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#aad     ,,preface4   ,! mak]s ( books h
 be5 divid$ into two classes--! creators
 & ! collectors4 ,9 prep>+ ?is volume ! 
au?or has made no claim to a place 9 !  
fir/ division1 = he has be51 to a great 
ext5t1 only a collector4 ,! facts :i* ! 
book conta9s are famili> to intellig5t  
p1 & ! only excuse (f]$ = pres5t+ !m 9 a
 new dress is t we ne$ to be rem9d$ (t5 
( "s tru?s ) :i* we are mo/ famili>4  ,9
 our daily int]c\rse ) "o ano!r1 we may 
=get to r5d] to o!rs t ?\ghtfulness &   
att5tion :i* we exact f !m4  ,we all "k 
t ! ess5ce ( c\rtesy is ! purpose1 9    
spee* & mann]1 to be agreeable1         
attractive1 & lovable1 to awak5 by our  
pres5ce happy impressions 9 ano!r4 ,we  
all und]/& ?is1 b we s easily =get x1   
or1 at lea/1 =get to put x into         
practice4  ,c\rtesy is n ! lea/ ( !     
,*ri/ian virtues1 & x %\ld be /udi$ z an
 art4  ,! read] is reque/$ to accept ^! 
*apt]s 9 ! _s 9 :i* !y 7 prep>$4 ,!y are
 n pr(\nd psy*ological /udies1 or ev5   

orig9al essays1 b only a br++ toge!r (  
simple1 yet important tru?s1 :i* are (  
conc]n to u all4 ,possibly !y may be (  
"s help--,le/ we =get1----     ,,! ,,man
 ,,:o ,,pleases4      ,! de>e/ fri5d to 
me1 ! k9de/ man1     ,! be/-condition$ &
 unwe>i$ _s     ,9 do+ c\rtesies4       
,,m]*ant ,,( ,,v5ice4      ,he ha? a    
daily beauty 9 8 life4                  
,,o!llo4      ,su* a man w\ld w9 any    
woman 9 ! _w if a' c\ld get h]     good 
w4                                      
,,mu* ,,ado ,,ab\t ,,no?+4   ,!re are   
few subjects ( deep] int]e/ to m5 & wom5
 ?an t ( p]sonal fasc9ation1 or :at is  
sometimes call$ p]sonal magnetism4 ,we  
commonly talk ab\t x z ?\gh x 7 "s      
my/]i\s quality ( :i* no def9ite acc\nt 
c\ld be giv54  ,a man is fasc9at+1 we   
say1 he is born magnetic2 he has an     
indef9able *>m :i* _c be analyz$ or     
und]/ood1 &1 ) ! t]m naturally magnetic1
 we h& ! matt] ov] to ! _w ( my/]y4  ,is
 ?is quality ( s bewild]+ a nature t x  
_c be und]/ood1 or w a /udy ( ^? m5 &   

wom5 :o possess preem95tly ! p[] (      
pleas+ %[ u ! secret ( _! influ5ce1 &   
prove to u t ! gift ( fasc9ation is n1  
necess>ily1 innate1 b t x c1 to a great 
degree1 be acquir$8  ,w we n f9d t :at  
appe>s to be ! p]fection ( naturalness  
is (t5 b ! p]fection ( culture8  ,f all 
our well-kn[n public m5 :o h won !      
reputation ( be+ naturally magnetic1    
p]haps we c\ld n select a bett] example 
?an ,james ,g4 ,bla9e4 ,) ! possible    
exception ( ,h5ry ,clay1 no o!r         
political lead] 9 our hi/ory1 "u all    
circum/ances1 _h s devot$ & det]m9$ a   
foll[+4 ,bo? ,clay & ,bla9e possess$    
sympa!tic & affectionate dispositions1 &
 bo? und]/ood human nature & ! art (    
pleas+4 ,x may be said t ,mr4 ,bla9e's  
popul>ity 0 due1 9 a great measure1 to !
 brilliant & attractive nature ( 8      
public s]vice1 & ?is 01 no d\bt1 true to
 a c]ta9 ext5t4 ,no man knew bett] ?an  
he ! importance ( mak+ ! mo/ (          
opportunities = dramatic & s5sational   
display1 & 8 me?ods ( /atesman%ip 7     

always calculat$ to please ! multitude4 
,8 greate/ p[]1 h[ev]1 0 manife/$ 9 8   
w9n+ m5 by direct & individual contact4 
,"o ?+ :i* assi/$ him 9 ?is direction 0 
! fact t he 01 p]haps1 ! mo/ c\rte\s (  
all ! public m5 ( 8 g5]ation4 ,:5ev] a  
/rang] 0 introduc$ to him1 a he>ty      
h&%ake1 a look ( int]e/ & an att5tive & 
cordial mann] assur$ him t ,mr4 ,bla9e 0
 v glad to see him4 ,if !y *anc$ to meet
 aga91 aft] mon?s or ev5 ye>s1 ! man 0  
delight$ to f9d t ,mr4 ,bla9e n only    
rememb]$ 8 "n1 b t he _h seem$ to       
treasure ev5 ! mo/ trivial recollections
 ( _! %ort acqua9tance4 ,he _h a        
m>vell\s memory = faces & names1 & he   
und]/ood ! value ( ?is gift4  ,?is      
ability to rememb] faces is n difficult 
to acquire4 ,we c\ld all possess x if we
 w\ld make suffici5t ef=t4 ,no two      
figures or c\nt5ances are precisely     
alike1 & x is by not+ h[ !y diff] "o f  
ano!r t y w rememb] !m4  ,9 expla9+ 8   
own rem>kable memory = faces1 ,?omas ,b4
 ,re$ once said to a report] t he nev]  

look$ a man 9 ! face t "s /rik+         
peculi>ity1 a l9e1 a wr9kle1 an         
expression ab\t ! eye1 ! set ( ! lips1 !
 %ape ( ! nose1 some?+ set t man's face 
d[n 9 8 m9d indelibly1 & di/+ui%$ him f 
! re/ ( mank9d4  ,bla9e c>efully tra9$  
himself to pick out "s feature or       
peculi>ity by :i* he c\ld di/+ui% "o    
face or p]son f all o!rs & by :i* he    
c\ld associate ! "n ( ! individual4  ,! 
ability to rememb] names & faces is "o (
 ! mo/ valuable accompli%m5ts = ! man 9 
public life1 or1 inde$1 = any man or    
woman :o wi%es social success4 ,n only  
does x insure com=t to "o's self1 b x is
 especially pleas+ to o!rs4 ,next to !  
com=t ( be+ able to address by "n & )\t 
hesitation a p]son "o has met b once1 & 
)\t mi/ake1 is ! com=t ( be+ recogniz$  
"o's self4  ,ano!r reason :y ,mr4 ,bla9e
 0 popul> ) ! masses 0 because he 0 n   
difficult to approa*1 & he nev] miss$ a 
*ance to be useful to a p]son :o might  
"s "t1 9 turn1 be useful to him4  ,! ,/4
 ,l\is ,globe-,democrat said %ortly aft]

 8 dea?3 ,x 0 n ! habit ( ,mr4 ,bla9e to
 wait = m5 to seek favors f him4 ,he    
anticipat$ _! desires1 & d\bl$ _!       
obligations to him by do+ volunt>ily :at
 might h be5 delay$ = solicitation4 ,t  
gave him ! k9d ( popul>ity :i* outla/s  
defeat & resi/s all ord9>y influ5ces (  
criticism & ho/ility4 ,he c\ld always   
c\nt ^u a c]ta9 measure ( unfl9*+ &     
unconditional support1 :atev] =ces      
happ5$ to be array$ aga9/ him2 & he     
*ang$ bitt] enemies into zeal\s fri5ds )
 a facility t 0 a s\rce ( con/ant       
surprise & wond]4  ,b :y %\ld 8 success 
9 attract+ o!rs to himself be a s\rce ( 
surprise & wond]8  ,mr4 ,bla9e1 9 common
 ) _m o!r magnetic m5 & wom51 und]/ood t
 ! secret ( p]sonal fasc9ation lies 9 "o
 s+le po9t2 t is1 9 ! p[] to excite 9   
ano!r p]son happy feel+s ( a high degree
 ( int5sity1 & to make t p]son id5tify  
su* feel+s ) ! *>m & p[] ( ! *]i%$ cause
 ( !m4  ,any quality1 good or evil1 t   
enables a man to d ?is1 r5d]s him       
fasc9at+1 :e!r he be sa9t or s9n]4      

,inde$1 "s ( ! m5 :o h be5 ! mo/ skilful
 9 ! art ( pleas+ h be5 sc\ndrels4      
,said a writ] 9 ! ,bo/on ,h]ald3 ,x us$ 
to be said ( ,a>on ,burr--s irresi/ible 
9 *>m ( mann] 0 ! man--t he c\ld nev]   
/op at ! /& ( ! uglie/ old crone ( an   
apple-woman1 )\t leav+ on h] m9d :5 he  
w5t away ! conviction t he reg>d$ h] z !
 faire/ & mo/ graci\s ( h] sex4 ,& s1 _h
 woman suffrage prevail$ 9 8 day1 he    
w\ld h _h ! solid vote ( ! apple-wom5 = 
any (fice he might aspire to4  ,a>on    
,burr cle>ly und]/ood t ! woman does n  
exi/ :o is :olly )\t s5tim5t1 & he      
always appeal$ to t "p ( a woman's      
nature4  ,he und]/ood v well ! tru? ( ^!
 words writt5 by ,croly3 ,9 ! :ole c\rse
 ( my life ,i nev] met a woman1 f !     
flat-nos$ & ebony-color$ inhabitant ( ! 
tropics to ! sn[-:ite & sublime div9ity 
( a ,greek isle1 )\t a t\* ( romance2   
repulsiv5ess c\ld n conceal x1 age c\ld 
n ext+ui% x1 viscissitude c\ld n *ange  
x4 ,i h f\nd x 9 all times & places1 l a
 spr+ ( fre% wat]1 />t+ up ev5 f ! fl9t1

 *e]+ ! *e]less1 s(t5+ ! ins5sible1     
r5ovat+ ! )]$2 a secret :isp] 9 ! e> ( e
 woman alive t to ! la/1 affection might
 flutt] its rosy p9ions ar\nd h] br[4   
,burr1 und]/&+ ?is1 left 9 ! m9d ( !    
apple-woman ! firm impression t he ?\ght
 %e mu/ h be5 at "o "t a du*ess1 r$uc$ 9
 =tune by "s accid5t1 & n[ driv5 to !   
la/ refuge ( an apple-/&1 & t ^? sad    
facts evid5tly acc\nt$ = ! traits ( high
 bre$+ & delicate ref9em5t s visible    
?r\gh all h] pres5t pov]ty4  ,he        
und]/ood ! fact t all p live 9 two      
di/9ct worlds--! _w ( reality & ! _w (  
imag9ation4 ,9 ! _w ( reality !y use    
brooms & %ovels1 wa% floors & di%es1 or 
sell apples2 9 ! o!r1 !y live 9 draw+   
rooms1 fea/ sumptu\sly & are ! wond] &  
admiration ( mank9d4  ,few p1 cont9ues !
 writ] 9 ! ,h]ald1 w\ld believe t an    
ugly1 dilapidat$ look+ apple-woman c\ld 
dwell 9 ! en*ant$ realm ( imag9ation j z
 mu* z ! ri* & favor$ d4 ,b ,burr       
believ$ x1 s :5 he spoke to ! old crone1
 he w5t up1 n to h] )]$ & begg>ly self1 

b to h] ideal self1 imag9atively ent]+  
into ! du*ess dream 9 h]1 & in/9ctively 
became def]5tial 9 8 be>+4  ,=?) !      
du*ess 9 h] came out to meet ! c\rtly   
g5tleman 9 him1 & greet+s 7 ex*ang$ z   
betwe5 two incognito scions ( noble     
l9eage4 ,ea* enjoy$ ! meet+1 ea* _h     
vividness en\gh ( imag9ation to imp>t to
 x ! flavor ( reality1 & to keep out (  
sight common1 mat]ial facts4  ,b1 y say1
 n e man c make su* an impression1 = few
 are able to d & say ?+s ) ! ease &     
grace ( a ,burr4 ,!re mu/ be a          
naturalness ( mann] :i* nev] sugge/s    
suspicion4 ,let ! av]age man attempt to 
=ce 8 nature & to manufacture smiles &  
looks ( pleasure1 & ! old apple-woman w 
"k at once t %e is be+ fool$4 ,v true1 &
 x is n desirable t ! av]age man %\ld   
possess ! ability ( an ,a>on ,burr to   
influ5ce o!rs4 ,few p]sons try z he did 
to acquire t p[]1 b because ! av]age man
 _c at once ex]cise t pot5t influ5ce ov]
 o!rs :i* he did1 x does n foll[ t we   
are unable to und]/& ! secret ( ,burr's 

success1 nor is x evid5t t o!r m5 _c    
acquire some?+ ( ?is p[] by ?9k+ x wor? 
:ile to d s4  ,x w\ld n be safe to say t
 all m5 c be equally successful1 try z  
!y w1 9 inspir+ 9 o!rs happy feel+s ( a 
high degree ( int5sity1 = nature has n  
be5 imp>tial 9 be/[+ equally ^u all !   
gifts ( adaptation & expression4  ,!re  
are a few p]sons s con/itut$ by         
temp]am5t & m5tal organism t !y ex]cise 
a depress+ influ5ce ov] _! associates4  
,!y h a negative1 flabby _s t seems to  
op]ate1 speak+ figuratively1 mu* z a wet
 %oe does ^u "o :o is compell$ to we> x4
 ,!y draw ^u ! n]v\s /r5g? & exhau/ !   
pati5ce ( ^? :o are compell$ to be mu* 9
 _! company4 ,b !re are n _m ( ?is type4
 ,mo/ ( u c\ld make f> m progress 9     
acquir+ social graces & 9 ! art ( pleas+
 ?an we d4  ,let u n[ consid] "s ( !    
p>ticul> qualities :i* r5d] a man pleas+
 to ! opposite sex4  ,( c\rse diff]5t   
types ( m5 please diff]5t wom54 ,"s wom5
 c>e little = ! moral elem5t 9 m54 ,!y d
 n admire !m = _! goodness or nobility (

 "*1 b r = _! mann]s & _! ability to    
flatt] & say pleas+ ?+s4 ,"s wom5 are   
fasc9at$ by m]e brute /r5g?1 b !y are n 
_m4 ,rank1 weal?1 & social position are 
v attractive to "s1 b ^! ?+s d n make ! 
man himself m attractive to ! true      
woman4  ,:ile a girl is "y1 %e may g    
into raptures ov] a cameo pr(ile1 a     
,burnes-,jones head ( hair1 or a        
pre-,raphaelite languor & pallor1 b ^!  
?+s are b\nd to pall1 & become          
absolutely di/a/eful4 ,"s ev5 admire    
d[nright wick$ness 9 m51 & ^! are ! wom5
 :o s5d delicacies to murd]]s 9 prison1 
& ov]:elm !m ) b\quets4 ,b1 =tunately1  
^! types repres5t b a small fraction ( !
 fair sex1 & ?is *apt] has to d only ) !
 great majority2 ! intellig5t1 moral1   
cultur$ wom5 ( ! l&4 ,:at qualities 9 m5
 are mo/ attractive to !m8  ,physical   
beauty is always attractive 9 ei!r sex1 
yet ! h&some man has ! advantage ( 8    
pla9] rival only 9 ?is--he is able to   
draw att5tion to himself at once4 ,he   
mu/1 h[ev]1 h some?+ m to hold t        

att5tion4 ,he may be physically an      
,apollo1 b if he be ill-mann]$1 dull or 
ignorant1 he w /& no *ance beside ! man 
skill$ 9 ! artful poli%$ ways ( :at is  
call$ society1 :o is ma/] ( t grace (   
mann] & flexibility ( spee* :i* m ?an   
weal?1 reputation1 or p]sonal           
attractiv5ess1 w9 _! way ) wom54  ,x has
 be5 prov51 aga9 & aga91 t ev5 ugl9ess (
 face & =m is n1 by any means1 a b> to  
popul>ity ) wom51 & :ile we are (t5     
amaz$ at ! *oice :i* brilliant1         
beautiful wom5 sometimes make f a cr[d (
 admir]s1 at ! bottom ( e app>5t        
fanta/ic selection1 !re is a solid1 &1  
usually1 a s5sible reason4  ,erne/ ,r5an
 0 c]ta9ly n h&some4 ,he 0 exce$+ly     
corpul5t1 8 complexion 0 said to        
resemble no?+ else s closely z tall[4   
,he _h claw-%ap$ h&s1 bu%y gray eyebr[s1
 & ?9 gray hair1 yet :]ev] he w5t into  
society he 0 sure to be ! c5t] ( an     
admir+ gr\p ( wom54 ,he 0 n fasc9at+ by 
reason ( 8 ugl9ess1 b 9 spite ( x4 ,!re 
0 en\gh 9 ! subtle *>m ( 8 mann]1 & !   

melodi\s fl[ ( 8 conv]sation1 to make up
 = all outw>d defici5cies4  ,liszt 0 n a
 h&some man--q ! contr>y2 yet probably  
no o!r man ev] liv$ :o ex]cis$ a m      
magnetic & pot5t influ5ce ov] wom54 ,ev5
 :5 he _h become gaunt & old1 8 eyes    
dim1 8 blonde hair sn[-:ite1 8 sp>e1    
lean figure wrapp$ 9 a black1 prie/ly   
g[n1 he 0 foll[$ ab\t by a tra9 ( fair  
admir]s4  ,*auteaubri& c\ld *>m at      
eighty-f\r1 ! ,abbe ,liszt at           
sev5ty-five1 & ,a>on ,burr--:o 0 by no  
means h&some--_h at sev5ty a *>m ( mann]
 t 0 irresi/ible4  ,! fact is1 "o _c    
recall half a doz5 v tal5t$ m5 :o 7     
admir$ = _! p]sonal beauty4 ,pope 0 v   
pla92 ,dr4 ,johnson 0 no bett]2         
,mirabeau 0 ! uglie/ man 9 ,france1 &   
yet he 0 ! greate/ favorite ) ! fair    
sex4  ,^! examples are n cit$ to prove t
 wom5 d n c>e = physical beauty 9 m54   
,on ! contr>y1 t is a v /rong           
attraction1 b n ! mo/ p[]ful factor 9   
hold+ !m4 ,wom5 m frequ5tly prize m5 =  
_! /]l+ qualities ( m9d ?an m5 d wom54  

,a p]fection ( physical beauty r>ely    
associates itself ) great m5tal ability 
9 ei!r sex1 b /ill !re h be5 "s notable 
exceptions1 especially among wom51 & e  
pretty woman :o reads ?is may consid]   
h]self "o ( ^! exceptions4  ,z a g5]al  
?+1 ! man :o pleases is ! man :o        
und]/&s4 ,x does n matt] mu* to a woman 
:e!r a man has great & brilliant ?\ghts 
( 8 own1 if he compreh5ds h] wi%es & h] 
feel+s1 z well z h] ?\ghts4 ,he %\ld1 if
 he desires to please1 make a c>eful    
/udy ( t my/]i\s & complex ?+--a woman's
 nature4 ,he mu/ und]/& t x is ( a f9]  
fibre ?an 8 own2 t x is s5sitive &      
easily hurt4 ,he %\ld h s5tim5t1 b n be 
a s5tim5tali/4 ,he w be wise1 inde$1 if 
he c skilfully draw ! l9e betwe5 ! two  
?+s4 ,s5tim5t is div9e3 s5tim5talism    
absurd4 ,he %\ld be able to say mu* 9   
little & he mu/ n be a *att]]4 ,a woman 
:o talks too mu* becomes tiresome2 a man
 :o is an aimless talk] is an intol]able
 bore to bo? sexes4  ,few m5 und]/& a   
woman4 ,!y d n look at ?+s f h] po9t (  

view1 &1 !re=e1 d n realize to :at ext5t
 civiliz$ life has p]mitt$ h] to assume 
t conv5tion ( mann] & ^? civilities (   
spee* :i* are 9 "s h>mless degree       
hypocritical4 ,x c\ld n be o!rwise4 ,h] 
ideal ( a man is a v high "o1 b %e r>ely
 meets him1 & s %e accepts ! "o :o comes
 ne>e/ to h] ideal & makes ! mo/ ( !    
situation4 ,%e w\ld t he 7 diff]5t1 b a 
woman c love 9 spite ( v _m ?+s4        
,usually %e is oblig$ to if to love at  
all4 ,%e is mu* clev]] at love-mak+ ?an 
a man4 ,%e is an arti/ :]e he is a crude
 workman1 & %e does n g ?r\gh a love    
sc5e )\t realiz+ h[ mu* bett] %e c\ld h 
done x if ! title role _h be5 giv5 to   
h]4  ,if %e is a woman ( s5sibility1 %e 
is %ock$ by a hundr$ disagreeable habits
 :i* _m m5 ?9k ju/ifiable4 ,%e is       
repell$ by awkw>dness ( mann]1 co>se    
modes ( spee*1 by c>elessness ( p]son & 
dress1 & yet1 = all t1 %e loves4  ,!    
lov] :o is mo/ successful 9 reta9+ !    
affection ( a swee!>t or a wife is ! "o 
:o expresses ov] & ov] aga9 ! love & !  

t5d]ness he feels4 ,wom51 m ?an m51 l to
 he> ?+s talk$ ab\t4 ,!y are f> m       
wide-awake to ! value ( trifles1 & m    
s5sitive to *anges ( mood4 ,!y are giv5 
to say+ 9 _m ways1 ) delicate v>iations1
 :at a man is satisfi$ to /ate once =   
all1 ev5 to /ate badly4  ,a man w       
believe 9 a woman's love & be satisfi$ )
 f> few] visible tok5s ( x ?an are      
necess>y to confirm 8 t5d]ness & keep h]
 conv9c$ ( x4  ,! tru? is t a man's p[] 
( pleas+ does n dep5d ^u "s occult      
quality ( :i* no acc\nt c be giv51 b ^u 
! degree 9 :i* he holds c]ta9 attractive
 qualities--innate or acquir$4 ,we h no 
difficulty 9 und]/&+ any s+le "o ( ^!   
qualities1 yet :5 a man possesses su* a 
comb9ation ( !m z to entitle him to !   
t]m fasc9at+ we pron\nce x              
incompreh5sible1 & fall back ^u t vague 
t]m1 p]sonal magnetism4  ,! p]sonal     
elem5ts :i* are mo/ conducive to our    
influ5ce ov] o!rs are1 9 a broad way3   
good mann]s1 a pleas+ voice1 ! ability  
to conv]se well1 p]sonal neatness1 ta/e 

9 dress1 tact1 good morals1 culture &   
ref9em5t1 physical beauty1 &            
intellectual =ce4 ,we are pleas+ or     
(f5sive j 9 proportion to our possession
 ( ^! v desirable *>act]i/ics1 &1       
possibly1 :at we t]m p]sonal magnetism  
is simply ! result ( a well-balanc$     
developm5t ( "s1 or all1 ( ^! enviable  
*>act]i/ics4     ,,! ,,woman ,,:o       
,,*>ms4      ,look on ?is woman4 ,!re is
 n beauty1 n brilliant say+s1     nor   
di/+ui%$ p[] to s]ve y2 b all see h]    
gladly2 h]     :ole air & impression are
 heal?ful4 ,mann]s require "t1 z        
no?+ is m vulg> ?an ha/e4               
,,em]son4      ,possess$ ) su* a g5tle1 
sov]eign grace1     ,) su* en*ant+      
pres5ce & disc\rse4                     
,,com$y ,,( ,,errors4      ,%e's a mo/  
exquisite lady4                         
,,o!llo4   ,is x ! h&some woman8 ,yes1  
sometimes1 b n always4 ,beauty is always
 attractive1 b ! h&some woman has ! same
 advantage only t ! h&some man          
possesses--%e draws att5tion to h]self  

at once4 ,if %e has no?+ b h] beauty to 
rely ^u1 %e does n hold ! att5tion4  ,x 
0 ,balzac :o rem9d$ u ( ! fact t ne>ly  
all ( ! mo/ celebrat$ atta*m5ts 9 hi/ory
 7 inspir$ by wom5 9 :om !re 7          
noticeable physical defects4 ,mme4 de   
,pompad\r1 ,joanna ( ,naples1           
,cleopatra1 ,la ,valli]e--9 fact1 almo/ 
all ! wom5 :om a romantic love has      
inve/$ ) a halo ( int]e/--7 n )\t       
imp]fections & ev5 infirmities1 :ile    
ne>ly all ! wom5 ^: beauty is describ$  
to u z p]fect1 h be5 f9ally unhappy 9 _!
 loves4  ,p]haps1 says ,balzac1 m5 live 
by s5tim5t m ?an by pleasure4 ,p]haps ! 
*>m1 :olly physical1 ( a beautiful woman
 has its b\nds1 :ile ! *>m1 ess5tially  
moral1 ( a woman ( mod]ate beauty may be
 inf9ite4  ,:e!r ?is be true or n1 wom5 
surely ov]e/imate ! influ5ce ( m]e      
physical beauty to attract & hold m54   
,madame de ,/ael1 ^: dom9ion ov] ! he>ts
 ( all ^? ) :om %e came 9 contact is    
well kn[n1 decl>$ t %e w\ld gladly give 
up all h] gifts ( p]son1 & all h] le>n+1

 if %e c\ld receive beauty 9 ex*ange4 ,x
 0 =tunate = h] t h] wi% 0 n grant$1 =1 
_h x be51 probably %e w\ld h f\nd h]    
k+dom slipp+ away4 ,:ile %e did n h a   
beautiful face1 %e possess$ physical    
*>act]i/ics & p]sonal traits :i* r5d]$  
h] absolutely fasc9at+4  ,to a s5sible  
man no?+ is q s insipid z a va91        
bra9less1 tactless beauty1 ^: op9ions   
are b e*oes1 & :o imag9es t h] beauty   
alone w hold him *a9$ to h] *>iot4      
,beauty holds = a "t1 b aft] a man's    
eyes are satisfi$1 he mu/ be ent]ta9$1 &
 ! pla9 girl :o possesses bra9s & tact  
ne$ h no fe> ( h] m beautiful rival4    
,mod]n rese>* has prov$ t n ,sappho1 n  
,aspasia1 nor ev5 ,cleopatra 7 wom5 :o  
w\ld h attract$ any special att5tion by 
reason ( _! physical beauty4 ,_! highe/ 
*>m 0 intellectual--! possession ( an   
imm5sity to give1 z ,plut>* expresses x1
 9 ! way ( grace & accompli%m5t4  ,!    
idea t pla9 girls are all[$ to run to   
wa/e z unappropriat$ bless+s1 is n      
support$ by evid5ce1 = we are con/antly 

meet+ wives f> pla9] ?an ! majority ( ! 
unm>ri$ wom5 ( our acqua9tance2 & x     
frequ5tly happ5s t a man :o has a wife  
physically beautiful1 becomes enamor$ ( 
an exce$+ly pla9 woman :o possesses a   
c]ta9 quality ( cong5iality1 "s trait ( 
adaptability :i* he misses 9 8 p>tn]4   
,says a writ] 9 ,lipp9cott's3 ,x is safe
 to make ! broad g5]alization t a homely
 girl1 all o!r ?+s be+ equal1 is likely 
to h few] (f]s ?an a pretty girl1 b q z 
likely to receive ! "o (f] :i* w make h]
 a happy wife4 ,b all o!r ?+s 7save !   
gift ( beauty7 seldom are equal betwe5 !
 homely & ! pretty girl2 by ! natural   
law ( comp5sation1 ! homely girl has    
ei!r "s inh]5t or "s acquir$ ability t  
is lack+ 9 ! o!r1 :i* ass]ts its *>m z  
acqua9tance progresses4 ,beauty only has
 ! />t 9 ! race4  ,x frequ5tly happ5s t 
! beauty makes ! mi/ake ( expect+ to be 
ent]ta9$ by h] admir]s1 & does n ex]t   
h]self to please4 ,! pla9 girl1 h[ev]1  
is (t5 sup]ior 9 tact1 = be+ oblig$ to  
/udy human nature closely 9 ord] to get 

! mo/ out ( companion%ip1 %e le>ns to   
dep5d ^u ?is k 9 h] ef=ts to please4 ,%e
 is n dazzl$ by admiration1 nor is %e   
unduly confid5t :5 %e obta9s x t %e w   
reta9 x4  ,mme4 ,had+1 :o is a /rik+ly  
h&some woman1 &1 !re=e1 c discuss beauty
 )\t fall+ "u suspicion1 once said3  ,a 
woman is v un=tunate :o has no?+ b      
beauty to insure h] success4 ,!re are   
o!r ?+s sup]ior to beauty4 ,ta/e1 good  
ta/e1 bra9s1 tact1 heal?1 ^? are ! ?+s a
 woman mu/ h to hold p4 ,& !n !re are   
good mann]s--s r>e & yet s easily       
cultivat$4 ,to be ref9$1 to be g5tle1 to
 be amiable1 to be *>itable 9 ?\ght & 9 
spee*1 to be intellig5t1 is to be *>m+1 
9 spite ( an unattractive body & an ugly
 face4 ,to be well born is1 inde$1 to be
 bless$1 b to rise above l[ bir? is     
sublime4 ,! greate/ pa9t] ( ! age c\ld  
make only a c>icature ( a face = !      
,empress ,joseph9e1 & yet ! sweetness ( 
h] smile & ! *>m ( h] pleas+ & graci\s  
ways immortaliz$ h] "n4 ,!re are o!r    
ends to happ9ess ?an m]e weal?2 !re are 

sweet] ?+s 9 a woman's face ?an beauty4 
,aga91 ! woman :o *>ms is n necess>ily  
"y4 ,hi/ory is full ( acc\nts ( wom5 :o 
h be5 fasc9at+ :5 beyond middle life4 ,!
 true/ & /ronge/ love is n always       
inspir$ by ! beauty ( tw5ty4 ,!         
en?usiasm ov] sweet sixte5 is n support$
 by ! old exp]i5ce :i* tea*es t ! highe/
 beauty is n f\nd 9 immaturity4 ,l\is   
,,xiv4 w$d$ ,mme4 ,ma9t5on :5 %e 0      
=ty-?ree ye>s old4 ,ca!r9e ,,ii4 (      
,russia 0 ?irty-?ree :5 %e seiz$ !      
,empire ( ,russia & captivat$ ! da%+ "y 
,g54 ,orl(f4 ,ev5 up to ! "t ( h]       
dea?--at sixty-sev5--%e seem$ to h      
reta9$ ! same bewit*+ p[]1 = !          
lam5tations 7 he>tfelt among all ^? :o  
_h ev] kn[n h] p]sonally4  ,cleopatra 0 
consid]ably ov] ?irty :5 ,antony fell "u
 h] spell1 :i* nev] less5$ until h]     
dea?1 ne>ly t5 ye>s lat]4  ,livia 0     
?irty-?ree :5 %e won ! he>t ( ,augu/us1 
ov] :om %e ma9ta9$ h] asc5dancy until ! 
la/4 ,aspasia did n w$ ,p]icles until %e
 0 ?irty-sev51 & = m ?an ?irty ye>s aft]

 t %e 0 reg>d$ z "o ( ! mo/ fasc9at+    
wom5 ( h] "t4 ,n9on de l',enclos1 ! mo/ 
celebrat$ wit ( h] day1 0 ! idol ( ?ree 
g5]ations ( ! gold5 y\? ( ,france1 & %e 
0 sev5ty-two :5 ! ,abbe de ,b]ais fell 9
 love ) h]4  ,hel5 ( ,troy1 ! celebrat$ 
,greek beauty1 0 ov] =ty-five :5 %e took
 "p 9 ! mo/ fam\s elopem5t 9 hi/ory2 & z
 ! siege ( ,troy la/$ t5 ye>s1 %e mu/ h 
be5 at lea/ fifty-five :5 ! ill-=tune ( 
,p>is re/or$ h] to h] husb&1 :o is      
report$ to h receiv$ h] ) unque/ion$    
love & gratitude4 ,mlle4 ,m>s1 !        
celebrat$ actress1 0 mo/ attractive at  
=ty-five1 & ,mme4 ,recami] 0 at ! z5i? (
 h] good looks & ( h] p[] to please :5  
betwe5 ?irty-five & fifty-five4 ,diana  
de ,poiti]s 0 ov] ?irty-six :5 ,h5ry    
,,ii41 !n ,duke ( ,orleans1 & j half h] 
age1 became atta*$ to h]1 & %e 0 reg>d$ 
z ! fir/ lady & ! mo/ beautiful woman at
 c\rt up to ! "t ( ! mon>*'s dea? & !   
accession to p[] ( ,ca!r9e de ,m$ici4   
,! common idea t ! mature beauty ( =ty  
is less fasc9at+ ?an t ( ! girl (       

sev5te5 or eighte5 is )\t f\ndation4 ,by
 beauty is n meant m]ely well-=m$       
features & a fre% complexion--^! ?+s ev5
 dolls possess4 ,9 spite ( ! rosy1 fre% 
complexion be/[$ ^u y\? by nature1 a    
woman's be/ & ri*e/ age is really betwe5
 ?irty-five & =ty-five1 & sometimes     
consid]ably beyond t p]iod4  ,no "o w\ld
 d>e say h[ old ,madame ,patti is4      
,ev]yone :o meets h] exclaims at h]     
m>vell\s y\?fulness & vivacity4 ,patti's
 explanation ( h] bright eyes1 smoo? sk9
 & happy expression is giv5 9 a few     
words3 ,i h kept my temp]4 ,no woman c  
rema9 "y :o (t5 loses h] temp]4  ,z a   
woman gr[s old]1 %e ought to become m   
attractive 9 c]ta9 ways ?an %e c\ld be 9
 h] y\?4 ,"o ( ! mo/ ne$ful ?+s = atta9+
 ?is result is good heal?4 ,f9e muscles1
 a heal?y1 gl[+ sk91 eyes bright ) en]gy
 & ambition--^! make a valuable         
f\ndation = ! woman :o w\ld be          
attractive4 ,! woman :o1 at a c]ta9 age1
 consid]s h]self passe1 commits a great 
error4 ,if %e s reg>ds h]self2 if %e    

believes %e has pass$ ! "t :5 %e c be   
int]e/+1 o!rs are q likely to f9d h]    
unattractive4 ,surely a woman %\ld be m 
int]e/+ aft] %e leaves ! p]iod (        
girlhood4 ,%e ought to be able to       
conv]se bett]1 %e %\ld possess m wisdom1
 great] tact1 broad] k ( human nature2 &
 %e %\ld h m repose1 m grace ( mann]4   
,inde$1 %e %\ld h all h] accompli%m5ts  
well 9 h&1 & be m facile 9 _! use = !   
pleasure ( o!rs2 & %e w be able to use  
!m to bett] advantage if %e has         
cultivat$ placidity ( temp]1 human      
sympa?y & g5]osity1 & is n c>eless ( h] 
p]sonal appe>ance4 ,x frequ5tly happ5s t
 wom5 :o h rea*$ middle life neglect _m 
( ! aids to physical beauty :i* !y once 
c>efully foll[$4 ,!y are c>eless ab\t   
dress1 & gr[ to e/eem x excusable to    
disp5se ) ^? simple & necess>y          
accessories ( ! toilet :i* =m]ly help$  
to make !m s exquisitely fre% & da9ty4  
,!y gr[ accu/om$ to ?9k t untid9ess mu/ 
necess>ily be associat$ ) drudg]y4 ,b 9 
^! days x is becom+ m possible to c>ry !

 elem5t ( ref9em5t & beauty ) u ev]y:]e4
  ,_m wom5 c\ld seem mu* f9]1 m delicate
 ?an !y appe>1 if !y 7 n accu/om$ to ?9k
 t a c]ta9 homel9ess1 & ev5 neglig5ce ( 
attire is q excusable1 &1 inde$1 almo/  
insep>able f common "w-a-day life4 ,z we
 gr[ old]1 x becomes m necess>y t we use
 c>e 9 always pres5t+ t appe>ance (     
p]sonal neatness :i* nev] fails to be   
attractive to ^? ) :om we come 9        
contact4  ,"o ( ! /ronge/ elem5ts a     
woman c possess to attract ! o!r sex is 
a sympa!tic int]e/ 9 a man's "w4 ,?is 0 
:at attract$ ,dr4 ,s*liemann1 ! fam\s   
,greek s*ol> & explor]1 to ! "y woman   
:om he m>ri$4 ,%e 0 famili> ) ! ,iliad &
 ! ,odyssey1 & 0 an en?usia/ ^u !       
subject ( uncov]+ ! anci5t cities (     
,hom]4  ,m5 l to h wom5 int]e/$ 9 ! ?+s 
9 :i* !y !mselves are int]e/$4  ,"o :o  
has read ,ri*>d ,h>d+ ,davis' ,soldi]s (
 ,=tune may rememb] t ,clay grew v fond 
( ,miss ,langham4 ,8 fir/ disappo9tm5t 9
 h] came to him :5 he discov]$ h] lack (
 int]e/ 9 8 "w ( op5+ up ! iron m9es 9  

,s\? ,am]ica4 ,miss ,langham's y\ng]    
si/]1 ,hope1 01 on ! o!r h&1 extremely  
int]e/$ 9 ! m9es1 made an exhau/ive /udy
 ( ! me?ods ( m9+1 & :5 %e1 ) ! o!r     
memb]s ( ! family1 visit$ ! sc5e (      
,clay's eng9e]+ op]ations1 x 0 %e :o    
drew ,clay's att5tion to h]self by      
intellig5t que/ions & sugge/ive rem>ks4 
,he 0 delight$ ) h]1 admir$ h]1 fell 9  
love ) h]1 & !n m>ri$ h]4 ,t day at !   
m9es 0 ! beg9n+ ( ! end ( ! old love1 & 
! awak5+ ( ! new4  ,to int]e/ m5 a woman
 %\ld1 by read+ ! pap]s1 acquire1 & be  
able to express1 a reasonably cle> idea 
( :at is happ5+ 9 ! _w4 ,%e %\ld asc]ta9
 :at is ( special int]e/ to ! p>ticul>  
man %e wi%es to attract1 &1 :e!r !      
subject be politics1 bus9ess1 out-door  
sports1 art1 sci5ce1 or lit]ature1 %e   
%\ld be able to contribute some?+ 9 a   
conv]sation ^u t subject m int]e/+ ?an a
 m]e yes or no4  ,z x is ! manly man :o 
w9s & satisfies a good woman1 s x is !  
womanly woman :o pleases & reta9s !     
reg>d ( ! e/imable man4  ,m5 l ! womanly

 woman4 ,%e ne$ n be s(t or silly1 weak 
or n]v\s2 %e may be /rong1 vigor\s1     
resolute1 & brave4 ,a man has little    
sympa?y = ! girl :o imitates m5 ei!r 9  
dress1 mann] or conv]sation4 ,if a      
womanly man is n pleas+ to ei!r sex1 :at
 %all we say ( a manlike woman6  ,he    
?or\ghly expresses ! writ]'s view :o    
said3 ,a p]fect woman may be adorable2 a
 woman :o is p]fect w\ld be beyond      
endurance4 ,yet1 h[ev] irreligi\s a man 
may be himself1 he always dislikes      
irrev]5ce 9 a woman4 ,he wi%es & expects
 8 wife to be bett] ?an he is1 &1       
g5]ally1 %e is4  ,m5 d n l ! ov]-dress$ 
woman--! "o :o goes to ! extreme ( a    
fa%ion & a little fur!r4 ,he does n c>e 
= co/l9ess ( app>el1 b he is always     
attract$ by fre%ness & da9t9ess4  ,a    
s5se ( humor is a valuable gift 9 a     
woman :o wi%es to please4 ,m5 l ! girl  
:o sees ! funny side ( a ?+2 :o c make  
!m laugh2 :o c be witty )\t be+ s>ca/ic2
 :o c je/ & n be malici\s2 :o c relate  
humor\s exp]i5ces )\t say+ ?+s calculat$

 to make o!rs uncom=table4  ,a man likes
 a woman :o ent]ta9s & amuses him4 ,"y  
girls (t5 express surprise t "o ( _!    
numb] is s popul> among m54 ,!y "k %e is
 n s pretty z doz5s ( o!r girls4 ,%e is 
n dress$ s ri*ly z !y are1 yet1 at a    
p>ty1 %e w h half a doz5 "y m5 ab\t h]  
:ile !y are neglect$ & alone4 ,%e mu/1  
!y conclude1 h t indef9able quality (   
magnetism1 & t is all t c be said ab\t  
x1 & !y c\ld n f9d out ! secret if !y   
tri$4 ,b probably !re is no secret ab\t 
x4 ,al?\gh %e is n pretty1 & does n     
possess a va/ am\nt ( in=mation1 %e has 
tact1 & a quick & electric vivacity ( _s
 :i* acts z a breeze on ! sluggi% wat]s1
 mak+ ripples ( pleasure & laught]1 & s 
produces an exhil>at+ effect ^u all ab\t
 h]4  ,_m "y m51 if diffid5t or awkw>d1 
feel1 x may be1 a little out ( place4   
,!y h>dly "k :at to d or say1 b ?is     
p>ticul> girl wakes !m up1 & !y f9d     
!mselves laugh+ & talk+ ) a/oni%+ ease4 
,%e und]/&s h[ to make !m feel at ease1 
h[ to draw !m out1 & z !y associate ) h]

 !y become unusually elat$1 & x is n at 
all /range t 9 e company !y look eag]ly 
= h] pres5ce4  ,:ile1 judg+ f !         
descriptions & repres5tations :i* we h (
 h]1 ,cleopatra 0 by no means beautiful1
 !re is no my/]y ab\t h] fasc9at+       
influ5ce ov] m54  ,%e _h1 said a writ] 9
 ,! ,bo/on ,h]ald1 jad$ ,roman conqu]ors
 to deal )1 m5 sat$ ) e =m ( m]e animal 
pleasure4 ,!re 0 no piquancy left 9     
any?+2 all _h pall$ & /al$ on _! cloy$  
palates4 ,b 9 ,cleopatra 0 ev]more      
some?+ fre%1 unexpect$1 p]fectly        
orig9al6  ,no wond] ! by/&]s cri$1 ',age
 _c )] nor cu/om /ale h] inf9ite        
v>iety4' ,:at _h %e to fe> f ! rival%ip 
( m]e y\? & beauty s long z h] nimble   
intellect 0 f]tile1 l ! ,nile floods1 9 
successive h>ve/s1 9 ! "o quality h]    
lov]s 7 ready to lavi% k+doms =1 namely1
 'inf9ite v>iety4'  ,to g back to !     
def9ition ( p]sonal fasc9ation giv5 9 ! 
prec$+ *apt]1 we repeat t x consi/s 9 ! 
p[] to excite 9 ano!r p]son happy feel+s
 ( a high degree ( int5sity1 & to make t

 p]son id5tify su* feel+s ) ! *>m & p[] 
( ! *]i%$ cause ( !m4  ,!re may be su* a
 ?+ z ! indef9ite quality ( magnetism   
:i* draws p to ! possessor :e!r !y w or 
no2 b !re are _m p]sonalities :o are    
*>m+ because !y h will$ to be1 because  
by pa9/ak+ p]sev]ance !y h acquir$ ^?   
*>act]i/ics :i* enable !m to please &   
*>m all ) :om !y come 9 contact4     ,,!
 ,,art ,,( ,,conv]sation4      ,?\gh    
conv]sation1 9 its bett] "p1     ,may be
 e/eem$ a gift & n an art1     ,yet mu* 
dep5ds1 z 9 ! till]'s toil1     ,on     
culture & ! s[+ ( ! soil4               
,,c[p]4      ,9 all c\ntries :]e        
intellig5ce is priz$1 a tal5t =         
conv]sation ranks high among            
accompli%m5ts4 ,to clo! !     ?\ghts 9  
cle> & elegant language1 & to convey !m 
impressively to ! m9d ( ano!r1 is no    
common atta9m5t4                        
,,mrs4 ,,sig\rney4   ,! man or woman :o 
is an intellig5t1 tactful               
conv]sationali/1 comm&s "o ( ! mo/      
ess5tial elem5ts ( a pleas+ address4    

,:ile all ( u may h c]ta9 defects :i* we
 _c :olly ov]come1 h[ev] e>ne/ly we may 
try1 we c1 if we w1 re-=m our           
conv]sation4 ,we c s tra9 ourselves t   
good nature1 consid]at5ess & b5evol5ce w
 always h a place 9 our int]c\rse )     
o!rs4 ,we c1 if we w1 use good ,engli%1 
& we c avoid ! temptation1 s common1 to 
talk ( p]sons r ?an ( ?+s4 ,!oretically1
 we despise gossip2 practically1 mo/ ( u
 add our mite to ! common fund4 ,we may 
n be ill-natur$1 & ! sweet *>ity t ?9ke?
 no evil may h a home 9 our he>ts2 yet  
sometimes1 if we are n wat*ful1 x may   
fall asleep1 & bitt]ness1 or ! _s (     
spitefulness come creep+ /eal?ily to !  
surface4  ,we c1 if we w1 be            
intellectually hone/--a k9d ( hone/y :i*
 is inde$ r>e4 ,! pr9cipal reason :y    
argum5ts & discussions lead to s mu/    
dissatisfaction & ill-feel+ on ! "p ( ! 
disputants1 is ! lack ( ?is quality4    
,two m5 are engag$ 9 conv]sation & a "q 
( religi\s belief or ( politics is      
br\ght to ! front4 ,ea* takes a side 9 !

 discussion & ma9ta9s 8 op9ions to !    
end4 ,nei!r is se>*+ = ! tru?1 b is eag]
 to def5d 8 side ( ! "q aga9/ ! attacks 
( 8 oppon5t4 ,x does n occur to ei!r t  
any?+ else c be ! tru? except ! ?+s he  
has be5 taught to believe4 ,to bo?1 !   
tru? simply takes ! =m ( _! own op9ions2
 & s9ce !y are mo/ firmly atta*$ to _!  
op9ions1 nei!r ev] que/ions 8 own       
devotion to ! tru?4 ,su* p]sons c       
sc>cely be said to use _! m9ds at all1 =
 _! ?9k+ has be5 done by "s "o else4 ,_m
 a ho/ess is oblig$ tactfully to sep>ate
 aggressively argum5tative & disputati\s
 gue/s1 :o h nev] le>n$ t o!rs h an     
equal "r to _! own op9ions1 & t n e d9n]
 p>ty is ! prop] occasion to plunge into
 heat$ argum5t 9 ! hope ( *ang+ ano!r's 
views4  ,aga91 we c all avoid ! habit ( 
exagg]ation--a fault :i* does n get     
itself call$ by ! "n ( falsehood1 b :i* 
is 9 dang]\sly close proximity to x4 ,a 
man he>s some?+1 true en\gh 9 its       
orig9al %ape1 b he passes x on ) a      
little addition ( 8 own4 ,! "o to :om he

 tells x adds 8 t\* ( exagg]ation1      
until1 at la/1 ! /atem5t is s swoll5 &  
di/ort$ z to convey any?+ b ! real tru?4
 ,x w\ld be difficult to *>ge any "o )  
delib]ate prev>ication4 ,! result is a  
sort ( accumulative lie1 made by        
successive individual contributions (   
little da%es ( exagg]ation4 ,?\s&s :o   
w\ld nev] be guilty ( inv5t+ an entire  
/ory d]ogatory to ! reputation ( ano!r1 
are con/antly contribut+ to ! =mation ( 
^! accumulative falsehoods1 :i* are q z 
evil 9 _! results z ?\gh conceiv$ &     
concoct$ by "o p]son4  ,we c put into   
requisition a nice s5se ( honor 9 our   
conv]sation4 ,9 a hundr$ diff]5t ways   
?is mo/ fitt+ attribute ( ! true woman &
 ! real g5tleman is (t5 put to ! te/4   
,we c rememb] t x is q z easy to be     
ill-mann]$ 9 spee* z 9 conduct4  ,!re   
are m5 & wom5 :o1 at a d9n]1 w\ld n "u  
any circum/ances1 transgress ! rules (  
table etiquette1 b :o may (f5d q z      
grossly by a ?\ghtless or an intemp]ate 
use ( words4 ,!y may n disp5se ) ! =k1 b

 !y w\nd ! he>t by unk9d words4 ,!y may 
obs]ve all ! am5ities f oy/]-=k to      
f+]-b[l1 yet !y (f5d "s memb] ( !       
company by s>casm or p]sonal innu5do4   
,!y may n misplace or misuse ! napk91 b 
!y may r5d] ! entire company uncom=table
 by decl9+ to yield1 9 argum5t1 to !    
great] weight ( evid5ce2 or by ov]load+ 
a /ory ) unimportant details4 ,!y may be
 scrupul\sly neat1 & ( easy & graceful  
deportm5t1 b may nev] h le>n$ ! g5tle   
art ( keep+ "o's temp] sweet :5         
criticis$ or :5 confront$ by a          
contradiction4  ,^! v sugge/ive words   
appe>$ 9 ,! ,*ur*man3 ,x is almo/ a     
def9ition ( a g5tleman to say t he is "o
 :o nev] inflicts pa94 ,! true g5tleman 
c>efully avoids :atev] may cause a j> or
 a jolt 9 ! m9ds ( ^? ) :om he is ca/4  
,he has 8 eyes on all 8 company2 he is  
t5d] t[>d ! ba%ful1 g5tle t[>d ! di/ant1
 & m]ciful t[>d ! absurd4 ,he avoids    
unreasonable allusions on topics :i* may
 irritate2 he is seldom prom95t 9       
conv]sation1 & nev] we>isome4 ,ano!r    

delightful trait 9 him is t he makes    
light ( favors :5 he be/[s !m1 & seems  
to be receiv+ :5 he is conf]r+4 ,he nev]
 speaks ( himself except :5 compell$1   
nev] def5ds himself by a m]e retort4 ,he
 has no e>s = sl&] or gossip2 is        
scrupul\s 9 imput+ motives to ^? :o     
int]f]e ) him1 & int]prets ev]y?+ = !   
be/4 ,he is nev] mean or small 9 8      
disputes1 nev] ins9uates evil :i* he d>e
 n say out4 ,he has too mu* good s5se to
 be affront$ at insults1 & is too well  
employ$ to rememb] injuries4 ,he may be 
"r or wrong 9 8 op9ions1 b he is too    
cle>-head$ to be unju/4 ,he is z simple 
z he is =cible1 & z brief z he is       
decisive4  ,! ent]ta9+ talk] is n1 (    
necessity1 a great talk]2 he is (t5 a   
good li/5]4 ,he und]/&s t a bright /ory1
 briefly told1 w amuse1 b t p are bor$  
by a long /ory1 fill$ ) po9tless        
details4 ,he is n necess>ily le>n$ or   
pr(\nd4 ,he und]/&s t small *ange is ( z
 mu* importance 9 social int]c\rse z x  
is betwe5 m5 9 bus9ess4 ,al?\gh         

deprecat$ by "s wise p z va9 & frivol\s1
 says ,zion's ,h]ald1 small talk has a  
legitimate function 9 human int]c\rse4  
,x is ! small co9 ( conv]sation4 ,^? :o 
despise its use (t5 get on z badly 9    
social life z w\ld ! m]*ant :o %\ld     
exclude ! dimes & qu>t]s f 8            
money-draw]4 ,)\t !m1 ! :eels ( trade   
w\ld be block$4 ,an hone/ old copp] p5ny
 w (t5 turn ! corn] ( a good b>ga94     
,*it-*at gives ease to conv]sation4 ,!  
/rait-jacket is remov$2 ! m5tal =ces h  
full play2 ! man acts himself2 & !      
communication ( s\l ) s\l becomes free &
 delightful4 ,) small talk he is        
famili>1 & c toss x ab\t z a juggl] does
 8 c>ds4 ,! philosoph] ) 8 le>n$ & exact
 phrases at once dead5s ! fl[ ( s\l4    
,m5 & wom5 are n /rictly orig9al4 ,! ?+s
 we say to-day h be5 said j z well a    
?\s& times be=e2 b t =ms no reason :y we
 %\ld n say !m aga94 ,! co9s 9 y\r purse
 h be5 ?r\gh a hundr$ h&s & are n ! less
 useful 9 s]v+ y aga94  ,! fell[%ip     
enjoy$ r ?an ! /ore ( wisdom            

communicat$1 is ! end ( conv]sation4    
,:e!r !y say any?+ ( importance or n1 we
 l to he> "s p]sons talk2 !y inspire u &
 set our own m5tal ma*9]y 9 motion4     
,small talk (t5 br+s u mo/ readily 9    
contact ) ano!r s\l4  ,all good         
conv]sationali/s "k ! use ( small talk4 
,to be sure1 !y "k some?+ m1 some?+ l>g]
 & bett]1 b ! *9ks 9 ! l>g] subject are 
fill$ 9 wond]fully by a famili>         
int]polation ( ! small] ?+s 9 a *atty   
way4 ,_m a wise & le>n$ man w\ld be a   
bett] talk] if he _h at h& a supply (   
small co94 ,he c talk extremely well on 
s]i\s & recondite subjects1 b ! quick   
je/ & easy rep>tee ( ! p>lor & !        
d9+-room are beyond him4 ,he is1 9 spite
 ( 8 le>n$ lore1 at a disadvantage 9    
society1 :]e !re is no "t = homilies or 
= treatises on erudite topics4 ,p]sons  
less gift$ *at & laugh & h a good "t    
:ile he sits 9 gloomy sil5ce4 ,^? :o    
w\ld please & be pleas$ 9 social        
int]c\rse mu/ c>ry ) !m & be ready to   
disp5se ! small *ange ( light & witty   

conv]sation4  ,to be popul> 9 society1  
f9d out :e!r y\r companion pref]s to    
talk or li/52 avoid p]sonalities2       
endeavor to lead ! conv]sation to       
subjects famili> & int]e/+ to o!rs r ?an
 especially pleas+ to y\rself2 nev]     
indulge 9 s>casm2 be good-natur$ &      
sympa!tic2 /rive to be tactful2 ex*ange 
small c\rtesies2 talk to all ) equal    
att5tion & int]e/1 & :atev] ! topic (   
conv]sation1 or :]ev] y may be1 appe>   
*e]fully cont5t$4 ,acquire1 & !n        
exhibit1 t adaptability to place & p :i*
 conduces ev] to grateful & pleas+      
companion%ip4  ,william ,ma!ws writes 9 
,success3 ,conv]sation rules ! de/9y ( !
 /ate & ( ! individual2 f diplomacy1 :i*
 is ess5tially ! art ( conv]s+ skilfully
 on political !mes1 d[n to ! daily      
transactions ( ! m>t & ! ex*ange1 its   
empire is evid5t to all4  ,su* be+ !    
pot5cy & importance ( conv]sation1 :y is
 s little att5tion giv5 to its culture  
to-day8 ,:y is x t s _m educat$ m51 :o  
are fa/idi\s reg>d+ _! p]sonal          

appe>ance1 & be/[ ^u _! bodies ! mo/    
solicit\s c>e1 are yet will+ to s5d _!  
m9ds abroad 9 a /ate ( slov5l9ess1      
reg>dless ( ! impression !y make8       
,,good ,,engli%4      ,we %\ld be z     
c>eful ( our words z ( our actions4     
,,cic]o4   ,an accompli%m5t1 9 its      
accept$ mean+1 is some?+ acquir$ :i*    
p]fects or makes complete2 an atta9m5t  
:i* t5ds to equip 9 "*1 mann]1 or p]son1
 & :i* gives pleasure to o!rs4  ,surely1
 !n1 ! man or woman :o desires to please
 _c possess too _m accompli%m5ts2 &1    
accept+ ! def9ition j giv51 is !re any  
o!r accompli%m5t ( great] importance ?an
 facility 9 speak+ & writ+ "o's native  
language ) ease & ) elegance8 ,is !re   
any o!r s+le te/ ( culture s conclusive 
z ?is8 ,is x n ! matt]1 &1 p>ticul>ly1 !
 me?od ( "o's spee* m ?an any?+ else :i*
 impresses ! p]son :om we meet = ! fir/ 
"t1 ei!r favorably or unfavorably 9     
reg>d to our acquirem5ts8 ,we may h b   
few opportunities dur+ a lifetime to    
display our k ( geometry1 algebra or    

a/ronomy2 we may be = weeks 9 ! company 
( o!r p )\t giv+ !m an opportunity to   
suspect t we possess any k ( ,lat9 or   
,greek1 b z long z we live1 & e day we  
live1 we are giv+ evid5ces ( facility or
 awkw>dness 9 ! use ( our "m tongue4    
,h[ mu* "t is wa/$ 9 practic+ ^u        
unresponsive musical                    
in/rum5ts--unresponsive because n t\*$  
by sympa!tic f+]s6 ,h[ mu* "t is sp5t 9 
acquir+ a slight k ( ,fr5* & ,g]man1 :i*
 results1 g5]ally1 9 an ability to use a
 few simple phrases1 & to translate easy
 s5t5ces ) ! aid ( a diction>y6 ,h[ _m  
"y wom51 ) no arti/ic ability :atev]1   
sp5d weeks & mon?s "u ! in/ruction (    
tea*]s 9 va9 attempts to produce some?+ 
9 oil or 9 wat]-color wor?y to be call$ 
a picture6 ,h[ mu* m to ! advantage ( ^!
 "y wom5 w\ld x be if a "p ( ?is "t 7   
sp5t 9 acquir+ a bett] und]/&+ ( ! use (
 ,engli%6  ,! writ] once knew a girl :o1
 aft] play+ a selection ^u ! piano1 left
 ! room & bur/ into te>s because %e _h  
be5 guilty ( a slight blund] 9 h]       

execution--a blund] n notic$ by two ( ! 
tw5ty p]sons assembl$ 9 ! p>lor4 ,?is   
same girl1 h[ev]1 exhibit$1 habitually1 
a c>elessness 9 pronunciation1 & an     
ignorance ( ,engli% gramm> ( :i* %e %\ld
 h be5 he>tily a%am$1 & :i* caus$ f> m  
annoyance to h] fri5ds ?an h] blund]s 9 
music4  ,boys & girls %\ld be tra9$ to  
feel t x is z discr$itable to !m to     
conf\nd ! p>ts ( spee* 9 conv]sation1 z 
x is to make discords 9 music1 or to    
f9i% a picture out ( draw+1 or to be    
guilty ( "s inadv]t5ce ( mann]4 ,!y %\ld
 be made to feel t pr(ici5cy 9 music1   
,fr5*1 ,g]man1 or pa9t+1 or any o!r     
accompli%m5t1 s-call$1 w n comp5sate =  
slov5l9ess ( diction4  ,9 address+ a    
girl's s*ool1 ,bi%op ,hunt+ton once     
said3 ,probably !re is n an in/rum5t 9  
common use1 f a p5cil to a piano1 :i* is
 us$ s imp]fectly z language4 ,if y w   
let me be pla91 ,i suspect t x w\ld be  
safe to (f] a gold m$al z a prize to any
 "y lady "h :o w n1 be=e to-morr[ night1
 utt] "s s5t5ce t _c be p>s$2 w put no  

s+ul>s & plurals 9 =bidd5 connections2 w
 drop no p>ticles1 d\ble no negatives1  
mix no metaphors1 tangle no p>5!ses2    
beg9 no /atem5t two or ?ree times ov]   
)\t f9i%+ x2 & n once con/ruct a        
proposition aft] ?is mann]3  ,:5 a p]son
 talks l t1 !y ought to be a%am$ ( x4'  
,^! are frank /atem5ts to address to a  
class ( "y ladies2 b ! ,bi%op's         
implication w\ld hold ) equal tru? n    
only 9 ! case 9 po9t1 b also ) a l>ge   
numb] ( ! high s*ools1 sem9>ies &       
colleges ( ?is c\ntry4 ,surely su* a    
*>ge aga9/ ! o!r practical bran*es (    
/udy c\ld n be made & su/a9$4  ,:5      
,james ,russell ,l[ell said3 ,we are !  
mo/ common-s*ool$ & ! lea/ educat$ p 9 !
 _w1 he might h add$ t ! /atem5t 0      
especially applicable to our habits (   
us+ or abus+ our "m tongue4  ,?is g5]al 
indiff]5ce to good ,engli% is n1 9 mo/  
in/ances1 ! result ( a lack ( k1 = "t   
en\gh is devot$ to ! /udy ( te*nical    
gramm> 9 almo/ all s*ools1 to enable !  
pupil to become ?or\ghly acqua9t$ ) !   

pr9ciples :i* gov]n ! use ( our         
language4  ,x is because _m p]sons1 n   
hav+ acquir$ ! habit ( correct spee*1 d 
n ?9k to apply ! rules ( gramm> 9       
conv]sation4 ,7 *ildr5 accu/om$ f       
infancy to he> only correct ,engli%1 !re
 w\ld be b little ne$ to memorize       
arbitr>y rules ( gramm>1 = !y w\ld1 f   
habit1 speak & write correctly4 ,?us x  
is t ! *ildr5 ( educat$ p>5ts are       
g5]ally s easy & graceful 9 _!          
conv]sation1 contra/$ ) ! *ildr5 ( !    
un$ucat$4 ,our language1 l our mann]s1  
is caught f ^? ) :om we associate4      
,sev]al o!r nations are f> 9 advance (  
our own 9 ! ?or\ghness ) :i* _! y\? are 
drill$ 9 ! use ( language4  ,9 ,france1 
a k ( ! ,fr5* language1 spok5 & writt51 
is reg>d$ z ( special importance4 ,9 all
 entrance exam9ations1 or exam9ations = 
promotion or graduation1 ! pupil's k ( 8
 native tongue is fir/ det]m9$2 & no    
promotions are all[$1 & no diplomas     
grant$1 if ! /ud5t is notably defici5t 9
 ?is reg>d1 ev5 ?\gh 8 k ( ! o!r requir$

 bran*es %\ld prove to be all t c\ld be 
desir$4 ,we h n s high a /&>d 9 ! ,unit$
 ,/ates4 ,x has be5 b a few ye>s s9ce a 
def9ite k ( ,engli% 0 add$ to !         
requirem5ts = admission to ,am]ican     
colleges1 & ev5 n[ x has n1 9 any ( our 
educational in/itutions1 ! relative     
weight 9 det]m9+ exam9ations :i* ,fr5* &
 ,g]man h 9 ! sy/ems ( ^? c\ntries4     
,:ile great improvem5t has be5 made 9   
tea*+ ,engli%1 & :ile bett] me?ods are  
employ$ ?an =m]ly1 x is /ill safe to say
 t 9 no o!r bran* ( /udy1 pursu$ ) equal
 dilig5ce1 are ! results s              
unsatisfactory4  ,surely 9 no o!r way d 
we s cle>ly %[ ! degree ( our culture & 
ref9em5t z by our e-day conv]sation4 ,is
 x n important1 !n1 t we devote our     
ef=ts s]i\sly1 & ) inf9ite pati5ce1 if  
necess>y1 to ma/]+ a matt] s ess5tial8  
,! selection ( good ,engli% does n      
necess>ily imply ei!r a /ilt$ monotony (
 spee*1 or a tiresome affectation4 ,x is
 simply elegance & naturalness4 ,!re is 
no reason :y any p]son1 h[ev] humble 8  

/ation 9 life1 %\ld n hope to speak 8   
native language correctly4 ,x is an     
accompli%m5t :i* is n exp5sive4 ,9 its  
acquirem5t "o does n require high-pric$ 
tea*]s4 ,x dem&s only c>e & att5tion4   
,be critical ( y\rself4 ,wat* y\r       
s5t5ces4 ,get y\r companions to correct 
y\r slips ( ! tongue4 ,say ov] correctly
 ! tr\blesome s5t5ce until ! mi/ake     
becomes impossible4 ,li/5+ to well      
educat$ p]sons & read+ ! be/ lit]ature  
are bo? ( great assi/ance 9 ?is         
direction1 especially if we (f] to bo? !
 s9c]e flatt]y ( imitation4 ,our        
lit]ature teems ) ma/]pieces ( /yle4 ,to
 read !m consi/5tly is to imbibe a c]ta9
 facility ( diction4  ,!re are _m p]sons
 :o1 :ile !y d n violate ! rules (      
te*nical gramm>1 habitually indulge 9   
slang1 hyp]bole1 & 9 _m we$s ( spee* :i*
 %\ld be pull$ up promptly & ca/ aside4 
,a great _m boys & girls1 & ev5 "s old] 
p]sons1 imag9e t ! use ( slang l5ds     
piquancy & =ce to _! conv]sation4 ,slang
 is always an elem5t ( weakness4 ,x is  

bad en\gh 9 a man1 b 9 wom5 x is f> m   
que/ionable4 ,x is n ! expression ( !   
ref9$4 ,to ! cultivat$ ta/e x is        
discordant4  ,ano!r fault preval5t among
 girls is ! habit ( hyp]bole4 ,p]fectly1
 awfully1 nice1 & spl5did1 are ! f\r mo/
 ov]work$ words1 & awfully is ! mo/     
abus$ ( !m all4 ,x is /range1 ! hold ?is
 ^w has secur$ 9 ! vocabul>y ( girls :o1
 9 almo/ all o!r respects1 are          
consid]ate 9 _! use ( ,engli%4 ,p]sons  
are call$ awfully good1 awfully bad1    
awfully clev]1 awfully /upid1 awfully   
nice1 awfully jolly & awfully k9d4 ,x is
 made to d duty on all occasions & "u   
all circum/ances1 z ?\gh x 7 ! only     
adv]b admissible 9 good society4 ,among 
adjectives1 spl5did easily ranks z ! mo/
 popul>4 ,to _m1 ev]y?+ is spl5did1 :e!r
 x is a fl[]1 a sunset1 a d9n]1 a       
football game1 a fri5d1 a s]mon1 or a   
book4 ,!n we are cont9ually he>+ t c]ta9
 ?+s are p]fectly spl5did1 p]fectly     
lovely1 p]fectly hateful1 p]fectly      
glori\s1 p]fectly magnific5t & p]fectly 

sweet4 ,h[ ^w-/rick5 society w\ld d )\t 
^! expressions x is difficult to        
det]m9e1 yet c]ta9 x is t ! woman :o    
deals recklessly 9 sup]latives          
demon/rates =?) t h] judgm5t is dom9at$ 
by h] impulses1 t h] op9ions are (      
d\btful reliability1 & h] criticisms    
valueless4  ,9 a rec5t numb] ( "o ( !   
popul> magaz9es ,pr(4 ,br&] ,mat!ws has 
an article on ! prevail+ indiff]5ce 9   
reg>d to ! prop] use ( words4 ,! po9ts  
:i* he emphasizes are ^!3  ,! g5tleman  
is nev] indiff]5t1 nev] reckless 9 8    
language4 ,! slov5 9 spee* is q z       
(f5sive z a slov5 9 mann] & dress4 ,!   
neat turn+ ( a phrase is z agreeable to 
! e> z neatness ( p]son is to ! ref9$   
ta/e4 ,a man %\ld *oose 8 words at lea/ 
z c>efully z he *ooses 8 clo?+2 ev5 a   
h9t ( ! d&y is n objectionable1 if x be 
b a h9t4 ,x is ev5 bett] to g to !      
extreme ( fa/idi\sness ?an to indulge ! 
opposite extreme ( neglig5ce4  ,! art ( 
writ+ lett]s is b ano!r phase ( ! same  
matt]4 ,inde$ x is b conv]sation c>ri$  

on ) ! p51 :5 di/ance or circum/ances   
prev5t ! easi] me?od ( ex*ang+ ideas by 
spok5 words4 ,x is an art :i* %\ld be   
fai?fully cultivat$ by ^? :o desire to  
please4 ,9 social life1 9 bus9ess1 9    
almo/ e o!r circum/ance ( life1 we f9d  
our p5 call$ into requisition4 ,yet :ile
 x is an almo/ indisp5sable             
accompli%m5t1 x is "o :i* is pitifully  
neglect$4 ,! art ( lett]-writ+ is becom+
 obsolete2 t is1 ! art ( writ+ su*      
lett]s z enri*$ ! epi/ol>y lit]ature ( a
 =m] g5]ation4 ,?is is un=tunate1 z !re 
is no?+ t w s /imulate ?\ght1 & br+ into
 activity1 practical1 e-day niceties (  
phrase z ! ex]cise ( ?is art4 ,con/ant  
drill 9 lett]-writ+ w t5d to take f "o's
 vocabul>y words :i* h no place !re1 & w
 accompli% q z mu* z any o!r means to   
broad51 beautify1 & to ref9e ! language 
at our comm&1 z well z to tra9 ! m9d to 
exact habits ( ?9k+4 ,a fur!r important 
consid]ation is ! *>m :i* a gem ( a     
lett] has = ! delight$ recipi5t4  ,!    
indisp5sable requisites ( a good lett]  

are neatness ( *irography1 simplicity1 &
 grammatical correctness4 ,defects 9 any
 "o ( ^! p>ticul>s are sc>cely          
p>donable4 ,we _c all be pretty writ]s1 
b we c all write legibly & give to !    
page ! appe>ance ( neatness4 ,scribbl+  
is inexcusable4  ,a scribbl$ page po9ts 
to a scribbl+ m9d1 :ile cle>1 legible   
h&writ+ is n only an indication ( cle>  
?9k+1 b a means & promot] ( accurate    
?\ght4 ,inde$1 simply z a bus9ess       
proposition1 "o _c af=d to become a     
slov5ly p5man4  ,& :o1 says ,!          
,philadelphia ,record1 does n "k ! *>m (
 a gracefully word$1 legibly writt5     
lett]1 ) its wide m>g9s1 its cle>1 black
 ink & da9ty /ation]y8 ,an art1 inde$1  
is ! writ+ ( su* a missive2 an art :i* x
 behooves e woman to cultivate4 ,a      
ha/ily writt5 l9e betray+ signs (       
c>elessness1 & scrawl$ on an indiff]5t  
%eet ( pap] is a poor complim5t1 inde$1 
to ! receiv]1 & elicits any?+ b flatt]+ 
comm5ts ^u ! writ]4  ,c>eless spee* is q
 bad en\gh1 b ! *>m ( ! speak] may be s 

great z to dis>m criticism4 ,! lett]1   
h[ev]1 ! writt5 ^w1 /&s on its own      
m]its2 :at is writ is writ4 ,!re is no  
graceful vivacity to plead = ! writ]2 no
 coquetry ( mann] to di/ract ! glance ( 
! read] f ! errors coldly set =? 9 black
 & :ite4 ,obs]ve1 !n1 ! utmo/ c>e 9     
indit+ an epi/le1 :e!r to a fri5d or foe
 or to a lov]4 ,nev] s5d =? a lett] 9   
undress1 s to speak1 sc>cely m ?an y    
w\ld pres5t y\rself en di%abille be=e   
y\r mo/ =mal acqua9tances4 ,! "o is     
almo/ z flagrant z ! o!r4     ,,tact ,,9
 ,,conv]sation4      ,ask only ! well   
ab\t _! heal?4      ,discretion 9 spee* 
is m ?an eloqu5ce4                      
,,bacon4      ,brilliancy 9 conv]sation 
is to ! company :at a light$     c&le is
 to a d>k room--x light5s ! :ole ( x4 ,b
 e     n[ & !n "s unskilful p]son1 9    
attempt+ to clip !     wick to make x   
bright]1 snuffs x out4                  
,,james ,c4 ,,beeks4   ,seldom does !re 
occur 9 society any lapse s a/oni%+ z ! 
uncom=table rem>ks innoc5tly made by m5 

& wom5 to ea* o!r4 ,"s p]sons :o are    
c>eful & consid]ate 9 o!r respects1 seem
 to h a woeful lack ( t quality :i* we  
call tact4 ,!y wi% to be pleas+2 !y w\ld
 n = ! _w int5tionally say or d any?+ to
 injure or w\nd ! s5sitiv5ess ( a fri5d2
 yet !y are cont9ually say+ ^? ?+s t    
w\ld bett] h be5 left unsaid4  ,h>p]'s  
,baz> m5tions "s ( ^! spee*es :i* h no  
excuse = be+4  ,:at a de> little fell[ t
 is6 said a call] to ! "m ( a           
?ree-ye>-old4  ,he is a great com=t to  
u1 repli$ ! "m1 /rok+ ! *ild's long     
curls4  ,yes2 ,i %\ld ?9k s4 ,he is n   
pretty1 is he8 ,8 hair is s beautiful n[
 t at ! fir/ glance "o w\ld call him    
pretty4 ,b if y imag9e h[ he w look :5  
^? gold5 curls are cut (f1 y w see t he 
w be a v pla9 *ild4  ,said ano!r woman  
to an acqua9tance3 ,mrs4 ,a41 ,i hope y 
w p>don me = say+ t ,i ?9k ,i nev] saw a
 m beautiful piece ( lace ?an ! fl\nce  
on ! g[n t y wore to ! ,assembly ,ball  
la/ week4 ,i said to my husb& aft]w>d t 
if ,mr4 ,a4 %\ld fail aga9 & lose       

ev]y?+1 z he has done once or twice     
already1 y c\ld sell t lace & easily get
 a good price = x4  ,! same woman1 :ile 
mak+ a visit ( sev]al weeks1 said to h] 
ho/ess1 z ! "t ( h] dep>ture drew ne>3  
,i always ?9k t ! nice/ ?+ ab\t mak+ a  
visit is ! return+ to "o's home4 ,"o's  
family are always s glad to see "o1 &   
!re is always great luxury to me 9 gett+
 back to my own h\se1 :]e ,i c d :at ,i 
please1 say :at ,i please1 & ord] :at ,i
 want to eat4  ,aga91 !re are p :o seem 
to ?9k t x is _! mission to puncture e  
p]son's infirmity ) :om !y come 9       
contact4 ,!y /udy to speak disagreeably4
 ,!y corn] y 9 ! social circle1 & talk  
ab\t ! subject !y "k to be mo/          
disagreeable to y1 & talk 9 a tone      
suffici5tly l\d to be he>d by all ! o!r 
p]sons 9 ! room4 ,if y h made a blund]  
!y reveal x4 ,if y h be5 unsuccessful 9 
any ( y\r und]tak+s !y are sure to      
inquire ab\t x1 ev5 to details4 ,!y     
unroll y\r pa/ & dilate ^u y\r future4  
,!y put y on ! rack e "t y meet !m & !re

 is an in/9ctive recoil :5 y p]ceive _! 
approa*4  ,we all "k ^! p]sons1 says    
,zion's ,h]ald1 ! p]sons :o always utt] 
! unsuitable ^w1 :o make !mselves       
g5]ally disagreeable1 :o nev]1 app>5tly1
 try to make a pleas+ impression ^u     
o!rs1 b :o delight to /+ & w\nd4  ,are  
we n all acqua9t$ ) ! neighbor m5tion$ 9
 ?is quotation3 ,z a brief & %>p        
torm5tor1 z a nail 9 ! boot1 a rock] = !
 %9s on a d>k night1 or a %>p angle = ! 
uln> n]ve1 ,mrs4 ,r----1 our neighbor1  
excels all p]sons ,i ev] saw4 ,i am q   
sure if %e c\ld di/urb a corpse by      
:isp]+ to x t its %r\d 0 ill-fitt+1 & ! 
floral gifts 7 n :at _h be5 expect$1 %e 
w\ld d x4  ,if y are a woman h y n m ?an
 once gone out = a walk ) "s o!r woman  
:o is nev] satisfi$ ) y\r appe>ance8    
,%e gives y\r g[n a pull1 say+3 ,?is    
dress nev] did fit y2 x isn't at all    
becom+ to y1 :y didn't y we> y\r o!r "o8
 ,y soon beg9 to feel uncom=table1 & to 
wi% y 7 at home aga94 ,y\r bonnet may be
 nev] s becom+1 or y\r new jacket may   

fit y to p]fection1 b %e nev] m5tions   
ei!r4 ,%e notices only defects2 %e sees 
all t is disagreeable4 ,su* p]sons      
always leave an uncom=table feel+ beh9d 
!m :5 !y leave y4  ,s>casm is n a       
quality to be cultivat$ by ei!r sex4 ,m5
 d n l x 9 wom54 ,x may be amus+ :5 x is
 direct$ aga9/ ano!r1 b !re is always a 
lurk+ fe> t x may "s "t be direct$ aga9/
 "o's self4 ,s>casm is a rank we$1 t1   
once spr\t$1 gr[s & gr[s1 *ok+ out !    
little plants ( k9dness1 =e?\ght &      
consid]ation1 until x ov]runs ! g>d5 ( !
 m9d1 dom9at+ & controll+ e ?\ght ) a   
disagreeable1 pung5t odor t _c be       
eradicat$4  ,! s>ca/ic girl is n        
fasc9at+1 = %e is n a pleas+ companion4 
,%e is too %>p to be agreeable4 ,%e may 
possess tal5t above ! av]age ( h]       
acqua9tances2 %e may be able to talk 9  
half a doz5 diff]5t languages2 %e may be
 z beautiful z a ,greek /atue2 b m5     
fight %y ( h]4 ,s>casm is n wit1 ?\gh   
wit may be s>ca/ic4 ,"o may be bright & 
say all mann] ( clev] ?+s )\t hurt+ !   

feel+s ( o!rs by ke51 knife-edg$ op9ions
 t are full ( bitt]ness & teem+ ) gall4 
,! tactful p]son does n make ! mi/ake ( 
talk+ too mu* ab\t himself4 ,:ile we are
 "y1 at lea/1 we are v int]e/+ to       
ourselves1 & we are likely to imag9e t  
all ! _w is int]e/$ 9 our op9ions1      
prejudices & ta/es4 ,b ?\gh ?is may be  
true ( our de>e/ fri5ds1 x is n true z  
f> z o!r p are conc]n$4  ,)\t "q1 says !
 ,magnet1 our conv]sation mu/ be bas$ ^u
 :at we h exp]i5c$ 9 "o way or ano!r4 ,b
 t does n make x necess>y = u to talk   
cont9ually ab\t ourselves4 ,if we %\ld  
exam9e c>efully ! ?+s we say to ! m]e/  
acqua9tances1 we w\ld be a/oni%$1       
(t5times1 to see t we assume an int]e/ 9
 ourselves :i* we h no "r to expect4 ,p 
:o are ill are likely to make           
indiscrim9ate claims ^u sympa?y1        
ent]ta9+ /rang]s z well z fri5ds )      
detail$ descriptions ( _! late/         
symptoms1 & ! doctor's late/ rem$ies4   
,"s ( u :o h n ! excuse ( illness1      
impose on ! p]sons we meet by oblig+ !m 

to li/5 to a great deal ( p]sonal       
in=mation :i* may be ( int]e/ to        
ourselves1 & possibly to ^? :o love u v 
de>ly1 b sc>cely to any "o else4        
,sev]al ye>s ago ! ,*ri/ian ,union      
relat$ ?is incid5t3 ,! social occasion 0
 a d9n]4 ,"o ( ! gue/s 0 a woman :o _h  
pass$ middle life2 good ta/e1 ample     
means1 ) womanly grace & natural        
ref9em5t1 made h] an addition to any    
circle4 ,! ho/ess ( ! occasion 0 a woman
 :o prid$ h]self on h] ability to meet !
 requirem5ts ( h] /ation4 ,%e _h no d\bt
 z to h] fitness 9 any social capacity1 
b h] fri5ds _h n ! same unque/ion+ fai? 
9 h] tact4  ,! g5tle gue/ f\nd to h]    
delight t %e 0 assign$ to ! c>e ( ! son 
( an old s*ool fri5d1 & inw>dly ?ank$ h]
 ho/ess = ! consid]ation & ?\ghtfulness 
:i* made x possible = h] to he> f h]    
fri5d1 :om %e _h n met 9 ye>s4 ,! gue/s 
7 no soon] seat$ at ! table ?an ! ho/ess
 lean$ t[>d ! "y man1 &1 9 a voice      
p]fectly audible to ! entire company1   
said3 ,nev] m9d1 ,bob1 ,i w d bett] = y 

next "t4  ,= "o m9ute !re 0 p]fect      
sil5ce1 ! lady & h] escort alike appall$
 by :at _h be5 said2 b ! k9dl9ess ( !   
gue/ ov]came ! emb>rass+ mom5t by call+ 
! att5tion ( ! "y man to ! roses on !   
table1 :i*1 %e said to him ) a smile1 7 
great favorites ( 8 "m :5 %e 0 9 s*ool4 
,?is broke ! ice4 ,! ho/ess 0 p]fectly  
unconsci\s t %e _h be5 guilty ( any     
rud5ess4 ,h] int5tion 0 to be p>ticul>ly
 polite to ! "y man2 fir/ to assure him 
t he w\ld be h] gue/ aga91 &1 secondly1 
t %e w\ld !n h a rosebud to assign to 8 
c>e4 ,! amus+ "p 0 t ! "y man greatly   
admir$ 8 "m's fri5d1 & _h frequ5tly be5 
h] gue/ on 8 visits to ! city4  ,x is   
difficult to imag9e h[ a woman c\ld move
 9 society to any ext5t & rema9 capable 
( su* a blund]1 & yet we h all pass$    
?r\gh simil> exp]i5ces at ! h&s ( p ^:  
social exp]i5ce %\ld r5d] su*           
tactlessness impossible4 ,!re comes to  
m9d n[ an impos+ woman1 :o prid$ h]self 
on ! fact t %e always said j :at %e     
?\ght4 ,at a reception1 %e fill$ ! room 

by h] mann]2 x 0 impossible to cont9ue  
oblivi\s ( h] pres5ce4  ,b[+ affably to 
h] acqua9tances1 %e sail$--= wom5 ( ?is 
type d n walk--up to a mode/ little lady
 ^: heal?1 %e _h he>d1 0 decl9+1 & 9 a  
l\d voice exclaim$3 ,:at h y be5 do+ to 
y\rself8 ,y h ag$ fifte5 ye>s s9ce la/  
,i saw y6 ,n unk9d by int5tion1 %e 0 b  
practis+ h] sy/em ( say+ j :at %e ?\ght1
 & %e 0 con/antly urg+ ^u h] fri5ds !   
propriety ( ?is c\rse2 b :at an         
unbe>able place our _w w\ld be if we all
 foll[$ ?is example ( inane &           
inconsid]ate bluntness4  ,s ! woman :o  
is always f9d+ 9 y resemblances to "s   
o!r p]son :om %e has met1 creates _m ( !
 uncom=table exp]i5ces ( social life1 & 
:5 %e ?9ks x int]e/+ to exploit ! "* (  
y\r prototype1 dwell+ ^u ! m5tal &      
physical defects1 %e becomes unbe>able4 
,yet society has1 z yet1 f\nd no sure   
way to elim9ate h]4  ,su* infelicities  
are n ! outcrop ( unk9dness s mu* z ( a 
c]ta9 ineptitude or lack ( savoir faire4
 ,su* p feel con/ra9$ to d _! %>e ( !   

talk+1 b h n acquir$ tactfulness 9      
select+ ! topic1 nor al]tness to avoid !
 pitfalls--bo? ( :i* traits may by      
s$ul\s self-tra9+ be acquir$ by any "o 9
 :om1 unhappily1 !y are n innate4  ,9 "o
 ( ^! in/ances bad mann]s 7 ! natural   
expression ( ! woman1 because h] impulse
 0 selfi%2 = x is c]ta9ly true t a p]son
 ( truly unselfi% nature w n (f5d by    
mak+ p]sonal rem>ks4 ,mann]s are !      
expression ( ! he>t1 & ! man or woman :o
 lives m5tally 9 k9dly1 ?\ghtful        
relations ) fell[ m5 & wom5 w refra9 f  
express+ ! ?\ght :i* might possibly give
 (f5ce4 ,!re is no my/]y 9 social grace4
 ,x is rememb]+ o!r p 9 _! sev]al       
relations to u4 ,! woman :o is a social 
success is n ! "o :o has = h] purpose 9 
life s mu* ! desire m]ely to please1 b !
 "o ^: desire1 r1 is to make o!rs happy4
 ,"o is a polite purpose2 ! o!r is a f9e
 type ( unselfi%ness t makes impossible 
! utt]ance ( unwelcome tru?s to ! *agr9 
( anyone enc\nt]$ 9 ! casual p]sonal    
contact t we t]m society4  ,holmes gave 

u "s good advice :5 he said3 ,don't     
flatt] y\rselves t fri5d%ip au?orizes y 
to say disagreeable ?+s to y\r          
intimates4 ,on ! contr>y1 ! ne>] y come 
into relation ) a p]son1 ! m necess>y d 
tact & c\rtesy become4     ,,!          
,,complim5t ,,( ,,att5tion4      ,7 we z
 eloqu5t z angels we %\ld please "s p m 
by li/5+ ?an by talk+4      ,a good     
li/5] is z ne$ful to a witty talk] z    
/eel to     fl9t4 ,x is ! %>p contact ( 
! two :i* makes ! sp>ks     fly4   ,!re 
are c]ta9 am5ities att5d+ social        
int]c\rse ) :i* we are all famili>1 yet 
we are con/antly =gett+ to put !m into  
practice4 ,9 no respect is ?is          
=getfulness m noticeable ?an 9          
conv]sation1 & especially 9 connection )
 :at may be call$ ! complim5t (         
att5tion4  ,if y despair ( becom+ a good
 talk] y c1 at lea/1 make y\rself a good
 li/5]1 & t is some?+ n to be despis$4  
,!re are apt to be m good talk]s ?an    
good li/5]s1 &1 al?\gh to say s may s\nd
 p>adoxical1 ! bett] y li/51 ! great] w 

be y\r reputation z a conv]sationali/4  
,9 ! op9ion ( ! cynical ,ro*ef\cauld1 ! 
reason :y s few p]sons make !mselves    
agreeable 9 conv]sation1 is because !y  
are m conc]n$ ab\t :at !y are !mselves  
go+ to say1 ?an :at o!rs are say+ to !m4
  ,if y h read ,ni*olas ,nickleby1 y    
rememb] ,mrs4 ,nickleby tells h[        
rem>kable ,smike 0 z a conv]s]4 ,%e     
ent]ta9$ poor ,smike = sev]al h\rs ) a  
g5ealogical acc\nt ( h] family1 includ+ 
biographical sket*es1 :ile he sat look+ 
at h] & wond]+ :at x 0 all ab\t1 & :e!r 
%e le>n$ x f a book or said x f h] own  
head4  ,said a writ] 9 ! ,*icago ,h]ald3
 ,:at is !re1 inde$1 m colloquial ?an an
 intellig5t c\nt5ance1 eag]ly int5t ^u  
"o :ile tell+ a /ory8 ,:at language c be
 comp>$ to ! speak+ blu% or fla%+ eye ( 
an e>ne/ li/5]8 ,x 0 ,desdemona1 ) gre$y
 e> dev\r+ 8 disc\rse1 :o won ,o!llo's  
he>t4 ,he told 8 wondr\s /ory1 & %e     
li/5$--t only 0 ! wit*craft he _h us$4  
,x is said ( ,sir ,walt] ,scott t1      
al?\gh "o ( ! be/ talk]s 9 ! _w1 he 0   

also ! be/ li/5]4 ,) ! same bl& look he 
w\ld wat*1 ?r\gh\t an entire ev5+1 !    
lips ( 8 g>rul\s torm5tor ignorantly    
disc\rs+ on ,greek epigrams1 or crassly 
dilat+ on ! intricacies ( a p>liam5t>y  
debate4  ,x 0 said ( ,madame ,recami] t 
%e li/5$ mo/ w9n+ly1 & ?is 0 "o secret (
 h] wond]ful p[] to *>m4  ,we h all he>d
 ! /ory ( ,madame de ,/ael1 :o1 by a    
clev] /ratagem1 0 introduc$ to a deaf   
mute at a p>ty4 ,%e talk$ to him ! :ole 
ev5+1 & aft]w>d decl>$ t nev] be=e _h %e
 met s intellig5t a li/5] & s f9e a     
conv]sationali/4  ,d y rememb] ! /ory   
told by ,/]ne 9 ,! ,s5tim5tal ,j\rney8  
,he _h be5 repres5t$ to a ,fr5* lady z a
 great wit & an engag+ conv]s]1 & ! lady
 0 impati5t = an introduction t %e might
 he> him talk4  ,!y met1 &1 writes      
,/]ne3 ,i _h n tak5 my seat be=e ,i saw 
%e did n c>e a s\ :e!r ,i _h any wit or 
no4 ,i 0 to be conv9c$ t %e _h4 ,i call 
heav5 to witness ,i nev] once op5$ !    
door ( my lips4  ,! lady aft]w>d said %e
 nev] 9 h] life _h a m improv+          

conv]sation ) a man4  ,_m o!r in/ances  
might be m5tion$ d]iv$ f bo? fact &     
fiction1 to %[ h[ att5tive li/5+ may    
enhance ! delights ( conv]sation1 & t "o
 may sometimes ga9 a reputation =       
conv]sational p[]s by ex]cis+ "o's e>   
in/ead ( "o's tongue4  ,a frequ5t call] 
at my home1 said a lady1 is a capital   
/ory-tell]1 always in/ructive & pleas+2 
b %e is a poor li/5]4 ,:5 my "p ( !     
conv]sation comes 91 h] mann] is        
depress+4 ,i feel emb>rass$1 my words   
become tangl$1 my memory leaves me1 & ,i
 hurry to close my rem>ks1 consci\s (   
hav+ made a weak argum5t1 al?\gh ,i _h a
 po9t :5 ,i began4 ,my fri5d loses h]   
easy mann] :5 ,i speak1 becomes re/less1
 & breaks 9 ^u me be=e ,i h fairly      
begun4 ,h] unresponsive eyes tell me z  
pla9ly ( h] sup]iority z ?\gh %e _h     
writt5 x 9 black & :ite4  ,cl]gym51     
tea*]s1 & public speak]s und]/& &       
appreciate bett] ?an o!rs ! complim5t ( 
att5tion4 ,emb>rass+1 inde$1 is x to    
anyone :o is talk+ to obs]ve signs (    

we>9ess & inatt5tion on ! "p ( "o's     
he>]s4 ,^? n accu/om$ to /& be=e an     
audi5ce seldom realize t a speak] feels 
& und]/&s1 )\t consci\s endeavor1 !     
attitude t[>d him ( e memb] ( 8 audi5ce4
 ,! good li/5] inspires & enc\rages him1
 :ile ! re/less1 inatt5tive auditor is a
 ?orn 9 ! fle%1 irritat+ & di/ract+4    
,at ! close ( a lecture giv5 a few ye>s 
ago 9 a t[n 9 ,ma9e1 ! lectur]--:o 0 a  
/ate sup]9t5d5t ( s*ools--turn$ to !    
writ] & ask$3  ,:o are ^? two ladies    
dress$ 9 black1 /&+ !re by ! w9d[8      
,aft] tell+ him _! names ! writ] said1  
,:y d y ask8  ,! lectur] repli$3 ,!y h  
be5 ( great help to me all ! ev5+4 ,!y  
are delightful li/5]s4 ,!y appe>$ to    
appreciate s ?or\ghly ev]y?+ ,i said t  
,i seem$ to be talk+ especially = _!    
b5efit4  ,t girl1 said a tea*]1 po9t+ to
 an attractive "y lady j leav+ !        
s*ool-room1 is ! mo/ re/ful pupil ,i ev]
 _h 9 my s*ool4 ,%e is s g5tle 9 h]     
demeanor1 s ?\ghtful & s att5tive dur+  
recitations1 t "o _c help lov+ h]4 ,no  

matt] h[ re/less ! o!r memb]s ( ! s*ool 
become1 %e is always giv+ ! close/      
att5tion4 ,if "o c\ld h an entire s*ool 
l h]1 tea*+ w\ld be a delight2 b %e is  
"o among fifty4  ,we ga9 _m ?+s besides 
! good w ( o!rs1 by be+ good li/5]s1 ev5
 ?\gh we mu/ sometimes submit to be bor$
 to an unlimit$ degree )\t int]rupt+ !  
speak]1 or respond+ 9 any o!r way ?an by
 nods & becks & wrea!d smiles4  ,op5 y\r
 m\? & %ut y\r eyes & see :at heav5 w   
s5d y1 says ! old maxim2 b1 %ut y\r m\? 
& op5 y\r eyes1 has be5 sugge/$ z mu* m 
s5sible advice "u "s circum/ances4  ,b1 
y say1 we are told t ,samuel ,johnson1  
,t5nyson & ,macaulay1 & _m o!r great    
?9k]s1 usually monopoliz$ ! conv]sation 
:5 !y 7 9 company1 & _! fri5ds delight$ 
to li/5 to !m4 ,surely !y gave b little 
he$ to '! complim5t ( att5tion4' ,v     
true1 b no d\bt !y w\ld h be5 sometimes 
m agreeable to ! company if !y _h be5 m 
consid]ate ( ! wi%es ( o!r p4 ,great m5 
are great 9 spite ( _! weaknesses1 n    
because ( !m4 ,we c =give unpleasant    

prop5sities 9 a g5ius m easily ?an 9 !  
av]age mortal1 & z almo/ all ( u are    
av]age mortals1 )\t a trace ( any?+ ak9 
to g5ius1 we _c af=d to disp5se ) any ( 
^? qualities :i* help to make u pleas+  
to o!rs4 ,we %\ld rememb] t !re 0 b "o  
,macaulay--a man :o c\ld talk           
brilliantly on almo/ all subjects--&    
not)/&+ 8 brilliancy1 8 fri5ds admitt$ t
 he 0 (t5 some?+ ( a bore4  ,a v useful 
lesson may be le>n$ f a little /ory :i* 
appe>$ "s ye>s ago 9 ,! ,y\?'s          
,companion3  ,george ,paul1 a "y civil  
eng9e]1 :ile survey+ a railway 9 !      
,p5nsylvania hills1 met a pla91 lovable 
little c\ntry girl1 & m>ri$ h]4 ,aft] a 
few weeks he br\ght h] home to 8 family 
9 ,new ,york1 & left h] !re :ile he     
return$ to camp4  ,m>ian _h laid _m     
plans to w9 ! affections ( h] new       
k9sfolk4 ,%e _h practic$ dilig5tly at h]
 music2 %e 0 sure !y w\ld be pleas$ to  
he> h] /ories ( h] beautiful si/] & h]  
bro!r2 %e imag9$ _! admiration ( h] new 
blue silk g[n & w9t] bonnet4 ,b !       

,pauls1 "o & all1 7 indiff]5t to h]     
music1 h] family & h] g[ns4 ,!y gave    
,george's wife a fri5dly welcome1 & !n  
ea* w5t on 8 or h] way1 & paid no m     
att5tion to h]4  ,aft] ! fir/ %ock (    
disappo9tm5t ,m>ian summon$ h] c\rage4  
,if ,i h no?+ to give !m1 !y h mu* to   
give me1 %e ?\ght1 *e]fully4 ,%e li/5$  
eag]ly :5 ,isabel sung1 & h] smiles &   
te>s %[$ h[ ke5ly %e appreciat$ ! music4
 ,%e exam9$ ,l\isa's pa9t+s e day )     
unflagg+ int]e/1 discuss$ e effect1 & 0 
happy if %e c\ld help mix ! colors or   
prep>e ! canvas4 ,%e que/ion$ gr&ma ab\t
 h] neuralgia1 advis$ new rem$ies1 or   
li/5$ unwe>i$ to ! acc\nt ( old ones day
 aft] day4 ,:5 ,uncle ,john1 j return$ f
 ,japan1 began to describe 8 adv5tures1 
,m>ian 0 ! only auditor :o nev] grew    
tir$ nor int]rupt$ him4  ,aft] a two    
h\rs' lecture1 9 :i* h] "p _h be5 t ( a 
dumb1 bright-fac$ li/5]1 ,uncle ,john   
decl>$ t ,george's wife 0 ! mo/         
intellig5t woman he _h ev] met4  ,:5    
,george came home ! :ole family 0 l\d 9 

h] praises4 ,%e 0 a f9e musician2 %e _h 
un]r+ ta/e 9 art2 %e 0 *>m+1 witty &    
lovable4 ,b ,george soon saw t %e _h won
 !m unconsci\sly--n by display+ h] own  
m]its1 b by appreciat+ !irs4  ,?is is a 
true /ory 9 fact1 b ! tru? ( its mean+  
is repeat$ :]ev] a woman is f\nd :o has 
t quality call$ *>m4 ,%e may be pla9 or 
ev5 de=m$1 b %e w w9 fri5d%ip & love4   
,_m an attractive girl w\ld save h]self 
mu* anxiety & va9 ef=t on h] entrance   
into ! _w ( society1 if %e und]/ood t   
society1 s call$1 is compos$ (          
individuals1 ! mo/ ( :om desire n to f9d
 ! beauty1 ! wit1 ! tal5t ( o!rs1 b to  
elicit ! cordial recognition by o!rs1 ( 
_! own4     ,,! ,,voice4      ,t5d]     
tones prev5t sev]e tru?s f (f5d+4       
,!re are tones :i* set commonplace words
 ap>t1 & give !m     lights & deeps (   
mean+1 j z "o f9e emotion idealizes     
& exalts a homely face4      ,!re is no 
p[] ( love s effective z a k9d voice4 ,a
 k9d     h& is deaf & dumb4 ,x may be   
r\gh 9 fle% & blood1 yet d     ! "w ( a 

s(t he>t1 & d x ) a s(t t\*4 ,b !re     
is no "o ?+ t love s mu* ne$s z a sweet 
voice to tell     :at x means & feels4  
,9 our ef=ts to please1 :ile mu* dep5ds 
^u :at we say1 q z mu* dep5ds ^u h[ we  
say x4 ,! influ5ce ( a pleas+ voice is  
wond]ful2 :o has n felt its *>m8  ,x has
 be5 said t ! greate/ defect 9 !        
,am]ican woman is h] voice1 & :ile ?is  
may n be /rictly true1 !re are he>d 9   
conv]sation at home & abroad _m voices m
 unpleasant ?an necess>y--m h>%1 m      
rasp+4  ,a woman's voice may imply good 
bre$+1 or ! rev]se1 & 9 e/imat+ ! p[] ( 
fem99e *>ms1 a pleas+ voice %\ld be     
plac$ v ne> ! head ( ! li/4 ,is x n     
/range1 !n1 t s little ef=t is made to  
rem$y defects 9 vocal expression8  ,we  
cultivate ! voice = s++ & = elocution>y 
effects1 b little is done = ! av]age boy
 or girl by way ( tra9+ ! voice = !     
ev]yday effect4 ,only a few c s+ well   
en\gh to give pleasure to o!rs1 b we all
 talk e day ( our lives1 & (t5 ! quality
 ( our voice speaks m significantly ?an 

! words we utt]4 ,a sympa!tic tone w (t5
 w9 u a fri5d1 ?\gh :at we say may be ( 
little importance4 ,purity ( acc5t plays
 a great "p 9 ! art ( *>m+1 & x has be5 
truly said t a woman may be ugly1 old1  
)\t di/9ction or in/ruction1 b if %e h a
 s(t1 ins9uat+1 mell[-ton$ voice1 %e w  
*>m z mu* z h] m beautiful si/]4  ,a    
telephone op]ator 9 a place ne> ,new    
,york 0 on a c]ta9 ,*ri/mas ! recipi5t (
 *ecks = five1 t5 & a hundr$ doll>s1 a  
diamond p91 a dress patt]n1 & eight     
boxes ( confection]y2 al?\gh %e 0 kn[n  
to ! donors only by h] g5tle voice1 by !
 def]5ce ( its tone1 by h] read9ess to  
accommodate1 & by h] (fice numb] z "o ( 
! op]ators4  ,:y is x t we reg>d vocal  
tra9+ & oral expression z some?+ to be  
conf9$ :olly to ! speciali/s8 ,we ?9k   
su* tra9+ is ne$$ by public speak]s &   
read]s1 & by all :o int5d to make a     
pr(essional use ( ! voice1 b we d n     
appreciate its value = ! av]age man or  
woman4  ,:at %\ld we ?9k1 says          
,expression1 ( a woman :o dresses 9 !   

ri*e/ ( app>el1 :o is extremely c>eful (
 e po9t ( dress1 b :o speaks ) a nasal  
twang & ?roaty tone1 & makes no ef=t to 
correct ! fault8 ,we "k t ?is is (t5 !  
case4 ,:y is n ! inconsi/5cy correct$8  
,:y is !re no endeavor to improve !     
voice & make x beautiful & w9n+8 ,:at a 
s5sitiv5ess p exhibit ab\t go+ abroad ) 
a smudge on ! face2 b1 alas6 !re is     
little s5sitiv5ess reg>d+ a smudge on   
"o's voice4  ,! tru? is t voice culture 
%\ld n be conf9$ to ! few1 b %\ld become
 a prescrib$ bran* ( ! education ( boys 
& girls g5]ally4 ,n alone are ! voices (
 ! wom5 too (t5 unmelodi\s1 b ^? ( ! m5 
also ne$ att5tion4 ,a f9e voice may be (
 ine/imable value to a man4 ,! majority 
( ! celebrat$ orators h be5 aid$ by !   
possession ( a good voice1 along ) ! k  
requisite to enable !m to employ x      
effectively4 ,mr4 ,lecky says t         
,o',connell's voice1 ris+ ) a melodi\sly
 modulat$ swell1 fill$ ! l>ge/          
auditoriums & triumph$ ov] ! wilde/     
tumult1 :ile at ! same "t x convey$ e   

%ade ( feel+ ) ! mo/ delicate           
flexibility4  ,mr4 ,glad/one's voice is 
said to h _h ! musical quality & !      
resonance ( a silv] trumpet2 :ile       
,william ,pitt1 :o 0 a rul] 9 ,p>liam5t 
at ! age ( tw5ty-"o1 possess$ a voice ( 
ma/]ful p[] yet ( a wond]ful sweetness4 
,web/]'s voice1 on ! occasion ( 8 reply 
to ,s5ator ,dick9son1 0 s comm&+1 s     
=ceful1 t "o ( 8 li/5]s said he felt all
 ! night z if a heavy cannonade _h be5  
res\nd+ 9 8 e>s4  ,g>rick us$ to say t  
he w\ld give "o hundr$ gu9eas if he c\ld
 say ,oh z ,:itefield w\ld say x4  ,b1 y
 decl>e1 nature has n giv5 u voices l ! 
voices ( ^? celebrat$ m51 & we mu/ be   
cont5t ) :at we h4  ,:ile nature may n h
 be/[$ ^u u _! melodi\s voices1 we c d  
mu* to improve our own4 ,a /udy (       
biography w in=m u t _m ( ! mo/         
successful speak]s1 :e!r actors or      
orators1 h be5 m5 & wom5 possess+ "s    
native defect ( spee* or figure :i* !y  
resolutely ma/]$ by pati5t1 p]sev]+     
application4 ,we all "k ( ,demo/h5es'   

imp$im5t ( spee*1 & are famili> ) ! /ory
 ( 8 mon?s ( /ruggle & 8 f9al success4  
,savon>ola1 :5 he fir/ spoke 9 ! ca!dral
 at ,flor5ce1 0 consid]$ a failure1 on  
acc\nt ( 8 wret*$ voice & awkw>d mann]4 
,phillips ,brooks1 "o ( ! greate/       
prea*]s ,am]ica has produc$1 0 told by 8
 college presid5t t ! m9i/ry 0 out ( !  
"q = him because ( 8 n]v\sness & !      
defects ( 8 spee*4  ,x w\ld be easy to  
multiply in/ances to %[ t ! mo/ awkw>d  
body & ! r\ghe/ voice may be br\ght "u  
control4 ,9 fact1 :]e ! voice is        
imp]fect & ! man is oblig$ to make a    
det]m9$ ef=t to ma/] x1 he atta9s by ?is
 means1 a m5tal vigor & an emotional    
/r5g? & a flexibility ( voice & m9d1 z  
well z a comm& ov] ! body1 :i* r5d] 8   
deliv]y 9 ! highe/ degree effective4    
,aga91 x is n suffici5t t we h naturally
 a melodi\s voice2 we mu/ "k h[1 or else
 le>n h[1 to use x4 ,!re mu/ be feel+ & 
expression 9 "o's tones4 ,if we wi% to  
express cordiality1 words are futile    
unless ! voice s\nds ! feel+ we wi% to  

express4 ,we ne$ to le>n h[ to modulate 
! voice s z to make x a true reflex ( ! 
m9d & mood4 ,unless x tells ( s9c]ity1  
apologies fail to conv9ce ( a contrite  
_s4 ,unless x conveys confid5ce1        
prote/ations are 9 va92 yet ! v tone (  
"o's voice may allay bitt]ness1 ?\gh "o 
may /umble ov] ! words ( an apology4    
,if1 !n1 "o recognizes ! fact t 8 voice 
is colorless & devoid ( feel+1 ?\gh 8   
he>t be w>m1 let him at once apply      
himself to rem$y+ ! defect4  ,li/5 to   
y\r own voice :5 speak+1 & note ! h>%1  
/rid5t tones1 & ! imp]fect inflection1 &
 correct !m4 ,_m girls speak 9 a n]v\s1 
j]ky1 rapid way1 beg9n+ a s5t5ce &      
repeat+ a portion ( x two or ?ree times 
be=e complet+ x4 ,"s speak 9 high1 %rill
 tones :i* are n only displeas+ b       
positively irritat+ because discordant4 
,"s speak too fa/1 :ile o!rs1 go+ to !  
opposite extreme1 simply drawl4 ,^! are 
defects :i* c be correct$1 &1 by        
correct+ !m we add measurably to our p[]
 to *>m4  ,if y d n und]/& !            

imp]fections ( y\r tone productions1 or 
! faults 9 y\r mann] ( speak+1 or if y h
 tr\ble 9 correct+ !m1 g to "o :o does  
"k1 & :o is z s5sitive to ! speak+ voice
 z he is to ! s++ voice4 ,x may co/ y   
some?+ to d ?is1 b x w be money         
judici\sly exp5d$4 ,y take music        
lessons1 bo? vocal & in/rum5tal1 & y d n
 consid] ! money exp5d$ = su* lessons z 
wa/$ ev5 ?\gh y h no int5tion ( go+ ^u !
 /age 9 op]a or ( becom+ a pr(essional  
piani/4 ,y /udy music z an accompli%m5t4
 ,:y !n %\ld y n give "s "t1 & if ne$   
be1 a little money = ! purpose ( p]fect+
 y\r speak+ voice1 if by s do+ y c make 
y\rself m agreeable to o!rs4 ,y may n be
 call$ ^u v (t5 to s+ or play = o!r p1 b
 y w talk e day & _m times ea* day1 & ! 
voice is ! ag5t ( ! s\l's expression4   
,! art ( s++1 says ,! ,bo/on ,h]ald1    
/range to say1 does n include ! art (   
speak+1 = "s v f9e s+]s h h>% &         
unmusical voices 9 conv]sation4 ,b ) all
 ! tra9+ n[ giv5 to ! ris+ g5]ation1    
voice education %\ld be consid]$4 ,take 

! rasp & ! h>dness out ( y\r sons' &    
daught]s' spee*1 & give !m ano!r grace )
 :i* to conqu] society4  ,! importance (
 :at we say & h[ we say x1 has nev] be5 
m cle>ly or po9t$ly express$ ?an 9 ?is  
quotation f an ,am]ican writ]3 ,a man   
may look l a monkey & yet turn out to be
 a philosoph]2 a man may dress l a      
vagabond1 & yet h ! intuitions ( a s*ol>
 & a g5tleman4 ,! face1 ! expression ( !
 eye1 ! dress1 ! mann] ev51 may all be  
deceptive1 b ! voice & spee* ( m5 & wom5
 classify !m infallibly4     ,,good     
,,mann]s4      ,life is n s %ort b t !re
 is always "t =     c\rtesy4            
,,em]son4      ,polit5ess is real       
k9dness k9dly express$4 ,?is is ! sum   
& sub/ance ( all true polit5ess4 ,put x 
9 practice & all     w be *>m$ ) y\r    
mann]4      ,"y m5 g5]ally w\ld d\btless
 be ?or\ghly a/oni%$     if !y c\ld     
compreh5d at a s+le glance h[ greatly _!
     p]sonal happ9ess1 popul>ity1       
prosp]ity1 & usefulness     dep5d on _! 
mann]s4                                 

,j4 ,g4 ,,holl&4   ,9 attract+ o!rs to u
 ! value ( a pleas+ mann] _c be e/imat$4
 ,x is l sun%9e4 ,we feel x at once1 &  
we are attract$ to ! p]son :o possesses 
x4  ,give a boy address & accompli%m5ts1
 said ,em]son1 & y give him ! ma/]y (   
palaces & =tunes :]ev] he goes2 he has n
 ! tr\ble ( e>n+ or own+ !m3 !y solicit 
him to ent] & possess4  ,mu* has be5    
writt5 ^u ?is subject4 ,inde$1 s mu* has
 be5 said1 & said s well1 t !re w be    
little attempt to d any?+ else 9 ?is    
*apt] ?an to br+ toge!r "s ( ! be/      
?\ghts ( ! be/ au?ors4  ,! m5 & wom5 :o 
h accompli%$ great ?+s 9 ! _w h1 z a    
rule1 und]/ood ! value ( polit5ess1 & h 
act$ 9 accordance ) t k4 ,y c1 possibly1
 recall a v few exceptions1 b ^! 7      
p]sons great 9 spite ( _! lack (        
c\rtesy1 & !y w\ld h be5 ev5 great] _h  
!y practic$ ! art ( g5tle mann]s4  ,!   
,duke ( ,m>lbor\gh1 ^: g5]al education 0
 9 "s respects sadly neglect$1 _h s     
irresi/ible a *>m ( mann] t he sway$ !  
de/9ies ( nations4 ,mirabeau1 :o 0      

unattractive 9 p]son1 won by 8 polit5ess
 ! good w ( all ) :om he came 9 contact4
 ,!re has be5 no "t 9 ! hi/ory ( ! _w :5
 good mann]s c\nt$ = m ?an !y d at !    
pres5t "t4 ,9 fact1 to-day m ?an ev]    
be=e a man is dep5d5t = success ^u 8    
p]sonality4 ,good mann]s (t5 br+ to "o  
_m ?+s t weal? _c procure1 & polit5ess  
has won m victories ?an p[d]4  ,no "o1  
says an ,am]ican writ]1 :o has any      
appreciation ( grace & beauty 9 nature  
or 9 art c fail to recognize ! *>m ( f9e
 mann]s 9 an individual4 ,we rejoice 9  
!m z we d 9 a lovely sunset view1 or a  
beautiful piece ( ar*itecture1 or a     
fasc9at+ poem1 = _! own sake & = :at !y 
express2 b ev5 beyond ?is !y h ano!r    
attraction 9 ! magnetic p[] !y ex]t ^u  
all behold]s 9 sett+ !m at ease1 9      
sweep+ away %yness1 awkw>dness &        
re/ra9t1 & 9 /imulat+ !m to ! expression
 ( :atev] is be/ wor? *]i%+ )9 !m4  ,x  
is und\bt$ly true t ! pres5ce ( f9e     
mann]s1 :e!r x be 9 ! home or ! social  
circle1 9 ! work%op or ! c\nt+-room1 9 !

 visit ( *>ity or ! halls ( legislation1
 has an imm$iate effect 9 reproduc+     
itself1 9 diffus+ happ9ess1 9 develop+ !
 faculties1 & 9 elicit+ ! be/ t is 9    
ev]ybody4  ,surely !re is no quality t a
 girl or a woman c possess :i* recomm5ds
 h] m favorably to ! good op9ion ( o!rs 
?an t ( uni=m c\rtesy & good mann]s4    
,william ,wirt's lett] to 8 daught] on !
 small1 sweet c\rtesies ( life1 conta9s 
a passage f :i* a deal ( happ9ess may be
 le>n$4 ,i want to tell y a secret4 ,!  
way to make y\rself pleasant to o!rs is 
to %[ !m att5tion4 ,! :ole _w is l !    
mill] at ,mansfield1 :o c>$ = nobody--no
 n he1 because nobody c>$ = him4 ,& !   
:ole _w w\ld s]ve y s1 if y gave !m !   
same cause4 ,let ev]yone1 !re=e1 see t y
 d c>e = !m by %[+ !m ! small c\rtesies 
9 :i* !re is no p>ade1 ^: voice is /ill 
to please2 & :i* manife/ !mselves by    
t5d] & affectionate looks1 & little acts
 ( att5tion1 giv+ o!rs ! pref]5ce 9 e   
little enjoym5t at ! table1 walk+1      
sitt+1 or /&+4  ,"y m5 :o wi% to make _!

 way 9 ! _w _c af=d to =get t !re is n 9
 all ! _w a talisman ( su* pot5t magic z
 ! irresi/ible spell ( a *>m+ mann]4    
,:ile 9 "s cases x seems innate1 x c1 9 
a great measure1 be acquir$4 ,yet a     
c>eful obs]v] ( ! "y m5 ( ! pres5t      
g5]ation _c fail to notice a t5d5cy1 on 
! "p ( "s at lea/1 to disreg>d ! small  
c\rtesies ( life--! intangible1 yet v   
p]ceptible little ?+s :i* make ! man a  
g5tleman4 ,"s p ev5 cont5d t outw>d     
mann] is a second>y consid]ation if !   
head is well /or$ ) k1 & t if a "y man  
has ! faculty to get on 9 ! _w1 x is a  
matt] ( v little importance if he h n ! 
mann]s ( a ,*e/]field4 ,t ?is idea is   
preval5t is acc\nt$ = by ! great numb] (
 well-educat$ m5--m5 ( ability &        
p[]--:o1 clev] & ) no lack ( bra9s1 are 
pa9fully defici5t 9 good bre$+4 ,) no   
int5tional lapses !y are awkw>d1        
presum+1 & ev5 vulg>4  ,9 mo/ c\ntries1 
says ! ,toronto ,week1 an educat$ man & 
a g5tleman are almo/ synonym\s t]ms4 ,on
 ?is side ( ! ,atlantic !y by no means  

always apply to ! same man4 ,educational
 advantages are )9 ! rea* ( all classes 
( p--ev5 p]sons :o h miss$ ! b5efit (   
home tra9+ = _! mann]s1 or :o h n numb]$
 cultur$ p]sons among _! acqua9tances4  
,su* p]sons by native ability & h>d "w  
(t5 atta9 to high positions ( honor &   
tru/ 9 ! v>i\s pr(essions1 & w9 =       
!mselves ! title ( 'self-made4'  ,yet   
because a man by 8 bra9s1 en]gy1 & pluck
 c>ves out 8 own =tune1 putt+ himself 9 
a prom95t position1 is x n v desirable t
 he %\ld also cultivate ! c\rtesies (   
life s t ! tal5t be n hidd5 by r\ghness 
& uncultivat$ be>+4  ,we frequ5tly meet 
college /ud5ts--especially f ! small]   
colleges--good1 hone/1 e>ne/1 ambiti\s  
fell[s1 :o are work+ h>d to make _! way 
9 ! _w4 ,!y are poor1 & h come f homes  
:]e ! /]n realities ( ga9+ a livelihood 
h left1 app>5tly1 no "t = culture2 :]e !
 table mann]s are b little bett] ?an ^? 
( ! logg+ camp1 & :]e ! graces ( ref9$  
spee* & mann]s h nev] ev5 tak5 root4 ,!y
 may take nev] s high a rank 9 _!       

college /udies1 may pursue ! "w         
prep>atory to a pr(ession ) nev] s mu*  
dilig5ce1 yet !y w always be h&icapp$ by
 _! ignorance ( ^? embelli%m5ts s       
necess>y to social1 & ev5 bus9ess1      
success4 ,!y f9d !mselves cont9ually    
plac$ at a disadvantage1 & _! lack (    
social tra9+ is responsible = failures  
:i* might h be5 avoid$4  ,because a man 
is a successful lawy] he is n ju/ifi$ 9 
say+ t he c be 8 own tailor1 or t       
ill-fitt+ clo!s1 if belong+ to him & ( 8
 own make1 are z suitable z ^? ( a good 
cut4 ,s x is ) ! intellectual giant :o  
takes no he$ ( 8 mann]s4 ,he may le>n   
mu* f less tal5t$ p]sons1 :o are1       
nev]!less1 8 sup]iors 9 _m respects4    
,desirable z x may be = a "y man to %un 
! extravagance ( ! ae/hete1 & to despise
 ! %ams ( society1 he _c af=d to neglect
 ! c\rtesies ( life2 & he does well :o1 
:ile devot+ 8 en]gies to ma!matics & !  
classics1 pays att5tion to ! improvem5t 
( 8 mann]s4 ,x is :ile "y t mann]s are  
=m$2 ! mo/ /r5u\s ef=ts w n :olly       

eradicate 9 aft] life ! awkw>d habits   
=m$ 9 y\?4  ,! "y man :o is ambiti\s1 ^u
 :om ,dame ,=tune is already turn+ a    
dawn+ smile1 %\ld pause & ?9k ab\t ?is  
matt]4 ,"s "t he may be ri*2 "s "t he   
may aspire to a high position 9 society 
or 9 public life1 & he %\ld beg9 e>ly to
 fit himself = ! pr\d position he means 
to occupy4  ,! outw>d address ( a man   
has no little influ5ce ^u 8 success 9   
bus9ess4 ,! polite att5tion & read9ess  
to meet e reasonable1 & (t5             
unreasonable1 dem& ( 8 cu/om]s1 on ! "p 
( ,a4 ,t4 ,/ew>t1 :5 he op5$ 8 n>r[ l95 
/ore on ,broadway1 0 almo/ z important a
 factor 9 8 rapid success 9 secur+      
bus9ess z 8 rem>kable quickness 9       
discov]+ *anges 9 ! m>ket1 & 9 adapt+ 8 
goods to ! ta/e & necessities ( 8       
patrons4 ,?is m>k$ self-re/ra9t &       
polit5ess ( mann] he reta9$ to ! la/4   
,x is /range t e bus9ess man does n     
appreciate ! comm]cial value (          
polit5ess4 ,! writ] kn[s a cl]k :o is   
employ$ 9 a drug /ore 9 "o ( ! l>ge/    

t[ns ( ,ma9e4 ,s polite is he 9 8       
att5tions to cu/om]s1 s will+ to be     
helpful1 s pleas+ 9 8 mann]1 ) t re/ra9t
 & quietness :i* m>k ! g5tleman & de/roy
 e trace ( effusion1 t he has made      
himself invaluable to 8 employ]4 ,x is  
report$ t1 m ?an once1 8 fri5ds h urg$  
him to e/abli% a bus9ess ( 8 own1 b 8   
employ]1 realiz+ 8 value 9 attract+ &   
hold+ cu/om]s1 has turn$ him f ! idea by
 a g5]\s increase ( sal>y4 ,?\s&s (     
cl]ks & ?\s&s ( pr(essional & bus9ess m5
 c\ld greatly increase _! e>n+ p[] by   
clos] att5tion to ! accept$ rules (     
c\rtesy4  ,"s p excuse a r\ghness (     
mann] by say+ t !y dete/ affectations ( 
all k9ds1 t !y love ! tru?1 t !y are    
p]fectly frank & outspok54 ,su* p pride 
!mselves ^u _! naturalness1 & on ! gr\nd
 ( frankness !y w w\nd by rude language1
 w insult y1 & def5d _! awkw>dness &    
ill-bre$+ by ! plea ( natural mann]s4   
,naturalness is n always comm5dable4 ,if
 nature has n inve/$ u ) ^? qualities   
:i* are pleas+ to o!rs1 we %\ld try to  

improve ^u nature4 ,! pla9e/ tru?s may  
be convey$ 9 civil spee*1 & x is bett]  
to assume a virtue if y h x n4 ,to      
object to polit5ess on ! gr\nd t its    
language is sometimes unmean+ & express$
 = effect1 is z fooli% z x w\ld be to   
object to ! decoration ( our p>lors or !
 we>+ ( good clo!s4  ,9 ! ord9>y        
complim5ts ( good society !re is no     
int5tion to deceive4 ,polite language is
 pleasant to ! e>1 & soo?+ to ! he>t1   
:ile r\gh words are ! rev]se1 & :ile !y 
may n always be ! result ( bad temp]1 !y
 are q likely to cause x4  ,! motive =  
polit5ess %\ld n be ! desire to %9e1 or 
to raise "o's self into society suppos$ 
to be bett] ?an "o's own4 ,! cultivation
 ( good mann]s is n m]ely a means to !  
gratification ( p]sonal vanity1 b x is a
 duty we owe n only to o!r p b to       
ourselves2 a duty to make ourselves     
bett] 9 e respect ?an we are4 ,inde$1 ! 
true _s ( good mann]s is s ne>ly alli$  
to t ( good morals t !y seem almo/      
insep>able4  ,did y ev] ?9k h[ invisible

 is ! armor ( def5ce af=d$ by p]fect    
polit5ess8 asks ,h>p]'s ,baz>4 ,nei!r   
man1 woman nor *ild c resi/ x4 ,! quick 
temp]$ ,iri% maid :o loses h] hold on h]
 tongue s easily & 'answ]s back' ) a hot
 retort is aba%$ :5 h] mi/ress meets h] 
) quiet c\rtesy4 ,! angry p]son1 (f gu>d
 & say+ :at he really does n mean1 is   
foil$ by ! self-control ( 8 int]locutor1
 :o has n1 = an in/ant1 =gott5 ! graci\s
 mann] ( good bre$+4  ,polit5ess is1    
p]haps1 in/9ctive ) "s1 b ) ! majority x
 is a matt] ( tra9+1 ( ! sl[ & c>eful   
discipl9e ( voice & eye & c>riage4 ,"u  
?is tra9+ all ! angles ( p]sonal vanity 
& self-consci\sness are rubb$ (f1 !     
p]son becomes adorn$ ) grace1 ease1     
simplicity & g5tl5ess1 & :at may seem to
 ! untra9$ obs]v] z ! p]fection (       
naturalness may be simply ! p]fection ( 
culture4  ,v s5sitive p]sons :o suff]   
acutely f fanci$ slights c save !mselves
 _m w\nds by always be+ z scrupul\s 9   
giv+ z !y are 9 exact+ c\rtesy4 ,to     
suff] "o's self to p]petrate a rud5ess  

is to lay "o's self op5 to ! same4 ,9   
no?+ %\ld we be less economical ?an 9   
polit5ess4 ,x %\ld lead u to prompt &   
g5]\s ackn[l$gm5t ( e k9dness1 to       
responsive ?anks :5 a gift1 h[ev] small1
 is br\ght to our door4 ,x %\ld oblige u
 to li/5 ) pati5t att5tion ev5 to !     
p]son ^: conv]sation is n ent]ta9+1 to  
sit app>5tly absorb$ :5 9 public we are 
pres5t at conc]t or lecture4 ,?is       
def5sive armor1 s smoo?1 s poli%$1 s    
easily worn1 w make our int]c\rse )     
society agreeable4  ,! fact is1 t :5 we 
come 9 contact ) human be+s any:]e & 9  
any occupation1 we are q likely to get 9
 return j :at we give4  ,a man :o is    
always ! g5tleman seldom meets ) rebuffs
 f ev5 ! mo/ unpoli%$ & crude4 ,!       
employ] :o uses k9d words ) 8 workm51   
usually gets k9d words 9 return4        
,,dress4      ,no woman is ugly :o is   
well dress$4                            
,,spani% ,,prov]b4      ,= ! app>el (t  
proclaims ! man4                        
,,hamlet4      ,i believe 9 dress4 ,i   

believe t ,god delights 9 beautiful     
?+s1 & z he has nev] made any?+ m       
beautiful ?an     woman1 ,i believe t t 
mode ( dress+ ! =m & face     :i* be/   
h>monizes ) h] beauty is t :i* pleases  
him     be/4                            
,j4 ,g4 ,,holl&4   ,z ! au?or ( ?is     
volume is a man1 ?is *apt] on dress is1 
( c\rse1 writt5 f a man's po9t ( view4  
,he kn[s v well t1 7 he to attempt to   
write sci5tifically ( woman's clo!s he  
w\ld be lo/4 ,no "o b a woman c d t4 ,! 
man :o tri$ x w\ld soon f9d himself     
bewild]$ by a maze ( te*nical t]ms &    
expressions :i* seem absolutely necess>y
 to describe exactly :at is meant4      
,possibly1 h[ev]1 ! au?or c take a      
broad1 m5tal grasp ( ! subject ap>t f & 
above ! pretty f9esse ) :i* fem99e      
writ]s w\ld treat ! subject4 ,clo!s are 
! woman's weapons1 "o ( ! res\rces (    
civilization1 ) :i* woman m>*es =? to ! 
conque/ ( ! mascul9e _w1 & ! writ] wi%es
 to e/imate f ! man's /&po9t j h[ mu* ! 
silks1 ! laces1 ! ribbons & ! velvets h 

to d 9 influ5c+ ! mascul9e he>t4  ,:at  
"o we>s is accept$ z an index ( "o's "*4
 ,:e!r ?is is z x %\ld be or n1 yet x is
 true2 & we all feel1 m or less1 t      
co>s5ess or ref9em5t f9ds visible       
expression 9 app>el z 9 no o!r way4     
,surely1 says ,! ,bo/on ,j\rnal1 no?+ s 
int5sifies ! p]sonality z ! clo!s "o    
we>s2 ?r\gh association !y become a "p (
 u1 help to id5tify u1 ev5 9 "s peculi>1
 reaction>y way1 s]ve to control our    
m5tal /ates4  ,_m wom5 w tell y t _! mo/
 infallible cure = we>9ess & ! blues is 
to g & dress up 9 "o ( _! prettie/ g[ns4
 ,_m m5 w tell y t a clean %ave1 clean  
l951 & a fre% suit ( clo!s are mo/      
reviv+ & soo?+ 9 _! effect ^u ! psy*ical
 z well z ! physical man4  ,! /atem5t1  
(t5 made1 t wom5 dress well only to     
please ! m51 is only a fraction ( !     
tru?4  ,!y dress to please ! m52 to     
please "o ano!r1 & to please !mselves4  
,:i* ( ^! ?ree motives is ! /ronge/     
dep5ds ^u ! individual1 =1--:ile !re are
 m5 & m51 !re are wom5 & wom5 & wom51 & 

x is absurd to make any attempt to      
analyze motives or to =mulate pr9ciples 
:i* w apply to all wom54  ,! m5 :o dress
 well d x = ! wom5 & = !mselves4 ,!     
effect t _! app>el has ^u o!rs ( _! own 
sex1 gives m5 b little conc]n4 ,if all !
 wom5 %\ld be tak5 f ! _w tailors w\ld  
at once lose half _! bus9ess1 = ! m5    
w\ld imm$iately beg9 to we> out _! old  
clo!s4  ,z a rule1 few m5 c>e v mu* =   
f9e clo!s = _! own sake1 b a love (     
dress is natural 9 woman1 & "o :o       
exhibits indiff]5ce 9 reg>d to h]       
p]sonal appe>ance convicts h]self ( ei!r
 indol5ce1 self-righte\sness or p$antry4
 ,a woman :o has n "s natural ta/e 9    
dress1 :o does n take a positive delight
 9 comb9ations ( colors1 :o is n fond ( 
f9e app>el = its own sake1 is an        
anomaly4  ,m5 d n notice details ( a    
woman's dress4 ,few "k en\gh ab\t !     
subject to di/+ui% *eese-clo? f po9t    
d'esprit4 ,! description 9 detail ( a   
new g[n z giv5 9 a fa%ion j\rnal is ab\t
 z intelligible to ! av]age man z !     

inscriptions on an ,assyrian tablet4    
,!y accept ! woman z a :ole1 & consid]  
h]1 & :at %e has on1 z "o h>moni\s1     
homog5e\s1 unanalyzable complet5ess4 ,if
 y d\bt ?is ask a man to tell y h[ a    
c]ta9 lady 0 dress$ at a reception he   
att5d$ ! ev5+ be=e4 ,p]haps he notic$ h]
 p>ticul>ly :ile !re1 & told y at ! "t t
 %e 0 becom+ly attir$4 ,he may be able  
to tell y t %e wore a p9k wai/1 or t !  
prevail+ color ( h] co/ume 0 blue1 b !re
 8 k ( ! subject ends4  ,:ile x is true 
t m5 give b little ?\ght to ! details ( 
a woman's dress1 unless x is            
conspicu\sly bad1 v _m ( !m "k :e!r %e  
is becom+ly attir$ or n4 ,:ile !y may h 
no cle> idea z to :e!r ! mat]ial ( a g[n
 co/ five c5ts or five doll>s a y>d1 or 
:e!r ! g[n itself is q 9 fa%ion1 !y "k  
:e!r ! own] c>ries x well1 & :e!r !     
mat]ial1 /yle & color are becom+ to h]4 
,p]haps1 on ! :ole1 a man ( good ta/e is
 a bett] judge ?an a woman z to :e!r %e 
is becom+ly dress$4 ,?is is because !y  
reg>d ! subject f entirely diff]5t      

/&po9ts4 ,! /yli%ly g[n$ woman is1 to ! 
av]age woman1 well dress$1 b n          
necess>ily s to ! man4 ,x is a p]petual 
wond] to "s m5 :y wom5 h n ! c\rage to  
reject c]ta9 comb9ations & c]ta9 /yles (
 dress t are inh>moni\s & ugly 9        
!mselves1 &1 consequ5tly1 unbecom+ to ! 
"o :o we>s !m4  ,ye>s ago c]ta9 colors 7
 ?\ght to be becom+ to c]ta9 types (    
wom54 ,!re 0 an undisput$ tradition 9   
reg>d to ! colors :i* ! blonde %\ld we>1
 & also :at ones 7 becom+ to ! brunette4
 ,?is 0 n a dictate ( fa%ion2 x 0 a fact
 asc]ta9$ by exp]i5ce4 ,( late ^!       
traditions h be5 disreg>d$ by fa%ion1 & 
! /yli% woman we>s any color or         
comb9ation %e pleases1 b (t5 at !       
sacrifice ( h] good looks4  ,fa%ion _c  
*ange ! laws ( cause & effect--! laws ( 
h>mony--& if ! decid$ brunette *ooses to
 we> colors :i* are becom+ only to      
blondes %e does x at ! exp5se ( half h] 
natural beauty4 ,m5 feel ?is & wond] :at
 is amiss4  ,a few ye>s ago fa%ion made 
q common a /yle ( sailor hat ) dim9utive

 cr[n made 9 ! %ape ( an h\r-glass4 ,!y 
7 ugly 9 !mselves1 & :5 p]*$ ^u ! head  
detract$ f ! beauty ( any face4 ,no?+   
c\ld be m ridicul\s ?an ! sight ( a /\t1
 tall girl1 ) broad hips & prom95t      
features1 m>*+ along ! /reet ) h] head  
surm\nt$ by t p>ody on ! mo/ becom+ (   
all hats = a "y woman--! sailor4 ,"o at 
once call$ to m9d ! dice-box :i* ! negro
 m9/rel we>s to make himself appe> z    
funny z possible4 ,"o man wittily       
*>act]iz$ !m z ! hats t wore corsets4   
,m5 nev] lik$ !m1 b ?\s&s ( !m 7 worn4  
,f a man's po9t ( view x w\ld be f>     
bett] if wom5 made a m compreh5sive &   
s5sible /udy ( _! individual ne$s 9     
dress & did n bl9dly foll[ ! decrees (  
fa%ion2 if m wom5 w\ld realize t ! g>m5t
 suitable to a tall1 slim figure1 is    
utt]ly inappropriate to a /\t1 %ort "o4 
,:5 ,s>a ,b]nh>dt inv5t$ ! glove :i* 0  
to give size & =m to h] ?9 & poorly %ap$
 arm1 %e recogniz$ ! highe/ aim (       
fa%ion4 ,:5 a woman is 9 ne$ ( a new hat
 or bonnet1 a man's advice w\ld be3     

,hunt ! tables until y f9d "o :i*1 9    
%ape & trimm+1 is suitable & becom+ to  
y4 ,nev] m9d if x is n ! v late/ /yle2  
if x suits y\r face & figure1 take x1 & 
y w n be sorry4  ,9 furni%+ a room we   
und]/& t we %\ld put 9 x only :at makes 
! room look bett]--n :at is simply      
pretty 9 itself2 & if wom5 w\ld foll[ a 
simil> plan 9 dress1--we> only :at is   
becom+ to !m1 & n we> ?+s1 simply       
because !y ?9k !m pretty & fa%ionable1  
m5 w\ld be bett] pleas$4 ,man is        
attract$ by a woman's beauty itself1 &  
:e!r %e has j ! late/ modes or n seldom 
int]e/s him 9 ! lea/4 ,s ! girl :o w\ld 
dress to please m51 %\ld1 fir/ ( all1   
we> :at w %[ (f h] natural attractiv5ess
 ( face & figure to ! be/ advantage2    
aft] t %e may be z fa%ionable z         
possible4  ,)\t d\bt _m girls atta* too 
mu* importance to dress z a means (     
attract+ ! o!r sex4 ,x is frequ5tly !   
case t1 :5 a "y lady is invit$ to a     
social function1 h] fir/ ?\ght is1 ,:at 
%all ,i we>8 ,h] second ?\ght is1 ,:at  

%all ,i we>8 ,?is "q is ) h] mu* ( ! "t 
until %e goes to ! place :]e %e is to be
 ent]ta9$2 & z %e ent]s ! room h] fir/  
?\ght is1 ,i wond] h[ ,i look4 ,if1 ^u  
an exam9ation ( ! o!r "y ladies pres5t1 
%e concludes t %e is z well dress$ z    
anyone !re1 %e exp]i5ces a feel+ (      
re/fulness & ( satisfaction1 & enjoys ! 
ev5+4 ,%e imag9es %e mu/ be an object ( 
int]e/ to ! m51 & to an ext5t %e is4    
,m5 l wom5 to be well groom$4 ,!y take 9
 h] :ole appe>ance at a glance1 & !n pay
 b little fur!r att5tion to ! "q ( g[ns1
 ribbons1 slipp]s or sa%es4 ,!y want to 
be ent]ta9$ & amus$4 ,if ! only         
prep>ation a "y lady has made to r5d]   
h]self attractive & int]e/+ is ! c>e    
be/[$ ^u h] p]sonal appe>ance2 if h]    
res\rces = attract+ consi/ only ( a     
pretty face & a graceful figure 9 a     
pretty g[n1 %e w nev] become fam\s = h] 
conque/s4  ,simplicity & exquisitely    
fre% neatness & da9t9ess are to a man m 
attractive ?an any extravagance ( fa%ion
 or co/l9ess ( mat]ial4 ,no man 0 ev]   

induc$ to propose to a girl by ! spl5dor
 ( h] co/ume4 ,( c\rse x w\ld be absurd 
to ass]t t physical beauty is ( no      
value1 or t dress is ( little           
importance4 ,t girl :o is born          
physically beautiful1 is =tunate inde$1 
& any girl ( common s5se kn[s t an      
attractive g[n or a becom+ hat is (     
importance4 ,! great ?+ = h] to und]/&  
is t !re mu/ be some?+ bett] "u ! becom+
 hat ?an a pretty face1 = h] own        
happ9ess1 & if %e w\ld be v attractive  
to o!rs4  ,j z !re are "s p]sons :o are 
said to be born magnetic1 s "s wom5 are 
suppos$ to h a peculi>ly attractive way 
( we>+ clo!s :i* defies imitation4      
,said a writ] 9 ! ,spr+field            
,republican3 ,!re is a subtle some?+ :i*
 "o _c get on ! microscopic slide1 :i*  
refuses to be r$uc$ to p]c5tages1 :i*   
baffles description1 & t is ! mann] 9   
:i* "s wom5 we> _! clo!s4 ,two girls )  
faces ( equal value & g>m5ts ( id5tical 
texture w fail to produce equival5t     
effects1 because "o has ?is indef9able  

quality1 & ! o!r has n4 ,consequ5tly we 
(t5 he> x said t "s girls are m         
attractive 9 calico ?an o!rs 9 ri*]     
mat]ial4  ,t !re is a m>k$ diff]5ce 9 ! 
way diff]5t wom5 we> _! clo!s1 no "o w  
d5y1 b because "s girls look & appe> to 
bett] advantage ?an o!rs 9 ! same       
mat]ial1 is x necess>y to reg>d x z     
beyond compreh5sion1 or to decl>e t x   
baffles description8 ,! writ] did n g f>
 en\gh 9 8 description ( ! two girls4   
,:ile _! faces 7 ( equal value1 & _!    
clo?+ 0 ( ! same mat]ial1 !re might be  
o!r diff]5ces :i* w\ld acc\nt = !       
indef9able quality4 ,possibly "o 0      
pleas+ 9 mann] & ! o!r n4 ,"o 0 awkw>d 9
 p]son & 9 spee*1 :ile ! o!r 0 tactful &
 graceful4 ,"o 0 dull2 ! o!r int]e/+4 ,!
 diff]5ce 0 "o ( physical & m5tal       
*>act]i/ics1 & n a quality t baffles    
description4 ,inde$ x is a diff]5ce     
easily und]/ood & analyz$4  ,if two     
girls h faces & =ms ( equal value1 & are
 equally graceful1 tactful & well       
mann]$1 _! clo!s1 if ( ! same =m &      

mat]ial1 w be worn 9 mu* ! same way1 & w
 produce mu* ! same effect4         99  
99       99       99       99  ,no man1 
:atev] 8 position 9 ! _w may be1 c af=d 
to be c>eless ab\t 8 p]sonal appe>ance4 
,dress may n make ! man1 b we all =m 9  
our m9ds a v cle> idea ( :at a man is by
 8 dress4 ,we ga9 our fir/ impression ( 
p]sons by :at !y h on2 our second       
judgm5t is =m$ f _! conv]sation & mann]4
  ,! well dress$ man is m attractive to 
o!rs1 & he feels mu* bett] himself ?an  
he w\ld if c>elessly attir$4 ,h y notic$
 ! wond]ful trans=mation :i* takes place
 9 a man :5 he d(fs 8 ev]yday clo!s &   
dons a dress suit8 ,dur+ ! day he may h 
an untidy & ev5 a slov5ly appe>ance1 b z
 soon z he puts on a well laund]$ %irt1 
a high /&+ coll>1 a fre% lawn tie1 & a  
dress suit1 he seems completely *ang$4  
,he looks f five to t5 ye>s y\ng]1 & f 8
 mann] y "k t he feels y\ng]4 ,he is on 
bett] t]ms ) himself & ) ! _w4  ,e woman
 likes a man bett] = be+ well dress$4   
,%e may excuse1 or ov]look1 c>elessness 

or ev5 slov5l9ess 9 8 p]sonal appe>ance1
 if %e is v fond ( him1 b %e w\ld l him 
mu* m if he 7 neat & tidy & ta/eful4 ,%e
 may =give 8 gre5 & yell[ necktie1 %e   
may ov]look 8 soil$ l951 %e may make no 
ref]5ce to 8 coat ) its coll> cov]$ )   
du/ & d&ruff2 %e may n let him "k t %e  
has ev5 notic$ any ( ^! ?+s1 b %e has4  
,%e ?9ks ( !m :5ev] he is ) h]1 &       
sometimes :5 %e is away f him1 & %e     
wi%es he 7 diff]5t4 ,%e may l him 9     
spite ( ^! defects4 ,wom5 usually l a   
man 9 spite ( ?+s4 ,if a man notic$ half
 z _m ?+s ab\t a woman t did n please   
him1 he w\ld nev] love h] at all4       
,leav+ out ( ! "q ! fact t wom5 l to h  
m5 neat & ev5 elegant 9 _! raim5t1 no   
man :o is seek+ to make 8 way 9 bus9ess 
or 9 a pr(ession1 c af=d to be c>eless  
ab\t 8 clo!s4  ,a few m51 says ,!       
,lewi/on ,j\rnal1 clo!d 9 ! s]5ity ( s\l
 t approa*es ! insanity ( g5ius c af=d  
to g illy-clo!d4 ,presid5t ,l9coln 0    
giv5 free lic5se to we> frock coats     
unbecom+ly4 ,horace ,greeley c\ld we> a 

l95 du/] ) grace & equanimity4 ,b !y 7  
unique4 ,!y c\ld make fa%ion look       
insignificant1 b y & ,i _c1 if we c>e to
 move amid ! ?rong ( busy p seek+       
passage on ! c> ( progress4  ,no bett]  
advice has be5 giv5 to m5 on ! subject (
 dress ?an 9 an article :i* appe>$ 9    
,success4 ,a %ort extract f ! article w 
close ?is *apt]4  ,clo!s are "o ( !     
accept$ /&>ds by :i* m5 are judg$ ! _w  
ov]4 ,!y =m ! *ief /&>d ( fir/          
impression2 s1 = t reason alone1 x w\ld 
be difficult to ov]e/imate _!           
importance4 ,!y %[ at a glance :e!r a   
man is neat or untidy2 c>eful or        
c>eless2 me?odical or %iftless1 & :at   
sort ( ta/e he has4 ,no?+ else ab\t him 
reflects s mu* ( 8 p]sonal *>act]i/ics4 
,s x is n surpris+ to be told by ^? :o  
ye>ly give employm5t to ?\s&s ( m5 &    
boys1 t m applicants are turn$ away on  
acc\nt ( _! p]sonal appe>ance ?an = all 
o!r reasons put toge!r4 ,b x w\ld       
surprise "s p v mu* if !y knew h[ widely
 ?is rule is appli$4  ,! well dress$ man

 is "o ^: clo!s d n make him ! object ( 
comm5t1 ei!r because !y are %[y or      
%abby4 ,he nev] goes to ! extremes (    
fa%ion1 !reby c\rt+ notoriety2 he nev]  
goes to ! o!r extreme by pay+ no        
att5tion at all to :at he we>s or h[ he 
we>s x4 ,he is always mode/ 9 8 attire4 
,he con=ms to ! e/abli%$ cu/oms ( *ang+ 
8 attire z ! occasion dem&s1 )\t mak+   
himself a slave to re=m4 ,he does n     
always we> exp5sive clo!s1 nor is x at  
all necess>y t he %\ld4 ,b he is always 
clean & neat1 or1 z ! pres5t day has x1 
he is well groom$4     ,,! ,,optimi/4   
,! habit ( look+ on ! bright side ( ?+s 
is wor? f>     m ?an a ?\s& p\nds a ye>4
                                        
--,,samuel ,,johnson4      ,m ?an half !
 unhapp9ess 9 ! _w comes f a     p]son's
 unwill+ness to look on ! bright side s 
long z     a d>k side c be discov]$4    
,we all l ! optimi/4 ,! bright1 *e]ful1 
good-natur$ fell[1 :o always looks ?r\gh
 ! cl\d & sees its silv] l9+1 is z good 
z a tonic to our mo/ pessimi/ic         

dispositions4 ,if1 !n1 y wi% to make    
y\rself agreeable to o!rs & to y\rself1 
cultivate ! habit ( *e]fulness--( always
 look+ on ! bright side4 ,we> a pleasant
 c\nt5ance2 let *e]fulness beam 9 y\r   
eye2 let love write its m>k on y\r      
=ehead1 & h k9d words & a pleasant      
greet+ = ^? :om y meet4 ,don't =get to  
say good morn+6 & say x he>tily4 ,say x 
to y\r bro!rs & si/]s1 y\r s*ool-mates1 
y\r p>5ts1 y\r tea*]s & y\r fri5ds4     
,pleasant1 he>ty greet+s *e] !          
disc\rag$1 re/ ! tir$1 & make ! :eels ( 
life run m smoo?ly4 ,!y cle> up ! ?orny 
pa?ways1 w9 fri5ds1 & conf\nd enemies4  
,9 fact1 x is impossible to resi/ !     
influ5ce ( *e]fulness4 ,let a bright    
face beam on ! d>kness ( defeat1 %9e on 
! abode ( pov]ty2 illum9e ! *amb] (     
sickness1 & h[ ev]y?+ *anges "u its     
b5ign influ5ce4  ,victory becomes       
possible1 compet5ce promises a gold5    
future1 & heal? is woo$ back aga94  ,on 
! o!r h&1 y _c e/imate ! am\nt (        
unhapp9ess y may cause by we>+ a cl\d$  

face & by speak+ h>%1 unk9d words4  ,_m 
p]sons fret & :9e all ?r\gh life4 ,!y   
nev] appe> to h a g5]\s impulse4  ,!y   
seem to h come into ! _w dur+ "o ( ^?   
cold1 bleak1 gloomy days1 :5 !re 0 no?+ 
) :i* to build a fire4 ,!y1 app>5tly1   
grew up 9 ! same bleak atmosph]e1 & !y  
live 9 x all _! lives4 ,y see _!        
smallness 9 ev]y?+ !y d & say4 ,y see x 
9 _! buy+ & 9 _! sell+1 9 _! talk & 9 _!
 actions4 ,!y h be5 well call$ '! frogs 
t con/itute "o ( ! plagues ( society4'  
,!y h nev] made "o he>t glad1 nor %$ "o 
ray ( sun%9e ^u man1 woman1 or *ild4  ,x
 is j z easy to be k9d z to be cross1 & 
z easy to give pleasure z pa94 ,x co/s  
no?+2 x is a smile1 an appreciative ^w1 
a m5tion ( :at "o likes to he> spok5 ( r
 ?an an irritat+ ref]5ce4  ,if y\r m9i/]
 has prea*$ a s]mon t int]e/$ & help$ y1
 tell him s4 ,x w enc\rage & *e] him1 & 
he w try to give y /ill bett] s]mons 9 !
 future4 ,rememb] t ! prea*] is mu* m   
human ?an mo/ p ?9k1 & t no man m highly
 prizes ! g5u9e1 manly ^w ( good *e]1   

sympa?y & affection4 ,if y\r groc] has  
sold y some?+ t 0 p>ticul>ly good1 tell 
him s4 ,no d\bt y h (t5 f\nd fault ) !  
tea & ! fl\r & ! meat2 !n :y n surprise 
him by lett+ him "k t y appreciate a    
good ?+ :5 y get x4  ,p]haps y h *ildr5 
:o are att5d+ ! public s*ools4 ,p]haps  
_! tea*] by pati5ce1 tact1 & !          
exp5diture ( mu* n]ve =ce1 has succe$$ 9
 int]e/+ !m 9 _! /udies z !y h nev] be5 
be=e4 ,don't y ?9k x w\ld /imulate h] to
 /ill great] ef=t if y %\ld say to h] :5
 y meet3 ,my *ildr5 are do+ well at     
s*ool ?is t]m4 ,!y l y & are int]e/$ 9  
_! "w4 ,no d\bt y h (t5 sev]ely         
criticis$ tea*]s1 me?ods1 & s*ool       
managem5t1 & y h be5 v free ) y\r words 
( condemnation4 ,:y n help a little by  
"s expression ( approval if y c hone/ly 
d s4  ,give pleasure to y\r wife1 if y h
 "o4 ,notice h] pa9/ak+ ef=ts to make   
home com=table2 complim5t h] d9n] & %[ t
 y appreciate ! ?\s& ?+s %e does = y\r  
com=t4 ,!re is no great] exhibition (   
h]oic =titude ?an is se5 9 "o :o dwells 

9 a *e]less home %e does h] be/ to      
bright51 & :o we>s away ! ye>s 9 an     
unsatisfi$ desire = words & tok5s ( love
 & sympa?y :i* nev] come to h]4  ,d n be
 afraid ( giv+ some?+ ( y\rself1 ( lett+
 y\rself out a little2 & d n fe> t y\r  
he>t w run away ) y\r head4 ,d n conf\nd
 s5tim5t ) s5tim5talism1 & d n hesitate 
to praise a ?+ or an act if x is really 
wor?y ( x4 ,y ne$ to d ?is = y\r own    
sake z well z = ! sake ( mak+ o!rs      
happy4  ,= my own sake1 y say4 ,9 :at   
way w x help me if ,i be/[ praise ^u    
ano!r8 ,praise1 :5 x is des]v$1 is ( m  
importance to ! giv] ?an ! receiv]4     
,praise does n imm$iately affect ! m]it 
( him to :om x is aw>d$1 said a writ]   
rec5tly1 b x does imm$iately affect !   
m]it ( him to :om its aw>d+ belongs4 ,if
 a man des]ves praise he is q z mu* ( a 
man )\t x z ) x2 b no man c be s mu* ( a
 man1 nor seem s mu* ( a man1 :ile      
)hold+ j praise z :ile be/[+ x4  ,9     
little matt]s z well z 9 l>ge ones1 to  
ackn[l$ge ! m]it ( o!rs is a duty1 !    

p]=mance ( :i* is ev5 m important to !  
"o :o owes x1 ?an to ! "o to :om x is   
ow$4 ,we d n fail to express our        
appreciation ( h]oic de$s1 b x is 9 !   
common1 ev]yday life t ! words (        
appreciation are mo/ sorely ne$$1 & too 
seldom spok54 ,_m a woman w\ld h be5    
greatly *e]$ & help$ ov] _m h>d places1 
if1 :ile liv+1 %e c\ld h he>d half z _m 
nice ?+s said to h] by ^? %e lov$1 z 7  
put into h] fun]al s]mon & obitu>y      
notice4  ,!re is1 ( c\rse1 a great      
diff]5ce betwe5 ! expression ( a due &  
delicate appreciation ( m]it1 & t false 
& exagg]at$ praise :i* is dictat$ by !  
desire to flatt]4 ,! =m] is always      
receiv$ ) pleasure1 b ! latt] w\nds !   
susceptibility ( ^? on :om x is lavi%$4 
,to a m9d rightly con/itut$1 !re are few
 ?+s m pa9ful ?an undes]v$1 or ev5      
excessive comm5dation4 ,flatt]y is nev] 
excusable2 des]v$ praise %\ld nev] be   
)held4  ,d n be a grumbl]4 ,is !re any  
p]son m unwelcome ?an ! *ronic gr[l]8   
,:5 we meet him he beg9s by gr[l+ ab\t !

 wea!r2 !n y are ent]ta9$ ) a long      
acc\nt ( 8 a*es & pa9s1 8 trials & 8    
losses4 ,no?+ pleases him4 ,8 neighbors 
are di%one/1 *ur* memb]s are hypocrites1
 public (ficials are1 9 8 e/imation1 all
 rascals1 law mak]s are corrupt1 & !    
c\ntry is go+ to ! dogs4 ,if y speak 9  
comm5dation ( an individual1 he at once 
attempts to belittle him 9 y\r          
e/imation4 ,if y praise a cause or an   
in/itution1 he is sure to f9d fault )   
:at y say4 ,he wi%es y\r sympa?y = 8    
tr\bles1 b he has none to give4  ,we all
 crave sympa?y1 b1 if we are n c>eful1  
we may exhau/ ! pati5ce1 ev5 ( our be/  
fri5ds1 ) ! recital ( our tr\bles4 ,if  
y\r a*es & pa9s are ev] s bad1 ! be/    
advice = y is gr9 & be> x4 ,x is all v  
well to be an int]e/+ invalid = a %ort  
"t4 ,y\r neighbors w br+ y 9 good ?+s to
 eat1 & y\r fri5ds w br+ y pretty fl[]s 
to look at1 & books to read1 b d n rema9
 too long 9 b$ if y c help x1 & d n we> 
too long & sad a face :5 y are recov]+4 
,x w n relieve y\r pa9 at all to tell   

ev]yone y meet h[ mu* y suff]1 & :5 y\r 
fri5ds h sympa?iz$ ) y a doz5 times !y  
become a little tir$ ( x4 ,?is advice is
 wor?y ( practice1 n = ! sake ( y\r     
fri5ds only1 b = y\r own4 ,! burd5      
*e]fully borne becomes light1 & any     
physician kn[s t ! hopeful1 *e]ful      
pati5t has _m m *ances ( recov]y ?an !  
despond5t "o4 ,9 ! lives ( u all !re are
 h\rs ( anxiety1 disappo9tm5t1 pa9 &    
vexation2 seasons ( trial t are to be   
met only ) /ubborn pati5ce4 ,greatness (
 s\l is te/$ by ! s]5ity ) :i* ^!       
inevitable ills are borne & f9ally      
ov]come4 ,! little m9d w fret & *afe &  
fume ov] little ?+s1 ev5 z ! petty /ream
 ov] its n>r[1 pebbly b$1 :ile ! deep1  
/rong riv] moves swiftly & sil5tly ov] !
 b\ld]s t lie at its bottom4  ,b1 y say1
 :ile ! advice is good x is v h>d to    
foll[ x4 ,yes1 b x is really h>d] n to  
he$ x4 ,! bird t beats aga9/ ! iron b>s 
( its cage suff]s m ?an ! pati5t        
captive4  ,laugh all y c4 ,x is good =  
y4 ,physicians tell u t laugh+ has a    

direct & positive effect ^u "o's heal?4 
,! physical movem5t caus$ by a he>ty    
laugh causes ! art]ies to dilate & ! fl[
 ( blood to ha/51 ?us promot+ an        
accel]ation ( vital processes2 & a m5tal
 action ?r\gh /imulat+ ! blood vessels (
 ! bra94 ,he :o adm9i/]s m$ic9e 9 ! %ape
 ( wit & humor to ! sad he>t is mo/     
assur$ly a good ,sam>itan4  ,!          
irresi/ible1 good-humor$ philosophy (   
,m>k ,twa9 has reliev$ ! depression &   
sorr[ ( multitudes4 ,he has compell$ u  
to laugh1 & 8 mission 9 ! _w has be5 a  
b5efic5t "o4 ,a *e]ful face is z good = 
an invalid z pleasant wea!r4 ,*e]fulness
 is heal?1 melan*oly is disease4        
,*e]fulness is j z natural to ! he>t ( a
 man 9 s\nd moral & physical heal? z    
color to 8 *eeks1 & :]ev] we see        
habitual gloom we may be sure !re is    
some?+ radically wrong 9 ! animal       
economy or ! moral s5se4  ,sydney ,smi? 
once gave a lady two-&-tw5ty receipts   
aga9/ melan*oly4 ,"o 0 a bright fire2   
ano!r1 to rememb] all ! pleasant ?+s    

said to h]2 ano!r1 to keep a box ( sug> 
plums on ! *imney piece & a kettle      
simm]+ on ! hob4 ,^! are trivial ?+s 9  
!mselves b life is made up ( ^! little  
pleasures & none %\ld be neglect$       
because ( _! seem+ly trifl+ nature4  ,if
 our temp]am5t does n make u naturally  
*e]ful1 we c1 at lea/1 cultivate ^?     
habits ( body & m9d :i* seem mo/        
favorable to ! gr[? ( ?is condition4 ,we
 c keep ! m9d op5 to *e]ful impressions1
 & close x to ^? t are gloomy4 ,x is f> 
bett] to magnify our bless+s ?an to     
depreciate !m4 ,! ,spani>d ( :om ,s\!y  
tells t he always put on 8 magnify+     
glasses :5 he ate *]ries1 9 ord] to make
 !m seem l>g]1 _h ! true philosophy (   
life4 ,s ! anci5t ,pompeiians seem to h 
well und]/ood ! art ( mak+ ! mo/ (      
ev]y?+4 ,_! g>d5s 7 v small1 b by pa9t+ 
! surr\nd+ walls ) plants & l&scapes _! 
little area became indef9itely enl>g$ to
 ! eye ( ! obs]v]4     ,,p]sonal        
,,peculi>ities4      ,ecc5tricity may be
 h>mless1 b x nev] c be comm5dable2     

x is "o ( ! *ildr5 ( t prolific         
fail+--vanity4 ,&     :e!r x %[s 9      
feel+1 mann]s1 or peculi>ities ( dress1 
x is cle>ly act$ ^u f ! presumptu\s     
supposition t     ! _m are 9 ! wrong1 ! 
individual 9 ! "r4      ,society w p>don
 mu* to g5ius & special gifts1 b1 be+   
9 its nature a conv5tion1 x loves :at is
 conv5tional or :at     belongs to com+ 
toge!r4 ,t makes ! good & bad (         
mann]s1 namely1 :at helps or h9d]s      
fell[%ip4                               
,,em]son4   ,we all "k t ! outw>d       
address ( a p]son has great influ5ce ^u 
8 success bo? 9 ! social & ! bus9ess _w4
 ,?\s&s ( m5 & wom5 are1 9 _! ef=ts to  
please1 h9d]$ by "s p]sonal peculi>ity  
:i* is pa9fully app>5t to o!r p1 b ( :i*
 !y !mselves seem :olly ignorant4 ,?\s&s
 ( pr(essional & bus9ess m5 are prev5t$ 
f atta9+ ! success !y might rea* by "s  
infelicity ( mann] or spee* :i* c\ld be 
rem$i$ by a little pa9/ak+ ef=t4  ,"h is
 a physician :o has prep>$ himself      
?or\ghly = 8 pr(ession by ye>s ( h>d    

/udy & by ! exp5diture ( a consid]able  
sum ( money1 b he kn[s little ( human   
nature1 & b little ( ! requirem5ts (    
good society4 ,he has no tact1 & has n  
?\ght x necess>y to cultivate t quality4
 ,he is cold & unsympa!tic4 ,he has no  
ability to make fri5ds or to keep !m4   
,he is n sociable1 & he does n make     
himself agreeable to 8 pati5ts by ^?    
little k9dly acts & sympa!tic spee*es s 
com=t+ to invalids4 ,he feels t he is   
well prep>$ to practice 8 pr(ession1 &  
he reg>ds any p]sonal defects z ( little
 importance4 ,o!r m5 ( less ability1 b )
 m tact1 soon out/rip him 9 ! race =    
public favor4 ,he nev] succe$s 9 acquir+
 a l>ge practice1 &1 possibly1 nev] kn[s
 ! reason :y4  ,a "y man applies = a    
position z a tea*]4 ,he is well equipp$ 
9 s*ol>%ip = ! place he wi%es1 = he l$ 8
 class 9 college1 & he comes highly     
recomm5d$ z a "y man ( integrity &      
e>ne/ness4 ,aft] a %ort int]view !      
sup]9t5d5t ( s*ools decides t he is n ! 
man = ! position & ! applicant goes away

 disappo9t$4 ,:y 0 he reject$8 ,n by    
reason ( poor s*ol>%ip1 nor = lack (    
moral "*1 b simply on acc\nt ( 8 p]sonal
 appe>ance4 ,he 0 untidy 9 8 dress4 ,8  
l95 0 soil$1 8 coat 0 n bru%$1 8 cuffs 7
 fray$ at ! edges1 :ile 8 f+]-nails gave
 evid5ce t he 0 habitually c>eless ab\t 
p]sonal neatness & cleanl9ess4 ,!       
sup]9t5d5t decid$ at once t he did n    
want him1 & ! "y man did n "k :y4  ,"h  
is a "y woman :o is f9e look+1          
intellig5t & accompli%$4 ,app>5tly %e   
possesses all ^? qualities :i* are      
necess>y to make h] a favorite 9 society
 & %e seems to des]ve a ho/ ( fri5ds4   
,yet %e is n greatly s\ght aft] by h]   
acqua9tances1 & %e has few firm fri5ds4 
,"y m5 pay h] b little att5tion1 & seem 
afraid ( h]4 ,o!r girls1 less brilliant 
intellectually1 ) few] accompli%m5ts1 & 
) pla9] faces1 are f> great] favorites 9
 society4 ,h] p>ticul> weakness is t %e 
has all[$ h]self to fall into ! practice
 ( employ+ s>casm to an ext5t :i* is    
(f5sive to ^? ) :om %e talks4 ,%e has a 

habit ( say+ disagreeable1 bit+ ?+s 9 a 
humor\s way1 & %e nev] suspects t p are 
hurt by !m4 ,%e has cultivat$ ! habit to
 su* a degree t %e c always raise a     
laugh at "s p]son's exp5se1 & %e is     
con/antly on ! wat* = opportunities to  
ex]cise ?is accompli%m5t4 ,f9ally x     
dawns ^u h] t %e does n hold h] fri5ds2 
t %e is sometimes slight$ 9 ! matt] (   
invitations2 t %e is n a popul> girl1 & 
%e doesn't "k :y4  ,a c]ta9 cl]gyman is 
a f9e prea*]1 capable ( attract+1       
in/ruct+1 & inspir+ ! mo/ cultivat$     
audi5ces1 b he is %ut out f 8 prop]     
sph]e ( usefulness & influ5ce1 & prev5t$
 f rea*+ ! position = :i* 8 end[m5ts    
qualify him1 by a matt] :i* might seem  
trifl+ 9 itself1 b :i* has become       
(f5sive ?r\gh its p]si/5t hold ^u him4  
,he exhibits a lack ( prop] def]5ce to !
 feel+s ( o!rs1 an arrogant &           
unsympa!tic tone ( voice1 & sometimes   
yields1 "u opposition1 to unre/ra9$     
viol5ce ( language4 ,he betrays 8       
weakness e "t anyone crosses 8 plans &  

desires4 ,x seems h>d = him to und]/& t 
o!rs h an equal "r to _! pref]5ce &     
op9ions4 ,he =gets t :ile x is easy to  
be amiable :5 ev]yone agrees ) him1 !   
te/ ( "* is 9 keep+ ! temp] sweet &     
reasonable :5 p diff] f him & criticise 
him4 ,he und]/&s 8 p[] to move audi5ces2
 he is told by p]sons compet5t to judge 
t 8 s]mons are sup]ior2 he kn[s t 9     
high] intellectual qualities he         
surpasses _m o!r cl]gym5 :o secure &    
reta9 prom95t positions2 yet ! pa9ful   
tru? is =c$ ^u him t 8 s]vices z a pa/or
 are n s\ght =1 :ile inf]ior prea*]s are
 select$ = places ( p[] & influ5ce4  ,a 
man goes into trade4 ,he is a %rewd     
buy]1 en]getic1 hone/1 & keeps a good   
assortm5t ( goods1 b he is n oblig+ to  
cu/om]s4 ,he is %ort & cru/y 9 8 spee*1 
irritable & sometimes almo/ rude 9 8    
mann]2 consequ5tly he does n hold 8     
patrons4 ,!y leave him1 "o by "o1 & d _!
 pur*as+ at o!r /ores :]e !y receive    
polite att5tion4 ,! m]*ant does n prosp]
 9 bus9ess1 & he nev] kn[s :y4  ,"h is a

 woman :o prides h]self ^u h] pla9      
speak+4 ,%e boa/s t :5 %e has any?+ to  
say %e is will+ to say x to "o's face1 &
 n beh9d "o's back4 ,%e ?9ks x is a m>k 
( s9c]ity & frankness to say            
disagreeable ?+s & to br+ "o's          
infirmities to ! surface4 ,h] t5d5cies  
f9ally become fix$ habits4 ,%e f9ds     
h]self %unn$ by h] acqua9tances1 & %e   
does n "k :y4  ,!n !re is ! loquaci\s   
woman1 ! woman :o monopolizes !         
conv]sation1 ! woman :o has an app>5t   
contempt = p>agraph & punctuation4 ,no  
matt] :at ! topic ( conv]sation may be1 
%e at once takes ! managem5t ( x into h]
 own h&s1 & ! o!r memb]s ( ! company are
 made to feel at once t !y are expect$  
to be only li/5]s4 ,! loquaci\s woman   
may talk well--%e (t5 does--b %e fails  
to und]/& t !re may be su* a ?+ z too   
mu* ev5 ( good ?+s1 & s %e talks on &   
on1 ) an utt] disreg>d = ! rights & !   
com=t ( ^? ar\nd h]4  ,a pr(essional    
man1 :o possesses mu* intellectual =ce &
 orig9ality1 takes pride 9 8            

unconv5tionality 9 ! matt] ( dress4 ,8  
g>m5ts are s f> f ! prevail+ /yle t !y  
attract att5tion & invite comm5t4 ,he   
does n realize t ! man :o rebels aga9/  
fa%ion may be op5 ev5 m to ! imputation 
( vanity ?an he :o obeys x1 because he  
makes himself conspicu\s1 & practically 
ann\nces t he is wis] ?an 8 associates4 
,an affectation ( sup]ior simplicity is 
vulg>ity4  ,/op a mom5t & recall tw5ty  
m5 & wom5 ( y\r acqua9tance4 ,y w       
probably rememb] t two-?irds ( !m h "s  
peculi>ity1 "s defect ( spee* or mann]  
:i* detracts f _! social & bus9ess      
success1 or f _! usefulness4 ,"o is a   
gossip2 ano!r possesses a ha/y temp]1   
:ile a ?ird is intellectually di%one/1  
nev] yield+ 8 position1 ev5 "u ! mo/    
absolute pro( t he is 9 ! wrong4 ,"o (  
y\r fri5ds is a pessimi/1 & is          
cont9ually attempt+ to conv]t y to 8    
po9t ( view1 :ile 8 wife is s           
inquisitive t y at once become n]v\s :5 
y p]ceive h] approa*4 ,a "y woman ( y\r 
acqua9tance w\ld be a mo/ *>m+ p]son if 

%e did n laugh too mu*4 ,a conv]sation )
 h] is1 ^u h] "p1 a p]petual giggle4    
,^! may g5]ally be good1 intellig5t1 &1 
9 _m respects1 *>m+ p1 b un=tunately !y 
are hamp]$ by ^! defici5cies4 ,!y h     
become s unconsci\s ( ^! p]sonal traits 
t1 d\btless1 !y w\ld be greatly surpris$
 7 _! att5tion call$ to !m4 ,! effect ( 
^! %ortcom+s ^u o!rs is1 h[ev]1 j z     
un=tunate z if !y 7 int5tionally reta9$ 
& n\ri%$1 = we usually reg>d ! outw>d   
mann] z a true index ( ! inw>d emotion4 
,if s _m ( our acqua9tances display     
idiosyncrasies t affect u disagreeably1 
is x n possible t we too may be h>bor+  
"s rem$iable evil ( temp]1 "s sup]able  
infirmity ( mann] or ( spee* :i* is a b>
 to our own usefulness1 because di/ress+
 to ^? ) :om we are ?r[n8  ,let u ?9k   
ab\t ?is4     ,,sugge/ions ,,f ,,_m     
,,s\rces    ,,=    ,,! ,,man ,,:o ,,w\ld
 ,,please ,,&   ,,! ,,woman ,,:o ,,w\ld 
,,*>m4   ,a g5tleman makes no noise2 a  
lady is s]5e4                           
,,em]son4         99       99       99  

99       99  ,s ,i talk$ a great deal & 
f\nd myself inf9itely pleas$ ) ,br&on's 
conv]sational p[]s1 :i* 7 r>e2 be+ no   
less ?an ! capacity = say+ no?+1 & li/5+
 politely to an indef9ite deal ( ! same 
?+1 9 ano!r =m1 f me4                   
,,*>les ,,major4         99       99    
99       99       99  ,talk ab\t ^?     
subjects y h _h long 9 y\r m9d1 & li/5  
to :at o!rs say ab\t subjects y h /udi$ 
b rec5tly4 ,k & timb] %\ld n be mu* us$ 
till !y are season$4                    
,o4 ,w4 ,,holmes4         99       99   
99       99       99  ,a beautiful =m is
 bett] ?an a beautiful face2 a beautiful
 behavior is bett] ?an a beautiful =m2 x
 gives a high] pleasure ?an /atues or   
pictures2 x is ! f9e/ ( ! f9e arts4     
,,em]son4         99       99       99  
99       99  ,believe no?+ aga9/ ano!r b
 on good au?ority1 nor report :at may   
hurt ano!r1 unless x be a great] hurt to
 ano!r to conceal x4                    
,,william ,,p5n4         99       99    
99       99       99  ,life is l a      

mirror4 ,x reflects ! face y br+ to x4  
,look out lov+ly ^u ! _w1 & ! _w w look 
lov+ly 9 ^u y4         99       99      
99       99       99  ,b x is mo/ly my  
own dreams ,i talk (1 & t w some:at     
excuse me = talk+ ( dreams at all4      
,ev]yone kn[s h[ delightful ! dreams are
 t "o dreams "o's self1 & h[ insipid !  
dreams ( o!rs are4 ,i _h an illu/ration 
( ?is fact n _m ev5+s ago1 :5 a company 
( u got tell+ dreams4 ,i _h by f> ! be/ 
dreams ( any2 to be q frank1 m9e 7 !    
only dreams wor? li/5+ to2 !y 7 ri*ly   
imag9ative1 delicately fanta/ic1        
exquisitely :imsical1 & humor\s 9 ! la/ 
degree2 & ,i wond]$ t :5 ! re/ c\ld h   
li/5$ to !m !y 7 always eag] to cut 9 ) 
"s silly1 s5seless1 ta/eless ?+1 t made 
me sorry & a%am$ = !m4 ,i %all n be go+ 
too f> if ,i say t x 0 on _! "p !       
grosse/ betrayal ( vanity t ,i ev]      
witness$4                               
,,william ,,dean ,,h[ells4         99   
99       99       99       99  ,!re is a
 great mi/ake 9 suppos+ t giv+ is       

conc]n$ only ) mat]ial b5efits4 ,^! =m  
inde$ b a small "p ( its mission4 ,:oev]
 creates happ9ess1 :e!r by a k9dly      
greet+1 or t5d] sympa?y1 or inspir+     
pres5ce1 or /imulat+ ?\ght1 is z true a 
giv] z he :o empties 8 purse to fe$ !   
hungry4         99       99       99    
99       99  ,polit5ess & good bre$+ are
 absolutely necess>y to adorn any or all
 o!r good qualities or tal5ts4 ,)\t !m  
no k1 no p]fection :atev]1 is se5 9 its 
be/ light4 ,! s*ol>1 )\t good bre$+1 is 
a p$ant2 ! philosoph]1 a cynic2 ! soldi]
 a brute2 & e man1 disagreeable4        
,,"l ,,*e/]field4         99       99   
99       99       99  ,tact1 ?\gh p>tly 
a natural gift1 is a good deal indebt$  
to education & e>ly habits4 ,!          
sup]iority ( "o sex to ! o!r 9 ?is      
respect w (t5 be f\nd to dep5d on art q 
z mu* z ^u nature4         99       99  
99       99       99  ,nev] is sil5ce m 
eloqu5t ?an :5 x is pres]v$ t[>d p]sons 
old] ?an ourselves :5 !y voice op9ions  
long s9ce prov5 errone\s4 ,age doesn't l

 to be contradict$1 "r or wrong4        
99       99       99       99       99  
,9 ! supremacy ( self-control consi/s "o
 ( ! p]fections ( ! ideal man3 n to be  
impulsive1 n to be spurr$ hi!r & ?i!r by
 ea* desire t 9 turn comes upp]mo/2 b to
 be re/ra9$1 self-balanc$1 gov]n$ by !  
jo9t decision ( ! feel+s 9 c\ncil       
assembl$1 be=e :om e action %all h be5  
fully debat$ & calmly det]m9$4          
,,h]b]t ,,sp5c]4         99       99    
99       99       99  ,9 ! exhau/less   
catalogue ( heav5's m]cies to mank9d1 ! 
p[] we h ( f9d+ "s g]ms ( com=t 9 !     
h>de/ trials mu/ ev] occupy ! =emo/     
place2 n only because x supports &      
upholds u :5 we mo/ require to be       
su/a9$1 b because 9 ?is s\rce (         
consolation !re is some?+1 we h e reason
 to believe1 ( ! ,div9e ,_s2 some?+ :i*1
 ev5 9 our fall5 nature we possess 9    
common ) ! angels4                      
,,dick5s4         99       99       99  
99       99  ,:5 y bury animosity don't 
set up a head/one ov] its grave4        

99       99       99       99       99  
,i don't nev] hav truble 9 regulat+ mi  
own kondukt1 b tew keep o!r pholks      
/raight iz :at bo!rs me4                
,,jo% ,,bill+s4         99       99     
99       99       99  ,hundr$s ( ! mo/  
agreeable p]sons 9 fa%ionable society   
are ^? :o are cont5t to be taught ! ?+s 
!y already "k4         99       99      
99       99       99  ,x is bett] to    
return a dropp$ fan g5teelly ?an give a 
?\s& p\nds awkw>dly2 y _h bett] refuse a
 favor gracefully ?an grant x clumsily4 
,all y\r ,greek c nev] advance y f      
secret>y to envoy1 or f envoy to        
embassador1 b y\r address1 y\r air1 y\r 
mann]1 if good1 may4                    
,,"l ,,*e/]field4         99       99   
99       99       99  ,! art ( n he>+   
%\ld be le>n$ by all4 ,x is fully z     
important to dome/ic happ9ess z a       
cultivat$ e>1 = :i* bo? money & "t are  
exp5d$4 ,!re are s _m ?+s :i* x is      
pa9ful to he>1 s _m :i* we ought n to   
he>1 s v _m :i* if he>d w di/urb !      

temp]1 corrupt simplicity & mode/y1     
detract f cont5tm5t & happ9ess t ev]yone
 %\ld be educat$ to take 9 or %ut out   
s\nds accord+ to 8 or h] pleasure4      
,once ,a ,week4         99       99     
99       99       99  ,! bitt]e/ te>s %$
 ov] graves are = words left unsaid &   
de$s left undone4 ,%e nev] knew h[ ,i   
lov$ h]4 ,he nev] knew :at he 0 to me4  
,i always meant to make m ( y\r         
fri5d%ip4 ,i did n "k :at he 0 to me    
till he 0 gone4 ,su* are ! poison$ arr[s
 :i* cruel dea? %oots back at u f ! door
 ( ! sepul*re4         99       99      
99       99       99  ,we are only      
really alive :5 we enjoy ! good w (     
o!rs4                                   
,,goe!4         99       99       99    
99       99  ,a diff]5ce ( ta/e 9 jokes 
is a great /ra9 on ! affections4        
,,george ,,eliot4         99       99   
99       99       99  ,p[] ha? n "o-half
 ! might ( g5tl5ess4         99       99
       99       99       99  ,mann] is (
 importance4 ,a k9d no is (t5 m         

agreeable ?an a r\gh yes4               
,,b5gel4         99       99       99   
99       99  ,we are always clev] ) ^?  
:o imag9e we ?9k z !y d4 ,to be %all[ y 
mu/ diff] f p2 to be pr(\nd y mu/ agree 
) !m4                                   
,,bulw]4         99       99       99   
99       99  ,if y want to spoil all t  
,god gives y2 if y want to be mis]able  
y\rself & a mak] ( mis]y to o!rs1 ! way 
is easy en\gh4 ,only be selfi%1 & x is  
done at once4                           
,,*>les ,,k+sley4         99       99   
99       99       99  ,language 0 giv5 u
 t we might say pleasant ?+s4           
,,bovee4         99       99       99   
99       99  ,! specially social        
qualities are good nature1 amiability1 !
 desire to please1 & ! k9dness ( he>t t 
avoids giv+ (f5ce4 ,a good natur$ p]son 
may frankly disagree ) y1 b he nev]     
(f5ds4         99       99       99     
99       99  ,good mann]s are made up ( 
petty sacrifices4                       
,,em]son4         99       99       99  

99       99  ,pride ( orig91 :e!r high  
or l[1 spr+s f ! same pr9ciple ( human  
nature2 "o is b ! positive1 ! o!r !     
negative pole ( a s+le weakness4        
,,l[ell4         99       99       99   
99       99  ,! be/ possible impression 
t y c make by y\r dress is to make no   
sep>ate impression at all2 b s to       
h>monize its mat]ial & %ape ) y\r       
p]sonality1 t x becomes tribut>y 9 !    
g5]al effect1 & s exclusively tribut>y t
 p _c tell aft] see+ y :at k9d ( clo!s y
 we>4                                   
,j4 ,g4 ,,holl&4         99       99    
99       99       99  ,no?+ is m dang]\s
 ?an to pa9t m5 z !y are :5 by *ance !y 
are n z h&some z !y w\ld wi% to be4     
,,edmond ,,ab\t4         99       99    
99       99       99  ,borr[ tr\ble if y
 h n en\gh already4         99       99 
99       99       99  ,ref9em5t creates 
beauty ev]y:]e4                         
,,hazlitt4         99       99       99 
99       99  ,a lady may always judge ( 
! e/imation 9 :i* %e is held by !       

conv]sation :i* is address$ to h]4      
99       99       99       99       99  
,"s p _c drive to happ9ess ) f\r horses1
 & o!rs c rea* ! goal on foot4          
,,?ack]ay4         99       99       99 
99       99  ,! cl[n :o excites !       
multitudes to mir? is m a b5efactor ?an 
! conqu]or :o drapes a ?\s& homes 9     
m\rn+4         99       99       99     
99       99  ,tact is ! art ( putt+     
y\rself 9 ano!r's place1 & be+ quick    
ab\t x4         99       99       99    
99       99  ,x pays #ajj p] c5t4 to be 
polite to ev]yone1 f ! g>bage ga!r] to !
 gov]nor4         99       99       99  
99       99  ,if y wi% t y\r own m]it   
%\ld be recogniz$1 recognize ! m]its (  
o!rs4         99       99       99      
99       99  ,if y _c be happy 9 "o way1
 be happy 9 ano!r2 & ?is facility (     
disposition wants b little aid f        
philosophy1 = heal? & good humor are    
almo/ ! :ole affair4 ,_m run ab\t aft]  
felicity1 l an abs5t man hunt+ = 8 hat  
:ile x is on 8 head or 9 8 h&4 ,su*     

p]sons want no?+ to make !m ! happie/ p 
9 ! _w b ! k t !y are s4         99     
99       99       99       99  ,an      
,at*ison woman1 :o ?ree days ago 0      
consid]$ ! mo/ popul> woman 9 t[n1 has n
 "o fri5d left2 in/ead ( sympa?iz+ ) h] 
fri5ds1 z %e has h]et(ore1 %e began     
tell+ !m h] tr\bles4                    
,at*ison ,globe4         99       99    
99       99       99  ,x is ! *>act]i/ic
 ( folly to disc]n ! faults ( o!rs & to 
=get "o's own4                          
,,cic]o4         99       99       99   
99       99  ,:at is x to be a g5tleman8
 ,x is to be hone/1 to be g5tle1 to be  
g5]\s1 to be brave1 to be wise1 &1      
possess+ all ^! qualities1 to ex]cise !m
 9 ! mo/ graceful outw>d mann]4         
,,?ack]ay4         99       99       99 
99       99    ,tea* me to feel ano!r's 
woe1     ,to hide ! fault ,i see2   ,t  
m]cy ,i to o!rs %[1     ,t m]cy %[ to   
me4                                     
,,pope4         99       99       99    
99       99  ,! ,p]sians say ( noisy1   

unreasonable talk3 ',i he> ! noise ( !  
mill-/one1 b ,i see no meal4'         99
       99       99       99       99    
,we give advice by ! bucket1 b take x by
 ! gra94                                
,,alg]4         99       99       99    
99       99  ,x is mu* easi] to be      
critical ?an correct4                   
,,beaconsfield4         99       99     
99       99       99  ',i am busy1      
,johnnie1 & c't help x1' said ! fa!r1   
writ+ away :5 ! little fell[ hurt 8 f+]4
 ',yes1 y c\ld--y might h said oh6'     
sobb$ ,johnnie4 ,!re's a ,johnnie 9 te>s
 inside all ( u ^u occasions4           
,,rev4 ,w4 ,c4 ,,gannett4         99    
99       99       99       99  ,y _c    
prev5t ! birds ( sadness f fly+ ov] y\r 
head1 b y may prev5t !m f /opp+ to build
 _! ne/s !re4         99       99       
99       99       99  ,9 g5]al society  
"o %\ld always avoid discussions ^u two 
subjects--religion & politics4 ,9 a     
discussion ^u ei!r ( ^! subjects y w f9d
 v little intellectual hone/y1 & x w    

almo/ inv>iably lead to irritat+        
diff]5ces ( op9ion4         99       99 
99       99       99  ,a g5tleman is "o 
:o und]/&s & %[s e m>k ( def]5ce to !   
claims ( self-love 9 o!rs & exacts x 9  
return f !m4                            
,,hazlitt4         99       99       99 
99       99  ,!re is no real conflict   
betwe5 tru? & polit5ess2 :at is imag9$  
to be su* is only ! crude mi/ake ( ^? :o
 fail to discov] _! h>mony4 ,polit5ess1 
tak5 9 its be/ s5se1 is ! graceful      
expression ( respect1 k9d feel+1 & good 
w4         99       99       99       99
       99  ,belov$ among wom5 is %e :o1 
hav+ w>n$ a fri5d ( ! consequ5ces to    
foll[ ra% do+s1 w1 :5 h] prophecies h   
come true1 )hold ! triumphant3 ,i told y
 s6                                     
,bo/on ,j\rnal4         99       99     
99       99       99  ,no "o loses by   
polit5ess to1 or by ! trifl+ ex]cise (  
app>5t pleasure 9 a call]4 ,:ile ,i h no
 wi% to c\nsel ins9c]ity1 !re is a wide 
diff]5ce betwe5 t (f5sive v5e] & ! pure 

metal ( consid]ation = ! feel+s ( a     
/rang] )9 "o's gate4    ,,lady          
,,bellair',s ,,advice ,,to ,,girls4     
,,:at ,,to ,,avoid4  ,a l\d1 weak1      
affect$1 :9+1 h>% or %rill tone ( voice4
 ,extravagances 9 conv]sation--su*      
phrases z ,awfully ?is1 ,bea/ly t1      
,loads ( "t1 ,don't y "k1 ,hate =       
dislike1 etc4  ,sudd5 exclamations (    
annoyance1 surprise & joy1--(t5         
dang]\sly approa*+ to female swe>+--z   
,bo!r6 ,graci\s6 ,h[ jolly6  ,yawn+ :5  
li/5+ to anyone4  ,talk+ on family      
matt]s1 ev5 to bosom fri5ds4  ,attempt+ 
any vocal or in/rum5tal piece ( music t 
y _c execute ) ease4  ,cross+ y\r       
lett]s4  ,mak+ a %>p1 %ort nod ) ! head1
 int5d$ to d duty z a b[4   ,,:at ,,to  
,,cultivate4  ,an unaffect$1 l[1 di/9ct1
 silv]-ton$ voice4  ,! art ( pleas+ ^?  
ar\nd y1 & seem+ pleas$ ) !m & all !y   
may d = y4  ,! *>m ( mak+ little        
sacrifices q naturally1 z if ( no acc\nt
 to y\rself4  ,! habit ( mak+ all[ances 
= ! op9ions1 feel+s1 or prejudices (    

o!rs4  ,an erect c>riage--t is1 a s\nd  
body4  ,a good memory = faces1 & facts  
connect$ ) !m--?us avoid+ giv+ (f5ce    
?r\gh n recogniz+ or b[+ to p1 or say+  
to !m :at _h be/ be5 left unsaid4  ,!   
art ( li/5+ )\t impati5ce to prosy      
talk]s1 & smil+ at ! twice-told tale or 
joke4         99       99       99      
99       99  ,he :o w\ld see 8 sons &   
daught]s ?or\ghly & truly g5tle1 mu/    
=bid selfi%ness ( action1 rud5ess (     
spee*1 c>elessness ( =ms1 impolit5ess ( 
conduct f ! fir/1 & dem& t 9 *ildhood & 
! nurs]y %all be laid ! f\ndation ( t   
good bre$+ :i* is z a jewel ( price to !
 mature man & woman4         99       99
       99       99       99  ,_m p]sons 
consid] t 'bad temp]' is entirely       
volunt>y on ! "p ( ! p]son :o displays  
x4 ,z a matt] ( fact x is (t51 to a v   
great ext5t1 involunt>y1 & no "o is m   
angry at x ?an ! bad temp]$ p]son       
himself4 ,( c\rse ev]yone1 :e!r he is   
born ) a bad temp] or has acquir$ "o f  
habit1 or has be5 visit$ ) "o z ! result

 ( disease or injury1 %\ld at lea/ try  
to control x4 ,b 8 fri5ds %\ld also be> 
9 m9d t bad temp] may be1 & (t5 is1 an  
affliction to be sympa?iz$ )1 n an (f5ce
 to be puni%$4                          
,once ,a ,week4         99       99     
99       99       99  ,!re are "s p s   
giv5 ov] to ! pett9ess ( fault-pick+1 t 
if !y %\ld sudd5ly see ! h&writ+ on !   
wall1 !y w\ld disreg>d its awful w>n+ 9 
_! eag] ha/e to po9t out its defective  
p5man%ip4                               
,,br&] ,,mat!ws4         99       99    
99       99       99  ,we are all       
dissatisfi$4 ,! only diff]5ce is t "s ( 
u sit d[n 9 ! squalor ( our             
dissatisfaction1 :ile o!rs make a ladd] 
( x4         99       99       99       
99       99  ,mrs4 ,julia ,w>d ,h[e     
said1 9 speak+ ( ,longfell[1 t 8 p]sonal
 *>m 0 9 a delicat5ess ( m9d t 0 truly  
cosmopolitan2 he _h a vivid appreciation
 ( :at 0 beautiful & noble1 & he        
repres5t$ ! pure/ ta/e & ! mo/ p]fect   
feel+4 ,0 !re ev] giv5 a f9] def9ition (

 a g5tleman8         99       99        
99       99       99  ,set a wat* ov] ?y
 m\?1 & keep ! door ( ?y lips1 = a      
tale-be>] is worse ?an a ?ief4          
,,! ,,bible4         99       99        
99       99       99  ,he submits to be 
se5 ?r\gh a microscope :o suff]s himself
 to be caught 9 a passion4         99   
99       99       99       99  ,x isn't 
:at y we> 9 ?is life1 g5tlem52 x is h[ y
 we> x4 ,x isn't s mu* :at y d2 x is h[ 
y d x4 ,!re are p :o d ta/eful ?+s      
vulg>ly1 & vulg> ?+s ta/efully4 ,:o 0 x 
t    ',kick$ !m d[n/airs ) su* v f9e    
grace1    ,!y ?\ght he 0 h&+ !m up'8  ,a
 s5se ( humor is "o ( ! mo/ preci\s     
gifts t c be v\*saf$ to a human be+4 ,he
 is n necess>ily a bett] man = hav+ x1 b
 he is a happi] "o4 ,x r5d]s him        
indiff]5t to good or bad =tune4 ,x      
enables him to enjoy 8 own discomfiture4
 ,bless$ ) ?is s5se1 he is nev] unduly  
elat$ or ca/ d[n4 ,no "o c ruffle 8     
temp]4 ,no abuse di/urbs 8 equanimity4  
,bores d n bore him4 ,humbugs d n humbug

 him4 ,solemn airs d n impose on him4   
,s5tim5tal gu% does n influ5ce him4 ,!  
follies ( ! mom5t h no hold on him4     
,bo/on ,j\rnal4         99       99     
99       99       99  ,!re is always a  
be/ way ( do+ ev]y?+1 if x be b to boil 
an egg4 ,mann]s are ! happy way ( do+   
?+s2 ea* "o ! /roke ( g5ius or (        
love--n[ repeat$ & h>d5$ into usage4    
,y\r mann]s are always "u exam9ation1 & 
by committees little suspect$--a police 
9 citiz5's clo!s--b are aw>d+ or d5y+ y 
v high prizes :5 y lea/ ?9k ( x4        
,,em]son4         99       99       99  
99       99  ,my exp]i5ce ( life makes  
me sure ( "o tru?1 :i* ,i d n try to    
expla92 t ! sweete/ happ9ess we ev] "k1 
! v w9e ( human life1 comes n f love1 b 
f sacrifice--f ! ef=t to make o!rs      
happy4 ,?is is z true to me z t my fle% 
w burn if ,i t\* r$-hot metal4          
,,john ,,boyle ,o',,reilly4         99  
99       99       99       99  ,a wise  
man w turn adv]se criticism & malici\s  
attacks to good acc\nt4 ,he w consid]   

c>efully :e!r !re is n 9 him "s weakness
 or fault :i*1 al?\gh he nev] discov]$1 
0 pla9 to ! eye ( 8 enemy4 ,_m m5 pr(it 
m by ! assaults ( foes ?an by ! k9dness 
( fri5ds4         99       99       99  
99       99  ,polit5ess is l an air     
cu%ion3 !re may be no?+ 9 x1 b x eases  
our jolts wond]fully4         99        
99       99       99       99  ,don't   
flatt] y\rself t fri5d%ip au?orizes y to
 say disagreeable ?+s to y\r intimates4 
,on ! contr>y1 ! ne>] y come into       
relation ) a p]son ! m necess>y d tact &
 c\rtesy become4 ,except 9 cases (      
necessity1 :i* are r>e1 leave y\r fri5d 
to le>n unpleasant tru?s f 8 enemies3 !y
 are ready en\gh to tell !m4 ,good bre$+
 nev] =gets t am\r-propre is univ]sal4  
,o4 ,w4 ,,holmes4         99       99   
99       99       99  ,:atev] our       
disbeliefs1 mo/ ( u pr(\ndly believe 9  
goodness2 & we incl9e to believe t a man
 :o has practically le>n$ ! secret (    
noble liv+ has someh[ got ne> ! tru? (  
?+s4                                    

,,geo4 ,s4 ,,m]riam4         99       99
       99       99       99  ,a man's   
bad temp] sometimes does m t[>d spoil+ a
 d9n] ?an a woman's bad cook+4          
99       99       99       99       99  
,h] voice 0 ev] s(t1   ,g5tle & l[2 an  
excell5t ?+ 9   ,woman4                 
,,%akespe>e4         99       99        
99       99       99  ,true polit5ess is
 p]fect ease & fre$om4 ,x simply consi/s
 9 treat+ o!rs j z y love to be treat$  
y\rself4                                
,,*e/]field4         99       99        
99       99       99  ,a man has no m "r
 to say an uncivil ?+ ?an to act "o1 no 
m "r to say a rude ?+ to ano!r ?an to   
knock him d[n4                          
,,johnson4         99       99       99 
99       99    ,h[ sweet & graci\s1 ev5 
9 common spee*1   ,is t f9e s5se :i* m5 
call c\rtesy6   ,:olesome z air & g5ial 
z ! light1   ,welcome 9 e clime z brea? 
( fl[]s1----   ,x transmutes ali5s into 
tru/+ fri5ds1   ,& gives its own]       
passport r\nd ! globe4                  

,j4 ,t4 ,,fields4   ,,! ,,end4          
,,transcrib]',s ,,notes  #a4 ,passages 9
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#b4 ,punctuation errors h be5 correct$  
)\t note4  #c4 ,! foll[+ mispr9ts h be5 
correct$3     repuation correct$ to     
reputation 7page #b7     sympa!ic       
correct$ to sympa!tic 7page #ch7        
,/ael correct$ to ,/ael 7page #ei7  #d4 
,o!r ?an ! corrections li/$ above1      
pr9t]'s inconsi/5cies 9 spell+ &        
hyph5ation h be5 reta9$4