,,m>t9e',s ,,h&-,,book ,,( ,,etiquette1 ,,& ,,guide ,,to ,,true ,,polit5ess4 ,a ,,complete ,,manual ,,= ,,^? ,,:o ,,desire ,,to ,,und]/& ,,! ,,rules ,,( ,,good ,,bre$+1 ,,! ,,cu/oms ,,( ,,good ,,society1 ,,& ,,to ,,avoid ,,incorrect ,,& ,,vulg> ,,habits1 ,,conta9+ ,cle> & ,compreh5sive ,directions = ,correct ,mann]s1 ,dress1 & ,conv]sation2 ,in/ructions = ,good ,behavior at ,d9n] ,p>ties1 & ! ,table1 ) ,h9ts on ! ,art ( ,c>v+ & ,tak+ ,w9e at ,table2 ,toge!r ) ! ,etiquette ( ! ,ball & ,assembly ,room1 ,ev5+ ,p>ties2 ,deportm5t 9 ! ,/reet & :5 ,travell+2 ,& ! ,usages to be ,obs]v$ :5 ,visit+ or ,receiv+ ,calls4 ,,to ,,:i* ,,is ,,add$ ,,! ,,etiquette ,,( ,,c\rt%ip1 ,,m>riage1 ,,dome/ic ,,duties1 ,,& ,,fifty-,,six ,,rules ,,to ,,be ,,obs]v$ ,,9 ,,g5]al ,,society4 ,,by ,,ar?ur ,,m>t9e4 ,,new ,,york3 ,,dick ,,fitzg]ald1 ,,publi%]s4 ,ent]$ accord+ to ,act ( ,congress1 9 ! ye> #ahff1 by ,,dick ,,fitzg]ald1 ,9 ! ,cl]k's (fice ( ! ,di/rict ,c\rt ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates = ! ,s\!rn ,di/rict ( ,new ,york4 ,,cont5ts4 ,g5]al ,obs]vations #e ,! ,art ( ,conv]sation #h ,g5]al ,rules = ,conv]sation #bd ,on ,dress #dh ,introductions #eg ,lett]s ( ,introduction #fa ,d9n] ,p>ties #fc ,habits at ,table #fg ,w9e at ,table #gd ,c>v+ #hb ,etiquette ( ! ,ball & ,assembly ,room #ic ,ev5+ ,p>ties #ajd ,visit+ #aac ,/reet ,etiquette #abg ,travel+ #acc ,m>riage #acf ,dome/ic ,etiquette & ,duties #add ,on ,g5]al ,society #aed ,,g5]al ,,obs]vations4 ,polit5ess has be5 def9$ z an artificial good-nature2 b x w\ld be bett] said t good-nature is natural polit5ess4 ,x inspires u ) an unremitt+ att5tion1 bo? to please o!rs & to avoid giv+ !m (f5ce4 ,its code is a c]emonial1 agre$ ^u & e/abli%$ among mank9d1 to give ea* o!r ext]nal te/imonies ( fri5d%ip or respect4 ,polit5ess & etiquette =m a sort ( supplem5t to ! law1 :i* enables society to protect itself aga9/ (f5ces :i* ! law _c t\*4 ,= in/ance1 ! law _c puni% a man = habitually />+ at p 9 an insol5t & annoy+ mann]1 b etiquette c bani% su* an (f5d] f ! circles ( good society1 & fix ^u him ! br& ( vulg>ity4 ,etiquette consi/s 9 c]ta9 =ms1 c]emonies1 & rules :i* ! pr9ciple ( polit5ess e/abli%es & en=ces = ! regulation ( ! mann]s ( m5 & wom5 9 _! int]c\rse ) ea* o!r4 ,_m un?9k+ p]sons consid] ! obs]vance ( etiquette to be nons5sical & unfri5dly1 z consi/+ ( unmean+ =ms1 practic$ only by ! silly & ! idle2 an op9ion :i* arises f _! n hav+ reflect$ on ! reasons t h l$ to ! e/abli%m5t ( c]ta9 rules indisp5sable to ! well-be+ ( society1 & )\t :i*1 inde$1 x w\ld inevitably fall to pieces1 & be de/roy$4 ,! true aim ( polit5ess1 is to make ^? ) :om y associate z well satisfi$ ) !mselves z possible4 ,x does n1 by any means1 enc\rage an impud5t self-importance 9 !m1 b x does :atev] x c to accommodate _! feel+s & wi%es 9 social int]c\rse4 ,polit5ess is a sort ( social b5evol5ce1 :i* avoids w\nd+ ! pride1 or %ock+ ! prejudices ( ^? ar\nd y4 ,! pr9ciple ( polit5ess is ! same among all nations1 b ! c]emonials :i* etiquette imposes diff] accord+ to ! ta/e & habits ( v>i\s c\ntries4 ,= in/ance1 _m ( ! m9or rules ( etiquette at ,p>is diff] f ^? at ,london2 & at ,new ,york !y may diff] f bo? ,p>is & ,london4 ,b /ill ! polite ( e c\ntry h ab\t ! same mann]s4 ,( ! mann]s & deportm5t ( bo? ladies & g5tlem51 we w\ld rem>k t a prop] consid]ation = ! welf>e & com=t ( o!rs w g5]ally lead to a great] propriety ( demeanor ?an any rules :i* ! mo/ rigid ma/] ( etiquette c\ld supply4 ,?is feel+1 h[ev]1 is "o t mu/ be cultivat$1 = ! prompt+s ( nature are em95tly selfi%1 & c\rtesy & good-bre$+ are only atta9able by ef=t & discipl9e4 ,b ev5 c\rtesy has limits :]e dignity %\ld gov]n x1 = :5 c>ri$ to excess1 p>ticul>ly 9 mann]1 x bord]s on sycophancy1 :i* is almo/ z despicable z rud5ess4 ,to ov]burd5 p ) att5tion2 to r5d] !m uncom=table ) a prodigality ( pr(f]$ s]vices2 to insi/ ^u obligations :i* !y d n desire1 is n only to r5d] y\rself disagreeable1 b contemptible4 ,?is defect ( mann]s is p>ticul>ly preval5t 9 ! rural di/ricts1 :]e ! int5se ef=t to r5d] a visitor com=table has exactly ! contr>y effect2 besides1 !re are ^? ^: want ( ref9em5t & good bre$+ (t5 leads !m to an unw>rantable famili>ity1 :i* requires coldness & indiff]5ce to subdue4 ,mu* miscon/ruction & unpleasant feel+ arises1 especially 9 c\ntry t[ns1 f n kn[+ :at is expect$1 or necess>y to be done on c]ta9 occasions1 result+ sometimes f ! preval5ce ( local cu/oms1 ) :i* ! _w 9 g5]al are n suppos$ to be acqua9t$4 ,to d 9 ,rome z ! ,romans d1 applies to e k9d ( society4 ,at ! same "t1 y c nev] be expect$ to commit a s]i\s brea* ( mann]s because y\r neighbors d s4 ,b :at y %\ld d1 & :at n1 9 p>ticul> cases1 y w le>n 9 ! foll[+ *apt]s4 ,i h only n[ to say1 t if y wi% to be agreeable1 :i* is c]ta9ly a good & religi\s desire1 y mu/ bo? /udy h[ to be s1 & take ! tr\ble to put y\r /udies into con/ant practice4 ,! fruit y w soon reap4 ,y w be g5]ally lik$ & lov$4 ,! gratitude ( ^? to :om y h devot$ y\rself w be %[n 9 speak+ well ( y2 y w become a desirable addition to e p>ty1 & :atev] y\r bir?1 =tune1 or position1 p w say ( y1 ,he is a mo/ agreeable & well-br$ man1 & be glad to introduce y to good society4 ,b y w reap a yet bett] rew>d4 ,y w h 9 y\rself ! satisfaction ( hav+ tak5 tr\ble & made sacrifices 9 ord] to give pleasure & happ9ess = ! "t to o!rs4 ,h[ d y "k :at grief or c>e y may n oblit]ate1 :at humiliation y may n alt] to confid5ce1 :at anxiety y may n s(t51 :at--la/1 b really n lea/--:at int5se dullness y may n enliv58 ,if ?is "w assi/ y 9 becom+ an agreeable memb] ( good society1 ,i %all rejoice at ! labor x has giv5 me4 ,,! ,,art ,,( ,,conv]sation4 ,z ! object ( conv]sation is pleasure & improvem5t1 ^? subjects only :i* are ( univ]sal int]e/ c be made legitimate topics ( pleasantry or discussion4 ,& x is ! gift ( express+ ?\ghts & fancies 9 a quick1 brilliant1 & graceful mann] on su* topics1--( /rik+ out new ideas1 elicit+ ! views & op9ions ( o!rs1 ( atta*+ ! int]e/ ( all to ! subject discuss$1 giv+ x1 h[ev] trifl+ 9 itself1 weight & importance 9 ! e/imation ( ! he>]s1 t con/itutes ! great tal5t = conv]sation4 ,b ?is tal5t c nev]1 we may safely av]1 be display$ except 9 a good cause1 & :5 conv]sation is c>ri$ on 9 a _s ( g5u9e *>ity & b5evol5ce4 ,we %\ld meet 9 society to please & be pleas$1 & n to display cold & /ately dignity1 :i* is z mu* out ( place1 z all attempts to %9e by a skillful adh]5ce to ! fanta/ic rules ( ! silv]-=k s*ool1 are pu]ile & ludicr\s4 ,su* little ?+s are great to little p]sons1 :o are pr\d ( hav+ acquir$ by rote1 :at ! naturally elegant d]ive1 9 suffici5t measure1 f naturally j feel+4 ,! p[] ( pres]v+ sil5ce is ! v fir/ requisite to all :o wi% to %9e1 or ev5 please 9 disc\rse2 & ^? :o _c pres]ve x1 h really no bus9ess to speak4 ,( c\rse1 ,i d n mean ! dull1 ignorant1 sulky1 or sup]cili\s sil5ce1 ( :i* we see en\gh 9 all consci5ce2 b ! graceful1 w9n+ & eloqu5t sil5ce4 ,! sil5ce t1 )\t any def]5tial air1 li/5s ) polite att5tion1 is m flatt]+ ?an complim5ts1 & m frequ5tly brok5 = ! purpose ( enc\rag+ o!rs to speak1 ?an to display ! li/5]'s own p[]s4 ,?is is ! really eloqu5t sil5ce4 ,x requires great g5ius--m p]haps ?an speak+--& few are gift$ ) ! tal5t2 b x is ( su* ess5tial advantage1 t ,i mu/ recomm5d its /udy to all :o are desir\s to take a %>e 9 conv]sation1 & beg !y w le>n to be sil5t1 be=e !y attempt to speak4 ,not)/&+ ! praise "h be/[$ on sil5ce1 x mu/ /ill be expla9$ t !re are v>i\s modes ( be+ sil5tly rude4 ,!re is ! rude sil5ce ( disda9--( n he>+1 ( n ev5 deem+ y\r words des]v+ att5tion or reply4 ,^! are m9or & m]e passive modes ( imp]t95ce2 ! direct & active sort ( sil5t rud5ess is to li/5 ) a fix$ & att5tive />e on ! speak]1 & )\t any necessity ( rais+ ! eyebr[s--= t might be prec>i\s--%[ y\r utt] amazem5t1 t any "o %\ld ?9k ( ?us address+ a p]son ( y\r rank1 weal?1 g5ius1 or greatness4 ,!re are ( c\rse v>i\s /yles & degrees 9 all ^! modes ( imp]t95ce1 b !y all orig9ate 9 ! same cause3 ignorance ( ! real facility ( be+ rude1 & a wi% to acquire di/9ction by ! practice4 ,x is idle to ass]t t e "o c be rude if he likes2 =1 if su* 7 ! fact1 we %\ld n see ho/s ( p]sons belong+ to :at is t]m$ good society1 seek+ fame & r5[n by v>i\s %ades & degrees ( m]e imp]t95ce4 ,nev] give %ort or %>p answ]s 9 ord9>y conv]sation1 unless y aspire to ga9 di/9ction by m]e rud5ess2 = !y h 9 fact no m]it1 & are only uncivil4 ,i d n "k1 ,i _c tell1 are ! mo/ h>mless words possible1 & may yet be r5d]$ v (f5sive by ! tone & mann] 9 :i* !y are pron\nc$4 ,nev] reply1 9 answ] to a "q l ! foll[+1 ,did ,mrs4 ,spitewell tell y h[ ,miss ,rosebud's m>riage 0 gett+ on8 ,i did n ask4 ,x is almo/ l say+1 ,i nev] ask imp]t95t que/ions1 ?\gh y d2 we le>n pl5ty ( ?+s 9 ! _w )\t hav+ fir/ inquir$ ab\t !m4 ,if y mu/ say1 y did n ask1 say1 t y =got to ask1 neglect$ x1 or did n ?9k ( x4 ,we c always be ord9>ily civil1 ev5 if we _c always be absolutely wise4 ,except 9 m]e sport & raill]y1 & :]e a little extravaganza is ! ord] ( ! mom5t1 always :5 y answ]1 or speak 9 reply to an obs]vation made1 speak to ! true & j import ( :at is said4 ,leave quibbl+ ( e k9d to lawy]s plead+ at ! b> = ! life ( a culprit2 9 society & conv]sation x is inv>iably out ( place1 unless :5 ,laught] is go+ 8 m]ry r\nd4 ,at all o!r times x is a pro( ( bad bre$+4 ,y mu/ n ov]/ret* a proposition1 nei!r mu/ y ov]/ret* or sp9 out a je/1 t has done its duty2 = few c be made to reb\nd aft] !y h once come to ! gr\nd4 ,ano!r mode ( be+ rude1 is to collect1 & h at comm&1 all ! set phrases us$ by uncivil p]sons1 9 ord] to say :at !y fancy v %>p & sev]e ?+s4 ,su* a collector1 jeal\s p]haps ( ! att5tion ) :i* a pleasant gue/ is li/5$ to1 may break 9 ^u ! mo/ h>mless disc\rse ) ! words1 ,i ?9k y lie "u a mi/ake4 ,! t]m may 9 itself be h>mless1 b its application is at all times rude1 co>se & decid$ly vulg>4 ,la ,bruy]e tells u t rud5ess is n a fix$ & inh]5t vice ( ! m9d1 b ! result ( o!r vices2 x spr+s1 he says1 f vanity1 ignorance1 laz9ess1 /upidity1 jeal\sy1 & inatt5tion4 ,x is ! m hateful f be+ con/antly display$ 9 ext]ior deportm5t & f be+ ?us always visible & manife/2 & is (f5sive 9 "* & degree accord+ to ! s\rce f :i* x takes its rise4 ,we next come to ! l\d talk]1 ! man :o sil5ces a :ole p>ty by 8 sole p[] ( lungs4 ,all subjects are alike to him2 he speaks on e topic ) equal flu5cy1 is nev] at a loss1 quotes high au?ority = e ass]tion1 & all[s no "o else to utt] a ^w2 he sil5ces1 )\t ! lea/ c]emony1 e attempt at int]ruption1 h[ev] clev]ly manag$2--calls out1 ,i beg y\r p>don1 9 a tone t %[s h[ ill-us$ he ?9ks himself1--or %uts y\r m\? )--,"o m9ute1 if y please1 sir6 z mu* z to say1 y are surely a v ill-br$ fell[4 ,great1 & especially l\d & positive talk]s1 h be5 d5\nc$ by all writ]s on mann]s z %all[ & sup]ficial p]sons4 ,& ,p4 ,&re1 ! au?or ( a ,fr5* ,essay on ! ,beautiful1 decl>es di/9ctly1 t no man ( s5se 0 ev] a great talk]4 ,next to ! talk]1 we h ! man :o gives an acc\nt ( 8 dogs1 horses1 l&s1 books1 & pictures4 ,:atev] is 81 mu/1 he ?9ks1 int]e/ o!rs2 & li/5 !y mu/1 h[ev] resolutely !y may attempt to *ange ! curr5t ( 8 disc\rse4 ,wom5 ( ?is class are sometimes too fond ( prais+ _! *ildr54 ,x is no d\bt an amiable weakness2 b ,i w\ld /ill advise !m to indulge z little z possible 9 ! practice2 = h[ev] de> ! rosy-*eek$1 curly-head$ prattl]s may be to !m1 ! *ances are1 t o!rs w vote ! d>l+s to be great bores2 y t h *ildr51 nev] speak ( !m 9 company4 ,y mu/ n ev5 praise y\r ne> relations2 = ! subject deprives ! he>] ( all p[] to diss5t1 & is !re=e cle>ly objectionable4 ,9 ! same l9e is ! clev] bore1 :o takes up e idle spee*1 to %[ 8 wisdom at a *eap rate4 ,if y say1 ,hang ! wea!r6 be=e su* a man1 he imm$iately proves1 by logical demon/rations1 t ! wea!r has no neck by :i* x c be susp5d$4 ,! grave exp\nd] ( truisms belongs to ?is class4 ,he _c all[ ! simple/ conv]sation to g on1 )\t ent]+ into pro(s & details famili> to e *ild n9e ye>s ( age2 & ! t5or ( 8 disc\rse1 h[ev] c\rte\s 9 t]ms & mann]1 pays y ! v indiff]5t complim5t1 ( suppos+ t y h fall5 f "s o!r planet1 9 total & absolute ignorance ( ! mo/ ord9>y & e-day ?+s connect$ ) ?is little _w ( ours4 ,all =eign]s are p>ticul>ly great at ?is /yle ( bor+4 ,!n y h ! indiff]5t & apa!tic bore1 :o h>dly condesc5ds to pay ! lea/ att5tion to :at y say2 & :o1 if he refra9s f ! direct & absolute rud5ess ( yawn+ 9 y\r face1 %[s1 by %ort & drawl+ answ]s1 giv5 at fits & />ts1 & completely at v>iance ) ! object ( ! conv]sation1 t he affects at lea/ a total indiff]5ce to ! p>ty pres5t1 & to ! subject ( disc\rse4 ,9 society1 ! abs5t man is uncivil2 he :o affects to be s1 is rude & vulg>4 ,all p]sons :o speak ( _! ail+s1 diseases1 or bodily infirmities1 are (f5sive bores4 ,subjects ( ?is sort %\ld be address$ to doctors1 :o are paid = li/5+ to !m1 & to no "o else4 ,bad ta/e is ! fail+ ( ^! bores4 ,!n we h ! ladies & g5tlem5 :o pay long visits1 & :o1 meet+ y at ! door prep>$ to sally =?1 keep y talk+ ne> ! fire till ! beauty ( ! day is pass$2 & !n take _! leave1 hop+ !y h n deta9$ y4 ,bad feel+ or want ( tact "h pr$om9ates4 ,hobby-rid]s1 :o con/antly speak on ! same et]nal subject1--:o bore y at all times & at all h\rs1--:e!r y are 9 heal? or 9 sickness1 9 spirits or 9 sorr[1 ) ! same endless topic1 mu/ n be ov]look$ 9 our li/2 ?\gh x is suffici5t to d5\nce !m4 ,_! fail+ is occasion$ by a total want ( judgm5t4 ,! ,malaprops are also a num]\s & unhappy family1 = !y are con/antly address+ ! mo/ unsuitable spee*es to individuals or p>ties4 ,to ! bl9d !y w speak ( f9e pictures & sc5]y2 & w ent]ta9 a p]son 9 deep m\rn+ ) ! anticipat$ pleasures ( to-morr['s ball4 ,a total want ( ord9>y ?\ght & obs]vation1 is ! g5]al cause ( ! ,malaprop fail+4 ,let u add to ?is v imp]fect li/ ! picture ( a bore describ$ by ,swift4 ,no?+1 he says1 is m g5]ally explod$ ?an ! folly ( talk+ too mu*2 yet ,i r>ely rememb] to h se5 five p toge!r1 :]e "s "o among !m ha? n be5 pr$om9ant 9 t k9d1 to ! great con/ra9t & disgu/ ( all ! re/4 ,b among su* z deal 9 multitudes ( words1 none are comp>able to ! sob]1 delib]ate talk]1 :o proce$e? ) mu* ?\ght & caution1 make? 8 preface1 bran*e? out into sev]al digressions1 f9de? a h9t t putte? him 9 m9d ( ano!r /ory1 :i* he promises to tell y :5 ?is is done1 come? back regul>ly to 8 subject1 _c readily call to m9d "s p]son's "n1 holde? 8 head1 compla9e? ( 8 memory2 ! :ole company all ?is :ile 9 susp5se2 at la/ says1 x is no matt]1 & s goes on4 ,& to cr[n ! bus9ess1 x p]haps prove? at la/ a /ory ! company has he>d fifty times be=e1 or at be/ "s insipid adv5ture ( ! relat]4 ,to ?is we may add1 t y\r cool1 /eady talk]s1 :o speak ) ! c>e & att5tion ( pr(essors demon/rat+ ma!matical problems1--:o weigh1 measure & balance e ^w !y utt]1--are all decid$ objectionables 9 society4 ,x is ne$less to say1 t su* p]sons nev] blund]1 & nev] /umble ov] a potato2 a matt] ( little recomm5dation4 ,9 conv]sation !re mu/ be1 z 9 love & 9 w>1 "s haz>d+1 "s rattl+ on2 nor ne$ tw5ty falls affect y1 s long z y take *e]fulness & good humor = y\r guides2 b ! c>eful & measur$ conv]sation j describ$ is always1 ?\gh p]fectly correct1 extremely dull & t$i\s--a va/ blund] f fir/ to la/4 ,!re are also _m p]sons :o comm5ce speak+ be=e !y "k :at !y are go+ to say4 ,! ill-natur$ _w1 :o nev] miss an opportunity ( be+ sev]e1 decl>e !m to be fooli% & de/itute ( bra9s4 ,i %all n g s f>2 b h>dly "k :at we %\ld ?9k ( a sportsman :o w\ld attempt to br+ d[n a bird be=e he _h load$ 8 gun4 ,i h purposely res]v$ ! egoti/ical bore = ! la/ on ?is %ort & imp]fect li/4 ,x is truly revolt+1 inde$1 to approa* ! v ,boa-con/rictor ( good society2 ! snake :o comes ^u u1 n 9 ! natural =m ( a huge1 co>se1 sl[ reptile1 b ,proteus-l1 9 a ?\s& diff]5t =ms2 ?\gh all display+ at ! fir/ sight ! boa-bore1 ready to slime ov] e subject ( disc\rse ) ! vile saliva ( selfi% vanity4 ,pah6 x is repulsive ev5 to speak ( ! species1 num]\s1 too1 z ! s&s along ! %ore4 ,"s ( ! class make no c]emony ( imm$iately intrud+ !mselves & _! affairs on ! att5tion ( a :ole p>ty2 ( sil5c+ e o!r subject />t$1 h[ev] int]e/+ to ! company1 m]ely t !y may occupy ! prom95t & mo/ conspicu\s position4 ,o!rs aga9 are m dext]\s1 & ) great art w lie on ! wat* to hook 9 _! own praise4 ,!y w call a witness to rememb] !y always =etold :at w\ld happ5 9 su* a case1 b none w\ld believe !m2 !y advis$ su* a man f ! beg9n+1 & told him ! consequ5ces j z !y happ5$2 b he w\ld h 8 own way4 ,o!rs make a vanity ( tell+ _! own faults2 !y are ! /range/ m5 9 ! _w2 !y _c dissemble2 !y own x is a folly2 !y h lo/ abundance ( advantages by x2 b if y w\ld give !m ! _w1 !y _c help x2 !re is some?+ 9 _! nature t abhors ins9c]ity & con/ra9t1 ) _m o!r insuff]able topics ( ! same altitude4 ,?us1 ?\gh bores f9d _! acc\nt 9 speak+ ill or well ( !mselves1 x is ! *>act]i/ic ( a g5tleman t he nev] speaks ( himself at all4 ,la ,bruy]e says1 ,! great *>m ( conv]sation consi/s less 9 ! display ( "o's own wit & intellig5ce1 ?an 9 ! p[] to draw =? ! res\rces ( o!rs2 he :o leaves y aft] a long conv]sation1 pleas$ ) himself & ! "p he has tak5 9 ! disc\rse1 w be y\r w>me/ admir]4 ,m5 d n c>e to admire y1 !y wi% y to be pleas$ ) !m2 !y d n seek = in/ruction or ev5 amusem5t f y\r disc\rse1 b !y d wi% y to be made acqua9t$ ) _! tal5ts & p[]s ( conv]sation2 & ! true man ( g5ius w delicately make all :o come 9 contact ) him feel ! exquisite satisfaction ( kn[+ t !y h appe>$ to advantage4 ,i h no desire to condemn my read]s to et]nal sil5ce2 b mu/ in=m !m t x is n s easy to %9e 9 conv]sation z _m suppose4 ,flu5cy ( tongue & a little mode/ assurance1 ?\gh v well = impos+ on ! unw>y1 g b a %ort way :5 y h to deal ) ^? :o are really wor? pleas+4 ,h[ c a p]son %9e by conv]sation 9 elegant & educat$ society1 ^: ?\ghts h nev] rang$ beyond ! gratification ( fooli% vanity & mean selfi%ness2 :o has nev] reflect$ on life1 m5 & mann]s2 ^: m9d has n turn$ to ! contemplation ( ! works & wond]s ( nature2 & :o1 9 ! ev5ts ( 8 own "t1 has n se5 ! results ( ! _m de$s ( sorr[1 %ame1 greatness1 & glory1 t cr[d ! pages ( ! _w's v>iegat$ annals8 ,:oev] w\ld %9e 9 polite disc\rse mu/ at lea/ be well v]s$ 9 ! philosophy ( life1 & possess a fair acqua9tance ) g5]al & natural hi/ory1 & ! outl9es ( sci5ce4 ,& ?\gh he ne$ be nei!r a poet nor an arti/1 he mu/ be well read 9 poetry & acqua9t$ ) f9e arts2 because x is only by _! /udy t ta/e c be cultivat$ & fancy guid$4 ,a famili>ity ) ! f9e arts is necess>y1 9 fact1 to give him a j p]ception ( ! sublime & beautiful1 ! v f\ndation :5ce our emotions ( delight mu/ arise4 ,any "o attempt+ to %9e 9 conv]sation1 )\t possess+ ! trifl+ acquirem5ts "h m5tion$1--= ,i h said no?+ ( le>n+ & sci5ce1--w mo/ assur$ly make an indiff]5t figure1 & _h bett] !re=e cont5t himself ) simply pleas+ by unaffect$ *e]fulness & good humor1 :i* is )9 rea* ( all4 ,z to subjects = conv]sation1 :at difficulty c !re be ab\t !m8 ,w n books1 balls1 bonnets & metaphysics furni% pleasant topics ( disc\rse8 ,c y n speak ( ! ,philosophy & sci5ce1 & ! spr+s ,( wond]1 & ! wisdom ( ! _w8-- ,are flirtations1 travel+1 love & spee*-mak+ at an end2 or is ! great globe itself & ! wea!r on its surface s p]fectly /ation>y t y c f9d no?+ to say ab\t !m8 ,no1 no1 let u n deceive ourselves2 we nev] want subjects ( conv]sation2 b we (t5 want ! k h[ to treat !m2 above all1 h[ to br+ !m =w>d 9 a graceful & pleas+ mann]4 ,we (t5 want obs]vation & a j e/imate ( "*1 & d n "k h[1 9 ! pres5t defective /ate ( society1 any pass+ rem>k int5d$ to op5 a conv]sation may be receiv$4 ,*e]fulness1 unaffect$ *e]fulness1 a s9c]e desire to please & be pleas$1 un*eck$ by any ef=ts to %9e1 are ! qualities y mu/ br+ ) y into society1 if y wi% to succe$ 9 conv]sation4 ,"u ! influ5ce ( _! recomm5dation1 y may safely give ! re9 to fancy & hil>ity1 c]ta9 t1 9 a well-assort$ p>ty1 y w make at lea/ a favorable impression1 if n a brilliant "o4 ,i d n ( c\rse mean by *e]fulness any outbreak+ ( l\d & silly mir?1 nor :at ! _w sometimes calls a high fl[ ( spirits1 b a light & airy equanimity ( temp]1--t _s :i* nev] rises to boi/]\sness1 & nev] s9ks to immovable dullness2 t moves gracefully f grave to gay1 f s]i\s to s]5e1 & by m]e mann] gives pro( ( a feel+ he>t & g5]\s m9d4 ,frankl9 says1 t y mu/ nev] contradict 9 conv]sation1 nor correct facts if wrongly /at$4 ,?is is go+ mu* too f>2 y mu/ nev] contradict 9 a %ort1 direct1 or positive tone2 b ) polit5ess1 y may easily1 :5 necess>y1 express a diff]5ce ( op9ion 9 a graceful & ev5 complim5t>y mann]4 ,& ,i w\ld almo/ say1 t ! art ( conv]sation consi/s 9 kn[+ h[ to contradict1 & :5 to be sil5t2 =1 z to con/antly act+ a fawn+ & meanly def]5tial "p 9 society1 x is (f5sive to all p]sons ( good s5se & good feel+4 ,9 reg>d to facts wrongly /at$1 no well-br$ man ev] ?9ks ( correct+ !m1 m]ely to %[ 8 wisdom 9 trifles2 b ) polit5ess1 x is p]fectly easy to rectify an error1 :5 ! nature ( ! conv]sation dem&s ! explanation4 ,:5ev] ! lady or g5tleman ) :om y are discuss+ a po9t1 :e!r ( love1 w>1 sci5ce or politics1 beg9s to sophi/icate1 drop ! subject in/antly4 ,y\r adv]s>y ei!r wants ! ability to ma9ta9 8 op9ion1--& !n x w\ld be uncivil to press x--or he wants ! /ill m useful ability to yield ! po9t ) unaffect$ grace & good-humor2 or :at is also possible1 8 vanity is 9 "s way engag$ 9 def5d+ views on :i* he may probably h act$1 s t to demoli% 8 op9ions is p]haps to reprove 8 conduct1 & no well-br$ man goes into society = ! purpose ( s]moniz+4 ,all local wits1 all ^? ^: je/s are und]/ood only )9 ! range ( _! own circle or cot]ie1 are decid$ objectionables 9 g5]al society4 ,x is ! height ( ill-bre$+1 9 fact1 to conv]se1 or je/1 on subjects t are n p]fectly und]/ood by ! p>ty at l>ge2 x is a species ( rude my/ification1 z uncivil z :isp]+1 or z speak+ 9 language t may n be famili> to "s ( ! p>ty4 ,b y mu/ n make a fool ( y\rself1 ev5 if o!rs %[ !mselves defici5t 9 good mann]s2 & mu/ n1 l inflat$ simpletons1 fancy y\rself ! object ( e idle je/ y d n und]/&1 or ( e laugh t *ance may h call$ =?4 ,ladies & g5tlem5 feel t !y are nei!r laugh$ at nor ridicul$4 ,9 society1 ! object ( conv]sation is ( c\rse ent]ta9m5t & improvem5t1 & x mu/1 !re=e1 be adapt$ to ! circle 9 :i* x is c>ri$ on1 & mu/ be nei!r too high nor too deep = ! p>ty at l>ge1 s t e "o may contribute 8 %>e1 j at 8 pleasure1 & to ! be/ ( 8 ability4 ,let no two or ?ree old ,indians1 old s*ool-fell[s1 or old bro!r campaign]s1 seize ^u ! conv]sation to !mselves1 discuss _! =m] adv5tures1 & keep ! re/ ( a p>ty li/5+ sil5tly to an animat$ conv]sation ab\t explod$ /ories1 ( :i* !y "k no?+ & c>e z little4 ,"l ,*e/]field advises 8 son to speak (t51 b n to speak mu* at a "t2 s t if he does n please1 he w n at lea/ displease to any great ext5t4 ,a good obs]v] %\ld easily1 ,i ?9k1 be able to discov] :e!r he pleases or n4 ,r\sseau tells u1 t p]sons :o "k little talk a great deal1 :ile ^? :o "k a great deal say v little4 ,if ! disc\rse is ( a grave or s]i\s nature1 & int]e/+ to ! p>ty1 or to any numb] ( ! p>ty1 nev] break 9 ^u x ) any display ( idle wit or levity2 = no?+ %[s s great a want ( good mann]s2 nor mu/ y ev] ridicule or d\bt ! exi/5ce ( any noble en?usiasm t may h call$ =? expressions ( admiration2 = !re is no want ( high wor?1 patriotism1 honor & dis9t]e/$ness on e>?4 ,y\r incr$ulity might !re=e be unju/1 & x is at all times a pro( ( bad ta/e to ridicule :at o!rs admire4 ,if y jo9 9 ! grav] conv]sation1 int5d$ to move ! deep] feel+s ( ! he>t1 d s )\t affectation1 )\t ov]/ret*+ s5tim5ts1 or br++ 9 f>-fet*$ ideas = ! sake ( produc+ effect1 o!rwise y w be sure to fail4 ,avoid1 above all1 :5 on su* topics1 any /r++ toge!r ( unmean+ words2 = bad z ! practice ( sub/itut+ s\nd = s5se is at all times1 x is d\bly s :5 conv]sation takes ! direction ( :i* we are speak+1 z x !n %[s ! j+l] to want feel+s z well z ideas4 ,speak f ! he>t1 :5 y speak to ! he>t2 only mak+ judgm5t prune ! expressions ( deep feel+1 )\t *eck+ ! noble s5tim5ts t may h call$ !m =?4 ,! reason :i* r5d]s ?is prun+ sy/em advisable is1 t society sw>ms ) wor?y1 respectable p]sons1 possess+ an ord9>y %>e ( sup]ficial good-nature1 b s de/itute ( actual feel+1 z n ev5 to und]/& its language2 & :o1 )\t be+ sc(f]s1 w be incl9$ to laugh at expressions t convey no ideas to _! m9ds4 ,! same reason %\ld s]ve z a w>n+ to all g5tlem5 aga9/ writ+ love-lett]s2 = if a g5tle swa9 is really & truly 9 love1 he w write "u excit$ feel+s2 & a lett] writt5 ) a palpitat+ he>t1 ?reat5+ to break a rib at e ?rob1 c h>dly fail to appe> a little ridicul\s 9 ! eyes ( all :o may n *ance to be exactly 9 ! same frame ( m9d1 or possess$ ( ! same degree ( feel+ ) ! writ]4 ,!re is a giggl+ & laugh+ tone1 9 :i* ladies & g5tlem5 sometimes endeavor to speak1--an attempt to cont9ue a s]ies ( je/s f ! fir/ to la/1 :i* is n only fooli%1 b actually (f5sive4 ,conv]sation c nev] be kept up to ! laugh+ po9t dur+ a :ole ev5+1--n ev5 dur+ a morn+ visit2 & ef=ts to excite laught] by ov]/ra9$ je/s are z repulsive z ov]/ra9$ ef=ts to groan & grimace x4 ,! natural fl[ ( disc\rse mu/ be calm & s]5e2 if wit1 :im1 fun & fire are pres5t1 !y w n fail to fla% brightly along its surface2 b !y c nev] con/itute ! ma9 body ( ! /ream itself4 ,diff]5t p>ties1 diff]5t tones no d\bt1 & an assembly ( grave doctors & pr(essors1 meet+ to discuss "s le>n$ subject1 may treat x 9 _! own way2 "h we c only speak ( g5]al society4 ,x is said1 t ! gue/s at a pleasant d9n] p>ty %\ld nev] exce$ ! numb] ( ! ,muses1 nor fall bel[ t ( ! ,graces4 ,& ?is may be true2 b a p>ty ( ?ree or f\r is already v diff]5t 9 "*1--indep5d5t ( ! diff]5ce occasion$ by ! *>act]s ( ! gue/s1--f :at a p>ty ( eight or n9e w be4 ,9 small p>ties ( ?is k9d1 numb]s alone ex]cise great influ5ce4 ,b l>ge or small1 always recollect t y c h no "r to compla9 ( ! dullness ( ! conv]sation1 unless y h contribut$ y\r be/ ef=ts to r5d] x *e]ful4 ,nor is x always "r to condemn a p]son = be+ sil5t 9 company1 z ?is (t5 results f ! nature ( ! p>ty1 :i* may be ill-assort$1 ?\gh compos$ ( des]v+ p4 ,no "o c ma9ta9 a conv]sation by himself2 ! v be/ speak] mu/ /ill be aid$ by o!rs1 :o mu/ l5d assi/ance 9 ! prop] _s1 befitt+ ! nature ( ! disc\rse2 = a rude & =w>d p]son1 wi%+ to %9e1 c easily cru% ! ef=ts ( ! mo/ p]fect g5tleman1 & give an unfavorable tone & turn to a pleasant conv]sation4 ,9 ord9>y conv]sation1 ! modulation & prop] managem5t ( ! voice is a po9t to :i* ,i w\ld p>ticul>ly call ! att5tion ( "y ladies2 = a f9e & melodi\s voice1 sweet z music on ! wat]s1 makes ! he>t-/r+s vibrate to _! v core4 ,?is c only be done by a c]ta9 degree ( confid5ce1 & by a total abs5ce ( affectation2 = unc]ta9ty1 agitation & /riv+ = effect are always ru9\s to ! voice ( ! speak]1 :i* is con/antly runn+ aga9/ break]s1 or gett+ ^u flats4 ,i am c]ta9 t temp] & disposition are f> m g5]ally1 & m p]fectly m>k$ by ! voice & mann] ( speak+1 ?an we are at all will+ to all[4 ,! ?91 small voice is ! mo/ difficult to manage1 z x is liable to deg5]ate into %rillness2 & ladies :o h ?is k9d ( voice mu/ keep /rict gu>d ov] _! temp]1 :5 )9 he>+ ( any "o on :om !y may wi% to make a favorable impression2 = ! v idea ( a %rill-voic$ scold makes u place our h&s to our e>s4 ,b ) a sweet temp]1 a pretty1 little1 h>moni\s voice is pleas+ en\gh4 ,always recollect1 h[ev]1 t affectation1 con/ra9t1 or /riv+ = effect1 is ! c]ta9 ru9 ( ! prettie/ voice 9 ! _w4 ,! v deep-ton$ voice1 ?\gh extremely effective :5 well controll$1 has great difficulties2 = unless back$ by k9d1 *e]ful & airy feel+1 by t bright _s :i* is always gladness1 x is liable to fall into a co>se1 rude & vulg> tone1 & %\ld nev] be he>d except at times ( brilliant sun%9e4 ,! own]s ( su* voices %\ld nev] ?9k ( gett+ angry1 nor ev5 indulge 9 say+ :at !y may fancy %>p or sev]e ?+s1 z ! *ances are t !y w prove only rude ones4 ,/ories1 h[ev] good--& !y are (t5 to be recomm5d$--suff] "u "o ( ! disadvantages to :i* anecdotes are liable1--!y d n be> repetition2 & no "o c be expect$ to possess a /ock t %all furni% new & acceptable w>es on e occasion4 ,!y =m 9 conv]sation ! res\rce ( ^? :o want imag9ation1 & mu/ be receiv$ ) indulg5ce2 b to des]ve ?is favor1 !y mu/ be %ort1 well told1 well po9t$1 & judici\sly adapt$ to ! feel+s & composition ( ! p>ty4 ,we h all ( u at times kn[n a good /ory or anecdote introduc$ "u su* inappropriate circum/ances1 z to make a :ole p>ty look grave & feel uncom=table4 ,! honor ( demoli%+ ! weav]s ( long tales %all be left to ,c[p]4 ,b s$5t>y weav]s ( long tales ,give me ! fidgets1 & my pati5ce fails4 ',tis ! mo/ as99e employ on e>?1 ,to he> !m tell ( p>5tage & bir?2 ,& e*o conv]sations dull & dry1 ,embelli%$ ) he said & s said ,i4 ,at e int]view _! r\te ! same1 ,! repetition makes att5tion lame2 ,we bri/le up ) unsuccessful spe$1 ,& 9 ! sadde/ "p1 cry--,droll1 inde$4 ,let ! read] only get ^! v]ses by he>t1 & repeat a l9e occasionally to %[ t he recollects !m1 & we %all soon f9d society reliev$ f ^! sp9n]s ( dull y>ns4 ,"s g5tlem5 h a tal5t = plac+ ?+s 9 a grotesque1 exagg]at$ & ludicr\s light2 & ( extemporiz+ burlesque anecdotes 9 a :imsical & amus+ mann]4 ,x is a happy gift1 ( :i* excell5t use c be made 9 society2 b tact & ta/e mu/1 z usual1 keep a firm re91 = no?+ t is s]i\sly treat$ by o!rs mu/ ev] be burlesqu$ & turn$ into ridicule4 ,! grotesque /yle is only applicable :5 ! gr\nd is fairly op51 or :5 je/+1 bant]+ & exagg]ation are ! ord] ( ! m9ute2 & !n x may be r5d]$ *>m+4 ,let no "o suppose t mimicry is to be sanction$ "u ?is head2 f> f x1 inde$4 ,a little graceful imitation ( actors & public speak]s may be all[$4 ,national mann]s1 & ! peculi>ities ( entire classes1 are fair game4 ,fr5* d&ies1 ,yankee b>ga9]s1 & ,engli% exquisites1 may be ridicul$ at pleasure2 y may ev5 br+ =w>d ,iri% port]s1 cab-driv]s & bog-trott]s1--provid$ y c imitate _! wit & humor2 b ,i d n ?9k ,i ev] saw any mimicry ( private individuals well receiv$ by well-br$ p]sons4 ,nor is ?is to be wond]$ at1 s9ce mimicry bord]s s closely on buffoon]y1 z g5]ally to end 9 absolute vulg>ity4 ,ladies1 h[ev]1 may be p]mitt$ to mimic _! fri5ds a little1 provid$ !y r>ely indulge 9 ! practice1 & nev] transgress ! b\nds ( good ta/e & elegance4 ,we meet occasionally 9 society ) p]sons belong+ to a class1 n num]\s inde$1 b des]v+ notice1 z !y are mo/ly ladies1 & (t5 wor? reclaim+2 = want ( a bett] t]m ,i %all call !m ,icicles1 because !y only %9e & _c w>m4 ,! ,icicles may be k9d1 clev]1 ( cultivat$ m9d1 & 9 e respect well dispos$ to become agreeable1--b _c speak or conv]se on any "o subject4 ,!y are con/antly witty & +5i\s1 place e proposition or g5]al "q ask$1 9 "s amus+1 novel or extravagant light1 b nev] answ] or speak up to ! po9t2 s t y may conv]se ) !m = h\rs1 & be acqua9t$ ) !m = ye>s1 )\t kn[+ _! op9ion ^u any "o subject2 )\t kn[+ ev5 :e!r !y h an op9ion on any "o subject4 ,nor does ?is always result f affectation1 or f ef=ts to %9e2 x spr+s z (t5 f a faulty tone1 & ! fe> ( n be+ suffici5tly clev]1 :5 attempt+ to be rational1 z f any o!r s\rce4 ,i h se5 p]sons lose a great deal by ?is absurd sy/em1 & fall f> %ort ( :at !y might h be5 _h !y m]ely foll[$ ! beat5 track2 & z a maxim w\ld h y recollect1 t few good ?+s are ev] said by ^? :o are con/antly /riv+ to say extraord9>y ones4 ,,g5]al ,,rules ,,= ,,conv]sation4 ,z ord] or me?od are ( v little consequ5ce 9 treat+ ( ?is subject1 ,i w conclude by giv+ a s]ies ( rules ^u ! art ( conv]sation1 c\*$ 9 a few words1 f :i* ! read] may furni% himself ) a compet5t k ( :at is to be /udi$1 & :at to be avoid$4 ,!re are few ( ! foll[+ s5t5ces t w n furni% a good deal ( ?\ght1 or t are to be und]/ood to _! full ext5t )\t "s consid]ation4 ,:atev] passes 9 p>ties at y\r own or ano!r's h\se is nev] repeat$ by well-br$ p4 ,?+s ( no mom5t1 & :i* are meant only z h>mless jokes1 are liable to produce unpleasant consequ5ces if repeat$4 ,to repeat1 !re=e1 any conv]sation :i* passes on su* occasions1 is und]/ood to be a brea* ( confid5ce1 :i* %\ld bani% ! (f5d] f ! pale ( good society4 ,m5 ( all sorts ( occupations meet 9 society4 ,z !y g !re to unb5d _! m9ds & escape f ! fett]s ( bus9ess1 y %\ld nev]1 9 an ev5+1 speak to a man ab\t 8 pr(ession4 ,d n talk ( politics to a j\rnali/1 ( fev]s to a physician1 ( /ocks to a brok]1--nor1 unless y wi% to enrage him to ! utmo/1 ( education to a collegian4 ,! error :i* is "h condemn$ is (t5 committ$ f m]e good nature & a desire to be affable4 ,b x betrays to a g5tleman1 ignorance ( ! _w1--to a philosoph]1 ignorance ( human nature4 ,a g5tleman w1 by all means1 avoid %[+ 8 le>n+ & accompli%m5ts 9 ! pres5ce ( ignorant & vulg> p1 :o c1 by no possibility1 und]/& or appreciate !m4 ,x is a pretty sure sign ( bad bre$+ to set p to />+ & feel+ uncom=table4 ,9 ,engl&1 x is reg>d$ a brea* ( etiquette to repeat ! "n ( any p]son ) :om y are conv]s+4 ,b ! same rule does n hold 9 ,am]ica4 ,"h x is deem$ no brea*1 if y are conv]s+ ) a lady by ! "n ( ,%]wood1 to say1 ,well1 ,mrs4 ,%]wood1 d y n ?9k1 etc4 ,9 a mix$ company1 nev] speak to y\r fri5d ( a matt] :i* ! re/ d n und]/&1 unless x is some?+ :i* y c expla9 to !m1 & :i* may be made int]e/+ to ! :ole p>ty4 ,if y wi% to inquire ab\t any?+1 d n d x by ask+ a "q2 b introduce ! subject1 & give ! p]son an opportunity ( say+ z mu* z he f9ds x agreeable to imp>t4 ,d n ev5 say1 ,h[ is y\r bro!r to-day8 b ,i hope y\r bro!r is q well4 ,nev] ask a lady a "q ab\t any?+ :atev]4 ,by all means1 avoid ! use ( slang t]ms & phrases 9 polite company4 ,no great] insult c be (f]$ to polite society ?an to repeat ! slang dictums ( b>-rooms & o!r l[ places4 ,if y are will+ to h x kn[n t y are famili> ) su* company y\rself1 y h no "r to treat a p>ty ( ladies & g5tlem5 z ?\gh !y 71 too4 ,avoid ! habit ( employ+ ,fr5* words 9 ,engli% conv]sation2 x is extremely bad ta/e to be always us+ su* expressions z ci-devant1 soi-disant1 en masse1 c\leur de rose1 etc4 ,d n salute y\r acqua9tances ) bon j\r1 nor reply to e proposition1 volonti]s4 ,9 society1 avoid hav+ ^? peculi> pref]5ces = "s subjects :i* are vulg>ly d5om9at$ hobby-horses4 ,!y make y\r company a bore to all y\r fri5ds2 & "s k9d-he>t$ creature w take advantage ( !m & trot y1 = ! amusem5t ( ! company4 ,e attempt to obtrude on a company subjects ei!r to :i* !y are indiff]5t1 or ( :i* !y are ignorant1 is 9 bad ta/e4 ,man %\ld be taught z ?\gh y taught him n1 ,& ?+s unkn[n propos$ z ?+s =got4 ,a man is q sure to %[ 8 good or bad bre$+ ! in/ant he op5s 8 m\? to talk 9 company4 ,if he is a g5tleman he />ts no subject ( conv]sation t c possibly be displeas+ to any p]son pres5t4 ,! gr\nd is common to all1 & no "o has a "r to monopolize any "p ( x = 8 own p>ticul> op9ions1 9 politics or religion4 ,no "o is !re to make proselytes1 b e "o has be5 invit$1 to be agreeable & to please4 ,he :o kn[s ! _w1 w n be too ba%ful4 ,he :o kn[s himself1 w n be impud5t4 ,d n endeavor to %9e 9 all companies4 ,leave room = y\r he>]s to imag9e some?+ )9 y beyond all y h said4 ,& rememb]1 ! m y are prais$1 ! m y w be envi$4 ,!re is no sur] sign ( vulg>ity ?an ! p]petual boa/+ ( ! f9e ?+s y h at home4 ,if y speak ( y\r silv]1 ( y\r jewels1 ( y\r co/ly app>el1 x w be tak5 = a sign t y are ei!r ly+1 or t y 71 n long ago1 somebody's wa%]woman1 & _c =get to be rem9d+ ev]ybody t y are n s n[4 ,y ne$ n tell all ! tru?1 unless to ^? :o h a "r to "k x all4 ,b let all y tell be tru?4 ,insult n ano!r = 8 want ( a tal5t y possess2 he may h o!rs1 :i* y want4 ,praise y\r fri5ds & let y\r fri5ds praise y4 ,if y treat y\r inf]iors ) famili>ity1 expect ! same f !m4 ,if y give a je/1 take "o4 ,let all y\r jokes be truly jokes4 ,je/+ sometimes ends 9 sad e>ne/4 ,if a favor is ask$ ( y1 grant x1 if y c4 ,if n1 refuse x 9 su* a mann]1 z t "o d5ial may be suffici5t4 ,if y are 9 company ) a di/+ui%$ g5tleman--z a gov]nor1 or s5ator--y w n be p]petually try+ to trot out 8 titles1 z x w\ld make y appe> l a lackey or p>asite1 :o1 consci\s ( no m]its ( y\r own1 are try+ to lift y\rself by ! company ( o!rs4 ,9 introduc+ su* a g5tleman1 y w m]ely call him gov]nor1 or s5ator1 & aft]w>ds avoid all allusion to 8 rank4 ,if y w\ld r5d] y\rself pleas+ 9 social p>ties1 nev] speak to gratify any p>ticul> vanity or passion ( y\r own1 b always aim to int]e/ or amuse o!rs by !mes :i* y "k are 9 accordance ) _! ta/es & und]/&+s4 ,ev5 a well-br$ m9i/] w avoid introduc+ 8 pr(essional habits & !mes at su* places4 ,he kn[s t ! gue/s 7 n invit$ !re to li/5 to a s]mon1 & !re may be "s :o diff] ) him 9 op9ions1 :o w\ld h good reason to feel !mselves insult$ by be+ ?us =c$ to li/5 to him4 ,repro( is a m$ic9e l m]cury or opium2 if x be improp]ly adm9i/]$1 ) report ei!r to ! advis] or ! advis$1 x w d h>m in/ead ( good4 ,no?+ is m unmann]ly ?an to reflect on any man's pr(ession1 sect1 or natural infirmity4 ,he :o /irs up aga9/ himself ano!r's self-love1 provokes ! /ronge/ passions 9 human nature4 ,be c>eful ( y\r ^w1 ev5 9 keep+ ! mo/ trifl+ appo9tm5t4 ,b d n blame ano!r = a failure ( t k9d1 till y h he>d 8 excuse4 ,nev] (f] advice1 b :]e !re is "s probability ( its be+ foll[$4 ,if y f9d y\rself 9 a company :i* viol5tly abuses an abs5t fri5d ( y\rs1 y ne$ n feel t y are call$ ^u to take up ! club = him4 ,y w d bett] by say+ mildly t !y mu/ h be5 mis9=m$--t y are pr\d to call him y\r fri5d1 :i* y c\ld n d if y did n "k him to be incapable ( su* ?+s z !y _h he>d4 ,aft] ?is1 if !y are g5tlem51 !y w /op--inde$1 if !y _h be5 g5tlem51 !y w\ld h>dly h assail$ an abs5t "o 9 a mix$ p>ty2 & if y feel con/ra9$ to quit _! company1 x w be no sacrifice to y\r own self-respect or honor4 ,fools pret5d to =etell :at w be ! issue ( ?+s1 & are laugh$ at = _! awkw>d conjectures4 ,wise m51 be+ aw>e ( ! unc]ta9ty ( human affairs1 & hav+ obs]v$ h[ small a matt] (t5 produces a great *ange1 are mode/ 9 _! conjectures4 ,he :o talks too fa/1 outruns 8 he>]'s ?\ghts4 ,he :o speaks too sl[1 gives 8 he>] pa9 by h9d]+ 8 ?\ghts1 z a rid] :o frets 8 horse by re9+ him 9 too mu*4 ,nev] ?9k to ent]ta9 p ) :at lies out ( _! way1 be x ev] s curi\s 9 its k9d4 ,:o w\ld ?9k ( regal+ a circle ( ladies ) ! beauties ( ,hom]'s ,greek1 or a mix$ company ) ,sir ,isaac ,newton's discov]ies8 ,d well1 b d n boa/ ( x4 ,= t w less5 ! comm5dation y might o!rwise h des]v$4 ,nev] ask a "q "u any circum/ances4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 x is too pr\d2 9 ! second place1 x may be v inconv5i5t or v awkw>d to give a reply4 ,a lady inquir$ ( :at bran* ( m$ical practice a c]ta9 g5tleman 0 pr(essor4 ,he held ! *air ( midwif]y6 ,to (f] advice to an angry man1 is l bl[+ aga9/ a tempe/4 ,too mu* precis5ess & solemnity 9 pron\nc+ :at "o says 9 common conv]sation1 z if "o 0 prea*+1 is g5]ally tak5 = an indication ( self-conceit & arrogance4 ,make y\r company a r>ity1 & p w value x4 ,m5 despise :at !y c easily h4 ,value tru?1 h[ev] y come by x4 ,:o w\ld n pick up a jewel t lay on a dung-hill8 ,! beauty ( behavior consi/s 9 ! mann]1 n ! matt] ( y\r disc\rse4 ,x is n 9 good ta/e = a lady to say ,yes1 sir1 & ,no1 sir1 to a g5tleman1 or frequ5tly to introduce ! ^w ,sir1 at ! end ( h] s5t5ce1 unless %e desire to be exce$+ly res]v$ t[>d ! p]son ) :om %e is conv]s+4 ,if y\r sup]ior treats y ) famili>ity1 x w n !re=e become y to treat him 9 ! same mann]4 ,a good way to avoid imp]t95t & pump+ inquiries1 is by answ]+ ) ano!r "q4 ,an evasion may also s]ve ! purpose4 ,b a lie is inexcusable on any occasion1 especially :5 us$ to conceal ! tru? f "o :o has no au?ority to dem& x4 ,to reprove ) success1 ! foll[+ circum/ances are necess>y1 viz43 mildness1 secrecy1 intimacy1 & ! e/eem ( ! p]son y w\ld reprove4 ,if y be nettl$ ) sev]e raill]y1 take c>e nev] to %[ t y are /ung1 unless y *oose to provoke m4 ,! way to avoid be+ made a butt1 is n to set up = an ar*]4 ,to set up = a critic is bully+ mank9d4 ,reflect ^u ! diff]5t appe>ances ?+s make to y f :at !y did "s ye>s ago1 & don't imag9e t y\r op9ion w nev] alt]1 because y are extremely positive at pres5t4 ,let ! remembrance ( y\r pa/ *anges ( s5tim5t make y m flexible4 ,if ev] y 7 9 a passion1 did y n f9d reason aft]w>ds to be sorry = x1 & w y aga9 all[ y\r self to be guilty ( a weakness1 :i* w c]ta9ly be 9 ! same mann] foll[$ by rep5tance1 besides be+ att5d$ ) pa98 ,nev] argue ) any b m5 ( s5se & temp]4 ,x is ill-mann]s to tr\ble p ) talk+ too mu* ei!r ( y\rself1 or y\r affairs4 ,if y are full ( y\rself1 consid] t y1 & y\r affairs1 are n s int]e/+ to o!r p z to y4 ,keep sil5ce sometimes1 ^u subjects :i* y are kn[n to be a judge (4 ,s y\r sil5ce1 :]e y are ignorant1 w n discov] y4 ,to use phrases :i* admit ( a d\ble mean+ is ung5tlemanly1 &1 if address$ to a lady1 !y become positively insult+4 ,!re is a vulg> cu/om1 too preval5t1 ( call+ almo/ ev]ybody colonel 9 ?is c\ntry1 ( :i* x is suffici5t to say1 t ?is false use ( titles prevails mo/ among ! l[] ranks ( society--a fact :i* suffici5tly /amps ^u x its real "*1 & r5d]s x1 to say ! lea/1 a d\btful complim5t to him :o has no "r to ! title4 ,?9k l ! wise2 b talk l ord9>y p4 ,nev] g out ( ! common road1 b = some:at4 ,don't dispute aga9/ facts well e/abli%$1 m]ely because !re is some:at unacc\ntable 9 !m4 ,t ! _w %\ld be creat$ ( no?+ is to u inconceivable b n !re=e to be d\bt$4 ,z y are go+ to a p>ty ( mir?1 ?9k ( ! haz>d y run ( misbehav+4 ,:ile y are engag$1 d n :olly =get y\rself4 ,& aft] all is ov]1 reflect h[ y h behav$4 ,if well1 be ?ankful2 x is m ?an y c\ld h promis$4 ,if o!rwise1 be m c>eful = ! future4 ,x w nev] d to be ignorant ( ! names & approximate ages ( great compos]s1 especially 9 l>ge cities1 :]e music is s highly appreciat$ & s common a !me4 ,x w be decid$ly condemnatory if y talk ( ! new op]a ,don ,giovanni1 or ,ross9i's ,trovatore1 or are ignorant :o compos$ ,fidelio1 & 9 :at op]a occur su* common pieces z ,ciascun lo dice1 or ,il ,segreto4 ,i d n say t ^! trifles are indisp5sable1 & :5 a man has bett] k to (f]1 especially ) g5ius or clev]ness to back x1 he w n only be p>don$ = an ignorance ( !m1 b c ev5 take a high tone1 & pr(ess indiff]5ce or contempt ( !m4 ,b1 at ! same "t1 su* ignorance /amps an ord9>y man1 & h9d]s conv]sation4 ,don't talk ( ! op]a 9 ! pres5ce ( ^? :o are n frequ5t]s ( x4 ,!y w imag9e t y are %[+ (f1 or t y are ly+1 & t y h nev] be5 to ! op]a twice 9 y\r life4 ,= ! same reason1 avoid too frequ5tly speak+ ( y\r acqua9tance ) celebrat$ m51 unless y are a public man y\rself1 :o w\ld be suppos$ to h su* acqua9tance4 ,d n sit dumb 9 company4 ,t looks ei!r l pride1 cunn+1 or /upidity4 ,give y\r op9ion mode/ly1 b freely2 he> t ( o!rs ) c&or2 & ev] endeavor to f9d out1 & to communicate tru?4 ,9 mix$ company1 be readi] to he> ?an to speak1 & put p ^u talk+ ( :at is 9 _! own way4 ,= !n y w bo? oblige !m1 & be mo/ likely to improve by _! conv]sation4 ,humanity w direct to be p>ticul>ly cauti\s ( treat+ ) ! lea/ appe>ance ( neglect ^? :o h lately met ) mis=tunes1 & are sunk 9 life4 ,su* p]sons are apt to ?9k !mselves slight$1 :5 no su* ?+ is int5d$4 ,_! m9ds be+ already sore1 feel ! lea/ rub v sev]ely4 ,& :o w\ld be s cruel z to add affliction to ! afflict$8 ,to smo!r ! g5]osity ( ^? :o h oblig$ y1 is imprud5t1 z well z ungrateful4 ,! m5tion ( k9dnesses receiv$ may excite ^? :o he> x to des]ve y\r good ^w1 by imitat+ ! example :i* !y see does o!rs s mu* honor4 ,le>n+ is l bank-notes4 ,prud5ce & good behavior are l silv]1 useful ^u all occasions4 ,if y h be5 once 9 company ) an idle p]son1 x is en\gh4 ,y ne$ nev] g aga94 ,y h he>d all he kn[s4 ,& he has _h no opportunity ( le>n+ any?+ new4 ,= idle p make no improvem5ts4 ,deep le>n+ w make y acceptable to ! le>n$2 b x is only an easy & oblig+ behavior1 & ent]ta9+ conv]sation1 t w make y agreeable 9 all companies4 ,m5 rep5t speak+ t5 times = once t !y rep5t keep+ sil5ce4 ,x is an advantage to h conceal$ "o's op9ion4 ,= by t means y may *ange y\r judgm5t ( ?+s 7:i* e wise man f9ds reason to d7 & n be accus$ ( fickl5ess4 ,!re is h>dly any bodily blemi%1 :i* a w9n+ behavior w n conceal1 or make tol]able2 & !re is no ext]nal grace1 :i* ill-nature or affectation w n de=m4 ,if y mean to make y\r side ( ! argum5t appe> plausible1 d n prejudice p aga9/ :at y ?9k tru? by y\r passionate mann] ( def5d+ x4 ,!re is an affect$ humility m insuff]able ?an d[nright pride1 z hypocrisy is m abom9able ?an lib]t9ism4 ,take c>e t y\r virtues be g5u9e & unsophi/icat$4 ,nev] ask any "o :o is conv]s+ ) y to repeat 8 words4 ,no?+ is rud] ?an to say1 ,p>don me1 w y repeat t s5t5ce8 ,i did n he> y at fir/1 & ?us imply t y\r att5tion 0 w&]+ :5 he fir/ spoke4 ,:5 we speak ( ourselves & ano!r p]son1 :e!r he is abs5t or pres5t1 propriety requires u to m5tion ourselves la/4 ,?us we %\ld say1 he & ,i1 y & ,i4 ,if a man is tell+ t :i* is z old z ! hills1 or :i* y believe to be false1 ! bett] way is to let him g on4 ,:y %\ld y refuse a man ! pleasure ( believ+ t he is tell+ y some?+ :i* y nev] he>d be=e8 ,besides1 by refus+ to believe him1 or by tell+ him t 8 /ory is old1 y n only mortify him1 b ! :ole company is made uneasy1 &1 by sympa?y1 %>e 8 mortification4 ,nev] notice x if o!rs make mi/akes 9 language4 ,to notice by ^w or look su* errors 9 ^? ar\nd y1 is excessively ill-br$4 ,avoid raill]y & s>casm 9 social p>ties4 ,!y are weapons :i* few c use2 & because y happ5 to h a razor 9 y\r possession1 t is no reason :y y %\ld be all[$ to cut ! ?roats ( ! re/ :o are un>m$4 ,malici\s je/s at ! exp5se ( ^? :o are pres5t or abs5t1 %[ t he :o uses !m is devoid bo? ( ! in/9cts & habits ( a g5tleman4 ,:]e two individuals or ! :ole company agree to bant] ea* o!r ) good-natur$ sallies ( wit1 x is v pleasant1 b ! lea/ ta9t ( ill-nature spoils all4 ,if ^u ! entrance ( a visitor y cont9ue a conv]sation begun be=e1 y %\ld always expla9 ! subject to ! new-com]4 ,if !re is any "o 9 ! company :om y d n "k1 be c>eful h[ y let (f any epigrams or pleasant little s>casms4 ,y might be v witty ^u halt]s to a man ^: fa!r _h be5 hang$4 ,! fir/ requisite = successful conv]sation is to "k y\r company well4 ,c>efully avoid subjects :i* may be con/ru$ into p]sonalities1 & keep a /rict res]ve ^u family matt]s4 ,avoid1 if y c1 see+ ! skeleton 9 y\r fri5d's closet1 b if x is p>ad$ = y\r special b5efit1 reg>d x z a sacr$ confid5ce1 & nev] betray y\r k to a ?ird p>ty4 ,li/5 att5tively & pati5tly to :at is said4 ,x is a great & difficult tal5t to be a good li/5]1 b x is "o :i* ! well-br$ man has to acquire1 at :atev] pa9s4 ,d n anticipate ! po9t ( a /ory :i* ano!r p]son is recit+1 or take x f 8 lips to f9i% x 9 y\r own language4 ,to d ?is is a great brea* ( etiquette4 ,dr4 ,johnson1 ^: reputation z a talk] 0 h>dly less ?an t :i* he acquir$ z a writ]1 prid$ himself on ! apposit5ess ( 8 quotations1 ! *oice ( 8 words1 & ! correctness ( 8 expressions4 ,_h he liv$ 9 ?is age ( progress1 he w\ld h discov]$ t 8 lexicon 0 n only incomplete1 b requir$ num]\s em5dations4 ,we c fancy ! irritable morali/ endeavor+ to compreh5d ! idea :i* a "y lady wi%es to convey :5 %e expresses ! op9ion t a bonnet is awful1 or t ( a "y g5tleman1 :5 he ass]ts t 8 coat is play$ out6 ,avoid ! use ( prov]bs 9 conv]sation1 & all sorts ( cant phrases4 ,?is error is1 ,i believe1 c5sur$ by ,"l ,*e/]field1 & is "o ( ! mo/ (f5sively vulg> :i* a p]son c commit4 ,x is bad mann]s to satirize lawy]s 9 ! pres5ce ( lawy]s1 or doctors 9 ! pres5ce ( "o ( t call+1 & s ( all ! pr(essions4 ,nor %\ld y rail aga9/ brib]y & corruption 9 ! pres5ce ( politicians1 7especially ( a ,new ,york politician17 or memb]s ( ,congress1 z !y w h good reason to suppose t y are h9t+ at !m4 ,x is ! aim ( polit5ess to leave ! ar5a ( social int]c\rse unta9t$ ) any sev]ity ( language1 or bitt]ness ( feel+4 ,!re are places & occasions :]e wrong mu/ be expos$ & reprov$1 b x is an unp>donable piece ( rud5ess to attempt su* ?+s at y\r own or ano!r's social p>ty1 :]e ev]y?+ is c>efully to be avoid$ t c 9 ! lea/ di/urb ! happ9ess ( any "o4 ,= ?is reason all k9ds ( controv]sies are1 z a g5]al rule1 to be avoid$ at su* times4 ,any conv]sation 7t is n int]dict$ by dec5cy & propriety7 :i* c be pleas+ to ! :ole company1 is desirable4 ,amusem5t1 m ?an in/ruction ev51 is to be s\ght = 9 social p>ties4 ,p are n suppos$ to come toge!r on su* occasions because !y are ignorant & ne$ tea*+1 b to seek amusem5t & relaxation f pr(essional & daily c>es4 ,all ! ,engli% books on etiquette tell y t punn+ is scrupul\sly to be avoid$ z a species ( ale-h\se wit1 & a savage rem>k ( ,dr4 ,johnson is usually quot$ on ! subject4 ,b punn+ is no m to be avoid$ ?an any o!r k9d ( wit2 & if all wit is to be bani%$ f ! social circle1 x w be left a /upid affair inde$4 ,all k9ds ( wit1 puns by no means except$1 give a delightful reli% to social p>ties :5 !y spr+ up naturally & spontane\sly out ( ! !mes ( conv]sation4 ,b = a man to be con/antly /ra9+ himself to make jokes is to make himself ridicul\s1 & to annoy ! :ole company1 & is1 !re=e1 :at no g5tleman w be guilty (4 ,talk z little ( y\rself z possible1 or ( any sci5ce or bus9ess 9 :i* y h acquir$ fame4 ,!re is a bank] 9 ,new ,york :o is always c]ta9 to occupy ! "t ( e p>ty he gets into1 by talk+ ( 8 p] c5ts1 & boa/+ t he began life )\t a c5t--:i* e "o readily believes2 & if he 7 to add t he began life 9 a pig-p51 !y w\ld believe t too4 ,if y put on a pr\d c>riage1 p w want to "k :at !re is 9 y to be pr\d (4 ,& x is t5 to "o :e!r !y value y\r accompli%m5ts at ! same rate z y4 ,& ! high] y aspire1 !y w be ! m desir\s to mortify y4 ,no?+ is m nause\s ?an app>5t self-suffici5cy4 ,= x %[s ! company two ?+s1 :i* are extremely disagreeable3 t y h a high op9ion ( y\rself1 & t y h comp>atively a mean op9ion ( !m4 ,x is ! concussion ( passions t produces a /orm4 ,let an angry man alone1 & he w cool (f himself4 ,x is b seldom t v rem>kable occurr5ces fall out 9 life4 ,! ev5ness ( y\r temp] w be 9 mo/ dang] ( be+ tr\bl$ by trifles :i* take y by surprise4 ,x is z oblig+ 9 company1 especially ( sup]iors1 to li/5 att5tively1 z to talk ent]ta9+ly4 ,don't ?9k ( knock+ out ano!r p]son's bra9s1 because he diff]s 9 op9ion f y4 ,x w be z rational to knock y\rself on ! head1 because y diff] f y\rself t5 ye>s ago4 ,if y want to ga9 any man's good op9ion1 take p>ticul> c>e h[ y behave1 ! fir/ "t y are 9 company ) him4 ,! light y appe> 9 at fir/1 to "o :o is nei!r incl9$ to ?9k well or ill ( y1 w /rongly prejudice him ei!r = or aga9/ y4 ,good humor is ! only %ield to keep (f ! d>ts ( ! satirical rail]4 ,if y h a quiv] well /or$1 & are sure ( hitt+ him betwe5 ! jo9ts ( ! h>ness1 d n sp>e him4 ,b y _h bett] n b5d y\r b[ ?an miss y\r aim4 ,! mode/ man is seldom ! object ( envy4 ,9 ! company ( ladies1 d n labor to e/abli% le>n$ po9ts by long-w9d$ argum5ts4 ,!y d n c>e to take too mu* pa9s to f9d out tru?4 ,y w =be> to int]rupt a p]son :o is tell+ a /ory1 ev5 ?\gh he is mak+ hi/orical mi/akes 9 dates & facts4 ,if he makes mi/akes x is 8 own fault1 & x is n y\r bus9ess to mortify him by attempt+ to correct 8 blund]s 9 pres5ce ( ^? ) :om he is ambiti\s to /& well4 ,9 a dispute1 if y _c reconcile ! p>ties1 )draw f !m4 ,y w surely make "o enemy1 p]haps two1 by tak+ ei!r side 9 an argum5t :5 ! speak]s h lo/ _! temp]4 ,d n dispute 9 a p>ty ( ladies & g5tlem54 ,if a g5tleman advances an op9ion :i* is diff]5t f ideas y are kn[n to ent]ta91 ei!r appe> n to h he>d x1 or diff] ) him z g5tly z possible4 ,y w n say1 ,sir1 y are mi/ak56 ,sir1 y are wrong6 or t y happ5 to "k bett]2 b y w r use "s su* phrase z1 ,p>don me--if ,i am n mi/ak51 etc4 ,?is w give him a *ance to say "s su* civil ?+ z t he regrets to disagree ) y2 & if he has n ! good mann]s to d x1 y h1 at any rate1 e/abli%$ y\r own mann]s z ^? ( a g5tleman 9 ! eyes ( ! company4 ,& :5 y h done t1 y ne$ n tr\ble y\rself ab\t any op9ions he may advance contr>y to y\r own4 ,if y talk s5t5ces1 d n at ! same "t give y\rself a magi/]ial air 9 do+ x4 ,an easy conv]sation is ! only agreeable "o1 especially 9 mix$ company4 ,be sure ( ! fact1 be=e y lose "t 9 se>*+ = a cause4 ,if y h a fri5d t w reprove y\r faults & foibles1 consid] y enjoy a bless+1 :i* ! k+ ^u ! ?rone _c h4 ,9 disputes ^u moral or sci5tific po9ts1 ev] let y\r aim be to come at tru?1 n to conqu] y\r oppon5t4 ,s y nev] %all be at a loss 9 los+ ! argum5t1 & ga9+ a new discov]y4 ,:at may be v ent]ta9+ 9 company ) ignorant p1 may be tiresome to ^? :o "k m ( ! matt] ?an y\rself4 ,!re is a sort ( accid5tal & altoge!r equivocal type ( city wom51 :o nev] get into ! c\ntry1 b !y employ _! "t 9 try+ to a/oni% ! c\ntry p ) n>rations ( ! f9e ?+s !y left beh9d !m 9 ! city4 ,if !y h a dirty little closet1 ) t5 valueless books 9 x1 !y w call x _! libr>y4 ,if !y h "s small room1 t is us$ z kit*51 p>lor1 & d9+-room1 !y w magnify x into a draw+-room4 ,& a hundr$ o!r little signs ( _! great vulg>ity !y w con/antly insi/ on exhibit+ to _! c\ntry auditors4 ,put y\rself on ! same level z ! p]son to :om y speak1 & "u p5alty ( be+ consid]$ a p$antic idiot1 refra9 f expla9+ any expression or ^w t y may use4 ,if y are really a wit1 rememb] t 9 conv]sation its true (fice consi/s m 9 f9d+ x 9 o!rs1 ?an %[+ (f a great deal ( x y\rself4 ,he :o goes out ( y\r company pleas$ ) himself is sure to be pleas$ ) y4 ,ev5 z great a man z ,dr4 ,johnson once retir$ f a p>ty :]e ev]ybody _h sp5t ! ev5+ 9 li/5+ to him1 & rem>k$1 z he w5t out1 ,we h _h a pleasant ev5+1 & mu* excell5t conv]sation4 ,if y happ5 to fall into company :]e ! talk runs into p>ty1 obsc5ity1 sc&al1 folly1 or vice ( any k9d1 y _h bett] pass = morose or unsocial1 among p ^: good op9ion is n wor? hav+1 ?an %ock y\r own consci5ce by jo9+ 9 conv]sation :i* y mu/ disapprove (4 ,if y w\ld h a "r acc\nt ( ?+s f illit]ate p1 let !m tell _! /ory 9 _! own way4 ,if y put !m ^u talk+ accord+ to logical rules1 y w q conf\nd !m4 ,i 0 mu* pleas$ ) ! say+ ( a g5tleman1 :o 0 engag$ 9 a fri5dly argum5t ) ano!r ^u a po9t 9 morals4 ,y & ,i says he to 8 antagoni/ seem1 z f> z ,i hi!rto und]/&1 to diff] consid]ably 9 our op9ions4 ,let u1 if y please1 try :]e9 we c agree4 ,! s*eme 9 mo/ disputes is to try :o %all conqu]1 or conf\nd ! o!r4 ,x is !re=e no wond] t s little light is /ruck out 9 conv]sation1 :]e a c&id inquiry aft] tru? is ! lea/ ?+ ?\ght (4 ,by all means1 %un ! vulg> habit ( jok+ at ! exp5se ( wom54 ,all su* tricks z refus+ a lady a piece ( tongue1 because wom5 already h tongue en\gh1 are z vulg> z !y are old & /ale4 ,! man :o does n respect woman1 exposes himself to ! suspicion ( associat+ g5]ally ) ! fall5 portion ( ! sex4 ,& besides1 he has no "r to make a respectable p>lor or draw+-room ! !at] ( su* vulg> jokes & rail+ aga9/ ! sex z g d[n 9 l[ society4 ,if a man compla9s to y ( 8 wife1 a woman ( h] husb&1 a p>5t ( a *ild1 or a *ild ( a p>5t1 be v cauti\s h[ y m$dle betwe5 su* ne> relations1 to blame ! behavior ( "o to ! o!r4 ,y w only h ! hatr$ ( bo? p>ties1 & d no good ) ei!r4 ,b ?is does n h9d] y\r giv+ bo? p>ties1 or ei!r1 y\r be/ advice 9 a prud5t mann]4 ,be prud5tly secret4 ,b don't affect to make a secret ( :at all ! _w may "k1 nor give y\rself airs ( be+ z close z a conspirator4 ,y w bett] disappo9t idle curiosity by seem+ to h no?+ to conceal4 ,nev] blame a fri5d )\t jo9+ "s comm5dation to make repro( g d[n4 ,x is by giv+ free re9 to folly1 9 conv]sation & action1 t p expose !mselves to contempt & ridicule4 ,! mode/ man may deprive himself ( "s "p ( ! applause ( "s sort ( p 9 conv]sation1 by n %9+ altoge!r s mu* z he might h done4 ,or he may deprive himself ( "s less] advantages 9 life by 8 reluctancy 9 putt+ himself =w>d4 ,b x is only ! ra% & impetu\s talk]1 or actor1 t effectually exposes himself 9 company1 or ru9s himself 9 life4 ,x is !re=e easy to det]m9e :i* is ! safe/ side to err on4 ,x is a base temp] 9 mank9d1 t !y w n take ! smalle/ slight at ! h& ( ^? :o h done !m ! greate/ k9dness4 ,if y fall into ! greate/ company1 9 a natural & un=c$ way1 look ^u y\rself z "o ( !m2 & d n sneak1 nor suff] any "o to treat y unwor?ily1 )\t j %[+ t y "k behavior4 ,b if y see !m dispos$ to be rude1 ov]be>+1 or purse-pr\d1 x w be m dec5t & less tr\blesome to retire1 ?an to wrangle ) !m4 ,!re _c be any practice m (f5sive ?an t ( tak+ a p]son aside to :isp] 9 a room ) company2 yet ?is rud5ess is ( frequ5t occurr5ce--& t ) ^? :o "k x to be improp]4 ,if at any "t y *ance1 9 conv]sation1 to get on a side ( an argum5t :i* y f9d n to be t5able1 or any o!r way ov]-%oot y\rself1 turn (f ! subject 9 z easy & good humor$ a way z y c4 ,if y proce$ /ill1 & endeavor1 "r or wrong1 to make y\r fir/ po9t good1 y w only entangle y\rself ! m1 & 9 ! end expose y\rself4 ,nev] ov]-praise any abs5t p]son1 especially ladies1 9 company ( ladies4 ,x is ! way to br+ envy & hatr$ ^u ^? :om y wi% well to4 ,to try :e!r y\r conv]sation is likely to be acceptable to p ( s5se1 imag9e :at y say writt5 d[n1 or pr9t$1 & consid] h[ x w\ld read2 :e!r x w\ld appe> natural1 improv+ & ent]ta9+2 or affect$1 unmean+1 or mis*iev\s4 ,x is bett]1 9 conv]sation ) positive m51 to turn (f ! subject 9 dispute ) "s m]ry conceit1 ?an keep up ! cont5tion to ! di/urbance ( ! company4 ,don't give y\r advice ^u any extraord9>y em]g5cy1 nor y\r op9ion ^u any difficult po9t1 especially 9 company ( em95t p]sons1 )\t fir/ tak+ "t to delib]ate4 ,if y say no?+1 x may n be kn[n :e!r y\r sil5ce 0 ow+ to ! ignorance ( ! subject1 or to mode/y4 ,if y give a ra% & crude op9ion1 y are effectually & irrecov]ably expos$4 ,if y fill y\r fancy1 :ile y are 9 company1 ) suspicions ( _! ?9k+ meanly ( y2 if y puff y\rself up ) imag9ations ( appe>+ to !m a v witty1 or pr(\nd p]son2 if y discompose y\rself ) fe>s ( misbehav+ be=e !m1 or 9 any way put y\rself out ( y\rself1 y w n appe> 9 y\r natural color1 b 9 t ( an affect$1 p]sonat$ "*1 :i* is always disagreeable4 ,x may be useful to /udy1 at leisure1 a v>iety ( prop] phrases = su* occasions z are mo/ frequ5t 9 life1 z civilities to sup]iors1 expressions ( k9dness to inf]iors2 congratulations1 condol5ce1 expressions ( gratitude1 ackn[l$gm5t ( faults1 ask+ or d5y+ ( favors1 etc4 ,i prescribe no p>ticul> phrases1 because1 our language cont9ually fluctuat+1 !y mu/ soon become /iff & unfa%ionable4 ,! be/ me?od ( acquir+ ! accompli%m5t ( graceful & easy mann] ( expression = ! common occasions ( life1 is att5tion & imitation ( well-br$ p4 ,no?+ makes a man appe> m contemptible ?an b>r5ness1 p$antry1 or impropriety ( expression4 ,avoid flatt]y4 ,a delicate complim5t is p]missible 9 conv]sation1 b flatt]y is broad1 co>se1 & to s5sible p1 disgu/+4 ,if y flatt] y\r sup]iors1 !y w di/ru/ y1 ?9k+ y h "s selfi% end2 if y flatt] ladies1 !y w despise y1 ?9k+ y h no o!r conv]sation4 ,if y meet an ill-br$ fell[ 9 company1 ^: voice & mann]s are (f5sive to y1 y _c res5t x at ! "t1 because by s do+ y compel ! :ole company to be spectators ( y\r qu>rel1 & ! pleasure ( ! p>ty w\ld be spoil$4 ,if y mu/ speak ^u a difficult po9t1 be ! la/ speak] if y c4 ,y w n be agreeable to company1 if y /rive to br+ 9 or keep up a subject unsuitable to _! capacities1 or humor4 ,y w nev] conv9ce a man ( ord9>y s5se by ov]be>+ 8 und]/&+4 ,if y dispute ) him 9 su* a mann] z to %[ a due def]5ce = 8 judgm5t1 y\r complaisance may w9 him1 ?\gh y\r saucy argum5ts c\ld n4 ,avoid appe>+ dogmatical & too positive 9 any ass]tions y make1 :i* c possibly be subject to any contradiction4 ,he t is p]emptory 9 8 own /ory1 may meet ) ano!r z positive z himself to contradict him1 & !n ! two ,sir ,positives w be sure to h a skirmi%4 ,! frequ5t use ( ! "n ( ,god1 or ! ,devil2 allusions to passages ( ,scripture2 mock+ at any?+ s]i\s & dev\t1 oa?s1 vulg> by-words1 cant phrases1 affect$ h>d words1 :5 famili> t]ms w d z well2 scraps ( ,lat91 ,greek or ,fr5*2 quotations f plays spoke 9 a !atrical mann]--all ^!1 mu* us$ 9 conv]sation1 r5d] a p]son v contemptible to grave & wise m54 ,if y s5d p away f y\r company well-pleas$ ) !mselves1 y ne$ n fe> b !y w be well en\gh pleas$ ) y1 :e!r !y h receiv$ any in/ruction f y or n4 ,mo/ p _h r be pleas$ ?an in/ruct$4 ,if y c express y\rself to be p]fectly und]/ood 9 t5 words1 nev] use a doz54 ,g n ab\t to prove1 by a long s]ies ( reason+1 :at all ! _w is ready to own4 ,if any "o takes ! tr\ble ( f9d+ fault ) y1 y ought 9 reason to suppose he has "s reg>d = y1 else he w\ld n run ! haz>d ( disoblig+ y1 & draw+ ^u himself y\r hatr$4 ,d n ruffle or provoke any man2 :y %\ld any "o be ! worse = com+ into company ) y8 ,be n y\rself provok$4 ,:y %\ld y give any man ! advantage ov] y8 ,to say t "o has op9ions v diff]5t f ^? commonly receiv$1 is say+ t he ei!r loves s+ul>ity1 or t he ?9ks = himself4 ,:i* ( ! two is ! case1 c only be f\nd by exam9+ ! gr\nds ( 8 op9ions4 ,don't appe> to ! public too sure1 or too eag] ^u any project4 ,if x %\ld misc>ry1 :i* x is a *ance b x does1 y w be laugh$ at4 ,! sure/ way to prev5t :i*1 is n to tell y\r designs or prospects 9 life4 ,if y give y\rself a loose tongue 9 company1 y may almo/ dep5d on be+ pull$ to pieces z soon z y\r back is turn$1 h[ev] !y may seem ent]ta9$ ) y\r conv]sation4 ,= common conv]sation1 m5 ( ord9>y abilities w ^u occasion d well en\gh4 ,& y may always pick some?+ out ( any man's disc\rse1 by :i* y may pr(it4 ,= an intimate fri5d to improve by1 y mu/ se>* half a c\ntry ov]1 & be glad if y c f9d him at la/4 ,don't give y\r "t to e sup]ficial acqua9tance3 x is be/[+ :at is to y ( ine/imable wor?1 ^u "o :o is n likely to be ! bett] = x4 ,if a p]son has behav$ to y 9 an unacc\ntable mann]1 don't at once conclude him a bad man1 unless y f9d 8 "* giv5 up by all :o "k him1 nor !n1 unless ! facts alleg$ aga9/ him be und\bt$ly prov$1 & :olly inexcusable4 ,b ?is is n advis+ y to tru/ a p]son ^: "* y h any reason to suspect4 ,no?+ c be m absurd ?an ! common way ( fix+ p's *>act]s4 ,su* a "o has disoblig$ me1 !re=e he is a villa94 ,su* ano!r has done me a k9dness1 !re=e he is a sa9t4 ,sup]ficial p are m agreeable ! fir/ "t y are 9 _! company1 ?an ev] aft]w>ds4 ,m5 ( judgm5t improve e succe$+ conv]sation2 bew>e !re=e ( judg+ by "o int]view4 ,y w n ang] a man s mu* by %[+ him t y hate him1 z by express+ a contempt ( him4 ,mo/ wom5 _h r h any ( _! good qualities slight$1 ?an _! beauty4 ,yet t is ! mo/ inconsid]able accompli%m5t ( a woman ( real m]it4 ,y w be always reckon$ by ! _w ne>ly ( ! same "* ) ^? ^: company y keep4 ,y w please s mu* ! less1 if y g into company det]m9$ to %9e4 ,let y\r conv]sation appe> to rise out ( ?\ghts sugge/$ by ! occasion1 n /ra9$ or prem$itat$3 nature always pleases3 affectation is always odi\s4 ,,on ,,dress4 ,x is h>dly necess>y to rem9d ! read] t dress1 ?\gh (t5 consid]$ a trifl+ matt]1 is "o ( consid]able importance1 = a man's p]sonal appe>ance is a sort ( index & obscure prologue to 8 "*4 ,"l ,*e/]field has said1 ,i _c help =m+ "s op9ion ( a man's s5se & "* f 8 dress4 ,besides1 ! appe>ance ( a well-dress$ man comm&s a c]ta9 degree ( respect :i* w\ld nev] be %[n to a slov54 ,z ,%akspe>e has writt51 ,! _w is /ill deceiv$ by ornam5t2 & !re are ^? :o associate f9e clo!s ) f9e p s /rongly1 t !y d n tr\ble !mselves to asc]ta9 :e!r ! we>]s are wor?y ( respect1 z o!rs =m _! op9ions ( books by ! gild+ ( ! leaves & beauty ( ! b9d+4 ,! dress ( a g5tleman %\ld be su* z n to excite any special obs]vation1 unless x be = neatness & propriety4 ,! utmo/ c>e %\ld be ex]cis$ to avoid ev5 ! appe>ance ( desir+ to attract att5tion by ! peculi> =mation ( any article ( attire1 or by ! display ( an immod]ate quantity ( jewelry1 bo? be+ a positive evid5ce ( vulg>ity4 ,8 dress %\ld be /udi\sly neat1 leav+ no o!r impression ?an t ( a well-dress$ g5tleman4 ,well-br$ p d n (t5 dress 9 :at is call$ ! height ( ! fa%ion1 z t is g5]ally left to d&ies & pret5d]s4 ,b /ill x is und\bt$ly a great po9t ga9$ to be well dress$4 ,to be fancifully dress$1 9 gaudy colors1 is to be v badly dress$1 h[ev]1 & is an example ( ill ta/e :i* is r>ely met ) among p ( sub/antial good bre$+4 ,cleanl9ess & neatness are ! inv>iable accompanim5ts ( good bre$+4 ,e g5tleman may n be dress$ exp5sively1 he may n be able to d s2 b wat] is *eap1 & no g5tleman w ev] g into company unm9dful ( cleanl9ess ei!r 9 8 p]son or app>el4 ,a well-dress$ man does n require s mu* an ext5sive z a v>i$ w>drobe4 ,he wants a diff]5t co/ume = e season & e occasion2 b if :at he selects is simple r ?an /rik+1 he may appe> 9 ! same clo!s z (t5 z he likes1 z long z !y are fre% & appropriate to ! season & ! object4 ,!re are f\r k9ds ( coats :i* he mu/ h3 a bus9ess coat1 a frock-coat1 a dress-coat1 & an ov]-coat4 ,a well dress$ man may d well ) f\r ( ! fir/1 & "o ( ea* ( ! o!rs p] annum4 ,an economical man c get along ) less4 ,did any lady ev] see a g5tleman ) an embroid]$ wai/coat1 & a pr(usion ( *a9s1 r+s1 & tr9kets adorn+ 8 p]son8 ,avoid affect+ s+ul>ity 9 dress4 ,exp5sive dress+ is no sign ( a g5tleman4 ,if a g5tleman is able to dress exp5sively x is v well = him to d s1 b if he is n able to we> t5-doll> broadclo?1 he may com=t himself ) ! reflection t clo? :i* co/s b five doll>s a y>d w look q z well :5 made into a well-fitt+ coat4 ,) ?is suit1 & well-made %oes1 clean gloves1 a :ite pocket-h&k]*ief1 & an easy & graceful deportm5t )al1 he may pass mu/] z a g5tleman4 ,mann]s d q z mu* to set (f a suit ( clo!s z clo!s d to set (f a graceful p]son4 ,a dress p]fectly suit$ to a tall1 good-look+ man1 may r5d] "o :o is nei!r1 ridicul\s2 z al?\gh ! =m] may we> a rem>kable wai/coat or s+ul> coat1 almo/ ) impunity1 ! latt]1 by adopt+ a simil> co/ume1 exposes himself to ! laught] ( all :o see him4 ,an unassum+ simplicity 9 dress %\ld always be pref]r$1 z x prepossesses e "o 9 favor ( ! we>]4 ,avoid :at is call$ ! ruffianly /yle ( dress1 or ! non*alant & sl\*+ appe>ance ( a half-unbutton$ ve/1 & susp5d]less pantaloons4 ,t sort ( affectation is if possible ev5 m disgu/+ ?an ! pa9fully elaborate fripp]y ( ! d&y4 ,g5tlem5 nev] make any display ( jewelry2 t is giv5 up entirely to ! dom9ion ( female ta/e4 ,b ladies ( good ta/e seldom we> x 9 ! morn+4 ,x is res]v$ = ev5+ display & = brilliant p>ties4 ,! native indep5d5ce ( ,am]ican "* reg>ds ) disda9 _m ( ! /r+5t social laws :i* are recogniz$ 9 ,engl& & on ! cont95t4 ,?us1 ! dress :i* _m ( our c\ntryman adopt = ! assembly-room & private p>ties w\ld subject !m to s]i\s annoyance abroad4 ,a frock-coat w\ld n be tol]at$ a mom5t 9 any fa%ionable society 9 ,europe1 & :e!r x be e/eem$ a prejudice or o!rwise1 we are free to confess t 9 our op9ion x is a violation ( good ta/e1 & unsuit$ ei!r to a ball-room or private assembly4 ,we %\ld1 h[ev]1 be f> f d5y+ ! claim ( g5tleman to any p]son1 simply because he wore a frock-coat2 = ! fickle goddess1 ,fa%ion1 tol]ates x to a c]ta9 ext5t 9 ,am]ica2 b if ! univ]sal cu/om among ! ref9$ & poli%$ memb]s ( society 7 to exclude x1 z 9 ,europe1 its use w\ld manife/ a contempt = ! op9ion ( o!rs1 ( :i* no g5tleman c\ld be guilty4 ,if ! title ( g5tleman %\ld dep5d entirely & solely on "o's con=mation to ! laws ( etiquette1 ! mo/ unpr9cipl$ pr(ligate or debau*ee might successfully we> x2 x is1 h[ev]1 b ! f9i% & poli% ( ! jewel--n ! diamond itself4 ,if we 7 all[$ to say any?+ to ! ladies conc]n+ dress 9 a dictatorial way1 & 7 sure ( be+ obey$1 we %\ld ord] !m g5]ally to dress less4 ,h[ (t5 d we see a female attir$ 9 ! height ( fa%ion1 p]fectly gorge\s 9 co/ume1 sweep+ along ! du/y /reet1 p]spir+ "u ! weight ( h] f9]y--dress$1 9 fact1 9 a mann] fit only = a c>riage4 ,?is is a v mi/ak5 & absurd fa%ion1 & su* p w\ld be a/oni%$ to see ! simplicity ( real ari/ocracy z reg>ds dress4 ,9 our allusions to ! dress ( a g5tleman1 we h urg$ a /udi$ simplicity ( app>el2 ! same rem>ks are equally applicable to t ( a lady4 ,inde$1 simplicity is ! gr& secret ( a lady's toilet4 ,:5 %e burd5s h]self ) a pr(usion ( bij\t]ie %e r detracts f ?an adds to h] p]sonal appe>ance1 :ile all outre fa%ions & ultra /yles ( dress1 ?\gh !y excite att5tion1 nei!r w9 respect nor enhance ! attraction ( ! we>]4 ,"s ladies1 p]haps imag9+ t !y are defici5t 9 p]sonal *>ms--& we are will+ to believe t !re are su*1 al?\gh ! ,*e/]fieldian s*ool ( philosoph]s w\ld ridicule ! idea--endeavor to make _! clo!s ! spell ( _! attraction4 ,) ?is end 9 view1 !y labor by lavi% exp5diture to supply 9 exp5sive adornm5t :at !y lack 9 beauty ( =m or feature4 ,un=tunately = _! success1 elegant dress+ does n dep5d ^u exp5se4 ,a lady might we> ! co/lie/ silks t ,italy c\ld produce1 adorn h]self ) laces f ,brussels :i* ye>s ( pati5t toil are requir$ to fabricate2 %e might c>ry ! jewels ( an ,ea/]n pr9cess ar\nd h] neck & ^u h] wri/s & f+]s1 yet /ill1 9 appe>ance1 be ess5tially vulg>4 ,^! 7 z no?+ )\t grace1 )\t adaptation1 )\t a h>moni\s bl5d+ ( colors1 )\t ! ex]cise ( discrim9ation & good ta/e4 ,! mo/ appropriate & becom+ dress is t :i* s h>monizes ) ! figure z to make ! app>el unobs]v$4 ,:5 any p>ticul> portion ( x excites ! att5tion1 !re is a defect1 = ! details %\ld n pres5t !mselves fir/ b ! result ( p]fect dress+ %\ld be an elegant woman1 ! dress comm&+ no especial reg>d4 ,m5 are b indiff]5t judges ( ! mat]ial ( a lady's dress2 9 fact1 !y c>e no?+ ab\t ! matt]4 ,a mode/ c\nt5ance & pleas+ figure1 habit$ 9 an inexp5sive attire1 w\ld w9 m att5tion f m51 ?an awkw>dness & effront]y1 clad 9 ! ri*e/ sat9s ( ,/ew>t & ! co/lie/ gems ( ,tiffany4 ,!re are occasionally to be f\nd among bo? sexes1 p]sons :o neglect _! dress ?r\gh a ridicul\s affectation ( s+ul>ity1 & :o take pride 9 be+ ?\ght utt]ly indiff]5t to _! p]sonal appe>ance4 ,millionaires are v apt to manife/ ?is *>act]i/ic1 b ) !m x g5]ally arises ?r\gh a mis]ly p5uri\sness ( disposition2 _! imitators1 h[ev]1 are ev5 m defici5t ?an !y 9 common s5se4 ,lavat] has urg$ t p]sons habitually att5tive to _! attire1 display ! same regul>ity 9 _! dome/ic affairs4 ,he also says3 ,"y wom5 :o neglect _! toilet & manife/ little conc]n ab\t dress1 indicate a g5]al disreg>d ( ord]--a m9d b ill adapt$ to ! details ( h\sekeep+--a defici5cy ( ta/e & ( ! qualities t inspire love4 ,h5ce ! desire ( exhibit+ an amiable ext]ior is ess5tially requisite 9 a "y lady1 = x indicates cleanl9ess1 sweetness1 a love ( ord] & propriety1 & all ^? virtues :i* are attractive to _! associates1 & p>ticul>ly to ^? ( ! o!r sex4 ,*e/]field ass]ts t a sympa?y goes ?r\gh e action ( our lives1 & t he c\ld n help conceiv+ "s idea ( p's s5se & "* f ! dress 9 :i* !y appe>$ :5 introduc$ to him4 ,ano!r writ] has rem>k$ t he nev] yet met ) a woman ^: g5]al /yle ( dress 0 *a/e1 elegant & appropriate1 t he did n f9d h] on fur!r acqua9tance to be1 9 disposition & m9d1 an object to admire & love4 ,! fair sex h ! reputation ( be+ passionately fond ( dress1 & ! love ( x has be5 said to be natural to wom54 ,we are n dispos$ to d5y x1 b we d n reg>d x z a weakness nor a peculi>ity to be condemn$4 ,dress is ! appropriate f9i% ( beauty4 ,"s "o has said t1 ,)\t dress a h&some p]son is a gem1 b a gem t is n set4 ,b dress1 he fur!r rem>ks1 mu/ be consi/5t ) ! graces & ) nature4 ,ta/e1 says a celebrat$ div9e1 requires a congruity betwe5 ! int]nal "* & ! ext]nal appe>ance2 ! imag9ation w involunt>ily =m to itself an idea ( su* a correspond5ce4 ,fir/ ideas are1 9 g5]al1 ( consid]able consequ5ce4 ,i %\ld !re=e ?9k x wise 9 ! female _w to take c>e t _! appe>ance %\ld n convey a =bidd+ idea to ! mo/ sup]ficial obs]v]4 ,z we h already rem>k$1 ! secret ( p]fect dress+ is simplicity1 co/l9ess be+ no ess5tial elem5t ( real elegance4 ,we h to add t ev]y?+ dep5ds ^u ! judgm5t & good ta/e ( ! we>]4 ,^! %\ld always be a h>moni\s adaptation ( "o article ( attire to ano!r1 z also to ! size1 figure & complexion ( ! we>]4 ,!re %\ld be a correspond5ce 9 all p>ts ( a lady's toilet1 s z to pres5t a p]fect entirety4 ,?us1 :5 we see a female ( light1 delicate complexion1 p5cil+ h] eyebr[s until !y are positively black1 we _c b ent]ta9 a contempt = h] lack ( ta/e & good s5se4 ,!re is a h>mony 9 nature's t9ts :i* art c nev] equal1 mu* less improve4 ,a fair face is g5]ally accompani$ by blue eyes1 light hair1 eyebr[s & la%es4 ,!re is a delicacy & h>moni\s bl5d+ ( correspond5ces :i* are 9 p]fect keep+2 b if y sully ! eyebr[s ) blackness1 y de/roy all similitude ( feature & expression1 & almo/ pres5t a de=mity4 ,we _c b allude to ! practice ( us+ :ite pa9ts1 a habit /rongly to be condemn$4 ,if = no o!r reason ?an t poison lurks b5ea? e lay]1 induc+ p>alytic affections & premature dea?1 !y %\ld be disc>d$--b !y are a disguise :i* deceives no "o1 ev5 at a di/ance2 !re is a gha/ly dea?l9ess 9 ! appe>ance ( ! sk9 aft] x has be5 pa9t$1 :i* is f> remov$ f ! natural hue ( heal?4 ,! ho/ess %\ld be p>ticul>ly c>eful n to out%9e h] gue/s4 ,we h se5 _m in/ances :]e a lady1 fond ( dress1 7& :at lady is n fond ( dress87 & consci\s t x is unbecom+ to dress to excess :5 visitors are invit$1 yet s unable to re/ra9 ! desire ( display1 has made ! :ole ( h] gue/s look %abby1 by ! contra/ ( h] own gay colors4 ,to dress meanly is a m>k ( disrespect to ! company1 b x is equally s to make a v gay appe>ance4 ,if y make a gr& display y\rself1 y are apt to appe> z if y wi%$ to p>ade y\r appe>ance1 & x is always saf] to be "u ?an ov] ! m>k4 ,9 go+ out1 consid] ! sort ( company y are likely to meet1 & endeavor to assimilate to !m z mu* z possible--= to make a great display else:]e is an evid5ce ( bad ta/e4 ,b "h if y miss ! happy m$ium1 dress above ! m>k r ?an bel[ x1 = y may dress m out ( doors ?an y may at home4 ,:]e danc+ is expect$ to take place1 no "o %\ld g )\t new kid gloves2 no?+ is s revolt+ z to see "o p]son 9 an assembly unglov$1 especially :]e ! heat ( ! room1 & ! ex]cise toge!r1 are sure to make ! h&s r$d] ?an usual4 ,always we> y\r gloves 9 *ur* or 9 a !at]4 ,we may add a few g5]al maxims1 appli$ to bo? sexes1 & our task w be done4 ,all affectation 9 dress1 says ,*e/]field1 implies a flaw 9 ! und]/&+4 ,"o %\ld1 !re=e1 avoid be+ s+ul>1 or attract+ ! notice1 & ! tongues ( ! s>ca/ic1 by be+ ecc5tric4 ,nev] dress aga9/ any "o4 ,*oose ^? g>m5ts :i* suit y1 & look well ^u y1 p]fectly irrespective ( ! fact t a lady or g5tleman 9 ! same village or /reet may excel y4 ,:5 dress$ = company1 /rive to appe> z easy & natural z if y 7 9 undress4 ,no?+ is m di/ress+ to a s5sitive p]son1 or m ridicul\s to "o gift$ ) an esprit moqueur1 ?an to see a lady labor+ "u ! consci\sness ( a f9e g[n2 or a g5tleman :o is /iff1 awkw>d1 & unga9ly 9 a bran-new coat4 ,dress accord+ to y\r age4 ,x is bo? pa9ful & ridicul\s to see an old lady dress$ z a belle ( f\r-&-tw5ty1 or an old fell[1 old en\gh = a gr&fa!r1 affect+ ! co/ume & ! mann]s ( a beau4 ,"y m5 %\ld be well dress$4 ,n foppi%ly1 b neatly & well4 ,an untidy p]son at five-&-tw5ty1 deg5]ates1 v frequ5tly1 into a slov5 & a boor at fifty4 ,be n too neglig5t1 nor too /udi$ 9 y\r attire2 & la/ly1 let y\r behavior & conv]sation suit ! clo!s y we>1 s t ^? :o "k y may feel t1 aft] all1 dress & ext]nal appe>ance is ! lea/ portion ( a ,,lady or ,,g5tleman4 ,,introductions4 ,! cu/om :i* prevails 9 c\ntry places ( introduc+ ev]ybody y meet to ea* o!r1 is bo? an annoy+ & an improp] "o4 ,z a g5]al rule1 introductions ought n to be made1 except :]e !re is und\bt$ evid5ce t ! acqua9tance w\ld be mutually agreeable & prop]4 ,b if y %\ld f9d an agreeable p]son 9 private society1 :o seems desir\s ( mak+ y\r acqua9tance1 !re _c be any objection to y\r meet+ 8 advances half way1 al?\gh ! c]emony ( an introduction may n h tak5 place2 8 pres5ce 9 y\r fri5d's h\se be+ a suffici5t gu>antee = 8 respectability1 z ( c\rse if he 7 an improp] p]son he w\ld n be !re4 ,x is cu/om>y 9 introduc+ p1 to pres5t ! y\nge/ p]son to ! olde/1 or ! humble/ to ! highe/ 9 position1 if !re is any di/9ction4 ,9 introduc+ a g5tleman to a lady1 address h] fir/1 ?us3 ,miss ,mason1 p]mit me to pres5t y to ,mr4 ,k5t2 or1 ,mr4 ,trevor1 ,i h ! pleasure ( pres5t+ to y ,mr4 ,m>l[4 ,:5 "o lady is m>ri$1 & ! o!r s+le1 pres5t ! s+le lady to ! matron--,miss ,h>ris1 all[ me to introduce y to ,mrs4 ,m>t94 ,:5 y introduce p>ties :om y are q sure w be pleas$ ) ea* o!r1 x is well to add1 aft] ! introduction1 t y take great pleasure 9 mak+ !m acqua9t$1 :i* w be an assurance to ea* t y ?9k !y are well mat*$1 & ?us !y are prep>$ to be fri5ds f ! />t4 ,9 introduc+ p>ties1 be c>eful to pron\nce ea* "n di/9ctly1 z !re is no?+ m awkw>d ?an to h "o's "n miscall$4 ,9 introduc+ a =eign]1 x is prop] to pres5t him z ,mr4 ,leslie1 f ,engl&2 ,mr4 ,la ,rue f ,france4 ,likewise :5 pres5t+ an ,am]ican :o has rec5tly return$ aft] travel+ 9 di/ant l&s1 make him kn[n z ,mr4 ,dunlap1 lately f ,france1 or ,mr4 ,mead[s1 rec5tly f ,italy4 ,x is v easy to make ^! slight specifications1 & !y at once af=d an op5+ = conv]sation betwe5 ! two /rang]s1 = no?+ w be m natural ?an to ask ! rec5tly arriv$ some?+ ab\t 8 voyage1 or ! places he has se5 dur+ 8 travels4 ,:5 pres5t+ a gov]nor1 designate ! ,/ate he gov]ns--z1 ,gov]nor ,f5ton ( ,new ,york4 ,9 introduc+ a memb] ( ,congress1 m5tion ! ,/ate to :i* he belongs1 z ,mr4 ,%]man ( ,ohio1 or ,mr4 ,banks ( ,massa*usetts4 ,d n =get t ,congress includes ! two legislative bodies4 ,:5 introduc+ any ( ! memb]s ( y\r own family1 m5tion ! "n 9 an audible tone4 ,x is n consid]$ suffici5t to say ,my fa!r1 ,my "m1 ,my si/]1 or ,my bro!r4 ,b say1 ,my fa!r1 ,mr4 ,/anley1 ,my bro!r1 ,mr4 ,we/on1 ,my si/]1 ,miss or ,mrs4 ,hope4 ,x is be/ to be explicit 9 all ^! ?+s1 = !re may be m ?an "o surname 9 ! family4 ,! elde/ daught] %\ld be introduc$ by h] surname only1 z1 ,miss ,%]wood1 h] y\ng] si/]s1 z ,miss ,maud ,%]wood1 ,miss ,m>y ,%]wood4 ,9 pres5t+ a cl]gyman1 d n neglect to put ,rev]5d be=e 8 "n4 ,if he is a ,d4 ,d4 say1 ,! ,rev]5d ,doctor4 ,if he is a bi%op1 !n ! ^w bi%op is suffici5t4 ,:5 y are introduc$ to a p]son1 be c>eful n to appe> z ?\gh y _h nev] he>d ( him be=e4 ,if he happ5s to be a p]son ( any di/9ction1 su* a mi/ake w\ld be unp>donable1 & no p]son is complim5t$ by be+ rem9d$ ( ! fact t 8 "n is unkn[n4 ,if by any mis=tune y h be5 introduc$ to a p]son ^: acqua9tance y d n desire1 y c m]ely make ! =mal b[ ( etiquette :5 y meet him1 :i*1 ( itself1 enc\rages no famili>ity2 b ! b[ is indisp5sable1 = he _c be ?\ght a g5tleman :o w\ld pass ano!r ) a vacant />e1 aft] hav+ be5 =mally pres5t$ to him4 ,by s do+1 he w\ld (f] a slight :i* w\ld ju/ly make him appe> contemptible ev5 9 ! eyes ( ! p]son he means to humble4 ,:at is call$ cutt+ ano!r is nev] practic$ by g5tlem5 or ladies1 except 9 "s extraord9>y in/ances ( bad conduct on ! "p ( ! individual ?us sacrific$4 ,an increas$ degree ( c]emony & =mal polit5ess is ! mo/ delicate way ( )draw+ f an unpleasant acqua9tance4 ,inde$1 :at is call$ cutt+ is r>ely ev] practic$ by well-br$ ladies & g5tlem54 ,on introduction 9 a room1 a m>ri$ lady g5]ally (f]s h] h&1 a "y lady n2 9 a ball-room1 :]e ! introduction is to danc+1 n to fri5d%ip1 y nev] %ake h&s2 & z a g5]al rule1 an introduction is n foll[$ by %ak+ h&s--only by a b[4 ,x may p]haps be laid d[n1 t ! m public ! place ( introduction1 ! less h&-%ak+ takes place2 b if ! introduction be p>ticul>1 if x be accompani$ by p]sonal recomm5dation1 su* z1 ,i want y to "k my fri5d ,jones1 !n y give ,jones y\r h&1 & w>mly too4 ,x is und]/ood 9 society1 t a p]son :o has be5 prop]ly introduc$ to y1 has "s claim on y\r good (fices 9 future2 y _c !re=e slight him )\t good reason1 & ! *ance ( be+ call$ to an acc\nt = x4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,introduction4 ,lett]s ( introduction are to be reg>d$ z c]tificates ( respectability1 & are !re=e nev] to be giv5 :]e y d n feel sure on ?is po9t4 ,to s5d a p]son ( :om y "k no?+ into ! confid5ce & family ( a fri5d1 is an unp>donable recklessness4 ,9 ,engl&1 lett]s ( introduction are call$ tickets to s\p1 because x is g5]ally cu/om>y to invite a g5tleman to d9e :o comes ) a lett] ( introduction to y4 ,su* is also ! practice1 to "s ext5t1 9 ?is c\ntry1 b etiquette "h does n make ! d9n] s ess5tial z !re4 ,9 ,engl&1 ! p>ty hold+ a lett] ( introduction nev] takes x himself to ! p>ty to :om x is address$1 b he s5ds x ) 8 c>d ( address4 ,9 ,france1 & on ! cont95t ( ,europe g5]ally1 directly ! rev]se is ! fa%ion4 ,9 ,am]ica ! ,engli% cu/om g5]ally prevails2 ?\gh :]e a "y g5tleman has a lett] to "o :o is _m ye>s 8 s5ior1 or to "o ^: aid he seeks 9 "s ent]prise1 he takes x at once himself4 ,:5 a g5tleman1 be>+ a lett] ( introduction to y1 leaves 8 c>d1 y %\ld call on him1 or s5d a note1 z e>ly z possible4 ,!re is no great] insult ?an to treat a lett] ( introduction ) indiff]5ce--x is a slight to ! /rang] z well z to ! introduc]1 :i* no subsequ5t att5tions w cancel4 ,aft] y h made ?is call1 x is1 to "s ext5t1 optional ) y z to :at fur!r att5tions y %all pay ! p>ty4 ,9 ?is c\ntry ev]ybody is suppos$ to be v busy1 :i* is always a suffici5t excuse = n pay+ elaborate att5tions to visitors4 ,x is n dem&$ t any man %all neglect 8 bus9ess to wait ^u visitors or gue/s4 ,d n imag9e ^! little c]emonies to be insignificant & b5ea? y\r att5tion2 !y are ! cu/oms ( society2 & if y d n con=m to !m1 y w ga9 ! un5viable di/9ction ( be+ po9t$ out z an ignorant1 ill-br$ p]son4 ,n t y may c>e ! m = /rang]s by %[+ !m civility1 b y %\ld scrupul\sly avoid ! imputation ( be+ defici5t 9 good-bre$+2 & if y d n *oose to be polite = _! sakes1 y ought to be s = y\r own4 ,lett]s ( introduction %\ld only be giv5 by actual fri5ds ( ! p]sons address$1 & to actual fri5ds ( _! own4 ,nev]1 if y are wise1 give a lett] to a p]son :om y d n "k1 nor address "o to "o :om y "k slightly4 ,! lett] ( introduction1 if actually giv5 to its be>]1 %\ld be left unseal$1 t he may n incur ! fate ( ! ,p]sian mess5g]1 :o br\ght tablets ( introduction recomm5d+ ! new acqua9tance to cut 8 head (f4 ,a lett] ( ?is k9d mu/ !re=e be c>efully word$1 /at+ 9 full ! "n ( ! p]son introduc$1 b ) z few rem>ks ab\t him z possible4 ,x is g5]ally suffici5t to say t he is a fri5d ( y\rs1 :om y tru/ y\r o!r fri5d w receive ) att5tion1 etc4 ,9 travel+ x is well to h z _m lett]s z possible1 b n to p9 y\r fai? on !m4 ,,d9n] ,,p>ties4 ,invitations to d9e1 f a m>ri$ p>ty1 are s5t 9 "s su* =m z ! foll[+3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,a---- pres5t _! complim5ts to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,b----1 & reque/ ! honor1 or hope to h ! pleasure ( _! company to d9n] on ,w$nesday1 ! #aj? ( ,decemb] next1 at sev54 ,a---- ,/reet1 ,novemb] #ah?1 #ah--4 ,r4 ,s4 ,v4 ,p4 ,! lett]s 9 ! corn] imply ,repondez1 s'il v\s plait2 mean+1 an answ] w oblige4 ,! reply1 accept+ ! invitation1 is conclud$ 9 ! foll[+ t]ms3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,b---- pres5t _! complim5ts to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,a----1 & w d !mselves ! honor1 or w h mu* pleasure 9 accept+ _! k9d invitation to d9n] on ! #aj? ( ,decemb] next4 ,b---- ,squ>e1 ,novemb] #ba/1 #ah--4 ,! answ] to invitations to d9e1 accept+ or decl9+1 %\ld be s5t imm$iately1 & are always address$ to ! lady4 ,if1 aft] y h accept$ an invitation1 any?+ occurs to r5d] x impossible = y to g1 ! lady %\ld be in=m$ ( x imm$iately4 ,x is a great brea* ( etiquette n to answ] an invitation z soon aft] x is receiv$ z possible1 & x is an insult to disappo9t :5 we h promis$4 ,c>ds or invitations = a d9n] p>ty1 %\ld be issu$ at lea/ two weeks be=eh&1 & c>e %\ld be tak5 by ! ho/ess1 9 ! selection ( ! invit$ gue/s1 t !y %\ld be suit$ to ea* o!r4 ,mu* also ( ! pleasure ( ! d9n]-p>ty w dep5d on ! arrangem5t ( ! gue/s at table1 s z to =m a due admixture ( talk]s & li/5]s1 ! grave & ! gay4 ,lett]s or c>ds ( invitation %\ld always "n ! h\r ( d9n]2 & well-br$ p w arrive z ne>ly at ! specifi$ "t z !y c4 ,be sure & n be a m9ute beh9d ! "t1 & y %\ld n get !re long be=e1 unless ! invitation reque/s y p>ticul>ly to come e>ly = a little *at be=e d9n]4 ,x is always be/ = ! lady ( ! h\se1 :]e a d9n]-p>ty is to come (f1 to be dress$ & ready to appe> 9 ! draw+-room z e>ly z possible1 s t if any ( ! gue/s %\ld happ5 to come a little e>ly1 %e may be prep>$ to receive !m4 ,x is awkw>d = bo? p>ties :]e visitors arrive be=e ! lady ( ! h\se is ready = !m4 ,if x is necess>y = h] to keep an eye ^u ! d9n]1 x is /ill be/ t %e %\ld famili>ly receive h] gue/s1 & beg to be excus$1 if x is necess>y = h] to vani% occasionally to ! kit*54 ,a real lady is n a%am$ to h x kn[n t %e goes into ! kit*52 on ! contr>y1 x is m likely t %e w be a little pr\d ( be+ ?\ght capable ( sup]9t5d+ ! prep>+ fea/4 ,x is n 9 good ta/e = ! lady ( ! h\se1 :]e a d9n]-p>ty is giv51 to dress v mu*4 ,%e leaves x = h] lady-gue/s to make :at display !y please1 & %e (f]s no rivalry to _! f9e ?+s4 ,%e cont5ts h]self ) a ta/y neglige1 :i* (t5 proves ! mo/ fasc9at+ equipm5t aft] all1 especially1 if ! *eeks become a little flu%$ ) natural bloom1 9 consequ5ce ( ! ex]cise & anxiety incid5t to ! reception ( ! gue/s4 ,! half h\r be=e d9n] has always be5 consid]$ z ! great ordeal ?r\gh :i* ! lady ( ! h\se1 9 giv+ a d9n]-p>ty1 w ei!r pass ) fly+ colors1 or lose _m ( h] laurels4 ,! anxiety to receive h] gue/s1 h] hope t all w be pres5t 9 good "t1 h] tru/ 9 ! skill ( h] cook1 & ! att5tion ( ! o!r dome/ics all t5d to make ! few m9utes a try+ "t4 ,! lady h[ev]1 mu/ display no k9d ( agitation1 b %[ h] tact 9 sugge/+ light & *e]ful subjects ( conv]sation1 :i* w be mu* aid$ by ! introduction ( any p>ticul> new book1 curiosity ( art1 or article ( virtu1 :i* may pleasantly engage ! att5tion ( ! company4 ,wait+ = d9n]1 h[ev]1 is a try+ "t1 & !re are few :o h n felt---- ,h[ sad x is to sit & p9e1 ,! long half-h\r be=e we d9e6 ,^u our wat*es (t we look1 ,!n wond] at ! clock & cook1 ,& /rive to laugh 9 spite ( ,fate6 ,b laught] =c$1 soon quits ! room1 ,& leaves x to its =m] gloom4 ,b lo6 ! d9n] n[ appe>s1 ,! object ( our hope & fe>s1 ,! end ( all our pa96 ,9 giv+ an ent]ta9m5t ( ?is k9d1 ! lady %\ld rememb] t x is h] duty to make h] gue/s feel happy1 com=table1 & q at _! ease2 & ! gue/s %\ld also consid] t !y h come to ! h\se ( _! ho/ess to be happy4 ,:5 d9n] is on ! table1 ! lady & g5tleman ( ! h\se w h an opportunity ( %[+ _! tact by see+ t ! mo/ di/+ui%$ gue/s1 or ! olde/1 are %[n into ! d9+-room fir/1 & by mak+ ^? companions at ! table :o are mo/ likely to be agreeable to ea* o!r4 ,! lady ( ! h\se may lead ! way1 or foll[ h] gue/s into ! d9+-room1 z %e pleases4 ,among ^? :o delight to foll[ ! etiquette ( ! ,engli% nobility1 ! latt] practice is foll[$4 ,b ! practice mu/ n be consid]$ a te/ ( good bre$+ 9 ,am]ica4 ,if ! lady leads1 ! husb& w foll[ beh9d ! gue/s1 ) ! lady on 8 arm :o is to sit at 8 side4 ,! old cu/om is /ill foll[$ to "s ext5t 9 ?is c\ntry1 ( ! lady tak+ ! head ( ! table1 ) ! two mo/ favor$ gue/s seat$1 ! "o at h] "r & ! o!r at h] left h&2 :ile ! g5tleman ( ! h\se takes ! foot ( ! table1 support$ on ea* side by ! two ladies mo/ entitl$ to consid]ation4 ,b ?is old rule is by no means slavi%ly foll[$ 9 polite society 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,9 ord] to be able to wat* ! c\rse ( ! d9n]1 & to see t no?+ is want+ to _! gue/s1 ! lady & g5tleman ( ! h\se usually seat !mselves 9 ! c5tre ( ! table1 opposite ea* o!r4 ,:5 all ! gue/s are seat$1 ! lady ( ! h\se s]ves 9 plates1 f a pile at h] left h&1 ! s\p1 :i* %e s5ds r\nd1 beg9n+ ) h] neighbors "r & left1 & cont9u+ till all are help$4 ,^! fir/ plates usually pass twice1 = ea* gue/ endeavors to induce 8 neighbor to accept :at 0 s5t to him4 ,! g5tleman !n c>ves1 or causes to be c>v$ by "s exp]t gue/1 ! l>ge pieces1 9 ord] aft]w>ds to d ! o!r honors himself4 ,if y h no skill 9 c>v+ meats1 d n attempt x2 nor %\ld y ev] dis*>ge ?is duty except :5 y\r good (fices are solicit$ by him2 nei!r c we refuse any?+ s5t u f 8 h&4 ,,habits ,,at ,,table4 ,z soon z d9n] is ann\nc$1 ! ho/ or ho/ess w give ! signal = leav+ ! draw+-room1 & 9 all probability y w be reque/$ to escort "o ( ! ladies to ! table4 ,if ?is %\ld occur1 (f] ! lady y\r left arm1 & at ! table rema9 /&+ until e lady is seat$1 !n take ! place assign$ to y by ! ho/ess4 ,:5 y leave ! p>lor1 pass out fir/1 & ! lady w foll[ y1 /ill lightly hold+ y\r arm4 ,at ! door ( ! d9+-room1 ! lady w drop y\r arm4 ,y %\ld !n pass 91 & wait at "o side ( ! entrance till %e passes y4 ,hav+ arriv$ at ! table1 ea* g5tleman respectfully salutes ! lady :om he conducts1 :o 9 h] turn1 also b[s & takes h] seat4 ,no?+ indicates ! good bre$+ ( a g5tleman s mu* z 8 mann]s at table4 ,!re are a ?\s& little po9ts to be obs]v$1 :i*1 al?\gh n absolutely necess>y1 di/9ctly /amp ! ref9$ & well-br$ man4 ,a man may pass mu/] by dress+ well1 & may su/a9 himself tol]ably 9 conv]sation2 b if he be n p]fectly au fait1 d9n] w betray him4 ,any unpleasant peculi>ity1 abruptness1 or co>s5ess ( mann]s1 is especially (f5sive at table4 ,p are m easily disgu/$ at t "t ?an at any o!r4 ,all su* acts z lean+ ov] on "o side 9 y\r *air1 plac+ y\r elb[s on ! table1 or on ! back ( y\r neighbor's *air1 gap+1 twi/+ ab\t re/lessly 9 y\r seat1 are to be avoid$ z h]esies ( ! mo/ infidel /amp at table4 ,?\gh ! body at table %\ld always be kept 9 a tol]ably upright & easy position1 yet "o ne$ n sit bolt-upright1 z /iff & prim z a pok]4 ,to be easy1 to be natural1 & to appe> com=table1 is ! deportm5t requir$4 ,always g to a d9n] z neatly dress$ z possible4 ,! exp5siv5ess ( y\r app>el is n ( mu* importance1 b its fre%ness & cleanl9ess are indisp5sable4 ,! h&s & f+]-nails require especial att5tion4 ,x is a great insult to e lady at ! table = a man to sit d[n to d9n] ) 8 h&s 9 a bad condition4 ,x is consid]$ vulg> to take fi% or s\p twice4 ,! reason = n be+ help$ twice to fi% or s\p at a l>ge d9n]-p>ty is1 because by do+ s y keep ?ree p>ts ( ! company />+ at y :il/ wait+ = ! second c\rse1 :i* is spoil+1 mu* to ! annoyance ( ! mi/ress ( ! h\se4 ,! selfi% gre$9ess1 !re=e1 ( s do+ con/itutes its vulg>ity4 ,at a family d9n] x is ( less importance1 & is consequ5tly (t5 done4 ,y w sip y\r s\p z quietly z possible f ! side ( ! spoon1 & y1 ( c\rse1 w n commit ! vulg>ity ( bl[+ 9 x1 or try+ to cool x1 aft] x is 9 y\r m\?1 by draw+ 9 an unusual quantity ( air1 = by s do+ y w\ld be sure to annoy1 if y did n turn ! /oma* ( ! lady or g5tleman next to y4 ,be c>eful & d n t\* ei!r y\r knife or y\r =k until aft] y h f9i%$ eat+ y\r s\p4 ,leave y\r spoon 9 y\r s\p plate1 t ! s]vant may remove !m4 ,nev] use y\r knife to convey y\r food to y\r m\?1 "u any circum/ances2 x is unnecess>y1 & gl>+ly vulg>4 ,fe$ y\rself ) a =k or spoon1 no?+ else--a knife is only to be us$ = cutt+4 ,if at d9n] y are reque/$ to help any "o to sauce1 d n p\r x ov] ! meat or vegetables1 b on "o side4 ,if y %\ld h to c>ve & help a jo9t1 d n load a p]son's plate--x is vulg>2 also 9 s]v+ s\p1 "o ladleful to ea* plate is suffici5t4 ,fi% %\ld always be help$ ) a silv] fi%-slice1 & y\r own portion ( x divid$ by ! =k aid$ by a piece ( bread4 ,! application ( a knife to fi% is likely to de/roy ! delicacy ( its flavor2 besides :i*1 fi% sauces are (t5 acidulat$2 acids corrode /eel1 & draw f x a disagreeable ta/e4 ,! lady & g5tleman ( ! h\se are1 ( c\rse1 help$ la/1 & !y are v p>ticul> to notice1 e m9ute1 :e!r ! wait]s are att5tive to e gue/4 ,b !y d n press p ei!r to eat m ?an !y appe> to want1 nor insi/ ^u _! p>tak+ ( any p>ticul> di%4 ,x is all[able = y to recomm5d1 s f> z to say t x is consid]$ excell5t1 b rememb] t ta/es diff]1 & di%es :i* suit y1 may be unpleasant to o!rs2 & t1 9 consequ5ce ( y\r urg5cy1 "s mode/ p might feel !mselves compell$ to p>take ( :at is disagreeable to !m4 ,nei!r ladies nor g5tlem5 ev] we> gloves at table1 unless _! h&s1 f "s cause1 are n fit to be se54 ,avoid too sl[ or too rapid eat+2 ! "o w appe> z ?\gh y did n l y\r d9n]1 & ! o!r z ?\gh y 7 afraid y w\ld n get en\gh4 ,mak+ a noise 9 *ew+ y\r food1 or brea?+ h>d 9 eat+1 are unseemly habits1 :i* w be sure to get y a bad "n at table1 among p ( good-bre$+4 ,let x be a sacr$ rule t y _c use y\r knife1 or =k1 or tee? too quietly4 ,avoid pick+ y\r tee?1 if possible1 at table1 = h[ev] agreeable su* a practice might be to y\rself1 x may be (f5sive to o!rs4 ,! habit :i* "s h ( hold+ "o h& ov] ! m\?1 does n avoid ! vulg>ity ( tee?-pick+ at table4 ,unless y are reque/$ to d s1 nev] select any p>ticul> "p ( a di%2 b if y\r ho/ asks y :at "p y pref]1 "n "s "p1 z 9 ?is case ! incivility w\ld consi/ 9 mak+ y\r ho/ *oose z well z c>ve = y4 ,if y\r ho/ or ho/ess passes y a plate1 keep x1 especially if y h *os5 ! food ^u x1 = o!rs h also a *oice1 & by pass+ x1 y may give y\r neighbor di%es di/a/eful to him1 & take y\rself ^? :i* he w\ld mu* pref]4 ,if a di% is di/a/eful to y1 decl9e x1 b make no rem>ks ab\t x4 ,x is sick5+ & disgu/+ to expla9 at a table h[ "o article makes y sick1 or :y "s o!r di% has become di/a/eful to y4 ,i h se5 a well-dress$ tempt+ di% g f a table unt\*$1 because "o ( ! company told a mo/ disgu/+ anecdote ab\t f9d+ v]m9 s]v$ 9 a simil> di%4 ,if ! meat or fi% ^u y\r plate is too r>e or too well-done1 d n eat x2 give = an excuse t y pref] "s o!r di% be=e y2 b nev] tell y\r ho/ t 8 cook has made ! di% uneatable4 ,if a g5tleman is seat$ by ! side ( a lady or eld]ly p]son1 polit5ess requires him to save !m all tr\ble ( p\r+ out = !mselves to dr9k1 & ( obta9+ :atev] !y are 9 want ( at ! table4 ,he %\ld be eag] to (f] !m :atev] he ?9ks to be mo/ to _! ta/e4 ,nev] p>e an apple or a pe> = a lady unless %e desire y1 & !n be c>eful to use y\r =k to hold x2 y may sometimes (f] to divide a v l>ge pe> ) or = a p]son4 ,x is n good ta/e to praise extravagantly e di% t is set be=e y2 b if !re are "s ?+s t are really v nice1 x is well to speak 9 _! praise4 ,b1 above all ?+s1 avoid seem+ indiff]5t to ! d9n] t is provid$ = y1 z t might be con/ru$ into a dissatisfaction ) x4 ,"s p]sons1 9 help+ _! gue/s1 or recomm5d+ di%es to _! ta/e1 preface e su* action ) a eulogy on its m]its1 & draw e bottle ( w9e ) an acc\nt ( its virtues2 o!rs1 runn+ into ! contr>y extreme1 regret or fe> t ea* di% is n exactly z x %\ld be2 t ! cook1 etc41 etc4 ,bo? ( ^! habits are griev\s errors4 ,y %\ld leave x to y\r gue/s alone to approve1 or suff] "o ( y\r intimate fri5ds :o is pres5t1 to vaunt y\r w9e4 ,if y ask ! wait] = any?+1 y w be c>eful to speak to him g5tly 9 ! tone ( reque/1 & n ( comm&4 ,to speak to a wait] 9 a driv+ mann] w create1 among well-br$ p1 ! suspicion t y 7 sometime a s]vant y\rself1 & are putt+ on airs at ! ?\ght ( y\r promotion4 ,"l ,*e/]field says3 ,if ,i tell a footman to br+ me a glass ( w9e1 9 a r\gh1 insult+ mann]1 ,i %\ld expect t1 9 obey+ me1 he w\ld contrive to spill "s ( x ^u me1 & ,i am sure ,i %\ld des]ve x4 ,%\ld y\r s]vants break any?+ :ile y are at table1 nev] turn r\nd1 or inquire into ! p>ticul>s1 h[ev] annoy$ y may feel4 ,if y\r s]vants betray /upidity or awkw>dness 9 wait+ on y\r gue/s1 avoid reprim&+ !m publicly1 z x only draws att5tion to _! errors1 & adds to _! emb>rassm5t4 ,nev] commit ! vulg>ism ( speak+ :5 y h any food 9 y\r m\?4 ,:5 y h occasion to *ange or pass y\r plate dur+ d9n]1 be c>eful & remove y\r knife & =k1 t ! plate alone may be tak51 b aft] y h f9i%$ y\r d9n]1 cross ! knife & =k on ! plate1 t ! s]vant may take all away1 be=e br++ y clean ones = dess]t4 ,d n put butt] on y\r bread at d9n]1 & avoid bit+ or cutt+ y\r bread f ! slice1 or roll2 r break (f small pieces1 & put ^! 9 y\r m\? ) y\r f+]s4 ,x is consid]$ vulg> to dip a piece ( bread into ! pres]ves or gravy ^u y\r plate & !n bite x4 ,if y desire to eat !m toge!r1 x is mu* bett] to break ! bread 9 small pieces1 & convey ^! to y\r m\? ) y\r =k4 ,avoid putt+ bones1 or ! se$s ( fruit1 ^u y\r table-clo?4 ,r place !m ^u ! edge ( y\r plate4 ,:5 y wi% to help y\rself to butt]1 salt1 or sug>1 use ! butt]-knife1 salt-spoon & sug>-tongs2 to use y\r own knife1 spoon or f+]s ev9ces great ignorance & ill-bre$+4 ,x is cu/om>y 9 "s ,am]ican families to s]ve _! gue/s ) c(fee 9 ! p>lor aft] d9n]4 ,b ?is is a ,european cu/om :i* is n g5]ally practic$ 9 polite ,am]ican society4 ,:5 c(fee is giv5 at ! close ( ! d9n]1 x is m usual to s]ve x be=e ! gue/s leave ! table4 ,! practice ( h&+ x r\nd 9 ! p>lor or draw+-room1 is an unnecess>y inconv5i5ce to ! gue/s p>ticul>ly1 )\t any comp5sat+ advantages4 ,f+]-glasses are g5]ally h&$ r\nd z soon z ! vi&s are remov$1 b !y are int5d$ m]ely to wet ! f+]s & ar\nd ! m\?4 ,:5 ! f+]-glasses are pass$1 wet y\r f+]s 9 !m & !n wipe !m ^u y\r napk94 ,! habit ( r9s+ ! m\? at table is a disgu/+ piece ( indelicacy1 :i* is nev] practic$ by any well-br$ p]son4 ,^u leav+ ! table1 lay y\r napk9 beside y\r plate1 b d n fold x4 ,d n leave ! table until ! lady ( ! h\se gives ! signal1 & :5 y leave (f] y\r arm to ! lady :om y escort$ to ! table4 ,x is g5]ally ! cu/om 9 ?is c\ntry = ladies to reta9 _! seats at table till ! end ( ! fea/1 b if !y )draw1 ! g5tlem5 all rise :5 !y leave ! table1 & rema9 /&+ until !y h left ! room4 ,polit5ess dem&s t y rema9 at lea/ an h\r 9 ! p>lor1 aft] d9n]2 &1 if y c dispose ( an entire ev5+1 x w\ld be well to devote x to ! p]son :o has ent]ta9$ y4 ,x is excessively rude to leave ! h\se z soon z d9n] is ov]4 ,,w9e ,,at ,,table4 ,almo/ e g5tleman has w9e at 8 table :5ev] he has invit$ gue/s4 ,inde$1 w9e is consid]$ an indisp5sable "p ( a good d9n]1 to :i* ladies & g5tlem5 h be5 =mally invit$4 ,ev5 if y are a total-ab/95ce man y\rself1 y w n1 if y are really a g5tleman1 attempt to compel all y\r gue/s to be s aga9/ _! wi%4 ,if y are s fanatical t y h :at is call$ consci5ti\s scruples aga9/ furni%+ w9e1 !n y %\ld invite none to d9e :o are n z fanatical & bigot$ z y\rself4 ,y mu/ consid] t a g5tleman may h consci5ti\s scruples aga9/ d9+ ) y on cold wat]1 = !re are ev5 temp]ate & sob] g5tleman :o w\ld g )\t meat z soon z be depriv$ ( _! glass ( w9e at d9n]4 ,! veget>ian1 :o w\ld =ce 8 gue/s to d9e on cabbages & onions1 is h>dly guilty ( a great] brea* ( etiquette ?an ! total-ab/95ce fanatic :o w\ld compel 8 gue/s to g )\t w9e4 ,if !re is a g5tleman at ! table :o is kn[n to be a total-ab/95ce man1 y w n urge him to dr9k4 ,he w suff] 8 glass to be fill$ at ! fir/ passage ( ! w9e1 & rais+ x to 8 lips1 w b[ 8 respects ) ! re/ ( ! gue/s1 & aft] t 8 glass w be all[$ to rema9 unt\*$4 ,z little notice z possible %\ld be tak5 ( 8 total-ab/95ce peculi>ity4 ,&1 if he is a g5tleman1 he w c>efully avoid draw+ att5tion to x himself4 ,x is n n[ ! cu/om to ask a lady across ! table to take w9e ) y4 ,x is expect$ t e lady w be prop]ly help$ to w9e by ! g5tleman :o takes h] to ! table1 or :o sits next to h]4 ,b if y are 9 company :]e ! old cu/om prevails1 x w\ld be bett] bre$+ to foll[ ! cu/om ( ! place1 r ?an by an omission ( :at y\r ent]ta9] consid]s civility1 to prove him1 9 face ( 8 gue/s1 to be ei!r ignorant or vulg>4 ,if ei!r a lady or g5tleman is invit$ to take w9e at table1 !y mu/ nev] refuse2 if !y d n dr9k1 !y ne$ only t\* ! w9e to _! lips4 ,d n (f] to help a lady to w9e until y see %e has f9i%$ h] s\p or fi%4 ,always wipe y\r m\? be=e dr9k+1 z no?+ is m ill-br$ ?an to grease y\r glass ) y\r lips4 ,d n propose to take w9e ) y\r ho/2 x is 8 privilege to invite y4 ,x is consid]$ well br$ to take ! same w9e z t select$ by ! p]son ) :om y dr9k4 ,:51 h[ev]1 ! w9e *os5 by him is unpalatable to y1 x is all[able to take t :i* y pref]1 at ! same "t apologiz+ly say+1 ,w y p]mit me to dr9k cl>et8 or :atev] w9e y h select$4 ,9 invit+ a lady to take w9e ) y at table1 y %\ld politely say1 ,%all ,i h ! pleasure ( a glass ( w9e ) y8 ,y w !n ei!r h& h] ! bottle y h select$1 or s5d x by ! wait]1 & aft]w>ds fill y\r own glass1 :5 y w politely & sil5tly b[ to ea* o!r1 z y raise ! w9e to y\r lips4 ,! same c]emony is to be obs]v$ :5 invit+ a g5tleman4 ,on rais+ ! fir/ glass ( w9e to 8 lips1 x is cu/om>y = a g5tleman to b[ to ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,x is n cu/om>y to propose toa/s or to dr9k deep at a g5tleman's family table4 ,"l ,byron describes a l>gi% p>ty1 z fir/ sil5t1 !n talky1 !n argum5tative1 !n disputati\s1 !n un9telligible1 !n altoge!ry1 !n drunk4 ,b ?is 0 a l>gi% p>ty1 :i*1 x is to be hop$1 0 giv5 at a tav]n2 = ! man :o dr9ks to intoxication1 or to any consid]able degree ( elevation1 at a g5tleman's family table1 ought nev] to expect to be invit$ a second "t4 ,at d9n]-p>ties :i* are giv5 to g5tlem51 = ! purpose ( conviviality1 "o may indulge 9 z mu* w9e z he pleases1 provid$ he does n get drunk1 & make a nuisance ( himself4 ,:]e dr9k+1 & toa/+1 & bump]s1 are ! ord] ( ! fea/1 z at a public d9n]1 giv5 9 honor ( a di/+ui%$ man1 or at ! inauguration ( "s public ent]prise1 f> great] latitude is all[$1 9 all ?+s1 ?an on m private & select occasions4 ,9 conclusion ( our article on table etiquette1 we quote f a rec5t ,engli% "w1 "s humor\s1 b valuable h9ts3 ,we n[ come to habits at table1 :i* are v important4 ,h[ev] agreeable a man may be 9 society1 if he (f5ds or disgu/s by 8 table traits1 he w soon be sc\t$ f x1 & ju/ly s4 ,!re are "s broad rules = behavior at table4 ,:5ev] !re is a s]vant to help y1 nev] help y\rself4 ,nev] put a knife into y\r m\?1 n ev5 ) *eese1 :i* %\ld be eat5 ) a =k4 ,nev] use a spoon = any?+ b liquids4 ,nev] t\* any?+ edible ) y\r f+]s4 ,=ks 7 und\bt$ly a lat] inv5tion ?an f+]s1 b z we are n cannibals1 ,i am incl9$ to ?9k !y 7 a good "o4 ,!re are "s few ?+s :i* y may take up ) y\r f+]s4 ,?us an epicure w eat ev5 mac>oni ) 8 f+]s2 & z suck+ asp>agus is m pleasant ?an *ew+ x1 y may1 z an epicure1 take x up au naturel4 ,b bo? ^! ?+s are g5]ally eat5 ) a =k4 ,bread is1 ( c\rse1 eat5 ) ! f+]s1 & x w\ld be absurd to c>ve x ) y\r knife & =k4 ,x mu/1 on ! contr>y1 always be brok5 :5 n butt]$1 & y %\ld nev] put a slice ( dry bread to y\r m\? to bite a piece (f4 ,mo/ fre% fruit1 too1 is eat5 ) ! natural prongs1 b :5 y h peel$ an orange or apple1 y %\ld cut x ) ! aid ( ! =k1 unless y c succe$ 9 break+ x4 ,apropos ( :i*1 ,i may h9t t no epicure ev] yet put a knife to an apple1 & t an orange %\ld be peel$ ) a spoon4 ,b ! art ( peel+ an orange s z to hold its own juice1 & its own sug> too1 is "o t c sc>cely be taught 9 a book4 ,h[ev]1 let u g to d9n]1 & ,i w soon tell y :e!r y are a well-br$ man or n2 & "h let me premise t :at is good mann]s = a small d9n] is good mann]s = a l>ge "o1 & vice v]sa4 ,n[1 ! fir/ ?+ y d is to sit d[n4 ,/op1 sir6 pray d n cram y\rself into ! table 9 t way2 no1 nor sit a y>d f x1 l t4 ,h[ graceless1 inconv5i5t1 & 9 ! way ( conv]sation6 ,:y1 de> me6 y are positively putt+ y\r elb[s on ! table1 & n[ y h got y\r h&s fumbl+ ab\t ) ! spoons & =ks1 & n[ y are ne>ly knock+ my new hock glasses ov]4 ,c't y take y\r h&s d[n1 sir8 ,didn't y1 le>n t 9 ! nurs]y8 ,didn't y\r mamma say to y1 ,nev] put y\r h&s above ! table except to c>ve or eat8 ,oh6 b come1 no nons5se1 sit up1 if y please4 ,i c't h y\r f9e head ( hair =m+ a side di% on my table2 y mu/ n bury y\r face 9 ! plate2 y came to %[ x1 & x ought to be alive4 ,well1 b !re is no occasion to ?r[ y\r head back l t1 y look l an ald]man1 sir1 aft] d9n]4 ,pray1 don't l\nge 9 t sleepy way4 ,y are "h to eat1 dr9k1 & be m]ry4 ,y c sleep :5 y get home4 ,well1 !n1 ,i suppose y c see y\r napk94 ,got none1 inde$6 ,v likely1 9 my h\se4 ,y may be sure t ,i nev] sit d[n to a meal )\t napk9s4 ,i don't want to make my tableclo?s unfit = use1 & ,i don't want to make my tr\s]s unwe>able4 ,well1 n[1 we are all seat$1 y c unfold x on y\r knees2 no1 no2 don't tuck x into y\r wai/coat l an ald]man2 & :at6 :at on e>? d y mean by wip+ y\r =ehead ) x8 ,d y take x = a t[el8 ,well1 nev] m9d1 ,i am consol$ t y did n g f>!r1 & use x z a pocket-h&k]*ief4 ,s talk away to ! lady on y\r "r1 & wait till s\p is h&$ to y4 ,by ! way1 t wait+ is ! mo/ important "p ( table mann]s1 &1 z mu* z possible1 y %\ld avoid ask+ = any?+ or help+ y\rself f ! table4 ,y\r s\p y eat ) a spoon--,i don't "k :at else y c\ld eat x )--b !n x mu/ be "o ( good size4 ,yes1 t w d1 b ,i beg y w n make t odi\s noise 9 dr9k+ y\r s\p4 ,x is l\d] ?an a dog lapp+ wat]1 & a cat w\ld be q g5teel to x4 ,!n y ne$ n scrape up ! plate 9 t way1 nor ev5 tilt x to get ! la/ drop4 ,i %all be happy to s5d y "s m2 b ,i mu/ j rem>k1 t x is n ! cu/om to take two help+s ( s\p1 & x is liable to keep o!r p wait+1 :i*1 once = all1 is a selfi% & intol]able habit4 ,b don't y he> ! s]vant (f]+ y %]ry8 ,i wi% y w\ld att5d1 = my s]vants h q en\gh to d1 & c't wait all ! ev5+ :ile y f9i% t v mild /ory to ,miss ,goggles4 ,come1 leave t decant] alone4 ,i _h ! w9e put on ! table to fill up2 ! s]vants w h& x directly1 or1 z we are a small p>ty1 ,i w tell y to help y\rself2 b pray1 d n be s (fici\s4 7,!re1 ,i h s5t him "s turbot to keep him quiet4 ,i decl>e he _c make up 8 m9d47 ,y are keep+ my s]vant aga91 sir4 ,w y1 or w y n1 d turbot8 ,don't exam9e x 9 t way2 x is q fre%1 ,i assure y2 take or decl9e x4 ,ah1 y take x1 b t is no reason :y y %\ld take up a knife too4 ,fi%1 ,i repeat1 mu/ nev] be t\*$ ) a knife4 ,take a =k 9 ! "r & a small piece ( bread 9 ! left h&4 ,good1 b----8 ,oh6 t is atroci\s2 ( c\rse y mu/ n swall[ ! bones1 b y %\ld r d s ?an spit !m out 9 t way4 ,put up y\r napk9 l ?is1 & l& ! said bone on y\r plate4 ,don't rub y\r head 9 ! sauce1 my good man1 nor g progg+ ab\t aft] ! %rimps or oy/]s !re94 ,oh6 h[ horrid6 ,i decl>e y\r m\? 0 wide op5 & full ( fi%4 ,small pieces1 ,i besee* y2 & once = all1 :atev] y eat1 keep y\r m\? %ut1 & nev] attempt to talk ) x full4 ,s n[ y h got a pate4 ,surely y are n tak+ two on y\r plate6 ,!re is pl5ty ( d9n] to come1 & "o is q en\gh4 ,oh6 de> me1 y are incorrigible4 ,:at6 a knife to cut t light brittle pa/ry8 ,no1 nor f+]s1 nev]4 ,nor a spoon--almo/ z bad4 ,take y\r =k1 sir1 y\r =k2 &1 n[ y h eat51 oblige me by wip+ y\r m\? & m\/a*e ) y\r napk91 = !re is a bit ( ! pa/ry hang+ to ! latt]1 & look+ v disagreeable4 ,well1 y c refuse a di% if y l4 ,!re is no positive necessity = y to take v5ison if y don't want x4 ,b1 at any rate1 d n be 9 t t]rific hurry4 ,y are n go+ (f by ! next tra94 ,wait = ! sauce & wait = ! vegetables2 b :e!r y eat !m or n1 d n beg9 be=e ev]ybody else4 ,surely y mu/ take my table = t ( a railway refre%m5t-room1 = y h f9i%$ be=e ! p]son ,i help$ fir/4 ,fa/ eat+ is bad = ! dige/ion1 my good sir1 & n v good mann]s ei!r4 ,:at6 are y try+ to eat meat ) a =k alone8 ,oh6 x is sweetbread2 ,i beg y\r p>don1 y are q "r4 ,let me give y a rule3 ,ev]y?+ t c be cut )\t a knife1 %\ld be cut ) a =k alone4 ,eat y\r vegetables1 !re=e1 ) a =k4 ,no1 !re is no necessity to take a spoon = peas2 a =k 9 ! "r h& w d4 ,:at6 did ,i really see y put y\r knife into y\r m\?8 ,!n ,i mu/ give y up4 ,once = all1 & ev]1 ! knife is to cut1 n to help )4 ,pray1 d n mun* 9 t noisy mann]2 *ew y\r food well1 b s(tly4 ,eat sl[ly4 ,h y n he>d t ,napoleon lo/ ! battle ( ,leipsic by eat+ too fa/8 ,x is a fact ?\gh4 ,8 ha/e caus$ indige/ion1 :i* made him incapable ( att5d+ to ! details ( ! battle4 ,y see y are ! la/ p]son eat+ at table4 ,sir1 ,i w n all[ y to speak to my s]vants 9 t way4 ,if !y are s remiss z to oblige y to ask = any?+1 d x g5tly1 & 9 a l[ tone1 & ?ank a s]vant j z mu* z y w\ld 8 ma/]4 ,t5 to "o he is z good a man2 & because he is y\r inf]ior 9 position1 is ! v reason y %\ld treat him c\rte\sly4 ,oh6 x is ( no use to ask me to take w9e2 f> f pacify+ me1 x w only make me m angry1 = ,i tell y ! cu/om is q gone out1 except 9 a few c\ntry villages1 & at a mess-table4 ,nor ne$ y ask ! lady to d s4 ,h[ev]1 !re is ?is consolation1 if y %\ld ask any "o to take w9e ) y1 he or %e _c refuse1 s y h y\r own way4 ,p]haps next y w be ask+ me to hob & nob1 or tr9qu] 9 ! ,fr5* fa%ion ) arms encircl$4 ,ah6 y don't "k1 p]haps1 t :5 a lady tr9ques 9 t way ) y1 y h a "r to f9i% (f ) a kiss4 ,v likely1 inde$6 ,b x is ! cu/om 9 famili> circles 9 ,france1 b !n we are n ,fr5*m54 ,w y att5d to y\r lady1 sir8 ,y did n come m]ely to eat1 b to make y\rself agreeable4 ,don't sit z glum z ! ,memnon at ,!bes2 talk & be pleasant4 ,n[ y h "s pudd+4 ,no knife--no1 no4 ,a spoon1 if y l1 b bett] /ill1 a =k4 ,yes1 ice requires a spoon2 !re is a small "o h&$ y1 take t4 ,say 'no4' ,?is is ! f\r? "t w9e has be5 h&$ to y1 & ,i am sure y h _h en\gh4 ,decl9e ?is "t if y please4 ,decl9e t di% too4 ,are y go+ to eat ( ev]y?+ t is h&$8 ,i pity y if y d4 ,no1 y mu/ n ask = m *eese1 & y mu/ eat x ) y\r =k4 ,break ! rusk ) y\r f+]s4 ,good4 ,y are dr9k+ a glass ( old port4 ,d n quaff x d[n at a gulp 9 t way4 ,nev] dr9k a :ole glassful ( any?+ at once4 ,well1 "h is ! w9e & dess]t4 ,take :i*ev] w9e y l1 b rememb] y mu/ keep to t1 & n *ange ab\t4 ,be=e y g up /airs ,i w all[ y a glass ( %]ry aft] y\r cl>et1 b o!rwise dr9k ( "o w9e only6 ,y don't mean to say y are help+ y\rself to w9e be=e ! ladies6 ,at lea/1 (f] x to ! "o next to y1 & !n pass x on1 g5tly1 n ) a pu% l t4 ,d n dr9k s fa/2 y w hurry me 9 pass+ ! decant]s1 if ,i see t y\r glass is empty4 ,y ne$ n eat dess]t till ! ladies are gone1 b (f] !m :atev] is ne>e/ to y4 ,& n[ !y are gone1 draw y\r *air ne> m9e1 & ,i w try & talk m pleasantly to y4 ,y w come out admirably at y\r next d9n] ) all my tea*+4 ,:at6 y are excit$1 y are talk+ l\d to ! colonel4 ,nons5se6 ,come & talk easily to me or to y\r ne>e/ neighbor4 ,!re1 don't dr9k any m w9e1 = ,i see y are gett+ romantic4 ,y oblige me to make a move4 ,y h _h en\gh ( ^? walnuts2 y are keep+ me1 my de> sir4 ,s n[ to c(fee "o cup & tea1 :i* ,i beg y w n p\r into y\r sauc] to cool4 ,well1 ! d9n] has done y good1 & me too4 ,let u be amiable to ! ladies1 b n too mu* s4 ,,c>v+4 ,c>v+ is an art :i* e p>5t %\ld tea* 8 sons & daught]s4 ,no?+ c be m disagreeable & unpleasant ?an to be plac$ be=e any p>ticul> di% )\t be+ able to help x prop]ly4 ,x is g5]ally ! case :5 ! head ( ! family is a good c>v]2 = he s objects to see ?+s badly cut1 t he pref]s c>v+ ev]y?+ himself4 ,we rememb] once1 :5 v "y1 be+ invit$ to a l>ge d9n]1 & we 7 plac$ be=e a ham4 ,we began to hack ?is article1 :5 ! g5]al1 ! f\nd] ( ! fea/1 said to 8 s]vant1 ,take t ham away f t "y g5tleman1 & place x be=e "s "o :o kn[s h[ to c>ve4 ,f t mom5t we det]m9$ to a*ieve ! art ( c>v+1 & aft] great difficulty we succe$$1 & succe$$ s well t once1 9 c>v+ a h>e1 a cl]gyman1 "o ( ! gue/s1 rem>k$ :at an excell5t inv5tion t ( bon+ a h>e 01 we c>v$ x ) s mu* ease2 b det]m9$ to h a joke at ! exp5se ( ! cl]gyman1 we laid d[n ! knife & =k1 & said1 ,sir1 we are surpris$ t y c\ld express su* an op9ion1 :5 x is well kn[n t x has fill$ m jails & s5t m m5 to ! treadmill ?an any o!r ?+ y c "n4 ,:at1 sir1 tak+ ! bones out ( a h>e8 ,no1 sir1 'bon+' ! h>e fir/4 ,no "o c c>ve )\t practice1 & consequ5tly *ildr5 ought to beg9 "y1 9 ord] to acquire a ?or\gh k ( ! art4 ,x is difficult to describe ! me?od ( c>v+1 ev5 ) draw+s or diagrams2 b ! read] :o wi%es to le>n1 may1 by obs]v+ h[ good c>v]s proce$1 & apply+ :at he has se5 to :at he reads1 ) practice1 soon become an adept4 ,& fir/1 nev] /& up to c>ve2 ?is is ! greate/ vulg>ity1 & ev5 a v %ort man ne$ n /& up4 ,a little1 de=m$1 hump-back fri5d ( ours1 us$ to give v good d9n]s2 he c>v$ well1 & delight$ 9 %[+ x1 b he _h a fail+--always to h v l>ge jo9ts ( meat be=e him4 ,"o day a /rang] gue/ arriv$ late1 d9n] _h be5 s]v$1 ev5 s\p & fi% _h be5 remov$2 ! ho/ 0 absolutely hidd5 beh9d an enorm\s r\nd ( beef1 & ! /rang] saw no?+ at ! head ( ! table b ! mon/r\s jo9t1 r\nd :i* a knife 0 revolv+ ) wond]ful rapidity4 ,/eam 0 ! subject ( talk at ! mom5t1 & he exclaim$1 ,i did n "k t y _h br\ght /eam to ?is p]fection4 ,:at p]fection8 ,:y1 don't y see t r\nd ( beef is c>v$ by /eam4 ,?is 0 en\gh2 x got ! hun*back's /eam up1 &1 jump+ on ! *air1 he dem&$ :o d>e insult him 9 8 own h\se2 & x 0 ) great difficulty t 8 fri5ds c\ld appease 8 wra?1 & turn 8 /eam (f4 ,ev] s9ce ! "t ( ,adam1 m5 & wom5 h be5 prone to excuse !mselves & lay ! blame on o!rs4 ,?us1 a p]son :o c\ld n swim1 compla9$ bitt]ly ( ! want ( buoyancy 9 ! wat]2 & ano!r1 :o _h frightfully mangl$ a leg ( mutton 9 attempt+ to c>ve1 decl>$ t ! %eep 0 de=m$ & _h a b&y leg4 ,9 ,france1 at all l>ge d9n]s1 di%es are c>v$ at ! sidebo>d by a s]vant1 & !n h&$ r\nd 9 small portions4 ,x saves a great deal ( tr\ble1 & prev5ts ! %[] ( gravy ) :i* awkw>d c>v]s w (t5 inundate ! table-clo?1 & sometimes _! neighbors4 ,x w\ld be well if ?is cu/om 0 univ]sal 9 ,am]ica1 :]e x is r>e to f9d a good c>v]4 ,9 help+ ! s\p1 nev] say1 ,w y let me assi/ y to "s ( ?is s\p8 ?is is vulg> 9 ! extreme4 ,! ^w assi/ is n selon les regles de la bonne societe1 b simply1 ,%all ,i s5d y "s8 ,n[1 any "o c help s\p4 ,b !n !re are two ways1 ! "r & ! wrong4 ,fir/1 !n1 y\r s\p plates %\ld be held by ! s]vant ne> ! ture51 & y %\ld judge ! numb] y h to help by ! quantity ( s\p y h1 to avoid ! possibility ( consum+ all y\r s\p be=e y h help$ y\r gue/s2 give "o spoonful ( s\p to ea* plate1 & avoid by all means slopp+ ! s\p ei!r into ! ture5 or ov] ! table-clo?1 or ov] ! side ( ! plate1 all ( :i* are extreme vulg>ities4 ,& "h we beg to say--not)/&+ ,brummel hav+ said1 9 speak+ ( "s "o ) :om he c\ld f9d no o!r fault1 t he 0 a sort ( fell[ :o w\ld come twice to s\p1--t1 if v good1 x is n vulg> to eat twice ( x2 b1 au contraire1 if n good1 ! wor/ possible ta/e4 ,! next ?+ 9 ord] is fi%4 ,n[1 ( fi% !re are sev]al sorts2 ! fir/ ( ! l>ge sorts be+ ,,salmon1 ! %ape ( :i* e "o kn[s2 b few p h a :ole salmon at table4 ,! fi% %\ld be s]v$ always on a /ra9]1 cov]$ ) a small d9n] napk91 & ! cook %\ld be c>eful t x be s5t to table :ole & unbrok54 ,x %\ld be laid on its side1 & g>ni%$ ) fri$ smelts2 x %\ld be cut ) ! tr[el1 or fi%-knife1 imm$iately d[n ! middle ( ! side1 & help$ f ! c5tre to ! back1 "o slice back & a small slice t[>ds ! belly1 :i* is ! ri*e/ & fatte/ "p2 c>e %\ld be tak5 t ! slices are n brok51 & ) ea* slice a fri$ smelt be giv54 ,,cod-,,fi% %\ld be help$ diff]5tly4 ,cutt+ f ! back to ! ?9 "p1 crossways1 & ! s\nd divid$ s z to give ea* p]son a small portion4 ,,mack]el1 if boil$1 %\ld be divid$ into f\r2 t is1 place y\r tr[el or fi%-knife "u ! fle% at ! tail1 & raise up ! fle% to ! head1 !n divide ! side 9 ! middle1 giv+ half ( ! side to ea* p]son1 & leav+ ! bone & head & tail 9 ! di%4 ,,h]r+s %\ld be help$ by giv+ "o to ea* p]son4 ,,eels are always cut 9 small pieces1 & all ! att5tion requir$ is t ^? :i* are ! l>ge/ are ! be/4 ,,patties ,,& ,,entrees ought to be s arrang$ t !y c be s]v$ ) a spoon1 & require no c>v+4 ,! roa/ is !re=e ! next ?+ t calls = obs]vation4 ,a ,,leg ,,( ,,mutton is1 or r ought to be s]v$ exactly ! rev]se side to a haun* ( mutton2 t is1 x ought to lie on ! flat side1 & s %[ ! bevel$ side to ! c>v]4 ,a slice is cut 9 ! c5t]2 & !n ! c>v] is to cut to ! bone "r & left1 ! ?ick side be+ mo/ e/eem$4 ,! be/ fat is t :i* lies at ! ?ick end1 ne> to ! bone2 !re is n mu* ( x1 b x is consid]$ a delicacy4 ,a ,,sirlo9 ,,( ,,beef4--,! mo/ elegant way to cut ?is jo9t is by mak+ an incision f ! *9e-bone to ! flap1 directly 9 ! c5t]1 & help+ f ei!r side4 ,h[ev]1 ?is is n ! mo/ economical way2 & !re=e x is to be cut ?9 on ! outside1 f ! *9e-bone to ! flaps1 ) fat f und]nea?4 ,_m p l ! "u side1 or inn] lo94 ,if ?is is eat5 hot--& x is be/ hot--! jo9t %\ld be turn$1 & ! meat cut across 9 slices r ?ick] ?an f ! top side4 ,great c>e %\ld be tak5 n to spla% ! gravy 9 turn+1 by plac+ ! =k well into ! flap1 s z to secure a firm hold4 ,a ,,=e ,,qu>t] ,,( ,,lamb %\ld be c>v$ )\t remov+ ! %\ld] f ! di% on :i* x is s]v$4 ,?is is v difficult2 b if well done1 v elegant4 ,fir/1 !n1 let u give all ! directions necess>y = ?is di%4 ,:5 x comes be=e ! c>v]1 he %\ld place ! c>v+-knife "u ! %\ld]1 & dext]\sly remove x4 ,hav+ s done1 he %\ld place "u ! %\ld] a slice ( fre% butt]1 & !n prep>e "s salt1 cay5ne pepp]1 & ! juice ( an orange or a lemon1 :i* %\ld be also p\r$ ov] ! "p ( ! lamb f :i* ! %\ld] has be5 sep>at$1 & !n p\r ! gravy ) ! gravy-spoon ov] ! lamb1 s t ! butt]1 etc41 may amalgamate well ) ! gravy4 ,y h !n ! brea/ & ! ribs1 & ! %\ld] on ! di%1 ready to help y\r fri5ds4 ,be=e sep>at+ ! ribs1 y mu/ cut (f ! brea/1 ! bones ( :i* ! but*] has previ\sly brok51 s z to enable y to d x ) ease4 ,z1 h[ev]1 _m p _c c>ve s mu* 9 "o di%1 p]haps ! bett] plan is to place ! %\ld] on a sep>ate di%1 :5 x c be cut precisely z a %\ld] ( mutton1 & ! ribs & brea/ c be m easily divid$ & help$4 ,always take c>e t ! but*] jo9ts ! meat1 or no man c c>ve x4 ,a ,,h9d ,,qu>t] ,,( ,,lamb %\ld be c>v$ bo? z a leg & a lo91 giv+ ei!r "p to ^? :o pref] x4 ,a ,,saddle ,,( ,,lamb mu/ be c>v$ l a saddle ( mutton4 ,a ,,lo9 ,,( ,,lamb %\ld always be divid$ at ! *9e end ( ! bone1 & help$ 9 *ops4 ,a ,,haun* ,,( ,,v5ison ,,or ,,mutton is ! leg & "p ( ! lo94 ,x %\ld be cut across1 ne> ! knuckle1 & !n ano!r cut %\ld pass d[n ! c5t]4 ,! slices %\ld be tak5 f ! left & ! "r ( ?is2 ^? on ! left1 conta9+ ! mo/ fat1 are pref]r$ by epicures4 ,! fat & gravy mu/ be equally di/ribut$4 ,^! jo9ts %\ld always be s]v$ on a hot-wat] di%1 or on a di% ) a lamp "u x1 s z to keep ! meat hot4 ,)\t "o or o!r ( ^! contrivances1 no "o %\ld presume to give a haun* ( v5ison to 8 fri5ds4 ,be=e x is s5t to table1 ! cook %\ld p\r ov] ! haun* "o w9e-glassful ( hot port w9e4 ,,an ,,edge-,,bone ,,( ,,beef %\ld be plac$ on ! di% /&+ on ! ?icke/ end4 ,! c>v] %\ld fir/ cut (f a slice horizontally f ! end to ! fat1 an in* ?ick2 b 9 help+1 x _c be cut too ?91 giv+ to ea* p]son h>d & s(t fat4 ,if cut ?ick x is h>d & indige/ible4 ,a ,,r\nd ,,or ,,buttock ,,( ,,beef is cut l a fillet ( veal2 t is1 a slice hav+ be5 horizontally remov$ all r\nd1 ! slices %\ld be cut v ?9 & v ev54 ,to prop]ly c>ve a l>ge r\nd ( beef1 a long c>v+-knife1 su* z is us$ 9 a cook-%op1 is necess>y4 ,a ,,fillet ,,( ,,veal is a solid piece ( meat )\t bone2 x is !re=e easily c>v$ by any "o :o possesses a %>p knife2 ! gu>d ( ! =k %\ld be up1 to prev5t accid5ts4 ,! veal %\ld be well roa/$2 = if ! gravy is 9 x1 x is v un:olesome4 ,! slices may be cut ?ick] ?an beef1 & ! /uff+ %\ld be f\nd 9 ! c5t]1 & 9 ! flap :i* surr\nds x4 ,a ,,brea/ ,,( ,,veal4--,! ri*e/ "p ( ?is is call$ ! brisket4 ,! knife mu/ be put ab\t f\r in*es f ?is1 & cut ?r\gh x1 :i* w sep>ate ! ribs f ! brisket2 s]ve :i*ev] is lik$4 ,,calf',s ,,head is a di% mu* e/eem$ "h2 b1 z g5]ally eat51 pla9ly boil$1 x is ta/eless1 insipid1 & v objectionable--:ile cook$ a la tortue1 z 9 ,france1 no?+ c be bett]4 ,x %\ld always be bon$ & roll$2 b if s]v$ :ole1 x is to be cut d[n ! c5t]1 & help$ 9 slices f ei!r side4 ,a portion ( ! sweetbread1 :i* g5]ally accompanies a boil$ calf's head1 %\ld be giv5 ) ea* portion4 ,if ! fle% ab\t ! socket ( ! eye be pref]r$1 ! eye itself be+ always tak5 out1 ! knife %\ld be ins]t$ into ! orifice1 & ! meat scoop$ out4 ,! palate--g5]ally e/eem$ a delicacy--is situat$ "u ! head4 ,?is %\ld be cut into small portions1 s t e "o may h a %>e4 ,,%\ld] ,,( ,,mutton4--,! jo9t be+ plac$ ) ! knuckle t[>d ! "r h&1 obs]ve t !re is an angul> piece ( fat next y4 ,hav+ help$ y\r company f ?is "p1 y may1 p]haps1 imag9e t y\r %\ld] ( mutton is exhau/$1 & w n yield a fur!r divid5d4 ,h[ev]1 y may get f bo? sides ( a l>ge %\ld] en\gh to help t5 p1 provid$ y\r slices are n too ?ick1 :i* !y %\ld n be4 ,! fat is to be cut f ! a=esaid angul> bit 9 slices1 longways4 ,aft] ! "r & left sides are exhau/$1 & ! c>v] /opp$ by ! knuckle on "o side & ! blade-bone on ! o!r1 ! end ( ! %\ld] is to be turn$1 & cut /raight d[n f ! c5t] bone to ! end1 compris+ ! ?ree be/ slices ( ! jo9t4 ,if m is requir$1 ! %\ld] may be rev]s$ on ! di%1 & f\r good slices w be f\nd on ! "u side4 ,,saddle ,,( ,,mutton4--,?is be/ jo9t ( ! %eep is c>v$ 9 sev]al ways2 ! usual way is to cut f ! tail to ! end close to ! *9e-bone1 tak+ ! slices horizontally4 ,ano!r plan is to cut close to ! back-bone1 tak+ slices sideways1 s z to help ea* p]son ) a piece l a mutton *op1 )\t ! bone & v ?94 ,ano!r way is to comm5ce1 n q close to ! back-bone1 & s cut slices1 r\nd+ !m a little t !y w curl on ! plate1 cutt+ 9 su* a way t ! knife slants t[>d ! flaps or fat1 & s t ! top ( ea* slice is fat & ! bottom lean2 & = a small p>ty1 ?is is by f> ! mo/ elegant & ! be/ way to c>ve ?is excell5t jo9t4 ,,ham4--,!re p]haps is no jo9t ab\t :i* !re has be5 s mu* cont5tion z ! c>v+ ( ?is excell5t di%4 ,= family use1 d n h ! sk9 remov$1 b let x be s5t to table z x is dress$4 ,cut f ! ?ick end1 :]e !re is mo/ fat2 z a ham s]v$ hot is always eat5 ) veal or p\ltry1 y c ?us eat ! fat4 ,cont9ue cutt+ y\r ham 9 ?is way1 & y w be able to eat x all2 :]eas1 9 any o!r way1 all ! lean w be eat51 & a l>ge quantity ( fat1 :i* w become rancid1 w be lo/4 ,,c>v+ ,,ham ,,= ,a ,,p>ty4--,! be/ in=m$ say1 c>ve x l a leg ( mutton1 t is1 beg9n+ 9 ! c5t]1 cut "r & left 9 ?9 slices2 we say1 comm5ce at ! knuckle1 & cut a ?ick slice (f1 & !n cut ?9 slices z !y d 9 ! cook-%ops--=1 rely on x1 by ?is "t !y h f\nd out ! mo/ economical way ( c>v+ a ham4 ,a ,,suck+ ,,pig mu/ be divid$ d[n ! middle1 & decapitat$4 ,?is ought to be done by ! cook1 & ! two sides plac$ flat on ! di%4 ,suppos+1 !re=e1 ?is to h be5 previ\sly done1 ! c>v] is to take (f ! %\ld]s & ! legs1 & help ! ribs 9 su* pieces z he ?9ks conv5i5t4 ,! ribs are consid]$ be/1 & y %\ld give pl5ty ( ! sauce or gravy ) ea* plate4 ,,h>e4--,!re are two ways ( c>v+ ?is difficult di%4 ,! fir/ is to cut close to ! back-bone f ! %\ld] to ! rump on ei!r side1 previ\sly divid+ ! legs2 take (f ! %\ld]s2 cutt+ ! back-bone 9 ?ree or f\r pieces1 & gett+ two slices on ei!r side ( ! h>e4 ,! e> is consid]$ ! be/ "p4 ,ano!r way ( c>v+ a h>e is by tak+ (f ! legs & %\ld]s1 & cutt+ x r\nd ?r\gh ! back-bone1 divid+ into sev5 or eight pieces4 ,x is bett] to bone a h>e4 ,a ,,rabbit is c>v$ v diff]5tly4 ,! legs & %\ld]s are to be tak5 (f1 & ! back divid$ into ?ree or f\r pieces4 ,,f[ls :5 boil$ h _! legs b5t inw>ds1 & tuck$ into ! belly4 ,a f[l mu/ nev] be remov$ f ! di% & plac$ ^u ! c>v]'s plate2 no?+ c be m vulg>4 ,! w+ is to be remov$ ) a good slice ( ! brea/1 ! only difficulty be+ to hit ! jo9t4 ,to effect ?is1 ! knife is to be pass$ betwe5 ! leg & ! body1 & ! leg turn$ back ) ! =k4 ,to take (f ! m]ry?\ght ! c>v] mu/ comm5ce j above :]e ! brea/ turns1 & cut d[n slant+2 !n beg9 at ! rump end1 & cut ! brea/ at ei!r side1 keep+ ! =k 9 t "p ( ! brea/ ne>e/ ! rump1 & turn+ x t[>d ! c>v]2 ! side-bones may easily be remov$1 ! back brok5 9 half1 & ! two sides are !n easily tak5 (f4 ,all ?is c only be le>n$ by practice2 & al?\gh we h endeavor$ to describe x1 we feel t x requires practice to c>ry out ! directions4 ,a ,,pheasant is c>v$ precisely z a f[l4 ,x is only necess>y to say t ladies l ! w+s & brea/4 ,,wild ,,duck4--,?is bird is only help$ f ! brea/1 :i* is to be fir/ scor$ 9 su* a way z aft]w>d to =m ! slice4 ,lemon juice1 cay5ne1 salt1 & port w9e made hot1 %\ld be ready to p\r ov] x2 !n ! previ\sly scor$ slices are to be cut & help$4 ,! brea/ is ! only eatable "p1 except :5 ha%$4 ,,p>tridge4--,?is bird is c>v$ precisely z a f[l4 ,! legs & ! back are ! be/ p>ts2 give !m to ! ladies1 & let ! re/ ( ! company h ! w+s & brea/4 ,,pigeons are usually cut /raight d[n ! middle1 & a half s5t to ea* p]son4 ,,turkeys are c>v$ l geese4 ,nev] make a w+ cut f ! w+ or p9ion upw>d1 & n f ! brea/ d[nw>d4 ,give y\r knife a slight angle 9 cutt+1 & y\r slice w be l>g] & bett]4 ,,goose4--,to give a description ( c>v+ a goose is to say1 simply1 beg9 f ! w+ & cut ! slices f ! brea/ up to ! brea/ bone1 & s]ve ea* p]son ) a slice1 ) "s /uff+ & gravy4 ,to cut a w+ or leg is vulg> 9 ! extreme2 = a l>ge p>ty1 !n1 a second goose is necess>y2 b le/ our read]s %\ld say1 ,t is an easy way to avoid tell+ u h[ we ought to dismemb] ?is bird1 we w cont9ue4 ,if y wi% to d a vulg> ?+1 & dismemb] a goose1 put y\r =k into ! small end ( ! p9ion1 & press x close to ! body1 !n put 9 ! knife & divide ! jo9t d[n2 to sep>ate ! leg1 fir/ put ! =k into ! small end ( ! bone1 press+ x to ! body1 !n pass y\r knife betwe5 ! leg & ! body1 turn ! leg back ) y\r =k1 & x w come (f4 ,x is impossible t any?+ b exp]i5ce w tea* a p]son h[ to d ?is exp]tly2 b z we said be=e1 x nev] %\ld be done :5 s]v$ hot4 ,x has be5 said frequ5tly1 t a goose is too mu* = "o1 & n en\gh = two4 ,?is means t ! brea/1 :i* is ! only eatable "p ( a roa/$ goose1 is1 suppos+ ! p]son to eat no?+ else1 too mu* = "o & n en\gh = two p's d9n]s2 ano!r reason = nev] cutt+ (f or eat+ ! legs hot1 is t !y make a mo/ excell5t devil = breakfa/ ! next day--!re=e1 :y de/roy a di% fit = a k+8 ,,woodcocks ,,& ,,snipes4--,^! are bo? c>v$ alike--! necess>y directions be+3 remove ! s&-bag1 :i* conta9s ! gall3 ?is g5]ally protrudes2 lift up ! brea/ ne> ! rump2 spread ! tail on y\r toa/2 cut ! w+1 leg1 & "p ( ! back1 ! w+ be+ cut full1 t is1 ) pl5ty ( ! brea/ atta*$ !reto1 & y h "o portion ) a ?ird ( ! toa/2 s]ve ! o!r side alike1 ) ano!r ?ird ( ! toa/1 & ! brea/ & ! re/ ( ! back give to ! p]son y e/eem ! lea/2 9 fact1 ! legs1 w+s1 & back1 z be=e describ$1 are ! be/1 & %\ld be s]v$ toge!r4 ,snipes %\ld be cut 9 half1 unless y h en\gh to give a bird to ea* p]son4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,! ,,ball ,,& ,,assembly ,,room4 ,danc+ has be5 def9$ z a graceful movem5t ( ! body1 adju/$ by art to ! measures or tunes ( in/rum5ts1 or ( voice2 & aga91 agreeable to ! true g5ius ( ! art1 danc+ is ! art ( express+ ! s5tim5ts ( ! m9d1 or ! passions1 by measur$ /eps or b\nds made 9 cad5ce1 by regulat$ motions ( ! figure & by graceful ge/ures2 all p]=m$ to ! s\nd ( musical in/rum5ts or ! voice4 ,"l ,*e/]field1 9 8 lett]s to 8 son1 says3 ,danc+ is1 9 itself1 a v trifl+ & silly ?+3 b x is "o ( ^? e/abli%$ follies to :i* p ( s5se are sometimes oblig$ to con=m2 & !n !y %\ld be able to d x well4 ,& ?\gh ,i w\ld n h y a danc]1 yet1 :5 y d dance1 ,i w\ld h y dance well1 z ,i w\ld h y d ev]y?+ y d well4 ,9 ano!r lett]1 he writes3 ,d y m9d y\r danc+ :ile y\r danc+ ma/] is ) y8 ,z y w be (t5 "u ! necessity ( danc+ a m9uet1 ,i w\ld h y dance x v well4 ,rememb] t ! graceful motion ( ! arms1 ! giv+ ( y\r h&1 & ! putt+ (f & putt+ on ( y\r hat g5teelly1 are ! mat]ial p>ts ( a g5tleman's danc+4 ,b ! greate/ advantage ( danc+ well is1 t x necess>ily tea*es y to pres5t y\rself1 to sit1 /&1 & walk g5teelly2 all ( :i* are ( real importance to a man ( fa%ion4 ,:5 a g5tleman accompanies a lady to a ball he w at once proce$ ) h] to ! door ( ! ladies' dress+-room1 !re leav+ h]2 & !n repair to ! g5tlem5's dress+-room4 ,9 ! mean "t1 ! lady1 aft] adju/+ h] toilet1 w retire to ! ladies' sitt+-room or wait at ! door ( ! dress+-room1 accord+ z ! ap>tm5ts may be arrang$4 ,aft] ! g5tleman has dive/$ himself ( hat1 etc41 & plac$ ! same 9 ! c>e ( ! man hav+ *>ge ( ! hat-room1 receiv+ !re= a *eck1 & aft] arrang+ 8 toilet1 he w proce$ to ! ladies' sitt+-room1 or wait at ! entrance to ! ladies' dress+-room = ! lady :om he accompanies1 & ) h] ent] ! ball-room4 ,! ladies' dress+-room is a sacr$ prec9ct1 into :i* no g5tleman %\ld ev] presume to look2 to ent] x w\ld be an outrage n to be ov]look$ or =giv54 ,) ! etiquette ( a ball-room1 s f> z x goes1 !re are b few p unacqua9t$4 ,c]ta9 p]sons are appo9t$ to act z floor manag]s1 or !re w be a ,ma/] ( ! ,c]emonies1 ^: (fice x is to see t ev]y?+ be conduct$ 9 a prop] mann]3 if y are entirely a /rang]1 x is to !m y mu/ apply = a p>tn]1 & po9t out 7quietly7 any "y lady ) :om y %\ld l to dance1 :51 if !re be no obvi\s inequality ( position1 !y w pres5t y = t purpose2 %\ld !re be an objection1 !y w probably select "s "o !y consid] m suitable2 b d n1 on any acc\nt1 g to a /range lady by y\rself1 & reque/ h] to dance1 z %e w unhesitat+ly decl9e ! honor1 & ?9k y an imp]t95t fell[ = y\r presumption4 ,a g5tleman introduc$ to a lady by a floor manag]1 or ! ,ma/] ( ,c]emonies1 %\ld n be refus$ by ! lady if %e be n already engag$1 = h] refusal w\ld be a brea* ( good mann]s3 z ! ,ma/] ( ,c]emonies is suppos$ to be c>eful to introduce only g5tlem5 :o are unexceptionable4 ,b a g5tleman :o is unqualifi$ z a danc] %\ld nev] seek an introduction4 ,at a private p>ty1 a g5tleman may (f] to dance ) a lady )\t an introduction1 b at balls ! rule is diff]5t4 ,! g5tleman %\ld respectfully (f] 8 arm to ! lady :o cons5ts to dance ) him1 & lead h] to h] place4 ,at ! conclusion ( ! set he w conduct h] to a seat1 (f] h] any att5tion1 or conv]se ) h]4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n dance ) 8 wife1 & n too (t5 ) ! lady to :om he is engag$4 ,any pres5tation to a lady 9 a public ball-room1 = ! m]e purpose ( danc+1 does n entitle y to claim h] acqua9tance aft]w>ds2 !re=e1 %\ld y meet h]1 at mo/ y may lift y\r hat2 b ev5 t is bett] avoid$--unless1 inde$1 %e fir/ b[--z nei!r %e nor h] fri5ds c "k :o or :at y are4 ,9 invit+ a lady to dance ) y1 ! words1 ,w y honor me ) y\r h& = a quadrille8 or1 ,%all ,i h ! honor ( danc+ ?is set ) y8 are m us$ n[ ?an ,%all ,i h ! pleasure8 or1 ,w y give me ! pleasure ( danc+ ) y8 ,if %e answ]s t %e is engag$1 m]ely reque/ h] to "n ! e>lie/ dance = :i* %e is n engag$1 & :5 %e w d y ! honor ( danc+ ) y4 ,:5 a "y lady decl9es danc+ ) a g5tleman1 x is h] duty to give him a reason :y1 al?\gh "s ?\ghtless ones d n4 ,no matt] h[ frivol\s x may be1 x is simply an act ( c\rtesy to (f] him an excuse2 :ile1 on ! o!r h&1 no g5tleman ought s f> to compromise 8 self-respect z to take ! slighte/ (f5ce at see+ a lady by :om he has j be5 refus$1 dance imm$iately aft] ) "s "o else4 ,nev] wait until ! signal is giv5 to take a p>tn]1 = no?+ is m impolite ?an to invite a lady ha/ily1 & :5 ! danc]s are already 9 _! places2 x c be all[$ only :5 ! set is incomplete4 ,be v c>eful n to =get an engagem5t4 ,x is an unp>donable brea* ( polit5ess to ask a lady to dance ) y1 & neglect to rem9d h] ( h] promise :5 ! "t to r$eem x comes4 ,if a fri5d be engag$ :5 y reque/ h] to dance1 & %e promises to be y\r p>tn] = ! next or any ( ! foll[+ dances1 d n neglect h] :5 ! "t comes1 b be 9 read9ess to fulfill y\r (fice z h] cavali]1 or %e may ?9k t y h /udi\sly slight$ h]1 besides prev5t+ h] oblig+ "s "o else4 ,ev5 inatt5tion & =getfulness1 by %[+ h[ little y c>e = a lady1 =m 9 !mselves a tacit insult4 ,9 a quadrille1 or o!r dance1 :ile await+ ! music1 or :ile un5gag$1 a lady & g5tleman %\ld avoid long conv]sations1 z !y are apt to int]f]e ) ! progress ( ! dance2 :ile1 on ! o!r h&1 a g5tleman %\ld n /& l an automaton1 z ?\gh he 7 afraid ( 8 p>tn]1 b endeavor to r5d] himself agreeable by ^? airy no?+s :i* amuse = ! mom5t1 & are 9 h>mony ) ! occasion4 ,! cu/om>y honors ( a b[ & c\rtesy %\ld be giv5 at ! comm5cem5t & conclusion ( ea* dance4 ,lead ! lady ?r\gh ! quadrille2 d n drag h]1 nor clasp h] h& z if x 7 made ( wood1 le/ %e1 n unju/ly1 ?9k y a be>4 ,y w n1 if y are wise1 /& up 9 a quadrille )\t kn[+ some?+ ( ! figure2 & if y are ma/] ( a few ( ! /eps1 s mu* ! bett]4 ,b dance quietly2 d n kick & cap] ab\t1 nor sway y\r body to & fro2 dance only f ! hips d[nw>ds2 & lead ! lady z lightly z y w\ld tread a measure ) a _s ( gossam]4 ,d n pride y\rself on do+ ! /eps neatly1 unless y are ambiti\s ( be+ tak5 = a danc+-ma/]2 betwe5 ^: motions & ^? ( a g5tleman !re is a great diff]5ce4 ,unless a man has a v graceful figure1 & c use x ) great elegance1 x is bett] = him to walk ?r\gh ! quadrilles1 or inv5t "s glid+ movem5t = ! occasion4 ,:5 a lady is /&+ 9 a quadrille1 ?\gh n engag$ 9 danc+1 a g5tleman n acqua9t$ ) h] p>tn] %\ld n conv]se ) h]4 ,:5 an unpractic$ danc] makes a mi/ake1 we may apprise him ( 8 error2 b x w\ld be v impolite to h ! air ( giv+ him a lesson4 ,imm$iate att5tion %\ld be paid to any reque/ made by ! ,ma/] ( ,c]emonies1 & all misund]/&+s respect+ ! dance %\ld be ref]r$ to him1 8 decision be+ deem$ f9al4 ,o!rwise 8 sup]9t5d5ce ( ! ball w be att5d$ ) great inconv5i5ce4 ,:5 =m+ = quadrilles1 if by any ov]sight y %\ld accid5tally occupy ano!r c\ple's place1 on be+ in=m$ ( ! intrusion1 y %\ld imm$iately apologize to ! incommod$ p>ty1 & secure ano!r position4 ,cont5d+ = a position 9 quadrilles1 at ei!r head or sides1 indicates an irritable & qu>relsome disposition altoge!r unsuit$ = an occasion :]e all %\ld meet ) k9dly feel+s4 ,:5 a company is divid$ into diff]5t sets1 p]sons %\ld n attempt to *ange _! places )\t p]mission f ! ,ma/] ( ,c]emonies4 ,no p]sons engag$ 9 a quadrille or o!r dance t requires _! assi/ance to complete ! set1 %\ld leave ! room or sit d[n be=e ! dance is f9i%$1 unless on a v urg5t occasion1 & n ev5 !n )\t previ\sly in=m+ ! ,ma/] ( ,c]emonies1 t he may f9d sub/itutes4 ,if a lady waltz ) y1 bew>e n to press h] wai/2 y mu/ only lightly t\* x ) ! palm ( y\r h&1 le/ y leave a disagreeable impression n only on h] ce9ture1 b on h] m9d4 ,above all1 d n be prone to qu>rel 9 a ball-room2 x di/urbs ! h>mony ( ! company1 & %\ld be avoid$ if possible4 ,recollect t a ?\s& little d]elictions f /rict propriety may occur ?r\gh ! ignorance or /upidity ( ! aggressor1 & n f any int5tion to annoy2 rememb]1 also1 t ! really well-br$ wom5 w n ?ank y = mak+ !m conspicu\s by ov]-(fici\sness 9 _! def5ce1 unless1 inde$1 !re be "s s]i\s or gl>+ violation ( decorum4 ,9 small matt]s1 ladies are bo? able & will+ to take c>e ( !mselves1 & w\ld pref] be+ all[$ to ov]:elm ! unlucky (f5d] 9 _! own way4 ,:5 a g5tleman has occasion to pass ?r\gh an assemblage ( ladies1 :]e x is absolutely impossible to make 8 way )\t di/urb+ !m2 or :5 he is oblig$ to g 9 front1 because he _c get beh9d !m1 x is b common c\rtesy = him to express 8 regret at be+ compell$ to annoy !m4 ,a g5tleman hav+ two ladies 9 *>ge may1 9 ! abs5ce ( fri5ds1 address a /rang]1 & (f] him a p>tn]1 ask+ 8 "n previ\s to an introduction1 & m5tion+ t ( ! lady to him or n1 z he may ?9k prop]4 ,x is improp] to engage or re5gage a lady to dance )\t ! p]mission ( h] p>tn]4 ,nev] =get t ladies are to be fir/ c>$ =1 to h ! be/ seats1 ! places ( di/9ction1 & are entitl$ 9 all cases to y\r c\rte\s protection4 ,"y ladies %\ld avoid saunt]+ ?r\gh an assembly-room alone2 !y %\ld ei!r be accompani$ by _! gu>dian or a g5tleman4 ,nei!r m>ri$ nor "y ladies %\ld leave a ball-room assemblage1 or o!r p>ty1 unatt5d$4 ,! =m] %\ld be accompani$ by o!r m>ri$ ladies1 & ! latt] by _! "m or gu>dian4 ,( c\rse1 a g5tleman is a suffici5t companion = ei!r4 ,"y ladies %\ld avoid attempt+ to take "p 9 a dance1 p>ticul>ly a quadrille1 unless !y are famili> ) ! figures4 ,besides r5d]+ !mselves awkw>d & confus$1 !y are apt to create ill-feel+1 by int]f]+ )1 & annoy+ o!rs4 ,x 7 bett] = !m to =ego ! gratification ( danc+ ?an to risk ! *ances ( mak+ !mselves conspicu\s1 & ! subject ( animadv]sion4 ,z we h else:]e said1 mode/y ( deportm5t %\ld be ! %9+ & preem95t *>act]i/ic ( woman4 ,%e %\ld be mode/ 9 h] attire1 9 language1 9 mann]s & g5]al demeanor4 ,beauty becomes irresi/ible :5 alli$ to ?is lode/one ( attraction2 pla9ness ( features is ov]look$ by x2 ev5 positive homel9ess is r5d]$ agreeable by its influ5ce4 ,:5 a g5tleman escorts a lady to a ball1 he %\ld dance ) h] fir/1 or (f] s to d2 & x %\ld be 8 c>e to see t %e is provid$ ) a p>tn] :5ev] %e desires to dance4 ,aft] danc+1 a g5tleman %\ld inv>iably conduct a lady to a seat1 unless %e o!rwise desires2 &1 9 fact1 a lady %\ld n be unatt5d$1 at any "t1 9 a public assembly4 ,:5 y conduct y\r p>tn] to h] seat1 ?ank h] = ! pleasure %e has conf]r$ ^u y1 & d n rema9 too long conv]s+ ) h]4 ,:5 t long & anxi\sly desid]at$ h\r1 ! h\r ( supp]1 has arriv$1 y h& ! lady y att5d up or d[n to ! supp]-table4 ,y rema9 ) h] :ile %e is at ! table1 see+ t %e has all t %e desires1 & !n conduct h] back to ! danc+-rooms4 ,if1 :ile walk+ up & d[n a public prom5ade1 y %\ld meet fri5ds or acqua9tances :om y don't int5d to jo91 x is only necess>y to salute !m ! fir/ "t ( pass+2 to b[ or nod to !m at e r\nd w\ld be tiresome1 & !re=e improp]2 h no fe> t !y w deem y odd or unfri5dly1 z1 if !y h any s5se at all1 !y c appreciate y\r reasons4 ,if y h any?+ to say to !m1 jo9 !m at once4 ,we h already allud$ to ! necessity ( disc>d+ all cant t]ms & phrases f conv]sation1 n only 9 assembly-rooms1 b on all occasions2 & we w\ld p>ticul>ly caution our "y lady fri5ds aga9/ ev5 ! recognition ( ^? equivoques & d\ble ent5dre :i* ! o!r sex sometimes inconsid]ately1 b (t5] det]m9$ly1 introduce4 ,nei!r by smiles nor blu%es %\ld !y betray any k ( ! hidd5 mean+ t lurks )9 a phrase ( d\btful import1 nor seem to recognize any?+ :i* !y c\ld n ) propriety op5ly make a subject ( disc\rse4 ,all indelicate expressions %\ld be to !m z ! ,sanscrit language is to mo/ p1 incompreh5sible4 ,all wanton glances & grimaces1 :i* are by lib]t9es consid]$ z b s _m invitations to lewdness1 %\ld be /rictly %unn$4 ,no lady c be too fa/idi\s 9 h] conduct1 or too gu>d$ 9 h] actions4 ,a bad reputation is almo/ z de/ructive ( happ9ess to h] z absolute guilt2 & ( h] "* we may say ) ! poet3 ,a brea? c make !m1 or a brea? unmake4 ,9 danc+1 g5]ally1 ! p]=m]s ( bo? sexes %\ld endeavor to we> a pleasant c\nt5ance2 & 9 pres5t+ h&s1 a slight incl9ation ( ! head1 9 ! mann] ( a salutation1 is appropriate & becom+4 ,danc+ is c]ta9ly suppos$ to be an enjoym5t1 b ! sombre c\nt5ance ( "s :o engage 9 x1 might almo/ lead to ! belief t x 7 a solemn duty be+ p]=m$4 ,if ^? :o laugh 9 *ur* w\ld transf] _! m]rim5t to ! assembly-room1 & ^? :o are sad 9 ! assembly-room w\ld c>ry _! gravity to ! *ur*1 !y bo? might discov] ! apposit5ess ( ,solomon's decl>ation1 t !re is a "t to be m]ry & a "t to be sad4 ,we h already allud$ to ! importance ( a correct use ( language 9 conv]sation1 & ?\gh we are aw>e t x is absolutely impossible to practice x )\t a c]ta9 degree ( education1 yet we w\ld urge t ! habit :i* _m acquire1 m ?r\gh c>elessness ?an ignorance1 ( disreg>d+ x1 is wor?y ( consid]ation4 ,_m a "y lady has lo/ a future husb& by a wanton contempt = ! rules ( ,l9dley ,murray4 ,?\gh h>dly a case 9 po9t1 we _c =ego ! opportunity ( record+ an incid5t 9 ! c>e] ( a "y man ab\t t[n1 :o1 anxi\s to see life 9 all its phases1 0 induc$ to att5d a public ball1 ! patrons ( :i* 7 *>act]iz$ m = _! peculi>ity ( mann]s ?an _! extraord9>y ref9em5t4 ,on be+ solicit$ by an acqua9tance1 :om he respect$ = 8 k9dness ( he>t & integrity r ?an = 8 m5tal accompli%m5ts1 to dance ) 8 daught]1 he cons5t$1 & 0 accord+ly introduc$ to a v beautiful "y lady4 ,ere ! dance comm5c$1 & :ile ! musicians 7 p]=m+ ! ,anvil ,*orus1 f ,trovatore1 ! "y lady ask$3 ,d y "k :at t 'ere is8 ,suppos+ t %e meant air1 & wi%+ to give h] an opportunity ( mak+ h]self happy 9 ! ?\ght ( imp>t+ a valuable piece ( in=mation1 9 utt] disreg>d ( ! pr9ciples ( ,mrs4 ,opie1 he repli$1 ,no4 ,:y1 said %e1 t's ! ,anvel ,core-ri-ous4 ,) an expletive m pr(ane ?an polite1 he sudd5ly f\nd 8 admiration = ! lady z mu* dim9i%$ by h] ignorance1 z x _h be=e be5 exalt$ by h] beauty4 ,at private assemblies1 x %\ld be ! ef=t ( bo? ladies & g5tlem5 to r5d] !mselves z agreeable z possible to all p>ties4 ,) ?is purpose 9 view1 ! latt] %\ld1 !re=e1 avoid %[+ m>k$ pref]5ces to p>ticul> ladies1 ei!r by devot+ _! undivid$ att5tions or danc+ exclusively ) !m4 ,too (t51 ! belle ( ! ev5+1 ) no o!r *>ms ?an beauty ( =m & feature1 monopolizes ! reg>ds ( a circle ( admir]s1 :ile mode/ m]it1 ( less p]sonal attraction1 is bo? ov]look$ & neglect$4 ,we honor ! g5]\s conduct ( ^?1 p>ticul>ly ! well-favor$1 :o be/[ _! att5tions on ladies :o1 f consci\s lack ( beauty1 lea/ expect !m4 ,on ! o!r h&1 no lady1 h[ev] num]\s ! solicitations ( h] admir]s1 %\ld cons5t to dance repeat$ly1 :51 by s do+1 %e excludes o!r ladies f p>ticipat+ 9 ! same amusem5t2 /ill less1 z we h else:]e h9t$1 %\ld %e dance exclusively ) ! same g5tleman1 to ! disadvantage ( o!rs4 ,bo? ladies & g5tlem5 %\ld be c>eful ab\t introduc+ p]sons to ea* o!r )\t be+ fir/ satisfi$ t su* a c\rse w be mutually agreeable4 ,! cu/om1 9 ?is c\ntry1 p>ticul>ly among g5tlem51 ( indiscrim9ate introductions1 is c>ri$ to su* a ridicul\s ext5t1 t x has (t5 be5 made ! subject ( comm5t by =eign]s1 :o c discov] no possible advantage 9 be+ made acqua9t$ ) o!rs ) :om !y are n likely to associate = ?ree m9utes1 9 :om !y take n ! slighte/ int]e/1 & :om !y probably w nev] aga9 enc\nt]1 nor recognize if !y %\ld4 ,besides1 e "o has a "r to ex]cise 8 own judgm5t & ta/e 9 ! selection ( acqua9tances1 & x is cle>ly a brea* ( polit5ess to ?ru/ !m ^u y\r fri5d or associate1 )\t kn[+ :e!r x w be agreeable to ei!r p>ty4 ,,ev5+ ,,p>ties4 ,! etiquette ( ! ball-room be+ dispos$ (1 let u n[ ent] slightly into t ( an ev5+ p>ty4 ,! invitations issu$ & accept$ = an ev5+ p>ty w be writt5 9 ! same /yle z ^? already describ$ = a d9n]-p>ty4 ,!y %\ld be s5t out at lea/ ?ree weeks be=e ! day fix$ = ! ev5t1 & %\ld be repli$ to )9 a week ( _! receipt1 accept+ or decl9+ ) regrets4 ,by att5d+ to ^! c\rtesies1 ! gue/s w h "t to consid] _! engagem5ts & prep>e _! dresses1 & ! ho/ess w also "k :at w be ! numb] ( h] p>ty4 ,a lady1 invit$ to an ev5+ p>ty1 may reque/ a g5tleman to accompany h]1 ev5 ?\gh he may n h receiv$ an invitation f ! ho/ess4 ,9 mo/ ( ! ,am]ican cities n9e o'clock is ! h\r :i* cu/om has e/abli%$ z ! "t = ! lady to be 9 h] p>lor1 ready to receive h] gue/s1 & by t5 o'clock all ! gue/s %\ld arrive4 ,x is an affectation1 n entirely devoid ( assumption & impud5ce1 = p to purposely delay _! appe>ance till a v late h\r4 ,z ! ladies & g5tlem5 arrive1 ea* %\ld be %[n to a room exclusively provid$ = _! reception2 & ! g5tleman conducts ! lady 9 8 *>ge to ! door ( ! ladies' dress+-room1 :ile he goes to ! g5tlem5's ap>tm5t1 ea* to prep>e _! toilet suitably to ent]+ ! reception-room4 ,9 ! room set ap>t = ! ladies1 att5dants %\ld be 9 wait+ to assi/ 9 uncloak+1 & help+ to arrange ! hair & toilet ( ^? :o require x4 ,aft] complet+ h] toilet1 ! lady waits at ! door ( h] dress+-room till ! g5tleman jo9s h]1 & !y make _! entree toge!r4 ,9 l>ge & =mal p>ties1 x is g5]ally cu/om>y = ! s]vant to ann\nce ! names ( ! gue/s z !y ent] ! room1 b ?is is a c]emony well en\gh disp5s$ )1 except on occasions ( v l>ge & =mal p>ties4 ,x is ! bus9ess ( ! lady ( ! h\se to be ne> ! door to receive h] gue/s2 if %e is n !re1 y ne$ n g hunt+ ?r\gh ! cr[d aft] h]4 ,z ! gue/s ent] ! room1 x is n necess>y = ! lady ( ! h\se to advance ea* "t t[>d ! door1 b m]ely to rise f h] seat to receive _! c\rtesies & congratulations4 ,if1 inde$1 ! ho/ess wi%es to %[ p>ticul> favor to "s peculi>ly honor$ gue/s1 %e may introduce !m to o!rs1 ^: acqua9tance %e may imag9e w be especially suitable & agreeable4 ,x is v (t5 ! practice ( ! g5tleman ( ! h\se to introduce "o g5tleman to ano!r1 b occasionally ! lady p]=ms ?is (fice2 :5 x w1 ( c\rse1 be polite = ! p]sons ?us introduc$ to take _! seats toge!r = ! "t be+4 ,:5 ent]+ a private ball or p>ty1 ! visitor %\ld inv>iably b[ to ! company4 ,no well-br$ p]son w\ld omit ?is c\rtesy 9 ent]+ a draw+-room2 & al?\gh ! entrance to a l>ge assembly may be unnotic$ by all pres5t1 its obs]vance is n ! less necess>y4 ,x is ! ?\ghtless abs5ce ( good mann]s 9 l>ge & mix$ companies1 :]e a great] degree ( /udi$ polit5ess is indisp5sable1 t r5d]s !m sometimes s unpleasant4 ,a sep>ate room or conv5i5t buffet %\ld be appropriat$ = refre%m5ts1 & to :i* ! danc]s may retire2 & cakes & biscuits1 ) lemonade1 h&$ r\nd4 ,( c\rse a supp] is provid$ at all private p>ties2 & ?is requires1 on ! "p ( ! ho/ess1 a great deal ( att5tion & sup]vision4 ,x usually takes place betwe5 ! fir/ & second p>ts ( ! programme ( ! dances1 ( :i* !re %\ld be sev]al prettily writt5 or pr9t$ copies di/ribut$ ab\t ! room4 ,x w be well = ! ho/ess1 ev5 if %e be v p>tial to ! amusem5t1 & a graceful danc]1 n to p>ticipate 9 x to any great ext5t1 le/ h] lady gue/s %\ld h occasion to compla9 ( h] monopoly ( ! g5tlem51 & o!r causes ( neglect4 ,a few dances w suffice to %[ h] int]e/ 9 ! ent]ta9m5t1 )\t unduly tr5*+ on ! att5tion due to h] gue/s4 ,! ho/ess or ho/1 dur+ ! progress ( a p>ty1 w c\rte\sly acco/ & *at ) _! fri5ds1 & take c>e t ! ladies are furni%$ ) seats1 & t ^? :o wi% to dance are provid$ ) p>tn]s4 ,a g5tle h9t f ! ho/ess1 convey$ 9 a quiet ladylike mann]1 t c]ta9 ladies h rema9$ un5gag$ dur+ sev]al dances1 is sure n to be neglect$ by any g5tleman4 ,?us w be /udi$ ! com=t & enjoym5t ( ! gue/s1 & no lady1 9 leav+ ! h\se1 w be able to feel ! *agr9 & disappo9tm5t ( n hav+ be5 invit$ to /& up 9 a dance dur+ ! :ole ev5+4 ,= any ( ! memb]s1 ei!r sons or daught]s1 ( ! family at ^: h\se ! p>ty is giv51 to dance frequ5tly or con/antly1 d5otes decid$ ill-bre$+4 ,! ladies ( ! h\se %\ld n occupy ^? places 9 a quadrille :i* o!rs may wi% to fill1 & !y %\ld1 moreov]1 be at leisure to att5d to ! re/ ( ! company2 & ! g5tlem5 %\ld be ent]ta9+ ! m>ri$ ladies & ^? :o d n dance4 ,9 private p>ties1 a lady is n to refuse ! invitation ( a g5tleman to dance1 unless %e be previ\sly engag$4 ,! ho/ess mu/ be suppos$ to h ask$ to h] h\se only ^? p]sons :om %e kn[s to be p]fectly respectable & ( unblemi%$ "*1 z well z pretty equal 9 position2 & ?us1 to decl9e ! (f] ( any g5tleman pres5t1 w\ld be a tacit reflection on ! g5tleman or lady ( ! h\se4 ,if "o lady refuses y1 d n ask ano!r :o is seat$ ne> h] to dance ! same set4 ,d n g imm$iately to ano!r lady1 b *at a few mom5ts ) ! "o :om y fir/ invit$1 & !n jo9 a gr\p or g5tlem5 fri5ds = a few mom5ts1 be=e seek+ ano!r p>tn]4 ,9 private p>ties1 :]e danc+ is ! *ief "p ( ! ev5+'s ent]ta9m5t1 x is n 9 con=mity ) ! rules ( etiquette = a "y lady to dance ) "o g5tleman repeat$ly1 to ! exclusion ( all o!rs :o may solicit h] h&1 ev5 ?\gh ! favor$ individual be h] suitor4 ,h[ev] complim5t>y to ! lady1 to be ! recipi5t ( a g5tleman's undivid$ att5tions1 or h[ev] gratify+ x may be = him to manife/ 8 devotion to ! lady ( 8 *oice1 su* a c\rse is an exhibition ( selfi%ness :i* ought n to be display$ 9 an assemblage ( ladies & g5tlem5 :o h congregat$ = mutual enjoym5t4 ,x is n consid]$ comme il faut to ask a m>ri$ lady to dance1 :5 h] husb& is pres5t1 )\t previ\sly asc]ta9+ :e!r x be agreeable to him4 ,g5tlem5 w n get toge!r 9 gr\ps to ! neglect ( ! ladies4 ,! memb]s ( an invit$ family %\ld nev] be se5 conv]s+ ) ea* o!r at a p>ty4 ,if y accompany y\r wife to a danc+ p>ty1 be c>eful n to dance ) h]1 except p]haps ! fir/ set4 ,:]e !re are no programmes1 engagem5ts %\ld n be made until ! dance is ann\nc$4 ,:5 ! dance is ov]1 ! g5tleman conducts 8 p>tn] to h] seat2 &1 unless he *ooses to sit beside h]1 b[s & )draws4 ,:ile danc+1 a lady %\ld consid] h]self engag$ to h] p>tn]1 & !re=e n at lib]ty to hold a flirtation1 betwe5 ! figures1 ) ano!r g5tleman2 & %\ld recollect t x is ! g5tleman's "p to lead h]1 & h]s to foll[ 8 directions4 ,9 a circle1 we %\ld n pass be=e a lady2 nei!r %\ld we pres5t any?+ by ext5d+ ! arm ov] h]1 b pass r\nd beh9d & pres5t x4 ,9 case we _c d x1 we say1 ,i ask y\r p>don1 etc4 ,9 asc5d+ a /aircase ) ladies1 g at _! side or be=e !m4 ,a correct e> = music does n p]ta9 to e "o1 & ^? :o are defici5t 9 ?is respect %\ld refra9 f danc+4 ,let n ! unpractic$ danc] attempt quadrilles4 ,a novice necess>ily p]plexes & annoys a p>tn]4 ,on ! o!r h&1 n[h]e p]haps has a k9dly disposition m pleas+ opportunities ( conf]r+ small b5efits ?an 9 a ball-room4 ,^? :o are exp]t 9 danc+ may g5tly apprise ! unskillful ( an error1 & ?is )\t giv+ ! slighte/ (f5se1 or seem+ to dictate2 :ile su* z dance well1 & are solicit$ to dance1 %\ld c>efully avoid speak+ ( x4 ,!y ought r to seek to contribute to less =tunate p]sons a full %>e 9 ! ev5+'s amusem5t4 ,a lady may d ?is by g5tly h9t+ to a g5tleman :o solicits h] h& = ano!r dance1 t su* a lady has rema9$ un5gag$4 ,no g5tleman w neglect su* a sugge/ion4 ,!re is a cu/om :i* is sometimes practic$ bo? 9 ! assembly room & at private p>ties1 :i* _c be too /rongly repreh5d$2 we allude to ! habit ( ridicule & ung5]\s criticism ( ^? :o are ungraceful or o!rwise obnoxi\s to c5sure1 :i* is indulg$ 9 by ! ?\ghtless1 p>ticul>ly among ! danc]s4 ,( its gross impropriety & vulg>ity we ne$ h>dly express an op9ion2 b !re is su* an utt] disreg>d = ! feel+s ( o!rs impli$ 9 ?is k9d ( negative c5sor%ip1 t we _c =be> to w>n our "y read]s to avoid x4 ,! ,koran says3 ,d n mock--! mock$ may be bett] ?an ! mock]4 ,^? y condemn may n h _h ! same advantages z y\rself 9 acquir+ grace or dignity1 :ile !y may be inf9itely sup]ior 9 purity ( he>t & m5tal accompli%m5ts4 ,! advice ( ,*e/]field to 8 son1 9 8 comm]ce ) society1 to d z y w\ld be done by1 is f\nd$ on ! ,*ri/ian precept1 & wor?y ( comm5dation4 ,imag9e y\rself ! victim ( ano!r's ridicule1 & y w cease to indulge 9 a pa/ime :i* only ga9s = y ! hatr$ ( ^? y satirize1 if !y *ance to obs]ve y1 & ! contempt ( o!rs :o h notic$ y\r violation ( polit5ess1 & abuse ( true sociality4 ,we conclude our /rictures on ?is subject ) ! foll[+ passage f ! essays ( ,addison3 ,b :at an absurd ?+ x is1 to pass ov] all ! valuable *>act]i/ics ( individuals1 & fix our att5tion on _! infirmities--to obs]ve _! imp]fections m ?an _! virtues--& to make use ( !m = ! sport ( o!rs1 r ?an = our own improvem5t4 ,9 :atev] relation ) ! fair sex1 & "u :atsoev] circum/ances1 x is ! duty--we may add1 ! practice--( a g5tleman to s deport himself z to avoid giv+ any cause ( (f5se4 ,9 private p>ties1 :]e p meet = ! pleasure ( conv]sation1 rememb] occasionally to *ange y\r place4 ,opportunities w readily occur1 su*1 = in/ance1 z ! op5+ ( a portfolio ( pr9ts1 or ! %[+ ( any article ( ta/e or sci5ce4 ,y w ?us avoid ! awkw>dness ( be+ ei!r left alone1 or con/ra9+ ! ma/] or mi/ress ( ! h\se to commis]ate y\r isolat$ condition4 ,if y are ask$ by ! lady ( ! h\se1 at an ev5+ p>ty1 to s+1 & y c really d s well1 comply at once2 b nev] s+ at ! reque/ ( ano!r p]son4 ,if y _c or d n *oose to s+1 say s at once ) s]i\sness & gravity1 & put an end to ! expectation promptly4 ,aft] s++ once or twice1 cease & give place to o!rs4 ,:5 s++ or play+ is go+ on1 if y h no ta/e = music1 y %\ld /ill be pr(\ndly sil5t4 ,to conv]se1 is annoy+ to ! re/ ( ! company1 rude to ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 & cruel to ! p]=m]4 ,c>efully avoid all peculi>ities ( mann]2 & e wi% to %[ (f1 or to absorb conv]sation to y\rself4 ,be also v c>eful n to appe> to be wis] ?an ! company4 ,if a fact 9 hi/ory is m5tion$1 ev5 if x be n q correct1 d n set ! n>rator "r1 unless 9 a v delicate & submissive mann]4 ,if an engrav+ ( di/ant sc5]y or =eign build+s is %[n1 d n indu/ri\sly po9t out inaccuracies4 ,x may be t su* occur1 b f9d+ fault is nev] acceptable2 x conveys a c5sure on ! ta/e or in=mation ( ! possessor2 or x sugge/s t he has be5 impos$ ^u--an idea :i* is always productive ( mortification4 ,su* attempts to appe> wis] ?an ! re/ ( ! company1 int]f]e ) ! pleasure ( ! p>ty1 & ! p]son :o falls into !m is nev] long acceptable4 ,p sometimes say1 t !y are n invit$ to p>ties2 !y compla9 ( neglect1 & are out ( humor ) ! _w4 ,let su* p]sons consid] :e!r !y h n br\ght ^u !mselves ! neglect :i* !y deplore4 ,%\ld ! gue/s be num]\s1 & ! space sc>cely suffici5t = _! accommodation1 x w\ld be consid]$ extremely ill-br$ to take a place previ\sly engag$2 or1 :5 jo9+ a c\ntry dance1 to pu% 9 at ! middle or upp] end4 ,y mu/ take y\r /ation bel[ ! la/ c\ple :o are /&+ up4 ,if !re be a supp]1 ! g5tleman %\ld conduct to ! supp]-room 8 la/ p>tn]1 unless he h a prior engagem5t1 or is ask$ by ! ho/ to d o!rwise4 ,9 ! latt] case1 he %\ld provide 8 p>tn] ) a sub/itute1 at ! same "t mak+ a h&some apology4 ,no g5tleman %\ld (f] 8 s]vices to conduct a lady home1 )\t be+ acqua9t$ ) h]1 unless he h be5 reque/$ s to d by ! ho/4 ,:5 any ( ! c>riages ( ! gue/s are ann\nc$1 or ! "t = _! dep>ture arriv$1 !y %\ld make a slight intimation to ! ho/ess1 )\t1 h[ev]1 excit+ any obs]vation1 t !y are ab\t to dep>t4 ,if ?is _c be done )\t creat+ too mu* bu/le1 x w be bett] = ! visitors to retire quietly )\t say+ good-night1 = :5 p are se5 to be leav+1 x (t5 breaks up ! p>ty4 ,an opportunity1 h[ev]1 may previ\sly be s\ght ( intimat+ to ! ho/ess y\r int5tion to retire1 :i* is m respectful4 ,dur+ ! c\rse ( ! week1 ! ho/ess w expect to receive f e gue/ a call1 :]e x is possible1 or c>ds express+ ! gratification exp]i5c$ f h] ent]ta9m5t4 ,?is att5tion is due to e lady = ! pa9s & tr\ble %e has be5 at1 & t5ds to promote social1 k9dly feel+s4 ,,visit+4 ,next 9 ord] to ! c]emonials ( d9n] or ev5+ p>ties1 are cu/om>y calls1 compris$ "u ! g5]al head ( visit+4 ,!y are ^? ( c]emony1 fri5d%ip1 or condol5ce1 & occupy no small portion ( "t4 ,su* visits are necess>y1 9 ord] to ma9ta9 good feel+ betwe5 ! memb]s ( society2 !y are requir$ by ! cu/om ( ! age 9 :i* we live1 & mu/ be c>efully att5d$ to4 ,fir/1 !n1 are visits ( c]emony1 m]g+ occasionally into ^? ( fri5d%ip1 b uni=mly requir$ aft] d9+ at a fri5d's h\se4 ,pr(essional m5 are n h[ev]1 9 g5]al1 expect$ to pay su* visits1 because _! "t is preoccupi$2 b !y =m almo/ ! only exception4 ,visits ( c]emony mu/ be necess>ily %ort4 ,!y %\ld on no acc\nt be made be=e ! h\r1 nor yet dur+ ! "t ( lun*eon4 ,p]sons :o intrude !mselves at unwont$ h\rs are nev] welcome2 ! lady ( ! h\se does n l to be di/urb$ :5 %e is p]haps d9+ ) h] *ildr52 & ! s]vants ju/ly compla9 ( be+ int]rupt$ at ! h\r :5 !y assemble = _! noon-day meal4 ,asc]ta91 !re=e1 :i* y c readily d1 :at is ! family h\r = lun*eon1 & act accord+ly4 ,half an h\r amply suffices = a visit ( c]emony4 ,if ! visitor be a lady1 %e may remove h] victor9e1 b on no acc\nt ei!r ! %awl or bonnet1 ev5 if politely reque/$ to d s by ! mi/ress ( ! h\se4 ,"s tr\ble is necess>ily requir$ 9 replac+ !m1 & ?is ought to be avoid$4 ,if1 h[ev]1 y\r visit ( c]emony is to a p>ticul> fri5d1 ! case is diff]5t2 b ev5 !n1 x is be/ to wait till y are invit$ to d s2 & :5 y rise = ! purpose ! lady ( ! h\se w assi/ y4 ,favorite dogs are nev] welcome visitors 9 a draw+-room4 ,_m p h ev5 a dislike to su* animals4 ,!y require wat*+1 le/ !y %\ld leap ^u a *air or s(a1 or place !mselves ^u a lady's dress1 & att5tions ( ?is k9d are mu* out ( place4 ,nei!r ought a "m1 :5 pay+ a c]emonial visit1 to be accompani$ by "y *ildr54 ,x is frequ5tly difficult to amuse !m1 &1 if n p>ticul>ly well tra9$ at home1 !y naturally seize hold ( books1 or ^? ornam5ts ) :i* x is fa%ionable to decorate a draw+-room4 ,! lady ( ! h\se trembles = ! fate ( a beautiful %ell1 or vase1 or co/ly book4 ,%e does n l to express h] uneas9ess1 & yet kn[s n h[ to refra94 ,!re=e leave ! *ildr5 at home2 or1 if !y accompany y 9 ! c>riage1 let !m rema9 till y\r visit is ov]4 ,if y h an infant1 ! nurse may await y\r return1 or be left 9 an ante-room1 unless a decid$ reque/ be made to ! contr>y4 ,if dur+ y\r %ort visit ! conv]sation beg9s to flag1 x w be be/ to retire4 ,! lady ( ! h\se may h "s engagem5t at a fix$ h\r1 & by rema9+ ev5 a few m9utes long]1 %e may be put to s]i\s inconv5i5ce4 ,d n1 h[ev]1 seem to notice any sil5t h9t1 by ris+ ha/ily2 b take leave ) quiet polit5ess1 z if y\r "t 7 fully expir$4 ,:5 o!r visitors are ann\nc$1 retire z soon z possible1 & yet )\t lett+ x appe> t _! arrival is ! cause4 ,wait till ! bu/le ( _! entrance is ov]1 & !n rise f y\r *air1 take leave ( ! ho/ess1 & b[ politely to ! gue/s4 ,by s do+ y w save ! lady ( ! h\se f be+ oblig$ to ent]ta9 two sets ( visitors4 ,%\ld y call by *ance at an inconv5i5t h\r1 :5 p]haps ! lady is go+ out1 or sitt+ d[n to lun*eon1 retire z soon z possible1 ev5 if politely ask$ to rema94 ,y ne$ n let x appe> t y feel y\rself an intrud]2 e well-br$ or ev5 good-temp]$ p]son kn[s :at to say on su* an occasion2 b politely )draw1 ) a promise to call aga91 if ! lady seems to be really disappo9t$4 ,if y\r acqua9tance or fri5d is f home1 leave a c>d1#a :e!r y call 9 a c>riage or n4 ,if 9 ! latt]1 ! s]vant w answ] y\r inquiry1 & receive y\r c>d2 b on no acc\nt ask leave to g 9 & re/2 nei!r urge y\r wi% if y fancy t ! lady :om y desire to see is really at home1 or ev5 if y flatt] y\rself t %e w\ld make an exception 9 y\r favor4 ,"s p ?9k t ! =m ( words1 ,n at home1 is readily und]/ood to mean t ! ma/] or mi/ress ( ! h\se h no wi% to see ev5 8 or h] mo/ intimate fri5ds4 ,h[ev] ?is may be1 take c>e t y d n attempt to effect an entrance4 #a ,:5 ! call] is ab\t to leave ! city = a protract$ abs5ce1 x is usual to put ! lett]s ,p4 ,p4 ,c4 9 ! left h& corn] ( ! c>d2 !y are ! initials ( ! ,fr5* phrase1 p\r pr5dre conge--to take leave1 & may ) equal propriety /& = pres5ts p>t+ complim5ts4 ,visits ( c\rtesy or c]emony are uni=mly paid at ,*ri/mas1 or at ! comm5cem5t ( a new ye>1 indep5d5tly ( family p>ties2 a good old cu/om1 ! obs]vance ( :i* is always pleas+1 & :i* %\ld be c>efully att5d$ to4 ,x is uni=mly "r to call on patrons1 or ^? f :om k9dness has be5 receiv$4 ,9 visit+ y\r intimate fri5ds1 c]emony may g5]ally be disp5s$ )4 ,keep a /rict acc\nt ( y\r c]emonial visits4 ,?is is ne$ful1 because "t passes rapidly2 & take note h[ soon y\r calls are return$4 ,y w ?us be able1 9 mo/ cases1 to =m an op9ion :e!r or n y\r frequ5t visits are desir$4 ,in/ances may h[ev] occur1 :51 9 consequ5ce ( age or ill heal?1 x is desirable t y %\ld call1 )\t any ref]5ce to y\r visits be+ return$4 ,:5 desir\s to act ?us1 rememb] t1 if possible1 no?+ %\ld int]rupt ! dis*>ge ( ?is duty4 ,among relations & intimate fri5ds1 visits ( m]e c]emony are unnecess>y4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 ne$ful to call at suitable times1 & to avoid /ay+ too long if y\r fri5d is engag$4 ,! c\rtesies ( society1 z already notic$1 mu/ ev] be ma9ta9$1 ev5 9 ! dome/ic circle1 or among ! ne>e/ fri5ds4 ,9 leav+ c>ds y mu/ ?us di/ribute !m3 "o = ! lady ( ! h\se & h] daught]s--! latt] are sometimes repres5t$ by turn+ up ! edge ( ! c>d--"o = ! ma/] ( ! h\se1 & if !re be a gr[n up son or a ne> male relation /ay+ 9 ! h\se1 "o = him4 ,b ?\gh c>ds are *eap1 y mu/ nev] leave m ?an ?ree at a "t at ! same h\se4 ,z m>ri$ m5 h1 or are suppos$ to h1 too mu* to d to make c]emonial calls1 x is ! cu/om = a wife to take h] husb&'s c>ds ) h] & to leave "o or two ( !m ) h] own4 ,if1 on y\r inquir+ = ! lady ( ! h\se1 ! s]vant replies1 ,mrs4 ,s-&-s is n at home1 b ,miss ,s-&-s is1 y %\ld leave a c>d1 because "y ladies d n receive calls f g5tlem5 unless !y are v intimate ) !m1 or h pass$ ! rubicon ( ?irty summ]s4 ,x mu/ be rememb]$1 too1 t :]e !re is a lady ( ! h\se1 y\r call is to h]1 n to h] husb&1 except on bus9ess4 ,morn+ calls may be divid$ into ?ree heads3 ,^? paid at ! "t already specifi$2 weekly visits to intimate fri5ds1 or by "y p]sons to ^? advanc$ 9 life2 & mon?ly visits1 :i* are g5]ally c]emoni\s4 ,) respect to ! fir/1 be v c>eful t y d n acquire ! "* ( a day gobl94 ,a day gobl9 is "o ( ^? p]sons :o1 hav+ pl5ty ( leisure1 & a great desire to he> !mselves talk1 make frequ5t inroads into _! fri5ds' h\ses4 ,?\gh p]haps well acqua9t$ ) ! rules ( etiquette1 !y call at ! mo/ unseasonable h\rs4 ,if ! habits ( ! family are e>ly1 y w f9d !m 9 ! draw+-room at elev5 o'clock4 ,x may be !y are agreeable & well-in=m$ p2 b :o wi%es = calls at su* a /range h\r6 ,mo/ families h _! rules & occupations4 ,9 "o1 ! lady ( ! h\se att5ds to ! education ( h] *ildr52 9 ano!r1 dome/ic affairs engross a portion ( ! morn+2 "s ladies are fond ( g>d5+1 o!rs ( music or pa9t+4 ,x is pa/ endurance to h su* pursuits brok5 9 ^u = ! sake ( a day gobl91 :o1 hav+ ga9$ access1 inflicts 8 or h] pres5ce till ne>ly lun*eon "t1 & !n goes (f ) say+1 ,well1 ,i h paid y a long visit2 or ,i hope t ,i h n /ay$ too long4 ,a well-br$ p]son always receives visitors at :atev] "t !y may call1 or :oev] !y may be2 b if y are occupi$ & _c af=d to be int]rupt$ by a m]e c]emony1 y %\ld in/ruct ! s]vant be=eh& to say t y are n at home4 ,?is =m has (t5 be5 d5\nc$ z a falsehood1 b a lie is no lie unless int5d$ to deceive2 & s9ce ! words are univ]sally und]/ood to mean t y are engag$1 x c be no h>m to give su* an ord] to a s]vant4 ,b1 on ! o!r h&1 if ! s]vant once admits a visitor )9 ! hall1 y %\ld receive him at any inconv5i5ce to y\rself4 ,a lady %\ld nev] keep a visitor wait+ m ?an a m9ute1 or two at ! mo/1 & if %e _c avoid do+ s1 mu/ apologize on ent]+ ! draw+-room4 ,9 good society1 a visitor1 unless he is a complete /rang]1 does n wait to be invit$ to sit d[n1 b takes a seat at once easily4 ,a g5tleman %\ld nev] take ! pr9cipal place 9 ! room1 nor1 on ! o!r h&1 sit at an inconv5i5t di/ance f ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,he mu/ hold 8 hat gracefully1 n put x on a *air or table1 or1 if he wants to use bo? h&s1 mu/ place x on ! floor close to 8 *air4 ,a well-br$ lady1 :o is receiv+ two or ?ree visitors at a "t1 pays equal att5tion to all1 & attempts1 z mu* z possible1 to g5]alize ! conv]sation1 turn+ to all 9 succession4 ,! la/ arrival1 h[ev]1 receives a little m att5tion at fir/ ?an ! o!rs1 & ! latt]1 to sp>e h] emb>rasm5t1 %\ld leave z soon z conv5i5t4 ,p :o out-sit two or ?ree p>ties ( visitors1 unless !y h "s p>ticul> motive = do+ s1 come "u ! d5om9ation ( bores4 ,a bore is a p]son :o does n "k :5 y h _h en\gh ( 8 or h] company4 ,be cauti\s h[ y take an intimate fri5d un9vit$ ev5 to ! h\se ( ^? ) :om y may be equally intimate1 z !re is always a feel+ ( jeal\sy t ano!r %\ld %>e y\r ?\ghts & feel+s to ! same ext5t z !mselves1 al?\gh good bre$+ w induce !m to behave civilly to y\r fri5d on y\r acc\nt4 ,ladies 9 ! pres5t day are all[$ consid]able lic5se 9 pay+ & receiv+ visits2 subject1 h[ev]1 to c]ta9 rules1 :i* x is ne$ful to def9e4 ,"y m>ri$ ladies may visit _! acqua9tances alone2 b !y may n appe> 9 any public places unatt5d$ by _! husb&s or eld] ladies4 ,?is rule mu/ nev] be infr+$1 :e!r z reg>ds exhibitions1 or public libr>ies1 museums1 or prom5ades2 b a "y m>ri$ lady is at lib]ty to walk ) h] fri5ds ( ! same age1 :e!r m>ri$ or s+le4 ,g5tlem5 are p]mitt$ to call on m>ri$ ladies at _! own h\ses4 ,su* calls ! usages ( society p]mit1 b nev] )\t ! k & full p]mission ( husb&s4 ,ladies may walk unatt5d$ 9 ! /reets1 be+ c>eful to pass on z becomes _! /ation--nei!r ) a hurri$ pace1 nor yet affect+ to move sl[ly4 ,%op-w9d[s1 9 ,new ,york especially1 af=d great attractions2 b x is by no means desirable to be se5 /&+ be=e !m1 & mo/ assur$ly n alone4 ,be c>eful nev] to look back1 nor to obs]ve too n>r[ly ! dresses ( su* ladies z may pass y4 ,%\ld any "o v5ture to address y1 take no he$1 seem n to he>1 b ha/5 y\r /eps4 ,be c>eful to rea* home 9 good "t4 ,let no?+ ev] induce y to be out aft] dusk1 or :5 ! lamps are light$4 ,no?+ b unavoidable necessity c sanction su* acts ( impropriety4 ,la/ly1 a lady nev] calls on a g5tleman1 unless pr(essionally or (ficially4 ,x is n only ill-br$1 b positively improp] to d s4 ,at ! same "t1 !re is a c]ta9 privilege 9 age1 :i* makes x possible = an old ba*elor l myself to receive a visit f any m>ri$ lady :om ,i "k v intimately1 b su* a call w\ld c]ta9ly n be "o ( c]emony1 & always presupposes a desire to consult me on "s po9t or o!r4 ,i %\ld be guilty ( %ameful trea*]y1 h[ev]1 if ,i told any "o t ,i _h receiv$ su* a visit1 :ile ,i %\ld c]ta9ly expect t my fair call] w\ld let h] husb& "k ( x4 ,:5 morn+ visitors are ann\nc$1 rise & advance t[>d !m4 ,if a lady ent]s1 reque/ h] to be seat$ on a s(a2 b if advanc$ 9 life1 or ! visitor be an eld]ly g5tleman1 insi/ on _! accept+ an easy *air1 & place y\rself1 by !m4 ,if sev]al ladies arrive at ! same "t1 pay due respect to age & rank1 & seat !m 9 ! mo/ honorable places2 ^!1 9 w9t]1 are beside ! fire4 ,suppos+ t a "y lady occupies su* a seat1 & a lady old] ?an h]self1 or sup]ior 9 condition1 ent]s ! room1 %e mu/ rise imm$iately1 & hav+ c\rte\sly (f]$ h] place to ! new com]1 take ano!r 9 a diff]5t "p ( ! room4 ,if a lady is engag$ ) h] ne$le :5 a visitor arrives1 %e ought to discont9ue h] "w1 unless reque/$ to d o!rwise3 & n ev5 !n mu/ x be resum$1 unless on v intimate t]ms ) h] acqua9tance4 ,:5 ?is1 h[ev]1 is ! case1 ! ho/ess may h]self reque/ p]mission to d s4 ,to cont9ue work+ dur+ a visit ( c]emony w\ld be extremely disc\rte\s2 & we _c avoid h9t+ to our lady read]s1 t ev5 :5 a p>ticul> fri5d is pres5t = only a %ort "t1 x is some:at inconsi/5t ) etiquette to keep _! eyes fix$ on a cro*et or knitt+-book1 app>5tly engag$ 9 c\nt+ /it*es1 or unfold+ ! intricacies ( a patt]n4 ,we h se5 ?is done1 & are1 !re=e1 c>eful to w>n !m on ! subject4 ,!re are _m k9ds ( light & elegant1 & ev5 useful "w1 :i* d n require close att5tion1 & may be pr(itably pursu$2 & su* we recomm5d to be always on ! "w-table at ^? h\rs :i*1 accord+ to e/abli%$ practice1 are giv5 to social int]c\rse4 ,x is g5]ally cu/om>y 9 ! c\ntry to (f] refre%m5t to morn+ visitors4 ,if !y come f a consid]able di/ance1 & are on intimate t]ms1 hospitality requires t y %\ld invite !m to take lun*eon4 ,9 t[n x is o!rwise1 & y are n expect$ to r5d] any c\rtesy ( ! k9d1 except to ag$ or feeble p]sons1 or to "s "o :o1 p]haps1 is 9 affliction1 & to :om ! utmo/ k9dl9ess %\ld be %[n4 ,:5 y\r visitor is ab\t to take leave1 rise1 & accompany h] to ! door1 m9dful1 at ! same "t1 t ! bell is rung1 9 ord] t a s]vant may be 9 att5dance4 ,if ! ma/] ( ! h\se is pres5t1 & a lady is j go+ away1 he mu/ (f] h] 8 arm1 & lead h] to ! hall or passage door4 ,if h] c>riage be 9 wait+1 he w1 ( c\rse1 h& h] into x4 ,^! att5tions are slight1 & "s p]sons may ?9k !y are sc>cely wor? notic+4 ,nev]!less1 !y are important1 & we are ! m e>ne/ to press !m on ! att5tion ( our read]s1 because we h witness$ ! omission ( su* acts ( c\rtesy 9 families :]e a v diff]5t mode ( conduct might be expect$4 ,& "h1 turn+ aside = a brief space f ! subject-matt] ( our disc\rse1 we desire e>ne/ly to impress ^u mo!rs :o h sons gr[+ up1 ! great importance ( e>ly imbu+ !m ) ! pr9ciples ( true polit5ess1 & consequ5t att5tion to its mo/ trifl+ obs]vances4 ,:at matt]s x if a tall lad pu%es into a room be=e "o ( 8 "m's visitors2 or1 if he *ance to see h] go+ into *ur*1 in/ead ( hold+ ! door 9 a g5tlemanly mann]1 he lets x sw+ 9 h] face :5 he has himself ent]$2 or :e!r he comes into ! draw+-room ) 8 hat on1 unobs]vant ( lady visitors1 or lolls 9 an arm-*air read+ ! newspap]8 ,:at signifies x8 "s w say--:y tease a y\? ab\t su* matt]s8 ,he w le>n mann]s z he gr[s up4 ,we ?9k o!rwise1 & d n scruple to affirm1 t he c nev] le>n real g5tlemanly polit5ess f any "o b 8 "m4 ,! neglect ( small c\rtesies 9 e>ly life1 & ! outw>d or m5tal boori%ness to :i* x leads1 has be51 to our c]ta9 k1 a m fruitful s\rce ( wret*$ness 9 _m homes1 ?an we h ei!r "t or incl9ation to relate4 ,9 ?is *ang+ _w1 visits ( condol5ce mu/ be also occasionally paid2 & conc]n+ su*1 a few necess>y rules may be briefly /at$4 ,visits ( condol5ce %\ld be paid )9 a week aft] ! ev5t :i* occasions !m2 b if ! acqua9tance be slight1 imm$iately aft] ! family appe> at public wor%ip4 ,a c>d %\ld be s5t up2 & if y\r fri5ds are able to receive y1 let y\r mann]s & conv]sation be 9 h>mony ) ! "* ( y\r visit4 ,x is c\rte\s to s5d up a m\rn+ c>d2 & = ladies to make _! calls 9 black silk or pla9-color$ app>el4 ,x d5otes t !y sympa?ize ) ! afflictions ( ! family2 & su* att5tions are always pleas+4 ,g5tlem5 w d well to be> 9 m9d t1 :5 !y pay morn+ calls1 !y mu/ c>ry _! hats ) !m into ! draw+-room2 b on no acc\nt put !m on ! *airs or table4 ,!re is a graceful mann] ( hold+ a hat1 :i* e well-br$ man und]/&s4 ,:5 call+ ^u a fri5d :o is bo>d+1 d n g up till ! s]vant returns ) an invitation2 & nev] ent] a room )\t previ\sly knock+ at ! door1 & receiv+ an invitation to come 94 ,su* obs]vances are indisp5sable1 ev5 betwe5 ! ne>e/ fri5ds4 ,a g5tleman :5 call+ ^u a lady1 & f9d+ t "o ( h] lady fri5ds is ) h]1 mu/ rise :5 ! visitor takes h] leave1 & accompany h] to ! hall door2 or if %e has a c>riage1 he %\ld h& h] into x--suppos+1 h[ev]1 t no g5tleman relat$ to ! mi/ress ( ! h\se be pres5t4 ,if y\r visit has be5 ( suffici5t l5g?1 y c take y\r leave :5 accompany+ ! lady out ( ! room4 ,x happ5s occasionally t two p]sons are visit+ diff]5t memb]s ( ! same family4 ,:5 ?is occurs1 & "o visitor takes leave1 ! lady or g5tleman ^: visitor has j left %\ld rema9 9 ! draw+-room4 ,x is consid]$ disc\rte\s to d o!rwise4 ,9 mo/ families 9 ?is c\ntry1 ev5+ calls are ! mo/ usual4 ,%\ld y *ance to visit a family1 & f9d t !y h a p>ty1 pres5t y\rself1 & conv]se = a few m9utes ) an unemb>rass$ air2 aft] :i* y may retire1 unless urg$ to rema94 ,a slight invitation1 giv5 = ! sake ( c\rtesy1 ought n to be accept$4 ,make no apology = y\r un9t5tional intrusion2 b let x be kn[n1 9 ! c\rse ( a few days1 t y 7 n aw>e t y\r fri5ds _h company4 ,an excell5t cu/om prevails 9 "s families ( invit+ _! gue/s = a giv5 p]iod4 ,?us1 = example1 an invitation is s5t1 /at+ t a fri5d's company is reque/$ on a c]ta9 day1 m5tion+ also = :at l5g? ( "t1 & if a c>riage _c be (f]$ to meet ! visitor1 /at+ expressly ! be/ mode ( com+ & go+4 ,we recomm5d ?is admirable plan to ! ma/] & mi/ress ( e dwell+ :i* is suffici5tly capaci\s to admit ( receiv+ an occasional gue/4 ,a "y lady is p]haps invit$ to sp5d a little "t 9 ! c\ntry1 b %e _c possibly und]/& :e!r ! invitation ext5ds to a few days1 or a week1 or a mon?1 & consequ5tly is mu* puzzl$ ) reg>d to ! arrangem5t ( h] w>drobe4 ,dome/ic consultations are held2 ! lett] is read ov] & ov] aga92 e "o gives a diff]5t op9ion1 & :5 ! visit is ent]$ ^u1 some:at ( its pleasure is m>r$ ?r\gh ! emb>rassm5t occasion$ by n kn[+ :5 to propose tak+ leave4 ,9 receiv+ gue/s1 y\r fir/ object %\ld be to make !m feel at home4 ,begg+ !m to make !mselves at home is n suffici5t4 ,y %\ld display a g5u9e unaffect$ fri5dl9ess4 ,:e!r y are mi/ress ( a mansion or a cottage1 & invite a fri5d to %>e y\r hospitality1 y mu/ endeavor1 by e possible means1 to r5d] ! visit agreeable4 ,?is %\ld be done )\t app>5t ef=t1 t ! visitor may feel h]self to be a p>tak] 9 y\r home enjoym5ts1 in/ead ( f9d+ t y put y\rself out ( ! way to procure extrane\s pleasures4 ,x is "r & prop] t y seek to make ! "t pass lightly2 b if1 on ! o!r h&1 y let a visitor p]ceive t ! :ole t5or ( y\r daily conc]ns is alt]$ on h] acc\nt1 a degree ( depression w be felt1 & ! pleasant anticipations :i* %e mo/ probably ent]ta9$ w fail to be realiz$4 ,let y\r fri5d be assur$1 f y\r mann]1 t h] pres5ce is a real enjoym5t to y--an inc5tive to recreations :i* o!rwise w\ld n be ?\ght ( 9 ! common r\t9e ( life4 ,obs]ve y\r own feel+s :5 y happ5 to be ! gue/ ( a p]son :o1 ?\gh he may be v mu* y\r fri5d1 & really glad to see y1 seems n to "k :at to d ei!r ) y or himself2 & aga91 :5 9 ! h\se ( ano!r y feel z mu* at ease z 9 y\r own4 ,m>k ! diff]5ce1 m easily felt ?an describ$1 betwe5 ! mann]s ( ! two1 & d$uce !refrom a lesson = y\r own improvem5t4 ,if y h gue/s 9 y\r h\se1 y are to appe> to feel t !y are all equal = ! "t1 = !y all h an equal claim ^u y\r c\rtesies4 ,^? ( ! humble/ condition w receive full z mu* att5tion z ! re/1 9 ord] t y %all n pa9fully make !m feel _! inf]iority4 ,always avoid ! fooli% practice ( deprecat+ y\r own rooms1 furniture1 or vi&s1 & express+ regrets t y h no?+ bett] to (f]4 ,nei!r %\ld y g to ! o!r extreme ( extoll+ any p>ticul> ?+ or article ( food4 ,! be/ way is to say no?+ ab\t ^! matt]s4 ,nei!r is x prop] to urge gue/s to eat1 or to load _! plates aga9/ _! incl9ations4 ,endeavor to reta9 y\r fri5ds z long z !y l to prolong _! visit4 ,:5 !y intimate an int5tion to leave y1 if y really desire _! cont9uance some:at long]1 frankly say s4 ,%\ld !y1 h[ev]1 h fix$ ! "t1 & _c prolong _! /ay1 facilitate _! go+ by e means 9 y\r p[]2 &1 :ile y k9dly invite !m to r5ew _! visit1 po9t out to !m any places ( int]e/ on ! road1 & furni% su* in=mation z y possess4 ,if invit$ to sp5d a few days at a fri5d's h\se1 con=m z mu* z possible to ! habits ( ! family4 ,:5 p>t+ = ! night1 inquire respect+ ! breakfa/ h\r1 & asc]ta9 at :at "t ! family meet = pray]s4 ,if ?is "r cu/om prevails1 be sure to be 9 "t2 & obta9 any necess>y in=mation f ! s]vant :o waits ^u y4 ,give z little tr\ble z possible2 & nev] ?9k ( apologiz+ = ! extra tr\ble :i* y\r visit occasions4 ,su* an apology implies t y\r fri5d _c conv5i5tly ent]ta9 y4 ,y\r own good s5se & delicacy w tea* y ! desirability ( keep+ y\r room tidy1 & y\r articles ( dress & toilet z mu* 9 ord] z possible4 ,if !re is a defici5cy ( s]vants1 a lady w c]ta9ly n hesitate to make h] own b$ & to d = h]self z mu* z possible1 & = ! family all t is 9 h] p[]4 ,we presume t few p w leave a fri5d's h\se )\t "s expression ( regret1 & "s ackn[l$gm5t pr(f]$ = ! pleasure t has be5 af=d$ !m4 ,in/ances to ! contr>y h come )9 our k1 & !re=e we rem9d our y\?ful read]s especially1 t ?is small act ( polit5ess is indisp5sable1 n 9 ! =m ( a set spee*1 b by a natural fl[+ =? ( "r feel+4 ,x is also prop]1 on return+ home1 to in=m y\r fri5ds ( y\r safe arrival2 ! s5se :i* y ent]ta9 ( _! hospitality1 & ! gratification d]iv$ f y\r visit1 may be also gracefully allud$ to4 ,! *a9 :i* b9ds society toge!r is =m$ ( innum]able l9ks4 ,let x be y\r "p to keep ^? l9ks uni=mly bright2 & to see t nei!r du/ nor ru/ accumulate ^u !m4 ,,/reet ,,etiquette4 ,! books ( etiquette tell y1 t if y h be5 introduc$ to a lady & y aft]w>d meet h] 9 ! /reet1 y mu/ n b[ to h] unless %e b[ fir/1 9 ord]1 z ! books say1 t %e may h an opportunity to cut y if %e does n wi% to cont9ue ! acqua9tance4 ,?is is ! ,engli% fa%ion4 ,b on ! cont95t ( ,europe ! rule is rev]s$1 & no lady1 h[ev] intimate y may be ) h]1 w ackn[l$ge y 9 ! /reet unless y fir/ honor h] ) a b[ ( recognition4 ,b ! ,am]ican fa%ion is n l ei!r ( !m4 ,= "h ! really well-br$ man always politely & respectfully b[s to e lady he kn[s1 &1 if %e is a well-br$ woman1 %e ackn[l$ges ! respect paid h]4 ,if %e expects no fur!r acqua9tance1 h] b[ is a m]e =mal1 b always respectful1 recognition ( ! good mann]s :i* h be5 %[n h]1 & no g5tleman ev] takes advantage ( su* polit5ess to pu% a fur!r acqua9tance un9vit$4 ,b :y %\ld a lady & g5tleman1 :o "k :o ea* o!r are1 scornfully & dogg$ly pass ea* o!r 9 ! /reets z ?\gh !y 7 enemies8 ,!re is no good reason = su* impolit5ess1 9 ! practice ( polit5ess4 ,z comp>$ ) ! ,engli%1 ! ,fr5* or cont95tal fa%ion is c]ta9ly m consonant ) ! rules ( good bre$+4 ,b ! ,am]ican rule is bett] ?an ei!r1 = x is bas$ ^u ! ackn[l$g$ g5]al pr9ciple1 t x is e g5tleman's & lady's duty to be polite 9 all places4 ,unless p>ties h done some?+ to =feit ! respect dictat$ by ! common rules ( polit5ess1 !re %\ld be no deviation f ?is practice4 ,x is a ridicul\s idea t we are to practice ill-mann]s 9 ! "n ( etiquette4 ,:ile walk+ ! /reet no "o %\ld be s abs5t-m9d$ z to neglect to recognize 8 fri5ds4 ,if y d n /op1 y %\ld always b[1 t\* y\r hat1 or bid y\r fri5d good day4 ,if y /op1 y c (f] y\r h& )\t remov+ y\r glove4 ,if y /op to talk1 retire on "o side ( ! walk4 ,if y\r fri5d has a /rang] ) him & y h any?+ to say1 y %\ld apologize to ! /rang]4 ,nev] leave y\r fri5d abruptly to see ano!r p]son )\t ask+ him to excuse y\r dep>ture4 ,if y meet a g5tleman ( y\r acqua9tance walk+ ) a lady :om y d n "k1 lift y\r hat z y salute !m4 ,if y "k ! lady1 y %\ld salute h] fir/4 ,nev] nod to a lady 9 ! /reet1 nei!r be satisfi$ ) t\*+ y\r hat1 b take x (f--x is a c\rtesy h] sex dem&s4 ,a g5tleman %\ld nev] omit a punctili\s obs]vance ( ! rules ( polit5ess to 8 recogniz$ acqua9tances1 f an appreh5sion t he w n be met ) reciprocal m>ks ( respect4 ,= in/ance1 he %\ld n refuse to raise 8 hat to an acqua9tance :o is accompani$ by a lady1 le/ h] escort %\ld1 f ignorance or /olidity1 return 8 polite salutation ) a nod ( ! head4 ,x is bett] n to see him1 ?an to set ! example ( a rude & indecor\s salutation4 ,9 all su* cases1 & 9 all cases1 he :o is mo/ c\rte\s has ! advantage1 & %\ld nev] feel t he has made a humiliat+ sacrifice ( 8 p]sonal dignity4 ,x is = ! p>ty ^: behavior has be5 boori% to h a consci\sness ( inf]iority4 ,a g5tleman meet+ a lady acqua9tance on ! /reet1 %\ld n presume to jo9 h] 9 h] walk )\t asc]ta9+ t 8 company w\ld be entirely agreeable4 ,x might be o!rwise1 & %e %\ld frankly say s4 ,a m>ri$ lady usually leans ^u ! arm ( h] husb&2 b s+le ladies d n1 9 ! day1 take ! arm ( a g5tleman1 unless !y are will+ to ackn[l$ge an engagem5t4 ,g5tlem5 always give place to ladies1 & g5tlem5 accompany+ ladies1 9 cross+ ! /reet4 ,if y h any?+ to say to a lady :om y may happ5 to meet 9 ! /reet1 h[ev] intimate y may be1 d n /op h]1 b turn r\nd & walk 9 company2 y c take leave at ! end ( ! /reet4 ,:5 y are pass+ 9 ! /reet1 & see com+ t[>d y a p]son ( y\r acqua9tance1 :e!r a lady or an eld]ly p]son1 y %\ld (f] !m ! wall1 t is to say1 ! side next ! h\ses4 ,if a c>riage %\ld happ5 to /op 9 su* a mann] z to leave only a n>r[ passage betwe5 x & ! h\ses1 bew>e ( elb[+ & rudely cr[d+ ! pass5g]s1 ) a view to get by m exp$iti\sly2 wait y\r turn1 & if any ( ! p]sons be=e m5tion$ come up1 y %\ld edge up to ! wall1 9 ord] to give !m ! place4 ,!y also1 z !y pass1 %\ld b[ politely to y4 ,if /ormy wea!r has made x necess>y to lay a plank across ! gutt]1 :i* has become sudd5ly fill$ ) wat]1 x is n prop] to cr[d be=e ano!r1 9 ord] to pass ov] ! frail bridge4 ,9 walk+ ) a lady1 x is cu/om>y to give h] ! "r arm2 b :]e circum/ances r5d] x m conv5i5t to give h] ! left1 x may prop]ly be done4 ,if y are walk+ ) a lady on a cr[d$ /reet l ,broadway1 by all means give h] ! outside1 z t w prev5t h] f be+ p]petually jo/l$ & run aga9/ by ! hurry+ cr[d4 ,y %\ld (f] y\r arm to a lady ) :om y are walk+ :5ev] h] safety1 com=t1 or conv5i5ce may seem to require su* att5tion on y\r "p4 ,at night y\r arm %\ld always be t5d]$1 & also :5 asc5d+ ! /eps ( a public build+4 ,9 walk+ ) any p]son y %\ld keep /ep ) milit>y precision1 & ) ladies & eld]ly p y %\ld always accommodate y\r spe$ to !irs4 ,if a lady ) :om y are walk+ receives ! salute ( a p]son :o is a /rang] to y1 y %\ld return x1 n = y\rself1 b = h]4 ,:5 a lady :om y accompany wi%es to ent] a /ore1 y %\ld hold ! door op5 & all[ h] to ent] fir/1 if practicable2 = y mu/ nev] pass be=e a lady any:]e1 if y c avoid x1 or )\t an apology4 ,9 ,engl&1 x is a m>k ( l[ bre$+ to smoke 9 ! /reets4 ,b 9 ,am]ica ! rule does n hold to q t ext5t2 ?\gh1 ev5 "h1 x is n (t5 t y cat* a g5tleman ( ! /ricte/ sect1 9 ! /reet ) a cig> or pipe 9 8 m\?4 ,= a man to g into ! /reet ) a lady on 8 arm & a cig> 9 8 m\? is a %ock+ sight1 :i* no g5tleman w ev] be guilty ( exhibit+2 = he inevitably subjects ! woman to ! v wor/ ( suspicions4 ,avoid ! disgu/+ habit ( spitt+4 ,no g5tleman w /& 9 ! doors ( hotels1 nor on ! corn]s ( ! /reets1 gaz+ imp]t95tly at ! ladies z !y pass4 ,t is su* an unmi/akable sign ( a loaf]1 t "o c h>dly imag9e a well-br$ man do+ su* a ?+4 ,nev] (f] to %ake h&s ) a lady 9 ! /reet if y h on d>k gloves1 z y may soil h] :ite ones4 ,if y meet a lady fri5d ) :om y wi% to conv]se1 y mu/ n /op1 b turn & walk along ) h]2 & %\ld %e be walk+ ) a g5tleman1 fir/ assure y\rself t y are n intrud+ be=e y attempt to jo9 ! two 9 _! walk4 ,aft] twilight1 a "y lady w\ld n be conduct+ h]self 9 a becom+ mann]1 by walk+ alone2 & if %e passes ! ev5+ ) any "o1 %e ought1 be=eh&1 to provide "s "o to come = h] at a /at$ h\r2 b if ?is is n practicable1 %e %\ld politely ask ( ! p]son :om %e is visit+1 to p]mit a s]vant to accompany h]4 ,b1 h[ev] mu* ?is may be consid]$ prop]1 & consequ5tly an obligation1 a m>ri$ lady1 well educat$1 w disreg>d x if circum/ances prev5t h] be+ able1 )\t tr\ble1 to f9d a conductor4 ,if ! ho/ wi%es to accompany y himself1 y mu/ excuse y\rself politely = giv+ him s mu* tr\ble1 b f9i%1 h[ev]1 by accept+4 ,on arriv+ at y\r h\se1 y %\ld (f] him y\r ?anks4 ,9 ord] to avoid ^! two inconv5i5ces1 x w be well to reque/ y\r husb&1 or "s "o ( y\r relatives1 to come & wait ^u y2 y w1 9 ?is way1 avoid all inconv5i5ces1 & be entirely free f t h>% criticism :i* is sometimes indulg$ 91 especially 9 small t[ns1 conc]n+ ev5 ! mo/ innoc5t acts4 ,if1 :5 on y\r way to fulfill an engagem5t1 a fri5d /ops y 9 ! /reet1 y may1 )\t committ+ any brea* ( etiquette1 tell him ( y\r appo9tm5t1 & release y\rself f a long talk1 b d s 9 a c\rte\s mann]1 express+ regret = ! necessity4 ,9 inquir+ = goods at a %op or /ore1 d n say1 ,i want s & s1 b say to ! %opman--,%[ me su* or su* an article1 if y please--or use "s o!r polite =m ( address4 ,if y are oblig$ to exam9e a numb] ( articles be=e y are suit$1 apologize to ! %opkeep] = ! tr\ble y give him4 ,if1 aft] all1 y _c suit y\rself1 r5ew y\r apologies :5 y g away4 ,if y make only small pur*ases1 say to him--,i am sorry = hav+ tr\bl$ y = s trifl+ a ?+4 ,y ne$ n /op to pull (f y\r glove to %ake h&s ) a lady or g5tleman4 ,if x is w>m wea!r x is m agreeable to bo? p>ties t ! glove %\ld be on--especially if x is a lady ) :om y %ake h&s1 z ! p]spiration ( y\r b>e h& w\ld be v likely to soil h] glove4 ,if a lady addresses an inquiry to a g5tleman on ! /reet1 he w lift 8 hat1 or at lea/ t\* x respectfully1 z he replies4 ,if he _c give ! in=mation requir$1 he w express 8 regrets4 ,:5 tripp+ ov] ! pavem5t1 a lady %\ld gracefully raise h] dress a little above h] ankle4 ,) h] "r h& %e %\ld hold toge!r ! folds ( h] g[n & draw !m t[>d ! "r side4 ,to raise ! dress on bo? sides1 & ) bo? h&s1 is vulg>4 ,?is ungraceful practice c be tol]at$ only = a mom5t :5 ! mud is v deep4 ,mo/ ,am]ican ladies 9 our cities we> too ri* & exp5sive dresses 9 ! /reet4 ,"s1 inde$1 w sweep ! side-walks ) co/ly /uffs only fit = a draw+-room or a c>riage4 ,?is is 9 bad ta/e1 & is :at ill-natur$ p w\ld t]m snobbi%4 ,,travel+4 ,z a g5]al rule1 travel]s are selfi%4 ,!y pay little att5tion ei!r to ! com=ts or di/resses ( _! fell[-travel]s2 & ! commone/ obs]vances ( polit5ess are (t5 sadly neglect$ by !m4 ,9 ! scramble = tickets1 = seats1 = /ate-rooms1 or = places at a public table1 ! c\rtesies ( life seem to be trampl$ "u foot4 ,ev5 ! ladies are sometimes rudely treat$ & %amefully neglect$ 9 ! headlong ru% = desirable seats 9 ! railway c>s4 ,to see ! behavior ( ,am]ican p on _! travels1 "o w\ld suppose t we 7 any?+ b a ref9$ nation2 & ,i h (t5 wond]$ :e!r a majority ( our travel]s c\ld really make a dec5t appe>ance 9 social society4 ,:5 y are travel+1 x is no excuse t because o!rs outrage dec5cy & propriety y %\ld foll[ _! example1 & fight !m ) _! own weapons4 ,a ru% & scramble at ! railway ticket (fice is always unnecess>y4 ,! c>s w n leave until e pass5g] is abo>d1 & if y h ladies ) y1 y c easily secure y\r seats & aft]w>d procure ! tickets at leisure4 ,b suppose y d lose a favorite seat by y\r mod]ation6 ,is x n bett] to suff] a little inconv5i5ce ?an to %[ y\rself decid$ly vulg>8 ,g to ! c>s half an h\r be=e !y />t1 & y w avoid all tr\ble ( ?is k9d4 ,:5 seat$1 or ab\t to seat y\rself 9 ! c>s1 nev] all[ consid]ations ( p]sonal com=t or conv5i5ce to cause y to disreg>d ! rights ( fell[-travel]s1 or =get ! respectful c\rtesy due to woman4 ,! pleasante/ or mo/ com=table seats belong to ! ladies1 & y %\ld nev] refuse to resign su* seats to !m ) a *e]ful polit5ess4 ,sometimes a g5tleman w g ?r\gh a c> & *oose 8 seat1 & aft]w>d vacate x to procure 8 ticket1 leav+ 8 ov]coat or c>pet bag to %[ t ! seat is tak54 ,always respect ?is tok51 & nev] seize ^u a seat ?us secur$1 )\t leave1 ev5 ?\gh y may want x = a lady4 ,x is n always necess>y = a g5tleman to rise aft] he has seat$ himself & (f] 8 seat to a lady1 p>ticul>ly if ! lady is accompani$ by ano!r g5tleman2 = !re may /ill be eligible vacant seats 9 ! c>s4 ,b %\ld y see a lady come alone1 & if ! seats 9 ! c> all appe> to be fill$1 d n hesitate to (f] h] y\rs1 if y h no ladies 9 y\r company4 ,& %\ld a lady motion to seat h]self beside y1 rise at once & (f] h] ! *oice ( ! two seats4 ,^! are b common c\rtesies t e well-br$ man w at all times *e]fully (f] to ! o!r sex4 ,mak+ acqua9tances 9 ! c>s1 al?\gh correct en\gh1 is a measure ( :i* travel]s g5]ally appe> to be v %y4 ,!re is no reason = ?is1 z acqua9tances ?us pick$ up ne$ nev] be recogniz$ aga9 unless y please4 ,if a /rang] speaks to y1 always answ] him politely1 & if 8 conv]sation proves disagreeable1 y h no alt]native b to *ange y\r seat4 ,9 /eam]s d n make a ru% = ! supp] table1 or make a glutton ( y\rself :5 y get !re4 ,nev] fail to (f] y\r seat on deck to a lady1 if ! seats all appe> to be occupi$1 & always meet half way any fell[-pass5g] :o wi%es to ent] into conv]sation ) y4 ,"s travel]s are s exclusive t !y consid] x a presumption on ! "p ( a /rang] to address !m2 b su* p are g5]ally fooli%1 & ( no acc\nt4 ,sociable int]c\rse :ile travel+ is "o ( its ma9 attractions4 ,:o w\ld c>e ab\t sitt+ & mop+ = a doz5 ( h\rs on bo>d a /eam] )\t ex*ang+ a ^w ) anybody8 & ?is mu/ be ! fate ( ! exclusives :5 !y travel alone4 ,ev5 ladies1 :o run great] risks 9 =m+ /eamboat acqua9tances ?an ! m51 are all[$ ! greate/ privileges 9 t respect4 ,x might n be exactly correct = a lady to make a speak+ acqua9tance ( a g5tleman2 b %e may address or "q him = ! "t be+ )\t impropriety4 ,fell[-pass5g]s1 :e!r on a /eamboat or 9 ! c>s1 %\ld at all times be sociable & oblig+ to "o ano!r4 ,^? :o are ! rev]se ( ?is may be set d[n ei!r z selfi%1 fooli%1 or conceit$4 ,9 ! c>s y h no "r to keep a w9d[ op5 = y\r accommodation1 if ! curr5t ( air ?us produc$ annoys or endang]s ! heal? ( ano!r4 ,!re are a suffici5t numb] ( discom=ts 9 travel+1 at be/1 & x %\ld be ! aim ( ea* pass5g] to less5 !m z mu* z possible1 & to *e]fully be> 8 own "p4 ,life is a j\rney1 & we are all fell[-travel]s4 ,if 9 rid+ 9 an omnibus1 or cross+ a f]ry ) a fri5d1 he wi%es to pay = y1 nev] insi/ ^u pay+ = y\rself or = bo?4 ,if he is be=e y1 let ! matt] pass )\t rem>k4 ,,m>riage4 ,9 speak+ ( m>riage1 x is n m]ely ) ref]5ce to its social importance1 b z reg>ds c]ta9 obs]vances1 conc]n+ :i* no "w on ,etiquette has yet giv5 any explicit rules4 ,fir/1 !n1 ) respect to ! prelim9>y subject ( c\rt%ip4 ,t unse5 monitor1 :o has already sugge/$ _m po9ts = consid]ation to lady read]s1 w\ld n[ say to !m3 ,be=e y admit ! att5tions ( a g5tleman :o wi%es to pay y 8 addresses1 v c>efully exam9e y\r respective ta/es & dispositions2 & settle 9 y\r own m9d :at are ! mo/ important requisites ( happ9ess 9 a m>ri$ /ate4 ,) ?is view1 y mu/ ent] ^u ! consid]ation ( ! subject ) a calm & decisive _s1 :i* w enable y to see :]e y\r true happ9ess lies1 & to pursue x ) det]m9$ resolution4 ,9 matt]s ( bus9ess1 foll[ ! advice ( su* z are able to guide y2 & z reg>ds ! subject ( m>riage1 turn n away f ! c\nsel ( ^? :o are appo9t$ to wat* ov] & direct y4 ,if a g5tleman gives y reason to believe t he wi%es to engage y\r affections1 seek ! advice ( y\r p>5ts1 t !y may ga9 = y e necess>y p>ticul> ) reg>d to 8 morals & disposition1 & means ( suitably provid+ = y4 ,if1 unhappily1 dea? has depriv$ y ( p>5ts1 ask c\nsel ( "s "o :o w c>e = y1 & on ^: fri5d%ip y c rely4 ,rememb] t y h little k ( ! _w1 & t y\r judgm5t has n arriv$ at full maturity4 ,b h[ev] circum/anc$1 avoid1 z y w\ld ! plague1 any att5tions f a g5tleman ^: moral "* r5d]s him undes]v+ y\r reg>d4 ,let nei!r rank nor =tune1 nor ! f9e/ ord] ( intellect1 nor yet ! mo/ w9n+ mann]s1 induce y to accept ! addresses ( an irreligi\s man4 ,y d>e n ask ! bless+ ( y\r ,heav5ly ,fa!r ^u su* addresses2 & )\t ,8 bless+1 :at happ9ess c y expect8 ,m5 (t5 say1 t :atev] _! own op9ions may be1 !y w m>ry religi\s wom54 ,?is may be2 b woe to a religi\s woman1 if %e all[s h]self to be ?us beguil$6 ,suppos+ y\r admir] be a s5sible man1 he w l religion 9 y = 8 own sake2 if1 on ! contr>y1 su* is n ! case1 & y become 8 wife1 he w (t51 ?\gh p]haps )\t int5tion1 di/ress y by 8 rem>ks2 & 9 ei!r case1 if y h *ildr51 y w suff] mu* 9 see+ t y\r endeavors to =m _! m9ds to virtue & piety1 & to secure _! pres5t & et]nal happ9ess1 are reg>d$ ) indiff]5ce1 or at lea/ t y are n assi/$ 9 y\r ef=ts4 ,rememb]1 also1 t no happ9ess c be expect$ 9 ! m>riage /ate1 unless ! husb& be wor?y ( respect4 ,d n m>ry a weak man2 he is (t5 intractable or caprici\s1 & seldom li/5s to ! voice ( reason2 & mo/ pa9ful mu/ x be to any s5sible woman to h to blu% = h] husb&1 & feel uneasy e "t he op5s 8 lips4 ,/ill worse1 if x %\ld please ,god to give h] *ildr51 if %e _c po9t to ! example ( _! fa!r z lead+ to :at is excell5t & ( good report2 nor yet to 8 precepts & in/ructions z _! rule ( conduct4 ,"o ?+ is c]ta91 t a weak man uni=mly %[s 8 consequ5ce by contradict+ 8 wife1 because he w n h x suppos$ t he is "u h] influ5ce4 ,advances1 or (f]s ( m>riage1 are made 9 a ?\s& diff]5t ways2 b1 h[ev] t5d]$1 receive !m c\rte\sly1 & ) dignity4 ,if a lett] comes to y1 answ] x z becomes a g5tlewoman--y\r own he>t w dictate :at y ought to say4 ,que/ions h aris5 ) reg>d to ! word+ ( su* lett]s1 b no c]ta9 rule c be laid d[n2 :e!r x be answ]$ 9 ! fir/ or ?ird p]son1 mu/ dep5d ^u ! degree ( acqua9tance :i* has previ\sly exi/$4 ,no "y lady w\ld c]ta9ly head h] lett] )--,de> ,sir1 to a suitor :om %e sc>cely kn[s1 or to "o :om %e int5ds refus+4 ,%e ought1 h[ev]1 on no acc\nt1 ei!r to receive or answ] lett]s ( ! k9d )\t %[+ !m to h] "m2 or1 if un=tunately )\t p>5ts1 %e w d well to consult "s judici\s female fri5d4 ,nev] trifle ) ! affections ( a man :o loves y2 nor admit ( m>k$ att5tions f "o ^: affection y _c return4 ,"s "y ladies pride !mselves ^u ! conque/s :i* !y make1 & w\ld n scruple to sacrifice ! happ9ess ( an e/imable p]son to _! repreh5sible vanity4 ,let ?is be f> f y4 ,if y see cle>ly t y h become an object ( especial reg>d to a g5tleman1 & d n wi% to enc\rage 8 addresses1 treat him honorably & humanely1 z y hope to be us$ ) g5]osity by ! p]son :o may engage y\r own he>t4 ,d n let him l+] 9 susp5se1 b take ! e>lie/ opportunity ( c>efully mak+ kn[n y\r feel+s on ! subject4 ,?is may be done 9 a v>iety ( ways4 ,a ref9$ ease ( mann] w satisfy him1 if he has any disc]nm5t1 t 8 addresses w n be acceptable4 ,%\ld y\r natural disposition r5d] ?is difficult1 %[ t y wi% to avoid 8 company1 & he w pres5tly )draw2 b if ev5 ?is is difficult--& :o c lay d[n rules = ano!r8--all[ an opportunity = explanation to occur4 ,y c !n give him a polite & decisive answ]2 & be assur$ t1 9 :atev] mann] y convey y\r s5tim5ts to him1 if he be a man ( delicacy & "r feel+1 he w tr\ble y no fur!r4 ,let x nev] be said ( y1 t y p]mit ! att5tions ( an honorable man :5 y h no he>t to give him2 or t y h trifl$ ) ! affections ( "o :om y p]haps e/eem1 al?\gh y resolve nev] to m>ry him4 ,x may be t 8 pref]5ce gratifies1 & 8 conv]sation int]e/s y2 t y are flatt]$ by ! att5tions ( a man :om "s ( y\r companions admire2 & t1 9 tru?1 y h>dly "k y\r own m9d on ! subject4 ,?is w n excuse y4 ,e "y woman ought to "k ! /ate ( h] own he>t2 & yet ! happ9ess & future prospects ( _m an excell5t man h be5 sacrific$ by su* unpr9cipl$ conduct4 ,rememb] t if a g5tleman makes y an (f]1 y h no "r to speak ( x4 ,if y possess ei!r g5]osity or gratitude = (f]$ affection1 y w n betray a secret :i* does n belong to y4 ,x is suffici5tly pa9ful to be refus$1 )\t incurr+ ! additional mortification ( be+ po9t$ out z a reject$ lov]4 ,if1 on ! contr>y1 y enc\rage ! addresses ( a des]v+ man1 behave honorably & s5sibly4 ,d n lead him ab\t z if 9 triumph1 nor take advantage ( ! asc5d5cy :i* y h ga9$ by play+ ) 8 feel+s4 ,d n seek = occasions to tease him1 t y may try 8 temp]2 nei!r affect indiff]5ce1 nor provoke lov]s' qu>rels1 = ! fooli% pleasure ( reconciliation4 ,on y\r conduct dur+ c\rt%ip w v mu* dep5d ! e/imation 9 :i* y w be held by y\r husb& 9 aft] life4 ,assum+ t ! important day is fix$1 & t ! bidd5 gue/s h accept$ ! invitations1 a few obs]vations may be useful1 especially to ^? :o live retir$ 9 ! c\ntry4 ,! bride uni=mly goes to *ur* 9 ! same c>riage ) h] p>5ts1 or ) ^? :o /& 9 _! place2 z1 = in/ance1 if ! fa!r is deceas$1 an eld] bro!r or uncle1 or ev5 gu>dian1 accompanies h] "m & h]self4 ,if1 unhappily1 %e is an orphan1 & has no relations1 a middle-ag$ lady & g5tleman1 fri5ds ( h] p>5ts1 %\ld be reque/$ to take _! place4 ,a bridesmaid w also occupy a seat 9 ! same c>riage4 ,! bridegroom f9ds 8 way to *ur* 9 a sep>ate c>riage ) 8 fri5ds1 & he w %[ 8 gallantry by h&+ ! bride f h] c>riage1 & pay+ e att5tion to ^? :o accompany h]4 ,any omission 9 ?is respect _c be too c>efully avoid$4 ,:5 arriv$ at ! alt>1 ! fa!r ( ! bride1 or1 9 default ( su* relation1 ! ne>e/ connexion1 or "s old fri5d1 gives away ! bride4 ,! bridesmaids /& ne> ! bride2 & ei!r h] si/]1 or "s favorite fri5d1 w hold ! gloves or h&k]*ief1 z may be requir$1 :5 %e ungloves h] h& = ! w$d+-r+4 ,:5 ! c]emony is complet$1 & ! names ( ! bride & bridegroom are sign$ 9 ! ve/ry1 !y fir/ leave ! *ur* toge!r1 occupy+ by !mselves ! c>riage t waits to convey !m to ! h\se ( ! bride's fa!r & "m1 or t ( ! gu>dian1 or fri5d1 by :om ! bridal breakfa/ is provid$4 ,! w$d+-cake uni=mly occupies ! c5t] ( ! table4 ,x is (t5 ta/efully surr\nd$ ) fl[]s1 among :i* ^? ( ! fragrant orange ought to be conspicu\s4 ,aft] be+ cut accord+ to ! usages obs]v$ on su* occasions1 ! olde/ fri5d ( ! family proposes ! lady's heal?2 t ( ! bridegroom is g5]ally propos$ by "s fri5d ( 8 own1 if pres5t2 b if ?is is n ! case1 by 8 fa!r-9-law1 or any ( 8 new relatives1 :o w deem x incumb5t ^u !m to say some?+ gratify+ to him :ile propos+ 8 heal?1 :i* c\rtesy he mu/ ackn[l$ge z be/ he c4 ,aft] ?is ! bride )draws1 9 ord] to prep>e = leav+ ! p>5tal ro(1 by tak+ (f h] w$d+1 & putt+ on h] travel+ dress2 al?\gh x happ5s n unfrequ5tly t ! bride rema9s 9 ano!r ap>tm5t1 & ?us avoids ! fatigue & emb>rassm5t ( appe>+ at ! breakfa/-table4 ,:5 ?is occurs1 h] place beside ! bridegroom mu/ be occupi$ by a ne> relation or fri5d4 ,b :e!r pres5t1 or rema9+ ap>t ) a few fri5ds1 all :o are invit$ to d honor to ! bride mu/ appe> 9 full dress4 ,bracelets may be worn on "o or bo? wri/s4 ,black ( any k9d is :olly inadmissible2 n ev5 black sat9 c be all[$2 & wid[s mu/ attire !mselves ei!r 9 quiet color$ suits1 or else 9 silv] gray4 ,on su* fe/ive occasions1 all appe> 9 _! be/ attire1 & assume _! be/ mann]s4 ,peculi>ities t p]ta9 to pa/ days1 or h be5 unw>ily adopt$1 %\ld be gu>d$ aga9/2 my/]ies conc]n+ knives1 =ks1 & plates1 or ?r[+ an old %oe aft] ! bride1 are highly repreh5sible1 & h long be5 explod$4 ,su* practices may seem immat]ial1 b !y are n s4 ,/rang] gue/s (t5 meet at a w$d+ breakfa/2 & ! good bre$+ ( ! family may be some:at compromis$ by neglect 9 small ?+s4 ,if ! lady appe>s at breakfa/1 :i* is c]ta9ly desirable1 %e occupies1 ) h] husb&1 ! c5t] ( ! table1 & sits by 8 side--h] fa!r & "m tak+ ! top & bottom1 & %[+ all honor to _! gue/s4 ,:5 ! cake has be5 cut1 & e "o is help$--:51 too1 ! heal? ( ! bride & bridegroom has be5 drunk1 & e complim5t & k9d wi% has be5 duly pr(f]$ & ackn[l$g$--! bride1 att5d$ by h] fri5ds1 )draws2 & :5 ready = h] dep>ture ! newly-m>ri$ c\ple />t (f on _! w$d+ j\rney1 g5]ally ab\t two or ?ree o'clock1 & ! re/ ( ! company %ortly aft]w>d take _! leave4 ,9 "s circles x is cu/om>y to s5d c>ds almo/ imm$iately to fri5ds & relations1 m5tion+ at :at "t & h\r ! newly-m>ri$ c\ple expect to be call$ ^u4 ,"s little inconv5i5ce occasionally att5ds ?is cu/om1 z "y p may wi% to ext5d _! w$d+ t\r beyond ! "t fir/ m5tion$1 or1 if !y g abroad1 delays may unavoidably occur4 ,x is !re=e bett] to po/pone s5d+ c>ds1 = a %ort "t at lea/4 ,fa%ions *ange cont9ually ) reg>d to w$d+-c>ds4 ,a few ye>s s9ce !y 7 highly ornam5t$1 & fanta/ically ti$ toge!r2 n[ silv]-edg$ c>ds are fa%ionable2 b1 unque/ionably1 ! pla9] & m uno/5tati\s a w$d+-c>d1 ! m lady-l & becom+ x w be4 ,no "o to :om a w$d+-c>d has n be5 s5t ought to call ^u a newly-m>ri$ c\ple4 ,:5 ! days nam$ = see+ company arrive1 rememb] to be punctual4 ,call1 if possible1 ! fir/ day1 b nei!r be=e nor aft] ! appo9t$ h\r4 ,w$d+-cake & w9e are h&$ r\nd1 ( :i* e "o p>takes1 & ea* expresses "s k9dly wi% = ! happ9ess ( ! newly-m>ri$ c\ple4 ,tak+ possession ( _! home by "y p is always a joy\s p]iod4 ,! depress+ influ5ce ( a w$d+ breakfa/1 :]e (t5 ! he>ts ( _m are sad1 is n felt1 & e "o looks =w>d to ye>s ( prosp]ity & happ9ess4 ,if ! g5tleman is 9 a pr(ession1 & x happ5s t he _c await ! arrival ( su* z call1 accord+ to invitation on ! w$d+-c>d1 an apology mu/ be made1 &1 if possible1 an old fri5d ( ! family %\ld repres5t him4 ,a bride mu/ on no acc\nt receive h] visitors )\t a "m1 or si/]1 or "s fri5d be+ pres5t1 n ev5 if h] husb& is at home4 ,?is is imp]ative4 ,to d o!rwise is to disreg>d ! usuages ( society4 ,we rememb] once call+ on a v "y bride1 & f\nd h] alone4 ,conjectures 7 made by e visitor ) reg>d to su* a /range occurr5ce1 & _! surprise 0 /ill m increas$1 :5 x became kn[n t ! "y lady return$ h] calls equally unatt5d$4 ,w$d+ visits mu/ be return$ dur+ ! c\rse ( a few days1 & p>ties are g5]ally made = ! newly-m>ri$ c\ple1 :i* !y are expect$ to return4 ,?is does n1 h[ev]1 necess>ily entail mu* visit+2 nei!r is x expect$ f "y p1 ^: res\rces may be some:at limit$1 or :5 ! husb& has to make 8 way 9 ! _w4 ,,dome/ic ,,etiquette ,,& ,,duties4 ,! little community to :i* ,i gave laws1 said ! ,vic> ( ,wakefield1 0 regulat$ 9 ! foll[+ mann]3--,we all assembl$ e>ly1 & aft] we _h salut$ ea* o!r ) prop] c]emony1 7= ,i always ?\ght fit to keep up "s me*anical =ms ( good bre$+1 )\t :i*1 fre$om ev] de/roys fri5d%ip17 we all knelt 9 gratitude to t ,be+ :o gave u ano!r day4 ,s also :5 we p>t$ = ! night4 ,we e>ne/ly recomm5d t ! precepts & example ( ! good old ,vic> %\ld be foll[$ & adopt$ by e newly-m>ri$ c\ple4 ,) reg>d to ! fir/1 ! c\rtesies ( society %\ld nev] be omitt$1 9 ev5 ! mo/ trivial matt]s2 &1 z respects ! second1 :at bless+ c be reasonably expect$ to desc5d ^u a h\se :]e9 ! voice ( ?anksgiv+ is nev] he>d1 nor yet protection s\ght by its ackn[l$g$ head6 ,on ! wife especially devolves ! privilege & pleasure ( r5d]+ home happy4 ,we %all1 !re=e1 speak ( su* duties & obs]vances z p]ta9 to h]4 ,:5 a "y wife fir/ settles 9 h] home1 _m excell5t p]sons1 ) m zeal1 x may be1 ?an discretion1 imm$iately propose t %e %\ld devote "s ( h] leisure "t to *>itable purposes3 su*1 = in/ance1 z clo?+ societies = ! poor1 or s*ools1 or di/rict visit+4 ,we say ) all e>ne/ness to our "y fri5d1 engage 9 no?+ ( ! k9d1 h[ev] laudable1 )\t previ\sly consult+ y\r husb&1 & obta9+ 8 full concurr5ce4 ,c>efully avoid1 also1 be+ induc$ by any speci\s argum5ts to att5d ev5+ lectures1 unless he accompanies y4 ,rememb] t y\r ,heav5ly ,fa!r1 :o has giv5 y a home to dwell 91 requires f y a "r p]=mance ( its duties4 ,w9 y\r husb&1 by all g5tle appliances1 to love religion2 b d n1 = ! sake ev5 ( a privilege & a bless+1 leave him to sp5d 8 ev5+s alone4 ,look (t5 on y\r m>riage r+1 & rememb] ! sacr$ v[s tak5 by y :5 ! r+ 0 giv52 su* ?\ghts w g f> t[>d allay+ _m ( ^! petty vexations :i* circum/ances call =?4 ,nev] let y\r husb& h cause to compla9 t y are m agreeable abroad ?an at home2 nor p]mit him to see 9 y an object ( admiration1 z respects y\r dress & mann]s1 :5 9 company1 :ile y are neglig5t ( bo? 9 ! dome/ic circle4 ,_m an unhappy m>riage has be5 occasion$ by neglect 9 ^! p>ticul>s4 ,no?+ c be m s5seless ?an ! conduct ( a "y woman1 :o seeks to be admir$ 9 g5]al society = h] polit5ess & engag+ mann]s1 or skill 9 music1 :51 at ! same "t1 %e makes no ef=t to r5d] h] home attractive2 & yet t home1 :e!r a palace or a cottage1 is ! v c5t] ( h] be+--! nucleus ar\nd :i* h] affections %\ld revolve1 & beyond :i* %e has comp>atively small conc]n4 ,bew>e ( intru/+ any individual :atev] ) small annoyances1 or misund]/&+s1 betwe5 y\r husb& & y\rself1 if !y unhappily occur4 ,confidants are dang]\s p]sons1 & _m seek to obta9 an asc5d5cy 9 families by ga9+ ! good op9ion ( "y m>ri$ wom54 ,be on y\r gu>d1 & reject e ov]ture t may lead to undesirable intimacy4 ,%\ld any "o presume to (f] y advice ) reg>d to y\r husb&1 or seek to less5 him by ins9uations1 %un t p]son z y w\ld a s]p5t4 ,_m a happy home has be5 r5d]$ desolate by excit+ coolness or suspicion1 or by endeavors to ga9 importance 9 an artful & insidi\s mann]4 ,9 all money matt]s1 act op5ly & honorably4 ,keep y\r acc\nts ) ! mo/ scrupul\s exactness1 & let y\r husb& see t y take an hone/ pride 9 rightly appropriat+ ! money :i* he intru/s to y4 ,my husb& works h>d = e doll> t he e>ns1 said a "y m>ri$ lady1 ! wife ( a pr(essional man1 to a fri5d :o f\nd h] busily employ$ 9 sew+ buttons on h] husb&'s coat1 & x seems to me worse ?an cruel to lay out a dime unnecess>ily4 ,be v c>eful1 also1 t y d n sp5d m ?an c be af=d$ 9 dress2 & be satisfi$ ) su* c>pets & curta9s 9 y\r draw+-room z befit a mod]ate =tune1 or pr(essional income4 ,natural ornam5ts1 & fl[]s ta/efully arrang$1 give an air ( elegance to a room 9 :i* ! furniture is f> f co/ly2 & books judici\sly plac$1 uni=mly produce a good effect4 ,a s5sible woman w always seek to ornam5t h] home1 & to r5d] x attractive1 m especially z ?is is ! ta/e ( ! pres5t day4 ,! p[] ( association is v great2 light1 & air1 & elegance1 are important 9 _! effects4 ,no wife acts wisely :o p]mits h] sitt+-room to look dull 9 ! eyes ( him :om %e ought especially to please1 & ) :om %e has to pass h] days4 ,9 middle life1 in/ances frequ5tly occur ( concealm5t ) reg>d to money conc]ns2 ?us1 = in/ance1 a wife wi%es to possess an article ( dress :i* is too co/ly = imm$iate pur*ase1 or a piece ( furniture liable to ! same objection4 ,%e accord+ly makes an agreem5t ) a sell]1 & !re are _m :o call regul>ly at h\ses :5 ! husb& is abs5t on bus9ess1 & :o receive :atev] ! mi/ress ( ! h\se c sp>e f h] exp5ses4 ,a book is kept by ! sell]1 9 :i* paym5ts are ent]$2 b a duplicate is nev] reta9$ by ! wife1 & !re=e %e has no *eck :atev]4 ,we h kn[n an article ( dress paid = 9 ?is mann]1 f> above its value1 & h he>d a poor "y woman1 :o has be5 ?us dup$1 say to a lady1 :o remon/rat$ ) h]3 ,alas6 :at c ,i d8 ,i d>e n tell my husb&4 ,x may be t ! same sy/em1 ?\gh diff]+ accord+ to circum/ances1 is pursu$ 9 a sup]ior class ( life4 ,we h reason to ?9k t x is s1 & !re=e affectionately w>n our y\ng] si/]s to bew>e ( mak+ pur*ases t require concealm5t4 ,be cont5t ) su* ?+s z y c honorably af=d1 & su* z y\r husb&s approve4 ,y c !n we> !m ) e feel+ ( self-satisfaction4 ,be=e dismiss+ ?is "p ( our subject1 we besee* y to avoid all bick]+s4 ,:at does x signify :]e a picture hangs1 or :e!r a rose or a p9k looks be/ on ! draw+-room table8 ,!re is some?+ inexpressibly ende>+ 9 small concessions1 9 gracefully giv+ up a favorite op9ion1 or 9 yield+ to ! w ( ano!r2 & equally pa9ful is ! rev]se4 ,! mightie/ riv]s h _! s\rce 9 /reams2 ! bitt]e/ dome/ic mis]y has (t5 aris5 f "s trifl+ diff]5ce ( op9ion4 ,if1 by *ance1 y m>ry a man ( a ha/y temp]1 great discretion is requir$4 ,mu* will+ness1 too1 & pray] = /r5g? to rule y\r own _s are necess>y4 ,?ree in/ances occur to u1 9 :i*1 ladies h kn[+ly m>ri$ m5 ( exce$+ viol5t temp]s1 & yet h liv$ happily4 ,! secret ( _! happ9ess consi/$ 9 possess+ a p]fect comm& ov] !mselves1 & 9 seek+1 by e possible means1 to prev5t _! husb&s f committ+ !mselves 9 _! pres5ce4 ,la/ly1 rememb] y\r /&+ z a lady1 & nev] approve a mean action1 nor speak an unref9$ ^w2 let all y\r conduct be su* z an honorable & "r-m9d$ man may look = 9 8 wife1 & ! "m ( 8 *ildr54 ,! slighte/ duplicity de/roys confid5ce4 ,! lea/ want ( ref9em5t 9 conv]sation1 or 9 ! selection ( books1 l[]s a woman1 ay1 & = ev]6 ,foll[ ^! few simple precepts1 & !y %all prove to y ( m wor? ?an rubies2 neglect !m1 & y w "k :at sorr[ is4 ,!y apply to e class ( society1 9 e place :]e man has fix$ 8 dwell+2 & to ! woman :o duly obs]ves !m may be giv5 ! beautiful comm5dation ( ,solomon1 :5 record+ ! words :i* ! "m ( ,k+ ,lemuel taught him3 ,! he>t ( h] husb& do? safely tru/ 9 h]2 %e w d him good1 & n evil1 all ! days ( h] life4 ,/r5g? & honor are h] clo?+2 & %e %all rejoice 9 "t to come4 ,h] *ildr5 rise up1 & call h] bless$2 h] husb& also1 & he praise? h]4--,prov4 xxxi4 ,we %all n[ address ourselves exclusively to our bre?r52 to !m :o h tak5 ^u !mselves ! sacr$ & compreh5sive names ( husb& & ( ma/]1 :o h =m$ homes to dwell 91 & h plac$ !re91 z _! companions ?r\gh life's pilgrimage1 g5tle & confid+ ones1 :o h left = !m all t 0 h]et(ore mo/ de>1 & :om !y h sworn to love & to *]i%4 ,:5 a man m>ries1 x is und]/ood t all =m] acqua9tance%ip ends1 unless he intimates a desire to r5ew x1 by s5d+ y 8 own & 8 wife's c>d1 if ne>1 or by lett]1 if di/ant4 ,if ?is be neglect$1 be sure no fur!r int]c\rse is desir$4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 a ba*elor is seldom v p>ticul> 9 ! *oice ( 8 companions4 ,s long z he is amus$1 he w associate freely en\gh ) ^? ^: morals & habits w\ld po9t !m out z highly dang]\s p]sons to introduce into ! sanctity ( dome/ic life4 ,secondly1 a m>ri$ man has ! ta/es ( ano!r to consult2 & ! fri5d ( ! husb& may n be equally acceptable to ! wife4 ,besides1 newly-m>ri$ p may wi% to limit ! circle ( _! fri5ds1 f praisewor?y motives ( economy4 ,:5 a man fir/ sets up 9 ! _w1 ! burd5 ( an ext5sive & indiscrim9ate acqua9tance may be felt 9 v>i\s ways4 ,_m h _h cause to regret ! weakness ( m9d :i* all[$ !m to plunge into a vortex ( gaiety & exp5se !y c\ld ill af=d1 f :i* !y h f\nd x difficult to extricate !mselves1 & ! effects ( :i* h prov$ a s]i\s evil to !m 9 aft]-life4 ,rememb] t y h n[1 z a m>ri$ man1 a v diff]5t /&+ 9 society f ! "o :i* y previ\sly held1 & t ! happ9ess ( ano!r is committ$ to y\r *>ge4 ,r5d]1 !re=e1 y\r home happy by k9dness & att5tion to y\r wife1 & c>efully wat* ov] y\r words & actions4 ,if small disputes arise1 & y\r wife has n suffici5t good s5se to yield h] op9ion2 nay1 if %e ev5 seems det]m9$ to h h] own way1 & t t5aci\sly1 d n get angry2 r be sil5t1 & let ! matt] re/4 ,an opportunity w soon occur ( speak+ affectionately1 yet decid$ly1 on ! subject1 & mu* good w be effect$4 ,ma/] y\r own temp]1 & y w soon ma/] y\r wife's2 /udy h] happ9ess )\t yield+ to any caprices1 & y w h no reason to regret y\r self-control4 ,nev] let y\r wife g to *ur* alone on ,sunday4 ,y c h>dly d a worse ?+ z reg>ds h] good op9ion ( y1 & ! well-be+ ( y\r h\sehold4 ,x is a pitiable sight to see a "y wife go+ t[>d ! *ur*-door unatt5d$1 alone 9 ! mid/ ( a cr[d1 ) h] ?\ghts dwell+1 x may be v sadly1 on ! "t :5 y 7 pr\d to walk beside h]4 ,rememb] t ! condition ( a "y bride is (t5 a v solit>y "o2 & t = y\r sake %e has left h] p>5ts' ro(1 & ! companion%ip ( h] bro!rs & si/]s4 ,if y are a pr(essional man1 y\r wife may h to live 9 ! neighborhood ( a l>ge city1 :]e %e sc>cely kn[s any "o1 & )\t ^? agreeable dome/ic occupations1 or "y associates1 among :om %e _h gr[n up4 ,h] g>d5 & p\ltry-y>d are h]s no long]1 & ! day passes )\t ! light ( any smile b y\rs4 ,y g (f1 mo/ probably aft] breakfa/1 to y\r bus9ess or pr(ession1 & d n return till a late d9n]2 p]haps ev5 n !n1 if y are mu* occupi$1 or h to keep up pr(essional connections4 ,x seems unmanly1 c]ta9ly mo/ unk9d1 to let y\r "y wife g to *ur* on ,sunday )\t y1 = ! common-place satisfaction ( l\ng+ at home4 ,to act 9 ?is mann] is c]ta9ly a brea* ( dome/ic etiquette4 ,sunday is ! only day 9 :i* y c enable h] to =get h] fa!r's h\se1 & ! pleasant associations ( h] girlhood days--9 :i* y c pay h] ^? att5tions :i* prev5t all pa9ful comp>isons z reg>ds ! pa/4 ,sunday is a day ( re/1 wisely & m]cifully appo9t$ to loose ! bonds by :i* m5 are held to ! _w2 let x be sp5t by y z becomes ! head ( a family4 ,let no temptation ev] induce y to wi% y\r wife to rel9qui% att5d+ ,div9e s]vice1 m]ely t %e may idle at home ) y4 ,religion is h] safegu>d amid ! trials or temptations ( ?is _w4 ,& woe may be to y if y seek to )draw h] f its protection6 ,mu* p]plexity 9 ! m>riage /ate (t5 arises f want ( c&or4 ,m5 conceal _! affairs1 & expect _! wives to act ) great economy1 )\t assign+ any reason :y su* %\ld be ! case2 b ! husb& ought frankly to tell 8 wife ! real am\nt ( 8 income2 =1 unless ?is is done1 %e _c prop]ly regulate h] exp5ses4 ,!y ought !n to consult toge!r z to ! sum t c be af=d$ = h\sekeep+1 :i* %\ld be r bel[ ?an above ! m>k4 ,:5 ?is is arrang$ he w f9d x advantage\s to give into h] h&s1 ei!r weekly1 mon?ly1 or qu>t]ly1 ! sum t is appropriat$ = daily exp5diture1 & above all ?+s to avoid int]f]+ )\t absolute necessity4 ,! home dep>tm5t belongs exclusively to ! wife2 ! prov9ce ( ! husb& is to rule ! h\se--h]s to regulate its int]nal movem5ts4 ,true x is1 t "s inexp]i5c$ "y creatures "k b little ( h\sehold conc]ns4 ,if ?is occur1 h pati5ce1 & d n become petti% or ill-humor$4 ,if too mu* money is laid out at fir/1 give advice1 k9dly & firmly1 & ! "y wife w soon le>n h[ to p]=m h] new duties4 ,no good ev] yet result$1 or ev] w result f unnecess>y int]f]5ce4 ,if a man unhappily m>ries an incorrigible simpleton1 or sp5d?rift1 he _c help himself4 ,su*1 h[ev]1 is r>ely ! case4 ,let a man pres]ve 8 own position1 & assi/ 8 wife to d ! same2 all ?+s w !n move toge!r1 well & h>moni\sly4 ,mu* sorr[1 & _m he>t-burn+s1 may be avoid$ by judici\s conduct 9 ! outset ( life4 ,husb&s %\ld give _! wives all confid5ce4 ,!y h intru/$ to !m _! happ9ess1 & %\ld nev] suspect !m ( desir+ to wa/e _! money4 ,:5ev] a disposition is manife/$ to d "r1 express y\r approbation4 ,be pleas$ ) trifles1 & comm5d ef=ts to excel on e fitt+ occasion4 ,if y\r wife is diffid5t1 enc\rage h]1 & avoid see+ small mi/akes4 ,x is unreasonable to add to ! emb>rassm5ts ( h] new condition1 by ridicul+ h] defici5cies4 ,=be> extoll+ ! previ\s managem5t ( y\r "m or y\r si/]s4 ,_m a wife has be5 ali5at$ f h] husb&'s family1 & _m an affectionate he>t has be5 deeply w\nd$ by su* injudici\s conduct2 &1 z a s5sible woman w always pay especial att5tion to ! relations ( h] husb&1 & ent]ta9 !m ) affectionate polit5ess1 ! husb& on 8 "p %\ld always cordially receive & duly att5d to h] relations4 ,! rev]se ( ?is1 on ei!r side1 is (t5 productive ( unpleasant feel+s4 ,la/ly1 we recomm5d e "y m>ri$ man1 :o wi%es to r5d] 8 home happy1 to consid] 8 wife z ! light ( 8 dome/ic circle1 & to p]mit no cl\ds1 h[ev] small1 to obscure ! region 9 :i* %e presides4 ,mo/ wom5 are naturally amiable1 g5tle1 & comply+2 & if a wife becomes p]v]se1 & indiff]5t to h] home1 x is g5]ally h] husb&'s fault4 ,he may h neglect$ h] happ9ess2 b nev]!less x is unwise 9 h] to retort1 &1 in/ead ( fai?fully reflect+ ! brightness t /ill may %9e ^u h]1 to give back ! dusky & *e]less hue :i* sadd5s h] exi/5ce4 ,be n selfi%1 b comply+1 9 small ?+s4 ,if y\r wife dislikes cig>s--& few "y wom5 l to h _! clo!s ta9t$ by tobacco--leave (f smok+2 = x is1 at be/1 an ung5tlemanly & dirty habit4 ,if y\r wife asks y to read to h]1 d n put y\r feet ^u a *air & g to sleep4 ,if %e is fond ( music1 accompany h] z y 7 wont :5 y s\ght h] = a bride4 ,! husb& may say t he is tir$1 & does n l music1 or read+ al\d4 ,?is may occasionally be true1 & no amiable woman w ev] desire h] husb& to d :at w\ld really we>y him4 ,we1 h[ev]1 recomm5d a "y man to practice some:at ( self-d5ial1 & to rememb] t no "o acts ) a due reg>d to 8 own happ9ess :o lays aside1 :5 m>ri$1 ^? gratify+ att5tions :i* he 0 ev] ready to pay ! lady ( 8 love2 or ^? rational s\rces ( home enjoym5t :i* made h] look =w>d ) a b\nd+ he>t to become 8 companion ?r\gh life4 ,etiquette is a compreh5sive t]m2 & its obs]vances are n[h]e m to be desir$ ?an 9 ! dome/ic circle4 ,,on ,,g5]al ,,society4 ,to cultivate ! art ( pleas+ is n only wor?y ( our ambition1 b x is ! dictate ( humanity to r5d] ourselves z agreeable z possible to ^? ar\nd u4 ,:ile1 !re=e1 we condemn t false sy/em ( philosophy :i* recomm5ds ! practice ( flatt]y & deception = ! purpose ( w9n+ ! reg>d ( ^? ) :om we come 9 contact1 we w\ld r urge ! s9c]e & op5 conduct :i* is f\nd$ on moral pr9ciple1 & :i* looks to ! happ9ess ( o!rs1 n ?r\gh any sordid & selfi% aim1 b = ! rew>d :i* virtu\s actions be/[4 ,inde$1 we d n discov] ! necessity ( duplicity & hypocrisy 9 our int]c\rse ) society4 ,! virtues & ! graces are n antagoni/ic4 ,! sacrifice ( p]sonal conv5i5ce = ! accommodation ( o!rs2 ! repression ( our egotism & self-e/eem2 ! occasional endurance ( :atev] is disagreeable or irksome to u ?r\gh consid]ation = ! infirmities ( o!rs1 are n only "s ( ! *>act]i/ics ( true polit5ess1 b are 9 ! v _s ( b5evol5ce1 &1 we might add1 religion4 ,! ,engli% h a rule ( etiquette1 t if y are introduc$ to a p]son ( high] position 9 society ?an y\rself1 y mu/ nev] recognize him :5 y meet1 until y see :e!r he int5ds to notice y4 ,! mean+ ( ?is rule is1 t y %\ld be polite to nobody until y see :e!r !y mean to be polite to y1 :i* is simply refus+ polit5ess 9 ! "n ( polit5ess itself4 ,!re is a /ory ( an un=tunate cl]k ( ! ,treasury1 :o d9$ "o day at ! ,beef-/eak ,club1 :]e he sat next to a duke1 :o conv]s$ freely ) him at d9n]4 ,! next day1 meet+ ! duke 9 ! /reet1 he salut$ him4 ,b 8 grace1 draw+ himself up1 said3 ,may ,i "k1 sir1 to :om ,i h ! honor ( speak+8 ,:y1 we d9$ toge!r at ! club ye/]day--,i am ,mr4 ,timms1 ( ! ,treasury1 0 ! reply4 ,!n1 said ! duke1 turn+ on 8 heel1 ,mr4 ,timms1 ( ! ,treasury1 ,i wi% y a good morn+4 ,?\gh ?is anecdote is relat$ 9 ! ,engli% books z an example ( etiquette1 x is und\bt$ly true t ,mr4 ,timms1 ( ! ,treasury1 0 ! polite/ man ( ! two2 = ev5 if he _h made a mi/ake 9 be+ a little famili> 9 8 polit5ess1 _h ! duke be5 really a polite man he w\ld h made ! be/ ( x1 by return+ ! salutation1 in/ead ( ! brutal mortification :i* he heap$ ^u ! cl]k ( ! ,treasury4 ,ev]ybody has read ! anecdote ( ,wa%+ton1 :o politely return$ ! salutation ( a negro1 :i* caus$ 8 fri5d to ask if he b[$ to a negro4 ,to be sure ,i d2 d y ?9k t ,i w\ld all[ a negro to outdo me 9 polit5ess8 said ,wa%+ton4 ,?is is ! ,am]ican rule4 ,ev]ybody 9 ?is c\ntry may be polite to ev]ybody--& if any "o is too haughty & too ill-br$ to return ! salutation1 ) him alone re/s ! responsibility & ! %ame4 ,a lady 9 company %\ld nev] exhibit any anxiety to s+ or play2 b if %e int5ds to d s1 %e %\ld n affect to refuse :5 ask$1 b oblig+ly acc$e at once4 ,if y _c s+1 or d n *oose to1 say s ) s]i\sness & gravity1 & put an end to ! expectation promptly4 ,aft] s++ once or twice1 cease & give place to o!rs4 ,!re is an old say+1 t a s+] c ) ! greate/ difficulty be set ago+1 & :5 ago+1 _c be /opp$4 ,nev] comm5d a lady's musical skill to ano!r lady :o h]self plays4 ,mod]n ,*e/]fields1 :o pret5d to be sup]latively well-br$1 tell "o nev] to be 9 a hurry4 ,to be 9 a hurry1 say !y1 is ill-br$4 ,! dictum is absurd4 ,x is sometimes necess>y to be hurri$4 ,9 ! /reets ( ! city "o mu/ ha/5 ) ! multitude4 ,to walk or l\nge1 z p :o h no?+ else to d1 9 ,wall ,/reet1 or ,broadway1 w\ld be out ( place & absurd4 ,judgm5t requires u1 n less ?an mann]s1 to con=m slightly ) ! behavior ( ^? ) :om we associate or are =c$ to rema94 ,nev] lose y\r temp] at c>ds1 & p>ticul>ly avoid ! exhibition ( anxiety or vexation at want ( success4 ,if y are play+ :i/1 n only keep y\r temp]1 b hold y\r tongue2 any intimation to y\r p>tn] is decid$ly ung5tlemanly4 ,d n take ^u y\rself to d ! honors 9 ano!r man's h\se1 nor con/itute y\rself ma/] ( ! c]emonies1 z y w !reby (f5d ! ho/ & ho/ess4 ,d n press be=e a lady at a !at] or a conc]t4 ,always yield to h]1 if practicable1 y\r seat & place4 ,d n sit :5 %e is /&+1 )\t (f]+ h] y\r place4 ,consult n only y\r own ease1 b also ! com=t ( ^? ar\nd y4 ,d n cross a room 9 an anxi\s mann]1 & =ce y\r way up to a lady m]ely to receive a b[1 z by s do+ y attract ! eyes ( ! company t[>d h]4 ,if y are desir\s ( be+ notic$ by any "o 9 p>ticul>1 put y\rself 9 _! way z if by accid5t1 & d n let !m see t y h s\ght !m out2 unless1 inde$1 !re be some?+ v important to communicate4 ,g5tlem5 :o att5d ladies to ! op]a1 to conc]ts1 to lectures1 etc41 %\ld take (f _! hats on ent]+ ! room1 & :ile %[+ !m _! seats4 ,hav+ tak5 y\r seats rema9 quietly 9 !m1 & avoid1 unless absolute necessity requires x1 incommod+ o!rs by cr[d+ out & 9 be=e !m4 ,if oblig$ to d ?is1 politely apologize = ! tr\ble y cause !m4 ,to talk dur+ ! p]=mance is an act ( rud5ess & inju/ice4 ,y ?us proclaim y\r own ill-bre$+ & invade ! rights ( o!rs1 :o h paid = ! privilege ( he>+ ! p]=m]s1 & n = li/5+ to y4 ,if y are 9 att5dance ^u a lady at any op]a1 conc]t1 or lecture1 y %\ld reta9 y\r seat at h] side2 b if y h no lady ) y1 & h tak5 a desirable seat1 y %\ld1 if ne$ be1 *e]fully rel9qui% x 9 favor ( a lady1 = "o less eligible4 ,to ! op]a1 or !at]1 ladies %\ld we> op]a hoods1 :i* are to be tak5 (f on ent]+4 ,9 ?is c\ntry1 cu/om p]mits ! we>+ ( bonnets2 b z !y are nei!r conv5i5t nor com=table1 ladies %\ld disp5se ) _! use :5ev] !y c4 ,gloves %\ld be worn by ladies 9 *ur*1 & 9 places ( public amusem5t4 ,d n take !m (f to %ake h&s4 ,great c>e %\ld be tak5 t !y are well made & fit neatly4 ,if y w\ld h y\r *ildr5 gr[ up belov$ & respect$ by _! eld]s z well z _! contempor>ies1 tea* !m good mann]s 9 _! *ildhood4 ,! "y sov]eign %\ld fir/ le>n to obey1 t he may be ! bett] fitt$ to comm& 9 8 turn4 ,%[1 b d n %[ (f1 y\r *ildr5 to /rang]s4 ,recollect1 9 ! matt] ( *ildr51 h[ _m are born e h\r1 ea* "o almo/ z rem>kable z y\rs 9 ! eyes ( its papa & mamma4 ,not)/&+ t good g5]al bre$+ is easy ( atta9m5t1 & is1 9 fact1 atta9$ by mo/ p1 yet we may enl>ge ^u a say+ ( ,em]son's1 by decl>+ t ! _w has nev] yet se5 a p]fect g5tleman4 ,x is n deem$ polite & respectful to smoke 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies1 ev5 ?\gh !y are amiable en\gh to p]mit x4 ,a g5tleman1 !re=e1 is n 9 ! habit ( smok+ 9 ! p>lor1 = if !re is nobody pres5t to object1 x leaves a smell 9 ! room :i* ! wife has good reason to be mortifi$ at1 if discov]$ by h] gue/s4 ,x is v common to see p]sons eat1 dr9k1 & smoke to excess4 ,su* habits are vulg> 9 ! l[e/ degree4 ,"s m5 pride !mselves on _! abilities 9 dr9k+ & smok+--m especially 9 ! latt]4 ,^! are blund]s t ne$ no reason+ to expose !m4 ,! man :o exhibits a t5d5cy to excesses w1 soon] or lat]1 be %unn$ by all except a few ( 8 own /amp1 & n ev5 by !m be respect$4 ,gu>d aga9/ excess 9 all ?+s1 z nei!r g5tlemanly nor human4 ,spitt+ is a fil?y habit1 & annoys "o 9 almo/ e qu>t]1 9-doors & out4 ,s9ce vulg>ity has _h its way s ext5sively among/ u1 e y\? beg9s to smoke & spit be=e he has well cut 8 tee?4 ,smok+ is unque/ionably s great a pleasure to ^? accu/om$ to x1 t x mu/ n be condemn$1 yet ! spitt+ associat$ ) x detracts v mu* f ! enjoym5t4 ,no ref9$ p]son w spit :]e ladies are pres5t1 or 9 any public prom5ade2 ! habit is disgu/+ 9 ! extreme1 & "o w\ld almo/ wi% t x c\ld be *eck$ 9 public by means ( law4 ,nev] scrat* y\r head1 pick y\r tee?1 clean y\r nails1 or1 worse ?an all1 pick y\r nose 9 company2 all ^! ?+s are disgu/+4 ,to indulge 9 ridicule1 :e!r ! subject be pres5t or abs5t1 is to desc5d bel[ ! level ( g5tlemanly propriety4 ,y\r skill may excite laught]1 b w n insure respect4 ,a rev]5tial reg>d = religi\s obs]vances1 & religi\s op9ions1 is a di/+ui%+ trait ( a ref9$ m9d4 ,:atev] y\r op9ions on ! subject1 y are n to intrude !m on o!rs1 p]haps to ! %ak+ ( _! fai? & happ9ess4 ,religi\s topics %\ld be avoid$ 9 conv]sation1 except :]e all are prep>$ to concur 9 a respectful treatm5t ( ! subject4 ,9 mix$ societies ! subject %\ld nev] be introduc$4 ,frequ5t consultation ( ! wat* or "t-pieces is impolite1 ei!r :5 at home or abroad4 ,if at home1 x appe>s z if y 7 tir$ ( y\r company & wi%$ !m to be gone2 if abroad1 z if ! h\rs dragg$ heavily1 & y 7 calculat+ h[ soon y w\ld be releas$4 ,nev] read 9 company4 ,a g5tleman or lady may1 h[ev]1 look ov] a book ( engrav+s ) propriety4 ,! simpl]1 & ! m easy & uncon/ra9$ y\r mann]s1 ! m y w impress p ( y\r good bre$+4 ,affectation is "o ( ! braz5 m>ks ( vulg>ity4 ,x is v unbecom+ to exhibit petulance1 or angry feel+1 ?\gh x is indulg$ 9 s l>gely 9 almo/ e circle4 ,! true g5tleman does n suff] 8 c\nt5ance to be easily ruffl$2 & we only look paltry :5 we suff] temp] to hurry u into ill-judg$ expressions ( feel+4 ,he t is soon angry deale? fooli%ly4 ,comm&s %\ld nev] be giv5 9 a comm&+ tone4 ,a g5tleman reque/s1 he does n comm&4 ,we are n to assume s mu* importance1 :atev] our /ation1 z to give ord]s 9 ! imp]ative mood1 nor are we ev] ju/ifi$ 9 ?ru/+ ! consci\sness ( s]vitude on any "o4 ,! blund] ( comm&+ /]nly is mo/ frequ5tly committ$ by ^? :o h !mselves b j escap$ s]vitude1 & we %\ld n exhibit to o!rs a weakness s unbecom+4 ,x is a great ?+ to be able to walk l a g5tleman--t is1 to get rid ( ! awkw>d1 l\ng+1 sw++ gait ( a cl[n1 & /op be=e y rea* ! affect$ & flippant /ep ( a d&y4 ,9 %ort1 no?+ b be+ a g5tleman c ev] give y ! air & /ep ( "o4 ,a man :o has a %all[ or an impud5t bra9 w be q sure to %[ x 9 8 heels1 9 spite ( all t rules ( mann]s c d = him4 ,a g5tleman nev] sits 9 ! h\se ) 8 hat on 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies = a s+le mom5t4 ,inde$1 s /rong is ! =ce ( habit1 t a g5tleman w q unconsci\sly remove 8 hat on ent]+ a p>lor1 or draw+-room1 ev5 if !re is no "o pres5t b himself4 ,p :o sit 9 ! h\se ) _! hats on are to be suspect$ ( hav+ sp5t ! mo/ ( _! "t 9 b>-rooms1 & simil> places4 ,a g5tleman nev] sits ) 8 hat on 9 ! !at]4 ,g5tlem5 d n g5]ally sit ev5 9 an eat+-room ) _! hats on1 if !re is any conv5i5t place to put !m4 ,! books on etiquette w tell y1 t on wait+ on a lady into a c>riage1 or ! box ( a !at]1 y are to take (f y\r hat2 b su* is n ! cu/om among polite p 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,! inconv5i5ce ( su* a rule is a good reason aga9/ its obs]vance 9 a c\ntry :]e ! practice ( polit5ess has 9 x no?+ ( ! s]vility :i* is (t5 atta*$ to x 9 c\ntries :]e ! code ( etiquette is dictat$ by ! c\rts ( mon>*y4 ,9 h&+ a lady into a c>riage1 a g5tleman may ne$ to employ bo? 8 h&s1 & he has no ?ird h& to hold on to 8 hat4 ,cleanl9ess ( p]son is a di/+ui%+ trait ( e well-br$ p]son2 & ?is n on /ate occasions only1 b at all times1 ev5 at home4 ,x is a folly to sit by ! fire 9 a slov5ly /ate1 consol+ oneself ) ! rem>k1 ,nobody w call to-day4 ,%\ld somebody call we are 9 no plight to receive !m1 & o!rwise x is an injury to ! "* to all[ slov5ly habits to control u ev5 :5 we are unse54 ,*e/]field inveighs aga9/ hold+ a man by ! button1 = if p are n will+ to he> y1 y _h mu* bett] hold y\r tongue ?an !m4 ,button-hol+ is n a common vice1 b po9t+1 nudg+1 hitt+ a man 9 ! side ) y\r fi/1 or giv+ him a kick ( recognition "u ! table1 are too common n to be notic$ "h z t]rible brea*es ( deportm5t4 ,significant looks & ge/ures are equally objectionable1 & mu/ be avoid$ by all :o desire to so> above positive vulg>ity4 ,i h (t5 be5 annoy$ by he>+ a fri5d disc\rse on "s p]son's fail+s or excell5ces1 ! p]son ref]r$ to be+ only kn[n to ! speak]4 ,x is a bad rule to talk ( p]sons at all1 b m especially if ! p]son spok5 ( is n kn[n to all ! li/5]s4 ,d n (f] a p]son ! *air f :i* y h j ris51 unless !re be no o!r 9 ! room4 ,nev] take ! *air usually occupi$ by ! lady or g5tleman ( ! h\se1 ev5 ?\gh !y be abs5t1 nor use ! snuff-box ( ano!r1 unless he (f] x4 ,d n lean y\r head aga9/ ! wall4 ,y w ei!r soil ! pap]1 or get y\r hair well p[d]$ ) lime4 ,d n t\* any ( ! ornam5ts 9 ! h\ses :]e y visit2 !y are meant only = ! use ( ! lady ( ! h\se1 & may be admir$1 b n t\*$4 ,"l ,*e/]field1 9 8 ,advice to 8 ,son1 ju/ly *>act]izes an abs5t man z unfit = bus9ess or conv]sation4 ,abs5ce ( m9d is usually affect$1 & spr+s 9 mo/ cases f a desire to be ?\ght ab/ract$ 9 pr(\nd contemplations4 ,! _w1 h[ev]1 gives a man no cr$it = va/ ideas :o exhibits abs5ce :5 he %\ld be att5tive1 ev5 to trifles4 ,! _w is "r 9 ?is1 & ,i w\ld implore e /udi\s y\? to =get t he is /udi\s :5 he ent]s company4 ,i h se5 _m a man1 :o w\ld h made a bright "* o!rwise1 affect a fooli% res]ve1 remove himself z f> f o!rs z possible1 & 9 a mix$ assembly1 :]e social prattle or s9c]e conv]sation enliv5$ ! he>ts ( ! company1 sit by himself ab/ract$ 9 a book4 ,x is fooli%1 &1 :at is worse = ! abs5tee1 x looks s4 ,a h9t on ?is subject is suffici5t1 & we d h9t1 t ab/ract$ness ( mann] %\ld nev] be exhibit$2 ! greate/ g5iuses h ev] be5 att5tive to trifles :5 x s behoov$ !m4 ,affectation ( sup]iority galls ! feel+s ( ^? to :om x is (f]$4 ,9 company ) an inf]ior1 nev] let him feel 8 inf]iority4 ,an employ]1 :o invites 8 confid5tial cl]k to 8 h\se1 %\ld treat him 9 e way ! same z 8 mo/ di/+ui%$ gue/4 ,no ref]5ce to bus9ess %\ld be made1 & any?+ 9 ! %ape ( comm& avoid$4 ,x is v easy by a look1 a ^w1 ! mode ( reception1 or o!rwise1 to adv]tise to ! o!r gue/s1 ,?is is my cl]k1 or1 ,! p]son ,i n[ treat z a gue/ 0 ye/]day labor+ 9 my s]vice2 b su* a ?+ w\ld l[] ! ho/ m ?an x w\ld annoy ! gue/4 ,be=e ,burns _h arriv$ at 8 high popul>ity1 he 0 once invit$ by "s puff$-up lairds to d9e1 9 ord] t !y might h ! gratification ( he>+ ! poet s+ "o ( 8 own songs4 ,burns 0 %[n into ! s]vants' hall1 & left to d9e ) ! m5ials4 ,aft] d9n] he 0 invit$ to ! draw+-room1 & a glass ( w9e be+ h&$ to him1 reque/$ to s+ "o ( 8 own songs4 ,he imm$iately gave 8 ent]ta9]s t ?rill+ ass]tion ( indep5d5ce1 ,a man's a man = a' t1 & left ! mom5t he _h f9i%$1 8 he>t embitt]$ at patronage (f]$ 9 a mann] s insult+ to 8 pov]ty4 ,p :o h ris5 9 ! _w are too apt to suppose !y r5d] !mselves ( consequ5ce 9 proportion to ! pride !y display1 & _! want ( att5tion t[>d ^? ) :om !y come 9 contact4 ,?is is a t]rible mi/ake1 z e ill-br$ act recoils ) triple viol5ce aga9/ its p]petrators1 by lead+ ! (f5d$ p>ties to analyze !m1 & to "q _! "r ( assum+ a sup]iority to :i* !y are b r>ely entitl$4 ,punctuality is "o ( ! *>act]i/ics ( polit5ess4 ,he :o does n keep 8 appo9tm5ts promptly is unfit = ! society ( g5tlem51 & w soon f9d himself %ut out f x4 ,9 private1 wat* y\r ?\ghts2 9 y\r family1 wat* y\r temp]2 9 society1 wat* y\r tongue4 ,avoid re/lessness 9 company1 le/ y make ! :ole p>ty z fidgety z y\rself4 ,d n beat ! ',devil's tattoo' by drumm+ ) y\r f+]s on ! table2 x _c fail to annoy e "o )9 he>+1 & is ! index ( a vacant m9d4 ,nei!r read ! newspap] 9 an audible :isp]1 z x di/urbs ! att5tion ( ^? ne> y4 ,bo? ^! bad habits are p>ticul>ly (f5sive :]e mo/ common1 t is1 9 a c\nt+ or news-room4 ,rememb]1 t a c>elessness z to :at may incommode o!rs is ! sure sign ( a co>se & ord9>y m9d2 inde$1 ! ess5tial "p ( good bre$+ is m 9 ! avoidance ( :atev] may be disagreeable to o!rs1 ?an ev5 an accurate obs]vance ( ! cu/oms ( good society4 ,good s5se mu/1 9 _m cases1 det]m9e good bre$+2 because ! same ?+ t w\ld be civil at "o "t & to "o p]son1 may be q o!rwise at ano!r "t & to ano!r p]son4 ,*e/]field says1 ,z le>n+1 honor1 & virtue are absolutely necess>y to ga9 y ! e/eem & admiration ( mank9d1 polit5ess & good bre$+ are equally necess>y to make y welcome & agreeable 9 conv]sation & common life4 ,great tal5ts1 su* z honor1 virtue1 le>n+1 & p>ts1 are above ! g5]ality ( ! _w1 :o nei!r possess !m !mselves nor judge ( !m rightly 9 o!rs2 b all p are judges ( ! less] tal5ts1 su* z civility1 affability1 & an oblig+1 agreeable address & mann]2 because !y feel ! good effects ( !m1 z mak+ society easy & pleas+4 ,if y are 9 a public room1 z a libr>y or read+-room1 avoid l\d conv]sation or laugh+1 :i* may di/urb o!rs4 ,at ! op]a1 or a conc]t1 be pr(\ndly sil5t dur+ ! p]=mances2 if y d n wi% to he> ! music1 y h no "r to int]f]e ) ! enjoym5t ( o!rs4 ,9 accompany+ ladies to any public place1 z to a conc]t or lecture1 y %\ld prec$e !m 9 ent]+ ! room1 & procure seats = !m4 ,nev] all[ a lady to get a *air = h]self1 r+ a bell1 pick up a h&k]*ief or glove %e may h dropp$1 or1 9 %ort1 p]=m any s]vice = h]self :i* y c p]=m = h]1 :5 y are 9 ! room4 ,by ext5d+ su* c\rtesies to y\r "m1 si/]s1 or o!r memb]s ( y\r family1 !y become habitual1 & are ?us m gracefully p]=m$ :5 abroad4 ,etiquette 9 *ur* is entirely out ( place2 b we may "h obs]ve t a conv]sation wantonly pr(ligate always (f5ds aga9/ good mann]s1 nor c an irreligi\s man ev] a*ieve t be>+ :i* con/itutes ! true g5tleman4 ,he may be v poli%$ & obs]vant ( =m1 & ev5 if s1 he w1 out ( respect = o!rs1 refra9 f intrud+ 8 op9ions & ab/a9 f attack+ ^? ( o!rs4 ,*e/]field says1 ,civility is p>ticul>ly due to all wom52 &1 rememb]1 t no provocation :atsoev] c ju/ify any man 9 n be+ civil to e woman2 & ! greate/ man w\ld ju/ly be reckon$ a brute if he 7 n civil to ! meane/ woman4 ,x is due to _! sex1 & is ! only protection !y h aga9/ ! sup]ior /r5g? ( ours2 nay1 ev5 a little is all[able ) wom52 & a man may1 )\t weakness1 tell a woman %e is ei!r h&som] or wis] ?an %e is4 ,keep y\r engagem5ts4 ,no?+ is rud] ?an to make an engagem5t1 be x ( bus9ess or pleasure1 & break x4 ,if y\r memory is n suffici5tly ret5tive to keep all ! engagem5ts y make /or$ )9 x1 c>ry a little memor&um book & ent] !m !re4 ,especially keep any appo9tm5t made ) a lady1 =1 dep5d ^u x1 ! fair sex =give any o!r fault 9 good bre$+1 soon] ?an a brok5 engagem5t4 ,! "r ( privacy is sacr$1 & %\ld always be respect$4 ,x is exce$+ly improp] to ent] a private room any:]e )\t knock+4 ,no relation1 h[ev] intimate1 w ju/ify an abrupt intrusion ^u a private ap>tm5t4 ,s ! trunks1 boxes1 packets1 pap]s1 & lett]s ( e individual1 lock$ or unlock$1 seal$ or unseal$1 are sacr$4 ,x is ill-mann]s ev5 to op5 a book-case1 or to read a writt5 pap] ly+ op51 )\t p]mission express$ or impli$4 ,books 9 an op5 case or on a c5t]-table1 c>ds 9 a c>d-case1 & newspap]s1 are presum$ to be op5 = exam9ation4 ,be c>eful :]e y g1 :at y read1 & :at y h&le1 p>ticul>ly 9 private ap>tm5ts4 ,avoid int]m$dl+ ) ! affairs ( o!rs4 ,?is is a mo/ common fault4 ,a numb] ( p seldom meet b !y beg9 discuss+ ! affairs ( "s "o :o is abs5t4 ,?is is n only un*>itable b positively unju/4 ,x is equival5t to try+ a cause 9 ! abs5ce ( ! p]son implicat$4 ,ev5 9 ! crim9al code a prison] is presum$ to be innoc5t until he is f\nd guilty4 ,society1 h[ev]1 is less j1 & passes judgm5t )\t he>+ ! def5ce4 ,dep5d ^u x1 z a c]ta9 rule1 t ! p :o unite ) y 9 discuss+ ! affairs ( o!rs w proce$ to sc&alize y ! mom5t t y dep>t4 ,be well read also1 = ! sake ( ! g5]al company & ! ladies1 9 ! lit]ature ( ! day4 ,y w !reby enl>ge ! regions ( pleasurable talk4 ,besides1 x is (t5 necess>y4 ,haslitt1 :o _h ent]ta9$ an unf\nd$ prejudice aga9/ ,dick5s's works :5 !y 7 fir/ writt51 confesses t he 0 at la/ oblig$ to read !m1 because he c\ld n ent] a mix$ company )\t he>+ !m admir$ & quot$4 ,always con=m y\r conduct1 z ne> z possible1 to ! company ) :om y are associat$4 ,if y %\ld be ?r[n among p :o are vulg>1 x is bett] to humor !m ?an to set y\rself up1 !n & !re1 = a model ( polit5ess4 ,x is relat$ ( a c]ta9 k+ t on a p>ticul> occasion he turn$ 8 tea into 8 sauc]1 contr>y to ! etiquette ( society1 because two c\ntry ladies1 ^: hospitalities he 0 enjoy+1 did s4 ,t k+ 0 a g5tleman2 & ?is anecdote s]ves to illu/rate an important pr9ciple3 namely1 t true polit5ess & g5u9e good mann]s (t5 n only p]mit1 b absolutely dem&1 a violation ( "s ( ! arbitr>y rules ( etiquette4 ,be> ?is fact 9 m9d4 ,al?\gh ^! rem>ks w n be suffici5t 9 !mselves to make y a g5tleman1 yet !y w enable y to avoid any gl>+ impropriety1 & d mu* to r5d] y easy & confid5t 9 society4 ,g5tility is nei!r 9 bir?1 mann]1 nor fa%ion--b 9 ! ,,m9d4 ,a high s5se ( honor--a det]m9ation nev] to take a mean advantage ( ano!r--an adh]5ce to tru?1 delicacy1 & polit5ess t[>d ^? ) :om y may h deal+s--are ! ess5tial & di/+ui%+ *>act]i/ics ( ,a ,,g5tleman4 ,,! ,,end4 ,,transcrib]',s ,,notes ,italics indicat$ l ?is ,small caps capitaliz$ ,,l ,,?is ,o!r ?an corrections li/$ bel[1 inconsi/5t spell+s & o!r anomalies are z 9 orig9al4 p4 #e )uot correct$ to )\t p4 #ac d\ble ^w he>d correct$ p4 #ba !re correct$ to _! p4 #bb clos+ quotation m>k add$ to block quotation p4 #bg s]mom correct$ to s]mon p4 #dc fluctat+ correct$ to fluctuat+ p4 #di unm9dul correct$ to unm9dful p4 #ej miss+ comma suppli$ aft] "o :o is nei!r p4 #ej simili> correct$ to simil> p4 #ej sup5d]less correct$ to susp5d]less p4 #ec quotation m>k suppli$ aft] sup]ficial obs]v]4 p4 #ef f\r &-tw5ty correct$ to f\r-&-tw5ty p4 #fa repectability correct$ to respectability p4 #fb uneviable correct$ to un5viable p4 #gj digu/+ correct$ to disgu/+ p4 #gc y correct$ to y\r p4 #gf alll[$ correct$ to all[$ p4 #gf canibals correct$ to cannibals p4 #gg y knife correct$ to y\r knife p4 #hc sup]flu\s comma remov$ 9 v1 l>ge p4 #hd miss+ a suppli$ 9 f9d good c>v] p4 #ajh p]iod suppli$ aft] ea* o!r at a p>ty p4 #aae entranc correct$ to entrance p4 #aae f9al p]iod suppli$ 9 footnote p4 #abe f9al p]iod suppli$ aft] be5 af=d$ !m p4 #adf judici\lsy correct$ to judici\sly p4 #adh unless he intimate correct$ to unless he intimates p4 #adh int]c\rse x desir$ correct$ to int]c\rse is desir$ p4 #adi d\ble ^w to correct$ p4 #aea dep>tmemt correct$ to dep>tm5t p4 #aea husb&s %\ld at />t ( s5t5ce capitaliz$ p4 #aeh digu/+ correct$ to disgu/+ p4 #aei ?\ght x is correct$ to ?\gh x is p4 #afa d\ble ^w call correct$