,,! ,,g5tlem5',s ,,book ,,( ,,etiquette1 ,,& ,,manual ,,( ,,polit5ess2 ,,be+ ,a ,,complete ,,guide ,,= ,a ,,g5tleman',s ,,conduct ,,9 ,,all ,,8 ,,relations ,,t[>ds ,,society4 ,,conta9+ ,,rules ,,= ,,! ,,etiquette ,,to ,,be ,,obs]v$ ,,9 ,,! ,,/reet1 ,,at ,,table1 ,,9 ,,! ,,ball ,,room1 ,,ev5+ ,,p>ty1 ,,& ,,morn+ ,,call2 ,,) ,,full ,,directions ,,= ,,polite ,,correspond5ce1 ,,dress1 ,,conv]sation1 ,,manly ,,ex]cises1 ,,& ,,accompli%m5ts4 ,,f ,,! ,,be/ ,,fr5*1 ,,engli%1 ,,& ,,am]ican ,,au?orities4 ,,by ,,cecil ,b4 ,,h>tley4 ,,bo/on3 ,g4 ,w4 ,,cottrell1 ,,publi%]1 #cf ,,cornhill4 ,ent]$ accord+ to ! ,act ( ,congress1 9 ! ye> #ahfj1 by ,g4 ,g4 ,,evans1 9 ! ,cl]k's ,(fice ( ! ,di/rict ,c\rt = ! ,ea/]n ,di/rict ( ,p5nsylvania4 ,,introduction4 ,man 0 n int5d$ to live l a be> or a h]mit1 ap>t f o!rs ( 8 own nature1 &1 philosophy & reason w ea* agree ) me1 t man 0 born = sociability & f9ds 8 true delight 9 society4 ,society is a ^w capable ( _m mean+s1 & us$ "h 9 ea* & all ( !m4 ,society1 p> excell5ce2 ! _w at l>ge2 ! little clique to :i* he is b\nd by e>ly ties2 ! companion%ip ( fri5ds or relatives2 ev5 society tete a tete ) "o de> sympa?iz+ s\l1 are pleasant /ates = a man to be 94 ,tak+ ! ^w 9 its mo/ ext5d$ view1 x is ! _w2 b 9 ! light we wi% to impress 9 our book x is ! small] _w ( ! *ang+1 pleasant int]c\rse ( ea* city or t[n 9 :i* our read] may *ance to abide4 ,?is society1 compos$1 z x is1 ( _m v>y+ natures & elem5ts1 :]e ea* individual mu/ submit to m]ge 8 own id5tity into ! univ]sal :ole1 :i* makes ! ^w & /ate1 is divid$ & subdivid$ into v>i\s cliques1 & has a pa/ime = e disposition1 grave or gay2 & ) ea* division rises up a new set ( =ms & c]emonies to be obs]v$ if y wi% to glide d[n ! curr5t ( polite life1 smoo?ly & pleasantly4 ,! "y man :o makes 8 fir/ entrance into ! _w ( society1 %\ld "k h[ to *oose 8 fri5ds1 & next h[ to conduct himself t[>ds !m4 ,exp]i5ce is1 ( c\rse1 ! be/ guide1 b at fir/ />t+ ?is mu/ come second h&1 f an old] fri5d1 or f books4 ,a judici\s fri5d is ! be/ guide2 b h[ is ! "y man to "k :om to *oose8 ,:5 at home ?is fri5d is easily select$2 b 9 ?is c\ntry1 :]e ea* bird leaves ! p>5t ne/ z soon z 8 w+s w be> him safely up1 !re are b few :o /ay among/ ! fri5ds at home4 ,next !n comes ! in/ruction f books4 ,true a book w n fully supply ! place ei!r ( exp]i5ce or fri5dly advice1 /ill x may be made useful1 &1 c>efully writt5 f ! exp]i5ce ( heads gr[n gray 9 society1 ) only well au!nticat$ rules1 x w be a guide n to be despis$ by ! "y aspirant = favor 9 polite & ref9$ circles4 ,y g into society f mix$ motives2 p>tly = pleasure1 recreation aft] ! fatigues ( y\r daily duties1 & p>tly t y may become kn[n4 ,9 a republican c\ntry :]e "o man's opportunities = ris+ are z good z ^? ( ano!r1 ambition w lead e ris+ man into society4 ,y may set x d[n z a rule1 t z y treat ! _w1 s ! _w w treat y4 ,c>ry into ! circles ( society a ref9$1 poli%$ mann]1 & an amiable desire to please1 & x w meet y ) smil+ grace1 & lead y =w>d pleasantly along ! fl[]y pa?s2 g1 on ! contr>y1 ) a brusque1 rude mann]1 />tl+ all ! silky s(tness be=e y ) cut & ?ru/ rem>ks1 c>ry+ only ! h>d realities ( life 9 y\r h&1 & y w f9d society arm$ to meet y1 %[+ only %>p corn]s & ?orny places = y\r blund]+ foot/eps to /umble aga9/4 ,y w f9d 9 e circle t etiquette holds "s sway2 h] rule is despotic 9 "s places1 9 o!rs mild1 & easily set aside4 ,y\r fir/ lesson 9 society w be to /udy :]e %e reigns supreme1 9 h] cr[n & hold+ h] sceptre1 & :]e %e only glides 9 ) a g5tle h9t or s1 & timidly /eps out if rebuk$2 & let y\r conduct be gov]n$ by ! result ( y\r obs]vations4 ,y w soon become famili> ) ! signs1 & tell on y\r fir/ entrance into a room :e!r kid gloves & exquisite f9i% ( mann] w be appropriate1 or :e!r x is hail1 fell[1 well met ) ! inmates4 ,rememb]1 h[ev]1 once a g5tleman always a g5tleman1 & be sure t y c s c>ry out ! rule1 t 9 y\r mo/ c>eless1 joy\s mom5ts1 :5 free/ f ! re/ra9ts ( etiquette1 y c /ill be recognizable z a g5tleman by e act1 ^w1 or look4 ,avoid too great a re/ra9t ( mann]4 ,/iffness is n polit5ess1 &1 :ile y obs]ve e rule1 y may appe> to he$ none4 ,to make y\r polit5ess "p ( y\rself1 insep>able f e action1 is ! height ( g5tlemanly elegance & f9i% ( mann]4 ,,cont5ts4 ,,page ,,introduction #c ,,*apt] ,i4 ,,conv]sation #aa ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,,polit5ess #ca ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,,table ,,etiquette #ej ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,! ,,/reet #ff ,,*apt] ,v4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,call+ #ge ,,*apt] ,,vi4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,! ,,ball ,,room #ia ,,*apt] ,,vii4 ,,dress #aaf ,,*apt] ,,viii4 ,,manly ,,ex]cises #aed ,,*apt] ,,ix4 ,,travel+ #agf ,,*apt] ,x4 ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,*ur* #ahc ,,*apt] ,,xi4 ,,"o ,,hundr$ ,,h9ts ,,= ,,g5tlemanly ,,deportm5t #ahf ,,*apt] ,,xii4 ,,p>ties #bbb ,,*apt] ,,xiii4 ,,c\rtesy ,,at ,,home #bbh ,,*apt] ,,xiv4 ,,true ,,c\rtesy #bdd ,,*apt] ,,xv4 ,,lett] ,,writ+ #beb ,,*apt] ,,xvi4 ,,w$d+ ,,etiquette #bhj ,,*apt] ,,xvii4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,places ,,( ,,amusem5t #bid ,,*apt] ,,xviii4 ,,miscellane\s #bih ,,g5tlem5',s ,,book ,,( ,,etiquette4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,,conv]sation4 ,"o ( ! fir/ rules = a guide 9 polite conv]sation1 is to avoid political or religi\s discussions 9 g5]al society4 ,su* discussions lead almo/ inv>iably to irritat+ diff]5ces ( op9ion1 (t5 to op5 qu>rels1 & a coolness ( feel+ :i* might h be5 avoid$ by dropp+ ! di/a/eful subject z soon z m>k$ diff]5ces ( op9ion arose4 ,x is b "o out ( _m t c discuss ei!r political or religi\s diff]5ces1 ) c&or & judgm5t1 & yet s f> control 8 language & temp] z to avoid ei!r giv+ or tak+ (f5ce4 ,9 _! place1 9 circles :i* h met = su* discussions1 9 a tte tte conv]sation1 9 a small p>ty ( g5tlem5 :]e ea* is ready c\rte\sly to li/5 to ! o!rs1 politics may be discuss$ ) p]fect propriety1 b 9 ! draw+-room1 at ! d9n]-table1 or 9 ! society ( ladies1 ^! topics are be/ avoid$4 ,if y are drawn into su* a discussion )\t int5d+ to be s1 be c>eful t y\r individual op9ion does n lead y into language & actions unbecom+ a g5tleman4 ,li/5 c\rte\sly to ^? ^: op9ions d n agree ) y\rs1 & keep y\r temp]4 ,a man 9 a passion ceases to be a g5tleman4 ,ev5 if conv9c$ t y\r oppon5t is utt]ly wrong1 yield gracefully1 decl9e fur!r discussion1 or dextr\sly turn ! conv]sation1 b d n ob/9ately def5d y\r own op9ion until y become angry1 or m excit$ ?an is becom+ to a g5tleman4 ,_m !re are :o1 giv+ _! op9ion1 n z an op9ion b z a law1 w def5d _! position by su* phrases1 z3 ,well1 if ,i 7 presid5t1 or gov]nor1 ,i w\ld1 c4--& :ile by ! w>m? ( _! argum5t !y prove t !y are utt]ly unable to gov]n _! own temp]1 !y w endeavor to p]suade y t !y are p]fectly compet5t to take *>ge ( ! gov]nm5t ( ! nation4 ,reta91 if y w1 a fix$ political op9ion1 yet d n p>ade x ^u all occasions1 &1 above all1 d n endeavor to =ce o!rs to agree ) y4 ,li/5 calmly to _! ideas ^u ! same subjects1 & if y _c agree1 diff] politely1 & :ile y\r oppon5t may set y d[n z a bad politician1 let him be oblig$ to admit t y are a g5tleman4 ,wit & vivacity are two highly important +r$i5ts 9 ! conv]sation ( a man 9 polite society1 yet a /ra9+ = effect1 or =c$ wit1 is 9 excessively bad ta/e4 ,!re is no "o m insupportable 9 society ?an ! ev]la/+ talk]s :o scatt] puns1 witticisms1 & jokes ) s pr(use a h& t !y become z tiresome z a comic newspap]1 & ^: l\d laugh at _! own wit dr[ns o!r voices :i* might speak matt] m int]e/+4 ,! really witty man does n %[] =? 8 wit s indiscrim9ately2 8 *>m consi/s 9 wield+ 8 p[]ful weapon delicately & easily1 & mak+ ea* highly poli%$ witticism come 9 ! "r place & mom5t to be effectual4 ,:ile real wit is a mo/ delightful gift1 & its use a mo/ *>m+ accompli%m5t1 x is1 l _m o!r bright weapons1 dang]\s to use too (t54 ,y may w\nd :]e y meant only to amuse1 & rem>ks :i* y mean only 9 = g5]al applications1 may be con/ru$ into p]sonal affronts1 s1 if y h ! gift1 use x wisely1 & n too freely4 ,! mo/ important requisite = a good conv]sational p[] is education1 &1 by ?is is meant1 n m]ely ! matt] y may /ore 9 y\r memory f obs]vation or books1 ?\gh ?is is ( va/ importance1 b x also includes ! develop+ ( ! m5tal p[]s1 &1 above all1 ! compreh5sion4 ,an ,engli% writ] says1 ,a man %\ld be able1 9 ord] to ent] into conv]sation1 to cat* rapidly ! mean+ ( any?+ t is advanc$2 = in/ance1 ?\gh y "k no?+ ( sci5ce1 y %\ld n be oblig$ to />e & be sil5t1 :5 a man :o does und]/& x is expla9+ a new discov]y or a new !ory2 ?\gh y h n read a ^w ( ,black/one1 y\r compreh5sive p[]s %\ld be suffici5tly acute to enable y to take 9 ! /atem5t t may be made ( a rec5t cause2 ?\gh y may n h read "s p>ticul> book1 y %\ld be capable ( appreciat+ ! criticism :i* y he> ( x4 ,)\t su* p[]--simple en\gh1 & easily atta9$ by att5tion & practice1 yet too seldom met ) 9 g5]al society--a conv]sation :i* dep>ts f ! mo/ ord9>y topics _c be ma9ta9$ )\t ! risk ( laps+ into a lecture2 ) su* p[]1 society becomes in/ructive z well z amus+1 & y h no remorse at an ev5+'s end at hav+ wa/$ ?ree or f\r h\rs 9 pr(itless bant]1 or simp]+ platitudes4 ,?is facility ( compreh5sion (t5 />tles u 9 "s wom51 ^: education we "k to h be5 poor1 & ^: read+ is limit$4 ,if !y did n rapidly receive y\r ideas1 !y c\ld n1 !re=e1 be fit companions = intellectual m51 & x is1 p]haps1 _! consci\sness ( a defici5cy :i* leads !m to pay ! m att5tion to :at y say4 ,x is ?is :i* makes m>ri$ wom5 s mu* m agreeable to m5 ( ?\ght ?an "y ladies1 z a rule1 c be1 = !y are accu/om$ to ! society ( a husb&1 & ! ef=t to be a companion to 8 m9d has engraft$ ! habit ( att5tion & ready reply4 ,! same au?or says3 ,no less important is ! cultivation ( ta/e4 ,if x is tiresome & dead5+ to be ) p :o _c und]/&1 & w n ev5 appe> to be int]e/$ 9 y\r bett] ?\ghts1 x is almo/ repulsive to f9d a man ins5sible to all beauty1 & immovable by any horror4 ,9 ! pres5t day an acqua9tance ) art1 ev5 if y h no love = x1 is a s9e qu non ( good society4 ,music & pa9t+ are subjects :i* w be discuss$ 9 e direction ar\nd y4 ,x is only 9 bad society t p g to ! op]a1 conc]ts1 & art-exhibitions m]ely because x is ! fa%ion1 or to say !y h be5 !re2 & if y confess$ to su* a weakness 9 really good society1 y w\ld be ju/ly vot$ a puppy4 ,= ?is1 too1 "s book k is indisp5sable4 ,y %\ld at lea/ "k ! names ( ! m celebrat$ arti/s1 compos]s1 ar*itects1 sculptors1 & s =?1 & %\ld be able to approximate _! sev]al s*ools4 ,s too1 y %\ld "k pretty accurately ! pronunciation ( celebrat$ names1 or1 if n1 take c>e n to use !m4 ,x w nev] d to be ignorant ( ! names & approximate ages ( great compos]s1 especially 9 l>ge cities1 :]e music is s highly appreciat$ & s common a !me4 ,x w be decid$ly condemnatory if y talk ( ! new op]a ',don ,giovanni1' or ,ross9i's ',trovatore1' or are ignorant :o compos$ ',fidelio1' & 9 :at op]a occur su* common pieces z ',ciascun lo dice1' or ',il segreto4' ,i d n say t ^! trifles are indisp5sable1 & :5 a man has bett] k to (f]1 especially ) g5ius or 'clev]ness' to back x1 he w n only be p>don$ = an ignorance ( !m1 b c ev5 take a high tone1 & pr(ess indiff]5ce or contempt ( !m4 ,b1 at ! same "t1 su* ignorance /amps an ord9>y man1 & h9d]s conv]sation4 ,on ! o!r h& ! be/ society w n endure dilettantism1 &1 :atev] ! k a man may possess ( any art1 he mu/ n display x s z to make ! ignorance ( o!rs pa9ful to !m4 ,b ?is applies to e topic4 ,to h only "o or two subjects to conv]se on1 & to disc\rse r ?an talk on !m1 is always ill-br$1 :e!r ! !me be lit]ature or horsefle%4 ,! g5tleman jockey w probably d5\nce ! =m] z a 'bore1' & call u p$ants = dwell+ on x2 b if1 z is too (t5 ! case1 he c give u no?+ m g5]al ?an ! discussion ( ! 'po9ts' ( a horse t1 p]haps1 we h nev] se51 he is z great a p$ant 9 8 way4 ,reason plays a less conspicu\s "p 9 good society because its frequ5t]s are too reasonable to be m]e reason]s4 ,a disputation is always dang]\s to temp]1 & t$i\s to ^? :o _c feel z eag] z ! disputants2 a discussion1 on ! o!r h&1 9 :i* e body has a *ance ( /at+ amicably & unobtrusively 8 or h] op9ion1 mu/ be ( frequ5t occurr5ce4 ,b to cultivate ! reason1 besides its high moral value1 has ! advantage ( enabl+ "o to reply z well z att5d to ! op9ions ( o!rs4 ,no?+ is m t$i\s or di%e>t5+ ?an a p]petual1 ',yes1 j s1' & no?+ m4 ,conv]sation mu/ nev] be "o-sid$4 ,!n1 aga91 ! reason enables u to support a fancy or an op9ion1 :5 we are ask$ :y we ?9k s4 ,to reply1 ',i don't "k1 b /ill ,i ?9k s1' is silly & t$i\s4 ,b !re is a "p ( our education s important & s neglect$ 9 our s*ools & colleges1 t x _c be too highly impress$ on ! "y man :o proposes to ent] society4 ,i mean t :i* we le>n fir/ ( all ?+s1 yet (t5 h n le>n$ fully :5 dea? eases u ( ! necessity--! art ( speak+ our own language4 ,:at c ,greek & ,lat91 ,fr5* & ,g]man be = u 9 our e-day life1 if we h n acquir$ ?is8 ,we are (t5 enc\rag$ to raise a laugh at ,doctor ,syntax & ! tyranny ( ,gramm>1 b we may be c]ta9 t m misund]/&+s1 &1 !re=e1 m difficulties arise betwe5 m5 9 ! commone/ int]c\rse f a want ( grammatical precision ?an f any o!r cause4 ,x 0 once ! fa%ion to neglect gramm>1 z x n[ is ) c]ta9 p to write illegibly1 &1 9 ! days ( ,goe!1 a man ?\ght himself a g5ius if he c\ld spell badly4 ,precision & accuracy mu/ beg9 9 ! v outset2 & if we neglect !m 9 gramm>1 we %all sc>cely acquire !m 9 express+ our ?\ghts4 ,b s9ce !re is no society )\t int]*ange ( ?\ght1 & s9ce ! be/ society is t 9 :i* ! be/ ?\ghts are int]*ang$ 9 ! be/ & mo/ compreh5sible mann]1 x foll[s t a prop] mode ( express+ ourselves is indisp5sable 9 good society4 ,! art ( express+ "o's ?\ghts neatly & suitably is "o :i*1 9 ! neglect ( rhetoric z a /udy1 we mu/ practice = ourselves4 ,! commone/ ?\ght well put is m useful 9 a social po9t ( view1 ?an ! mo/ brilliant idea jumbl$ out4 ,:at is well express$ is easily seiz$1 & !re=e readily respond$ to2 ! mo/ poetic fancy may be lo/ to ! he>]1 if ! language :i* conveys x is obscure4 ,spee* is ! gift :i* di/+ui%es man f animals1 & makes society possible4 ,he has b a poor appreciation ( 8 high privilege z a human be+1 :o neglects to cultivate1 ',god's great gift ( spee*4' ,z ,i am n writ+ = m5 ( g5ius1 b = ord9>y be+s1 ,i am "r to /ate t an indisp5sable "p ( education is a k ( ! lit]ature ( ! ,engli% language4 ,b h[ to read1 is1 = society m important ?an :at we read4 ,! man :o takes up no?+ b a newspap]1 b reads x to ?9k1 to d$uct conclusions f its premises1 & =m a judgm5t on its op9ions1 is m fitt$ = society ?an he1 :o hav+ all ! curr5t lit]ature & devot+ 8 :ole "t to its p]usal1 swall[s x all )\t dige/ion4 ,9 fact1 ! m9d mu/ be treat$ l ! body1 & h[ev] great its appetite1 x w soon fall into bad heal? if x gorges1 b does n rum9ate4 ,at ! same "t an acqua9tance ) ! be/ curr5t lit]ature is necess>y to mod]n society1 & x is n suffici5t to h read a book )\t be+ able to pass a judgm5t ^u x4 ,conv]sation on lit]ature is impossible1 :5 y\r respond5t c only say1 ',yes4 ,i l ! book1 b ,i really don't "k :y4' ,an acqua9tance ) old ,engli% lit]ature is n p]haps indisp5sable1 b x gives a man great advantage 9 all k9ds ( society1 & 9 "s he is at a con/ant loss )\t x4 ,! same may be said ( =eign lit]ature1 :i* 9 ! pres5t day is almo/ z mu* discuss$ z our own2 b1 on ! o!r h&1 an acqua9tance ) home & =eign politics1 ) curr5t hi/ory1 & subjects ( pass+ int]e/1 is absolutely necess>y2 & a p]son ( suffici5t intellig5ce to jo9 9 good society1 _c disp5se ) 8 daily newspap]1 8 lit]>y j\rnal1 & ! pr9cipal reviews & magaz9es4 ,! *eapness ( e k9d ( lit]ature1 ! facilities ( our well /or$ circulat+ libr>ies1 our public read+ rooms1 & num]\s excell5t lectures on e possible subject1 leave no excuse to poor or ri* = an ignorance ( any ( ! topics discuss$ 9 intellectual society4 ,y may =get y\r ,lat91 ,greek1 ,fr5*1 ,g]man1 & ,ma!matics1 b if y frequ5t good company1 y w nev] be all[$ to =get t y are a citiz5 ( ! _w4 ,a man ( real intellig5ce & cultivat$ m9d1 is g5]ally mode/4 ,he may feel :5 9 e day society1 t 9 intellectual acquirem5ts he is above ^? ar\nd him2 b he w n seek to make 8 companions feel _! inf]iority1 nor try to display ?is advantage ov] !m4 ,he w discuss ) frank simplicity ! topics />t$ by o!rs1 & endeavor to avoid />t+ su* z !y w n feel incl9$ to discuss4 ,all t he says w be m>k$ by polit5ess & def]5ce to ! feel+s & op9ions ( o!rs4 ,la ,bruy]e says1 ,! great *>m ( conv]sation consi/s less 9 ! display ( "o's own wit & intellig5ce1 ?an 9 ! p[] to draw =? ! res\rces ( o!rs2 he :o leaves y aft] a long conv]sation1 pleas$ ) himself & ! "p he has tak5 9 ! disc\rse1 w be y\r w>me/ admir]4 ,m5 d n c>e to admire y1 !y wi% y to be pleas$ ) !m2 !y d n seek = in/ruction or ev5 amusem5t f y\r disc\rse1 b !y d wi% y to be made acqua9t$ ) _! tal5ts & p[]s ( conv]sation2 & ! true man ( g5ius w delicately make all :o come 9 contact ) him1 feel ! exquisite satisfaction ( kn[+ t !y h appe>$ to advantage4 ,hav+ admitt$ ! above to be an inconte/able fact1 y w also see t x is z great an accompli%m5t to li/5 ) an air ( int]e/ & att5tion1 z x is to speak well4 ,to be a good li/5] is z indisp5sable z to be a good talk]1 & x is 9 ! "* ( li/5] t y c mo/ readily detect ! man :o is accu/om$ to good society4 ,no?+ is m emb>rass+ to any "o :o is speak+1 ?an to p]ceive signs ( we>9ess or inatt5tion 9 ! p]son :om he addresses4 ,nev] int]rupt any "o :o is speak+2 x is q z rude to (fici\sly supply a "n or date ab\t :i* ano!r hesitates1 unless y are ask$ to d s4 ,ano!r gross brea* ( etiquette1 is to anticipate ! po9t ( a /ory :i* ano!r p]son is recit+1 or to take x f 8 lips to f9i% x 9 y\r own language4 ,"s p]sons plead z an excuse = ?is brea* ( etiquette1 t ! recit] 0 spoil+ a good /ory by a bad mann]1 b ?is does n m5d ! matt]4 ,x is surely rude to give a man to und]/& t y d n consid] him capable ( f9i%+ an anecdote t he has comm5c$4 ,x is ill-br$ to put on an air ( we>9ess dur+ a long spee* f ano!r p]son1 & q z rude to look at a wat*1 read a lett]1 flirt ! leaves ( a book1 or 9 any o!r action %[ t y are tir$ ( ! speak] or 8 subject4 ,9 a g5]al conv]sation1 nev] speak :5 ano!r p]son is speak+1 & nev] try by rais+ y\r own voice to dr[n t ( ano!r4 ,nev] assume an air ( haught9ess1 or speak 9 a dictatorial mann]2 let y\r conv]sation be always amiable & frank1 free f e affectation4 ,put y\rself on ! same level z ! p]son to :om y speak1 & "u p5alty ( be+ consid]$ a p$antic idiot1 refra9+ f expla9+ any expression or ^w t y may use4 ,nev]1 unless y are reque/$ to d s1 speak ( y\r own bus9ess or pr(ession 9 society2 to conf9e y\r conv]sation entirely to ! subject or pursuit :i* is y\r own speciality is l[-br$ & vulg>4 ,make ! subject = conv]sation suit ! company 9 :i* y are plac$4 ,joy\s1 light conv]sation w be at times z mu* out ( place1 z a s]mon w\ld be at a danc+ p>ty4 ,let y\r conv]sation be grave or gay z suits ! "t or place4 ,9 a dispute1 if y _c reconcile ! p>ties1 )draw f !m4 ,y w surely make "o enemy1 p]haps two1 by tak+ ei!r side1 9 an argum5t :5 ! speak]s h lo/ _! temp]4 ,nev] ge/iculate 9 e day conv]sation1 unless y wi% to be mi/ak5 = a fif? rate com$ian4 ,nev] ask any "o :o is conv]s+ ) y to repeat 8 words4 ,no?+ is rud] ?an to say1 ,p>don me1 w y repeat t s5t5ce--,i did n he> y at fir/1 & ?us imply t y\r att5tion 0 w&]+ :5 he fir/ spoke4 ,nev]1 dur+ a g5]al conv]sation1 endeavor to conc5trate ! att5tion :olly ^u y\rself4 ,x is q z rude to ent] into conv]sation ) "o ( a gr\p1 & endeavor to draw him out ( ! circle ( g5]al conv]sation to talk ) y alone4 ,nev] li/5 to ! conv]sation ( two p]sons :o h ?us )drawn f a gr\p4 ,if !y are s ne> y t y _c avoid he>+ !m1 y may1 ) p]fect propriety1 *ange y\r seat4 ,make y\r own %>e 9 conv]sation z mode/ & brief z is consi/5t ) ! subject "u consid]ation1 & avoid long spee*es & t$i\s /ories4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ano!r1 p>ticul>ly an old man1 tells a long /ory1 or "o t is n new to y1 li/5 respectfully until he has f9i%$1 be=e y speak aga94 ,speak ( y\rself b little4 ,y\r fri5ds w f9d out y\r virtues )\t =c+ y to tell !m1 & y may feel confid5t t x is equally unnecess>y to expose y\r faults y\rself4 ,if y submit to flatt]y1 y mu/ also submit to ! imputation ( folly & self-conceit4 ,9 speak+ ( y\r fri5ds1 d n comp>e !m1 "o ) ano!r4 ,speak ( ! m]its ( ea* "o1 b d n try to height5 ! virtues ( "o by contra/+ !m ) ! vices ( ano!r4 ,no matt] h[ absurd are ! anecdotes t may be told 9 y\r pres5ce1 y mu/ nev] give any sign ( incr$ulity4 ,!y may be true2 & ev5 if false1 good bre$+ =ces y to he> !m ) polite att5tion1 & ! appe>ance ( belief4 ,to %[ by ^w or sign any tok5 ( incr$ulity1 is to give ! lie to ! n>rator1 & t is an unp>donable insult4 ,avoid1 9 conv]sation all subjects :i* c injure ! abs5t4 ,a g5tleman w nev] calumniate or li/5 to calumny4 ,ne$ ,i say t no g5tleman w ev] soil 8 m\? ) an oa?4 ,above all1 to swe> 9 a draw+-room or be=e ladies is n only indelicate & vulg> 9 ! extreme1 b ev9ces a %ock+ ignorance ( ! rules ( polite society & good bre$+4 ,= a long "t ! _w has adopt$ a c]ta9 =m ( spee* :i* is us$ 9 good society1 & :i* *ang+ (t51 is yet "o ( ! di/9ctive m>ks ( a g5tleman4 ,a ^w or ev5 a phrase :i* has be5 us$ among ! mo/ ref9$ circles1 w1 sometimes1 by a sudd5 freak ( fa%ion1 f be+ c>icatur$ 9 a f>ce or song1 or f "s o!r cause1 g entirely out ( use4 ,no?+ b habitual int]c\rse ) p ( ref9em5t & education1 & m+l+ 9 g5]al society1 w tea* a g5tleman :at words to use & :at to avoid4 ,yet !re are "s words :i* are n[ entirely out ( place 9 a p>lor4 ,avoid a declamatory /yle2 "s m51 be=e speak+1 w wave _! h&s z if comm&+ sil5ce1 &1 hav+ succe$$ 9 obta9+ ! att5tion ( ! company1 w speak 9 a tone1 & /yle1 p]fectly suitable = ! !atre or lecture room1 b entirely out ( place 9 a p>lor4 ,su* m5 entirely defeat ! object ( society1 = !y res5t int]ruption1 &1 z _! talk fl[s 9 a con/ant /ream1 no "o else c speak )\t int]rupt+ ! pomp\s idiot :o ?us endeavors to engross ! entire att5tion ( ! circle ar\nd him4 ,?is "* w be met ) con/antly1 & g5]ally jo9s to ! o!r disagreeable traits an egotism z tiresome z x is ill-br$4 ,! wittie/ man becomes t$i\s & ill-br$ :5 he endeavors to engross entirely ! att5tion ( ! company 9 :i* he %\ld take a m mode/ "p4 ,avoid set phrases1 & use quotations b r>ely4 ,!y sometimes make a v piquant addition to conv]sation1 b :5 !y become a con/ant habit1 !y are exce$+ly t$i\s1 & 9 bad ta/e4 ,avoid p$antry2 x is a m>k1 n ( intellig5ce1 b /upidity4 ,speak y\r own language correctly2 at ! same "t d n be too great a /ickl] = =mal correctness ( phrases4 ,nev] notice x if o!rs make mi/akes 9 language4 ,to notice by ^w or look su* errors 9 ^? ar\nd y1 is excessively ill-br$4 ,vulg> language & slang1 ?\gh 9 common1 un=tunately too common use1 are unbecom+ 9 any "o :o pret5ds to be a g5tleman4 ,_m ( ! words he>d n[ 9 ! p>lor & draw+-room1 d]ive _! orig9 f s\rces :i* a g5tleman w\ld hesitate to m5tion be=e ladies1 yet he w make daily use ( ! (f5sive ^w or phrase4 ,if y are a pr(essional or sci5tific man1 avoid ! use ( te*nical t]ms4 ,!y are 9 bad ta/e1 because _m w n und]/& !m4 ,if1 h[ev]1 y unconsci\sly use su* a t]m or phrase1 d n !n commit ! /ill great] error ( expla9+ its mean+4 ,no "o w ?ank y = ?us imply+ _! ignorance4 ,9 conv]s+ ) a =eign] :o speaks imp]fect ,engli%1 li/5 ) /rict att5tion1 yet d n supply a ^w1 or phrase1 if he hesitates4 ,above all1 d n by a ^w or ge/ure %[ impati5ce if he makes pauses or blund]s4 ,if y und]/& 8 language1 say s :5 y fir/ speak to him2 ?is is n mak+ a display ( y\r own k1 b is a k9dness1 z a =eign] w be pleas$ to he> & speak 8 own language :5 9 a /range c\ntry4 ,be c>eful 9 society nev] to play ! "p ( buffoon1 = y w soon become kn[n z ! funny man ( ! p>ty1 & no "* is s p]il\s to y\r dignity z a g5tleman4 ,y lay y\rself op5 to bo? c5sure & ridicule1 & y may feel sure t1 = e p]son :o laughs ) y1 two are laugh+ at y1 & = "o :o admires y1 two w wat* y\r antics ) secret contempt4 ,avoid boa/+4 ,to speak ( y\r money1 connections1 or ! luxuries at y\r comm& is 9 v bad ta/e4 ,x is q z ill-br$ to boa/ ( y\r intimacy ) di/+ui%$ p4 ,if _! names occur naturally 9 ! c\rse ( conv]sation1 x is v well2 b to be con/antly quot+1 my fri5d1 ,gov4 ,c----1 or my intimate fri5d1 ! presid5t1 is pomp\s & 9 bad ta/e4 ,:ile refus+ ! "p ( je/] y\rself1 d n1 by /iff mann]s1 or cold1 contemptu\s looks1 endeavor to *eck ! innoc5t mir? ( o!rs4 ,x is 9 excessively bad ta/e to drag 9 a grave subject ( conv]sation :5 pleasant1 bant]+ talk is go+ on ar\nd y4 ,jo9 9 pleasantly & =get y\r grav] ?\ghts = ! "t1 & y w w9 m popul>ity ?an if y *ill ! m]ry circle or turn _! innoc5t gayety to grave discussions4 ,:5 ?r[n into ! society ( lit]>y p1 d n "q !m ab\t _! works4 ,to speak 9 t]ms ( admiration ( any "w to ! au?or is 9 bad ta/e2 b y may give pleasure1 if1 by a quotation f _! writ+s1 or a happy ref]5ce to !m1 y prove t y h read & appreciat$ !m4 ,x is extremely rude & p$antic1 :5 engag$ 9 g5]al conv]sation1 to make quotations 9 a =eign language4 ,to use phrases :i* admit ( a d\ble mean+1 is ung5tlemanly1 &1 if address$ to a lady1 !y become positively insult+4 ,if y f9d y are becom+ angry 9 a conv]sation1 ei!r turn to ano!r subject or keep sil5ce4 ,y may utt]1 9 ! heat ( passion1 words :i* y w\ld nev] use 9 a calm] mom5t1 & :i* y w\ld bitt]ly rep5t :5 !y 7 once said4 ,nev] talk ( ropes to a man ^: fa!r 0 hang$ is a vulg> b popul> prov]b4 ,avoid c>efully subjects :i* may be con/ru$ into p]sonalities1 & keep a /rict res]ve ^u family matt]s4 ,avoid1 if y c1 see+ ! skeleton 9 y\r fri5d's closet1 b if x is p>ad$ = y\r special b5efit1 reg>d x z a sacr$ confid5ce1 & nev] betray y\r k to a ?ird p>ty4 ,if y h travel$1 al?\gh y w endeavor to improve y\r m9d 9 su* travel1 d n be con/antly speak+ ( y\r j\rney+s4 ,no?+ is m tiresome ?an a man :o comm5ces e phrase )1 ,:5 ,i 0 9 ,p>is1 or1 ,9 ,italy ,i saw----4 ,:5 ask+ que/ions ab\t p]sons :o are n kn[n to y1 9 a draw+-room1 avoid us+ adjectives2 or y may enquire ( a "m1 ,:o is t awkw>d1 ugly girl8 & be answ]$1 ,sir1 t is my daught]4 ,avoid gossip2 9 a woman x is dete/able1 b 9 a man x is utt]ly despicable4 ,d n (fici\sly (f] assi/ance or advice 9 g5]al society4 ,nobody w ?ank y = x4 ,ridicule & practical jok+ are bo? m>ks ( a vulg> m9d & l[ bre$+4 ,avoid flatt]y4 ,a delicate complim5t is p]missible 9 conv]sation1 b flatt]y is broad1 co>se1 & to s5sible p1 disgu/+4 ,if y flatt] y\r sup]iors1 !y w di/ru/ y1 ?9k+ y h "s selfi% end2 if y flatt] ladies1 !y w despise y1 ?9k+ y h no o!r conv]sation4 ,a lady ( s5se w feel m complim5t$ if y conv]se ) h] ^u in/ructive1 high subjects1 ?an if y address to h] only ! language ( complim5t4 ,9 ! latt] case %e w conclude t y consid] h] incapable ( discuss+ high] subjects1 & y _c expect h] to be pleas$ at be+ consid]$ m]ely a silly1 va9 p]son1 :o mu/ be flatt]$ into good humor4 ,avoid ! evil ( giv+ utt]ance to inflat$ expressions & rem>ks 9 common conv]sation4 ,x is a some:at ungrateful task to tell ^? :o w\ld %r9k f ! imputation ( a falsehood t !y are 9 ! daily habit ( utt]+ untru?s2 & yet1 if ,i proce$1 no o!r c\rse ?an ?is c be tak5 by me4 ,x is ( no use to adopt half measures2 pla9 speak+ saves a deal ( tr\ble4 ,! examples ab\t to be giv5 by me ( exagg]at$ expressions1 are only a few ( ! _m t are con/antly 9 use4 ,:e!r y c acquit y\rselves ( ! *>ge ( occasionally us+ !m1 ,i _c tell2 b ,i d>e n affirm = myself t ,i am altoge!r guiltless4 ,i 0 caught 9 ! wet la/ night1 ! ra9 came d[n 9 torr5ts4 ,mo/ ( u h be5 out 9 heavy ra9s2 b a torr5t ( wat] p\r+ d[n f ! skies w\ld a little surprise u1 aft] all4 ,i am wet to ! sk91 & h n a dry ?read ^u me4 ,:]e ^! expressions are once us$ correctly1 !y are us$ tw5ty times 9 opposition to ! tru?4 ,i tri$ to ov]take him1 b 9 va92 = he ran l lightn+4 ,! celebrat$ racehorse ,eclipse is said to h run a mile 9 a m9ute1 b poor ,eclipse is left sadly beh9d by ?is expression4 ,he kept me /&+ out 9 ! cold s long1 ,i ?\ght ,i %\ld h wait$ = ev]4 ,!re is n a p>ticle ( probability t su* a ?\ght c\ld h be5 = "o mom5t ent]ta9$4 ,z ,i came across ! common1 ! w9d 0 z ke5 z a razor4 ,?is is c]ta9ly a v ke5 rem>k1 b ! wor/ ( x is t its ke5ness f> exce$s its correctness4 ,i w5t to ! meet+1 b _h h>d "w to get 92 = ! place 0 cr[d$ to suffocation4 ,9 ?is case1 9 ju/ice to ! v]acity ( ! relat]1 x is necess>y to suppose t successful means _h be5 us$ = 8 recov]y4 ,x mu/ h be5 a f9e sight2 ,i w\ld h giv5 ! _w to h se5 x4 ,fond z mo/ ( u are ( sight-see+1 ?is w\ld be buy+ pleasure at a de> price inde$2 b x is an easy ?+ to pr(f] to "p ) t :i* we d n possess4 ,x made me q l[ spirit$2 my he>t felt z heavy z lead4 ,we mo/ ( u "k :at a heavy he>t is2 b lead is by no means ! mo/ correct metaphor to use 9 speak+ ( a heavy he>t4 ,i c\ld h>dly f9d my way1 = ! night 0 z d>k z pit*4 ,i am afraid we h all 9 our turn calumniat$ ! sky 9 ?is mann]2 pit* is _m %ades d>k] ?an ! d>ke/ night we h ev] kn[n4 ,i h told him ( t fault fifty times ov]4 ,five times w\ld1 9 all probability1 be mu* ne>] ! fact ?an fifty4 ,i nev] clos$ my eyes all night long4 ,if ?is be true1 y act$ unwisely2 = _h y clos$ y\r eyes1 y might1 p]haps1 h fall5 asleep1 & enjoy$ ! bless+ ( refre%+ slumb]2 if x be n true1 y act$ m unwisely /ill1 by /at+ t z a fact :i* is altoge!r untrue4 ,he is z tall z a *ur*-spire4 ,i h met ) "s tall fell[s 9 my "t1 ?\gh ! spire ( a *ur* is some:at tall] ?an ! talle/ ( !m4 ,y may buy a fi% at ! m>ket z big z a jackass1 = five %ill+s4 ,i c]ta9ly h my d\bts ab\t ?is matt]2 b if x be really true1 ! m>ket p mu/ be jackasses inde$ to sell su* l>ge fi%es = s little money4 ,he 0 s fat he c\ld h>dly come 9 at ! door4 ,mo/ likely ! difficulty "h allud$ to 0 nev] felt by any "o b ! relat]2 suppos+ x to be o!rwise1 ! man mu/ h be5 v broad or ! door v n>r[4 ,y don't say s6--:y1 x 0 en\gh to kill him6 ,! fact t x did n kill him is a suffici5t reply to ?is unf\nd$ obs]vation2 b no rem>k c be too absurd = an unbridl$ tongue4 ,?us might ,i run on = an h\r1 & aft] all leave mu* unsaid on ! subject ( exagg]at$ expressions4 ,we are he>+ cont9ually ! comp>isons1 black z soot1 :ite z sn[1 hot z fire1 cold z ice1 %>p z a ne$le1 dull z a door-nail1 light z a fea!r1 heavy z lead1 /iff z a pok]1 & crook$ z a crab-tree1 9 cases :]e su* expressions are q out ( ord]4 ,! practice ( express+ ourselves 9 ?is inflat$ & ?\ghtless way1 is m mis*iev\s ?an we are aw>e (4 ,x c]ta9ly leads u to sacrifice tru?2 to misrepres5t :at we mean fai?fully to describe2 to :it5 our own *>act]s1 & sometimes to black5 ! reputation ( a neighbor4 ,!re is an uprightness 9 spee* z well z 9 action1 t we ought to /rive h>d to atta94 ,! purity ( tru? is sulli$1 & ! /&>d ( integrity is l[]$1 by incorrect obs]vations4 ,let u reflect ^u ?is matt] freely & fai?fully4 ,let u love tru?1 foll[ tru?1 & practice tru? 9 our ?\ghts1 our words1 & our de$s4 ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,,polit5ess4 ,real polit5ess is ! outw>d expression ( ! mo/ g5]\s impulses ( ! he>t4 ,x en=ces unselfi%ness1 b5evol5ce1 k9dness1 & ! gold5 rule1 ,d unto o!rs z y w\ld o!rs %\ld d unto y4 ,?us its fir/ pr9ciple is love = ! neighbor1 lov+ him z y\rself4 ,:5 9 society x w\ld (t5 be exce$+ly difficult to decide h[ to treat ^? :o are p]sonally disagreeable to u1 if x 7 n = ! rules ( polit5ess1 & ! little =malities & po9ts ( etiquette :i* ^! rules en=ce4 ,^! evid5ces ( polite bre$+ d n prove hypocrisy1 z y may treat y\r mo/ bitt] enemy ) p]fect c\rtesy1 & yet make no prote/ations ( fri5d%ip4 ,if polit5ess is b a mask1 z _m philosoph]s tell u1 x is a mask :i* w w9 love & admiration1 & is bett] worn ?an ca/ aside4 ,if y we> x ) ! s9c]e desire to give pleasure to o!rs1 & make all ! little meet+s ( life pass (f smoo?ly & agreeably1 x w soon cease to be a mask1 b y w f9d t ! mann] :i* y at fir/ put on to give pleasure1 has become natural to y1 & :]ev] y h assum$ a virtue to please o!rs1 y w f9d ! virtue becom+ habitual & f9ally natural1 & "p ( y\rself4 ,d n look ^u ! rules ( etiquette z deceptions4 ,!y are j z (t5 vehicles = ! expression ( s9c]e feel+1 z !y are ! mask to conceal a want ( x4 ,y w 9 society meet ) m5 :o rail aga9/ polit5ess1 & call x deceit & hypocrisy4 ,wat* ^! m5 :5 !y h an object to ga91 or are desir\s ( mak+ a favorable impression1 & see !m tacitly1 b unconsci\sly1 admit ! p[] ( c\rtesy1 by dropp+ = ! "t1 _! unc\? ways1 to affect ! polit5ess1 !y (t5times d n feel4 ,pass ov] ! defects ( o!rs1 be prud5t1 discreet1 at ! prop] "t res]v$1 yet at o!r times frank1 & treat o!rs ) ! same g5tle c\rtesy y w\ld wi% ext5d$ to y\rself4 ,true polit5ess nev] emb>rasses any "o1 because its fir/ object is to put all at _! ease1 :ile x leaves to all p]fect fre$om ( action4 ,y mu/ meet rud5ess f o!rs by p]fect polit5ess & poli% ( mann] on y\r own "p1 & y w ?us %ame ^? :o h be5 uncivil to y4 ,y w m readily make !m blu% by y\r c\rtesy1 ?an if y met _! rud5ess by ill mann]s on y\r own "p4 ,:ile a favor may be d\bl$ 9 value1 by a frankly c\rte\s mann] ( grant+ x1 a refusal w lose half its bitt]ness if y\r mann] %[s polite regret at y\r inability to oblige him :o asks ! favor at y\r h&4 ,polit5ess may be ext5d$ to ! l[e/ & meane/1 & y w nev] by ?us ext5d+ x detract f y\r own dignity4 ,a g5tleman may & w treat 8 wa%]woman ) respect & c\rtesy1 & 8 boot-black ) pleasant affability1 yet pres]ve p]fectly 8 own position4 ,to really m]it ! "n ( a polite1 f9i%$ g5tleman1 y mu/ be polite at all times & "u all circum/ances4 ,!re is a diff]5ce betwe5 polit5ess & etiquette4 ,real polit5ess is 9-born1 & may exi/ 9 ! savage1 :ile etiquette is ! outw>d expression ( polit5ess r$uc$ to ! rules curr5t 9 good society4 ,a man may be polite1 really s 9 he>t1 yet %[ 9 e movem5t an ignorance ( ! rules ( etiquette1 & (f5d aga9/ ! laws ( society4 ,y may f9d him ) 8 elb[s ^u ! table1 or tilt+ 8 *air 9 a p>lor4 ,y may see him commit e h\r gross brea*es ( etiquette1 yet y w nev] he> him int5tionally utt] "o ^w to w\nd ano!r1 y w see t he habitually endeavors to make o!rs com=table1 *oos+ = !m ! easie/ seats1 or ! da9tie/ di%es1 & putt+ self entirely aside to contribute to ! pleasure ( all ar\nd him4 ,su* a man w le>n1 by contact ) ref9$ society1 t 8 ignorance ( ! rules :i* gov]n x1 make him1 at times1 disagreeable1 & f ! same unselfi% motive :i* prompts him to make a sacrifice ( com=t = ! sake ( o!rs1 he w wat* & le>n quickly1 almo/ by in/9ct1 :]e he (f5ds aga9/ good bre$+1 drop "o by "o 8 errors 9 etiquette1 & become truly a g5tleman4 ,on ! o!r h&1 y w meet con/antly1 9 ! be/ society1 m5 ^: poli% ( mann] is exquisite1 :o w p]=m to ! m9ute/ po9t ! niceties ( good bre$+1 :o nev] commit ! lea/ act t is =bidd5 by ! /ricte/ rules ( etiquette2 yet "u all ?is mask ( *ivalry1 gallantry1 & polit5ess w c>ry a cold1 selfi% he>t2 w1 ) a sweet smile1 graceful b[1 & elegant language1 w\nd deeply ! feel+s ( o!rs1 & :ile pass+ 9 society = models ( c\rtesy & elegance ( mann]1 be 9 feel+ z cruel & b>b>\s z ! v]ie/ savage4 ,s ,i w\ld say to y1 ,cultivate y\r he>t4 ,*]i% !re ! ,*ri/ian graces1 love = ! neighbor1 unselfi%ness1 *>ity1 & g5tl5ess1 & y w be truly a g5tleman2 add to ^! ! graceful =ms ( etiquette1 & y !n become a p]fect g5tleman4 ,etiquette exi/s 9 e corn] ( ! kn[n _w1 f ! savages 9 ! wilds ( ,africa1 :o d>e n1 ^u p5alty ( dea?1 approa* _! b>b>\s rul]s )\t c]ta9 =ms & c]emonies1 to ! mo/ ref9$ circles ( ,europe1 :]e g5tle *ivalry & a cultivat$ m9d sugge/ its rules4 ,x has exi/$ 9 all ages1 & ! /r+5cy ( its laws 9 "s c\ntries has giv5 rise to bo? ludicr\s & tragic incid5ts4 ,9 c\ntries :]e royalty rules ! etiquette1 x (t5 happ5s t pride w bl9d ^? :o make ! rules1 & ! results are (t5 fatal4 ,believ+ t ! same def]5ce :i* _! rank au?oriz$ !m to dem&1 0 also due to !m z individuals1 ! result ( su* an idea 0 an etiquette z va9 & useless z x 0 absurd4 ,= an example ,i w give an anecdote3 ,! k+s ( ,spa91 ! pr\de/ & va9e/ ( all k+s ( ! e>?1 made a rule ( etiquette z /upid z x 0 useless4 ,x 0 a fault puni%able by dea? to t\* ! foot ( ! que51 & ! individual :o ?us (f5d$1 no matt] "u :at circum/ances1 0 execut$ imm$iately4 ,a "y que5 ( ,spa91 wife ( ,*>les ! ,second1 0 rid+ on horseback 9 ! mid/ ( h] att5dants4 ,sudd5ly ! horse re>$ & ?rew ! que5 f ! saddle4 ,h] foot rema9$ 9 ! /irrup1 & %e 0 dragg$ along ! gr\nd4 ,an imm5se cr[d /ood look+ at ?is spectacle1 b no "o d>$1 = 8 life1 to attempt to rescue ! poor woman4 ,%e w\ld h di$1 _h n two "y ,fr5* (fic]s1 ignorant ( ! /upid law :i* p>alyz$ ! ,spani>ds1 sprung =w>d & sav$ h]4 ,"o /opp$ ! horse1 & :il/ he held ! bridle1 8 companion dis5gag$ f its pa9ful position ! foot ( ! "y que51 :o 01 by ?is "t1 ins5sible f fe> & ! bruises :i* %e _h already receiv$4 ,!y 7 in/antly arre/$1 & :ile ! que5 0 c>ri$ on a litt] to ! palace1 h] "y *ampions 7 m>*$ (f1 accompani$ by a /rong gu>d1 to prison4 ,! next day1 sick & feeble1 ! que5 0 oblig$ to leave h] b$1 & on h] knees be=e ! k+1 plead = ! p>don ( ! two ,fr5*m52 & h] pray] 0 only grant$ ^u condition t ! audaci\s =eign]s left ,spa9 imm$iately4 ,!re is no c\ntry 9 ! _w :]e ! absurdities ( etiquette are c>ri$ to s great a l5g? z 9 ,spa91 because !re is no nation :]e ! nobility are s pr\d4 ,! foll[+ anecdote1 :i* illu/rates ?is1 w\ld seem incr$ible 7 x n a hi/orical fact3 ,philip ! ,?ird1 k+ ( ,spa91 0 sick1 & be+ able to sit up1 0 c>efully plac$ 9 an arm *air :i* /ood opposite to a l>ge fire1 :5 ! wood 0 pil$ up to an enorm\s height4 ,! heat soon became intol]able1 & ! c\rti]s retir$ f ar\nd ! k+2 b1 z ! ,duke ,d',uss$e1 ! fire /irr] = ! k+1 0 n pres5t1 & z no "o else _h ! "r to t\* ! fire1 ^? pres5t d>$ n attempt to dim9i% ! heat4 ,! gr& *amb]la9 0 also abs5t1 & he alone 0 au?oriz$ to t\* ! k+'s foot/ool4 ,! poor k+1 too ill to rise1 9 va9 implor$ ^? ar\nd him to move 8 *air1 no "o d>$ t\* x1 & :5 ! gr& *amb]la9 arriv$1 ! k+ _h fa9t$ ) ! heat1 & a few days lat] he di$1 lit]ally roa/$ to dea?4 ,at almo/ all times1 & 9 almo/ all places1 good bre$+ may be %[n2 & we ?9k a good s]vice w be done by po9t+ out a few pla9 & simple in/ances 9 :i* x /&s oppos$ to habits & mann]s1 :i*1 ?\gh improp] & disagreeable1 are n v uncommon4 ,9 ! famili> int]c\rse ( society1 a well-br$ man w be kn[n by ! delicacy & def]5ce ) :i* he behaves t[>ds females4 ,t man w\ld des]v$ly be look$ ^u z v defici5t 9 prop] respect & feel+1 :o %\ld take any physical advantage ( "o ( ! weak] sex1 or (f] any p]sonal slight t[>ds h]4 ,woman looks1 & prop]ly looks1 = protection to man4 ,x is ! prov9ce ( ! husb& to %ield ! wife f injury2 ( ! fa!r to protect ! daught]2 ! bro!r has ! same duty to p]=m t[>ds ! si/]2 &1 9 g5]al1 e man %\ld1 9 ?is s5se1 be ! *ampion & ! lov] ( e woman4 ,n only %\ld he be ready to protect1 b desir\s to please1 & will+ to sacrifice mu* ( 8 own p]sonal ease & com=t1 if1 by do+ s1 he c increase ^? ( any female 9 ^: company he may f9d himself4 ,putt+ ^! pr9ciples into practice1 a well-br$ man1 9 8 own h\se1 w be k9d & respectful 9 8 behavi\r to e female ( ! family4 ,he w n use t[>ds !m h>% language1 ev5 if call$ ^u to express dissatisfaction ) _! conduct4 ,9 conv]sation1 he w ab/a9 f e allusion :i* w\ld put mode/y to ! blu%4 ,he w1 z mu* z 9 8 p[]1 light5 _! labors by *e]ful & volunt>y assi/ance4 ,he w yield to !m e little advantage :i* may occur 9 ! regul> r\t9e ( dome/ic life3--! mo/ com=table seat1 if !re be a diff]5ce2 ! w>me/ position by ! w9t]'s fireside2 ! nice/ slice f ! family jo9t1 & s on4 ,9 a public assembly ( any k9d1 a well-br$ man w pay reg>d to ! feel+s & wi%es ( ! females by :om he is surr\nd$4 ,he w n secure ! be/ seat = himself1 & leave ! wom5 folk to take c>e ( !mselves4 ,he w n be seat$ at all1 if ! meet+ be cr[d$1 & a s+le female appe> unaccommodat$4 ,good bre$+ w keep a p]son f mak+ l\d & />tl+ noises1 f pu%+ pa/ ano!r 9 ent]+ or go+ out ( a room2 f o/5tati\sly us+ a pocket-h&k]*ief2 f hawk+ & spitt+ 9 company2 f fidget+ any "p ( ! body2 f scrat*+ ! head1 or pick+ ! tee? ) =k or ) f+]4 ,9 %ort1 x w direct all :o /udy its rules to ab/a9 f e p]sonal act :i* may give pa9 or (f5ce to ano!r's feel+s4 ,at ! same "t1 x w enable !m to be> mu* )\t tak+ (f5ce4 ,x w tea* !m :5 to speak & :5 to be sil5t1 & h[ to behave ) due respect to all4 ,by att5tion to ! rules ( good bre$+1 & m especially to its lead+ pr9ciples1 ! poore/ man w be entitl$ to ! "* ( a g5tleman1 & by inatt5tion to !m1 ! mo/ weal?y p]son w be ess5tially vulg>4 ,vulg>ity signifies co>s5ess or indelicacy ( mann]1 & is n necess>ily associat$ ) pov]ty or l[l9ess ( condition4 ,?us an op]ative artizan may be a g5tleman1 & wor?y ( our p>ticul> e/eem2 :ile an opul5t m]*ant may be only a vulg> cl[n1 ) :om x is impossible to be on t]ms ( fri5dly int]c\rse4 ,! foll[+ rem>ks ^u ! ,"* ( a ,g5tleman by ,brooke are s admirable t ,i ne$ make no apology = quot+ !m entire4 ,he says2 ,!re is no t]m1 9 our language1 m common ?an t ( ',g5tleman2' &1 :5ev] x is he>d1 all agree 9 ! g5]al idea ( a man "s way elevat$ above ! vulg>4 ,yet1 p]haps1 no two liv+ are precisely agre$ respect+ ! qualities !y ?9k requisite = con/itut+ ?is "*4 ,:5 we he> ! epi!ts ( a 'f9e ,g5tleman1' 'a pretty ,g5tleman1' 'mu* ( a ,g5tleman1' ',g5tlemanlike1' 'some?+ ( a ,g5tleman1' 'no?+ ( a ,g5tleman1' & s =?2 all ^! diff]5t appellations mu/ int5d a peculi>ity annex$ to ! ideas ( ^? :o express !m2 ?\gh no two ( !m1 z ,i said1 may agree 9 ! con/itu5t qualities ( ! "* !y h =m$ 9 _! own m9d4 ,!re h be5 ladies :o deem$ fa%ionable dress a v capital +r$i5t 9 ! composition (--a ,g5tleman4 ,a c]ta9 easy impud5ce acquir$ by l[ p1 by casually be+ conv]sant 9 high life1 has pass$ a man curr5t ?r\gh _m companies =--a ,g5tleman4 ,9 tav]ns & bro!ls1 he :o is ! mo/ ( a bully is ! mo/ (--a ,g5tleman4 ,& ! highwayman1 9 8 mann] ( tak+ y\r purse1 may h[ev] be all[$ to h--mu* ( ! ,g5tleman4 ,plato1 among ! philosoph]s1 0 '! mo/ ( a man ( fa%ion2' & !re=e all[$1 at ! c\rt ( ,syracuse1 to be--! mo/ ( a ,g5tleman4 ,b s]i\sly1 ,i appreh5d t ?is "* is pretty mu* ^u ! mod]n4 ,9 all anci5t or dead languages we h no t]m1 any way adequate1 :]eby we may express x4 ,9 ! habits1 mann]s1 & *>act]s ( old ,sp>ta & old ,rome1 we f9d an antipa?y to all ! elem5ts ( mod]n g5tility4 ,among ^! rude & unpoli%$ p1 y read ( philosoph]s1 ( orators1 ( patriots1 h]oes1 & demigods2 b y nev] he> ( any "* s elegant z t (--a pretty ,g5tleman4 ,:5 ^? nations1 h[ev]1 became ref9$ into :at _! ance/ors w\ld h call$ corruption2 :5 luxury introduc$1 & fa%ion gave a sanction to c]ta9 sci5ces1 :i* ,cynics w\ld h br&$ ) ! ill mann]$ appellations ( drunk5ness1 gambl+1 *eat+1 ly+1 c42 ! practition]s assum$ ! new title ( ,g5tlem51 till su* ,g5tlem5 became z pl5te\s z />s 9 ! milky-way1 & lo/ di/9ction m]ely by ! conflu5ce ( _! lu/re4 ,:]e=e z ! said qualities 7 f\nd to be ( ready acquisition1 & ( easy desc5t to ! populace f _! bett]s1 ambition judg$ x necess>y to add fur!r m>ks & crit]ions = sev]+ ! g5]al h]d f ! nobl] species--( ,g5tlem54 ,accord+ly1 if ! commonalty 7 obs]v$ to h a prop5sity to religion1 _! sup]iors affect$ a disda9 ( su* vulg> prejudices2 & a fre$om t ca/ (f ! re/ra9ts ( morality1 & a c\rage t spurn$ at ! fe> ( a ,god1 7 acc\nt$ ! di/+ui%+ *>act]i/ics--( a ,g5tleman4 ,if ! populace1 z 9 ,*9a1 7 indu/ri\s & +5i\s1 ! gr&ees1 by ! l5g? ( _! nails & ! cramp+ ( _! limbs1 gave evid5ce t true dignity 0 above labor & utility1 & t to be born to no end 0 ! pr]ogative--( a ,g5tleman4 ,if ! common sort1 by _! conduct1 decl>$ a respect = ! in/itutions ( civil society & good gov]nm5t2 _! bett]s despis$ su* pusillanim\s con=mity1 & ! magi/rates paid becom+ reg>d to ! di/9ction1 & all[$ ( ! sup]ior lib]ties & privileges--( a ,g5tleman4 ,if ! l[] set %[ a s5se ( common hone/y & common ord]2 ^? :o w\ld figure 9 ! _w1 ?9k x incumb5t to demon/rate t complaisance to inf]iors1 common mann]s1 common equity1 or any ?+ common1 is q b5ea? ! att5tion or sph]e--( a ,g5tleman4 ,n[1 z und]l+s are ev] ambiti\s ( imitat+ & usurp+ ! mann]s ( _! sup]iors2 & z ?is /ate ( mortality is incid5t to p]petual *ange & revolution1 x may happ51 t :5 ! populace1 by encroa*+ on ! prov9ce ( g5tility1 h arriv$ to _! ne plus ultra ( insol5ce1 irreligion1 c42 ! g5try1 9 ord] to be aga9 di/+ui%$1 may assume ! /ation t _! inf]iors _h =sak51 &1 h[ev] ridicul\s ! supposition may appe> at pres5t1 humanity1 equity1 utility1 complaisance1 & piety1 may 9 "t come to be ! di/+ui%+ *>act]i/ics--( a ,g5tleman4 ,x appe>s t ! mo/ g5]al idea :i* p h =m$ ( a ,g5tleman1 is t ( a p]son ( =tune above ! vulg>1 & embelli%$ by mann]s t are fa%ionable 9 high life4 ,9 ?is case1 =tune & fa%ion are ! two con/itu5t +r$i5ts 9 ! composition ( mod]n ,g5tlem52 = :atev] ! fa%ion may be1 :e!r moral or immoral1 = or aga9/ reason1 "r or wrong1 x is equally ! duty ( a ,g5tleman to con=m4 ,& yet ,i appreh5d1 t true g5tility is altoge!r indep5d5t ( =tune or fa%ion1 ( "t1 cu/oms1 or op9ions ( any k9d4 ,! v same qualities t con/itut$ a g5tleman1 9 ! fir/ age ( ! _w1 are p]man5tly1 inv>iably1 & indisp5sably necess>y to ! con/itution ( ! same "* to ! end ( "t4 ,hector 0 ! f9e/ g5tleman ( :om we read 9 hi/ory1 & ,don ,quixote ! f9e/ g5tleman we read ( 9 romance2 z 0 in/anc$ f ! t5or ( _! pr9ciples & actions4 ,"s "t aft] ! battle ( ,cressy1 ,edw>d ! ,?ird ( ,engl&1 & ,edw>d ! ,black ,pr9ce1 ! m ?an heir ( 8 fa!r's r5[n1 press$ ,john ,k+ ( ,france to indulge !m ) ! pleasure ( 8 company at ,london4 ,john 0 desir\s ( embrac+ ! invitation1 & accord+ly laid ! proposal be=e 8 p>liam5t at ,p>is4 ,! p>liam5t object$1 t ! invitation _h be5 made ) an insidi\s design ( seiz+ 8 p]son1 !reby to make ! *eap] & easi] acquisition ( ! cr[n1 to :i* ,edw>d at t "t pret5d$4 ,b ,john repli$1 ) "s w>m?1 t he 0 confid5t 8 bro!r ,edw>d1 & m especially 8 "y c\s91 7 too mu* ( ! ,,g5tleman1 to treat him 9 t mann]4 ,he did n say too mu* ( ! k+1 ( ! h]o1 or ( ! sa9t1 b too mu* ( ! ,,g5tleman to be guilty ( any bas5ess4 ,! sequel v]ifi$ ?is op9ion4 ,at ! battle ( ,poicti]s ,k+ ,john 0 made prison]1 & soon aft] conduct$ by ! ,black ,pr9ce to ,engl&4 ,! pr9ce ent]$ ,london 9 triumph1 amid ! ?rong & acclamations ( millions ( ! p4 ,b !n ?is r appe>$ to be ! triumph ( ! ,fr5* k+ ?an t ( 8 conqu]or4 ,john 0 seat$ on a pr\d /e$1 royally rob$1 & att5d$ by a num]\s & gorge\s tra9 ( ! ,briti% nobility2 :ile 8 conqu]or endeavor$1 z mu* z possible1 to disappe>1 & rode by 8 side 9 pla9 attire1 & degrad+ly seat$ on a little ,iri% hobby4 ,z ,ari/otle & ! ,critics d]iv$ _! rules = epic poetry & ! sublime f a poem :i* ,hom] _h writt5 long be=e ! rules 7 =m$1 or laws e/abli%$ = ! purpose3 ?us1 f ! demeanor & innate pr9ciples ( p>ticul> g5tlem51 art has borr[$ & in/itut$ ! _m modes ( behavi\r1 :i* ! _w has adopt$1 "u ! title ( good mann]s4 ,"o quality ( a g5tleman is t ( *>ity to ! poor2 & ?is is delicately in/anc$ 9 ! acc\nt :i* ,don ,quixote gives1 to 8 fa/ fri5d ,san*o ,pan*a1 ( ! valor\s b yet m pi\s knight-errant ,sa9t ,m>t94 ,on a day1 said ! ,don1 ,sa9t ,m>t9 met a poor man half nak$1 & tak+ 8 cloak f 8 %\ld]s1 he divid$1 & gave him ! "o half4 ,n[1 tell me at :at "t ( ! ye> ?is happ5$4 ,0 ,i a witness8 quo?1 ,san*o2 h[ ! v5geance %\ld ,i "k 9 :at ye> or :at "t ( ! ye> x happ5$8 ,had/ ?\ ,san*o1 rejo9$ ! knight1 any?+ )9 !e ( ! s5tim5t ( ,sa9t ,m>t91 ?\ mu/ assur$ly h kn[n t ?is happ5$ 9 w9t]2 =1 _h x be5 summ]1 ,sa9t ,m>t9 w\ld _h giv5 ! :ole cloak4 ,ano!r *>act]i/ic ( ! true g5tleman1 is a delicacy ( behavi\r t[>d t sex :om nature has entitl$ to ! protection1 & consequ5tly entitl$ to ! t5d]ness1 ( man4 ,! same g5tleman-errant1 ent]+ into a wood on a summ]'s ev5+1 f\nd himself entangl$ among nets ( gre5 ?read t1 "h & !re1 hung f tree to tree2 & conceiv+ x "s matt] ( purpos$ conjuration1 pu%$ valor\sly =w>d to break ?r\gh ! en*antm5t4 ,h]eupon "s beautiful %eph]desses int]pos$ ) a cry1 & bes\ght him to sp>e ! implem5ts ( _! innoc5t recreation4 ,! knight1 surpris$ & *>m$ by ! vision1 repli$1--,fair creatures6 my prov9ce is to protect1 n to injure2 to seek all means ( s]vice1 b nev] ( (f5ce1 m especially to any ( y\r sex & app>5t excell5ces4 ,y\r pretty nets take up b a small piece ( favor$ gr\nd2 b1 did !y inclose ! _w1 ,i w\ld seek out new worlds1 :]eby ,i might w9 a passage1 r ?an break !m4 ,two v lovely b %amefac$ girls _h a cause1 ( "s consequ5ce1 dep5d+ at ,we/m9/]1 t indisp5sably requir$ _! p]sonal appe>ance4 ,!y 7 relations ( ,sir ,joseph ,jeckel1 &1 on ?is trem5d\s occasion1 reque/$ 8 company & c\nt5ance at ! c\rt4 ,sir ,joseph att5d$ accord+ly2 & ! cause be+ op5$1 ! judge dem&$ :e!r he 0 to entitle ^? ladies by ! d5om9ation ( sp9/]s4 ',no1 my ,"l1' said ,sir ,joseph2 '!y are lilies ( ! valley1 !y toil n1 nei!r d !y sp91 yet y see t no mon>*1 9 all 8 glory1 0 ev] array$ l "o ( ^!4' ,ano!r v peculi> *>act]i/ic ( a g5tleman is1 ! giv+ place & yield+ to all ) :om he has to d4 ,( ?is we h a %9+ & affect+ in/ance 9 ,abraham1 p]haps ! mo/ accompli%$ "* t may be f\nd 9 hi/ory1 :e!r sacr$ or pr(ane4 ,a cont5tion _h aris5 betwe5 ! h]dsm5 ( ,abraham & ! h]dsm5 ( 8 nephew1 ,lot1 respect+ ! propriety ( ! pa/ure ( ! l&s :]e9 !y dwell$1 t c\ld n[ sc>ce conta9 ! abundance ( _! cattle4 ,& ^? s]vants1 z is univ]sally ! case1 _h respectively endeavor$ to k9dle & inflame _! ma/]s ) _! own passions4 ,:5 ,abraham1 9 consequ5ce ( ?is1 p]ceiv$ t ! c\nt5ance ( ,lot began to *ange t[>d him1 he call$1 & g5]\sly expo/ulat$ ) him z foll[e?3 ',let !re be no /rife1 ,i pray !e1 betwe5 me & !e1 or betwe5 my h]dsm5 & ?y h]dsm52 = we be bre?r54 ,if x be ?y desire to sep>ate ?yself f me1 is n ! :ole l& be=e !e8 ,if ?\ wilt take ! left h&1 !n w ,i g to ! "r2 or if ?\ dep>t to ! "r h&1 !n ,i w g to ! left4' ,ano!r capital quality ( ! true g5tleman is1 t ( feel+ himself conc]n$ & int]e/$ 9 o!rs4 ,nev] 0 !re s b5evol5t1 s affect+1 s pa!tic a piece ( oratory exhibit$ ^u e>?1 z t ( ,abraham's plead+ ) ,god = av]t+ ! judgm5ts t !n imp5d$ ov] ,sodom4 ,b ! matt] is already s g5]ally celebrat$1 t ,i am con/ra9$ to ref] my read] to ! passage at full2 s9ce ! smalle/ abridgm5t mu/ d$uct f its beauties1 & t no?+ c be add$ to ! excell5ces !re(4 ,honor1 aga91 is said1 9 ,scripture1 peculi>ly to di/+ui% ! "* ( a g5tleman2 :]e x is writt5 ( ,se*em1 ! son ( ,hamor1 't he 0 m honorable ?an all ! h\se ( 8 fa!r4' ,f h5ce x may be inf]r$1 t human excell5ce1 or human amiabl5ess1 do? n s mu* consi/ 9 a fre$om f frailty z 9 our recov]y f lapses1 our dete/ation ( our own transgressions1 & our desire ( aton+1 by all possible means1 ! injuries we h done1 & ! (f5ces we h giv54 ,h]e91 !re=e1 may consi/ ! v s+ul> di/9ction :i* ! great apo/le makes betwe5 8 e/imation ( a j & ( a good man4 ',= a j or righte\s man1' says he1 '"o w\ld grudge to die2 b = a good man "o w\ld ev5 d>e to die4' ,"h ! j man is suppos$ to adh]e /rictly to ! rule ( "r or equity1 & to exact f o!rs ! same measure t he is satisfi$ to mete2 b ! good man1 ?\gh occasionally he may fall %ort ( ju/ice1 has1 prop]ly speak+1 no measure to 8 b5evol5ce1 8 g5]al prop5sity is to give m ?an ! due4 ,! j man condemns1 & is desir\s ( puni%+ ! transgressors ( ! l9e prescrib$ to himself2 b ! good man1 9 ! s5se ( 8 own falls & fail+s1 gives latitude1 indulg5ce1 & p>don to o!rs2 he judges1 he condemns no "o save himself4 ,! j man is a /ream t deviates n to ! "r or left f its appo9t$ *annel1 nei!r is swell$ by ! flood ( passion above its banks2 b ! he>t ( ! good man1 ! man ( honor1 ! g5tleman1 is z a lamp light$ by ! brea? ( ,,god1 & none save ,,god himself c set limits to ! efflux or irradiations !re(4 ,aga91 ! g5tleman nev] envies any sup]ior excell5ce1 b gr[s himself m excell5t1 by be+ ! admir]1 promot]1 & lov] !re(4 ,saul said to 8 son ,jona?an1 ',?\ son ( ! p]v]se1 rebelli\s woman1 d n ,i "k t ?\ ha/ *os5 ! son ( ,jesse to ?9e own confusion8 ,= z long z ! son ( ,jesse live? ^u ! gr\nd1 ?\ %alt n be e/abli%$1 nor ?y k+dom2 :]e=e s5d & fet* him unto me1 = he %all surely die4' ,"h e int]e/+ motive t c possibly be conceiv$ to h an influ5ce on man1 unit$ to urge ,jona?an to ! de/ruction ( ,david2 he w\ld !reby h obey$ 8 k+1 & pacifi$ a fa!r :o 0 enrag$ aga9/ him4 ,he w\ld !reby h remov$ ! only lum9>y t !n eclips$ ! brightness ( 8 own a*ievem5ts4 ,& he saw1 z 8 fa!r said1 t ! dea? ( ,david alone c\ld e/abli% ! k+dom 9 himself & 8 po/]ity4 ,b all ^? consid]ations 7 ( no avail to make ,jona?an sw]ve f honor1 to slack5 ! b&s ( 8 fai?1 or cool ! w>m? ( 8 fri5d%ip4 ,o ,jona?an6 ! sacrifice :i* ?\ !n made/ to virtue1 0 incomp>ably m illu/ri\s 9 ! sight ( ,god & 8 angels ?an all ! subsequ5t glories to :i* ,david atta9$4 ,:at a cr[n 0 ?9e1 ',jona?an1 :5 ?\ wa/ sla9 9 ?y high places6' ,saul ( ,t>sus _h be5 a man ( bigotry1 blood1 & viol5ce2 mak+ havoc1 & brea?+ out ?reat5+s & slaught]1 aga9/ all :o 7 n ( 8 own sect & p]suasion4 ,b1 :5 ! _s ( t ,,infant1 :o laid himself 9 ! mang] ( human fle%1 came ^u him1 he acquir$ a new he>t & a new nature2 & he (f]$ himself a will+ subject to all ! suff]+s & p]secutions :i* he _h br\ght ^u o!rs4 ,saul f t "t1 exemplifi$ 9 8 own p]son1 all ^? qualities ( ! g5tleman1 :i* he aft]w>ds specifies 9 8 celebrat$ description ( t *>ity1 :i*1 z he says1 alone endure? =ev]4 ,:5 ,fe/us cri$ ) a l\d voice1 ',paul1 ?\ art beside ?yself1 mu* le>n+ do? make !e mad2' ,paul /ret*$ ! h&1 & answ]$1 ',i am n mad1 mo/ noble ,fe/us1 b speak =? ! words ( tru? & sob]ness4 ,= ! k+ kn[e? ( ^! ?+s1 be=e :om also ,i speak freely2 = ,i am p]suad$ t none ( ^! ?+s are hidd5 f him4 ,k+ ,agrippa1 believe/ ?\ ! prophets8 ,i "k t ?\ believe/4' ,!n ,agrippa said unto ,paul1 ',almo/ ?\ p]suade/ me to be a ,*ri/ian4' ,& ,paul said1 ',i w\ld to ,god t n only ?\1 b also all t he> me ?is day1 7 n only almo/ b altoge!r su* z ,i am1--except ^! bonds4' ,"h1 ) :at an inimitable elegance did ?is man1 9 8 own p]son1 at once sum up ! orator1 ! sa9t1 & ! g5tleman6 ,f ^! in/ances1 my fri5d1 y mu/ h se5 t ! "*1 or r quality ( a ,,g5tleman1 does n1 9 any degree1 dep5d on fa%ion or mode1 on /ation or op9ion2 nei!r *anges ) cu/oms1 climate1 or ages4 ,b1 z ! ,_s ( ,god c alone inspire x into man1 s x is1 z ,god is ! same1 ye/]day1 to-day1 & =ev]4 ,9 conclud+ ?is *apt] ,i w\ld say3 ,9 ! common actions & transactions ( life1 !re is a wide di/9ction betwe5 ! well-br$ & ! ill-br$4 ,if a p]son ( ! latt] sort be 9 a sup]ior condition 9 life1 8 conduct t[>ds ^? bel[ him1 or dep5d5t ^u him1 is m>k$ by haught9ess1 or by unmann]ly condesc5sion4 ,9 ! company ( 8 equals 9 /ation & circum/ances1 an ill-br$ man is ei!r capti\s & qu>relsome1 or (f5sively famili>4 ,he does n consid] t3 ',! man :o hails y ,tom or ,jack1 ,& proves1 by ?umps ^u y\r back1 ,h[ he e/eems y\r m]it1 ,is su* a fri5d1 t "o _h ne$ ,be v mu* a fri5d inde$1 ,to p>don or to be> x4' ,& if a man void ( good bre$+ h to transact bus9ess ) a sup]ior 9 weal? or situation1 x is m ?an likely t he w be ne$lessly humble1 un9t5tionally insol5t1 or1 at any rate1 mis]ably emb>rass$4 ,on ! contr>y1 a well-br$ p]son w in/9ctively avoid all ^! errors4 ',to inf]iors1 he w speak k9dly & consid]ately1 s z to relieve !m f any feel+ ( be+ b5ea? him 9 circum/ances4 ,to equals1 he w be pla91 unaffect$1 & c\rte\s4 ,to sup]iors1 he w "k h[ to %[ becom+ respect1 )\t desc5d+ to subs]vi5cy or meanness4 ,9 %ort1 he w act a manly1 in(f5sive1 & agreeable "p1 9 all ! situations 9 life 9 :i* he may be plac$4' ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,,table ,,etiquette4 ,x may seem a v simple ?+ to eat y\r meals1 yet !re is no occasion ^u :i* ! g5tleman1 & ! l[-br$1 vulg> man are m /rongly contra/$1 ?an :5 at ! table4 ,! rules ,i %all give = table etiquette :5 9 company w apply equally well = ! home circle1 ) ! exception ( "s few po9ts1 readily disc]nible1 :i* may be omitt$ at y\r own table4 ,a well-br$ man1 receiv+ an invitation to d9e ) a fri5d %\ld reply to x imm$iately1 :e!r he accepts or decl9es x4 ,he %\ld be punctual to ! h\r nam$ 9 ! invitation1 five or t5 m9utes e>li] if conv5i5t1 b n "o in/ant lat]4 ,he mu/ nev]1 unless he has previ\sly ask$ p]mission to d s1 take ) him any fri5d n nam$ 9 8 invitation4 ,8 ho/ & ho/ess h ! privilege ( invit+ :om !y w1 & x is an imp]t95ce to =ce !m to ext5d _! hospitality1 z !y mu/ d if y introduce a fri5d at _! own h\se4 ,speak1 on ent]+ ! p>lor ( y\r fri5d1 fir/ to ! ho/ess1 !n to ! ho/4 ,:5 d9n] is ann\nc$1 ! ho/ or ho/ess w give ! signal = leav+ ! draw+-room1 & y w probably be reque/$ to escort "o ( ! ladies to ! table4 ,(f] to h] y\r left arm1 & at ! table wait until %e is seat$1 inde$ wait until e lady is seat$1 be=e tak+ y\r own place4 ,9 leav+ ! p>lor y w pass out fir/1 & ! lady w foll[ y1 /ill hold+ y\r arm4 ,at ! door ( ! d9+-room1 ! lady w drop y\r arm4 ,pass 91 !n wait on "o side ( ! entrance till %e passes y1 to h] place at ! table4 ,if !re are no ladies1 y may g to ! table ) any g5tleman :o /&s ne> y1 or ) :om y may be conv]s+ :5 d9n] is ann\nc$4 ,if y\r companion is old] ?an y\rself1 ext5d to him ! same c\rtesy :i* y w\ld use t[>ds a lady4 ,!re are a ?\s& little po9ts to be obs]v$ 9 y\r conduct at table :i*1 :ile !y are n absolutely necess>y1 are yet di/9ctive m>ks ( a well-br$ man4 ,if1 :5 at home1 y practice habitually ! c\rtesies ( ! table1 !y w sit ^u y easily :5 abroad2 b if y neglect !m at home1 y w use !m awkw>dly :5 9 company1 & y w f9d y\rself recogniz$ z a man :o has company mann]s1 only :5 abroad4 ,i h se5 m5 :o eat s\p1 or *ew$ _! food1 9 s noisy a mann] z to be he>d f "o end ( ! table to ! o!r2 fill _! m\?s s full ( food1 z to ?reat5 suffocation or *ok+2 use _! own knife = ! butt]1 & salt2 put _! f+]s 9 ! sug> b[l2 & commit o!r faults q z mon/r\s1 yet seem p]fectly unconsci\s t !y 7 do+ any?+ to attract att5tion4 ,try to sit easily & gracefully1 b at ! same "t avoid cr[d+ ^? beside y4 ,f> f eat+ ) avidity ( :atev] delicacies :i* may be ^u ! table1 & :i* are (t5 s]v$ 9 small quantities1 p>take ( !m b sp>+ly1 & decl9e !m :5 (f]$ ! second "t4 ,_m m5 at _! own table h little peculi> notions1 :i* a gue/ does well to respect4 ,"s w feel hurt1 ev5 (f5d$1 if y decl9e a di% :i* !y recomm5d2 :ile o!rs expect y to eat enorm\sly1 z if !y fe>$ y did n appreciate _! hospitality unless y ta/$ ( e di% ^u ! table4 ,try to pay respect to su* :ims at ! table ( o!rs1 b avoid hav+ any su* notions :5 presid+ ov] y\r own bo>d4 ,obs]ve a /rict sobriety2 nev] dr9k ( m ?an "o k9d ( w9e1 & p>take ( t sp>+ly4 ,! /yle ( s]v+ d9n] is diff]5t at diff]5t h\ses2 if !re are _m s]vants !y w br+ y y\r plate fill$1 & y mu/ keep x4 ,if y h ! c>e ( a lady1 see t %e has :at %e desires1 be=e y give y\r own ord] to ! wait]2 b if !re are b few dome/ics1 & ! di%es are ^u ! table1 y may ) p]fect propriety help ^? ne> y1 f any di% )9 y\r rea*4 ,if y\r ho/ or ho/ess passes y a plate1 keep x1 especially if y h *os5 ! food ^u x1 = o!rs h also a *oice1 & by pass+ x1 y may give y\r neighbor di%es di/a/eful to him1 & take y\rself ^? :i* he w\ld mu* pref]4 ,if 9 ! leaves ( y\r salad1 or 9 a plate ( fruit y f9d a worm or insect1 pass y\r plate to ! wait]1 )\t any comm5t1 & he w br+ y ano!r4 ,be c>eful to avoid ! extremes ( gluttony or ov] da9t9ess at table4 ,to eat enorm\sly is disgu/+2 b if y eat too sp>+ly1 y\r ho/ may ?9k t y despise 8 f>e4 ,wat* t ! lady :om y escort$ to ! table is well help$4 ,lift & *ange h] plate = h]1 pass h] bread1 salt1 & butt]1 give h] ord]s to ! wait]1 & pay h] e att5tion 9 y\r p[]4 ,be=e tak+ y\r place at table1 wait until y\r place is po9t$ out to y1 unless !re are c>ds be>+ ! names ( ! gue/s ^u ! plates2 9 ! latt] case1 take ! place ?us m>k$ = y4 ,put y\r napk9 ^u y\r lap1 cov]+ y\r knees4 ,x is out ( date1 & n[ look$ ^u z a vulg> habit to put y\r napk9 up ov] y\r brea/4 ,sit nei!r too ne> nor too f> f ! table4 ,nev] hit* up y\r coat-sleeves or wri/b&s z if y 7 go+ to wa% y\r h&s4 ,"s m5 d ?is habitually1 b x is a sign ( v bad bre$+4 ,nev] tip y\r *air1 or l\nge back 9 x dur+ d9n]4 ,all ge/iculations are out ( place1 & 9 bad ta/e at ! table4 ,avoid mak+ !m4 ,conv]se 9 a l[ tone to y\r neighbor1 yet n ) any air ( secresy if o!rs are engag$ 9 tte--tte conv]sation2 if1 h[ev]1 ! conv]sation is g5]al1 avoid conv]s+ tte--tte4 ,d n raise y\r voice too mu*2 if y _c make ^? at "s di/ance f y he> y :5 speak+ 9 a mod]ate tone1 conf9e y\r rem>ks to ^? ne> y4 ,if y wi% = a knife1 plate1 or any?+ f ! side table1 nev] address ^? 9 att5dance z ,wait]6 z y w\ld at a hotel or re/aurant1 b call "o ( !m by "n2 if y _c d ?is1 make him a sign )\t speak+4 ,unless y are reque/$ to d s1 nev] select any p>ticul> "p ( a di%2 b1 if y\r ho/ asks y :at "p y pref]1 "n "s "p1 z 9 ?is case ! incivility w\ld consi/ 9 mak+ y\r ho/ *oose z well z c>ve = y4 ,nev] bl[ y\r s\p if x is too hot1 b wait until x cools4 ,nev] raise y\r plate to y\r lips1 b eat ) y\r spoon4 ,nev] t\* ei!r y\r knife or y\r =k until aft] y h f9i%$ eat+ y\r s\p4 ,leave y\r spoon 9 y\r s\p plate1 t ! s]vant may remove !m bo?4 ,nev] take s\p twice4 ,9 *ang+ y\r plate1 or pass+ x dur+ d9n]1 remove y\r knife & =k1 t ! plate alone may be tak51 b aft] y h f9i%$ y\r d9n]1 cross ! knife & =k on ! plate1 t ! s]vant may take all away1 be=e br++ y clean ones = dess]t4 ,d n bite y\r bread f ! roll or slice1 nor cut x ) y\r knife2 break (f small pieces & put ^! 9 y\r m\? ) y\r f+]s4 ,at d9n] d n put butt] on y\r bread4 ,nev] dip a piece ( bread into ! gravy or pres]ves ^u y\r plate & !n bite x1 b if y wi% to eat !m toge!r1 break ! bread into small pieces1 & c>ry ^! to y\r m\? ) y\r =k4 ,use always ! salt-spoon1 sug>-tongs1 & butt] knife2 to use y\r own knife1 spoon1 or f+]s1 ev9ces a %ock+ want ( good-bre$+4 ,nev] criticize any di% be=e y4 ,if a di% is di/a/eful to y1 decl9e x1 b make no rem>ks ab\t x4 ,x is sick5+ & disgu/+ to expla9 at a table h[ "o article makes y sick1 or :y "s o!r di% has become di/a/eful to y4 ,i h se5 a well-dress$ tempt+ di% g f a table unt\*$1 because "o ( ! company told a mo/ disgu/+ anecdote ab\t f9d+ v]m9 s]v$ 9 a simil> di%4 ,no wit 9 ! n>ration c excuse s palpably an error ( polit5ess4 ,nev] put bones1 or ! se$s ( fruit ^u ! tableclo?4 ,put !m ^u ! edge ( y\r plate4 ,nev] use y\r knife = any purpose b to cut y\r food4 ,x is n meant to be put 9 y\r m\?4 ,y\r =k is int5d$ to c>ry ! food f y\r plate to y\r m\?1 & no g5tleman ev] eats ) 8 knife4 ,if ! meat or fi% ^u y\r plate is too r>e or too well-done1 d n eat x2 give = an excuse t y pref] "s o!r di% be=e y2 b nev] tell y\r ho/ t 8 cook has made ! di% uneatable4 ,nev] speak :5 y h any?+ 9 y\r m\?4 ,nev] pile ! food on y\r plate z if y 7 />v+1 b take a little at a "t2 ! di%es w n run away4 ,nev] use y\r own knife & =k to help ei!r y\rself or o!rs4 ,!re is always "o be=e ! di% at e well-s]v$ table1 & y %\ld use t4 ,x is a good plan to accu/om y\rself to us+ y\r =k ) ! left h&1 :5 eat+1 z y ?us avoid ! awkw>dness ( con/antly pass+ ! =k f y\r left h& to y\r "r1 & back aga91 :5 cutt+ y\r food & eat+ x4 ,nev] put fruit or bon-bons 9 y\r pocket to c>ry !m f ! table4 ,d n cut fruit ) a /eel knife4 ,use a silv] "o4 ,nev] eat s fa/ z to hurry ! o!rs at ! table1 nor s sl[ly z to keep !m wait+4 ,if y d n take w9e1 nev] keep ! bottle /&+ be=e y1 b pass x on4 ,if y d take x1 pass x on z soon z y h fill$ y\r glass4 ,if y wi% to remove a fi% bone or fruit se$ f y\r m\?1 cov] y\r lips ) y\r h& or napk91 t o!rs may n see y remove x4 ,if y wi% to use y\r h&k]*ief1 & h n "t to leave ! table1 turn y\r head away1 & z quickly z possible put ! h&k]*ief 9 y\r pocket aga94 ,always wipe y\r m\? be=e dr9k+1 z no?+ is m ill-br$ ?an to grease y\r glass ) y\r lips4 ,if y are invit$ to dr9k ) a fri5d1 & d n dr9k w9e1 b[1 raise y\r glass ( wat] & dr9k ) him4 ,d n propose to take w9e ) y\r ho/2 x is 8 privilege to invite y4 ,d n put y\r glass upside d[n on ! table to signify t y d n wi% to dr9k any m2 x is suffici5t to refuse firmly4 ,d n be p]suad$ to t\* ano!r drop ( w9e aft] y\r own prud5ce w>ns y t y h tak5 en\gh4 ,avoid any air ( my/]y :5 speak+ to ^? next y2 x is ill-br$ & 9 excessively bad ta/e4 ,if y wi% to speak ( any "o1 or to any "o at ! table1 call !m by "n1 b nev] po9t or make a signal :5 at table4 ,:5 tak+ c(fee1 nev] p\r x into y\r sauc]1 b let x cool 9 ! cup1 & dr9k f t4 ,if at a g5tleman's p>ty1 nev] ask any "o to s+ or tell a /ory2 y\r ho/ alone has ! "r ?us to call ^u 8 gue/s4 ,if invit$ y\rself to s+1 & y feel suffici5tly sure t y w give pleasure1 comply imm$iately ) ! reque/4 ,if1 h[ev]1 y refuse1 rema9 firm 9 y\r refusal1 z to yield aft] once refus+ is a brea* ( etiquette4 ,:5 ! f+]-glasses are pass$1 dip y\r f+]s into !m & !n wipe !m ^u y\r napk94 ,nev] leave ! table till ! mi/ress ( ! h\se gives ! signal4 ,on leav+ ! table put y\r napk9 on ! table1 b d n fold x4 ,(f] y\r arm to ! lady :om y escort$ to ! table4 ,x is excessively rude to leave ! h\se z soon z d9n] is ov]4 ,respect to y\r ho/ess obliges y to /ay 9 ! draw+-room at lea/ an h\r4 ,if ! ladies )draw1 leav+ ! g5tlem51 aft] d9n]1 rise :5 !y leave ! table1 & rema9 /&+ until !y h left ! room4 ,i give1 f a rec5t ,engli% "w1 "s humor\sly writt5 directions = table etiquette1 &1 al?\gh !y are "s ( !m repetitions ( :at ,i h already giv51 !y w be f\nd to conta9 _m useful h9ts3 ,we n[ come to habits at table1 :i* are v important4 ,h[ev] agreeable a man may be 9 society1 if he (f5ds or disgu/s by 8 table traits1 he w soon be sc\t$ f x1 & ju/ly s4 ,!re are "s broad rules = behavior at table4 ,:5ev] !re is a s]vant to help y1 nev] help y\rself4 ,nev] put a knife into y\r m\?1 n ev5 ) *eese1 :i* %\ld be eat5 ) a =k4 ,nev] use a spoon = any?+ b liquids4 ,nev] t\* any?+ edible ) y\r f+]s4 ,=ks 71 und\bt$ly1 a lat] inv5tion ?an f+]s1 b1 z we are n cannibals1 ,i am incl9$ to ?9k !y 7 a good "o4 ,!re are "s few ?+s :i* y may take up ) y\r f+]s4 ,?us an epicure w eat ev5 mac>oni ) 8 f+]s2 & z suck+ asp>agus is m pleasant ?an *ew+ x1 y may1 z an epicure1 take x up au naturel4 ,b bo? ^! ?+s are g5]ally eat5 ) a =k4 ,bread is1 ( c\rse1 eat5 ) ! f+]s1 & x w\ld be absurd to c>ve x ) y\r knife & =k4 ,x mu/1 on ! contr>y1 always be brok5 :5 n butt]$1 & y %\ld nev] put a slice ( dry bread to y\r m\? to bite a piece (f4 ,mo/ fre% fruit1 too1 is eat5 ) ! natural prongs1 b :5 y h peel$ an orange or apple1 y %\ld cut x ) ! aid ( ! =k1 unless y c succe$ 9 break+ x4 ,apropos ( :i*1 ,i may h9t t no epicure ev] yet put a knife to an apple1 & t an orange %\ld be peel$ ) a spoon4 ,b ! art ( peel+ an orange s z to hold its own juice1 & its own sug> too1 is "o t c sc>cely be taught 9 a book4 ,h[ev]1 let u g to d9n]1 & ,i w soon tell y :e!r y are a well-br$ man or n2 & "h let me premise t :at is good mann]s = a small d9n] is good mann]s = a l>ge "o1 & vice v]s4 ,n[1 ! fir/ ?+ y d is to sit d[n4 ,/op1 sir6 pray d n cram y\rself into ! table 9 t way2 no1 nor sit a y>d f x1 l t4 ,h[ graceless1 inconv5i5t1 & 9 ! way ( conv]sation6 ,:y1 de> me6 y are positively putt+ y\r elb[s on ! table1 & n[ y h got y\r h&s fumbl+ ab\t ) ! spoons & =ks1 & n[ y are ne>ly knock+ my new hock glasses ov]4 ,c't y take y\r h&s d[n1 sir8 ,didn't y le>n t 9 ! nurs]y8 ,didn't y\r mamma say to y1 ',nev] put y\r h&s above ! table except to c>ve or eat8' ,oh6 b come1 no nons5se1 sit up1 if y please4 ,i c't h y\r f9e head ( hair =m+ a side di% on my table2 y mu/ n bury y\r face 9 ! plate1 y came to %[ x1 & x ought to be alive4 ,well1 b !re is no occasion to ?r[ y\r head back l t1 y look l an ald]man1 sir1 aft] d9n]4 ,pray1 don't l\nge 9 t sleepy way4 ,y are "h to eat1 dr9k1 & be m]ry4 ,y c sleep :5 y get home4 ,well1 !n1 ,i suppose y c see y\r napk94 ,got none1 inde$6 ,v likely1 9 my h\se4 ,y may be sure t ,i nev] sit d[n to a meal )\t napk9s4 ,i don't want to make my tableclo?s unfit = use1 & ,i don't want to make my tr\s]s unwe>able4 ,well1 n[1 we are all seat$1 y c unfold x on y\r knees2 no1 no2 don't tuck x into y\r wai/coat l an ald]man2 & :at6 :at on e>? d y mean by wip+ y\r =ehead ) x8 ,d y take x = a t[el8 ,well1 nev] m9d1 ,i am consol$ t y did n g f>!r1 & use x z a pocket-h&k]*ief4 ,s talk away to ! lady on y\r "r1 & wait till s\p is h&$ to y4 ,by ! way1 t wait+ is ! mo/ important "p ( table mann]s1 &1 z mu* z possible1 y %\ld avoid ask+ = any?+ or help+ y\rself f ! table4 ,y\r s\p y eat ) a spoon--,i don't "k :at else y c\ld eat x )--b !n x mu/ be "o ( good size4 ,yes1 t w d1 b ,i beg y w n make t odi\s noise 9 dr9k+ y\r s\p4 ,x is l\d] ?an a dog lapp+ wat]1 & a cat w\ld be q g5teel to x4 ,!n y ne$ n scrape up ! plate 9 t way1 nor ev5 tilt x to get ! la/ drop4 ,i %all be happy to s5d y "s m2 b ,i mu/ j rem>k1 t x is n ! cu/om to take two help+s ( s\p1 & x is liable to keep o!r p wait+1 :i*1 once = all1 is a selfi% & intol]able habit4 ,b don't y he> ! s]vant (f]+ y %]ry8 ,i wi% y w\ld att5d1 = my s]vants h q en\gh to d1 & c't wait all ! ev5+ :ile y f9i% t v mild /ory to ,miss ,goggles4 ,come1 leave t decant] alone4 ,i _h ! w9e put on ! table to fill up2 ! s]vants w h& x directly1 or1 z we are a small p>ty1 ,i w tell y to help y\rself2 b1 pray1 d n be s (fici\s4 7,!re1 ,i h s5t him "s turbot to keep him quiet4 ,i decl>e he _c make up 8 m9d47 ,y are keep+ my s]vant aga91 sir4 ,w y1 or w y n1 d turbot8 ,don't exam9e x 9 t way2 x is q fre%1 ,i assure y2 take or decl9e x4 ,ah1 y take x1 b t is no reason :y y %\ld take up a knife too4 ,fi%1 ,i repeat mu/ nev] be t\*$ ) a knife4 ,take a =k 9 ! "r & a small piece ( bread 9 ! left h&4 ,good1 b--8 ,oh6 t is atroci\s2 ( c\rse y mu/ n swall[ ! bones1 b y %\ld r d s ?an spit !m out 9 t way4 ,put up y\r napk9 l ?is1 & l& ! said bone on y\r plate4 ,don't rub y\r head 9 ! sauce1 my good man1 nor g progg+ ab\t aft] ! %rimps or oy/]s !re94 ,oh6 h[ horrid6 ,i decl>e y\r m\? 0 wide op5 & full ( fi%4 ,small pieces1 ,i besee* y2 & once = all1 :atev] y eat1 keep y\r m\? %ut1 & nev] attempt to talk ) x full4 ,s n[ y h got a pt4 ,surely y are n tak+ two on y\r plate4 ,!re is pl5ty ( d9n] to come1 & "o is q en\gh4 ,oh6 de> me1 y are incorrigible4 ,:at6 a knife to cut t light1 brittle pa/ry8 ,no1 nor f+]s1 nev]4 ,nor a spoon--almo/ z bad4 ,take y\r =k1 sir1 y\r =k2 &1 n[ y h eat51 oblige me by wip+ y\r m\? & m\/a*e ) y\r napk91 = !re is a bit ( ! pa/ry hang+ to ! latt]1 & look+ v disagreeable4 ,well1 y c refuse a di% if y l4 ,!re is no positive necessity = y to take v5ison if y don't want x4 ,b1 at any rate1 d n be 9 t t]rific hurry4 ,y are n go+ (f by ! next tra94 ,wait = ! sauce & wait = vegetables2 b :e!r y eat !m or n1 d n beg9 be=e ev]ybody else4 ,surely y mu/ take my table = t ( a railway refre%m5t-room1 = y h f9i%$ be=e ! p]son ,i help$ fir/4 ,fa/ eat+ is bad = ! dige/ion1 my good sir1 & n v good mann]s ei!r4 ,:at6 are y try+ to eat meat ) a =k alone8 ,oh6 x is sweetbread1 ,i beg y\r p>don1 y are q "r4 ,let me give y a rule1--,ev]y?+ t c be cut )\t a knife1 %\ld be cut ) a =k alone4 ,eat y\r vegetables1 !re=e1 ) a =k4 ,no1 !re is no necessity to take a spoon = peas2 a =k 9 ! "r h& w d4 ,:at6 did ,i really see y put y\r knife into y\r m\?8 ,!n ,i mu/ give y up4 ,once = all1 & ev]1 ! knife is to cut1 n to help )4 ,pray1 d n mun* 9 t noisy mann]2 *ew y\r food well1 b s(tly4 ,eat sl[ly4 ,h y n he>d t ,napoleon lo/ ! battle ( ,leipsic by eat+ too fa/8 ,x is a fact ?\gh4 ,8 ha/e caus$ indige/ion1 :i* made him incapable ( att5d+ to ! details ( ! battle4 ,y see y are ! la/ p]son eat+ at table4 ,sir1 ,i w n all[ y to speak to my s]vants 9 t way4 ,if !y are s remiss z to oblige y to ask = any?+1 d x g5tly1 & 9 a l[ tone1 & ?ank a s]vant j z mu* z y w\ld 8 ma/]4 ,t5 to "o he is z good a man2 & because he is y\r inf]ior 9 position1 is ! v reason y %\ld treat him c\rte\sly4 ,oh6 x is ( no use to ask me to take w9e2 f> f pacify+ me1 x w only make me m angry1 = ,i tell y ! cu/om is q gone out1 except 9 a few c\ntry villages1 & at a mess-table4 ,nor ne$ y ask ! lady to d s4 ,h[ev]1 !re is ?is consolation1 if y %\ld ask any "o to take w9e ) y1 he or %e _c refuse1 s y h y\r own way4 ,p]haps next y w be ask+ me to hob & nob1 or tr9qu] 9 ! ,fr5* fa%ion ) arms encircl$4 ,ah6 y don't "k1 p]haps1 t :5 a lady tr9ques 9 t way ) y1 y h a "r to f9i% (f ) a kiss4 ,v likely1 inde$6 ,b x is ! cu/om 9 famili> circles 9 ,france1 b !n we are n ,fr5*m54 ,w y att5d to y\r lady1 sir8 ,y did n come m]ely to eat1 b to make y\rself agreeable4 ,don't sit z glum z ! ,memnon at ,!bes2 talk & be pleasant4 ,n[1 y h "s pudd+4 ,no knife--no1 no4 ,a spoon if y l1 b bett] /ill1 a =k4 ,yes1 ice requires a spoon2 !re is a small "o h&$ y1 take t4 ,say 'no4' ,?is is ! f\r? "t w9e has be5 h&$ to y1 & ,i am sure y h _h en\gh4 ,decl9e ?is "t if y please4 ,decl9e t di% too4 ,are y go+ to eat ( ev]y?+ t is h&$8 ,i pity y if y d4 ,no1 y mu/ n ask = m *eese1 & y mu/ eat x ) y\r =k4 ,break ! rusk ) y\r f+]s4 ,good4 ,y are dr9k+ a glass ( old port4 ,d n quaff x d[n at a gulp 9 t way4 ,nev] dr9k a :ole glassful ( any?+ at once4 ,well1 "h is ! w9e & dess]t4 ,take :i*ev] w9e y l1 b rememb] y mu/ keep to t1 & n *ange ab\t4 ,be=e y g up /airs ,i w all[ y a glass ( %]ry aft] y\r cl>et1 b o!rwise dr9k ( "o w9e only4 ,y don't mean to say y are help+ y\rself to w9e be=e ! ladies4 ,at lea/1 (f] x to ! "o next to y1 & !n pass x on1 g5tly1 n ) a pu% l t4 ,d n dr9k s fa/2 y w hurry me 9 pass+ ! decant]s1 if ,i see t y\r glass is empty4 ,y ne$ n eat dess]t till ! ladies are gone1 b (f] !m :atev] is ne>e/ to y4 ,& n[ !y are gone1 draw y\r *air ne> m9e1 & ,i w try & talk m pleasantly to y4 ,y w come out admirably at y\r next d9n] ) all my tea*+4 ,:at6 y are excit$1 y are talk+ l\d to ! colonel4 ,nons5se4 ,come & talk easily to me or to y\r ne>e/ neighbor4 ,!re1 don't dr9k any m w9e1 = ,i see y are gett+ romantic4 ,y oblige me to make a move4 ,y h _h en\gh ( ^? walnuts2 y are keep+ me1 my de> sir4 ,s n[ to c(fee "o cup & tea1 :i* ,i beg y w n p\r into y\r sauc] to cool4 ,well1 ! d9n] has done y good1 & me too4 ,let u be amiable to ! ladies1 b n too mu* s4 ,*amp1 *amp2 ,smack1 smack2 ,smack1 smack2 ,*amp1 *amp2--,x is "o ?+ to "k h[ to make a pudd+1 & ano!r to "k h[ to eat x :5 made4 ,unm]ciful & mon/r\s are ! noises ) :i* "s p]sons accompany ! eat+--no1 ! dev\r+ ( ! food = :i*1 we tru/1 !y are ?ankful4 ,to sit d[n ) a company ( su* ma/icators is l jo9+ 'a h]d ( sw9e fe$+4' ,sob]ly1 at no "t1 probably1 are ! rules ( good bre$+ less reg>d$ ?an at 'fe$+ "t1' & at no place is a dep>ture f ^! rules m noticeable ?an at table4 ,"s p]sons gnaw at a cru/ z dogs gnaw a bone1 rattle knives & spoons aga9/ _! tee? z ?\gh anxi\s to prove :i* is ! h>d]1 & scrape _! plates ) an en]gy & p]sev]ance :i* w\ld be v comm5dable if be/[$ ^u any object wor? ! tr\ble4 ,o!rs1 9 defiance ( ! old nurs]y rhyme-- ',i mu/ n dip1 h[e'er ,i wi%1 ,my spoon or f+] 9 ! di%2' are p]petually help+ !mselves 9 ?is v /raight=w>d & unsophi/icat$ mann]4 ,ano!r1 ) a m\? full ( food contrives to make 8 tee? & tongue p]=m ! d\ble duty ( *ew+ & talk+ at ! same "t4 ,ano!r1 q 9 milit>y /yle1 9 ! int]vals ( cramm+1 makes 8 knife & =k keep gu>d ov] ! jeal\sly wat*$ plate1 be+ held upright on ei!r side 9 ! cl5*$ fi/1 l ! musket ( a raw recruit4 ,& ano!r1 z (t5 z leisure s]ves1 fidgets 8 plate f left to "r1 & f "r to left1 or r\nd & r\nd1 until ! pa9ful op]ation ( fe$+ is ov]4 ,!re is1 we "k1 su* a ?+ z be+ 'too nice'--'m nice ?an wise4' ,x is q possible to be fa/idi\s4 ,b !re are also su* inconsid]able matt]s z dec5cy & good ord]2 & x surely is bett] to err on ! "r ?an on ! wrong side ( good bre$+4 ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,! ,,/reet4 ,a g5tleman w be always polite1 9 ! p>lor1 d9+-room1 & 9 ! /reet4 ,?is la/ clause w especially include c\rtesy t[>ds ladies1 no matt] :at may be _! age or position4 ,a man :o w annoy or insult a woman 9 ! /reet1 l[]s himself to a brute1 no matt] :e!r he (f5ds by look1 ^w1 or ge/ure4 ,!re are sev]al little =ms ( etiquette1 giv5 bel[1 ! obs]vance ( :i* w m>k ! g5tleman 9 ! /reet4 ,:5 walk+ ) a lady1 or ) a g5tleman :o is old] ?an y\rself1 give !m ! upp] side ( ! pavem5t1 t is1 ! side ne>e/ ! h\se4 ,:5 walk+ alone1 & y see any "o com+ t[>ds y on ! same side ( ! /reet1 give ! upp] "p ( ! pavem5t1 z y turn aside1 to a man :o may c>ry a heavy bundle1 to a prie/ or cl]gyman1 to a woman1 or to any eld]ly p]son4 ,9 a cr[d nev] rudely pu% aside ^? :o imp$e y\r progress1 b wait pati5tly until ! way is cle>4 ,if y are hurri$ by bus9ess ( importance or an engagem5t1 y w f9d t a few c\rte\s words w op5 ! way be=e y m quickly ?an ! mo/ viol5t pu%+ & l\d talk+4 ,if oblig$ to cross a plank1 or n>r[ pa?1 let any lady or old p]son :o may also be pass+1 prec$e y4 ,9 case ! way is slipp]y or 9 any way unsafe1 y may1 ) p]fect propriety1 (f] to assi/ ei!r a lady or eld]ly p]son 9 cross+ x4 ,d n smoke 9 ! /reet until aft] d>k1 & !n remove y\r cig> f y\r m\?1 if y meet a lady4 ,be c>eful ab\t y\r dress4 ,y c nev] "k :om y may meet1 s x is be/ to nev] leave ! h\se o!rwise ?an well-dress$4 ,bright colors1 & mu* jewelry are bo? unbecom+ to a g5tleman 9 ! /reet4 ,avoid t\*+ any "o ) y\r elb[s 9 pass+1 & d n sw+ y\r arms z y walk4 ,be c>eful :5 walk+ ) or ne> a lady1 n to put y\r foot ^u h] dress4 ,9 c>ry+ an umbrella1 hold x s t y c see ! way cle> be=e y2 avoid /rik+ y\r umbrella aga9/ ^? :i* pass y2 if y are walk+ ) a lady1 let ! umbrella cov] h] p]fectly1 b hold x s t y w n t\* h] bonnet4 ,if y h ! c>e ( two ladies1 let !m c>ry ! umbrella betwe5 !m1 & walk outside y\rself4 ,no?+ c be m absurd ?an = a g5tleman to walk betwe5 two ladies1 hold+ ! umbrella himself2 :ile1 9 ?is way1 he is p]fectly protect$1 ! ladies receive ^u _! dresses & cloaks ! little /reams ( wat] :i* run f ! po9ts ( ! umbrella4 ,9 case ( a sudd5 fall ( ra91 y may1 ) p]fect propriety1 (f] y\r umbrella to a lady :o is unprovid$ ) "o4 ,if %e accepts x1 & asks y\r address to return x1 leave x ) h]2 if %e hesitates1 & does n wi% to deprive y ( ! use ( x1 y may (f] to accompany h] to h] de/9ation1 & !n1 d n op5 a conv]sation2 let y\r mann] be respectful1 & :5 y leave h]1 let h] ?ank y1 assure h] ( ! pleasure x has giv5 y to be ( s]vice1 b[1 & leave h]4 ,9 meet+ a lady fri5d1 wait = h] to b[ to y1 & 9 return+ h] salutation1 remove y\r hat4 ,to a g5tleman y may b[1 m]ely t\*+ y\r hat1 if he is alone or ) ano!r g5tleman2 b if he has a lady ) him1 raise y\r hat 9 b[+ to him4 ,if y /op to speak to a lady1 hold y\r hat 9 y\r h&1 until %e leaves y1 unless %e reque/s y to replace x4 ,) a g5tleman y may replace x imm$iately4 ,nev] jo9 a lady :om y may meet1 )\t fir/ ask+ h] p]mission to d s4 ,if y /op to conv]se ) any "o 9 ! /reet1 /& ne> ! h\ses1 t y may n int]f]e ) o!rs :o are pass+4 ,y may b[ to a lady :o is seat$ at a w9d[1 if y are 9 ! /reet2 b y mu/ n b[ f a w9d[ to a lady 9 ! /reet4 ,d n /op to jo9 a cr[d :o are collect$ r\nd a /reet %[1 or /reet m]*ant1 unless y wi% to pass = a c\ntryman tak+ a holiday 9 ! city4 ,if y /op any "o to enquire y\r own way1 or if y are call$ ^u to direct ano!r1 remove y\r hat :ile ask+ or answ]+ ! "q4 ,if y see a lady leav+ a c>riage unatt5d$1 or hesitat+ at a bad cross+1 y may1 ) propriety1 (f] y\r h& or arm to assi/ h]1 & hav+ se5 h] safely ^u ! pavem5t1 b[1 & pass on4 ,9 a c> or omnibus1 :5 a lady wi%es to get out1 /op ! c> = h]1 pass up h] f>e1 & 9 an omnibus alight & assi/ h] 9 gett+ out1 b[+ z y leave h]4 ,be g5tle1 c\rte\s1 & k9d to *ildr54 ,!re is no sur] tok5 ( a l[1 vulg> m9d1 ?an unk9dness to little ones :om y may meet 9 ! /reets4 ,a true g5tleman nev] /ops to consid] :at may be ! position ( any woman :om x is 9 8 p[] to aid 9 ! /reet4 ,he w assi/ an ,iri% wa%]woman ) h] l>ge basket or bundle ov] a cross+1 or c>ry ov] ! little *>ges ( a di/ress$ negro nurse1 ) ! same g5tle c\rtesy :i* he w\ld ext5d t[>d ! lady :o 0 /epp+ f h] private c>riage4 ,! true _s ( *ivalry makes ! c\rtesy due to ! sex1 n to ! position ( ! individual4 ,:5 y are escort+ a lady 9 ! /reet1 polit5ess does n absolutely require y to c>ry h] bundle or p>asol1 b if y are gallant y w d s4 ,y mu/ regulate y\r walk by h]s1 & n =ce h] to keep up ) y\r ord9>y pace4 ,wat* t y d n lead h] into any bad places1 & assi/ h] c>efully ov] ea* cross+1 or wet place on ! pavem5t4 ,if y are walk+ 9 ! c\ntry1 & pass any /reamlet1 (f] y\r h& to assi/ y\r companion 9 cross+4 ,if y pass ov] a f5ce1 & %e refuses y\r assi/ance 9 cross+ x1 walk =w>d1 & d n look back1 until %e jo9s y aga94 ,! be/ way to assi/ a lady ov] a f5ce1 is to /& y\rself ^u ! upp] rail1 & :ile us+ "o h& to keep a /eady position1 /oop1 (f] h] ! o!r1 & ) a firm1 /eady grasp1 hold h] h& until %e /&s beside y2 !n let h] g d[n on ! o!r side fir/1 & foll[ h] :5 %e is safe ^u ! gr\nd4 ,9 />t+ = a walk ) a lady1 unless %e is a /rang] 9 ! place t[>ds :om y act z guide1 let h] select y\r de/9ation4 ,:]e !re are sev]al ladies1 & y are requir$ to escort "o ( !m1 select ! eld]ly1 or ^? ^: p]sonal appe>ance w probably make !m lea/ likely to be s\ght by o!rs4 ,y w probably be repaid by f9d+ !m v intellig5t1 & ) a fund ( conv]sation4 ,if !re are m ladies ?an g5tlem51 y may (f] an arm to two1 ) "s je/ ab\t ! difficulty ( *oos+1 or ! d\ble honor y enjoy4 ,(f] y\r seat 9 any public conveyance1 to a lady :o is /&+4 ,x is (t5 q z great a k9dness & m>k ( c\rtesy to take a *ild 9 y\r lap4 ,:5 ) a lady y mu/ pay h] exp5ses z well z y\r own2 if %e (f]s to %>e ! exp5se1 decl9e unless %e insi/s ^u x1 9 ! latt] case yield gracefully4 ,_m ladies1 :o h no bro!r or fa!r1 & are dep5d5t ^u _! g5tlem5 fri5ds = escort1 make x a rule to be "u no pecuni>y obligations to !m1 & y w1 9 su* a case1 (f5d m by insi/+ ^u y\r "r to take t exp5se1 ?an by quietly pocket+ y\r dignity & _! ca% toge!r4 ,i "k _m g5tlem5 w cry out at my ass]tion2 b ,i h obs]v$ ?is matt]1 & "k _m ladies :o w s9c]ely agree ) me 9 my op9ion4 ,9 a c>riage always give ! back seat to ! lady or ladies accompany+ y4 ,if y h b "o lady ) y1 take ! seat opposite to h]1 unless %e invites y to sit beside h]1 9 :i* case accept h] (f]4 ,nev] put y\r arm across ! seat1 or ar\nd h]1 z _m d 9 rid+4 ,x is an imp]t95ce1 & if %e is a lady ( ref9em5t1 %e w res5t x z su*4 ,if y (f] a seat 9 y\r c>riage to a lady1 or ano!r g5tleman :om y may meet at a p>ty or picnic1 take !m home1 be=e y drive to y\r own de/9ation1 no matt] h[ mu* y may h to drive out ( y\r own way4 ,be ! la/ to ent] ! c>riage1 ! fir/ to leave x4 ,if y h ladies ) y1 (f] !m y\r h& to assi/ !m 9 ent]+ & alight+1 & y %\ld take ! arm ( an old g5tleman to assi/ him4 ,if (f]$ a seat 9 ! c>riage ( a g5tleman fri5d1 /& aside = him to get 9 fir/1 b if he waits = y1 b[ & take y\r seat be=e he does4 ,:5 driv+ a lady 9 a two-seat$ vehicle1 y %\ld assi/ h] to ent] ! c>riage1 see t h] dress is n 9 dang] ( t\*+ ! :eels1 & t h] %awl1 p>asol1 & fan1 are :]e %e c rea* !m1 be=e y take y\r own seat4 ,if %e wi%es to /op1 & y rema9 ) ! horses1 y %\ld alight be=e %e does1 assi/ h] 9 alight+1 & aga9 alight to help h] to h] seat :5 %e returns1 ev5 if y keep y\r place on ! seat :il/ %e is gone4 ,:5 att5d+ a lady 9 a horse-back ride1 nev] m\nt y\r horse until %e is ready to />t4 ,give h] y\r h& to assi/ h] 9 m\nt+1 arrange ! folds ( h] habit1 h& h] h] re9s & h] :ip1 & !n take y\r own seat on y\r saddle4 ,let h] pace be y\rs4 ,/>t :5 %e does1 & let h] decide h[ fa/ or sl[ly %e w ride4 ,nev] let ! head ( y\r horse pass ! %\ld]s ( h]s1 & be wat*ful & ready to r5d] h] any assi/ance %e may require4 ,nev]1 by rapid rid+1 =ce h] to ride fa/] ?an %e may desire4 ,nev] t\* h] bridle1 re9s1 or :ip1 except %e p>ticul>ly reque/s y\r assi/ance1 or an accid5t1 or ?reat5$ dang]1 makes x necess>y4 ,if !re is du/ or w9d1 ride s z to protect h] f x z f> z possible4 ,if ! road is muddy be c>eful t y d n ride s z to bespatt] h] habit4 ,x is be/ to ride on ! side away f t ^u :i* h] habit falls4 ,"s ladies *ange _! side 9 rid+1 f "t to "t1 & y mu/ wat* & see ^u :i* side ! skirt falls1 t1 on a muddy day1 y may avoid favor+ ! habit ) ! mud y\r horse's ho(s ?r[ up4 ,if y ride ) a g5tleman old] ?an y\rself1 or "o :o claims y\r respect1 let him m\nt be=e y d4 ,ext5d ! same c\rtesy t[>ds any g5tleman :om y h invit$ to accompany y1 z he is1 = ! ride1 y\r gue/4 ,! honorable place is on ! "r4 ,give ?is to a lady1 an eld]ly man1 or y\r gue/4 ,a mod]n writ] says3--,if walk+ ) a female relative or fri5d1 a well-br$ man w take ! out] side ( ! pavem5t1 n only because ! wall-side is ! mo/ honorable side ( a public walk1 b also because x is g5]ally ! f>!/ po9t f dang] 9 ! /reet4 ,if walk+ alone1 he w be ready to (f] assi/ance to any female :om he may see expos$ to real p]il f any s\rce4 ,c\rtesy & manly c\rage w bo? incite him to ?is l9e ( conduct4 ,9 g5]al1 ?is is a po9t ( honor :i* almo/ all m5 are pr\d to a*ieve4 ,x has frequ5tly happ5$ t ev5 :]e ! savage passions ( m5 h be5 excit$1 & :5 mobs h be5 9 actual conflict1 wom5 h be5 gallantly escort$ ?r\gh ! sangu9>y cr[d unh>m$1 & _! pres5ce has ev5 be5 a protection to _! protectors4 ,?is is z x %\ld be2 & su* incid5ts h %[n 9 a /rik+ mann]1 n only ! excell5cy ( good bre$+1 b h also br\ght x out :5 & :]e x 0 lea/ to be expect$4 ,9 /reets & all public walks1 a well-br$ p]son w be easily di/+ui%$ f ano!r :o sets at defiance ! rules ( good bre$+4 ,he w n1 :atev] be 8 /ation1 h9d] & annoy 8 fell[ p$e/rians1 by loit]+ or /&+ /ill 9 ! middle ( ! footway4 ,he w1 if walk+ 9 company1 ab/a9 f mak+ imp]t95t rem>ks on ^? he meets2 he w ev5 be c>eful n to appe> indelicately to notice !m4 ,he w n take '! cr[n ( ! causeway' to himself1 b readily fall 9 ) ! conv5i5t cu/om :i* necessity has provid$1 & walk on ! "r side ( ! pa?1 leav+ ! left side free = ^? :o are walk+ 9 ! opposite direction4 ,any dep>ture f ^! pla9 rules ( good bre$+ is d[nright rud5ess & insult2 or1 at all ev5ts1 x betrays great ignorance or disreg>d = propriety4 ,& yet1 h[ (t5 are !y dep>t$ f6 ,x is1 by no means1 uncommon1 especially 9 c\ntry places1 = gr\ps ( work+ m5 to ob/ruct ! pa?way ^u :i* !y take a fancy to l\nge1 )\t any def9ite object1 z f> z appe>s1 b t ( mak+ rude rem>ks ^u pass]s-by4 ,b x is n only ! labor+ classes ( society :o (f5d aga9/ good bre$+ 9 ?is way2 too _m o!rs (f5d 9 ! same1 & by /opp+ to talk 9 ! middle ( ! pavem5t put all :o pass to great inconv5i5ce4 ,9 meet+ a lady d n (f] to %ake h&s ) h]1 b accept h] h& :5 %e (f]s x = y to take4 ,9 ,france1 :]e polit5ess is f\nd 9 e class1 ! p d n run aga9/ ea* o!r 9 ! /reets1 nor bru% rudely by ea* o!r1 z !y sometimes d 9 our cities4 ,x adds mu* to ! pleasure ( walk+1 to be free f su* annoyance2 & ?is c only be br\ght ab\t by ! well-taught few sett+ a good example to ! _m4 ,by hav+ y\r wits ab\t y1 y c w9 y\r way ?r\gh a ?rong$ /reet )\t t\*+ ev5 ! extreme circumf]5ce ( a balloon sleeve2 &1 if ea* "o /rove to avoid all contact1 x w\ld be easily accompli%$4 ,,*apt] ,v4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,call+4 ,a g5tleman 9 society mu/ calculate to give a c]ta9 portion ( 8 "t to mak+ calls ^u 8 fri5ds1 bo? ladies & g5tlem54 ,he may ext5d 8 visit+ li/ to z l>ge a numb] z 8 incl9ation & "t w p]mit him to att5d to1 b he _c contract x aft] pass+ c]ta9 limits4 ,8 position z a man 9 society obliges him to call1 ,^u any /rang] visit+ 8 city1 :o br+s a lett] ( introduction to him2 ,^u any fri5d f ano!r city1 to ^: hospitality he has be5 at any "t indebt$2 ,^u any g5tleman aft] receiv+ f 8 h&s a favor or c\rtesy2 ,^u 8 ho/ at any d9n] or supp] p>ty1 7su* calls %\ld be made v soon aft] ! ent]ta9m5t giv572 ,^u any fri5d ^: joy or grief calls = an expression ( sympa?y1 :e!r x be congratulation or condol5ce2 ,^u any fri5d :o has lately return$ f a voyage or long j\rney2 ,^u any lady :o has accept$ 8 s]vices z an escort1 ei!r = a j\rney or ! return f a ball or ev5+ p>ty2 ?is call mu/ be made ! day aft] he has ?us escort$ ! lady2 ,^u 8 ho/ess aft] any p>ty to :i* he has be5 invit$1 :e!r he has accept$ or decl9$ su* invitation2 ,^u any lady :o has accept$ 8 escort = an ev5+1 a walk or a drive2 ,^u any fri5d :om long or sev]e illness keeps conf9$ to ! h\se2 ,^u 8 lady fri5ds on ,new ,ye>'s day1 7if x is ! cu/om ( ! city 9 :i* he resides27 ,^u any ( 8 fri5ds :5 !y receive bridal calls2 ,^u lady fri5ds 9 any city y are visit+2 if g5tlem5 fri5ds reside 9 ! same city1 y may ei!r call ^u !m or s5d y\r c>d ) y\r address & ! l5g? ( "t y int5d /ay+1 writt5 ^u x2 if a /rang] or fri5d visit+ y\r city s5ds su* a c>d1 y mu/ call at ! e>lie/ opportunity2 ,^u any "o ( :om y wi% to ask a favor2 to make him1 "u su* circum/ances call ^u y1 is extremely rude2 ,^u any "o :o has ask$ a favor ( y2 y w add v mu* to ! pleasure y conf]1 9 grant+ a favor1 by call+ to express ! gratification x af=ds y to be able to oblige y\r fri5d2 y w s(t5 ! pa9 ( a refusal1 if1 by call+1 & express+ y\r regret1 y %[ t y feel int]e/$ 9 ! reque/1 & consid] x ( importance4 ,^u intimate fri5ds1 relatives1 & ladies1 y may call )\t wait+ = any ( ! occasions giv5 above4 ,d n fall into ! vulg> error ( declaim+ aga9/ ! practice ( mak+ calls1 decl>+ x a bore1 tiresome1 or /upid4 ,! cu/om is a good "o4 ,an ,engli% writ] says3-- ,! visit or call is a mu* bett] in/itution ?an is g5]ally suppos$4 ,x has its drawbacks4 ,x wa/es mu* "t2 x necessitates mu* small talk4 ,x obliges "o to dress on ! *ance ( f9d+ a fri5d at home2 b = all ?is x is almo/ ! only means ( mak+ an acqua9tance rip5 into fri5d%ip4 ,9 ! visit1 all ! /ra91 :i* g5]al society someh[ necessitates1 is ?r[n (f4 ,a man receives y 9 8 rooms cordially1 & makes y welcome1 n to a /iff d9n]1 b an easy *air & conv]sation4 ,a lady1 :o 9 ! ball room or p>ty has be5 compell$ to limit h] conv]sation1 c "h speak m freely4 ,! talk c desc5d f g5]alities to p]sonal inquiries1 & ne$ ,i say1 t if y wi% to "k a "y lady truly1 y mu/ see h] at home1 & by day light4 ,! ma9 po9ts to be obs]v$ ab\t visits1 are ! prop] occasions & ! prop] h\rs4 ,n[1 betwe5 actual fri5ds !re is little ne$ ( etiquette 9 ^! respects4 ,a fri5dly visit may be made at any "t1 on any occasion4 ,true1 y are m welcome :5 ! bus9ess ( ! day is ov]1 9 ! aft]noon r ?an 9 ! morn+1 & y mu/1 ev5 z a fri5d1 avoid call+ at meal times4 ,b1 on ! o!r h&1 _m p receive visits 9 ! ev5+1 & c]ta9ly ?is is ! be/ "t to make !m4 ,any fir/ call :i* y receive mu/ be return$ promptly4 ,if y d n wi% to cont9ue ! acqua9tance any f>!r1 y ne$ n return a second call1 b polit5ess imp]atively dem&s a return ( ! fir/ "o4 ,a call may be made ^u ladies 9 ! morn+ or aft]noon2 b 9 ?is c\ntry1 :]e almo/ e man has "s bus9ess to occupy 8 day1 ! ev5+ is ! be/ "t = pay+ calls4 ,y w ga9 gr\nd 9 easy int]c\rse & fri5dly acqua9tance m rapidly 9 "o ev5+1 ?an 9 sev]al morn+ calls4 ,nev] make a call ^u a lady be=e elev5 o'clock 9 ! morn+1 or aft] n9e 9 ! ev5+4 ,avoid meal times4 ,if y inadv]t5tly call at d9n] or tea "t1 & y\r ho/ is ?us =c$ to invite y to ! table1 x is be/ to decl9e ! civility4 ,if1 h[ev]1 y see t y w give pleasure by /ay+1 accept ! invitation1 b be c>eful to avoid call+ aga9 at ! same h\r4 ,no man 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 except+ ,8 ,excell5cy1 ! ,presid5t1 c expect to receive calls unless he returns !m4 ,visit+1 says a ,fr5* writ]1 =ms ! cord :i* b9ds society toge!r1 & x is s firmly ti$1 t 7 ! knot sev]$1 society w\ld p]i%4 ,a c]emoni\s call %\ld nev] ext5d ov] m ?an fifte5 m9utes1 & x %\ld n be less ?an t5 m9utes4 ,if y see ! ma/] ( ! h\se take lett]s or a pap] f 8 pocket1 look at ! clock1 h an abs5t air1 beat "t ) 8 f+]s or h&s1 or 9 any o!r way %[ we>9ess or ennui1 y may safely conclude t x is "t = y to leave1 ?\gh y may n h be5 five m9utes 9 ! h\se4 ,if y are ho/ to ! mo/ we>isome visitor 9 exi/5ce1 if he /ays h\rs1 & conv]ses only on subjects :i* d n int]e/ y1 9 ! lea/2 unless he is keep+ y f an important engagem5t1 y mu/ n %[ ! lea/ sign ( we>9ess4 ,li/5 to him politely1 endeavor to ent]ta9 him1 & pres]ve a smil+ composure1 ?\gh y may long to %[ him ! door4 ,9 case he is keep+ y f bus9ess ( importance1 or an imp]ative engagem5t1 y may1 )\t any infr+em5t ^u ! laws ( polit5ess1 in=m him ( ! fact1 & beg him to excuse y2 y mu/1 h[ev]1 express polite regret at y\r en=c$ want ( hospitality1 & invite him to call aga94 ,x is q an art to make a graceful exit aft] a call4 ,to "k h[ to *oose ! mom5t :5 y w be regrett$1 & to retire leav+ y\r fri5ds anxi\s = a repetition ( ! call1 is an accompli%m5t wor? acquir+4 ,:5 y beg9 to tire ( y\r visit1 y may g5]ally feel sure t y\r ent]ta9]s are tir$ ( y1 & if y d n want to rema9 pr9t$ ^u _! memory z ! man :o makes su* long1 tiresome calls1 y w retire4 ,if o!r call]s come 9 be=e y leave a fri5d's p>lor1 d n rise imm$iately z if y wi%$ to avoid !m1 b rema9 seat$ a few mom5ts1 & !n leave1 t y\r ho/ess may n h too _m visitors to ent]ta9 at "o "t4 ,if y h be5 enjoy+ a tte--tte int]view ) a lady1 & o!r call]s come 91 d n hurry away1 z if detect$ 9 a crime1 b aft] a few c\rte\s1 graceful words1 & ! int]*ange ( "s pleasant rem>ks1 leave h] to ent]ta9 h] o!r fri5ds4 ,to endeavor :5 mak+ a call to sit out o!rs 9 ! room1 is v rude4 ,:5 y\r ho/ or ho/ess urges y to /ay long]1 aft] y h ris5 to g1 be sure t t is ! be/ "t = dep>ture4 ,y w d bett] to g !n1 :5 y w be regrett$1 ?an to wait until y h worn y\r welcome out4 ,:5 mak+ a visit ( condol5ce1 take y\r tone f y\r ho/ or ho/ess4 ,if !y speak ( _! mis=tune1 or1 9 case ( dea?1 ( ! dep>t$ relative1 jo9 !m4 ,speak ( ! tal5ts or virtues ( ! deceas$1 & y\r sympa?y ) _! loss4 ,if1 on ! o!r h&1 !y avoid ! subject1 !n x is be/ = y to avoid x too4 ,!y may feel _! inability to su/a9 a conv]sation ^u ! subject ( _! rec5t affliction1 & x w\ld !n be cruel to =ce x ^u !m4 ,if y see t !y are mak+ an ef=t1 p]haps a pa9ful "o1 to appe> *e]ful1 try to make !m =get = ! "t _! sorr[s1 & *at on *e]ful subjects4 ,at ! same "t1 avoid je/+1 m]rim5t1 or undue levity1 z x w be out ( place1 & appe> he>tless4 ,a visit ( congratulation1 %\ld1 on ! contr>y1 be *e]ful1 gay1 & joy\s4 ,"h1 pa9ful subjects w\ld be out ( place4 ,d n m> ! happ9ess ( y\r fri5d by ! description ( ! mis]y ( y\r own position or t ( a ?ird p]son1 b endeavor to %[ by joy\s sympa?y t ! pleasure ( y\r fri5d is also y\r happ9ess4 ,to laugh ) ^? :o laugh1 weep ) ^? :o are afflict$1 is n hypocrisy1 b k9dly1 fri5dly sympa?y4 ,always1 :5 mak+ a fri5dly call1 s5d up y\r c>d1 by ! s]vant :o op5s ! door4 ,!re are _m times :5 a c>d may be left1 ev5 if ! family ^u :i* y call is at home4 ,visits ( condol5ce1 unless among/ relatives or v intimate fri5ds1 are be/ made by leav+ a c>d ) enquiries = ! heal? ( ! family1 & (f]s ( s]vice4 ,if y see ^u ent]+ a fri5d's p>lor1 t y\r call is keep+ him f go+ out1 or1 if y f9d a lady fri5d dress$ = a p>ty or prom5ade1 make y\r visit v brief4 ,9 ! latt] case1 if ! lady seems unatt5d$1 & urges y\r /ay1 y may (f] y\r s]vices z an escort4 ,nev] visit a lit]>y man1 an arti/1 any man ^: pr(ession all[s him to rema9 at home1 at ! h\rs :5 he is engag$ 9 ! pursuit ( 8 pr(ession4 ,! fact t y "k he is at home is no?+2 he w n c>e to receive visits dur+ ! "t allott$ to 8 daily "w4 ,nev] take ano!r g5tleman to call ^u "o ( y\r lady fri5ds )\t fir/ obta9+ h] p]mission to d s4 ,! calls made aft] receiv+ an invitation to d9n]1 a p>ty1 ball1 or o!r ent]ta9m5t %\ld be made )9 a =tnight aft] ! civility has be5 accept$4 ,:5 y h salut$ ! ho/ & ho/ess1 d n take a seat until !y invite y to d s1 or by a motion1 & !mselves sitt+ d[n1 %[ t !y expect y to d ! same4 ,keep y\r hat 9 y\r h& :5 mak+ a call4 ,?is w %[ y\r ho/ t y d n int5d to rema9 to d9e or sup ) him4 ,y may leave an umbrella or cane 9 ! hall if y wi%1 b y\r hat & gloves y mu/ c>ry into ! p>lor4 ,9 mak+ an ev5+ call = ! fir/ "t keep y\r hat & gloves 9 y\r h&1 until ! ho/ or ho/ess reque/s y to lay !m aside & sp5d ! ev5+4 ,:5 go+ to sp5d ! ev5+ ) a fri5d :om y visit (t51 leave y\r hat1 gloves1 & great coat 9 ! hall4 ,if1 on ent]+ a p>lor ( a lady fri5d1 9 ! ev5+1 y see by h] dress1 or any o!r tok51 t %e 0 expect+ to g to ! op]a1 conc]t1 or an ev5+ p>ty1 make a call ( a few m9utes only1 & !n retire4 ,i h kn[n m5 :o accept$ in/antly ! invitation giv5 !m to rema9 "u ^! circum/ances1 & deprive _! fri5ds ( an anticipat$ pleasure1 :5 _! call c\ld h be5 made at any o!r "t4 ,to ?us impose ^u ! c\rtesy ( y\r fri5ds is excessively rude4 ,no?+ w p>don su* an acceptance b ! impossibility ( repeat+ y\r call1 ow+ to a %ort /ay 9 t[n1 or any o!r cause4 ,ev5 9 ?is case x is bett] to accompany y\r fri5ds ^u _! exp$ition 9 se>* ( pleasure4 ,y c1 ( c\rse1 easily obta9 admittance if !y are go+ to a public ent]ta9m5t1 & if !y invite y to jo9 _! p>ty to a fri5d's h\se1 y may )\t impropriety d s1 z a lady is privileg$ to introduce y to h] fri5ds "u su* circum/ances4 ,x requires tact & discretion to "k :5 to accept & :5 to decl9e su* an invitation4 ,be c>eful t y d n intrude ^u a p>ty already complete 9 !mselves1 or t y d n int]f]e ) ! plans ( ! g5tlem5 :o h already be5 accept$ z escorts4 ,nev] make a ?ird ^u su* occasions4 ,nei!r "o ( a c\ple :o propose sp5d+ ! ev5+ abroad toge!r1 w ?ank ! intrud] :o spoils _! tte--tte4 ,:5 y f9d1 on ent]+ a room1 t y\r visit is = any reason inopportune1 d n in/antly retire unless y h ent]$ unp]ceiv$ & c s leave1 9 :i* case leave imm$iately2 if1 h[ev]1 y h be5 se51 y\r in/ant retreat is cut (f4 ,!n endeavor by y\r own graceful ease to cov] any emb>rassm5t y\r entrance may h caus$1 make b a %ort call1 &1 if y c1 leave y\r fri5ds "u ! impression t y saw no?+ out ( ! way :5 y ent]$4 ,always leave a c>d :5 y f9d ! p]son ^u :om y h call$ abs5t f home4 ,a c>d %\ld h no?+ writt5 ^u x1 b y\r "n & address4 ,to leave a c>d ) y\r bus9ess address1 or ! nature ( y\r pr(ession writt5 ^u x1 %[s a %ock+ ignorance ( polite society4 ,bus9ess c>ds are nev] to be us$ except+ :5 y make a bus9ess call4 ,nev] use a c>d t is ornam5t$ 9 any way1 :e!r by a fancy bord]1 pa9t$ corn]s1 or emboss+4 ,let x be p]fectly pla91 t9t$1 if y l1 9 color1 b )\t ornam5t1 & h y\r "n writt5 or pr9t$ 9 ! middle1 y\r address1 9 small] *>act]s1 9 ! l[] left h& corn]4 ,_m g5tlem5 omit ! ,mr4 ^u _! c>ds1 writ+ m]ely _! ,*ri/ian & surname2 ?is is a matt] ( ta/e1 y may foll[ y\r own incl9ation4 ,let y\r c>d be writt5 ?us3-- ,,h5ry ,c4 ,,pratt ,no4 #bag ,l4 /reet4 ,a physician w put ,dr4 be=e or ,m4,d4 aft] ! "n1 & an (fic] 9 ! army or navy may add 8 title2 b = militia (fic]s to d s is absurd4 ,if y call ^u a lady1 :o invites y to be seat$1 place a *air = h]1 & wait until %e takes x be=e y sit d[n y\rself4 ,nev] sit beside a lady ^u a s(a1 or on a *air v ne> h] own1 unless %e invites y to d s4 ,if a lady ent]s ! room :]e y are mak+ a call1 rise1 & rema9 /&+ until %e is seat$4 ,ev5 if %e is a p]fect /rang]1 (f] h] a *air1 if !re is none ne> h]4 ,y mu/ rise if a lady leaves ! room1 & rema9 /&+ until %e has pass$ out4 ,if y are engag$ 9 any pr(ession :i* y foll[ at home1 & receive a call]1 y may1 dur+ ! daytime1 invite him into y\r libr>y1 /udy1 or ! room 9 :i* y "w1 &1 unless y use y\r p51 y may "w :ile he is ) y4 ,:5 y receive a visitor1 meet him at ! door1 (f] a *air1 take 8 hat & cane1 &1 :ile speak+ ( ! pleasure ! call af=ds y1 %[1 by y\r mann]1 t y are s9c]e1 & desire a long call4 ,d n let y\r ho/ come ) y any f>!r ?an ! room door if he has o!r visitors2 b if y are %[+ out a fri5d1 & leave no o!rs 9 ! p>lor1 y %\ld come to ! /reet door4 ,a few h9ts f an ,engli% au?or1 w n be amiss 9 ?is place4 ,he says3-- ,visits ( condol5ce & congratulation mu/ be made ab\t a week aft] ! ev5t4 ,if y are intimate ) ! p]son on :om y call1 y may ask1 9 ! fir/ case1 = admission2 if n1 x is bett] only to leave a c>d1 & make y\r 'k9d inquiries' ( ! s]vant1 :o is g5]ally prim$ 9 :at mann] to answ] !m4 ,9 visits ( congratulation y %\ld always g 91 & be he>ty 9 y\r congratulations4 ,visits ( condol5ce are t]rible inflictions to bo? receiv] & giv]1 b !y may be made less s by avoid+1 z mu* z consi/5t ) sympa?y1 any allusion to ! pa/4 ,! receiv] does well to ab/a9 f te>s4 ,a lady ( my acqua9tance1 :o _h lo/ h] husb&1 0 receiv+ su* a visit 9 h] be/ crape4 ,%e wept pr(usely = "s "t ^u ! be/ ( broad-hemm$ cambric h&k]*iefs1 & !n turn+ to h] visitor1 said3 ',i am sure y w be glad to he> t ,mr4 ,b4 has left me mo/ com=tably provid$ =4' ,h9c ill lacrym4 ,p]haps !y w\ld h be5 m s9c]e if he _h left h] )\t a p5ny4 ,at ! same "t1 if y h n sympa?y & he>t en\gh to pump up a little condol5ce1 y w d bett] to avoid x1 b take c>e t y\r conv]sation is n too gay4 ,:atev] y may feel1 y mu/ respect ! sorr[s ( o!rs4 ,on m>riage1 c>ds are s5t r\nd to su* p z y wi% to keep among y\r acqua9tance1 & x is !n _! "p to call fir/ on ! "y c\ple1 :5 )9 di/ance4 ,hav+ ent]$ ! h\se1 y take up ) y to ! draw+-room bo? hat & cane1 b leave an umbrella 9 ! hall4 ,9 ,france x is usual to leave a great-coat d[n /airs also1 b z calls are made 9 ?is c\ntry 9 morn+ dress1 x is n necess>y to d s4 ,x is n usual to introduce p at morn+ calls 9 l>ge t[ns2 9 ! c\ntry x is sometimes done1 n always4 ,! law ( introductions is1 9 fact1 to =ce no "o into an acqua9tance4 ,y %\ld1 !re=e1 asc]ta9 be=eh& :e!r x is agreeable to bo? to be introduc$2 b if a lady or a sup]ior expresses a wi% to "k a g5tleman or an inf]ior1 ! latt] two h no "r to decl9e ! honor4 ,! introduction is ( an inf]ior :i* position a g5tleman always holds to a lady to ! sup]ior4 ,y introduce ,mr4 ,smi? to ,mrs4 ,jones1 or ,mr4 ,a4 to ,"l ,b41 n vice v]sa4 ,9 introduc+ two p]sons1 x is n necess>y to lead "o ( !m up by ! h&1 b x is suffici5t simply to prec$e !m4 ,hav+ ?us br\ght ! p]son to be introduc$ up to ! "o to :om he is to be pres5t$1 x is ! cu/om1 ev5 :5 ! cons5t has be5 previ\sly obta9$1 to say1 ) a slight b[1 to ! sup]ior p]sonage3 ',w y all[ me to introduce ,mr4 ----8' ,! p]son address$ replies by b[+ to ! "o introduc$1 :o also b[s at ! same "t1 :ile ! introduc] repeats _! names1 & !n retires1 leav+ !m to conv]se4 ,?us1 = in/ance1 9 pres5t+ ,mr4 ,jones to ,mrs4 ,smi?1 y w say1 ',mrs4 ,smi?1 all[ me to introduce ,mr4 ,jones1' & :ile !y are engag$ 9 b[+ y w murmur1 ',mrs4 ,smi?--,mr4 ,jones1' & escape4 ,if y h to pres5t ?ree or f\r p to said ,mrs4 ,smi?1 x w suffice to utt] _! respective names )\t repeat+ t ( ! lady4 ,a well-br$ p]son always receives visitors at :atev] "t !y may call1 or :oev] !y may be2 b if y are occupi$ & _c af=d to be int]rupt$ by a m]e c]emony1 y %\ld in/ruct ! s]vant be=eh& to say t y are 'n at home4' ,?is =m has (t5 be5 d5\nc$ z a falsehood1 b a lie is no lie unless int5d$ to deceive2 & s9ce ! words are univ]sally und]/ood to mean t y are engag$1 x c be no h>m to give su* an ord] to a s]vant4 ,b1 on ! o!r h&1 if ! s]vant once admits a visitor )9 ! hall1 y %\ld receive him at any inconv5i5ce to y\rself4 ,he also gives "s admirable h9ts ^u visits made to fri5ds 9 ano!r city or ! c\ntry4 ,he says3-- ,a few words on visits to c\ntry h\ses be=e ,i quit ?is subject4 ,s9ce a man's h\se is 8 ca/le1 no "o1 n ev5 a ne> relation1 has a "r to invite himself to /ay 9 x4 ,x is n only tak+ a lib]ty to d s1 b may prove to be v inconv5i5t4 ,a g5]al invitation1 too1 %\ld nev] be act$ on4 ,x is (t5 giv5 )\t any int5tion ( foll[+ x up2 b1 if giv51 %\ld be turn$ into a special "o soon] or lat]4 ,an invitation %\ld specify ! p]sons :om x includes1 & ! p]son invit$ %\ld nev] presume to take ) him any "o n specifi$4 ,if a g5tleman _c disp5se ) 8 valet1 he %\ld write to ask leave to br+ a s]vant2 b ! means ( y\r invit]1 & ! size ( ! h\se1 %\ld be tak5 into consid]ation1 & x is bett] ta/e to disp5se ) a s]vant altoge!r4 ,*ildr5 & horses are /ill m tr\blesome1 & %\ld nev] be tak5 )\t special m5tion made ( !m4 ,x is equally bad ta/e to arrive ) a wagonful ( luggage1 z t is naturally tak5 z a h9t t y int5d to /ay a long "t4 ,! l5g? ( a c\ntry visit is inde$ a difficult matt] to decide1 b 9 ! pres5t day p :o receive mu* g5]ally specify ! l5g? 9 _! invitation--a plan :i* saves a great deal ( tr\ble & d\bt4 ,b a cu/om n s comm5dable has lately come 9 ( limit+ ! visits ( acqua9tance to two or ?ree days4 ,?is may be p>donable :]e ! gue/ lives at no great di/ance1 b x is prepo/]\s to expect a p]son to travel a long di/ance = a /ay ( ?ree nights4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! l5g? be n specifi$1 & _c easily be discov]$1 a week is ! limit = a c\ntry visit1 except at ! h\se ( a ne> relation or v old fri5d4 ,x w1 h[ev]1 save tr\ble to y\rself1 if1 soon aft] y\r arrival1 y /ate t y are come = a few days1 &1 if y\r ho/ wi%es y to make a long] visit1 he w at once press y to d s4 ,! ma9 po9t 9 a c\ntry visit is to give z little tr\ble z possible1 to con=m to ! habits ( y\r ent]ta9]s1 & nev] to be 9 ! way4 ,on ?is pr9ciple y w retire to y\r own occupations soon aft] breakfa/1 unless "s arrangem5t has be5 made = pass+ ! morn+ o!rwise4 ,if y h no?+ to d1 y may be sure t y\r ho/ has some?+ to att5d to 9 ! morn+4 ,ano!r po9t ( good-bre$+ is to be punctual at meals1 = a ho/ & ho/ess nev] sit d[n )\t _! gue/1 & d9n] may be gett+ cold4 ,if1 h[ev]1 a gue/ %\ld fail 9 ?is p>ticul>1 a well-br$ ent]ta9] w n only take no notice ( x1 b attempt to set ! late com] z mu* at 8 ease z possible4 ,a ho/ %\ld provide amusem5t = 8 gue/s1 & give up 8 "t z mu* z possible to !m2 b if he %\ld be a pr(essional man or /ud5t--an au?or1 = in/ance--! gue/ %\ld1 at ! comm5cem5t ( ! visit1 insi/ t he w n all[ him to int]rupt 8 occupations1 & ! latt] w set 8 visitor m at 8 ease by accept+ ?is arrangem5t4 ,9 fact1 ! rule on :i* a ho/ %\ld act is to make 8 visitors z mu* at home z possible2 t on :i* a visitor %\ld act1 is to int]f]e z little z possible ) ! dome/ic r\t9e ( ! h\se4 ,! wor/ "p ( a c\ntry visit is ! necessity ( giv+ gratuities to ! s]vants1 = a poor man may (t5 f9d 8 visit co/ him f> m ?an if he _h /ay$ at home4 ,x is a cu/om :i* ought to be put d[n1 because a ho/ :o receives mu* %\ld pay 8 own s]vants = ! extra tr\ble giv54 ,"s p h made by-laws aga9/ x 9 _! h\ses1 b1 l ^? ab\t gratuities to railway-port]s1 !y are seldom reg>d$4 ,9 a great h\se a man-s]vant expects gold1 b a poor man %\ld n be a%am$ ( (f]+ him silv]4 ,x mu/ dep5d on ! l5g? ( ! visit4 ,! ladies give to ! female1 ! g5tlem5 to ! male s]vants4 ,w\ld t ,i might see my fri5ds )\t pay+ !m = _! hospitality 9 ?is indirect mann]6 ,,*apt] ,,vi4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,! ,,ball ,,room4 ,( all ! amusem5ts op5 = "y p1 none is m delightful & m popul> ?an danc+4 ,"l ,*e/]field1 9 8 lett]s to 8 son1 says3 ,danc+ is1 9 itself1 a v trifl+ & silly ?+2 b x is "o ( ^? e/abli%$ follies to :i* p ( s5se are sometimes oblig$ to con=m2 & !n !y %\ld be able to d x well4 ,&1 ?\gh ,i w\ld n h y a danc]1 yet1 :5 y d dance1 ,i w\ld h y dance well1 z ,i w\ld h y d ev]y?+ y d well4 ,9 ano!r lett]1 he writes3 ,d y m9d y\r danc+ :ile y\r danc+ ma/] is ) y8 ,z y w be (t5 "u ! necessity ( danc+ a m9uet1 ,i w\ld h y dance x v well4 ,rememb] t ! graceful motion ( ! arms1 ! giv+ ( y\r h&1 & ! putt+ (f & putt+ on ( y\r hat g5teelly1 are ! mat]ial p>ts ( a g5tleman's danc+4 ,b ! greate/ advantage ( danc+ well is1 t x necess>ily tea*es y to pres5t y\rself1 to sit1 /&1 & walk g5teelly2 all ( :i* are ( real importance to a man ( fa%ion4 ,al?\gh ! days are ov] :5 g5tlem5 c>ri$ _! hats into ball rooms & danc$ m9uets1 !re are useful h9ts 9 ! quotations giv5 above4 ,no?+ w give ease ( mann] & a graceful c>riage to a g5tleman m surely ?an ! k ( danc+4 ,he w1 9 its practice1 acquire easy motion1 a light /ep1 & le>n to use bo? h&s & feet well4 ,:at c be m awkw>d ?an a man :o cont9ually f9ds 8 h&s & feet 9 8 way1 &1 by 8 fussy movem5ts1 betrays 8 tr\ble8 ,a good danc] nev] feels ?is emb>rassm5t1 consequ5tly he nev] appe>s aw>e ( ! exi/5ce ( 8 feet1 & c>ries 8 h&s & arms gracefully4 ,"s p be+ ba%ful & afraid ( attract+ att5tion 9 a ball room or ev5+ p>ty1 d n take lessons 9 danc+1 ov]look+ ! fact t x is ^? :o d n p>take ( ! amusem5t on su* occasions1 n ^? :o d1 t attract att5tion4 ,to all su* g5tlem5 ,i w\ld say2 ,le>n to dance4 ,y w f9d x "o ( ! v be/ plans = correct+ ba%fulness4 ,unless y possess ! accompli%m5ts t are common 9 polite society1 y c nei!r give nor receive all ! b5efits t c be d]iv$ f social int]c\rse4 ,:5 y receive an invitation to a ball1 answ] x imm$iately4 ,if y g alone1 g f ! dress+-room to ! ball room1 f9d y\r ho/ & ho/ess1 & speak fir/ to !m2 if !re are sev]al ladies 9 ! h\se1 take ! e>lie/ opportunity ( pay+ y\r respects to ea* ( !m1 & invite "o ( !m to dance ) y ! fir/ dance4 ,if %e is already engag$1 y %\ld endeavor to engage h] = a dance lat] 9 ! ev5+1 & are !n at lib]ty to seek a p>tn] among/ ! gue/s4 ,:5 y h engag$ a p>tn] = a dance1 y %\ld g to h] a few mom5ts be=e ! set = :i* y h engag$ h] w be =m$1 t y may n be hurri$ 9 tak+ y\r places ^u ! floor4 ,enquire :e!r %e pref]s ! head or side place 9 ! set1 & take ! position %e names4 ,9 invit+ a lady to dance ) y1 ! words1 ,w y honor me ) y\r h& = a quadrille8 or1 ,%all ,i h ! honor ( danc+ ?is set ) y8 are m us$ n[ ?an ,%all ,i h ! pleasure8 or1 ,w y give me ! pleasure ( danc+ ) y8 ,(f] a lady y\r arm to lead h] to ! quadrille1 & 9 ! pauses betwe5 ! figures endeavor to make ! duty ( /&+ /ill less tiresome by pleasant conv]sation4 ,let ! subjects be light1 z y w be con/antly int]rupt$ by ! figures 9 ! dance4 ,!re is no occasion ^u :i* a pleasant fl[ ( small talk is m propos1 & agreeable ?an 9 a ball room4 ,:5 ! dance is ov]1 (f] y\r arm to y\r p>tn]1 & enquire :e!r %e pref]s to g imm$iately to h] seat1 or wi%es to prom5ade4 ,if %e *ooses ! =m]1 conduct h] to h] seat1 /& ne> h] a few mom5ts1 *att+1 !n b[1 & give o!r g5tlem5 an opportunity ( address+ h]4 ,if %e pref]s to prom5ade1 walk ) h] until %e expresses a wi% to sit d[n4 ,enquire1 be=e y leave h]1 :e!r y c be ( any s]vice1 &1 if ! supp]-room is op51 invite h] to g 9 !re ) y4 ,y w pay a delicate complim5t & "o t w c]ta9ly be appreciat$1 if1 :5 a lady decl9es y\r invitation to dance on ! plea ( fatigue or fe> ( fatigue1 y d n seek ano!r p>tn]1 b rema9 ) ! lady y h j invit$1 & ?us imply t ! pleasure ( talk+ )1 & be+ ne>1 h]1 is great] ?an t ( danc+ ) ano!r4 ,let y\r ho/ess und]/& t y are at h] s]vice = ! ev5+1 t %e may h a prospect ( giv+ h] wall fl[]s a p>tn]1 &1 h[ev] unattractive ^! may prove1 endeavor to make y\rself z agreeable to !m z possible4 ,y\r conduct w diff] if y escort a lady to a ball4 ,!n y\r pr9cipal att5tions mu/ be paid to h]4 ,y mu/ call = h] punctually at ! h\r %e has appo9t$1 & x is y\r duty to provide ! c>riage4 ,y may c>ry h] a b\quet if y w1 ?is is optional4 ,a m elegant way ( pres5t+ x is to s5d x 9 ! aft]noon ) y\r c>d1 z1 if y wait until ev5+1 %e may ?9k y d n mean to pres5t "o1 & provide "o = h]self4 ,:5 y arrive at y\r de/9ation1 leave ! c>riage1 & assi/ h] 9 alight+2 !n escort h] to ! lady's dress+-room1 leave h] at ! door1 & g to ! g5tlem5's dress+-room4 ,z soon z y h arrang$ y\r own dress1 g aga9 to ! door ( ! lady's room1 & wait until y\r companion comes out4 ,give h] y\r left arm & escort h] to ! ball room2 f9d ! ho/ess & lead y\r companion to h]4 ,:5 !y h ex*ang$ greet+s1 lead y\r lady to a seat1 & !n engage h] = ! fir/ dance4 ,tell h] t :ile y w n deprive o!rs ( ! pleasure ( danc+ ) h]1 y are desir\s ( danc+ ) h] :5ev] %e is n m pleasantly engag$1 & be=e seek+ a p>tn] = any o!r set1 see :e!r y\r lady is engag$ or is ready to dance aga9 ) y4 ,y mu/ wat* dur+ ! ev5+1 &1 :ile y d n =ce y\r att5tions ^u h]1 or prev5t o!rs f pay+ h] att5tion1 y mu/ nev] all[ h] to be alone1 b jo9 h] :5ev] o!rs are n speak+ to h]4 ,y mu/ take h] 9 to supp]1 & be ready to leave ! p>ty1 :5ev] %e wi%es to d s4 ,if ! ball is giv5 9 y\r own h\se1 or at t ( a ne> relative1 x becomes y\r duty to see t e lady1 "y or old1 h&some or ugly1 is provid$ ) a p>tn]1 ?\gh ! olde/ & uglie/ may fall to y\r own %>e4 ,nev] /& up to dance unless y are p]fect ma/] ( ! /ep1 figure1 & "t ( t dance4 ,if y make a mi/ake y n only r5d] y\rself ridicul\s1 b y annoy y\r p>tn] & ! o!rs 9 ! set4 ,if y h come alone to a ball1 d n devote y\rself entirely to any "o lady4 ,divide y\r att5tions among/ sev]al1 & nev] dance twice 9 succession ) ! same p>tn]4 ,to affect an air ( secrecy or my/]y :5 conv]s+ 9 a ball-room is a piece ( imp]t95ce = :i* no lady ( delicacy w ?ank y4 ,:5 y conduct y\r p>tn] to h] seat1 ?ank h] = ! pleasure %e has conf]r$ ^u y1 & d n rema9 too long conv]s+ ) h]4 ,give y\r p>tn] y\r :ole att5tion :5 danc+ ) h]4 ,to let y\r eyes w&] r\nd ! room1 or to make rem>ks betray+ y\r int]e/ 9 o!rs1 is n flatt]+1 z %e w n be unobs]vant ( y\r want ( ta/e4 ,be v c>eful n to =get an engagem5t4 ,x is an unp>donable brea* ( polit5ess to ask a lady to dance ) y1 & neglect to rem9d h] ( h] promise :5 ! "t to r$eem x comes4 ,a dress coat1 dress boots1 full suit ( black1 & :ite or v light kid gloves mu/ be worn 9 a ball room4 ,a :ite wai/coat & cravat are sometimes worn1 b ?is is a matt] ( ta/e4 ,nev] wait until ! music comm5ces be=e invit+ a lady to dance ) y4 ,if "o lady refuses y1 d n ask ano!r :o is seat$ ne> h] to dance ! same set4 ,d n g imm$iately to ano!r lady1 b *at a few mom5ts ) ! "o :om y fir/ invit$1 & !n jo9 a gr\p or g5tlem5 fri5ds = a few mom5ts1 be=e seek+ ano!r p>tn]4 ,nev] dance )\t gloves4 ,?is is an imp]ative rule4 ,x is be/ to c>ry two pair1 z 9 ! contact ) d>k dresses1 or 9 h&+ refre%m5ts1 y may soil ! pair y we> on ent]+ ! room1 & w ?us be "u ! necessity ( (f]+ y\r h& cov]$ by a soil$ glove1 to "s fair p>tn]4 ,y c slip unp]ceiv$ f ! room1 *ange ! soil$ = a fre% pair1 & !n avoid t mortification4 ,if y\r p>tn] has a b\quet1 h&k]*ief1 or fan 9 h] h&1 d n (f] to c>ry !m = h]4 ,if %e f9ds !y emb>rass h]1 %e w reque/ y to hold !m = h]1 b etiquette requires y n to notice !m1 unless %e speaks ( !m fir/4 ,d n be ! la/ to leave ! ball room4 ,x is m elegant to leave e>ly1 z /ay+ too late gives o!rs ! impression t y d n (t5 h an invitation to a ball1 & mu/ make ! mo/ ( x4 ,"s g5tlem5 l+] at a private ball until all ! ladies h left1 & !n congregate 9 ! supp]-room1 :]e !y rema9 = h\rs1 totally reg>dless ( ! fact t !y are keep+ ! we>i$ ho/ & 8 s]vants f _! re/4 ,nev]1 z y value y\r reputation z a g5tleman ( ref9em5t1 be among ! numb] ( ^! hang]s on4 ,! au?or ( a rec5t "w on etiquette1 publi%$ 9 ,engl&1 gives ! foll[+ h9ts = ^? :o g to balls4 ,he says3-- ,:5 invit+ a lady to dance1 if %e replies v politely1 ask+ to be excus$1 z %e does n wi% to dance 7') y1' be+ probably h] m5tal res]vation71 a man ought to be satisfi$4 ,at all ev5ts1 he %\ld nev] press h] to dance aft] "o refusal4 ,! set =ms :i* ,turveydrop w\ld give = ! invitation are too mu* ( ! deportm5t s*ool to be us$ 9 practice4 ,if y "k a "y lady slightly1 x is suffici5t to say to h]1 ',may ,i h ! pleasure ( danc+ ?is waltz1 c41 ) y8' or if intimately1 ',w y dance1 ,miss ,a--8' ,! "y lady :o has refus$ "o g5tleman1 has no "r to accept ano!r = t dance2 & "y ladies :o d n wi% to be annoy$1 mu/ take c>e n to accept two g5tlem5 = ! same dance4 ,9 ,g]many su* innoc5t blund]s (t5 cause fatal results4 ,two p>tn]s arrive at ! same mom5t to claim ! fair "o's h&2 %e v[s %e has n made a mi/ake2 '0 sure %e 0 engag$ to ,h]r ,a--1 & n to ,h]r ,b--2' ,h]r ,b-- is equally c]ta9 t %e 0 engag$ to him4 ,! awkw>dness is1 t if he at once gives h] up1 he appe>s to be indiff]5t ab\t x2 :ile1 if he presses 8 suit1 he mu/ qu>rel ) ,h]r ,a--1 unless ! damsel is clev] en\gh to satisfy bo? ( !m2 & p>ticul>ly if !re is an especial int]e/ 9 ,h]r ,b--1 he yields at la/1 b :5 ! dance is ov]1 s5ds a fri5d to ,h]r ,a--4 ,absurd z all ?is is1 x is common1 & ,i h (t5 se5 "o ,h]r or ! o!r walk+ ab\t ) a huge ga% on 8 *eek1 or 8 arm 9 a sl+1 a few days aft] a ball4 ,fri5d%ip1 x appe>s1 c be let out on hire4 ,! lady :o 0 s v amiable to y la/ night1 has a "r to ignore y\r exi/5ce to-day4 ,9 fact1 a ball room acqua9tance r>ely goes any f>!r1 until y h met at m balls ?an "o4 ,9 ! same way a man _c1 aft] be+ introduc$ to a "y lady to dance )1 ask h] to d s m ?an twice 9 ! same ev5+4 ,a man may dance f\r or ev5 five times ) ! same p>tn]4 ,on ! o!r h&1 a real well-br$ man w wi% to be useful1 & !re are c]ta9 p :om x is imp]ative on him to ask to dance--! daught]s ( ! h\se1 = in/ance1 & any "y ladies :om he may "k intimately2 b mo/ ( all ! well-br$ & amiable man w sacrifice himself to ^? pla91 ill-dress$1 dull look+ be+s :o cl+ to ! wall1 uns\ght & despair+4 ,aft] all1 he w n regret 8 good nature4 ,! spirits reviv+ at ! unexpect$ invitation1 ! wall-fl[] w p\r out h] be/ conv]sation1 w dance h] be/1 & w %[ him h] gratitude 9 "s way or o!r4 ,! =mal b[ at ! end ( a quadrille has gradually dw9dl$ away4 ,at ! end ( e dance y (f] y\r "r arm to y\r p>tn]1 7if by mi/ake y (f] ! left1 y may turn ! blund] into a pretty complim5t1 by rem9d+ h] t is le bras du coeur1 ne>e/ ! he>t1 :i* if n anatomically true1 is1 at lea/1 no worse ?an talk+ ( a sunset & sunrise71 & walk half r\nd ! room ) h]4 ,y !n ask h] if %e w take any refre%m5t1 &1 if %e accepts1 y convey y\r preci\s allotm5t ( t>latane to ! refre%m5t room to be invigorat$ by an ice or negus1 or :at y w4 ,x is judici\s n to l+] too long 9 ?is room1 if y are engag$ to "s "o else = ! next dance4 ,y w h ! pleasure ( he>+ ! music beg9 9 ! di/ant ball room1 & ( reflect+ t an expectant fair is sigh+ = y l ,m>ianna-- ,he come? n1 %e said4 ,%e said1 ,i am a-we>y a-we>y1 ,i w\ld ,i 7 9 b$2 :i* is n an unfrequ5t wi% 9 "s ball rooms4 ,a well-br$ girl1 too1 w rememb] ?is1 & always (f] to return to ! ball room1 h[ev] int]e/+ ! conv]sation4 ,if y are prud5t y w n dance e dance1 nor 9 fact1 mu* m ?an half ! numb] on ! li/2 y w !n escape t hateful r$ness ( face at ! "t1 & t we>+ fatigue ! next day :i* are among ! wor/ features ( a ball4 ,aga91 a g5tleman mu/ rememb] t a ball is ess5tially a lady's p>ty1 & 9 _! pres5ce he %\ld be g5tle & delicate almo/ to a fault1 nev] pu%+ 8 way1 apologiz+ if he tread on a dress1 /ill m s if he te>s x1 begg+ p>don = any accid5tal annoyance he may occasion1 & address+ e body ) a smile4 ,b q unp>donable are ^? m5 :om "o sometimes meets1 :o1 /&+ 9 a door-way1 talk & laugh z !y w\ld 9 a b>rack or college-rooms1 always co>sely1 (t5 indelicately4 ,:at mu/ ! /ate ( _! m9ds be1 if ! sight ( beauty1 mode/y1 & virtue1 does n awe !m into sil5ce6 ,a man1 too1 :o /rolls d[n ! room ) 8 head 9 ! air1 look+ z if !re 7 n a creature !re wor? danc+ )1 is an ill-br$ man1 s is he :o looks bor$2 & worse ?an all is he :o takes too mu* *ampagne4 ,if y are danc+ ) a "y lady :5 ! supp]-room is op5$1 y mu/ ask h] if %e w\ld l to g to supp]1 & if %e says 'yes1' :i*1 9 #iii cases out ( #ajjj1 %e c]ta9ly w d1 y mu/ take h] ?i!r4 ,if y are n danc+1 ! lady ( ! h\se w probably recruit y to take 9 "s *ap]on4 ,h[ev] little y may reli% ?is1 y mu/ n %[ y\r disgu/4 ,9 fact1 no man ought to be disgu/$ at be+ able to d any?+ = a lady2 x %\ld be 8 highe/ privilege1 b x is n--9 ^! mod]n un*ivalr\s days--p]haps nev] 0 s4 ,hav+ plac$ y\r p>tn] !n at ! supp]-table1 if !re is room !re1 b if n at a side-table1 or ev5 at none1 y mu/ be z active z ,puck 9 att5d+ to h] wants1 & z wom5 take z long to settle _! fancies 9 edibles z 9 love-matt]s1 y _h bett] at once get h] some?+ sub/antial1 *ick51 pt de foie gras1 mayonnaise1 or :at y w4 ,aft]w>ds come jelly & trifle 9 due c\rse4 ,a "y lady (t5 goes d[n half-a-doz5 times to ! supp]-room--x is to be hop$ n = ! purpose ( eat+--b %e %\ld n d s ) ! same p>tn] m ?an once4 ,:ile ! lady is supp+ y mu/ /& by & talk to h]1 att5d+ to e want1 & ! mo/ y may take y\rself is a glass ( *ampagne :5 y help h]4 ,y !n lead h] up /airs aga91 & if y are n want$ !re any m1 y may /eal d[n & d a little quiet refre%m5t on y\r own acc\nt4 ,z long1 h[ev]1 z !re are _m ladies /ill at ! table1 y h no "r to beg94 ,no?+ m>ks a man "h s mu* z gorg+ at supp]4 ,balls are meant = danc+1 n eat+1 & un=tunately too _m "y m5 =get ?is 9 ! pres5t day4 ,la/ly1 be c>eful :at y say & h[ y dance aft] supp]1 ev5 m s ?an be=e x1 = if y 9 ! slighte/ way displease a "y lady1 %e may fancy t y h be5 too p>tial to /rong fluids1 & ladies nev] =give t4 ,x w\ld be h>d on ! lady ( ! h\se if e body leav+ a l>ge ball ?\ght x necess>y to wi% h] good night4 ,9 quitt+ a small dance1 h[ev]1 a p>t+ b[ is expect$4 ,x is !n t ! pretty daught] ( ! h\se gives y t sweet smile ( :i* y dream aft]w>ds 9 a gooseb]ry nightm>e ( 'tum-tum-tiddy-tum1' & waltzes deux temps1 & masses ( t>latane & bright eyes1 flu%$ *eeks & dewy glances4 ,see !m to-morr[1 my de> fell[1 x w cure y4 ,i ?9k flirtation comes "u ! head ( morals m ?an ( mann]s2 /ill ,i may be all[$ to say t ball room flirtation be+ m op5 is less dang]\s ?an any o!r4 ,a prud5t man w nev] presume on a girl's livel9ess or bant]4 ,no man ( ta/e ev] made an (f] aft] supp]1 & c]ta9ly n9e-t5?s ( ^? :o h done s h regrett$ x at breakfa/ ! next morn+4 ,at public balls !re are g5]ally ei!r ?ree or f\r /ew>ds on duty1 or a pr(essional ma/] ( c]emonies4 ,^! g5tlem5 hav+ made all ! arrangem5ts1 ord] ! dances1 & h p[] to *ange !m if desirable4 ,!y also und]take to pres5t "y m5 to ladies1 b x mu/ be und]/ood t su* an introduction is only available = "o dance4 ,x is bett] ta/e to ask ! /ew>d to introduce y simply to a p>tn]1 ?an to po9t out any lady 9 p>ticul>4 ,he w probably !n ask y if y h a *oice1 & if n1 y may be c]ta9 he w take y to an e/abli%$ wall-fl[]4 ,public balls are sc>cely enjoyable unless y h y\r own p>ty4 ,z ! great *>m ( a ball is its p]fect accord & h>mony1 all alt]cations1 l\d talk+1 c41 are d\bly ill-mann]$ 9 a ball room4 ,v little suffices to di/urb ! peace ( ! :ole company4 ,! same au?or gives "s h9ts ^u danc+ :i* are s excell5t t ,i ne$ make no apology = quot+ !m4 ,he says3-- ',?ank y--aw--,i d n dance1' is n[ a v common reply f a well-dress$1 h&some man1 :o is lean+ aga9/ ! side ( ! door1 to ! anxi\s1 heat$ ho/ess1 :o feels x incumb5t on h] to f9d a p>tn] = poor ,miss ,wallfl[]4 ,i say ! reply is n only common1 b ev5 reg>d$ z r a f9e "o to make4 ,9 %ort1 m5 ( ! pres5t day don't1 won't1 or c't dance2 & y c't make !m d x1 except by ?reat5+ to give !m no supp]4 ,i really _c discov] ! reason = ?is av]sion to an innoc5t amusem5t1 = ! app>5t purpose ( enjoy+ :i* !y h sp5t an h\r & a half on _! toilet4 ,!re is some?+1 inde$1 9 ! heat ( a ball room1 !re is a great deal 9 ! ridicul\s smallness ( ! closets into :i* ! ball-giv] cr[ds two hundr$ p1 ) a cruel indiff]5ce only equall$ by t ( ! black-hole ( ,calcutta1 expect+ !m to enjoy !mselves1 :5 ! ladies' dresses are cru%$ & torn1 & ! g5tlem51 "u ! despotism ( !irs1 are melt+ away almo/ z rapidly z ! ices ) :i* an occasional wait] has ! he>tlessness to insult !m4 ,!n1 aga91 x is a great nuisance to be introduc$ to a succession ( pla91 un9t]e/+ "y wom51 ( ^: ta/es1 modes ( life1 c41 y h n ! slighte/ conception3 :o may look gay1 yet h nev] a ?\ght beyond ! curate & ! p>i%1 or appe> to be s]i\s1 :ile !y und]/& no?+ b ! op]a & ,s-&-s's ball--9 fact1 to be 9 p]petual risk ( ei!r %ock+ _! prejudices1 or plagu+ !m ) subjects 9 :i* !y c h no possible int]e/2 to take y\r *ance :e!r !y c dance at all1 & to "k t :5 y h light$ on a real *>m]1 p]haps ! beauty ( ! room1 %e is only l5t to y = t dance1 &1 :5 t is ov]1 & y h salaam$ away aga91 y & %e mu/ rema9 to "o ano!r z if y _h nev] met2 to feel1 9 %ort1 t y mu/ de/roy ei!r y\r pres5t com=t or future happ9ess1 is c]ta9ly suffici5tly try+ to keep a man close to ! side-po/s ( ! doorway4 ,b ^! are reasons :i* might keep him altoge!r f a ball room1 &1 if he has ^! & o!r objections to danc+1 he c]ta9ly _c be ju/ifi$ 9 com+ to a place set ap>t = t sole purpose4 ,b ,i suspect t !re are o!r reasons1 & t1 9 mo/ cases1 ! individual c dance & does dance at times1 b has n[ a vulg> desire to be di/+ui%$ f ! re/ ( 8 sex pres5t1 & to appe> indiff]5t to ! pleasures ( ! ev5+4 ,if ?is be 8 laudable desire1 h[ev] he might1 at lea/1 be consi/5t1 & cont9ue to cl+ to 8 door-po/1 l ,/4 ,seba/ian to 8 tree1 & reply ?r\gh\t ! ev5+1 ',?ank y1 ,i don't take refre%m5ts2' ',?ank y1 ,i c't eat supp]2' ',?ank y1 ,i don't talk2' ',?ank y1 ,i don't dr9k *ampagne1'--= if a ball room be purgatory1 :at a demoniacal conflict does a supp]-room pres5t2 if "y ladies be bad = ! he>t1 *ampagne is worse = ! head4 ,no1 x is ! w1 n ! p[] to dance :i* is want+1 & to refuse to d s1 unless = a really good reason1 is n ! "p ( a well-br$ man4 ,to m> ! pleasure ( o!rs is obvi\sly bad mann]s1 &1 ?\gh at ! door-po/1 y may n be 9 ! way1 y may be c]ta9 t !re are "s "y ladies long+ to dance1 & expect+ to be ask$1 & t ! ho/ess is vex$ & annoy$ by see+ !m fix$1 l pictures1 to ! wall4 ,x is !re=e ! duty ( e man :o has no scruples ab\t danc+1 & purposes to appe> at balls1 to le>n h[ to dance4 ,9 ! pres5t day ! art is mu* simplifi$1 & if y c walk ?r\gh a quadrille1 & p]=m a polka1 waltz1 or galop1 y may (t5 dance a :ole ev5+ ?r\gh4 ,( c\rse1 if y c add to ^! ! ,lanc]s1 ,s*ottis*e1 & ,polka-,mazurka1 y w h m v>iety1 & c be m g5]ally agreeable4 ,b if y\r ma/] or mi/ress a man le>ns bett] f ! =m] has /uff$ into y\r head "s ( ! ?ree hundr$ dances :i* he tells y exi/1 ! be/ ?+ y c d is to =get !m aga94 ,:e!r "r or wrong1 ! numb] ( usual dances is limit$1 & unusual ones %\ld be v sp>+ly introduc$ into a ball1 = z few p "k !m1 _! danc+1 on ! "o h&1 becomes a m]e display1 &1 on ! o!r1 int]rupts ! enjoym5t ( ! majority4 ,! quadrille is pron\nc$ to be ess5tially a conv]sational dance1 b1 inasmu* z ! figures are p]petually call+ y away f y\r p>tn]1 ! fir/ necessity = danc+ a quadrille is to be suppli$ ) a fund ( small talk1 9 :i* y c g f subject to subject l a bee f fl[] to fl[]4 ,! next po9t is to c>ry y\rself uprightly4 ,"t 0 :5--z 9 ! days ( ! m9uet de la c\r--! c>riage con/itut$ ! dance4 ,?is is /ill ! case ) ! quadrille1 9 :i*1 ev5 if ignorant ( ! figures1 y may acquit y\rself well by a calm1 graceful c>riage4 ,aft] all1 ! mo/ important figure is ! smile1 & ! feet may be left to _! fate1 if we "k :at to d ) our h&s2 ( :i* ,i may obs]ve t !y %\ld nev] be pocket$4 ,! smile is ess5tial4 ,a dance is suppos$ to amuse1 & no?+ is m out ( place 9 x ?an a gloomy sc[l1 unless x be an ill-temp]$ fr[n4 ,! gaiety ( a dance is m ess5tial ?an ! accuracy ( its figures1 & if y feel none y\rself1 y may1 at lea/1 look pleas$ by t ( ^? ar\nd y4 ,a defiant mann] is equally obnoxi\s4 ,an acqua9tance ( m9e always gives me ! impression1 :5 he advances 9 l't1 t he is ab\t to box ! lady :o comes to meet him4 ,b ! mo/ objectionable ( all is ! sup]cili\s mann]4 ,de> me1 if y really ?9k y d y\r p>tn] an honor 9 danc+ ) h]1 y %\ld1 at lea/1 rememb] t y\r condesc5sion is annull$ by ! mann] 9 :i* y treat h]4 ,a lady--beautiful ^w6--is a delicate creature1 "o :o %\ld be rev]5c$ & delicately treat$4 ,x is1 !re=e1 unp>donable to ru% ab\t 9 a quadrille1 to cat* hold ( a lady's h& z if x 7 a door-h&le1 or to drag h] furi\sly across ! room1 z if y 7 ,bluebe>d & %e ,fatima1 ) ! my/]i\s closet opposite to y4 ,?is brusque viol5t /yle ( danc+ is1 un=tunately1 common1 b imm$iately /amps a man4 ,?\gh ,i w\ld n h y we> a p]petual simp]1 y %\ld c]ta9ly smile :5 y take a lady's h&1 & ! old cu/om ( b[+ 9 do+ s1 is "o t we may regret2 =1 does %e n conf] an honor on u by ! action8 ,to squeeze x1 on ! o!r h&1 is a gross famili>ity1 = :i* y w\ld des]ve to be kick$ out ( ! room4 ',/eps1' z ! *ass] ( ! quadrille is call$1 belong to a pa/ age1 & ev5 ladies are n[ cont5t to walk ?r\gh a quadrille4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 necess>y to keep "t ) ! music1 ! great object be+ ! g5]al h>mony4 ,to pres]ve ?is1 x is also advisable1 :]e ! quadrille1 z is n[ g5]ally ! case1 is danc$ by two long l9es ( c\ples d[n ! room1 t 9 l't1 & o!r figures1 9 :i* a g5tleman & lady advance alone to meet "o ano!r1 none b g5tlem5 %\ld advance f ! "o side1 &1 !re=e1 none b ladies f ! o!r4 ,danc+ ma/]s f9d x conv5i5t to introduce new figures1 & ! fa%ion ( ,la ,trnise & ! ,gr&e ,ronde is repeat$ly *ang+4 ,x is wise to "k ! la/ mode1 b n to insi/ on danc+ x4 ,a quadrille _c g on ev5ly if any confusion arises f ! ignorance1 ob/9acy1 or inatt5tion ( any "o ( ! danc]s4 ,x is !re=e useful to "k e way 9 :i* a figure may be danc$1 & to take y\r cue f ! o!rs4 ,x is amus+1 h[ev]1 to f9d h[ ev5 su* a trifle z a *oice ( figures 9 a quadrille c help to m>k ca/e1 & give a h&le = sup]cili\s sne]s4 ,jones1 ! o!r day1 0 prote/+ t ! ,br[ns 7 'vulg>4' ',:y s8 !y are well-br$4' ',yes1 s !y are4' ',!y are well-in=m$4' ',c]ta9ly4' ',!y are polite1 speak good ,engli%1 dress quietly & well1 are graceful & ev5 elegant4' ',i grant y all t4' ',!n :at fault c y f9d ) !m8' ',my de> fell[1 !y are p :o gallop r\nd 9 ! la/ figure ( a quadrille1' he repli$1 triumphantly4 ,b to a c]ta9 ext5t ,jones is "r4 ,:]e a *oice is giv51 ! man ( ta/e w always select = a quadrille 7z x is a conv]sational dance7 ! quiet] mode ( p]=m+ a figure1 & s ! ,br[ns1 if p]fect 9 o!r respects1 at lea/ 7 want+ 9 ta/e4 ,!re is "o alt]ation lately introduc$ f ,france1 :i* ,i s9c]ely tru/1 w be univ]sally accept$4 ,! f>ce ( t degrad+ little p]=mance call$ 'sett+'--:]e y dance be=e y\r p>tn] some:at l ,man ,friday be=e ,rob9son ,crusoe1 & !n z if y\r feel+s 7 ov]come1 seize h] h&s & :irl h] r\nd--has be5 f9ally aboli%$ by a decree ( ,fa%ion1 & ?us m opportunity is giv5 = conv]sation1 & 9 a cr[d$ room y h no occasion to cru% y\rself & p>tn] betwe5 ! c\ples on ea* side ( y4 ,i d n attempt to d5y t ! quadrille1 z n[ walk$1 is ridicul\s2 ! figures1 :i* might be graceful1 if p]=m$ 9 a lively mann]1 h entirely lo/ _! _s1 & are become a burlesque ( danc+2 b1 at ! same "t1 x is a mo/ valuable dance4 ,old & "y1 /\t & ?91 good danc]s & bad1 lazy & active1 /upid & clev]1 m>ri$ & s+le1 c all jo9 9 x1 & h n only an excuse & opportunity = tte--tte conv]sation1 :i* is decid$ly ! easie/1 b f9d enc\ragem5t 9 ! music1 & 9 "s cases conv5i5t breaks 9 ! necessity ( danc+4 ,a p]son ( few ideas has "t to collect !m :ile ! p>tn] is p]=m+1 & "o ( _m c br+ !m out ) d\ble effect4 ,la/ly1 if y wi% to be polite or fri5dly to an acqua9tance :o dances atroci\sly1 y c select a quadrille = him or h]1 z ! case may be4 ,v diff]5t 9 object & pr9ciple are ! s-call$ r\nd dances1 & !re are great limitations z to ^? :o %\ld jo9 9 !m4 ,"h ! int5tion is to enjoy a peculi> physical movem5t "u peculi> conditions1 & ! conv]sation dur+ ! int]vals ( re/ is only a second>y object4 ,^! dances dem& activity & lightness1 & %\ld !re=e be1 z a rule1 conf9$ to ! "y4 ,an old man sacrifices all 8 dignity 9 a polka1 & an old woman is ridicul\s 9 a waltz4 ,corpul5cy1 too1 is g5]ally a great imp$im5t1 ?\gh "s /\t p prove to be ! lighte/ danc]s4 ,! morality ( r\nd dances sc>cely comes )9 my prov9ce4 ,!y c]ta9ly c be made v indelicate2 s c any dance1 & ! ,fr5* cancan proves t ! quadrille is no saf] 9 ?is respect ?an ! waltz4 ,b x is a gross insult to our daught]s & si/]s to suppose !m capable ( any b ! mo/ innoc5t & pure/ enjoym5t 9 ! dance1 :ile ( our "y m5 ,i w say1 t to ! pure all ?+s are pure4 ,^? :o see h>m 9 x1 are ^? 9 ^: m9d evil ?\ghts mu/ h aris54 ,honi soit qui mal y p5se4 ,^? :o rail aga9/ danc+ are p]haps n aw>e t !y d b foll[ 9 ! /eps ( ! ,romi% ,*ur*4 ,9 _m p>ts ( ! ,cont95t1 bi%ops :o h nev] danc$ 9 _! lives1 & p]haps nev] se5 a dance1 h laid a ban ( excommunication on waltz+4 ,a /ory 0 told to me 9 ,norm&y ( ! wor?y ,bi%op ( ,bayeux1 "o ( ?is numb]4 ,a prie/ ( 8 diocese petition$ him to put d[n r\nd dances4 ',i "k no?+ ab\t !m1' repli$ ! prelate1 ',i h nev] se5 a waltz4' ,^u ?is ! y\ng] ecclesia/ic attempt$ to expla9 :at x 0 & :]e9 ! dang] lay1 b ! bi%op c\ld n see x4 ',w ,monseigneur p]mit me to %[ him8' ask$ ! prie/4 ',c]ta9ly4 ,my *apla9 "h appe>s to und]/& ! subject2 let me see y two waltz4' ,h[ ! rev]5d g5tlem5 came to "k s mu* ab\t x does n appe>1 b !y c]ta9ly danc$ a polka1 a gallop1 & a trois-temps waltz4 ',all ^! seem h>mless en\gh4' ',oh6 b ,monseigneur has n se5 ! wor/2' & !reupon ! two g5tlem5 proce$$ to fl\nd] ?r\gh a valse deux-temps4 ,!y mu/ h murd]$ x t]ribly1 = !y 7 n half r\nd ! room :5 8 ,lord%ip cri$ out1 ',en\gh1 en\gh1 t is atroci\s1 & des]ves excommunication4' ,accord+ly ?is waltz 0 =bid1 :ile ! o!r dances 7 all[$4 ,i 0 at a public ball at ,ca5 soon aft] ?is occurr5ce1 & 0 amus$ to f9d ! trois-temps danc$ ) a peculi> %uffle1 by way ( compromise betwe5 consci5ce & pleasure4 ,!re are p 9 ?is c\ntry ^: logic is z good z t ( ! ,bi%op ( ,bayeux1 b ,i confess my inability to und]/& x4 ,if !re is impropriety 9 r\nd dances1 !re is ! same 9 all4 ,b to ! waltz1 :i* poets h prais$ & prea*]s d5\nc$4 ,! ,fr5*1 ) all _! love ( dang]1 waltz atroci\sly1 ! ,engli% b little bett]2 ! ,g]mans & ,russians alone und]/& x4 ,i c\ld rave ?r\gh ?ree pages ab\t ! innoc5t enjoym5t ( a good waltz1 its grace & beauty1 b ,i w be practical in/ead1 & give y a few h9ts on ! subject4 ,! position is ! mo/ important po9t4 ,! lady & g5tleman be=e />t+ %\ld /& exactly opposite to "o ano!r1 q upright1 & n1 z is s common1 pa9fully close to "o ano!r4 ,if ! man's h& be plac$ :]e x %\ld be1 at ! c5tre ( ! lady's wai/1 & n all r\nd x1 he w h z firm a hold & n be oblig$ to /oop1 or b5d to 8 "r4 ,! lady's head %\ld !n be turn$ a little t[>ds h] left %\ld]1 & h] p>tn]'s some:at less t[>ds 8 "r1 9 ord] to pres]ve ! prop] balance4 ,no?+ c be m atroci\s ?an to see a lady lay h] head on h] p>tn]'s %\ld]2 b1 on ! o!r h&1 %e w n dance well1 if %e turns x 9 ! opposite direction4 ,! lady aga9 %\ld ?r[ h] head & %\ld]s a little back1 & ! man lean a v little =w>d4 ,! position hav+ be5 ga9$1 ! /ep is ! next "q4 ,9 ,g]many ! rapidity ( ! waltz is v great1 b x is r5d]$ elegant by slack5+ ! pace e n[ & !n1 & ?us giv+ a cresc5do & decresc5do "t to ! movem5t4 ,! ,russian m5 und]take to p]=m 9 waltz+ ! same feat z ! ,au/rians 9 rid+1 & w dance r\nd ! room ) a glass ( *ampagne 9 ! left h& )\t spill+ a drop4 ,?is ev5ness 9 waltz+ is c]ta9ly v graceful1 b c only be atta9$ by a long slid+ /ep1 :i* is little practis$ :]e ! rooms are small1 & p1 n und]/&+ ! real pleasure ( danc+ well1 insi/ on danc+ all at ! same "t4 ,9 ,g]many !y are s alive to ! necessity ( ample space1 t 9 l>ge balls a rope is drawn across ! room2 its two ends are held by ! ma/]s ( ! c]emonies pro-tem41 & z "o c\ple /ops & retires1 ano!r is all[$ to pass "u ! rope & take its place4 ,b !n 9 ,g]many !y dance = ! danc+'s sake4 ,h[ev] ?is may be1 an ev5 motion is v desirable1 & all ! abom9ations :i* militate aga9/ x1 su* z hop-waltzes1 ! ,s*ottis*e1 & ridicul\s ,v>sovi5ne1 are ju/ly put d[n 9 good society4 ,! pace1 aga91 %\ld n be suffici5tly rapid to endang] o!r c\ples4 ,x is ! g5tleman's duty to /e]1 & 9 cr[d$ rooms no?+ is m try+4 ,he mu/ keep 8 eyes op5 & turn !m 9 e direction1 if he w\ld n risk a collision1 & ! *ance ( a fall1 or :at is z bad1 ! infliction ( a w\nd on 8 p>tn]'s arm4 ,i h se5 a lady's arm cut op5 9 su* a collision by ! bracelet ( t ( ano!r lady2 & ! sight is by no means a pleasant "o 9 a ball room1 to say no?+ ( a new dress cov]$ 9 a mom5t ) blood4 ,! consequ5ces ( viol5t danc+ may be really s]i\s4 ,n only d delicate girls br+ on1 !reby1 a viol5t palpitation ( ! he>t1 & _! p>tn]s appe> 9 a mo/ disagreeable condition ( solution1 b dang]\s falls ensue f x4 ,i h kn[n in/ances ( a lady's head be+ laid op51 & a g5tleman's foot be+ brok5 9 su* a fall1 result+1 poor fell[6 9 lam5ess = life4 ,x is1 p]haps1 useless to recomm5d flat-foot waltz+ 9 ?is c\ntry1 :]e ladies all[ !mselves to be almo/ hugg$ by _! p>tn]s1 & :]e m5 ?9k x necess>y to lift a lady almo/ (f ! gr\nd1 b ,i am p]suad$ t if x 7 introduc$1 ! outcry aga9/ ! impropriety ( waltz+ w\ld soon cease4 ,no?+ c be m delicate ?an ! way 9 :i* a ,g]man holds 8 p>tn]4 ,x is impossible to dance on ! flat foot unless ! lady & g5tleman are q free ( "o ano!r4 ,8 h&1 !re=e1 goes no fur!r r\nd h] wai/ ?an to ! hooks & eyes ( h] dress1 h]s1 no high] ?an to 8 elb[4 ,?us danc$1 ! waltz is smoo?1 graceful1 & delicate1 & we c\ld nev] 9 ,g]many compla9 ( our daught]'s langui%+ on a "y man's %\ld]4 ,on ! o!r h&1 no?+ is m graceless & absurd ?an to see a man waltz+ on ! tips ( 8 toes1 lift+ 8 p>tn] (f ! gr\nd1 or twirl+ r\nd & r\nd ) h] l ! figures on a /reet organ4 ,! te/ ( waltz+ 9 "t is to be able to /amp ! "t ) ! left foot4 ,a good flat-foot waltz] c dance on "o foot z well z on two1 b ,i w\ld n advise him to try x 9 public1 le/1 l ,mr4 ,r>ey's horse on ?ree legs1 he %\ld come to ! gr\nd 9 a luckless mom5t4 ,! legs %\ld be v little b5t 9 danc+1 ! body /ill less s4 ,i d n "k :e!r x be worse to see a man sit d[n 9 a waltz1 or to f9d him ) 8 head pok$ =w>d ov] y\r "y wife's %\ld]1 hot1 r$1 wild1 & 9 f> too close proximity to ! p>tn] ( y\r bosom1 :om he makes lit]ally ! p>tn] ( 8 own4 ,! ',lanc]s' are a revival1 aft] _m long ye>s1 &1 p]haps1 we may soon h a draw+-room adaptation ( ! ,morris-dance4 ,! only advice1 !re=e1 :i* x is necess>y to give to ^? :o wi% to dance ! polka may be summ$ up 9 "o ^w1 'don't4' ,n s ) ! galop4 ,! rem>ks z to ! position 9 waltz+ apply to all r\nd dances1 & !re is1 !re=e1 little to add ) reg>d to ! galop1 except t x is a great mi/ake to suppose x to be a rapid dance4 ,x %\ld be danc$ z sl[ly z possible4 ,x w !n be m graceful & less fatigu+4 ,x is danc$ q sl[ly 9 ,g]many & on ! flat foot4 ,! polka-mazurka is /ill mu* danc$1 & is c]ta9ly v graceful4 ,! rem>ks on ! quadrille apply equally to ! lanc]s1 :i* are great favorites1 & ?reat5 to take ! place ( ! =m]4 ,! s*ottis*e1 hop-waltz1 r$[a1 v>sovi5ne1 cell>ius1 & s =?1 h _h _! day1 & are no long] danc$ 9 good society4 ,! calm ease :i* m>ks ! man ( good ta/e1 makes ev5 ! swifte/ dances graceful & agreeable4 ,vehem5ce may be excus$ at an election1 b n 9 a ball room4 ,i once ask$ a beautiful & v clev] "y lady h[ %e1 :o seem$ to pass h] life ) books1 manag$ to dance s well4 ',i enjoy x1' %e repli$2 '& :5 ,i dance ,i give my :ole m9d to x4' ,& %e 0 q "r4 ,:atev] is wor? do+ at all1 is wor? do+ well2 & if x is n b5ea? y\r dignity to dance1 x is n unwor?y ( y\r m9d to give itself1 = ! "t1 :olly up to x4 ,y w nev] enjoy danc+ till y d x well2 &1 if y d n enjoy x1 x is folly to dance4 ,b1 9 reality1 danc+1 if x be a m]e trifle1 is "o to :i* great m9ds h n be5 a%am$ to /oop4 ,locke1 = in/ance1 has writt5 on its utility1 & speaks ( x z manly1 :i* 0 c]ta9ly n ,mi*al's op9ion1 :5 %e look$ out ( ! w9d[ & saw h] "l & ma/] danc+ & play+4 ,plato recomm5d$ x1 & ,socrates le>n$ ! ,a!nian polka ( ! day :5 q an old g5tleman1 & lik$ x v mu*4 ,"s "o has ev5 gone ! l5g? ( call+ x '! logic ( ! body2' & ,addison def5ds himself = mak+ x ! subject ( a disquisition4 ,,*apt] ,,vii4 ,,dress4 ,betwe5 ! slov5 & ! coxcomb !re is g5]ally a competition :i* %all be ! m contemptible3 ! "o 9 ! total neglect ( e ?+ :i* might make 8 appe>ance 9 public supportable1 & ! o!r 9 ! cultivation ( e sup]flu\s ornam5t4 ,! =m] (f5ds by 8 neglig5ce & dirt1 & ! latt] by 8 f9]y & p]fum]y4 ,ea* ent]ta9s a supreme contempt = ! o!r1 & :ile bo? are "r 9 _! op9ion1 bo? are wrong 9 _! practice4 ,x is n 9 ei!r extreme t ! man ( real elegance & ref9em5t w be %[n1 b 9 ! happy m$ium :i* all[s ta/e & judgm5t to preside ov] ! w>drobe & toilet-table1 :ile x prev5ts too great an att5tion to ei!r1 & nev] all[s p]sonal appe>ance to become ! lead+ object ( life4 ,! ,fr5* h a prov]b1 ,x is n ! c[l :i* makes ! monk1 & x might be said ) equal tru?1 ,x is n ! dress :i* makes ! g5tleman1 yet1 z ! monk is kn[n abroad by 8 c[l1 s ! true g5tleman w let ! ref9em5t ( 8 m9d & education be se5 9 8 dress4 ,! fir/ rule = ! guidance ( a man1 9 matt]s ( dress1 %\ld be1 ,let ! dress suit ! occasion4 ,x is z absurd = a man to g into ! /reet 9 ! morn+ ) 8 dress-coat1 :ite kid gloves1 & danc+-boots1 z x w\ld be = a lady to prom5ade ! fa%ionable /reets1 9 full ev5+ dress1 or = ! same man to pres5t himself 9 ! ball-room ) heavy walk+-boots1 a great coat1 & rid+-cap4 ,x is true t !re is little opportunity = a g5tleman to ex]cise 8 ta/e = color+1 9 ! black & :ite dress :i* fa%ion s imp]atively decl>es to be ! prop] dress = a dress occasion4 ,he may indulge 9 light clo!s 9 ! /reet dur+ ! w>m mon?s ( ! ye>1 b = ! ball or ev5+ p>ty1 black & :ite are ! only colors 7or no colors7 admissible1 & 9 ! mid/ ( ! gay dresses ( ! ladies1 ! un=tunate man 9 8 sombre dress appe>s l a demon :o has f\nd 8 way into ,p>adise among ! angels4 ,n'importe6 ,m5 %\ld be useful to ! wom51 & h[ c !y be bett] employ$ ?an act+ z a foil = _! lovel9ess ( face & dress6 ,not)/&+ ! dress1 h[ev]1 a man may make himself agreeable1 ev5 9 ! e>?ly ,p>adise1 a ball-room4 ,he c rise above ! m\rn+ ( 8 coat1 to ! joy\sness ( ! occasion1 & make himself valu$ = himself1 n 8 dress4 ,he c make himself admir$ = 8 wit1 n 8 toilette2 8 elegance & ref9em5t1 n ! price ( 8 clo!s4 ,!re is ano!r good rule = ! dress+-room3 ,:ile y are engag$ 9 dress+ give y\r :ole att5tion to x4 ,see t e detail is p]fect1 & t ea* article is neatly arrang$4 ,f ! curl ( y\r hair to ! tip ( y\r boot1 let all be p]fect 9 its make & arrangem5t1 b1 z soon z y h left y\r mirror1 =get y\r dress4 ,no?+ betok5s ! coxcomb m decid$ly ?an to see a man always fuss+ ab\t 8 dress1 pull+ d[n 8 wri/b&s1 play+ ) 8 m\/a*e1 pull+ up 8 %irt coll>1 or arrang+ ! b[ ( 8 cravat4 ,once dress$1 d n attempt to alt] any "p ( y\r co/ume until y are aga9 9 ! dress+-room4 ,9 a g5tleman's dress any attempt to be conspicu\s is 9 excessively bad ta/e4 ,if y are weal?y1 let ! luxury ( y\r dress consi/ 9 ! f9e quality ( ea* article1 & 9 ! spotless purity ( gloves & l951 b nev] we> mu* jewelry or any article conspicu\s on acc\nt ( its money value4 ,simplicity %\ld always preside ov] ! g5tleman's w>drobe4 ,foll[ fa%ion z f> z is necess>y to avoid ecc5tricity or oddity 9 y\r co/ume1 b avoid ! extreme ( ! prevail+ mode4 ,if coats are worn long1 y\rs ne$ n sweep ! gr\nd1 if !y are loose1 y\rs may /ill h "s fitness = y\r figure2 if pantaloons are cut l>ge ov] ! boot1 y\rs ne$ n cov] ! :ole foot1 if !y are tight1 y may /ill take room to walk4 ,above all1 let y\r figure & /yle ( face h "s weight 9 decid+ h[ f> y are to foll[ fa%ion4 ,= a v tall man to we> a high1 n>r[-brimm$ hat1 long-tail$ coat1 & tight pantaloons1 ) a po9t$ be>d & hair bru%$ up f ! =ehead1 is n m absurd ?an = a %ort1 fat man1 to prom5ade ! /reet 9 a l[1 broad-brimm$ hat1 loose coat & pants1 & ! latt] made ( l>ge plaid mat]ial1 & yet burlesques q z broad may be met ) e day4 ,an ,engli% writ]1 ridicul+ ! :ims ( ,fa%ion1 says3-- ,to be 9 ! fa%ion1 an ,engli%man mu/ we> six pairs ( gloves 9 a day3 ,9 ! morn+1 he mu/ drive 8 hunt+ wagon 9 re9de] gloves4 ,9 hunt+1 he mu/ we> gloves ( *amois sk94 ,to ent] ,london 9 8 tilbury1 beav] sk9 gloves4 ,lat] 9 ! day1 to prom5ade 9 ,hyde ,p>k1 color$ kid gloves1 d>k4 ,:5 he d9es out1 color$ kid gloves1 light4 ,= ! ball-room1 :ite kid gloves4 ,?us 8 ye>ly bill = gloves alone w am\nt to a mo/ extravagant sum4 ,9 ord] to m]it ! appellation ( a well-dress$ man1 y mu/ pay att5tion1 n only to ! m prom95t articles ( y\r w>drobe1 coat1 pants1 & ve/1 b to ! m m9ute details4 ,a %irtfront :i* fits badly1 a pair ( wri/b&s too wide or too n>r[1 a badly bru%$ hat1 a %abby pair ( gloves1 or an ill-fitt+ boot1 w spoil ! mo/ elaborate co/ume4 ,purity ( sk91 tee?1 nails2 well bru%$ hair2 l95 fre% & sn[y :ite1 w make clo!s ( ! co>se/ mat]ial1 if well made1 look m elegant1 ?an ! f9e/ mat]ial ( clo?1 if ^! details are neglect$4 ,frequ5t ba?+1 c>eful att5tion to ! tee?1 nails1 e>s1 & hair1 are indisp5sable to a f9i%$ toilette4 ,use b v little p]fume1 mu* ( x is 9 bad ta/e4 ,let y\r hair1 be>d1 & m\/a*e1 be always p]fectly smoo?1 well arrang$1 & scrupul\sly clean4 ,x is bett] to clean ! tee? ) a piece ( sponge1 or v s(t bru%1 ?an ) a /iff bru%1 & !re is no d5tifrice s good z ,:ite ,ca/ile ,soap4 ,we> always gloves & boots1 :i* fit well & are fre% & :ole4 ,soil$ or torn gloves & boots ru9 a co/ume o!rwise faultless4 ,extreme propriety %\ld be obs]v$ 9 dress4 ,be c>eful to dress accord+ to y\r means4 ,too great sav+ is meanness1 too great exp5se is extravagance4 ,a "y man may foll[ ! fa%ion f>!r ?an a middle-ag$ or eld]ly man1 b let him avoid go+ to ! extreme ( ! mode1 if he w\ld n be tak5 = an empty head$ fop4 ,x is be/ to employ a good tailor1 z a suit ( co>se broadclo? :i* fits y p]fectly1 & is /yli% 9 cut1 w make a m elegant dress ?an ! f9e/ mat]ial badly made4 ,avoid ecc5tricity2 x m>ks1 n ! man ( g5ius1 b ! fool4 ,a well bru%$ hat1 & glossy boots mu/ be always worn 9 ! /reet4 ,:ite gloves are ! only ones to be worn ) full dress4 ,a snuff box1 wat*1 /uds1 sleeve-buttons1 wat*-*a91 & "o r+ are all ! jewelry a well-dress$ man c we>4 ,an ,engli% au?or1 9 a rec5t "w1 gives ! foll[+ rules = a g5tleman's dress3 ,! be/ ba? = g5]al purposes1 & "o :i* c d little h>m1 & almo/ always "s good1 is a sponge ba?4 ,x %\ld consi/ ( a l>ge1 flat metal bas91 "s f\r feet 9 diamet]1 fill$ ) cold wat]4 ,su* a vessel may be b\ght = ab\t fifte5 %ill+s4 ,a l>ge1 co>se sponge--! co>s] ! bett]--w co/ ano!r five or sev5 %ill+s1 & a few ,turki% t[els complete ! 'prop]ties4' ,! wat] %\ld be pl5tiful & fre%1 t is1 br\ght up a little :ile be=e ! ba? is to be us$2 n plac$ ov] night 9 ! b$-room4 ,let u wa% & be m]ry1 = we "k n h[ soon ! supply ( t preci\s article :i* "h co/s no?+ may be cut (f4 ,9 _m cont95tal t[ns !y buy _! wat]1 & on a protract$ sea voyage ! ration is (t5 r$uc$ to half a p9t a day = all purposes1 s t a p9t p] diem is consid]$ luxuri\s4 ,sea-wat]1 we may "h obs]ve1 does n cleanse1 & a s5sible man :o ba!s 9 ! sea w take a ba? ( pure wat] imm$iately aft] x4 ,?is practice is %amefully neglect$1 & ,i am incl9$ to ?9k t 9 _m cases a sea-ba? w d m h>m ?an good )\t x1 b1 if foll[$ by a fre% ba?1 _c b be advantage\s4 ,tak+ ! sponge ba? z ! be/ = ord9>y purposes1 we mu/ po9t out "s rules 9 its use4 ,! sponge be+ ne>ly a foot 9 l5g?1 & six in*es broad1 mu/ be all[$ to fill completely ) wat]1 & ! "p ( ! body :i* %\ld be fir/ attack$ is ! /oma*4 ,x is !re t ! mo/ heat has collect$ dur+ ! night1 & ! application ( cold wat] quick5s ! circulation at once1 & s5ds ! blood :i* has be5 employ$ 9 dige/ion r\nd ! :ole body4 ,! head %\ld next be s\s$1 unless ! p]son be ( full habit1 :5 ! head %\ld be attack$ be=e ! feet t\* ! cold wat] at all4 ,"s p]sons use a small h& %[] ba?1 :i* is less p[]ful ?an ! common %[] ba?1 & does almo/ z mu* good4 ,! use ( soap 9 ! morn+ ba? is an op5 "q4 ,i confess a pref]5ce = a r\gh t[el1 or a hair glove4 ,brummell patroniz$ ! latt]1 & appli$ x = ne>ly a qu>t] ( an h\r e morn+4 ,! anci5ts foll[$ up ! ba? by ano9t+ ! body1 & a?letic ex]cises4 ,! =m] is a mi/ake2 ! latt]1 an excell5t practice1 %amefully neglect$ 9 ! pres5t day4 ,x w\ld conduce mu* to heal? & /r5g? if e morn+ toilet compris$ ! vigor\s use ( ! dumb-bells1 or1 /ill bett]1 ! ex]cise ( ! arms )\t !m4 ,! be/ plan ( all is1 to *oose "s object 9 y\r b$-room on :i* to v5t y\r hatr$1 & box at x viol5tly = "s t5 m9utes1 till ! p]spiration cov]s y4 ,! sponge mu/ !n be aga9 appli$ to ! :ole body4 ,x is v desirable to rema9 )\t clo?+ z long z possible1 & ,i %\ld !re=e recomm5d t e "p ( ! toilet :i* c conv5i5tly be p]=m$ )\t dress+1 %\ld be s4 ,! next duty1 !n1 mu/ be to clean ! ,,tee?4 ,d5ti/s are mod]n inquisitors1 b _! torture-rooms are meant only = ! fooli%4 ,ev]ybody is born ) good tee?1 & ev]ybody might keep !m good by a prop] diet1 & ! avoidance ( sweets & smok+4 ,( ! two ! =m] are1 p]haps1 ! m dang]\s4 ,no?+ ru9s ! tee? s soon z sug> 9 "o's tea1 & highly sweet5$ t>ts & pudd+s1 & z x is le premi] pas qui cote1 ^! %\ld be p>ticul>ly avoid$ 9 *ildhood4 ,:5 ! tee? atta9 _! full gr[? & /r5g? x takes mu* m to de/roy ei!r _! enamel or _! sub/ance4 ,x is ^u ! tee? t ! effects ( excess are fir/ se51 & x is ^u ! tee? t ! odor ( ! brea? dep5ds4 ,if ,i may n say t x is a ,*ri/ian duty to keep y\r tee? clean1 ,i may1 at lea/1 rem9d y t y _c be ?or\ghly agreeable )\t do+ s4 ,let words be :at !y may1 if !y come ) an impure odor1 !y _c please4 ,! butt]fly loves ! sc5t ( ! rose m ?an its honey4 ,! tee? %\ld be well rubb$ inside z well z outside1 & ! back tee? ev5 m ?an ! front4 ,! m\? %\ld !n be r9s$1 if n sev5 times1 accord+ to ! ,h9du legislator1 at lea/ sev]al times1 ) fre%1 cold wat]4 ,?is same process %\ld be repeat$ sev]al times a day1 s9ce eat+1 smok+1 & s =?1 naturally r5d] ! tee? & m\? dirty m or less1 & no?+ c be s (f5sive1 p>ticul>ly to ladies1 ^: s5se ( smell seems to be ke5] ?an t ( ! o!r sex1 & :o c detect at y\r fir/ approa* :e!r y h be5 dr9k+ or smok+4 ,b1 if only = y\r own com=t1 y %\ld bru% y\r tee? bo? morn+ & ev5+1 :i* is q requisite = ! pres]vation ( _! s\ndness & color2 :ile1 if y are to m+le ) o!rs1 !y %\ld be bru%$1 or1 at lea/1 ! m\? well r9s$ aft] e meal1 /ill m aft] smok+1 or dr9k+ w9e1 be]1 or spirits4 ,no am\nt ( g5]al attractiv5ess c comp5sate = an (f5sive odor 9 ! brea?2 & none ( ! s5ses is s f9e a g5tleman1 none s un=giv+1 if (f5d$1 z t ( smell4 ,/rict att5tion mu/ be paid to ! condition ( ! nails1 & t bo? z reg>ds clean+ & cutt+4 ,! =m] is be/ done ) a lib]al supply ( soap on a small nail-bru%1 :i* %\ld be us$ be=e e meal1 if y w\ld n injure y\r neighbor's appetite4 ,:ile ! h& is /ill moi/1 ! po9t ( a small p5-knife or pair ( /umpy nail-scissors %\ld be pass$ "u ! nails s z to remove e ve/ige ( dirt2 ! sk9 %\ld be pu%$ d[n ) a t[el1 t ! :ite half-moon may be se51 & ! f9] sk9 remov$ ) ! knife or scissors4 ,occasionally ! edges ( ! nails %\ld be fil$1 & ! h>d sk9 :i* =ms r\nd ! corn]s ( !m cut away4 ,! important po9t 9 cutt+ ! nails is to pres]ve ! beauty ( _! %ape4 ,t beauty1 ev5 9 details1 is wor? pres]v+1 ,i h already rem>k$1 & we may /udy x z mu* 9 p>+ our nails1 z 9 ! grace ( our attitudes1 or any o!r po9t4 ,! %ape1 !n1 ( ! nail %\ld approa*1 z ne>ly z possible1 to ! oblong4 ,! l5g? ( ! nail is an op5 "q4 ,let x be (t5 cut1 b always long1 9 my op9ion4 ,above all1 let x be well cut1 & nev] bitt54 ,p]haps y tell me ^! are *ildi% details4 ,details1 yes1 b n *ildi%4 ,! att5tion to details is ! true sign ( a great m9d1 & he :o c 9 necessity consid] ! smalle/1 is ! same man :o c compass ! l>ge/ subjects4 ,is n life made up ( details8 ,mu/ n ! arti/ :o has conceiv$ a picture1 desc5d f ! dream ( 8 m9d to mix colors on a palette8 ,mu/ n ! great comm&] :o is b[l+ d[n nations & sett+ up mon>*ies c>e = ! heal? & com=t1 ! bread & beef ( ea* individual soldi]8 ,i h (t5 se5 a great poet1 :om ,i knew p]sonally1 c\nt+ on 8 f+]s ! feet ( 8 v]ses1 & frett+ ) any?+ b poetic language1 because he c\ld n get 8 s5se into z _m syllables4 ,:at if 8 nails 7 dirty8 ,let g5ius talk ( ab/ract beauty1 & philosoph]s dogmatize on ord]4 ,if !y d n keep _! nails clean1 ,i %all call !m bo? *>latans4 ,! man :o really loves beauty w cultivate x 9 ev]y?+ ar\nd him4 ,! man :o upholds ord] is n consci5ti\s if he _c obs]ve x 9 8 nails4 ,! great m9d c af=d to desc5d to details2 x is only ! weak m9d t fe>s to be n>r[$ by !m4 ,:5 ,napoleon 0 at ,muni* he decl9$ ! gr& f\r-po/] ( ! ,witelsba* family1 & slept1 z usual1 9 8 little camp-b$4 ,! p[] to be little is a pro( ( greatness4 ,= ! h&s1 e>s1 & neck we want some?+ m ?an ! ba?1 &1 z ^! p>ts are expos$ & really lodge fugitive pollutions1 we _c use too mu* soap1 or give too mu* tr\ble to _! complete purification4 ,no?+ is loveli] ?an a woman's small1 :ite1 %ell-l e>2 few ?+s reconcile u bett] to e>? ?an ! cold h& & w>m he>t ( a fri5d2 b1 to complete ! *>m1 ! h& %\ld be bo? clean & s(t4 ,w>m wat]1 a lib]al use ( ! nail-bru%1 & no /9t ( soap1 produce ?is am5ity f> m effectually ?an honey1 cold cream1 & almond pa/e4 ,( we>+ gloves ,i %all speak else:]e1 b = weak p :o are tr\bl$ ) *ilbla9s1 !y are indisp5sable all ! ye> r\nd4 ,i w add a good prescription = ! cure ( *ilbla9s1 :i* are bo? a disfigurem5t1 & "o ( ! petites misres ( human life4 ',roll ! f+]s 9 l95 b&ages1 sew !m up well1 & dip !m twice or ?rice a day 9 a mixture1 consi/+ ( half a fluid ounce ( t9cture ( capsicum1 & a fluid ounce ( t9cture ( opium4' ,! p]son :o inv5t$ razors libell$ ,nature1 & add$ a fre% mis]y to ! days ( man4 ,:atev] ,pun* may say1 ! m\/a*e & be>d movem5t is "o 9 ! "r direction1 prov+ t m5 are beg9n+ to appreciate beauty & to ackn[l$ge t ,nature is ! be/ valet4 ,b x is v amus+ to he> m5 excus+ _! vanity on ! plea ( heal?1 & f9d !m indulg+ 9 ! hide\s ',newgate frill' z a k9d ( compromise betwe5 ! be>d & ! razor4 ,!re 0 a "t :5 x 0 ?\ght a presumption & vanity to we> "o's own hair in/ead ( ! frightful elaborations ( ! wig-mak]s1 & ! false curls :i* ,sir ,godfrey ,knell] did 8 be/ to make graceful on canvas4 ,:o kn[s t at "s future age "s ,pun* ( ! tw5ty-fir/ c5tury may n ridicule ! we>+ ( "o's own tee? in/ead ( ! d5ti/'s8 ,at any rate ,nature kn[s be/1 & no man ne$ be a%am$ ( %[+ 8 manhood 9 ! hair ( 8 face4 ,( razors & %av+1 !re=e1 ,i %all only speak f necessity1 because1 until ev]ybody is s5sible on ?is po9t1 !y w /ill be us$4 ,napoleon %av$ himself4 ',a born k+1' said he1 'has ano!r to %ave him4 ,a made k+ c use 8 own razor4' ,b ! w> he made on 8 *9 0 v diff]5t to t he made on =eign pot5tates4 ,he took a v long "t to effect x1 talk+ betwe5 :iles to 8 hang]s-on4 ,! great man1 h[ev]1 0 "r1 & e s5sible man w %ave himself1 if only z an ex]cise ( "*1 = a man %\ld le>n to live1 9 e detail )\t assi/ance4 ,moreov]1 9 mo/ cases1 we %ave ourselves bett] ?an b>b]s c d4 ,if we %ave at all1 we %\ld d x ?or\ghly1 & e morn+4 ,no?+1 except a fr[n & a hay-fev]1 makes ! face look s unlovely z a *9 cov]$ ) %ort /ubble4 ,! *ief requirem5ts are hot wat]1 a l>ge1 s(t bru% ( badg] hair1 a good razor1 s(t soap t w n dry rapidly1 & a /eady h&4 ,*eap razors are a fallacy4 ,!y soon lose _! edge1 & no am\nt ( /ropp+ w re/ore x4 ,a good razor ne$s no /rop4 ,if y c af=d x1 y %\ld h a case ( sev5 razors1 "o = ea* day ( ! week1 s t no "o %all be too mu* us$4 ,!re are n[ mu* us$ packets ( pap]s ( a c]ta9 k9d on :i* to wipe ! razor1 & :i* keep its edge ke51 & are a sub/itute = ! /rop4 ,be>ds1 m\/a*es1 & :isk]s1 h always be5 mo/ important additions to ! face4 ,9 ! pres5t day lit]>y m5 are mu* giv5 to _! gr[?1 & 9 t respect %[ at once _! ta/e & _! vanity4 ,let no man be a%am$ ( 8 be>d1 if x be well kept & n fanta/ically cut4 ,! m\/a*e %\ld be kept )9 limits4 ,! ,hung>ians we> x s long t !y c tie ! ends r\nd _! heads4 ,! /yle ( ! be>d %\ld be adopt$ to suit ! face4 ,a broad face %\ld we> a l>ge1 full "o2 a long face is improv$ by a %>p-po9t$ "o4 ,taylor1 ! wat] poet1 wrote v]ses on ! v>i\s /yles1 & !y are almo/ numb]less4 ,! *ief po9t is to keep ! be>d well-comb$ & 9 neat trim4 ,z to :isk]s1 x is n e man :o c a*ieve a pair ( full l5g?4 ,!re is c]ta9ly a great vanity ab\t !m1 b x may be g5]ally said t foppi%ness %\ld be avoid$ 9 ?is z 9 mo/ o!r po9ts4 ,above all1 ! :isk]s %\ld nev] be curl$1 nor pull$ out to an absurd l5g?4 ,/ill worse is x to cut !m close ) ! scissors4 ,! m\/a*e %\ld be neat & n too l>ge1 & su* fopp]ies z cutt+ ! po9ts !re(1 or twi/+ !m up to ! f95ess ( ne$les--?\gh patroniz$ by ! ,emp]or ( ! ,fr5*--are decid$ly a pro( ( vanity4 ,if a man we> ! hair on 8 face :i* nature has giv5 him1 9 ! mann] t nature di/ributes x1 keeps x clean1 & prev5ts its ov]gr[?1 he _c d wrong4 ,all extravagances are vulg>1 because !y are evid5ce ( a pret5ce to be+ bett] ?an y are2 b a s+le extravagance unsupport$ is p]haps worse ?an a numb] toge!r1 :i* h at lea/ ! m]it ( consi/5cy4 ,if y copy puppies 9 ! half-y>d ( :isk]1 y %\ld h _! dress & _! mann] too1 if y w\ld n appe> d\bly absurd4 ,! same rem>ks apply to ! arrangem5t ( ! hair 9 m51 :i* %\ld be z simple & z natural z possible1 b at ! same "t a little may be grant$ to beauty & ! requirem5ts ( ! face4 ,= my "p ,i c see no?+ unmanly 9 we>+ long hair1 ?\gh und\bt$ly x is inconv5i5t & a temptation to vanity1 :ile its arrangem5t w\ld dem& an am\nt ( "t & att5tion :i* is unwor?y ( a man4 ,b e nation & e age has _h a diff]5t cu/om 9 ?is respect1 & to ?is day ev5 9 ,europe ! hair is sometimes worn long4 ,! ,g]man /ud5t is p>ticul>ly p>tial to hyac9?9e locks curl+ ov] a black velvet coat2 & ! peasant ( ,brittany looks v h&some1 if n always clean1 ) 8 love-locks hang+ /raight d[n "u a broad cavali] hat4 ,religion has g5]ally tak5 up ! matt] sev]ely4 ,! old fa!rs prea*$ & rail$ aga9/ wigs1 ! ,calv9i/s rais$ an insurrection 9 ,bordeaux on ! same acc\nt1 & ,engli% ,r\ndheads consign$ to an unm5tionable place e man :o all[$ 8 hair to gr[ accord+ to nature4 ,! ,romans condemn$ tresses z unmanly1 & 9 ,france 9 ! middle ages ! privilege to we> !m 0 conf9$ to royalty4 ,our mod]n cu/om 0 a revival ( ! ,fr5* revolution1 s t 9 ?is respect we are n[ republican z well z puritanical4 ,if we con=m to fa%ion we %\ld at lea/ make ! be/ ( x1 & s9ce ! ma9 advantage ( %ort hair is its neatness1 we %\ld take c>e to keep ours neat4 ,?is %\ld be done fir/ by frequ5t visits to ! b>b]1 = if ! hair is to be %ort at all x %\ld be v %ort1 & no?+ looks m untidy ?an long1 /iff1 uncurl$ masses /ick+ out ov] ! e>s4 ,if x curls naturally s mu* ! bett]1 b if n x w be easi] to keep 9 ord]4 ,! next po9t is to wa% ! head e morn+1 :i*1 :5 once habitual1 is a great pres]vative aga9/ cold4 ,a pair ( l>ge bru%es1 h>d or s(t1 z y\r case requires1 %\ld be us$1 n to hamm] ! head )1 b to pass up "u ! hair s z to rea* ! roots4 ,z to pomatum1 ,macass>1 & o!r inv5tions ( ! hair-dress]1 ,i h only to say t1 if us$ at all1 x %\ld be 9 mod]ation1 & nev] suffici5tly to make _! sc5t p]ceptible 9 company4 ,( c\rse ! arrangem5t w be a matt] ( individual ta/e1 b z ! middle ( ! hair is ! natural place = a p>t+1 x is r a silly prejudice to ?9k a man va9 :o p>ts 8 hair 9 ! c5tre4 ,he is less blamable ?an "o :o is too lazy to "p x at all1 & has always ! appe>ance ( hav+ j got up4 ,( wigs & false hair1 ! subject ( satires & s]mons s9ce ! days ( ! ,roman ,emp]ors1 ,i %all say no?+ "h except t !y are a practical falsehood :i* may sometimes be necess>y1 b is r>ely successful4 ,= my "p ,i pref] ! sn[s ( life's w9t] to ! be/ made p]uke1 & ev5 a bald head to an inf]ior wig4 ,:5 g5tlem5 wore armor1 & disda9$ ! use ( _! legs1 an esquire 0 a necessity2 & we c und]/& t1 9 ! days ( ! ,beaux1 ! ^w g5tleman meant a man & 8 valet4 ,i am glad to say t 9 ! pres5t day x only takes "o man to make a g5tleman1 or1 at mo/1 a man & a n9?--t is1 includ+ ! tailor4 ,x is an excell5t ?+ = ! "* to be neat & ord]ly1 &1 if a man neglects to be s 9 8 room1 he is op5 to ! same temptation soon] or lat] 9 8 p]son4 ,a dress+-case is1 !re=e1 a desid]atum4 ,a closet to hang up clo? clo!s1 :i* %\ld nev] be fold$1 & a small dress+-room next to ! b$-room1 are n s easily atta9able4 ,b ! man :o ?r[s 8 clo!s ab\t ! room1 a boot 9 "o corn]1 a cravat 9 ano!r1 & 8 bru%es any:]e1 is n a man ( good habits4 ,! _s ( ord] %\ld ext5d to ev]y?+ ab\t him4 ,?is br+s me to speak ( c]ta9 necessities ( dress2 ! fir/ ( :i* ,i %all take is appropriat5ess4 ,! age ( ! individual is an important consid]ation 9 ?is respect2 & a man ( sixty is z absurd 9 ! /yle ( n9ete5 z a "y man 9 ! high cravat ( ,brummell's day4 ,i "k a gallant colonel :o is ma/] ( ! c]emonies 9 a gay wat]+-place1 & :o1 afraid ( ! prim old-fa%ion$ t\rnure ( 8 confrres 9 simil> localities1 is to be se51 ?\gh 8 hair is gray & 8 age n "u five-&-sixty1 9 a light cut-away1 ! 'peg-top' cont9uations1 & a turn$-d[n coll>4 ,x may be :at y\ng] blades w we> :5 !y rea* 8 age1 b 9 ! pres5t day ! effect is ridicul\s4 ,we may1 !re=e1 give z a g5]al rule1 t aft] ! turn+-po9t ( life a man %\ld es*ew ! *anges ( fa%ion 9 8 own attire1 :ile he avoids compla9+ ( x 9 ! "y4 ,9 ! latt]1 on ! o!r h&1 ! obs]vance ( ^! *anges mu/ dep5d p>tly on 8 ta/e & p>tly on 8 position4 ,if wise1 he w adopt ) alacrity any new fa%ions :i* improve ! grace1 ! ease1 ! heal?fulness1 & ! conv5i5ce ( 8 g>m5ts4 ,he w be glad ( great] fre$om 9 ! cut ( 8 clo? clo!s1 ( boots ) ela/ic sides in/ead ( tr\blesome buttons or laces1 ( ! privilege to turn d[n 8 coll>1 & s =?1 :ile he w avoid z extravagant1 elaborate %irt-fronts1 gold b9d+s on ! wai/coat1 & exp5sive buttons4 ,on ! o!r h&1 :atev] 8 age1 he w h "s respect to 8 pr(ession & position 9 society4 ,he w rememb] h[ mu* ! appe>ance ( ! man aids a judgm5t ( 8 "*1 & ?is te/1 :i* has (t5 be5 cri$ d[n1 is 9 reality no bad "o2 = a man :o does n dress appropriately ev9ces a want ( :at is mo/ necess>y to pr(essional m5--tact & discretion4 ,position 9 society dem&s appropriat5ess4 ,well kn[+ ! worldly value ( a good coat1 ,i w\ld yet nev] recomm5d a man ( limit$ means to aspire to a fa%ionable appe>ance4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 he becomes !reby a walk+ falsehood2 9 ! second1 he _c1 )\t runn+ into debt1 :i* is ano!r t]m = di%one/y1 ma9ta9 ! /yle he has adopt$4 ,z he _c af=d to *ange 8 suits z rapidly z fa%ion alt]s1 he mu/ avoid foll[+ x 9 v>y+ details4 ,he w ru% into wide sleeves "o mon?1 9 ! hope ( be+ fa%ionable1 & be=e 8 coat is worn out1 ! next mon? w br+ 9 a n>r[ sleeve4 ,we _c1 un=tunately1 l ,samuel ,pepys1 take a long cloak n[-a-days to ! tailor's1 to be cut into a %ort "o1 'long cloaks be+ n[ q out1' z he tells u4 ,ev5 :5 !re is no pov]ty 9 ! case1 our position mu/ n be =gott54 ,! tradesman w w9 nei!r cu/om]s nor fri5ds by adorn+ himself 9 ! mode ( ! club-l\ng]1 & ! cl]k1 or comm]cial travel]1 :o dresses fa%ionably1 lays himself op5 to inquiries z to 8 antec$5ts1 :i* he may n c>e to h inve/igat$4 ,9 g5]al1 x may be said t !re is vulg>ity 9 dress+ l ^? ( a class above u1 s9ce x mu/ be tak5 z a pro( ( pret5sion4 ,z x is bad ta/e to flaunt ! airs ( ! t[n among ! prov9cials1 :o "k no?+ ( !m1 x is worse ta/e to display ! dress ( a city 9 ! quiet haunts ( ! ru/ics4 ,! law1 t all attempts at di/9ction by means ( dress is vulg> & pret5ti\s1 w\ld be suffici5t argum5t aga9/ we>+ city fa%ions 9 ! c\ntry4 ,:ile 9 mo/ cases a r\gh] & easi] mode ( dress is bo? admissible & desirable 9 ! c\ntry1 !re are _m occasions ( c\ntry visit+ :]e a t[n man f9ds x difficult to decide4 ,x is almo/ peculi> to ! c\ntry to unite ! amusem5ts ( ! daytime ) ^? ( ! ev5+2 ( ! op5 air ) ^? ( ! draw+-room4 ,?us1 9 ! summ]1 :5 ! days are long1 y w be ask$ to a pic-nic or an ar*]y p>ty1 :i* w w9d up ) danc+ 9-doors1 & may ev5 assume ! "* ( a ball4 ,if y are aw>e ( ?is be=eh&1 x w always be safe to s5d y\r ev5+ dress to y\r ho/'s h\se1 & y w le>n f ! s]vants :e!r o!rs h done ! same1 & :e!r1 !re=e1 y w n be s+ul> 9 ask+ leave to *ange y\r co/ume4 ,b if y are ignorant h[ ! day is to end1 y mu/ be guid$ p>tly by ! h\r ( invitation1 & p>tly by ! ext5t ( y\r intimacy ) ! family4 ,i h actually kn[n g5tlem5 arrive at a l>ge pic-nic at mid-day 9 complete ev5+ dress1 & piti$ !m ) all my he>t1 compell$ z !y 7 to suff]1 9 tight black clo!s1 "u a hot sun = eight h\rs1 & dance aft] all 9 ! same dress4 ,on ! o!r h&1 if y are ask$ to come an h\r or two be=e sunset1 aft] six 9 summ]1 9 ! autumn aft] five1 y _c err by appe>+ 9 ev5+ dress4 ,x is always tak5 z a complim5t to d s1 & if y\r acqua9tance ) y\r ho/ess is slight1 x w\ld be almo/ a famili>ity to d o!rwise4 ,9 any case y desire to avoid s+ul>ity1 s t if y c discov] :at o!rs :o are invit$ int5d to we>1 y c always decide on y\r own attire4 ,9 ,europe !re is a conv5i5t rule = ^! matt]s2 nev] appe> aft] f\r 9 ! aft]noon 9 morn+ dress2 b !n gray tr\s]s are !re all[$ in/ead ( black1 & :ite wai/coats are /ill worn 9 ! ev5+4 ,at any rate1 x is possible to effect a compromise betwe5 ! two /yles ( co/ume1 & if y are likely to be call$ ^u to dance 9 ! ev5+1 x w be well to we> ?9 boots1 a black frock-coat1 & a small black neck-tie1 & to put a pair ( clean :ite gloves 9 y\r pocket4 ,y w ?us be at lea/ less conspicu\s 9 ! danc+-room ?an 9 a light twe$ suit4 ,n s ! di/9ction to be made accord+ to size4 ,z a rule1 tall m5 require long clo!s--"s few p]haps ev5 9 ! nurse's s5se ( ^? words--& %ort m5 %ort clo!s4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ,fal/aff %\ld bew>e ( ,j5ny ,wr5 coats & affect ample wrapp]s1 :ile ,pet] ,s*lemihl1 & ! :ole race ( ?9 m51 mu/ es*ew loos5ess z mu* 9 _! g>m5ts z _! morals4 ,la/ly we come to :at is appropriate to diff]5t occasions1 & z ?is is an important subject1 ,i %all treat ( x sep>ately4 ,= ! pres5t x is suffici5t to po9t out t1 :ile e man %\ld avoid n only extravagance1 b ev5 brilliance ( dress on ord9>y occasions1 !re are "s on :i* he may & ought to pay m att5tion to 8 toilet1 & attempt to look gay4 ,( c\rse1 ! ev5+s are n "h meant4 ,= ev5+ dress !re is a fix$ rule1 f :i* we c dep>t only to be foppi% or vulg>2 b 9 morn+ dress !re is great] lib]ty1 & :5 we und]take to m+le ) ^? :o are assembl$ av[$ly = gayety1 we %\ld n make ourselves rem>kable by ! d+9ess ( our dress4 ,su* occasions are op5 air ent]ta9m5ts1 ftes1 fl[]-%[s1 ar*]y-meet+s1 mat9es1 & id g5us omne1 :]e mu* ( ! pleasure to be d]iv$ dep5ds on ! g5]al effect on ! enjoy]s1 & :]e1 if we _c pump up a look ( mir?1 we %\ld1 at lea/1 if we g at all1 we> ! semblance ( x 9 our dress4 ,i h a wor?y little fri5d1 :o1 ,i believe1 is z well dispos$ to 8 k9d z ,"l ,%aftesbury himself1 b :o1 = "s reason1 p]haps a tw+e ( philosophy ab\t him1 frequ5ts ! gay meet+s to :i* he is ask$ 9 an old coat & a wide-awake4 ,"s p take him = a wit1 b he soon %[s t he does n aspire to t "*2 o!rs = a philosoph]1 b he is too good-mann]$ = t2 o!rs1 poor man6 pron\nce him a cynic1 & all are agre$ t :atev] he may be1 he looks out ( place1 & spoils ! g5]al effect4 ,i believe1 9 my he>t1 t he is ! milde/ ( m51 b w n take ! tr\ble to dress m ?an once a day4 ,at any rate1 he has a "* = ecc5tricity1 :i*1 ,i am sure1 is precisely :at he w\ld wi% to avoid4 ,t "* is a mo/ delightful "o = a ba*elor1 & x is g5]ally ,coelebs :o holds x1 = x has be5 prov$ by /ati/ics t !re are f\r s+le to "o m>ri$ man among ! inhabitants ( our madh\ses2 b ecc5tricity yields a reputation :i* requires some?+ to uphold x1 & ev5 9 ,diog5es ( ! ,tub x 0 extremely bad ta/e to =ce himself into ,plato's ev5+ p>ty )\t s&als1 & no?+ b a dirty tunic on him4 ,ano!r requisite 9 dress is its simplicity1 ) :i* ,i may c\ple h>mony ( color4 ,?is simplicity is ! only di/9ction :i* a man ( ta/e %\ld aspire to 9 ! matt] ( dress1 b a simplicity 9 appe>ance mu/ proce$ f a nicety 9 reality4 ,"o %\ld n be simply ill-dress$1 b simply well-dress$4 ,"l ,ca/l]eagh w\ld nev] h be5 pron\nc$ ! mo/ di/+ui%$ man 9 ! gay c\rt ( ,vi5na1 because he wore no ord]s or ribbons among hundr$s decorat$ ) a pr(usion ( ^? vanities1 b because besides ?is he 0 dress$ ) ta/e4 ,! *>m ( ,brummell's dress 0 its simplicity2 yet x co/ him z mu* ?\ght1 "t1 & c>e z ! portfolio ( a m9i/]4 ,! rules ( simplicity1 !re=e1 are ! rules ( ta/e4 ,all extravagance1 all spl5dor1 & all pr(usion mu/ be avoid$4 ,! colors1 9 ! fir/ place1 mu/ h>monize bo? ) our complexion & ) "o ano!r2 p]haps mo/ ( all ) ! color ( our hair4 ,all bright colors %\ld be avoid$1 su* z r$1 yell[1 sky-blue1 & bright gre54 ,p]haps only a successful ,au/ralian gold digg] w\ld ?9k ( *oos+ su* colors = 8 coat1 wai/coat1 or tr\s]s2 b !re are hundr$s ( "y m5 :o might select !m = _! gloves & neck-ties4 ,! deep] colors are1 "s h[ or o!r1 m manly1 & are c]ta9ly less /rik+4 ,! same simplicity %\ld be /udi$ 9 ! avoidance ( ornam5tation4 ,a few ye>s ago x 0 ! fa%ion to trim ! ev5+ wai/coat ) a bord] ( gold lace4 ,?is is an example ( fa%ions always to be rebell$ aga9/4 ,!n1 too1 extravagance 9 ! =m ( our dress is a s9 aga9/ ta/e4 ,i rememb] t long ribbons took ! place ( neck-ties "s ye>s ago4 ,at a commemoration1 two fri5ds ( m9e det]m9$ to cut a figure 9 ?is matt]1 hav+ little else to di/+ui% !m4 ,! "o wore two y>ds ( bright p9k2 ! o!r ! same quantity ( bright blue ribbon1 r\nd _! necks4 ,i h reason to believe !y ?9k n[ t !y bo? look$ sup]bly ridicul\s4 ,9 ! same way1 if ! tr\s]s are worn wide1 we %\ld n we> !m z loose z a ,turk's2 or1 if ! sleeves are to be op51 we %\ld n rival ! ladies 9 ?is matt]4 ,& s on ?r\gh a hundr$ details1 g5]ally rememb]+ t to exagg]ate a fa%ion is to assume a "*1 & !re=e vulg>4 ,! we>+ ( jewelry comes "u ?is head4 ,jewels are an ornam5t to wom51 b a blemi% to m54 ,!y bespeak ei!r effem9acy or a love ( display4 ,! h& ( a man is honor$ 9 work+1 = labor is 8 mission2 & ! h& t we>s its ri*es on its f+]s1 has r>ely work$ hone/ly to w9 !m4 ,! be/ jewel a man c we> is 8 honor4 ,let t be bright & %9+1 well set 9 prud5ce1 & all o!rs mu/ d>k5 be=e x4 ,b z we are savages1 & mu/ h "s silly trick]y to hang ab\t u1 a little1 b v little concession may be made to our ta/e 9 ?is respect4 ,i am q s]i\s :5 ,i disadvise y f ! use ( nose-r+s1 gold anklets1 & hat-b&s /udd$ ) jewels2 = :5 ,i see an incr$ul\s "y man ( ! n9ete5? c5tury1 dangl+ f 8 wat*-*a9 a doz5 silly '*>ms' 7(t5 ! only ones he possesses71 :i* h no o!r use ?an to give a fair coquette a legitimate subject on :i* to approa* to clos] intimacy1 & :i* are reviv$ f ! l[e/ sup]/itions ( d>k ages1 & sometimes d>k] races1 ,i am q ju/ifi$ 9 believ+ t "s ,s\? ,african *iefta91 suffici5tly ri* to cut a da%1 might introduce ) success ! mo/ peculi> fa%ions ( 8 own c\ntry4 ,h[ev] ?is may be1 !re are already suffici5t extravagances preval5t among our "y m5 to attack4 ,! man ( good ta/e w we> z little jewelry z possible4 ,"o h&some signet-r+ on ! little f+] ( ! left h&1 a sc>f-p9 :i* is nei!r l>ge1 nor %[y1 nor too intricate 9 its design1 & a light1 r ?9 wat*-gu>d ) a cross-b>1 are all t he ought to we>4 ,b1 if he aspires to m ?an ?is1 he %\ld obs]ve ! foll[+ rules3-- #a4 ,let ev]y?+ be real & good4 ,false jewelry is n only a practical lie1 b an absolute vulg>ity1 s9ce its use arises f an attempt to appe> ri*] or gr&] ?an its we>] is4 #b4 ,let x be simple4 ,elaborate /uds1 wai/coat-buttons1 & wri/-l9ks1 are all abom9able4 ,! la/1 p>ticul>ly1 %\ld be z pla9 z possible1 consi/+ ( pla9 gold ovals1 )1 at mo/1 ! cre/ engrav$ ^u !m4 ,diamonds & brilliants are q unsuitable to m51 ^: jewelry %\ld nev] be conspicu\s4 ,if y happ5 to possess a s+le diamond ( great value y may we> x on great occasions z a r+1 b no m ?an "o r+ %\ld ev] be worn by a g5tleman4 #c4 ,let x be di/+ui%$ r by its curiosity ?an its brilliance4 ,an antique or bit ( old jewelry possesses m int]e/1 p>ticul>ly if y are able to tell its hi/ory1 ?an ! mo/ spl5did production ( ! goldsmi?'s %op4 #d4 ,let x h>monize ) ! colors ( y\r dress4 #e4 ,let x h "s use4 ,m5 %\ld nev]1 l wom51 we> jewels = m]e ornam5t1 :atev] may be ! fa%ion ( ,hung>ian noblem51 & depos$ ,indian rajahs ) jackets cov]$ ) rubies4 ,! preci\s /ones are res]v$ = ladies1 & ev5 our sc>f-p9s are m suitable )\t !m4 ,! dress t is bo? appropriate & simple c nev] (f5d1 nor r5d] its we>] conspicu\s1 ?\gh x may di/+ui% him = 8 good ta/e4 ,b x w n be pleas+ unless clean & fre%4 ,we _c qu>rel ) a poor g5tleman's ?read-b>e coat1 if 8 l95 be pure1 & we see t he has nev] attempt$ to dress beyond 8 means or unsuitably to 8 /ation4 ,b ! sight ( decay$ g5tility & dilapidat$ fa%ion may call =? our pity1 &1 at ! same "t prompt a moral3 ',y h evid5tly sunk52' we say to ourselves2 ',b ^: fault 0 x8 ,am ,i n l$ to suppose t ! extravagance :i* y evid5tly once revell$ 9 has br\ght y to :at ,i n[ see y8' ,:ile fre%ness is ess5tial to be+ well-dress$1 x w be a consolation to ^? :o _c af=d a heavy tailor's bill1 to reflect t a visible newness 9 "o's clo!s is z bad z pat*es & d>ns1 & to rememb] t !re h be5 celebrat$ dress]s :o w\ld nev] put on a new coat till x _h be5 worn two or ?ree times by _! valets4 ,on ! o!r h&1 !re is no excuse = untid9ess1 holes 9 ! boots1 a brok5 hat1 torn gloves1 & s on4 ,inde$1 x is bett] to we> no gloves at all ?an a pair full ( holes4 ,!re is no?+ to be a%am$ ( 9 b>e h&s1 if !y are clean1 & ! poor c /ill af=d to h _! %irts & %oes m5d$1 & _! hats iron$4 ,x is c]ta9ly bett] to %[ signs ( neatness ?an ! rev]se1 & y ne$ soon] be a%am$ ( a hole ?an a d>n4 ,( p]sonal cleanl9ess ,i h spok5 at su* l5g? t little ne$ be said on t ( ! clo!s4 ,if y are economical ) y\r tailor1 y c be extravagant ) y\r laundress4 ,! beaux ( =ty ye>s back put on ?ree %irts a day1 b except 9 hot wea!r "o is suffici5t4 ,( c\rse1 if y *ange y\r dress 9 ! ev5+ y mu/ *ange y\r %irt too4 ,!re has be5 a great outcry aga9/ color$ flannel %irts 9 ! place ( l951 & ! man :o c we> "o = ?ree days is look$ on z little bett] ?an ,/4 ,simeon ,/ylites4 ,i %\ld l to "k h[ (t5 ! advocates ( l95 *ange _! own "u-flannel1 & :e!r ! same rule does n apply to :at is se5 z to :at is conceal$4 ,b :ile ! flannel is p]haps heal?i] z absorb+ ! moi/ure m rapidly1 ! l95 has ! advantage ( look+ clean]1 & may !re=e be pref]r$4 ,z to economy1 if ! flannel co/s less to wa%1 x also we>s out soon]2 b1 be ?is z x may1 a man's w>drobe is n complete )\t half a doz5 or s ( ^! %irts1 :i* he w f9d mo/ useful1 & t5 times m com=table ?an l95 9 long excursions1 or :5 ex]tion w be requir$4 ,flannel1 too1 has ! advantage ( be+ w>m 9 w9t] & cool 9 summ]1 =1 be+ a non-conductor1 b a reta9] ( heat1 x protects ! body f ! sun1 &1 on ! o!r h&1 %ields x f ! cold4 ,b ! be/ %irt ( all1 p>ticul>ly 9 w9t]1 is t :i* wily monks & h]mits pret5d$ to we> = a p5ance1 well kn[+ t !y c\ld h no g>m5t cool]1 m com=table1 or m heal?y4 ,i mean1 ( c\rse1 ! r\gh hair-%irt4 ,l flannel1 x is a non-conductor ( heat2 b !n1 too1 x acts ! "p ( a %ampoo]1 & ) its p]petual friction soo!s ! surface ( ! sk91 & prev5ts ! circulation f be+ arre/$ at any "o po9t ( ! body4 ,?\gh ,i d\bt if any ( my read]s w take a h9t f ! wisdom ( ! m]ry an*orites1 !y w p]haps all[ me to sugge/ t ! next be/ ?+ to we> next ! sk9 is flannel1 & t too ( ! co>se/ description4 ,quantity is bett] ?an quality 9 l954 ,nev]!less x %\ld be f9e & well spun4 ,! loose cuff1 :i* we borr[$ f ! ,fr5* "s f\r ye>s ago1 is a great improvem5t on ! old tight wri/-b&1 &1 inde$1 x mu/ be borne 9 m9d t any?+ :i* b9ds any "p ( ! body tightly imp$es ! circulation1 & is !re=e unheal?y z well z ungraceful4 ,! necessity = a l>ge /ock ( l95 dep5ds on a rule f> bett] ?an ,brummell's1 ( ?ree %irts a day1 viz3-- ,*ange y\r l95 :5ev] x is at all dirty4 ,?is is ! be/ guide ) reg>d to coll>s1 socks1 pocket-h&k]*iefs1 & our "u g>m5ts4 ,no rule c be laid d[n = ! numb] we %\ld we> p] week1 = ev]y?+ dep5ds on circum/ances4 ,?us 9 ! c\ntry all our l95 rema9s long] clean ?an 9 t[n2 9 dirty1 wet1 or du/y wea!r1 our socks get soon dirty & mu/ be *ang$2 or1 if we h a cold1 to say no?+ ( ! possible b n probable case ( te>-%$d+ on ! dep>ture ( fri5ds1 we %all want m ?an "o pocket-h&k]*ief p] diem4 ,9 fact1 ! la/ article ( mod]n civilization is put to s _m uses1 is s mu* display$1 & liable to be call$ into action on s _m v>i\s engagem5ts1 t we %\ld always h a clean "o 9 our pockets4 ,:o kn[s :5 x may n s]ve u is 9 good /ead8 ,:o c tell h[ (t5 ! corn] ( ! delicate cambric w h to repres5t a te> :i*1 l difficult passages 9 novels is 'left to ! imag9ation4' ,c a man ( any feel+ call on a disconsolate wid[1 = in/ance1 & li/5 to h] woes1 )\t at lea/ pull+ out t expressive app5dage8 ,c any "o believe 9 our sympa?y if ! article 9 "q is a dirty "o8 ,!re are "s p :o1 l ! cl\ds1 only exi/ to weep2 & ,k+ ,solomon1 ?\gh n "o ( !m1 has giv5 !m great enc\ragem5t 9 speak+ ( ! h\se ( m\rn+4 ,we are b\nd to weep ) !m1 & we are b\nd to weep elegantly4 ,a man ^: dress is neat1 clean1 simple1 & appropriate1 w pass mu/] any:]e4 ,a well-dress$ man does n require s mu* an ext5sive z a v>i$ w>drobe4 ,he wants a diff]5t co/ume = e season & e occasion2 b if :at he selects is simple r ?an /rik+1 he may appe> 9 ! same clo!s z (t5 z he likes1 z long z !y are fre% & appropriate to ! season & ! object4 ,!re are f\r k9ds ( coats :i* he mu/ h3 a morn+-coat1 a frock-coat1 a dress-coat1 & an ov]-coat4 ,an economical man may d well ) f\r ( ! fir/1 & "o ( ea* ( ! o!rs p] annum4 ,! dress ( a g5tleman 9 ! pres5t day %\ld n co/ him m ?an ! t5? "p ( 8 income on an av]age4 ,b z =tunes v>y m ?an position1 if 8 income is l>ge x w take a mu* small] proportion1 if small a l>g] "o4 ,if a man1 h[ev]1 mixes 9 society1 & ,i write = ^? :o d s1 !re are "s ?+s :i* are indisp5sable to ev5 ! prop] dress+1 & e occasion w h its prop] attire4 ,9 8 own h\se !n1 & 9 ! morn+1 !re is no reason :y he %\ld n we> out 8 old clo!s4 ,"s m5 take to ! delightful ease ( a dress+-g[n & slipp]s2 & if ba*elors1 !y d well4 ,if family m51 x w probably dep5d on :e!r ! lady or ! g5tleman we>s ! pantaloons4 ,! be/ walk+-dress = a non-pr(essional man is a suit ( twe$ ( ! same color1 ord9>y boots1 gloves n too d>k = ! coat1 a sc>f ) a p9 9 w9t]1 or a small tie ( "o color 9 summ]1 a respectable black hat & a cane4 ,! la/ item is p]haps ! mo/ important1 & ?\gh its use v>ies ) fa%ion1 ,i confess ,i am sorry :5 ,i see x g out4 ,! be/ sub/itute = a walk+-/ick is an umbrella1 n a p>asol unless x be giv5 y by a lady to c>ry4 ,! ma9 po9t ( ! walk+-dress is ! h>mony ( colors1 b ?is %\ld n be c>ri$ to ! ext5t ( ,m4 de ,maltzan1 :o "s ye>s ago made a bet to we> no?+ b p9k at ,bad5-,bad5 = a :ole ye>1 & _h boots & gloves ( ! same lively hue4 ,he won 8 wag]1 b also ! s\briquet ( ',le ,diable enflamm4' ,! walk+-dress %\ld v>y accord+ to ! place & h\r4 ,9 ! c\ntry or at ! sea-side a /raw hat or wide-awake may take ! place ( ! beav]1 & ! nuisance ( gloves be ev5 disp5s$ ) 9 ! =m]4 ,b 9 ! city :]e a man is suppos$ to make visits z well z l\nge 9 ! /reet1 ! frock coat ( v d>k blue or black1 or a black clo? cut-away1 ! :ite wai/coat1 & lav5d] gloves1 are almo/ indisp5sable4 ,v ?9 boots %\ld be avoid$ at all times1 & :atev] clo!s "o we>s !y %\ld be well bru%$4 ,! %irt1 :e!r se5 or n1 %\ld be q pla94 ,! %irt coll> %\ld nev] h a color on x1 b x may be /iff or turn$ d[n accord+ z ! we>] is ,byronically or ,brummellically dispos$4 ,! sc>f1 if simple & ( mode/ colors1 is p]haps ! be/ ?+ we c we> r\nd ! neck2 b if a neck-tie is pref]r$ x %\ld n be too long1 nor ti$ 9 too /iff & /udi$ a mann]4 ,! cane %\ld be extremely simple1 a m]e /ick 9 fact1 ) no gold head1 & yet = ! t[n n r\gh1 ?ick1 or clumsy4 ,! frock-coat %\ld be ample & loose1 & a tall well-built man may ?r[ x back4 ,at any rate1 x %\ld nev] be button$ up4 ,great-coats %\ld be button$ up1 ( a d>k color1 n q black1 long] ?an ! frock-coat1 b nev] long en\gh to rea* ! ankles4 ,if y h visits to make y %\ld d away ) ! great-coat1 if ! wea!r all[s y to d s4 ,! frock-coat1 or black cut-away1 ) a :ite wai/coat 9 summ]1 is ! be/ dress = mak+ calls 94 ,x is simple nons5se to talk ( mod]n civilization1 & rejoice t ! cruelties ( ! d>k ages c nev] be p]petrat$ 9 ^! days & ?is c\ntry4 ,i ma9ta9 t !y are p]petrat$ freely1 g5]ally1 daily1 ) ! cons5t ( ! wret*$ victim himself1 9 ! compulsion to we> ev5+ clo!s4 ,is !re any?+ at once m com=tless or m hide\s8 ,let u beg9 ) :at ! delicate call limb-cov]s1 :i* we are told 7 ! inv5tion ( ! ,gauls1 b ,i am incl9$ to ?9k1 ( a mu* worse race1 = x is cle>ly an ana*ronism to ascribe ! discov]y to a ,v5etian call$ ,piantaleone1 & x c only h be5 ,inquisitors or demons :o inflict$ ?is sc\rge on ! race ( man1 & 8 n9?-p>ts1 ! tailors1 = ,i take x t bo? are equally bo!r$ by ! tight pantaloon4 ,let u pause a:ile ov] ?is unsightly g>m5t1 & console ourselves ) ! reflection t z e c\ntry1 & almo/ e ye>1 has a diff]5t fa%ion 9 its make ( x1 we may at la/ be emancipat$ f x altoge!r1 or at lea/ be able to we> x la ,turque4 ,b x is n all tr\s]s t ,i rebel aga9/4 ,if ,i might we> l95 app5dices 9 summ]1 & fur cont9uations 9 w9t]1 ,i w\ld n groan1 b x is ! ev5+-dress t inflicts on ! man :o likes society ! necessity ( we>+ ! same try+ clo? all ! ye> r\nd1 s t "u ,boreas he cat*es colds1 & "u ! dog-/> he melts4 ,?is unm5tionable1 b mo/ necess>y disguise ( ! 'human =m div9e1' is "o t nev] v>ies 9 ?is c\ntry1 & !re=e ,i mu/ lay d[n ! rule3-- ,= all ev5+ we>--black clo? tr\s]s4 ,b ! tortures ( ev5+ dress d n end ) our l[] limbs4 ,( all ! iniquities p]petrat$ "u ! ,reign ( ,t]ror1 none has la/$ s long z t ( ! /rait-jacket1 :i* 0 palm$ (f on ! p z a 'habit de compagnie4' ,if x 7 necess>y to s+ a hymn ( praise to ,robespi]re1 ,m>at1 & ,co41 ,i w\ld r take ! guillot9e z my subject to extol ?an ! swall[ tail4 ,& yet we endure ! /iffness1 unsightl9ess1 uncom=tabl5ess1 & want ( grace ( ! latt]1 ) m resignation ?an t ) :i* ,*>lotte ,corday put h] beautiful neck into ! 'tr\ d'enf]' ( ! =m]4 ,=tunately mod]n republicanism has triumph$ ov] anci5t etiquette1 & ! tail-coat ( to-day is loos] & m easy ?an x 0 tw5ty ye>s ago4 ,i c only say1 let u nev] /rive to make x be>able1 till we h aboli%$ x4 ,let u abjure su* vulg>ities z silk coll>s1 :ite silk l9+s1 & s =?1 :i* attempt to beautify ?is mon/rosity1 z a hangman might wrea! 8 gall[s ) roses4 ,! pla9] ! mann] 9 :i* y we> y\r mis]y1 ! bett]4 ,!n1 aga91 ! black wai/coat1 /iff1 tight1 & com=tless4 ,fancy ,fal/aff 9 a ball-dress su* z we n[ we>4 ,no am\nt ( embroid]y1 gold-trimm+s1 or jewel-buttons w r5d] su* an infliction grateful to ! mass4 ,! be/ plan is to we> ?or\gh m\rn+ = y\r wret*$ness4 ,9 ,france & ,am]ica1 ! cool] :ite wai/coat is admitt$4 ,h[ev]1 z we h x1 let u make ! be/ ( x1 & n p>ade our mis]y by hide\s ornam5tation4 ,! only ev5+ wai/coat = all purposes = a man ( ta/e is "o ( simple black1 ) ! simple/ possible buttons4 ,^! ?ree items nev] v>y = d9n]-p>ty1 muff9-worry1 or ball4 ,! only di/9ction all[$ is 9 ! neck-tie4 ,= d9n]1 ! op]a1 & balls1 ?is mu/ be :ite1 & ! small] ! bett]4 ,x %\ld be too1 ( a wa%able texture1 n silk1 nor nett$1 nor hang+ d[n1 nor ( any foppi% production1 b a simple1 :ite tie1 )\t embroid]y4 ,! black tie is admitt$ = ev5+ p>ties1 & %\ld be equally simple4 ,! %irt-front1 :i* figures "u ! tie %\ld be pla91 ) unpret5d+ small plaits4 ,! glove mu/ be :ite1 n yell[4 ,rec5tly1 inde$1 a fa%ion has sprung up ( we>+ lav5d] gloves 9 ! ev5+4 ,!y are economical1 & z all economy is an abom9ation1 mu/ be avoid$4 ,gloves %\ld always be worn at a ball4 ,at a d9n]-p>ty 9 t[n !y %\ld be worn on ent]+ ! room1 & drawn (f = d9n]4 ,:ile1 on ! "o h&1 we mu/ avoid ! awkw>dness ( a gallant sea-capta9 :o1 we>+ no gloves at a dance1 excus$ himself to 8 p>tn] by say+1 ',nev] m9d1 miss1 ,i c wa% my h&s :5 ,i've done danc+1' we h no ne$1 9 ! pres5t day1 to copy ! ,roman g5tleman m5tion$ by ,a!nu1 :o wore gloves at d9n] t he might pick 8 meat f ! hot di%es m rapidly ?an ! b>e-h&$ gue/s4 ,z to gloves at tea-p>ties & s =?1 we are g5]ally saf] ) ?an )\t !m4 ,if x is q a small p>ty1 we may leave !m 9 our pocket1 & 9 ! c\ntry !y are sc>cely expect$ to be worn2 b 't\* n a cat b ) a glove2' y are always saf] ) !m4 ,i mu/ n quit ?is subject )\t assur+ myself t my read] kn[s m ab\t x n[ ?an he did be=e4 ,9 fact ,i h tak5 "o ?+ = grant$1 viz41 t he kn[s :at x is to be dress$1 & :at undress$4 ,( c\rse ,i d n suppose him to be 9 ! blissful /ate ( ignorance on ! subject once enjoy$ by our fir/ p>5ts4 ,i use ! words 'dress$' & 'undress$' r 9 ! s5se meant by a milit>y tailor1 or a cook ) ref]5ce to a salad4 ,y ne$ n be %ock$4 ,i am "o ( ^? p :o we> spectacles = fe> ( see+ any?+ ) ! nak$ eye4 ,i am ! s\l ( scrupulosity4 ,b ,i am wond]+ :e!r ev]ybody arranges 8 w>drobe z our ungrammatical nurses us$ to d ours1 "u ! heads ( 'be/1 second-be/1 ?ird-be/1' & s on1 & kn[s :at ?+s ought to be plac$ "u ea*4 ,to be 'undress$' is to be dress$ = "w & ord9>y occupations1 to we> a coat :i* y d n fe> to spoil1 & a neck-tie :i* y\r ink-/& w n object to1 b y\r acqua9tance might4 ,to be 'dress$1' on ! o!r h&1 s9ce by dress we %[ our respect = society at l>ge1 or ! p]sons ) :om we are to m+le1 is to be clo!d 9 ! g>m5ts :i* ! said society pron\nces z suitable to p>ticul> occasions2 s t ev5+ dress 9 ! morn+1 morn+ dress 9 ! ev5+1 & top boots & a r$ coat = walk+1 may all be call$ 'undress1' if n positively 'bad dress4' ,b !re are %ades ( be+ 'dress$2' & a man is call$ 'little dress$1' 'well dress$1' & 'mu* dress$1' n accord+ to ! quantity b ! quality ( 8 cov]+s4 ,to be 'little dress$1' is to we> old ?+s1 ( a make t is no long] ! fa%ion1 hav+ no pret5sion to elegance1 arti/ic beauty1 or ornam5t4 ,x is also to we> l\ng+ clo!s on occasions :i* dem& "s am\nt ( precision4 ,to be 'mu* dress$' is to be 9 ! extreme ( ! fa%ion1 ) bran new clo!s1 jewelry1 & ornam5ts1 ) a t\* ( extravagance & gaiety 9 y\r colors4 ,?us to we> pat5t lea!r boots & yell[ gloves 9 a quiet morn+ /roll is to be mu* dress$1 & c]ta9ly does n diff] imm5sely f be+ badly dress$4 ,to be 'well dress$' is ! happy m$ium betwe5 ^! two1 :i* is n giv5 to e "o to hold1 inasmu* z good ta/e is r>e1 & is a s9e qu non !re(4 ,?us :ile y avoid ornam5t & all fa/ness1 y mu/ cultivate fa%ion1 t is good fa%ion1 9 ! make ( y\r clo!s4 ,a man mu/ n be made by 8 tailor1 b %\ld make him1 educate him1 give him 8 own good ta/e4 ,to be well dress$ is to be dress$ precisely z ! occasion1 place1 wea!r1 y\r height1 figure1 position1 age1 &1 rememb] x1 y\r means require4 ,x is to be clo!d )\t peculi>ity1 pret5sion1 or ecc5tricity2 )\t viol5t colors1 elaborate ornam5t1 or s5seless fa%ions1 introduc$1 (t51 by tailors = _! own pr(it4 ,good dress+ is to we> z little jewelry z possible1 to be scrupul\sly neat1 clean1 & fre%1 & to c>ry y\r clo!s z if y did n give !m a ?\ght4 ,!n1 too1 !re is a scale ( honor among clo!s1 :i* mu/ n be =gott54 ,?us1 a new coat is m honorable ?an an old "o1 a cut-away or %oot+-coat ?an a dress+-g[n1 a frock-coat ?an a cut-away1 a d>k blue frock-coat ?an a black frock-coat1 a tail-coat ?an a frock-coat4 ,!re is no honor at all 9 a blue tail-coat1 h[ev]1 except on a g5tleman ( eighty1 accompani$ ) brass buttons & a buff wai/coat4 ,!re is m honor 9 an old hunt+-coat ?an 9 a new "o1 9 a uni=m ) a bullet hole 9 x ?an "o )\t1 9 a fu/ian jacket & smock-frock ?an 9 a frock-coat1 because !y are types ( labor1 :i* is f> m honorable ?an l\ng+4 ,aga91 light clo!s are g5]ally plac$ above d>k ones1 because !y _c be s long worn1 & are1 !re=e1 pro(s ( exp5diture1 alias money1 :i* 9 ?is _w is a commodity m honor$ ?an e o!r2 b1 on ! o!r h&1 ta/eful dress is always m honorable ?an t :i* has only co/ mu*4 ,light gloves are m e/eem$ ?an d>k ones1 & ! pr9ce ( glove-colors is1 und5iably1 lav5d]4 ',i %\ld say ,jones 0 a fa/ man1' said a fri5d to me "o day1 '= he we>s a :ite hat4' ,if ?is idea ( my companion's be "r1 fa/ness may be said to consi/ ma9ly 9 peculi>ity4 ,!re is c]ta9ly only "o /ep f ! sublimity ( fa/ness to ! ridicul\sness ( snobb]y1 & x is n always easy to say :]e ! "o ends & ! o!r beg9s4 ,a d&y1 on ! o!r h&1 is ! clo!s on a man1 n a man 9 clo!s1 a liv+ lay figure :o displays mu* dress1 & is q satisfi$ if y praise x )\t tak+ he$ ( him4 ,a be> is 9 ! opposite extreme2 nev] dress$ en\gh1 & always v r\ghly2 b he is almo/ z bad z ! o!r1 = he sacrifices ev]y?+ to 8 ease & com=t4 ,! (f-h& /yle ( dress only suits an (f-h& "*4 ,x 01 at "o "t1 ! fa%ion to affect a c]ta9 neglig5ce1 :i* 0 call$ poetic1 & suppos$ to be ! result ( g5ius4 ,an ill-ti$1 if n positively unti$ cravat 0 a sure sign ( an unbridl$ imag9ation2 & a wai/coat 0 held toge!r by "o button only1 z if ! swell+ s\l 9 ! we>]'s bosom _h bur/ all ! re/4 ,if1 9 addition to ?is1 ! hair 0 unbru%$ & curly1 y 7 c]ta9 ( pass+ = a 'man ( s\l4' ,i %\ld n recomm5d any "y g5tleman to adopt ?is /yle1 unless1 inde$1 he c m\? a great deal1 & has a good /ock ( quotations f ! poets4 ,x is ( no use to %[ me ! cl\ds1 unless ,i c positively see y 9 !m1 & no am\nt ( neglig5ce 9 y\r dress & p]son w conv9ce me y are a g5ius1 unless y produce an octavo volume ( poems publi%$ by y\rself4 ,i confess ,i am glad t ! nglig /yle1 s common 9 novels ( t5 ye>s back1 has be5 succe$$ by neatness4 ,:at we want is real ease 9 ! clo!s1 &1 = my "p1 ,i %\ld rejoice to see ! ,knick]bock] /yle g5]ally adopt$4 ,besides ! ord9>y occasions treat$ ( be=e1 !re are sev]al special occasions requir+ a *ange ( dress4 ,mo/ ( our sports1 toge!r ) m>riage 7:i* "s p include 9 sports71 come "u ?is head4 ,n[1 ! less *ange we make ! bett] 9 ! pres5t day1 p>ticul>ly 9 ! sports1 :]e1 if we are dress$ ) scrupul\s accuracy1 we are liable to be subject$ to a comp>ison betwe5 our clo!s & our skill4 ,a man :o we>s a r$ coat to hunt 91 %\ld be able to hunt1 & n sneak ?r\gh gates or dodge ov] gaps4 ,a few rem>ks on dresses worn 9 diff]5t sports may be useful4 ,hav+ laid d[n ! rule t a /rict accuracy ( sport+ co/ume is no long] 9 good ta/e1 we c dismiss %oot+ & fi%+ at once1 ) ! w>n+ t we mu/ n dress well = ei!r4 ,an old coat ) l>ge pockets1 gait]s 9 "o case1 &1 if necess>y1 l>ge boots 9 ! o!r1 ?ick %oes at any rate1 a wide-awake1 & a well-fill$ bag or basket at ! end ( ! day1 make up a mo/ respectable sportsman ( ! less] k9d4 ,!n = cricket y want no?+ m unusual ?an flannel tr\s]s1 :i* %\ld be q pla91 unless y\r club has adopt$ "s color$ /ripe !reon1 a color$ flannel %irt ( no v viol5t hue1 ! same color$ cap1 %oes ) spikes 9 !m1 & a great coat4 ,= hunt+1 la/ly1 y h to make m *ange1 if only to insure y\r own com=t & safety4 ,?us cord-bree*es & "s k9d ( boots are indisp5sable4 ,s are spurs1 s a hunt+-:ip or crop2 s too1 if y d n we> a hat1 is ! /rong r\nd cap t is to save y\r valuable skull f crack+ if y are ?r[n on y\r head4 ,aga91 ,i %\ld pity ! man :o w\ld attempt to hunt 9 a frock-coat or a dress-coat2 & a sc>f ) a p9 9 x is mu* m conv5i5t ?an a tie4 ,b beyond ^! y ne$ no?+ out ( ! common way1 b a pocketful ( money4 ,! r$ coat1 = in/ance1 is only worn by regul> memb]s ( a hunt1 & boys :o ride ov] ! h\nds & l to display _! 'p9ks4' ,9 any case y are bett] ) an ord9>y rid+-coat ( d>k color1 ?\gh und\bt$ly ! r$ is pretti] 9 ! field4 ,if y w we> ! latt]1 see t x is cut squ>e1 = ! swall[-tail is obsolete1 & worn only by ! f9e old boys :o 'hunt$1 sir1 fifty ye>s ago1 sir1 :5 ,i 0 a boy ( fifte51 sir4 ,^? 7 hunt+ days1 sir2 su* runs & su* leaps4' ,aga91 y\r 'cords' %\ld be light 9 color & f9e 9 quality2 y\r wai/coat1 if ) a r$ coat1 q light too2 y\r sc>f ( ca%m]e1 ( a buff color1 & fa/5$ ) a small simple gold p92 y\r hat %\ld be old1 & y\r cap ( d>k gre5 or black velvet1 plat$ inside1 & ) a small /iff peak1 %\ld be made to look old4 ,la/ly1 = a *oice ( boots4 ,! ,hessians are m easily clean$1 & !re=e less exp5sive to keep2 ! 'tops' are m natty4 ,brummell1 :o c>$ m = ! hunt+-dress ?an ! hunt+ itself1 introduc$ ! fa%ion ( pipe-clay+ ! tops ( ! latt]1 b ! old orig9al 'mahoganies1' ( :i* ! upp] lea!rs are simply poli%$1 seem to be com+ into fa%ion aga94 ,,*apt] ,,viii4 ,,manly ,,ex]cises4 ,bodily ex]cise is "o ( ! mo/ important means provid$ by nature = ! ma9t5ance ( heal?1 & 9 ord] to prove ! advantages ( ex]cise1 we mu/ %[ :at is to be ex]cis$1 :y ex]cise is necess>y1 & ! v>i\s modes 9 :i* x may be tak54 ,! human body may be reg>d$ z a wond]ful ma*9e1 ! v>i\s p>ts ( :i* are s wond]fully adapt$ to ea* o!r1 t if "o be di/urb$ all mu/ suff]4 ,! bones & muscles are ! p>ts ( ! human frame on :i* motion dep5ds4 ,!re are f\r hundr$ muscles 9 ! body2 ea* "o has c]ta9 functions to p]=m1 :i* _c be di/urb$ )\t dang] to ! :ole4 ,!y assi/ ! t5dons 9 keep+ ! bones 9 _! places1 & put !m 9 motion4 ,:e!r we walk or run1 sit or /oop1 b5d ! arm or head1 or *ew our food1 we may be said to op5 & %ut a numb] ( h+es1 or ball & socket jo9ts4 ,& x is a wise provision ( nature1 t1 to a c]ta9 ext5t1 ! m ! muscles are ex]cis$1 ! /rong] d !y become2 h5ce x is t labor]s & artisans are /rong] & m muscul> ?an ^? p]sons ^: lives are pass$ 9 easy occupations or pr(essional duties4 ,besides /r5g!n+ ! limbs1 muscul> ex]cise has a mo/ b5eficial influ5ce on respiration & ! circulation ( ! blood4 ,! l>g] blood-vessels are g5]ally plac$ deep among ! muscles1 consequ5tly :5 ! latt] are put into motion1 ! blood is driv5 ?r\gh ! art]ies & ve9s ) mu* great] rapidity ?an :5 !re is no ex]cise2 x is m completely purifi$1 z ! action ( ! ins5sible p]spiration is promot$1 :i* relieves ! blood ( _m irritat+ matt]s1 *iefly c>bonic acid & c]ta9 salts1 tak5 up 9 its passage ?r\gh ! sy/em1 & a feel+ ( lightness & *e]fulness is diffus$ ov] body & m9d4 ,we h said t a good /ate ( heal? dep5ds 9 a great measure on ! prop] ex]cise ( all ! muscles4 ,b on look+ at ! great] portion ( our indu/rial population1--artisans & work]s 9 factories g5]ally--we f9d !m1 9 num]\s in/ances1 /&+ or sitt+ 9 =c$ or unnatural positions1 us+ only a few ( _! muscles1 :ile ! o!rs rema91 comp>atively speak+1 unus$ or inactive4 ,sawy]s1 fil]s1 tailors1 & _m o!rs may be easily recogniz$ z !y walk ! /reets1 by ! awkw>d movem5t & be>+ impress$ ^u !m by long habit4 ,! /oop+ position especially tells mo/ fatally ^u ! heal?2 weav]s1 %oemak]s1 & cotton-sp9n]s h g5]ally a sall[ & sickly appe>ance1 v diff]5t f t ( ^? ^: occupation does n require !m to /oop1 or to rema9 long 9 a hurtful po/ure4 ,_! common affections are indige/ion & dull heada*e1 ) gidd9ess especially dur+ summ]4 ,!y attribute _! compla9ts to two causes1 "o ( :i* is ! po/ure ( ! body1 b5t = twelve or ?irte5 h\rs a day1 ! o!r ! heat ( ! work+-room4 ,besides ! trades above enum]at$1 !re are _m o!rs productive ( simil> evils by ! position into :i* !y compel workm51 or by ! close & conf9$ places 9 :i* !y are c>ri$ on2 & o!rs1 aga91 9 _! v natures injuri\s4 ,plumb]s & pa9t]s suff] f ! noxi\s mat]ials :i* !y are con/antly us+1 gr9d]s & fil]s f du/1 & bak]s f extremes ( temp]ature & irregul> h\rs4 ,:]ev] !re is physical depression1 !re is a disposition to resort to injuri\s /imulants2 & ! "t ( relief f "w is g5]ally sp5t1 n 9 invigorat+ ! animal frame1 b 9 aggravat+ compla9ts1 & conv]t+ functional into organic disease4 ,b !re are o!rs :o suff] f artificial poisons & defective ex]cise z well z artisans & op]atives--! num]\s class ( %opkeep]s2 ! au?or above quot$ says1 ,week aft] week passes )\t af=d+ !m "o pure inspiration4 ,(t51 also1 !y h n ex]cise ev5 9 ! op5 air ( ! t[n2 a furlong's walk to *ur* on ,sunday be+ ! ext5t ( _! rambles4 ,:5 !y h ! opportunity !y want ! incl9ation = ex]cise4 ,! fa!r is anxi\s ab\t 8 trade or 8 family1 ! "m is solicit\s ab\t h] *ildr54 ,ea* has little ta/e = recreation or amusem5t4 ,! v>i\s disord]s1 g5]ally kn[n "u ! "n ( indige/ion1 disord]s dep5dant on a want ( circulation ( blood ?r\gh ! b[els1 bili>y d]angem5ts1 & heada*e1 are well kn[n to be ! g5]al att5dants on trade1 closely pursu$4 ,inde$1 9 almo/ e individual1 ?is absorb+ pr9ciple produces "o or o!r ( ! v>i\s maladies to :i* ,i h allud$4 ,! great rem$y = ! evils "h po9t$ out is bodily ex]cise1 ( "s k9d1 e day1 & z mu* z possible 9 ! op5 air4 ,an op9ion prevails t an occasional walk is suffici5t to ma9ta9 ! balance ( heal?2 b if ! int]vals ( inaction be too long1 ! good effect ( "o walk is lo/ be=e ano!r is tak54 ,regul>ity & suffici5cy are to be z mu* reg>d$ 9 ex]cise z 9 eat+ or sleep+4 ,sir ,james ,cl>k says1 t ! ex]cise :i* is to b5efit ! sy/em g5]ally1 mu/ be 9 ! op5 air1 & ext5d to ! :ole muscul> sy/em4 ,)\t regul> ex]cise out ( doors1 no "y p]son c cont9ue long heal?y2 & x is ! duty ( p>5ts 9 fix+ _! *ildr5 at bo>d+ s*ools to asc]ta9 t suffici5t "t is occupi$ daily 9 ?is way4 ,!y may be assur$ t att5tion to ?is circum/ance is q z ess5tial to ! moral & physical heal? ( _! *ildr51 z any bran* ( education :i* !y may be taught4 ,ex]cise1 h[ev]1 mu/ be regulat$ by c]ta9 rules1 ! pr9cipal ( :i* is1 to avoid c>ry+ x to excess--to proportion x always to ! /ate ( heal? & habit ( ! individual4 ,p]sons ( %ort brea? pr$ispos$ to det]m9ation ( blood to ! head1 subject to palpitation ( ! he>t1 or g5]al weakness1 are n to believe t a c\rse ( sev]e ex]cise w d !m good2 on ! contr>y1 _m s]i\s results (t5 foll[ ov]-fatigue4 ,= ! same reason x is desirable to avoid active ex]tion imm$iately aft] a full meal1 z ! f\ndation ( he>t diseases is sometimes laid by leap+ or runn+ aft] eat+4 ,! great object %\ld be s to bl5d ex]cise & repose1 z to ensure ! highe/ possible am\nt ( bodily vigor4 ,x mu/ be recollect$ t exhau/$ muscles c be re/or$ only by ! mo/ p]fect re/4 ,9 ! next place1 x is a mi/ake to consid] ! labor ( ! day z equival5t to ex]cise4 ,"w1 g5]ally speak+1 is a m]e r\t9e process1 c>ri$ on ) b little v>iety ( circum/ances1 9 a conf9$ atmosph]e1 & 9 a temp]ature frequ5tly m exhau/ive ?an re/orative4 ,! workman requires some?+ m ?an ?is to keep him 9 heal?2 he mu/ h ex]cise z (t5 z possible 9 ! op5 air1--9 fields1 p>ks1 or pleasure gr\nds2 b if ^! are n at 8 comm&1 ! /reets ( ! t[n are always op5 to him1 & a walk 9 ^! is bett] ?an no walk at all4 ,! m]e *ange ( sc5e is b5eficial1 & 9 walk+ he g5]ally sets 9 motion a diff]5t set ( muscles f ^? he has us$ :ile at "w4 ,to d]ive ! greate/ am\nt ( good f ex]cise1 x mu/ be comb9$ ) amusem5t1 & be made pleasureable & recreative4 ,?is important fact ought nev] to be lo/ sight (1 s9ce to ignorance ( x alone we owe _m ( ! evils :i* afflict society4 ,& x w\ld be well if ^? :o h be5 accu/om$ to look on social amusem5ts z de/ructive ( ! morals ( ! p1 w\ld consid] h[ mu* good may be done by giv+ ! m9d a direction :i*1 :ile promotive ( heal?1 w\ld fill x ) *e]fulness & wean x f debas+ habits4 ,! "* ( our sports at ! pres5t "t1 p>take b little ( ! robu/ & boi/]\s _s ( our =efa!rs2 b ) ! ref9em5t ( amusem5ts1 ! opportunity = enjoy+ !m has be5 griev\sly dim9i%$4 ,*e]+ signs ( a bett] /ate ( ?+s are1 h[ev]1 visible 9 _m qu>t]s1 & we tru/ t ! good "w w be c>ri$ on until ! :ole ( our population %all be 9 possession ( ! means & leisure = pleasurable recreation4 ,:ile indulg+ 9 ! recreative sports :i* are to re/ore & invigorate u1 we mu/ be m9dful ( ! _m po9ts ( etiquette & k9dness :i* w d mu*1 if prop]ly att5d$ to1 to promote ! enjoym5t ( our ex]cise1 & we propose to review ! pr9cipal ex]cises us$ among u1 & to po9t out 9 :at places ! delicate & g5tlemanly att5tion to our companions w d ! mo/ to e/abli%1 = ! p]son :o practices !m1 ! reputation ( a poli%$ g5tleman4 ,,rid+4 ,!re are no amusem5ts1 probably1 :i* give u s wide a scope = ! r5d]+ ( att5tion to a fri5d z rid+ & driv+4 ,accompani$1 z we may be at any "t1 by timid companions1 ! p[] to conv9ce !m1 by ! managem5t ( ! horse we ride1 & ! wat* kept at ! same "t on !irs1 t we are compet5t to act ! "p ( companion & gu>dian1 w enable u to imp>t to !m a great degree ( reliance on u1 & w1 by less5+ _! fe> d mu* to enhance ! enjoym5t ( ! excursion4 ,) ladies1 9 p>ticul>1 a horseman _c be too c>eful to display a reg>d = ! fe>s ( _! companions1 & by a con/ant wat* on all ! horses 9 ! cavalcade1 to %[ at once 8 ability & will+ness to assi/ 8 companions4 ,!re are few p]sons1 comp>atively speak+1 ev5 among ^? :o ride (t51 :o c prop]ly assi/ a lady 9 m\nt+ h] horse4 ,an ov]-anxiety to help a lady z gracefully z possible1 g5]ally results 9 a n]v\s trembl+ ef=t :i* is exce$+ly disagreeable to ! lady1 &1 at ! same "t1 dang]\s2 = 7 ! horse to %y or />t1 he c\ld n be s easily quiet$ by a n]v\s man z by "o :o 0 p]fectly cool4 ,9 ! m\nt ! lady mu/ ga!r h] skirt into h] left h&1 & /& close to ! horse1 h] face t[>d 8 head1 & h] "r h& re/+ on ! pommel4 ,! g5tleman1 hav+ ask$ p]mission to assi/ h]1 /&s at ! horse's %\ld]1 fac+ ! lady1 & /oop+ l[1 he places 8 "r h& at a prop] elevation f ! gr\nd4 ,! lady !n places h] left foot on ! g5tleman's palm1 & z he raises 8 h& %e spr+s slightly on h] "r foot1 & ?us rea*es ! saddle4 ,! g5tleman mu/ n j]k 8 h& upw>d1 b lift x ) a g5tle motion4 ,?is me?od ( m\nt+ is pref]able to a /ep or horse-block4 ,keep a firm h&1 = a s9k+ foot-hold w dim9i% ! confid5ce ( a lady 9 h] escort1 &1 9 _m cases cause h] unnecess>y al>m :ile m\nt+4 ,to any "o :o is likely to be call$ on to act z cavali] to ladies 9 horse-back excursions1 we w\ld recomm5d ! foll[+ practice3 ,saddle a horse ) a side saddle1 & ask a g5tleman fri5d to put on ! skirt ( a lady's habit1 & ) him1 practice ! m\nt+ & dism\nt+ until y h ?or\ghly conqu]$ any difficulties y may h exp]i5c$ at fir/4 ,aft] ! seat is fir/ tak5 by ! lady1 ! g5tleman %\ld always /& at ! side ( ! lady's horse until %e is firmly fix$ 9 ! saddle1 has a good foot-hold on ! /irrup1 & has ! re9s & :ip well 9 h&4 ,hav+ asc]ta9$ t 8 companion is firmly & com=tably fix$ 9 ! saddle1 ! g5tleman %\ld m\nt 8 horse & take 8 rid+ position on ! "r or (f side ( ! lady's horse1 s t1 9 case ( ! horse's %y+ 9 su* a way z to br+ him aga9/ ! o!r horse1 ! lady w suff] no inconv5i5ce4 ,9 rid+ ) two ladies !re are two rules 9 reg>d to ! g5tleman's position4 ,if bo? ladies are good rid]s1 !y %\ld ride side by side1 ! ladies to ! left2 b1 if ! contr>y %\ld be ! case1 ! g5tleman %\ld ride betwe5 ! ladies 9 ord] to be ready 9 a mom5t to assi/ ei!r 9 case ( "o ( ! horses becom+ difficult to manage4 ,be=e all[+ a lady to m\nt1 ! entire furniture ( h] horse %\ld be c>efully exam9$ by h] escort4 ,! saddle & gir?s %\ld be te/$ to see if !y are firm1 ! /irrup lea!r exam9$1 9 case ( ! tongue ( ! buckle be+ 9 dang] ( slipp+ out by n be+ well buckl$ at fir/1 & mo/ p>ticul>ly ! bridle1 curb1 head/all1 & re9s %\ld be c>efully & ?or\ghly exam9$1 = on !m dep5ds ! entire control ( ! horse4 ,^! exam9ations %\ld nev] be left to ! /ablehelps1 z ! cont9ual h>ness+ ( horses by !m (t5 leads to a loose & c>eless way ( att5d+ to su* matt]s1 :i*1 ?\gh seem+ly trivial1 may lead to s]i\s consequ5ces4 ,on ! road1 ! con/ant c>e ( ! g5tleman %\ld be to r5d] ! ride agreeable to 8 companion1 by ! po9t+ out ( objects ( int]e/ ) :i* %e may n be acqua9t$1 ! ref]5ce to any peculi> beauty ( l&scape :i* may h escap$ h] notice1 & a g5]al lively tone ( conv]sation1 :i* w1 if %e be timid1 draw h] m9d f ! fanci$ dang]s ( horseback rid+1 & r5d] h] excursion mu* m agreeable ?an if %e be left to imag9e horrors :5ev] h] horse may prick up 8 e>s or :isk 8 tail4 ,&1 :ile ?us conv]s+1 keep an eye always on ! lady's horse1 s t 9 case he %\ld really get fright5$1 y may be ready by y\r in/ruction & assi/ance to aid ! lady 9 quiet+ 8 fe>s4 ,9 dism\nt+ y %\ld (f] y\r "r h& to ! lady's left1 & all[ h] to use y\r left z a /ep to dism\nt on1 g5tly decl9+ x z soon z ! lady has left h] seat on ! saddle1 & j be=e %e spr+s4 ,_m ladies spr+ f ! saddle1 b ?is g5]ally confuses ! g5tleman & is dang]\s to ! lady1 = ! horse may move at ! in/ant %e spr+s1 :i* w\ld inevitably ?r[ h] backw>d & might result 9 a s]i\s injury4 ,,driv+4 ,9 ! indulg5ce ( ?is beautiful pa/ime !re are _m po9ts ( c>e & att5tion to be obs]v$2 !y w r5d] to ! driv] himself mu* gratification by ! confid5ce !y w inspire 9 8 companion1 by hav+ ! k t he or %e is be+ driv5 by a c>eful horseman1 & ?us kn[+ t half ( :at dang] may att5d ! pleasure1 is remov$4 ,on rea*+ ! door ( y\r companion's resid5ce1 :om we w suppose to be 9 ?is case a lady1--?\gh ! same att5tion may well be ext5d$ to a g5tleman1--drive close to ! m\nt+-block or curb1 & by head+ y\r horse t[>d ! middle ( ! road1 & slightly back+ ! wagon1 sep>ate ! =e & h9d :eels on ! side next ! block z mu* z possible4 ,?is gives room = ! lady to asc5d into ! wagon )\t soil+ h] dress by rubb+ aga9/ ei!r tire1 & also gives ! driv] room to lean ov] & tuck into ! wagon any "p ( a lady's dress t may hang out aft] %e is seat$4 ,9 assi/+ ! lady to asc5d into ! wagon1 ! be/ & safe/ way is to tie ! horse firmly to a hit*+-po/ or tree1 & !n to give to y\r companion ! aid ( bo? y\r h&s2 b1 9 case ( !re be+ no po/ to :i* y c make ! re9 fa/1 ! foll[+ rule may be adopt$3 ,grasp ! re9s firmly ) "o h&1 & draw !m j tight en\gh to let ! horse feel t !y are held1 & ) ! o!r h& assi/ ! lady2 "u no circum/ances1 ev5 ) ! mo/ quiet horse1 %\ld y place a lady 9 y\r vehicle )\t any hold on ! horse1 =1 al?\gh _m horses w\ld /& p]fectly quiet1 ! :ole race ( !m are timid1 & any sudd5 noise or motion may />t !m1 9 :i* case ! life ( y\r companion may be endang]$4 ,9 ! light no-top or ,york wagon1 :i* is n[ us$ almo/ entirely = pleasure drives1 ! "r h& cu%ion %\ld always be high] by ?ree or f\r in*es ?an ! left1 = x raises ! p]son driv+1 ?us giv+ him m control1 & r5d]s ! lady's seat m com=table & m safe4 ,x is a mi/ak5 idea1 9 driv+1 t x %[s a p]fect horseman1 to drive fa/4 ,on ! contr>y1 a good horseman is m c>eful ( 8 horse ?an a poor "o1 & 9 />t+1 ! horse is always all[$ to g sl[ly = "t2 z he gradually takes up a quick] pace1 & becomes w>m$ up2 ! driv] may pu% him ev5 to ! top ( 8 spe$ = "s di/ance1 always1 h[ev]1 all[+ him to slack5 8 pace t[>d ! end ( 8 drive1 & to come to ! /opp+-place at a mod]ate gait4 ,endeavor1 by y\r conv]sation on ! road1 to make ! ride agreeable to y\r companion4 ,nev] try to %[ (f y\r driv+1 b rememb]1 t !re is no "o :o drives ) s mu* app>5t ease & s little display z ! pr(essional jockey1 :o1 z he devotes 8 life to ! managem5t ( ! re9s1 may well be suppos$ to be ! mo/ ?or\ghly good :ip4 ,9 help+ ! lady out ( ! wagon1 ! same rule mu/ be obs]v$ z 9 ! />t2 namely1 to h y\r horse well 9 h& or firmly ti$4 ,%\ld y\r companion be a g5tleman & a horseman1 ! c\rtesy is always to (f] him ! re9s1 ?\gh ! (f]1 if made to y\rself by ano!r ) :om y are rid+1 %\ld always be decl9$2 unless1 inde$1 ! horse %\ld be p>ticul>ly h>d-m\!d & y\r fri5d's arms %\ld be tir$1 9 :i* case y %\ld relieve him4 ,be especially c>eful 9 ! use ( ! :ip1 t x may n spr+ back outside ( ! vehicle & /rike y\r companion4 ,?is rule %\ld be p>ticul>ly att5d$ to 9 driv+ t&em or f\r-9-h&1 z a cut ) a heavy t&em-:ip is by no means a pleasant accompanim5t to y\r drive4 ,,box+4 ,9 ?is mu*-abus$ accompli%m5t1 !re w\ld1 f ! r\gh nature ( ! sport1 seem to be small room = civility2 yet1 9 none ( ! _m manly sports is !re s great a scope = ! ex]cise ( polit5ess z 9 ?is4 ,%\ld y\r adv]s>y be y\r inf]ior 9 box+1 !re are _m ways to tea* him & enc\rage him 9 8 pursuit ( pr(ici5cy1 )\t knock+ him ab\t z if y\r desire 0 to injure him z mu* z possible4 ,& y w f9d t 8 gratitude = y\r =be>ance w prompt him to ex]cise ! same indulg5ce to o!rs :o are inf]ior to himself1 & ?us by ! ex*ange ( g5tlemanly civility ! sci5ce ( box+ is dive/$ ( "o ( its mo/ objectionable po9ts1 viz3 ! dang] ( ! combatants becom+ angry & *ang+ ! sport to a brutal fight4 ,always all[ y\r antagoni/ to *oose 8 gloves f ! set1 ?\gh1 if y recomm5d any to him1 let him take ! h>de/ ones & y ! s(te/2 ?us he w receive ! easi] bl[s4 ,all[ him ! *oice ( gr\nd & position1 & endeavor 9 e way to give him ! utmo/ *ance4 ,9 ?is way1 ev5 if y %\ld be wor/$ 9 ! game1 y\r k9dness & c\rtesy to him w be ackn[l$g$ by any "o :o may be ) y1 & by no "o m readily ?an y\r antagoni/ himself4 ,^! same rules apply to ! art ( f5c+1 ! mo/ graceful & beautiful ( ex]cises4 ,let y\r oppon5t h 8 *oice ( ! foils & sword-gloves1 give him ! be/ position = light1 & 9 y\r ?ru/s rememb] t to make a hit does n require y to =ce y\r foil z viol5tly z y c aga9/ y\r antagoni/'s brea/2 b1 t e t\* w %[ if y\r foils be *alk$ & ! "o :o has ! mo/ spots at ! end ( ! enc\nt] is ! beat5 man4 ,,sail+4 ,)9 a few ye>s !re has be5 a mo/ decid$ movem5t 9 favor ( aquatic pursuits4 ,sc>cely a t[n c be f\nd1 ne> ! sea or on ! bank ( a riv] b :at c ei!r furni% a ya*t or a b>ge4 ,9 all our pr9cipal cities ! navies ( ya*ts & b>ges numb] _m boats4 ,! b>ge clubs p>ticul>ly are well-fitt$ ) active1 heal?y m51 :o c appreciate ! physical b5efit ( a few h\rs' "w at ! end ( a sixte5-foot sweep1 & :o pref] heal? & bli/]$ h&s to a life ( fa%ionable & unheal?y amusem5t4 ,"u ! head ( sail+ we w give "s h9ts ( etiquette z to sail+ & r[+ toge!r4 ,a g5tleman w nev] p>ade 8 sup]iority 9 ^! accompli%m5ts1 /ill less boa/ ( x1 b r1 t ! o!rs may n feel _! inf]iority1 he w keep consid]ably )9 8 p[]s4 ,if a gue/ or a /rang] be ( ! p>ty1 ! be/ place mu/ be (f]$ to him1 ?\gh he may be a bad o>2 b1 at ! same "t1 if a gue/ kn[s 8 inf]iority 9 ?is respect1 he w1 = m reasons ?an "o1 pref] an inf]ior position4 ,s1 too1 :5 a c]ta9 am\nt ( ex]tion is requir$1 z 9 boat+1 a well-br$ man w (f] to take ! great] %>e1 pull ! heavie/ o>1 & w nev] %irk 8 "w4 ,9 %ort1 ! :ole rule ( good mann]s on su* occasions is n to be selfi%1 & ! mo/ amiable man w !re=e be ! be/ br$4 ,x is c]ta9ly desirable t a g5tleman %\ld be able to h&le an o>1 or to /e] & "w a ya*t1 bo? t :5 he has an opportunity he may acquire heal?1 & t he may be able to take "p 9 ! *>m+ excursions :i* are made by wat]4 ,"o rule %\ld apply to all ^! aquatic excursions1 & t is1 t ! g5tleman :o invites ! ladies1 %\ld !re be any1 & :o is1 !re=e1 at ! tr\ble ( gett+ up ! p>ty1 %\ld always be all[$ to /e] ! boat1 unless he decl9e ! po/1 = he has ! advantage ( m intimate acqua9tance ) ! ladies1 :om he w h to ent]ta9 on ! trip1 & ! po/ ( honor %\ld be giv5 him z a complim5t to 8 k9dness 9 und]tak+ ! prelim9>ies4 ,,hunt+4 ,g5tlem5 resid+ 9 ! c\ntry1 & keep+ a /able1 are g5]ally ready to jo9 ! hunt club4 ,we are gradually fall+ into ! ,engli% sports & pa/imes4 ,cricket1 box+1 & hunt+1 are be+ m & m practic$ e ye>1 & our horsem5 & pugili/s aspire to conqu] ^? ( ,brita91 :5 a few ye>s back1 to attempt su* a ?+ w\ld h be5 consid]$ folly4 ,9 ?is c\ntry ! organization ( hunt-clubs is made z mu* to rid ! c\ntry ( ! foxes z to enjoy ! sport4 ,we diff] mu* f ! ,britons 9 our hunt+2 we h (t5 a hilly dang]\s c\ntry1 ) high worm & po/-&-rail f5ces cross+ x1 deep /reams ) precipit\s sides & /ony gr\nd to ride ov]4 ,we hunt 9 cold wea!r :5 ! gr\nd is froz5 h>d1 & we take ev]y?+ z x is1 hills1 f5ces1 /reams1 & h$ges1 risk+ our necks innum]able times 9 a hunt4 ,9 ,engl& ! hunt]s h a flat c\ntry1 f5ces :i* d n comp>e to ours 9 height1 & !y hunt aft] a fro/ :5 ! gr\nd is s(t4 ,our hunt+ field at ! meet does n %[ ! gaudy equipm5t & top-boots ( ,engl&1 b ! pla9 dress ( ! g5tleman f>m]1 sometimes a blue coat & jockey-cap1 b (t5] ! e-day coat & felt hat1 b ! etiquette ( our hunt+ field is m obs]v$ ?an 9 ,engl&4 ,!re any "o jo9s ! meet1 if x is a l>ge "o1 b "h no "o ent]s ! field unless acqua9t$ ) "o or m ( ! g5tlem5 on ! gr\nd4 ,! rules 9 ! hunt are few & simple4 ,nev] attempt to hunt unless y h a f9e seat 9 ! saddle & a good horse1 & nev] accept ! loan ( a fri5d's horse1 /ill less an enemy's1 unless y ride v well4 ,a man may =give y = break+ 8 daught]'s he>t b nev] = break+ 8 hunt]'s neck4 ,ano!r po9t is1 always to be quiet at a meet1 & nev] jo9 "o unless acqua9t$ ) "s "o 9 ! field4 ,pluck1 skill1 & a good horse are ess5tials 9 hunt+4 ,nev] talk ( y\r a*ievem5ts1 avoid en?usia/ic %\t+ :5 y break cov]1 & d n ride ov] ! h\nds4 ,keep a firm h&1 a quick eye1 an easy1 calm frame ( m9d1 & a good1 firm seat on ! saddle4 ,wat* ! c\ntry y are go+ ov]1 be always ready to help a fri5d :o may come to grief1 & ) ! rules & ! quiet demeanor y w soon be a favorite 9 ! field4 ,,skat+4 ,?\gh we may1 9 ! cold w9t]1 sigh = ! return ( spr+ breezes1 & look back ) regret on ! autumn sports1 or ev5 ! heat ( summ]1 !re is yet a balm = our froz5 spirits 9 ! glori\s & exhil>at+ sports ( w9t]4 ,! sleigh fill$ ) laugh+ female beauties & beauties1 too1 ( ! /]n] sex1 & ! m]ry j+le ( ! bells z we fly along ! road or ?r\gh ! /reets1 are delights ( :i* ,old ,w9t] alone is ! giv]4 ,b1 pleasant z ! sleigh-ride is1 ! man :o looks = heal? & ex]cise at all seasons1 turns f ! s$uctive pleasures ( ! sleigh to ! m simple enjoym5t d]iv$ f ! skates4 ,fly+ along ov] ! gli/5+ ice to ! accompanim5t ( %\ts ( m]ry laught] at "s novice's mi%ap1 & feel+ t we h )9 u ! spe$ ( ! race-horse1 ! icy pleasure is1 inde$1 a good sub/itute = ! pleasures ( ! o!r seasons4 ,s univ]sal has skat+ become1 t in/ruction 9 ?is graceful accompli%m5t seems almo/ unnecess>y2 b1 = ! b5efit ( ! ris+ g5]ation :o may p]use our "w1 we w give1 f a well-kn[n au?ority1 a few h9ts z to ! mann] ( us+ ! skates be=e we add our own in/ruction z to ! etiquette ( ! skat+ gr\nd4 ,be=e go+ on ! ice1 ! "y skat] mu/ le>n to put on ! skates1 & may also le>n to walk ) !m easily 9 a room1 balanc+1 alt]nately1 on ea* foot4 ,a skat]'s dress %\ld be z loose & un9cumb]$ z possible4 ,all fullness ( dress is expos$ to ! w9d4 ,z ! ex]cise ( skat+ produces p]spiration1 flannel next ! *e/1 %\ld]s1 & lo9s1 is necess>y to avoid ! evils ( sudd5 *ills 9 cold wea!r4 ,ei!r v r\gh or v smoo? ice %\ld be avoid$4 ,! p]son :o1 = ! fir/ "t1 attempts to skate1 mu/ n tru/ to a /ick4 ,he may take a fri5d's h& = support1 if he requires "o2 b t %\ld be soon rel9qui%$1 9 ord] to balance himself4 ,he w1 probably1 scramble ab\t = half an h\r or s1 till he beg9s to f9d out :]e ! edge ( 8 skate is4 ,! beg9n] mu/ be fe>less1 b n viol5t2 nor ev5 9 a hurry4 ,he %\ld n let 8 feet get ap>t1 & keep 8 heels /ill ne>] toge!r4 ,he mu/ keep ! ankle ( ! foot on ! ice q firm2 n attempt+ to ga9 ! edge ( ! skate by b5d+ x1 because ! "r mode ( gett+ to ei!r edge is by ! incl9ation ( ! :ole body 9 ! direction requir$2 & ?is incl9ation %\ld be made fe>lessly & decisively4 ,! leg :i* is on ! ice %\ld be kept p]fectly /raight2 =1 ?\gh ! knee mu/ be some:at b5t at ! "t ( /rik+1 x mu/ be /raight5$ z quickly z possible )\t any j]k4 ,! leg :i* is (f ! ice %\ld also be kept /raight1 ?\gh n /iff1 hav+ an easy b /raight play1 ! toe po9t+ d[nw>ds1 & ! heel f six to twelve in*es ( ! o!r4 ,! le>n] mu/ n look d[n at ! ice1 nor at 8 feet1 to see h[ !y p]=m4 ,he may1 at fir/1 incl9e 8 body a little =w>d1 = safety1 b hold 8 head up1 & see :]e he goes1 8 p]son erect & 8 face r elevat$ ?an o!rwise4 ,:5 once (f1 he mu/ br+ bo? feet up toge!r1 & /rike aga91 z soon z he f9ds himself /eady en\gh1 r>ely all[+ bo? feet to be on ! ice toge!r4 ,! position ( ! arms %\ld be easy & v>i$2 "o be+ always m rais$ ?an ! o!r1 ?is elevation be+ alt]nate1 & ! *ange correspond+ to t ( ! legs2 t is1 ! "r arm be+ rais$ z ! "r leg is put d[n1 & vice v]s1 s t ! arm & leg ( ! same side may n be rais$ toge!r4 ,! face mu/ be always turn$ 9 ! direction ( ! l9e int5d$ to be describ$4 ,h5ce 9 backw>d skat+1 ! head w be incl9$ mu* ov] ! %\ld]2 9 =w>d skat+1 b slightly4 ,all sudd5 & viol5t action mu/ be avoid$4 ,/opp+ may be caus$ by slightly b5d+ ! knees1 draw+ ! feet toge!r1 incl9+ ! body =w>d1 & press+ on ! heels4 ,x may be also caus$ by turn+ %ort to ! "r or left1 ! foot on ! side to :i* we turn be+ r m advanc$1 & support+ "p ( ! weight4,a ,a ,walk]'s ,manly ,ex]cises4 ,:5 on ! ice1 if y %\ld get y\r skates on be=e y\r companion1 always wait = him2 =1 no?+ is m disagreeable ?an be+ left beh9d on an occasion ( ?is k9d4 ,be ready at all times :5 skat+ to r5d] assi/ance to any "o1 ei!r lady or g5tleman1 :o may require x4 ,a g5tleman may be di/+ui%$ at all times by ! will+ness ) :i* he w give up 8 sport to r5d] himself agreeable & k9d to any "o 9 difficulty4 ,%\ld y h "o ( ! skat+-sl$s s mu* us$ = tak+ ladies on ! ice1 & %\ld y\r own ladies1 if y are accompani$ by any1 n desire to use x1 ! mo/ becom+ ?+ y c d is to place x at ! disposal ( any o!r g5tleman :o has ladies ) him1 & :o is n provid$ ) su* a conveyance4 ,always keep to ! "r 9 meet+ a p]son on ! ice1 & always skate p]fectly cle> ( ! l9e 9 :i* a lady is advanc+1 :e!r %e be on skates or on foot4 ,att5tion to ! o!r sex is no :]e m appreciat$ ?an on ! ice1 :]e !y are1 unless good skat]s1 comp>atively helpless4 ,be always prompt to assi/ 9 ! extrication ( any "o :o may break ?r\gh ! ice1 b let y\r zeal be temp]$ by discretion1 & always get a rope or ladd] if possible1 9 pref]5ce to go+ ne> ! hole2 = !re is great risk ( y\r break+ ?r\gh y\rself1 & endang]+ y\r own life )\t be+ able to assi/ ! p]son already subm]g$4 ,b %\ld ! rope or ladd] n be conv5i5t1 ! be/ me?od is to lay flat on y\r brea/ on ! ice1 & pu% y\rself cauti\sly along until y c t\* ! p]son's h&1 & !n let him climb by x out ( ! hole4 ,,swimm+4 ,s few p]sons are unable to swim1 t x w\ld be useless = u to furni% any in/ruction 9 ! actual art ( swimm+2 b a few words on ! subject ( assi/+ o!rs :ile 9 ! wat] may n come amiss4 ,x is a desirable accompli%m5t to be able to swim 9 a suit ( clo!s4 ,?is may be practic$ by good swimm]s1 cauti\sly at fir/1 9 comp>atively %all[ wat]1 & aft]w>ds 9 deep] places4 ,occasions may frequ5tly occur :]e x may be necess>y to plunge into ! wat] to save a dr[n+ p]son1 :]e ! lack ( "t1 or ! pres5ce ( ladies1 w\ld preclude all possibility ( remov+ ! clo!s4 ,!re are few po9ts ( etiquette 9 swimm+1 except ^? ( giv+ all ! assi/ance 9 our p[] to beg9n]s1 & to rememb] ! fact ( our be+ g5tlem51 ?\gh ! sport may be r\gh :5 we are (f t]ra firma4 ,we %all !re=e devote ?is section ( our ex]cise dep>tm5t to giv+ a few g5]al directions z to support+ dr[n+ p]sons1 :i* support is1 aft] all1 ! mo/ valu$ att5tion we c r5d] to any "o4 ,if possible1 always g to save a life 9 company ) "o or two o!rs4 ,"o companion is g5]ally suffici5t1 b two w d no h>m1 =1 if ! s]vice ( ! second be n requir$1 he c easily swim back to %ore4 ,on rea*+ ! object ( y\r pursuit1 if he be cl++ to any?+1 caution him1 z y approa*1 to hold x until y tell him to let g1 & !n to let 8 arms fall to 8 side4 ,!n let "o ( y\r companions place 8 h& "u ! armpit ( ! p]son to be assi/$1 & y do+ ! l1 call to him to let g 8 support1 !n tread wat] until y get 8 arms on ! %\ld]s ( y\r companion & y\rself1 & !n swim g5tly to %ore4 ,%\ld y be alone1 ! utmo/ y c d is to let him hold 8 support :ile y tread wat] ne> him until fur!r assi/ance c be obta9$4 ,if y are alone & he has no support1 let him re/ "o arm across y\r %\ld]1 put "o ( y\r arms beh9d 8 back1 & ! h& "u 8 armpit1 & tread wat] until help arrives4 ,nev] let a man 9 ^! circum/ances grasp y 9 any way1 p>ticul>ly if he be fright5$1 = y may bo? be dr[n$2 b1 try to cool & reassure him by ! intrepidity ( y\r own movem5ts1 & he w be safely & easily pres]v$4 ,,cricket4 ,:5 9 ! cricket-field1 we mu/ all[ ourselves to ent] into ! full _s ( ! game2 b we mu/ n all[ ! excitem5t ( ! play to make u =get :at is due to o!rs & to ourselves4 ,a g5tle1 easy1 &1 at ! same "t1 g5tlemanly mann]1 may be assum$4 ,always (f] to y\r companions ! use ( y\r private bat1 if !y are n simil>ly provid$2 = ! bats belong+ to ! club (t5 lose ! spr+ 9 ! h&le f con/ant use1 & a firm bat ) a good spr+ w prove v acceptable4 ,9 ?is way y gratify ! play]1 &1 z a rew>d = y\r k9dness1 he may1 f be+ well provid$1 score m = ! side ?an he w\ld ) inf]ior or worn-out tools4 ,?is game is m purely democratic ?an any "o we "k (1 & ! mo/ ari/ocratic ( g5tlem5 takes second rank1 = ! "t1 to ! mo/ humble cricket]1 if ! latt] be ! m skillful4 ,b a good play] is n always a g5tleman1 & ! diff]5ce 9 cultivation may always be di/+ui%$4 ,a g5tleman w nev] d]ide any "o = 8 bad play1 nor give v5t to oa?s1 or /rong epi!ts1 if disappo9t$ 9 ! play+ ( "o ( 8 side4 ,if he has to ask ano!r play] = any?+1 he does s 9 a way to e/abli% 8 claim to g5tility4 ,may ,i tr\ble y = t ball8 or1 ,w y please to h& me t bat8 are mu* pref]able to ,"h1 y6 ball !re6 or1 ,clumsy1 don't c>ry (f t bat6 ,aga91 if a g5tleman makes a mi/ake himself1 he %\ld always ackn[l$ge x quietly1 & nev] />t a /ormy discussion z to ! m]its ( 8 batt+ or field+4 ,9 f9e1 pres]ve ! same calm demeanor 9 ! field t y w\ld 9 ! p>lor1 h[ev] deeply y ent] into ! excitem5t ( ! game4 ,,*apt] ,,ix4 ,,travel+4 ,9 ?is c\ntry :]e ladies travel s mu* alone1 a g5tleman has _m opportunities ( mak+ ?is unprotect$ /ate a pleasant "o4 ,!re are _m little c\rtesies :i* y may (f] to a lady :5 travel+1 ev5 if %e is an entire /rang] to y1 & by an air ( respectful def]5ce1 y may place h] entirely at h] ease ) y1 ev5 if y are bo? "y4 ,:5 travel+ ) a lady1 y\r duties comm5ce :5 y are pres5t$ to h] z an escort4 ,if %e is p]sonally a /rang]1 %e w probably meet y at ! :>f or c> depot2 b if an old acqua9tance1 y %\ld (f] to call = h] at h] resid5ce4 ,take a hack1 & call1 leav+ ample "t = la/ spee*es & f>ewell te>s4 ,if %e h&s y h] purse to defray h] exp5ses1 return x to h] if y /op = any l5g? ( "t at a place :]e %e may wi% to make pur*ases4 ,if y make no /op ^u y\r j\rney1 keep ! purse until y arrive at y\r de/9ation1 & !n return x4 ,if %e does n give y ! money = h] exp5ses :5 y />t1 y _h be/ pay !m y\rself1 keep+ an acc\nt1 & %e w repay y at ! j\rney's end4 ,:5 y />t1 select = y\r companion ! pleasante/ seat1 see t h] %awl & bag are )9 h] rea*1 ! w9d[ l[]$ or rais$ z %e may pref]1 & !n leave h] to att5d to ! baggage1 or1 if y pref]1 let h] rema9 9 ! hack :ile y get *ecks = ! trunks4 ,nev] keep a lady /&+ ^u ! :>f or 9 ! depot1 :il/ y arrange ! baggage4 ,:5 y arrive at a /ation1 place y\r lady 9 a hack :ile y get ! trunks4 ,:5 arriv+ at a hotel1 escort y\r companion to ! p>lor1 & leave h] !re :il/ y engage rooms4 ,z soon z h] room is ready1 escort h] to ! door1 & leave h]1 z %e w probably wi% to *ange h] dress or lie d[n1 aft] ! fatigue ( travel+4 ,if y rema9 *att+ 9 ! p>lor1 al?\gh %e may be too polite to give any sign ( we>9ess1 y may feel sure %e is long+ to g to a room :]e %e c ba! h] face & smoo? h] hair4 ,if y rema9 9 ! hotel to any meal1 ask be=e y leave h]1 at :at h\r %e wi%es to d9e1 sup1 or breakfa/1 & at t h\r1 knock at h] door1 & escort h] to ! table4 ,if y rema9 9 ! city at :i* h] j\rney t]m9ates1 y %\ld call ! day aft] y\r arrival ^u ! companion ( y\r j\rney4 ,if1 previ\s to t j\rney1 y h nev] met h]1 %e has ! privilege ( cont9u+ ! acqua9tance or n z %e pleases1 s if all y\r gallantry is repaid by a cut ! next "t y meet h]1 y mu/ submit1 & hope = bett] luck next "t4 ,9 su* a case1 y are at lib]ty to decl9e escort+ h] aga9 %\ld ! reque/ be made4 ,:5 travel+ alone1 y\r opportunities to display y\r gallantry w be /ill m num]\s4 ,to (f] to c>ry a bag = a lady :o is unatt5d$1 to raise or l[] a w9d[ = h]1 (f] to *eck h] baggage1 procure h] a hack1 give h] y\r arm f c> to boat or boat to c>1 assi/ h] *ildr5 ov] ! bad cross+s1 or 9 fact ext5d any su* k9dness1 w m>k y z a g5tleman1 & w9 y ! ?anks due to y\r c\rtesy4 ,be c>eful h[ev] n to be too att5tive1 z y !n become (fici\s1 & emb>rass :5 y mean to please4 ,if y are go+ to travel 9 o!r c\ntries1 9 ,europe1 especially1 ,i w\ld advise y to /udy ! languages1 be=e y attempt to g abroad4 ,fr5* is ! tongue y w f9d mo/ useful 9 ,europe1 z x is spok5 9 ! c\rts1 & among/ diplomati/s2 b1 9 ord] fully to enjoy a visit to any c\ntry1 y mu/ speak ! language ( t c\ntry4 ,y c !n visit 9 ! private h\ses1 see life among ! peasantry1 g ) confid5ce f village to t[n1 f city to city1 le>n+ m ( ! c\ntry 9 "o day f famili> int]c\rse ) ! natives1 ?an y w\ld le>n 9 a ye> f guide books or ! explanations ( y\r c\ri]4 ,! way to really enjoy a j\rney ?r\gh a /range l&1 is n to roll ov] ! high ways 9 y\r c>riage1 /op at ! hotels1 & be l$ to ! po9ts ( int]e/ by y\r guide1 b to %\ld] y\r knapsack1 or take up y\r valise1 & make a p$e/rian t\r ?r\gh ! hamlets & villages4 ,take a room at a hotel 9 ! pr9cipal cities if y w1 & see all t y\r guide book comm&s y to seek1 & !n />t on y\r own t\r ( inve/igation1 & believe me y w enjoy y\r indep5d5t walks & *ats ) ! villag]s & peasants1 inf9itely m ?an y\r visits dictat$ by o!rs4 ,( c\rse1 to enjoy ?is mode ( travel+1 y mu/ h "s k ( ! language1 & if y />t ) only a v slight acqua9tance ) x1 y w be surpris$ to f9d h[ rapidly y w acquire ! p[] to conv]se1 :5 y are ?us =c$ to speak 9 t language1 or be entirely sil5t4 ,y\r pocket1 too1 w be ! ga9] by ! p[] to arrange y\r own affairs4 ,if y travel ) a c\ri] & dep5d ^u him to arrange y\r hotel bills & o!r matt]s1 y w be *eat$ by e "o1 f ! boy :o blacks y\r boots1 to ! magnific5t arti/1 :o und]takes to fill y\r picture gall]y ) ! works ( ! old ma/]s4 ,if ,murillo1 ,raphael1 & ,guido c\ld see ! pictures br\ght annually to ?is c\ntry z g5u9e works ( _! p5cils1 we are c]ta9 t !y w\ld te> _! gho/ly hair1 wr+ _! %ad[y h&s1 & return to ! tomb aga9 9 disgu/4 ,ignorant ( ! language ( ! c\ntry y are visit+1 y w be sw9dl$ 9 ! little villages & ! l>ge cities by ! inn-keep]s & ! hack-driv]s1 9 ! c\ntry & 9 ! t[n1 morn+1 noon1 & ev5+1 daily1 h\rly1 & weekly2 s1 aga9 ,i say1 /udy ! languages if y propose go+ abroad4 ,9 a =eign c\ntry no?+ /amps ! diff]5ce betwe5 ! g5tleman & ! cl[n m /rongly ?an ! reg>d !y pay to =eign cu/oms4 ,:ile ! latt] w exclaim aga9/ e /range dress or di%1 & ev5 %[ signs ( disgu/ if ! latt] does n please him1 ! =m] w endeavor1 z f> z is 9 8 p[]1 to d 9 ,rome z ,romans d4 ,accu/om y\rself1 z soon z possible1 to ! cu/oms ( ! nation :i* y are visit+1 &1 z f> z y c )\t any violation ( pr9ciple1 foll[ !m4 ,y w add mu* to y\r own com=t by s do+1 =1 z y _c expect ! :ole nation to con=m to y\r habits1 ! soon] y fall 9 ) !irs ! soon] y w feel at home 9 ! /range l&4 ,nev] ridicule or blame any usage :i* seems to y ludicr\s or wrong4 ,y may w\nd ^? ar\nd y1 or y may ang] !m1 & x _c add to ! pleasure ( y\r visit to make y\rself unpopul>4 ,if 9 ,g]many !y s]ve y\r meat ^u m>malade1 or y\r beef raw1 or 9 ,italy give y peas 9 _! pods1 or 9 ,france (f] y frog's legs & horse/eaks1 if y _c eat ! /range vi&s1 make no rem>ks & repress e look or ge/ure ( disgu/4 ,try to adapt y\r ta/e to ! di%es1 & if y f9d t impossible1 remove ^? articles y _c eat f y\r plate1 & make y\r meal ^u ! o!rs1 b d ?is sil5tly & quietly1 endeavor+ n to attract att5tion4 ,! be/ travel]s are ^? :o c eat cats 9 ,*9a1 oil 9 ,gre5l&1 frogs 9 ,france1 & macc>oni 9 ,italy2 :o c smoke a me]%aum 9 ,g]many1 ride an elephant 9 ,india1 %oot p>tridges 9 ,engl&1 & we> a turban 9 ,turkey2 9 %ort1 9 e nation adapt _! habits1 co/ume1 & ta/e to ! national mann]s1 dress & di%es4 ,d n1 :5 abroad1 speak cont9ually 9 praise ( y\r own c\ntry1 or disp>ag+ly ( o!rs4 ,if y f9d o!rs are int]e/$ 9 ga9+ in=mation ab\t ,am]ica1 speak c&idly & freely ( its cu/oms1 sc5]y1 or products1 b n 9 a way t w imply a contempt ( o!r c\ntries4 ,to turn up y\r nose at ! ,?ames because ! ,mississippi is long] & wid]1 or to sne] at any object because y h se5 its sup]ior at home1 is rude1 ill-br$1 & 9 excessively bad ta/e4 ,y w f9d abroad num]\s objects ( int]e/ :i* ,am]ica _c p>allel1 & :ile abroad1 y w d well to avoid m5tion ( our riv]s1 our m\nta9s1 or1 our manufactories4 ,y w f9d ru9s 9 ,rome1 pictures 9 ,flor5ce1 cemet]ies 9 ,france1 & factories 9 ,engl&1 :i* w take ! lead & *all5ge ! _w to compete2 & y w exhibit a f> bett] _s if y c&idly ackn[l$ge t sup]iority1 ?an if y make absurd & untrue ass]tions ( our p[] to excel !m4 ,y w1 ( c\rse1 meet ) mu* to disapprove1 mu* t w excite y\r laught]2 b control ! "o & keep sil5ce ab\t ! o!r4 ,if y f9d fault1 d s g5tly & quietly2 if y praise1 d s )\t qualification1 s9c]ely & w>mly4 ,/udy well ! geography ( any c\ntry :i* y may visit1 &1 z f> z possible1 its hi/ory also4 ,y _c feel mu* int]e/ 9 localities or monum5ts connect$ ) hi/ory1 if y are unacqua9t$ ) ! ev5ts :i* make !m wor?y ( note4 ,conv]se ) any :o seem dispos$ to =m an acqua9tance4 ,y may ?us pass an h\r or two pleasantly1 obta9 useful in=mation1 & y ne$ n c>ry on ! acqua9tance unless y *oose to d s4 ,among/ ! high] circles 9 ,europe y w f9d _m ( ! cu/oms ( ea* nation 9 o!r nations1 b x is among ! peasants & ! p t y f9d ! true nationality4 ,y may c>ry ) y "o rule into e c\ntry1 :i* is1 t1 h[ev] mu* ! inhabitants may object to y\r dress1 language1 or habits1 !y w *e]fully ackn[l$ge t ! ,am]ican /rang] is p]fectly amiable & polite4 ,,*apt] ,x4 ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,*ur*4 ,x is n1 9 ?is book1 a "q1 :at y mu/ believe1 b h[ y mu/ act4 ,if y\r consci5ce p]mits y to visit o!r *ur*es ?an y\r own1 y\r fir/ duty1 :il/ 9 !m1 is n to sne] or sc(f at any ( its =ms1 & to foll[ ! s]vice z closely z y c4 ,to remove y\r hat ^u ent]+ ! edifice devot$ to ! wor%ip ( a ,high] ,p[]1 is a sign ( respect nev] to be omitt$4 ,_m m5 w omit 9 =eign *ur*es ?is cu/om s expressive & t\*+1 & by ! omission make o!rs believe !m irrev]5t & fooli%1 ev5 ?\gh !y may act f m]e ?\ghtlessness4 ,if1 h[ev]1 y are 9 a c\ntry :]e ! head is kept cov]$1 & ano!r =m ( humility adopt$1 y ne$ n fe> to foll[ ! cu/om ( ^? ar\nd y4 ,y w be m respect$ if y pay def]5ce to _! religi\s views1 ?an if y und]took to prove y\r sup]iority by affect+ a contempt = any =m ( wor%ip4 ,ent] ) y\r ?\ghts fix$ ^u high & holy subjects1 & y\r face w %[ y\r devotion1 ev5 if y are ignorant ( ! =ms ( t p>ticul> *ur*4 ,if y are ) a lady1 9 a ca?olic *ur*1 (f] h] ! holy wat] ) y\r h& unglov$1 =1 z x is 9 ! int]c\rse ) pr9ces1 t *ur* requires all ! c]emonies to be p]=m$ ) ! b>e h&4 ,pass up ! aisle ) y\r companion until y rea* ! pew y are to occupy1 !n /ep be=e h]1 op5 ! door1 & hold x op5 :ile %e ent]s ! pew4 ,!n foll[ h]1 clos+ ! door aft] y4 ,if y are visit+ a /range *ur*1 reque/ ! sexton to give y a seat4 ,nev] ent] a pew un9vit$4 ,if y are 9 y\r own pew 9 *ur*1 & see /rang]s look+ = a place1 op5 y\r pew door1 invite !m by a motion to ent]1 & hold ! door op5 = !m1 re-ent]+ y\rself aft] !y are seat$4 ,if o!rs ar\nd y d n pay :at y ?9k a prop] att5tion to ! s]vices1 d n1 by scornful glances or :isp]$ rem>ks1 notice _! omissions4 ,/rive1 by y\r own devotion1 to =get ^? ne> y4 ,y may (f] a book or fan to a /rang] ne> y1 if unprovid$ !mselves1 :e!r !y be "y or old1 lady or g5tleman4 ,rema9 kneel+ z long z ^? ar\nd y d s4 ,d n1 if y\r own devotion is n satisfi$ by y\r attitude1 ?r[ scornful glances ^u ^? :o rema9 seat$1 or m]ely b[ _! heads4 ,above all nev] sign to !m1 or speak1 rem9d+ !m ( ! position mo/ suitable = ! s]vice4 ,keep y\r own position1 b d n ?9k y h ! "r to dictate to o!rs4 ,i h he>d "y p]sons address+1 ) words ( reproa*1 old m51 & lame ones1 ^: infirmities =bade !m to kneel or /& 9 *ur*1 b :o 71 d\btless1 z good ,*ri/ians z _! presumptu\s advis]s4 ,i "k t x (t5 is an ef=t to rema9 sil5t :5 ^? 9 ano!r pew talk incessantly 9 a l[ tone or :isp]1 or s+ 9 a l\d tone1 out ( all "t or tune1 or read ! wrong responses 9 a voice ( ?und]2 b1 :ile y c>efully avoid su* faults y\rself1 y mu/ pass !m ov] 9 o!rs1 )\t rem>k4 ,if1 :5 abroad1 y visit a *ur* to see ! pictures or monum5ts )9 its walls1 & n = wor%ip1 *oose ! h\rs :5 !re is no s]vice be+ read4 ,ev5 if y are alone1 or m]ely ) a guide1 speak l[1 walk sl[ly1 & keep an air ( quiet respect 9 ! edifice devot$ to ! s]vice ( ,god4 ,let me "h prote/ aga9/ an ,am]icanism ( :i* mode/ ladies ju/ly compla92 x is t ( g5tlem5 /&+ 9 gr\ps r\nd ! doors ( *ur*es bo? be=e & aft] s]vice4 ,a well-br$ man w n indulge 9 ?is practice2 &1 if deta9$ ^u ! /ep by a fri5d1 or1 :il/ wait+ = ano!r p]son1 he w /& aside & all[ pl5ty ( room = o!rs to pass 91 & w nev] br+ ! blood into a woman's face by a long1 curi\s />e4 ,9 *ur*1 z 9 e o!r position 9 life1 ! mo/ unselfi% man is ! mo/ p]fect g5tleman2 s1 if y wi% to reta9 y\r position z a well-br$ man1 y w1 9 a cr[d$ *ur*1 (f] y\r seat to any lady1 or old man1 :o may be /&+4 ,,*apt] ,,xi4 ,,"o ,,hundr$ ,,h9ts ,,= ,,g5tlemanly ,,deportm5t4 #a4 ,always avoid any rude or boi/]\s action1 especially :5 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies4 ,x is n necess>y to be /iff1 indol5t1 or sull5ly sil5t1 nei!r is p]fect gravity always requir$1 b if y je/ let x be ) quiet1 g5tlemanly wit1 nev] dep5d+ ^u cl[ni% ge/ures = ! effect ( a /ory4 ,no?+ m>ks ! g5tleman s soon & s decid$ly z quiet1 ref9$ ease ( mann]4 #b4 ,nev] all[ a lady to get a *air = h]self1 r+ a bell1 pick up a h&k]*ief or glove %e may h dropp$1 or1 9 %ort1 p]=m any s]vice = h]self :i* y c p]=m = h]1 :5 y are 9 ! room4 ,by ext5d+ su* c\rtesies to y\r "m1 si/]s1 or o!r memb]s ( y\r family1 !y become habitual1 & are ?us m gracefully p]=m$ :5 abroad4 #c4 ,nev] p]=m any little s]vice = ano!r ) a =mal b[ or mann] z if conf]r+ a favor1 b ) a quiet g5tlemanly ease z if x 71 n a c]emoni\s1 unaccu/om$ p]=mance1 b a matt] ( c\rse1 = y to be c\rte\s4 #d4 ,x is n necess>y to tell all t y "k2 t 7 m]e folly2 b :at a man says mu/ be :at he believes himself1 else he violates ! fir/ rule = a g5tleman's spee*--,tru?4 #e4 ,avoid gambl+ z y w\ld poison4 ,e bet made1 ev5 9 ! mo/ f9i%$ circles ( society1 is a species ( gambl+1 & ?is ru9\s crime comes on by sl[ degrees4 ,:il/ a man is m9d+ 8 bus9ess1 he is play+ ! be/ game1 & he is sure to w94 ,y w be tempt$ to ! vice by ^? :om ! _w calls g5tlem51 b y w f9d t loss makes y angry1 & an angry man is nev] a c\rte\s "o2 ga9 excites y to cont9ue ! pursuit ( ! vice2 &1 9 ! end y w lose money1 good "n1 heal?1 good consci5ce1 light he>t1 & hone/y2 :ile y ga9 evil associates1 irregul> h\rs & habits1 a suspici\s1 fretful temp]1 & a remorseful1 torm5t+ consci5ce4 ,"s "o mu/ lose 9 ! game2 &1 if y w9 x1 x is at ! risk ( driv+ a fell[ creature to despair4 #f4 ,cultivate tact6 ,9 society x w be an invaluable aid4 ,tal5t is some?+1 b tact is ev]y?+4 ,tal5t is s]i\s1 sob]1 grave1 & respectable2 tact is all t & m too4 ,x is n a six? s5se1 b x is ! life ( all ! five4 ,x is ! op5 eye1 ! quick e>1 ! judg+ ta/e1 ! ke5 smell1 & ! lively t\*2 x is ! int]pret] ( all riddles--! surm\nt] ( all difficulties--! remov] ( all ob/acles4 ,x is useful 9 all places1 & at all times2 x is useful 9 solitude1 = x %[s a man 8 way into ! _w2 x is useful 9 society1 = x %[s him 8 way ?r\gh ! _w4 ,tal5t is p[]--tact is skill2 tal5t is weight--tact is mom5tum2 tal5t kn[s :at to d--tact kn[s h[ to d x2 tal5t makes a man respectable--tact w make him respect$2 tal5t is weal?--tact is ready money4 ,= all ! practical purposes ( society tact c>ries aga9/ tal5t t5 to "o4 #g4 ,nature has left e man a capacity ( be+ agreeable1 ?\gh all _c %9e 9 company2 b !re are _m m5 suffici5tly qualifi$ = bo?1 :o1 by a v few faults1 t a little att5tion w\ld soon correct1 are n s mu* z tol]able4 ,wat*1 avoid su* faults4 #h4 ,habits ( self-possession & self-control acquir$ e>ly 9 life1 are ! be/ f\ndation = ! =mation ( g5tlemanly mann]s4 ,if y unite ) ?is ! con/ant int]c\rse ) ladies & g5tlem5 ( ref9em5t & education1 y w add to ! dignity ( p]fect self comm&1 ! poli%$ ease ( polite society4 #i4 ,avoid a conceit$ mann]4 ,x is exce$+ly ill-br$ to assume a mann] z if y 7 sup]ior to ^? ar\nd y1 & x is1 too1 a pro(1 n ( sup]iority b ( vulg>ity4 ,& to avoid ?is mann]1 avoid ! f\ndation ( x1 & cultivate humility4 ,! praises ( o!rs %\ld be ( use to y1 9 tea*+1 n :at y are1 p]haps1 b 9 po9t+ out :at y ought to be4 #aj4 ,avoid pride1 too2 x (t5 miscalculates1 & m (t5 misconceives4 ,! pr\d man places himself at a di/ance f o!r m52 se5 ?r\gh t di/ance1 o!rs1 p]haps1 appe> little to him2 b he =gets t ?is v di/ance causes him also to appe> little to o!rs4 #aa4 ,a g5tleman's title sugge/s to him humility & affability2 to be easy ( access1 to pass by neglects & (f5ces1 especially f inf]iors2 nei!r to despise any = _! bad =tune or mis]y1 nor to be afraid to own ^? :o are unju/ly oppress$2 n to dom9e] ov] inf]iors1 nor to be ei!r disrespectful or cr++ to sup]iors2 n /&+ ^u 8 family "n1 or weal?1 b mak+ ^! second>y to 8 atta9m5ts 9 civility1 indu/ry1 g5tl5ess1 & discretion4 #ab4 ,*e/]field says1 ,all c]emonies are1 9 !mselves1 v silly ?+s2 b yet a man ( ! _w %\ld "k !m4 ,!y are ! outworks ( mann]s1 :i* w\ld be too (t5 brok5 9 ^u if x 7 n = t def5ce :i* keeps ! enemy at a prop] di/ance4 ,x is = t reason ,i always treat fools & coxcombs ) great c]emony1 true good bre$+ n be+ a suffici5t b>ri] aga9/ !m4 #ac4 ,:5 y meet a lady at ! foot ( a flight ( /airs1 d n wait = h] to asc5d1 b b[1 & g up be=e h]4 #ad4 ,9 meet+ a lady at ! head ( a flight ( /airs1 wait = h] to prec$e y 9 ! desc5t4 #ae4 ,avoid slang4 ,x does n beautify1 b x sullies conv]sation4 ,j li/51 = a mom5t1 to our fa/ "y man1 or ! ape ( a fa/ "y man1 :o ?9ks t to be a man he mu/ speak 9 ! d>k phraseology ( slang4 ,if he does any?+ on 8 own responsibility1 he does x on 8 own 'hook4' ,if he sees any?+ rem>kably good1 he calls x a '/unn]1' ! sup]lative ( :i* is a 'regul> /unn]4' ,if a man is reque/$ to pay a tav]n bill1 he is ask$ if he w '/& ,sam4' ,if he meets a savage-look+ dog1 he calls him an 'ugly cu/om]4' ,if he meets an ecc5tric man1 he calls him a 'rummy old cove4' ,a s5sible man is a '*ap t is up to snuff4' ,our "y fri5d nev] scolds1 b 'bl[s up2' nev] pays1 b '/umps up2' nev] f9ds x too difficult to pay1 b is 'h>d up4' ,he has no hat1 b %elt]s 8 head b5ea? a 'tile4' ,he we>s no neckclo?1 b surr\nds 8 ?roat ) a '*ok]4' ,he lives n[h]e1 b !re is "s place :]e he 'hangs out4' ,he nev] goes away or )draws1 b he 'bolts'--he 'slopes'--he 'mizzles'--he 'makes himself sc>ce'--he 'walks 8 *alks'--he 'makes tracks'--he 'cuts /ick'--or1 :at is ! same ?+1 he 'cuts 8 lucky6' ,! highe/ complim5t t y c pay him is to tell him t he is a 'regul> brick4' ,he does n pr(ess to be brave1 b he prides himself on be+ 'plucky4' ,money is a ^w :i* he has =gott51 b he talks a good deal ab\t 't91' & ! 'ne$ful1' '! rh9o1' & '! ready4' ,:5 a man speaks1 he 'sp\ts2' :5 he holds 8 peace1 he '%uts up2' :5 he is humiliat$1 he is 'tak5 d[n a peg or two1' & made to 's+ small4' ,n[1 besides ! vulg>ity ( su* expressions1 !re is mu* 9 slang t is objectionable 9 a moral po9t ( view4 ,= example1 ! ^w 'gov]nor1' z appli$ to a fa!r1 is to be repreh5d$4 ,does x n betray1 on ! "p ( "y m51 great ignorance ( ! pat]nal & filial relation%ip1 or great contempt = !m8 ,_! fa!r is to su* "y m5 m]ely a gov]nor1--m]ely a repres5tative ( au?ority4 ,innoc5tly en\gh ! expression is us$ by ?\s&s ( "y m5 :o v5]ate & love _! p>5ts2 b only ?9k ( x1 & ,i am sure t y w admit t x is a cold1 he>tless ^w :5 ?us appli$1 & "o t ought =?) to be ab&on$4 #af4 ,!re are few traits ( social life m repulsive ?an tyranny4 ,i ref] n to ! wrongs1 real or imag9>y1 t engage our att5tion 9 anci5t & mod]n hi/ory2 my tyrants are n ^? :o h wad$ ?r\gh blood to ?rones1 & griev\sly oppress _! bro!r m54 ,i speak ( ! petty tyrants ( ! fireside & ! social circle1 :o trample l v despots on ! op9ions ( _! fell[s4 ,y meet p ( ?is class ev]y:]e2 !y /alk by y\r side 9 ! /reets2 !y seat !mselves 9 ! pleasant circle on ! he>?1 ca/+ a gloom on gayety2 & !y />t up d>k & sc[l+ 9 ! mid/ ( sc5es ( innoc5t mir?1 to *ill & fr[n d[n e p>ticipator4 ,!y pooh6 pooh6 at e op9ion advanc$2 !y make ! lives ( _! mo!rs1 si/]s1 wives1 *ildr51 unbe>able4 ,bew>e !n ( tyranny4 ,a g5tleman is ev] humble1 & ! tyrant is nev] c\rte\s4 #ag4 ,cultivate ! virtues ( ! s\l1 /rong pr9ciple1 incorruptible integrity1 usefulness1 ref9$ intellect1 & fidelity 9 seek+ = tru?4 ,a man 9 proportion z he has ^! virtues w be honor$ & welcom$ ev]y:]e4 #ah4 ,g5tility is nei!r 9 bir?1 weal?1 or fa%ion1 b 9 ! m9d4 ,a high s5se ( honor1 a det]m9ation nev] to take a mean advantage ( ano!r1 adh]5ce to tru?1 delicacy & polit5ess t[>ds ^? ) :om we hold int]c\rse1 are ! ess5tial *>act]i/ics ( a g5tleman4 #ai4 ,little att5tions to y\r "m1 y\r wife1 & y\r si/]1 w beget mu* love4 ,! man :o is a rude husb&1 son1 & bro!r1 _c be a g5tleman2 he may ape ! mann]s ( "o1 b1 want+ ! ref9em5t ( he>t t w\ld make him c\rte\s at home1 8 polit5ess is b a ?9 cloak to cov] a rude1 unpoli%$ m9d4 #bj4 ,at table1 always eat sl[ly1 b d n delay ^? ar\nd y by toy+ ) y\r food1 or neglect+ ! bus9ess be=e y to *at1 till all ! o!rs are ready to leave ! table1 b mu/ wait until y repair y\r neglig5ce1 by ha/ily swall[+ y\r food4 #ba4 ,are y a husb&8 ,cu/om entitles y to be ! "l & ma/] ov] y\r h\sehold4 ,b don't assume ! ma/] & s9k ! "l4 ,rememb] t noble g5]osity1 =be>ance1 amiability1 & integrity are ! lordly attributes ( man4 ,z a husb&1 !re=e1 exhibit ! true nobility ( man1 & seek to gov]n y\r h\sehold by ! display ( high moral excell5ce4 ,a dom9e]+ _s--a fault-f9d+ petulance--impati5ce ( trifl+ delays--& ! exhibition ( unwor?y passion at ! slighte/ provocation c add no laurel to y\r own lordly br[1 imp>t no sweetness to home1 & call =? no respect f ^? by :om y may be surr\nd$4 ,x is "o ?+ to be a ma/]1 ano!r to be a man4 ,! latt] %\ld be ! husb&'s aspiration2 = he :o _c gov]n himself1 is ill-qualifi$ to rule o!rs4 ,y c h>dly imag9e h[ refre%+ x is to occasionally call up ! recollection ( y\r c\rt+ days4 ,h[ t$i\sly ! h\rs roll$ away prior to ! appo9t$ "t ( meet+2 h[ swift !y seem$ to fly1 :5 met2 h[ fond 0 ! fir/ greet+2 h[ t5d] ! la/ embrace2 h[ f]v5t 7 y\r v[s2 h[ vivid y\r dreams ( future happ9ess1 :51 return+ to y\r home1 y felt y\rself secure 9 ! confess$ love ( ! object ( y\r w>m affections6 ,is y\r dream realiz$8--are y s happy z y expect$8--:y n8 ,consid] :e!r z a husb& y are z f]v5t & con/ant z y 7 :5 a lov]4 ,rememb] t ! wife's claims to y\r unremitt+ reg>d--great be=e m>riage1 are n[ exalt$ to a mu* high] degree4 ,%e has left ! _w = y--! home ( h] *ildhood1 ! fireside ( h] p>5ts1 _! wat*ful c>e & sweet int]c\rse h all be5 yield$ up = y4 ,look !n mo/ jeal\sly ^u all t may t5d to attract y f home1 & to weak5 t union ^u :i* y\r temporal happ9ess ma9ly dep5ds2 & believe t 9 ! solemn relation%ip ( ,,husb& is to be f\nd "o ( ! be/ gu>antees = man's honor & happ9ess4 #bb4 ,p]haps ! true def9ition ( a g5tleman is ?is3 ,:oev] is op51 loyal1 & true2 :oev] is ( humane & affable demeanor2 :oev] is honorable 9 himself1 & 9 8 judgm5t ( o!rs1 & requires no law b 8 ^w to make him fulfil an engagem5t2 su* a man is a g5tleman1 be he 9 ! highe/ or l[e/ rank ( life1 a man ( elegant ref9em5t & intellect1 or ! mo/ unpoli%$ till] ( ! gr\nd4 #bc4 ,9 ! /reet1 etiquette does n require a g5tleman to take (f 8 glove to %ake h&s ) a lady1 unless h] h& is uncov]$4 ,9 ! h\se1 h[ev]1 ! rule is imp]ative1 he mu/ n (f] a lady a glov$ h&4 ,9 ! /reet1 if 8 h& be v w>m or v cold1 or ! glove _c be readily remov$1 x is mu* bett] to (f] ! cov]$ h& ?an to (f5d ! lady's t\*1 or delay ! salutation dur+ an awkw>d fumble to remove ! glove4 #bd4 ,/]ne says1 ,true c\rt%ip consi/s 9 a numb] ( quiet1 g5tlemanly att5tions1 n s po9t$ z to al>m1 n s vague z to be misund]/ood4 ,a cl[n w t]rify by 8 boldness1 a pr\d man *ill by 8 res]ve1 b a g5tleman w w9 by ! happy mixture ( ! two4 #be4 ,use no pr(ane language1 utt] no ^w t w cause ! mo/ virtu\s to blu%4 ,pr(anity is a m>k ( l[ bre$+2 & ! t5d5cy ( us+ indec5t & pr(ane language is degrad+ to y\r m9ds4 ,its injuri\s effects may n be felt at ! mom5t1 b !y w cont9ue to manife/ !mselves to y ?r\gh life4 ,!y may nev] be oblit]at$2 &1 if y all[ ! fault to become habitual1 y w (t5 f9d at y\r tongue's end "s expressions :i* y w\ld n use = any money4 ,by be+ c>eful on ?is po9t y may save y\rself mu* mortification & sorr[4 ,good m5 h be5 tak5 sick & become deliri\s4 ,9 ^! mom5ts !y h us$ ! mo/ vile & indec5t language4 ,:5 in=m$ ( x1 aft] a re/oration to heal?1 !y _h no idea ( ! pa9 !y _h giv5 to _! fri5ds1 & /at$ t !y _h le>n$ & repeat$ ! expressions 9 *ildhood1 & ?\gh ye>s _h pass$ s9ce !y _h spok5 a bad ^w1 ! e>ly impressions _h be5 indelibly /amp$ ^u ! m9d4 ,?9k ( ?is1 ye :o are tempt$ to use improp] language1 & nev] let a vile ^w disgrace y4 ,an oa? nev] falls f ! tongue ( ! man :o comm&s respect4 ,hone/y1 frankness1 g5]osity1 & virtue are noble traits4 ,let ^! be y\rs1 & d n fe>4 ,y w !n claim ! e/eem & love ( all4 #bf4 ,c\rte\s & fri5dly conduct may1 probably w1 sometimes meet ) an unwor?y & ungrateful return2 b ! abs5ce ( gratitude & simil> c\rtesy on ! "p ( ! receiv] _c de/roy ! self-approbation :i* recomp5ses ! giv]4 ,we may scatt] ! se$s ( c\rtesy & k9dness ar\nd u at little exp5se4 ,"s ( !m w inevitably fall on good gr\nd1 & gr[ up into b5evol5ce 9 ! m9ds ( o!rs1 & all ( !m w be> ! fruit ( happ9ess 9 ! bosom :5ce !y spr+4 ,a k9dly action always fixes itself on ! he>t ( ! truly ?\ghtful & polite man4 #bg4 ,le>n to re/ra9 ang]4 ,a man 9 a passion ceases to be a g5tleman1 & if y d n control y\r passions1 rely ^u x1 !y w "o day control y4 ,! intoxication ( ang]1 l t ( ! grape1 %[s u to o!rs1 b hides u f ourselves1 & we injure our own cause 9 ! op9ion ( ! _w :5 we too passionately & eag]ly def5d x4 ,nei!r w all m5 be dispos$ to view our qu>rels 9 ! same light t we d2 & a man's bl9dness to 8 own defects w ev] increase 9 proportion z he is angry ) o!rs1 or pleas$ ) himself4 ,an old ,engli% writ] says3-- ,z a prev5tative ( ang]1 bani% all tale-be>]s & sl&]]s f y\r conv]sation1 = x is ^! bl[ ! devil's bell[s to r\se up ! flames ( rage & fury1 by fir/ abus+ y\r e>s1 & !n y\r cr$ulity1 & aft] t /eal away y\r pati5ce1 & all ?is1 p]haps1 = a lie4 ,to prev5t ang]1 be n too inquisitive into ! affairs ( o!rs1 or :at p say ( y\rself1 or into ! mi/akes ( y\r fri5ds1 = ?is is go+ out to ga!r /icks to k9dle a fire to burn y\r own h\se4 #bh4 ,keep good company or none4 ,y w lose y\r own self-respect1 & habits ( c\rtesy soon] & m effectually by int]c\rse ) l[ company1 ?an 9 any o!r mann]2 :ile1 9 good company1 ^! virtues w be cultivat$ & become habitual4 #bi4 ,keep y\r engagem5ts4 ,no?+ is rud] ?an to make an engagem5t1 be x ( bus9ess or pleasure1 & break x4 ,if y\r memory is n suffici5tly ret5tive to keep all ! engagem5ts y make /or$ )9 x1 c>ry a little memor&um book & ent] !m !re4 ,especially1 keep any appo9tm5t made ) a lady1 =1 dep5d ^u x1 ! fair sex =give any o!r fault 9 good bre$+1 soon] ?an a brok5 engagem5t4 #cj4 ,avoid p]sonality2 no?+ is m ung5tlemanly4 ,! tone ( good company is m>k$ by its entire abs5ce4 ,among well-in=m$ p]sons !re are pl5ty ( topics to discuss1 )\t giv+ pa9 to any "o pres5t4 #ca4 ,make x a rule to be always punctual 9 keep+ an appo9tm5t1 &1 :5 x is conv5i5t1 be a little be=eh&4 ,su* a habit ensures t composure & ease :i* is ! v ess5ce ( g5tlemanly deportm5t2 want ( x keeps y always 9 a fev] & bu/le & no man :o is hurri$ & fev]i% appe>s s well z he ^: punctuality keeps him cool & compos$4 #cb4 ,x is "r to cultivate a laudable ambition1 b d n exagg]ate y\r capacity4 ,! _w w n give y cr$it = half :at y e/eem y\rself4 ,"s m5 ?9k x s mu* ga9$ to pass = m ?an !y are wor?2 b 9 mo/ cases ! deception w be discov]$1 soon] or lat]1 & ! reb\nd w be great] ?an ! ga94 ,we may1 !re=e1 set x d[n z a tru?1 t x is a damage to a man to h cr$it = great] p[]s ?an he possesses4 #cc4 ,be ready to apologize :5 y h committ$ a fault :i* gives (f5ce4 ,bett]1 f> bett]1 to reta9 a fri5d by a frank1 c\rte\s apology = (f5ce giv51 ?an to make an enemy by ob/9ately d5y+ or p]si/+ 9 ! fault4 #cd4 ,an apology made to y\rself mu/ be accept$4 ,no matt] h[ great ! (f5ce1 a g5tleman _c keep 8 ang] aft] an apology has be5 made1 & ?us1 among/ truly well-br$ m51 an apology is always accept$4 #ce4 ,unless y h some?+ ( real importance to ask or communicate1 d n /op a g5tleman 9 ! /reet dur+ bus9ess h\rs4 ,y may deta9 him f important engagem5ts1 &1 ?\gh he may be too well-br$ to %[ annoyance1 he w n ?ank y = su* det5tion4 #cf4 ,if1 :5 on y\r way to fulfil an engagem5t1 a fri5d /ops y 9 ! /reet1 y may1 )\t committ+ any brea* ( etiquette1 tell him ( y\r appo9tm5t1 & release y\rself f a long talk1 b d s 9 a c\rte\s mann]1 express+ regret = ! necessity4 #cg4 ,if1 :5 meet+ two g5tlem51 y are oblig$ to deta9 "o ( !m1 apologize to ! o!r = s do+1 :e!r he is an acqua9tance or a /rang]1 & d n keep him wait+ a mom5t long] ?an is necess>y4 #ch4 ,h y a si/]8 ,!n love & *]i% h] ) all t pure & holy fri5d%ip :i* r5d]s a bro!r s wor?y & noble4 ,le>n to appreciate h] sweet influ5ce z portray$ 9 ! foll[+ words3 ,he :o has nev] kn[n a si/]'s k9d adm9i/ration1 nor felt 8 he>t w>m+ b5ea? h] ende>+ smile & love-beam+ eye1 has be5 un=tunate inde$4 ,x is n to be wond]$ at if ! f\nta9s ( pure feel+ fl[ 9 8 bosom b sluggi%ly1 or if ! g5tle emotions ( 8 nature be lo/ 9 ! /]n] attributes ( mank9d4 ',t man has gr[n up among affectionate si/]s1' ,i once he>d a lady ( mu* obs]vation & exp]i5ce rem>k4 ',& :y d y ?9k s8' said ,i4 ',because ( ! ri* developm5t ( all ! t5d] feel+s ( ! he>t4' ,a si/]'s influ5ce is felt ev5 9 manhood's rip] ye>s2 & ! he>t ( him :o has gr[n cold 9 *illy contact ) ! _w w w>m & ?rill ) pure enjoym5t z "s accid5t awak5s )9 him ! s(t tones1 ! glad melodies ( 8 si/]'s voice2 & he w turn f purposes :i* a w>p$ & false philosophy _h reason$ into exp$i5cy1 & ev5 weep = ! g5tle influ5ces :i* mov$ him 9 8 e>li] ye>s4 ,! man :o w\ld treat a si/] ) h>%ness1 rud5ess1 or disrespect1 is unwor?y ( ! "n ( g5tleman1 = he ?us proves t ! c\rtesies he ext5ds to o!r ladies1 are n ! prompt+s ( ! he>t1 b ! m]e ext]nal signs ( etiquette2 ! husk )\t ! sweet fruit )94 #ci4 ,:5 walk+ ) a fri5d 9 ! /reet1 nev] leave him to speak to ano!r fri5d )\t apologiz+ = s do+4 #dj4 ,if walk+ ) a lady1 nev] leave h] alone 9 ! /reet1 "u any circum/ances4 ,x is a gross violation ( etiquette to d s4 #da4 ,! mo/ truly g5tlemanly man is he :o is ! mo/ unselfi%1 s ,i w\ld say 9 ! words ( ! ,rev4 ,j4 ,a4 ,james3 ,live = "s purpose 9 ! _w4 ,act y\r "p well4 ,fill up ! measure ( duty to o!rs4 ,conduct y\rselves s t y %all be miss$ ) sorr[ :5 y are gone4 ,multitudes ( our species are liv+ 9 su* a selfi% mann] t !y are n likely to be rememb]$ aft] _! disappe>ance4 ,!y leave beh9d !m sc>cely any traces ( _! exi/5ce1 b are =gott5 almo/ z ?\gh !y _h nev] be54 ,!y are :ile !y live1 l "o pebble ly+ unobs]v$ among/ a million on ! %ore2 & :5 !y die1 !y are l t same pebble ?r[n into ! sea1 :i* j ruffles ! surface1 s9ks1 & is =gott51 )\t be+ miss$ f ! bea*4 ,!y are nei!r regrett$ by ! ri*1 want$ by ! poor1 nor celebrat$ by ! le>n$4 ,:o has be5 ! bett] = _! life8 ,:o has be5 ! worse = _! dea?8 ,^: te>s h !y dri$ up8 ^: wants suppli$8 ^: mis]ies h !y heal$8 ,:o w\ld unb> ! gate ( life1 to re-admit !m to exi/5ce8 or :at face w\ld greet !m back aga9 to our _w ) a smile8 ,wret*$1 unproductive mode ( exi/5ce6 ,selfi%ness is its own curse2 x is a />v+ vice4 ,! man :o does no good1 gets none4 ,he is l ! hea? 9 ! des]t1 nei!r yield+ fruit1 nor see+ :5 good come?--a /unt$1 dw>fi%1 mis]able %rub4 #db4 ,sep>ate ! syllables ( ! ^w g5tleman1 & y w see t ! fir/ requisite mu/ be g5tl5ess--g5tle-man4 ,mack5zie says1 ,few p]sons are suffici5tly aw>e ( ! p[] ( g5tl5ess4 ,x is sl[ 9 work+1 b x is infallible 9 its results4 ,x makes no noise2 x nei!r invites att5tion1 nor provokes resi/ance2 b x is ,god's great law1 9 ! moral z 9 ! natural _w1 = accompli%+ great results4 ,! progressive dawn ( day1 ! fl[ ( ! tide1 ! lapse ( "t1 ! *anges ( ! seasons--^! are c>ri$ on by sl[ & imp]ceptible degrees1 yet _! progress & issue none c mi/ake or resi/4 ,equally c]ta9 & surpris+ are ! triumphs ( g5tl5ess4 ,x assumes no?+1 yet x c dis>m ! /\te/ opposition2 x yields1 b yield+ is ! elem5t ( its /r5g?2 x endures1 b 9 ! w>f>e victory is n ga9$ by do+1 b by suff]+4 #dc4 ,p]fect composure ( mann] requires p]fect peace ( m9d1 s y %\ld1 z f> z lies 9 human p[]1 avoid ! evils :i* make an unquiet m9d1 &1 fir/ ( all1 avoid t *eat+1 sw9dl+ process call$ runn+ 9 debt4 ,owe no man any?+2 avoid x z y w\ld avoid w>1 pe/il5ce1 & fam9e4 ,hate x ) a p]fect hatr$4 ,z y value com=t1 quiet1 & indep5d5ce1 keep out ( debt4 ,z y value a heal?y appetite1 placid temp]1 pleasant dreams1 & happy wak+s1 keep out ( debt4 ,x is ! h>de/ ( all task-ma/]s2 ! mo/ cruel ( all oppressors4 ,x is a mill-/one ab\t ! neck4 ,x is an incubus on ! he>t4 ,x furr[s ! =ehead ) premature wr9kles4 ,x drags ! nobl5ess & k9dness out ( ! port & be>+ ( a man2 x takes ! s\l out ( 8 laugh1 & all /atel9ess & fre$om f 8 walk4 ,come n1 !n1 "u its cru%+ dom9ion4 #dd4 ,speak g5tly2 a k9d refusal w (t5 w\nd less ?an a r\gh1 ungraci\s ass5t4 #de4 ,9 private1 wat* y\r ?\ghts2 9 y\r family1 wat* y\r temp]2 9 society1 wat* y\r tongue4 #df4 ,! true secret ( pleas+ all ! _w1 is to h an humble op9ion ( y\rself4 ,true goodness is inv>iably accompani$ by g5tl5ess1 c\rtesy1 & humility4 ,^? p :o are always /ick+ on _! dignity1 are cont9ually los+ fri5ds1 mak+ enemies1 & fo/]+ a _s ( unhapp9ess 9 !mselves4 #dg4 ,are y a m]*ant8 ,rememb] t ! c\nt+-h\se is no less a s*ool ( mann]s & temp] ?an a s*ool ( morals4 ,vulg>ity1 imp]i\sness1 peevi%ness1 caprice on ! "p ( ! heads1 w produce _! correspond+ effects ^u ! h\sehold4 ,"s m]*ants are petty tyrants4 ,"s are too surly to be fit = any *>ge1 unless x be t ( tam+ a %rew4 ,! co>s5ess ( o!rs1 9 mann] & language1 mu/ ei!r disgu/ or contam9ate all _! subord9ates4 ,9 "o e/abli%m5t y w enc\nt] an unmanly levity1 :i* precludes all discipl9e4 ,9 ano!r1 a mock dignity1 :i* supplies ! juv5iles ) a /&+ !me ( ridicule4 ,9 a ?ird1 a caprici\sness ( mood & temp]1 :i* rem9ds "o ( ! prophetic h9ts ( ! wea!r 9 ! old almanacks--w9dy--cool--v pleasant--blu/]+--look out = /orms--& ! l4 ,&1 9 a f\r?1 a selfi% ac]bity1 :i* exacts ! mo/ unreasonable s]vices1 & nev] *e]s a cl]k ) a ^w ( enc\ragem5t4--,^! are sad infirmities4 ,m5 ought n to h cl]ks until !y "k h[ to treat !m4 ,_! own com=t1 too1 w\ld be greatly enhanc$ by a diff]5t deportm5t4 #dh4 ,if y are ab\t to ent]1 or leave1 a /ore or any door1 & unexpect$ly meet a lady go+ ! o!r way1 /& aside & raise y\r hat :il/ %e passes4 ,if %e is go+ ! same way1 & ! door is clos$1 pass be=e h]1 say+1 all[ me1 or1 p]mit me1--op5 ! door1 & hold x op5 :il/ %e passes4 #di4 ,9 ent]+ a room :]e y w meet ladies1 take y\r hat1 cane1 & gloves 9 y\r left h&1 t y\r "r may be free to (f] to !m4 #ej4 ,nev] (f] to %ake h&s ) a lady2 %e w1 if %e wi%es y to d s1 (f] h] h& to y1 & x is an imp]t95ce = y to d s fir/4 #ea4 ,if y are seat$ 9 ! mo/ com=table *air 9 a public room1 & a lady1 an invalid1 or an old man ent]s1 rise1 & (f] y\r seat1 ev5 if !y are /rang]s to y4 ,_m m5 w att5d to ^! civilities :5 ) fri5ds or acqua9tances1 & neglect !m among/ /rang]s1 b ! true g5tleman w n wait = an introduction be=e p]=m+ an act ( c\rtesy4 #eb4 ,z bo? flatt]y & sl&] are 9 ! highe/ degree blameable & ung5tlemanly1 ,i w\ld quote ! rule ( ,bi%op ,bev]idge1 :i* effectually prev5ts bo?4 ,he says1 ,nev] speak ( a man's virtue be=e 8 face1 nor ( 8 faults beh9d 8 back4 #ec4 ,nev] ent] a room1 9 :i* !re are ladies1 aft] smok+1 until y h purifi$ bo? y\r m\?1 tee?1 hair1 & clo!s4 ,if y wi% to smoke j be=e ent]+ a saloon1 we> an old coat & c>efully bru% y\r hair & tee? be=e resum+ y\r own4 #ed4 ,nev] endeavor to attract ! att5tion ( a fri5d by nudg+ him1 t\*+ 8 foot or h& secretly1 or mak+ him a ge/ure4 ,if y _c speak to him frankly1 y _h be/ let him alone2 = ^! signals are g5]ally made ) ! int5tion ( ridicul+ a ?ird p]son1 & t is ! height ( rud5ess4 #ee4 ,button-hold+ is a common b mo/ blameable brea* ( good mann]s4 ,if a man requires to be =cibly deta9$ to li/5 to y1 y are z rude 9 ?us deta9+ him1 z if y _h put a pi/ol to 8 head & ?reat5$ to bl[ 8 bra9s out if he /irr$4 #ef4 ,x is a great piece ( rud5ess to make a rem>k 9 g5]al company1 :i* is intelligible to "o p]son only4 ,to call out1 ,george1 ,i met ,d4 ,l4 ye/]day1 & he says he w att5d to t matt]1 is z bad z if y w5t to ,george & :isp]$ 9 8 e>4 #eg4 ,9 y\r int]c\rse ) s]vants1 no?+ w m>k y z a well-br$ man1 s mu* z a g5tle1 c\rte\s mann]4 ,a reque/ w make y\r wi%es att5d$ to z quickly z a comm&1 & ?anks = a s]vice1 oil ! spr+s ( ! s]vant's labor imm5sely4 ,r\gh1 h>% comm&s may make y\r ord]s obey$ well & promptly1 b !y w be execut$ unwill+ly1 9 fe>1 &1 probably1 dislike1 :ile c\rtesy & k9dness w w9 a will+ _s z well z prompt s]vice4 #eh4 ,avoid ecc5tric conduct4 ,x does n1 z _m suppose1 m>k a man ( g5ius4 ,mo/ m5 ( true g5ius are g5tlemanly & res]v$ 9 _! int]c\rse ) o!r m51 & !re are _m fools ^: folly is call$ ecc5tricity4 #ei4 ,avoid famili>ity4 ,nei!r treat o!rs ) too great cordiality nor suff] !m to take lib]ties ) y4 ,to *eck ! famili>ity ( o!rs1 y ne$ n become /iff1 sull51 nor cold1 b y w f9d t excessive polit5ess on y\r own "p1 sometimes ) a little =mality1 w soon aba% ! intrud]4 #fj4 ,lazy1 l\ng+ attitudes 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies are v rude4 #fa4 ,x is only ! mo/ arrant coxcomb :o w boa/ ( ! favor %[n him by a lady1 speak ( h] by h] fir/ "n1 or all[ o!rs to je/ ) him ^u 8 fri5d%ip or admiration = h]4 ,if he really admires h]1 & has reason to hope = a future engagem5t ) h]1 h] "n %\ld be z sacr$ to him z if %e 7 already 8 wife2 if1 on ! contr>y1 he is n on intimate t]ms ) h]1 !n he adds a lie to 8 excessively bad bre$+1 :5 us+ h] "n famili>ly4 #fb4 ,he t c please nobody is n s mu* to be piti$ z he t nobody c please4 #fc4 ,speak )\t obscurity or affectation4 ,! fir/ is a m>k ( p$antry1 ! second a sign ( folly4 ,a wise man w speak always cle>ly & intelligibly4 #fd4 ,to betray a confid5ce is to make y\rself despicable4 ,_m ?+s are said among fri5ds :i* are n said "u a seal ( secrecy1 b are und]/ood to be confid5tial1 & a truly honorable man w nev] violate ?is tacit confid5ce4 ,x is really z sacr$ z if ! mo/ solemn promises ( sil5ce b\nd y\r tongue2 m s1 inde$1 to ! true g5tleman1 z 8 s5se ( honor1 n 8 ^w1 b9ds him4 #fe4 ,*e/]field says1 ,z le>n+1 honor1 & virtue are absolutely necess>y to ga9 y ! e/eem & admiration ( mank9d1 polit5ess & good bre$+ are equally necess>y to make y welcome & agreeable 9 conv]sation & common life4 ,great tal5ts1 su* z honor1 virtue1 le>n+1 & p>ts are above ! g5]ality ( ! _w1 :o nei!r possess !m !mselves nor judge ( !m rightly 9 o!rs2 b all p are judges ( ! less] tal5ts1 su* z civility1 affability1 & an oblig+1 agreeable address & mann]2 because !y feel ! good effects ( !m1 z mak+ society easy & pleas+4 #ff4 ,good s5se mu/1 9 _m cases1 det]m9e good bre$+2 because ! same ?+ t w\ld be civil at "o "t & to "o p]son1 may be q o!rwise at ano!r "t & to ano!r p]son4 #fg4 ,no?+ c be m ill-br$ ?an to meet a polite rem>k address$ to y1 ei!r ) inatt5tion or a rude answ]4 #fh4 ,_s is n[ a v fa%ionable ^w1 b x is t]ribly misappli$4 ,9 ! pres5t day to act ) _s & speak ) _s means to act ra%ly & speak indiscretely4 ,a g5tleman %[s 8 _s by firm1 b g5tle words & resolute actions4 ,he is spirit$ b nei!r ra% nor timid4 #fi4 ,use k9d words4 ,!y d n co/ mu*4 ,x does n take long to utt] !m4 ,!y nev] bli/] ! tongue or lips 9 _! passage into ! _w1 or occasion any o!r k9d ( bodily suff]+4 ,& we h nev] he>d ( any m5tal tr\ble aris+ f ?is qu>t]4 ,?\gh !y d n ,,co/ mu*1 yet !y ,,accompli% mu*4 ,!y help "o's own good nature & good w4 ,"o _c be 9 a habit ( ?is k9d1 )\t !reby pick+ away some?+ ( ! granite r\ghness ( 8 own nature4 ,s(t words w s(t5 8 own s\l4 ,philosoph]s tell u t ! angry words a man uses1 9 8 passion1 are fuel to ! flame ( 8 wra?1 & make x blaze ! m fi]cely4 ,:y1 !n1 %\ld n words ( ! opposite "* produce opposite results1 & t mo/ bless$ ( all passions ( ! s\l1 k9dness1 be augm5t$ by k9d words8 ,p t are =ev] speak+ k9dly1 are =ev] dis9cl9+ !mselves to ill-temp]4 ,k9d words make o!r p good natur$4 ,cold words freeze p1 & hot words scor* !m1 & s>ca/ic words irritate !m1 & bitt] words make !m bitt]1 & wra?ful words make !m wra?ful4 ,& k9d words also produce _! own image on m5's s\ls4 ,& a beautiful image x is4 ,!y soo!1 & quiet1 & com=t ! he>]4 ,!y %ame him out ( 8 s\r1 morose1 unk9d feel+s1 & he has to become k9d himself4 ,!re is su* a ru% ( all o!r k9d ( words1 9 our days1 t x seems desirable to give k9d words a *ance among !m4 ,!re are va9 words1 & idle words1 & ha/y words1 & spiteful words1 & silly words1 & empty words4 ,n[1 k9d words are bett] ?an ! :ole ( !m1 & x is a pity t1 among ! improvem5ts ( ! pres5t age1 birds ( ?is fea!r might n h m *ance ?an !y h _h to spread _! w+s4 ,k9d words are 9 dang] ( be+ driv5 f ! field1 l fright5$ pigeons1 9 ^! days ( boi/]\s words1 & w>like words1 & passionate words4 ,!y h n ! brass to /& up1 l s _m gr5adi]s1 & fight _! own way among ! ?rong4 ,besides1 !y h be5 out ( use s long1 t !y h>dly "k :e!r !y h any "r to make _! appe>ance any m 9 our bu/l+ _w2 n kn[+ b t1 p]haps1 ! _w 0 done ) !m1 & w\ld n l _! company any m4 ,let u welcome !m back4 ,we h n done ) !m4 ,we h n yet begun to use !m 9 su* abundance z !y ought to be us$4 ,we _c sp>e !m4 #gj4 ,! fir/ /ep t[>ds pleas+ e "o is to endeavor to (f5d no "o4 ,to give pa9 by a light or je/+ rem>k is z mu* a brea* ( etiquette1 z to give pa9 by a w\nd made ) a /eel weapon1 is a brea* ( humanity4 #ga4 ,a g5tleman w nev] use 8 tongue to rail & brawl aga9/ any "o2 to speak evil ( o!rs 9 _! abs5ce2 to exagg]ate any ( 8 /atem5ts2 to speak h>%ly to *ildr5 or to ! poor2 to swe>1 lie1 or use improp] language2 to haz>d r&om & improbable /atem5ts2 to speak ra%ly or viol5tly ^u any subject2 to deceive p by circulat+ false reports1 or to (f] up lip-s]vice 9 religion4 ,b he w use x to convey to mank9d useful in=mation2 to in/ruct 8 family & o!rs :o ne$ x2 to w>n & reprove ! wick$2 to com=t & console ! afflict$2 to *e] ! timid & fe>ful2 to def5d ! innoc5t & oppress$2 to plead = ! wid[ & orphan2 to congratulate ! success ( ! virtu\s1 & to confess1 te>fully & pray]fully1 8 faults4 #gb4 ,*e/]field says1 ,civility is p>ticul>ly due to all wom52 &1 rememb]1 t no provocation :atsoev] c ju/ify any man 9 n be+ civil to e woman2 & ! greate/ man w\ld ju/ly be reckon$ a brute if he 7 n civil to ! meane/ woman4 ,x is due to _! sex1 & is ! only protection !y h aga9/ ! sup]ior /r5g? ( ours2 nay1 ev5 a little is all[able ) wom53 & a man may1 )\t weakness1 tell a wom5 %e is ei!r h&som] or wis] ?an %e is4 7,*e/]field w\ld n h said ?is 9 ! pres5t age ( /rong m9d$1 s5sible wom547 #gc4 ,!re is mu* tact & good bre$+ to be display$ 9 ! correction ( any little error t may occur 9 conv]sation4 ,to say1 %ortly1--,y are wrong6 ,i "k bett]6 is rude1 & y\r fri5ds w mu* m readily admit an error if y say c\rte\sly & g5tly1 ,p>don me1 b ,i mu/ take ! lib]ty ( correct+ y1 or1 ,y w all[ me1 ,i am sure1 to tell y t y\r in=mant made an error4 ,if su* an error is ( no real importance1 x is bett] to let x pass unnotic$4 #gd4 ,intimate fri5ds & relations %\ld be c>eful :5 !y g out into ! _w toge!r1 or admit o!rs to _! own circle1 t !y d n make a bad use ( ! k :i* !y h ga9$ ( ea* o!r by _! intimacy4 ,no?+ is m common ?an ?is2 &1 did x n mo/ly proce$ f m]e c>elessness1 x w\ld be sup]latively ung5]\s4 ,y seldom ne$ wait = ! writt5 life ( a man to he> ab\t 8 weaknesses1 or :at are suppos$ to be su*1 if y "k 8 intimate fri5ds1 or meet him 9 company ) !m4 #ge4 ,9 mak+ y\r fir/ visit any:]e1 y w be less apt to (f5d by be+ too c]emoni\s1 ?an by be+ too famili>4 #gf4 ,) y\r fri5ds rememb] ! old prov]b1 t1 ,famili>ity bre$s contempt4 #gg4 ,if y meet1 9 society1 ) any "o1 be x a g5tleman or a lady1 ^: timidity or ba%fulness1 %[s !m unaccu/om$ to meet+ o!rs1 endeavor1 by y\r own g5tl5ess & c\rtesy1 to place !m m at ease1 & introduce to !m ^? :o w aid y 9 ?is endeavor4 #gh4 ,if1 :5 walk+ ) a g5tleman fri5d1 y meet a lady to :om y\r fri5d b[s1 y1 too1 mu/ t\* or raise y\r hat1 ?\gh y are n acqua9t$ ) ! lady4 #gi4 ,al?\gh x is n[ v mu* ! cu/om1 9 _m weal?y families1 = ! butl] to remove ! di%es f ! table & c>ve !m on ! sidebo>d1 ?us sav+ tr\ble to ! ma/] or mi/ress ( ! h\se1 & "t to ! gue/s1 ! practice is n s g5]al ev5 among/ :at are call$ ! high] classes ( society t g5]al in/ructions = c>v+ w be un9t]e/+ to !m1 to say no?+ ( ! m num]\s class1 :o1 al?\gh enabl$ to place good di%es be=e _! fri5ds1 are n weal?y en\gh to keep a butl] if !y 7 s incl9$4 ,good c>v+ is1 to a c]ta9 ext5t1 indicative ( good society1 = x proves to company t ! ho/ does n give a d9n] p>ty = ! fir/ "t1 b is accu/om$ to receive fri5ds1 & frequ5tly to disp5se ! *e] ( a hospitable bo>d4 ,! ma/] or mi/ress ( a h\se1 :o does n "k h[ to c>ve1 is n unfrequ5tly look$ ^u z an ignorant p>v5u1 z a p]son :o _c take a h& at :i/1 9 good society1 is reg>d$ z "o :o has pass$ 8 "t 9 ! p>lor ( a public h\se1 play+ at cribbage or all f\rs4 ,indep5d5tly1 h[ev]1 ( ! importance ( kn[+ h[ to c>ve well1 = ! purpose ( regal+ "o's fri5ds & acqua9tances1 ! sci5ce1 & x is a sci5ce1 is a valuable acquirem5t = any man1 z x enables him1 at a public or private d9n]1 to r5d] valuable aid4 ,!re are _m d9]s-out :o are welcome m]ely because !y "k h[ to c>ve4 ,"s m5 amuse by _! conv]sation2 o!rs are favorites because !y c s+ a good song2 b ! man :o makes himself useful & agreeable to all1 is he :o c>ves ) elegance & spe$4 ,we recomm5d ! novice 9 ?is art1 to keep a wat*ful eye ^u e sup]ior c>v] :om he may meet at d9n]4 ,9 ?is way he w soon become well v]s$ 9 ! art & my/]y ( cutt+ up4 #hj4 ,ye>s may pass ov] our heads )\t af=d+ an opportunity = acts ( high b5efic5ce or ext5sive utility2 :]eas1 n a day passes1 b 9 common transactions ( life1 &1 especially 9 ! int]c\rse ( society1 c\rtesy f9ds place = promot+ ! happ9ess ( o!rs1 & = /r5g!n+ 9 ourselves ! habits ( unselfi% polit5ess4 ,!re are situations1 n a few1 9 human life1 :5 an enc\rag+ reception1 a condesc5d+ behavi\r1 & a look ( sympa?y1 br+ great] relief to ! he>t ?an ! mo/ b\ntiful gift4 #ha4 ,cecil says1 ,y may easily make a s5sation--b a s5sation is a vulg> triumph4 ,to keep up ! s5sation ( an excitem5t1 y mu/ be always /&+ on y\r head 7morally speak+71 & ! attitude1 l ev]y?+ ov]/ra9$1 w\ld become fatigu+ to y\rself & t$i\s to o!rs4 ,:]eas1 to obta9 p]man5t favor1 z an agreeable1 well-br$ man1 requires simply an ex]cise ( ! und]/&+4 #hb4 ,!re is no vice m truly ung5tlemanly ?an t ( us+ pr(ane language4 ,lamont says3 ,:atev] =tune may be made by p]jury1 ,i believe !re nev] 0 a man :o made a =tune by common swe>+4 ,x (t5 appe>s t m5 pay = swe>+1 b x seldom happ5s t !y are paid = x4 ,x is n easy to p]ceive :at honor or cr$it is connect$ ) x4 ,does any man receive promotion because he is a notable blu/]]8 ,or is any man advanc$ to dignity because he is exp]t at pr(ane swe>+8 ,nev]4 ,l[ mu/ be ! "* :i* su* imp]t95ce w exalt3 high mu/ be ! "* :i* su* imp]t95ce w n degrade4 ,inexcusable1 !re=e1 mu/ be ! practice :i* has nei!r reason nor passion to support x4 ,! drunk>d has 8 cups2 ! satiri/1 8 rev5ge2 ! ambiti\s man1 8 pref]m5ts2 ! mis]1 8 gold2 b ! common swe>] has no?+2 he is a fool at l>ge1 sells 8 s\l = n\ght1 & drudges 9 ! s]vice ( ! devil gratis4 ,swe>+ is void ( all plea2 x is n ! native (fspr+ ( ! s\l1 nor int]wov5 ) ! texture ( ! body1 nor1 anyh[1 alli$ to our frame4 ,=1 z ,tillotson expresses x1 ',?\gh "s m5 p\r out oa?s z if !y 7 natural1 yet no man 0 ev] born ( a swe>+ con/itution4' ,b x is a cu/om1 a l[ & a paltry cu/om1 pick$ up by l[ & paltry spirits :o h no s5se ( honor1 no reg>d to dec5cy1 b are =c$ to sub/itute "s rhapsody ( nons5se to supply ! vacancy ( good s5se4 ,h5ce1 ! sill9ess ( ! practice c only be equall$ by ! sill9ess ( ^? :o adopt x4 #hc4 ,dr4 ,johnson says t to conv]se well !re mu/1 9 ! fir/ place1 be k--!re mu/ be mat]ials2 9 ! second place1 !re mu/ be a comm& ( words2 9 ! ?ird place1 !re mu/ be imag9ation to place ?+s 9 su* views z !y are n commonly se5 92 &1 9 ! f\r? place1 !re mu/ be a pres5ce ( m9d1 & a resolution t is n to be ov]come by failure--?is la/ is an ess5tial requisite2 = want ( x1 _m p d n excel 9 conv]sation4 #hd4 ,d n con/antly endeavor to draw ! att5tion ( all ^u y\rself :5 9 company4 ,leave room = y\r he>]s to imag9e some?+ )9 y beyond :at y speak2 &1 rememb]1 ! m y are prais$ ! m y w be envi$4 #he4 ,be v c>eful to treat ) att5tion & respect ^? :o h lately met ) mis=tunes1 or h suff]$ f loss ( =tune4 ,su* p]sons are apt to ?9k !mselves slight$1 :5 no su* ?+ is int5d$4 ,_! m9ds1 be+ already sore1 feel ! lea/ rub v sev]ely1 & :o w\ld ?us cruelly add affliction to ! afflict$8 ,n ! g5tleman c]ta9ly4 #hf4 ,!re is h>dly any bodily blemi% :i* a w9n+ behavior w n conceal or make tol]able2 & !re is no ext]nal grace :i* ill-nature or affectation w n de=m4 #hg4 ,good humor is ! only %ield to keep (f ! d>ts ( ! satiri/2 b if y are ! fir/ to laugh at a je/ made ^u y\rself1 o!rs w laugh ) y in/ead ( at y4 #hh4 ,:5ev] y see a p]son insult 8 inf]iors1 y may feel assur$ t he is ! man :o w be s]vile & cr++ to 8 sup]iors2 & he :o acts ! bully to ! weak1 w play ! c[>d :5 ) ! /rong4 #hi4 ,ma9ta91 9 e ^w1 a /rict reg>d = p]fect tru?4 ,d n ?9k ( "o falsity z h>mless1 ano!r z slight1 a ?ird z un9t5d$4 ,ca/ !m all aside4 ,!y may be light & accid5tal1 b !y are an ugly soot f ! smoke ( ! pit = all t1 & x is bett] to h y\r he>t swept clean ( !m1 )\t /opp+ to consid] :e!r !y are l>ge & black4 #ij4 ,! advantage & necessity ( *e]fulness & intellig5t int]c\rse ) ! _w is /rongly to be recomm5d$4 ,a man :o keeps alo( f society & lives only = himself1 does n fulfil ! wise int5tions ( ,provid5ce1 :o design$ t we %\ld be a mutual help & com=t to ea* o!r 9 life4 #ia4 ,*e/]field says1 ,m]it & good bre$+ w make _! way ev]y:]e4 ,k w introduce man1 & good bre$+ w ende> him to ! be/ companies2 =1 polit5ess & good bre$+ are absolutely necess>y to adorn any1 or all1 o!r good qualities or tal5ts4 ,)\t !m1 no k1 no p]fection :atev]1 is se5 9 its be/ light4 ,! s*ol>1 )\t good bre$+1 is a p$ant2 ! philosoph]1 a cynic2 ! soldi]1 a brute2 & e man disagreeable4 #ib4 ,x is v seldom t a man may p]mit himself to tell /ories 9 society2 !y are1 g5]ally1 t$i\s1 &1 to _m pres5t1 w probably h all ! we>9ess ( a twice-told tale4 ,a %ort1 brilliant anecdote1 :i* is especially applicable to ! conv]sation go+ on1 is all t a well-br$ man w ev] p]mit himself to inflict4 #ic4 ,x is bett] to take ! tone ( ! society into :i* y are ?r[n1 ?an to endeavor to lead o!rs aft] y4 ,! way to become truly popul> is to be grave ) ! grave1 je/ ) ! gay1 & conv]se s5sibly ) ^? :o seek to display _! s5se4 #id4 ,wat* ea* ( y\r actions1 :5 9 society1 t all ! habits :i* y contract !re may be useful & good ones4 ,l flakes ( sn[ t fall unp]ceiv$ ^u ! e>?1 ! seem+ly unimportant ev5ts ( life succe$ "o ano!r4 ,z ! sn[ ga!rs toge!r1 s are our habits =m$4 ,no s+le flake t is add$ to ! pile produces a s5sible *ange--no s+le action creates1 h[ev] x may exhibit1 a man's "*2 b1 z ! tempe/ hurls ! avalan*e d[n ! m\nta91 & ov]:elms ! inhabitant & 8 habitation1 s passion1 act+ ^u ! elem5ts ( mis*ief1 :i* p]nici\s habits h br\ght toge!r by imp]ceptible accumulation1 may ov]?r[ ! edifice ( tru? & virtue4 #ie4 ,!re is no great] fault 9 good bre$+ ?an too great diffid5ce4 ,%yness cramps e motion1 clogs e ^w4 ,! only way to ov]come ! fault is to mix con/antly 9 society1 & ! habitual int]c\rse ) o!rs w give y ! graceful ease ( mann] :i* %yness utt]ly de/roys4 #if4 ,if y are oblig$ to leave a l>ge company at an e>ly h\r1 take ,fr5* leave4 ,slip away unp]ceiv$1 if y c1 b1 at any rate1 )\t any =mal leave-tak+4 #ig4 ,avoid qu>rels4 ,if y are conv9c$1 ev51 t y h ! "r side 9 an argum5t1 yield y\r op9ion gracefully1 if ?is is ! only way to avoid a qu>rel1 say+1 ,we _c agree1 ,i see1 b ?is inability mu/ n deprive me ( a fri5d1 s we w discuss ! subject no fur!r4 ,few m5 w be able to resi/ y\r c\rtesy & good nature1 b _m w\ld try to combat an ob/9ate adh]5ce to y\r own side ( ! "q4 #ih4 ,avoid ! fil?y habit ( :i* =eign]s 9 ?is c\ntry s ju/ly compla9--,i mean spitt+4 #ii4 ,if any "o b[s to y 9 ! /reet1 return ! b[4 ,x may be an acqua9tance ^: face y d n imm$iately recognize1 & if x is a /rang] :o mi/akes y = ano!r1 y\r c\rte\s b[ w relieve him f ! emb>rassm5t aris+ f 8 mi/ake4 #ajj4 ,! foll[+ h9ts on conv]sation conclude ! *apt]3-- ,conv]sation may be c>ri$ on successfully by p]sons :o h no idea t x is or may be an art1 z clev] ?+s are sometimes done )\t /udy4 ,b !re c be no c]ta9ty ( good conv]sation 9 ord9>y circum/ances1 & among/ ord9>y m9ds1 unless c]ta9 rules be obs]v$1 & c]ta9 errors be avoid$4 ,! fir/ & greate/ rule unque/ionably is1 t all mu/ be favorably dispos$ t[>ds ea* o!r1 & will+ to be pleas$4 ,!re mu/ be no sull5 or uneasy-look+ p]son--no "o :o evid5tly ?9ks he has fall5 into unsuitable company1 & ^: sole aim x is to take c>e le/ 8 dignity be injur$--no "o ^: feel+s are ( s morose or ascetic a k9d t he _c jo9 )\t obs]vable pa9 & hesitation 9 ! playfulness ( ! sc5e--no matt]-(-fact p]son1 :o takes all ?+s lit]ally1 & means all ?+s lit]ally1 & ?9ks x z great a crime to say some?+ 9 je/ z to d x 9 e>ne/4 ,"o ( any ( ^! classes ( p]sons is suffici5t to m> ! enjoym5ts ( a hundr$4 ,! matt]-(-facti% may d v well ) ! matt]-(-facti%1 ! morose ) ! morose1 ! /ilt$ ) ! /ilt$2 & !y %\ld accord+ly keep among/ !mselves respectively4 ,b1 = :at is g5]ally recogniz$ z agreeable conv]sation1 m9ds exempt$ f ^! peculi>ities are requir$4 ,! ord9>y rules ( polit5ess are1 ( c\rse1 necess>y--no rud5ess1 no (f5ce to ea* o!r's self-e/eem2 on ! contr>y1 mu* mutual def]5ce is requir$1 9 ord] to keep all ! elem5ts ( a company sweet4 ,sometimes1 h[ev]1 !re is a v turbid k9d ( conv]sation1 :]e !re is no want ( common good bre$+4 ,?is1 mo/ frequ5tly1 arises f !re be+ too great a disposition to speak1 & too small a disposition to li/54 ,too _m are eag] to get _! ideas express$1 or to attract att5tion2 & ! consequ5ce is1 t no?+ is he>d b brok5 snat*es & fragm5ts ( disc\rse1 9 :i* !re is nei!r pr(it nor ent]ta9m5t4 ,no man li/5s to :at ano!r has to say1 & !n makes a relative or additionally illu/rative rem>k4 ,"o may be he>d = a m9ute1 or half a m9ute1 b x is ) manife/ impati5ce2 & ! mom5t he is done1 or /ops to draw brea?1 ! o!r plunges 9 ) :at he _h to say1 be+ some?+ q ( ano!r /ra91 & ref]r+ to ano!r subject4 ,he 9 8 turn is int]rupt$ by a ?ird1 ) ! enunciation ( "s favorite ideas ( 81 equally irrelative2 & ?us conv]sation becomes no conv]sation1 b a cont5tion = p]mission to speak a few hurri$ words1 :i* nobody c>es to he>1 or takes ! tr\ble to answ]4 ,mean:ile1 ! mode/ & weak sit sil5t & ungratifi$4 ,! want ( regulation is "h v manife/4 ,x w\ld be bett] to h a presid5t :o %\ld all[ ev]ybody a m9ute 9 succession to speak )\t int]ruption1 ?an ?us to h fre$om1 & s mon/r\sly to abuse x4 ,! only rem$y1 z f> z meet+s by invitation are conc]n$1 is to take c>e t no m eag] talk]s are introduc$ ?an are absolutely necess>y to prev5t conv]sation f flagg+4 ,"o to e six or eight p]sons is ! utmo/ t c be safely all[$4 ,! dang] ( introduc+ politics1 or any o!r notori\sly controv]sial subject1 9 mix$ companies1 is s g5]ally ackn[l$g$1 t conv]sation is 9 little dang]--at lea/ 9 polite circles--f t s\rce4 ,b wranglem5ts1 nev]!less1 are apt to arise4 ,v frequ5tly ! company falls toge!r by ! e>s 9 consequ5ce ( ! />t+ ( "s topic 9 :i* facts are conc]n$--) :i* facts no "o *ances to be acqua9t$4 ,conv]sation is (t5 mu* spoilt ?r\gh slight inatt5tions or misappreh5sions on ! "p ( a p>ticul> memb] ( ! company4 ,9 ! mid/ ( "s int]e/+ n>rative or discussion1 he sudd5ly puts all to a /op1 9 ord] t "s little p]plexity may be expla9$1 :i* he c\ld nev] h fall5 into1 if he _h be5 pay+ a fair degree ( att5tion to :at 0 go+ on4 ,or he has "s preci\s prejudice j>r$ ^u by some?+ said1 or suppos$ to be said1 & all is at a /&1 till he has be51 ?r\gh ! unit$ ex]tions ( a vex$ company1 re-assur$ & put at 8 ease4 ,(t5 ! mo/ frivol\s int]ruption f su* causes w disconc]t ! :ole /ra9 ( ! conv]sation1 & spoil ! enjoym5t ( a score ( p4 ,! eag] speak]s1 already allud$ to1 are a diff]5t class f ^? :o may be call$ ! det]m9$ly loquaci\s4 ,a ?or\ghly loquaci\s man has no idea ( any?+ b a con/ant outp\r+ ( talk f 8 own m\?4 ,if he /ops = a mom5t1 he ?9ks he is n do+ 8 duty to ! company2 &1 anxi\s t !re %\ld be no cause ( compla9t aga9/ him on t score1 he r repeats a s5t5ce1 or gives ! same idea 9 diff]5t words1 or hums & haws a little1 ?an all[ ! lea/ pause to take place4 ,! notion t any o!r body c be desir\s ( say+ a ^w1 nev] ent]s 8 head4 ,he w\ld z soon suppose t a begg> 0 anxi\s to be/[ alms ^u him1 z t any "o c\ld wi% to speak1 z long z he himself 0 will+ to save !m ! tr\ble4 ,any attempt to int]rupt him is q hopeless4 ,! only effect ( ! s\nd ( ano!r voice is to raise ! s\nd ( 8 own1 s z to dr[n x4 ,ev5 to give a slight twi/ or turn to ! fl[ ( 8 ideas1 is sc>ce possible4 ,:5 a decid$ attempt is made to get 9 a few words1 he only says1 ) an air ( (f5d$ feel+1 set (f ) a t>t c\rtesy1 ',all[ me1 sir1' or1 ',:5 y are done1 sir2' z if he 7 a man :om nobody w\ld all[1 on any occasion1 to say all he _h to say4 ,if1 h[ev]1 he has be5 p]mitt$ to talk on & on incessantly a :ole ev5+1 to ! complete clos+ ( ! m\?s ( ! re/1 he goes away ) all ! b5evol5t gl[ ( feel+ :i* arises f a gratifi$ faculty1 rem>k+ to ! g5tleman :o takes 8 arm1 ',:at a great deal ( pleasant conv]sation we h _h6' & *att]s =? all ! way home su* s5t5ces z1 ',excell5t fell[1 our ho/1' '*>m+ wife1' 'delightful family altoge!r1' 'always make ev]ybody s happy4' ,ano!r class ( spoil]s ( conv]sation are ! l\d talk]s or blu/]]s4 ,!y are n num]\s1 b "o is en\gh to de/roy ! com=t ( ?irty p = a :ole ev5+4 ,! lea/ opposition to any ( 8 ideas makes ! blu/]] rise 9 8 might1 & bell[1 & ro>1 & bell[ aga91 till ! :ole company is 9 some?+ l ! condition ( neas's fleet aft] ,eolus has done 8 wor/4 ,! society enjoy$ by ?is k9d ( man is a s]ies ( fir/ invitations4 ,:ile blu/]]s & det]m9$ly loquaci\s p]sons are be/ left to !mselves1 & :ile endless worry+s on unkn[n ?+s are to be avoid$1 x is necess>y bo? t "o or two good conv]sationi/s %\ld be at e p>ty1 & t ! /ra9 ( ! conv]sation %\ld n be all[$ to become too tame4 ,9 all invit$ p>ties1 eight ( e t5 p]sons are dispos$ to hold _! peace1 or to conf9e !mselves to monosyllabic answ]s to commonplace inquiries4 ,x is necess>y1 !re=e1 t !re %\ld be "s :o c speak1 & t flu5tly1 if n ent]ta9+ly--only n too _m4 ,b all engross+ ( conv]sation1 & all turbul5ce1 & ov]-eag]ness1 & egotism1 are to be condemn$4 ,a v s(t & quiet mann] has1 at la/1 be5 settl$ ^u1 9 ! m elevat$ circles1 z ! be/ = conv]sation4 ,p]haps !y c>ry x to a pit* ( affectation2 b1 yet1 :5 we obs]ve ! injuri\s consequ5ces ( ! opposite /yle 9 less polite companies1 x is n easy to avoid ! conclusion t ! great folks are1 ^u ! :ole1 "r4 ,9 ! c\rtly sc5e1 no "o has 8 e>s (f5d$ ) l\d & discordant tones1 no "o is condemn$ to absolute sil5ce4 ,all display 9 conv]sation w n dep5d on ! accid5tal & ext]nal quality ( /r5g? ( voice1 z x mu/ d :]e a l\d & cont5ti\s /yle ( talk+ is all[$2 ! s(t-ton$ & ! weak-lung$ w h z good a *ance z _! m robu/ neighbors2 & x w be possible = all bo? to speak & to he>4 ,!re may be ano!r advantage 9 its be+ likely to produce less m5tal excitem5t ?an ! m turbul5t k9d ( society4 ,b regulation is1 we are p]suad$1 ! ?+ mo/ ( all want$ 9 ! conv]sational meet+s ( ! middle classes4 ,p int]rupt ea* o!r too mu*--are too apt to run away into _! own favorite !mes1 )\t c>+ = ! topic ( _! neighbors--too frequ5tly wrangle ab\t trifles4 ,! regul>ity ( a debat+ society w\ld be intol]able2 b "s c]ta9 degree ( me?od might c]ta9ly be introduc$ ) great advantage4 ,!re %\ld1 at lea/1 be a vigor\s en=cem5t ( ! rule aga9/ m ?an "o speak+ at a "t1 ev5 ?\gh none ( ^? wait+ = _! turn %\ld li/5 to a ^w he says4 ,)\t ?is !re may be mu* talk1 & ev5 "s m]rim5t1 b no conv]sation4 ,,*apt] ,,xii4 ,,p>ties4 ,n[1 !re are _m diff]5t k9ds ( p>ties4 ,!re are ! ev5+ p>ty1 ! mat9e1 ! read+1 danc+1 & s++ p>ties1 ! picnic1 ! boat+1 & ! rid+ p>ties2 & ! duties = ea* "o are di/9ct1 yet1 9 _m po9ts1 simil>4 ,our pres5t subject is3-- ,,! ,,ev5+ ,,p>ty4 ,^! are ( two k9ds1 l>ge & small4 ,= ! fir/1 y w receive a =mal c>d1 conta9+ ! complim5ts ( y\r ho/ess = a c]ta9 ev5+1 & ?is calls = full dress1 a dress coat1 & :ite or v light gloves4 ,to ! small p>ty y w probably be invit$ v]bally1 or by a m famili> /yle ( note ?an ! complim5t c>d4 ,"h y may we> gloves if y w1 b y ne$ n d s unless p]fectly agreeable to y\rself4 ,if y are to act z escort to a lady1 y mu/ call at ! h\r %e *ooses to "n1 & ! mo/ elegant way is to take a c>riage = h]4 ,if y wi% to pres5t a b\quet1 y may d s ) p]fect propriety1 ev5 if y h b a slight acqua9tance ) h]4 ,:5 y rea* ! h\se ( y\r ho/ess = ! ev5+1 escort y\r companion to ! dress+-room1 & leave h] at ! door4 ,aft] y h deposit$ y\r own hat & great-coat 9 ! g5tlem5's dress+-room1 return to ! ladies' door & wait = y\r companion4 ,(f] h] y\r "r arm1 & lead h] to ! draw+-room1 &1 at once1 to ! ho/ess1 !n take h] to a seat1 & rema9 ) h] until %e has o!r companions1 be=e y seek any ( y\r own fri5ds 9 ! room4 ,!re is mu* m real enjoym5t & sociability 9 a well-arrang$ p>ty1 ?an 9 a ball1 ?\gh _m ( ! po9ts ( etiquette to be obs]v$ 9 ! latt] are equally applicable to ! =m]4 ,!re is m "t all[$ = conv]sation1 &1 z !re are n s _m p collect$1 !re is also m opportunity = =m+ acqua9tances4 ,at a soire1 p> excell5ce1 music1 danc+1 & conv]sation are all admissible1 & if ! ho/ess has tact & discretion ?is v>iety is v pleas+4 ,z !re are _m times :5 !re is no piani/ or music engag$ = danc+1 y w d well1 if y are a p]=m] on ! piano-=te1 to le>n "s quadrilles1 & r\nd dances1 t y may volunte] y\r s]vices z or*e/ra4 ,d n1 9 ?is case1 wait to be solicit$ to play1 b (f] y\r s]vices to ! ho/ess1 or1 if !re is a lady at ! piano1 ask p]mission to relieve h]4 ,to turn ! leaves = ano!r1 & sometimes call figures1 are also good natur$ & well-br$ actions4 ,!re is "o piece ( rud5ess v common at p>ties1 aga9/ :i* ,i w\ld caution y4 ,"y p v (t5 =m a gr\p1 & indulge 9 ! mo/ boi/]\s m]rim5t & l\d laught]1 = je/s kn[n only to !mselves4 ,d n jo9 su* a gr\p4 ,a well-br$ man1 :ile he is *e]ful & gay1 w avoid any appe>ance ( romp+ 9 society4 ,if danc+ is to be ! amusem5t = ! ev5+1 y\r fir/ dance %\ld be ) ! lady :om y accompani$1 !n1 invite y\r ho/ess1 &1 if !re are sev]al ladies 9 ! family y mu/ invite ea* ( !m once1 9 ! c\rse ( ! ev5+4 ,if y g alone1 invite ! ladies ( ! h\se be=e danc+ ) any ( y\r o!r lady fri5ds4 ,nev] attempt any dance ) :i* y are n p]fectly famili>4 ,no?+ is m awkw>d & annoy+ ?an to h "o danc]1 by 8 ignorance ( ! figures1 confuse all ! o!rs 9 ! set1 & c]ta9ly no man wants to %[ (f 8 ignorance ( ! /eps ( a r\nd dance be=e a room full ( company4 ,d n devote y\rself too mu* to "o lady4 ,a p>ty is meant to promote sociability1 & a man :o p]si/s 9 a tte--tte = ! ev5+1 de/roys ?is int5tion4 ,besides y prev5t o!rs f enjoy+ ! pleasure ( int]c\rse ) ! lady y ?us monopolize4 ,avoid any affectation ( great intimacy ) any lady pres5t2 & ev5 if y really enjoy su* intimacy1 or %e is a relative1 d n appe> to h confid5tial conv]sation1 or1 9 any o!r way1 affect airs ( secrecy or great famili>ity4 ,dance easily & gracefully1 keep+ p]fect "t1 b n tak+ too great pa9s ) y\r /eps4 ,if y\r :ole att5tion is giv5 to y\r feet or c>riage1 y w probably be mi/ak5 = a danc+ ma/]4 ,:5 y conduct y\r p>tn] to a seat aft] a dance1 y may sit or /& beside h] to conv]se1 unless y see t ano!r g5tleman is wait+ to invite h] to dance4 ,d n take ! vacant seat next a lady unless y are acqua9t$ ) h]4 ,aft] danc+1 d n (f] y\r h&1 b y\r arm1 to conduct y\r p>tn] to h] seat4 ,if music is call$ = & y are able to play or s+1 d s :5 fir/ invit$1 or1 if y refuse !n1 d n aft]w>ds comply4 ,if y refuse1 & !n alt] y\r m9d y w ei!r be consid]$ a va9 coxcomb1 :o likes to be urg$2 or "s w conclude t y refus$ at fir/ f m]e caprice1 =1 if y _h a good reason = decl9+1 :y *ange y\r m9d8 ,nev] (f] to turn ! leaves ( music = any "o play+1 unless y c read ! notes1 = y run ! risk ( confus+ !m1 by turn+ too soon or too late4 ,if y s+ a good second1 nev] s+ ) a lady unless %e h]self invites y4 ,h] fri5ds may wi% to he> y s+ toge!r1 :5 %e h]self may n wi% to s+ ) "o to ^: voice & "t %e is unaccu/om$4 ,d n />t a conv]sation :il/ any "o is ei!r play+ or s++1 & if ano!r p]son comm5ces "o1 speak 9 a tone t w n prev5t o!rs f li/5+ to ! music4 ,if y play y\rself1 d n wait = sil5ce 9 ! room be=e y beg94 ,if y play well1 ^? really fond ( music w cease to conv]se1 & li/5 to y2 & ^? :o d n c>e = x1 w n /op talk+ if y wait ^u ! piano /ool until day dawn4 ,relatives %\ld avoid ea* o!r at a p>ty1 z !y c enjoy "o ano!r's society at home1 & x is ! con/antly *ang+ int]c\rse1 & complete sociability t make a p>ty pleasant4 ,private conc]ts & amateur !atricals are v (t5 ! occasions = ev5+ p>ties1 & make a v pleasant v>iety on ! usual danc+ & small talk4 ,an ,engli% writ]1 speak+ ( !m1 says3 ,private conc]ts & amateur !atricals ought to be v good to be successful4 ,pr(essionals alone %\ld be engag$ = ! =m]1 none b real amateurs = ! latt]4 ,bo? ought to be1 b r>ely are1 foll[$ by a supp]1 s9ce !y are g5]ally v fatigu+1 if n positively try+4 ,9 any case1 refre%m5ts & ices %\ld be h&$ betwe5 ! songs & ! acts4 ,private conc]ts are (t5 giv5 9 ! 'morn+1' t is1 f two to six ,p4 ,m42 9 ! ev5+ _! h\rs are f eight to elev54 ,! rooms %\ld be arrang$ 9 ! same mann] z = a reception1 ! gue/s %\ld be seat$1 & z music is ! av[$ object1 a g5]al sil5ce pres]v$ :ile x la/s4 ,betwe5 ! songs ! conv]sation ebbs back aga91 & ! p>ty takes ! g5]al =m ( a reception4 ,= private !atricals1 h[ev]1 :]e !re is no special !atre1 & :]e ! curta9 is hung1 z is mo/ common1 betwe5 ! fold+-doors1 ! audi5ce-room mu/ be fill$ ) *airs & b5*es 9 r[s1 &1 if possible1 ! back r[s rais$ high] ?an ! o!rs4 ,^! are (t5 remov$ :5 ! p]=mance is ov]1 & ! gue/s !n conv]se1 or1 sometimes1 ev5 dance4 ,dur+ ! act+ x is rude to talk1 except 9 a v l[ tone1 &1 be x good or bad1 y w\ld nev] ?9k ( hiss+4 ,if y are alone1 & oblig$ to retire e>ly f an ev5+ p>ty1 d n take leave ( y\r ho/ess1 b slip away unp]ceiv$4 ,if y h escort$ a lady1 h] "t mu/ be y\rs1 & %e w tell y :5 %e is ready to g4 ,see :e!r ! c>riage has arriv$ be=e %e goes to ! dress+-room1 & return to ! p>lor to tell h]4 ,if ! wea!r 0 pleasant :5 y left home1 & y walk$1 asc]ta9 :e!r x is /ill pleasant2 if n1 procure a c>riage = y\r companion4 ,:5 x is at ! door1 jo9 h] 9 ! draw+-room1 & (f] y\r arm to lead h] to ! ho/ess = leave-tak+1 mak+ y\r own p>t+ b[ at ! same "t1 !n take y\r companion to ! door ( ! ladies' dress+-room1 get y\r own hat & wait 9 ! entry until %e comes out4 ,:5 y rea* y\r companion's h\se1 d n accept h] invitation to ent]1 b ask p]mission to call 9 ! morn+1 or ! foll[+ ev5+1 & make t call4 ,,*apt] ,,xiii4 ,,c\rtesy ,,at ,,home4 ,!re are _m m5 9 ?is _w1 :o w\ld be horror /ruck if accus$ ( ! lea/ brea* ( etiquette t[>ds _! fri5ds & acqua9tances abroad1 & yet1 :o w at home utt]ly disreg>d ! simple/ rules ( polit5ess1 if su* rules int]f]e 9 ! lea/ ) _! own selfi% gratification4 ,!y disreg>d ! pure & holy ties :i* %\ld make c\rtesy at home a pleasure z well z a duty4 ,!y =get t home has a sweet poetry ( its own1 creat$ out ( ! simple/ mat]ials1 yet1 haunt+1 m or less1 ! secret recesses ( e human he>t2 x is divid$ into a ?\s& sep>ate poems1 :i* %\ld be full ( individual int]e/1 little quiet t\*es ( feel+ & gold5 recollections1 :i*1 9 ! he>t ( a truly noble man1 are int]wov5 ) 8 v be+4 ,common ?+s are1 to him1 hall[$ & made beautiful by ! spell ( memory & association1 ow+ all _! glory to ! halo ( 8 own pure1 fond affection4 ,! eye ( a /rang] re/s coldly on su* revelations2 _! simple pa?os is h>d to be und]/ood2 & !y smile (t5times at ! qua9tness ( ^? passages :i* make o!rs weep4 ,) ! beautiful in/9ct ( true affection1 home love reta9s only ! good4 ,!re 7 cl\ds !n1 ev5 z n[1 d>k5+ ! horizon ( daily life1 & break+ te>s or wild /orms above our heads2 b he rememb]s no?+ save ! sun%9e1 & fancies someh[ t x has nev] %one s bright s9ce6 ,h[ little x took to make him happy 9 ^? days1 aye1 & sad also2 b x 0 a pleasant sadness1 = he wept only ov] a fl[] or a book4 ,b let u turn to our fir/ poem2 & 9 us+ ?is t]m we allude1 ( c\rse1 to ! poetry ( idea1 r ?an t ( ! measure2 beauty ( :i* is s (t5 lo/ to u f a vague feel+ t x _c exi/ )\t rhy?m4 ,b pause & li/51 fir/ ( all1 g5tle read]1 to ! liv+ te/imony ( a poet he>t1 brimful1 & gu%+ ov] ) home love3--,!re are n1 9 ! unse5 _w1 voices m g5tle & m true1 t may be m implicitly reli$ on1 or t are s c]ta9 to give none b ! t5d]e/ c\nsel1 z ! voices 9 :i* ! spirits ( ! fireside & ! he>? address !mselves to human k9d6 ,! man :o %[s 8 contempt = ^! holy ties & associations by pull+ (f 8 mask ( c\rtesy z soon z 8 foot passes 8 own ?re%old1 is n really a g5tleman1 b a selfi% tyrant1 ^: true qualities are n c\rtesy & polit5ess1 b a hypocritical affectation ( !m1 assum$ to obta9 a foot+ 9 society4 ,avoid su* m54 ,ev5 ?\gh y are "o ( ! favor$ ones abroad :o receive _! g5tle c\rtesy1 y may re/ assur$ t ! he>tless egotism :i* makes !m rude & selfi% at home1 w make _! fri5d%ip b a "n1 if circum/ances ev] put x to ! te/4 ,above all1 avoid _! example4 ,9 :at does ! home circle consi/8 ,fir/1 !re are ! p>5ts :o h wat*$ ov] y\r infancy & *ildhood1 & :om y are comm&$ by ! ,highe/ ,p[] to honor4 ,!n ! bro!rs & si/]s1 ! wife :o has left h] own home & all its t5d] ties = y\r sake1 & ! *ildr5 :o look to y = example1 guidance1 & in/ruction4 ,:o else on ! broad e>? c lay ! same claim to y\r g5tl5ess & c\rtesy t !y c8 ,if y are rude at home1 !n is y\r polit5ess abroad a m]e cloak to conceal a bad1 selfi% he>t4 ,! p>5ts :o h anxi\sly wat*$ ov] y\r education1 h ! fir/ "r to ! fruits ( x1 & all ! g5tleman %\ld be ex]t$ to repay !m = ! c>e !y h tak5 ( y s9ce y\r bir?4 ,all ! rules ( polit5ess1 ( g5]osity1 ( good nature1 pati5ce1 & respectful affection %\ld be ex]t$ = y\r p>5ts4 ,y owe to !m a pure1 filial love1 void ( p]sonal int]e/1 :i* %\ld prompt y to /udy all _! ta/es1 _! likes1 & av]sions1 9 ord] to indulge ! "o & avoid ! o!r2 y owe to !m polite att5tion1 def]5ce to all _! wi%es1 & compliance ) _! reque/s4 ,e joy w be d\bl$ to !m1 if y %[ a frank pleasure 9 its c\rse1 & no com=t c soo! ! grief ( a p>5t s mu* z ! sympa?iz+ love ( a dutiful son4 ,if !y are old1 dep5d5t ^u y = support1 !n c y /ill bett] prove to !m t ! t5d] c>e !y lavi%$ ^u y1 :5 y dep5d$ ^u _! love = ev]y?+1 0 n lo/1 b 0 good se$ s[n ^u fruitful gr\nd4 ,nay1 if ) ! infirmities ( age come ! crosses ( bad temp]1 or exact+ selfi%ness1 y\r duty /ill lies z pla9ly be=e y4 ,x is b ! prompt+s ( natural affection t w lead y to love & *]i% an indulg5t p>5t2 b x is a pure1 high virtue :i* makes a son love & *]i% ) an equal affection a selfi%1 neglig5t "m1 or a tyrannical1 h>% fa!r4 ,no failure 9 _! duty c excuse y if y fail 9 y\rs2 &1 ev5 if !y are wick$1 y are n to be _! judge1 b1 :ile y dete/ & avoid _! s91 y mu/ /ill love ! s9n]4 ,no?+ b ! grosse/ & mo/ revolt+ brutality c\ld make a man reproa* 8 p>5ts ) ! feebl5ess ( age or illness1 or ! incapacity to ex]t _! tal5ts = support4 ,an em95t writ]1 9 speak+ ( a man's duties1 says3 ,d all 9 y\r p[] to r5d] y\r p>5ts com=table & happy2 if !y are ag$ & infirm1 be ) !m z (t5 z y c1 c>ry !m tok5s ( y\r love1 & %[ !m t y feel a t5d] int]e/ 9 _! happ9ess4 ,be all to y\r p>5ts1 :i* y w\ld wi% y\r *ildr5 to be to y4 ,next1 9 ! home circle1 come y\r bro!rs & si/]s1 & "h y w f9d ! little c\rtesies1 :i*1 z a g5tleman1 %\ld be habitual to y1 w ensure ! love a man %\ld mo/ highly prize1 ! love ( 8 bro!r & si/]4 ,next to 8 filial love1 ?is is ! fir/ tie ( 8 life1 & %\ld be valu$ z x des]ves4 ,if y are ! elde/ ( ! family1 y may1 by y\r example1 influ5ce y\r bro!rs to good or evil1 & w9 or ali5ate ! affections ( y\r little si/]s4 ,!re is sc>cely a m en?usia/ic affection 9 ! _w ?an t a si/] feels = an eld] bro!r4 ,ev5 ?\gh he may n repay ! devotion z x des]ves1 %e w g5]ally *]i% x1 & inve/ him ) ! mo/ h]oic qualities1 :ile h] t5d] little he>t1 ?\gh x may quiv] ) ! pa9 ( a h>% ^w or rude action1 w /ill try to f9d an excuse = bro!r's want ( affection4 ,if y %[ an int]e/ 9 ! pursuits ( ! little circle at ^: head y\r age entitles y to /&1 y w soon f9d !y all look up to y1 seek y\r advice1 crave y\r sympa?y1 & foll[ y\r example4 ,! elde/ son holds a mo/ responsible position4 ,%\ld dea? or infirmity deprive him ( a fa!r's c\nsel1 he %\ld be prep>$ to /& =? z ! head ( ! family1 & take 8 fa!r's place t[>ds 8 "m & ! y\ng] *ildr54 ,e man %\ld feel1 t 9 ! "* & dignity ( 8 si/]s 8 own honor is involv$4 ,an insult or affront (f]$ to !m1 becomes "o to him1 & he is ! p]son !y w look to = protection1 & to prev5t its repetition4 ,by 8 own mann] to !m he c ensure to !m ! respect or contempt ( o!r m5 :om !y meet :5 9 8 society4 ,h[ c he expect t 8 fri5ds w treat 8 si/]s ) g5tl5ess1 respect1 & c\rtesy1 if !y see him con/antly rude1 disrespectful1 & contemptu\s t[>ds !m8 ,b1 if 8 own mann] is t ( affectionate respect1 he ne$ n fe> = !m rud5ess f o!rs1 :ile !y are "u 8 protection4 ,an ,am]ican writ] says3-- ,no?+ 9 a family /rikes ! eye ( a visitor ) m delight ?an to see bro!rs treat _! si/]s ) k9dness1 civility1 att5tion1 & love4 ,on ! contr>y1 no?+ is m (f5sive or speaks worse = ! honor ( a family1 ?an t co>se1 rude1 unk9d mann] :i* bro!rs sometimes exhibit4 ,! same au?or says3-- ,bew>e h[ y speak ( y\r si/]s4 ,ev5 gold is t>ni%$ by mu* h&l+4 ,if y speak 9 _! praise--( _! beauty1 le>n+1 mann]s1 wit1 or att5tions--y w subject !m to taunt & ridicule2 if y say any?+ aga9/ !m1 y w br+ reproa* ^u y\rself & !m too4 ,if y h occasion to speak ( !m1 d x ) mode/y & few words4 ,let o!rs d all ! prais+ & y\rself enjoy x4 ,if y are sep>at$ f !m1 ma9ta9 ) !m a correspond5ce4 ,?is w d y\rself good z well z !m4 ,d n neglect ?is duty1 nor gr[ remiss 9 x4 ,give y\r fri5dly advice & seek !irs 9 return4 ,z !y m+le intimately ) _! sex1 !y c enlight5 y\r m9d respect+ _m p>ticul>s relat+ to female "*1 important = y to "k2 &1 on ! o!r h&1 y h ! same opportunity to d !m a simil> s]vice4 ,h[ev] long or widely sep>at$ f !m1 keep up y\r frat]nal affection & int]c\rse4 ,x is om9\s ( evil :5 a "y man =gets 8 si/]4 ,if y are liv+ at home ) !m1 y may d !m a ?\s& little s]vices1 :i* w co/ y no?+ b pleasure1 & :i* w greatly add to !irs4 ,if !y wi% to g out 9 ! ev5+--to a lecture1 conc]t1 a visit1 or any o!r object1--always be happy1 if possible1 to wait ^u !m4 ,consid] _! situation1 & ?9k h[ y w\ld wi% !m to treat y if ! case 7 rev]s$4 ,a "y man once said to an eld]ly lady1 :o express$ h] regret at 8 hav+ tak5 "s tr\ble & d5i$ himself a pleasure to gratify h]3-- ,madam1 ,i am f> away f my "m & si/]s n[1 b :5 ,i 0 at home1 my greate/ pleasure 0 to protect !m & gratify all _! wi%es2 let me n[ place y 9 _! /ead1 & y w n h cause aga9 to feel regret1 = y c ?9k 'he mu/ love to d5y himself = "o :o repres5ts 8 "m4' ,! old lady aft]w>ds spoke ( him z a p]fect g5tleman1 & 0 contradict$ by a y\ng] p]son :o quot$ "s fault 9 etiquette committ$ by ! "y man 9 company4 ,ah1 t may be1 said h] fri5d2 b :at ,i call a g5tleman1 is n ! man :o p]=ms to ! m9ute/ po9t all ! little c]emonies ( society1 b ! "o ^: he>t prompts him to be polite at home4 ,if y h left ! fir/ home circle1 t compris+ y\r p>5ts1 bro!rs1 & si/]s1 to take up ! duties ( a husb& & fa!r1 y mu/ c>ry to y\r new home ! same polit5ess ,i h advis$ y to ex]t 9 ! home ( y\r *ildhood4 ,y\r wife claims y\r c\rtesy m n[1 ev51 ?an :5 y 7 c\rt+ h]4 ,%e has giv5 up1 = y\r sake1 all ! fre$om & pleasures ( h] maid5hood1 & to y %e looks = a love t w replace !m all4 ,c y disappo9t t tru/+ affection8 ,be=e y\r m>riage y ?\ght no /ret* ( c\rtesy too great1 if ! result 0 to af=d h] pleasure2 :y1 !n1 n /rive to keep h] love1 by ! same g5tle c\rtesy y ex]t$ to w9 x8 ,a delicate att5tion to ! m9ute wants & wi%es ( y\r wife1 w t5d1 m ?an any?+ else1 to ! promotion ( y\r dome/ic happ9ess4 ,x requires no sacrifices1 occupies b a small degree ( att5tion1 yet is ! f]tile s\rce ( bliss2 s9ce x conv9ces ! object ( y\r reg>d1 t1 ) ! duties ( a husb&1 y h unit$ ! m punctili\s behavi\r ( a lov]4 ,^! trivial tok5s ( reg>d c]ta9ly make mu* way 9 ! affections ( a woman ( s5se & disc]nm5t1 :o looks n to ! value ( ! gifts %e receives1 b p]ceives 9 _! frequ5cy a cont9u$ evid5ce ( ! exi/5ce & ardor ( t love on :i* ! sup]/ructure ( h] happ9ess has be5 erect$4 ,! /ronge/ atta*m5t w decl9e1 if y receive x ) dim9i%$ w>m?4 ,mrs4 ,?rale gives ! foll[+ advice1 :i* is wor? ! consid]ation ( e "y man3 ,aft] m>riage1 %e says1 :5 y\r viol5ce ( passion subsides1 & a m cool & tranquil affection takes its place1 be n ha/y to c5sure z indiff]5t1 or to lam5t y\rself z unhappy2 y h lo/ t only :i* x is impossible to reta92 & x 7 graceless amid/ ! pleasures ( a prosp]\s summ]1 to regret ! blossoms ( a transi5t spr+4 ,nei!r unw>ily condemn y\r bride's insipidity1 till y h recollect$ t no object1 h[ev] sublime1 no s\nd1 h[ev] *>m+1 c cont9ue to transport u ) delight1 :5 !y no long] /rike u ) novelty4 ,! skill to r5ovate ! p[]s ( pleas+ is said1 inde$1 to be possess$ by "s wom5 9 an em95t degree1 b ! artifices ( maturity are seldom se5 to adorn ! innoc5ce ( y\?4 ,y h made y\r *oice & ought to approve x4 ,to be happy1 we mu/ always h some?+ 9 view4 ,turn1 !re=e1 y\r att5tion to h] m9d1 :i* w daily gr[ bright] by poli%+4 ,/udy "s easy sci5ce toge!r1 & acquire a simil>ity ( ta/es1 :ile y enjoy a community ( pleasures4 ,y w1 by ?is means1 h _m pursuits 9 common1 & be fre$ f ! necessity ( sep>at+ to f9d amusem5t2 endeavor to cem5t ! pres5t union on e side2 let y\r wife nev] be kept ignorant ( y\r income1 y\r exp5ses1 y\r fri5d%ips1 or y\r av]sions2 let h] "k y\r v faults1 b make !m amiable by y\r virtues2 consid] all concealm5t z a brea* ( fidelity2 let h] nev] h any?+ to f9d out 9 y\r "*1 & rememb] t f ! mom5t "o ( ! p>tn]s turns spy ^u ! o!r1 !y h comm5c$ a /ate ( ho/ility4 ,seek n = happ9ess 9 s+ul>ity1 & dread a ref9em5t ( wisdom z a deviation into folly4 ,li/5 n to ^? sages :o advise y always to scorn ! c\nsel ( a woman1 & if y comply ) h] reque/s pron\nce y to be wife-ridd54 ,?9k n any privation1 except ( positive evil1 an excell5ce2 & d n congratulate y\rself t y\r wife is n a le>n$ lady1 or is :olly ignorant h[ to make a pudd+4 ,cook+ & le>n+ are bo? good 9 _! places1 & may bo? be us$ ) advantage4 ,) reg>d to exp5se1 ,i c only obs]ve1 t ! money laid out 9 ! pur*ase ( luxuries is seldom or ev] pr(itably employ$4 ,we live 9 an age :5 spl5did furniture & glitt]+ equipage are gr[n too common to cat* ! notice ( ! meane/ spectator2 & = ! great] ones1 !y c only reg>d our wa/eful folly ) sil5t contempt or op5 indignation4 ,?is may1 p]haps1 be a displeas+ reflection2 b ! foll[+ consid]ation ought to make am5ds4 ,! age we live 9 pays1 ,i ?9k1 a peculi> att5tion to ! high] di/9ctions ( wit1 k1 & virtue1 to :i* we may m safely1 m *eaply1 & m honorably aspire4 ,! p]son ( y\r lady w n gr[ m pleas+ to y2 b1 pray1 let h] n suspect t x gr[s less s4 ,!re is no repro(1 h[ev] po9t$1 no puni%m5t1 h[ev] sev]e1 t a woman ( _s w n pref] to neglect2 & if %e c endure x )\t compla9t1 x only proves t %e means to make h]self am5ds by ! att5tion ( o!rs = ! slights ( h] husb&4 ,= ?is1 & = e o!r reason1 x behoves a m>ri$ man n to let 8 polit5ess fail1 ?\gh 8 ard\r may abate2 b to reta91 at lea/1 t g5]al civility t[>ds 8 own lady :i* he is will+ to pay to e o!r1 & n %[ a wife ( eighte5 or tw5ty ye>s old1 t e man 9 company c treat h] ) m complaisance ?an he :o s (t5 v[$ to h] et]nal fondness4 ,x is n my op9ion t a "y woman %\ld be indulg$ 9 e wild wi% ( h] gay he>t1 or giddy head2 b contradiction may be s(t5$ by dome/ic k9dness1 & quiet pleasures sub/itut$ 9 ! place ( noisy ones4 ,public amusem5ts1 inde$1 are n s exp5sive z is sometimes imag9$2 b !y t5d to ali5ate ! m9ds ( m>ri$ p f ea* o!r4 ,a well-*os5 society ( fri5ds & acqua9tances1 m em95t = virtue & good s5se ?an = gaiety & spl5dor1 :]e ! conv]sation ( ! day may af=d comm5t = ! ev5+1 seems ! mo/ rational pleasure t c be af=d$4 ,t y\r own sup]iority %\ld always be se51 b nev] felt1 seems an excell5t g5]al rule4 ,if y\r wife is dispos$ t[>ds jeal\sy ( y1 let me besee* y be always explicit ) h]1 nev] my/]i\s4 ,be above delight+ 9 h] pa9 9 all ?+s4 ,aft] y\r duty to y\r wife comes t t[>ds ! *ildr5 :om ,god l5ds to y1 to fit !m to return pure & virtu\s to him4 ,?is is y\r task1 responsibility1 & tru/1 to be und]tak5 pray]fully1 e>ne/ly1 & humbly1 z ! highe/ & mo/ sacr$ duty ?is life ev] c af=d y4 ,! relation%ip betwe5 p>5t & *ild1 is "o t appe>s to h be5 orda9$ by ,provid5ce1 to br+ ! bett] feel+s ( mank9d & _m dome/ic virtues into active ex]cise4 ,! implicit confid5ce ) :i* *ildr51 :5 prop]ly treat$1 look up to _! eld]s = guidance is n less beautiful ?an ende>+2 & no p>5ts c set ab\t ! "w ( guid+ aright1 9 real e>ne/1 )\t d]iv+ z mu* good z !y imp>t4 ,! feel+ ) :i* ?is labor ( love w\ld be c>ri$ =w>d is1 z ! poet writes ( m]cy1 twice bless$3-- ,x blesses him t gives & him t takes4 ,& yet1 9 daily life & exp]i5ce1 h[ seldom d we f9d ^! views realiz$6 ,*ildr51 9 too _m in/ances1 are look$ on z any?+ b a bless+2 !y are treat$ z incumbrances1 or worse2 & ! neglect 9 :i* !y are br\ght up1 r5d]s x almo/ impossible = !m1 :5 !y gr[ old]1 to "k any?+ prop]ly ( moral or social duties4 ,?is result we "k1 9 num]\s cases1 is n willful1 does n arise f ill int5tions on ! "p ( p>5ts1 b f want ( fix$ plans & pr9ciples4 ,!re are hundr$s ( families 9 ?is c\ntry ^: daily life is no?+ bett] ?an a daily scramble1 :]e "t & place1 f gett+ up 9 ! morn+ to go+ to b$ at night1 are reg>d$ z matt]s ( *ance4 ,9 su* homes z ^!1 :]e ! inmates are will+ to d well1 b don't "k h[1 a ^w 9 season is (t5 welcome4 ,great pr9ciples1 we are told1 are at ! bottom ( all ?+s2 b to apply !m to daily life1 _m little rules1 precautions1 & insights are ne$$4 ,! "w ( tra9+ is1 9 "s degree1 light5$ by ! fact1 t *ildr5 are v imitative2 :at !y see o!rs d1 !y w try to d !mselves1 & if !y see none b good examples1 good conduct on _! "p may naturally be look$ =4 ,*ildr5 are ke5 obs]v]s1 & are v ready at draw+ conclusions :5 !y see a want ( correspond5ce betwe5 pr(ession & practice1 9 ^? :o h ! c>e ( !m4 ,at ! age ( sev51 ! *ild's bra9 has rea*$ its full gr[?2 x seldom becomes l>g] aft] t p]iod1 & x !n conta9s ! g]m ( all t ! man ev] accompli%es4 ,"h is an additional reason = lay+ d[n ! precept3--be y\rselves :at y wi% ! *ildr5 to be4 ,:5 correction is necess>y1 let x be adm9i/]$ 9 su* a way z to make ! *ild refra9 f do+ wrong f a desire to d "r1 n = ! sole reason t wrong br+s puni%m5t4 ,all exp]i5ce tea*es u t if a good ?+ is to be obta9$1 x mu/ be by p]sev]+ dilig5ce2 & ( all good ?+s1 ! pleasure aris+ f a well-tra9$ family is "o ( ! greate/4 ,p>5ts1 or educators1 h no "r to use _! *ildr5 j z :im or prejudice may dictate4 ,*ildr5 are small] l9ks 9 ! great social *a91 & b9d toge!r 9 la/+ ties _m portions :i* o!rwise w\ld be completely disjo9t$2 _! joy\sness enliv5s _m a home1 & _! innoc5ce is a p[]ful *eck & antidote to mu* t is evil4 ,! implicit ob$i5ce :i* is requir$ ( !m1 w always be giv5 :5 call$ =? by a _s ( =be>ance1 self-sacrifice1 & love3-- ,ere long comes ! rew>d1 ,& = ! c>es & toils we h endur$1 ,repays u joys & pleasures manifold4 ,if y *]i% & honor y\r own p>5ts1 !n d y give y\r *ildr5 ! mo/ =cible tea*+ = _! duty1 example4 ,& y\r duty to y\r *ildr5 requires y\r example to be good 9 all ?+s4 ,h[ c y expect c\nsel to virtue to h any effect1 if y con/antly contradict x by a bad example8 ,d n =get1 t e>ly impressions are deep & la/+1 & f _! infancy let !m see y keep an upright1 noble walk 9 life1 !n may y hope to see !m foll[ 9 y\r foot/eps4 ,ju/ice1 z a s5tim5t1 is inborn1 & no "o di/+ui%es its niceties m quickly ?an a *ild4 ,!re=e 9 y\r rew>ds & puni%m5ts exam9e c>efully e "p ( _! conduct1 & judge calmly1 n ha/ily1 & be sure y are j4 ,an unm]it$ rew>d w make a *ild "q y\r judgm5t z mu* z an unm]it$ puni%m5t4 ,gu>d y\r temp]4 ,nev] reprove a *ild 9 ! heat ( passion4 ,if y\r sons see t y reg>d ! rules ( polit5ess 9 y\r home1 y w f9d t !y treat _! "m & si/]s ) respect & c\rtesy1 & obs]ve1 ev5 9 play1 ! rules ( etiquette y\r example tea*es2 b if y are a dome/ic tyrant1 all y\r eld] & /rong] *ildr5 w /rive to act l fa!r1 by ill-treat+ or neglect+ ! y\ng] & weak] ones4 ,make !m1 f ! mom5t !y beg9 to talk1 use pure & grammatical language1 avoid slang phrases1 &1 above all1 pr(anity4 ,y w f9d ?is rule1 en=c$ dur+ *ildhood1 w h m effect ?an a libr>y full ( books or ! mo/ unwe>i$ in/ruction c accompli%1 aft] bad habits 9 conv]sation h once be5 =m$4 ,make !m1 f e>ly *ildhood1 obs]ve ! rules ( polit5ess t[>ds ea* o!r4 ,let y\r sons treat y\r daught]s z1 :5 m51 y w\ld h !m treat o!r females1 & let y\r daught]s1 by g5tl5ess & love1 repay ^! att5tions4 ,y may feel sure t ! bro!rs & si/]s1 :o are polite "o to ano!r1 w n err 9 etiquette :5 abroad4 ,9 ! home circle may v prop]ly be includ$ ! humble portion1 ^: on]\s duties are too (t5 repaid by h>%ness & rud5ess2 ,i mean ! s]vants4 ,a true g5tleman1 :ile he nev] all[s famili>ity f 8 s]vants1 w always rememb] t !y are human be+s1 :o feel k9dness or rud5ess z ke5ly z ! m favor$ ones up /airs4 ,*e/]field says3-- ,!re is a c]ta9 polit5ess due to y\r inf]iors1 & :oev] is )\t x1 is )\t good nature4 ,we d n ne$ to complim5t our s]vants1 nor to talk ( _! do+ u ! honor1 c41 b we ought to treat !m ) b5evol5ce & mildness4 ,we are all ( ! same species1 & no di/9ction :atev] is betwe5 u1 except t :i* arises f =tune4 ,= example1 y\r footman & cook w\ld be y\r equals 7 !y z ri* z y4 ,be+ poor !y are oblig$ to s]ve y4 ,!re=e1 y mu/ n add to _! mis=tunes by insult+ or ill-treat+ !m4 ,if y\r situation is pref]able to !irs1 be ?ankful1 )\t ei!r despis+ !m or be+ va9 ( y\r bett] =tune4 ,y mu/1 !re=e1 treat all y\r inf]iors ) affability & good mann]s1 & n speak to !m 9 a surly tone1 nor ) h>% expressions1 z if !y 7 ( a diff]5t species4 ,a good he>t nev] rem9ds p ( _! inf]iority1 b endeavors to alleviate _! mis=tunes1 & make !m =get !m4 ,example1 says ,mrs4 ,p>kes1 is ( ! greate/ importance to our s]vants1 p>ticul>ly ^? :o are "y1 ^: habits are frequ5tly =m$ by ! fir/ s]vice !y ent]4 ,) ! mild & good1 !y become s(t5$ & improv$1 b ) ! dissipat$ & viol5t1 are too (t5 disord]ly & vici\s4 ,x is1 !re=e1 n among ! lea/ ( ! duties incumb5t on ! head ( ! family1 to place 9 _! view su* examples z are wor?y _! imitation4 ,b ^! examples1 o!rwise praisewor?y1 %\ld nei!r be r5d]$ disagreeable1 nor h _! =ce dim9i%$ by any accompanim5t ( ill humor4 ,r by ! happ9ess & com=t result+ f our conduct t[>ds our dome/ics1 %\ld !y be made s5sible ( ! beauty ( virtue4 ,:at we admire1 we (t5 /rive to imitate1 & ?us !y may be l$ on to imitate good pr9ciples1 & to =m regul> & virtu\s habits4 ,,*apt] ,,xiv4 ,,true ,,c\rtesy4 ,polit5ess is ! art ( pleas+4 ,x is to ! deportm5t :at ! f9] t\*es ( ! p5cil are to ! picture1 or :at h>mony is to music4 ,9 ! =mation ( "*1 x is indisp5sably requisite4 ,we are all1 says ,locke1 a k9d ( *ameleons1 t take a t9cture f ! objects :i* surr\nd u4 ,true c\rtesy1 inde$1 *iefly consi/s 9 accommodat+ ourselves to ! feel+s ( o!rs1 )\t desc5d+ f our own dignity1 or d5ud+ ourselves ( our own pr9ciples4 ,by con/ant int]c\rse ) society1 we acquire :at is call$ polit5ess almo/ intuitively1 z ! %ells ( ! sea are r5d]$ smoo? by ! unceas+ friction ( ! waves2 ?\gh !re appe>s to be a natural grace ab\t ! well-br$1 :i* _m feel x difficult to atta94 ,religion itself tea*es u to honor all m51 & to d unto o!rs z we w\ld o!rs d unto u4 ,?is includes ! :ole pr9ciple ( c\rtesy1 :i* 9 ?is we may rem>k1 assimilates to ! pr9ciple ( ju/ice4 ,x comprises1 inde$1 all ! moral virtues 9 "o1 consi/+ n m]ely 9 ext]nal %[1 b hav+ its pr9ciple 9 ! he>t4 ,! polit5ess :i* sup]ficial writ]s are fond ( describ+1 has be5 def9$ z ! appe>ance ( all ! virtues1 )\t possess+ "o ( !m2 b by ?is is meant ! m]e outw>d p>ade1 or t k9d ( artificial adornm5t ( demeanor1 :i* owes its exi/5ce to an ov]-ref9em5t ( civility4 ,any?+ =c$ or =mal is contr>y to ! v "* ( c\rtesy1 :i* does n consi/ 9 a becom+ deportm5t alone1 b is prompt$ & guid$ by a sup]ior m9d1 impell+ ! really polite p]son to be> ) ! fail+s ( "s1 to ov]look ! weakness ( o!rs1 & to endure pati5tly ! caprices ( all4 ,inde$1 "o ( ! ess5tial *>act]i/ics ( c\rtesy is good nature1 & an incl9ation always to look at ! bright side ( ?+s4 ,! pr9cipal rules ( polit5ess are1 to subdue ! temp]1 to submit to ! weakness ( our fell[ m51 & to r5d] to all _! due1 freely & c\rte\sly4 ,^!1 ) ! judgm5t to recomm5d ourselves to ^? :om we meet 9 society1 & ! discrim9ation to "k :5 & to :om to yield1 z well z ! discretion to treat all ) ! def]5ce due to _! reputation1 /ation1 or m]it1 comprise1 9 g5]al1 ! "* ( a polite man1 ov] :i* ! admission ( ev5 "o blot or %ade w ?r[ a blemi% n easily remov$4 ,s9c]ity is ano!r ess5tial *>act]i/ic ( c\rtesy2 =1 )\t x1 ! social sy/em w\ld h no p]man5t f\ndation or hope ( cont9uance4 ,x is ! want ( ?is :i* makes society1 :at x is said to be1 artificial4 ,good bre$+1 9 a great measure1 consi/s 9 be+ easy1 b n indiff]5t2 good humor$1 b n famili>2 passive1 b n unconc]n$4 ,x includes1 also1 a s5sibility nice1 yet correct2 a tact delicate1 yet true4 ,!re is a beautiful uni=mity 9 ! demeanor ( a polite man2 & x is impossible n to be /ruck ) 8 affable air4 ,!re is a gold5 mean 9 ! art1 :i* x %\ld be e body's object to atta91 )\t desc5d+ to obsequi\sness on ! "o h&1 or to famili>ity on ! o!r4 ,9 polit5ess1 z 9 ev]y?+ else1 !re is ! m$ium betwixt too mu* & too little1 betwixt con/ra9t & fre$om2 = civilities c>ri$ to extreme are we>isome1 & m]e c]emony is n polit5ess1 b ! rev]se4 ,! truly pi\s p are ! truly c\rte\s4 ,religion1 says ,leighton1 is 9 ?is mi/ak5 sometimes1 9 t we ?9k x impr9ts a r\ghness & au/]ity ^u ! m9d & c>riage4 ,x do?1 inde$1 b> all vanity & lightness1 & all compliance2 b x s(t5s ! mann]s1 temp]s ! address1 & ref9es ! he>t4 ,pride is "o ( ! greate/ ob/acles to true c\rtesy t c be m5tion$4 ,he :o assumes too mu* on 8 own m]it1 %[s t he does n und]/& ! simple/ pr9ciples ( polit5ess4 ,! feel+ ( pride is1 ( itself1 highly culpable4 ,no man1 :e!r he be a mon>* on ! ?rone1 or ! meane/ begg> 9 8 realm1 possesses any "r to comport himself ) a haughty or disc\rte\s air t[>ds 8 fell[ m54 ,! poet truly says3 ,:at mo/ ennobles human nature1 ,0 ne'er ! portion ( ! pr\d4 ,x is easy to be/[ a k9d ^w1 or assume a graci\s smile2 ^! w recomm5d u to e "o2 :ile a haughty demeanor1 or an au/]e look1 may =feit =ev] ! favor ( ^? ^: good op9ion we may be anxi\s to secure4 ,! really c\rte\s man has a ?or\gh k ( human nature1 & c make all[ances = its weaknesses4 ,he is always consi/5t ) himself4 ,! polite alone "k h[ to make o!rs polite1 z ! good alone "k h[ to inspire o!rs ) a reli% = virtue4 ,hav+ m5tion$ pride z be+ oppos$ to true polit5ess1 ,i may class affectation ) x1 9 t respect4 ,affectation is a deviation f1 at ! same "t t x is an imitation (1 nature4 ,x is ! result ( bad ta/e1 & ( mi/ak5 notions ( "o's own qualities4 ,! o!r vices are limit$1 & h ea* a p>ticul> object2 b affectation p]vades ! :ole conduct1 & detracts f ! m]it ( :atev] virtues & good dispositions a man may possess4 ,beauty itself loses its attraction1 :5 disfigur$ by affectation4 ,ev5 to copy f ! be/ patt]ns is improp]1 because ! imitation c nev] be s good z ! orig9al4 ,c\nt]feit co9 is n s valuable z ! real1 & :5 discov]$1 x _c pass curr5t4 ,affectation is a sure sign t !re is some?+ to conceal1 r ?an any?+ to be pr\d (1 9 ! "* & disposition ( ! p]sons practic+ x4 ,9 religion1 affectation1 or1 z x is fitly call$1 hypocrisy1 is repreh5sible 9 ! highe/ degree4 ,h[ev] grave be _! deportm5t1 ( all affect$ p]sons1 ^? :o1 )\t any real f\ndation1 make too great pret5sions to piety1 are c]ta9ly ! mo/ culpable4 ,! mask s]ves to conceal innum]able faults1 &1 z has be5 well rem>k$1 a false devotion too (t5 usurps ! place ( ! true4 ,we c less secure ourselves aga9/ pret5d]s 9 matt]s ( religion1 ?an we c aga9/ any o!r species ( impo/ors2 because ! m9d be+ bias$ 9 favor ( ! subject1 consults n reason z to ! individual4 ,! conduct ( p1 :i* _c fail to be consid]$ an evid5ce ( _! pr9ciples1 ought at all times to be con=mable to _! pret5sions4 ,:5 ,god alone is all we are conc]n$ =1 we are n solicit\s ab\t m]e human approbation4 ,hazlitt says3--,few subjects are m ne>ly alli$ ?an ^! two--vulg>ity & affectation4 ,x may be said ( !m truly t '?9 p>titions d _! b\nds divide4' ,!re _c be a sur] pro( ( a l[ orig9 or ( an innate meanness ( disposition1 ?an to be always talk+ & ?9k+ ( be+ g5teel4 ,"o mu/ feel a /rong t5d5cy to t :i* "o is always try+ to avoid2 :5ev] we pret5d1 on all occasions1 a mighty contempt = any?+1 x is a pretty cle> sign t we feel ourselves v ne>ly on a level ) x4 ,( ! two classes ( p1 ,i h>dly "k :i* is to be reg>d$ ) mo/ di/a/e1 ! vulg> ap+ ! g5teel1 or ! g5teel con/antly sne]+ at & endeavor+ to di/+ui% !mselves f ! vulg>4 ,^! two sets ( p]sons are always ?9k+ ( "o ano!r2 ! l[] ( ! high] ) envy1 ! m =tunate ( _! less happy neighbors ) contempt4 ,!y are habitually plac$ 9 opposition to ea* o!r2 jo/le 9 _! pret5sions at e turn2 & ! same objects & tra9 ( ?\ght 7only rev]s$ by ! relative situations ( ei!r p>ty7 occupy _! :ole "t & att5tion4 ,! "o are /ra9+ e n]ve1 & outrag+ common s5se1 to be ?\ght g5teel2 ! o!rs h no o!r object or idea 9 _! heads ?an n to be ?\ght vulg>4 ,?is is b poor spite2 a v pitiful /yle ( ambition4 ,to be m]ely n t :i* "o he>tily despises1 is a v humble claim to sup]iority2 to despise :at "o really is1 is /ill worse4 ,g5tility is only a m select & artificial k9d ( vulg>ity4 ,x _c exi/ b by a sort ( borr[$ di/9ction4 ,x plumes itself up & revels 9 ! homely pret5sions ( ! mass ( mank9d4 ,x judges ( ! wor? ( ev]y?+ by "n1 fa%ion1 op9ion2 & h5ce1 f ! consci\s abs5ce ( real qualities or s9c]e satisfaction 9 itself1 x builds its sup]cili\s & fanta/ic conceit on ! wret*$ness & wants ( o!rs4 ,viol5t antipa?ies are always suspici\s1 & betray a secret aff9ity4 ,! diff]5ce betwe5 ! ',great ,vulg> & ! ,small' is mo/ly 9 outw>d circum/ances4 ,! coxcomb criticises ! dress ( ! cl[n1 z ! p$ant cavils at ! bad gramm> ( ! illit]ate4 ,^? :o h ! fewe/ res\rces 9 !mselves1 naturally seek ! food ( _! self-love else:]e4 ,! mo/ ignorant p f9d mo/ to laugh at 9 /rang]s2 sc&al & satire prevail mo/ 9 c\ntry-places2 & a prop5sity to ridicule e ! slighte/ or mo/ palpable deviation f :at we happ5 to approve1 ceases ) ! progress ( common s5se4 ,true wor? does n exult 9 ! faults & defici5cies ( o!rs2 z true ref9em5t turns away f grossness & de=mity in/ead ( be+ tempt$ to indulge 9 an unmanly triumph ov] x4 ,raphael w\ld n fa9t away at ! daub+ ( a sign pa9t]1 nor ,hom] hold 8 head ! high] = be+ 9 ! company ( ! poore/ scribbl] t ev] attempt$ poetry4 ,real p[]1 real excell5ce1 does n seek = a foil 9 inf]iority1 nor fe> contam9ation f com+ 9 contact ) t :i* is co>se & homely4 ,x reposes on itself1 & is equally free f sple5 & affectation4 ,b ! _s ( bo? ^! small vices is 9 g5tility z ! ^w /&s 9 vulg> m9ds3 ( affect$ delight 9 its own w\ld-be qualifications1 & ( ineffable disda9 p\r$ out ^u ! involunt>y blund]s or accid5tal disadvantages ( ^? :om x *ooses to treat z inf]iors4 ,! ess5ce ( vulg>ity1 ,i imag9e1 consi/s 9 tak+ mann]s1 actions1 words1 op9ions on tru/ f o!rs1 )\t exam9+ "o's own feel+s or weigh+ ! m]its ( ! case4 ,x is co>s5ess or %all[ness ( ta/e aris+ f want ( individual ref9em5t1 toge!r ) ! confid5ce & presumption inspir$ by example & numb]s4 ,x may be def9$ to be a pro/itution ( ! m9d or body to ape ! m or less obvi\s defects ( o!rs1 because by s do+ we %all secure ! suffrages ( ^? we associate )4 ,to affect a ge/ure1 an op9ion1 a phrase1 because x is ! rage ) a l>ge numb] ( p]sons1 or to hold x 9 abhorr5ce because ano!r set ( p]sons v little1 if at all1 bett] in=m$1 cry x d[n to di/+ui% !mselves f ! =m]1 is 9 ei!r case equal vulg>ity & absurdity4 ,a ?+ is n vulg> m]ely because x is common4 ',tis common to brea!1 to see1 to feel1 to live4 ,no?+ is vulg> t is natural1 spontane\s1 unavoidable4 ,grossness is n vulg>ity1 ignorance is n vulg>ity1 awkw>dness is n vulg>ity2 b all ^! become vulg> :5 !y are affect$1 & %[n (f on ! au?ority ( o!rs1 or to fall 9 ) ! fa%ion or ! company we keep4 ,caliban is co>se en\gh1 b surely he is n vulg>4 ,we might z well spurn ! clod "u our feet1 & call x vulg>4 ,all slang phrases are vulg>2 b !re is no?+ vulg> 9 ! common ,engli% idiom4 ,simplicity is n vulg>ity2 b ! look+ to affectation ( any sort = di/9ction is4 ,to sum up1 x may be said1 t if y wi% to possess ! good op9ion ( y\r fell[ m51 ! way to secure x is1 to be actually :at y pret5d to be1 or r to appe> always precisely :at y are4 ,nev] dep>t f ! native dignity ( y\r "*1 :i* y c only ma9ta9 irreproa*able by be+ c>eful n to imitate ! vices1 or adopt ! follies ( o!rs4 ,! be/ way 9 all cases y w f9d to be1 to adh]e to tru?1 & to abide by ! tal5ts & appliances :i* h be5 be/[$ ^u y by ,provid5ce4 ,,*apt] ,,xv4 ,,lett] ,,writ+4 ,!re is no bran* ( a man's education1 no portion ( 8 int]c\rse ) o!r m51 & no quality :i* w /& him 9 good /ead m frequ5tly ?an ! capability ( writ+ a good lett] ^u any & e subject4 ,9 bus9ess1 9 8 int]c\rse ) society1 91 ,i may say1 almo/ e circum/ance ( 8 life1 he w f9d 8 p5 call$ into requisition4 ,yet1 al?\gh s important1 s almo/ indisp5sable an accompli%m5t1 x is "o :i* is b little cultivat$1 & a lett]1 p]fect 9 e "p1 is a great r>ity4 ,9 ! composition ( a good lett] !re are _m po9ts to be consid]$1 & we take fir/ ! simple/ & l[e/1 namely1 ! spell+4 ,_m spell badly f ignorance1 b m f c>elessness4 ,! latt]1 writ+ rapidly1 make1 v (t51 mi/akes t w\ld disgrace a s*oolboy4 ,if y are 9 d\bt ab\t a ^w1 d n f a feel+ ( false %ame let ! spell+ /& 9 its d\btful position hop+ t1 if wrong1 x w pass unnotic$1 b get a diction>y1 & see :at is ! correct or?ography4 ,besides ! actual misplac+ ( lett]s 9 a ^w !re is ano!r fault ( c>eless1 rapid writ+1 frequ5tly se54 ,?is is to write two words 9 "o1 runn+ !m toge!r4 ,i h m ?an once se5 ) him writt5 )im1 & = h] /& ?us1 =]4 ,/range1 too1 z x may seem1 x is m frequ5tly ! %ort1 common words t are misspell$ ?an long ones4 ,!y fl[ f ! p5 me*anically1 :ile ov] an unaccu/om$ ^w ! writ] unconsci\sly /ops to consid] ! or?ography4 ,*e/]field1 9 8 advice to 8 son1 says3 ,i come n[ to ano!r "p ( y\r lett]1 :i* is ! or?ography1 if ,i may call bad spell+ or?ography4 ,y spell induce1 enduce2 & gr&eur1 y spell gr&ure2 two faults ( :i* few ( my h\semaids w\ld h be5 guilty4 ,i mu/ tell y t or?ography1 9 ! true s5se ( ! ^w1 is s absolutely necess>y = a man ( lett]s1 or a g5tleman1 t "o false spell+ may fix ridicule ^u him = ! re/ ( 8 life2 & ,i "k a man ( quality1 :o nev] recov]$ ! ridicule ( hav+ spell$ :olesome )\t ! w4 ,read+ ) c>e w secure ev]ybody f false spell+2 = books are always well spell$1 accord+ to ! or?ography ( ! times4 ,"s words are inde$ d\btful1 be+ spell$ diff]5tly by diff]5t au?ors ( equal au?ority2 b ^? are few2 & 9 ^? cases e man has 8 option1 because he may plead 8 au?ority ei!r way2 b :]e !re is b "o "r way1 z 9 ! two words above m5tion$1 x is unp>donable & ridicul\s = a g5tleman to miss x2 ev5 a woman ( tol]able education w\ld despise & laugh at a lov]1 :o s5t h] an ill-spell$ billet-d\x4 ,i fe>1 & suspect1 t y h tak5 x into y\r head1 9 mo/ cases1 t ! matt] is all1 & ! mann] little or no?+4 ,if y h1 undeceive y\rself1 & be conv9c$ t1 9 ev]y?+1 ! mann] is full z important z ! matt]4 ,if y speak ! s5se ( an angel 9 bad words1 & ) a disagreeable utt]ance1 nobody w he> y twice1 :o c help x4 ,if y write epi/les z well z ,cic]o1 b 9 a v bad h&1 & v ill-spell$1 :oev] receives1 w laugh at !m4 ,aft] or?ography1 y %\ld make x a po9t to write a good h&2 cle>1 legible1 & at ! same "t easy1 graceful1 & rapid4 ,?is is n s difficult z "s p]sons imag9e1 b1 l o!r accompli%m5ts1 x requires practice to make x p]fect4 ,y mu/ write e ^w s cle>ly t x _c be mi/ak5 by ! read]1 & x is q an important requisite to leave suffici5t space betwe5 ! words to r5d] ea* "o sep>ate & di/9ct4 ,if y\r writ+ is cr[d$1 x w be difficult to read1 ev5 ?\gh ea* lett] is p]fectly well =m$4 ,an ,engli% au?or1 9 a lett] ( advice1 says3-- ,i h (t5 told y t e man :o has ! use ( 8 eyes & 8 h& c write :atev] h& he pleases4 ,i d n desire t y %\ld write ! /iff1 labor$ *>act]s ( a writ+ ma/]2 a man ( bus9ess mu/ write quick & well1 & t dep5ds simply ^u use4 ,i w\ld1 !re=e1 advise y to get "s v good writ+ ma/]1 & apply to x = a mon? only1 :i* w be suffici5t2 =1 ^u my ^w1 ! writ+ ( a g5teel1 pla9 h& ( bus9ess is ( mu* m importance ?an y ?9k4 ,y say1 x may be1 t :5 y write s v ill1 x is because y are 9 a hurry2 to :i*1 ,i answ]1 ,:y are y ev] 9 a hurry8 ,a man ( s5se may be 9 ha/e1 b c nev] be 9 a hurry1 because he kn[s1 t :atev] he does 9 a hurry1 he mu/ necess>ily d v ill4 ,he may be 9 ha/e to dispat* an affair1 b he w take c>e n to let t ha/e h9d] 8 do+ x well4 ,little m9ds are 9 a hurry1 :5 ! object proves 7z x commonly does7 too big = !m2 !y run1 !y puzzle1 conf\nd1 & p]plex !mselves2 !y want to d ev]y?+ at once1 & nev] d x at all4 ,b a man ( s5se takes ! "t necess>y = do+ ! ?+ he is ab\t1 well2 & 8 ha/e to dispat* a bus9ess1 only appe>s by ! cont9uity ( 8 application to x2 he pursues x ) a cool /ead9ess1 & f9i%es x be=e he beg9s any o!r4444 ,! few seconds t are sav$ 9 ! c\rse ( ! day by writ+ ill in/ead ( well1 d n am\nt to an object ( "t by any means equival5t to ! disgrace or ridicule ( a badly writt5 scrawl4 ,by mak+ a good1 cle> h& habitual to y1 ! caution giv5 above1 ) reg>d to hurry1 w be entirely useless1 = y w f9d t ev5 ! mo/ rapid p5man%ip w n int]f]e ) ! beauty ( y\r h&-writ+1 & ! mo/ absorb+ int]e/ 9 ! subject ( y\r epi/le c be indulg$2 :]eas1 if y write well only :5 y are giv+ y\r entire att5tion to guid+ y\r p51 !n1 ha/e 9 writ+ or int]e/ 9 y\r subject w spoil ! beauty ( y\r %eet4 ,be v c>eful t ! word+ ( y\r lett]s is 9 /rict accordance ) ! rules ( gramm>4 ,no?+ /amps ! diff]5ce betwe5 a well educat$ man & an ignorant "o m decid$ly ?an ! purely grammatical language ( ! "o comp>$ ) ! labor$ s5t5ces1 misplac$ v]bs1 n\ns1 adjectives1 & adv]bs ( ! o!r4 ,*e/]field c>icatures ?is fault 9 ! foll[+ lett]1 writt5 z a w>n+ to 8 son1 to gu>d him aga9/ its gl>+ faults3 ,,my ,,"l3 ,i _h1 la/ night1 ! honor ( y\r ,lord%ip's lett] ( ! #bd?2 & w set ab\t do+ ! ord]s conta9$ !re92 & if s be t ,i c get t affair done by ! next po/1 ,i w n fail = to give y\r ,lord%ip an acc\nt ( x1 by next po/4 ,i h told ! ,fr5* ,m9i/]1 z h[ t if t affair be n soon conclud$1 y\r ,lord%ip w\ld ?9k x all long ( him2 & t he mu/ h neglect$ = to h wrote to 8 c\rt ab\t x4 ,i mu/ beg leave to put y\r ,lord%ip 9 m9d1 z h[1 t ,i am n[ full ?ree qu>t]s 9 arre>2 & if s be t ,i d n v soon receive at lea/ "o half ye>1 ,i %all cut a v bad figure2 = ?is "h place is v de>4 ,i %all be va/ly behold5 to y\r ,lord%ip = t !re m>k ( y\r favor2 & s ,i re/ or rema91 ,y\r1 c4 ,?is is1 ,i admit1 a broad burlesque ( a lett] writt5 by a man hold+ any important gov]nm5t (fice1 b 9 ! m private correspond5ce ( a man's life lett]s q z absurd & ungrammatical are writt5 e day4 ,punctuation is ano!r v important po9t 9 a lett]1 because x n only is a m>k ( elegance & education to prop]ly punctuate a lett]1 b ! omission ( ?is po9t w inevitably confuse y\r correspond5t1 = if y write to y\r fri5d3 ,i met la/ ev5+ ,mr ,james ! arti/ 8 son a lawy] ,mr ,gay a fri5d ( my "m's ,mr ,cl>ke & ,mr ,paul3 he w n "k :e!r ,mr4 ,gay is a lawy] or y\r "m's fri5d1 or :e!r x is ,mr4 ,james or 8 son :o is an arti/2 :]eas1 by ! prop] plac+ ( a few punctuation m>ks y make ! s5t5ce cle> & intelligible1 ?us3 ,i met1 la/ ev5+1 ,mr4 ,james1 ! arti/2 8 son1 a lawy]2 ,mr4 ,gay1 a fri5d ( my "m's2 ,mr4 ,cl>ke & ,mr4 ,paul4 ,)\t prop] reg>d be+ paid to punctuation1 ! v ess5ce ( good composition is lo/2 x is ( ! utmo/ importance1 z cle>ness1 /r5g?1 & accuracy dep5d ^u x1 9 z great a measure z ! p[] ( an army dep5ds ^u ! skill display$ 9 m>%all+ & arrang+ ! troops4 ,! sep>ation ( "o portion ( a composition f ano!r2 ! prop] classification & division ( ! subjects2 ! precise mean+ ( e ^w & s5t5ce2 ! relation ea* "p be>s to previ\s or foll[+ p>ts2 ! connection ( "o portion & sep>ation ( o!rs--all dep5d ^u punctuation4 ,_m p]sons seem to consid] x suffici5t to put 9 a p]iod at ! end ( a long s5t5ce1 leav+ all ! little niceties :i* a comma1 semicolon1 or colon w\ld r5d] cle>1 9 a /ate ( ! mo/ lam5table obscurity4 ,o!rs use all ! po9ts1 b misplace !m 9 a mo/ ludicr\s mann]4 ,a s5t5ce may be made by ! omission or addition ( a comma to express a mean+ exactly opposite to ! "o x express$ be=e ! little m>k 0 writt5 or eras$4 ,! be/ mode ( /udy+ punctuation is to read ov] :at y write1 al\d1 & put 9 ! po9ts z y w\ld dwell a long] or %ort] "t on ! words1 7 y speak+4 ,we n[ come to ! use ( capital lett]s1 a subject next1 9 importance to punctuation1 & "o too (t5 neglect$1 ev5 by writ]s o!rwise c>eful4 ,! fir/ ^w ( e piece ( writ+1 :e!r x be a book1 a poem1 a /ory1 a lett]1 a bill1 a note1 or only a l9e ( directions1 mu/ beg9 ) a capital lett]4 ,quotations1 ev5 ?\gh !y are n imm$iately prec$$ by a p]iod1 mu/ inv>iably beg9 ) a capital lett]4 ,e new s5t5ce1 foll[+ a p]iod1 exclamation m>k1 or int]rogation po9t1 mu/ beg9 ) a capital lett]4 ,e prop] "n1 :e!r x be ( a p]son1 a place1 or an object1 mu/ beg9 ) a capital lett]4 ,! pron\n ,i & exclamation ,o mu/ be always writt5 9 capital lett]s4 ,capitals mu/ nev]1 except 9 ! case ( prop] names or ! two lett]s m5tion$ 9 ! la/ p>agraph1 be writt5 9 ! middle ( a s5t5ce4 ,a capital lett] mu/ nev] be us$ 9 ! middle ( a ^w1 among ! small lett]s2 nor mu/ x be us$ at ! end ( a ^w4 ,no?+ adds m to ! beauty ( a lett]1 or any writt5 composition1 ?an h&somely writt5 capital lett]s1 us$ 9 _! prop] places4 ,hav+ specifi$ ! mo/ important po9ts 9 a correct lett]1 we next come to t :i*1 m ?an any?+ else1 %[s ! m9d ( ! writ]2 t :i* proves 8 good or bad education2 t :i* gives him rank z an elegant or inelegant writ]--,/yle4 ,x is /yle :i* adorns or disfigures a subject2 :i* makes ! humble/ matt] appe> *oice & elegant1 or :i* r$uces ! mo/ exalt$ ideas to a level ) common1 or vulg> ones4 ,"l ,*e/]field says1 ,x is ( ! greate/ importance to write lett]s well2 z ?is is a tal5t :i* unavoidably occurs e day ( "o's life1 z well 9 bus9ess z 9 pleasure2 & inaccuracies 9 or?ography or 9 /yle are nev] p>don$4 ,mu* dep5ds ^u ! mann] 9 :i* !y are writt52 :i* ought to be easy & natural1 n /ra9$ & florid4 ,= in/ance1 :5 y are ab\t to s5d a billet-d\x1 or love lett] to a fair fri5d1 y mu/ only ?9k ( :at y w\ld say to h] if y 7 bo? toge!r1 & !n write x2 t r5d]s ! /yle easy & natural2 ?\gh "s p imag9e ! word+ ( a lett] to be a great und]tak+1 & ?9k !y mu/ write abundantly bett] ?an !y talk1 :i* is n at all necess>y4 ,/yle is ! dress ( ?\ghts1 & let !m be ev] s j1 if y\r /yle is homely1 co>se1 & vulg>1 !y w appe> to z mu* disadvantage & be z ill receiv$ z y\r p]son1 ?\gh ev] s well proportion$1 w\ld1 if dress$ 9 rags1 dirt1 & tatt]s4 ,x is n e und]/&+ t c judge ( matt]2 b e "o c & does judge1 m or less1 ( /yle2 & 7 ,i ei!r to speak or write to ! public1 ,i %\ld pref] mod]ate matt]1 adorn$ ) all ! beauties & elegancies ( /yle1 to ! /ronge/ matt] 9 ! _w1 ill word$ & ill deliv]$4 ,write legibly1 correctly1 & )\t erasures ^u a :ole %eet ( pap]1 nev] ^u half a %eet4 ,*oose pap] :i* is ?ick1 :ite1 & p]fectly pla94 ,! initials /amp$ at ! top ( a %eet are ! only ornam5t all[$ a g5tleman4 ,x is an unp>donable fault to write ^u a %eet :i* has any?+ writt5 or drawn ^u x1 or is soil$2 & q z bad to answ] a note ^u half ! %eet x is writt5 ^u1 or write on ! o!r side ( a %eet :i* has be5 us$ be=e4 ,write y\r own ideas 9 y\r own words1 nei!r borr[+ or copy+ f ano!r4 ,if y are detect$ 9 a plagi>ism1 y w nev] recov] y\r reputation = orig9ality1 & y may f9d y\rself 9 ! position ( ! h]o ( ! foll[+ anecdote3 ,mr4 ,o41 a man ( b little cultivation1 fell 9 love ) ,miss ,n41 ^: f9e intellect 0 duly improv$ by a ?or\gh c\rse ( /udy & read+1 :ile h] wit1 vivacity1 & beauty made ,mr4 ,o4 "o only among/ _m suitors4 ,fasc9at$ by h] beauty & graci\s mann] he det]m9$ to settle 8 fate1 & ask h] to g =w>d 9 ! alphabet & *oose ! next lett] to put to h] surname4 ,b h[8 ,five times he tri$ to speak1 & five times ! gay beauty s l$ ! disc\rse t he left at ! end ( ea* int]view1 no wis] ?an :5 he came4 ,at l5g? he resolv$ to write4 ,x 0 ! fir/ "t he _h held ! p5 = any b a bus9ess lett]4 ,aft] comm5c+ twice ) ,de> sir1 once )1 ,i write to in=m y t ,i am well & hope ?is lett] w f9d y ! same1 & once )1 ,y\r la/ duly receiv$1 he ?rew ! p5 aside 9 disgu/ & despair4 ,a love lett] 0 beyond 8 feeble capacities4 ,sudd5ly a brilliant idea /ruck him4 ,he _h lately se51 9 turn+ ! leaves ( a popul> novel1 a lett]1 p]haps a love lett]4 ,he procur$ ! book1 f\nd ! lett]4 ,x 0 full ( fire & passion1 words ( love1 prote/ations ( nev] fail+ con/ancy1 & conta9$ an (f] ( m>riage4 ,) a h& t trembl$ ) ec/asy1 ,o4 copi$ & sign$ ! lett]1 seal$1 direct$1 & s5t x4 ,! next day came ! answ]--simply3 ,my ,fri5d1 ,turn to ! next page & y w f9d ! reply4 ,a4 ,n4 ,he did s1 & f\nd a polite refusal ( 8 suit4 ,! secret ( lett] writ+ consi/s 9 writ+ z y w\ld speak4 ,?us1 if y speak well1 y w write well2 if y speak ill1 y w also write ill4 ,endeavor always to write z correctly & prop]ly z possible4 ,if y h reason to d\bt y\r own spell+1 c>efully read & correct e lett] be=e y fold x4 ,an ill-=m$ lett] is1 h[ev]1 bett] let alone4 ,y w n improve x by try+ to re=m x1 & ! ef=t w be pla9ly visible4 ,let y\r /yle be simple1 concise1 & cle>1 entirely void ( pret5sion1 )\t any phrases writt5 m]ely = effect1 )\t useless fl[]y language1 respectful t[>ds sup]iors1 wom51 & old] p]sons1 & x w be well4 ,abbreviations are only p]mitt$ 9 bus9ess lett]s1 & 9 fri5dly correspond5ce mu/ nev] be us$4 ,figures are nev] to be us$ except+ :5 putt+ a date or a sum ( money4 ,9 a bus9ess lett] ! money is g5]ally specifi$ bo? 9 figures & words1 ?us2 #ejj ,five hundr$ doll>s4 ,y may put ! "n1 date1 & address ( a lett] ei!r at ! top ( ! page or at ! end4 ,i give a specim5 ( ea* /yle to %[ my mean+4 ,,philadelphia1 ,june #be?1 #ahee4 ,,mr4 ,,james ,,smi?1 ,de> ,sir1 ,! goods ord]$ 9 y\r lett] ( ! #ai? in/4 7 s5t ?is morn+ by ,adam's ,express4 ,we %all be always happy to he> f y1 & w promptly fill any fur!r ord]s4 ,y\rs1 truly1 ,,jones1 ,,br[n1 ,,co4 or1 ,de> ,sir1 ,y\r favor ( ! #e? in/4 receiv$ to day4 ,w execute y\r commissions ) pleasure4 ,y\rs1 truly1 ,j4 ,jones4 ,,mr4 ,,james ,,smi?4 ,,phila41 ,june #be?1 #ahed4 ,if y s5d y\r own address put x "u y\r own signature1 ?us3 ,j4 ,,jones1 #ag ,w---- /41 ,,new ,,york4 ,! etiquette ( lett]-writ+1 %\ld1 z mu* z possible1 be influ5c$ by pr9ciples ( tru?4 ,! sup]scription & ! subscription %\ld alike be 9 accordance ) ! tone ( ! communication1 & ! dome/ic or social relation ( ^? betwe5 :om x passes4 ,communications ^u pr(essional or bus9ess matt]s1 :]e no acqua9tance exi/s to modify ! circum/ances1 %\ld be writt5 ?us3--,mr4 ,gillot w feel oblig$ by ,mr4 ,slack's s5d+ by ! be>]1 c4 ,x is an absurdity = a man :o writes a *all5ge1 or an (f5sive lett]1 to ano!r1 to subscribe himself1 ,y\r ob$i5t ,s]vant4 ,i dislike ?is =m ( subscription1 also1 :5 employ$ by p]sons ( equal rank4 ,x is p]fectly becom+ :5 address$ by a s]vant to an employ]4 ,b 9 o!r cases1 ,y\rs truly1 ,y\rs v truly1 ,y\r ,fri5d1 ,y\r s9c]e ,fri5d1 ,y\r ,well-wi%]1 ,y\r grateful ,fri5d1 ,y\r affectionate ,fri5d1 c41 c41 appe>s to be mu* m tru?ful1 & to be m 9 keep+ ) ! legitimate expression ( good feel+4 ,x is impossible to lay d[n a set ( rules t %all gov]n all cases4 ,b z a pr9ciple1 x may be urg$1 t no p]son %\ld address ano!r z1 ,de> ,sir1 or1 ,de> ,madam1 )\t feel+s & relations t ju/ify ! use ( ! adjective4 ,^! complim5ts are mock]ies4 ,no "o :o ent]ta9s a desire to write ano!r z de>1 ne$ feel afraid ( giv+ (f5ce by famili>ity2 = all mank9d prize ! e/eem ev5 ( _! humble/ fell[s too mu* to be annoy$ by x4 ,& 9 proportion z ! integrity ( ! =ms ( correspond5ce increase1 s w ^! expressions ( good feel+ be m appreciat$4 ,! next po9t to be consid]$ is ! subject ( y\r lett]1 & )\t a good subject ! epi/le w be apt to be dull4 ,i d n mean by ?is t x is necess>y to h any extraord9>y ev5t to relate1 or />tl+ news to communicate2 b 9 ord] to write a good lett]1 x is necess>y to h a good subject1 t y may n rival ! ,fr5*man :o wrote to 8 wife--,i write to y because ,i h no?+ to d3 ,i /op because ,i h no?+ to say4 ,lett]s writt5 )\t aim or object1 simply = ! sake ( writ+1 are apt to be /upid1 trivial1 or fooli%4 ,y may write to a fri5d to congratulate him ^u "s happy ev5t to himself1 or to condole ) him 9 "s mis=tune1 or to ask 8 congratulations or condol5ce = y\rself4 ,y may write to enquire = 8 heal?1 or to ext5d an invitation1 a lett] ( ?anks1 felicitations1 ^u bus9ess1 or a ?\s& o!r subjects1 :i* x is useless = me to enum]ate4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,bus9ess4 ,! *ief object 9 a lett] ( bus9ess is to communicate or enquire ab\t "s "o fact1 & ! epi/le %\ld be conf9$ entirely to t fact4 ,all complim5ts1 je/s1 high-fl[n language & s5tim5t1 are entirely out ( place 9 a bus9ess lett]1 & brevity %\ld be "o ( ! mo/ important aims4 ,d n let y\r desire to be brief1 h[ev]1 make y\r mean+ obscure2 bett] to add a few words1 or ev5 l9es1 to ! l5g? ( y\r lett]1 ?an to s5d x 9 confus$1 un9telligible language4 ,*e/]field's advice on bus9ess lett]s is excell5t4 ,he says3 ,! fir/ ?+ necess>y 9 writ+ lett]s ( bus9ess is1 extreme cle>ness & p]spicuity2 e p>agraph %\ld be s cle> & unambigu\s t ! dulle/ fell[ 9 ! _w may n be able to mi/ake x1 nor oblig$ to read x twice 9 ord] to und]/& x4 ,?is necess>y cle>ness implies a correctness1 )\t exclud+ an elegance ( /yle4 ,tropes1 figures1 anti!sis1 epigrams1 c41 w\ld be z misplac$ & z imp]t95t 9 lett]s ( bus9ess z !y are sometimes 7if judici\sly us$7 prop] & pleas+ 9 famili> lett]s1 ^u common & trite subjects4 ,9 bus9ess1 an elegant simplicity1 ! result ( c>e1 n ( labor1 is requir$4 ,bus9ess mu/ be well1 n affect$ly dress$2 b by no means neglig5tly4 ,let y\r fir/ att5tion be to cle>ness1 & read e p>agraph aft] y h writt5 x1 9 ! critical view ( discov]+ :e!r x is possible t any "o man c mi/ake ! true s5se ( x2 & correct x accord+ly4 ,our pron\ns & relatives (t5 create obscurity & ambiguity2 be1 !re=e1 exce$+ly att5tive to !m1 & take c>e to m>k out ) precision _! p>ticul> relations4 ,= example1 ,mr4 ,johnson acqua9t$ me1 t he _h se5 ,mr4 ,smi?1 :o _h promis$ him to speak to ,mr4 ,cl>ke1 to return him 7,mr4 ,johnson7 ^? pap]s1 :i* he 7,mr4 ,smi?7 _h left "s "t ago ) him 7,mr4 ,cl>ke72 x is bett] to repeat a "n1 ?\gh unnecess>ily1 t5 times1 ?an to h ! p]son mi/ak5 once4 ,:o1 y "k1 is s+ly relative to p]sons1 & _c be appli$ to ?+s2 :i* & t are *iefly relative to ?+s1 b n absolutely exclusive ( p]sons2 = "o may say ! man1 t robb$ or kill$ su*-a-"o2 b x is bett] to say1 ! man :o robb$ or kill$4 ,"o nev] says1 ! man or woman :i*4 ,:i* & t1 ?\gh *iefly relative to ?+s1 _c be always us$ indiff]5tly z to ?+s4 ,= in/ance1 ! lett] :i* ,i receiv$ f y1 :i* y ref]r$ to 9 y\r la/1 :i* came by ,"l ,albem>le's mess5g]1 :i* ,i %[$ to su*-a-"o2 ,i w\ld *ange x ?us--,! lett] t ,i receiv$ f y1 :i* y ref]r$ to 9 y\r la/1 t came by ,"l ,albem>le's mess5g]1 & :i* ,i %[$ to su*-a-"o4 ,bus9ess does n exclude 7z possibly y wi% x did7 ! usual t]ms ( polit5ess & good bre$+2 b1 on ! contr>y1 /rictly requires !m2 su* z1 ,i h ! honor to acqua9t y2 ,p]mit me to assure y2 or1 ,if ,i may be all[$ to give my op9ion1 c4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,bus9ess w n only admit (1 b be ! bett] = c]ta9 graces--b !n1 !y mu/ be scatt]$ ) a skillful & sp>+ h&2 !y mu/ fit _! place exactly4 ,!y mu/ adorn )\t encumb]+1 & mode/ly %9e )\t gl>+4 ,b z ?is is ! utmo/ degree ( p]fection 9 lett]s ( bus9ess1 ,i w\ld n advise y to attempt ^? embelli%m5ts1 till y h j laid y\r f\ndation well4 ,c>efully avoid all ,greek or ,lat9 quotations2 & br+ no prec$5ts f ! virtu\s ,sp>tans1 ! polite ,a!nians1 & ! brave ,romans4 ,leave all t to futile p$ants4 ,no fl\ri%es1 no declamations4 ,b 7,i repeat x aga97 !re is an elegant simplicity & dignity ( /yle absolutely necess>y = good lett]s ( bus9ess2 att5d to t c>efully4 ,let y\r p]iods be h>moni\s1 )\t seem+ to be labor$2 & let !m n be too long1 = t always occasions a degree ( obscurity4 ,i %\ld n m5tion correct or?ography1 b t to fail 9 t p>ticul> w br+ ridicule ^u y2 = no man is all[$ to spell ill4 ,! h&-writ+1 too1 %\ld be good2 & ,i _c conceive :y x is ev] o!rwise1 s9ce e man may1 c]ta9ly1 write :atev] h& he pleases4 ,neatness 9 fold+ up1 seal+1 & direct+ y\r packets is1 by no means1 to be neglect$4 ,!re is some?+ 9 ! ext]ior1 ev5 ( a packet or lett]1 t may please or displease2 &1 consequ5tly1 wor? "s att5tion4 ,if y are writ+ a lett]1 ei!r ^u y\r own bus9ess or ^u t ( ! p]son y are address+1 n 9 answ] to him1 b op5+ ! subject betwe5 y1 foll[ ! rule ( cle>ness & ( bus9ess brevity4 ,come to ! po9t at once1 9 ord] t ! p]son address$ may easily compreh5d y4 ,put nobody to ! labor ( guess+ :at y desire1 & be c>eful t half-in/ructions d n lead y\r correspond5t a/ray4 ,if y h s cle> an idea ( y\r op]ation 9 y\r m9d1 or if x is s simple a "o t x ne$s no words1 except specific directions1 or a pla9 reque/1 y ne$ n wa/e "t1 b1 ) ! prop] =ms ( c\rtesy1 in/ruct him ( y\r wi%es4 ,9 :atev] y write1 rememb] t "t is valuable2 & t emb>rass+ or indef9ite lett]s are a great nuisance to a bus9ess man4 ,i ne$ h>dly rem>k1 t punctuality 9 answ]+ correspond5ts is "o ( ! c>d9al bus9ess virtues4 ,:]e x is possible1 answ] lett]s by return ( po/1 z y w ?us save y\r own "t1 & pay y\r correspond5t a flatt]+ complim5t4 ,& 9 op5+ a correspond5ce or writ+ ^u y\r own bus9ess1 let y\r communication be made at ! e>lie/ prop] date 9 ord] t y\r correspond5t1 z well z y\rself1 may h ! b5efit ( ?\ght & delib]ation4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,inquiry %\ld be writt5 9 a happy m$ium1 betwe5 t$i\s l5g? & ! brevity :i* w\ld betok5 indiff]5ce4 ,z ! subject is g5]ally limit$ to que/ions ^u "o subject1 !y w n admit ( mu* v]biage1 & if y\r inquiry relates simply to a matt] ( bus9ess1 x is bett] to conf9e y\r words /rictly to t bus9ess2 if1 h[ev]1 y are writ+ to make inquiry z to ! heal? ( a fri5d1 or any o!r matt] 9 :i* feel+ or affection dictates ! epi/le1 ! cold1 =mal /yle ( a bus9ess lett] w\ld become he>tless1 &1 9 _m cases1 positively insult+4 ,y mu/ "h add "s words ( complim5t1 express y\r fri5dly int]e/ 9 ! subject1 & y\r hope t a favorable answ] may be return$1 & if ! occasion is a pa9ful "o1 a few l9es ( regret or condol5ce may be add$4 ,if y are reque/+ a favor ( y\r correspond5t1 y %\ld apologize = ! tr\ble y are giv+ him1 & m5tion ! necessity :i* prompts y to write4 ,if y are mak+ inquiries ( a fri5d1 y\r lett] w !n admit ( "s words ( complim5t1 & may be writt5 9 an easy1 famili> /yle4 ,if writ+ to a /rang]1 y\r reque/ = in=mation becomes a p]sonal favor1 & y %\ld write 9 a mann] to %[ him t y feel ?is4 ,speak ( ! obligation he w conf]1 m5tion ! necessity :i* compels y to tr\ble him1 & foll[ 8 answ] by a note ( ?anks4 ,always1 :5 s5d+ a lett] ( inquiry1 enclose a /amp = ! answ]4 ,if y tr\ble y\r correspond5t to take 8 "t to write y in=mation1 valuable only to y\rself1 y h no "r to tax him also = ! price ( po/age4 ,,answ]s ,,to ,,lett]s ,,( ,,inquiry %\ld be writt5 z soon z possible aft] su* lett]s are receiv$4 ,if ! inquiry is ( a p]sonal nature1 conc]n+ y\r heal?1 family affairs1 or ! d5ial or corroboration ( "s report conc]n+ y\rself1 y %\ld ?ank y\r correspond5t = ! int]e/ he expresses1 & su* a lett] %\ld be answ]$ imm$iately4 ,if ! lett] y receive conta9s que/ions :i* y _c answ] in/antly1 z1 = in/ance1 if y are oblig$ to see a ?ird p>ty1 or y\rself make inquiry ^u ! subject propos$1 x is be/ to write a few l9es ackn[l$g+ ! receipt ( y\r fri5d's lett]1 express+ y\r pleasure at be+ able to s]ve him1 & /at+ :y y _c imm$iately give him ! desir$ in=mation1 ) ! promise to write aga9 z soon z su* in=mation is y\rs to s5d4 ,,lett]s ,,reque/+ ,,favors are try+ to write1 & mu/ be dictat$ by ! circum/ances :i* make !m necess>y4 ,be c>eful n to be s]vile 9 su* lett]s4 ,take a respectful1 b1 at ! same "t1 manly tone2 &1 :ile y ackn[l$ge ! obligation a favorable answ] w conf]1 d n adopt ! cr++ language ( a begg>4 ,,lett]s ,,conf]r+ ,,favors %\ld nev] be writt5 9 a /yle to make ! recipi5t feel a weight ( obligation2 on ! contr>y1 ! /yle %\ld be su* z w endeavor to conv9ce y\r correspond5t t 9 8 acceptance ( y\r favor he conf]s an obligation ^u y4 ,,lett]s ,,refus+ ,,favors call = y\r mo/ c\rte\s language1 = !y mu/ give "s pa91 & ?is may be v mu* s(t5$ by ! mann] 9 :i* y write4 ,express y\r regret at be+ unable to grant y\r fri5d's reque/1 a hope t at "s future "t x may be 9 y\r p[] to answ] ano!r su* lett] m favorably1 & give a good reason = y\r refusal4 ,,lett]s ,,ackn[l$g+ ,,favors1 or lett]s ( ?anks1 %\ld be writt5 9 a cordial1 frank1 & grateful /yle4 ,:ile y e>ne/ly ?ank y\r correspond5t = 8 k9dness1 y mu/ nev] h9t at any paym5t ( ! obligation4 ,if y h ! means ( oblig+ him ne> y at t in/ant1 make y\r (f] ( ! favor ! subject ( ano!r lett]1 le/ he attribute y\r ha/e to a desire to rid y\rself ( an obligation4 ,to h9t at a future paym5t is /ill m indelicate4 ,:5 y c %[ y\r gratitude by a suitable return1 !n let y\r actions1 n y\r words1 speak = ! accuracy ( y\r memory 9 reta9+ ! recollection ( favors conf]r$4 ,,anonym\s ,,lett]s4 ,! man :o w\ld write an anonym\s lett]1 ei!r to insult ! p]son address$1 or annoy a ?ird p]son1 is a sc\ndrel1 :om 'tw]e gross flatt]y to "n a c[>d4 ,none b a man ( ! l[e/ pr9ciples1 & meane/ "*1 w\ld commit an act to gratify malice or hatr$ )\t dang] to himself4 ,a g5tleman w treat su* a communication ) ! contemptu\s sil5ce :i* x des]ves4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,intellig5ce4 ,! fir/ ?+ to be reg>d$ 9 a lett] ( intellig5ce is tru?4 ,!y are writt5 on e v>iety ( subjects1 "u circum/ances ( ! sadde/ & ! mo/ joyful nature4 ,!y are writt5 (t5 "u ! pressure ( ! mo/ cru%+ grief1 at o!r times :5 ! h& trembles ) ec/acy1 & v frequ5tly :5 a weight ( o!r c>es & engagem5ts makes ! "t ( ! writ] invaluable4 ,yet1 :e!r ! subject communicat$ conc]ns y\rself or ano!r1 rememb] t e writt5 ^w is a record = y\r v]acity or falsehood4 ,if exagg]ation1 or1 /ill worse1 malice1 guide y\r p51 9 imp>t+ pa9ful subjects1 or if ! desire to avoid caus+ grief makes y violate tru? to s(t5 try+ news1 y are sign+ y\r "n to a writt5 falsehood1 & ! lett] may1 at "s future "t1 rise to confront y & prove t y\r intellig5ce _c be tru/$4 ,:atev] ! "* ( ! news y communicate1 let ta/e & discretion guide y 9 ! mann] ( imp>t+ x4 ,if x is ( s sorr[ful a "* t y "k x mu/ cause pa91 y may endeavor to op5 ! subject gradually1 & a few l9es ( sympa?y & com=t1 if unhe$$ at ! "t1 may be appreciat$ :5 ! m\rn] re-reads y\r lett] 9 calm] mom5ts4 ,joyful news1 ?\gh x does n ne$ ! same caution1 also admits ( expressions ( sympa?y4 ,nev] write ! gossip ar\nd y1 unless y are oblig$ to communicate "s ev5t1 & !n write only :at y "k to be true1 or1 if y speak ( d\btful matt]s1 /ate !m to be su*4 ,avoid m]e sc&al & he>say1 &1 above all1 avoid lett+ y\r own malice or bitt]ness ( feel+ color all y\r /atem5ts 9 _! blacke/ dye4 ,be1 "u su* circum/ances1 tru?ful1 j1 & *>itable4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,recomm5dation %\ld be writt5 only :5 !y are positively necess>y1 & great caution %\ld be us$ 9 giv+ !m4 ,!y make y1 9 a measure1 responsible = ! conduct ( ano!r1 & if y give !m frequ5tly1 on slight gr\nds1 y w c]ta9ly h cause to rep5t y\r c>elessness4 ,!y are lett]s ( bus9ess1 & %\ld be c>efully compos$2 tru?ful1 :ile !y are c\rte\s1 & j1 :ile !y are k9d4 ,if y sacrifice c&or to a mi/ak5 k9dness1 y n only make y\rself a p>ty to any mis*ief t may result1 b y are committ+ a di%one/ act t[>ds ! p]son to :om ! lett] w be deliv]$4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,introduction %\ld be %ort1 z !y are g5]ally deliv]$ 9 p]son1 & ought n to occupy mu* "t 9 read+1 z no "o likes to h to wait :ile a long lett] ( introduction is read4 ,:ile y speak ( ! be>] 9 ! w>m language ( fri5d%ip1 d n write praises 9 su* a lett]2 !y are ab\t z mu* 9 place z !y w\ld be if y spoke !m at a p]sonal introduction4 ,leave lett]s ( introduction unseal$1 = x is a gross brea* ( polit5ess to prev5t ! be>] f read+ :at y h writt51 by fa/5+ ! envelope4 ,! mo/ common =m is3-- ,de> ,sir1 ,x gives me mu* pleasure to introduce to y1 ! be>] ( ?is lett]1 z my fri5d ,mr4 ,j----1 :o is to rema9 a few days 9 y\r city on 8 way to ,new ,orleans4 ,i tru/ t ! acqua9tance ( two fri5ds1 = :om ,i h s long ent]ta9$ s w>m an e/eem1 w prove z pleasant z my int]c\rse ) ea* has always be54 ,any att5tion :i* x may be 9 y\r p[] to pay to ,mr4 ,j----1 :il/ he is 9 y\r city1 w be highly appreciat$ & gratefully ackn[l$g$ by ,y\r s9c]e fri5d ,,james ,c4 ,,ray4 ,,mr4 ,l4 ,g4 ,,edmonds4 ,june #bc;d1 #ah--4 ,if y\r lett] is to introduce any g5tleman 9 8 bus9ess or pr(essional capacity1 m5tion :at t bus9ess is2 & if y\r own acqua9tance ) ! be>] is slight1 y may also use ! "n ( ! p]sons f :om he br\ght lett]s to y\rself4 ,"h1 y may1 ) p]fect propriety1 say a few words 9 praise ( ! be>]'s skill 9 8 pr(essional labors4 ,if he is an arti/1 y ne$ n hesitate to give a favorable op9ion ( :atev] ( 8 pictures y h se51 or1 if a musician1 express ! delight 8 skill has af=d$ y4 ,a ,,lett] ,,reque/+ ,,an ,,autograph %\ld always enclose a po/age /amp = ! reply4 ,9 su* a lett] "s words ( complim5t1 expressive ( ! value ( ! "n = :i* y ask1 is 9 good ta/e4 ,y may ref] to ! de$s or celebrity :i* h made ! "n s desirable1 & also express y\r s5se ( ! greatness ( ! favor1 & ! obligation ! grant+ ( x w conf]4 ,,autograph ,,lett]s %\ld be %ort2 conta9+ m]ely a few l9es1 ?ank+ ! p]son address$ = ! complim5t paid 9 reque/+ ! signature1 & expressive ( ! pleasure x gives y to comply ) ! reque/4 ,if y wi% to refuse 7?\gh none b a *url w\ld d s71 d n fall into ! error ( an ecc5tric ,am]ican ^: high position 9 ! army tempt$ a collector ( autographs to reque/ 8 signature4 ,! g5]al wrote 9 reply3-- ,sir1 ,i'll be hang$ if ,i s5d my autograph to anybody4 ,y\rs1 ----4 & sign$ 8 "n 9 full 9 ! /rong1 bold lett]s :i* always *>act]iz$ 8 h& writ+4 ,,invitations ,,to ,,ladies %\ld be writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 unless y are v intimate ) !m1 or c claim relation%ip4 ,all lett]s address$ to a lady %\ld be writt5 9 a respectful /yle1 & :5 !y are %ort & to a comp>ative /rang]1 ! ?ird p]son is ! mo/ elegant "o to use4 ,rememb]1 9 direct+ lett]s to "y ladies1 ! elde/ "o 9 a family is address$ by ! surname alone1 :ile ! o!rs h also ! prop] "n2 ?us1 if y wrote to ! daught]s ( ,mr4 ,smi?1 ! elde/ "o is ,miss ,smi?1 ! o!rs1 ,miss ,annie ,smi? & ,miss ,jane ,smi?4 ,invitations %\ld be s5t by y\r own s]vant1 or cl]k4 ,no?+ is m vulg> ?an s5d+ invitations ?r\gh ! despat*1 & y run ! risk ( _! be+ delay$4 ,! fir/ "t t y invite a lady to accompany y to ride1 walk1 or visit any place ( public amusem5t1 y %\ld also invite h] "m1 si/]1 or any o!r lady 9 ! same family1 unless y h a "m or si/] ) :om ! lady invit$ is acqua9t$1 :5 y %\ld say 9 y\r note t y\r "m or si/] w accompany y4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,complim5t be+ conf9$ to "o subject %\ld be %ort & simple4 ,if !y are ( ?anks = inquiry made1 !y %\ld m]ely e*o ! lett] !y answ]1 ) ! ackn[l$gem5t ( y\r correspond5t's c\rtesy4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,congratulation4 ,lett]s ( congratulation are ! mo/ agreeable ( all lett]s to write2 y\r subject is be=e y1 & y h ! pleasure ( sympa?iz+ 9 ! happ9ess ( a fri5d4 ,!y %\ld be writt5 9 a frank1 g5ial /yle1 ) w>m expressions ( pleasure at y\r fri5d's joy1 & admit ( any happy quotations or je/4 ,:5 congratulat+ y\r fri5d on an occasion ( happ9ess to himself1 be v c>eful t y\r lett] has no ^w ( envy at 8 good =tune1 no fe>s = its %ort duration1 no prophecy ( a *ange = ! worse2 let all be bright1 *e]ful1 & hopeful4 ,!re are few m5 ^: life calls = lett]s ( congratulation ^u _m occasions1 let !m h bright1 uncl\d$ ones :5 !y c claim !m4 ,if y h o!r fri5ds ^: sorr[ makes a contra/ ) ! joy ( ! p]son to :om y are writ+1 nay1 ev5 if y y\rself are 9 affliction1 d n m5tion x 9 su* a lett]4 ,at ! same "t avoid ! satire ( exagg]ation 9 y\r expressions ( congratulation1 & be v c>eful h[ y und]l9e a ^w4 ,if y write a hope t y\r fri5d may be p]fectly happy1 he w n ?9k t ! emphasis proves ! /r5g? ( y\r wi%1 b t y are fe>ful t x w n be fulfill$4 ,if at ! same "t t y are writ+ a lett] ( congratulation1 y h sorr[ful news to communicate1 d n put y\r tid+s ( grief into y\r congratulatory lett]2 let t conta9 only *e]ful1 pleasant words2 ev5 if y\r pa9ful news mu/ be s5t ! same day1 s5d x 9 a sep>ate epi/le4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,condol5ce are try+ bo? to ! writ] & to ! read]4 ,if y\r sympa?y is s9c]e1 & y feel ! grief ( y\r fri5d z if x 7 y\r own1 y w f9d x difficult to express 9 writt5 words ! sorr[ t y are anxi\s to com=t4 ,ev5 ! w>me/1 mo/ s9c]e expressions1 s\nd cold & commonplace to ! m\rn]1 & "o grasp ( ! h&1 "o glance ( ! eye1 w d m to express sympa?y ?an :ole %eets ( writt5 words4 ,x is be/ n to try to say all t y feel4 ,y w fail 9 ! attempt & may we>y y\r fri5d4 ,let y\r lett]1 !n1 be %ort1 7n he>tlessly s7 b let its words1 ?\gh few1 be w>m & s9c]e4 ,any light1 *e]ful je/+ w be insult+ 9 a lett] ( condol5ce4 ,if y wi% to com=t by br++ =w>d bless+s or hopes = ! future1 d n d x ) gay1 or je/+ expressions1 b 9 a g5tle1 k9d mann]1 draw+ y\r words ( com=t1 n f trivial1 pass+ ev5ts1 b f ! highe/ & pure/ s\rces4 ,if ! subject = condol5ce be loss ( =tune or any simil> ev5t1 y\r lett] w admit ( ! *e]+ words ( e-day life1 & k9dly hopes t ! :eel ( =tune may take a m favorable turn2 b1 if dea? causes y\r fri5d's affliction1 !re is b little to be said 9 ! fir/ h\rs ( grief4 ,y\r lett] ( sympa?y & com=t may be read aft] ! fir/ cru%+ grief is ov]1 & appreciat$ !n1 b words ( com=t are b little he$$ :5 ! fir/ agony ( a life-long sep>ation is felt 9 all ! =ce ( its fir/ h\rs4 ,,lett]s ,,s5t ,,) ,,pres5ts %\ld be %ort1 m]e c>ds ( complim5t1 & writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,,lett]s ,,ackn[l$g+ ,,pres5ts %\ld also be q %ort1 writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 & m]ely conta9+ a few l9es ( ?anks1 ) a ^w or two ( admiration = ! beauty1 value1 or usefulness ( ! gift4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,advice are g5]ally v unpalatable = ! read]1 & _h bett] n be writt5 unless solicit$1 & n !n unless y\r c\nsel w really b5efit y\r correspond5t4 ,:5 writt51 let !m be c\rte\s1 b1 at ! same "t1 p]fectly frank4 ,if y c av]t an evil by writ+ a lett] ( advice1 ev5 :5 unsolicit$1 x is a fri5dly (fice to write1 b x is usually a ?ankless "o4 ,to write aft] an act has be5 p]=m$1 & /ate :at y\r advice w\ld h be51 _h y\r op9ion be5 ask$1 is extremely fooli%1 & if y disapprove ( ! c\rse t has be5 tak51 y\r be/ plan is1 c]ta9ly1 to say no?+ ab\t x4 ,9 writ+ y\r lett] ( advice1 give y\r judgem5t z an op9ion1 n a law1 & say c&idly t y w n feel hurt if contr>y advice (f]$ by any o!r1 m compet5t to judge 9 ! case1 is tak54 ,:ile y\r c&or may =ce y to give ! mo/ unpalatable c\nsel1 let y\r c\rtesy s express x1 t x _c give (f5ce4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,excuse are sometimes necess>y1 & !y %\ld be writt5 promptly1 z a late apology = an (f5ce is worse ?an no apology at all4 ,!y %\ld be writt5 9 a frank1 manly /yle1 conta9+ an explanation ( ! (f5ce1 & ! facts :i* l$ to x1 ! assurance ( ! abs5ce ( malice or desire to (f5d1 sorr[ = ! circum/ances1 & a hope t y\r apology w be accept$4 ,nev] wait until circum/ances =ce an apology f y be=e writ+ a lett] ( excuse4 ,a frank1 prompt ackn[l$gem5t ( an (f5ce1 & a c&idly express$ desire to atone = x1 or = indulg5ce t[>ds x1 _c fail to conciliate any reasonable p]son4 ,,c>ds ,,( ,,complim5t mu/ always be writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,,answ]s4 ,! fir/ requisite 9 answ]+ a lett] ^u any subject1 is promptness4 ,if y c answ] by return ( mail1 d s2 if n1 write z soon z possible4 ,if y receive a lett] mak+ inquiries ab\t facts :i* y w require "t to asc]ta91 !n write a few l9es ackn[l$g+ ! receipt ( ! lett] ( inquiry & promis+ to s5d ! in=mation z soon z possible4 ,,*apt] ,,xvi4 ,,w$d+ ,,etiquette4 ,f an ,engli% "w1 ,! ,habits ( ,good ,society1 ,i quote "s directions = ! guidance ( ! happy man :o proposes to ent] ! /ate ( matrimony4 ,i h alt]$ a few words to suit ! diff]5ce ( c\ntry1 b :5 w$d+s are p]=m$ 9 *ur*1 ! rules giv5 "h are excell5t4 ,!y w apply equally well to ! ev5+ c]emony4 ,at a "t :5 our feel+s are or ought to be mo/ susceptible1 :5 ! happ9ess or mis]y ( a condition 9 :i* !re is no m$ium beg9s1 we are surr\nd$ ) =ms & etiquettes :i* rise be=e ! unw>y l spectres1 & :i* ev5 ! mo/ rigid c]emoniali/s reg>d ) a sort ( dread4 ,7 x n1 h[ev]1 = ^! =ms1 & = ?is necessity ( be+ en rgle1 !re might1 on ! solemnization ( m>riage1 be confusion1 =getfulness1 &1 ev5--speak x n al\d--irritation among ! p>ties mo/ intimately conc]n$4 ,excitem5t might ru9 all4 ,)\t a def9ite programme1 ! old maids ( ! family w\ld be ?ru/+ 9 advice4 ,! ag$ *ronicl] ( pa/ ev5ts1 or gr&mo!r by ! fireside1 w\ld h x all h] way2 ! v5]able ba*elor 9 tights1 ) 8 blue coat & metal buttons1 might ?r[ e ?+ into confusion by 8 sugge/ions4 ,x is well t we are indep5d5t ( all ^! int]f]+ advis]s2 t !re is no necessity to appeal to !m4 ,prec$5t has arrang$ x all2 we h only to put 9 or und]/& :at t /]n au?ority has laid d[n2 h[ x has be5 v>i$ by mod]n *anges2 & we mu/ j %ape our c\rse boldly4 ',boldly8' ,b !re is mu* to be done be=e we come to t4 ,fir/1 !re is ! (f] to be made4 ,well may a man :o contemplates su* a /ep say to himself1 ) ,dryd53 ',^! are ! realms ( ev]la/+ fate2' =1 9 tru?1 on m>riage "o's well-be+ n only "h b ev5 h]eaft] ma9ly dep5ds4 ,b x is n on ?is be>+ ( ! subject t we wi% to ent]1 cont5t+ ourselves ) a quotation f ! ,spectator3 ',x requires m virtues to make a good husb& or wife1 ?an :at g to ! f9i%+ any ! mo/ %9+ "* :atsoev]4' ,9 ,france1 an engagem5t is an affair ( negotiation & bus9ess2 & ! sy/em1 9 ?is respect1 greatly resembles ! practice 9 ,engl&1 on simil> occasions1 a hundr$ & fifty or two hundr$ ye>s ago1 or ev5 lat]4 ,france is ! mo/ un*ang+ c\ntry 9 ! _w 9 h] habits & dome/ic in/itutions1 & =emo/ among ^! is h] ',m>riage de conv5ance1' or ',m>riage de raison4' ,x is ?us br\ght ab\t4 ,s soon z a "y girl quits ! s*ool or conv5t :]e %e has be5 educat$1 h] fri5ds ca/ ab\t = a suitable p>ti4 ,mo/ p>5ts 9 ,france take c>e1 s soon z a daught] is born1 to put aside a sum ( money = h] 'dot1' z !y well "k t1 :atev] may be h] attractions1 t is indisp5sable 9 ord] to be m>ri$4 ,!y are ev] on ! look out = a y\? )1 at lea/1 an equal =tune1 or m2 or1 if !y are ri*1 = title1 :i* is deem$ tantam\nt to =tune2 ev5 ! p[] ( writ+ ^? two little lett]s ,de be=e y\r "n has "s value 9 ! m>riage contract4 ,hav+ satisfi$ !mselves1 !y ?us address ! "y lady3--',x is n[ "t = y to be m>ri$2 ,i "k ( an eligible mat*2 y c see ! g5tleman1 ei!r at su* a ball1 or if he is s]i\s at *ur*4 ,i d n ask y to take him if 8 appe>ance is positively disagreeable to y2 if s1 we w look out = "s "o else4' ,z a matt] ( cu/om1 ! "y lady answ]s t ! w ( h] p>5ts is h]s2 %e cons5ts to take a survey ( him to :om h] de/9y is to be entru/$2 & let u presume t he is accept$1 ?\gh x does n foll[1 & sometimes x takes sev]al mon?s to look out1 z x does = o!r matt]s1 a h\se1 or a place1 or a pair ( horses4 ,h[ev]1 %e cons5ts2 a =mal introduction takes place2 ! promis calls 9 full dress to see 8 future wife2 !y are only j to speak to ea* o!r1 & ^? few unmean+ words are spok5 9 ! pres5ce ( ! bride-elect's "m2 = ! ,fr5* ?9k x mo/ indiscreet to all[ ! affections ( a girl to be int]e/$ be=e m>riage1 le/ dur+ ! arrangem5ts = ! contract all %\ld be brok5 (f4 ,if %e has no dislike1 x is en\gh2 nev] = an in/ant are ! engag$ c\ple left alone1 & 9 v few cases d !y g up to ! alt> ) m ?an a few weeks' acqua9tance1 & usually ) less4 ,! :ole matt] is !n arrang$ by not>ies1 :o squabble ov] ! m>riage-contract1 & get all !y c = _! cli5ts4 ,! contract is usually sign$ 9 ,france on ! day be=e ! m>riage1 :5 all is consid]$ safe2 ! religi\s portion ( _! bond takes place 9 ! *ur*1 & !n ! two "y creatures are left toge!r to und]/& ea* o!r if !y c1 & to love ea* o!r if !y w2 if n !y mu/ cont5t !mselves ) :at is t]m$1 un mnage de ,p>is4 ,9 ,engl&1 =m]ly1 mu* ! same sy/em prevail$4 ,a boy ( f\rte51 be=e go+ on 8 travels1 0 contract$ to a girl ( elev51 select$ z 8 future wife by p>5ts or gu>dians2 he came back aft] ! gr&e t\r to fulfil ! engagem5t4 ,b by law x 0 imp]ative t =ty days %\ld at lea/ pass betwe5 ! contract & ! m>riage2 dur+ :i* dre>y int]val ! c\ple1 lea%$ toge!r l two "y greyh\nds1 w\ld h "t to ?9k ( ! future4 ,9 ,france1 ! p]il\s p]iod ( reflection is n all[$4 ',i really am s glad we are to take a j\rney1' said a "y ,fr5* lady to h] fri5ds2 ',i %all ?us get to "k some?+ ab\t my husb&2 he is q a /rang] to me4' ,"s /rik+ in/ances ( ! ,m>riage de conv5ance be+ infr+$ on1 h lately occurr$ 9 ,france4 ,! late ,monsieur de ,tocqueville m>ri$ = love1 aft] a five ye>s' engagem5t4 ,guizot1 probably influ5c$ by 8 acqua9tance ) ,engl&1 gave 8 daught]s lib]ty to *oose = !mselves1 & !y m>ri$ = love,b--'a v indelicate proce$+1' rem>k$ a ,fr5* comtesse ( ! old rgime1 :5 speak+ ( ?is arrangem5t4 ,b ,two bro!rs1 nam$ ,de ,witte4 ,no?+ c be m oppos$ to all ?is ?an ! ,am]ican sy/em4 ,!y are s t5aci\s ( ! fre$om ( *oice1 t ev5 p]suasion is ?\ght crim9al4 ,9 ,france negotiations are (t5 comm5c$ on ! lady's side2 9 ,am]ica1 nev]4 ,ev5 too enc\rag+ a mann]1 ev5 ! ord9>y att5tions ( civility1 are1 occasionally1 a matt] ( reproa*4 ,we are jeal\s ( ! delicacy ( t sacr$ bond2 :i* we presume to hope is to spr+ out ( mutual affection4 ,a g5tleman :o1 f :atev] motives1 has made up 8 m9d to m>ry1 may set ab\t x 9 two ways4 ,he may propose by lett] or 9 words4 ,! cu/oms ( society imply ! necessity ( a suffici5t k ( ! lady to be address$4 ,?is1 ev5 9 ?is c\ntry1 is a difficult po9t to be atta9$2 &1 aft] all1 _c be calculat$ by "t1 s9ce1 9 l>ge cities1 y may "k p a ye>1 & yet be comp>ative /rang]s2 &1 meet+ !m 9 ! c\ntry1 may become intimate 9 a week4 ,hav+ made up 8 m9d1 ! g5tleman (f]s--wisely1 if he c1 9 spee*4 ,lett]s are seldom expressive ( :at really passes 9 ! m9d ( man2 or1 if expressive1 seem fooli%1 s9ce deep feel+s are liable to exagg]ation4 ,e writt5 ^w may be ! !me ( cavil4 ,/udy1 c>e1 :i* avail 9 e o!r species ( composition1 are dea? to ! lov]'s effusion4 ,a few s5t5ces1 spok5 9 e>ne/1 & brok5 by emotion1 are m eloqu5t ?an pages ( s5tim5t1 bo? to p>5t & daught]4 ,let him1 h[ev]1 speak & be accept$4 ,he is1 9 t case1 in/antly tak5 into ! intimacy ( 8 adopt$ relatives4 ,su* is ! notion ( ,am]ican honor1 t ! engag$ c\ple are h5ce=? all[$ to be frequ5tly alone toge!r1 9 walk+ & at home4 ,if !re be no kn[n ob/acle to ! engagem5t1 ! g5tleman & lady are mutually introduc$ to ! respective relatives ( ea*4 ,x is = ! g5tleman's family to call fir/2 = him to make ! fir/ pres5t2 & ?is %\ld be done z soon z possible aft] ! (f] has be5 accept$4 ,x is a sort ( seal put ^u ! affair4 ,! abs5ce ( pres5ts is ?\ght to imply want ( e>ne/ness 9 ! matt]4 ,?is pres5t g5]ally consi/s ( "s p]sonal ornam5t1 say1 a r+1 & %\ld be h&some1 b n s h&some z t made = ! w$d+-day4 ,dur+ ! p]iod t elapses be=e ! m>riage1 ! betro!d man %\ld conduct himself ) peculi> def]5ce to ! lady's family & fri5ds1 ev5 if b5ea? 8 own /ation4 ,x is (t5 said3 ',i m>ry su* a lady1 b ,i d n mean to m>ry h] :ole family4' ,?is disrespectful pleasantry has some?+ 9 x s cold1 s selfi%1 t ev5 if ! lady's family be disagreeable1 !re is a total abs5ce ( delicate feel+ to h] 9 ?us speak+ ( ^? ne>e/ to h]4 ,to h] p>5ts especially1 ! conduct ( ! betro!d man %\ld be respectful2 to h] si/]s k9d )\t famili>ity2 to h] bro!rs1 e evid5ce ( good-w %\ld be te/ifi$4 ,9 mak+ e provision = ! future1 9 reg>d to settlem5ts1 all[ance = dress1 c41 ! ext5t ( lib]ality conv5i5t %\ld be ! _s ( all arrangem5ts4 ,p]fect c&or z to 8 own affairs1 respectful consid]ation = ^? ( ! family he is ab\t to ent]1 m>k a true g5tleman4 ,9 ,france1 h[ev] gay & ev5 blameable a man may h be5 be=e 8 betro?al1 he conducts himself ) ! utmo/ propriety aft] t ev5t4 ,a s5se ( :at is due to a lady %\ld repress all habits unpleasant to h]2 smok+1 if disagreeable2 frequ5t+ places ( amusem5t )\t h]2 or pay+ att5tion to o!r wom54 ,9 ?is respect1 inde$1 ! s5se ( honor %\ld lead a man to be z scrupul\s :5 8 future wife is abs5t z :5 %e is pres5t1 if n m s4 ,9 equally bad ta/e is exclusiv5ess4 ,! devotions ( two engag$ p]sons %\ld be res]v$ = ! tte--tte1 & wom5 are g5]ally 9 fault :5 x is o!rwise4 ,!y l to exhibit _! conque/2 !y _c disp5se ) att5tions2 !y =get t ! demon/ration ( any peculi> condition ( ?+s 9 society mu/ make "s "o uncom=table2 ! "y lady is uncom=table because %e is n equally happy2 ! "y man dete/s :at he calls nons5se2 ! old ?9k !re is a "t = all ?+s4 ,all sitt+ ap>t1 !re=e1 & peculi> displays1 are 9 bad ta/e2 ,i am incl9$ to ?9k t !y (t5 accompany ins9c]ity1 & t ! true/ affections are ^? :i* are res]v$ = ! g5u9e & he>tfelt intimacy ( private int]views4 ,at ! same "t1 ! airs ( indiff]5ce & avoidance %\ld be equally gu>d$ aga9/2 s9ce1 h[ev] /rong & mutual atta*m5t may be1 su* a l9e ( conduct is apt ne$lessly to mislead o!rs1 & s produce mis*ief4 ,true feel+1 & a lady-l consid]ation = o!rs1 a po9t 9 :i* ! pres5t g5]ation ess5tially fails1 are ! be/ guides = /e]+ betwe5 ! extremes ( demon/ration on ! "o h&1 & ( frigidity on ! o!r4 ,dur+ ! arrangem5t ( pecuni>y matt]s1 a "y lady %\ld endeavor to und]/& :at is go+ on1 receiv+ x 9 a "r _s4 ,if %e has =tune1 %e %\ld1 9 all po9ts left to h]1 be g5]\s & confid+1 at ! same "t prud5t4 ,_m a man1 %e %\ld rememb]1 may ab\nd 9 excell5t qualities1 & yet be improvid5t4 ,he may mean to d well1 yet h a passion = build+2 he may be ! v s\l ( good nature1 yet fond ( ! gam+-table2 he may h no wrong prop5sities ( t sort1 & yet h a confus$ notion ( acc\nts1 & be "o ( ^? m5 :o muddle away a great deal ( money1 no "o kn[s h[2 or he may be a too /rict economi/1 a man :o takes too good c>e ( ! p5ce1 till he tires y\r v life out ab\t an extra doll>2 or he may be facile or weakly good natur$1 & h a fri5d :o preys on him1 & = :om he is dispos$ to become security4 ,f9ally1 ! belov$ ,*>les1 ,h5ry1 or ,reg9ald may h none ( ^! prop5sities1 b may *ance to be an hone/ m]*ant1 or a tradesman1 ) all 8 float+ capital 9 bus9ess1 & a consequ5t risk ( be+ "o day ri*1 ! next a paup]4 ,^u e acc\nt1 !re=e1 x is desirable = a "y lady to h a settlem5t on h]2 & %e %\ld n1 f a weak _s ( romance1 oppose h] fri5ds :o advise x1 s9ce x is = h] husb&'s advantage z well z h] own4 ,by mak+ a settlem5t !re is always a fund :i* _c be t\*$--a some?+1 h[ev] small1 z a provision = a wife & *ildr52 & :e!r %e h =tune or n1 ?is ought to be made4 ,an all[ance = dress %\ld also be arrang$2 & ?is %\ld be adm9i/]$ 9 su* a way t a wife %\ld n h to ask = x at inconv5i5t h\rs1 & ?us irritate h] husb&4 ,e prelim9>y be+ settl$1 !re rema9s no?+ except to fix ! m>riage-day1 a po9t always left to ! lady to advance2 & next to settle h[ ! c]emonial is to be p]=m$ is ! subject ( consid]ation4 ,x is to be lam5t$ t1 previ\s to s solemn a c]emony1 ! ?\ghts ( ! lady conc]n$ mu/ necess>ily be engag$ = "s "t ^u h] tr\sseau4 ,! tr\sseau consi/s1 9 ?is c\ntry1 ( all ! habilim5ts necess>y = a lady's use = ! fir/ two or ?ree ye>s ( h] m>ri$ life2 l e o!r outfit !re are always a numb] ( articles introduc$ into x t are next to useless1 & are only calculat$ = ! va9-glory ( ! o/5tati\s4 ,! tr\sseau be+ complet$1 & ! day fix$1 x becomes necess>y to select ! bridesmaids & ! bridegroom's man1 & to invite ! gue/s4 ,! bridesmaids are f two to eight 9 numb]4 ,x is ridicul\s to h _m1 z ! real int5tion ( ! bridesmaid is1 t %e %\ld act z a witness ( ! m>riage4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 ?\ght a complim5t to include ! bride's si/]s & ^? ( ! bridegroom's relations & intimate fri5ds1 9 case si/]s d n exi/4 ,:5 a bride is "y ! bridesmaids %\ld be "y2 b x is absurd to see a 's+le woman ( a c]ta9 age1' or a wid[1 surr\nd$ by bloom+ girls1 mak+ h] look pla9 & fooli%4 ,= !m ! discreet woman ( ?irty-five is m suitable z a bridesmaid4 ,cu/om decides t ! bridesmaids %\ld be sp9/]s1 b !re is no legal objection to a m>ri$ woman be+ a bridesmaid1 %\ld x be necess>y1 z x might be abroad1 or at sea1 or :]e ladies are few 9 numb]4 ,great c>e %\ld be tak5 n to give (f5ce 9 ! *oice ( bridesmaids by a pref]5ce1 :i* is always 9 bad ta/e on mom5t\s occasions4 ,! gue/s at ! w$d+ %\ld be select$ ) simil> att5tion to :at is "r & k9d1 ) consid]ation to ^? :o h a claim on u1 n only to :at we ourselves pref]4 ,= a great w$d+ breakfa/1 x is cu/om>y to s5d out pr9t$ c>ds f ! p>5ts or gu>dians f ^: h\se ! "y lady is to be m>ri$4 ,e>ly 9 ! day1 be=e elev51 ! bride %\ld be dress$1 tak+ breakfa/ 9 h] own room4 ,9 ,am]ica !y load a bride ) lace fl\nces on a ri* silk1 & ev5 sometimes ) ornam5ts4 ,9 ,france x is always rememb]$1 ) bett] ta/e1 t :5 a "y lady goes up to ! alt>1 %e is 'encore jeune fille2' h] dress1 !re=e1 is exquisitely simple2 a dress ( tulle ov] :ite silk1 a long1 wide veil ( :ite tulle1 go+ d[n to ! v feet1 a wrea? ( maid5-blu%-roses int]sp]s$ ) orange fl[]s4 ,?is is ! usual co/ume ( a ,fr5* bride ( rank1 or 9 ! middle classes equally4 ,! g5tleman's dress %\ld diff] little f 8 full morn+ co/ume4 ,! days are gone by :5 g5tlem5 7 m>ri$--z a rec5tly deceas$ fri5d ( m9e 0--9 :ite sat9 bree*es & wai/coat4 ,9 ^! days m5 %[ less joy 9 _! attire at ! fond consummation ( _! hopes1 & m 9 _! faces4 ,a d>k-blue frock-coat--black be+ sup]/iti\sly consid]$ om9\s--a :ite wai/coat1 & a pair ( light tr\s]s1 suffice = ! 'happy man4' ,! neck-tie also %\ld be light & simple4 ,poli%$ boots are n amiss1 ?\gh pla9 ones are bett]4 ,! gloves mu/ be z :ite z ! l954 ,bo? are typical--= 9 ^! days types are z important z "u ! ,hebrew law-giv]s--( ! purity ( m9d & he>t :i* are suppos$ to exi/ 9 _! we>]4 ,eheu6 aft] all1 he _c be too well dress$1 = ! m gay he is ! great] ! complim5t to 8 bride4 ,fl[]s 9 ! button-hole & a smile on ! face %[ ! bridegroom to be really a 'happy man4' ,z soon z ! c>riages are at ! door1 ^? bridesmaids1 :o happ5 to be 9 ! h\se1 & ! o!r memb]s ( ! family set (f fir/4 ,! bride goes la/1 ) h] fa!r & "m1 or ) h] "m alone1 & ! bro!r or relative :o is to repres5t h] fa!r 9 case ( dea? or abs5ce4 ,! bridegroom1 8 fri5d1 or bridegroom's man1 & ! bridesmaids ought to be wait+ 9 ! *ur*4 ,! fa!r ( ! bride gives h] 8 arm1 & leads h] to ! alt>4 ,"h h] bridesmaids /& ne> h]1 z arrang$ by ! cl]k1 & ! bridegroom takes 8 appo9t$ place4 ,x is a good ?+ = ! bridegroom's man to di/ribute ! diff]5t fees to ! cl]gyman or cl]gym51 ! cl]k1 & pew-op5]1 be=e ! arrival ( ! bride1 z x prev5ts confusion aft]w>ds4 ,! bride /&s to ! left ( ! bridegroom1 & takes ! glove (f h] "r h&1 :il/ he takes 8 glove (f 8 "r h&4 ,! bride gives h] glove to ! bridesmaid to hold1 & sometimes to keep1 z a good om54 ,! s]vice !n beg9s4 ,dur+ ! recital1 x is c]ta9ly a matt] ( feel+ h[ ! p>ties conc]n$ %\ld behave2 b if te>s c be re/ra9$1 & a quiet mode/y 9 ! lady display$1 & h] emotions subdu$1 x adds mu* to ! gratification ( o!rs1 & saves a few pangs to ! p>5ts f :om %e is to "p4 ,x %\ld be rememb]$ t ?is is b ! clos+ sc5e ( a drama ( "s duration--fir/ ! (f]1 !n ! cons5t & engagem5t4 ,9 mo/ cases ! m>riage has be5 prec$$ by acts :i* h /amp$ ! :ole ) c]ta9ty1 al?\gh we d n adopt ! contract sy/em ( our =efa!rs1 & al?\gh no ev5t 9 ?is life c be c]ta94 ,i h omitt$ ! m5tion ( ! b\quet1 because x seems to me always an awkw>d addition to ! bride1 & t x %\ld be pres5t$ aft]w>ds on h] return to ! breakfa/4 ,g>d5ias1 if 9 season1 :ite azalia1 or ev5 camellias1 ) v little orange fl[]s1 =m ! bridal b\quet4 ,! bridesmaids are dress$1 on ?is occasion1 s z to complete ! picture ) effect4 ,:5 !re are six or eight1 x is usual = ?ree ( !m to dress 9 "o color1 & ?ree 9 ano!r4 ,at "s ( ! mo/ fa%ionable w$d+s 9 ,london1 ! bridesmaids we> veils--^! are usually ( net or tulle2 :ite t>latan dresses1 ov] musl9 or beautifully-work$ dresses1 are mu* worn1 ) colors introduc$--p9k or blue1 & sc>ves ( ^? colors2 & :ite bonnets1 if bonnets are worn1 trimm$ ) fl[]s to correspond4 ,^! %\ld be simple1 b ! fl[]s z natural z possible1 & ( ! f9e/ quality4 ,! b\quets ( ! bridesmaids %\ld be ( mix$ fl[]s4 ,^! !y may h at *ur*1 b ! pres5t cu/om is = ! g5tlem5 ( ! h\se to pres5t !m on _! return home1 previ\s to ! w$d+ breakfa/4 ,! regi/] is !n sign$4 ,! bride quits ! *ur* fir/ ) ! bridegroom1 & gets into 8 c>riage1 & ! fa!r & "m1 bridesmaids1 & bridegroom's man1 foll[ 9 ord] 9 _! own4 ,! breakfa/ is arrang$ on "o or m tables1 & is g5]ally provid$ by a confection] :5 exp5se is n an object4 ,pres5ts are usual1 fir/ f ! bridegroom to ! bridesmaids4 ,^! g5]ally consi/ ( jewelry1 ! device ( :i* %\ld be unique or qua9t1 ! article m elegant ?an massive4 ,! female s]vants ( ! family1 m especially s]vants :o h liv$ _m ye>s 9 _! place1 also expect pres5ts1 su* z g[ns or %awls2 or to a v valu$ p]sonal att5dant or h\sekeep]1 a wat*4 ,b on su* po9ts discretion mu/ sugge/1 & lib]ality measure out ! l>gesse ( ! gift4 ,:5 ! c]emony is p]=m$ at ! h\se ( ! bride1 ! bridegroom %\ld be ready full half an h\r be=e ! "t appo9t$1 & ent] ! p>lor at ! head ( 8 army ( bridesmaids & groomsm51 ) 8 fair bride on 8 arm4 ,9 ,am]ica a groomsman is all[$ = ea* bridesmaid1 :il/ 9 ,engl& "o poor man is all t is all[$ = six1 sometimes eight bridesmaids4 ,! bro!rs or v intimate fri5ds ( ! bride & groom are usually select$ = groomsm54 ,,*apt] ,,xvii4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,places ,,( ,,amusem5t4 ,:5 y wi% to invite a lady to accompany y to ! !atre1 op]a1 a conc]t1 or any o!r public place ( amusem5t1 s5d ! invitation ! day previ\s to ! "o select$ = tak+ h]1 & write x 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,if x is ! fir/ "t y h invit$ h]1 include h] "m1 si/]1 or "s o!r lady 9 ! invitation4 ,if %e accepts y\r invitation1 let x be y\r next c>e to secure good seats1 = x is b a poor complim5t to invite a lady to g to ! op]a1 & put h] 9 an uncom=table seat1 :]e %e c nei!r he>1 see1 nor be se54 ,al?\gh1 :5 alone1 y w act a c\rte\s "p 9 giv+ y\r seat to a /range lady1 :o is /&+1 9 a cr[d$ conc]t room1 y %\ld n d s :5 y are ) a lady4 ,by giv+ up y\r place beside h]1 y may place a lady next h]1 :om %e w f9d an unpleasant companion1 & y are y\rself sep>at$ f h]1 :5 ! conv]sation betwe5 ! acts makes "o ( ! greate/ pleasures ( an ev5+ sp5t 9 ?is way4 ,9 case ( accid5t1 too1 he deprives h] ( 8 protection1 & gives h] ! appe>ance ( hav+ come alone4 ,y\r fir/ duty1 :5 y are escort+ a lady1 is to t lady be=e all o!rs4 ,:5 y are ) a lady at a place ( amusem5t1 y mu/ n leave y\r seat until y rise to escort h] home4 ,if at ! op]a1 y may invite h] to prom5ade betwe5 ! acts1 b if %e decl9es1 d y too rema9 9 y\r seat4 ,let all y\r conv]sation be 9 a l[ tone1 n :isp]$1 nor ) any air ( my/]y1 b 9 a tone t w n di/urb ^? seat$ ne> y4 ,any lov]-l airs or attitudes1 al?\gh y may h ! "r to assume !m1 are 9 excessively bad ta/e 9 public4 ,if ! ev5+ y h appo9t$ be a /ormy "o1 y mu/ call = y\r companion ) a c>riage1 & ?is is ! m elegant way ( tak+ h] ev5 if ! wea!r does n make x absolutely necess>y4 ,:5 y are ent]+ a conc]t room1 or ! box ( a !atre1 walk be=e y\r companion up ! aisle1 until y rea* ! seats y h secur$1 !n turn1 (f] y\r h& to h]1 & place h] 9 ! inn] seat1 tak+ ! outside "o y\rself2 9 go+ out1 if ! aisle is too n>r[ to walk two abrea/1 y aga9 prec$e y\r companion until y rea* ! lobby1 :]e y turn & (f] y\r arm to h]4 ,l\d talk+1 laught]1 or mi/im$ applause1 are all 9 v bad ta/e1 = if y d n wi% to pay /rict att5tion to ! p]=mance1 ^? ar\nd y probably d1 & y pay b a poor complim5t to y\r companion 9 ?us imply+ h] want ( int]e/ 9 :at %e came to see4 ,secure y\r programme1 libretto1 or conc]t bill1 be=e tak+ y\r seat1 z1 if y leave x1 9 ord] to obta9 !m1 y may f9d "s "o else occupy+ y\r place :5 y return1 & :5 ! seats are n secur$1 he may refuse to rise1 ?us giv+ y ! alt]native ( an alt]cation1 or leav+ y\r companion )\t any protector4 ,or1 y may f9d a lady 9 y\r seat1 9 :i* case1 y h no alt]native1 b mu/ accept ! p5alty ( y\r c>elessness1 by /&+ all ! ev5+4 ,9 a cr[d1 d n pu% =w>d1 unhe$+ :om y hurt or inconv5i5ce1 b try to protect y\r companion1 z f> z possible1 & be cont5t to take y\r turn4 ,if y\r seats are secur$1 call = y\r companion 9 "t to be seat$ "s ?ree or f\r m9utes be=e ! p]=mance comm5ces1 b if y are visit+ a hall :]e y _c engage seats1 x is be/ to g e>ly4 ,if y are alone & see ladies pres5t ) :om y are acqua9t$1 y may1 ) p]fect propriety1 g & *at ) !m betwe5 ! acts1 b :5 ) a lady1 nev] leave h] to speak to ano!r lady4 ,at an exhibition ( pictures or /atu>y1 y may conv]se1 b let x be 9 a quiet1 g5tlemanly tone1 & )\t ge/ure or l\d laught]4 ,if y /& long be=e "o picture or /atue1 see t y are n int]f]+ ) o!rs :o may wi% to see ! same "w ( art4 ,if y are engag$ 9 conv]sation1 & wi% to re/1 d n take a position t w prev5t o!rs f see+ any ( ! pa9t+s1 b sit d[n1 or /& ne> ! c5tre ( ! room4 ,nev]1 unless urg5tly solicit$1 atta* y\rself to any p>ty at a place ( amusem5t1 ev5 if "s ( ! memb]s ( x are y\r own relatives or intimate fri5ds4 ,,*apt] ,,xviii4 ,,miscellane\s4 ,:5 y are walk+ ) a lady :o has y\r arm1 be c>eful to keep /ep ) h]1 & d n =ce h] to take long1 unladylike /eps1 or trot beside y ) two /eps to "o ( y\rs1 by keep+ y\r usual manly /ride4 ,nev] all[ a lady1 ) :om y are walk+1 to c>ry a bundle1 %awl1 or bag1 unless bo? y\r h&s are already occupi$ 9 h] s]vice4 ,:5 y att5d a w$d+ or bridal reception1 x is ! bridegroom :om y are to congratulate1 (f]+ to ! bride y\r wi%es = h] future happ9ess1 b n congratulation4 ,if y are acqua9t$ ) ! bridegroom1 b n ) ! bride1 speak to him fir/1 & he w introduce y to 8 bride1 b 9 any o!r case1 y mu/ speak fir/ to ! bride1 !n to ! bridegroom1 !n ! bridesmaids1 if y h any previ\s acqua9tance ) !m1 !n to ! p>5ts & family ( ! bride1 & aft] all ?is y are at lib]ty to seek y\r o!r fri5ds among ! gue/s4 ,if y are p]sonally a /rang] to ! newly m>ri$ c\ple1 b h receiv$ a c>d f be+ a fri5d ( "o ( ! families or f any o!r reason1 x is ! fir/ groomsman's place to introduce y1 & y %\ld give him y\r c>d1 or m5tion y\r "n1 be=e he leads y to ! bride4 ,always remove a *air or /ool t /&s 9 ! way ( a lady pass+1 ev5 ?\gh %e is an entire /rang] to y4 ,y may h& a *air to a /range lady1 9 a hotel1 or ^u a boat2 y may h& h] wat]1 if y see h] rise to obta9 x1 & at a hotel table y may pass h] ! di%es ne> y1 ) p]fect propriety4 ,9 ?is c\ntry :]e e o!r man uses tobacco1 x may n be amiss to say a few words on smok+4 ,dr4 ,pr\t says1 ,tobacco is confess$ly "o ( ! mo/ virul5t poisons 9 nature4 ,yet su* is ! fasc9at+ influ5ce ( ?is noxi\s we$1 t mank9d resort to x 9 e =m !y c devise1 to ensure its /upify+ & p]nici\s ag5cy4 ,tobacco disord]s ! assimilat+ functions 9 g5]al1 b p>ticul>ly1 z ,i believe1 ! assimilation ( ! sac*>9e pr9ciple4 ,i h nev]1 inde$1 be5 able to trace ! developm5t ( oxalic acid to ! use ( tobacco2 b t "s analog\s1 & equally poison\s pr9ciple 7probably ( an acid nature71 is g5]at$ 9 c]ta9 individuals by its abuse1 is evid5t f _! ca*ectic looks1 & f ! d>k1 & (t5 gre5i% yell[ t9t ( ! blood4 ,! sev]e & peculi> dyspeptic symptoms sometimes produc$ by invet]ate snuff-tak+ are well kn[n2 & ,i h m ?an once se5 su* cases t]m9ate fatally ) malignant disease ( ! /oma* & liv]4 ,great smok]s1 also1 especially ^? :o employ %ort pipes & cig>s1 are said to be liable to canc]\s affections ( ! lips4 ,yet1 9 spite ( su* w>n+s met ) e day1 ,"y ,am]ica1 ,middle-ag$ ,am]ica1 & ,old ,am]ica w cont9ue to use ! poison1 & _m ev5 use x 9 excess4 ,an ,engli% writ] gives "s v good rules = ! times & places :]e smok+ may be all[$1 :i* ,i quote = ! use ( smok]s on ?is side ( ! wat]4 ,he says3 ,b :at %all ,i say ( ! fragrant we$ :i* ,raleigh taught our gallants to puff 9 capaci\s b[ls2 :i* a royal p$ant d5\nc$ 9 a fam\s ',c\nt]bla/2' :i* 8 flatt]+ laureate1 ,b5 ,jonson1 ridicul$ to please 8 ma/]2 :i* our wives & si/]s prote/ gives rise to ! dirtie/ & mo/ unsociable habit a man c indulge 92 ( :i* "s fair favor]s decl>e t !y love ! smell1 & o!rs t !y w nev] m>ry an indulg] 7:i*1 by ! way1 !y g5]ally end 9 do+72 :i* has won a fame ov] m space & among bett] m5 ?an ,noah's grape has ev] done2 :i* doctors /ill dispute ab\t1 & boys /ill get sick ov]2 b :i* is ! solace ( ! we>y labor]2 ! support ( ! ill-f$2 ! refre%] ( ov]-wr\ght bra9s2 ! soo!r ( angry fancies2 ! boa/ ( ! exquisite2 ! excuse ( ! idle2 ! companion ( ! philosoph]2 & ! t5? muse ( ! poet4 ,i w g nei!r into ! m$ical nor ! moral "q ab\t ! dreamy1 calm+ cl\d4 ,i w cont5t myself s f> ) say+ :at may be said = ev]y?+ t c bless & curse mank9d1 t1 9 mod]ation1 x is at lea/ h>mless2 b :at is mod]ate & :at is n1 mu/ be det]m9$ 9 ea* individual case1 accord+ to ! habits & con/itution ( ! subject4 ,if x cures a/hma1 x may de/roy dige/ion2 if x soo!s ! n]ves1 x may1 9 excess1 produce a *ronic irritability4 ,b ,i w reg>d x 9 a social po9t ( view2 &1 fir/1 z a n>cotic1 notice its effects on ! individual "*4 ,i believe1 !n1 t 9 mod]ation x dim9i%es ! viol5ce ( ! passions1 &1 p>ticul>ly1 t ( ! temp]4 ,int]e/$ 9 ! subject1 ,i h tak5 c>e to seek in/ances ( memb]s ( ! same family hav+ ! same viol5t temp]s by inh]itance1 ( :om ! "o has be5 calm$ d[n by smok+1 & ! o!r gone on 9 8 passionate c\rse4 ,i believe t x induces a habit ( calm reflectiv5ess1 :i* causes u to take less prejudic$1 p]haps less zeal\s views ( life1 & to be1 !re=e1 less irritable 9 our conv]se ) our fell[ creatures4 ,i am incl9$ to ?9k t ! cl]gy1 ! squire>*y1 & ! peasantry are ! mo/ prejudic$ & mo/ viol5t classes 9 ?is c\ntry2 !re may be o!r reasons = ?is1 b x is notewor?y t ^! are ! classes :i* smoke lea/4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ,i confess t x induces a c]ta9 lassitude1 & a l\ng+1 easy mode ( life1 :i* are fatal bo? to ! precision ( mann]s & ! vivacity ( conv]sation4 ,! m9d ( a smok] is contemplative r ?an active2 & if ! we$ cures our irritability1 x kills our wit4 ,i believe t x is a fallacy to suppose t x enc\rages dr9k+4 ,!re is m dr9k+ & less smok+ 9 ,engl& ?an 9 any o!r c\ntry ( ! civiliz$ _w4 ,!re 0 m dr9k+ among ! g5try ( la/ c5tury1 :o nev] smok$ at all4 ,smoke & w9e d n g well toge!r4 ,c(fee or be] are its be/ accompanim5ts1 & ! "o _c intoxicate1 ! o!r mu/ be l>gely imbib$ to d s4 ,i h obs]v$ among "y ba*elors t v little w9e is drunk 9 _! *amb]s1 & t be] is gradually tak+ its place4 ,! cig>1 too1 is an excuse = ris+ f ! d9n]-table :]e !re are no ladies to g to4 ,9 ano!r po9t ( view1 ,i am incl9$ to ?9k t smok+ has conduc$ to make ! society ( m51 :5 alone1 less riot\s1 less qu>relsome1 & ev5 less vici\s ?an x 04 ,:]e "y m5 n[ bl[ a common cl\d1 !y 7 =m]ly driv5 to a fe>ful consumption ( w9e1 & ?is 9 _! heads1 !y 7 ready & r\s$ to any iniquity4 ,b ! pipe is ! ba*elor's wife4 ,) x he c endure solitude long]1 & is n =c$ into l[ society 9 ord] to %un x4 ,) x1 too1 ! idle c pass _m an h\r1 :i* o!rwise he w\ld h giv51 n to "w1 b to extravagant devilries4 ,) x he is no long] re/less & impati5t = excitem5t ( any k9d4 ,we nev] he> n[ ( "y blades issu+ 9 b&s f _! w9e to beat ! wat* or di/urb ! slumb]+ citiz5s1 z we did ?irty or =ty ye>s ago1 :5 smok+ 0 /ill a r>ity2 !y are all puff+ h>mlessly 9 _! *amb]s n[4 ,b1 on ! o!r h&1 ,i =esee ) dread a too t5d] allegiance to ! pipe1 to ! de/ruction ( good society1 & ! ab&onm5t ( ! ladies4 ,no wond] !y hate x1 de> creatures2 ! pipe is ! wor/ rival a woman c h1 & x is "o ^: eyes %e _c scrat* out2 :o improves ) age1 :ile %e h]self decl9es2 :o has an art :i* no woman possesses1 t ( nev] we>y+ h] devotee2 :o is sil5t1 yet a companion2 co/s little1 yet gives mu* pleasure2 :o1 la/ly1 nev] upbraids1 & always yields ! same joy4 ,ah6 ?is is a p[]ful rival to wife or maid1 & no wond] t at la/ ! woman succumbs1 cons5ts1 &1 r ?an lose h] "l or ma/]1 ev5 supplies ! hat$ h]b ) h] own fair h&s4 ,!re are rules to limit ?is indulg5ce4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke1 nor ev5 ask to smoke1 9 ! company ( ! fair4 ,if !y "k t 9 a few m9utes y w be runn+ (f to y\r cig>1 ! fair w d well--say x is 9 a g>d51 or s--to all[ y to br+ x out & smoke x !re4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke1 aga91 9 ! /reets2 t is1 9 daylight4 ,! deadly crime may be committ$1 l burgl>y1 aft] d>k1 b n be=e4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke 9 a room inhabit$ at times by ! ladies2 ?us1 a well-br$ man :o has a wife or si/]s1 w n (f] to smoke 9 ! d9+-room aft] d9n]4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke 9 a public place1 :]e ladies are or might be1 = in/ance1 a fl[]-%[ or prom5ade4 ,"o may smoke 9 a railway-c>riage 9 spite ( by-laws1 if "o has fir/ obta9$ ! cons5t ( e "o pres5t2 b if !re be a lady !re1 ?\gh %e give h] cons5t1 smoke n4 ,9 n9e cases out ( t51 %e w give x f good nature4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke 9 a close c>riage2 "o may ask & obta9 leave to smoke :5 return+ f a pic-nic or exp$ition 9 an op5 c>riage4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke 9 a !atre1 on a race-c\rse1 nor 9 *ur*4 ,?is la/ is n1 p]haps1 a ne$less caution4 ,9 ! ,belgian *ur*es y see a plac>d ann\nc+1 ',ici on ne m*e pas du tabac4' ,"o mu/ nev] smoke :5 anybody %[s an objection to x4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke a pipe 9 ! /reets2 "o mu/ nev] smoke at all 9 ! c(fee-room ( a hotel4 ,"o mu/ nev] smoke1 )\t cons5t1 9 ! pres5ce ( a cl]gyman1 & "o mu/ nev] (f] a cig> to any ecclesia/ic4 ,b if y smoke1 or if y are 9 ! company ( smok]s1 & are to we> y\r clo!s 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies aft]w>ds1 y mu/ *ange !m to smoke 94 ,a ho/ :o asks y to smoke1 w g5]ally (f] y an old coat = ! purpose4 ,y mu/ also1 aft] smok+1 r9se ! m\? well out1 &1 if possible1 bru% ! tee?4 ,y %\ld nev] smoke 9 ano!r p]son's h\se )\t leave1 & y %\ld n ask leave to d s if !re are ladies 9 ! h\se4 ,:5 y are go+ to smoke a cig> y %\ld (f] "o at ! same "t to anybody pres5t1 if n a cl]gyman or a v old man4 ,y %\ld always smoke a cig> giv5 to y1 :e!r good or bad1 & nev] make any rem>ks on its quality4 ,smok+ rem9ds me ( spitt+1 b z ?is is at all times a disgu/+ habit1 ,i ne$ say no?+ m ?an--nev] indulge 9 x4 ,besides be+ co>se & atroci\s1 x is v bad = ! heal?4 ,*e/]field w>ns 8 son aga9/ faults 9 good bre$+ 9 ! foll[+ words1 & ^! w>n+s w be equally applicable to ! /ud5t ( etiquette 9 ! pres5t day4 ,he says3-- ,( ! less] tal5ts1 good bre$+ is ! pr9cipal & mo/ necess>y "o1 n only z x is v important 9 itself1 b z x adds great lu/re to ! m solid advantages bo? ( ! he>t & ! m9d4 ,i h (t5 t\*$ ^u good bre$+ to y be=e2 s t ?is lett] %all be ^u ! next necess>y qualification to x1 :i* is a g5teel & easy mann] & c>riage1 :olly free f ^? odd tricks1 ill-habits1 & awkw>dnesses1 :i* ev5 _m v wor?y & s5sible p h 9 _! behavi\r4 ,h[ev] trifl+ a g5teel mann] may s\nd1 x is ( v great consequ5ce t[>ds pleas+ 9 private life1 especially ! wom51 :i* "o "t or o!r1 y w ?9k wor? pleas+2 & ,i h kn[n _m a man f 8 awkw>dness1 give p su* a dislike ( him at fir/1 t all 8 m]it c\ld n get ! bett] ( x aft]w>ds4 ,:]eas a g5teel mann] prepossesses p 9 y\r favor1 b5ds !m t[>ds y1 & makes !m wi% to be l y4 ,awkw>dness c proce$ b f two causes2 ei!r f n hav+ kept good company1 or f n hav+ att5d$ to x4 ,9 good company d y take c>e to obs]ve _! ways & mann]s1 & to =m y\r own ^u !m4 ,att5tion is absolutely necess>y = ?is1 z1 inde$1 x is = ev]y?+ else2 & a man )\t att5tion is n fit to live 9 ! _w4 ,:5 an awkw>d fell[ fir/ comes into a room1 x is highly probable t he goes & places himself 9 ! v place ( ! :ole room :]e he %\ld n2 !re he soon lets 8 hat fall d[n1 &1 9 tak+ x up aga91 ?r[s d[n 8 cane2 9 recov]+ 8 cane1 8 hat falls a second "t1 s t he is qu>t] ( an h\r be=e he is 9 ord] aga94 ,if he dr9ks tea or c(fee1 he c]ta9ly scalds 8 m\?1 & lets ei!r ! cup or sauc] fall1 & spills ei!r ! tea or c(fee4 ,at d9n] 8 awkw>dness di/+ui%es itself p>ticul>ly1 z he has m to d2 !re he holds 8 knife1 =k1 & spoon diff]5tly f o!r p1 eats ) 8 knife1 to ! great dang] ( 8 m\?1 picks 8 tee? ) 8 =k1 & puts 8 spoon1 :i* has be5 9 8 ?roat tw5ty times1 into ! di%es aga94 ,if he is to c>ve1 he c nev] hit ! jo9t3 b1 9 8 va9 ef=ts to cut ?r\gh ! bone1 scatt]s ! sauce 9 ev]ybody's face4 ,he g5]ally daubs himself ) s\p & grease1 ?\gh 8 napk9 is commonly /uck ?r\gh a button-hole1 & tickles 8 *94 ,:5 he dr9ks1 he infallibly c\ghs 9 8 glass1 & bespr9kles ! company4 ,besides all ?is1 he has /range tricks & ge/ures2 su* z snuff+ up 8 nose1 mak+ faces1 putt+ 8 f+] 9 8 nose1 or bl[+ x & look+ aft]w>ds 9 8 h&k]*ief s z to make ! company sick4 ,8 h&s are tr\blesome to him1 :5 he has n some?+ 9 !m1 & he does n "k :]e to put !m2 b !y are 9 p]petual motion betwe5 8 bosom & 8 bree*es2 he does n we> 8 clo!s1 &1 9 %ort1 he does no?+ l o!r p4 ,all ?is1 ,i own1 is n 9 any degree crim9al2 b x is highly disagreeable & ridicul\s 9 company1 & ought mo/ c>efully to be avoid$1 by :oev] desires to please4 ,f ?is acc\nt ( :at y %\ld n d1 y may easily judge :at y %\ld d2 & a due att5tion to ! mann]s ( p ( fa%ion1 & :o h se5 ! _w1 w make x habitual & famili> to y4 ,!re is1 likewise1 an awkw>dness ( expression & words1 mo/ c>efully to be avoid$2 su* z false ,engli%1 bad pronunciation1 old say+s1 & common prov]bs2 :i* are s _m pro(s ( hav+ kept bad & l[ company4 ,= example1 if1 in/ead ( say+ t ta/es are diff]5t1 & t e man has 8 own peculi> "o1 y %\ld let (f a prov]b1 & say1 ,t :at is "o man's meat is ano!r man's poison2 or else1 ,e "o z !y l1 z ! good man said :5 he kiss$ 8 c[2 ev]ybody w\ld be p]suad$ t y _h nev] kept company ) anybody above footm5 & h\semaids4 ,att5tion w d all ?is1 & )\t att5tion no?+ is to be done2 want ( att5tion1 :i* is really want ( ?\ght1 is ei!r folly or madness4 ,y %\ld n only h att5tion to ev]y?+1 b a quickness ( att5tion1 s z to obs]ve1 at once1 all ! p 9 ! room1 _! motions1 _! looks1 & _! words1 & yet )\t />+ at !m1 & seem+ to be an obs]v]4 ,?is quick & unobs]v$ obs]vation is ( inf9ite advantage 9 life1 & is to be acquir$ ) c>e2 &1 on ! contr>y1 :at is call$ abs5ce1 :i* is ?\ghtlessness1 & want ( att5tion ab\t :at is do+1 makes a man s l ei!r a fool or a madman1 t1 = my "p1 ,i see no real diff]5ce4 ,a fool nev] has ?\ght2 a madman has lo/ x2 & an abs5t man is1 = ! "t1 )\t x4 ,i w\ld w>n y aga9/ ^? disagreeable tricks & awkw>dnesses1 :i* _m p contract :5 !y are "y1 by ! neglig5ce ( _! p>5ts1 & _c get quit ( !m :5 !y are old2 su* z odd motions1 /range po/ures1 & ung5teel c>riage4 ,b !re is likewise an awkw>dness ( ! m9d1 t ought to be1 & ) c>e may be1 avoid$2 z1 = in/ance1 to mi/ake names2 to speak ( ,mr4 ,:at-d'ye-call-him1 or ,mrs4 ,?+um1 or ,h[-d'ye-call-h]1 is excessively awkw>d & ord9>y4 ,to call p by improp] titles & appellations is s too4 ,to beg9 a /ory or n>ration :5 y are n p]fect 9 x1 & _c g ?r\gh ) x1 b are =c$1 possibly1 to say1 9 ! middle ( x1 ',i h =gott5 ! re/1' is v unpleasant & bungl+4 ,"o mu/ be extremely exact1 cle>1 & p]spicu\s1 9 ev]y?+ "o says1 o!rwise1 in/ead ( ent]ta9+1 or in=m+ o!rs1 "o only tires & puzzles !m4 ,! voice & mann] ( speak+1 too1 are n to be neglect$2 "s p almo/ %ut _! m\?s :5 !y speak1 & mutt] s1 t !y are n to be und]/ood2 o!rs speak s fa/1 & sputt]1 t !y are n to be und]/ood nei!r2 "s always speak z l\d z if !y 7 talk+ to deaf p2 & o!rs s l[ t "o _c he> !m4 ,all ^! habits are awkw>d & disagreeable1 & are to be avoid$ by att5tion2 !y are ! di/+ui%+ m>ks ( ! ord9>y p1 :o h _h no c>e tak5 ( _! education4 ,y _c imag9e h[ necess>y x is to m9d all ^! little ?+s2 = ,i h se5 _m p ) great tal5ts ill-receiv$1 = want ( hav+ ^! tal5ts1 too2 & o!rs well receiv$1 only f _! little tal5ts1 & :o h _h no great ones4 ,no?+ is 9 worse ta/e 9 society ?an to repeat ! witticisms or rem>ks ( ano!r p]son z if !y 7 y\r own4 ,if y are discov]$ 9 ! l>c5y ( ano!r's ideas1 y may orig9ate a ?\s& brilliant ones aft]w>ds1 b y w n ga9 ! cr$it ( "o4 ,if y quote y\r fri5d's rem>ks1 give !m z quotations4 ,be cauti\s 9 ! use ( y\r tongue4 ,wise m5 say1 t a man may rep5t :5 he has spok51 b he w n rep5t if he keeps sil5ce4 ,if y wi% to reta9 a good position 9 society1 be c>eful to return all ! visits :i* are paid to y1 promptly1 & d n neglect y\r calls ^u ladies1 invalids1 & m5 old] ?an y\rself4 ,visit+ c>ds %\ld be small1 p]fectly pla91 ) y\r "n1 &1 if y w1 y\r address engrav$ ^u x4 ,a h&somely writt5 c>d is ! mo/ elegant "o = a g5tleman1 aft] t comes ! engrav$ "o2 a pr9t$ "o is v seldom us$1 & is n at all elegant4 ,h no fanciful devices1 ornam5t$ edges1 or fl\ri%es ^u y\r visit+ c>ds1 & nev] put y\r pr(ession or bus9ess ^u any b bus9ess c>ds1 unless x is z a prefix or title3 z1 ,dr41 ,capt41 ,col41 or ,g541 9 case y are 9 ! army or navy1 put ,u4,s4,n41 or ,u4,s4,a4 aft] y\r "n1 b if y are only 9 ! militia1 avoid ! vulg>ity ( us+ y\r title1 except+ :5 y are ) y\r company or on a p>ade4 ,t9t$ c>ds may be us$1 b pla9 :ite ones are mu* m elegant4 ,if y leave a c>d at a hotel or bo>d+ h\se1 write ! "n ( ! p]son = :om x is int5d$ above y\r own1 on ! c>d4 ,9 direct+ a lett]1 put fir/ ! "n ( ! p]son = :om x is int5d$1 !n ! "n ( ! city1 !n t ( ! /ate 9 :i* he resides4 ,if y s5d x to ! c>e ( ano!r p]son1 or to a bo>d+ h\se1 or hotel1 y c put t "n ei!r aft] ! "n ( y\r correspond5t1 or 9 ! left h& corn] ( ! lett]--?us3-- ,,mr4 ,j4 ,s4 ,,jones1 ,c>e ( ,mr4 ,t4 ,c4 ,jones1 ,bo/on1 ,mass4 or1 ,,mr4 ,j4 ,s4 ,,jones1 ,bo/on1 ,mass4 ,rev]e ,h\se4 ,if y\r fri5d is 9 ! army or navy1 put 8 title be=e 8 /ation aft] 8 "n1 ?us3-- ,,capt4 ,l4 ,,lewis1 ,u4,s4,a41 or1 ,,lieut5ant ,t4 ,,rob]ts1 ,u4,s4,n4 ,if y s5d y\r lett] by a private h&1 put ! "n ( ! be>] 9 ! l[] left h& corn] ( ! envelope1 b put ! "n only4 ,polit5ess (1--or ,k9dness (1 are obsolete1 & n us$ n[ at all4 ,write ! direction ?us3-- ,j4 ,l4 ,,holmes1 ,,esq41 ,rev]e ,h\se1 ,bo/on1 ,mass4 ,c4 ,l4 ,cutts1 ,esq4 ,?is w let y\r fri5d1 ,mr4 ,holmes1 "k t ,mr4 ,cutts is 9 ,bo/on1 :i* is ! object to be ga9$ by putt+ ! "n ( ! be>] on a lett]1 s5t by a private h&4 ,,gu>d ,,aga9/ ,,vulg> ,,language4 ,!re is z mu* connection betwe5 ! words & ! ?\ghts z !re is betwe5 ! ?\ghts & ! words2 ! latt] are n only ! expression ( ! =m]1 b !y h a p[] to re-act ^u ! s\l & leave ! /a9s ( _! corruption !re4 ,a "y man :o all[s himself to use "o pr(ane or vulg> ^w1 has n only %[n t !re is a f\l spot on 8 m9d1 b by ! utt]ance ( t ^w he ext5ds t spot & inflames x1 till1 by indulg5ce1 x w soon pollute & ru9 ! :ole s\l4 ,be c>eful ( y\r words z well z y\r ?\ghts4 ,if y c control ! tongue1 t no improp] words are pron\nc$ by x1 y w soon be able to control ! m9d & save x f corruption4 ,y ext+ui% ! fire by smo!r+ x1 or by prev5t+ bad ?\ghts bur/+ out 9 language4 ,nev] utt] a ^w any:]e1 :i* y w\ld be a%am$ to speak 9 ! pres5ce ( ! mo/ religi\s man4 ,try ?is practice a little1 & y w soon h comm& ( y\rself4 ,d n be kn[n z an egoti/4 ,no man is m dread$ 9 society1 or acc\nt$ a great] bore ?an he ^: e o!r ^w is ,i1 me1 or my4 ,%[ an int]e/ 9 all t o!rs say ( !mselves1 b speak b little ( y\r own affairs4 ,x is q z bad to be a m]e relat] ( sc&al or ! affairs ( y\r neighbors4 ,a female gossip is dete/able1 b a male gossip is n only dete/able b utt]ly despicable4 ,a celebrat$ ,engli% lawy] gives ! foll[+ directions = "y m5 ent]+ into bus9ess4 ,he says3-- ,,select ,,! ,,k9d ,,( ,,bus9ess ,,t ,,suits ,,y\r ,,natural ,,incl9ations ,,& ,,temp]am5t4--,"s m5 are naturally me*anics2 o!rs h a /rong av]sion to any?+ l ma*9]y1 & s on2 "o man has a natural ta/e = "o occupation 9 life1 & ano!r = ano!r4 ,i nev] c\ld succe$ z a m]*ant4 ,i h tri$ x1 unsuccessfully1 sev]al times4 ,i nev] c\ld be cont5t ) a fix$ sal>y1 = m9e is a purely speculative disposition1 :ile o!rs are j ! rev]se2 & !re=e all %\ld be c>eful to select ^? occupations t suit !m be/4 ,,let ,,y\r ,,pl$g$ ,,^w ,,ev] ,,be ,,sacr$4--,nev] promise to d a ?+ )\t p]=m+ x ) ! mo/ rigid promptness4 ,no?+ is m valuable to a man 9 bus9ess ?an ! "n ( always do+ z he agrees1 & t to ! mom5t4 ,a /rict adh]5ce to ?is rule gives a man ! comm& ( half ! sp>e funds )9 ! range ( 8 acqua9tance1 & encircles him ) a ho/ ( fri5ds1 :o may be dep5d$ ^u 9 any em]g5cy4 ,,:atev] ,,y ,,d1 ,,d ,,) ,,all ,,y\r ,,might4--,"w at x1 if necess>y1 e>ly & late1 9 season & out ( season1 n leav+ a /one unturn$1 & nev] def]r+ = a s+le h\r t :i* c j z well be done n[4 ,! old prov]b is full ( tru? & mean+--,:atev] is wor? do+ at all1 is wor? do+ well4 ,_m a man acquires a =tune by do+ 8 bus9ess ?or\ghly1 :ile 8 neighbor rema9s poor = life1 because he only half does 8 bus9ess4 ,ambition1 en]gy1 indu/ry1 & p]sev]ance1 are indisp5sable requisites = success 9 bus9ess4 ,,sobriety4 ,,use ,,no ,,description ,,( ,,intoxicat+ ,,dr9ks4--,z no man c succe$ 9 bus9ess unless he has a bra9 to enable him to lay 8 plans1 & reason to guide him 9 _! execution1 s1 no matt] h[ b\ntifully a man may be bless$ ) intellig5ce1 if 8 bra9 is muddl$1 & 8 judgm5t w>p$ by intoxicat+ dr9ks1 x is impossible = him to c>ry on bus9ess successfully4 ,h[ _m good opportunities h pass$ nev] to return1 :ile a man 0 sipp+ a 'social glass' ) a fri5d6 ,h[ _m a fooli% b>ga9 has be5 made "u ! influ5ce ( ! w9e-cup1 :i* tempor>ily makes 8 victim s ri*6 ,h[ _m important *ances h be5 put (f until to-morr[1 & !nce = ev]1 because indulg5ce has ?r[n ! sy/em into a /ate ( lassitude1 neutraliz+ ! en]gies s ess5tial to success 9 bus9ess4 ,! use ( intoxicat+ dr9ks z a bev]age is z mu* an infatuation z is ! smok+ ( opium by ! ,*9ese1 & ! =m] is q z de/ructive to ! success ( ! bus9ess man z ! latt]4 ,,let ,,hope ,,pr$om9ate1 ,,b ,,be ,,n ,,too ,,vision>y4--,_m p]sons are always kept poor because !y are too vision>y4 ,e project looks to !m l c]ta9 success1 &1 !re=e1 !y keep *ang+ f "o bus9ess to ano!r1 always 9 hot wat]1 & always '"u ! h>r[4' ,! plan ( 'c\nt+ ! *ick5s be=e !y are hat*$1' is an error ( anci5t date1 b x does n seem to improve by age4 ,,d ,,n ,,scatt] ,,y\r ,,p[]s4--,engage 9 "o k9d ( bus9ess only1 & /ick to x fai?fully until y succe$1 or until y conclude to ab&on x4 ,a con/ant hamm]+ on "o nail w g5]ally drive x home at la/1 s t x c be cl9*$4 ,:5 a man's undivid$ att5tion is c5t]$ on "o object1 8 m9d w cont9ually be sugge/+ improvem5ts ( value1 :i* w\ld escape him if 8 bra9 7 occupi$ by a doz5 diff]5t subjects at once4 ,_m a =tune has slipp$ ?r\gh m5's f+]s by engag+ 9 too _m occupations at once4 ,,engage ,,prop] ,,employees4--,nev] employ a man ( bad habits :5 "o ^: habits are good c be f\nd to fill 8 situation4 ,i h g5]ally be5 extremely =tunate 9 hav+ fai?ful & compet5t p]sons to fill ! responsible situations 9 my bus9ess2 & a man c sc>cely be too grateful = su* a bless+4 ,:5 y f9d a man unfit to fill 8 /ation1 ei!r f incapacity or peculi>ity ( "* or disposition1 disp5se ) 8 s]vices1 & d n drag out a mis]able exi/5ce 9 ! va9 attempt to *ange 8 nature4 ,x is utt]ly impossible to d s1 ',y _c make a silk purse1' c4 ,he has be5 creat$ = "s o!r sph]e2 let him f9d & fill x4 ,if y wi% to succe$ 9 society1 & be kn[n z a man :o conv]ses well1 y mu/ cultivate y\r memory4 ,d n smile & tell me t ?is is a gift1 n an acquirem5t4 ,x is true t "s p h naturally a m ret5tive memory ?an o!rs1 b ^? naturally mo/ defici5t may /r5g!n _! p[]s by cultivation4 ,cultivate1 !re=e1 ?is glori\s faculty1 by /or+ & ex]cis+ x ) tra9s ( imag]y4 ,accu/om y\rselves to look at any natural object1 & !n consid] h[ _m facts & ?\ghts may be associat$ ) x--h[ mu* ( poetic imag]y & ref9$ comb9ations4 ,foll[ out ?is idea1 & y w f9d t imag9ation1 :i* is too (t5 9 y\? p]mitt$ to build up ca/les 9 ! air1 t5antless z !y are unpr(itable1 w become1 if duly ex]cis$1 a s\rce ( mu* enjoym5t4 ,i 0 l$ into ?is tra9 ( ?\ght :ile walk+ 9 a beautiful c\ntry1 & see+ be=e me a glori\s ra9b[1 ov]-ar*+ ! valley :i* lay 9 front4 ,& n m quickly ?an its appe>ance1 came to my remembrance an admirable passage 9 ! ,art ( ,poetic ,pa9t+1 :]e9 ! au?or sugge/s ! great m5tal advantage ( ex]cis+ ! m9d on all subjects1 by consid]+-- ,:at use c be made ( !m8 ,:at rem>ks !y w illu/rate8 ,:at repres5tations !y w s]ve8 ,:at comp>ison !y w furni%8 ,& :ile ?us ?9k+1 ,i rememb]$ t ! +5i\s au?or has in/anc$ ! ra9b[ z af=d+ a v>iety ( illu/rations1 & capable1 9 ! imag]y :i* x sugge/s1 ( num]\s comb9ations4 ,?us3 ,,! ,,hues ,,( ,,! ,,ra9b[ ,t9t$ ! gre5 & fl[]y banks ( ! /ream2 ,t+$ ! :ite blossoms ( ! apple or*>ds2 ,%$ a beaute\s radiance on ! grass2 ,veil$ ! wan+ moon & ! ev5+ />2 ,ov]-ar*$ ! mi/ ( ! wat]fall2 ,rem9d$ ! look]-on ( peace oppos$ to turbul5ce4 ,& illu/rat$ ! moral t ev5 ! mo/ beautiful ?+s ( e>? mu/ pass away4 ,e book y read1 e natural object :i* meets y\r view1 may be ! ex]cise ( memory1 be made to furni% food bo? = reflection & conv]sation1 enjoym5t = y\r own solit>y h\rs1 & ! means ( mak+ y popul> 9 society4 ,believe me1 ! man :o--saw x1 to be sure1 b really =got :at x look$ l1 :o is met e day 9 society1 w n be s\ght aft] z w ! man1 :o1 br++ memory & fancy happily bl5d$ to be> ^u :at he sees1 c make e object wor?y ( rem>k famili> & int]e/+ to ^? :o h n se5 x4 ,if y h leisure mom5ts1 & :at man has n8 d n consid] !m z sp>e atoms ( "t to be wa/$1 idl$ away 9 pr(itless l\ng+4 ,always h a book )9 y\r rea*1 :i* y may cat* up at y\r odd m9utes4 ,resolve to edge 9 a little read+ e day1 if x is b a s+le s5t5ce4 ,if y c give fifte5 m9utes a day1 x w be felt at ! end ( ! ye>4 ,?\ghts take up no room4 ,:5 !y are "r !y af=d a portable pleasure1 :i* "o may travel or labor ) )\t any tr\ble or incumbrance4 ,9 y\r int]c\rse ) o!r m51 let e ^w t falls f y\r lips1 be> ! /amp ( p]fect tru?4 ,no reputation c be m enviable ?an t ( be+ kn[n z a man :o no consid]ation c\ld =ce to soil 8 s\l ) a lie4 ,tru? is naturally s acceptable to man1 s *>m+ 9 h]self1 t to make falsehood be receiv$1 we are compell$ to dress x up 9 ! sn[-:ite robes ( ,tru?2 z 9 pass+ base co91 x mu/ h ! impress ( ! good ere x w pass curr5t4 ,deception1 hypocrisy1 & dissimulation1 are1 :5 practis$1 direct complim5ts to ! p[] ( ,tru?2 & ! common cu/om ( pass+ (f ,tru?'s c\nt]feit = h]self1 is /rong te/imony 9 behalf ( h] intr9sic beauty & excell5ce4 ,next to be+ a man ( tal5t1 a well-read man is ! mo/ agreeable 9 society1 & no inve/m5t ( money or "t is s pr(itable z t sp5t 9 good1 useful books1 & read+4 ,a good book is a la/+ companion4 ,tru?s1 :i* x has tak5 ye>s to glean1 are !re9 at once freely b c>efully communicat$4 ,we enjoy communion ) ! m9d1 ?\gh n ) ! p]son ( ! writ]4 ,?us ! humble/ man may surr\nd himself by ! wise/ & be/ spirits ( pa/ & pres5t ages4 ,no "o c be solit>y :o possesses a book2 he owns a fri5d t w in/ruct him 9 mom5ts ( leisure or ( necessity4 ,x is only necess>y to turn op5 ! leaves1 & ! f\nta9 at once gives =? its /reams4 ,y may seek co/ly furniture = y\r homes1 fanciful ornam5ts = y\r mantel-pieces1 & ri* c>pets = y\r floors2 b1 aft] ! absolute necess>ies = a home1 give me books z at once ! *eape/1 & c]ta9ly ! mo/ useful & abid+ embelli%m5ts4 ,a true g5tleman w n only refra9 f ridicul+ ! follies1 ignorance1 or infirmities ( o!rs1 b he w n ev5 all[ himself to smile at !m4 ,he w treat ! rude/ cl[n ) ! same easy c\rtesy :i* he w\ld ext5d to ! mo/ poli%$ g5tleman1 & w nev] by ^w1 look1 or ge/ure %[ t he notices ! faults1 or vulg>ity ( ano!r4 ,p]sonal de=mity is a cross s5t by ,god1 & none b a deprav$1 wick$1 & brutal man c\ld ridicule1 or ev5 greet ) a pass+ smile ! un=tunate ?us /amp$4 ,ev5 a ^w or look ( pity w w\nd ! s5sitive1 b frank1 g5tle c\rtesy1 ! reg>d paid by a feel+ man to ! com=t ( a cripple1 or t easy grace :i*1 :ile x %[s no sign ( see+ ! de=mity1 %[s m def]5ce to ! afflict$ "o ?an to ! m =tunate1 are all duly appreciat$ & ackn[l$g$1 & w9 = ! man :o ext5ds !m ! respect & love ( all ) :om he comes 9 contact4 ,rememb] t true wit nev] desc5ds to p]sonalities4 ,:5 y he> a man try+ to be funny at ! exp5se ( 8 fri5ds1 or ev5 8 enemies1 y may feel sure t 8 humor is =c$1 & :ile x s9ks to ill-nature1 _c rise to ! level ( true wit4 ,nev] try to make y\rself out to be a v important p]son4 ,if y are s really1 y\r fri5ds w soon f9d x out1 if n1 !y w n give y cr$it = be+ s1 because y try to =ce y\r fanci$ importance ^u !m4 ,a pomp\s fool1 ?\gh (t5 se51 is n mu* lov$ nor respect$1 & y may rememb] t ! frog :o tri$ to make himself z big z an ox1 di$ 9 ! attempt4 ,a sev]e wit once said1 ,if y d n wi% to be ! m>k = sl&]\s tongues1 be ! fir/ to ent] a room1 & ! la/ to leave x4 ,if y are ev] tempt$ to speak aga9/ a woman1 ?9k fir/--,suppose %e 7 my si/]6 ,y c nev] ga9 any?+ by br++ y\r voice aga9/ a woman1 ev5 ?\gh %e may des]ve contempt1 & y\r =be>ance may %ame o!rs into a simil> sil5ce4 ,x is a c[>dly tongue t w take a woman's "n ^u x to injure h]2 ?\gh _m m5 d ?is1 :o w\ld fe>1--absolutely be afraid1 to speak aga9/ a man1 or t same woman1 _h %e a manly arm to protect h]4 ,i aga9 quote f ! celebrat$ ,"l ,*e/]field1 :o says3 ,x is good-bre$+ alone t c prepossess p 9 y\r fav\r at fir/ sight1 m "t be+ necess>y to discov] great] tal5ts4 ,?is good-bre$+1 y "k1 does n consi/ 9 l[ b[s & =mal c]emony2 b 9 an easy1 civil1 & respectful behavi\r4 ,y w take c>e1 !re=e1 to answ] ) complaisance1 :5 y are spok5 to2 to place y\rself at ! l[] end ( ! table1 unless bid to g high]2 to dr9k fir/ to ! lady ( ! h\se1 & next to ! ma/]2 n to eat awkw>dly or dirtily2 n to sit :5 o!rs /&2 & to d all ?is ) an air ( complaisance1 & n ) a grave1 s\r look1 z if y did x all unwill+ly4 ,i d n mean a silly1 insipid smile1 t fools h :5 !y w\ld be civil2 b an air ( s5sible good-humor4 ,i h>dly "k any?+ s difficult to atta91 or s necess>y to possess1 z p]fect good-bre$+2 :i* is equally inconsi/5t ) a /ill =mality1 & imp]t95t =w>dness1 & an awkw>d ba%fulness4 ,a little c]emony is (t5 necess>y2 a c]ta9 degree ( firmness is absolutely s2 & an outw>d mode/y is extremely becom+2 ! k ( ! _w1 & y\r own obs]vations1 mu/1 & alone c tell y ! prop] quantities ( ea*4 ,i m5tion$ ! g5]al rules ( common civility1 :i*1 :oev] does n obs]ve1 w pass = a be>1 & be z unwelcome z "o1 9 company2 !re is h>dly any body brutal en\gh n to answ] :5 !y are spok5 to4 ,b x is n en\gh n to be rude2 y %\ld be extremely civil1 & di/+ui%$ = y\r good bre$+4 ,! fir/ pr9ciple ( ?is good bre$+ is nev] to say any?+ t y ?9k c be disagreeable to any body 9 company2 b1 on ! contr>y1 y %\ld endeavor to say :at w be agreeable to !m2 & t 9 an easy & natural mann]1 )\t seem+ to /udy = complim5ts4 ,!re is likewise su* a ?+ z a civil look1 & a rude look2 & y %\ld look civil1 z well z be s2 = if1 :ile y are say+ a civil ?+1 y look gruff & surly1 z ,engli% bumpk9s d1 nobody w be oblig$ to y = a civility t seem$ to come s unwill+ly4 ,if y h occasion to contradict any body1 or to set !m "r f a mi/ake1 x w\ld be v brutal to say1 ',t is n s1 ,i "k bett]1 or ,y are out2 b y %\ld say ) a civil look1 ,i beg y\r p>don1 ,i believe y mi/ake1 or1 ,if ,i may take ! lib]ty ( contradict+ y1 ,i believe x is s & s2 =1 ?\gh y may "k a ?+ bett] ?an o!r p1 yet x is v %ock+ to tell !m s directly1 )\t some?+ to s(t5 x2 b rememb] p>ticul>ly1 t :atev] y say or d1 ) ev] s civil an int5tion1 a great deal consi/s 9 ! mann] & ! look1 :i* mu/ be g5teel1 easy1 & natural1 & is easi] to be felt ?an describ$4 ,civility is p>ticul>ly due to all wom52 & rememb]1 t no provocation :atsoev] c ju/ify any man 9 n be+ civil to e woman2 & ! greate/ man w\ld ju/ly be reckon$ a brute1 if he 7 n civil to ! meane/ woman4 ,x is due to _! sex1 & is ! only protection !y h aga9/ ! sup]ior /r5g? ( ours2 nay1 ev5 a little flatt]y is all[able ) wom52 & a man may1 )\t meanness1 tell a woman t %e is ei!r h&som] or wis] ?an %e is4 ,obs]ve ! ,fr5* p1 & m9d h[ easily & naturally civil _! address is1 & h[ agreeably !y ins9uate little civilities 9 _! conv]sation4 ,!y ?9k x s ess5tial1 t !y call an hone/ man & a civil man by ! same "n1 ( honnte homme2 & ! ,romans call$ civility humanitas1 z ?9k+ x insep>able f humanity4 ,y _c beg9 too e>ly to take t turn1 9 ord] to make x natural & habitual to y4 ,aga91 speak+ ( ! inconv5i5cy ( ba%fulness1 he says3-- ,z = ! mauvaise honte1 ,i hope y are above x4 ,y\r figure is l o!r p's2 ,i suppose y w c>e t y\r dress %all be s too1 & to avoid any s+ul>ity4 ,:at !n %\ld y be a%am$ (8 & :y n g into a mix$ company1 ) z mu* ease & z little conc]n1 z y w\ld g into y\r own room8 ,vice & ignorance are ! only ?+s ,i "k1 :i* "o ought to be a%am$ (2 keep b cle> ( !m1 & y may g any:]e )\t fe> or conc]n4 ,i h kn[n "s p1 :o1 f feel+ ! pa9 & inconv5i5ces ( ?is mauvaise honte1 h ru%$ into ! o!r extreme1 & turn$ impud5t1 z c[>ds sometimes gr[ desp]ate f ! excess ( dang]2 b ?is too is c>efully to be avoid$1 !re be+ no?+ m g5]ally %ock+ ?an impud5ce4 ,! m$ium betwe5 ^! two extremes m>ks out ! well-br$ man2 he feels himself firm & easy 9 all companies2 is mode/ )\t be+ ba%ful1 & /eady )\t be+ impud5t2 if he is a /rang]1 he obs]ves1 ) c>e1 ! mann]s & ways ( ! p mo/ e/eem$ at t place1 & con=ms to !m ) complaisance4 ,flatt]y is always 9 bad ta/e4 ,if y say m 9 a p]son's praise ?an is des]v$1 y n only say :at is false1 b y make o!rs d\bt ! wisdom ( y\r judgm5t4 ,op51 palpable flatt]y w be reg>d$ by ^? to :om x is address$ z an insult4 ,9 y\r int]c\rse ) ladies1 y w f9d t ! delicate complim5t ( seek+ _! society1 %[+ y\r pleasure 9 x1 & *oos+ = subjects ( conv]sation1 o!r !mes ?an ! wea!r1 dress1 or ! op]a1 w be m appreciat$ by wom5 ( s5se1 ?an ! m awkw>d complim5t ( op5 words or ge/ures ( admiration4 ,nev] imitate ! ecc5tricities ( o!r m51 ev5 ?\gh ^? m5 h ! highe/ g5ius to excuse _! oddities4 ,ecc5tricity is1 at ! be/1 9 bad ta/e2 b an imitation ( x--second h& oddity--is dete/able4 ,nev] feign ab/raction 9 society4 ,if y h matt]s ( importance :i* really occupy y\r m9d1 & prev5t y f pay+ att5tion to ! prop] etiquette ( society1 /ay at home till y\r m9d is less preoccupi$4 ,*e/]field says3-- ,:at is commonly call$ an abs5t man1 is commonly ei!r a v weak1 or a v affect$ man2 b be he :i* he w1 he is1 ,i am sure1 a v disagreeable man 9 company4 ,he fails 9 all ! common (fices ( civility2 he seems n to "k ^? p to-day1 :om ye/]day he appe>$ to live 9 intimacy )4 ,he takes no "p 9 ! g5]al conv]sation2 b1 on ! contr>y1 breaks into x f "t to "t1 ) "s />t ( 8 own1 z if he wak$ f a dream4 ,?is 7z ,i said be=e7 is a sure indication1 ei!r ( a m9d s weak t x is n able to be> above "o object at a "t2 or s affect$1 t x w\ld be suppos$ to be :olly engross$ by1 & direct$ to1 "s v great & important objects4 ,sir ,isaac ,newton1 ,mr4 ,locke1 & 7x may be7 five or six m1 s9ce ! creation ( ! _w1 may h _h a "r to abs5ce1 f t int5se ?\ght :i* ! ?+s !y 7 inve/igat+ requir$4 ,b if a "y man1 & a man ( ! _w1 :o has no su* avocations to plead1 w claim & ex]cise t "r ( abs5ce 9 company1 8 pret5d$ "r %\ld1 9 my m9d1 be turn$ into an involunt>y abs5ce1 by 8 p]petual exclusion out ( company4 ,h[ev] frivol\s a company may be1 /ill1 :ile y are among !m1 d n %[ !m1 by y\r inatt5tion1 t y ?9k !m s2 b r take _! tone1 & con=m1 9 "s degree1 to _! weakness1 in/ead ( manife/+ y\r contempt = !m4 ,!re is no?+ t p be> m impati5tly1 or =give less1 ?an contempt2 & an injury is mu* soon] =gott5 ?an an insult4 ,if1 !re=e1 y w\ld r please ?an (f5d1 r be well ?an ill-spok5 (1 r be lov$ ?an hat$2 rememb] to h t con/ant att5tion ab\t y1 :i* flatt]s e man's little vanity2 & ! want ( :i*1 by mortify+ 8 pride1 nev] fails to excite 8 res5tm5t1 or1 at lea/1 8 ill w4 ,= in/ance3 mo/ p 7,i might say all p7 h _! weaknesses2 !y h _! av]sions & _! lik+s to su* or su* ?+s2 s t1 if y 7 to laugh at a man = 8 av]sion to a cat1 or *eese1 7:i* are common antipa?ies17 or1 by inatt5tion & neglig5ce1 to let !m come 9 8 way1 :]e y c\ld prev5t x1 he w\ld1 9 ! fir/ case1 ?9k himself insult$1 &1 9 ! second1 slight$1 & w\ld rememb] bo?4 ,:]eas y\r c>e to procure = him :at he likes1 & to remove f him :at he hates1 %[s him t he is1 at lea/1 an object ( y\r att5tion2 flatt]s 8 vanity1 & makes him1 possibly1 m y\r fri5d ?an a m important s]vice w\ld h done4 ,) reg>d to wom51 att5tions /ill bel[ ^! are necess>y1 &1 by ! cu/om ( ! _w1 9 "s measure due1 accord+ to ! laws ( good bre$+4 ,9 giv+ an ent]ta9m5t to y\r fri5ds1 :ile y avoid extravagant exp5diture1 x is y\r duty to place be=e !m ! be/ y\r purse w p]mit y to pur*ase1 & be sure y h pl5ty4 ,abundance )\t sup]fluity1 & good quality )\t extravagance1 are y\r be/ rules = an ent]ta9m5t4 ,if1 by ! introduction ( a fri5d1 by a mi/ake1 or 9 any o!r way1 y\r enemy1 or a man to :om y h ! /ronge/ p]sonal dislike1 is "u y\r ro(1 or at y\r table1 z a gue/1 hospitality & good bre$+ bo? require y to treat him ) ! same frank c\rtesy :i* y ext5d to y\r o!r gue/s2 ?\gh y ne$ make no viol5t prote/ations ( fri5d%ip1 & are n requir$ to make any advances t[>ds him aft] he ceases to be y\r gue/4 ,9 giv+ a d9n] p>ty1 invite only z _m gue/s z y c seat com=tably at y\r table4 ,if y h two tables1 h !m precisely alike1 or1 re/ assur$1 y w (f5d ^? fri5ds :om y place at :at !y judge to be ! inf]ior table4 ,above all1 avoid hav+ little tables plac$ 9 ! corn]s ( ! room1 :5 !re is a l>ge table4 ,at "s h\ses 9 ,p>is x is a fa%ion to set ! d9+ room entirely ) small tables1 :i* w accommodate com=tably ?ree or f\r p1 & su* p>ties are v m]ry1 v sociable & pleasant1 if f\r cong5ial p are ar\nd ea* table2 b x is a v dull fa%ion1 if y are n sure ( ! cong5iality ( ea* qu>tette ( gue/s4 ,if y lose y\r =tune or position 9 society1 x is wis] to retire f ! _w ( fa%ion ?an to wait = t _w to b[ y out4 ,if y are poor1 b welcome 9 society on acc\nt ( y\r family or tal5ts1 avoid ! error :i* ! "y are mo/ apt to fall into1 t ( liv+ beyond y\r means4 ,! advice ( ,polonius to ,la]tes is z excell5t 9 ! pres5t day1 z x 0 9 ,%akespe>e's "t3-- ,give ?y ?\ghts no tongue1 ,nor any unproportion$ ?\ght 8 act4 ,be ?\ famili>1 b by no means vulg>4 ,! fri5ds ?\ ha/1 & _! adoption tri$1 ,grapple !m to ?y s\l ) hooks ( /eel3 ,b d n dull ?y palm ) ent]ta9m5ts ,( ea* new hat*'d1 unfl$g'd comrade4 ,bew>e ,( entrance to a qu>rel3 b1 be+ 91 ,be> x t ! oppos] may bew>e ( !e4 ,give e man ?9e e>1 b few ?y voice2 ,take ea* man's c5sure1 b res]ve ?y judgm5t4 ,co/ly ?y habit z ?y purse c buy1 ,b n express'd 9 fancy2 ri*1 n gaudy2 ,= ! app>el (t proclaims ! man4 99 99 99 99 99 ,nei!r a borr[] nor a l5d] be3 ,= loan (t loses bo? itself & fri5d2 ,& borr[+ dulls ! edge ( husb&ry4 ,?is above all1--,to ?9e ownself be true2 ,& x mu/ foll[1 z ! night ! day1 ,?\ can/ n !n be false to any man4 ,x is by no means desirable to be always engag$ 9 ! s]i\s pursuits ( life4 ,take "t = pleasure1 & y w f9d y\r "w progresses fa/] = "s recreation4 ,"l ,*e/]field says3 ,i d n regret ! "t t ,i pass$ 9 pleasures2 !y 7 seasonable2 !y 7 ! pleasures ( y\?1 & ,i enjoy$ !m :ile "y4 ,if ,i _h n1 ,i %\ld probably h ov]valu$ !m n[1 z we are v apt to d :at we d n "k2 b kn[+ !m z ,i d1 ,i "k _! real value1 & h[ mu* !y are g5]ally ov]rat$4 ,nor d ,i regret ! "t t ,i h pass$ 9 bus9ess1 = ! same reason2 ^? :o see only ! outside ( x1 imag9e x has hidd5 *>ms1 :i* !y pant aft]2 & no?+ b acqua9tance c undeceive !m4 ,i1 :o h be5 beh9d ! sc5es1 bo? ( pleasure & bus9ess1 & h se5 all ! spr+s & pullies ( ^? decorations :i* a/oni% & dazzle ! audi5ce1 retire1 n only )\t regret1 b ) cont5tm5t & satisfaction4 ,b :at ,i d1 & ev] %all regret1 is ! 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"o nor do+ ! o!r2 ?9k+ !mselves m5 ( pleasure1 because !y 7 m+l$ ) ^? :o 71 & m5 ( bus9ess1 because !y _h bus9ess to d1 ?\gh !y did n d x4 ,:atev] y d1 d x to ! purpose2 d x ?or\ghly1 n sup]ficially4 ,appr(ondissez3 g to ! bottom ( ?+s4 ,any?+ half done or half kn[n1 is1 9 my m9d1 nei!r done nor kn[n at all4 ,nay worse1 x (t5 misleads4 ,!re is h>dly any place or any company :]e y may n ga9 k1 if y please2 almo/ e body kn[s "s "o ?+1 & is glad to talk ^u t "o ?+4 ,seek & y w f9d1 9 ?is _w z well z 9 ! next4 ,see ev]y?+2 inquire into ev]y?+2 & y may excuse y\r curiosity1 & ! que/ions y ask1 :i* o!rwise might be ?\ght imp]t95t1 by y\r mann] ( ask+ !m2 = mo/ ?+s dep5d a great deal ^u ! mann]4 ,z1 = example1 ,i am afraid t ,i am v tr\blesome ) my que/ions2 b nobody c in=m me s well z y2 or some?+ ( t k9d4 ,! same au?or1 speak+ ( ! evils ( p$antry1 says3-- ,e excell5cy1 & e virtue has its k9dr$ vice or weakness2 &1 if c>ri$ beyond c]ta9 b\nds1 s9ks into "o or ! o!r4 ,g5]osity (t5 runs into pr(usion1 economy into av>ice1 c\rage into ra%ness1 caution into timidity1 & s on3--insomu* t1 ,i believe1 !re is m judgm5t requir$ = ! prop] conduct ( our virtues1 ?an = avoid+ _! opposite vices4 ,vice1 9 its true light1 is s de=m$1 t x %ocks u at fir/ sight1 & w\ld h>dly ev] s$uce u1 if x did n at fir/ we> ! mask ( "s virtue4 ,b virtue is1 9 itself1 s beautiful1 t x *>ms u at fir/ sight2 engages u m & m ^u fur!r acqua9tance2 &1 z ) o!r beauties1 we ?9k excess impossible1 x is "h t judgm5t is necess>y1 to mod]ate & direct ! effects ( an excell5t cause4 ,i %all apply ?is reason+1 at pres5t1 n to any p>ticul> virtue1 b to an excell5cy1 :i*1 = want ( judgm5t1 is (t5 ! cause ( ridicul\s & blameable effects2 ,i mean great le>n+2 :i*1 if n accompani$ ) s\nd judgm5t1 frequ5tly c>ries u into error1 pride1 & p$antry4 ,z1 ,i hope1 y w possess t excell5cy 9 its utmo/ ext5t1 & yet )\t its too common fail+s1 ! h9ts1 :i* my exp]i5ce c sugge/1 may probably n be useless to y4 ,"s le>n$ m51 pr\d ( _! k1 only speak to decide1 & give judgm5t )\t appeal2 ! consequ5ce ( :i* is1 t mank9d1 provok$ by ! insult1 & injur$ by ! oppression1 revolt2 &1 9 ord] to %ake (f ! tyranny1 ev5 call ! lawful au?ority 9 "q4 ,! m y "k1 ! mode/] y %\ld be2 & 7by ! bye7 t mode/y is ! sure/ way ( gratify+ y\r vanity4 ,ev5 :]e y are sure1 seem r d\btful2 repres5t1 b d n pron\nce2 &1 if y w\ld conv9ce o!rs1 seem op5 to conviction y\rself4 ,o!rs1 to %[ _! le>n+1 or (t5 f ! prejudices ( a s*ool education1 :]e !y he> ( no?+ else1 are always talk+ ( ! anci5ts1 z some?+ m ?an m51 & ( ! mod]ns1 z some?+ less4 ,!y are nev] )\t a classic or two 9 _! pockets2 !y /ick to ! old good s5se2 !y read none ( ! mod]n tra%2 & w %[ y pla9ly t no improvem5t has be5 made 9 any "o art or sci5ce ^! la/ sev5te5 hundr$ ye>s4 ,i w\ld1 by no means1 h y dis[n y\r acqua9tance ) ! anci5ts2 b /ill less w\ld ,i h y brag ( an exclusive intimacy ) !m4 ,speak ( ! mod]ns )\t contempt1 & ( ! anci5ts )\t idolatry2 judge !m all by _! m]its1 b n by _! ages2 & if y happ5 to h an ,elzevir classic 9 y\r pocket1 nei!r %[ x nor m5tion x4 ,"s great s*ol>s1 mo/ absurdly1 draw all _! maxims1 bo? = public & private life1 f :at !y call p>allel cases 9 ! anci5t au?ors2 )\t consid]+ t1 9 ! fir/ place1 !re nev] 71 s9ce ! creation ( ! _w1 two cases exactly p>allel2 &1 9 ! next place1 t !re nev] 0 a case /at$1 or ev5 kn[n1 by any hi/orian1 ) e "o ( its circum/ances2 :i*1 h[ev]1 ought to be kn[n 9 ord] to be reason$ f4 ,reason ^u ! case itself1 & ! sev]al circum/ances t att5d x1 & act accord+ly2 b n f ! au?ority ( anci5t poets or hi/orians4 ,take into y\r consid]ation1 if y please1 cases seem+ly analog\s2 b take !m z helps only1 n z guides4 ,!re is ano!r species ( le>n$ m5 :o1 ?\gh less dogmatical & sup]cili\s1 are n less imp]t95t4 ,^! are ! communicative & %9+ p$ants1 :o adorn _! conv]sation1 ev5 ) wom51 by happy quotations ( ,greek & ,lat92 & :o h contract$ su* a famili>ity ) ! ,greek & ,roman au?ors1 t !y call !m by c]ta9 names or epi!ts d5ot+ intimacy4 ,z1 old ,hom]2 t sly rogue ,horace2 ,m>o1 in/ead ( ,virgil2 & ,naso1 in/ead ( ,ovid4 ,^! are (t5 imitat$ by coxcombs :o h no le>n+ at all1 b :o h got "s names & "s scraps ( anci5t au?ors by he>t1 :i* !y improp]ly & imp]t95tly retail 9 all companies1 9 hopes ( pass+ = s*ol>s4 ,if1 !re=e1 y w\ld avoid ! accusation ( p$antry on "o h&1 or ! suspicion ( ignorance on ! o!r1 ab/a9 f le>n$ o/5tation4 ,speak ! language ( ! company t y are 92 speak x purely1 & unl>d$ ) any o!r4 ,nev] seem wis] nor m le>n$ ?an ! p y are )4 ,we> y\r le>n+1 l y\r wat*1 9 a private pocket2 & d n pull x out & /rike x1 m]ely to %[ t y h "o4 ,if y are ask$ :at o'clock x is1 tell x1 b d n proclaim x h\rly & unask$1 l ! wat*man4 ,^u ! :ole1 rememb] t le>n+ 7,i mean ,greek & ,roman le>n+7 is a mo/ useful & necess>y ornam5t1 :i* x is %ameful n to be ma/] (2 b1 at ! same "t1 mo/ c>efully avoid ^? errors & abuses :i* ,i h m5tion$1 & :i* too (t5 att5d x4 ,rememb]1 too1 t great mod]n k is /ill m necess>y ?an anci5t2 & t y _h bett] "k p]fectly ! pres5t1 ?an ! old /ate ( ! _w2 ?\gh ,i w\ld h y well acqua9t$ ) bo?4 ,if y are poor1 y mu/ deprive y\rself (t5 ( ! pleasure ( escort+ ladies to ride1 ! op]a1 or o!r ent]ta9m5ts1 because x is und]/ood 9 society t1 9 ^! cases1 a g5tleman pays all ! exp5ses = bo?1 & 9 any em]g5cy y may f9d y\r bill = c>riage hire1 supp]s1 b\quets1 or o!r un=ese5 dem&s1 great] ?an y anticipat$4 ,%un ! c>d table4 ,ev5 ! fri5dly games common 9 society1 = small /akes1 are be/ avoid$4 ,!y fe$ ! love ( gambl+1 & y w f9d t ?is love1 if once acquir$1 is ! h>de/ curse to get rid (4 ,x is 9 bad ta/e1 ?\gh (t5 done1 to turn ov] ! c>ds on a table1 :5 y are call+4 ,if y\r ho/ or ho/ess f9ds y s do+1 x may lead !m to suppose y value !m m = _! acqua9tances ?an !mselves4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------ ,transcrib]'s ,note3 ,inconsi/5cies 9 acc5ts 7e4g4 tete a tete vs4 tte tte7 & hyph5ation 7e4g4 ball room vs4 ball-room7 h n be5 correct$4 ,v>iant spell+s h also be5 reta9$4 ,m9or typographical errors 7e4g4 miss+ punctuation1 incorrect or duplicate lett]s7 h be5 correct$ )\t note4 ,! foll[+ *anges 7 also made to ! text3 p4 #acj3 miss+ 'at' add$ 7too lazy to "p x at all7 p4 #bee3 two a/]isks *ang$ to ellipsis 7be=e he beg9s any o!r44447 p4 #bff3 italics add$ to ',i' & remov$ f 'or' 7 ,i h ! honor to acqua9t y2 ,p]mit me to assure y2 or17 p4 #bib3 italics remov$ f '(' 7l>gesse (7 p4 #ccb3 (f to ( 7get rid (7