file :i* includes ! orig9al illu/ration & illum9ations4 ,see #ceifc-;h4htm or #ceifc-;h4zip3 7https3_/_/www4gut5b]g4org_/ca*e_/epub_/ #ceifc_/pg#ceifc-;images4html7 or 7https3_/_/www4gut5b]g4org_/files_/#ceif c_/ceifc-;h4zip7 ,illu/ration3 ,v s9c]ely y\rs1 ,annie ,s4 ,swan4 ,tw5ty-f\r? ?\s&4 ,,c\rt%ip ,,& ,,m>riage ,& ! ,g5tle ,art ( ,home-,mak+4 by ,,annie ,s4 ,,swan 7,mrs4 ,burnett-,smi?71 ,au?or ( ,a ,bitt] ,debt1 ,homespun1 ,ald]syde1 ,etc41 ,etc4 ,love is ! inc5se t do? sweet5 e>?4 ,be x ev] s humble1 ,!re's no place l home4 ,london1 #ahid3 ,hut*9son ,co41 #cd1 ,pat]no/] ,r[4 99 99 99 99 99 99 ,new ,books ,by ,,annie ,s4 ,,swan4 ,a ,,bitt] ,,debt4 ,a ,,tale ,,( ,,! ,,black ,,c\ntry4 ,9 l>ge cr[n #hvo1 h&some clo? gilt b9d+1 ) illu/rations by ,d4 ,murray-,smi?4 ,price #es4 ,?irty-second ,?\s&4 ,,homespun3 ,a ,,/udy ,,( ,a ,,simple ,,folk4 ,9 clo?1 gilt1 #as4 #f;d41 pap]1 #as4 ,) ,illu/rations4 ,! language is p]fect2 ! highe/ /r+s ( humanity are t\*$4--,a!naeum4 ',homespun' is excell5t1 a ma/]piece4 ,x is told ) great skill1 & quiet b g5u9e p[]4 ,! /ory w long be a fav\rite 9 ,scotl&1 & is sure to be widely read 9 ,engl&4--,briti% ,weekly4 ,p[] & felicity are 9 evid5ce on e page4--,glasg[ ,h]ald4 ,london3 ,,hut*9son ,co41 #cd1 ,pat]no/] ,r[4 99 99 99 99 99 99 ,,to ,! ,lov$ ,memory ,,( ,,my ,,fa!r4 ,an hone/ man--! noble/ "w ( ,god4 ,illu/ration ,,cont5ts4 ,,*ap4 ,,page ,i4 ,,! ,,lov]s #g ,,ii4 ,,! ,,ideal ,,wife #ai ,,iii4 ,,! ,,ideal ,,husb& #cj ,,iv4 ,,! ,,fir/ ,,ye> ,,( ,,m>ri$ ,,life #dc ,v4 ,,! ,,ideal ,,home #ef ,,vi4 ,,keep+ ,,! ,,h\se #fd ,,vii4 ,,! ,,true/ ,,economy #gb ,,viii4 ,,on ,,keep+ ,,up ,,appe>ances #hj ,,ix4 ,,mo!rhood #ij ,x4 ,,! ,,son ,,9 ,,! ,,home #ii ,,xi4 ,,! ,,daught] ,,9 ,,! ,,home #aji ,,xii4 ,,! ,,education ,,( ,,our ,,daught]s #aag ,,xiii4 ,,! ,,s]vant ,,9 ,,! ,,home #abh ,,xiv4 ,,religion ,,9 ,,! ,,home #acf ,illu/ration ,,c\rt%ip ,,& ,,m>riage4 ,i4 ,,! ,,lov]s4 ,( ?is truly g5tle art we d n he> a great deal4 ,x has no academies connect$ ) its "n1 no le>n$ body ( directors or c\ncillors1 no diplomas or graduation hon\rs2 yet curi\sly en\gh x (f]s m endur+ consequ5ces ?an any o!r art :i* makes m noise 9 ! _w4 ,its bus9ess is ! mo/ s]i\s bus9ess ( life1 fraught ) ! mightie/ issues "h & h]eaft]--viz41 ! m\ld+ ( human "* & ! guid+ ( human conduct4 ,x is "r & fitt+1 !n1 t x %\ld dem& f u "s s]i\s att5tion1 & we may ) pr(it consid] h[ x c be/ be fo/]$ & made compet5t to bless ! greate/ numb]1 :i*1 ,i take x1 is ! ultima ,?ule ( all art4 ,to trace ?is g5tle art f its e>ly /ages we mu/ fir/ consid]1 ,i ?9k1 ! relation to ea* o!r be=e m>riage ( ! "y pair :o aim at ! upbuild+ ( a home1 :]e9 !y %all n only be happy !mselves1 b :i*1 9 _! be/ mom5ts1 :5 ! heav5ly & ! ideal is be=e !m1 !y hope to make a c5tre ( influ5ce f :i* %all g =? means ( grace & bless+ to o!rs4 ,i d n feel t any apology is requir$ = my desire to l+] a little ov] t old-fa%ion$ yet ev]-new phase ( life kn[n z c\rt+ days4 ,x is "o :i* is (t5] made a je/ ( ?an a s]i\s /udy2 yet su* is its p]5nial fre%ness & int]e/ = m5 & wom51 t x c nev] become ?readb>e2 & ?\gh !re _c be mu* left t is new or orig9al to say ab\t x1 yet a few ?\ghts f a woman's po9t ( view may n be altoge!r unacceptable4 ,we are con/antly be+ told t we live 9 a h>d1 prosaic age1 t romance has no place 9 our c5tury1 & t ! ru% & ! fev] ( life h left b little "t or incl9ation = ! old-"t grace & leisure ) :i* our gr&fa!rs & gr&mo!rs lov$1 woo$1 & w$4 ,?is /udy ( human nature is my bus9ess1 & x appe>s to me t ! _w is v mu* z x 0--t ,ed5 is /ill possible to ^? :o are fit = x2 & x is beyond "q t love1 c\rt%ip1 & m>riage are words to conjure ) 9 ! g>d5 ( y\?1 & t a love-/ory has yet ! p[] to *>m ev5 sob] m5 & wom5 ( middle age1 = :om romance is mi/ak5ly suppos$ to be ov]4 ,e man goes to woo 9 8 own way1 & ! woman he woos is apt to ?9k x ! be/ way 9 ! _w2 x w\ld be sup]flu\s = a m]e outsid] to criticise x4 ,examples might be multipli$2 9 ! novels we read we h v>iety & to sp>e4 ,we "k ! types well4 ,let me enum]ate a few4 ,! diffid5t y\?1 weigh$ d[n ) a s5se ( 8 own unwor?9ess1 approa*+ 8 div9ity ) a blu% & a /amm]2 & 9 "s extreme cases--^! mu* affect$ by ! noveli/s ( an e>li] decade--go+ d[n ^u 8 knees2 ! bold woo]1 :o believes 9 /orm+ ! citadel1 & is visit$ by no misgiv+ qualms2 ! cauti\s "o1 :o c\nts ! co/1 & tries to make sure ( 8 answ] be=eh&1--! only case 9 :i* ,i believe t a woman has a "r to ex]cise ! qualities ( ! coquette2 !n we h also ! victim ( extreme %yness1 :o w\ld nev] come to ! po9t at all )\t a little assi/ance f ! o!r side4 ,!re are o!r types1--! s*em] & ! self-seek]1 ^: matrimonial v5tures are only int5d$ to advance worldly int]e/s4 ,we ne$ n beg9 to dissect !m--x w\ld n be a pr(itable occupation4 ,well1 :ile n seek+ or attempt+ to lay d[n rules or (f] any proposition z f9al1 !re are sundry l>ge & g5]al pr9ciples :i* may be t\*$ ^u to aid u 9 look+ at ?is int]e/+ subject f a sympa!tic & common-s5se po9t ( view4 ,mo/ p1 look+ back1 ?9k _! own romance ! mo/ beautiful 9 ! _w1 ev5 if x sometimes lack$ t dignity :i* ! onlook] ?\ght desirable4 ,x is a crisis 9 ! life ( a "y maid5 :5 %e becomes consci\s = ! fir/ "t t %e is an object ( special int]e/ to a memb] ( ! opposite sex2 t int]e/ be+ convey$ 9 a ?\s& delicate yet unmi/akable ways1 :i* cause a /range flutt] at h] he>t1 & make h] exam9e h] own feel+s to f9d :e!r !re be a responsive *ord4 ,! mode/1 s5sible1 womanly girl1 :o is n yet ext9ct1 9 spite ( sundry croak]s1 w "k mu* bett] ?an anybody c tell h] h[ to adju/ h] own conduct at ?is crisis 9 h] life4 ,h] own innate delicacy & nic5ess ( p]ception w guide h] h[ to act1 & if ! att5tions be acceptable to h] %e w give j ! "r me$ ( enc\ragem5t1 s t ! c\rse ( true love may run smoo?ly t[>ds consummation4 ,( c\rse ! usual squalls & cross curr5ts mu/ be look$ =--else w\ld t delightful p]iod ( life be robb$ ( its *ief ze/ & *>m1 to say no?+ ( ! unhappy noveli/'s occupation1 :i* w\ld und\bt$ly be gone = ev]4 ,!re h occasionally be5 discussions z to ! desirability ( long engagem5ts1 & !re are suffici5t argum5ts bo? = & aga9/2 b ! be/ c\rse appe>s to be1 z 9 mo/ o!r affairs ( life1 to try & /rike ! happy m$ium4 ,( necessity1 circum/ances alt] cases4 ,:5 ! "y pair h kn[n ea* o!r = a long p]iod ( ye>s1 & !re are no ob/acles 9 ! way1 ! long engagem5t is !n sup]flu\s4 ,b 9 cases :]e an atta*m5t arises out ( a v brief acqua9tance1 ,i %\ld ?9k x desirable t "s little "t %\ld be giv5 = ! pair to "k some?+ ( ea* o!r be=e incurr+ ! s]i\s responsibility ( life toge!r4 ,( c\rse x is true t y _c ?or\ghly "k a p]son till y live ) him or h]2 yet x is surely possible to =m a fair e/imate ( p]sonal "* be=e ent]+ on t crucial ordeal1 & !re is no d\bt t fair opportunity giv5 = su* e/imate consid]ably r$uces ! matrimonial risk4 ,t ! risk is great & s]i\s ev5 ! mo/ giddy & ?\ghtless w n d5y4 ,no d\bt bo? m5 & maid5s are on _! be/ behavi\r dur+ c\rt+ days2 /ill1 if a mask be worn1 x mu/ ( necessity sometimes be drawn aside1 & a glimpse ( ! real p]sonality obta9$4 ,x is n = me to say :at %\ld or %\ld n be ! conduct ( a "y man dur+ 8 p]iod ( probation1 ?\gh ( c\rse ,i may be all[$ my own ideas conc]n+ x4 ,"o ?+1 h[ev]1 is v sure1 & t is1 t if he truly & :ole-he>t$ly love ! woman he desires to make 8 wife1 ?is pure & ennobl+ passion1 :i* ,i believe to be a means ( grace to e man1 w ar\se all t is be/ & pure/ & highe/ 9 him1--t is1 if ! woman be wor?y 8 reg>d1 & capable ( ex]cis+ su* an influ5ce ov] him4 ,x is possible = a man to det]iorate "u ! con/ant companion%ip ( a light-m9d$1 frivol\s woman1 :o by =ce ( h] p]sonal attractions & fasc9ations c keep him at h] side1 ev5 aga9/ 8 bett] judgm5t4 ,b only = a "t3 ! woman :o has beauty only1 & does n possess ^? la/+ qualities1 /ability ( m9d & purity ( he>t1 w n long reta9 h] hold ^u ! affections %e has won4 ,i w d m5 cr$it to believe t !y desire some?+ m 9 a wife ?an m]e physical attractions1 ?\gh ^! are by no means to be despis$4 ,i am sure e unm>ri$ man hopes to f9d 9 ! wife he may yet m>ry a companion & a sympa?is]1 :o w we> ! same /eadfa/ & lovely look on grey days z well z gold4 ,i once he>d a "y ,scot* work+ man give 8 def9ition ( a good wife--,a woman :o w be ! same to y on (f-,saturday z pay ,saturday4 ,nor 0 he v wide ( ! m>k4 ,i h no sort ( hesitation 9 lay+ d[n a law = ! guidance ( "y wom5 dur+ t halcyon "t be+ engag$4 ,%e kn[s v well1 )\t any tell+ f me1 t h] influ5ce is almo/ )\t limit4 ,9 ^! days be=e m>riage ! haunt+ fe> ( los+ h] is be=e h] lov]'s m9d1 mak+ him at once humble & pliable1 & x is !n t ! wise1 womanly girl s[s ! se$ :i* w be> ri* h>ve/ 9 ! m prosaic days ( m>ri$ life1 :5 _m engross+ c>es are apt to wean h] f ! f9] %ad+ ( high] ?+s4 ,& "h ,i w\ld wi% to emphasise "o inexorable fact1 :i* is too (t5 pass$ by or made light (4 ,i d n set x d[n 9 a bitt] or pessimi/ic _s1 b simply /at+ :at m5 & wom5 ( l>g] exp]i5ce "k to be true3 :at a man w n give up = a woman be=e m>riage1 he nev] w aft]4 ,!re=e no "y girl c make a m pr(\nd mi/ake ?an to m>ry a man ( d\btful habits 9 ! hope ( re=m+ him aft] %e is 8 wife4 ,! re=mation mu/ be begun1 if n end$ be=e1 or ! risks are p]il\s inde$4 ,%e w probably rep5t h] folly 9 sadness & te>s4 ,& "h ,i w\ld prote/1 & solemnly1 aga9/ t view1 held by "s wom51 ,i believe1 ?\gh ,i hope !y are few3 t a man is none ! worse = hav+ be5 a little fa/4 ,x is a mo/ dang]\s cre$1 & "o :i* has done mu* to l[] ! morals ( ?is & o!r days4 ,let u rev]se ! position1 & ask :e!r any man 9 8 "r m9d w admit z mu* 9 reg>d+ ! woman he w\ld make 8 wife4 ,if x is imp]ative t %e %\ld be blameless & pure1 let him see to x t 8 record also is clean--t he is fit to mate ) h]4 ,& ,i w\ld implore ! mi/ak5 & fooli% girls :o ent]ta9 an idea s false to e pr9ciple ( righte\sness & purity to put x f !m = ev]1 & exact f ! m5 to :om !y give !mselves s absolutely & irrevocably1 a /&>d ( purity z high z t set = !m4 ,i speak /rongly on ?is subject because x is "o on :i* ,i feel s v /rongly4 ,!re is no necessity = priggi%ness or prea*+2 ! womanly woman1 true to ! highe/ ideal1 ! ideal :i* ,god has set = h]1 c surr\nd h]self ) t atmosph]e1 indescribable1 undef9able1 b 9 ! pres5ce ( :i* impurity & lightness ( spee* or behavi\r _c live4 ,i believe wom5 are our great moral tea*]s--w\ld t m ( !m w\ld awak5 to ! /up5d\s greatness ( _! call+6 ,love is ! mo/ wond]ful educator 9 ! _w2 x op5s up worlds & possibilities undream$ ( to ^? to :om x comes1 ! gift ( ,god4 ,i am speak+ ( love :i* is wor?y ( ! "n1 n ( its _m c\nt]feits4 ,! g5u9e article only1 bas$ ^u respect & e/eem1 c /& ! te/ ( "t1 ! we> & te> ( life2 ! love :i* is ! w9e ( life1 m /imulat+ & m he>t-inspir+ :5 ! days are d>k ?an at any o!r "t1--! love :i* rises to ! occasion1 & :i* _m wat]s _c qu5*4 ,bless$ be ,god t x is /ill z possible to u m5 & wom5 ( to-day z to ! pair t dwelt 9 ,ed56 ,illu/ration ,,ii4 ,,! ,,ideal ,,wife4 ,n[ hav+ br\ght our "y pair s f> on ! road1 we mu/ ne$s g a /ep f>!r1 & see :at grit is 9 !m = ! pla9 prose ( daily life2 n t we admit or h9t = a mom5t t poetry mu/ be laid aside1 only ! prose may1 v likely w1 dem& _! fir/ consid]ation4 ,if ! novels mo/ eag]ly read1 mo/ con/antly s\ght aft] at ! libr>ies & book-%ops1 are any sign ( ! times1 we may feel v c]ta9 t m>riage has caus$ no dim9ution ( int]e/ 9 ^? look+ on1 b r ! rev]se1 s we may foll[ !m )\t hesitation across ! ?re%old ( _! new home4 ,& z ! wife is prop]ly suppos$ to be ! light & c5tre ( ! home1 we mu/ fir/ consid] h] position 9 x1 & h] fitness = x4 ,x is by no means s easy to fill ! position successfully z ! un9itiat$ are apt to suppose2 & ,i h no hesitation 9 say+ t ! fir/ ye> ( m>ri$ life is a crucial te/ ( a woman's disposition & "*4 ,x br+s out h] individuality 9 bold relief1 %[s h] at h] wor/ & be/4 ,%e has to give h]self s entirely & unres]v$ly1 & 9 _m cases to m]ge h] individuality 9 t ( ano!r1 t to d x ) grace requires a consid]able dra9 on h] fund ( unselfi%ness4 ,x is ev5 m difficult 9 cases :]e ! wife has come f a home :]e %e 0 idolis$1 & p]haps indulg$ a great deal m ?an 0 good = h]4 ,x seems to me t "o ( ! mo/ valuable qualities ! new wife c take ) h] is unselfi%ness4 ,equipp$ ) t1 ev]y?+ else w come easily4 ,:ile x is true t %e is requir$1 to a c]ta9 ext5t1 sometimes great] & sometimes less1 to take a back place1 %e mu/ be c>eful n to lose h] individuality1 to become m]ely an e*o ( h] husb&1 to r5d] h]self insipid4 ,x is a f9e di/9ction1 p]haps1 b necess>y to obs]ve1 because ,i am sure !re is no man "h pres5t1 m>ri$ or unm>ri$1 or any:]e else1 unless a fool1 :o w\ld wi% to be ti$ = life to a non5tity4 ,! woman :o de>ly loves h] husb& w nev] seek to usurp 8 place z head ( ! h\se2 nay1 %e w delight to keep h]self 9 ! backgr\nd if by s do+ he c %[ to m advantage4 ,ev5 if nature has end[$ h] ) gifts m ri*ly ?an h] sp\se1 %e w be c>eful1 out ( ! v weal? ( h] love1 n to make ! contra/ obs]vable4 ,x has be5 said t m5 pref] z wives wom5 ^: intellig5ce is n above ! av]age2 b is t n a libel on ! sex8 ,! high] ! intellig5ce ! m satisfactory ! p]=mance ( ! duties requir$ ( a reasonable be+2 & ,i w\ld !re=e insi/ t ! woman ( l>ge bra9 p[]1 provid$ %e has well-balanc$ judgm5t1 & a he>t z expansive z h] bra91 w m ne>ly approa* ! ideal 9 matrimony ?an ! m frivol\s woman1 :o has no ?\ght beyond h] p]sonal aggr&isem5t & adornm5t1 & :o buys h] new bonnet ) a kiss4 ,! woman :o looks ) intellig5t int]e/ ^u ! l>ge que/ions affect+ ! welf>e ( ! _w is likely to br+ a m wide & lov+ sympa?y to be> ^u ! conc]ns ( m imm$iate mom5t to h]1 & :i* affect ! welf>e ( all )9 ! walls ( h] home4 ,i am old-fa%ion$ en\gh to ?9k ^! latt] %\ld be h] fir/ conc]n1 b 9 h] l>ge he>t %e may h room = _m m2 = :5 ! outlook is n>r[ & mean1 :5 no?+ is deem$ ( consequ5ce except :at affects self & ^? circl$ by selfi% int]e/1 life becomes a poor ?+1 & human nature a /unt$ & mis]able quality4 ,i h kn[n1 z1 ,i d>esay1 y also h kn[n1 wom5 ^: :ole talk is my home1 my husb&1 my *ildr51 until "o gr[s we>y ( ! selfi% it]ation1 & prays to be deliv]$ f x4 ,we h ( late ye>s _h mu* amus+ & p]haps1 9 "s remote degree1 pr(itable newspap] discussion on ! subject ( m>ri$ life1 & ! respective m]its ( wives4 ,on ! :ole1 ! wife1 ,i ?9k1 has f>$ b badly at ! h&s ( h] critics4 ,%e is a great grievance to "s1 x w\ld appe>1 f ! m9ut5ess ) :i* h] faults & fail+s h be5 enum]at$4 ,t %e may h h] uses has be5 some:at grudg+ly admitt$2 t %e may 9 "s r>e in/ances sweet5 ! des]t ( life = h] mate is n absolutely d5i$2 b 9 ! ma9 %e is judg$ to h fall5 %ort--9 a ^w1 %e is n ideal4 ,( c\rse su* discussion & su* v]dict is b ! fro? on a pass+ wave2 /ill1 x s]ves to illu/rate my cont5tion t !re is no subject on e>? ( m surpass+ int]e/ to m5 & wom5 ?an ?is v !me we are consid]+4 ,! m5 :o h writt5 on ! subject lay great /ress on a lov+ disposition & an amiable temp]1 :i* are inde$ two mo/ p[]ful factors 9 ! sc5e ( w$d$ happ9ess4 ,an amiable temp] is a gift ( ,god :i* _c be too highly priz$1 s9ce ^? :o h x n mu/ be con/antly at w> ) self4 ,:5 comb9$ ) ^! sweet qualities is a l>ge me$ ( common s5se1 :i* accepts ! inevitable1 ev5 if x br+ disappo9tm5t & disillusionm5t 9 its tra91 ) a *e]ful philosophy1 !n is ! happ9ess ( m>ri$ life secur$4 ,! buffets ( =tune _c t\* x--its h\se is build$ on a rock4 ,x is ,lady ,h5ry ,som]set1 ,i ?9k1 :o has said t s5tim5tality has be5 f "t immemorial ! curse ( woman4 ,!re is a great deal ( tru? 9 ! rem>k4 ,we want wom5 to be deliv]$ f ?is sickly ?rall ( s5tim5tality--:i* ^w ,i use z di/9ct f s5tim5t1 a v diff]5t quality inde$2 we desire !m to take wid]1 heal?i]1 s\nd] views ( life4 ,9 fiction x is no long] consid]$ necess>y to br+ "o's h]o9e to ! v v]ge ( a decl9e 9 ord] to make h] int]e/+2 & nobody n[ has mu* sympa?y ) ,?ack]ay's fav\rite ,amelia1 & o!r limp "y wom5 :o are dissolv$ 9 te>s on ! smalle/ provocation1 sometimes on none at all4 ,no1 we want a m robu/ womanhood ?an t1 s\nd ( body & s\nd ( m9d1 9 ord] t our homes may be happy & well regulat$1 our *ildr5 born & re>$ fit = ! battle ( life4 ,a well-kn[n noveli/1 lectur+ rec5tly on ! y\ng] g5]ation ( fiction-writ]s1 rem>k$ t ,rob]t ,l\is ,/ev5son1 9 ignor+ woman s mu* 9 8 works1 _h pass$ by ! mo/ picturesque "p ( human life4 ,! cont5tion 0 p]fectly unimpea*able f ! arti/ic po9t ( view2 b we aim1 ,i tru/1 at be+ some?+ m ?an picturesque4 ,:ile n disda9+ ! high privilege ( giv+ ! romance & sweetness to life1 we w\ld desire also to be /rong1 capable1 s]viceable to our day & g5]ation4 ,s & s only c we hope to be ! equal & ! fri5d ( man4 ,b 9 ?is wor?y aim we h to /e] cle> ( _m quicks&s2 we mu/ avoid ! v semblance ( usurpation or imitation4 ,surely we are suffici5tly end[$ ) our own gifts & graces1 s p[]ful 9 _! influ5ce1 t ,i ne$ n enum]ate or expatiate ^u !m "h4 ,let u n =get t 9 true womanl9ess is our /r5g?1 & t ! end ( our be+ is to com=t & bless & love--nev] to usurp4 ,:at c be m melan*oly ?an to live ) a grumbl]1 to sit opposite a face prematurely wr9kl$ at ! br[s & d[n-droop$ at ! lips8 ,i h 9 my m9d's eye1 z p]haps y h 9 y\rs1 su* a woman1 ti$ to ! be/ ( good fell[s1 :o1 ?r\gh no fault ( 8 own1 has n z yet made su* headway 9 life z 0 expect$ ( him4 ,& 8 ,nemesis sits at home1 qu]ul\s & fretful because h] e/abli%m5t is m mode/ ?an h] ambition1 h] possessions ?an h] pret5sions4 ,life is embitt]$ to him2 hope has di$3 if love foll[ x sadly to ! bi]1 :o c blame him8 ,c]ta9ly n ! woman :o has be5 a h9drance & n a help1 "o ^: reproa*es1 tacit & ackn[l$g$1 h caus$ ! iron to ent] into 8 s\l4 ,x is su* wom5 :o s5d m5 to m5tal & moral de/ruction1 nor is _! puni%m5t lack+4 ,! ideal wife1 !n1 w s$ul\sly cultivate ! happy _s ( cont5tm5t1 & make ! be/ ( ev]y?+1 n seek+ to add to ! burd5 an already ov]work$ husb& may h to c>ry4 ,x is n ! abundance ( worldly possessions :i* makes happ9ess4 ,i c speak f p]sonal exp]i5ce1 & ,i c\ld tell y a /ory ( a "y pair :o began life 9 v humble circum/ances1 9 ! face ( mu* opposition1 & :o1 by d9t ( hone/1 fai?ful1 unit$ endeav\rs1 ov]came ob/acles ov] :i* ,exp]i5ce %ook h] head & call$ insurm\ntable4 ,& ! /ruggle be+ ov]1 ! memory ( x is sweet beyond all tell+1--! little %ifts to make ends meet1 ! con/ant plann+ & /riv+1 ! simple pleasures won by wait+ & h>d "w1 are possessions :i* !y w\ld n b>t] = untold gold4 ,! woman :o loves & is belov$ f9ds h]self /rong to be> ! ills t may meet h] f day to day4 ,we h mu* to be> physically1 & x is h>d to c>ry always a bright _s 9 a frail body2 b we h our comp5sations1 :i* are _m4 ,!y w at once occur to e sympa!tic & disc]n+ he>t1 b are !y n aft] all summ$ up 9 ! eloqu5t words ( ,holy ,writ1 ,! he>t ( h] husb& do? safely tru/ 9 h]2 ,h] *ildr5 arise & call h] bless$8 ,& ^!1 aft] all1 are ! heav5lie/ gifts = wom5 "h bel[1 & ! wise woman1 s bless$1 w always feel t h] possessions are great] ?an h] ne$s1 & 9 h] lov+ s]vice1 = h] own fir/1 & aft]w>ds = all :om h] bless$ influ5ce c rea*1 w z ne> z possible approa* ! ideal4 ,) ,god1 t5d] to ,woman always1 we may safely leave ! re/4 ,illu/ration ,,iii4 ,,! ,,ideal ,,husb&4 ,! duties & obligations ( ! husb& 9 ! h\se are surely n less b9d+ ?an ^? ( ! wife2 he has to contribute 8 %>e t[>ds its happ9ess or mis]y4 ,! ideal husb&1 f a woman's po9t ( view1 is a _m-sid$ creature2 b 8 out/&+ *>act]i/ic mu/ ( necessity be 8 p[] to make ! home ( :i* he is ! head come z ne> to ! heav5ly type z may be 9 ?is mundane sph]e4 ,h[ev] wise & wifely & absolutely consci5ti\s 9 h] endeav\r ! wife may be1 %e _c unaid$ make ! p]fect home--x mu/ be a jo9t conc]n4 ,! pity ( x is we s (t5 see two1 b\nd toge!r by ! close/ & mo/ indissoluble ( all e>?ly ties1 walk+ _! sep>ate ways1 =getful ( bo? _s & lett] ( _! m>riage v[s4 ,?is home-mak+ & home-keep+ quality is ! v :]e=e ( ! man's exi/5ce z a husb&2 = 8 home ) its %elt]1 adequate or inadequate1 is all he has to (f] 9 ex*ange = ! woman :o has giv5 him h]self4 ,if %e be *eat$ ( h] bir?right "h1 %e may consid] h]self poor inde$4 ,!re are und\bt$ly v _m selfi% & purely self-seek+ wom51 :o />ve ! atmosph]e ab\t !m2 b z a rule ! beauty ( true unselfi%ness is (t5] f\nd adorn+ ! female "* ?an ! male4 ,nobody attempts to d5y ?is1 !re=e :5 we meet a truly unselfi% man we mu/ reg>d him ) rev]5ce1 z a be+ truly great4 ,x is )\t d\bt a m ardu\s task = a man to cultivate ! unselfi% _s1 because ! tra9+ ( ! race = c5turies has r t5d$ to ! fo/]+ ( selfi%ness 9 him--woman hav+ = long be5 *eat$ ( h] lawful place & p[] 9 ! s*eme ( creation4 ,! quality mo/ ( all admir$ by woman 9 man is manl9ess3 %e c =give almo/ any?+ b 8 lack ( c\rage4 ,! manly man1 consci\s ( 8 /r5g?1 is ( necessity t5d] & consid]ate t[>ds ^? weak] ?an himself1 & s w9s _! confid5ce & love4 ,:5 he m>ries1 !re=e1 he takes a wife to %ield h] f ! rude bla/s ( ! _w2 all t 8 c>e & t5d]ness c d w be done to make light] = h] ! ord9>y burd5s ( life4 ,nor w he expect impossibilities1 nor gr[l because he f9ds he has m>ri$ a v human woman1 ) a great _m ne$s & wants4 ,angels d n mate ) mortals1 ! contra/ w\ld be too "o-sid$4 ,x is well ) ! man :o has 9 8 wife n only a bright companion = 8 days ( sun%9e1 b :o 9 ! crises ( 8 life f9ds 9 h] he>t ! jewel ( common s5se & ! pe>l ( a quick und]/&+4 ,! wife :o compreh5ds him at once :5 he says exp5diture has be5 too heavy1 t x mu/ be r$uc$ to meet ! alt]$ f9ances1 & :o n only compreh5ds1 b *e]fully acquiesces1 plann+ ) him h[ retr5*m5t c be/ be c>ri$ out2 ! wife to :om ! lack ( ! new bonnet or ! new c>pet is a matt] ( small mom5t1--%e x is :o makes glad ! he>t ( h] husb&4 ,ay1 b :at k9d ( a husb&8 ,he mu/ fir/ des]ve ?is jewel be=e he c expect h] to display ^? qualities :i* money _c buy1 b :i* prev5t m>riage f be+ ! failure sundry croak]s w\ld h u believe4 ,h[ is he to des]ve h]8 h[ w9 h] to ?is mo/ desirable height ( p]fection8 ,by treat+ h] z an entirely reasonable be+1 :i* mo/ wom5 are1 9 spite ( _m affirmations to ! contr>y4 ,! monet>y basis ( ! engagem5t matrimonial is n1 un=tunately1 always s\nd4 ,h[ common x is = a man to keep 8 wife 9 utt] ignorance ( ! /ate ( 8 affairs1 ?us depriv+ h] ( ! only safe guide %e c h 9 ! conduct ( h] dome/ic affairs6 ,if a woman is to be a man's true helpmeet1 %e mu/ /& %\ld] to %\ld] ) him 9 ev]y?+1 %>+ z f> z is possible 8 anxieties & 8 hopes1 & by judici\s exp5diture ( 8 means aid+ him to ! be/ position x is possible = him to atta94 ,( c\rse !re are poor silly creatures fit to be wife to no man1 :o d n des]ve & c\ld n appreciate confid5ce1 & :o are lam5tably ignorant ( ! value ( ,l s4 d4 ,b ! majority ( wives1 ,i w\ld hope1 possess suffici5t common s5se to compreh5d ! simple que/ions ( income & exp5diture :5 c&idly plac$ be=e !m4 ,h[ delightful1 z well z imp]ative1 to g into a committee ( ways & means p]iodically1 talk+ ov] ev]y?+ confid5tially1 & feel+ ! sweet bond ( union gr[+ clos] & de>] because ( ! c>es & worries none c escape1 ?\gh love & sympa?y c make !m light6 ,!re is a type ( husb&--un=tunately r common--:o begrudges 8 wife1 :atev] h] "* & disposition1 e p5ny %e sp5ds1 ev5 ?\gh x is sp5t prim>ily = 8 own com=t1 & :o has nev] 9 8 life *e]fully op5$ out to h] 8 purse1 :atev] he may h done ) ! ?+ he calls 8 he>t4 ,?is is a v s]i\s matt]1 & "o :i* presses heavily on ! he>ts ( _m wives4 ,x is h>d = a "y girl1 :o may 9 h] fa!r's h\se h _h pocket money always to supply h] simple ne$s1 to f9d h]self aft] m>riage practically p5niless--hav+ to ask = e p5ny %e requires1 & (t5 to expla9 m9utely h[ & :]e x is to be sp5t4 ,i h kn[n a man :o requir$ an absolute acc\nt ( e halfp5ny sp5t by 8 wife1 & :o took f h] *ange ( ! %ill+ he _h giv5 h] = a cab f>e4 ,we mu/ pray1 = ! cr$it ( ! sex1 t !re are few s lo/ to all g5tlemanly feel+1 to speak ( no?+ else2 b x is c]ta9 t1 ?r\gh ?\ghtlessness z mu* z /+9ess (t51 _m s5sitive wom5 suff] ke5ly f ?is =m ( humiliation4 ,x ought n to be4 ,if a woman is wor?y to be tru/$ ) a man's hon\r1 :i* is suppos$ to be m valuable to him ?an 8 gold1 let h] likewise be tru/$ ) a little ( ! latt]1 )\t hav+ to crave x & answ] = x z a s]vant s5t on an err& c\nts out ! copp] *ange to h] ma/] on h] return4 ,!re are _m little h>mless trifles a woman wants1 _m small k9dnesses %e w\ld d on ! impulse ( ! mom5t1 _h %e money 9 h] purse2 & ?\gh %e may sometimes n be altoge!r wise1 %e is bless$ 9 ! do+1 & nobody is ! poor]4 ,h[ev] small a man's income1 !re are surely a few odd %ill+s ! wife might h = h] v own1 if only to gratify h] h>mless little :ims1 & to make h] feel t %e sometimes has a p5ny to sp>e4 ,x is q desirable1 ,i ?9k1 t !re %\ld be1 ev5 :]e means are limit$ 7,i am n ( c\rse allud+ to work+ p ^: weekly wage is b>ely suffici5t = family ne$s71 "s arrangem5t :]eby ! wife may h some?+1 h[ev] small1 ^u :i* %e c dep5d1 & :i* %e c sp5d :5 & h[ %e pleases4 ,"s indulg5t fa!rs1 =esee+ ! possibility ( _! daught]s feel+ ! lack ( a little money1 cont9ue _! all[ance to _! m>ri$ daught]s2 b !re are v few husb&s1 "o w\ld ?9k1 :o w\ld c>e to leave _! wives s dep5d5t = little luxuries x %\ld be _! privilege to supply4 ,! lab\r] is surely wor?y ( 8 hire2 & ! wife1 ^u ^: %\ld]s ! dome/ic load presses mo/ heavily1 is z ju/ly entitl$ to h] paym5t z h] h\semaid1 ^: duties are m cle>ly def9$4 ,"s high-fl[n p]sonages may ?9k ?is a v gross view ( ! case1 & say1 p]*ance1 t :]e love is !re c nev] be any h>d%ip felt4 ,b ,i "k t ,i t\* ^u :at is a sore po9t ) _m wom51 & ,i c only hope t if any /+y husb&s read ^! words !y w try a little exp]im5t on _! own acc\nt1 & see h[ ! unexpect$ gift ( a little money1 (f]$ lov+ly1 c br+ ! light back to eyes :i* h gr[n a little we>y1 & smoo? ! l9es away f a br[ :i* c>e has wr9kl$ be=e its "t4 ,! ideal husb& we are consid]+ w also be a home-keep+ husb&4 ,let me n "h be misund]/ood4 ,no s5sible woman w desire to keep h] husb& always at h] side1 nor c any woman make a m pr(\nd mi/ake ?an to try & wean ! man %e has m>ri$ away f all 8 old fri5ds & associations4 ,i am speak+ ( good m51 ( c\rse1 ^: fri5ds & associations are su* z %e ne$ n reg>d ) appreh5sion4 ,yet x is a mi/ake :i* _m wom5 make1 & x is a common say+ ) ! ba*elors :o may miss a c]ta9 bright _s f _! mid/1 ,oh1 nobody ev] sees him n[1 he's m>ri$6 ,& !re is a peculi> emphasis on ! la/ ^w :i* y mu/ he> to appreciate1 b x signifies t he is z good z dead4 ,n[ :y %\ld ?is be8 ,! wise wife1 in/ead ( be+ s small-m9d$ & jeal\s1 %\ld try to rememb] t !re is a side ( man's nature :i* dem&s sympa?y & contact ) 8 own sex--& also t h] husb& knew & lov$ ^! old fri5ds ( 8 p]haps be=e he ev] saw h]4 ,let h] try in/ead to make !m all s welcome 9 h] home t !y w come & come aga91 & in/ead ( pity+ h] husb& because he has got 8 head into a noose w g away ?9k+ him a lucky fell[4 ,?is is n an impossibility4 ,x c be done4 ,b :ile ?is husb& ( ours does n give up 8 old fri5ds ( 8 own sex1 nor abjure all ! manly pursuits & recreations s de> to 8 s\l 9 8 /ate ( ba*elorhood1 he w take c>e t !y d n absorb an undue %>e ( 8 leisure1 b w pref] home & wife to !m all1 & let h] "k x4 ,he w n be above express+ 8 satisfaction :5 8 home sudd5ly /rikes him ) m =ce ?an usual z be+ ! sweete/ place on e>?2 he w say s j z frankly z he f9ds fault :5 !re is j cause = compla9t2 & %e w return x by a lov+ int]e/ press$ d[n & runn+ ov]1 or ,i am nei!r woman nor wife4 ,! ideal husb&1 !n1 is no m p]fect ?an ! ideal wife2 nor w\ld %e wi% him to be o!r ?an he is1 manly1 g5]\s1 k9dly-he>t$1 well-condition$1 &1 above all ?+s1 true z /eel4 ,t he occasionally loses 8 temp]1 & does _m ?\ghtless & /upid ?+s1 makes no diff]5ce s long z 8 he>t is pure & t5d] & true4 ,! ideal relation%ip betwixt husb& & wife has always appe>$ to me to be comrade%ip1--a /&+ %\ld] to %\ld]1 uphold+ ea* o!r ?r\gh ?ick & ?91 & above all keep+ _! inn] sanctu>y sacr$ f ! _w4 ,:at says "o ( our greate/ tea*]s 9 ,romola8--,%e :o will+ly lifts ! veil f h] m>ri$ life trans=ms x f a sanctu>y into a vulg> place4 ,^! are solemn words1 solemn & true4 ,we h 9 ^! /range days too mu* publicity--! fi]ce light beats n only on ! ?rone b on ! humbl] home4 ,! crav+ = details relat+ to ! private life ( ^? :o may 9 any degree /& out among _! fell[s has develop$ into a species ( disease4 ,kept )9 due b\nds ?is curiosity is 9 itself h>mless1 & may be to a c]ta9 ext5t gratifi$1 b ! privacy ( dome/ic life _c be too sacr$ly gu>d$2 ! home ought to be to tir$ m5 & wom5 a v]itable sanctu>y :]e !y c be at peace4 ,illu/ration ,,iv4 ,,! ,,fir/ ,,ye> ,,( ,,m>ri$ ,,life4 ,?is is ! crucial p]iod 9 ! lives ( mo/ m>ri$ p2 ! te/ :i* decides ! wisdom or ! folly ( ! /ep !y h tak54 ,n[1 :5 ! irrevocable words h be5 said1 ! v[ tak5 = bett] or = worse1 & ! door %ut ^u ! outside _w1 if any mask has be5 worn x is laid aside & true self reveal$4 ,to "s ?is means disillusionm5t1 & disappo9tm5t is inevitable1 s9ce m>riage is ent]$ on f a great v>iety ( motives1 & love is n always ! fir/ & mo/ pot5t4 ,) ^!1 mean:ile1 we d n propose to deal2 _! puni%m5t is c]ta91 s9ce !re c be no mis]y on e>? m hopeless & m gall+ ?an ! mis]y ( a loveless m>riage4 ,b ev5 ord9>y happy & s5sible p1 :o h m>ri$ = love1 & :o hone/ly desire to make _! home z f> z possible an e>?ly p>adise1 _c escape ! inevitable /ra9 ( ?is fir/ ye> ( m>ri$ life4 ,to beg9 )1 x is a trite say+ t y _c "k a p]son until y live ) him or h]2 & p come to ye>s ( maturity h =m$ habits ( ?\ght & action :i* may1 9 "s cases mu/1 cla% ) ^? ( ! o!r ) :om !y are br\ght into contact e day4 ,contact1 too1 f :i* x is impossible to escape4 ,y meet 9 bus9ess & society _m p]sons ) :om y f9d x difficult to agree1 ^: op9ions j> ^u y1 & :o rub y ! wrong way1 & y f9d x irksome en\gh to meet su* a p]son ev5 occasionally2 imag9e1 !n1 :at x w\ld be l 7 y plac$ 91 or =c$ to endure1 8 or h] companion%ip e day4 ,yet su* is ! exp]i5ce ( "s m>ri$ p]sons1 :o h ru%$ into matrimony )\t due k or consid]ation4 ,b leav+ ^! extreme cases out ( ! "q1 mean:ile let u ?9k ( ! te/ ( p]petual companion%ip z appli$ to an ord9>y pair :o ent] on m>ri$ life ) ! ord9>y prospect ( happ9ess4 ,dur+ ! days ( c\rt%ip & engagem5t !y1 ( c\rse1 saw a good deal ( ea* o!r1 & got to "k1 z !y ?\ght1 e peculi>ity & *>act]i/ic4 ,sometimes1 ev51 !y _h qu>rels aris+ out ( trifles1 fooli% misund]/&+s :i* caus$ s]i\s he>t-burn+s1 none ( :i*1 h[ev]1 7 ( long duration2 & ! mak+ up 0 inv>iably sweet en\gh to atone = ! tempor>y mis]y1 & help to make up ! poetry ( life4 ,b ! lov]s' qu>rel & ! qu>rel matrimonial are entirely diff]5t2 & :ile ! =m] is usually b a pass+ breeze1 ! latt] is m s]i\s1 & to be avoid$ almo/ at any co/4 ,we want fair w9ds always1 if possible1 to spe$ our matrimonial b>que2 we d n wi% its timb]s %ak5 by ! :irlw9d ( passion4 ,we h all our little peculi>ities1 excresc5ces ( "* :i* are apt to rub r\ghly aga9/ our neighb\rs' s5sibilities1 let u n1 :5 feel+ ^! drawbacks1 =get our own4 ,we are s apt to magnify 9 o!rs1 & to m9imise 9 ourselves4 ,x is easy to be on good behavi\r ) a p]son we only see occasionally1 ev5 e day1 s long z ! c>es & worries ( life are 9 ! backgr\nd1 nev] obtrud$1 h[ev] heavily !y press1 because ^! %ort mom5ts are too preci\s to be cl\d$ 9 any way4 ,x is easy to be unselfi% = a little :ile2 to b[1 n[ & !n1 absolutely to ano!r's w2 to suff] discom=t once a week1 if necess>y1 to make a de> "o com=table4 ,all su* little sacrifices dur+ c\rt+ days seem b a privilege1 & make up ! poetry ( t happy "t4 ,b ! day comes soon] or lat] to ! m>ri$ pair1 :5 ! prose pages mu/ be turn$1 & poetry relegat$ to ! backgr\nd1 days on :i* ! reality ( life1 9 all its grim nak$ness1 seems to bani% romance1 & :5 love ne$s all its /r5g? & /ay+ p[] = ! fight4 ,! common-s5se man or woman1 ( :i* type a few examples yet rema9 ) u1 w prep>e !mselves = ! slight disappo9tm5ts :i* are inevitable1 :5 two p1 reg>d+ ea* o!r f an ador+ di/ance1 & hav+ inve/$ ea* o!r ) _m exagg]at$ gifts & graces1 put !mselves volunt>ily to ! te/ ( ev]yday life1 ) all its prosaic details1 its crosses & losses1 its sil5ces & its te>s4 ,x is l mak+ a new acqua9tance1 hav+ to meet ea* o!r 9 all situations1 & 9 v>i\s unromantic & sometimes supremely try+ conditions4 ,edw9 pac+ 8 *amb] floor ana!matis+ a buttonless %irt is a picture our comic j\rnals h made famili> to u2 & ,angel9a 9 h] curl-pap]s & untidy morn+ g[n looks a diff]5t be+ f ! sylph 9 ev5+ attire all smiles & blu%es4 ,^! extreme examples s]ve only to illu/rate my cont5tion1 t ! clos5ess ( ! m>riage relation c>ries its p]il ) x4 ,to ! man or woman1 h[ev]1 :o m>ries = t love :i* is bas$ on ! qualities ( bo? head & he>t1 & :o kn[s t daily life1 ) its rubs & scrubs1 w sometimes m> ! sweete/ temp] & cl\d ! s]5e/ br[1 !re _c come any s]i\s disillusionm5t4 ,lov+ ea* o!r de>ly1 !y rememb] !y are b human2 & z p]fection is n inborn 9 humanity1 !y accept ea* o!r's faults & %ortcom+s gracefully1 n magnify+ !m s\rly & grumbl+ly1 b be>+ ) !m1 & rejoic+ 9 & accept+ ! good4 ,dome/ic life to ! "y & untri$ h\sekeep] is some?+ ( an ordeal4 ,%e may h _h h] own place 9 h] fa!r's home1 h] own special duties to att5d to1 ev5 h] own %>e ( responsibility4 ,/ill1 x is an altoge!r diff]5t matt] to h ! entire c>e ( a h\sehold1 to guide all its conc]ns1 & be responsible = ! dome/ic com=t ( all )9 ! f\r walls ( ! h\se4 ,happy ! "y wife :o _h a wise "m1 & came well-equipp$ f ! p>5tal home4 ,!re is no m fruitful s\rce ( ! disappo9tm5t & disillusionm5t ( :i* we h be5 speak+ ?an incapacity on ! "p ( ! "y wife to /e] ! dome/ic boat4 ,all m5 l creature com=ts1 & are m ke5ly s5sible p]haps ?an wom5 to ! advantages ( a well-ord]$ home4 ,we all "k h[ wom5 liv+ alone are apt to neglect !mselves 9 ! matt] ( prep>+ regul> & sub/antial meals2 & h[ _m suff] !reby4 ,a good d9n] is m to a man ?an x is to a woman2 &1 = my "p1 ,i d n see :y x %\ld be necess>y to sne] at a man because he desires & c enjoy a :olesome1 well-cook$ meal4 ,x is a sign ( a heal?y body & a s\nd m9d1 & ! true h\sewife is nev] happi] ?an :5 %e cat]s successfully = ! memb]s ( h] h\sehold1 & beholds ! he>ty appreciation ( h] lab\rs4 ,x is ! cu/om 9 c]ta9 qu>t]s 9 ^! days to decry ?is special dep>tm5t ( woman's "w1 & to belittle its importance1 b ,i am old-fa%ion$ en\gh to hold t "o ( ! mo/ ess5tial po9ts ( fitness = ! m>ri$ life 9 woman is h] ability to keep h\se economically1 wisely1 & successfully4 ,no?+ w ev] conv9ce me t su* fitness is n "o ( h] solemn & b9d+ duties2 9 fact1 x is "o ( ! reasons ( h] exi/5ce z a wife4 ,sometimes h] worries & p]plexities1 at fir/1 re/+ entirely on h] %\ld]s1 may give to h] tongue an unusually %>p edge1 & %e may f9d x a too s]i\s ef=t to smile j :5 h] sp\se may ?9k x "r & fitt+ t %e %\ld4 ,out ( :at trifles d great issues arise6 ,let n ! sun g d[n ^u y\r wra?4 ,my advice to ! "y wife :5 ?+s d n g well ) h]1 :5 %e gr[s hot & tir$ ov] a we>y d9n]1 :i* does n turn out ! success %e wi%es1 or :5 %e has be5 tri$ beyond all pati5ce ) h] help1--my advice is1 ,don't nag4 ,be *e]ful4 ,swall[ ! pill 9 ! kit*5 at any co/1 b1 above all1 don't nag6 ,a man w /& almo/ any?+ b nagg+4 ,don't save up a long /r+ ( mis]ies1 small & big1 to p\r on to him ! mom5t he puts 8 head 9 at ! door4 ,yes1 ,i "k all ab\t x--t ! day has be5 long & dre>y1 t no?+ has gone "r1 & y h _h nobody to %>e x2 b ,i want y to let ! man h 8 d9n] or 8 tea 9 peace be=e y relate ! tale ( y\r woes4 ,x w make all ! diff]5ce 9 ! _w to 8 reception ( x4 ,try to rememb] t he has _h a long day too1 t1 maybe1 he has be5 nagg$ & worri$ 9 ! (fice1 or ! m>ket1 or beh9d ! c\nt]2 & t he left x ) relief1 hop+ = a little fireside com=t at home4 ,let him enjoy fir/1 at lea/1 ! meal y h prep>$ or sup]9t5d$1 !n1 :5 y bo? h eat51 y w be 9 a bett] mood = ! discussion ( ! little worries :i* look$ s big & black all day4 ,if !y h n disappe>$ altoge!r by ?is "t !y h at lea/ s5sibly decreas$ 9 size & numb]4 ,ano!r ?+ ,i %\ld l to impress on ! "y wife1 & t is ! absolute necessity ( be+ z fa/idi\s & da9ty ) h] p]sonal appe>ance aft] m>riage z be=e4 ,x is a poor complim5t to a man to %[ t y c>e s little = 8 op9ion z a husb& t y c't or won't take ! tr\ble to dress up = him4 ,de> girls1 contemplat+ ! f9al leap1 ,i want y to und]/& t y c af=d a great deal less to be c>eless aft] m>riage ?an be=e2 because y h n[ to keep ! husb& y h won4 ,m5 l :at is bright & *e]ful1 & pleasant to behold4 ,s f> z y are conc]n$ see t y are nev] an eyesore4 ,ev5 if y h y\r own "w to d1 !re is no necessity :y y %\ld be a d[dy or a slatt]n4 ,ev5 a cotton dress clean & da9tily made c be z becom+ to y z a robe ( silk & lace4 ,x is a great deal m important = y to keep y\r husb&'s love & respect ?an x 0 to w9 !m z a lov]2 because n[ y\r /ake is great]--9 fact1 x is y\r all4 ,to ! husb& ,i w\ld say1 ,be k9d1 be true1 be appreciative always4 ,if y h to f9d fault d x g5tly4 ,!re are two ways ( do+ & say+ ev]y?+4 ,take "t to *oose ! bett]1 ! k9d]1 ! m helpful & enc\rag+4 ,mo/ wom5 are quick to respond to ! slighte/ t\* ( k9dness1 ! sun%9e _! m dep5d5t natures require4 ,see t y1 hav+ tak5 ?is "y creature f ! %elt] ( a lov+ p>5tal home1 d n />ve h] 9 an atmosph]e ( cold criticism & fault-f9d+4 ,rememb] t %e is "y1 inexp]i5c$1 ignorant ( _m ?+s1 & t wisdom walks ) ye>s4 ,little ?+s ^!1 y say8 ,yes1 fri5d1 b great & f>-rea*+ 9 _! issues ev5 to ! wreck or salvation ( a human s\l4 ,to bo? 9 ! e>ly days1 ,live ne> to ,god1--,8 bless+ alone c consecrate ! home4 ,s w y\r la/ days be bett] ?an y\r fir/1 & love be z sweet & s\l-satisfy+ on ! br9k ( ! grave1 at ! close ( ! long pilgrimage y h made toge!r1 z 9 ! halcyon days1 :5 all ! _w 0 "y4 ,illu/ration ,v4 ,,! ,,ideal ,,home4 ,a h\se is n a home1 al?\gh x has sometimes to pass z su*4 ,!re are impos+ mansions1 replete ) magnific5ce & luxury1 :i* if realis$ w\ld provide ! outw>d trapp+s ( _m mode/ domiciles1 b :i* (f] %elt] & no?+ m to _! possessors4 ,home is made by ^? :o dwell )9 its walls1 by ! atmosph]e !y create2 & if t _s :i* makes humble ?+s beautiful & graci\s be abs5t1 !n !re c be no home 9 ! full & true s5se ( ! ^w4 ,:ile ea* memb] ( ! h\sehold contributes m or less to ! upbuild+ ( ! fabric1 x is1 ( c\rse1 ^? at ! head ^: influ5ce makes or m>s4 ,a less] influ5ce may be felt 9 a degree great en\gh to modify disagreeable elem5ts1 or int5sify happy ones1 b x _c1 save 9 v exceptional circum/ances1 set aside ! influ5ce ( ^? at ! head4 ,x is to !m1 !n1 t our few words "u ?is head+ mu/ be address$2 &1 to r$uce x to a /ill n>r[] basis1 x is ! woman's duty & privilege1 & solemn responsibility1 :i* make ?is art ( home-mak+ m int]e/+ & important to h] ?an any o!r art 9 ! _w4 ,h] "r to /udy x1 & to make x a glori\s & p]fect ?+1 w nev] be = a mom5t que/ion$1 ev5 9 ?is age ( fi]ce rivalry & ke5 competition = ! good ?+s ( life4 ,9 h] own k+dom %e may make new laws & inaugurate improvem5ts )\t let or h9drance1 & z a rule %e w meet ) m gratitude & appreciation ?an usually fall to ! lot ( law-giv]s & law-mak]s4 ,%e w also f9d 9 h] own doma9 scope = h] highe/ en]gies1 & = ! ex]cise ( su* orig9ality z %e may be end[$ )4 ,i d n "k ( any sph]e ) a wid] scope1 b ( c\rse x requires ! op5 eye & ! und]/&+ he>t to disc]n ?is fact4 ,x seems sup]flu\s1 aft] ! *apt]s prec$+ ?is1 to say aga9 t ! v fir/ pr9ciple to be le>n$ 9 ?is art ( home-mak+ mu/ be love4 ,)\t x ! o!r virtues act b feebly4 ,!re may be pati5ce1 skill1 tact1 =be>ance1 b )\t true love ! home _c rea* its p]fect /ate4 ,x may well be a com=table abode1 a place :]e creature com=ts ab\nd1 & :]e !re is mu* quiet peace ( m9d2 b ^? :o dwell 9 su* an atmosph]e ! hidd5 sweetness ( home w nev] t\*4 ,!re w be he>t-hung] & vague discont5ts1 :i* puzzle & irritate1 & :i* only ! sun%9e ( love c dispel4 ,home-mak+1 l ! o!r arts1 is ) "s an inborn gift1--! secret ( mak+ o!rs happy1 ( conf]r+ bless+s1 ( scatt]+ ! sunny l>gesse ( love ev]y:]e1 is z natural to "s z to brea!4 ,su* sweet s\ls are to be envi$1 z are ^? ^: happy lot x is to dwell ) !m4 ,b1 at ! same "t1 p]haps !y are n s des]v+ ( our admiration & respect z "s :o1 9 ord] to conf] happ9ess on o!rs1 !mselves und]go :at is to !m m5tal & moral privation1 :o day by day h to keep a curb on !mselves 9 ord] to crucify ! natural man4 ,x is possible1 ev5 = "s :om ,nature has n end[$ ) h] lovelie/ gifts1 to cultivate t _s 9 :i* is hidd5 ! :ole secret ( home happ9ess4 ,x is ! _s ( unselfi%ness4 ,no selfi% man or woman has ! p[] to make a happy home4 ,by selfi%1 ,i mean giv+ prom95ce always to ! dem&s & int]e/s ( self1 to ! detrim5t or exclusion ( ! int]e/s & ev5 ! rights ( o!rs4 ,x is possible1 h[ev]1 = a selfi% p]son to possess a c]ta9 sup]ficial gift ( sun%9e1 :i* creates = ! "t be+ a pleasant atmosph]e1 :i* c deceive ^? :o come casually into contact ) him2 b ^? :o see him 9 all 8 moods are n deceiv$4 ,!y "k by exp]i5ce t a peaceful & endurable environm5t c only be secur$ & ma9ta9$ by a con/ant p&]+ to 8 :ims & ways4 ,he mu/ be /udi$1 n at an odd "t1 b cont9u\sly & sy/ematically1 or woe betide ! happ9ess ( home6 ,:5 ?is elem5t is conspicu\s 9 ! woman :o rules ! h\sehold1 !n t h\sehold des]ves our pity4 ,a selfi% woman is m selfi%1 if ,i may s put x1 ?an a selfi% man4 ,h] tyranny is m petty & m rel5tless4 ,%e ex]cises x 9 ^? c\ntless trifl+ ?+s :i*1 insignificant 9 !mselves1 yet possess ! p[] to make life almo/ insuff]able4 ,sometimes %e is fretful & compla9+1 on ! outlook = slights & injuries1 s suspici\s ( ^? surr\nd+ h] t !y feel !mselves p]petually on ! br9k ( a volcano4 ,or %e is meek & m>tyr$1 be>+ ! buffets ( a rude _w & unk9d relatives ) pi\s resignation2 or self-righte\s & complac5t1 conv9c$ t %e & %e alone kn[s & does ! prop] ?+1 & requir+ absolutely t all )9 h] jurisdiction %\ld see eye to eye ) h]4 ,x is no slight1 insignificant doma91 ?is k+dom ( home1 9 :i* ! woman reigns4 ,9 "o family !re are sure to be div]sities ( dispositions & contra/s ( "* mo/ p]plex+ & difficult to deal )4 ,%e ne$s s mu* wisdom1 pati5ce1 & tact t sometimes h] he>t fails h] at ! v>i$ requirem5ts %e is expect$ to meet1 & to meet bo? capably & *e]fully4 ,if %e has be5 h]self tra9$ 9 a well-ord]$ home1 s mu* ! bett] = h]4 ,%e has h] model to copy1 & h] opportunities be=e h] to improve ^u x4 ,e home is b\nd to be> ! impress ( ! individuality :i* guides x4 ,if x be a weak & col\rless individuality1 !n s mu* ! worse = ! home1 :i* mu/ be its reflex4 ,?is fact has1 ,i ?9k1 some?+ solemn 9 x = wom51 & x is some:at sadd5+ t s _m look ^u ! responsibilities t home-mak+ entails )\t ! smalle/ consid]ation4 ,v]ily fools ru% 9 :]e angels fe> to tread6 ,if !y ?9k ( ! responsibility at all1 !y com=t !mselves ) ! delusion t x is e woman's natural gift to keep h\se2 b h\sekeep+ & home-mak+ are two diff]5t ?+s1 ?\gh ea* is dep5d5t on ! o!r4 ,?is ?\ghtlessness1 :i* results 9 mu* ne$less dome/ic mis]y1 is ! less excusable because we he> & read s mu* ab\t ! ine/imable value ( home influ5ces1 ! p[]ful & p]man5t nature ( e>ly impressions1 ev5 if we are n ourselves liv+ examples ( ! same4 ,let u ea* exam9e our own he>t & m9d1 & j ask ourselves h[ mu* we owe to ! influ5ces surr\nd+ e>ly life1 & h[ mu* m vivid are ! lessons & impressions ( *ildhood comp>$ ) ^? ( a lat] date4 ,! contemplation is b\nd to a/oni% u1 & if x does n awak5 9 u a high] s5se ( responsibility reg>d+ ^? :o are "u ! direct sway ( our influ5ce1 !n !re is some?+ amiss ) our ideal ( life & its purpose4 ,illu/ration ,,vi4 ,,keep+ ,,! ,,h\se4 ,mak+ ! home & keep+ ! h\se are two diff]5t ?+s1 ?\gh closely alli$4 ,hav+ consid]$ ! graces ( m9d & he>t :i* s l>gely contribute to ! successful art ( home-mak+1 x is n less necess>y t we n[ devote our att5tion to ! m practical1 & c]ta9ly n less important1 quality ( h\sekeep+4 ,ignorance ( ! prosaic details ( h\sekeep+ is ! prim>y cause ( mu* ( ! dome/ic worry & discom=t t exi/1 to say no?+ ( ! m s]i\s discords t may arise f su* a defect 9 ! fitness ( ! woman suppos$ to be ! home-mak]4 ,= su* ignorance1 or lack ( fitness1 to use a mild] t]m1 !re does n appe> to me to be any excuse2 x is s ne$less1 s (t5 wilful4 ,"s blame c>eless1 indiff]5t mo!rs1 :o d n seem to h pr(it$ by _! own exp]i5ce1 b all[ _! daught]s to gr[ up 9 idl5ess1 & laun* !m on ! sea ( matrimony ) a v fa9t idea ( :at is requir$ ( !m 9 _! new sph]e4 ,x is v repreh5sible conduct on ! "p ( su* mo!rs1 & if 9 a %ort "t ! bright sky ( _! daught]s' happ9ess beg9s to cl\d a little1 !y ne$ n wond] or feel aggriev$4 ,a man is q ju/ifi$ 9 expect+ & exact+ a mod]ate degree ( com=t at lea/ 9 8 own h\se1 & if x is n =?com+ may be =giv5 a compla9t4 ,he is to be piti$1 b 8 unhappy wife mu* m des]ves our pity1 s9ce %e f9ds h]self amid a sea ( tr\bles1 at ! m]cy ( h] s]vants1 if %e possesses !m2 & if mod]ate circum/ances necessitate ! p]=mance ( ! bulk ( h\sehold duties1 !n h] pr$icam5t is melan*oly inde$4 ,to rev]t aga9 to our ,angel9a & ,edw9 ( ! comic pap]s1 we h ! ?readb>e jokes at ! exp5se ( ! new husb& subject$ to ! ordeal ( ,angel9a's awful cook+4 ,at fir/ he is =be>+ & enc\rag+2 b 9 ! end1 :5 no improvem5t is visible1 ! honeymoon beg9s to wane mu* m rapidly ?an ei!r anticipat$4 ,edw9 becomes sulky1 discont5t$1 & compla9+2 ,angel9a te>ful or indignant1 z h] temp]am5t dictates1 b equally & mis]ably helpless4 ,! *ances are t "t w n improve b r aggravate h] tr\bles1 especially if ! c>es ( mo!rhood be add$ to ^? ( wifehood1 :i* %e f9ds q en\gh = h] capacities4 ,true1 "s wom5 h a clev] knack ( adapt+ !mselves readily to e circum/ance1 & pick up k ) amaz+ rapidity4 ,if !y are by nature h\sewifely wom51 !y w triumph ov] ! faults ( _! e>ly tra9+1 & aft] sundry mi/akes & a good deal ( unnecess>y exp5diture may develop into fairly compet5t h\sewives4 ,b x is a dang]\s & try+ exp]im5t1 :i* ought n to be made1 because !re is absolutely no ne$ = x4 ,x is ! duty ( e "m :o has daught]s entru/$ to h] c>e to beg9 e>ly to tra9 !m 9 dome/ic "w4 ,t !re are s]vants 9 ! h\se ne$ be no ob/acle 9 ! way4 ,!re are silly dome/ics :o res5t :at !y call ! m$dl+ ( "y ladies 9 ! kit*52 b no wise woman w all[ t to tr\ble h]1 b w take c>e to %[ h] "y daught]s1 z "t & opportunity (f]1 e secret conta9$ 9 ! dome/ic rep]toire4 ,"o ( ! prim>y lessons to be le>n$ 9 ?is h\sekeep+ art is t ( me?od2 viz4--a place = ev]y?+1 & a "t4 ,x is ! key to all dome/ic com=t4 ,mo/ ( u are famili> ) at lea/ "o h\sehold :]e ! g5ius ( me?od is conspicu\s by its abs5ce2 :]e regul>ity & punctuality are unobs]v$1 if n unkn[n4 ,! h\sehold gov]n$ by a woman )\t me?od is to be piti$4 ,h] husb& is a /rang] to ! com=t ( a well-ord]$ home2 & h] *ildr51 if %e has any1 hang z !y gr[1 z ! ,scot* say2 :ile h] s]vants1 hav+ nobody to guide !m1 become c>eless & indiff]5t1 & s suff] inju/ice at h] h&s4 ,x is su* wom5 :o are l\de/ 9 compla9ts aga9/ s]vants1 & :o are 9 a /ate ( p]petual w>f>e aga9/ ! class4 ,( c\rse ?is me?od mu/ be kept )9 b\nds1 & n c>ri$ to excess1 !reby becom+ an evil in/ead ( an unmix$ good4 ,we are famili> ) t o!r type ( wom51 :o make _! h\sekeep+ an idol1 at ^: %r9e !y p]petually wor%ip1 reg>dless ( ! com=t ( ^? "u _! ro(-tree4 ,) !m x is a p]petual clean+ day1 & woe betide ! luckless (f5d] :o has ! mis=tune to m>1 if ev] s slightly1 ! immaculate cleanl9ess ( t abode6 ,he is likely to h 8 fault br\ght home to him 9 no measur$ t]ms4 ,! woman possess$ ( ! clean+ mania1 :o goes to b$ to dream ( c>pet-beat+ & furniture poli%1 & :o rises to c>ry h] dreams into execution1 is q z objectionable 9 h] way z ! woman :o nev] cleans1 & = :om ! ^w dirt has no horrors4 ,al?\gh x is d\btless pleasant to feel assur$ t no microbe-produc+ speck c possibly lurk 9 any corn] ( ! h\se1 & to be c]ta9 t food & ev]y?+ p]ta9+ to x is p]fect s f> z cleanl9ess is conc]n$1 !re is a s5se ( insecurity & unre/ 9 ! abode ( ! ov]-p>ticul> woman :i* (t5 develops into positive mis]y & discom=t4 ,x is ! sort ( discom=t specially di/a/eful to ! male portion ( mank9d4 ,al?\gh !y may be compell$ to admit1 :5 br\ght to bay1 t clean+ is a necess>y evil1 x requires a sup]human am\nt ( p]suasion to make !m see any good 9 x4 ,! way wom5 revel1 or appe> to revel1 9 ! *aos ( a h\se turn$ topsy-turvy is to !m ! d>ke/ ( all my/]ies4 ,x is long s9ce !y 7 compell$ to treat x z a conundrum1 & give x up4 ,i ?9k1 h[ev]1 t1 ) few exceptions1 wom5 dislike ! p]iodical h\sehold e>?quake q z mu* z m51 & dread its approa*4 ,! h\sekeep] :o consid]s ! com=t ( ^? ab\t h] w d h] utmo/ to rob x ( its horrors4 ,?is c be done by a judici\s plann+1 & by resort to ! me?od ( :i* we spoke 9 ! la/ *apt]4 ,let ,"o room at a "t be h] motto1 & !n ! inmates ( ! h\se w n be made to feel t !y are q 9 ! way1 & h no abid+-place on ! face ( ! e>?4 ,?is may involve a little m "w1 & a great deal ( pati5ce2 b %e w h h] rew>d 9 ! grateful appreciation ( ^? = :om %e makes home su* a happy & re/ful place4 ,illu/ration ,,vii4 ,,! ,,true/ ,,economy4 ,9 ^! days _m new phrases h be5 co9$ to give expression & significance to old tru?s2 ?us we he> ( ! s9 ( *eapness1 ! fault attribut$ to ^? %ortsight$ b>ga9-hunt]s :o wa/e "t & en]gy & money hunt+ ! l5g? & bread? ( ! l& = ! *eape/ m>ket4 ,! true & compet5t h\sekeep] kn[s t !re is no economy 9 ?is me?od ( m>ket+1 b ! rev]se4 ,( c\rse1 :]e ! family is l>ge & ! res\rces limit$1 x is absolutely incumb5t on ! purveyor to seek ! mo/ mod]ate m>ket2 & ^? ( u :o dwell 9 cities "k t prices v>y ) localities1 & t ,we/-end]s mu/ pay a ,we/-end price4 ,b x is repreh5sible always to hunt = *eap ?+s simply because !y are *eap1 because we ought n to =get t ?is v *eapness has caus$ suff]+1 or at lea/ deprivation1 some:]e1 s9ce x w\ld appe> t "s ?+s are absolutely (f]$ at prices "u ! co/ ( production4 ,9 ! matt] ( food1 s important a factor 9 ! heal? & well-be+ ( ! family1 x c seldom be a sav+ to buy 9 ! *eap m>ket1 because *eapness !re is too (t5 a synonym\s t]m ) un:olesom5ess2 & a small quantity ( ! v be/ w und\bt$ly af=d m su/5ance ?an an unlimit$ supply ( inf]ior quality4 ,9 small & work+-class homes ! tea & t9n$-food grievance is an old "o1 b "o :i* does n appe> to be 9 ! way ( m5d+4 ,if ! wives & mo!rs ( ! work+-class c\ld only h x demon/rat$ to !m1 beyond all "q1 t a small piece ( excell5t fre% beef1 made into a :olesome s\p flav\r$ ) vegetables1 w\ld give ?ree times ! n\ri%m5t ( ?is t9n$ /uff1 :i*1 good en\gh z an occasional /&-by1 has become ! curse & ! tyrant ( ! lazy & ?riftless h\sewife1 :at a /ep 9 ! "r direction t w\ld be6 ,! m]e salt+ & pres]v+ process de/roys ! mo/ valuable nutritive elem5ts ( ! meat2 & ?\gh x may be ta/y & palatable1 x is practically useless z a /r5g?-produc] or /r5g?-imp>t]4 ,milk1 too1 we fe> has n its prop] place 9 v _m homes :]e *ildr5 ab\nd2 ?\gh no "m ( ev5 ord9>y intellig5ce c %ut h] eyes to ! fact t x is ,nature's own food = h] *ildr5 9 _! e>ly ye>s1 :5 x is s important to build up ! elem5ts ( a /rong con/itution4 ,i w\ld "h put 9 a plea = oatmeal1 9 =m] days ! backbone ( my c\ntry's food1 & :i* has ( late ye>s fall5 sadly into disuse1 especially 9 qu>t]s :]e its v *eapness & absolute :olesom5ess recomm5d x z ! food p> excell5ce = old & "y4 ,we h replac$ x ) tea & toa/1 to ! great detrim5t ( limb & muscle & dige/ive p[]4 ,x is 9 ! palace n[ we f9d oatmeal accord$ its rightful place1 n 9 ! cottage2 & ! *ange is to be deplor$4 ,regul>ity 9 meals is ano!r ?+ ! wise h\sekeep] w insi/ ^u 9 h] abode4 ,regul>ity & punctuality1 h[ delightful !y are1 & h[ !y ease ! roll ( ! dome/ic :eels6 ,a punctual & tidy woman makes a punctual & tidy home4 ,we "k ! type :o dawdles away ! =5oon 9 idle talk or li/less indol5ce1 & ru%es to prep>e a ha/y & only half-cook$ meal :5 p]haps h] husb& or *ildr5 are on _! way home f s*ool or work%op2 & ?is is a v fruitful cause ( dome/ic dispeace1 & at ! root ev5 ( mu* ( ! intemp]ance :i* has ru9$ s _m homes4 ,if a man has no com=t at 8 own fireside1 !n he is compell$ 9 self-def5ce to seek x else:]e4 ,to recur to ! "q ( buy+ 9 *eap m>kets1 ! pr9ciple t :at is good & co/s some?+ to beg9 ) w inevitably prove ! *eape/ 9 ! end is ev5 m cle>ly demon/rat$ 9 ! matt] ( clo?+ ?an ( food4 ,! be/ w always we> & look ! be/1 ev5 :5 x has gr[n ?readb>e4 ,!n :5 we he> s con/antly ( ! appall+ mis]y endur$ by m5 & wom5 :o make ! g>m5ts sold 9 ! *eap %ops1 we are b\nd to feel t ^! ?+s are (f]$ at a price :i* is ! co/ ( fle% & blood4 ,?is is a v press+ "q1 & "o :i* _m ,*ri/ian p d n lay to he>t4 ,!re appe>s to be 9 e human brea/ ! in/9ct ( ! b>ga9-hunt]1 & !re is a placid satisfaction 9 hav+ got some?+ at an exceptionally l[ price :i* *>ms ! f9] s5sibilities4 ,to gratify ?is peculi> & morbid crav+1 witness ! sy/em ( buy+ & sell+ :i* prevails 9 ,italy2 ! %opkeep]s !re1 ) few exceptions1 inv>iably ask+ d\ble ! money !y are will+ to accept4 ,& to ?is crav+ 9 our own c\ntry is due ! sy/em ( all *eap sales 9 ! %ops1 & mock auctions 9 ! sale-rooms1 9 :i* _m a %ortsight$ p]son ( bo? sexes fritt] away bo? "t & money4 ,x is a rott5 sy/em1 & %[s t !re is great ne$ = re=m 9 ?is matt] ( buy+ & sell+1 :i* occupies s mu* ( our "t1 means1 & ?\ght4 ,all good h\sekeep]s "k t ^? :o buy 9 ! ready-money m>ket f>e be/2 & besides1 ! pay+ out ( ready-money is und\bt$ly a *eck on exp5diture1 & is to be specially recomm5d$ to p ( small means4 ,x is easy & tempt+ to give an ord]1 & ?\gh x c no d\bt be paid = soon] or lat]1 someh[ ! sum always seems to assume l>g] proportions z "t goes on4 ,we v seldom get 9 a bill = a less am\nt ?an we expect4 ,my own view ( ! case is1 t ,i grudge to pay = food aft] x is eat51 or clo!s aft] !y are worn2 & 9 my own h\sekeep+ ,i h f\nd ready-money1 or1 at ! outside1 weekly acc\nts1 ! be/ arrangem5t1 to :i* ,i adh]e )\t any exceptions4 ,%ort acc\nts1 also1 give "o ano!r advantage1 ! *oice ( all m>kets4 ,?us ! money is laid out to ! be/ possible advantage1 & ! highe/ value obta9$4 ,all ?rifty & f>-see+ h\sekeep]s "k t x is *eap] to buy c]ta9 h\sehold /ores1 z sug>1 butt]1 fl\r1 soap1 etc41 9 quantities1 provid$ !re is a suitable /or]oom :]e ! ?+s w be kept 9 good condition4 ,!re are inde$ innum]able me?ods :]eby ! good h\sewife c save h] copp]s & h] %ill+s1 & a wise woman is %e :o takes advantage ( !m to ! utmo/4 ,?is art ( h\sekeep+ is n le>n$ 9 a day2 ^? ( u :o h be5 engag$ 9 x = ye>s are con/antly f9d+ out h[ little we "k1 & h[ f> we are1 aft] all1 f p]fection4 ,x requires a clev] woman to keep h\se2 & z ,i said be=e !re is ample scope1 ev5 )9 ! f\r walls ( a h\se 7a sph]e :i* "s affect to despise71 = ! ex]cise ( orig9ality1 organis+ p[]1 adm9i/rative ability4 ,& to ! majority ( wom5 ,i w\ld fa9 believe x is ! mo/ int]e/+ & satisfactory ( all fem99e occupations4 ,illu/ration ,,viii4 ,,on ,,keep+ ,,up ,,appe>ances4 ,9 ^! v words lurks a dang] likely to beset our "y c\ple1 on ! v ?re%old ( _! c>e]4 ,all eyes are ^u !m1 ( c\rse2 _! h\se & all x conta9s1 _! way ( life1 ! position !y take up & ma9ta91 are1 = ! "t be+1 topics ( int5se conc]n to all :o "k !m1 & to _m :o d n4 ,!re is no d\bt t we ne$ to g back 9 "s degree to ! simpl] way ( life 9 vogue 9 ! days ( our gr&mo!rs2 t pret5ti\sness & extravagance h rea*$ a po9t :i* is almo/ un5durable4 ,we are con/antly be+ in=m$ by /ati/ics :i* _c be que/ion$ t ! m>riage rate is decreas+2 & we "k t 9 our own circles ! numb] ( m>riageable girls & m>riageable y\?s :o = "s inexplicable reason don't m>ry is v great4 ,:at is ! reason8 ,is ! age ( romance ov]8 is x impossible any long] to conjure ) ! words love & m>riage 9 ! g>d5 ( y\?8 or is x t our "y p are less brave & endur+1 t !y %r9k f ! add$ responsibility1 c>e1 & self-d5ial involv$ 9 ! d\ble life8 ,my own view is t ?is pret5ti\sness & desire = display is at ! bottom ( x2 t "y p want to beg9 :]e _! fa!rs & mo!rs left (f1 & t c\rage is lack+ to take a /ep d[n & beg9 toge!r on ! l[e/ rung ( ! ladd]4 ,i h he>d _m "y m5 say t !y are afraid to ask girls to leave ! luxury & com=t ( _! fa!r's h\se1 & to ent] a pla9] home1 :]e !y w h less luxury & m c>e2 & ?\gh ,i grant t !re are _m girls :o w\ld %r9k f ! ordeal1 & :o pref] ! indol5t ease ( s+le bless$ness to ! c>es ( matrimony on limit$ means1 yet h ,i be5 tempt$ sometimes1 look+ at ^! "y m51 to wond] 9 my s\l :e!r x 0 n !y :o %rank f ! pla9 home & ! increas$ responsibility m>riage involves4 ,! sal>y suffici5t = ! com=t & mild luxury ( "o is sc>cely ela/ic en\gh = two4 ,x w\ld mean giv+ up a good _m ?+s2 x w\ld mean few] cig>s1 few] new suits1 few] fir/ nights at ! !atre1--9 fact1 a g5]al modification ( luxuries :i* he has begun to reg>d z indisp5sable2 & he asks himself1 ,is ! game wor? ! c&le8 ,8 answ] is1 ,no4 ,& s he drifts out ( "y manhood into ba*elor middle age1 pass+ unsca!d ?r\gh _m flirtations1 becom+ encru/$ ) selfi% ideas & selfi% aims1 & gradually less fit = dome/ic life4 ,& all ! "t1 :ile he imag9es he has a f9e "t ( x1 he has miss$ ! *ief joy1 ! highe/ mean+ ( life4 ,! conditions ( mod]n life are c]ta9ly h>d] ?an !y 74 ,competition 9 e pr(ession & call+ is s enorm\s t remun]ation has necess>ily fall52 & x is a problem to _m h[ s+le life is to be respectably ma9ta9$1 let alone d\ble4 ,!n ! invasions ( wom5 into almo/ e doma9 ( man's "w is some:at s]i\s 9 its consequ5ces to m54 ,a woman c be got to d a c]ta9 ?+ z quickly1 correctly1 & effici5tly z a man2 !re=e ! man goes to ! wall4 ,:ile we are glad to see ! position ( woman improve1 & ! value ( h] lab\r 9 ! m>kets ( ! _w increase1 we are p]plex$ z to ! effect ( ?is bett] condition ( ?+s on ! position ( m54 ,! situation is full ( p]plexities1 /ra9$ to ! utmo/4 ,!re is no d\bt :atev] t ?is improvem5t 9 ! position ( woman1 ! increas$ opportunities af=d$ h] ( mak+ a respectable livelihood1 has _h1 & is hav+1 its s]i\s effect 9 ! m>riage m>ket4 ,a s+le woman 9 a good situation1 ! duties ( :i* %e has /r5g? ( body & /r5g? ( m9d to p]=m1 is a v indep5d5t be+1 & 9 contra/ ) _m ( h] m>ri$ si/]s a p]son to be envi$4 ,%e has h] h\rs1 = "o ?+2 !re is no prospect ( an eight h\rs' day = ! m>ri$ woman ) a family to sup]9t5d4 ,!n %e1 hav+ e>n$ h] own money1 c sp5d x z %e likes--& has to give acc\nt ( x only to h]self2 & %e is free f ! physical trials & disabilities consequ5t ^u m>riage & mat]nity4 ,if y tell h] t ! sweet fulness ( m>ri$ life1 its multipli$ joys1 amply comp5sate = ! tr\bles1 %e w %ake h] head & want pro(4 ,altoge!r1 ! outlook matrimonial is n v bright4 ,n[1 :ile we deplore1 z a s]i\s evil1 ha/y1 improvid5t1 ill-consid]$ m>riages1 & hold t _! consequ5ces are v sad1 we w\ld also1 sc>cely less s]i\sly1 deplore t ov]-cauti\sness :i* is r$uc+ ! m>riage rate 9 qu>t]s :]e x ought n to be r$uc$1--our l[] middle-class1 :i* is ! backbone ( society4 ,!re is no fe> ( a s]i\s r$uction 9 o!r qu>t]s3 :]e !re is no responsibility felt1 !re is none to %irk2 & s1 among ! v poor1 *ildr5 are multipli$1 & obligations increas$1 )\t any ?\ght = ! morr[1 or conc]n = future provision4 ,!re is a v supreme k9d ( selfi%ness 9 ?is ov]-cauti\sness :i* is n delightful to contemplate1 ! fe> le/ self %\ld be inconv5i5c$ or depriv$ 9 ! v slighte/ degree2 & all ?is does n t5d to ! highe/ developm5t ( human nature1 b r ! rev]se1 s9ce ! _s ( self-d5ial & self-sacrifice is "o ( ! lovelie/ attributes ( human "*4 ,t x is possible = two p to live toge!r almo/ z *eaply z "o1 &1 if ! wife be c>eful1 ?rifty1 & manag+1 ) a great deal m com=t1 is h>dly disput$2 & surely love is yet /rong en\gh to take its *ance ( fall+ on evil days1 & :5 !y come ( mak+ ! be/ ( !m4 ,our girls mu/ exhibit less frivolity1 less devotion to dress & idle amusem5ts1 if !y wi% = homes ( _! own2 because at pres5t x is p>tly true t m5 are afraid to take ! risk & responsibility ( !m z p>tn]s 9 life4 ,& ?is br+s u back to ! head+ ( our *apt]1 ! subject ( keep+ up appe>ances4 ,?is fe>ful rivalry to make ! greate/ %[ on inadequate means1 to out%9e our neighb\rs 9 h\se & dress & ev]y?+ else1 is really a trem5d\s evil1 ! sc\rge ( _m middle-class families4 ,& :at1 aft] all1 is its aim or outcome2 :at its rew>ds8 ,to beg9 )1 x is a p&]+1 pure & simple1 to ! bas] "p ( human nature--! desire to out-rival y\r neighb\r1 to be able to so> ov] him at any price2 & m1 x is bo? hypocritical & immoral4 ,hypocritical1 because x is pure pret5ce to a /ation :i* has no means to support x2 & immoral1 because y _c af=d to pay = x1 & !reby suff]+ is entail$ some:]e & someh[4 ,h[ _m ( u numb] among our acqua9tances 7if n absolutely guilty ourselves71 p]sons :o1 possess$ ( a small & limit$ income1 live 9 a l>ge h\se1 ! r5t ( :i* is a k9d ( sword ( ,damocles hang+ ov] !m = ev]8 ,y "k !m by _! hunt$1 eag]1 re/less look1 :i* tells ( inw>d dispeace1 ( worry too great almo/ to be borne4 ,_! s]vants d n /ay long1 p]haps because ! l>d] ( ! big h\se is kept v b>e1 & com=t is sacrific$ to outside %[4 ,!y nev] h any?+ to give away1 & _! excuse is t !y d n believe 9 indiscrim9ate *>ity4 ,& !y look back ) a pa9ful long+1 nev] express$1 h[ev]1 to ! days :5 !y liv$ at peace 9 a little h\se1 & _h en\gh & to sp>e = man & bea/1 & a p5ny = ! begg> at ! gate4 ,! big h\se is b "o ?+2 ! /ruggle to keep up appe>ances is obs]v$ 9 _m o!r ways--9 exp5sive & n always effici5t education ( ! *ildr51 9 p>ty-giv+1 extravagant dress1 frequ5t go+ out ( t[n1 & _m o!rs too num]\s to m5tion4 ,& :at1 aft] all1 is ! advantage ( x8 ,is !re any advantage ga9$8 ,y may succe$ 9 excit+ 9 ! brea/ ( y\r neighb\r a bitt] envy :i* w probably f9d expression 9 "s su* rem>k z ?is--,i only hope x is all paid =4 ,& y nev] w h any peace ( m9d1 )\t :i* ! outw>d trapp+s are b a mock]y4 ,oh1 let u be simpl]6 ,let u at lea/ n pret5d to be :at we are n4 ,9 a ^w1 let u n try to humbug ourselves & ! _w at l>ge4 ,illu/ration ,,ix4 ,,mo!rhood4 ,x is a great !me1 :i* ,i approa* ) fe> & trembl+2 yet--is ! home complete )\t ! *ild8 ,c ev5 an unpret5ti\s book ( ?is sort be writt5 )\t "s attempt$ treatm5t ( ! same8 ,! fir/ ye> ( m>ri$ life is (t5 v full1 z well z specially try+1 a record ( new & v crucial exp]i5ces su* z are b\nd to prove ! grit ( our "y h\sekeep]4 ,%e has _m ?+s to le>n 9 h] new sph]e1 bo? 9 ! dep>tm5t ( e?ics z well z ( h\sekeep+4 ,%e has a husb& to /udy1 = ev5 ?\gh !y h se5 a great deal ( ea* o!r be=e m>riage1 !re yet rema9s mu* to le>n ( _m little peculi>ities be=e undream$ (1 :i* 9 ! full gl>e & te/ ( daily life sometimes /& out ) a c]ta9 unpleasant prom95ce1 :i* bo? f9d try+4 ,!re are new ta/es to discov] & consid]1 new likes & dislikes to be /udi$--9 a ^w1 ! situation is a sev]e ordeal1 especially if our "y wife be v "y & inexp]i5c$4 ,( c\rse %e has an ador+ & approv+ love to aid h]1 & all h] ef=ts to please w be appreciat$ at _! full value1 & p]haps a little ov]1 & t is mu*4 ,if 9 addition to all ! try+ am5ities ( h] new position !re be add$ e>ly 9 h] m>ri$ life ! prospect ( mo!rhood1 ) its att5dant c>es1 anxieties1 & fe>s1 !n our "y h\sekeep] may be grant$ to h h& & he>t full4 ,t x is a prospect full ( joy & satisfaction1 ! realisation ( a sweet & secret hope1 nobody w d5y4 ,!re are a few wom51 we are told1 :o d n desire mo!rhood1 pref]r+ ! great] fre$om & ease ( *ildless wifehood2 b x is n ( su* we seek to write1 because ! va/ majority agree ) me t mo!rhood is ! cr[n ( m>riage1 z well z ! sweete/ ( all bonds betwe5 husb& & wife4 ,x is ! great1 almo/ awful1 responsibility ( ?is bond :i* makes ?9k+ p deplore ! preval5ce ( e>ly & improvid5t m>riage betwe5 p]sons :o seem to lack entirely ?is s5se ( responsibility1 & :o und]take ! mo/ solemn duties 9 ! same flippant mood z !y g out on a day's enjoym5t4 ,! idea t !y h 9 _! p[] ! mak+ & m>r+ ( a human s\l1 to say no?+ ( ! influ5ces :i* 9 fulness ( "t mu/ g =? f t same s\l1 does n tr\ble !m1 or inde$ exi/ = !m at all4 ,!y h no ideas--!y nev] ?9k4 ,if ! *ild comes1 good & well--x has to be provid$ =2 welcome or unwelcome x arrives2 & is tol]at$ or rejoic$ ov] z ! case may be4 ,we ne$ a great deal ( educat+ on ?is p>ticul> po9t1 & ! fact t a *ild may h rights be=e x is born is "o :i* presses home to ! he>t ( e man & woman :o may give ! matt] any s]i\s att5tion :atsoev]4 ,if we m>ry1 !n z surely d we und]take ! possible obligations ( p>5tage2 & if we d n see t we are fit physically1 m5tally1 & morally = ?is und\bt$ly greate/ ( all human obligations1 !n are we blamewor?y1 & answ]able to ,god & man = our %ortcom+s4 ,h]oism is a ^w to /ir ! highe/ en?usiasm 9 e he>t1 & we ,britons are n suppos$ to lack 9 t glori\s quality4 ,:ile n despis+ nor mak+ light ( t h]oism :i* %[s an unfl9*+ front on ! battlefield1 or 9 ! face ( any dang]1 & :ile recognis+ also & glory+ 9 t o!r h]oism ( :i* ! _w he>s less1 b :i* is nev]!less v ri* & f>-rea*+ 9 results--,i mean t brave he>t :i* does n s9k "u adv]se circum/ances1 :i* makes ! be/ ( ev]y?+1 :i* c d1 d>e1 & suff] = o!rs1 )\t notice or applause--!re is yet ano!r phase ( h]oism ( :i* ! _w kn[s n at all1 b :i* 9 my e/imation is z great1 if n great]1 ?an any ( ^!4 ,x is a delicate !me1 & yet 9 su* a book z ?is are we n ju/ifi$ 9 t\*+ ^u x1 rev]5tly & t5d]ly z x des]ves8 ,!re are "s--m1 ,i believe1 ?an we dream (--:o1 be+ afflict$ physically or m5tally1 & :o1 fe>+ "s h]$it>y moral ta9t = :i* !y h to suff]1 ?\gh entirely blameless1 delib]ately ab/a9 f m>riage = ! highe/ ( all reasons--t !y fe> to p]petuate 9 _! own *ildr5 ! weaknesses :i* are already s /up5d\s a curse to mank9d4 ,oh t su* examples c\ld be multipli$1 & t we 7 once ?or\ghly awak5$ to ! solemn significance ( ! fact t ! s9s ( ! fa!rs are visit$ on ! *ildr56 ,b :5 we look ar\nd we see ! innoc5t made to suff] daily = ! guilty2 we see *ildr5 ^: lives ev5 9 infancy are b a burd5 to !m1 & ^: lat] life c only be a cross1 & we pray = a great baptism ( light on ?is pa9ful subject1 = a great awak5+ to t p]sonal1 individual responsibility :i* is ! only solution ( a difficulty :i* conc]ns ! future & ! highe/ int]e/ ( ! race4 ,to return to ! "q ( rights z affect+ ! unborn babe3 ! "m has !n s mu* 9 h] p[] t %e c n only det]m9e to a great ext5t :at k9d ( infancy ! *ild %all h1 b also :e!r h] own duties !re9 %all be heavy or light4 ,by att5d+ /rictly to h] own heal?1 adh]+ to natural laws1 liv+ simply & :olesomely1 %e c almo/ ensure ! bodily heal? ( ! *ild2 & by keep+ h] m9d calm & ev51 avoid+ worry1 & cultivat+ *e]fulness & cont5tm5t1 %e ?us m\lds ! disposition ( ! *ild to a f> great] ext5t ?an %e dreams (4 ,! woman :o lives 9 a condition ( p]petual n]v\s excitem5t & worry be=e ! bir? ( h] *ild1 :o is fretful1 compla9+1 impati5t ( ! discom=t ( h] condition1 ne$ n be mu* surpris$ if h] baby be fretful & difficult to re>4 ,( c\rse ?is is all v easy to write d[n1 & mo/ difficult--9 _m cases ( physical & n]v\s pro/ration impossible--to be> 9 m9d2 nev]!less1 x is wor? ! trial1 wor? ! self-d5ial involv$1 ev5 look+ at x f ! mo/ selfi% /&po9t1 "o's own ultimate com=t & ease4 ,! ga9 to ! *ild is too great to be e/imat$4 ,& surely tak+ into consid]ation ! enorm\s numb] ( mis]able1 weakly babies :o h nev] _h a *ance1 ! day ( ^: bir?1 l ,job's1 is sadd] ?an ! day ( _! dea?1 x is n too mu* to ask f ?\ghtful ,*ri/ian wom51 :o at he>t feel _! responsibility & _! high privilege1 t no?+ %all be lack+ on _! "p to make ! *ild giv5 to !m by ,god a moral1 m5tal1 & physical success4 ,we are c>eful 9 all o!r dep>tm5ts ( life to try & obta9 ! be/--:y n "h8 ,is human life less preci\s1 human s\ls ( less acc\nt1 ?an m]*&ise8 ,i d n see :y mo!rs %\ld n seek to impress ^u _! daught]s1 & fa!rs ^u _! sons1 z !y approa* maturity1 ! solemnity & sacr$ness ( su* !mes1 :i* involve all t is mo/ important 9 human life4 ,i consid] t ! ignorance ) :i* s _m "y girls are all[$ to ent] matrimony is no?+ %ort ( crim9al2 & ,i d n myself see t a pla91 /raight1 lov+ talk f h] "m be=eh&1 :i* w prep>e h] = h] new obligations & make !m less a surprise & a trial :5 !y come1 c possibly take ! edge (f t exquisite & delicate purity :i* we w\ld wi% to be our daught]s' out/&+ *>act]i/ic1 & :i* e "r-?9k+ man desires 9 8 wife4 ,!re are _m :o d n %>e ?is op9ion1 & hold t ! wall ( res]ve %\ld nev] be brok54 ,b ! issues are great1 & ,i _c b ?9k t 9 ?is case ignorance is m likely to be fruitful ( anxiety & =ebod+1 to say no?+ ( mi/akes1 ?an is a little k wisely imp>t$ by ^? :om exp]i5ce has taught4 ,illu/ration ,x4 ,,! ,,son ,,9 ,,! ,,home4 ,! son is peculi>ly ! "m's *ild1 & ! bond betwe5 !m1 se5 at its be/1 is "o ( ! lovelie/1 &1 to ! woman :o has suff]$ = h] fir/born1 "o ( ! mo/ s\l-satisfy+ on e>?4 ,i suppose mo/ wom5 giv5 *oice w\ld wi% _! fir/born to be a son2 & h] pride 9 ! boy z he gr[s 9 grace & /r5g? & manl9ess is a v exquisite ?+ 9 ! "m4 ,z a rule1 a boy is m difficult to re>4 ,he has m /r5g? ( limb & w1 & %[s e>li]1 p]haps1 ! desire to be ma/] ( ! :ole situation1 z v (t5 he is4 ,x is amaz+ at h[ e>ly an age a *ild c beg9 to disc]n betwe5 ! firm w & ! weak w ( ^? :o guide him1 & to pr(it !reby2 & %e is a wise woman :o beg9s z %e means to end1 & :o tea*es h] *ild t h] decision is absolute f ! e>lie/ /age4 ,! mom5t he beg9s to und]/& t ?\gh y say no a yell w probably conv]t x into a yes1 y\r occupation is gone1 s to speak--y h lo/ y\r hold1 & ,baby is ma/] ( ! situation & ( y4 ,!re is no d\bt1 ,i ?9k1 t ! woman :o has a nurse to relieve h] ( ! *ild has a bett] *ance ?an ! "o :o has to fight ! battle s+le-h&$--= ?is reason1 t extreme we>9ess ( body1 :i* no?+ br+s ab\t m quickly ?an ! p]petual c>e ( a baby1 is apt to weak5 ! w2 ! desire = peace at any price becomes too great to be resi/$1 & s ! citadel is lo/4 ,x is impossible also = ! ord9>y woman1 :o has ! c>e ( a baby all day long1 9 addition to a multitude ( o!r duties1 n to become n]v\s1 irritable1 & excitable1 & ! probability is t ! *ild becomes a reflex ( h]self4 ,i "k ( no m self-d5y+ & h>ass+ life ?an t ( ! "m ( _m *ildr51 ^: limit$ means prohibit mu* assi/ance 9 h] lab\rs4 ,x w\ld require ! /r5g? ( a ,h]cules & ! pati5ce ( a ,job4 ,yet h[ _m g on f day to day ) an uncompla9+ & h]oic *e]fulness :i* does n /rike ! onlook]1 simply because x is s common1 l ! too?a*e1 t x attracts b little sympa?y or att5tion4 ,9 "o day su* a "m may w9 moral victories beside :i* ! brilliant engagem5ts ( ! battlefield w\ld pale4 ,x is n "o t %e has to consid] & cont5d )1 b _m2 ! div]sity ( disposition 9 "o family is truly amaz+1 & af=ds a mo/ int]e/+ psy*ological /udy4 ,if %e be a ?\ghtful & consci5ti\s woman %e kn[s t %e is s[+ ! se$s ( future good & ill1 t e>ly impressions are nev] eras$1 & t h] own influ5ce is ! "o :i* w leave ! /ronge/1 ! mo/ indelible m>k on ! future ( ! little ones %e has "u h] w+4 ,to ?is !re is no exception :atev]2 x is a fact nobody attempts to dispute4 ,:o %all say1 !n--:o %all d>e to say--t a woman's "w is slight1 h] sph]e n>r[1 h] influ5ce feeble8 ,h we n yet ) u ! prov]b1 ,%e :o rocks ! cradle rules ! _w8 z true to-day z x 0 a hundr$ ye>s ago1 z x w be 9 a hundr$ ye>s to come4 ,b ?\gh ! anxieties & responsibilities ( ! nurs]y are great1 !y increase1 especially 9 ! case ( "s1 z ! ye>s g by2 ?\gh z ! boy gr[s old] 8 "m may be some:at reliev$ by ! wise guidance ( ! fa!r4 ,!re comes a "t :5 ! lad wants to emancipate himself f 8 "m's jurisdiction1 & beg9s to look to 8 fa!r1 see+ 9 him ! image ( :at he may yet become4 ,he w n love 8 "m any less1 b he w be impati5t a little1 p]haps1 ( h] c>eful sup]vision2 he wants to be a man1 to imitate 8 fa!r1 to %[ t he is a be+ ( ano!r ord]4 ,x is always amus+ to look on at ?is subtle & inevitable *ange1 b sometimes t\*+ z well4 ,x is ! /rong s\l seek+ 8 h]itage1 ! fir/ /irr+ ( manhood 9 ! boy1 :o w nev] be o!r ?an a bairn to 8 "m4 ,happy !n ! "m1 bless$ ! boy1 :o has a good1 wise1 & t5d] fa!r to take him by ! h&1 & %[ him at ?is critical /age ! beauty ( a noble1 pure1 & hone/ manhood1 & h[ great is its p[] to bless ! _w4 ,!re are "s m5 :o nev] gr[ old1 :o1 :ile do+ a man's "p bett] ?an mo/ 9 ! _w1 keep ! *ild-he>t pure )9 !m4 ,happy are ! *ildr5 :o call !m fa!r6 ,! ideal fa!r 7s9ce we are writ+ ( :at we all "k to be ! highe/ 9 home relation%ip1 we may call him s7 w be a boy 9 ! mid/ ( 8 boys all 8 days2 he w %>e ! pa/imes1 ! int]e/s1 ! absorb+ occupations ( 8 boys1 9 ! s*oolroom & ! recreation-gr\nd1 j z he did n disda9 to jo9 sometimes 9 ! frolic ( ! nurs]y4 ,he w und]/& cricket & football1 & h\nds & h>es1 & "k all ! little po9ts ( s*oolboy hon\r1 s t he may at once grasp ! situation :5 8 lad br+s 8 grievance or 8 tale ( victory to him4 ,& ?r\gh x all1 )\t prea*+1 :i* ! s\l ( ! av]age boy abhors1 he w seek to inculcate ! highe/ moral lessons1 ?us acc5tuat+ & deep5+ ! tea*+ ( ! nurs]y /ill fre% 9 ! boy's m9d4 ,?is is ! ideal :i* we w\ld wi% to see 9 e home1 b ! real is r diff]5t1 & sometimes p]plex+ to deal )4 ,we h se5 homes :]e ! boys d n get on ) _! fa!r1 :o seem to rub ea* o!r ! wrong way1 & to h no sort ( k9%ip ) ea* o!r--9 a ^w1 :o are n *ums1 :i* is a boy's def9ition ( ! jollie/ possible relation%ip1 & :i* is v beautiful exi/+ betwe5 fa!r & son4 ,b !re are fa!rs :o h no pati5ce ) ! boy :o1 feel+ 9 him ! prompt+s ( a l>g] life1 beg9s to give himself little airs1 & to adopt a manly & ma/]ful mann]2 no sympa?y ) 8 desire = fre$om2 & :o1 in/ead ( wisely guid+ all ^! accompanim5ts ( "y manhood into fre% & legitimate *annels1 seeks to curb !m1 to re/ra9 e impulse1 & to en=ce an au?ority ! boy does n und]/&1 & inw>dly1 if n outw>dly1 kicks aga9/4 ,i "k _m mo!rs :o h difficulty 9 p\r+ oil on su* tr\bl$ wat]s1 & :o see t ! fa!r & ! boy d n und]/& ea* o!r1 & _c get on--& %e is p[]less to help4 ,out ( ?is /ra9$ relation%ip _m evils may arise4 ,! "y he>t1 b\nd+ ) a ?\s& buoyant impulses1 eag] to see life & ta/e its e cup1 depriv$ ( sympa?y & outlet1 & ?r[n back ^u itself1 becomes res]v$1 self-conta9$1 & morbid4 ,!n1 aga91 !re is a temptation to concealm5t1 & ev5 to prev>ication1 ov] m]e trifles4 ,:5 c5sure is fe>$--& ! "y he>t is fe>fully s5sitive--little fibs are told to escape x1 & s a great moral wrong is inflict$1 :i* c und\bt$ly be laid at ! unsympa!tic p>5t's door4 ,! "m1 by reason ( h] g5tl] nature 7to :i*1 ( c\rse1 !re are ! usual exceptions71 is n s fe>$1 & is made ! g-betwe54 ,"m1 w y ask fa!r = s-&-s8 is an ev]yday "q 9 _m homes2 & :y %\ld x be8 ,:y %\ld sympa?y & confid5ce be less full & sweet betwe5 fa!r & son ?an betwe5 "m & son8 ,nay1 r1 x might be full]1 s9ce ! fa!r1 be+ ( ! same sex1 c ! bett] und]/& ! boy nature1 mak+ all[ance = its fail+s1 :i* 7 also 81 if1 inde$1 !y are n 9 an aggravat$ =m /ill *>act]i/ic ( him4 ,"s m5 =get t !y h ev] be5 "y2 look+ at !m & witness+ _! conduct 9 c]ta9 circum/ances1 "o f9ds x difficult to believe t !y ev] 7 "y4 ,!y h be5 fossils f _! bir?4 ,t is ! gr& mi/ake--to fix su* a great gulf betwixt y\? & maturity t no?+ c bridge x4 ,x is m love1 m sympa?y we want2 x is ! de>? ( x t is ! curse ( ! _w4 ,yet h[ d>e we1 be+ responsible = ! adv5t ( ! *ild into ! _w1 d5y him 8 h]itage1 />ve 8 he>t ( its "r to our affection & reg>d8 ,! ,"l s5t him8 ,well1 ,he did und\bt$ly1 & ,8 comm&s ) ! gift4 ,!re is no hesitation or ambiguity ab\t ! ,"l's m&ate reg>d+ little *ildr54 ,9 homes :]e ?is lovely sympa?y exi/s1 anxiety reg>d+ ! moral welf>e ( ! boy is r$uc$ to a m9imum4 ,:]e ! y\? c come to 8 "m1 & /ill bett] to 8 fa!r1 9 e dilemma1 sure ( advice & aid1 he w n g v f> wrong4 ,! _w is full ( pitfalls1 & x is sure no?+ %ort ( ! grace ( ,god c keep "y manhood 9 ! "r way2 b v c]ta9 am ,i t p>5ts h mu*1 ay1 m ?an !y dream ( 9 _! p[]4 ,let !m at lea/ see to x t !y d n fall %ort4 ,let ! boy feel t ! home is 81 t 8 fri5ds are welcome to x1 & t he ne$ n g out always to seek lib]ty & enjoym5t4 ,9 "o ^w1 let him h room to brea! & to live1 & ! *ances are t he w repay y by becom+ all y c\ld desire ev5 9 y\r fonde/ dreams4 ,illu/ration ,,xi4 ,,! ,,daught] ,,9 ,,! ,,home4 ,! home is incomplete )\t ! daught]1 ! sweet little baby :o f ! fir/ entw9$ h]self ab\t h] p>5ts' he>ts2 & :o1 z %e gr[s 9 beauty1 is a s\rce ( con/ant joy & pride1 n q unt\*$ by anxiety4 ,= :5 we h educat$ our sons & done = !m all we possibly c1 !y c1 z a rule1 /& on _! own /urdy legs1 & take _! own place 9 ! _w1 we look+ on ) pride if !y adorn x well--) sadness if !y fall %ort4 ,we d n love !m less1 b !y soon] place !mselves beyond our jurisdiction1 & responsibility conc]n+ !m is soon] at an end4 ,) ! daught]s x is diff]5t4 ,z ! old rhyme says-- ,a son is a son till he gets him a wife1 ,a daught]'s a daught] to ! end ( h] life1 words :i* j express ! :ole situation4 ,ev5 aft] %e m>ries our anxiety & lov+ conc]n = h] 9 h] new sph]e q equals ! old2 h] little *ildr51 rem9d+ u ( :at %e 0 once to u1 are de> to u 9 a way our son's *ildr5 c nev] be4 ,x seems a /range anomaly1 yet w mo/ mo!rs be> me out 9 :at ,i say4 ,a home :]e !re are _m boys & no girls is a jolly1 heal?y1 happy h\sehold en\gh1 b x lacks some?+1 a g5tl] elem5t1 :i* ! boys miss ke5ly1 ?\gh !y may n ev5 be consci\s ( x4 ,x is a great mis=tune = boys to h no si/]s1 because 9 ! family circle1 :]e !y gr[ up side by side1 !y acquire a k ( girl-nature :i* is invaluable to !m :5 !y beg9 to take an int]e/ 9 t int]e/+ p]sonage1 ano!r fell['s si/]4 ,& vice v]sa--girls br\ght up 9 a bro!rless home h no opportunity ( /udy+ boy-nature1 & are apt to take a v prim1 n>r[ view ( ! same4 ,! ideal family is ! "o judici\sly mix$1 :]e boys & girls rub %\ld]s & c>ry on _! little campaigns1 ent]+ into ea* o!r's pursuits & be+ *ums all r\nd4 ,x is good = bo?4 ,z ,i said be=e1 girls1 ev5 9 infancy1 are m easily manag$ & re>$ ?an boys1 ! usual exceptions be+ all[$2 & ! same may be said ( !m z !y gr[ old]4 ,!y are m docile1 m am5able to control1 & _! animal spirits1 dep5d5t on bodily organisation1 are n usually s ob/rep]\s4 ,x is a/oni%+ h[ soon a little girl becomes a companionable creature2 %e develops at a mu* e>li] age ?an h] bro!rs4 ,( c\rse !re are great diff]5ces4 ,we h ! tomboy1 nev] /ill1 m int]e/$ 9 h] bro!rs' pranks ?an 9 ! sob] frolics ( girls--dolls h no *>m = h]2 yet ! curi\s ?+ is t ! tomboy has be5 kn[n to develop into ! extraord9>ily successful wife & "m1 h] v en]gies ( m9d & body1 :5 mell[$ by exp]i5ce1 prov+ invaluable to h] 9 h] new sph]e4 ,i h (t5 ?\ght t an int]e/+ article might be writt5 on ! place & p[] ( dolls 9 ! e>ly life ( wom52 x is su* an int]e/+ /udy to wat* ! diff]5t grades ( int]e/ tak5 9 !m by diff]5t *ildr54 ,to "s !y are real fle% & blood1 treat$ z su*1 fondl$ ov] & consid]$ q z mu* z any liv+ baby1 inve/$ ) a*es & pa9s1 temp]s & tr\bles1 & subject$ to a regul> sy/em ( rew>d & puni%m5t2 :ile to o!rs !y are m]e toys1 :i* s]ve only to beguile ! t$ium ( a ra9y day4 ,!n !re are ! few :o reg>d !m z m]e objects = scorn & hatr$2 & :5 !y d n ignore !m1 maltreat !m m]cilessly4 ,! small girl :o hates dolls1 & dubs !m z /upid ?+s1 is apt to be a little tr\blesome to amuse1 ?\gh x is also q possible t %e may possess a v orig9al m9d1 :i* /rikes out a new pa? ev5 9 amusem5t = itself4 ,"s little boys :o aft]w>ds became good & noble m5 h n disda9$ dolls z a baby amusem5t1 & y g5]ally f9d t ! small boy :o takes a k9d int]e/ 9 8 si/]'s dolls1 & :o does n sp5d 8 leisure 9 concoct+ s*emes = _! torture & dismemb]m5t1 has ! fa!rly in/9ct v /rongly develop$1 & w 9 8 own home be t5d]ly devot$ to 8 *ildr54 ,boys ought to be taught e>ly ! beauty ( little k9dly att5tions & ?\ghtfulness = o!rs4 ,on no acc\nt ought _! si/]s to be all[$ to fet* & c>ry = !m4 ,!re may be a sy/em ( mutual obligation if y l1 b boys ( a c]ta9 age are apt to become v arbitr>y1 & to consid] _! si/]s 9 ! light ( body s]vants4 ,by all[+ boys to ord] _! si/]s ab\t1 to br+ !m ?+s & give 9 always1 y fo/] a _s ( selfi%ness1 :i* gr[s tyrannical z ! ye>s g by1 & paves ! way = "s dome/ic discom=t 9 a future home :i* w be beyond y\r jurisdiction4 ,!y tell u ! age ( *ivalry is dead2 & really mann]s d n seem to be z !y 74 ,! *ang$ ord] ( ?+s conc]n+ wom51 :o are no long] coop$ up )9 ! f\r walls ( a h\se1 & told t t is _! sph]e spell$ ) a v big ,s1 b :o are pu%+ _! way /eadily to ! front 9 e walk ( life1 no d\bt p>tly acc\nts = ?is2 /ill ! lapse ( t old-fa%ion$ & graci\s c\rtesy ( m5 to wom5 is to be deplor$1 & ,i _c b ?9k t we :o h raw mat]ial to "w ^u 9 ! nurs]y might d some?+ to re/ore x4 ,we _c af=d to lose any ( ! graces ( life4 ,heav5 kn[s ?+s are r$uc$ to a prosaic en\gh level ) u 9 ^! days1 :5 ! fret & fev] seem to leave "t = no?+ b ! b>e/ realities4 ,z we h already admitt$ t e>ly impressions & e>ly tra9+ nev] q lose _! hold1 s if we tea* our boys to be graci\s1 c\rte\s1 consid]ate always to _! si/]s because !y are little wom51 "s wom5 ( a lat] date w be grateful to u4 ,! v advanc$ ( our sex h be5 kn[n to disclaim any desire = su* consid]ation2 !y want none f ! opposite sex1 b only room to fight ! battle side by side2 b we :o d n wi% to see life robb$ ( all its grace & c\rtl9ess w\ld respectfully insi/ t ?is res]ve %\ld n be entirely disp5s$ )4 ,we /ill l a man to take (f 8 hat to u 9 ! /reet1 in/ead ( j]k+ 8 head on "o side2 we h no objection to ! inside ( ! pavem5t or ! mo/ com=table seat 9 c>riage or tram1 = :i* we h /ill a ^w ( appreciative ?anks left1 ?\gh we may !reby %[ h[ f> we are left beh9d 9 ! race4 ,i wi% to make myself v cle>4 ,we d n want our girls to be namby-pamby1 selfi%1 silly creatures1 :o imag9e x is int]e/+ & fasc9at+ to pose z weak1 dep5d5t1 flutt]+ creatures2 b nei!r d we want our sons to be boors1 & x is 9 ! home :]e mann]s z well z morals are =m$4 ,s let u n despise ! little c\rtesies :i* d s mu* to sweet5 daily int]c\rse1 b tea* !m to ! *ildr5 f ! beg9n+1 s t to be *ivalr\s1 c\rte\s1 g5tle to ri* & poor1 g5tle & simple ( bo? sexes1 w become z natural = !m z to brea!4 ,illu/ration ,,xii4 ,,! ,,education ,,( ,,our ,,daught]s4 ,ev5 a v "y daught] c be ( use to h] "m1 & h] influ5ce felt 9 ! h\se1 if %e is taught h[4 ,( c\rse1 ! fir/ conc]n1 :5 our little maid gets out ( ! nurs]y1 is t %e %\ld be educat$1 & h] m5tal p[]s h ! be/ possible *ance ( be+ br\ght to _! full p[]4 ,! education ( our girls is "o ( ! great que/ions ( ! day--engross+ ! int]e/ ( ^? 9 ! highe/ places2 & a heal?y sign ( ! times x is4 ,= s9ce x is ^u ! wom5 ( to-day t ! future ( ! race dep5ds1 :at c\ld be ( great] importance ?an t all h] p[]s1 physical1 m5tal1 & moral1 %\ld be br\ght z ne> p]fection z possible8 ,d ,i ( a set purpose m5tion ! physical fir/8 ,yes2 because ! old] ,i gr[ ! m x comes home to me t unless we h s\nd & heal?y bodies we c b poorly s]ve our day & g5]ation4 ,!re=e ! food ! *ildr5 eat %\ld be "o ( our *ief /udies & conc]ns2 because if we c s5d !m out into ! _w ) con/itutions built ^u a sure & common-s5se f\ndation1 x is ! be/ possible s]vice we c r5d] !m2 & "o = :i* !y & !irs w be grateful always4 ,?is "q ( education is r a p]plex+ "o1 :i* gives p>5ts a great deal ( anxi\s ?\ght4 ,! pres5t sy/em is und\bt$ly a great improvem5t ^u any we h _h h]et(ore1 & yet x seems to leave some?+ to be desir$4 ,9 ! bo>d s*ools1 :]e ! bulk ( ! l[] middle-class *ildr5 are educat$1 & :]e tuition is v excell5t & ?or\gh1 !re is yet ?is drawback1--all are s\ght to be rais$ to "o dead level1 ! pass+ ( s _m /&>ds be+ imp]ative1 nor any consid]ation giv5 to individual capacity or fitness4 ,! inevitable result ( ?is is t ! tea*] is b\nd to conc5trate 8 att5tion on ! dull pupils1 9 ord] to get !m dragg$ up to ! requir$ /&>d1 ! bright ones be+ left pretty mu* to _! own devices4 ,h[ev] mu* he may deplore ?is1 he _c help himself1 s9ce x is ^u 8 p]c5tage ( passes t 8 /atus z a tea*]1 to say no?+ ( 8 sal>y1 dep5ds4 ,!re=e 9 "s respects ! old sy/em ( p>o*ial tea*+ _h its advantage ov] ! new4 ,b x is v specially ( ! education ( ! girls we wi% to speak1 & x is gratify+ to obs]ve t _m p>5ts are awak+ to ! absurdity ( insi/+ t _! daught]s %all acquire a sup]ficial k ( c]ta9 accompli%m5ts1 :atev] ! b5t ( _! m9ds4 ,h[ mu* money1 to say no?+ ( preci\s "t1 has be5 sacrific$ 9 ! va9 pursuit ( music1 t sweete/ ( ! arts2 :i* is s (t5 desecrat$ & tortur$ by unwill+ & unsympa!tic vot>ies4 ,x v soon becomes evid5t :e!r ! *ild has an aptitude = music or n2 & if %e has n1 b f9ds ! /udy ( x an imposition & a trial1 :at is ! use ( =c+ h] to su* unwill+ drudg]y1 :5 v likely %e possesses "s o!r aptitude1 ! cultivation ( :i* w be bo? pr(itable & pleasant8 ,h[ _m girls ^u :om p\nds & p\nds h be5 sp5t nev] t\* ! piano :5 !y are emancipat$ f s*oolroom control2 & h[ mu* m usefully c\ld bo? "t & money h be5 employ$ 9 ! pursuit ( some?+ else6 ,mo!rs are beg9n+ to see ?is1 & x is a welcome awak5+4 ,s long z our "y maid5 is occupi$ ) s*ool & lessons1 %e has n "t to le>n mu* else1 s9ce x is imp]ative t %e has recreation likewise2 x is :5 %e leaves s*ool t ! wise "m1 hav+ an eye to ! future1 w at once seek to initiate h] into ! my/]ies ( h\sekeep+4 ,true1 %e may nev] h a home ( h] own2 %e may be "o ( ^? call$ to lab\r1 p]haps1 9 ! v =efront ( ! work+ wom5 outside2 b all ! same %e ought n to be ignorant ( :at us$ to be consid]$ ! *ief1 if n ! only occupation = wom51--%e ought to be fit to keep h\se on ! %orte/ notice4 ,x is a woman's h]itage4 ,:atev] %e may or may n "k1 ,i hold t %e ought to acquire a c]ta9 am\nt ( dome/ic k1 :e!r %e uses x or n4 ,mo/ "y girls are int]e/$ 9 dome/ic affairs1 & are nev] happi] ?an :5 all[$ to h _! f+] 9 ! dome/ic pie2 b 9 ?is z 9 o!r ?+s a ?or\gh gr\nd+ is ! mo/ satisfactory4 ,x is a/oni%+ :at undream$-( qualities a s5se ( responsibility awak5s 9 a "y s\l2 h[ ! v idea t some?+ dep5ds on h]1 t %e is be+ tru/$1 puts our little maid ^u h] mettle4 ,!re=e x is a good plan to leave to a "y daught] "s p>ticul> duty or duties = :i* %e is entirely responsible4 ,?is may ( c\rse be a v slight ?+ to beg9 )--! du/+ ( a room1 or ! arrangem5t ( fl[]s or books1 or ! sup]9t5d5ce ( ! tea-table2 b :atev] x is1 ! "m %\ld insi/ t x be done regul>ly & at ! appo9t$ "t4 ,?us w %e tea* h] *ild punctuality & a prim>y lesson 9 a me?od1 :i* is ! key to all p]fect h\sekeep+4 ,( c\rse x is a little tr\ble to ! "m to sup]9t5d ! p]=mance ( su* little duties1 b %e w h h] rew>d 9 ! daily increas+ helpfulness ( ! daught] 9 ! home4 ,mo/ "y girls1 if skilfully dealt )1 spe$ily le>n to take a special pride 9 _! own little duties1 especially if _! ef=ts be met ) appreciation4 ,nev] snub a *ild2 ! "y he>t is v s5sitive1 & takes a long "t to =get4 ,little *anges 9 ! dome/ic r\t9e w be introduc$ by ! wise "m1 9 ord] t ! "w may n become irksome4 ,:]e !re are sev]al daught]s1 x is a good plan = !m to ex*ange _! p>ticul> duties = a "t4 ,?us1 "o may assi/ ) ! cook+ = a week1 !n *ange ) h] si/] :o has ! c>e & arrangem5t ( ! draw+-room or sitt+-room1 or ) ! "o :o helps ) ! m5d+4 ,s ! daily r\nd w\ld nev] become monoton\s1 & by gradual & pleasant degrees a k ( ! :ole sy/em ( h\sekeep+ is acquir$1 :i* w be simply invaluable to h]1 :atev] h] future may be4 ,if ! family circum/ances dem& t %e %all g out into ! _w to e>n h] liv+ by tea*+ or typewrit+ or %opkeep+1 ! wise "m w n = ?is reason relax h] desire & ef=t to tea* h] ! art & my/]y ( h\sekeep+4 ,true1 :ile %e is occupi$ outside %e has little opportunity to le>n x1 b :]e !re's a w !re's a way2 & ?\gh x may n appe> at pres5t ( mu* practical value to h]1 yet %e may m>ry1 or h to g to s+le h\sekeep+1 :5 ! home is no long] op5 to h]4 ,i aga9 insi/ t x is e woman's duty to "k1 or to acquire "s practical k ( h\sekeep+1 s t %e may be ready = any em]g5cy4 ,h] fitness = x w be a p]petual s\rce ( satisfaction to h]1 = !re is no?+ m self-satisfy+ ?an to feel t "o is capable2 x gives confid5ce1 /r5g?1 & self-reliance4 ,"o ( ! v necess>y lessons to be taught a "y girl is ! value ( money4 ,! soon] %e le>ns :at equival5t 9 h\sehold necess>ies money c procure ! bett]4 ,! day may come :5 ! tir$ "m w be glad to be reliev$ ev5 ( ! responsibility ( sp5d+1 & :51 ?anks to h] own wisdom & =esight1 %e c place ! family purse 9 y\ng] h&s1 kn[+ t ! cont5ts w n be recklessly or extravagantly sp5t4 ,let our "y maid5 feel t %e is entirely tru/$1 & t a great deal is expect$ ( h]1 !n w %e display qualities undream$-(4 ,%e w be eag] to %[ :at %e c d2 & :5 ! ^w ( enc\ragem5t & appreciation is n lack+ %e w be pr\d & happy inde$4 ,( c\rse !re are p]v]se natures1 ( :om "o is tempt$ at times to despair--irresponsible "y p]sons :o w\ld make wild havoc 9 any e/abli%m5t left to _! c>e2 b ,i am speak+ ( ! av]age "y girl1 :o may be expect$ to be ?\ghtless & =getful (t51 z is ! way ( y\?1 b :o nev]!less has ! mak+s ( a f9e1 g5tle-he>t$1 noble woman 9 h]4 ,:at %all we d ) our daught]s8 is "o ( ! great que/ions ( ! day4 ,=m]ly m>riage 0 _! only de/9y2 if !y miss$ t1 !y 7 suppos$ to h miss$ all t 0 wor? ! w9n+ "h4 ,b t old fallacy is explod$4 ,:ile /ill hold+ t 9 happy m>riage is to be f\nd ! fulle/ & mo/ s\l-satisfy+ life = wom51 no op5-ey$ p]son w d5y t a s+le1 indep5d5t1 & self-respect+ life is f> pref]able to ! mis]able1 />v$1 inadequate wifehood to :i* _m wom5 are b\nd4 ,hav+ dealt 9 a =m] *apt] ) ! "q ( matrimony1 ,i mu/ "h avoid repetition1 b 9 connection ) ?is subject ( our daught]s we mu/ t\* ^u x once aga94 ,! wise "m w re> h] daught]s to be indep5d5t1 self-respect+1 &1 if possible1 self-support+2 n hid+ f !m t %e consid]s a real m>riage 7n ! mock]y ( x s (t5 se57 ! highe/ de/9y = !m1 b at ! same "t impress+ on !m t !re are o!r sph]es 9 :i* wom5 may be z happy & com=table1 & :]e !y w c]ta9ly h less anxiety & c>e4 ,! woman :o tra9s h] daught]s 9 ! belief t m>riage is _! only end & aim1 ! v raison d'etre ( _! be+1 is a mi/ak51 despicable creature1 & 9 all probability h] daught]s w take aft] h]4 ,if !y d n m>ry1 !n :at is to become ( our daught]s8 ,( late ye>s _! pa? ( life has op5$ up m widely & cle>ly1 & ?\gh ! avocations op5 to wom5 are v cr[d$ !re is /ill room = ! be/ equipp$4 ,t is ! secret1--to br+ to ! m>ket ! highe/ value only1 to r5d] oneself z effici5t z nature & circum/ances p]mit4 ,i w\ld h our girls fully compreh5d t 9 ?is age ( unprec$5t$ /ra9 & /ress !re is absolutely no room = m$iocrity1 & t !y _c af=d to be any?+ b ! mo/ effici5t work]s 9 :atev] dep>tm5t !y h made _! own4 ,!re is /ill room = ! be/1 & p]sev]+1 consci5ti\s lab\r1 wor? ! highe/ m>ket value1 soon] or lat] meets its due appreciation & rew>d4 ,illu/ration ,,xiii4 ,,! ,,s]vant ,,9 ,,! ,,home4 ,any little book attempt+ to treat ( home-life mu/ necess>ily be incomplete )\t "s ref]5ce to ! place & p[] ( ! s]vant !re94 ,we h\sekeep]s all "k t ?is s]vant "q is j z press+ z any ^u :i* we h yet t\*$1 & x is "o t is ) u e day4 ,we _c rid ourselves ( x1 ev5 if we w\ld1 because x involves s mu* ( our dome/ic com=t & happ9ess4 ,we ( mod]n days are fill$ ) a vague envy :5 we read ( su* treasures z ,caleb ,bald]/one1 ,bell ( ! ,manse1 & v>i\s o!r types ( a class n[1 we fe>1 ext9ct--! fai?ful s]vitor1 :o liv$ 9 ! s]vice ( "o h\se = g5]ations & desir$ to die 9 x4 ,p]haps su* types _h _! drawbacks likewise1 & sometimes presum$ pa/ endurance1 do+ :at seem$ good 9 _! own eyes1 & t alone4 ,b all t c\ld be =giv51 because1 weigh$ 9 ! balance ) a lifelong devotion & loyalty & love1 !y 7 z no?+4 ,a few ,calebs & ,bells und\bt$ly /ill exi/1 b ! bulk ( mod]n h\sekeep]s "k !m n1 & reg>d !m z pleasant creatures ( fiction1 impossible to real life4 ,are s]vants really less effici5t1 less consci5ti\s1 less dilig5t ?an !y 78 ,or is x t we expect & exact m8 ,mod]n life has und]gone su* a trem5d\s *ange1 !re h be5 s _m upheavals 9 relative positions1 t we are incl9$ to ?9k dome/ic s]vice is n[ reg>d$ f a v diff]5t /&po9t ?an x 0 fifty1 or ev5 tw5ty1 ye>s ago4 ,x is no long] reg>d$ z hon\rable2 ^? :o ent] x seem to d s "u prote/1 ! result be+ a mo/ unsatisfactory relation )9 doors4 ,"s blame education = ?is2 & yet x seems h>d to believe t education1 ! pione] ( progress ev]y:]e & 9 all ages1 %\ld be responsible = su* a di/ort$ view4 ,"s w tell u t ?is v dissatisfaction is a sign ( ! times1 indicat+ ! m>* ( progress t[>ds ! "t :5 all m5 %all be equal1 & no m l9es ( dem>cation %all be drawn4 ,nev] 7 wages high]2 nev]1 ,i am v sure1 7 dome/ic s]vants treat$ ) m consid]ation & respect2 & yet ! fact rema9s t girls pref] almo/ any o!r occupation to x4 ,!y w /& = h\rs beh9d a c\nt]1 suff]+ untold tortures f exhau/ion & insuffici5t food1 cont5t to receive a m]e pittance1 & subject$ to a sy/em ( espionage & bully+ f> h>d] to be> ?an any?+ f\nd 9 dome/ic s]vice2 & !y w give y z _! reasons1 9 g5]al1 ^!3 ,x is m g5teel1 !y h _! ev5+s & _! ,sundays free1 & !y are n requir$ to we> ! liv]y ( cap & apron4 ,^! are ! reasons1 !n2 :at are we to make ( !m8 ,c we make dome/ic s]vice m g5teel2 give ev5+s & ,sundays free2 & are we will+ to disp5se ) ! badge di/+ui%+ maid f mi/ress8 ,^! are ! que/ions we h be=e u1 wait+ an answ]2 9 t answ] p]haps may be f\nd ! solution ( ! :ole /up5d\s difficulty4 ,i write "u "o disadvantage4 ,i h nev] be5 a dome/ic s]vant1 & ,i _c !re=e look at ! situation f t p>ticul> /&po9t2 b ,i h _h = "s ye>s s]vants "u my ro(1 & ,i h my own exp]i5ces ( ^! ye>s to guide me f ! mi/ress's po9t ( view4 ,dur+ ^! ye>s ,i c tru?fully say t ,i h mo/ consci5ti\sly1 k9dly1 & sy/ematically done my be/ to make !m happy2 t ,i h consid]$ !m v (t5 at ! exp5se ( my own com=t2 & ?\gh ,i h _h no />tl+ exp]i5ces :atsoev]1 ,i am b\nd to admit t ! result on ! :ole is n p>ticul>ly enc\rag+4 ,i h seldom f\nd t correspond+ consid]ation1 t devotion to my conc]ns1 t w>m p]sonal int]e/1 :i* make "o feel t "o has fri5ds 9 ! h\sehold4 ,i h _h my p\nd ( fle%1 no?+ m2 !y h done ! "w = :i* !y h be5 paid1 sometimes well1 b (t5 c>elessly2 & t is all4 ,:5 x came to a "q ( p]sonal consid]ation1 ( c>+ = my sub/ance1 look+ aft] my int]e/s z ,i h hone/ly tri$ to look aft] !irs1 ,i h be5 disappo9t$1 & n[ ,i expect no m1 ?ankful if ,i h av]age com=t1 & d n h my n]ves & temp] tri$ a hundr$ times a day4 ,?is ,i suppose is ! exp]i5ce ( two-?irds ( ! wom5 :o may read ?is book4 ,nobody feels m ke5ly ?an ,i d ! monoton\s drudg]y ( a s]vant's life4 ,day 91 day out1 ! same we>y r\nd2 & :ile ! same may be said ( all work]s1 9 :atsoev] e/ate !y may f9d !mselves1 yet is ! lot ( ! dome/ic s]vant notori\sly a dull r\t9e4 ,i (t5 wond]1 inde$1 t )\t t elem5t ( p]sonal int]e/ :i* is ! only ?+ to make ! multitud9\s & we>y r\nd ( h\sehold duties sweet1 or 9 any way tol]able1 %e %\ld d x half s well2 b1 on ! o!r h&1 :5 "o ?9ks ( h] absolute fre$om f c>e1 sordid or o!rwise1 a feel+ ( impati5ce is b\nd to arise4 ,all f\nd is a compreh5sive phrase1 & x is ^? :o h to f9d x :o h ! c>e1 ! ?\ght1 ! anxi\s plann+4 ,h[1 !n1 c we e/abli% a bett] und]/&+ betwe5 mi/ress & maid1 h[ lift ?is "q to its highe/ plat=m1 & r5d] ! s]vice "o :i* w be hon\r$ & s\ght aft]1 in/ead ( despis$1 & ent]$ on "u compulsion1 or z a la/ res\rce8 ,i confess1 = once1 ,i am baffl$ completely1 & beyond r$emption4 ,i h ?\ght ( x long & e>ne/ly1 h done my be/ ) my own opportunities1 & ,i h no glorifi$ results to (f]4 ,i am z o!rs1 worri$ & (t5 we>y1 & grateful = e small m]cy t comes 9 my way4 ,x seems to me t we want to enl>ge our own m9ds & ! m9ds ( ^? we take into our employ2 we ne$ a wid] vision1 :i* %all lift u clean above m]e petty & selfi% conc]ns4 ,t is a baptism we all ne$4 ,:5 %all x desc5d8 ,i am =c$ to ?is conclusion--t x is ?is "q ( all o!rs t is absolutely dep5d5t on ! grace ( ,god4 ,we mu/ h ! true _s ( ,*ri/ianity 9 our kit*5s & 9 our draw+-rooms1--t _s ^: graci\s tea*+ is nev] ambigu\s or difficult to und]/&2 9 a ^w1 !re is no?+ b ! ,s]mon on ! ,m\nt w d u any good4 ,( human prea*+1 tea*+1 & writ+ we h en\gh & to sp>e--x does n appe> to g home1 or to be> any practical fruit4 ,we c only pray t ,he1 ^: great he>t is op5 n[ z x 0 !n to e human ne$1 w help u to realise our responsibility to ea* o!r1 w give u new lessons 9 ! law ( love1 & %[ u t s]vice is ! highe/ =m ( praise1 & t no?+ is really small or mean or despicable1 except s9 & ! littl5ess ( human aims4 ,all "w is hon\rable1 nay1 x is ! highe/ call+ on e>?4 ,x c only be di%on\r$ 9 ! do+4 ,if ea* "o1 ma/] & man1 mi/ress & maid1 c\ld adopt ?is attitude t[>ds _! daily duty to ! _w & to ea* o!r1 !re w\ld be f\nd ! solution ( ! problem vex+ ! s\ls ( s _m at ! pres5t day4 ,illu/ration ,,xiv4 ,,religion ,,9 ,,! ,,home4 ,p]haps ?is *apt] might m appropriately h be5 plac$ at ! beg9n+ ( ! book ?an at ! end1 see+ we h 9 x ! root ( ! :ole matt]1 ! key to all happ9ess1 fitness1 com=t1 & peace4 ,religion is a ^w mu* misund]/ood1 yet x is giv5 to u 9 ! ,epi/le ( ,/4 ,james 9 ! cle>e/1 mo/ intelligible language1--,pure religion & undefil$ is to visit ! wid[s & ! fa!rless 9 _! affliction1 & to keep himself unspott$ f ! _w4 ,x always seems to me t ! =m] "p ( ! injunction is easi] ?an ! latt]4 ,!re is s mu* 9 ! _w ) :i* we mu/ combat1 s mu* t1 ?\gh we c avoid 9 "o s5se1 comes s v ne> to u1 t x is well-nigh impossible to keep ourselves unspott$4 ,b ?\gh !re is a great deal ( evil ar\nd u1 we mu/ n be su* c[>ds z to %r9k f fac+ x1 & %ut ourselves up 9 selfi% safety1 le/ x %\ld come ne> u at all4 ,?is is n :at ! ,apo/le means1 = x is possible to be 9 ! _w & yet n ( x1 x is writt5 too t to ! pure all ?+s are pure4 ,:at we h to d is to see t 9 our inmo/ ?\ghts we are pure1 n giv+ lodgm5t 9 our m9d to any unholy ?+ :i* if reveal$ w\ld br+ ! blu% ( %ame to our *eek4 ,b 9 ! high /&>d ( p]sonal purity1 :i* we may rightly set up = ourselves1 let u n be too arrogant1 or =getful t su* z fall away f purity may h be5 subject$ to su* t]rible temptations z we "k no?+ (4 ,let u cultivate m ( t ,div9e compassion t[>ds !m :i* ,*ri/ %[$ ( old t[>ds ! ,magdal5e4 ,x is 9 matt]s ( su* imm$iate & p]sonal int]e/ t ! _s ( ! religion we pr(ess is to be exhibit$1--9 a ^w1 we mu/ consecrate all to ! high s]vice ,god requires ( u1 hon\r+ u 9 ! requirem5t4 ,we are plac$ 9 ?is _w to be happy & useful2 & ?\gh we are rem9d$ _m times by p]sonal sorr[s & b]eavem5ts t we h no cont9u+ city "h1 yet ! k ne$ n make u gloomy1 or re/less1 or dissatisfi$4 ,9 ?is lovely _w1 s full ( beauty & v>iety1 we are bidd5 to rejoice2 x is = our enjoym5t & our use1 !re is no /9t or condition atta*$ to our citiz5%ip ( ,god's e>?4 ,nature is "m to all1 & has a message = ! meane/ & mo/ tri$ ( h] *ildr52 & x is a message ( div9e/ love4 ,?r\gh ,nature1 ,8 h&maid1 ,god speaks to u1 giv+ u 9 ! dawn ( ea* new day1 9 ! return ( ea* season1 9 ! %9+ ( ! sun & ! bless+ ( ! ra91 gr& & practical lessons 9 fai?1 fulfilm5t ( promises :i* %\ld mean a great deal to u1 & tea* u m & m to tru/ ,him 9 all & ?r\gh all4 ,:ile we are 9 ! _w we h a duty to x1 & ^? :o neglect or ?9k lightly ( ! practical & commonplace requirem5ts ( daily life are 9 ! wrong4 ,:at is ne$$ is a deep5$ s5se ( responsibility conc]n+ ! *>ge ,god has giv5 u to keep = ,him1 9 ! h\se1 ! work%op1 or ! busy m>t ( life4 ,x is ) ! home we h pres5tly to deal2 & x is 9 ! home1 ,i ?9k1 we ne$ c]ta9ly1 9 z great a degree z else:]e1 all ! aid & /imulus religion c give4 ,x tea*es u to make ! v be/ ( all our circum/ances1 adv]se or pleasant2 & aids u to ! p]=mance ( all duties1 h[ev] monoton\s or irksome 9 !mselves4 ,x is n ours to inquire :e!r ^! duties are j :at we w\ld desire or *oose = ourselves1 _h *oice rema9$ ) u4 ,religion does n consi/ 9 ! p]=mance ( religi\s ord9ances1 9 consci5ti\s read+ ( ! ,^w or ! utt]ance ( its =mal pray]s2 ^! are its attributes1 its natural outcome1 n by any means ! ?+ itself4 ,religion is1 ,i take x1 to be a pr9ciple1 a p[]ful guid+ motive to direct u 9 ! ord9>y affairs ( life1 & its ma9spr+ is love4 ,love = :om8 ,= ! ,"l ,jesus4 ,& if we love ,him1 & truly desire to s]ve ,him1 x w be no difficulty = u1 b a natural & exquisite result1 t we love "o ano!r4 ,ev5 ! enemies ( ,*ri/1 :o d5y ,8 div9ity1 admit ! beauty & p]fectness ( ,8 "*1 & ! unselfi%ness & hol9ess ( ,8 e>?ly life4 ,s9ce ^! ?ree-&-?irty ye>s ,he walk$ ) m5 _m new ,*ri/s h ris51 _m new cre$s & dogmas be5 (f]$ = ! _w's acceptance2 b all h pass$ away1 disappe>$ into no?+ness1 & ,*ri/ rema9s1 ! ma9/ay & salvation ( human s\ls4 ,8 tea*+ is /ill ! v be/ we c obta9 = our guidance "h4 ,take ! ,s]mon on ! ,m\nt1 = in/ance4 ,h[ p]fect x is1 h[ compreh5sive1 h[ full ( little ?+s1 & yet h[ wide-rea*+ 9 its limit6 ,!re is no?+ =gott52 ne>ly n9ete5 hundr$ ye>s old1 & yet x is adapt$ = e ne$ ( ! human s\l4 ,if we c\ld get ! _s ( t bless$ tea*+ m firmly plant$ 9 our he>ts1 we c\ld make ! _w a happi] place = ourselves & o!rs4 ,we are all fond ( lay+ plans = ! future2 & !re are few ( u :o d n at lea/ once a ye> review ! pa/1 & make new resolves = ! future4 ,"s ( u are con/antly tak+ retrospects1 & sometimes feel hopeless4 ,we seem to be mak+ s little progress 9 t high] life :i* we desire1 & /rive aft] 9 "s degree4 ,9 a tw(old s5se ?is look+ back may be made pr(itable to u4 ,x mu/ always1 unless we are v h>d ( he>t1 make u grateful = pa/ m]cies2 & :5 we consid] h[ wond]fully & t5d]ly we h be5 l$ ?r\gh difficulties & trials1 or dang]s1 or guid$ ?r\gh ! m p]il\s wat]s ( prosp]ity & success1 x w give u great] he>t to g =w>d to :atev] may lie be=e u4 ,:5 we look back on lo/ opportunities1 x mu/ make u m wat*ful ( ^? pres5t ) u1 & help u to give to ea* new day z x comes some?+ ^u :i* we %all aft]w>ds look back )\t regret4 ,! old] ,i gr[ ! m /rongly d ,i feel t religion is a matt] ( daily liv+--( practice1 n precept2 & t unless ! ,_s ( ,*ri/ animate u 9 all our relations "o to ! o!r we "n ,8 "n 9 va94 ,& :at a lovely _s x 01 unsulli$ by any trace ( selfi%ness1 g5tle1 =be>+1 long-suff]+1 j to ! la/ degree6 ,x is ?is _s alone t c sanctify & bless ! home1 & raise all common life out ( a sordid groove2 t c make homely ?+s beautiful1 & h>d ?+s1 ( :i* s _m meet u on life's road1 easi] to be>4 ,oh t we _h a l>g] baptism ( x2 t we :o s long & /rive = x c\ld h x always ) u6 ,human nature is s p]v]se1 & self s /rong4 ,yet1 ev5 9 its weake/ ef=ts1 ?is e>ne/ desire to live ! religion ,*ri/ has taught u w n g unbless$1 b w make its little lesson felt :]ev] x is f\nd4 ,because x makes u m self-d5y+1 m *>itable1 m =be>+ 9 e relation ( life1 x w make o!rs inquire conc]n+ ! hope t is 9 u4 ,9 hidd5 & unnotic$ ways2 ,9 h\sehold "w1 on common days1 we may d ! ,ma/]'s "w1 & make our homes alt>s to ,8 glory4 ,we want less talk & m action1 less precept & m example1 :i* ?\gh retic5t ( spee* is yet eloqu5t 9 te/imony = good or = evil4 ,s1 :atev] be our lot or circum/ances1 :atev] our joys & sorr[s1 our losses or crosses1 we may ) confid5ce look ahead1 & our great comp5sation w n be lack+--,%e ha? done :at %e c\ld2 & aga91 ,well done1 good & fai?ful s]vant3 ent] ?\ into ! joy ( ?y ,"l4 ,pr9t$ by ,hazell1 ,watson1 ,v9ey1 ,ld41 ,london & ,aylesbury4