where the expulsion of the fetus is willfully produced2 the other where it is purely an accident4 ,is abortion ever justifiable8--,only when it is done to save the life of the mother4 ,what are some of the causes of miscarriage8--,intercourse during pregnancy and nursing a child after conception are the chief causes4 ,the child should be weaned as soon as a mother suspects pregnancy4 ,venereal diseases1 straining at stool1 over-exertion1 physical accidents and ill health may sometimes cause miscarriage4 ,when does life begin in a child8--,at conception4 ,it is as much a crime to destroy the life of a fetus one day old as it is after its movements are felt4 ,is it possible to lessen the inconvenience of pregnancy and the pain of child-birth8--,yes4 ,avoid all tight lacing2 eat chiefly a diet of cereals1 fruit and vegetables2 take light1 regular open-air exercise1 of which walking is best1 and have little or no intercourse during the time4 ,tight lacing has been the chief cause of the inconvenience and pain experienced by civilized woman4 ,,ninth ,,division ,,moral1 ,,social ,,and ,,reform ,,topics ,,chapter ,,lv ,,school ,,instruction ,,in ,,sex ,,hygiene ,,by ,,charles ,w4 ,,eliot ,president ,emeritus of ,harvard ,college4 ,in order to make head against the horrible evils which accompany men's profligacy and women's prostitution1 and to prevent the moral and physical disasters which result from young men's and young women's ignorance about the natural processes of reproduction in the human species and about the laws of health in those processes1 it is indispensable that systematic instruction should be given to all young children and young people in the processes of reproduction and growth in plants and animals1 in the general rules of hygiene1 in the natural1 wholesome processes of reproduction in the human species1 and at last in the diseases and social disorders which follow violations of nature's laws concerning the relations of the sexes4 ,the bitter experience of the ,christian world in regard to the venereal diseases and their consequences demonstrated this proposition4 ,policy of silence a failure4--,wherever anyone undertakes to discuss this subject in public1 he is met by two adverse opinions which are firmly held by multitudes of well-meaning people4 ,the first is the opinion that these are unclean subjects1 about which the less said the better4 ,this is the policy of silence concerning all sexual relations and processes1 natural or unnatural1 rightful or sinful1 which has prevailed for centuries in both barbarous and civilized countries4 ,there is but one thing to be said about this policy of silence1 namely1 that it has failed1 everywhere and always4 ,it has not prevented the spread and increase of sexual wrong-doing and of the horrible resultant diseases1 degradations1 and destructions4 ,for the prevention and eradication of any great social or governmental wrong1 publicity1 discussion1 and the awakening of a righteous public sentiment in the great mass of the people concerned have always been1 and always must be1 necessary4 ,parents as instructors4--,the second adverse opinion is that the necessary instruction on these subjects should be given to children and young persons by their parents and by them alone4 ,this opinion is sound to this extent1 that in cultivated and refined families1 in which the parents possess sufficient knowledge of the whole subject1 the needed instruction will best come to the children through the mother and the father1 beginning at a tender age4 ,all children ask questions on this subject4 ,their curiosity is roused early1 and is usually very pointedly expressed4 ,the asking of questions should invariably be the mother's precious opportunity to describe to the child1 with delicacy and reserve1 but truthfully1 the mother's part in the production of the human infant4 ,by so doing1 the mother will establish a new bond between herself and child1 and will acquire a strong claim on its abiding affection4 ,every father competent for the task should see that his boys understand the natural and wholesome process of reproduction1 and the great physical dangers which accompany violations of the moral law in this respect4 ,he should see that they know that continence is absolutely healthy1 and1 indeed1 is indispensable to the highest attainment in bodily strength and endurance4 ,he should make sure that his boys understand what honor requires of a man in his relation to women1 and that chastity is just as admirable and feasible in a man as in a woman1 and just as necessary for the protection of family life and the eradication of the very worst evils which now degrade and poison civilized society4 ,it is quite true that all this instruction will come best1 whenever possible1 from loving fathers and mothers to their own offspring2 because it will then be given intimately1 privately1 and with tenderness and purity4 ,inasmuch1 however1 as the great majority of parents do not now possess the necessary knowledge1 or the faculty of expression necessary for imparting it1 and there are many families that have lost father1 mother1 or both1 society must for the present rely in the main on the schools to give this instruction1 which is1 indeed1 indispensable for the salvation of civilization4 ,school can teach nature's sex laws4--,it is1 however1 a very serious problem1 how to give the needed instruction in sex hygiene in all the schools1 public1 private1 and endowed4 ,no one is competent to-day to lay down a fixed and final program4 ,the programs for this subject must be experimental or tentative for many years to come4 ,all that can be done at present is to indicate the general lines of the promising experiments on this difficult subject4 ,innumerable experimenters must in time work out the details with insight1 patience1 and skill4 ,the general lines may1 however1 be laid down with a reasonable degree of confidence4 ,they are as follows3 #a4 ,it is through the ample and prolonged teaching of natural history that the necessary knowledge is to be conveyed to the children1 beginning at tender years with the teaching of botany1 and going on to the elements of zology1 both subjects being taught in the most concrete manner possible with incessant illustrations indoors and out-of-doors1 not during the whole school year1 but at those seasons when adequate illustrations and demonstrations are most feasible and convenient4 ,this instruction should be associated in all schools with the teaching of pure and applied geography1 and in rural schools with the teaching of agriculture4 #b4 ,throughout this long course of natural history instruction demonstrations of the various modes of transmitting life should frequently occur1 the transmission of life being the highest and ultimate bodily function of every plant and every animal1 including man4 ,there is a great body of fresh knowledge on this subject waiting to be given to children and youth1 all of it capable of demonstration through the senses1 aided or unaided1 and all supplying admirable training for eye and hand4 ,thus1 all the various processes of reproducing plant-life by the division of a cell1 by the creation of new independent cells1 by the shooting or rooting of some part of a plant to create an independent plant1 as by bulbs1 tubers1 or even parts of a stalk or leaf1 by the union of two cells1 or the fertilization of one cell by another cell1--all these processes can be made intensely interesting to a child2 and such instruction can be spread through several years at appropriate seasons without ever leaving the vegetable kingdom4 ,in flowering plants the fertilization of the embryo-sac by pollen may be illustrated in operations which the children themselves can perform4 ,the carrying of pollen from one flower to another by insects or by the wind emphasizes the general fact that plants are fixed while animals have motion4 ,the bi-sexual structure of plants is in itself a fascinating subject of study for children and youths2 and through it all runs the thought that ,nature provides elaborately and beautifully for the precious transmission of life4 ,in later years of the school course the diverse methods of reproduction in animals will afford a long course of instruction1 involving the structure and function of many different sorts of animals1 and of many different kinds of reproductive organs4 ,the innumerable devices for effecting fecundation and for feeding the embryo1 and the various arrangements for feeding the young and bringing up families1 afford an endless variety of interesting subjects for observation and discussion4 ,the nesting habits of birds and their care of offspring are highly instructive and easy to exhibit4 ,here again the main object of study should be infinite variety and elaboration of nature's processes for the transmission of life4 ,these subjects1 if properly taught with collecting box1 scalpel1 microscope1 and paper and pencil1 are just as pure and innocent for children under thirteen as chemistry and physics are4 ,there is nothing sensual or unclean about them1 nothing which does not tell of order1 purpose1 inventiveness1 adaptation1 coperation1 and achievement4 ,through much of the botanical instruction and more of the zological runs the thought that the transmission of life requires two individuals of different quality4 ,children should be made thoroughly acquainted with this principle before any sexual emotions begin to stir in them4 #c4 ,avoid venereal diseases by frankness4--,if strong foundations have been laid through these botanical and zological studies before the age of puberty1 it will not be difficult to take up in secondary schools the study of the normal functions of the human body in health1 of the perturbations caused by some of the common diseases1 of the sources or causes of disease1 including the recognized contagions and the modes of infection1 of the means of resisting disease and producing immunity1 and finally of the functions of government in regard to preventive medicine and the means of promoting the public health4 ,among the contagions which ought to be described and illustrated should be included the contagions of syphilis and gonorrhea1 from which proceed some of the most horrible evils which afflict modern society1 evils not fully known except to physicians1 and by many ordinary people1 particularly women1 quite unsuspected4 ,all young men and women should be well informed on these subjects before they leave their secondary schools2 but from the time of entrance to secondary schools all such instruction should be given separately to girls by women and to boys by men4 ,since the great majority of ,american children never enter the secondary schools1 the general rules concerning cleanliness1 diet1 fresh air1 and the elementary facts on sex hygiene should be stated concisely and frankly to all children just before they reach the age-limit of compulsory education4 #d4 ,emphasize bodily and mental purity4--,all schools should teach explicitly in due season those elements of good manners and customs which have to do with health and the preservations of bodily and mental purity4 ,they should teach habitual cleanliness of the body and particularly of the hands and face1 point out the importance of this cleanliness as regards clothes1 furniture and utensils1 and the reasons for keeping the dwelling free from dust1 dirt1 insects and vermin4 ,they should show the reasons for avoiding contact with1 or close approach to1 persons who are unclean or who are suffering from colds1 sores1 coughs1 fevers1 or any other illness4 ,they should point out the dangers of losing self-control through the use1 even the rare use1 of alcohol or of drugs which take strong effect on the nervous system4 ,they should discountenance rough or boisterous play between boys and girls or young men and young women1 and teach each sex to avoid1 in general1 bodily contact with persons of the opposite sex4 ,delicacy and reserve are parts of good manners2 but they are also highly protective qualities4 ,on the other hand1 a coarse familiarity between the sexes is not only bad manners1 but a real provocation to wrong-doing1 particularly when it is accompanied by an ignorance which leaves young people without protection against the love of excitement and reckless adventure4 ,all these are elements of good manners and right habits which should be universally taught in the schools of a democracy to promote morality as well as courtesy4 ,some of them1 but rarely all1 are taught in many good homes1 but for the great mass of the people the public schools inculcate them by direct teaching1 and by the indirect influence of good example4 ,to a high degree1 good manners spring from and express morals4 ,such instruction would naturally be associated with the teaching of natural history and general hygiene4 ,finally1 all young people should have been taught in home1 school and ,sunday school1 before they are liable to fall into sexual sins1 that chastity in men is just as necessary as chastity in women for the security1 honor and happiness of family life1 that continence is absolutely healthy for both sexes1 that men's profligacy is the cause or source of women's prostitution with all its awful consequences to the guilty parties and to the innocent human beings who are infected by the guilty1 and that the most precious joys and most durable satisfactions of life are put at fearful risk by sexual immorality4 ,does anyone protest that this educational process will abolish innocence in young manhood and womanhood1 and make matter of common talk the tenderest and most intimate concerns in human life1 let him consider that virtue1 not innocence1 is manifestly ,god's object and end for humanity1 and that the only alternative for education in sex hygiene is the prolongation of the present awful wrongs and woes in the very vitals of civilization4--,journal of ,education4 ,read before the ,american ,school ,hygiene ,association1 ,new ,york ,city4 ,,chapter ,,lvi ,,the ,,white ,,slave ,,traffic ,,by ,,hon4 ,,stanley ,w4 ,,finch ,special ,commissioner for the ,suppression of the ,white ,slave ,traffic1 of the ,united ,states ,department of ,justice4 ,the white slave traffic6--,what is it8 ,whom and what does it involve8 ,is it possible to suppress it1 and if so1 how8 ,these are questions which are being asked by thousands of people in all parts of the country1 and it is my purpose to attempt1 to some extent1 at least1 to answer them4 ,it is a fact that there are now scattered throughout practically every section of the ,united ,states a vast number of men and women whose sole occupation consists in enticing1 tricking1 or coercing young women and girls into immoral lives1 and then either living directly off of their illicit earnings or transferring them1 for a consideration to others for a similar purpose4 ,in other words1 these creatures make merchandise of womanhood and do a big1 thriving business4 ,moreover1 they are no respecters of persons4 ,their ,illustration3 ,,hon4 ,,stanley ,w4 ,,finch4--,special ,commissioner for the ,suppression of the ,white ,slave ,traffic1 ,united ,states ,department of ,justice4 one idea is to procure such persons to earn money for them1 in order that they1 themselves1 may live in idleness and luxury2 and while they prefer very young girls1 they frequently select1 as their victims1 young women who are wives and mothers4 ,moreover1 their methods have been so far developed and perfected that they seem to be able to ensnare almost any woman or girl whom they select for the purpose4 ,this is indeed an extraordinary statement1 and one almost passing belief1 but that it is absolutely true no one can honestly doubt who reviews any considerable portion of the mass of evidence which is already in the possession of the ,attorney ,general's ,bureau of ,investigation4 ,the idea which apparently prevails among many persons is that the victims of these fiends are simply girls who are naturally vicious4 ,this is very far from the real truth4 ,it is no doubt true that there are1 among those unfortunates1 some women1 who1 like all of their male patrons1 are actuated solely by wantonness4 ,however1 by far the majority of them consist of young women and girls who have either been led to such lives by deception and trickery1 or who have been driven by force and fraud4 ,devices used4--,the devices to which these human fiends resort in procuring and dealing with their victims are many and varied1 and are such as are calculated to reach young women and girls in almost all of the different walks of life1 but particularly those who1 either from choice or by reason of economic conditions1 go out into the business world and attempt to earn money for a livelihood1 or for the many enticing luxuries of our modern civilization4 ,the cleverly worded advertisement for help4--,this is perhaps one of the most insidious and effective instruments which is or can be used4 ,by this means these traffickers are able to reach into every home and business establishment in the country and to ensnare even the most cautious and innocent1 and those who are most carefully guarded and protected by their parents1 husbands and other relatives and friends4 ,hence1 it is true that no man's daughter1 sister1 or wife--if she be young and attractive--is safe from the artifices and devices of these traffickers4 ,of course1 since these human beasts of prey are primarily seeking what they consider 8easy money10 their natural tendency is to operate along the lines of least resistance4 ,they are generally shrewd1 careful observers of human nature1 and they are quick to perceive and to single out girls1 who--while as yet honorable and virtuous--are inclined to be somewhat careless1 and those who1 through lack of1 or distaste for1 parental restraint1 undertake to select their own companions1 amusements and occupations4 ,among such young women and girls the white slaver finds a limitless and fertile field for his awful trade4 ,picture shows and dance halls4--,in this connection the theater1 the moving picture show1 the caf1 the skating rink1 and the dance hall--while in themselves often useful and beneficial for education1 entertainment1 and exercise--become instruments which enable these conscienceless fiends to accomplish the downfall and eternal ruin of even the most innocent and virtuous of our young women and girls4 ,only a few months ago a young country girl1 twenty years of age1 while attending a moving picture show in this very city1 met a woman whom she thought to be a friend1 and who offered to secure domestic employment for her in a distant ,southern city4 ,the young girl1 herself innocent of any wrong1 and unsuspicious1 accepted the offer and1 using the railroad ticket furnished her by her false friend1 went to the address given1 and not until she was imprisoned in that house and forcibly overpowered and ravished in the infamous effort to reduce her to that most awful slavery did this pure1 brave-hearted girl realize that this woman here in ,louisville was but the tool of a set of fiends to whom adequate punishment can never be administered by any of the processes of modern law4 ,through a fortunate chain of circumstances this young girl escaped the dreadful pit which is devouring thousands of other girls all over our land1 but the awful business remains1 a crying disgrace to our great country4 ,among the many other cases shown by our records is one involving a girl seventeen years of age1 of good character1 who lived in one of the smaller cities on ,illustration3 ,,john ,b4 ,,hammond4--,who aided in ,drafting and ,passing the ,famous ,injunction ,law of ,iowa1 which has driven the ,public ,houses of ,shame from his ,state4 ,lake ,michigan4 ,this girl1 while employed as a telephone operator1 attended a dance1 where she met a young man of good appearance and apparently of good character4 ,this young man was1 however1 a procurer for a house of ill repute in one of our large cities and while accompanying this young girl along the country road to her home1 he forcibly ravished and subsequently placed her in a house of ill fame4 ,this young man is now serving a term of five years in the penitentiary and the girl was rescued from the life of shame and returned to her parents4 ,in another instance1 a girl of sixteen1 while spending the afternoon at a seaside resort of one of our largest cities1 was approached by two white slave procurers1 who exhibited bogus police badges and pretended to place her under arrest as a truant4 ,supposing that they were acting under proper authority she made no outcry1 but accompanied them to a street car going in the direction of her home4 ,the facts as to the manner in which this girl was subsequently intimidated by these fiends1 and1 under threats of death1 compelled to go with them to a room1 where she was ravished and subsequently placed on board a coastwise vessel and taken to a house of ill fame in another city and ,state1 and there confined and compelled to receive foreigners and turn the earnings over to the master to whom she was sold by her captors1 are almost unbelievable4 ,however1 these facts were clearly established in court during a trial1 as a result of which the defendants are now serving terms in the penitentiary4 ,another case which was recently prosecuted by our ,bureau of ,investigation involves a young girl who answered an advertisement which appeared in a leading paper in one of our largest ,southern cities4 ,under a contract made pursuant to this advertisement this girl proceeded to a city in another ,southern ,state for the purpose of complying with the terms of her contract of employment4 ,she found1 however1 upon entering her place of employment1 that1 instead of being a respectable house1 it was a house of ill fame4 ,upon attempting to leave the place she was forcibly detained and every effort was made to induce her to practice prostitution4 ,however1 she refused to do so1 and1 finally1 with the aid of one of the patrons of the place1 she secured assistance and was thereby enabled to leave4 ,the defendant in this case was promptly convicted and is now confined in the penitentiary4 ,promises of marriage4--,in very many cases procurers endeavor1 through promise of marriage or by actually going through the form of marriage1 to obtain control of young women and girls1 and finally force them into immoral lives4 ,a case of this kind recently arose in one of the larger cities of the ,middle ,west4 ,in that case a girl seventeen years of age1 and of good character1 became acquainted1 in an apparently unobjectionable manner1 with a man who1 like many of his kind1 appeared1 on the surface1 to be of good character4 ,after a brief courtship they were duly married and left on a wedding trip to a neighboring city1 where the husband--claiming that he had lost his money and was unable to secure a position--attempted to persuade the young wife to engage in prostitution4 ,she refused and was cruelly beaten by him4 ,apparently1 however1 even then she did not appreciate the nature of the creature to which she was married1 and she went with him to one of our largest ,eastern cities4 ,there again he attempted to force her to engage in immoral practices1 and upon her refusal she was beaten by him1 food was withheld for days1 and1 finally1 when she had reached the point of exhaustion and was thoroughly intimidated1 she was forced by her husband to receive the foreigners whom he brought to her4 ,by this means the girl was degraded to the point where her master was able to force her to solicit on the streets and finally she was transferred by her procurer1 through a white slave agency in ,new ,york ,city1 to a house of ill repute in the city of ,washington1 where she was when the facts as to the matter were developed by our ,bureau4 ,as ,illustration3 ,,american ,,purity ,,conference4--,touring ,party at ,los ,angeles a result of the prosecution in this case1 the defendant was sentenced to five years in the penitentiary at ,atlanta1 ,georgia1 where the managers of the agency through which she was sold are also confined4 ,the girl was restored to her parents1 and has since been living a respectable life4 ,examples4--,in another notorious case which occurred in one of our ,southern cities1 the defendant1 who is now serving a term of three years in the ,atlanta penitentiary1 married a very young girl--a mere child--and took her from place to place1 where he arranged with cab drivers and keepers of assignation houses for meetings between his wife and other men1 he taking the proceeds4 ,the investigation in this case showed that he had previously married other girls and mistreated them in a similar manner4 ,in another recent case1 which arose in one of our ,eastern cities1 one of these white slavers1 as a result of carefully laid plans1 covering a considerable period1 succeeded in separating a very young woman from her husband1 and under the pretext of procuring a divorce and of marrying her1 led her into an immoral life and finally succeeded in compelling her to practice prostitution and turn over her earnings to him4 ,there are a multitude of other cases in which young women and girls1 from thirteen years of age and upwards1 of good moral character1 have1 in a variety of ways1 been led or driven1 by deception1 fraud and force1 into becoming victims of the white slave trade4 ,how these girls are retained4--,if there is one thing above another which it seems to be difficult for people to generally understand1 with reference to the white slave traffic1 it is with regard to the manner in which these girls are led to continue in their immoral lives and to surrender their earnings to the white slavers after the physical restraint1 to which they are at first subjected1 is removed1 and they are placed in assignation houses or other houses of ill fame1 or are forced to engage in street soliciting4 ,while the facts as to this matter will probably never be fully understood1 there are many circumstances which throw light upon the situation4 ,in the first place it should be remembered that when these girls fall into the hands of procurers an attempt is made to debauch them1 as speedily as possible1 to such an extent that they1 themselves1 as well as everyone else1 will feel that they are hopelessly lost and can never again be received by their families and friends1 and that there is absolutely no chance for them to go back to their old modes of life4 ,many of these girls disappear in such a manner that their relatives and friends never know what has become of them4 ,their relatives sometimes fear the truth1 but they hope against hope that they are mistaken1 and when1 after a time1 they receive from the girl a communication--written at the dictation of her master--to the effect that she is engaged in some legitimate occupation and is happily situated1 they are only too ready to believe that such is the case1 and the girl1 herself1 no doubt takes comfort in the thought that her relatives and friends know nothing of the depths of degradation to which she has been driven4 ,these circumstances serve the procurer well4 ,he makes it his business to obtain full information as to the relatives and friends of the girl1 and knowing the real facts as to her life1 and knowing that she feels that it would be better to perish in that life than to bring shame upon her mother or father1 or her other relatives or friends1 he uses this knowledge as a club to force her to do his bidding4 ,if at any time he sees a disposition on her part to leave him and to return home or to engage in some legitimate occupation1 he threatens to tell her mother and her friends all about her1 and to represent to them that she has voluntarily engaged in the nefarious business into which he himself has driven her4 ,these creatures also frequently represent to their poor slaves 7whether truthfully or not it is not for me to say7 that they 8stand in0 with the police authorities1 and are able and ready at all times to protect them from arrest1 or to secure their release by furnishing bail1 or otherwise1 in case of arrest1 ,illustration3 ,,american ,,purity ,,conference4--,touring ,party at ,chattanooga provided they do their bidding4 ,they also threaten to cause their arrest and imprisonment if these poor victims fail to do their bidding4 ,these representations and others1 which readily occur to these unscrupulous traffickers1 who hesitate at nothing in order to hold their victims1 usually serve to induce girls to at least postpone the time when they will change their mode of living1 and often enable these men to control them without physical restraint1 other than an occasional beating1 after they have had possession of them for a few months4 ,one of the principal representations that is made by these men to the girls1 in order to continue to hold them under their control1 is that they are saving the money for them1 in order that both may1 within a short time1 quit their improper mode of life and take up some legitimate line of business4 ,the date when they are to take this step is1 of course1 put off from time to time1 as necessity arises1 in order to hold the services of the girl1 and many false representations are made as to the manner in which the money is being saved1 the whole purpose of the white slaver being to retain possession of the girl during the period of her greatest earning capacity1 and eventually to drop her1 or turn her over to some other trafficker when he finds it to his advantage1 and opportunity arises1 to procure a younger or more attractive girl for his use4 ,meanwhile the traffickers themselves take practically all of the earnings of their girl1 or girls1 as the case may be--except that portion which is appropriated by the madam of the house in which the girl is located--and spend it for flashy clothes and in gambling and drinking1 they in some cases spending a portion of their time in soliciting trade for their slaves4 ,in most of our cities of any considerable size there are numerous restaurants and other places where these slavers congregate for the purpose of drinking1 smoking and discussing their affairs4 ,with them the girls are merely chattels1 and are lightly spoken of by them as their 8meal tickets0 or their 8stock10 and deals are made between them for the exchange of girls or for the turning of them over to other traffickers4 ,as for the girl herself--between the madam1 who usually receives one-half her earnings1 and the man1 to whom she is generally required to turn over all of the rest of her earnings1 and by whom she is also held to a strict account1 and is frequently beaten and otherwise abused if her earnings are not sufficient to satisfy him--the poor girl is indeed in a miserable plight4 ,no other form of slavery which has ever been devised can equal her condition4 ,a national disgrace4--,hours and days might well be consumed in explaining the facts and conditions involved by this white slave traffic in the different sections of the country1 but if it has been made clear that there is such a traffic1 that it extends throughout our entire country1 and that it involves conditions which are a disgrace to our nation1 it would seem that little else need be said regarding this phase of the matter1 unless it be to add that it is estimated that not less than #be1jjj young women and girls are annually procured for this traffic1 and that no less than #ej1jjj men and women are engaged in procuring and living on the earnings of these women and girls1 and that the number of women and girls engaged in prostitution in this country at the present time is estimated at not less than #bej1jjj4 ,power of the ,federal ,government to wipe out this awful traffic4--,these figures will give some idea of the enormity of the evil which is involved4 ,moreover1 it will be apparent that the white slave evil is one of a national character and one which cannot be successfully dealt with by local authorities4 ,that it should be suppressed there can be no question1 and this leads us to consider the facts as to the means available for its suppression4 ,by the ,constitution of the ,united ,states the ,federal ,government is given three important powers1 which have a direct bearing upon this traffic4 7a7 ,by ,section #h of ,article ,i of the ,constitution ,congress is given power 8to regulate commerce with foreign nations and among the several ,states40 7b7 ,by the same article and section it is given authority 8to establish postoffices and post roads40 7c7 ,by ,section #a of the ,thirteenth ,amendment to the ,constitution it is provided that 8,neither slavery nor involuntary servitude1 except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted1 shall exist within the ,united ,states1 or any place subject to their jurisdiction10 and by ,section #b of the same amendment it is provided that 8,congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation40 ,it is believed that by these provisions sufficient authority has been vested in the ,federal ,government to enable it1 by enacting and enforcing appropriate legislation1 to absolutely wipe out every vestige of this awful traffic4 ,about two years ago1 having in mind its powers under the interstate commerce clause of the ,constitution1 ,congress enacted1 under date of ,june #be1 #aiaj1 what is known as the ,white ,slave ,traffic ,law1 by which the transporting1 or the persuading1 enticing or coercing of women and girls to travel in interstate or foreign commerce1 for the purpose of prostitution1 or for any other immoral purpose1 is made a crime4 ,this provision of law seems fairly well to provide such legislation as is necessary and proper under the interstate commerce clause of the ,constitution4 ,it is believed1 however1 that the hands of the government would be greatly strengthened in dealing with this traffic if the law were extended so as to make it a crime for persons to communicate by mail1 telegraph1 or in any other manner from one ,state or territory to another1 or to any foreign country1 for the purpose of inducing or persuading any woman or girl to travel in interstate or foreign commerce for the purpose of prostitution or debauchery1 or for any other immoral purpose1 and it would also be well if it were also made a crime to send any communication1 by means of the telegraph1 through the mails1 by express1 or by any other common carrier in interstate or foreign commerce1 for the purpose of soliciting money or other valuable thing--the avails of prostitution--except for a legal and adequate consideration4 ,a statute of this kind would be very useful in dealing with persons connected with the white slave traffic who cannot be reached under the present ,white ,slave ,traffic ,act1 but who are communicating with and directing the movements of their victims and are receiving their earnings through the various channels of interstate and foreign commerce4 ,the use of the postoffice4--,as to the ,constitutional provision with reference to postoffices it is of the highest importance that legislation be immediately enacted which will absolutely prohibit the use of the postoffice establishment of the ,united ,states as an agency for the white slave traffickers in procuring women and girls and in directing their movements1 not only from ,state to ,state1 but also from one place to another in the same ,state1 and in soliciting and receiving earnings from victims of white slavers4 ,investigations already made show clearly that the postoffice establishment of the ,united ,states is being very extensively and effectively used by white slave traffickers1 not only as a means of communicating by letter and of soliciting and demanding and actually receiving the earnings of their victims1 but also as a means of sending broadcast throughout the country cleverly-worded advertisements which greatly aid them in the pursuit of their traffic4 ,carefully prepared statutes have long since been enacted1 prohibiting the sending through the ,united ,states mails of any obscene letters or communications1 and also prohibiting the sending of any letters or other communications for the purpose of defrauding anyone4 ,however1 there is no prohibition whatever against the use of the mails for the purposes mentioned in connection with the white slave traffic4 ,laws inadequate4--,with reference to the slavery clause of the ,constitution1 it will perhaps be somewhat surprising to learn that there is no ,federal law which makes it a crime for one person to hold another in slavery or involuntary servitude1 unless such person has been1 in the first instance1 kidnapped or carried away1 or bought or sold1 and although our investigations have1 in numerous cases1 developed the fact that young women and girls have been actually deprived of their liberty and held in involuntary servitude of the vilest kind 7in many cases they having had their street clothes taken away from them1 having been confined by barred windows and locked doors1 and also having been deprived of their liberty by drugs1 threats of violence1 and by actual personal violence71 there seems to be no statute under which persons so holding them in slavery can be punished by the ,federal ,government4 ,it is believed that under the circumstances a most rigid law should be enacted under this clause of the ,constitution4 ,there are a number of other matters which it might also be well to cover in order to fully provide for the suppression of the white slave traffic4 ,new laws needed4--,first4 ,there should be an act of ,congress authorizing a woman to testify in such cases against her husband4 ,this is particularly essential for the reason that1 as has already been stated1 it is a common practice for procurers to marry their intended victims1 and it is frequently impossible to secure a conviction without the use of the testimony of the woman or girl involved4 ,second4 ,provision should be made by law for the issuance of search warrants by any ,united ,states marshals and deputy marshals1 and agents of the ,department of ,justice1 specially designated by the ,attorney ,general for the purpose1 to search any place where there is probable cause to believe that any person is detained or held in violation of law4 ,third4 ,the law should also authorize the arrest1 without warrant1 by the persons heretofore mentioned1 of anyone detected in the act of violating any such statute4 ,fourth4 ,in order to assure prompt trials and substantial1 swift and certain punishment in such cases1 the law should also provide for the advancement of such cases1 and their trial without delay1 upon request of the ,attorney ,general4 ,it should also fix1 with exactness1 the minimum penalty in such cases and require judges to promptly impose and cause the execution of sentences and prohibit the suspension of sentences by the courts4 ,while1 if the present ,white ,slave ,traffic ,act were rigidly enforced1 there would undoubtedly be a very great decrease in the operations of white slave traffickers throughout the country1 it is impossible to prevent1 under that law1 the use of the ,united ,states mails in the manner which has been stated1 and the thousands of instances where young women and girls are procured and held in this vile form of slavery within the confines of a ,state2 and consequently the horrible fact of the existence of this slavery will continue a disgrace to our nation1 notwithstanding the utmost that can be done by the agents of the ,federal ,government in enforcing the present ,white ,slave ,traffic ,act4 ,convictions and prosecutions4--,in this connection1 the question may well be raised as to why the present white slave law is not being more rigidly and effectively enforced throughout the country4 ,with reference to this ,i desire to state that when this law was enacted no appropriation was made by ,congress for its enforcement1 and in view of this fact1 the question of its enforcement was a very serious one4 ,the department's general appropriation for the detection and prosecution of crimes 7which necessarily covers the expense of all investigations made by the ,department of ,justice for the purpose of collecting evidence as to crimes under the anti-trust laws1 the bankruptcy statute1 the national bank act1 and many other laws1 for the enforcement of which no other appropriation is provided71 was already taxed to its utmost limit4 ,realizing1 however1 the great importance of determining promptly the nature and extent of the white slave traffic1 and doing everything possible to prosecute violators of this law1 the ,attorney ,general promptly after the enactment of the law1 directed that every possible effort be made1 within the limits of our appropriation1 for its enforcement4 ,this work was immediately commenced and was pushed with the utmost possible vigor with the funds available for the purpose1 and during the first year after the enactment of the white slave law about one hundred and thirty prosecutions were instituted against persons engaged in the white slave traffic1 a very large percentage of these prosecutions resulting in convictions and heavy jail and penitentiary sentences4 ,during the first nine months of this1 the second1 year since the enactment of this statute still greater efforts have been made for the punishment of the multitude of persons who have been found to be engaged in the white slave traffic1 and the department's appropriation has been taxed for this purpose to such an extent that in ,october1 #aiaa1 the point was reached where it was necessary for the ,attorney ,general1 in order to avoid violating the provision of the federal law prohibiting the incurring of deficiencies in appropriations under his control1 to suspend operations temporarily1 to a considerable extent1 and to call upon ,congress for an additional appropriation for the enforcement of the white slave law4 ,however1 notwithstanding the very limited funds available for the purpose1 during this period of nine months ending on ,march #cast1 last1 two hundred and nineteen persons were indicted by the ,federal ,government for violations of the white slave law1 and in these cases there were one hundred and thirty-five convictions1 and but nine acquittals1 and about one-third of the cases are still pending4 ,moreover1 the penitentiary and jail sentences which have been meted out to the persons who have been convicted under the white slave law within this period of one year and nine months aggregate three hundred and ninety-seven years1 two months and twenty-four days4 ,while it was believed that steps should be taken for the absolute suppression of the white slave traffic1 in so far as it was possible to do so under existing law1 and while it was felt that the circumstances justified the appropriation of a very substantial sum for the purpose1 in order to avoid the appearance of extravagance1 and since it was thought that a comparatively small sum might be quickly secured1 whereas there might be considerable delay if a large appropriation were requested1 the ,attorney ,general called upon ,congress for an appropriation of #be1jjj1 for the ,illustration3 ,,trial ,,of ,a ,,white ,,slave4 purpose of defraying such expenses for the remainder of the present fiscal year1 ending ,june #cj1 #aiab1 and also requested that his general appropriation for detection and prosecution of crimes for the fiscal year1 ending ,june #cj1 #aiac1 be increased in the sum of #ej1jjj over the appropriation for the present fiscal year1 in order to provide funds for work in white slave cases during the coming year4 ,the urgency of this matter has been called to the attention of the proper government officials and committees of ,congress1 both by the ,attorney ,general and by individuals and philanthropic societies in almost every part of the country1 all of whom have urged the immediate appropriation of adequate funds for this purpose4 ,while--perhaps through some misunderstanding as to the real situation--there has been an unfortunate delay in securing additional funds1 and consequently the work of the department in attempting to suppress the white slave traffic has been temporarily crippled1 ,i am glad to be able to say that we now have reason to believe that ,congress will in due season appropriate the full amount which the department has requested for this purpose for the coming fiscal year1 and that there is also a disposition on the part of members of ,congress1 with but few1 if any exceptions1 to provide whatever additional funds may be necessary to expunge this disgraceful blot of white slavery from the map of our beloved country1 and to enable our country to take a stand before the nations of the world which will1 at no very distant day1 result in sweeping this monstrous evil from the face of the earth4 ,it is believed that when the people of this country begin to appreciate the enormous extent and the terrible nature of this great evil there will be no disposition on their part to temporize with it1 but that they will demand not only that funds be appropriated sufficient to adequately enforce the present law1 but also that the law be so extended and strengthened that it will enable the ,federal ,government to wipe out this evil for all time4 ,that it is within the power of the ,federal ,government to destroy this traffic1 there can be no doubt1 and if this is not done it will be for the sole reason that the law is incomplete1 and that sufficient funds for the purpose are not within the control of our ,department of ,justice4 ,our department is thoroughly advised as to the situation and has formulated plans under which1 if properly supported by ,congress1 it can wipe out the disgraceful condition which now exists4 ,it is for the people of this country1 and their representatives in ,congress1 to say whether or not this shall be done4 ,note4--,the foregoing address1 the first ever given under sanction of our ,federal ,department of ,justice1 is the most authoritative utterance ever published on the ,white ,slave ,traffic in the ,united ,states4 ,the address was read and approved by ,attorney ,general ,wickersham1 and his assistant1 ,mr4 ,harr4 ,coming from this source and not from one who is seeking a career or other personal advantage from exploiting white slavery1 every statement of fact can be accepted and the recommendations endorsed4 ,mr4 ,finch has been connected with the ,department of ,justice for nineteen years4 ,we are assured by the press associations that fully #e1jjj publications in ,north ,america noticed the address1 most of them publishing a synopsis of #ejj words1 while a number published the address in full4 ,in the opinion of some of our leading workers it introduces a new and aggressive activity on the part of our ,department which sounds the death knell of this nefarious traffic in our country4--,reproduced by permission of 8,the ,light40 ,,chapter ,,lvii ,,the ,,purity ,,movement ,,by ,b4 ,s4 ,,steadwell ,president of the ,world's ,purity ,federation and ,editor of 8,the ,light40 ,the greatest evil4--,wonder is often expressed these days at the very rapid growth and rise of the movement known as 8,the ,social ,purity ,movement10 or as stated from its negative side1 as is done most frequently1 as the movement for the 8,suppression of the ,white ,slave ,traffic and ,public ,vice40 ,the real wonder is that the world has not risen long before this in one mighty1 well-directed effort to stamp out forever and annihilate its one worst enemy2 for impurity is and always has been the greatest enemy and most relentless foe of mankind4 ,in its modern and commercialized aspects it embodies in itself every evil in the category of sin and crime4 ,it has brought more direct loss to the world and more acute suffering to human hearts than all other evils combined4 ,whether it is dealing with an individual1 a community1 a state or a nation1 its finished product is always a wreck4 ,it has literally filled the world with disease1 with despair and with death4 ,its only excuse4--,impurity or immorality finds expression in a public sense in the ,social ,evil or prostitution1 the only known excuse for which is the plea that it has always existed1 is a necessary evil and hence cannot be suppressed but must remain1 under such regulatory measures as may be adopted4 ,there are those of us1 however1 who believe that this is a false theory1 not well founded in fact1 and that as other great evils1 in favor of which the same suave arguments were made1 have from time to time been wiped out1 even so can this ogre of public vice be suppressed4 ,it is not claimed that all private or clandestine vice can be entirely annihilated1 but its public phase can be and must be up-rooted if civilization is to advance4 ,there are those who even now prophesy that ,america in licentiousness and graft is going the way of ancient nations long since dead1 and that her days are numbered if these evils are not speedily checked4 ,two colossal blunders4--,the scope of this article will not permit going into the history of the ,social ,evil1 or1 indeed1 taking up the history of the movement that has risen to combat it1 but in order to form a foundation for the discussion we must call attention to the two colossal blunders which have perpetuated this evil throughout past centuries and enabled it to ,illustration3 ,b4 ,s4 ,,steadwell4--,president ,world's ,federation of ,purity1 and ,editor of 8,the ,light40 attain to its present proportions4 ,these questions may be discussed with even greater fullness in other pages of this book1 but it is fitting that attention be directed to them here4 ,false modesty4--,the first mistake which was made in dealing with this particular evil was to place a ban of silence upon it1 upon everything that could refer to it1 and upon our whole sexual relations1 nature and life4 ,the results were not happy4 ,nothing could have been done more conducive to the growth of the evil4 ,it brought in and developed the reign of false modesty1 of prudery4 ,concealment is not cure4 ,this evil craves darkness rather than light1 and thrives upon silence and secrecy4 ,a ,turkish missionary wrote me some years ago that in his country where women must appear with their faces completely covered1 the grossest immoralities were practiced by wives1 undetected1 in the very presence of their own husbands4 ,many of our present-day customs in pleasures and dress which form strong temptations for our young men and young women1 are a direct result of this 8conspiracy of silence40 ,here is a foundation stone upon which the whole miserable system of immorality rests4 ,the double standard of morals4--,the second great error which has fostered the evil is that known as the 8double standard of morals10 making the world act as though it believed that what was very wrong and unforgivable in a woman1 was not only permissible but a necessity in a man4 ,undoubtedly the originator of this very logical line of reasoning was a man4 ,woman1 if one false step is taken1 one breath of scandal uttered against her1 must forever wear the scarlet letter1 or else she must be sacrificed to perpetuate the very evil that has overtaken her2 while man may live in lust and if this alone be his sin1 retain his highest social privileges and standing4 ,without question this double standard of morals has been the most stupendous outrage ever foisted upon any part of the human race4 ,it was accomplished at a time when 8man was king0 and so slowly1 and carefully and cunningly did he plan it1 that it has not only withstood the test of time and continued to thrive1 but it has not too infrequently gained woman as its advocate1 until we often hear1 and sometimes not without cause1 that 8woman is the worst enemy of #8fallen' girls40 ,with these two weapons1 the conspiracy of silence and the double standard of morals1 licentiousness has marched steadily onward until it has conquered the civilized world so far as asserting its right to life is concerned4 ,the commercialization of the social evil4--,but to these two errors which have formed so strong a fortress to the ,social ,evil1 must be added in more recent times a third support1 one which many students of the question believe is the leading factor at present in the whole accursed business1--commercialization4 ,the ,social ,evil to-day is raised to the standard of a business4 ,it is conducted in all of its ramifications for gain4 ,it has simply taken on the spirit of this money-getting age4 ,its real motive is gain1 greed1 gold4 ,it is very largely a man's business1 too1 run by men for the profit there is in it1 and in our country those who are directly connected with the traffic are in the main foreigners4 ,the ,white ,slave ,traffic1 about which we hear so much these days1 is a direct result of this commercialization4 ,girls are actually sold into dens of vice4 ,only recently have these terrible facts been substantiated and the methods of the traffickers known1 and until the past few years the charges that there was a traffic in women and girls for immoral purposes1 have not been credited or believed by the great majority of people4 ,during the past few weeks under the direction of the ,united ,states ,department for the ,suppression of the ,white ,slave ,traffic1 more than fifty men and women have been convicted and imprisoned for this very crime1 and scores of indictments have been found against others4 ,this scatters all doubt about there being such a trade4 ,during the past few years evidence of the traffic has been so complete through the investigations of individuals1 grand juries1 vice commissions1 and congressional investigating ,illustration3 ,t4 ,,albert ,,moore1 ,d4,d4--,secretary ,moral and ,social ,reform ,council of ,canada1 and ,second ,vice-,president1 ,world's ,federation of ,purity4 committees1 that there is no longer any question as to the traffic or its extent4 ,the problem now is1 how to suppress it the most effectively and speedily4 ,it is asserted by a ,united ,states official that fully #ej1jjj men in the ,united ,states are living off the earnings of women of shame and in selling girls into vice4 ,others who profit from the traffic in virtue4--,but the buying and selling of women for immoral purposes is not the only way that financial profit is made from it4 ,it was discovered in a certain city recently that an old house that would rent for ordinary purposes for #ab4jj per month1 was bringing #afe4jj as a house of ill-fame4 ,landlords profit from the traffic4 ,liquor dealers profit from the traffic4 ,in the same way but possibly to a lesser degree certain merchants1 druggists1 lawyers1 doctors1 professional bondsmen1 gamblers and divers criminals profit financially from the nefarious traffic in virtue4 ,the extent of the evil4--,the extent of the ,social ,evil in the ,united ,states is not definitely known4 ,surveys of cities have been very carefully made at times1 and at the present time our ,federal ,department for the suppression of the traffic is conducting a very careful census of the women in houses of shame throughout the ,united ,states4 ,when this is completed we may know more certainly as to statistics4 ,the writer after a most careful and thorough investigation in #ahih1 estimated the number of girls and women in houses of shame in our country at #cjj1jjj4 ,this figure has been very generally accepted and used1 and from recent investigations it is evident that the number has not decreased4 ,the lives of women in houses of shame averages five years4 ,they do not all die within this time1 though many of them do succumb to the horrors of the life and accompanying disease1 drugs and drink in much less time4 ,some leave the life for honorable work or return home1 a few are married1 some are rescued1 but whatever the cause of their departure from the miserable life1 this one thing is sure1--for every one that gets out a fresh victim is required to take her place4 ,accepting these estimates as correct1 we see #fj1jjj girls and women are required each year to provide for the constant demand of the public houses of shame4 ,more than #b1jjj1jjj men and boys are the patrons and consorts of these women1 ruining morals1 health and happiness1 and this is one of the most deplorable phases of the whole system4 ,the profits from vice in the ,united ,states are beyond estimate1 but are known to run up into the billions of dollars annually4 ,the ,chicago ,vice ,commission estimated the profits from vice in ,chicago alone as #ae1jjj1jjj yearly4 ,why past movements have failed4--,this is the ,social ,evil as we have found it in the past and as it is to-day1 together with the fundamental causes that are back of it4 ,movements have sprung up during past centuries to stamp it out or at least to limit and control it4 ,rulers from ,moses to ,charlemagne have attempted to deal with the problems which it presents4 ,these efforts in the past have failed largely because they sought reform through dealing with the women of shame only and thus was recognized and fostered one of the principal causes of the evil itself4 ,why the modern movement is more effective4--,during the past sixty years there has developed the modern purity movement which has sought relief from the ravages of vice through a careful study of the evil and the application of such principles and remedies as would meet the situation effectively4 ,this movement has been very rapid in growth not only in ,europe and ,america but in all civilized countries4 ,even ,japan has its book1 8,the ,social ,evil in ,japan10 which not only reveals conditions there but also gives an account of the various organizations that are endeavoring to suppress public vice1 and appeals for such legislation and education as will forever make the old rgime impossible4 ,while space will not permit us to treat historically of the origin of this movement or even to mention briefly those who founded it1 we desire here to record our profound admiration for the early workers in this great cause4 ,the 8conspiracy of silence0 was then in full operation4 ,the faithful men and women who first stepped out from the beaten paths and espoused the cause of the 8fallen0 girl1 were far more brave than he who faces midst the excitement of battle the cannon's mouth4 ,these pioneer men and women whose hearts had been wrung by the atrocities practiced upon the victims of vice1 the utter despair in homes disrupted1 and the agony of lives diseased and ruined1 were socially ostracized1 they were brought before courts1 churches were closed to them1 friends deserted them1 mobs awaited them1 all because they chose to set the slaves of vice free and to proclaim the truth4 ,but still they were true1 laboring faithfully on until to-day no movement for the uplift of society has a more general following and devoted leaders4 ,all honor to the pioneers in the purity movement6 ,men are as guilty as women4--,the purposes of the present purity movement have been strongly hinted at in the statement of the causes which have produced the commercialized ,social ,evil of to-day4 ,workers now realize that if the dangers and evils of prostitution and public vice are to be reduced to a minimum1 that vicious men must be dealt with as well as the women and that spasmodic raids and clean-ups and sensational methods and literature must have no part in the program4 ,the methods employed must be both safe and sane and systematically continued for an indefinite time4 ,the 8conspiracy of silence0 must be broken1 but not by going to the opposite extreme2 the 8double standard of morals0 must be banished forever1 not by lowering the standard for women1 but by raising the standard for men2 and through legislation and the strict enforcement of law1 the commercialization of the ,social ,evil must be made impossible4 ,this programme is sure to result in success if the movement can attract leaders who are sincere1 religiously normal and sound1 and who will follow methods that are safe and sane4 ,great evils must be met with great movement if success is really desired1 and therefore this movement must not be exclusive but should be large enough to reach and influence the great mass of our people4 ,these remedies will effectively suppress the ,social ,evil if systematically applied1 not instantaneously1 evils are not up-rooted in that way1 but by a gradual process of elimination that in the end will mean annihilation4 ,the remedies proposed may be briefly outlined under the following heads3 ,education1 ,legislation1 and ,rescue ,work4 ,education4--,we believe that every child should receive all possible knowledge1 imparted in a pure and wholesome manner at proper periods1 concerning the purposes1 problems and perils of sex4 ,the ideal place ,illustration3 ,,american ,,purity ,,conference4--,touring ,party at ,new ,orleans to give this instruction being the home and the ideal instructor the parent1 but where this is impracticable1 as it is in most homes of to-day because most parents are ignorant of these subjects1 the church1 the school1 and special instructors should be utilized4 ,most high-charactered physicians are fully able to impart such knowledge wisely4 ,normal schools should prepare teachers generally for teaching the subject of sexology4 ,through parents' meetings1 fathers and mothers can be prepared so they may at least answer the questions of their children pertaining to these subjects4 ,the ,church and ,sunday ,school with their strong religious and spiritual atmosphere1 furnish almost an ideal setting for teaching this subject to best advantage to the young4 ,the instruction should fully set forth the dangers and perils in impurity and thus give the needed warnings1 as well as portray the beauty1 healthfulness and happiness of the pure life4 ,falsehoods or deception as to where the baby came from1 or any other fact pertaining to the sex nature or function1 should never be tolerated for a moment4 ,the public should be made acquainted with the nature and dangers of the diseases of vice1 venereal plagues1 and told that much of our physical suffering is due to these loathsome maladies4 ,ignorance is largely responsible in permitting the ,social ,evil to exist4 ,it must be displaced with knowledge4 ,the double standard of morals must be fought1 and men who are impure given to know that they cannot continue in sin without losing their social standing4 ,methods of education4--,there are hundreds of organizations in the world to-day1 a part of this great purity movement1 engaged in promoting sex education4 ,some of them possibly may not be working in the wisest way1 but as the work is yet in its pioneer days the only way to learn is through trying1 and as the public conscience is being thoroughly stirred and countless numbers of our best men and women are studying the problem1 we can rest assured that in time ideal methods will be evolved4 ,physicians who but a few years back were almost a unit in teaching the necessity doctrine for men1 to-day are organizing and promoting the very highest and best education4 ,many denominational churches are establishing purity departments1 while ,sunday ,schools are entering heartily into the great work4 ,many ,normal schools and colleges and private institutions of learning are adopting special instruction in sexology4 ,parents' meetings are being held everywhere to promote the cause4 ,many who have felt a special call to the work are devoting their whole time to lecturing and the preparations of books on these subjects4 ,prof4 ,t4 ,w4 ,shannon1 of ,missouri1 the author of this book1 is one of the best known of these specialists4 ,such societies as the ,white ,cross for young men and the ,white ,shield for young women1 and departments in women's clubs1 temperance organizations1 ,christian associations1 and church federations1 are aiding splendidly in the furthering of this cause4 ,legislation4--,much has been done and very much more can be done to lessen the evils of vice through the enactment of suitable laws and the strict enforcement of law4 ,those who make a business of vice must be adequately punished whether they are engaged in buying and selling girls1 living off the blood-money of vicious women1 renting property at exorbitant prices1 or securing an income and support from the detestable business in any other way4 ,the stage1 the press and the street must be purified4 ,amusements1 excursions1 and playgrounds should be properly supervised4 ,immoral literature and obscene pictures must be banished4 ,social and economic life must be improved4 ,the hours of labor must be shortened1 wages must be raised1 a minimum wage insisted upon1 sanitary conditions in factories and shops must be improved1 employment must be assured to all4 ,the ,age of ,consent should be at least eighteen years in every ,state4 ,segregated and tolerated vice districts should be abolished4 ,those who decoy either girls or boys into disorderly houses1 or seek to initiate them into lives of sin1 should be severely punished4 ,every possible protecting measure in law should be thrown about our boys and girls1 our young men and young women to shield them from the temptations of vice4 ,law enactment and law enforcement4--,it is encouraging to note the many good laws that have been passed by our several ,states and by our ,national ,government during the past few years in line with the above suggestions4 ,our ,federal ,white ,slave ,traffic ,act1 together with the ,department that has been established for the suppression of the white slave traffic1 is an exceedingly strong piece of legislation1 and in conjunction with various ,state laws against pandering1 will suppress in time this awful trade in girls4 ,age of ,consent legislation1 ordinances against immoral shows1 regulation of public dances and other amusements1 and hundreds of other measures1 are good laws4 ,it is stated by many reformers that we now have sufficient law to suppress these evils entirely1 but that our failure to do so is due to the fact that the laws are not enforced4 ,to remedy this very serious defect law enforcement campaigns are now on in many of the leading cities1 and these efforts are rapidly spreading to smaller places4 ,such campaigns sincerely conducted1 will in time lead to the strict enforcement of law in ,america4 ,it has recently been suggested that every ,state should organize a bureau or commission for the suppression of public vice and the enforcement of laws against the crimes of vice4 ,if this can be accomplished1 it is quite certain to lead to a better enforcement of these particular laws4 ,rescue work4--,purity work had its very inception in the rescue of girls and women from houses of shame4 ,it was in connection with this work that the facts pertaining to the methods of organized vice were first uncovered4 ,there are in the ,united ,states at the present time probably two hundred and fifty rescue homes for erring girls and women4 ,unmarried mothers are cared for in many of these homes while the girl who has gone wrong may find shelter and protection in them if she is repentant and sincerely desires to return to a virtuous life4 ,where houses of shame are closed or segregated districts abolished1 it is but humane that the inmates of these resorts be cared for until they can be taught some trade or work that will give them support4 ,many workers believe that the ,state should erect model homes for the reception and care of all such girls4 ,many of the rescue homes now running are under the direction of the ,church1 or other ,christian or religious society4 ,we should remember that in the redemption of every erring girl1 we not only gain her but accomplish much in the prevention and destruction of public vice if we can prevent another girl from taking her place in the underworld4 ,it is thus largely a preventive work4 ,every purity worker who is sincere1 believes heartily in rescue work that is wisely and carefully prosecuted4 ,a personal invitation--,come and battle with us4--,this in brief is the purity movement as it has developed and as we find it to-day battling for all that makes for a higher standard of purity in the life of the individual and in social and civic relations1 creating a sentiment1 a purity literature and an army of well-equipped workers that will make it forever impossible to return to the days of ignorance and prudery that have always existed on matters of self and sex4 ,it proclaims the right of every child to be well born and the right to be followed through life with such an environment and training as will assure the very best development and highest attainment4 ,this is all it asks4 ,is it too much to strive for8 ,surely we could not be content with less and be true to the intelligence and soul-life that is ours6 ,no cause since time began has had more to offer to those who enter its ranks than this4 ,it appeals to every true man and woman to help carry its standards to victory1 and then when ignorance shall have been abolished by knowledge1 vice eradicated by virtue1 disease displaced by health1 and darkness dispelled by light1 there shall be ushered in that ,day of ,days when man shall be supremely happy because he is pure4 ,,index ,,page ,abortion1 a mother's testimony1 #dgc ,adolescence1 early1 #adc ,adolescent1 period of boy1 #bjd ,age1 a sad old1 #de ,air1 effects of foul1 #bhd ,alcoholic1 effects of fathers1 #dhj ,animals1 baby1 #ajh ,ant and ,bee1 devoid of love1 #aje ,asylum1 a visit to1 #dhg ,atavism1 #ddb2 examples of1 #ddb ,b ,,baby animals1 #ajh2 birds1 #aje2 fish1 #ajj2 oysters1 #ii2 let alone1 #ee ,,bath1 air1 #bhe2 air for men1 #cgb2 cold and warm1 #bgi2 cold1 easy inure one's self to1 #bhj2 the friction1 #bha2 effects on beauty1 #bgi ,,beauty1 architects of1 #bgf2 and sex nature1 #afb2 building through bath1 #bgi2 hair1 face and teeth1 #bhi2 relation of air to1 #bhc2 some musts and must nots1 #afd2 substitute for physical1 #afd2 two kinds of1 #afb ,bible and ,heredity1 #djj ,,birds1 baby1 #aje2 beginning of love1 #ajd ,birth1 #bfc ,,birth ,,marks1 #did2 only nervous mothers1 #did2 materialistic puzzle1 #die2 an experience with government1 #die2 an explanation of1 #dif2 effect of constant mental repetition1 #dig2 how to prevent1 #dig2 example of crawfish1 #dih2 example of mole1 #dih2 example of amusing case1 #ejb2 example of sympathy1 #eja2 example of anger1 #dii2 example of discussed1 #ejj2 a sad case1 #ejb2 child marked twice1 #ejc ,blind children1 #cbf ,books1 advice concerning1 #bcj ,,boy1 the problem of1 #cd2 should be treated differently than sister1 #cd2 should be taught to work1 #cd2 enjoys making money1 #cd2 future vocation1 #cf2 moral training should be same as sister1 #cg2 should play with girls1 #ch2 companions of1 #ch2 going to college1 #dj2 how one tried to be a man1 #agd2 adolescent period1 #bjd2 struck girl1 #aei ,,boys1 should protect girls1 #bad2 may injure themselves1 #aie2 can live pure1 #bje2 who make men1 #aha2 why tempted1 #agi2 a class of dangerous1 #afa2 true and pure1 #afa2 need training1 #agc2 want to be men1 #agd2 do not know effects of secret sin1 #aih ,,boys and ,,girls should play together1 #aeg2 social nature1 #aeg2 similar information needed1 #abb ,,boys and ,,men sap their life1 #aih ,bravery1 the truest1 #bac ,breasts1 the1 #ace ,c ,caponized male bird1 #bai ,change in life1 man or woman1 #edb ,change in reproductive system1 #ech ,,change of ,,life1 age 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of blind chance1 #dbi2 robbed of birthright1 #dcj2 clear bill of health to1 #dce2 inheriting low vitality1 #dcf2 few well born1 #ddf2 rights should come first1 #edf2 of senile men defective1 #edf ,,childhood1 importance of physical training in1 #eb2 importance of mental training in1 #ec2 importance of moral training in1 #ed2 social conditions change1 #fc2 knowledge of self important1 #fc2 confidence of1 #fd2 the inquisitiveness of1 #fe2 the unsatisfied mind of1 #ff ,christ1 need of1 #daa ,cigarette1 habit1 #ahj ,colds1 prevented1 #cgc ,company1 bad1 #bad ,conception1 need of rest before1 #dej ,condiments1 use of1 #ec ,,confidence1 of boys1 destroyed by parents1 #gf2 of girl1 destroyed by mother1 #gf ,confidential social advice1 #afj ,consumption1 #dcf ,consumption and cancer1 #dcf ,,continence1 sexual necessity theory of1 #cad2 biological law of1 #cae2 views of unreliable doctors1 #cae2 does not destroy virility1 #cae ,cousins1 marriage of1 #dch ,,creative ,,life1 nature and value of1 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,,girl1 and her father1 #da2 and her mother1 #da2 and her brother1 #db2 first and most valuable training1 #dd2 the independent1 #de1 #eai2 wise instruction needed1 #abd2 a confidential talk1 #abf2 have been little all these years1 #acj2 an interesting change1 #ach2 new social desires1 #adc2 why want a chum1 #adc2 needs two chums1 #add2 choosing the right chum1 #add2 the wise1 #ade2 boy struck1 #aei2 vanity of1 #afb2 in period of transition1 #bbf2 should consult mother1 #bdg2 if driven from home1 #bdi2 wronged1 a real living incident1 #bej2 blinded by double standard1 #bed2 was she scarlet or white1 #bee2 maternal instinct of1 #bfd2 the independent1 #bfd2 the modern1 #eah ,,girlhood1 #bcg2 comes but once1 #afa ,,girls1 sixty thousand lost annually1 #hj2 should be treated as your sister1 #bac2 association with young men1 #bcg2 should demand single standard of morals1 #bci2 why they go wrong1 #bde2 homes for unfortunate1 #bdh ,,gonorrhea1 #cbd2 discovery of disease germs of1 #cbd ,gonorrheal rheumatism1 #cbe ,h ,heart trouble caused by excess1 #edh ,heaven1 ante room to1 #cc ,,heredity1 versus environment1 #cif2 applied by the ,romans1 #cif2 ,plato's views1 #cig2 genius is1 #cih2 ,max ,jukes1 #cii2 ,jonathan ,edwards1 #cii2 the potency of1 #djj2 and ,bible1 #djj2 a modern proof1 #dje1 #djf2 who is responsible1 #djf2 morbid and bad environment1 #djf2 relation of three agencies1 #daj2 race can be improved by1 #daa2 an objection answered1 #dbj2 materialistic theory fails1 #dba2 explained1 #dbc2 who is to blame1 #dbe2 mothers advantage of1 #dbh2 right of child good1 #dde2 and moral tendencies1 #ead2 agencies of improvement1 #eab2 received at birth1 #eab2 parental responsibility1 #ead2 environment and ,christ1 #eaf2 a critic answered1 #chf2 in plant life1 #cia ,hereditary1 degeneracy1 kinds of1 #afd ,,home1 the childless1 #ba2 childless made happy1 #ba2 father head of1 #bd2 a good substitute for1 #cj2 should come first1 #cc2 unit of government1 #dg2 function of1 #ea2 punishment in1 #eg2 threatened1 #dga2 a drunkard's1 #dhb ,home and school defects in1 #ea ,homeliness1 how to correct some kinds of1 #afd ,homicide and suicide1 #dhb ,house keeper1 a good1 #ca ,,husband1 relation to wife1 #bd2 to furnish financial support1 #be2 to furnish moral support1 #bf2 to love wife1 #bf2 considerate young1 #cce ,,husband and ,,wife1 equal partners1 #bi2 how they differ1 #bi ,i ,ignorance1 a degrading form of1 #edc ,illegitimate father1 danger of becoming1 #cba ,imbecile1 ,spitzka's view1 #dgg ,imbecile question1 solution of1 #dgg ,immoral women dangerous1 #cbc ,immorality1 who is to blame1 #hj ,,impregnation1 #beh2 symptoms of1 #bfc ,imperfection of plants and animals1 #aie ,impure thinking1 effects of1 #bjg ,impure thoughts1 what produces1 #bbc ,,incontinence1 two forms of1 #cac2 a false idea about1 #cac2 effects of1 on marriage1 #cag ,influence1 the law of1 #ea ,inheritance1 our mental possibilities1 #eac ,intemperance and crime1 #dhd ,j ,jukes ,max1 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,neurotics1 #dcf ,no one had told her--poetry1 #abh ,,novel1 introduction1 #bbe2 why girls are fond of1 #bbe2 difference between good and bad1 #bbf2 effects of the vicious1 #bbg ,nuptial night of young man1 #cce ,o ,,offspring1 mental and moral states1 #dbd2 effects of narcotics on1 #dea2 from drunkards defective1 #dhc ,organs of gestation1 relation of1 to mind1 #bbb ,organs of sex1 what you should not do1 #adg ,,origin1 perverted ideas of--example1 #gc2 questions of children regarding1 #fe ,ophthalmia1 #cbe ,ovaries1 location and function of1 #acc ,ovulation1 #beh ,oysters1 story of baby1 #ii ,p ,,parents1 the training of1 #di2 should agree1 #ef2 the greatest blessing of1 #djh2 immature1 #dca2 effect of culture1 #deb2 suppressing evil tendencies1 #deb ,,parenthood1 intellectual preparation for1 #ddg2 physical preparation for1 #ddh2 an invalid mother1 #ddi2 morbid conditions transmissible1 #ddi ,passion1 meaning of1 #baj-caj ,,personal ,,liberty1 effects of1 #dhe2 two more examples1 #dhg2 versus rights of others1 #dhh ,,physical ,,culture1 #bia-cjc2 for men1 importance of1 #cga2 for men1 wild tribes1 #cgb2 for men modern customs1 #cgb2 ,exercise--rules for1 #cgd2 ,exercise--value of1 #cgd2 for men1 exercises1 #cge-che ,physical ailments1 common1 #edg ,physical disorder1 #ecg ,,plants1 story of1 #ib2 the outer parts1 #ib2 the papa parts1 #ic2 the mamma parts1 #ic2 how the two natures unite1 #id2 two natures not always in same flower1 #ie2 three methods of uniting natures1 #ig2 a wise plan regarding origin1 #ig ,poetry--,no ,one ,had ,told ,her1 #abh ,,pregnancy1 first twenty-four hours1 #bei2 first thirty days1 #bfj2 second thirty days1 #bfa ,prenatal opportunities1 #dbg ,,prenatal ,,influence1 effects of mothers1 #dfj2 effects of dishonesty1 #dfj2 effects of anger1 #dfj2 we are slow to learn1 #dfb ,,prenatal ,,training1 one-half before birth1 #ded2 transmission of acquired1 #ded2 ,dr4 ,fowler and ,dr4 ,cowan on1 #dee3 an example of1 #def2 mother's preparation1 #deg2 father's coperation1 #def2 order of1 #def2 ,example--inventive genius1 #deg2 ,example--two girls1 #deh2 ,example--golden hair1 #dei2 testimony of doctor1 #dei2 vitality determines results1 #dfc2 ,g4 ,campbell ,morgan on1 #dfe2 ,wesleyan ,methodist on1 #dfe2 ,dr4 ,winfield ,scott on1 #dfe2 ,prof4 ,riddle on1 #dff2 a suggestion1 #dfh ,problem1 divorce1 #dfh ,procreative period in sexes1 #ecb ,profanity1 use of1 #age ,,prostitution1 men fallen as women1 #cah2 no less sin because of price1 #cai2 great physical risk1 #cbj ,prostitution1 its only excuse1 #fjj ,prostate gland1 information on1 #cbe ,protected1 inspected1 neglected1 #dga ,,puberty1 #ahh2 pimples1 #afc2 treatment1 #afc ,pure man worthy of pure wife1 #cba ,,purity1 three good rules1 #ei2 personal1 #fj2 a nation's strength1 #dfh ,,purity ,,movement1 #eii2 why past have failed1 #fjg2 why modern is effective1 #fjh2 ,education in1 #faj2 methods of education1 #fac2 ,legislation on1 #fad2 law enactment and enforcement1 #fae2 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attractive1 #cb2 be industrious1 #cb2 take interest in husband's affairs1 #cb2 the helpmate1 #ccc ,,womanhood1 dawning of1 #abe2 a real transition1 #abg2 the charms of1 #ada ,womb1 location and function of1 #acd ,,women1 few go wrong by choice1 #bde-cai2 young should be sensible1 #bdj ,,woman ,,wronged1 should she ever choose title of ,mrs41 #bef2 necessary to tell child1 #bef2 should tell story to her lover1 #beg2 when not necessary to confess wrong1 #beg2 a man's appreciation of destroyed1 #cbj ,y ,,young ,,man1 ethics after engagement1 #ccd2 nuptial night of1 #cce ,,young ,,men1 many indiscreet or immoral1 #bci2 social nature of1 #cca2 pernicious custom of1 #bcb2 engagements of1 #ccd2 certain rights not yours1 #ccd ,,young ,,women1 be sensible1 #bdj2 letter writing of1 #bda2 8hands off0 policy1 #bda2 ethics of engaged1 #bdb2 advice to1 #bdc-bdd 99 99 99 99 99 ,,the ,,white ,,slave ,,traffic ,,and ,,public ,,vice ,,can ,,and ,,must ,,be ,,annihilated4 ,,the ,,light ,,official ,,magazine ,,of ,,the ,,world',s ,,purity ,,federation4 ,b4 ,s4 ,,steadwell1 ,editor ,this wonderfully helpful magazine has been published for fifteen years at ,la ,crosse1 ,wisconsin1 and has for its purpose the eradication of the traffic in women1 7,white ,slave ,traffic71 the suppression of public vice2 a higher and single standard of morality1 and the safe and sane instruction of our young in sex hygiene and the laws of life4 ,it is acknowledged everywhere to be the leading magazine of the world along social purity lines4 ,it tells exactly what our parents1 teachers1 editors1 doctors1 pastors1 evangelists1 ,sunday school workers1 social1 civic and moral reformers1 and our young men and young women ought to know1--tells it in a pure1 chaste way4 ,it is a magazine that ought to be in every home1 in every library1 and in every office4 ,i enclose my annual gift to ,the ,light of #e4jj4 ,you are doing a glorious work4--,j4 ,t4 ,s4 ,williams1 ,iowa4 ,the ,light has been of greater value 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,may number of ,the ,light is one of the best1 the most hopeful and encouraging of all the good issues you have sent out4 ,may ,god bless and prosper you in this good work4--,sylvanus ,stall1 ,d4 ,d41 ,philadelphia1 publisher 8,self and ,sex ,series40 ,dear ,mr4 ,steadwell3 ,enclosed find check for #a4jj4 ,please continue ,the ,light to my address4 ,i can't get along without it--nothing is more helpful in my work and there is not a copy that is not more than worth the #ej cents4--,mrs4 ,lulu ,loveland ,shepard1 ,president1 ,utah ,state ,w4 ,c4 ,t4 ,u4 ,the ,light1 so far as ,i know purity literature1 is1 beyond all comparison1 the best periodical on the varied phases of the broad subject of the sex problem as it agitates the world today4 ,it keeps abreast of the negative side1 everything that is being done to reduce and eliminate vice is discussed in fullest detail2 on the positive side1 everything that is being tried to bring in a speedy development of pure manhood1 womanhood1 childhood1 home life1 public life on these lines1 is dealt with sanely and in due proportion by writers of unquestioned competence1 arranged with the skill of a born journalist4 ,i have a complete set1 from ,no4 #a1 ,vol4 #a1 and find it a perfect thesaurus of information on every conceivable phase of the question4 ,then each new number comes with new and most important matter1 which keeps one up-to-date with the world-campaign for a clean humanity1 while old and new material throbs with a constant inspiration4 ,god give it an immense circulation until the ,world ,federation for ,purity shall have accomplished its work4--,rev4 ,dr4 ,c4 ,s4 ,eby1 ,toronto1 ,canada4 ,the ,light contains from #fh to #ajj pages each issue4 ,publishes all the reform news of the world and portraits of the leading writers4 ,a yearly subscription is only #fj cents2 single copy1 #aj cents2 foreign postage #ae cents per year4 ,help scatter its needed messages by subscribing yourself and urging others to subscribe4 ,agents are wanted for this magazine everywhere4 ,address all communications and send all remittances to ,,the ,,light ,b4 ,s4 ,steadwell1 ,editor4 ,la ,crosse1 ,wisconsin4 99 99 99 99 99 ,typographical errors corrected by the etext transcriber3 ,there as so many things ,there are so many things pg #hi as he can develope into a pure as he can develop into a pure pg #afh 8,hotchison notched teeth10 8,hotchinson notched teeth10 pg #djf tempermental adaptation temperamental adaptation pg #dci unnatural social1 econnomic unnatural social1 economic pg #dda kidnaped or carried kidnapped or carried pg #eij