,note3 ,images ( ! orig9al pages are available ?r\gh ,int]net ,ar*ive4 ,see https3_/_/ar*ive4org_/details_/beadlesdi mebooko#jj;bead ,,beadle',s ,,dime ,illu/ration ,,book ,,( ,,practical ,,etiquette ,,= ,,ladies ,,& ,,g5tlem53 ,be+ a ,guide to ,true ,g5tility & ,good-,bre$+1 & a ,complete ,directory to ! ,usages & ,obs]vances ( ,society4 ,includ+ ,etiquette ( ! ,ball ,room1 ( ! ,ev5+ ,p>ty1 ! ,d9n]-,p>ty1 ! ,c>d & ,*ess ,table1 ( ,bus9ess1 ( ! ,home ,circle1 c41 c4 ,prep>$ ,expressly = ! ,dime ,s]ies by ,a ,,committee ,,( ,,?ree4 ,new ,york3 ,irw9 ,p4 ,beadle1 ,co41 ,no4 #acg ,william ,/reet4 ,ent]$ accord+ to ,act ( ,congress1 9 ! ye> #ahei1 by ,irw9 ,p4 ,beadle1 ,9 ! ,cl]k's ,(fice ( ! ,di/rict ,c\rt ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates = ! ,s\!rn di/rict ( ,new ,york4 ,,introduction4 ,,t man is a g5tleman6 ,h[ ! he>t op5s to let him 91 )\t any fur!r comm5dation6 ,he may be wise1 & ri*1 & rem>k$ = 8 g5ius2 b if he be n a true g5tleman1 8 gifts w n avail to make him a favorite & a desirable companion4 ,t woman is a lady6 ,:at matt]1 !n1 if %e is n clad 9 silks1 or is n beautiful ( =m or feature8 ,%e has ! key :i* unlocks all he>ts = h]1 = to be a lady1 implies high qualities & graci\s gifts ( s\l4 ,:y1 !n1 are n all p]sons g5tlem5 & ladies8 ,we c n tell1 except x be t "s1 & a l>ge class (1 p]sons look ^u polit5ess z some?+ effem9ate1 or z fit only = fops2 & !re=e make boors ( !mselves1 because x is s manly to be co>se & to d j z "o pleases4 ,"s are actually ignorant ( :at con/itutes true polit5ess1 & err n f willfulness1 b f want ( k4 ,b su* p]sons are readily =givable1 =1 if _! disposition is to be polite1 !y w f9d ! way v easy into ! confid5ce ( all1 & w le>n1 ere long1 :at cu/om & usage has sanction$ z fit & prop] regulations = ! int]c\rse ( m5 ) m51 wom5 ) wom51 & all ) "o ano!r4 ,x is to su* p]sons z ^? la/-nam$1 t we especially address ?is little manual4 ,to le>n ! usages ( society is easy1 if "o only w le>n2 =1 aft] all1 ^! usages are n complicat$ & burd5some1 b gr\nd$ ^u simplicity itself3 ! great law :i* und]lies all1 is ! bless$ ,gold5 ,rule3 ,d unto o!rs z ye w\ld t !y %\ld d unto y4 ,we propose to give su* sugge/ions1 9 ! v>i\s dep>tm5ts ( social exp]i5ce1 z w advise ! read] ( ! usages sanction$ by em95t au?ority1 & ( ! deportm5t prop] & acceptable to well-br$ p]sons2 & flatt] ourselves t1 if our advice is foll[$1 ?is ,,dime ,,book ,,( ,,etiquette w prove entirely compet5t to fit its att5tive read] to move ) cr$it & self-respect 9 any circle :]e a true lady or g5tleman always f9ds ready recognition4 ,,cont5ts ,,introduction1 iii ,,entrance ,,into ,,society3 ,g5]al ,obs]vations--,case ( ! ,ba%ful ,"y ,man--,ent] ,society ,e>ly--,avoid ,=w>dness & ,romp+--,snobs--,fops--,bores--,! ,secret ( ,mak+ ,y\rself at ,ease--,good-,nature ev]y?+1 #g ,,g5]al ,,obs]vances ,,= ,,visits1 ,,etc43 ,! sev]al ,k9ds ( ,visits--,/yles ( ,dress appropriate--,prop] ,"t to ,call--,make a brief ,/ay--,visits to ! ,newly-,m>ri$--,( ,condol5ce--,aft] a ,p>ty--on ,new ,ye>'s day1 etc41 #ac ,,special ,,obs]vances ,,= ,,all ,,occasions3 ,directions = all to ,le>n by ,he>t1 9 ,reg>d to ,dress1 ,demeanor1 ,conv]sation1 etc41 etc41 #af ,,! ,,=mula ,,( ,,introductions3 ,h[ to ,introduce--,g5]al ,=ms to be ,obs]v$--,:5 ,introductions are ,prop]--,promiscu\s ,introductions ,improp]1 #bj ,,on ,,dress ,,& ,,ornam5ts3 ,good ,dress highly ,prop] & ,necess>y--,! k9d ( ,g>m5ts prop] = ,v>i\s ,occasions--,jewelry & ,fla% ,dress+ vulg>--,:5 ,jewelry is 9 ,good ,ta/e--,special advice to ,females ^u ,_! ,dress--,fl[]s1 ,jewels1 ,fea!rs1 ,arrangem5t ( ,hair1 etc41 etc41 #ba ,,on ,,cleanl9ess ,,& ,,fa/idi\sness3 ,! ,h&s1 ,nails1 ,m\?1 ,tee?1 etc41 etc4--,ba! ,frequ5tly = ,purity ( ,complexion--,tobacco & ,smell ( ,smoke ,(f5sive & ,=bidd5 9 ! ,h\se or 9 ! ,pres5ce ( ,ladies--,brok5 g>m5ts--,neatness insep>able f ,true ,g5tility1 #bd ,,conv]sation ,,& ,,p]sonal ,,address3 ,! ,v>i\s ,talk]s--,h[ to ,talk & ,:5--,! k9d ( ,subjects prop] to ,introduce--,p$antry out ( ,place--,impropriety ( ,p]sonalities--,good ,talk+ & ,good ,mann]s always g ,toge!r1 #be ,,writ+ ,,( ,,lett]s1 ,,etc43 ,h[ to ,address1 & k9d ( ,pap] to ,use--,seals1 ,franks1 ,sup]scriptions1 etc4--,! ,=ms g5]ally ,us$--,on ,/yle--,! ,proprieties ( ,language--,praise & ,flatt]y out ( ,place--,models n always ,available--,lett]s to ,fri5ds--,a ,dime ,lett] ,writ] 9 ,press1 #bg ,,balls1 ,,ev5+-,,p>ties1 ,,receptions1 ,,etc43 ,:ole ,etiquette & ,obs]vances ( ^! ,occasions1 ) ,special ,rem>ks to bo? ,sexes ^u ,deportm5t1 ,proprieties1 etc4--,a ,*apt] = all ,"y ,p]sons to ,read1 #ca ,,! ,,c>d ,,& ,,*ess ,,table1 ,,etc43 ,etiquette ( ,sociable ,games--,*ess & its ,proprieties--,*e]fulness a ,necess>y ,companion = all ,play]s1 #ch ,,ent]ta9m5ts1 ,,d9n]-,,p>ties1 ,,etc43 ,! :ole ,etiquette ( su* ,occasions1 includ+ ,g5]al & ,special ,directions1 #dj ,,etiquette ,,( ,,! ,,/reet3 ,explicit ,directions = ,behavior on ! ,/reet--,a ,true ,g5tleman kn[n by 8 ,demeanor--,h[ to ,treat ,ladies1 #dc ,,! ,,polit5ess ,,( ,,bus9ess3 ,h[ ,prop] ,polit5ess is1 9 ,employees & ,employ]s--,rules :i* %\ld ,inv>iably ,m>k _! ,deportm5t1 #df ,,advice ,,to ,,! ,,work+-,,man3 ,polit5ess ,ess5tial to all--,boori%ness ,intol]able & ,injuri\s--,! true ,relation betwe5 ! v>i\s ,work]s 9 ,society1 #dg ,,love1 ,,c\rt%ip1 ,,& ,,m>riage3 ,a ,*apt] by an ,em95t ,au?or--,! ,language ( ,true ,love & its ,expression--,! ,true ,relations ( ! ,sexes--,coquetry & ,flirt+ a ,m>k ( ,bas5ess--,c\rt%ip--,its ,modes ( ,proc$ure & its ,prop] ,manife/ation--,its ,att5dant ,responsibilities--,m>riage--,! ,solemn ,"* ( ! ,occasion--,its ,=ms ( ,proc$ure1 & ,rites ( ! ,c]emony--,aft]-,m>riage ,cu/oms & ,obs]vances1 #dh ,,respect ,,= ,,religion ,,& ,,old ,,age3 ,rem>ks ,design$ = ! ,"y ( bo? ,sexes1 & ,advice !y w n ,fail to ,pr(it by1 #ec ,,special ,,^w1 ,,= ,,ladies ,,only3 ,! ,necessities ( ,p>ticul> ,/yles ( ,dress--,velvets1 ,musl9s1 ,complexion1 etc4--,a fair ,face %\ld be ,always 9 ,smiles1 #ee ,,confid5tial ,,advice ,,to ,,"y ,,m53 ,! ,great1 ,inv>iable ,law ( ,comp5sations--,! ,true ,pr9ciples ( ,conduct1 ! & gr& ,secret ( ,success1 #eg ,,cultivate ,a ,,ta/e ,,= ,,! ,,beautiful3 ,:at ! ,beautiful is--,its great ,utility 9 ,modify+ our ,ta/es & 9 ,direct+ our ,habits--,art1 ,music1 ,books1 ,female ,companion%ip1 all to be ,cultivat$ ,s$ul\sly1 #ei ,,etiquette ,,( ,,horseback ,,rid+3 ,! ,uses ( ?is ,noble ,ex]cise--,! ,rules ( ! ,road & ! ,prop] ,att5tions to ,(f]--,! ,dress1 etc41 #fb ,,! ,,laws ,,( ,,home ,,etiquette3 ,a ,*apt] = ,e ,"o to ,read & to ,commit to ,memory--,h[ ,homes are made ,models ( ,happ9ess & ,com=t--,! ,laws ( ,int]c\rse ) ,gue/s & ) ,memb]s ( ! ,family1 #fd ,,c>ds ,,( ,,invitation ,,= ,,all ,,occasions3 ,! ,=mulas ( ,invitations1 ,c>ds ( ,address1 ,call+ ,c>ds1 ,w$d+ ,c>ds1 ,lett]s ( ,introduction1 etc41 etc41 #gj ,,beadle',s ,,dime ,,book ,,( ,,etiquette4 ,,entrance ,,into ,,society4 ,,has ! mom5t arriv$ :5 y are call$ ^u to ca/ aside y\r y\?ful associations & y\?ful irresponsibilities to take y\r place 9 society z a man or woman8 ,x is a mo/ important mom5t--"o :i* des]ves ! consid]ation ( a ?\ghtful /udy2 =1 ^u a prop] k ( :at belongs to true manhood1 true womanhood1 does mu* ( y\r aft]-life success dep5d4 ,if y are ignorant ( ! laws ( polit5ess1 ( ! rules & obs]vances ( true sociality1 ( ! means necess>y to r5d] y\rself an agreeable companion & a useful memb] ( ! social circle1 y beg9 life at imm5se disadvantage1 & w nev] cease to regret t ignorance4 ,x is su* an easy matt] to become famili> ) ! usages & proprieties ( social life t ignorance is inexcusable2 & :5 we see m5 ( s5se & sagacity behav+1 9 an assembly1 at a p>ty1 at ! d9n]-table1 at ! c>d-table1 l half-tutor$ savages1--rude1 awkw>d1 uncivil1 a s\rce ( annoyance to _! fri5ds1 we feel a degree ( indignation r ?an ( pity1 s9ce x is s easy to le>n h[ to behave1 t !re really is no good excuse = boori%ness & awkw>d deportm5t4 ,to illu/rate1 let u n>rate ! case ( our "y fri5d ,falconbridge1 ^: entree into society af=d$ a subject ( laught] & comm5t = weeks aft] ! incid5ts :i* he has _h ! c\rage to place be=e u z a w>n+4 ,he tells 8 /ory ?us3 ,i pull$ ! bell ) a mo/ n]v\s twit*2 ,i 'walk$ 9' ) fe> & misgiv+s2 9 ! p>lor n only sat ,miss ,jones1 b h] two c\s9s1 ! old lady1 a maid5 aunt1 & "s f\r or five ( ! junior bran*es ( ! ,jones family4 ,i got ?r\gh1 ?\gh x 0 fe>ful "w4 ,i set my hat on ! c5t]-table1 & x fell (f2 ,i pick$ x up1 & 9 do+ s1 hit my nose aga9/ a pile ( gilt-edg$ lit]ature1 & d[n x came pell-mell2 b ! *ildr5 came to my rescue1 & ,i f9ally f\nd myself arm$ by a lady ea* side--! c\s9s6 ,imag9e my feel+s--,miss ,j4 go+ 9 advance1 en r\te1 d[n ! av5ue to ! portly resid5ce ( ,misses ,degr&s4 ,we ent]$ ! ve/ibule2 ,i _h n spok5 a ^w all ! way2 ! two pretty c\s9s & ,miss ,j4 do+ a heap ( conv]sation4 ,9 ! hall ! old negro s]vant made a grab at my hat1 b ,i held on1 & 9 triumph c>ri$ x into ! p>lor1 :]e1 9 ! mid/ ( introductions1 fl>+ ( lamps1 & wav+ & flutt]+ ( silks & ca%m]es1 b[+1 scrap+1 fuss & fea!rs1 to all ( :i* ,i 0 m or less deaf & bl9d1 d[n ^u a piano-/ool 9 ! corn] ,i dropp$ my hat4 ,! two c\s9s froze to me1 introduc$ me2 ,i b[$2 "o ( ! ,miss ,degr&s came =w>d2 ,i 0 introduc$1 & z %e1 9 ! tip ( fa%ion1 made h] p]fectly gr& !atrical b[ to me1 grabb$ h] by ! h& 9 ! mo/ democratic mann] imag9able1 & %ook x mo/ he>tily4 ,%e n only blu%$1 b1 by h] eyes1 ,i saw t %e 0 likewise mad z a hornet4 ,h] si/] & h] _h a ^w1 & !n h] si/] avoid$ me4 ,?+s grew no bett] fa/2 f "o bungle ,i got into ano!r4 ,9 :i/ ,i 0 ignorant & awkw>d2 9 a hop waltz ) "o ( ! c\s9s1 ,i trod on h] toes1 until %e scream$2 &1 9 try+ to m5d ! matt]1 ,i /epp$ on ! fl\nces ( ,miss ,degr&'s dress & tore (f five y>ds at lea/4 ,9 despair1 ,i back$ d[n1 saw a seat1 ru%$ to x1 & d[n ,i sat ^u my hat6 ,9 confusion ,i arose1 snat*$ up ! pancake-look+ affair1 :i* ,i fr5zi$ly held up to public gaze4 ,!re 0 a ro> ( laught]--9 :i* ,i did n jo91 ,i assure y2 ,i gave a ru% =w>d1 hit ! corn] ( ! table1 tilt$ ov] ! a/ral lamp6--su* a cra%6--,i kept on1 ,i made = ! door :i* j !n old ,degr& 0 ent]+ avant c\ri] ( 8 old negro man1 :o bore a l>ge tray well fill$ ) w9e 9 glasses4 ,i /ruck ! old g5tleman s =cibly t he fell ^u ,pompey1 glasses1 & w9e2 &1 on my mad c>e]1 ,i proce$$4 ,go+ out ! wrong end ( ! hall1 ,i f\nd myself 9 a d>k d9+-room2 b1 j]k+ op5 ! fir/ door 9 advance1 ,i w5t out into a hall1 !nce to an ant]oom2 grop+ 9 ! d>k1 ,i /ruck my =ehead aga9/ a half-op5 door1 saw bu%els ( />s1 &--fell s5seless6 ,h[ or :5 ,i got home1 ! ,"l only kn[s2 b1 = "o week1 ,i _h a head too big = my hat1 & a pair ( t]rifically black eyes4 ,z soon z able to travel1 ,i left t 'settlem5t' nev] to return4 ,n[ ?is is no ov]wr\ght sc5e1 b "o :i* c\ld easily h happ5$ to any ba%ful1 awkw>d1 disconc]t$ "y p]son4 ,! great error he made 0 9 n go+ into society p]fectly self-possess$1 f hav+ a "r k ( :at 0 prop] 9 company4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 he _h wait$ too long be=e ent]+ into society1 &1 secondly1 he _h n in=m$ himself at all ^u ! mo/ common proprieties ( ! p>lor4 ,:at else c\ld h be5 expect$ ?an discomfiture & disgrace8 ,z a rule1 !n1 let u recomm5d all "y p]sons to ent] into social int]c\rse ere !y become ( age4 ,x is a mo/ admirable exp]i5ce to meet 9 fri5dly *at ) a fri5d or two--to sp5d an ev5+ ) an intellig5t lady1 & to le>n by degrees ! confid5ce & reliance :i* w s]ve to c>ry y bravely ?r\gh ! ev5+ at ! brilliant rooms ( fa%ion & gay company4 ,x w be f\nd1 by bo? sexes1 t timidity we>s (f rapidly by simple social conv]se2 & ! "y man or woman :o proposes to become a g5tleman or lady %\ld n fail to embrace e opportunity = meet+ ) well-mann]$ & intellig5t fri5ds--to sp5d an ev5+ ) !m--to read1 talk1 walk1 ride ) !m--to g out to conc]ts1 to ! !at]1 to ! pic-nic1 excursion1 *ur*1 or ev5+ p>ty4 ,timidity is n a s9--x is m]ely a fault :i* w soon we> away1 & a prop] self-possession w take its place1 if ! novice 9 society w use all necess>y means to ov]come ! feel+ :i* takes fright at a smile1 & is disconc]t$ by a fr[n4 ,9 seek+ to ov]come ba%fulness1 let !re be a c>eful /udy to avoid ! v common extreme ( =w>dness4 ,?is is ! m unbe>able because x is a s9 ( commission1 :ile ba%fulness is a s9 ( omission4 ,to be =w>d1 rude1 intrusive1 argues a sad want ( good bre$+ :i* no l5i5cy w ov]look4 ,9 a female ?is rud5ess is absolutely unbe>able1 because x s outrages all ideas ( fem99e graces & virtues--x makes u ?9k ! p]son co>se1 & ?is v feel+ dive/s u ( ! respect1 ! rev]5ce :i* %\ld always be felt = ! g5tle sex4 ,we say e>ne/ly to ^? "y girls :o b&y words ) provok+ "y m51 :o always romp :5 !y are abroad1 & w9 ! "n ( be+ indep5d5t1 t y v mu* injure y\rself 9 ! e/imation ( all well-mann]$ p]sons1 & d y\r "* ! inju/ice ( hav+ x consid]$ un-fem99e4 ,be gay1 be *e]ful1 be ! _s ( e company1 b at ! same "t pres]ve ! delicacy1 ! ref9em5t1 ! grace1 :i* are ! sure/ virtues = conqu]+ admiration1 = w9n+ love4 ,snobs are always impud5t1 & g5]ally are ignorant p]sons4 ,!y are rude z ! monkey is rude1 because !y really d n "k :at con/itutes good bre$+4 ,_! tailor lit]ally makes ! man--_! :ole m9d is giv5 to ! tie ( _! cravat1 & _! boots absorb mu* ( _! h>de/ ef=ts at philosophy4 ,!y are simply nuisances--a blot on ! fair "n ( man2 & %\ld be reg>d$ z an ext5sive species ( ape4 ,fops are n always snobs4 ,a p]son may be v va9 ( dress1 & make a silly display ( dry goods & jewelry1 & /ill be v g5teel & p]fectly poli%$ 9 mann]s4 ,! love ( %[ is a /rong passion 9 a l>g] class ( p]sons ?an is g5]ally suppos$1 = _m :o d n we> ! late/ /yles /ill h peculi>ities ( dress or ornam5t :i* are ! result ( z great a degree ( vanity z besets ! m gaudily dress$4 ,x is a weakness to be va9 ( dress1 = x places a virtue 9 goods :i* does n belong to x--x elevates a p]i%able & pur*asable commodity above ! tru] & nobl] attributes ( m9d4 ,bores are a l>ge class1 & numb] su* a v>iety ( species z to baffle def9ition4 ,let x suffice = u to say1 a man or woman is a bore :5 !y are intrud]s1 ei!r ^u p]sons' "t or company4 ,to "k :5 to leave1 :5 to cease conv]sation1 :5 to (f] att5tions1 to solicit favors1 is to "k h[ to behave well2 & no p]son w err :o is educat$ 9 g5tility1 or ^: appreh5sion ( :at is "r is n befogg$ by *>m+ illusions4 ,"o ( ! wor/ bores we ev] met 0 a female1 :o act$ z a k9d ( purveyor-g5]al to ! community = e *>ity :i* call$ = an active b5evol5ce4 ,?is lady w\ld come into our /udy at any mom5t1 w\ld =ce u into he>+ :i* we did n wi% to he>1 & into giv+ :at we did n consci5ti\sly ?9k x "r to give--s great 0 h] faculty = talk+ ?+s into a p]son4 ,%e & h] fri5ds ?\ght h] a v valuable woman2 we !n ?\ght h] to be1 & n[ "k h] to h be51 a mo/ unmitigat$ bore ( ! b5evol5t s*ool4 ,we h "h describ$ ^! sev]al enemies ( good bre$+1 because we d n wi% to recur to !m aga93 let u "h beg ( our read]s to make su* application ( ! sugge/ions z w prev5t any ( !m f becom+ ei!r snobs1 fops1 or bores4 ,once 9 ! pres5ce ( company1 l>ge or small1 =get y\rself s f> z to become "o ( ! numb]--lose y\rself1 y\r h&s1 & feet1 & eyes1 9 ! feel+ ( non-individualism1 )\t :i* !re really c be no real enjoym5t4 ,:at is call$ ab&on is a s5se ( non-individuality--a =getfulness ( self s f> z to ent] ke5ly into ! _s ( ! "t & occasion4 ,give y\rself no p>ticul> anxiety ab\t y\r p]son1 y\r demeanor1 y\r words & ways3 y c1 if n p]fectly at home1 h a c>e to demean y\rself well & cr$itably2 b d n be anxi\s ab\t x1 = anxiety bre$s a disquiet :i* is fatal to enjoym5t & to a good impression ^u o!rs4 ,good-nature is e ?+ 9 society1 z 9 bus9ess--x ov]comes _m a m\nta9 ( difficulty1 & a*ieves a success :]e no /]nness or anxi\s solicitude w\ld avail4 ,9 reg>d to ! =mulas ( introductions1 c>ds ( invitation1 etc41 too mu* /ress is laid by writ]s ^u etiquette1 :o leave ! impression t !re is a :ole *apt] ( ,greek v]bs to le>n be=e ! debutant 9 society c become famili> ) necess>y =ms4 ,!re is little1 inde$1 to cause al>m1 ! =ms be+ j :at any p]son's common-s5se w\ld dictate z be+ prop]4 ,we w give1 9 ! *apt] succe$+1 su* g5]al obs]vances & =mulas = introductions1 etc41 z seem necess>y to po/ our read]s ^u ! subject4 ,,g5]al ,,obs]vances1 ,,introductions1 ,,etc4 ,among ! g5tilities ( life1 visits hold a fir/ place1 & des]ve att5tion4 ,_! v>i\s occasion1 _! diff]5t "* & purpose1 _! mean+ are multiple1 & h1 !re=e1 "s =ms necess>y to be pres]v$4 ,we may rem>k t visits are classifi$ z foll[s1 viz43 visits ( m]e =m & policy2 visits ( real fri5d%ip2 visits ( congratulation & ( condol5ce2 visits to give out invitations = d9n]1 or a dance1 or an ev5+ p>ty2 visits ( /ate1 :]e ! p>ty call$ ^u is a lion1 an em95t p]son1 etc41 etc4 ,! g5]al /yle ( dress to be adopt$ ^u all ^! occasions1 is "o ( /udi$ neatness r ?an ( display or ( elegance4 ,display ^u su* occasions is really vulg>--x %\ld be res]v$ = ! gay & brilliant soiree or ev5+ company1 if x is made at all4 ,! "t = ! visit is aft] twelve o'clock1 noon2 be=e t h\r ! lady ( ! h\se is suppos$ to be busy at h] h\sehold duties1 & 9 gett+ ! rooms 9 ord] = ! day3 nev] make a call be=e t h\r4 ,occupy b a brief "t 9 y\r call1 = y "k n h[ mu* ! lady ( ! h\se may h to d1 nor :]e %e may wi% to g1 h5ce x is be/ always to make y\r call brief4 ,if /rongly urg$ to rema9 long]1 x w\ld be impolite to g 9 ha/e2 b1 z a g5]al ?+1 let fifte5 or tw5ty m9utes be ! "t sp5t 9 ! visit4 ,y w n !n be vot$ a bore1 b1 on ! o!r h&1 w be consid]$ a pleasant call]--p>ticul>ly if y h made y\rself agreeable4 ,%\ld ano!r p]son be ann\nc$ or ent] on a visit be=e y\r own visit is f9i%$1 x is b prop] = y imm$iately to retire1 unless y may be intimate ) bo? ! ho/ & ! new-com]1 & are invit$ to rema94 ,o!rwise be n precipitate to leave1 b politely )draw1 = y d n "k :at confid5ces !re may be to be talk$ ov]4 ,visits ( congratulation ^u occasion ( m>riage1 or safe return f a j\rney1 or long abs5ce1 or escape f calamity1 %\ld be at z e>ly a mom5t z ! p>ty seems ready = su* visits2 & %\ld be always made :5 y ent]ta9 a reg>d = ! p]son int]e/$4 ,x is n[ ! practice = newly-m>ri$ p to s5d out _! c>ds to ^? ( _! old fri5ds ) :om !y wi% to r5ew acqua9tance 9 _! new relation%ips2 & x is a sign t y d n wi% to r5ew ! acqua9tance if y fail to respond to ! c>d by call+4 ,if y fail to call1 ! p>ties c n consi/5tly recognize y aft]w>d1 except y h "s good & suffici5t apology to (f] = y\r abs5ce f _! reception-rooms4 ,visits ( condol5ce are too mu* neglect$ 9 ?is fa/ c\ntry ( ours4 ,9 ,europe ! cu/om ( call+ ^u ^? :o h suff]$ a loss by dea? is q g5]al4 ,! call1 ( c\rse1 %\ld be brief1 & ! words (f]$ ( ! k9de/ & mo/ consid]ate "*4 ,x w greatly relieve ! pangs ( sorr[ = ! liv+ to feel t o!rs are solicit\s = _! welf>e4 ,aft] y h att5d$ a p>ty1 soiree1 or sociable1 x is prop] to call ^u y\r ho/ )9 a =tnight1 to make inquiries aft] 8 or h] heal?1 & to rem>k ^u ! pleasure y exp]i5c$ on ! occasion ( ! p>ty4 ,?is is a pleasant way ( %[+ y\r fri5ds t _! ef=ts to please y are appreciat$4 ,new ,ye> visits1 /rangely en\gh1 are n g5]al 9 ?is c\ntry outside ( a few l>ge cities4 ,! fir/ day ( ! ,new ,ye> is set ap>t = g5]al calls1 :5 h\ses are op51 & all are privileg$ to ent] :o are fri5ds ( ! ho/1 or :o are 9 company ) a p]son :o is on ! call+ li/ ( ! h\se4 ,x is n prop] = a p]fect /rang] to ent] a room & introduce himself to ! ladies pres5t1 j because ! door is op52 if y wi% to call ^u ! receiv]s ( company1 get "s prop] fri5d to introduce y4 ,ev5 ! fre$om ( ,new ,ye>'s day w n excuse a lib]ty ) /rang]s4 ,9 _m in/ances h\ses are n op5 to calls1 on ,new ,ye>'s day1 = v>i\s reasons4 ,9 cases ( ?is k9d1 x is a pleasant rem9d] ( y\r exi/5ce1 & ( y\r wi% to cont9ue y\r social relations = ! ye>1 to s5d 9 y\r c>d sometime dur+ ,janu>y1 or1 :at is bett]1 to call sometime dur+ ! mon?1 & re-e/abli% y\rself 9 ! li/ ( fri5ds ( ! p>ty4 ,( ! v>i\s te*nicalities ( ^! sev]al occasions1 we may say3 ,nev] =get to ent] ! room ) ?or\ghly-clean$ boots4 ,always use ! scrap] & mats at ! door4 ,if y meet any "o on ! /aircase1 y %\ld uncov]1 :oev] x may be4 ,y %\ld d ! same 9 case ( an introduction4 ,if y h a cane1 keep x 9 y\r h&1 & be c>eful n to make mu* noise ) y\r boots4 ,:5 a new visitor ent]s a draw+-room1 if x be a g5tleman1 ! ladies b[ slightly2 if a lady1 e "o rises4 ,bew>e ( ask+ ! h\r1 or ( tak+ out y\r wat* dur+ a visit2 avoid spitt+ on ! floor--y\r pocket-h&k]*ief w s]ve y\r purpose4 ,to place y\r hat on any article ( furniture :5 y ent] a room is ung5teel2 to lay x on a b$ is unp>donable4 ,y mu/ hold x 9 y\r h&1 or leave x ) y\r ov]-coat 9 ! ant]oom4 ,cross+ ! legs1 & /ret*+ !m out at full l5g?1 are equally improp]4 ,! la/ arrival 9 a draw+-room takes a seat left vacant ne> ! mi/ress ( ! h\se4 ,a lady is n requir$ to rise on receiv+ a g5tleman1 nor to accompany him to ! door4 ,if y are invit$ to lay d[n y\r hat1 place x beside1 n be=e y4 ,a "y man w avoid sitt+ 9 an arm-*air--:i* %\ld always be aw>d$ to ! ladies or old g5tlem5 pres5t4 ,leave ! seat next ! fire to sup]iors 9 age or position4 ,! *ildr5 ( ! family %\ld assi/ _! p>5ts 9 receiv+ visitors1 relieve ! ladies ( _! wrapp+s1 provide seats1 & accompany to ! door4 ,nev] look ab\t y 9 a room1 z if y 7 mak+ an inv5tory4 ,! gloves %\ld n be remov$ dur+ a visit4 ,to bru% y\r hat ) y\r h& w expose y to ! *>ge ( extreme vulg>ity4 ,at ! entrance ( a visitor y %\ld rise4 ,a pr(essional man 9 8 (fice is alone exempt$ f ?is cu/om4 ,a lady does n put h] address on h] visit+-c>d4 ,we may "h also add ^! fur!r g5]al h9ts & sugge/ions3 ,naturalness is an ess5tial item 9 good-bre$+4 ,he> :at ,la ,bruy]e ?9ks on ?is important "q3 ,"s "y p d n suffici5tly und]/& ! advantages ( natural *>ms1 & h[ mu* !y w\ld ga9 by tru/+ to !m entirely4 ,!y weak5 ^! gifts ( heav51 s r>e & fragile1 by affect$ mann]s & an awkw>d imitation4 ,_! tones & _! gait are borr[$2 !y /udy _! attitudes be=e ! glass1 until !y h lo/ all trace ( natural mann]1 &1 ) all _! pa9s1 !y please b little4 ,)\t be+ va91 a "y girl %\ld be c>eful ( h] p]son4 ,no?+ is m repugnant to good ta/e1 ?an an air ( neglect 9 ! toilet & deportm5t ( woman4 ,! hair & head-dress especially require c>e & neatness4 ,bew>e ( imitat+ ^? p :o nev] "k :at to d ) _! bodies1 & c nev] keep _! h&s quiet4 ,sw++ on "o's *air is extremely ill-br$4 ,! eye-glass /uck 9 ! eye1 d5otes ei!r ! d&y1 ! cl]k1 or ! /ud5t4 ,?is cu/om is 9 no way disagreeable to ! pass]s-by1 b x has an air ( ill-bre$+ & imp]t95ce4 ,to foll[ a lady 9 ! /reet1 & turn ! head to />e at h]1 is /ill m imp]t95t ?an to d s 9 a prom5ade1 especially 9 cities1 = reasons :i* c n be fur!r av]t$ to 9 a book int5d$ = "y p]sons ( bo? sexes4 ,famili>ity ) s]vants %\ld be avoid$1 b !y %\ld always be address$ ) civility4 ,"s p1 9 speak+ to y1 h a silly habit ( pass+ _! h& ?r\gh ! hair1 or /rok+ ! mu/a*e2 "s ev5 c>ry a pocket-comb1 :i* !y produce on all occasions1 = dress+ ! be>d2 o!rs bite _! nails1 play ) _! wat*-key1 or j+le ! money 9 _! pocket2 all ^! (f5ces aga9/ propriety d5ote a want ( good-bre$+4 ,excess 9 p]fume %\ld be avoid$1 le/ ! suspicion be excit$ t y deal 9 ! odors t y inhale4 ,good-s5se has (t5 m to d ?an education1 9 mak+ a poli%$ man4 ,"o ( ! ess5tial qualities ( good-bre$+1 is des]v+ g5]al e/eem by "o's deportm5t4 ,9 little social games1 a malici\s girl w sometimes amuse h]self by impos+ on a companion a =feit t w make h] ridicul\s2 ?is %[s a bad disposition ( m9d z well z ill-bre$+4 ,if1 9 (f]+ a lady a gift1 y select "o t is v co/ly1 y may be guilty ( an imp]t95ce4 ,to speak 9 society ( private matt]s1 is extremely improp]4 ,turn+ up ! sleeves on sitt+ d[n to table1 z "s p]sons d1 is gross 9 ! highe/ degree4 ,a habit ( swe>+ always m>ks a vulg> man4 ,call+ to ! wait] ) a l\d voice 9 a public-room1 & /rik+ viol5tly on ! table1 are indicative ( extreme ignorance4 ,a snuff-tak] %\ld n take out 8 box at table2 8 neighbor w be little pleas$ at receiv+ ! /ray gra9s 9 8 plate4 ,indiscreet que/ions are imp]t95t1 z well z unseasonable h>angues4 ,y %\ld be ready to act ! knight1 if a lady 9 y\r company is attack$4 ,if %e give (f5ce1 & t )\t reason1 y\r (fice is t ( m$iator4 ,y %\ld ev5 ask p>don = y\r companion4 ,a bully w\ld act o!rwise2 b x is absurd to get into a qu>rel = ! sake ( ma9ta9+ t a p]son :o is insol5t has a "r to be s1 & t because he is ( y\r company4 ,y w %[ y\rself1 9 act+ ?us1 z ill-br$ z he4 ,if1 9 do+ an oblig+ act1 y make p feel ! obligation1 y deprive x entirely ( its value4 ,if y speak ( a fri5d to a p]son :o is n intimate ) bo? him & y1 preface 8 "n ) ! ^w ,mr4 ,x w\ld n be prop] to say to a s]vant or a port]1 ,is ,julius "h8 ,y mu/ say1 ,is ,mr4 ,julius "h8 ,a s]vant :o und]/&s propriety1 always speaks ( 8 sup]iors 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,:5 y receive a pres5t1 x w\ld be an (f5ce to ! donor to dismiss ! port] )\t a gratuity4 ,if ! honor ( a woman be attack$1 y %\ld always def5d x4 ,x is n all[able = any "o to assail ! reputation ( a lady1 ev5 if %e be op5 to c5sure4 ,9 walk+ ) a lady 9 ! /reet1 leave h] ! inn] side ( ! pavem5t4 ,if y meet fri5ds 9 a n>r[ passage1 or on a footpa?1 be c>eful n to block up ! way4 ,x w\ld be v impolite to inconv5i5ce ! pass]s-by 9 ?is mann]4 ,9 :atev] society y are1 x is unp>donable to rema9 cov]$ 9 ! pres5ce ( a lady4 ,l\is ,,xiv41 go+ "o day on foot out ( ! ca/le ( ,v]sailles1 uncov]$ be=e a v5d] ( cakes :o 0 /ation$ ne> ! gate4 ,! c\rti]s hav+ express$ _! surprise2 ,g5tlem51 said ! mon>*1 is n ! k+'s "m a woman8 ,our read]s may also rememb] ! incid5t relat$ ( ,h5ry ,clay3 a negro woman c\rtesi$ to him1 :5 he rais$ 8 hat politely to h] 9 return4 ,:at6 said a fri5d1 d y recognize negroes8 ,! noble reply 03 ,i nev] all[ negroes to excel me 9 good mann]s4 ,:5 y\r visitor retires1 y %\ld accompany him to ! ant]oom1 & save him ! tr\ble ( op5+ ! door4 ,9 ! case ( a lady or an old g5tleman1 x is prop] to g to ! foot ( ! /aircase4 ,,! ,,=mula ,,( ,,introductions4 ,we %all say only a few words ab\t pres5tations4 ,! same =m is always obs]v$1 ,let me introduce to y ,mr4 ,b42 or1 ,mr4 ,jones1 all[ me to pres5t to y ,mr4 ,smi?2 or1 ,i h ! honor to pres5t to y my intimate fri5d4 ,introduce no p]son until y are sure x is agreeable to bo? p>ties4 ,ladies %\ld always be ask$ if !y wi% to "k ,mr4 ---- ere he is pres5t$ to !m4 ,! rule inv>iably is1 to introduce g5tlem5 to ladies--n ladies to g5tlem54 ,or1 9 case ( m5 to m51 always pres5t ! y\ng] to ! old]--! less] to ! great]4 ,we ,am]icans1 9 our disreg>d ( rank & position1 are too apt to ov]look ! c\rtesies e/abli%$ among g5tlem54 ,! p]son ?us pres5t$ b[s1 ! ho/ repeats ! (t-spok5 complim5t1 &1 ) a graceful rejo9d]1 ! c]emony concludes4 ,bo? ladies & g5tlem5 %\ld be c>eful ab\t introduc+ p]sons to ea* o!r1 )\t be+ fir/ satisfi$ t su* a c\rse w be mutually agreeable4 ,! cu/om 9 ?is c\ntry1 p>ticul>ly among g5tlem51 ( indiscrim9ate introductions1 is c>ri$ to su* a ridicul\s ext5t1 t x has (t5 be5 made ! subject ( comm5t by =eign]s1 :o c discov] no possible advantage 9 be+ made acqua9t$ ) o!rs ) :om !y are n likely to associate = ?ree m9utes1 9 :om !y take n ! slighte/ int]e/1 & :om !y probably w nev] aga9 enc\nt]1 nor recognize if !y %\ld4 ,besides1 e "o has a "r to ex]cise 8 own judgm5t & ta/e 9 ! selection ( acqua9tances1 & x is cle>ly a brea* ( polit5ess to ?ru/ !m ^u y\r fri5d or associate1 )\t kn[+ :e!r x ,w be agreeable to ei!r p>ty4 ,,on ,,dress ,,& ,,ornam5ts4 ,a man is judg$ ( by 8 appe>ance1 & seldom incorrectly4 ,a neat ext]ior1 equally free f extravagance & pov]ty1 always proclaims a "r-m9d$ & s5sible man4 ,to dress appropriately1 & ) good ta/e1 is to respect y\rself & o!rs4 ,a black coat & tr[s]s are indisp5sable = a visit ( c]emony1 an ent]ta9m5t1 an ev5+ p>ty1 or a ball4 ,! :ite or black ve/ is equally prop] 9 any ( ^! cases4 ,v c]emoni\s visits require a dress %oe & a :ite ve/4 ,! h& %\ld always be glov$ on su* occasions4 ,always we> kids 9 danc+4 ,a g5tleman1 :5 9 dress & out ( 8 bus9ess1 %\ld also walk out glov$4 ,"o h& may be uncov]$2 ! "o y w ext5d if y meet an acqua9tance4 ,if x be n well-br$ = a g5tleman out ( bus9ess h\rs to appe> 9 ! /reet or at *ur* )\t gloves1 x is /ill less s = a lady4 ,r+s & heavy gold *a9s are n 9 good ta/e4 ,"s "y p]sons1 ( bo? sexes1 h a /rong desire to sport gold & jewels2 b let !m rememb] t su* is ! ta/e ( gambl]s & c\rtesans1 & !y may realize h[ really vulg> is too mu* jewelry4 ,to a woman1 ! toilet is inde$ a /udy1 to :i* %e %\ld devote a prop] portion ( h] "t2 &1 sure ( be+ well-skill$ 9 ! art1 %e is impati5t ( ! obs]vations ( ! critic4 ,all d n1 h[ev]1 escape ! *>ge ( vulg>ity4 ,we sometimes see dresses 9 :i* ! ill-assort$ or %[y colors spoil ! effect ( ! ri*e/ mat]ial4 ,! v>i\s articles ( dress mu/ be well-*os51 s z to produce an agreeable h>mony4 ,nev] put on a d>k-color$ bonnet ) a light1 spr+ co/ume4 ,avoid unit+ colors :i* w sugge/ an epigram--su* z a /raw-color$ dress1 ) a gre5 bonnet4 ,( ! la/-nam$ /yle ( head-ge> y mu/ especially bew>e1 unless y h an extremely fair complexion2 o!rwise y\r malici\s rivals w ass]t t y\r face resembles a citron1 surr\nd$ by its foliage4 ,! arrangem5ts ( ! hair is an important affair4 ,b&s are becom+ to faces ( a ,grecian ca/--:ile r+lets bett] suit ^? lively & expressive heads :i* resemble ! beautiful ,n9on4 ,b1 :atev] be y\r /yle ( c\nt5ance1 avoid a cumbr\s edifice ( lace mix$ ) hair1 & let y\r fl[]s be few & *oice4 ,a spray or two ( hea?1 ! delicate blossoms ( ! jessam9e1 violets--orange blossoms1 a :ite rose--^! simple ornam5ts are mo/ suitable to a "y girl1 & ev5 ( ^! %e %\ld n be too prodigal1 = beauty unadorn$ is adorn$ ! mo/4 ,9 a m>ri$ woman1 a ri*] /yle ( ornam5t is admissible4 ,fea!rs 9 h] bonnet1 a necklace1 a camellia or jewels 9 h] hair are all[able 9 ! wife1 b = a "y girl1 a /yle ( mode/ simplicity is f> m impressive & becom+4 ,we %all /ate :at is kn[n to be a fact1 :5 we say ladies :o attract mo/ obs]vation1 are ^? dress$ ) ! mo/ /udi$ simplicity1 :ile ^? ) mo/ ornam5t are treat$ ) less def]5ce1 & excite less complim5t4 ,an important maxim to be obs]v$ is1 t ! mo/ elegant dress loses its m]it1 if x is n worn ) grace4 ,"y girls (t5 h an air ( con/ra9t1 & _! dress seems to p>take ( _! want ( ease4 ,! celebrat$ ,sappho is said to h att5d$ to ! arrangem5t ev5 ( ! folds ( h] mantle4 ,%e is inde$ =tunate1 :o c give an easy flexibility to h] figure1 & graceful movem5ts to h] head3 %e w always appe> graceful & well-dress$4 ,!re are wom5 ^: dress is extravagant--folly ( ?is k9d %\ld be avoid$3 a simple /yle ( dress is ev] pro( ( mode/y1 & "o nev] loses by appe>+ to be mode/4 ,= _m valuable recipes = ! toilet1 & h9ts & sugge/ions 9 ref]5ce to ! complexion1 ! hair1 ! tee?1 etc41 see ,,beadle',s ,,dime ,,recipe ,,book4 ,,on ,,cleanl9ess4 ,if !re be "o ?+ t we %\ld recomm5d m ?an ano!r1 x is cleanl9ess4 ,we might1 inde$1 ab/a9 f ?is caution1 ^u ! supposition t ! read] c n /& 9 ne$ ( x4 ,b1 to cle> our consci5ce1 we devote a *apt] to ! subject4 ,! h&s %\ld receive special att5tion1 z !y s]ve = a specim5 ( ! re/4 ,e morn+ wa% !m ) pl5ty ( soap & wat]1 !n ) ! bru%1 clean y\r nails1 cut !m1 & bew>e ( ! d>k cresc5t :i* gets ! "n ( half-m\rn+2 no?+ c be m disgu/+4 ,let y\r face & neck be clean2 we p>ticul>ly recomm5d att5tion to ! e>s4 ,r9se y\r m\? (t52 9 ! morn+1 to remove ! impurities ( ! night2 aft] d9n]1 to avoid mak+ o!rs acqua9t$ ) ! meats y h p>tak5 (2 & at night1 be=e retir+ to re/1 t y may sleep m sweetly4 ,if y are giv5 to ! really fil?y habit ( us+ tobacco1 9 any %ape1 nev] appe> 9 any social circle1 or to any fri5d = :om y h any respect1 ) ! odor ( ! /uff ab\t y4 ,let y\r use ( x be z mu* 9 secret z possible4 ,no g5tleman w ev] smoke a cig> :]e its smoke c give ! lea/ (f5ce4 ,9 ,bo/on smok+ is positively prohibit$ 9 ! /reets3 x %\ld be 9 e city4 ,frequ5t ba?s are absolutely necess>y1 & /ill m1 frequ5t foot-ba?s1 ) tepid wat] & soap2 = ! du/ t "o acquires 9 walk+1 *anges its "n at ! end ( ?ree days1 & 9 mak+ a call1 y\r fri5ds w be aw>e ( y\r pres5ce be=e !y h se5 y4 ,let y\r hat & clo!s be c>efully bru%$4 ,no?+ is m disagreeable 9 ei!r sex1 ?an soil$ %oes or /ock+s4 ,x %[s ei!r great neglig5ce or uncleanl9ess4 ,let y\r l95 be p]fectly :ite1 & y\r dress spotless4 ,h[ (t5 d we see wom5 walk+ 9 ! /reet ) a torn or fray$ dress1 or a brok5 /ock+4 ,idl5ess alone is ! cause ( su* ?+s2 x is s easy to /op a r5t1 & c]ta9ly x c n be said t ?read is de>4 ,a dress ev] s simple1 & *eap1 if x be neat1 is pref]able to f9]y & dirt3 "o is respectable1 ! o!r is n4 ,9 ! pocket-h&k]*ief great nicety %\ld be obs]v$1 bo? f reg>d to appe>ances1 & = ! sake ( p]sonal com=t4 ,x %\ld be :ite & always clean4 ,a dirty h&k]*ief is an abom9ation4 ,a drop ( p]fume on x w make x all ! pleasant] to y\rself & to o!rs4 ,p]fect cleanl9ess 9 all ?+s gives "o a feel+ ( self-respect4 ,x n only af=ds an agreeable s5sation ( com=t1 b imp>ts an air ( confid5ce1 spr++ f ! consci\sness t y ne$ n fe> ! inve/igations or ridicule ( any :o approa* y4 ,x w procure y an acquittal = _m little defects ( he>t1 or m9d1 or temp]1 & w9 y respect :]e y may lea/ expect to make a favorable impression4 ,,conv]sation4 ,x is r>e to meet ) p]sons :o c conv]se agreeably2 & yet h[ _m k9ds ( talk]s !re are 9 ! _w4 ,fir/ comes ! man :o details 8 own adv5tures1 br++ 9 ev5 8 boyi% escapades1 9 ord] to keep up ! cont9u\s dis*>ge2 ! ga/ronomic talk]1 :o regales y ) a description ( fam\s di%es2 ! detail] ( empty trifles2 ! exquisite ,le&] ( e hy/]ical dame2 ! univ]sal grumbl]1 :o sees no?+ ( ! sun b its spots2 ! self-con/itut$ report] ( e k9d ( sc&al2 ) _m o!rs too num]\s to m5tion4 ,if y wi% to make y\rself agreeable to a lady1 turn ! conv]sation adroitly ^u ta/e1 or art1 or books1 or p]sons1 or ev5ts ( ! day4 ,make h] smile--suff] h] to be sup]ior 9 any enc\nt] ( wit--& %e w pron\nce y ! mo/ *>m+ ( m54 ,y w h %[n y\rself clev] & well-br$4 ,nev] seem /udi$ 9 y\r phrases1 nor talk above ! compreh5sion or contr>y to ! ta/e ( ! p]son address$1 o!rwise y may be vot$ ei!r a p$ant or a bore4 ,! woman :o wi%es h] conv]sation to be agreeable w avoid conceit or affectation1 & laught] :i* is n natural & spontane\s4 ,h] language w be easy & un/udi$1 m>k$ by a graceful c>elessness1 :i*1 at ! same "t1 nev] ov]/eps ! limits ( propriety4 ,h] lips w readily yield to a pleasant smile2 %e w n love to he> h]self talk2 h] tones w be> ! impress ( s9c]ity1 & h] eyes k9dle ) animation1 z %e speaks4 ,! art ( pleas+ is1 9 tru?1 ! v s\l ( good-bre$+2 = ! precise object ( ! latt] is to r5d] u agreeable to all ) :om we associate3 to make u1 at ! same "t1 e/eem$ & lov$4 ,we ne$ sc>cely adv]t to ! rud5ess ( int]rupt+ any "o :o is speak+1 or to ! impropriety ( pu%+1 to its full ext5t1 a discussion :i* has become unpleasant4 ,"s m5 h a mania = ,greek & ,lat9 quotations2 ?is is a peculi>ity to be avoid$4 ,no?+ is m we>isome ?an p$antry4 ,if y feel y\r intellectual sup]iority to any "o ) :om y are conv]s+1 d n seek to be> him d[n2 x w\ld be an +lori\s triumph & a brea* ( good mann]s4 ,bew>e1 too1 ( speak+ lightly ( subjects :i* be> a sacr$ "*4 ,no p]son1 man or woman1 w ?9k ! m ( y = irreligi\s expression4 ,witl+s occasionally ga9 a reputation 9 society2 b no?+ is m insipid & 9 worse ta/e ?an _! conceit$ h>angues & self-suffici5t air4 ,d ,,n ,,try to be witty4 ,true wit comes spontane\sly1 & is n =c$4 ,x is a common idea t ! art ( writ+ & ! art ( conv]sation are "o2 ?is is a great mi/ake4 ,a man ( g5ius may be a v dull talk]4 ,! two gr& modes ( mak+ conv]sation int]e/+1 are to enliv5 x by recitals calculat$ to affect & impress y\r he>]s1 & to int]sp]se x ) anecdotes & agreeable relations4 ,,address ,,( ,,lett]s1 ,,directions ,,= ,,writ+1 ,,etc4 ,a lett] address$ to a p]son ( em95ce %\ld h a seal on ! envelope2 = o!r lett]s ! ord9>y envelope is suffici5t4 ,lett] pap] 7o!r ?an = bus9ess7 ) designs ( any k9d is 9 que/ionable ta/e1 z are seals ornam5t$ ) fl[]s & figures4 ,p]fectly pla9 pap] %\ld be pref]r$3 x may be emboss$ ) ! writ]'s initials4 ,on ! bir?-days ( y\r relations1 & on ! fe/ival ( ! ,new ,ye>1 y c h>dly disp5se ) writt5 congratulations4 ,9 writ+ to a sup]ior employ pap] ( full lett] size2 write ! "n1 & 9 ! l9e und]nea? ! words1 ,de> ,sir4 ,leave a l9e betwe5 ?is ^w & ! fir/ l9e ( y\r lett]4 ,always write to ! po9t--us+ n a sup]flu\s or mean+less ^w1 & be z brief z possible4 ,abbreviations are admissible 9 notes ent]$ 9 a book ( ref]5ce1 b n else:]e1 except 9 comm]cial correspond5ce4 ,lett]s ( invitation & circul>s %\ld always be frank$2 & if ! di/ance be n too great1 !y %\ld be s5t by h&4 ,a lett] giv5 to a ?ird p]son1 if x be a lett] ( introduction1 %\ld n be seal$4 ,9 writ+ to an (ficial1 leave a l>ge m>g91 = he may ne$ x = m>g9al notes4 ,a "y man writ+ to "o advanc$ 9 ye>s1 %\ld n conclude 8 lett] ) ! common phrase1 ,receive1 sir1 ! assurance ( my reg>d4 ,x %\ld be1 ,accept1 sir1 ?is expression ( ! reg>ds ( y\r v humble s]vant4 ,?is =mula may be employ$ 9 writ+ to an equal1 ,accept1 sir1 ! assurance ( my highe/ e/eem2 or1 ,i h ! honor to be y\rs1 v truly4 ,to a lady1 ,accept1 madam1 ! assurance ( my respect2 or1 ,i am1 my de> lady1 y\rs v s9c]ely4 ,x is ill-br$ to write on a half-%eet2 ! %orte/ lett] requires a :ole "o4 ,all lett]s mu/ be pre-paid4 ,& /amps %\ld always be remitt$1 :]e an answ] is expect$1 if y\r own affairs are conc]n$4 ,nev] impose po/age ^u a fri5d3 x is a contemptible act to make a p]son1 aft] ! tr\ble ( writ+ to y on y\r bus9ess1 pay 8 own po/age4 ,a few words on epi/ol>y /yle4 ,few p]sons "k h[ to write a good lett]4 ,! epi/ol>y /yle1 9 g5]al1 %\ld be v simple2 pa?os w\ld be absurd :]e y h to speak ( ! common occurr5ces ( life1 ! follies ( ! _w1 its petty hatr$s & vanities4 ,be z respectful & z lively z y c 9 writ+ to an old man3 old p love sprightl9ess4 ,! sure/ way to please 9 y\r correspond5ce is to acqua9t y\rself ) ! *>act]s ( ! p]sons ) :om y int]*ange lett]s1 to avoid t\*+ _! foibles1 to speak to !m on ! subjects !y h /udi$1 or ( :i* !y are especially fond4 ,9 address+ a lady1 imply y\r op9ion ( h] ta/e by seek+ h] advice on subjects :i* require x4 ,nev] we>y ( burn+ inc5se2 !re is an alt> 9 ! he>t ( woman1 & ev5 ( man1 always ready to receive its fragrance4 ,! design ( good-bre$+ is to make y agreeable to e "o2 write y\r lett]s s t ea* "o read+ !m w be pleas$ & satisfi$4 ,adulation or flatt]y is v unbecom+1 except x is positively des]v$2 & !n x %\ld be giv5 9 t]ms :i* w n compromise good ta/e & good judgm5t4 ,if !re be a phrase happily word$ 9 ! lett] address$ to y1 ev] s little1 d n suff] x to fall to ! gr\nd2 pres]ve x1 & 9 y\r reply1 %[ t y h appreciat$ x4 ,if a correspond5t uses improp] language t[>d y1 let y\r reply be polite1 ev5 if x is sev]e2 y w ?us inflict a d\ble w\nd--%[+ y\rself to be a man ( dignity1 & "k h[ to pres]ve y\r self-respect4 ,refra9 f address+ extravagant praise to a man ( disc]nm5t2 he w see t y h "s purpose 9 :at y say1 & y w make an enemy4 ,no praise is extravagant to fools2 tell !m t !y are gods1 & !y w set ab\t procur+ an alt>2 b y w\ld view y\rself ) contempt if y 7 mean en\gh to praise su*4 ,avoid ! folly ( copy+1 z models1 lett]s to :i* peculi> circum/ances imp>t brilliancy or g5u9e wit2 b :i*1 appli$ f diff]5t cases1 are /rangely out ( place4 ,if y address "o b5ea? y 9 education or position1 don't make him feel 8 inf]iority2 be polite )\t famili>ity1 z polit5ess is due f e man ( good p>ts to ^? b5ea? him4 ,if y write an epi/le respect+ a common occurr5ce 9 a /yle ( bomba/ or w\ld-be-eloqu5ce1 y w sugge/ an application to y\rself ( ! fable ( ! m\nta9 :i* br\ght =? a m\se4 ,9 all cases1 :]e x is possible1 avoid erasures & cr[d$ l9es4 ,lett]s betwe5 fri5ds are simply conv]sation2 f an inf]ior to a sup]ior !y %\ld h a tone ( caution1 at once concise & respectful4 ,a lett] ( bus9ess is express$ 9 brief & precise t]ms1 ) details arrang$ 9 exact ord]4 ,lett]s ( congratulation %\ld be di/+ui%$ = *oice language1 to ! exclusion ( all expressions p>asitical or common-place4 ,z to ! /yle :i* a son %\ld employ 9 writ+ to 8 p>5ts1 !re is no in/ructor b ! he>t4 ,9 e case & circum/ance be tru?ful & e>ne/1 & y may re/ assur$ y w impress favorably1 & accompli% y\r purpose a ?\s&fold bett] ?an if y us$ deceitful & false expressions4 ,! ,,dime ,,lett] ,,writ] w embody all t is necess>y to enable ! "y p]son1 or ! novice1 to write lett]s intelligibly1 prop]ly1 & satisfactorily4 ,x w conta9 besides models = h9ts1 a complete directory to correct composition4 ,,balls1 ,,ev5+-,,p>ties1 ,,receptions1 ,,etc4 ,to deport oneself satisfactorily at ! dance1 x is necess>y to und]/& mu* ab\t ! dances :i* may be introduc$4 ,x is a *>m+ accompli%m5t to be a good danc]1 & we %all n hesitate to advise all1 male & female1 to le>n ! ,t]psi*orean art1 ere ! days ( y\? are pa/4 ,x is unnecess>y to argue ! pros & cons ( ! proprieties & moralities ( ! dance2 we pref] to let ea* judge = him or h]self on ! debat$ "q2 b1 t x is a real accompli%m5t1 & a desirable "o1 to be famili> ) ! etiquette & te*nicalities ( ! ball or soiree1 is our mo/ firm conviction1 & we !re=e introduce su* obs]vations & rules "h z %\ld gov]n ! occasions ( balls1 soirees1 receptions1 etc4 ,an invitation to a dance %\ld be giv5 at lea/ a week be=eh&4 ,a lady sometimes requires "t to prep>e h] toilet4 ,! ho/ ( ! h\se receives y2 & aft] ! usual complim5ts1 :i* %\ld be v brief1 d n fail 9 polite recognitions to any lady 9 ! company ) :om y are acqua9t$4 ,if y introduce a fri5d1 make him acqua9t$ ) ! names ( ! *ief p]sons pres5t2 by ?is precaution y w (t5 save him an indiscretion2 & make him feel m at 8 ease4 ,^! ball-room introductions are n reg>d$ z introductions = a m ext5d$ acqua9tance ?an = ! ev5+4 ,%\ld ! p>ties aft]w>d meet ^u ! /reet or else:]e1 let ! g5tleman be c>eful n to presume ^u any recognition ( ! lady until %e has fir/ b[$4 ,if %e fails to ext5d ?is recognition1 let ! g5tleman take no umbrage1 = he has no real claim ^u h] acqua9tance m]ely f a public ball-room introduction4 ,an introduction at a private soiree is ano!r ?+2 !re ! relations ( ! p>ties introduc$ are ! same z at any private p>ty3 !y are p]man5tly introduc$ if at all4 ,if a g5tleman escorts a lady to ! dance1 he is h] cavali] = ! ev5+2 he mu/ see t %e is always provid$ ) agreeable p>tn]s2 t %e always has a seat :5 requir$2 has ! necess>y refre%m5ts1 etc4 ,he mu/ dance ) h] fir/ ( all1 & z (t51 dur+ ! ev5+1 z is prop]1 consid]+ ! claims ( o!rs & ! wi%es ( ! lady4 ,avoid seek+ ! same p>tn] 7o!r ?an y\r lady en *>ge7 9 ! dance too (t52 y w excite rem>k1 & w expose y\rself to ! *>ge ( p>tiality or p]haps ( coquetry4 ,x is a graceful att5tion 9 a "y man to select z p>tn]s ^? ladies ^: want ( p]sonal attractions condemn !m to ! t]rible puni%m5t ( be+ ! wall-fl[]s ( ! ev5+4 ,su* att5tions w procure y a feel+ ( grateful reg>d1 especially if y acquit y\rself ) tact & real k9dness4 ,if a m>ri$ lady is pres5t1 & danc+ :ile h] husb& is 9 ! room1 a p]son desir+ h] = a p>tn] %\ld fir/ be sure t x is agreeable to ! husb& = him to (f] 8 h& to ! lady4 ,if a cr[d is pres5t1 & a g5tleman has occasion to make 8 way ?r\gh a press ( cr9ol9e & drap]y1 he %\ld proce$ mo/ c>efully--ha/e w\ld be v rude & inexcusable2 ! dang] ( soil+1 or te>+1 or dis>rang+ a lady's co/ume =bids any g5tleman mak+ a c>eless /ep4 ,if x is necess>y to /ep 9 front ( a lady 9 pass+1 always apologize = ! /ep2 o!rwise %e may v prop]ly ?9k y d n "k :at belongs to good mann]s4 ,a lady is always pleas$ ) an apology if x is gracefully & k9dly made2 & no g5tleman w ev] suff] su* an occasion to pass 9 sil5ce1 )\t he really designs an affront1 or except he is absolutely ignorant ( :at is prop] & respectful4 ,a good au?ority be=e u says3--,9 a quadrille1 or o!r dance1 :ile await+ ! music1 or :ile un5gag$1 a lady & g5tleman %\ld avoid long conv]sations1 z !y are apt to int]f]e ) ! progress ( ! dance2 :ile1 on ! o!r h&1 a g5tleman %\ld n /& l an automaton1 z ?\gh he 7 afraid ( 8 p>tn]1 b endeavor to r5d] himself agreeable by ^? airy no?+s :i* amuse = ! mom5t1 & are 9 h>mony ) ! occasion4 ,y %\ld1 h[ev]1 n only on su* occasions1 b inv>iably1 avoid ! use ( slang t]ms & phrases1 !y be+1 to ! la/ degree1 vulg> & objectionable4 ,inde$1 "o ( ! *>ms ( conv]sation consi/s 9 ! correct use ( language4 ,dr4 ,johnson1 ^: reputation z a talk] 0 h>dly less ?an t :i* he acquir$ z a writ]1 prid$ himself on ! apposit5ess ( 8 quotations1 ! *oice ( 8 words1 & ! correctness ( 8 expressions4 ,_h he liv$ 9 ?is age ( progress1 he w\ld h discov]$ t 8 ,lexicon 0 n only incomplete1 b requir$ num]\s em5dations4 ,we c fancy ! irritable morali/ endeavor+ to compreh5d ! idea :i* a "y lady wi%es to convey1 :5 %e expresses ! op9ion t a bonnet is awful1 or a "y g5tleman ( 8 coat1 :5 he ass]ts t x is play$ out6 ,if any "o ?+ m>ks a p]son's br++ up1 x is ! language us$ 9 company2 & x may be set d[n z an almo/ inv>iable rule1 t any "o :o uses slang words1 :o talks l\dly & rudely1 :o utt]s an oa?1 or :o becomes ang]$ & expresses x1 is no g5tleman1 & has n _h good associations4 ,= a lady to be guilty ( ev5 "o ( ^! s9s1 is too palpably inexcusable to ne$ rem>k4 ,! au?or quot$ above1 adds ?is excell5t advice ^u a v common ball-room s91 viz43 sc&al & /rictures ^u a p]son's appe>ance1 dress1 etc4 ,he says3--,!re is a cu/om :i* is sometimes practic$ bo? 9 ! assembly-room & at private p>ties1 :i* c n be too /rongly repreh5d$1--we allude to ! habit ( ridicule & ung5]\s criticism ( ^? :o are ungraceful1 or o!rwise obnoxi\s to c5sure1 :i* is indulg$ 9 by ! ?\ghtless1 p>ticul>ly among ! danc]s4 ,( its gross impropriety & vulg>ity we ne$ h>dly express an op9ion2 b !re is su* an utt] disreg>d = ! feel+s ( o!rs impli$ 9 ?is k9d ( negative c5sor%ip1 t we c n =be> to w>n our "y read]s to avoid x4 ,! ',koran' says3 ',d n mock--! mock$ may be bett] ?an ! mock]4' ,^? y condemn may n h _h ! same advantages z y\rself 9 acquir+ grace or dignity1 :ile !y may be inf9itely sup]ior 9 purity ( he>t & m5tal accompli%m5ts4 ,! advice ( ,*e/]field to 8 son1 9 8 comm]ce ) society1 to d z y w\ld be done by1 is f\nd$ on ! ,*ri/ian precept1 & wor?y ( comm5dation4 ,imag9e y\rself ! victim ( o!rs' ridicule1 & y w cease to indulge 9 a pa/ime :i* only ga9s = y ! hatr$ ( ^? y satirize1 if !y *ance to obs]ve y1 & ! contempt ( o!rs :o h notic$ y\r violation ( polit5ess1 & abuse ( true sociality4 ,ladies w always be c>eful ( _! associates4 ,at ! public ball are occasionally to be f\nd p]sons ^: acqua9tance x is n prop] to make4 ,! "y female is ev] ! cynosure ( all eyes1 & c n comport h]self too /rictly1 nor *oose h] p>tn]s too c>efully4 ,x is n be/ to be prudi%1 b x is "r & necess>y to be cauti\s & discreet4 ,9 walk+ up or d[n ! room ! lady %\ld always be accompani$ by a g5tleman2 x is q improp] to saunt] ar\nd alone4 ,:5 a "y lady decl9es danc+ ) a g5tleman1 x is h] duty to give him a reason :y1 al?\gh "s ?\ghtless ones d n4 ,no matt] h[ frivol\s x may be1 x is simply an act ( c\rtesy to (f] him an excuse2 :ile1 on ! o!r h&1 no g5tleman ought s f> to compromise 8 self-respect z to take ! slighte/ (f5ce at see+ a lady by :om he has j be5 refus$1 dance imm$iately aft] ) "s "o else4 ,a lady has a hundr$ motives = conduct :i* %e c n expla92 & = a g5tleman to take (f5ce at h] simple decl9ation to dance is v silly & unmanly4 ,dur+ ! act ( danc+ all p>ties %\ld h on _! summ] looks4 ,danc+ is rightly suppos$ to be an enjoym5t1 b ! somb] c\nt5ances ( "s :o engage 9 x1 might almo/ lead to ! belief t x 7 a solemn duty be+ p]=m$4 ,if1 says a %rewd obs]v]1 ^? :o laugh 9 *ur* w\ld transf] _! m]rim5t to ! assembly-room1 & ^? :o are sad 9 ! assembly-room w\ld c>ry _! gravity to ! *ur*1 !y bo? might discov] ! apposit5ess ( ,solomon's decl>ation1 t !re is a "t to be m]ry & a "t to be sad4 ,x %\ld ev] be ! /udy ( bo? sexes to r5d] !mselves agreeable4 ,g5tlem51 z we h said1 %\ld avoid %[+ m>k$ pref]5ce to p>ticul> ladies1 by devot+ _! undivid$ att5tions to !m1 or danc+ exclusively ) !m4 ,too (t51 ! belle ( ! ev5+1 ) no o!r *>ms ?an beauty ( =m & feature1 monopolizes ! reg>ds ( a circle ( admir]s1 :ile mode/ m]it1 ( less p]sonal attraction1 is bo? ov]look$ & neglect$4 ,we honor ! g5]\s conduct ( ^?1 p>ticul>ly ! well-favor$1 :o be/[ _! att5tions on ladies :o1 f consci\s lack ( beauty1 lea/ expect !m4 ,! real man ( s5se w n fail to recognize mo/ solicit\sly any lady :o may seem neglect$ or unatt5d$4 ,on ! o!r h&1 no lady1 h[ev] num]\s ! solicitations ( h] admir]s1 %\ld cons5t to dance repeat$ly :51 by s do+1 %e excludes o!r ladies f p>ticipat+ 9 ! same amusem5t2 /ill less1 z we h h9t$1 %\ld %e dance exclusively ) ! same g5tleman1 to ! disadvantage ( o!rs4 ,:at has else:]e be5 said 9 reg>d to dress & ornam5t w apply fully to ! occasion ( ! dance4 ,let simplicity be ! guide1 & n display4 ,! lady trick$ out 9 _m jewels & ribbons looks too mu* l a mov+ adv]tisem5t to comm& respect = x4 ,if ladies g5]ally knew h[ deep an impression a pure /yle ( dress makes ^u ! o!r sex1 & realiz$ h[ trifl+ a gaudy dress seems to ! p]son ( true ta/e1 we surmise _! vanity alone w\ld impel to simpl] attire1 r ?an to elaborate & co/ly display4 ,9 reg>d to a g5tleman's dress = ! dance1 we may add3 :ite gloves1 :ite ve/1 light color$ cravat1 dress-coat1 black pants1 & pat5t-lea!r gait]s1 or light calf-sk9 boots well poli%$1 con/itute ! prop] ball-room or soiree co/ume4 ,! mu* talk$ ( indep5d5ce ( ,am]icans1 pr(esses disda9 ( _m ( ! requisitions ( dress e/abli%$ by good usage 9 ,engl& & ,france4 ,a frock-coat w\ld n be tol]at$ a mom5t 9 any fa%ionable society 9 ,europe4 ,:e!r x be e/eem$ a prejudice or o!rwise1 we are free to confess t1 9 our own op9ion1 ! frock-coat is a violation ( good ta/e1 z unsuit$ ei!r to a ball-room or private assembly4 ,! ord9>y dress-coat1 :i* is 9 no respect 9 ! way1 & :i* leaves ! limbs p]fectly free to move gracefully1 is ! only prop] coat = ! p>ty & dance4 ,:5 a lady has accept$ refre%m5t1 h] att5d+ g5tleman %\ld ha/5 to relieve h] ( h] glass or plate2 &1 z h] cavali]1 %\ld see t all h] wants & wi%es h be5 compli$ )4 ,! refre%m5ts ov]1 ! g5tleman %\ld (f] 8 arm & gallant ! lady to h] seat 9 ! ball-room2 or1 if %e wi%es to retire to ! dress-room1 he %\ld gallant h] to ! door1 & !re await h] com+ out to convey h] to ! danc+-floor aga94 ,! ladies dress+-room1 x is unnecess>y to say1 is a sacr$ prec9ct into :i* no man %\ld ev] presume to look2 to g into x w\ld be an outrage :i* none c\ld ov]look or =give4 ,:5 ! h\r comes = retir+ home1 be sure to be ready = ! lady :om y h accompani$ to ! dance2 y\r obligations are n dis*>g$ until %e is aga91 "u y\r own eyes1 se5 safely at h] own door4 ,if y h come to ! room unatt5d$1 select1 dur+ ! latt] "p ( ! ev5+1 "s lady :o1 x may seem1 w be glad ( y\r company home2 (f] h] y\r s]vices &1 if %e signifies ass5t1 be c>eful to be ready at h] call4 ,await at ! door ( ! dress+-room = h]1 & (f]+ y\r arm d ! gallant k9dly b n o/5tati\sly nor too (fici\sly4 ,leave h] at h] own door1 aft] ! bell has be5 answ]$1 & n until !n4 ,9 leav+ an ev5+-p>ty x is unnecess>y to seek ! ma/] ( ! h\se4 ,y\r f>ewell w be disp5s$ )2 y %\ld leave )\t di/urb+ any "o to occasion rem>k4 ,?is rule is (t5 misund]/ood1 b x %\ld n be4 ,,c>ds1 ,,*ess1 ,,etc4 ,x is well at a ball1 to h a table = c>ds & m5 = *ess3 = all ! gue/s are n danc]s1 & x is ! duty ( a ho/ to see t all enjoy !mselves4 ,x is cu/om>y = p>tn]s to b[ slightly to ea* o!r be=e beg9n+ a game ( c>ds or *ess4 ,:5 a game ( c>ds is end$1 & ! %uffle is y\r p>tn]'s1 ! c>ds %\ld be arrang$ & h&$ to ! lady ^: turn x is to deal !m4 ,to discuss ! rules ( play is ung5teel4 ,9 a quiet p>ty ! tact & cordiality ( ! ent]ta9]s %\ld put all ! gue/s at _! ease4 ,! *oice ( ! gue/s is n "o ( ! lea/ difficult po9ts4 ,at ! h\se ( a political man1 !re %\ld be an ef=t to unite all %ades ( op9ion4 ,f p>ties ( any k9d1 a man kn[n = 8 gratuit\s rud5ess1 or = ! impropriety ( 8 witticism1 w be exclud$ by all :o are desir\s ( ma9ta9+ ! proprieties ( social int]c\rse4 ,oppos+ politicians1 editors1 lawy]s1 & m9i/]s %\ld nev] c>ry _! pr(essional feel+s into ! p>lor1 nor1 by any expression1 m> ! good-humor ( an ev5+4 ,x is improp] to express y\r op9ion l\dly 9 company1 or to rema9 long at ! c>d-table :5 y are "y & kn[n to be a good danc]4 ,x is a delicate att5tion to /& beh9d a lady at ! piano & turn ov] ! leaves ( h] music-book1 & aft] ! music to gallant h] to h] seat4 ,aft] ! dance1 a g5tleman mu/ n omit to conduct 8 p>tn] to h] seat2 & 9 s do+1 a well-turn$ complim5t w n be out ( place4 ,we h not$ ! impropriety ( a "y man's rema9+ long at ! *ess or ! c>d table1 :5 ! ladies are 9 want ( a p>tn] 9 ! adjo9+ room4 ,at ! same "t1 a g5tleman %\ld be acqua9t$ ) "o or m games1 z x is polite to play ) ! ho/ or 8 gue/s1 if y are invit$ to d s4 ,"s p]sons1 9 play+ c>ds1 %[ an ef=t to conceal _! h&2 ?is is ill-br$4 ,if x be a pleasure to spectators to wat* ! game1 :y %\ld y object to x8 ,ev5 if x be disagreeable to y to be ov]look$1 y %\ld n let x appe>4 ,y w sometimes see "o p>tn] reproa* ano!r %>ply = unskillful play2 ?us convict+ himself ( be+ m unskill$ 9 ! sci5ce ( good-bre$+4 ,! man :o utt]s noisy compla9ts ab\t 8 luck1 or manife/s unseemly joy at w9n+ a game1 rais+ 8 voice to a high key on all occasions1 is s ignorant z to be unwor?y ( admission into a draw+-room4 ,9 play+ *ess1 avoid ! o!r extreme ( be+ too sil5t & ab/ract$1 = su* conduct is only fit = ! /udy4 ,use a *e]ful air1 & make o!rs feel y\r g5iality1 if y w\ld w9 he>ts z well z games4 ,,ent]ta9m5ts1 ,,d9n]-,,p>ties1 ,,etc4 ,to give an invitation1 says a brilliant writ]1 is to take ! responsibility ( y\r gue/'s happ9ess dur+ ! "t he is "u y\r ro(4 ,?is is an ambiti\s view ( ! subject2 we w alt] x ?us3 ,to invite a man1 is to und]take to d all 9 y\r p[] to make him feel satisfi$ ) ! pleasure y (f] him4 ,9 ord] to d :i*1 x is ess5tial to "k ! ta/es ( y\r gue/s4 ,to invite two p]sons at enmity ) ea* o!r1 to an ent]ta9m5t1 is a blund]2 x is unp>donable to br+ su* toge!r 9 a small p>ty1 unless1 inde$1 ! way to reconciliation lies op52 & ev5 9 ?is case !re is an awkw>dness 9 ! pres5ce ( enemies1 :i* w n fail to r5d] _! pres5ce unpleasant to o!rs4 ,! pleasures ( ! table1 says ! au?or ( ! ,physiology ( ,ta/e1 belong to all ages1 to all ranks1 to all c\ntries2 !y may be enjoy$ ) all o!r pleasures1 & rema9 ! longe/ to console u = _! loss4 ,t ?is enjoym5t may be undi/urb$1 take c>e t no?+ occurs to *agr9 any ( ! gue/s2 if1 !re=e1 ! conv]sation falls ^u a subject disagreeable to any "o pres5t1 good-bre$+ requires t ! ho/ %\ld skillfully turn x ^u ano!r topic4 ,an invitation to d9n] %\ld be giv5 at lea/ two days be=eh&1 except 9 extraord9>y cases4 ,f an inf]ior to a sup]ior1 x %\ld be made 9 p]son4 ,9 c]emoni\s d9n]s1 ! place ( ea* gue/ is assign$ be=eh&2 y ?us avoid putt+ sev]al ladies toge!r4 ,ea* "o %\ld h a g5tleman next h]4 ,! ho/ (f]s 8 arm to ! lady des]v+ ( mo/ consid]ation4 ,"y p %\ld yield to ^? m advanc$ 9 ye>s4 ,d n =get1 9 pass+ ! ?re%old ( a door1 to prec$e ! lady :o leans on y\r arm4 ,?is is an exception to ! g5]al rule2 9 e o!r case1 ! g5tleman %\ld retire a /ep1 to all[ ! lady to pass4 ,be=e pass+ into ! d9+-room1 ea* g5tleman (f]s 8 left arm to a lady1 & conducts h] to table4 ,bew>e ( arriv+ too e>ly or too late3 9 ei!r case !re is an awkw>dness--9 ! =m] y inconv5i5ce y\r ho/2 9 ! latt]1 8 gue/s4 ,once at table1 y %\ld n lose sight ( ! plate or glass ( y\r fair neighbor1 %[+ y\rself att5tive1 )\t affectation or ov]-(fici\sness4 ,meat %\ld be cut only accord+ z x is c>ri$ to ! m\?4 ,to cut up a plateful is ! v height ( gre$9ess & ill-bre$+4 ,bread is brok5 z x is want$2 aft] s\p1 :i* is s]v$ out by ! ho/1 ! spoon rema9s on ! plate1 z x w n be us$ aga94 ,:]e w9e is us$1 ?ree glasses are usually laid d[n to ea* gue/ at d9n]3 "o = ord9>y w9es2 ano!r ( small] size = cl>et2 ! ?ird to receive ! sp>kl+ foam ( ! *ampagne4 ,9 dr9k+ y %\ld say to y\r neighbor1 ,sir1 may ,i (f] y8 & n employ ! ung5teel phrase1 ,w y take8 z if y 7 at ! b> ( "s ord9>y dr9k+-saloon4 ,if ! di% t y desire be too f> f y\r neighbor1 d n ask ano!r gue/2 ! s]vant w att5d y\r ord]s4 ,! noise ( ! knife & plate %\ld be he>d z little z possible2 rapidity 9 eat+ is also ill-br$4 ,a k ( c>v+ is indisp5sable to all m5 :o w\ld act ! ho/ ) grace & propriety4 ,d n assi/ y\rself to any di% :]e s]vants /& ready to supply y4 ,"s p]sons use _! bread at d9n] to dry up _! plates2 ?is is intol]able beyond ! family circle1 & ev5 !re is r *ildi%4 ,p>5ts %\ld be c>eful to save _! *ildr5 f awkw>dness 9 company1 ei!r 9 tread+ on a lady's dress1 or us+ ! knife 9 eat+2 or worse /ill1 _! f+]s4 ,nev] take any ?+ out ( y\r pocket to lay on ! table4 ,! napk9 %\ld re/ on ! knees1 only half unfold$4 ,! =k is nev] to be laid on its back4 ,! ho/ has ! knives *ang$ = dess]t4 ,! knife & =k1 & ! table ut5sils g5]ally %\ld nev] be h&$ endways1 b %\ld be held by ! middle4 ,c(fee is g5]ally s]v$ aft] pass+ into ! draw+ room4 ,! lady ( ! h\se fills x out if x be aft] d9n]2 aft] breakfa/ ?is (fice may be left to a s]vant4 ,! ho/ess %\ld n seek to outvie h] gue/s 9 ! co/l9ess ( h] toilet4 ,?is w\ld be 9 bad ta/e4 ,9 ,engl&1 x is ! cu/om = ladies to retire a little be=e ! close ( ! meal4 ,am]ican ladies are n dispos$ to admire ?is habit1 & we are too gallant & too anxi\s to enjoy ! *>m ( _! conv]sation1 to subject !m to ?is mode ( bani%m5t4 ,! lady ( ! h\se %\ld %[ ! same solicitude = all h] gue/s1 & take c>e t !y want = no?+4 ,9 "s h\ses1 a cu/om has be5 adopt$1 :i* appe>s to u vulg>1 viz3 ! g5tlem5 retire f ! company = a %ort "t to smoke2 on _! return to ! ladies1 _! clo!s & brea? exhale ! disagreeable p]fume4 ,!re are few well-br$ wom5 to :om tobacco is n extremely (f5sive4 ,! ho/ rises to leave ! table2 y mu/ rememb] n to fold y\r napk91 z is usual 9 ! family1 :]e ! same napk9 s]ves y sev]al times4 ,ea* g5tleman (f]s 8 arm to a lady1 & conducts h] back to ! draw+-room4 ,! ,romans knew h[ to enhance1 by enjoym5ts unkn[n to u1 ! pleasures ( ! table2 & ! ,greeks ?rew m poetry into _! fe/ivals ?an our some:at prosaic eat]s4 ,at ! banquets ( ,greece1 ! sculptur$ cups 7 cr[n$ ) roses2 s+]s & musicians enliv5$ ! close ( ! repa/2 & ! wit ( ! pr(ess$ je/] contribut$ to ! ent]ta9m5t ( ! gue/s4 ,! table & side-bo>d & mantels w always look m invit+ :5 dress$ ta/efully 9 fl[]s4 ,a sweet b\quet be=e ea* lady is a p]sonal complim5t :i* x is easy to be/[1 & "o :i* c n fail to please ! gue/s4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,! ,,/reet4 ,good behavior ^u ! /reet1 or public prom5ade1 m>ks ! g5tleman mo/ effectually2 rud5ess1 incivility1 disreg>d ( :at ! _w says1 m>ks ! p]son ( l[ bre$+4 ,we always "k1 9 walk+ a squ>e ) a man1 if he is a g5tleman or n4 ,a real g5tility nev] does ! foll[+ ?+s on ! /reet1 9 pres5ce ( obs]v]s3-- ,nev] picks ! tee?1 nor scrat*es ! head4 ,nev] swe>s or talks upro>i\sly4 ,nev] picks ! nose ) ! f+]4 ,nev] smokes1 or spits ^u ! walk1 to ! exce$+ annoyance ( ^? :o are always disgu/$ ) tobacco 9 any %ape4 ,nev] />es at any "o1 man or woman1 9 a m>k$ mann]4 ,nev] scans a lady's dress imp]t95tly1 & makes no rude rem>ks ab\t h]4 ,nev] cr[ds be=e prom5ad]s 9 a r\gh or hurri$ way4 ,nev] jo/les a lady or g5tleman )\t an excuse me4 ,nev] treads ^u a lady's dress )\t begg+ p>don4 ,nev] loses temp]1 nor attracts att5tion by excit$ conv]sation4 ,nev] dresses 9 an odd or s+ul> mann]1 s z to create rem>k4 ,nev] fails to raise 8 hat politely to a lady acqua9tance2 nor to a male fri5d :o may be walk+ ) a lady--x is a c\rtesy to ! lady4 ,( c\rse a lady w n be rude1 nor dress s z attract undue att5tion1 mu* less to create unpleasant rem>k4 ,%e w be k9d to all2 %e w n absorb too mu* ( ! walk1 nor fail to give half ! way to ei!r a lady or g5tleman2 %e w n all[ h] skirts to drag ^u ! walk to ! annoyance ( o!r p$e/rians2 %e w n fail to recognize fri5ds by a pleasant smile & slight b[2 %e w n look back at any "o :o has pass$ h]2 %e w n eye ano!r lady's dress1 z if /udy+ its v texture2 %e w n /op ^u ! walk to talk ) a fri5d to ! inconv5i5ce ( o!rs2 %e w n make ! /reet a place ( meet+ ) a p]son :om %e c n receive at h] h\se4 ,"s females d1 x is true1 n reg>d all ^! laws ( prop] & recogniz$ etiquette2 & su*1 we are =c$ to say1 =feit _! claim to be call$ a lady4 ,a true lady 9 ! /reet1 z 9 ! p>lor or salon1 is mode/1 discreet1 k9d1 oblig+2 if %e is to ! contr>y1 %e =feits h] "r to be call$ aft] ! truly g5teel4 ,x is a mo/ unfail+ m>k ( ignorance & l[ orig9 to put on airs1 & to %[ pride1 vanity1 egotism 9 ! /reet4 ,! truly well-educat$1 well-born1 & well-br$ nev] betray vanity1 conceit1 sup]cili\sness1 nor hauteur4 ,set ?is d[n z an inv>iable law1 &1 male or female1 let x guide all y\r actions4 ,x is prop] t ! lady %\ld fir/ recognize ! g5tleman4 ,!re has be5 "s dispute on ?is po9t ( etiquette1 b we ?9k !re c be no "q ( ! propriety ( ! fir/ recognition com+ f ! lady4 ,a g5tleman w nev] fail to b[ 9 return to a lady1 ev5 if he may feel coldly dispos$ t[>d h]2 b a lady may n feel at lib]ty to return a g5tleman's b[1 :i* places him 9 a r unpleasant position4 ,a lady %\ld give ! fir/ smile or b[1 is ! rule n[ recogniz$4 ,9 meet+ acqua9tances sev]al times dur+ ! same prom5ade1 x is n necess>y to salute !m at e pass+4 ,9 (f]+ a lady y\r arm1 z x is prop] to d ^u ! /reet1 p>ticul>ly 9 ! ev5+1 always give h] ! "r arm1 because p]sons 9 pass+1 obs]v+ ! law turn to ! "r1 w\ld jo/le h] if %e 0 ^u ! left arm4 ,! practice ( always giv+ ! lady ! inside ( ! walk1 is a v useless "o1 & n necess>y to true polit5ess4 ,x is always prop] = a g5tleman walk+ alone1 or ) ano!r ( 8 sex1 to give ! lady1 or a g5tleman ) a lady1 ! inside ( ! walk4 ,9 gallant+ a lady to a c>riage1 take h] left h&4 ,x is truly polite to take (f ! hat 9 su* a s]vice4 ,,! ,,polit5ess ,,( ,,bus9ess4 ,a volume might ) propriety be writt5 on bus9ess proprieties1 = ! rules ( good-bre$+ are s outrage\sly violat$ by employees & employ]s1 t to detail _! %ortcom+s w\ld require _m pages4 ,b 9 bus9ess z 9 all o!r int]c\rse1 ! "o inv>iable law ( good-bre$+1 viz43 k9dness1 (f]s ! key to all true mode ( conduct4 ,be k9d & consid]ate1 & y w d "r4 ,! upright & model man ( bus9ess nev] commits any ( ! foll[+ s9s3-- ,nev] tells a falsehood1 ev5 ?\gh at times x may (f] a tempor>y advantage4 ,9 ! end x w n result happily--nei!r to consci5ce nor to ! till4 ,x is "o ( ! fix$ laws ( comp5sations t a wrong entails evil1 soon] or lat]2 h5ce1 ev5 9 a selfi% view1 x is be/ always to tell ! tru?4 ,nev] creates false expectations to effect a transaction4 ,nev] repres5ts an article to be :at x is n4 ,! secret ( ! success ( ,a4 ,t4 ,/ew>t1 & o!r m]*ants ( em95ce1 is t !y nev] w\ld all[ any deception to be practic$ ^u cu/om]s4 ,a *ild c buy ( !m z safely z an exp]i5c$ p]son4 ,nev] breaks appo9tm5ts1 & nev] fails to keep good 8 ^w to ! h\r & ! lett]1 if !re is no j cause to prev5t4 ,nev] is abs5t f 8 bus9ess1 except :5 absolutely necess>y4 ,nev] all[s o!rs 9 8 employ to d :at is n p]fectly intelligible to him4 ,always und]/&s 8 books2 always keeps ! run ( ! entire day's transactions2 always kn[s ! exact /ate ( 8 bank acc\nt2 always is acqua9t$ ) ! do+s ( ea* "o 9 8 employ4 ,if call$ ^u by any p]son he is polite2 he gives no curt answ]s2 he keeps none wait+ unnecess>ily2 he is solicit\s ( do+ :at w mo/ please4 ,9 a ^w1 ! secret ( bus9ess success1 & ! true crit]ion ( action = ! bus9ess man1 "y or old1 is to be f\nd 9 t bless$ ,gold5 ,rule1 :i* w =ev] hold good1 viz43-- ,d unto o!rs z ye w\ld t !y %\ld d unto y4 ,,advice ,,to ,,! ,,work+-,,man4 ,let x n be said t ! fir/ pr9ciples ( good bre$+ are unkn[n to ! work+-man2 he may be ignorant ( ! usages ( society1 b he c1 if he please1 ma9ta9 a becom+ & agreeable deportm5t4 ,:at g5]ally makes him co>se & surly1 is ! prejudice1 unhappily too widely spread1 t ! ri* man feels above him4 ,?is is a great mi/ake2 x is n ! bl\se t is %unn$1 x is ! rud5ess ( ! man :o we>s x4 ,labor is always held 9 e/eem by any man ( s5se2 b :o c reg>d co>s5ess & rud5ess ) respect8 ,two workm5 ent] a saloon1 !y talk z if 9 ! /reet1 abuse ^? :om !y "n ari/ocrats1 & make su* a di/urbance1 t ! wait] %[s !m to ! door4 ,is x ! work+-man :o is ?us us$8 no1 v]ily1 x is ! insult] ( ! public4 ,a man 9 broadclo?1 :o %\ld conduct himself ?us1 w\ld1 9 l mann]1 be reque/$ to retire f ! company ( ^? :om he 0 di/urb+4 ,h[ev]1 ! op]ative ?us treat$1 always exclaims3 ,?\gh "o is a workman1 he is z good z y4 ,b1 9 ?is case1 he is n 9 ! "* ( a work+-man1 b 9 t ( a consum]1 l all ! o!rs seek+ _! com=t or pleasure2 none ( :om w\ld ?9k ( say+1 if su* a ?+ happ5$ to !m1 ,i am a lawy]2 or1 ,i am a physician2 or1 ,i am an (fic]4 ,9 a public e/abli%m5t1 su* z a cafe1 or hotel1 or 9 public conveyances1 all are equal1 & no "o %\ld be suff]$ to be insol5t1 or vulg>1 or rude4 ,! ri* man1 on 8 "p1 kn[s t !re are laws ( polit5ess to be obs]v$ t[>d all4 ,! up/>t or snob alone gives himself ! habit ( speak+ rudely to ^? he employs2 he alone affects to humble !m by 8 tone ( sup]iority4 ,! man ( true nobility is polite to e "o1 be he ri* or poor4 ,,love1 ,,c\rt%ip1 ,,& ,,m>riage4,a ,9 ! matt] ( ,,love x w\ld be h>d to lay d[n any =mal rules2 ! he>t is its own tea*]2 if its impulses be true & pure1 y\r looks1 words1 & actions w be 9 no dang] ( do+ y any p>ticul> discr$it4 ,ev5 awkw>dness is sometimes eloqu5t1 & makes a bett] companion ?an ! mo/ elegant self-possession1 s9ce x proclaims ! reality ( y\r passion1 & ! diffid5ce ( real affection4 ,love has a language ( its own1 & w n ?ank any book ( etiquette = a lesson4 ,if ! maid5 be mode/1 & ! y\? s9c]e & manly1 !y w appreciate & und]/& ea* o!r )\t dang] ( mi/akes4 ,x has be5 said t any ref9$ & delicate woman c prev5t an (f] :i* %e does n int5d to accept1 & we believe t1 9 mo/ cases1 %e c2 sav+ h]self ! pa9 ( refusal1 & h] lov] ! mortification ( be+ reject$4 ,x is a poor triumph = a "y lady to say1 or to feel1 t %e has refus$ five1 t51 or tw5ty (f]s ( m>riage2 x is ab\t ! same z ackn[l$g+ h]self a trifl] & coquette1 :o1 f motives ( p]sonal vanity1 tempts & induces hopes & expectations :i* %e has pr$et]m9$ %all be disappo9t$4 ,su* a c\rse is1 to a c]ta9 degree1 bo? unpr9cipl$ & immode/4 ,x is a /ill great] crime :5 a man conveys ! impression t he is 9 love1 by actions1 gallantries1 looks1 att5tions1 all--except t he nev] commits himself--& f9ally )draws 8 devotions1 exult+ 9 ! ?\ght t he has said or writt5 no?+ :i* c legally b9d him4 ,b true love1 z we rem>k$ be=e1 w f9d = itself "s becom+ expression &-- ne$s n ! =eign *ild ( ornam5t4 ,love1 ( c\rse1 unless "s insup]able b>ri] exi/s1 w be foll[$ 9 due "t by ,,c\rt%ip4 ,"h "s =malities w beg9 to be obs]v$4 ,! passion :i* blu%$ to own itself to itself1 hav+ be5 cr[n$1 becomes a matt] ( int]e/ to o!rs ?an ! two mo/ p>ticul>ly conc]n$4 ,if a "y man ?9ks fit to address himself fir/ to ! "y lady1 to f9d if 8 att5tions be agreeable to h]1 he %\ld n delay1 aft] ga9+ h] cons5t to !m1 to respectfully solicit ! approval ( h] p>5ts or gu>dians4 ,?is is due to !m1 & %\ld n be put (f on acc\nt ( any unwor?y fe> or timidity4 ,x is cu/om>y 9 "s circles = ! p>5ts to make ! betro?al imm$iately kn[n to _! fri5ds1 & ev5 to give a k9d ( prelim9>y fe/ival at :i* ! c\ple are publicly congratulat$4 ,good ta/e w dictate ! avoidance ( any expression ( fondness betwe5 ! p>ties :5 9 company4 ,envy & satire are ev] on ! look-out = subjects ( ridicule1 & x is well to give !m no opportunity4 ,s5tim5t :i* is beautiful 9 ! family circle1 is (t5 odi\s 9 society4 ,! same rule holds good ) relatives & newly-m>ri$ p4 ,_! devotion to ea* o!r %\ld be put aside1 & ! claims ( o!rs ^u _! c\rtesy & "t duly honor$4 ,! am\nt ( att5tion p]missible be=e m>riage1 su* z walk+1 driv+1 conc]t-go+1 etc41 dep5ds v mu* ^u ! cu/oms ( ! place 9 :i* ! p]sons reside4 ,public op9ion & habit %\ld n be invad$ )\t "s good & weighty reason1 ev5 ) ! mo/ innoc5t purposes4 ,x c n be desirable to provoke rem>k & c5sure1 h[ev] indiff]5t y may feel t[>ds its au?ors4 ,! ,,m>riage c]emony v>ies ) ! =tunes & wi%es ( ^? int]e/$4 ,9 reg>d to ! =m ( ! rite1 no specific direction are necess>y2 = ^? :o are to be m>ri$ by m9i/]s1 w /udy ! =m ( _! p>ticul> *ur*--! ,me?odi/s _! ,book ( ,discipl9e1 ! ,episcopalians _! ,book ( ,common ,pray]1 ! ,ca?olics _! ,ritual1 etc41 etc4 ,9 mo/ cases a rehe>sal ( ! c]emony is made 9 private1 t ! pair may ! m p]fectly und]/& ! necess>y =ms4 ,if ! p>ties are to be w$d$ by a magi/rate1 ! c]emony is almo/ nom9al--x is a m]e repetition ( a v[4 ,! ,ca?olic & ,episcopal =ms h ! mo/ c]emony1 & d\btless are ! mo/ impressive1 ?\gh no m effectually m>ry+ ?an ! simple/ =m4 ,!re are1 h[ev]1 "s g5]ally receiv$ rules :i* gov]n ?is mom5t\s & int]e/+ occasion1 & to ^! we ref] all int]e/$4 ,:5 ! w$d+ is n /rictly 9 private1 x is cu/om>y = bridesmaids & groomsm5 to be *os5 to assi/ 9 ! duties ( ! occasion4 ,! bridesmaids %\ld be y\ng] ?an ! bride2 _! dresses %\ld be con=m$ to h]s2 !y %\ld n be any m exp5sive1 ?\gh !y are p]mitt$ m ornam5t4 ,!y are g5]ally *os5 ( light1 graceful mat]ial2 fl[]s are ! pr9cipal decoration4 ,! bride's dress is m>k$ by simplicity4 ,b few jewels or ornam5ts %\ld be worn1 & ^? %\ld be ! gift ( ! bridegroom or p>5ts4 ,a veil & g>l& are ! di/+ui%+ features ( ! dress4 ,! bridesmaids assi/ 9 dress+ ! bride1 receiv+ ! company1 etc42 &1 at ! "t ( ! c]emony1 /& at h] left side1 ! fir/ bridesmaid hold+ ! b\quet & gloves4 ,! groomsm5 receive ! cl]gyman1 pres5t him to ! c\ple to be m>ri$1 & support ! bridegroom ^u ! "r1 dur+ ! c]emony4 ,if x is an ev5+ w$d+1 at home1 imm$iately aft] ^! twa9 are made "o1 !y are congratulat$3 fir/ by ! relatives1 !n by ! fri5ds1 receiv+ ! good wi%es ( all2 aft] :i*1 !y are at lib]ty to leave _! =mal position1 & m+le ) ! company4 ,! dresses1 supp]1 etc41 are usually m fe/ive & gay ?an = a morn+ w$d+ & reception1 :]e ! fri5ds /op = a few mom5ts only1 to congratulate ! newly-m>ri$ pair1 ta/e ! cake & w9e1 & hurry away4 ,:5 ! c]emony is p]=m$ 9 *ur*1 ! bride ent]s at ! left1 ) h] fa!r1 "m1 & bridesmaids2 or1 at all ev5ts1 ) a bridesmaid4 ,! groom ent]s at ! "r1 foll[$ by 8 att5dants4 ,! p>5ts /& beh9d1 ! att5dants at ei!r side4 ,! bride %\ld be c]ta9 t h] glove is readily removable2 ! groom1 t ! r+ is :]e he c f9d x1 to avoid delay & emb>rassm5t4 ,:5 !y leave ! *ur*1 ! newly-m>ri$ c\ple walk arm-9-arm4 ,!y h usually a reception ( a c\ple ( h\rs at home1 = _! intimate fri5ds1 !n a breakfa/1 !n leave ^u ! bridal t\r4 ,! word+ ( invitations1 & ! /yles ( c>ds1 are s con/antly *ang+1 t x w n d to lay d[n rules4 ,c>ds ( invitation to ! w$d+ are usually s5t out 9 ! "n ( ! "m4 ,see page #gj4 ,a few days be=e ! return ( ! w$d$ pair1 _! own especial c>d is s5t to ^? :om !y desire %all call ^u !m1 & ^: acqua9tance !y wi% to reta94 ,h[ev] pla9 ! dress *os5 = ! occasion1 gloves & %oes mu/ be faultless4 ,!re %\ld be fl[]s if possible2 !y are nev] m 9 place4 ,! fee ( ! cl]gyman w be decid$ by ! =tune & position ( ! groom4 ,no d\bt1 9 ! joy ( 8 he>t1 ! j m>ri$ w be lib]al2 if he is n1 ^u ?is occasion1 he nev] w be4 ,! fir/ groomsman w take *>ge ( ?is matt]4 ,! travell+ dresses %\ld n be m>k$ by bridal favors1 if ! happy c\ple wi% to avoid ! curi\s scrut9y ( /rang]s4 ,m>ri$ p %\ld nev] intrude family j>s nor family devotion ^u company4 ,husb& & wife %\ld be pleasant & affectionate 9 _! demeanor1 ) a %[ ( res]ve1 :ile 9 ! pres5ce ( ! _w4 ,x is improp] to say husb& & wife1 9 speak+ ( y\r companion to o!rs4 ,use _! title1 z ,mr4 or ,mrs4--t is1 to all b intimate fri5ds4 ,especially1 d n introduce1 my wife1 or my husb&4 ,c>esses1 disagreem5ts1 & significant glances betray+ secret intellig5ce1 are all out ( place 9 g5]al company4 ,! honeymoon is a my?ic "t4 ,x is g5]ally reg>d$ z ext5d+ to ! fir/ six weeks1 dur+ :i* p]iod ! "y c\ple mu/ give !mselves up to receptions ( fri5ds1 to att5d+ p>ties made 9 _! honor1 etc4 ,! real honeymoon %\ld la/ ?r\gh life1 & w1 if ! pair is prop]ly mat$4 ,!re=e1 let ! *oice be made 9 no ha/e & passion & bl9dness1 b 9 delib]ation & calm ex]cise ( judgm5t4 ,,footnote3 ,a ,!re is mu* prepo/]\s /uff be=e ! public1 9 ! way ( books relat+ to love & its relations1 to m>riage1 & to w$d$ life4 ,we look ^u ^! works1 z a g5]al ?+1 z vici\s 9 _! nature1 because !y excite passions & feel+s & expectations ( :i* no "o ne$s to be specially in=m$2 :ile _! detail ( processes necess>y to accompli% a wi%$ = happy result are truly disgu/+4 ,a p]son's own he>t1 & ! advice ( "s good s5sible m>ri$ fri5d1 are all suffici5t = ! necess>y guidance ( a man or woman design+ m>riage4 ,we propose1 9 "s future "w1 to introduce ?is matt] m fully to our read]s1 9 a s]ies ( pap]s especially address$ to "y & to m>ri$ folks4 ,we "h give su* g5]al rules & obs]vances z seem prop] to be adv]t$ to 9 a "w on etiquette4 ,,respect ,,= ,,religion ,,& ,,= ,,old ,,age4 ,"s "y p seem to imag9e t !y are liv+ 9 ! age ( ,voltaire1 & make a m]it ( skeptical & ev5 a!i/ical op9ions4 ,!y laugh at ! sacr$ "* ( ! m9i/ry1 & d]ide :at is v5]able & sacr$4 ,?is class is z des]v+ ( contempt1 z x is avoid$ 9 truly good society4 ,impiety is no long] fa%ionable z x 0 9 ! days :5 an a!i/ical philosoph] ?\ght to make laws = ! _w1 & con/rue lib]ty into lic5se to outrage e pi\s in/9ct4 ,a man :o does n respect ! religion ( 8 fa!rs1 is incapable ( kn[+1 & !re=e ( apply+1 ! laws ( good-bre$+4 ,a "y man :o boa/s 8 fre$om ( religi\s op9ions1 is b confess+ 8 own ignorance1 = 8 belief is1 9 mo/ cases1 ! result ( a p]fect non-acqua9tance ) religi\s sy/ems4 ,h[ _m ( our boa/$ free ?9k]s are m5 ( pure lives & noble in/9cts8 ,ano!r s9 is its want ( respect = wom5 & = p]sons ( advanc$ ye>s4 ,a man ( religi\s feel+ holds himself b\nd to ^? duties1 9 respect to old age1 t 7 obs]v$ 9 anci5t times4 ,b ! "y m5 ( :om we h be5 speak+ make a p>ade ( rud5ess 9 ! pres5ce ( an old man2 !y pay him no m respect ?an if he 7 an unfl$g$ y\? ( eighte5 l !mselves2 !y smoke cig>s "u 8 nose2 sc>cely deign to ackn[l$ge him 9 ! /reet2 & nev] are will+ to rememb] t _! fa!r is or 0 an old man1 & t !y w !mselves gr[ old4 ,su* respect nei!r _! p>5ts nor !mselves4 ,diog5es decl>$ himself to be a dog t he might h a "r to indulge 8 cynical disposition4 ,s are ^! flippant !ologians :o h sunk to ! same level4 ,"o ^w z to ! influ5ce ( religion ^u ! "* ( ! "y girl4 ,a religi\s c\rse ( tra9+ c alone imp>t to ! fem99e "* t _s ( yield+ g5tl5ess :i*1 9 dome/ic1 z 9 public life1 is ! basis ( polit5ess4 ,depriv$ ( ^! qualities1 a woman w\ld be unamiable 9 ! family circle1 z well z 9 ! _w1 :]e1 9 spite ( h] ef=ts to appe> pleas+1 h] bad education w\ld inevitably display itself4 ,"y ladies ( ?is class1 if !y d n g ! l5g? ( imp]t95ce1 h a dissatisfi$ air1 & indulge 9 ! habit ( criticis+ e ?+ ) sev]ity4 ,if m>ri$1 !y quickly bani% peace f ! conjugal ro(1 by _! exactions & ill-humor4 ,!y are n will+ to make a s+le sacrifice = _! husb&'s happ9ess2 qu>rels & oppositions please !m1 & ! g5tle/ yoke becomes a heavy *a94 ,! husb& ?us situat$ may consid] himself happy1 if 8 wife w condesc5d to occupy h]self at all ) dome/ic affairs1 & ?+s s common z ! conc]ns ( ! family4 ,an irreligi\s woman is z mu* to be abhorr$ z a drunk5 woman3 %e is no long] fit to lead 9 society & to give tone to its morals2 %e is n fit to be a "m2 = h] *ildr5 w surely be reckless & godless2 %e is n a grace1 b a blot on h] sex1 dislik$ ev5 by m5 :o pr(ess to no religi\s conviction4 ,,specially ,,= ,,ladies4 ,:at is becom+ to "o woman1 may be j ! rev]se to ano!r1 & 9 su* a case x is fooli% to be ! slave ( fa%ion4 ,a tall1 elegant1 & well-=m$ figure requires a mat]ial t w exhibit & set (f to advantage ^! *>ms4 ,velvet suits well a comm&+ figure :i* disda9s light mat]ials1 pale colors1 & trifl+ ornam5ts4 ,9 va9 w a new fa%ion pr(f] its pretty tr9kets3 ! woman :o possesses ?is classical figure w disda9 all su* trifles4 ,h] /yle ( head-dress w be *a/e2 diamond ornam5ts w sp>kle on h] bosom2 %e is a que51 & %\ld we> ! ornam5ts ( royalty1 provid$ %e c d s4 ,a "y girl1 all grace & elegance1 w robe h] sylph-l =m 9 ! mo/ transp>5t ( textures2 %e w place a fre% g>l& on h] *>m+ br[4 ,e ?+ 9 h] dress %\ld correspond to ! fre%ness ( h] smile1 to ! sweetness ( h] expression4 ,we mu/1 moreov]1 c\nsel our fair fri5ds n to spoil _! beauty by any act ( _! own4 ,to expla9 ourselves fur!r3 ,we w suppose y to possess a beautiful face1 & y h e int]e/ 9 pres]v+ its regul>ity4 ,n[ m>k3 ,if y exp]i5ce ! slighte/ opposition1 y\r features are n recognizable y\r =ehead is wr9kl$1 y are t5 ye>s old]6 ,are y angry8 y\r nose contracts1 y\r upp] lip is elongat$1 y\r eyes are half cov]$ by _! lids2 y are frightfully ugly6 ,are y afraid8 y\r eyebr[s are rais$1 y\r m\? is half op51 & y look l a simpleton6 ,are y cold8 all y\r features are contract$1 e muscle ( y\r face is 9 a /ate ( t5sion1 y\r neck s9ks betwe5 y\r %\ld]s1 y are hun*-back$2 consequ5tly ! blood1 less active 9 ?is semi-circul> position1 makes y /ill cold] ?an if y walk$ on boldly1 & y h fur!r ! advantage ( look+ l a little old man6 ,are y neglig5t 9 y\r dress1 c>eless 9 y\r habits1 idle & li/less8 y\r face gradually assumes an expression ( creticism1 :i* makes y\r eyes lose all _! vivacity1 & y\r c\nt5ance its *>ms6 ,consult y\r mirror :5 y exp]i5ce "o ( ^! feel+s1 & y w h>dly recognize y\rself4 ,s9ce ,god has giv5 y an agreeable c\nt5ance1 d n deface 8 "w--all ! _w w be ga9]s & y\rself also4 ,alas6 :at %all we say to ^? :o h n be5 favor$ ) a *>m+ c\nt5ance8 ,9 su* a case !re is almo/ always a comp5sation ( ,nature's own provid+4 ,y w obs]ve t ) unprepossess+ features1 !re is g5]ally an elegant figure1 or a great deal ( expression1 or lively wit1 t makes y =get t ,nature has be5 less b\ntiful ?an is h] wont4 ,fanciful modes ( dress suit ! coquette2 %e kn[s h[ to make use ( !m3 !y are h] c\nt]s4 ,%e has ! art ( arrang+ ta/efully ev5 ! folds ( h] dress4 ,h] co/ume %\ld be full ( v>iety1 to be ! reflection ( h] caprices4 ,,confid5tial ,,advice ,,to ,,"y ,,m54 ,we h giv5 su* specific directions z h seem$ to u necess>y to =m ! g5tleman4 ,9 _m cases x has be5 necess>y to repeat admonitions 9 ord] to impress on ! m9d ( ! read] ! propriety ( c]ta9 special obs]vances4 ,let ?is excuse :at may1 at times1 appe> to be a repetition or a tautology4 ,9 ?is *apt] we wi% to address "y m5 confid5tially & c&idly ^u "s ( ^? habits & ways ( life :i* s]ve to mold ! "* ( ! man to a consid]able degree1 &1 h5ce1 are ( vital importance 9 _! relations to society & to individuals4 ,a "y man :o />ts out 9 life )\t any settl$ purpose 9 m9d1 is labor+ at great disadvantage4 ,he w wa/e sev]al ye>s 9 useless & aimless endeavor to get along1 :i* he ought to h giv5 up to settl+ & sy/ematiz+ 8 life-occupation4 ,if he is to le>n a trade1 let him resolve ^u x at z e>ly a mom5t z is practicable1 & once resolv$ ^u1 let all 8 en]gies be devot$ to 8 pursuit4 ,success w be sure to foll[ su* an endeavor2 & ! age ( tw5ty-five w1 beyond a d\bt1 if heal? does n fail1 f9d ! "y man a respect$ memb] ( community1 an effici5t workman e>n+ a lib]al liv+1 & well qualifi$ to ent] ^u ! bus9ess & responsibilities ( w$d$ life4 ,if1 on ! contr>y1 ! "y man all[s 8 majority to f9d him /ill defici5t 9 a k ( ! trade he kn[s he mu/ or ought to foll[1 x is almo/ a moral c]ta9ty t he nev] w atta9 to ! effici5cy1 ! indu/ry1 & self-reliance :i*1 o!rwise1 mu/ h m>k$ him4 ,le>n y\r trade1 !n1 ere y\r majority comes2 &1 :5 once le>n$1 rememb] t1 ,?r\gh long days ( labor1 ,& nights devoid ( ease1 spr+ ^? bless+s & rew>ds :i* almo/ inevitably foll[ ^u endeavor rightly direct$4 ,if y propose a comm]cial life1 let !re be no hesitation 9 ! decision2 b g at x bravely1 *e]fully1 p]si/5tly1 t y\r majority may f9d y enjoy+ ! confid5ce ( employ]s1 & on ! high-road to y\r own indep5d5ce4 ,rememb]1 solemnly rememb]1 t incorruptible hone/y1 integrity unimpea*able1 virtue uncontam9at$1 are ! be/ ri*es ! he>t ( man c ev] atta9--t weal? ga9$ at a sacrifice ( any ( ^! qualities is a leprosy ( gold :i* w cov] ! v s\l ) loa?som5ess4 ,if ! au?or ( ?is *apt] _h a million ( doll>s to be/[1 x w\ld be joyfully hurl$ into ! sea1 to be lo/ =ev]1 if its possessor%ip c\ld impair ! virtue & moral excell5ce ( its recipi5ts4 ,view weal?1 z honorable only :5 honorably atta9$ & rationally enjoy$2 & y\r life w be "o :i* y1 y\r fri5ds1 & y\r *ildr5 w call bless$4 ,if y design a pr(essional life1 x %\ld be det]m9$ on be=e ! ye>s ( s*ool-life are end$1 t y may direct y\r /udies & mold y\r ?\ghts into ! mo/ effective *annels4 ,z 9 a comm]cial life1 rememb] t ! key-/one ( success lies 9 y\r hone/y4 ,a man :o ent]s ^u ! practice ( ! law1 or ( m$ic9e m]ely = ga91 is />t+ out ) a bad pr9ciple1 :i* w n fail to produce bad results ev5 ?\gh weal? be obta9$2 =1 if purity ( he>t1 dis9t]e/$ness1 self-respect are all gone1 ( :at avail is money8 ,! v]ie/ vagrant1 :o comes hone/ly by 8 pov]ty1 is a nobl] be+ ?an he :o comes di%onorably by 8 weal?4 ,z has be5 said1 9 previ\s pages1 g5tility has mu* to d ) success 9 life4 ,x op5s a way = progress :]e no rud5ess w\ld avail--x unlocks sympa?ies1 awak5s fri5d%ips1 comm&s confid5ces :i* are bett] ?an mortgages & bonds 9 our deal+s ) m52 & we !re=e comm5d e>ne/ly to y\r att5tion :at we h said on previ\s pages 9 reg>d to ! rules & obs]vances ( ! good-bre$+ :i* indicates true g5tility4 ,,cultivate ,a ,,ta/e ,,= ,,! ,,beautiful4 ,:at is ! beautiful8 ,x is :at beautifies & graces life4 ,x is ! anti!sis ( ! real & practical4 ,x is ! glory ( life1 = x elevates ! he>t & m9d into ! contemplation (1 & sympa?y )1 ! ideal--! spiritual4 ,its language is ! language ( emotion2 x />tles1 & ?rills1 & /irs )9 u div9e impulses4 ,x com=ts life1 z ! %[] com=ts ! p>*$ grass2 & p5etrates into ! v recesses ( our be+1 z ! juices & fluids p5etrate ! art]ies & pores ( ! plant4 ,!re is s mu* practicality 9 our ,am]ican life1 t we are 9 dang] ( gr[+ sordid1 covet\s1 unsympa!tic1 unpoetical2 & our lives ?reat5 to be z b>r5 ( beauty z ! pile ( unhewn m>ble1 out ( :i* ! glori\s edifice c be built1 if only ! h& ( ! ma/] t\*es x1 & molds x into =ms ( unity & grace4 ,we want ! h& ( t ma/] to seize our be+1 to give x symmetry1 to develop its lat5t glories1 to prove its p[] = develop+ a fair humanity4 ,! ,ma/] already is at ! door6 ,9 ! cultivation ( a ta/e = music1 fl[]s1 & home ornam5tation1 = art & poetry1 = female purity & spiritual grace1 we f9d ! means ( a "r developm5t4 ,^! are ! mess5g]s ( ! beautiful1 & by _! guidance we approa* ! true %r9e4 ,x is "o ( ! mo/ *e]+ signs ( our civilization1 t a ta/e = music & art is fa/ spread+ among all classes ( ! ,am]ican p4 ,pictures & books are n[ f\nd 9 h\ses :]e1 a few ye>s s9ce1 !y 7 utt] /rang]s1 & _! introduction has caus$ su* a delightful *ange6 ,t once h>d repulsive room is n[ pleasant1 & grace sits at ! door4 ,:at has wr\ght ! *ange4 ,a picture or two on ! walls1 a c>pet on ! b>e floor1 a f9e book ^u ! table--^! are ! secret ( ! new ord] :i* reigns !re4 ,& z ! ta/e = ^! ?+s exp&s1 !re w be /ill m beauty ar\nd t h\se4 ,v9es w creep ov] ! door1 ! y>d w be turn$ into =m & %ape1 a piano w ent] ov] ! door-sill1 & s5d its wild e*oes fly+ ?r\gh all ! rooms to make he>ts beat ) new emotions4 ,!n mu/ foll[ t intellig5ce :i* has ! true/ appreciation ( life1 :i* sees some?+ else 9 exi/5ce ?an ! m]e necessities ( subsi/5ce1 :i* f9ds 9 nature a language be=e dead1 or unmean+4 ,a "y man %\ld l5d himself to ?9k & talk ( art1 ( music1 etc41 etc42 %\ld visit picture gall]ies & libr>ies2 %\ld att5d good lectures & good conc]ts1 & ?us to acquire a ta/e = su* recreation1 to fill 8 m9d ) good ?\ghts1 & to />t 9 8 s\l noble aspirations4 ,he :o pursues ?is c\rse1 & leaves to o!rs ! b>-room1 ! billi>d-room1 ! race-c\rse1 ! club-room1 is z sure ( a high rew>d1 z t intellect & virtue are above m]e physical enjoym5t & grossness4 ,)\t d\bt1 ! wor/ enemy ( ! "y man is ! dr9k+ & smok+ saloon4 ,:ile we make no pret5sions to total ab/95ce 9 ! use ( spirits1 we /ill believe1 f a long exp]i5ce & close obs]vation1 t a b>-room resort is t fatal fir/ /ep1 :i* />ts ! c>e] ( dissipation1 debau*]y1 & crime4 ,! associations "o meets !re1 ! :ole moral atmosph]e & pres5ce1 are dead5+ to "r pr9ciples1 de/ructive ( "r impressions4 ,bew>e ( !m1 ,o "y man1 is ! e>ne/ admonition we h to give to him :o p]uses ?is little *apt]4 ,a good antidote to ! bad habit ( frequ5t+ ^! too-common places ( resort1 is to seek ! society ( intellig5t1 virtu\s females2 to g out ) !m1 to s+ ) !m1 read ) !m1 talk ) !m4 ,a true woman's influ5ce is ennobl+1 & %e truly is ! director ( our race1 if we b all[ h] h] real rights to our devotion & our tru/4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,horseback ,,rid+4 ,! v delightful recreation & ex]cise ( rid+ on horseback is too little p>tak5 ( 9 ^! days ( fa/ locomotion4 ,?is is to be regrett$1 = no?+ is bett] calculat$ to develop ! physical heal? & animal spirits1 no?+ is m conducive to pleasure ( a rational "*1 ?an ! ride on horseback ^u e pleasant day4 ,! etiquette ( su* occasions is simple en\gh4 ,! lady %\ld h ! left1 t ! skirt may be outside & n int]f]$ )4 ,! g5tleman %\ld nev] be 9 advance ( ! lady1 b always a little 9 ! re>1 yet con/antly ne> en\gh = any em]g5cy1 or = a *at4 ,! c]emony ( m\nt+ & dism\nt+ is to be le>n$ by practice2 no etiquette c tea* x4 ,x is1 ( c\rse1 ! g5tleman's place to gallant ! lady out1 tak+ h] by h] left h&1 z1 ) h] "r1 %e mu/ support h] skirt2 he mu/ assi/ h] to m\nt by hold+ ! /irrup = h] foot1 & by dispos+ ( h] skirt aft] %e is seat$4 ,! dress ( ! lady1 ^u su* occasions1 is n well und]/ood1 by mo/ ( our ladies4 ,! ,engli% wom5 ride v mu*1 bo? alone & accompani$1 on horseback2 sometimes ev5 p>ticipat+ 9 ! excit+ & d>+ race ( ! hunt4 ,_! dress is ! result ( f\r hundr$ ye>s ( exp]im5t & exp]i5ce1 & we !re=e quote ! foll[+ f a late "w on ! subject1 rec5tly publi%$ 9 ,london3-- ,few ladies "k h[ to dress = horse ex]cise1 al?\gh !re has be5 a great improvem5t1 s f> z ta/e has be5 conc]n$1 ( late ye>s4 ,z to ! head-dress1 x may be :atev] is 9 fa%ion1 provid$ x fits ! head s z n to require cont9ual adju/m5t1 (t5 ne$$ :5 ! h&s w\ld be bett] employ$ ) ! re9s & :ip4 ,x %\ld %ade f ! sun1 &1 if us$ 9 hunt+1 protect ! nape ( ! neck f ra94 ,! rec5t fa%ions ( we>+ ! plumes or fea!rs ( ! o/ri*1 ! cock1 ! cap]cailzie1 ! pheasant1 ! peacock1 & k+fi%]1 9 ! rid+-hats ( "y ladies1 9 my humble op9ion1 are highly to be comm5d$4 ,z to ! rid+ habit1 x may be ( any color or mat]ial1 suitable to ! we>] & season ( ! ye>1 b ! sleeves mu/ fit r closely2 no?+ c be m out ( place1 inconv5i5t1 & ridicul\s1 ?an ! wide hang+ sleeves :i* look s well 9 a draw+-room4 ,= c\ntry use1 ! skirt ( ! habit may be %ort1 & bord]$ at ! bottom a foot deep ) lea!r4 ,! fa%ion ( a wai/coat ( light mat]ial = summ]1 reviv$ f ! fa%ion ( la/ c5tury1 is a decid$ improvem5t2 & s is ! ov]-jacket ( clo? or seal-sk9 = r\gh wea!r4 ,x is ! duty ( e woman to dress 9 z becom+ & attractive a mann] z possible2 !re is no reason :y pretty "y girls %\ld n indulge 9 picturesque rid+-co/ume1 s long z x is appropriate4 ,_m ladies entirely spoil ! 'set' ( _! dress skirts1 by reta9+ ! usual imp$im5ta ( petticoats4 ,! be/ horsewom5 we> no?+ m ?an a flannel *emise1 ) long1 color$ sleeves4 ,ladies tr[s]s %\ld be ( ! same mat]ial & color z ! habit2 &1 if full1 fl[+ l a ,turk's1 & fa/5$ ) an ela/ic b& r\nd ! ankle1 !y w n be di/+ui%$ f ! skirt4 ,9 ?is co/ume1 :i* may be made amply w>m by ! folds ( ! tr[s]s1 plait$ l a ,highl&]'s kilt 7fa/5$ ) an ela/ic b& at ! wai/71 a lady c sit d[n 9 a mann] impossible = "o encumb]$ by two or ?ree %ort petticoats4 ,x is ! *e/ & back t require d\ble folds ( protection dur+ & aft] /ormy ex]cise4 ,!re is a prejudice aga9/ ladies we>+ long ,well+ton boots1 b x is q absurd1 = !y ne$ nev] be se51 & are a great com=t & protection 9 rid+ long di/ances1 :5 worn ) tr[s]s tuck$ inside4 ,!y %\ld1 = obvi\s reasons1 be l>ge en\gh = w>m wool5 /ock+s1 & easy to get on & (f4 ,x w\ld n look well to see a lady /ruggl+ out ( a pair ( wet boots1 ) ! help ( a bootjack & a c\ple ( *amb]maids4 ,! heels ( rid+-boots1 :e!r = ladies or g5tlem51 %\ld be l[1 b long to keep ! /irrup 9 its place4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,ord] ,a ,,home4--,,rules ,,= ,,home ,,conduct ,,& ,,family ,,etiquette4 ,z we h said1 all true polit5ess is f\nd$ 9 k9dness & unselfi%ness4 ,n[h]e is !re a bett] *ance = its bett] display ?an 9 ! family circle4 ,"h we may be c]ta9 t x spr+s f g5u9e goodness1 z !re is no?+ to be ga9$ by its practice1 except ! rew>d :i* comes f all well-do+4 ,we may say t 9 no place is !re s mu* ne$ ( its ex]cise1 9 ord] to keep ! :eels ( life runn+ smoo?ly2 = family j>s1 z !y are laugh+ly call$1 are v apt to occur1 unless ! oil ( k9dness is us$ to subdue ! friction4 ,*ildr5 %\ld always %[ _! p>5ts t respect & t5d]ness :i* is _! due4 ,ev5 :]e !y may consid] t !y h be5 unju/ly dealt )1 x is well = !m to rememb] _! own inexp]i5ce1 t1 possibly1 _! judgm5t may n be z p]fect z !y n[ believe x to be2 & t1 at all ev5ts1 ! love & c>e be/[$ ^u !m1 9 ! helpless days ( _! *ildhood1 entitle _! p>5ts to reg>d & consid]ation4 ,= *ildr5 to place _! p>5ts 9 a ridicul\s light be=e o!rs1 mock+ _! defects1 or appe>+ too consci\s ( _! old-fa%ion$ mann]s1 is only a pro( ( _! own weakness1 & w less5 !m 9 ! e/eem ( any amiable p]son4 ,= *ildr5 to assume ! mo/ com=table *airs1 ! mo/ conspicu\s places1 or1 9 any way1 to intrude !mselves fir/1 to ! neglect ( !n p>5ts1 is a v grave fault4 ,x is desirable to take ! fir/ /ep 9 ! c\rtesies ( ! day1 :i* eng5d] s mu* pleasant feel+1 by meet+ ! diff]5t memb]s ( ! family ) a *e]ful ,good-morn+4 ,x is highly desirable t1 at table1 ! same rules ( prec$5ce1 ! same mod]ation & nicety be obs]v$ :i* w\ld be practic$ if gue/s 7 pres5t4 ,fix$ habits ( polit5ess w only be atta9$ :]e !y are cultivat$ at home4 ,no scrambl+1 ha/e1 untid9ess1 or noise %\ld be all[$ among ! y\ng] memb]s ( ! circle4 ,!y %\ld be made to wait quietly until _! eld]s are s]v$1 to eat )\t unseemly gre$9ess1 & dr9k )\t labor$ brea?+ or spasmodic s\nds4 ,if e>ly tra9$ to propriety1 x w n be necess>y to bani% !m f ! table e "t t company is pres5t4 ,su* bani%m5t w t5d to make !m awkw>d & lack+ 9 self-possession2 ?\gh1 ( c\rse1 well-gov]n$ *ildr5 w wait *e]fully :5 !re is necessity = x4 ,a pleasant ?ank y1 or ,i'm oblig$ to y1 spok5 by "o si/] to ano!r1 to a bro!r1 or a "m1 = a favor conf]r$1 w la/1 ev5 9 a selfi% po9t ( view2 = x w increase ! disposition to be k9d1 & w light5 ! burd5 ( any little s]vice unmi/akably4 ,*ildr5 %\ld nev] press ar\nd a visitor ) ! "q1 ,h[ long are y go+ to /ay8 nor ar\nd a relative or p>5t1 return$ f an abs5ce1 )1 ,:at h y br\ght me8 ,did y br+ me any ?+ pretty8 ,if !y h reason to expect a pres5t1 let !m refra9 f allud+ to x1 le/ ! fri5d %\ld suspect !y ?\ght m ( ! gift ?an ( welcom+ ! giv]4 ,if a new memb] ent]s ! family1 z ! bride ( a bro!r1 or ! husb& ( a si/]1 true good-bre$+ c nev] appe> to bett] advantage1 ?an 9 ! k9d reception & treatm5t ( ! new-com]4 ,ideas & habits 9 su* an "o1 diff]+ f ^? ( ! circle into :i* he or %e may h come1 %\ld n be too sev]ely criticis$2 =1 x %\ld be rememb]$1 !y h probably be5 diff]5tly educat$4 ,ev5 faults %\ld be z *>itably view$ z possible2 & :]e respect & love are impossible1 x is /ill be/ = ^? :o mu/ dwell toge!r1 to ex]cise ,*ri/ian =be>ance1 & n =get su* c\rtesies z ! case admits (4 ,if y h invit$ gue/s1 =get y\r own pleasure 9 consult+ !irs2 nev] d or say a rude ?+ to a gue/4 ,_m a je/1 s>casm1 inatt5tion1 or slight1 :i* w\ld be excusable any:]e else1 becomes a rud5ess if x happ5s "u y\r own ro( to a p]son call+ ^u or visit+ y4 ,ev5 9 a fri5dly argum5t1 be c>eful n to =get y\rself1 & take sides too w>mly aga9/ y\r oppon5t1 if he be also y\r visitor or gue/4 ,if y h ext5d$ a special invitation to a fri5d at a di/ance to come & rema9 ) y = a "t1 if ! fri5d be a lady1 & arrives by any public conveyance1 h y\rself1 y\r c>riage1 or "s mess5g] at ! spot ( arrival to conduct h] to y\r resid5ce4 ,! h\se %\ld be 9 good ord]1 t %e may n feel disconc]t$1 nor t %e is an intrud]4 ,h all ?+s prep>$ to give h] a *e]ful welcome4 ,let h] n suff] f ! neglect to provide = h] com=t ^? ?+s :i* %e w\ld n l to be compell$ to ask =4 ,h] room %\ld be well suppli$ ) ! means ( ba?+ & refre%+ h]self1 & = arrang+ h] toilet4 ,! bureau %\ld h empty draw]s = ! accommodation ( h] musl9s1 & ! closet empty pegs = ! reception ( h] dresses4 ,%e %\ld be consult$ z to ! k9d ( b$ %e pref]s1 & all[$ to retire e>ly1 ! fir/ ev5+1 if fatigu$ ) h] j\rney4 ,z "s p are 9 ! habit ( sleep+ "u m cov]+ ?an o!rs1 !re %\ld be a c]ta9ty ( pl5ty1 especially if ! wea!r be *illy or *angeable4 ,%e %\ld be made to feel welcome1 & be honor$ by su* civilities z w please h]4 ,if %e is fond ( company1 & expects to be introduc$ to y\r circle ( fri5ds1 y %\ld apprise y\r fri5ds 9 advance ( h] visit1 t !y may call ^u h] aft] h] arrival4 ,! table %\ld be neat & furni%$ ) suitable di%es4 ,( c\rse1 y\r means & habits1 w influ5ce ! am\nt ( exp5se & tr\ble y c af=d to g to2 :at we mean is1 t a gue/ %\ld n be left to feel neglect$ or unc>$ =4 ,we h said lady1 9 speak+ ( ! visitor2 b ! same rules w be obs]v$ t[>d gue/s ( ! o!r sex2 only !y are n usually s mu* 9 ! h\se1 d n absorb s mu* ( y\r "t1 nor require s mu* company4 ,! g5tleman ( ! h\se w see t 8 fri5d is amus$ & c>$ = :5 out ) him dur+ ^? h\rs n usually sp5t at home4 ,d n all[ y\r *ildr5 to be tr\blesome to visitors2 to climb ^u !m1 soil _! dresses ) _! f+]s1 h&le _! jewelry & ornam5ts1 ask annoy+ que/ions1 nor intrude !mselves into _! private ap>tm5ts at unseasonable h\rs2 nor ev]1 )\t fir/ knock+ & wait+ to be bidd5 to come 94 ,d n1 y\rself1 intrude )\t knock+2 nor all[ y\r s]vants to d s4 ,to p]mit *ildr5 to ask visitors = money1 or = articles 9 _! possession1 :i* ! *ildr5 may admire1 is extremely out ( place4 ,to p]mit *ildr5 to foll[ company ab\t1 nev] giv+ !m a mom5t ( retirem5t1 /&+ by :ile !y make _! toilet1 & at all times & seasons1 is n only annoy+1 b is vulg>4 ,if y h invit$ a fri5d or fri5ds to tea1 h e ?+ 9 read9ess by ! e>lie/ h\r at :i* !y may be expect$4 ,d n let !m f9d fires j light$1 y\rself n dress$1 nor o!r evid5ces t !y h arriv$ too soon4 ,usually gue/s--especially ladies--w desire to lay aside _! out] g>m5ts 9 "s dress+-room1 :]e !y c give a glance at _! hair1 or arrange _! dress1 be=e be+ u%]$ into ! p>lor4 ,if y h ask$ a g5tleman fri5d1 :om y knew has j come f 8 place ( bus9ess1 give him an opportunity ( ba?+ 8 face & h&s1 & bru%+ 8 hair4 ,!re are _m little att5tions to ! ent]ta9m5t & com=t ( o!rs :i* w n be want+ :]e ! w is good & ! he>t s9c]e4 ,try to make all feel at ease & happy 9 y\r h\se4 ,:ile e att5tion is c\nsel$ to be %[n to gue/s1 let x n be suppos$ t %[ & seem+1 to keep up appe>ances be=e o!rs1 is :at is s\ght4 ,! inmates ( ! same h\se %\ld endeavor to be agreeable to "o ano!r4 ,no outside admiration c comp5sate = ! want ( love & respect at home4 ,gross neglect ( attire1 unseemly morn+ app>el1 uncomb$ hair1 & total neglect ( ^? little arts & *>ms :i* make ! female portion ( ! h\sehold s mu* m lovable1 are inexcusable4 ,we %\ld be> 9 m9d t ! love ( fri5ds is wor? m ?an ! flatt]y ( /rang]s4 ,only absolute ill-heal?1 or great /ress ( employm5t1 c excuse slov5ly appe>ances at any h\r ( ! day1 9 any memb] ( ! family4 ,! table %\ld always be laid ) a c]ta9 degree ( c>e4 ,di%es %\ld n be huddl$ on1 nor dirty table-l95 all[$1 because !re is no company to criticise4 ,?is w be "o ( ! sure/ te/s ( ! ref9em5t ( a family4 ,! bir?days ( ! diff]5t memb]s %\ld be honor$ ) good wi%es2 & gifts1 h[ev] trifl+1 if affectionately giv51 help to keep up t k9dly feel+ :i* is ! life ( ! social circle4 ,x is well to h a few fea/-days 9 ! c\rse ( ! ye>4 ,life 0 n made entirely = labor2 & an occasional holiday is a bright spot = *ildr5 to look back to :5 !y are no long] *ildr54 ,?is is only a h9t--we w\ld n ass]t x to be etiquette4 ,:ile *ildr5 %\ld honor _! p>5ts1 p>5ts %\ld nev] seek to humiliate or degrade _! *ildr54 ,x is bad policy to ass]t to a *ild1 ,y 7 always bad1 ,!re is no good 9 y1 ,y are a li>1 or1 ,y h disgrac$ y\rself beyond =giv5ess4 ,tea* y\r *ildr5 to respect y\r mod]ation1 if y wi% !m to gov]n _! passions4 ,tea* !m to respect !mselves1 if y wi% !m to possess any manl9ess or s5se ( honor4 ,nev] scold4 ,adm9i/] repro( 9 a calm mann]2 x w be mu* m effective1 :ile x w n fail to pres]ve ! respect ( y\r s]vants & *ildr5 mu* m successfully & satisfactorily ?an ! h>%] c\rse4 ,if visitors call :5 x is impossible or v inconv5i5t = y to see !m1 d n be afraid to s5d ^w t y are engag$4 ,!y h no "r to be (f5d$4 ,bett] f> to tell ! tru? ?an to s5d ! false & silly message1 t y are n at home4 ,,c>ds ,,( ,,invitation1 ,,w$d+ ,,c>ds1 ,,etc4 ,9 invit+ p]sons to an ev5+ p>ty1 ! =m is3 ,mrs4 ,e4 w\ld be pleas$ to see ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,d4 at h] h\se1 on ,?ursday ev5+2 or1 ,mrs4 ,e4's complim5ts to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,d41 = ,?ursday ev5+2 or1 ,mrs4 ,e4 at home on ,?ursday ev5+2 address+ ! envelope to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,d4 ,if to a d9n]-p>ty1 ! =m is mu* ! same1 only ! h\r is add$1 ?us3 ,mrs4 ,e4 at home ,?ursday ev5+4 ,d9n] at six o'clock4 ,9 case ! h\r is nam$1 ! gue/ commits a great disc\rtesy 9 n be+ on h& at t h\r precisely4 ,if a dance is propos$1 x is prop] to ^w ! invitation1 s z to in=m ! invit$ ( ! fact1 ?us3 ,mrs4 ,e4's complim5ts = ,?ursday ev5+1 to music & danc+2 or1 ,mrs4 ,e4 w be pleas$ to see h] fri5ds1 ,?ursday1 at #h ,p4 ,m41 to a dance4 ,:5 x is a public ball1 or a /at$ soiree1 ! =m ( invitation is m =mal3 ,y\r company is solicit$ to a ball 7or soiree1 or p>ty dansante71 to be giv5 at ! ,metropolitan ,rooms1 on ! ev5+ ( ,?ursday1 ,dec4 #aj?1 #ahfj4 ,!n foll[ ! names ( ! manag+ committee4 ,?is invitation %\ld always be s5t at lea/ "o week be=eh&1 9 ord] to give ladies "t to prep>e _! dresses4 ,if x is impossible f sickness1 or o!rwise1 to accept an invitation to a private p>ty1 an excuse1 or decl9ation1 %\ld inv>iably be s5t 9 on ! day prior to ! p>ty1 t ! lady ( ! h\se may be advis$ z to :o is com+ & :o is n4 ,?is is a rule too little obs]v$1 b a really necess>y "o1 to be made ! /udy ( all to practice4 ,= a g5tleman n to att5d a p>ty1 aft] hav+ receiv$ an invitation1 & to s5d 9 no excuse = abs5ce1 is to be con/ru$ into a design$ cut1 or z an evid5ce ( ignorance4 ,9 _m cases--p>ticul>ly 9 cities--! rule is to s5d 9 notes ( acceptance ( invitation2 b ?is is a sup]flu\s c]emony1 :5 x is und]/ood t sil5ce gives cons5t4 ,! =m ( a decl9ation ( invitation is3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,d4 regret _! inability to att5d ^u ,mrs4 ,e4's invitation = ,?ursday ev5+4 ,or1 :5 a good excuse is desirable1 say3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,d4 greatly regret t sickness 7or o!r & prior engagem5ts7 w prev5t _! acceptance ( ,mrs4 ,e4's k9d invitation = ,?ursday ev5+4 ,9 all cases ( invitations or decl9ations1 ! date ( writ+ %\ld be plac$ on ! left h&1 bel[4 ,a pla91 sat9 surfac$ note pap]1 %\ld be us$1 & ! note %\ld be inclos$ 9 an envelope prep>$ = note pap]1 & be direct$ simply3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,d4--,pres5t2 & if sons & daught]s are invit$ out ( ! same h\sehold1 sep>ate invitations %\ld be s5t to ea*4 ,if a p]son is wor? 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