,,successw>d ,illu/ration3 image ( ! book's cov] ,,successw>d ,a ,,"y ,,man',s ,,book ,,= ,,"y ,,m5 ,,by ,,edw>d ,w4 ,,bok ,illu/ration ,,flem+ ,h4 ,,revell ,,company ,,new ,,york ,,*icago ,,toronto #ahie ,copyright1 #ahie1 by ,,flem+ ,h4 ,,revell ,,company4 ,,to ,,cl>5ce ,,c>y1 ,,my ,,advis] ,,& ,,my ,,fri5d1 ,,:5 ,,advis]s ,i ,,_h ,,none ,,& ,,fri5ds ,,7 ,,few1 ,i ,,inscribe ,,?is1 ,,my ,,fir/ ,,book4 ,a ,,few ,,prefatory ,,words ,! av]age "y man is apt to ?9k t success is n = him4 ,to 8 m9d x is a gift to ! few1 n to ! _m4 ,! ri*1 ! =tunate--!y are ! only p :o c be successful1 is ! way "o "y fell[ rec5tly express$ x to me1 & he ?\ght z _m d4 ,x is ?is wrong conception ( success :i* ?is book aims to remove4 ,x has no o!r purpose save to %[ t success--& ! true/ & be/ success--is possible to any "y man ( honorable motives4 ,! subject is n new1 ,i "k4 ,all t is hop$ = f ?is book is t x may h = "y m5 a c]ta9 s5se ( ne>ness to _! own lives & ?\ghts1 f ! fact t x is n writt5 by a patri>* ^: "y manhood is f> beh9d him4 ,x is writt5 to "y m5 by a "y man to :om ! noise ( ! battle is n a recollection1 b an e-day liv+ reality4 ,he ?9ks he kn[s :at a fight = success means to a "y fell[1 & he writes ) ! smoke ( ! battle ar\nd him & f ! v ?ick ( ! fight4 ,e4 ,w4 ,b4 ,,philadelphia1 #ahie4 ,,cont5ts ,i ,,page ,a ,,correct ,,k ,,( ,,himself #aa ,,ii ,,:at1 ,,really1 ,,is ,,success8 #bc ,,iii ,,! ,,"y ,,man ,,9 ,,bus9ess #cc ,,iv ,,8 ,,social ,,life ,,& ,,amusem5ts #fi ,v ,,s[+ ,,8 ,,wild ,,oats #ig ,,vi ,,9 ,,matt]s ,,( ,,dress #aji ,,vii ,,8 ,,religi\s ,,life #aai ,,viii ,,8 ,,attitude ,,t[>d ,,wom5 #acg ,,ix ,,! ,,"q ,,( ,,m>riage #aea ,,successw>d ,i ,a ,,correct ,,k ,,( ,,himself ,! fir/1 ! mo/ ess5tial1 & ! greate/ elem5t ( success ) a "y man />t+ out to make a c>e] is a correct k ( himself4 ,he %\ld1 be=e he attempts any?+1 und]/& himself4 ,he %\ld /udy himself4 ,he %\ld be sure t1 no matt] :om else he may misund]/&1 he has a correct k ( 8 own nature1 8 own "*1 & 8 own capabilities4 ,& x is because s few "y m5 h ?is k ( self t s _m make disa/r\s failures1 or fail 9 a*iev+ :at !y set out = !mselves at ! beg9n+4 ,e man 9 ?is _w is creat$ diff]5tly2 no two are alike4 ,!re=e1 ! nature1 ! ?\ghts1 ! "*1 ! capacity ( "o man is utt]ly unlike t ( ano!r4 ,:at "o man c und]/& ano!r _c4 ,! success ( "o man indicates no?+ to a second man4 ,:at "o is capable ( do+ is beyond ! p[] ( ano!r4 ,h5ce x is important t1 fir/ ( all1 a "y man %\ld look into himself1 f9d out :at has be5 giv5 him1 & come to a cle> und]/&+ ( :at he c d & :at he _c d4 ,x is "o ( ! mo/ pitiable sights imag9able to see1 z "o does s con/antly1 "y m5 fl\nd]+ & flutt]+ f "o phase ( life to ano!r1 unable to fa/5 ^u any "o1 simply because a k ( !mselves is abs5t4 ,! result is t we see s _m r\nd m5 try+ to fit !mselves into squ>e holes4 ,b1 "s "o w say1 z ask$ a "y fell[ rec5tly1 h[ 9 ! _w d y get at an und]/&+ ( y\rself8 ,h[ d y g ab\t x8 ,no def9ite answ] c be giv5 to ! "q1 any m ?an c a c]ta9 rule be laid d[n4 ,an und]/&+ ( "o's self is rea*$ by diff]5t me?ods by diff]5t p1 g5]ally ea* me?od be+ p]sonal to "o's self4 ,b ?is mu* c be said3 e ?\ght1 e ta/e1 e action1 reveals ourselves to ourselves1 & x is 9 ! expression ( ^! t we be/ le>n our natures & our *>act]s4 ,we see ourselves ) unmi/akable accuracy1 = example1 9 :at we mo/ enjoy 9 read+1 9 ! p ^: company pleases u mo/1 9 ! ?+s t int]e/ u2 & :]e our ta/es & int]e/ lead u we are g5]ally true/ to ourselves4 ,"s writ] has said t mo/ p f9d !mselves out be/ :ile !y are at play1 ^u ! basis t a man %[s 8 real side 9 ! pleasures :i* he seeks & enjoys4 ,?is is true 9 a l>ge measure4 ,& ! "* ( 8 pleasures w h bo? an indirect & a direct be>+ ^u ! m practical side ( 8 nature4 ,if a "y man visits an art gall]y1 = example1 & f9ds t ! pleasure he d]ives f ! pictures takes ! =m ( recreation to ! m9d1 t he is delight$ & int]e/$ 9 ! canvases he sees s long z he is be=e !m1 b feels simply refre%$ aft] he leaves ! gall]y1 x is pla9 t 8 nature is n "o suit$ to art z a vocation4 ,he employs ! picture z a means ( recreation f "s o!r /udy :i* has engross$ him mo/4 ,if1 on ! o!r h&1 8 in/9cts lead him to an art gall]y1 & he /udies r ?an enjoys ! pictures t he sees1 is curi\s z to ! me?ods ( ! arti/1 & goes away ) 8 m9d *>g$ ) ! int5tion ( gett+ fur!r k ( :at he has se5 f books or o!r au?orities1 x is natural to assume t ! art in/9ct is )9 him1 & he %\ld give x ! fulle/ *ance ( developm5t4 ,b he %\ld 9 e way feel1 realize1 & "k t a love ( art possesses him be=e he adopts x z a pr(ession4 ,& ?us1 9 a way1 a "y man has an opportunity to /udy himself ?r\gh 8 pleasures4 ,if1 z a fur!r example1 a "y man f9ds himself seek+ ! company ( m5 old] ?an himself1 m5 ( affairs ( ! _w1 is happie/ :5 he c be 9 _! company & he> !m talk ( bus9ess1 *ooses ! read+ ( ! lives ( successful m5 z 8 lit]ature1 & leans t[>d ! practical side ( life1 f9d+ m real enjoym5t amid ! bu/le ( ! m>t ?an 9 ! quiet ( lane or p>k1 ! indications are t 8 nature po9ts him to a bus9ess c>e] r ?an to a pr(essional call+4 ,if he feels ?is way1 x is well = him to give 8 develop+ ta/es full play1 & foll[ :]e 8 in/9cts lead him4 ,aft] a :ile :at 0 at fir/ a m]e in/9ct or an un=m$ ta/e w develop & po9t him to some?+ def9ite 9 ! bus9ess _w1 & if he be true to himself he w soon] or lat] f9d himself 9 t p>ticul> position :i* he is be/ fitt$ to occupy & fill4 ,8 capacities w reveal !mselves to him1 & !y w tea* him 8 limitations4 ,?is k ne$ n ?w>t 8 ambitions1 b ,i believe t ambition %\ld always be j a trifle beh9d judgm5t1 if possible1 or1 at all ev5ts1 n 9 advance ( x4 ,ambition is a spl5did quality if prop]ly guid$ & kept )9 *eck2 x is a fatal possession :5 x is all[$ too full developm5t or sway4 ,l fire or wat]1 x is a capital s]vant1 b x makes a poor ma/]4 ,i d n c\nsel1 nor d ,i believe 91 a bl9d foll[+ ( "o's self1 p>ticul>ly dur+ ! =mative ye>s ( life4 ,b ,i d believe mo/ e>ne/ly t e man is giv5 a c]ta9 ?+ to d 9 ! _w1 & t1 by a prop] /udy ( himself1 he1 & he alone1 c arrive at ! cle>e/ & sure/ k ( t p>ticul> object4 ,i am a firm believ] 9 ! mold+ ( "* ?r\gh ! influ5ce ( ano!r2 b my conviction is equally /rong t e man is ! ar*itect ( 8 own =tune1 & t 8 true/ c\rse 9 life is to foll[ n ! guidance ( ano!r1 b 8 own in/9cts4 ,9 o!r words1 ,i ?9k "y m5 %\ld1 z e>ly 9 life z possible1 get into t\* ) ! idea ( _! own responsibility1 & be taught ! great lesson t1 h[ev] well o!rs may advise1 !y1 & !y alone1 mu/ c>ve out _! own c>e]s4 ,! mo/ successful c>e]s1 ! mo/ honorable lives 9 ! hi/ory ( ! _w are ^? :i* h be5 %ap$ by _! own h&s4 ,!re is an elem5t ( dang] 9 ?is1 ( c\rse1 b ! elem5t is small 9 comp>ison ) ! great] dang] :i* lies 9 ! f\ndation ( a "* aga9/ "o's own in/9cts4 ,! aspirations ( ! "y are n to be *eck$ by ! exp]i5ce ( ! old4 ,no matt] h[ ri* or full a man's exp]i5ce may h be51 x c\nts only 9 a s5se ( g5]al application to ano!r c>e] :i* /&s ^u its ?re%old4 ,ye>s %\ld tea* wisdom2 b if we all wait$ = ye>s to br+ u wisdom1 ?is _w w\ld be a sorry place to live 94 ,y\?ful imag9+s may lead to mi/akes1 y\?ful en?usiasm may enc\nt] disappo9tm5t1 b only exp]i5ce1 real & actual1 c demon/rate ^! ?+s to a "y man4 ,& ! exp]i5ce is good = him if x tea*es him a bett] & tru] k ( himself & 8 capacities4 ,! greate/ figures 9 ! _w's hi/ory %[ t !y 7 made ?r\gh exp]i5ce1 & :at exp]i5ce taught !m4 ,?is is n say+ t ! "y h no use = ! old4 ,!y h4 ,b ! rule %\ld be1 ,"y m5 = action1 old m5 = c\nsel4 ,exp]i5ce looks backw>d2 en?usiasm looks =w>d4 ,&1 z betwe5 ! two1 en?usiasm is wor? m ?an exp]i5ce1 s9ce x is ! =m] :i* is brave & /rong & attempts ! impossible4 ,if we attempt$ only ! possible 9 ?is _w we %\ld soon /op :]e we are2 x is = ! "y man1 ) 8 en?usiasm1 to battle ) ! impossible & c>ry ! _w a /ep f>!r on 9 discov]y1 if n 9 actual accompli%m5t4 ,i say all ?is because ,i want e "y fell[ to feel t1 to a l>ge ext5t1 he /&s alone = himself 9 ! _w4 ,c\nsel he may seek & he %\ld seek1 b ! action is 81 & 8 alone4 ,& to make t action sure & wise x is necess>y t ! workman %\ld und]/& 8 tools4 ,he mu/ "k ) :at he has to "w2 & once sure ( 8 tools1 he mu/ le>n ! ?+ he has set = himself to d1 hav+ a di/9ct purpose 9 view1 &1 be+ fully consci\s t he is "r & capable1 n all[+ himself to be sw]v$ f 8 aim4 ,aft] acquir+ true k ( himself1 ,i "k ( no?+ s valuable to a "y man z an absolute di/9ctness ( purpose1 & !n pursu+ t purpose to success4 ,9 natural sequ5ce comes1 !re=e1 ! "q ( ,:at1 really1 is success8 ,,ii ,,:at1 ,,really1 ,,is ,,success8 ,be=e a "y man goes into bus9ess x is necess>y1 ,i ?9k1 t he %\ld set himself /raight on "o v important po9t1 & t is :at success 9 bus9ess really is & means4 ,un=tunately1 n en\gh has be5 writt5 on ?is phase ( ! topic4 ,x is idle = a "y man to seek out ! me?ods ( success be=e he is really cle> 9 8 m9d j :at con/itutes success--until1 9 o!r words1 he f9ds out ! true def9ition ( ! ^w4 ,& v few ( u h a prop] & correct conception ( x4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ?\s&s ( u h ! wrong notion4 ,9 ?is age ( big ?+s1 p>ticul>ly1 we are incl9$ to reg>d success z synonym\s only ) ! high] walks ( life1 ) great a*ievem5ts4 ,success1 9 ! m9ds ( "s1 is some?+ :i* is only giv5 = ! =tunate to a*ieve4 ,or we ?9k t if we _c d some?+ :i* sets p talk+ or wond]+ ab\t u1 if our heads d n t[] above ^? ( our fell[-be+s1 our lives1 if n altoge!r negative1 are /ill n successful4 ,9 o!r words1 we feel t a successful life is ! do+ ( some?+ mom5t\s2 ! becom+ kn[n ( all m5 & wom52 ! be+ exceptional to ! re/ ( ! human race4 ,ask t5 p _! idea ( success1 & ,i w>rant t eight w give a def9ition ( x along ^! l9es4 ,& yet1 :5 we look at ! matt] closely & /udy x c>efully1 sc>cely a m incorrect int]pretation ( a successful life c be imag9$4 ,along ?is l9e ( ?\ght1 n "o p]son 9 t5 ?\s& lives a successful life1 s9ce /ati/ics h in=m$ u t x is only ?is p]c5tage ( ! human race t is ev] he>d ( outside ( its imm$iate circle ( relatives & fri5ds4 ,x is giv5 to v few ( u to say some?+ or p]=m "s action :i* w be he>d ( by ! _w4 ,! great] "p ( ! human race dies z x is born1 unkn[n & unhe>d ( by ! _w at l>ge4 ,:]e y f9d "o lead] among m5 or wom5 y w f9d a ?\s& :o pref] to foll[4 ,! in/9ct ( lead]%ip is r>e--r>e ev5 9 ^! develop+ days4 ,h5ce1 if success dep5d$ ^u aggressive in/9ct1 its vot>ies w\ld be few4 ,success is z (ttimes quietly won4 ,i ?9k t "y m5 are (t5] misl$ by wrong notions ( :at con/itutes success ?an by h[ to a*ieve success z !y und]/& x4 ,! av]age "y man's idea ( success is l unto t ( p ( old] gr[?1 z ,i h9t$ 9 a prec$+ p>agraph--x means ! accompli%m5t ( some?+ great4 ,he _c und]/& t a successful life is j z possible 9 an obscure position z x is 9 a conspicu\s "o4 ,x does n seem pla9 to him t a cl]k e>n+ five hundr$ doll>s p] ye> c make j z pron\nc$ a success ( 8 life z c 8 employ]1 ^: income is t5 ?\s& doll>s1 or ev5 "o hundr$ ?\s& doll>s1 p] ye>4 ,he is apt to measure success by doll>s1 & "h is ! rock ^u :i* s _m "y m5 split4 ,to be a successful subject is z great an a*ievem5t = ! subject z be+ a successful rul] is cr$itable to ! rul]4 ,e man born into ! _w has 8 limitations1 & beyond t l9e x is simply impossible = him to g4 ,all ( u "k m5 capable ( spl5did "w s long z !y are "u direction1 b :o h ei!r made or w\ld make absolute failures z directors4 ,o!r m5 *afe "u direction2 !y mu/ be lead]s4 ,b success is z possible ) ! "o z ) ! o!r4 ,! correct def9ition ( success is ! favorable t]m9ation ( any?+ attempt$--a t]m9ation1 9 o!r words1 :i* answ]s ! purpose int5d$4 ,! writ+ ( a bus9ess lett] c be made j z great a success z c be ! draft+ ( a presid5tial proclamation4 ,success nev] dep5ds ^u conspicuity1 & x nev] w4 ,if we accept$ z ! successful m5 ( ! "t only ^? :o are 9 conspicu\s places & ( :om we "k1 we %\ld n>r[ success d[n to a v few4 ,great successes h be5 made z (t5 9 quiet ways z ) ! bl>e ( trumpets4 ,a comm]cial success won on cons]vative l9es1 & ma9ta9$ by cauti\s & prud5t me?ods1 is ! success mo/ highly reg>d$ 9 ! bus9ess _w to-day4 ,! meteoric comm]cial fla%1 s admir$ by ! av]age "y man1 seldom has a firm f\ndation1 & r>ely comm&s ! confid5ce ( exp]i5c$ bus9ess m54 ,! true/ success is t :i* is e>n$ sl[ly1 b :i* surely /r5g!ns itself4 ,o/5tation is nev] typical ( a true success4 ,x is always a good ?+ to rememb] t ! va/ majority ( successful m5 are nev] he>d (4 ,x is v important1 !re=e1 t ! fir/ ?+ = a "y man go+ into bus9ess to le>n is to disassociate success f ! m prom95t walks 9 life1 & get rid ( t false !ory4 ,:5 he does t1 successful liv+ w h a deep]1 full]1 & tru] mean+ = him4 ,x w h = him !n its correct mean+3 t success is possible 9 e position1 & c be made ! possession ( ! humble/ z well z ! mo/ p[]ful4 ,a successful life is no?+ m nor less ?an liv+ z well z we "k h[ & do+ ! v be/ t we c4 ,& ^u t basis1 :i* is ! only true basis1 naturally no success c be measur$ by fame1 weal?1 or /ation4 ,"s ( u mu/ live = ! few1 z o!rs aga9 mu/ live = ! _m1 j z "s are born to occupy important positions :ile o!rs are int5d$ = humbl] places4 ,b bo? lives are successful4 ,let a "y man be ?or\ghly fitt$ = ! bus9ess position he occupies1 al]t to e opportunity1 & embrac+ x to its fulle/ possibility1 ) 8 me?ods fix$ on honorable pr9ciples1 & he is a successful man4 ,x does n matt] :e!r he makes a ?\s& doll>s or a hundr$ ?\s& doll>s4 ,he makes a success ( 8 position4 ,he c>ries to a successful t]m9ation t :i* x has be5 giv5 him to d1 be t great or small4 ,if ! "w he does1 & does well1 is up to 8 limitations1 he is a success4 ,if he does n "w up to 8 capacity1 !n he fails1 j z he fails1 too1 if he attempts to g beyond 8 m5tal or physical limit4 ,!re is j z mu* dang] on "o side ( man's limit-l9e z !re is on ! o!r4 ,! v realization ( "o's capacity is a sign ( success4 ,x is an old say+ t x is a wise man :o kn[s :5 he has en\gh1 & x is a successful man :o nev] goes beyond 8 dep? 9 bus9ess4 ,?is is a tru? :i* requires exp]i5ce to see1 p]haps1 b x is a lesson :i* ,success dem&s t h] vot>ies %all le>n1 & le>n well4 ,success is simply do+ any?+ to ! utmo/ ( "o's ability--mak+ z mu* ( "o's position z x is possible to make4 ,,iii ,,! ,,"y ,,man ,,9 ,,bus9ess ,e "o conv]sant ) ! bus9ess life ( any ( our cities1 l>ge or small1 w1 ,i am sure1 agree ) me t m bus9ess opportunities exi/ to-day ?an !re are "y m5 capable ( embrac+ !m1 & t ! dem& is f> 9 excess ( ! supply4 ,positions ( tru/ are con/antly go+ begg+ = ! "r k9d ( "y m5 to fill !m4 ,b ! mat]ial does n exi/1 or1 if x does1 x c]ta9ly has a mo/ un=tunate way ( hid+ its light "u a bu%el2 s mu* s t bus9ess m5 _c see ev5 a glimm] ( its rays4 ,let a position ( any real importance become op51 & x is ! mo/ difficult k9d ( a problem to f9d any "o to fill x satisfactorily4 ,bus9ess m5 are con/antly pass+ ?r\gh ?is exp]i5ce4 ,"y m5 are desir$ 9 ! great majority ( positions because ( _! progressive ideas & capacity to endure "w2 9 fact1 "y blood1 z x is call$1 is pref]r$ n[adays 9 n9e positions out ( e t54 ,! "y m5 capable ( fill+ ^! positions are few4 ,= ! mo/ "p1 ! av]age "y man is incapable1 or1 if he be n exactly incapable 7,i am will+ to give him ! b5efit ( ! d\bt71 he is unwill+1 :i* is ev5 worse4 ,t exceptions c be br\ght up to controv]t ?is /atem5t ,i "k2 b 9 ^! rem>ks ,i am deal+ ) ! _m1 & n ) ! few4 ,x is ! exception t we f9d 9 bus9ess to-day a "y man :o is some?+ m ?an a plodd]--a m]e automatic ma*9e4 ,z a g5]al rule1 ! av]age "y man comes to 8 (fice at n9e o'clock 9 ! morn+2 is fai?ful 9 ! duties he p]=ms2 goes to lun* at twelve2 comes back at "o2 takes up :atev] he is told to d until five1 & !n goes home4 ,8 "w = ! day is done4 ,"o day is ! same to him z ano!r2 he has a c]ta9 r\t9e ( duties to d1 & he does !m day 9 & day out1 mon? 9 & mon? out4 ,8 duties are regulat$ by ! clock4 ,z t po9ts1 s he po9ts4 ,v]ily x is true ( him t he is ! same ye/]day1 to-day1 & =ev]4 ,no special fault c be f\nd ) 8 "w4 ,giv5 a p>ticul> piece ( "w to d1 he does x j z a ma*9e w\ld4 ,su* a "y man1 too1 g5]ally consid]s himself h>d-work$--(t5 ov]work$ & "u-paid--wond]+ all ! "t :y 8 employ] does n recognize 8 value & advance 8 sal>y4 ,i d ev]y?+ ,i am told to d1 he argues1 & ,i d x well4 ,:at m c ,i d8 ,?is is simply a type ( a "y man :o exi/s 9 ?\s&s ( (fices & /ores4 ,he comes to 8 "w ea* day ) no def9ite po9t or plan 9 view2 he leaves x ) no?+ accompli%$4 ,he is a m]e automaton4 ,let him die1 & 8 position c be fill$ 9 tw5ty-f\r h\rs4 ,if he detracts no?+ f 8 employ]'s bus9ess he c]ta9ly adds no?+ to x4 ,he nev] advances an idea2 is absolutely devoid ( creative p[]s2 8 position rema9s ! same aft] he has be5 9 x = five ye>s z :5 he came to x4 ,n[ ,i w\ld n = a mom5t be und]/ood z belittl+ ! value ( fai?fulness 9 an employee4 ,b1 aft] all1 fai?fulness is no?+ m nor less ?an a negative quality4 ,by fai?fulness a man c hold a position a lifetime4 ,he w keep x j :]e he f\nd x4 ,b by ! ex]cise ( ?is s+le quality he does n add to ! importance ( ! position any m ?an he adds to 8 own value4 ,x is n en\gh t x %\ld be said ( a "y man t he is fai?ful2 he mu/ be some?+ m4 ,! will+ness & capacity to be fai?ful to ! smalle/ detail mu/ be !re1 s]v+ only1 h[ev]1 z a f\ndation ^u :i* o!r qualities are built4 ,altoge!r too _m "y m5 are cont5t to rema9 9 ! positions 9 :i* !y f9d !mselves4 ,! ?\ght ( /udy+ ! ne$s ( ! next position j above !m nev] seems to ent] into _! m9ds4 ,i believe x is possible = e "y man to rise above 8 position1 & ,i c>e n h[ humble t position may be1 nor "u :at disadvantages he may be plac$4 ,b he mu/ be al]t4 ,he mu/ n be afraid ( "w1 & ( ! h>de/ k9d ( "w4 ,he mu/ /udy n only to please1 b he mu/ g a /ep beyond4 ,x is ess5tial1 ( c\rse1 t he %\ld fir/ ( all fill ! position = :i* he is engag$4 ,no man c solve ! problem ( bus9ess be=e he und]/&s ! rudim5ts ( ! problem itself4 ,once ! requirem5ts ( a position are und]/ood & ma/]$1 !n its possibilities %\ld be und]tak54 ,x is fooli% to argue1 z "s "y m5 d1 t to g beyond "o's special position is made impossible by an employ]4 ,! employ] nev] exi/$ :o w prev5t ! cream ( 8 e/abli%m5t f ris+ to ! surface4 ,! advance ( an employee always means ! advance ( ! employ]'s int]e/4 ,e employ] w\ld r pay a "y man five ?\s& doll>s a ye> ?an five hundr$4 ,:at is to ! "y man's int]e/s is 9 a f> great] degree to ! int]e/s ( 8 employ]4 ,a five-hundr$-doll> cl]k%ip is wor? j t am\nt to an employ]1 & no?+ m4 ,b a five-?\s&-doll> man is fully wor? five times t sum to a bus9ess4 ,a "y man makes ( a position exactly :at he *ooses1 ei!r a mill/one ar\nd 8 neck or a /epp+-/one to l>g] success4 ,! possibilities lie 9 e position2 see+ & embrac+ !m re/ ) its occupant4 ,! l[e/ position c be s fill$ z to lead up to ! next & become a "p ( x4 ,"o position %\ld only be ! *rysalis = ! developm5t ( new /r5g? to ma/] ! o!r j above x4 ,a sub/antial success means sev]al ?+s4 ,x calls1 9 ! fir/ place1 = conc5tration4 ,!re is no tru? s pot5t z t :i* tells u t we _c s]ve ,god & ,mammon4 ,nor c any "y man successfully s]ve two bus9ess int]e/s1 no matt] h[ closely alli$2 9 fact1 ! m closely ! int]e/s ! m dang]\s are !y4 ,! human m9d is capable ( j s mu* cle> ?\ght1 & g5]ally x does n ext5d beyond ! requirem5ts ( "o position 9 ^! days ( ke5 competition4 ,if !re exi/s a secret ( success1 x lies1 p]haps1 9 conc5tration m ?an 9 any o!r s+le elem5t4 ,dur+ bus9ess h\rs a man %\ld be 9 bus9ess4 ,8 ?\ghts %\ld be on no?+ else4 ,div]sions ( ?\ght are kill+ to ! be/ endeavors4 ,! successful ma/]y ( bus9ess que/ions calls = a p]sonal int]e/1 a =getfulness ( self1 t c only come f ! close/ application & ! mo/ absolute conc5tration4 ,i g s f> 9 my belief ( conc5tration to bus9ess int]e/s 9 bus9ess h\rs z to argue t a "y man's p]sonal lett]s h no "r to come to 8 (fice address1 nor %\ld he receive 8 social fri5ds at 8 desk4 ,bus9ess h\rs are none too long 9 ! great majority ( our (fices1 & ) a re/ ( "o h\r = lun*eon1 no "o has a "r to *op (f fifte5 m9utes "h to read an irrelevant p]sonal lett]1 or fifte5 m9utes !re to talk ) a fri5d ^: conv]sation di/racts ! m9d f ! problems be=e x4 ,digression is j z dang]\s z /agnation 9 ! c>e] ( a "y man 9 bus9ess4 ,!re is absolutely no position wor? ! hav+ 9 bus9ess life to-day to :i* a c>e ( o!r int]e/s c be add$4 ,let a man attempt to s]ve ! int]e/s ( "o ma/]1 & if he s]ves him well he has 8 h&s & 8 head full4 ,!re is a class ( ambiti\s "y m5 :o h :at !y *oose to call an an*or to ! w9dw>d 9 _! bus9ess2 t is1 !y ma9ta9 some?+ 9 addition to _! regul> position4 ,!y d ?is f necessity1 !y claim4 ,"o position does n (f] suffici5t scope = _! p[]s or tal5ts1 does n br+ !m suffici5t income2 !y are =c$1 !y expla91 to take on some?+ 9 addition4 ,i h kn[n su* "y m54 ,b s f> z ,i h be5 able to disc]n1 ! tr\ble does n lie s mu* ) ! position !y occupy z ) !mselves4 ,:5 a man turns away f ! position he holds to outside affairs1 he turns j s f> away f ! sure/ pa? ( success4 ,to d "o ?+ p]fectly is bett] ?an to d two ?+s only fairly well4 ,x 0 told me once1 ( "o ( our be/-kn[n actors1 t outside ( 8 /age-k he knew absolutely no?+4 ,b he act$ well--s well t he /&s to-day at ! head ( 8 pr(ession1 & has an income ( five figures sev]al times ov]4 ,all-ar\nd g5iuses are r>e--s r>e t we c h>dly f9d !m4 ,x is a pleasant ?+ to be able to talk well on _m topics2 b1 aft] all1 t is b a social accompli%m5t4 ,to "k "o ?+ absolutely means mat]ial success & comm]cial & m5tal sup]iority4 ,i d>e say t if "s ( our "y m5 und]/ood ! ne$s ( ! positions !y occupy m fully ?an !y d1 ! necessity = outside "w w\ld n exi/4 ,"r 9 l9e ) ?is phase ( a "y man's "w comes ! necessity ( 8 le>n+ t he _c d ev5+ "w & be employ$ ! entire day z well4 ,x is ! mo/ difficult ?+ = ambiti\s "y m5 to und]/& t night-"w is physically & m5tally detrim5tal to ! be/ bus9ess success4 ,let a ma*9e run night & day1 & be=e long x w break d[n2 & :at a me*anism ( iron & /eel _c be>1 ! human organism c]ta9ly _c /&4 ,if a "y man employs 8 ev5+s = "w1 he unfits himself = 8 "w dur+ ! day4 ,! m9d ne$s div]sion1 recreation1 re/2 & any m5tality kept at a c]ta9 t5sion = m ?an sev5 or eight h\rs p] day w soon] or lat] lose its ke5 p]ceptive p[]s4 ,no "y man true to 8 be/ & wise/ int]e/s w employ 8 ev5+s 9 ! same l9e ( ?\ght z t :i* engrosses him dur+ ! day4 ,m5tal "w is unlike manual labor 9 t x tires )\t physical exhau/ion2 & because ! work] does n feel x z mu* :5 he uses 8 head = t5 or twelve h\rs p] day z he w\ld if he us$ ! muscles = t p]iod ( "t1 he goes1 nev]!less1 unconsci\sly beyond 8 p[]s ( /r5g?4 ,unkn[n to him1 ! /ra9 leaves its m>k ^u ! m9d4 ,y\?ful vigor ?r[s its effects (f = a :ile1 b n p]man5tly2 & a man's e>ly breakd[n :5 he %\ld be at ! z5i? ( 8 p[]s 9 middle life is v (t5 directly traceable to an ov]tax+ ( 8 p[]s 9 e>ly life4 ,b n only is ! effect ( a future "*2 x is noticeable at ! "t ( ! indiscretion4 ,x is se5 9 ! inability ( ! m9d to respond quickly to "s sugge/ion at ! (fice2 & h[ c x be o!rwise :5 ! m9d has be5 work$ beyond its normal capacity8 ,!re is no "q 9 my m9d :atev] t a "y man is untrue to ! int]e/s ( 8 employ] :5 he all[s himself to "w dur+ ! ev5+ h\rs4 ,al?\gh he may n be consci\s ( x himself1 he does n come to 8 "w ! foll[+ morn+ z fre% z he might if ! m9d _h be5 giv5 a season ( div]sion & re/4 ,i "k :]e( ,i speak :5 ,i t\* ^u ?is subject4 ,9 common ) o!r "y m5 :o are wis] ?an _! be/ advis]s1 ,i made ! mi/ake ( ev5+ "w4 ,= sev]al ye>s ,i gave up f\r or five ev5+s ( ea* week to lit]>y "w4 ,my family1 my be/ fri5ds1 my physician1 w>n$ me to desi/4 ,b ,i knew bett]4 ,o!rs1 ,i conc$$1 und\bt$ly _h suff]$ f :at ,i 0 do+1 b ,i %\ld n4 ,i 0 /rong1 "y1 & ( excell5t physique4 ,i c\ld /& x2 o!rs c\ld n2 9 fact1 ,i 0 an exception to ! re/ ( ! human race4 ,two or ?ree ye>s w5t by1 & ,i 0 pr\d ( prov+ to my advis]s t ,i 0 "r & !y 7 wrong4 ,b sudd5ly1 ) sc>ce a w>n+1 ! bl[ came4 ,irritability & n]v\sness came fir/2 ev]y?+ annoy$ me4 ,! clos+ ( a door1 or ! sudd5 entrance ( a p]son into ! room1 caus$ me to />t4 ,! h>d] ,i work$ ! less ,i seem$ to accompli%4 ,i c\ld n und]/& x4 ,!n ,i began to lie awake = a half-h\r aft] ,i retir$2 aft] a :ile ! half-h\r l5g!n$ into an h\r1 !n into two h\rs4 ,f9ally ,i _h insomnia4 ,aft] a bit my dige/ion did n seem to be z regul>2 a heavy feel+ possess$ me aft] eat+4 ,i 0 ord]$ away2 /ay$ a week :5 ,i 0 told ,i %\ld rema9 = a mon?4 ,b1 ( c\rse1 ,i knew bett]4 ,& :at is ! result8 ,= ! pa/ ?ree ye>s ,i h suff]$ f an indige/ion z con/ant z x is ke52 & to-day ,i h to regulate my food1 my h\rs1 & my habits1 ) ! pleas+ prospect t at lea/ two ye>s ( su* liv+ are ahead ( me be=e ,i c hope = relief4 ,& :y8 ,simply because ( work+1 ye>s ago1 :5 ,i %\ld h be5 re/+4 ,b !n ,i did n und]/& x4 ,i d n[1 & ,i wi% t e "y man :o reads ^! words might pr(it by my error4 ,i am =tunate to get (f ) no?+ m s]i\s ?an indige/ion1 b ev5 t affliction has pa9s :i* only ^? :o h suff]$ !m c beg9 to fully realize4 ,night-"w1 :5 employ$ 9 ! day1 does n pay2 on ! contr>y1 x kills4 ,i wi% f]v5tly & s9c]ely t five1 eight1 or t5 ye>s ago ,i might h rea*$ ?is po9t ( wisdom4 ,i did n1 b ,i write x n[ & "h z a w>n+ to "y fell[s :o value _! heal?1 _! happ9ess1 _! peace ( m9d1 & a com=table feel+ 9 ! pits ( _! /oma*s4 ,a fatal error 9 ! case ( _m "y m5 is t !y rea* a po9t :]e !y make no progress4 ,n[ /agnation 9 a "y man's c>e] is b a synonym = />vation1 s9ce !re is no su* ?+ z /&+ /ill 9 ! bus9ess _w ( to-day4 ,ei!r we g backw>d or we g =w>d4 ,:5 a "y man fails to keep abrea/ ( ! possibilities ( 8 position he rec$es con/antly1 if unconsci\sly1 p]haps4 ,! "y man :o progresses is he :o ent]s into ! _s ( ! bus9ess ( 8 employ]1 & :o po9ts out new me?ods to him1 advances new ideas1 sugge/s new *annels & outputs4 ,!re is n a m direct road to ! confid5ce ( an employ] ?an = t employ] to see t any "o ( 8 cl]ks und]/&s ! details ( 8 bus9ess bett] ?an himself4 ,t "y man comm&s ! att5tion ( 8 *ief at once1 & :5 a vacancy occurs he is apt to /ep into x1 if he does n =ge ov] ! %\ld]s ( o!rs4 ,"y m5 :o ?9k cle>ly1 :o c conceive1 create1 & c>ry out1 are n s pl5tiful t ev5 a s+le "o w be lo/ sight (4 ,x is no special art1 & x reflects b little cr$it ^u any man1 to simply fill a position4 ,t is expect$ ( him2 he is engag$ to d t1 & x is only a fair return = a c]ta9 paym5t made4 ,! art lies 9 do+ m ?an 0 b>ga9$ =2 9 prov+ great] ?an 0 expect$2 9 mak+ m ( a position ?an has ev] be5 made be=e4 ,a quick conception is ne$$ "h1 ! ability to view a broad horizon2 = x is ! lib]al-m9d$ man1 n ! man ( n>r[ limitations1 :o makes ! success ( to-day4 ,a "y man %[+ su* qualities to an employ] does n rema9 9 "o position long4 ,two traps 9 :i* "y m5 9 bus9ess (t5 fall are a disreg>d = small ?+s1 & an absolute fe> ( mak+ mi/akes4 ,"o ( ! sure/ keys to success lies 9 ?or\ghness4 ,no matt] h[ great may be ! ent]prise und]tak51 a reg>d = ! small ?+s is necess>y4 ,j z ! little c\rtesies ( e-day life make life wor? ! liv+1 s ! little details =m ! bone & s9ew ( a great success4 ,a ?+ half or ?ree-qu>t]s done is worse ?an n done at all4 ,let a man be c>eful ( ! small ?+s 9 bus9ess1 & he c g5]ally be reli$ ^u = ! great] ones1 provid$1 ( c\rse1 t he possesses broadness ( m9d4 ,! man :o c ov]come small worries is great] ?an ! man :o c ov]ride great ob/acles4 ,:5 a "y man becomes s ambiti\s = l>ge success t he ov]looks ! small ?+s1 he is pretty apt to enc\nt] failure4 ,!re is no?+ 9 bus9ess s inf9itesimal t we c af=d to d x 9 a slip%od fa%ion4 ,x is no art to answ] tw5ty lett]s 9 a morn+ :5 !y are1 9 reality1 only half answ]$4 ,:5 we comm5d brevity 9 bus9ess lett]s we d n mean brusqu5ess4 ,no?+ /amps ! "* ( a h\se s cle>ly z ! lett]s x s5ds out4 ,! fe> ( mak+ mi/akes keeps _m a "y man d[n4 ,( c\rse errors 9 bus9ess are co/ly1 & x is bett] n to make !m4 ,b1 at ! same "t1 ,i w\ld n give a snap ( ! f+] = a "y man :o has nev] made mi/akes4 ,b !re are mi/akes & mi/akes2 "s easy to be ov]look$1 & o!rs x is bett] n to bl9k at 9 an employee4 ,a mi/ake ( judgm5t is possible ) u all2 ! be/ ( u are n above a wrong decision4 ,& a "y man :o holds back = fe> ( mak+ mi/akes loses ! fir/ po9t ( success4 ,i "k !re are ?\s&s ( "y m5 :o feel !mselves incompet5t = a bus9ess c>e] because ( a lack ( e>ly education4 ,& "h might come 9--if ,i *ose to discuss ! subject1 :i* ,i d n--! (t-moot$ "q ( ! exact value ( a college education to ! "y man 9 bus9ess4 ,f> abl] p5s ?an m9e h treat$ ( ?is2 x is c]ta9ly n = me to ent] into x "h4 ,b ,i w say ?is3 a "y man ne$ n feel t ! lack ( a college education w /& 9 any respect :atev] 9 ! way ( 8 success 9 ! bus9ess _w4 ,no college on e>? ev] made a bus9ess man4 ,! k acquir$ 9 college has fitt$ ?\s&s ( m5 = pr(essional success1 b x has also unfitt$ o!r ?\s&s = a practical bus9ess c>e]4 ,a college tra9+ is nev] wa/$1 al?\gh ,i h se5 aga9 & aga9 five-?\s&-doll> educations sp5t on five-hundr$-doll> m54 ,:]e a "y man c br+ a college education to ! requirem5ts ( a practical bus9ess k x is an advantage4 ,b be=e our ,am]ican colleges become an absolute factor 9 ! bus9ess capacities ( m51 _! me?ods ( /udy & le>n+ w h to be radically *ang$4 ,i h _h associat$ ) me bo? k9ds ( "y m51 collegiate & non-collegiate1 & ,i mu/ confess t ! ones :o _h a bett] k ( ! practical "p ( life h be5 ^? :o nev] saw ! inside ( a college & ^: feet nev] /ood ^u a campus4 ,college-br$ m5 & m5 :o nev] _h college advantages h succe$$ 9 ab\t equal ratios4 ,! m5 occupy+ ! mo/ important comm]cial positions 9 ,new ,york to-day are self-made1 ^: only education has come to !m f contact ) t greate/ college ( all1 ! bus9ess _w4 ,f> be x f me to depreciate ! value ( a college education4 ,i believe 9 its advantages too firmly4 ,b no "y man ne$ feel hamp]$ because ( ! lack ( x4 ,if bus9ess qualities are 9 him !y w come to ! surface4 ,x is n ! college education2 x is ! "y man4 ,)\t its possession z great & honorable successes h be5 made z ) x4 ,m5 are n accept$ 9 ! bus9ess _w ^u _! collegiate diplomas1 nor on ! k ^! imply4 ,!y are tak5 = :at !y are1 = :at !y "k4 ,! "y man engag$ 9 bus9ess to-day 9 ?is c\ntry has advantages exce$+ ^? ( any g5]ation be=e him4 ,& ,i d n say ?is simply z an e*o ( :at o!rs be=e me h said1 or to use a platitud9\s phrase4 ,!re nev] 0 a "t 9 ! _w's hi/ory :5 a "y man _h ! opportunity to make some?+ ( himself t he has at ! pres5t day4 ,he lives 9 a c\ntry :]e e success is possible2 :]e a man c make ( himself :at he may *oose2 :]e en]gy & ent]prise are appreciat$1 & a m>ket is always ready = good w>es4 ,"y m5 h =g$ to ! front wond]fully dur+ ! pa/ t5 ye>s4 ,employ]s are m ?an ev] will+ to lay great responsibilities on _! %\ld]s4 ,sal>ies are high] ?an ev]2 "y m5 nev] be=e e>n$ ! incomes :i* are receiv$ by "s to-day4 ,all success is possible4 ,b a "y man mu/ be al]t to e opportunity4 ,he _c =get himself = a mom5t 9 bus9ess4 ,a man's be/ work+ ye>s are n _m1 & :5 !y are ^u him he mu/ make hay1 & all ! hay he c4 ,no "y man c af=d to rea* ! age ( ?irty )\t feel+ t he is settl$ 9 a bus9ess way4 ,be=e t "t he fl\nd]s2 b at ?irty ! fl\nd]+ "t %\ld be ov]4 ,he %\ld h f\nd t special trade or pr(ession = :i* he ?9ks he is mo/ capable4 ,?is age is g5]ally accept$1 ,i believe1 = ! reason t a man is mo/ likely to d 8 be/ "w betwe5 ?irty & =ty2 aft] =ty a man's "w is n apt to h t en]gy & snap t is born ( y\?1 & ! t5d5cy is fir/ %[n 9 8 will+ness to deputize details to o!rs4 ,i d n mean to say t a man beg9s to decl9e at =ty2 on ! contr>y1 he is at 8 prime1 & he rema9s s = t5 or fifte5 ye>s4 ,b he is bett] = judgm5t ?an he is = work+ out details4 ,a man's real "w1 8 en]getic "w1 8 labori\s "w1 is g5]ally done be=e he rea*es ?irty-five4 ,& n only mu/ he practically make himself betwe5 ?irty & =ty1 b he mu/ n sp5d all t he e>ns4 ,he mu/ lay aside a goodly portion ( 8 e>n+s4 ,x is a cruel b a h>d fact t ! bus9ess _w has v little use = :at are t]m$ old m5 n[adays2 & 9 ^! times ( ke5 competitive /rife a man is judg$ to be old v e>ly f ! cold comm]cial po9t ( view4 ,he may n consid] himself z be+ old1 b he is no long] consid]$ to be 9 ! race ) ! y\ng] m51 :o naturally h quick] p]ceptions & ^: s5se ( al]tness is necess>ily ke5]4 ,! mo/ successful man at =ty is v (t5 ! man :o is quietly pu%$ aside at sixty4 ,if "y m5 e>n+ good incomes betwe5 ?irty & =ty w\ld look a little ahead1 & consid] ! inevitable fact t z !y gr[ old] _! value is v apt to less5 9 a comm]cial s5se1 !y w\ld save !mselves mu* aft]-humiliation & sorr[ful retrospection4 ,x is h>d = a "y man at1 say1 ?irty-five1 9 ! full flu% & vigor ( manhood1 to realize t a "t w come :5 o!rs z clev] z himself & a bit clev]] w pass him by4 ,b ! cold fact exi/s1 nev]!less1 & he is wise :o1 at 8 prime1 ?9ks ( a "t :i* is almo/ sure to come to e man :o lives4 ,& yet1 :ile a "y man may be ambiti\s = success 9 bus9ess1 he _c af=d to get impati5t or re/less4 ,n long ago ,i receiv$ a lett] f a "y fell[ :i* p>ticul>ly reflect$ ! feel+ t ,i mean4 ,he wrote me t he 0 tw5ty1 & 0 impati5t because he did n make ! progress 9 8 bus9ess :i* he felt t he %\ld4 ,he confess$ t he 0 n s v mu* dissatisfi$ ) 8 sal>y1 :i* 0 tw5ty-two doll>s p] week1 al?\gh he ?\ght x ought to be =ty doll>s4 ,un=tunately = him1 h[ev]1 8 employ]s did n seem to ?9k s1 & he 0 q sure he 0 be+ kept back4 ,he conc$$ t he 0 becom+ impati5t1 b insi/$ t he _h reason to feel s4 ,well1 ,i felt precisely ! same way :5 ,i 0 tw5ty2 only my sal>y 0 eighte5 doll>s & ?irty-?ree c5ts p] week1 & ,i felt q sure t ! figures ought to be rev]s$4 ,& !re 7 sev]al positions j beyond me1 too1 :i* ,i felt ,i %\ld ju/ly be ask$ to occupy4 ,b ,i 0 n1 &1 ( c\rse1 ,i felt aggriev$4 ,i consid]$ myself impos$ ^u4 ,n[ :5 ,i look back ^u t "t ,i c see t ! reason my sal>y 0 n ?irty-?ree doll>s & eighte5 c5ts 0 simply because ,i 0 incapable ( e>n+ t am\nt4 ,i 0 n wor? x to my employ]4 ,& ! reason ,i did n get ^? sev]al positions j ahead ( me 0 because ,i c\ld n h fill$ !m if ,i _h gott5 !m--n "o ( !m4 ,b ,i am a little m ?an tw5ty n[1 & my correspond5t1 :5 he is ab\t t5 ye>s old]1 w und]/& a great _m ?+s t are n v cle> to him j n[4 ,( c\rse he probably w n *oose to believe ?is2 y\?s ( tw5ty are n apt to believe mu* t is told !m1 s9ce !y h s little to le>n6 ,b1 if ,i 7 back to tw5ty aga91 &1 ) my lat] k1 7 e>n+ tw5ty-two doll>s p] week1 ,i %\ld n only be satisfi$1 b ,i %\ld be int5sely ?ankful4 ,i ?9k1 too1 t ! k t !re 7 ?\s&s ( m5 ( =ty & fifty ye>s :o 7 n e>n+ z mu* w\ld help me to endure ! ordeal4 ,i ?9k t in/ead ( rebell+ at ! fact t ,i 0 e>n+ tw5ty-two doll>s1 ,i %\ld r devote my "t to try+ to f9d ! be/ way ( d\bl+ x4 ,i might n be able to make tw5ty-five doll>s = a ye> or two1 b ,i %\ld endeavor to d s4 ,9 fact1 if we look ov] ! field1 !re are m "y m5 ( tw5ty-"o :o are wor? less ?an tw5ty-five doll>s p] week ?an !re are :o are wor? t or m4 ,& "o pro( ( ?is is f\nd 9 ! fact t 9 ,new ,york ,city alone !re are t5s ( ?\s&s ( "y m5 at t age :o are n e>n+ eighte5 doll>s p] week4 ,9 addition to all ?is ,i might be tempt$ to believe t too rapid advance might n be ! be/ ?+ 9 ! _w = me4 ,too l>ge an income1 ev5 :5 des]v$1 is f> (t5 m ( a h9drance to a "y man ( tw5ty-"o or !reab\ts ?an a help4 ,:at ,i %\ld feel will+ to d w\ld be ?is3 if ,i felt t my employ] 0 a man ( honor & judgm5t ,i %\ld leave myself 9 8 h&s = a :ile4 ,i %\ld d him ! c\rtesy ( believ+ t he knew m ?an ,i did4 ,a man at fifty is sometimes apt to "k m--if only a v little m--?an a boy ( tw5ty2 & if ,i _h 8 confid5ce & felt t ,i 0 pleas+ him ) my s]vices1 ,i %\ld let him g at t--= a "t1 at any rate4 ,!re are hundr$s ( "y m5 9 bus9ess to-day :o feel j z re/less & impati5t z did ?is correspond5t4 ,b ^! "y m5 %\ld be> a few ?+s 9 m9d4 ,!y %\ld rememb]1 fir/ ( all1 t betwe5 ! ye>s ( tw5ty & tw5ty-five a "y man acquires r ?an a*ieves4 ,x is ! le>n+ p]iod ( life1 ! exp]i5ce-ga9+ "t4 ,k t is wor? any?+ does n come to u until we are pa/ tw5ty-five4 ,! m9d be=e t age is incapable ( =m+ wise judgm5ts4 ,! great art ( accurate decision 9 bus9ess matt]s is n acquir$ 9 a few weeks ( comm]cial life4 ,x is ! result ( ye>s4 ,x is n only ! p[] )9 himself1 b ! exp]i5ce beh9d him1 t makes a successful bus9ess man4 ,! comm]cial _w is only a great] s*ool ?an ! "o ( slates & slate-p5cils4 ,no boy1 aft] att5d+ s*ool = five ye>s1 w\ld consid] himself compet5t to tea*4 ,& surely five ye>s ( comm]cial appr5tice%ip w n fit a "y man to assume a position ( tru/1 nor give him ! capacity to decide ^u important bus9ess matt]s4 ,9 ! fir/ five ye>s--yes1 9 ! fir/ t5 ye>s--( a "y man's bus9ess life he is only 9 ! prim>y dep>tm5t ( ! great comm]cial _w4 ,x is = him1 !n1 to /udy me?ods1 to obs]ve o!r m5--9 %ort1 to le>n & n hope to a*ieve4 ,t w come lat]4 ,bus9ess1 simple z x may look to ! "y man1 is1 nev]!less1 a v intricate affair1 & x is only by ye>s ( close/ /udy t we ma/] an und]/&+ ( x4 ,! electric atmosph]e ( ! ,am]ican bus9ess _w is all too apt to make our "y m5 impati5t4 ,!y want to fly be=e !y c ev5 walk well4 ,ambition is a spl5did ?+ 9 any "y man4 ,b gett+ along too fa/ is j z injuri\s z gett+ along too sl[4 ,a "y man betwe5 tw5ty & tw5ty-five mu/ be pati5t4 ,i "k pati5ce is a difficult ?+ to cultivate1 b x is among ! fir/ lessons we mu/ le>n 9 bus9ess4 ,a good /ock ( pati5ce1 acquir$ 9 e>ly life1 w /& a man 9 good /ead 9 lat] ye>s4 ,x is a h&y ?+ to h & draw ^u1 & makes a spl5did safety-valve4 ,because a "y man1 z he approa*es tw5ty-five1 beg9s to see ?+s m pla9ly ?an he did five ye>s be=e1 he mu/ n get ! idea t he is a bus9ess man yet1 & entitl$ to a man's sal>y4 ,if bus9ess que/ions :i* he did n und]/& five ye>s be=e n[ beg9 to look cle>] to him1 x is because he is pass+ ?r\gh ! transitory /ate t divides ! immature judgm5t ( ! "y man f ! rip5+ p5etration ( ! man4 ,he is simply beg9n+4 ,f t po9t he w gr[1 & 8 sal>y w gr[ z he gr[s4 ,b ,rome 0 n built 9 a day1 & a bus9ess man is n made 9 a night4 ,z exp]i5ce comes1 ! judgm5t w become mature2 & by ! "t ! "y man rea*es ?irty he w beg9 to realize t he did n "k z mu* at tw5ty-five z he ?\ght he did4 ,& :5 he is ready to le>n f o!rs he w beg9 to gr[ wise4 ,& :5 he rea*es t /ate :]e he is will+ to conc$e t he has n a corn] 9 k1 he w be /epp+ out ( ! *rysalis ( y\?4 ,& s to a "y man 9 bus9ess or j />t+ 9 bus9ess ,i w\ld say1 rememb] ^! v ess5tial tru?s4 ,above all ?+s1 be=e a "y man attempts to make a success he %\ld conv9ce himself t he is 9 a cong5ial bus9ess4 ,:e!r x be a trade or a pr(ession--bo? are honorable & productive--let him satisfy himself1 above ev]y?+ else1 t x enli/s 8 p]sonal int]e/4 ,if a man %[s t he has 8 "w at he>t 8 success c be reli$ on4 ,p]sonal int]e/ 9 any "w w br+ o!r ?+s2 b all ! o!r ess5tials comb9$ _c create p]sonal int]e/4 ,t mu/ exi/ fir/2 !n two ?irds ( ! battle is won4 ,fully satisfi$ t he is 9 t p>ticul> l9e ( bus9ess = :i* he feels a /rong]1 w>m] int]e/ ?an = any o!r1 !n he %\ld rememb]3 ,fir/1 t1 :atev] else he may /rive to be1 he mu/1 above all1 be absolutely hone/4 ,f honorable pr9ciples he c nev] sw]ve4 ,a tempor>y success is (t5 possible on :at are n exactly di%one/1 b %ady l9es4 ,su* success1 h[ev]1 is only tempor>y1 ) a c]ta9ty ( p]man5t loss4 ,! sure/ bus9ess successes--yes1 ! only successes wor? ! mak+--are built ^u hone/ f\ndations4 ,!re c be no bl9k+ at ! tru? or at hone/y1 no half-way compromise4 ,!re is b "o way to be successful1 & t is to be absolutely hone/2 & !re is b "o way ( be+ hone/4 ,hone/y is n only ! f\ndation1 b ! cap/one z well1 ( bus9ess success4 ,second1 he mu/ be al]t1 alive to e opportunity4 ,he _c af=d to lose a s+le po9t1 = t s+le po9t might prove ! v l9k t w\ld make complete ! :ole *a9 ( a bus9ess success4 ,?ird1 he mu/ ev] be will+ to le>n1 nev] ov]look+ ! fact t o!rs h long ago =gott5 :at he has /ill to le>n4 ,firmness ( decision is an admirable trait 9 bus9ess4 ,! "y man ^: op9ion c be toss$ f "o side to ano!r is poor mat]ial4 ,b y\? is full ( errors1 & caution is a /rong trait4 ,f\r?1 if he be wise he w entirely avoid ! use ( liquors4 ,if ! "q ( h>m done by intoxicat+ liquor is an op5 "o1 ! "q ( ! actual good d]iv$ f x is n4 ,fif?1 let him rememb] t a "y man's /ronge/ recomm5dation is 8 respectability4 ,"s "y m51 app>5tly successful1 may be fla%y 9 dress1 l\d 9 mann]1 & disrespectful ( wom5 & sacr$ ?+s4 ,b ! "y man :o is respectable always we>s be/4 ,! way a "y man c>ries himself 9 8 private life (ttimes means mu* to him 9 8 bus9ess c>e]4 ,no matt] :]e he is1 or 9 ^: company1 respectability1 & all t x implies1 w always comm& respect4 ,& if any "y man wi%es a set ( rules ev5 m concise1 "h x is3 ,get into a bus9ess y l4 ,devote y\rself to x4 ,be hone/ 9 ev]y?+4 ,employ caution2 ?9k out a ?+ well be=e y ent] ^u x4 ,sleep eight h\rs e night4 ,d ev]y?+ t means keep+ 9 good heal?4 ,s*ool y\rself n to worry2 worry kills1 "w does n4 ,avoid liquors ( all k9ds4 ,if y mu/ smoke1 smoke mod]ately4 ,%un discussion on two po9ts--religion & politics4 ,& la/1 b n lea/1 m>ry a true woman1 & h y\r own home4 ,,iv ,,8 ,,social ,,life ,,& ,,amusem5ts ,! social life ( a "y man has a direct & important be>+ ^u 8 success1 & he _c be too c>eful ( :at =ms ( amusem5t he all[s to come into 8 h\rs ( leisure4 ,f a bus9ess /&po9t x is all-important t he keep a c>eful wat* on 8 social habits4 ,= x is n en\gh = any "y man t he %\ld only take c>e ( himself dur+ 8 work+-h\rs4 ,to social dissipations at night c be trac$ ! d[nfall ( hundr$s ^u hundr$s ( "y m54 ,! idea t an employ] has no control ov] a "y man's "t away f ! (fice is a dang]\s fallacy4 ,an employ] has e "r to ask t ^? into ^: h&s he intru/s responsibilities %all foll[ social habits :i* w n endang] 8 int]e/s ^u ! morr[4 ,s f> z social life is conc]n$1 "y m5 g5]ally run to extremes4 ,ei!r !y d n g out at all1 :i* is /agnat+1 or !y g out too mu*1 :i* is deadly4 ,only "h & !re is f\nd "o :o kn[s ! happy m$ium2 a c]ta9 am\nt ( social div]sion is ess5tial to ev]ybody--boy1 man1 girl1 or woman2 & p>ticul>ly s to a "y man ) a c>e] to make4 ,to come into contact ) ! social side ( p is broad5+2 x is educative4 ,to "k p1 says a writ]1 y mu/ see !m at play4 ,social life c be made a /udy at ! same "t t x is made a pleasure4 ,to "k ! wants ( p1 to le>n _! s(t] side1 y mu/ come into contact ) _! social natures4 ,no "y man c af=d to d5y himself c]ta9 pleasures1 or a reasonable am\nt ( contact ) p 9 ! out] _w4 ,x is to 8 advantage t p %\ld "k he exi/s2 x is important to ! wise %ap+ ( 8 aims & aspirations4 ,x is well = him to keep himself honorably 9 ! eyes ( p4 ,8 ev5+ div]sions %\ld be z widely diff]5t f 8 occupations dur+ ! day z possible4 ,! m9d ne$s a *ange ( ?\ght z well z does ! body a *ange ( raim5t4 ,all "w & no play makes ,jack a dull boy conta9s a va/ am\nt ( tru?4 ,at ! same "t1 no?+ is m injuri\s to ! *ances ( a "y man 9 bus9ess ?an an ov]-indulg5ce 9 ! pleasures ( :at1 = ! want ( a bett] ^w1 we call society4 ,x is a r\gh b a true say+ t a man _c dr9k :isky & be 9 bus9ess4 ,p]haps a s(t] & m ref9$ translation ( ?is is t a man _c be 9 society & be 9 bus9ess4 ,?is is impossible1 & no?+ t a "y man c be> 9 m9d w /& him to su* good acc\nt z ?is fact4 ,no m9d c be fre% 9 ! morn+ t has be5 kept at a t5sion ! night be=e by late h\rs1 or be5 befogg$ by indulg5ce 9 late supp]s4 ,we ne$ m sleep at tw5ty or tw5ty-five ?an we d at fifty2 & ! "y man :o grants himself less ?an eight h\rs' sleep e night j robs himself ( s mu* vitality4 ,s f> z ! requir$ am\nt ( sleep+ is conc]n$1 ,i hold to ?is inexorable rule3 sleep eight h\rs e night & an extra h\r :5ev] possible4 ,! mo/ successful m5 h repeat$ly ackn[l$g$ t to a regul>ity 9 h\rs ( retir+ !y c trace a l>ge "p ( _! ability to compass ! que/ions :i* ent] into a successful c>e]4 ,"o rule %\ld be positive ) e "y man3 ! midnight h\rs %\ld be pass$ 9 sleep2 & by ^! h\rs ,i mean elev5 & twelve o'clock4 ,if a "y man makes x a rule to be asleep by elev5 & up by sev51 he *ooses ! c\rse :i* hundr$s ( ! mo/ successful m5 ( ! day h *os54 ,! loss ( vitality br\ght by less ?an eight h\rs' sleep may n be felt or notic$ at pres5t1 b ! process ( sleep+ is only nature's bank+ sy/em ( pr9cipal & int]e/4 ,a m9d capable ( ! fulfilm5t ( its highe/ duties %\ld be receptive to ideas1 quick to compreh5d1 in/antane\s 9 its conception ( a po9t4 ,) a fre% m9d & a cle> bra9 a "y man has two ( ! greate/ lev]s ( success4 ,^! _c be reta9$ "u social indulg5ces4 ,! dissipation ( a night has its inv>iable influ5ce ^u ! "w ( ! morr[4 ,i d n prea* total ab/95ce ( any habits to :i* human nature is prone4 ,e man ought to "k :at is good = him & :at is injuri\s to 8 be/ int]e/s4 ,b an excess ( any?+ is injuri\s1 & a "y man on ! ?re%old ( a bus9ess c>e] _c af=d to be excessive 9 a s+le direction4 ,he %\ld husb& 8 res\rces4 ,he w ne$ !m all4 ,= no success is easily made 9 ^! days4 ,appe>ances are trem5d\sly deceptive 9 ?is respect4 ,we see m5 mak+ :at we *oose to reg>d & :at are kn[n z quick successes1 because at a comp>atively e>ly age !y acquire position or means4 ,b "o ne$s only to /udy ! conditions ( ! bus9ess life ( to-day to see h[ impossible x is to a*ieve any success except by ! sev]e/ pati5ce & by ! v h>de/ "w4 ,no "y man ne$ approa* a bus9ess c>e] ) ! idea t its a*ievem5t is easy4 ,! hi/ories ( successful m5 tell u all too cle>ly ! lessons ( ! pati5ce & ef=ts ( ye>s4 ,"s m5 compass a successful c>e] 9 less "t ?an o!rs4 ,& if ! me?ods employ$ are necess>ily diff]5t1 ! requirem5ts are precisely ! same4 ,x is a /ory ( h>d "w 9 e case1 ( close application1 & ( a pati5t ma/]y ( ! problem 9 h&4 ,advantages ( education w come 9 at times & pu% "o man ahead ( ano!r4 ,b a practical bus9ess k is apt to be a great] possession4 ,b1 says "s "y fell[1 :at are ! social pleasures & indulg5ces :i* injuri\sly affect a "y man's success8 ,only "o g5]al answ] c be giv51 & x is ?is3 any social pleasure or indulg5ce :i* affects a "y man's heal? affects 8 success4 ,good heal? is ! f\ndation ( all possible success 9 life2 affect ! "o & y affect ! o!r4 ,i presume x is safe to say t no s+le elem5t 9 social life has injur$ s _m "y m5 z an indulg5ce 9 intoxicat+ liquors1 & ,i %all treat ( ?is fir/4 ,& 9 do+ s ,i %all take ! matt] entirely away f ! moral /&po9t1 & place x simply on its be/ & wise/ basis1 t ( pr9ciple4 ,_m a writ]--too _m1 alas6--has held =? on ?is subject ( w9e-dr9k+ & "y m51 & po9t$ out its moral aspects4 ,?is is all v well z f> z x goes2 b ,i ?9k t if m writ]s plac$ _! "y-m5 read]s on _! honor 9 ?is matt] x w\ld be inf9itely bett]4 ,x is n a "q ( :e!r x is "r or wrong = a "y man to indulge 9 spiritu\s dr9ks1 s f> z 8 success is conc]n$4 ,x simply am\nts to "o ?+3 he absolutely _c d x4 ,& ,i c say ?is to e "y fell[ f my own exp]i5ce & obs]vation z a "y man :o1 :5 he />t$ out1 did n "k exactly :at position to take4 ,i 0 ab\t sixte5 ye>s old1 if ,i rememb] rightly1 :5 ,i began att5d+ public d9n]s & assemblages 9 ! capacity ( a newspap] report]4 ,w9es 7 !n m freely us$ at d9n]s ?an n[1 & ,i soon saw t ,i mu/ make up my m9d :e!r at ^! ga!r+s ,i %\ld p>take ( w9es or decl9e !m4 ,i _h be5 tra9$ to ! belief t x 0 always be/ to err on ! safe side1 & z ,i sat d[n to my fir/ public d9n]--a ,new ,engl& d9n] 9 ,brooklyn--,i %ield$ ! w9e-glasses set be=e me z ! wait]s came to my plate1 & ?is practice ,i h foll[$ ev] s9ce4 ,at fir/ my pr9ciple nev] to t\* liquor or spirits ( any k9d direct$ to me ! *aff+s ( my fri5ds4 ,i 0 told x look$ babyi%2 t ,i c\ld n expect to g out mu* & keep to my pr9ciple2 t ,i w\ld (t5 f9d x consid]$ disc\rte\s to refuse a simple glass ( w9e t5d]$ by my ho/ess4 ,b ,i made up my m9d t !re 0 no use ( hav+ a pr9ciple unless "o /uck to x4 ,& ,i soon saw t p respect$ me ! m = x4 ,& j let me say "r "h to all "y m53 ,i nev] lo/ "o fri5d by my refusals1 b ,i made scores ( fri5d%ips--( m51 f "o :o has occupi$ ! presid5tial *air d[n2 ( wom51 among :om are ! be/ & mo/ fam\s 9 our l& to-day4 ,i hone/ly believe t a "y man :o />ts out 9 life ) a fix$ pr9ciple--:e!r x be t he w n dr9k1 or smoke1 or indulge 9 any?+ :i* 9 8 he>t he feels is n good = him1 or 9 :i* he does n consci5ti\sly believe--& adh]es to t pr9ciple1 no matt] "u :at circum/ances he may be plac$1 holds 9 8 h& "o ( ! mo/ p[]ful elem5ts ( success 9 ! _w to-day4 ,!re is a great deal ( common s5se abroad 9 ?is _w ( ours1 & a "y man ) a good pr9ciple is always safe to dep5d ^u x4 ,! m5 & wom5 ^: fri5d%ips are wor? hav+ are ! m5 & wom5 :o h pr9ciples !mselves1 & respect !m 9 o!rs1 especially :5 !y f9d !m 9 a "y man4 ,ano!r ?+ :i* l$ me to make up my m9d nev] to t\* liquor 0 ! damage :i* ,i saw wr\ght by x ^u "s ( ! f9e/ m9ds ) :i* x 0 ev] my privilege to come 9 contact2 & ,i conclud$ t :at _h result$ injuri\sly to o!rs might prove s to me4 ,i h se51 ev5 9 my few ye>s ( pr(essional life1 "s ( ! sm>te/--yea1 brilliant--lit]>y m5 de?ron$ f spl5did positions ow+ to no?+ else b _! indulg5ce 9 w9e4 ,i h kn[n m5 ) sal>ies ( ?\s&s ( doll>s p] ye>1 occupy+ positions :i* hundr$s w\ld /rive a lifetime to atta91 come to begg>y f dr9k4 ,only rec5tly !re appli$ to me1 = any position ,i c\ld (f] him1 "o ( ! mo/ brilliant editorial writ]s 9 ! newspap] pr(ession--a man :o1 two ye>s ago1 easily comm&$ "o hundr$ doll>s = a s+le article 9 8 special field4 ,t man became s unreliable f dr9k t editors are n[ afraid ( 8 articles2 & al?\gh he c to-day write z =cible editorials z at any "t dur+ 8 life1 he sits 9 a cell> 9 "o ( our cities writ+ newspap] wrapp]s = "o doll> p] ?\s&4 ,& t is only "o in/ance ( sev]al ,i c\ld recite "h4 ,i d n hold my fri5d up z a t]rible example2 he is b a type :o conv9c$ me1 & may conv9ce o!rs1 t a cle> m9d & liquor d n g toge!r4 ,i "k x is said1 :5 "o br+s up su* an in/ance z ?is1 ,oh well1 t man drank to excess4 ,"o glass w hurt no "o4 ,h[ d ^! p "k t x w n8 ,"o drop ( k]os5e has be5 kn[n to ?r[ into flame an almo/ hopeless fire1 & "o glass ( liquor may fan into a flame a smold]+ sp>k hid away :]e we nev] ?\ght x exi/$4 ,! sp>k may be !re & x may n4 ,:y take ! risk8 ,liquor to a heal?y "y man w nev] d him ! lea/ p>ticle ( good2 x may d him h>m4 ,! man = :om ,i h absolutely no use is ! man :o is cont9ually ask+ a "y man to j h a little2 "o glass1 y "k4 ,a man :o w witt+ly urge a "y man :om he kn[s has a pr9ciple aga9/ liquor is a man = :om a halt] is too good4 ,!n1 z ,i look$ ar\nd & came to "k m ( p & ?+s1 ,i f\nd ! always unansw]able argum5t 9 favor ( a "y man's ab/95ce1 i4e41 t ! mo/ successful m5 9 ,am]ica to-day are ^? :o seldom1 if ev]1 lift a w9e-glass to _! lips4 ,becom+ int]e/$ 9 ?is fact1 ,i _h ! curiosity to p]sonally inquire into x1 & ( tw5ty-eight ( ! lead+ bus9ess m5 9 ! c\ntry ^: names ,i select$ at r&om1 tw5ty-two 7 ab/a9]s4 ,i made up my m9d t !re 0 "s reason = ?is4 ,if liquor br\ght safe pleasures1 :y did ^! m5 ab/a9 f x8 ,if1 z "s say1 x is a /imulant to a busy man1 :y did n ^! m51 direct+ ! l>ge/ bus9ess int]e/s 9 ?is c\ntry1 resort to x8 ,& :5 ,i saw t ^! 7 ! m5 ^: op9ions 9 great bus9ess matt]s 7 accept$ by ! lead+ conc]ns ( ! _w1 ,i conclud$ t _! judgm5t 9 ! use ( liquor w\ld satisfy me4 ,if _! judgm5t 9 bus9ess matt]s c\ld comm& ! respect & att5tion ( ! lead]s ( trade on bo? sides ( ! sea1 _! decision z to ! use ( liquor 0 n apt to be wrong4 ,at lea/1 x 0 good en\gh = me4 ,z opportunities h come to me to g into homes & public places1 ,i f9d t ,i d n occupy a solit>y position4 ,! t5d5cy to ab/a9 f liquor is gr[+ m & m among "y m5 ( to-day4 ,! brighte/ "y m5 ,i "k1 :o are fill+ positions ( p[] & promise1 nev] t\* a drop ( be]1 w9es1 or intoxicants ( any sort4 ,& ! "y man :o to-day makes up 8 m9d t he w be on ! safe side & adh]e to /rict ab/95ce w f9d t he is n alone4 ,he has n[ ! v be/ elem5t 9 bus9ess & social life 9 ! l>ge/ cities ( our l& ) him4 ,he w n be *id$ = 8 pr9ciple1 b ?r\gh x w comm& respect4 ,x w n ret>d him 9 comm]cial success1 b prove 8 sure/ help4 ,x w w9 him no enemies1 b br+ him ! fri5d%ip ( upright m5 & good wom54 ,x w w9 him sur] favor ?an aught else 9 eyes :i* he w sometime 9 8 life ?9k are ! sweete/ he has ev] look$ into4 ,x w insure him ! highe/ comm]cial e/eem & ! brighte/ social position4 ,& z x molds 8 "* 9 y\?1 s w x develop him into a successful man & a good citiz54 ,i "k "y m5 are sometimes incl9$ to believe t ab/95ce f w9es is apt to prove a b>ri] to _! social success4 ,x looks unsociable1 x is claim$4 ,b my own exp]i5ce has demon/rat$ to me o!rwise4 ,i h f\nd t a "y man's be/ & highe/ social success is assur$ j 9 proportion z he ab/a9s f w9es4 ,an indulg5ce 9 intoxicants ( any sort has nev] help$ a man to any social position wor? ! hav+2 on ! contr>y1 x has kept _m f atta9+ a position to :i* by bir? & good bre$+ & all o!r qualifications !y 7 entitl$4 ,no "y man w ev] f9d t ! pr9ciple ( ab/95ce f liquor is a b>ri] to any success1 social1 comm]cial1 or o!rwise4 ,on ! o!r h&1 x is ! "o pr9ciple 9 8 life :i* w1 9 ! long run1 help him m ?an any o!r4 ,& t\*+ ! po9t ( etiquette on ?is "q1 :e!r x is 9 bett] =m 9 dr9k+ w9es at d9n] to turn d[n "o's glasses or h !m remov$1 ,i w\ld say1 nei!r4 ,simply %ield ! glasses ) ! h& z ! wait] rea*es y\r place at ! table ) ea* c\rse ( w9e4 ,turn+ d[n "o's w9e-glasses or caus+ !m to be remov$ f ! table always seems to me to be an unnecess>y & r a disagreeable way ( pron\nc+ "o's pr9ciples4 ,s f> z ! habit ( smok+ is conc]n$--:e!r x takes ! =m ( a cig>ette1 cig>1 or pipe--,i d n believe 9 ! idea :i* tells a "y man t he mu/ n smoke4 ,i say1 r1 he w be wise/ if he does n smoke4 ,8 heal? w be ! bett] = x & 8 pocket-book ! fatt]4 ,if ! physical or m5tal injury to be d]iv$ f smok+ is an op5 "q1 ! good x does is n4 ,smok+ does absolutely no good to any "o2 x is simply a "q ( ! ext5t ( h>m t x does4 ,b if a "y fell[ is incl9$ to smoke1 if he has a ta/e = x t he feels he mu/ indulge1 !n ,i say1 smoke mod]ately4 ,! greate/ dang] 9 smok+ is 9 ! imp]ceptible gr[? ( ! habit2 & ?is is p>ticul>ly true ( cig>ette-smok+1 n[ s preval5t among "y m54 ,unless a "y man has himself well 9 h&1 & c gov]n 8 passions1 he w f9d t cig>ette-smok+ has a na/y way ( gr[+ ^u "o4 ,he may at fir/ smoke only two or ?ree cig>ettes p] day4 ,aft] a :ile he adds a f\r?4 ,9 a ye> x w be five p] day2 & s x goes on multiply+1 b nev] dim9i%+1 until ! habit gets a hold :i* _m f9d x impossible to %ake (f4 ,!n foll[ irritability1 n]v\sness1 loss ( memory & ( appetite1 & all k9dr$ compla9ts1 :i* are kill+ to a "y fell['s heal?1 & necess>ily to 8 success & happ9ess4 ,?is1 to my m9d1 is ! dang] :i* lurks 9 tobacco2 ! actual h>m is n 9 its use1 b 9 its abuse4 ,& use easily leads to abuse 9 ! va/ majority ( cases4 ,an excuse is always at h& to make an extra cig>ette or cig> p]missible on a special occasion4 ,b aft] a bit special occasions multiply4 ,i believe t if "y m5 w\ld n smoke until !y atta9$ _! ?irtie? ye>1 x w\ld be ! wise/ solution ( ?is :ole "q4 ,"o ?+ is c]ta93 ! "y man :o does n smoke is f> bett] (f ?an he :o does2 & ,i ?9k any "o addict$ to tobacco w agree ) ?is /atem5t4 ,x is only natural t no "y man desires to rema9 at home e ev5+ ( ! week2 & ! "q naturally arises1 ,:at are ! be/ amusem5ts = a "y fell[8 ,& on ?is po9t op9ions mu/ necess>ily diff]4 ,= example1 !re is ! "q ( att5dance at ! !at]4 ,!re are p--& delightful1 good1 & consci5ti\s p !y are1 too--:o s9c]ely disapprove ( ! !at]4 ,to _! m9ds ! playh\se is simply a trick ( ! devil to lure "y m5 to de/ruction4 ,&1 z plays g n[adays1 ,i mu/ confess t !y are n f> f ! "r4 ,our !at]s are unque/ionably suff]+ f a deluge ( plays mo/ ( :i* are morally bad & "s ( :i* are arti/ically wor?less4 ,b ! dramatic hi/ory ( e c\ntry has waves ( ?is sort4 ,to condemn ! !at] z an in/itution1 h[ev]1 & say to "y m5 indiscrim9ately t !y mu/ keep away f x1 is1 to my m9d1 wrong4 ,because !re are bad plays x does n necess>ily foll[ t !re are no good plays4 ,!re are--n 9 pl5ty1 ,i confess1 b nev]!less !y exi/4 ,i believe 9 ! !at] 9 mod]ation1 s long z good actors & good plays are select$4 ,!n ,i hold t ! !at] is a s\rce ( education to a "y man4 ,x w br+ be=e him ! lessons ( life 9 a m effective way ?an is possible by any me?od ( read+ or /udy+4 ,b no g5]al rule c be foll[$ 9 ?is =m1 or1 = t matt]1 9 any o!r =m ( amusem5t4 ,to "s "y m5 ! !at] is an absolute h>m1 & has an injuri\s effect4 ,if he is ( susceptible m9d & ( weak "*1 he w be influ5c$ by ! life he sees on ! /age1 believe x to be real1 &1 (ttimes z n1 he w fa%ion 8 own life & desires by x4 ,?is is :]e ! !at] does positive injury1 & su* a "y man %\ld nev] att5d x4 ,if1 h[ev]1 he is /rong ( "*1 & goes to ! !at] 9 ! "r _s1 ,i believe x is good = him4 ,a good play is a wond]ful /imulant1 a p[]ful rejuv5ant ( spirits4 ,x pleases ! s5ses z no?+ else c d2 x takes ! m9d away f e-day affairs 9 a way t no factor 9 life1 save1 p]haps1 a good book1 does4 ,& a good play is z b5eficial z a good book4 ,z ,i h said be=e1 x is un=tunate t we h s few really good plays on ! bo>ds ( our !at]s2 b !y are !re1 & we c f9d !m if we w only look out = !m4 ,& ) c>e 9 our selection1 x does u all good to g to ! !at] & enjoy a he>ty laugh1 or to see ! mirror held up to nature4 ,"y m5 are (t5 puzzl$1 too1 z to ! "r position to assume z reg>ds danc+4 ,s f> z ?is =m ( amusem5t is conc]n$1 ,i h always lik$ to believe t danc+1 l go+ to ! !at]1 is good :5 enjoy$ 9 mod]ation4 ,its unheal?y possibilities 9 a moral s5se no "y fell[ ( ! "r sort ev] ?9ks ( or consid]s4 ,x is only :5 !y are discuss$--z1 un=tunately1 !y are all too (t5 9 pr9t--t !y sugge/ !mselves4 ,danc+1 to my m9d1 :5 x is n indulg$ 9 promiscu\sly1 b ) fri5ds & acqua9tances ( ! opposite sex1 is "o ( ! highe/ =ms ( enjoym5t1 & "o t gives to a "y fell[ :at we all %\ld possess1 grace & ! ability to c>ry ourselves well4 ,b1 l all good ?+s1 danc+ c be abus$1 & !n ! injuri\s effects come 94 ,if a "y fell[ goes to a dance1 & dances all ev5+ )\t any reg>d to 8 physical abilities1 he exhau/s himself & is unfit = 8 regul> duties on ! morr[4 ,:5 ! practice is foll[$ 9 ?is wise1 & a late supp]--:i* g5]ally means cold or ic$ foods on a heat$ /oma*--is indulg$ 91 !n "o ( ! mo/ graceful & enjoyable ( pleasures is tak5 out ( its prop] place & becomes an injury4 ,!re is "o ?+1 h[ev]1 :i* a "y man c>v+ 8 own c>e] 9 ! _w soon f9ds out = himself1 & x is t dances1 z a rule1 are v exhau/+ pleasures & g5]ally mean late h\rs4 ,& aft] a :ile he feels t !y int]f]e ) 8 bus9ess duties on ! foll[+ day4 ,!n x is t he mu/ make a *oice1 &1 ( c\rse1 danc+ mu/ suff] & g by ! bo>d1 s to speak4 ,z ,i h said a few p>agraphs back1 any social pleasure :i* int]f]es ) a "y fell['s be/ bus9ess int]e/s is bad4 ,:at "o "y man c /& ano!r _c1 & h5ce e "o mu/ decide = himself4 ,he ne$ only keep 8 heal? 9 m9d4 ,if he f9ds t any pleasure--:e!r x be att5dance at ! !at]1 danc+1 or :at n--makes him wi% next day t he _h n indulg$ 9 x1 x %\ld be p]fectly cle> to him t t p>ticul> social pleasure is n = him1 & he %\ld give x up4 ,c>d-play+ has nev] _h any special attraction = me1 & s ,i c say v little = x4 ,a good game ( :i/1 eu*re1 cribbage1 or he>ts is enjoyable2 b ,i h always felt t play+ at :i/1 p>ticul>ly ) exp]ts1 is m or less ( a m5tal /ra91 & %\ld n be indulg$ 9 by ^? :o are requir$ to use _! m5tal faculties dur+ ! day4 ,to "s1 h[ev]1 x is a relaxation1 a recreation1 & to ^! x is good4 ,i am incl9$ to believe1 h[ev]1 t ! game ( pok] is "o :i* a "y man w be wise/ if he does n le>n1 s9ce x is almo/ inv>iably associat$ ) gambl+4 ,& gambl+ at c>ds1 or gambl+ or bett+ ( any sort :atev]1 is a practice 9 :i* no self-respect+ "y fell[ c indulge4 ,x is g5]ally ! fir/ /ep d[nw>d2 & :e!r x t5ds 9 t way or n1 x always1 )\t exception1 has its evil effects4 ,!re=e x is wise/ to %un x1 & %un x absolutely4 ,! gr[? ( outdoor sports 9 ?is c\ntry has made ?\s&s ( "y m5 int]e/$ 9 :eel+1 t5nis1 base-ball1 foot-ball1 & k9dr$ sports2 & no national sign is m enc\rag+4 ,! deep] ! int]e/ :i* e "y man ev9ces 9 manly sports ! bett] x is n only = him 9 e possible way1 b = ! g5]ation succe$+ him4 ,x betok5s a clean1 heal?y m9d :5 a "y fell[ takes an hone/1 s9c]e int]e/ 9 outdoor sports4 ,b ! great dang] is 9 ov]do+ ?is4 ,sports are spl5did 9 _! place & at _! "t1 b too _m ( our "y m5 all[ !m to int]f]e ) _! bus9ess int]e/s4 ,a "y man 9 bus9ess _c all[ 8 int]e/ 9 base-ball1 or any o!r sport1 to become s absorb+ z to take fir/ place 9 8 m9d4 ,!re is no e>?ly reason :y an int]e/ 9 foot-ball1 base-ball1 or any o!r sport1 conf9$ )9 prop] b\nds & at ! prop] "t1 %\ld n be good4 ,b :5 a "y fell[ f9ds t he kn[s ! /&+ ( ! base-ball clubs 9 ! v>i\s leagues1 or ! names ( ! play]s1 or _! batt+ av]age1 bett] ?an he kn[s ! names ( ! cu/om]s ( 8 employ]1 or ! prices ( ! goods he is paid to sell1 or ! disc\nts ( 8 h\se1 !n ,i say 8 int]e/ is direct$ aga9/ 8 own good4 ,base-ball1 or any o!r k9d ( ball1 is a spl5did ?+--9 its place4 ,nor is an int]e/ 9 any legitimate sport or game h>mful s long z x is kept )9 b\nds & n all[$ to occupy ! m9d to ! detrim5t ( bus9ess int]e/s4 ,:at are call$ base-ball cranks or bicycle fi5ds or foot-ball en?usia/s are nev] good bus9ess m51 & _! /&+ 9 ! community is on a p> ) _! ov]wr\ght int]e/4 ,a "y man's social life & 8 indulg5ces mu/1 9 o!r words1 be temp]$ ) reason & common s5se4 ,he %\ld h a social side to 8 nature1 b t side mu/ n dom9ate him4 ,if x does1 x affects 8 bus9ess int]e/s2 & a "y man ^: ?\ghts dur+ bus9ess h\rs are fix$ ^u a pleasure ( ! ev5+ be=e1 or ^u a sport ( ! morr[1 soon f9ds himself outdi/anc$ 9 ! race = success by o!rs :o keep su* ?+s 9 _! prop] places4 ,a little common s5se "h c\nts = mu*4 ,x c\nts = ev]y?+1 9 fact4 ,v ,,s[+ ,,8 ,,wild ,,oats ,x is a common say+1 & a belief equally z g5]al1 t x is n only ess5tial1 b x is assum$ z "r1 t a "y man %\ld1 at "s "t 9 8 life1 s[ 8 wild oats4 ,?is s[+ ( "o's wild oats means1 9 pla9] words1 t a "y man %\ld h 8 fl+1 z x is call$2 t is1 he mu/ see ! _w4 ,n[1 x has always seem$ to me a great mis=tune t ! man :o fram$ t s5t5ce ( s[+ wild oats did n die be=e he con/ruct$ x4 ,f ! way "s p talk "o w\ld imag9e t e man _h in/ill$ into him at 8 bir? a c]ta9 am\nt ( deviltry1 :i* he mu/ get rid ( be=e he c become a man ( honor4 ,= :at is call$ s[+ wild oats is no?+ m nor less ?an self-degradation to any "y man4 ,x does n make a man "o p>ticle m ( a man because he has pass$ ?r\gh a siege ( riot\s liv+ & indiscretion :5 he 0 n9ete51 tw5ty1 or tw5ty-five2 x makes him j s mu* less ( a man4 ,x dw>fs 8 views ( life f> m ?an x broad5s !m4 ,& he realizes ?is aft]w>d4 ,he does n "k "o iota m ( life1 except a c]ta9 phase ( x1 :i*1 if x has glitt] = him 9 y\?1 becomes a repell5t remembrance to him :5 he is matur$4 ,! reputation & p[] t comes ( "r liv+ & good "* are :at ! man f =ty to sev5ty covets1 & no?+ b ! well-sp5t ye>s ( e>ly life c secure ^!4 ,!re is no su* ?+ z an inve/igation p]iod 9 a man's life2 at "o p]iod x is z important = him to be honorable & true to ! tea*+s ( 8 "m z at ano!r4 ,to my m9d no "y man ne$ seek ?is d>k] side ( life :i* ! s[+ ( wild oats means4 ,! good ,"l kn[s t x =ces itself ^u our att5tion soon en\gh4 ,x does n wait to be s\ght4 ,a "y man ne$ n be afraid t he w fail to see x4 ,he w see pl5ty ( x1 & )\t any seek+ on 8 "p1 ei!r4 ,& ev5 if he does fail to become conv]sant ) x1 he is ! ga9] 9 ! end4 ,!re are a great _m ?+s :i* we c accept by inf]5ce z exi/+ 9 ?is _w4 ,x is n a lib]al education to see !m4 ,too _m "y m5 h a burn+ it* to see wick$ness--n to indulge 9 x1 z !y are quick to expla91 b simply to see x4 ,b ! ?\s&s ( m5 :o h nev] se5 x h nev] felt !mselves ! los]s4 ,if any?+1 !y are glad ( x4 ,x does n raise a man's ideal to come into contact ) c]ta9 types ( manhood or womanhood :i* are only remov$ f ! l[e/ types ( ! animal k+dom by virtue ( ! fact t ! ,creator *ose to h !m get ?r\gh ! _w on two legs in/ead ( f\r4 ,! l(tie/ ideal ( womanhood t a "y man c =m 9 8 impressionable days w prove none too high = him 9 8 ye>s ( maturity4 ,to be true to ! be/ t is )9 a man means1 above all1 to be an e>ne/ believ] 9 ! v be/ qualities ( womanhood4 ,let him accept by inf]5ce t !re are two types ( woman1 ! good & ! bad4 ,b he w be wis] & happi] if he associate only ) ! =m]4 ,!re are hundr$s ( good wom5 9 ?is _w to e "o ( ! contra/+ elem5t4 ,no "y man has1 !re=e1 a valid excuse = seek+ ! latt]4 ,sometimes ?is s[+ ( wild oats is deem$ necess>y to insure to a "y man :at is call$ a broad] view ( life2 :]eas1 9 reality1 no means t c\ld be devis$ gives him su* a contract$1 n>r[1 & unsatisfactory /&>d4 ,a broad view ( life means ! cultivation ( a m9d t c take 9 e "p ( ! horizon ( ! true/ liv+2 t c see good 9 ev]y?+2 t accepts ! good1 & rejects1 n inve/igates1 ! bad4 ,we c always leave t = "s "o else to d4 ,! outlook f ! :eel-h\se ( an ocean /eam] is f> bett] ?an x is f ! /oke-hole4 ,curiosity may lead "s p to g d[n & look into ! /oke-holes ( life2 b take my ^w = x1 y w f9d ! atmosph]e pur] & ! vision cle>] if y /ay 9 ! :eel-h\se4 ,to see ! :eels g r\nd is a v in/ructive ?+ to d 9 directions :]e ! motive is a good "o1 prompt$ by l(ty ideas4 ,b "s :eels are f> bett] unse54 ,satisfy a heal?y curiosity always1 b %un ! o!r k9d4 ,!re is no satisfaction to be _h1 & a man ^: curiosity ov]comes him is always disgu/$ ) ! poor return he receives = 8 tr\ble4 ,! "y man :o rea*es manhood )\t a k ( ! d>k & vici\s side ( human nature is f> bett] (f ?an ! "o :o has se5 x4 ,he w lose no?+ by n hav+ se5 x2 n an ounce less ( respect w be met$ out to him4 ,b he w feel pr\d] ( himself1 & m5 w respect him inf9itely m = ! /r5g? ( 8 w-p[]4 ,n long s9ce a "y fell[ wrote to me 9 ?is connection1 & said 9 8 lett]3 ,:at's ! use ( lead+ a /raight life8 ,nobody gives y cr$it = x4 ,society expects a m or less div]t+ life f a "y fell[2 x accepts him z su*4 ,practically1 x calls him a 'n9ny' if he doesn't div]ge f ! /raight pa? once 9 a :ile4 ,x only asks ( him t he %all n be caught4 ,i c sc>cely imag9e a view ( life s entirely wrong 9 its p]sonal application4 ,! real use ( lead+ a /raight life is app>5tly absolutely ov]look$ by ?is "y man1 :o seems to ?9k t 8 life is liv$ = o!rs r ?an = himself4 ,! use ( lead+ an honorable life conc]ns itself ) ! "y man himself4 ,he is acc\ntable to himself--to 8 own consci5ce1 to 8 own he>t4 ,( :at possible satisfaction is x to get cr$it f o!rs = do+ :at is be/ = "o's self8 ,m5 d n lead honorable lives = ! sake ( gett+ cr$it = x--to w9 ! h& ( applause4 ,!y d x = !mselves2 = _! own inn] satisfaction1 t !y may be true to !mselves & to ! be/ t is )9 !m4 ,aside f ?is p>am\nt fact1 h[ev]1 p d give a "y man cr$it = ! life t he leads1 & !y are f> m (t5 aw>e ( x ?an ! "y man supposes4 ,b x dep5ds ^u ! p ^: favor ! "y man values4 ,if he seeks ! recognition ( :at is s wrongly call$ & kn[n z society1 a righte\s life1 an upright life1 an honorable life--9 o!r words1 a manly life--may n c\nt = s mu*4 ,b ! aimless m5 & silly wom5 :o con/itute t body call$ society figure = no?+ 9 ! life ( an e>ne/ "y man4 ,if1 h[ev]1 he associates ) m5 :o 9 8 develop+ days c mean mu* to him1 & ^: acqua9tance 9 lat] ye>s w be a pride & a joy to him1 if he f9ds company 9 wom5 :o ar\se 8 be/ ?\ghts & true/ motives1 he w f9d t 8 life1 free f blemi%1 is appreciat$1 is und]/ood1 is recogniz$1 & is kn[n4 ,!re is an indef9able *ord :i* always draws ! "r m5 to ! "y man ( pure life4 ,!y are ! m5 :o give cr$it to a "y fell[ :o tries to live aright1 & !y are ! only m5 wor? 8 kn[+4 ,^! m5 may n op5ly applaud him1 b !y w give him _! confid5ce1 _! good w1 _! fri5d%ip2 & 9 lat] ye>s he w m fully und]/& :at ^! elem5ts mean to him4 ,^! m5 d n call a "y man a n9ny :5 he leads an upright life2 !y call him a manly fell[1 & !y take him into _! he>ts & into _! homes4 ,by ! be/ "p ( mank9d a "y man is always kn[n by 8 true color4 ,( t he ne$ nev] fe>4 ,an adh]5ce to high pr9ciples %[s itself 9 e ?\ght & e action ( a "y man1 & x always c\nts = some?+ & mu*4 ,& z he progresses 9 life1 & a cle>] und]/&+ ( ! "r k9d ( liv+ comes to him1 he w see ) 8 own eyes t ! m5 :o hold ! true respect ( ! _w are ! m5 :o 7 pure-liv$ & :o c fe>lessly & hone/ly look e man & woman 9 ! eye4 ,,vi ,,9 ,,matt]s ,,( ,,dress ,we may l x or n1 b we are judg$ 9 ?is _w fir/ = :at we are1 b also z we look2 & a "y man's common s5se %\ld tea* him t x is always wise to create a good impression4 ,x does mu* = him1 & he _c af=d to ignore x4 ,good clo!s _c make a "y man1 b !y are a help2 & :5 c>v+ out a c>e] x is only pure ju/ice to himself t he %\ld take advantage ( e po9t (f]$ him4 ,9 o!r words1 ,i believe x is a duty :i* e "y man owes to himself to be well dress$4 ,b to be well dress$ does n necess>ily imply ! highe/-pric$ clo!s1 cut accord+ to ! late/ patt]ns4 ,x is j z possible to be well attir$ 9 clo!s ( mod]ate co/1 s long z !y are n l\d or %[y1 b quiet & neat4 ,! av]age "y fell[ und\bt$ly errs 9 ?is matt] ( dress4 ,) 8 ta/es unfix$1 9 ! majority ( cases he goes to ei!r "o ( two extremes3 he ei!r dresses %abbily because he claims he _c af=d to d o!rwise1 or he goes to ! o!r extreme & tries to imitate ! /yles affect$ by ! extremi/s 9 dress1 & necess>ily makes himself an object ( ridicule4 ,clo!s are mod]ate en\gh 9 price n[adays to make x possible = e "y man1 no matt] h[ humble 8 income1 to be neatly attir$4 ,! secret ( a neat appe>ance 9 dress does n dep5d ^u ! numb] ( suits he may h1 b ^u ! mann] 9 :i* ev5 a s+le suit is tak5 c>e ( & h[ x is worn4 ,_m a "y man ) a w>drobe ( b two suits ( clo!s looks neat] ?an ano!r :o has five or six suits ) :i* to alt]nate4 ,! art ( look+ well dep5ds1 fir/1 ^u ! *oice ( a suit1 &1 second1 h[ x is tak5 c>e (4 ,if a "y man has a mod]ate income he %\ld make x a po9t to select only ! quiet patt]ns ( d>k colors4 ,n only is ?is m economical1 b x is 9 bett] ta/e ?an are ! light] & m conspicu\s clo!s4 ,if a "y man w look ar\nd him a bit1 he w f9d t ! successful m5 ( ! day are always ! mo/ quiet dress]s4 ,_! clo!s are nev] conspicu\s2 !y detract r ?an attract att5tion4 ,x is only ! fop ( %all[ m9d :o invites att5tion by 8 dress4 ,!re is a c]ta9 class ( pictures t require elaborate gilt frames 9 ord] to set (f ! little m]it !y possess2 & likewise are !re scores ( m5 :o mu/ dress conspicu\sly 9 ord] to ga9 ev5 ! mo/ meag] att5tion4 ,m5 :o are lea/ c]ta9 ( _! position always dress ! %[ie/4 ,h5ce if a "y man dresses quietly & neatly he pursues n only ! be/1 b ! only wise c\rse4 ,8 dress is a pretty accurate reflection ( 8 "*1 & v (t5 he is judg$1 to a c]ta9 ext5t1 by ! ta/e :i* he %[s 9 8 clo!s4 ,b :ile a "y man injures himself by %[y dress+1 he has no bus9ess to dress %abbily4 ,%abby clo!s are no long] an ecc5tricity ( g5ius4 ,!re are m5 ( g5ius :o h a*iev$ des]v$ fame & sub/antial success :o are absolutely indiff]5t to _! appe>ance4 ,& ! _w ov]looks & =gives x4 ,b ?is is only possible ) m5 ( comm&+ g5ius :o are e/abli%$2 & ! "y man :o takes ^! m5 z models s f> z attire goes makes a sorry mi/ake4 ,x is giv5 to m5 ( high position & ( e/abli%$ success to foll[ a great _m little ecc5tricities :i* are n ov]look$ 9 a "y man /ruggl+ = a c>e]4 ,aside f ! aspect ( m]e appe>ance1 neatness 9 dress is und\bt$ly a great inn] & out] factor 9 a "y man's success4 ,a neat suit ( clo!s communicates a s5se ( neatness to ! body1 &1 9 turn1 ?is s5se ( neatness ( ! p]son is ext5d$ to ! "w 9 h&4 ,z we feel1 s unque/ionably d we "w4 ,our clo!s unmi/akably affect our feel+s1 z any man kn[s :o has exp]i5c$ ! diff]5t s5sation t comes to him :5 attir$ 9 a new suit f ! feel+ :5 we>+ old clo!s4 ,no employ] expects 8 cl]ks ( mod]ate incomes to dress 9 ! imm$iate fa%ions1 b he likes to see !m neat 9 appe>ance4 ,x comm5ds !m to 8 att5tion4 ,we all h an inn] consci\sness t a "y man :o keeps himself look+ neat & clean is m wor?y ( our confid5ce ?an he :o is reg>dless ( 8 appe>ance & looks soil$ & %abby4 ,neatness always attracts1 j z %abb9ess inv>iably repulses4 ,p>ticul>ly w\ld ,i emphasize ! value ( clean l95 to a "y man4 ,!re is no e>?ly excuse :y any "y fell[ %\ld we> soil$ coll>s or cuffs4 ,soap & wat] are )9 ! rea* ( ! smalle/ purse1 & ! home or ! out] laundry is accessible to all4 ,no s+le elem5t 9 8 dress cuts m ( a figure 9 a "y man's success ?an 8 l954 ,h[ev] worn may be 8 clo!s1 8 appe>ance always invites clos] proximity :5 8 l95 is clean4 ,i d n wi% to be und]/ood z mak+ too mu* ( dress z a factor 9 a "y man's life4 ,b ,i believe 9 x suffici5tly1 & ,i h se5 evid5ces aga9 & aga9 to /r5g!n t belief1 t no "y fell[ anxi\s = 8 self-bett]m5t c af=d to slight 8 appe>ance4 ,no fair computation c be (f]$ z to :at p]c5tage ( 8 income he %\ld exp5d on 8 dress4 ,t dep5ds altoge!r too mu* on circum/ances4 ,b ,i ?or\ghly believe & /rongly c\nsel t he %\ld dress z well z 8 means all[2 no bett]1 b no worse4 ,money sp5t on a neat appe>ance is nev] wa/$ ) a man1 be he "y or old4 ,! *ief dang] :i* ! "y man has to battle ) is dress+ beyond 8 means4 ,a t5d5cy t[>d extravagance is nev] ju/ifiable1 no matt] :at may be 8 income4 ,extravagance is always wa/eful4 ,b nei!r mu/ he economize too closely4 ,9 a ^w1 he %\ld /rive always to look neat2 to pres5t ! be/ appe>ance he c4 ,! extreme /yles pres5t$ 9 m5's clo!s are l ! extreme /yles fa%ion$ = wom53 !y %\ld be left = ^? :o h l>ge w>drobes4 ,! "y man ( limit$ w>drobe _c af=d to h any?+ 9 x :i* is 9 ! imm$iate /yle "o ye> & out ( fa%ion ! next ye>4 ,quiet patt]ns 9 clo!s1 9 cravats1 9 %oes1 & 9 l95 are always 9 /yle4 ,! m>vel\s comb9ations we see 9 "y m5's clo!s1 ( extreme long coats1 ( light clo?s & l>ge patt]ns 9 suit+s1 ( razor-po9t$ %oes1 ( p9k %irts1 :ite coll>s1 & blue cravats1 are g5]ally worn by extremi/s 9 dress1 or by ^? ( m$iocre ta/es ^: exhibition ( ^? ta/es always keeps !m 9 ! l[] /ations ( life4 ,^! /yles %\ld nev] be affect$ by ! "y man :o wi%es to ga9 ! confid5ce ( 8 sup]iors 9 bus9ess1 or ! respect ( ! p 9 social life ^: fri5d%ips w be ( value & b5efit to him4 ,a "y man1 s f> z ?is matt] ( dress is conc]n$1 _c d bett] ?an always to rememb] ?is "o inflexible rule3 t ! be/ dress]s among m5 foll[ ! same me?od z d ! be/ dress]s among wom5--!y dress well1 b quietly4 ,& quiet dress+ is always 9 good ta/e4 ,,vii ,,8 ,,religi\s ,,life ,:5 a writ] seeks to pres5t ! religi\s life a be+1 be he "y man or patri>*1 x naturally foll[s t he c only be g5]al 9 :at he says4 ,religion is too mu* a matt] ( "o's inn]mo/ feel+s1 ( "o's own convictions1 to be gov]n$ by rule or example4 ,b 9 ^! days ( m5 m or less wise1 :5 _m ( ! tru?s :i* our =efa!rs held sacr$ are be+ discuss$ 9 s-call$ new lights1 & :5 ! convictions ( _m are di/urb$ by reason ( ^! new doctr9es1 x is well1 ,i ?9k1 t "y m5 %\ld be> 9 m9d "o or two fundam5tal tru?s s f> z ! religi\s side ( _! lives is conc]n$4 ,x is n )9 ! prov9ce ( ?is book to treat ei!r ( dogmas or cre$s1 or ( ! necessity ( *ur*-go+2 b x does come )9 its l9es to say ^! words to e "y man :o reads ?is *apt]3 ,no matt] :at pres5t revelations or subsequ5t discov]ies may prove or seek to disprove z to religi\s tea*+s1 "o great ess5tial c nev] be alt]$1 & t is ! necessity ( a firm fai?1 an absolute belief1 t a wise ,god rules ov] ?is univ]se & ov] ! de/9y ( ea* & e liv+ man1 woman1 or *ild4 ,:atev] con/itutes t ,god is n = u to solve4 ,! wise/ ( u c only dimly compreh5d x4 ,our m9ds are f9ite2 ! ,_s :o rules u is inf9ite2 & no?+ f9ite c compreh5d or und]/& ! inf9ite4 ,en\gh is x = u to "k t !re is a ,god1 t !re is a ,supreme ,be+1 a ,creator1 a ,rul]4 ,t is all x is giv5 u to "k4 ,x is all t ! new-born infant c "k2 x is all t ! f9e/ & ke5e/ m5tality ev] giv5 to man c "k4 ,b t !re is a great ,creator no "o c d\bt2 ev]y?+ 9 nature po9ts to t "o fact2 & ! "y man :o refuses to believe 9 ! exi/5ce ( a ,god makes ! greate/ & mo/ mom5t\s mi/ake ( 8 life4 ,)\t t fai?1 )\t t absolute conviction1 he is n only h9d]$ or crippl$ 9 :atev] he und]takes1 b he is simply helpless4 ,on t po9t he _c af=d to err2 to d\bt x1 ev5 9 ! light ( ! mo/ advanc$ k t c ev] be pres5t$1 he _c = "o s+le mom5t all[ himself4 ,?is mu* is absolute4 ,ano!r po9t is l unto x1 & x is t e p]son c g to t ,creator & ,disp5s] ( all good1 & receive1 ?r\gh supplication1 guidance 9 all affairs4 ,?is is b ano!r way ( express+ an e>ne/1 a he>tfelt1 an hone/ belief 9 pray]4 ,:atev] argum5ts may be br\ght to be> ^u ?is "q1 "o ?+ rema9s undisput$3 t an hone/ & e>ne/ pray] s5t =? f ! human he>t to its ,heav5ly ,fa!r1 = guidance or = help1 is sure1 & absolutely sure1 to br+ /r5g? & enlight5m5t to ! m9d4 ,no sci5tific analysis c refute ?is4 ,too _m millions ( p h exp]i5c$ ! tru? ( ?is 9 _! lives4 ,argum5t on ?is po9t is po9tless2 x is fruitless4 ,a "y man might z well argue t he lov$ 8 "m4 ,consci\s exp]i5ce does m ?an !oretical argum5t1 & t consci\s exp]i5ce has taught ! happie/ m5 & ! be/ wom5 :o ev] liv$ t !re is a direct communication betwe5 ,god & ! humble/ p]son :o ev] liv$1 & t a pray] = guidance s5t f ! he>t ( man to t ,god is nev] lo/4 ,!re is 9 e man & woman n alone sub/ance ( mat]ial matt]1 b a spiritual nature :i*1 if kept 9 daily contact ) its ,god1 f9ds a response su* z c come f no f9ite s\rce4 ,?is tru? no "y man c hesitate to believe--! efficacy ( pray]4 ,x requires no cre$ to believe x1 no dogma1 no =m ( religion4 ,x is a simple belief t to ask a heav5ly guidance 9 all ?+s good & "r means a fruition ( ! highe/ & be/ hopes ( a man4 ,) ?is absolute fai? 9 ! exi/5ce ( a ,god1 & 9 pray]1 only "o ?+ m is ne$$ to complete ! fundam5tal basis ( all religions--an hone/ ef=t to live accord+ to our consci5ce & to ! be/ & true/ t is )9 ourselves4 ,"h1 !n1 is a simple religion = any "y man4 ,if 8 he>t craves x & 8 m9d c compass x1 he c g deep] into ! "q & believe m4 ,b less he _c accept4 ,nor1 if he is wise1 w he wi% to accept less4 ,all objections fall be=e s simple a code ( belief4 ,x asks = no great m5tal capacity2 x is beyond ! m5tal p[] ( none4 ,! ris+ & sett+ ( ! sun1 ! com+ ( ! seasons1 ! d[nfall ( night ^u day1 ! bir? ( a *ild1 ! dea? ( a man--ev]y?+ proves to ! humble/ m9d t ?is is a religion :i* x c accept )\t hesitancy1 )\t a s+le misgiv+4 ,:5 we g beyond ^! fundam5tal pr9ciples we g into que/ions :i* are complex & op5 to individual con/ruction4 ,h[ev] a "y man may decide = himself ^? que/ions1 he _c %irk ! ?ree po9ts ,i h dwelt ^u4 ,!y w tea* him a respect = all sacr$ ?+s1 )\t :i* no man c e>n respect = himself4 ,!y w tea* him *>ity = ! faults ( o!rs1 )\t :i* none c hope = l5i5cy = 8 own %ortcom+s4 ,!y w tea* him to hold out ! help+ h& to o!rs1 )\t :i* he c himself nev] succe$4 ,!y w keep him close to ! tea*+s & ! beliefs ( 8 "m1 )\t :i* a "y man is untrue to ! s\rce f :i* he sprang4 ,i ?9k1 s f> z *ur* att5dance is conc]n$1 t a "y man s]ves 8 be/ int]e/s if he is a regul> att5dant at "s =m ( wor%ip4 ,i d n say he %\ld or mu/2 ,i simply believe he is wise/ if he does id5tify himself ) "s religi\s body :i* comes close/ to 8 ta/es & beliefs4 ,:atev] be ! faults ( ! *ur* z an in/itution1 a "y man mu/ nev] =get ! fact t x is an ord] born ( ,god1 t he sanction$ x1 & t if x has its %ortcom+s x is simply because man is n p]fect4 ,"y m5 ) _! critical faculties on ! al]t are prone to discov] "s s+le defect1 or :at looks to !m z a defect1 9 "s *ur* ) :i* !y are acqua9t$1 & fooli%ly condemn ! *ur* z an in/itution4 ,or !y w see hypocrisy /& out bold & cle> 9 "s man or woman kn[n z a dev\t att5dant at *ur*1 & !y condemn *ur*-memb]%ip z a :ole & belittle ! influ5ce ( religi\s tea*+s4 ,?is is wrong1 & h5ce x is unfair4 ,none ( u w\ld ?9k ( condemn+ all ! sweet fl[]s t gr[ simply because ( a few t are poison\s to ! t\*4 ,or1 because we "k "s wom5 :o d n foll[ righte\s lives1 we c]ta9ly w\ld n condemn ! entire sex ( wom51 :i* w\ld necess>ily include our own "m4 ,we _c condemn ! _m because ( ! few4 ,a "y man %\ld keep 8 m9d fix$ on ! purposes ( ! *ur* z an in/itution1 & ^? purposes affect him = ! reason t ! *ur* is to-day ! balanc+ p[] betwe5 ?is e>? be+ a *aos & :at x is4 ,x is ! greate/ safegu>d to home & society2 & because ( ! fact t x is su* a p[]ful safegu>d1 _m ?+s are made possible = him :i*1 )\t ! *ur*1 x w\ld be impossible = him to enjoy4 ,! *ur* is an indisp5sable factor 9 our mod]n life1 & x holds out m possibilities = good to a "y man ?an any o!r s+le in/itution4 ,its influ5ce is always sure1 & he c dep5d ^u x4 ,! be/ p ( our l& are its uphold]s4 ,! mo/ successful m5 are among its believ]s & wor%ip at its alt>4 ,wor%ip--true wor%ip ( ! he>t--does n imply a sickly s5tim5tality1 z "s "y m5 believe2 to g to *ur* is n babyi%1 nor to /ay away f x sm>t4 ,a true belief 9 ! *ur* & its fundam5tal tea*+s is "o ( ! manlie/ qualities :i* "o c possess4 ,9 its atmosph]e ( wor%ip ! spiritual--t is1 ! s(t] & g5tl]--side ( man dom9ates ! mat]ial side1 & to a "y man 9 ! race = success ?is is all-ess5tial4 ,no "y fell[ c af=d ei!r to disbelieve 9 ! *ur* or to sc(f at its work+s or influ5ce4 ,! me?ods pursu$ may n always be to our lik+ or to our way ( ?9k+1 b t is1 z ,i h said be=e1 simply because e>?ly h&s m9i/] ov] x4 ,b its aim is div9e1 & t e "y man mu/ believe & accept z a belief4 ,& "h let me say a ^w t\*+ ! application ( religi\s pr9ciples to a "y man's bus9ess life4 ,! "q is ask$1 & z (t5 discuss$3 ,is a life built ^u religi\s pr9ciples really compatible ) a "y man's bus9ess success8 ,or sometimes x is put3 ,does x really pay to be hone/ 9 bus9ess8 ,or aga93 ,c a "y fell[ be religi\s & yet successful8 ,( c\rse all are b v>iations ( ! same "q4 ,n[ ! simple fact ( ! matt] boil$ d[n is t a bus9ess success is absolutely impossible ^u any o!r basis ?an an honorable "o1 foll[$ ^u l9es ( ! v /ricte/ hone/y4 ,! great tr\ble ) "y m5 is t _! ideas are altoge!r too mu* influ5c$ by a few un=tunate examples ( app>5t success :i* are prom95t--too prom95t1 alas6--9 ,am]ican life to-day4 ,^! examples1 = ! mo/ "p repres5t+ politicians1 are reg>d$ 9 ! eyes ( ! _w z successful2 t is1 !y are talk$ ab\t incessantly2 int]view$ by report]s2 !y lavi%ly buy diamonds = _! wives & build co/ly h\ses2 & all ^! are duly report$ 9 ! newspap]s4 ,"y m5 read ^! ?+s & ask !mselves1 ,if he c1 :y n ,i8 ,!n !y beg9 to look ar\nd = "s %ort cut to success1 z "o "y fell[ express$ x to me n long s9ce4 ,& x is precisely ?r\gh ?is me?od ( cutt+ across lots 9 bus9ess t scores ( "y m5 f9d !mselves1 aft] a :ile1 completely baffl$4 ,& ! man :o has once _h ab\t him an unsavory ta9t 9 8 bus9ess me?ods r>ely--v r>ely--rids himself ( t atmosph]e 9 ! eyes ( 8 confr]es4 ,h[ (t5 we see "s "y man 9 bus9ess repres5tative ( ! v be/ qualities t %\ld w9 success6 ,e "o agrees t he is brilliant4 ,he is clev]1 is ! g5]al v]dict4 ,he impresses "o well 9 8 mann]1 he is ?or\ghly bus9esslike1 is en]getic1 & yet1 someh[ or o!r1 he nev] seems to get into a place & /ick !re4 ,p wond] at x1 & excuse x on ! gr\nd t he has n q f\nd 8 "r place4 ,b "s day ! secret is expla9$4 ,yes1 he is clev]1 says "s old bus9ess man1 b1 don't y "k1 he isn't--well1 he isn't j safe6 ,j safe6 ,h[ mu* t expresses2 h[ cle>ly t def9es hundr$s & hundr$s ( ! sm>te/ "y m5 9 bus9ess to-day6 ,he is ev]y?+ else1 b he isn't j safe6 ,he is n di%one/ 9 any way1 b he is1 :at is equally z bad1 n q reliable4 ,to atta9 success he has1 9 o!r words1 tri$ to cut across lots4 ,& ra9b[-*as+ is really a v comm5dable bus9ess 9 comp>ison ) a "y man's se>* = ! royal road to success4 ,no success wor? atta9+ is easy2 ! great] ! ob/acles to ov]come ! sur] is ! success :5 atta9$4 ,royal roads are poor highways to travel 9 any pursuit1 & especially 9 a bus9ess call+4 ,x is /range h[ reluctant "y m5 are to accept z ! mo/ vital tru? 9 life t ! mo/ absolute hone/y is ! only k9d ( hone/y t succe$s 9 bus9ess4 ,x is n a "q ( religion or religi\s beliefs4 ,hone/y does n dep5d ^u any religi\s cre$ or dogma t 0 ev] conceiv$4 ,x is a "q ( a "y man's own consci5ce4 ,he kn[s :at is "r & :at is wrong4 ,& yet1 simple z ! matt] is1 x is a/oni%+ h[ difficult x is ( und]/&+4 ,an hone/ c\rse 9 bus9ess seems too sl[ to ! av]age "y man4 ,i c't af=d to plod along4 ,i mu/ /rike1 & /rike quickly1 is ! s5tim5t4 ,ah yes1 my fri5d1 b n di%one/ly4 ,no "y man c af=d to ev5 ?9k ( di%one/y4 ,success on honorable l9es may sometimes seem sl[] 9 com+1 b :5 x does come x outrivals 9 p]man5cy all ! s-call$ successes ga9$ by o!r me?ods4 ,to look at ! me?ods ( o!rs is always a mi/ake4 ,! successes ( to-day are n giv5 to ! imitator1 b to ! orig9ator4 ,x makes no diff]5ce h[ o!r m5 may succe$--_! success is !irs & n y\rs4 ,y _c p>take ( x4 ,e man is a law unto himself4 ,! mo/ absolute integrity is ! "o & ! only sure f\ndation ( success4 ,su* a success is la/+ & ! only "o :i* w9s respect4 ,o!r k9ds ( successes may seem s1 b x is all 9 ! seem+ & n 9 ! reality4 ,let a "y man sw]ve f ! pa? ( hone/y & x w surprise him h[ quickly e av5ue ( a la/+ success is clos$ aga9/ him4 ,mak+ money di%one/ly is ! mo/ difficult ?+ to accompli% 9 ! _w1 j z ly+ is ! practice mo/ we>+ to ! m9d4 ,x is ! "y man ( unque/ion$ integrity :o is select$ = ! important position4 ,no bus9ess man ev] places 8 bus9ess 9 ! h&s ( a "y man :om he feels he _c absolutely tru/4 ,& to be tru/$ means to be hone/4 ,hone/y1 & t alone1 comm&s confid5ce4 ,an hone/ life well direct$ is ! only life = a "y man to lead4 ,x is ! "o life t is compatible ) ! l>ge/ & sure/ bus9ess success4 ,a religi\s life1 :e!r 9 bus9ess or out ( bus9ess1 is "o :i* e "y man n only %\ld1 b c foll[4 ,x p>takes ( no gloom1 z _m suppose2 x means no depression ( spirits4 ,x means simply ! liv+ ( an upright life1 a life ( respectability4 ,religion is no?+ m nor less ?an an adh]5ce to ! simple code ,i h pres5t$3 a recognition ( a ,god1 & an allegiance 9 mann] ( life to t ,god4 ,& t mann] ( liv+ is simply a heal?y developm5t ( ! spiritual nature--keep+ close to "o's be/ in/9cts4 ,! communion ( a man ) 8 ,creator comes ) su* a mann] ( liv+4 ,b ?is is all t a religi\s life means4 ,t comprises true religion1 at once ! easie/ & ! safe/ elem5t = any "y man to take into 8 life4 ,x w /& ! sev]e/ te/1 & w prove a v]itable ,rock ( ,gibralt> to him 9 "t ( anxiety & tr\ble4 ,,viii ,,8 ,,attitude ,,t[>d ,,wom5 ,! attitude :i* a "y man assumes t[>d wom5 is "o ( ! sure/ index-f+]s to 8 "*1 & no?+ /amps him ) su* un]r+ accuracy be=e m54 ,& if ?is be true 9 a g5]al s5se ( 8 attitude t[>d ! :ole sex1 x applies ) p>ticul> =ce to 8 position z son4 ,z is ! son s w be ! husb&1 is a well-kn[n say+1 & x is likewise true t z is ! son s is ! man4 ,:5 a "y man rev]5ces 8 "m x is easy = him to believe 9 ! nobility ( ! sex to :i* %e belongs4 ,& x is a correct belief4 ,t wom5 are morally bett] & spiritually nobl] ?an m5 %\ld be believ$ by e "y man4 ,no ideal ( ! be/ & true/ qualities ( womanhood is too high = him to set = himself4 ,su* a belief ( 8 "y manhood w become a conviction ( 8 lat] manhood4 ,i "k t x is ! fa%ion ( "s m5 to speak lightly ( wom5 & womanhood2 & "y m5 9 _! susceptible ye>s are sometimes apt to li/5 to ^! l[ /&>ds1 & incl9$ to accept !m or be influ5c$ by !m4 ,b ( "o ?+ e "y fell[ may be assur$3 t ! man :o speaks ( woman 9 any b ! mo/ respectful t]ms is ei!r a knave or a fool--v (t5 he is bo?4 ,& ?is is "o ( ! few rules 9 life to :i* !re is no exception4 ,i wi% t "y m5 w\ld m closely associate _! mo!rs ) wom5 9 g5]al1 & realize t e slur ca/ ^u wom5 z a sex is a slur ^u _! mo!rs4 ,?is is ! feel+ :i* prompt$ ,g5]al ,grant to give a lesson 9 polit5ess :i* w always be told ( him4 ,! /ory is d\btless famili> to all h[ "o ev5+ an (fic] came into camp1 & 9 a rollick+ mood said to ^? assembl$3 ,i h su* a ri* /ory t ,i want to tell y4 ,!re are no wom5 pres5t1 are !re8 ,:]eupon ,g5]al ,grant1 lift+ 8 eyes f ! pap] :i* he 0 read+1 & look+ 8 (fic] squ>e 9 ! eye1 said sl[ly1 b delib]ately3 ,no1 b !re are g5tlem5 pres5t4 ,! rebuke 0 ma/]ly1 & x is "o :i* "y m5 _c too vividly rememb]4 ,no?+ 9 ?is _w /amps a man m decisively 9 ! eyes ( 8 fell[-m5 ?an ! practice ( tell+ (f-color /ories 9 :i* wom5 are conc]n$4 ,i h (t5 se5 ?is practice foll[$1 b nev] yet h ,i se5 a s+le in/ance :5 ! /ory-tell] did n l[] himself 9 ! e/imation ( 8 li/5]s4 ,m5 are prone to laugh at ^! /ories :5 !y are told !m2 b privately ,i h notic$ t !y =m _! own op9ion ( ! man :o tells !m1 & ! op9ion is always ( "o k9d4 ,x is ! man :o upholds womanhood :o comm&s ! respect ( o!r m52 ! man :o attempts to l[] x inv>iably invites _! di/ru/4 ,! m5 :o hold t e woman has h] price are ! m5 :o1 9 ! e/imation ( o!r m51 h no price at all1 comm]cially1 socially1 or morally4 ,! man :o uses su* an expression reg>d+ woman simply apes ! sm>t utt]ance ( ! fir/ fool t ,god ev] made1 & aft] ^: patt]n all ! o!r fools 9 ?is _w 7 creat$4 ,a man :o truly loves 8 "m1 wife1 si/]1 or swee!>t nev] tells a /ory :i* l[]s h] sex 9 ! eyes ( o!rs4 ,he :o tells su* a /ory is always lack+ 9 "s "o respect1 & g5]ally x is common dec5cy4 ,i h dwelt ^u ?is po9t because ,i %\ld l "y fell[s to believe m firmly ?an !y d t x is n caddi%ness or babyi%ness or goody-goodyness to refuse to li/5 to a /ory :i* makes light ( wom52 x is "o ( ! manlie/ qualities :i* a "y fell[ c %[1 & deep d[n 9 8 he>t e man w respect a "y man = su* a position4 ,! high] ord] ( m5 nev] =get t1 be+ born ( woman1 !y owe an obligation to _! "m's sex :i*1 z loyal sons & true g5tlem51 =bids !m to li/5 )\t prote/ to (f5sive /ories 9 :i* woman is conc]n$4 ,& no "y man c li/5 to ?is class ( /ories )\t (f5d+ 8 "m1 8 si/]1 or ! girl :o a little lat] w tea* him1 ?r\gh h] own sweet life1 t :atev] is said to ! moral detrim5t ( h] sex is a lie1 & a reflection ^u ! two wom5 :o1 "o at ! beg9n+ ( 8 life & ! o!r at its end+1 w prove 8 be/ fri5ds--8 "m & 8 wife4 ,x has (t5 be5 said be=e1 b x is "o ( ^? tru?s :i* c z (t5 be said aga91 t a woman is a man's true/ & mo/ lov+ fri5d1 fir/1 la/1 & all ! "t4 ,& p>ticul>ly is ?is s ( a "m4 ,i "k p]fectly well t "y m5 are apt sometimes to ?9k t _! mo!rs are unreasonable4 ,& !y are1 sometimes1 und\bt$ly1 & a little selfi%1 too4 ,b "o po9t mu/ n be =gott53 x is an unreasonabl5ess & a selfi%ness born ( a "m's sure/ in/9ct = ! be/ int]e/s ( h] boy4 ,i c look back to my e>lie/ ye>s ( "y manhood & see :]e1 aga9 & aga91 ,i ?\ght my "m 0 ei!r wrong or unreasonable or prone to be a trifle too cauti\s4 ,b ,i c also look back n[1 & ,i _c see "o in/ance 9 :i* aft]-ev5ts did n prove h] to be "r4 ,& to-day x is easy to say t if x has be5 giv5 me to a*ieve ev5 ! smalle/ measure ( success 9 my life ?us f>1 x is all & entirely due to ! influ5ce ( my "m1 & to my absolute confid5ce 9 t influ5ce4 ,no woman has be5 s mu* to me1 no woman is m to me at ?is mom5t t ,i write1 ?an %e :o is my "m1 my confidante1 my true/ & be/ fri5d--always wat*ful1 always lov+1 always true1 always ! same4 ,& gladly d ,i write ?is lov+ tribute to h]1 grateful t ,i c place x 9 h] h&s r ?an on h] grave4 ,!re is no deep] or great] satisfaction to a man ?an to be able to h 8 "m live to see him fairly laun*$ on a successful c>e] ( usefulness4 ,if 8 fa!r dies be=e he has made 8 m>k 9 ! _w he does n seem to feel x s ke5ly4 ,b someh[ he always wants 8 "m to live long en\gh to see = h]self t %e did n give him life = naught1 & t ! _w is a little bett] (f = ! be+ :i* %e gave unto x4 ,!re wells up )9 8 nature a peculi> s5se ( pride :5 "s day 8 "m comes quietly to him1 & putt+ h] arms ar\nd 8 neck1 says1 ) all ! t5d]ness ( a "m's love1 ,y h done well1 my boy4 ,n[ ,i am cont5t to g4 ,no matt] h[ h>d a man may h work$1 su* approval comes to him z 8 sweete/ & ri*e/ rew>d4 ,! applause ( ! _w is little comp>$ ) su* a mo!rly b5$iction1 & m preci\s to him is ! remembrance ( t %ort s5t5ce 9 aft] ye>s ?an all ! honors t c be %[]$ ^u him or ! ri*es t may come to him4 ,x has be5 my privilege to he> ?is sacr$ ?\ght f ! lips ( m ?an "o ( ! mo/ fam\s ( ,am]ican m5--m5 :o are to-day lead]s 9 _! pr(essions1 o!rs :o h gone to _! graves cr[n$ ) ! ripe/ honors & fulle/ laurels ( ! _w4 ,= m51 ev5 9 _! mo/ mature ye>s1 are1 aft] all1 no?+ b gr[n boys4 ,! fond /roke ( a "m's h& is z welcome at =ty z at f\rte54 ,! _w nev] looks s bright to a man z :5 he sits at 8 "m's side ) h] arms ar\nd him4 ,a woman nev] seems s g5tle z :5 %e fondly /rokes ! recreant lock f 8 br[1 aft] a try+ day1 & says1 9 t voice s famili>1 b ev] sweet1 ,y are tir$1 are y n1 de>8 ,ah1 ^? wom5 :o come into a room :5 a man is almo/ worn out1 & br+ new life & new hope & new _s ) !m6 ,^? ,god-inspir$ mo!rs :o say s mu* 9 a smile1 :o speak s lov+ly to u 9 a look1 :o s5d a ?rill ( confid5ce ?r\gh a man 9 a t5d] pressure ( ! h&6 ,!y "k u s well4 ,!y knew u :5 we 7 *ildr51 b h[ mu* bett] !y "k u :5 we are m56 ,we try to conv9ce !m t we are no long] boys1 b only a quiet little smile & a fond little pett+ %[s u ! fallacy ( our own words4 ,!y /roke our *eeks1 & someh[ ! m9d seems m re/ful & ! bra9 ceases to ?rob4 ,! ?+s we try to hide f !m are ! v ?+s we tell !m ab\t4 ,!y "k ) a s+le look j :at is tr\bl+ u1 & al?\gh !y nev] ask u1 we p\r out to !m our worries j z we did :5 we 7 *ildr54 ,! qu>rels ( ! playgr\nd h only become ! worries ( bus9ess1 & ! baby ( ! cradle has simply become ! baby ( ! "m's he>t4 ,x is easy = a man to ?9k well ( woman :5 he c look at h] ?r\gh ! eyes ( a good "m4 ,& x is ?is :i* ,i want e "y fell[ to d4 ,8 "m %\ld be ! c5tral figure ( womanhood to him--8 ideal1 8 /&>d2 & :ile necess>ily o!r wom5 w suff] 9 comp>ison1 x w only be 9 ! respect t to ! "o he is a son1 :ile to ! o!rs he is a man4 ,! t5d]e/ solicitude :i* a "y man c %[ to 8 "m1 ! mo/ unremitt+ c>e he c give h]1 are none too good = ! life he owes to h]4 ,& ! m t5d] 8 feel+s = h] ! /rong] he w f9d 8 fai? gr[ 9 h] sex4 ,!re is no influ5ce to be comp>$ ) t ( a good woman ov] ! life ( a "y man4 ,x means ev]y?+ to him1 8 success 9 e phase ( life4 ,m5 are by nature co>se & brutal2 x is ! influ5ce ( woman :i* s(t5s !m4 ,& we ought to be s(t5$ z mu* z we c4 ,! good ,"l kn[s we ne$ x badly en\gh4 ,b no influ5ce is productive ( ! be/ & sure/ results unless we make ourselves susceptible to x4 ,if we lack fai? 9 woman1 if we fail 9 ! "r ideal ( womanhood1 all h] influ5ce w be z naught ^u u4 ,f ! beg9n+ ( ! _w woman has be5 man's lead]4 ,%e has made him :at he is to-day4 ,all ! qualities :i* we admire 9 m5 come f woman's influ5ce4 ,& a "y man />t+ out 9 life _c tru/ to an influ5ce s sure & s safe z t :i* comes to him f ! be+ ( ^: life he is a "p1 or 9 ^: he>t he f9ds a supreme place4 ,man's be/ fri5d is ! woman :o loves him4 ,t %\ld be ! fai? ( e "y man t[>d woman2 t %\ld be 8 absolute conviction1 & he %\ld %[ x by an attitude ( respect & def]5ce t[>d h]4 ,,ix ,,! ,,"q ,,( ,,m>riage ,necess>ily ! "q ( m>riage to a "y man is an important "o--p]haps ! mo/ important t is giv5 him to solve :5 he rea*es a m>riageable age4 ,to "s "y m5 x is easy ( solution4 ,!y fall 9 love ) "s girl :o occupies _! e ?\ght1 !y are m>ri$1 &1 z ! /ory-books g5]ally h x1 !y live happily ev] aft]w>d4 ,b to o!rs x takes ! =m ( a problem4 ,!y are tr\bl$ ) s5tim5tal p]plexities2 & if ^! d n ent] into ! matt]1 !n x is ei!r a "q ( ! "r girl1 ! means ) :i* to m>ry1 or ! prop] age4 ,t ! matt] takes on "o ( ^! phases ) ! majority ( "y m5 !re c be no d\bt1 s9ce few m5 m>ry ! girl :o fir/ /rikes _! fancy4 ,! fir/ po9t to pres5t 9 ?is "q ( m>riage is ! pr9ciple ( x3 t x is unque/ionably = ! good ( almo/ e "y man t he %all m>ry4 ,!re are no two sides to ?is = ! great majority ( "y m54 ,( c\rse !re are reasons :y a man1 9 "s special in/ance1 %\ld *oose to lead a s+le life2 9 fact1 !re are excell5t reasons :y x is be/ t "s m5 %\ld4 ,i h kn[n m5 to h inn] conflicts ) !mselves = ye>s1 & !n resolutely decide ^u celibacy4 ,su* decisions make h]oes ( "s m54 ,!re are circum/ances :i* sometimes ent] into a man's life t make celibacy judici\s & wise--circum/ances n ( 8 own *oos+4 ,!re are m5 ^: l(ty e/imate ( wom5 w n p]mit ( _! ask+ a woman to %>e :at ,god 9 8 wisdom has *os5 to h !m be>4 ,t type ( m5 exi/s4 ,b to ! majority ( m5 x is decre$ to m>ry & t !y %all live 9 m>riage4 ,:5 a "y man delib]ately lays out = himself a s+le life bas$ ^u any o!r ?an ! /ronge/ physical or m5tal reasons1 he makes ! mi/ake ( 8 lifetime4 ,if a "y man refuses to m>ry because ( a lack ( fai? 9 womanhood1 or a di/ru/ ( ! exi/5ce ( ^? qualities g5]ally attribut$ to woman1 he errs1 & he errs fatally4 ,& ! be/ evid5ce ( ?is is f\nd 9 ! incontrov]tible fact t ! happie/ m5 9 ! _w to-day are ! m5 :o h believ$ 9 good womanhood1 & h %[n t belief by tak+ a good woman into _! he>ts & homes4 ,!re c be no disput+ ! fact t a man's life is nev] complete 9 its fulle/ happ9ess until t life is made :ole & complete by ! love ( a true woman4 ,! simple/ ref]5ce to ! hi/ory ( m5 s9ce ! creation ( ! _w w demon/rate ! tru? ( ?is ass]tion4 ,man has done no?+ )\t woman2 )\t h] c\nsel he has become z a ciph] 9 ! _w4 ,left alone1 aside f ! "q ( influ5ce1 he is helpless4 ,no man ev] liv$ :o kn[s1 = example1 h[ to take c>e ( himself4 ,! abs5ce ( a wife f home has demon/rat$ to _m a man h[ l>ge & important a "p %e is ( x & ( him4 ,! "r k9d ( a wife kn[s bett] :at is ess5tial to h] husb&'s com=t ?an he does himself--f> bett]4 ,he waits = illness to come1 & !n combats x1 frequ5tly :5 too late4 ,b ! wife sees ! symptoms & uses prev5tives4 ,h] ke5 insight tells h] t h] husb& is unwell :5 sometimes he is n consci\s ( x himself4 ,wom51 we are told1 "k little ( bus9ess2 yet :5 bus9ess tr\bles come to a man a good wife is ! s\rce ( all com=t to him4 ,:5 he despairs %e is hopeful4 ,by h] influ5ce1 p]haps1 m ?an by :at %e actually accompli%es1 %e br+s new hope1 new c\rage1 & po9ts ! way to a new beg9n+4 ,h[ (t5 wom5 h be5 ! means ( av]t+ bus9ess disa/]s or ! multiply+ ( failures ) fur!r implications ! _w w nev] "k2 b !re are m5 :o "k x1 & !y are ! m5 ( :om to ask1 ,is m>riage a failure8 ,x is an un=tunate fact t "s m5 nev] get to a po9t :]e !y und]/& woman4 ,& yet to "k woman1 to prop]ly und]/& h]1 to correctly int]pret h] be/ motives1 is ! deepe/ lesson t life c tea* a man4 ,e man ) a fair m9d :o clasps a good woman to 8 brea/ & calls h] "m1 wife1 or si/] w und]/& ! import ( ^! words4 ,h[ a man c be a hat] ( woman ,i _c conceive :5 ?r\gh h] s mu* c be add$ to 8 life4 ,no?+ is su* an inc5tive to a man to make ! be/ ( himself z ! k t !re is "s "o 9 ! _w :o believes he is j ! clev]e/ fell[ alive2 t !re are eyes1 f> loveli] ?an all ! />s 9 heav5 to him1 :i* sp>kle at 8 com+2 t !re is a lov+1 womanly he>t :i* beats quick] at ! s\nd ( 8 foot/eps2 t !re is a nature ev] ready to sympa?ize ) him 9 8 tr\bles & gladd5 at 8 victories--a de>1 sweet1 lov+ woman1 :o laughs ) him1 & puts h] s(t1 lov+ arms ar\nd him :5 he is 9 tr\ble1 r\ses him to 8 bett] self1 mak+ him feel t1 aft] all1 ?is _w is n su* a bad place to live 94 ,?is1 z _m a man kn[s1 is n a picture drawn f fancy2 x f9ds its liv+ reflection 9 ?\s&s ( homes all ?r\gh ?is l& & across ! sea1 9 homes :]e m5 are happie/ & :]e wom5 are mo/ cont5t4 ,! ba*elor is (ttimes happy 9 8 s+le /ate--t is1 = a ba*elor4 ,he may console himself ) ! reflection t he acc\nts only to himself1 t he is 8 own ma/]1 c g :]e he w & d z he *ooses s long z he obeys ! laws ( society & ( ! l&2 b 9 8 he>t he kn[s he is b half ( a complete ?+4 ,he kn[s t !re is some?+ lack+ 9 8 life :i*1 if suppli$1 w\ld make ! complete :ole4 ,bus9ess success may come to him1 weal? may be 82 b "o way or ano!r he feels ! abs5ce ( "s "o to enjoy 8 successes ) him4 ,he wond]s :y x is t he does n always put =? 8 be/ ef=ts4 ,he m>vels :e!r1 aft] all1 a man does n ne$ some?+ outside ( himself to draw him on & incite him to 8 utmo/ ex]tions4 ,he may be c\rt$ = 8 money1 he may h fri5d%ips innum]able1 e com=t may be 9 8 rooms2 yet mom5ts come to him :5 p]si/5t ?\ght po9ts to some?+ lack+ 9 8 life to r\nd x out4 ,travel z he w1 live on ! be/ ! _w c provide1 he feels1 z ,i h he>d x said ( ! millionaire own] ( "o ( ! greate/ newspap]s 9 ! l&1 roam+ f "o l& to ano!r1 t few m5 are (ttimes m mis]able 9 _! daily lives ?an is he4 ,he has ev]y?+ ! he>t c wi% =2 m weal? ?an he c sp5d2 co/ly resid5ces on ?is side ( ! ocean & on ! o!r2 swift ya*ts are 81 & swift] horses4 ,yet1 :ile driv+ "o day1 & see+ 9 a pass+ c>riage a man ( 8 acqua9tance sitt+ beside a devot$ wife & two *ildr51 he said to a fri5d1 ,t man's :ole =tune is n "o half ( my ye>ly income1 & yet 8 life is a f> happi] "o4 ,& :5 8 fri5d ask$ him 9 :at ! o!r's happ9ess exce$$ 81 ,james ,gordon ,b5nett repli$1 ,9 hav+ a good wife1 & a lovely *ild = ea* knee4 ,( ! wisdom ( m>riage itself !re c be no "q4 ,! knotty little problems :i* ent] into x are ano!r matt]4 ,"s ( !m f9d expression 9 ! *oice ( ! "r girl4 ,& "h1 naturally1 is a "q :i* no "o c decide = ano!r4 ,x is a man's he>t :i* directs him to ! woman :om he wants = 8 wife1 nev] ! f+] ( ! advis]4 ,love po9te? surely is an old prov]b1 & x is z true to-day z ^u ! day x 0 writt54 ,_m a "y man1 h[ev]1 /&s undecid$ on ?is "q ( m>riage4 ,he believes t ! only holy m>riage1 ! only m>riage f :i* c spr+ happ9ess1 is t born ( love4 ,! girl ) :om su* a m>riage is possible is p]haps )9 8 eye4 ,he loves h]1 he feels1 & yet he hesitates4 ,:y he hesitates he _c sometimes expla94 ,sometimes !re is ano!r girl 9 ! case1 :om he ackn[l$ges to himself he does n love q s well1 & yet he feels t %e w\ld br+ to him some?+ t ! o!r girl does n3 a c]ta9 social advancem5t1 p]haps1 a fur!rance ( 8 bus9ess int]e/s1 or an advantage ( "o k9d or ano!r4 ,aga91 !re are "y m5 :o feel drawn t[>d accept+ ! girl ( _! own he>t & *oice1 b are )held by p>5tal opposition1 or1 if n exactly opposition1 t p>5tal indiff]5ce or coldness :i* is ev5 m *ill+ & kill+ ?an op5 antagonism4 ,!y want ! girl1 & yet !y d n want to (f5d _! p>5ts2 or p]haps1 z 9 "s cases1 x is fri5ds t are consid]$4 ,& s hesitancy & p]plexity come 94 ,! he>t leads "o way1 "s o!r int]e/ or consid]ation draws ano!r4 ,x is to ! m9d ( su* a "y man t a girl awak5s div]s feel+s1 _m ( :i* are mi/ak5 = love4 ,x is love :i* draws him "o way2 x is an inh]5t s5se ( m]e possession t draws him ! o!r4 ,& ,i am v free 9 say+ t "s "y m5 are actuat$ 9 m>ry+ simply because ( ?is s5se ( m]e possession4 ,nor d ,i mean ! ^w possession "h z apply+ to prop]ty4 ,to m>ry a girl = h] money is ! mo/ contemptu\s act ( :i* a man c be capable4 ,x dw>fs him & x dw>fs ! woman ^u :om he inflicts ! wrong4 ,b x is ! notion :i* gets into ! heads ( s _m "y m5 to m>ry a girl because ( ! possession ( "s trait1 "s art1 "s grace1 :i* !y h n !mselves1 & ! girl's possession ( x attracts !m4 ,sometimes x is ! girl's tal5t2 at o!r times h] education1 or h] travel$ k2 aga9 x is h] beauty1 h] social graces1 h] ability to appe> well1 to dress well1 to ent]ta9 well4 ,! "y man associates su* a girl 9 8 m9d z a "p ( an e/abli%m5t :i* is ! dream ( 8 "y manhood4 ,%e w\ld look well2 %e w\ld always be able to ent]ta9 8 fri5ds1 to help him 9 a*iev+ a c]ta9 position2 & he feels t he w\ld be pr\d ( h]4 ,& he w\ld4 ,b ! satisfaction ( a m]e pride is n ! satisfaction ( ! he>t4 ,pride is v easily satisfi$2 & :5 x is satisfi$ x g5]ally dep>ts4 ,9 a few ye>s he w want some?+ m ?an an ornam5t to 8 home1 & !n he w f9d x want+4 ,= only 9 r>e cases d we f9d ! useful & ! ornam5tal comb9$ 9 a s+le woman4 ,to m>ry a girl because ( "s possession2 because he simply likes h] bett]1 p]haps1 ?an he does o!r girls2 because1 maybe1 he respects1 fancies1 or admires h]2 because %e seems to sympa?ize ) him1 is to e/abli% a wrong basis = a happy m>riage4 ,n "o ( ^! emotions c =m ! f\ndation = any truly happy m>riage4 ,!y are ?+s :i* appeal to u 9 any de> fri5d1 man or woman4 ,! girl :o is to be a "y man's companion = life1 to be ) him & ( him z long z %e or he may live1 & to be ! %>] ( 8 joys or sorr[s1 to be a daught] to 8 "m & a "m to 8 *ildr51 mu/ awak5 o!r emotions 9 a "y man's he>t4 ,%e mu/ awak5 t true1 affectionate love out ( :i* all ( ! ?+s ( :i* ,i h spok5 spr+1 b none ( :i* alone or comb9$ con/itutes love itself4 ,! girl t a "y man %\ld m>ry1 & ! only girl he is safe to m>ry1 is %e :o fills all 8 life1 8 e ?\ght1 :o guides him 9 8 e act1 ^: face comes be=e him 9 ev]y?+ t he does--! girl1 9 %ort1 )\t :om he feels life w\ld be a blank1 )\t :om he c\ld n live4 ,t is ! girl :om he loves1 & x makes little diff]5ce :e!r su* a girl be ri* or poor1 tal5t$ or n1 travel$ or untravel$4 ,en\gh is x = him if %e is affectionate 9 h] nature1 sympa!tic ) 8 "w1 responsive to 8 ?\ghts1 appreciative ( 8 be/ qualities4 ,^! are ! traits 9 a woman :i* la/ ! longe/1 & rema9 ) a man ?r\gh\t 8 life4 ,!y are ! traits 9 wom5 :i* make good wives & bett] mo!rs4 ,k is a good ?+ 9 a woman1 b affection is inf9itely bett]4 ,f> wis] is ! "y man :o m>ries ! /upide/ girl 9 ! _w1 if %e be affectionate1 ?an he :o m>ries ! brighte/ girl 9 ! univ]se1 if %e be cold1 clammy1 & unresponsive 9 h] disposition4 ,we laugh at s5tim5t1 we m51 :5 we are "y2 :5 we h liv$ a lifetime we rev]5ce x1 & ! je/ becomes ! tribute4 ,ano!r po9t1 z ,i h9t$ above1 :i* sometimes ent]s into a "y man's ?\ghts ( m>riage is :at is call$ by ! _w ! social /ation ( ! girl he loves4 ,n[ :at is t]m$ social /ation is a v difficult ?+ to def9e4 ,! habit ( social di/9ction :i* s _m families endeavor to eng5d] & develop 9 contemplat$ m>riage is1 ,i ?9k1 "o ( ! mo/ un=tunate t5d5cies ( ! times4 ,a social ari/ocracy has always be5 impossible 9 ,am]ica1 & x is nev] m impossible ?an at ! pres5t "t4 ,we ne$ n be extremi/s 9 our beliefs1 & refuse to admit t !re exi/ grades & classes 9 ,am]ican society4 ,our social l9es are suffici5tly drawn = individual protection1 z !y rightly %\ld be1 & mu/ be 9 any great nation4 ,b = any grade ( society to refuse a humane & prop] recognition to a girl =eign1 p]haps1 to our special modes ( liv+1 is a piece ( snobb]y unwor?y ( any ,am]ican family :i* ?rives & prosp]s "u ,am]ican privileges & res\rces4 ,we h 9 ?is c\ntry a class ( p ^: social /&>ds are b5ea? contempt1 & :o consid] x almo/ infecti\s to bru% _! mantles aga9/ ! pla9] cloaks ( :at !y *oose to call ! l[] classes4 ,we c1 if we s *oose1 amuse ourselves 9 ?is c\ntry by believ+ t !re is su* a ?+ z ,am]ican l9eage4 ,b :5 we p]mit ?is h>mless amusem5t to become a settl$ belief & s]i\sly discuss x1 z ,i h he>d x 9 "s draw+-rooms1 ! matt] passes out ( ! amus+ & assumes ! ridicul\s4 ,! great social /r5g? ( ?is c\ntry1 ! real sub/antial /r5g?1 hope1 & life ( ?is nation1 lies ) :at is designat$ z ! great av]age middle class2 & f ?is class spr+s n only ! m5tal1 physical1 & moral bone & s9ew ( ?is republic1 b ! be/ type ( womanhood :i* ornam5ts ! ,am]ican home to-day4 ,! man or woman :o to-day sne]s at or ca/s a discr$itable innu5do ^u t class /amps himself or h]self unwor?y ( be+ class$ among intellig5t p4 ,! true/1 be/1 & sweete/ type ( ! ,am]ican girl ( to-day does n come f ! home ( weal?2 %e /eps out f a home :]e exi/s com=t r ?an luxuries4 ,%e belongs to ! great middle class--t class :i* has giv5 u ! be/ ,am]ican wifehood2 :i* has giv5 help-mates to ! =emo/ ,am]ican m5 ( our "t2 :i* tea*es its daught]s ! true mean+ ( love2 :i* tea*es ! mann]s ( ! draw+-room1 b ! practical life ( ! kit*5 z well2 :i* tea*es its girls ! responsibilities ( wifehood & ! greatness ( mo!rhood4 ,^! girls may n ride 9 _! c>riages1 !y may n we> ! mo/ exp5sive g[ns1 !y may ev5 help a little to enl>ge ! family income2 b ^! girls are to-day ! great bulw>k ( ,am]ican society1 n only pres5t1 b ( ! future4 ,!y repres5t ! ,am]ican home & :at is be/ & true/ 9 sweet dome/ic life1 & !y make ! be/ wives = our ,am]ican m54 ,i h no pati5ce ) ^? !ories t w\ld seek to place ! av]age ,am]ican girl 9 any o!r position ?an t :i* %e occupies1 ornam5ts1 & rightfully holds3 ! =emo/ place 9 our respect1 our admiration1 & our love4 ,%e is n ! society girl ( ! day1 & %e is bett] = x4 ,%e kn[s no sup]ficial life2 %e kn[s only ! life 9 a home :]e husb&1 wife1 & *ildr5 are "o 9 love1 "o 9 ?\ghts1 & "o 9 e action4 ,%e believes no woman to be s sweet z h] "m2 no man s good z h] fa!r4 ,%e believes t !re are good wom5 & true m5 9 ! _w1 & h] belief is "r4 ,& t "y man w ev] be happie/ :o takes su* a girl = 8 wife4 ,i seek n to disp>age ! home life ( ! weal?y ( our l&4 ,"s ( my be/ fri5ds live 9 homes ( luxury1 are deem$ by ! _w weal?y & =tunate1 & ! atmosph]e ( _! homes is z pure & elevat+ z is _! family life repres5tative ( e elem5t t makes good wom5 & m54 ,nor h ,i "o ^w to say aga9/ hone/ ance/ral pride4 ,on ! contr>y1 ,i believe 9 x4 ,i ?9k if we _h m ( x 9 ?is c\ntry x w\ld be bett]4 ,x is "o ( ! greate/ /imulants to a "y man to "k t he comes ( a good family & t he is expect$ to s c>ry himself z to add respect & pride to ! "n ( 8 family4 ,a good family "n is "o ( ! /ronge/ safegu>ds to a "y man's respectability4 ,we _c und]e/imate ! value ( h]$ity4 ,we %\ld be pr\d ( an honorable ance/ry4 ,b we %\ld n boa/ ( x1 or use x to a detrim5tal comp>ison ( ! ance/ry ( o!rs4 ,t _s is vulg>2 c]ta9ly x is un-,am]ican4 ,nor %\ld any ( u1 :o h be5 a little m favor$ ) ?is _w's goods1 refuse to recognize good 9 ^? n possess$ ( equal possessions4 ,i c>e n h[ t5d]ly ! favor$ son ( a weal?y home may h be5 re>$2 ) :at c>e & precision 8 m5tal & moral developm5t may h be5 gu>d$ & wat*$2 :at hopes may be c5t]$ 9 him3 ,i w mat* 8 wor? any h\r ( ! day ) a girl f a pla9] home & ( less] advantages4 ,b h] social position8 ! pr\d "m asks4 ,social /ation8 ,:at is social /ation8 ,s long z a girl is respectable1 s long z %e is good1 s long z %e is a lov+1 t5d]1 & true woman1 by :at social /&>d c %e be measur$8 ,:at "r h we to apply sup]ficial /&>ds to wor? & "*8 ,:at comp>ison c a social /&>d be> to ! highe/ /&>d ( morality1 to good womanhood1 to ! be/ wifehood1 to ! true/ conception ( mo!rhood8 ,is ! girl 9 an (fice less ( a woman ?an ! girl :o rides 9 h] c>riage8 ,is %e less capable ( mak+ a good wife8 ,:y d we m>ry8 ,to please society8 ,to uphold social /&>ds z false z !y are my?ical8 ,false pride has made en\gh tr\ble 9 ?is _w )\t lett+ x br+ grief into our homes4 ,let ! "y m5 ( ?is c\ntry be suffici5tly broad-m9d$ n to measure a girl by h] surr\nd+s1 b to judge h] = h]self4 ,true wor? la/s long] & we>s to ! end4 ,! lov+ he>t ( a good girl is bett] ?an all ! weal? & social accompli%m5ts :i* %e c br+ to a man4 ,x is some?+ t comes back to a man ?ree hundr$ & sixty-five times 9 a ye>4 ,we c get along ) a little money 9 ?is _w if we w2 b love is a quality ( :i* we c sc>ce h too mu*4 ,& :5 ! conditions are rev]s$1 & ! "y man's income or f9ancial possessions are tak5 into acc\nt1 ! same g5]al pr9ciple is true4 ,!re is n a m cruel /&>d by :i* to measure a "y man ?an ! position he is able to (f] ! girl ( 8 *oice4 ,i am n an advocate ( ! love-9-a-cottage !ory by any means2 b ,i d believe 9 ! good old-fa%ion$ !ory ( a "y c\ple />t+ out 9 ! _w ) a mod]ate income1 & !n climb+ upw>d toge!r4 ,i "k ?is s\nds vision>y1 & l ! sort ( read+ we f9d 9 /ories2 b ! tru? is !re j ! same4 ,i give x z my e>ne/ conviction t a "y girl w be f> saf] 9 ! h&s ( a "y man born ( p>5ts 9 mod]ate circum/ances1 hone/ 9 8 pr9ciples1 en]getic & indu/ri\s1 ?an %e w\ld ) a "y man :o has kn[n only ! luxuries ( life1 & to :om "w is an incid5tal matt] r ?an ! aim & purpose ( life4 ,i d n c>e h[ poor a "y man may be2 if he has good heal?1 s\nd pr9ciples1 is respectful ( sacr$ ?+s1 is temp]ate 9 8 habits1 & is n afraid to "w1 & "w h>d1 & face ! _w ) a det]m9ation to succe$1 t "y man c be tru/$ ) ! be/ & sweete/ girl ev] re>$ 9 an ,am]ican home4 ,at ! same "t ,i believe t no "y man has a "r to ask a girl to be 8 wife until he has rea*$ a c]ta9 po9t 9 8 life4 ,& ,i w\ld apply ?is bo? to 8 age & to 8 prospects4 ,z to age1 ,i ?9k a "y man %\ld wait until he is at lea/ tw5ty-five be=e he m>ries4 ,be=e t "t 8 impressions & 8 fancies are apt to be fleet+4 ,he drifts & fl\nd]s 9 almo/ ev]y?+ he does--wife-*oos+ includ$--be=e he is tw5ty-five4 ,he himself r>ely kn[s :at he wants 9 any?+4 ,he does n "k ! _w nor its p4 ,he may ?9k he does--a "y man betwe5 eighte5 & tw5ty-five g5]ally does--b he does n all ! same4 ,x requires him to rea* & pass ! tw5ty-five-ye> p]iod to f9d out h[ little he knew be=e4 ,aft] he passes tw5ty-five he beg9s to le>n1 & f t "t ?+s come to h a mean+ to him4 ,! diff]5ce be=e & aft] ?is tw5ty-five-ye> p]iod is t be=e he is tw5ty-five he wond]s t he is s mu* m mature ?an o!rs & kn[s s mu*2 :ile aft] he passes tw5ty-five he wond]s t he is s immature & kn[s s little4 ,& :5 a "y man rea*es t po9t :]e he is conv9c$ t he kn[s v little1 !n 8 "t ( le>n+ comm5ces4 ,"y m5 g5]ally ?9k !y "k a great deal ab\t girls :5 !y are tw5ty-"o1 & c easily *oose a wife4 ,b ! wisdom ( tw5ty-"o on t po9t is a little slipp]y1 & ,i w\ld advise no "y man to te/ x4 ,!n1 too1 a "y man has no conception ( 8 capabilities be=e he rea*es tw5ty-five4 ,he has no fix$ purpose 9 m9d2 he has no idea :at he is capable ( do+2 he does n "k ! bus9ess _w nor its *ances4 ,he has _h no opportunity ( %[+ 8 employ]s 8 capacity to fill a m important position4 ,he has1 !re=e1 no practical idea ( 8 prospects1 & he c =m none4 ,! p]iod betwe5 ! ages ( tw5ty & tw5ty-five is ! =mative p]iod 9 8 life1 & dur+ t "t x is bett] t he has no additional responsibilities ^u him o!r ?an 8 own /ruggles w dem&4 ,b :5 he rea*es tw5ty-five he g5]ally beg9s to develop4 ,8 op9ions on matt]s beg9 to be li/5$ to--casually1 x is true1 at fir/1 b !y comm& att5tion1 nev]!less1 :]e =m]ly !y 7 ignor$1 & ju/ly s4 ,f ?is "t 8 c>e] beg9s1 & he c1 ) a great] degree ( accuracy1 decide = himself :e!r he c ask ! girl ( 8 *oice to %>e 8 life ) him4 ,betwe5 tw5ty-five & ?irty a "y man %\ld1 if he hopes to am\nt to any?+1 *oose 8 pa? 9 life & te/ 8 capabilities4 ,& !n x is t ! love ( a good wife & h] c\nsel w mean ev]y?+ to him4 ,if we look at curr5t /ati/ics we f9d at once t ! great] majority--,i ?9k x is some?+ l sev5ty p] c5t4--( our "y m5 are m>ry+ betwe5 tw5ty-five & ?irty1 ) a lean+ t[>d ! latt] age4 ,ye>s ago x 0 diff]5t1 & ! m>ry+ age = "y m5 0 betwe5 tw5ty-two & tw5ty-five4 ,b1 likewise1 a "y man _c af=d to wait too long 9 ?is "q ( m>riage2 & :5 ,i say too long ,i mean beyond ! age ( ?irty4 ,aft] a man passes ?irty ye>s 8 habits are v likely to become fix$1 & f t "t x w be h>d] = him ea* ye> to te> away f 8 ba*elor habits4 ,= m>riage dem&s a few sacrifices f a man1 & he mu/ be prep>$ to meet !m1 j z ! girl gives up _m ( h] girli% pleasures4 ,m>riage is n a l>k1 z "s "y p are apt to suppose1 & x %\ld n be ent]$ into j = ! fun ( ! ?+1 nor = ! sake ( be+ m>ri$4 ,bett] is x = a "y man nev] to m>ry ?an to m>ry simply = ! sake ( m>ry+1 or because he feels t he is gett+ along 9 ye>s4 ,!re is only "o safe rule = a "y man to foll[ 9 ?is :ole "q ( m>riage1 & x solves ! problem ( ! girl & ! age3 wait until ! "r girl comes along & !n m>ry h]4 ,b1 if possible1 don't m>ry h] ?is side ( tw5ty ye>s1 & don't y m>ry ?is side ( tw5ty-five4 ,reg>d+ ! "q ( engagem5ts1 ,i believe ?or\ghly 9 _! %ort duration4 ,?is :ole "q ( matrimonial engagem5ts might be *ang$ some:at by "y p !mselves1 & to _! own b5efit4 ,9 _m cases ! "y become engag$ too soon1 & !n !y are re/less because !y _c m>ry2 :]eas1 if ! p]iod ( acqua9tance%ip 7 made long]1 & ! engagem5t "t %ort]1 ?+s w\ld be mu* improv$4 ,long engagem5ts are nev] advisable2 9 fact1 !y are bad f e po9t ( view2 long p]iods ( acqua9tance previ\s to an engagem5t are f> bett]4 ,s f> z actually kn[+ ea* o!r is conc]n$--well1 = t matt]1 :at woman has ev] kn[n a man until aft] %e is m>ri$ to him1 or :at man has ev] kn[n a woman8 ,t\*+ ! "q ( a "y man's income :5 he m>ries1 no rule c be laid d[n4 ,!re are ?\s&s ( m>ri$ p :o are liv+ ! happie/ ( lives on six hundr$ doll>s p] ye>1 :ile !re are ?\s&s1 on ! o!r h&1 :o /ruggle to keep out ( debt on six ?\s& a ye>4 ,& s x goes4 ,ev]y?+ dep5ds ^u ! p4 ,hundr$s ( m5 con/antly ask ! "q1 ,c ,i m>ry on six hundr$1 eight hundr$1 or a ?\s& doll>s p] ye>8 ,no "o c det]m9e ?is "q b ! "y fell[ himself1 & p>ticul>ly ! girl :om he loves4 ,z ,i wrote to a "y fell[ :o ask$ me if ,i believ$ x w\ld be safe = him to m>ry on a ?\s& doll>s p] ye>1 s d ,i say to all "y m5 :o are ask+ ! "q1 irrespective ( ! am\nt involv$3 no "o c tell y4 ,y & ! girl 9 "q mu/ settle t4 ,b1 on g5]al pr9ciples1 ,i ?9k ! soon] we look at ?is "q ( m>riage f "s o!r ?an ?is /rictly m]c5>y /&po9t ! bett]4 ,i d n believe1 z ,i said a few p>agraphs back1 9 ! !ory ( love 9 a cottage1 ) no?+ else4 ,b ,i d believe 9 "y p />t+ at ! l[e/ rung 9 ! ladd] & !n climb+ up4 ,no?+ else 9 ! _w knits ! int]e/s ( two p s closely toge!r1 or insures su* absolute happ9ess 9 ! future z _! lives progress4 ,i _c advise any "y fell[ :at to d1 b ,i "k if ,i 7 e>n+ six hundr$1 eight hundr$1 or a ?\s& doll>s a ye>1 & ,i really lov$ a girl--felt1 9 o!r words1 z if ,i c\ld n live )\t h]--& ! girl 0 ( ! "r k9d--t is1 s5sible 9 h] ideas1 frugal 9 h] ta/es1 & ( a m>riageable age--,i w\ld let h] settle my d\bt = me4 ,girls h a v int]e/+ way ( settl+ d\bts ( ?is k9d--:5 !y are fond ( ! fell[ 9 d\bt4 ,"o ?+ is c]ta93 ! greate/ safety 9 ?is _w = a man is to place 8 int]e/s 9 ! keep+ ( ! woman :o loves him4 ,^! are ! only po9ts :i* ,i or any o!r writ] c possibly advance reg>d+ ?is "q ( m>riage4 ,e "y man mu/ necess>ily settle x = himself2 all t a writ] c d is to lay d[n ! be/ & :at he consid]s to be ! safe/ g5]al pr9ciples1 & ea* read] mu/ apply ^? pr9ciples to 8 own individual ne$s & condition4 ,b !re is "o ?+ :i* a writ] c safely d1 & t is to c\nsel 9 e "y man a firm belief 9 womanhood & an hone/ fai? 9 m>riage4 ,he mu/ n pa9t ! m>riage relation all ( a rose-color$ hue4 ,necess>ily x has its purple lights2 sometimes its black %ad[s4 ,no condition ( life is )\t its little trials1 its vexations1 or its anxieties1 & m>riage is n an exception to ?is rule4 ,b x is ?r\gh ! m>riage /ate1 ?r\gh ! love ( woman1 z ,i h said be=e1 t man has rea*$ 8 pres5t /atus4 ,m>ri$ to a woman1 he may wond] n[ & !n a little :e!r %e is n r exp5sive4 ,h] ways may n always be 8 ways4 ,occasionally he may fr[n a little1 & p]haps scold a bit4 ,he may leave home 9 ! morn+ & g to 8 (fice )\t ! cu/om>y f>ewell kiss4 ,he may sometimes get provok$ because %e is s sl[ 9 gett+ ready :5 he goes out ) h]4 ,he may want to /ay at home :5 %e wants to g out4 ,he may be l$ to say once 9 a great :ile1 ,wom5 are que]1 & y are "o ( ! que]e/6 ,he may fly into a passion1 only to feel sorry = x aft]w>d4 ,he may feel piqu$ at times because %e is n home :5 he comes f ! (fice2 t d9n] is n ready j at ! precise mom5t :5 he wants x2 t %e wants to retire ab\t ?ree h\rs e>li] ?an he does4 ,b1 aft] all1 he says to himself1 ,i tell y :at1 my wife is an angel4 ,%e always seems to "k :at is be/ = me1 & :at is n4 ,%e looks at no?+ 9 ! light ( a sacrifice4 ,:5 ,i h be5 tir$ = ?ree h\rs %e keeps go+4 ,well1 %e is my daily joy2 sick1 my com=t1 & ! be/ ( nurses2 9 tr\ble1 my /> ( hope4 ,:5 ,i want to be ra% %e is cauti\s4 ,i c\ld /ake my life on ! hone/y ( a man2 %e1 at a glance1 has read 8 inn]mo/ ?\ghts & kn[s 8 "*4 ,& take h] ye> 9 & ye> out %e is ! mo/ pati5t1 mo/ lov+1 & de>e/ ( wom54 ,faults8 ,( c\rse %e has1 b s h ,i--lots ( !m1 too4 ,i notice all %e has1 b "s way or o!r %e nev] seems to see m9e1 & talks only ( my be/ side4 ,&1 aft] all1 is %e n "r8 ,& !n1 z a pair ( arms are tw9$ ar\nd him f beh9d1 z he sits 9 a com=table *air1 a s(t1 fluffy sleeve j rubs g5tly aga9/ 8 face1 a pair ( eyes look into 8 eyes z he raises !m1 a pair ( lips lov+ly press 81 a g5tle1 lov+ voice says1 ,d y "k1 de>1 y look v com=table & happy1 ev]y?+ t is good swells up 9 him & f9ds its expression 9 ! typical ,am]icanism3 ,y bet ,i am6