,transcrib]'s ,note3 ,v>iant spell+s rema9 z pr9t$4 ,m9or typographical errors h be5 correct$ )\t note4 ,non-/&>d *>act]s h be5 transcrib$ z foll[s3 oe--oe ligature2 x--macron ov] "* x4 ,,mann]s ,,& ,,rules ,,( ,,good ,,society ,,mann]s ,,& ,,rules ,,( ,,good ,,society ,,or ,,solecisms ,,to ,,be ,,avoid$ ,,by ,a ,,memb] ,,( ,,! ,,ari/ocracy ,,?irty-,,n9? ,,edition ,device ,,london ,,fr$]ick ,,w>ne ,,& ,,co4 ,,& ,,new ,,york #aiah 7,all rights res]v$7 ,,pr9t$ ,,9 ,,great ,,brita9 ,,preface ,mann]s & ,rules ( ,good ,society conta9s all ! in=mation compris$ 9 ! orig9al "w1 ,mann]s & ,tone ( ,good ,society1 b ) consid]able additions4 ,9 a volume ( ?is nature x is necess>y to make con/ant revisions1 & ?is is p]iodically done to keep x up to date1 t x may be dep5d$ ^u z be+ n only ! mo/ reliable1 b also ! newe/ book ( etiquette4 ,a comp>ison ( ! numb] ( *apt]s & _! subjects ) ^? ( ! e>ly editions w\ld be/ demon/rate h[ ! "w has gr[n1 n m]ely 9 bulk1 b 9 importance also4 ,?is ext5sion has all[$ _m subjects to be m exhau/ively treat$ ?an h]et(ore1 & x n[ includes e rule & po9t t c\ld possibly be compreh5d$ 9 its title4 ,! "w ?r\gh\t its _m editions has comm5d$ itself to ! att5tion ( ?\s&s ( read]s1 & x is hop$ ! pres5t edition w be receiv$ by society 9 g5]al ) ! m>k$ success ( its pr$ecessors4 ,,cont5ts ,,*apt] ,,page ,,introductory ,,rem>ks ix ,i4 ,,! ,,mean+ ,,( ,,etiquette #a ,,ii4 ,,introductions #f ,,iii4 ,,leav+ ,,c>ds #ai ,,iv4 ,,pay+ ,,calls #cb ,v4 ,,prec$5cy #dd ,,vi4 ,,! ,,colloquial ,,application ,,( ,,titles #ec ,,vii4 ,,po9ts ,,( ,,etiquette ,,z ,,reg>ds ,,royal ,,p]sonages #fa ,,viii4 ,,po9ts ,,( ,,etiquette ,,:5 ,,travell+ ,,abroad1 ,,& ,,pres5tations ,,at ,,=eign ,,c\rts #fe ,,ix4 ,,! ,,receiv$ ,,mode ,,( ,,pron\nc+ ,,c]ta9 ,,surnames #fh ,x4 ,,pres5tations ,,at ,,c\rts ,,& ,,att5d+ ,,c\rts #gc ,,xi4 ,,pres5tations ,,at ,,levees ,,& ,,att5d+ ,,levees #hb ,,xii4 ,,balls ,,& ,,/ate ,,balls #hg ,,xiii4 ,,d9n] ,,giv+ ,,& ,,d9+ ,,out #ii ,,xiv4 ,,d9n]-,,table ,,etiquette #aaf ,,xv4 ,,ev5+ ,,p>ties #abb ,,xvi4 ,,w$d+s ,,& ,,w$d+ ,,lun*eons #abh ,,xvii4 ,,w$d+ ,,receptions #adc ,,xviii4 ,,w$d+ ,,exp5ses #adf ,,xix4 ,,aft]noon ,,at ,,homes #aea ,,xx4 ,,at ,,home ,,days #aei ,,xxi4 ,,colonial ,,etiquette #afa ,,xxii4 ,,indian ,,etiquette #afd ,,xxiii4 ,,g>d5-,,p>ties #aff ,,xxiv4 ,,t[n ,,g>d5-,,p>ties #aga ,,xxv4 ,,ev5+ ,,g>d5-,,p>ties #agd ,,xxvi4 ,,lun*eons #agf ,,xxvii4 ,,breakfa/s #ahc ,,xxviii4 ,,picnics ,,& ,,wat]-,,p>ties #ahf ,,xxix4 ,,juv5ile ,,p>ties #aij ,,xxx4 ,,writt5 ,,invitations #aie ,,xxxi4 ,,refus+ ,,invitations #bjj ,,xxxii4 ,,walk+1 ,,driv+1 ,,& ,,rid+ #bjb ,,xxxiii4 ,,b[+ #bjf ,,xxxiv4 ,,! ,,cockade #bji ,,xxxv4 ,,c\ntry-,,h\se ,,visits #baa ,,xxxvi4 ,,hunt+ ,,& ,,%oot+ #bai ,,xxxvii4 ,,%ak+ ,,h&s #bbe ,,xxxviii4 ,,*ap]ons ,,& ,,debutantes #bbh ,,xxxix4 ,,pres5tations ,,at ,,! ,,vic]egal ,,c\rt1 ,,dubl9 ,,ca/le #bbi ,,xl4 ,,ho/esses #bcd ,,xli4 ,,! ,,responsibilities ,,( ,,lady ,,patronesses ,,( ,,public ,,balls #bci ,,xlii4 ,,p]iods ,,( ,,m\rn+ #bdb ,,xliii4 ,,engag$ #bej ,,xliv4 ,,silv] ,,w$d+s #bec ,,xlv4 ,,subscription ,,dances #bef ,,xlvi4 ,,giv+ ,,pres5ts #bei ,,xlvii4 ,,*ri/5+ ,,p>ties #bfa ,,index #bfe ,,introductory ,,rem>ks ,! title ( ?is "w suffici5tly indicates ! nature ( its cont5ts4 ,! ,usages ( ,good ,society relate n only to good mann]s & to good bre$+1 b also to ! prop] etiquette to be obs]v$ on e occasion4 ,n only are c]ta9 rules laid d[n1 & m9utely expla9$1 b ! mo/ compreh5sive in/ructions are giv5 9 ea* *apt] respect+ e =m or phase ( ! subject "u discussion t x may be cle>ly und]/ood :at is done1 or :at is n done1 9 good society1 & also h[ :at is done 9 good society %\ld be done4 ,x is precisely ?is k t gives to m5 & wom5 ! consci\sness ( feel+ ?or\ghly at ease 9 :atev] sph]e !y may happ5 to move1 & causes !m to be consid]$ well br$ by all ) :om !y may come 9 contact4 ,a solecism may be p]haps 9 itself b a trifl+ matt]1 b 9 ! eyes ( society at l>ge x assumes proportions ( a magnifi$ aspect1 & reflects mo/ disadvantage\sly ^u ! "o by :om x is committ$2 ! direct inf]5ce be+1 t to be guilty ( a solecism argues ! (f5d] to be unus$ to society1 & consequ5tly n on an equal foot+ ) x4 ,?is society res5ts1 & is n sl[ 9 mak+ its disapproval felt by its demean\r t[>ds ! (f5d]4 ,tact & innate ref9em5t1 ?\gh ( ! greate/ assi/ance to "o unus$ to society1 d n suffice ( !mselves2 & al?\gh c\nt+ = mu*1 _c supply ! want ( ! actual k ( :at is cu/om>y 9 society4 ,:]e tact & innate ref9em5t d n exi/--& ?is is n seldom ! case1 z !y are gifts be/[$ ^u ! few r ?an ^u ! _m--!n a ?or\gh acqua9tance ) ! social obs]vances 9 =ce 9 society becomes m ?an ev] necess>y1 & especially to ^? :o1 socially speak+1 are desir\s ( mak+ _! way 9 ! _w4 ,^? individuals :o h l$ seclud$ or isolat$ lives1 or :o h hi!rto mov$ 9 o!r sph]es ?an ^? :]e9 well-br$ p move1 w ga!r all ! in=mation necess>y f ^! pages to r5d] !m ?or\ghly conv]sant ) ! mann]s & am5ities ( society4 ,?is "w w be f\nd ( equal s]vice to bo? m5 & wom51 z 9 ea* *apt] ! po9ts ( social etiquette to be obs]v$ by bo? sexes h be5 fully consid]$4 ,^? hav+ ! *>ge ( "y ladies previ\s to _! introduction into society1 ei!r mo!rs1 *ap]ons1 or gov]nesses1 w also d]ive mu* useful & practical in=mation f ! p]usal ( ?is "w1 :ile to ^? ?or\ghly v]s$ 9 ! usages ( society x _c fail to comm5d itself1 conta9+ z x does _m useful & valuable h9ts on social que/ions4 ,,mann]s ,,& ,,rules ,,( ,,good ,,society ,,*apt] ,i ,,! ,,mean+ ,,( ,,etiquette ,:at is etiquette1 & :at does ! ^w convey8 ,x is a poor "o 9 itself1 & falls v f> %ort ( its wide application4 ,x has an old-fa%ion$ r+ ab\t x1 sav\r+ ( /iffness1 primness1 & punctili\sness1 :i* r5d]s x di/a/eful to _m possess+ advanc$ ideas2 & yet ! ^w etiquette is n s v old ei!r1 z ,johnson did n include x 9 8 diction>y1 & ,walk] apologises = introduc+ x into 81 & accord+ to ! au?orities he quotes1 x is suppos$ to be d]iv$ f /i*os1 /i*us1 /i*etus1 /icketta1 & f !nce to etiquette4 ,b :e!r d]iv$ f ! ,lat9 or ! ,fr5*--& _m incl9e to ! latt] op9ion--!re is no d\bt t c\ld a new ^w be f\nd to replace ?is mu* abus$ "o1 x w\ld be a welcome addition to our vocabul>y4 ,! ^w has un=tunately become associat$ 9 our m9ds ) =ms1 c]emonies1 & obs]vances1 9 an exagg]at$ degree2 & x has be5 s con/antly misus$ & mis9t]pret$ & misund]/ood t ridicule & contempt h be5 mo/ unju/ly & unfairly ?r[n ^u x4 ,! true mean+ ( etiquette c h>dly be describ$ 9 diction>y p>lance2 x embraces ! :ole gamut ( good mann]s1 good bre$+1 & true polit5ess4 ,"o ( ! reasons :i* h no d\bt contribut$ to br+ ! ^w etiquette into disrepute1 is ! mann] 9 :i* ! subject has be5 h&l$ by incompet5t p1 :o1 hav+ b a v hazy & obscure k1 if any k at all1 yet pr(ess to write guides to polite mann]s--rambl+ & incoh]5t guides1 :i* n only provoke a smile f ^? bett] in=m$1 b mislead & bewild] any "o ra% en\gh to consult !m1 )\t previ\s inquiry z to :e!r !y are safe to foll[4 ,a little caution on ?is head w\ld insure ! mo/ correct & reliable "w be+ secur$ among/ s mu* t is unreliable4 ,"s p read ev]y?+ t is writt5 on ! subject ( etiquette1 n only ^? :o are ignorant & wi% to le>n some?+ ( its laws1 b ^? :o are ?or\ghly well v]s$ 9 !m & :o1 "o might suppose1 _h no?+ to le>n2 /ill ^! latt] l to see :at is writt51 to feel ! satisfaction ( be+ support$ 9 _! own k by a well-in=m$ writ]2 or ( f9d+ amusem5t 9 ! absurdities gravely advanc$ by "s "o writ+ f ano!r sph]e ?an t :]e savoir vivre reigns4 ,o!rs atta* a v n>r[ mean+ to ! ^w etiquette1 & nei!r accept x nor und]/& x 9 its true s5se2 !y h an idea t its rules influ5ce & gov]n society 9 g5]al4 ,rules ( etiquette are f _! po9t ( view b trammels & %ackles2 let !m be ca/ (f or bur/ ?r\gh1 say !y2 let e "o d z he likes2 let all behave z !y l2 we are 9 a free c\ntry1 :y %\ld we n wipe our m\?s ^u ! table-clo? if we please8 ,o!rs aga91 dev\r books ( etiquette on ! quiet2 !y are v mu* 9 want ( in/ruction z e "o kn[s1 b !y h n ! c\rage to confess t !y are awake ( ?is want1 & are try+ to pick up "s k ( ?is k9d to be useful to !m2 z _! aim is to rise 9 ! social scale1 !y w\ld n let _! fri5ds "k = worlds ab\t ?is new /udy1 b !y "k x1 & f9d t !y h improv$1 t !y d n commit z _m gau*]ies z h]et(ore2 /ill1 !y h caught ! lett] r ?an ! _s ( etiquette1 !y h read ! rules x prescribes1 & act up to !m z f> z _! memories s]ve !m2 b !y h fail$ 9 "o ess5tial p>ticul> ( und]/&+ t c\rtesy1 consid]ation t[>ds o!rs1 & unselfi%ness1 are ! s\rces ( true polit5ess f :i* etiquette spr+s4 ,!re is an idea among/ "s few p :o h mix$ little 9 ! _w1 & mov$ b 9 "o fix$ groove1 t ! m exalt$ ! sph]e1 ! m p]fect ! mann]s4 ,x is ne$less to attempt to refute su* a fallacy z ?is1 = examples ( ! mo/ p]fect mann] are to be met ) n only among/ ^? :o c boa/ ( long l9eage & high bir?1 b also among/ ^? :o lay claim to nei!r4 ,our pres5t code ( etiquette is con/ruct$ ^u ! ref9em5t1 poli%1 & culture ( ye>s1 ( c5turies4 ,weal? & luxury1 & contact ) all t is beautiful 9 art & nature1 h 9 all ages ex]cis$ a p[]ful influ5ce on ! mann]s ( m52 we d n say on ! times1 z un=tunately ^! advantages did n rea* d[n to ! _m b 7 conf9$ to ! /rictly few2 b 9 ^! mod]n days ! _m h come1 & /ill come1 )9 ! *>m$ circle2 ! r+ broad5s1 ev] wid5s2 x is n n[ z 9 old5 days t _! lot =bade4 ,on ! contr>y1 ! possession ( weal? or ( tal5t is ! op5 sesame to ! mo/ ref9$ & cultur$ circles4 ,! ^w etiquette is too n>r[ = all x embraces2 x mu/ be view$ 9 a d\ble light1 & be tak5 f a moral po9t z well z f a conv5tional "o4 ,a k9dly nature1 & an unselfi% _s are nev] want+ 9 true polit5ess1 b ! conv5tionalities ( society give ! f9i% & complet5ess to ! :ole1 ! col\r1 z x 71 to ! picture4 ,9 "s ! conv5tional _s is upp]mo/ & !y h at be/ b a surface poli%4 ,9 o!rs ! k9dly feel+s ( ! he>t are all[$ full play1 & no act ( g5u9e polit5ess is omitt$ or left undone 9 _! int]c\rse ) _! fell[s1 & ^! graces ( k9dly polit5ess l+] 9 ! memory1 trivial ?\gh !y may h be51 ye>s aft] "o has lo/ sight ( ?is true g5tleman or ?or\gh lady1 & "o says ( him1 ,:at a *>m+ man he 01 h[ c\rte\s & consid]ate1 & h[ k9d6 & ( h]1 ,%e 0 ! sweete/ & prettie/-mann]$ woman ,i ev] met4 ,x is only giv5 to ! v few to be ?or\ghly & unaffect$ly *>m+ )\t a %ad[ ( self-consci\sness or ef=t4 ,to assume a w\ld-be *>m+ mann] = ! mom5t1 ) ! desire to be unusually pleas+ to "s "o 9 p>ticul>1 does n conf] ! enviable reputation ( hav+ a *>m+ mann]4 ,x does n sit easy en\gh to be altoge!r natural2 x conveys ! idea ( be+ put on = ! occasion1 &1 l all o!r imitations1 x h>dly ev] pleases & seldom deceives4 ,etiquette & true polit5ess w\ld h u g fur!r ?an ?is1 & our mann]s ( to-day %\ld be our mann]s ( to-morr[1 & n v>iable accord+ to place & p]sons4 ,! _w is quick to note ^! unc]ta9 demean\rs1 & e "o's measure is readily tak5 & reta9$4 ,! rules ( etiquette are indisp5sable to ! smoo? work+ ( society at l>ge4 ,take1 = example1 ! etiquette ( prec$5cy1 9 =ce bo? 9 public & 9 private3 on e public occasion1 & 9 e private circle1 prec$5cy /eps 9 to r5d] assi/ance1 & is z necess>y 9 ! smalle/ private circle z 9 ! l>ge/ public ga!r+1 because x assigns to e "o 8 or h] place z f> z claim c be laid to place4 ,mi/akes 9 ! matt] ( prec$5cy are n only committ$ by ^? :o h enjoy$ few social advantages1 b by ^? also :o h _h ev]y?+ 9 _! fav\r4 ,"y ladies1 = in/ance1 :5 m>ri$ f ! s*oolroom1 z x 71 (t5 make grave mi/akes on ! "q ( prec$5cy1 if !y d n ignore x altoge!r4 ,! etiquette ( c>d-leav+ & t ( pay+ calls are indisputably necess>y & only ! v ignorant w\ld attempt to ga9say _! utility2 )\t ^! aids to ord] & me?od all int]c\rse betwe5 fri5ds & acqua9tances w\ld be unc]ta9 & *aotic2 z x is !re is little excuse :5 ! "r ?+ is n done1 & any dep>ture f ! simple rules laid d[n on ^! heads1 is ! be/ possible pro( ( ! /&+1 position1 & associations ( ! "o at fault4 ,any "o po9t ( etiquette if br\ght to ! b> ( common-s5se w\ld be pron\nc$ reasonable1 prop]1 & s5sible2 & !re is /rictly speak+ no "q ( etiquette t _c be ?us judg$ & ^u :i* a l v]dict w\ld n be giv54 ,!re is no "o rule ( etiquette t c be describ$ z absurd or ridicul\s1 arbitr>y or tyrannical1 & tak5 collectively ! rules are b social obligations due f "o p]son to ano!r4 ,:y %\ld we n be a well-mann]$ p8 ,:y %\ld we n be ref9$1 cultivat$1 & poli%$ 9 our demean\r & be>+8 ,:y %\ld we n seek to *>m if we c8 ,:y %\ld we n cultivate & enc\rage 9 ourselves consid]ation1 ?\ghtfulness1 & graci\sness t[>ds o!rs 9 ! smalle/ details ( daily life8 ,,*apt] ,,ii ,,introductions ,!re are c]emoni\s introductions & unc]emoni\s introductions1 prem$itat$ introductions & unprem$itat$ introductions2 b1 9 all cases1 introductions %\ld nev] be indiscrim9ately made--t is to say1 )\t a previ\s k on ! "p ( ^? mak+ !m z to :e!r ! p]sons ?us introduc$ w be likely to appreciate ea* o!r1 or ! rev]se1 or unless !y h express$ a desire to become acqua9t$4 ,= in/ance1 a lady %\ld n introduce two ( h] acqua9tances resid+ 9 a c\ntry t[n or wat]+-place1 mov+ 9 diff]5t circles1 unless !y h ea* express$ su* a desire4 ,an ,undesir$ ,introduction1 if made1 compels ! "o to :om x is ! mo/ unwelcome1 to treat ! o!r ) m>k$ coldness1 or to cont9ue an acqua9tance t is di/a/eful4 ,%\ld ! slighte/ d\bt exi/ z to h[ an introduction w be receiv$--:e!r ! m$itat$ introduction is a spontane\s desire on ! "p ( a lady or g5tleman1 or :e!r "o p]son express$ a wi% to make ! acqua9tance ( ano!r p]son & express$ t wi% to a mutual fri5d--! receiv$ rule is to consult ! wi%es ( bo? p]sons on ! subject be=e mak+ ! introduction4 ,:5 a ,diff]5ce ( ,rank exi/s betwe5 two p]sons1 x w\ld be suffici5t to asc]ta9 ! wi%es ( ! p]son ( highe/ rank alone4 ,a p]son ab\t to make an introduction1 %\ld say to ! "o lady1 b n 9 ! he>+ ( ! o!r1 ,mrs4 ,a----1 may ,i introduce ,mrs4 ,b---- to y8 or "s su* =mula1 accord+ to ! degree ( intimacy exi/+ betwe5 h]self & ,mrs4 ,a4 7,see ,! ,art ( ,conv]s+47 ,:5 two ladies are ( equal rank1 ! wi%es ( ! p]son ) :om ! p]son mak+ ! introduction is lea/ intimate %\ld be consult$4 ,9 ! case ( "o p]son hav+ express$ a wi% to make ! acqua9tance ( ano!r1 !re rema9s b ! wi%es ( "o p]son to asc]ta94 ,acquiesc5ce hav+ be5 giv51 ! introduction %\ld be made4 ,9 mak+ an introduction1 ! lady ( l[e/ rank %\ld be introduc$ to ! lady ( highe/ rank2 9 no case %\ld ! lady ( highe/ rank be introduc$ to ! lady ( l[e/ rank4 ,?is po9t ( etiquette %\ld always be /rictly obs]v$4 ,a ,g5tleman %\ld always be introduc$ to a ,lady1 :atev] 8 rank may be1 )\t ref]5ce to h] rank1 :atev] x may be4 ,?is rule is inv>iable1 & is bas$ ^u ! privilege ( ! sex--place aux dames4 ,x is n usual to asc]ta9 a g5tleman's wi%es z to :e!r he w be introduc$ to a lady or n1 al?\gh at a ball x is usual to d s :5 ! introduction is made = a special object1 viz41 t ( obta9+ a p>tn] = a lady2 & z a g5tleman may be ei!r unable or unwill+ to ask ! lady to dance1 x is incumb5t to asc]ta9 be=eh& :e!r ! introduction is desir$ or n1 o!rwise ! introduction w\ld be ( no avail = ! purpose1 & prove a disappo9tm5t to ! lady4 ,w\ld y l to be introduc$ to ,miss ,a----8 or "s su* polite phrase 7see ,! ,art ( ,conv]s+71 is ! sort ( =mula by :i* to asc]ta9 a g5tleman's wi%es z to an introduction 9 ! ball-room2 z ball-room introductions are und]/ood to mean an int5tion on ! "p ( a g5tleman to ask a lady to dance or to take h] 9 to supp]4 ,9 g5]al society1 g5tlem5 are suppos$ to seek1 r ?an to avoid ! acqua9tance ( ladies1 irrespective ( :atev] sets 9 society to :i* !y belong4 ,x is immat]ial to a g5tleman 9 :i* set 9 society 8 acqua9tances move1 & he c be polite to all )\t (f5d+ any 9 _! sev]al circles4 ,) reg>d to 8 own sex a g5tleman is g5]ally z exclusive z to ! acqua9tance%ips :i* he =ms1 z is a lady ) reg>d to ! acqua9tance%ips :i* %e =ms4 ,reciprocity ( ta/e is ! basis on :i* acqua9tance%ips betwe5 m5 are e/abli%$1 subject1 9 a c]ta9 measure1 to social position2 ?\gh ?is rule is itself subject to wide exceptions4 ,x is ! rule = a g5tleman to ask a mutual fri5d1 or an acqua9tance1 = an introduction to a lady1 & x is ! receiv$ rule to d s :5 a g5tleman desires to be introduc$ to any lady 9 p>ticul>2 b g5tlem5 d n ask to be introduc$ to ea* o!r1 unless "s special reason exi/s = s do+--"s reason t w\ld comm5d itself to ! p]son ^: acqua9tance 0 desir$1 z well z to ! p]son mak+ ! introduction2 o!rwise1 su* a wi% w\ld appe> to be ei!r pu]ile or sycophantic1 ?us ! reque/ might meet ) a refusal1 & ! pr(f]$ acqua9tance%ip be decl9$4 ,:5 ,introductions are made betwe5 ,ladies1 an unm>ri$ lady %\ld be introduc$ to a m>ri$ lady1 unless ! unm>ri$ lady is ( a high] rank ?an ! m>ri$ lady1 :5 ! rule is rev]s$4 ,! correct =mula 9 use :5 mak+ introductions is ,mrs4 ,x----1 ,lady ,z41 ?us m5tion+ ! "n ( ! lady ( l[e/ rank fir/1 z %e is ! p]son introduc$ to ! lady ( highe/ rank4 ,mrs4 ,x----1 ,lady ,z41 is all t ne$ be said on ! occasion by ! p]son mak+ ! introduction4 ,:5 ! ladies are ( equal rank x is immat]ial :i* "n is m5tion$ fir/2 b !re g5]ally exi/s suffici5t diff]5ce 9 ! social position ( ! two ladies to give a slight di/9ction 9 fav\r ( ! "o or ( ! o!r1 :i* ! p]son mak+ ! introduction %\ld take into consid]ation4 ,:5 ! introduction has be5 made1 ! ladies %\ld b[ to ea* o!r1 & ei!r lady %\ld make a slight rem>k4 ,x is n usual = ladies on be+ fir/ introduc$ to ea* o!r to %ake h&s1 b only to b[2 b !re are v _m exceptions to ?is rule4 ,:5 "o lady is ( high] rank ?an ! o!r1 %\ld %e (f] to %ake h&s1 x w\ld be a complim5t & a m>k ( fri5dl9ess on h] "p4 ,:5 a p]son introduces two intimate fri5ds ( 8 or h]s to ea* o!r1 !y w\ld be expect$ to %ake h&s1 in/ead ( b[+ only4 ,! relations ( an engag$ c\ple %\ld1 on be+ introduc$1 %ake h&s ) bo? bride & bridegroom elect1 z %\ld ! intimate fri5ds ( an engag$ c\ple2 z also %\ld ! relations ( ! two families on be+ introduc$ to ea* o!r4 ,x is ! privilege ( ! lady to be ! fir/ to (f] to %ake h&s1 9 e case1 :5 a g5tleman is introduc$ to h]4 ,a lady %\ld %ake h&s ) e "o introduc$ to h] 9 h] own h\se--t is to say1 :e!r ! p]son is br\ght by a mutual fri5d1 or is pres5t by invitation obta9$ ?r\gh a mutual fri5d4 ,at ,d9n]-p>ties1 bo? small & l>ge1 ! ho/ess %\ld use h] own discretion z to ! introductions %e ?9ks prop] to make4 ,x is n cu/om>y to make g5]al introductions at a d9n]-p>ty2 b 9 s5d+ gue/s d[n to d9n]1 :o are /rang]s to ea* o!r1 ! ho/ or ho/ess %\ld introduce ! g5tleman to ! lady :om he is to take d[n to d9n]4 ,x w\ld be q unnecess>y to ask ! lady's p]mission be=e do+ s4 ,x w\ld be suffici5t to make ! introduction a few mom5ts be=e d9n] 0 ann\nc$1 & ! usual =mula is1 ,mrs4 ,a41 ,mr4 ,b4 w take y 9 to d9n]4 ,a b[ is ! recognition ( ?is introduction4 ,:5 ! majority at a d9n]-p>ty are /rang]s to ea* o!r1 a ho/ or ho/ess %\ld introduce "o or two ( ! pr9cipal gue/s to ea* o!r1 :5 "t all[s ( its be+ done be=e d9n] is s]v$2 su* introductions are (t5] made at c\ntry d9n]-p>ties ?an at t[n d9n]-p>ties4 ,a ho/ess %\ld1 9 "s in/ances1 introduce ladies to ea* o!r 9 ! draw+-room aft] d9n] if ! opportunity (f]s1 & %e consid]s x advisable to d s4 ,z a rule1 a ho/ seldom introduces g5tlem5 to ea* o!r 9 ! d9+-room aft] d9n]1 z !y address ea* o!r z a matt] ( c\rse on su* occasions4 ,a ho/ess %\ld introduce h] pr9cipal gue/s to ea* o!r1 at five-o'clock teas1 g>d5-p>ties1 small at homes1 etc4--t is to say1 g5tlem5 to ladies--= ! purpose ( _! tak+ ! ladies to ! tea-room4 ,9 ?is case also1 ! introduction %\ld be made )\t previ\sly consult+ ! lady2 & a g5tleman1 kn[+ ! reason ( ! introduction1 %\ld at once pr(f] ! expect$ civility4 ,at ^! ga!r+s a ho/ess %\ld use h] own discretion z to any g5]al introductions %e ?9ks prop] to make1 & %\ld introduce any g5tleman to any lady )\t previ\sly consult+ ! lady if %e ?9ks ! introduction w prove agreeable to h]4 ,:5 introduc+ ladies to ea* o!r1 %e %\ld give m>ri$ ladies1 & ladies ( rank1 ! option ( ! introduction2 b %\ld introduce "y unm>ri$ ladies to ea* o!r if %e ?9ks prop]4 ,:5 ,call]s arrive simultane\sly1 ! ho/ess %\ld introduce !m directly or indirectly to ea* o!r1 if !re is no social reason to ! contr>y4 ,:5 a ho/ess is aw>e t h] visitors d n desire ea* o!r's acqua9tance%ip1 or1 if %e consid]s t ! introduction is n altoge!r a suitable "o1 agreeable to bo? p]sons1 %e %\ld n make x1 b conv]se ) ea* visitor 9 turn1 at ! same "t n all[+ ! conv]sation to become too g5]al4 ,at l>ge ga!r+s1 p]sons desir\s ( avoid+ ea* o!r's acqua9tance%ip1 c\ld be pres5t at ! h\se ( a mutual acqua9tance )\t com+ into direct contact ) "o ano!r1 provid+ ! ho/ & ho/ess possess$ suffici5t tact & discretion n to attempt to effect a rappro*em5t betwe5 !m4 ,at ,c\ntry-h\se ,p>ties1 ! ho/ess %\ld introduce ! pr9cipal ladies to "o ano!r on ! fir/ day ( _! arrival2 b if x is a l>ge p>ty1 introductions %\ld n be g5]ally made1 b %\ld be made accord+ to ! judgm5t ( ! ho/ess4 ,! fact ( p]sons be+ gue/s 9 ! same h\se con/itutes 9 itself an introduction1 & x re/s ) ! gue/s ?us br\ght toge!r :e!r ! acqua9tance%ip rip5s into subsequ5t intimacy or n4 ,! same rem>k applies 9 a degree to aft]noon teas & at homes4 ,! gue/s conv]se ) ea* o!r if incl9$ to d s4 ,! act ( s conv]s+ w\ld n con/itute an acqua9tance%ip1 al?\gh x might1 "u "s circum/ances1 e/abli% a b[+ acqua9tance%ip1 especially betwe5 g5tlem54 ,ladies %\ld n b[ to ea* o!r aft] only ex*ang+ a few rem>ks at aft]noon tea1 or at a g>d5-p>ty1 unless !re 7 "s p>ticul> social l9k betwe5 !m to w>rant _! s do+1 9 :i* case ! lady ( highe/ rank %\ld take ! initiative4 ,introductions at ,public ,balls4--,x is errone\s to suppose t x is ! duty ( /ew>ds to make introductions at public balls2 x is ! exception1 & n ! rule1 = /ew>ds to introduce p]sons to ea* o!r :o are /rang]s to !mselves4 ,society objects1 & ! /ew>ds object1 to mak+ promiscu\s introductions1 on ! foll[+ gr\nds3 fir/1 z reg>ds ! *ap]on1 :e!r "m or relative1 :o has ! *>ge ( a "y lady2 !n z reg>ds a "y lady h]self2 & la/1 b n lea/1 z reg>ds ! position occupi$ by ! /ew>d himself4 ,a *ap]on naturally looks & feels displeas$ :5 a /ew>d :o is a /rang] to h]self (f]s to introduce a man :o is evid5tly a /rang] to him1 :i* fact %e ga!rs by 8 say+1 ,?is g5tleman wi%es to be introduc$ to y\r daught]1 or by 8 ask+ ! /rang] 8 "n be=e mak+ ! introduction4 ,a *ap]on is responsible = ! acqua9tances a "y lady =ms :ile "u h] *>ge at a ball1 & if among/ h] own fri5ds & acqua9tances %e _c f9d p>tn]s = h]1 %e w\ld pref] t %e sp5t a comp>atively dull ev5+ ?an t %e %\ld run ! risk ( =m+ undesirable acqua9tances4 ,"y ladies h n always ! discretion possess$ by _! eld]s1 or suffici5t k ( ! _w to d ! "r ?+4 ,?us1 "s "y ladies w\ld ei!r coldly decl9e ! introductions1 or if ! introductions 7 made1 w\ld z coldly decl9e to dance1 :il/ o!rs1 anxi\s to dance1 w\ld accept bo? ! introductions & ! p>tn]s1 & take _! *ance z to :e!r _! bro!rs w\ld l to see !m danc+ ) /rang]s ?us introduc$4 ,a /ew>d himself p>ticul>ly dislikes to be made responsible = a man he does n "k2 & :e!r a *ap]on & a "y lady are old fri5ds ( 81 or :e!r !y are m]ely new acqua9tances1 !y equally tru/ to 8 n introduc+ m5 to !m :om !y w\ld n c>e to "k1 & ( :om he kn[s no?+ save t !y h solicit$ an introduction to !m4 ,v few /ew>ds c>e to acco/ a lady :om !y m]ely "k by sight & by "n = ! purpose ( introduc+ a /rang]2 !y pref] to decl9e to make ! introduction1 on ! plea ( n hav+ ! hon\r ( ! lady's acqua9tance4 ,/ew>ds consid] t ! position ( a "y man mu/ be a peculi> "o1 & 8 pres5ce at a ball some:at ( an anomaly1 if he does n possess an acqua9tance 9 ! room1 ?r\gh :om he c become kn[n to "o or o!r ( ! /ew>ds1 or ?r\gh :om he c be introduc$ to any p>ticul> lady ) :om he may desire to dance4 ,:5 a g5tleman is introduc$ to a "y lady at a public ball1 x g5]ally means t he is introduc$ to h] z a p>tn]1 & t ?\gh he may n ask h] = ! next dance1 he w = a subsequ5t "o1 or t he w at lea/ (f] to take h] 9 to supp]1 or1 if e>li] 9 ! ev5+1 to give h] "s tea1 or if %e decl9es ^! civilities1 t he w cont9ue a conv]sation ) h] until ! next dance comm5ces1 or until a dance is ov]4 ,:5 a g5tleman does nei!r ( ^! ?+s1 b walks away z soon z ! introduction is made1 x is a pro( h[ little he desir$ x1 & t d\btless ! option 0 n giv5 him ( refus+ x4 ,good-natur$ fri5ds ( bo? sexes "k h[ difficult x is to get p>tn]s = well-dress$1 well-mann]$1 good-look+ girls at a ball1 unless !y are m ?an ord9>ily attractive 9 "s way or o!r1 9 :i* case !y are popul> & s\ght aft]1 & ! only difficulty re/s ) ! "y ladies !mselves z to h[ !y %all be/ apportion ! dances s z to satisfy _! num]\s p>tn]s1 or p]suade _! *ap]ons to /ay = "o m dance :i* !y h promis$ to1 etc4 ,x is a well-kn[n fact 9 ! ball-go+ _w t ! majority ( "y m5 insi/ ^u be+ introduc$ to ! mo/ popul> girls 9 a ball-room1 & refuse be+ introduc$ to "o :o does n appe> to h pl5ty ( p>tn]s4 ,public balls are 9 reality made up ( a numb] ( small p>ties & diff]5t sets1 ea* set or p>ty be+ entirely indep5d5t ( ! o!r4 ,at c\nty balls ! c\nty p take l>ge h\se-p>ties1 & ea* h\se-p>ty does or does n m+le ) o!r h\se-p>ties1 accord+ to /&+ or incl9ation4 ,if ?ree l>ge h\se-p>ties jo9 =ces at a ball !y =m a v impos+ majority2 b !re are o!r sets 9 ! same ball-room1 danc+ to ! same b& & adj\rn+ to ! same supp]-room1 equally ap>t & equally di/9ct4 ,at balls held at wat]+-places1 al?\gh ! resid5ts d n take l>ge h\se-p>ties1 yet !y jo9 =ces ) ^? resid5ts ) :om !y are acqua9t$1 re9=c$ by fri5ds :o come d[n purposely to be pres5t at ! ball4 ,?us1 on ! face ( x1 a /ew>d's introductions _c fail to be ill-receiv$1 9 :atev] set he may be co]c$ into mak+ !m2 & x is well und]/ood t introductions1 to prove acceptable1 %\ld only be made ?r\gh fri5ds & acqua9tances1 & ev5 !n ) tact & judgm5t4 ,z ! /ew>ds ( a ball are usually ! mo/ influ5tial g5tlem5 9 ! place1 x naturally foll[s t !y are acqua9t$ ) _m1 if n ) all1 ( ! pr9cipal p pres5t1 !re=e :5 !y make introductions x is n by virtue ( _! (fice1 b simply z a matt] ( fri5d%ip1 & ?r\gh be+ p]sonally acqua9t$ ) ^? introduc$ by !m4 ,introductions out ( doors are r a matt] ( incl9ation ?an n1 z1 = in/ance1 :5 a lady is walk+ ) ano!r lady to :om %e is on a visit %e %\ld introduce any fri5ds to h] ho/ess %e might happ5 to meet1 & h] ho/ess %\ld d likewise if "t & opportunity (f] = s do+2 %\ld any reason exi/ = n mak+ an introduction on ! "p ( ei!r lady1 x %\ld be expla9$ :5 !y are aga9 alone1 z 7 ei!r ( ! ladies to exclude ! o!r f ! conv]sation x w\ld be consid]$ disc\rte\s t[>ds ! "o exclud$4 ,:5 two ladies accid5tally meet :5 out walk+1 & are subsequ5tly jo9$ by two or m ladies1 introductions %\ld n be made by ei!r ( ! ladies1 unless "s special reason exi/s = s do+4 ,a lady1 z a rule1 %\ld n introduce g5tlem5 to ea* o!r unless "o ( !m is h] ho/1 :5 x w\ld be correct to d s4 ,h[ to act on ! ,occasion ( an ,introduction is det]m9$ almo/ entirely ^u ! reason = its be+ made1 & by :om & to :om ! p]son is introduc$4 ,ev5 ! locale has some?+ to d ) x1 & ?us a v>iety ( issues are rais$1 ^u :i* an in/antane\s judgm5t has to be giv54 ,! m9d has to travel ) lightn+ rapidity ov] ! gr\nd to arrive at a correct c\rse ( action2 b ! m9d does n always respond to ! call made ^u x3 x hesitates1 & acts n ^u ! outcome ( reflection1 b ^u ! spur ( ! mom5t4 ,! ,receiv$ ,rule is n to %ake h&s1 b m]ely to b[ on be+ introduc$2 b ?is rule "u c]ta9 circum/ances w\ld n meet ! case2 x w\ld disappo9t ! "o introduc+ & ! "o introduc$4 ,= in/ance if a relative ( ! =m] is ! p]son introduc$ a b[ w\ld be a v *ill+ response to ! introduction made2 to %ake h&s1 on ! contr>y1 w\ld be ! correct ?+ to d1 & bo? p]sons %\ld (f] at ! same mom5t ?is cordial recognition4 ,on ! o!r h&1 if a casual introduction is made )\t any prem$itation1 & ^? introduc$ are totally unkn[n to ea* o!r1 an ex*ange ( b[s is all t is requir$ ( !m4 ,among/ ! ,exceptions = n m]ely b[+ on be+ introduc$ are ! introductions made betwe5 "y ladies & eld]ly ones1 & betwe5 "y ladies !mselves4 ,an eld]ly lady1 z a g5]al rule1 %akes h&s ) a girl introduc$ to h] ) ! idea ( be+ cordial & k9d1 n to say condesc5d+1 & girls g5]ally %ake h&s ) ea* o!r 9 place ( b[+1 z acqua9tance%ips =m$ by !m h n ! importance t atta*es to ^? ( old] ladies2 besides1 a great] read9ess to make fri5ds is ! privilege & *>act]i/ic ( y\?4 ,m5 take v mu* ! ,same ,view z reg>ds introductions z d wom5--t is to say1 if an introduction is made by a relative ( ! man introduc$1 ! m5 w\ld %ake h&s & n m]ely b[4 ,?is holds equally good :]e intimate fri5ds are conc]n$3 !y almo/ rank on ! foot+ ( relations1 & a cordial reception is giv5 to an introduction ?us made4 ,:5 casual introductions are made ( necessity r ?an ( int5tion m5 d n %ake h&s4 ,:5 ,i ?9k y h met ,a4 or ,i ?9k y "k ,mr4 ,a4 is said--! "o by a ho/ & ! o!r by a ho/ess--no?+ fur!r is requir$ f ei!r ?an a b[ & a smile ( acquiesc5ce accept+ ! introduction & a disclaim] is n expect$ if ,mr4 ,a4 is n actually kn[n4 ,! unc]ta9ty is an excuse = mak+ ! introduction4 ,ladies d n rise f _! ,seats on be+ introduc$ ei!r at an ,at ,home or be=e d9n] is ann\nc$1 or aft] d9n]1 or :5 call+ :5 p are introduc$ to !m1 or :5 !y !mselves are introduc$4 ,half an exception occurs1 x is true1 at cr[d$ at homes1 :5 to rise & talk to ! lady introduc$ is almo/ a necessity3 !re is no vacant seat = h] to take1 &1 !re=e1 if bo? d n /&1 conv]sation is at a deadlock1 z ! few fir/ conv5tional rem>ks made by ei!r are lo/ 9 ! g5]al buzz go+ on ar\nd2 also1 x is awkw>d & ungraceful = a lady to b5d ov] "o seat$ = ! purpose ( say+ a few platitudes4 ,introductory rem>ks1 or rem>ks foll[+ ^u introductions1 h too (t5 a melan*oly r+ ( commonplac5ess ab\t !m & are di/9ctly trite4 ,h[ c !y be o!rwise8 ,to v5ture out ( ! commonplace into orig9ality w\ld be suspici\s ( ecc5tricity1 & no "o wi%es to be consid]$ a little odd4 ,be=e & aft] ,d9n]1 :5 ,introductions are made betwe5 ladies x is to ^? seat$ ne> to ea* o!r1 &1 !re=e1 !re w\ld be no occasion to rise1 z !re might be at an at home4 ,!re is no "q ( a lady ris+ f h] seat :5 a man is introduc$ to h]1 unless t man is h] ho/1 :5 %e %\ld rise & %ake h&s ) him1 or a cl]ical dignity--a bi%op = in/ance1 if opportunity all[s ( x1 & on a semi-(ficial occasion4 ,?is "q does n tr\ble m51 z !y are usually f\nd /&+1 or !y are br\ght up to a p]son to be introduc$1 & ev5 if a man v5tures ^u sitt+ d[n at an at home1 or be=e d9n] is ann\nc$1 he spr+s to 8 feet ) alacrity :5 any approa* is made 9 ! matt] ( introduc+ him to a fell[ gue/4 ,introductions (t5 h to be made at ,aft]noon ,calls1 suppos+ t two or ?ree call]s only are pres5t & ! ho/ess feels t %e mu/ r5d] ! talk g5]al by mak+ "s k9d ( introduction1 direct or indirect1 z %e ?9ks be/4 ,! ladies ?us introduc$ rema9 seat$ & b[4 ,!y d n %ake h&s ev5 "u ! exceptional conditions previ\sly ref]r$ to1 b !y w\ld at once jo9 9 ! talk t passes = conv]sation1 & on dep>ture w\ld %ake h&s ) ! relative 9 "q aft] hav+ %ak5 h&s ) ! ho/ess & hav+ express$ pleasure at meet+ ?is ne> relative--"m or si/]1 or :oev] %e may happ5 to be4 ,introductions betwe5 ,call]s made "u en=c$ circum/ances h n mu* be>+ on future acqua9tance4 ,^? introduc$ pass s %ort a "t 9 ea* o!r's company1 & "k practically no?+ ( ea* o!r's surr\nd+s1 t !y are unc]ta9 :e!r at future meet+s !y ought to recollect t su* introductions h tak5 place1 & :e!r !y %\ld b[ or =get4 ,actually x w\ld be correct to b[ if ! opportunity is giv5 s to d1 b unless ! wi% to be/[ recognition is mutual x is ( little avail if grudg+ly giv51 & x w\ld be worse /ill 7 x )held4 ,"s p h %ort memories = faces1 & o!rs are %ort-sight$1 & bo? ^! drawbacks h to be reckon$ ) :5 expect+ recognition f a p]son to :om "o has be5 ?us introduc$4 ,,*apt] ,,iii ,,leav+ ,,c>ds ,! etiquette ( c>d-leav+ is a privilege :i* society places 9 ! h&s ( ladies to gov]n & det]m9e _! acqua9tance%ips & intimacies1 to regulate & decide :om !y w1 & :om !y w n visit1 :om !y w admit into _! fri5d%ip1 & :om !y w keep on ! mo/ di/ant foot+1 ^: acqua9tance !y wi% fur!r to cultivate & ^: to discont9ue4 ,x w\ld seem t ! act ( leav+ c>ds is b imp]fectly und]/ood1 & t _m errone\s impressions prevail respect+ ! actual use ( visit+ c>ds4 ,! object ( leav+ c>ds is to signify t a call has be5 made1 due civility %[n1 & a l civility expect$ 9 return4 ,leav+ c>ds1 or c>d-leav+1 is "o ( ! mo/ important ( social obs]vances1 z x is ! gr\nd-"w or nucleus 9 g5]al society ( all acqua9tance%ips4 ,leav+ c>ds1 accord+ to etiquette1 is ! fir/ /ep t[>ds =m+1 or t[>ds enl>g+1 a circle ( acqua9tances1 & ! non-fulfilm5t ( ! prescrib$ rules is a sure /ep 9 ! opposite direction4 ,! foll[+ is ! receiv$ code ( c>d-leav+ 9 all its details accord+ to ! etiquette obs]v$ 9 good society by bo? ladies & g5tlem51 & %\ld be fai?fully foll[$4 ,a ,lady's ,visit+ ,c>d %\ld be pr9t$ 9 small1 cle> copp]-plate script1 & free f any k9d ( embelli%m5t z reg>ds ornam5tal or ,old ,engli% lett]s4 ,x %\ld n be a ?9 c>d1 & %\ld be ?ree in*es & five eigh?s 9 wid?1 & slightly "u two & a half 9 dep?4 ,! "n ( ! lady %\ld be pr9t$ 9 ! c5tre ( ! c>d1 & h] address 9 ! left-h& corn]4 ,if %e has a second address1 x %\ld be pr9t$ 9 ! opposite corn] ( ! c>d4 ,if ! second address is b a tempor>y "o1 x is usually writt5 & n pr9t$4 ,a m>ri$ lady %\ld nev] use h] *ri/ian "n on a c>d1 b %e %\ld use h] husb&'s *ri/ian "n be=e h] surname if 8 fa!r or eld] bro!r is liv+4 ,x is n[ consid]$ old-fa%ion$ = husb&s & wives to h _! names pr9t$ on ! same c>d1 al?\gh at wat]+-places1 ! practice ( hav+ ! two names on ! same c>d1 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,da%1 is /ill occasionally foll[$2 b ev5 :5 ^! c>ds are us$1 a lady & g5tleman /ill require sep>ate c>ds ( _! own4 ,a lady hav+ a l>ge acqua9tance %\ld keep a visit+ book1 9 :i* to ent] ! names ( h] acqua9tances1 & ! date :5 _! c>ds 7 left ^u h]1 ) ! dates ( h] return c>ds left ^u !m1 t %e might "k :e!r a c>d 7 due to h] f !m1 or :e!r x 7 due to !m f h]4 ,a lady hav+ a small acqua9tance w\ld f9d a memor&um book suffici5t = ! purpose2 a l9e %\ld be drawn d[n ! c5tre ( e page1 divid+ x into two columns1 ! "o column = ! names1 & ! opposite column = ! dates ( ! calls made & return$4 ,leav+ c>ds pr9cipally devolves ^u ! mi/ress ( a h\se2 a wife %\ld leave c>ds = h] husb&1 z well z = h]self2 & a daught] = h] fa!r4 ,! ma/] ( a h\se has little or no c>d-leav+ to d1 beyond leav+ c>ds ^u 8 ba*elor fri5ds4 ,9 ! c\ntry x is o!rwise1 & ^? :o return home are call$ ^u by _! fri5ds & acqua9tances 9 ! fir/ in/ance1 unless "u exceptional circum/ances4 ,ladies arriv+ 9 t[n %\ld leave c>ds on _! acqua9tances & fri5ds to intimate t !y h return$4 ,visit+ c>ds %\ld be left 9 p]son1 & %\ld n be s5t by po/1 al?\gh 9 t[n1 :5 ! di/ance is consid]able1 x is tacitly all[$2 b1 z a rule1 ladies inv>iably leave _! c>ds !mselves4 ,on arriv+ 9 t[n = ! season ladies hav+ a l>ge acqua9tance (t5 s5d _! visit+ c>ds to _! v>i\s fri5ds & acqua9tances by a man-s]vant or ?r\gh a /ation]4 ,! ,r\t9e ( ,c>d-leav+4--,z reg>ds ! r\t9e ( c>d-leav+4 ,:5 driv+1 a lady %\ld desire h] footman to inquire if ! mi/ress ( ! h\se at :i* %e is call+ is at home4 ,if n at home1 & x is a fir/ call1 %e %\ld h& him ?ree c>ds--"o ( h] own1 & two ( h] husb&'s4 ,h] c>d is left = ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 & h] husb&'s c>ds = bo? ma/] & mi/ress4 ,if n a fir/ call a lady %\ld leave "o only ( h] husb&'s c>ds if 8 acqua9tance ) h] fri5d's husb& is an intimate "o & !y are 9 ! habit ( meet+ frequ5tly4 ,if1 on ! contr>y1 !y "k ea* o!r b slightly1 & meet b seldom1 !n two ( 8 c>ds %\ld be left4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 n on e occasion ( call+4 ,:5 a lady is m]ely leav+ c>ds1 %e %\ld h& ! ?ree c>ds to h] s]vant1 say+1 ,= ,mrs4 ----4 ,?is ensures ! c>ds be+ left at ! "r address1 & is ! correct =mula = ! occasion4 ,:5 a lady is walk+1 & f9ds ! mi/ress ( ! h\se at :i* %e calls is n at home1 %e %\ld act z above4 ,:5 a lady int5ds mak+ a call %e %\ld ask if ,mrs4 ---- is at home8 ,& if ! answ] is 9 ! affirmative1 %e %\ld1 aft] mak+ ! call1 leave two ( h] husb&'s c>ds on ! hall table1 & nei!r put !m 9 ! c>d-basket nor leave !m on ! draw+-room table1 nor (f] !m to h] ho/ess1 all ( :i* w\ld be v incorrect2 b %e might on rea*+ ! hall h& !m to ! man-s]vant sil5tly1 or %e might s5d !m 9 by h] own s]vant :5 seat$ 9 h] c>riage1 say+1 ,= ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,smi?4 ,%e %\ld n leave h] own c>d on ! hall table1 z1 hav+ se5 ! lady ( ! h\se1 ! reason = do+ s no long] exi/s4#a ,:5 a lady call+ is accompani$ by h] husb& & ! mi/ress ( ! h\se is at home1 ! husb& %\ld leave "o ( 8 c>ds only1 = ! abs5t ma/] ( ! h\se2 :5 ! ma/] ( ! h\se is at home also1 a c>d 9 t case %\ld n be left4 ,:5 ! mi/ress ( a h\se has a gr[n-up daught] or daught]s1 ! lady leav+ c>ds %\ld turn d[n "o corn] ( h] visit+ c>d--! "r-h& corn] g5]ally--to include ! daught] or daught]s 9 ! call4 ,?is cu/om ( turn+ d[n a corn] ( a visit+ c>d signifies t o!r ladies ( ! family besides ! ho/ess are includ$ 9 ! call4 ,a =eign] turns d[n ! end ( a c>d in/ead ( "o corn] only1 :i* has n ! same signification4 ,x is to d5ote t he has left x 9 p]son4 ,a lady %\ld n leave "o ( h] husb&'s c>ds = ! daught]s ( ! h\se1 b %e n unfrequ5tly leaves 8 c>d = ! gr[n-up sons ( ! h\se4 ,:5 a lady int5ds leav+ c>ds on a fri5d :o is ! gue/ ( "s "o ) :om %e is unacqua9t$1 %e %\ld only leave c>ds = h] fri5d & n = h] fri5d's ho/ess2 b if %e is slightly acqua9t$ ) h] fri5d's ho/ess1 %e %\ld leave c>ds ^u h] on ! occasion ( h] fir/ visit to h] fri5d1 b x w\ld n be necess>y to d s at e subsequ5t visit1 especially if !y 7 ( frequ5t occurr5ce4 ,"y ladies %\ld n h visit+ c>ds ( _! own2 _! names %\ld be pr9t$ b5ea? t ( _! "m on h] c>d4 ,9 ! case ( !re be+ no "m liv+1 ! daught]'s "n %\ld be pr9t$ b5ea? t ( h] fa!r on ! usual lady's visit+ c>d1 b nev] on ! small] c>ds us$ by g5tlem54 ,:5 "y ladies are tak5 out into society by relatives or fri5ds1 _! names %\ld be writt5 9 p5cil "u ! names ( ! ladies *ap]on+ !m on _! visit+ c>ds4 ,maid5 ladies ( a c]ta9 age %\ld h visit+ c>ds ( _! own1 b until a "y lady has atta9$ :at is t]m$ a c]ta9 age1 x argues no little indep5d5ce ( action to h a c>d ( h] own2 b :5 %e no long] requires *ap]onage1 %e is entitl$ to a c>d ( h] own1 be+ cle>ly h] own mi/ress1 & able to *oose h] own acqua9tances4 ,:5 a "y lady is on a visit unaccompani$ by h] p>5ts1 & wi%es to call on ladies ) :om ! lady %e is /ay+ ) is unacqua9t$1 %e %\ld leave h] "m's c>d on :i* h] own "n is also pr9t$1 & %\ld draw a p5cil ?r\gh h] "m's "n to intimate t %e 0 n ) h] on t occasion4 ,c>ds %\ld always be return$ )9 a week if possible1 or t5 days at late/1 aft] !y h be5 left1 b to d s )9 a week is m c\rte\s4 ,& c>e mu/ be tak5 to return ! call or c>ds accord+ to ! etiquette obs]v$ by ! p]son mak+ ! call or leav+ ! c>d2 t is to say1 t a call mu/ n be return$ by a c>d only1 or a c>d by a call4 ,?is is a po9t ladies %\ld be v punctili\s ab\t4 ,%\ld a lady ( high] rank return a c>d by a call1 ask+ if ! mi/ress ( ! h\se 7 at home1 h] s do+ w\ld be 9 /rict etiquette2 & %\ld %e return a call by a c>d only1 x %\ld be und]/ood t %e wi%$ ! acqua9tance to be ( ! slighte/2 & %\ld a lady call ^u an acqua9tance ( high] rank ?an h]self1 :o _h only left a c>d ^u h]1 h] do+ s w\ld be a brea* ( etiquette4 ,9 l>ge e/abli%m5ts ! hall port] ent]s ! names ( all call]s 9 a book expressly kept = ! purpose1 :ile "s ladies m]ely desire _! s]vant to sort ! c>ds left = !m4 ,! "n ( ! lady or g5tleman = :om ! c>ds are int5d$ %\ld nev] be writt5 on ! c>ds left at a h\se4 ,! only case 9 :i* x %\ld be done w\ld be :5 c>ds are left on a lady or a g5tleman /ay+ at a cr[d$ hotel1 :51 to save confusion1 & to ensure _! receiv+ !m1 _! names %\ld be writt5 on !m ?us3 ,= ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,smi?4 ,b ?is w\ld be q an exceptional case1 o!rwise to d s w\ld be extremely vulg>4 ,leav+ ,c>ds aft] ,ent]ta9m5ts4--,visit+ c>ds %\ld be left aft] ! foll[+ ent]ta9m5ts3 balls1 receptions1 private !atricals1 amateur conc]ts1 & d9n]s1 by ^? :o h be5 invit$1 :e!r ! invitations h be5 accept$ or n1 & %\ld be left ! day aft] ! ent]ta9m5t if possible1 & c]ta9ly )9 ! week accord+ to ! rules ( c>d-leav+ already describ$4 ,on ^! occasions c>ds %\ld be left )\t inquiry z to :e!r ! ho/ess is at home1 al?\gh aft] a d9n]-p>ty x is ! rule to ask if %e is at home1 z to d9e at a h\se d5otes a great] intimacy ?an be+ pres5t at a l>ge ga!r+4 ,if ! ho/ess 7 n at home1 c>ds %\ld be left4 ,if a lady has be5 b once pres5t at any ent]ta9m5t1 :e!r ! invitation came ?r\gh a mutual fri5d or direct f ! ho/ess h]self1 ! ho/ess be+ b a slight acqua9tance ( h] own1 besides leav+ c>ds on h] ! day foll[+1 %e c1 if %e desires1 leave c>ds on h] ! foll[+ season1 or1 if resid+ 9 ! same t[n1 )9 a reasonable "t ( ! ent]ta9m5t2 b if ^! c>ds are n ackn[l$g$ by c>ds be+ left 9 return1 %e %\ld ( c\rse und]/& t ! acqua9tance is to proce$ no fur!r4 ,a lady %\ld n leave c>ds on ano!r lady to :om %e has b rec5tly be5 introduc$ at a d9n]-p>ty or aft]noon tea2 = in/ance1 %e mu/ meet h] sev]al times 9 society1 & feel sure t h] acqua9tance is desir$1 be=e v5tur+ to leave c>ds4 ,if two ladies are ( equal rank1 tact w be _! be/ guide z to ! advisability ( leav+ c>ds or n ^u ea* o!r2 ! lady ( sup]ior rank may take ! initiative if %e pleases4 ,if ei!r ( ! ladies express a wi% to fur!r ! acqua9tance by ask+ ! o!r to call ^u h]1 ! sugge/ion %\ld come f ! lady ( highe/ rank2 if ( equal rank x is immat]ial z to :i* fir/ makes ! sugge/ion4 ,b 9 ei!r case ! call %\ld be paid )9 ! week4 ,leav+ ,c>ds ^u ,new-com]s4--,9 ! c\ntry ! resid5ts %\ld be ! fir/ to leave c>ds on ! new-com]s1 aft] asc]ta9+ ! position :i* ! new-com]s occupy 9 society4 ,p]sons mov+ 9 ! same sph]e %\ld ei!r leave c>ds or call accord+ z !y int5d to be c]emoni\s or fri5dly1 & ! return visits %\ld be paid 9 l mann]1 a c>d = a c>d1 a call = a call4 ,x is ! receiv$ rule t resid5ts %\ld call on new-com]s1 al?\gh hav+ no previ\s acqua9tance ) !m1 or introductions to !m4 ,new-com]s1 ev5 if ( high] rank1 %\ld n call on resid5ts 9 ! fir/ in/ance1 b %\ld wait until ! resid5ts h tak5 ! initiative4 ,if resid5ts d n wi% to cont9ue ! acqua9tance aft] ! fir/ meet+1 x is discont9u$ by n leav+ c>ds1 or by n call+ aga91 & if ! new-com]s feel dis9cl9$ to cont9ue ! acqua9tance !y %\ld return ! calls by leav+ c>ds only4 ,call+ on new-com]s 9 ! c\ntry %\ld n be done indiscrim9ately1 & due consid]ation %\ld be paid to individual /atus 9 society4 ,! lady ( highe/ social position 9 ! circle to :i* ! new-com]s belong g5]ally takes ! responsibility ( call+ fir/ on ! new-com]s4 ,by new-com]s is express$ p]sons :o int5d to reside 9 a c\nty or t[n = a long1 or ev5 = a %ort p]iod1 & :o are n casual visitors 9 ! place4 ,! cu/om ( resid5ts call+ on new-com]s is entirely conf9$ to c\nty society1 & does n apply to resid5ts 9 l>ge t[ns & popul\s wat]+-places4 ,9 old ca!dral cities & quiet c\ntry t[ns1 f> f ! metropolis1 on ! contr>y1 ! rule holds good ( resid5ts call+ on new-com]s4 ,c>ds ,to ,inquire4--,c>ds to inquire aft] fri5ds dur+ _! illness %\ld be left 9 p]son1 & %\ld n be s5t by po/2 b !y may be s5t by a s]vant4 ,on a lady's visit+ c>d %\ld be writt5 above ! pr9t$ "n3 ,to inquire aft] ,mrs4 ,smi?4 ,:5 ! p]son inquir$ aft] is suffici5tly recov]$ to return ?anks 9 p]son1 ! usual visit+ c>d1 ) _m ?anks = k9d inquiries1 writt5 above ! pr9t$ "n1 is ! usual mode ( return+ ?anks1 & is all-suffici5t = ! purpose4 ,p4,p4,c4 ,c>ds4--,=m]ly ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds 7 left )9 a week ( dep>ture1 or )9 t5 days if ! acqua9tance 0 a l>ge "o4 ,! lett]s ,p4,p4,c4 = p\r pr5dre conge1 writt5 at ! l[] corn] ( visit+ c>ds1 indicate dep>ture f t[n or f a neighb\rhood4 ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds may be left 9 p]son or s5t by a s]vant2 !y c also be s5t by po/4 ,! object ( leav+ ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds is to avoid leave-tak+s & correspond5ce conc]n+ dep>ture1 & to prev5t (f5ce be+ giv5 if lett]s & invitations rema9$ unansw]$4 ,9 ! c\ntry an abs5ce ( f ?ree to six mon?s r5d]s leav+ ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds some:at necess>y2 "u t p]iod x w\ld be unnecess>y to give notice ( a tempor>y abs5ce :i* does n am\nt to an actual dep>ture4 ,%ort abs5ces r5d] x unnecess>y to leave ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds4 ,holiday movem5ts at ,*ri/mas1 ,ea/]1 & ,:itsuntide are ?or\ghly recognis$1 & no leave-tak+ is obligatory4 ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds are n[ seldom if ev] left 9 t[n4 ,bus9ess ,calls4--,:5 a lady makes a /rictly bus9ess call ^u ei!r a lady or g5tleman %e %\ld give h] c>d to ! s]vant to be tak5 to 8 ma/] or mi/ress1 b on no o!r occasion %\ld %e d s4 ,g5tlem5's ,visit+ ,c>ds4--,a g5tleman's c>d %\ld be ?9--?ick c>ds are n 9 good ta/e--& n glaz$1 & ( ! usual n>r[ wid?1 i4e4 "o & a half in*es 9 dep?1 & ?ree in*es 9 wid?2 8 "n %\ld be pr9t$ 9 ! c5tre1 ?us3 ,mr4 ,smi? or ,mr4 ,francis ,smi?1 %\ld he require ! addition ( 8 *ri/ian "n to di/+ui% him f 8 fa!r or eld] bro!r4 ,to h ,francis ,smi? pr9t$ on ! c>d )\t ! prefix ( ,mr4 w\ld be 9 bad ta/e4 ,initials app]ta9+ to honor>y rank %\ld nev] be writt5 or pr9t$ on a c>d1 su* z ,d4,l41 ,k4,c41 ,m4,p41 ,k4,c4,b41 ,m4,d41 etc4 ,milit>y or pr(essional titles necess>ily prec$e ! surname ( ! p]son be>+ !m1 & are always us$1 su* z ,colonel ,smi?1 ,capta9 ,smi?1 ,rev4 ,h4 ,smi?1 ,dr4 ,smi?1 etc4 ,z reg>ds titles1 ,! ,hon\rable is ! only title t is n us$ on a visit+ c>d4 ,?us ,! ,hon\rable ,h5ry ,smi?'s c>d %\ld be> ! words ,mr4 ,h5ry ,smi? only4 ,a ,b>onet's c>d %\ld be pr9t$ ?us1 ,sir ,george ,smi?1 & a ,knight's c>d ?us1 ,sir ,*>les ,smi?4 ,a g5tleman's address %\ld be pr9t$ 9 ! left h& corn] ( ! c>d4 ,if a memb] ( a club1 x is usual to pr9t ! "n ( ! club at ! "r h&4 ,(fic]s usually h ! "n ( ! club pr9t$ at ! left h& corn] 9 ! place ( ! address1 & ! regim5t to :i* !y belong at ! "r h&4 ,c>ds %\ld be pr9t$ 9 small copp]-plate script1 )\t ornam5tation ( any k9d4 ,old ,engli% lett]s look old-fa%ion$ on a c>d1 & are b little us$2 & ornam5tal capital lett]s are nev] us$1 & are out ( date4 ,! lett]+ %\ld be z pla9 & z free f any sort ( embelli%m5t z x well c be4 ,! ,r\t9e ( ,c>d-leav+ = ,g5tlem54--,to ba*elors c>d-leav+ is an irksome r\t9e ( etiquette1 & is1 !re=e1 9 a measure (t5 neglect$1 by reason ( _! hav+ little or no leisure at comm& dur+ ! aft]noon h\rs4 ,?is is n[ ?or\ghly und]/ood & accept$ 9 g5]al society4 ,:51 h[ev]1 a ba*elor has 8 way to make 9 society & has leisure to fur!r ! acqua9tance%ips he has already made1 he %\ld foll[ ! rules ( c>d-leav+4 ,ba*elors1 z a rule1 are expect$ to leave c>ds on ! ma/] & mi/ress ( a h\se ) :om !y are acqua9t$ z soon z !y are aw>e t ! family h arriv$ 9 t[n2 or if a ba*elor himself has be5 away1 he %\ld leave c>ds on 8 acqua9tances imm$iately aft] 8 return4 ,he %\ld leave "o c>d = ! mi/ress ( ! h\se & "o = its ma/]4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n turn d[n a corn] ( 8 c>d1 ev5 ?\gh he may be acqua9t$ ) o!r ladies ( ! family besides ! mi/ress ( ! h\se4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n leave a c>d = ! "y daught]s ( ! h\se1 or = any "y relative ( its mi/ress :o might be /ay+ ) h]2 b if a m>ri$ c\ple ) :om he is acqua9t$ 7 /ay+ ) ! fri5ds on :om he is call+1 he %\ld leave two c>ds = !m1 "o = ! wife & "o = ! husb&1 & %\ld tell ! s]vant = :om !y are int5d$4 ,z reg>ds leav+ c>ds ^u new acqua9tances1 a g5tleman %\ld n leave 8 c>d ^u a m>ri$ lady1 or ! mi/ress ( a h\se1 to :om he has be5 introduc$1 h[ev] graci\s or agreeable %e has be5 to him1 unless %e expressly asks him to call1 or gives him to und]/& 9 an unmi/akable mann] t 8 do+ s w\ld be agreeable to h]4 ,?is rule holds good1 :e!r ! introduction has tak5 place at a d9n]-p>ty1 at a ball1 at an at home1 at a c\ntry-h\se ga!r+1 or else:]e2 he w\ld n be entitl$ to leave 8 c>d on h] on su* slight acqua9tance%ip2 z1 if %e desir$ 8 fur!r acqua9tance1 %e w\ld make "s polite allusion to 8 call+ at h] h\se1 9 :i* case he %\ld leave 8 c>d on h] z soon aft]w>ds z conv5i5t1 & he %\ld also leave a c>d = ! ma/] ( ! h\se1 ! lady's husb& or fa!r 7z ! case may be71 ev5 if he _h n made 8 acqua9tance :5 mak+ t ( ! lady4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n leave a c>d on a "y lady to :om he has be5 introduc$1 b ^u h] "m or ! relative ) :om %e is resid+4 ,:5 ! acqua9tance exi/+ betwe5 g5tlem5 is b slight1 !y %\ld occasionally leave c>ds ^u ea* o!r1 especially :5 !y d n move 9 ! same circle1 & are n o!rwise likely to meet2 x g5]ally foll[s t ! "o :o mo/ desires ! acqua9tance%ip is ! "o to leave 8 c>d fir/1 always suppos+ t ! /r5g? ( ! acqua9tance w\ld w>rant 8 s do+4 ,! "o ( highe/ rank %\ld be ! "o to intimate t he desires ! acqua9tance ( ! o!r2 if ! rank be equal1 x is a matt] ( incl9ation :i* calls fir/4 ,! rules ( etiquette1 ?\gh /r+5t z reg>ds acqua9tances1 h little or no application z reg>ds intimate fri5ds2 fri5d%ip ov]rules etiquette4 ,:5 a ba*elor has a numb] ( intimate fri5ds1 v little c>d-leav+ is requir$ f him z f> z !y are conc]n$4 ,leav+ ,c>ds aft] ,ent]ta9m5ts4--,9 ! ev5t ( a g5tleman receiv+ an invitation to an ent]ta9m5t f an acqua9tance1 or f a new acqua9tance1 or ?r\gh "s mutual fri5d1 he %\ld leave 8 c>ds at ! h\se )9 a week or t5 days aft] ! ent]ta9m5t1 "o = ! mi/ress & "o = ! ma/] ( ! h\se1 :e!r he has accept$ ! invitation or n4 ,betwe5 fri5ds ?is rule is greatly relax$4 ,x is usual = a g5tleman to leave 8 c>ds on ! ho/ or on ! ho/ess1 aft] e ent]ta9m5t to :i* he has be5 invit$ by !m1 :e!r x be a d9n]-p>ty1 or ball1 or at home1 etc4 ,:e!r he has be5 pres5t or n1 ! fact ( 8 hav+ be5 invit$ by !m obliges him to pay !m ?is civility1 al?\gh great latitude z reg>ds "t is n[ accord$ 9 g5]al society ) reg>d to ?is p>ticul> rule4 ,if invit$ by a new acqua9tance1 ! c>ds %\ld be left a few days aft] ! ent]ta9m5t1 b if by a less rec5t acqua9tance !y %\ld be left )9 t5 days or a =tnight1 b ! e>li] ! c>ds are left ! great] ! polit5ess %[n4 ,if a ba*elor acqua9tance gives an ent]ta9m5t1 ! same rule applies z to ! necessity ( c>ds be+ left on him by ^? g5tlem5 b slightly acqua9t$ ) him :o h be5 invit$ to ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,:5 a g5tleman has be5 invit$ to an ent]ta9m5t giv5 at ! h\se ( a new acqua9tance1 :e!r ! acqua9tance be a lady or a g5tleman1 x w\ld be etiquette = him to leave 8 c>d ^u !m on _! arrival 9 t[n or else:]e1 ev5 ?\gh !y may n h invit$ him to any subsequ5t ent]ta9m5t giv5 by !m )9 ! ye>4 ,if dur+ ! foll[+ ye> !y d n aga9 invite him1 he might consid] ! acqua9tance at an end & cease to call4 ,^! complim5t>y calls made1 or r c>ds left1 %\ld n av]age m ?an f\r dur+ ! ye>4 ,memorial ,c>ds are out ( date 9 society1 & consequ5tly %\ld n be s5t to ei!r relatives or fri5ds4 ,a wid[ %\ld n make use ( h] *ri/ian "n on h] visit+ c>ds to di/+ui% h] f o!r memb]s ( h] late husb&'s family4 ,h] c>ds %\ld be pr9t$ z dur+ 8 lifetime4 ,,footnotes3 #a ,x is1 h[ev]1 p]missible on ! occasion ( a fir/ call to say1 ,i %all leave my c>d 9 ! hall to rem9d y ( my address2 or "s su* phrase4 ,,*apt] ,,iv ,,pay+ ,,calls ,ladies /& ^u /rict & c]emoni\s etiquette ) ea* o!r z reg>ds bo? pay+ & receiv+ calls4 ,ignorance or neglect ( ! rules :i* regulate pay+ calls1 br+s _m inconv5i5ces 9 its tra92 = in/ance1 :5 a lady neglects to pay a call due to an acqua9tance1 %e runs ! risk ( h]self & daught]s be+ exclud$ f ent]ta9m5ts giv5 by ! said acqua9tance4 ,:5 a call has n be5 made )9 a reasonable "t1 a coldness is apt to arise betwe5 ladies b slightly acqua9t$ ) ea* o!r4 ,"s ladies take ?is omission good-natur$ly or indiff]5tly1 :ile ) o!rs ! acqua9tance m]ges into a m]e b[+ acqua9tance to be subsequ5tly dropp$ altoge!r4 ,! fir/ pr9ciple ( call+ is1 t ^? :o are ! fir/ to arrive 9 t[n %\ld be ! fir/ to call ^u _! acqua9tances to intimate _! return4 ,morn+ calls1 s designat$ on acc\nt ( _! be+ made be=e d9n]1 are1 m /rictly speak+1 aft]noon calls1 z !y %\ld only be made betwe5 ! h\rs ( ?ree & six o'clock4 ,calls made 9 ! morn+--t is be=e "o o'clock--w\ld n come "u ! d5om9ation ( morn+ calls1 z !y c only be made by intimate fri5ds & n by acqua9tances1 & are n1 !re=e1 am5able to ! rules ( etiquette :i* gov]n ! aft]noon calls1 :i* calls are regulat$ 9 a great measure--z to ! h\r ( call+--by ! exact degree ( intimacy exi/+ betwe5 ! p]son :o calls & ! p]son call$ ^u4 ,f ?ree to f\r o'clock is ! c]emoni\s h\r = call+2 f f\r to five o'clock is ! semi-c]emoni\s h\r2 & f five to six o'clock is ! :olly fri5dly & )\t c]emony h\r4 ,if a lady is driv+ :5 %e calls at ! h\se ( an acqua9tance1 %e %\ld say to h] s]vant1 ,ask if ,mrs4 ,a---- is at home4 ,:5 a lady is walk+1 %e %\ld ask ! same "q h]self4 ,:5 ! answ] is 9 ! negative1 %e %\ld leave "o ( h] own c>ds & "o ( h] husb&'s1 & %\ld say to ! s]vant1 ,= ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,a----4 ,:5 ! answ] is 9 ! affirmative1 ! lady %\ld ent] ! h\se )\t fur!r rem>k & foll[ ! s]vant to ! draw+-room4 ,! s]vant %\ld g be=e ! visitor1 to lead ! way to ! draw+-room1 &1 h[ev] accu/om$ a visitor may be to a h\se1 x is /ill ! prop] etiquette = ! s]vant to lead ! way1 & ann\nce him or h] to 8 mi/ress2 & ?is rule %\ld n be disp5s$ )1 except 9 ! case ( v ne> relations or v intimate fri5ds4 ,at ! draw+-room door ! s]vant waits = a mom5t until ! visitor has rea*$ ! l&+1 :5 ! visitor %\ld give 8 or h] "n to ! s]vant1 ,mr4 ,a---- or ,mrs4 ,a----1 %\ld ! s]vant be unacqua9t$ ) x4 ,if ! visitor call+ be>s ! title ( ,hon\rable x %\ld n be m5tion$ by him or h] to ! s]vant :5 giv+ ! "n1 nei!r %\ld x be m5tion$ by ! s]vant :5 ann\nc+ ! visitor4 ,all titles are giv5 9 full by ! s]vants ( ^? :o be> !m1 ?us3 ,! ,duke & ,du*ess ( ,a----1 ,! ,m>quis & ,m>*ioness ( ,b----1 ,! ,e>l & ,c\ntess ( ,c----1 ,visc\nt & ,visc\ntess ,d----1 ,"l & ,lady ,e----1 etc42 b a m>*ioness1 a c\ntess1 or a visc\ntess :5 giv+ h] "n to be ann\nc$ at a morn+ call w\ld /yle h]self ,lady ,a---- only4 ,a g5tleman or lady %\ld nev] give 8 or h] visit+ c>d to ! s]vant :5 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se is at home4 ,a s]vant %\ld n knock at ! draw+-room door :5 ann\nc+ visitors4 ,! s]vant1 on op5+ ! draw+-room door1 %\ld /& inside ! doorway1 he %\ld n /& beh9d ! door1 b well into ! room2 fac+ ! mi/ress ( ! h\se if possible1 & %\ld say1 ,mr4 ,a----1 or ,mrs4 ,a----4 ,:5 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se is n 9 ! draw+-room :5 a visitor arrives1 ! visitor %\ld seat h]self & rise at h] entrance4 ,visitors %\ld n make any inquiries ( ! s]vant z to h[ long 8 mi/ress w be1 or :]e %e is1 or :at %e is do+1 etc4 ,visitors are n expect$ to conv]se ) ! s]vants ( _! acqua9tances1 & %\ld n ent] into conv]sation ) !m4 ,=m]ly a g5tleman :5 call+1 took 8 hat & /ick 9 8 h& ) him into ! draw+-room1 & held !m until he _h se5 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se & %ak5 h&s ) h]4 ,he ei!r plac$ !m on a *air or table ne> at h& or held !m 9 8 h&1 accord+ z to :e!r he felt at ease or ! rev]se1 until he took 8 leave4 ,_m middle-ag$ & eld]ly m5 /ill foll[ ?is fa%ion 9 a degree1 & take _! hats & /icks into ! draw+-room :5 mak+ =mal calls4 ,! new] fa%ion among/ y\ng] m5 is to leave _! hats & /icks 9 ! hall & n to take !m into ! draw+-room ) !m :5 call+4 ,to d ?is is n[ v g5]al1 z hats are 9 ! way if tea is go+ on2 besides1 m5 7 apt to =get :]e !y plac$ _! hats1 & frequ5tly _h to return to ! draw+-room 9 se>* ( !m4 ,at at homes1 small aft]noon teas1 lun*eons1 d9n]s1 etc41 ! rule is ! same1 & hats are left 9 ! hall by invit$ gue/s4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n take 8 /ick or umbrella ) him into ! draw+-room1 b leave x 9 ! hall4 ,:5 g5tlem5 we> gloves1 !y c take !m (f or keep !m on z !y please1 x is immat]ial :i* !y d1 b :5 a call is made :5 tea is go+ on1 x is m usual to take !m (f4 ,:5 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se is 9 ! draw+-room :5 a visitor is ann\nc$--& %e %\ld s arrange h] occupations z always to be f\nd !re on ! aft]noons :5 %e int5ds be+ at home %\ld visitors call--%e %\ld rise1 come =w>d1 & %ake h&s ) h] visitor4 ,%e %\ld n ask h] visitor to be seat$1 or to take a seat1 b %e might say1 ,:]e w y sit8 or1 ,w y sit "h8 or some?+ to ?is effect2 & %\ld at once sit d[n & expect h] visitor to d ! same1 z ne> to h]self z possible4 ,bo? ho/ess & visitor %\ld gu>d aga9/ display+ a fussy demean\r dur+ a morn+ call1 z a morn+ call is (t5] ?an n a tete-a-tete1 & a tete-a-tete betwe5 two p]sons b slightly acqua9t$ ) ea* o!r requires a consid]able am\nt ( tact & savoir vivre to be su/a9$ ) ease & self-possession4 ,a fussy woman is )\t repose1 )\t dignity1 & )\t savoir vivre4 ,a ho/ess betrays t %e is n mu* accu/om$ to society :5 %e attempts to amuse h] visitor by ! production ( albums1 photographs1 books1 illu/rat$ newspap]s1 portfolios ( draw+s1 ! arti/ic ef=ts ( ! memb]s ( ! family1 & ! l2 conv]sation be+ all t is necess>y1 )\t hav+ rec\rse to pictorial displays4 ,if n intimate en\gh to ref] to family matt]s1 ! conv]sation %\ld turn on light topics ( ! h\r4#b ,p unus$ to society are apt to fall back ^u ! above adv5titi\s aids4 ,a ho/ess %\ld rely solely ^u h] own p[]s ( conv]sation to make ! %ort qu>t] ( an h\r--:i* is ! limit ( a c]emoni\s call--pass pleasantly to h] visitor4 ,! ho/ess %\ld n (f] h] visitor any refre%m5ts1 w9e & cake1 = in/ance4 ,no refre%m5ts :atev]1 save tea1 %\ld be (f]$ to morn+ visitors2 !y are n suppos$ to require !m4 ,9 ! c\ntry x is cu/om>y to (f] %]ry to g5tlem5 call]s1 & to ord] tea = ! ladies1 ev5 ?\gh ! call is made r e>ly 9 ! aft]noon1 & a little be=e ! h\r = hav+ tea4 ,c]emoni\s visits are usually paid be=e ! h\r ( half-pa/ f\r2 b if tea is br\ght 9 :ile ! visitor is 9 ! draw+-room1 or if ! visitor calls :ile ! ho/ess is hav+ tea1 %e %\ld naturally (f] h] visitor tea4 ,:5 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se only expects a few call]s1 tea is plac$ on a small table--a silv] tray be+ g5]ally us$ = ! purpose4 ,! ho/ess %\ld p\r out ! tea h]self2 :5 a g5tleman is pres5t1 he %\ld h& ! cups to ! visitors or visitor1 o!rwise ! ho/ess %\ld h]self d s1 & !n h& ! sug> & cream1 )\t ask+ :e!r h] visitors w h ei!r1 unless %e is prep>+ ! cups ( tea h]self1 9 :i* case %e %\ld ask ! "q4 ,:5 a second visitor arrives1 t5 or fifte5 m9utes aft] ! fir/ visitor1 ! fir/ visitor %\ld take h] leave z soon z %e conv5i5tly c4 ,:5 ! second visitor is a lady1 ! ho/ess %\ld rise & %ake h&s ) h]1 & !n seat h]self2 ! fir/ visitor1 if a lady1 %\ld n rise2 if a g5tleman1 he %\ld d s4 ,a ho/ess %\ld also rise & come =w>d :5 a g5tleman is ann\nc$2 ?is gives h] an opportunity ( talk+ to him = a few mom5ts on 8 fir/ ent]+ ! room4 ,! second visitor %\ld at once seat him or h]self ne> to ! ho/ess4 ,%e %\ld introduce ! call]s to ea* o!r unless %e has "s especial reason = n do+ s4 ,%e c\ld1 h[ev]1 9 ! c\rse ( conv]sation m]ely m5tion ! "n ( ea* call]1 s t ea* may become aw>e ( ! "n ( ! o!r4 ,?is is n[ (t5 done :5 =mal introductions are n made4 ,if ! ho/ess possesses tact1 & a facility & read9ess ( spee*1 %e %\ld skilfully draw bo? call]s into ! conv]sation 7a subject :i* is fully enl>g$ ^u 9 ,! ,art ( ,conv]s+74 ,! ho/ess %\ld n take ?is latt] c\rse unless aw>e t ! two visitors w\ld be likely to appreciate ea* o!r4 ,:5 "o visitor arrives imm$iately aft] ! o!r1 ! ho/ess %\ld conv]se equally ) bo? visitors1 & ! lady :o 0 ! fir/ to arrive %\ld be ! fir/ to leave1 aft] a call ( f t5 to fifte5 m9utes4 ,:5 only "o visitor is pres5t ! ho/ess %\ld accompany h] to ! door ( ! draw+-room1 & l+] = a few mom5ts1 :il/ ! visitor is desc5d+ ! /airs4 ,to d s w\ld n be imp]ative1 b x w\ld be c\rte\s4 ,:5 ! ho/ is pres5t he %\ld accompany ! lady d[n/airs into ! hall2 ?is also is an optional civility1 & greatly dep5ds ^u ! e/imation 9 :i* ! lady is held by ho/ & ho/ess4 ,:5 two visitors are pres5t ! ho/ess %\ld rise & %ake h&s ) ! dep>t+ visitor2 b unless a p]son ( great] consid]ation ?an ! visitor :o /ill rema9$ seat$1 %e %\ld n accompany h] to ! draw+-room door4 ,"o visitor %\ld n rise f h] seat :5 ano!r is ab\t to take h] leave4 ,:5 visitors are acqua9t$ ) ea* o!r !y %\ld rise & %ake h&s4 ,:5 "o ( ! visitors is a g5tleman he %\ld rise1 ev5 if unacqua9t$ ) ! lady :o is ab\t to take h] leave2 he %\ld n rema9 seat$ :5 ! ho/ess is /&+4 ,:5 two visitors1 ei!r two ladies or two g5tlem51 h slightly conv]s$ ) ea* o!r dur+ a morn+ call1 !y %\ld n %ake h&s ) ea* o!r on leav+1 b %\ld m]ely b[4 ,:5 !y h n spok5 to ea* o!r1 !y %\ld n b[4 ,:5 !y h be5 =mally introduc$ !y %\ld /ill only b[1 unless ! acqua9tance has progress$ into sudd5 intimacy ?r\gh previ\s k ( ea* o!r4 ,:5 "o ( ! visitors pres5t is a g5tleman he %\ld op5 ! draw+-room door = ! dep>t+ visitor1 b he %\ld n accompany h] d[n/airs unless reque/$ by ! ho/ess to d s2 ! visitor %\ld b[ to him & ?ank him1 b n %ake h&s ) him4 ,:5 ! ho/ess has %ak5 h&s ) a gue/1 & be=e cross+ ! room ) h]1 %e %\ld r+ ! draw+-room bell1 t ! s]vant may be 9 read9ess 9 ! hall to op5 ! door4 ,%e %\ld r+ ! bell ev5 if ! ho/ 7 accompany+ ! lady d[n/airs4 ,x w\ld be ?\ghtless on ! "p ( ! ho/ess to =get to r+ ! bell to give notice to ! s]vant t a visitor 0 leav+4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 ! call] be=e ris+ to dep>t sometimes asks if %e may r+ = h] motor-c> to come r\nd4 ,:5 ! ho/ess is 9 rea* ( ! bell1 %e %\ld r+ x = h]2 :5 a g5tleman is pres5t1 he %\ld d s4 ,on ! s]vant's entrance1 ! call] %\ld say1 ,my motor-c>1 please6 ,:5 a lady is call+ on a fri5d1 ! gue/ ( "s "o ) :om %e h]self is unacqua9t$1 or ev5 b slightly acqua9t$1 %e %\ld 9 bo? cases ask if h] fri5d is at home1 & n if ! mi/ress ( ! h\se is at home2 & hav+ paid h] visit1 on leav+ ! h\se %e %\ld leave c>ds = its mi/ress if %e is slightly acqua9t$ ) h]1 b %\ld n d s if %e is unacqua9t$ ) h]4 ,:5 a lady has a gue/ /ay+ on a visit to h]1 if conv5i5t1 %e %\ld1 :5 h] gue/ expect$ visitors1 abs5t h]self f ! draw+-room at t p>ticul> "t1 unless ! expect$ visitors are mutual fri5ds ( h]self & gue/4 ,if %e is 9 ! draw+-room ) h] gue/s :5 a visitor is ann\nc$ s z to r5d] an introduction inevitable1 a =mal introduction %\ld be made1 b ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 aft] a v few m9utes1 %\ld make "s excuse1 quietly leave ! room1 & n return until aft] ! dep>ture ( ! visitor4 ,x w\ld be inconsid]ate 7 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se to rema9 9 ! draw+-room :ile calls 7 paid to h] gue/ by /rang]s to h]self unless at h] gue/'s p>ticul> reque/4 ,:5 a visitor is a g5tleman1 & ! gue/ a "y unm>ri$ lady1 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se %\ld rema9 9 ! draw+-room to *ap]on h]4 ,:5 ! mi/ress ( ! h\se is desir\s ( mak+ ! acqua9tance ( any p>ticul> fri5d ( h] gue/1 f :om %e expect$ a visit1 :5 ! visit occurs & previ\s to ! visitor tak+ h] leave1 ! gue/ %\ld ask if %e w all[ h] to introduce h] to ! lady ) :om %e is /ay+4 ,if h] visitor desires ! introduction1 %e %\ld !n r+ & reque/ ! s]vant to tell 8 mi/ress t ,mrs4 ,a4 is 9 ! draw+-room1 :i* message ! ho/ess w\ld und]/& to mean t h] pres5ce is desir$1 & ! introduction w\ld !n be made on h] appe>+4 ,an introduction1 if made 9 ?is mann]1 c\ld become ! basis ( a future acqua9tance1 bo? ladies hav+ _h ! option ( refus+ ! acqua9tance ( ! o!r if s dispos$2 :]eas a =c$ introduction :]e no option is giv5 w\ld h>dly c\nt z ! basis ( a future acqua9tance unless ! ladies ?us introduc$ mutually appreciat$ ea* o!r4 ,9 ! c\ntry a gue/ seldom has fri5ds & acqua9tances 9 ! neighb\rhood1 :o are unkn[n to h] ho/ess2 if o!rwise1 ! ho/ess %\ld give h] gue/ ! opportunity ( see+ h] visitor by leav+ !m toge!r :5 ! call is made4 ,:5 a gue/ is pres5t :5 ! mi/ress ( a h\se is receiv+ call]s1 %e %\ld introduce !m to h] gue/ or h] gue/ to !m1 accord+ to ! rank ( ei!r 7see ,*apt] ,,ii474 ,:5 a lady is driv+ ) a fri5d :o is a /rang] to ! acqua9tance on :om %e is call+1 %e %\ld n take h] into ! h\se ) h] :ile %e makes h] call1 unless %e is a "y lady1 or unless !re is "s especial reason = introduc+ ! two ladies to ea* o!r1 or unless bo? ladies h express$ a wi% to become acqua9t$ ) ea* o!r4 ,husb&s & wives occasionally pay calls toge!r1 b (t5] !y d n4 ,a lady1 z a rule1 pays a call by h]self1 unless %e has a gr[n-up daught]1 :5 %e %\ld accompany h] "m4 ,occasionally two ladies1 bo? intimate ) ! lady ( ! h\se1 pay _! calls toge!r4 ,a family p>ty1 ( fa!r & "m & daught]1 or daught]s1 r>ely call 9 t[n toge!r1 save "u v exceptional circum/ances2 b 9 ! c\ntry a family p>ty ( ?ree or f\r w\ld1 z a matt] ( c\rse1 call toge!r2 x is c\ntry etiquette to d s4 ,a consid]able diff]5ce exi/s ) reg>d to ,sunday calls1 or call+ on ,sundays4 ,ladies %\ld n pay c]emoni\s calls on ,sundays2 x w\ld n be etiquette = an acqua9tance to call on a ,sunday1 x w\ld r be consid]$ a lib]ty1 unless %e 7 expressly ask$ to d s4 ,intimate fri5ds1 on ! contr>y1 (t5 make ,sunday a special day = call+1 & !re=e1 ladies & g5tlem5--m especially g5tlem5--ext5d _! call+ h\rs f ?ree until six o'clock on ,sundays4 ,:5 a lady is acqua9t$ ) ! daught]s ( a family only1 & n ) _! fa!r or "m1 %e %\ld call on ! daught]s1 :o %\ld at once introduce h] to _! "m on ! next occasion ( call+4 ,if ! "m is n pres5t1 ! lady call+ %\ld leave c>ds = h]2 & at all morn+ calls1 :5 ! daught]s ( ! h\se receive a c]emoni\s visit f an acqua9tance1 9 ! abs5ce ( _! "m1 :e!r f indisposition or any o!r cause1 c>ds %\ld be left = h] 9 ! hall be=e leav+ by ! lady call+ 7see ,*apt] ,,iii474 ,9 all cases1 :5 morn+ calls are made1 & ! lady call$ on is n at home1 c>ds %\ld be left accord+ to ! etiquette describ$ 9 ,*apt] ,,ii41 an etiquette :i* %\ld be /rictly obs]v$2 :5 ! lady call$ on is at home1 c>ds %\ld be left = ! g5tlem5 ( ! family1 accord+ to ! same rules ( c>d-leav+1 :i* _c be too punctili\sly foll[$4 ,a mi/ress ( a h\se %\ld in=m h] s]vant aft] or be=e lun*eon1 or be=e ! h\rs = call+1 :e!r %e int5ds to be at home to visitors or n dur+ ! aft]noon4 ,n at home is ! und]/ood =mula expressive ( n wi%+ to see visitors4 ,n at home is n int5d$ to imply an untru?1 b r to signify t = "s reason1 or reasons1 x is n desirable to see visitors2 & z x w\ld be impossible to expla9 to acqua9tances ! :y & ! :]e=e ( its be+ inconv5i5t to receive visitors1 ! =mula ( ,n at home is all-suffici5t explanation1 provid$ always t a s]vant is able to give a direct answ] at once ( ,n at home :5 ! qu]y is put to him4 ,if a s]vant is n sure z to :e!r 8 mi/ress wi%es to see visitors or n1 x is almo/ a direct (f5ce to ! lady call+ if he hesitates z to 8 answ]1 & leaves h] ei!r sitt+ 9 h] c>riage or /&+ 9 ! hall1 :ile ,he w see if 8 mi/ress is 'at home1' p]haps return+ ) ! unsatisfactory answ] t %e is ,n at home2 9 :i* case ! intimation is almo/ receiv$ z a p]sonal exclusion r ?an z a g5]al exclusion ( visitors4 ,if a lady is dress+ to g out :5 a visitor calls1 ! s]vant c m5tion t fact to a visitor call+1 & (f] to asc]ta9 if 8 mi/ress w see ! call]2 & ! call] %\ld use h] own discretion z to :e!r %e w all[ him to d s or n2 b unless ! visit is "o ( importance1 x w\ld be be/ 9 su* a case only to leave c>ds4 ,:5 a second visitor calls1 a s]vant %\ld n be p]mitt$ to say t 8 mi/ress is engag$ ) a lady1 or ) a g5tleman1 b %\ld u%] ! second call] into ! draw+-room1 z he has previ\sly done ! fir/ call]4 ,he %\ld n inquire z to :e!r 8 mi/ress w see ! second call] or n4 ,nei!r %\ld he in=m ! second call] z to :e!r any "o is or is n ) 8 mi/ress1 z ignorant s]vants are too apt to d4 ,x is n usual to (f] c(fee at aft]noon tea2 tea only is giv54 ,to (f] c(fee is a =eign fa%ion1 & n an ,engli% "o4 ,morn+ call]s %\ld n be conduct$ to ! d9+-room to h tea2 & tea is only s]v$ 9 ! d9+-room on ! occasion ( a l>ge aft]noon tea1 or aft]noon at home1 etc4 7,see *apt] on ,aft]noon ',at ,homes1' p4 #aea47 ,! tea h\r v>ies f #d to #d4cj o'clock4 ,:5 call]s are pres5t at #d o'clock1 tea %\ld be br\ght 9 at t h\r4 ,x %\ld be plac$ ^u a small table1 :i* is fir/ cov]$ ) a :ite l95 or damask tea-clo?4 ,! tea-tray %\ld be l>ge en\gh to hold1 9 addition to ! *9a1 silv] teapot1 etc41 an urn = hot wat]1 :i* %\ld be br\ght 9 & plac$ ^u x4 ,a /& conta9+ hot cakes1 an uncut cake1 small cakes1 t9y s&wi*es1 & ?9 bread-&-butt] %\ld be plac$ ne> to ! tea-table4 ,t9y tea-plates %\ld be plac$ 9 a pile ^u ! tea-tray1 !y be+ 9 g5]al use4 ,! ho/ess or h] daught] %\ld p\r out ! tea4 ,ap>t f ! =ego+ /yle ( aft]noon tea is ! new] fa%ion ( :at might be t]m$ a r\nd-table tea1 at :i* ho/ess & gue/s sit1 b ?is /yle is m usual at c\ntry h\ses ?an 9 t[n h\ses at pres5t1 on acc\nt ( ! space requir$1 if = no o!r reason4 ,! tea is s]v$ 9 a small] draw+-room1 ^u a l>ge r\nd or oval table1 :i* is cov]$ ) a :ite table-clo?1 ^u :i* ! tea-tray ) all its cont5ts is plac$4 ,cakes1 hot & cold1 s&wi*es1 pa/ry1 fruit1 jam1 bread-&-butt]1 biscuits1 dry toa/1 etc41 are giv51 & ! visitors seat$ at ! table help !mselves to :at !y require4 ,! ho/ess p\rs out ! tea & h&s ! cups z :5 gue/s are n seat$ 9 ?is way4 ,dess]t plates & dess]t knives & =ks %\ld be plac$ on ! table beside ! small tea-plates1 to be tak5 z requir$4 ,,footnotes3 #b ,see "w entitl$ ,! ,art ( ,conv]s+4 ,,*apt] ,v ,,prec$5cy ,! ord] ( prec$5cy due to ea* individual accord+ to rank is a matt] ( great importance at (ficial banquets & at c]emoni\s d9n]-p>ties1 :5 its correct obs]vance %\ld be /rictly adh]$ to4 ,z reg>ds ,prec$5cy among/ ,royal ,p]sonages1 ! ,sov]eign takes prec$5ce ( all o!rs 9 ! realm2 ! ,k+ takes prec$5ce ( ,que5 ,m>y4 ,! ,pr9ce ( ,wales takes prec$5ce ( ! ,duke ( ,connaught4 ,que5 ,alex&ra takes prec$5ce ( ! ,royal ,pr9cesses4 ,! ,royal ,pr9cesses take prec$5ce ( _! husb&s1 ,pr9ce ,*ri/ian & ! ,duke ( ,argyll4 ,! ,prec$5cy accord$ to ,=eign ,royal ,p]sonages 9 ?is c\ntry v mu* dep5ds ^u _! individual rank4 ,imp]ial ,highnesses & ,royal ,highnesses take prec$5ce ( ,s]5e ,highnesses4 ,! ,prec$5cy accord$ to ,ea/]n ,pr9ces is g5]ally synonym\s ) t accord$ to ,s]5e ,highnesses2 b 9 "s in/ances ! claims ( individual prec$5cy are s difficult to def9e1 t 9 (ficial cases x is sometimes necess>y to make a special rule z to ! am\nt ( prec$5cy to be all[$4 ,z reg>ds ,g5]al ,prec$5cy1 ar*bi%ops1 ambassadors1 ,! ,"l ,high ,*ancellor1 ,! ,prime ,m9i/]1 ,"l ,*ancellor ( ,irel&1 ,"l ,presid5t ( ! ,c\ncil1 & ,"l ,privy ,seal1 take prec$5ce ( dukes2 dukes take prec$5ce ( e>ls1 & s on ?r\gh\t ! v>i\s degrees ( nobility4 ,=eign ,m9i/]s & ,envoys take prec$5ce next aft] dukes1 9 ! ord] ( _! s5iority ( s]vice 9 ,engl&4 ,9 all cases :]e prec$5cy is to be e/abli%$ betwe5 p]sons ( equal rank x is necess>y to ref] to a ,pe]age = date ( creation ( title1 z ?is actually decides all prec$5cy4 ,= ,prec$5cy due to ,b>onets & _! wives a ,b>onetage %\ld be consult$4 ,= ,prec$5cy due to ,knights & _! wives a ,knightage %\ld be consult$ 9 ref]5ce to ea* ord] ( knigh?ood4 ,= ! ,prec$5cy due to ! ,legal ,pr(ession a ,law ,li/ %\ld be consult$ :5 x is n def9$ by (fice or bir?4 ,= ! ,prec$5cy due to ! ,cl]gy a ,cl]gy ,li/ %\ld be consult$ :5 sup]ior pref]m5t or bir? does n def9e x4 ,= ! ,prec$5cy due to ,(fic]s 9 ! army & navy an ,army ,li/ & a ,navy ,li/ %\ld be consult$ to det]m9e ! prec$5cy due to ea* 9 ! sep>ate ,s]vices4 ,(fic]s %\ld be s5t 9 to ,d9n] accord+ to ! dates ( commission1 b no bran* ( ! ,army takes prec$5ce ov] ! o!r z reg>ds rank ( (fic]s2 t is to say1 a colonel ( #aija1 ( say1 a ,we/ ,india regim5t1 w\ld prec$e a colonel ( ,gu>ds1 artill]y or cavalry ( #aijb promotion4 ,drawn up on a brigade p>ade1 ! cavalry take ! "r ( ! l9e2 ?us3 ,artill]y1 ,royal ,eng9e]s1 foot gu>ds & regul> regim5ts1 regim5ts & ,we/ ,india regim5ts1 9 ! ord] nam$ 9 ! ,army ,li/4 ,z reg>ds ,prec$5cy betwe5 ,(fic]s ( ! comb9$ ,s]vices a table ( ,relative ,rank & ,prec$5cy 9 ! ,army & ,navy %\ld be consult$1 z a capta9 9 ! navy aft] ?ree ye>s' s]vice ranks ) a colonel 9 ! army1 a lieut5ant ( ! navy ( eight ye>s' /&+ ranks ) a major 9 ! army1 & a lieut5ant "u t /&+ 9 ! navy1 ranks ) a capta9 9 ! army1 etc4 ,consulate (fic]s also take prec$5ce accord+ to s5iority ( s]vice 9 ,engl& & date ( (ficial arrival4 ,! ,=eign ,(fice ,li/ ( ! curr5t ye> %\ld be consult$ = date 9 ea* in/ance4 ,z reg>ds ! ,prec$5ce due to ,wid[s be>+ titles :o h m>ri$ aga93 ,! wid[ ( a pe] m>ri$ to a common] reta9s h] title by c\rtesy1 & ! prec$5cy due to ! title is accord$ to h]4 ,:5 ! ,wid[ ( a ,duke m>ries a p]son ( l[] rank ?an t ( h] late husb&1 %e /ill reta9s h] prec$5cy4 ,! ,daught] ( a ,pe] if m>ri$ to a b>onet or a common] reta9s h] prec$5cy1 b if m>ri$ to a b>on h] prec$5cy is m]g$ 9 t ( h] husb&4 ,! ,wid[ ( a ,b>onet m>ri$ to a common] reta9s h] title by "r & n by c\rtesy4 ,! ,wid[ ( a ,knight m>ri$ to a common] reta9s h] title by c\rtesy only1 b ! prec$5cy due to ! wid[ ( a knight is accord$ to h]4 ,:5 ! ,daught] ( a ,duke m>ries a pe] %e takes ! prec$5cy due to ! rank ( h] husb&2 if %e m>ries a common]1 prec$5cy is accord$ to h] due to ! daught] ( a duke4 ,age conf]s no ,prec$5cy on ei!r sex4 ,equals 9 rank f ! highe/ to ! l[e/ take prec$5ce accord+ to ! creation ( _! title & n z reg>ds ! age ( ! p]son be>+ ! title4 ,z1 = in/ance1 a y\?ful duke w\ld take prec$5ce ( an ag$ duke1 if ! title ( ! y\?ful duke bore an e>li] date ?an t ( ! ag$ duke4 ,! same rule applies equally to b>onets & knights4 ,:5 two e>ls are pres5t at a d9n]-p>ty1 ! date ( _! respective pat5ts ( nobility decides ! ord] ( prec$5cy due to !m4 ,a ho/ or ho/ess %\ld always consult a ,pe]age or a ,b>onetage if 9 d\bt z to ! prec$5ce due to expect$ gue/s be>+ titles2 weal? or social position are n tak5 into acc\nt 9 ?is matt]1 x be+ /rictly a "q ( date4 ,! ,prec$5ce due to ,ladies ( ,equal ,rank takes effect 9 ! same mann]4 ,?us1 a "y wife ( a b>onet takes prec$5ce ov] ! eld]ly wife ( a b>onet if ! creation ( h] husb&'s title be>s an e>li] date4 ,:5 ! ,claims to ,prec$5cy ( ,p]sons ( ,equal ,rank cla%1 ! claims ( a g5tleman %\ld be waiv$ 9 fav\r ( ^? ( a lady1 %\ld ! p]sons be ( opposite sexes4 ,?us1 if two c\ples ( sup]ior rank to ! o!r gue/s 7 pres5t at a d9n]-p>ty1 ! ho/ %\ld take d[n ! lady ( highe/ rank1 & ! ho/ess %\ld be tak5 d[n by ! g5tleman ( highe/ rank1 9 :i* case ! lady second 9 rank %\ld g 9 to d9n] be=e h] husb&1 al?\gh ! g5tleman tak+ h] d[n to d9n] 7 ( l[] rank ?an h] husb&4 ,esquires1 & ! ,wives ( ,esquires1 take prec$5ce accord+ to _! social position4 ,memb]s ( ,p>liam5t h no prec$5ce1 ?\gh x is (t5 accord$ to !m z a matt] ( c\rtesy1 especially 9 ! c\nty :i* !y repres5t2 ! wives ( memb]s ( ,p>liam5t are likewise entitl$ to no prec$5ce on ! gr\nd ( _! husb&s be+ memb]s ( ,p>liam5t4 ,! ,high ,%]iff ( a ,c\nty takes prec$5ce ov] all o!r g5tlem5 9 ! c\nty1 ( :atev] rank1 save ! "l-lieut5ant1 accord+ to ! ,royal w>rant issu$ by ,8 late ,maje/y ,k+ ,edw>d1 giv+ prec$5ce to "l-lieut5ants ( c\nties be=e high %]iffs4 ,! ,high ,%]iff out ( 8 p>ticul> c\nty has no prec$5ce1 nei!r has a "l-lieut5ant2 & ! wives ( ei!r lords-lieut5ants or high %]iffs take no prec$5ce on acc\nt ( _! husb&s' (ficial dignity4 ,an ,assize ,judge takes prec$5ce ov] ! high %]iff z ! assize judge repres5ts ! ,sov]eign ( ! ,realm4 ,cl]gym51 ,b>ri/]s-at-,law1 (fic]s 9 ! army & navy take prec$5ce ov] esquires on acc\nt ( su* rank2 & 9 ea* pr(ession prec$5ce %\ld be accord$ !m accord+ to dignity1 date ( ord9ation1 date ( call1 & date ( commission 9 _! sev]al pr(essions1 assum+ t ! rank is equal4 ,high ,cl]ical & ,legal ,dignit>ies take special prec$5ce2 = in/ance1 ! ,ar*bi%op ( ,cant]bury takes prec$5ce ( all dukes1 & ! ,"l ,*ancellor takes prec$5ce ( ! ,ar*bi%op ( ,york1 :o also takes prec$5ce ( dukes2 bi%ops take prec$5ce ( all b>ons1 :atev] _! date ( creation4 ,! ,"l ,*ief ,ju/ice1 ! ,ma/] ( ! ,rolls1 :5 n pe]s1 & all judges ( ! ,high ,c\rt ( ,ju/ice 9 _! v>i\s divisions1 take prec$5ce aft] ,privy ,c\ncillors & be=e b>onets & all knights1 save ! ,knights ( ! ,g>t]4 ,! ,relative ,rank betwe5 ,(fic]s ( ! ,army & ,navy & doctors ( div9ity is some:at difficult to det]m9e z reg>ds ! prec$5ce to be giv5 !m at a d9n]-p>ty4 ,dod places esquires by (fice1 :i*1 ( c\rse1 includes all (fic]s ( ! army & navy1 next be=e ! y\ng] sons ( knights & be=e doctors 9 div9ity1 :o foll[ next 9 ord]2 :ile ,lodge places (fic]s ( ! navy & army aft] ! y\ng] sons ( knights ba*elor1 cl]gym51 & b>ri/]s-at-law4 ,prec$5cy at ,d9n]-,p>ties4--,:5 royalty is pres5t at a d9n]-p>ty1 a pr9ce ( blood royal takes prec$5ce ( a pr9cess1 & leads ! way ) ! ho/ess1 ! ho/ foll[+ next ) ! pr9cess4 ,on ! o!r h&1 a pr9cess ( ! blood royal takes prec$5ce ( a =eign pr9ce--h] husb&--& leads ! way ) ! ho/4 ,! ,ho/ %\ld take d[n ! ,lady ( ,highe/ ,rank1 & lead ! way ) h] to ! d9+-room4 ,! gue/s %\ld foll[ ! ho/ 9 c\ples accord+ to ! degree ( prec$5ce due to !m1 & ! ho/ess %\ld foll[ ! la/ c\ple ) ! g5tleman ( highe/ rank pres5t4 ,:5 a ,great] ,numb] ( ,g5tlem5 ?an ladies are pres5t at a d9n]-p>ty1 z is (t5 ! case1 ^! g5tlem5 %\ld foll[ ! ho/ess to ! d9+-room & n prec$e h]4 ,:5 a ,wid[ or ,maid5 ,lady is ,ho/ess1 & !re is no g5tleman ( ! family pres5t to act z ho/1 ! g5tleman second 9 rank %\ld take d[n ! lady ( highe/ rank1 lead+ ! way ) h] to ! d9+-room1 ! ho/ess foll[+ la/1 ) ! g5tleman ( highe/ rank4 ,9 ! ,case ( ei!r a ,husb&'s ,si/] or a wife's si/] be+ requir$ to act z ho/ess1 prec$5ce %\ld be giv5 to ! wife's si/]4 ,an ,elde/ ,son's ,wife %\ld take prec$5ce ( h] husb&'s si/]s 9 8 fa!r's h\se4 ,z reg>ds ! prec$5ce due to ! relatives ( a ho/ or ho/ess1 x %\ld give way 9 fav\r ( t due to ! gue/s n relat$ to ! ho/ or ho/ess1 al?\gh _! relatives might be1 p]haps1 ( high] rank ?an ! gue/s !mselves4 ,occasionally1 ! elde/ son ( ! h\se acts z second ho/1 tak+ d[n a lady second or ?ird 9 rank2 b ! daught]s ( ! h\se %\ld always be tak5 d[n to d9n] aft] ! o!r ladies pres5t1 & 9 no case be=e !m4 ,no prec$5ce is accord$ to ei!r a lady or a g5tleman by virtue ( a "m's rank4 ,no prec$5ce is accord$ to brides 9 society1 ?\gh occasionally 9 ! c\ntry old-fa%ion$ p consid] x due to a bride to s5d h] 9 to d9n] ) ! ho/ on ! occasion ( h] fir/ d9+ at a h\se )9 ?ree mon?s ( h] m>riage4 ,table ( ,g5]al ,prec$5cy ,,g5tlem5 ,! ,k+4 ,! ,pr9ce ( ,wales4 ,! ,sov]eign's y\ng] sons4 ,! ,sov]eign's gr&sons4 ,! ,sov]eign's bro!rs4 ,! ,sov]eign's uncles4 ,! ,sov]eign's nephews4 ,ambassadors4 ,ar*bi%op ( ,cant]bury4 ,"l ,high ,*ancellor4 ,ar*bi%op ( ,york4 ,! ,prime ,m9i/]4 ,"l ,*ancellor ( ,irel&4 ,"l ,presid5t ( ! ,c\ncil4 ,"l ,privy ,seal4 ,dukes :o may happ5 to hold ei!r ( ^! five (fices-- #a4 ,"l ,great ,*amb]la94 #b4 ,e>l ,m>%al4 #c4 ,"l ,/ew>d4 #d4 ,"l ,*amb]la94 #e4 ,ma/] ( ! ,horse4 ,dukes 9 ord] ( _! pat5ts ( creation-- #a4 ,dukes ( ,engl&4 #b4 ,scotl&4 #c4 ,dukes ( ,great ,brita94 #d4 ,irel& creat$ be=e ! ,union4 #e4 ,dukes creat$ s9ce ! ,union4 ,elde/ sons ( ,dukes ( ,blood ,royal4 ,m>quesses :o may hold ei!r ( ! ,(fices ( ,/ate nam$ above4 ,m>quesses 9 same ord] z ,dukes4 ,dukes' elde/ sons4 ,e>ls hold+ ei!r ( ! five ,(fices ( ,/ate4 ,e>ls 9 same ord] z ,dukes4 ,y\ng] sons ( ,dukes ( ,blood ,royal4 ,m>quesses' elde/ sons4 ,dukes' y\ng] sons4 ,visc\nts :o may hold ei!r ( ! five ,(fices ( ,/ate4 ,visc\nts 9 same ord] z ,dukes4 ,e>ls' elde/ sons4 ,m>quesses' y\ng] sons4 ,bi%op ( ,london4 ,durham4 ,w9*e/]4 ,o!r ,engli% ,bi%ops 9 ord] ( _! consecration4 ,mod]ator ( ! ,*ur* ( ,scotl&4 ,b>ons hold+ ei!r ( ! five ,(fices ( ,/ate4 ,b>ons :o may be ,secret>ies ( ,/ate or ,iri% ,secret>y4 ,b>ons 9 same ord] z ,dukes4 ,! ,speak] ( ! ,h\se ( ,commons4 ,treasur] ( ! ,h\sehold4 ,comptroll] ( ! ,h\sehold4 ,vice-,*amb]la9 ( ! ,h\sehold4 ,secret>ies ( ,/ate bel[ ! rank ( ,b>ons4 ,visc\nts' elde/ sons4 ,e>ls' y\ng] sons4 ,b>ons' elde/ sons4 ,common]s :o are ,knights ( ! ,g>t]4 ,privy ,c\ncillors ( rank l[] ?an ! =ego+1 accord+ to date !y 7 sworn 94 ,*ancellor ( ! ,ex*equ]4 ,du*y ( ,lanca/]4 ,"l ,*ief ,ju/ice ( ,engl&4 ,ma/] ( ! ,rolls4 ,lords ,ju/ices ( ,appeal & ,presid5t ( ,probate ,c\rt4 ,judges ( ! ,high ,c\rt ( ,ju/ice4 ,visc\nts' y\ng] sons4 ,b>ons' ,sons ( ,life ,pe]s4 ,b>onets accord+ to dates ( pat5ts4 ,knights ,gr& ,cross ( ,ba?4 ,knights ,gr& ,comm&]s1 ,/> ( ,india4 ,knights ,gr& ,cross ( ,/4 ,mi*ael & ,/4 ,george4 ,knights ,gr& ,comm&]s ( ,indian ,empire4 ,knights ,gr& ,cross ( ,royal ,victorian ,ord]4 ,knights ,comm&]s ( above ,ord]s 9 same sequ5ce4 ,knights ,ba*elors ( above ,ord]s 9 same sequ5ce4 ,comm&]s ( ! ,royal ,victorian ,ord]4 ,judges ( ,c\nty ,c\rts 9 ,engl& & ,irel&1 & ,judges ( ! ,city ( ,london ,c\rt4 ,ma/]s 9 ,lunacy4 ,companions ( ,ord]s ( ,ba?1 ,/> ( ,india1 ,,ss4 ,mi*ael & ,george1 & ,indian ,empire 9 same sequ5ce4 ,memb]s ( #d? class ( ,royal ,victorian ,ord]4 ,companions ( ,di/+ui%$ ,s]vice ,ord]4 ,elde/ sons ( y\ng] sons ( ,pe]s4 ,b>onets' elde/ sons4 ,knights' elde/ sons1 9 ord] ( _! fa!rs4 ,memb]s ( #e? class ( ,royal ,victorian ,ord]4 ,y\ng] sons ( ,pe]s' y\ng] sons4 ,b>onets' y\ng] sons4 ,knights' y\ng] sons1 9 ord] ( _! fa!rs4 ,naval1 ,milit>y1 & o!r ,esquires by ,(fice4 ,g5tlem5 entitl$ to be> ,coat ,arm\r4 ,,ladies ,! ,que54 ,! ,que5 ,"m4 ,! ,sov]eign's daught]s4 ,wives ( ,sov]eign's y\ng] sons4 ,sov]eign's gr&daught]s4 ,wives ( ,sov]eign's gr&sons4 ,sov]eign's si/]s4 ,wives ( ,sov]eign's bro!rs4 ,sov]eign's aunts4 ,wives ( ,sov]eign's uncles4 ,sov]eign's nieces4 ,wives ( ,sov]eign's nephews4 ,du*esses 79 same ord] z ,dukes74 ,wives ( elde/ sons ( ,dukes ( ,blood ,royal4 ,m>*ionesses4 ,wives ( elde/ sons ( ,dukes4 ,daught]s ( ,dukes4 ,c\ntesses4 ,wives ( y\ng] sons ( ,royal ,dukes4 ,wives ( elde/ sons ( ,m>quesses4 ,daught]s ( ,m>quesses4 ,wives ( y\ng] sons ( ,dukes4 ,visc\ntesses4 ,wives ( elde/ sons ( ,e>ls4 ,daught]s ( ,e>ls4 ,wives ( y\ng] sons ( ,m>quesses4 ,b>onesses4 ,wives ( elde/ sons ( ,visc\nts4 ,daught]s ( ,visc\nts4 ,wives ( y\ng] sons ( ,e>ls4 ,wives ( elde/ sons ( ,b>ons4 ,daught]s ( ,b>ons4 ,maids ( ,hon\r4 ,wives ( y\ng] sons ( ,visc\nts4 ,wives ( y\ng] sons ( ,b>ons4 ,daught]s & sons' wives ( ,life ,pe]s4 ,wives ( ,b>onets4 ,daught]s ( ,b>onets4 ,wives ( elde/ sons ( ,knights4 ,daught]s ( ,knights4 ,wives ( y\ng] sons ( ,pe]s' y\ng] sons4 ,wives ( y\ng] sons ( ,b>onets4 ,wives ( y\ng] sons ( ,knights4 ,wives ( ,esquires4 ,wives ( ,g5tlem54 ,,*apt] ,,vi ,,! ,,colloquial ,,application ,,( ,,titles ,! colloquial application ( titles diff]s mat]ially f ! application ( titles :5 n us$ colloquially1 & _m p]sons are 9 d\bt z to :e!r !y %\ld or %\ld n make use colloquially ( titles 9 full4 ,8 ,maje/y ! ,k+ %\ld be address$ z ,sir by all ^? :o come 9 social contact ) him2 & by all o!rs z ,y\r ,maje/y4 ,h] ,maje/y ,que5 ,m>y %\ld be address$ z ,ma'm by all ^? :o come 9 social contact ) h]2 & by all o!rs z ,y\r ,maje/y4 ,h] ,maje/y ,que5 ,alex&ra %\ld be address$ z ,ma'm by all ^? :o come 9 social contact ) h]2 & by all o!rs z ,y\r ,maje/y4 ,! ,pr9ce ( ,wales1 ! ,duke ( ,connaught1 & all pr9ces ( ! blood royal1 %\ld be address$ by ! upp] classes z ,sir4 ,! pr9cesses ( ! blood royal1 %\ld be address$ z ,ma'm by ! upp] classes4 ,! wives ( ! pr9ces ( ! blood royal %\ld also be address$ z ,ma'm by ! upp] classes4 ,all cr[n$ heads visit+ ,engl& %\ld be address$ z ,sir by ^? socially kn[n to !m1 & z ,y\r ,maje/y by all o!rs4 ,! ,royal ladies1 _! wives1 %\ld be address$ z ,ma'm by ^? p]sonally kn[n to !m1 & z ,y\r ,maje/y by all o!rs4 ,a =eign pr9ce be>+ ! title ( ,s]5e ,highness %\ld be address$ z ,pr9ce1 & n z ,sir1 by ! ari/ocracy & g5try1 & z ,y\r ,s]5e ,highness by all o!r classes4 ,a =eign pr9cess1 also be>+ ! title ( s]5e highness1 %\ld be /yl$ ,pr9cess :5 address$ colloquially by ! upp] classes1 b n z ,ma'am2 & z ,y\r ,s]5e ,highness by all o!r classes4 ,an ,engli% duke %\ld be address$ z ,duke by ! ari/ocracy & g5try1 & n z ,y\r ,grace by memb]s ( ei!r ( ^! classes4 ,all o!r classes %\ld address him colloquially z ,y\r ,grace4 ,an ,engli% du*ess %\ld be address$ z ,du*ess by all p]sons conv]s+ ) h] belong+ to ! upp] classes1 & z ,y\r ,grace by all o!r classes4 ,a m>quess1 colloquially1 %\ld be address$ z ,"l ,a4 ,a m>*ioness %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,a4 by ! upp] classes4 ,x w\ld be a mi/ake to address an ,engli% m>quess z ,m>quess1 or a m>*ioness z ,m>*ioness1 colloquially speak+4 ,all o!r classes %\ld address !m ei!r z ,my ,"l or ,y\r ,lord%ip1 ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip4 ,an e>l %\ld be address$ z ,"l ,b4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,"l or ,y\r ,lord%ip by all o!r classes4 ,a c\ntess %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,b4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,a visc\nt %\ld be address$ z ,"l ,c4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,"l or ,y\r ,lord%ip by all o!r classes4 ,a visc\ntess %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,c4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,a b>on %\ld be address$ z ,"l ,d4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,"l or ,y\r ,lord%ip by all o!r classes4 ,a b>oness %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,d4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,9 /rictly (ficial or bus9ess int]c\rse a m>quess1 an e>l1 a visc\nt1 a b>on1 & a y\ng] son ( a duke or m>quis1 %\ld be address$ z ,my ,"l4 ,! elde/ son ( a duke %\ld be address$ z ,"l ,a4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,"l or ,y\r ,lord%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! wife ( ! elde/ son ( a duke %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,a4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! y\ng] sons ( a duke %\ld be address$ z ,"l ,john ,e4 or ,"l ,*>les ,e4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,"l or ,y\r ,lord%ip by all o!r classes4 ,p]sons well acqua9t$ ) !m w\ld address !m colloquially by _! title & *ri/ian "n1 z ,"l ,john or ,"l ,*>les4 ,! same rem>k applies to _! wives1 :o are (t5 colloquially address$ z ,lady ,alfr$ or ,lady ,edw>d4 ,! wives ( ! y\ng] sons ( a duke %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,john ,e4 or ,lady ,*>les ,e4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! daught]s ( a duke %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,m>y ,a4 or ,lady ,elizabe? ,b4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,lady ,m>y & ,lady ,elizabe? by ^? intimate ) !m1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! elde/ son ( a m>quess %\ld be address$ z ,"l ,a4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,"l or ,y\r ,lord%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! wife ( ! elde/ son ( a m>quis %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,a4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! y\ng] sons ( a m>quis %\ld be address$ z ,"l ,h5ry ,b4 & ,"l ,fr$]ick ,b4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,"l or ,y\r ,lord%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! wives ( ! y\ng] sons ( a m>quis %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,h5ry ,b4 & ,lady ,fr$]ick ,b4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! daught]s ( a m>quis %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,flor5ce ,b4 & ,lady ,s>ah ,b4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! elde/ son ( an e>l %\ld be address$ z ,"l ,c4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,"l or ,y\r ,lord%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! wife ( ! elde/ son ( an e>l %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,c4 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! daught]s ( an e>l %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,blan*e & ,lady ,evelyn by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! y\ng] sons ( e>ls1 & bo? elde/ & y\ng] sons ( visc\nts & b>ons1 only be> ! c\rtesy title ( hon\rable4 ,! daught]s ( visc\nts & b>ons also be> ! c\rtesy title ( hon\rable4 ,?is title %\ld nev] be us$ colloquially1 ,! ,hon4 ,cecil ,blank1 ,! ,hon4 ,mrs4 ,cecil ,blank1 & ,! ,hon4 ,m>y ,blank1 %\ld be /yl$ ,mr41 ,mrs41 & ,miss ,m>y ,blank4 ,b>onets %\ld be address$ by _! full title & surname1 z ,sir ,john ,blank1 by ! upp] classes1 & by _! titles & *ri/ian names only by all o!r classes4 ,b>onets' wives %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,b4 or ,lady ,c1 accord+ to ! surnames ( _! husb&s3 ?us1 ,sir ,john ,blank's wife %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,blank by ! upp] classes1 n z ,lady ,john ,blank--to d s w\ld be to give h] ! rank ( ! wife ( ! y\ng] son ( a duke or m>quis in/ead ( t ( a b>onet's wife only--& z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,! wives ( knights %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,b4 or ,lady ,c41 accord+ to ! surnames ( _! husb&s3 ?us1 ,sir ,john ,blank's wife %\ld be address$ z ,lady ,blank by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,lady or ,y\r ,lady%ip by all o!r classes4 ,9 address+ ,=eign]s ( ,rank colloquially1 ! receiv$ rule is to address !m by _! individual titles & surnames4 ,a pr9ce or pr9cess %\ld be address$ by _! full title3 ?us1 ,pr9ce ,muni*1 or ,pr9cess ,muni*1 by ! upp] classes4 ,p]sons intimate ) !m usually address !m z ,pr9ce or ,pr9cess1 z ! case may be4 ,9 ! case ( a pr9ce be+ a y\ng] son1 & n ! reign+ head ( ! h\se1 8 *ri/ian "n is g5]ally us$ aft] 8 title :5 address+ him3 ?us1 ,pr9ce ,l\is1 9 lieu ( ,pr9ce only4 ,! same rem>k applies to ! unm>ri$ daught]s ( pr9ces4 ,!y also %\ld be address$ by _! *ri/ian "n1 9 addition to _! title ( ,pr9cess1 by ! ari/ocracy & g5try1 & z ,y\r ,s]5e or ,y\r ,imp]ial ,highness1 accord+ to _! bir? & title1 by all o!r classes4 ,a ,fr5* duke %\ld be address$ by 8 surname1 ) ! addition ( monsieur3 ?us1 ,monsieur de ,r\51 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,monsieur le ,duc by all o!r classes4 ,a ,fr5* du*ess %\ld be address$ by h] surname1 ) ! addition ( madame3 ?us1 ,madame de ,r\5 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,madame la ,du*esse by all o!r classes4 ,a m>quis %\ld be address$ by 8 surname1 ) ! addition ( monsieur3 ?us1 ,monsieur de ,h>fleur by ! upp] classes1 & z ,monsieur le ,m>quis by all o!r classes4 ,a m>quise %\ld be address$ by h] surname1 ) ! addition ( madame3 ?us1 ,madame la ,h>fleur by ! upp] classes1 & z ,madame la ,m>quise by all o!r classes4 ,a comte %\ld be address$ by 8 surname1 ) ! addition ( monsieur3 ?us1 ,monsieur de ,montpelli] by ! upp] classes1 & z ,monsieur le ,comte by all o!r classes4 ,a comtesse %\ld be address$ by h] surname1 ) ! addition ( madame3 ?us1 ,madame de ,montpelli] by ! upp] classes1 & z ,madame la ,comtesse by all o!r classes4 ,a vicomte %\ld be address$ by 8 surname1 ) ! addition ( monsieur3 ?us1 ,monsieur de ,t\l\se by ! upp] classes1 & z ,monsieur le ,vicomte by all o!r classes4 ,a vicomtesse %\ld be address$ by h] surname1 ) ! addition ( madame3 ?us1 ,madame de ,t\l\se by ! upp] classes1 & z ,madame la ,vicomtesse by all o!r classes4 ,a b>on %\ld be address$ by 8 surname1 ) ! addition ( monsieur3 ?us1 ,monsieur d',avignon by ! upp] classes1 & z ,monsieur le ,b>on by all o!r classes4 ,a b>onne %\ld be address$ by h] surname1 ) ! addition ( madame3 ?us1 ,madame d',avignon by ! upp] classes1 & z ,madame la ,b>onne by all o!r classes4 ,a "y unm>ri$ lady %\ld be address$ z ,mademoiselle d',avignon by ! upp] classes1 & z ,mademoiselle by all o!r classes4 ,9 ,g]man titles ! di/9ction ( ,von be=e ! surname is seldom us$ colloquially1 ! title & surname be+ us$ )\t ! prefix ( ,von4 ,?us1 ,c\nt von ,ausb]g %\ld be address$ z ,c\nt ,ausb]g 9 conv]sation1 & n z ,monsieur le ,comte4 ,=eign ladies ( rank %\ld be address$ by _! title & surname1 & n by _! title only1 & ! prefix ,von %\ld be omitt$2 b 9 ! case ( a ,fr5* or ,italian title ! de or de la be=e ! surname %\ld on no acc\nt be omitt$4 ,:5 ,engli%m5 are extremely intimate ) =eign]s ( rank !y w\ld1 9 conv]sation1 probably address !m by _! surnames2 b only ?or\gh intimacy & fri5d%ip w>rants ?is famili>ity4 ,z reg>ds address+ ! ,cl]gy1 an ar*bi%op %\ld be address$ colloquially z ,ar*bi%op by ! upp] classes1 & z ,y\r ,grace by ! cl]gy & all o!r classes4 ,a bi%op %\ld be address$ colloquially z ,bi%op by ! upp] classes1 & z ,my ,"l by ! cl]gy & all o!r classes4 ,a dean %\ld be /yl$ ,dean ,blank or ,dean1 by ! upp] classes1 & z ,mr4 ,dean by ! cl]gy4 ,an ar*deacon %\ld be address$ z ,ar*deacon ,blank1 & a canon z ,canon ,blank4 ,! wives ( ar*bi%ops1 bi%ops1 & deans %\ld be respectively address$ z ,mrs4 ,a41 ,mrs4 ,b41 or ,mrs4 ,c4 ,!y take no title f ! spiritual rank ( _! husb&s4 ,(fic]s 9 ! ,army %\ld be respectively address$ z ,g5]al ,a41 ,colonel ,b41 ,major ,c41 or ,capta9 ,d41 & n z ,g5]al1 ,colonel1 or ,major1 except by _! v intimate fri5ds4 ,! wives ( (fic]s %\ld be address$ z ,mrs4 ,a41 ,mrs4 ,b41 ,mrs4 ,c41 or ,mrs4 ,d4 ,!y %\ld nev] be address$ z ,mrs4 ,g5]al ,a41 ,mrs4 ,colonel ,b41 ,mrs4 ,major ,c41 or ,mrs4 ,capta9 ,d4 ,a lady %\ld n address h] husb& colloquially by 8 surname only1 z ,jones1 ,br[n1 or by :atev] 8 surname might be1 or speak ( him )\t ! prefix ( ,mr4 ,! usual rule is = a wife to speak ( h] husb& z ,mr4 ,br[n1 or ,my husb&1 except to intimate fri5ds1 :5 ! *ri/ian "n only is frequ5tly us$1 & to address him by 8 *ri/ian "n only4 ,a wife %\ld n address h] husb& by ! initial lett] ( 8 surname1 z ,mr4 ,b4 or ,mr4 ,p42 nei!r %\ld a husb& address 8 wife by ! initial lett] ( 8 surname4 ,:5 intimate fri5ds address ea* o!r by ! initial lett] ( _! names x is by way ( pleasantry only1 & su* cases1 ( c\rse1 d n come )9 ! rules ( etiquette4 ,pe]esses frequ5tly address _! husb&s1 & speak ( !m1 by ! "n atta*$ to _! title1 9 place ( us+ _! *ri/ian or family "n4 ,?us1 ! ,e>l ( ,blank%ire w\ld be /yl$ ,blank%ire by 8 wife1 )\t ! prefix ( ,"l1 & 8 usual signature w\ld be ,blank%ire1 )\t ! addition ( any *ri/ian "n4 ,b>onets' wives %\ld n address _! husb&s by _! surnames1 b by _! *ri/ian names1 & %\ld speak ( !m z ,sir ,george or ,sir ,john4 ,! wives ( knights also %\ld n address _! husb&s by _! surnames1 b by _! *ri/ian names1 & %\ld speak ( !m z ,sir ,george or ,sir ,john4 ,! ,"l ,mayor %\ld be address$ z ,"l ,mayor1 colloquially1 & ! ,lady ,mayoress z ,lady ,mayoress1 unless ! ,"l ,mayor dur+ (fice is creat$ a b>onet or receives ! hon\r ( knigh?ood1 :5 he %\ld be address$ z ,sir ,john or ,sir ,h5ry1 & 8 wife z ,lady ,a4 ,,*apt] ,,vii ,,po9ts ,,( ,,etiquette ,,z ,,reg>ds ,,royal ,,p]sonages ,g5]al society is n[ v frequ5tly br\ght into contact ) royalty--memb]s ( ! ,royal ,family ( ,engl& & memb]s ( v>i\s royal families ( ,europe4 ,) ,8 ,maje/y ?is association is ( frequ5t occurr5ce z reg>ds ! g5]al public1 & p]sons possess+ special int]e/ are con/antly br\ght into communication ) him4 ,/rict ,c\rt etiquette is greatly 9 abeyance1 & laid aside by ,8 ,maje/y :5 pay+ visits to p]sonal fri5ds1 or :5 receiv+ visits f ! same4 ,! g5iality ( ! ,engli% pr9ces & pr9cesses is ev]y:]e ackn[l$g$1 & ! re/rictions ( ,c\rt etiquette are frequ5tly relax$ by _! desire :5 visit+ at ! h\ses ( ! nobility & g5try4 ,! etiquette t reigns 9 =eign ,c\rts--,au/ria1 ,russia1 ,greece1 etc4--is seldom waiv$1 & is adh]$ to ) mu* punctilio4 ,s mu* s is ?is ! case ) c]ta9 =eign pr9ces :o visit our %ores1 t ! obs]vances !y claim z due to _! exalt$ position are (t5 felt to be a re/ra9t ^u ! ho/s :om !y hon\r ) _! company1 9 t[n or c\ntry1 at d9n]1 ball1 or c\ntry-h\se p>ty4 ,on ! o!r h&1 _m royal p]sonages :o occasionally visit ,engl& are unb5d+ & unc]emoni\s t[>ds society 9 g5]al4 ,:5 royal p]sonages visit ,london = a few weeks1 :e!r locat$ at palace1 embassy1 or hotel1 x is etiquette = any p]son :o is p]sonally acqua9t$ ) or connect$ 9 any way ) _! ,c\rt or cab9et1 or :o has be5 pres5t$ at _! ,c\rt1 to leave c>ds on !m & write _! names 9 _! visit+ books4 ,p]sons /ill high] 9 ! social scale1 give receptions 9 _! hon\r1 & invite !m to /ay at _! pr9cely mansions4 ,:5 su* visits are paid1 ! pr9cipal neighb\rs are usually invit$ to meet ! royal gue/s at d9n]1 ball1 or reception1 & on ! invitation c>d is writt51 ,to meet ,h4,r4,h4 ! ,cr[n ,pr9ce ( ----1 or ,h] ,s]5e ,highness ! ,gr& ,du*ess ( ----1 etc42 b a ho/ess ex]cises h] own discretion respect+ ! invitations %e issues4 ,if a ball is 9 contemplation ! c\nty at l>ge is invit$ to ! mansion1 b if d9n] invitations only are issu$1 !n ! circle is necess>ily re/rict$ to a fav\r$ few4 ,! neighb\rs :o are n invit$ to a h\se :]e a royal gue/ is /ay+ %\ld avoid call+ on ! ho/ess until ! dep>ture ( ! royal visitors1 ev5 if calls are due4 ,! pr9cipal p ( a c\nty :o happ5 to be pres5t at an ent]ta9m5t1 ei!r d9n] or dance1 are usually pres5t$ to ! royal gue/s by ! ho/ or ho/ess1 p]mission to d s hav+ be5 fir/ solicit$4 ,:5 ! p]son to be pres5t$ is a p]son ( rank or di/9ction1 x w\ld only be necess>y to say1 ,may ,i pres5t ,"l ,a41 or ,g5]al ,b41 to y1 ,sir8 b if ! p]son to be pres5t$ has no p>ticul> claim to ! hon\r beyond be+ popul> 9 ! c\nty1 ! reque/ %\ld be prefac$ ) a few words ( explanation respect+ ! p]son to be pres5t$4 ,:5 ! "n or fame ( ^? pres5t$ has rea*$ ! e>s ( ! royal gue/s1 !y usually %ake h&s on ! pres5tation be+ made1 & ent] into conv]sation ) !m2 o!rwise !y m]ely b[1 & make "o or two pass+ rem>ks4 ,a h\se-p>ty is g5]ally compos$ ( ^? ) :om a royal gue/ is m or less acqua9t$4 ,:5 ! p>ty includes any "o :o is a /rang] to ! royal gue/s1 he or %e %\ld be pres5t$ on ! fir/ opportunity4 ,! memb]s ( ! ,royal ,family h ea*1 m or less1 _! p>ticul> set1 z h also ! =eign pr9ces :o p]iodically visit ?is c\ntry1 & !re=e h\se-p>ties are usually made up ( ^? mov+ 9 ! set ( ! expect$ pr9ce4 ,= ! prop] mode ( address+ royal p]sonages1 see ,*apt] ,,vi4 ,z reg>ds royal invitations1 all invitations f ! ,sov]eign are comm&s1 & mu/ be answ]$ & obey$ z su*1 & ! ^w comm& mu/ be made use ( 9 answ]+ su* invitations4 ,if any reason exi/s = n obey+ ,8 ,maje/y's comm&s x %\ld be /at$4 ,invitations f memb]s ( ! ,royal ,family are treat$ by c\rtesy z comm&s1 b 9 reply+ to su* invitations ! ^w comm& %\ld n be us$4 ,! answ]s to su* invitations %\ld be address$ to ! ,comptroll] ( ! ,h\sehold1 by :om !y are usually issu$4 ,answ]s to royal invitations %\ld be writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 & reasons giv5 = non-acceptance4 ,a previ\s engagem5t _c be plead$ z an excuse = refus+ a royal invitation2 only p]sonal indisposition or s]i\s illness1 or dea? ( ne> relatives1 w\ld be adequate reasons = n accept+ a royal invitation4 ,:5 a royal invitation is v]bally giv51 ! answ] %\ld be v]bal also4 ,at all ent]ta9m5ts at :i* royal gue/s are pres5t !y %\ld be receiv$ by ! ho/ & ho/ess 9 ! entrance-hall4 ,9 ! case ( s]5e highnesses !y %\ld be receiv$ by ! ho/ & conduct$ by him to ! ho/ess2 ?is rule equally applies to ! reception ( ea/]n pr9ces4 ,h5ce=w>d !re are to be 9 ,great ,brita9 no ,pr9ces or ,pr9cesses o!r ?an ^? ( ! ,blood ,royal4 ,only ! *ildr5 & gr&*ildr5 ( ! ,sov]eign w hold pr9cely rank2 ! titles ( ,highness & ,s]5e ,highness w disappe>2 & t ( ,royal ,highness w be res]v$ to ! direct desc5dants ( ! ,k+ 9 ! male l9e4 ,! ,k+ has deem$ x desirable1 9 ! conditions br\ght ab\t by ! pres5t w>1 t ^? pr9ces ( 8 family :o are 8 subjects & be> ,g]man names & titles %\ld rel9qui% ^! titles & h5ce=? adopt ,briti% surnames4 ,8 ,maje/y has conf]r$ ,pe]ages ( ! ,unit$ ,k+dom on ! foll[+3--,! ,duke ( ,teck to be a ,m>quis2 ,pr9ce ,alex&] ( ,teck to be ! ,e>l ( ,a?lone2 ,pr9ce ,l\is ( ,batt5b]g to be ! ,m>quis ( ,mil=d ,hav52 & ,pr9ce ,alex&] ( ,batt5b]g to be ! ,m>quis ( ,c>isbrooke4 ,indian ,pr9ces4--,! exact /atus ( ,indian pr9ces has nev] be5 actually laid d[n1 b all :o are ,highnesses are giv5 prec$5ce at ! ,engli% ,c\rt & 9 society aft] ! ,royal ,family & =eign pr9ces4 ,9 ! procession at ,c\rt ent]ta9m5ts !y g 9 front ( ambassadors4 ,no ,indian pr9ce is consid]$ to be ( blood royal1 & !y d n /& 9 ! l9e at levees & ,c\rts1 b all h ! private ,entree4 ,,*apt] ,,viii ,,po9ts ,,( ,,etiquette ,,:5 ,,travell+ ,,abroad1 ,,& ,,pres5tations ,,at ,,=eign ,,c\rts ,! acqua9tance%ip ( =eign resid5ts is ( consid]able s]vice to ,engli% p purpos+ to w9t] abroad1 or to rema9 = any l5g? ( "t 9 a cont95tal city1 z by its means !y obta9 an entrance into =eign society4 ,an introduction to ! ,engli% ,ambassador or ,m9i/] at a =eign ,c\rt is ( /ill great] s]vice 9 ?is matt]4 ,p ( recognis$ position 9 society h ! privilege ( leav+ c>ds at ! ,engli% ,embassy at any =eign city 9 :i* !y int5d mak+ a tempor>y /ay4 ,s ?or\ghly is ! position ( ,engli% travell]s kn[n to ! ,engli% ,m9i/ry at a =eign ,c\rt1 t %\ld a p]son1 :o is n receiv$ 9 ,engli% society1 leave c>ds at ! ,engli% ,embassy1 !y w\ld be at once return$ z an intimation t ! acqua9tance is decl9$4 ,x is errone\s to suppose t by leav+ c>ds ^u =eign]s ( di/9ction1 an acqua9tance%ip c be comm5c$1 = unless introductions h be5 =mally made1 leav+ c>ds is a useless proce$+4 ,at f>-away spots little frequ5t$ by ! g5]al run ( travell]s1 & :]e !re are b few1 if any1 resid5t ,engli%1 travell]s requir+ advice or assi/ance f ! ,engli% consul1 c1 )\t an introduction1 call ^u him1 nationality be+ ! gr\nd ^u :i* to d ?is1 & if ( equal social /&+1 !y w\ld be receiv$ ) social consid]ation2 if o!rwise1 all assi/ance w\ld be giv5 to !m f an (ficial po9t ( view4 ,_m p :5 travell+ abroad make pleasant acqua9tances ev5 )\t ! help ( introductions1 ! occasion ( a meet+ be+ z x 7 a semi-introduction 9 itself4 ,su* casual acqua9tance%ips are1 h[ev]1 att5d$ ) c]ta9 risks1 especially to p]sons :o h be5 abs5t f ,engl& "s little "t1 or :o :5 9 ,engl& h ent]$ comp>atively b little 9 society1 & :o are ?us apt to drift unaw>es into close fri5d%ips ) p p]haps well br$ & agreeable1 al?\gh taboo$ at home = "s good & suffici5t reason4 ,contretemps su* z ^! are pa9ful to k9d-he>t$ p :5 subsequ5tly compell$ to avoid & to rel9qui% ! acqua9tance ( ^? ) :om !y h become pleasantly intimate4 ,an introduction to an ,engli% resid5t 9 ei!r t[n or city obviates any unpleasantness ( ?is nature1 z "o s situat$ is g5]ally kept au c\rant ) all t takes place 9 society at home4 ,:5 p]sons desire to ent] into society abroad !y endeav\r to obta9 lett]s ( introduction f fri5ds & acqua9tances to resid5ts 9 ! cities !y purpose visit+4 ,unless ,engli% travell]s h be5 duly pres5t$ at ! ,c\rt ( ,/ ,james's1 !y _c obta9 pres5tations at =eign ,c\rts ?r\gh ! ,engli% ,embassies4 ,:5 a lady desires a pres5tation at a =eign ,c\rt1 %e %\ld write to ! ,engli% ,ambassadress & reque/ ! hon\r ( a pres5tation1 & %\ld /ate ! date ( h] pres5tation & ! "n ( ! lady by :om %e 0 pres5t$4 ,aft] h] /atem5t has be5 duly v]ifi$ ! reque/ is grant$4 ,9 a l mann] :5 a g5tleman desires a pres5tation at a =eign ,c\rt1 he %\ld write to ! ,ambassador & reque/ ! hon\r ( a pres5tation1 & %\ld /ate ! date ( ! ,levee at :i* he 0 pres5t$1 & ! "n ( ! p]son by :om ! pres5tation 0 made4 ,pres5tations at =eign ,c\rts take place 9 ! ev5+1 & ! p]sons to be pres5t$1 & ^? :o att5d1 assemble previ\s to ! entrance ( ! royal p]sonages3 ! rule is = ! gr& maitresse to pres5t ea* lady 9 turn to h] royal mi/ress1 :o makes ! t\r ( ! ap>tm5t = ?is purpose1 & addresses "s c\rte\s obs]vation to ea*4 ,,*apt] ,,ix ,,! ,,receiv$ ,,mode ,,( ,,pron\nc+ ,,c]ta9 ,,surnames ,!re are1 p]haps1 two reasons :y v>i\s surnames are s frequ5tly mispron\nc$1 ! "o be+ unfamili>ity ) ! freak ( fa%ion :i* gov]ns ! pronunciation ( c]ta9 well-kn[n names1 ! o!r ignorance1 or want ( education4 ,:5 s5sitive p]sons he> a "n pron\nc$ diff]5tly f ! way 9 :i* !y h !mselves b j pron\nc$ x1 & 9 a tone & mann] /rongly sugge/ive ( correction1 x is w\nd+ to _! am\r propre4 ,z a rule1 :5 p]sons are 9 d\bt z to ! correct pronunciation ( any p>ticul> "n1 x w\ld be be/ to avoid m5tion+ x1 if possible1 until _! d\bts are set at re/ by "s "o bett] in=m$ ?an !mselves4 ,names t h a fa%ionable or peculi> pronunciation1 or are pron\nc$ o!rwise ?an z !y are spelt1 are b few1 & names :i* x is possible wrongly to acc5t are also n v num]\s2 b x is surpris+ h[ (t5 ^! names occur 9 ! c\rse ( conv]sation4 ,! names ( di/+ui%$ arti/s t are op5 to mispronunciation occur f> (t5] 9 conv]sation ?an d ! g5]al run ( uncommon surnames4 ,!re are _m celebrat$ hunts & hunt+ qu>t]s ( :i* ! names are op5 to consid]able mispronunciation4 ,) reg>d to plac+ ! acc5t on ! wrong syllable 9 ! pronunciation ( names1 x requires b little ?\ght to avoid mak+ ?is mi/ake1 a popul> error be+ t ( plac+ ! acc5t ^u ! la/ syllable ( a "n2 :]eas1 9 a "n ( two syllables1 ! acc5t %\ld inv>iably be plac$ ^u ! fir/1 & ! second syllable %\ld be z x 7 slightly abbreviat$ or slightly alt]$4 ,9 names ( ?ree syllables ! error usually consi/s 9 plac+ ! acc5t ^u ! la/ syllable1 :]eas ! acc5t %\ld be plac$ ^u ! second syllable4 ,!re are occasional exceptions to ?is rule1 & ! few names giv5 9 ?is *apt]1 bo? z reg>ds _! pronunciation & acc5tuation1 w s]ve z a useful guide 9 ! pronunciation ( uncommon names4 ,,spelt4 ,,pron\nc$4 ,,rem>ks4 ,ab]gav5ny4 ,ab]g5'ny4 ,av n s\nd$4 ,arbu?not4 ,arbu?'n4 ,arundel4 ,arr&el4 ,beaconsfield4 ,beckonsfield4 ,beau*amp4 ,bea'*am4 ,beaucl]k or ,bo'clair4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,beaucl]c4 ,belvoir4 ,be'v]4 ,b]kely4 ,b>k'ley4 ,be?une4 ,bee'ton4 ,bice/]4 ,bis't]4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,bl\nt4 ,blunt4 ,bly?4 ,bly4 ,? n s\nd$4 ,b\rke4 ,burk4 ,b\rne4 ,burn4 ,b[les4 ,boles4 ,breadalbane4 ,breaddal'bane4 ,acc5t on second syllable4 ,br\gham4 ,br\m4 ,bu*an4 ,buck'an4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,burdett4 ,burdett'4 ,acc5t on la/ syllable4 ,burnett4 ,burnett'4 ,acc5t on la/ syllable4 ,bury4 ,b]ry4 ,cald]on4 ,cal'dron n ,cauldron4 ,*>t]is4 ,*>t]s4 ,*olmeley4 ,*um'ley4 ,*olmondeley4 ,cir5ce/]4 ,cis'e/]4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,clanric>de4 ,clanrec>de4 ,acc5t on second syllable4 ,cockburn4 ,coburn4 ,ck n s\nd$4 ,colquh\n4 ,kohoon'4 ,acc5t on la/ syllable4 ,conynham4 ,cuny+ham4 ,c\tts4 ,koots4 ,c[p]4 ,coop]4 ,dalziel4 ,dee'al4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,d]by4 ,d>by4 ,des ,vaux4 ,deveu4 ,! x n s\nd$4 ,dev]eux4 ,dev]eu4 ,! x n s\nd$4 ,dillwyn4 ,dil'lun4 ,! wy takes ! s\nd ( u2 ! acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,du*esne4 ,duk>n4 ,du ,plat4 ,du ,pl>4 ,elg94 ,! g h>d z 9 give4 ,eyre4 ,air4 ,fildes4 ,fil$es4 ,n ,filldes4 ,=tescue4 ,=t'iskew4 ,ge(frey4 ,jefrey4 ,geoghegan4 ,gaygan4 ,gif=d4 ,jif=d4 ,! g s(t z 9 ,george4 ,gillett4 ,g h>d z 9 ,gilb]t4 ,gillott4 ,g h>d4 ,glamis4 ,gl>ms4 ,gorges4 ,gor'jes4 ,fir/ g h>d & second g s(t4 ,g\gh4 ,g(f4 ,g[]4 ,gor4 ,b ,g[] z reg>ds ! /reet ( t "n ) ! g5]al public4 ,h>c\rt4 ,h>'kut4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,hea?cote4 ,he?'kut4 ,h]t=d4 ,h>'=d4 ,home4 ,hume4 ,hughes4 ,hews4 ,j]vis4 ,j>vis4 ,john/one4 ,! t n s\nd$4 ,k5naird4 ,k5naird'4 ,acc5t on la/ syllable4 ,k5n>d4 ,k5n>d'4 ,acc5t on la/ syllable4 ,k]4 ,k>4 ,knollys4 ,kn[ls4 ,lay>d4 ,laird4 ,leconfield4 ,lek'onfield4 ,lefevre4 ,lefavre4 ,leigh4 ,lee4 ,lyv$on4 ,livd54 ,macnam>a4 ,macnem>'ar4 ,acc5t on ?ird syllable4 ,ma9w>+4 ,man'n]+4 ,m>joribanks4 ,m>%banks4 ,mc,intosh4 ,mak9to%4 ,mc,leod4 ,mc,cloud4 ,m5zies4 ,myng'es4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,meux4 ,mews4 ,! x s\nd$ z s4 ,millais4 ,mil'lay4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,milnes4 ,mills4 ,molyneux4 ,! x s\nd$1 ) slight acc5t on la/ syllable4 ,monck4 ,munk4 ,monckton4 ,munk'ton4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,monson4 ,munson4 ,montgom]ie or ,mungum'ery4 ,acc5t on second syllable4 ,montgom]y4 ,m[bray4 ,mobrey4 ,nigel4 ,ni'jel4 ,ouless4 ,ooless4 ,p>nell4 ,p>nell'4 ,acc5t on la/ syllable4 ,pepys4 ,pep'is4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,pi]repont4 ,pi]pont4 ,ponsonby4 ,punsonby4 ,pontefract4 ,pomfret4 ,pugh4 ,pew4 ,pyt*ley4 ,pyt*'ley4 ,n ,pit*ley4 ,ru?v54 ,riv'en4 ,s&ys4 ,s&s4 ,/4 ,clair4 ,s9clair4 ,/4 ,maur4 ,see'mor1 or ,s'nt ,maur4 ,/4 ,john4 ,s9j94 ,z reg>ds *ri/ian & surname1 b z ,/4 ,john :5 appli$ to *ur* or locality4 ,seym\r4 ,sey'm]4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,/ra*an4 ,/rawn4 ,tadema4 ,tad'ym>4 ,acc5t on fir/ syllable4 ,tollema*e4 ,tollma%4 ,trafalg>4 ,trafalg>'4 ,acc5t on la/ syllable2 z reg>ds ! pe] ( t "n1 n o!rwise4 ,tr$eg>4 ,tr$e'g>4 ,acc5t on second syllable4 ,tremayne4 ,tremayne'4 ,acc5t on la/ syllable4 ,tyrr:itt4 ,tirritt4 ,vaughan4 ,vorn4 ,vaux4 ,! x s\nd$4 ,villbois4 ,vealbwor4 ,villi]s4 ,vil'l]s4 ,waldegrave4 ,wal'grave4 ,! de n s\nd$4 ,wemyss4 ,weems4 ,will\ghby ,d',eresby4 ,will[by ,d',ersby4 ,,*apt] ,x ,,pres5tations ,,at ,,c\rts ,,& ,,att5d+ ,,c\rts ,c\rts are n[ held 9 lieu ( ,draw+-rooms by ,_! ,maje/ies ! ,k+ & ,que5 at ,buck+ham ,palace1 & at :i* ,pres5tations to ,_! ,maje/ies are made4 ,^! ,c\rts are held 9 ! ev5+s at t5 o'clock1 b ! h\r at :i* ! company %\ld comm5ce to arrive is intimat$ by ! ,"l ,*amb]la9 9 ! notice issu$ ( ! ,c\rts to be held4 ,two ,c\rts are usually1 b n inv>iably1 held be=e ,ea/]1 & two m aft] ,ea/]4 ,ladies :o h be5 pres5t$ at ,draw+-rooms & ,c\rts1 held dur+ ! la/ two reigns1 d n require to be aga9 pres5t$ to ,_! ,maje/ies ! ,k+ & ,que52 ?us1 ladies :o h already be5 pres5t$ at ^! ,draw+-rooms1 & :o are desir\s ( be+ invit$ to "o or o!r ( ^! ,c\rts1 & :o are also desir\s ( mak+ pres5tations1 %\ld s5d 9 _! names & ! names ( ^? to be pres5t$ by !m to ! ,"l ,*amb]la91 ,/4 ,james's ,palace1 ,s4,w41 on ! #a/ ( ,janu>y 9 ea* ye>1 b n be=e t date4 ,ladies are also privileg$ to m5tion at ! same "t :5 x w be mo/ conv5i5t to !m to pay _! respects to ,_! ,maje/ies4 ,if x %\ld n be conv5i5t = a lady to att5d or be pres5t$ at ! p>ticul> ,c\rt to :i* %e is invit$1 x w be op5 to h] to make h] excuses to ! ,"l ,*amb]la9 9 writ+1 :5 h] "n c1 if desir$1 & if possible1 be transf]r$ to ano!r li/4 ,a lady :o makes a pres5tation to ,_! ,maje/ies1 mu/ be p]sonally acqua9t$ ) & responsible = ! lady %e pres5ts4 ,%e mu/ h]self att5d ! ,c\rt1 & _c pres5t m ?an "o lady 9 addition to h] daught] or daught]-9-law4 ,! numb]s receiv$ at ea* ,c\rt be+ necess>ily limit$1 ladies c only receive occasional invitations4 ,!re=e1 ^? :o _c be includ$ 9 ! ye>'s li/ ( invitations w receive an intimation to ?is effect f ! ,"l ,*amb]la9 9 answ] to _! applications to att5d4 ,! ,p]sons entitl$ to be pres5t$ at ,_! ,maje/ies' ,c\rts are ! wives & daught]s ( ! memb]s ( ! ari/ocracy1 ! wives & daught]s ( ^? hold+ high (ficial appo9tm5ts 9 ! ,gov]nm5t1 ! wives & daught]s ( ,memb]s ( ,p>liam5t1 ! c\nty g5try & t[n g5try1 ! wives & daught]s ( ! memb]s ( ! legal1 milit>y1 naval1 cl]ical1 m$ical1 & o!r pr(essions1 ! wives & daught]s ( m]*ants1 bank]s1 & memb]s ( ! ,/ock ,ex*ange1 & p]sons engag$ 9 comm]ce on a l>ge scale4 ,al?\gh ! ^w g5try is ?us ela/ic1 & al?\gh p]sons com+ )9 ! category might be fairly entitl$ to ! privilege ( att5d+ ,c\rts1 yet x is well und]/ood t bir?1 weal?1 associations1 & position give a raison d'etre = su* privilege2 z1 = in/ance1 ! wife & daught]s ( an (fic] 9 ! navy or a l9e regim5t1 ^: means are sl5d]1 & ^: position is obscure1 w\ld n be ju/ifi$ = ^! reasons 9 att5d+ a ,c\rt1 al?\gh ! (fic] himself might att5d a levee if desir\s ( do+ s2 & ?is rem>k equally applies to ! wives & daught]s ( cl]gym51 b>ri/]s1 & o!rs simil>ly situat$4 ,pres5tations to ,_! ,maje/ies are made (ficially by ! v>i\s =eign ambassadresses1 by ! wives ( ! memb]s ( ! ,cab9et1 & by ! wives ( o!r (ficial p]sonages 9 v>i\s dep>tm5ts ( ! ,/ate1 ei!r civil1 milit>y1 naval1 or cl]ical4 ,pres5tations at ea* ( ,_! ,maje/ies' ,c\rts are n[ limit$ by royal comm&4 ,pres5tations to ,_! ,maje/ies %\ld be made ei!r by a relative or a fri5d ( ! lady pres5t$ :o has h]self be5 previ\sly pres5t$4 ,a lady has ! privilege ( pres5t+ "o lady only at a ,c\rt 9 addition to h] daught] or daught]-9-law4 ,?is re/riction does n apply to ladies :o1 f (ficial position or o!r circum/ances1 are specially privileg$ to make pres5tations to ,_! ,maje/ies4 ,:5 a pres5tation is n made (ficially or by a ne> relative x is consid]$ a fav\r on ! "p ( ! p]son mak+ ! pres5tation t[>ds ! p]son pres5t$4 ,! responsibility ( a pres5tation re/s ^u ! p]son :o makes x1 bo? z to ! social & moral fitness ( ! p]son pres5t$2 !re=e1 to solicit ! fav\r ( a pres5tation f a fri5d is to incur a consid]able obligation1 & x is a fav\r ladies h no hesitation 9 refus+ unless good reasons exi/ = grant+ x4 ,:5 pres5tations are made ?r\gh (ficial *annels ! responsibility re/s ^u ! (fice r ?an ^u ! p]son mak+ ! pres5tation2 h5ce pres5tations s made h little p]sonal significance to ! p]son mak+ !m4 ,a ,lady hav+ be5 pres5t$ on h] ,m>riage has ! privilege ( att5d+1 by invitation1 any subsequ5t ,c\rt1 b ladies :o h no (ficial position w only be all[$ to att5d a ,c\rt by summons e ?ird ye>4 ,on ! accession ( h] husb& to any title1 %e w\ld aga9 h to be pres5t$1 & %\ld %e m>ry a second "t ano!r pres5tation w\ld be necess>y to entitle h] to att5d "o ( ,_! ,maje/ies' ,c\rts4 ,x is ! ,privilege ( ! ,m>ri$ ,lady to make ,pres5tations1 b %\ld any p]son be pres5t$ ^: antec$5ts or pres5t position r5d]s h] socially unqualifi$ to be pres5t$1 ! ,"l ,*amb]la91 on becom+ aw>e ( ! fact1 w\ld at once cancel ! pres5tation1 & (ficially ann\nce x 9 ! ,gazette1 & ! p]son mak+ su* pres5tation w\ld be expect$ to t5d] an apology = s do+4 ,an ,unm>ri$ ,lady does n possess ! ,privilege ( mak+ a pres5tation1 h[ev] high h] rank may be4 ,%e is n p]mitt$ to att5d any subsequ5t ,c\rts aft] fir/ pres5tation until ?ree ye>s h elaps$2 save "u exceptional circum/ances4 ,f\r ,c\rts are held dur+ ea* ye> at ,buck+ham ,palace1 two be=e & two aft] ,ea/]1 b due intimation is giv5 previ\s to ea* ,c\rt be+ held by ! ,"l ,*amb]la9 ?r\gh ! m$ium ( ! (ficial ,gazette1 f :5ce x is copi$ into ! newspap]s4 ,! wives ( memb]s ( ! ,cab9et & ( ! ambassadors or m9i/]s at ! ,c\rt ( ,/4 ,james's usually att5d at ea* ,c\rt1 & h ! privilege ( do+ s by reason ( ! (ficial pres5tations made by !m at ea* ,c\rt4 ,x is compulsory = a ,lady mak+ a pres5tation to be h]self pres5t at ! ,c\rt at :i* ! pres5tation is to be made1 ?\gh x is n necess>y = h] to accompany ! p]son :om %e pres5ts1 b simply to att5d ! same ,c\rt4 ,:5 a ,lady int5ds mak+ a ,pres5tation %e %\ld1 on or aft] ! #a/ ( ,janu>y write to ! ,"l ,*amb]la9 & in=m him ( a wi% to att5d a ,c\rt1 & =w>d ! "n ( ! lady to be pres5t$ by h]4 ,ladies are n expect$ to att5d ,c\rt m ?an once 9 e ?ree ye>s1 unless "u exceptional circum/ances4 ,a ,lady att5d+ a ,c\rt may pres5t "o lady 9 addition to h] daught] or daught]-9-law4 ,a ,lady pres5t$ = ! ,fir/ ,"t c only pres5t h] daught] or daught]-9-law at ! ,c\rt at :i* %e is pres5t$4 ,no ,applications c be receiv$ f ladies :o wi% to be pres5t$4 ,_! names mu/ be =w>d$ by ! ladies :o wi% to make ! pres5tations4 ,summonses are issu$ ab\t ?ree weeks be=e ! date ( ea* ,c\rt4 ,ladies may be accompani$ to ,c\rt by _! husb&s if ! latt] h be5 pres5t$1 b g5tlem5 d n pass be=e ! ,k+ & ,que54 ,ladies are reque/$ to =w>d ! names ( _! husb&s at ! same "t z _! own1 9 ord] t !y may be submitt$ toge!r1 z once ! summons has be5 issu$ ! am5d+ ( a summons c>d 9 ord] to include a lady's husb& c only be p]mitt$ "u ! mo/ exceptional circum/ances4 ,^? :o h ! ,privilege ( ! ,entree ent] at ! gate ( ! ,palace situat$ outside ,buck+ham ,gate4 ,^? :o possess ?is privilege are ! diplomatic circle1 ! ,cab9et m9i/]s & _! wives1 & ! memb]s ( ! ,h\sehold4 ,! rooms1 two 9 numb]1 next to ! ,pres5ce ,*amb]1 are appropriat$ to !m4 ,all :o h ! privilege ( ! entree are receiv$ by ,_! ,maje/ies be=e ! g5]al circle1 & accord+ to _! individual prec$5cy1 & !y h also ! privilege ( mak+ ! fir/ pres5tations4 ,:5 a ,lady arrives at ! ,palace %e %\ld leave h] wraps 9 ! cloak-room ) "o ( ! maids 9 att5dance4 ,aft] cross+ ! ,great ,hall1 %e !n makes h] way up ! ,gr& ,/aircase to ! ,corridor1 :]e %e %[s h] invitation-c>d to ! page-9-wait+1 & !n passes on to "o ( ! saloons4 ,:5 a lady arrives e>ly %e ga9s admission to ! saloon next to ^? res]v$ = ! entree4 ,:5 %e arrives late %e has to take h] place 9 a fur!r room ( ! suite accord+ to ! numb] ( p]sons pres5t4 ,! g5tlem5-at-arms /ation$ at ! door ( ea* room close ! gilt b>ri]s :5 !y consid] ! saloons are full4 ,*airs & b5*es are plac$ 9 ! corridor & 9 ^! saloons = ! accommodation ( ladies ?us wait+ _! turn to ent] ! ,?rone-room or ,pres5ce ,*amb]4 ,z ! ladies quit ea* room = ! ,pres5ce ,*amb]1 o!rs take _! places1 & ! b>ri]s are aga9 clos$1 & ?is is cont9u$ until e "o has be5 receiv$4 ,a lady has to pass ?r\gh ! two entree saloons be=e rea*+ ! ,picture ,gall]y4 ,at ! door ( ! ,picture ,gall]y a lady's tra91 :i* %e has hi!rto c>ri$ on h] arm1 is let d[n by two (ficials 9 att5dance1 & spread out by !m ) _! w&s2 %e %\ld cross ! gall]y ) h] tra9 d[n to ! ,pres5ce ,*amb]1 at ! door ( :i* %e %\ld give ! c>d ( invitation %e has br\ght ) h] to ! (ficial /ation$ !re to receive x4 ,a ,lady on be+ pres5t$1 curtsys to ! ,k+ & curtsys to ! ,que54 ,! ,k+ b[s 9 return1 z does also ! ,que54 ,a lady pres5t$ does n kiss ! ,que5's h&1 z %e =m]ly did4 ,! ,k+ does n %ake h&s ) any pres5t1 h[ev] high _! rank may be1 nei!r does ! ,que5 %ake h&s ) any pres5t4 ,a lady on be+ pres5t$ does n n[ curtsy to any memb] ( ! ,royal ,family :5 %e has pass$ ,_! ,maje/ies1 & leaves ! ,pres5ce ,*amb]1 /epp+ backw>ds1 fac+ ! royal p>ty1 until mak+ h] exit f ! ap>tm5t1 :5 an (ficial places h] tra9 on h] arm at ! ?re%old ( ! doorway4 ,:5 a ,lady wi%es to att5d a ,c\rt1 aft] hav+ be5 duly pres5t$1 x is necess>y to in=m ! ,"l ,*amb]la9 ( h] wi% to att5d4 ,summonses are issu$ ab\t ?ree weeks be=e ! date ( ea* ,c\rt4 ,hav+ receiv$ a summons to att5d a ,c\rt %e %\ld take ! summons c>d ) h]1 :i* %e %\ld %[ to ! page-9-wait+ 9 ! corridor1 & ev5tually h& x to ! (ficial /ation$ at ! door ( ! ,pres5ce ,*amb]1 by :om x is pass$ on to ! ,"l ,*amb]la91 :o ann\nces ! "n to ,_! ,maje/ies4 ,a lady att5d+ a ,c\rt curtsys to ! ,k+2 %e also curtsys to ! ,que51 b does n curtsy to any o!r memb] ( ! ,royal ,family pres5t4 ,9 ! ,g5]al ,circle !re is no ,prec$5cy z to ! ord] 9 :i* ladies att5d+ a ,c\rt ent] ! ,pres5ce ,*amb]4 ,! e>lie/ arrivals are ! fir/ to appe> be=e ,_! ,maje/ies1 )\t ref]5ce to rank or position2 & ! same rule applies to ladies :o are pres5t$1 or to ladies :o make pres5tations4 ,a ,m>ri$ ,lady pres5t$ at a ,c\rt c1 at ! same ,c\rt1 pres5t h] daught] or daught]-9-law2 b 9 ?is case ! "o pres5t$ by h] %\ld ent] ! ,pres5ce ,*amb] aft] h]1 & n be=e h]4 ,al?\gh1 accord+ to pres5t regulations1 ! unm>ri$ daught]s ( memb]s ( ! nobility & g5try :o h already be5 pres5t$ are only expect$ to att5d a ,c\rt once 9 e ?ree ye>s1 x w n prev5t _! be+ invit$ to ,c\rt functions1 to ! ,/ate balls1 conc]ts1 & g>d5 p>ties4 ,ladies :o h be5 pres5t$ at a ,c\rt h ! privilege ( writ+ _! names 9 ,_! ,maje/ies' visit+ book at ,buck+ham ,palace once dur+ ! season4 ,! h\rs ( call+ = ?is purpose are g5]ally f ?ree to five o'clock 9 ! aft]noon4 ,x is ,imp]ative = ,ladies to we> ,full ,c\rt ,dress :5 att5d+ or be+ pres5t$ at a ,c\rt1 viz4 l[ bodice1 %ort sleeves1 & tra9 to dress n less ?an ?ree y>ds 9 l5g? f ! %\ld]s4 ,:e!r ! tra9 is cut r\nd or squ>e is a matt] ( incl9ation or fa%ion4 ,! wid? at ! end %\ld be #ed in*es4 ,x is also imp]ative t a pres5tation-dress %\ld be :ite1 if ! p]son pres5t$ be an unm>ri$ lady2 & x is also ! fa%ion = m>ri$ ladies to we> :ite on _! pres5tation1 unless _! age r5d]s _! do+ s unsuitable4 ,! :ite dresses worn by ei!r debutantes or m>ri$ ladies may be trimm$ ) ei!r col\r$ or :ite fl[]s1 accord+ to individual ta/e4 ,high ,c\rt ,dress4--,! ,que5 has be5 pleas$ to p]mit t a high ,c\rt dress ( silk1 sat91 or velvet1 may be worn at ,_! ,maje/ies' ,c\rts1 & on o!r ,/ate occasions1 by ladies1 to :om1 f illness1 infirmity1 or advanc+ age1 ! pres5t l[ ,c\rt dress is inappropriate1 viz43 ,bodices 9 front1 cut squ>e1 or he>t-%ap$1 :i* may be fill$ 9 ) :ite only1 ei!r transp>5t or l9$2 at ! back1 high1 or cut d[n ?ree-qu>t]s height4 ,sleeves to elb[1 ei!r ?ick or transp>5t4 ,tra9s1 gloves1 & fea!rs z usual4 ,x is necess>y = ladies :o wi% to appe> 9 ,high ,c\rt ,dress to obta9 ,royal p]mission1 ?r\gh ! ,"l ,*amb]la94 ,?is regulation does n apply to ladies :o h already receiv$ p]mission to we> high dress4 ,:ite gloves only %\ld be worn1 except+ 9 case ( m\rn+1 :5 black or grey gloves are admissible4 ,z a lady on pres5tation does n n[ kiss ! ,que5's h& z =m]ly %e did1 %e is n requir$ to remove ! "r-h& glove be=e ent]+ ! ,pres5ce ,*amb]4 ,?is ord]1 !re=e1 is no long] 9 =ce1 & a lady we>+ elb[ gloves & bracelets w f9d x a great conv5i5ce n to be oblig$ to take (f h] glove4 ,x is compulsory = bo? ,m>ri$ & ,unm>ri$ ,ladies to ,we> ,plumes4--,! m>ri$ lady's ,c\rt plume consi/s ( ?ree :ite fea!rs4 ,an unm>ri$ lady's ( two :ite fea!rs4 ,! ?ree :ite fea!rs %\ld be m\nt$ z a ,pr9ce ( ,wales' plume1 & worn t[>ds ! left-h& side ( ! head4 ,col\r$ fea!rs may n be worn4 ,9 deep m\rn+ :ite fea!rs mu/ be worn1 black fea!rs are inadmissible4 ,:ite veils or lace lappets mu/ be worn ) ! fea!rs4 ,! veils %\ld n be long] ?an #de in*es4 ,b\quets are n includ$ 9 ! dress regulations issu$ by ! ,"l ,*amb]la91 al?\gh !y are inv>iably c>ri$ by bo? m>ri$ & unm>ri$ ladies4 ,x is ?us optional to c>ry a b\quet or n1 & "s eld]ly ladies c>ry mu* small] b\quets ?an d y\ng] ladies4 ,a fan & a lace pocket-h&k]*ief are also c>ri$ by a lady on pres5tation or on att5d+ a ,c\rt1 b ^! two items are also altoge!r optional4 ,,*apt] ,,xi ,,pres5tations ,,at ,,levees ,,& ,,att5d+ ,,levees ,levees are held by ! ,k+ 9 p]son4 ,^? :o h be5 pres5t$ at levees held by ,8 late ,maje/y1 ,k+ ,edw>d1 d n require to be aga9 pres5t$ to ,8 ,maje/y ,k+ ,george4 ,f\r or m ,levees are usually held e ye> by ! ,k+ at ,/4 ,james's ,palace4 ,g5tlem5 are (ficially pres5t$ by ! heads ( any dep>tm5t or pr(ession to :i* !y individually belong1 :e!r civil or milit>y1 naval or cl]ical2 x is m usual = a g5tleman to be pres5t$ by ! head ( 8 dep>tm5t1 or by ! colonel ( 8 regim5t1 ?an by 8 ne>e/ relative4 ,pres5tations are also made by ,relatives & fri5ds ( ^? pres5t$2 b ^! are greatly 9 ! m9ority at all levees4 ,g5tlem5 mu/ be aga9 pres5t$ at e /ep 9 _! c>e]1 :e!r civil1 milit>y1 naval1 or cl]ical--on civil appo9tm5ts1 on ga9+ /eps ( naval1 milit>y1 legal1 or cl]ical rank1 & on accession to title1 :e!r inh]it$ or conf]r$4 ,^? entitl$ to be pres5t$ at ,8 ,maje/y's ,levees are ! memb]s ( ! ari/ocracy & g5try1 ! memb]s ( ! diplomatic corps1 ! ,cab9et1 & all lead+ ,gov]nm5t (ficials1 ,memb]s ( ,p>liam5t1 lead+ memb]s ( ! legal pr(ession1 ! naval & milit>y pr(essions1 ! lead+ memb]s ( ! cl]ical pr(ession1 ! lead+ memb]s ( ! m$ical & arti/ic pr(essions1 ! lead+ bank]s1 m]*ants1 & memb]s ( ! ,/ock ,ex*ange1 & p]sons engag$ 9 comm]ce on a l>ge scale4 ,an exception to ! rule z reg>ds retail trade is made 9 fav\r ( any p]son receiv+ ,knigh?ood1 or :5 hold+ ! (fice ( ,mayor1 or be+ made a ,ju/ice ( ! ,peace1 or on receiv+ a ,commission 9 ! ,t]ritorial =ces4 ,! dates on :i* levees are to be held are duly ann\nc$ 9 ! ,gazette1 & 9 ! daily newspap]s4 ,at all future levees c>ds ( admission w be requir$1 z ! numb]s at ea* ( ^! c]emonies mu/ be limit$4 ,! ,"l ,*amb]la9 has issu$ ! foll[+ revis$ li/ ( rules1 :i* are to be obs]v$ at att5dances & pres5tations 9 future-- ,all (fic]s1 :e!r on ! active or retir$ li/s1 ( ! ,royal ,navy & ! ,royal ,m>9es1 ( :atev] rank1 %\ld communicate ) & obta9 _! c>ds f ! private secret>y to ! ,fir/ ,"l ( ! ,admiralty4 ,all civil (fic]s ( ! ,admiralty %\ld foll[ ! same rule4 ,all (fic]s1 :e!r on ! active or retir$ li/s1 ( ! ,army1 ,regul>s or ,t]ritorials1 ( :atev] rank1 except ^? on ! ,indian & ,colonial ,e/abli%m5ts1 %\ld communicate ) & obta9 _! c>ds f ! ,adjutant-,g5]al at ! ,w> ,(fice1 /at+ cle>ly at :i* levee !y desire to be pres5t1 & :e!r !y wi% to att5d or to be pres5t$2 if ! latt]1 /at+ by :om & on :at occasion4 ,deputy lieut5ants ( c\nties %\ld also communicate & obta9 _! c>ds f ! ,w> ,(fice4 ,(fic]s ( ! ,h\sehold ,cavalry & ,foot ,gu>ds on ! active li/ %\ld make application to ! ,"l ,*amb]la9 at ,/4 ,james's ,palace = c>ds ( admission & pres5tation4 ,all retir$ ,(fic]s ( ! ,h\sehold ,cavalry & ,brigade ( ,gu>ds %\ld apply to ! ,w> ,(fice4 ,all (fic]s ( ! ,indian ,civil ,s]vice & ( ! ,indian ,army1 ( :atev] rank1 :e!r on ! active or retir$ li/s1 %\ld communicate ) & obta9 _! c>ds f ! private secret>y to ! ,secret>y ( ,/ate at ! ,india ,(fice1 ,:itehall4 ,all (fic]s ( ! ,colonial s]vice & ,colonial =ces1 ( :atev] rank1 :e!r on ! active or retir$ li/s1 %\ld communicate ) & obta9 _! c>ds f ! ,colonial ,(fice1 ,:itehall4 ,simil>ly1 all g5tlem5 connect$ ) ! ,=eign ,(fice1 ! ,home ,(fice1 (ficials connect$ ) ! ,h\ses ( ,p>liam5t1 or any ,gov]nm5t dep>tm5t1 %\ld communicate ) & obta9 _! c>ds = att5dance or pres5tation at levees f ! dep>tm5t "u :i* !y s]ve4 ,judges1 law (fic]s1 ,k+'s ,c\nsel1 & all legal (ficials hold+ appo9tm5ts "u ! ,cr[n are reque/$ to make _! applications ?r\gh ! secret>y to ! ,"l ,*ancellor4 ,pe]s1 bi%ops1 ,lords-,lieut5ants ( ,c\nties1 ,memb]s ( ,p>liam5t1 cl]gy ( all d5om9ations1 & all g5tlem51 o!r ?an ! above-m5tion$1 %\ld communicate ) ! ,"l ,*amb]la9 at ,/4 ,james's ,palace1 :5 !y w ea* be furni%$ ) a c>d ( admission = use at ! levee4 ,! names bo? = att5dance & pres5tation mu/ be receiv$ at ! v>i\s (fices above indicat$ n lat] ?an eight days prior to ! date ( ea* levee1 b 9 ! case ( (fic]s1 :o make application to ! ,w> ,(fice1 f\rte5 days be=e ! date ( ea* levee4 ,:5 a ,g5tleman makes a ,pres5tation x is compulsory = him to att5d ! same levee z ! p]son :om he pres5ts1 & ! c>d ( pres5tation is s5t to him to be =w>d$ to ! p]son to be pres5t$4 ,a ,g5tleman on be+ pres5t$ %\ld b[ to ! ,k+1 & ,8 ,maje/y w b[ to him 9 return4 ,g5tlem5 att5d+ a levee %\ld also b[ to ,8 ,maje/y4 ,g5tlem5 :o h be5 pres5t$ at a levee h ! privilege ( writ+ _! names 9 ,8 ,maje/y's visit+ book at ,buck+ham ,palace once dur+ ! season4 ,! h\rs ( call+ = ?is purpose are g5]ally f ?ree to five o'clock 9 ! aft]noon4 ,! ,dress to be worn at ,c\rts1 ,/ate ,functions & ,levees4--,full dress uni=m is inv>iably worn by all g5tlem5 entitl$ to we> x4 ,all (fic]s ( ,scotti% kilt$ corps %\ld we> ! kilt irrespective ( _! be+ m\nt$ (fic]s or n4 ,g5tlem5 :o d n we> uni=m may we> ei!r velvet ,c\rt dress1 new /yle2 velvet ,c\rt dress1 old /yle2 clo? ,c\rt dress4 ,! new /yle velvet ,c\rt dress is ( black silk velvet4 ,! body ( ! coat l9$ ) :ite silk & ! skirt ) black silk4 ,/eel buttons4 ,wai/coat ( :ite sat9 or black silk velvet4 ,bree*es ( black silk velvet1 black silk hose1 pat5t lea!r %oes1 /eel buckl$2 :ite b[ necktie1 :ite gloves1 sword1 black beav] or silk cock$ hat4 ,! velvet ,c\rt dress1 old /yle1 is v simil> to ! =ego+1 ) ! addition ( a black silk wig-bag at ! back ( ! neck1 & lace frills & ruffles4 ,! clo? ,c\rt dress consi/s ( a coat ( d>k mulb]ry1 cl>et1 or gre5 clo? ) black silk l9+s1 gold embroid]y on coll>1 cuffs1 & pocket flaps1 gilt buttons ) ,imp]ial ,cr[n2 wai/coat ( :ite cord$ silk or :ite ,m>cella2 bree*es ( clo?1 col\r ( coat2 black silk hose1 pat5t lea!r %oes1 sword1 :ite b[ necktie1 :ite gloves1 black beav] or silk cock$ hat4 ,levee dress is id5tical ) ! =ego+ except t tr\s]s--) a r[ ( n>r[ gold lace d[n ! side seams--are worn1 & n bree*es4 ,milit>y pat5t lea!r boots4 ,ar*bi%ops & ,bi%ops at ,levees & ,c\rts we> ,convocation robes1 viz4 sc>let clo? *im]e1 )\t hood2 purple cassock & sa%1 lawn ro*et ) sleeves1 :ite cambric b&s1 black silk sc>f1 black bree*es1 silv] knee buckles1 black silk /ock+s1 %oes ) silv] buckles2 purple or black velvet squ>e s(t cap to be c>ri$4 ,at ,ev5+ ,/ate ,functions & ,full ,dress ,d9n]s !y we> a purple clo? ,c\rt coat ov] a %ort cassock or apron1 sa% ( purple silk1 black bree*es1 black silk /ock+s1 %oes ) silv] buckles2 black cord$ silk ?ree-corn]$ hat to be c>ri$4 ,deans & ,ar*deacons at ,ev5+ ,/ate ,functions we> ! same dress z bi%ops except t ! coat & %ort cassock are black4 ,doctors ( ,div9ity at ,levees & ,c\rts we> ! sc>let clo? robe ( _! ,univ]sity1 )\t hood4 ,cl]gy if n ,doctors ( ,div9ity at ,levees & ,c\rts we> full canonicals1 t is1 a black silk ,g5eva g[n1 d\ble-brea/$2 black silk long cassock & sa%1 sc>f & :ite lawn b&s1 black bree*es1 silv] knee buckles1 black silk /ock+s1 %oes ) silv] buckles1 black cord$ silk ?ree-corn]$ hat4 ,at ,full ,dress ,d9n]s & ,ev5+ ,/ate ,p>ties :5 canonicals are n worn1 !y we> a black clo? ,c\rt coat1 cassock1 wai/coat ( black cord$ silk1 black bree*es1 black silk /ock+s1 %oes1 silv] buckles2 black cord$ silk ?ree-corn]$ hat to be c>ri$4 ,:ite gloves are worn at all ,c\rt functions4 ,! academical habit %\ld n be worn at ,c\rt except :5 addresses are pres5t$ f ! ,univ]sities4 ,:5 ! ,c\rt is 9 m\rn+1 g5tlem5 att5d+ a levee are expect$ to we> a b& ( black crape on ! left arm above ! elb[4 ,,*apt] ,,xii ,,balls ,,& ,,/ate ,,balls ,balls are giv5 9 t[n & c\ntry by society at l>ge1 & ^! invitation balls include ,hunt ,balls1 ,milit>y & ,naval ,balls1 ,yeomanry & ,t]ritorial ,balls1 ,ba*elors' ,balls1 etc4 ,public ,balls are ^? balls = :i* tickets ( admission c be pur*as$1 al?\gh = _m ( ^! balls x is necess>y to obta9 v\*]s f ! committees or patronesses1 :5 held 9 t[n or at wat]+-places4 ,public balls include ,c\nty ,balls1 ,*>ity ,balls1 & ,subscription ,balls1 etc4 ,9 ,t[n1 ,ball-giv+ is 9 a way a sci5ce1 & an amusem5t ^u :i* l>ge sums ( money are frequ5tly exp5d$4 ,a ,cr[d$ ,ball is n always pron\nc$ a good ball by ! gue/s1 (t5 ! contr>y1 b !n1 aga91 :at is t]m$ a ?9 ball is op5 to ! accusation ( n go+ (f well1 & fall+ r flat2 ( n be+ kept up ) _s1 & ( be+ consid]$ a /upid ball1 & s on4 ,to hit ^u a happy m$ium ) reg>d to ! numb] ( gue/s is an a*ievem5t 9 ball-giv+ :i* is only arriv$ at by a c>eful /udy ( ! map ( ! c\nty1 & a judici\s selection ( night4 ,?is selection is ( p>am\nt importance to ! success ( a ball1 z :5 a sm>t] ball is giv5 at a sm>t] h\se on ! p>ticul> ev5+ *os5 by ! giv] ( a less brilliant ball1 ! gr&] ball ext+ui%es ! less] ball1 ?r\gh ! mo/ fa%ionable p m]ely look+ 9 at ! "o1 & rema9+ ! re/ ( ! ev5+ at ! o!r4 ,?is putt+ out z x 7 ( ! less] light1 occurs v frequ5tly dur+ ! ,london season to ball-giv]s mov+ 9 ! same sets4 ,! gue/s :o h be5 expect$ to add lu/re to ! less] balls appe> b = a few m9utes1 & usually arrive r e>ly1 uncomplim5t>ily e>ly1 at p]haps a little be=e elev51 & rema9 h>dly half an h\r 9 ! rooms1 mak+ _! way to ano!r ball ( ! same calibre1 & rema9+ !re p]haps ano!r tw5ty m9utes1 be=e arriv+ at ! goal1 viz4 ! ball ( ! ev5+4 ,bo? ladies & g5tlem5 foll[ ?is practice1 ?us1 at a little aft] twelve1 an av]age ball-giv] f9ds h] rooms des]t$ by all b ^? :o h n[h]e else to g4 ,al?\gh ! flitt+ ( ! gue/s ?us e>ly is a disappo9tm5t to ! ho/ess1 & al?\gh x does n prev5t ! fleet+ ball-giv]s f mak+ suitable returns by plac+ ! family on _! ball li/s1 x yet greatly m>s ! enjoym5t ( ! ball1 & prev5ts its be+ look$ back ^u ) any?+ approa*+ to pleasure or satisfaction1 ! dep>ture ( ! mo/ eligible p>tn]s be+ n ! lea/ ( ! vexations ( ! night4 ,^! contretemps are sometimes unavoidable2 b1 :5 practicable1 x is always be/ to po/pone a ball r ?an to all[ x to cla% ) a ball ( great] pret5sions4 ,an impromptu dance is (t5 a great success1 :ile an impromptu ball is almo/ z c]ta9 to prove a great failure4 ,! ,diff]5ce betwe5 a ,dance & a ,ball consi/s 9 ! numb] ( ! invitations issu$1 9 ! /r5g? ( ! b&1 & ! ext5t ( ! supp] arrangem5ts4 ,at a dance ! numb] ( ! gue/s v>ies f eighty to two hundr$2 at a ball !y v>y f two hundr$ to five hundr$4 ,at a dance a piano b& is frequ5tly engag$1 :ile at a ball a full b& is requisite4 ,at a ball ! floral decorations are a great feature1 at a small dance !y are (t5 disp5s$ )4 ,ladies new to society z x 71 or ^: circle ( acqua9tance is ( a limit$ "*1 & :o d n numb] 9 t circle _m ball-giv]s1 & :o yet desire to =m a ball acqua9tance1 frequ5tly place _! ball 9 ! h&s ( "s intimate fri5d ( high] /&+ ?an !mselves1 giv+ h] c>te blan*e to =m a ball li/4 ,:5 ?is plan is foll[$1 invitations are /ill s5t out by ! ball-giv]2 9 e case ! "n & complim5ts ( ! lady :o =ms ! li/ are s5t ) ! c>d4 ,?is plan1 al?\gh ( advantage to ! ho/ess1 is (t5 productive ( mu* unpleasantness to h] unfa%ionable fri5ds1 :o are naturally v mu* affront$ at be+ exclud$ f ! ball li/1 :i* !y usually are1 z a lady :o und]takes to =m a ball li/ = a fri5d is n a little arbitr>y z to ! conditions "u :i* %e assumes its managem5t4 ,%e naturally wi%es ! ball to be conf9$ to h] own set1 to ! exclusion ( :at %e t]ms all outsid]s4 ,ladies are always m or less reluctant to yield up _! ball to ! exclusion ( _! old fri5ds1 h[ev] anxi\s !y may be to make new ones4 ,b :5 a ball is ?us giv5 x is ?or\ghly und]/ood t conditions1 h[ev] /r+5t1 mu/ be compli$ )4 ,a ,ho/ess %\ld receive h] ,gue/s at ! head ( ! /aircase at a ball giv5 9 t[n1 & at ! door ( ! ball-room at a c\ntry h\se ball4 ,%e %\ld %ake h&s ) ea* gue/ 9 ! ord] ( _! arrival4 ,! ladies ( a p>ty %\ld advance t[>ds ! ho/ess1 foll[$ by ! g5tlem5 ( _! p>ty4 ,a lady & g5tleman %\ld n asc5d ! /aircase arm-9-arm1 or make _! entrance into ! ball-room arm-9-arm4 ,! g5tlem5 inv>iably ent] ! ball-room aft] ! ladies ( _! p>ty1 & nev] be=e !m1 or arm-9-arm ) !m4 ,a ball is usually op5$ ei!r by ! ho/ess h]self1 or by "o ( h] daught]s4 ,op5+ a ,fancy ,dress ,ball simply signifies danc+ 9 ! fir/ quadrille4 ,op5+ a dance means danc+ ! fir/ valse4 ,:5 a memb] ( ! ,royal ,family1 or a =eign pr9ce1 is expect$1 danc+ %\ld n comm5ce until ! arrival ( ! royal gue/2 & :5 ! royal gue/ is a lady1 ! ho/ %\ld op5 ! ball ) h]1 hav+ 8 wife or daught] z vis-a-vis4 ,:5 ! royal gue/ is a pr9ce1 ! ho/ess or h] daught] %\ld op5 ! ball ) him4 ,:5 a pr9ce wi%es to dance ) any lady pres5t1 ) :om he is unacqua9t$1 8 equ]ry in=ms h] ( ! pr9ce's int5tion1 & conducts h] to ! pr9ce1 say+ z he does s1 ,mrs4 ,a----1 y\r ,royal ,highness or ,miss ,b----1 y\r ,royal ,highness4 ,! pr9ce b[s & (f]s h] 8 arm2 ! lady %\ld curtsy & take x4 ,%e %\ld n address him until address$ by him1 x n be+ consid]$ etiquette to d s4 ,! same c\rse is foll[$ by a pr9cess2 /rang]s to ! pr9cess %\ld n ask h] to dance1 b ! ho/ has ! privilege ( do+ s4 ,:5 m ?an "o royal p]sonage is pres5t1 ! "o ( ! highe/ rank leads ! way1 ) ei!r ho/ess or ho/4 7,see ,*apt] ,v47 ,royal ,gue/s %\ld be receiv$ by ! ho/ & ho/ess at ! entrance ( ! mansion1 & by !m conduct$ to ! ball-room4 ,at ball-supp]s ! same prec$5ce is /rictly 9 =ce1 ! royal gue/s lead+ ! way ) ho/ or ho/ess 7see p4 #di74 ,! same etiquette %\ld be obs]v$ on ! dep>ture ( royal gue/s z on _! arrival4 ,g5]al ,introductions %\ld n be made to royal gue/s1 & introductions %\ld be made by reque/ only4 ,g5tlem5 pres5t at a ball are expect$ to ask ! daught]s ( ! h\se = "o dance at lea/4 ,a ho/ess %\ld use h] own discretion z to any introduction %e ?9ks prop] to make4 ,:5 a ball is giv5 9 ! c\ntry1 ! ho/ess %\ld endeav\r to f9d p>tn]s = ^? "y ladies :o are /rang]s to ! g5]al company4 ,b :5 a ball is giv5 9 t[n1 %e is n expect$ to d s1 z 9 t[n ! gue/s are suppos$ to be acqua9t$ ) ea* o!r m or less1 & to be indep5d5t ( ! k9d (fices ( a ho/ess4 ,! ,dances ma9ly 9 vogue at ! mom5t are1 ,valses1 ,! ,bo/on1 ,two ,/eps1 & ,! ,cotillon1 9 :i* h&some pres5ts are giv54 ,quadrilles are danc$ at ,/ate ,balls1 & at ^? balls at :i* ! ,k+ & ,que5 are pres5t4 ,also at ,fancy ,dress ,balls4 ,lanc]s are danc$ occasionally at ,hunt ,balls4 ,! ,prec$5cy obs]v$ 9 s5d+ gue/s 9 to supp] is f> m punctili\sly foll[$ 9 ! c\ntry ?an 9 t[n4 ,! ho/ %\ld take 9 ! lady ( highe/ rank pres5t1 & ! ho/ess %\ld endeav\r to s5d 9 ! pr9cipal gue/s accord+ to _! individual rank2 b 9 t[n %e g5]ally leaves ! gue/s to foll[ ! ho/ & lady ( highe/ rank accord+ to _! incl9ations1 a gue/ %\ld n ent] ! supp]-room be=e ! ho/ has done s4 ,:5 a g5tleman takes a lady 9 to supp]1 he %\ld re-conduct h] to ! ball-room z a matt] ( c\rse2 ! fact ( fri5ds jo9+ h] 9 ! supp]-room w\ld n relieve him f ?is obligation4 ,& ! same etiquette applies equally to a lady4 ,%e %\ld return to ! ball-room only ) ! g5tleman :o has tak5 h] d[n to supp]1 unless %e is engag$ = ! ensu+ dance1 :5 h] p>tn] might come 9 que/ ( h]2 %e %\ld !n return to ! ball-room ) him4 ,x is n usual = gue/s to take leave ( a ho/ess at a ,london ball4 ,?is rem>k applies to acqua9tances ( ! ho/ess1 & n to intimate fri5ds4 ,at a c\ntry ball ! gue/s are on a m fri5dly foot+ ?an is g5]ally ! case 9 t[n2 &1 !re=e1 make a po9t ( tak+ leave ( ! ho/ess if possible4 ,x is optional :e!r a ho/ conducts a lady to h] c>riage or n4 ,9 ! c\ntry m is expect$ ( him ?an 9 t[n 9 ?is respect1 z at a ,london ball1 su* a civility w\ld involve a va/ am\nt ( ex]tion :i* few ho/s w\ld be will+ to und]go3 ladies accompani$ by an acqua9tance g5]ally make _! way to _! c>riages4 ,! ,cu/om ( cov]+ 9 ,small ,balconies & ! w9d[s ( ! draw+-rooms :]e a ball takes place1 r5d]+ ! atmosph]e ( ! room almo/ insupportable f ! total exclusion ( air1 is fa/ disappe>+4 ,! space ga9$ by ?is means = ! accommodation ( ! gue/s is totally disproportionate to ! discom=t !reby entail$ ^u !m4 ,ball-giv]s h at l5g? realis$ ! mi/ake ( cr[d+ two hundr$ to ?ree hundr$ p toge!r into rooms n prop]ly v5tilat$1 & x is n[ ! rule1 :5 cov]+ 9 balconies1 to introduce w9d[ frames into ! bunt+ cov]+1 & to drape !m ) lace curta9s1 etc41 ! w9d[s ( ! ball-room be+ entirely remov$4 ,l>ge blocks ( ice are frequ5tly plac$ 9 conv5i5t spots = ! purpose ( cool+ ! atmosph]e1 & col\r$ ice produces a pretty effect4 ,pat5t v5tilators are also mu* 9 use1 & ! sub/itution ( electric light+1 on acc\nt ( its emitt+ little heat1 has become g5]al4 ,ball-go]s appreciate ^! alt]ations z only ^? :o h exp]i5c$ ! close1 /ifl+ atmosph]e ( an ov]-cr[d$ ball-room c d1 & z half ! ,london ball-rooms are only av]age-siz$ draw+-rooms1 ! absurdity ( exclud+ air f ! ball-room ) y>ds ( ?ick canvas _c be too sev]ely criticis$4 ,ball-giv]s1 too1 frequ5tly issue f> m invitations ?an ! size ( _! rooms au?orises1 "u ! mi/ak5 idea t to h a great cr[d 9 _! rooms is to give a good ball4 ,b exp]i5c$ ball-giv]s limit ! numb] ( _! invitations to "u two hundr$1 in/ead ( exp&+ x to ov] ?ree hundr$4 ,! ,c\ntry ,ball ,season o/5sibly comm5ces 9 ,novemb]1 rea*es its z5i? 9 ,janu>y1 & t]m9ates e>ly 9 ,febru>y4 ,! /ew>ds ( ^! balls are1 z a rule1 ! repres5tatives ( ! v>i\s classes by :om !y are att5d$2 ! memb]s ( ! ari/ocracy resid+ 9 ! c\nty head+ ! li/ ( /ew>ds1 & ! memb]s ( ! pr(essional classes usually clos+ x4 ,! top ( ! ball-room is1 z a rule1 appropriat$ by ! ari/ocratic elem5t1 head /ew>ds & lady patronesses4 ,! enjoym5t d]iv$ f c\ntry balls dep5ds ^u a v>iety ( circum/ances1 :i* d n influ5ce 9 a l degree ! ball-go+ _w ( ,london4 ,c\nty ,balls are pr9cipally compos$ ( a s]ies ( l>ge p>ties br\ght by diff]5t ladies 9 ! neighb\rhood :]e ! ball is held2 b !re are two classes ( c\nty balls1 balls :i* are held 9 l>ge & popul\s t[ns & att5d$ by ! pr9cipal resid5ts ( ! t[ns1 ) only a small spr9kl+ ( ! c\nty ari/ocracy & c\nty g5try4 ,!re are also ,hunt ,balls & annual ,*>ity ,balls :i* take place betwe5 ,octob] & ,febru>y1 & :i* are an amalgamation ( bo? classes ( balls4 ,! neighb\rhood :]e a ball is held is a suffici5t indication z to :e!r x is likely to be a sm>t "o or n4 ,z a rule ! lead+ ladies ( a c\nty l5d _! names z patronesses & support]s ( a *>ity ball1 al?\gh x by no means foll[s t !y w p]sonally att5d x2 b a long li/ ( influ5tial patronesses mat]ially increases ! sale ( tickets1 :i* is ! result to be a*iev$4 ,a l>ge att5dance is n ! prim>y object ( a c\nty ball1 z ! sum rais$ by ! sale ( tickets is only requir$ to defray ! exp5ses ( ! ball1 al?\gh ^! are sometimes consid]able1 especially :5 ! decorations are elaborate1 & ! arrangem5ts on a gr& scale1 9 :i* case !re is n seldom a defici5cy r ?an a surplus1 :i* defici5cy is defray$ by ! /ew>ds !mselves4 ,to ensure a good ball consid]able unanimity on ! "p ( ! c\nty ladies is dem&$1 & !y usually meet & consult toge!r previ\s to fix+ ! date ( ! ball1 to take into consid]ation ! fixtures ( neighb\r+ c\nty balls1 & s avoid ! possibility ( ! said balls cla%+ ) _! own c\nty ball1 & also ) a view ( p]haps attract+ ! h\se p>ties ( _! m di/ant neighb\rs to swell ! numb]s at _! own ball4 ,h\se p>ties invit$ = a ball v>y f t5 to tw5ty-five1 z ! accommodation ( a h\se admits4 ,x is n ! prov9ce ( ! /ew>ds ( a ball to f9d p>tn]s = ei!r ladies or g5tlem51 & !re=e1 if a lady does n =m "o ( a l>ge p>ty1 b m]ely att5ds a c\nty ball ) a relative or fri5d1 & has n a l>ge acqua9tance among/ ^! pres5t1 %e has v little *ance ( obta9+ p>tn]s4 ,"y ladies d n n[ return to _! *ap]ons aft] ea* dance1 or aft] !y h be5 to ! tea-room4 ,a g5tleman %\ld (f] 8 arm to 8 p>tn] at ! conclusion ( a dance to conduct h] to ! tea-room4 ,9 r\nd dances1 x is cu/om>y to take frequ5t pauses1 & n to race r\nd ! ball-room until ! music ceases4 ,at c\ntry balls programmes are inv>iably us$2 at ,london balls !y are nev] us$1 save at public balls4 ,c\nty balls usually comm5ce betwe5 n9e & t5 o'clock1 sometimes a ball is n op5$ until ! mo/ influ5tial ( ! /ew>ds & _! p>ties h arriv$1 b (t5] ?an n ! two fir/ dances are ov] be=e ! arrival ( ! c\nty magnates4 ,x dep5ds ^u ! l5g? ( ! drive at :at "t p arrive at a ball2 z a rule1 !y d n arrive lat] ?an #aj4cj p4m4 ,! usual mode ( convey+ a h\se-p>ty to a ball is by private omnibus 9 addition to c>riages & motor-c>s2 b :5 ^! are hir$ = ! occasion ! exp5se %\ld be defray$ by ! gue/s !mselves4 ,x is usual to leave a c\ntry ball n lat] ?an half-pa/ two2 ! mo/ fa%ionable p inv>iably d s ab\t t h\r4 ,z a matt] ( c\rse p]sons att5d+ public balls take _! ball tickets ) !m4 ,:5 att5d+ a ,milit>y ,ball1 or a ,hunt ,ball1 x is usually ! rule to take ! invitation c>d & h& x to ! s]geant or (ficial 9 att5dance4 ,x is sometimes /at$ on ! invitation c>d t ?is is to be done1 al?\gh x is (t5 tak5 = grant$ t p]sons w d s ( _! own accord4 ,at balls giv5 by private individuals1 ! invit$ gue/s %\ld n br+ _! invitation c>ds ) !m1 unless 9 ! case ( a bal masque1 :]e !y are sometimes reque/$ to d s4 ,9 giv+ a ball ?ree weeks' notice is consid]$ necess>y1 b ) reg>d to a dance a %ort t5 days' notice w\ld suffice4 ,! ,invitation ,c>d is ! usual at home c>d1 ! ^w ,danc+ be+ pr9t$ 9 ! corn] ( ! c>d4 ,! ^w ball %\ld nev] be us$ on an invitation c>d1 h[ev] gr& ! ent]ta9m5t2 & ! same =m ( invitation is employ$ ei!r 9 ! case ( a small dance or ( a l>ge ball1 ?\gh 9 ! ev5t ( a small dance only be+ giv51 ! words ,small or ,e>ly %\ld be writt5 or pr9t$ on ! invitation c>d4 ,invitations to a ball %\ld be issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! ho/ess only4 ,:5 ! ho/ is a wid[]1 ) a gr[n-up daught]1 ! invitations %\ld be issu$ 9 _! jo9t names4 ,:5 ! ho/ is a wid[]1 or a ba*elor1 !y %\ld be issu$ 9 8 "n4 ,invitations issu$ by (fic]s1 memb]s ( hunt committees1 ba*elors1 etc41 to _! balls1 ei!r reque/ ! pleasure or ! hon\r ( ,mrs4 ----'s company2 b ?is =mula %\ld n be us$ by ladies :5 issu+ invitations2 ! at home c>d %\ld simply be> ! ^w ,danc+ on ! bottom ( ! c>d1 ! h\r & date fill$ 9 9 ! allott$ space1 ! "n ( ! gue/ writt5 at ! top ( ! c>d4 ,9 ! case ( a writt5 invitation1 x w\ld be correct to use ! words ball or dance :5 allud+ to ! ent]ta9m5t ab\t to be giv51 9 a fri5dly note4 ,a lady or g5tleman might ask = an invitation = 8 or h] fri5d to a ball giv5 by an acqua9tance1 al?\gh ! acqua9tance%ip 7 ( a slight "*2 b a lady or g5tleman %\ld n ask = an invitation to a ball if unacqua9t$ ) ! giv] ( x4 ,! fact ( mutual fri5ds hav+ receiv$ invitations to a ball gives no claim ^u ! hospitality ( a /rang]1 !re=e su* reque/s are inadmissible4 ,! prop] c\rse = a p]son to pursue 9 ! ev5t ( desir+ an invitation to a ball giv5 by "s "o ) :om he or %e is unacqua9t$1 is to reque/ "s mutual fri5d to obta9 "o2 & ?is c\rse is always foll[$4 ,c>ds %\ld be left by ! gue/s pres5t at a ball )9 ! curr5t week if possible4 7,see ,*apt] ,,iii47 ,gratuities %\ld nev] be giv5 by ! gue/s to ! s]vants ( ! h\se :]e a ball is giv54 ,/ate ,balls4--,two ,/ate ,balls are annually giv5 at ,buck+ham ,palace dur+ ! ,london season by comm& ( ,8 ,maje/y4 ,invitations are issu$ by ! ,"l ,*amb]la91 b ,8 ,maje/y previ\sly revises ! li/4 ,:5 ladies & g5tlem5 att5d a ,/ate ,ball at ,buck+ham ,palace !y make _! way to ! ball-room unann\nc$2 & !re is no (ficial reception accord$ to !m1 ei!r by ,royalty or by ! ,"l ,*amb]la94 ,danc+ does n comm5ce until ! arrival ( ! royal p>ty1 :5 ! gue/s rise & rema9 /&+ :ile ! ,royal ,quadrille--) :i* ! ball op5s--is be+ danc$4 ,! ,k+ & ,que5 act z ho/ & ho/ess on ^! occasions1 b conf9e _! att5tions to ^? ) :om !y are p]sonally acqua9t$4 ,ladies att5d+ a ,/ate ,ball at ,buck+ham ,palace %\ld we> ! usual full ev5+ dress2 b !y %\ld n we> ,c\rt tra9s1 or plumes1 or lappets4 ,g5tlem5 att5d+ ,/ate ,balls %\ld we> uni=m or full ,c\rt dress--dress coat1 bree*es & silk /ock+s1 %oes & buckles2 tr\s]s c only be worn z "p ( a uni=m1 & n ) a ,c\rt dress z g5]ally worn at a levee4 ,a g5tleman int5d+ to dance %\ld remove 8 sword1 o!rwise he %\ld n d s4 ,:5 ! ,c\rt is 9 m\rn+1 ladies att5d+ a ,/ate ,ball %\ld we> m\rn+ accord+ to ! (ficial notice :i* duly appe>s 9 ! ,gazette4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld we> crape on ! left arm1 :i* is suppli$ 9 ! cloak-room ( ! ,palace to ^? :o h =gott5 to provide !mselves ) x1 z x is imp]ative1 :5 ! ,c\rt is 9 m\rn+1 t a b& ( crape %\ld be worn at ei!r ,/ate ,ball or ,/ate ,conc]t4 ,! balls giv5 by ! pr9ces & pr9cesses ( ! blood royal are n ,/ate ,balls1 !re=e ,c\rt dress is n worn by ! g5tlem5 pres5t4 ,!y act z ho/ & ho/ess at ! balls giv5 by !m & receive _! gue/s1 %ak+ h&s ) !m z !y are ann\nc$4 ,ladies & g5tlem5 d n take _! c>ds ( invitation ) !m to ,buck+ham ,palace4 ,,*apt] ,,xiii ,,d9n] ,,giv+ ,,& ,,d9+ ,,out ,d9n] giv+ is p]haps ! mo/ important ( all social obs]vances1 !re=e d9n]-p>ties rank fir/ among/ all ent]ta9m5ts4 ,d9n] giv+ is s ?or\ghly und]/ood to re/ ^u ! pr9ciple ( an equival5t1 t ^? :o d n give d9n]s h>dly come )9 ! category ( d9]s out4 ,?is rule1 h[ev]1 is op5 to _m exceptions 9 fav\r ( privileg$ individuals1 popul> & prom95t memb]s ( society ^: pres5ce at d9n]-p>ties is appreciat$ & welcom$ 9 mo/ circles4 ,d9n]-p>ties are ( m frequ5t occurr5ce1 & are ( m social significance1 ?an any o!r =m ( ent]ta9m5t4 ,d9n] ,invitations4--,an invitation to d9n] conveys a great] m>k ( e/eem1 or fri5d%ip & cordiality1 t[>ds ! gue/ invit$1 ?an is convey$ by an invitation to any o!r social ga!r+1 x be+ ! highe/ complim5t1 socially speak+1 t is (f]$ by "o p]son to ano!r4 ,x is also a civility t c be readily int]*ang$1 :i* 9 itself gives x an advantage ov] all o!r civilities4 ,! or?odox d9n] giv] mu/ necess>ily possess a c]ta9 am\nt ( weal?1 & weal? & wit d n always g h& 9 h&4 ,(t5] ?an n1 ! =m] r ov]weights ! latt]2 h5ce1 ! introduction ( a light] elem5t 9 ! =m ( amus+ p ^: meti] 9 life x is to be amus+ & to appe> amus$4 ,d9n] giv+ is 9 itself n only a te/ ( ! position occupi$ 9 society by ! d9n] giv]1 b x is also a direct road to obta9+ a recognis$ place 9 society4 ,a means ( enl>g+ a limit$ acqua9tance & a reputation = giv+ good d9n]s is 9 itself a passport to fa%ionable society4 ,d9n] giv+1 9 ! fulle/ s5se ( ! ^w1 is a sci5ce n easily acquir$1 s mu* dep5d+ on ! tal5t :i* ! ho/ or ho/ess may possess = organis+ d9n]-p>ties4 ,:5 a l>ge d9n]-p>ty is contemplat$1 x is usual to give ?ree weeks' notice1 b ( late ?is notice has be5 ext5d$ to f\r1 five1 & ev5 six weeks4 ,d9]s out are r incl9$ to rebel aga9/ ?is innovation1 consid]+ t an invitation be>+ ! date ( a mon? h5ce pl$ges !m to rema9 9 t[n1 & z x 7 controls _! movem5ts1 = ! acceptance ( an invitation is 9 ! eyes ( d9]s out a b9d+ obligation2 only ill-heal?1 family b]eavem5t1 or "s all-important reason ju/ifies its be+ set on "o side or o!rwise evad$4 ,^? inconsid]ate en\gh to make trivial excuses at ! la/ mom5t are n (t5 reta9$ on ! d9n]-li/ ( a ho/ or ho/ess4 ,d9n] invitations are issu$ 9 ! jo9t names ( ho/ & ho/ess4 ,! ma/] ( ! h\se occupies a prom95t position among/ 8 gue/s1 :5 disp5s+ hospitality z a d9n] giv]4 ,f five to t5 days' notice is consid]$ suffici5t = invitations to small & unc]emoni\s d9n]-p>ties4 ,pr9t$ c>ds are 9 g5]al use 9 t[n = issu+ d9n] invitations1 & c be pur*as$ f any /ation]2 ^! c>ds only require to be fill$ 9 ) ! names ( ho/ & ho/ess & gue/s1 date1 h\r1 & address4 ,! unit$ names ( ! ho/ & ho/ess %\ld be writt5 9 ! space left = t purpose4 ,?us1 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,a41 & ! "n or names ( ! gue/s 9 ! next vacant space4 ,:5 invitations are issu$ = small d9n]-p>ties1 x is m usual to write notes ?an to make use ( pr9t$ c>ds4 ,acceptances or refusals ( d9n] invitations %\ld be s5t ) z little delay z possible aft] ! invitations h be5 receiv$4 ,x is a want ( c\rtesy on ! "p ( a p]son invit$ n to d s1 z a ho/ess is o!rwise left 9 d\bt z to :e!r ! p]son invit$ int5ds d9+ ) h] or n1 & is consequ5tly unable to fill up ! vacant place ) an eligible sub/itute2 ?us r5d]+ h] d9n]-p>ty an ill-assort$ "o4 ,an answ] to an invitation _c be solicit$ 9 a subsequ5t note2 x is !re=e incumb5t ^u ! invit$ p]son to dispat* an answ] )9 a day or two at lea/4 ,d9n] invitations are ei!r s5t by po/ or by a s]vant1 & ! answ]s are also convey$ 9 a l mann]4 ,d9n] invitations are inv>iably s5t out by ! ho/ess4 ,x is n usual 9 t[n to invite m ?an ?ree memb]s ( "o family2 x is n[ ! cu/om to ask "y ladies ) _! p>5ts to d9n]-p>ties4 ,receiv+ ,d9n]-,gue/s4--,! gue/s %\ld arrive )9 fifte5 m9utes ( ! h\r nam$ on ! invitation c>d4 ,on no occasion is punctuality m imp]ative ?an 9 ! case ( d9+ out2 =m]ly _m all[$ !mselves great latitude 9 ?is respect1 & a long wait = ! t>dy gue/s 0 ! result4 ,a ho/ & ho/ess frequ5tly wait$ ov] half an h\r = expect$ gue/s4 ,b n[ punctuality has become ! rule 9 ! highe/ circles1 & d9n] is s]v$ )9 tw5ty m9utes ( ! arrival ( ! fir/ gue/4 ,9 g5]al1 p mu* giv5 to d9+ out make a po9t ( arriv+ 9 good "t2 b !re are _m 9 society :o presume ^u _! position1 & are prov]bially unpunctual1 kn[+ t 9 ! height ( ! season a ho/ess w\ld wait half an h\r r ?an sit d[n to d9n] )\t !m2 b ?is want ( consid]ation soon becomes kn[n 9 _! diff]5t sets1 & is always tak5 into acc\nt :5 _! company is reque/$ at d9n]4 ,9 ,france1 x is n ! rule1 or ! cu/om1 to wait d9n] = late arrivals1 & ! d9n] is s]v$ punctually to ! h\r nam$ 9 ! invitation4 ,! d9n]-h\r v>ies f eight to n9e1 al?\gh p]haps #h4cj is ! mo/ usual h\r4 ,9 ! c\ntry x ranges f #g4cj to #h4cj4 ,punctuality on ! "p ( ! gue/s enables ! ho/ess to make any introductions %e may consid] advisable be=e d9n] is s]v$4 ,! ho/ & ho/ess %\ld be 9 read9ess to receive _! gue/s 9 ! draw+-room at ! h\r specifi$ on ! c>d4 ,on arrival1 a lady %\ld take (f h] cloak 9 ! cloak-room1 or %\ld leave x 9 ! hall ) ! s]vant 9 att5dance1 be=e ent]+ ! draw+-room4 ,a g5tleman %\ld leave 8 ov]coat & hat 9 ! g5tlem5's cloak-room1 or 9 ! hall4 ,at l>ge d9n]-p>ties1 ! butl] is /ation$ on ! /aircase1 & ann\nces ! gue/s z !y arrive4 ,at small d9n]-p>ties1 or :]e only "o man-s]vant is kept1 ! s]vant prec$es ! gue/ or gue/s on _! arrival1 to ! draw+-room4 ,! gue/s %\ld !n give _! names to ! s]vant1 t he may ann\nce !m4 ,a lady & g5tleman1 on be+ ann\nc$1 %\ld n ent] ! draw+-room arm-9-arm or side by side4 ,! lady or ladies1 if m ?an "o1 %\ld ent] ! room 9 advance ( ! g5tleman1 al?\gh ! s]vant ann\nces ,mr41 ,mrs41 & ,miss ,a4 ,! ho/ & ho/ess %\ld come =w>d & %ake h&s ) ea* gue/ on arrival4 ,! ladies %\ld at once seat !mselves1 b g5tlem5 ei!r /& ab\t ! room & talk to ea* o!r1 or sit d[n aft] a wait ( "s m9utes4 ,:5 a lady is acqua9t$ ) _m ( ! gue/s pres5t1 %e %\ld n make h] way at once to %ake h&s ) all1 b %\ld make an opportunity to d s 9 an unobtrusive mann]2 x w\ld be suffici5t to recognise !m by a nod or a smile 9 ! mean "t4 ,a lady %\ld b[ to any g5tleman %e kn[s1 & he %\ld cross ! room to %ake h&s ) h] at once if dis5gag$4 ,at a small d9n]-p>ty1 :]e ! gue/s are unacqua9t$1 ! ho/ess %\ld introduce ! p]sons ( highe/ rank to ea* o!r2 b at a l>ge d9n]-p>ty1 %e w\ld n d s1 unless %e _h "s especial reason = mak+ ! introduction4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 introductions at d9n]-p>ties are f> (t5] made ?an 9 t[n4 ,prec$5cy is /rictly obs]v$ at all d9n]-p>ties4 7,see ,*apt] ,v47 ,s5d+ ,gue/s 9 to ,d9n]4--,! ho/ %\ld take ! lady ( highe/ rank pres5t 9 to d9n]1 & ! g5tleman ( highe/ rank %\ld take ! ho/ess4 ,?is rule is absolute1 unless ! lady or g5tleman ( highe/ rank is relat$ to ! ho/ or ho/ess1 9 :i* case 8 or h] rank w\ld be 9 abeyance1 out ( c\rtesy to ! o!r gue/s4 ,a husb& & wife1 or a fa!r & daught]1 or a "m & son1 %\ld n be s5t 9 to d9n] toge!r4 ,a ho/ & ho/ess %\ld1 if possible1 invite an equal numb] ( ladies & g5tlem54 ,x is usual to invite two or m g5tlem5 ?an !re are ladies1 9 ord] t ! m>ri$ ladies %\ld n be oblig$ to g 9 to d9n] ) ea* o!r's husb&s only4 ,?us1 ,mrs4 ,a4 & ,mr4 ,b41 ,mr4 ,b4 & ,mrs4 ,a41 ,mrs4 ,b4 %\ld be tak5 9 to d9n] by ,mr4 ,c41 & ,mr4 ,a4 %\ld take ,mrs4 ,g41 & s on4 ,:5 ladies are 9 a majority at a d9n]-p>ty to ! ext5t ( two or ?ree1 ! ladies ( highe/ rank %\ld be tak5 9 to d9n] by ! g5tlem5 pres5t1 & ! rema9+ ladies %\ld foll[ by !mselves2 b su* an arrangem5t is unusual & undesirable1 ?\gh sometimes unavoidable :5 ! d9n]-p>ty is an impromptu "o1 = in/ance1 & ! notice giv5 has be5 b a %ort "o4 ,if !re %\ld be "o g5tleman %ort ( ! numb] requir$1 ! ho/ess frequ5tly goes 9 to d9n] by h]self1 foll[+ 9 ! wake ( ! la/ c\ple4 ,! usual mode ( s5d+ gue/s 9 to d9n] is = ! ho/ or ho/ess to in=m ea* g5tleman1 %ortly aft] 8 arrival1 :i* ( ! ladies he is to take 9 to d9n]4 ,no *oice is giv5 to any g5tleman z to :i* ( ! ladies he w\ld pref] tak+ 9 to d9n]1 x be+ simply a "q ( prec$5cy4 ,%\ld any difficulty arise z to ! ord] 9 :i* ! gue/s %\ld foll[ ! ho/ to ! d9+-room1 ! ho/ess1 kn[+ ! prec$5cy due to ea* ( h] gue/s1 %\ld indicate to ea* g5tleman :5 x is 8 turn to desc5d to ! d9+-room4 ,he %\ld !n (f] 8 arm to ! lady :om ! ho/ _h previ\sly desir$ him to take 9 to d9n]4 ,d9n] is ann\nc$ by ! butl] or man-s]vant4 ,:5 ! gue/s h arriv$1 or :5 ! ho/ desires d9n] to be s]v$1 he %\ld r+ or in=m ! s]vant accord+ly4 ,on d9n] be+ ann\nc$1 ! ho/ %\ld give 8 "r arm to ! lady ( highe/ rank pres5t1 &1 ) h]1 lead ! way to ! d9+-room1 foll[$ by ! lady second 9 rank1 ) a g5tleman second 9 rank & s on4 ,! g5tleman ( highe/ rank pres5t %\ld foll[ la/ ) ! ho/ess4 ,:5 ! second c\ple are ab\t to leave ! draw+-room1 ! ho/ess frequ5tly reque/s ea* g5tleman 9 turn to foll[ ) a lady accord+ to ! prec$5cy due to ea*4 ,?us1 ,mr4 ,a41 w y take ,mrs4 ,b48 ,?is also answ]s ! purpose ( an introduction1 %\ld ! c\ple be unacqua9t$ ) ea* o!r1 & ! ho/ess has n f\nd an opportunity ( introduc+ !m to ea* o!r on _! arrival4 ,:5 a case ( prec$5cy occurs1 9 :i* ei!r ! lady or g5tleman mu/ waive _! "r ( prec$5ce1 t ( ! g5tleman gives way to t ( ! lady4 7,see ,*apt] ,v47 ,a g5tleman %\ld (f] 8 "r arm to a lady on leav+ ! draw+-room4 ,ladies & g5tlem5 %\ld n proce$ to ! d9+-room 9 sil5ce1 b %\ld at once ent] into conv]sation ) ea* o!r4 7,see ! "w entitl$ ,! ,art ( ,conv]s+47 ,on ent]+ ! d9+-room ! lady :om ! ho/ has tak5 9 to d9n] %\ld seat h]self at 8 "r h&4 ,on ! ,cont95t ?is cu/om is rev]s$1 & x is etiquette = ! lady to sit at ! left h& ( ! g5tleman by :om %e is tak5 9 to d9n]4 ,! ho/ %\ld rema9 /&+ 9 8 place1 at ! bottom ( ! table1 until ! gue/s h tak5 _! seats1 & %\ld motion ! v>i\s c\ples z !y ent] ! d9+-room to ! places he wi%es !m to occupy at ! table4 ,?is is ! mo/ usual me?od ( plac+ ! gue/s at ! d9n]-table4 ,:5 ! ho/ does n indicate :]e !y are to sit1 !y sit ne> to ! ho/ or ho/ess accord+ to prec$5cy4 ,! ho/ & ho/ess %\ld arrange be=eh& ! places !y wi% _! gue/s to occupy at ! d9n]-table4 ,if a ho/ did n indicate to ! gue/s ! v>i\s places he wi%$ !m to occupy1 ! result w\ld probably be t husb&s & wives w\ld be seat$ side by side1 or uncong5ial p w\ld sit toge!r4 ,! cu/om ( putt+ a c>d ) ! "n ( ! gue/ on ! table 9 ! place allott$ to ea* individual gue/ is frequ5tly foll[$ at l>ge d9n]-p>ties1 & 9 "s in/ances ! "n ( ea* gue/ is pr9t$ on a m5u & plac$ 9 front ( ea* cov]4 ,! ho/ & ! lady tak5 9 to d9n] by him %\ld sit at ! bottom ( ! table4 ,he %\ld sit 9 ! c5tre at ! bottom ( ! table & place ! lady :om he has tak5 d[n at 8 "r h&4 ,! same rule applies to ! ho/ess4 ,%e %\ld sit 9 ! c5tre at ! top ( ! table1 ! g5tleman by :om %e has be5 tak5 9 to d9n] be+ plac$ at h] left h&4 ,! lady second 9 rank %\ld sit at ! ho/'s left h&4 ,ea* lady %\ld sit at ! "r h& ( ! g5tleman by :om %e is tak5 9 to d9n]4 ,x is solely a matt] ( incl9ation :e!r a lady & g5tleman1 :o h gone 9 to d9n] toge!r1 conv]se ) ea* o!r only1 or ) _! "r-& left-h& neighb\rs also1 b !y usually f9d "s topic ( conv]sation 9 common1 o!rwise a d9n]-p>ty w\ld prove b a succession ( tete-a-tete4 ,! ,m5us are plac$ ! l5g? ( ! table1 on an av]age "o to two p]sons or occasionally "o to ea* p]son1 & ! m5u c>ds are elaborate or simple1 accord+ to individual ta/e1 & are pur*as$ pr9t$ = ! purpose1 hav+ a space = ! names ( ! di%es to be fill$ 91 :i* is usually done by ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 unless ! e/abli%m5t is on a l>ge scale1 x be+ usual to write !m out 9 ,fr5*4 ,fanciful m5u hold]s are mu* 9 use4 ,! use ( m5us w\ld be pret5ti\s at a small d9n]-p>ty :5 !re is b little *oice ( di%es2 b :5 !re is a *oice ( di%es a m5u is indisp5sable4 ,! ,usual & ,fa%ionable ,mode ( s]v+ ,d9n] is call$ ,d9] a la ,russe1 al?\gh at small or fri5dly d9n]s ! ho/ sometimes pref]s to c>ve ! jo9t himself 9 ! fir/ c\rse1 & ! birds 9 ! second c\rse4 ,b d9n]-tables1 :e!r = d9+ a la ,russe1 or = d9+ en famille1 are inv>iably arrang$ 9 ! same /yle1 ! diff]5ce be+ m]ely ! ext5t ( ! display made z reg>ds fl[]s1 plate & glass1 :i* are ! accessories ( ! d9+-table4 ,:5 ! ho/ helps ! s\p1 a small ladleful = ea* p]son is ! prop] quantity2 a s\p-plate %\ld n be fill$ ) s\p4 ,:5 ! p>ty is a small "o1 & ! jo9ts or birds are c>v$ by ! ho/1 ! portions %\ld be h&$ to ! gue/s 9 ! ord] 9 :i* !y are seat$1 al?\gh occasionally ! ladies are help$ be=e ! g5tlem54 ,! rule at all d9n]-p>ties is = ! s]vant to comm5ce s]v+ by h&+ ! di%es to ! lady seat$ at ! ho/'s "r h&1 !n to ! lady seat$ at ! ho/'s left h&1 & f !nce ! l5g? ( ! table to ea* gue/ 9 ! ord] seat$1 irrespective ( sex4 ,d\ble entrees %\ld be provid$ at l>ge d9n]-p>ties1 & ! s]vants %\ld comm5ce h&+ ! di%es at bo? sides ( ! table simultane\sly4 ,d9] a la ,russe is ! ,russian fa%ion introduc$ into society _m ye>s ago4 ,! :ole ( ! d9n] is s]v$ f a side-table1 no di%es :atev] be+ plac$ on ! table save di%es ( fruit4 ,d9n]-table ,decorations4--,z reg>ds ! mo/ correct /yle ( d9n]-table decorations1 !y (f] great div]sity ( arrangem5t4 ,high c5tre pieces & l[ c5tre pieces4 ,l[ specim5 glasses plac$ ! l5g? ( ! table & trails ( creep]s & fl[]s laid on ! table-clo? itself are "s ( ! prevail+ features ( ! day1 b table decorations are ess5tially a matt] ( ta/e r ?an ( etiquette1 & ! ext5t ( ^! decorations dep5ds v mu* ^u ! size ( ! plate *e/ & ! l5g? ( ! purse ( ! d9n] giv]4 ,! fruit = dess]t is usually arrang$ d[n ! c5tre ( ! table1 amid/ ! fl[]s & plate4 ,"s d9n]-tables are also adorn$ ) a v>iety ( ,fr5* conceits besides fruit & fl[]s2 o!r d9n]-tables are decorat$ ) fl[]s & plate only1 ! dess]t n be+ plac$ on ! table at all2 b ?is latt] mode c only be adopt$ by ^? :o c make a lavi% display ( fl[]s & plate 9 ! place ( fruit4 ,z reg>ds light+ ! d9n] table4 ,electric light is n[ 9 g5]al use 9 t[n1 & m or less 9 ! c\ntry :5 possible4 ,:5 n available1 lamps & wax c&les are us$ z h]et(ore4 ,! %ades 9 use %\ld be c>efully *os5 z !y add greatly to ! com=t ( ! gue/s & to ! success ( ! light+4 ,silv] c&le/icks are (t5 fitt$ ) small electric lamps1 & h&some silv] lamps are br\ght into use 9 a simil> mann] = ! d9n] table4 ,! t]m cov] signifies ! place laid at table = ea* p]son4 ,x consi/s ( a table-spoon = s\p1 fi% knife & =k1 two knives1 two l>ge =ks1 & glasses = w9es giv54 ,= su* arrangem5ts see *apt] ,wait+ at d9n] 9 ! "w entitl$ ,wait+ at ,table4 ,%]ry is always drunk aft] s\p1 hock ) ! fi% aft] ! s\p4 ,*ampagne is drunk imm$iately aft] ! fir/ entree has be5 s]v$1 & dur+ ! rema9d] ( d9n] until dess]t4 ,cl>et1 %]ry1 port1 & ,madeira are ! w9es drunk at dess]t1 & n *ampagne1 z x is ess5tially a d9n] w9e4 ,:5 liqueurs are giv5 !y are h&$ aft] ! ices4 ,d9n]-table ,etiquette4--,s\p %\ld be eat5 ) a table-spoon & n ) a dess]t-spoon1 x w\ld be out ( place to use a dess]t-spoon = t purpose4 ,dess]t-spoons1 z _! "n implies1 are int5d$ = o!r purposes1 su* z = eat+ fruit-t>ts1 cu/>d-pudd+s1 etc41 or any sweet t is n suffici5tly sub/antial to be eat5 ) a =k4 ,fi% %\ld be eat5 ) a silv] =k :5 possible1 o!rwise ) a silv] fi% knife & =k4 ,all made di%es1 su* z qu5elles1 rissoles1 patties1 etc41 %\ld be eat5 ) a =k only1 & n ) a knife & =k4 ,= sweetbreads & cutlets1 etc41 a knife & =k are requisite2 &1 z a matt] ( c\rse1 = p\ltry1 game1 etc4 ,9 eat+ asp>agus1 a knife & =k %\ld be us$1 & ! po9ts %\ld be cut (f & eat5 ) a =k z is sea-kale1 etc4 ,salad %\ld be eat5 ) a knife & =k2 x is s]v$ on salad plates1 :i* are plac$ beside ! d9n]-plates4 ,cucumb] is eat5 (f ! d9n]-plate1 & n (f a sep>ate plate4 ,peas %\ld be eat5 ) a =k4 ,9 eat+ game or p\ltry1 ! bone ( ei!r w+ or leg %\ld n be t\*$ ) ! f+]s1 b ! meat cut close (f ! bone2 & if a w+ x is be/ to sev] x at ! jo9t1 by :i* means ! meat is cut (f f> m easily4 ,pa/ry %\ld be eat5 ) a =k1 b 9 ! case ( a fruit t>t1 a dess]t-spoon %\ld be us$ z well z a =k1 b only = ! purpose ( convey+ ! fruit & juice to ! m\?2 & 9 ! case ( /one fruit--*]ries1 damsons1 plums1 etc4--ei!r ! dess]t-spoon or =k %\ld be rais$ to ! lips to receive ! /ones1 :i* %\ld be plac$ at ! side ( ! plate2 b :5 ! fruit /ones are ( l>g] size1 !y %\ld be sep>at$ f ! fruit ) ! =k & spoon1 & left on ! plate1 & n put into ! m\?2 & :5ev] x is possible to sep>ate ! /ones f ! fruit x is be/ to d s4 ,jellies1 blancmanges1 ice pudd+s1 etc41 %\ld be eat5 ) a =k1 z %\ld be all sweets suffici5tly sub/antial to admit ( x4 ,:5 eat+ *eese1 small morsels ( ! *eese %\ld be plac$ ) ! knife on small morsels ( bread1 & ! two convey$ to ! m\? ) ! ?umb & f+]1 ! piece ( bread be+ ! morsel to hold1 z *eese %\ld n be tak5 up 9 ! f+]s1 & %\ld n be eat5 (f ! po9t ( ! knife4#c ,! f+]-glass %\ld be remov$ f ! ice-plate & plac$ on ! left-h& side ( ! dess]t-plate4 ,:5 ices are n giv51 ! d'oyley %\ld be remov$ ) ! f+]-glass & plac$ b5ea? x4 ,:5 eat+ grapes1 ! half-clos$ h& %\ld be plac$ to ! m\?1 & ! /ones & sk9s all[$ to fall into ! f+]s1 & plac$ on ! side ( ! plate4 ,"s p]sons b5d ! head s z to all[ ( ! /ones & sk9s ( ! grapes fall+ on ! side ( ! plate2 b ?is latt] way is old-fa%ion$1 & seldom foll[$4 ,*]ries & o!r small /one-fruit %\ld be eat5 9 ! way grapes are eat51 also gooseb]ries4 ,:5 /rawb]ries & raspb]ries1 etc41 are n eat5 ) cream1 !y %\ld be eat5 f ! /alks2 :5 eat5 ) cream1 a dess]t-spoon %\ld be us$ to remove !m f ! /alks4 ,:5 s]v$ 9 ! ,am]ican fa%ion )\t /alks1 bo? =k & spoon %\ld be us$4 ,pe>s & apples %\ld be peel$ & cut into halves & qu>t]s ) a fruit-knife & =k1 z %\ld pea*es1 nect>9es1 & apricots4 ,melons %\ld be eat5 ) a spoon & =k4 ,p9es ) knife & =k4 ,! dess]t is h&$ to ! gue/s 9 ! ord] 9 :i* ! d9n] has be5 s]v$4#d ,:5 ! gue/s h be5 help$ to w9e1 & ! s]vants h left ! d9+-room1 ! ho/ %\ld pass ! decant]s to 8 gue/s1 comm5c+ ) ! g5tleman ne>e/ to him4 ,x is n ! fa%ion = g5tlem5 to dr9k w9e ) ea* o!r ei!r at d9n] or dess]t1 & ! gue/ fills 8 glass or n1 accord+ to incl9ation4 ,ladies are n suppos$ to require a second glass ( w9e at dess]t1 & pass+ ! decant]s is pr9cipally = ! g5tlem54 ,if a lady %\ld require a second glass ( w9e at dess]t1 ! g5tleman seat$ next to h] w\ld fill h] glass2 %e %\ld n help h]self to w9e4 ,aft] ! w9e has be5 pass$ once ar\nd ! table1 or ab\t t5 m9utes aft] ! s]vants h left ! d9+-room1 ! ho/ess %\ld give ! signal = ! ladies to leave ! d9+-room1 by b[+ to ! lady ( highe/ rank pres5t1 seat$ at ! ho/'s "r h&4 ,%e %\ld !n rise f h] seat1 z %\ld all ! ladies on see+ h] d s4 ,! g5tlem5 %\ld rise also1 & rema9 /&+ by _! *airs until ! ladies h quitt$ ! room1 :i* !y %\ld d 9 ! ord] 9 :i* !y h ent]$ x1 ! lady ( highe/ rank lead+ ! way1 ! ho/ess foll[+ la/4 ,! ho/1 or ! g5tleman ne>e/ ! door1 %\ld op5 x = ! ladies to pass out1 & close x aft] !m4 ,:5 ! ladies h left ! d9+-room1 ! g5tlem5 %\ld close up z ne> to ! ho/ z possible1 s z to r5d] conv]sation g5]al4 ,! w9es usually drunk by g5tlem5 aft] d9n] are cl>et ( a f9e quality1 & port4 ,! ladies on leav+ ! d9+-room return to ! draw+-room4 ,c(fee %\ld be almo/ imm$iately br\ght to ! draw+-room4 ,! c(fee-cups conta9+ c(fee %\ld be br\ght on a silv] salv]1 ) a cream-jug & a bas9 ( cry/allis$ sug>4 ,9 l>ge c\ntry h\ses c(fee is sometimes br\ght 9 a silv] c(fee-pot1 & ! lady w\ld !n p\r out h] own c(fee1 ! s]vant hold+ ! salv] ! mean:ile4 ,c(fee %\ld be tak5 a few m9utes lat] to ! d9+-room1 & ei!r h&$ to ! g5tlem51 or plac$ on ! table1 t !y may help !mselves 7see ! "w previ\sly ref]r$ to74 ,a v g5]al plan is1 aft] ! w9e has gone r\nd once or twice1 = ! ho/ to (f] cig>ettes1 :i* are smok$ be=e ! g5tlem5 jo9 ! ladies 9 ! draw+-room4 ,aft] c(fee1 ! g5tleman ( highe/ rank %\ld leave ! d9+-room fir/4 ,! ho/ w\ld n propose an adj\rnm5t to ! draw+-room1 until he obs]v$ a wi% to d s on ! "p ( 8 gue/s1 b !re is no h>d & fa/ rule on ?is head4 ,x is n n[ ! fa%ion = g5tlem5 to sit ov] _! w9e beyond fifte5 or tw5ty m9utes at ! utmo/1 in/ead ( z =m]ly1 f ?ree-qu>t]s ( an h\r to an h\r1 a *ange mu* appreciat$ by ho/esses4 ,on ! ,cont95t ! g5tlem5 accompany ! ladies to ! draw+-room1 & d n rema9 9 ! d9+-room z 9 ,engl&4 ,! g5tleman ( highe/ rank pres5t c\ld sugge/ an adj\rnm5t to ! draw+-room )9 a qu>t] ( an h\r if he ?\ght prop] to d s4 ,if ! o!r gue/s 7 engag$ 9 a discussion 9 :i* he did n wi% to take "p1 hav+ sugge/$ ! adj\rnm5t1 he c\ld leave ! d9+-room to jo9 ! ladies 9 ! draw+-room2 b z a rule1 ! g5tlem5 leave ! d9+-room toge!r1 ! ho/ foll[+ la/4 ,! ho/ %\ld r+ ! d9+-room bell be=e leav+ ! room1 z an intimation to ! butl] t ! g5tlem5 h left ! room4 ,at c]emoni\s d9n]-p>ties 9 t[n nei!r music nor c>ds are introduc$ dur+ ! usual half-h\r pass$ 9 ! draw+-room be=e ! h\r = dep>ture4 ,at c\ntry-h\se d9n]-p>ties music or r\nd games ( c>ds are 9 reque/4 ,dep>ture aft] ,d9n]4--,!re is no rule z to ! ord] 9 :i* ! gue/s %\ld take _! leave4 ,half-pa/ t5 is ! usual h\r = g5]al dep>ture2 & ! butl] ann\nces ! sev]al c>riages z !y arrive to ! gue/s 9 ! draw+-room4 ,b if any lady wi%$ to inquire if h] c>riage _h arriv$1 %e %\ld ask ! ho/ess's p]mission to d s2 & ! bell w\ld be rung = ! purpose ( mak+ ! enquiry4 ,! same rem>k applies to ord]+ a cab3 ! lady %\ld ask ! ho/ess if "o might be ord]$ = h]4 ,! ho/ess %\ld %ake h&s ) all h] gue/s on _! dep>ture1 ris+ f h] seat to d s4 ,ea* gue/ on dep>ture %\ld %ake h&s ) bo? ho/ & ho/ess4 ,if1 on leav+ ! room1 acqua9tances %\ld pass ea* o!r1 !y %\ld wi% ea* o!r good-night1 b !y %\ld n make ! t\r ( ! rooms = ! purpose ( s do+4 ,! ho/ %\ld conduct "o or two ( ! pr9cipal ( 8 lady gue/s to _! c>riages4 ,! ladies %\ld put on _! cloaks 9 ! cloak-room1 ! ho/ wait+ 9 ! hall mean:ile4 ,a g5tleman relat$ to ! ho/ or ho/ess1 or a fri5d ( ! family1 c\ld (f] to conduct a lady to h] c>riage if ! ho/ 7 o!rwise engag$4 ,gratuities %\ld nev] be (f]$ by ! gue/s at a d9n]-p>ty to ! s]vants 9 att5dance4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld n (f] fees to ! m5-s]vants1 nei!r %\ld ladies to ! lady's-maid 9 att5dance4 ,! gue/s %\ld call on ! ho/ess )9 a week or t5 days aft] a d9n]-p>ty4 ,if n at home1 a m>ri$ lady %\ld leave "o ( h] own c>ds & two ( h] husb&'s2 a wid[ %\ld leave "o ( h] own c>ds2 a ba*elor or a wid[] %\ld leave two c>ds4 ,! rule z to call+ aft] d9n]-p>ties is greatly relax$ betwe5 intimate fri5ds1 & ! call (t5 omitt$ altoge!r2 & ?is m p>ticul>ly z reg>ds g5tlem51 ^: occupations dur+ ! day are consid]$ good & suffici5t reasons = n call+4 ,c\ntry ,d9n]-,p>ties4--,9 ! c\ntry1 new acqua9tances1 if neighb\rs1 %\ld be ask$ to d9n] )9 a mon? ( ! fir/ call if possible1 & ! return invitation %\ld be giv5 )9 ! foll[+ mon?4 ,:5 gue/s are assembl$ at a c\ntry h\se1 !y are s5t 9 to d9n]1 on ! fir/ ev5+1 accord+ to _! individual prec$5ce2 b on subsequ5t ev5+s ! g5tlem5 frequ5tly draw lots to decide :i* lady !y %all h ! pleasure ( tak+ 9 to d9n]1 o!rwise a lady & g5tleman w\ld g 9 to d9n] toge!r five or six consecutive times1 accord+ to ! l5g? ( ! visit1 b ?is is m a practice ) p :o m>* ) ! times1 ?an ) :at are t]m$ old-fa%ion$ p4 ,:5 a p>ty is v>i$ by additional d9n]-gue/s ea* ev5+1 draw+ lots gives way to prec$5cy1 x be+ too famili> a practice to be adopt$ at a l>ge d9n]-p>ty4 ,say+ ,grace1 bo? be=e & aft] d9n]1 is a matt] ( feel+ r ?an ( etiquette4 ,x us$ to be v mu* ! cu/om to say grace1 b ( late ye>s x is (t5] omitt$ ?an n1 especially at l>ge d9n]-p>ties 9 t[n4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 :5 a cl]gyman is pres5t1 he %\ld be ask$ to say grace4 ,:5 grace is said by ! ho/1 x is said 9 a l[ voice1 & 9 a v few words2 ! gue/s incl9+ _! heads ! :ile4 ,x 0 no rapid revolution>y *ange 9 mann]s t br\ght ab\t ! diff]5ce t n[ exi/s betwe5 ! ,elizabe?an & pres5t eras2 no poli%$ m5tor came =w>d to tea* t x 0 n ! nice/ & cleane/ ?+ to d1 to put knives into ! salt1 to dip f+]s into plates1 or to spread butt] ) ! ?umb2 on ! contr>y1 ^! ?+s right$ !mselves little by little1 /ep by /ep1 until ! pres5t code ( mann]s 0 arriv$ at4 ,b x is q possible t a hundr$ ye>s h5ce x w be discov]$ t ! mann]s ( ! pres5t c5tury (f]$ wide scope = improvem5t4 ,9 ! meantime ^! rules ( etiquette obs]v$ 9 society are adh]$ to & foll[$ by ^? :o d n wi% to appe> s+ul>1 ecc5tric1 old-fa%ion$1 unconv5tional1 or any o!r adjective t ! temp] ( _! judges may induce !m to apply to !m = committ+ solecisms1 ei!r small or great4 ,m>ri$ ,ladies1 z a rule1 d9e out ) _! ,husb&s1 & d n accept invitations to l>ge d9n]s :5 _! husb&s are unable to accompany !m4 ,!re are1 ( c\rse1 exceptions to ?is rule1 & circum/ances sometimes arise :5 x is greatly relax$2 b ev5 9 ?is case x w\ld be 9 fav\r ( small & fri5dly d9n]s r ?an l>ge ones4 ,dur+ any tempor>y abs5ce ( h] husb&1 a lady w\ld accept invitations to d9e ) h] relatives & intimate fri5ds1 ?\gh %e might refuse invitations to l>ge d9n]s giv5 by acqua9tances2 b1 z a rule1 :5 x is well kn[n t ! head ( a h\se is away = any l5g? ( "t1 invitations are seldom s5t to ! wife by giv]s ( l>ge d9n]s4 ,:5 "y ladies are invit$ to d9n] !y accompany _! fa!r1 "m or bro!r2 b occasionally1 :5 a "y ladies' p>ty is giv5 by a fri5d ( _! p>5ts'1 ! "y ladies are invit$ alone1 & !y %\ld ei!r g ) _! maid 9 a cab or by !mselves 9 _! fa!r's c>riage4 ,,footnotes3 #c ,respect+ ! arrangem5t ( ! d9n] table = dess]t1 see ! "w entitl$ ,wait+ at ,table4 #d ,see ! "w entitl$ ,wait+ at ,table4 ,,*apt] ,,xiv ,,d9n]-,,table ,,etiquette ,fa%ion has its freaks & its vag>ies1 & 9 relation to inanimate objects ^! freaks & vag>ies are b transitory & evanesc5t1 b :5 !y t\* ^u mann]s & modes !y become a conv5tionality & a cu/om p]haps = _m a ye>4 ,*anges & innovations1 slight z !y are1 are m subtle ?an sudd51 &1 p>adoxical z x may seem1 !y are z important z !y are insignificant2 /ill x is difficult to believe t f+]s once did duty = =ks1 & t x 0 n cu/om>y = a ho/ to supply 8 gue/s ) =ks1 :o1 if fa/idi\s en\gh to require !m1 7 expect$ to br+ !m 9 _! pockets4 ,!re are "h & !re p 9 society :o affect a few ecc5tricities ( mann]1 b ^! :ims at all times take ! =m ( orig9alities & n ( vulg>ities2 & ev5 !n are only indulg$ 9 by ^? ^: position 9 society is secure4 ,z reg>ds ,d9n]-table ,etiquette4--,:5 a lady has tak5 h] seat at ! d9n]-table1 %e %\ld at once remove h] gloves2 al?\gh occasionally long elb[ gloves are n remov$ dur+ d9n]1 b ?is is conspicu\s & inconv5i5t4 ,%e %\ld unfold h] s]viette & place x on h] lap4 ,x is immat]ial :e!r %e places ! bread on ! "r or left-h& side ( ! cov] :5 tak+ x f ! s]viette4 ,a g5tleman %\ld d ! same ) 8 s]viette & bread1 plac+ ! "o across 8 knees1 & ! o!r at 8 "r or left h&4 ,:5 a lady is "s little "t tak+ (f h] gloves1 %e %\ld remove h] s]viette be=e do+ s3 o!rwise a s]vant w\ld (f] h] s\p be=e %e _h made room = ! s\p-plate by remov+ ! s]viette1 & %e %\ld decide quickly z to :i* ( ! two s\ps h&$ to h] %e w take1 s z n to keep ! s]vant wait+2 & s on ?r\gh e c\rse ?r\gh\t ! d9n] z reg>ds fi%1 meat1 etc4 ,! gue/s %\ld consult ! m5u on fir/ sitt+ d[n to d9n]4 ,eat+ s\p comes fir/ "u notice4 ,9 old5 days x 0 cu/om>y to dr9k x out ( a bas94 ,9 ^! days no "o dr9ks s\p1 x is eat52 :e!r x be mock turtle or ! cle>e/ juli5ne1 x is eat5 out ( a s\p-plate at d9n]1 & ) a table-spoon4 ,!re is a reason = ?is *oice ( spoons2 s\p is no?+ if x is n hot1 & z x is ! cu/om to give only ab\t half a ladleful to ea* p]son1 x is eat5 quick]1 & !re=e hott]1 ) a l>ge spoon ?an ) a small "o4 ,!re is also a good & suffici5t reason = small quantities ( s\p be+ giv5 9 lieu ( l>ge ones1 viz4 ! ext5t ( ! m5u2 & :5 a plateful ( s\p is h&$ to a gue/ accu/om$ to ! regulation supply1 he fe>s t he is expect$ to d9e (f x1 & t !re is no?+ mu* to foll[4 ,aga91 small help+s require a small] quantity ( s\p to be provid$1 & a s]vant is less likely to spill plates conta9+ a little s\p ?an plates t are half full4 ,at ball supp]s1 :5 s\p is s]v$ 9 s\p-plates1 x is also eat5 ) a table-spoon1 b n :5 s]v$ 9 small cups4 ,_m ye>s ago x 0 fa%ionable to eat fi% ) a =k & a cru/ ( bread2 previ\s to ?is a table-knife & =k 7 consid]$ ! prop] ?+s to use = ?is purpose4 ,x 0 !n discov]$ t a /eel knife gave an unpalatable flav\r to ! fi%1 & a cru/ ( bread 0 sub/itut$ = ! knife4 ,?is fa%ion la/$ a consid]able "t1 9 spite ( ! f+]s be+ ?us br\ght unpleasantly ne> to ! plate1 & to ?is day old-fa%ion$ p h a pr$ilection = t cru/ ( bread4 ,"o ev5+ a well-kn[n d9]-out disc>d$ 8 cru/ ( bread1 & ate 8 fi% ) two silv] =ks2 ?is notion f\nd su* g5]al fav\r t society dropp$ ! humble cru/ & took up a second =k4 ,?is fa%ion _h its little day1 b at l5g? ! two =ks 7 f\nd heavy = ! purpose & n altoge!r satisfactory1 & 7 sup]s$$ by ! da9ty & conv5i5t little silv] fi%-knife & =k :i* are n[ 9 g5]al use4 ,small pieces ( fi% %\ld always be giv51 & two diff]5t sorts ( fi% %\ld n be plac$ on ! same plate4 ,:5 oy/]s are giv5 !y prec$e ! s\p1 & %\ld be eat5 ) a d9n]-=k1 n ) a fi%-=k4 ,9 eat+ oy/]s ! %ell %\ld be /eadi$ on ! plate ) ! f+]s ( ! left h&1 ! oy/]s %\ld n be cut1 b %\ld be eat5 :ole4 ,v _m ladies d n eat oy/]s at d9n] simply because !y d n l !m1 :ile o!rs refuse !m "u ! impression t x is m ladylike n to eat !m4 ,p]haps ) reg>d to "y ladies x is a ta/e to be acquir$4 ,"s m5 are v1 if n ov]1 fa/idi\s1 ab\t ! appetites display$ by ladies1 & w\ld h !m reject ! entrees & d9e ^u a slice ( *ick5 & a spoonful ( jelly4 ,o!rs1 on ! contr>y1 respect a good appetite z giv+ pro( ( good heal? & good dige/ion4 ,!re is ( c\rse a m$ium 9 all ?+s1 & z l>ge d9n]s are ord]$ ma9ly ) a view to please ! palates ( m5 ) epicurean ta/es1 x is n expect$ t ladies %\ld eat ( ! mo/ highly season$ & ri*e/ ( ! di%es giv51 b %\ld r select ! pla9e/ on ! m5u4 ,?is rem>k m p>ticul>ly applies to "y ladies & "y m>ri$ ladies1 :il/ middle-ag$ & eld]ly ladies are at lib]ty to d pretty mu* z !y please1 )\t provok+ comm5t or ev5 obs]vation4 ,) ref]5ce to entrees1 "s are eat5 ) a knife & =k1 o!rs ) a =k only4 ,all entrees t (f] any resi/ance to a =k require ! aid ( bo? knife & =k1 su* z cutlets1 filet de boeuf1 sweetbreads1 etc41 b :5 rissoles1 patties1 qu5elles1 boneless curry1 vol-au-v5ts1 timbales1 etc41 are eat51 ! =k only %\ld be us$4 ,9 ! case ( ! light] entrees1 ! contact ( ! knife is suppos$ to militate aga9/ _! delicate flav\r2 ?us1 = ^! bonnes b\*es ! =k is all-suffici5t :]e) to divide & eat !m4 ,! leg ( a *ick51 pheasant1 duck1 or wild duck %\ld nev] be giv5 to a gue/ save on ^? occasions :5 !re are m gue/s pres5t ?an !re is meat f brea/s & w+s to (f] !m4 ,"u ^! circum/ances ! c>v] is r$uc$ to ! necessity ( fall+ back ^u ! legs ( ! birds1 b 9 ?is case only ! upp] "p ( ! ?igh %\ld be giv51 ?us a gue/ has little difficulty 9 cutt+ ! meat f ! bone4 ,a w+ ( a bird is usually giv5 to a lady4 ,=m]ly x 0 ?\ght a correct ?+ to sev] ! w+ at ! jo9t & !n to cut ! meat f ! bone2 b ?is requires a c]ta9 am\nt ( /r5g? 9 ! wri/1 & dext]ity1 %\ld ! bird n be 9 its premi]e jeunesse4 ,z reg>ds small pigeons1 gold5 plov]s1 snipe1 quails1 l>ks1 etc41 a :ole bird is giv5 to ea* gue/1 & ! prop] way to eat ^! birds is to cut ! meat f ! brea/ & w+s & to eat ea* morsel at ! mom5t ( cutt+ x2 ! bird %\ld n be turn$ ov] & ov] on ! plate1 or cut 9 half or o!rwise dissect$4 ,! legs ( ,bordeaux pigeons are n1 z a rule1 eat51 & half a bird only is giv51 z !re is suffici5t on ! w+ & brea/ to satisfy an ord9>y second-c\rse appetite4 ,:5 ! legs ( small] birds are eat51 su* z snipe or gold5 plov]1 ! meat %\ld be cut (f z f ! brea/ or w+4 ,"y girls1 z a rule1 seldom eat a second c\rse delicacy ( ?is description2 a little *ick5 or pheasant on ! contr>y is usually accept$ by !m4 ,:5 l>ge potatoes are s]v$ 9 _! sk9s a salad-plate %\ld be h&$ at ! same "t :]eon to place !m4 ,:5 asp>agus fir/ comes into season x is (t5 giv5 9 ! second c\rse in/ead ( 9 ! fir/1 9 :i* case x is eat5 z a sep>ate di%4 ,:5 h&$ ) meat or p\ltry x %\ld be eat5 on ! same plate conta9+ ei!r4 ,9 eat+ asp>agus1 "s eld]ly g5tlem5 /ill adh]e to ! fa%ion ( _! y\? & hold ! /alks 9 _! f+]s1 b ! y\ng] g5]ation cut (f ! po9ts ) a knife & =k4 ,sea-kale also is giv5 9 ! second c\rse :5 fir/ 9 season1 & %\ld be eat5 ) a knife & =k4 ,mu%rooms are also eat5 ) a knife & =k4 ,x ne$ h>dly be said t x w\ld be a vulg>ity to eat peas ) a knife1 al?\gh ^? :o reside abroad1 or :o are 9 ! habit ( travell+ on ! cont95t1 are n unaccu/om$ to see+ ?is done by =eign]s :o are well-br$ m54 ,arti*okes are1 x may be said1 an awkw>d & untidy vegetable to eat2 !y are only giv5 9 ! second c\rse z a sep>ate vegetable2 ! outside leaves %\ld be remov$ ) ! knife & =k1 & ! inn] leaves :i* surr\nd ! he>t1 or head ( ! arti*oke %\ld be convey$ to ! m\? ) ! f+]s & suck$ dry2 epicures consid] ?is vegetable a da9ty morsel1 b at d9n]-p>ties "y ladies %\ld n attempt to eat ^! arti*okes4 ,sav\ries1 :5 possible1 %\ld be eat5 ) a =k1 b occasionally a knife also is ( imp]ative use4 ,z reg>ds sweets1 compotes ( fruit & fruit t>ts %\ld be eat5 ) a dess]t-spoon & =k1 z %\ld ^? di%es :]e juice or syrup prevails to ! ext5t ( r5d]+ a dess]t-spoon necess>y4 ,b :5ev] x is possible to use a =k 9 pref]5ce to a spoon x is always bett] to d s4 ,jellies1 creams1 blancmanges1 ice pudd+s1 etc41 %\ld be eat5 ) a =k4 ,z a matt] ( c\rse1 "y ladies d n eat *eese at d9n]-p>ties4 ,,*apt] ,,xv ,,ev5+ ,,p>ties ,ev5+ ,p>ties are /yl$ receptions or at homes accord+ to ! numb] ( gue/s invit$4 ,9 (ficial & political circles !y are inv>iably /yl$ ,receptions1 b :5 giv5 on a small] scale 9 g5]al society !y are /yl$ ,at ,homes4 ,invitations to ev5+ p>ties %\ld be issu$ on at home c>ds4 ,! "n ( ! p]son invit$ %\ld be writt5 at ! top ( ! c>d at ! "r-h& corn]1 ! words at home be+ pr9t$ b5ea? ! "n ( ! lady issu+ ! invitation1 ! day & date b5ea? ! words at home1 ! h\r b5ea? ! date4 ,! address %\ld be pr9t$ at ! bottom ( ! c>d4 ,:5 music is to be giv5 x %\ld be m5tion$ on ! at home c>d1 ?us1 ,music4 ,! h\r v>ies f #aj to #aa o'clock2 9 private circles #aj or #aj4cj is ! usual h\r2 9 (ficial circles #aj4cj or #aa o'clock4 ,:5 a =eign royal p]sonage is expect$1 or a =eign] ( di/9ction1 or a p]sonage possess+ public int]e/1 ! words ,to meet ,h] ,s]5e ,highness ,pr9cess ,d41 or ,to meet ,c\nt ,c4 %\ld be writt5 at ! top ( ! invitation c>ds4 ,:5 a reception or at home foll[s a d9n]-p>ty giv5 by ! ho/ess1 x is n usual to provide any special amusem5t = ! gue/s4 ,b :5 an at home does n foll[ a d9n]-p>ty1 x is usual to provide "s sort ( amusem5t = ! gue/s1 su* z pr(essional vocal or in/rum5tal music4 ,! gue/s are expect$ to arrive f half an h\r to an h\r ( ! "t m5tion$ on ! invitation c>d1 al?\gh x is optional :5 !y d s4 ,receiv+ ! ,gue/s4--,! ho/ess %\ld receive h] gue/s at ! head ( ! /aircase1 :]e %e usually rema9s until ! pr9cipal ( h] gue/s h arriv$2 :ile ! ho/ welcomes ! gue/s 9 ! draw+-room itself4 ,receptions or at homes usually t]m9ate %ortly be=e "o o'clock1 save on ,saturdays1 :5 ! h\r ( dep>ture is #ab o'clock precisely4 ,mak+ ,introductions4--,a ho/ess %\ld use h] own discretion z reg>ds mak+ introductions4 ,:5 a royal p]sonage is pres5t ! mo/ di/+ui%$ ( ! gue/s %\ld be pres5t$ by ! ho/ or ho/ess4 ,:5 a celebrity is pres5t introductions %\ld also be made2 & z reg>ds g5]al introductions !y %\ld be made :5ev] ! ho/ess judges x exp$i5t to d s1 & ! pr9cipal gue/s :5 unacqua9t$ %\ld be introduc$ to ea* o!r :5 ! opportunity occurs4 ,go+ 9 to ,supp]4--,! ho/ %\ld take ! lady ( highe/ rank 9 to supp]4 ,:5 a royal pr9cess is pres5t ! ho/ %\ld take h] 9 to supp]4 ,:5 a royal pr9ce is pres5t he %\ld take ! ho/ess 9 to supp]4 7,see ,*apt] ,v47 ,x is optional :e!r ! ho/ess foll[s ) ! g5tleman ( highe/ rank pres5t1 unless a =eign pr9ce is pres5t1 :5 %e %\ld foll[ ! ho/1 & 9 ! case ( a royal pr9ce be+ pres5t %e %\ld prec$e ! ho/4 ,:5 a royal pr9ce or pr9cess or a s]5e highness is pres5t a table %\ld be set ap>t = ! ho/ & ho/ess & royal p>ty1 & any among ! gue/s :om ! royal visitors may desire %\ld jo9 !m at supp]4 ,:5 ! supp]-room is n suffici5tly l>ge to accommodate ! :ole ( ! gue/s at ! same "t1 ! mo/ di/+ui%$ gue/s %\ld g 9 fir/4 ,:5 ! ho/ is in=m$ t supp] is s]v$ he %\ld tell ! pr9cipal g5tlem5 pres5t :i* ( ! ladies he wi%es !m to take into supp]1 & %\ld himself lead ! way ) ! lady ( highe/ rank pres5t4 ,! ho/ess %\ld also assi/ 9 s5d+ ! pr9cipal gue/s 9 to supp]1 & :5 ! g5]al company obs]ve ! move t[>ds ! supp]-room1 !y %\ld foll[ 9 ! same direction4 ,:5 ! g5]al company are app>5tly n aw>e t ! supp]-room is op51 ! ho/ess %\ld ask ! v>i\s g5tlem5 to take ! ladies 9 to supp]1 & %\ld h]self lead ! way ) "o ( ! g5tlem54 ,:5 ! g5]al company f9d ! supp]-room cr[d$ !y %\ld return to ! draw+-room = a qu>t] ( an h\r or s2 b ! ho/ess %\ld arrange = "s in/rum5tal or vocal p]=mance to comm5ce :5 supp] is fir/ s]v$1 s z to occupy ! att5tion ( ! gue/s :o rema9 9 ! draw+-room4 ,! gue/s frequ5tly d n return to ! draw+-room aft] supp]1 b g to ! cloak-room = _! cloaks & wraps1 & !nce to _! c>riages4 ,x is n usual to take leave ( ! ho/ & ho/ess at receptions4 ,royal ,gue/s pres5t4--,:5 a royal p]sonage is pres5t ! ho/ %\ld conduct h] to h] c>riage4 ,:5 a =eign pr9ce is pres5t ! ho/ %\ld accompany him to ! hall door4 ,tea & ,light ,refre%m5ts %\ld be s]v$ dur+ ! ev5+ 9 ! libr>y1 or 9 an adjac5t ap>tm5t4 ,supp] %\ld be s]v$ at twelve o'clock1 9 ! d9+-room1 & %\ld be simil> 9 "* to a ball supp]4 ,invitations to ,bridge ,p>ties are issu$ on at home c>ds :5 ! gue/s numb] upw>ds ( =ty1 & on visit+ c>ds :5 a less] numb] is invit$4 ,! ,invitation ,=m is1 ,mrs4 ,a---- ,at ,home 9 bo? in/ances4 ,! day1 date1 & h\r are put b5ea? ! words at home1 & ,bridge 9 ! corn] ( ! c>ds opposite ! address4 ,! usual h\r = hold+ ^! ev5+ receptions is #i o'clock p4m41 :i* all[s ( ?ree h\rs' play be=e midnight4 ,! gue/s arrive v punctually1 r be=e ?an aft] ! h\r nam$ on ! invitation c>ds4 ,! gue/s comprise an equal numb] ( bo? sexes1 z husb&s & wives are invit$ toge!r :5 bo? are kn[n to be bridge play]s1 & ba*elors :o d n disda9 play+ = small /akes are 9 great reque/4 ,also unm>ri$ ladies ( a c]ta9 age2 n girls 9 _! te5s4 ,prizes are giv5 9 "s h\ses to ! conqu]+ play]s4 ,"o = ! ladies & "o = ! g5tlem51 & occasionally a second prize = ! second be/ play] ( ei!r sex4 ,?is is done :5 play+ = money does n comm5d itself to a ho/ & ho/ess4 ,! prizes consi/ = ! mo/ "p ( useful articles4 ,= in/ance1 a box ( gloves1 a box ( bon-bons1 a case ( eau d',cologne1 a c>d-case1 a bag purse1 & s on1 all ( :i* are acceptable to ladies2 & a box ( cig>s or cig>ettes1 a silv] pocket-flask1 a silv]-m\nt$ /ick or umbrella1 are prizes ! m5 w9n]s are pleas$ to accept4 ,! ,bridge ,tables at :i* ! gue/s are to sit are numb]$1 & ! ho/ess arranges by :om !y are to be occupi$4 ,! names--f\r 9 numb] = ea* table--are writt5 or pr9t$ ) ! numb] ( ! table ^u small c>ds & giv5 to ! gue/s by ! ho/ess on arrival4 ,?is is done t good play]s may be plac$ toge!r1 & to save confusion & loss ( "t 9 seat+ !m at ! v>i\s tables4 ,! ,refre%m5ts provid$ consi/ 9 ! fir/ in/ance ( c(fee1 :i* is br\ght into ! c>d-room or draw+-room & h&$ to ! gue/s4 ,no eatables are giv5 ) ?is aft]-d9n] c(fee4 ,a supp] is giv5 ei!r at ! conclusion ( ! play at #ab o'clock--?is be+ ! m usual plan--or at #aj4cj1 aft] :i* play is resum$ = ano!r h\r or s2 b ! latt] is m ( a prov9cial cu/om ?an a t[n "o1 & is int5d$ = ^? ^: d9n] h\r is an e>ly "o--#f4cj1 p]haps4 ,:5 a supp] is n giv51 v good light refre%m5ts are sub/itut$ = x1 includ+ cups ( hot s\p 9 ! w9t] mon?s4 ,go+ 9 to ,supp] is arrang$ z f> z possible on ! foll[+ l9es1 if prec$5ce does n prev5t its be+ c>ri$ out4 ,! play]s at ea* table :o are p>tn]s :5 supp] is s]v$ g 9 toge!r4 ,! ho/ leads ! way ) 8 p>tn]1 & all foll[1 ! ho/ess & h] p>tn] go+ la/4 ,c>ds %\ld be left )9 a week or t5 days aft] a reception4 ,a m>ri$ lady %\ld leave "o ( h] own & two ( h] husb&'s c>ds4 ,a wid[ %\ld leave "o ( h] own c>ds4 ,a ba*elor or wid[] %\ld leave two ( 8 c>ds4 7,see ,*apt] ,,iii47 ,,*apt] ,,xvi ,,w$d+s ,,& ,,w$d+ ,,lun*eons ,aft]noon ,w$d+s are inv>iably solemnis$ at #b4cj o'clock4 ,only v quiet w$d+s take place 9 ! morn+ h\rs4 ,=m]ly1 x 0 only ! few :o 7 9 a position to obta9 special lic5ces :o c\ld h aft]noon w$d+s4 ,m>riage by ,banns is greatly 9 fav\r 9 g5]al society4 ,! banns mu/ be publi%$ ?ree consecutive weeks previ\s to ! m>riage 9 ! p>i% 9 :i* ! bridegroom resides1 & also 9 t 9 :i* ! bride resides1 & bo? %\ld reside fifte5 days 9 _! respective p>i%es previ\s to ! banns be+ publi%$4 ,m>riages by ,lic5ce4--,:5 a m>riage is solemnis$ by lic5ce ! co/1 ) fees & /amps1 am\nts to ,l#b4 ,?is %\ld be obta9$ at ! ,faculty ,(fice1 or at ! ,vic>-,g5]al's ,(fice1 ,doctors' ,commons1 & is available at any *ur* 9 ! p>i% :]e "o ( ! p>ties has resid$ = fifte5 days previ\s to ! application be+ made = ! lic5ce1 ei!r 9 t[n or c\ntry4 ,:5 ! lic5ce is obta9$ 9 ! c\ntry ?r\gh a cl]ical surrogate ! co/ v>ies1 accord+ to ! diocese1 f ,l#a #aes4 to ,l#b #abs4 #f;d4 ,special ,lic5ces c only be obta9$ f ! ,ar*bi%op ( ,cant]bury1 aft] application at ! ,faculty ,(fice1 & an especial reason mu/ be giv5 = ! application1 & "o t w meet ) ! ,ar*bi%op's approval4 ,! fees = a special m>riage lic5ce av]age ,l#bi #es4 #f;d4 ,! ,fees to ! (ficiat+ cl]gym5 v>y consid]ably1 accord+ to ! position & means ( ! bridegroom1 f ,l#a #as4 to ,l#e #es41 z ! incl9ation ( ! bridegroom may dictate4 ,! fee to ! v]g] is subject to a l v>iation1 comm5c+ at #bs4 #f;d4 ,all fees relat+ to a m>riage %\ld be defray$ by ! bridegroom1 & paid by him1 or by ! be/ man on 8 behalf1 9 ! ve/ry ( ! *ur*1 previ\s to ! c]emony2 imm$iately aft] x1 or "s days e>li]4 ,! ,etiquette obs]v$ at ,w$d+s is inv>iably ! same :e!r ! w$d+ takes place 9 ! morn+ or 9 ! aft]noon1 or :e!r x is a gr& w$d+ or a comp>atively small "o1 :e!r ! gue/s numb] two hundr$ or :e!r !y numb] tw5ty4 ,! ,invitations %\ld be issu$ f ?ree weeks to a =tnight be=e ! w$d+-day4 ,! w$d+ lun*eon or w$d+ reception %\ld be giv5 by ! p>5ts ( ! bride or by h] ne>e/ relative1 & ! invitations %\ld be issu$ 9 ! names ( bo? p>5ts4 ,! invitations %\ld be issu$ 9 notes pr9t$ 9 ink2 !y are n[ seldom pr9t$ 9 silv]4 ,! =m %\ld be z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ---- reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ----'s company at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,hel5 ) ,mr4 ,john ,s----1 at ,/4 ,pet]'s ,*ur*1 ,hanov] ,squ>e1 on ,tuesday1 ,may #h?1 at #b4cj o'clock1 & aft]w>ds at ---- ,squ>e4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,if a /epdaught]1 x %\ld be at ! m>riage ( ,mrs4 ,a----'s daught] ,hel5 ,b----4 ,w$d+ ,pres5ts4--,e "o :o is invit$ to a w$d+ inv>iably makes ! bride or bridegroom a pres5t2 x is ! receiv$ rule to d s4 ,_m s5d pres5ts be=e ! invitations are s5t out--z soon z ! engagem5t is made kn[n1 if x is n to be a long "o4 ,!re is no rule z to ! "t be=e ! w$d+-day :5 ! pres5t %\ld be s5t2 b invitations are usually s5t to ^? :o h giv5 pres5ts1 ev5 ?\gh !y live at a consid]able di/ance1 & may n be able to att5d ! w$d+4 ,w$d+ pres5ts are display$ on tables ( v>i\s sizes1 accord+ to _! numb]1 & if v num]\s & valuable1 x is n unusual to exhibit !m at an aft]noon tea1 giv5 = ! purpose on ! day previ\s to ! w$d+4 ,ea* pres5t %\ld be> ! c>d ( ! giv] atta*$ to x4 ,pres5ts ( silv] plate %\ld be plac$ on a table cov]$ ) d>k clo? or velvet4 ,x is n unusual to surr\nd ! pres5ts ) fl[]s1 notably roses1 & ?is is (t5 done by p]sons ( arti/ic ta/es4 ,! ,bridegroom %\ld provide ! w$d+-r+ & ! bridal b\quet4 ,! b\quets = ! bridesmaids are also ! gift ( ! bridegroom1 & %\ld be s5t to !m on ! morn+ ( ! w$d+4 ,he is also expect$ to make a pres5t to ea* bridesmaid--ei!r a broo*1 a locket1 a bracelet1 or a fan1 :i* %\ld ei!r be s5t ! day be=e ! w$d+ or on ! morn+ ( ! w$d+-day4 ,! bridegroom %\ld provide ! motor-c> to convey himself & 8 bride f ! *ur* to ! h\se :]e ! w$d+ lun*eon & reception are to take place1 & aga9 f ! h\se to ! railway-/ation1 or1 if ! j\rney is made by road1 to ! place ( honeymoon2 b frequ5tly ! bride's fa!r places 8 own motor-c> at ! disposal ( ! bride & bridegroom = ?is purpose1 especially 9 ! c\ntry4 ,! bridal c>riage is ! only "o1 accord+ to etiquette1 :i* ! bridegroom is expect$ to provide4 ,! invit$ gue/s %\ld provide _! own conveyances1 & nei!r ! bridegroom nor ! bride's fa!r are ev] expect$ to d s4 ,?is %\ld be ?or\ghly und]/ood by ! gue/s 9 e case4 ,! cu/om ( hav+ groomsm5 to support ! bridegroom is n[ v g5]al1 z at royal w$d+s1 a royal bridegroom be+ support$ by f f\r to six groomsm54 ,two ( ! groomsm5 usually act z u%]s & assi/ 9 seat+ ! gue/s4 ,! ,be/ ,man %\ld be a ba*elor1 al?\gh a m>ri$ man c\ld act 9 ?is capacity4 ,he %\ld ei!r accompany ! bridegroom to ! *ur* or meet him !re4 ,he %\ld /& at 8 "r h& dur+ ! c]emony--a little 9 ! re>--& %\ld r5d] him ! trifl+ s]vice ( h&+ him 8 hat at ! close ( x4 ,he %\ld sign ! regi/] aft]w>ds 9 ! ve/ry1 & %\ld pay ! fees to ! cl]gyman & to ! v]g]1 on behalf ( ! bridegroom1 ei!r be=e or aft] ! c]emony1 if ! bridegroom does n pay !m on arrival4 ,! bridegroom & be/ man %\ld arrive at ! *ur* be=e ! bride1 & await h] com+1 /&+ at ! "r-h& side ( ! *ancel gates4 ,! ,bride %\ld be driv5 to ! *ur* 9 h] fa!r's motor-c>4 ,if %e has a si/] or si/]s1 & !y (ficiate z bridesmaids1 !y1 ) h] "m1 %\ld prec$e h] to ! *ur*4 ,! motor-c> %\ld !n return to fet* ! bride & h] fa!r2 b :5 %e has no si/]s1 h] fa!r g5]ally prec$es h] to ! *ur*1 & receives h] at ! *ur* door1 h] "m accompany+ h] 9 ! motor-c>4 ,! bridesmaids %\ld arrive "s little "t be=e ! bride1 & =m a l9e on ei!r side ( ! *ur* por*1 or )9 ! *ur* doorway4 ,! "m ( ! bride usually /&s beside !m4 ,:5 ! bride arrives %e %\ld take h] fa!r's "r arm1 or ! "r arm ( h] elde/ bro!r or ne>e/ male relative1 :o is deput$ to give h] away2 he %\ld meet h] at ! *ur* door 9 ! place ( h] fa!r1 & conduct h] to ! *ancel or alt>4 ,at *oral w$d+s ! cl]gy & *oir head ! bridal procession & lead ! way to ! *ancel1 s++ a hymn ! :ile4 ,! ,bridesmaids %\ld foll[ ! bride & h] fa!r up ! nave ( ! *ur*4 ,:5 ! numb] ( bridesmaids is ev51 f\r1 six1 eight1 or twelve2 b :5 ! numb] is odd1 z five1 sev51 or n9e1 & ?ree ( !m happ5 to be *ildr51 :i* is g5]ally ! case1 ! eld] bridesmaids %\ld walk two & two1 foll[+ next aft] ! *ildr54 ,at fa%ionable w$d+s "o or two little boys act z pages1 & occasionally be> ! bride's tra94 ,! head bridesmaid is g5]ally ! bride's elde/ unm>ri$ si/] or ! bridegroom's si/]1 & %e %\ld foll[ next to ! bride ) h] companion bridesmaid1 :5 *ildr5 are n includ$ 9 ! gr\p4 ,! ,bride's ,"m %\ld foll[ next to ! bridesmaids1 & walk by ! side ( h] son1 or o!r male relative1 9 foll[+ !m up ! nave ( ! *ur*4 ,ladies & g5tlem5 d n walk arm-9-arm at a w$d+1 b side by side4 ,! ,bride's ,imm$iate ,relatives & ! ne> relatives ( ! bridegroom %\ld seat !mselves 9 pews or *airs1 accord+ to ! *ur* 9 :i* ! s]vice is celebrat$4 ,9 "s *ur*es ! s]vice takes place at ! entrance ( ! *ancel1 & ! bridal p>ty ent] ! *ancel & /& at ! alt> to receive ! address1 & ! conclud+ portion ( ! s]vice only is !re celebrat$4 ,! ,bridegroom's ,relatives %\ld place !mselves on ent]+ at ! "r ( ! nave1 ?us be+ on ! bridegroom's "r h&1 & seat !mselves 9 pews4 ,! relatives ( ! bride %\ld place !mselves on ent]+ at ! left ( ! nave1 ?us be+ on ! bride's left h&1 & seat !mselves 9 pews or *airs4 ,l>ge c>ds ) ! words ,= ! ,relatives ( ! ,bridegroom1 ,= ! ,relatives ( ! ,bride1 are frequ5tly plac$ 9 ! pews to indicate :]e !y are to sit4 ,! ,bride %\ld /& at ! bridegroom's left h&2 ! bride's fa!r1 or ne>e/ male relative1 %\ld /& at h] left h&1 9 ord] to give h] away4 ,! bridesmaids %\ld /& imm$iately beh9d ! bride 9 ! ord] 9 :i* !y pass up ! *ur*4 ,! bride %\ld take (f h] gloves at ! comm5cem5t ( ! s]vice & %\ld give !m ) h] b\quet to ! head bridesmaid to hold4 ,! invit$ gue/s %\ld sit 9 ! pews or *airs4 ,gue/s seldom take _! pray]-books ) !m to ! *ur* to foll[ ! s]vice !refrom4 ,! hymns sung are usually pr9t$ on leaflets1 & plac$ 9 ! pews or on ! seats4 ,! bridegroom g5]ally we>s a fl[] 9 8 button-hole1 z he does n we> a w$d+ fav\r4 ,! o!r g5tlem5 may1 z a matt] ( c\rse1 we> button-hole b\quets1 if !y please4 ,:5 ! ,s]vice is conclud$1 ! bride %\ld take ! bridegroom's left arm1 &1 prec$$ by ! (ficiat+ cl]gyman1 & foll[$ by h] head bridesmaids1 fa!r1 "m1 & ! mo/ di/+ui%$ ( ! gue/s1 %\ld ent] ! ve/ry1 :]e ! regi/] %\ld be sign$ by ! bride & bridegroom1 two or ?ree ( ! ne>e/ relatives1 & by two or ?ree ( ! mo/ intimate ( ! fri5ds1 & pr9cipal ( ! gue/s1 includ+ ! be/ man & ! head bridesmaid4 ,! bride's fa!r %\ld sign x1 b x is optional :e!r ! bride's "m does s or n4 ,:5 ! regi/] has be5 sign$1 & ^? 9 ! ve/ry h %ak5 h&s ) ! bride & (f]$ _! congratulations1 ! bride %\ld take ! bridegroom's left arm & pass d[n ! nave ( ! *ur* foll[$ by h] bridesmaids1 9 ! same ord] z !y h previ\sly pass$ up ! nave4 ,! bride & bridegroom usually leave ! *ur* )\t paus+ to %ake h&s ) _m ( _! fri5ds pres5t if a reception is to foll[4 ,:5 ! bride & bridegroom h driv5 (f f ! *ur*1 ! bride's "m %\ld be ! next to foll[1 t %e may be at home to receive ! gue/s z !y arrive4 ,!re is no prec$5ce z to ! ord] 9 :i* ! rema9d] ( ! company leave ! *ur*2 x entirely dep5ds on ! clev]ness ( _! s]vants 9 gett+ up _! motor-c>s4 ,button-hole ,b\quets ( natural fl[]s h entirely sup]s$$ ! old-fa%ion$ w$d+ fav\rs = bo? ladies & g5tlem51 & are sometimes (f]$ to ! gue/s be=e !y leave _! seats at ! conclusion ( ! c]emony1 b n inv>iably s4 ,button-hole b\quets %\ld be worn on ! left side1 by bo? ladies & g5tlem54 ,a ,bride :o is a ,wid[ %\ld n we> a bridal veil1 nor a wrea? ( orange-blossoms1 nor orange-blossom on h] dress4 ,%e %\ld n be att5d$ by bridesmaids1 & w$d+ fav\rs %\ld n be worn by ! gue/s4 ,h[ ! ,invitations to ! ,w$d+ ,reception ( a ,wid[ %\ld be issu$ dep5ds ^u individual circum/ances4 ,= in/ance1 if a "y wid[ resides ) h] p>5ts1 ! invitations %\ld be issu$ 9 _! names z at h] fir/ m>riage1 & ! =m ( invitation %\ld be simil>1 save t ! words ,_! daught]1 ,mrs4 ,a41 wid[ ( ,mr4 ,a4 %\ld be sub/itut$ = h] *ri/ian "n4 ,if1 z is v frequ5tly ! case1 a wid[ resides 9 h] own h\se1 or if ! m>riage is to take place f an hotel1 ! invitations %\ld be issu$ 9 h] own "n1 & ! =m %\ld be ,mrs4 ,cecil ,a4 reque/s ! pleasure 7or ! hon\r7 ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,b4's company at h] m>riage ) ,mr4 ,h5ry ,c41 at ,/4 ,george's ,*ur* on ,tuesday1 ,decemb] #cj?1 at #b4cj o'clock1 & aft]w>ds at ,eaton ,g>d5s1 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,! pres5ce ( in/ead ( ! company ( may be put if pref]r$4 ,x is und]/ood t a ,wid[ %\ld n h ,bridesmaids1 b x is op5 to h] to h ! att5dance ( pages1 if a w$d+ is to be a fa%ionable & sm>t "o1 al?\gh _m ladies d n avail !mselves ( ?is privilege4 ,! bridegroom %\ld h a be/ man1 z a matt] ( c\rse2 he may be ! bride's bro!r if desir$ 7! idea t ?is is n p]mitt$ is an errone\s "o74 ,a m>ri$ man might be ask$ to act 9 ! capacity ( be/ man1 !re be+ no bridesmaids to require 8 att5tion1 al?\gh ?is is seldom done1 & a ba*elor bro!r or fri5d is pref]r$4 ,a ,wid[ may be giv5 away by h] fa!r1 uncle1 bro!r1 or ev5 by a fri5d2 inde$1 x is m usual to h ?is support ?an n4 ,at a fir/ m>riage to be giv5 away is imp]ative1 at a second x is optional2 & if a wid[ at a quiet w$d+ pref]s n to foll[ ?is cu/om %e c d s4 ,mu* ,unc]ta9ty exi/s z to :e!r a ,wid[ %\ld or %\ld n cont9ue to we> h] ,fir/ ,w$d+ ,r+ :5 %e m>ries a second "t4 ,9 po9t ( fact !re is no h>d & fa/ rule ) reg>d to x1 & a wid[ may cont9ue or n cont9ue to we> x1 z %e feels incl9$4 ,if %e has *ildr51 & has _h "s ye>s ( m>ri$ life1 %e usually reta9s x4 ,if %e is a "y wid[1 %e is likely to remove x1 & we> ! second r+ only2 b :5 ?is is h] int5tion1 %e %\ld n cease to we> x until %e has arriv$ at ! *ur*1 & has tak5 (f h] gloves previ\s to ! c]emony2 b1 take x all 9 all1 x is m usual to we> ! two w$d+ r+s ?an ! second "o only4 ,=m]ly1 ,wid[s consid]$ x ,imp]ative to be m>ri$ 9 ,wid['s ,col\rs1 grey or mauve1 & t :ite 0 =bidd5 we>2 b x is no long] s reg>d$1 & a wid[ may & does we> :ite or cream on h] w$d+-day--n exactly a maid5 bridal dress1 z a t+e ( col\r is introduc$4 ,! l>g] numb] /ill reg>d pale grey or pale heliotrope z m suitable on ! occasion ( a second m>riage1 & d\btless ?is is s :5 a wid[ is n 9 h] fir/ y\?4 ,a wid[ may n1 ( c\rse1 we> a bridal veil2 %e mu/ we> a hat or toque1 :ite or col\r$1 z %e pleases4 ,%e c h a b\quet1 n ( :ite fl[]s only1 b mauve or p9k1 or violets1 accord+ to *oice4 ,x is q p]missible to h a full *oral s]vice1 & = ! *ur* 9 :i* ! c]emony is p]=m$ to be decorat$ ) plants & fl[]s1 b w$d+ fav\rs %\ld n be giv5 to ! gue/s at its conclusion4 ,:5 a ,wid[ has a reception ! ,newly ,m>ri$ ,pair %\ld receive _! ,gue/s /&+ toge!r4 ,! bride's "m1 or ne> relative1 c\ld assi/ !m 9 receiv+4 ,if a lun*eon is to be giv51 !y %\ld lead ! way to ! d9+-room1 & sit at ! head ( ! table1 side by side2 b if a reception tea is giv51 ! gue/s might be s5t 9 at ! tea h\r--t is to say1 told t tea is go+ on1 & ! bride & bridegroom c\ld foll[ lat] %\ld ! numb]s be too great to admit ( all go+ into ! tea-room at ! same "t4 ,x is q 9 ,ord] = a ,wid[ to h a ,w$d+ ,cake1 b x %\ld n be decorat$ ) orange blossoms or ) :ite fl[]s1 m]ely ) ic+ & ornam5tations4 ,! display ( pres5ts at ! m>riage ( a wid[ is1 z a rule1 a v re/rict$ "o4 ,! bridegroom & ! bridegroom's family be+ ! pr9cipal donors1 ! pres5ts are seldom exhibit$4 ,! exception is :5 a wid[ has made _m new fri5ds1 & has receiv$ w$d+ pres5ts f !m4 ,pres5ts1 :5 made to a wid[ hav+ a h\se ( h] own1 are expect$ to be ( sub/antial value1 & !re is a g5]al reluctance felt to (f]+ h] trifles1 ev5 if exp5sive ones1 su* z a girl-bride w\ld appreciate2 n s a m>ri$ lady ( social /&+4 ,on arriv+ at ! ,h\se :]e ! w$d+ lun*eon or reception is to be held1 ! g5tlem5 %\ld leave _! hats 9 ! hall4 ,! ladies %\ld n remove _! bonnets or hats at a w$d+ lun*eon or reception1 nei!r %\ld ! bridesmaids d s4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld take (f _! gloves at w$d+ lun*eons1 b x is optional :e!r ladies d s or n4 ,at receptions x is optional ) bo? ladies & g5tlem5 :e!r !y take (f _! gloves or n4 ,! gue/s :o h n already _h an opportunity ( speak+ to ! bride & bridegroom1 on be+ u%]$ into ! draw+-room1 :]e ! company assembles1 %\ld %ake h&s ) !m1 hav+ fir/ gone ?r\gh t c]emony ) ! ho/ & ho/ess1 if !y h n already done s4 ,previ\s to lun*eon be+ ann\nc$ ! bride's fa!r or "m %\ld tell ! pr9cipal ( ! g5tlem5 pres5t :om to take d[n to lun*eon4 ,b ?is only applies to a sit-d[n lun*eon4 ,at /&+-up lun*eons ! gue/s are n s5t 9 9 c\ples1 b g 9 z !y please1 ev5 two or ?ree ladies toge!r1 & little or no prec$5cy1 bridal or o!rwise1 is foll[$ z a g5]al rule4 ,! lun*eon %\ld be s]v$ 9 ! d9+-room1 libr>y1 or l>ge m>quee1 z ! case may be4 ,! bride's "m & ! bridegroom's "m %\ld take prec$5ce ( all o!r ladies pres5t on ! occasion ( a w$d+ lun*eon4 ,at /rictly ,family ,ga!r+s ! ,gue/s %\ld g 9 to ,lun*eon 9 ! foll[+ ord]3--,! bride & bridegroom4 ,! bride's fa!r ) ! bridegroom's "m4 ,! bridegroom's fa!r ) ! bride's "m4 ,! be/ man ) ! head bridesmaid4 ,! rema9+ bridesmaids ) ! g5tlem5 :o are to take !m 9 to lun*eon4 ,! re/ ( ! company %\ld foll[ 9 ! wake ( ! bridesmaids4 ,! bride %\ld take ! bridegroom's left arm4 ,sitt+-d[n lun*eons & /&+-up lun*eons are equally fa%ionable1 al?\gh ! latt] are f> m g5]al1 & little or no bridal prec$5cy is obs]v$4 ,:5 a /&+-up lun*eon is giv51 small tables are arrang$ = ! conv5i5ce ( ! bridal p>ty on "o side ( ! room1 :ile a long table occupies ! c5tre ( ! room4 ,:5 a sitt+-d[n lun*eon is giv5 ! bride & bridegroom %\ld sit ei!r at ! head ( a long table or at ! c5tre ( x--! bride at ! bridegroom's left h&4 ,! bride's fa!r %\ld sit next ! bride ) ! bridegroom's "m4 ,:5 ! bride & bridegroom sit at ! c5tre ( ! table ! bridesmaids %\ld sit opposite to !m ) ! g5tlem5 :o h tak5 !m 9 to lun*eon2 ea* sitt+ at a g5tleman's "r h&4 ,:5 ! bride & bridegroom occupy ! head ( ! table1 ! bridesmaids1 ) ! g5tlem5 :o h tak5 !m 9 to lun*eon1 %\ld place !mselves next ! p>5ts on ei!r side ( ! table1 divid+ _! numb] into two gr\ps4 ,:5 ! bride's fa!r is dead1 h] elde/ bro!r or ne>e/ male relative %\ld take 8 place & %\ld take ! bridegroom's "m 9 to lun*eon4 ,a ,w$d+ ,breakfa/ is n[ t]m$ a lun*eon1 *ampagne & o!r w9es take ! place ( tea & c(fee1 :i* bev]ages are n s]v$ until t[>ds ! end ( ! lun*eon4 ,at w$d+s :i* take place at #b4cj p4m41 a lun*eon is frequ5tly giv5 at #c1 foll[$ by a tea at #d4 ,! ,lun*eon ,m5u g5]ally comprises s\p1 entrees bo? hot & cold2 *ick5s1 game1 mayonnaises1 salads1 jellies1 creams1 etc41 etc41 & o!r di%es ( a l "*4 ,! sweets %\ld be plac$ on ! table1 fruit also4 ,! entrees1 etc41 %\ld be h&$ by ! s]vants1 ! sweets %\ld also be tak5 (f ! table by ! m5-s]vants & h&$ r\nd 9 turn4 ,at a /&+-up lun*eon ! g5tlem5 %\ld help ! ladies & !mselves to ! v>i\s di%es on ! table1 z di%es are n h&$ at ?is description ( lun*eon2 hot entrees & s\p are n giv54 ,! m5u is 9 o!r respects simil>4 ,! tables %\ld be decorat$ ) fl[]s at ei!r a /&+-up or a sitt+-d[n lun*eon4 ,bottles ( *ampagne %\ld be plac$ ! l5g? ( ! table at a /&+-up lun*eon2 if n1 ! g5tlem5 %\ld ask ! s]vants 9 att5dance = *ampagne = ! ladies !y h tak5 d[n1 & = !mselves4 ,at a sitt+-d[n lun*eon ! s]vants (f] *ampagne to ! gue/s 9 ! same ord] 9 :i* !y h& ! di%es4 ,:5 ! sweets h be5 h&$ ! bride %\ld cut ! w$d+-cake4 ,?is %e does by m]ely mak+ ! fir/ incision ) a knife2 x %\ld !n be cut by ! butl] into small slices1 & h&$ on dess]t plates to ! gue/s4 ,! ,heal? ( ! ,bride & ,bridegroom %\ld !n be propos$ by ! mo/ di/+ui%$ gue/ pres5t1 = :i* ! bridegroom %\ld return ?anks4 ,he %\ld !n propose ! heal? ( ! bridesmaids1 = :i* ! be/ man %\ld return ?anks4 ,occasionally ! g5tleman ( highe/ rank pres5t also proposes ?is heal? 9 place ( ! bridegroom4 ,! heal? ( ! bride's fa!r & "m %\ld be propos$ by ! bridegroom's fa!r4 ,x is n[ ! cu/om to conf9e propos+ heal?s at w$d+ lun*eons )9 ! n>r[e/ limits4 ,! heal? ( ! bride & bridegroom1 & t ( ! bridesmaids be+1 9 g5]al1 ! only heal?s propos$4 ,at /&+-up lun*eons & at w$d+ receptions1 ! heal? ( ! bride & bridegroom only is propos$4 ,! ,bride %\ld leave ! ,d9+-room imm$iately aft] ! heal?s h be5 drunk1 to *ange h] dress = dep>ture4 ,! head bridesmaid %\ld accompany h]1 if relat$ to h]1 & ! gue/s %\ld adj\rn to ! draw+-room to await ! bride's reappe>ance1 :i* %\ld n be long delay$1 & ! adieus %\ld !n be made4 ,leave-tak+s %\ld n be prolong$ m ?an is absolutely necess>y4 ,! p>5ts %\ld foll[ ! bride & bridegroom into ! hall1 & adieus to !m %\ld !re be made4 ,! ,old-fa%ion$ ,cu/om ( ?r[+ sat9 slipp]s aft] ! bride is sometimes obs]v$1 fooli% z x is4 ,x is ! be/ man's or ! head bridesmaid's privilege to p]=m ?is ridicul\s act4 ,:5 rice is ?r[n aft] a bride x %\ld be scatt]$ by ! m>ri$ & n by ! unm>ri$ ladies pres5t2 b ! cu/om1 l t ( ?r[+ ! s-call$ confetti1 is n[ practically obsolete 9 good society4 ,/rew+ ! ,bride's ,pa? ) ,fl[]s f ! *ur* to ! c>riage by village *ildr5 is a cu/om mu* foll[$ at w$d+s :i* take place 9 ! c\ntry4 ,! ,honeymoon n[ seldom la/s long] ?an a week or t5 days4 ,_m brides pref] sp5d+ _! honeymoon 9 _! future home1 if x happ5s to be 9 ! c\ntry1 in/ead ( mak+ a hurri$ trip to ,p>is or else:]e1 or to sp5d+ x at ! c\ntry h\se ( a fri5d1 l5t to !m = ! purpose4 ,b x is entirely a matt] ( individual feel+ :i* c\rse is tak54 ,! ,bride's ,tr\sseau %\ld be m>k$ ) ! initials ( ! "n %e is to take4 ,! ,bridegroom %\ld provide ! h\se-l95 & all o!r ?+s app]ta9+ to ! bride's new home4 ,! ,w$d+ ,pres5ts %\ld be dispat*$ to ! bride's resid5ce imm$iately aft] ! w$d+1 & !y %\ld at once be put into _! sev]al places1 & n arrang$ = ! purpose ( be+ %[n to visitors4 ,! ,bridal ,wrea? %\ld n be worn aft] ! w$d+-day4 ,! bridal wrea?1 ! bridal b\quet1 & ! orange blossoms f ! w$d+-cake1 if treasur$ z mem5tos ( ! happy ev5t1 %\ld be pres]v$ 9 ! recesses ( a lock$ draw] 9 ! bride's *amb]1 & n exhibit$ "u glass %ades 9 ! draw+-room4 ,prec$5ce %\ld n be accord$ to a bride dur+ ! fir/ ?ree mon?s aft] m>riage1 al?\gh ?is old-fa%ion$ cu/om is sometimes foll[$ at c\ntry d9n]-p>ties on ! occasion ( a bride's fir/ visit4 ,! ,cu/om ( s5d+ ,w$d+ ,cake to fri5ds is an explod$ "o1 & only foll[$ betwe5 ne> relations4 ,w$d+ ,c>ds are1 /rictly speak+1 out ( date1 & only s5t by p :o adh]e to old-fa%ion$ cu/oms4 ,! ,words ,no ,c>ds %\ld n be ins]t$ :5 ! ann\ncem5t ( a m>riage is s5t to ! newspap]s2 nei!r %\ld ! intimation be add$ t ! bride & bridegroom w be at home on c]ta9 days4 ,,*apt] ,,xvii ,,w$d+ ,,receptions ,an ,aft]noon ,w$d+ usually takes place betwe5 #b & #b4cj o'clock1 & ! reception t foll[s is giv5 f #b4cj to #e1 on ! return f ! *ur*4 ,:5 a w$d+ is a *oral "o ! *oir & cl]gy frequ5tly head ! bridal procession4 ,?is is arrang$ ) ! vic> ( ! *ur* :]e ! m>riage is solemnis$4 ,invitations to w$d+ receptions are no long] issu$ on at home c>ds1 b are includ$ 9 ! invitations to ! w$d+ c]emony issu$ 9 pr9t$ notes4 7,see ,*apt] ,,xvi47 ,! arrangem5ts 9 ! tea-room1 & ! refre%m5ts giv51 %\ld be simil> to ^? provid$ at l>ge aft]noon at homes1 ) ! addition ( w$d+-cake & *ampagne4 ,c]emony is1 z f> z possible1 disp5s$ ) z reg>ds s5d+ ! gue/s into ! tea-room1 & ?is is a great advantage ga9$ ov] a w$d+ lun*eon1 ei!r a sitt+-d[n or a /&+-up "o1 :5 p are d\btful z to ! exact place belong+ to ea* individual relative4 ,! bride & bridegroom ei!r ent] fir/1 foll[$ by ! bridesmaids & a few ( ! pr9cipal gue/s1 or !y foll[ lat]1 z !y pref]4 ,! rema9d] ( ! company %\ld make _! way d[n/airs z space p]mits1 = a w$d+ reception is a cr[d$ affair1 ev5 9 ! l>ge/ ( mansions4 ,n only is e "o invit$ :o has giv5 a w$d+ pres5t to ei!r bride or bridegroom1 )9 visit+ di/ance1 b ev5 o!rs :o are n intimate en\gh to be expect$ to d s4 ,! gue/s %\ld n make _! way 9 ! fir/ in/ance to ! tea-room1 b %\ld proce$ at once to ! draw+-room & %ake h&s ) ! ho/ & ho/ess1 & aft]w>ds ) ! bride & bridegroom4 ,! bride & bridegroom %\ld /& toge!r )9 ! draw+-room & %ake h&s ) all ^? ) :om !y are acqua9t$4 ,! bride & bridegroom %\ld be ! fir/ to ent] ! tea-room4 ,fl[]s1 z a matt] ( c\rse1 are a great feature at w$d+ receptions4 ,! tea & c(fee %\ld be s]v$ by ! maid-s]vants1 g5]ally by ! lady's maids1 b m5-s]vants %\ld also be 9 att5dance to op5 ! *ampagne z requir$4 ,v little w9e is drunk at ?is h\r ( ! day4 ,ladies seldom c>e = x1 & g5tlem5 avoid x on pr9ciple4 ,/ill1 out ( complim5t to ! bride1 ! relatives quaff a cup ( sp>kl+ w9e1 al?\gh h] heal? is seldom propos$ or spee*es ( any k9d made4 ,! bride %\ld put ! knife into ! w$d+-cake1 & ! butl] %\ld cut x up & h& x to ! gue/s4 ,seats %\ld n be plac$ 9 ! tea-room1 & ! tables %\ld occupy ! top or side1 or bo? ! top & side1 ( ! room1 accord+ to ! numb] ( gue/s invit$1 s z to leave z mu* space z possible 9 ! c5tre ( ! room4 ,! bride & bridegroom are n always pres5t at a w$d+ tea1 z ! dep>ture = ! propos$ place ( honeymoon does n 9 e case admit ( x1 & ! "m holds ! at home1 & ! gue/s inspect ! pres5ts aft] ! newly-m>ri$ c\ple h left4 ,an at home is sometimes giv5 a few days previ\s to ! w$d+ = ! inspection ( ! pres5ts1 if !y are v num]\s & beautiful2 b ev5 :5 ?is is done !y /ill =m a c5tre ( int]e/ on ! aft]noon ( ! w$d+ to ! _m gue/s4 ,:5 jewell]y & plate to any great ext5t =m a portion ( ! pres5ts1 x is sometimes ?\ght necess>y to h a policeman on duty :ile ! h\se is op5 to s _m com]s1 & :5 to effect an entrance "u ! pretext ( bus9ess w\ld be an easy matt]4 ,,*apt] ,,xviii ,,w$d+ ,,exp5ses ,! ,responsibilities ( a ,bridegroom f a pecuni>y po9t ( view comm5ce f ! mom5t ( 8 engagem5t4 ,he mu/ at once pres5t ! bride-elect ) an engagem5t r+4 ,a man ( ev5 mod]ate weal? f9ds no difficulty 9 *oos+ & pur*as+ a h&some r+ co/+ f ,l#ej to ,l#ajj2 b a poor man1 possess+ b a small income1 is (t5 put to m exp5se ?an he c conv5i5tly af=d 9 ! matt] ( an engagem5t r+4 ,he kn[s all ! memb]s ( ! bride's family w sit 9 judgm5t ^u x if x is b a mode/ gift wor? ab\t ,l#aj1 :i* is q z mu* z he feels he is ju/ifi$ 9 sp5d+2 he kn[s t bo? x & himself w be reg>d$ z v mean1 or z convey+ a n v inspirit+ prospect ( days to come4 ,! engagem5t r+ worn on ! bride's f+] aft] m>riage is a la/+ mem5to1 & if a poor "o %e w n be pr\d ( x--nei!r w he4 ,ri* m5 take ! brides to *oose engagem5t r+s1 exp5se be+ no object to !m2 b poor m5 _c d ?is1 z ! *oice might fall on gems beyond _! means1 !re=e !y make ! *oice !mselves1 accord+ to ! position ( ! families !y are ab\t to ent]4 ,if ! /&+ is above _! own1 f a money po9t ( view1 ! engagem5t r+s h to be *os5 9 accordance ) ! jewels worn by memb]s ( su* families1 & a bridegroom w\ld ?us sp5d ,l#dj at lea/ on an engagem5t r+ suitable to a lady s plac$4 ,on ! o!r h&1 :5 m5 ) small incomes m>ry ! daught]s ( p>5ts ( a simil> position to _! own1 ! engagem5t r+s giv5 are n co/ly ones1 & a t5-p\nd note1 or ev5 less1 w\ld cov] ! co/ ( ^! b9d+ tok5s4 ,! w$d+ r+s are )9 ! means ( all bridegrooms1 be !y ev] s poor4 ,dur+ ! ,engagem5t ! "q ( pres5ts to ! brides-elect is nev] abs5t f ! ?\ghts ( _! bridegrooms4 ,! weal?y please !mselves & _! brides by giv+ co/ly jewels1 :i* are (t5 *os5 by ! brides !mselves 9 company ) _! bridegrooms4 ,?is is v delightful %opp+1 b x does n fall to ! lot ( ! great majority4 ,m5 ( mod]ate means give pres5ts ( mod]ate value & few 9 numb]2 !y are n b\nd by etiquette dur+ _! engagem5ts to give any jewell]y if _! incomes d n w>rant ?is outlay2 b a man mu/ h v little money to g ^u if he _c contrive to give a bracelet or necklet or "s su* tr9ket to ! girl he is ab\t to m>ry4 ,to give ,pres5ts to ! ,bridesmaids is ano!r ( ! obligations ( bridegrooms4 ,"h aga91 ! weal?y ex]cise _! g5]osity & good ta/e ) ! concurr5ce ( _! brides1 :o assi/ !m 9 ! *oice ( suitable pres5ts 9 articles ( jewell]y4 ,^! av]age ,l#e & upw>ds = ea* bridesmaid1 :i* br+ x to a good total :5 ! bridesmaids are num]\s4 ,! po9t t affects ! g5]osity ( bridegrooms1 h[ev]1 is n h[ mu* !y ought to sp5d on ^! pres5ts1 b r1 h[ little may be sp5t ^u !m ) due consid]ation = ! fitness ( ?+s1 viz4 ! position ( ! bridesmaids4 ,two sov]eigns w\ld be a reasonable sum = a man ( small means to sp5d on ea* gift to ! bridesmaid4 ,! ,bridal ,b\quet & ! ,bridesmaids' ,b\quets come next on ! li/ ( exp5ses a bridegroom defrays4 ,ri* m5 sp5d lib]ally 9 ?is direction1 b av]age sums to give to meet ord9>y incomes are two gu9eas to "o gu9ea = a bride's b\quet1 & five & tw5ty to fifte5 %ill+s ea* = ! bridesmaids' b\quets4 ,! ,fees connect$ ) ! ,c]emony are /rictly ! prov9ce ( ! bridegroom to defray4 ,if a m>riage is by lic5ce1 he pays ! co/1 :i* 9 t[n am\nts to ,l#b #bs4 #f;d41 & 9 ! c\ntry f ,l#b #abs4 #f;d4 to ,l#c #cs4 ,! fee to ! vic> ( ! *ur* :]e ! m>riage is to be solemnis$ v>ies f ,l#a #as4 to ,l#e #es41 (t5] ,l#a #as4 ?an n ) ! majority ( bridegrooms ) mod]ate incomes1 ! exception be+ ,l#e #es4 ,! m9or fees are v trifl+ t a bridegroom is expect$ to pay4 ,he pays ! organi/ = play+ a w$d+ m>* at ! conclusion ( ! s]vice1 if x is n a *oral "o2 ! bell-r+]s look to him = _! fee1 z d ! v]g]s1 etc4 ,?us a bridegroom pays = :at is absolutely necess>y at ! m>riage c]emony only1 & v little besides4 ,:5 a ,fri5d ( ! ,bride or ,bridegroom p]=ms ! ,c]emony or assi/s at x a fee is n giv5 to him by ! bridegroom1 b a pres5t ( "s k9d is made to him1 ei!r 9 silv] plate or by a small *eque1 z circum/ances dictate1 = railway exp5ses or o!rwise4 ,x is usual = ! bridegroom to d ?is unless ! cl]gyman 9 "q is a relative ( ! bride1 :5 a jo9t pres5t is usually giv5 by bride & bridegroom4 ,! ,bride's ,p>5ts be> a ,l>ge ,%>e ( ! ,w$d+ ,exp5ses1 =emo/ ( :i* is ! bride's tr\sseau1 ! co/ ( ?is be+ entirely dep5d5t on position & income4 ,! d9n]s & at homes giv5 be=e ! m>riage to introduce ! bridegroom to ! memb]s ( ! bride's family are giv5 by ! bride's p>5ts4 ,! w$d+ reception is giv5 by !m1 ei!r at _! own resid5ce or at an hotel4 ,z conc]ns _! %>e ( ! exp5ses connect$ ) ! c]emony1 x dep5ds ^u :e!r ! w$d+ is to be a sm>t "o or a quiet "o4 ,if ! =m]1 ! exp5ses t fall to !m are some:at consid]able2 if ! latt]1 !y are almo/ nil4 ,a *oral s]vice1 = in/ance1 is paid = by ! bride's p>5ts1 ! organi/1 *oirma/]1 & *oir all be+ sev]ally paid by !m4 ,if ! hymns sung are pr9t$ on leaflets ?is trifl+ exp5se also is includ$4 ,all floral decorations are paid = by ! bride's p>5ts1 z is ! hire ( ! awn+ & ! r$ felt at ! *ur* doors4 ,:5 w$d+ fav\rs or button-holes are giv5 x is by !m also4 ,= :om ! ,bride's ,family are expect$ to provide ,conveyances is inv>iably a ,misund]/ood ,detail4--,! bride's fa!r has only to provide c>riages or c>s to convey himself & bride to ! *ur*1 & = ^? memb]s ( 8 family resid+ "u 8 ro(1 & = visitors /ay+ ) him = ! w$d+4 ,he is n requir$ to provide !m = any o!r ( ! gue/s1 save 9 ! c\ntry1 & !n only = ^? :o arrive by tra9 at a roadside /ation & _c obta9 conveyances = !mselves4 ,9 t[n ! bridegroom has to provide ! motor-c> to convey himself & bride f ! *ur* to h] fa!r's h\se1 & aft]w>ds to ! /ation4 ,9 ! c\ntry ! rev]se is ! case1 & ! bride's fa!r does ?is by l5d+ "o ( 8 own c>riages or c>s = ! purpose4 ,! ,bridegroom is expect$ to provide ! ,furniture & all h\sehold effects = ! new home1 includ+ plate & l951 :i* latt] naturally =m v important items4 ,_m ( ! bridal pres5ts1 h[ev] are made to light5 ^! exp5ses1 & consi/ ( plate to a great ext5t1 & occasionally ( l95 also1 f ! memb]s ( ! bride's family2 /ill1 ! rule 9 ,engl& is t ! bridegroom %\ld provide x z "p ( ! necess>ies ( ! home1 & ! gift ( x by relatives is altoge!r optional4 ,,*apt] ,,xix ,,aft]noon ,,at ,,homes ,aft]noon ,at ,homes are a great feature among/ ! ent]ta9m5ts ( ! day1 l>ge aft]noon p>ties1 & small aft]noon p>ties2 p>ties s l>ge t ! numb] ( gue/s equals ^? at a big cru% or ev5+ reception1 & s small t !y might fairly come "u ! d5om9ation ( aft]noon teas4 ,at aft]noon at homes1 ladies are pres5t 9 a consid]able majority1 !re be+ usually f ab\t t5 g5tlem5 to ?irty ladies on an av]age pres5t at ^! ga!r+s4 ,ladies h a decid$ p>tiality = ?is class ( ent]ta9m5t1 z x af=ds an opportunity = meet+ _! fri5ds & acqua9tances1 or = mak+ new acqua9tances1 & = =m+ future plans & int]*ang+ civilities2 & ev5 9 ! height ( ! ,london season1 aft]noon at homes are fully att5d$ by ! memb]s ( ! fa%ionable _w4 ,!re are v>i\s classes ( aft]noon at homes3 ! l>ge at home ( f fifty to two hundr$ gue/s1 :5 usually pr(essional vocal & in/rum5tal tal5t is engag$1 & fairly good music giv51 al?\gh ! ent]ta9m5t is n ( suffici5t importance to be t]m$ a conc]t2 ! at home ( f fifty to a hundr$ gue/s :5 only amateur tal5t is 9 requisition2 & ! small at home ( f t5 to ?irty p1 :5 conv]sation usually takes ! place ( music1 ! p>ty be+ compos$ ( fri5ds r ?an ( acqua9tances4 ,invitations to ,at ,homes %\ld be issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! ho/ess only1 & n 9 ! unit$ names ( ! ma/] & mi/ress ( ! h\se4 ,invitations %\ld be issu$ on at home c>ds1 l>ge & small1 & also on visit+ c>ds4 ,! "n ( ! p]son invit$ %\ld be writt5 at ! top ( ! c>d at ! "r-h& corn]1 ! words at home be+ pr9t$ b5ea? ! "n ( ! lady issu+ ! invitation1 & ! day & date b5ea? ! words at home1 & ! h\r b5ea? ! date4 ,any amusem5t to be giv5 %\ld be add$ at ! bottom ( ! c>d at ! left-h& corn]4 ,! address %\ld be pr9t$ at ! "r-h& corn] at ! bottom ( ! c>d4 ,! lett]s ,r4,s4,v4,p4 are occasionally ei!r writt5 or pr9t$ on ! at home c>d1 at ! left-h& corn] ( ! bottom ( ! c>d1 b x is n usual to write ,r4,s4,v4,p4 9 ! corn] ( an aft]noon at home c>d1 z x is immat]ial h[ _m gue/s are pres5t at ?is class ( ent]ta9m5t2 b if an answ] is s reque/$1 an answ] %\ld be s5t4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 signifies repondez1 s'il v\s plait or an answ] is reque/$4 ,x is cu/om>y to include ! head ( ! family1 ei!r husb& or fa!r1 9 ! invitation4 ,?us1 at ! top ( ! c>d1 at ! "r-h& corn] %\ld be writt5 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,a41 or ,mr4 & ,miss ,a4 ,! daught]s ( ! h\se %\ld be includ$ 9 ! invitation s5t to _! "m4 ,?us ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,a41 ,! ,misses ,a41 b ! sons ( ! h\se %\ld be invit$ sep>ately4 ,:5 a family consi/s ( a "m & daught]s1 ! invitation %\ld be ,mrs4 & ! ,misses ,a4 ,! title ( ,hon\rable %\ld n be put on an invitation c>d1 b only on ! envelope conta9+ ! c>d4 ,all o!r titles are recognis$ on invitation c>ds2 b ! lett]s ,k4,c4,b41 ,m4,p41 etc41 %\ld n be writt5 on ! c>ds1 b only on ! envelopes 9 :i* !y are enclos$4 ,if a lady is aw>e t %e w be unable to be pres5t1 x w\ld be polite to s5d h] excuses1 al?\gh /rict etiquette does n dem& x2 bo? ! invitation & ! answ] c 9 all cases be s5t by po/4 ,x is n n[ consid]$ necess>y to leave c>ds aft] aft]noon at homes4 ,invitations to l>ge aft]noon at homes %\ld be issu$ a =tnight previ\s to ! day1 & to small at homes )9 a week or s ( ! day4 ,! ,arrival ( ,gue/s4--,:5 invit$ gue/s arrive1 !y %\ld n inquire if ! ho/ess is at home1 b at once ent] ! h\se2 & !y %\ld be u%]$ at once into ! tea-room4 ,! g5tlem5 %\ld leave _! hats & ov]coats 9 ! hall4 ,at l>ge at homes a cloak-room %\ld be provid$1 s t a lady c\ld remove a cloak or fur-cape1 usually worn dur+ ! w9t] wea!r2 b at small at homes a cloak-room is n necess>y1 z ! reception-rooms are nei!r s cr[d$ nor s w>m1 nei!r are ! ladies' toilettes s elaborate4 ,refre%m5ts4--,at l>ge at homes refre%m5ts %\ld be s]v$ 9 ! d9+-room1 on a long buffet at "o end ( ! room1 or on a long table ! l5g? ( ! room4 ,! lady's-maids & o!r maid-s]vants %\ld /& beh9d ! table to p\r out & h& ! cups ( tea or c(fee across ! table z ask$ =4 ,x is usual to h wom5-s]vants on ^! occasions to p\r out ! tea1 a man-s]vant or m5-s]vants be+ also 9 att5dance1 9 case any?+ is requir$ ( !m1 al?\gh g5tlem5 usually help !mselves to cl>et-cup1 w9e1 etc4 ,! usual refre%m5ts giv5 at ^! at homes are tea & c(fee1 ! latt] s]v$ f l>ge silv] urns4 7,see *apt] ,prep>+ ,aft]noon ,tea1 9 ! "w entitl$ ,wait+ at ,table47 ,%]ry1 *ampagne-cup1 cl>et-cup1 ices1 fruit1 fancy biscuits & cakes1 ?9 bread-&-butt]1 pott$ game1 s&wi*es1 etc4 ,ice plates are us$ = ices1 dess]t plates = fruit & fruit salads4 ,at small at homes *ampagne1 cl>et-cup1 & ices are n giv54 ,! tea %\ld be made 9 teapots1 in/ead ( 9 urns1 at bo? l>ge & small at homes4 ,at small at homes ! tea is usually s]v$ 9 ! small] ( ! two draw+-rooms1 or 9 an adjo9+ b\doir or ante-room4 ,! tea is !n p\r$ out by ! "y ladies ( ! h\se1 or by ! ho/ess h]self1 b seldom by maid-s]vants :5 s]v$ 9 ! draw+-room4 ,! mo/ conv5i5t mann]1 h[ev]1 ( s]v+ tea is to s]ve x 9 ! d9+-room1 unless ! numb] ( gue/s is limit$1 :5 x w\ld appe> unsociable if !y 7 to congregate 9 ! d9+-room1 leav+ ! ho/ess comp>atively alone 9 ! draw+-room4 ,:5 tea is s]v$ 9 ! d9+-room1 ! gue/s are usually ask$ by ! s]vant 9 att5dance if !y w h tea be=e be+ u%]$ into ! draw+-room4 ,at small teas1 ! cups ( tea %\ld be h&$ to ! ladies by ! g5tlem5 pres5t1 or by ! "y lady (ficiat+ at ! tea-table1 & g5tlem5 g5]ally /& ab\t ! room1 or ne> ! tea-table1 at small at homes4 ,receiv+ ,gue/s4--,! s]vant %\ld prec$e ! gue/s to ! draw+-room z 9 morn+ calls4 ,at l>ge at homes ! ho/ess %\ld receive h] gue/s at ! draw+-room door1 & %ake h&s ) ea* on arrival4 ,! draw+-room door %\ld rema9 op51 & %e %\ld /& )9 ! doorway4 ,at small teas1 ! draw+-room door %\ld n rema9 op51 & ! ho/ess %\ld receive h] gue/s )9 ! room1 z at morn+ calls4 ,! gue/s %\ld arrive f a qu>t]-pa/ f\r until half-pa/ five or six o'clock4 ,! gue/s are n expect$ to rema9 ! :ole ?ree h\rs specifi$1 & are at lib]ty to rema9 z long or z %ort a "t z !y please4 ,! e>lie/ arrivals are g5]ally ! fir/ to leave4 ,:5 ! ho/ess judges x exp$i5t to d s1 %e introduces "o or two ( ! ladies to ea* o!r1 ei!r 9 a =mal mann] 7see ,*apt] ,,ii471 or 9 a semi-=mal mann]1 by say+1 ,mrs4 ,a41 ,i don't ?9k y "k ,mrs4 ,b42 b %e %\ld n say ?is unless q c]ta9 t ,mrs4 ,b4 desires ! acqua9tance ( ,mrs4 ,a41 or t ,mrs4 ,a4 has no objection to kn[+ ,mrs4 ,b4#e ,x is r ! exception ?an ! rule to make g5]al introductions on ^! occasions4 ,introductions %\ld only be made :5 ! ho/ess is aw>e t ! p]sons introduc$ w\ld be likely to appreciate ea* o!r1 or = any reason ( equal weight4 ,! gue/s %\ld g to ! tea-room ) any g5tlem5 ( _! acqua9tance pres5t1 or 9 ! case ( ladies ) ea* o!r1 if !y h n done s on arrival4 ,?is move to ! tea-room is usually made 9 ! int]vals betwe5 music1 recitations1 etc4 ,occasionally1 ! ho/ess introduces "o or two ( ! g5tlem5 pres5t to ! ladies ( highe/ rank = ! purpose ( s5d+ !m into ! tea-room4 ,a lady %\ld place h] empty cup on any table ne> at h&1 unless a g5tleman (f]s to put x d[n = h]4 ,x is optional :e!r a lady removes h] gloves or n1 & _m pref] n to d s4 ,at l>ge at homes1 ! ho/ess rema9s at h] po/ ! :ole ( ! "t1 & h>dly ev] sits d[n4 ,at small at homes1 %e %\ld move among/ h] gue/s1 conv]s+ ) !m all m or less4 ,:5 !re are daught]s1 !y %\ld assi/ _! "m 9 ent]ta9+ ! gue/s4 ,:5 ladies are acqua9t$1 !y %\ld take an opportunity ( speak+ to ea* o!r4 ,x is usual = ladies to move ab\t ! rooms at aft]noon at homes to speak to _! v>i\s fri5ds & acqua9tances2 & !y are by no means oblig$ to rema9 seat$ 9 "o spot unless desir\s ( do+ s4 ,:5 music is giv5 at aft]noon at homes1 x is usual to li/5 to ! p]=mance1 or at lea/ to appe> to d s2 & if conv]sation is c>ri$ on1 x %\ld be 9 a l[ tone1 s z n to di/urb or annoy ! p]=m]s4 ,x is n necess>y to take leave ( ! ho/ess at aft]noon at homes1 unless %e is /&+ ne> ! draw+-room door :5 ! gue/ is pass+ out1 or unless %e is a new acqua9tance1 & ! visit a fir/ "o at h] h\se1 :5 x w\ld be polite to d s4 ,:5 x is late1 & b a few gue/s /ill rema91 ^! few %\ld make _! adieus to ! ho/ess4 ,at ^! aft]noon teas or at homes1 ! ho/ess %\ld n r+ to ord] ! door to be op5$ = ! dep>t+ gue/ or = h] motor-c> to be call$1 z at morn+ calls4 ,! gue/s make _! way to ! hall1 & ! s]vants 9 att5dance call up ! motor-c>s z !y are ask$ =4 ,motor-c>s %\ld always be kept 9 wait+ at aft]noon at homes1 z ladies are sometimes unable to rema9 long] ?an a qu>t] ( an h\r4 ,! gue/s ei!r rema9 9 ! hall or 9 ! d9+-room until !y he> _! motor-c>s are ann\nc$4 ,gratuities %\ld nev] be (f]$ to s]vants at ^! ent]ta9m5ts1 or1 9 fact1 at any ent]ta9m5t :atev]4 ,aft]noon ,conc]ts4--,:5 aft]noon conc]ts are giv51 invitations %\ld be issu$ on ! usual at home c>ds1 :i* c be pur*as$ ) ! words at home1 etc41 already pr9t$1 or !y are pr9t$ to ord]1 ) ! "n & address ( ! ho/ess4 ,! "n ( ! p]son invit$ %\ld be writt5 above ! "n ( ! ho/ess at ! "r-h& corn] ( ! c>d4 ,! date "u ! l9e at home %\ld be 9 ! c5tre ( ! c>d b5ea? ! "n ( ! ho/ess2 ! h\r %\ld be writt5 at ! left-h& corn]1 & ! lett]s ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,! pr9t$ address %\ld be at ! "r-h& corn]4 ,! names ( ! p]=m]s %\ld be add$ at ! bottom ( ! c>d at ! "r-h& corn]4 ,! h\r usually fix$ = a conc]t is #c o'clock4 ,! ho/ess %\ld receive h] gue/s at ! draw+-room door1 :5 !y %\ld at once seat !mselves4 ,! seats %\ld be arrang$ 9 r[s d[n ! c5tre ( ! room1 & s(as & settees %\ld be plac$ ar\nd ! room4 ,! programme ( a conc]t is divid$ into two p>ts1 & at ! conclusion ( ! fir/ "p ! gue/s %\ld repair to ! d9+-room = refre%m5ts1 :i* are s]v$ z at l>ge at homes4 ,aft]noon ,dances4--,invitations to aft]noon dances %\ld be issu$ on at home c>ds 9 ! mann] already describ$4 ,danc+ %\ld be pr9t$ 9 ! corn] ( c>ds1 & ! h\r ( #d to #g o'clock sub/itut$ = t ( #c o'clock4 ,! words aft]noon dance %\ld n be writt5 on an invitation c>d1 & !re is no o!r receiv$ =m ( invitation = aft]noon dances ?an ! "o already giv54 ,aft]noon dances are v popul> at wat]+-places1 milit>y /ations1 small t[ns 9 ! vic9ity ( ,london1 etc41 b are seldom giv5 9 ,london itself4 ,refre%m5ts %\ld be s]v$ dur+ ! :ole ( ! aft]noon1 f #d to #g1 z at l>ge at homes4 ,! ladies %\ld remove _! jackets or wraps 9 ! cloak-room1 b reta9 _! hats or bonnets2 ! ho/ess %\ld receive h] gue/s at ! draw+-room door1 z at an aft]noon at home4 ,bridge ,teas occupy an important place 9 social life4 ,!y are a conv5i5t =m ( ent]ta9m5t1 z !y all[ ( a small numb] ( gue/s be+ invit$1 ev5 z few z eight p]sons be+ consid]$ a reasonable numb] ( play]s to invite1 :ile tw5ty-f\r is di/9ctly an outside "o4 ,! av]age numb] is 9 mo/ in/ances sixte51 all told4 ,! play usually comm5ces at #c4cj1 sometimes e>li]1 & cont9ues until #g4cj1 all[+ an int]val = tea at #d4cj4 ,! invitations to ^! in=mal ga!r+s are ei!r issu$ 9 fri5dly notes or on visit+ c>ds4 ,if on ! latt]1 ! words at home1 day1 & date are writt5 "u ! "n ( ! ho/ess1 :ile ,bridge1 #c4cj1 or #c o'clock is put 9 ! corn] ( ! c>ds opposite ! address4 ,! ho/ess arranges be=eh& ! places ! gue/s are to occupy at ! diff]5t tables2 ?is is done t ! good play]s may play toge!r4 ,:5 all h arriv$1 ! ho/ess tells h] gue/s :]e to sit1 & is h]self "o ( ! play]s4 ,on tak+ _! seats !y cut = p>tn]s4 ,%e does n invite gue/s to look on1 z x w\ld necessitate h] n play+1 b talk+ to !m :ile !y rema92 besides conv]sation is disc\rag$1 z x di/racts ! att5tion ( ! play]s f ! game4 ,! ladies reta9 _! hats1 b remove _! coats1 furs1 etc41 on arrival4 ,,footnotes3 #e ,see *apt] ,conv]s+ ) ,new ,acqua9tances1 9 ! "w entitl$ ,! ,art ( ,conv]s+4 ,,*apt] ,,xx ,,at ,,home ,,days ,an ,at ,home day signifies t a lady is at home to h] fri5ds & acqua9tances on "o p>ticul> day 9 ! week4 ,%e %\ld intimate ?is fact by pr9t+ ^u h] visit+ c>ds ! days on :i* %e is at home4 ,?us3 ,?ursdays 9 ,m>*1 or ,?ursdays 9 ,m>* & ,april1 or any day ( ! week %e ?9ks prop] to "n4 ,^! c>ds %e %\ld leave 9 p]son on ^? :o are n at home :5 %e calls1 or !y c be s5t by po/4 ,^? %e f9ds at home %e %\ld in=m t h] at home day is ,?ursday4 ,%e %\ld n leave h] visit+ c>d 9 ?is case1 only two ( h] husb&'s c>ds1 & ! at home day %\ld n be writt5 ^u !m4 ,on ! at home day1 calls %\ld be made f ?ree to six1 or f f\r to six4 ,! fir/ com]s %\ld leave be=e ! aft]noon tea h\r & %\ld limit _! call accord+ to ! degree ( intimacy exi/+1 rema9+ f a qu>t] ( an h\r to an h\r1 z ! case may be4 ,a ,ho/ess or h] ,daught] %\ld p\r out ! ,tea on ^! at home days :5 tea is n s]v$ 9 ! d9+-room z at at homes1 :i* %\ld be done :5 ! numb] ( visitors is v consid]able4 ,! popul>ity ( a ho/ess is te/$ on ^! at home days by ! numb] ( visitors :o call dur+ ! aft]noon1 & :5 at home days are n a success1 socially speak+1 %e %\ld discont9ue !m aft] a c]ta9 "t1 & %\ld sub/itute an occasional at home4 ,x dep5ds n a little on ! social /&+ ( ! lady :o has an at home day & ^u ! locality 9 :i* %e lives1 z to :e!r ! at home day is a failure or ! rev]se4 ,9 ! outly+ di/ricts ( t[n x has its advantages1 :5 to make a call am\nts to almo/ a j\rney1 & :5 acqua9tances are few 9 ! imm$iate neighb\rhood4 ,aga91 x has its advantages :5 ladies are mu* occupi$ dur+ ! week1 & :5 _! "t is giv5 up to an engross+ occupation1 *>itable or arti/ic1 at home or away f home1 lit]>y or sci5tific1 at /udios1 museums & public in/itutions1 etc41 "w und]tak5 = _! own amusem5t1 pr(it1 or advancem5t1 or = ! b5efit ( o!rs4 ,to ^! ladies an at home day is a conv5i5ce4 ,"o day 9 ! week is all !y c all[ !mselves ap>t f _! important engagem5ts1 & to !m quiet privacy & leisure are indisp5sable4 ,fa%ionable ladies consid] an at home day to be a great tax ^u _! "t & incl9ations4 ,_! engagem5ts are too num]\s to admit ( giv+ up "o :ole aft]noon 9 e week on ! *ance ( p call+4 ,n only long-/&+ b impromptu engagem5ts preclude ?is sacrifice4 ,x w\ld be a brea* ( polit5ess n to be at home to call]s on an at home day1 & _m ?+s might occur to necessitate abs5ce f home on t p>ticul> aft]noon4 ,if1 h[ev]1 abs5ce is unavoidable1 a relative might take ! place ( ! ho/ess on ! at home day 9 "q4 ,! p :o ?or\ghly enjoy at home days are ^? :o h m "t on _! h&s ?an !y "k :at to d )4 ,! few calls !y h to make are soon made1 ! few fri5ds !y h to see are soon se51 occupation !y h none1 & !y are grateful = ! opportunity at home days (f] ( meet+ _! fri5ds & f9d+ a ho/ess at home4 ,,*apt] ,,xxi ,,colonial ,,etiquette ,g5]ally speak+1 etiquette is foll[$ 9 ! colonies & 9 ,india by ,engli% m5 & wom5 v mu* z 9 ! "m c\ntry z reg>ds its pr9ciples1 rules1 & obs]vances4 ,"o m>k$ diff]5ce occurs 9 ! h\rs ( call+1 x is true1 !y be+ regulat$ by climate4 ,9 hot climates1 ! e>ly morn+ h\rs1 be=e noon1 & late ev5+ h\rs1 aft] sunset1 are1 accord+ to ! fa%ion ( ! place1 ! *os5 h\rs = call+2 b 9 m temp]ate climes--resembl+ our own--! aft]noon h\rs are1 z ) u1 ! h\rs = call+4 ,aga91 ! rule t resid5ts %\ld call ^u new-com]s1 :e!r !y be visitors ( o!r resid5ts or int5d+ resid5ts1 holds equally good bo? 9 civilian & milit>y circles alike4 ,9 all colonies & dep5d5cies ,gov]nm5t ,h\se is ! c5tre to :i* all society gravitates--t is to say1 t all new-com]s1 :e!r !y are to become p]man5t or tempor>y resid5ts1 provid+ _! social position w>rants ! action1 ha/5 to make kn[n _! arrival by writ+ _! names & addresses 9 ! visitors' book kept at ea* ,gov]nm5t ,h\se = ! purpose4 ,! object ( do+ ?is is to be receiv$ at ,gov]nm5t ,h\se1 & ?us to obta9 an entrance into ! society ( ! place4 ,:at foll[s ^u ?is social obs]vance--x h>dly m]its ! "n ( civility1 su* calls be+ actuat$ by self-int]e/ 9 ! fir/ in/ance--dep5ds ^u a v>iety ( circum/ances1 ! position ( ! call]1 & :e!r ! /ay is to be p]man5t or tempor>y1 :e!r introductions are br\ght or n1 & s on4 ,! invitations ext5d$ to !m are regulat$ accord+ly4 ,!y may be limit$ to aft]noon at homes2 or receptions1 d9n]s1 & dances may be includ$2 or a visit to ! summ] resid5ce ( ! ,gov]nor & 8 wife may also be reckon$ among/ invitations1 z ?is latt] is n an unusual display ( hospitality accord$ to c]ta9 individuals4 ,h[ ! ,gov]nor ( a ,colony %\ld be address$ by 8 gue/s dep5ds ^u 8 rank4 ,z he repres5ts ! sov]eign1 x w\ld be q correct to address him z ,sir1 z be+ ! mo/ def]5tial mode1 & ,gov]nors z a body r l to be ?us address$4 ,9 ! case ( a ,gov]nor be+ a knight--a v usual cont+5cy--x w\ld be equally correct to address him z ,sir ,george1 & n z ,sir4 ,:5 a ,gov]nor has n receiv$ knigh?ood1 he %\ld be address$ z ,mr4 ,a----1 :5 x is n desir$ to be too /iff & =mal4 ,9 conv]sation1 :5 ref]r+ to ! ,gov]nor--he be+ pres5t--x %\ld n be ,! ,gov]nor1 b ,"l ,blank1 ,sir ,george1 or ,mr4 ,a---- said s & s1 unless /rang]s are pres5t1 be=e :om x w\ld seem "r to be a little =mal4 ,9 address+ a ,gov]nor by lett]1 ! envelope %\ld be direct$ to ,8 ,excell5cy ,sir ,george ,blank1 h[ev] fri5dly its cont5ts may be2 b :5 writ+ to a ,gov]nor's wife1 x has n be5 ?\ght "r to /yle h] ,h] ,excell5cy1 b simply ,lady ,blank1 unless 9 ! case ( a ,vic]oy's wife1 z 9 ,india or ,irel&2 b z aga9/ ?is ! po9t 0 rais$ "s ye>s ago1 & x 0 !n decid$ t ! wives ( ,gov]nors 7 entitl$ to be s address$4 ,colloquially1 ! memb]s ( a ,gov]nor's suite ref] to bo? ! ,gov]nor & 8 wife z ,8 & ,h] ,excell5cy1 & /yle !m ,y\r ,excell5cy1 & all :o approa* !m (ficially1 be+ ( inf]ior rank1 d likewise2 b socially !y are seldom s address$4 ,a ,colonial ,bi%op %\ld n actually be /yl$ ,my ,"l1 or ref]r$ to z ,! ,"l ,bi%op1 if x is desir$ to be q correct2 b ,my ,"l or ,! ,"l ,bi%op is n[ (t5 us$ by p]sons :o "k x is n ! prop] /yle ( address1 b make use ( ^! titles1 wi%+ to be m def]5tial ?an scrupul\sly correct4 ,9 writ+ to a colonial bi%op1 ! envelope %\ld be address$ to ,! ,"r ,rev4 ! ,bi%op ( ----1 & ! lett] comm5c$ ,"r ,rev4 ,sir or ,de> ,bi%op ,blank4 ,a colonial (fic] :o has receiv$ ! ,k+'s special p]mission to reta9 ! title ( ,hon\rable :i* he bore 9 8 colony1 is accord$ at ,c\rt1 i4e4 at a levee1 ,c\rt ball1 etc41 ! same prec$5ce z a pe]'s son1 :o is /yl$ ,hon\rable1 b ?is does n practically give him any rank or prec$5ce at ord9>y social ga!r+s1 :]e t special grant is unkn[n or ignor$4 ,also ! privilege conf]s no rank or prec$5ce ^u ! wife or daught]s ( a colonial ,hon\rable1 j z ! wife ( a ,"r ,hon\rable "h has no special prec$5ce4 ,! title ( ,hon\rable _c cont9ue to be borne by a retir$ colonial (fic] or ,legislative ,c\ncillor unless x has be5 specially au?oris$ by ! sov]eign on ! recomm5dation ( ! ,secret>y ( ,/ate = ! ,colonies4 ,,*apt] ,,xxii ,,indian ,,etiquette ,x is ! cu/om t ^? :o wi% to be invit$ to ,gov]nm5t ,h\se 7,vic]egal ,h\se7 at ,simla1 or else:]e1 %\ld1 imm$iately on arrival1 write _! names 9 ! visitors' book kept = t purpose1 & !y are sure1 if 9 g5]al society1 to be ask$ to "o or m ( ! receptions held dur+ ! season4 ,!y are introduc$ to ! ,vice-,que5--z ! wife ( ! ,vic]oy is t]m$--by "o ( ! aides-de-camp 9 wait+4 ,:5 a lady is ! wife ( a ,gov]nm5t (ficial1 x gives h] a position 9 society 9 ,india :i* p]haps %e w\ld n o!rwise h1 & is 9 itself a passport to mo/ functions4 ,(ficial rank is ev]y?+ 9 ,india4 ,z reg>ds att5d+ ! ,vic]egal ,draw+-rooms1 !y are only held 9 ,calcutta & 9 ! ev5+4 ,if a lady has be5 pres5t$ at a ,c\rt 9 ,engl&1 %e c att5d a ,draw+-room 9 ,calcutta2 b1 if %e has n be5 pres5t$ at home1 %e mu/ be introduc$ by "s o!r lady :o has be5 pres5t$ at ! ,vic]egal ,c\rt4 ,9 writ+ un(ficially to ! ,gov]nor-,g5]al ( ,india1 x w\ld n be correct to use ! title ( ,vic]oy1 & ! prop] sup]scription is ,8 ,excell5cy ,! ,"r ,hon42 or1 if a ,duke1 ,8 ,excell5cy ,! ,duke ( ----2 or1 if a ,m>quis1 ,8 ,excell5cy ,! ,mo/ ,honble4 ,m>quis ( ----1 etc4 ,to ! wife ( a ,vic]oy ! address %\ld be ,h] ,excell5cy ! ,du*ess ( ----1 ,h] ,excell5cy ,! ,m>*ioness ( ----1 ,h] ,excell5cy ,! ,c\ntess ( ----2 or ,h] ,excell5cy ,! ,lady ,blank1 if ! wife ( a ,b>on4 ,:5 address+ a ,vic]oy or ,vice-,que5 colloquially or un(ficially1 ,y\r ,excell5cy %\ld n be us$ 9 ei!r case4 ,! title only 9 bo? in/ances %\ld be employ$4 ,on be+ introduc$ to ei!r ( _! ,excell5cies1 x w\ld be correct to curtsy4 ,,*apt] ,,xxiii ,,g>d5-,,p>ties ,g>d5-p>ties are ent]ta9m5ts t are annually giv54 ,if ! wea!r is f9e1 ! m enjoyable x is = ! gue/s2 if wet1 a g>d5-p>ty resolves itself into a l>ge at home4 ,9 almo/ e c\nty a s]ies ( g>d5-p>ties is held by ! pr9cipal ladies ( _! respective neighb\rhoods dur+ ,augu/ & ,septemb]1 no?+ b abs5ce f home1 illness1 or "s equally good reason be+ consid]$ suffici5t excuse = ! non-fulfilm5t ( ?is social duty4 ,! c\nty at l>ge expects to be invit$ at lea/ once a ye> to roam ab\t 9 ! beautiful p>k ( ! "l ( ! manor1 to r[ on ! lake1 to play lawn-t5nis on ! lawn1 to w&] ?r\gh ! w9d+ pa?s ( ! %ady1 leafy %rubb]ies1 to admire ! brilliant hues ( ! g]aniums b$d$ out on p>t]re & t]race1 or ! v>iegat$ a/]s1 or ! late ,gloire-de-,dijon roses1 :i* at ! end ( ,augu/ are 9 _! fulle/ beauty4 ,!n !re are ! cons]vatories ?r\gh :i* to saunt]1 & f :i* to beat a retreat1 if ! sun is too p[]ful1 into ! mansion itself1 ! reception-rooms be+ g5]ally ?r[n op5 on ! occasion ( a g>d5-p>ty4 ,a g>d5-p>ty is an occasion = (f]+ hospitality to a wide range ( gue/s--p :om x w\ld n be conv5i5t to ent]ta9 save at ?is description ( ga!r+4 ,invitations are on ^! occasions freely accord$ to ladies1 f ! en]getic lady ( eighty to ! little lady ( eight4 ,"o great advantage (f]$ by a g>d5-p>ty is t x is immat]ial to :at ext5t ladies are 9 ! majority1 & x is a reproa* to a c\nty r ?an to a ho/ess if ! mu/] ( gue/s is eighty ladies aga9/ tw5ty g5tlem54 ,invitations to a ,g>d5-p>ty %\ld be issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! ho/ess1 & )9 ?ree weeks to a week ( ! date fix$4 ,at home c>ds %\ld be us$ = ?is purpose1 & ! words & p>ty %\ld be inv>iably add$ aft] ! names ( ! invit$ gue/s4 ,croquet or ,t5nis %\ld be pr9t$ 9 "o corn] ( ! c>d1 ! h\r1 #c to #g o'clock1 above1 ! day & ! date b5ea? ! "n ( ho/ess4 ,wea!r p]mitt+ is seldom writt5 ^u ! c>d1 & ! gue/s are expect$ to arrive ev5 ?\gh ! aft]noon %\ld be %[]y & ov]ca/1 & only a ?or\ghly wet aft]noon1 ) no break betwe5 ! %[]s1 %\ld prev5t _! appe>+4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 ladies ?9k little ( a drive ( t5 miles to att5d a g>d5-p>ty4 ,arrangem5ts = ,g>d5-,p>ties4--,g>d5-p>ties or croquet-p>ties are giv5 on diff]5t scales ( exp5diture1 & ! prep>ations are regulat$ accord+ly4 ,:5 a g>d5-p>ty is giv5 on a small scale1 & ! prep>ations are comp>atively few1 refre%m5ts %\ld be s]v$ 9 ! h\se4 7,= ! usual refre%m5ts provid$1 & = ! g5]al arrangem5ts1 see "w entitl$ ,wait+ at ,table1 p4 #hb47 ,a good supply ( g>d5-*airs & seats %\ld be plac$ on ! lawn & ab\t ! gr\nds1 rugs spread on ! grass = ^? :o sit out1 & sev]al sets ( croquet provid$ = play]s4 ,at l>ge g>d5-p>ties a b& is consid]$ a necess>y adjunct1 & ! b& ( ! regim5t qu>t]$ 9 ! vic9ity is usually available = ^! occasions4 ,a b& gives eclat to an out-door ga!r+ & conf]s local importance ^u x4 ,ap>t f ?is1 ! /ra9s ( a b& enliv5 an ent]ta9m5t ( ?is description 9 no little degree4 ,! place :]e ! b& is /ation$ is a rally+-po9t = ! company1 & ! exp5se & tr\ble consequ5t ^u engag+ a b& are repaid by ! amusem5t x af=ds4 ,! matt] ( engag+ a milit>y b& is g5]ally und]tak5 by ! ma/] ( ! h\se1 r ?an by ! mi/ress1 z1 9 ! fir/ place1 ! cons5t ( ! colonel ( ! regim5t has to be obta9$ z a matt] ( =m & c\rtesy be=e ! arrangem5ts are complet$ ) ! b&ma/]4 ,conveyance = ! b& has also to be provid$ & discuss$ ) ! b&ma/]1 & also refre%m5ts = ! b&sm52 & ^! details are m effectually c>ri$ out by a ho/ ?an by a ho/ess4 ,occasionally a l>ge m>quee is erect$ 9 :i* to s]ve refre%m5ts1 b m frequ5tly ! refre%m5ts = ! g5]al company are s]v$ 9 ! h\se1 & only cool dr9ks disp5s$ 9 a t5t to ! cricket]s or lawn-t5nis play]s4 ,cricket-mat*es are (t5 ! raison d'etre ( a g>d5-p>ty1 r5d]+ x popul> ) bo? ladies & g5tlem54 ,! cricket-mat* 9 ?is case g5]ally takes place 9 a field ne> to ! gr\nds ( ! mansion1 ! mat* comm5c+ ab\t twelve o'clock1 & ! g5]al company arriv+ ab\t half-pa/ ?ree1 or punctually at f\r1 to witness ! f9i%4 ,golf n[ ranks fir/ among/ fa%ionable out-door amusem5ts ) bo? sexes4 ,private l9ks are comp>atively few1 b club l9ks exi/ 9 almo/ e neighb\rhood--ladies' clubs1 m5's clubs1 & clubs = bo? ladies & g5tlem54 ,croquet or t5nis t\rnam5ts are frequ5tly ! occasion ( giv+ g>d5-p>ties1 & "s v excit+ play takes place4 ,:5 a t\rnam5t is held x takes ! =m ( a g>d5-p>ty2 x usually la/s two days4 ,! arrangem5ts made = hold+ x dep5d ^u circum/ances1 & x takes place1 z d ar*]y-mat*es1 9 ei!r private or public gr\nds4 ,amusem5ts4--,:5 a numb] ( *ildr5 are expect$ at a g>d5-p>ty1 p]=mances ( m>ionettes1 or ,pun*-&-,judy1 or conjur+ are giv5 = _! amusem5t4 ,9 di/ricts remote f t[n1 ^! %[s are difficult to obta92 !re=e amateur %[m5 come bravely to ! rescue1 & _! k9dly ef=ts to div]t ! juv5iles meet ) due appreciation on all sides4 ,n seldom a little amateur music is giv5 at a g>d5-p>ty--n a pre-arrang$ programme ( music1 b impromptu p]=mances4 ,^! good-natur$ ef=ts to enliv5 ! company occupy ab\t an h\r1 & su* p]=mances take place 9 ei!r ! draw+-room or music-room ( ! mansion4 ,g>d5-p>ties seldom t]m9ate ) a dance1 ?\gh occasionally danc+ closes ! aft]noon's amusem5ts4 ,! "t occupi$ by croquet or t5nis precludes all desire on ! "p ( ! play]s = fur!r ex]tion 9 ! %ape ( danc+1 & "y p app>5tly pref] play+ croquet f #c to #g on ! lawn to danc+ 9 a m>quee or 9 ! draw+-room at t h\r4 ,a ho/ & ho/ess receive _! gue/s at a g>d5-p>ty on ! lawn2 /rang]s %\ld be introduc$ to ! ho/ess by ^? :o h und]tak5 to br+ !m to h] h\se1 & %e %\ld %ake h&s ) all com]s4 ,x is also usual = gue/s to %ake h&s ) ! ho/ess on dep>ture1 if opportunity (f]s = s do+4 ,g>d5-p>ties comm5ce f #c4cj to #d o'clock1 & t]m9ate at #g o'clock4 ,9 mak+ prep>ations = a g>d5-p>ty1 /abl+ = ! c>riage-horses & motor-c>s ( ! num]\s gue/s %\ld be tak5 into consid]ation1 & refre%m5ts provid$ = ! m5-s]vants & *auffeurs4 ,public aft]noon conc]ts1 baza>s1 & fl[]-%[s are ess5tially functions frequ5t$ by ladies en masse1 & x is ! exception1 r ?an ! rule1 = g5tlem5 to accompany !m2 aga91 at private aft]noon ga!r+s1 ladies usually appe> unaccompani$ by g5tlem54 ,:5 a g>d5-p>ty is a v l>ge function1 x is n unusual to put ! words g>d5-p>ty on ! invitation c>ds 9 place ( ! words at home2 ?us3 ,! ,c\ntess ( ,a---- reque/s ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,b----'s company at a g>d5-p>ty on ----1 etc4 ,,*apt] ,,xxiv ,,t[n ,,g>d5-,,p>ties ,! fir/ g>d5-p>ties 9 t[n are usually giv5 e>ly 9 ,june1 & cont9ue dur+ ?is & ! ensu+ mon?4 ,! g>d5-p>ties at ,lambe? ,palace & ,fulham ,palace are ! pione]s ( ! g>d5-p>ty season1 & ! lead is foll[$ by g5]al society ) m or less alacrity4 ,t[n g>d5-p>ties resolve !mselves into l>ge receptions held out-(-doors1 & ^? :o "k :at cr[d$ draw+-rooms imply 9 ! sultry days ( ,june are p>ticul>ly glad ( ?is *ange ( locale1 & will+ly sp5d an h\r or m at "o ( ^! out-(-door reunions1 in/ead ( ?9k+ a qu>t] ( an h\r's /ay all too long )9 doors1 :]e x is a case ( heat v]sus draught1 & difficult to det]m9e :]e x is ! mo/ objectionable1 9 ! draw+-room1 tea-room1 or on a /aircase4 ,al?\gh ^! functions are designat$ g>d5-p>ties1 yet ! real /yle & title is at homes1 ! address be+ suffici5t indication to ! invit$ gue/s z to ! description ( ent]ta9m5t to be giv51 z ! spaci\s g>d5s & lawns 9 & ar\nd ,london :]e ^! annual p>ties are held are well kn[n to society at l>ge4 ,a b& play+ 9 ! gr\nds :]e ! g>d5-p>ty is giv5 w\ld appe> to be a s9e qua non1 b ! excell5ce ( ! same is m]ely a "q ( exp5se4 ,?us gue/s h ! pleasure ( li/5+ to ! /ra9s ( spl5did b&s1 & also ! disappo9tm5t ( he>+ o!rs f> bel[ ! av]age4 ,z ?is fickle climate ( ours is n to be c\nt$ ^u = tw5ty-f\r h\rs at a /ret* to rema9 f9e1 x is seldom consid]$ advisable to h ! :ole ( ! refre%m5t tables out-(-doors1 & ?us only ices1 /rawb]ries & cream1 & ice cups are s]v$ out-(-doors2 tea1 c(fee1 & ! re/1 ) ices1 /rawb]ries & cream1 be+ inv>iably s]v$ )9 doors4 ,refre%m5t tables out-(-doors consid]ably take (f ! /ra9 f ! tables 9 ! tea-rooms1 especially dur+ ! fir/ half-h\r1 :5 ! great ru% is made 9 ?is direction4 ,aga91 %\ld heavy ra9 set 91 ! s]vants c easily remove pails ( ice & b[ls ( /rawb]ries & cream out ( h>m's way4 ,ev5 a l>ge t5t or m>quee is n consid]$ altoge!r desirable = refre%m5ts1 z "u a burn+ sun ! air )9 becomes ov]-heat$ & oppressive1 :ile 9 ! case ( a d[np\r ! results are almo/ disa/r\s4 ,! popul>ity ( g>d5-p>ties is inconte/ible 9 propiti\s wea!r4 ,a v>iety ( reasons conduce to ?is2 = "o ?+1 movem5t is s pleasant an ex*ange f ! almo/ /ation>y position gue/s are compell$ to take up 9 a cr[d$ draw+-room4 ,aga91 ! numb] ( gue/s invit$ is s mu* great] ?an to an at home1 t ! *ance ( meet+ a correspond+ numb] ( fri5ds & acqua9tances is trebl$2 or1 on ! o!r h&1 if b a few fri5ds %\ld be pres5t among ! gue/s1 yet ! situation does n am\nt to isolation & bor$om2 & ! alt]native ( sitt+ "u a %ady tree or saunt]+ ab\t on ! lawns li/5+ to ! /ra9s ( ! b&1 is positive enjoym5t 9 comp>ison to sitt+ 9 ! corn] ( a draw+-room b>ricad$ by a phalanx ( ladies1 or /&+ w$g$ 9 ! mid/ ( ! same4 ,x is small wond]1 !re=e1 t invitations to ^! out-door functions are hail$ ) satisfaction & pleasure4 ,arrivals at a g>d5-p>ty are made almo/ simultane\sly1 or if n q ?is1 !y foll[ 9 rapid succession1 s t ho/ & ho/ess h a %ort int]val betwe5 arrivals & dep>tures2 & ?is (f]s an opportunity to give m ?an a %ake ( ! h& to _m ( ! gue/s1 i4e4 a little fri5dly conv]sation2 :ile at an at home ! ho/ess has to be at h] po/ f #d p4m4 to #g p4m41 z gue/s arrive cont9u\sly1 ev5 close up to ! h\r nam$ = dep>ture4 ,! ho/ is expect$ to be pres5t at a g>d5-p>ty1 & almo/ always is s2 b 8 pres5ce at 8 wife's at home is left a little d\btful1 & 8 abs5ce is (t5 acc\nt$ = on ! gr\nd ( its be+ unavoidable2 b ! trivial reasons t _m m5 advance to _! wives = _! non-appe>ance prove h[ glad !y are to escape f ! ordeal on any t]ms4 ,a man 9 ! op5 air is at 8 be/1 & !re=e a g>d5-p>ty appeals to a ho/ almo/ z mu* z x does to a gue/4 ,al?\gh ! words at home are 9 g5]al use :5 issu+ invitations to ^! functions1 yet occasionally ! words g>d5-p>ty are sub/itut$ 9 lieu ( !m on ! at home c>ds1 :5 ! ga!r+s are unusually l>ge2 ?us3 ,visc\ntess ,b---- reque/s ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,g----'s company at a g>d5-p>ty on ----1 etc4 ,,*apt] ,,xxv ,,ev5+ ,,g>d5-,,p>ties ,! ,g>d5-,p>ty ,season has be5 wid5$ out by ! introduction ( ,ev5+ ,g>d5-,p>ties into ! li/ ( c\ntry fe/ivities1 & ?is =m ( ent]ta9m5t has f\nd great fav\r ) all4 ,invitations are issu$ on ! usual at home c>ds1 ! h\rs f #i to #ab p4m4 ,occasionally danc+ is pr9t$ on ! c>ds1 b n (t51 z x is n usual to comb9e an ev5+ g>d5-p>ty ) a dance1 except :5 only "y girls & "y m5 are invit$4 ,"s little p]plexity is felt by ! recipi5ts ( ev5+ g>d5-p>ty invitations z to ! /yle ( dress t %\ld be worn4 ,%\ld ladies we> morn+ dress or ev5+ dress8 ,m5 are equally 9 d\bt on ?is po9t4 ,ought !y to we> ev5+ dress or n8 ,al?\gh ?is is n /at$ on ! invitation c>ds1 yet x is tacitly und]/ood t ladies are expect$ to appe> 9 ! usual g>d5-p>ty attire--sm>t1 pretty dresses & hats or bonnets1 & small fa%ionable wraps c>ri$ 9 place ( sun%ades 9 ! ev5t ( ! ev5+ air prov+ some:at *illy4 ,ev5+ dress1 :5 worn at "o ( ^! at homes1 looks p>ticul>ly out ( place4 ,! ?9 ev5+ %oes1 :i* mu/ ( necessity be worn ) ?is /yle ( dress1 suit nei!r dewy grass nor /ony gravel2 & al?\gh at ! ev5+ conc]ts at ! ,botanic ,g>d5s _m ladies we> ev5+ dress ) sm>t ev5+ cloaks1 ?is is beside ! "q4 ,!y g = a %ort half-h\r or s1 n = a ?ree h\rs' /ay4 ,anyh[1 at ev5+ g>d5-p>ties1 ! rule is n to we> ev5+ dress z f> z ladies are conc]n$4 ,m51 on ! o!r h&1 "o & all1 are expect$ to d s1 morn+ dress be+ look$ ^u z out ( place on ^! occasions4 ,a light ov]coat is insep>able f ev5+ dress1 !re=e x is n consid]$ risky we> = m5 ev5 on ! *illie/ ( summ] ev5+s4 ,z to ! arrangem5ts = "o ( ^! ev5+ g>d5-p>ties4 ,x is usual to h tea & c(fee1 & light refre%m5ts dur+ ! :ole ( ! ev5+1 f arrival to dep>ture1 & to give a light supp] a little be=e twelve o'clock4 ,! g>d5s & gr\nds are illum9at$ ) col\r$ lamps & lant]ns1 ext5sively or mod]ately1 z ! case may be4 ,a b& is consid]$ indisp5sable1 b a good "o does n seem to be equally imp]ative1 to judge f ! indiff]5t p]=mances ( v>i\s b&s he>d on ^! summ] ev5+s4 ,h[ev]1 c\ntry audi5ces are n too critical1 kn[+ t to engage a good b& f a di/ance entails consid]able exp5se1 & t ev5+ g>d5-p>ties w\ld be s+ul>ly few if sup]ior music 0 insi/$ ^u4 ,?us ! local b& is enc\rag$ to d its be/1 & to all[ long int]vals to elapse betwe5 ea* selection4 ,9 ! case ( an ev5+ turn+ out decid$ly wet1 gue/s invit$ f a di/ance seldom put 9 an appe>ance1 :ile ! ne>] neighb\rs d s1 & ! ev5+ g>d5-p>ty becomes an ev5+ reception )9 doors1 %orn ( its numb]s1 x is true1 b a pleasant ga!r+1 nev]!less1 especially ) ^? :o "k h[ to make ! be/ ( a contretemps caus$ by unpropiti\s wea!r4 ,,*apt] ,,xxvi ,,lun*eons ,invitations to ,lun*eon are v mu* ! ord] ( ! day 9 fa%ionable society4 ,^? :o look back "s few ye>s rem>k ! importance n[ accord$ to ?is mid-day meal1 & contra/ x ) ! pa/4 ,! lat5ess ( ! d9n]-h\r 9 a measure acc\nts = ! position n[ tak5 by lun*eon 9 ! day's programme1 jo9$ to ! fact t x (f]s ano!r opportunity = social ga!r+s2 & z ! prevail+ idea seems to be to cr[d into "o day z mu* amusem5t & v>iety & *ange z possible1 invitations to lun*eon h become "o ( ! features ( social life4 ,invitations to ,public ,lun*eons are n n[ conf9$ to ! celebration ( local & civic ev5ts1 b take a f> wid] range1 & are giv5 on e available opportunity :5 ! occasion c be made to s]ve = assembl+ a l>ge p>ty ( ladies & g5tlem54 ,lun*eon is by "s consid]$ to be r a lady's meal ?an n1 al?\gh 9 reality invitations are giv5 z frequ5tly to ! "o sex z to ! o!r4 ,yet ! pr$om9ance ( ladies at lun*eon is due to ! fact t ! majority ( g5tlem5 are too mu* occupi$ at ?is h\r to be at lib]ty to accept invitations to lun*eon1 :ile o!rs1 m idle1 breakfa/ at s late an h\r t to !m a two o'clock lun*eon is a f>ce z f> z eat+ is conc]n$4 ,outside ( ^? :o are busy m5 & ^? :o are idle m51 & consequ5tly late ris]s1 !re is ano!r semi-occupi$ class ( m5 :o are always am5able to an invitation to lun*eon4 ,?is in/itution ( lun*eon is invaluable to p :o h _m fri5ds1 acqua9tances1 & relations to ent]ta91 z invitations to ?is meal are giv5 = e day 9 ! week1 ) or )\t c]emony1 ) long notice or %ort notice1 or on ! spur ( ! mom5t4 ,ladies enjoy ! society ( _! ho/ess at lun*eon f> m ?an at a d9n]-p>ty4 ,at ! =m] meal %e makes g5]al conv]sation ) h] gue/s on bo? sides ( ! table2 at ! latt] %e is monopolis$ by h] imm$iate neighb\rs1 by ! g5tleman :o takes h] d[n to d9n]1 & by ! "o :o sits at h] "r h&1 :ile %e leaves h] gue/s to be ent]ta9$ by ! g5tlem5 :o take !m 9 to d9n]4 ,at lun*eon ?+s are diff]5t2 !re is no go+ 9 to lun*eon1 conv5tionally speak+1 save on (ficial & public occasions4 ,lun*eon occupies a prom95t place 9 ! r\nd ( hospitalities4 ,invitations to lun*eon are n =mally issu$ on invitation c>ds1 unless "s especial reason exi/s = giv+ a l>ge lun*eon-p>ty1 9 :i* case x takes rank z an ent]ta9m5t4 ,l>ge lun*eon-p>ties are giv5 on occasions su* z lawn-t5nis t\rnam5ts & lawn-t5nis p>ties1 ar*]y-p>ties1 cricket-mat*es & baza>s1 etc4 ,semi-(ficial lun*eons are giv5 on ! occasion ( lay+ ! f\ndation-/one ( a *ur* or public build+1 etc4 ,?is class ( lun*eon is beside ! "q1 z x is r a banquet ?an a lun*eon1 = :i* pr9t$ c>ds ( invitation are issu$4 ,9 g5]al society invitations to lun*eon are issu$ by writt5 notes or are v]bally giv5 accord+ to circum/ances4 ,invitations to ,lun*eon4--,a week's notice is ! longe/ usually giv51 v little notice be+ consid]$ requisite4 ,_m ho/esses give _! fri5ds c>te blan*e invitations to lun*eon2 b ladies z a rule seldom avail !mselves ( ?is facon de p>l]1 z !y consid] x1 & pref] to await a m direct =m ( invitation4 ,g5tlem51 on ! contr>y1 are expect$ to avail !mselves ( ?is pr(f]$ hospitality )\t c]emony1 z ! pres5ce ( a g5tleman visitor at lun*eon is consid]$ an acquisition1 ! reason1 p]haps1 be+ t ladies are usually 9 ! majority at lun*eon1 & also t ! unexpect$ arrival ( "o or two ladies w\ld call = a great] am\nt ( att5tion on ! "p ( a ho/ess seat$ at lun*eon ?an w\ld ! unexpect$ arrival ( g5tlem51 ladies requir+ especial att5tion to be %[n to !m 9 ! matt] ( a place at table1 etc41 :ile g5tlem5 are ready to (f] att5tion in/ead ( requir+ x1 & to take any place at table1 :e!r conv5i5t or o!rwise4 ,z a rule1 ! numb] ( ladies pres5t at lun*eon greatly exce$s ! numb] ( g5tlem5 pres5t1 unless at a lun*eon-p>ty1 :5 a ho/ess usually endeav\rs to equalise ! numb]s z f> z possible2 b x is n imp]ative = h] to d ?is1 & x is immat]ial :e!r !re are z _m g5tlem5 z ladies pres5t at lun*eon or n4 ,lun*eon is a v useful in/itution to a mi/ress ( a h\se1 z x enables h] to %[ a consid]able am\nt ( civility to h] fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,%e c invite to lun*eon ^? x might n1 = v>i\s reasons1 be conv5i5t to invite to d9n]2 z = in/ance1 "y ladies1 s+le ladies1 eld]ly ladies1 ladies com+ to t[n1 or into ! neighb\rhood = a few days only1 & s on4 ,! usual rule 9 h\ses :]e !re are *ildr5 old en\gh to d s1 is = ! *ildr5 to d9e at lun*eon ) _! gov]ness1 :e!r !re are gue/s pres5t or n4 ,9 ,t[n ! ,usual ,h\r = ,lun*eon is #a4cj to #b o'clock2 9 ! c\ntry x is g5]ally half an h\r e>li]4 ,! gue/s are expect$ to arrive )9 t5 m9utes ( ! h\r nam$ 9 ! invitation1 z al?\gh punctuality is n imp]ative1 x is v desirable4 ,a gue/1 on 8 or h] arrival at a h\se1 %\ld n1 if previ\sly invit$1 inquire if ! mi/ress ( ! h\se is at home1 b %\ld say1 on ! s]vant op5+ ! door1 ,mrs4 ,a4 expects me to lun*eon4 ,:5 ! gue/s are self-invit$1 !y %\ld inquire if ! mi/ress ( ! h\se is at home4 ,gue/s are conduct$ to ! draw+-room be=e lun*eon4 ,! s]vant prec$es !m1 z at morn+ calls4 ,:5 gue/s arrive aft] ! h\r nam$ = lun*eon1 !y %\ld be at once u%]$ into ! d9+-room1 & _! names ann\nc$4 ,:5 ! gue/s are unacqua9t$ ) ea* o!r1 ! ho/ess %\ld make a sort ( g5]al introduction or introductions2 t is to say1 %e %\ld introduce "o g5tleman to two or ?ree ladies1 ?us1 ,mr4 ,a41 ,mrs4 ,b41 ,mrs4 ,c41 & ,miss ,d41 mak+ b "o introduction 9 place ( ?ree sep>ate introductions1 ?is be+ ! less =mal mode ( mak+ unimportant introductions4 ,x is n always possible = a ho/ to be pres5t at lun*eon1 ow+ to occupation & engagem5ts1 b c\rtesy to 8 wife's gue/s dem&s 8 pres5ce :5 practicable4 ,he %\ld ei!r jo9 !m 9 ! draw+-room or 9 ! d9+-room1 accord+ to 8 conv5i5ce4 ,gue/s are n s5t 9 to lun*eon z !y are to d9n]4 ,ladies %\ld n remove _! hats at lun*eon4 ,!y %\ld remove _! fur coats & wraps4 ,^! %\ld ei!r be left 9 ! hall on arrival or tak5 (f 9 ! draw+-room or d9+-room4 ,%ort gloves %\ld be remov$2 elb[ gloves may be reta9$4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld n take _! hats ) !m into ! draw+-room1 b %\ld leave !m 9 ! hall4 ,t5 m9utes is ! usual "t all[$ betwe5 ! arrival ( ! gue/s & s]v+ lun*eon1 :i* is usually s]v$ at ! h\r nam$1 ! receiv$ rule be+ n to wait = gue/s4 ,go+ 9 to ,lun*eon4--,:5 ! lun*eon gong s\nds ! ho/ess %\ld say to ! lady ( highe/ rank pres5t1 ,%all we g 9 to lun*eon8 or "s su* phrase4 7,see ,! ,art ( ,conv]s+47 ,! visitor %\ld !n move t[>ds ! door4 ,if ! ho/ is pres5t1 he %\ld walk beside h]2 if n1 ! ho/ess %\ld d s4 ,! o!r ladies %\ld foll[ z f> z possible accord+ to prec$5cy1 ! g5tlem5 go+ la/4 ,?us ! ho/ess ei!r foll[s ) ! ladies or leads ! way4 ,gue/s %\ld n g 9 to lun*eon arm-9-arm z at a d9n]-p>ty1 b s+ly1 ea* lady by h]self1 or1 :5 space p]mits1 side by side4 ,g5tlem5 likewise1 b on arriv+ 9 ! d9+-room1 ea* g5tleman %\ld place himself by ! side ( a lady1 or betwe5 two ladies1 at table4 ,! ho/ess %\ld sit at ! top ( ! table & ! ho/ at ! bottom1 z at d9n]1 b x is immat]ial :]e ! gue/s sit1 al?\gh z a rule ! lady ( highe/ rank sits by ! ho/1 & ! g5tleman ( highe/ rank by ! ho/ess4 ,a late arrival %\ld1 on be+ u%]$ into ! d9+-room1 make 8 or h] way to ! top ( ! table to %ake h&s ) ! ho/ess1 mak+ "s polite excuse = be+ late4 ,a ho/ess %\ld rise f h] seat to welcome a lady1 b %e %\ld n d s to welcome a g5tleman4 ,lun*eon is ei!r s]v$ a la ,russe or n1 accord+ to incl9ation1 bo? ways be+ 9 equally good ta/e1 al?\gh1 z a rule1 ! jo9t is s]v$ f ! buffet or side-table1 :ile ! entrees1 game1 or p\ltry are plac$ on ! table4 ,= fur!r in=mation respect+ ! arrangem5ts = lun*eon1 see ! "w entitl$ ,wait+ at ,table4 ,=m]ly x 0 ! cu/om 9 "s h\ses = ! s]vants to leave ! d9+-room z soon z !y _h help$ ! v>i\s gue/s to ! jo9t or jo9ts1 & h&$ r\nd ! vegetables & ! w9e1 9 :i* case ! ho/ & ho/ess help$ ! gue/s to ! entrees & sweets1 or ! g5tlem5 pres5t did s2 b n[ x is inv>iably ! rule = ! s]vants to rema9 9 ! room dur+ ! :ole ( lun*eon1 & to h& ! di%es & w9e1 etc41 to ! gue/s z at d9n]-p>ties4 ,lun*eon usually la/s ab\t half an h\r1 dur+ :i* "t ! ho/ess %\ld endeav\r to r5d] conv]sation g5]al4 ,z at d9n]1 x is ! duty ( a ho/ess to give ! signal = leav+ ! room1 :i* %e does by attract+ ! att5tion ( ! lady ( highe/ rank pres5t by means ( a smile & a b[1 ris+ at ! same "t f h] seat4 ,! ho/1 or ! g5tleman ne>e/ ! door1 %\ld op5 x = ! ladies to pass out4 ,! ladies %\ld leave ! d9+-room z f> z possible 9 ! ord] 9 :i* !y h ent]$ x1 ! ho/ess foll[+ la/4 ,:5 ! ho/ is n pres5t1 ! g5tlem5 %\ld foll[ ! ladies to ! draw+-room2 b :5 ! ho/ is pres5t1 ! g5tlem5 %\ld rema9 9 ! d9+-room ) ! ho/ a %ort "t be=e jo9+ ! ladies 9 ! draw+-room4 ,x is optional on ! "p ( ! ho/ :e!r he returns or n ) ! g5tlem5 to ! draw+-room1 al?\gh1 if n p>ticul>ly engag$1 x is m c\rte\s to d s4 ,c(fee is sometimes s]v$ aft] lun*eon 9 ! draw+-room4 ,x is h&$ on a salv] imm$iately aft] lun*eon4 ,! mo/ usual way n[1 h[ev]1 is to h c(fee br\ght into ! d9+-room at ! conclusion ( lun*eon1 & h&$ to ! gue/s on a salv]4 ,! gue/s are n expect$ to rema9 long] ?an tw5ty m9utes aft] ! adj\rnm5t to ! draw+-room has be5 made4 ,ladies %\ld put on _! gloves on _! return to ! draw+-room aft] lun*eon4 ,ladies hav+ motor-c>s %\ld previ\sly desire _! *auffeurs to return = !m f ?ree to a qu>t]-pa/ ?ree o'clock1 & ! s]vant %\ld in=m ea* gue/ ( ! arrival ( h] motor-c>4 ,:5 a lady requires a cab1 %e %\ld ask ! ho/ess's p]mission to h "o call$ = h]4 ,! subject ( leave-tak+ is fully describ$ 9 ,*apt] ,,iv4 ,,*apt] ,,xxvii ,,breakfa/s ,breakfa/ ,p>ties h 9 c]ta9 circles become a feature1 & invitations to breakfa/ are issu$ bo? by c>d & by note4 ,9 (ficial circles breakfa/ p>ties are frequ5tly giv51 ! morn+ h\rs up to "o o'clock be+ ! only dis5gag$ portion ( ! day1 & ?us ! opportunity is tak5 = (f]+ & receiv+ hospitality1 & ( enjoy+ ! society ( fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,! breakfa/ h\r v>ies f t5 to elev51 accord+ to circum/ances1 & ! meal some:at resembles a lun*eon1 fi%1 entrees1 game1 & cold vi&s be+ giv51 ) ! addition ( tea1 c(fee1 & liqueurs4 ,punctuality on ^! occasions is almo/ imp]ative1 z breakfa/ _c be prolong$ beyond a giv5 limit1 & !re=e x is n consid]$ necess>y to wait ! com+ ( a late gue/4 ,! gue/s g 9 to breakfa/ z to lun*eon4 ,:5 a p>ty consi/s ( bo? ladies & g5tlem51 ! ho/ess %\ld lead ! way ) ! lady ( highe/ rank1 foll[$ by ! o!r ladies1 ! g5tlem5 foll[+ ) ! ho/4 ,:5 a p>ty consi/s ( g5tlem5 only1 ! ho/ %\ld lead ! way ) ! g5tleman ( highe/ rank1 & %\ld indicate to ! pr9cipal ( ! g5tlem5 pres5t ! places he wi%es !m to occupy at table2 ! rema9d] ( ! company %\ld seat !mselves accord+ to incl9ation4 ,! table %\ld be laid z = lun*eon1 & decorat$ ) fl[]s & fruit4 ,tea & c(fee %\ld be s]v$ f a side table by ! s]vants 9 att5dance4 ,all di%es %\ld be h&$ z at lun*eon4 ,= ! details ( ,breakfa/-table ,arrangem5ts & ,s]v+ ,breakfa/1 see ! "w entitl$ ,wait+ at ,table4 ,! gue/s usually leave z soon z breakfa/ is ov]1 unless ! ladies are invit$ by ! ho/ess to accompany h] to ! draw+-room1 or ! g5tlem5 are invit$ by ! ho/ to smoke a cig>ette or cig> previ\s to _! dep>ture4 ,h\se ,p>ty ,breakfa/s4--,9 ! c\ntry ! breakfa/ h\r v>ies f #i to #aj4cj1 & 9 "s c\ntry h\ses x is an und]/ood ?+ t ! gue/s are at lib]ty to come d[n to breakfa/ at any "t betwe5 n9e & half-pa/ t54 ,9 n a few c\ntry h\ses ! ho/ess & ! ladies breakfa/ 9 _! own rooms1 & ! g5tlem5 ( ! p>ty breakfa/ ) ! ho/ 9 ! breakfa/-room4 ,! breakfa/ gong is a signal = assembl+ 9 ! breakfa/-room or d9+-room1 b x is n ! cu/om to wait = any "o beyond five or t5 m9utes4 ,! ho/ & ho/ess at once take _! places at ! breakfa/-table4 ,:5 ! h\se-p>ty is a l>ge "o1 & space p]mits1 a numb] ( small tables %\ld be arrang$ 9 ! breakfa/-room1 9 addition to a long breakfa/-table4 ,! s]vants %\ld rema9 9 att5dance dur+ breakfa/ to wait ^u ! gue/s4 ,!re is no g5]al move made f ! breakfa/-table z 9 ! case ( lun*eon or d9n]2 ! ho/ess g5]ally rema9s until ! :ole ( ! gue/s h at lea/ comm5c$ breakfa/1 save 9 ! case ( v late com]s1 = :om %e w\ld n be expect$ to rema9 at ! head ( ! breakfa/-table4 ,! gue/s leave ! breakfa/-table z soon z !y h f9i%$ breakfa/1 )\t wait+ = any intimation f ! ho/ess to d s4 ,,*apt] ,,xxviii ,,picnics ,,& ,,wat]-,,p>ties ,_m ?+s contribute to draw p into ! c\ntry & away f t[n 9 ! mon? ( ,septemb]2 !re=e !re is a f> l>g] numb] 9 ea* & e neighb\rhood incl9$ = a picnic or a wat]-p>ty ?an 9 ! ?ree previ\s mon?s1 ,june1 ,july1 & ,augu/4 ,picnic p>ties are sometimes invitation p>ties1 & on o!r occasions contribution p>ties1 or p>ties :i* p>take 9 a measure ( ! "* ( bo?4 ,picnics by ,motor-,c> & ,picnics by ,rail4--,almo/ e c\nty has its %[ place1 or its ru9s1 its ru9$ abbey or its ca/le1 its romantic sc5]y1 & its f9e views1 its hills or its dales1 its wat]falls or its gl5s4 ,! s\!rn & we/]n c\nties are z ri* 9 ^! respects z ! ea/]n c\nties are b>r54 ,:5 a picnic p>ty is to proce$ to its de/9ation by rail1 a saloon c>riage is engag$ be=eh&1 & arrangem5t is made at ! ne>e/ hotel to supply ! p>ty ) lun*eon at f #es4 to #ajs4 p] head1 accord+ to ! /yle ( lun*eon requir$2 or hamp]s ( provisions are tak5 "u ! *>ge ( "o or two m5-s]vants4 ,if ! picnic p>ty proce$s by road1 a coa* is ! fav\rite mode ( conveyance1 :e!r driv5 by ! own] or hir$ = ! occasion4 ,?is is a m sociable way ( go+ to a picnic ?an divid+ ! p>ty into deta*m5ts & convey+ !m 9 sep>ate c>riages4 ,?is is sometimes unavoidable1 & if ! p>ty is assembl$ = a />t1 x occasions no little discussion z to h[ ! p>ty %\ld be divid$ & convey$ 9 ! v>i\s c>riages1 & x takes no little tact to arrange ?is 9 a satisfactory mann]--to ov]rule objections1 & to make ?+s "w smoo?ly4 ,aga91 ! memb]s ( a picnic p>ty occasionally f9d _! way to ! place ( r5dezv\s indep5d5tly ( ea* o!r2 b1 al?\gh ?is plan saves tr\ble1 x does n promote sociability1 & p>ties ( f\r or six are apt to clique toge!r dur+ ! day1 in/ead ( mak+ !mselves g5]ally agreeable4 ,! provision "q is a v important "o1 & ! heads ( a picnic p>ty %\ld arrange 9 conc]t :at ea* is to br+ 9 ! way ( fi%1 fle%1 f[l1 fruit1 & w9e4 ,! s]vices ( "o or two m5-s]vants at a l>ge picnic p>ty are g5]ally requir$ to arrange ! table1 to op5 ! w9e1 & la/1 b n lea/1 to collect & repack ! articles us$ 9 ! way ( plate1 *9a1 or glass4 ,a picnic lun*eon 9 ,septemb] is n always ! al fresco spread "u ! gre5wood tree t x is 9 ,july1 & (t5] ?an n is held 9 ! be/ p>l\r ( a ru/ic inn1 or1 by p]mission1 9 a b>n or %$1 :5 ! wea!r is n fav\rable = camp+ out4 ,usually1 :5 a l>ge picnic p>ty is arrang$ & got up by "s ?ree or f\r ladies & g5tlem51 !y divide ! exp5ses ( ! ent]ta9m5t betwe5 !mselves1 & det]m9e h[ _m %all be invit$1 ea* hav+ ! privilege ( invit+ a c]ta9 numb]4 ,o!r picnics are got up on a diff]5t sy/em1 ea* p]son contribut+ a %>e t[>ds ! g5]al exp5ses2 b ^! ga!r+s are n s sociable z are ! invitation picnics4 ,invitation picnics :]e ev]y?+ is done en pr9ce are extremely enjoyable & fri5dly affairs2 !y are big lun*eons1 giv5 out-(-doors in/ead ( indoors1 at a di/ance in/ead ( at home4 ,b ev5 ^! are n m pleasant ?an ^? well-arrang$ little picnics giv5 by (fic]s 9 c\ntry qu>t]s1 :5 ! regim5tal coa* conveys a fav\r$ few to "s fav\rite spot4 ,wat]-,p>ties4--,!re are _m ways ( arrang+ a wat]-p>ty at ya*t+ /ations & at all riv]side places4 ,at ya*t+ /ations1 = in/ance1 a sail+ ya*t is hir$ to convey a p>ty ( f eighte5 to tw5ty-five to "s po9t ( int]e/ on ! coa/1 9 :i* case lun*eon & tea are provid$ at an hotel 9 ! vic9ity ( ! place :]e ! p>ty h l&$1 & ! exp5ses are equally divid$4 ,n unfrequ5tly1 on ! return j\rney1 ! ya*t is becalm$1 & does n rea* its de/9ation until betwe5 two & ?ree ! foll[+ morn+4 ,if x happ5s to be a f9e moonlight night1 ?is prolongation ( a wat]-p>ty is an additional s\rce ( enjoym5t2 b if !re is no moon z well z no w9d1 & ! calm betok5s a /orm1 x is ! rev]se ( pleasant4 ,b ^! little contretemps1 :5 !y d occur1 r l5d a ze/ to ! day's pleasure1 & are some?+ to talk ab\t aft]w>ds4 ,wat]-p>ties are (t5 giv5 by own]s ( ya*ts4 ,^! are invitation p>ties1 & lun*eon1 tea1 & sometimes d9n]1 are s]v$ on bo>d1 & ! p>ty l& & /roll ab\t1 b return to ! ya*t to be ent]ta9$4 ,picnic & wat]-p>ties 9 g5]al include z _m g5tlem5 z ladies1 :e!r !y are invitation or contribution p>ties1 al?\gh sometimes a majority ( ladies is unavoidable4 ,ryde is a fav\rite /ation = wat]-p>ties1 z ! isl& itself1 z well z ! opposite coa/1 (f] innum]able po9ts ( int]e/ = picnic+1 & _m are able to comb9e ! pleasures ( ! ya*t ) ^? ( ! laun* 9 "o & ! same wat]-p>ty2 ?us a p>ty sails f ,ryde to ,y>m\?1 ,isle ( ,wight1 & !n proce$s 9 a /eam1 or o!r1 laun* to ,alum ,bay4 ,laun* p>ties are imm5sely popul>1 bo? on ! riv] & on ! coa/4 ,"s picnic on bo>d1 & o!rs on %ore1 z !y feel dispos$4 ,canoe-p>ties on coa/ & riv] are also popul> ) bo? ladies & g5tlem51 & "h aga9 ! useful laun* is br\ght into requisition to convey ! p>ty home1 z an h\r & a half to two h\rs is an av]age "t to paddle a canoe2 aft] t "t ! p>ty l& ei!r on ! rocks or on ! %ore1 & light a fire & boil ! kettle = tea4 ,if ! tea-dr9k+ & ! aft]-tea ramble are unduly prolong$ !re is a *ance1 if on ! coa/1 ( ! /eam-laun* runn+ out ( coal1 & ( ! p>ty hav+ to return home 9 _! own canoes consid]ably lat] ?an 0 expect$1 & n a little fatigu$4 ,,*apt] ,,xxix ,,juv5ile ,,p>ties ,juv5ile ,p>ties =m a prom95t feature 9 ! ent]ta9m5ts giv5 dur+ ! w9t] mon?s4 ,!re is sc>cely a h\sehold ! *ildr5 ( :i* are n indulg$ ) "o l>ge p>ty at lea/1 :ile o!rs are all[$ z _m z two or ?ree *ildr5's p>ties dur+ ! w9t] mon?s4 ,^! p>ties (f] no little ela/icity z to _! arrangem5t1 v>y+ f a *ild's tea p>ty1 compos$1 p]haps1 ( five or six *ildr51 to a juv5ile ball1 or fancy dress ball4 ,"s mo!rs object1 on pr9ciple1 to ! latt] ent]ta9m5ts1 on ! gr\nd t to give a l>ge juv5ile ball provokes a correspond+ numb] ( invitations1 & t a r\nd ( su* gaieties is n good = "y *ildr51 ei!r f a moral or f a hygi5ic po9t ( view4 ,morally1 t su* amusem5ts are likely to de/roy or impair ! fre%ness ( *ildhood1 & to eng5d] artificial ideas 9 _! "y m9ds 9 place ( su* z are natural & heal?y1 & t ! imitation ( ! mann]s & be>+ ( _! eld]s causes !m to become m9iature m5 & wom51 & dive/s !m ( ! attributes ( artless & unaffect$ *ildhood4 ,! dresses worn by *ildr5 at ^! ent]ta9m5ts are ( s elaborate a "*--& s mu* pride is exhibit$ :5 we>+ !m--t a _s ( vanity & a love ( dress are ar\s$ at a prematurely e>ly age4 ,f a physical po9t ( view1 late h\rs1 heat$ rooms1 ri* da9ties1 & con/ant excitem5t h a p]nici\s effect ^u *ildr54 ,!re is1 ( c\rse1 an opposite view tak5 by ^? :o uphold juv5ile balls2 !y consid] t *ildr5 are ! bett] = associat+ ) o!rs ( _! own age outside ( _! own family circle1 & t 9 ! case ( only *ildr5 su* association is calculat$ to r5d] !m lively & intellig5t4 ,ano!r argum5t 9 fav\r ( ^! juv5ile p>ties is1 t *ildr5 :o are 9 ! habit ( con/antly att5d+ !m acquire self-possess$ & confid5t mann]s1 & t all %yness1 mauvaise honte & gau*]ie1 :i* di/+ui% _m *ildr5 :5 9 ! company ( /rang]s1 are dispell$ by frequ5t int]c\rse ) *ildr5 ( all ages4 ,?us1 9 place ( ! noisy game ( romps1 ! little g5tlem5 ask ! little ladies to dance1 pull co/ume bon-bons ) _! fav\rite p>tn]s1 & (f] !m simil> att5tions ?r\gh\t ! ev5+4 ,( c\rse1 !re are %y little g5tlem5 & %y little ladies ev5 at a juv5ile ball2 b x is ! con/ant endeav\r ( ^? :o accompany !m1 :e!r mammas1 eld] si/]s1 "y aunts1 or gr[n-up c\s9s1 to p]suade !m to get ! bett] ( ?is diffid5ce1 & to induce taciturn ,ma/] ,tommy to dance ) timid ,miss ,t9y4 ,sometimes ,ma/] ,tommy is ob/9ate1 z well z taciturn1 & 8 won't is z /rong z 8 w4 ,z ) all ?+s1 s ) *ildr5's p>ties1 ! m$ium c\rse is1 p]haps1 ! wise/ to take1 runn+ into nei!r extreme--avoid+ too mu* seclusion or ov]mu* gaiety1 & r5d]+ su* gaiety & amusem5t suitable to ! ages ( ! *ildr5 invit$4 ,:5 an ev5+'s ent]ta9m5t consi/s ( a s]ies ( amusem5ts1 x is a mi/ake to cr[d too great a v>iety into ! space ( f\r h\rs1 ! usual limits ( a *ild's p>ty1 = if s ! programme has to be hurri$ly gone ?r\gh1 & is h>dly f9i%$ be=e ! h\r ( dep>ture4 ,no little judgm5t is requir$ :5 organis+ juv5ile p>ties4 ,! h\rs usually select$ = *ildr5's p>ties1 :e!r on a l>ge or small scale1 are f f\r to eight1 five to n9e1 six to t51 or f sev5 to elev54 ,! *ildr5 on _! arrival are receiv$ 9 ! draw+-room4 ,9 mo/ cases _! relatives1 ei!r mo!rs or gr[n-up si/]s1 are ask$ to accompany !m4 ,!re is great punctuality obs]v$ z reg>ds ! h\r ( arrival1 & tea is usually s]v$ 9 ! d9+-room ab\t half an h\r aft] t nam$ on ! invitation c>d4 ,! int]im is g5]ally pass$ by *ildr5 9 wat*+ ea* fre% arrival1 & 9 greet+ _! little acqua9tances1 comp>+ notes ) ea* o!r z to ! teas & ! p>ties !y are go+ to1 or 9 amus+ !mselves ) ! toys belong+ to ! *ildr5 ( ! h\se1 :i* are usually arrang$ on tables = ?is purpose2 & me*anical toys1 walk+ & talk+ birds1 etc41 musical toys1 picture-books1 & dolls1 & ! late/ & newe/ inv5tions 9 ! way ( play?+s af=d ! little visitors an opportunity = becom+ at ease ) ea* o!r4 ,tea is g5]ally disp5s$ at "o end ( a long table1 & c(fee at ! opposite end4 ,! gov]ness usually p\rs out ! tea1 & "o ( ! daught]s ( ! h\se ! c(fee2 or fail+ h]1 ! head nurse or lady's maid does s4 ,di%es ( p\nd1 plum1 & sponge cake are plac$ ! l5g? ( ! table1 int]sp]s$ ) plates ( ?9 bread-&-butt]1 biscuits1 & pres]ves2 ei!r ! ladies ( ! family or ! s]vants 9 att5dance h& !m to ! *ildr54 ,:5 ! relatives accompany ! *ildr5 tea is usually s]v$ to !m 9 ano!r room1 b frequ5tly !y d n arrive until tea is ov]1 & ! nurses accompany ! *ildr5 to ! h\se4 ,amusem5ts4--,! arrangem5ts = ! ev5+'s amusem5t are regulat$ 9 a measure by ! am\nt ( accommodation a h\se af=ds1 premis+ t boi/]\s games are n all[$ 9 draw+-rooms1 unless all valuable ornam5ts or ?+s likely to be brok5 are remov$ f ! rooms4 ,if conjur+ is "o ( ! amusem5ts provid$1 x g5]ally takes place 9 ! draw+-room imm$iately aft] tea1 & la/s ab\t an h\r4 ,a danc+-clo? is put d[n ov] ! draw+-room c>pet2 r\t seats or cane *airs are arrang$ 9 r[s4 ,! y\nge/ *ildr5 are seat$ 9 ! fir/ r[4 ,p]=m+ birds1 p]=m+ dogs1 or p]=m+ monkeys are also fav\rite amusem5ts at ^! p>ties1 & rank next to conjur+ 9 ! e/imation ( *ildr54 ,pun* & ,judy or m>ionettes are popul> draw+-room amusem5ts1 & ei!r occupies ! space ( an h\r4 ,:5 a c9ematograph %[ is ! ent]ta9m5t provid$1 x takes place 9 ! d9+-room or libr>y1 or p]haps 9 ! h\sekeep]'s room1 if l>ge en\gh = ! purpose4 ,danc+ or games usually prec$e ^! amusem5ts1 & la/s f half to ?ree-qu>t]s ( an h\r2 little girls dance ) ea* o!r r\nd & squ>e dances1 z little girls are1 z a rule1 m p>tial to danc+ ?an are little boys1 al?\gh !y "o & all1 great & small1 jo9 ) glee 9 a c\ntry dance1 or 9 ! ,tempete1 or 9 ,sir ,rog] de ,cov]ley4 ,n long] ?an an h\r is devot$ to danc+1 & ?is is usually foll[$ by games4 ,impromptu *>ades is a fav\rite pa/ime ) *ildr52 b to avoid ! juv5ile audi5ce becom+ we>y & impati5t dur+ ! prep>ation ( ! *>ades x is z well !y %\ld be amus$ ) "s quiet game1 su* z =feits1 cross que/ions & crook$ answ]s1 prov]bs1 etc4 ,at ,*ri/mas & ,new ,ye>'s p>ties ! di/ribution ( pres5ts is a v important feature2 ,*ri/mas trees are n[ r disc>d$ 9 fav\r ( great] novelties4 ,fa!r ,*ri/mas1 ,santa ,claus1 ,! ,fairy ,godmo!r1 ,! ,fairies' ,well1 or ! ,lucky ,bag & ,! ,magic ,log1 are "s ( ! _m devices = ! di/ribution ( pres5ts2 ^! popul> *>act]s are repres5t$ by gr[n-up p]sons1 & provoke mu* wond] & admiration among/ *ildr54 ,! pres5ts are usually giv5 at ! close ( ! ev5+4 ,light ,refre%m5ts are provid$ 9 ! d9+-room--lemonade1 w9e & wat]1 e description ( cake1 s&wi*es1 cry/allis$ fruits1 ,fr5* plums1 figs1 almonds & rais9s1 oranges1 etc4 ,bon-bons conta9+ pap] caps1 etc41 :i* af=d *ildr5 mu* amusem5t1 are usually provid$4 ,:5 a juv5ile ball is giv5 a supp] is provid$2 o!rwise light refre%m5ts are consid]$ suffici5t1 & are s]v$ twice dur+ ! ev5+4 ,sometimes ! *ildr5 ( ! family1 if old en\gh & clev] en\gh1 act a little play--"s nurs]y fairy tale1 cond5s$ into "o act1 su* z ,beauty & ! ,bea/1 ,c9d]ella1 etc4--:i* la/s ab\t an h\r1 & is foll[$ by danc+4 ,:5 a juv5ile fancy ball is giv51 "o or two fancy quadrilles are arrang$ be=eh&1 to be danc$ by ! *ildr5 9 co/ume4 ,,*apt] ,,xxx ,,writt5 ,,invitations ,writ+ ,lett]s ( ,invitation1 & answ]+ lett]s ( invitation1 (t5 occupy f> long] "t 9 ! composition ?an ! writ]s w\ld c>e to confess4 ,! difficulty does n lie 9 an invitation itself or 9 accept+ or refus+ x1 b r 9 ! =m 9 :i* ei!r %\ld be c\*$1 ! words t %\ld be *os51 & ! expressions t %\ld be us$2 "o p]son is afraid ( be+ too empresse1 ano!r ( be+ too =mal or too /iff2 "o is fe>ful ( say+ too little1 ano!r ( say+ too mu*4 ,:5 invitations are issu$ on d9n] c>ds or on at home c>ds1 ! note ( acceptance %\ld be z brief z is ! pr9t$ c>d ( invitation1 & to ! pr9t$ c>d reque/+ ! pleasure ( ,mrs4 ,blank's company at d9n]1 ! /]eotyp$ answ] is inv>iably ,mrs4 ,blank has mu* pleasure 9 accept+ ,mrs4 ,da%'s k9d invitation = ,saturday ! #ba/1 or ,mrs4 ,blank regrets t a previ\s engagem5t w prev5t h] hav+ ! pleasure ( accept+ ,mrs4 ,da%'s k9d invitation = ,saturday1 ! #ba/4 ,z reg>ds ^? invitations t ref] to visits ( "s days' duration1 ^? accu/om$ to give ?is description ( ent]ta9m5t1 "k exactly :at to say & h[ to say x4 ,! conv5tional civilities or affectionate cordialities1 z ! case may be1 occur 9 _! prop] places2 b "o po9t is made cle> 9 ei!r case1 namely1 ! l5g? ( ! visit to be paid4 ,!re are p :o are "u ! impression t to specify ! exact l5g? ( a visit is 9 a degree inhospitable1 & n suffici5tly polite2 & !y1 !re=e1 z a sort ( compromise1 use ! ambigu\s t]m a few days 9 lieu ( di/9ctly def9+ ! limit ( ^! invitations4 ,s f> f vague invitations su* z ^! be+ an advantage to invit$ gue/s1 !y n seldom place !m at a disadvantage at m po9ts ?an "o4 ,!y are unc]ta9 on :at day !y are to take _! dep>ture4 ,!y d n wi% by leav+ a day e>li] to dis>range any little plans t _! ho/ess may h contemplat$ = _! amusem5t2 nei!r d !y wi% to prolong _! visit a day lat]1 le/ by s do+ !y %\ld break 9 ^u any engagem5ts t %e may h =m$ on h] own acc\nt indep5d5tly ( h] visitors4 ,x is also n a little awkw>d = gue/s to tell _! ho/ess t !y ?9k ( leav+ on ,?ursday by #ab4bj tra94 ,x might h suit$ ! ho/ess v mu* bett] t h] visitors %\ld h left on ! ,w$nesday1 & 9 h] own m9d %e _h p]haps int5d$ t ! visit %\ld end on t day2 b1 hav+ left ! invitation op51 m or less1 by say+ a few days1 !re is no?+ left = h] b to sacrifice h] own arrangem5ts to ! conv5i5ce ( h] gue/s1 z )\t disc\rtesy %e c\ld h>dly sugge/ to !m t !y %\ld leave a day e>li] ?an ! "o !y _h nam$1 & ! visitors rema9 unconsci\s ( hav+ 9 any way trespass$ ^u ! good nature ( _! ho/ess4 ,a few days is also an unsatisfactory word+ ( an invitation to visitors !mselves2 z a rule1 x means ?ree or f\r days1 b !re is also an unc]ta9ty z to :e!r ! f\r? day %\ld be tak5 or n4 ,^? :o int]pret a few days to mean ?ree days1 make _! plans = dep>ture accord+ly2 fail+ ?is1 !y are compell$ to leave _! plans op51 & /ay f ?ree to five days1 accord+ z *ance & circum/ances may dictate4 ,a lady w\ld p]haps require a little addition to h] w>drobe 9 ! matt] ( a five days' visit ov] t ( a ?ree days' /ay2 b ?is is a trifl+ detail1 al?\gh x helps to swell ! li/ ( m9or inconv5i5ces :i* are ! result ( vague invitations4 ,!re are1 ( c\rse1 exceptions to e rule1 & !re are p :o use ?is phrase ( ,w y come & see u = a few days8 9 ! bona fide s5se ( ! ^w1 & to :om x is immat]ial :e!r _! gue/s rema9 ?ree days or six days2 b su* an ela/ic invitation z ?is is usually giv5 to a relative1 or to a v intimate fri5d1 ^: foot+ 9 ! h\se is t ( a relation1 & ) :om ! ho/ess does n /& on c]emony1 z f> z h] own engagem5ts are conc]n$2 & p on ^! fri5dly t]ms c talk ov] _! dep>ture ) _! ho/ess1 & consult h] ab\t x )\t ! fa9te/ emb>rassm5t4 ,! mo/ satisfactory invitation is c]ta9ly ! "o t m5tions ! day ( arrival & ! day ( dep>ture4 ,?us1 aft] ! raison d'etre ( ! invitation has be5 /at$1 ! :y & ! :]e=e ( its be+ giv5 foll[s ! gi/ ( ! lett]3 ,we hope y w come to u on ,w$nesday ! #bcrd1 & rema9 until ! #bg?4 ,x is1 ( c\rse1 op5 to a ho/ess to ask h] visitors to prolong _! /ay beyond ! date nam$ if %e sees reason = s do+2 b ?is is ! exception r ?an ! rule 9 ! case ( %ort visits1 & gue/s take _! dep>ture z a matt] ( c\rse on ! day nam$ 9 ! invitation4 ,ho/ess & gue/s are p]fectly at ease ^u ! subject1 & gue/s d n feel on delicate gr\nd ) _! ho/ess1 or fe> to out/ay _! welcome4 ,:5 a visit has be5 paid x is polite1 if n imp]ative1 to write to ! ho/ess & express ! pleasure t has be5 d]iv$ f x4 ,(t5] ?an n "s little matt] arises :i* necessitates a note be+ writt5 ap>t f ?is2 b :e!r or n1 good feel+ & good ta/e w\ld dictate t "s su* note %\ld be writt51 &1 z x c always include little matt]s ( g5]al int]e/ 9 connection ) ! pa/ visit1 x ne$ nei!r be ov] c]emoni\s nor coldly polite4 ,to write a lett] ask+ = an invitation1 or to answ] a lett] ask+ = an invitation1 is 9 ei!r case a difficult lett] to write1 z _m h ere ?is discov]$4 ,:5 a m>ri$ lady asks = an invitation = a "y relative or fri5d /ay+ ) h]1 to "s dance or at home to :i* %e h]self is invit$1 ! note is simple en\gh1 & ! answ] is g5]ally a c>d ( invitation or a writt5 p]mission to br+ h]4 ,aga91 9 ! case ( ask+ = invitations = g5tlem51 if a lady is go+ to a ball1 %e c )\t hesitation1 ask = c>ds ( invitation = "o or two g5tlem5 fri5ds ( h] own1 m5tion+ _! names 9 ! note4 ,9 ?is case also ! answ] is g5]ally 9 ! affirmative1 z m5 are always acquisitions at a ball4 ,! awkw>dness ( ! situation arises :5 a good-natur$ p]son is solicit$ to obta9 an invitation to a sm>t ball = a lady & h] daught]s1 or = ! "y ladies only1 ! latt] kn[+ "s "o :o w\ld *ap]on !m if !y c\ld only get an invitation4 ,if ! lady :o asks = ! invitation is a fa%ionable ball-giv]1 ! probability is t h] reque/ w be grant$2 b if ! contr>y1 ! rev]se w mo/ likely be ! case4 ,ev5 :5 writ+ to an intimate fri5d1 !re is always a delicacy 9 ask+ = an invitation = a ?ird p]son1 & society appe>s to become1 ye> aft] ye>1 /ill m exclusive on ?is po9t4 ,_m p are reluctant1 or decl9e altoge!r1 to put !mselves "u an obligation ( ?is nature1 ev5 = ^? ) :om !y are mo/ intimate2 x may be t ! numb] ( refusals good-natur$ p h receiv$ f _! fri5ds :5 try+ to r5d] s]vices ( ?is description1 h made !m *>y ( putt+ !mselves =w>d aga9 9 a simil> mann]3 x is *ill+ to be told t ! li/ is ov] full1 or t s _m p h be5 refus$ already1 or t !re is n a c>d to sp>e4 ,b a few ye>s ago a ball 0 n consid]$ a success unless x 0 an ov]-cr[d$ "o2 ! popul>ity ( ! ball-giv] 0 %[n by ! gue/s sc>cely be+ able to f9d /&+-room4 ,?us1 invitations 7 giv5 "r & left to ! fri5ds ( ^? :o ask$ = !m4 ,b ! fa%ion ( to-day is to /yle a cr[d$ ball-room a be>-g>d51 & to conf9e ! invitations1 ) b v few exceptions1 to ^? :o are /rictly on ! visit+ li/ ( ! ball-giv]2 & pretty girls may sigh 9 va9 = an invitation to a ball giv5 ev5 by a relative or acqua9tance ( _! own1 if n on _! visit+ li/4 ,/ill1 invitations are con/antly ask$ = by p = _! fri5ds1 & sometimes !y are giv5 & sometimes !y are refus$1 z ! case may be1 b mu* dep5ds ^u ! position ( ! "o :o solicits ! fav\r4 ,if ! giv] ( an ent]ta9m5t wi%es to oblige ! petition]1 %e w /ret* a po9t to d s2 if n1 %e w write a polite note ( excuse1 giv+ "o ( ! reasons be=e m5tion$4 ,x is ?or\ghly und]/ood p d n ask = invitations = !mselves1 :atev] !y may d = _! fri5ds1 & t !y w\ld n d s unless !y 7 !mselves invit$4 ,liv+ at a di/ance modifies1 h[ev]1 ?is latt] rule2 & fri5ds 9 ! c\ntry (t5 ask = invitations = fri5ds 9 t[n1 & vice v]sa4 ,d9n] invitations are1 z a matt] ( c\rse1 nev] ask$ =2 b invitations to g>d5-p>ties1 aft]noon at homes1 & aft]noon teas1 are frequ5tly ask$ = & readily giv54 ,"s are intimate en\gh at ! h\se :]e !y visit to take a relative or fri5d ) !m to ^! aft]noon ga!r+s )\t obs]v+ ! punctili\sness ( ask+ = an invitation2 o!rs1 on less intimate t]ms1 d n v5ture ^u do+ s4 ,9 all cases :5 an invitation is ask$ =1 a ho/ess %\ld nev] neglect to s5d a reply1 & %\ld n take = grant$ t h] fri5ds w naturally und]/& t sil5ce gives cons5t1 = "u ! circum/ances x is v possible to int]pret x to signify a refusal4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxi ,,refus+ ,,invitations ,_m reasons exi/ = decl9+ invitations o!r ?an ! plea ( a prior engagem5t4 ,mrs4 ,m4 regrets 7'mu* regrets1' or 'v mu* regrets'7 t a previ\s engagem5t prev5ts h] hav+ ! pleasure ( accept+ ,mrs4 ,n4's 'invitation1' or 'k9d invitation4' ,:5 on m intimate t]ms1 ,mrs4 ,m4 %\ld write 9 ! fir/ p]son :5 decl9+ an invitation4 ,x is an op5 "q :e!r ! nature ( ! engagem5t %\ld be /at$ or n4 ,ev5 intimate fri5ds (t5 conf9e !mselves to ! /atem5t ( ! b>e fact only t a prior engagem5t exi/s2 o!rs1 on ! contr>y1 /ate ! nature ( ! engagem5t1 & !re is no d\bt t ?is latt] c\rse consid]ably s(t5s a refusal & less5s ! disappo9tm5t exp]i5c$1 & !re=e1 :5 practicable1 %\ld always be foll[$4 ,:5 a prior engagem5t _c be made ! basis ( a refusal1 !n ! refusal mu/ re/ on o!r l9es2 ill heal?1 a sev]e cold1 etc41 are valid excuses4 ,fail+ ^!1 ! refusal %\ld be z foll[s3--,mrs4 ,z4 regrets %e is unable to accept ,mrs4 ,x4's k9d invitation1 etc4 ,x occasionally happ5s t x is desirable to break an engagem5t1 circum/ances hav+ *ang$ ! aspect ( ?+s4 ,! invitation1 p]haps1 0 a v]bal "o1 & a refusal 0 n easy at ! mom5t4 ,aga91 impromptu invitations are sometimes refus$1 hav+ be5 too ha/ily accept$--! s]vant :o br\ght ! note wait$ = an answ]1 & on ! impulse ( ! mom5t an affirmative answ] 0 giv52 ! wife _h n "t to consult h] husb&1 & accept$ = him z well z = h]self2 or p]haps "s pot5t dome/ic reason t c\ld n be expla9$ induc$ a subsequ5t refusal4 ,! fa%ionable _w accepts refusals z a matt] ( c\rse1 & fills up ! gaps ) o!r invitations4 ,refusals ( d9n] invitations f ^? = :om a d9n]-p>ty 0 p>tly orig9at$ are always disappo9t+1 ev5 to ! mo/ popul> ( d9n] giv]s1 9 ! same way t ! abs5ce ( ! pr9cipal neighb\r f a c\nty ent]ta9m5t is felt to ca/ a %ad[ ov] ! proce$+s ( ! day4 ,al?\gh pr9t$ c>ds ( acceptance & ( refusal are 9 g5]al use1 yet _m cases arise :i* r5d] writt5 refusals imp]ative4 ,z reg>ds ! refusal ( invitations ask$ =1 su* reque/s %\ld n be made unless on v safe gr\nd1 & ) a c]ta9ty ( meet+ ) acquiesc5ce1 yet occasionally ^! reque/s are ei!r unwelcome or inadmissible1 & refusals are consequ5tly giv52 b1 unless word$ ) tact & good nature1 !y are (t5 ! cause ( /ra9$ relations betwe5 bo? fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxii ,,walk+1 ,,driv+1 ,,& ,,rid+ ,! ,usual ,h\rs = ,walk+ 9 ! ,p>k are f #i until #aj4cj a4m4 ,! h\rs = aft]noon walk+ & sitt+ 9 ! ,p>k are f #d to #g p4m4 dur+ ! summ] mon?s4 ,! fa%ionable h\rs = walk+ 9 ! ,p>k on ,sunday are f #a to #b p4m41 bo? 9 w9t] & summ]2 & f #e to #g p4m4 9 ! summ] mon?s4 ,m>ri$ ladies c1 if !y please1 walk out unaccompani$ or unatt5d$ 9 places ( public resort 9 t[n or on ! p>ades ( fa%ionable wat]+-places2 b m>ri$ ladies1 especially if !y are "y1 usually pref] ! society ( ano!r lady1 n s mu*1 p]haps1 = propriety z = companion%ip1 z to walk alone1 ei!r 9 t[n or at fa%ionable wat]+-places1 r5d]s a lady m or less conspicu\s1 especially if %e is attractive & well dress$4 ,a "y lady c n[ also walk by h]self 9 ! ,p>k = ! purpose ( jo9+ h] fri5ds & acqua9tances1 bo? 9 ! morn+ & 9 ! aft]noon1 b %e %\ld n sit alone4 ,aga91 "y ladies may walk alone 9 ! fa%ionable /reets1 b !y %\ld n loit] :5 alone at %op-w9d[s z !y pass1 b walk at a quick pace f %op to %op1 or f /reet to /reet4 ,9 ! quiet neighb\rhoods ( t[ns1 suburban t[ns1 & wat]+-places1 "y ladies walk unaccompani$ & unatt5d$ to visit _! fri5ds resid+ 9 ! ne> vic9ity ( _! homes1 or to att5d classes1 or = ! purpose ( %opp+1 etc4 ,inde$1 great indep5d5ce is g5]ally accord$ 9 ?is respect1 ! l9e be+ drawn at ev5+ h\rs--t is to say1 at walk+ alone aft] dusk4 ,at wat]+-places1 & at all public prom5ades1 x is usual = g5tlem5 to jo9 ladies ) :om !y are acqua9t$1 & to walk ) !m = a %ort "t :5 x is app>5t t _! company is desir$1 b n o!rwise4 ,ladies & g5tlem51 :e!r relat$ or n1 %\ld nev] walk arm-9-arm1 unless ! lady is an eld]ly "o1 or an invalid1 & requires ?is support4 ,driv+4--,f #c to #f4cj are ! receiv$ h\rs = ! aft]noon drive dur+ ! summ]1 & f #b4cj to #d4cj dur+ ! w9t]4 ,! foll[+ rules z reg>ds ent]+ & leav+ a c>riage apply to a motor-c> or an electric br\gham z f> z ! con/ruction1 make1 & size ( ! same r5d] x possible4 ,:5 driv+ 9 an op5 or close c>riage or motor-c> x is q immat]ial :e!r ! own] occupies ! "r-h& or ! left-h& seat4 ,! seat %e occupies dep5ds ^u :i* side %e ent]s1 z ! lady driv+ ) h] %\ld ent] be=e h] & %\ld seat h]self on ! fur!/ seat4 ,a visitor %\ld always ent] ! motor-c> or c>riage be=e ! ho/ess4 ,:5 ?ree ladies ent] a motor-c> or c>riage ! "y unm>ri$ lady %\ld take ! back seat & ! two m>ri$ ladies %\ld occupy ! front seat2 ?is is a matt] ( c\rtesy on ! "p ( a "y lady due to m>ri$ ladies & n /rictly dem&$ by etiquette4 ,a husb& %\ld sit ) 8 back to ! horses1 or by ! side ( ! *auffeur 9 ! case ( a motor-c>1 :5 a lady is driv+ ) 8 wife4 ,a g5tleman %\ld be ! fir/ to get out ( a motor-c> or c>riage1 ) a view to assi/+ ! ladies to d s4 ,z a rule ! ho/ess %\ld leave ! c>riage or c> aft] h] gue/ & n be=e h]1 unless x is m conv5i5t to d o!rwise4 ,:5 a lady is m]ely call+ = an acqua9tance to take h] = a drive1 %e %\ld n desc5d f h] c> or c>riage = ! purpose ( all[+ h] to ent] x be=e h]4 ,9 ! aft]noon "y ladies may drive alone 9 ! public ?or\ghf>es1 unaccompani$ by m>ri$ ladies4 ,x is p]missible = a "y lady to drive alone 9 ! ,p>k or 9 ! /reets4 ,a m>ri$ lady c1 z a matt] ( c\rse1 drive unaccompani$4 ,x w\ld be unconv5tional 7 a lady to drive alone ) a g5tleman 9 8 motor-c>1 unless he 7 ne>ly relat$ to h]1 or unless %e 7 engag$ to be m>ri$ to him4 ,x is usual = ! own] ( a c>riage to sit ) h] face to ! horses2 :5 a m>ri$ lady is driv+ ) h] %e %\ld sit beside h]4 ,:5 "y ladies are driv+ ) h] 9 addition to ! m>ri$ lady !y %\ld sit ) _! backs to ! horses4 ,:5 a lady is driv+ ) h] husb&1 & a "y lady accompanies h]1 %e %\ld n (f] ! front seat to ! "y lady1 b %\ld reta9 x h]self1 & ev5 %\ld ! (f] be made1 a "y lady %\ld n avail h]self ( x4 ,rid+4--,z reg>ds rid+ 9 t[n1 ! h\rs = practice 9 ! ,r[ are f #h to #aj a4m4 9 summ] & #i to #aa a4m4 9 w9t]1 = inexp]i5c$ rid]s & beg9n]s2 "y ladies ride ) a rid+-ma/] or ) a rid+-mi/ress1 or ) a relative1 z ! case may be4 ,! h\rs = rid+ 9 ! ,p>k range f #i4cj to #aj4cj a4m4 ,x is ?or\ghly und]/ood t a lady may ride 9 ! ,p>k alone--t is1 unaccompani$ or unatt5d$--= ! purpose ( jo9+ h] fri5ds4 ,x is argu$1 9 ^! days ( woman's emancipation1 t no possible h>m or annoyance c arise f ! fact ( a lady rid+ unatt5d$1 beyond ! always possible *ance ( an accid5t4 ,al?\gh great latitude is n[ all[$ to "y ladies ) reg>d to rid+ alone1 _m p>5ts /ill pref] t _! daught]s %\ld be att5d$ by _! grooms4 ,two ladies frequ5tly ride toge!r1 unaccompani$ by a g5tleman & unatt5d$ by a groom4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxiii ,,b[+ ,z reg>ds ! recognition ( fri5ds or acqua9tances1 x is ! privilege ( a lady to take ! initiative1 by be+ ! fir/ to b[4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n raise 8 hat to a lady until %e has accord$ him ?is m>k ( recognition1 al?\gh ! act ( b[+ is a simultane\s action on ! "p ( bo? lady & g5tleman1 z a lady w\ld h>dly be/[ a b[ ^u a g5tleman n prep>$ to return x4 ,! b[ betwe5 intimate acqua9tances takes ! "*1 :5 giv5 by a lady1 ( a famili> nod 9 place ( a /iff b[4 ,:5 a g5tleman returns ! b[ ( a lady he %\ld d s by di/9ctly tak+ 8 hat (f & z quickly replac+ x1 n m]ely rais+ x slightly1 z =m]ly1 & if he is an intimate acqua9tance or fri5d1 he %\ld act 9 a simil> mann]4 ,9 ,france & on ! ,cont95t g5]ally1 ! rule ( b[+ is rev]s$1 & ! g5tleman is ! fir/ to b[ to ! lady1 in/ead ( ! lady to ! g5tleman4 ,betwe5 ladies b slightly acqua9t$1 ! "o ( highe/ rank %\ld be ! fir/ to b[ to ! o!r2 betwe5 ladies ( equal rank x is immat]ial :i* ( ! two b[s fir/4 ,a lady %\ld n b[ to p]sons only kn[n to h] by sight1 al?\gh %e may frequ5tly h se5 !m 9 ! company ( h] fri5ds4 ,a lady %\ld b[ to a g5tleman1 ei!r a fri5d or acqua9tance1 ev5 :5 he is walk+ ) ei!r a lady or g5tleman1 ) :om %e is unacqua9t$4 ,g5tlem5 d n raise _! hats 9 recognition ( ea* o!r1 b simply nod1 :5 n walk+ ) ladies1 save :5 a va/ diff]5ce exi/s 9 rank or age4 ,:5 a g5tleman meets ano!r--a fri5d ( 8--walk+ ) a lady or ladies1 ) :om he himself is unacqua9t$1 he %\ld raise 8 hat & look /raight be=e him1 n at ! lady or ladies4 ,a lady %\ld n b[ to ano!r :o1 be+ a /rang] to h]1 has address$ a few rem>ks to h] at an aft]noon p>ty1 z ! fact ( meet+ at ! h\se ( a mutual fri5d does n con/itute an acqua9tance%ip1 & does n au?orise a future b[+ acqua9tance4 ,ladies1 z a rule1 are n too ready to b[ to ^? :om !y h m]ely conv]s$ ) 9 a casual way4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 !y are n q c]ta9 ( be+ rememb]$1 & no?+ is m disconc]t+ & disagreeable ?an to b[ to a p]son :o does n return x ?r\gh =getfulness ( ! "o :o has giv5 x1 or ?r\gh %ortsight$ness1 or ?r\gh actual int5tion4 ,%ort-sight$ p are always (f5d+ 9 ! matt] ( n b[+1 & almo/ e ?ird p]son1 comp>atively speak+1 compla9s ( be+ m or less %ort-sight$2 ?us x behoves ladies to discov] = !mselves ! /r5g? & l5g? ( sight possess$ by _! new acqua9tances1 or ! *ances are t _! b[ may nev] be return$1 or !y may cont9ue to lab\r "u ! impression t !y h receiv$ a cut direct2 ?us _m pleasant acqua9tances are lo/ ?r\gh ?is misappreh5sion1 & _m errone\s impressions creat$4 ,a b[+ acqua9tance is a difficult & tiresome "o to ma9ta9 = any l5g? ( "t1 :5 opportunities d n arise = increas+ x4 ,! irksom5ess ( keep+ x up is pr9cipally exp]i5c$ by p]sons meet+ day aft] day 9 ! ,p>k or on public prom5ades1 rid+1 driv+1 or walk+1 m especially :5 x is tacitly und]/ood t ! acqua9tance %\ld n develop into a fur!r acqua9tance4 ,x w\ld be consid]$ disc\rte\s to discont9ue a b[+ acqua9tance :i* has once be5 comm5c$4 ,to "k a g5tleman by sight ?r\gh hav+ frequ5tly se5 him at balls & p>ties1 does n give a lady ! "r to b[ to him1 ev5 ?\gh %e may h /ood beside him = "s tw5ty m9utes or s on a cr[d$ /aircase1 & may h receiv$ "s slight civility f him4 ,a lady :o has receiv$ a little s]vice f a /rang] w\ld gladly ackn[l$ge x at any subsequ5t meet+ by a pleasant b[1 b z b[+ to a g5tleman argues an acqua9tance ) him1 & z 9 su* cases z ^! an acqua9tance does n exi/1 etiquette provides no compromise 9 ! matt]4 ,!re=e1 if a "y lady takes h] own l9e1 & r ?an appe> ungraci\s b[s to a g5tleman :o has n be5 introduc$ to h] ei!r directly or indirectly1 x is a brea* ( etiquette on h] "p2 & z to d an unconv5tional ?+ is n desirable1 ! innum]able little s]vices :i* ladies receive 9 g5]al society are n fur!r ackn[l$g$ beyond ! ?anks express$ at ! mom5t ( _! be+ receiv$4 ,b[s v>y mat]ially3 !re is ! fri5dly b[1 ! di/ant b[1 ! c]emoni\s b[1 ! def]5tial b[1 ! famili> b[1 ! reluctant b[1 & s on1 accord+ to ! feel+s t actuate individuals 9 _! int]c\rse ) ea* o!r4 ,:5 a b[+ acqua9tance only exi/s betwe5 ladies & g5tlem51 & !y meet p]haps two or ?ree times dur+ ! day1 & are n suffici5tly intimate to speak1 !y d n usually b[ m ?an once1 :5 ?us meet+ 9 p>k or prom5ade4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxiv ,,! ,,cockade ,cockades are worn by s]vants 9 liv]y ( (fic]s 9 ! army & navy1 & all ^? :o hold ,8 ,maje/y's commission2 also ( lords-lieut5ants & deputy-lieut5ants4 ,reta9]s ( ! ,cr[n are entitl$ to ! use ( ! cockade z a badge ( ! reign+ dyna/y4 ,! fact t cockades are n[ s frequ5tly worn by m5-s]vants may be acc\nt$ = ?us3 ,deputy-lieut5ants are f> m num]\s n[ ?an 0 =m]ly ! case2 almo/ e c\ntry g5tleman is a deputy-lieut5ant1 & consequ5tly 8 s]vants are entitl$ to ! use ( ! cockade4 ,! privilege ( appe>+ 9 uni=m at levees in/ead ( 9 ,c\rt dress has be5 & is an inc5tive to _m to seek = & obta9 ! appo9tm5t ( deputy-lieut5ant4 ,aga91 all ju/ices ( ! peace claim ! use ( ! cockade z be+ ,civil reta9]s ( ! ,cr[n2 & al?\gh !re is no cle>ly def9$ rule on ?is head1 accord+ to ! late ,sir ,alb]t ,woods1 ,g>t]-,k+-at-,arms1 x has long be5 tacitly conc$$ to !m4 ,! cu/om ( liv]y s]vants we>+ cockades dates f ! comm5cem5t ( ! eighte5? c5tury1 & 0 at fir/ purely a milit>y di/9ction4 ,! cockade worn by ! s]vants ( ! memb]s ( ! ,royal ,family1 & by all :o claim to be ( ,royal desc5t1 is slightly diff]5t 9 %ape f t kn[n z ! badge ( ! reign+ dyna/y1 i4e4 ! ,hanov]ian badge1 & is r\nd 9 %ape & )\t a fan4 ,! milit>y cockade is ( an oval %ape1 t]m9at+ 9 a fan4 ,! civil cockade is ( an oval %ape also1 b )\t ! fan4 ,! naval cockade is id5tical ) ! civil cockade4 ,! :ite cockade is ! badge ( ! ,h\se ( ,/u>t4 ,! black cockade t ( ! ,h\se ( ,hanov]4 ,! s]vants ( =eign ambassadors we> cockades 9 col\r accord+ to _! nationalities4 ,black & :ite = ,g]many2 black & yell[ = ,au/ria2 ! tricol\r = ,france2 sc>let = ,spa92 blue & :ite = ,portugal2 & black & yell[ = ,belgium4 ,! ^w cockade1 accord+ to a well-kn[n au?ority1 0 borr[$ f ! ,fr5* coc>de1 hav+ orig9ally be5 appli$ to ! plumes ( cock's fea!rs worn by ,croatian soldi]s s]v+ 9 ! ,fr5* army4 ,"s su* plume1 or 9 its place a bun* ( ribbons1 came to be us$ 9 p9n+ up ! flaps ( ! hat into a cock$ position1 & ?us gradually ! ^w pass$ = ! "n ( ! cock$ hat itself4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxv ,,c\ntry-,,h\se ,,visits ,septemb] is actually ! comm5cem5t ( ! c\ntry visit+ season1 ! few visits t are paid 9 ,augu/ are b a prelude to ! programme t is to foll[ dur+ ! succe$+ five mon?s4 ,! visitors receiv$ 9 ,augu/ are pr9cipally relatives4 ,! exceptions to ! ,augu/ family p>ties are ! ,augu/ cricket p>ties 9 ! c\nties :]e cricket is made a great feature dur+ t mon?1 :]e ! cricket weeks & consequ5t l>ge c\ntry-h\se p>ties are ( annual recurr5ce1 & :]e balls & private !atricals =m "p ( ! week's amusem5t4 ,x (t5 foll[s t p visit at ! same h\ses ye> aft] ye>1 !y arrange _! t\r ( visits ) reg>d to ^? invitations :i* !y annually receive2 new acqua9tances & new h\ses :]eat to visit are add$ to ! li/ f "t to "t & take ! place ( ^? :i*1 z a matt] ( c\rse1 drop out ( x4 ,sometimes ! invitations fit into ea* o!r admirably1 l ! pieces ( a puzzle2 at o!rs !re is an awkw>d int]val ( a day1 or two or ?ree days1 to be fill$ up betwe5 leav+ "o h\se & arriv+ at ano!r4 ,if ! ho/ess is1 9 ei!r case1 a relation or an intimate fri5d1 ?is difficulty is easily surm\nt$ by /ay+ on at "o h\se until ! day fix$ = arrival at ano!r1 or vice v]sa2 b if a gue/ is on c]emony ) h] ho/ess1 or if1 z is (t5 ! case1 new arrivals are expect$ = ! foll[+ week1 ! alt]native is to sp5d a few days 9 t[n1 z al?\gh ! h\se :]e ! next visit to be paid might be )9 tw5ty or ?irty miles ( ! h\se ! visitor is ab\t to leave1 x w\ld be unusual to sp5d ! int]val at an hotel 9 ! adjac5t t[n1 z to d s might reflect ^u ! hospitality ( ! ho/ess4 ,on ! o!r h&1 invitations are sometimes giv5 indep5d5tly ( dates1 b ?is fri5dly /yle ( invitation is n giv5 :5 a l>ge p>ty is invit$1 & x is und]/ood to mean t ! ho/ess may be q alone1 or may h gue/s /ay+ ) h]1 z ! case may be4 ,?is =m ( invitation is frequ5tly giv5 to p visit+ 9 ,scotl&1 on acc\nt ( ! great di/ance f t[n4 ,x is a v g5]al cu/om to give %oot+ p>ties ! ?ird week 9 ,septemb]1 h>ve/ p]mitt+4 ,if ! h>ve/ is late on acc\nt ( unfav\rable wea!r ! %oot+ p>ties are po/pon$ until ! fir/ week 9 ! ensu+ mon?4 ,! gue/s1 or at lea/ ! crack guns1 are usually invit$ = p>tridge driv+1 :i* is :at p>tridge %oot+ n[ actually am\nts to4 ,!re are l>ge %oot+ p>ties & small %oot+ p>ties1 %oot+ p>ties to :i* royalty is invit$ & %oot+ p>ties re/rict$ to intimate fri5ds or relations1 b 9 ei!r case ! p]iod is ! same1 ?ree days' %oot+4 ,if a p>ty is limit$ to five guns1 sev5 ladies is ! av]age numb] invit$1 ! ho/ess rely+ ^u a neighb\r or a neighb\r's son to equalise ! balance at ! d9n]-table4 ,! success ( h\se-p>ties ma9ly dep5ds ^u p kn[+ ea* o!r1 or frat]nis+ :5 !y are introduc$ or h made ea* o!r's acqua9tance4 ,! ladies ( a c\ntry-h\se p>ty are expect$1 z a rule1 to amuse !mselves1 m or less1 dur+ ! day4 ,aft] lun*eon !re is usually a drive to a neighb\r+ t[n1 a little %opp+ to be done !re1 or a call to be paid 9 ! neighb\rhood by "s ( ! p>ty1 notably ! m>ri$ ladies1 ! "y ladies be+ left to _! own res\rces4 ,at ! close ( a visit game is (f]$ to ^? ( ! %oot]s to :om x is kn[n t x w be acceptable4 ,! head gamekeep] is usually in/ruct$ to put up a c\ple ( brace ( pheasants & a h>e4 ,b 9 "s h\ses ev5 ?is cu/om is n foll[$1 & ! :ole ( ! game kill$1 ) ! exception ( :at is requir$ = ! h\se1 f9ds its way into ! m>ket1 bo? ! local m>ket & ! ,london m>ket4 99 99 99 99 99 ,%oot+ p>ties z a rule give a ho/ess little anxiety on ! score ( f9d+ amusem5t = ! ladies ( ! p>ty1 z s _m aids out ( doors are at h] comm& at ?is season ( ! ye>4 ,?is is a great advantage1 z al?\gh "s few ladies possess+ great /r5g? ( n]ve h tak5 up %oot+ z an amusem5t & pa/ime & acquit !mselves surpris+ly well 9 ?is manly sport1 yet ladies 9 g5]al are n incl9$ = s dang]\s a game1 & ev5 ^? intrepid ladies :o h le>nt h[ to use _! little gun w\ld nev] be p]mitt$ to make "o or two ( a big %oot+ p>ty1 ev5 7 !y s incl9$4 ,! ho/ess & ! ladies ( ! p>ty inv>iably jo9 ! %oot]s at lun*eon1 & "s ( ! ladies g out ) ! %oot]s 9 ! morn+ to wat* _! pr[ess 9 ! field2 b ?is entails a great deal ( walk+ :]e p>tridge %oot+ is conc]n$1 :i* is q ano!r ?+ to cov]t %oot+ 9 ,novemb] & ,decemb]4 ,a good ho/ess has great opportunities = di/+ui%+ h]self :5 ent]ta9+ a c\ntry-h\se p>ty1 f ! arrival ( ! fir/ motor-c> to ! dep>ture ( ! la/4 ,h] consid]ation & tact are s successfully ex]t$ t someh[ h] gue/s always f9d !mselves do+ exactly :at !y l be/ & 9 company ) ^? :o are mo/ cong5ial to !m1 to say no?+ ( ! com=t ( ! g5]al dome/ic arrangem5ts1 :i* seem to h be5 arrang$ exclusively = _! conv5i5ce4 ,if !y wi% to drive1 !re is a c>riage or motor-c> at _! disposal2 if !y pref] a con/itutional1 !re is "s "o v agreeable desir\s ( walk+ ) !m4 ,! daily pap]s are always to be f\nd1 ! po/-bag goes out at a mo/ conv5i5t h\r by ! h& ( a special mess5g]1 ! d9n] is ( ! be/1 & ! ev5+ is ( ! *e]ie/4 ,bridge z a rule is play$ 9 mo/ h\ses1 & sev]al tables are arrang$ 9 ! draw+-room to accommodate ! w\ld-be play]s4 ,occasionally1 :5 ! birds are wild & sport is slack1 a sort ( picnic lun*eon is held 9 ! vic9ity ( a keep]'s lodge1 "u ! %ade ( "s wide-spread+ trees1 :5 ! ladies jo9 ! p>ty2 b 9 ,septemb] ke5 sportsm5 r despise ?is play+ at %oot+1 & res5t ! int]ruption caus$ by ! company ( ladies at lun*eon1 & pref] to take x 9 ! r\gh & smoke ! :ile4 ,e day ( ! week is n ?us giv5 up to %oot+1 & !re are few own]s ( manors :o w\ld c>e to provide five days' consecutive sport = _! gue/s1 & two days' h>d %oot+ is probably foll[$ by :at is call$ an idle day4 ,on ^! (f days 9 ,septemb] ! ho/ess (t5 gives a g>d5-p>ty1 or takes h] gue/s to "o giv5 by a neighb\r at "s few miles di/ant2 or %e holds a /all at a baza> & p]suades h] gue/s to assi/ h] 9 dispos+ ( h] /ock2 or %e induces h] p>ty to accompany h] to "s fl[]-%[ 9 :i* %e takes a local int]e/2 or ! ho/ & "o or two ( ! be/ %ots />t e>ly aft] breakfa/ to %oot ) a neighb\r1 & ! rema9d] ( ! gue/s drive ov] to a picturesque ru91 :]e !y picnic1 & return home 9 "t = ! eight-o'clock d9n]4 ,if ! own] ( a mansion has a coa* ! :ole p>ty is convey$ on x1 o!rwise ! motor-c>s are br\ght into requisition1 :ile saddle horses are provid$ = ^? :o c>e to ride4 ,a c\ntry-h\se p>ty occasionally resolves itself into two or m cliques1 z f> z ! ladies are conc]n$2 g5tlem51 z a rule1 are n mu* giv5 to ?is sort ( ?+4 ,on ! fir/ ev5+1 z soon z ! ladies h left ! d9+-room = ! draw+-room1 ^! little cliques are tacitly =m$1 & cont9ue unbrok5 until ! close ( ! visit4 ,!re are _m reasons :i* call ^! cliques into exi/5ce--old intimacies reviv$1 new acqua9tance%ips to be /r5g!n$1 unwelcome acqua9tance%ips to be avoid$1 & s on4 ,^! cliques are by no means agreeable to ! ho/ess1 inde$1 q ! contr>y--b %e is p[]less to prev5t _! be+ =m$1 & %e is h]self sometimes drawn into "o or o!r ( !m1 & sometimes altoge!r exclud$ f !m4 ,any "o :o is at all conv]sant ) c\ntry-h\se visit+ is aw>e h[ ?or\ghly ! influ5ce ( ! clique p]vades ! atmosph]e ( ! draw+-room2 & yet1 p]haps1 at c\ntry-h\se p>ties m fri5d%ips are =m$ & intimacies cem5t$ ?an at any o!r ga!r+s4 ,! ev5+ amusem5ts at c\ntry-h\se p>ties v>y v mu* accord+ to ! proclivities ( ! ho/ess or ^? ( h] daught]s4 ,at "s h\ses danc+ is ! ord] ( ?+s = a c\ple ( h\rs or s aft] d9n]1 b ?is mode ( sp5d+ ! ev5+ does n always comm5d itself to ! g5tlem51 :o1 aft] a long day's walk+ ?r\gh wet turnips & ov] heavy pl\gh$ l&1 or a h>d day's rid+ ov] /iff f5ces1 r incl9e t[>ds ! dolce f> ni5te ( a luxuri\s arm*air ?an to ! pleasures ( ! mazy valse1 & are proportionately grateful to a ho/ess :o does n call ^u !m to und]go any fur!r ex]cise ?an :at !y h already gone ?r\gh = _! own pleasure4 ,9 mo/ c\ntry-h\se p>ties bridge =ms ! *ief if n ! only amusem5t1 & is play$ n only aft] d9n] b 9 ! aft]noon also4 ,amateur !atricals & tableaux vivants1 impromptu *>ades1 ?\ght read+1 conjur+1 etc41 are fa%ionable amusem5ts & easy ( accompli%m5t3 ! fir/-nam$ ( ^! dem&s consid]able /udy & pl5ty ( "t = rehe>sal1 !re=e !atricals are g5]ally engag$ 9 :5 ! p>ty is compos$ ( relatives r ?an ( acqua9tances1 & :5 ! visit w\ld be p]haps prolong$ to t5 days or a =tnight4 ,"s ho/esses pref] keep+ late h\rs to e>ly h\rs1 & d n retire until aft] twelve2 ?is does n comm5d itself to ! g5tlem51 z !y are n suppos$ to adj\rn to ! smok+-room until ! ladies h left ! draw+-room1 & g5tlem5 l to sp5d a c\ple ( h\rs 9 ! smok+-room aft] d9n]4 ,9 hunt+ c\nties ! breakfa/ is usually an e>ly "o1 v>y+ f n9e o'clock to half-pa/ n9e1 accord+ to :e!r ! ride to cov]t is likely to be a long or a %ort "o2 b1 z a rule1 ! nom9al breakfa/ h\r is #i4cj o'clock4 ,a c]ta9 am\nt ( latitude is all[$ to gue/s z reg>ds com+ d[n to breakfa/2 !y d n assemble 9 ! morn+-room1 b all make _! way to ! breakfa/-room1 & seat !mselves at once at table1 :ile _m ladies breakfa/ 9 _! own rooms4 ,9 ,scotl&1 an invitation to %oot (t5 means a visit ( ?ree weeks4 ,! accommodation ( ! %oot+-box or lodge may be limit$ or primitive1 & x is v (t5 bo? ( ^!2 b x matt]s v little to ! sportsman :at sort ( b$ he sleeps on1 or h[ he is made to r\gh x1 provid+ ! gr\se are pl5tiful4 ,on "s ( ! moors !re are b cottages & f>mh\ses = ! occupation ( ! sportsm51 b on o!rs ! h\ses are excell5t1 & let ) ! moors1 z _m take a moor season aft] season & invite _! fri5ds to %oot betwe5 ! #ab? ( ,augu/ & ,octob]4 ,! gr& %oot+ p>ties t are annually giv5 9 ,scotl& by own]s ( l>ge e/ates & f9e %oot+s ext5ds ?r\gh\t ! :ole ( ! %oot+ season1 & gue/s come & g )\t int]mission2 z "o leaves ano!r arrives4 ,c]ta9 h\ses or ca/les are mu* gay] ?an o!rs2 to "s v few ladies are ask$1 ! majority ( ! gue/s be+ g5tlem5--probably ! ho/ess & two ladies & eight m5--9 o!rs1 ! numb]s are m equal2 9 o!rs1 aga91 ! p>ty sometimes consi/s entirely ( m5 ) a ho/ & no ho/ess4 ,ladies g5]ally ask _! mo/ intimate fri5ds to ,scotl& r ?an acqua9tances1 z !y are left to !mselves ! :ole ( ! day1 d9n] be+ (t5 po/pon$ until n9e o'clock1 on acc\nt ( ! late return ( ! sportsm54 ,s\? ( ! ,twe$1 ,septemb] invitations are usually giv5 = ?ree or f\r days1 f ,tuesday till ,saturday2 m>ri$ c\ples1 "y ladies1 & "y m51 are all ask$1 & ! ladies f9d amusem5t 9 lawn-t5nis1 or 9 att5d+ or assi/+ at "s neighb\r+ baza> or fancy fair1 z 9 ?is mon? c\nty baza>s are v popul>1 & ! visitors at "o h\se l5d _! s]vices 9 conjunction ) ! visitors at ano!r1 to hold /alls at a baza> got up by a ?ird influ5tial lady2 & ?us ! /alls are well /ock$1 & ! fa%ionable /all-hold]s give an impetus to ! :ole affair4 ,ladies see v little ( ! g5tlem5 betwe5 breakfa/ & d9n]4 ,! %oot]s />t ab\t elev51 & seldom return mu* be=e sev54 ,:5 x is d>k at f\r1 ^? :o pref] ladies' society & tea to ! smok+-room & billi>ds1 make !mselves pres5table & jo9 ! ladies4 ,z reg>ds ! ,etiquette ( ,visit+ at ,ba*elors' ,h\ses4--,x is ?or\ghly und]/ood t ladies %\ld be accompani$ by _! husb&s1 & "y ladies by _! fa!r & "m1 or by a m>ri$ c\ple ) :om !y are on t]ms ( great intimacy1 9 :i* case ! m>ri$ lady acts z *ap]on to ! "y ladies4 ,"y ladies _c /ay at ! h\se ( a ba*elor unless *ap]on$ by a m>ri$ lady1 or by a female relative ( _! ho/4 ,a wid[ & h] daught] c\ld ( c\rse jo9 a p>ty ( ladies /ay+ at a ba*elor's h\se1 or /ay on a visit to him 7 he alone1 or ent]ta9+ ba*elor fri5ds4 ,:5 a ba*elor gives a c\ntry-h\se p>ty1 & nom9ally does ! hon\rs himself1 occasionally "o ( ! m>ri$ ladies ( ! p>ty tacitly takes ! lead4 ,! position ( a "y wid[] is simil> to t ( a ba*elor z reg>ds society4 ,lat] 9 life1 ! contr>y is ! case2 a wid[] ) gr[n-up daught]s gives ent]ta9m5ts = !m1 & ! elde/ daught] does ! hon\rs1 ?us r$uc+ ! position aga9 to t ( ho/ & ho/ess4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxvi ,,hunt+ ,,& ,,%oot+ ,ladies 9 ! ,hunt+-,field4--,!re is no ar5a bett] fitt$ to display good rid+ on ! "p ( wom5 ?an ! hunt+-field1 & no bett] opportunity = ! practice ( ?is delightful accompli%m5t & = its ?or\gh enjoym5t4 ,x is urg$1 h[ev]1 t x argues cruelty ( disposition & unwomanly feel+ to jo9 9 ! pursuit ( a poor1 mis]able1 hunt$ fox1 & worse /ill to be 9 at ! dea?1 & t wom5 are liable to be c>ri$ away by ! en?usiasm ( ! h\r to applaud & to witness :at !y w\ld o!rwise %r9k f4 ,?is argum5t has a c]ta9 weight1 & det]s _m f actually hunt+ :o w\ld o!rwise jo9 9 ! sport1 & !y make a compromise by regul>ly att5d+ ! meets1 & ev5 witness+ a ?r[-(f ( a fox-break cov]t4 ,e /rong po9t t a rid] possesses is br\ght out 9 ! field4 ,! cant] 9 ! ,r[1 ! trot ?r\gh ! c\ntry-lanes1 or ! long c\ntry ride are v feeble sub/itutes = ! int5se enjoym5t exp]i5c$ :5 tak+ "p 9 a good run2 ! excitem5t felt & %>$ 9 by ! :ole field exhil>ates & /imulates1 & r5d]s fatigue a ?+ out ( ! "q1 n to be ?\ght ( until ! homew>d ride is well ov]4 ,consid]+ ! numb] ( ladies :o hunt1 ! accid5ts t occur are surpris+ly few1 = ! obvi\s reason t ladies d n attempt to hunt unless _! skill z good horsewom5 is beyond all "q4 ,_! husb&s1 _! fa!rs1 _! bro!rs w\ld n all[ !m to jeop>dise _! lives1 unless _! rid+ & exp]i5ce1 _! c\rage1 _! n]ve1 & _! in/ruction ju/ifi$ ! attempt4 ,!re are also two o!r weighty consid]ations necess>y to success--a good m\nt1 & a good lead4 ,! fa!r or husb& inv>iably selects ! "o1 & ! fri5d--ei!r ( ! fair rid] or ( ! husb& or bro!r--gives ! all-important lead1 )\t :i* few ladies v5ture ^u hunt+1 save ^? few :o are indep5d5t en\gh to cut out _! own "w4 ,ladies1 :o are naturally fond ( rid+1 _c always indulge 9 ! pleasure ( hunt+1 on ! gr\nd ( exp5se1 = in/ance4 ,a lady may possess a fairly good horse = ord9>y purposes1 to ride 9 ! ,r[1 or = c\ntry ex]cise1 b v few g5tlem5 ( mod]ate means c af=d to keep hunt]s = ! ladies ( _! families z well z = !mselves1 al?\gh1 9 fiction1 ?is is freely done4 ,if a lady has "o good hunt] ( h] own1 %e may expect two days' hunt+ a week1 provid+ ! c\ntry is n too /iff1 & ! meets are fairly conv5i5t4 ,occasionally1 a m\nt may be obta9$ f a good-natur$ fri5d1 ^: /ud is l>g] ?an 8 requirem5ts2 b ?is is n to be dep5d$ ^u 9 e-day life1 & popul> ladies & fir/-rate rid]s are m 9 ! way ( receiv+ ^! att5tions ?an ! g5]al run ( ladies4 ,z reg>ds ! pres5ce ( "y ladies 9 ! hunt+-field1 !re are two op9ions respect+ its advisability1 ap>t f ! "q ( :e!r x is or is n a fem99e pursuit4 ,! long ride home 9 ! ,novemb] & ,decemb] twilight1 9 ! company ( "s memb] ( ! hunt1 :o has become ! "y lady's cavali] = ! "t be+1 is n to ! ta/e ( _m p>5ts2 *ap]onage mu/ ( necessity be greatly disp5s$ ) 9 ! hunt+-field1 & ?is is an objection :i* _m fa!rs advance aga9/ _! daught]s hunt+4 ,"s husb&s ent]ta9 equally /rict views on ?is head1 & are ( op9ion t ! bolde/ rid] & ! be/ lead to foll[ 9 ! field is n always ! gue/ !y w\ld mo/ desire to see at _! own firesides4 ,hunt-,breakfa/s4--,a lady %\ld n g to a hunt-breakfa/ at ! h\se ( a c\ntry g5tleman if unacqua9t$ ) him1 or "s memb] ( 8 family1 unless ask$ to d s by a mutual acqua9tance4 ,all g5tlem5 rid+ to h\nds1 :e!r /rang]s to ! ho/ or n1 h ! privilege ( ent]+ any h\se :]e a hunt-breakfa/ is giv5 & accept+ ! hospitality (f]$4 ,! breakfa/1 :i* is 9 reality a cold collation1 ) ! addition ( w9e1 liqueurs1 ale1 etc41 is usually laid out 9 ! d9+-room1 & no c]emony :atev] is obs]v$2 ! g5tlem5 come & g z !y please4 ,! mi/ress ( ! h\se %\ld ei!r be pres5t at a hunt-breakfa/ & receive ! ladies :o arrive 9 ! hall or d9+-room1 or %e %\ld receive !m 9 ! draw+-room1 :]e refre%m5ts %\ld be br\ght to !m4 ,:5 a ho/ess int5ds rid+ to h\nds1 %e is (t5 m\nt$ be=e h] neighb\rs arrive1 9 :i* case %e invites !m to ent] ! h\se = refre%m5ts1 if !y c>e to d s4 ,g5tlem5 :o g d[n into a ,c\nty = a few days' hunt+ only seldom we> p9k1 & pref] rid+ to h\nds 9 black coats4 ,! memb]s ( ! hunt we> p9k z a matt] ( c\rse1 b x is consid]$ bett] ta/e = a /rang] to we> a black coat ?an to appe> 9 a new1 v new1 unspeck$ r$ "o4 ,sport+ ,t]ms4--,p]sons unv]s$ 9 matt]s app]ta9+ to c\ntry life & c\ntry sports1 t[n br$1 & :o h _h little or no opportunity ( acquir+ a k ( ! subject f p]sonal exp]i5ce1 c h>dly fail to commit _m & v>i\s mi/akes :5 br\ght into contact ) sportsm5 & _! sports4 ,a k ( sport+ matt]s & sport+ t]ms1 & ! etiquette obs]v$ by sportsm51 is only arriv$ at by associat+ ) ^? ?or\ghly conv]sant ) ! subject1 & ) :om sport has =m$ "p ( _! education s to speak4 ,! ,%oot+ ,season comm5ces on ! #ab? ( ,augu/ ) gr\se %oot+ 9 ! nor? ( ,engl&1 ,scotl&1 & ,irel&4 ,p>tridge %oot+ comm5ces on ! #a/ ( ,septemb] & t]m9ates on ! #a/ ( ,febru>y4 ,! f9e/ p>tridge %oot+ is all[$ by g5]al cons5t to be f\nd 9 ! ea/]n c\nties4 ,p>tridge driv+ does n take place until ,janu>y to any great ext5t4 ,pheasant ,%oot+ comm5ces ! #a/ ( ,octob] & t]m9ates ! #a/ ( ,febru>y4 ,h>es may be %ot up to ! #a/ ( ,m>*4 ,rabbits may be %ot all ! ye> r\nd4 ,rooks are %ot dur+ ! spr+ & summ]4 99 99 99 99 99 ,x is difficult to make a w\ld-be sportsman compreh5d ! /rict etiquette ma9ta9$ betwe5 ! own]s ( manors2 t is to say1 he w\ld ?9k no?+ ( cross+ ! b\nd>y ( 8 ho/'s manor1 gun 9 h&1 if he felt incl9$ to foll[ a bird or h>e he _h w\nd$1 oblivi\s ( ! fact t1 9 ! fir/ place1 ! greate/ punctili\sness is obs]v$ betwe5 g5tlem5 9 ! matt] ( trespass+ on ea* o!r's l& :5 out %oot+2 &1 t unless ! greate/ intimacy exi/$1 a sportsman w\ld h>dly v5ture to pick up 8 dead bird if x _h fall5 on a neighb\r's manor1 & w\ld on no acc\nt look = a w\nd$ bird1 b = a dead "o only4 ,9 ! second place he w\ld c>efully obs]ve ! rule ( leav+ 8 gun on 8 own side ( ! b\nd>y1 & w\ld c]ta9ly n c>ry x ) him to 8 neighb\r's l&4 ,^! are po9ts t /rang]s invit$ = a few days' %oot+ v (t5 fall f\l (1 creat+ !reby mu* unpleasantness = _! ho/ ?r\gh _! ignorance & inexp]i5ce4 ,:5 a g5tleman is invit$ to jo9 a %oot+-p>ty1 x w\ld n be necess>y = him to take a load] ) him1 z 8 ho/ w\ld f9d a man to p]=m t (fice = him1 unless he _h a s]vant ) him capable ( p]=m+ t duty2 b if he 7 resid+ 9 ! neighb\rhood he w\ld1 z a matt] ( c\rse1 take 8 load] ) him :5 ask$ to jo9 a %oot+-p>ty1 & 9 bo? cases he w\ld %oot ) two guns1 z to %oot ) "o gun only causes a vexati\s delay4 ,a frequ5t cause ( (f5ce to sportsm5 is = a g5tleman to be noisy :5 out %oot+1 t is to say1 to be l\dly talkative1 or boi/]\sly m]ry1 or giv5 to indulge 9 exclamations :5 a bird rises1 or :5 a bird is miss$2 y\r true sportsman ma9ta9s a /rict sil5ce4 ,!re are numb]less o!r po9ts relat+ to field sports :]e9 ! inexp]i5c$ sportsman is apt to give (f5ce1 b :i* w\ld take up too mu* space to ent] into 9 a "w ( ?is description4 ,! ,fees1 or ,tips to ! ,gamekeep]s1 v>y f #ajs4 to ,l#e1 accord+ to ! numb] ( days' %oot+ enjoy$ or ! ext5t ( ! bag4 ,= "o day's p>tridge-%oot+ ! tip to ! head gamekeep] w\ld be a sov]eign2 = a good day's pheasant-%oot+1 z mu* z two sov]eigns w\ld probably be giv54 ,a g5tleman :o does n tip or fee up to ?is m>k is n likely to f9d himself too well plac$ 9 a battue4 ,! co/ ( a game lic5ce is ,l#c1 & la/s twelve mon?s1 f #a/ ,augu/ to ! #ca/ ( ,july ! foll[+ ye>1 or ,l#b f ! #a/ ( ,augu/ to ! #ca/ ( ,octob]1 or ,l#b f ! #a/ ( ,novemb] to ! #ca/ ( ,july 9 ! foll[+ ye>1 or ,l#a = f\rte5 days4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxvii ,,%ak+ ,,h&s ,! etiquette ) reg>d to %ak+ h&s is n an op5 "q1 x is di/9ct en\gh & simple en\gh = all exig5cies1 b yet !re is individual temp]am5t to be tak5 into acc\nt :i* 9 _m drives etiquette out ( ! field1 if by etiquette is und]/ood n m]ely /iff propriety ( action1 b polit5ess 9 ! true/ s5se ( ! ^w1 & do+ t :i* is exactly ! "r ?+ to d4 ,etiquette rules :5 to %ake h&s & :5 n to d s1 :5 to b[ & :5 n to b[2 b 9 spite ( ?is k1 :i* is )9 e "o's rea*1 !re are _m mi/akes made on ?is head4 ,= in/ance1 "o does n (f] to %ake h&s :5 expect$ to d s2 ano!r (f]s to %ake h&s ?ree times2 "o displays unw>rantable w>m? 9 %ak+ h&s2 ano!r ext5ds two f+]s only2 "o %akes h&s 9 a limp & uncom=table mann]1 & takes ! ext5d$ h& m]ely to drop x2 ano!r lit]ally pumps ! ext5d$ h&1 or cru%es ! r+s into a lady's f+]s :5 %ak+ h&s ) h]4 ,a lady :o does n %ake h&s :5 expect$ to d s is actuat$ by "o or o!r ( ! foll[+ reasons--%e did n wi% to %ake h&s ) a c]ta9 acqua9tance1 & pref]r$ to b[ only1 or %e 0 n aw>e :e!r %e %\ld h %ak5 h&s or n4 ,! g5tlem5 :o %ake h&s ) great w>m? & empressem5t are two di/9ct individuals2 ! "o is cordial & l>ge-he>t$1 & has a fri5dly grasp = e "o--a grasp indicative ( k9dl9ess1 g5iality1 & good fell[%ip--! o!r wi%es to +ratiate himself 9 c]ta9 qu>t]s1 & loses no opportunity ( demon/ratively %ak+ h&s1 b no "o is deceiv$ by ?is spuri\s imitation ( ! real ?+4 ,:5 a lady gives b two f+]s to p :om %e does n c>e ab\t1 %e is always a p]son :o fancies h]self1 & :o feels v f9e2 %e d\btless is1 b h] good bre$+ & h] good feel+ are bo? 9 "q :5 %e takes ?is me?od ( %[+ ! sup]iority ( h]self & h] position ov] t ( o!r p4 ,!re are o!r ecc5tricities indulg$ 9 by diff]5t p :o %ake h&s :5 !y %\ld n1 & p :o d n %ake h&s :5 !y %\ld4 ,x dep5ds ^u :om a lady is introduc$ to1 or ^u :o is introduc$ to h]1 :e!r %e %\ld or %\ld n %ake h&s4 ,%e %\ld n %ake h&s on be+ casually introduc$ to a p]son altoge!r a /rang] to h]2 b yet !re are s _m occasions :5 x is bo? prop] & correct to %ake h&s on be+ introduc$1 t ! rule on ?is head is a v ela/ic "o4 ,= in/ance1 a ho/ & ho/ess %\ld %ake h&s ) e /rang] introduc$ to !m at _! h\se4 ,a lady %\ld %ake h&s on be+ introduc$ to ! relations ( h] int5d$ husb&4 ,a lady %\ld %ake h&s on be+ introduc$ to ! fri5d ( an intimate fri5d4 ,:5 a lady has ent]$ into conv]sation to any ext5t ) "s "o to :om %e has be5 introduc$1 & f9ds %e has mu* 9 common ) h]1 %e %\ld %ake h&s on tak+ leave2 b if %e has only ex*ang$ a few commonplace s5t5ces1 a b[ w\ld be all t is necess>y4 ,a lady usually takes ! initiative ) reg>d to %ak+ h&s z ) b[+2 b 9 reality x is a spontane\s movem5t1 made by bo? lady & g5tleman at ! same mom5t1 z ! h& ought n to be ext5d$ or ! b[ giv5 unless expect$ & in/antane\sly reciprocat$4 ,a "y lady %\ld n (f] to %ake h&s ) "o n expectant ( ! hon\r4 ,%ak+ h&s on tak+ leave is1 ) "s few p1 a graceful & pleasant fa%ion ( say+ good-bye2 intimate fri5ds hold ! h& :ile ! la/ words are be+ said4 ,wom5 hold ea* o!r's h&s ?us on p>t+1 & "s few m5 take ea* o!r's h&s2 b ) !m x is r a =eign fa%ion1 & is pr9cipally foll[$ by ^? :o h liv$ mu* on ! ,cont95t2 =1 z a rule1 an ,engli%man pref]s ! he>ty ,engli% %ake ( ! h&4 ,a lady hav+ once %ak5 h&s ) ano!r1 %\ld cont9ue to d s at subsequ5t meet+s1 unless a coolness ( mann] w>ns h] t a b[ w\ld be m acceptable4 ,) reg>d to %ak+ h&s at a d9n]-p>ty ) acqua9tances3 if ! d9n]-p>ty is a small "o1 & !re is "t to %ake h&s1 x is correct to d s2 b :5 !re is little "t be=e d9n]1 & no good opportunity = %ak+ h&s1 b[s to acqua9tances at di/ant p>ts ( ! room1 or :5 seat$ at ! d9n]-table1 are suffici5t recognition = ! "t be+4 ,at an ev5+-p>ty x dep5ds ^u opportunity :e!r acqua9tances %ake h&s or n4 ,! fa%ion ( rais+ ! arm :5 %ak+ h&s is foll[$ by v few 9 ! exagg]at$ /yle 9 :i* x 0 fir/ introduc$1 b a modification ( x has di/9ctly become ! fa%ion 9 g5]al society4 ,! h&1 in/ead ( be+ ext5d$ /raight out1 is n[ (f]$ on a l9e or p>allel ) ! *e/1 a trifle high] ?an ! old-fa%ion$ /yle1 & ! f+]s ( ! h& are held & g5tly %ak51 b ! palm is n grasp$ or ev5 t\*$4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxviii ,,*ap]ons ,,& ,,debutantes ,an unm>ri$ lady1 unless %e be a maid5-lady ( a recognis$ age & /&+1 _c act z an or?odox *ap]on2 b1 on ! o!r h&1 a "y m>ri$ lady c\ld d s ) ! greate/ propriety1 z c\ld a bro!r f ! age ( eighte52 ( o!r relatives x is n necess>y to speak4 ,"y ladies are n[ frequ5tly ask$ to d9n]-p>ties )\t a *ap]on1 a ho/ess con/itut+ h]self *ap]on = ! occasion4 ,dances are also giv5 to :i* x is und]/ood *ap]ons are n invit$1 ! ho/ess aga9 act+ 9 t capacity1 b at l>ge balls & dances *ap]onage is consid]$ indisp5sable = "y ladies4 ,at !atres & ev5+ conc]ts *ap]onage is di/9ctly requir$2 b at morn+ conc]ts & mat9ees1 companion%ip r ?an *ap]onage is ne$$4 ,z reg>ds morn+ h\rs4 ,"y ladies may n[ walk toge!r 9 ! ,p>k & else:]e2 ride toge!r1 att5d classes toge!r or alone1 g to lun*eon or aft]noon tea alone or toge!r at ! h\ses ( fri5ds & acqua9tances1 q unaccompani$ by a *ap]on4 ,!y may also visit at c\ntry h\ses )\t a *ap]on1 ! ho/ess p]=m+ ?is duty4 ,at all out-door ga!r+s1 su* z g>d5-p>ties1 t5nis-p>ties1 cricket-mat*es1 golf-meet+s1 etc41 ! *ap]onage requir$ is ( ! slighte/1 & = :i* any might be made available4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxix ,,pres5tations ,,at ,,! ,,vic]egal ,,c\rt1 ,,dubl9 ,,ca/le ,! ,draw+-rooms at ,dubl9 ,ca/le are held by ! ,"l-,lieut5ant ( ,irel& & 8 wife1 9 ,/4 ,patrick's ,hall1 at #aj4ae o'clock p4m4 ,a ,lady :o desires a pres5tation at ! ,vic]egal ,c\rt mu/ be pres5t$ by a lady :o has h]self be5 pres5t$ !reat1 & x is necess>y t %e h]self %\ld be pres5t on ! occasion1 save "u exceptional circum/ances4 ,a lady is n all[$ to pres5t m ?an two ladies1 except 9 special cases to be sanction$ by ,8 ,excell5cy4 ,a ,lady :o proposes be+ pres5t$ at a ,vic]egal ,draw+-room mu/ s5d to ! ,*amb]la9's (fice by five o'clock1 ?ree days previ\s to ! ,draw+-room1 a c>d ) h] "n & address bo? 9 t[n & c\ntry1 & ! "n & address ( ! lady by :om %e is to be pres5t$ di/9ctly writt5 !reon1 & /at+ :i* ,draw+-room %e wi%es to att5d1 to be submitt$ to ! ,"l-,lieut5ant & 8 wife = _! ,excell5cies' approval4 ,also two ,pres5tation ,c>ds mu/ be obta9$ at ! ,*amb]la9's (fice two days be=e ! ,draw+-room--if !y h n previ\sly be5 s5t by po/--& mu/ be fill$ 9 ) ! necess>y p>ticul>s1 & tak5 to ! ,ca/le on ! ev5+ ( ! ,draw+-room1 "o to be deliv]$ to ! (ficial /ation$ 9 ! ,corridor1 & ! o!r to be h&$ to ! ,*amb]la91 :o w ann\nce ! "n4 ,x is reque/$ t ! names may be v di/9ctly writt5 ^u ! c>ds1 t !re may be no difficulty 9 ann\nc+ !m4 ,a ,lady att5d+ a ,vic]egal ,draw+-room1 :o has be5 already pres5t$ at ! ,vic]egal ,c\rt1 mu/ leave at ! ,*amb]la9's (fice1 ?ree days previ\s to ! ,draw+-room1 a c>d ) h] "n & address1 bo? 9 t[n & c\ntry1 di/9ctly writt5 !reon1 & /at+ :i* ,draw+-room %e wi%es to att5d4 ,%e mu/ br+ ) h] two simil> c>ds on ! ev5+ ( ! ,draw+-room1 "o to be giv5 to ! (ficial 9 ! ,corridor1 & ! o!r to ! ,*amb]la91 :o w ann\nce ! "n4 ,a lady on ent]+ ! ,ca/le on ! ev5+ ( a ,draw+-room t[>ds t5 o'clock1 f9ds ! hall l9$ ) soldi]s1 & repairs at once to ! cloak-room to leave wraps1 etc41 & to h h] tra9 dext]\sly arrang$ ov] "o arm by a female att5dant4 ,%e !n proce$s up ! gr& /aircase1 l9$ ) s]vants 9 gorge\s liv]ies1 & ent]s ! ,corridor1 :]e "o ( ! ,pres5tation ,c>ds is giv5 up to ! (ficial 9 att5dance1 & %e passes d[n ! ,corridor into ! ,long ,draw+-room1 :]e a b>ri] ( wood1 enclos+ a space1 is erect$ at ! end4 ,"o ( ! g5tlem5 ( ! ,h\sehold lifts ?is b>ri] at int]vals to all[ ( a c]ta9 numb] pass+ ?r\gh to ! ,?rone-room1 at ! door ( :i* h] tra9 is let d[n & arrang$ by m5-s]vants4 ,if %e is to be pres5t$1 ! ,*amb]la9 tells h] to take (f h] "r-h& glove1 &1 if royalty is pres5t1 in=ms h] t %e mu/ make ?ree b[s1 & says1 ,?ree b[s1 please4 ,%e gives up h] second ,pres5tation ,c>d to him1 & he calls out h] "n1 & x is pass$ along to ,8 ,excell5cy by ! g5tlem5 ( ! h\sehold4 ,! ,"l-,lieut5ant & 8 wife /& on a dais1 he /&+ 9 front ( ! ,?rone1 :i* is a gr& *air ( ,/ate1 & on ei!r side--9 :at are kn[n z ! ,p5s--are gr\p$ ! visitors /ay+ at ! ,ca/le1 ^? :o h ! private entree1 & ! memb]s ( ! ,h\sehold4 ,! "n ( ! lady :o makes ! pres5tation is also call$ out4 ,! lady pres5t$ advances1 ! ,"l-,lieut5ant %akes h&s ) h]1 b does n n[ kiss h] on ! *eek2 %e !n makes him a b[1 & b[s to 8 wife1 :o b[s 9 return4 ,%e !n retires back to ! door lead+ into ! ,long ,draw+-room1 :]e h] tra9 is replac$ ov] h] arm4 ,%e !n proce$s to ,/4 ,patrick's ,hall1 or to ! ,picture ,gall]y4 ,ladies :o att5d ! ,draw+-room only b[ to ! ,"l-,lieut5ant & 8 wife2 he b[s to !m1 b he does n %ake h&s ) !m or kiss !m4 ,9 ,irel& m5 inv>iably accompany _! wives to ! ,draw+-room1 hav+ previ\sly att5d$ ! ,levee2 !y pass along ! base ( ! semi-circle1 & make _! b[s at ! same "t z d ! ladies4 ,:5 all h be5 receiv$ & h assembl$ 9 ,/4 ,patrick's ,hall1 a procession is =m$1 ! ,"l-,lieut5ant walk+ fir/1 foll[$ by 8 wife1 ^: tra9 is c>ri$ by pages4 ,! visitors /ay+ at ! ,ca/le foll[ next1 & !n ! memb]s ( ! ,h\sehold1 ! b& /ation$ 9 ! gall]y play+ ,god ,save ! ,k+ ! :ile4 ,all ^? pres5t =m up 9 two l9es to make a passage = ! procession to pass ?r\gh1 & b[ l[ to ,8 ,excell5cy & 8 wife z !y pass4 ,a supp] is n giv51 only light refre%m5ts ( e description4 ,^! refre%m5ts are arrang$ on long tables on "o side ( ,/4 ,patrick's ,hall1 & at ! l[] end1 "u ! gall]y1 tables are plac$ = tea1 c(fee1 w9e1 etc4 ,on ! opposite side ( ! hall r$-cu%ion$ seats are plac$1 & ! company prom5ade 9 & ar\nd ! ,picture ,gall]y & ,/4 ,patrick's ,hall dur+ ! rema9d] ( ! ev5+4 ,ladies we> full ,c\rt dress z at ,buck+ham ,palace1 & g5tlem5 uni=m or ,c\rt dress4 ,levees4--,e nobleman or g5tleman :o proposes to att5d a ,levee1 & :o has n yet be5 receiv$ at ! ,vic]egal ,c\rt1 mu/ be introduc$ by a nobleman or g5tleman :o has himself be5 previ\sly pres5t$ !reat4 ,a ,g5tleman :o proposes to be pres5t$ mu/ s5d to ! ,g5tleman ,u%]'s (fice by five o'clock1 two or ?ree days be=e ! ,levee1 a c>d ) 8 "n & address1 bo? 9 t[n & c\ntry1 & ! "n & address ( ! g5tleman by :om he is to be pres5t$ di/9ctly writt5 !reon1 to be submitt$ = ! ,"l-,lieut5ant's approval4 ,he mu/ also obta9 two ,pres5tation ,c>ds f ! ,g5tleman ,u%]'s (fice1 & mu/ take !m to ! ,ca/le on ! day ( ! ,levee1 ! "o to be giv5 to ! (ficial 9 ! ,corridor1 & ! o!r to be h&$ to ! ,g5tleman ,u%]1 :o w ann\nce ! "n to ! ,"l-,lieut5ant4 ,any g5tleman :o proposes to att5d a ,levee1 hav+ be5 previ\sly pres5t$1 mu/ also take two c>ds ) him to ! ,ca/le on ! day ( ! ,levee1 ) 8 "n & address1 bo? 9 t[n & c\ntry1 cle>ly writt5 !reon1 to be giv5 up z be=e m5tion$4 ,aga91 a g5tleman :o1 hav+ previ\sly att5d$ ! ,levee1 proposes att5d+ ! ,draw+-room1 is reque/$ to br+ ) him "o c>d1 ) 8 "n di/9ctly writt5 ^u x1 to be left 9 ! ,corridor4 ,all ^? entitl$ to ! private entree at ,dubl9 ,ca/le1 & avail+ !mselves ( ! privilege1 are p]mitt$ to be accompani$ only by _! wives & unm>ri$ daught]s4 ,g5tlem5 we> ,c\rt dress or naval & milit>y uni=ms1 or ! uni=ms ( ,lords-,lieut5ants ( ,c\nties1 or ( ! ,royal ,iri% ,con/abul>y1 etc4 ,! ,academical habit _c be worn except :5 pres5t+ an address f a univ]sity4 ,=eign ord]s & decorations _c be worn at ! ,c\rt ( ,dubl9 by ,briti% subjects )\t special au?ority "u ,8 ,maje/y's royal lic5ce4 ,! "r-h& glove %\ld be remov$ be=e ,pres5tation4 ,g5tlem5 :o1 hav+ previ\sly att5d$ ! ,levee1 are desir\s ( accompany+ ! ladies ( _! families to ! ,draw+-room1 are reque/$ to apply to ! ,*amb]la9's (fice = an ,att5dance ,c>d1 :i* %\ld be br\ght to ! ,ca/le on ! ev5+ ( ! ,draw+-room & giv5 up 9 ! ,corridor4 ,pres5tations 9 ,london d n c\nt z ,pres5tations at ! ,vic]egal ,c\rt4 ,,*apt] ,,xl ,,ho/esses ,! ,art ( receiv+ ,gue/s is a v subtle "o1 difficult to acquire2 b :5 acquir$ & ?or\ghly ma/]$ x conf]s ^u a mi/ress ( a h\se an enviable reputation--t ( be+ a p]fect ho/ess4 ,) "s ?is is 9-br$1 & grace & composure & all ! att5dant attributes :i* are to be f\nd 9 ?is type ( ho/ess sit naturally ^u !m2 b ! individuals s gift$ repres5t ! few r ?an ! _m4 ,a f> great] section ( society has to rely ^u exp]i5ce to tea* !m ?is useful accompli%m5t1 :ile ) o!rs "t alone c aid !m 9 ov]com+ natural res]ve1 & want ( confid5ce 9 !mselves1 :i* /& 9 ! way ( _! assum+ ?is "* ) any?+ l success4 ,^? ladies :o are innately ?\ghtless & c>eless 9 ?is respect1 nei!r "t nor exp]i5ce c m\ld1 & :at !y are at ! comm5cem5t ( _! c>e]1 !y rema9 to ! end ( ! *apt]--v indiff]5t ho/esses4 ,!re are v>ieties ( ho/esses1 accord+ to individual capabilities1 & :o are kn[n among/ _! fri5ds by ^! appellations3 fir/ ranks ! p]fect or *>m+ ho/ess1 ei!r title suits h] equally well2 next to h] comes ! good ho/ess1 %e is foll[$ by ! "o :o is n a good ho/ess2 & ! re> is br\ght up by ! "o :o is decid$ly a bad ho/ess4 ,among/ ! sali5t po9ts :i* di/+ui% ! p]fect or *>m+ ho/ess are p]haps1 =emo/1 a c]ta9 facility ( putt+ ea* individual gue/ at ease1 convey+ t ! welcome %e accords is a p]sonal if n an especial "o4 ,simultane\sly ) ^! agreeable impressions is convey$ a s5se ( ! ho/ess's g5ial qualities2 h] *>m ( mann]1 h] graci\sness & h] c\rte\s be>+ ev9c+ s pla9ly t %e is entirely mi/ress ( ! situation3 ^! qualities ins5sibly react ^u ! gue/s1 & evoke a correspond+ desire to please on _! "p4 ,! p]fect ho/ess possesses yet ano!r advantage1 viz4 a read9ess ( spee*1 a faculty ( say+ ! "r ?+ at ! "r mom5t & to ! "r p]son1 & ( id5tify+ h]self1 s to speak1 ) ! susceptibilities ( ea* ( h] gue/s4 ,! good ho/ess is ess5tially :at is kn[n z a consid]ate ho/ess2 %e makes up = ! bright] qualities 9 :i* %e is lack+ by h] extreme consid]ation = h] gue/s4 ,9 ! *>m+ ho/ess ?is consid]ation is eclips$ by h] m brilliant p[]s ( pleas+1 x p]meates all %e does1 :ile 9 ! good ho/ess x is h] /ronge/ po9t1 & ^u :i* is f\nd$ h] claim to ! "n4 ,! lady :o be>s ! undesirable reputation ( be+ n a good ho/ess is n good 9 a v>iety ( ways2 %e means well & does h] utmo/ to succe$1 b by "s contr>iety ( ! laws :i* regulate dome/ic & social affairs1 ! results ( h] ef=ts are always ! rev]se ( :at %e w\ld h !m be4 ,! lady :o is n a good ho/ess sometimes suff]s f %yness & res]ve :i* r5d]s h] /iff 9 mann] :5 %e w\ld mo/ desire to be cordial1 sil5t :5 %e w\ld be mo/ loquaci\s1 & awkw>d :5 %e w\ld be at ease4 ,z !re are _m reasons :y ladies prove to be good ho/esses1 s !re are _m reasons :y !y prove bad ho/esses1 selfi%ness & want ( consid]ation = o!rs contribute to ^!1 z d procra/9ation & a vague idea ( ! value ( "t4 ,ladies ) su* faults & weaknesses z ^! produce v mu* ! same impression ^u _! gue/s1 al?\gh1 p]haps1 "o is a little less culpable ?an is ! o!r4 ,! selfi% ho/ess is a bad ho/ess1 because1 provid+ %e is amus$1 %e is utt]ly indiff]5t z to :e!r h] gue/s are amus$ or n1 h] own pleasure & gratification be+ ( p>am\nt importance4 ,in/ead ( be+ 9 read9ess to receive h] gue/s %e desc5ds late to ! draw+-room to welcome !m1 & is indiff]5t z to :e!r !re is any "o to greet !m or n4 ,! procra/9at+ ho/ess1 al?\gh %e is equally 9 fault1 yet1 z %e ha/5s to excuse h]self1 :5 lack+ 9 polit5ess to1 or consid]ation = h] gue/s1 h] excuses are sometimes admitt$2 b ! selfi% ho/ess1 if %e deigns to excuse h]self1 does s ) su* a palpable %[ ( indiff]5ce z to h] gue/s' op9ion ( h] actions1 t ! excuse is (t5] ?an n an aggravation ( ! (f5ce4 ,a lady :o has no reg>d = "t goes to h] room to dress at ! mom5t :5 %e %\ld be desc5d+ to ! draw+-room2 or %e rema9s out driv+ :5 %e %\ld be return+2 or %e puts (f mak+ "s v important arrangem5t = ! com=t or amusem5t ( h] gue/s until x is too late = any?+ b a make%ift to be ?\ght (1 if x has n to be disp5s$ ) altoge!r4 ,ev]y?+ t %e does or projects is on ! same scale ( procra/9ation2 h] invitations1 h] ord]s & engagem5ts1 are "o & all effect$ aga9/ "t1 & nei!r h]self nor h] gue/s ga9 ! value or satisfaction ( ! hospitality put =?4 ,! bad ho/ess walks into h] draw+-room :5 _m ( h] gue/s are assembl$1 ei!r = a d9n]-p>ty or aft]noon tea1 & %akes h&s 9 an awkw>d1 aba%$ mann]1 almo/ z if %e 7 an unexpect$ gue/ in/ead ( ! mi/ress ( ! h\se4 ,! ho/ is n at 8 ease2 he is provok$ at hav+ to make excuses = 8 wife1 & ! gue/s are equally con/ra9$4 ,if ! ho/ is ( a s>ca/ic turn ( m9d1 he nev] refra9s f say+ some?+ ! rev]se ( amiable to ! ho/ess on h] entrance4 ,my de>1 he w p]haps rem>k1 y are d\btless n aw>e t we h fri5ds d9+ ) u ?is ev5+4 ,?is rem>k r5d]s ! gue/s ev5 m uncom=table & ! ho/ess less self-possess$1 & ?is is (t5 ! prelude to an inh>moni\s ev5+1 ) a ho/ ^: br[ is cl\d$ & a ho/ess ^: mann] is aba%$4 ,! mode ( receiv+ gue/s is det]m9$ by ! nature ( ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,a welcome accord$ to "s two or ?ree hundr$ gue/s _c be z p]sonal a "o z t (f]$ to "s t5 to ?irty gue/s4 ,:atev] disappo9tm5t a ho/ess may feel %e %\ld n all[ x to appe> on ! surface1 & %\ld n be di/rait 9 mann] :5 %ak+ h&s ) h] gue/s4 ,at l>ge or small ga!r+s disappo9tm5ts foll[ 9 ! c\rse ( ev5ts1 & v few ho/esses c say t !y h n exp]i5c$ ?is 9 a l>g] or small] degree at ea* & all ( _! ent]ta9m5ts4 ,at a ball or ev5+-p>ty a ho/ess %\ld receive h] gue/s at ! head ( ! /aircase1 & %\ld rema9 !re until ! majority1 if n all1 ( ! gue/s h arriv$4 ,z ! names ( ! gue/s are ann\nc$ ! ho/ess %\ld %ake h&s ) ea*1 address+ "s c\rte\s obs]vation ! :ile1 n ) a view ( induc+ !m to l+] on ! /aircase1 b r ( invit+ !m to ent] ! ball-room to make way = o!r gue/s4 ,at a ball giv5 at a c\ntry h\se ! ho/ess %\ld /& at ! door ( ! ball-room & receive h] gue/s4 ,:5 ! gue/s h duly arriv$1 a ho/ess at a c\ntry-h\se ball or c\ntry-h\se !atricals %\ld ex]t h]self to see t all h] gue/s are amus$4 ,if %e sees t ! "y ladies are n danc+ %e %\ld endeav\r to f9d !m p>tn]s4 ,9 t[n %e is n requir$ to d ?is4 ,if ! *ap]ons h app>5tly no "o to talk to %e %\ld introduce "o ( h] own relatives1 if %e _c give mu* ( h] own att5tion to !m1 & %e %\ld arrange t all h] gue/s are tak5 9 to supp]4 ,at l>ge aft]noon at homes ! ho/ess receives h] gue/s at ! op5 door ( ! draw+-room1 & has little m "t to be/[ ^u ea* ?an at a ball or an at home4 ,at small aft]noon at homes %e %\ld receive !m 9 ! draw+-room1 & %\ld rise & %ake h&s ) ea* arrival4 ,a ho/ess %\ld receive h] d9n] gue/s 9 ! draw+-room1 & %\ld %ake h&s ) ea* 9 ! ord] ( arrival4 ,%e occasionally f9ds x a try+ ordeal to su/a9 conv]sation betwe5 ! arrival ( d9n] gue/s & ! d9n] be+ s]v$2 sometimes ?is is prolong$ = ?ree-qu>t]s ( an h\r ?r\gh ! non-appe>ance ( a gue/ :o mu/ be wait$ =4 ,a ho/ess %\ld1 al?\gh %e kn[s t h] d9n] is spoilt by be+ ?us kept back1 endeav\r to make ! "t pass z pleasantly z possible1 by r5d]+ ! conv]sation g5]al & by mak+ ! gue/s acqua9t$ ) ea* o!r4 ,! ho/ess :o c tide ov] ^! awkw>d occurr5ces s t ! po/ponem5t ( d9n] f half to ?ree-qu>t]s ( an h\r is h>dly p]ceiv$1 proves h]self to be entitl$ to be consid]$ a good ho/ess4 ,,*apt] ,,xli ,,! ,,responsibilities ,,( ,,lady ,,patronesses ,,( ,,public ,,balls ,ladies are frequ5tly solicit$ to all[ _! names to be plac$ on ! li/s ( lady patronesses ( *>ity balls4 ,a ball committee is desir\s ( obta9+ a li/ ( influ5tial names to l5d eclat & pre/ige to ! ball1 & a *>ity ball (t5 numb]s among/ its lady patronesses ! names ( _m ( ! lead+ memb]s ( ! nobility1 foll[$ by ^? ( ! wives ( ! lead+ c\nty g5try1 or by ! pr9cipal resid5ts ( a wat]+-place or c\nty t[n2 b x is und]/ood1 z a rule1 t ! duty ( giv+ v\*]s or tickets = a *>ity ball is und]tak5 by ^? ladies :o are m directly int]e/$ 9 x1 ^: husb&s are on ! committee1 :o make a po9t ( annually att5d+ x1 & ?us are pr9cipally conc]n$ 9 keep+ x select2 & al?\gh 9 _m c\nties & 9 _m t[ns lady patronesses1 memb]s ( ! nobility1 d att5d1 yet x n unfrequ5tly happ5s t out ( a long li/ ( great ladies only ?ree or f\r are pres5t at a ball4 ,! memb]s ( ! lead+ nobility & g5try ( a neighb\rhood inv>iably l5d _! names to local *>ity balls1 & head ! li/ ( patrons & patronesses1 b beyond l5d+ _! names1 & 9 "s cases s5d+ a subscription ( money t[>ds ! funds ( ! *>ity1 or a pres5t ( game t[>ds ! supp]1 !y h v little to d ) ! ball itself1 :i* is practically 9 ! h&s ( ! local /ew>ds4 ,! exceptions to ?is rule are ! *>ity balls held 9 t[n dur+ ! season1 su* z ! ,royal ,cal$onian ,ball1 ! ,york%ire1 ! ,wilt%ire1 & ! ,som]set%ire ,societies' ,balls4 ,on ^! occasions _m ( ! great ladies give v\*]s & att5d ! balls4 ,:5 ladies cons5t to become lady patronesses ( a ball1 !y usually notify to ! committee :e!r !y w or w n und]take ! duty ( giv+ v\*]s or tickets1 z ! case may be4 ,"s ball committees arrange t v\*]s are to be giv5 by lady patronesses1 to be subsequ5tly ex*ang$ = tickets1 sign$ & fill$ 9 ) ! "n ( ! p]son to :om ! ticket is giv54 ,! lady patronesses 9 ?is case receive ! money *>g$ = ! tickets1 & =w>d x to ! committee aft] ! ball1 ) any tickets t !y may n h dispos$ (4 ,! ladies :o ex]t !mselves to sell tickets are g5]ally ^? :o possess a l>ge acqua9tance1 ^: husb&s are memb]s ( clubs2 !re=e1 if any p]son ought to be taboo$ = "s good social reason1 ! lady patronesses reap ! b5efit ( _! husb&s' k1 & are ?us able to give a polite refusal :5 tickets are appli$ = = p]sons :o are n altoge!r desirable4 ,x is no d\bt a difficult & delicate task = ! lady patronesses ( a l>ge ball to keep x ?or\ghly select1 & if n v p>ticul> respect+ ^? = :om tickets are grant$1 a ball1 ?\gh a full "o1 is likely to prove a v mix$ affair1 if n some:at objectionable1 by reason ( ! pres5ce ( p]sons to :om tickets %\ld nev] h be5 grant$1 on moral if n on social gr\nds2 & ?\gh ! funds ( a *>ity may ga9 consid]ably by ! increase ( numb]s1 ?r\gh a g5]al will+ness on ! "p ( ! committee or ! lady patronesses to grant tickets to e "o :o may apply = !m1 yet su* policy is v %ort-sight$1 & is seldom practis$ by ^? :o possess any practical k 9 ! matt]1 z x is fatal to ! reputation ( a ball if p]sons :o are objectionable are pres5t at x4 ,9 ! case ( a ticket be+ appli$ = = a p]son ( d\btful antec$5ts1 a lady patroness's be/ c\rse is to ref] ! applicant to ! ball committee = tickets or v\*]s4 ,p]sons n well receiv$ 9 society1 or :o h o/racis$ !mselves1 h a pr$ilection = public balls1 & make e ef=t to obta9 tickets ( admission2 & 9 "s cases1 :5 a refusal has be5 pron\nc$ by ! committee ( a ball1 ! committee has be5 ?reat5$ ) legal proce$+s4 ,unm>ri$ ladies seldom or ev] act z lady patronesses1 x n be+ consid]$ advisable to place ! discretion ( grant+ tickets 9 _! h&s1 le/ _! ignorance ( ! _w %\ld be tak5 advantage (4 ,! lady patronesses ( a *>ity ball :o und]take to give v\*]s or to sell tickets1 usually ex]t !mselves to ! utmo/ 9 induc+ z _m ( _! fri5ds z possible to att5d ! ball4 ,x dep5ds ^u ! committee ( a *>ity ball :e!r tickets are pres5t$ or n to ! lady patronesses & /ew>ds2 b if ! funds ( ! *>ity are n at a v l[ ebb1 ?is is g5]ally done 9 recognition ( _! s]vices4 ,! responsibilities ( lady patronesses ( private subscription balls are light 9 comp>ison ) ^? ( public *>ity balls1 z p]sons :o att5d subscription balls are usually on ! visit+ li/s ( "o or o!r ( ! lady patronesses1 :ile ) reg>d to c\nty balls1 lady patronesses are n usually conc]n$ 9 ! disposal ( ! tickets4 ,,*apt] ,,xlii ,,p]iods ,,( ,,m\rn+ ,! ,v>i\s ,p]iods ( ,m\rn+ = relatives h )9 ! la/ few ye>s be5 mat]ially %ort5$1 & ! *ange g5]ally accept$2 b z "s /ill pref] to adh]e to ! longe/ p]iods prescrib$ by cu/om1 9 ! pres5t *apt] bo? p]iods are giv51 & x entirely dep5ds ^u individual feel+ & circum/ances :i* ( ! two p]iods is obs]v$4 ,! "t-hon\r$ cu/om ( we>+ crape has greatly decl9$1 & ) ! exception ( wid[s1 _m d n we> x at all1 :ile o!rs we> x z a trimm+ only4 ,a slight] *ange has also tak5 place 9 fav\r ( half-m\rn+ col\rs1 :i* are n[ m worn ?an black & :ite dur+ ! half-m\rn+ p]iod4 ,c\rt ,m\rn+ :5 enjo9$ is imp]ative1 ! ord]s respect+ :i* are m9utely giv5 f ! ,"l ,*amb]la9's (fice & publi%$ 9 ! (ficial ,gazette2 b ^! ord]s only apply to p]sons connect$ ) ! ,c\rt1 or to p]sons att5d+ ,c\rts1 ,levees1 ,/ate ,balls1 ,/ate ,conc]ts1 etc4 ,:5 ! ord] = g5]al m\rn+ is giv5 on ! dea? ( any memb] ( ! ,royal ,family1 ! ord] applies to all1 al?\gh x is optional :e!r ! g5]al public comply ) x or n4 ,! ,longe/ ,p]iod = a ,wid['s ,m\rn+ is two ye>s4 ,! %ort] p]iod is eighte5 mon?s4 ,=m]ly crape 0 worn = "o ye> & n9e mon?s2 = ! fir/ twelve mon?s ! dress 0 entirely cov]$ ) crape4 ,! new] fa%ion 9 wid[s' m\rn+ is to we> crape z a trimm+ only1 & to discont9ue its we> aft] six or eight mon?s1 :ile "s few wid[s d n we> x at all dur+ _! m\rn+1 x be+ optional we>4 ,half-,m\rn+ 9 ! long] p]iod comm5ces aft] a ye> & n9e mon?s1 & is worn = ?ree mon?s4 ,9 ! %ort] p]iod half-m\rn+ may comm5ce aft] fifte5 mon?s1 & be cont9u$ = ?ree mon?s4 ,! p]iod = we>+ ! wid['s cap & veil is a ye> & a day4 ,! veil may be crepe lisse or *iffon 9 place ( crape4 ,x is n[ ! fa%ion = "y wid[s to we> ! cap z a head-dress only1 :ile o!rs d n we> x at all4 ,lawn cuffs & coll>s are worn dur+ ! fir/ ye>1 or = six mon?s only1 or n at all4 ,aft] ! fir/ ye> :ite neckb&s & :ite /r+s to ! bonnet may be worn4 ,also hats 9 place ( bonnets4 ,fur!r t\*es ( :ite may foll[ dur+ ! next ?ree mon?s4 ,aft] a ye> gold ornam5ts may be worn2 diamonds e>li]4 ,wid[]s %\ld we> m\rn+ = "o ye>2 !y usually ent] society aft] ?ree mon?s4 ,= a ,p>5t ! p]iod ( m\rn+ is twelve mon?s2 t5 mon?s black1 two mon?s half-m\rn+1 or eight mon?s black & f\r mon?s half-m\rn+4 ,! black may be reliev$ ) t\*es ( :ite aft] ?ree mon?s4 ,crape is optional2 _m pref] n to we> x at all1 o!rs z a trimm+4 ,diamonds--e>r+s1 broo*es2 etc4--be=e gold1 at ! end ( ?ree mon?s4 ,= a ,son or ,daught] ! p]iod ( m\rn+ is id5tical ) ! =ego+4 ,= v ,"y ,*ildr5 or ,infants ! m\rn+ is frequ5tly %ort5$ by half ?is p]iod1 or ev5 to ?ree mon?s4 ,= a ,/epmo!r4--,! p]iod ( m\rn+ dep5ds ^u :e!r ! /epdaught]s reside at home or n1 or :e!r _! fa!r has be5 long m>ri$1 or :e!r _! fa!r's second wife has fill$ ! place ( "m to !m1 9 :i* case ! p]iod ( m\rn+ w\ld be = twelve mon?s1 o!rwise ! p]iod is six mon?s--f\r mon?s black reliev$ ) t\*es ( :ite aft] two mon?s1 foll[$ by two mon?s half-m\rn+4 ,= a ,bro!r or ,si/] ! longe/ p]iod ( m\rn+ is six mon?s1 ! %orte/ p]iod f\r mon?s4 ,dur+ ! longe/ p]iod1 viz4 six mon?s1 black %\ld be worn = five mon?s1 ) a little :ite aft] two mon?s1 half-m\rn+ = "o mon?4 ,aft] "o mon? diamonds1 p9s1 & broo*es1 etc42 gold aft] two mon?s4 ,dur+ ! %orte/ p]iod1 viz4 f\r mon?s1 black %\ld be worn = two mon?s1 half-m\rn+ two mon?s4 ,= a ,si/]-9-law or a ,bro!r-9-law ! p]iod ( m\rn+ 0 =m]ly ! same z = a bro!r or si/]1 b ! f\r mon?s' p]iod is n[ ! "o usually *os54 ,= a ,gr&p>5t ! longe/ p]iod ( m\rn+ is six mon?s1 ! %orte/ f\r mon?s4 ,dur+ ! longe/ p]iod black %\ld be worn = ?ree mon?s1 reliev$ ) :ite aft] six weeks1 half-m\rn+ = ?ree mon?s2 diamonds aft] "o mon?1 gold aft] six weeks or two mon?s4 ,dur+ ! %orte/ p]iod black %\ld be worn = two mon?s1 half-m\rn+ = two mon?s4 ,! cu/om ( we>+ crape may n[ be said to h gone out ( fa%ion z reg>ds etiquette1 black be+ consid]$ adequate m\rn+1 save 9 ! case ( wid[s4 ,! =m] crape p]iods 7 six mon?s = p>5ts & *ildr51 ?ree mon?s = bro!rs & si/]s1 ?ree mon?s = gr&p>5ts4 ,= an ,uncle or ,aunt ! longe/ p]iod ( m\rn+ is ?ree mon?s1 ! %orte/ p]iod six weeks4 ,dur+ ! longe/ p]iod black 7no crape7 %\ld be worn = two mon?s1 half-m\rn+ "o mon?4 ,dur+ ! %orte/ p]iod black = ?ree weeks1 half-m\rn+ = ?ree weeks2 diamonds aft] ?ree weeks4 ,= a ,nephew or ,niece ! p]iods ( m\rn+ are id5tical ) ! =ego+4 ,= an ,uncle or ,aunt by ,m>riage ! p]iod is six weeks black1 or ?ree weeks black & ?ree weeks half-m\rn+4 ,= a ,great ,uncle or ,aunt ! longe/ p]iod is two mon?s1 ! %orte/ "o mon?4 ,dur+ ! longe/ p]iod black = "o mon?1 half-m\rn+ = "o mon?4 ,dur+ ! %orte/ p]iod black = "o mon?4 ,= a ,fir/ ,c\s9 ! longe/ p]iod is six weeks1 ! %orte/ "o mon?4 ,dur+ ! longe/ p]iod black = ?ree weeks1 half-m\rn+ = ?ree weeks4 ,dur+ ! %orte/ p]iod black = "o mon?4 ,= a ,second ,c\s9 ?ree weeks black4 ,m\rn+ = a second c\s9 is n obligatory1 b q optional1 & (t5 n worn4 ,= a ,husb&'s ,relations ! p]iods ( m\rn+ *os5 are inv>iably ! %ort] ones4 ,= a ,daught]-9-law or ,son-9-law ! p]iods are n[ %ort5$ to six mon?s2 f\r mon?s black & two mon?s half-m\rn+1 or ?ree mon?s black & ?ree mon?s half-m\rn+4 ,= ! ,p>5ts ( a ,son-9-law or ,daught]-9-law ! p]iod is "o mon?1 black4 ,= ! ,p>5ts ( a ,fir/ ,wife a second wife %\ld we> m\rn+ = "o mon?1 black reliev$ ) :ite4 ,= a ,bro!r or ,si/] ( a ,fir/ ,wife a second wife %\ld we> m\rn+ = ?ree weeks1 b ?is is n obligatory1 & dep5ds ^u ! intimacy exi/+ betwe5 ! two families4 ,mu* ,latitude is all[$ to ,m5 ) reg>d to ! =ego+ p]iods ( m\rn+4 ,a ,hat-b& %\ld be worn dur+ ! :ole ( ea* p]iod1 b x is n imp]ative to we> suits ( black long] ?an half ! p]iods giv51 save 9 ! case ( wid[]s4 ,s]vants' ,m\rn+4--,x is cu/om>y to give s]vants m\rn+ on ! dea? ( ! head ( ! h\se1 :i* %\ld be worn dur+ ! p]iod ! memb]s ( ! family are 9 m\rn+4 ,m\rn+ giv5 to s]vants on ! dea? ( a son or daught] is q an optional matt]4 ,seclusion f ,society4--,! "q z to h[ soon p]sons 9 m\rn+ %\ld or %\ld n re-ent] society is 9 "s measure an op5 "o1 & is also influ5c$ by ! rules t gov]n ! actual p]iod ( m\rn+ adopt$4 ,a ,wid[ is n expect$ to ent] into ,society "u ?ree mon?s1 & dur+ t "t %e %\ld nei!r accept invitations nor issue !m4 ,h] visit+ %\ld be conf9$ to h] relations & intimate fri5ds4 ,aft] ?ree mon?s %e %\ld comm5ce gradually to ent] into society1 b balls & dances %\ld be avoid$ dur+ ! fir/ ye>4 ,= a ,daught] m\rn+ = a ,p>5t ! p]iod ( seclusion is six weeks z f> z g5]al society is conc]n$2 b invitations to balls & dances %\ld n be accept$ until aft] six mon?s4 ,= a ,p>5t m\rn+ = a ,son or ,daught] ! p]iod ( seclusion is ! same z is t ( a daught] = a p>5t4 ,= a ,bro!r or ,si/] ! p]iod ( seclusion is ?ree weeks4 ,= ,gr&p>5ts ! p]iod ( seclusion is f a =tnight to ?ree weeks4 ,= an ,uncle or ,aunt ! p]iod is a =tnight to ?ree weeks4 ,= all ,o!r ,p]iods ( ,m\rn+ seclusion f society is n consid]$ requisite4 ,:5 ,p]sons 9 ,m\rn+ int5d ent]+ aga9 into society1 !y %\ld leave c>ds on _! fri5ds & acqua9tances z an intimation t !y are equal to pay+ & receiv+ calls4 ,:5 ,c>ds ( ,inquiry h be5 left1 viz4 visit+ c>ds ) ,to inquire aft] ,mrs4 ,a---- writt5 on ! top on "r-h& corn] ( ! c>ds1 !y %\ld be return$ by c>ds ) ,?anks = k9d inquiries writt5 ^u !m 7see ,*apt] ,,iii474 ,until ?is intimation has be5 giv51 society does n v5ture to intrude ^u ! seclusion ( ^? 9 m\rn+4 ,relations & intimate fri5ds are exempt f ?is receiv$ rule4 ,fun]als4--,:5 a dea? occurs 9 a family1 z soon z ! day & h\r = ! fun]al are fix$1 a memb] ( ! family %\ld write to ^? relatives & fri5ds x is desir$ %\ld foll[1 & %\ld ask !m to att5d1 unless ! date1 "t1 & place ( ! fun]al1 & ! tra9 by :i* to travel to ! cemet]y1 are m5tion$ 9 ! newspap]1 toge!r ) ! ann\ncem5t ( ! dea?4 ,x is a ,mi/ake to suppose t ,fri5ds w (f] to att5d a fun]al1 ev5 if !y are aw>e ( ! date fix$1 z !y are naturally 9 d\bt z to :e!r ! m\rn]s are to include ! memb]s ( ! family only1 or :e!r fri5ds are to be includ$ also4 ,9 ! ,c\ntry1 :5 a ,doctor has att5d$ a family = "s ye>s1 x is usual to invite him to att5d ! fun]al ( "o ( its memb]s4 ,9 t[n ?is is seldom done1 unless a m$ical man is ! intimate fri5d ( ! family4 ,9 ! c\ntry ! cl]gyman ( ! p>i% reads ! fun]al s]vice1 b 9 t[n1 :5 ! fun]al takes place at ,k5sal ,gre51 ,brookwood ,cemet]y1 or else:]e1 a fri5d ( ! family is usually ask$ to (ficiate2 9 :i* case x is necess>y to make an e>ly application at ! (fice ( ! cemet]y = ! use ( ! *apel at a p>ticul> h\r4 ,x is cu/om>y = ,ladies to att5d ! fun]al ( a relative if dispos$ to d s1 9 :i* case !y we> _! usual m\rn+ attire1 & foll[ 9 _! own c>riages4 ,! ,doctor's ,c]tificate z to ! cause ( dea? is ( prim>y importance1 & %\ld be obta9$ at ! e>lie/ possible mom5t4 ,memorial ,c>ds %\ld n be s5t on ! dea? ( a relative1 be+ q out ( date z reg>ds fa%ion & cu/om4 ,wrea?s & ,crosses ( :ite fl[]s are v g5]ally s5t by relatives & fri5ds to a h\se ( m\rn+ ! day ( ! fun]al1 unless ,no fl[]s1 by reque/ foll[s ! ann\ncem5t ( ! dea?4 ,:5 ! fun]al takes place be=e two o'clock1 ! fri5ds %\ld be invit$ to lun*eon4 ,:5 x takes place 9 ! aft]noon1 !y %\ld be ask$ to return to ! h\se = tea or light refre%m5t4 ,,*apt] ,,xliii ,,engag$ ,x greatly dep5ds ^u ! views held by p>5ts z to ! fre$om ( action accord$ to a daught] dur+ h] engagem5t4 ,"s ent]ta9 ! /ricte/ ideas on ?is head1 & /r5u\sly put !m 9 =ce4 ,by /rict ideas is meant t an engag$ c\ple1 except 9 ! pres5ce ( a *ap]on1 are nev]1 "u any circum/ances1 p]mitt$ to enjoy a tete-a-tete1 sit toge!r1 walk toge!r1 ride toge!r1 or meet dur+ any "p ( ! day4 ,wisdom & common-s5se dictate a middle c\rse ( action = ! consid]ation ( p>5ts1 nei!r grant+ too mu* nor )hold+ too mu*4 ,! l5g? ( an engagem5t det]m9es 9 mo/ in/ances ! degree ( latitude all[$4 ,if x is to la/ two mon?s1 or ev5 less1 x is usual to p]mit ! engag$ c\ple to be mu* 9 ea* o!r's society4 ,! circum/ances "u :i* ?is is accompli%$ dep5d ^u ! position ( ! p>5ts2 if weal?y1 & a c\ntry h\se is "p ( _! possessions1 ! "y lady's fa!r %\ld invite ! g5tleman engag$ to 8 daught] on a visit1 or "o or two visits1 dur+ ! engagem5t4 ,or ! "m ( ! bridegroom-elect %\ld invite h] future daught]-9-law to /ay ) h] = t5 days or a =tnight4 ,etiquette prescribes t a "y lady mu/ be *ap]on$ by "o ( h] ne> relatives at all public places ( amusem5t4 ,if an engag$ c\ple move 9 ! same set1 !y meet frequ5tly at ! h\ses ( mutual fri5ds2 !y are s5t 9 to d9n] toge!r :5 d9+ out4 ,to dance ) ea* o!r at a ball1 or dance m ?an ?ree or f\r times 9 succession1 & :5 n danc+ to sit out 9 tea-rooms & cons]vatories1 r5d]s an engag$ c\ple conspicu\s1 & ?is is precisely :at _m mo!rs are mo/ anxi\s t _! daught]s %\ld avoid be+1 & w\ld r t !y 7 ov]-prud5t ?an t !y %\ld run ! gauntlet ( g5]al criticism4 ,! usual c\rse = engag$ c\ples to take is to g z little into society z possible dur+ _! engagem5t1 & to make ! engagem5t z brief z circum/ances w p]mit4 ,if f v>i\s causes x mu/ ( necessity be a long "o1 ! only alt]native = an engag$ c\ple is to r5d] !mselves z little conspicu\s 9 g5]al society z a mutual und]/&+ w p]mit4 ,:5 an engagem5t is fir/ ann\nc$1 if ! families are n previ\sly acqua9t$1 ! fa!r1 "m1 & relatives ( ! bridegroom-elect %\ld call on ! fa!r & "m ( ! bride-elect at an e>ly date1 to make ! acqua9tance ( ! bride & h] family1 & !y %\ld write to ! bride-elect express+ _! approval ( ! engagem5t4 ,! calls %\ld be return$ & ! lett]s answ]$ ) ! lea/ possible delay4 ,! engagem5t %\ld be ann\nc$ to relatives & intimate fri5ds by ! "m ( ! engag$ "y lady1 & if ! ann\ncem5t is to appe> 9 ! pap]s x %\ld be s5t by h]4 ,! bride %\ld ask ! si/]s & c\s9s ( ! bridegroom to act z bridesmaids 9 conjunction ) h] own si/]s & c\s9s4 ,:5 an engagem5t is brok5 (f1 all lett]s & pres5ts %\ld be return$ on bo? sides4 ,all w$d+ pres5ts receiv$ by ! bride-elect %\ld be likewise return$ to ! donors4 ,! "m ( ! bride %\ld ann\nce to all :om x may conc]n1 ! fact t ! engagem5t is at an end4 ,,*apt] ,,xliv ,,silv] ,,w$d+s ,! ,g]man cu/om ( celebrat+ ,silv] ,w$d+s has become ?or\ghly recognis$ 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,x is an int]e/+ cu/om to celebrate ! fir/ tw5ty-five ye>s ( m>ri$ life "u ! poetic title ( a ,silv] ,w$d+1 b ^? :o c d s mu/ be = _m reasons ! few1 r ?an ! _m2 ,royal p]sonages1 & di/+ui%$ & prom95t ones = in/ance1 & aga91 ^? 9 humbl] walks ( life f> f ! madd+ cr[d1 are also incl9$ to d s2 b ! cr[d t divides !m1 =m$ ( diff]5t classes & diff]5t sets 9 society1 w h>dly avail itself ( ! opportunity ( celebrat+ ?is p]iod ( m>ri$ life4 ,husb&s z a rule dislike ! fuss & p>ade & prom95cy x entails1 & wives are dis9cl9$ to ann\nce to _! fri5ds & acqua9tances t !y h be5 m>ri$ five & tw5ty ye>s1 & are consequ5tly n s "y z !y 74 ,! ent]ta9m5ts giv5 to celebrate a ,silv] ,w$d+ are3 ,an aft]noon reception & a d9n]-p>ty4 ,a d9n]-p>ty foll[$ by an ev5+-p>ty4 ,a d9n]-p>ty foll[$ by a dance4 ,or a d9n]-p>ty only1 ( "s tw5ty or ?irty cov]s4 ,! invitations are issu$ on at home c>ds "s ?ree weeks be=eh&1 ! c>ds be+ pr9t$ 9 silv]1 & ! words ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,:ite at home1 ,to celebrate _! ,silv] ,w$d+ pr9t$ on !m1 ) day & date1 etc4 ,! d9n] c>ds %\ld also be pr9t$ 9 silv]1 ) ! words ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,:ite reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,black's company at d9n] to celebrate _! ,silv] ,w$d+1 etc4 ,= a dance ! invitations %\ld be word$ ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,:ite at home1 ,to celebrate _! ,silv] ,w$d+4 ,danc+ pr9t$ 9 ! corn] ( ! c>d4 ,ea* p]son invit$ is expect$ to s5d a pres5t 9 silv]1 co/ly or trifl+ z ! case may be1 :e!r ! invitation is accept$ or n4 ,^! pres5ts %\ld be exhibit$ 9 ! draw+-room on ! day ( ! ,silv] ,w$d+ ) a c>d atta*$ to ea* be>+ ! "n ( ! giv]4 ,at ! aft]noon reception ! husb& & wife receive ! congratulations ( _! fri5ds z !y arrive4 ,!y ent] ! tea-room toge!r almo/ imm$iately aft]w>ds foll[$ by ^? gue/s :o h arriv$4 ,refre%m5ts are s]v$ z at an aft]noon w$d+ tea4 7,see page #adc47 ,a l>ge w$d+-cake is plac$ 9 ! c5tre ( ! table1 & ! wife makes ! fir/ cut 9 x z a bride w\ld d4 ,! heal? ( ! husb& & wife is !n propos$ by "o ( ! gue/s1 drunk 9 *ampagne1 & respond$ to by ! husb&4 ,at ! d9n]-p>ty ! husb& & wife g 9 to d9n] toge!r1 foll[$ by _! gue/s1 :o are s5t 9 accord+ to prec$5cy4 ,! heal? ( ! husb& & wife is propos$ at dess]t & respond$ to4 ,a w$d+-cake occupies a prom95t place on ! table1 & ! d9n]-table decorations consi/ ( :ite fl[]s int]sp]s$ ) silv]4 ,at ! ,silv] ,w$d+ dance1 ! husb& & wife dance ! fir/ dance toge!r1 & subsequ5tly lead ! way into ! supp]-room arm-9-arm1 & lat] on _! heal? is propos$ by ! pr9cipal gue/ pres5t4 ,! wife %\ld we> :ite & silv]1 or grey & silv]4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 :5 a ,silv] ,w$d+ is celebrat$1 ! fe/ivities sometimes range ov] ?ree days1 b ?is only 9 ! case ( prom95t & weal?y p2 balls1 d9n]s1 & s*ool-treats be+ giv51 9 :i* ! neighb\rs1 t5ants1 villag]s & s]vants take "p4 ,gold5 ,w$d+s4--,! celebration ( a ,gold5 ,w$d+ is r an ,engli% cu/om1 & "o t f circum/ances c be b seldom obs]v$4 ,x d5otes t fifty ye>s ( m>ri$ life h pass$ ov] ! heads ( husb& & wife1 & is a solemn r ?an a fe/ive epo*4 ,pres5ts on ?is occasion are n s g5]ally giv51 & *ildr5 & gr&*ildr5 r ?an acqua9tances make up ! circle ( ^? :o (f] congratulations4 ,,*apt] ,,xlv ,,subscription ,,dances ,subscription dances are n[ an e/abli%$ fact1 b :e!r !y w ev] really become a rival to ! dance prop] rema9s to be se52 yet z !y supply a want felt1 & are recognis$ by society1 ! arrangem5ts necess>y = c>ry+ !m out %\ld be duly not$4 ,dur+ ! w9t] mon?s !y are a feature 9 c]ta9 sets3 ,subscription dances1 private ,subscription dances & public ,subscription dances1 ! latt] got up = *>itable purposes4 ,! mod]ate exp5ses incurr$ by giv+ private ,subscription dances comm5d !m to _m1 & !re are o!r reasons to acc\nt = _! popul>ity4 ,!y are )\t pret5sion to be+ consid]$ sm>t or exclusive1 & are ess5tially small & e>ly dances4 ,fa%ionable ball-go]s are n expect$ to att5d !m4 ,!y comm5ce at #i o'clock & t]m9ate at #ab1 light refre%m5ts 9 lieu ( supp] are provid$1 z at an aft]noon at home4 7,see p4 #aec47 ,a piano b& is consid]$ suffici5t = ! purpose1 & floral decorations are sc>cely ev] attempt$4 ,! invitations are issu$ on at home c>ds1 ) ! words ,subscription ,dance pr9t$ 9 "o corn]4 ,subscription dances are sometimes invitation dances & sometimes n4 ,tickets = ^! dances are *>g$ = s+ly or by ! s]ies z ! case may be4 ,a c]ta9 numb] ( ladies =m a committee & agree to give a c]ta9 numb] ( dances1 & ! exp5ses are ei!r borne by ! ladies !mselves or cov]$ by ! sale ( ! tickets4 ,if invitation dances1 a c]ta9 numb] ( invitations are allott$ to ea* lady4 ,:5 o!rwise1 ! ladies dispose ( ! tickets among _! fri5ds4 ,^! dances are usually held 9 a mansion hir$ = ! purpose1 & !re are sev]al available 9 diff]5t p>ts ( ! ,we/ ,end1 :]e spaci\s rooms c be hir$ on v mod]ate t]ms2 9 "s in/ances a piano1 seats1 & o!r accessories are also includ$4 ,public ,subscription dances are held 9 public rooms or ,t[n ,halls1 & v\*]s are giv5 by ladies on ! committee previ\s to tickets be+ grant$4 ,! same etiquette holds good at ,subscription dances z at o!r public dances4 ,! e>ly h\r at :i* ^! dances take place recomm5ds !m to "s & altoge!r r5d]s !m impossible to o!rs1 notably to ^? :o d9e late1 & :o are n incl9$ to dance at n9e o'clock or ev5 at t5 o'clock1 & :o r res5t ! frugal /yle ( refre%m5ts (f]$1 & consid] t a *ampagne supp] is an indisp5sable adjunct to a dance4 ,x %\ld be rememb]$ t ,subscription dances 7 fir/ orig9at$ = ! amusem5t ( v "y p1 & x 0 nev] expect$ t !y w\ld compete ) ! fa%ionable small dances ( ! day2 _! popul>ity 0 a surprise1 & if ball-go]s are dispos$ to hold !m 9 contempt !re are o!rs less fa%ionable & less weal?y :o f9d !m v mu* to _! ta/e4 ,! great difficulty1 h[ev]1 t ladies h to cont5d ) is ! fact t v few m5 c be induc$ to att5d !m1 & t ^? :o d accept invitations or pur*ase tickets are v "y m51 :o h _! way to make 9 ! _w1 & are z yet on ! l[] rungs ( ! ladd]1 & z "y ladies are v mu* 9 ! majority at ^! ,subscription dances1 to dance ) p>tn]s y\ng] ?an !mselves is an almo/ inevitable result = ^? :o are no long] 9 _! te5s4 ,,*apt] ,,xlvi ,,giv+ ,,pres5ts ,z reg>ds pres5ts 9 g5]al x %\ld be und]/ood t a pres5t dem&s a note ( ?anks 9 all cases :5 ! ?anks _c be v]bally express$4 ,! notes to slight acqua9tances %\ld be writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,to fri5ds1 9 ! fir/ p]son4 ,?is applies equally to pres5ts ( game1 p\ltry1 fruit1 or fl[]s4 ,"s few p ent]ta9 ! errone\s idea t pres5ts ( ?is nature d n require ?anks4 ,?is is n only ungraci\s b raises a d\bt 9 ! m9d ( ! giv] z to :e!r ! pres5t s5t has be5 duly receiv$4 ,w$d+ ,pres5ts4--,:5 an engagem5t has be5 duly ann\nc$ to relatives & fri5ds1 & x is und]/ood t x is to be a %ort "o1 w$d+ pres5ts may be s5t until ! day be=e ! w$d+-day1 & ! e>li] !y are s5t ! m conv5i5t x is = ! bride1 z %e is expect$ to write a note ( ?anks to ea* giv]4 ,9 ea* case a lett] %\ld be s5t ) ! pres5t express+ ! congratulations & be/ wi%es ( ! donor1 &1 if possible1 a c>d ) ! "n ( ! giv] %\ld be atta*$ to x = id5tification :5 ! pres5ts are exhibit$4 ,! fri5ds ( ! bridegroom1 & unacqua9t$ ) ! bride1 %\ld s5d _! pres5ts to him1 & he %\ld s5d !m to ! h\se ( ! bride's "m aft] hav+ writt5 notes ( ?anks to ! giv]s4 ,*ri/5+ ,pres5ts4--,) reg>d to *ri/5+ pres5ts ! godfa!rs & godmo!rs are expect$ to make pres5ts to _! god*ild2 ^! %\ld be s5t ! day be=e ! *ri/5+1 & %\ld consi/ ( a silv] mug & silv] =k & spoon f ! godfa!rs1 :ile a lace robe or h&some cloak are usual pres5ts f ! godmo!rs4 ,a pres5t ( money f #es4 to ,l#a %\ld be made to ! nurse on ! day ( ! *ri/5+ :5 ! godp>5ts are relatives1 b (t5] ?an n ! sponsors are repres5t$ by proxy4 ,giv+ ,tips to ,s]vants4--,! tips expect$ f ladies at ! conclusion ( a visit ( "s days1 are3 ,to ! head h\semaid f #bs4 #f;d4 to #es4 accord+ to ! l5g? ( ! visit4 ,! same to ! butl] or s+le-h&$ man-s]vant1 & ! same to ! *auffeur4 ,"y ladies give less :5 visit+ by !mselves4 ,! tips expect$ f g5tlem5 are3 ,to ! butl] or footman :o valets !m1 to ! *auffeur if he drives !m to & f ! /ation1 to ! groom if he takes *>ge ( _! hunt]s1 also to ! head h\semaid4 ,! tip to ! butl] or footman :o acts z valet is = a long visit f #es4 to #ajs41 & = a %ort visit f #cs4 to #es4 ,to ! *auffeur #es4 9 ! fir/ case1 & f #bs4 #f;d4 to #es4 9 ! second4 ,to ! h\semaid1 #bs4 #f;d4 to #es4 ,= tips to gamekeep]1 see p4 #bbc4 ,! tips giv5 to hotel s]vants v>y accord+ to ! l5g? ( ! visit4 ,to ! head wait] f #es4 to #ajs4 ,to ! second wait] f #bs4 #f;d4 to #es4 ,to ! hall port]1 #bs4 to #cs4 ,to ! luggage port]1 #as4 to #bs4 ,to ! head h\semaid 9 att5dance1 #bs4 #f;d4 to #ds4 ,,*apt] ,,xlvii ,,*ri/5+ ,,p>ties ,*ri/5+ ,p>ties may be said to be /rictly family ga!r+s1 only ! ne> relatives ( ! p>5ts be+ invit$ on ^! occasions4 ,! ,invitations are giv5 9 fri5dly notes1 & are n issu$ on at home c>ds4 ,! notice av]ages f a week to t5 days accord+ to circum/ances1 mean+ ! heal? & /r5g? ( ! infant's "m4 ,z a ,rule ,six ,weeks are all[$ to elapse betwe5 ! bir? ( ! *ild & ! date ( ! *ri/5+4 ,! ,relatives are ei!r invit$ to lun*eon aft] ! c]emony1 or to a reception tea1 or to a d9n]-p>ty to be giv5 ! same ev5+4 ,if a lun*eon is decid$ ^u x g5]ally takes place at #a4cj1 or e>li]1 imm$iately on ! return f ! *ur*4 ,! meal usually consi/s ( hot vi&s--game or p\ltry--n sub/antial jo9ts4 ,hot & cold sweets4 ,fruit to foll[4 ,a sm>t *ri/5+ cake %\ld occupy ! c5tre ( ! table4 ,*ampagne1 cl>et1 & %]ry are giv51 al?\gh ! =m] is probably ! only "o ( ! ?ree drunk on ! occasion2 ?is1 :5 ! heal? ( ! infant is propos$--! only heal? :i* f9ds acceptance at ^! ga!r+s4 ,! ,gue/s g 9 to ,lun*eon q in=mally1 ! ladies & ho/ess ent]+ fir/1 foll[$ by ! m5 gue/s & ! ho/4 ,!y %\ld be seat$ at table by ! help ( "n c>ds1 ea* lady be+ plac$ at ! "r h& ( a g5tleman4 ,! cl]gyman :o p]=ms ! c]emony1 if a fri5d1 %\ld sit at ! ho/ess's left h&1 & %\ld be ask$ to say grace2 b 9 t[n he seldom jo9s ^! family ga!r+s unless well acqua9t$ ) 8 p>i%ion]s4 ,a ,reception ,tea1 :5 giv51 is s]v$ 9 ! d9+-room2 b 9 ?is case ! gue/s are receiv$ on arrival by ! ho/ess 9 ! draw+-room1 & :5 all h arriv$1 %e accompanies !m to ! tea-room & rema9s !re ) !m4 ,! maid-s]vants %\ld p\r out & h& ! tea & c(fee across ! tea-table1 b ! ho/ess %\ld h& ! cakes1 etc41 to h] relatives1 assi/$ by ! ho/1 if pres5t4 ,! refre%m5ts consi/ ( ! usual v>iety 9 confection]y se5 at all sm>t at homes1 a *ri/5+ cake be+ ! addition4 ,*ri/5+ ,d9n]-,p>ties closely resemble all o!r family functions ( ?is nature1 ) ! exception t ! infant's heal? is drunk at dess]t1 & t a *ri/5+ cake is plac$ opposite ! ho/ess :5 ! table is cle>$ = dess]t4 ,! ,*ri/5+ ,c]emony takes place 9 ! aft]noon1 usually at #b4cj4 ,! relatives on arrival at ! *ur* seat !mselves 9 pews or on *airs ne> to ! font4 ,! godmo!r holds ! infant dur+ ! fir/ "p ( ! s]vice1 & !n places x on ! left arm ( ! (ficiat+ cl]gyman4 ,"o ( ! godfa!rs %\ld "n ! *ild 9 response to ! cl]gyman's "q4 ,if ! *ild is a girl1 two godmo!rs & "o godfa!r are necess>y4 ,if a boy1 two godfa!rs & "o godmo!r are requir$4 ,^! godp>5ts are usually ! intimate fri5ds ( ! *ild's "m4 ,9 c]ta9 in/ances ! relatives are *os5 = ! (fice ( godfa!r & godmo!r1 b (t5] n = family reasons4 ,*ri/5+ ,pres5ts v>y accord+ to means & incl9ation1 & (t5 comprise gifts ( jewell]y :5 ! infant is a girl1 & money & silv] plate if a boy2 silv] spoons1 =ks1 mugs1 b[ls1 etc4 ,! selection is a wide "o1 & no?+ comes amiss1 f a robe ) f9e lace to a *a9 & p5dant or a jewell$ wat*4 ,^! pres5ts are usually s5t ! day previ\s to t ( ! *ri/5+4 ,fees & ,tips4--,only m9or fees are giv5 to ^? assi/+ at ! c]emony4 ,! (ficiat+ prie/ receives "s little gift 9 old silv] or *9a1 b n ( money2 if1 h[ev]1 ! p>5ts ( ! *ild are weal?y a *eque is sometimes giv5 ) a reque/ t he w devote x to ! ne$s ( 8 p>i%4 ,tips to ! nurse f ! *ild's godp>5ts v>y f five %ill+s to a sov]eign accord+ to individual means4 ,,index ,aft]noon at homes1 #aea ,aft]noon dances1 #aeg ,aft]noon tea1 #db ,aft]noon w$d+s1 #abh ,amusem5ts at *ildr5's p>ties1 #aib2 at c\ntry-h\se p>ties1 #bae2 at g>d5-p>ties1 #afi ,at home days1 #aei2 at homes1 #aea1 #bch ,ba*elors' ,balls1 #hg ,balls1 #hg2 patronesses (1 #bci ,be/ man1 duties (1 #aca ,b[+1 #bjf ,breakfa/s1 #ahc ,bridal wrea?1 #ada ,bride1 #aca1 #acc1 #adj ,bridegroom's relatives1 #acc ,bridegroom's responsibilities1 #acj1 #ada1 #adf1 #adi ,bridesmaids1 #acb2 pres5ts to1 #adg ,bride's relatives1 #acb ,bridge p>ties1 #abe1 #aeh2 refre%m5ts at1 #abf2 teas1 #aeh ,calls1 pay+1 #cb2 aft] ent]ta9m5ts1 #aac ,canoe p>ties1 #ahi ,c>ds1 g5tlem5's1 #bg2 ladies1 #ai2 memorial1 #ca2 ,p4,p4,c41 #bf ,c>ds1 leav+1 #ai2 aft] ent]ta9m5ts1 #bd1 #bh2 on new-com]s1 #be2 return+1 #bc2 r\t9e ( leav+1 #ba1 #bh2 to inquire1 #bf ,*ap]ons1 #bbh ,*>ity ,balls1 #ic ,*ri/5+ lun*eons & teas1 #bfb2 p>ties1 #bfa2 pres5ts1 #bfj1 #bfc ,cl]gy1 h[ to address1 #ei ,cockades1 #bji ,colonial etiquette1 #afa ,c\nty ,balls1 #ic ,c\ntry d9n]-p>ties1 #aad ,c\ntry-h\se visits1 #baa ,c\rt1 att5d+1 #gc2 pres5tation at1 #gc ,c\rt dress = g5tlem51 #he2 = ladies1 #hj ,cricket-mat*es1 #afh ,dances1 invitation1 #bef2 public1 #beg ,debutantes1 #bbh ,d9] a la ,russe1 #ajf ,d9+ out1 #ajj ,d9n] gue/s1 #aja ,d9n] invitations1 #ii ,d9n]-table decorations1 #ajg2 etiquette1 #ajh1 #aaf ,draw+-room1 retir+ to1 #aaa ,draw+-rooms at ,vic]egal ,c\rt1 ,dubl91 #bbi ,driv+1 #bjc ,engagem5ts1 #bej2 etiquette (1 #bea2 pres5ts1 #adg ,entree at ,c\rt1 #gg ,etiquette1 #a2 at balls1 #ia2 at d9n]-table1 #hj1 #aaf2 colonial1 #afa2 ,indian1 #afd2 9 reg>d to royalty1 #fa2 ( visit+ at ba*elors' h\ses1 #bag2 :5 travell+ abroad1 #fe ,ev5+ p>ties1 #abb2 g>d5-p>ties1 #agd ,=eign]s ( rank1 h[ to address1 #eg ,fun]als1 #bdh ,fun]al wrea?s1 #bdi ,gamekeep]s1 tips to1 #bbc ,game lic5ce1 #bbd ,g>d5-p>ties1 #aff2 9 ! ev5+1 #agd2 9 t[n1 #aga ,giv+ pres5ts1 #bei ,go+ 9 to lun*eon1 #ahj2 to supp]1 #abc1 #abf ,gold5 w$d+s1 #bee ,gratuities to s]vants1 #ig1 #aac1 #aef1 #bbc1 #bfj1 #bfc ,honeymoon1 #ada ,ho/esses1 #bcd ,hunt ,balls1 #hg1 #ie ,hunt breakfa/s1 #bba ,hunt+1 #bai ,indian etiquette1 #afd ,introductions1 #f2 correct =mula =1 #h2 at aft]noon calls1 #ag2 at c\ntry-h\se p>ties1 #aa2 at d9n]-p>ties1 #i2 at ev5+ p>ties1 #abc2 at ,public ,balls1 #ab1 #ij ,invitations1 #if1 #abb1 #abe1 #aeb1 #afg1 #agg1 #aid ,juv5ile p>ties1 #aij ,ladies 9 ! hunt+-field1 #bai ,levee dress1 #he ,levees1 #hb2 at ,vic]egal ,c\rt1 ,dubl91 #bcb2 pres5tations at1 #hd2 :o may att5d1 #hc ,lic5ces1 m>riage1 #abh ,lun*eons1 #agf ,m>riage by banns1 #abh2 by lic5ce1 #abh1 #adh2 fees1 #abi1 #adh ,memorial c>ds1 #bdi ,m5us1 #ajf1 #aci ,milit>y ,balls1 #hg1 #ie ,m\rn+1 #bdb2 ,c\rt1 #bdb ,n at home1 #da ,(fic]s1 h[ to address1 #ei ,op5+ a ball1 #ij ,patronesses ( ,public ,balls1 #bci ,pheasant %oot+1 #bbb ,picnics1 #ahf ,plumes 9 ,c\rt dress1 #ha ,polit5ess1 graces (1 #d ,prec$5cy among/ royalty1 #dd1 #ej2 at ball supp]s1 #ia2 at d9n]-p>ties1 #di1 #aje2 ( ambassadors & diplomats1 #de2 ( army & navy1 #de2 ( b>onets & knights1 #de1 #ea2 ( bi%ops1 #ea2 ( cl]gy1 #de1 #dh2 ( esquires1 #dh2 ( ladies1 #eb2 ( legal pr(ession1 #de1 #dh2 ( pe]s1 #ej2 ( wid[s1 #df ,pres5tation at ,c\rt1 #gc2 at =eign ,c\rts1 #fe2 at levees1 #hb2 at ,vic]egal ,c\rt1 ,dubl91 #bbi ,pres5ts1 *ri/5+1 #bfj2 giv+1 #bei2 w$d+1 #acj1 #ada1 #bei ,public ,balls1 #hg ,receiv+ gue/s1 #aja1 #abc1 #aed1 #bcd ,refre%m5ts = at homes1 #aec2 at bridge p>ties1 #abf2 at *ildr5's p>ties1 #aid ,refus+ invitations1 #bjj ,responsibilities ( patronesses1 #bci ,rid+1 #bjd ,royal gue/s pres5t1 #ij1 #abc ,royalty1 h[ to address1 #ec ,say+ grace1 #aad ,s5d+ 9 to d9n]1 #ajc ,%ak+ h&s1 #bbe ,%oot+1 #bai ,sign+ ! regi/]1 #acd ,silv] w$d+s1 #bec ,/ate ,balls1 #ig ,/ate m\rn+1 #ig ,subscription dances1 #bef ,supp]1 go+ 9 to1 #abc ,surnames ( peculi> pronunciation1 #fi ,tea = aft]noon call]s1 #db ,titles1 h[ to use 9 speak+1 #ec ,t[n g>d5-p>ties1 #aga ,tr\sseau1 #ada ,undesir$ introductions1 #f ,walk+1 #bjb ,wat] p>ties1 #ahh ,w$d+ cake1 #acg1 #adb2 c>ds1 #adb2 etiquette1 #abi2 exp5ses1 #adf2 fav\rs1 #acd2 fees1 #abi1 #adh2 gold51 #bee2 invitations1 #abi2 lun*eon1 #acg2 ( wid[1 #acd2 pres5ts1 #acj1 #ada1 #bei2 receptions1 #acf1 #adc2 r+1 #acj2 s]vice1 #aca2 silv]1 #bec ,wid['s w$d+1 #acd ,writ+ invitations1 #aie ,,! ,,end ,,pr9t$ ,,by ,,william ,,cl[es ,,& ,,sons1 ,,limit$1 ,,london ,,& ,,beccles4