,,! ,,g5tleman ,,& ,,lady',s ,,book ,,( ,,polit5ess ,,& ,,propriety ,,( ,,deportm5t1 ,,d$icat$ ,,to ,,! ,,y\? ,,( ,,bo? ,,sexes4 ,,by ,mme4 ,,celn>t4 ,,translat$ ,,f ,,! ,,six? ,,p>is ,,edition1 ,,enl>g$ ,,& ,,improv$4 ,,bo/on4 ,,all5 ,,& ,,ticknor1 ,,& ,,c>t]1 ,,h5dee ,,co #ahcc4 ,ent]$ accord+ to ,act ( ,congress1 ! ye> #ahcc1 by ,all5 & ,ticknor1 9 ! ,cl]k's (fice ( ! ,di/rict ,c\rt ( ! ,di/rict ( ,massa*usetts4 ,,bo/on3 ,kane & ,co4 #abg ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,,preface4 ,! pres5t "w has _h an ext5sive circulation 9 ,france1 ! c\ntry :i* we are accu/om$ to consid] z ! g5ial soil ( polit5ess2 & ! publi%]s h ?\ght x w\ld be r5d]+ a useful s]vice on ?is side ( ! ,atlantic to issue a translation ( x4 ,"s =eign visitors 9 our c\ntry1 ^: own mann]s h n always giv5 !m a "r to be c5sors ( o!rs1 h v freely told u :at we ought n to d2 & x w be useful to "k f respectable au?ority1 :at is done 9 poli%$ society 9 ,europe1 &1 ( c\rse1 :at we ought to d1 9 ord] to avoid all j c5sure4 ,?is object1 we are confid5t1 w be m effectually accompli%$ by ! /udy ( ! pr9ciples & rules conta9$ 9 ! pres5t volume1 ?an by any o!r ( ! k9d4 ,by p]sons :o are deem$ compet5t judges 9 su* a case1 ?is little "w has be5 pron\nc$ to be "o ( ! mo/ useful & practical works extant ^u ! num]\s & delicate topics :i* are discuss$ 9 x4 ,we are aw>e1 t a man c no m acquire ! ease & elegance ( a f9i%$ g5tleman1 by any manual ( ?is k9d1 ?an 9 ! f9e arts he c\ld become a skilful pa9t] or sculptor by /udy+ books alone1 )\t practice4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 equally true1 t ! pr9ciples ( ,polit5ess may be /udi$1 z well z ! pr9ciples ( ! arts4 ,at ! same "t1 int]c\rse ) polite society1 9 o!r words1 practice1 z 9 ! case ( ! arts1 mu/ d ! re/4 ,! read] w f9d 9 ?is volume "s rules f\nd$ on cu/oms & usages peculi> to ,france & o!r c\ntries1 :]e ! ,roman ,ca?olic religion is e/abli%$4 ,b x 0 ?\ght bett] to reta9 !m 9 ! "w1 ?an to mutilate x1 by mak+ su* mat]ial alt]ations z w\ld h be5 occasion$ by expung+ e ?+ ( t description4 ,9 our lib]al & tol]ant c\ntry1 ^! peculi>ities w give (f5ce to none2 :ile to _m1 _! novelty1 at lea/1 w be int]e/+4 ,! ,translator4 ,bo/on1 ,may #f1 #ahcc4 ,,cont5ts4 ,,"p ,i4 ,page4 ,introduction4 ,( ,propriety ( ,deportm5t1 & its ,advantages xiii ,,*apt] ,i4 ,( ,propriety ( ,conduct 9 ,relation to ,religi\s ,duties #a ,sect4 #a4 ,( respectful ,deportm5t at ,*ur* ibid4 #b4 ,( religi\s ,propriety 9 our ,int]c\rse ) ! ,_w #f ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,( ,propriety ( ,conduct 9 ,relation to ,dome/ic ,duties #i ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,( ,propriety ( ,conduct 9 ,conjugal & ,dome/ic ,relations #ab ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,( ,propriety z reg>ds "o's self #ai ,sect4 #a4 ,( ! ,toilet ibid4 #b4 ,( ,reputation #bg ,,*apt] ,v4 ,( ,propriety 9 reg>d to "o's ,bus9ess or ,pr(ession #cb ,sect4 #a4 ,polit5ess ( ,%opkeep]s & ,cu/om]s ibid4 #b4 ,polit5ess betwe5 ,p]sons 9 ,(fice & ! ,public #ch #c4 ,polit5ess ( ,lawy]s & _! ,cli5ts #ci #d4 ,polit5ess ( ,physicians & _! ,pati5ts #dj #e4 ,polit5ess ( ,arti/s & ,au?ors1 & ! def]5ce due to !m #db #f4 ,polit5ess ( ,milit>y ,m5 #df #g4 ,polit5ess ( ,ecclesia/ics & ,females ( ,religi\s ,ord]s2 & ! def]5ce due to !m #dh ,,"p ,,ii4 ,,( ,,propriety ,,( ,,deportm5t ,,9 ,,reg>d ,,to ,,our ,,social ,,relations4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,( ,deportm5t 9 ! ,/reet #ej ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,( diff]5t k9ds ( ,visits #ei ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,( ! ,mann] ( receiv+ ,visitors #ge ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,( ! ,c>riage ( ! ,body #hb ,,*apt] ,v4 ,( ,physical ,proprieties 9 ,conv]sation #hh ,sect4 #a4 ,physical ,obs]vances 9 ,conv]sation ibid4 #b4 ,( ,ge/ures #ij #c4 ,( ! ,tal5t ( li/5+ to o!rs #ib #d4 ,( ,pronunciation #ig #e4 ,( ,correctness 9 ,speak+ #ajj ,,*apt] ,,vi4 ,( ! ,moral ,obs]vances 9 ,conv]sation #ajd ,sect4 #a4 ,( ,=mal & ,vulg> ,usages ibid4 #b4 ,( ,que/ions & frequ5tly recurr+ ,expressions #aaj #c4 ,( ,n>rations1 ,analysis1 & ,digressions #aaa #d4 ,( ,suppositions & ,comp>isons #aah #e4 ,( ,discussions & ,quotations #aai #f4 ,( ,pleasantry1 ,prov]bs1 ,puns1 & ,bon ,mots #aba #g4 ,( ,eulogiums1 ,compla9+s1 ,improprieties 9 g5]al1 & ,prejudices #abe ,,*apt] ,,vii4 ,( ,epi/ol>y ,composition #acj ,sect4 #a4 ,( ,propriety 9 ,lett] ,writ+ ibid4 #b4 ,( ! ,int]ior & ,ext]ior ,=m ( ,lett]s #acf ,,*apt] ,,viii4 ,additional ,rules 9 respect to ! ,social ,relations #adf ,sect4 #a4 ,( an oblig+ ,deportm5t ibid4 #b4 ,( ,pres5ts #aea #c4 ,( ,advice #aed #d4 ,( ,discretion #aee ,,*apt] ,,ix4 ,( ,travell+ #aei ,,"p ,,iii4 ,,( ,,propriety ,,9 ,,relation ,,to ,,pleasures4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,( ,ent]ta9m5ts4 #afc ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,( ,prom5ades1 ,p>ties1 & ,amusem5ts #aga ,sect4 #a4 ,( ,prom5ades ibid4 #b4 ,( ,p>ties & ,amusem5ts #age #c4 ,little ,sports & ,games ( ,society #ahj ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,( ,balls1 ,conc]ts1 & ,public ,%[s #ahb ,sect4 #a4 ,( ,balls ibid4 #b4 ,( ,conc]ts #ahh #c4 ,( ,public ,%[s & ,spectacles #ahi ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,( ! ,duties ( ,hospitality #aic ,,"p ,,iv4 ,,( ,,propriety ,,z ,,reg>ds ,,o!r ,,circum/ances4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,( ,m>riage & ,baptism #aif ,sect4 #a4 ,( ,m>riage ibid4 #b4 ,( ,baptism #bjb ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,( ,duties t[>d ! ,un=tunate #bje ,sect4 #a4 ,( ,duties t[>d ! ,sick1 ,infirm1 & ,un=tunate ibid4 #b4 ,( ,fun]als & ,m\rn+ #bjh ,,"p ,i4 ,,introduction4 ,( ,propriety ( ,deportm5t1 & its ,advantages4 ,propriety ( deportm5t1 or bi5sance1 is a happy union ( ! moral & ! graceful2 x %\ld be consid]$ 9 two po9ts ( view1 & ought !re=e to direct u 9 our important duties1 z well z our m trifl+ enjoym5ts4 ,:5 we reg>d x only "u ?is la/ aspect1 "s cont5d t m]e int]c\rse ) ! _w gives a habit & ta/e = ^? mode/ & oblig+ obs]vances :i* con/itute true polit5ess2 b ?is is an error4 ,propriety ( deportm5t1 is ! valuable result ( a k ( "o's-self1 & ( respect = ! rights ( o!rs2 x is a feel+ ( ! sacrifices :i* are impos$ on self-e/eem by our social relations2 x is1 9 %ort1 a sacr$ requirem5t ( h>mony & affection4 ,b ! usage ( ! _w is m]ely ! gloss1 or r ! imitation ( propriety3 s9ce in/ead ( be+ l t1 bas$ ^u s9c]ity1 mode/y & c\rtesy1 x consi/s1 9 n be+ con/ant 9 any?+1 & 9 amus+ itself by play+ (f its feel+s & ridicule1 aga9/ ! defects & excell5ces ( o!rs1 provid$ t ?is is done ) grace1 & is nev] c>ri$ s f> z to w\nd ! self-e/eem ( any "o4 ,?anks to cu/om1 x is suffici5t 9 ord] to be recognis$ z amiable1 t he :o is ! subject ( a malici\s pleasantry may laugh z well z ! au?or ( x4 ,! usage ( ! _w is !re=e (t5 no?+ m ?an a skilful calculation ( vanity1 a futile game1 a sup]ficial obs]vance ( =m1 a false polit5ess :i* w\ld lead to frivolity or p]fidy1 did n true polit5ess animate x ) delicacy1 res]ve & b5evol5ce4 ,w\ld t cu/om _h nev] be5 sep>at$ f ?is virtu\s amiabl5ess6 ,we %\ld !n nev] see well-int5tion$ & good p suspici\s ( polit5ess2 & :5 victims to ! deceitful1 ju/ly exclaim ) bitt]ness1 ,?is is y\r man ( polit5ess2 nor %\ld we ev] h made a di/9ction betwe5 ! fix$ pr9ciples ( virtue1 & :at is fit & exp$i5t4 ,! love ( good1 9 a ^w1 virtue1 is !n ! s\l ( polit5ess2 ! feel+ ( a j h>mony betwe5 our int]e/ & our social relations1 is also indisp5sable to ?is agreeable quality4 ,excessive gaiety1 extravagant joy1 great depression1 ang]1 love1 jeal\sy1 av>ice1 & g5]ally all ! passions1 are too (t5 dang]\s %oals to propriety ( deportm5t4 ,mod]ation 9 ev]y?+ is s ess5tial1 t x is ev5 a violation ( propriety itself to affect too mu* ! obs]vance ( x4 ,x is to propriety1 its ju/ice & attractions1 t we owe all ! *>m1 ,i might almo/ say1 ! be+ able to live 9 society4 ,at once ! effect & cause ( civilization1 x avails itself ( ! gr& spr+ ( ! human m9d1 self-love1 9 ord] to purify & ennoble x2 to sub/itute = pride & all ^? egoti/ical or (f5sive feel+s :i* x g5]ates1 b5evol5ce1 ) all ! amiable & g5]\s s5tim5ts1 :i* x inspires4 ,9 an assembly ( truly polite p1 all evil seems to be unkn[n2 :at is j1 e/imable1 & good1 or :at we call fit or suitable1 is felt on all sides2 & actions1 mann]s & language alike indicate x4 ,n[ if we place 9 ?is select assembly1 a p]son :o is a /rang] to ! advantages ( a polite education1 he w at once be made s5sible ( ! value ( x1 & w imm$iately desire to display ! same urbanity by :i* he has himself be5 pleas$4 ,if polit5ess is necess>y 9 g5]al1 x is n less s 9 p>ticul> cases4 ,nei!r rank1 tal5ts1 =tune1 nor beauty1 c disp5se ) ?is am5ity ( mann]s2 nor c any ?+ inspire reg>d or love1 )\t t graceful affability1 t mild dignity1 t elegant simplicity1 :i* make ! "n ( ,fr5*man synonym\s ) amiable1 & make ,p>is de>1 to :atev] has und]/&+ & ta/e4 ,if all ! _w feels ! tru? ( ! v]se :i* is n[ a prov]b1 ,cette grce plus belle encors que la beaut1#a e "o also is s5sible1 t grace 9 conf]r+ a favor1 affects u m ?an ! favor itself1 & t a k9d smile1 & an affectionate tone1 p5etrate ! he>t m deeply ?an ! mo/ brilliant elocution4 ,z to ! te*nical "p ( polit5ess1 or =ms alone1 ! int]c\rse ( society1 & good advice1 are und\bt$ly useful2 b ! gr& secret ( nev] fail+ 9 propriety ( deportm5t1 is to h an int5tion ( always do+ :at is "r4 ,) su* a disposition ( m9d1 exactness 9 obs]v+ :at is prop]1 appe>s to all to possess a *>m & influ5ce2 & !n n only d mi/akes become excusable1 b !y become ev5 int]e/+ f _! ?\ghtlessness & navet4 ,aft] ! mann] ( ,/4 ,augu/9e1 :o us$ to say1 ,love ,god1 & !n d :at y wi%1 we w\ld say to ^?1 j mak+ _! db 9 society1 ,be mode/1 b5evol5t1 & d n di/ress y\rself on acc\nt ( ! mi/akes ( y\r inexp]i5ce2 a little att5tion1 & ! advice ( a fri5d1 w soon correct ^! trifl+ errors4 ,su* a fri5d1 ,i wi% to be to y4 ,9 und]tak+ to revise1 & almo/ entirely remodel1 ! ,manual ( ,good ,society1 ,i h wi%$ & h engag$ to be useful to y4 ,a m me?odical arrangem5t ( ! "w1 m precise & v>i$ details1 9 %ort1 important applications to all conditions & circum/ances ( life1 ,i v5ture to believe1 w make ?is treatise wor?y ( its design4 #a ,t grace1 :i* is m beautiful ?an beauty itself4--,t4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,( propriety ( conduct 9 relation to religi\s duties4 ,we h said1 t propriety ought to preside ov] ! sublime/ in/ructions ( morality1 z x also regulates ! gaye/ movem5ts ( pleasure4 ,we proce$ fir/1 !re=e1 to consid] religi\s deportm5t4 ,,section ,i4 ,( respectful deportm5t at ,*ur*4 ,religi\s s5tim5t is ! great1 p]haps ! only diff]5ce :i* we f9d betwe5 man & o!r animals4 ,h[ev] x may absorb y by its dep?1 exalt y ) delight1 or )draw f y 9 mis=tune1 ?is my/]i\s & sublime s5tim5t ought always to comm& y\r respect4 ,!re=e1 )\t object+ to p>ticul> diff]5ces ( wor%ip1 nev] ent] a *ur* )\t submitt+ to ! requirem5ts ( religion4#b ,obs]ve sil5ce1 or at lea/ speak seldom1 & 9 a l[ voice2 uncov] y\rself2 advance ) a sl[ & grave /ep2 /op1 at ! same "t mak+ an incl9ation ( y\r body1 if any c]emony engages ! assembly4 ,:e!r ! *ur* be ,jewi%1 ,ca?olic1 or ,prote/ant1 recollect1 t 9 ?is place m5 honor ! ,creator ( ! ,univ]se2 t "h !y seek consolation 9 _! tr\bles1 & p>don ( _! s9s4 ,if y visit a *ur* or any simil> edifice1 f curiosity1 endeavor to d x out ( ! "t ( s]vice4 ,contemplate sil5tly ! pictures1 monum5ts1 c42 bew>e ( imitat+ ^? v&als1 :o deface ) _! obscure & ephem]al names ^? monum5ts :i* are de/9$ to endure = ages4 ,d n l !m =get1 t ! only ?+ :i* y c expect is a smile ( contempt f all enlight5$ fri5ds ( ! arts4 ,d n wait till ! keep]s rem9d y ( ! remun]ation due to _! k9dness 9 conduct+ y2 (f]+ x to !m ) y\r ?anks on tak+ leave2 & 9 ord] to ?is1 be always provid$ ) small *ange4 ,! respect due to ! place requires u to ab/a9 f ev]y?+ :i* resembles ! c>es ( bus9ess4 ,i h ?us f> spok5 only ! language ( tol]ation1 & ( religi\s wor%ip 9 g5]al1 b ,i am n[ go+ to use t ( fai? & devotion4 ,let ! neatness & mode/y ( y\r app>el1 & y\r discreet & respectful deportm5t1 %[ t y p]ceive :at is due to ! h\se ( ,god4 ,incl9e y\r body on ent]+2 take ! holy wat]2#c !n advance by ! %orte/ way1 & )\t precipitation1 to ! place :i* y are to occupy2 if possible1 d n *ange x2 nei!r put y\rself 9 ! passage1 nor c>ry ! *airs to a di/ance2 take two toge!r1 to avoid turn+ y\r seat z circum/ances may require 9 ! c\rse ( ! c]emony4#d ,if ! s]vices h comm5c$1 place y\rself 9 ! re>1 9 ord] n to di/urb ^? pres5t by y\r com+4 ,! same motive ought to prev5t y\r go+ away be=e ! end1 except f press+ necessity4 ,if y are accompani$ by a lady to :om y owe def]5ce1 advance & pres5t to h] ! holy wat]2 prep>e two *airs = h]1 & place y\rself ne>4 ,9 leav+ *ur*1 cle> ! passage = h]2 c>ry h] pray]-book1 pres5t h] aga9 ) ! holy wat]1 & hold ! door op5 to let h] pass4 ,inde$1 ^! two la/ m>ks ( polit5ess %\ld be %[n indiscrim9ately by well-br$ p to any :o happ5 to be ne> !m1 9 ent]+ or leav+ ! *ur*4 ,k9d reg>ds t[>ds our neighbors are a wor?y accompanim5t ( devotion4 ,if on a cr[d$ occasion y h two *airs1 x is well to (f] "o ( !m to ^? :o h none2 a man ought ev5 to give up 8 own to a lady :o might be /&+4 ,e "o kn[s t x is contr>y to ! sanctity ( ! place1 to walk 9 a *ur* z ^u a public prom5ade2 to conv5e !re z 9 a private h\se2 to ca/ on "o side & ! o!r looks ( curiosity2 to h a mi5 :i* displays uneas9ess or we>9ess2 to balance y\rself ^u ! seat1 or %ake 9 an annoy+ mann] t ( ! p]son be=e y2 to c>ry ) y dogs1 packets1 c4 ,dur+ ! s]mon1 x is necess>y to endeavor to make no noise1 & to b[ ) pr(\nd respect e "t ! prea*] pron\nces ! sacr$ "n ( ,jesus ,*ri/4#e ,:e!r y give or )hold an (f]+ to ! m5dicants ( ei!r sex1 !y %\ld be answ]$ by a k9d salutation4 ,x is entirely contr>y to religi\s propriety to press =w>d1 9 go+ to ! alt>2 y ought to wait 9 sil5ce y\r turn1 )\t try+ to supplant ^? be=e y2 h[ev]1 %\ld y h any urg5t motives1 y c make !m kn[n ) mildness & polit5ess4 ,disputes :i* arise ) reg>d to ?is1 are at ! same "t an absurdity & impiety4 ,:5 y take a place at ! holy table1 y %\ld lay aside gloves1 book1 cane1 c4 ,x is well = ladies to cov] !mselves ) a veil half drawn2 x is a m>k ( rev]5ce z well z mode/y4 #b ,! directions :i* "h foll[1 are obvi\sly int5d$ = ^? :o pr(ess ! ,ca?olic religion2 b mo/ ( !m are also applicable to o!r d5om9ations ( ,*ri/ians4--,t4 #c ,?is ref]s to ! usage 9 ,ca?olic *ur*es1 9 :i* ! consecrat$ or holy wat] is kept 9 a vase1 appropriat$ to ! purpose1 ne> ! entrance & 9 o!r p>ts ( ! *ur*4--,t4 #d ,^! directions are m p>ticul>ly applicable to ,ca?olic *ur*es 9 =eign c\ntries1 :]e x is n ! g5]al cu/om1 z 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 to h pews4 ,! :ole floor is an op5 area1 & suppli$ ) *airs2 ea* p]son1 dur+ s]vice takes two1 "o ( :i* he sits 91 & places ! o!r be=e him to kneel ^u4 ,?is cu/om ( us+ *airs1 h[ev]1 is n univ]sal ev5 9 ,europe2 & ! au?or obs]ves1 9 a note1 t x 7 to be wi%$ t 9 all p>ts ( ,france !y w\ld adopt ! cu/om obs]v$ at ,havre1 ,dieppe1 & o!r cities ( ,norm&y1 :]e1 in/ead ( hav+ *airs1 ! *ur*es are furni%$ ?r\gh\t ) fix$ seats or b5*es1 by :i* means ! s]vice is conduct$ ) mu* m ord] & decorum4--,t4 #e ,?is latt] direction is m p>ticul>ly applicable to ,ca?olic usage4--,t4 ,,section ,,ii4 ,( religi\s propriety 9 our int]c\rse ) ! _w4 ,if x is a fundam5tal pr9ciple ( propriety ( conduct n to w\nd any "o 9 8 self-e/eem1 8 ta/es1 or int]e/s1 mu* m is x necess>y to respect 8 religi\s op9ions4 ,to make sport ( fai?1 t p[]ful1 deep & involunt>y s5tim5t1 be=e :i* ! law yields2 to deliv] to ! pa9 ( d\bt+1 he>ts j become pi\s & tranquil2 to awak5 a _s ( fanaticism & religi\s excesses2 to cause "o's self to be consid]$ by "s z an imprud5t1 by o!rs an unwor?y p]son1 & by all z an enemy to polit5ess & tol]ance1--are ! sad results ( raill]y aga9/ religi\s obs]vances1 raill]y1 too1 almo/ always dictat$ by a desire ( %[+ (f "o's wit4 ,^! results take place )\t any exception2 impi\s s>casms 9 s]i\s p con/antly d injury2 b !y become /ill m revolt+ 9 ! m\?s ( females1 :o1 l angels1 ought ev] to %[ !mselves lovely1 pure1 & free f passion2 :om ,b]n>d9 ,sa9t ,pi]re designates ) mu* feel+ & ju/ice ! pi\s sex4 ,we ought n h[ev] to proscribe entirely delicate & happy allusions1 or comp>isons drawn f ! sacr$ books1 & made 9 a prop] _s4 ,x is useless1 ,i ?9k1 to adduce in/ances2 suffice x to add1 t rigor alone c reprove !m1 & t ! occasion sometimes r5d]s !m v seasonable4 ,z to religi\s discussions1 !y above all dem& ! mo/ res]ve & c>e1 s9ce )\t our k consci5ce frequ5tly becomes 9 !m auxili>y to pride4 ,if !n y are unable to comm& y\rself2 if y d n feel en\gh ( logical p[]1 en\gh ( grace1 or at lea/ ( exactness ( elocution1 to cont5d ) success1 avoid controv]sies2 avoid !m ?r\gh fe> ( committ+1 9 ! eyes ( weak p1 t religion :i* y def5d1 & ( expos+ y\rself to la/+ ridicule4 ,b1 :atev] be ! skill :i* y exhibit 9 elud+ ! argum5ts ( y\r adv]s>y1 :atev] be y\r triumph1 & al?\gh y\r disposition %\ld urge y1 nev] turn a s]i\s discussion into je/2 f t mom5t y w\ld lose all y\r advantages1 &1 al?\gh ov]?r[n1 y\r antagoni/ w recov] himself ) ?is j reflection1 t 'no?+ is prov$ by a je/4' ,f9ally1 :ile y manife/ on e occasion a s9c]e & pr(\nd respect = religion1 bew>e above all ?+s ( mak+ a proclamation ( y\r piety4 ,avoid talk+ ) ^? 9 y\r p>i%1 ab\t y\r confessor1 & y\r religi\s obs]vances4 ,if y d n di/+ui% y\rself f ! cr[d1 !y w take y = a hypocrite1 or a p]son ( small m9d4 ,if y recomm5d y\rself1 on ! contr>y1 by sup]ior m]it1 !y w ?9k t y take pleasure 9 %[+ ! contra/ :i* exi/s betwe5 y\r exalt$ tal5ts & y\r humble fai?4 ,betwe5 ourselves1 w\ld !y be 9 ! wrong8 ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,( propriety ( conduct 9 relation to dome/ic duties4 ,s9ce we admit t !re are duties ( propriety relative to piety1 !re are also duties relative to filial piety1 t o!r wor%ip1 t famili> v5]ation ( ! ,deity1 :om our p>5ts repres5t on e>?4 ,! mo/ sublime1 ! mo/ t\*+ m>ks ( religion & ( nature unite 9 comm&+ u to love & honor ^? f :om we h receiv$ life4 ,we %all n (f5d our read]s by suppos+ x requisite to insi/ ^u ! necessity ( fulfill+ a duty :i* is felt by all correct m9ds & all good he>ts4 ,! cu/om has prevail$ ( address+ ! fa!r & "m 9 ! second p]son4#f ,?is m>k ( great confid5ce1 & affectionate fre$om1 ought nev] to deg5]ate into an (f5sive famili>ity4 ,we ought always to address !m 9 a respectful & k9d tone2 to anticipate !m 9 e ?+2 to ask _! advice2 to receive _! repro(s ) submission2 to be sil5t ) reg>d to ! errors !y may commit2 to %[ !m a lively gratitude on e occasion2 9 %ort1 :atev] advantage y h ov] !m1 be c>eful to conceal x1 & consid] !m always y\r sup]iors1 y\r b5efactors & y\r guides4 ,besides ! daily m>ks ( def]5ce :i* we %\ld %[ to our p>5ts1 !re are o!r p>ticul> att5tions = :i* our affection %\ld seek e occasion4 ,at c]ta9 p]iods1 su* z ! new ye>1 ! bir? day or day ( baptism1 we %\ld (f] !m t5d] congratulations1 or +5i\sly devis$ pres5ts4 ,we are n all[$ to disp5se ) ^! delicate att5tions4 ,if y h success 9 ! sci5ces or arts1 make appropriate pres5ts to ^? f :om y h d]iv$ ! b5efits ( y\r education4 ,if y are sep>at$ f y\r fa!r & "m1 write to !m frequ5tly2 let y\r /yle be impress$ ) a devot$ affection2 repeat m p>ticul>ly at ! end ( y\r lett]s ! s5tim5ts ( respect & ( love ) :i* y %\ld be inspir$4 ,z to :at y\r uncles1 aunts1 bro!rs1 si/]s1 & c\s9s require ( y1 y w "k :at are ! duties ( propriety 9 t respect1 if y feel h[ de> family ties are2 y w %[ t[>ds "s a respectful1 & t[>ds ! o!rs a fri5dly polit5ess4 ,!y %\ld claim on e occasion y\r fir/ visits & y\r fir/ att5tions2 y %\ld id5tify y\rself ) !m 9 all _! prosp]ity or adv]sity2 invite !m above all o!rs to ftes & meet+s at y\r h\se1 unless :5 y assemble a p>ty on a special occasion1 at :i* !y w\ld be entire /rang]s4 ,y %\ld always take c>e to invite y\r relations by !mselves f "t to "t1 to prove t y h no int5tion ( slight+ !m4 ,y may be m intimate ) "s ( y\r family1 & give !m p>ticul> pro(s ( affection2 b 9 ^! meet+s y w d well to ab/a9 f e act ( pref]5ce4 ,)\t be+ at all want+ 9 cordiality1 a little m c]emony %\ld be us$ t[>ds y\r relations by m>riage1 to :om y inde$ owe z mu* respect z to y\r own relations4 #f ,?is is an allusion to ! idiom ( ! ,fr5* language1 & is inapplicable 9 ,engli%4--,t4 ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,( propriety ( conduct 9 conjugal & dome/ic relations4 ,if any ?+ c r5d] polit5ess ridicul\s1 & ev5 odi\s1 x is ! disposition ( c]ta9 p]sons1 :o 9 society are mod]ate1 amiable1 & graci\s1 b 9 private %[ !mselves morose1 r\gh & ill-natur$4 ,?is fault1 mu* too common1 is "o ( ! greate/ inconsi/5cies ( ! human m9d4 ,y use all y\r ex]tions to please ! _w :i* y only see cursorily1 & 9 :i* y h only p[] to procure a few mom5ts ( pleasure1 & y neglect to be agreeable to y\r husb& or wife1 f :om y expect ! happ9ess ( a :ole life4 ,p]haps x w\ld be bett] to be cont9ually caprici\s or h>%1 = ! contra/ ( y\r polit5ess 9 ! draw+-room ) y\r impolit5ess at home makes y appe> /ill m odi\s4 ,conjugal intimacy1 x is true1 disp5ses ) ! etiquette e/abli%$ by polit5ess1 b x does n disp5se ) att5tions4 ,9 ! pres5ce ( y\r wife or husb&1 y ought nev] to d ^? ?+s :i* c>ry ) !m an idea ( disgu/1 nor p]=m ^? duties ( ! toilet1 :i* be=e any "o b y\rself (f5d dec5cy & cleanl9ess4#g ,"o ought nev] to p]mit disord] 9 8 w>drobe "u ! excuse t he is j up1 or at 8 own h\se4 ,to dress ) neatness1 & elegant simplicity is important1 ev5 at home4 ,! conv]sation ( husb& & wife _c be elegant1 & su/a9$ 9 ! same mann] t x is 9 society2 x w\ld inde$ be sup]latively ridicul\s t x %\ld n h int]ruption or relaxation1 b x %\ld be free f all impolit5ess & indelicacy4 ,if at any "t ! society ( y\r husb& or wife causes y ennui1 y ought nei!r to say s1 nor give any suspicion ( ! cause by abruptly *ang+ ! conv]sation4 ,9 all discussions y %\ld wat* y\rself att5tively1 le/ dome/ic famili>ity raise itself by degrees to ! pit* ( a qu>rel4 ,x is especially to females t ?is advice is address$1 & to ! impressive words ( ,scripture1 'woman 0 n creat$ = wra?1' we may add ^!1 '%e 0 creat$ = g5tl5ess4' ,to ent]ta9 ) a polit5ess p>ticul>ly affectionate ! fri5ds ( a p]son ) :om y are connect$ by m>riage2 to respect inviolably ! lett]s :i* %e writes or receives2 to avoid pry+ into ! secrets :i* %e conceals f y ?r\gh delicacy2 nev] to act contr>y to h] incl9ations1 unless !y are injuri\s to h]self1 & ev5 9 ?is case n to oppose h]1 b to endeavor to *eck !m ) address & k9dness2 to bew>e ( confid+ to /rang]s or to dome/ics ! little vexations :i* %e causes y2 to dread l poison m>ks ( contempt1 coldness1 suspicion1 or reproa*es2 to apologize promptly & 9 an affectionate mann] if y h all[$ y\rself to run into any ill humor2 to receive h] c\nsels ) att5tion1 & b5evol5ce1 & to execute !m z quickly z possible--^! are ! obligations ( propriety & love1 to :i* husb&s possess$ ( g5tl5ess b9d !mselves1 by ! sanctity ( ! v[s :i* !y h tak5 be=e ,god4 ,!re is a /ill m rigor\s duty = a new husb&1 & = well m>ri$ p]sons2 !y mu/ ab/a9 9 public f e m>k ( affection too conspicu\s1 & e exclusive att5tion4 ,m>ri$ p]sons :o1 9 society1 place !mselves cont9ually ne> "o ano!r1 & :o conv]se & dance toge!r1 d n escape ! ridicule to :i* _! feel+s bl9d !m4 ,9 society1 we ought above e ?+ to avoid be+ p]sonal2 = a husb& or a wife1 is ano!r self2 & we mu/ =get t self4 ,mo!rs1 9 p>ticul>1 sp>e no c>esses t[>ds y\r *ildr51 occupy y\rselves entirely ) !m1 unless p]haps y fe> to r5d] !m pr\d1 difficult & insupportable2 if y fatigue p by hav+ !m always pres5t1 if y enc\rage or repeat _! prattle & _! sports2 if1 on ! o!r h&1 y treat !m ) sev]ity be=e /rang]s1 if y reprim& or puni% !m1 be assur$ e "o w consid] y importunate z well z ridicul\s4 ,dome/ic propriety1 :i* is at once a duty ( ju/ice1 religion & humanity1 is also a s\rce ( peace & pleasure4 ,s]vants treat$ ) suitable reg>d1 are att5tive1 zeal\s & grateful1 & consequ5tly e ?+ is done ) propriety & affection4 ,:o does n "k ! *>m & value ( ?is8 ,duties ( ?is class require t y %\ld nev] comm& y\r dome/ics ) hauteur & h>%ness4 ,e "t t !y r5d] y a s]vice1 x claims an expression1 a ge/ure1 or at lea/ a look ( ?ankfulness2 x requires t y %\ld be /ill m affectionate t[>ds ! dome/ics ( y\r acqua9tances1 & especially t[>ds ^? ( y\r fri5ds1 :om y ought always to treat k9dly4 ,z to y\r own dome/ics1 y %\ld c>efully bew>e ( address+ to !m any confid5tial or ev5 useless conv]sation1 = fe> ( r5d]+ !m insol5t or famili>2 b propriety requires y to li/5 to !m ) k9dness1 & give !m salut>y advice :5 x is = _! int]e/4 ,x comm&s u also to %[ !m indulg5ce frequ5tly1 9 ord] to be able1 :5 !re is cause1 to reprove !m ) firmness1 )\t be+ oblig$ to h rec\rse to ! false en]gy ( ang]4 ,! ton ( dome/ics ord9>ily ann\nces t ( _! ma/]s4 ,nev] suff] !m to rema9 seat$ :ile answ]+ di/+ui%$ p]sons :o ask = y4 ,take c>e t !y d x always 9 a civil & polite mann]2 let !m lose no "t1 if !re is occasion1 9 reliev+ y\r visitors ( _! ov]-%oes1 umbrellas1 cloaks1 c42 let !m g be=e1 to save y\r visitors ! tr\ble ( op5+ & %utt+ ! door4 ,:5 an ann\ncem5t is made1 let !m in=m !mselves respectfully ( ! "n ( ! p]son1 & pron\nce x :ile hold+ op5 = !m ! door ( y\r room4 ,if y are n !re1 let !m (f] a seat1 reque/+ ! gue/s to wait a mom5t :ile !y g to call y4 ,:5 visitors take leave1 dome/ics ought to manife/ a promptness 9 op5+ ! out] door2 !y %\ld hold ! door by ! h&le1 :ile y conv]se ) ! p]son :om y reconduct2 !y %\ld pres5t !m respectfully ) :atev] g>m5ts !y may h ?r[n (f1 & aid !m 9 aga9 putt+ !m on2 & %\ld1 if occasion requires1 light !m to ! door1 go+ sl[ly beh9d !m4 ,accu/om y\r dome/ics nev] to appe> be=e y too poorly1 or too mu* dress$2 nev] to sit 9 y\r pres5ce1 especially :ile wait+ ^u ! table2 n to ent] into conv]sation2 nev] to answ] by signs1 or 9 co>se t]ms4 ,x is only among ! badly educat$ p ( ! small t[ns t !y say1 ! 'maid1' ! 'boy1' ! 'dome/ic1' ! 's]vant2' & among ! pr\d1 ill-br$ fa%ionables1 :o ape gr&eur2 ! 'lackey1' ! 'valet1' 'my p2' well-br$ p]sons simply say1 ! 'nurse1' ! 'cook1' ! '*amb]-maid1' c4 & :at is /ill bett]1 !y designate _! dome/ics by _! *ri/ian names4 ,if y h ev] met ) ^? m]ciless h\sekeep]s :o give y a :ole t>iff ( ! commodities :i* !y h be5 to m>ket to pur*ase1 att5d$ by _! maid2 :o ent]ta9 y con/antly ) ! insults & unfai?fulness ( _! dome/ics2 :o fly into a passion be=e y on acc\nt ( a glass brok51 ( :i* !y require ! value1 & make y witness & judge ( p]t discussions occasion$ by s]vants' mi/akes2 if y h _h ! mis=tune to d9e ) su* p]sons1 & h se5 !m h& reluctantly to _! sull5 maid-s]vants "o key aft] ano!r1 to arrange ! dess]t br\ght by !m ) a good supply ( ill-humor2 if y h se5 !m g to ! cell> !mselves1 & :5 !y h j left ! table1 to arrange 9 a surly mann] ! w9e1 sug>1 & delicacies1 tell me1 poor gue/1 if1 turn+ y\r head away ) confusion & disgu/1 y h n an hundr$ times said to y\rself1 ',oh6 :at liv+ & disgu/+ models ( up/>ts or prov9cials4' #g ,z wa%+ ! feet1 cutt+ ! nails1 c4 ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,( propriety z reg>ds "o's self4 ,att5tion to "o's p]son & reputation is also a duty4 ,if vanity1 pride1 or prud]y1 h frequ5tly giv5 to ^! att5tions ! names ( coquetry1 ambition1 or folly1 ?is is a /ill /rong] reason1 :y we %\ld endeavor to cle> up ^! po9ts4 ,,section ,i4 ,( ! toilet4 ,propriety requires t we %\ld always be clo!d 9 a cleanly & becom+ mann]1 ev5 9 private1 9 leav+ our b$1 or 9 ! pres5ce ( no "o4 ,x requires t our clo?+ be 9 keep+ ) our sex1 =tune1 pr(ession1 age1 & =m1 z well z ) ! season1 ! diff]5t h\rs ( ! day & our diff]5t occupations4 ,let u n[ desc5d to ! p>ticul>s ( ^! g5]al rules4 ,! dress = a man on 8 fir/ ris+1 is a cap ( cotton1 or silk & cotton1 a morn+ g[n1 or a ve/ ) sleeves2 = a lady1 a small musl9 cap1 7bonnet de p]cale17 a camisole or common robe4 ,x is well t a half corset %\ld prec$e ! full corset1 :i* la/ is us$ only :5 "o is dress$2 = x is bad ta/e = a lady n to be lac$ at all4 ,! hair pap]s1 :i* _c be remov$ on ris+ 7because ! hair w\ld n keep 9 curl till ev5+17 %\ld be conceal$ "u a b&eau ( lace or ( ! hair4 ,!y %\ld be remov$ z soon z may be4 ,9 ?is dress1 we c receive only intimate fri5ds or p]sons1 :o call ^u urg5t or indisp5sable bus9ess2 ev5 !n we ought to (f] "s apology = x4 ,to neglect to take (f ?is morn+ dress z soon z possible1 is to expose "o's self to emb>rassm5ts (t5 v pa9ful1 & to ! appe>ance ( a want ( education4 ,moreov]1 x is well to impose ^u y\rself a rule to be dress$ at "s p>ticul> h\r 7! e>lie/ possible17 s9ce occupations w pres5t !mselves to h9d] y\r be+ ready = ! day2 & y w easily acquire ! habit ( ?is4 ,su* disord] ( ! toilet c be excus$ :5 x occurs r>ely1 or = a %ort "t1 z 9 su* cases x seems evid5tly ow+ to a tempor>y emb>rassm5t2 b if x occur daily1 or con/antly2 if x seems ! result ( neglig5ce & slov5l9ess1 x is unp>donable1 p>ticul>ly 9 ladies1 ^: dress seems less design$ = clo?+ ?an ornam5t4 ,to suppose t great heat ( wea!r w au?orise ?is disord] ( ! toilet1 & w p]mit u to g 9 slipp]s1 or ) our legs & arms b>e1 or to take non*alant or improp] attitudes1 is an error ( p]sons ( a l[ class1 or de/itute ( education4 ,ev5 ! wea!r ( dog-days w\ld n excuse ?is2 & if we w\ld rema9 ?us dress$1 we mu/ give directions t we are n at home4 ,on ! o!r h&1 to ?9k t cold & ra9y wea!r excuses l lib]ties1 is equally an error4 ,y ought n to be 9 ! habit ( we>+ l>ge socks 7?is is address$ p>ticul>ly to ladies17 z socks ( li/ & simil> mat]ials2 mu* less noisy %oes1 su* z wood5 ones1 galo*es l9$ ) fur1 %oes ) wood5 soles1 socks1 c42 ?is cu/om is 9 ! wor/ ta/e4 ,:5 y g to see any "o1 y _c disp5se ) tak+ (f y\r socks or clogs be=e y are introduc$ into ! room4 ,= to make a noise 9 walk+ is entirely at v>iance ) good mann]s4 ,h[ev] press$ "o may be1 a lady ( good bre$+ %\ld n g out 9 a morn+ dress1 nei!r ) an apron nor cap1 ev5 if x is made ( f9e clo? & trimm$ ) ribb&s2 nor %\ld a well-br$ man %[ himself 9 ! /reet 9 a wai/coat only1 a jacket )\t sleeves1 c4 ,we said be=e t ! dress %\ld be adapt$ to ! diff]5t h\rs ( ! day4 ,ladies %\ld make morn+ calls 9 an elegant & simple nglig1 all ! details ( :i* we _c give1 on acc\nt ( _! multiplicity & ! num]\s modification ( fa%ion4 ,we %all only say t ladies g5]ally %\ld make ^! calls 9 ! dress :i* !y we> at home4 ,g5tlem5 may call 9 an outside coat1 9 boots & pantaloons1 z :5 !y are on _! ord9>y bus9ess4 ,9 %ort1 ?is dress is prop] = g5tlem5's visits 9 ! middle ( ! day4 ,) reg>d to ladies1 x is necess>y = !m :5 visit+ at ?is "t1 to arrange _! toilet ) m c>e4 ,c]emoni\s visits1 ev5+ visits1 & especially balls1 require m att5tion to ! dress ( g5tlem51 & a m brilliant co/ume = ladies4 ,!re are = ! latt]1 head-dresses p>ticul>ly design$ = su* occasions1 & = no o!r1 su* z ri* blond caps1 ornam5t$ ) fl[]s1 brilliant b]rets & toques1 appropriate to ! draw+-room4 ,! nice/ clo?1 new & v f9e l951 an elegant b pla9 wai/coat2 a beautiful wat*1 to :i* is atta*$ a s+le co/ly key1 ?9 & well poli%$ %oes1 an entirely new hat1 ( a sup]ior quality--?is is a dress at once re*]* & rigor\sly exact1 = g5tlem5 ( good ta/e & ton4 ,"o's pr(ession requires v little modification ( ?is co/ume2 we %\ld obs]ve1 h[ev]1 t m5 ( sci5ce 7savans7 & lit]>y m5 & ^? 9 ! pr(ession ( ! law1 %\ld avoid hav+ a fa%ionable or milit>y co/ume1 :i* is g5]ally adopt$ by /ud5ts1 comm]cial m51 & exquisites1 = ! sake ( ton or = want ( some?+ to d4 ,situation 9 ! _w det]m9es among ladies1 ^? diff]5ces1 :i* ?\gh o!rwise well m>k$1 are becom+ less s e day4 ,e "o kn[s t :atev] be ! =tune ( a "y lady1 h] dress ought always1 9 =m z well z ornam5ts1 to exhibit less ( a re*]* appe>ance & %\ld be less %[y ?an t ( m>ri$ ladies4 ,co/ly ca%m]es1 v ri* furs1 & diamonds1 z well z _m o!r brilliant ornam5ts1 are to be =bidd5 a "y lady2 & ^? :o act 9 defiance ( ^! rational m>ks ( propriety make u believe t !y are possess$ ( an unre/ra9$ love ( luxury1 & deprive !mselves ( ! pleasure ( receiv+ ^! ornam5ts f ! h& ( ! man ( _! *oice4 ,all ladies _c use indiscrim9ately ! privilege :i* m>riage conf]s ^u !m 9 ?is respect1 & ! toilet ( ^? ^: =tune is mod]ate %\ld n pass ! b\nds ( an elegant simplicity4 ,consid]ations ( a m elevat$ nature1 z ( good dome/ic ord]1 ! dignity ( a wife1 & ! duties ( a "m1 come 9 support ( ?is law ( propriety1 = x conc]ns morality 9 all its bran*es4 ,we mu/ bew>e ( a %oal 9 ?is case2 frequ5tly a "y lady ( small =tune1 desir+ to appe> dec5tly 9 any spl5did assembly1 makes sacrifices 9 ord] to embelli% h] mode/ attire4 ,b ^! sacrifices are necess>ily inadequate2 a new & brilliant article ( dress is plac$ by ! side ( a mean or old "o4 ,! toilet !n wants h>mony1 :i* is ! s\l ( elegance z well z ( beauty4 ,moreov]1 :atev] be ! opul5ce :i* y enjoy1 luxury encroa*es s mu* ^u x1 t no ri*es are able to satisfy its dem&s2 b =tunately propriety1 always 9 accordance ) reason1 enc\rages by ?is maxim social & s5sible wom54 ,nei!r too high1 nor too l[2 x is equally ridicul\s ei!r to pret5d to be ! mo/ %[y1 or to display ! meane/ attire 9 an assembly4 ,! rules suitable to age resemble ^? :i* m$iocrity ( =tune imposes2 = in/ance1 old ladies ought to ab/a9 f gaudy colors1 re*]* designs1 too late fa%ions1 & graceful ornam5ts1 z fea!rs1 fl[]s1 & jewels4 ,a lady 9 h] decl9e dress$ 9 h] hair1 & we>+ a dress ) %ort sleeves1 adorn$ ) coll>s1 bracelets1 c4 (f5ds aga9/ propriety z mu* z aga9/ h] int]e/ & dignity4 ,! rigor\s simplicity ( ! dress ( m5 e/abli%es b v little diff]5ce betwe5 t ( "y & old4 ,! latt]1 h[ev]1 ought to *oose grave colors1 n to foll[ ! fa%ions too closely2 to avoid g>m5ts too tight or too %ort1 & n to h 9 view 9 _! toilet any o!r object b ease & neatness4 ,unless ! c>e ( _! heal?1 or complete baldness1 requires !m to we> a wig1#h x is m prop] t old p]sons %\ld %[ _! :ite & noble heads4 ,old ladies1 :om cu/om requires to conceal ?is respectable sign ( a long life1 %\ld at lea/ avoid hair too ?ick or too full ( curls4 ,if !y w\ld n appe> ridicul\s & clo!d 9 a mann] disagreeable or (f5sive1 ladies ought to adopt 9 summ] light g>m5ts1 & delicate colors1 & 9 w9t]1 furs1 ?ick & w>m fabrics1 & deep colors4 ,m5 till lately 7 almo/ free f ?is obligation2 !y us$ to be con/antly clo!d 9 broadclo? 9 all seasons3 b n[1 al?\gh ?is may =m ! basis ( _! toilet1 !y mu/ select /uffs = w9t] or summ]1 z may be suitable4 ,x is 9 good ton = g5tlem5 to we> a ri* cloak2 an out] g>m5t ov] ! coat 7especially "o ( silk17 is left = m5 ( a c]ta9 age4 ,x only belongs to septuag5>ians & ecclesia/ics to we> d\blets or wadd$ out] coats4 ,to f9i% our in/ructions relative to ! toilet1 x only rema9s = u to make a few obs]vations4 ,x is sup]latively ridicul\s = a lady to g on foot1 :5 dress$ 9 h] hair1 or attir$ = ! draw+-room or a ball4 ,if "o dwells 9 a prov9cial t[n :]e x is n cu/om>y to use c>riages1 !y %\ld g 9 a *air4 ,:o does n p]ceive h[ laughable x is to see a lady :o is clo!d 9 sat9 lace1 or velvet1 labori\sly travell+ 9 ! du/ or mud4 ,v>y y\r toilet z mu* z possible1 = fe> t idl]s & malignant wits1 :o are always a majority 9 ! _w1 %\ld amuse !mselves by mak+ y\r dress ! description ( y\r p]son4 ,c]ta9 fa%ionables seek to ga9 a k9d ( reputation by ! odd *oice ( _! attire1 & by _! eag]ness to seize ^u ! fir/ caprices ( ! fa%ions4 ,propriety ) difficulty tol]ates ^! fancies ( a spoil$ *ild3 b x applauds a woman ( s5se & ta/e1 :o is n 9 a hurry to foll[ ! fa%ions & asks h[ long !y w probably la/ be=e adopt+ !m2 f9ally1 :o selects & modifies !m ) success accord+ to h] size & figure4 ,x w\ld be extremely cl[ni% to c>ry dirt into a dec5t h\se1 especially if "o makes a c]emoni\s visit2 &1 :5 !re is mu* mud1 or :5 we _c walk ) skill1 x is prop] to g 9 a c>riage1 or at lea/ to put 9 requisition ! s]vices ( a %oe-black at a %ort di/ance f ! h\se4 #h ,"y p :o become bald1 %\ld n hesitate to h rec\rse to wigs4 ,no?+ m sadd5s ! appe>ance1 ?an ^? bald skulls1 :i* seem always to invite ! obs]vations ( ! anatomi/4 ,,section ,,ii4 ,( ,reputation4 ,among ! c>es :i* propriety obliges u to take ( our p]son1 to please is b an access>y circum/ance2 ! pr9cipal end is to indicate by cleanl9ess1 & ! suitabl5ess ( app>el1 t good ord]1 a s5se ( :at is "r1 & polit5ess 9 all ?+s1 direct our ?\ghts & actions4 ,9 ?is po9t ( view1 we see t a reg>d to reputation is ! necess>y consequ5ce ( ! duties ( propriety t[>d "o's self4 ,to inspire e/eem & consid]ation1 is !n ! gr& object ( propriety ( conduct2 = )\t ?is treasure1 ! relations ( society w\ld be a humiliation & puni%m5t4 ,!y are obta9$ by ! accompli%m5t ( our obligations ( family & ( our pr(ession2 by our probity & good mann]s2 by our =tune & situation 9 society4 ,consid]ation is n acquir$ by words2 an article s preci\s dem&s a real value2 x dem&s also ! assi/ance ( discretion4 ,s t we mu/ beg9 by fulfill+ exactly our duties t[>ds relations2 b we mu/ bew>e ( mak+ public ^? petty qu>rels1 & little diff]5ces ( int]e/1 ( ill humor or op9ion1 :i* sometimes tr\ble families mo/ closely unit$4 ,^! mom5t>y cl\ds1 soon dissipat$ by affection & confid5ce1 w\ld be engrav5 on ! memory ( o!rs z a pro( ( y\r dome/ic discords1 & 9 ! end1 ( y\r faults4#i ,probity1 t p[]ful means ( obta9+ consid]ation1 by its elevat$ & religi\s nature1 is n )9 our inve/igation ( ! pr9ciples ( polit5ess4 ,?is is n ! case ) t consid]ation :i* is atta*$ to purity ( morals4 ,! pro( ( probity is 9 probity itself2 b1 ?anks to ! delicate %ades ( reputation1 9 reg>d to *a/ity1 !re exi/s1 indep5d5tly ( good conduct1 a multitude ( c>es1 & precautions1 :i*1 h[ev] m9ute & emb>rass+ at times1 ought nev] to be neglect$4 ,ladies1 to :om ! advice conta9$ 9 ?is p>agraph is p>ticul>ly address$1 "k h[ ! %ad[ ( suspicion )]s & torm5ts !m4 ,?is %ad[1 x is necess>y to avoid at all haz>ds1 & on t acc\nt to submit to all ! requirem5ts ( propriety4 ,"y m>ri$ ladies are at lib]ty to visit by !mselves _! acqua9tances1 b !y _c pres5t !mselves 9 public )\t _! husb&1 or an ag$ lady4 ,!y are at lib]ty h[ev] to walk ) "y m>ri$ ladies or unm>ri$ ones1 :ile ! latt] %\ld nev] walk alone ) _! companions4 ,nei!r %\ld !y %[ !mselves except ) a g5tleman ( _! family1 & !n he %\ld be a ne> relation or ( respectable age4 ,except 9 c]ta9 prov9cial t[ns1 :]e !re is a great /rictness 9 behavior1 "y m>ri$ ladies receive ! visits ( g5tlem52 !y p]mit _! company 9 prom5ades1 )\t suff]+ ! lea/ injury to _! reputation1 provid$ x is always ) m5 ( good morals1 & t !y take c>e to avoid e appe>ance ( coquetry4 ,"y wid[s h equal lib]ty ) m>ri$ ladies4 ,a lady ought n to pres5t h]self alone 9 a libr>y1 or a museum1 unless %e goes !re to /udy or "w z an arti/4 ,a lady ought to h a mode/ & measur$ gait2 too great hurry injures ! grace :i* ought to *>act]ize h]4 ,%e %\ld n turn h] head on "o side & ! o!r1 especially 9 l>ge t[ns1 :]e ?is bad habit seems to be an invitation to ! imp]t95t4 ,if su* p]sons address h] 9 any flatt]+ or insignificant t]ms1 %e %\ld take good c>e n to answ] !m a ^w4 ,if !y p]si/1 %e %\ld tell !m 9 a brief & firm1 ?\gh polite tone1 t %e desires to be left to h]self4 ,if a man foll[ h] 9 sil5ce1 %e %\ld pret5d n to p]ceive him1 & at ! same "t ha/5 a little h] /ep4 ,t[>ds ! close ( ! day1 a "y lady w\ld conduct h]self 9 an unbecom+ mann]1 if %e %\ld g alone2 & if %e passes ! ev5+ ) any "o1 %e ought to see t a dome/ic comes to accompany h]1 if n1 to reque/ ! p]son :om %e is visit+1 to all[ "s "o to d s4 ,b h[ev] mu* ?is may be consid]$ prop]1 & consequ5tly an obligation1 a m>ri$ lady well educat$ w disreg>d x if circum/ances prev5t h] be+ able1 )\t tr\ble1 to f9d a conductor4 ,if ! ma/] ( ! h\se wi%es to accompany y himself1 y mu/ excuse y\rself politely f giv+ him s mu* tr\ble1 b f9i% h[ev] by accept+4 ,on arriv+ at y\r h\se1 y %\ld (f] him y\r ?anks4 ,9 ord] to avoid ^! two inconv5i5ces1 x w be well to reque/ y\r husb&1 or "s "o ( y\r relations to come & wait ^u y2 y w 9 ?is way avoid /ill ano!r inconv5i5ce2 9 small t[ns1 :]e malice is excit$ by ignorance & want ( some?+ to d1 !y frequ5tly c5sure ! mo/ innoc5t acts2 x is n uncommon to he> sl&]\s & silly gossips obs]ve1 t madame su*-a-"o goes to madame su*-a-"o's = ! sake ( return+ ) h] husb&4 ,! se$s ( su* an imputation1 once s[n1 quickly come to maturity4 ,! c>e ( ! reputation ( ladies fur!r dem&s t !y %\ld h a mode/ deportm5t2 %\ld ab/a9 f =w>d mann]s1 & free spee*es4 #i ,z to ! means ( obta9+ consid]ation1 9 p]=m+ ! duties app]ta9+ to our /ation 9 life1 see ! foll[+ *apt]s4 ,,*apt] ,v4 ,( propriety1 9 reg>d to "o's bus9ess or pr(ession4 ,besides g5]al polit5ess1 t ready money :i* is curr5t ) all1 !re is a polite deportm5t suit$ to e pr(ession4 ,int]e/1 cu/om1 & ! desire ( p>ticul> e/eem1 ! necessity ( mod]at+ ! en?usiasm :i* almo/ con/antly animates u1--are ! motives :i* det]m9e ! diff]5t k9ds ( polit5ess t we are go+ to consid] z reg>ds %opkeep]s1 p 9 (fice1 lawy]s1 physicians1 arti/s1 milit>y m51 & ecclesia/ics4 ,z all ?is polit5ess is mutual1 we %all necess>ily speak ( ! obligations impos$ ^u p :o h int]c\rse ) ^! diff]5t p]sons4 ,,section ,i4 ,polit5ess ( ,%opkeep]s & ,cu/om]s4 ,polit5ess 9 %opkeep]s is a road to =tune1 :i* ! great] "p ( !m are c>eful n to neglect1 especially at ,p>is1 :]e we f9d p>ticul>ly ! model ( a well-br$ %opkeep]4 ,x is ?is model t we wi% to hold up ev5 to "s ,p>isians1 & to ! retail deal]s ( ! prov9cial t[ns1 z well z to ^? :o are unacqua9t$ ) trade1 b are de/9$ to t pr(ession4 ,:5 a cu/om] calls1 ! %opkeep] %\ld salute him politely1 )\t inquir+ aft] 8 heal?1 unless he be intimately acqua9t$ ) him4 ,he !n waits until ! cu/om] has made kn[n 8 wi%es1 advances t[>d him1 or br+s =w>d a seat1 !n %[s him1 ) great civility1 ! articles = :i* he has inquir$4 ,if ! pur*as] be difficult to suit1 caprici\s1 ridicul\s1 or ev5 disda9ful1 ! %opkeep] ought n to appe> to p]ceive x2 he may h[ev] 9 su* cases1 %[ a little coldness ( mann]4 ,! "p :i* %opkeep]s h to act is frequ5tly pa9ful1 we mu/ all[2 !re are "s p :o treat !m l s]vants2 !re are "s caprici\s fa%ionables1 :o g into a %op only to pass ! "t1 to see ! new fa%ions1 & :o1 ) ?is object make ! %opkeep] op5 a hundr$ bundles1 %[ heaps ( goods1 & f9i% by go+ out1 say+ 9 a disda9ful tone t no?+ suits !m4 ,!re are "s m]ciless pur*as]s :o cont5d = a few c5ts ) all ! t5acity ( av>ice1 ob/9acy & pride2 h[ev]1 "u all ^! vexations1 ! %opkeep] mu/ %[ con/ant urbanity4 ,he waits ^u su* imp]i\s pur*as]s ) read9ess1 b nev]!less 9 sil5ce1 = he mu/ be conv9c$ t ! m comply+ we are to p ( ?is sort1 ! m haughty & difficult !y %[ !mselves4 ,) caprici\s fa%ionables1 8 pati5ce %\ld nev] =sake him2 & al?\gh he well kn[s :at w be ! result ( _! fatigu+ call1 he nev]!less %\ld %[ !m 8 goods1 z if he ?\ght !y really int5d$ to buy2 = sometimes ?is tempts !m to pur*ase4 ,ev5 ?\gh 8 polit5ess %\ld be all lo/1 he %\ld /ill express 8 regret at n hav+ be5 able to suit ! lady1 & hope to be m =tunate ano!r "t2 he %\ld !n conduct h] politely to ! door1 :i* he %\ld hold op5 until h] c>riage leaves x4 ,a %opkeep] :o wi%es to save "t1 words & vexation1 :o ev5 feels ! dignity ( 8 pr(ession1 ought to sell at a fix$ price1 or if he does n ann\nce t he sells 9 t mode1 he ought at lea/ to adopt x1 & n to h :at is call$ an ask+ price4 ,if h[ev] he has to d ) ^? gossips :o ?9k !mselves *eat$ unless some?+ is abat$1 or :o design to impose sacrifices on ! %opkeep]s1 x is necess>y to c>ry on ?is ridicul\s skirmi%+ politely1 & to yield by degrees1 )\t exhibit+ any m>ks ( displeasure at ^! endless debates4 ,b ! deal] ( bon ton ab/a9s f ^? l(ty assurances1 ^? laughable adjurations1 decl>ations ( loss1 & ( pref]5ce1 z1 ,i lose all pr(it1 x is because x is y1 & o!r fooli% ?+s1 :i* make a lackey's (fice ( a truly respectable pr(ession4 ,! cl]ks %\ld c>ry ! articles pur*as$ to ! desk1 :i!r !y %\ld politely conduct ! pur*as]2 !y !n %\ld make up ! bundle :i* !y %\ld n deliv] until ! bill is settl$1 & ! pur*as] is ready to dep>t4 ,if ! latt] is n on foot1 ! bundle %\ld n be deliv]$ until he is seat$ 9 ! c>riage1 & ! door is ready to be %ut4 ,if1 on ! contr>y1 ! pur*as] is n 9 a c>riage1 he mu/ be ask$ :e!r he wi%es to h ! bundle c>ri$ home4 ,?is polit5ess is indisp5sable if ! bundle is l>ge1 & especially if ! pur*as] is a lady4 ,x is fur!r necess>y t ! p]son at ! desk %\ld (f] small *ange = ! balance ( ! pur*ase1 & %\ld apologise if he is oblig$ to give copp] or heavy money2 he ought to pres5t a bill ( ! articles1 & n %[ any ill-humor if ! pur*as] ?9ks prop] to look ov] x4 ,!re is "o circum/ance :i* tries ! polit5ess ( ! mo/ civil %opkeep]s2 x is :5 an assortm5t is want$4 ,x is inde$ irksome en\gh to %[ a great quantity ( goods1 & give patt]ns ( !m1 ) ! c]ta9ty almo/ t all y d w avail no?+4 ,b x ought n to be =gott51 t l all o!r qualities1 polit5ess has its trials1 & t p]haps ! p]son :o has ?us *anc$ to call at _! %op1 w be induc$ by ?is am5ity ( behavior1 to cont9ue always a cu/om]4 ,we tru/ t ! %opkeep]s' cl]ks1 9 ! recomm5dations :i* we are n[ ab\t to give !m1 w n see any silly attempt to address !m ) sm>t say+s4 ,by enjo9+ ^u !m to avoid volubility--a disrespectful famili>ity t[>d ladies--extravagant praises ( _! goods--an affect$ zeal 9 s]v+ ri* p]sons--an impolite t>d9ess1 & disda9ful inatt5tion to p ( a diffid5t mann]--! ridicul\s habit ( wi%+ to make conv]sation--to urge p to buy :e!r !y wi% to or n--to /un !m ) ! names ( all ! goods 9 ! %op--by enjo9+ ^u !m to avoid ^! ?+s1 we int5d less to jo9 9 ?an to pres]ve !m f ! reproa*es ( fault f9d]s4 ,e civility ought to be reciprocal1 or ne>ly s4 ,if ! (fici\s polit5ess ( ! %opkeep] does n require an equal return1 he has at lea/ a claim to civil treatm5t2 &1 f9ally1 if ?is polit5ess proce$ f int]e/1 is ?is a reason :y pur*as]s %\ld add to ! unpleasantness ( 8 pr(ession1 & tr\ble !mselves little at violat+ ! laws ( polit5ess8 ,_m v respectable p all[ !mselves s _m infractions on ?is po9t1 t ,i ?9k x my duty to dwell ^u x4 ,y %\ld nev] say1 ,i want su* a ?+1 b1 h ! goodness to %[ me1 or %[ me1 if y please1 t article1 or use "s o!r polite =m ( address4 ,if !y d n %[ y at fir/ ! articles y desire1 & y are oblig$ to exam9e a great numb]1 apologize to ! %opkeep] = ! tr\ble y give him4 ,if1 aft] all y _c suit y\rself1 r5ew y\r apologies1 :5 y g away4 ,if y make small pur*ases1 say1 ,i ask y\r p>don1 or ,i am sorry = hav+ tr\bl$ y = s trifl+ a ?+4 ,if y sp5d a consid]able "t 9 ! selection ( articles1 apologize to ! %opkeep] :o waits = y to decide4 ,if ! price seems to y too high1 & t ! %op has n fix$ prices1 ask an abatem5t 9 brief & civil t]ms1 & )\t ev] appe>+ to suspect ! good fai? ( ! %opkeep]4 ,if he does n yield1 d n ent] into a conte/ ) him1 b g away1 aft] tell+ him politely t y ?9k y c obta9 ! article *eap] else:]e1 b if n1 t y w give him ! pref]5ce4 ,if ! cl]k ends by ask+ :e!r y wi% = any o!r article1 answ] always 9 a mann] to enc\rage him t y w call aga94 ,we %\ld nev] neglect to be agreeable4 ,?ank him always :5 y g out4 ,,section ,,ii4 ,polit5ess betwe5 ,p]sons 9 ,(fice & ! ,public4 ,?is is n v conspicu\s2 nor c x be1 s9ce 9 ?is case1 ! desire ( pleas+ & ! expectation ( ga91 h no influ5ce4 ,besides1 z we rema9 b a mom5t ) ^! g5tlem51 & z !y h bus9ess ) a great _m p1 ! obs]vances & =ms ( polit5ess w\ld be misplac$4 ,! foll[+ are po9ts to be obs]v$ by !m1 & are by no means rigid2 ! great] !re=e ! reason = con=m+ to !m4 ,a man 9 (fice is n oblig$ to rise & salute p1 nor to (f] !m a seat2 x is en\gh = him to receive !m by an incl9ation ( ! head1 & make a sign ) ! h&1 to intimate to !m to be seat$4 ,! bus9ess be+ f9i%$1 he salutes !m on leav+1 z be=e1 & nev] conducts !m back to ! door4 ,x w\ld be ridicul\s to be (f5d$ ) ^! bureaucratic =ms1 & /ill m s1 to wi% to ent] into conv]sation1 to make inquiries conc]n+ ! heal?1 c4 ,9 proportion to _! (ficial habits1 ^? 9 (fice ought to wat* !mselves ) c>e 9 society4 ,,section ,,iii4 ,polit5ess ( ,lawy]s & _! ,cli5ts4 ,polit5ess is a v difficult ?+ = ?is respectable class1 :o see con/antly be=e _! eyes p always animat$ ) a feel+ :i* r5d]s !m little amiable1 namely1 int]e/4 ,besides1 be+ 9 ! habit ( refut+ _! adv]s>ies1 & be+ oblig$ to d x promptly1 !y acquire1 9 g5]al1 a k9d ( bluntness1 a decisive tone1 a _s ( contradiction1 ( :i* !y ought to be di/ru/ful 9 society1 & also 9 _! places ( bus9ess4 ,! famili> usage ( common inquiries aft] ! heal? is n cu/om>y betwe5 attorneys or advocates & _! cli5ts1 unless !y h be=e be5 acqua9t$ ) !m4 ,!y are h[ev] b\nd to obs]ve att5tions :i* are n practis$ by p]sons 9 (fice4 ,!y rise to salute _! cli5ts1 (f] !m a seat1 & conduct !m to ! door :5 !y take leave2 !y obs]ve :at is due to sex1 rank1 & age4 ,z to cli5ts1 !y ought to con=m to ! ord9>y rules ( civility2 !y ought1 moreov]1 n to exhibit any signs ( impati5ce :ile !y are wait+ until !y c be receiv$4 ,!y %\ld take c>e to be cle> & precise 9 ! n>ration ( _! bus9ess1 & n to importune by va9 repetitions or passionate declamations1 ! c\nsellor :o is li/5+ to !m4 ,!y %\ld also consid] t 8 mom5ts are preci\s1 & %\ld retire s soon z !y %all h suffici5tly in/ruct$ him 9 _! bus9ess4 ,,section ,,iv4 ,polit5ess ( ,physicians & _! ,pati5ts4 ,! obs]vances adopt$ 9 ! (fices ( lawy]s1 are likewise practis$ ) consult+ physicians2 b sympa?y %\ld give to ! tone or mann] ( ! latt] a m affectionate "*4 ,pati5ts well educat$ w bew>e ( abus+ x1 & w keep to !mselves all compla9ts :i* are useless t[>ds a k ( _! malady4 ,!y w answ] ! que/ions ( ! doctor 9 a cle>1 brief1 & polite mann]2 & :5 ^! que/ions d n embrace ! obs]vations :i* !y may h made on _! own disord]1 !y w say s1 at ! same "t obs]v+ "s excuse l ! foll[+2 ,i ask y\r p>don2 ?is obs]vation is p]haps idle1 b be+ myself ignorant1 & wi%+ to omit no?+1 ,i submit x to y\r good judgm5t4 ,y ought to give frequ5t & he>tfelt ?anks to ! physician :o af=ds y 8 advice or att5tions4 ,! circum/ance ( 8 be+ unsuccessful does n exon]ate y f ^! te/imonies ( gratitude2 x r5d]s !m p]haps m obligatory1 = delicacy requires t y %\ld n appe> tacitly to reproa* him on acc\nt ( 8 hav+ be5 un=tunate 9 8 ef=ts4 ,be+ oblig$ to speak ( diff]5t wants1 & ( diff]5t p>ts ( ! body1 = :i* polit5ess has no appropriate language1 ! physician ought to avoid be+ obscure or gross1 p>ticul>ly :5 address+ ladies4 ,a =getfulness ( ^! =ms (t5 r5d]s insupportable ev5 a m]itori\s & le>n$ man4 ,e "o kn[s1 ) :at delicate precautions a physician ought to speak be=e ! pati5t & 8 family1 ( ! nature ( ! illness & ( ! probable consequ5ces :5 !re exi/s any dang]2 9 :at gu>d$ t]ms he %\ld at la/ disclose to !m a fatal t]m9ation1 if un=tunately x has become inevitable4 ,e body kn[s1 also1 t h[ev] poignant may be ! grief ( p>5ts1 !y ought nev] to let x appe> 9 _! conv]sations ) ! physician1 t !y reg>d him z ! cause ( _! affliction4 ,,section ,v4 ,polit5ess ( ,arti/s & ,au?ors1 & ! ,def]5ce due to !m4 ,d arti/s come "u ! common rule1 x w p]haps be said8 & ,i %all ask1 9 my turn3 ,d !y live l o!rs1--^! m51 always absorb$ 9 "o /rong & s+le conception1 ) :i* !y1 l ! ,creator1 wi% to animate matt]8--:o seek ev]y:]e ! secret ( ! beautiful :i* goads1 infatuates1 & evades !m8--passionate1 absorb$ 9 ?\ght1 +5u\s1 almo/ always /rang]s to calculation1 to pleasure1 & to ! occupations ( ! _w8 ,no1 !y h a sep>ate exi/5ce1 "o :i* ! _w does n compreh5d1 & :i* !y ought to conceal f ! _w4 ,if1 z we %all see h]eaft]1 "o %\ld avoid speak+ ( 8 pr(ession1 & ( 8 p]sonal affairs1 = a /ill /rong] reason1 an arti/ ought to be sil5t ab\t 8 own labors1 8 success1 & 8 hopes4 ,p w accuse him ( arrogance1 ( vanity1 & p]haps ev5 ( madness2 = en?usiasm is n includ$ 91 nor admitt$ into society1 because !re ! ridicul\s is fe>$ above ev]y?+1 & f ! sublime to ! ridicul\s !re is b "o /ep4 ,let him1 !n1 res]ve only = 8 fri5ds1 = true fri5ds ( ! arts1 8 noble & /rik+ bur/s ( inspiration4 ,p are also g5]ally prone to suspect arti/s ( jeal\sy4 ,9 ord] to escape ?is accusation1 & at ! same "t pres]ve ! "r ( tell+ _! ?\ghts1 !y ought to comm5d w>mly :at appe>s to !m good1 & criticise ) mu* mod]ation & )\t any raill]y :at is defective4 ,^! obs]vations are address$ equally to au?ors1 ) ?is important addition4 ,besides ! *>ge ( arrogance1 p are mu* dispos$ to accuse !m ( p$antry4 ,let !m !re=e be c>eful1 & *eck con/antly ! desire ( ent]+ into conv]sation ^u ! int]e/+ subjects ) :i* !y are cont9ually occupi$4 ,let !m always be 9 fe> ( obta9+ ! "n ( a bel esprit1 a "n :i* calls up s _m recollections ( p$antry & affectation4 ,a graceful simplicity1 a happy mixture ( elevation & navet1 %\ld *>act]ise au?ors & arti/s1 b p>ticul>ly female au?ors & arti/s4 ,ladies :o h&le ! p51 ! lyre1 or ! p5cil1 ought to be well p]suad$ t any ve/ige ( prejudice raises aga9/ !m1 especially 9 prov9cial places1 a multitude ( unfavorable obs]vations4 ,& besides1 s _m half-in/ruct$ wom5 h _h s mu* ! air & mann]s ( up/>ts1 t ?is op9ion is almo/ excusable4 ,n[ ?is prejudice lays x d[n z a rule1 t e female au?or or arti/ may be kn[n at fir/ sight1 by h] oddities1 h] want ( mode/y1 or h] p$antic folly4 ,d away ?is unju/ prejudice1 my female fri5ds3 x w be bo? easy & pleasant2 y w h only to foll[ ! influ5ce ( an elevat$ s\l1 a pure ta/e2 y w h b to rem9d y\rselves t simplicity is ! coquetry ( g5ius4 ,b if p :o cultivate lit]ature & ! arts ought to apply !mselves )\t reluctance or ill-humor to all ! requirem5ts ( society2 if !y ought to /rip !mselves ( all pret5sion1 & =get !mselves1 o!rs %\ld n =get !m4 ,polit5ess requires t we conv]se ) an au?or conc]n+ 8 works2 t we congratulate him on 8 success2 t we be/[ ^u him suitable & delicate praises4 ,if any ( 8 works are unkn[n to u1 we %\ld ask ( him ! loan ( x ) e>ne/ness2 we %\ld read x ) promptitude1 & prove to him by our citations t we h a ?or\gh acqua9tance ) x4 ,if he makes u a pres5t ( any ( 8 productions1 we %all owe him a call1 or at lea/ a billet ( ?anks4 ,h&some complim5ts1 & lively te/imonials ( ackn[l$gm5t1 ought to fill up ?is visit or billet4 ,rememb]1 also1 t to please an arti/1 x is necess>y to flatt] at once 8 ta/e1 8 self-e/eem1 & 8 cultivation ( ! f9e arts4 ,speak to him !re=e l a connoisseur1 or at lea/ an admir] ( music1 or ( pa9t+4 ,ask ! favor ( see+ 8 pictures1 or ( he>+ 8 symphonies4 ,contemplate ! =m] a long "t2 li/5 to ! latt] ) great att5tion2 address to him lively congratulations m+l$ ) ?anks2 !n1 by an adroit transition1 put to him que/ions :i* prove y\r desire to be initiat$ into a k ( ! arts4 ,:5 an arti/ or a writ] obta9s any honorable di/9ction1 z a prize1 a m$al1 dramatic success1 or an academical title1 8 fri5ds & acqua9tances %\ld lose no "t 9 (f]+ him _! complim5ts4 ,^? at a di/ance1 may p]=m ?is duty ( polit5ess by writ+4 ,n only au?ors by pr(ession1 b lit]>y p]sons :o publi% a disc\rse1 a little "w1 or a pamphlet1 %\ld s5d1 9 an envelope1 a copy to _! family1 fri5ds1 pr(essional bre?r51 au?ors :o h address$ to !m simil> pres5ts1 to _! intimate acqua9tances1 _! sup]iors1 & to ^? p]sons to :om !y owe respect--accord+ to ! nature ( ! "w1 & to ! p ) :om !y h relations ( pleasure1 or ( bus9ess4 ,x is an affectionate & v polite cu/om = ! au?or to write ) 8 own h& at ! top ( ! fir/ leaf or ( ! cov]1 "s k9d or respectful words1 accord+ to ! p]son to :om x is address$4 ,^! words1 :i* are design$ to make ( ! gift a remembrance or homage1 are always writt5 "u ! "n ( ! p]son1 & sign$ by ! au?or4 ,we w "h speak ( a d$ication only to obs]ve1 t we _c d$icate a "w to any "o1 )\t hav+ previ\sly obta9$ 8 cons5t1 ei!r v]bally or by writ+4 ,:5 x is to ! k+1 que51 or pr9ces1 x is necess>y to write to _! secret>y1 to "k _! wi% 9 ?is respect4 ,z to any o!r p]son ( dignity1 we may write to him )\t any int]m$iate ag5cy4 ,if ! memb]s ( ! royal family h accept$ ! d$ication1 ! au?or is g5]ally all[$ ! honor ( pres5t+ 8 "w to !m4 ,,section ,,vi4 ,polit5ess ( ,milit>y ,m54 ,milit>y polit5ess has1 z we "k1 "s p>ticul> *>act]i/ics4 ,(fic]s & soldi]s d n uncov] !mselves on ent]+ a *ur*1 if !y are "u arms2 only1 dur+ ! elevation ( ! ho/1#aj !y raise ! "r h& to ! front "p ( _! helmet1 cap1 or %ako4#aa ,:5 soldi]s conv]se ) _! sup]iors1 !y con/antly hold ! edge ( ! h& to _! =ehead4 ,on ent]+ a draw+ room1 an (fic] lays d[n 8 sabre or 8 sword4 ,x is n 9 good ton = a man to pres5t himself be=e ladies1 9 ! uni=m ( ! national gu>d1 unless "s circum/ance excuses or au?orises ?is lib]ty4 ,9 a citiz5's dress1 (fic]s may we> a black cravat4 ,if we are acqua9t$ ) milit>y m51 9 address+ !m1 we call !m only g5]al1 or capta92 b x w\ld be uncivil to give !m ! title ( an inf]ior grade ?us we %\ld n say lieut5ant4 #aj ,?is has ref]5ce1 ( c\rse1 to ,ca?olic c\ntries only4 #aa ,a k9d ( milit>y cap4 ,,section ,,vii4 ,polit5ess ( ,ecclesia/ics & ,females ( ,religi\s ,ord]s2 & ! ,def]5ce due to !m4#ab ,a prie/ %\ld be consid]$ 9 two po9ts ( view2 :5 he is ex]cis+ 8 holy (fice1 & :5 he is tak+ "p 9 ! relations ( society4 ,9 ! fir/ case1 he is an object ( special respect2 & ev5 ! title to be giv5 him1 ! words to be address$ to him1 ! attitude to be tak5 9 speak+ to him1 are regulat$ by ! liturgy4 ,b1 al?\gh ! ecclesia/ic be n n[ 9 society an object ( religi\s v5]ation1 he has1 z ! repres5tative ( ,god1 or z a m9i/] ( ! alt>1 a "r to mu* respect & def]5ce4 ,too light conv]sation1 danc+ & love songs1 w\ld be out ( place 9 8 pres5ce4 ,ecclesia/ics h two %oals to avoid4 ,_! cu/om ( prea*+ a sev]e & sacr$ morality1 & ( cate*is+ or c5sur+ ) au?ority ! p5it5t1 gives !m sometime a dogmatical & rigid tone1 a p$antry ( morality altoge!r contr>y to social affability4 ,sometimes1 also1 to gu>d aga9/ ?is result1 :i* !y feel to be almo/ inevitable1 ecclesia/ics1 especially ! m ag$1 indulge !mselves 9 unsuitable pleasantries1 :i* !y w\ld n d>e to all[ 9 m5 ( ! _w4 ,a mild gravity1 a mod]ate gaiety1 a noble & affectionate urbanity--^! are ! *>act]i/ics :i* ought to di/+ui% ! ecclesia/ic1 9 society4 #ab ,^! rem>ks h p>ticul> ref]5ce to ,ca?olic c\ntries & =ms1 b may _m ( !m be appli$ to o!r d5om9ations4 ,,"p ,,ii4 ,,( ,,propriety ,,( ,,deportm5t ,,9 ,,reg>d ,,to ,,our ,,social ,,relations4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,( ,deportm5t 9 ! ,/reet4 ,"s read]s w p]haps be surpris$ to see me comm5ce a *apt] ) ! duty we owe to p]sons pass+ ! /reet2 b if !y reflect ^u x1 !y w see t !re are1 ev5 on ?is subject1 a suffici5t numb] ( ?+s prop] to be m5tion$4 ,:5 y are pass+ 9 ! /reet1 & see com+ t[>ds y a p]son ( y\r acqua9tance1 :e!r a lady1 a man rais$ to dignity1 or an eld]ly p]son1 y %\ld (f] !m ! wall1 t is to say1 ! side next ! h\ses4 ,if a c>riage happ5 to /op 9 su* a mann] z to leave only a n>r[ passage betwe5 x & ! h\ses1 bew>e ( elb[+ & rudely cr[d+ ! pass5g]s1 ) a view to gett+ by m exp$iti\sly3 wait y\r turn1 & if any "o ( ! p]sons be=e m5tion$ comes up1 y %\ld edge up to ! wall1 9 ord] to give !m ! place4 ,!y also1 z !y pass1 ought to b[ politely to y4 ,if /ormy wea!r has made x necess>y to lay a plank across ! gutt]s1 :i* h become sudd5ly full ( wat]1 x is n prop] to cr[d be=e ano!r1 9 ord] to pass ov] ! frail bridge4 ,fur!r1--a "y man ( good bre$+ %\ld promptly (f] 8 h& to ladies1 ev5 if !y are n acqua9tances1 :5 !y pass su* a place4 ,y mu/ pay att5tion to y\r mann] ( walk+1 = fe> ( ?r[+ mud ar\nd y1 & spatt]+ y\rself z well z ^? :o accompany y1 or :o walk beh9d y4 ,any p]son1 p>ticul>ly a lady1 :o walks 9 ?is improp] mann]1 :atev] h] education may be 9 o!r respects1 w always appe> awkw>d & clumsy4 ,e "o kn[s t ! ,p>isian ladies are celebrat$ = _! skill 9 walk+3 we see !m 9 :ite /ock+s & ?9 %oes1 pass+ ?r\gh long1 dirty1 & block$ up /reets1 glid+ by c>eless p]sons1 & by vehicles cross+ ea* o!r 9 e direction1 & yet return home aft] a walk ( sev]al h\rs1 )\t soil+ _! clo!s 9 ! lea/4 ,to arrive at ?is a/oni%+ result1 :i* causes ! wond] & vexation ( prov9cial visitors on _! fir/ com+ to ,p>is1 we mu/ be c>eful to put ! foot on ! middle ( ! pav+ /ones1 & nev] on ! edges1 =1 9 t case1 "o inevitably slips into ! int]/ice betwe5 "o pavem5t & ano!r3 we mu/ beg9 by support+ ! toe1 be=e we d ! heel2 & ev5 :5 ! mud is q deep1 we mu/ put d[n ! heel b seldom4 ,:5 ! /reet becomes less muddy1 we c comp5sate ourselves = ?is fatigue1 :i*1 h[ev]1 9 ! end1 leaves u h>dly s5sible4 ,?is mann] ( walk+ is /rictly necess>y :5 y (f] y\r arm to any "o4 ,:5 tripp+ ov] ! pavem5t1 7z ! say+ is7 a lady %\ld gracefully raise h] dress a little above h] ancle4 ,) ! "r h& %e %\ld hold toge!r ! folds ( h] g[n1 & draw !m t[>ds ! "r side4 ,to raise ! dress on bo? sides1 & ) bo? h&s1 is vulg>4 ,?is ungraceful practice c be tol]at$ only = a mom5t1 :5 ! mud is v deep4 ,x is an important ?+ 9 ! /reets ( a l>ge city to edge "o's-self along2 t is to avoid jo/l+ & be+ jo/l$ by ^? :o are pass+4 ,a neglect ( ?is att5tion1 w make y appe> n only awkw>d & ridicul\s1 b y w receive or give dang]\s bl[s4 ,"o c edge along by turn+ sideways1 contract+ 8 arms1 & wat*+ ) 8 eye ! direction :i* x is be/ to take 9 ord] n to come 9 contact ) ! p]son :o meets him4 ,a little practice & c>e w soon make ?is duty famili>4 ,to make our way along1 becomes m difficult :5 we h a packet or an umbrella to c>ry1 especially if ! latt] is op54 ,x is !n necess>y to l[] or raise x1 or to turn x on "o side4 ,if y neglect ^! precautions1 y run ! risk ( /rik+ x aga9/ ^? :o are com+ & go+1 or ( see+ x twirl$ r\nd1 & ( be+ ?r[n aga9/ a c>riage1 or aga9/ "s "o :o w compla9 bitt]ly ( y\r incivility & awkw>dness4 ,if y h no umbrella1 & f9d y\rself ov]tak5 by a sudd5 %[]1 & any p]son provid$ ) "o is go+ 9 ! same direction1 y may reque/ !m to %elt] y2 !y %\ld receive y\r reque/ ) mu* polit5ess1 in=m !mselves ( ! place :]e y wi% to /op1 & (f] to conduct y !re1 unless x is too mu* out ( ! way1 or !y be press$ = bus9ess2 9 ?is case1 !y %\ld express _! regret at n be+ able to accompany y s f> z y wi%4 ,:at we are n[ ab\t to say1 proves t a p]son truly polite1 w n wait = y to make ?is reque/1 b w use e ex]tion to anticipate x3 we mu/ obs]ve h[ev]1 :e!r age1 sex1 or dress pres5t no objection2 = sometimes "o w\ld be treat$ ) ill-humor & contempt2 & if y are a lady1 p>ticul>ly arriv$ at a c]ta9 age1 x w\ld be extremely unpleasant to acco/ a p]son1 :o1 on 8 "p1 ought nev] to (f] ?is favor1 nor any o!r to ladies1 & ^: air & immode/ mann]s indicate at once 8 vulg>ity4 ,x w\ld be equally out ( place to address su* a reque/ to ^? ( a v l[ class2 b if su* an "o asks ! favor ( y1 x is prop] to receive x ) polit5ess4 ,ano!r n uncommon po9t ( propriety to be obs]v$1 consi/s 9 ask+ & po9t+ out ! diff]5t /reets4 ,if y h occasion = ?is s]vice1 y speak politely1 & say 9 a k9d tone1 ,madam1 or ,sir1 :]e is su* a /reet1 if y please8 ,y %\ld be c>eful to give ?is title to p]sons :om y address1 ev5 if !y %\ld be port]s or huck/]s4 ,x is p>ticul>ly to ^! t y %\ld h rec\rse1 = 9 address+ p]sons pass+ by1 y are liable to meet ^?1 :o1 z well z y\rself1 are /rang]s to ! neighborhood1 or to h9d] ^? :o are busy2 x is moreov]1 impolite1 to tr\ble %opkeep]s 9 _! places ( bus9ess4 ,! direction be+ giv5 u1 we %\ld ?ank !m1 at ! same "t b[+4 ,p>isians are ju/ly celebrat$ = ! polit5ess & complaisance ) :i* !y %[ ! way to pass5g]s1 & y ought to imitate !m1 e "t t occasion (f]s4 ,if y are a man1 & a lady or di/+ui%$ p]son asks ?is favor ( y1 y %\ld take (f y\r hat :ile answ]+ !m4 ,!re are "s ill-mann]$ & malici\s p]sons1 :o take pleasure 9 mislead+ /rang]s by wrong directions4 ,x w be en\gh to m5tion su* imp]t95ce 9 ord] to despise x z we ought4 ,z to ^? "y m5 :o ent]ta9 a false idea t ,p>isian ladies are coquettes or =w>d 9 _! mann]s1 & besides1 t ev]y?+ is all[able 9 a l>ge city1 let !m be assur$ t a man :o d>es 7z (t5 happ5s7 to address improp] complim5ts to ladies1 to foll[ !m1 to li/5 to _! conv]sation1 or to f9i% a s5t5ce :i* !y h begun1 is a model ( rud5ess1 an object ( av]sion to ladies1 & ( contempt to g5tlem54 ,a "y man ( good mann]s ought n to look at a lady too n>r[ly1 or he w pass = an imp]t95t fell[1 :o1 z ! say+ is1 />es p full 9 ! face1 7s\s le nez47 ,x is especially :5 !re are _m p]sons assembl$ 9 "o place t ^! boors play (f _! rude tricks2 to :i* !y give ! "n hoaxes = ! multitude1 at fir/ because !y are unp]ceiv$1 & aft]w>ds1 because ! lea/ bad among !m ?9k t ! cr[d are out ( ! jurisdiction ( propriety4 ,?is op9ion1 :i* obta9s among "s p]sons1 is an error4 ,polit5ess becomes /ill m indisp5sable1 9 proportion to ! assemblage4 ,:y are cr[ds usually s disagreeable1 & ev5 dang]\s8 ,x is because !y are compos$ ( p )\t education1 :o rudely pu% aga9/ _! neighbors1 ) _! fi/ or elb[1 :o neglect to foll[ ! movem5t ( go+ & com+2 :o1 on occasion ( ! slighte/ collision1 raise l\d compla9ts1 &1 by _! lam5tations1 _! cries1 & cont9ual trepidation1 r5d] insupportable a situation :i*1 )\t ?is1 w\ld be b tr\blesome en\gh4 ,:5 we meet1 9 ! /reet1 a p]son ( our acqua9tance1 we salute !m by b[+ & uncov]+ ourselves1 if !re is occasion4 ,sometimes x is n en\gh to give a simple salutation1 b we mu/ g to ! p]son & inquire h[ !y are1 if we see !m frequ5tly4 ,:ile we are speak+1 if !re is occasion1 & x be a lady1 or an ag$ & respectable man1 we rema9 uncov]$3 x is = ! latt]1 :o see h[ tr\blesome ?is polit5ess is 9 w9t]1 to insi/ t ! p]son address+ !m %\ld put on 8 hat4 ,x also belongs to ! p]son :o is ! m important ( ! two1 to take leave fir/4 ,= example1 9 a meet+ ( ?is k9d1 a g5tleman nev] leaves a lady until %e takes leave ( him2 nor is a "y lady all[$ to leave fir/ a m>ri$ or eld]ly lady4 ,dur+ ?is int]view1 :i* %\ld be v %ort1 ! speak] ( lea/ importance ought to take ! l[] "p ( ! side-walk1 9 ord] to keep ! p]son ) :om he is conv]s+1 f ! neighborhood ( ! c>riages4 ,x w\ld be supremely ridicul\s to ent] into a long conv]sation1 & ?us deta91 aga9/ _! w1 ! p]son acco/$4 ,if we h any?+ urg5t to say to !m1 we may ask p]mission to accompany !m4 ,we w add1 t at ,p>is1 a "y man ought to avoid approa*+1 & ev5 salut+ a "y lady ( 8 acqua9tance1 out ( reg>d to ! natural timidity ( h] sex4 ,if !re is a /rang] ) ! "o :om we meet1 we mu/ be cont5t$ ) salut+ ! latt] )\t /opp+1 o!rwise we put 8 companion 9 a disagreeable position4 ,?is civility becomes a rigor\s duty if !y are accompani$ by a lady4 ,anci5t gallantry requir$ t 9 ?is la/ case1 we n only %\ld n /op1 b /ill m1 t we %\ld n salute an acqua9tance1 or fri5d :o may pass2 ?is is 9 ord] n to =ce h] companion to salute an unkn[n p]son 7= "o %\ld b[ e "t t ! p]son b[s ) :om we are27 b ?is cu/om may be modifi$4 ,if x is a fri5d1 or "y man1 "o may be cont5t ) mak+ m]ely a motion2 b if x be an eld]ly man1 a di/+ui%$ "*1 or a lady1 x is necess>y to salute !m1 say+ to ! companion3 ,i take ! lib]ty to salute ,mr4 or ,madam ,n4 ,if a p]son ( y\r acqua9tance is at a w9d[1 & y are ?\ght to p]ceive !m1 y ought to address a salutation to !m4 ,b x is necess>y to avoid speak+ to !m f ! /reet1 or ( mak+ signs to !m1 = ?is is a cu/om ( bad ton4 ,to ent] into a long conv]sation ) common & l[ p1 :o make _! door-/ep _! p>lor1 is to be almo/ z ill br$ z !y !mselves are4 ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,( diff]5t ,k9ds ( ,visits4 ,visits are a v important "p ( ! social relations2 !y are n m]ely ! simple means ( communication e/abli%$ by necessity1 s9ce !y h at once = _! object1 duty & pleasure1 & !y ent] into almo/ all ! acts ( life4 ,!re are _m k9ds ( visits1 b we %all conf9e ourselves to ! pr9cipal ones2 z = ^? :i* only occur "u peculi> circum/ances1 ! read] w f9d !m m5tion$ 9 ! c\rse ( ?is "w4 ,! fir/ are ! visits on new ye>'s day2 next1 visits ( fri5d%ip & ( c]emony3 we %all n speak ( visits ( bus9ess2 :at we h said 9 speak+ ( propriety 9 relation to diff]5t pr(essions1 w disp5se ) our ent]+ into new details4 ,at ! return ( ea* new ye>1 cu/om & duty require u to pres5t ourselves to our relations fir/2 aft]w>ds to our patrons1 our fri5ds1 & ^? :o h done any k9dness = u4 ,^! visits are divid$ into sev]al classes2 ^? ( ! ev5+ or aft]noon1 :i* are ! mo/ polite2 ( ! morn+1 :i* are ! mo/ fri5dly & respectful2 by c>ds1 & pres5t+ "o's-self1 & by c>ds )\t pres5t+ "o's-self2 visits weekly1 :i* are conf9$ to acqua9tances ) :om we h n v close relations2 mon?ly1 :i* are less c]emoni\s1 b h[ev] p>take ( coldness3 x is at ,p>is m ?an any o!r place1 t ^! visits are p]mitt$2 su* calls dem& mu* att5tion to ! toilet2 !y %\ld be z %ort z possible2 a visit ( qu>t] ( an h\r is long en\gh1 & we %\ld be c>eful to retire :5 o!r p]sons come 94 ,we %\ld appe> ridicul\s to wi% p]sons a happy new ye>1 9 c]emoni\s visits4 ,i %all n m5tion fri5dly calls1 except to rem9d my read]s1 t almo/ all c]emony %\ld be disp5s$ )4 ,!y are made at all h\rs1 )\t prep>ation1 )\t dress+2 a too brilliant attire w\ld be out ( place1 & if ! engagem5ts ( ! day c>ry y 9 su* a co/ume at ! h\se ( a fri5d1 y ought oblig+ly to make an explanation4 ,%\ld y n f9d !m at home1 d n leave a c>d2 su* useless c]emony w\ld a/oni% y\r fri5ds4 ,m]ely rem9d ! dome/ics to m5tion y\r call+1 & d n leave y\r c>d1 except ! s]vants are abs5t2 !n ! c>d %\ld be roll$ up1 & put 9 ! key-hole4 ,x w be well to call aga9 soon4 ,) a fri5d1 or relation :om we treat z su*1 we d n keep an acc\nt ( our visits4 ,! "o :o has mo/ leisure1 calls ^u him :o has ! lea/2 b ?is privilege ought n to be abus$3 x is necess>y to make our visits ( fri5d%ip at suitable times4 ,on ! contr>y1 a visit ( c]emony %\ld nev] be made )\t keep+ an acc\nt ( x1 & we %\ld ev5 rememb] ! int]vals at :i* !y are return$2 = x is indisp5sably necess>y to let a simil> int]val elapse4 ,p 9 ?is way give y notice :e!r !y wi% to see y (t5 or seldom4 ,!re are "s p]sons :om "o goes to see once 9 a mon?1 o!rs once a =tnight1 c42 o!rs1 h[ev]1 less frequ5tly4 ,9 ord] n to omit visits1 :i* are to be made1 or to avoid mak+ !m f mis9=mation1 :5 a prec$+ "o has n be5 return$1 p]sons :o h an ext5sive acqua9tance1 w d well to keep a little memor&um = ?is purpose4 ,we _c make c]emoni\s visits 9 a becom+ mann]1 if we h any slight indisposition :i* may = ! "t affect our appe>ance1 our voice--:i* may emb>rass our ?\ghts1 & r5d] our company fatigu+2 su* = in/ance z a swell$ face1 a cold1 a slight heada*e2 9 t case x w\ld appe> impolite & famili>4 ,on ! contr>y1 make visits ( fri5d%ip "u su* circum/ances1 & !n y w appe> m amiable & zeal\s4 ,to take a suitable "t1 is z indisp5sable 9 visit+1 z 9 any ?+ else4 ,"o c atta9 ?is1 by rememb]+ ! habits ( ! p]son he is go+ to see2 by mak+ y\r arrangem5ts s z n to call at ! "t ( tak+ meals1 9 mom5ts ( occupation1 & :5 our fri5ds are walk+4 ,?is "t necess>ily v>ies2 b z a g5]al rule we mu/ take c>e n to make c]emoni\s visits1 ei!r be=e ! middle ( ! day1 or aft] five o'clock4 ,to d o!rwise w\ld1 on ! "o h&1 look l importunity1 by pres5t+ "o's-self too e>ly2 & on ! o!r1 might int]f]e ) arrangem5ts t _h be5 made = ! ev5+4 ,aft] mak+ "o's toilet ) c>e1 visit]s %\ld furni% !mselves ) c>ds1 t is ) small pieces ( c>d or pa/ebo>d1 ^u :i* _! "n is pr9t$ or well writt54 ,g5tlem5 ought simply to put _! c>ds 9 _! pocket1 b ladies may c>ry !m 9 a small elegant portfolio1 call$ a c>d case4 ,?is !y c hold 9 _! h&1 & x w contribute ess5tially 7) an elegant h&k]*ief ( embroid]$ battise17 to give !m an air ( good ta/e4 ,we %all "h make a digression 9 relation to c>ds4 ,x 0 n consid]$ impolite1 =m]ly1 to take ! c>ds ( a ca/ (f pack1 cut !m crosswise into ?ree p>ts1 & write "o's "n ^u !m2 ?is1 h[ev]1 is n[ a subject ( ridicule1 & is only se5 9 prov9cial t[ns1 :]e !y sometimes also sub/itute = ^! c>ds small pieces ( ?ick pap]4 ,next to ^! c>ds come ^? made ( ?9 pa/ebo>d1 smoo?1 gilt-edg$1 wat]$1 & int5d$ to h ! "n 9 writ+4 ,^! are suitable = "y g5tlem5 & "y ladies2 & !y answ] = half c]emoni\s visits4 ,aft] ^!1 come li?ographic c>ds1 !n pr9t$ ones1 & la/ ^? :i* are engrav$4 ,"s c>ds are figur$ 9 a ri* mann]1 pres5t+ e degree ( exp5sive elegance4 ,e "o w *oose ^! accord+ to 8 ta/e2 b x is well to obs]ve t c>ds ornam5t$ ) bord]s1 & ^? ( ! color ( ! rose1 & sky blue1 are n suitable = m51 nor = ladies ( mature ye>s1 because !y h an air ( ov]-nicety4 ,! title is usually plac$ "u ! "n1 &1 9 l>ge cities1 ! address1 at ! bottom ( ! c>d & 9 small] lett]s4 ,m\rn+ c>ds are surm\nt$ ) a black m>g91 half m\rn+ ones are ( a bright gray4 ,x is bad ton to keep ! c>ds y h receiv$ ar\nd ! frame ( a look+ glass2 su* an exposure %[s t y wi% to make a display ( ! names ( di/+ui%$ visit]s4 ,at ! beg9n+ ( a new ye>1 or :5 f "s cause or o!r :i* multiplies visit]s at y\r h\se1 7su* z a fun]al or a m>riage17 y are oblig$ to return ^! num]\s calls1 x is n amiss to pres]ve ! c>ds 9 a conv5i5t place1 & save y\rself ! tr\ble ( writ+ a li/2 b if1 dur+ ! ye>1 y\r glass is always se5 bri/l+ ) smoke-dri$ c>ds1 x w be attribut$ )\t d\bt1 to an ill-regulat$ self-e/eem4 ,b let u return to our visit]s4 ,if ! call is made 9 a c>riage1 ! s]vant w ask if ! lady y wi% to see is at home4 ,if p]sons call 9 a hir$ c>riage1 or on foot1 !y g !mselves to ask ! s]vants4 ,s]vants are consid]$ z soldi]s on duty2 if !y reply t ! p]son has gone out1 we %\ld by no means urge ! po9t1 ev5 if we 7 c]ta9 x 0 n ! case2 & if by *ance we %\ld see ! p]son1 we %\ld appe> n to h notic$ x1 b leave our c>d & retire4 ,:5 ! s]vant in=ms u t ! lady or g5tleman is unwell1 engag$ 9 bus9ess1 or d9+1 we mu/ act 9 a simil> mann]4 ,we %\ld leave z _m c>ds z !re are p]sons we wi% to see 9 ! h\se2 = example1 "o = ! husb&1 ano!r = 8 wife1 ano!r = ! aunt1 c4 ,:5 admitt$1 we %\ld lay aside our ov]-%oes1 umbrella1 cloak1 c4 9 ! ante-*amb]1 ev5 ladies %\ld lay aside _! cloaks 9 ! h\ses ( di/+ui%$ p]sons4 ,9 ! prov9cial t[ns !y commonly keep !m on4 ,we !n are ann\nc$ by ! s]vant1 if x is ! cu/om ( ! h\se1 or at lea/ we wait until 7)\t ann\nc+ u17 he op5s ! door ( ! ap>tm5t4 ,9 case ( ! abs5ce ( ! s]vants1 y ought n to ent] imm$iately1 b knock g5tly ) ! f+]1 & wait until "s "o op5s ! door or bids y come 94 ,if he does nei!r1 y op5 ! door sl[ly & s(tly3 %\ld y f9d no "o1 d n g ab\t & op5 o!r doors1 or pass into an inn] room1 b retrace y\r /eps imm$iately1 return to ! ante-room1 & rema9 until "s "o comes to give y an introduction4 ,if y are oblig$ to /ay v long1 y c leave y\r c>d on a piece ( furniture or ) ! port]4 ,?is is a case ( r>e occurr5ce2 b x is well to provide = x1 9 ord] n to be tak5 unaw>es4 ,:5 admitt$1 a g5tleman pres5ts himself ) 8 hat 9 8 h&1 & advanc+ t[>ds ! lady1 salutes h] gracefully & respectfully4 ,z soon z he obs]ves ! lady is look+ = a seat to (f] him1 he mu/ lose no "t 9 provid+ "o = himself 7commonly a *air7 ?is he places t[>ds ! door by :i* he ent]$1 & at "s di/ance f ! lady1 to :om he %\ld leave ! upp] "p ( ! room4 ,he ought by no means to sit1 except %e is seat$2 & hold+ 8 hat ^u 8 knee mu/ n balance himself or s9k d[n 9 8 *air1 b pres]ve an easy1 polite & becom+ attitude4 ,x w\ld be famili> & bad ton to put d[n ! hat or cane1 be=e ! g5tleman1 & p>ticul>ly ! lady ( ! h\se1 has invit$ y to d x4 ,ev5 !n x is prop] to refuse1 & n to d x until ask$ two or ?ree times4 ,9 putt+ d[n ! hat1 we %\ld n d x c>elessly1 nor ought we to place x on a c\*1 = ?is is impolite4 ,! c\*1 :i* 9 anci5t times 0 reg>d$ z a sanctu>y1 ought nei!r to be t\*$ nor approa*$ by a man4 ,x is be/ to put ! hat on a bracket or *&eli] /&1 c4 ,! lady ( a h\se does n attempt to take ! hats ( g5tlem51 except %e wi%es to treat !m ) famili>ity1 & ?is is seldom done 9 calls ( pure c]emony4 ,^! rem>ks w apply also to ladies4 ,)9 fifte5 ye>s pa/ x has be5 _! cu/om to lay aside _! hats & %awls2 b t supposes an intimacy1 :i* w\ld au?orize _! ab/a9+ f x at ! h\ses ( ^? ) :om !y are n mu* acqua9t$2 &1 if !y are invit$ to lay !m aside1 !y %\ld refuse4 ,! %ort "t devot$ to a c]emoni\s visit1 ! necessity ( consult+ a glass 9 replac+ ! head-dress1 & ( be+ assi/$ 9 putt+ on ! %awl1 prev5t ladies f accept+ ! invitation to lay !m aside4 ,if !y are slightly famili> ) ! p]son !y are visit+1 & wi% to be m at ease1 !y %\ld ask p]mission1 :i* we %\ld grant !m1 at ! same "t ris+ to assi/ !m 9 tak+ (f _! hat & %awl4 ,an arm-*air1 or a piece ( furniture at a di/ant "p ( ! room %\ld receive ^! articles2 !y %\ld n be plac$ ^u ! c\*1 )\t ! mi/ress ( ! h\se puts !m !re4 ,at ! h\se ( a p]son we visit habitually1 we c lay !m aside )\t say+ a ^w1 & a lady c ev5 adju/ h] hair & h&k]*ief1 7fi*]7 be=e ! glass1 provid$ %e occupies only a few mom5ts 9 do+ x4 ,if ! p]son y call ^u is prep>+ to g out1 or to sit d[n at table1 y ought1 al?\gh he asks y to rema91 to retire z soon z possible4 ,! p]son visit$ s unseasonably1 %\ld1 on h] "p1 be c>eful to conceal h] k t ! o!r wi%es ! visit end$ quickly4 ,we %\ld always appe> delight$ to receive a visit]1 & %\ld he make a %ort visit1 we mu/ express to him our regret4 ,c]emoni\s visits %\ld be %ort2 if ! conv]sation ceases )\t be+ aga9 cont9u$ by ! p]son y h come to see1 if %e gets up f h] seat "u any pretext :atev]1 cu/om requires y to make y\r salutation & )draw4 ,if1 be=e ?is tacit invitation to retire1 o!r visit]s are ann\nc$1 y %\ld adroitly leave !m )\t say+ any?+4 ,9 case ! ma/] ( ! h\se1 9 wait+ ^u y to ! door1 %\ld ask y to rema9 long]1 y %\ld briefly reply to him1 t an indisp5sable engagem5t calls y1 & y mu/ entreat him ) e>ne/ness n to deta9 y4 ,y %\ld t]m9ate y\r visit by briskly %utt+ ! door4 ,if1 on ent]+ ! room1 y f9d /rang]s engag$ 9 conv]sation1 cont5t y\rself ) ! few words :i* ! ma/] or mi/ress ( ! h\se %all address to y2 /op only a few mom5ts1 make a g5]al salutation1 & conduct y\rself z 9 ! prec$+ case4 ,:5 y h happ5$ to meet ! /rang]s else:]e1 !y may unite sometimes ) ! p]son y are visit+1 to prev5t y\r tak+ leave2 reply 9 a polite & flatt]+ mann]1 b /ill p]si/ 9 retir+4 ,if :ile y are pres5t1 a lett] is br\ght to ! p]son y are visit+1 & %e %\ld lay x d[n )\t op5+ x1 y mu/ entreat h] to read x2 %e w n d x1 & ?is circum/ance w w>n y to %ort5 y\r visit4 ,:5 y make a half c]emoni\s call1 & ! p]son y are visit+1 insi/s ^u y\r /opp+1 x is prop] to d s1 b aft] a few m9utes y %\ld rise to g3 if y are urg$ /ill fur!r1 & are tak5 by ! h&s & made to sit d[n z x 7 by =ce1 to leave imm$iately w\ld be impolite1 b nev]!less y mu/1 aft] a %ort int]val1 get up a ?ird "t1 & !n c]ta9ly retire4 ,if1 dur+ y\r call1 a memb] ( ! family ent]s ! room1 y ne$ n on ?is acc\nt take leave1 b cont5t y\rself by ris+1 & salut+ ! p]son4 ,if a lady1 y mu/ n seat y\rself until %e sits d[n2 if a g5tleman1 y c yield to ! invitation made y to take y\r seat1 :ile ! o!r rema9s /&+4 ,if y make a visit ) o!rs1 !re are "s po9ts to be obs]v$ 9 relation to y\r companions4 ,9 go+ up ! /aircase1 x is rigor\sly ! cu/om to give prec$5ce to ^? to :om y owe respect1 & to yield to su* p]sons ! mo/ conv5i5t "p ( ! /airs1 :i* is t next ! wall4 ,above all1 d n =get ?is la/ caution if y accompany a lady2 & a well-br$ g5tleman1 at su* a "t1 %\ld (f] 8 arm4 ,:5 !re are _m p]sons1 he %\ld be/[ ?is m>k ( respect on ! olde/4 ,if y meet any "o on ! /aircase1 place y\rself on ! side opposite to ! "o he occupies4 ,x w\ld be vexati\s & out ( place to make an ev]la/+ c]emony z to :o %\ld be ann\nc$ fir/2 ! pref]5ce mu/ be giv5 to ladies2 next to !m1 to age & rank4 ,! "t ( tak+ leave %\ld be also det]m9$ by ladies1 or by ag$ p]sons1 & ^? :o are ( consequ5ce4 ,x w\ld be impolite to wi% to retire be=e !y gave ! signal4 ,we %\ld add1 t x is unsuitable = m ?an ?ree or f\r to visit toge!r4 ,p]sons ( high ton are accompani$ ev5 to ! ante-room by "o or two s]vants1 :o receive !m aga9 :5 go+ out4 ,to c>ry *ildr5 or dogs ) "o on a visit ( c]emony1 is altoge!r vulg> & prov9cial4 ,ev5 9 half-c]emoni\s visits1 x is necess>y to leave "o's dog 9 ! ante-room1 z well z ! nurse :o holds ! infant1 = ?is circum/ance alone excuses su* a suite4 ,z to animals1 x is a ?\s& times bett] n to h !m at all4 ,we ju/ly reproa* inhabitants ( ! prov9ce = lavi%+ salutations 9 meet+ p1 or 9 tak+ leave ( !m4 ,?is cu/om1 :i* may make u contract a res]v$ness or too mu* famili>ity1 is extremely ridicul\s4 ,is x n difficult to keep "o's c\nt5ance1 :5 we see a visit] salute e article ( furniture1 to turn & turn aga9 tw5ty times z y conduct him1 & p\r =? at e pause a volley ( salutations & adieus8 ,our read]s w bew>e ( ?is ov] polit5ess2 !y w salute ! fir/ "t1 at ! mom5t !y take leave1 & aga91 :5 ! p]son :o conducts !m back %all h /opp$ at ! door4 ,we h be=e said t :5 we d n f9d p]sons at home1 or :5 we are afraid ( di/urb+ !m1 we leave a c>d2 b ?is is n :at we call p>ticul>ly visits by c>d 7visites p> c>tes74 ,9 ^! la/ visits1 x is n our object to see ! p]sons1 s9ce we d n ask = !m1 & we conf9e ourselves to giv+ our c>d to ! port] or dome/ic4 ,?is cu/om1 :i* has be5 introduc$ necess>ily among p]sons ( v g5]al acqua9tance1 & especially at times :5 e "o ought to be visit$1 z on ! new-ye>'s day1--?is cu/om s f> is n ridicul\s1 b x becomes s by ! great ext5t :i* has be5 giv5 to x = "s "t pa/4 ,?is ext5t consi/s 9 mak+ a visit )\t leav+ our ap>tm5t2 t is to say1 m]ely by s5d+ our c>d by a dome/ic1 or inde$ by means ( an ag5cy e/abli%$ = ?is purpose4 ,! practice ( visits by c>ds1 seems to p]sons ( good society ! mo/ imp]t95t & vulg> ?+ :i* c be imag9$4 ,d n !n p]mit x1 except :5 ! "q is ab\t return+ visits made 9 ?is way2 & d n use su* retaliations1 except to prev5t ^! ill-advis$ visit]s f ?9k+ t y put y\rself out to oblige !m4 ,9 works devot$ to ! in/ruction ( ! laws ( propriety1 we ?9k only ( =tune & afflu5ce2 we entirely =get p ( a m mode/ condition1 & :5 we f9d ourselves 9 connexion ) !m1 we cry out aga9/ _! impolit5ess4 ,x is an inju/ice1 & 9 my op9ion1 a false calculation4 ,an inju/ice1 because true polit5ess p]ta9s less to rank1 ?an to uprightness & goodness ( he>t2 a false calculation1 = to refuse to initiate p into :at r5d]s ! social relations easy & agreeable1 is to prep>e = ourselves collision & vexation1 & to ret>d z mu* z is 9 our p[]1 ! practice ( ! =ms ( civilization4 ,despis+ !n ?is fooli% disda91 we %all applaud ! great c>e ( p]sons n 9 afflu5ce1 :o1 hav+ nei!r port] nor dome/ic1 place at _! door a slate furni%$ ) a p5cil1 t 9 _! abs5ce visit]s may write _! names2 = ^! visit]s are seldom su* z c>ry c>ds4 ,we %all applaud ! b5evol5t c>e ( p]sons ^: /aircase is n light$1 or ^: ap>tm5t is 9 ! upp] /ories1 & :o leave ) ! port] a c&le :i* e "o :o arrives1 takes1 9 ord] to asc5d1 & returns x aga9 on desc5d+4 ,if any ( our ri* read]s %\ld be tempt$ to smile at ! ann\ncem5t ( ^! precautions ( ! m humble citiz5s1 we w\ld rem9d !m t !y are entirely /rang]s to ! _s ( polit5ess1 ( :i* ^! precautions are a /rik+ example4 ,?is digression naturally leads u to ! second "p ( our task relative to visits1 conc]n+ ! duties :i* polit5ess imposes z to receiv+ !m1 = x is n less important to receive p well1 ?an to pres5t ourselves well to !m4 ,be=e pass+ to ?is important subject1 x w\ld seem my duty to f9i% :at rema9s = me to say conc]n+ visits1 by ! m5tion ( visits ( audi5ce1 ( congratulation1 ( condol5ce1 & ( repa/2 b except ! fir/1 to :i* ,i am go+ to devote a few words1 details ( all ! o!rs w be f\nd 9 ! *apt]s devot$ to conv]sation1 to =malities ( repa/s1 ( m\rn+1 c4 ,we %\ld n m]ely call ^u m9i/]s1 heads ( ! public adm9i/ration1 & v di/+ui%$ p]sons2 we mu/ be=eh& reque/ ( !m by writ+ a place ( meet+ & mu/ specify ! object ( our visit4 ,we mu/ call ^u !m at ! appo9t$ h\r2 we mu/ ab/a9 f inquir+ aft] _! heal?1 & obs]ve /rictly ! obligations ( decorum4 ,^! visits1 :i* are ! acme ( c]emony1 ought necess>ily to be v %ort4 ,we %all see1 9 ! *apt] on ,epi/ol>y ,propriety1 :at titles are prop] to be giv5 to ^! important p]sonages4 ,x is well to be furni%$ ) a lett] ( admission1 t 9 case ( necessity we may %[ x to ! s]vant4 ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,( ! ,mann] ( ,receiv+ ,visitors4 ,to receive visitors ) ease & elegance1 & 9 su* a mann] t ev]y?+ 9 y1 & ab\t y1 %all p>take ( propriety & grace1 to endeavor t p may always be satisfi$ :5 !y leave y1 & desir\s to come aga91--su* are ! obligations ( ! ma/]1 & especially ( ! mi/ress ( a h\se4 ,ev]y?+ 9 ! h\se1 ought1 z f> z possible1 to (f] ,engli% com=t1 & ,fr5* grace4 ,p]fect ord]1 exquisite neatness & elegance :i* easily disp5ses ) be+ sumptu\s1 ought to m>k ! entrance ( ! h\se1 ! furniture & ! dress ( ! lady4 ,9 a h\se :]e afflu5ce ab\nds1 x is indisp5sable to h a draw+-room1 = x is tr\blesome & 9 bad ton to receive visits 9 a lodg+-room1 at "o's own dwell+4 ,?is may inde$ d = a m]e call2 b x becomes almo/ ridicul\s :51 aft] d9n]1 x is necess>y to pass into ?is room to take c(fee1 if y are receiv+ a small company1 c4 ,?is cu/om is n any long] adopt$1 except 9 ! prov9cial t[ns & among p]sons :o d n pride !mselves on _! good ton4 ,to receive company 9 a d9+-room1 is n all[$ except among ^? p]sons :o _c be> ! exp5se ( furni%+ a p>lor or draw+-room4 ,simplicity1 admitt$ into an ap>tm5t ( ?is k9d1 suit$ to ! smallness ( _! means1 we _c b approve1 :ile we regret nev]!less1 ! disagreeable ?+s to :i* su* a resid5ce subjects !m4 ,b we h1 9 ?is respect1 an express w>n+ to make to p :o give !mselves up to x unnecess>ily1 = x is altoge!r oppos$ to ! receiv$ usages ( good society to put y\rselves 9 a situation :i* y _c adorn1 :]e y _c place arm-*airs1 a *imney-piece1 a glass1 a clock1 & all ?+s useful to p]sons :o come to see y2 :]e y are expos$ to receiv+ tw5ty visits dur+ d9n]2 ( see+ z _m int]ruptions dur+ ! sett+ ( y\r table1 s9ce x is impossible to spread ! clo? :ile /rang]s rema92 f9ally1 ( mak+ !m witnesses ( y\r dome/ic c>es :ile remov+ ! rema9s ( a repa/1 ! table-clo?1 di%es1 c4 ,"y mo!rs ( families :o wi% to h ) !m _! *ildr51 7tr\blesome gue/s1 9 a draw+-room1 z e "o kn[s17 ?9k t !y may rema9 9 ! d9+-room1 & h /rang]s conduct$ into an adjac5t ap>tm5t4 ,t ?is may n be inconv5i5t1 x is necess>y to obs]ve ?ree ?+s2 fir/1 t /rang]s be admitt$ into ?is ap>tm5t be=e see+ ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 because !y w\ld n fail to create difficulties1 by say+ t !y did n wi% to di/urb h]2 second1 t ! ap>tm5t be con/antly w>m$ 9 w9t]2 ?ird1 t 9 summ] x %\ld be furni%$ precisely z an occupi$ *amb]1 = no?+ is worse ?an to conduct p into a room :i* seems to be to let4 ,unless f absolute inability1 y ought to light y\r /aircase4 ,if ! practices ( good dome/ic economy regulat$ by ! c>es ( civilization1 7 m g5]ally ext5d$1 a /aircase n light$ w\ld n (t5 be f\nd4 ,aft] hav+ ?us ca/ a rapid glance into ! int]ior ( ! h\se1 let u see 9 :at mann] x is necess>y to receive visitors4 ,:5 we see any "o ent]1 :e!r ann\nc$ or n1 we rise imm$iately1 advance t[>d !m1 reque/ !m to sit d[n1 avoid+ h[ev] ! old =m (1 ',take ! tr\ble to be seat$4' ,if x is a "y man1 we (f] him an arm-*air1 or a /uff$ "o2 if an eld]ly man1 we insi/ ^u 8 accept+ ! arm-*air2 if a lady1 we beg h] to be seat$ ^u ! ottoman4 ,if ! ma/] ( ! h\se receives ! visitors1 he w take a *air & place himself at a little di/ance f !m2 if1 on ! contr>y1 x is ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 & if %e is intimate ) ! lady :o visits h]1 %e w place h]self ne> h]4 ,if sev]al ladies come at a "t1 we give ?is la/ place to ! "o mo/ di/+ui%$ by rank4 ,9 w9t]1 ! mo/ honorable places are ^? at ! corn] ( ! fire-place2 9 proportion z !y place y 9 front ( ! fire1 y\r seat is consid]$ inf]ior 9 rank4 ,moreov]1 :5 x happ5s to be a respectable m>ri$ lady1 & "o to :om we wi% to d honor1 we take h] by ! h& & conduct h] to ! corn] ( ! fire-place4 ,if ?is place is occupi$ by a "y lady1 %e ought to rise & (f] h] seat to ! o!r lady1 tak+ = h]self a *air 9 ! middle ( ! circle4 ,a mi/ress ( a h\se ought to wat* anxi\sly t !y exp]i5ce no re/ra9t be=e h]2 consequ5tly1 %e w take c>e to pres5t scre5s to ! ladies seat$ 9 front ( ! fire2 %e w move "u _! feet tab\rets1 or :at is bett]1 pads1 7c\ss9s7 b nev] foot-/oves4 ,if %e is alone ) an intimate acqua9tance1 %e w reque/ h] to take h]s1 b %e w nev] ext5d ?is polit5ess to a g5tleman4 ,if a door or w9d[ happ5s to be op5 9 ! room 9 summ] "t1 we %\ld ask ( visitors1 if x incommodes !m4 ,if a lady :o receives a half c]emoni\s visit is sew+1 %e ought to leave (f imm$iately1 & n resume x except at ! reque/ ( ! visitor4 ,if !y are on q intimate t]ms1 %e ought h]self to reque/ p]mission to cont9ue4 ,if a p]son visits 9 an entirely c]emoni\s way1 x w\ld be v impolite to "w ev5 an in/ant4 ,moreov]1 ev5 ) fri5ds1 we %\ld h>dly be occupi$ ) our "w1 b %\ld seem to =get x on _! acc\nt4 ,9 proportion z ! visitor is a /rang]1 ! ma/] or mi/ress ( ! h\se rises1 & any p]sons :o may be already !re are oblig$ to d ! same4 ,"s ( !m !n )draw2 9 ?is case1 if ! ma/] & ! mi/ress ( ! h\se h ) !m any p]sons ( _! family1 aft] hav+ conduct$ z f> z ! door ^? :o are go+1 !y reque/ "o ( _! relations to take _! place4 ,if ! case be o!rwise1 x is necess>y to *oose betwe5 ! p]sons :o rema9 & ^? :o retire4 ,if ! latt] are sup]ior 9 rank1 age or consid]ation1 we mu/ give !m ! pref]5ce1 & vice v]sa4 ,b h[ev] respectable ! p]son be :o dep>ts1 we may disp5se ) conduct+ !m f>!r ?an ! door ( ! room4 ,! mann] 9 :i* we %\ld usually re-conduct visitors is regulat$ 9 an inv>iable mann]4 ,if x is a lady :o is to be accompani$1 ! ma/] ( ! h\se takes h] h&1 passes x "u 8 arm1 & ?us leads h] z f> z ! bottom ( ! /aircase1 unless ! /eps be s n>r[ t two _c g abrea/4 ,x is no long] ! cu/om to give ! h& to ladies1 b to (f] !m ! arm4 ,?is new cu/om does n at all *ange ! anci5t rule ( propriety :i* requires t 9 desc5d+ a /aircase1 we %\ld give ! side next ! wall to ! lady :om we accompany2 we commonly pres5t to h] ! "r arm1 provid$ h[ev]1 t necessity does n oblige u1 9 ord] to avoid plac+ h] next ! balu/rade1 to (f] ! left4 ,if %e is to return 9 a c>riage1 we %\ld politely h& h] into x4 ,9 ! prov9cial t[ns1 !y conduct all or almo/ all visitors1 z f> z ! /reet door1 unless !y are g5tlem5 & h visit$ a lady4 ,%e ought !n to accompany !m1 z is always done 9 ,p>is1 t is to say1 z f> z ! door ( ! room1 or ! head ( ! /airs4 ,p>isians add to ?is cu/om an agreeable civility2 !y hold ! door op51 & /&+ ^u ! ?re%old or edge ( ! /aircase1 foll[ ) _! eyes ! visitor until he turns r\nd to make ! la/ salutation or adieu1 or to reque/ ! ho/ to return4 ,we no long] practice t frank & op5 hospitality ( ! prov9ces1 by virtue ( :i*1 9 ! middle ( w9t]1 we reque/ p to refre% !mselves ) "s solid eatables4 ,su* a proposal w\ld n[ excite a smile4 ,we d n make any su* (f] to visitors1 b "u ^! circum/ances4 ,fir/1 dur+ v hot wea!r1 we invite !m to take a glass ( syrup1 or ( ic$ wat]4 ,second1 if any "o is read+1 we (f] him eau sucre1 t is1 ! little h\sehold article to :i* we h giv5 t "n4 ,?ird1 we (f] orange fl[] wat] to a lady :o happ5s to be sudd5ly indispos$4 ,except+ ^! cases1 we make no (f] ( ?is k9d4 ,if any "o wi%es to refre% himself1 he reque/s ! mi/ress ( ! h\se to all[ him to r+ ! bell4 ,aft] ass5t is giv51 he asks ( ! dome/ic :o comes1 :atev] he desires4 ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,( ! ,c>riage ( ! ,body4 ,! c>riage ( ! body seems s simple1 s common1 & s easy a ?+1 t und\bt$ly on see+ ?is title1 _m read]s w ?9k ,i design to s5d !m back to pu]ile & pla9 civility4 ,b if !y w take ! pa9s to reflect ^u ! numb]less violations ( propriety 9 ! c>riage ( ! body1 ( :i* !y are daily witnesses2 if !y w call to ! m9d ! _m /range motions1 ridicul\s ge/ures1 pret5d+ attitudes1 affect$ looks1 & cl[ni% movem5ts2 if !y w recollect t ! c>riage ( ! body ought to be 9 p]fect h>mony ) ! situation1 age1 m9d & sex1 & a di/+ui%+ trait ( ! physiognomy2 if !y w consid] ! unfavorable prejudices to :i* a disda9ful1 immode/1 or vulg> deportm5t give rise1 !y w und]/& my anxiety 9 ?is respect4 ,x is )\t d\bt impossible to notice all faults 9 ! c>riage ( ! body4 ,?is volume w\ld n be suffici5t = x2 we mu/ be satisfi$ !re=e ) designat+ ! pr9cipal ones4 ,to look /eadily at any "o1 especially if y are a lady & are speak+ to a g5tleman2 to turn ! head frequ5tly on "o side & ! o!r dur+ conv]sation2 to balance y\rself ^u y\r *air2 to b5d =w>d2 to /rike y\r h&s ^u y\r knees2 to hold "o ( y\r knees betwe5 y\r h&s lock$ toge!r2 to cross y\r legs2 to ext5d y\r feet on ! &irons2 to admire y\rself ) complac5cy 9 a glass2 to adju/ 9 an affect$ mann] y\r cravat1 hair1 dress1 h&k]*ief2 to rema9 )\t gloves2 to fold c>efully y\r %awl1 in/ead ( ?r[+ x ) graceful neglig5ce ^u a table1 c42 to fret ab\t a hat :i* y h j left (f2 to laugh immod]ately2 to place y\r h& ^u ! p]son ) :om y are conv]s+2 to take him by ! buttons1 ! coll> ( 8 coat1 ! cuffs1 ! wai/1 c42 to seize ladies by ! wai/1 or to t\* _! p]son2 to roll ! eyes1 or to raise !m ) affectation2 to take snuff f ! box ( y\r neighbor1 or to (f] x to /rang]s1 especially to ladies2 to play cont9ually ) ! seals ( y\r wat*1 a *a91 or a fan2 to beat "t ) ! feet & h&s2 to :irl r\nd a *air on "o leg2 to %ake ) y\r feet ! *air ( y\r neighbor2 to /roke y\r face2 rub y\r h&s cont9ually2 w9k y\r eyes2 %rug up y\r %\ld]s2 /amp ) y\r feet1 c42--all ^! bad habits1 ( :i* we ought nev] to speak to p1 among ^? :o are witnesses ( !m1 & are 9 ! highe/ degree displeas+4 ,! c>riage ( ! body is z expressive z ! tone ( voice1 & p]haps m s1 because x is m con/ant2 x betrays to ! obs]v] all ! %ades ( "*1 & we ought to be v c>eful ( ?us mak+ a g5]al confession1 by affect$ mann]s1 a pret5d+ deportm5t1 sne]+ ways1 r\gh movem5ts1 a h>d c\nt5ance1 imp]t95t signs & looks1 simp]+ smiles1 cl[ni% ge/ures1 a non*alant & effem9ate po/ure1 or a c>riage ( ! body di/+ui%$ by prud]y & /iffness4 ,"y ladies1 & v "y m5 little habituat$ to ! _w1 ought to be on _! gu>d aga9/ excessive timidity1 = x n only p>alyzes _! p[]s1 r5d]s !m awkw>d1 & gives !m an almo/ silly air1 b x may ev5 cause !m to be accus$ ( pride1 among p :o d n "k t emb>rassm5t frequ5tly takes ! =m ( sup]cili\sness4 ,h[ (t5 does x happ5 t timid p]sons d n salute y at all1 answ] 9 a l[ voice1 or v ill1 omit a ?\s& little duties ( society1 & fail 9 a numb]less agreeable att5tions1 = want ( c\rage8 ,^! att5tions1 & ^! duties1 !y dis*>ge 9 petto1 b :o w ?ank !m = x8 ,a prop] degree ( confid5ce1 b n deg5]at+ into assurance1 /ill less into boldness or famili>ity1 is !n "o ( ! mo/ desirable qualities 9 ! _w4 ,to obta9 :i*1 we mo/ obs]ve ! ton1 & ! mann]s ( polite & b5evol5t p1 take !m = our guides1 &1 "u _! direction1 make cont9ual ef=ts to conqu] our timidity4 ,propriety 9 ! c>riage ( ! body is especially indisp5sable to ladies4 ,x is by ?is t1 9 a walk1 a ball1 or any assembly1 p :o _c conv]se ) !m1 judge ( _! m]it & _! good education4 ,h[ _m danc]s move (f1 & h[ _m p]sons sigh ) pity1 at ! sight ( a beautiful woman :o has a m9c+ way1 affects grace1 incl9es h] head affect$ly1 & :o seems to admire h]self incessantly1 & to invite o!rs to admire h] also4 ,:o ev] makes up 8 m9d to ent] into conv]sation ) an immovable lady1 & "o :o is =mal & precise1 l5g!n+ out ! body1 press+ ! lips1 & c>ry+ back ! elb[s z if !y 7 fa/5$ to h] side8 ,! gait ( a lady ought nei!r to be too quick nor too sl[2 ! mo/ easy & mo/ conv5i5t /ep is t :i* fatigues ! lea/ & pleases mo/4 ,! body & ! head %\ld be erect )\t affectation & )\t haught9ess2 ! movem5ts1 especially ^? ( ! arms1 easy & natural4 ,! c\nt5ance %\ld be pleasant & mode/4 ,x is n 9 good ton = a lady to speak too quick or too l\d4 ,:5 seat$1 %e ought nei!r to cross h] legs1 nor take a vulg> attitude4 ,%e %\ld occupy h] *air entirely1 & appe> nei!r too re/less1 nor too immovable4 ,x is altoge!r out ( place = h] to ?r[ h] drap]y ar\nd h] 9 sitt+ d[n1 or to spread out h] dress = display1 z up/>ts d 9 ord] to avoid ! lea/ rumple4 ,b :at is especially insupportable 9 ?is sex is1 an inquiet1 bold1 & imp]i\s air2 = x is unnatural1 & n all[able 9 any case4 ,if a lady has c>es1 let h] conceal !m f ! _w1 or n g into x4 ,:atev] be h] m]it1 let h] n =get t %e may be a man by ! sup]iority ( h] m9d & decision ( "*1 b t ext]nally %e ought to be a woman6 ,%e ought to pres5t h]self z a be+ made to please1 to love1 & to seek a support2 a be+ inf]ior to man1 & ne> to angels4 ,an affectionate1 comply+1 & almo/ timid aspect1 a t5d] solicitude = ^? :o are ab\t h]1 %\ld be %[n 9 h] :ole p]son4 ,h] face %\ld brea! hope1 g5tl5ess & satisfaction2 dejection1 anxiety1 & ill-humor %\ld be con/antly bani%$4 ,be=e leav+ a subject s fruitful1 ,i %all po9t out to my read]s two examples ( a bad position4 ,! "o is a fa%ionable ) 8 head /iff1 a borr[$ air1 8 leg /ra9$ out1 trembl+ le/ he %\ld dis>range ! symmetry ( 8 cravat1 & le/ he %\ld puck] 8 pantaloons1 8 sleeve or ! coll> ( 8 coat4 ,! o!r is an awkw>d p]son1 ) 8 feet drawn toge!r & plac$ ^u ! r\nd ( ! *air1 8 h&s spread out ^u 8 knees1 8 %\ld]s sunk1 & 8 m\? half op54 ,betwe5 ^! two c>icatures !re are _m degrees :i* are ridicul\s1 b :i* we leave to ! sagacity ( our read]s to appreciate4 ,we come n[ to our in/ructions 9 respect to conv]sation4 ,!y are s important1 t we ?9k x our duty to divide !m into two p>ts1 namely2 physical proprieties1 & moral proprieties4 ,,*apt] ,v4 ,( ,physical ,proprieties 9 ,conv]sation4 ,?is fir/ division w compreh5d ! physical c>e ( ! organs we use 9 conv]sation1 our movem5ts1 ! mann] ( li/5+1 pronunciation1 & purity ( spee* 9 a grammatical view4 ,,section ,i4 ,physical ,obs]vances 9 ,conv]sation4 ,conv]sation is ! pr9cipal1 n to say ! only means ( pleas+1 & mak+ our way 9 ! _w4 ,h[ does x happ5 !n1 t s _m p]sons conv]se1 )\t be+ tr\bl$ at ! ridicule ?r[n ^u !mselves1 & ! ennui !y occasion _! he>]s2 )\t go+ into ! inquiry1 :e!r !y h n "s physical qualities :i* pres5t m or less ob/acles to ! art ( conv]s+ well1 or )\t ?9k+ ( ! means ( correct+ !m6 ,we %all po9t out "s faults & ! means ( rem$y+ !m4 ,x is ess5tial 9 speak+1 to be well on our gu>d n to protrude ! tongue too ne> ! edge ( ! lips4 ,?is bad habit has _m great inconv5i5ces3 x occasions a k9d ( disagreeable hiss+1 produc$ by ! imm$iate contact ( ?is organ z x passes ! tee?2 & exposes u to ?r[ out saliva4#ac ,:5 an un=tunate habit or too great a developm5t ( ! tongue produces ^! accid5ts1 we %\ld take c>e to keep ?is unlucky organ out ( ! way on "o side ( ! gums or ! o!r4 ,z to ! fault :i* is opposite to ?is1 t is1 /amm]+1 by reason ( too small size ( ! tongue1 we %\ld practice :5 we are alone speak+ di/9ctly4 ,to declaim & to ex]cise ourselves ^u ! words :i* pres5t ! greate/ difficulties1 is a useful ex]cise4 ,!re are "s p]sons 9 :om ! saliva is s abundant1 t x makes _! pronunciation ?ick2 su* p]sons %\ld accu/om !mselves to swall[ x be=e beg9n+ to speak4 ,polit5ess 9 accordance ) heal?1 requires t our tee? %\ld be p]fectly clean4 ,a yell[ & f\l set ( tee?1 :i* emit an odor1 w n suff] any "o to be s5sible to our grace or ! eloqu5ce ( our language4 ,feel+s ( disgu/ are )\t appeal4 ,"s p]sons :o h f9e tee?1 h ! lam5table fault ( %[+ !m 9 speak+2 ?is ridicul\s vanity excites laught]1 & besides1 injures ! physiognomy3 x is n necess>y to conceal ! tee? to ! utmo/1 b always )\t affectation4 ,to use a too?-pick :ile speak+1 to c>ry ! f+]s to ! gums1 to hold a fl[] betwe5 ! tee?1 are habits ( bad ton4 ,to op5 ! m\? widely :5 "o speaks1 especially :5 mak+ an exclamation ( wond] or surprise2 to draw ! m\? on "o side to give ourselves ! air ( an orig9al2 to contract x1 9 ord] to make x small2 to laugh viol5tly 9 an unmean+ & boi/]\s mann]2 to imp>t to ! lips1 trembl+ & convulsive motions :5 any "o relates or reads some?+ sad or t]rible2 to =ce our brea? into ! face ( ! p]son we are conv]s+ )--all ^! are %ock+ faults1 & insupportable grimaces4 #ac ,:5 ?is accid5t happ5s to any "o1 y mu/ appe> n to p]ceive x4 ,,section ,,ii4 ,( ,ge/ures4 ,to act a pantom9e ) e ^w1 _c be tol]at$2 ext5d$ or num]\s ge/ures1 :i* d n accord ) ! conv]sation2 my/]i\s signs accompany+ ! ann\ncem5t ( ! mo/ simple ?+2 abrupt ge/ures1 9 fri5dly conv]sation2 m9c+ ge/ures1 9 s]i\s conv]sation2 rapid movem5ts ( ! p]son1 sitt+ or /&+1 & :o seems to be p]=m+ a sort ( a dance--all ^! are equally great faults aga9/ propriety & good ta/e4 ,we %\ld n absolutely condemn ge/ures1 :i*1 accord+ to ! ,abb ,delille1 give physiognomy to our conv]sation4 ,mod]ate action correspond+ to our words1 & by turns a little comic1 lively1 & graceful1 are all[able1 & ev5 indisp5sable4 ,! left h& mu/ n move1 b a significant & exact co-op]ation ( ! "r h&1 %\ld nev] be want+ 9 conv]sation3 b ,i mu/ c5sure dialogi/s1 :o put _! h& into _! pockets or "w-bags1 :o always re/ !m jo9$ or cross$1 )\t mak+ any ge/ure4 ,su* p]sons give !mselves ! air ( automatons1 :ile1 on ! o!r h&1 excessive ge/iculators1 h ! appe>ance ( madm54 ,^? p]sons :o 9 conv]s+1 viol5tly seize hold ( ! arm ( _! *air2 play ) little objects :i* come "u _! h&s2 :o amuse !mselves by scrat*+ or defac+ furniture1 turn+ _! hat backw>ds & =w>ds1 twi/+ & untwi/+ ! /r+s ( _! bag1 or ! ends ( _! cravat1 are1 )\t d\bt1 ignorant h[ mu* oppos$ to polit5ess1 are ^! degrees ( famili>ity1 *ildi%ness & emb>rassm5t4 ,i w briefly add1 t ^? :o are witnesses ( all ^! ridicul\s actions1 ought nev] to notice !m1 unless !y wi% to be /ill m ridicul\s !mselves4 ,,section ,,iii4 ,( ! ,tal5t ( ,li/5+ to ,o!rs4 ,to conv]se1 is n to talk cont9ually1 z prattl]s suppose2 x is to li/5 & speak 9 our turn2 we mu/ n acquit ourselves ! less well 9 ! "o ?an 9 ! o!r4 ,to d ?is1 we %\ld att5d half ( ! "t to ! p]son :o is address+ u1 7on ?is acc\nt x is impolite to d any "w :ile talk+27 if !y hesitate or are emb>rass$1 y %\ld appe> n to notice x1 & 9 case y are a little acqua9t$1 aft] a few mom5ts1 y %\ld1 9 a v mode/ mann]1 supply ! ^w :i* seems to h escap$ !m4 ,if !y are int]rupt$ by any incid5t1 :5 ! cause ( ! int]ruption %all h ceas$1 y w n wait until !y resume ! conv]sation1 b ) a smile ( b5evol5ce1 & an engag+ ge/ure1 reque/ !m to proce$2 please to cont9ue2 y 7 j say+8--,if we are oblig$ 9 ?is mann]1 to palliate any su* int]ruption1 mu* m1 ought we nev] to all[ ourselves to be ! cause ( x4 ,?is is s rigor\s a rule1 t if1 9 ! w>m? ( conv]sation1 two p]sons comm5ce speak+ at once1 bo? ought to /op imm$iately1 :5 !y p]ceive x1 & ea*1 :ile excus+ !mselves1 to decl9e proce$+4 ,x is prop] = ! "o wor?y ( ! mo/ respect to resume ! conv]sation4 ,if a p]son %all relate any?+ to y1 :o1 )\t hav+ any pleasantry1 makes attempts at x2 & )\t be+ affect+1 endeavors to move y1 h[ev] we>i$ y may be1 appe> pleas$ & assume an air ( int]e/4 ,if ! n>rator w&]s into long digressions1 h pati5ce to let him extricate himself alone f ! labyr9? ( 8 /ory4 ,if ! hi/ory is int]m9able1 be resign$1 & d n appe> less att5tive4 ,?is condesc5sion is especially to be obs]v$1 if y are li/5+ to an eld]ly or respectable p]son4 ,if ! m]ciless /ory-tell] is y\r equal or fri5d1 y may say to him1 9 ord] to induce him to f9i% 8 n>ration1 & f9ally-- ,novices 9 ! cu/oms ( ! _w1 ?9k !y c abruptly int]rupt a conv]sation :i* is begun1 by ask+ to h "s incid5ts1 :i* !y h n und]/ood1 expla9$1 or by mak+ ! p]son :o is tell+ ! /ory repeat ! names2 ?is %\ld n be done until aft] "s consid]ation1 & 9 ! mo/ polite mann]4 ,if ! n>rator pron\nces badly2 if y see t o!r he>]s are 9 ! same situation z y\rself2 if y =esee t = want ( hav+ foll[$ him 9 8 n>ration1 y w n be able to reply ) polit5ess1 y c 9 ?is case1 int]rupt2 b 9 "s su* mann] z ?is2 ,i ask y\r p>don1 ,sir1 ,i fe> ,i h lo/ "s "p ( y\r int]e/+ conv]sation1 w y be k9d en\gh to repeat x1 c4 ,x is necess>y also1 to *oose a favorable mom5t1 z = in/ance1 :5 ! n>rator pauses1 hesitates = a ^w1 or /ops to take 8 h&k]*ief4 ,:5 a p]son relates to y a pla9 falsehood1 ! art ( li/5+ becomes emb>rass+1 = if y seem to believe x1 y w\ld pass = a fool1 & if y appe> to d\bt x1 y w pass = an uncivil p]son4 ,an air ( coldness1 a slight att5tion1 an expression l ! foll[+1 ,t is a/oni%+1 w extricate y honorably f y\r emb>rassm5t2 b :5 an ev5t is n>rat$ :i* is only extraord9>y1 or n improbable1 y\r mann] %\ld be o!rwise4 ,y\r c\nt5ance %\ld express a/oni%m5t1 & y %\ld reply by a phrase ( ?is k9d2 ,if ,i did n "k y\r /rict reg>d = ! tru?1 or if any p]son b y _h told me ?is1 ,i %\ld h h>dly believ$ x4 ,"u no circum/ances %\ld y int]rupt him4 ,x happ5s sometimes t y =esee "s incid5t 9 an int]e/+ /ory2 & ! pleasure t y f9d 9 ?is2 ! desire ( %[+ t y h guess$ correctly1 & ! int5tion ( prov+ h[ mu* y are int]e/$1 induce y to int]rupt sudd5ly 9 ?is mann]1 ,i see x1 x is s1 exactly4 ,an int]ruption ( ?is k9d1 al?\gh well meant & natural1 w (f5d old p]sons1 :o l to tell a /ory at full l5g?1 & w conf\nd =mal n>rators1 :o w be 9 despair t a phrase is tak5 f !m :i* !y _h int5d$ = effect2 ^! int]ruptions are only all[able among our intimate fri5ds1 or inf]iors1 = o!rwise y w h an ill-humor$ answ] to y\r ,i see x1 c4 z ) a triumphant air1 egad1 b y c't see x1 c4 :i* is always emb>rass+4 ,! wor/ k9d ( int]ruption ( all o!rs1 is t :i* hauteur dictates4 ,a clev] p]son seiz+ hold ( a /ory :i* ano!r is tell+1 & ) ! int5tion ( mak+ x m lively1 becomes1 not)/&+ 8 eloqu5ce1 a model ( imp]t95ce & vulg>ity4 ,x is1 d\btless1 h>d to see a fool spoil a good anecdote1 ( :i* he might h made some?+ int]e/+2 b if we %\ld n be re/ra9$ by polit5ess f express+ our feel+s1 we ought to be by int]e/4 ,n[ he>]s ( delicacy w rema9 sil5t to ! conclusion ( ! recital1 & w address !mselves ) good feel+s to ! poor n>rator :o is injur$ 9 8 rights4 ,int]ruption is p>donable if x is made to prove or cle> up a fact 9 favor ( a p]son :o is abs5t4 ,:5 !y accuse y1 y c1 accord+ to /rict rules1 int]rupt by an exclamation1 b x is bett] to d x by a ge/ure4 ,!re is (t5 mu* art & grace 9 li/5+1 :ile y ge/iculate g5tly2 = example1 by c\nt+ ^u ! f+]s2 by mak+ a ge/ure ( surprise2 by a motion ( ass5t1 or an exclamation4 ,?is is a tacit mann] ( say+1 ah1 ,i recollect1 y are "r1 & *>ms ! n>rator )\t int]rupt+ him4 ,9 a lively1 animat$ & fri5dly dialogue1 we c int]rupt ea* o!r by turns1 9 ord] to f9i% a s5t5ce :i* is begun1 or to improve an epi!t2 ?is contributes to vivacity 9 disc\rse1 b x ought n1 h[ev]1 to be too (t5 repeat$4 ,!re are _m %oals to be avoid$ 9 li/5+1 & :i* always betray inexp]i5ce 9 society4 ,to say f "t to "t to ! n>rator1 ,yes1 yes1 by nodd+ ! head1 mak+ motions ) ! h&1 a cu/om ( old p]sons1 & :i* is a good repres5tation ( a p5dulum2 to keep ! eyes fix$ & ! m\? gap+ op52 to h an air ( an abs5t p]son or ( "o 9 a rev]ie2 to po9t ! f+] at p]sons designat$ by ! n>rator2 to gape )\t conceal+ by ! h& or ! h&k]*ief1 :i* is by no means flatt]+ to ! speak]2 to ca/ y\r eye frequ5tly t[>ds ! clock--all ^! habits are (f5ces aga9/ good ton4 ,,section ,,iv4 ,( ,pronunciation4 ,pronunciation is /ill m indisp5sable 9 conv]sation ?an elocution2 = inde$ be=e select+ our expressions1 we mu/ make !m und]/ood1 & "o c d ?is b imp]fectly if he pron\nces badly4 ,f ?is fault arise =c$ repetitions1 ! loss ( :at is appropriate1 fatigue1 disgu/1 ! impati5ce ( ! two p]sons speak+1 & 9 f9e1 all ! sad results ( deafness4 ,%\ld we n use e ef=t to rid ourselves ( ?is8 ,! fir/1 ! greate/ imp$im5t to pron\nc+ well1 is volubility4 ,by speak+ too fa/1 we speak confus$ly1 & utt] in>ticulate & un9telligible s\nds1 & ?is1 )\t dispute1 is ( all ! faults 9 pronunciation1 ! mo/ insupportable4 ,we "k v well1 t to speak too sl[ly1 & z !y say1 to li/5 to our own words1 is a caprice :i* seems to d5ote pride or non*alance2 & t 9 c]ta9 cases x is necess>y to speak quickly2 b we ought nev] to speak precipitately1 ev5 on subjects :i* require u to be brief4 ,besides ! physical inconv5i5ce1 indi/9ctness has o!r moral inconv5i5ces3 x supposes he$lessness1 loquacity1 or fooli%ness4 ,next comes hesitancy1 :i* is little less tr\blesome1 = x fills ! conv]sation ) ridicul\s & pa9ful ef=ts4 ,?is defect :i* is sometimes ow+ to ! organization1 happ5s /ill m frequ5tly f neglect+ to ?9k be=e we speak1 f timidity1 f "s lively emotion :i* obliges u to /amm]1 or f a =mal anxiety to make use ( select t]ms4 ,?is la/ motive is almo/ an excess4 ,) ! int5tion ( pleas+ p]sons1 y we>y !m by repetitions1 by f>-fet*$ m9c+ words1 & 9 ord] to appe> clev]1 y r5d] y\rself excessively annoy+4 ,! habits acquir$ 9 *ildhood & 9 small t[ns1 & a prov9cial acc5t1 are frequ5tly ob/acles to good pronunciation2 let u in/ance "s examples ( ?is4 ,x is n uncommon to he>1 ev5 among ^? :o are consid]$ z correct speak]s1 9 g5]al1 su* a misuse ( words z ! foll[+3 ,me = ,i1 ,miss = ,mrs41 set = sit1 sat out = set out1 expect1 7( a pass$ ev5t27 lay = lie1 %ew = %[$1 w\ld = %\ld1 hadn't ought = ought n1 c4 ,z to acc5t1 ea* prov9ce has its peculi>ities4 ,to discov] x1 to %un x1 & to modify x by an opposite ef=t1 are ! means ( avoid+ ^! %oals2 b h[ev] ridicul\s we may appe> 9 runn+ ^u !m cont9ually1 we are a hundr$ times less s ?an ^? p :o1 l true p$agogues1 /op y 9 ! mid/ ( an affect+ recital1 to repeat ) a s>donic smile1 a vulg> phrase1 a ^w badly pron\nc$1 or a wrong acc5t :i* happ5s to escape y4 ,n only among p]sons ( good society1 %\ld we condemn p$antry 9 pronunciation1 b we ought1 moreov]1 ) ,r\sseau1 to blame ov]-nicety ( pronunciation or purism4 ,he c\ld n tol]ate 7& _m o!rs l him17 ^? p s p>ticul> 9 s\nd+ e lett] ( a ^w4#ad ,besides a g5]al acc5t1 !re is also a p>ticul> acc5t1 :i* gives a %ade to ! words1 :5 we express a s5tim5t4 ,we feel all its delicacy & its *>m1 b we feel also t x ought to be 9 p]fect h>mony ) ! language2 t x ought to be free f all affectation1 & all exagg]ation4 ,to utt] h>d ?+s 9 a tone ( mildness2 to display 9 a humble voice pr\d pret5sions2 to op5 a political discussion 9 a c>ess+ tone2 to rec\nt an affair ( pleasantry ) a melan*oly acc5t1--is ridicul\s 9 ! highe/ degree4 ,x is no less s1 to =ce ! acc5t1 to p]v]t x into irony2 or to introduce into disc\rse1 a sort ( declamation or tone4 ,we _c judge by ! acc5t ( a p]son :o speaks too high or too l[1 b we decide1 9 ! fir/ case1 t he is vulg>1 & 9 ! second1 t he is disda9ful4 #ad ,! examples 9 ! orig9al1 are ! f9al lett]s ( ! words1 tabac1 sang1 e/omac4 ,9 ,engli%1 "s p]sons are z scrupul\s 9 ! di/9ct pronunciation ( e lett] 9 su* words z extra-ord9>y1 ,w$-nes-day1 c4--,t4 ,,section ,v4 ,( ,correctness 9 ,speak+4 ',surt\t qu'en vos disc\rs la langue rvre4' ,9 address+ ?is advice to read]s1 we %all bew>e ( consid]+ !m z /rang]s to ! rules ( gramm>2 x is s %ameful at ! pres5t day to be ignorant ( "o's own language1 t x w\ld n be less s1 to suspect o!rs ( n kn[+ x2 b al?\gh we may n be depriv$ ( ?is indisp5sable k1 x is /ill necess>y c>efully to bew>e ( contract+ bad habits 9 language2 ( us+ bad phrases1 & ev5 ( us+ t]ms ( :i* we "k n ! import2 a little /udy & att5tion w af=d a c]ta9 rem$y to ! emb>rassm5t :i* we might exp]i5ce4 ,"y p _c too mu* gu>d aga9/ ^! faults1 :i* %[ an education t has be5 little att5d$ to4 ,!y w arrive at x by /udy+ a good gramm>ian1 & by pay+ att5tion to ! s5se ( _! words4 ,if1 9 ! sil5ce ( ! /udy1 we h mu* tr\ble 9 r5d]+ correctly a long s5t5ce1 h[ mu/ x be 9 ! _w1 :5 ! e>ne/ness ( conv]sation prev5ts u f reflect+8 ,to make long phrases1 is to be will+ to make mi/akes 9 language2 & if we take "t to pres5t ^! int]m9able s5t5ces 9 a correct =m1 we only appe> ! m clumsy1 or ! m pret5d+1 = conv]sation ought nev] to seem labor$1 & ! expression & ! ?\ghts ought to be ( a simultane\s ca/+4 ,avoid ! pron\ns :o1 :i*1 p>ticul>ly :5 !y are int]rogatives2 = al?\gh ! gramm> does n absolutely condemn _! frequ5cy1 yet z x is useless & disagreeable to ! e>1 we %\ld endeavor to avoid x4 ,?us1 in/ead ( :o is x :o did su* a ?+8--:at is ?is ?+ t is "h8 say1 :o did su* a ?+8--:at is ?is ?+8 ,p]sons :o are c>eful ( _! conv]sation1 avoid1 z faults ( language1 expressions :i* c]ta9ly d n des]ve ?is title1 b :i* injure ! cle>ness1 elegance1 & h>mony ( conv]sation4 ,?us !y w ab/a9 f unit+ ^? words :i*1 be+ 9 conflict z to _! mean+ & pronunciation1 make an ambiguity1 except :5 writt54 ,!y c>efully bew>e ( accumulat+ synonymes & epi!ts pr(usely1 or at lea/1 ( =gett+ ) reg>d to ^! la/1 ! laws ( gradation2 ( multiply+ adv]bs1 :i* burd5 & weak5 disc\rse2 !y pay great att5tion to ! requirem5ts ( euphony1 &1 9 ord] to ?is1 avoid br++ ne> to ea* o!r1 words ( simil> s\nd1 & ( repeat+ simil> words ev5 ( ! same mean+1 su* z at pres5t we (f] a pres5t1 x does a good deal ( good4 ,^! scrupul\s & privileg$ talk]s are p>ticul>ly c>eful ( ! connect+ p>ticles1 = !y "k h[ mu* _! omission injures euphony2 h[ x causes p]sons :o are little *>itable1 to believe t x is a cov]+1 "u :i* are adroitly conceal$ d\bt or ignorance1 & ?is op9ion is n always a prejudice4 ,i _h =gott5 to say t our skilful talk]s endeavor n to furni%1 by =tuit\s co9cid5ces ( words1 opportunities = puns2 t 9 ! mode ( _! conv]sation1 !y avoid rhymes s un=tunate & ev5 ridicul\s 9 prose2 t !y dread repetitions ( phrases1 & axioms1 z ! repetitions ( words2 t by %ort & judici\s pauses1 !y m>k ! punctuation 9 ! spok5 z 9 ! writt5 language2 f9ally1 t !y endeavor to r5d] _! conv]sation cle>1 correct & elegant2 b ^! talk+-models w\ld be 9 less dang] ( defeat+ _! object1 if !y _h less ( ! precise air ( a p$agogue4 ,s f> f ?is1 if a grammatical error escapes !m1 !y quickly correct x1 b ) ease & gaiety4 ,if !y he> a gross grammatical error1 !y d n all[ !mselves ev5 a smile1 or a look :i* c\ld indicate _! feel+1 or tr\ble ! "o guilty ( ! error4 ,,*apt] ,,vi4 ,( ! ,moral ,obs]vances 9 ,conv]sation4 ,goodness1 mod]ation & decorum--^! are ! motto & ! s\l ( moral propriety 9 conv]sation4 ,a solicitude to be always agreeable & oblig+2 ( obs]v+ a prop] m$ium 9 ev]y?+2 ( respect+ ! rights ( o!rs1 ev5 9 ! mo/ trifl+ ?+s2 susceptibility = e ?+ :i* is connect$ ) delicacy1 piety1 & mode/y--all ^! qualities :i* belong to polit5ess1 are includ$ 9 ^! expressive words2 goodness1 mod]ation1 decorum4 ,,section ,i4 ,( ,=mal & ,vulg> ,usages4 ,9 ! fir/ rank ( cu/om>y =malities1 we place ^? conc]n+ in=mation ab\t ! heal?4 ,we %all1 necess>ily1 h little to say on ?is head2 !re are1 h[ev]1 "s little rules :i* are n to be neglect$4 ,x is prop] to v>y ! phraseology ( ^! =mal que/ions1 z mu* z possible2 & we mu/ ab/a9 f !m entirely1 t[>ds a sup]ior1 or a p]son ) :om we are b little acqua9t$1 = su* inquiries presuppose "s degree ( intimacy4 ,9 ! la/ case1 !re is a me?od ( manife/+ our int]e/1 )\t violat+ etiquette2 x consi/s 9 mak+ ^! inquiries ( ! dome/ics1 or ( o!r p]sons ( ! h\se1 & ( say+ aft]w>ds :5 introduc$2 ',i am happy ,sir1 to he> t y are 9 good heal?4' ,cu/om =bids a lady to make ^! inquiries ( a g5tleman1 unless he is ill or v ag$4 ,to put a corrective ^u ?is m>k ( reg>d1 a lady :o addresses a g5tleman1 %\ld be e>ne/ 9 h] inquiries ( ! heal? ( 8 family1 h[ev] little intimacy %e may h ) !m4 ,_m p]sons ask ?is "q me*anically1 )\t wait+ = ! answ]1 or else ha/5 to reply1 be=e !y h receiv$ x4 ,?is is 9 bad ton4 ,inquiries ab\t ! heal?1 x is true1 are frequ5tly unimportant1 b !y %\ld appe> to be dictat$ by att5tion & k9dness4 ,we mu/ n h[ev] be deceiv$1 b be c>eful n to m5tion a slight indisposition to p]sons :o are /rang]s to u1 because _! int]e/ c be only =mal4 ,aft] we are in=m$ ( ! heal? ( ! p]son we are visit+1 x is prop] to inquire ( !m 9 relation to ! heal? ( _! families2 b x w\ld be we>isome to !m1 to make a long enum]ation ( ! memb]s :o compose ! family4 ,we c put a g5]al "q1 designat+ ! mo/ important memb]s4 ,9 case ( ! abs5ce ( ne> relations1 we ask ! p]son we are visit+1 if !y h he>d f !m lately1 if ! news is favorable4 ,!y1 on _! "p1 ask ! same ( u4 ,:5 y are n on visits ( great c]emony1 at ! "t ( tak+ leave1 y are commonly desir$ to give ! complim5ts & salutations ( ! p]sons y are visit+ to ^? ) :om y live1 !n y %\ld reply briefly1 b give !m assurances ( y\r reg>d1 & ?ank !m4 ,polit5ess infuses into visits ( "s little c]emony1 a color+ ( mode/y1 grace1 & def]5ce1 :i* %\ld be pres]v$ ) ! greate/ c>e4 ,9 speak+1 x is always prop] to give ! "n ( ,sir1 ,madam1 or ,miss1 & if ! s5t5ce is some:at long1 ! title ought to be repeat$4 ,if ! "q is ) reg>d to answ]+ 9 ! affirmative or negative1 we ought nev] to say r\ghly yes or no4 ,if ! p]son address$ has a title1 or t :i* he has f 8 pr(ession1 we %\ld give x him1 z ,c\nt1 ,doctor1 c4 ,9 case we meet ) _m p]sons ( ! same pr(ession1 we c !n di/+ui% !m1 add+ _! "n to ! title4 ,a lady w n say1 my husb&1 except among intimates2 9 e o!r case1 %e %\ld address him by 8 "n1 call+ him ,mr4 ,x is equally good ton t except on occasions ( c]emony1 & :ile %e is q "y1 to designate him by 8 *ri/ian "n4 ,b :5 "o speaks to a g5tleman ( ! lady to :om he is m>ri$1 he %\ld n say y\r wife1 unless he is intimately acqua9t$1 b ,mrs4 su*-a-"o1 is ! mo/ prop]4 ,! rules ( polit5ess 9 ?is respect1 are ! same 9 speak+ ( ! husb&4 ,:5 we speak ( ourself & ano!r p]son1 :e!r he is abs5t or pres5t1 propriety requires u to m5tion ourselves la/4 ,?us we %\ld say he & ,i1 y & ,i4 ,:5 y relate a p]sonal occurr5ce1 ! circum/ances connect$ ) :i* are honorable to y\rself1 & a di/+ui%$ p]son _h also a %>e 9 ! honor1 y %\ld only m5tion him1 & in/ead ( ! plural =m1 we resolv$1 we did su* a ?+1 y %\ld =get y\rself1 & say1 ,mr4 ,n4 resolv$1 or did su* a ?+ s & s4 ,delicacy w dictate ?is degree ( mode/y to y1 & y\r sup]ior 9 8 turn w proclaim at 8 own exp5se1 y\r m]it on ! occasion4 ,we "k t ! ^w false is n to be f\nd 9 ! diction>y ( polit5ess1 & t :5 we are oblig$ to d5y ! ass]tion ( any "o1 we employ apologetical =ms4 ,! mo/ prop] ones are su* z ! foll[+3 ,i may be mi/ak51 ,i am und\bt$ly mi/ak51 b1444 ,be s good z to excuse my mi/ake1 b x seems to me1444 ,i ask p>don1 b ,i ?\ght1 c4 ,^? p]sons are b ill-br$1 :o ?9k to s(t5 d[n a d5ial m]ely by expressions ( d\bt4 ,!y say1 if :at y advance is true1 if :at madam says is positive1 c4 ,) ^! =ms1 !y ?9k !y comply ) ! rules ( polit5ess4 ,x is incivility ) affectation4 ,h[ev] p]sons may say invidi\sly t =ms avail mu* 9 ! _w1 ,i agree ) !m1 b 9 q ano!r s5se4 ,we %\ld nev] ask a ?+ ( any "o )\t say+1 w y h ! goodness1 w y d me ! favor1 w y be s good1 c4 ,9 a circle1 we %\ld n pass be=e a lady2 & %\ld nev] pres5t any ?+ by ext5d+ ! arm ov] h]1 b we pass r\nd beh9d1 & pres5t x4 ,9 case we _c d x1 we say1 ,i ask y\r p>don1 c4 ,to a "q :i* we d n fully compreh5d1 we nev] answ]1 ,ha8 ,:at8 b1 ,be s good z1 c4 ,p>don me1 ,i did n und]/&4 ,nev] refuse ) disda9 a p9* ( snuff1 & r ?an disoblige p1 take "o1 ev5 if y ?r[ x away1 aft] hav+ pret5d$ to take x4 ,bew>e ( pres5t+ to ladies1 9 balls or assemblies1 a box ( sweet ?+s1 "u p5alty ( hav+ ! air ( a c>icature4 ,if y /rike aga9/ any "o 9 ! lea/1 ask p>don = x imm$iately4 ,! o!r %\ld at ! same "t answ] y1 ,x is no?+1 no?+ at all1 c41 ev5 if ! bl[ %\ld h be5 viol5t4 ,x is cu/om>y to employ ! few mom5ts ( a visit ( m]e polit5ess1 9 look+ at ! portraits :i* adorn ! fireplace1 & ev5 tak+ !m d[n1 if y are invit$ to d x4 ,x w\ld be ! extreme ( impolit5ess1 to say t !y 7 flatt]$1 or to pret5d to recognize 9 ! portrait ( a "y lady1 ! lik5ess ( an eld]ly lady1 or ( "o less favor$ by nature4 ,x w\ld moreov] be improp] to make long complim5ts2 indirect1 & +5i\s praise1 is all t is prop]4 ,,section ,,ii4 ,( ,que/ions1 & frequ5tly recurr+ ,expressions4 ,x is an axiom ( propriety t we %\ld nev] speak ( ourselves1 7except to intimate fri5ds7 & t we %\ld conv]se ) /rang]s ab\t !mselves1 & ev]y?+ :i* c int]e/ !m4 ,que/ions are !re=e necess>y1 b !y dem& inf9ite delicacy & tact1 9 ord] nei!r to fatigue nor ev] w\nd ! feel+s4 ,if1 in/ead ( express+ a mild & he>tfelt int]e/1 y ask a dry "q dictat$ by a cold curiosity2 if y seem to pay no att5tion to ! answ]s :i* y call =?2 if y mal-adroitly take a comm&+ tone2 if y prolong )\t b\nds ?is k9d ( conv]sation2 if1 p]ceiv+ t y are emb>rass$1 & t y endeavor to save y\rself by an evasive answ]1 in/ead ( keep+ sil5ce1 y witness ! fooli% regrets ( y\r indiscretion2 be assur$ t bo? y\r que/ions & y\rself w be consid]$ z a torm5t4 ,madame ,neck] +5i\sly obs]ves t ^! favorite & frequ5tly repeat$ t]ms ) :i* we fill our conv]sation1 s]ve1 ord9>ily z a m>k ( p's "*4 ',?us1' says %e1 '^? :o exce$ ! tru? are 9 ! habit ( say+1 ,y may rely ^u x1 x is ! tru?2 long talk]s say1 ,9 a ^w1 to be brief2 & ! pr\d say1 ,)\t boa/+1' c4 ,?is /rik+ obs]vation is well f\nd$1 & consequ5tly we ought to take good c>e n to let p into ! secret ( our peculi>ities4 ,b1 indep5d5tly ( ?is motive1 x is necess>y = u c>efully to avoid frequ5tly recurr+ words1 z 9 "t1 habit multiplies !m to an inconceivable degree4 ,!y emb>rass & ov]:elm our conv]sation1 turn away ! att5tion ( ^? :o li/5 to u1 & r5d] u importunate1 & ridicul\s1 )\t our be+ able to p]ceive x4 ,if habitual t]ms1 :i* on no o!r acc\nt are repreh5sible1 c become s tr\blesome1 :at results may ^! trite phrases1 trivial expressions1 & vulg> transitions produce1 :5 !y become frequ5t6 ,,section ,,iii4 ,( ,n>rations1 ,analysis1 & ,digressions4 ,!re are _m conditions indisp5sable to ! success ( a n>rative4 ,^! conditions are1 fir/1 novelty2 ! be/ /ories we>y :5 !y are multipli$ too mu*1 because e "o wi%es to be an actor 9 8 turn ^u ! /age ( ! _w4 ,s t1 :5 y h any?+ excell5t to relate1 consult less y\r own desire to tell x1 ?an ! wi%es ( o!rs to he> y4 ,!re are b too _m p :o discov] ! secret ( we>y+ :ile tell+ v good ?+s1 on acc\nt ( _! too great eag]ness to tell !m4 ,! next ?+ is to take a suitable opportunity4 ,let y\r n>ration spr+ naturally f ! conv]sation2 let x expla9 a fact1 or come 9 support ( an op9ion1 b let x nev] appe> to be introduc$ by ! fooli% pleasure ( talk+1 or by a n less fooli% desire ( mak+ a display ( tal5t4 ,rememb] t ! mo/ meagre recitals1 :5 !y are propos1 frequ5tly please m ?an ! be/ ?+s 9 ! _w1 :5 !y are said out ( "t4 ,& ev5 endeavor+ to monopolize ! conv]sation is 9 bad ton1 p>ticul>ly = "y p]sons & ladies1 especially if x is b a few mom5ts s9ce !y occupi$ ! att5tion ( ! company4 ,x is an agreeable & mode/ m>k ( propriety to reque/ "s "o to relate an anecdote ( ! day1 ( :i* y h made m5tion1 & ! circum/ances ( :i* y desire to "k4 ,?is is well suit$ to p]sons ( di/+ui%$ tal5ts4 ,! p]son call$ ^u1 b[s & excuses himself ) a few words be=e acc$+ to y\r reque/4 ,x is ( all importance t ! language correspond to ! diff]5t =ms :i* ! n>ration requires2 t1 "u pretext ( adorn+ our /ory1 we d n w&] into f>-fet*$ comp>isons1 dull details1 or int]m9able dialogues2 t if we relate any?+ amus+ or /rik+1 we %\ld obs]ve ! utmo/ s]i\sness1 & f9ally1 be=e comm5c+ a recital ( ?is k9d1 we keep 9 m9d ^! l9es ( ,lafonta9e2 ,il ne faut jamais dire aux g5s1 ,ec\tez un bon mot1 oyez une m]veille1 ,savez-v\s si les c\tans ,en f]ont une e/ime la vtre p>eille8 ,:51 = want ( obs]v+ ?is1 z well z _m o!r simil> rules1 n>rators fail ( ! expect$ effect1 & ?9k to be able to tell x ov] aga91 & rem>k+ on ! comic "p ( ! /ory1 & labor+ to repeat x ?us2--,d y n ?9k ?is excell5t1 wond]ful8 ,alas6 !y only add to _! own defeat1 & to ! ennui ( _! poor he>]s4 ,if "o relates an anecdote :i* y already "k1 p]mit him to f9i% x1 & d n 9 any way draw (f ! att5tion ( ^? :o are li/5+4 ,if y\r op9ion is ask$1 give x frankly1 & )\t wi%+ to appe> bett] in=m$ ?an ! n>rator himself4 ,/ill f>!r2 if y happ5 to be 9 tte--tte ) ! same n>rator1 obs]ve ! same sil5ce1 & li/5 ) an air ( int]e/1 & if he happ5s to imp>t to y :at he relat$ ! prec$+ day1 :i* he _h f y y\rself1 y %\ld appe> to li/5 ) equal int]e/1 z if = ! fir/ "t4 ,frequ5tly1 9 ! mid/ ( a recital1 ! n>rator1 ?r\gh =getfulness1 hesitates1 & ?9ks t he c recall x4 ,look at him att5tively4 ,if he is 9 d\bt1 decl>e t y are altoge!r ignorant ( ! subject 9 "q4 ,if 8 memory returns1 reque/ him to cont9ue1 at ! same "t say+2 ,i li/5 to y always ) new pleasure4 ,?is delicate polit5ess is p>ticul>ly to be obs]v$ t[>ds old p]sons4 ,:5 y\r n>rations h _h success1 keep a mode/ c\nt5ance2 leave o!rs to po9t out ! /rik+ p>ts :i* h pleas$ !m4 ,! sure/ means ( n hav+ ! approbation ( o!rs1 9 actions z well z o!r ?+s1 is to solicit x1 :e!r x be by looks1 or by words4 ,z e he>] is oblig$ to li/5 or und]/& )\t object+1 ! consequ5ce is1 t we %\ld feel our gr\nd be=e speak+1 & ask if su* or su* a ?+ is kn[n to ! company4 ,:5 a /ory has be5 publi%$ 9 ! newspap]s1 s t x is n entirely new1 or seems borr[$ f a compilation ( anas1 if we attribute x to "s p]son ( our acqua9tance1 7( c\rse "o t is abs5t17 an ineffable ridicule v prop]ly /igmatizes ! n>rator4 ,we come n[ to :at seems to me ! mo/ difficult "p ( conv]sation1 & if y are n sure ( be+ able to class y\r ideas ) regul>ity1 to express !m ) mu* cle>ness1 & an easy elegance1 d n h ! tem]ity to wi% to analyze a book1 or a dramatic piece4 ,y w\ld be lay+ up = y\rself a rude mortification1 :i* w\ld h an unfavorable influ5ce on y\r entre into society4 ,y w\ld be wrong1 h[ev]1 9 conclud+1 t ,i condemn y to p]petual sil5ce2 ,i only wi% to inspire y ) a salut>y diffid5ce1 9 ord] to pres]ve y f su* a rude *eck1 & to put x 9 y\r p[] "s future day to answ]1 9 ?is p>ticul>1 ! wi%es ( a di/+ui%$ & brilliant assembly4 ,beg9 by putt+ d[n ^u pap] a ha/y sket* ( a %ort piece1 z = in/ance a vaudeville1 or a little com$y4 ,y w d ?is until1 be+ sure ( ! mann] 9 :i* y w\ld embrace ! ensemble1 & dispose ( ! details1 y c produce x )\t emb>rassm5t4 ,:5 arriv$ at ?is po9t1 ab/a9 f ^! k9ds ( analysis1 :i* ?\gh inde$ m correct1 seem labor$4 ,!y h besides less fre$om1 appropriat5ess1 & grace4 ,"k ?is1 & rememb] x well1 t e o!r prep>ation ?an ?9k+ :at y are ab\t to say1 w make y acquire two intol]able faults1 affectation & /iffness4 ,to conclude1 ,i give ?is advice only to ^? p]sons :o1 by a quick & p5etrat+ p]ception1 by a love ( ! f9e arts1 & by a peculi> read9ess1 f9d !mselves able to speak prop]ly ( lit]>y productions4 ,^? :o are less engag$ 9 ^! ?+s1 %\ld cont5t !mselves ) simply & briefly expla9+ a subject1 & ( m5tion+ ! emotion !y felt2 ) speak+ ( "s brilliant passage1 & add+ t !y d n pret5d to pron\nce judgm5t4 ,! fir/ degree ( digression is ! p>5!sis2 provid$ x is %ort1 natural1 & seldom repeat$2 & t y take c>e to ann\nce x always2 & f9ally1 9 ord] n to abuse x1 y %\ld make a skilful use ( x4 ,! second degree ( digression becomes m nice1 = x includes ^? accessory reflections1 ^? common b agreeable & well-settl$ expressions2 ^? g5]al or p>ticul> allusions1 :i* are only to be us$ ) a peculi> emphasis1 :i* is to language :at ! italic "* is to pr9t+4 ,?is me?od ( speak+ 9 italics may be /rik+ & artless2 b x (t5 becomes obscure & trivial2 ! habit is dang]\s1 & "o %\ld use ?is difficult digression only be=e intimate fri5ds4 ,we n[ come to ! ?ird degree1 to :at is prop]ly call$ digression2 mo/ frequ5tly x is involunt>y4 ,(t5 9 a lively & animat$ dialogue1 ! impetus ( conv]sation c>ries y1 z well z ! p]son ) :om y are conv]s+1 f> f ! po9t f :i* y />t$4 ,if x is a "q ( pleasure or int]e/1 return to y\r po9t by employ+ a polite turn1 z1 ,pray let u n lose sight ( our bus9ess4 ,b if x is an affair ( no?+s succe$+ no?+s1 let x fl[ on4 ,volunt>y digression1 :5 x is n a m]e "w ( loquacity1 may be employ$ 9 s]i\s disc\rse1 z political1 philosophical1 or moral discussions2 b x is important to treat x ) inf9ite res]ve1 & c>e1 & nev] to introduce a p]sonal apology1 or a dome/ic incid5t1 altoge!r out ( place1 z ^? p]sons d1 :o1 9 n>rat+ any ev5t relative to an individual1 rec\nt 8 life1 _! connexion ) him1 or 8 :ole family1 & make ! ev5t ( an h\r rem9d u ( ages4 ,lawy]s1 lit]>y p1 milit>y m51 travell]s1 invalids & ag$ ladies1 ought to h a prud5t & cont9ual di/ru/ ( ! abuse ( digressions4 ,,section ,,iv4 ,( ,suppositions & ,comp>isons4 ,! two %oals to be avoid$ 9 ?is =m ( language are directly oppos$ to ea* o!r2 ! "o is triviality1 ! o!r bomba/4 ,! object ( supposition1 :i* is already antiquat$1 & sometimes too simple1 is to increase ! =ce ( reason+1 & to c>ry conviction to ! m9d ( ! p]son :o li/5s to y2 comp>ison t5ds to make an image1 or to place be=e u ! object describ$4 ,:5 bo? ^! qualities are regulat$ by reason1 use1 & ta/e1 x is v well2 b h[ seldom is ?is ! case6 ,!y are n s us$1 if1 9 ! c\rse ( a discussion1 y suppose a respectable p]son to supply ! place ( a madman1 an ill-br$ p]son1 or a robb]2 or1 if y suppose him to be 9 a situation disgraceful or ev5 ridicul\s4 ,z1 = example2 ,if y _h be5 ?is bad p]son2 or1 ,suppose1 t y _h committ$ ?is base act2 or1 t y %\ld be laugh$ at1 c4 ,!y are also misplac$1 :5ev]1 be+ satisfi$ ) avoid+ disagreeable comp>isons1 we endeavor to m>k out "s "o z contemptible1 by comp>+ 8 ext]ior ) t ( "s o!r p]son 9 ! company4 ,:5 we say2 ,?is un=tunate man is ( y\r size1 sir2 he has y\r traits1 y\r physiognomy1 c4 ,!y are also misplac$1 if us$ 9 ! pres5ce ( p ( a pr(ession ^u :i* ! injuri\s comp>isons fall1 z :5 we say2 ,z quacki% z a doctor2 gre$y z an attorney2 loquaci\s z a lawy]1 c4 ,f9ally1 polit5ess & ta/e _c at all exi/ 9 comp>isons1 if !y are common or trivial1 z :5 we say1 black z ! *imney-back1 high z "o's h&1 c42 or1 if !y are 9 a turgid & pret5d+ /yle1 su* z1 le>n$ z ! ,muses1 fre% z ! mead[s1 c4 ,,section ,v4 ,( ,discussions & ,quotations4 ,:atev] be ! subject ( conv]sation1 propose y\r op9ion ) mode/y2 def5d x ) sangfroid & a mild tone if y are oppos$2 yield ) a good grace if y are wrong2 yield also1 al?\gh y are 9 ! "r1 if ! subject ( discussion is ( little importance1 & especially if ! "o :o opposes y is a lady1 or an old p]son4 ,moreov]1 if love ( tru? or ! desire ( af=d+ in/ruction =ce y to ent] into a discussion1 d x ) address & polit5ess4 ,if y d n br+ ov] y\r oppon5t to y\r own op9ion1 y w at lea/ ga9 8 e/eem4 ,b if y h to d ) "o ( ^? p :o1 possess$ ) a mania ( discussion1 comm5ce by contradict+ be=e !y he>1 & :o are always ready to su/a9 ! contr>y op9ion1 yield to him2 y w h no?+ to ga9 ) him4 ,be assur$ t ! _s ( contradiction c be conqu]$ only by sil5ce4 ,! insupportable p$antry ( a cl\d ( quot]s1 )\t tact or tal5t1 has ju/ly1 = a long "t1 ?r[n quotations into disrepute2 b if !y are well *os51 few1 & %ort2 if !y are -propos1 ,qui fuit comme le temps1 qui plat comme les grces2 if !y are altoge!r new1 & wield$ by a p]son possess$ ( mode/y1 elegance1 & ta/e1 hav+ a p]fect k ( ! _w1 quotations h mu* success & *>m2 b )\t ^! conditions1 !re is little safety2 & 9 ?is matt] !re c be no m$iocrity2 y w ei!r be a good model1 or an insupportable p$ant4 ,consid] if y w ra%ly run ?is *ance1 especially on mak+ y\r db 9 society1 :5 "y p]sons ought s c>efully to avoid mak+ a p>ade ( a va9 college erudition1 & n seek ! reputation ( a savant by employ+ words borr[$ f =eign languages1 or sci5tific t]ms unkn[n 9 good society4 ,,section ,,vi4 ,( ,pleasantry1 ,prov]bs1 ,puns1 & ,bon ,mots4 ,if society is n a s*ool = ex]cis+ p$antry1 nei!r is x an ar5a = ! use ( ^? p]v]sely clev] p1 :o ?9k !mselves furni%$ ) a pat5t to insult ) grace4 ,:atev] may be ! ke5ness ( _! s>casms1 ! piquancy ( _! obs]vations1 or ! smile :i* !y excite 9 me1 ,i d n ! less refuse to all[ to ^? cau/ic spirits ! "n ( polite p]sons1 or ( good ton2 =1 9 polit5ess !re mu/ be good feel+4 ,b ^? :o incessantly /udy to tr\ble & w\nd p1 )\t tak+ any precaution except to deprive !m ( ! "r or means ( compla9+2 :o are ready to cat* at ! lea/ error1 to exagg]ate x1 to clo! x 9 ! mo/ bitt] language1 to pres5t x 9 ! mo/ ridicul\s light2 :o meanly attack ^? :o _c answ] !m1 or expose !mselves e day = a s>casm to sport ) _! own life & t ( ano!r 9 a duel--su* p1 :at are !y8--9 tru?1 ,i d>e n say4 ,"o su* picture1 :i*1 c]ta9ly is n highly color$1 w\ld r5d] pleasantries always odi\s2 b to indulge 9 pleasantry is n to resemble su* mis*iev\s p]sons1 ?ank heav51 x is f> o!rwise2 = mild1 k9d1 & h>mless pleasantry %\ld be tak5 9 good "p ev5 by ^? :o are ! subjects ( x2 x is a fri5dly1 & sportive conte/1 9 :i* sev]ity1 jeal\sy1 & res5tm5t %\ld nev] appe>2 :5ev] y p]ceive ! lea/ trace ( !m1 ! pleasantry is at an end2 desi/1 !n1 ! mom5t !y appe>4 ,z to hoax+1 t cau/ic ( fools2 z to t silly gaiety1 excit$ by ! c&or or polit5ess ( p :om y falsely cause to believe ! mo/ fooli% ?+s1 because !y d n make kn[n to y t !y see ?r\gh ?is pleasure ( /upid fell[s1 ,i h no?+ to say ( !m1 except t ,i h too good an op9ion ( my read] to suppose t he does n despise !m z ,i d4 ,popul> quotations & prov]bs1 z well z o!r quotations1 require "s c>e2 &1 except 9 famili> conv]sation1 are altoge!r misplac$4 ,if !y are frequ5t1 conv]sation becomes a t$i\s gossipp+2 if introduc$ )\t a %ort previ\s rem>k1 "o ( two ?+s w take place1 !y w ei!r prev5t ! speak] f be+ und]/ood1 or !y w give him ! air ( ,san*o ,panza4 ,b ! previ\s rem>k1 h[ev]1 ne$ be b %ort2 z ! prov]b says1 z ! wisdom ( nations has x4 ,a prov]b well appli$1 & plac$ at ! end ( a phrase1 frequ5tly makes a v happy conclusion4 ,i only speak to c5sure2 ,i entreat my read]s n to suff] !mselves to be ! manufactur]s ( puns1 & to despise ?is tal5t ( fools & *ildi% means to excite a pass+ laugh4 ,n t we _c repeat 9 good company "o ( ^? r>e political bon mots :i* are happy 9 e respect2 nor t we ought to deprecate ?is k9d ( pleasantry be=e p :o are fond ( !m1 /ill less to tell !m :at !y he> e day1 ,t is poor2 to h ta/e1 does n au?orize u to be impolite4 ,we mu/ be mu* m sev]e ^u ano!r k9d ( quivoques2 namely1 ^? :i* (f5d mode/y4 ,propriety all[s y1 & x ev5 requires y n to li/5 to1 b ev5 to int]rupt an ill-br$ p]son :o importunes y ) ^? indec5t witticisms :i* a man ( good society ought always to avoid2 !y are ^? by aid ( :i* we cov] c]ta9 pleasantries ) a veil s transp>5t1 t !y are ! m obs]v$4 ,:at pleasure c we f9d 9 caus+ ladies to blu%1 & 9 m]it+ ! "n ( a man ( bad society8 ,!re are ^? :o ?9k t !y may all[ !mselves e k9d ( pleasantry be=e c]ta9 p]sons2 b a man ( good ton ought to obs]ve x :]ev] he is4 ,we might quote m ?an "o example ( p]sons1 :o h lo/ polit5ess ( mann]s & ( language by assum+ ! habits & conv]sation ( all k9ds ( society into :i* *ance may h c>ri$ !m4 ,x requires b a mom5t to lose ^? delicate %ades ( "* :i* con/itute a man ( ! _w1 & :i* co/ u s mu* labor to acquire4 ,x is a great error to suppose t we mu/ always %9e 9 conv]sation1 & t x is bett] to make ourselves admir$ by a lively & ready rep>tee1 ?an to cont5t ourselves sometimes ) sil5ce1 or ) an answ] less brilliant ?an judici\s4#ae ,we mu/ n imag9e t all traits ( wit are 9 ! class ( polit5ess2 a va9 & triumphant air spoils a bon mot2 moreov]1 :5 y repeat a ?+ ( ?is k9d ( :i* y are ! au?or1 bew>e ( say+ s to y\r auditors4 #ae ,t a reply may be truly pleas+1 x is necess>y t he :o makes x has a "r s to d1 & t we may quote x )\t do+ him any wrong2 o!rwise1 we %\ld laugh at ! reply1 & despise ! au?or ( x4 ,!re are replies :i* are pleas+ 9 ! m\? ( a milit>y man1 b :i* w\ld be ridicul\s 9 ! m\? ( a civil magi/rate4 ,a "y lady may make lively & brilliant rep>tees1 :i* w\ld be insupportable 9 a woman 9 ! decl9e ( life2 z ! latt] might make su* z w\ld be unsuitable 9 a "y lady4 ,,section ,,vii4 ,( ,eulogiums1 ,compla9+s1 ,improprieties 9 g5]al1 & ,prejudices4 ,"o ( ! mo/ improp] ?+s1 is to praise to excess & unseasonably4 ,extravagant & misplac$ eulogiums nei!r honor ! "o :o be/[s !m1 nor ! p]sons :o receive !m4 ,an infallible me?od ( giv+ a m]itori\s p]son ! air ( a fool1 is to address him to 8 face & )\t disguise1 to load him ) exagg]at$ eulogiums2 x is inde$ n a little emb>rass+ to reply 9 su* a case4 ,if we rema9 sil5t1 we appe> to be inhal+ ! inc5se ) complac5cy2 if we repel x1 we only seem to excite x ! m4 ,?us we see1 9 su* a case1 & ev5 among v clev] p]sons too1 ^? :o reply by silly exclamations & by rude ass]tions4 ,y 7 laugh+ at me1 !y say2 ?is _c be tol]at$2 x is to be suppos$ t ! p]son :o praises y is incapable ( su* an act4 ,i ?9k x w\ld be bett] to say1 ,i did n "k y 7 s k9d 7or s good7 ,i %\ld inde$ ?9k y 7 jok+ me4 ,or else1 we %\ld say1 y\r p>tiality bl9ds y4 ,p]sons :o are unacqua9t$ ) ! _w1 commonly ?9k t !y _c address a lady )\t fir/ assail+ h] ) complim5ts4 ,?is is a mi/ake1 g5tlem51 & ,i c ) relation to ?is po9t1 reveal to y :at my sex pref]s to ^! vulg> eulogiums4 ,x is 9 bad ton to ov]:elm ) insipid flatt]y all wom5 t we meet1 )\t di/9ction ( age1 rank or m]it4 ,^! insipidities may inde$ please "s ( light & frivol\s m9ds1 b w disgu/ a woman ( good s5se4 ,c>ry on ) !m a lively1 piquant & v>i$ conv]sation2 & rememb] t !y h a too active imag9ation1 a too great v]satility ( disposition1 to support conv]sation = a long "t ^u ! same subject4 ,b is x !n necess>y to proscribe eulogiums entirely8 ,n at all--society has n yet arriv$ at t degree ( philosophy2 eulogiums are & w = a long "t be a means ( success2 b !y %\ld be 9 ! fir/ place1 true1 or at lea/ probable1 9 ord] n to h ! appe>ance ( outrage\s insults2 !y %\ld be indirect & delicate1 t we may li/5 to !m )\t be+ oblig$ to int]rupt2 & !y %\ld be temp]$ ) a sort ( judgm5t1 ! skilful use ( :i*1 is itself ev5 a eulogium4 ,i repeat1 z ,i h (t5 said1 let !re be mod]ation 9 ev]y?+4 ,%\ld we n reg>d z gross & ridicul\s language1 t exagg]ation :i* we frequ5tly he> us$ 9 praise z well z 9 c5sure8 ,x seems t true polit5ess 9 language consi/s pr9cipally 9 a c]ta9 mod]ation ( expressions4 ,x is mu* bett] to cause p to ?9k m ?an we say1 & n outrage language1 & run ! risk ( go+ beyond :at we ought to say4 ,"u any circum/ances1 compla9+ has always a bad grace4 ,bani% f y\r compla9ts ill-nature & animosity2 let y\r ang] be only an expression ( ! wrong y h suff]$1 & n ( t :i* y w\ld cause2 ?is is ! sure/ means ( ga9+ to y\r side p]sons :o w\ld p]haps be d\btful :e!r to favor y\r adv]s>y or y\rself4 ,polit5ess is n less oppos$ to mak+ excessive compla9ts to ! fir/ p]son y meet1 ?an to ! frequ5t & extravagant eulogiums :i* y be/[ improp]ly ^u ^? f :om y expect a favor 9 return4 ,by ! ^w improprieties1 we g5]ally und]/& all violations ( polit5ess4 ,we1 h[ev]1 give to ?is ^w a p>ticul> & limit$ s5se4 ,x signifies a want ( due reg>d to1 & a =getfulness (1 ! delicate att5tions :i* seem to id5tify u ) ! situation ( o!rs4 ,we w m5tion "s examples ( ^! p>ticul> violations ( polit5ess4 ,to acco/ sad p ) a smil+ face & sprightly mann]s1 :i* prove to !m ! little int]e/ :i* y take 9 _! situation2 to tr\ble by a :imsical & cross ill-humor1 & by misan?ropic declamations1 ! pleasure ( cont5t$ p]sons2 to exalt ! advantages ( beauty be=e ag$ ladies or ^? :o are naturally un=tunate2 to speak ( ! p[] t weal? be/[s 9 ! pres5ce ( p h>dly arriv$ at m$iocrity ( =tune2 to boa/ ( "o's /r5g? or heal? be=e a valetud9>ian1 c4 ,! s5se :i* we "h give to ! t]m prejudices is /ill m limit$ ?an t :i* we h j giv5 to ! expression improprieties4 ,we d n mean to speak "h ( ^? errone\s judgm5ts1 ackn[l$g$ z su*1 :i* ?\gh und]m9$1 & %ak51 are /ill respect$ by t society :i* !y torm5t4 ,we wi% only to admoni% our fair read]s ( ^? unfri5dly prejudices ( nation aga9/ nation1 city aga9/ city1 & section aga9/ section2 t malevol5t disposition :i* ) a ,p>isian makes ! "n prov9cial1 synonym\s ) awkw>dness & bad ton1 & :i*1 9 ! saloons ( ! ,*ause d',ant91 all[s no favor to p]sons lodg+ 9 ! ,m>ais2 because ! p ( ! ,m>ais1 prov9cials & ,engli%m51 d n consid] x any fault to return prejudice = prejudice1 & contempt = contempt4 ,,*apt] ,,vii4 ,( ,epi/ol>y ,composition4 ,next to social communications by means ( visits & conv]sation1 are communications by means ( lett]s & billets4 ,x is n only abs5ce1 b a multiplicity ( bus9ess1 & a great numb] ( relations :i* give a v great ext5sion to ?is "p ( our social int]e/s4 ,our read]s h too mu* judgm5t to ?9k t we wi% to give !m lessons 9 /yle1 or tea* !m h[ !y %\ld write lett]s ( fri5d%ip1 ( congratulation1 ( condol5ce1 ( apology1 ( recomm5dations1 ( invitation1 ( compla9t1 or ( c5sure4 ,?is enum]ation alone1 %[s ! impossibility ( x4 ,"s g5]al reflections ^u propriety 9 epi/ol>y composition1 & /rict details ( ! =ms & c]emonial p>ts ( lett]s1 w compose ?is important *apt]4 ,,section ,i4 ,( ,propriety 9 ,lett] ,writ+4 ,if 9 conv]sation we ought to att5d to propriety ( language1 its *oice & graceful euphony1 h[ mu* m is x necess>y to endeavor to make our /yle 9 writ+ cle>1 precise1 elegant1 & appropriate to all subjects4 ,vivacity ( disc\rse =ces u frequ5tly to sacrifice happy ?\gh t>dy expressions to ! necessity ( avoid+ hesitancy2 b :at is ?us an ob/acle 9 speak+1 does n int]f]e ) ! use ( ! p54 ,we ought1 !re=e1 to avoid repetitions1 eras+1 ins]tions1 omissions1 & confusion ( ideas or labor$ con/ruction4 ,if we write a famili> lett] to an equal or a fri5d1 ^! blemi%es may rema92 b o!rwise1 we mu/ comm5ce our lett] aga94 ,! mo/ exact obs]vance ( ! rules ( language is /rictly necess>y2 a fault ( or?ography1 or an incorrect expression1 are n all[able1 ev5 9 ! lea/ c>eful lett] or ! mo/ unimportant billet4 ,ev5 correction is n admissible2 =1 besides be+ a blemi% to ! lett]1 x betrays ! ignorance or inatt5tion ( him :o writes x4 ,= ^! reasons1 x is well to make a r\gh draft1 if we are little accu/om$ to epi/ol>y /yle1 & if be+ v "y1 we _c p]fectly rememb] ! rules ( syntax1 & ! diction>y4 ,"s p]sons1 x is true1 c5sure ?is precaution1 :i*1 say !y1 m>ks ! /yle ) affectation & /iffness4 ,?is c5sure does n seem to me well-f\nd$4 ,! loss ( "t :i* ?is me?od requires1 is a m real inconv5i5ce2 & = ?is reason1 & on acc\nt ( ! emb>rassm5t ) :i* we may be tr\bl$1 x is well to accu/om ourselves to writ+ a lett] extempore ) neatness1 elegance & correctness4 ,! *oice ( mat]ials = writ+1 )\t be+ v ess5tial1 is yet necess>y2 to write on v co>se pap]1 is all[able only to ! mo/ indig5t2 to use gilt edg$ & p]fum$ pap] = lett]s ( bus9ess1 w\ld be ridicul\s4 ,! selection ( pap] ought always to be 9 keep+ ) ! p]son1 ! age1 ! sex1 & ! circum/ances ( ! correspond5ts4 ,ornam5t$ pap]1 ( :i* we h j spok52 pap] bord]$ ) color$ vignettes & emboss$ ) ornam5ts 9 relief ^u ! edges2 & pap] slightly color$ ) delicate %ades1 are design$ = "y ladies1 & ^? ^: condition1 ta/e1 & dignity1 presuppose habits ( luxury & elegance4 ,_m di/+ui%$ p1 h[ev]1 reasonably pref] simplicity 9 ?is ?+1 & make use ( v beautiful pap]1 b yet )\t ornam5t4 ,p ( bus9ess1 heads ( companies or e/abli%m5ts1 & p]sons ( di/9ction1 ) _m titles1 use pap] pr9t$ at ! top1 t is to say1 hav+ ! "n ( _! resid5ce1 ! ?ree fir/ figures ( ! date ( ! ye>1 _! address1 & ^! words1 ,mr4 ----1 7"h foll[ ! titles7 to ,mr4 ----4 ,x is extremely impolite to write a lett] ^u a s+le leaf ( pap]1 ev5 if x is a billet2 x %\ld be always d\ble1 ev5 ?\gh we write only two or ?ree l9es4 ,x is /ill m vulg> to use = an envelope1 pap] on :i* !re are "o or two words =eign to ! lett] itself1 :e!r !y be writt5 or pr9t$4 ,billets1 lett]s fold$ l5g?wise1 & half-envelopes1 are little us$4 ,a fold$ lett]1 especially if writt5 ^u vellum pap]1 %\ld be press$ at ! folds by means ( a pap]-fold]4 ,! rules ( polit5ess ought moreov] to decide z to ! exp5se ( po/age4 ,!y require u to defray ! exp5se ( ! lett] if x is writt5 to di/+ui%$ p]sons1 or to ^? ( :om we ask any favor2 b x w\ld be an incivility1 & sometimes a want ( delicacy1 to d x :5 we write to a fri5d1 an acqua9tance1 or to p]sons ( little =tune1 ^: feel+s we %\ld fe> to w\nd4 ,we mu/ !re=e1 9 ord] to save !m ! exp5se z well z to avoid dissatisfaction1 endeavor to make "s excuse ( bus9ess4 ,lett]s = new ye>'s day1 & o!r holidays1 are usually writt5 be=eh&1 9 ord] to arrive on ! previ\s or v same day4 ,?is is p>ticul>ly requir$ t[>ds relations2 = fri5ds & intimate acqua9tances1 ! foll[+ week w d1 & = o!r p]sons1 any "t )9 ! mon?4 ,x is z indisp5sable to answ] :5 y are writt5 to1 z :5 y are spok5 to1 & ! indol5ce :i* s _m correspond5ts all[ 9 !mselves1 9 ?is respect1 is an incivility4 ,& if aft] all !y decide to answ]1 !y beg9 by apologies s con/antly r5ew$1 t !y become common-place4 ,we mu/ use mu* c>e t ^! excuses may n be ridicul\s4 ,concis5ess1 & "s new t]ms ( expression1 are1 9 ?is case1 indisp5sable4 ,! same obs]vation is applicable 9 mak+ use ( reprov+ t]ms4 ,lett]s supply ! place ( visits1 z we h se51 9 be/[+ pres5ts1 or on occasions ( m>riages1 fun]als1 c42 to neglect to write 9 a simil> case1 is gross impolit5ess4 ,two p]sons %\ld n write 9 ! same lett]1 by "o writ+ ^u ! fir/1 & ano!r ^u ! second leaf1 except we are intimate ) ! correspond5t4 ,! same is applicable to po/scripts4 ,x is n all[able1 except to famili> fri5ds1 to use expressions borr[$ f =eign languages1 z = in/ance ! phrase ( ! ,italians1 ,i kiss y\r h&s1 c4 ,! language ( m5 :o write to ladies ought always to h a poli% ( respect1 ) :i* ! latt] might disp5se 9 answ]+4 ,except on occasions ( great c]emony1 a lady ought n to address to a man su* phrases z1 ,i h ! honor to be1 c4 :ile ! latt] %\ld use ! mo/ respectful t]ms1 z ,deign1 madam1 to all[ me2 all[ me ! honor ( pres5t+ y my respects1 c4 ,y may use a l(ty /yle t[>ds p]sons to :om y owe respect2 on easy1 trifl+1 or ev5 je/+ /yle1 t[>ds a fri5d2 & a c\rte\s /yle t[>ds ladies g5]ally4 ,y %\ld n write 9 a trifl+ /yle to p]sons ( a high] /&+4 ,x sometimes happ5s t a man ( sup]ior rank honors ) 8 fri5d%ip a man ( l[] condition1 & is pleas$ t ! latt] writes to him )\t c]emony4 ,9 ?is case we may use ! privilege :i* is giv5 u2 b we mu/ take c>e n to abuse x1 & to make kn[n f "t to "t t we are ready to conf9e ourselves )9 respectful b\nds4 ,:5 y write ^u any subject1 consid] x fully be=e putt+ x ^u pap]1 & treat ( ea* topic 9 ord]1 t y may n be oblig$ to recur to any "o aga91 aft] hav+ spok5 ( ano!r ?+4 ,if y h _m subjects to treat ( 9 ! same lett]1 comm5ce ) ! mo/ important2 = if ! p]son to :om y write is int]rupt$ :ile read+ x1 he w be ! m impati5t to resume ! read+1 h[ev] little int]e/+ he may f9d x4 ,x is useful & conv5i5t to beg9 a new p>agraph at e *ange ( ! subject4 ,aft] hav+ writt5 ,sir or ,madam at ! top ( ! lett]1 we %\ld n comm5ce ) "o ( ^! phrases2 ,sir1 madam --1 y\r si/]1 has writt5 me1 t4 ,we %\ld say1 ,i und]/& by a lett] :i* madam --1 y\r si/]1 has writt5 me4 ,take c>e also1 :5 writ+ to a p]son wor?y ( respect1 n to make complim5ts to any "o4 ,b write to ?is ?ird p]son :atev] y wi% him to "k4 ,titles ( respect1 z ,lord%ip1 ,maje/y1 ,highness1 ,excell5cy1 ,honor1 ,madam1 c4 ought nev] to be abbreviat$1 ei!r 9 writ+ to ! p]sons !mselves1 or to any "o :o has acqua9tance ) !m4 ,figures are us$ only = sums & dates2 numb]s ( m51 days1 weeks1 c4 are to be writt5 at l5g?4 ,,section ,,ii4 ,( ! ,int]ior & ,ext]ior ,=m ( ,lett]s4 ,! int]ior =m ( a lett] compreh5ds ! titles & qualities ( p]sons to :om x is prop] to give !m2 ! m or less c\rte\s phrases :i* we use2 ! m or less respectful mann] ) :i* ! comm5cem5t & body ( ! lett] are to be arrang$2 & ! m or less humble t]ms :i* we are to use = ! signature1 ! address or ! sup]scription4 ,! ext]ior =m ( a lett] is :at conc]ns ! size ( ! pap]2 ! blank t we %\ld leave betwe5 ! v$ette1 7or l9e conta9+ only ! "n7 & ! fir/ l9e2 betwe5 ! la/ l9e1 ! appellation1 & signature2 ! mann] ( fold+ ! lett]1 & ! *oice & mode ( putt+ on ! seal4 ,9 address+ ! pope1 we say at ! top ( ! lett]1 ,holy ,fa!r1 or ,mo/ ,holy ,fa!r2 & in/ead ( ,y1 we %\ld say1 ,y\r ,hol9ess2 to a pr9ce c>d9al1 ,my ,"l1 & ,y\r ,mo/ ,em95t ,highness4 ,to a c>d9al1 ,my ,"l1 & ,y\r ,em95ce4 ,to an ar*bi%op or bi%op1 ,my ,"l1 & ,y\r ,grace4 ,to an emp]or or empress1 we say1 ,sire1 or ,madam2 & in/ead ( ,y1 we say1 ,y\r ,imp]ial ,maje/y4 ,to a k+ we also say1 ,sire1 & ,y\r ,maje/y4 ,to a que51 ,madam1 & ,y\r ,maje/y4 ,to ! bro!r ( a k+1 ,y\r ,royal ,highness4 ,to an elector ( ! empire1 ,y\r ,electoral ,highness4 ,to a sov]eign pr9ce1 ,y\r ,mo/ ,s]5e ,highness4 ,to a pr9ce1 ,y\r ,highness4 ,to an ambassador or m9i/]1 ,y\r ,excell5cy4 ,to ! *ancellor ( ,france1 ,my ,"l1 & ,y\r ,lord%ip4 ,! title ,excell5cy is n giv5 to ladies4 ,p]sons :o h an exact k ( ! language & usage ( ! c\rt1 "k :at is ! mo/ prop] mann] ( express+ !mselves4 ,we w give "s examples 9 :i* ! diff]5t degrees ( respect may be readily p]ceiv$4 ',i h receiv$ ! lett] ) :i* y h be5 pleas$ to honor me4' ',i h receiv$ ! lett] :i* y h done me ! favor to write to me1 :i* y h done me ! honor to write to me1 :i* y h tak5 ! tr\ble to write to me4' ,!re are "s p]sons :o comm5ce _! lett]s ) ^! words2 ,i h receiv$ y\rs ( ! #ab? curr5t2 ?is is a fault2 we %\ld say1 y\r lett]4 ,! fir/ is ! /yle ( ^? p :o1 be+ press$ ) bus9ess1 are oblig$ to make abbreviations2 & we mu/1 9 ! common cu/oms ( life1 bew>e ( imitat+ !m 9 ?is respect4 ,we may say ! same 9 respect to p]sons :o write at ! top ( _! lett]s1 ',i h receiv$ y\r honor$ lett] ( su* a date2' or1 '9 answ] to y\r honor$ lett]2' or1 ',i write y ^! few words4' ,all ^! =ms are objectionable4 ,we %\ld nev] repeat 9 ! fir/ s5t5ce ( a lett]1 ! names ,my ,"l1 ,sir1 or ,madam1 ) :i* we began4 ,b if we write to a pr9ce1 or ev5 to a m9i/]1 we %\ld aft] ! fir/ l9e use ! words1 ,y\r ,maje/y1 ,y\r ,highness1 or ,y\r ,excell5cy1 & repeat !m f "t to "t1 9 ! c\rse ( ! lett]1 if x is ( "s l5g?4 ,z to ! conclusion ( a lett]1 we %\ld n say simply1 ,i am1 )\t add+ "s su* phrase z ^!2 ,) ! mo/ pr(\nd respect2 ) pr(\nd respect1 ) ! highe/ reg>d1 c4 ,to p]sons :o h ! title ( maje/y1 highness1 em95ce1 c4 we say1 ,i am y\r maje/y's1 or y\r highness's1 c4 v humble1 c4 ,! words e/eem & affection are us$ only 9 lett]s to fri5ds or acqua9tance1 because !y are too famili>2 b :5 accompani$ by any words :i* relieve !m1 !y d n (f5d "o4 ,z = example1 we c say1 ,i am ) pr(\nd respect1 & ! highe/ e/eem1 c4 ,! foll[+ =ms may be us$ ) elegance2 ,accept1 ,sir1 ! assurances ( high consid]ation2 be pleas$ to accept ! assurances1 c4 ,lett]s ( petition or reque/ %\ld be 9 folio1 t is to say1 ^u a %eet ( pap] 9 its full size2 ! m>g9 %\ld be half ! bread? ( ! page2 ! spaces & blanks :i* we ought to leave betwe5 ! upp] edge ( ! pap] & ! v$ette1#af & betwe5 ! v$ette & ! fir/ l9e1 are v diff]5t1 accord+ to ! degree ( inf]iority or sup]iority4 ,! great] ^! spaces are1 ! m respect d !y indicate4 ,! fir/ l9e ought always to beg9 bel[ ! middle ( ! page1 :5 we write to a p]son to :om we owe mu* respect2 b ! second page %\ld beg9 "o l9e bel[ ! v$ette4 ,a blank space %\ld always be left betwe5 ! la/ words ( ! signature1 & ! l[] edge ( ! pap]4 ,if !re %\ld n be suffici5t room1 x w\ld be bett] to c>ry "o or two l9es ov] to ! succe$+ page1 ?an to fail 9 ?is respect4 ,= a famili> lett]1 x has become fa%ionable to leave no m>g9 at all4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 9 ^! lett]s only t m>g9s c be useful1 namely1 9 receiv+ a v]tical l9e :5 all ! pap] is fill$4 ,! date ( a lett] may be put at ! beg9n+ :5 we write to an equal2 b 9 writ+ to a sup]ior1 x %\ld be at ! end1 9 ord] t ! title at ! head ( ! lett] may be entirely alone4 ,9 lett]s ( bus9ess1 on ! contr>y1 x is necess>y to date at ! top & on ! fir/ l9e1 t p]sons may "k conv5i5tly1 ! *ronological ord] ( _! communications4 ,! date is (t5 necess>y to ! und]/&+ ( _m passages ( y\r lett]1 or to expla9 ! s5se ( "o :i* y\r correspond5t may h receiv$ at ! same "t f ano!r p]son4 ,9 a simple billet1 we put ! date ( ! day1 ,monday1 c4 ,x is well sometimes to add ! h\r4 ,e lett] to a sup]ior ought to be fold$ 9 an envelope4 ,x %[s a want ( respect to seal ) a waf]2 we mu/ use seal+-wax4 ,m5 usually select r$2 b "y ladies use gilt1 rose1 & o!r colors4 ,bo? use black wax :5 !y are 9 m\rn+4 ,except 9 ?is la/ case1 ! color is immat]ial1 b n ! size1 = v l>ge ones are 9 bad ta/e4 ,! small] & m glossy1 ! bett] ton !y are4 ,al?\gh seal+-wax is pref]able1 /ill we mu/ sometimes avoid us+ x2 x is :5 we are afraid t ! seal may be op5$4 ,:5 ! lett] is clos$ ) or )\t an envelope1 we put only a s+le seal ^u x2 b if ! lett] is l>ge1 we use two4 ,moreov]1 if x conta9s important pap]s1 x %\ld h ?ree seals or m1 accord+ to ! nature ( ! envelope4 ,if a p]son takes *>ge ( a lett] z a favor1 x w\ld be v impolite to put m ?an "o seal ^u x4 ,if ! lett] %\ld be fold$ 9 su* a mann] t by p>tly op5+ x at ! end1 its cont5ts may be read1 x w\ld be equally impolite to put a little wax ^u ! edges4 ,we c use ?is precaution only :5 ! lett] is s5t by ! po/ or by a dome/ic4 ,:5 we use no envelope1 & ! ?ird page ( ! lett] is all writt5 ^u1 we %\ld leave a small blank space :]e ! seal is to be put2 )\t ?is precaution1 _m v important words w be cov]$4 ,we %\ld n seal a lett] ( respect ) an antique device4 ,x is m polite to use our coat ( arms or ciph]4 ,p]sons ( ta/e1 :o h no coat ( arms1 adopt a seal be>+ "s +5i\s device1 9 keep+ ) _! pr(ession1 s5tim5ts1 c4 ,a lett] :i* is to be %[n1 z a lett] ( introduction or recomm5dation1 ought nev] to be seal$1 s9ce ! be>] ought necess>ily to "k ! cont5ts4 ,b to seal x )\t hav+ fir/ all[$ ! be>] to read x1 w\ld be v impolite4 ,y %\ld prove to ! p]son recomm5d$1 t y h sp>$ no pa9s to r5d] him a s]vice4 ,x is only conscripts1 & peasants1 :o fold a lett] l an apo!c>y's packet1 :o omit to press ! waf] ) a seal1 or secure x by prick+ x 9 e "p ) ! po9t ( a p94 ,we nev] seal petitions :i* are to be pres5t$ to ! k+1 & to ! memb]s ( ! royal family4 ,"s di/+ui%$ p]sons are flatt]$ 9 writ+ to !m1 by our omitt+ to designate precisely _! address4 ,x is an error2 we %\ld indicate ) exactness ! t[n1 & ! prov9ce1 /ate1 c4 if !re is m ?an "o t[n ( ! same "n4 ,9 a l>ge city1 x is well to write ! "n ( ! /reet & numb]1 & ! qu>t] ( ! city :]e ! /reet is4 ,p ( bus9ess1 abbreviate ?is by putt+ ,n & ! numb]1 or ! numb] alone2 ?is practice is m exp$iti\s ?an polite4 ,we g5]ally address a lett] to "o p]son only2 b 9 c]ta9 cases we may address to two or m collectively4 ,x is well to add to ! "n1 ! title or pr(ession1 9 ord] to prev5t mi/ake4 ,h[ev]1 if circum/ances h oblig$ any "o ( y\r acqua9tance to act 9 an inf]ior situation1 x w\ld be a want ( delicacy to jo9 to 8 "n t ( 8 bus9ess4 ,:5 we write to ! k+1 we put simply 9 ! address1 ,to ! ,k+4 ,to =eign k+s we say1 ,to 8 ,ca?olic ,maje/y1 8 ,britannic ,maje/y1 c4 ,to p]sons :o h ! title ( highness1 we say1 ,to 8 ,highness1 & !n _! quality or rank4 ,to m9i/]s & ambassadors1 we say1 ,to 8 ,excell5cy1 ! ,m9i/]1 or ,ambassador4 ,if a p]son has _m titles1 we select ! highe/1 & omit ! o!rs4 ,9 billets1 we put ! date at ! top ( ! pap]1 & beg9 ! lett] ab\t two in*es bel[4 ,! ^w ,sir is put 9 ! fir/ l9e4 ,we conclude ) "o ( ^! phrases1 ,i am1 ,sir1 y\rs2 ,i am entirely y\rs1 c4 ,we d n write a billet to ladies1 or to sup]iors1 z ?is 0 introduc$ only to avoid c]emony4 ,! mo/ famili> billets are writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 contr>y to ! common practice4 ,!y conta9 v little1 & beg9 ?us1 ,mr4 or ,madam ,n pres5t _! respects1 or complim5ts1 to ,mr4 ,su*-a-"o1 & reque/1 c4 ,aft] hav+ made ! reque/1 we end )1 & he w oblige 8 humble s]vant4 ,9 ?is k9d ( billets1 x is be/ n to use ! pron\n he or %e1 = indep5d5tly ( ! incivility1 x might result 9 confusion4 ,sometimes x w\ld be difficult to "k :e!r ! pron\n ref]r$ to ! p]son :o receiv$ ! lett]1 or to ! "o :o wrote x4 ,i %all conclude ?is *apt] by an obs]vation relative to fri5dly & famili> lett]s2 n t ,i h ! folly to pret5d to regulate by any c]emonial1 ! s5tim5ts ( ! he>t2 b !re is 9 reality no?+ m cold & ridicul\s1 ?an accumulations ( epi!ts l ^!1 ,y\r t5d]1 s9c]e & con/ant fri5d1 c4 #af ,see page #acg4 ,,*apt] ,,viii4 ,additional ,rules 9 respect to ! ,social ,relations4 ,i include "u ?is "n1 ev]y?+ relat+ to fri5dly att5tions1 su* z s]vices1 loans1 pres5ts1 advice1 & also ?+s 9 relation to discretion1 su* z respect 9 conv]sation1 lett]s1 secrets1 confid5tial communications1 c4 ,,section ,i4 ,( an ,oblig+ ,deportm5t4 ,polite p]sons are necess>ily oblig+4 ,a smile is always on _! lips1 an e>ne/ness 9 _! c\nt5ance1 :5 we ask a favor ( !m4 ,!y "k t to r5d] a s]vice ) a bad grace1 is 9 reality n to r5d] x4 ,if !y are oblig$ to refuse a favor1 !y d ?is ) mildness & delicacy2 !y express su* feel+ regret1 t !y /ill inspire u ) gratitude2 9 %ort1 _! conduct appe>s s p]fectly natural1 t x really seems t ! opportunity :i* is (f]$ !m ( oblig+ u1 is oblig+ !mselves2 !y refuse all our ?anks1 )\t affectation or ef=t4 ,?is amiable "*1 a necess>y att5dant ( p]fect good bre$+1 is n always f\nd ) all its *>ms1 9 ! _w4 ,!re are besides1 "s oblig+ p]sons1 :o =ce u to extort _! s]vices1 :o feel ( great consequ5ce1 :o l to be supplicat$ & ?ank$ to excess4 ,d n imitate !m3 !y make u ungrateful 9 spite ( ourselves1 !y make gratitude a pa9 & a burd54 ,:5 "o asks ( y any favor1 reply k9dly1 ,i am at y\r s]vice1 & %all be v happy to r5d] y any assi/ance 9 my p[]2 or else1 ) a sad mann]1 lam5t t !re is su* an ob/acle1 c4 ,!n exam9e ! means ( ov]com+ ! ob/acle1 ev5 if y %\ld be assur$ be=eh& t none exi/s4 ,o!r p]sons1 pret5d+ to be polite1 make prote/ations ( _! s]vices & zeal1 )\t tak+ ! tr\ble to abide by _! (f]s :5 an occasion is af=d$ !m3 s great is _! trifl+ 9 ?is respect t !y c be ju/ly comp>$ to ^? false h]oes :o are always talk+ ( fight+1 & :o w\ld be put to flight at ! sight ( a drawn sword4 ,^! indications ( zeal are suspici\s1 :5 !y are employ$ e mom5t & )\t any reason2 a k ( ! _w tea*es u to disc]n !m1 & to give !m t degree ( confid5ce :i* !y m]it4 ,sometimes we c congratulate p]sons1 wi% !m well1 & h ! appe>ance ( tak+ an int]e/ 9 ! recital :i* !y are mak+ ( _! affairs1 )\t really feel+ ! lea/ int]e/ = !m4 ,we _c always comm& our indiff]5ce 9 ?is respect1 b we are oblig$ to sp>e !m t con/ra9t & ennui1 :i* w\ld infallibly be %[n if we %\ld manife/ to !m ! coldness :i* !y inspire4 ,x belongs to ^? p]sons :o "k ! _w1 n to conf\nd ?is polit5ess1 ) ! pret5d$ zeal ( ! ,don ,quixottes ( ! draw+-room1 ( :om we h spok5 above4 ,9 ord] t a s]vice may be complet$1 x is necess>y t x %\ld be done quickly1 no?+ be+ m disoblig+ ?an t>d9ess1 & ! alt]native1 :i* y place a p]son 91 ei!r ( address+ to y new solicitations1 or ( suff]+ by y\r delay4 ,y\r t>dy assi/ance may p]haps be prejudicial1 = "o w\ld suff] a long "t be=e resolv+ to importune y anew4 ,make use !n ( despat*4 ,if any circum/ances prev5t y f act+1 in=m ! p]son1 apologise1 & promise to make rep>ation = y\r neglect4 ,on 8 "p1 ! p]son :o is "u ! obligation to y1 %\ld be c>eful ( us+ a s+le t]m ( reproa* & ( acco/+ y ) an air ( dissatisfaction4 ,:5 any "o :o is visit+ y has ne$ ( a %awl1 a h&k]*ief1 a hat1 (f] x ) a complaisant zeal1 resi/ ! refusal :i* is made 7& :i* propriety does n require7 select ! be/ y h1 9 %ort1 urge ! p]sons n to be 9 ha/e to return ! articles4 ,if x is v bad wea!r1 & ! occasion a prop] "o1 (f] an umbrella or y\r c>riage4 ,^! ?+s are return$ ! next day by a dome/ic1 :o is *>g$ to ?ank ! p]son = !m4 ,if ! articles are l951 !y %\ld n be return$ be=e !y are wa%$4 ,:5 a lady has borr[$ ornam5ts ( ano!r1 z = in/ance1 jewels1 ! latt] %\ld always (f] to l5d h] m ?an are ask$ =3 %e ought also to keep a pr(\nd sil5ce ab\t ! ?+s :i* %e has l5t1 & ev5 ab/a9 f we>+ !m = "s "t aft]w>ds1 9 ord] t !y may n be recognis$4 ,if any "o1 p]ceiv+ !y 7 borr[$1 %\ld speak to ! p]son ( x1 he w\ld pass = an ill-br$ man4 ,if ! borr[] speaks to y ( x1 x is well to reply t nobody _h recognis$ !m4 ,all ?is advice is m9ute1 b :at k9d w y h8 x conc]ns female self-e/eem4 ,"o species ( borr[+ :i* is ( daily occurr5ce1 & happ5s v (t5 to ! loss ( ! own]s1 is ! borr[+ ( books4 ,p]sons are s want+ 9 delicacy on ?is subject1 t ^? :o h a passion = books1 & :o are v oblig+ 9 o!r respects1 are =c$ to refuse mak+ ^! tr\blesome loans4 ,! case1 h[ev]1 is a v p]plex+ "o2 we _c say1 ,i am n will+ to l5d y ?is "w2 b if ! borr[] is a suspici\s p]son1 we c say we h occasion to use x1 t we regret x v mu*1 b t we w l5d x to him 9 a few days4 ,h[ev]1 we d n l5d x at all4 ,well-br$ p]sons d n make a b>e reque/ = a book2 !y wait until x is (f]$1 & !n !y accept ! (f] hesitat+ly2 !y f9d out ! l5g? ( "t !y c keep x1 & return x punctually at ! appo9t$ day4 ,9 ord] to prev5t e accid5t1 !y cov] x ) clo? or pap]1 s9ce ! favor %\ld r5d] !m m c>eful ?an ! value ( ! book2 !y also take c>e n to turn d[n ! leaves1 or make m>ks1 m>g9al notes1 c4 ,if any accid5t happ5s to a borr[$ article1 we mu/ repair ! loss imm$iately4 ,i %all n speak ( m important loans1 :i* are out ( ! range ( polit5ess4 ,,section ,,ii4 ,( ,pres5ts4 ,9 ! eyes ( p]sons ( delicacy1 pres5ts are n ( wor?1 except f ! mann] 9 :i* !y are be/[$2 9 our advice1 !n1 let u /rive to give !m ?is value4 ,pres5ts are (f]$ fir/ to relations & to fri5ds2 & !y occur "u diff]5t circum/ances2 on our arrival at a place f :i* we h be5 abs5t = a long "t2 :5 our intimate fri5ds leave ! t[n 9 :i* we reside2 on our return f a j\rney1 p>ticul>ly to ! capital2 9 rem>kable & remote c\ntries2 on bir? days1 or days ( baptism1 or new ye>'s day4 ,b ?is day is n ! only occasion ( ex*ang+ pres5ts 9 a family1 x is also an occasion = recollect+ s]vices & civilities2 ( mak+ our respects to ladies1 to sup]iors :om we wi% to honor4 ,x moreov] (f]s u a delicate means ( succor+ ! un=tunate4 ,secondly1 at h>ve/ "t1 if "o owns l&1 9 ! hunt+ season1 if "o is a hunt]1 x is 9 good ton to s5d to our intimate fri5ds1 f9e fruits1 r>e fl[]s1 or "s *oice articles ( game4 ,! mo/ delicate pres5ts are ! productions ( our own indu/ry2 a draw+1 a piece ( ne$le "w1 ornam5tal hair-"w1 c4 ,b su* (f]+s1 ?\gh invaluable among fri5ds1 are n us$ on occasions ( c]emony4 ,next to fitness ( "t = pres5ts1 comes fitness 9 ! selection ( !m2 g5]ally1 luxury & elegance ought to reign 9 ! latt]2 b ?is rule has num]\s exceptions3 & al?\gh x w\ld be out ( place to (f] ?+s purely useful 7to :i* c]ta9 incid5ts w\ld give ! appe>ance ( *>ity7 /ill we %\ld be 9 an error to suppose t a pres5t is suitable1 :i* is brilliant alone4 ,x mu/ by all means be adapt$ to ! ta/e1 age1 & pr(essions ( p]sons1 & _! connexions ) u4 ,?us to sup]iors1 y (f] fruits1 game1 c4 to a /ud5t1 books2#ag to a fri5d ( ! arts1 music1 or engrav+s2 to "y m>ri$ ladies1 delicate & graceful articles ( ! toilet1 c4 ,pres5ts %\ld excite surprise & pleasure1 !re=e y ought to involve !m 9 a my/]y1 & pres5t !m ) an air ( joyful k9dness4 ,:5 y h made y\r (f]+1 & ?anks h be5 elicit$1 d n br+ back ! conv]sation to ! same subject2 be c>eful1 p>ticul>ly1 ( mak+ y\r gift ( consequ5ce4 ,on ! contr>y1 :5 its m]it has be5 extoll$1 :5 ! p]sons :o h receiv$ ! pres5t1 h ev9c$ a lively satisfaction1 say t ! gift receives all its value f _! op9ion ( x4 ,h[ev] slight *>m a pres5t may h1 or if ev5 insignificant1 we %\ld be ill-br$ n to manife/ mu* pleasure 9 receiv+ x4 ,x is besides1 necess>y1 :5 an opportunity (f]s1 to speak ( x1 n to fail ( say+ to ! donor1 h[ useful or agreeable 8 pres5t is to y4 ,9 proportion z a long space ( "t has elaps$1 ?is att5tion is ! m amiable2 x proves t y h pres]v$ ! object ) c>e4 ,& ?is rem9ds me1 t we %\ld nev] give away a pres5t :i* we h receiv$ f ano!r p]son1 or at lea/ t we %\ld s arrange x1 t x may nev] be kn[n4 ,x is well to m+le ) our manife/ations ( gratitude1 "s exceptions to ! high value ( ! gift1 b n to dwell a long "t on ! subject1 or to exclaim ab\t x ) e>ne/ness4 ,"u "s circum/ances1 ^! declamations may seem dictat$ by av>ice & a want ( delicacy2 !y are besides 9 bad ta/e at all times4 ,we (t5 make a pres5t to "s "o ?r\gh 8 *ildr5 or wife1 especially on new ye>'s day1 :5 x is ! cu/om to pres5t at lea/ confection>y to ! "y families ( "o's acqua9tance4 ,at ,p>is1 we make su* pres5ts to m>ri$ ladies2 9 ! prov9cial t[ns1 we d n4 ,above all1 :5 "o has receiv$ a pres5t ( "s value1 he calls ^u ! p]son :o gave x1 or1 if ! di/ance is great1 addresses to him a lett] ( ?anks4 ,e "o kn[s t cu/om requires u to make a remun]ation ( a proportionate value1 to ! dome/ic :o is ! be>] ( ! pres5t4 #ag ,x is n polite1 :5 ! pres5ts are pamphlets1 to (f] ^? ( :i* y h cut ! leaves4 ,,section ,,iii4 ,( ,advice4 ,advice is a v good ?+1 x is true2 x is h[ev] a ?+ :i* 9 society is ! mo/ displeas+4 ,a giv] ( advice1 :o is incessantly repeat+1 ,if ,i 0 9 y\r place1 ,i %\ld d s & s1 repels e "o by 8 pride & indiscretion4 ,su* an imp]t95t p]son %\ld "k1 t he ought n to give advice )\t he is ask$1 & t ! numb] ( ^? :o ask x is v limit$3 we are n1 h[ev]1 speak+ "h ( gratifications ( vanity1 b ( t advice1 ! k9dness & affection ( :i*1 gives x a claim to our att5tion4 ,x is necess>y to use mu* res]ve & c>e1 because o!rwise y w\ld seem to h a tone ( sup]iority :i* w\ld array ! self-e/eem ( y\r fri5d aga9/ y\r wise/ c\nsels4 ,( ! =ms ( mode/y1 no "o 9 ?is place is sup]flu\s3 we may say1 ,x is possible t ,i am mi/ak51 ,i %\ld be f> f hav+ ! c\rage to enquire ( y1 c4 ,if a p]son makes any objections1 d n say1 ,y d n und]/& me1 b1 ,i h n express$ myself prop]ly4 ,,section ,,iv4 ,( ,discretion4 ,! duties ( discretion are s s5sibly felt by p]sons ( good bre$+1 t !y d n violate !m except ?r\gh =getfulness4 ,x w be en\gh !n to make an enum]ation ( !m1 )\t int5d+ to po9t out _! necessity4 ,discretion requires 9 ! fir/ place1 respect ) reg>d to conv]sation4 ,if1 :5 we ent] ! h\se ( any "o1 we he> p]sons talk+ 9 an e>ne/ mann]1 we /ep m heavily1 9 ord] to give notice to ^? :o are engag$ 9 ! conv]sation4 ,if1 9 an assembly1 two p]sons retire by !mselves to speak ( bus9ess1 we %\ld be c>eful n to approa* !m1 nor speak to !m until !y h sep>at$4 ,p :o h liv$ a little 9 ! _w1 "k h[ ess5tial x is n to m+le ) curiosity 9 ! bus9ess ( p]sons :om we visit2 nor are !y ignorant :at conduct is to be obs]v$ 9 case we surprise p]sons by an unexpect$ call2 b "y p]sons may n "k1 & ,i beg !m to give _! att5tion to x4 ,:5 we see a p]son occupi$1 we retire1 or at lea/ make signs ( x2 if !y %\ld deta9 u1 we /ep aside1 & appe> to be exam9+ a picture1 or look+ out ( ! w9d[1 9 ord] to prove t we take no notice ( :at engages !m4 ,b ! desire to f9d = ourselves "s su* occupation1 ought n to lead u to turn ov] ! leaves ( books plac$ ^u ! *imney-piece or else:]e2 to run ov] a pamphlet2 or to h&le visit+ c>ds1 or lett]s1 ev5 ?\gh x be only to read ! sup]scription4 ,if ! p]son visit$ %\ld be op5+ a closet or draw]s1 x w\ld be rude curiosity to approa* 9 ord] to see :at 0 conta9$ !re4 ,if1 among a numb] ( valuable ?+s1 !y take "o to %[ y1 be satisfi$ ) look+ at t alone1 )\t appe>+ to ?9k ( ! o!rs4 ,if1 be=e ! p]son visit$ comes 91 we %\ld see ano!r visitor1 :o1 to pass ! "t1 %\ld take a j\rnal or a book f 8 pocket1 x w\ld be extremely impolite to read ov] 8 %\ld]1 & equally uncivil to read :at a p]son is writ+4 ,x is n all[able to take d[n ! books f a libr>y2 b we may1 & we ev5 ought to read ! titles1 9 ord] to praise ! good ta/e :i* has be5 %[n 9 ! *oice ( ! works4 ,if x happ5s t any "o exhibits to a circle "s r>e & valuable object1 d n be 9 ha/e to ask = x1 or to take x by rea*+ out y\r h&2 wait mode/ly until x comes to y2 d n exam9e x too long :5 y h x1 & if by *ance any ill-br$ p]son reque/s x be=e y h se5 x1 d n deta9 x2 x is bett] to suff] ?is small privation ?an to pass = a badly educat$ virtuoso4 ,h[ev] insignificant ! boa/$ object may be1 nev] criticise x2 if y\r op9ion is ask$1 answ] a few words ( praise2 if ! ?+ is really curi\s1 ab/a9 f exagg]at$ complim5ts4 ,to violate ! secresy ( lett]s1 "u any pretext :atev]1 is s base & odi\s1 t ,i d>e n say a ^w ab\t x2 ,i ?9k1 ,i ought to say1 t x is also v repreh5sible to endeavor to read any "p ( a lett] fold$ 9 su* a mann] z to be p>tly op5 at ! ends2 & :5 a c]ta9 passage 9 a lett] conc]n+ y\rself is h&$ y to read1 y %\ld put y\r f+] bel[ x 9 ord] n to read any?+ m2 & if y are all[$ to add any?+ 9 a lett]1 h ! discretion n to ca/ y\r eyes ov] ! re/1 & be exp$iti\s s z to avoid ! suspicion t y take advantage ( ! circum/ance4 ,polit5ess is also oppos$1 9 c]ta9 cases1 to a too great ha/e to "k any?+ relat+ to ourselves4 ,= example1 if a p]son br+s y a lett]1 y %\ld n be 9 a hurry to op5 x1 b see :e!r ! lett] conc]ns ! be>] at all1 or only y\rself4 ,9 ! fir/ case1 y %\ld op5 x1 & read x :ile he is pres5t2 9 ! o!r case1 y %\ld lay x aside4 ,polit5ess does n1 h[ev]1 impose su* re/ra9ts ^u curiosity 9 small ?+s1 & leave u free 9 important ones4 ,?us1 we %all n say t we ought religi\sly to keep a secret1 & t confid5ce receiv$ is a sacr$ deposit2 b we %all say to p]sons :o h curiosity to "k any private circum/ance1 t !y ought to be fill$ ) %ame if !y d n desi/ all importunity z soon z !y he> ! ^w1 x is a secret4 ,,*apt] ,,ix4 ,( ,travell+4 ,?is *apt]1 al?\gh only accessory1 & b remotely connect$ ) ! social relations1 %\ld be add$ "h2 z we d n wi% to make any volunt>y omission1 &1 besides1 if 9 travell+1 ! duties ( polit5ess are less num]\s1 !y are n1 !re=e1 less obligatory4 ,p]sons ab\t to travel1 ought to make visits ( tak+ leave among _! acqua9tances1 ( :om !y %\ld ask if !y h any comm&s = !m4 ,x w\ld be indiscreet1 unless 9 case ( p]fect intimacy1 to accept ?is (f]1 or to ask !m to take *>ge ( su* or su* a ?+1 especially if x is a packet2 if p]sons are v intimate1 we may reque/ !m to let u he> ( _! arrival4 ,be=e _! dep>ture1 ! names ( pass5g]s are ent]$ 9 ! ord] ( _! numb]s1 at ! public coa* (fices4 ,aft] ?is1 ea* "o takes ! place assign$ him4 ,polit5ess1 h[ev]1 requires t a man %\ld (f] 8 seat to a lady :o is less well accommodat$2 = x w\ld be improp] t he %\ld be seat$ ^u ! back seat1 :ile %e %\ld be seat$ ^u ! front "o4 ,"s p]sons _c be> ! motion ( a coa* :5 !y ride backw>ds2 & ?is mann] ( rid+ incommodes !m extremely4 ,polite travell]s w take pleasure 9 reliev+ !m f ?is tr\ble4 ,ladies1 on _! "p1 ought n to require too mu*1 nor put to too sev]e a te/ ! complaisance ( g5tlem54 ,! latt]1 h[ev]1 %\ld at e /opp+ place1 att5tively help !m alight1 by (f]+ ! h&1 & direct+ _! feet on ! /ep ( ! coa*4 ,! same ?+ is necess>y 9 assi/+ !m to get 9 aga94 ,x w\ld appe> badly1 to take advantage ( "o's sup]iority ( rank1 to consult 8 own conv5i5ce alone4 ,x is necess>y on ! contr>y1 = him to h great c>e n to incommode any "o1 & to %[ e civility to 8 fell[ travell]s4 ,polit5ess 9 travell+ is n s rigor\s z 9 society2 x only requires t we %\ld n incommode our companions2 t we %\ld be agreeable to !m2 t we %\ld politely answ] _! que/ions2 b x leaves u free to read1 sleep1 look ab\t1 or obs]ve sil5ce1 c4 ,a travell] w\ld be uncivil if he %\ld op5 or %ut ! w9d[s ( ! coa* )\t consult+ ! p :o are ) him2 or1 if he %\ld1 )\t (f]+ to !m1 take any light & delicate food1 z fruits1 cakes1 or confection>y1 b :i* !y d n g5]ally accept2 & he w\ld appe> disagreeable1 if1 kn[+ ! r\te1 he %\ld n po9t out ! beautiful sites1 & satisfy any que/ions conc]n+ !m2 f9ally1 he w\ld des]ve ! "n ( an imprud5t prat]1 if he %\ld conv]se ) 8 fell[ travell]s z ) intimate acqua9tances4 ,on our return1 we %\ld c>ry or s5d ! commissions :i* we h receiv$4 ,p>tial acqua9tances1 to :om we h (f]$ only by writ+1 to take _! comm&s1 %\ld n expect a visit on our return2 ?is "r belongs only to relations1 fri5ds1 or intimate acqua9tances4 ,f9ally1 all ^? = :om y h execut$ any commissions1 owe y a visit ( ?anks z soon z x c be done4 ,if y travel on horseback1 9 di/+ui%$ company1 give !m ! "r1 & keep a little beh9d1 regulat+ y\rself by ! progress ( y\r companions4 ,!re is "o exception to ?is rule2 x is :5 "o ( ! two horses is skitti%1 s t x is absolutely necess>y t ! o!r %\ld pass on fir/1 t ?is "o may foll[4 ,if y happ5 to be on ! w9dw>d side1 s t y ?r[ du/ ^u y\r companion1 y %\ld *ange y\r position4 ,:5 we pass by trees1 ! bran*es ( :i* are ab\t ! height ( ! %\ld]s1 ! "o :o goes fir/ ought to take c>e t ! bran*es1 9 go+ back to _! =m] situation1 %\ld n /rike ) viol5ce aga9/ ! p]son :o foll[s4 ,if y are pass+ a l>ge /ream1 a small riv]1 or a muddy pool1 by =d+1 x is polite to g fir/2 b if we h n tak5 precautions1 & fall 9 ! re>1 we ought to keep at a di/ance1 s t ! horse's feet may n spatt] ! wat] or mud ^u ! g5tleman be=e u4 ,if y\r companion gallops 8 horse1 y %\ld nev] pass him1 nor make y\r horse cap]1 unless he signifies t x is agreeable to him4 ,,"p ,,iii4 ,,( ,,propriety ,,9 ,,relation ,,to ,,pleasures4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,( ,ent]ta9m5ts4 ,polit5ess ought1 z we h se51 to direct & embelli% all ! circum/ances ( life2 b x is1 if possible1 /ill m necess>y 9 relation to pleasures1 :i*1 )\t x1 w\ld h no attraction4 ,)\t int5d+ to adopt ! epigrammatic /yle1 ,i w say t d9+ is almo/ an ev5t1 s _m po9ts ( propriety h ! ma/] ( ! h\se & 8 gue/s to obs]ve4 ,:5 we int5d giv+ an ent]ta9m5t1 we beg9 by select+ su* gue/s z may enjoy !mselves toge!r1 or at lea/ tol]ate "o ano!r4 ,if x is to be compos$ ( g5tlem51 !re %\ld be no lady pres5t1 except ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,! d9n] be+ det]m9$ ^u1 we give out two or ?ree days be=eh&1 v]bal or writt5 invitations4 ,dur+ ! c>nival or o!r season ( gaiety1 x is necess>y to d x at lea/ five days 9 advance1 on acc\nt ( ! num]\s engagem5ts4 ,:5 we receive a writt5 invitation1 we mu/ answ] imm$iately :e!r we accept or n1 al?\gh sil5ce may be consid]$ equival5t to an acceptance4 ,9 ! latt] case1 we %\ld give a plausible reason ( our decl9+1 & d x ) polit5ess4 ,:5 ! invitation is v]bal1 we mu/ avoid be+ urg$2 = no?+ is m fooli% & disoblig+2 we ought ei!r to accept or refuse 9 a frank & fri5dly mann]1 (f]+ "s reasonable motive = decl9+1 to :i* we %\ld n aga9 ref]4 ,x is n all[able to be urg$1 except :5 we are reque/$ to d9e ) someone :om we h se5 only at ! h\se ( a ?ird p]son1 or :5 we are invit$ on a visit or o!r simil> occasion4 ,9 ! =m] case1 if we accept1 we %\ld fir/ leave a c>d 9 ord] to op5 ! acqua9tance4 ,hav+ once accept$1 we _c break our engagem5t1 unless = a mo/ urg5t cause4 ,an invitation ought to specify exactly ! h\r ( meet+1 & y %\ld arrive precisely at t h\r4 ,! table %\ld be ready1 & ! mi/ress ( ! h\se 9 ! draw+-room1 to receive ! gue/s4 ,:5 !y are all assembl$1 a dome/ic ann\nces t ! d9n] is s]v$ up2 at ?is signal we rise imm$iately1 & wait until ! ma/] ( ! h\se reque/s u to pass into ! d9+-room1 :i!r he conducts u1 by go+ be=e4 ,x is q common = ! lady ( ! h\se to act z guide1 :ile he (f]s 8 h& to ! lady ( mo/ di/9ction4 ,! gue/s also give _! arms to ladies1 :om !y conduct z f> z ! table1 & to ! place :i* !y are to occupy4 ,take c>e1 if y are n ! pr9cipal gue/1 n to (f] y\r h& to ! h&some/ or mo/ di/+ui%$ lady2 = x is a great impolit5ess4 ,hav+ arriv$ at ! table1 ea* gue/ respectfully salutes ! lady :om he conducts1 & :o 9 turn b[s also4 ,x is "o ( ! fir/ & mo/ difficult ?+s prop]ly to arrange ! gue/s1 & to place !m 9 su* a mann] t ! conv]sation may always be g5]al dur+ ! ent]ta9m5t2 we %\ld z mu* z possible avoid putt+ next "o ano!r1 two p]sons ( ! same pr(ession2 = x w\ld necess>ily result 9 an aside conv]sation1 :i* w\ld injure ! g5]al conv]sation1 & consequ5tly ! gaiety ( ! occasion4 ,! two mo/ di/+ui%$ g5tlem5 are plac$ next ! mi/ress ( ! h\se2 ! two mo/ di/+ui%$ ladies next ! ma/] ( ! h\se2 ! "r h& is especially ! place ( honor4 ,if ! numb] ( g5tlem5 is ne>ly equal to t ( ! ladies1 we %\ld take c>e to int]m+le !m2 we %\ld sep>ate husb&s f _! wives1 & remove ne> relations z f> f "o ano!r z possible1 because be+ always toge!r1 !y ought n to conv]se among !mselves 9 a g5]al p>ty4 ,! y\ng] gue/s1 or ^? ( less di/9ction1 are plac$ at ! l[] end ( ! table4 ,9 ord] to be able to wat* ! c\rse ( ! d9n]1 & to see t no?+ is want+ to _! gue/s1 ! ma/] & mi/ress ( ! h\se usually seat !mselves 9 ! c5tre ( ! table1 opposite ea* o!r4 ,z soon z ! gue/s are seat$1 ! lady ( ! h\se s]ves 9 plates1 f a pile at h] left h&1 ! s\p :i* %e s5ds r\nd1 beg9n+ ) h] neighbors at ! "r & left1 & cont9u+ 9 ! ord] ( _! di/9ction4 ,^! fir/ plates usually pass twice1 = e "o endeavors to make 8 neighbor accept :atev] is s5t him4 ,! ma/] ( ! h\se c>ves or causes to be c>v$ by "s exp]t gue/s1 ! l>ge pieces1 9 ord] aft]w>ds to d ! honors himself4 ,if y h no skill 9 c>v+ meats1 y %\ld n attempt x2 & nev] dis*>ge ?is duty except :5 y\r good (fices are solicit$ by him2 nei!r c we refuse f 8 h& any?+ s5t u4 ,a ma/] ( a h\se ought nev] to pride himself ^u :at appe>s on 8 table1 nor confuse himself ) apologies = ! bad *e] :i* he (f]s y2 x is mu* bett] = him to obs]ve sil5ce 9 ?is respect1 & leave x to 8 gue/s to pron\nce eulogiums on ! d9n]2 nei!r is x 9 good ton to urge gue/s to eat nor to load _! plate aga9/ _! w4 ,i w n[ give a few words ( advice to gue/s2 pu]ile x may be1 b :i* x is well to li/5 to1 & obs]ve4 ,x is ridicul\s to make a display ( y\r napk92 to atta* x ) p9s ^u y\r bosom1 or to pass x ?r\gh y\r buttonhole2 to use a =k 9 eat+ s\p2 to ask = meat in/ead ( beef2 = p\ltry in/ead ( say+ *ick51 or turkey2 to turn up y\r cuffs :ile c>v+2 to take bread1 ev5 :5 x is )9 y\r rea*1 in/ead ( call+ ^u ! s]vant2 to cut ) a knife y\r bread1 :i* %\ld be brok5 by y\r h&2 & to p\r y\r c(fee into ! sauc] to cool4 ,gue/s ( ! h\se ( a di/+ui%$ p]sonage are accompani$ ea* by 8 own s]vant1 :o takes 8 place beh9d 8 *air4 ,!y %\ld n address him dur+ ! ent]ta9m5t1 /ill less reprim& him4 ,be=e plac+ !mselves at ! table1 !y ought to direct him to s]ve ! o!r gue/s also1 & to retire z soon z ! table is cle>$1 because ! dome/ics ( ! h\se ought to eat by !mselves4 ,dur+ ! fir/ c\rse1 ea* "o helps himself at 8 pleasure to :atev] he dr9ks2 b1 9 ! second c\rse1 :5 ! ma/] ( ! h\se passes r\nd *oice w9e1 x w\ld be uncivil to refuse x4 ,we are n oblig$1 h[ev]1 to accept a second glass4 ,:5 at ! end ( ! second c\rse1 ! clo? is remov$1 ! gue/s may assi/ 9 turn+ (f t "p ( x :i* is be=e !m1 & contribute to ! arrangem5t ( ! dess]t plates :i* happ5 to be ne>1 b )\t attempt+ to alt] ! disposition ( !m4 ,f ! "t t ! dess]t appe>s on ! table1 ! duties ( ! ma/] ( ! h\se dim9i%1 z d also 8 rights4 ,if a g5tleman is seat$ by ! side ( a lady or eld]ly p]son1 polit5ess requires him to save !m all tr\ble ( p\r+ out = !mselves to dr9k1 ( procur+ any?+ to eat1 & ( obta9+ :atev] !y are 9 want ( at ! table4 ,he ought to be eag] to (f] !m :at he ?9ks to be mo/ to _! ta/e4 ,x w\ld be impolite to monopolize a conv]sation :i* ought to be g5]al4 ,if ! company is l>ge1 we %\ld conv]se ) our neighbors1 rais+ ! voice only en\gh to make ourselves und]/ood4 ,cu/om all[s ladies at ! end ( an ent]ta9m5t to dip _! f+]s into a glass ( wat]1 & to wipe !m ) _! napk92 x all[s !m also to r9se ! m\?1 us+ _! plate = ?is purpose2 b1 9 my op9ion1 cu/om sanctions x 9 va94 ,x is = ! mi/ress ( ! h\se to give ! signal to leave ! table2 all ! gue/s !n rise1 &1 (f]+ _! arms to ! ladies1 wait ^u !m to ! draw+-room1 :]e c(fee & liqueurs are prep>$4 ,we d n take c(fee at ! table1 except at unc]emoni\s d9n]s4 ,9 leav+ ! table1 ! ma/] ( ! h\se ought to g la/4 ,polit5ess requires u to rema9 at lea/ an h\r 9 ! draw+-room aft] d9n]2 &1 if we c dispose ( an entire ev5+1 x w\ld be well to devote x to ! p]son :o has ent]ta9$ u4 ,we %\ld n leave ! table be=e ! end ( ! ent]ta9m5t1 unless f urg5t necessity4 ,if x is a m>ri$ lady1 %e reque/s "s "o to accompany h]2 if a "y lady1 %e goes ) h] "m4 ,! "q :e!r x is prop]1 or n1 to s+ at table1 dep5ds n[ ^u ! ton ( ! ma/] ( ! h\se4 ,we d n s+ at ! h\ses ( p ( fa%ion & ! high classes ( society2 b we may d x at ! social tables ( citiz5s4 ,9 ?is case1 we may repeat :at has be5 said & prov$ a ?\s& times h[ ridicul\s x is to be urg$ :5 we "k h[ to s+1 or to insi/ ^u he>+ a p]son s+ :o has an inv9cible timidity4 ,aft] d9n]1 we conv]se1 h music1 or m frequ5tly1 prep>e ! tables = games4 ,9 ! c\rse ( ! soire1 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se s5ds r\nd ^u a wait] eau sucre or refre%+ syrups4 ,dur+ ! week :i* foll[s ! ent]ta9m5t1 ea* gue/ owes a visit to ! p]son :o has invit$ !m4 ,we usually conv]se at ?is "t1 ( ! d9n]1 ( ! pleasure we h enjoy$1 & ( ! p]sons :om we met !re4 ,?is visit has receiv$ ! cant "n ( ! visite de dige/ion4 ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,( ,prom5ades1 ,p>ties1 & ,amusem5ts4 ,! p>agraphs conta9$ 9 ?is *apt] conc]n ! mo/ common relations ( society4 ,complaisance & att5tions ought !re=e to embelli% & adorn ^! relations ) all ! delicate %ades ( polit5ess4 ,,section ,i4 ,( ,prom5ades4 ,a "y man :o walks ) an eld]ly p]son1 und\bt$ly kn[s t 8 companion has n ! same /r5g? & agility z himself2 he ought !re=e to regulate 8 pace by t ( ! old p]son4 ,! same precaution %\ld be obs]v$ :5 we accompany a p]son ( di/9ction to :om we owe respect4 ,decorum requires t a g5tleman %\ld (f] 8 arm to a lady :o walks ) him2 & polit5ess requires him to ask p]mission to c>ry any?+ :i* %e may h 9 h] h&1 z a bag1 a book1 or a p>asol 7if ! sun does n %9e27 9 case ( a refusal1 he ought to insi/ ^u x4 ,if !re are m ladies ?an g5tlem51 we %\ld (f] our arm to ! olde/1 & to a m>ri$ lady r ?an to an unm>ri$ "o4 ,if we are accompani$ by two ladies1 we _c disp5se ) (f]+ our arm to ea* ( !m4 ,place y\r company ^u t side :i* seems to !m mo/ conv5i5t1 & bew>e ( oppos+ _! ta/es or desires4 ,:5 occasion pres5ts itself1 (f] seats to y\r companions to re/ !mselves1 & d n urge !m to rise until !y manife/ a wi% to cont9ue _! walk4 ,if !y accept y\r invitation to sit d[n1 & x happ5s t !re are n a suffici5t numb] ( seats1 !n ! ladies %\ld sit1 & ! g5tlem5 rema9 /&+4 ,9 a l>ge public g>d51 *airs are seldom want+2 if x is necess>y to g = "s to ! place :]e !y are kept1 ?is is ! bus9ess ( ! g5tlem51 :o ought to take c>e n to place !m be=e p]sons already seat$1 = ?is w\ld be an incivility4 ,:5 paym5t = ! seats is call$ =1 "o g5tleman ( ! company pays = ! :ole4 ,x w\ld be impolite to (f] to reimburse him4 ,!re is also a rule ( polit5ess to be obs]v$ ) reg>d to ^? :om we meet 9 walk+4 ,we ought to (f5d nei!r _! eyes nor _! e>s4 ,we mu/ take c>e n to attract _! att5tion by immod]ate laught]1 nor all[ ourselves lib]ties :i* we _c take 9 a private g>d54 ,to s+ & skip ab\t 9 walk+1 w\ld expose u to ! hoot+s ( ! multitude1 & to unpleasant ?+s = :i* we c\ld only accuse our own folly4 ,if y are 9 a public prom5ade1 conv]se ^u g5]al topics1 :i* c (f5d no "o1 9 ord] t y\r rem>ks may n be wrongly int]pret$ by p]sons :o happ5 to he> !m4 ,bew>e on ! o!r h&1 ( li/5+ to ! conv]sation ( ^? :o are n ( y\r p>ty4 ,if y give y\r arm to a lady 9 ! /reet1 %e ought to be next ! wall4 ,& if by *ance1 y are oblig$ to cross ov]1 y %\ld !n *ange ! arm4 ,?is def]5ce is likewise due to all :o are entitl$ to our respect4 ,two g5tlem5 d n take "o ano!r's arms 9 ! /reet1 unless !y are "y p]sons & intimate fri5ds4 ,we nev] g 9 advance ( ! lady :om we accompany1 & if %e /ops1 we d s likewise1 & rema9 ) h] 9 look+ at :atev] attracts h] att5tion4 ,if a m5dicant comes up to ask alms1 we imm$iately draw out our purse to satisfy 8 wants1 s t ! lady ) :om we are walk+ may n be importun$ by him4 ,if we walk 9 a private g>d51 & ! company is num]\s1 we may sep>ate1 & =m di/9ct gr\ps4 ,if ! ma/] ( ! h\se or any p]son ( consid]ation1 invite y to walk up & d[n ! alleys1 take c>e to give !m ! "r1 x be+ ! mo/ honorable side4 ,at ! end ( ea* alley1 & :5 y mu/ retrace y\r /eps1 turn inside t[>ds ! o!r p]son1 & n outw>d1 z y w\ld ?us pres5t y\r back to him4 ,if y happ5 to be ) two p]sons :o are y\r sup]iors1 d n place y\rself 9 ! middle1 = t is ! place ( honor2 ! "r1 is ! second1 & ! left ! ?ird place4 ,be c>eful also ( ! *oice ( places if y take an air+ 9 a coa*1 & yield ! fir/ seats to ladies & di/+ui%$ p]sons4 ,! "o ( mo/ consequ5ce gets 9 fir/1 & places himself at ! "r ( ! back seat2 ! left ( ! same seat is occupi$ next2 !n1 ! ?ird p]son seats himself on ! front seat1 fac+ ! "o 9 ! fir/ place2 ! f\r? p]son takes ! rema9+ seat1 fac+ ! "o 9 ! second place4 ,if !re is no s]vant1 x is prop] = ! g5tlem5 to op5 ! door1 arrange ! packets1 c4 ,9 a cabriolet or *aise1 ! "r side is = ! "o :o drives :5 !re are only two p]sons4 ,if !re are ?ree1 ! driv] sits 9 ! middle1 ev5 al?\gh he may be v inf]ior to 8 companions4 ,i may add1 t x is n cu/om>y = a lady to g alone 9 a hir$ cabriolet1 s9ce %e w\ld !n be 9 ! company ( ! driv] only4 ,,section ,,ii4 ,( ,p>ties & ,amusem5ts4 ,we %all h b few ?+s to say ^u ! mann] ( conduct+ "o's-self 9 a p>ty1 = we %\ld only repeat ! advice we h already giv5 z respects propriety 9 ! c>riage ( ! p]son1 9 visits1 & 9 conv]sation4 ,if a g5tleman ent]s a draw+-room :]e !re are m ?an t5 p]sons1 he %\ld salute all g5]ally1 by a v respectful incl9ation ( ! head1 & pres5t 8 respects fir/ to ! lady ( ! h\se1 b conv]se at fir/ only ) h] husb&2 g5tlem5 usually /& 9 gr\ps1 :ile ! ladies sitt+1 answ] ! salutation by a simil> "o2 we %\ld rem>k t ! ladies d n rise1 except 9 salut+ "o ( _! own sex4 ,h[ev] di/+ui%$ a p]son may be1 we d n all[ conv]sation to be di/urb$ by _! com+4 ,!y li/5 = a few mom5ts :ile obs]v+ :at p]sons are pres5t1 !n m+le 9 ! conv]sation1 )\t pret5d+ at all to monopolize x4 ,:5 conv]sation is n g5]al1 nor ! subject suffici5tly int]e/+ to occupy ! :ole company1 !y break up into diff]5t gr\ps4 ,ea* "o conv]ses ) "o or m ( 8 neighbors on 8 "r & left4 ,we %\ld1 if we wi% to speak to any "o1 avoid lean+ ^u ! p]son :o happ5s to be betwe54 ,a g5tleman ought n to lean ^u ! arm ( a lady's *air1 b he may1 :ile /&+1 support himself by ! back ( x1 9 ord] to conv]se ) ! lady half turn$ t[>ds him4 ,x w\ld be extremely impolite to conv]se 9 a l\d voice ) any "o ^u private subjects1 to make use ( allegories & p>ticul> allusions :i* are und]/ood only by ! p]son ) :om y are conv]s+ & y\rself4 ,x w\ld be equally out ( place to conv]se 9 a =eign language1 ) any "o :o might be able to speak x4 ,x is n prop] to )draw 9 ! mid/ ( any conv]sation1 b to wait until ! subject 9 :i* y are engag$ %all be f9i%$2 y !n salute only ! p]son ) :om y h be5 talk+1 & dep>t )\t tak+ leave ( any "o1 n ev5 ! g5tleman & lady ( ! h\se4 ,! m9d has ne$ ( recreations2 x _c be always occupi$4 ,h5ce ! cu/om ( pass+ a few mom5ts 9 ^? family & social p>ties1 :]e we take "p 9 ! v>i\s amusem5ts & games :i* h be5 inv5t$ to relax & div]t ! m9d4 ,x is useless to obs]ve "h t we d n mean to speak ( ^? sc&al\s e/abli%m5ts 9 :i* are frequ5tly swall[$ up ! res\rces ( families1 & :]e a p]son1 l$ by an unhappy passion1 may consume 9 "o ev5+1 en\gh to furni% an annual support = fifty orphans2 we design to speak only ( ^? innoc5t games1 9 :i* we are ambiti\s only ( ! glory ( a triumph4 ,to propose to play a deep game w\ld be to expose ourselves to contempt4 ,=1 ^? :o compos$ ! assembly1 w\ld imag9e t he :o makes ?is reque/1 has no o!r object 9 view b to enri* himself at ! exp5se ( o!rs1 & t he is accu/om$ to frequ5t ^? abom9able h\ses ( :i* we h j spok54 ,we %\ld h a bad op9ion ( a play] :o1 :5 he ga9$1 %\ld %[ excessive joy1 & if he lo/1 %\ld betray ! lea/ *agr92 = he ought to rememb] t x is only = amusem5t t he plays4 ,conduct y\rself )\t lett+ escape ! lea/ ^w ( dissatisfaction1 & be pleasant ev5 if y are un=tunate4 ,:5 y leave (f play+1 conv]se ) y\r adv]s>y1 & n seem to avoid him1 b especially nev] speak to him ( 8 good luck 9 play+1 unless x be ) a frank gaiety1 = o!rwise y w\ld seem to be inspir$ ) ang]4 ,play ) fairness1 & d n endeavor to see ! h& ( y\r adv]s>y 9 ord] to pr(it by x2 pay att5tion to y\r game1 & n hold conv]sation ) o!rs4 ,?is inatt5tion w\ld r5d] y necess>ily insupportable to ^? :o play ) y4 ,if any play is conte/$1 we %\ld n discuss x ) w>m?1 b ref] to dis9t]e/$ p]sons1 expla9+ to !m ) calmness & polit5ess ! po9t 9 dispute4 ,9 play+1 we mu/ always pres]ve an ev5 temp]2 nei!r %\ld we devote too mu* "t to x1 = !n ?is amusem5t w\ld become irksome1 & w\ld soon be *ang$ to a fatigu+ occupation4 ,:5 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se has prep>$ ! tables = play+1 %e takes z _m c>ds z ea* game requires play]s1 & pres5ts !m to ! p]sons pres5t1 beg9n+ ) ! "o :om %e wi%es especially to honor4 ,to accept a c>d1 is consid]$ an engagem5t to play4 ,! di/ribution ( ! play]s requires all ! att5tion ( ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 = !re are "s p]sons n to be desir$ = p>tn]s4 ,!re are1 besides1 bad play]s1 p]sons :o be+ little accu/om$ to play+1 /op a long "t to ?9k1 bite _! lips1 /rike _! feet toge!r "u ! table1 drum ^u ! table ) _! f+]s2 pret5d t su* a p]son be+ ne> br+s !m bad luck1 & reque/ out ( _! turn to %uffle ! c>ds1 9 ord] to *ange ! luck1 c4 ,! mi/ress ( ! h\se exp]i5ces1 besides ! emb>rassm5t ( arrang+ ^! unlucky play]s1 suffici5t tr\ble 9 keep+ f ! same table1 ^? :o h any antipa?y to "o ano!r4 ,:5 we comm5ce play+1 we salute1 by an incl9ation ( ! head1 ! p]sons ) :om we play1 z we deal to !m ! fir/ c>d4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld collect ! c>ds at ! end ( ea* h&1 %uffle1 & pres5t !m to ! lady :o is to deal4 ,we may1 )\t impropriety1 ask ( any "o if he plays su* a game1 ev5 if he plays well2 & we may ask ^? invit$ to play1 :om !y desire z p>tn]s4 ,! mo/ honorable set1 namely1 t 9 :i* ! mi/ress ( ! h\se plays1 c nev] be refus$1 unless we are unacqua9t$ ) play+4 ,,section ,,iii4 ,little ,sports & ,games ( ,society4 ,^? sports1 call$ innoc5t1 g5]ally please "y p]sons ( bo? sexes1 because !y excite an int]e/1 :ile !y require an ex]cise ( ! memory & ( ! m9d4 ,x is necess>y1 h[ev]1 9 ?is1 z 9 ev]y?+ else1 to manife/ att5tion1 delicacy1 & propriety4 ,we ought n to endeavor to be notic$ = our too great vivacity or fre$om4 ,we %\ld be satisfi$ ) %[+ our tal5t at play+ 9 our turn1 & tak+ "p 9 ! common gaiety1 )\t pret5sion or too great zeal4 ,we %\ld especially avoid ?r[+ out any v9dictive rem>ks1 be/[+ misplac$ complim5ts1 or impos+ =feits :i* w\ld cause mortification4 ,a "y g5tleman ought nev] to seize a "y lady by ! body1 cat* hold ( h] ribb& or b\quet1 nor pay exclusive att5tion to ! same p]son4 ,he %\ld be agreeable & pleasant t[>ds all4 ,! selection ( diff]5t games belongs to ! ladies4 ,! p]son :o receives ! company1 %\ld be c>eful to v>y !m2 & :5 %e p]ceives t any game loses its int]e/1 %e %\ld propose ano!r4 ,!re are almo/ always p]sons 9 society :o wi% to take ! lead1 & give ! ton2 x is a caprice or fault :i* %\ld be avoid$4 ,we may mode/ly propose any amusem5t1 & ask ! op9ion ( o!rs 9 reg>d to x2 b nev] pret5d to dictate1 nor ev5 urge hav+ our own proposal accept$4 ,if x does n please g5]ally1 we %\ld be sil5t1 & resign ourselves ) a good grace to ! decisions ( ! majority4 ,9 ^! little sports1 ! p5alties :i* are impos$1 too (t5 consi/ 9 embrac+ ! ladies ( ! company2 b z !y _c refuse1 s9ce y foll[ ! rule ( ! game1 take c>e to d x ) su* propriety1 t mode/y may n be (f5d$4 ,nev] prescribe any =feiture :i* c w\nd ! feel+s ( any "o ( ! company4 ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,( ,balls1 ,conc]ts1 & ,public ,%[s4 ,^! amusem5ts presuppose a =tune1 & good ton2 ! practice ( society1 !re=e1 & consequ5tly a =getfulness ( ! precepts ( polit5ess 9 respect to !m1 w\ld be truly prepo/]\s4 ,,section ,i4 ,( ,balls4 ,i 0 go+ to say1 let u beg9 ) private balls2 b ,i recollect t ?is d5om9ation is no long] fa%ionable4 ,we d n say1 a ball at ,madam su* a "o's1 b an ev5+ p>ty 7soire74 ,nev]!less1 :5 we wi% to give a dance1 we give ! invitations a week be=eh&1 t ! ladies may h "t to prep>e articles = _! toilet4 ,if x is to be a simple ev5+ p>ty1 9 :i* we may we> a summ] walk+ dress1 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se gives v]bal invitations & does n omit to apprise h] fri5ds ( ?is circum/ance1 or !y might appe> 9 unsuitable dresses4 ,if1 on ! contr>y1 ! soire is to be 9 reality a ball1 ! invitations are writt51 or :at is bett]1 pr9t$1 & express$ 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,a room appropriat$ = dresses1 & furni%$ ) cloak p9s to hang up ! %awls & o!r g>m5ts ( ! ladies1 is almo/ indisp5sable4 ,dome/ics %\ld be !re also to aid !m 9 tak+ (f & putt+ on _! outside g>m5ts4 ,we are n oblig$ to g exactly at ! appo9t$ h\r2 x is ev5 fa%ionable to g an h\r lat]4 ,m>ri$ ladies are accompani$ by _! husb&s1 unm>ri$ ones1 by _! "m or by a *ap]on4 ,^! la/ ladies place !mselves beh9d ! danc]s2 ! ma/] ( ! h\se goes be=e "o & ano!r1 procures seats = !m1 & !n m+les aga9 among ! g5tlem5 :o are /&+1 & :o =m gr\ps or walk ab\t ! room4 ,! toilet ( all ! assembly %\ld be made ) great c>e4 ,a g5tleman :o %\ld appe> 9 a rid+-coat & boots1 w\ld pass = a p]son ( bad ton4 ,:5 y are sure ( a place 9 ! dance1 y g up to a lady1 & ask h] if %e w d y ! honor to dance ) y4 ,if %e answ]s t %e is engag$1 invite h] = ! next dance1 & take c>e n to address y\rself aft]w>ds to any ladies next to h]1 = ^! n be+ able to refuse y1 w\ld feel hurt at be+ invit$ aft] ano!r4 ,nev] wait until ! signal is giv5 to take a p>tn]1 = no?+ is m impolite ?an to invite a lady ha/ily1 & :5 ! danc]s are already 9 _! places2 x c be all[$ only :5 ! set is incomplete4 ,a lady _c refuse ! invitation ( a g5tleman to dance1 unless %e has already accept$ t ( ano!r1 = %e w\ld be guilty ( an incivility :i* might occasion tr\ble2 %e w\ld besides seem to %[ contempt = him :om %e refus$1 & w\ld expose h]self to receive an ill complim5t f him4 ,m>ri$ or "y ladies _c leave a ball-room or any o!r p>ty alone4 ,! =m] %\ld be accompani$ by "o or two o!r m>ri$ ladies1 & ! latt] by _! "m1 or by a lady to repres5t h]4 ,we %\ld avoid talk+ too mu*2 x w\ld occasion rem>ks & h a bad appe>ance to :isp] cont9ually 9 ! e> ( our p>tn]4 ,! ma/] ( ! h\se %\ld see t all ! ladies dance2 he %\ld take notice ( ^? :o seem to s]ve z drap]y to ! walls ( ! ball-room1 or wall-fl[]s1 z ! famili> expression is1 & %\ld see t !y are invit$ to dance4 ,he mu/ d ?is :olly unp]ceiv$1 9 ord] n to w\nd ! self-e/eem ( ! un=tunate ladies4 ,g5tlem5 :om ! ma/] ( ! h\se reque/s to dance ) ^! ladies1 %\ld be ready to acc$e to 8 wi%1 & ev5 appe> pleas$ at danc+ ) a p]son ?us recomm5d$ to _! notice4 ,ladies :o dance mu*1 ought to be v c>eful n to boa/ be=e ^? :o dance b little or n at all1 ( ! great numb] ( dances = :i* !y are engag$ 9 advance4 ,!y %\ld also1 )\t be+ p]ceiv$1 recomm5d to ^! less =tunate ladies1 g5tlem5 ( _! acqua9tance4 ,9 giv+ ! h& = ladies' *a9 or any figures1 ^? danc+ %\ld we> a smile1 & accompany x ) a polite incl9ation ( ! head1 9 ! mann] ( a salutation4 ,at ! end ( ! dance1 ! g5tleman re-conducts ! lady to h] place1 b[s & ?anks h] = ! honor :i* %e has conf]r$4 ,%e also curtsies 9 sil5ce1 smil+ ) a graci\s air4 ,9 ^! assemblies1 we ought to conduct ourselves ) res]ve & polit5ess t[>ds all pres5t1 al?\gh !y may be unkn[n to u4 ,p]sons :o h no e> = music1 t is to say1 a false "o1 ought to refra9 f danc+4 ,nev] haz>d tak+ "p 9 a quadrille unless y "k h[ to dance tol]ably4 ,if y are a novice or b little skill$1 y w\ld br+ disord] into ! mid/ ( pleasure4 ,be+ once engag$ to take "p 9 ! dance1 if ! figures are n famili>1 be c>eful n to advance fir/4 ,y c 9 ?is way gov]n y\r /eps by ^? :o g be=e y4 ,bew>e also ( tak+ y\r place 9 a set ( danc]s m skilful ?an y\rself4 ,:5 an unpractis$ danc] makes a mi/ake1 we may apprise him ( 8 error2 b x w\ld be v impolite to h ! air ( giv+ him a lesson4 ,dance ) grace & mode/y2 nei!r affect to make a p>ade ( y\r k2 refra9 f great leaps & ridicul\s jumps :i* w\ld attract ! att5tion ( all t[>ds y4 ,9 a private ball or p>ty1 x is prop] to %[ /ill m res]ve1 & n to manife/ m pref]5ce = "o lady ?an ano!r2 we %\ld dance ) all indiscrim9ately1 b we may1 moreov]1 invite ! same lady m ?an once4 ,9 public balls1 a g5tleman (f]s 8 p>tn] refre%m5ts1 :i* %e v seldom accepts1 unless %e is mu* acqua9t$ ) him4 ,b 9 private p>ties1 ! p]sons :o receive ! company1 s5d r\nd cake & o!r refre%m5ts1 ( :i* ea* "o helps himself z he pleases4 ,ne> ! end ( ! ev5+1 9 a well regulat$ ball1 x is cu/om>y to h a supp]1 :5 ! g5tlem5 /& beh9d ! ladies :o are seat$4 ,9 a soire )\t great prep>ation1 we may disp5se ) a supp]1 b refre%m5ts are necess>y2 & n to h !m w\ld be ! greate/ impolit5ess4 ,! waltz is a dance ( q too loose a "*1 & unm>ri$ ladies %\ld refra9 f x 9 public & private2 v "y m>ri$ ladies1 h[ev]1 may be all[$ to waltz 9 private balls1 if x is v seldom1 & ) p]sons ( _! acqua9tance4 ,x is indisp5sable = !m to acquit !mselves ) dignity & dec5cy4 ,i h spok5 ( public balls1 9 contradi/9ction to private ones1 & ,i might also h m5tion$ balls by subscription1 =1 9 reg>d to ! public balls ( ,p>is & o!r l>ge cities1 we h no?+ to advise our read]s b to %un !m4 ,z to mask$ balls1 x is an amusem5t altoge!r to be condemn$1 except ^? ( ! ,op]a4 ,nei!r %\ld we appe> !re except 9 a dom9o4 ,we %\ld retire incognito1 n to di/urb ! ma/] & mi/ress ( ! h\se2 we %\ld make !m dur+ ! week1 a visit ( ?anks1 at :i* we may conv]se ( ! pleasure ( ! ball & ( ! good selection ( ! company4 ,,section ,,ii4 ,( ,conc]ts4 ,! proprieties 9 deportm5t :i* conc]ts require1 are little diff]5t f ^? :i* are recogniz$ 9 e o!r assembly or 9 public exhibitions2 = conc]ts p>take ( ! "o & ! o!r1 accord+ z !y are public or private4 ,9 private conc]ts1 ! ladies occupy ! front seats1 & ! g5tlem5 are g5]ally 9 gr\ps beh9d1 or at ! side ( !m4 ,"o %\ld obs]ve ! mo/ pr(\nd sil5ce1 & refra9 f beat+ "t1 humm+ ! airs1 applaud+1 or mak+ ridicul\s ge/ures ( admiration4 ,v (t5 a danc+ soire succe$s a conc]t1 & billets ( invitation di/ribut$ two or ?ree days be=eh& %\ld give notice ( x to ! p]sons invit$4 ,:5 a lady is go+ to p]=m1 x is good ton = a g5tleman to /& beh9d ! *air ( ! p]=m]1 & turn ov] ! leaves att5tively1 if he kn[s h[ to read music4 ,we ought also aft] an invitation to a conc]t1 to return a visit ( ?anks4 ,,section ,,iii4 ,( ,public ,%[s or ,spectacles4 ,"o w\ld be deceiv$ if he imag9$ t !re exi/ no rules ( propriety to be obs]v$ 9 public places1 :]e p]sons assemble toge!r1 & at !atrical exhibitions4 ,!re are "s g5]al att5tions :i* we %\ld manife/ to ^? p]sons :om we meet !re4 ,x w\ld be impolite to jo/le cont9ually1 & 9 an importunate mann]1 ^? ne> :om we are plac$1 to /ep ^u ! dress ( a lady1 or run aga9/ ^? :o are mov+ at a mod]ate pace4 ,if y g ) a p>ty to a !atrical ent]ta9m5t1 "o ( ! g5tlem5 %\ld c>ry ! tickets to ! door-keep]1 9 old] to avoid any emb>rassm5t to ladies on ent]+2 & :5 ! box is op51 !y %\ld place !m 9 ! front r[1 accord+ to _! age1 or ! consid]ation !y des]ve4 ,"y p]sons %\ld occupy ! seats beh9d1 & avoid lean+ ov] too mu*1 to ! incommod+ ( ^? :o are seat$ 9 front ( !m4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld address !mselves to ! att5dants at ! boxes1 make !m a comp5sation1 & place "u _! c>e _! hats1 ! cloaks & o!r articles ( dress ( ! ladies2 b we mu/ n hang !m ov] ! boxes1 :e!r x is a pocket-h&k]*ief1 a tippet1 or a %awl1 c4#ah ,nor ought a p]son to turn 8 back to ! /age2 = 9 t case1 he exposes himself to ! d]ision ( ! pit1 & to he> disagreeable rem>ks4 ,!n ! eyes ( all w\ld be fix$ ^u y2 y\r imprud5ce w\ld excite a di/urbance1 :i* w\ld be tr\blesome to ! audi5ce4 ,:5 a spectator ( k9d feel+s is affect$ at ! sight ( ! mis=tunes :i* ! h]oes ( ! play suff]1 or has 8 sympa?y t\*$ by ! virtues :i* are display$1 no?+ c be m annoy+ to him1 ?an to h con/antly at 8 side1 a morose critic1 :o1 )\t m]cy1 f9ds fault ) ! f9e/ p>ts ( ! p]=mance1 :o sees no?+ to 8 ta/e1 & *anges into a place ( fatigue & ennui1 resorts consecrat$ to amusem5t & pleasure4 ,x is1 moreov]1 almo/ z ridicul\s to place no b\nds to our applause4 ,:5 ladies ent] a box :]e a g5tleman is seat$ 9 front ( !m1 propriety requires t he %\ld (f] 8 seat1 not)/&+ !y are /rang]s to him1 & he %\ld insi/ ^u _! tak+ x1 ev5 aft] !y h once refus$4 ,if ! heat incommodes y1 d n op5 ! door ( ! box1 )\t ! cons5t ( ^? :o occupy x4 ,be v res]v$ at ! !atre1 9 ord] n to tr\ble ^? :o are ne> y1 & ma9ta9 a pr(\nd sil5ce :5 ! actors are on ! /age1 s z n to int]rupt ! att5tion ( p]sons :o take an int]e/ 9 ! spectacle4 ,x is improp] to pass too positive & sev]e a judgm5t on ! p]=mance1 or ! play+ ( ! actors1 :e!r to make a eulogium1 or to f9d fault ) !m4 ,"o may meet p]sons ( a contr>y op9ion1 & engage himself 9 a controv]sy :i* x is prud5t to avoid4 ,betwe5 ! acts1 g5tlem5 %\ld ask ! ladies if x is agreeable to !m to walk 9 ! entries1 ! saloon1 or to take refre%m5ts4 ,!y %\ld also ask !m if !y wi% = a j\rnal ( ! !atre or play bill1 or an op]a glass2 & if b\quets are sold at ! door ( ! !atre1 x w\ld be prop] & gallant to pres5t !m ) "o4 ,z soon z y h arriv$ at ! out] door ( ! !atre1 if 9 a c>riage1 y mu/ take c>e to h y\r p>ty all ready at ! v mom5t ! c>riage drives up4 ,x is necess>y to d ! same ?+1 if y s5d a port] to get a hir$ coa*4 #ah ,9 "s ( ! !atres 9 ,p>is1 ?is is h[ev] all[$4--,t4 ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,( ! ,duties ( ,hospitality4 ,^? ( my read]s :o f habit1 or in/9ct1 fe> ! lea/ appe>ance ( con/ra9t1 & p]haps ev5 9 ?is "w h f\nd lessons ( polit5ess too /rict1 & h ?\ght t civilization has augm5t$ !m beyond measure1 w )\t d\bt apply ! same rem>k to ! pres5t *apt]4 ,b :at 9 reality are ^! slight duties ( mod]n hospitality1 9 comp>ison to ! rigor\s ones ( anci5t times8 ,:5 a billet ( ann\ncem5t has in=m$ y1 z is cu/om>y1 t a prec$+ invitation on y\r "p w br+ gue/s to y\r h\se1 y mu/ beg9 & c>efully arrange ! ap>tm5t y int5d = !m4 ,!y %\ld h a good b$1 a bureau1 a fire 9 ! w9t]1 & ev]y?+ :i* c contribute to _! com=t2 a wa% bas91 wat]1 glass tumbl]s1 a bottle ( cologne1 a sug> b[l fill$1 or r a glass ( wat] prep>$1 sev]al napk9s1 & ev]y?+ :i* w contribute to neatness1 or elegance1 ought to be plac$ 9 ! ap>tm5t4 ,^! prelim9>ies be+ arrang$1 a little be=e ! appo9t$ h\r1 we mu/ g & wait ^u our gue/s2 a dome/ic %\ld g ) y to br+ _! baggage to ! h\se4 ,y %\ld embrace y\r fri5ds & congratulate !m2 express ! pleasure y enjoy 9 receiv+ !m1 inquire k9dly ab\t ! incid5ts ( _! j\rney1 & conduct !m 9 an e>ne/ mann]1 & introduce !m1 by reque/+ !m to make y\r h\se _! home2 ?is f9i%es ! second s]ies ( ! duties ( hospitality4 ,! ?ird class ( obligations1 is assiduity to y\r gue/s2 because o!rwise1 x w\ld seem to !m1 t _! pres5ce 0 tr\blesome4 ,to y belongs ! c>e ( k9dly (f]+ to _! view ev]y?+ 9 y\r h\se1 9 ! city or 9 ! c\ntry1 :i* is int]e/+2 ( mak+ p>ties 9 honor ( !m1 z d9n] p>ties ( _! fri5ds1 or su* z x is presum$ w please !m2 ^! are obligations ( hospitality :i* y _c omit4 ,:5 visitors %[ any int5tion ( leav+ y1 y ought affectionately to endeavor to reta9 !m2 nev]!less1 if _! resolution seems immovable1 y s5d to engage _! seats at ! coa* (fice2 y (f] !m delicate refre%m5t1 & accompany !m ?i!r2 !n1 tak+ leave ( !m1 r5ew y\r invitations = ano!r visit1 & y\r regret at n hav+ be5 able to succe$ bett] 9 reta9+ !m4 ,to d ! honors ( "o's own h\se1 x is necess>y to h tact1 address1 k ( ! _w1 & a great ev5ness ( temp]1 & mu* affability4 ,x is necess>y to =get "o's-self1 9 ord] to be occupi$ ) o!rs1 b )\t hurry1 or affectation2 to enc\rage timid p]sons1 & put !m at _! ease2 to ent] into conv]sation1 direct+ x ) address r ?an su/a9+ x ourselves4 ,! mi/ress ( a h\se ought to be oblig+1 ( an equal temp]1 & att5tive 9 accommodat+ h]self to ! p>ticul> ta/es ( e "o1 especially to appe> delight$ t !y are ) h]1 & make !mselves p]fectly at home4 ,gue/s1 on _! "p1 %\ld %[ !mselves cont5t$ & grateful = ! reception t is giv5 !m4 ,!y %\ld1 on dep>t+1 give a g5]\s remun]ation to ! dome/ics1 & imm$iately aft] arriv+ at home1 write to ! p]sons :o h ent]ta9$ !m a lett] ( cordial ?anks4 ,! duties ( hospitality are ( frequ5t recurr5ce1 fatigu+ & tr\blesome1 b !y are an indisp5sable obligation4 ,to omit !m1 is to be will+ to pass = a p]son ( no education1 & no delicacy1 & 9 %ort x is to place p 9 a mo/ emb>rass+ & pa9ful situation4 ,,"p ,,iv4 ,,( ,,propriety ,,z ,,reg>ds ,,o!r ,,circum/ances4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,( ,m>riage & ,baptism4 ,^! two subjects h peculi> "r to ! precepts ( polit5ess2 = ! fir/ is ! close/ ( ! social relations1 & bo? furni% occasions = ! mo/ brilliant ftes4 ,,section ,i4 ,( ,m>riage4#ai ,we usually make a pr(\nd secret ( ! prelim9>ies ( m>riage1 because1 9 case ( its be+ brok5 (f1 we are afraid ( malici\s int]pretations2 b1 aft] ! fir/ words are ex*ang$1 x is necess>y to make x kn[n 9 confid5ce to a few intimate fri5ds1 & ^? to :om we are "u obligations4 ,aft]w>ds1 we give intellig5ce ( x by lett] to our relations4 ,a "y man :o solicits a lady 9 m>riage1 %\ld be extremely devot$ & respectful2 he %\ld appe> a /rang] to all ! details ( bus9ess :i* ! two families discuss2 he conv]ses ) 8 int5d$ p>ticul>ly ( _! future arrangem5ts1 h] ta/es1 ! selection ( a resid5ce1 furniture1 bridal pres5ts1 c4 ,avoid+ all misplac$ famili>ity1 he calls h] ,miss until return+ f *ur*1 on ! day ( m>riage2 he accompanies h] 9 all assemblies1 & %[s himself a devot$ suitor4 ,:5 ! banns ( matrimony h be5 publi%$1 x is cu/om>y at ,p>is = a b\quet-mak] to come to adorn ! bride1 pres5t+ h] ) a b\quet4 ,?is att5tion requires a remun]ation4 ,! m>riage is decl>$ 9 two ways4 ,we invite ?ree or f\r days be=eh& p]sons ( our acqua9tance to assi/ 9 ! nuptial b5$iction1 & we specify precisely ! "t & place :]e ! c]emony w be p]=m$4 ,z to ! legal act1 :i* is p]=m$ by civil au?ority1 we invite only witnesses & ne> relations4 ,if a p]son is invit$ to assi/ at ! repa/ or fte :i* foll[s ! m>riage1 we make express m5tion ( x at ! bottom ( ! lett]s ( invitation4#bj ,we simply communicate ! fact ( ! m>riage to ^? :o h be5 invit$ nei!r to ! nuptial c]emony1 nor to ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,propriety requires t ! p]son invit$ to ! m>riage c]emony %\ld come1 or s5d an excuse if x is impossible to be pres5t4 ,a simple lett] ( ann\ncem5t to un9vit$ p]sons1 requires only a visit or two2 ! fir/ ( :i* is made by c>d4 ,pres5ts are usually ! prelim9>ies ( a m>riage3 ^? :i* ! g5tleman makes 8 int5d$ wife1 are call$ w$d+ pres5ts2 !y consi/ ( diff]5t articles ( ! toilet1 a set ( diamonds1 c4 ,"s p]sons cont5t !mselves ) s5d+ a purse conta9+ a sum ( money 9 gold1 = ! pur*ase ( ^! ?+s3 ! "y lady !n sp5ds x z %e ?9ks prop]4 ,! m>ri$ g5tleman is moreov] to make a pres5t to ea* ( ! bro!rs & si/]s ( 8 int5d$4 ,! "y lady1 on h] "p1 gives "s pres5t to h] bridemaid3 %e (t5 pres5ts h] ) a dress or "s ornam5t1 & %e receives 9 h] turn f ! o!r1 a girdle1 gloves1 & a b\quet ( orange fl[]s4 ,s9ce we h spok5 ( m>riage pres5ts1 we w add t at ,p>is ! m>ri$ lady mu/ receive a gift f h] si/]s & c\s9s1 & t 9 ! prov9cial t[ns1 on ! contr>y1 %e mu/ (f] !m "s tok54 ,we w n[ pass to ! c]emony3 aft] ! celebration ( ! legal act1 :i* may be "s days previ\s1 ! m>ri$ c\ple1 foll[$ by _! p>5ts1 commonly g to ! *ur* 9 ! c>riages :i* conduct$ !m to ! (fice :]e ! legal act 0 p]=m$2 = at ,p>is1 :atev] situation 9 life ! p>ties may be 91 !y nev] g on foot4 ,! m>ri$ lady goes 9 "o c>riage ) h] relations & ! bridemaid2 ! g5tleman 9 ano!r c>riage ) 8 fa!r & "m1 or 8 ne>e/ relatives4 ,! acqua9tances ( ! two m>ri$ p]sons1 repair to ! *ur* at ! appo9t$ h\r2 ! fri5ds ( ! g5tleman place !mselves on ! "r1 ^? ( ! lady on ! left h&1 on seats prep>$ be=eh&4 ,! m>riage tra9 !n advances 9 ! foll[+ ord]2 ! lady gives h] h& to h] fa!r1 or to "o :o repres5ts him2 !n comes ! g5tleman ) 8 "m1 or ! lady :o repres5ts h]1 & aft]w>ds ! memb]s ( ! two families foll[ 9 c\ples4 ,:5 ! c\ple & _! relations approa* ! alt>1 ea* ( ! p]sons pres5t b[s to !m 9 sil5ce2 ! relations place !mselves 9 ! same ord] z ! acqua9tances1 & be=e ! latt]1 9 ! front r[1 :i* %\ld be res]v$ = !m4 ,! c\ple to be m>ri$ are plac$ 9 ! middle4 ,al?\gh x is polite always to pres5t ! "r h& to ! lady :om we conduct1 or to give h] ! "r :5 we are next h]1 yet ! bridegroom takes ! "r ( ! bride1 because1 9 ?is act1 :i* is at once religi\s & civil1 man ought to pres]ve ! pr]ogative :i* ! law bo? human & div9e h conf]r$ ^u him2 besides1 z ! bridegroom is to place ! nuptial r+ on ! f+] ( ! bride1 x is m conv5i5t = him to be ^u ! "r h& ?an ! left4 ,:5 ! cl]gyman puts ! que/ions to !m1 ea* %\ld consult _! relations by a respectful sign ( ! head1 be=e answ]+ ! decisive yes4 ,! veil is held ov] ! head ( ! bride by two *ildr5 ^: p>5ts we wi% to complim5t4 ,! bus9ess ( ! bridemaid :o has presid$ at ! toilet ( ! bride1 is to designate _! places at ! religi\s c]emony 9 *ur*2 & aft]w>ds1 at ! ball1 is to supply ! place ( ! bride1 :o c take no active "p2 x is usually "o ( h] si/]s or a mo/ intimate fri5d :o is *os5 = ?is purpose4 ,! groomsman1 = !re %\ld be "o or ev5 m1 looks well to ! li/ ( ^? invit$ to ! c]emony1 to see :at p]sons are abs5t1 because x is ! cu/om ( m>ri$ p]sons n to make ! m>riage visit to any "o :o has be5 guilty ( ?is impolit5ess4 ,! m>ri$ g5tleman mu/ give pres5ts to ! att5dants at ! *ur*1 ! poor1 c4 ,aft] ! nuptial b5$iction1 ! m>ri$ c\ple aga9 salute ! assembly1 & !n receive ! complim5ts ( ea* "o4 ,!re are "s families 9 a m humble situation1 :]e ! m>ri$ lady is embrac$ by all at ! m>riage c]emony2 9 ^? 9 a high] /ation 9 life1 %e embraces only h] fa!r1 h] "m1 & h] new relations4 ,! new husb& gives 8 h& to 8 wife :5 return+ f ! *ur*2 nev]!less at d9n] he %\ld be plac$ betwe5 8 "m & 8 "m-9-law1 :ile 8 wife is to be seat$ betwe5 h] fa!r & fa!r-9-law4 ,9 case !re is a supp]1 ! m>ri$ c\ple sit next ea* o!r4 ,! m>ri$ lady op5s ! ball ) ! mo/ di/+ui%$ p]son 9 ! assembly2 %e retires privately1 accompani$ by h] "m1 & "o or m ne> relations :om !y wi% to complim5t4 ,! newly m>ri$ c\ple make m>riage visits 9 ! c\rse ( a =tnight1 9 a c>riage1 & 9 full dress4 ,!y %\ld make ^! visits alone4 ,!y leave _! c>ds = ^? ) :om !y d n wi% to be intimate4 ,su* are ! receiv$ usages 9 ! capital4 ,9 ! prov9ces1 _m ( ! old & common cu/oms are pres]v$1 z ! gift ( a lac$ %irt bosom to ! husb& by 8 wife2 w$d+ favors or ribb&s = ! wife1 ribb&s ( two colors ) :i* !y decorate ! "y p]sons 9 ! m>riage suite1 c4 #ai ,! great] "p ( ! m>riage c]emonies "h describ$1 are accord+ to ! usages ( ,ca?olic c\ntries1 b "s ( !m are applicable to our own2 & x has be5 ?\ght t x w\ld be int]e/+ to ,am]ican read]s to reta9 ! :ole z 9 ! orig9al4--,t4 #bj ,^! lett]s are usually duplicates1 = ! invitation %\ld appe> to be giv5 by ! p>5ts ( bo? ! future c\ple4 ,,section ,,ii4 ,( ,baptism4#ba ,we mu/ invite sev]al mon?s be=eh& ! godfa!r & godmo!r ( ! *ild t is to be baptiz$4 ,if ! ties ( blood h giv5 y a "r to ?is on]\s duty1 y _c disp5se ) x4 ,if n1 y c seek a speci\s excuse4 ,:5 "o has cons5t$ to hold ! infant at ! baptismal font1 he %\ld p]=m ?is duty 9 a becom+ mann]1 & accord+ to 8 own condition & t ( ! p>5ts ( ! *ild4 ,a pres5t %\ld be giv5 to ! "m1 & ?is pres5t usually consi/s ( confection>y4 ,we mu/ also give "o to ! godmo!r1 a pair ( :ite gloves & comfits2 if %e is a "y p]son1 %e commonly receives a b\quet ( :ite fl[]s 9 addition4 ,if ! godfa!r wi%es to %[ h] any att5tion1 he c add to ! pres5ts an elegant & valuable object1 su* z a fan2 b 9 t case x is good ton = ! godmo!r to s5d 9 return "s ri* & ta/eful pres5t4 ,%e also has ! honor ( giv+ to ! *ild a cap1 & (t5 a baptismal robe4 ,to h] also belongs ! duty ( putt+ ! fir/ dress on ! *ild4 ,! att5dant & ! nurse h also a pres5t4 ,! (fic]s ( ! *ur*1 & ! poor1 %\ld ea* receive a gratuity proportionate to _! condition4 ,we simply put a piece ( money into ! h&s ( ! humbl] p]sons2 b we pres5t ! cl]gyman ) a box ( pres5ts 9 :i* is enclos$ a piece ( gold or silv]4 ,p]sons ( a v high class 9 ord] to free _! fri5ds f ^! exp5ses1 s5d _! dome/ics to pres5t _! *ildr5 at ! baptismal font4 ,?is is a mo/ unbecom+ cu/om2 x seems to consid] ?is holy consecration z a slavi% c]emony1 & de/roys at its s\rce ! s5tim5t ( respect & affection1 t a godson or daught] %\ld inspire 9 ^? :o h adopt$ !m be=e ,god4 ,at :atev] h\r ! c]emony is appo9t$1 we g to ! *ur* 9 a c>riage at ! exp5se ( ! godfa!r4 ,he & ! godmo!r pass 9 fir/2 !n comes ! infant borne by its nurse or a matron2 !n ! fa!r1 :o accompanies ! o!r invit$ p]sons4 ,x is ! cu/om 9 _m h\ses to give1 aft] return+ f ! baptism1 an elegant ent]ta9m5t1 ( :i* ! godfa!r & godmo!r receive all ! honor4 ,above all1 !y %\ld give _! god*ild new ye>'s gifts :ile x is a *ild1 & manife/ _! affection dur+ ! :ole ( its life4 #ba ,mo/ ( ! obs]vances :i* foll[1 z well z ^? 9 ! section on m>riage1 h m p>ticul> ref]5ce to ! =ms ( ! ,ca?olic & ,episcopal *ur*es4--,t4 ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,( ,duties t[>d ! ,un=tunate4 ,propriety1 ! guide ( all our relations1 _c rema9 a /rang] to ! un=tunate2 t :i* takes possession ( all our s5tim5ts1 _c =get to pity4 ,x is 9 ?is light t x is peculi>ly t\*+1 t x is almo/ religi\s1 s9ce x ev5 contributes to b9d clos] ?is fir/1 ?is p[]ful tie ( humanity4 ,,section ,i4 ,( ,duties t[>d ! ,sick1 ,infirm1 & ,un=tunate4 ,:5 any "o ( y\r acqua9tance is ill1 y %\ld regul>ly s5d a dome/ic1 to inquire aft] _! heal?1 e day1 or e o!r day1 accord+ to ! virul5ce & nature ( ! disease4 ,if !re is imm$iate dang]1 we %\ld s5d to inquire ev5 twice a day4 ,f "t to "t1 y %\ld s5d to "k :e!r ! sick p]son c see any "o1 because 9 t case y mu/ g & te/ify 9 p]son1 all y\r int]e/4 ,y %\ld cont9ue to obta9 in=mation ab\t _! heal? until _! recov]y or dea?4 ,our visits to ! sick %\ld be v %ort1 sil5t1 & res]v$4 ,we %\ld address to !m words ( int]e/ 9 a l[ voice1 & speak s(tly to ! memb] ( ! family :o takes *>ge ( !m4 ,we ask him :o is 8 physician1 :at is ! treatm5t2 we urge e motive ( consolation & hope2 we ought h>dly to reply to ! que/ions ! p]son 9 att5dance asks1 ) reg>d to our own heal?1 or bus9ess1 & we retire reit]at+ ! pro(s ( our int]e/4 ,if ! p]son is convalesc5t or only indispos$1 y address a ?\s& que/ions conc]n+ _! compla9ts2 y sympa?ize ) !m1 praise _! pati5ce1 & describe to !m ! pleasant image ( return+ heal?4 ,y mu/ be on y\r gu>d n to say t y f9d _! features mu* *ang$1 t _! recov]y may be sl[1 c4 ,to speak ^! tru?s is v mal-apropos1 & ) reason2 y w\ld pass = hav+ an unfeel+ he>t1 or1 r1 a limit$ und]/&+4 ,:5 suff]+s & tr\bles assume a virul5t aspect1 & resi/ all ! ef=ts ( m$ical skill1 !y are infirmities inde$1 & a sil5ce ! mo/ absolute & rigor\s ) respect to !m1 %\ld be obs]v$4 ,n only ought y nev] to speak to an infirm p]son ( 8 mis=tune1 b y %\ld also c>efully avoid m5tion+ any p]son :o is afflict$ 9 ! same way1 & ( ?us allud+ indirectly to 8 own case4 ,! only occasion :5 ?is is all[$1 is :]e y c make x appe> to him t ! com=ts ( :i* he is depriv$ are n s p]man5t b t y h exp]i5c$ simil> inconv5i5ces f ! same cause4 ,?us to a lame p]son1 y might say t y y\rself are fatigu$ ) walk+1 t y\r own legs are n firm1 c4 ,if ! infirmity is n too visible1 & ! poor subject speaks to y ( x1 assure him e>ne/ly t y %\ld n h obs]v$ x4 ,if he compla9s to y1 (f] him motives ( consolation1 & take c>e t y *ange ! subject ( conv]sation be=e he does1 = y might make him ?9k t y are importun+ him ab\t 8 malady4 ,f9ally1 d all 9 y\r p[] to com=t him4 ,if he is afflict$ ) imp]fect sight1 place objects ne> him1 b )\t affectation1 & )\t hav+ ! air ( mak+ him ?9k t he requires y\r assi/ance1 nei!r p]mit him to ?ank y4 ,if he is tr\bl$ ) deafness1 y mu/ n speak unreasonably l\d2 br+ back ! att5tion ( ! un=tunate p]son to ! subject ( y\r conv]sation by skilful & delicate transitions1 & n abruptly say to him1 ,we 7 speak+ ( su* a ?+4 ,?is is mu* tr\ble1 p]haps y w say4 ,tr\ble to console p6 ,:y1 y take m to please !m6 ,p]sons :o are r$uc$ 9 circum/ances1 keep up 9 _! mis=tune 7at lea/ 9 society7 _! habits ( opul5ce2 & to manage ) su* p]sons requires n a little skill4 ,if !y invite y to _! frugal repa/s1 if !y (f] y any pres5ts1 let n ! fe> ( occasion+ !m exp5se1 induce y to refuse ) w>m?1 & ) ob/9acy2 y w\ld w\nd !m deeply4 ,accept !m1 & seek an opportunity ( repay+ ) int]e/1 ^! pro(s ( _! polit5ess4 ,d n speak to !m fir/ ( _! sad situation2 b if !y introduce ! subject !mselves1 receive _! confid5ce ) a respectful & affectionate att5tion4 ,%[ h[ mu* y are affect$ ) t :i* grieves !m1 & )\t =gett+ discretion1 endeavor1 9 appe>ance at lea/1 to r5d] !m confid5ce = confid5ce4 ,,section ,,ii4 ,( ,fun]als & ,m\rn+4 ,:5 we lose any "o ( our family1 we %\ld give intellig5ce ( x to all p]sons :o h _h relations ( bus9ess or fri5d%ip ) ! deceas$4 ,?is lett] ( ann\ncem5t usually conta9s an invitation to assi/ at ! s]vice & burial4 ,on receiv+ ?is invitation1 we %\ld g to ! h\se ( ! deceas$1 & foll[ ! body z f> z ! *ur*4 ,we are excus$ f accompany+ x to ! bury+-gr\nd1 unless x be a relation1 a fri5d1 or a sup]ior4 ,if we g z f> z ! bury+-gr\nd1 we mu/ give ! fir/ c>riages to ! relations or mo/ intimate fri5ds ( ! deceas$4 ,we %\ld walk ) ! head uncov]$1 sil5tly1 & ) a sad & ?\ghtful mi54 ,relations ought n1 f consid]ations ( propriety1 to give !mselves up too mu* to _! grief4 ,y w owe a visit to p]sons :o h invit$ y1 if y h n be5 able to accept _! invitation4 ,if y h att5d$ ! c]emony1 !n !y are ! ones t owe ! visit4 ,at an int]m5t or fun]al s]vice1 ! memb]s ( ! family are entitl$ to ! fir/ places2 !y are ne>e/ to ! c(f91 :e!r 9 ! procession1 or 9 ! *ur*4 ,! ne>e/ relations g 9 a full m\rn+ dress4 ,x is n cu/om>y at ,p>is = wom5 to foll[ ! procession2 &1 n[h]e d !y g q to ! grave1 unless !y are ( a l[ class4 ,a wid[] or a wid[1 a fa!r or "m1 are n pres5t at ! int]m5t1 or fun]al s]vice ( ^? :om !y h lo/4 ,! fir/ are presum$ n to be able to support ! afflict+ c]emony2 ! second ought n to %[ ?is m>k ( def]5ce4 ,!re are two k9ds ( m\rn+1 ! full & ! half m\rn+4 ,! full m\rn+ is worn = a fa!r1 "m1 gr&fa!r1 gr&mo!r1 husb&1 wife1 bro!r & si/]4 ,x is divid$ into ?ree p]iods4#bb ,= ! fir/ six weeks1 we we> only wooll5 g>m5ts2 9 ! six weeks foll[+1 we we> silk1 & ! ?ree la/ mon?s1 we m+le :ite ) ! black4 ,half m\rn+ is worn = uncles1 aunts1 c\s9s1 & second c\s9s4 ,! fir/ =tnight we we> black silk1 & ! la/ week1 :ite mix$ ) black4 ,cu/om requires t a woman %\ld we> m\rn+ = h] husb& a ye> & six weeks1 :ile t ( a wid[] is only six mon?s4 ,?is diff]5ce1 :i* may appe> s+ul>1 is f\nd$ ^u reasons ( conv5i5ce & social relations4 ,9 ! ?ree fir/ mon?s ( m\rn+ = h] husb&1 a woman we>s only wooll5 g>m5ts2 ! six fir/ weeks1 h] head dress & neck-k]*ief are black crape or gauze2 9 ! six foll[+ weeks1 !y are :ite crape or l954 ,! next six mon?s1 %e dresses 9 black silk2 9 w9t]1 gros de ,naples2 9 summ]1 taffetas4 ,head dress1 :ite crape4 ,! ?ree la/ mon?s1 %e we>s black & :ite1 & ! six la/ weeks1 :ite only4 ,! m\rn+ on ! dea? ( a wife1 is a black clo? coat )\t buttons1#bc d>k %oes1 wooll5 hose1 black buckles1 & a sword-knot ( crape1 if ! p]son c>ries "o4 ,at ! end ( six weeks1 we may we> a black coat ) buttons1 black silk hose1 silv] buckles1 & a black ribb& ^u ! sword4 ,! half m\rn+ ( ! ?ree la/ mon?s is a black coat1 a sword & silv] buckles1 :ite silk /ock+s1 & a sword-knot ( black & :ite4 ,x is altoge!r contr>y to propriety to select = y\rself at ! %ops ! articles ( m\rn+1 to h !m made 9 y\r pres5ce1 or to make !m y\rself2 &1 = a =tnight at lea/1 & sometimes ev5 = ! six fir/ weeks1 ladies ought n to sew1 ev5 :ile receiv+ _! relations & intimate fri5ds1 s mu* are !y suppos$ to be depress$ by _! affliction4 ,dur+ =ty days we d n leave ! h\se1 except to g to *ur*2 x w\ld be v improp] to visit1 d9e out1 or g to any assembly dur+ ! fir/ m\rn+4 ,:5 ?is "t has expir$1 we make visits ( m\rn+1 & g out a little m1 b we _c yet appe> 9 public prom5ades1 at spectacles or balls2 we _c s+1 ev5 at home4 ,x is only at ! "t ( half m\rn+ t we resume by degrees our =m] habits ( life4 ,= t5 days at lea/1 aft] ! dea? ( a v ne> relation1 x w\ld be v repreh5sible = p ^: pr(ession recalls ideas ( pleasure1 z musicians1 or danc+ ma/]s1 to return to _! employm5t4 ,9 full m\rn+1 we %\ld we> nei!r curls nor p]fumes4 ,to be pres5t at a fun]al1 or ev5 to look at "o pass+1 are =bidd5 at ?is "t4 ,att5d+ a fun]al s]vice1 o!r ?an t ( a relation1 is equally prohibit$4 ,except+ dur+ ?is p]iod1 x is impolite n to att5d :5 invit$ to ! fun]al s]vice ( y\r acqua9tances4 ,y %\ld appe> !re 9 m\rn+4 ,at ! fun]al s]vice1 z well z at ! int]m5t1 ! male relatives g fir/1 & !n ^? invit$2 ! female relatives g next1 & are foll[$ by o!r ladies4 ,if we m>ry a p]son :o is 9 m\rn+1 we put on black ! day aft] our m>riage2 ! "t prec$+ is reckon$ z if ! m\rn+ _h be5 worn4 ,on ! contr>y1 if we ourselves are m>ri$ aga9 at a "t :5 ! dea? ( a relation by our =m] m>riage requires ?is sombre dress1 we leave x (f imm$iately1 s9ce our new union annuls ! =m] alliance4 ,visits :i* are paid to p]sons 9 m\rn+1 are call$ visits ( condol5ce4 ,9 mak+ !m1 we obs]ve sil5ce1 & nev] inquire ab\t _! heal?2 ?is w\ld be out ( place4 ,a g5tleman (f]s !m 8 h&1 a lady embraces !m1 ev5 ?\gh !y are b slightly acqua9t$4 ,we refra9 f conv]s+ on too gay or p]sonal subjects4 ,if we are at a di/ance1 we te/ify by lett] our sympa?y 9 ! mis=tune :i* afflicts !m4 ,_! grief _c excuse !m f answ]+ u1 b x is n imm$iately necess>y4 ,) ?is subject1 we %all conclude our treatise ( polit5ess2 hop+ t1 hav+ arriv$ at ?is po9t1 our read]s may say1 ',)\t any d\bt ! "w is full & me?odical2' we %all n d>e to flatt] ourselves ) m1 b ?is is en\gh1 = x is be+ sure t our labor has be5 useful4 ,we tru/ !n t we h r5d]$ an ess5tial s]vice to y\?1 9 mak+ !m acqua9t$ ) ^! rules1 :i* h become s necess>y2 9 tru?1 polit5ess1 on :i* at ! pres5t day we pride ourselves1 is a virtue :i* we ought nev] to r5\nce1 s9ce x gives to ! int]c\rse ( life1 t sweetness1 pleasure1 elegance & *>m :i* c be truly felt only by ^? :o possess x4 ,z ! intellectual ,madam ,lamb]t has said1 ',polit5ess is ! desire ( pleas+ ^? ) :om we are oblig$ to live1 & 9 a mann] caus+ all ar\nd u to be satisfi$ ) u2 sup]iors1 ) our respect2 equals1 ) our e/eem2 & inf]iors1 ) our k9dness4' #bb ,sev]al ( ! p>ticul>s :i* foll[1 are n obs]v$ 9 ?is c\ntry4--,t4 #bc ,x is n ! cu/om among u to disp5se ) buttons4--,t4 ,transcrib]'s ,notes ,inconsi/5t hyph5ation reta9$ z orig9ally pr9t$ 7-propos_/propos1 fire-place_/fireplace1 re-conduct_/reconduct7 ,inconsi/5t & ar*aic spell+ reta9$ z orig9ally pr9t$ 7visitor_/visit]1 e ?+_/ev]y?+1 ancle1 access>y1 bridemaid1 inquiet1 pantom9e1 secrecy1 synonyme7