,transcriber's ,note3 ,every effort has been made to replicate this text as faithfully as possible1 including inconsistent hyphenation4 ,some changes have been made4 ,they are listed at the end of the text4 ,italic text has been marked with underscores4 ,bold text has been marked with equals signs4 ,,oe ligatures have been expanded4 ,,bashfulness ,,cured3 ,ease and ,elegance of ,manner ,,gained4 ,illustration ,manners ,make the ,man4 ,,seth ,,conly1 ,,publisher1 ,,no4 #ebd ,,sixth ,,avenue1 ,n4 ,y4 ,,bashfulness ,,cured3 ,,ease ,,and ,,elegance ,,of ,,manner ,,quickly ,,gained4 ,,new ,,york3 ,,seth ,,conly1 ,,publisher1 ,,no4 #ebd ,,sixth ,,avenue4 #ahgb4 ,entered according to ,act of ,congress1 in the year #ahgb1 by ,,seth ,,conly4 ,in the ,office of the ,librarian of ,congress1 ,washington1 ,d4 ,c4 ,,contents4 ,,page4 ,bashfulness--,diffidence--,definition #e ,natural ,diffidence #g ,causes and ,cure of ,natural ,diffidence #bj ,bashfulness from lack of ,education4--,how to ,overcome it #bc ,bashfulness from ,ignorance of the ,ways of ,society4--,the ,cure #ca ,bashfulness from ,ill-,dress4--,the ,cure #cf ,bashfulness ,caused by ,ill-,health4--,to ,remove #db ,how to acquire ,elegance and ,fluency of ,expression--,ease and ,polish of ,manner--a ,graceful1 ,pleasing and ,dignified ,bearing--a ,handsome ,well-developed ,chest--a ,deep1 ,rich ,voice4 ,how to ,dress ,cheaply and ,elegantly--,how to be ,attractive by certain attentions to ,personal ,habits4 ,to the ,debilitated3 what to use to become ,strong 7new74 ,how to ,please greatly by delicate ,flattery of ,eye and ,manner4 ,a ,secret of being ,popular with the ,ladies4 ,how to easily ,train1 ,brighten1 and ,sharpen the ,intellect4 ,to be ,well-informed and ,well-cultivated #i-dh ,,bashfulness--,,diffidence4 ,,definition4 ,we do not see why ,,sidney should have termed diffidence rustic shame4 ,very many nice and proper persons who live in rural parts1 and who are exceedingly bashful1 are far from being shame-faced4 ,excessive or extreme modesty1 ,webster defines bashfulness1 and this is the better definition1 though not literally correct1 as many who are rough1 impudent and vulgar in the privacy of their own homes1 are wretchedly bashful when in company of strangers1 or those whom they consider their superiors4 ,no emotion is more painful than bashfulness4 ,without feeling guilty1 its subject feels crushed4 ,says one1 ,i am troubled with a painful sense of timidity and bashfulness in the presence of company on being spoken to1 especially at the table2 and no matter whether the person be my equal or my inferior1 ,i blush from the cravat to the hair1 and the very consciousness that ,i am blushing1 and that my embarrassment is discovered1 tends to deepen the blush and heighten the embarrassment4 ,now1 ,i have a good personal appearance2 ,i have a good education2 ,i occupy a good position in society2 ,i have been trusted by my friends with official position1 and feel myself competent to fill it1 and when ,i sit down to meditate ,i feel no cause for embarrassment or bashfulness2 ,i can converse for hours with persons of culture and superior ability1 and feel no cause of shame at the part ,i am enabled to act2 still1 if then spoken to suddenly or abruptly1 this terrible diffidence comes upon me like a spell1 and makes me stammer2 my head seems splitting with excitement2 my face turns red2 my heart palpitates1 and ,i am no longer1 for the moment1 myself4 ,now all this is very distressing4 ,yes1 this is distressing1 as very many can testify from disagreeable experience4 ,there are many influences that may directly and indirectly be mentioned as being the ,,causes ,,of ,,bashfulness4 ,among them is a certain peculiarity of constitution known as natural diffidence2 then1 bashfulness from ignorance of the ways of society2 lack of education2 ill-dress2 ill-health2 nervousness4 ,,natural ,,diffidence4 ,many persons are constitutionally timid and diffident4 ,they were bashful in childhood1 bashful at school1 bashful in society1 always bashful4 ,in business they are not generally your pushing1 go-ahead operators4 ,they shrink from contact with the bustling crowds4 ,they prefer1 and will usually be found doing quiet brain work in dim back offices4 ,bashful young ladies1 to the rightly constituted masculine mind1 are rather attractive than otherwise4 ,the timid1 retiring manner2 the modest1 downcast look2 the soft blushes--all are particularly engaging1 especially to those who have been long in society1 and accustomed to the cool self-possession and calm assurance of fashionable ladies4 ,the genuine diffident girl is not the product of cities4 ,she is not found in the crash of town life1 but in the seclusion of quiet country towns4 ,there is no class of girls in the world so easy to get along with after they get acquainted with you1 as bashful ones4 ,and the courting them is an easy and delightful affair2 they are so loving and confiding2 no reserve1 no distrust1 no coquetting2 but frank1 open-hearted and generous4 ,even if you are unsuccessful in your suit they never mortify you in their refusal4 ,it is generally given in so frank and candid a manner as to command your admiration4 ,illustration ,,natural ,,diffidence is the result1 as already stated1 of certain peculiarities of constitution4 ,there is a want of confidence in one's self--a shrinking dread of intercourse with strangers1 especially those of the opposite sex1 and he1 or she1 can give no reason for this diffident feeling4 ,he may be well educated2 of attractive personal appearance1 of good conversational abilities1 and well dressed1 yet from that strange feeling of natural bashfulness1 so well known1 yet difficult to describe1 he is a timid1 shrinking creature1 subject to trials of which a self-reliant man has no conception4 ,he blushes and becomes confused if suddenly addressed4 ,his heart beats painfully at the idea of entering a well-lighted room filled with ladies and gentlemen4 ,and this feeling is the result1 in a great measure1 of his small self-esteem4 ,your truly diffident person is of extremely sensitive1 retiring disposition1 and while he is apt to accord to others superiorities they do not possess1 he entertains for his own abilities1 personal and mental qualities1 the most humble opinion4 ,and thus he does himself great injustice and injury4 ,he does not attain that position in society nor that success in professional or business life that he would were he not shackled by his foolish timidity--his deference to others4 ,a bold1 self-confident man1 with a mere fraction of a bashful man's ability and attainments1 will invariably distance him in the affairs of life4 ,,brass always tells4 ,the world don't stop to analyze a man for his real merit4 ,it takes him at his own valuation1 and if a man puts a low estimate upon himself and goes through life with a hanging head and blushing face1 he has small success1 and less pity4 ,the good things of this world--the successes in love1 in business1 in politics1 c41 are invariably won by those who have a good opinion of themselves2 who have faith in their special talents and abilities1 and who push ahead in accordance with this faith4 ,there never was a truer saying than that faint heart never won fair lady4 ,while women have a genuine admiration for the truly modest and pure-minded men1 they have a genuine contempt for your chicken-hearted1 bashful1 tongue-tied fellows4 ,although a good many screeching females in these ,women's ,rights1 ,advanced ,female days can not lay special claims to any superfluous amount of modesty1 still the softer sex have not yet lost those endearing qualities of gentleness1 modesty1 and loving trustfulness in the opposite sex4 ,since that time when ,eve cast her first loving glances towards robust ,adam1 women's love and admiration have gone out to bold and gallant men4 ,as she is timid and weak1 so the more does she admire the qualities of strength and courage4 ,man is her natural protector1 and she looks up to him and clings to him in love and confidence4 ,women are pre-eminently romantic in all that concerns love4 ,her heroes are those who do brave and perilous deeds2 who scorn ease and effeminacy1 and who laugh at danger--captains who go down to the sea in ships and sail away over the mysterious ocean to strange1 far-away lands--men who with shut jaws1 gleaming eyes1 and fixed bayonets go digging over fort walls1 from which come unceasing flashes of fire and a pitiless rain of death4 7,how the officers and men who came home from ,the ,war were honored1 and almost caressed1 especially by the ladies2 and what a host of marriages took place among the gallant fellows67 ,it has been truly said that no woman really loves who has not discovered some traits in her lover's character that she considers noble and heroic4 ,it is a glory for a woman to be able to be proud of her lover or husband--of his superior intellect1 his dignity and strong manhood and loving care and tenderness1 and it is proverbial how a true woman overlooks and endeavors to conceal the faults and weaknesses of her husband4 ,he was her hero at marriage1 and though the illusion may have passed1 she still bravely tries to maintain it4 ,it often happens that a bright1 superior girl marries a quiet1 bashful fellow1 in whom her friends do not see anything worth marrying for4 ,but it is certain the girl has discovered under all the young man's reserve and diffidence1 superior traits of character that have secured her attention and love4 ,this may be illustrated by an incident in which the actors are personally known to the writer4 ,frank ,w---- was a young man of more than common intelligence and strength of character1 but he was so obstinately bashful and retiring that his real worth was entirely unappreciated by his acquaintances4 ,he rarely ventured out to parties1 c41 and when he did1 was entirely eclipsed by all the ready-tongued young men in the room4 ,now this ,frank ,w---- was irretrievably in love with the most charming young lady in town1 ,miss ,louisa ,l----1 who understood and appreciated ,w----1 and often gave his society marked preference1 to the surprise and disgust of the before-mentioned ready-tongued fellows1 yet was careful to give no indication by which ,w---- could hope he had secured her affections4 ,thus matters went on a couple of years1 and ,w---- was almost in despair1 though he had really made more progress than he had imagined4 ,but an accident occurred that brought matters to an agreeable termination4 ,they were out for a ride1 with a spirited horse one autumn afternoon1 and in going down a steep hill a rein broke1 and the animal dashed forward at a tremendous pace4 ,w---- turned quietly towards ,miss ,l----1 and giving her an assuring look1 placed a foot on the dasher-board1 and with a leap placed himself fairly astride the animal4 ,leaning forward and seizing the beast by the nostrils he twisted her head suddenly to one side1 and brought the whole affair to a stand-still within half-a-dozen rods4 ,soothing the excited horse by a little gentle stroking1 ,w---- united the rein1 and then coolly drove on as if nothing had happened4 ,i then and there decided to marry him1 said ,miss ,l----1 relating the incident4 ,i concluded that one who could perform such a daring and dangerous act1 and regard it with quiet indifference1 was a true and noble man1 and one whom ,i could implicitly trust4 ,and she was right1 for a woman never secured a better or more faithful husband4 ,a bashful young man who had the appearance of no great amount of spirit1 complained to his father of his want of success in winning the esteem of a certain proud young lady4 ,you can swim1 ,sam8 ,yes1 sir4 ,well1 the next time you go sailing with that girl1 manage to dip her into the stream1 without letting her suspect you2 then rescue her like a man4 ,or do anything else that will show that you have some life and pluck1 and you'll find she has an improved opinion of you directly4 ,and the pith of wisdom is in this bit of paternal advice4 ,illustration3 ,,not ,,bashful4 ,rather than be a bashful1 blushing1 stuttering booby1 it would be much better for a young man to be over-confident and bold4 ,with the latter qualities his chances of success in any direction in life1 would be infinitely better4 ,and it is the stout1 true heart that finds favor with the ladies4 ,women love to be sought1 and have attention paid them4 ,it is their nature to be timid1 trustful and confiding4 ,they love to rely upon and feel the support of manly strength4 ,now a timid1 bashful fellow does not possess those qualities that women most admire1 and to possess them should be a bashful person's foremost ambition4 ,the boy who hangs his head and sucks his thumb when spoken to by a stranger1 and who is generally to be found moping behind the kitchen fire1 looking at a picture book1 is not the mother's favorite4 ,the saucy little chap who sticks his fists into his breeches pocket1 and don't see anything in strangers to fear2 who rides the colts bare-back2 who don't like the girls because they can't climb after bird's eggs2 who sails about the pond on a six foot plank2 and is the leader in all kinds of boyish mischief2--this is the brave and fearless boy that fills his mother's heart with secret pride and joy4 ,the spunky little cuss1 though coarse and jarring1 is far more pleasant to the mother's ear than ,poor child1 he is so sensitive and bashful4 ,and again we repeat1 women do not admire bashful men4 ,while they may pity1 a woman secretly despises a man who is really or appears to be afraid of women4 ,a diffident fellow never was nor never will be a favorite with the ladies4 ,it is your easy-going1 self-possessed1 talking chaps who are the popular ones4 ,this is illustrated in any assemblage of both sexes4 ,take a party1 for instance1 early in the evening when matters are a little frigid4 ,the ladies are inclined to congregate in groups by themselves1 with shy glances towards the gentlemen1 whose inclinations seem to be that of making wall-ornaments of themselves4 ,presently there will enter the room a fellow who is not quite certain if he understands what the word bashfulness means4 ,he goes up to a group of ladies1 smiles and bows to all1 shakes hands with some1 and is in felicity right away1 to the envy and admiration of the wall-ornament chaps4 ,while young ladies are timid and retiring1 they dislike the exhibition of these qualities by men4 ,this cannot be better illustrated than by noticing how a young man from the city1 with his easy manners1 his self-assurance1 and ready ways1 will go into a country village and cut out the fellows right and left1 making himself a favorite with the girls in an amazing short time4 ,and this fellow may be only a shallow-brained fop from some city dry goods store1 where he is engaged measuring out ribbons from #h ,a4 ,m4 till #f ,p4 ,m4 ,his education is not worth speaking of2 he smokes2 he gets drunk making ,new ,year's calls2 he don't go to church2 his moral character will not bear severe inspection1 and yet this fellow goes to the country1 and even the sensible girls rather admire him1 and are well pleased to see him coming up the walk for an evening's visit4 ,the best of the country beaux have received a good education at the academy2 they are clear in head and sound in body1 they are able to marry1 owning their own business1 or soon to do so1 and yet the company of a pop-in-jay chap from the city is openly preferred to that of these substantial and worthy country young men4 ,and they do not understand it1 though it is plain enough4 ,the city fellow brings with him an air of the great world outside this country village4 ,for years he has read the morning paper as regularly as he has taken his breakfast1 therefore he is informed of all the events of the day4 ,he can tell you the present mental condition of ,queen ,victoria1 what the latest news is from ,mormondom1 or how ,prince ,jim ,jund is progressing with his railroad enterprise in ,africa4 ,he can discuss politics with the father1 talk with mother concerning the last ,general ,religious ,convention1 and with the young ladies fairly effervesces with small talk4 ,and here he has at immense advantage the country young men1 whose current literature probably consists of the ,weekly ,county paper1 fearfully dry and dull1 a city story1 or ,agricultural paper1 and ,ayre's last ,almanac4 ,with these only for his mental food1 how can a young man make himself entertaining and agreeable with chatty talk on the light topics of the day8 ,illustration ,the city chap is brim full of pleasant gossip4 ,he don't sit cross-legged1 twisting his hat and talking tedious farm-talk to the old man1 while he is dying to be visiting with the women-folks4 ,he has long been in contact with people--the world--and constant friction has rubbed out any awkwardness he may have possessed years ago4 ,there is an agreeable ease and freedom in his manner1 as there is in that of all genuine city people1 and it could not well be otherwise4 ,in his capacity of salesman in a large city retail store1 he has come in contact with all classes of ladies4 ,he don't blush now when addressed by one of them4 ,the sight of bright eyes and pretty ankles does not throw him into a state of flutteration1 as it does our country friend4 ,he isn't afraid of the women much--not much4 ,he does not class them with the angel species1 to converse with whom requires great courage and moral force4 ,he has learned by considerable unpleasant experience that a great many of the gentler sex have brisk little tempers1 and some spiteful1 harassing ways1 and tongues that can say sharp things3--in fact1 who are very much mortal1 and so1 not considering them either doves or angels1 he experiences no trepidation in their society whatever4 ,again1 our city fellow1 rusticating in the country1 and having it very much his own way with the damsels1 is well dressed4 ,his clothes are probably not of expensive material1 but they are of excellent fit1 and gives his person a stylish1 genteel appearance4 ,that a person well dressed receives respect and attention that would not possibly be shown him were he poorly or slovenly clothed is a fact so familiar to all that it would be absurd to discuss it4 ,the matter of ,dress is of so much importance as concerns the feeling of ,bashfulness1 that we shall consider it fully in another chapter4 ,,the ,,cure ,,of ,,natural ,,bashfulness ,consists3--#a4 ,in cultivating ,,self-,,esteem1--in exalting your own opinion of yourself4 ,,being ,,proud4 #b4 ,going into company2--associating with miscellaneous people4 #a4 ,who ever knew a really proud person to be bashful and diffident8 ,what is pride8 ,is it not self-esteem2 self-appreciation and valuation2 self-respect and reliance2 nobleness1 independence and dignity8 ,a proud-spirited person excites in us something of that feeling of respect and admiration we have for a spirited1 mettlesome horse4 ,but to possess true spirit and personal pride1 we must possess points of real or imagined merit2 of education1 accomplishments1 personal beauty1 or mental1 or physical superiority4 ,how can a person of scanty information--ignorant of the world and its doings1 carry a proud bearing with a high and noble spirit8 ,how proud and stuck up them ,brown girls are since they got home from ,boston1 whispers ,mrs4 ,smith to a neighbor1 as the ,brown girls sail into church1 dressed in city style1 and with something of city airs4 ,they have brought home with them the same warm1 generous hearts--but they are proud4 ,have they not some reason for being so8 ,for two years they have been in ,madame ,c4's fashionable city boarding-school1 and in this time they have learned several things outside their school books4 ,their rustic ways quickly disappeared1 and they soon acquired quiet dignity of manners1 and that perfect self-control we all admire4 ,it was taught them also that the face is not the proper place for exhibiting our emotions and feelings1 so often to our disadvantage2 and also that the sweet1 low voice that men love so well1 is much more effective than the loud1 harsh tones of so many rustic maidens4 ,illustration ,they were also trained to receive introductions from gentlemen without simpering and blushing1 and also that it was possible for a gentleman to call upon them several times1 and even invite them to a concert1 and still have no intentions of proposing4 ,and so the ,brown girls go home with their varied accomplishments1 and are proud4 ,but it is a personal pride to be approved of1 and which all who are bashful and backward should strive to acquire4 ,are you ambitious8 ,do you aspire to better things8 ,if you consider yourself a nobody1 do you care to be somebody8 ,do you care to be considered an intelligent1 interesting capable person8 ,then analyze yourself2 take yourself to pieces1 and see what there is really of you4 ,we take it for granted1 of course1 that you are a person of ordinary common sense4 ,has your school education been neglected8 then you must rectify this by a selected course of reading2 for the first and most important step towards removing a feeling of bashfulness and inferiority1 is to become well informed on general topics4 ,we maintain that it is absurd for any intelligent person to feel awkward and bashful who is well-informed and neatly dressed4 ,to make up for deficiencies of education1 any person determined can go through a special course of reading in a comparatively short time1 that will make him or her a well informed person4 ,the books we would particularly recommend1 are3--,a concise ,modern ,history2 a small ,ancient ,history2 ,natural ,philosophy 7,comstock's ,high ,school1 or any other good1 well illustrated work72 ,youman's ,new ,chemistry1 which you will find very interesting and highly instructive2 ,quackenbos' ,composition and ,rhetoric4 ,if you read carefully ,kame's ,elements of ,criticism you would be richly repaid in the pleasure derived1 and in the gain of a rich store of valuable information4 ,any person who would be pre-eminently quick-witted must not fail to read ,shakespeare--at least the principal plays4 ,shakespeare's knowledge of the world--of the secret springs of human action--of human nature--was something wonderful4 ,no human being has yet equalled him in this respect4 ,but you cannot read his plays as you can a newspaper4 ,they must be slowly read and digested like a rare dinner4 ,the ,bible perhaps excepted1 no book has yet been printed that contains so great an amount of profound worldly wisdom as the works of ,shakespeare4 ,nothing will so quickly sharpen and polish a dull and untrained intellect4 ,now here are enumerated less than a dozen books1 within the reach of any one capable of earning his clothes1 and which1 if read at least twice1 carefully1 will make a person feel that he really knows something--had really entered the great temple of knowledge4 ,of course1 one should not be confined to the above4 ,the extent of one's intelligence and information will depend upon the extent of his reading and thinking2 but the above-mentioned books1 thoroughly read1 will educate and elevate more than the perusal of an entire library read hastily and thoughtlessly4 ,the wide range of information gained by the regular perusal of a good city daily newspaper1 and a first class monthly magazine is of too great value to be over-estimated4 ,if you cannot afford a daily paper1 you certainly can a semi-weekly1 a large one1 like the ,semi-,weekly ,tribune1 for instance4 ,of the magazines1 ,harper's or ,scribner's will bring you treasures of interesting knowledge in the most attractive form4 ,we will now suppose that you are well informed of the news and topics of the day1 etc41 and that you have no cause to feel diffident and reserved from a general lack of information4 ,but my self-esteem is small1 ,i have a poor opinion of myself4 ,well1 change that opinion6 ,be proud2 resolve to walk like a ,,man and a gentleman--not like an uncouth boy4 ,hold up your head1 and throw back your shoulders4 ,if you want a magnificent chest1 and a deep1 sonorous voice2 practice ten minutes1 night and morning1 filling the lungs as full as possible through a small tube1 three inches long1 and with a hole the size of a quill2 allow the breath to pass out slowly through the tube4 ,to insure an easy and graceful carriage1 practice walking in your room with a small bag filled with grain poised on your head4 ,consider yourself as good as other people1 and a little better4 ,train yourself to act always in a quiet and dignified manner--not with vulgar stiffness1 but with that ease and moderation of action1 easily acquired1 and which always shows the well-bred person4 ,act the gentleman or lady1 and you will be one4 ,nothing so indicates ill-breeding as a nervous1 fidgetty1 restless manner4 ,the real lady or gentleman will be composed and undisturbed under every trying circumstance4 ,they have taught themselves self-control1 and this is readily learned by those with inclination and determination to learn4 #b4 ,go into ,society4--,to learn to swim you must go into the water4 ,to overcome the feeling of bashfulness1 and to be at ease in company1 you must go into company4 ,on no account should you neglect this duty which you owe to yourself4 ,take every opportunity to attend balls1 picnics1 parties1 sociables1 etc41 and always rank yourself as one of the most desirable and popular young men of the occasion1 and you will undoubtedly be so4 ,remember the fact that others will estimate you as you estimate yourself4 ,and here we again repeat1 ,do not be1 or act1 afraid of the girls4 ,they won't hurt you4 ,walk boldly up and make yourself agreeable4 ,they will meet you half way4 ,if at any time you feel a little fluttering of the heart1 don't subside into a corner with the say-nothings and do-nothings1 but circulate around1 and you will be surprised how easily you will find yourself at home and at ease1 chatting with some nice people4 ,illustration ,for removing ,bashfulness1 awkwardness1 and all manner of similar disagreeable things1 there could not possibly be a better place than the dancing-school4 ,young men who live away from villages1 and who have but few1 or no desirable associates outside the family circle1 and who are distressingly awkward in speech and manner1 if they can have a few terms at a dancing-school1 will be so improved in address1 manners1 and general appearance as to surprise all who know them4 ,we are acquainted with a person1 now an old man1 large1 heavy1 clumsy1 who weighed one hundred and eighty pounds the day he was sixteen1 and was six feet and an inch high4 ,he was so awkward1 to use his own statement1 that he could hardly get into a room where there was company without hitting both sides of the door1 and could scarcely sit down without knocking over his chair1 knowing not what to do with his feet1 his hands1 nor himself4 ,he chanced to have an opportunity to attend a dancing-school for three months--they were very uncommon in the locality where he resided--and he was there trained in the common civilities and courtesies of society2 how to enter and leave a room1 how to receive introductions1 how to receive and dismiss company1 etc4 ,though he is a farmer1 not much used to society1 there is to-day an easy1 quiet grace1 and a polish of manners that would pass anywhere acceptably2 and he attributes it to the brief tuition in a dancing-school4 ,while he may not remember much that he learned as a dancer1 he remembers all that he learned that is necessary for performing the common courtesies of the parlor4 ,so attend all the dances possible1 and under all circumstances remember that you are a ,,man and a ,,gentleman4 ,many often hesitate and become diffident from a lack of readiness in expressing their ideas1 and from a fear that they do not speak correctly and elegantly4 ,now speaking grammatically is a mere matter of education4 ,if lacking in this respect1 the use of any good grammar1 and particularly ,,composition ,,and ,,rhetoric1 already mentioned1 with ,,live ,,and ,,learn2 or #ajjj ,,mistakes ,,corrected1 will be all you require in this direction4 ,,one ,,thousand ,,mistakes ,,corrected1 is better than half-a-dozen living teachers4 ,to express one's self with fluency in conversation is an art that can be acquired by a little practice1 in adopting the method of the great orator ,clay1 in gaining quick readiness in speech4 ,i owe my success in life1 said he1 chiefly to one circumstance--that at the age of twenty-seven ,i commenced1 and continued for years the practice of daily reading and speaking upon the contents of some historical or scientific book4 ,these off-hand efforts were made sometimes in a cornfield1 at others in the forest1 and not unfrequently in some distant barn1 with the horse and the ox for my auditors4 ,it is to this early practice of the art of all arts1 that ,i am indebted for my subsequent destiny4 ,reading aloud from some book1 enunciating every word clearly and distinctly1 with a dictionary at hand to settle instantly in your own mind any question as to the proper pronunciation of particular words1 is a practice so abundantly fruitful of good results1 that those who will practise it even for a short time1 will scarcely be induced to relinquish it4 ,in reading1 cultivate the purely conversational tone4 ,it is as easy to read as it is to talk1 yet there are few good readers4 ,the tone of voice1 modulation1 accent1 etc41 should be precisely as if you were in conversation1 not as if you were preaching in a drawling1 monotonous way4 ,read well and you will converse well1 and both are superior accomplishments1 acquired with facility2 though the orator who pours forth his thoughts with such apparent ease1 achieves his wonderful power only by means of patient labor1 after much repetition1 and1 like ,disraeli1 often after bitter disappointments4 ,so take courage1 young men1 and if you have a difficulty to overcome1 grapple with it at once2 facility will come with practice1 and strength and success with repeated effort4 ,and always recollect1 that the mind and character may be trained to almost perfect discipline1 enabling it to move with a grace1 spirit and freedom almost incomprehensible to those who have not subjected themselves to a similar training4 ,take a raw recruit2 he stoops1 he walks in a shuffling1 slouchy manner2 he is painfully awkward4 ,a few weeks under the ,drill-,sergeant1 and he walks forth erect1 dignified1 with the true soldierly bearing4 ,life seems but for the purpose of mere drilling4 ,in one form or another we cannot escape it2 neither should we desire to do so4 ,,bashfulness ,,from ,,ignorance ,,of ,,the ,,ways ,,of ,,society4 ,it is certainly very embarrassing and conducive of bashfulness to be thrust into a glittering room filled with people superior to one's self in position1 and equally cultured in the knowledge of what is due to the place and occasion4 ,a sensitive1 uncultured man or maiden1 with rustic garb and rustic speech1 and little knowledge respecting correct manners1 introduced at once to the presence of cultured ladies and gentlemen1 does not know what to do with hands nor feet2 whether to sit or to stand1 or to hide4 ,is it to be wondered at that such a person acts and feels cheap and diminutive8 ,but1 diffident reader1 do not be discouraged1 for general good breeding is very easy of attainment4 ,you must possess simply common sense1 self-possession1 and a habit of observation4 ,the exercise of a good common sense will show you plainly enough what is right and wrong--what is proper and improper4 ,self-possession will prevent from doing awkward and bungling things2 and by observation you will soon learn the manners of the well-bred4 ,but ,i won't know how to act1 mother1 said a lad as he was about starting to his first party4 ,keep your eyes open1 and just do as the others do1 was the answer1 and better advice could not have been given4 ,quiet self-possession will enable a person quite unacquainted with the usages of society to conduct himself very acceptably even in the most superior company4 ,it is the foolish feeling of timidity that causes the trepidation and bashfulness1 and consequent uneasy manners when in company1 with the class of persons for whose benefit this book was written4 ,why should you be timid and backward1 and show by your hesitating ways that you do not feel at ease8 ,you surely can notice how those about you conduct themselves1 and conduct yourself accordingly4 ,why should you not enter a room filled with company like any other well-bred person1 in an easy1 unconcerned manner1 and addressing those about you1 even those with whom you are not acquainted1 without restraint1 and without embarrassment8 ,if you cannot muster sufficient spirit to do this1 you had better turn travelling agent and call from house to house till you are not afraid of associating and conversing with strangers4 ,yet to be well-bred without ceremony2 easy without carelessness2 self-possessed and dignified with modesty2 polite without affectation2 pleasing without servility2 cheerful without being noisy2 frank without indiscretion2 and secret without mysteriousness2 to know the proper time and place for whatever you say or do1 and do it with the air of the well-bred--all this requires time and close observation4 ,,manners ,,make ,,the ,,man4 ,old1 but good4 ,the power or influence of an easy1 pleasing1 deferential manner2 of a polite1 gracious and genteel address1 is shown in a multitude of ways1 and is acknowledged by high and low1 and could not be better illustrated than by the success of great ,counterfeiters1 ,forgers1 and ,confidence men generally4 ,they are invariably men of the most polished and insinuating address4 ,they listen to you with a consummate1 well-bred air of interest and attention4 ,they flatter you unconsciously1 but none the less powerfully by the deep respect they apparently show to every word of your conversation2 and when they address you it is as if to a person deserving of the highest consideration4 ,and all this with such a combination of suavity1 self-respect and dignity that it is most powerful to please4 ,and these accomplished rascals have trained themselves to polished address and perfection of manners solely for the purpose of winning in their schemes with men4 ,judicious flattery is incomparable as a means of pleasing4 ,no person is proof against it1 and one of its most delicate and effective forms is in showing a seeming deference to us--our conversation--opinions and advice4 ,the ladies are particularly susceptible to polite and urbane manners4 ,the act of a gentleman raising his hat and bowing gracefully to a lady1 is really1 or seemingly1 a mark of esteem and respect1 and the lady is pleased1 as she should be4 ,little attentions thoughtfully shown are certain to please1 and to secure that regard the person showing them is entitled to receive4 ,he is a perfect gentleman1 from a lady simply means that he has been generous in his gallant little attentions to her4 ,a good listener1--and how rare they are6--can not be otherwise than a thoughtful1 sensible1 and pleasing person4 ,by his apparent deep interest in our conversation1 he flatters our self-love2 and whoever does that1 without seeming intention1 has advanced in our good opinion4 ,there is nothing so grossly rude1 nor so little forgiven1 as inattention from a person whom you are addressing4 ,many persons are so thoughtlessly or ignorantly rude1 that while you are speaking to them1 instead of looking at you with attention1 they will look out of the window1 into the fire1 or up at the ceiling1 and1 it may be1 speak to1 or answer some other person1 thus seeming to imply implicitly that the most trifling object deserves their attention more than anything you may be saying4 ,the emphatic desire in every well-ordered mind to punish such an offensively ill-bred person we consider highly commendable4 ,in regard to the ways and usages of society we do not propose to say anything here1 as they can be readily learned by observation1 or from any of the several good books on the subject1 mentioned in another place4 ,,bashfulness ,,from ,,ill-,,dress4 ,a person may have the education of a ,college ,president1 and possess the wealth of an ,astor1 yet let him with soiled or slouchy clothes be suddenly brought into the society of ladies and gentlemen1 and he will feel and act constrained and bashful in spite of his best endeavors4 ,let a well-bred1 well-dressed person make a call and discover1 when it is too late1 that his boots are muddy1 or his finger-nails not cleaned1 and he will inevitably act ill at ease1 and be glad when he is safe in the street again4 ,a mechanic going home at night in his work-day clothes1 with traces of toil on hands and face1 walks along with the well-dressed crowd in a subdued and humble manner4 ,the same mechanic1 two hours later1 thoroughly washed and shaved1 and arrayed in his best holiday clothes1 taking his wife to a place of amusement1 perhaps1 has the appearance of another man4 ,he walks with an erect and manly air1 and feels that he is a man among men4 ,the question of dress is one of the utmost importance4 ,it often determines our characters and our success in life4 ,a person meanly dressed will feel meanly and act meanly4 ,everybody has experienced the sudden and agreeable change in one's feelings from merely changing from an old1 poor suit of clothes to a new one4 ,the dogs1 with amazing instinct1 look upon the ragged beggar with suspicion1 and meet him with growls and snaps1 while the well-dressed gentleman coming up the walk1 is welcomed with friendly wags of the tail4 ,costly thy habit1 as thy purse can buy1 ,but not expressed in fancy2 rich1 not gaudy1 ,for the apparel oft proclaims the man4 ,this1 from ,shakespeare1 is sound advice4 ,city people1 including those who are in far more moderate circumstances than even the small farmers1 are far better dressed than the average of country people4 ,the farmer's wife going out for an evening's visit1 or to church1 fixes up1 and makes a presentable appearance4 ,the farmer going to town1 ten miles away1 shaves1 puts on his best suit1 and feels respectable4 ,they are going into company--going to meet with people4 ,on other days there seems to be little regard for personal appearance as far as dress is concerned4 ,now a resident of a city is always in company4 ,he is on perpetual exhibition4 ,he is classed as he is dressed2 if like a beggar1 then a beggar2 if like a gentleman--a gentleman4 ,now1 young and diffident reader1 we insist that you can never rid yourself of the bashful feeling while in company so long as you are poorly dressed4 ,by poorly we do not refer to the material1 only to the style and shape4 ,a person may wear pantaloons and coat of the finest broadcloth1 but if they are baggy and slouchy1 will he be considered well dressed8 ,coarse material for coat and trousers have been popular for several years past1 and a good suit of clothes can be bought at moderate cost4 ,if you live within a reasonable distance of a city1 always buy your clothes there1 as you will be sure to have them in the latest style--that is1 if you notice what the style is4 ,never select pantaloons with large checks or stripes4 ,light brown1 or dark material is the most becoming4 ,if you are obliged to have your clothes made in the country1 have them cut1 if possible1 by a tailor4 ,it don't so much matter who makes them up4 ,illustration ,the fit of a collar adds to or mars a person's appearance greatly4 ,it should turn down and both ends nearly meet at the buttonhole4 ,a small brown or black tie1 with the ends tucked under the collar1 or a plain1 narrow silk tie1 or one of small white and black checks1 will be neat and becoming4 ,a large neck-tie of a flaming color1 so often worn by country youths1 is a prominent sign of an uncultivated taste4 ,,the ,,hair1 ,,etc4--,city men1 young and old1 are very particular about having their hair kept neatly and closely cut4 ,why those in the country seem to delight in shocks of long hair we never could see2 and we lived in the country twenty years4 ,don't do it4 ,cultivate personal neatness insiduously1 and give an indication of it by keeping your hair neatly trimmed4 ,don't let neighbor ,smith do it with his sheep shears1 thereby saving a shilling or two2 but go to a professional barber1 even if he is in the next town4 ,,the ,,teeth require particular attention4 ,use a tooth-pick always after eating1 rinsing the mouth at the same time4 ,scrub the teeth thoroughly morning and night with a tooth-brush rubbed on a bit of soap4 ,there is no excuse for not doing this2 a good brush will cost twenty cents1 and the time occupied about six minutes a day6 ,the feeling of purity and comfort experienced will amply recompense you for the trifling trouble4 ,take a hot bath as often as you can1 using soap and brush freely2 and be certain that no disagreeable foetid odor comes from your feet from want of cleanliness4 ,that you would go into the presence of ladies with soiled hands is not probable1 but be careful to notice that the nails are scrupulously clean4 ,these various little attentions towards personal neatness and comeliness will soon become a second nature4 ,and after you have instituted these reforms in regard to your toilet1 etc41 you will not fail to observe that you are treated with a much greater respect and consideration1 especially by the ladies1 than before4 ,your own estimation of yourself has greatly increased1 and you find that the miserable bashful feeling formerly experienced when in the society of those you considered your superiors1 no longer troubles you4 ,it is important for those young men who are apt to disparage themselves in comparison with their wealthy acquaintances1 to bear in mind that riches and rank have no necessary connection with genuine gentlemanly qualities4 ,the poor man may be a true gentleman in spirit and in daily life4 ,he may be honest1 truthful1 polite1 temperate1 courageous1 self-respecting1 and self-helping--that is1 a true gentleman4 ,the poor man with a rich spirit1 is always superior to the rich man with a mean spirit4 ,,bashfulness ,,caused ,,by ,,ill ,,health4 ,a person who has any noticeable physical deformity1 or who has been reduced by certain nervous diseases1 cannot be expected to possess that buoyancy and manliness of spirit that he would were circumstances different4 ,persons with nerves that are naturally excitable1 will greatly increase their excitability by the habitual use of strong tea1 etc4 ,as a result1 they are nervous1 fidgetty1 and never quite at ease4 ,when in company they easily lose their self-possession and do blundering things generally4 ,there are certain habits known to young men that cause a person to become bashful and sheep-faced to a surprising degree4 ,we have no particular suggestions to offer where diffidence and bashfulness are the result of prolonged illness or disease4 ,every means should be taken to restore the health2 and with the restoration will come the old manly and courageous spirit4 ,when the nerves are weak and unsteady from physical debility1 great benefit will be immediately derived1 in the majority of cases1 from the use1 for two or three weeks at a time1 of ,iodoform1 two or three grains a day--taken at meal time on a bit of moist bread4 ,in case the voice and lungs are weak1 read aloud daily1 enunciating every word clearly and distinctly4 ,commence by reading ten minutes at a time1 and finally half an hour4 ,you will soon acquire a richness and depth of tone to be proud of1 besides greatly improving your health by increasing the capacity of the lungs4 ,,to ,,paste ,,inside ,,your ,,hat4 --,and these few precepts in thy memory ,hold fast3 ,give thy thoughts no tongue1 ,nor any unproportion'd thought his act4 ,be thou familiar1 but by no means vulgar ,to the friends thou hast1 and their adoption tried1 ,grapple them to thy soul with hooks of steel3 ,beware of entrance to a quarrel2 but1 being in1 bear ,it1 that the opposer may beware of thee4 ,give every man thine ear1 but few thy voice2 ,neither a borrower1 nor a lender be1 ,for loan oft loses both itself and friend4 ,this above all3--,to thine own self be true2 ,and it must follow1 as the night the day1 ,thou can'st not be false to any man4 ,,truths ,,repeated4 ,,secresy is a characteristic of good breeding4 ,a gentleman or lady will never tell in one company what they see or hear in another2 much less divert the present company at the expense of the last4 ,in conversation there is generally a tacit reliance that what is said will not be repeated4 ,tattlers are contemptable4 ,,whispering in company is an act of unmistakable ill-breeding4 ,it seems to imply that neither the persons whom we do not wish should hear are unworthy our confidence1 or that we are speaking improperly of them4 ,,incessant talkers are very disagreeable companions4 ,nothing can be more rude than to engross the conversation to yourself1 or to take the words1 as it were1 out of another person's mouth4 ,all generally like to bear their part in a conversation1 and for one to monopolize it1 is a tacit acknowledgment that he considers his conversation of more importance1 or more interesting than that of others4 ,long talkers are unmitigated bores4 ,,giving advice unasked is an impertinence4 ,it is1 in effect1 declaring ourselves wiser than those to whom we give it2 reproaching them with ignorance and inexperience4 ,it is a freedom that ought not to be taken with any common acquaintance4 ,,it is true politeness not to interrupt a person in a 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