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"w furni%es full in=mation & is au?ority ^u all matt]s ( social etiquette4 ,all "y p]sons1 & "s old] ones1 are deeply int]e/$ 9 ! ,etiquette ( ,c\rt%ip & ,m>riage1 ,w$d+s & ,w$d+ ,anniv]s>ies4 ,^! subjects are treat$ 9 a mann] at once practical & in/ructive4 ,! usages ( ! be/ society 9 giv+ ,p>ties1 ,d9n]s1 ,teas1 ,receptions1 ,breakfa/s1 ,lun*eons1 etc41 are m9utely describ$4 ,also1 ,home ,etiquette & ,etiquette = ,*ildr54 ,) ?is volume 9 ! home1 p>5ts c easily tea* ! "y polite & w9n+ mann]s4 ,miscellane\s ,ent]ta9m5ts =m a dep>tm5t t is bright & sp>kl+4 ,! d>k side ( life is n ov]look$1 ,etiquette ( ,fun]als =m+ a sep>ate topic4 ,h[ ! "y lady %\ld come out is /at$ 9 full1 ) invaluable in/ructions to h] p>5ts & h]self4 ,!n we come to ,etiquette ( ,public ,places1 foll[$ by t ( ,walk+1 ,rid+1 ,boat+1 ,driv+1 etc4 ,etiquette = ,bicycle ,rid]s receives full att5tion4 ,"h are ,h9ts = ,travel]s1 = ,ho/ess & ,gue/1 ,g5]al ,etiquette & ,dels>te ,discipl9e1 ,musicales1 ,soires1 ,lawn ,p>ties1 etc4 ,wa%+ton ,etiquette is describ$ & all ! prop] titles = pr(essional & public m5 are giv54 ,! ,art ( ,dress receives exhau/ive treatm5t1 & ! rules to be obs]v$ by ^? :o w\ld dress ta/efully are v complete4 ,!y :o are well dress$ h already made a favorable impression ^u o!rs4 ,sugge/ions & rules ^u ?is subject are important to all :o w\ld %9e 9 social life4 ,lett]-,writ+ makes con/ant dem&s ^u ne>ly all p]sons1 yet its difficulties are p]plex+4 ,"h are pla9 directions ^u ?is subject1 :i* %\ld be /udi$ & foll[$ by all :o w\ld succe$ 9 ! great art ( elegant correspond5ce4 ,x is ess5tial (t5 to h ! be/ ,=ms = ,lett]s1 happily express$1 *oice 9 ! use ( words & easy & correct 9 grammatical con/ruction4 ,arti/ic ,home ,decorations are fully treat$1 %[+ h[ to h a pretty1 ta/eful & invit+ home at lea/ exp5se4 ,?is subject is receiv+ great att5tion ev]y:]e1 & ?is delightful volume %\ld be 9 e h\sehold 9 ! l&1 z x furni%es j ! in=mation ne$$4 ,fireplaces & ,w9d[s1 ,/airways1 ,woodwork1 ,doors1 ,light+1 ,decorat+1 ,furniture & ,pa9t+s1 are among ! topics treat$ 9 ?is "p ( ! volume4 ,9 %ort1 ?is "w is a treasury ( rules & in=mation on e subject ( ,social ,etiquette1 ,self-,culture & ,home ,life4 ,an entirely new & v important feature is ! beautiful ,phototype ,engrav+s 9 ri* colors4 ,! publi%]s consid] !mselves =tunate 9 be+ able to pres5t ^! new & admirable embelli%m5ts1 :i* h be5 pron\nc$ gems ( art4 ,,cont5ts4 ,,page ,,title-,,page i ,,preface iii ,,cont5ts v ,,! ,,ess5ce ,,( ,,etiquette #ag ,,introductions ,,& ,,salutations #bc ,,art ,,( ,,conv]sation #cg ,,visit+ ,,c>ds #ea ,,visit+ ,,cu/oms #fi ,,invitations1 ,,=mal ,,& ,,in=mal #hc ,,acceptances ,,& ,,regrets #ajg ,,etiquette ,,( ,,c\rt%ip ,,& ,,m>riage #aaf ,,w$d+s ,,& ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>ies #adc ,,home ,,etiquette #afe ,,etiquette ,,= ,,*ildr5 #ahj ,,d9n] ,,giv+ #ahi ,,table ,,etiquette #baa ,,ev5+ ,,p>ties1 ,,receptions ,,& ,,supp]s #bbg ,,balls1 ,,danc+ ,,& ,,masqu]ades #bda ,,soir,,es1 ,,musicales ,,& ,,lawn ,,p>ties #bfa ,,breakfa/s1 ,,lun*eons ,,& ,,teas #bgd ,,miscellane\s ,,ent]ta9m5ts #bif ,,*ri/5+s1 ,,confirmations ,,& ,,graduations #cae ,,etiquette ,,( ,,fun]als ,,& ,,m\rn+ #cbc ,,etiquette ,,( ,,public ,,places #cbh ,,walk+1 ,,rid+1 ,,boat+1 ,,driv+ #ccd ,,bicycle ,,etiquette #cdc ,,club ,,etiquette #ceb ,,society #ceh ,,g5]al ,,etiquette #cfd ,,wa%+ton ,,etiquette #cgd ,,dels>tean ,,discipl9e #cgh ,,art ,,( ,,dress #chh ,,colors ,,& ,,complexions #cih ,,dress ,,= ,,special ,,occasions #djh ,,lett] ,,writ+ #dbi ,,=ms ,,= ,,lett]s #deb ,,arti/ic ,,home ,,decorations #dfg ,,h[ ,,to ,,be ,,beautiful #dib ,illu/ration ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,summ] ,,out+--,a ,,morn+ ,,call4 ,,! ,,ess5ce ,,( ,,etiquette4 ,illu/ration ,! old *ronicl] says1 ,mann]s make? man4 ,mann]s are n ! "*1 b !y are ! dress ( "*1 adds a mod]n writ]4 ,mann]s are n ! pure gold ( ! m9d1 b !y set ! m9t /amp ^u ! crude ore & fit x = circulation1 & few !re be :o may d>e to set aside _! valuation4 ,to g5ius only is ?is privilege grant$1 & g5ius is exce$+ r>e4 ,x %\ld be rememb]$ t m p c give ! li/ ( ,dr4 ,samuel ,johnson's s9s aga9/ good mann]s ?an c quote f 8 ,rasselas & ,rambl]1 :ile !re w always be m :o c descant ^u ! selfi%1 tyrannical ill-bre$+ ( ,?omas ,c>lyle ?an c e/imate ! value & imm5sity ( 8 lit]>y labors4 ,! ess5ce ( all etiquette w be f\nd 9 t ,gold5 ,rule f ,holy ,writ t enjo9s ^u u to d unto o!rs z we w\ld t !y %\ld d unto u1 & :]eon ,"l ,*e/]field bas$ 8 maxim = ! cultivation ( mann]s3 ,obs]ve c>efully :at pleases or displeases y 9 o!rs1 & be p]suad$ t1 9 g5]al1 ! same ?+s w please or displease !m 9 y4 ,! social code1 ev5 9 its smalle/ p>ticul>s1 is ! outgr[? ( a k9dly reg>d = ! feel+s ( o!rs1 ev5 9 ! little ?+s ( life1 & a k9dly sympa?y = all t int]e/s y\r companions4 ,be hospitable t[>d ! ideas ( o!rs1 says ,dr4 ,george ,ripley4 ,"s p1 he ass]ts1 only half li/5 to y1 because !y are consid]+1 ev5 :ile y speak1 ) :at weal? ( wit !y w reply4 ,su* p may be brilliant1 b !y c nev] be agreeable4 ,y feel t !y are impati5t to h _! own turn come1 & h none ( ! g5tle receptiv5ess s pleas+ to our own ego t rebels aga9/ _! egotism4 ,x is ! k9d & sympa!tic s\l t w9s fri5ds1 & ,he :o has a ?\s& fri5ds ,has n a fri5d to sp>e1 ,b he :o has an enemy ,w f9d him ev]y:]e4 ,our fir/ impressions ( a man are impressions ( 8 mann]s4 ,we designate him f ! fir/ glimpse ( 8 face1 fir/ s\nd ( 8 voice1 z an affable1 agreeable & s9c]e individual2 or z crabb$1 cross-gra9$ & suspici\s 9 8 temp]am5t1 & are attract$ by1 or repell$ f him1 accord+ to ! *>act]i/ics ) :i* 8 mann]s h clo!d him4 ,! ,influ5ce ( ,good ,mann]s4 ,s pot5t is ?is p[] ex]cis$ ov] ! _w by ! g5tle sway ( mann]s t _! possession is wor?y ! cultivation & c>e we put =? = ! atta9m5t ( all graci\s1 pleasant ?+s1 & to _! possessor is giv5 ! key to :i* all doors op54 ,em]son 0 "o ( ! mo/ acute obs]v]s ( mann]s t culture has ev] produc$1 & he wrote3 ,! long] ,i live ! m ,i am impress$ ) ! importance ( mann]s4 ,:5 we reflect ^u _! p]suasive & *e]+ =ce1 h[ !y recomm5d1 prep>e & draw p toge!r2 :5 we ?9k :at keys !y are1 & to :at secrets2 :at high & inspir+ "* !y convey & :at div9ation is requir$ ( u = ! read+ ( ?is f9e telegraphy1 we see :at range ! subject has4 ,mann]s1 ) "s1 are ! graci\s legacy ( inh]itance1 education1 & environm5t2 ) o!rs !y are ! gr[? ( ! c>eful cultivation ( ye>s1 & c>ry ) !m ! calm self-poise ( ! man :o has conqu]$ circum/ances & e/abli%$ 8 own position4 ,9 su* z ^! !re inh]es a c]ta9 p[] t impresses itself ^u all :o come 9 contact ) its influ5ce4 ,! self-possession & c]ta9ty /amp$ ^u ! face ( a man :o inh]it$1 or won = himself1 ! sure & p]fect armor ( good-bre$+1 is b ! out] /amp ( ! man himself4 ,mann]s are pr(itable z well z pleasant4 ,!y c>ry ) !m a measureless weight ( influ5ce4 ,a g5tleman once br\ght into 8 libr>y a co/ly subscription book4 ,my de>1 said 8 wife1 y already _h a copy ( t "w4 ,i knew ,i did1 he repli$1 b ! mann]s ( ! lad :o sold x 7 s elegant t x 0 a pleasure to pur*ase x4 ,! *>m ( good mann]s is n a qualification belong+ to any p>ticul> /ation 9 life1 =1 to ! poor & unlett]$ (times may be trac$ de$s & actions t m>k !m z nature's noblem54 ,education1 weal? & social /ation d n always conf] !m1 b ! out] grace may be acquir$ by all4 ,9 ?is way x has come to be kn[n t a ref9em5t ( laws 9 any c\ntry indicates t a gradual ref9em5t ( mann]s has l$ up t[>ds1 & f9ally cry/alliz$ into a ref9em5t ( ! he>ts & ! laws ( ! p4 ,! ,m>ks ( ,true ,polit5ess4 ,true polit5ess is always kn[n by its lack ( assumption4 ,presid5t ,tyl]1 9 advis+ 8 daught]-9-law previ\s to h] tak+ h] position z lady ( ! ,:ite ,h\se1 us$ ^! notewor?y words3 ,x is1 ,i tru/1 sc>cely necess>y to say t1 z ^u y w devolve ! duty ( presid+ at ! ,:ite ,h\se1 y %\ld be equal & untir+ 9 y\r affabilities to all4 ,y %\ld rememb] t no?+ %[s a little s\l s mu* z ! exhibition ( airs or assumptions "u any circum/ances4 ,! m9or obs]vances h mu* to d ) ! poli%+ & p]fect+ ( ! mann]s ( m54 ,^! little ?+s t m>k "o z be+ to ! manor born are n ! gr[? ( mom5ts b ! sl[ accretions ( ye>s2 nei!r c _! use be dropp$ 9 ! privacy ( home to be assum$ at pleasure = ! outside _w to admire1 else !y w fit b illy1 z borr[$ plumes are wont to d4 ,! be/-int5tion$ & be/-he>t$ p t ! _w has ev] kn[n are too (t5 c>eless 9 ! slight obs]vances t mean s mu* to ! cultivat$4 ,?oreau says1 ,i c\ld bett] eat ) "o :o did n respect ! tru? or ! laws ?an ) a slov5 & unpres5table p]son4 ,moral qualities rule ! _w1 b at %ort range ! s5ses are despotic4 ,! code ( society is j a little /rong] ) "s individuals ?an ! code ( ,s9ai1 & _m a man :o w\ld n scruple to put 8 f+]s 9 y\r pocket1 w\ld =ego peas r ?an use 8 knife z a %ovel4 ,! ,great ,value ( ,c\rtesy4 ,be c\rte\s1 is an apo/olic comm& t too _m e>?ly foll[]s ( ! ,twelve w\ld d well to consid]4 ,!y are j1 !y are tru?ful1 sometimes aggressively s2 !y are consci5ti\s1 !y we>y n 9 well-do+1 b--!y are n c\rte\s4 ,!y are n good mann]$1 & by s mu* z !y s9 9 ?is reg>d d !y lose _! p[] to w94 ,good mann]s1 says "o1 are m s]viceable ?an a passport1 ?an a bank acc\nt1 ?an a l9eage4 ,!y make fri5ds = u2 !y are m pot5t ?an eloqu5ce or g5ius )\t !m4 ,!y add to beauty1 !y detract f p]sonal ugl9ess1 !y ca/ a glam\r ov] defects1 9 %ort1 !y "w ! miracle ( m9d ov] matt] exemplifi$ 9 ! case ( ! extremely pla9 ,madame de ,/al1 :o 0 reput$ to talk h]self beautiful 9 five m9utes4 ,!y tea* u ! beauty ( self-sacrifice1 !y con/ra9 u to li/51 ) an appe>ance ( int]e/ to a twice-told tale1 !y tea* ! wife to smile ov] ! some:at worn je/ ( ! husb&1 z %e smil$ 9 l fa%ion 9 ! days ( auld lang syne1 or1 h>d] /ill1 !y enjo9 ^u u to foll[ ! ,duc de ,morny's def9ition ( a polite man1 z "o :o li/5s ) int]e/ to ?+s he kn[s all ab\t1 :5 !y are told by a p]son :o kn[s no?+ ab\t !m4 ,!y impress ^u u to gu>d ! feel+s ( o!rs1 !y w>n u to avoid ! famili>ity t bre$s contempt1 &1 above all1 !y are contagi\s6 ,!re is mu* to be said z to ! true def9ition ( ^? beautiful b abus$ t]ms1 lady & g5tleman1 ea* ) its /rong1 sweet mean+4 ,a lady is "o :o1 to inbr$ mode/y & ref9em5t1 adds a scrupul\s att5tion to ! rights & feel+s ( o!rs1 & applies ! ,gold5 ,rule ( do+ z %e w\ld be done by1 to all :o are connect$ ) h]1 bo? at home & 9 society4 ,:ile a g5tleman has be5 describ$ z3 ,:oev] is true1 loyal & c&id2 :oev] possesses a pleas+1 affable1 demeanor2 :oev] is honorable 9 himself & 9 8 judgm5t ( o!rs & requires no law b 8 ^w to make him fulfil all engagem5ts4 ,su* m5 & su* wom5 are ladies & g5tlem5 :e!r !y are f\nd 9 ! peasant's hut or ! pr9ce's palace4 ,rules ( ,etiquette4 ,! foll[+ rules1 publi%$ "s "t ago z a receipt = t beauty ( expression s mu* m la/+ & attractive ?an m]e beauty ( feature1 7 writt5 orig9ally = ! guidance ( woman1 b !y are equally applicable to ! ne$s ( man4 #a4 ,le>n to gov]n y\rself & to be g5tle & pati5t4 #b4 ,gu>d y\r temp]1 especially 9 seasons ( ill-heal?1 irritation1 & tr\ble1 & s(t5 x by a s5se ( y\r own %ortcom+s & errors4 #c4 ,nev] speak or act 9 ang]4 #d4 ,rememb] t1 valuable z is ! gift ( spee*1 sil5ce is (t5 m valuable4 #e4 ,d n expect too mu* f o!rs1 b =be> & =give1 z y desire =be>ance & =giv5ess y\rself4 #f4 ,nev] retort a %>p or angry ^w4 ,x is ! second ^w t makes ! qu>rel4 #g4 ,bew>e ( ! fir/ disagreem5t4 #h4 ,le>n to speak 9 a g5tle tone ( voice4 #i4 ,le>n to say k9d & pleasant ?+s :5 opportunity (f]s4 #aj4 ,/udy ! *>act]s ( ^? ) :om y come 9 contact1 & sympa?ize ) !m 9 all _! tr\bles1 h[ev] small4 #aa4 ,d n neglect little ?+s if !y c affect ! com=t ( o!rs 9 ! smalle/ degree4 #ab4 ,avoid moods1 & pets1 & fits ( sulk9ess4 #ac4 ,le>n to d5y y\rself & pref] o!rs4 #ad4 ,bew>e ( m$dl]s & tale-be>]s4 #ae4 ,nev] *>ge a bad motive1 if a good "o is conceivable4 ,c\rtesy1 *>ity & love are "o1 &1 :5 all good de$s are done ! w>n+ comes3 ,if ye h n *>ity all is naught4 ,!re=e3 ,a sweet1 attractive k9d ( grace1 ,a full assurance giv5 by looks1 ,cont9ual com=t 9 a face1 ,! l9eam5ts ( gospel-books4 ,d ye all ?+s c\rte\sly1 f\nd+ precept & practice ^u t old rule1 ! ,gold5 ,rule1 :i* is ! ,alpha & ! ,omega ( all good mann]s & ! v ,ess5ce ( all ,etiquette4 ,illu/ration ,,introductions ,,& ,,salutations ,illu/ration ,indiscrim9ate introductions are always 9 bad ta/e1 yet1 s9ce ! sweete/ ( our fri5d%ips are wont to rea* u ?r\gh ! m$ium ( a =mal pres5tation1 x is well t we und]/& h[1 :5 & :]e ^! introductions %\ld prop]ly take place4 ,z a rule1 introductions1 to be agreeable1 %\ld be desir$ be=e be+ giv52 & s9ce we are1 or %\ld be1 9 a measure1 ! endors]s ( ^? :om we pres5t to our fri5ds1 a due degree ( c>e %\ld be ex]cis$ 9 s do+1 le/ inadv]t5tly we =ce ^u ano!r :at may prove an undesirable acqua9tance4 ,introductions are giv5 9 cases ( necessity1 su* z bus9ess transactions1 or em]g5cies t may arise 9 travel+1 z :5 we wi% to consign "s fri5d to ! c>e ( ano!r4 ,!y are giv5 at balls1 t p>tn]s may be f\nd = all ! danc]s4 ,"h1 h[ev]1 c>e mu/ be tak5 be=eh& to asc]ta9 if ! p>ties w dance1 = su* is ! selfi%ness &1 %all x be said1 ill-bre$+ ( our society "y m5 t n unfrequ5tly !y w walk away )\t ev5 (f]+ ! lady ! c\rtesy ( ! next dance4 ,9 ?is way h] ho/ess unwitt+ly exposes h] to a m>k$ slight1 s9ce ! ball-room introduction is suppos$ to mean an int5tion on ! "p ( ! g5tleman to %[ "s att5tion to ! lady1 ) :om he %\ld ei!r dance1 prom5ade1 or talk ?r\gh "o set4 ,nei!r are "y ladies q guiltless 9 ?is respect1 s9ce x (t5 happ5s t !y refuse p>tn]s f simple caprice1 & no g5tleman likes to be refus$1 ev5 = a quadrille4 ,x may be add$ t ^! introductions necessitate no aft] ackn[l$gm5ts on ei!r side unless mutually agreeable4 ,introductions are giv5 at c>d p>ties :5 necess>y to fill out tables = a game & !y occur also :]e "o p]son especially wi%es ano!r to become acqua9t$ ) a fri5d4 ,an ,engli% ,cu/om4 ,/rang]s are always introduc$ to visitors1 & at d9n]s1 if previ\sly unacqua9t$1 ! g5tleman is introduc$1 a few m9utes be=eh&1 to ! lady he is to take out to ! table4 ,9 ,engl&1 h[ev]1 :]e !y ex]cise great c>e 9 giv+ introductions1 ev5 ?is =mality is n always compli$ )4 ,ri*>d ,grant ,:ite speaks ( be+ in=m$ at ! la/ mom5t1 9 "s h\se ^: own] boa/$ _m titles1 t he 0 to take d[n ! lady 9 p9k ov] !re 9 ! bay w9d[1 to :om1 !re=e1 he duly w5t1 &1 b5d+ an invit+ elb[1 said 9 8 mo/ p]suasive tones3 ,may ,i h ! pleasure8 ,! pr(f]$ honor 0 accept$1 & he & ! lady1 ea* equally ignorant z to ! o!r's id5tity1 w5t out to sp5d a long two h\rs 9 ent]ta9+ "o ano!r4 ,! "o r$eem+ feature ( ?is ,engli% cu/om is t ev]yone1 at private ent]ta9m5ts1 talks to ev]yone else )\t an introduction1 consid]+ t ! fact ( !m be+ gue/s "u ! same ro( is a species ( endorsem5t = all1 &1 bett] /ill1 ?is sociability c>ries ) x no aft] obligations1 because1 s9ce !y are n introduc$1 !y are n acqua9t$4 ,9 ?is c\ntry1 ow+ probably to ! un=tunate frequ5cy ( introductions among u1 a c]ta9 *ill p]vades ! atmosph]e :5 a portion ( ! gue/s are unacqua9t$ ) "o ano!r1 =1 z a rule1 no "o "h attempts to conv]se )\t hav+ be5 prop]ly pres5t$4 ,9 metropolitan circles1 h[ev]1 ?is is n s mu* ! case1 & z our c\ntry gl[s old] x is to be hop$ t a *ange w come o'er ! _s ( our dream 9 ?is respect1 ?us less5+ ! pres5t responsibility ( our ho/esses1 :o1 torn betwe5 two oppos+ factions1 feel t ,if ,i introduce ,mrs4 ,s-&-s to ,mrs4 ,blank %e w nev] =give me1 & if ,i d n introduce ,mrs4 ,blank to ,mrs4 ,s-&-s ,i %all h made a mortal enemy4 ,at a p>ty giv5 9 behalf ( a dbutante %e is to be introduc$ to e lady pres5t1 & e g5tleman is to be pres5t$ to h]4 ,9 case !re %\ld be a di/+ui%$ gue/ pres5t at any ent]ta9m5t1 all o!r gue/s mu/ be made acqua9t$ ) ! favor$ "o4 ,y ,may ,introduce ,y\rself4 ,!re are also times :5 x is em95tly prop] to introduce "o's self1 su* z :5 y f9d ^u ent]+ a draw+ room t ! ho/ess has =gott5 y\r "n2 or if x %\ld h be5 wrongly ann\nc$2 or if y are an entire /rang] to ! ho/ess1 x is n only prop]1 b imp]ative1 to introduce y\rself at once4 ,!n1 too1 x occasionally happ5s t a g5tleman1 wi%+ to r5d] "s assi/ance to a lady :o is travel+ alone1 pref]s to introduce himself be=eh&4 ,?is1 ( c\rse1 leaves ! lady p]fectly free to recognize him or n at any future "t4 ,occasions su* z ^! are con/antly aris+1 & tact & judgm5t mu/ be us$ to decide ! "q = "o's self4 ,wat]+-place introductions are frequ5tly giv5 = ! conv5i5ce & pleasure ( ! "t be+4 ,!y are usually made by ! elde/ lady ( ei!r p>ty & fur!r recognition 9 ! future is optional4 ,d n introduce p 9 public places4 ,d n1 ev5 if a fri5d %\ld ov]take y & walk by y\r side = "s di/ance1 or %\ld meet & talk ) y1 introduce him to ano!r fri5d ) :om y are also walk+4 ,y may d x1 h[ev]1 9 exceptional cases4 ,d n1 z a rule1 introduce two p :o are inhabitants ( ! same t[n2 x is to be suppos$ t !y c\ld h kn[n "o ano!r _h !y c>$ s to d4 ,/ill1 x is well to ex]cise judgm5t 9 ?is "o p>ticul>1 s9ce :at c\ld be done unque/ion$ 9 a city p>lor _c always be accompli%$ )\t excit+ comm5t & ill-feel+ 9 a c\ntry t[n4 ,d n introduce g5tlem5 to ladies )\t fir/ be+ sure t ! acqua9tance w be agreeable to ! lady1 s9ce x is mu* m difficult = a lady to %ake (f an undesirable acqua9tance ?an x is = a g5tleman4 ,9 ! case ( =eign]s x is always well to be c>eful be=e introduc+ !m to "y ladies at _! own reque/1 s9ce x (t5 happ5s t =eign titles1 f\nd ^u ?is side ! wat]1 are extremely dubi\s4 ,h5ce "o is cle>ly ju/ifi$ 9 ref]r+ !m to h] p>5ts or gu>dians = ! requir$ favor4 ,a ,cu/om ,out ( ,date4 ,introductions at ev5+ p>ties are1 =tunately1 v mu* out ( date1 except x is = p>tn]s 9 danc+1 or unless !re %\ld be s _m /rang]s pres5t z to ?reat5 ov]:elm+ ! entire p>ty 9 spee*less gloom4 ,occasionally 9 ! c\ntry "s old-fa%ion$ ho/s p]si/ 9 h&+ ea* newcom] ar\nd ! room l refre%m5ts = an introduction to ea* "o pres5t4 ,?is cu/om puts ! lat] arrivals 9 ! position1 z "s "o says1 ( mak+ a semi-circul> b[ l a conc]t s+] be=e an audi5ce1 & ?is1 to non-pr(essionals1 is n a little emb>rass+4 ,timid p1 & p unaccu/om$ to ! rules ( social etiquette1 always feel a c]ta9 dread 9 go+ ?r\gh ! slight =mality ( an introduction4 ,no?+1 h[ev]1 if "o rememb]s a few timely h9ts1 c be simpl] ?an ?is little c]emony s necess>y = ea* ( u to p]=m _m times 9 our int]c\rse ) o!rs4 ,recollect always to introduce ! g5tleman to ! lady1 nev] ! lady to ! g5tleman1 except 9 ! case ( v exalt$ rank1 extreme age or ! possession ( great em95ce 9 intellectual or arti/ic life2 o!rwise1 ! rule is inflexible save 9 introduc+ a y\?ful rosebud =mally to an eld]ly g5tleman1 9 :i* case y w\ld pres5t h] to him4 ,! *ivalry ( etiquette assumes t a man is always honor$ by pres5tation to a lady4 ,9 introduc+ ladies1 pres5t ! y\ng] to ! eld]1 unless 9 case ( "s m>k$ exception su* z ^? giv5 above4 ,! simple/ =m 9 pres5t+ "o p]son to ano!r is always ! be/4 ,a wife pres5ts h] husb& z ,mr4 ,nor?1 ,colonel ,nor?1 or ,doctor ,nor?1 always giv+ him 8 rightful titles4 ,! wife ( ! ,presid5t %\ld introduce him z ,! ,presid5t1 :ile we %\ld address him z ,mr4 ,presid5t4 ,9 introduc+ a g5tleman to a lady "o %\ld say1 ,mrs4 ,a41 all[ 7or p]mit7 me to introduce 7or pres5t7 ,mr4 ,b42 ,mr4 ,b41 ,mrs4 ,a41 be+ sure t ! names are di/9ctly pron\nc$4 ,if ?is %\ld n be ! case1 let ! p>ties !mselves ask x at once1 a simple ,i beg p>don1 ,i did n und]/& ! "n1 sav+ mu* future annoyance4 ,=ms ( ,introduction4 ,9 introduc+ two ladies ! same =mula may be us$1 z3 ,mrs4 ,y41 all[ me to introduce ,mrs4 ,z42 ,mrs4 ,z41 ,mrs4 ,y4 ,or "o may say3 ,mrs4 ,y41 ?is is my fri5d ,mrs4 ,z42 ,mrs4 ,z41 ,mrs4 ,y4 ,a /ill fur!r v>iation is to say ,mrs4 ,y41 ,i believe y h nev] met ,mrs4 ,z42 ,mrs4 ,z41 ,mrs4 ,y4 ,9 introduc+ two g5tlem5 any ( ! above =ms may be us$4 ,if ! introduction is giv5 simply = bus9ess purposes x %\ld be %ort & concise1 z3 ,mr4 ,a41 ,mr4 ,b42 ,mr4 ,b41 ,mr4 ,a4 ,9 introduc+ a /rang] x w always be well to make "s little explanatory rem>k t may be us$ z a /epp+-/one t[>d beg9n+ a conv]sation1 ?us ,miss ,s41 all[ me to pres5t ,mr4 ,t41 :o is j back f ,africa1 or1 ,miss ,e41 ?is is my fri5d ,mr4 ,f41 ! compos] ( t little song y sang j n[4 ,any rem>k l ?is always s]ves to make ! op5+ ( ! conv]sation easi]4 ,an introduction receiv$1 or solicit$1 simply = y\r own conv5i5ce1 z a bus9ess recomm5dation1 or o!rwise1 entitles y to no aft] b5efits1 or social recognition4 ,:]e !re are sev]al wait+ = an introduction to ! same individual1 "n ! latt] fir/1 !n 9 succession "n ! o!rs1 b[+ slightly1 z ea* "n is pron\nc$1 9 ! direction ( ! "o nam$4 ,?us3 ,colonel ,p>k]1 all[ me to pres5t to y ,mrs4 ,roe1 ,miss ,doe1 & ,doctor ,br[n1 be+ sure always to give e "o _! full honor>y title 9 mak+ ! introduction4 ,9 introduc+ relatives be v sure to give _! full "n4 ,a si/]1 = in/ance1 %\ld be introduc$ z1 ,my si/]1 ,miss ,roe2 or1 ,miss ,m>y ,roe1 or1 ,my si/]1 ,mrs4 ,doe1 z ! case may be1 mak+ sure always nev] to say ,my si/] ,m>y1 or1 ,my bro!r ,joe1 !reby leav+ ! /rang] ignorant z to "n or e/ate4 ,a "m is always at lib]ty to introduce h] son or daught]2 a husb& is suppos$ always to introduce 8 wife1 & a wife h] husb&4 ,:at ,%\ld ,foll[ ! ,introduction4 ,n[adays1 ! usual recognition ( an introduction is by a =mal b[4 ,h&%ak+ r>ely occurs & a g5tleman introduc$ to a lady nev] (f]s 8 h& unless %e %\ld fir/ ext5d h] own4 ,! incl9ation on ! "p ( ! lady is slight1 t ( ! g5tleman deep]4 ,! cu/om ( a c\rtesy by ! lady has sc>cely tak5 root 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,a ho/ess receiv+ 9 h] own p>lors is at lib]ty1 if %e %\ld wi%1 to ext5d h] h& to all com]s4 ,a g5tleman ^u be+ introduc$ to a lady usually sugge/s t he is ,happy to make h] acqua9tance1 or1 ,delight$ to make ! acqua9tance ( ,miss ,b----1 ?\gh1 if he *oose1 he may simply b[1 repeat+ h] "n4 ,a lady1 ^u introduction to a g5tleman1 simply b[s1 possibly repeat+ 8 "n1 b nev] is happy or delight$ to make 8 acqua9tance4 ,! pleasure is suppos$ to be ^u 8 "p1 ! condesc5sion ^u h] side4 ,%e %\ld1 h[ev]1 ^u 8 expression ( pleasure1 b[1 ) a slight smile1 or a murmur$ ,?ank y1 9 return1 ?\gh1 a m>ri$ lady1 especially if %e be a little ! eld]1 may cordially say %e is glad to meet him4 ,x is ! place ( a g5tleman1 aft] an introduction to a lady1 to make "s rem>k calculat$ to set ! conv]sational ball roll+1 & %e %\ld endeavor to supplem5t 8 ef=ts suffici5tly to keep up ! conv]sation4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! g5tleman be y\ng] ?an ! lady & some:at emb>rass$1 %e %\ld %[ suffici5t tact to op5 ! conv]sation h]self4 ,if ! introduction is betwe5 two ladies1 ! "o :o is introduc$ %\ld make ! fir/ rem>k4 ,lett]s ( ,introduction are fully comm5t$ ^u & expla9$ 9 ?is volume 9 ! ,dep>tm5t on ,correspond5ce1 :]e ! prop] =ms = su* lett]s are giv54 ,all introductions1 h[ev] annoy+1 %\ld be receiv$ pleasantly & ackn[l$g$ fully :ile "u ! ro( :]e !y are giv51 ?\gh1 an h\r aft]1 ! two might pass "o ano!r 9 spee*less sil5ce4 ,?is is = ! ho/ess' sake1 & s great is ?is solicitude on ! "p ( ! well-br$ t mortal enemies h met & smil$ across ! mahogany ( a mutual fri5d1 ?us prev5t+ ! utt] *agr9 ( a ho/ess :o discov]s1 by fr[n+ faces & av]t$ gaze1 t h] c>efully arrang$ d9n] is a p>tial failure4 ,a ,lady's ,wi%es ,%\ld be ,respect$4 ,g5tlem5 r>ely ask = introductions to "o ano!r1 b1 %\ld a lady1 = any cause1 express a desire to pres5t two m5 ( h] acqua9tance to "o ano!r1 !y mu/1 ev5 if n anxi\s = ! honor1 acquiesce in/antly 9 h] reque/4 ,an introduction giv5 betwe5 two visitors call+ at ! same h\se ne$ n c>ry ) x any weight unless bo? p>ties s desire4 ,at ! "t1 a b[ is ! mo/ t is dem&$2 aft]w>d1 x is ! individual hav+ ! mo/ social pre/ige1 or1 if !re is no diff]5ce 9 /&+1 ! "o hav+ mo/ confid5ce1 to :om ?is privilege is giv5 ( ackn[l$g+ or ignor+ ! introduction4 ,a b[+ acqua9tance ) a p]son ?us introduc$ _c 9 ! lea/ injure ! social position ( an individual4 ,an introduction giv5 on ! /reet ne$s no aft] recognition4 ,at ! "t1 a g5tleman simply lifts 8 hat1 a lady b[s1 & t is all4 ,aft] any introduction 7except ! "o j m5tion$7 nev] give ! cut direct save = v good cause4 ,x is too (t5 an uncall$-= insult4 ,,salutations4 ,! /yle ( salutation diff]s among nations1 b !re h be5 none yet discov]$ s l[ 9 ! social scale z to be entirely de/itute ( "s sign = expressions ( respect or fe> betwe5 man & man4 ,fe> is1 p]haps1 ! orig9 ( respect1 = e =m ( salutation among u to-day may be trac$ back to a s\rce t pla9ly affirms x to be ! survival ( "s attitude ( def]5ce f ! conqu]$ to ! conqu]or1 or "s habit ( adoration ( an unse5 ,p[]4 ,9 our own cu/oms ( salutation we b>e ! head 9 tok5 ( respect1 nev] ?9k+ t 9 ! old5 "t x 0 an act ( adoration practic$ be=e gods & rul]s4 ,our =mal b[ is simply ! modification ( a s]vile pro/ration1 & ! graceful b[ ( a lady ( society is b ! la/ rema9+ trace ( a g5uflection4 ,:5 we rise & /& z our fri5ds ent]1 or leave1 our reception-room1 x is an act ( respect1 x 0 once an act ( homage4 ,! ?r[+ ( a kiss is an imitation ( an act ( wor%ip t dev\t ,romans practic$ be=e _! gods1 & ! wave ( ! h& to a fri5d across ! /reet is a modification ( ! same cu/om4 ,! removal ( a g5tleman's glove 9 %ak+ h&s ) a lady is ! relic ( a habit bas$ on necessity1 & dat+ back to a day :5 ! knight ( old remov$ 8 iron gauntlet1 le/ he cru% ! maid5's h& )9 its grasp4 ,! removal ( ! glove 0 practic$ betwe5 m5 also at a lat] date1 :51 too (t51 b5ea? ! heavily embroid]$ gauntlet1 lurk$ ! assass9's dagg]1 s t to unglove be=e a h&-clasp grew to be consid]$ an act ( good fai?4 ,! b[1 ! h&-clasp1 & ! kiss are ! pr9cipal me?ods ( salutation employ$ by ! mo/ highly civiliz$ nations ( ?is era ( ! _w4 ,! b[ is ! mo/ prop] salutation among fri5ds & acqua9tances meet+ 9 public4 ,x is also frequ5tly resort$ to on private occasions4 ,! b[ %\ld nev] deg5]ate into a nod2 ?is is bo? ungraci\s & ung5tlemanly4 ,! hat %\ld be lift$ suffici5tly to cle> ! head1 & ! b[1 9 ! reception room1 %\ld slightly incl9e ! body also4 ,ladies %\ld incl9e _! heads gracefully & smile ^u _! fri5ds pleasantly1 b n broadly4 ,remov+ ! ,hat4 ,a g5tleman %\ld remove 8 hat f 8 head ) ! h& f>!/ f ! p]son salut$4 ,?is turns ! hat f in/ead ( t[>ds !m4 ,if y see t ! p]son salut$ is go+ to /op to %ake h&s1 use ! left 9 ord] to leave ! "r free4 ,a g5tleman1 9 giv+ assi/ance to a lady 9 any difficulty 7:i* %\ld be (f]$ imm$iately71 %\ld d s c\rte\sly1 lift+ 8 hat & reque/+ ! pleasure ( assi/+ h]4 ,?is rule1 un=tunately1 is mu* m frequ5tly obs]v$ on ! ,cont95t ( ,europe ?an 9 ,engl& or ,am]ica4 ,g5tlem5 meet+ & pass+ ladies on hotel /airs1 or 9 ! corridors1 %\ld lift _! hats1 :e!r acqua9t$ or n4 ,! same c\rtesy %\ld be obs]v$ on ent]+ an elevator :]e !re are "o or m ladies1 or 9 op5+ a door = a lady & giv+ h] prec$5ce 9 ent]+4 ,all ^! obs]vances1 slight z !y are1 m>k ! ?or\gh g5tleman :o respects all wom51 :e!r or n !re has be5 a =mal pres5tation betwe5 !m4 ,9 giv+ up a seat to a lady 9 a /reet c>1 or a cr[d$ room1 a g5tleman w d s ) a slight b[4 ,su* a k9dness %\ld always be ackn[l$g$ by ! lady ) a b[ & a polite ,?ank y4 ,am]ican wom5 are too prone to take ?is altoge!r optional c\rtesy on ! "p ( m5 z a matt] ( c\rse1 des]v+ no ?anks at _! h&s1 or to look ^u its omission z an infr+em5t ( _! rights4 ,no true lady w ev] fail to ackn[l$ge su* c\rtesies4 ,any aid giv51 or in=mation furni%$1 %\ld also call =? h] ?anks4 ,a g5tleman walk+ ) a lady w salute ) a b[ any p]son !y may meet to :om %e ext5ds ! same c\rtesy1 ev5 %\ld ! p>ty be q unkn[n to him4 ,:]e two g5tlem5 are walk+ toge!r & !y *ance to meet a lady ) :om "o is acqua9t$ & ! o!r n1 bo? %\ld b[1 ! "o because ( 8 acqua9tance & ! o!r out ( respect4 ,! ,privilege ( ,recognition4 ,a g5tleman %\ld usually wait = a lady to recognize him fir/ on ! /reet4 ,?is privilege ( recognition is h] pr]ogative4 ,especially is ?is ! case if he is simply ! acqua9tance ( a s+le ev5+'s ent]ta9m5t4 ,acqua9tances ( long /&+1 h[ev]1 d n wait = su* =malities1 usually speak+ at ab\t ! same mom5t4 ,:5 a g5tleman & lady are walk+ toge!r & ano!r g5tleman1 also a fri5d ( ! lady1 %\ld meet or ov]take ! c\ple1 a b[ & smile & a ^w ( greet+ are all t c be p]mitt$ ! newcom]1 :5 he %\ld at once pass on4 ,by do+ o!rwise he affronts ! lady's escort1 & %\ld %e1 by ^w or look1 endeavor to reta9 him at h] side1 %e also s9s aga9/ t conv5tional code :i* argues t by h] own cons5t %e has grant$ h] company1 = ! "t be+1 to h] fir/ escort4 ,z be=e said1 introductions are n to be giv5 9 public places1 b %\ld x happ5 t a lady walk+ ) a g5tleman meet ano!r lady1 & ei!r pause = a few words1 or else walk on beside h] = a few /eps1 ! g5tleman1 at h] dep>ture1 %\ld lift 8 hat politely 9 f>ewell4 ,if a g5tleman %\ld /op a lady on ! /reet = conv]sation1 & %e %\ld be desir\s ( discont9u+ x1 %e %\ld b[ slightly1 :]eupon ! g5tleman mu/ in/antly take 8 leave4 ,if %e %\ld walk on )\t break+ up ! conv]sation1 he is b\nd to accompany h]4 ,absolute good =m1 h[ev]1 dem&s t a g5tleman1 wi%+ to conv]se ) a lady on ! /reet1 %\ld1 in/ead ( /opp+ h]1 turn & walk ) h] = a %ort di/ance 9 ! direction 9 :i* %e may be go+4 ,:5 ! conv]sation is f9i%$1 he %\ld lift 8 hat1 b[1 wi% h] ,good morn+ or ,good aft]noon1 z ! case may be1 & retrace 8 foot/eps 9 ! direction 9 :i* he 0 previ\sly go+4 ,"y ladies %[ ! same def]5ce 9 await+ a b[ f a woman mu* _! s5ior t a g5tleman does t[>ds a lady4 ,a g5tleman1 9 b[+ to a lady1 if he %\ld be smok+1 removes 8 cig> f 8 lips1 & if1 alas6 8 h& or h&s %\ld be 9 8 pockets1 )draws !m imm$iately4 ,return+ ,salutations4 ,a lady's b[ %\ld always be return$ by a g5tleman2 if he %\ld be det]m9$ n to recognize h] he %\ld take ! pa9s ( cross+ ! /reet or 9 "s o!r mann] avoid+ ! meet+4 ,b[s f p]sons n recogniz$ at ! mom5t %\ld be return$1 z x may be "s "o1 n recall$ at ! mom5t1 yet :o has a claim ^u y\r polit5ess4 ,if ! same fri5d is met sev]al times 9 ! c\rse ( a walk or drive1 ! fir/ b[ is all t is requir$1 a smile1 or a glance answ]+ all purposes ( recognition at aft] meet+s4 ,a g5tleman lifts 8 hat on pass+ a fun]al procession or a gr\p ( m\rn]s2 he removes x entirely on ent]+ a *ur*1 & he %\ld remove x on ent]+ a private (fice2 he %\ld rema9 uncov]$ :ile talk+ to a lady at a door1 unless1 aft] ! k9dly cu/om ( ,fr5* ladies1 %e %\ld reque/ him to replace 8 hat1 on acc\nt ( w9d or wea!r2 9 %ort1 he %\ld be ) uncov]$ head mu* m ?an ,am]ican m5 are apt to be4 ,g5tlem51 :o are acqua9t$1 %\ld lift _! hats slightly ^u meet+ "o ano!r1 b %\ld nev] fail to d s %\ld ei!r "o be walk+ ) a lady4 ,"u su* circum/ances a simple nod w\ld be a slight t[>ds h]4 ,a recognition1 by b[ or smile1 is n requir$ f opposite sides ( ! /reet1 or across hotel d9+ rooms4 ,g5tlem5 rid+ or driv+1 & hav+ bo? h&s occupi$1 are n compell$ to lift ! hat on b[+4 ,if salut$ by an inf]ior1 d n fail to return ! c\rtesy 9 k9d1 rememb]+ ,h5ry ,clay1 :o1 :5 ask$ :y he lift$ 8 hat to an old color$ man :o _h paid him ! same def]5ce1 repli$1 ,i nev] all[ a negro to outdo me 9 polit5ess1 sir4 ,%ak+ ,h&s4 ,g5tlem51 z a rule1 %ake h&s ^u be+ introduc$ to "o ano!r4 ,! lady ( a h\se usually %akes h&s ) all gue/s :om %e receives 9 h] h\se = ! fir/ "t4 ,g5tlem5 d n1 h[ev]1 (f] to %ake h&s ) ! ho/ess1 leav+ x to h] to put ! /amp ( cordiality ^u ! c]emony ( introduction1 or to simply pass x ) c\rtesy4 ,if a lady ext5ds h] h& to a g5tleman1 he does n1 z ( old1 remove 8 glove1 nor does he make use ( ! out-(-date =mula1 ,excuse my glove4 ,at 8 dep>ture ! lady b[s h] adieu1 b does n aga9 ext5d h] h&4 ,! h&-clasp is a cordial expression ( good w1 b !re are degrees ( cordiality to be obs]v$ 9 ! p]=mance ( ?is c]emony4 ,e "o kn[s1 & %udd]s at1 ! woman :o gives two1 or at mo/1 ?ree f+]s ( a cold & lifeless h& = a mom5t into y\r keep+1 & e "o recognizes & fe>s ! man :o swall[s up & cru%es ! entire h& )9 8 p[]ful grasp4 ,ea* extreme is to be avoid$4 ,a lady %\ld give h] :ole h&1 n h] f+]s2 a g5tleman %\ld receive x cordially1 hold+ x nei!r too tightly nor too loosely1 %ak+ x v slightly & n presum+ to reta9 x4 ,%\ld a g5tleman s9 aga9/ any ( ^! p>ticul>s1 a lady is ju/ifi$ 9 refus+ to (f] h] h& next "t4 ,a "y lady simply gives h] h& to a g5tleman1 nei!r press+ nor %ak+ 81 unless x be 9 ! case ( especial fri5ds4 ,two ladies %ake h&s quietly4 ,bo? ladies & g5tlem5 always rise to %ake h&s4 ,eld]ly p1 or invalids1 are p]mitt$ to excuse !mselves & keep _! seats4 ,ball-room introductions = danc+ d n necessitate h&-%ak+1 a b[ be+ all t is requir$4 ,a v p>ticul> introduction1 :]ev] giv51 su* z "o prefac$ by "s rem>k l1 ,i want y to "k my fri5d ,s-&-,s1 m]its a h&-%ake on y\r "p1 toge!r ) "s cordial rem>k4 ,inf]iors 9 social position %\ld always wait until _! sup]iors (f] ! h&1 nev] tak+ ! initiative 9 ?is respect4 ,?is precaution w sometimes save !m ! pa9 ( a m>k$ slight4 ,words ( ,salutation4 ,v]bal greet+s ought always to be quiet & respectful2 !y %\ld nev] be %\t$ across /reets1 nor call$ :5 ! p>ties are at any di/ance f ea* o!r4 ,nicknames %\ld n be us$ publicly & promiscu\sly1 9 %ort1 all possible respect %\ld be paid to ! feel+s ( o!r p]sons on public occasions4 ,! phrases1 ,good morn+1 ,good ev5+1 ,good aft]noon1 ,h[ d y d8 ,h[ are y8 are ! usual =ms employ$4 ,sometimes ! "n ( ! p]son address$ is add$1 ?us3 ,good morn+1 ,mrs4 ,smi?4 ,replies to ^! salutations are sometimes simply a b[ f a lady to a g5tleman1 or p]haps a b[ & a repetition ( 8 greet+1 z3 ,good morn+1 ,mr4 ,jones4 ,h[ d y d1 %\ld be repli$ to by ! same phrase1 nev]1 z is (t5 ! case ) ! novice 9 social arts1 by3 ,i am v well1 ?ank y4 ,a special inquiry aft] "o's heal?1 h[ev]1 z3 ,h[ d y d1 ,mrs4 ,jones8 foll[$1 aft] h] ackn[l$gm5t1 by3 ,h[ are y8 or1 ,h[ is y\r heal?8 %\ld receive ! response1 ,i am v well1 ?ank y4 ,aft] an acqua9tance has be5 ill1 ! fir/ inquiry by a fri5d %\ld be "o conc]n+ heal?4 ,?is is a rule t %\ld nev] be neglect$2 to d s w\ld be an ov]sight4 ,kiss+ is a cu/om :i* ! code ( ,engli% & ,am]ican etiquette relegates z mu* z possible to ! privacy ( home4 ,a kiss1 ! outw>d expression ( our close/ affection & our w>me/ love1 %\ld nev] be made a public %[ :]eat ! outside _w may smile4 ,h5ce1 ! effusive kiss+ betwe5 girls & wom5 at _! meet+ & _! p>t+1 is to be regrett$ z a specim51 to say ! lea/1 ( v bad ta/e on _! "p4 ,indiscrim9ate kiss+ ( *ildr5 & infants is also objectionable on ! score ( heal?4 ,happily1 kisses & embraces among m5 are nev] se5 9 ?is c\ntry1 ?\gh1 9 "s p>ts ( ,europe !y are con/antly to be obs]v$1 bo? 9 public & private4 ,illu/ration ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,society ,,ball--,,%[+ ,,fa%ionable ,,co/umes4 ,,art ( ,,conv]sation ,illu/ration ,talk (t51 says ,"l ,*e/]field1 b nev] long2 9 t case if y d n please1 at lea/ y are sure n to tire y\r he>]s4 ,pay y\r own reckon+1 b d n treat ! entire company3 ?is be+ "o ( ! v few cases 9 :i* p d n c>e to be treat$1 e "o be+ fully conv9c$ t he has ! :]e)al to pay4 ,all o!r arts pale be=e ! art ( conv]sation z a s\rce ( popul>ity1 & no o!r accompli%m5t t5ds s mu* t[>d social success4 ,! contact ( _m m9ds is a con/ant /imulus to m5tal activity & its outw>d expression 9 animat$ conv]sation4 ,x l5ds new p[] to brilliancy ( tal5t1 & quick5s1 to a c]ta9 ext5t1 ev5 ! l[e/ & dulle/ ( intellects4 ,ev]yone has be5 surpris$ & delight$ at times by "s unexpect$ly brilliant rem>k t has fla%$ f 8 lips dur+ ! c\rse ( "s animat$ ex*ange ( bad9age & rep>tee1 & !re is no "o b realizes h[ ! m9d acquires bread? & ! op9ions gr[ tol]ant z "o conv]ses ) p]sons ( intellig5ce & culture4 ,s9ce1 h[ev]1 accord+ to ,cic]o1 ,sil5ce is "o ( ! greate/ arts ( conv]sation1 !re may be add$1 ) equal wisdom1 to ! above c\nsel1 ,li/5 (t5 & well4 ,be n an impati5t li/5]1 nor yet an impassive "o1 b pay ! complim5t ( att5tion & int]e/ to ! subject 9 h&1 & y\r company w be s\ght z an acquisition4 ,any lady1 by pr(\nd att5tion to1 & a pleas$ int]e/ 9 ! subject "u consid]ation1 may promote ! conv]sation mo/ skillfully & delightfully4 ,k ( ! subject is n always necess>y4 ,an ,engli% savant1 deeply int]e/$ 9 ,egyptology1 once escort$ a "y lady out to d9n]4 ,8 conv]sation1 z a matt] ( c\rse1 turn$ entirely ^u excavations1 hi]oglyphics1 & k9dr$ topics4 ,^u all ^! ! "y lady 0 pr(\ndly ignorant1 b1 if unv]s$ 9 ,egyptian lore1 %e 0 mo/ ?or\ghly v]s$ 9 conv]sational arts1 &1 by h] speak+ glances ( intellig5ce & h] pleas$ smile1 s fasc9at$ ! man ( sci5ce t he en?usia/ically decl>$ aft]w>d t ,miss ,l---- 0 "o ( ! be/ conv]sationali/s & ! mo/ intellig5t "y lady he _h ev] met1 & t h] k ( ,egyptology 0 some?+ wond]ful4 ,?is1 to "o :o _h sat opposite !m at table1 & c\ld h v\*$ t ! lady 9 "q _h n spok5 a s+le ^w ?r\gh ! entire d9n]1 0 slightly amus+4 ,s /rong h[ev]1 0 ! impression left ^u ! m9d ( ! savant by h] int]e/$ att5tion1 t x w\ld h be5 difficult to conv9ce him ( ! fact4 ,! ,good ,li/5]4 ,?is1 ev5 if an exception1 %[s :at att5tive li/5+ may accompli% t[>d social success4 ,let x be m5tion$ "h1 h[ev]1 t no "o individual %\ld be s c>ri$ away by a pet hobby z to =ce conv]sation into a monologue4 ,a v well br$ man1 no matt] h[ great 8 int]e/ 9 or eloqu5ce ^u any topic may be1 always cat*es at ! slighte/ h9t to close ! conv]sation4 ,a man w always be> 9 m9d t ! greate/ complim5t he c pay a woman is a respectful1 def]5tial att5tion to h] words4 ,!re are m5 ^: v mann] ( li/5+ conveys1 9 itself1 ! mo/ delicate flatt]y4 ,a woman1 9 h] turn1 %\ld always rememb] t1 h[ev] int]e/+ h] conv]sation may be1 !re is always dang] t a man may possibly we>y ( its protract$ cont9uance1 & s %e %\ld =ebe> leav+ him no loophole = escape4 ,l\ise ,*&l] ,m\lton enjo9s "o ?+ on wom5 :i* !y w\ld d well to recollect1 & t is1 if !y want a man to /ay ) !m to make x evid5tly & entirely easy = him to get away4 ,!re is some?+ lawless & rebelli\s 9 ev5 ! be/ ( m52 !y hate do+ ?+s because !y are oblig$4 ,suitable ,topics4 ,to r5d] conv]sation agreeable1 suitable topics = ! company pres5t1 if possible1 mu/ be *os54 ,nei!r so> above ! level ( _! conv]sation1 nor s9k s f> b5ea? x1 z to lead !m to inf] t y possess a v slight op9ion ( _! m]its4 ,9 conv]s+1 too _m educat$ m5 fall into ! error ( talk+ commonplaces to all wom5 alike1 z if small talk1 to ! exclusion ( all weighti] matt]s1 7 ! only species ( conv]sation suit$ to a woman's e>4 ,on ! contr>y1 %e is m (t5 ei!r hurt or ang]$ at y\r evid5t condesc5sion1 or1 on ! o!r h&1 %e cr$its y ) j ! am\nt ( k t y h ev9c$ 9 y\r conv]sation ) h]4 ,9 ! se>* aft] suitable topics x is well to rememb] t all are pleas$ by a display ( int]e/ 9 _! especial affairs4 ,?us1 by lead+ ! arti/ to talk ( 8 pictures1 ! lady amateur ( h] music1 ! prima donna ( h] successes1 ! "m ( h] *ildr51 ! au?or ( 8 book1 y may re/ assur$ t !y w always speak ( y z a p]son ( great discrim9ation & a v int]e/+ conv]sationali/4 ,!y 9 _! turn1 unless extremely devoid ( tact & em95tly selfi%1 w display suffici5t reg>d = y\r feel+s to give an opportunity = wax+ eloqu5t on y\r "p ov] y\r own pet topics4 ,be v c>eful !n n to fall into t besett+ fault ( good talk]s1 a monologue1 :i* is fatal to all conv]sation4 ,ri*>d ,/eele gave a mo/ desirable maxim = conv]sation :5 he said3 ,i w\ld e/abli% "o great rule 9 conv]sation1 :i* is ?is1 t m5 %\ld n talk to please !mselves1 b ^? t he> !m--adapt+ _! words to ! place :]e1 ! "t :51 & ! p]son to :om !y are spok54 ,misuse ( ,quotations4 ,d n use classical quotations be=e a woman unless y "k t1 by virtue ( a classical education on h] own "p1 %e is capable ( appreciat+ ! po9t4 ,rememb]1 too1 t !re are a great _m m5 :o1 n hav+ enjoy$ y\r educational advantages1 are annoy$1 r ?an edifi$ by y\r display ( le>n+4 ,d n make a po9t ( exhibit+ y\r le>n+ aggressively any:]e4 ,classical quotation is ! lit]>y man's p>ole ! _w ov]1 says ,dr4 ,samuel ,johnson1 b he savor$ some:at ( ! p$ant1 & 8 imitators1 by too frequ5t an indulg5ce 9 ?is habit1 may run ! risk ( ap+ 8 p$antry )\t possess+ 8 g5ius4 ,nei!r is x well to int]l>d conv]sation ) too frequ5t quotations f ,engli% au?ors1 no matt] h[ well !y may fit ! occasion4 ,?is is a habit t easily becomes tiresome4 ,small ,talk4 ,! curr5t *ange ( society is ! light co9 ( small talk t breaks ) *9k & %imm] ! heavy bills ( l>ge d5om9ation1 t else w\ld ov]:elm social conv]sation ) _! size4 ,wiseacres may meet & le>n$ly disc\rse on all mann] ( sage subjects1 b t is discussion1 debate1 argum5t1 :at y w1 n conv]sation4 ,conv]sation is light1 brilliant1 & toss$ back & =? f "o to ano!r ) ! grace & ease ( ! fea!r$ %uttlecock4 ,a lady ( high lit]>y atta9m5ts 0 se5 9 a gay ga!r+ sitt+ quietly by h]self 9 a corn]1 &1 be+ que/ion$ by a fri5d z to h] sil5ce1 repli$1 half bitt]ly1 ,i h no 'small *ange1' & my bank bills are all ( too l>ge d5om9ation = ! occasion4 ,?is is a difficulty t "o %\ld /rive to ov]come1 =1 aft] all1 x is small *ange1 r ?an bank bills1 t society 9 g5]al requires4 ,giv5 ! f\ndation ( ev5 a mod]ate education1 ! aspirant = social success w ga9 m ideas f mod]n fiction ?an f any o!r s\rce :atev]4 ,no hi/orian pres5ts ! social mann]s & cu/oms ( 8 "t ) half ! accuracy display$ by our be/ fiction writ]s4 ,a well kn[n society woman1 famili> ) its usages bo? at home & abroad1 decl>es t a c\rse ( ,an?ony ,trollope is z good z a ,london season1 & we all "k t ,h[ells & ,james & o!r au?ors ( t ilk h lift$ ! portires ( our own draw+ rooms & %[n u :at is transpir+ !re94 ,gail ,hamilton says t to be well-smatt]$ is next be/ to be+ deeply le>n$1 & n[h]e c a smatt]+ ( almo/ ev]y?+ be bett] ga9$ ?an f ! mod]n works ( fiction4 ,a ,valuable ,s\rce ( ,k4 ,a fri5d ( ! writ]1 a tal5t$ elocutioni/1 & socially brilliant1 once said ) ref]5ce to h] quiet c\ntry home & h] sudd5 em]g5ce !refrom to m+le 9 ,wa%+ton society1 t %e f\nd h]self p]fectly at ease 9 ^? circles s widely diff]5t f h] previ\s exp]i5ce ( life1 & t %e attribut$ x :olly to h] k ( social cu/oms & ! social atmosph]e1 z ga9$ f ! be/ society /ories4 ,x 0 9 ?is mann] t %e s]v$ h] social novitiate & ! result bore te/imony to its efficacy4 ,:]e "o is n q sure ( ris+ to ! occasion x is well to be provid$1 be=e att5d+ a social ga!r+1 ) sev]al topics t w be suitable to br+ =w>d 9 conv]sation4 ,_m are 9 ! habit ( do+ ?is con/antly4 ,"s new book1 "o t creat$ a little s5sation1 "s c\rse ( lectures1 "s late !atrical or op]atic ent]ta9m5t1 any?+1 9 %ort1 t is g5]ally popul>4 ,be c>eful1 h[ev]1 9 broa*+ su* subjects n to egoti/ically give y\r own op9ion at ! outset by say+ decid$ly1 ,i ?9k t book is a p]fect failure1 q absurd 9 fact4 ,:at is y\r op9ion8 ,?is c\rse ( action1 if y\r companion is y\ng] or m timid ?an y\rself1 w probably r$uce him to ! po9t ( hav+ no op9ion :atev]1 or at lea/ to be+ afraid to express x1 & ! conv]sation1 z su*1 w fail completely4 ,:]eas1 if y _h quietly ask$ him if he _h read ! book1 h[ he enjoy$ x1 etc41 y w\ld h gradually ent]$ ^u a conv]sation :]e9 y w\ld h drawn out 8 ideas & at ! same "t h be5 enabl$ to display y\r own4 ,cultivate ,y\r ,m9d4 ,"o ( ! fir/ requisites ( social success is a cultivat$ m9d4 ,y _c hope to hold y\r own 9 society )\t at lea/ a g5]al k ( ! ev5ts ( ! la/ few ye>s 9 hi/orical1 sci5tific1 arti/ic & social fields4 ,su* k is easily ga9$ by a little /udy & a great deal ( obs]vation1 ! pa9s tak5 be+ m ?an recomp5s$ by ! ease & assurance ) :i* "o ent]s society4 ,if a musician or an arti/1 y %\ld be sure to "k some?+ ( y\r *os5 art aside f ! m]e te*nicalities4 ,be well v]s$ 9 ! v>i\s s*ools ( pa9t+1 ! v>i$ m]its ( ! musical ma/]s ( ! pa/ & pres5t4 ,be fill$ ) ! _s z well z ! te*nique ( y\r pr(ession & y _c fail to conv]se pleasantly ^u ^! subjects4 ,always rememb]1 h[ev]1 n to advance y\r op9ions to ! utt] exclusion ( e "o else1 or y\r companion%ip w become tiresome to ! be/ ( li/5]s4 ,draw+ ,out ,o!rs4 ,! v ess5ce ( ! art ( conv]sation is to draw o!rs out & cause !m to %9e2 to be m anxi\s1 app>5tly1 to discov] o!r p's op9ions ?an to advance y\r own4 ,:o does n rememb] gratefully & admir+ly ! sympa!tic p :o seem to draw out ! v be/ !re is 9 u--9 ^: company we appe> almo/ brilliant1 & actually surprise ourselves by ! flu5cy & po9t ( our rem>ks8 ,su* p are a boon to society4 ,no "o sits dull & sil5t 9 _! pres5ce1 or says unpleasant1 s>ca/ic ?+s be=e !m1 &1 :ile nev] seem+ to advance any views ( _! own1 & c]ta9ly nev] =c+ !m ^u our att5tion1 we involunt>ily le>n ( !m & love !m1 sc>cely kn[+ :y4 ,malebran*e %[$ 8 k ( human nature :5 he wrote3 ,he :o has imp>t$ to o!rs 8 k )\t any "o p]ceiv+ x & )\t draw+ f x any advantage1 necess>ily ga9s all he>ts by 8 virtu\s lib]ality4 ,^? :o w\ld be lov$1 & :o h mu* wit1 %\ld ?us imp>t x to o!rs4 ,! ,passion = ,argum5t4 ,nev] p]mit y\rself to be drawn into an argum5t 9 g5]al society4 ,no?+ c be m provocative ( ang] on "o side or ano!r1 or m de/ructive to conv]sation1 ?an a l5g?y &1 too (t51 bitt] argum5t4 ,good bre$+ w\ld sugge/ t ! subject be *ang$ at once be=e ! controv]sy becomes heat$4 ,especially %\ld any debate ^u politics or religion be avoid$ z subjects ^u :i* two seldom agree1 b :i* are s close to ! he>ts ( ! majority z to cause s]i\s annoyance if _! pet beliefs are t\*$ ^u or que/ion$4 ,be c>eful1 also1 n to take ! opposite side ( e "q t is br\ght up 9 conv]sation4 ,wit & ,humor4 ,sidney ,smi? once said3 ,man c\ld direct 8 ways by pla9 reason & support 8 life on ta/eless food1 b ,god has giv5 u wit & flavor1 & laught] & p]fumes1 to enliv5 ! days ( man's pilgrimage1 & to *>m 8 pa9$ foot/eps ov] ! burn+ m>l4 ,& ,sidney ,smi? 0 s mu* ! life & s\l ( e social ga!r+ t1 :ile ! ,engli% language is spok51 8 witty rem>ks w be quot$ ) delight4 ,wit1 h[ev]1 is too (t5 b ano!r "n = s>casm & ridicule1 t1 l a b>b$ arr[1 rankles long 9 ! s\l ( its victim4 ,true humor1 x %\ld be rememb]$1 is nei!r sca?+ nor insol5t2 x is simply t bright rep>tee t someone aptly calls ! spice ( conv]sation4 ,h5ce x w\ld be well to smo!r ! temptation to be witty at ! exp5se ( ano!r1 & cru% back ! brilliant b cutt+ retort meant only to w\nd1 n to amuse4 ,evil ,speak+4 ,bew>e ( evil speak+4 ,9 ! eyes ( all "r-m9d$ p]sons mu* t y h said recoils ^u y\r own head1 = no "o has q ! same op9ion ( an individual aft] hav+ li/5$ to a s]ies ( sc&al\s /ories f 8 lips4 ,h5ce1 = y\r own sake1 z well z = t ( o!rs1 es*ew ! vice ( evil speak+ z a v pe/il5ce4 ,let "y ladies h a c>e h[ !y speak lightly or contemptu\sly ( "o ano!r at any "t1 b m especially :5 conv]s+ ) m54 ,no?+1 z a rule1 is m prejudicial to a woman1 9 ! e/imation ( a man1 ?an ?is all-too-preval5t habit4 ,no matt] :at ! faults ( y\r si/]-woman may be1 condone !m g5tly1 or1 if ?is be impossible1 let a sil5ce t is gold5 fall ab\t ! subject4 ,unhesitat+ly ackn[l$ge a woman's beauty or tal5t1 &1 in/ead ( detract+ f y\r own m]its1 x w enhance !m 9 ! eyes ( all4 ,a "y man 0 once he>d by ! writ] c\nsell+ 8 si/] f ! dep?s ( 8 own exp]i5ce z a social favorite4 ,nev]1 said he1 say "o ^w aga9/ a girl to any "y man4 ,x only puts y d[n 9 _! e/imation4 ,say some?+ pretty & complim5t>y ab\t !m if y c2 if n1 keep /ill4 ,& 8 advice 0 words fitly spok51 t are1 inde$1 l apples ( gold 9 pictures ( silv]4 ,tell+ ,/ories4 ,/ories %\ld nev] be introduc$ into g5]al conv]sation unless !y meet sev]al requirem5ts4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 !y %\ld be %ort & well told4 ,secondly1 !y %\ld be new to ! company :]e !y are told4 ,no?+ is m tiresome ?an li/5+ to a twice-told tale1 ?\gh ! height ( good bre$+ is to smile ov] its t$i\sness4 ,"o way to avoid inflict+ ?is m>tyrdom is to ask be=eh& if any "o pres5t has he>d su* & su* a /ory4 ,!n1 9 ! ?ird place1 x mu/ be /raight to ! po9t1 & directly call$ = z an illu/ration ( ! case 9 h&4 ,illu/ration3 ,,society ,,is ,,quick ,,to ,,trace ,,! ,,magic ,,( ,a ,,pleas+ ,,face4 ,d n tell m ?an two or ?ree /ories or anecdotes 9 ! same ev5+4 ,nev] be guilty ( relat+ 9 company a n>rative t is 9 ! lea/ que/ionable 9 its import4 ,?is is utt]ly inexcusable1 &1 to s s91 is to r5d] "o's self unfit = social companion%ip4 ,avoid repetition4 ,if "s portion ( an anecdote has met ) applause1 d n repeat x4 ,its unexpect$ness 0 its only *>m4 ,abs5t-,m9d$ness4 ,?is is a s9 aga9/ good mann]s :i* _c be too greatly condemn$1 be+1 z x is1 9 "s measure an insult to ! company 9 :i* y f9d y\rself4 ,no "o c>es to be ( s little importance z to f9d ! p]son address$ totally oblivi\s ( 8 pres5ce or rem>ks1 & no "o c blame him if1 z ,*e/]field sugge/s1 f9d+ y abs5t 9 m9d1 y %\ld spe$ily f9d !m abs5t 9 body4 ,pr(use ,complim5ts4 ,to be endurable1 complim5ts %\ld be made use ( 9 a v cauti\s & artful mann]4 ,if p]mitt$ to deg5]ate into gross flatt]y !y are f> f complim5t>y to ! und]/&+ ( ! individual address$4 ,! day1 happily1 is long s9ce pa/ :5 conv]sation betwe5 m5 & wom5 0 conf9$ to unmix$ flatt]y on ! "o side & blu%+ acceptance on ! o!r4 ,t ! be/ flatt]y is t :i* comes at second h&1 no "o c d5y1 yet1 judici\s praise is n only acceptable b useful _m times 9 giv+ ! ne$$ inc5tive1 )\t :i* ! flagg+ foot/eps might h falt]$ on _! way4 ,contradictions & ,int]jections4 ,nev] be guilty ( abrupt contradictions4 ,if y diff] decid$ly f "s giv5 op9ion1 s(t5 ! expression ( y\r diff]5ce by su* modifications z1 ,i h>dly ?9k s1 or1 ,my idea is r diff]5t1 or1 ,i beg to diff]4 ,?is is mu* m polite & less likely to ar\se antagoni/ic feel+s4 ,9 conv]sation nev] all[ y\rself to fall into ! habit ( us+ con/antly su* phrases z ,y don't say6 ,d tell6 ,did y ev]8 ,is t s8 & _m o!rs t w come to m9d z y recall y\r own faults 9 ?is respect1 & ! faults ( y\r fri5ds4 ,an equal avoidance %\ld be cultivat$ ( su* int]jections z ,say1 ,well1 etc41 ) :i* we (t5 beg9 our s5t5ces4 ,^! habits are all to be condemn$ & %\ld be correct$ z spe$ily z possible4 ,voice & ,mann]4 ,let y\r voice be l[ & pleasantly modulat$ & y\r enunciation cle>1 di/9ct & musical4 ,all ^! ?+s are m>ks ( good bre$+1 &1 if n y\rs by bir?right1 may be acquir$ by pati5ce & p]sev]ance4 ,avoid high tones & nasal tones4 ,d n talk rapidly1 or 9 a hesitat+1 /umbl+ fa%ion4 ,a p>tial c\rse 9 elocution & voice tra9+ w "w wond]s 9 ?is direction1 & any "o det]m9$ to succe$ w nev] regret ! "t or money s sp5t4 ,cultivate also1 if %y & timid by nature1 self e/eem suffici5t to imag9e t y are q ! equal ( ^? ) :om y are ab\t to meet4 ,?is resolution w enable y to say :at y wi% )\t fe> ( mi/ake1 & )\t %[+ too mu* respect ( p]sons4 ,! above-m5tion$ elocution>y lessons w also be an aid t[>d acquir+ self-possession4 ,repose ( mann] %\ld be assidu\sly cultivat$4 ,d n fidget or loll ab\t 9 y\r *air1 or twi/ y\r f+]s con/antly1 or play ) some?+ :ile y talk1 or re/lessly beat a tattoo ) f+]s or feet4 ,all su* faults r5d] y\r companion%ip a burd5 to ^? ab\t y4 ,indulge 9 no facial contortions1 z !y rapidly become habits difficult to break & usually leave _! traces on ! face 9 l9es impossible to efface4 ,lift+ ! eyebr[s1 roll+ ! eyes1 op5+ !m v widely1 twi/+ ! m\? & op5+ x s z to %[ ! tongue 9 talk+1 are all disagreeable habits1 t1 once acquir$1 c only be brok5 by ceaseless vigilance4 ,practice talk+ )\t mov+ ! facial muscles b slightly4 ,d ?is be=e y\r mirror daily1 if necess>y1 & be=e ! same fai?ful m5tor le>n to op5 ! eyes less widely1 p>t+ ! lids only j s f> z to %[ ! color$ iris )\t a glimpse ( ! :ite portion1 or cornea1 ( ! eye above or bel[ x4 ,! "t ?us sp5t w result 9 a *ange mo/ gratify+ to y\rself & fri5ds4 ,conv]sational ,s9s4 ,nev] int]rupt a p]son :o is talk+4 ,nev] take ! words out ( anyone's m\? & f9i% ! s5t5ce = !m4 ,to d ?is is ill-br$ & does n bespeak y\r sup]ior disc]nm5t1 b y\r ignorance ( polite society4 ,puns1 unless exceptionally witty1 are to be c>efully avoid$4 ,"y ladies1 especially1 %\ld bew>e ( e/abli%+ any reputation = punn+4 ,at all ev5ts1 puns %\ld nev] be f>-fet*$4 ,d n :isp] 9 company2 no?+ c be m vulg>4 ,nei!r %\ld two 9 a ga!r+ conv]se toge!r 9 a =eign language1 n und]/ood by ! o!rs pres5t1 or talk bl9dly 9 a mann] un9telligible only to !mselves4 ,%\ld1 h[ev]1 a di/+ui%$ =eign] to :om ! language is almo/ unkn[n be among ! gue/s1 x is a m>k ( c\rtesy = z _m z possible to conv]se 9 8 native tongue4 ,d n imm$iately break (f ! conv]sation ^u p]sons ent]+ ! room4 ,x is too apt to leave ! impression ^u _! m9ds t ! disc\rse 0 ( !m4 ,9 c>ry+ on a conv]sation aft] newcom]s ent] ! room1 briefly recapitulate :at has gone be=e1 t ! ?read ( ! /ory may be complete = !m4 ,look at ^? ) :om y are talk+1 b nev] />e4 ,pr(anity is ! la/ & mo/ inexcusable s9 committ$ aga9/ good mann]s & propriety4 ,! man :o w delib]ately use pr(ane language 9 ! draw+-room1 or be=e wom5 & *ildr51 or ag$ m51 %\ld be consid]$ )\t ! pale ( good society4 ,language co>se 9 its t5d5cy is op5 to ! same criticism1 & rem>ks & /ories t c>ry a d\ble mean+ _c be too sev]ely condemn$4 ,if x is at any "t possible = a woman to receive su* a /ory 9 its innoc5t s5se1 let h] d x1 %[+ by "s rem>k ! light 9 :i* x is tak52 o!rwise1 %e %\ld be app>5tly bl9d & ignorant z to its mean+4 ,avoid affectations4 ,9 conv]sation make use ( long words z little z possible1 & :]ev] a %ort & easily und]/ood "o is suitable to express y\r mean+1 *oose x 9 pref]5ce to "o ( polysyllabic proportions4 ,use ( ! ,lips & ,facial ,expressions4 ,d n cov] ! lips ) ! h&1 or a fan1 :ile speak+4 ,to d s %[s n]v\sness & a lack ( social tra9+4 ,besides ?is1 mu* ( ! expression ( ! face lies 9 ! m\?4 ,?is is %[n by all actors1 read]s & public speak]s1 :o1 z a rule1 appe> be=e _! audi5ces ) closely-%av5 faces1 t no portion ( ! v>y+ *anges ( ! lips may be lo/4 ,nev]1 if y are a man1 speak lightly ( wom54 ,no?+ s surely l[]s y\r own /&>d 9 ! eyes ( all s5sible p4 ,nev] hurt ! feel+s ( o!rs4 ,nev] allude publicly to times :5 y h kn[n !m 9 less afflu5t circum/ances ?an ! pres5t4 ,be v c>eful to gu>d aga9/ ov] mu* laugh+4 ,no?+ gives a silli] appe>ance ?an spasms ( laught] ^u ! slighte/ provocation4 ,x soon gr[s into a v disagreeable habit4 ,smile frequ5tly1 if ne$ be1 b be mod]ate 9 laught]4 ,a v little reason+ w s]ve to d ?is2 & ! reflection t few gr[n p laugh well w aid /ill f>!r 9 curb+ ! prop5sity4 ,let y\r greet+ ( acqua9tances be free f boi/]\sness & famili>ity4 ,d n br+ y\r h& d[n heavily ^u _! %\ld]1 nor emphasize y\r s5t5ces ) pu%es & pun*es ( an active elb[1 nor fl+ y\r arms ab\t _! necks or %\ld]s4 ,to "s fa/idi\s p]sons ^! boori% acts are a positive insult4 ,an affectation ( boi/]\s famili>ity m (t5 betrays a feel+ ( social inf]iority ?an absolute %yness or timidity does4 ,nev] p]mit y\rself to correct o!r p 9 matt] or mann]1 unless x %\ld be absolutely necess>y to protect "s "o else4 ,"u all ord9>y circum/ances d n betray a confid5tial communication made y by a fri5d4 ,set ! seal ( ! confessional ^u x4 ,if x %\ld be sorr[ful 9 its nature1 d n m5tion x ev5 to ! fri5d :o has confid$ x to y\r keep+ unless he or %e %\ld fir/ ref] to x4 ,x may h be5 confess$ 9 a mom5t ( confid5ce & regrett$ almo/ z soon z spok51 h5ce1 d n revive ! memory y\rself4 ,control ,y\r ,temp]4 ,keep y\r temp] "u all circum/ance :ile 9 company4 ,ev5 if "s rem>k has be5 made ) pla9 int5t to injure y\r feel+s1 an absolute ignor+ ( ! int5d$ /+ w prev5t o!rs1 &1 mo/ ( all1 ! guilty p>ty1 f p]ceiv+ ! dep? ( ! w\nd4 ,a true g5tleman1 or lady1 is nev] quick to take (f5se4 ,nev] ask imp]t95t or p]sonal que/ions1 unless ^! latt] are call$ = by ! nature ( ! conv]sation4 ,be c>eful n to give advice unless x is s\ght1 & rememb] !n t x is a commodity ( :i* a v little goes a long way4 ,& la/1 b n lea/1 utt]ly es*ew all slang4 ,!re are "s "y ladies :o app>5tly ?9k t a little slang1 to spice _! rem>ks1 is piquant & saucy1 b1 9 ! majority ( cases !y s soon ov]/ep ! m>k & fall into ! deplorable habit ( con/antly & copi\sly int]l>d+ _! spee* ) all mann] ( slang phrases1 t "o is =c$ to advocate total ab/95ce z ! only safegu>d4 ,! too common habit ( exagg]ation1 on ! "p ( s _m s*oolgirls & "y ladies is also to be deplor$1 a quiet unobtrusiv5ess ( spee* always m>k+ ! true lady4 ,d n1 9 speak+1 too frequ5tly m5tion y\r he>] by "n4 ,to d s implies ei!r great famili>ity on y\r "p1 or social inf]iority on !irs4 ,9 ?is latt] case x savors /rongly ( patronage4 ,9 speak+ to p always give !m _! prop] titles1 z3 ,colonel1 ,doctor ,jones1 ,pr(essor ,gray4 ,nev] make a practice ( say+3 ,t is s1 ,colonel1 b1 ,t is s1 ,colonel ,%>p4 ,9 m5tion+ a m>ri$ daught]1 unless to a v intimate fri5d1 give h] m>ri$ title1 z3 ,mrs4 ,mill]1 or1 ,my daught]1 ,mrs4 ,mill]4 ,9 speak+ ( unm>ri$ daught]s1 or ( sons 7unless to s]vants71 give !m _! ,*ri/ian "n1 z ,hattie or ,george1 or else m5tion !m1 & ?is is bett] be=e /rang]s1 z3 ,my daught]1 or1 ,my son4 ,misuse ( ,initials4 ,nev] address p]sons by _! initials1 z3 ,mrs4 ,w41 ,miss ,c41 ,mr4 ,d42 give !m in/ead _! full "n4 ,nei!r %\ld y call "y ladies1 ,miss ,mollie1 or ,miss ,j5nie2 ,miss ,smi?1 or1 ,miss ,br[n1 be+ 9 mu* bett] ta/e4 ,_! ,*ri/ian names %\ld only be us$ to di/+ui% !m f o!r si/]s4 ,nev] address p by _! ,*ri/ian names unless v famili>ly acqua9t$4 ,?is practice savors ( ill-bre$+ & is (t5 v annoy+ to ! p]son s address$4 ,9 speak+ ( p]sons :o are abs5t1 m5tion !m by _! la/ "n1 z3 ,mrs4 ,roe1 ,mr4 ,doe1 unless ! intimacy is v great2 ev5 !n c>e %\ld be tak5 n to use _! ,*ri/ian names too freely among p]sons to :om !y may be /rang]s4 ,a wife 9 speak+ ( h] husb& %\ld r say ,mr4 ,smi?1 ?an ,my husb&2 b1 above all1 let h] refra9 f ref]r+ to h] liege "l z he1 z if ! :ole wide _w possess$ no o!r mortal to :om t pron\n 0 applicable4 ,husb&s %\ld foll[ ! same rules 9 ref]r+ to _! wives4 ,be c>eful n to int]l>d conv]sation ) sir1 or ma'am4 ,9 ,europe ^! t]ms are relegat$ to ! use ( ! l[] classes4 ,,visit+ ,,c>ds4 ,illu/ration ,c>ds are ! sign manual ( society4 ,_! use & developm5t belongs only to a high ord] ( civilization4 ,!y accompany u1 z "o writ] has ju/ly rem>k$1 all ! way f ! cradle to ! grave4 ,!y beg9 ) engrav$ ann\ncem5ts ( ! bir? ( a *ild1 !n c>ds = its *ri/5+1 &1 lat] on1 da9ty little c>ds ( invitation = *ildr5's p>ties1 until1 9 due "t1 ! girl crosses t l9e ,:]e ! brook & riv] meet ,womanhood & *ildhood sweet1 sets up a c>d ( h] own1 & blossoms =? into a "y lady4 ,!y ann\nce ! gaieties1 ! pleasures1 ! anniv]s>ies ( life3 !y inquire = u dur+ our illness & sorr[1 !y return ?anks = our gifts & att5tions1 &1 f9ally1 !y commemorate to our fri5ds ! la/1 sad e>?ly sc5e & r+ ! curta9 d[n4 ,! /ress laid by society ^u ! correct usage ( ^! magic bits ( pa/ebo>d w n seem unnecess>y :5 x is rememb]$ t ! visit+ c>d1 socially def9$1 means1 & is frequ5tly made to take ! place (1 "o's self4 ,x w be se51 !re=e1 t "o ( ! fir/ requisites = social success is to und]/& ! language1 s to speak1 ( ! visit+ c>d4 ,) ?is end 9 view ! foll[+ sugge/ions on ! subject h be5 c>efully arrang$ ) due reg>d to brevity1 accuracy & ease ( ref]5ce4 ,/yle ( ! ,c>d4 ,! c>d %\ld be p]fectly pla91 f9e 9 texture1 ?91 :ite1 unglaz$ & engrav$ 9 simple script )\t fl\ri%es4 ,gilt edges1 r\nd$ or clipp$ corn]s1 t9t$ surfaces or any oddity ( lett]+1 su* z ,g]man or ,old ,engli% text1 are to be avoid$4 ,a photograph or any ornam5tation :atev] ^u a c>d savors ( ill-bre$+ or ru/icity4 ,h ! script engrav$ always1 nev] pr9t$4 ,! engrav$ autograph is no long] consid]$ 9 good ta/e1 nei!r are writt5 c>ds z elegant z ^? t are engrav$4 ,size ( ! ,c>d4 ,! regulation size1 bo? 9 ?is c\ntry & ,engl&1 = a lady's visit+ c>d is ?ree & "o-half in*es 9 l5g? & two & "o-half in*es 9 wid?4 ,?is oblong =m is mo/ g5]ally us$1 b !re is an almo/ squ>e %ape1 two & a half in*es by ?ree1 also 9 favor1 & especially us$ by unm>ri$ ladies :]e ! %ortness ( _! "n w\ld be too mu* emphasiz$ 9 ! long] c>d4 ,= in/ance3 ,miss ,ray w\ld be q ju/ifi$ 9 *oos+ ! squ>e /yle1 :ile ,miss ,e!l9da ,crane or ,mrs4 ,alg]non ,sp5c] w\ld f9d ! l5g? ( _! names display$ to bett] advantage on ! oblong c>d4 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,j4 ,h[>d ,ellis ,c>ds = g5tlem5 are mu* small] ?an ^? = ladies4 ,?is holds good 9 bo? ,engl& & ,am]ica1 :]e ! requir$ size is ?ree in*es "o way by "o in* & a half ! o!r4 ,illu/ration3 ,william ,l4 ,smi? ,! l>ge/ c>d 9 use is ! "o sometimes adopt$ by ! newly-m>ri$ & engrav$ ) _! jo9t names4 ,?us3 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,,grant ,,tr[bridge may make use ( a c>d f\r in*es long by ?ree & "o-half 9 wid?1 b a lady & h] daught]1 :]e _! names appe> toge!r1 %\ld use ! fir/-m5tion$ oblong size = ladies4 ,engrav+ ! ,"n4 ,m>ri$ ladies make a po9t ( us+ _! husb&'s "n or initials ^u _! c>ds in/ead ( _! own1 z3 ,,mrs4 ,,george ,b4 ,,clevel&1 ,or3 ,,mrs4 ,g4,b4 ,,clevel&1 ,in/ead (3 ,,mrs4 ,,grace ,e4 ,,clevel&4 ,x occasionally1 h[ev]1 happ5s t "s lady1 unwill+ to s lose ! id5tity ( h] own "n1 pref]s ?is latt] =m4 ,or1 if h] family "n be an old & honor$ "o1 %e frequ5tly reta9s x1 ?us3 ,,mrs4 ,,grace ,,e?ridge ,,clevel&4 ,b1 ?\gh ! m>ri$ woman make use ( h] husb&'s "n1 %e has no claim to 8 titles2 s t :ile o!rs may address h] z ,mrs4 ,judge ,s & ,s1 ,mrs4 ,dr4 ,s & ,s1 %e mu/ c>efully avoid all su* display4 ,let h] be com=t$1 h[ev]1 z h] j pride 9 h] husb&'s honors is easily gratifi$1 s9ce %e is expect$1 on all =mal occasions1 to leave "o ( 8 c>ds1 :]e9 8 titles are set =?1 ) h] own4 ,occasionally a lady cont5ts h]self ) hav+ engrav$ ^u h] c>ds a simple3 ,,mrs4 ,,c\r?ope4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 is unwise unless ! "n is a v uncommon "o1 & ev5 !n1 %\ld !re be m ?an "o bran* ( ! family 9 ! vic9ity1 ! wife ( ! olde/ memb] ( ! family only w\ld h a "r to make use ( x4 ,newly m>ri$ c\ples frequ5tly s5d out = _! fir/ c>ds ! l>ge/ size m5tion$ engrav$ ?us3 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,,holman ,b4 ,,hunt4 ,occasionally !y pres]ve ?is cu/om ?r\gh\t ! entire fir/ season4 ,b ?is is all2 f !nce=? husb& & wife h _! own sep>ate c>ds4 ,!y may1 h[ev]1 be us$ at times ?r\gh\t ! m>ri$ life to convey messages ( sympa?y1 congratulation1 or to accompany gifts4 ,wid[s h always hesitat$ ab\t ex*ang+ ! belov$ & accu/om$ "n ^u _! c>ds = _! own signature4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 9 _m cases1 is a necessity1 especially :]e !re is a son be>+ ! fa!r's "n4 ,?is is sometimes ?\ght to be avoid$ by ! use ( ! di/9ctive ,s5ior or ,junior1 a cu/om obvi\sly wrong1 s9ce aft] ! dea? ( ,francis ,br[n1 ,s5ior1 ,francis ,br[n1 ,junior1 becomes at once ,francis ,br[n1 & 8 wife1 ,mrs4 ,francis ,br[n4 ,h5ce1 :ile we h no su* conv5i5t title z ,d[ag]1 ! wid[$ ,mrs4 ,francis ,br[n w be oblig$ to drop h] husb&'s "n 9 favor ( h] son's wife & !nce=? appe> be=e ! _w z ,mrs4 ,m>y ,e4 ,br[n4 ,:]e !re are no *ildr51 or imm$iate relatives1 *ange ( title on ! "p ( ! wid[ is a m]e matt] ( s5tim5t4 ,! black bord] ^u a wid['s c>ds %\ld nev] be ov] a qu>t] ( an in* 9 dep?3 m ?an ?is savors ( o/5tation r ?an affliction4 ,"y ladies1 especially if x is _! fir/ season 9 society1 w f9d x ! be/ =m to h _! names engrav$ ^u ! visit+ c>d ( _! "m4 ,?us1 if x is ! elde/ daught]3 ,,mrs4 ,,wilfrid ,,f]guson4 ,,miss ,,f]guson4 ,if a y\ng] daught]3 ,,mrs4 ,,wilfrid ,,furguson4 ,,miss ,,e!l ,,furguson4 ,& if x %\ld *ance t two daught]s come out 9 consecutive seasons bo? ( _! names are frequ5tly engrav$ ^u _! "m's c>d1 ?us3 ,,mrs4 ,,wilfrid ,,furguson4 ,,miss ,,furguson4 ,,miss ,,e!l ,,furguson4 ,?\gh x (t5 happ5s t1 = conv5i5ce sake1 by ! "t ! second rosebud is out1 ! fir/ has e/abli%$ a c>dcase ( h] own4 ,yet z nei!r cu/om nor etiquette sanctions "y girls 9 hav+ c>ds ( _! own1 a "m (t5 cont9ues to h ! "n ( h] "y daught]s engrav$ ^u h] own c>d4 ,"y ladies %\ld always prefix ,miss to _! names1 z3 ,,miss ,,alice ,,creighton ,,wright1 !re be+ a c]ta9 =w>dness ab\t ann\nc+ "o's self z3 ,,alice ,,creighton ,,wright4 ,especially is ?is s among /rang]s1 ! prefix ,miss c>ry+ ) x a c]ta9 quiet res]ve & dignity4 ,! elde/ daught] ( a family ann\nces h]self ^u h] c>ds z ,miss ,wright1 unless !re are sev]al ( ! same "n 9 t[n1 :ile ! o!rs are respectively ,miss ,alice ,creighton ,wright & ,miss ,e!l ,may ,wright4 ,occasionally a c>d is us$ = si/]s engrav$ z foll[s3 ,,misses ,,wright4 ,all pet names are to be avoid$ ^u visit+ c>ds & ,nettie ,cran/on v prop]ly becomes ,miss ,annette ,cran/on ^u h] c>ds4 ,nei!r are initials good =m = "y ladies1 ?\gh aft] an unm>ri$ lady has rea*$ a c]ta91 or r an unc]ta91 age1 %e may1 if %e *oose1 be p]mitt$ to place ^u h] visit+ c>ds3 ,,miss ,a4,c4 ,,wright4 ,if ! "y lady be mo!rless %e (t5 has h] "n engrav$ b5ea? t ( h] fa!r1 us+ n ! small] c>d ( a g5tleman b ! fir/ giv5 oblong c>d = ladies4 ,9 ,engl& unm>ri$ ladies1 unless !y h rea*$ a v unc]ta9 age inde$1 foll[ ! above fa%ion1 & q "y ladies leave _! *ap]on's c>d z well4 ,?is fa%ion is (t5 foll[$ "h1 & :5 s done signifies t !y w be insep>able = ! season4 ,address on ,c>ds4 ,!re is mu* "q z to :e!r ! address %\ld be engrav$ on a lady's c>d1 "s v exclusive circles prohibit+ x entirely on a "y lady's c>d & que/ion+ its use = a m>ri$ lady1 sugge/+ t 9 case a "y lady desires to give h] address to any p>ticul> individual x may be easily p5cill$ on "o ( h] c>ds = ! occasion1 & t m>ri$ ladies h ! privilege ( leav+ "o ( _! husb&'s1 ) engrav$ address1 9 connection ) _! own4 ,?is cu/om1 :ile x may seem an ov]-nicety to ^? outside ! great c5t]s ( metropolitan life1 w be appreciat$ by all ^? to :om ! ins & outs ( city life are famili>4 ,x %\ld be said t :ile engrav+ ! address is /ill a moot$ "q1 except = "y ladies1 ea* individual is at lib]ty to use h] own judgm5t on ! "q4 ,c>ds = ,g5tlem54 ,! size & /yle ( a g5tleman's c>d has be5 already giv51 b a few words z to "n & titles w be necess>y "h4 ,cu/om1 ) ref]5ce to ! c>ds t a man mu/ c>ry1 is consid]ably less arbitr>y ?an t[>ds wom5 9 ! same respect4 ,he may use 8 initials or 8 full "n1 z x pleases him4 ,he may inscribe himself ,mr4 ,john ,smi?1 or simply ,john ,smi?1 & be q correct 9 s do+1 ?\gh j n[ !re is a little incl9ation 9 favor ( ! m =mal ,mr41 an ,engli% cu/om we d well 9 copy+4 ,milit>y1 n militia1 naval & judicial titles1 may always be us$4 ,physicians & cl]gym5 h ! same privilege2 honor>y titles1 h[ev]1 %\ld be avoid$4 ,a private g5tleman w\ld h 8 c>d z3 ,,mr4 ,,h[>d ,,mason1 #bd ,union ,squ>e4 ,if he 7 a club man1 ! club "n1 provid+ x 7 a v fa%ionable "o1 w\ld take ! place ( ! address1 z3 ,,mr4 ,,h[>d ,,mason1 ,union ,league ,club4 ,= a milit>y c>d3 ,,capta9 ,,ar?ur ,,coleman1 ,u4,s4,a4 ,= a naval c>d3 ,,admiral ,,port]1 ,u4,s4,n4 ,a m$ical man might use ! foll[+3 ,,george ,h4 ,,h>rison1 ,m4,d4 ,"s em95t m5 g to extreme simplicity1 z1 = in/ance1 ,mr4 ,web/] be+ all t grac$ ! c>ds ( t celebrity4 ,x is h>dly necess>y to say t a bus9ess c>d %\ld nev] be us$ z a visit+ c>d4 ,a g5tleman c>ries 8 c>ds ei!r 9 8 pocket or 9 a small lea!r case sold = t purpose4 ,c>ds = ,receptions4 ,c>ds us$ = receptions1 lawn-t5nis p>ties1 aft]noon teas1 etc41 9 place ( m =mal invitations1 h be5 fully describ$ "u ,invitations4 ,"o example w suffice "h3 ,,mrs4 ,,lawr5ce ,,b>rett1 ,july #a/1 at #d4 ,p4,m4 ,! object ( ! ent]ta9m5t be+ writt5 9 ! corn] ( ! engrav$ c>d4 ,c>ds = receptions are a necess>y conv5i5ce 9 ?is era ( l5g?y visit+ li/s4 ,)\t !m !re w\ld be no possibility ( leisure or ( see+ "o's fri5ds at _! own homes4 ,! foll[+ is an example3 ,,mrs4 ,,emmons ,b4 ,,*ur*ill1 ,?ursdays4 ,or3 ,?ursdays1 ,?ree o'clock to five1 may be sub/itut$2 ! latt] =m1 h[ev]1 usually mean+ t a simple aft]noon tea w be s]v$ on ! day m5tion$4 ,a "y lady nev] s5ds out a reception c>d 9 h] own "n alone1 b h] "n is engrav$ ^u h] "m's c>d or t ( h] *ap]on1 ?us3 ,,mrs4 ,,h>old ,,gray2 ,,miss ,,gray1 ,w$nesdays1 ,f\r o'clock to sev54 ,or1 9 case ( a *ap]on3 ,,mrs4 ,,george ,m4 ,,jans52 ,,miss ,,alice ,,levictoire1 ,w$nesdays1 ,?ree o'clock to five4 ,=eign ,phrases4 ,!re are a c]ta9 numb] ( ,fr5* phrases t cu/om has decl>$ %all take ! place ( t pure ,engli% undefil$ :]e( ,sp5s] wrote4 ,9 a few cases ^! *ance to be %ort]1 m euphoni\s1 & m directly to ! po9t ?an ! correspond+ ,engli% phrase4 ,= in/ance1 ! ^w *ap]on1 s important 9 its signification at ! pres5t1 has no adequate ,engli% translation4 ,bel[ is giv5 an alphabetical li/ ( ^? phrases 9 mo/ frequ5t use1 toge!r ) ! abbreviations t (ttimes s]ve 9 place ( ! full phrase3 ,,fr5* ,,phrases4 ,,abbreviations4 ,,translations4 ,bal masque ,a masqu]ade ball4 ,*ap]on ,an old] woman att5d+ a girl 9 society4 ,co/ume de rigueur ,co/ume to be full dress4 ,db ,fir/ appe>ance4 ,dbutante ,a "y girl mak+ h] fir/ social appe>ance4 ,en ville ,e4,v4 ,9 t[n or city4 ,fte ,*amptre ,a rural or outdoor ent]ta9m5t4 ,mat9e ,a morn+ or daylight ent]ta9m5t4 ,mat9e musicale ,a daylight musical ent]ta9m5t4 ,musicale ,musical ent]ta9m5t4 ,p\r dire adieu ,p4,d4,a4 ,to say f>ewell4 ,p\r pr5dre cong ,p4,p4,c4 ,to take leave4 ,protg ,"o "u protection4 ,repondez s'il v\s plait ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,reply if y please4 ,soire ,an ev5+ p>ty4 ,soire dansante ,a danc+ p>ty4 ,soire musicale ,a musical ent]ta9m5t4 ,! t]m en ville1 :5 us$ 9 ! place ( city1 9 address+ a note t is to pass ?r\gh ! po/man's h&s1 is a ne$less & annoy+ affectation1 s9ce x is h>dly to be expect$ t a k ( ! ,fr5* language =ms "o ( ! qualifications = a lett]-c>ri]'s position1 & if delay ensues 9 deliv]y1 ! writ]1 n ! c>ri]1 is to blame4 ,p4,p4,c4 ,c>ds4 ,9 ! ev5t ( leav+ t[n = a long abs5ce1 ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds are frequ5tly s5t out4 ,?is is especially conv5i5t :]e ! l5g? ( "o's visit+ li/ r5d]s ! p]sonal mak+ ( f>ewell calls an impossibility4 ,! c>ds are s5t out ^u ! eve ( dep>ture1 & all p]sons receiv+ !m are expect$1 ^u ! arrival ( ! abs5tee1 to return ! c\rtesy by c>ds 7:i* may also be s5t by mail7 & by invitations4 ,! ord9>y engrav$ visit+ c>d is us$1 & ! initials ,p4,p4,c4 7an abbreviation ( ! ,fr5* phrase to take leave7 are writt5 9 capitals 9 ! l[] left h& corn] ( ! c>d4 ,p4,d4,a4 7to say f>ewell7 is occasionally us$1 b is n 9 g5]al favor4 ,if ! address %\ld happ5 to be engrav$ 9 ! l[] left h& corn]1 ,p4,p4,c4 may be writt5 9 ! l[] "r h& corn]1 ei!r way be+ p]missible at any "t4 ,! l>ge c>d inscrib$ jo9tly ) ! "n ( husb& & wife is frequ5tly us$ 9 ?is connection4 ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds are especially appropriate :]e !re are no calls due4 ,if possible1 unpaid p]sonal calls %\ld be answ]$ 9 p]son on ! eve ( dep>ture4 ,turn+ ,d[n ! ,corn]s4 ,?is cu/om is almo/ out ( date1 & 9 consequ5ce ( ! v>i\s int]pretations liable to be giv5 to ! act1 its disuse is a satisfaction to all p>ties conc]n$4 ,to briefly expla9 ! cu/om1 a c>d turn$ d[n at ! corn]1 or across "o end1 signifies t ! call 0 made 9 p]son1 & is sometimes v conv5i5t :5 "o wi%es x di/9ctly und]/ood t ! c>d 0 br\ght 9 p]son1 n s5t2 :ile "o fold$ ?r\gh ! c5t] d5otes t ! call includes all memb]s ( ! family4 ,a man %\ld n turn d[n ! corn]s ( 8 c>ds4 ,m9or int]pretations1 su* z :i* end or :i* corn] is to be turn$ d[n on diff]5t occasions1 ev5 ! surviv+ adh]5ts ( ! cu/om d n pret5d to agree ^u4 ,h[ to ,leave ,c>ds4 ,9 leav+ c>ds foll[ ! fa%ion ( ^? :o h paid y ! same c\rtesy4 ,if a call has be5 made ^u y1 return x by a call1 z to return a p]sonal visit by ! s5d+ ( a bit ( pa/ebo>d w\ld p>take ( ! nature ( a slight4 ,if c>ds only h be5 s5t y by a s]vant1 return c>ds 9 ! same mann] by mess5g] or s]vant2 if !y 7 s5t by mail1 return by mail4 ,if ! c>ds ( any ( ! g5tlem5 ( a h\se are left1 always leave ! c>ds ( any g5tleman ( y\r family 9 return4 ,( c\rse fir/ calls %\ld be made & return$ 9 p]son1 ! c>d-leav+ =malities com+ lat] on4 ,?is rule is dep>t$ f only by a few ladies :om age1 heal?1 social or lit]>y duties w excuse f mak+ p]sonal calls4 ,^! frequ5tly p]mit !mselves to s5d out c>ds 9 place ( a fir/ call1 ei!r accompany+ !m )1 or imm$iately foll[+ !m by an invitation to "s ent]ta9m5t4 ,?is att5tion %\ld receive ! same notice z a fir/ call2 c>ds %\ld be s5t 9 return1 toge!r ) an answ] to ! invitation1 if x is ( a nature to require x1 & a p]sonal call mu/ be made !reaft]1 unless x 0 simply an aft]noon tea1 & an invitation s5t 9 return spe$ily z possible4 ,a lady leaves a c>d = a lady only1 a g5tleman leaves c>ds = ! ho/ & ho/ess ( a h\se4 ,"s au?orities ass]t t a man mak+ ! fir/ call ( c]emony %\ld1 9 addition to ! fir/-m5tion$ c>ds1 if none ( ! family are at home1 leave ano!r fold$ d[n ?r\gh ! c5t] = ! o!r memb]s ( ! family4 ,! fold+1 h[ev]1 is que/ionable ta/e & ! requisite numb] ( c>ds w\ld be bett] left 9 _! orig9al /ate4 ,c>ds %\ld be left = ! daught]s ( a h\se2 if !re are sons1 a lady may leave "o ( h] husb&'s = !m also4 ,numb] ( ,c>ds to be ,left4 ,aft] ?is fir/ visit ( c]emony x is only necess>y to leave "o c>d at any foll[+ call ?r\gh\t ! season4 ,z a rule 9 c\ntry t[ns b "o c>d is left at any call1 unless x is at ! fir/ calls ( a bride1 :51 if h] husb&'s "n is n engrav$ ^u h] c>d1 %e leaves "o ( 8 ) h] own4 ,a g5tleman & lady call+ toge!r & f9d+ ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 only1 at home1 w\ld leave b "o c>d1 t ( ! g5tleman = ! ma/] ( ! h\se4 ,f9d+ no "o at home1 !y w\ld leave ?ree c>ds1 "o ( h]s & two ( 84 ,a lady call+ "u ! same circum/ances w\ld leave "o ( h] own c>ds & two ( h] husb&'s4 ,:5 "o lady calls ^u ano!r1 if ! ho/ess be at home %e does n s5d 9 h] c>d 7unless %e is an entire /rang]71 nor does etiquette /rictly enjo9 h] to leave x 9 ! hall1 unless x is ^u h] ho/ess' reception day1 :51 on acc\nt ( ! l>ge numb] ( visitors1 x w\ld be difficult to rememb] all4 ,x !n becomes a v desirable cu/om = a lady to leave a c>d1 toge!r ) two ( h] husb&'s4 ,also :5 ! s]vant is some:at dull ( compreh5sion z to ! "n x w be well to s5d 9 a c>d to prev5t mi/akes4 ,on reception days 9 v fa%ionable h\ses x is ! cu/om to ann\nce ! gue/s by "n z !y ent] ! room1 s t c>ds ne$ n be s5t 94 ,nev] h& y\r own c>d to y\r ho/ess4 ,if x be necess>y1 introduce y\rself v]bally1 do+ s quickly & cle>ly1 & be+ sure to m5tion y\rself1 if a "y lady1 z ,miss4 ,busy1 eld]ly1 & ev5 "y m5 are v prone to leav+ _! c>ds 9 ! h&s ( "m1 si/]1 wife1 or any o!r lady ( ! h\se = di/ribution1 ?\gh aft] an elaborate ent]ta9m5t x is mu* m indicative ( good bre$+ t a "y man %\ld pay 8 respects 9 p]son to 8 ho/ess4 ,calls ^u ,"y ,ladies4 ,"y m5 9 ?is c\ntry leave c>ds = ! "y ladies ( a h\se1 b !y %\ld always leave "o at ! same "t = h] "m or *ap]on4 ,9 ,europe !y are nev] p]mitt$ to leave a c>d = a "y lady at all4 ,!y call ^u ! "m or *ap]on1 & :ile !y may (f] to s5d = ! "y lady1 %e is nev] ask$ aft]4 ,if a g5tleman1 9 call+ :]e !re are sev]al "y ladies1 especially wi%es to see "o ( ! numb]1 he may ask = h]1 b1 be=e ! call is ov]1 %\ld say he w\ld be pleas$ to see ! o!r ladies2 m especially is !re no excuse = ignor+ ! exi/5ce ( ! "m or *ap]on ( ! "y girl4 ,if a g5tleman kn[s ! ladies ( ! h\se well1 x is n necess>y = him to s5d 9 a c>d if !y are at home1 unless x be ! fir/ call ( ! season1 :5 x is well to leave "o 9 ! hall4 ,9 a h\sehold consi/+ ( two or m ladies n closely relat$ a c>d %\ld be left = ea* "o4 ,:5 ladies are visit+ 9 a h\se :]e ! call]1 :e!r man or woman1 is unacqua9t$1 he or %e always leaves a c>d = ! lady ( ! h\se & reque/s to see h]3 a reque/ :i* %e may n grant1 b "o :i* x w\ld be a m>k$ slight to omit4 ,9 leav+ a c>d = a fri5d visit+ at a private h\se1 nev] write h] "n ^u x2 dep5d ^u ! s]vant1 or :oev] op5s ! door1 to rememb] = :om x is int5d$4 ,?is is only p]missible :5 y\r fri5d is at a hotel4 ,9 do+ ?is write ! "n above y\rs4 ,:5 a newly-m>ri$ man s5ds c>ds imm$iately aft] 8 m>riage to 8 ba*elor fri5ds x may be expect$ t he wi%es to reta9 !m z su* 9 8 new life4 ,^u ! reception ( ^! c>ds !y are expect$ to call ^u ! bride at once4 ,h[ to ,s5d ,c>ds4 ,c>ds s5t by mess5g] are enclos$ 9 a s+le unseal$ envelope2 s5t by mail ?is envelope is enclos$ )9 ano!r & l>g] "o :i* is seal$4 ,c>ds h&$ 9 at ! door are receiv$ by ! s]vant on a salv] to prev5t be+ soil$ by h&l+4 ,:5 to ,leave ,c>ds4 ,fir/ ,calls ( ! season necessitate ! leav+ ( c>ds4 ,let !m be left quietly 9 ! hall4 ,?is cu/om assi/s ! lady ( ! h\se 9 revis+ h] visit+ li/4 ,lett]s ( ,introduction necessitate t ^? :o h receiv$ c\rtesies 9 response to su*1 %\ld1 ^u _! dep>ture1 s5d ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds to ^? t h ?us rememb]$ !m4 ,a ,*ange ( ,resid5ce r5d]s x desirable to s5d c>ds by mail to "o's fri5ds ) ! new address engrav$ !reon4 ,h[ev]1 %\ld !re be unpaid calls1 ! c>ds to ^! %\ld be left 9 p]son4 ,! ,return f an ,abs5ce1 includ+ any l5g? ( "t1 %\ld be ann\nc$ by s5d+ out c>ds hav+ ! address & reception day engrav$ ^u !m4 ,:]e ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds h be5 issu$ previ\s to dep>ture ^! %\ld always foll[ ! return4 ,prec$+ a ,db4 ,previ\s to ! date decid$ ^u = ! pres5tation ( a dbutante to ! social _w1 ! "y girl's "m calls ^u ^? ( h] fri5ds :om %e desires to be pres5t ^u ! occasion & leaves !m h] own & h] husb&'s c>ds1 &1 if %e h gr[n sons1 _! c>ds also4 ,reception ,invitations to a full dress reception are prec$$ by a call by c>d ^u all ! acqua9tances to :om ! ho/ess may be indebt$4 ,aft] ,c>ds is ! "n appli$ to ^? t are s5t to fri5ds aft] a m>riage & are engrav$ ?us3 ,,mr4 ,,& ,,mrs4 ,,*>les ,e4 ,,smi?4 ,lat] on1 h[ev]1 :5 ! bride returns visits1 %e usually leaves h] own c>d ) h] m>ri$ "n engrav$ ^u x1 ?us3 ,,mrs4 ,,*>les ,e4 ,,smi?4 at ! same "t leav+ h] husb&'s sep>ate c>d ) h] own4 ,be=e ,m>riage1 ! bride expectant 9 pay+ h] f>ewell calls1 leaves h] own sep>ate c>d1 toge!r ) t ( h] "m or *ap]on1 ) all acqua9tances %e may wi% to reta9 9 h] new life4 ,ent]ta9m5ts & ,calls4 ,aft] ,ent]ta9m5ts1 a c>d1 9 l>ge cities1 is suffici5t1 unless x be aft] a d9n] or a w$d+ reception1 :5 a p]sonal call is made4 ,if ! w$d+ invitations h be5 to ! *ur* only1 n includ+ ! ga!r+ at ! h\se1 "s mo/ exclusive p s5d c>ds to ! bride's p>5ts1 aft]w>ds invit+ ! "y p to _! ent]ta9m5ts4 ,b a d9n] absolutely requires a p]sonal call4 ,ev5 g5tlem51 usually s remiss 9 su* matt]s1 are r expect$ to leave a c>d 9 p]son aft] a d9n]4 ,any invitation1 h[ev]1 com+ f a new acqua9tance1 necessitates a p]sonal call1 unless ! int]c\rse is n to be kept up4 ,9 t[ns & small] cities1 a p]sonal call is made aft] ent]ta9m5ts ( any size4 ,aft] a ,tea a visit is paid & ?us ! visit+ etiquette = a ye> is e/abli%$4 ,be=e ! season is ov]1 h[ev]1 ! lady1 if %e expects to reta9 h] position 9 society = ! next season1 mu/ give a tea1 or a s]ies ( teas1 invit+ all :o h simil>ly honor$ h]4 ,?is mu/ be done be=e ! season closes4 ,:]e ! tea is n att5d$1 c>ds %\ld be s5t to ! h\se ! same day4 ,special ,receptions1 su* z ^? dress affairs giv5 once or twice 9 a season1 require a p]sonal c>d4 ,g5]al ,receptions1 or at homes1 giv5 9 a s]ies1 ! dates ( :i* are all m5tion$ on "o c>d1 ne$ nei!r c>ds nor calls 9 return4 ,y\r pres5ce !re is a call 9 itself4 ,a c>d may be left 9 ! hall ^u ! day ( reception to assi/ ! memory ( ! ho/ess4 ,o!r ,h9ts4 ,ladies 9 a /range city1 /ay+ ei!r ) fri5ds or at a hotel1 are privileg$ to s5d c>ds1 giv+ _! address1 to any acqua9tances1 ei!r lady or g5tleman1 f :om !y may wi% to receive a call4 ,if desirable1 !y may s5d a note 9 pref]5ce1 giv+ date or h\r :5 !y w be at home4 ,special ,pursuits4 ,ladies hav+ special pursuits1 lit]>y1 or pr(essional1 (t5 p]mit ?is fact to cov] remission 9 social dem&s1 9 fact d n visit at all4 ,= a ,son1 ^u 8 introduction to society "h 9 ,am]ica1 !re is v little display made4 ,8 entre is usually v gradual1 b if he has be5 closely kept at s*ool 8 fre$om f ?is is (t5 ann\nc$ by 8 "m leav+ 8 c>d ) h] own :5 %e makes h] visits at ! beg9n+ ( ! season4 ,?is is tak5 z a sugge/ion t1 9 future1 8 "n is to be includ$ among ! invit$ memb]s ( ! family4 ,c>ds = an unm>ri$ g5tleman %\ld nev] be left by a lady1 except 9 ! case ( 8 hav+ giv5 an ent]ta9m5t at :i* ladies 7 pres5t4 ,9 ?is case ! lady ( ! h\se %\ld drive to 8 door ) h] own c>ds & ^? ( h] family4 ,names ( ! "y ladies %\ld be engrav$ = ! occasion ^u ! c>d ( _! "m or *ap]on4 ,! c>ds %\ld be s5t 9 by a s]vant4 ,if a call is made ^u a lady's regul> reception day1 x is rude to leave a c>d only1 )\t ent]+ & inquir+ = ! ho/ess4 ,! "t sp5t inside ! h\se may be v brief1 b ev5 a few mom5ts w satisfy ! dem&s ( etiquette1 :i* )\t ^! w\ld be rudely violat$4 ,c>ds may be made to accompli% s mu* ( ! multif>i\s duties ( society t "o c sc>cely imag9e ! social _w revolv+ safely ^u its axis )\t _! int]v5tion4 ,f> be x f any to look ^u ! cu/om z a holl[ mock]y1 =1 )\t ! sy/em ( =mal visit+1 or call+1 society z x n[ /&s c\ld n exi/4 ,su*1 too1 are ! complexities ( mod]n exi/5ce t life w\ld be all too %ort = ! fulfillm5t ( its dem&s 7 x n = ^! useful bits ( pa/ebo>d t d s mu* ( our "w by proxy & dispose ( our undesirable acqua9tances s spe$ily by ! simple cessation1 on our "p1 ( leav+ c>ds at _! door4 ,v>i\s ,c>ds4 ,among ! c>ds z yet n ref]r$ to 9 ?is dep>tm5t may be m5tion$ ! foll[+3 ,c>ds ( ,congratulation1 su* z ^? s5t ! p>5ts ( a newly-betro!d c\ple ^u ! ann\ncem5t ( ! betro?al2 ^? s5t ! happy p>5ts ( a lately arriv$ son or daught]1 etc4 ,c>ds ( ?is description %\ld be left 9 p]son1 ?\gh x is n expect$ t y %\ld ent] & make a =mal visit4 ,! leav+ 9 p]son1 h[ev]1 is a complim5t4 ,c>ds ( ,betro?al are di/ribut$ by ! p>5ts ( ! newly-engag$ pair1 leav+ _! c>ds ) _! own on all fri5ds ( ! family4 ,individuals receiv+ ^! c>ds %\ld call z soon z possible4 ,c>ds ( ,c\rtesy are s5t on _m occasions4 ,= in/ance1 to a h\se :]e ! *ildr5 or y\? ( _! family h be5 invit$ )\t includ+ ! eld]s4 ,?is is done 9 ackn[l$gm5t ( ! c\rtesy ext5d$ to _! *ildr54 ,aga91 a gift h[ev] simple1 ev5 fl[]s1 %\ld always be accompani$ by a c>d ( c\rtesy4 ,! simple visit+ c>d is usually suffici5t1 ?\gh a ,m]ry ,*ri/mas1 ,happy ,new ,ye>1 or ,_m happy returns ( ! day1 may be p5cil$ b5ea? ! "n4 ,if !re are _m words to be writt51 h[ev]1 a little note ( c\rtesy is f> bett]4 7,see ,notes47 ,! recipi5t ( ! gift %\ld answ] by a note ( ?anks1 nev] by a c>d simply4 ,c>ds %\ld also accompany1 or be atta*$ to1 fl[]s s5t to a fun]al1 t ! family may "k fri5ds rememb]$ !m 9 _! sorr[4 ,c>ds ( ,inquiry are frequ5tly s5t1 or bett] /ill1 left 9 p]son1 at ! homes ( fri5ds pro/rat$ by sev]e illness1 or by rec5t b]eavem5t4 ,^! usually h ! words1 ,to inquire1 or ,) k9d inquiries1 p5cill$ above ! "n4 ,^! are _m times a s\rce ( relief dur+ ! we>y days ( convalesc5ce1 or ! heavy h\rs ( seclusion aft] affliction1 :5 ! voices ( fri5ds w\ld be too h>d to be>1 b ! ?\ght ( _! lov+ remembrance yields a heal+ balm4 ,9 cases ( b]eavem5t ! c>ds %\ld be s5t ab\t "o week aft] ! sad occasion t call$ !m =?4 ,ackn[l$gm5t ( ,inquiry ,c>ds4 ,c>ds ( ,?anks are usually s5t out 9 reply to ^! c>ds ( inquiry1 s9ce ! answ]+ 9 any o!r fa%ion w\ld prove too great a task4 ,! regul> visit+ c>d may be us$ 9 ?is case1 p5cill+ ! words ,) ?anks = k9d inquiries1 or1 ,) ?anks = ! k9d inquiries ( ,mrs4 ----1 b5ea? ! engrav$ "n2 or c>ds especially engrav$ = ! occasion may be sub/itut$1 ?us3 ,mrs4 ---- pres5ts h] s9c]e/ ?anks = rec5t k9d inquiries4 ,^! may be s5t by mail1 b really %\ld be c>ri$ by special mess5g]4 ,enclose 9 two envelopes4 ,!re is ano!r me?od ( ackn[l$g+ att5tions dur+ a p]iod ( b]eavem5t1 viz41 ! notice 9 ! daily pap]s4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 does n usually meet ) favor 9 l>ge cities1 b ! example set by ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,secret>y ,bla9e ^u ! dea? ( _! son1 is1 f its he>tfelt pa?os1 wor?y ( imitation4 ,! c>d appe>$ 9 all ! ,wa%+ton pap]s z foll[s3 ,! sympa?y ( fri5ds has be5 s g5]\sly ext5d$ to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,bla9e 9 ! great grief :i* has befall5 _! h\sehold t !y are unable to make p]sonal response to ea*4 ,!y beg1 !re=e1 t ?is public recognition be accept$ z ! grateful ackn[l$gm5t ( a k9dness t has be5 mo/ helpful ?r\gh ! days ( an irrep>able loss4 ,bir? c>ds are frequ5tly s5t to all fri5ds1 at home & abroad1 z soon z ! *ild is nam$4 ,"o v pretty /yle n[ 9 m9d read z foll[s3 ,,e!l ,,may ,,t\cey1 ,half-pa/ twelve o'clock1 ,janu>y #ab1 #ahie4 ,?is 0 enclos$ 9 two small envelopes & s5t by mail4 ,^! are m especially useful = s5d+ to fri5ds at a di/ance4 ,*ri/5+ & ,fun]al ,c>ds are consid]$ 9 _! respective dep>tm5ts4 ,families 9 deep m\rn+ are n expect$ to s5d out return c>ds "u ! fir/ ye>4 ,"s pref]1 h[ev]1 to s5d c>ds ( ?anks v soon to ^? :o h inquir$1 leav+ ord9>y visit+ c>ds unansw]$ ! usual l5g? ( "t4 ,illu/ration ,,visit+ ,,cu/oms ,illu/ration ,! cu/oms ( society 9 reg>d to visit+ or call+1 & ! rules t gov]n ^! cu/oms1 are well wor?y ( our att5tion & c>e1 s9ce !y 9 a great measure und]lie & uphold ! /ructure ( our social life4 ,no "o1 !re=e1 ne$ consid] ^! details trivial or ( little acc\nt1 s9ce1 accord+ to ,"l ,*e/]field1 ,great tal5ts are above ! appreciation ( ! g5]ality ( ! _w1 b all p are judges ( civility1 grace ( mann]1 & an agreeable address1 because !y feel ! good effects ( !m z mak+ society easy & pleas+4 ,l5g? ( ,visits4 ,c]emoni\s visits %\ld always be %ort1 fifte5 to tw5ty m9utes be+ ! outside limit1 & a %ort] "t (t5 suffic+4 ,ev5 %\ld ! conv]sation become v animat$1 d n prolong y\r /ay beyond ?is p]iod4 ,x is f> bett] t y\r fri5ds %\ld regret y\r )drawal ?an long = y\r abs5ce4 ,a lull 9 ! conv]sation1 a ris+ f h] seat1 or "s pretext on ! "p ( ! ho/ess1 or ! arrival ( a gue/1 all give an opportunity = leave-tak+ :i* %\ld be made use ( at once4 ,! ,art ( ,leav+4 ,cultivate ! art ( leav+2 no?+ w contribute m to y\r social success4 ,x is said ( s brilliant a woman z ,madame de ,/al t %e fail$ lam5tably 9 ?is p>ticul>1 &1 on ! occasion ( h] visit to ,weim>1 made ) ! av[$ int5tion ( intellectually captivat+ ! lit]>y lions ( ! age1 ,goe! & ,s*ill]1 %e made "o fatal mi/ake1 %e /ay$ too long6 ,goe! wrote to ,s*ill]3 ,madame de ,/al is a bright1 ent]ta9+ p]son1 b %e ought to "k :5 x is "t to g6 ,x is also evid5t f h] own /atem5t t %e did n "k h[ to g4 ,%e l+]$ aft] %e _h />t$1 & if ?is 7 an unp>donable s9 on ! "p ( s m>vel\s a woman1 x is surely a capital crime on ! "p ( ord9>y mortals4 ,! art ( leav+ is m ?or\ghly und]/ood by m5 ?an by wom54 ,! necessities ( bus9ess life tea* ! value ( "t1 & ! press & hurry ( city circles tea* !m ! art ( leav+ quickly1 s t a social call on ! "p ( a bus9ess man is a model ( good mann]s4 ,:5 he has _h 8 say & politely li/5$ to y\rs1 he takes 8 hat1 says good day1 & is gone f y\r pres5ce )\t giv+ opportunity = ^? t$i\s commonplaces ( mutual invitations & promises to come aga9 :i* seem a social =mula ) s _m wom54 ,:5 ,ready to ,leave1 ,g at ,once4 ,nev] say1 ,i mu/ g1 b1 :5 y h f9i%$ y\r visit & rise to dep>t1 g6 ,nev] p]mit y\rself to be drawn into t\*+ ^u any subject at ?is critical mom5t t w necessitate l5g?y disc\rse = y\rself & ho/ess1 or =ce ^u y ! awkw>d alt]native ( reseat+ y\rself to f9i% ! conv]sation4 ,!re is always a c]ta9 awkw>dness 9 ?us repeat+ ! c]emony ( leave-tak+ :i* may be avoid$ by a quick & graceful dep>ture t leaves bo? ho/ & gue/ ) feel+s ( ! utmo/ amiability t[>d "o ano!r4 ,on ! o!r side x is necess>y t ! ho/ & ho/ess supplem5t ?is laudable endeavor on ! "p ( _! gue/s 9 ord] t ! dep>ture may be gracefully accompli%$4 ,nev] deta9 ! visitor1 :o is attempt+ to leave1 by prote/s1 by inquiries1 or by ! introduction ( new subjects4 ,"o writ] v p]t95tly says3 ,! art ( leav+ on ! "p ( ! gue/ ne$s to be supplem5t$ by ! art ( lett+ g on ! "p ( ! ho/4 ,fir/ ,calls4 ,!re is1 possibly1 m diff]5ce ( op9ion on ! subject ( :o %all make ! fir/ visit or call & :5 x %all be made1 ?an almo/ any o!r po9t ( etiquette4 ,at ! same "t m importance is atta*$ to x ?an to almo/ any o!r social "q1 & x t\*es m uni=mly e phase ( city or c\ntry life ?an any o!r canon ( c\rtesy4 ,nei!r neighborl9ess1 nor good-,sam>itan feel+1 c exi/ )\t ! civility ( a call1 &1 :5 !re is too great a hesitancy on ! "p ( a resid5t to call ^u ! newcom]1 "o is rem9d$ ei!r ( ! prie/ or ! ,levite z !y pass$ by ^u ! o!r side1 or is =c$ to recall ! p>v5ue's dread ( los+ a foot+ 9 social circles4 ,common s5se & k9dl9ess ( he>t are always to be reli$ ^u 9 matt]s ( ?is nature1 & ! initiative may safely be tak5 by ^? :o h social position1 age1 or l5g? ( resid5ce on _! side4 ,( c\rse 9 l>ge cities ! imm5se dem&s ( social life give a c]ta9 immunity f any?+ l promiscu\s call+ to ^? ^: circle ( acqua9tance has already gr[n beyond ! limits ( _! "t4 ,9 t[ns & villages1 h[ev]1 no su* immunity exi/s1 & a call may be easily made1 or a c>d left1 :ile1 on ! o!r h&1 %\ld ! new acqua9tance prove pu%+1 or 9 any way obnoxi\s1 "o simply ceases to leave "o's c>ds & ! evil is done away )4 ,_m eld]ly ladies1 & o!rs ^: "t is v mu* occupi$ by social or o!r duties1 excuse !mselves f call+ cu/oms4 ,"u su* circum/ances1 !y frequ5tly s5d _! c>ds1 accompani$ by an invitation1 to newcom]s y\ng] 9 ye>s1 ?us entirely omitt+ ! p]sonal visit4 ,su* invitations1 :e!r accept$ or n1 %\ld be honor$ 9 ! same mann] z if prec$$ by a call4 ,if two p meet pleasantly at a fri5d's h\se & wi% to cont9ue ! acqua9tance s begun1 let !m n hesitate1 %\ld none ( ! be=e-m5tion$ di/9ctions exi/1 z to :i* %\ld make ! fir/ visit4 ,/ill1 x is (ttimes wise n to call too ha/ily ^u ! newcom]1 especially 9 cities1 :]e x is well fir/ to be prop]ly introduc$1 & fur!r /ill to h "s assurance t y\r acqua9tance is desir$ by !m z well4 ,z be=e /at$1 priority ( resid5ce1 age1 or pre-em95ce 9 social position1 %\ld prop]ly be ^u ! side ( ! "o mak+ ! fir/ advances4 ,if none ( ^! exi/1 let ! brav] ( ! two break ! social ice4 ,! etiquette ( summ] resorts dem&s t ! own]s ( cottages call fir/ ^u r5t]s1 & aft]w>d t bo? unite 9 call+ ^u lat] com]s & arrivals at hotels or bo>d+ h\ses4 ,( c\rse1 su* int]c\rse is simply = ! pleasure ( ! "t be+1 & c>ries ) x no responsibility ( recognition 9 ! future1 unless su* recognition %\ld be satisfactory to bo? p>ties4 ,x w\ld be well = ! summ] girl & ! summ] "y man to rememb] ?is canon :]eby society gu>ds ! doors ( its exclusiv5ess1 enjoy ! good t ! gods give & expect no m4 ,sub/itute = ,fir/ ,call4 ,9 cont95tal c\ntries1 & 9 cosmopolitan ,wa%+ton1 newcom]s make ! fir/ advances !mselves1 leav+ c>ds ) ^? :om !y wi% to numb] among _! acqua9tances4 ,e "o returns ^! c>ds1 & invitations fl[ 9 ^u ! aspirant = social honors4 ,?is cu/om1 un=tunately1 does n hold good any:]e else 9 ?is c\ntry1 ?\gh a polite exp$i5t is sometimes adopt$ by p]sons ent]+ ^u life 9 a new city4 ,?is consi/s 9 ! newcom] s5d+ out h] c>ds = sev]al reception days 9 a mon?4 ,^! may be accompani$1 or n1 by ! c>d ( "s fri5d well kn[n 9 social circles1 if su* %e h1 to s]ve z v\*]4 ,if n1 %e relies ^u h] own m]its & s5ds out h] c>ds unaccompani$4 ,accord+ to ! v>i$ au?orities recomm5d+ ?is c\rse ( action1 ^? rudely ignor+ ?is sugge/ion are few 9 numb]1 & ! lady is p]mitt$ at once to feel t %e has comm5c$ h] social c>e]4 ,morn+ & ,ev5+ ,visits4 ,any visit made betwe5 ! h\rs ( twelve & six is to be look$ ^u z a morn+ visit1 ?\gh !re is a little diff]5ce 9 v>i\s cities ) reg>d to ! exact "t4 ,:]e "o expects to t\* ^u reception h\rs1 f ?ree to five is usually a safe limit4 ,9 c\ntry t[ns or ! small cities1 f two to five are ! usual h\rs = pay+ visits4 ,ev5+ visits %\ld be made betwe5 ! h\rs ( eight & n9e1 & ord9>ily %\ld nev] ext5d 9 l5g? beyond ! h\r ( t54 ,sunday ,visits4 ,g5tlem5 are p]mitt$ to call ^u lady fri5ds1 ,sundays aft] *ur* & ,sunday ev5+s1 bus9ess c>es be+ _! excuse = n avail+ !mselves ( ! o!r days ( ! week4 ,( c\rse1 if !re exi/s any kn[n objection 9 ! family to ,sunday visit+ all _! fri5ds are b\nd to respect x4 ,reception ,days4 ,if a lady h a kn[n reception day1 call]s are b\nd1 9 common polit5ess1 to make _! visits1 z f> z possible1 ^u t day4 ,if ?is is n done1 ei!r a c>d only %\ld be left1 or1 if a p]sonal visit is int5d$1 p>ticul> in/ructions %\ld be giv5 to ! s]vant to ! effect t if ,mrs4 ,br[n is o!rwise engag$ %e is n to tr\ble h]self to come d[n4 ,= :i* ?\ghtfulness1 ,mrs4 ,br[n1 if %e be a busy woman1 & tr\bl$ ) _m social c>es1 w cordially ?ank y4 ,un=tunately1 x (t5 happ5s t _m ( our fri5ds h ! same reception day1 & "o's own day may conflict ) t ( "o's ne>e/ fri5d1 s t1 :]e ! circle ( acqua9tance is l>ge1 mu* good nature1 a few apologies & a great _m c>ds are ne$$ to safely balance ! social acc\nts4 ,x is consid]$ a rud5ess to simply leave a c>d1 :5 "o happ5s to arrive ^u a lady's reception day1 )\t ent]+ ! room = a few mom5ts' visit4 ,n at ,home1 ,engag$4 ,! simple & necess>y =mul (1 ,n at home1 or ,engag$1 are m frequ5tly que/ion$ ?an any o!r social cu/om4 ,nev]!less _! use is (t5 a necessity1 :ile1 on ! contr>y1 _! abuse is to be regrett$4 ,no suspicion ( an untru? ne$ apply to ei!r1 = ! phrase1 ,n at home1 is us$ ) ! accept$ signification (1 ,n at home1 = ! "t be+1 to any visitors4 ,if1 h[ev]1 consci5ce rebels aga9/ ?is s transp>5t fraud1 !re is always ! alt]native ( ,engag$1 :i* c>ries n ! lea/ suspicion ( deception ) x1 b is some:at less graci\s to ! e>4 ,inde$1 7 x n = ^! safegu>ds1 ! woman ( society mu/ bid good-by to all opportunities = solitude1 self-improvem5t1 or ! fulfillm5t ( h] own social duties4 ,! s]vant %\ld be v c>efully in/ruct$ ea* morn+ z to ! =mul to be employ$ ?r\gh ! day1 or su* portion ( ! day z ! lady ( ! h\se %all require to h]self4 ,no lady1 aft] a s]vant has in=m$ h] t ! mi/ress ( ! h\se is n at home1 w "q z to h] :]eab\ts1 or ! probable l5g? ( h] abs5ce4 ,if %e %\ld s f> =get h] dignity1 ! well-tra9$ s]vant w answ] all inquiries ) a respectful1 ,i d n "k1 ,madame1 add+1 if su* be ! case1 ,mrs4 ,br[n receives on ,?ursdays4 ,%\ld a s]vant %[ evid5t hesitation ^u receiv+ y\r c>d1 & say1 ,i w see if ,mrs4 ,br[n is 91 ent] ! p>lor1 at ! same "t say+1 ,if ,mrs4 ,br[n is o!rwise engag$1 or go+ out1 beg h] n to tr\ble h]self4 ,nev]1 except ^u urg5t necessity1 insi/ ^u p5cill+ a ^w or two ^u a visit+ c>d & s5d+ x up1 :]e a lady is engag$1 z a dem& ^u h] att5tion4 ,if a s]vant has said ! lady is n at home1 %e has a p]fect "r to refuse ! message4 ,9 suburban t[ns & small cities1 :]e reception days are n common1 ! lady ( ! h\se mu/ be v c>eful h[ & :5 %e d5ies h]self to visitors4 ,inde$1 9 all cases mu* discrim9ation mu/ be %[n 9 ?is respect1 z great inconv5i5ce may result1 & "s inju/ice be done1 by an indiscrim9ate d5ial4 ,b1 z be=e said1 9 t[ns1 x is bett]1 if possible1 to receive gue/s4 ,ev5 if no s]vant is kept1 ! mi/ress c usually1 by ! ex]cise ( a little c>e1 keep h]self neat & pres5table4 ,if at any "t "s slight alt]ations are necess>y to ! toilet1 let ! int]val ?us employ$ be v %ort4 ,"s "o has said t x w\ld be well = a lady hav+ a reception day to devote a "p ( ! morn+ ( ! same day to bus9ess calls1 & to in/ruct h] s]vants to in=m all com]s ( ?is cu/om4 ,visit+ ,li/4 ,x is well = all ladies hav+ a l>ge li/ ( acqua9tances to keep a c>efully revis$ visit+ li/ to assi/ _! memories z to addresses1 names ( p]sons to invite1 reception days ( acqua9tances1 &1 if possible1 a li/ ( _! own c]emoni\s visits = ! season1 not+ ^? t h be5 return$4 ,! "t ?us exp5d$ is amply repaid by ! conv5i5ce ( ref]5ce & ! avoidance ( ! possibility ( mak+ a second visit :5 ! fir/ is unreturn$4 ,also ?is li/ s]ves z a basis = ! visit+ li/ ( ! next season2 ^? hav+ fail$ to return calls or c>ds be+ dropp$ f ! new li/4 ,visits ,betwe5 ,ladies & ,g5tlem54 ,a g5tleman1 z a rule1 %\ld n ask a lady = p]mission to call ^u h]4 ,x is v easy = h]1 if %e desires 8 company1 to say3 ,i receive ,?ursdays1 or1 ,i %all be at home ,monday4 ,x is a great disc\rtesy = a g5tleman n to call at ! "t m5tion$1 or 9 a v few days1 aft] be+ ?us invit$ by a lady4 ,"s g5tlem51 if simply ask$ to call sometime1 w ask1 :5 may ,i h ! pleasure ( see+ y8 ,to ?is "q a def9ite answ] %\ld be return$1 if possible4 ,v "y ladies d n ?us invite g5tlem52 ! invitation com+ f ei!r fa!r1 "m1 or *ap]on4 ,a g5tleman does n call ^u a lady )\t "s intimation ( h] wi%es 9 ! matt]1 unless he is ! be>] ( a lett] ( introduction1 or is tak5 to h] home by "s fri5d suffici5tly well acqua9t$ to w>rant ! lib]ty4 ,he may1 h[ev]1 seek an introduction ?r\gh "s mutual acqua9tance4 ,ladies may express regret at be+ out :5 a g5tleman call$2 he also %\ld regret ! abs5ce4 ,if x %\ld happ5 t a g5tleman %\ld call sev]al times 9 succession & be s un=tunate z to miss ! lady ea* "t1 x w\ld be q prop] = h] to write him a note1 regrett+ h] abs5ce & appo9t+ an ev5+ :5 %e w\ld be at home = 8 next call4 ,?is w\ld remove any feel+ ( annoyance on 8 "p t p]haps h] abs5ce _h be5 prem$itat$4 ,g5tlem5 frequ5tly call ^u _! m>ri$ lady fri5ds1 do+ s )\t ! slighte/ appe>ance ( secrecy & ) full k ( all p>ties conc]n$4 ,inde$1 ! "r ( entrance to "s ( ^! pleasant home p>lors is a great boon to ! unm>ri$ m5 ( our cities4 ,ladies d n call ^u g5tlem5 except pr(essionally or (ficially1 or1 x may be1 9 "s cases ( protract$ invalidism4 ,out ( ,society4 ,x sometimes happ5s t a newly-m>ri$ lady1 or a newcom] 9 "s city1 ?r\gh sev]e illness1 a season ( m\rn+1 or devotion to home duties1 f9ds h]self1 9 a ye> or s1 completely out ( a society ) :i* %e _h sc>cely become acqua9t$4 ,if %e be timid & non-ass]tive1 %e w s9k back dismay$ at ! prospect1 b if en]getic & aspir+1 %e w at once w9 h] way back by giv+ a s]ies ( receptions1 ei!r =mal or in=mal1 to all h] old-"t fri5ds2 or1 by ent]+ into *>ities1 or jo9+ lit]>y or musical clubs1 %e w quickly re9/ate h]self 9 ! memory ( society4 ,conduct ( ! ,ho/ess4 ,a ho/ess does n necess>ily advance to receive h] gue/s1 simply ris+ & mov+ =w>d a /ep 9 ord] to %ake h&s 7if %e %\ld s wi%71 rema9+ /&+ till !y are seat$1 &1 if possible1 keep+ ! late/ com] ne> h] side4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld always p]mit ! lady to make ! fir/ advance 9 ! matt] ( h&-%ak+4 ,x is h] pr]ogative4 ,z ! gue/s dep>t1 ! ho/ess does n accompany ea* "o to ! door1 b ris+1 rema9s /&+ until ! gue/s h q left ! room1 :5 x is to be suppos$ !y w be met by a s]vant4 ,9 c\ntry t[ns ! ho/ess usually accompanies ! gue/ to ! door1 if !re are o!rs pres5t1 excus+ h]self to !m & rema9+ out ( ! room b a mom5t4 ,ent]ta9+ ,call]s4 ,:]e !re are sev]al gue/s 9 ! room at once ! ho/ess %\ld try to make ! conv]sation g5]al & pay equal att5tion to all1 save t = a few mom5ts1 ! late/ arrival engages h] m intimately1 or "s gue/ ( great intellectual or arti/ic g5ius may be honor$ among ! re/1 z a lion ( ! h\r4 ,if y %\ld *ance to f9d1 at once1 9 y\r reception room1 two fri5ds ) :om y are ^u equal t]ms ( intimacy1 treat !m ) ! mo/ absolute imp>tiality1 be+ demon/rative t[>d nei!r1 = !re is too mu* tru? 9 ! say+ t !re is always a feel+ ( jeal\sy on ! "p ( ea*1 t ano!r %\ld %>e y\r ?\ghts & feel+s to ! same ext5t z !mselves4 ,!re are o!r occasions :]e ! same c>e aga9/ w\nd+ _! feel+s %\ld be obs]v$4 ,if !re %\ld be any pref]5ce ) reg>d to seats1 "o sugge/ion is t a lady %\ld be seat$ on a c\* or s(a1 unless advanc$ 9 ye>s1 :5 %e %\ld be ask$ to accept an easy *air2 an eld]ly g5tleman %\ld be treat$ 9 ! same mann]4 ,if a "y lady %\ld be occupy+ a p>ticul>ly com=table seat1 %e mu/ at once arise & (f] x to an old] lady ent]+ ! room4 ,%\ld ! ho/ess1 ^u ! arrival ( occasional visitors1 be engag$ ^u "w requir+ any att5tion1 %e mu/ at once rel9qui% x2 b %\ld x be light1 ornam5tal1 & n at all conf9+1 %e may cont9ue x1 if s reque/$4 ,x w\ld be well1 h[ev]1 to drop x at int]vals1 le/ x appe> z if !re 7 m int]e/ 9 ! "w ?an ! visitor4 ,refre%m5ts are n (f]$ to visitors unless x is a regul> reception day ) aft]noon tea4 ,conduct ( ! ,gue/s4 ,if a visitor on ent]+ ! room f9ds t "n or face has n be5 rememb]$ by ! ho/ess1 let ! difficulty be rectifi$ by ! gue/ pron\nc+ ! "n in/antly & di/9ctly1 ! ho/ess1 on h] "p1 to rememb] names & faces4 ,a bad memory is inconsi/5t ) good mann]s4 ,9 v fa%ionable h\ses a s]vant ann\nces ! "n ( ea* gue/ z !y ent]1 ?us sav+ any confusion4 ,%\ld y f9d y\rself u%]$ into a room :]e !re are sev]al inmates1 all /rang]s1 ask = ! individual y wi% to see & introduce y\rself di/9ctly4 ,if y\r fri5d is at a hotel1 wait 9 ! p>lor until ! s]vant :o c>ries up y\r c>d has return$ to tell y :e!r y c be admitt$4 ,nev] foll[ him z he goes to make ! ann\ncem5t4 ,a little =mality is ! be/ pres]vative ( fri5d%ip4 ,if1 :ile y are pay+ a visit1 o!r gue/s arrive1 y %\ld1 provid+ y\r /ay has be5 suffici5tly long1 arise s soon z !y are quietly seat$1 make y\r adieus to y\r ho/ess1 b[ politely to ! o!r inmates ( ! room & take y\r dep>ture4 ,if y %\ld be call+ ^u a lady & meet a lady visitor 9 h] draw+ room1 y %\ld rise :5 t lady takes h] leave4 ,! /yle ( conv]sation %\ld always be 9 keep+ ) ! circum/ances "u :i* ! visit is made4 ,common s5se alone %\ld tea* u t :]e a %ort morn+ call is 9 "q1 light1 witty & quickly-*ang$ subjects only %\ld be ent]$ ^u1 ! nature ( ! case pla9ly prohibit+ discussions on _m topics4 ,g5tlem5 are expect$ n to use classical quotations be=e ladies )\t a slight apology & a translation1 unless !y are aw>e t ! lady's educational tra9+ has made x possible = h] to appreciate !m4 ,x w\ld be well if !y w\ld use ! same c\rtesy t[>d o!r m5 n gift$ l !mselves4 ,= a g5]al maxim1 x may be "h recomm5d$ n to air "o's classical le>n+ unnecess>ily1 le/ x savor ( p$antry4 ,gue/s %\ld greet _! ho/ess cordially1 b a b[ is usually suffici5t to include ! o!rs pres5t4 ,"y ladies visit+ a /range city %\ld n receive calls f a g5tleman )\t reque/+ ! privilege f _! ho/ess1 & ho/ess & daught]s %\ld be introduc$ to him4 ,always avoid ! slighte/ appe>ance ( seem+ to use y\r fri5d's h\se = a r5dezv\s4 ,def]5ce to ,ladies4 ,a g5tleman rises :5 ladies leave ! room4 ,ladies b[ if x is a g5tleman1 ris+ if x is a lady acqua9tance1 or a lady mu* old] ?an !mselves4 ,a g5tleman rises :5 ladies ent] a room1 b nev] (f]s !m 8 *air unless !re %\ld be no o!r 9 ! room4 ,a g5tleman c>ries 8 hat & cane into ! draw+ room ) him 9 mak+ a visit4 ,8 ho/ess %\ld no m (f] to relieve him ( !m t %e w\ld take fan & h&k]*ief f ! h&s ( h] lady gue/s4 ,if he we>s an out] coat he leaves t 9 ! hall2 if !re %\ld be no hall ! ho/ess may ask him to put x on a *air or 9 ano!r room4 ,8 hat & cane he ei!r holds if he *ooses1 or places beside him on ! floor1 nev] on a *air or o!r article ( furniture4 ,if he int5ds sp5d+ ! ev5+1 he c1 if he *oose1 leave hat & cane 9 ! hall4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld nev] br+ fri5ds ) !m to call ^u ladies unless !y h fir/ receiv$ p]mission f !m s to d4 ,aft] escort+ a lady on ! previ\s ev5+ ! g5tleman %\ld make a call ^u h] ! foll[+ day1 if possible4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld n consult _! wat*es dur+ a c]emoni\s visit4 ,if "s press+ engagem5t %\ld r5d] ?is necess>y1 !y %\ld (f] bo? an apology & an explanation4 ,a g5tleman1 unless invit$1 %\ld nev] seat himself beside 8 ho/ess1 b %\ld take ! *air po9t$ out to him4 ,g5tlem51 9 receiv+ o!r g5tlem51 g to ! door to meet !m & furni% !m ) seats4 ,! man ( ! h\se %\ld escort ladies to _! c>riage1 %\ld !y call :ile he is at home4 ,if x be ra9+ or o!rwise disagreeable1 & !y h _! own coa*man1 !y %\ld1 h[ev]1 beg him n to tr\ble himself4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld decl9e an invitation to sp5d ! ev5+ :5 mak+ a fir/ visit2 inde$1 su* an invitation %\ld nev] be giv54 ,a man is usually ask$ to repeat 8 visit by ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 n by ! daught]s1 or else x is giv5 by _! *ap]on4 ,:at ,n to ,d4 ,d n1 accord+ to ! au?or ( ,don't1 be 9 ha/e to seat y\rself2 "o appe>s fully z well & talks bett]1 /&+ = a few mom5ts4 ,a man %\ld always rema9 /&+ z long z !re are any wom5 /&+ 9 ! room4 ,a man %\ld nev] take any article f a woman's h&s--book1 cup1 fl[]1 etc4--& rema9 seat$1 %e /&+4 ,?is rule is an imp]ative "o2 he mu/ always rise to receive x4 ,d n take "y *ildr5 :5 mak+ =mal calls2 ! ho/ess w be 9 t]ror z to ! fate ( h] bric--brac1 & ! "m 9 dread z to :at h] "y hopefuls may say or d4 ,d n take pet dogs ) y into ! draw+ room4 ,_! feet may be du/y1 !y may be boi/]\s 9 express+ _! feel+s1 & besides1 "s p h a p]fect av]sion to dogs1 s t y\r visit1 ?us accompani$1 is likely to be f> f pleasant4 ,d n m$dle )1 nor />e at ! articles 9 ! room4 ,d n toss ov] ! c>ds 9 ! c>d receiv]1 if !re be "o1 &1 :ile y\r "n is be+ ann\nc$1 d n w&] impati5tly ar\nd ! room h&l+ ev]y?+ )9 rea*4 ,d n loll ab\t 9 y\r *air1 if a g5tleman 7a lady sc>cely ne$s ?is caution71 keep y\r feet squ>ely 9 front ( y1 n cross+ !m2 ladies w\ld d well to he$ ?is also4 ,d n torm5t pet dogs or cats1 or tease ! *ildr54 ,d n call ! l5g? ( ! room if y wi% to address any "o1 b cross ! room & speak to him quietly4 ,nei!r %\ld y :isp] to "s "o ( ! company1 twi/ or curl y\r ?umbs or h&s1 or play ) ! tassels on ! furniture or w9d[ curta9s1 or commit any ( ! ?\s& & "o blund]s t m>k ! und]br$ & n]v\s visitor & r5d] 8 pres5ce an unwelcome trial4 ,!re are a few o!r rules t w\ld seem unnecess>y to m5tion "h 7 x n t !y are s con/antly s9n$ aga9/4 ,among o!rs x may be sugge/$ n to d any?+ disagreeable 9 company4 ,d n scrat* ! head or use a too?pick1 e>spoon or comb2 ^! are = ! privacy ( y\r own ap>tm5t4 ,use a h&k]*ief :5ev] necess>y1 b )\t glanc+ at x aft]w>ds1 & be quiet & unobtrusive 9 ! action z possible4 ,d n slam ! door1 d n tilt y\r *air back to ! loos5+ ( its jo9ts1 d n lean y\r head aga9/ ! wall1 z x w soil ! pap]+2 9 %ort1 d unto o!rs z y w\ld be done by4 ,d n tell long /ories1 m especially if !y are ab\t y\rself2 d n argue2 d n talk sc&al1 & be sure n to attack ! religi\s beliefs ( any "o pres5t4 ,d /udy ! *apt] on ! ,art ( ,conv]sation1 & cultivate1 z mu* z possible1 t self-repose ( mann] t is1 above all ?+s1 a sign ( ! lady or g5tleman4 ,! ,reception-,room4 ,! arrangem5t ( ! reception-room itself has mu* to d ) ! pleasure ( ! visitor4 ,:o does n rememb] ^? delightful p>lors :]e ! gue/s dropp$ into pleasant conv]sational gr\ps z by magic1 & contra/ !m m5tally ) ^? o!r *illy ap>tm5ts :]e a sort ( m5tal fro/ seems to settle ov] "o's faculties & incapacitate !m = use4 ,mu* ( ?is may be avoid$ by a judici\s arrangem5t ( *airs & c\*es1 j :]e p drop naturally into easy gr\ps1 or1 = ! "t be+1 surr\nd _! ho/ess4 ,prop9quity is a great inc5tive to pleasant conv]sation1 = !re are few p t c talk ! pretty no?+s & sp>kl+ witticisms1 :]e( p>lor conv]sation prop]ly consi/s1 across space to p /r&$ aga9/ ! opposite wall4 ,!re=e let ! ho/ess1 :o w\ld h h] symposiums rememb]$ ) delight1 see to x t %e has an abundance ( *airs1 bo? easy & light1 easy ones = ! refre%m5t ( ! we>y 9 body & light ones t may be quickly mov$ :5 ! _s moves t[>d "s o!r gr\p4 ,a clev] woman1 to :om all social arts 7 long-solv$ problems1 once said t %e always obs]v$ h[ ! *airs 7 left 9 a draw+ room :]e sev]al p _h be5 sitt+ & put !m 9 ! same position next "t4 ,a gr\p ne> ! door :]e ! casual call] w naturally drop into "o & ! ho/ess into ano!r1 )\t ! lea/ ef=t1 w be plac$ 9 ! be/ possible position = a little *at4 ,fulfill ^! conditions & y\r draw+ room w be (t5 fill$ & ! fame ( x w g abroad4 ,=mal calls1 z a rule1 are at be/ b a duty p]=m$ t br+s a satisfaction 9 itself1 b x sometimes happ5s t1 z a rew>d = our well-do+1 "s ^w may be said1 "s fri5d may be met by a happy *ance t is l a gleam ( sun%9e on a cl\dy day4 ,illu/ration ,,invitations ,,=mal ,,& ,,in=mal ,illu/ration ,!re are c]ta9 rules to be obs]v$ 9 ! writ+ ( invitations t _c be transgress$ )\t incurr+ a j suspicion z to ! degree ( "o's acqua9tance ) ! laws & canons t gov]n our be/ society4 ,= in/ance1 ,mrs4 ,john ,doe issues invitations = a ball or ev5+ p>ty2 ^!1 if issu$ 9 h] own "n or 9 ! "n ( h]self & daught]1 or lady fri5d1 w\ld1 v prop]ly1 f9d !m at home on a c]ta9 ev5+4 ,%\ld1 h[ev]1 ! invitations be s5t out 9 ! "n ( h]self & husb&1 !n x is t ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,doe reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ri*>d ,roe's company at a c]ta9 date4 ,we w also f9d t ,mr4 ,dick ,roe is nev] at home1 b reque/s ! pleasure ( y\r company4 ,to widely dep>t f any ( ^! receiv$ canons ( etiquette is to commit a decid$ solecism & to discov] an utt] unfitness = ! desir$ social rank4 ,=tunately1 !re is no ne$1 ev5 = ^? n to ! manor born1 ( display+ any ignorance 9 ?is matt] :5 ! simple consultation ( a /&>d "w on social etiquette w give ! ne$$ in=mation & save ! cr$it ( ! individual4 ,at fir/ sight1 x w\ld seem a v easy ?+ to invite a fri5d to come to y at a giv5 day & h\r1 & to accept or decl9e said invitation w\ld appe> a matt] sc>cely wor? consid]+4 ,?is ra% conclusion1 h[ev]1 disappe>s f view :5 x is recollect$ t ! prop] phras+1 ! suitable signature1 & ! appropriate pap]1 are all matt]s ( ! nice/ *oice1 & indicate ) ! mo/ un]r+ accuracy ! good or ill bre$+ ( ! p>ties int]e/$4 ,f two to ?ree p]sons only are invit$ f "o family to ! same ent]ta9m5t1 &1 9 ! ev5t ( a small d9n] p>ty1 two w\ld be ! limit4 ,! invitations w\ld be address$1 n to ,mr4 ,coates & family1 b "o to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,coates1 ano!r to ,! ,misses ,coates1 or to ,miss ,coates4 ,if !re are bro!rs1 & !y are to be invit$1 a sep>ate invitation is requir$ = ea* "o ( !m2 a s+le "o address$ to ! ,messrs4 ,coates be+ consid]$ 9 bad ta/e4 ,to "o son & "o daught] a jo9t invitation may be ext5d$ 9 ! "n ( ,miss ,coates & ,bro!r4 ,on r in=mal occasions :]e ! family1 & p]haps _! gue/s also1 are desir$ to be pres5t1 ! invitation may be s5t 9 ! "n ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,james ,b4 ,coates & ,p>ty4 ,note ,pap] = ,invitations4 ,note pap] = invitations %\ld be pla91 unrul$1 heavy 9 texture1 creamy-:ite 9 t9t1 & ( a size to fold once to fit ! l>ge1 squ>e envelope ( ! same size & t9t4 ,monogram1 if us$1 or cre/s1 if !y may be rightfully claim$1 %\ld be /amp$ or emboss$ 9 :ite directly 9 ! c5t] ( ! upp] portion ( ! %eet & on ! upp] flap ( ! inn] envelope only4 ,?is envelope %\ld be> ! "n simply ( ! invit$ gue/1 & is to be enclos$ 9 a p]fectly pla91 some:at l>g] envelope1 :i* be>s ! entire address & protects ! enclosure f ! soil ( frequ5t h&l+ by po/man or mess5g]4 ,invitation ,c>ds4 ,invitation c>ds1 if !y are us$1 %\ld be heavy1 creamy-:ite1 & ( a size to fit ! l>ge1 squ>e envelope4 ,su* a c>d is suffici5tly l>ge to conta9 any ord9>y invitation1 & %\ld be enclos$1 z above1 9 two envelopes4 ,writ+ ! invitation %\ld receive ! greate/ c>e1 especial att5tion be+ giv5 to secur+ ea* phrase a l9e to itself4 ,= in/ance1 ! names ( ho/ & ho/ess %\ld nev] be sep>at$1 b giv5 an entire l9e1 ! same rule apply+ to ! names ( ! invit$ gue/s4 ,invitations writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son %\ld always be repli$ to 9 ! ?ird p]son1 c>e be+ tak5 to p]mit no *ange ( p]son f beg9n+ to end ( ! note4 ,?is rule holds good 9 :atev] p]son ! invitation may h be5 writt52 regrets or acceptances mu/ be s5t 9 ! same mann]4 ,no "o1 n[adays1 pres5ts 8 7or h]7 complim5ts 9 giv+ or accept+ an invitation2 nei!r is y\r polite invitation any long] ! be/ =m4 ,y\r k9d1 or y\r v k9d invitation1 be+ ! mo/ graceful mann] ( ackn[l$g+ ! c\rtesy ext5d$4 ,writt5 ,regrets4 ,always1 if possible1 accept a fir/ invitation if ! new acqua9tance is to be kept up4 ,9 case inexorable circum/ances prev5t ?is acceptance1 ! regret s5t %\ld expla9 ^! circum/ances fully & be v cordially writt52 :ile ! e>lie/ opportunity mu/ be tak5 ( ext5d+ "s c\rtesy 9 return4 ,ev5 %\ld y n desire ! acqua9tance1 y\r regrets %\ld be c\rte\s & c>ds %\ld be left at ! h\se 9 response to _! civility4 ,x is !n at y\r own option :e!r or n to ackn[l$ge ! acqua9tance f>!r4 ,invitations c be writt5 or engrav$ on ! l>ge c>ds1 or small %eets ( note pap]1 t are us$ = ?is purpose1 ?\gh1 on all =mal occasions1 engrav$ =ms 9 cle>1 f9e script are pref]able1 & = w$d+s absolutely necess>y4 ,if writt51 black ink %\ld be inv>iably us$4 ,a "y lady nev] s5ds out invitations 9 h] own "n2 in/ead1 ,mrs4 & ,miss ,hoyt are at home1 or ! "n ( ! "y lady's *ap]on appe>s ) h] own1 z3 ,mrs4 ,havil& & ,miss ,hoyt1 at home1 etc4 ,un9vit$ ,gue/s4 ,%\ld x s happ5 t an un9vit$ gue/ f9ds1 accid5tally1 8 way into ! fe/ivities1 let ! /ricte/ polit5ess m>k 8 reception1 nei!r ^w nor glance betray+ ! slighte/ surprise at ! unexpect$ arrival4 ,invit+ ,m>ri$ ,p4 ,a m>ri$ man %\ld nev] be invit$ to an ent]ta9m5t )\t 8 wife1 nor a m>ri$ woman )\t includ+ h] husb& also 9 ! invitation4 ,an invitation err+ 9 ?is p>ticul> %\ld be look$ ^u z an insult1 & %\ld nev] be honor$ by an acceptance4 ,?is category1 h[ev]1 does n include ga!r+s1 su* z ladies' lun*eons or g5tlem5's game supp]s1 t are :olly conf9$ to ! memb]s ( "o sex4 ,d9n]s4 ,ladies :o give _m d9n] p>ties usually keep on h& ! engrav$ invitation c>ds1 ) blanks left = ! ins]tion ( "n & date4 ,! invitation = a d9n] p>ty is always s5t out 9 ! "n ( bo? ho/ & ho/ess1 & ! usual =m is z foll[s3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,grant ,:ite ,reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company at d9n]1 ,on ---- ev5+1 ----1 ,at eight o'clock4 #ha ,gracel& ,c\rt4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,! lett]s ,r4,s4,v4,p4 are simply ! initials ( ! ,fr5* words1 ,repondez s'il v\s plait1 mean+1 ,reply1 if y please4 ,"s v /yli% p n[ use1 9 place ( ^! lett]s1 ! ,engli% phrase3 ,! favor ( answ] is reque/$4 ,writt5 invitations1 or ^? engrav$ = a s+le occasion1 w\ld read z foll[s3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,philip ,vance ,reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,otis ,sullivan's ,company at d9n]1 ,on ,tuesday1 ,m>* #f?1 at #h o'clock4 #cd ,a%l& ,b\lev>d4 ,! favor ( an answ] is reque/$4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 c be sub/itut$ = ! la/ phrase1 if desir$4 ,if ! ho/ be a wid[] ) a "y lady daught]1 ! invitation c be issu$ 9 ! "n ( fa!r & daught]1 z3 ,mr4 & ,miss ,van ,vleit1 etc41 or1 a lady & h] daught]1 "u simil> circum/ances1 w\ld issue invitations 9 ! "n ( ,mrs4 ,holt & ,miss ,holt4 ,p]sons :o make a po9t ( /rictly obs]v+ ! usages ( polite society are extremely c>eful1 hav+ receiv$ any invitation1 to take imm$iate notice ( x1 accord+ to prop] =m4 ,?is is only a c\rtesy due to ! "o :o has s5t ! invitation1 :i* %\ld be accept$ or decl9$ promptly1 9 ord] t ! ho/ess may "k :at to dep5d ^u4 ,if ! d9n] p>ty is giv5 to introduce ei!r a fri5d or "s p]son ( di/9ction1 an extra c>d1 inscrib$ z foll[s1 is enclos$ 9 ! same envelope3 ,to meet ,,mr4 ----4 ,ano!r =m w\ld be3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,jackson ,reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,br[n's ,company at d9n]1 ,to meet ,rob]t ,br[n+1 ,?ursday1 ,octob] #h? at sev5 o'clock4 #fib ,ar* ,/reet4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,x is well1 if ! p>ty is giv5 9 honor ( "s celebrat$ p]son1 to give !m ! *oice ( sev]al dates be=e issu+ ! g5]al invitation1 ?us assur+ y\rself t no conflict+ engagem5t w rob ! ent]ta9m5t ( its bright1 p>ticul> />4 ,an invitation to a d9n] is ! highe/ social complim5t t c be (f]$4 ,x %\ld be s5t out ab\t t5 days 9 advance1 & requires an imm$iate & positive answ]1 = x is to be suppos$ t ! ho/ess wi%es to make up h] table at once4 ,bo? invitation & answ] %\ld be s5t by mess5g]2 all o!r invitations1 & replies to ! same1 may be s5t by mail4 ,9 ,london1 h[ev]1 :]e di/ances are s great1 all invitations1 )\t exception1 are s5t by po/4 ,9 case ( an in=mal d9n]1 a v]bal invitation is sometimes s5t1 "o or two days be=eh&1 by a s]vant1 & a v]bal answ] is giv5 at ! "t4 ,! pr9cipal objection aga9/ ?is me?od is t ! date1 hav+ no writt5 rem9d]1 may be conf\nd$ ) "s o!r engagem5t4 ,:]e ! affair is n too /ately1 an in=mal invitation1 writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son1 may be pleasantly ex*ang$ betwe5 fri5d & fri5d4 ,= in/ance3 ,,my ,,de> ,,mrs4 ,,roe3 ,my aunt1 ,mrs4 ,le,fevre1 ( ,new ,york ,city1 is "h ) me = a %ort /ay1 & ,mr4 ,doe & ,i hope t y & ,mr4 ,roe c give u ! pleasure ( y\r company at d9n]1 on ,tuesday1 ,octob] n9?1 at sev5 o'clock1 :51 ) a few o!r fri5ds1 we hope to pass a pleasant h\r 9 y\r society4 ,cordially y\rs1 ,,m>ian ,,doe ,mrs4 ,m>ian ,doe1 ,/4 ,c>ol9e's ,c\rt4 ,ask+ = ,invitations4 ,ask+ = invitations = "o's visit+ fri5ds1 :ile p]missible on "s occasions1 su* z reque/+ ! favor ( br++ a g5tleman to a ball :]e danc+ m5 are always at a premium1 or an unexpect$ gue/ ( y\r family to a reception or ev5+ p>ty1 %\ld nev] be resort$ to :5 a d9n] p>ty is 9 "q1 =1 to gratify ! reque/ w\ld1 9 all probability1 ?r[ ! :ole ( a c>efully arrang$ table into disord]4 ,?is rule is only to be brok5 :5 ! gue/ to be includ$ is "s really celebrat$ "* ^: addition to ! company w\ld comp5sate = ! extra cov]s to be laid & ! re-arrangem5ts to be made be=e ! unexpect$ gue/ c be accommodat$4 ,no "o1 h[ev]1 %\ld feel (f5se :5 a reque/ ( ?is nature is refus$4 ,! ho/ess1 9 all probability1 _h good & suffici5t reasons = h] c\rse ( action4 ,invitations = a m>ri$ c\ple %\ld nev] be reque/$4 ,ev5+ ,p>ties1 ,balls & ,at ,homes4 ,invitations to ^! ent]ta9m5ts are issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! ho/ess only1 & are s5t out f t5 days to two weeks 9 advance4 ,in=mal occasions1 h[ev]1 give v %ort notice1 & x is well to use ! ^w in=mal 9 ! invitation1 t gue/s may n put !mselves to inconv5i5ce z reg>ds dress4 ,x mu/ be rememb]$ t ?is t]m is too (t5 mislead+ 9 its nature1 & _m a s5sitive gue/ has be5 s]i\sly annoy$ by f9d+ h]self1 aft] a too lit]al int]pretation ( ! in=mal "* ( ! ent]ta9m5t1 9 a cr[d ( gay butt]flies1 a misuse ( ! ^w t %\ld be s]i\sly prote/$ aga9/4 ,invitations to ev5+ p>ties & private balls are less elaborate ?an =m]ly2 ! ^w p>ty or ball is nev] us$ unless on ! occasion ( "s public affair1 su* z a *>ity ball1 b any especial feature ( ! ev5+ may be m5tion$ 9 ! invitation4 ,to an ev5+ p>ty :]e danc+ may1 or may n1 be a feature ( ! ent]ta9m5t1 ! foll[+1 ei!r engrav$ or writt5 on a small %eet ( note pap]1 is a v good =m3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,/uyvesant ,w5twor? ,reque/s ! pleasure ( ! company ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,m>k ,c[d51 ,on ,w$nesday ev5+1 ,july #d?1 ,at n9e o' clock4 ,in=mal4 ,all invitations are to be consid]$ z =mal unless ! ^w in=mal appe>s on ! c>d4 ,if ! c>d /ates t ! ent]ta9m5t is to be in=mal1 ! invit$ gue/ is fully ju/ifi$ 9 consid]+ x s1 & dress+ accord+ly4 ,nei!r ho/1 ho/ess1 nor o!r gue/s c take any exception if ! invitation is treat$ j z x reads4 ,if danc+ is ! feature ( ! ev5+1 ! same =m may be us$ ) ! ^w ,danc+ add$ 9 ! l[] left h& corn]4 ,or3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,john ,burr[s1 ,at ,home1 ,?ursday ev5+1 ,octob] fir/1 ,at n9e o'clock4 #ajhj ,le,france ,av5ue4 ,quadrilles at t54 ,if ! ball is at a public place1 z at ,delmonico's1 9 ,new ,york1 ! foll[+ =m is appropriate1 always mak+ use1 9 case ( s public an ent]ta9m5t1 ( ! ho/'s "n 9 connection ) t ( ! ho/ess3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,george ,d\glas ,reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company1 ,?ursday ev5+1 ,decemb] twelf?1 ,at n9e o'clock4 ,delmonico's4 ,ano!r =m t w\ld be equally appropriate is z foll[s3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,augu/us ,saltus1 ,sang] ,halle1 ,w$nesday ev5+1 ,janu>y tw5tie?4 ,g]man at n9e4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,if any ( ^! occasions are int5d$ to introduce a dbutante1 h] c>d may be enclos$4 ,if !y are giv5 9 honor ( a fri5d1 or "s celebrat$ individual1 ! foll[+ =m is appropriate3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,h5ry ,alex&] ,reque/s ! favor ( y\r company on ,tuesday ev5+1 ,octob] t5?1 ,f eight to elev5 o'clock1 ,to meet ! ,rev4 ,pr(4 ,dr4 ,kemp1 ,( ! ,pr9ceton ,!ological ,sem9>y4 #fhd ,we/ #di? ,/reet4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,or1 if v =mal1 ! "n ( ! gue/ may be giv5 fir/1 z3 ,to meet ! ,,*ief ,,ju/ice ,,( ,,! ,,unit$ ,,/ates & ,,mrs4 ,,full]4 ,,mrs4 ,,h>old ,,c\rtright1 ,at ,home1 f eight to elev5 o'clock1 ,?ursday1 ,febru>y sev5?4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,?is same prec$5ce may be giv5 to ! "n ( an honor$ gue/ 9 a d9n] or o!r invitation4 ,/ill ano!r =m is :]e ! "n ( ! gue/ is writt5 on a sep>ate c>d1 ?us3 ,to meet ,,mrs4 ,,summ]ville4 ,enclose ?is 9 ! same envelope4 ,= a club p>ty ! foll[+ may be us$3 ,,! ,,la ,,salle ,,club reque/s ! pleasure ( y\r att5dance ,w$nesday ev5+1 ,june eight1 at n9e o'clock4 #eee ,we/ #ea/ ,/reet4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,a /ill m simple =m = a p>ty invitation is an ,at ,home c>d fill$ out ?us3 ,,mrs4 ,,don ,,c>los ,,port]1 ,at ,home1 ,tuesday ev5+1 ,m>* f\r?4 #ajba ,broadway4 ,cotillion at t54 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,masqu]ades4 ,! entire invitation = a masqu]ade may be engrav$1 or x may be writt51 ) ! exception ( ! ^w ,masqu]ade1 :i* %\ld be engrav$ on ! c>d4 ,= example3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,l4,j4 ,le,fevre ,reque/s ! pleasure ( y\r company1 ,saturday ev5+1 ,novemb] twelf?1 ,at eight o'clock4 ,masqu]ade4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 #ee ,ea/ ,?irtie? ,/reet4 ,musicales1 ,soires & ,mat9es4 ,invitations to a ,musicale are simply writt5 on ,at ,home c>ds1 ?us3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,p4,v4 ,van,vechton1 ,at ,home1 ,tuesday1 ,april second4 ,music at half-pa/ ?ree4 ,or3 ,,mrs4 ,p4,v4 ,,vanve*ton1 ,at ,home1 ,tuesday aft]noon1 ,april second1 f half-pa/ ?ree to five o'clock4 ,mat9e ,musicale4 ,if ! ,musicale is to be an ev5+ affair1 & danc+ is to foll[ ! music1 ! foll[+ =m ( invitation may be us$3 ,,mrs4 ,,h]b]t ,,hughes1 ,at ,home1 ,friday ev5+1 ,janu>y t5?1 at eight o'clock4 #bjj ,w9*e/] ,av5ue4 ,music4 ,danc+ at t54 ,precisely ! same =m is to be us$ 9 giv+ out invitations = a soire1 save t ! ^w soire is sub/itut$ = t ( ,musicale or mat9e musicale4 ,x may be f>!r add$ t ! t]m mat9e applies exclusively to ent]ta9m5ts giv5 9 ! morn+1 or at any "t be=e d9n]1 a di/9ction to :i* our cu/om ( late d9n]s gives a wide latitude1 s t any ent]ta9m5t up to eight o'clock 9 ! ev5+ may receive ! "n ( mat9e1 not)/&+ ! fact t drawn curta9s & gas-light$ rooms may give all ! semblance ( night-"t4 ,soire1 h[ev]1 is us$ only :]e an ev5+ p>ty ( a semi-in=mal "* is d5ot$4 ,g>d5 ,p>ties4 ,precisely ! same =m ( ,at ,home c>ds c be us$ = ^! ent]ta9m5ts1 sub/itut+ ! words ,g>d5 ,p>ty 9 ! left h& corn] & s5d+ !m out "s two or ?ree days 9 advance4 ,or1 if a m =mal affair is int5d$1 use ! foll[+3 ,,mrs4 ,,waite ,,talcott reque/s ! pleasure ( ! company ( ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,clay1 on ,monday1 ,augu/ fif?1 at f\r o'clock4 ,g>d5 ,p>ty4 ,! ,oaks4 ,if x %\ld be desirable to include ! entire family 9 ! invitation1 ! word+ w\ld be z foll[s3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,clay & ,p>ty4 ,mrs4 ,waite ,talcott1 ,at ,home1 ,tuesday1 ,augu/ fif?1 at f\r o'clock4 ,! ,oaks4 ,g>d5 ,p>ty4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,c>riages w meet ! #c4dj tra9 f ,union ,depot4 ,?is clause to be add$ only :5 ! p>ty is to be giv5 at "s di/ance f ! /ation4 ,if pref]r$1 ^! directions may be writt5 on a sep>ate small c>d & enclos$ 9 ! same envelope4 ,9 ?is c\ntry we are n s accu/om$ to giv+ g>d5 p>ties z p are 9 ,engl&1 b a g>d5 p>ty may easily be made "o ( ! mo/ invit+ & enjoyable ( any4 ,breakfa/s1 ,lun*eons & ,supp]s4 ,breakfa/ invitations may be engrav$ or writt5 ^u a lady's visit+ c>d1 ?us3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,george ,norton4 ,breakfa/1 ,w$nesday1 at t5 o'clock4 #bd ,euclid ,av5ue4 ,a writt5 invitation is usually 9 ! fir/ p]son1 & %\ld read some:at z foll[s3 ,,de> ,,mrs4 ,,gracie3 ,i %\ld be pleas$ to h ! company ( y & y\r husb& at breakfa/ ) u1 ,w$nesday morn+ at t5 o'clock4 ,cordially y\rs1 ,,g]trude ,,horton4 ,,mrs4 ,,george ,,horton4 ,! invitations %\ld be s5t out a week or five days 9 advance1 & %\ld be answ]$ at once4 ,lun*eons1 9 ?is c\ntry1 are v apt to possess mu* ( ! =mality ( a d9n]1 & are writt5 or engrav$1 accord+ to ! degree ( /atel9ess t is to m>k ! occasion4 ,v =mal invitations are s5t out t5 days or two weeks 9 advance1 & are c\*$ 9 precisely ! same t]ms z a d9n] invitation1 save t ! ^w ,lun*eon is sub/itut$ = ,d9n]4 ,writt5 invitations1 also1 foll[ ! same plan z ^? writt5 = d9n]s1 & are n usually issu$ m ?an a week or five days 9 advance4 ,"s ladies use _! visit+ c>d1 ?us3 ,,mrs4 ,,frank ,e4 ,,w5twor?4 ,lun*eon1 ,w$nesday1 at "o o'clock4 ,a lat] h\r1 say two o'clock1 is usually adopt$ = a m =mal affair4 ,replies %\ld be s5t at once t ! ho/ess may be enabl$ to make up h] table4 ,teas & ,kettl$rums4 ,teas & ,kettl$rums1 ,high ,tea & ,aft]noon ,receptions1 h come to be> a /rong resemblance "o to ano!r1 9 fact to infr+e s mu* ^u ! same t]ritory t x is v difficult at times to di/+ui% betwe5 !m suffici5tly to apply ! appropriate "n4 ,a simple affair is ann\nc$ ?us by ^? ladies :o h a regul> reception day3 ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,/4 ,,john4 ,?ursdays4 ,tea at five o'clock4 #dj ,we/ #di? ,/reet4 ,or3 ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,/4 ,,john4 ,five o'clock tea4 ,?ursday1 ,febru>y fif?4 #dj ,we/ #di? ,/reet4 ,! words kettl$rum or aft]noon tea are n to be us$1 & ^! c>ds may be s5t by mail1 enclos$ 9 a s+le envelope4 ,!y require no answ]4 ,:]e ! lady has n a regul> reception day & wi%es to give an aft]noon tea1 an engrav$ c>d1 l ! foll[+1 is usually s5t out3 ,,mrs4 ,,ar?ur ,,m]rill4 ,,miss ,,m]rill4 ,monday1 ,febru>y ?ird1 f f\r to sev5 o'clock4 #bgd ,*e/nut ,/reet4 ,9 case ( ! ho/ess hav+ no "o to receive ) h]1 h] "n w\ld appe> alone ^u ! c>d4 ,! "n ( any fri5d may take ! place ( a daught]'s4 ,su* an ent]ta9m5t p>takes m ( ! nature ( an aft]noon reception1 or high tea4 ,x may be adapt$ also to o!r occasions1 su* z ! introduction to "o's fri5ds ( a gue/ :o is to make a prolong$ /ay1 z = in/ance3 ,,mrs4 ,,ar?ur ,,m]rill1 ,at ,home1 ,monday1 ,decemb] sev5?1 f "o until sev5 o'clock4 ,to meet ,,mrs4 ,,frances ,,elm]4 #ee ,v9e ,/reet4 ,invitations l ?is & ! "o j above are to be enclos$ 9 two envelopes1 same z = d9n]s & s5t out t5 days or two weeks 9 advance4 ,kaffee ,klats*4 ,?is furni%es v mu* ! same class ( ent]ta9m5t t is to be f\nd at an aft]noon tea1 save t c(fee is ! pr$om9at+ bev]age4 ,! invitation is precisely ! same z = teas1 simply sub/itut+ ! words ,kaffee ,klats*4 ,supp]s4 ,= ! ev5+ supp]1 invitations are issu$ 9 "s "o ( ! =ms pres5t$ = d9n] p>ties1 sub/itut+ ! ^w ,supp]4 ,answ]s %\ld be return$ at once4 ,com+-out ,p>ties4 ,^! special fe/ivities may take almo/ any =m1 s t ! pres5tation ( ! blu%+ dbutante may be at a d9n]1 ball1 reception1 ev5+ p>ty or aft]noon tea2 :i* latt] cu/om has become v frequ5t ( late4 ,s mu* is ?is ! case t x is some:at to be repreh5d$ z r5d]+ aft]noon teas too c]emoni\s 9 "*4 ,!re is ?is 9 its favor1 h[ev]2 x relieves "y girls f ! /ra9 incid5t ^u a l>ge p>ty or ball4 ,9 "s cases1 ! invitations pres]ve _! usual =m 7:atev] t may be7 & ! c>d ( ! dbutante is enclos$ 9 ! same envelope4 ,ev5 ?is di/9ction is sometimes want+4 ,aga91 9 ! case ( ,at ,homes & ,teas1 ! "n ( ! "y lady is engrav$ b5ea? t ( h] "m2 if x is ! elde/ daught]1 ! =m w\ld be3 ,,mrs4 ,,ar?ur ,,holt4 ,,miss ,,holt4 ,a y\ng] daught]1 "u ! same circum/ances1 w\ld pose z3 ,,miss ,,edi? ,,may ,,holt4 ,su* c>ds d n ne$ a reply1 b ! gue/ w rememb] to leave c>ds 9 ! hall = ! dbutante z well z h] "m or *ap]on4 ,x may be said "h t1 %\ld x = any reason occur t ! "y lady is br\ght out "u ! w+ ( "s fri5d in/ead ( "u h] "m's c>e1 ! relative position _! names w occupy on ! c>ds is precisely ! same1 z3 ,,mrs4 ,d4,g4 ,,havil&4 ,,miss ,,holt4 ,a m =mal pres5tation w\ld be 9 ! /yle ( an engrav$ note %eet3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,ar?ur ,holt ,reque/s ! pleasure ( introduc+ h] daught]1 ,edi? ,may1 ,to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ross ,cl>k1 ,on ,?ursday ev5+1 ,decemb] fif?1 ,at n9e o'clock4 #bh ,/4 ,c>ol9e's ,c\rt4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,?is invitation1 ( c\rse1 implies a l>ge ev5+ p>ty1 reception or ball1 & %\ld be s5t out t5 days or two weeks 9 advance ( ! ev5t4 ,receptions4 ,in=mal receptions & full-dress occasions ( ! same k9d are ann\nc$ some:at diff]5tly4 ,9 ! fir/ case ! affair p>takes s closely ( ! nature ( an aft]noon tea t ! same =m ( invitation is us$3 ,,mrs4 ,,h[>d ,,po/1 ,at ,home1 ,tuesday1 ,octob] second1 f f\r to sev54 ,if a s]ies ( receptions are plann$ ! =m w\ld be3 ,,mrs4 ,,h[>d ,,po/1 ,at ,home1 ,tuesdays 9 ,novemb]1 f f\r to six o'clock4 ,full-dress receptions are frequ5tly giv5 bo? aft]noon & ev5+1 sometimes 9 ! ev5+ only4 ,invitations to ^! %\ld be engrav$ on squ>e c>ds or note %eets1 & s5t out two weeks previ\s to ! reception day4 ,a v good =m is3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,j]ome ,ha/+s ,reque/s ! pleasure ( y\r company1 ,on ,?ursday1 ,novemb] twelf?1 ,f five until t5 o'clock4 #gaa ,du,page ,/reet4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,if a daught] or a fri5d is to assi/ 9 receiv+1 ! invitation %\ld include h] "n also3 ,,mrs4 ,,j]ome ,,ha/+s1 ,,miss ,,ha/+s1 ,at ,home1 ,?ursday1 ,novemb] twelf?1 f five until t5 o'clock4 #gaa ,du,page ,/reet4 ,:5 ! reception is giv5 by a g5tleman1 & its object is to enable 8 fri5ds to meet "s di/+ui%$ gue/1 ! foll[+ =m is us$3 ,,mr4 ,,h[>d ,,po/ reque/s ! pleasure ( ! company ( ,,mr4 ,,alonzo ,,metcalf to meet ,,g5]al ,e4,l4 ,,bates4 ,union ,league ,club4 #ajj ,c$> ,/reet4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,?\gh "s pref] plac+ ! "n ( ! honor$ gue/ fir/1 accord+ to ! =m giv5 "u d9n] invitations4 ,! answ] %\ld be3 ,mr4 ,alonzo ,metcalf accepts ) pleasure ,mr4 ,h[>d ,po/'s k9d invitation to meet ,g5]al ,e4,l4 ,bates4 ,w$d+s4 ,w$d+ invitations are issu$ two weeks 9 advance1 sometimes e>li] to fri5ds at a di/ance1 9 ord] t !y may lay _! plans accord+ly4 ,!y are engrav$ 9 f9e script on small %eets ( cream note1 & ! =m mo/ us$ = *ur* w$d+s is z foll[s3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ri*>d ,e>le ,reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company ,at ! m>riage ( _! daught]1 ,gu5dol5 ,to ,mr4 ,egb]t ,ray ,cran/on ,on ,tuesday1 ,june ,eighte5?1 #ahie1 ,at half-pa/ twelve o'clock1 ,*ri/ ,*ur*1 ,b+hamton4 ,/ill ano!r =m w\ld give ! daught]'s "n z ,miss ,gu5dol5 ,e>le4 ,!re may or may n be a monogram on ! %eet ( pap]1 b1 if us$ !re1 "o to correspond mu/ be plac$ on ! inn] envelope also4 ,! envelope1 h[ev]1 may be /amp$ ) a monogram & ! pap] left pla91 ?is latt] /yle be+ mu* 9 favor4 ,:]e ! w$d+ is 9 *ur*1 x is usually foll[$ by an aft]-reception1 c>ds = :i* are engrav$ 9 "s simil> =m to ! foll[+3 ,reception f "o until ?ree o'clock1 #ajg ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,or3 ,at ,home aft] ! c]emony4 #ajg ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,a /ill m c]emoni\s invitation to ! reception may be issu$ 9 ! p>5ts' "n1 & 9 ! usual =m ( simil> invitations1 z3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,ri*>d ,,e>le reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company at ! w$d+ reception ( _! daught]1 ,,gu5dol51 & ,,mr4 ,,egb]t ,,ray ,,cran/on1 ,tuesday ev5+1 ,june eighte5?1 #ahie1 f n9e to elev5 o'clock4 #ajg ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,if !re is reason to believe t ! *ur* w be cr[d$ ) un9vit$ gue/s1 admission c>ds are engrav$ z foll[s3 ,*ri/ ,*ur*4 ,please pres5t ?is c>d to ! u%]4 ,tuesday1 ,june eighte5?4 ,h[ ,invitations are ,s5t4 ,sev]al ( ^! c>ds are usually enclos$ = di/ribution to fri5ds ( ! invit$ & = ! use ( s]vants t h accompani$ gue/s to ! *ur*4 ,?is cu/om is h>dly necess>y 9 c\ntry t[ns4 ,all ( ! c>ds & ! invitation are enclos$ 9 "o envelope sup]scrib$ ) ! "n only ( ! p]son invit$1 & re-inclos$ 9 ano!r envelope be>+ ! full address4 ,all =mal invitations are to be enclos$ 9 ! two envelopes z above2 less /ately affairs requir+ b "o envelope2 s5d by mail4 ,9 ,engl&1 w$d+ invitations are issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! "m ( ! bride only2 "h cu/om sanctions ! use ( ! fa!r's "n z well4 ,if ! invitation is issu$ 9 ! "n ( "s o!r relative1 !n ! ^w gr&daught]1 niece1 etc41 %\ld be sub/itut$ = t ( daught]4 ,if ! future home ( ! "y c\ple is decid$ ^u1 ,at ,home c>ds also %\ld be enclos$ = all ! invit$ gue/s t ! bride desires to reta9 ^u h] visit+ li/4 ,! foll[+ =m is appropriate3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,egb]t ,,ray ,,cran/on1 ,at ,home1 ,?ursdays 9 ,septemb]1 f f\r until six o'clock4 #dh ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,or1 9 place ( designat+ especial days1 x may read3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,egb]t ,,ray ,,cran/on1 ,at ,home1 aft] ,septemb] fir/4 #dh ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,:]e ! li/ ( acqua9tances is v l>ge x sometimes happ5s t a portion ( ! gue/s are invit$ to ! *ur* only4 ,:5 ?is is ! case ! reception c>d is omitt$ f ! envelope2 b if a visit+ acqua9tance is to be ma9ta9$1 ,at ,home c>ds mu/ be enclos$4 ,w$d+ ,invitations4 ,! home w$d+ is1 p]haps1 less /ately 9 appe>ance1 b1 involv+ z x does1 less c>e on ! "p ( fri5ds & less n]v\s /ra9 on t ( ! bride1 is frequ5tly adopt$4 ,! invitations are precisely ! same z = a *ur* w$d+1 m]ely ins]t+ /reet & numb] 9 place ( designat+ ! *ur*1 omitt+1 ( c\rse1 ! c>d ( admittance & t = reception4 ,! ,at ,home c>d ( ! newly-m>ri$ c\ple %\ld always be enclos$ le/ d\bt z to _! new address prove p]plex+ to _! fri5ds4 ,sometimes1 :]e life is to be comm5c$ 9 _! own home1 ! w$d$ pair1 soon aft] _! e/abli%m5t !re91 s5d out ,at ,home c>ds = a few ev5+s aft] ?is /yle3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,egb]t ,,ray ,,cran/on1 ,at ,home1 ,tuesday ev5+s 9 ,septemb]1 f eight to elev5 o'clock4 #dh ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,ga!r+s su* z ^! p>take ( ! nature ( semi-=mal receptions & pres5t a delightful opportunity = welcom+ fri5ds to ! new home1 & at same "t arrang+ a visit+ li/ = ! season1 no "o receiv+ a c>d to ^! ent]ta9m5ts t is n to be honor$ ) a place !reon4 ,^! invitations are to be s5t out aft] ! return f ! bridal t\r1 &1 :5 ?us us$1 ! fir/-giv5 ,at ,home c>d is omitt$ 9 s5d+ out ! w$d+ invitation4 ,if ! w$d+ is to be a morn+ affair f ! *ur*1 foll[$ by a breakfa/1 ! fir/ giv5 invitation is issu$ & ! foll[+ engrav$ c>d enclos$ 9 ! same envelope3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,ri*>d ,,e>le reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company at breakfa/1 ,tuesday1 ,june tw5tie?1 at half pa/ twelve o'clock4 #ajg ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,at ,home c>ds & c>ds to ! *ur* %\ld be enclos$ z be=e4 ,! "t %\ld be c>efully arrang$ s t n m ?an half an h\r is all[$ to elapse betwe5 ! c]emony at ! *ur* & ! reception or breakfa/ at ! h\se4 ,a home w$d+ ) a breakfa/ simply s5ds out ! ord9>y w$d+ invitation1 indicat+ ! h\r & giv+ ! /reet & numb]4 ,sometimes1 at a home w$d+1 x is desir$ t no "o b relatives or v p>ticul> fri5ds %\ld be pres5t at ! c]emony4 ,"u ^! circum/ances ! usual invitations are issu$4 ,!n1 = ! favor$ few1 c]emony c>ds are enclos$1 on :i* ! words are engrav$3 ,c]emony at half pa/ eight4 ,at ,home c>ds may be enclos$ z be=e4 ,:]e ! w$d+ has be5 entirely private1 ! "m1 or "s o!r relative ( ! bride1 frequ5tly gives a reception ^u ! return home ( ! "y c\ple1 invitations to :i* are issu$ z foll[s3 ,,mrs4 ,,ri*>d ,,e>le1 ,,mrs4 ,,egb]t ,,ray ,,cran/on4 ,at ,home1 ,w$nesday1 ,septemb] fir/1 f f\r to t5 o'clock4 #ajg ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,= an ev5+ reception ! =m is a little diff]5t3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,ri*>d ,,e>le reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company1 ,?ursday1 ,septemb] second1 f n9e to elev5 o'clock4 #ajg ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,enclos+ ! c>d ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,egb]t ,ray ,cran/on4 ,ann\ncem5t ,c>ds4 ,ann\ncem5t c>ds1 :]e ! w$d+ has be5 /rictly private1 are s5t out aft] ! foll[+ /yle3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,ri*>d ,,e>le ann\nce ! m>riage ( _! daught]1 ,,gu5dol51 to ,,mr4 ,,egb]t ,,ray ,,cran/on1 ,tuesday1 ,novemb] n9ete5?1 #ahie4 #ajg ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,! be=e-giv5 ,at ,home c>ds may be enclos$1 or ! necess>y in=mation convey$ by hav+ engrav$ 9 ! l[] left h& corn] ( ! %eet ( note pap]3 ,at ,home1 aft] ,decemb] fir/1 at #dh ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,ano!r =m ( ann\ncem5t is also us$3 ,,egb]t ,,ray ,,cran/on4 ,,gu5dol5 ,,e>le4 ,m>ri$1 ,tuesday1 ,novemb] n9ete5?1 #ahie4 ,b+hamton4 ,) ?is =m use ,at ,home c>ds1 or engrave ! /reet & numb] 9 ! l[] left h& corn] ( ! ann\ncem5t c>d4 ,?is =m is p]missible 9 any case1 b is m frequ5tly employ$ :]e !re are nei!r p>5ts nor relatives to s5d out ! ann\ncem5t4 ,if ! w$d+ %\ld h tak5 place dur+ a season ( family m\rn+ or mis=tune1 ! bridegroom himself issues ! foll[+ ann\ncem5t3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,egb]t ,,ray ,,cran/on1 #dh ,wa%+ton ,/reet4 ,^! c>ds are l>ge & squ>e1 & 9 ! same envelope ) !m is enclos$ a small] c>d engrav$ ) ! maid5 "n ( ! bride3 ,,miss ,,gu5dol5 ,,e>le4 ,w$d+ ,anniv]s>ies4 ,illu/ration3 #ahhe4 #ahij4 ,wood5 ,w$d+4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,!odore ,grant1 ,at ,home1 ,?ursday ev5+1 ,decemb] fif?1 #ahie1 ,at half-pa/ eight o'clock4 #bfc ,ea/ ,?irte5? ,/reet4 ,9 s5d+ out invitations = ! v>i\s anniv]s>ies t pleasantly div]sify ! ye>s ( a long w$d$ life1 ! simple/ =m w always be f\nd 9 ! be/ ta/e4 ,!re are v>i$ devices = r5d]+ ^! invitations /rik+ 9 effect1 su* z silv]$ & gild$ c>ds = silv] & gold5 w$d+s1 ?9 wood5 c>ds = ! wood5 w$d+1 etc41 b good ta/e w\ld indicate t none ( ^!1 n ev5 gold & silv] lett]+ 7?\gh ?is la/ is lea/ objectionable ( all71 %\ld be us$4 ,! l>ge engrav$ ,at ,home c>d1 or ! small %eet ( heavy note pap]1 also engrav$1 are ! mo/ elegant4 ,no ,pres5ts ,receiv$4 ,! words1 ,no pres5ts receiv$1 are sometimes engrav$ 9 ! l[] left h& corn] ( ! note %eet1 or c>d4 ,a mu*-to-be-admir$ cu/om1 s9ce ! multiplicity ( invitations requir+ gifts1 is1 9 m cases ?an "o1 burd5some to ! recipi5t4 ,revise ! ,visit+ ,li/4 ,n[1 t x has become ! cu/om to engage ! s]vices ( an amanu5sis to direct ! invitations = a cru% affair by ! hundr$1 x w\ld be well = e ho/ess to frequ5tly revise h] visit+ li/1 9 ord] t ! relatives ( lately deceas$ fri5ds may n be pa9$ by see+ ! de> lo/ "n includ$ among ! invitations ( ! family2 also1 ?is c>e is necess>y to remove ! names ( ^? :o h rec5tly dep>t$ f ! city1 & ^? ^: acqua9tance is no long] desir$4 ,,acceptances ,,& ,,regrets ,illu/ration ,! ess5ce ( all etiquette is to be f\nd 9 ! obs]vance ( ! _s ( ! ,gold5 ,rule4 ,p]haps 9 no "o po9t is ! d unto o!rs z ye w\ld t !y %\ld d unto y1 m applicable ?an 9 ! prompt ackn[l$gm5t ( ei!r a =mal or a fri5dly invitation4 ,?is ackn[l$gm5t may be ei!r d5ial or ass5t1 b :atev] ! =m1 x is requisite t ! pr(f]$ c\rtesy %\ld be answ]$ by a prompt & decisive acceptance or refusal4 ,?is is a duty ow$ by an invit$ gue/ to 8 prospective ho/ or ho/ess & "o t %\ld nev] be neglect$4 ,answ]+ an ,invitation4 ,9 accept+ or decl9+ an invitation close att5tion %\ld be paid to ! =m 9 :i* x is writt5 & ! same /yle foll[$ 9 ! answ]4 ,= in/ance3 %\ld ! invitation be =mal1 ! answ] %\ld pres]ve ! same degree ( =mality2 :ile a fri5dly invitation 9 note =m %\ld meet ) an acceptance or regret c\*$ 9 ! same t]ms4 ,ano!r rule to be rigidly obs]v$ is1 t ! acceptance or refusal mu/ be writt5 9 ! same p]son t *>act]iz$ ! invitation4 ,= in/ance3 if ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,alg]non ,smi? reque/ ! pleasure ( ! company ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,joseph ,bronson at d9n]1 etc41 ) equal /atel9ess ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,joseph ,bronson accept ) pleasure ! k9d invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,alg]non ,smi?4 ,to d o!rwise w\ld imply ignorance ( ! v rudim5ts ( social or grammatical rules4 ,a fri5dly note ( invitation1 beg9n+ some:at aft] ?is fa%ion3 ,mr4 ,smi? & ,i w\ld be pleas$ to h y & ,mr4 ,br[n1 etc41 w\ld be accept$ or decl9$ 9 ! same fa%ion & p]son1 z3 ,mr4 ,br[n & ,i accept ) pleasure y\r k9d invitation1 etc4 ,to answ] su* an invitation ) a =mal acceptance1 or regret1 writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 z giv5 above1 w\ld display pr(\nd ignorance ( social cu/oms4 ,an acceptance or regret1 writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son1 receives ! signature ( ! writ]1 b "o writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son rema9s unsign$4 ,to sign x w\ld produce a confusion ( p]sons & be ungrammatical to ! la/ degree4 ,ano!r error to be avoid$ is t ( beg9n+ 9 ?is fa%ion3 ,i accept ) pleasure ! k9d invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,jones1 ?is also produc+ a *ange ( p]son altoge!r inadmissible4 ,nei!r mu/ "o be betray$ into ! mi/ake ( us+ ! words1 w accept1 ?us ?r[+ ! acceptance into ! future t5se1 :51 9 reality1 y d accept1 9 ! pres5t t5se1 at ! mom5t ( writ+4 ,accept+ a ,d9n] ,invitation4 ,incumb5t ^u u z x is to answ] ! majority ( our invitations 9 ei!r ! affirmative or negative1 !re are degrees ( necessity ev5 "h1 =1 s9 z we may 9 all o!r p>ticul>s1 !re is an unwritt5 code l unto ! laws ( ! ,m$es & ,p]sians :i* decl>e? t ! invitations to a d9n] are n to be lightly set aside4 ,fir/1 an invitation to a d9n] is ! highe/ social complim5t t a ho/ & ho/ess c pay to ^? invit$1 &1 second1 ! gue/s are limit$ 9 numb] & pa9/ak+ly arrang$ 9 cong5ial c\ples by ! c>eful ho/ess4 ,judge1 !n1 ( h] disappo9tm5t1 :51 at ! la/ mom5t1 "s del9qu5t s5ds 9 a ha/y regret leav+ little or no "t to fill t t]ror ( all d9n]-giv]s1 t skeleton at ! fea/1 an empty *air4 ,"o su* failure is suffici5t to ru9 ! mo/ c>efully-arrang$ table & is an injury to ho/ & ho/ess t only ! occurr5ce ( "s un=ese5 calamity c ju/ify4 ,illu/ration3 ,,answ]+ ,,an ,,invitation4 ,9 answ]+ an invitation x is well to repeat ! date1 z3 ,y\r k9d invitation = ,tuesday1 ,may fif?4 ,?is w give an opportunity1 if any mi/akes h be5 made 9 dates1 to rectify !m at once4 ,?is caution x w\ld be well to obs]ve 9 answ]+ any invitation4 ,answ] decisively z well z promptly4 ,d n1 if !re is a d\bt z to y\r be+ able to att5d1 selfi%ly keep ! li/s op5 9 y\r favor by sugge/+ t ,y hope to h ! pleasure1 etc41 or1 if m>ri$1 t "o ( u w come4 ,?is is an inju/ice to ^? invit+ y1 :o1 to make a success ( _! ent]ta9m5t1 mu/ "k at once ! numb] to be dep5d$ ^u4 ,say yes or no promptly & abide by y\r decision4 ,to d ?is w1 9 case ( refusal1 give "t to fill y\r place at table4 ,accept+ a ,d9n] ,invitation4 ,9 accept+ a d9n] invitation ! foll[+ =m is v suitable4 ,?is1 ( c\rse1 presupposes t ! invitation has also be5 writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son4 7,see ,invitations47 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h>vey ,pratt accept ) pleasure ! k9d invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,paul ,pott] = d9n] on ,tuesday1 ,decemb] fifte5?1 at eight o'clock4 #bd ,ab]crombie ,/reet4 ,w$nesday4 ,a g5tleman might respond ?us3 ,mr4 ,fremont ,mill] has mu* pleasure 9 accept+ ! v k9d invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,paul ,pott] = d9n] on ,tuesday1 ,decemb] fifte5?1 at eight o'clock4 ,union ,league ,club4 ,w$nesday4 ,to answ] a =mal invitation c>elessly & famili>ly is to %[ a degree ( disrespect to ! s5d]1 b1 if ! invitation be 9 note =m1 fir/ p]son1 answ] 9 same fa%ion1 x be+ usually safe to foll[ ! /yle ( invitation 9 ei!r accept+ or refus+ ! pr(f]$ pleasure4 ,nev] pres5t "o's complim5ts 9 response to an invitation4 ,x is entirely out ( date2 nei!r %\ld "o say ! polite invitation ( ,mr4 ,john ,jones4 ,all invitations are presuppos$ to be polite4 ,y\r k9d or v k9d invitation is a gracefully-turn$ & amply suffici5t phrase = all occasions4 ,decl9+ a ,d9n] ,invitation4 ,an unexpla9$ regret is (t5 7z be=e m5tion$7 w\nd+ to ! feel+s ( a s5sitive p]son1 leav+ at times ! impression t "o did n c>e to come4 ,?is c always be avoid$ by p>ticul>iz+ ! cause ( refusal4 ,a plea ( expect$ abs5ce1 a previ\s engagem5t to d9e else:]e1 a rec5t b]eavem5t1 or sudd5 illness 9 ! family1 are ea* ( !m good & suffici5t reasons = non-acceptance & %\ld always be m5tion$4 ,?us1 9 reply to a =mal d9n] invitation1 a regret might be s5t 9 ! foll[+ t]ms3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h>vey ,patt5 s9c]ely regret t1 ow+ to ! sudd5 illness ( _! daught] ,eleanor !y w be depriv$ ( ! pleasure ( accept+ ! v k9d invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,paul ,pott] = d9n] on ,tuesday1 ,decemb] fifte5?4 #bd ,ab]crombie /reet4 ,w$nesday4 ,?is =m ( refusal w be f\nd suitable = all =mal occasions1 v>y+ ! "n ( ! ent]ta9m5t & ! cause = non-acceptance to suit ! circum/ances4 ,p]sons 9 ,m\rn+4 ,invitations to ^? 9 m\rn+ %\ld be s5t z a matt] ( c\rse1 except dur+ ! fir/ few weeks ( deep b]eavem5t1 :5 _! sorr[s are n to be intrud$ ^u by ! gayeties ( ! out] _w4 ,aft] ?is fir/ season ( sorr[1 invitations1 :i* nei!r cu/om nor _! own feel+s p]mit !m to accept1 %\ld be s5t1 t !y may "k t !y are n =gott5 9 _! solitude4 ,to ^! !re is always giv5 ! privilege ( decl9+ all invitations )\t any specifi$ cause !re=1 _! black-bord]$ /ation]y %[+ all too pla9ly ! sad reason t prompt$ _! refusal4 ,!y %\ld !n s5d _! c>ds 7black-bord]$7 by mail enclos$ 9 two envelopes4 ,^! w take ! place ( a p]sonal call & %\ld be ! same 9 numb]4 ,x may be m5tion$ "h t :ile p 9 deep m\rn+ are n usually invit$ to d9n]s or lun*eons1 x is cu/om>y = !m to receive invitations to all w$d+s & o!r social ga!r+s1 & ?\gh !y may n accept1 /ill x is gratify+ = !m to "k t !y are rememb]$ 9 _! seclusion4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,lett] ,,( ,,condol5ce4 ,address+ ! ,answ]4 ,! answ] to an invitation %\ld always be address$ to ! p]son 9 ^: "n x is s5t4 ,if ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ri*>d ,roe reque/ ! pleasure1 etc41 address ! answ] to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ri*>d ,roe4 ,if ,mrs4 ,ri*>d ,roe is ,at ,home on a c]ta9 date1 address ! reply to h] alone4 ,9 case ( w$d+ invitations1 address all answ]s to ! p>5ts ( ! bride1 9 ^: "n !y are s5t out1 nev] to ! bride1 al?\gh %e may be y\r only p]sonal acqua9tance 9 ! family1 ! civility be+ due to ! issu]s ( ! invitation4 ,?is is cu/om>y 9 ! case ( all invitations4 ,w$d+ ,invitations4 ,w$d+ invitations are usually ?\ght to require no answ] unless x be to a sit-d[n w$d+ breakfa/4 ,9 ?is case ! same exactness 9 reply & ! same =m is dem&$ z = a d9n] invitation4 ,if ! invitation is ext5d$ to fri5ds at a di/ance & presupposes an int5tion to ent]ta9 ! recipi5ts = any l5g? ( "t1 ! obligation = spe$y reply is equally necess>y4 ,if ! invitation is giv5 by an in=mal note1 z is ! case ) "s v quiet w$d+s1 an answ] mu/ always be return$ & 9 ! same note =m4 ,?is att5tion is dem&$ by c\rtesy4 ,to a l>ge cru% w$d+ a regret1 accompani$ or n by a gift1 may be s5t if desir$2 an acceptance is n necess>y4 ,:]e ! invitations are to ! *ur* only1 !y are amply answ]$ by s5d+ or leav+ c>ds at ! h\se4 ,to receive a c>d /at+ t ! w$d$ pair w be ,at ,home on c]ta9 dates1 means t !y desire to cont9ue _! acqua9tance ) ! p>ties ?us invit$1 :o %\ld ei!r call 9 p]son or s5d c>ds promptly4 ,w$d+ ,anniv]s>ies4 ,anniv]s>y invitations require an answ]1 ?us giv+ a v pleasant opportunity = congratulat+ ! happy c\ple4 ,! foll[+ =ms are suitable3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ar?ur ,cumm+s accept ) pleasure ! k9d invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,k5net ,wade = ,?ursday ev5+1 ,octob] t5?1 & pres5t _! w>me/ congratulations on _! ,silv] ,w$d+ ,anniv]s>y4 #de ,*ur* ,/reet4 ,?ursday4 ,= a refusal3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ar?ur ,cumm+s s9c]ely regret t1 ow+ to an unexpect$ abs5ce f t[n1 !y are unable to accept ! v k9d invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,k5net ,wade = ,?ursday ev5+1 ,octob] t5?1 b beg to pres5t to !m _! w>me/ congratulations on ?is occasion ( _! ,silv] ,w$d+ ,anniv]s>y4 #bd ,*ur* ,/reet4 ,w$nesday4 ,! same =mul 9 answ]+ w apply to any ( ! anniv]s>y fe/ivities4 ,!at] & ,op]a ,p>ties4 ,^! p>ties are frequ5tly made up on r %ort notice & ! invitations are !n s5t to ! h\se by special mess5g] :o awaits ! reply1 :i* mu/ be writt5 at once1 t ! lady or g5tleman giv+ ! ent]ta9m5t may be sure ( a c]ta9 numb] to fill ! box or /alls1 engag$ = ! ev5+4 ,occasionally1 :5 ! p>ty is giv5 by a g5tleman1 he takes a c>riage & gives out ! invitations 9 p]son :5 a v]bal answ] is return$4 ,lun*eons & ,supp]s4 ,invitations = ^! are writt5 9 ! same =m z = a d9n]1 m]ely sub/itut+ ! ^w lun*eon or supp] = d9n]1 & %\ld be accept$ or refus$ 9 precisely ! same /yle4 ,answ]s also %\ld be s5t ) ! same promptness t ! ho/ess may be c]ta9 ( arrang+ h] table satisfactorily4 ,o!r ,invitations4 ,o!r invitations1 aside f ^? already specifi$ 9 ?is dep>tm5t1 sc>cely dem& an answ]1 except !y be> ! words3 ,! favor ( an answ] is reque/$1 or ! initials1 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,simple at home affairs nev] ne$ an answ]1 ?\gh c>ds mu/ always be s5t1 or left 9 p]son1 imm$iately aft]w>d4 ,g>d5 p>ties1 :]e !y are held at any di/ance f ! city & c>riages are to be s5t to convey ! gue/s ?i!r1 always require an answ]2 ?is1 h[ev]1 is usually indicat$ ^u ! c>d4 ,refus+ ,aft] ,acceptance4 ,%\ld x un=tunately occur1 aft] accept+ an invitation1 t1 by "o ( ! sorr[ful happ5+s s (t5 m>r+ our be/ laid plans1 we are prev5t$ f fulfill+ our promise1 let ! regret s5t be prompt1 t y\r ho/ess1 especially if ! ent]ta9m5t be a d9n] or lun*eon may possibly1 ev5 at ! elev5? h\r1 be able to supply ! vacancy4 ,make x explanatory z well1 t %e may feel positive t no m]e :im has caus$ ! dis>rangem5t ( h] plans4 ,:at ,n to ,d4 ,nev] write ! ^w accepts1 regrets or decl9es ^u y\r visit+ c>d & s5d 9 lieu ( a writt5 note4 ,to d s is n only an insult to y\r ho/ess b a m>k z well ( y\r own ill-bre$+4 ,an invitation1 :i* is always an honor & implies ! be/ t y\r ho/ is able to (f]1 %\ld always receive ! c\rtesy ( a civil reply4 ,etiquette ( ,c\rt%ip & ,m>riage ,illu/ration ,c\rt%ip1 accord+ to ,/]ne1 consi/s 9 a numb] ( quiet att5tions1 n s po9t$ z to al>m1 nor s vague z n to be und]/ood4 ,9 ?is little quotation lies ! _s & ! lett] ( all etiquette reg>d+ c\rt%ip4 ,! passion ( love g5]ally appe>+ to ev]yone save ! man :o feels x1 s entirely disproportionate to ! value ( ! object1 s impossible to be ent]$ into by any outside individual1 t any /rong expressions ( x appe> ridicul\s to a ?ird p]son4 ,= ?is reason x is t all extravagance ( feel+ %\ld be c>efully repress$ z an (f5se aga9/ good bre$+4 ,man 0 made = woman1 & woman equally = man4 ,h[ %all !y treat ea* o!r8 ,h[ %all !y come to und]/& _! mutual relations & duties8 ,x is l(ty "w to write ^u ?is subject :at ought to be writt54 ,mi/akes1 fatal blund]s1 he>ts & lives wreck$1 homes turn$ into be>-g>d5s1 te>s1 mis]ies1 bla/$ hopes1 awful trag$ies--c y "n ! "o mo/ prolific cause ( all ^!8 ,if our "y p 7 taught :at !y ought to "k--if x 7 told !m f infancy up--if x 7 drill$ into !m & !y 7 made to und]/& :at n[ is all a my/]y to !m--a d>k1 vague1 unriddl$ my/]y--he>ts w\ld be happi]1 homes w\ld be bright]1 lives w\ld be wor? liv+ & ! _w w\ld be bett]4 ,illu/ration3 ,,good ,,night6 ,,good ,,night6 ,,p>t+ ,,is ,,su* ,,sweet ,,sorr[1 ,,t ,i ,,%all ,,say ,,good ,,night ,,till ,,x ,,be ,,morr[4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,polite ,,escort4 ,?is is n[ ! matt]--matt] grave & s]i\s en\gh--:i* we h 9 h&4 ,!re are gems ( wisdom f\nd$ on heal?1 morality1 happ9ess1 :i* %\ld be put )9 rea* ( e h\sehold 9 our :ole broad l&4 ,x is a mo/ important1 yet neglect$ subject4 ,p are squeami%1 curs$ ) mock mode/y1 a%am$ to speak ) _! lips :at _! ,creator spoke ?r\gh _! own m9ds & bodies :5 he =m$ !m4 ,x is "t su* nons5se--nons5se %all we say8--r say x is "t su* fatal folly 7 )]$ & curs$ by ! sob] common s5se & moral duty ( univ]sal society4 ,c\rt%ip6 ,its !me1 h[ delightful6 ,its memories & associations1 h[ *>m+6 ,its luxuries ! mo/ luxuri\s pr(f]$ to mortals6 ,its results h[ f> rea*+1 & mom5t\s6 ,no m]e lov]'s fleet+ bauble1 b life's v greate/ "w6 ,none are equally port5t\s1 = good & evil4 ,errors ( ,love-,mak+4 ,god's provisions = man's happ9ess are b\ndless & endless4 ,h[ great are ! pleasures ( sight1 motion1 brea?+6 ,h[ mu* great] ^? ( m9d6 ,yet a "r love surpasses !m all2 & c r5d] u all happi] ?an our utmo/ imag9ations c depict2 & a wrong m mis]able4 ,"r love-mak+ is m important ?an "r selection2 because x affects conjugal life = ! mo/4 ,m5 & wom5 ne$ k conc]n+ x m ?an t\*+ any?+ else4 ,_! fatal errors %[ _! almo/ univ]sal ignorance conc]n+ x4 ,t mo/ m>ri$ discords orig9ate 9 wrong love-mak+ in/ead ( selection1 is prov$ by love usually decl9+2 :ile adaptation rema9s ! same4 ,"r c\rt%ip w h>monize natural discordants1 mu* m concordants1 /ill m ^? already 9 love2 :i* only "s s]i\s causes c rupture4 ,! :ole p[] ( ?is love elem5t is enli/$ 9 its p]petuity1 z are all ! self-int]e/s ( bo?4 ,z nature's heal? provisions are s p]fect t only its great & long-cont9u$ outrage c break x2 s h] conjugal are s num]\s & p]fect t b = outrage\s violation ( h] love laws all :o once beg9 c & w gr[ m & m affectionate & happy e day4 ,any man :o c beg9 to elicit any woman's love1 c p]fectly infatuate h] m & m1 solely by c\rt+ h] "r2 & all wom5 :o once />t a man's love--no v difficult a*ievem5t--c get out ( him1 & d ) him1 any?+ possible %e pleases4 ,! *>m+ & fasc9at+ p[] ( s]p5ts ov] birds is z no?+ comp>$ ) t a woman c wield ov] a man1 & he ov] h]4 ,ladies1 recall y\r love hey-day4 ,y _h y\r lov] p]fectly spell-b\nd4 ,he lit]ally knew n :at he did or w\ld d4 ,) :at alacrity he sprang to indulge y\r e wi%1 at :atev] co/1 & d exactly z y desir$6 ,if y _h only c\rt$ him j "r1 he w\ld h cont9u$ to gr[ /ill m s till n[4 ,?is is equally true ( a man's p[] ov] e woman :o once beg9s to love him4 ,:at w\ld y give to aga9 wield t same bewit*+ w&8 ,h[ to ,c>ry on ,c\rt%ip4 ,intuition1 our own selfhood1 is nature's highe/ tea*]1 & infallible2 & tells all1 by h] /ill1 small voice )91 :e!r & j :]e9 !y are mak+ love "r or wrong4 ,e false /ep =ew>ns all aga9/ itself2 & great is _! fall :o /umble4 ,c\rt%ip has its own inh]5t consci\sness1 :i* mu/ be kept inviolate4 ,!n ?r[ y\rself1 ,o c\rt+ y\?1 ^u y\r own int]ior s5se ( propriety & "r1 z to bo? ! beg9n+ & conduct+ ( c\rt%ip1 aft] le>n+ all y c f ^! pages1 & h no fe>s z to results1 b quietly bide !m1 9 ! mo/ p]fect assurance ( _! happy ev5tuality6 ,:at c ,i d or omit to advance my suit8 prev5t dismissal8 make my v be/ impression8 gu>antee acceptance8 t\* my idol's he>t8 c\rt j "r8 ,?is is :at all true c\rt]s say4 ,cultivate & manife/ :atev] qualities y w\ld awak54 ,y inspire 9 ! "o y c\rt ! precise feel+ & traits y y\rself exp]i5ce4 ,?is law effects ?is result4 ,e faculty 9 ei!r awak5s itself 9 ! o!r4 ,?is is j z sure z gravity itself4 ,h5ce y\r success mu/ come f )91 dep5ds ^u y\rself1 n ! "o c\rt$4 ,/udy ! specialties1 likes & dislikes 9 p>ticul>1 ( ! "o c\rt$1 & humor & adapt y\rself to !m4 ,be extra c>eful n to prejudice him or h] aga9/ y by awak5+ any faculty 9 rev]se4 ,?us :atev] r\ses ! o!r's resi/ance aga9/ y1 antagonizes all ! o!r faculties1 & proportionally turns love = y into hatr$4 ,:atev] w\nds ambition rev]ses all ! o!r feel+s1 to y\r injury2 :at delights x1 turns !m 9 y\r favor4 ,all ! faculties create1 & _! action con/itutes human nature2 :i* lov]s w d "r well to /udy4 ,to give an illu/ration3 ,a ,case to ! ,po9t4 ,an eld]ly man ) po9ts 9 8 favor1 hav+ select$ a woman eighte5 ye>s y\ng]1 b mo/ intellig5t & fem99e1 _h two "y rivals1 ea* hav+ m po9ts 9 _! favor1 & came to 8 f9al te/4 ,%e ?\ght mu* ( hav+ pl5ty ( money4 ,!y saw !y c\ld cut him out by %[+ h] t he 0 poor2 %e till !n ?9k+ 8 means ample4 ,all f\r met ar\nd h] table1 & prov$ 8 pov]ty4 ,8 rivals retir$1 sure t !y _h made 8 cake d\gh1 leav+ him ) h]4 ,x 0 8 turn+-po9t4 ,he address$ himself "r to h] affections1 say+ little ab\t money matt]s1 b prote/+ an am\nt ( devotion = h] to :i* %e knew !y 7 /rang]s2 & left 8 suit "r on ?is "o po9t2 add+3 ,y "k ,i c make money2 "k h[ int5sely ,i e/eem1 admire1 idolize1 & love y4 ,w n my admitt$ great] affection1 ) my e>n+s1 d m = y ?an !y ) m money1 b less love8 ,h] cle> head saw ! po9t4 ,h] he>t melt$ into 84 ,%e said yes4 ,he triumph$ by ?is affectional _s alone ov] _! mu* great] availability4 ,manife/+ ! dome/ic affections & virtues1 a w>m1 gu%+ fri5dly nature1 fondness = *ildr5 & home1 inspires a man's love mo/ ( all1 :ile ev9c+ tal5ts by a man peculi>ly enamors woman4 ,relations1 y %all n int]f]e1 :]e ev5 p>5ts may n4 ,make y\r own mat*es1 & let o!rs make !irs2 especially if y h bungl$ y\r own4 ,"o su* bungle is "o too _m4 ,! p>ties are betro!d4 ,_! m>riage is =e-orda9$ by !mselves1 its only rightful umpires1 :i* all "r-m9d$ outsid]s w try to promote1 n prev5t4 ,h[ despicable to sep>ate husb&s & wives6 ,yet is n p>t+ ^? m>ri$ by a love-_s1 equally s8 ,its m]e legal =m c b increase its validity1 n create x4 ,m>riage is a div9e in/itution1 & consi/s 9 _! own p]sonal betro?al4 ,h5ce break+ up a true love-union be=e its legal consummation1 is j z bad z p>t+ lov+ husb& & wife2 :i* is mon/r\s4 ,all lov]s :o all[ x are its wick$ p>tak]s4 ,*oice ( ,associates4 ,! fir/ po9t to be consid]$ on ?is subject is a c>eful *oice ( associates1 :i* w (t51 9 ! end1 save future unhapp9ess & discom=t1 s9ce1 z ,goldsmi? s tru?fully puts x1 ,love is (t5 an involunt>y passion plac$ ^u our companions )\t our cons5t1 & frequ5tly conf]r$ )\t ev5 our previ\s e/eem4 ,?is la/ mo/ unhappy /ate ( affairs may1 to a great ext5t1 be avoid$ by ?is c>eful *oos+ ( companions4 ,especially is ?is true on ! "p ( ! lady1 s9ce1 f ! nature & con/itution ( society1 an unsuitable acqua9tance1 fri5d%ip1 or alliance1 is m emb>rass+ & m pa9ful = ! woman ?an ! man4 ,z 9 s+le life an undesirable acqua9tance is m d]ogatory to a woman ?an to a man1 s 9 m>ri$ life1 ! woman x is :o v5tures mo/1 =1 z ,j]emy ,taylor writes1 %e ha? no sanctu>y 9 :i* to retire f an evil husb&2 %e may compla9 to ,god z d ! subjects ( tyrants & pr9ces1 b o!rwise %e ha? no appeal 9 ! causes ( unk9dness4 ,fir/ ,/eps4 ,to a man :o has become fasc9at$ ) "s womanly ideal1 we w\ld say1 if ! acqua9tance%ip be v rec5t1 & he1 z yet1 a /rang] to h] relatives1 t he %\ld fir/ consid] 9 detail 8 position & prospects 9 life1 & judge :e!r or n !y are su* z w\ld ju/ify him 9 /riv+ to w9 ! lady's affections1 & lat] on h] h& 9 m>riage4 ,assur$ ^u ?is po9t1 & let no "y man ?9k t a =tune is necess>y = ! woo+ ( any woman wor? ! w9n+1 let him !n ga9 ! ne$ful introductions ?r\gh "s mutual fri5d to h] p>5ts or gu>dians4 ,if1 on ! o!r h&1 x is a long acqua9tance t has rip5$ into admiration1 ?is latt] =mality w be unnecess>y4 ,z to ! lady1 h] position is negative to a great ext5t4 ,yet x is to be presum$ t h] pref]5ces1 ?\gh unexpress$1 are decid$1 &1 if ! att5tions ( a g5tleman are agreeable1 h] mann]s w be apt to indicate1 9 "s degree1 ! /ate ( h] m9d4 ,prud5ce1 h[ev]1 does1 or %\ld1 w>n h] n to accept too m>k$ att5tions f a man ( ^: pa/ life %e kn[s no?+1 & ( ^: pres5t circum/ances %e is equally ignorant4 ,"*4 ,!re is "o p>am\nt consid]ation too (t5 ov]look$ & too late bewail$ 9 _m a ru9$ home1 & t is ! "* ( ! man :o seeks to w9 a woman's h&4 ,p>5ts & gu>dians _c be too c>eful 9 ?is reg>d1 & "y wom5 !mselves %\ld1 by refus+ su* associates1 avoid all dang] ( contract+ su* ties4 ,weal?1 nor family rank1 nor g5ius1 availe? aught if ! "* ( ! man be flaw$4 ,let p>5ts tea* _! daught]s & let girls und]/& = !mselves t happ9ess1 or peace1 9 m>ri$ life is impossible :]e a man is1 9 any wise1 dissipat$1 or liable to be ov]come by any ( ! fa%ionable vices ( ! day4 ,bett] g d[n to y\r grave a =lorn sp9/] ?an m>ry su* a man4 ,disposition4 ,z to temp] or disposition1 ! man or woman c easily ga9 "s insight into ! respective peculi>ities ( ano!r's temp]am5t by a little quiet obs]vation4 ,if ! g5tleman be c\rte\s & c>eful 9 8 att5tions to 8 "m & si/]s1 & behave ) ease & consid]ation t[>d all wom51 irrespective ( age1 rank1 or pres5t condition1 %e may feel t h] fir/ e/imate 0 a correct "o4 ,on ! o!r h&1 %\ld he %[ disrespect t[>d wom5 z a class1 sne] at sacr$ ?+s1 ev9ce an incl9ation = exp5sive pleasures 9 advance ( 8 means1 or = l[ amusem5ts or companion%ip2 be cruel to ! horse he drives1 or display an abs5ce ( all en]gy 9 8 bus9ess pursuits1 !n is x "t to g5tly1 b firmly1 repel all ne>] advances on 8 "p4 ,z to ! g5tleman1 x w be well = him also to wat* c>efully z to ! disposition ( ! lady & h] conduct 9 h] own family4 ,if %e be att5tive & respectful to h] p>5ts1 k9d & affectionate t[>d h] bro!rs & si/]s1 n easily ruffl$ 9 temp] & ) incl9ation to enjoy ! pleasures ( home2 *e]ful1 hopeful & *>itable 9 disposition1 !n may he feel1 inde$1 t he has a prize be=e him well wor? ! w9n+4 ,if1 h[ev]1 %e %\ld display a /rong incl9ation t[>ds affectation & flirtation2 be extremely %[y or else c>eless 9 h] attire1 frivol\s 9 h] ta/es & eag] = admiration1 he may rightly conclude t v little home happ9ess is to be expect$ f h] companion%ip4 ,trifl+4 ,a true g5tleman w nev] conf9e 8 att5tions exclusively to "o lady unless he has an int5tion ( m>riage4 ,to d s exposes h] to all mann] ( conjecture1 lays an emb>go on ! =mation ( o!r acqua9tances1 may v s]i\sly compromise h] happ9ess1 & by aft] )drawal frequ5tly causes h] ! sev]e/ mortification4 ,h5ce a g5tleman ) no ?\ght ( m>riage is 9 honor b\nd to make 8 att5tions to ladies z g5]al z possible4 ,/ill m repreh5sible is ! conduct ( ! man :o ins9uates himself into ! affections ( a "y girl by e prote/ation & av[al possible1 save t :i* w\ld be b9d+ ^u himself1 & !n )draws 8 att5tions ) ! boa/ful consci\sness t he has n committ$ himself4 ,aga91 ! "y lady :o willfully1 kn[+ly1 delib]ately1 draws on a man to place h& & he>t at h] disposal simply = ! pleasure ( refus+ him & ?us add+ "o m "n to h] li/ ( reject$ proposals1 is utt]ly unwor?y ! "n ( woman4 ,etiquette ( ,mak+ & ,receiv+ ,gifts4 ,on ! "q ( gifts !re is a po9t ( etiquette to be obs]v$4 ,g5tlem51 z a rule1 d n (f] ladies pres5ts1 save ( fruits1 fl[]s1 or confections2 :i* gifts1 not)/&+ t a small =tune may be lavi%$ ^u _! pur*ase1 are suppos$1 9 all probability f _! p]i%able "*1 to leave no obligation re/+ ^u ! lady4 ,%\ld ! conv]sation1 h[ev]1 turn ^u "s new book or musical composition1 :i* ! lady has n se51 ! g5tleman may1 ) p]fect propriety1 say1 ,i wi% t y c\ld see su* or su* a "w &1 if y w p]mit1 ,i %\ld be pleas$ to s5d y a copy4 ,x is !n optional ) ! lady to accept or refuse4 ,%\ld a g5tleman p]si/ 9 (f]+ o!r gifts !re mu/ be no secrecy ab\t x4 ,%e %\ld take e>ly opportunity ( say+1 9 ! pres5ce ( h] fa!r & "m1 ,i am v mu* oblig$ to y = t r+1 p9 7or o!r gift7 :i* y 7 s k9d z to (f] me ! o!r day1 & ,i %all be happy to accept x if ,papa or ,mamma does n object4 ,if ! lady is positive 9 h] objections to receiv+ gifts1 x is easy to say1 ,i ?ank y = ! k9dness b ,i nev] take exp5sive pres5ts2 or1 ,mamma nev] p]mits me to accept exp5sive pres5ts4 ,^! refusals are always to be tak5 by ! g5tleman 9 good "p4 ,:]e a pres5t has be5 unadvis$ly accept$1 x is p]fectly prop] = ! "m to return x ) ?anks1 say+1 ,i ?9k my daught] r "y to accept su* exp5sive gifts4 ,aft] an engagem5t is =mally made ! etiquette ( gifts is some:at alt]$1 ?\gh ev5 !n exp5sive pres5ts1 unless x be ! engagem5t r+1 are n 9 ! be/ ta/e4 ,^! %\ld be res]v$ = ! m>riage gifts4 ,proposals ( ,m>riage4 ,! proposal itself is a subject s closely p]sonal 9 its nature t ea* man mu/ be a law unto himself 9 ! matt]1 & "t & opportunity w be 8 only guides to success1 unless1 mayhap1 8 lady-love be ! brav] ( ! two & help him g5tly ov] ! h>de/ "p1 = !re be m5 & m52 "s :o brook n no = an answ]1 & "s t a mom5t's hesitation on ! "p ( ! "o s\ght w\ld seal _! lips =ev]4 ,a woman mu/ always rememb] t a proposal ( m>riage is ! highe/ honor t a man c pay h]1 &1 if %e mu/ refuse x1 to d s 9 su* fa%ion z to sp>e 8 feel+s z mu* z possible4 ,if %e be a true & well-br$ woman1 bo? proposal & refusal w be kept a pr(\nd secret f e "o save h] p>5ts4 ,x is ! lea/ balm %e c (f] to ! w\nd$ pride ( ! man :o has *os5 h] f out all wom5 to be> 8 "n & to reign 9 8 home4 ,a wise woman c almo/ always prev5t matt]s f com+ to ! po9t ( a decl>ation1 &1 by h] actions & h] prompt acceptance ( ! att5tions ( o!rs1 %\ld /rive to %[ ! true /ate ( h] feel+s4 ,a g5tleman %\ld usually take no = an answ] unless he be ( s p]sev]+ a disposition z to be det]m9$ to take ! =t by siege2 or unless ! no 0 s undecid$ 9 its tone z to give "s hope ( f9d+ true ! poet's words3 ,he gave !m b "o tongue to say u1 ',nay1' ,& two fond eyes to grant4 ,on ! g5tleman's "p1 a decid$ refusal %\ld be receiv$ z calmly z possible1 & 8 resolve %\ld be 9 no way to annoy ! cause ( all 8 pa94 ,if m]e indiff]5ce be or seem to be ! orig9 ( ! refusal1 he may1 aft] a suitable l5g? ( "t1 press 8 suit once m2 b if an av[$ or evid5t pref]5ce = ano!r be ! reason1 x becomes imp]ative t he %\ld at once )draw f ! field4 ,any reason t ! lady may1 9 h] compassion1 see fit to give him z cause = h] refusal1 %\ld ev] rema9 8 inviolable secret4 ,illu/ration3 ,,social ,,pa/ime ,,on ,,return ,,voyage4 ,illu/ration3 ,,decl9$ ,,) ,,regrets4 ,z :atev] gr[s has its natural p]iod = matur+1 s has love4 ,at engagem5t y h m]ely select$1 s t y\r famili>ity %\ld be only intellectual1 n affectional4 ,y are yet m acqua9tances ?an companions4 ,z sun *anges f midnight d>kness into noonday brilliancy1 & heats1 lights up1 & w>ms gradually1 & z summ] l+]s 9 ! lap ( spr+2 s m>riage %\ld dally 9 ! lap ( c\rt%ip4 ,nature's adolesc5ce ( love %\ld nev] be cr[d$ into a premature m>riage4 ,! m p]sonal1 ! m impati5t x is2 yet to e/abli% its ,platonic aspect takes m "t ?an is usually giv5 x2 s t undue ha/e puts x ^u ! c>nal plane1 :i* soon cloys1 !n disgu/s4 ,unbecom+ ,ha/e4 ,coyness & mode/y always accompany female love1 :i* involunt>ily %r9k f close mascul9e contact until its m5tal phase is suffici5tly develop$ to ov]rule ! antagoni/ic intimacies ( m>riage4 ,besides1 :y curtail ! luxuries ( c\rt%ip8 ,%\ld ha/e to enjoy ! lusci\sness ( summ] engulf ! delights ( spr+8 ,! pleasures ( c\rt%ip are unsurpass$ ?r\gh\t life1 & q too great to be curtail$ by hurry+ m>riage4 ,& enhanc+ or dim9i%+ !m r$\bles or curtails ^? ( m>riage a hundr$fold m4 ,a happy c\rt%ip promotes conjugal felicity m ?an any?+ else :atev]4 ,a lady1 ask$ :y %e didn't m>ry1 s9ce %e _h s _m mak+ love to h]1 repli$3 ,because be+ c\rt$ is too great a luxury to be spoilt by m>ry+4 ,no man %\ld wait to make 8 pile4 ,two mu/ acquire a compet5ce conjo9tly1 9 ord] fully to really enjoy x toge!r4 ,?is alone c give full ze/ to :atev] pleasures x produces4 ,a =mal pr(f] ( m>riage naturally foll[s a man's selection & decision z to :om he w m>ry4 ,cons5t to canvass _! mutual adaptations implies cons5t to m>ry1 if all is f\nd satisfactory2 yet a f9al te/ & consummation n[ become necess>y1 bo? to br+ ?is :ole matt] to a focus1 & all[ bo? to /ate1 & obviate or waive1 ^? objections :i* mu/ ne$s exi/ on bo? sides2 includ+ any improvem5ts possible 9 ei!r4 ,h[ to ,deal ) ,objections4 ,! be/ "t to /ate & waive or remove all objections1 seem+ & real1 n already adju/$1 is at 8 proposal1 & h] acceptance4 ,a v]bal w d1 b a writt5 is mu* bett]1 by facilitat+ future ref]5ce4 ,a long future awaits _! m>riage2 h5ce committ+ ?is its initial po9t to writ+1 s t bo? c look back to x1 is mo/ desirable4 ,& he c propose1 & %e accept1 mu* bett] :5 alone1 & !y h all _! faculties "u full control1 ?an v]bally1 p]haps1 :5 excit$4 ,^? same primal reasons = r$uc+ all o!r contracts to writ+ obta9 d\bly 9 ref]5ce to m>riage4 ,y :o fe> awkw>dness on pap]1 rememb] t true human nature always appe>s well1 ev5 :5 poorly dress$4 ,a diamond is no less brilliant because set 9 clay4 ,mode is no?+1 reality ev]y?+4 ,all ne$$ to appe> well is to feel "r1 & express naturally :at is felt4 ,say+ pla9ly :at y h to say1 is all requir$4 ,! acceptance or rejection %\ld also be unequivocal1 or any cont+5cies /at$1 & waiv$ if m9or1 b if !y c nei!r be obviat$ nor compromis$1 %\ld t]m9ate _! relations1 t bo? may look else:]e4 ,if any bones ( cont5tion exi/1 n[ is ! "t to int] !m f9ally1 & to take ! initiatory /eps = p]fect+ bo? 9 ea* o!r's eyes4 ,be> 9 m9d t z yet y\r relations are /ill ^? ( bus9ess m]ely1 because nei!r has acquir$ or conc$$ any "r to love or be lov$4 ,)\t pret5d+ to give model lett]s ( proposal1 acceptance1 or rejection1 because v>y+ circum/ances w v>y ea* ad inf9itum1 ! foll[+ may s]ve z samples f :i* to "w3 ,,mu* ,,e/eem$ ,,fri5d3 ,z we h agre$ to canvass our mutual adaptations = m>riage1 & my own m9d is fully made up1 a f9al decision n[ becomes necess>y4 ,:at ,i h le>n$ ( & f y confirms t high op9ion ( y :i* prompt$ my selection ( y1 & inspires a desire to consummate x4 ,y\r pleas+ mann] & mode ( say+ & do+ ?+s2 y\r intellig5ce1 ta/e1 prud5ce1 k9dness1 & _m o!r excell5cies1 inspire my highe/ admiration4 ,w y let me love :at ,i s mu* admire8 ,b my affections are sacr$4 ,i c be/[ !m only on "o :o reciprocates !m2 w be/[ !m ^u y1 if y w be/[ y\rs on me2 n o!rwise2 = only mutual love c r5d] ei!r happy4 ,i c & w love y alone1 ) all my he>t1 provid$ y c & w love only me1 ) all ( y\rs4 ,d y accord me ?is privilege1 on ?is condition1 = life1 =ev]8 ,i crave to make y my wife2 to live ) & = y1 & pr(f] y my :ole be+1 ) hone/1 assidu\s toil1 fidelity to bus9ess1 :at tal5ts ,i possess1 & all ,i c d to contribute to y\r creature com=ts4 ,d y accord me ?is privilege1 on ?is condition8 ,may ,i en%r9e y z que5 ( my life8 ,say :]e9 y f9d me faulty1 or capable ( improvem5t 9 y\r eyes1 & ,i w d my utmo/1 consi/5tly ) my consci5ce1 to r5d] myself wor?y & acceptable to y4 ,i wi% "s ?+s 7 diff]5t 9 y--t y _h bett] heal?1 arose e>li]1 7 less impulsive1 knew m ab\t keep+ h\se1 etc42 yet ^! m9or matt]s s9k into insignificance 9 comp>ison ) y\r _m excell5ces1 & especially t :ole-s\l$ affection obvi\sly inh]5t 9 y4 ,delib]ate fully1 = ?is is a life affair1 & if1 9 ord] to decide judici\sly1 y require to "k m ( me1 ask me1 or ---- & ----4 ,please reply z soon z y c well decide4 ,decl9e unless y accept cordially1 & c love me truly & :olly2 b if y c & w reciprocate my pr(f]$ affection1 say yes1 & indicate y\r own "t & mode ( our m>riage4 ,mean:ile1 ) ! highe/ reg>ds1 ,i am1 & hope ev] to rema91 ,y\rs truly1 ,a4,b4 ,a true woman c\ld give a bett] answ] ?an ! foll[+1 :i* does n claim to be a model4 ,x is h>dly "t yet = a gu%+ love-lett]1 or we w\ld n pr(ane ?is sacr$ subject by mak+ ! attempt2 yet %\ld l to receive "o 9 _s some:at z foll[s3 ,,de> ,,sir3 ,y\r pr(f] ( y\r h& & he>t 9 m>riage has be5 duly receiv$1 & its important cont5ts fully consid]$4 ,i accept y\r (f]3 & on its only condition1 t ,i reciprocate y\r love1 :i* ,i d completely2 & h]eby bo? (f] my own h& & he>t 9 return1 & consecrate my entire be+1 s\l & body1 all ,i am & c become1 to y alone2 bo? accord+ y ! 'privilege' y crave ( lov+ me1 & 'crav+' a l "o 9 return4 ,?ank ,heav5 t ?is matt] is settl$2 t y are 9 v de$ m9e1 :ile ,i am y\rs1 to love & be lov$ by1 live & be liv$ ) & =2 & t my gu%+ affections h a f9al re/+-place on "o e way s wor?y ( ! fulle/ reciprocal sympa?y & tru/4 ,! prelim9>ies ( our m>riage we w arrange :5ev] we meet1 :i* ,i hope may be soon4 ,b :e!r soon] or lat]1 or y are pres5t or abs5t1 ,i n[ consid] myself z :olly y\rs1 & y all m9e2 & bo? give & take ! fulle/ privilege ( *]i%+ & express+ = y t :ole-s\l$ love ,i f9d ev5 n[ gu%+ up & call+ = expression4 ,fondly hop+ to he> f & see y soon & (t51 ,i rema9 :olly y\rs =ev]1 ,c4,d4 ,seal+ ! ,v[4 ,! v[ & its tangible witnesses come next4 ,all agreem5ts require to be atte/$2 & ?is z mu* m ?an o!rs z x is ! mo/ obligatory4 ,bo? ne$ its unequivocal & mutual mem5tos1 to be *]i%$ = all "t to come z its p]petual witnesses4 ,?is v[ ( ea* to ! o!r c nei!r be made too /rong1 nor held too sacr$4 ,if call+ ,god to witness w /r5g!n y\r mutual adjuration1 swe> by ,him & ,8 ?rone1 or by :atev] else w r5d] x inviolable1 & commit x to writ+1 ea* transcrib+ a copy = ! o!r z y\r mo/ sacr$ relics1 to be en%r9$ 9 y\r holy ( holies4 ,two witnesses are requir$1 "o = ea*4 ,a r+ = h] & locket = him1 conta9+ ! lik5ess ( bo?1 z always %[+ h[ !y n[ look1 or any keepsake bo? may select1 m or less valuable1 to be h&$ d[n to _! po/]ity1 w answ]4 ,y\r mode ( conduct+ y\r future affairs %\ld n[ be arrang$4 ,?\gh impli$ 9 selection1 yet x mu/ be specifi$ 9 detail4 ,bo? %\ld arrange y\r m>riage relations2 say :at ea* desires to d1 & h done2 & draw out a def9ite outl9e plan ( ! v>i\s positions y desire to ma9ta9 t[>ds ea* o!r4 ,y\r future home mu/ be discuss$3 :e!r y w bo>d1 or live 9 y\r own h\se1 r5t$1 or own$1 or built1 & aft] :at patt]n2 or ) ei!r or :i* ( y\r p>5ts4 ,& x is va/ly important t wives det]m9e mo/ z to _! domiciles2 _! int]nal arrangem5ts1 rooms1 furniture1 managem5t2 respect+ :i* !y are consult$ q too little1 yet _c well be too mu*4 ,family rules1 z well z national1 /ate1 corporate1 f9ancial1 mu/ be e/abli%$4 ,!y are mo/ ne$$1 yet lea/ practic$ 9 m>riage4 ,)\t !m1 all mu/ be *aotic4 ,ignor+ !m is a great b common m>ital error4 ,! ,fri5ds wisely make family me?od c>d9al4 ,a ,full ,und]/&+4 ,y\r g5]al treatm5t ( ea* o!r n[ especially requires to be mutually agre$ ^u4 ,ea* %\ld say1 ,i %\ld l to treat & be treat$ by y ?us1 b n s2 & let y d ?is b n t2 & bo? mutually agree on a ?\s& l m9or po9ts1 bett] def9itely arrang$ at fir/ ?an left = future cont5tion2 ea* mak+ requisitions1 conc$+ privileges1 & /ipulat+ = any fancies1 idols1 or res]v$ rights4 ,diff]5ces mu/ ne$s arise1 :i* _c be adju/$ too soon4 ,^? con/itutionally inh]5t 9 ea* %\ld be adju/$ 9 love's e>ly /ages2 x matt]s less h[1 ?an :e!r to y\r mutual satisfaction4 ,or if ?is is impossible1 agree to disagree2 b settle on some?+4 ,a concession>y _s is indisp5sable1 & inh]es 9 love4 ,nei!r %\ld insi/1 b bo? conc$e1 9 all ?+s2 ea* mak+1 n dem&+ sacrifices4 ,! "o :o loves mo/ w yield to oblige mo/4 ,:at c\rse w make bo? happie/ %\ld ov]rule all y\r mutual relations4 ,write d[n & file all4 ,y\r pres5t decisions1 subject to mutual *anges & am5dm5ts1 w become m & m important = future ref]5ce1 z "t rolls on1 by enabl+ ea* to correct bo?2 = our own *anges make u ?9k o!rs h *ang$4 ,a mutual di>y is desirable2 = incid5ts n[ seem+ly trivial1 may yet become important4 ,important ,trifles4 ,see or correspond ) ea* o!r (t54 ,love w n be> neglect4 ,no?+ kills x equally4 ,9 ?is x is mo/ exact+4 ,x w n1 %\ld n1 be second 9 any?+4 ,fir/ or no?+1 is its motto4 ,meet z (t5 z possible4 ,aft] its fires h once be5 lit1 !y mu/ be p]petually resuppli$ ) _! natural fuel2 else !y die d[n1 g out1 or g else:]e2 & are h>d] to rek9dle ?an to light at fir/4 ,a spl5did "y man1 son ( "o ( ,new ,engl&'s mo/ tal5t$ & pi\s div9es1 end[$ ) "o ( ! v be/ ( organisms1 physical & phr5ological1 hav+ select$ 8 mate1 & plight$ _! mutual v[s1 be+ ! bus9ess manag] ( a l>ge manufactory1 & oblig$ to def5d sev]al consecutive lawsuits = pat5t-"r infr+em5ts1 neglect$ = weeks to write to 8 betro!d1 presuppos+1 ( c\rse1 t all 0 "r4 ,?is (f5d$ h] lady%ip1 & all[$ evil-m9d$ m$dl]s to s[ se$s ( ali5ation 9 h] m9d2 p]suade h] to s5d him 8 dismissal1 & accept a m>riage proposal f ano!r4 ,z he told 8 m\rnful /ory1 he seem$ l a /urdy oak riv5 by lightn+ & torn by :irlw9ds2 its foliage scor*$1 b>k /ripp$1 limbs tatt]$1 ev5 its v rootlets sca!d2 yet /&+1 a /]n1 pr\d1 defiant1 resolute wreck4 ,a gu%+ te> he manfully tri$ b fail$ to suppress4 ,8 lips quiv]$ & voice falt]$4 ,p]ceiv+ 8 imp5d+ fate1 he seem$ to dread 8 future m ?an pres5t2 & hesitat$ betwe5 self-ab&onm5t1 & a m]ely me*anical1 objectless1 bus9ess life4 ,9 attempt+ 8 salvation1 by pr(f]+ advice to ! brok5-he>t$1 he respectfully b firmly decl9$2 delib]ately pref]r+ old-ba*elor%ip1 ) all its de>?s1 ( :i* he seem$ fully consci\s4 ,he felt z if he _h be5 deeply wrong$4 ,yet 0 n he ! fir/ practically to repudiate8 ,he suff]$ t]ribly1 because he _h s9n$ griev\sly1 n by commission1 b omission4 ,he felt ! deepe/1 fulle/1 manlie/ love1 & revell$ 9 anticipations ( _! future union1 b did n express x2 :i* 0 to h] z if he _h n felt x2 :]eas1 _h he sav$ b "o m9ute p] week to write lov+ly1 ,i long to be ) y1 & love y /ill1 or1 ,bus9ess does n1 _c dim9i% my fondness1 he w\ld h sav$ h] brok5 v[s1 & 8 brok5 he>t4 ,m+l+ o!r enjoym5ts ) love1 by go+ toge!r to picnics & p>ties1 sleigh-rides & ,may+s1 conc]ts1 & lectures1 m>vell\sly cem5ts ! affections4 ,love ,fe$s on ,love4 ,meet 9 y\r mo/ attractive habilim5ts ( m9d & p]son4 ,fr5* ladies w see _! affianc$ only :5 array$ 9 _! be/ toilet4 ,yet m5tal *>ms va/ly surpass mill9]y4 ,nei!r c r5d] y\rselves too lovely4 ,express affectionate fondness 9 y\r visits & lett]s2 ! m ! bett]1 s t y keep x a s5tim5t1 n debase x by animal passion4 ,x is /ill e/abli%+ its rootlets1 l "y corn1 in/ead ( gr[+4 ,all[ no amatory excitem5t1 no fr5zi$1 deliri\s intoxication ) x2 = its viol5ce1 l e o!r1 mu/ react only to exhau/ & p>alyze itself by its own excesses4 ,affianc$ "y man1 life has its epo*s1 :i* revolutionize x = good or bad4 ,y are n[ 9 "o4 ,y h h]et(ore affiliat$ mu* ) m52 =m$ habits ( smok+ or *ew+ tobacco2 indulg$ 9 late supp]s2 abus$ y\rself 9 v>i\s ways2 p]haps be5 on sprees4 ,n[ is y\r "t to take a new dep>ture f :atev] is evil to all t is good & pure4 ,break up mo/ ( y\r mascul9e associations2 & affiliate *iefly ) y\r affianc$4 ,be out no m nights4 ,let y\r new responsibilities & relations brace y up aga9/ _! temptations2 &1 if ^! are n suffici5t1 y\r prospective sp\se w help4 ,no o!r aid 9 resi/+ temptation & inspir+ to good equals t ( a lov+1 lov$ woman4 ,break (f f y\r cronyisms1 clubs1 societies1 all engagem5ts except su* z mean imp]ative1 cold-blood$ bus9ess4 ,y\r new ties furni% an excell5t excuse4 ,all y\r sp>e "t & small *ange are want$ = h]4 ,to give to bad habits ! "t & money due to h] & sett+ up 9 life1 is outrage\s4 ,b5d ev]y?+ to y\r new relations1 !m to no?+4 ,n['s y\r "t to turn ov] a new leaf1 & turn all ! angles1 corn]s & "r-ab\t faces ne$$4 ,affianc$ maid51 y h "s dep>tures to take & corn]s to turn4 ,y\r life has till n[ be5 frivol\s1 b has n[ become s]i\s4 ,y h no m ne$ ( toilet f9]ies2 = y\r m>ket is made1 & y h "w on h& f> m important1 namely1 fitt+ y\rself = y\r new duties4 ,f9d out :at !y dem& ( y1 & set "r ab\t mak+ a premium wife & "m4 ,bo? beg9 life anew4 ,=gett+ ! pa/1 plant & s[ n[ :at y w\ld ga!r & become always4 ,! ,be/ ( all ,possessions4 ,woman is man's *oice/ treasure4 ,t is ! mo/ preci\s :i* conf]s ! mo/ happ9ess4 ,%e is adapt$ to r5d] him incomp>ably happi] ?an any o!r t]re/rial possession4 ,he c enjoy lusci\s pea*es1 melt+ pe>s1 crack horses1 doll>s & o!r ?+s innum]able2 b a well-sex$ man c enjoy woman mo/ ( all4 ,he is poor inde$1 & takes little pleasure 9 ?is life1 be 8 possessions & social position :at !y may1 :o takes no pleasure ) h]4 ,all description utt]ly fails to express ! v>i$ & exultant enjoym5ts ,god has engraft$ into a "r sexual /ate4 ,only few exp]i5ces c atte/ h[ _m & great1 f infancy to dea?1 & ?r\gh\t et]nity itself4 ,all ,god c\ld d ,he has done to r5d] ea* sex sup]latively happy 9 ! o!r4 ,( all 8 beautiful & p]fect "w1 ?is is ! mo/ beautiful & p]fect4 ,( all 8 b5ignant devices1 ?is is 8 mo/ b5ign4 ,all ! div9e attributes1 all human happ9ess1 conv]ge 9 male & female adaptations to mutual enjoym5ts4 ,ea* is correspond+ly preci\s to ! o!r4 ,man %\ld prize _m ?+s1 yet woman is 8 pe>l ( greate/ price4 ,he %\ld pres]ve1 *]i%1 husb& _m life possessions1 b woman ! mo/4 ,he has _m jewels 9 8 cr[n ( glory1 b %e is 8 gem-jewel1 8 diadem4 ,:at mascul9e luxury equals mak+ wom5 9 g5]al1 & ! lov$ "o 9 p>ticul>1 happy8 ,! ,s\rce ( ,mis]ies4 ,beg9n+ & conduct+ c\rt%ip z ?is *apt] directs1 avoid+ ! errors & foll[+ ! directions x specifies1 w j z surely r5d] all sup]latively happy z sun w rise to-morr[4 ,scan _! s5se4 ,d !y n exp\nd nature's love-initiat+ & consummat+ ord9ances8 ,are !y n wor?y ( be+ put into practice8 ,discordants1 c y n trace _m ( y\r antagonisms & mis]ies to _! ignorant violation8 ,p>5ts1 :at are !y wor? to put into y\r *ildr5's h&s1 to =ew>n !m aga9/ c>elessly1 ignorantly1 spoil+ _! m>riage8 ,"y ladies1 :at are !y wor? to y1 z %[+ y h[ to s treat y\r admir]s z to ga9 & r$\ble _! he>t's devotion8 ,"y m51 :at are ^! w>n+s & tea*+s wor? to y8 ,god 9 8 natural laws w bless all :o practice1 curse all :o violate !m4 ,! conduct dur+ engagem5t on ! "p ( ! g5tleman %\ld be m>k$ by ! utmo/ c\rtesy t[>d & confid5ce 9 ! woman ( 8 *oice2 a /ate ( feel+ :i* %e %\ld fully reciprocate4 ,9 public _! behavior t[>d "o ano!r %\ld n be m>k$ly diff]5t f t display$ by !m t[>d o!r m5 & wom5 ( _! acqua9tance2 save t ! bridegroom-elect %\ld be on ! wat* t n ! slighte/ wi% ( ! lady be unfulfill$4 ,z = ! lady1 :ile %e is n expect$ to deb> h]self f accept+ ! cu/om>y c\rtesies ext5d$ by ! g5tlem5 ( h] acqua9tance1 a slight res]ve %\ld m>k h] conduct 9 accept+ !m4 ,at all places ( amusem5t or ent]ta9m5t %e %\ld appe> ei!r 9 ! company ( h] fianc1 or t ( "s relative4 ,%e %\ld nev] capti\sly take (f5se at h] fianc's %[+ ! same att5tion to o!r ladies t %e1 9 h] turn1 is will+ to accept f o!r g5tlem51 & %e %\ld take ! same pa9s to please 8 ta/e 9 trifles t he does to gratify h] slighte/ wi%4 ,?is does n mean1 ?\gh1 t 9 ! selfi%ness & bl9dness ( love--& love is v bl9d & selfi% sometimes--%e is to %ut h]self up to 8 companion%ip at all times1 exclud+ him f ! family circle ( :i* he is s soon to become a memb]1 & pair+ (f on all occasions1 ?us r5d]+ bo? ! m>k = silly je/+s4 ,h[ to ,*]i% ,love4 ,b1 9 sob] matt]-(-fact1 t little r+ ( gold does n mean utt] bl9dness4 ,x does n mean t %e is to devote h] ev5+s exclusively to ! *os5 "o1 ignor+ h] family entirely4 ,x does n mean t %e is to accept valuable pres5ts ( all k9ds at 8 h&s1 to expect him to give up all 8 fri5ds = h] sake1 nor to confide all ! secrets ( ! h\sehold to 8 keep+1 b1 z "o wise woman says1 to gu>d h]self 9 ^w & de$2 hold 8 love 9 ! be/ way possible2 tie x firmly ) ! blue ribbon ( hope1 & nev] let x be eat5 away by ! little fox :o de/roys s _m lov+ ties1 & :o is call$ famili>ity4 ,nei!r is ?is c\nsel to be deem$ ov]-cauti\s1 s9ce1 alas6 ev5 engagem5ts are sometimes brok5 9 ?is unc]ta9 _w1 & surely !re is no womanly woman t w\ld n 9 su* an ev5t reflect gladly1 z %e took up h] life once m at ! old po9t1 t %e _h rememb]$ ^! ?+s4 ,a dom9e]+1 jeal\s disposition on ei!r side be=e m>riage is n ! be/ possible gu>antee = aft] happ9ess1 & if ^! traits are cle>ly %[n dur+ an engagem5t1 ! individual :o escapes f su* ?raldom be=e x is too late has %[n conclusively t discretion :i* is1 at times1 ! bett] "p ( valor4 ,conduct ,t[>d ,p>5ts4 ,! g5tleman %\ld ex]cise "s tact 9 reg>d to 8 conduct t[>d ! family ( 8 betro!d4 ,m>k$ att5tion %\ld be %[n t[>d ! lady's "m4 ,he %\ld accommodate himself z mu* z possible to ! wi%es1 habits & ways ( ! h\sehold1 & n be+1 z yet1 a memb] ( ! family1 he %\ld n presume to %[ an intrusive famili>ity ( conv]sation4 ,! lady1 on h] "p1 %\ld /rive to %[ consid]ation1 fri5dl9ess1 & a desire to please ! p>5ts ( h] husb&-t-is-to-be4 ,?us bo? w unite 9 ! endeavor to ov]come t lov+ jeal\sy s natural on ! "p ( ^? :o see ! claims ( ano!r gr[n p>am\nt 9 ! he>t ( "o ( _! numb]1 & feel t ^! new l9ks are fa/ becom+ /rong] ?an ties ( blood & relation%ip4 ,! respective families %\ld meet ^! advances ) all k9dness1 & %\ld also endeavor1 9 view ( ! new union p5d+ betwe5 !m1 to make1 if ?is be necess>y1 "o ano!r's acqua9tance z soon z conv5i5t4 ,l5g? ( ,engagem5ts4 ,engagem5ts %\ld n be ent]$ ^u prematurely1 a c]ta9 degree ( acqua9tance%ip prov+ no mean prep>ation = an arrangem5t ( ?is nature4 ,b :5 an engagem5t is once =m$ x %\ld n1 9 ! majority ( cases1 be ( an undue l5g?4 ,?is is a matt] to be settl$ by ! wi%es or ! circum/ances ( ! contract+ p>ties4 ,x is (times ! measure ( wisdom1 :]e ! ob/acle is lack ( =tune1 to risk "s degree ( deprivation1 r ?an submit to a long-protract$ engagem5t2 ! man1 z head ( ! new home1 f9d+ a fre% motive = ambiti\s /riv+1 & bo? p>ties be+ pres]v$ f t coolness ( feel+ too att5dant ^u ye>s ( wait+4 ,no homes are happi] ?an ^? con/ruct$ on ! pr9ciple ( economy & pati5t ef=t4 ,brok5 ,engagem5ts4 ,n unfrequ5tly does x occur t circum/ances arise t r5d] ! dissolution ( an engagem5t inevitable1 &1 z su* a c\rse1 unless mutual1 ( necessity involves an injury to ! feel+s ( "o p>ty1 great c>e & delicacy %\ld be employ$ 9 approa*+ ! subject4 ,if ! occasion %\ld arise on ! lady's side1 x mu/ be rememb]$ t %e is n b\nd to decl>e any o!r reason ?an h] own sweet w4 ,x is bett]1 h[ev]1 = reasons to be frankly giv51 t ! /ep may n be attribut$ to m]e caprice on h] "p4 ,on ! side ( ! man ! reasons mu/ be /rong1 inde$1 t c ju/ify him 9 break+ a solemn engagem5t s\ght ( 8 own free w1 & urg$ by him ^u ! object ( 8 *oice4 ,by ?us releas+ himself he n unfrequ5tly leaves ! lady 9 an emb>rass+ position be=e ! public1 n to m5tion ! possible injury t may be inflict$ ^u ! deepe/ feel+s ( h] he>t4 ,if ! cause %\ld arise f any fault on ! "p ( ! lady1 a man ( honor w ev] pres]ve ! /ricte/ sil5ce on ! subject4 ,if f sudd5 failure 9 8 own =tunes he %\ld feel himself 9 duty b\nd to rel9qui% 8 hope ( pres5t happ9ess le/ he selfi%ly drag ano!r d[n to p5ury1 let ! reason be c>efully & cle>ly expla9$4 ,at ! conclusion ( an engagem5t let e gift1 includ+ ! engagem5t r+1 & all photographs & lett]s t h be5 ex*ang$ betwe5 ! two1 be promptly return$ by ea* t z little z possible may rema9 to rem9d ( ! days t are done4 ,x is especially a po9t ( honor on ! g5tleman's "p to reta9 no?+ t ! lady may h giv51 or writt51 him4 ,etiquette ( ,m>ri$ ,life4 ,m>riage1 to ! elect1 may be fitly t]m$ a /ate ( grace1 b )\t a close obs]vance ( all ! c\rtesies t t5d to uplift ev]yday life 9 "s degree above ! n>r[ness ( m]e exi/5ce x may b too easily become :at ! old cynic decl>$ x to be :5 he wrote1 ,m>riage is a fea/ 9 :i* ! grace is sometimes bett] ?an ! d9n]4 ,mutual confid5ce & mutual respect are ! two pr9cipal factors 9 ! case4 ,)\t ^! !re c be none ( t h>mony s necess>y to happ9ess 9 ! /ate matrimonial4 ,& n only ?is1 b !y %\ld /rive to be mutually ent]ta9+4 ,! pa9s !y took dur+ _! engagem5t to be agreeable to "o ano!r at a "t :5 !y 7 by no means entirely dep5d5t ^u !mselves = companion%ip1 w\ld surely n be amiss 9 r5d]+ pleasant ! ye>s1 & x may be decades ( ye>s1 dur+ :i* !y mu/ be to a great ext5t dep5d5t ^u ea* o!r = ent]ta9m5t4 ,! "y man :o sp5t s mu* "t at ! home ( a c]ta9 lady t he 0 f9ally ask$ :y1 if he 0 9 love ) h]1 he did n m>ry h]1 utt]$ a sad tru? :5 he answ]$1 ,ah1 b :]e !n %\ld ,i pass my ev5+s8 ,a reflection ^u ! agreeabl5ess ( m>ri$ life t might easily be avoid$ by ! ex]cise ( c>e & tact on bo? sides4 ,! ,art ( ,agreeabl5ess4 ,philip ,gilb]t ,hamm]ton1 9 8 ,intellectual ,life1 wisely sugge/s3 ,a m>ri$ c\ple are cle>ly aw>e t1 9 ! c\rse ( a few ye>s1 _! society is sure to become mutually un9t]e/+ unless some?+ is done4 ,:at is t some?+8 ,e au?or :o succe$s1 takes ! tr\ble to r5ew 8 m9d by fre% k1 new ?\ghts4 ,s1 is x n at lea/ wor? :ile to d z mu* to pres]ve ! int]e/ ( m>riage8 ,! wife :o dresses = h] husb&'s sake1 :o reads t %e may qualify h]self = conv]sation ) him1 :o makes him ! *ief end ( h] c>es1 & ! husb& :o br+s home f ! outside _w "s ( its life & animation to %>e ) h]1 :o has a lov+ int]e/ 9 all t %e has done = 8 pleasure1 &1 if weal? be a /rang] at _! door1 /&s ready to lift ! heavie/ burd5s f h] %\ld]s1 h solv$ = !mselves ! problem ( m>ri$ happ9ess1 & f\nd x to be a condition :]e9 e joy is d\bl$ & e sorr[ halv$4 ,duty ,t[>d ,"o ,ano!r4 ,let ! wife h no confidant z to ! little %ortcom+s ( h] husb&1 ov] :i* love1 z well z pride1 %\ld draw a %elt]+ veil4 ,nev] li/5 to an unk9d tale ( 8 pa/ or pres5t mi/akes1 & c\nt all ^? :o w\ld seek ?us to de/roy y\r peace ( m9d z y\r bitt]e/ enemies4 ,let ! husb& 9 8 turn rememb] t an unk9d or slight+ ^w spok5 ( 8 wife1 t\*es 8 own honor to ! quick1 & be in/ant 9 res5t+ ! words t %\ld nev] h be5 spok5 9 8 pres5ce4 ,ano!r po9t to be rememb]$ 9 view ( ! duty ( husb& & wife t[>d "o ano!r1 is ) ref]5ce to att5d+ *ur* or ent]ta9m5ts4 ,! wife has1 9 all probability1 left a home :]e ! diff]5t memb]s ( ! h\sehold 7 ready to accompany ea* o!r :5ev] occasion s]v$1 & "y fri5ds 7 plann+ _m a pleasant out+1 & n[ %e is :olly dep5d5t ^u h] husb& = all ( ^! ?+s4 ,let h] bew>e1 "u ^! circum/ances1 ( all[+ h]self to att5d *ur*1 lecture1 or any o!r ev5+ ent]ta9m5t1 9 ! company ( well-mean+ fri5ds4 ,= ! husb&1 once see+ t 8 wife c att5d ^! places )\t 8 assi/ance1 w soon1 if su* be 8 disposition1 rema9 selfi%ly home at all times1 or1 if o!rwise incl9$1 /ill m selfi%ly f9d 8 amusem5t 9 places widely =eign to 8 wife's happ9ess or peace ( m9d4 ,! c>elessness ( _m well-mean+ m5 9 ?is respect is ! cause ( v mu* unhapp9ess t might be :olly avoid$ by a little consid]ation z to ! utt] dep5d5ce ( ! wife ^u h] husb& = all ^! recreations4 ,home ,attire4 ,?is is a subject t x %\ld be unnecess>y to t\* ^u1 b1 un=tunately1 too _m bright1 pretty1 c>efully-dress$ girls deg5]ate into c>eless1 fretful1 untidy & illy-clad "y wives1 ^: pres5ce is any?+ b a joy =ev] to ! individuals :o mu/ face !m across ! family bo>d = ?ree hundr$ & sixty-five days 9 e ye>4 ,& x is ?is c>eless "y woman :o is fir/ to compla9 t ,john does n c>e = me 9 ! lea/1 n[ we are m>ri$1 :ile ,john is v apt to ?9k1 ,if ,c>rie w\ld only take j a little ( ! pa9s to please me n[ t %e did six mon?s ago1 h[ mu* happi] we w\ld be4 ,& ,john is q "r ab\t x4 ,?is v c>elessness on ! "p ( wives has m>r$ ! happ9ess ( m ?an "o new home4 ,! ribbon1 ! fl[]1 ! color t ,john likes & ! smile t cr[ns all are magical 9 _! effects4 ,!n let ,john always rememb] to br+ to ?is home a pleasant face1 f :i* bus9ess c>es are driv5 away1 & a read9ess to please & be pleas$1 t meets ! wife's attempts half way1 & ! ev5+ meal w be made delightful by pleasant *at1 :i* %\ld nev] consi/ ( a rsum ( ! day's tribulations1 b %\ld turn on subjects calculat$ to remove f ! m9d all trace ( _! exi/5ce1 & ?us w !y arise at its close bett] & happi] = ! h\r t has pass$4 ,h\sehold & ,p]sonal ,exp5ses4 ,"o ( ! *ief s\rces ( unhapp9ess 9 m>ri$ life is ! /rife aris+ f ! vex$ "q ( home & p]sonal exp5ses4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 ! husb& frequ5tly fails 9 reg>d to op5ness ) reg>d to 8 bus9ess conc]ns & pr(its2 ?us ! wife1 entirely ignorant z to :at am\nt %e may safely sp5d1 errs too (t5 on ! side ( extravagance1 f9d+ too late1 :5 a /orm ( reproa* desc5ds ^u h] innoc5t head1 :]e & h[ %e has s9n$4 ,!n1 too1 x is (t5 a sore trial to ! wife's pride to ask = ! money necess>y to keep h] own w>drobe 9 repair4 ,especially is ?is ! case :51 be=e m>riage1 %e 0 9 receipt ( h] own money1 e>n$ by h] own h&s4 ,x seems to h] t h] husb& ought to see t %e has ne$ ( c]ta9 articles1 & ! v fact t he does n1 leads h] to ! false supposition t he has ceas$ to c>e = h]1 :ile he1 if !re 0 any ?\ght ab\t x 9 8 m9d1 w\ld say1 ,:y doesn't %e ask = money if %e wants x8 ,%e kn[s ,i w give x to h] if ,i h x4 ,all ^! tr\bles w\ld be avoid$ if m>ri$ c\ples e>ly came to a def9ite und]/&+ on ?is subject1 & a c]ta9 sum 7 set aside :i* ! wife 0 to receive weekly = h\sehold exp5ses1 h] p]sonal wants to be suppli$ f su* surplus z %e may be able to save f out ?is sum1 or 9 "s o!r way provid$ = by a /at$ am\nt1 bo? ( :i* sums %\ld be "u h] exclusive1 unque/ion$ control4 ,"s simple sy/em ( acc\nts %\ld !n be kept & regul>ly gone ov] toge!r on e qu>t]4 ,a mutual agreem5t ?us e/abli%$ on ! money "q1 mu* annoyance & mu* extravagance may be prev5t$4 ,x is n too mu* to sugge/ t1 p]haps1 x might n be amiss to pres5t an acc\nt ( ! husb&'s exp5ses also1 at ^! qu>t]ly reckon+s4 ,above all ?+s1 nev] let ! wife1 f a weak desire to gratify h] own p]sonal vanity1 ent] ^u "s extravagant pur*ase1 ! am\nt ( :i* %e mu/ conceal f h] husb&1 & 7va9ly (t57 /rive to pay 9 small am\nts sav$ or borr[$4 ,! result is usually exposure1 sometimes disgrace1 pecuni>y loss & loss ( e/eem 9 ! husb&'s eyes4 ,p]fect confid5ce is ! only basis ^u :i* happ9ess c be safely f\nd$4 ,a ,pleasant ,disposition4 ,cultivate1 on bo? sides1 a disposition to re/ra9 all unseemly exhibitions ( temp]4 ,hy/]ics & prolong$ & repeat$ fits ( te>s soon lose _! effect1 &1 at ! la/1 a half-pity+ contempt is _! only result4 ,let all conv]sation be ref9$ 9 its tone4 ,! =ce ( example 9 ?is respect c>ries ) x a sil5t1 impressive p[] t is n easily resi/$ & lapses !refrom involve a loss ( ?is influ5ce t _c be easily e/imat$4 ,pr(anity1 too1 is a deadly foe 9 ! h\sehold & any wife t p]mits h] husb& to swe> 9 h] pres5ce1 ei!r to h]self1 or conc]n+ o!rs1 less5s h] own self-respect ea* "t x occurs4 ,t pr(anity c be repress$1 has be5 %[n h] by ! fact t1 no matt] h[ long ! previ\s engagem5t may h la/$1 no ^w ( su* import escap$ ! man's lips 9 h] pres5ce1 & surely ! woman *os5 to be head ( 8 home is no less wor?y ( 8 respect ?an 0 ! girl he woo$4 ,! habit ( indulg+ 9 cutt+ or h>% rem>ks is "o to be gu>d$ aga9/4 ,mutual polit5ess %\ld be ex]cis$ by bo? husb& & wife1 & 9 all cases wat* %\ld be set ov] ! m\?1 & ! door ( ! lips well kept4 ,bo>d+ ,v]sus ,home ,life4 ,! t5d5cy 9 all l>ge cities1 at ?is pres5t "t1 po9ts t[>d fa%ionable bo>d+-h\ses1 or exp5sive lodg+-h\ses1 z ! nuclei r\nd :i* ! newly-m>ri$ mo/ d congregate4 ,x may be t ! wife is utt]ly unus$ to ! c>e ( a h\se 79 :i* case ! soon] %e le>n ! art1 ! happi] = bo? p>ties7 or1 p]haps1 ! f9ancial res\rces ( ! husb& are unable to support ! dra9 consequ5t ^u furni%+ a home t %all gratify ! fooli% pride ( ! wife4 ,b1 :atev] ! cause1 ! effects are ! same1 & are to be f\nd 9 ! utt] unfitness ( wom5 adopt+ ?is mann] ( exi/5ce = any ( ! s]i\s duties ( life t1 soon] or lat]1 come ^u all :o we> ?is mortal g>b4 ,!n1 too1 9 ! idle1 c5sori\s1 gossip+1 novel-read+ life t fl\ri%es 9 ?is ho?\se exi/5ce1 ! se$s ( lifelong mis]y are n infrequ5tly s[n4 ,let a home1 !n1 h[ev] small1 be "o ( ! fir/ consid]ations 9 beg9n+ ! m>ri$ life1 & let ! add+ to1 & ! beautify+ (1 ?is preci\s possession be ! duty & ! privilege ( ! ye>s to come4 ,to ! wife1 9 h] h\sewifely rle1 belongs ! c>e ( ov]see+ or accompli%+ ) h] own h&s1 ! v>i$ duties t g to secure ! daily well-be+ ( ! home4 ,%e mu/ see t ! rooms are bright1 neat1 & cosily arrang$2 t ! meals are appetiz+ly & punctually s]v$1 & be h]self neatly & ta/efully attir$ to preside at ! table4 ,due all[ances are to be made = ! am\nt ( manual labor %e has be5 oblig$ to p]=m ) h] own h&s1 /ill1 by c>e & tact a woman c always ma9ta9 a c]ta9 degree ( neatness4 ,let ! husb&1 on 8 "p1 br+ into ! home *e]fulness1 ) a quick remembrance ( all ^? little att5tions t g s f> t[>d mak+ up ! sum ( e>?ly happ9ess4 ,let him see t1 to ! be/ ( 8 ability1 ! home wants are provid$ =1 & be n =getful to l5d ! help ( 8 /rong] h& :]ev] ne$$4 7,read c>efully o!r h9ts 9 dep>tm5t ( ,home ,etiquette47 ,nev] dem& ( y\r wife m ?an y are will+ to give4 ,if y desire to be receiv$ ) smiles1 ent] ! h\se ) a *e]ful mi51 & y w f9d !re are few wom5 :o are n will+ to give measure = measure1 & ev5 a little m ?an !y receive ( k9dly att5tion4 ,= a wife w usually %9e1 l ! moon1 by reflection1 & h] happ9ess w always reflect y\r own4 ,illu/ration ,,w$d+s ,,& ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>ies4 ,illu/ration ,9 discuss+ ! important subject ( etiquette z connect$ ) w$d+s & w$d+ anniv]s>ies1 x may be m5tion$ "h t ! =ms = invitations to all occasions ( ?is sort1 & acceptances & regrets ( ! same1 c>d-s5d+1 etc41 h be5 fully treat$ 9 _! respective dep>tm5ts4 ,! obs]vances imm$iately prec$+1 dur+1 & foll[+ ! c]emony1 are n[ to receive consid]ation4 ,pay+ = ! ,c>ds4 ,! =m1 size & use ( ^! important bits ( pa/ebo>d hav+ be5 be=e /at$1 x only rema9s = u to say "h t all ! exp5ses relative to _! pur*ase & di/ribution are to be borne solely by ! p>5ts or o!r gu>dians ( ! bride4 ,to h x o!rwise implies a lack ( delicacy on ! "p ( ! bride1 & lays ^u h] a c]ta9 am\nt ( obligation :i* e "r-m9d$ girl w\ld desire1 above all ?+s1 to avoid4 ,h5ce :5 ! p>5ts are f9ancially unable to incur ! exp5se1 good ta/e dem&s t all display be ab&on$ & ! c\ple be quietly m>ri$ 9 ! pres5ce ( ! family only4 ,! bride %\ld always rememb] t until ! fateful words are spok5 t make ! twa9 "o fle%1 %e has no claim :atev] on ! purse ( h] future husb&1 & conduct h]self accord+ly4 ,h5ce x is t a v pla9 tr\sseau is m comm5dable to ! self-respect ( ! we>]1 ?an ! elaborate outfitt+s1 t[>d ! pur*ase ( :i* ! groom-expectant has l>gely contribut$1 & :i*1 9 case ( ! (t-recurr+ slip twixt ! cup & ! lip1 mu/ weigh heavily ^u ! maid5's pride4 ,ev5 ! aft] c>ds are usually ord]$ by ! p>5ts ) ! o!rs1 & paid = at ! same "t4 ,if1 h[ev]1 !y are ord]$ aft] m>riage1 !y are paid = by ! groom4 ,!re is only "o exception to ! rule ( ! bride's p>5ts pay+ = ! w$d+ c>ds1 & ?is occurs :5 ! w$d+ c]emony is p]=m$ quietly 9 *ur* & ! reception1 = "s reason1 is held at ! home ( ! groom's p>5ts1 9 :i* case !y1 z ! ent]ta9]s1 prop]ly pay =1 & issue1 ! c>ds ( invitation4 ,! groom1 9 ,engl&1 always pays = ! c>riage t conveys himself & bride to ! /ation aft] ! c]emony & reception are pa/1 b 9 ?is c\ntry ! fa%ionable fa!r usually claims ! privilege ( s5d+ !m on ?is fir/ /age ( _! m>ri$ life 9 8 own c>riage4 ,h[ev]1 ! groom buys ! r+ & a b\quet = ! bride1 furni%es da9ty pres5ts = ! bridemaids1 rememb]s ! be/ man & ! u%]s1 pays ! cl]gyman's fee1 ! size ( :i* is to be regulat$ only by 8 incl9ation1 or ! l5g? ( 8 purse-/r+s1 & furni%es ! m>riage lic5se4 ,nam+ ! ,day4 ,?is privilege belongs by "r to ! lady h]self1 b1 9 reality1 ! bus9ess engagem5ts ( ! groom1 & ! "t :5 he c be/ leave = ! bridal t\r h mu* to d 9 settl+ ! exact date = :i* ! invitations %all be issu$4 ,9 v fa%ionable circles x is ! "m t names ! day ( h] daught]'s m>riage4 ,"t 0 :5 dur+ ! two weeks1 or long]1 elaps+ betwe5 ! issu+ ( ! invitations & ! occurr5ce ( ! w$d+1 ! bride-expectant 0 n to be se5 9 public1 nor by *ance call]s at ! h\se1 a cu/om :i* /ill prevails to "s ext5t1 b is sup]s$$ 9 ! mo/ fa%ionable circles by a s]ies ( especial ent]ta9m5ts giv5 dur+ ?is int]val4 ,x frequ5tly happ5s t "o1 or ea*1 ( ! bridemaids ent]ta9s ! bride & o!r bridemaids at a lun* or d9n]1 ei!r in=mally or on a l>ge scale4 ,"s m>ri$ fri5d ( ! family may give a l>ge f>ewell d9n] to ,miss ---- & h] bridemaids2 & ! bride h]self1 or h] "m1 may give a rehe>sal d9n]4 ,ord9>y invitations1 h[ev]1 are n to be accept$4 ,if ! pres5ts are n to be exhibit$ at ! w$d+ reception1 ! bride frequ5tly gives an in=mal tea ! day be=e to h] lady fri5ds = ! purpose ( display+ !m4 ,%e %\ld also1 = h] heal?'s sake1 take a daily drive4 ,ann\nc+ ! ,engagem5t4 ,an engagem5t is n[ frequ5tly ann\nc$ 9 r a =mal mann]4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 is n usually done until a %ort "t previ\s to ! m>riage itself4 ,sometimes x comes out 9 ! society pap]s imm$iately aft] x has be5 made kn[n to ! k9folk & intimate fri5ds4 ,felicitations foll[ z a matt] ( c\rse4 ,sometimes a d9n]-p>ty is giv5 by ! p>5ts ( ! bride-elect & ! ann\ncem5t is made by ! ho/ j be=e leav+ ! table4 ,congratulations foll[4 ,sometimes notes are writt5 by ! "y lady or h] "m 9 ann\ncem5t4 ,if ! families ( ! contract+ p>ties h be5 /rang]s h]et(ore x is expect$ t ! g5tleman's family w make ! fir/ call4 ,any fri5ds t *oose may give ent]ta9m5ts 9 honor ( ! c\ple4 ,! lady does n make any c]emoni\s calls aft] ?is ann\ncem5t has be5 made1 x be+ suppos$ t be=e ?is occurs %e %all h left c>ds ^u all h] fri5ds4 ,if no =mal ann\ncem5t is made ! bride-to-be mu/1 be=e invitations are issu$1 leave c>ds ) h] fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,9 ! city %e ne$ n ent] to make a p]sonal call1 9 ! c\ntry %e w probably f9d x necess>y s to d4 ,w$d+ ,gifts4 ,!re is mu* to be said = & aga9/ ! cu/om ( w$d+ pres5ts4 ,& :ile ! fact rema9s t !y too (t5 become ! vehicle = an exp5diture s uncall$-= z to encroa* ^u vulg>ity 9 its excess1 ano!r fact /ill exi/s1 t ! simple remembrances ( fri5ds are v grateful to ! bride1 :o1 p]haps1 is b\nd = a di/ant home :]e e lov+ tok5 w recall a well-kn[n face4 ,!n rememb] y\r fri5ds on _! w$d+ day1 wisely1 & accord+ to _! ta/es & y\r own res\rces1 =3 ,policy c\nselle? a gift1 ,giv5 wisely & 9 season1 ,& policy aft]w>d approve? x1 ,= great is ! p[] ( gifts4 ,by ^? s desir+1 ! words1 ,no pres5ts1 or ,no pres5ts receiv$1 may be engrav$ 9 ! left h& corn] ( ! c>d4 ,?is is (t5 a relief to _m ( ! gue/s1 &1 at ! same "t does n prev5t ! v intimate fri5ds1 z well z memb]s ( ! family1 f s5d+ quietly su* gifts z !y may *oose1 :i*1 ( c\rse1 are n exhibit$4 ,:]e pres5ts are to be giv5 !y are frequ5tly s5t "s "t 9 advance1 & ! bride (t5 takes mu* pleasure 9 arrang+ !m = exhibition 9 "s up/airs room4 ,ea* article is accompani$ by ! c>d ( ! giv]2 ^! are remov$ or n1 z may be desir$ be=e exhibition4 ,! bride ackn[l$ges ! reception ( ea* gift by a graceful little note ( ?anks4 ,"s ( !m d\btless w come f p]sons unkn[n to h]1 fri5ds ( ! groom1 & to ^! %e mu/ be especially prompt 9 return+ h] ackn[l$gm5ts4 ,li/ ( ,invitations4 ,mak+ up ! li/ ( invitations %\ld be att5d$ to c>efully4 ,! engag$ c\ple %\ld c>efully prep>e _! respective li/s & ! "m ( ! bride %\ld att5tively scan names1 = f ?is is to be made up ! future visit+ li/ ( h] daught]1 & %e _c b hesitate at burd5+ h] at ! outset ( h] new life ) a ho/ ( call+ acqua9tances1 h5ce is =c$ to exclude e ineligible "n2 a cutt+ pa9ful b (times necess>y4 ,u%]s4 ,! duties ( ! u%]s 9 a *ur* w$d+ are v important4 ,at l>ge w$d+s z _m z half a doz51 or m1 u%]s are sometimes ne$$ to manage ! great numb] ( gue/s4 ,!y usually appo9t "o ( _! numb] z head u%]1 & to him falls ! duty ( decid+ on ! space to be res]v$ = ne> relatives1 :i* is to be divid$ f ! rema9d] ( ! *ur* by :ite ribbons4 ,he makes sure t ! organi/ is 9 place1 indicates ! approa* ( ! bridal p>ty t ! ,w$d+ ,m>* may greet !m1 & in/ructs ! o!r u%]s z to _! respective duties4 ,u%]s mu/ escort gue/s to _! seats1 & z relatives ( ! groom are seat$ on ! "r ( ! ma9 aisle1 or c5t] ( ! *ur*1 & ^? ( ! bride on ! left1 x is prop] = an u%] to ask any "o ) :om he may be unacqua9t$ :e!r _! relation%ip is to ! bride or groom4 ,9 escort+ gue/s to _! seats an u%] gives 8 "r arm to a lady4 ,a g5tleman :o may be 9 h] company %\ld foll[ aft]4 ,! gue/s assembl$1 "p ( ! u%]s %\ld leave ! *ur* at once & drive to ! bride's resid5ce 9 ord] to be !re to receive ! bridal p>ty ^u _! return4 ,! ,be/ ,man4 ,! be/ man is usually an intimate fri5d or relative ( ! groom4 ,he drives to ! *ur* ) him1 /&s by 8 side at ! alt>-rails :ile he awaits ! approa* ( ! bride1 &1 /epp+ back1 x is he t holds ! groom's hat dur+ ! c]emony & h&s x to him at its close4 ,to him is confid$ ! paym5t ( ! w$d+ fee1 & if !re is a m>riage regi/] he signs z a witness4 ,he !n drives by himself to ! bride's home1 rea*+ !re 9 "t to receive ! bridal p>ty & to assi/ ! u%]s 9 ! pres5tation ( gue/s to ! newly-m>ri$ c\ple4 ,he also makes ! necess>y arrangem5ts ab\t _! dep>ture1 secures ! tickets1 &1 if _! de/9ation is to be kept a secret1 to him alone is x confid$4 ,x occasionally happ5s t !re are z _m groomsm5 z !re are bridemaids1 b ?is is ! exception & ! be/ man takes _! place4 ,! u%]s frequ5tly =m1 two & two1 & prec$e ! bridal p>ty up ! aisle4 ,bridemaids4 ,! numb] ( ^! is optional1 f "o to twelve be+ all[able4 ,f\r1 six or eight are usually *os54 ,unm>ri$ si/]s ( ! bride & groom are frequ5tly select$4 ,cu/om emphatically decl>es t !y mu/ be y\ng] ?an ! bride4 ,= an eld] si/] ?us to (ficiate w\ld be extremely inappropriate4 ,inde$1 ! favor$ fa%ion ( ! pres5t "t is = little tots1 all ! way f ?ree or f\r to eight1 clad 9 bewit*+ly qua9t & picturesque co/umes & cr[n$ by ! l>ge/ ( ,ga9sboro' hats1 to prec$e ! bridal c\ple to ! *ancel4 ,9 addition to ^!1 ! bride is foll[$ by a *os5 numb] ( bridemaids z well1 b (t5 ! *ildr5 are all4 ,frequ5tly !y c>ry baskets ( fl[]s1 &1 prec$+ ! newly-made wife 9 h] progress d[n ! *ur* aisle1 !y scatt] ! blossoms 9 h] pa?way4 ,sometimes ?is ord] is *ang$1 & *ildr5 rise 9 gr\ps f seats ne> ! front1 &1 prec$+ ! bridal cortge to ! door1 scatt] fl[]s be=e !m4 ,*ildr5 select$ = ?is purpose %\ld be "u t54 ,"y boys1 select$ f among relatives1 are sometimes dress$ z pages & accompany ! bride z tra9-be>]s4 ,bridemaids usually consult ! bride z to _! toilets1 & ea* o!r z well1 t !re may be no un=tunate comb9ations ( color to m> ! effect ( ! :ole4 ,!y usually dress 9 colors1 unless ! bride *oose "s fa9t t9t = h] co/ume2 !n x is cu/om>y = !m to we> pure :ite1 & sometimes ! :ole gr\p are clad 9 spotless purity4 ,! bridemaids' g[ns are walk+ l5g?1 z a rule1 & !y we> l>ge1 picturesque hats1 ov]%ad[$ ) plumes or adorn$ ) fl[]s1 & c>ry huge bun*es1 or baskets1 ( fragrant blossoms4 ,weal?y brides1 :o h "s special fancy to c>ry out1 (t5 provide ! g[ns = _! maids4 ,hi/oric /yles are frequ5tly *os51 mak+ e g[n aft] ! exact mode ( ! epo* select$1 b adopt+ a diff]5t color = ea*4 ,:]e !re is b "o bridemaid1 if %e be escort$ at all1 :i* is n always done1 x %\ld be by "s fri5d1 n ! be/ man1 ^: duties 9 att5dance on ! groom are all-suffici5t4 ,bridemaids %\ld n refuse ! pr(f]$ honor1 if possible = !m to accept4 ,if1 aft] acceptance1 un=ese5 circum/ances %\ld occur to prev5t p>ticipation 9 ! fe/ivities1 no "t %\ld be lo/ 9 s5d+ a regret & full explanation1 s t h] place may be suppli$ 9 "t to prev5t dis>rangem5t ( ! entire plan4 ,a ,*ur* ,w$d+4 ,a *ur* w$d+ is m picturesque & solemn ?an any o!r =m ( celebrat+ ! m>riage rite & ! etiquette ( all full-dress affairs ( ?is nature is ess5tially ! same4 ,! groom drives fir/ to ! *ur*1 accompani$ by 8 be/ man & ent]s ei!r ve/ry or *ur* p>lor4 ,! relatives1 ! "m ( ! bride & ! bridemaids n[ drive to ! *ur* 9 c>riages1 closely foll[$ by ! c>riage ( ! bride & h] fa!r4 ,by ?is "t x is suppos$ t ! c>pet & awn+1 if x is a city *ur*1 are 9 place1 ! invit$ gue/s assembl$1 & ! bridal procession imm$iately =ms1 ent]+ ! *ur* & pass+ up ! aisle to ! /ra9s ( ! w$d+ m>*4 ,9 ,engl& a lovely innovation is made on ?is ?readb>e cu/om by hav+ a *orus ( boy-voices s+ an epi?alamium1 or w$d+ ode1 dur+ _! progress4 ,?is cu/om has f\nd its way "h 9 "s rituali/ic *ur*es :]e ! ve/$ *oir m>*1 two & two1 at ! head ( ! bridal procession1 s++ z !y m>*4 ,sometimes z high z =ty1 & ev5 sev5ty1 9 numb] swell ! cortge4 ,! ord] ( progression is z foll[s3 fir/ ! u%]s1 7unless !re are *ori/]s to take ! lead7 :o m>* up ! aisle by twos1 keep+ /ep ) ! music1 !n1 if !re are *ild-bridemaids1 !y foll[ 9 ! same ord]4 ,"s brides h two1 "s f\r or six ( ^! da9ty dots ( maids4 ,! *ildr5 are foll[$ by ! gr[n bridemaids1 also two by two4 ,sometimes *ildr5 alone fill ! place1 !re be+ no gr[n maids4 ,! maids1 bo? *ildr5 & gr[n folk1 are arrang$ accord+ to _! height & ! h>mony ( color 9 _! g[ns4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,m>riage ,,c]emony4 ,aft] !m comes ! bride lean+ on ! "r arm ( h] fa!r4 ,x sometimes happ5s t %e walks up ! aisle alone1 & aga9 t %e is accompani$ by "s male relative :o is to take a fa!r's place 9 giv+ h] away4 ,occasionally "y bro!rs1 m]e boys 9 age1 are p]mitt$ to assume ?is t\*+ duty4 ,at ! alt> /eps ! u%]s sep>ate & pass to ! "r & left1 ! bridemaids also sep>ate 9 a simil> mann]1 leav+ space = ! bridal c\ple4 ,! groom1 hav+ come f ! ve/ry1 accompani$ by ! be/ man1 %\ld be /&+ 9 read9ess to advance1 take ! bride by h] "r h& & turn to ! cl]gyman1 :o proce$s ) ! m>riage =mula sanction$ by 8 fai?4 ,at t po9t 9 ! s]vice :]e ! "q is ask$1 ,:o give? ?is woman to be m>ri$ to ?is man8 ! fa!r1 or :oev] takes 8 place1 %\ld b[1 & !n 9 a mom5t leave ! gr\p & seat himself beside ! bride's "m 9 ! front pew at ! left4 ,9 a rituali/ic *ur* ! bride & groom at once kneel be=e ! (ficiat+ cl]gyman1 :o w signify to !m at :at po9t ( ! s]vice to rise4 ,hassocks %\ld be provid$ = ! occasion4 ,! fir/ bridemaid1 or maid ( honor1 takes h] /& close to1 & slightly back (1 ! bride1 t %e may be ready to take h] b\quet1 if %e has "o1 remove h] glove1 or1 z is ! bett] cu/om 9 ?is day ( _m-button$ gloves1 to turn back ! neatly-ripp$ glove-f+] t ! r+ may be adju/$1 & to hold h] b\quet or pray]-book :5 necess>y4 ,9 ! meantime1 x is ! be/ man :o h&s ! r+ to ! cl]gym5 9 read9ess = use4 ,aft] ! ,c]emony4 ,! s]vice ov]1 :i* may or may n h be5 accompani$ by l[1 sl[ music1 ! cl]gyman %akes h&s ) & congratulates ! newly-w$d$ c\ple 7kiss+ be+ no long] p]missible71 ! groom draws ! bride's "r h& )9 8 left arm & conducts h] to ! c>riage1 tak+ ! c5t] aisle if ! *ur* h "o2 if n1 tak+ ! opposite f t by :i* !y ent]$1 ! bride1 h] veil ov] h] face1 nei!r recogniz+ nor pay+ ! slighte/ app>5t he$ to any "o 9 ! *ur*4 ,! organ peals =?1 ! procession re-=ms & foll[s to ! door1 fir/ ! bridemaids1 next ! u%]s4 ,if !re h be5 *ori/]s1 !y lead ! l9e1 *ant+ z be=e1 until _! voices die out ( he>+ 9 ! ve/ibule4 ,(t51 too1 ! *ild-bridemaids prec$e ! c\ple z !y leave ! *ur*1 scatt]+ fl[]s be=e !m1 ! :ole =m+ a v pretty pageant to ! eye4 ,! *ur* may h be5 ri*ly decorat$ ) fl[]s & pott$ plants4 ,:]e !re is b "o bridemaid or maid ( honor1 z %e is !n call$1 %e att5ds to all ! duties necess>y1 b ! bridal procession is %orn some:at ( its fair proportions4 ,! ve/ibule rea*$1 c]tificate or *ur* regi/] sign$1 ! bride is cloak$1 &1 ent]+ a c>riage ) h] husb&1 is quickly driv5 home1 ! gue/s rema9+ 9 _! seats until ! cessation ( ! w$d+ m>*1 :5 !y1 too1 ent] _! c>riages4 ,mean:ile ! be/ man takes ! %orte/ r\te possible to ! same de/9ation 9 ord] to assi/ ! head u%]1 :o )1 p]haps1 "s ( ! o!r u%]s1 is suppos$ to be already !re1 9 receiv+ ! bridal p>ty & gue/s z !y rea* ! h\se4 ,! rema9+ u%]s busy !mselves 9 assi/+ ! bridemaids to _! c>riages & spe$+ !m onw>d t !y1 if possible1 may rea* ! h\se 9 "t to receive ! bride & groom4 ,if ! *ur* w$d+ be 9 ! ev5+ ! same ord] w be obs]v$1 save t ! g5tlem5 we> ev5+ dress4 ,! ,reception4 ,at ! h\se ! u%]s introduce ! gue/s to ! newly-m>ri$ c\ple :o1 toge!r ) ! bridemaids1 =m a gr\p to receive ! good wi%es ( ! company4 ,! p>5ts ( ! bride /& a little ap>t f ?is p>ty & receive ! felicitations ( _! gue/s 9 behalf ( _! daught]'s welf>e4 ,! p>5ts ( ! groom1 if pres5t1 =m "p ( ?is gr\p4 ,if ! company is v l>ge x is well to divide ! c5t]s ( attractions by plac+ ! "y c\ple 9 "o room & ! p>5ts 9 ano!r1 ?us compell+ a fre] circulation ( ! gue/s1 :o else w\ld cr[d ! bridal p>ty to suffocation4 ,! h\se may be pr(usely decorat$ ) fl[]s1 & ! rooms ?\gh daylight reign )\t1 may h be5 c>efully d>k5$ only to be re-illum9at$ by ! s(t] radiance ( wax5 c&les or %ad$ gas jets4 ,refre%m5ts4 ,! banquet may be z elaborate z desir$1 b is usually s]v$ 9 ! refre%m5t room f ! buffet1 gue/s repair+ ?i!r at any "t :]e !y are s]v$ by att5dants1 u%]s see+ t ladies unatt5d$ by g5tlem5 are invit$ to p>take & prop]ly s]v$4 ,tea or c(fee is n consid]$ a necessity1 ?\gh1 9 compliance ) ta/es t d n yield easily to fa%ion's decree1 x is usually to be _h1 b 9 w9t] b\illon1 9 cups1 is usually (f]$4 ,w9e1 ( c\rse1 dep5ds ^u ! scruples ( ! ent]ta9]s4 ,salads1 lob/]1 salmon1 etc41 birds & da9ty roll$ s&wi*es1 d duty = meats4 ,fancy cakes1 su* z macc>oons1 kisses1 etc41 are always (f]$1 toge!r ) ices4 ,! v>iety ( o!r cakes is always at ! option ( ! ho/ess1 save ! regulation ri* black fruit1 or groom's cake1 & ! bride's sn[y loaf4 ,^! are necessities1 & if ! bride s f> con=m to ! old cu/om ( cutt+ ! cake z to make "o incision !re9 ) a wond]ful silv] knife1 ye anci5t sup]/ition is satisfi$1 & ! "w ( cutt+ x & pack+ 9 da9ty boxes to be c>ri$ home1 if ?is be wi%$1 is deput$ to att5dants4 ,^! boxes are deposit$ 9 "s conv5i5t place )9 rea* ( ! dep>t+ gue/s4 ,:5 !re are a numb] ( eld]ly gue/s x is g5]ally ?\ght be/ to set two or m small tables 9 ! refre%m5t-room1 or an ante-room1 :]e !y may be com=tably accommodat$ ) seats1 & "o ( ! u%]s %\ld see t !y are s seat$ & promptly s]v$4 ,rehe>sals4 ,9 view ( ! complicat$ arrangem5ts made necess>y = ! prop] c>ry+ out ( a fa%ionable *ur* w$d+1 & 9 consid]ation ( ! l>ge numb] ( p involv$ 9 ! c]emony & ! necessity ( ea* "o be+ 9 ! "r place at ! "r mom5t1 9 ord] to prev5t confusion1 x w be se5 t "s prep>ation is necess>y be=e all c act 9 conc]t4 ,! ne$$ drill is usually giv5 by an exact rehe>sal ( ! entire affair1 to give :i*1 ! :ole p>ty meet at ! *ur* & rehe>se1 s to speak1 _! respective p>ts2 ! =m+ into procession1 ! p>t+ "r & left at ! *ancel & ! re-=m+ to return to ! ve/ibule1 be+ all gone ?r\gh ) to ! s\nd ( music1 until e "p ( ! long procession moves l clockwork4 ,! gr\p+ ( ! bridemaids1 ! appo9t$ duties ( maid ( honor & be/ man1 ev5 to ! smalle/ details1 are all made p]fect1 until ev5 ! pr9cipal actors 9 ! sc5e c retire )\t fe> ( any disa/] to come4 ,?is rehe>sal is frequ5tly made ! occasion ( a rehe>sal d9n]1 giv5 by ! "m ( ! bride1 at :i* ! intimate p>ticipants ( ! w$d+-to-come ent]ta9 & refre% !mselves4 ,! ,w$d+ ,breakfa/4 ,w$d+ breakfa/s are an exclusively ,engli% fa%ion1 b are gradually creep+ into favor "h4 ,! breakfa/ does n diff] f ! ord9>y reception1 save t x is usually at an e>li] h\r & is m frequ5tly a sit-d[n affair4 ,! gue/s all g into ! refre%m5t room at ! same "t1 ev5 ?\gh x sometimes happ5s t ! assembly is s l>ge t no "o b ! bridal p>ty & imm$iate relatives are provid$ ) seats at small tables4 ,9 ?is case1 ! g5tlem5 help ! ladies & !mselves f a long table 9 ! c5t] ( ! room1 ! :ole affair1 "u ^! circum/ances1 be+ simply a cold collation4 ,g5tlem5 leave _! hats 9 ! hall2 ladies reta9 bonnet & gloves4 ,aft] ! usual greet+s to ! bridal pair & a few m9utes g5]al conv]sation1 ! repa/ is ann\nc$ & ! gue/s proce$ to ! appo9t$ room 9 ! usual fa%ion--bride & groom1 bride's fa!r & groom's "m1 groom's fa!r & bride's "m1 be/ man & maid ( honor1 o!r bridemaids & g5tlem5 appo9t$1 usually u%]s1 etc4 ,a /&-up breakfa/ has _m ?+s 9 its favor4 ,x is m easily s]v$ ?an "o :]e all ! gue/s are seat$ at a table t1 9 ev]y?+ b "n1 is a d9n] table2 x is less =mal & !re=e pleasant]1 & f> m gue/s c be accommodat$4 ,! refre%m5ts are ! same z = a reception4 ,dep>ture4 ,aft] m+l+ ) ! gue/s = a %ort "t ! bride quietly )draws to don h] travel+ g>b1 & soon desc5ds ! /airway4 ,%e is met at ! foot by h] bridemaids1 :o "p & =m 9 l9e on ei!r h&1 ?r\gh :i* da9ty pa?way %e passes to jo9 ! groom4 ,quick good-bys are said1 ! c>riage is ent]$ & :irls rapidly away1 foll[$ by %[]s ( rice & ca/-(f slipp]s1 & ! pretty sc5e is end$4 ,home ,w$d+s4 ,home w$d+s are att5d$ ) mu* less tr\ble1 fatigue & exp5se ?an fa%ionable *ur* w$d+s4 ,! cl]gyman ent]s ! room & /&s fac+ ! p2 ! bridal c\ple foll[ & /& fac+ him4 ,hassocks are provid$ = kneel+1 if desir$4 ,! fa!r1 or "s ne> male relative1 /&s ready1 9 sight ( ! cl]gyman1 to give away ! bride4 ,he %\ld simply b[ 8 affirmation :5 ! "q is ask$4 ,!re are _m additions t may be made to ?is simple c]emony1 su* z a troop ( pretty *ildr5 hold+ :ite ribbons ea* side to m>k ! pa? ! bridal pair mu/ walk to rea* ! m9i/]1 :ile ! sweet /ra9s ( a hidd5 b& ( musicians may accompany _! foot/eps4 ,floral decorations1 )9 limits1 are beautiful & appropriate1 b :]e !y are s lavi%ly display$ z to rem9d m ( ! flori/'s bill ?an ! beauty ( ! blossoms1 _! effect is lo/ 9 a c]ta9 vulg>ity t att5ds all too-visible evid5ces ( outlay4 ,"o pretty idea is to c>ry out ! fancy ( hav+ "o k9d ( fl[]1 mass$ accord+ to ! *os5 design1 s]ve = ! decorations1 at fl[] w$d+s2 = example1 rose w$d+s1 lily w$d+s1 daffodil w$d+s1 etc4 ,! design itself is accord+ to ! ta/e ( ! flori/ or ! family1 & is a subject *ang+ s easily ) ! season or ! fa%ion z to m]it no m5tion "h4 ,! supp] may be z elegant an affair z "o *ooses to make x4 ,if s]v$ by cat]]s1 all c>e is remov$ f ! ho/ess z to possible accid5ts1 & %e is left free to ent]ta9 h] gue/s4 ,at ev5+ w$d+s ! company rema9s late or n1 accord+ to ! h\r ( ! bride's dep>ture4 ,sometimes danc+ is arrang$ z "o ( ! ev5+'s amusem5ts4 ,if s1 ! bride may1 if %e *oose1 op5 ! fir/ quadrille ) ! be/ man4 ,%\ld %e d ?is1 ! groom is expect$ to dance ) ! fir/ bridemaid4 ,! bride c slip away at any "t1 to reappe> 9 travel+ co/ume1 & bidd+ a quick f>ewell1 disappe> f ! company1 :o1 aft] ?is1 beg9 to disp]se4 ,"o mo/ pleasant cu/om1 ,engli% 9 its orig91 %\ld n be =gott52 x is t ( rememb]+ all ! s]vants ) "s little gift z a s\v5ir ( ! occasion4 ,invitations to ,*ur* ,w$d+s4 ,!re is a good deal ( dispute 9 reg>d to ! etiquette ( ackn[l$gm5t ( a c>d = a *ur* w$d+4 ,"s high au?orities ass]t t ! invitation is s g5]al & means s little p>ticul> att5tion t no notice ne$ be tak5 ( x except 9 ! regul> l9e ( future visits to ! bride & to ! bride's "m4 ,b "o ( our ,am]ican social oracles decl>es t a c>d is obligatory at ! h\r ( ! w$d+1 if "o _c att5d1 & t if ! h\se address is unkn[n1 ?is c>d %\ld be s5t to ! *ur*4 ,if ?is is necess>y1 mo/ p err woefully1 = few non-att5dants s5d ! c>d4 ,= *ur* w$d+s ev]y?+ p]ta9s to =mality1 & ! invitation z well z ! c]emony is impressive 9 all details4 ,! names ( ! p>5ts head+ ! invitation are n[ m (t5 writt5 9 full1 ?us insur+ a good-look+ l9e at ! top ( ! note4 ,! l9e1 reque/ ! honor ( y\r pres5ce1 almo/ inv>iably appe>s on a *ur* invitation ) honor spell$ ) a u4 ,! names ( bride & groom are sep>at$ by ! little ^w to1 al?\gh "s consid] & q z prop]4 ,! omission ( ! prefix ,miss f ! daught]'s "n is cu/om>y on an invitation b %\ld nev] occur :5 ! bride is a si/]1 c\s9 or niece ( ! p issu+ ! invitations4 ,if a wid[ is re-m>ry+1 %e uses ! prefix ,mrs4 ) h] ,*ri/ian names & ! surname ( h] deceas$ husb&4 ,if ! bride is an orphan1 ) no "o to issue ! invitations = h]1 ! head+ reads1 ,! honor ( y\r pres5ce is reque/$1 etc4 ,:5 ! bride has m names ?an "o x is cu/om>y to use all4 ,! address ( a well-kn[n *ur* is g5]ally omitt$1 al?\gh x is frequ5tly a conv5i5ce = out-(-t[n fri5ds to "k x4 ,names ( *ur*es end+ ) s1 z ,sa9t ,?omas1 are writt5 ) an apo/rophe s--?us1 ,sa9t ,?omas's4 ,dress = ! ,occasion4 ,! ,bride's ,dress may be z elegant z desir$1 or z simple1 b x is to be hop$ t ! cu/om ( us+ pure :ite 9 ! composition ( ! toilet w n be sup]s$$ by any pass+ freak ( ,dame ,fa%ion's = s(tly t9t$ bridal robes4 ,?is innovation %\ld be /\tly resi/$ by all brides-to-be4 ,if ! :ite robe is simple 9 mat]ial1 a simple /yle %\ld be *os5 = ! mak+2 ri*] goods all[ ( m elaboration4 ,! bride we>s no jewels1 & ! typical orange-blossoms & myrtle are suppos$ to cr[n h] br[4 ,z a fact1 h[ev]1 o!r :ite fl[]s1 su* z roses1 lilacs1 lilies-(-!-valley1 are m frequ5tly *os54 ,:]e ! w$d+ decorations are ( "o fl[] exclusively1 t blossom alone figures 9 ! bridal wrea? & b\quet4 ,"s ,high ,*ur* brides c>ry an ivory or silv]-b\nd pray]-book 9 pref]5ce to fl[]s2 ?us associat+ x ) ! mo/ sacr$ v[s ( _! life & hop+ to pres]ve x z an heirloom 9 ! family4 ,:ite %oes & gloves are to be worn ) ?is toilet4 ,! be/ ta/e prescribes a high corsage = ! bridal co/ume1 & sleeves ei!r to ! elb[ or long]1 9 ei!r case to be met by ! long kid gloves4 ,?is gives a c]ta9 mode/y to ! toilet t is 9 keep+ ) ! occasion4 ,by _m brides :o expect to we> _! bridal co/ume to aft] ev5+ ent]ta9m5ts1 ! w$d+ g[n is frequ5tly suppli$ ) two corsages2 ! high = ! w$d+ day & ! l[ = ev5+ we>4 ,! ,veil is usually ( ?91 %e] tulle1 z ?is is mo/ becom+ to ! face1 b ^? brides :o c display f9e old po9t on ?is occasion w be v apt s to d4 ,if ! bridal co/ume is to be worn on any o!r occasion1 x mu/ be dive/$ ( orange-blossoms & worn )\t ! veil4 ,! above-describ$ co/ume is appropriate = ei!r a morn+ or ev5+ w$d+4 ,brides1 :o are m>ri$ 9 travel+ co/ume1 %\ld we> a bonnet r ?an a hat4 ,! ,groom's ,dress is decid$ by ! h\r at :i* ! w$d+ takes place4 ,if x is 9 ! ev5+1 ! conv5tional ev5+ dress is imp]ative4 ,black suit1 dress coat1 l[-cut wai/coat1 :ite tie1 :ite or pale pe>l-color$ gloves1 ?9 pat5t lea!r %oes & possibly a :ite fl[] 9 ! buttonhole1 con/itute prop] co/ume4 ,morn+ ,co/ume4 ,at a morn+ w$d+1 t is1 "o tak+ place at any h\r betwe5 t5 & sev5 7be=e :i* "t a dress suit c by no possibility appe>7 full morn+ co/ume is worn by ! groom4 ,?is consi/s ( a d>k frock coat1 d>k wai/coat & light] tr\s]s2 a /iff hat1 a light sc>f & gloves if desir$4 ,! gloves %\ld be light b n ev5+ t9ts2 pale tan or gray be+ suitable4 ,! ,groomsm5's ,dress is decid$ by ! h\r & by ! dress ( ! groom1 ( :i* x is a fai?ful copy4 ,! ,u%]'s ,dress foll[s ! same law z t ( ! groomsm51 save t if w$d+ favors are worn x is by ! u%]s only4 ,! o!r g5tlem5 pres5t w f9d x well to copy ! same /yles1 save t ^? only :o are imm$iately connect$ ) ! c]emony are expect$ to we> :ite gloves4 ,! ,bridemaid's ,dress has be5 already describ$4 ,fri5ds 9 ,m\rn+ are expect$ to lay aside _! somb] rob+s = ?is h\r4 ,ev5 ! wid[$ "m is b\nd to don ei!r a pale gray1 or a deep purple1 co/ume = ! occasion1 ! pres5ce ( black at s joy\s a mom5t always ca/+ a c]ta9 %ad[ ov] ! p>ty4 ,! ,travel+ ,dress4 ,?is is occasionally worn by brides :o d n wi% to incur ! ha/e & annoyance ( *ang+ _! co/ume be=e leav+ = ! bridal t\r4 ,?is is done at times ev5 :5 ! c]emony is p]=m$ 9 *ur*1 b is almo/ always resort$ to :]e ! w$d+ is quiet4 ,sometimes ?is dress is z elaborate z is at all consi/5t ) good ta/e = travel+1 & :5 ?is is ! case x is usually ex*ang$ = ! regulation travel+ g[n at ! fir/ /opp+ place 9 _! j\rney4 ,m frequ5tly1 & m appropriately1 ! pla9 tailor-made suit1 ) gloves & hat 9 h>mony1 is made to d duty4 ,9 any case :]e ! bride *ooses to we> a travel+ co/ume1 ev5 %\ld ! c]emony be p]=m$ 9 ! ev5+1 ! groom w we> a morn+ co/ume4 ,a ,quiet ,w$d+4 ,to _m p ! idea ( s mu* spl5dor & c]emony on ! occasion ( _! m>riage has 9 x some?+ di/a/eful1 & to o!rs ! physical we>9ess !reby incurr$ is almo/ an impossibility4 ,9 ?is case ! quiete/ ( c]emonies may be *os54 ,x may take place 9 *ur* if ! bride desire ?is fur!r seal ( solemnity set ^u ! s]vice1 ) p>5ts & "o or two fri5ds = witnesses2 or at home ) ! family & cl]gyman only pres5t1 ! bridal c\ple be+ driv5 f !nce directly to ! depot if ! /]eotyp$ w$d+ t\r is to foll[4 ,re-m>riage4 ,a wid[1 re-m>ry+1 no matt] h[ y\?ful %e may be1 is prohibit$ f we>+ ! :ite g[n1 veil & orange-blossoms ( ! bride4 ,nei!r may %e surr\nd h]self ) a bevy ( bridemaids4 ,h] w$d+1 to be absolutely correct1 %\ld be quietly solemniz$ & h] g>b a travel+ dress4 ,/ill1 if %e %\ld wi%1 %e may we> ! mo/ elegant ( t9t$ silks1 ! mo/ elaborate 9 make-up1 & h a l>ge & elegant assembly to witness h] m>riage & p>ticipate 9 its fe/ivities1 b no bridemaids are all[able4 ,at a *ur* w$d+ %e %\ld be att5d$ by h] fa!r1 bro!r1 o!r male relative1 or "s fri5d4 ,%e %\ld always remove ! fir/ w$d+ r+ f h] f+] be=e ! s]vice & n aga9 assume x4 ,invitations to ! m>riage ( a wid[ are engrav$ ) h] :ole "n1 maid5 & m>ri$1 ?us3 ,,elizabe? ,,/u>t ,,field+4 ,if %e h sons or unm>ri$ daught]s at ! "t ( h] second m>riage %e %\ld prefix _! la/ "n to h] new "o on all c]emoni\s occasions 9 :i* !y also are int]e/$1 ?us3 ,,mrs4 ,,/u>t ,,field+ ,,grant & ,,miss ,,field+1 ,at ,home4 #bj ,grosv5or ,squ>e4 ,! ,r+4 ,! f\r? f+] ( ! left h&1 c\nt+ f ! ?umb1 is ! f+] ^u :i* ! engagem5t & w$d+ r+s are worn4 ,! engagem5t r+ v>ies 9 extravagance accord+ to ! means ( ! groom1 & has almo/ always a set ( "s description2 ! w$d+ r+ is always ! same1 a pla91 r\nd-edg$ b& ( gold4 ,initials & dates may be engrav$ 9 bo?4 ,! engagem5t r+ is usually worn aft]w>d z a gu>d = ! w$d+ r+4 ,z to its sett+ !re is a wide latitude giv5 :]e9 all ! pretty conceits & sup]/itions atta*$ to preci\s /ones may be ex]cis$ at w4 ,! ,g]man consid] pe>ls unlucky = brides1 z significant ( te>s4 ,bir?-mon? /ones may be us$1 ev5 ! fateful opal los+ its p[] = h>m :5 worn by an ,octob] maid54 ,! turquoise is p]haps ! favor$ ( preci\s /ones = ?is purpose4 ,! old ,p]sian prov]b says t ,he t ha? a turquoise ha? a fri5d4 ,its kn[n p[] ( turn+ pale "u c]ta9 climatic influ5ces has inve/$ x 9 /ory ) ! p[] ( n only w>d+ (f evil influ5ces1 r5d]+ its we>] con/ant & assur+ success 9 love1 b /ill m ( reveal+ by a c]ta9 pallor ( color+1 com+ dang] or ! exi/5ce ( incon/ancy 9 its we>]4 ,x is also said t 9 case ( a fall ! turquoise takes all injury ^u itself2 ! /one be+ fractur$ & ! own] be+ un9jur$4 ,add to ?is ! item t ! /one mu/ be a gift1 n a pur*ase1 to possess ^! m>vel\s p[]s1 & x w be se5 t x is admirably suit$ to adorn an engagem5t r+4 ,! diamond is ano!r v appropriate /one = ?is purpose1 ei!r solitaire or 9 clu/]4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,gift4 ,reception ,days4 ,x is necess>y = ! bride to include h] new address ) h] w$d+ invitations1 unless1 z is /ill m *ic1 c>ds = sev]al reception days are issu$ aft] h] return4 ,^! dates be+ fix$1 x is !n t fir/ calls may be made ^u h] at h] new resid5ce ) ! happy c]ta9ty ( f9d+ h] at home4 ,at ^! quiet1 in=mal receptions1 %e receives simply z a memb] ( society1 we>+ usually a ri*1 d>k silk )\t any rem9d]s ( h] rec5t bridehood4 ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>ies4 ,! w$d+ anniv]s>ies are num]\s1 b only a few ( ^! are habitually obs]v$4 ,pap]1 wood51 t91 cry/al1 silv] & gold5 are ! favorite ones1 ! o!rs be+ s r>e z to h>dly m]it be+ includ$ 9 ! li/4 ,! foll[+ complete li/ ( ! anniv]s>ies1 ) ! respective dates ( _! occurr5ce1 may be useful = ref]5ce3 ,fir/ ,anniv]s>y ,pap] ,w$d+4 ,second ,anniv]s>y ,cotton ,w$d+4 ,?ird ,anniv]s>y ,lea!r ,w$d+4 ,fif? ,anniv]s>y ,wood5 ,w$d+4 ,sev5? ,anniv]s>y ,wool5 ,w$d+4 ,t5? ,anniv]s>y ,t9 ,w$d+4 ,twelf? ,anniv]s>y ,silk & ,l95 ,w$d+4 ,fifte5? ,anniv]s>y ,cry/al ,w$d+4 ,tw5tie? ,anniv]s>y ,*9a 7sometimes ,floral7 ,w$d+4 ,tw5ty-,fif? ,anniv]s>y ,silv] ,w$d+4 ,?irtie? ,anniv]s>y ,pe>l ,w$d+4 ,?irty-,fif? ,anniv]s>y ,coral ,w$d+4 ,=tie? ,anniv]s>y ,ruby ,w$d+4 ,=ty-,fif? ,anniv]s>y ,bronze ,w$d+4 ,fiftie? ,anniv]s>y ,gold5 ,w$d+4 ,sixty-,fif? ,anniv]s>y ,cr[n-,diamond ,w$d+4 ,sev5ty-,fif? ,anniv]s>y ,diamond ,w$d+4 ,x may be well to m5tion "h t ! tw5tie? anniv]s>y is consid]$ unlucky to celebrate1 or ev5 to m5tion4 ,! mann] ( s5d+ out invitations & accept+ & refus+ ! same has be5 fully describ$ 9 ! prop] dep>tm5t1 & a few words only w be necess>y z to ! gifts & ent]ta9m5t suitable on su* occasions4 ,t9 & ,pap] ,w$d+s & "s o!r ( ! e>li] anniv]s>ies are usually occasions = happy frolics1 & m]ry je/s z to ! =m ! gifts w take1 ?\gh ! pap] w$d+ gives place = ! pres5tation ( elegant books1 & a supply ( fa%ionable /ation]y t is suffici5t to fill ! family ne$s = a long space ( "t4 ,suitable ,pres5ts4 ,! ,wood5 ,w$d+ is a little m exp5sive 9 its dem&s1 & ! gifts range f elegant suites ( c>v$ furniture d[n to da9ty bits ( h&-c>v+ 9 ! %ape ( panels & placques2 & f roll+-p9 & potato-ma%] all ! way up to oak5 mantles1 ri* ) all mann] ( +5i\s fret-"w ( design4 ,! ,cry/al ,w$d+ may also %[ =? a glitt]+ array ( gifts bo? ornam5tal & useful4 ,! ,silv] ,w$d+ is1 p]haps1 ! mo/ important ( all ! w$d+ anniv]s>ies4 ,?is arises p>tly f ! fact t x is mo/ g5]ally obs]v$1 p>tly because ( ! value ( its gifts1 &1 m ?an aught else1 because ! date ( its obs]vance f9ds ! happy pair /ill 9 ! enjoym5t ( comp>ative y\? & ) l5g? ( days /ill be=e !m4 ,9 ! matt] ( pres5ts x is almo/ impossible to g amiss1 s9ce !re is sc>cely an article ( use or ornam5t f d9+-room to reception-room & f ! libr>y desk to my lady's toilet table1 t has n be5 made a ?+ ( beauty & a joy =ev] by ! silv]smi?'s art4 ,! ,gold5 ,w$d+1 f ! advanc$ age at :i* x occurs1 has an elem5t ( sadness 9 its celebration4 ,! ag$ c\ple :o /& s ne> ! br9k ( sep>ation c h little ( bridal joy z !y look back to ! day :5 !y /ood be=e ! alt> 9 ! fir/ flu% ( y\?1 ) life be=e !m1 or z !y look =w>d to ! %ort5$ span ( ye>s t l9ks !m to _! lov$ ones "h4 ,! gifts t are laid be=e !m %\ld be fitly wr\ght ( gold1 s9ce _! love has be5 z gold tri$ 9 ! furnace ( life4 ,if ! family means are insuffici5t = num]\s valuable gifts1 let all ! fri5ds club toge!r & pur*ase "s fitt+ s\v5ir = ! occasion4 ,gold5-rod =ms an appropriate floral decoration4 ,b1 aft] all1 ! *ief idea & ! pleasure ( ?is anniv]s>y is ! ga!r+ toge!r ( z _m z possible ( ! relatives t yet rema9 to greet ! pair at ?is1 ! gold5 mile/one ( _! life's j\rney4 ,spee*es & ,congratulations4 ,! ,diamond ,w$d+ occurs s seldom1 & is s mu* l ! o!rs 9 ! mann]1 if n ! matt] ( its gifts1 z to sc>cely require m5tion "h4 ,! ent]ta9m5t at ^! anniv]s>y celebrations is v mu* ! same z at w$d+s or o!r ga!r+s4 ,! refre%m5ts may be s]v$ at tables1 or a /& up collation giv54 ,9 ?is latt] case1 !re %\ld be "o or two tables set = ! eld]s ( ! p>ty4 ,at ,silv] & ,gold5 ,w$d+s pres5tation spee*es are frequ5tly made by "s fri5d1 & at gold5 anniv]s>ies a regul> program is (t5times c>ri$ out4 ,anniv]s>y poems are read1 ,! ,hang+ ( ! ,crane recit$1 congratulatory telegrams f abs5t fri5ds are ann\nc$1 & any old acqua9tances pres5t t c be p]suad$ to say a few words ( ye old5 times are press$ into s]vice4 ,good ta/e1 h[ev]1 w\ld seem to prev5t any repetition ( ! m>riage s]vice on su* an occasion4 ,c>ds 9 ackn[l$gm5t ( bridal pres5ts are word$ 9 ! foll[+ fa%ion3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,george ,h4 ,,br&on express s9c]e ?anks to ---- = ! beautiful w$d+ gift4 ,june #ah?4 #fb ,we/ #abf? /reet4 ,an ultra-fa%ionable bride1 supply+ h]self ) sev]al packages ( ^! /]eotyp$ ackn[l$gm5ts1 has no?+ to d b fill 9 ! "n ( ! s5d] & ?us avoid inf9ite labor4 ,illu/ration3 ,,an ,,unseasonable ,,call4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,five ,o',,clock ,,tea4 ,,home ,,etiquette4 ,illu/ration ,good mann]s are a plant ( sl[ gr[?1 & "o t %\ld be cultivat$ 9 ! home circle4 ,give a boy address1 & x op5s palaces to him1 says ,em]son1 & n[h]e is ?is address1 ?is habit ( enc\nt]1 s easily ga9$ z )9 ! walls ( home4 ,!re 8 "* is =m$ = life4 ,good bre$+1 9 reality1 is b ! outcome ( mu* good s5se1 "s good nature1 & a little self-d5ial ex]cis$ = ! sake ( o!rs1 ) a view to obta9 ! same indulg5ce f !m4 ,^! words ( ! s*ol>1 ,*e/]field1 le>n$ z he 0 9 worldly lore1 & satisfi$ ( ! exp$i5cy ( su* obs]vances f a selfi% /&po9t1 are b ano!r1 & m selfi%1 r5d]+ ( ! ,gold5 ,rule1 ^: value z a rule ( action 9 life is app>5t4 ,c\rtesy1 x mu/ be conc$$1 is n only pleasant1 b pr(itable 9 all places1 & at all times1 b m especially 9 ! home circle are its virtues mo/ brilliantly set =?4 ,c\rtesies ( ,m>ri$ ,life4 ,m>riage v r>ely m5ds a man's mann]s1 is a sadly true /atem5t ( ! playwright ,congreve1 & "o ^: tru? t\*es wom5 also z conc]n+ ! m>riage /ate4 ,if ! slight =malities t are ! bulw>ks ( love z well z fri5d%ip1 _m =be>ances1 & m ( ! small1 sweet c\rtesies ( life1 7 b p]mitt$ to blossom =? l unexpect$ fl[]s b5ea? ! family ro(-tree1 few] unhappy m>riages w\ld catalogue _! mis]ies 9 ! divorce c\rt4 ,! man :o takes (f 8 hat z politely to 8 wife :5 he p>ts f h] on ! /reet z he w\ld to 8 lady acqua9tance ( ye/]day2 :o op5s ! door = h] to ent]2 :o w\ld no m speak h>%ly to h] ?an to any o!r lady1 is v likely to reta9 h] fir/ affection & to add to x t sweet]1 clos] love t comes ( k & companion%ip4 ,:at ,wom5 ,admire4 ,wom5 admire f9e mann]s & graceful att5tions4 ,! man :o nev] =gets _! ta/es2 :o rememb]s w$d+ anniv]s>ies & bir?days2 is int]e/$ 9 _! pursuits1 & ready ) an appreciative ^w ( praise1 is ! man t claims _! admiration by virtue ( ?\ghtfulness & consid]ation4 ,?is man1 too1 w\ld be f> m apt to hold a woman's affection ?an ! be/ & mo/ upright ( 8 sex1 :o is ?\ghtless & indiff]5t1 n ( h] physical com=t1 b ( all h] pet fancies & s5tim5ts1 :o nev] saw h] new g[ns1 & is pr(\ndly neglectful ( all ^? trifles1 light z air1 :i* g f> t[>d mak+ up ! sum ( woman's happ9ess or mis]y4 ,:at ,m5 ,desire4 ,hepwor? ,dixon1 on be+ ask$ :at m5 mo/ desire 9 a wife1 & :at quality held !m longe/1 unhesitat+ly repli$1 ,t %e %\ld be a pill[4 ,!n1 not+ ! inquiry ?us sugge/$1 he w5t on to say3 ,:at a man mo/ ne$s is t he %\ld f9d 9 8 wife a pill[ :]eon to re/ 8 he>t4 ,he longs to f9d a mom5t's re/ f ! out] :irl ( life1 to w9 a ready li/5] t sympa?izes :]e o!rs w\nd4 ,& %e ^: eyes are flatt]+ mirrors1 ^: lips console & soo!1 w f9d t %e has secur$ a hold ^u ! he>t ( h] husb&1 t ! embodim5t ( all ! virtues ( h] sex c\ld n secure1 7 %e want+ 9 ?is sympa!tic tact4 ,sweet-temp]$ p are ! joy ( ! _w4 ,_! civilities1 _! self-sacrifice1 _! ?\ghtfulness = o!rs x is t oils ! :eels ( dome/ic life4 ,p :o1 accord+ to ! old phrase1 h temp]s ( _! own1 are n1 at ! be/1 agreeable companions4 ,we may respect _! good qualities1 b we are apt to give !m a wide b]? :]e possible4 ,b :5 !y are inmates ( our own h\seholds1 ! evil _s mu/ be confront$ & exorcis$ if possible4 ,_m a wife has1 by ex]cis+ h] own self-control1 subdu$ & %am$ a tyrannical1 evil-temp]$ husb& into a bett] disposition1 b nev] by argum5t1 dispute1 or ang] on h] "p4 ,_m a husb&1 too1 has by ! firmness & sweetness ( 8 own temp]1 won 8 "y1 impati5t wife1 tri$ by ! half-und]/ood c>es ( h] new exi/5ce1 to ev5ness ( _s & control ( temp]4 ,x is impossible to be cross :]e ,*>lie is1 said "o "y wife1 tak5 f a home :]e self-control _h nev] be5 taught4 ,i am always a%am$ ( x aft]w>d4 ,fault-,f9d+4 ,take u ! foxes1 ! little foxes t spoil our v9es1 & ( ! insidi\s foxes t spoil ! t5d] fruitage ( ! h\sehold v9e1 a fault-f9d+ disposition is mo/ dang]\s4 ,a quick1 ungov]nable temp] is n z de/ructive to h\sehold peace & com=t z ! nagg+1 c>p+1 fault-f9d+ _s t sees good 9 no?+4 ,a temp] t is l a tornado 9 its viol5ce at lea/ cle>s ! air z x passes1 & is usually foll[$ by quick rep5tance & ready rep>ation4 ,b ! fault-f9d+1 nagg+1 suspici\s temp]am5t is a v]itable foe 9 a man's own h\sehold4 ,:]e no ^w ( praise is he>d1 no comm5dation foll[s ! be/-int5tion$ ef=ts1 b ! ceaseless nagg+1 ! ev] recurr+ criticism meets "o at e turn1 x is n /range if ! ties ( affection are too (t5 /ra9$ ev5 to break+4 ,temp] proce$s f1 & is an indication ( ! "*4 ,x is inh]it$1 ev5 z features are2 b1 l features1 x may be modifi$ by culture & tra9+1 & a temp] ?us conqu]$ becomes a v desirable possession4 ,home ,conv]sation4 ,educate y\rself1 z a wife1 to keep up ) ! times suffici5tly to be at lea/ a companionable conv]sationali/4 ,read ! pap]s1 read late books2 endeavor to be z ent]ta9+ to y\r husb& z y 7 to y\r husb&-elect4 ,illu/ration3 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,! ,,draw+-,,room4 ,z a husb&1 %>e y\r k ( ! activities ( life ) y\r wife1 :o1 f ! v nature ( h] occupation is exclud$ f mu* ( its excit+ :irl4 ,read toge!r1 talk toge!r ( art1 ( music1 ( lit]ature1 ( ! /irr+ ev5ts ( ! out] _w1 & put af> ! evil day :5 topics ( mutual int]e/ %all h be5 worn s ?readb>e t ! av]age man & wom5 mu/ feel a /range desire to fall asleep directly d9n] is ov]4 ,!n1 too1 ! *ildr5 hung] = new ideas1 & "o ( ! greate/ educational advantages !y c enjoy is to li/5 daily to ! conv]sation ( intellig5t p4 ,too _m p>5ts :o are bright & ent]ta9+ abroad are dull & un9t]e/+ 9 _! own h\seholds1 to ! great detrim5t ( _! *ildr5 & to _! own loss ( intellig5t companion%ip 9 "o ano!r4 ,:at little ,jack le>ne? n1 ! same nei!r le>ne? great ,john4 ,!re is a tru? 9 ?is old say+ t ! p>5ts & gu>dians ( *ildr5 w\ld d well to pond] 9 _! he>ts1 = x is a well sub/antiat$ /atem5t t ! fir/ t5 ye>s ( a *ild's life /amp ^u 8 "* ! impr9t = good or ill-bre$+4 ,?us is sp>$ ! aft] /ruggle on _! "p to atta9 ! grace & self-possession t %\ld h be5 !irs by bir?right4 ,illu/ration3 ,,sun%9e ,,at ,,home4 ,*ildr5 are naturally imitative1 h5ce ! value ( example ov] precept4 ,! *ildr5 ( c\rte\s p>5ts w imbibe c\rtesy z naturally & unconsci\sly z ! gr[+ plant absorbs oxyg5 f ! air & sunlight t ba!s its leaves & petals4 ,s(tly modulat$ tones %\ld m>k ! words spok5 to a *ild1 & repro( c>ries an add$ weight :5 l[]$ tones convey ! rebuke4 ,ev5 a baby be=e x c speak recognizes %ades ( mean+ 9 ! tones ! "m utt]s1 & is soo!d by ! "o & />tl$ by ! o!r4 ,k9dl9ess1 polit5ess ( ! p>5ts "o t[>ds ano!r1 are ! fir/ /eps t[>d tra9+ *ildr5 9 ! acquirem5t ( good mann]s4 ,g5tl5ess & sweetness ( mann] c be taught at ! cradle f> m surely ?an f ! s*ool-room desk1 & :5 baby has le>n$ to preface its little wants ) please1 & ,ma/] ,f\r ,ye>s-old to run & op5 ! door = mamma1 or mamma's visitors1 or to give up ! easie/ *air )\t be+ ask$1 ! firm f\ndation has be5 laid = c\rte\s behavior 9 aft] life4 ,& s on1 all ?r\gh ! s*ool ye>s1 boys & girls may be s taught to respect "o ano!r's possessions1 lett]s1 feel+s1 & to discrim9ate closely betwe5 meum & tuum aft] su* wise t !y w be made bett] husb&s1 bett] wives1 bett] citiz5s1 = all _! days4 ,slang & ,exagg]ations4 ,by our own spee* x is t we are sure to be judg$1 =1-- ',tis only man c words create1 ,& cut ! air to s\nds articulate ,by nature's special *>t]4 ,nay1 spee* c ,make a %rewd discrepance 'twixt man & man4 ,x do? ! g5tleman f ! cl[n discov]2 ,& f a fool ! great philosoph]4 ,z ,solon said to "o 9 judgm5t weak3-- ',i ?\ght !e wise until ,i he>d !e speak4' ,& if we talk ) flippancy & exagg]ation1 load our s5t5ces ) slang phrases1 & preface & punctuate !m ) (t-repeat$ expressions ( ,say6 ,well6 ,y "k1 ,d tell1 & s on1 ad inf9itum1 all wisdom1 or propriety ( spee* w be lo/4 ,x is difficult to believe 9 ! ref9em5t ( a girl :o p]mits h] fre% "y lips to utt] ! slang ( ! b>-room hang]-on1 ! gambl] & ! /reet gam94 ,equally difficult is x to believe 9 ! absolute tru?fulness ( "o :o decl>es to y t ! heat ( a lovely ,june day is simply awful or p]fectly t]rible1 f %e] wond] z to :at t]ms %e w\ld use to *>act]ize ! int5se heat ( "s sweep+ fire4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,indu/ri\s ,,h\sewife4 ,aga91 x is h>d to und]/& ! ta/e ( "o :o in=ms y gravely t ! *ick5 salad 0 too lovely = any?+6 or ! la/ ev5+'s sunset 0 p]fectly elegant6 ,! ,web/]ian def9ition ( elegant be+ poli%$1 /yli%1 ref9$1 etc41 x is to be wi%$ t all p]petrators ( l s9s c\ld meet ! puni%m5t a "y lady once dealt to a g5tleman :o rem>k$ ) great effusion3 ,?is moonlight is p]fectly elegant6 ,to ?is obs]vation %e answ]$ ) gravity1 ,yes1 x really is v /yli%6 ,let1 !re=e1 all :o /rive = ! grace ( good bre$+1 m5 & wom51 boys & girls alike1 set a wat* ov] _! lips & keep ! door ( _! m\?1 = words h w+s1 & s soon z _! cage1 ! m\?1 is op5$1 out !y fly & m\nt beyond our rea*1 & pa/ recov]y4 ,"s ,d's = ,girls4 ,! foll[+ h9ts = girls1 ea* prefac$ by ! auxili>y ,d1 w prove a safe guide1 n only = ! girls b = any ( _! eld]s :o may *oose to foll[ !m4 ,d answ] y\r lett]s soon aft] !y are receiv$1 & d try to reply to !m ) "s relation to _! cont5ts2 a rambl+1 ill-consid]$ lett] is a satire ^u y\r education4 ,d1 :5 y talk1 keep y\r h&s /ill4 ,d obs]ve2 ! faculty ( obs]vation1 well cultivat$1 makes practical m5 & wom54 ,d atta* z mu* importance to y\r m9d z to y\r body4 ,d be natural2 a poor diamond is bett] ?an a good imitation4 ,d try to rememb] :]e y put y\r gloves & c>dcase2 keep ! =m] m5d$ & ! latt] fill$4 ,d recollect t y\r heal? is m important ?an y\r amusem5ts2 y c live )\t "o1 b y'll die e>ly )\t ! o!r4 ,d try to be s5sible2 x is n a p>ticul> sign ( sup]iority to talk l a fool4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,pr9cess ,,( ,,wales4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,society ,,belle--,,call ,,aga94 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,call ,,f ,,baby',s ,,admir]s4 ,d be ready 9 "t = *ur*2 if y d n respect y\rself suffici5tly to be punctual1 respect ! feel+s ( o!r p4 ,d get up 9 "t = breakfa/4 ,d avoid causes ( irritation 9 y\r family circle2 d reflect t home is ! place 9 :i* to be agreeable4 ,d be retic5t2 ! _w at l>ge has no int]e/ 9 y\r private affairs4 ,d cultivate ! habit ( li/5+ to o!rs2 x w make y an invaluable memb] ( society1 to say no?+ ( ! advantage x w be to y4 ,d be tru?ful2 d avoid exagg]ation2 if y mean a mile say a mile1 n a mile & a half2 if y mean "o say "o1 & n a doz54 ,"y ,ladies1 ,take ,he$4 ,d1 sometimes1 at lea/1 all[ y\r "m to "k bett] ?an y d2 %e 0 educat$ be=e y 7 born4 ,d sign y\r full "n to y\r lett]s4 ,d le>n to say ,no4 ,d1 if y h bro!rs1 try to ga9 _! confid5ce1 to be int]e/$ 9 _! sports1 to cultivate _! mann]s1 n by c5sure1 b by ! =ce ( y\r own example4 ,d laugh1 girls1 n boi/]\sly1 n con/antly1 b cle>ly & pleasantly1 b don't giggle4 ,if girls f f\rte5 to eighte5 c\ld only und]/& ! vulg>ity ( cont9ually putt+ _! heads toge!r & giggl+1 z if ! :ole _w 0 a supremely ridicul\s affair1 ab\t :i* !y mu/ *uckle1 & :isp]1 :5 9 tru? _! own actions are ! "o ?+ ridicul\s1 !y w\ld refra9 f su* unmitigat$ nons5se4 ,d be exquisitely neat 9 y\r attire4 ,bew>e ( ! lawn dress1 ! light kids1 ! coll>1 ! laces t are worn once too (t54 ,d be c>eful ab\t giv+ away y\r photographs1 especially to m54 ,y w\ld h>dly l to he> ! comm5ts t are sometimes pass$ ^u !m4 ,if y _c le>n to say ,no1 refra9 f display+ !m to y\r g5tleman fri5ds4 ,"s ,d's = ,boys4 ,z = boys1 !re are a few ,d's = !m to consid] if !y w\ld become t noble/ "w ( ,god1 a true man1 a g5tleman4 ,d respect y\r fa!r & "m & give !m _! prop] titles at all times4 ,to call !m ! ,gov]nor & ! old lady1 does n 9 ! lea/ add to y\r suppos$ manl9ess1 b r displays a v unmanly fe> on y\r "p t p might suppose y 7 9 "s degree "u _! au?ority2 n only an unmanly1 b a fooli% fe>1 s9ce no "o is fit = au?ority until he has fir/ le>n$ ob$i5ce4 ,d le>n to respect wom54 ,nev] speak slight+ly ( _! wor?1 nor trifle ) _! "n4 ,le>n ! lesson n[1 & y w f9d its value 9 y\r manhood4 ,d treat y\r si/]s & y\r girl s*oolmates 9 a g5tlemanly mann]4 ,y h no idea h[ mu* x w add to y\r own appe>ance4 ,d gu>d aga9/ a pr(usion ( slang t w\ld d cr$it to a pickpocket4 ,d be det]m9$ n to use pr(ane expressions 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies1 *ildr51 or m9i/]s1 or any:]e else4 ,d keep y\r lips f utt]+ co>se & unclean ?+s t y w\ld blu% to h ov]he>d by "m or si/]4 ,m ?an ?is1 d n li/5 to !m f ! lips ( o!rs4 ,a pure-m9d$ boy w be a pure-m9d$ man4 ,d take c>e ( y\r v>i\s belong+s2 d n expect "m or si/]s to pick up y\r necktie1 y\r gloves1 y\r s*oolbooks1 y\r hat1 f z _m diff]5t places z !re are articles1 & put !m prop]ly away4 ,x is q z necess>y = boys or m5 to h "s neatness 9 _! habits z = girls or wom54 ,d le>n to help y\rself occasionally4 ,x is q possible t y %\ld be able to arrange a necktie1 comb y\r hair1 or get ! articles toge!r = a fre% toilet )\t call+ "s "o to y\r assi/ance4 ,q possible & va/ly conv5i5t = o!r memb]s ( ! h\sehold4 ,d close ! doors )\t slamm+2 don't te> ! h\se d[n4 ,d l[] y\r voice sometimes2 ev]yone is n deaf4 ,d be neat 9 p]sonal appe>ance2 coll>s1 h&k]*iefs & cuffs1 %\ld be spotlessly clean1 & h&s & f+] nails receive c>eful att5tion4 ,d n fail to use ?ree bru%es e day--! too?-bru%1 ! clo!s-bru% & ! black+-bru%4 ,d break y\rself ( disagreeable p]sonal habits4 ,d n yawn 9 p's faces1 l\nge 9 y\r *air1 scrat* head or p]son1 or clean f+]-nails :5 o!rs are pres5t4 ,d n =get to use y\r h&k]*ief1 & t quietly z possible4 ,d decide t temp]ate habits are m manly ?an intemp]ate ones1 & don't ?9k t x is "o ( y\r rights to smoke cig>ettes4 ,d le>n to say ,no1 to lead sometimes in/ead ( always foll[+4 ,d be c>eful ( y\r mann]s4 ,rememb] t z ! twig is b5t1 s ! tree is incl9$1 & t ! poli%$ boy w be ! poli%$ man4 ,poli%1 x is to be und]/ood1 is n inconsi/5t ) /r5g?1 b r adds to x4 ,! /ronge/ ma*9]y is ( ! f9e/ poli%1 & ! ,damascus blade is ( ! sure/ mettle4 ,d be sure to give up y\r seat 9 omnibus or c> to a lady4 ,ev5 if %e be n suffici5tly grateful1 y h %[n y\r good bre$+4 ,d rememb] to remove y\r hat :5 y ent] a h\se1 private (fice1 hotel elevator 7if ladies are pres5t71 :5 y b[ to a lady or :5 y (f] to assi/ a lady4 ,d lay ^! d's up 9 y\r memory & practice !m 9 y\r lives4 ,gu>d ! ,voice4 ,a h>% voice1 or %rill1 high-pit*$ tones1 are a s\rce ( discom=t to all :o he> !m4 ,no?+ gives a m favorable impression ( good bre$+ ?an a voice1 musical1 cle>1 l[ 9 its key1 & c>eful 9 its articulation4 ,george ,eliot1 :o _h a face ( extreme pla9ness1 possess$ a l[ musical voice t _h a p]fect fasc9ation = ! li/5]4 ,at times su* a voice is ! gift ( nature1 b usually x requires c>eful cultivation1 & ! e>li] ! age at :i* ?is cultivation beg9s1 ! sur] & ! simpl] is ! price ( success4 ,*ildr5 c be e>ly taught n to raise _! voices %rilly to dem& att5tion1 b to speak s(tly & g5tly at home1 & !n _! company voice w possess a natural quality4 ,tra9 ! tones s(tly & sweetly n[1 & !y w keep 9 tune ?r\gh life4 ,^? ^: e>ly education 9 ?is respect has be5 neglect$ w w9 success only at ! price ( et]nal vigilance4 ,a few lessons 9 voice culture w "w wond]s 9 tra9+ ! e> to appreciate ! diff]5t keys1 ! voice to acquire l[] & ri*] tones1 & ! articulation to become cle> & di/9ct4 ,ev5 :]e !re are s]i\s vocal defects1 su* z /amm]+1 lisp+1 etc41 !y c be reliev$ by "s good tea*] ( voice-culture4 ,inde$1 "s att5tion to ! culture ( voices ought to become a necess>y "p ( education4 ,a l[1 sweet voice is l a l>k's song 9 he>t & home1 & ! self-control necess>y to always keep x at ?is h>moni\s level1 ex]cises a mo/ salut>y influ5ce ov] m9d & temp]4 ,h[ to ,treat ,s]vants4 ,a l>ge proportion ( ! dome/ic economy 9 _m h\seholds is left entirely 9 ! h&s ( s]vants1 & on ! good or ill behavior ( ^! s]vants dep5ds ! com=t ( ! home1 & ! behavior ( ! s]vants dep5ds v greatly ^u ! behavior ( _! employ]s t[>d !m4 ,! mann] ev5 ( address+ s]vants 9 ?is c\ntry is r important1 (f5se be+ s readily tak5 at :at is deem$ disrespect4 ,m5 s]vants may be address$ by _! la/ "n )\t any prefix4 ,if !y h be5 9 ! family a long "t ! fir/ "n may be us$1 if desir$4 ,9 address+ s]vants t are p]fect /rang]s x c be g5]ally manag$ )\t ! use ( any "n4 ,9 writ+ to !m address )\t prefix1 z1 ,rob]t ,johnson4 ,d n be insol5t t[>ds1 or dem& too mu* (1 s]vants4 ,!y h v mu* ! same feel+s ( pride t ! h\se-mi/ress has1 & ! less ^? feel+s are w\nd$ ! bett] help !y w r5d]4 ,d n reprim& !m be=e gue/s4 ,no?+ s injures _! self-respect or s t5ds to make !m c>eless4 ,:atev] ! blund]1 be app>5tly unmov$ 9 ! pres5ce ( y\r gue/s4 ,save all repro( until _! dep>ture4 ,h a p]fect und]/&+ ( ! "w y w\ld h !m p]=m1 if y w\ld h !m accompli% x satisfactorily4 ,ignorance nev] yet made a good ma/] or mi/ress1 & always puts a premium on incompet5cy on ! "p ( employs4 ,h ,rules & ,en=ce ,!m4 ,require all h\se s]vants to be quiet 9 _! movem5ts1 n to slam doors or rattle *9a4 ,impress ^u !m ! importance ( dress+ neatly4 ,tea* !m to treat all com]s ) polit5ess2 to answ] ! door-bell promptly & to ?or\ghly und]/& :atev] rules y may h ab\t be+ engag$ or n at home4 ,if repro( is to be adm9i/]$ or ord]s1 giv51 x is mu* bett] t ! s]vant be call$ up/airs to receive !m1 ?an = ! h\se mi/ress to desc5d to ! kit*54 ,?is w insure an opportunity %\ld dispute arise ( dismiss+ ! employ to ! kit*5 ) b loss ( dignity on h] "p2 :ile1 if x is 9 ! kit*5 t ! diff]5ce ( op9ion may arise1 ! h\se-mi/ress mu/ h]self leave ! field4 ,insi/ ^u sy/ematic arrangem5t ( ! week's "w1 & punctuality 9 c>ry+ out its details4 ,expla9 c>efully to all newly-engag$ s]vants ! r\t9e ( ! h\se & expect !m to con=m to x4 ,be mild b firm 9 ex]cis+ au?ority1 & s]vants w respect y & y\r rules4 ,if !re is a h\sekeep]1 all ^! details w be committ$ to h] h&s1 & %e has ne$ to be compet5t1 compell+ respect1 to be fitt$ = ! position4 ,tea* s]vants n to expect fees f y\r visitors4 ,respect all _! privileges4 ,see t _! ev5+s out1 & _! preci\s ,sunday aft]noons are n encroa*$ ^u4 ,give !m all ! ne$$ opportunity to att5d _! own place ( wor%ip4 ,see t *ildr5 ( ! family are respectful t[>d !m1 n di/urb+ !m at _! "w2 prefac+ _! reque/s ) please1 & ?ank+ !m = any favor4 ,rights ( ,o!rs4 ,respect ! rights ( all memb]s ( ! h\sehold4 ,rememb] t ea* "o has a p]fect "r to op5 8 or h] own correspond5ce4 ,no diff]5ce if "o is ready to confide ! cont5ts ( ! lett] ! mom5t x is read1 !re is /ill a pleasure 9 op5+ "o's own correspond5ce4 ,respect ! belong+s ( ano!r1 no matt] h[ close ! relation%ip4 ,! c>eful memb] ( ! family suff]s at see+ 8 belong+s misus$ & de/roy$ by ! c>eless "o4 ,disc\rage borr[+ among ! memb]s ( a family4 ,tea* ea* "o to h all necess>y articles ( _! own & to c>e = !m prop]ly4 ,gue/s 9 a family %\ld also be v c>eful 9 ?is respect4 ,boxes1 draw]s1 or any repositories ( any k9d1 %\ld be scrupul\sly respect$4 ,private pap]s1 ev5 if n protect$ by lock & key1 %\ld n be glanc$ at4 ,a due obs]vance ( ^! rules1 :ile mak+ home life pleasant]1 might 9 aft] ye>s lead to a little less tamp]+ ) ! l>g] rights ( law & prop]ty1 = mann]s are b ! %ad[s ( great virtues4 ,illu/ration ,,etiquette ,,= ,,*ildr54 ,illu/ration ,jean ,paul ,ri*t]1 9 8 great "w on education 7,levana71 intimates t we sc>cely realize ! mom5t\s possibilities t lie all ab\t u fold$ up 9 ! he>t ( *ildhood1 z ! blu%+ petals ( ! beaute\s blossom yet to be lie fold$ close )9 ! %elt]+ calyx4 ,d y "k1 he qu]ies1 :e!r ! little boy :o plucks fl[]s at y\r side may n "o day1 f 8 isl& ( ,corsica1 desc5d z a w>-god into a /ormy univ]se to play ) hurricanes = de/ruction1 or to purify & plant ! _w ) h>ve/s8 ,& j because we d n "k ! ext5t ( ^! possibilities1 *ildr5 mu/ be c>efully tra9$ to fill :atev] po/ or prov9ce may be !irs 9 ! "t to come4 ,n[1 !y are 9 our h&s to mold z we w2 !n1 !y w be ! ma/]s1 & mu* ( ! "* ( _! sway w dep5d ^u ! guidance ( ! pres5t4 ,view$ 9 ?is light1 ! mann]s & ! morals ( *ildr51 closely associat$ z !y are1 become ( ! greate/ importance to ! _w4 ,p[] ( ,example4 ,tea* ! embryo man or woman1 9 ! nurs]y1 ! traits1 ! habits1 ! cu/oms ( ! be/ etiquette1 & y h /amp$ ^u !m1 at an age :5 ! "* is impressible z wax1 n only ! out] semblance1 b1 9 a great degree1 ! inn] reality1 ( a true man or woman4 ,let ! *ildr5 gr[ up 9 a home :]e rude ge/ures1 or ill-temp]$ words are unkn[n1 :]e tru?fulness1 k9dl9ess1 =getfulness ( self & c>eful consid]ation ( o!rs1 p]meates ! v atmosph]e1 & !y w g =? into ! _w arm$ ) ! integrity 9 :i* all m5 may tru/1 ! poli% t w w9 !m admiration1 & ! true ref9em5t t w r5d] _! fri5d%ip elevat+4 ,see1 also1 t !re is p]fect unanimity betwe5 ! p>5ts z to ! gov]nm5t & in/ruction ( ! *ildr5 9 ! h\sehold1 &1 if any diff]5ce %\ld arise1 x %\ld be settl$ 9 private4 ,*ildr51 be+ /rongly imitative1 are be/ taught by example4 ,nev] reprove unless absolutely necess>y1 & nev] let ! voice rise excit$ly to ensure ob$i5ce4 ,by keep+ y\r own voice l[ & calm1 y d mu* t[>d l[]+ ! key ( _! high-pit*$1 *ildi% treble1 & soo?+ ! tr\bl$ wat]s ( _! s\ls4 ,keep+ ,promises4 ,nev] p]mit y\rself to ?reat5 :]e y d n p]=m2 *ildr5 are quick to le>n ! value ( y\r promises1 & place v accurate e/imates1 9 _! own m9ds1 z to :at _! p>5ts w1 or w n d "u giv5 circum/ances4 ,absolute tru?fulness c nev] be taught a *ild by precept1 :5 by con/ant example he is taught t ! ^w ( 8 p>5ts has little or no value 9 8 own case1 s f> z ?reats & puni%m5ts1 or ev5 rew>ds1 ext5d4 ,if a puni%m5t is ! p5alty = a brok5 law1 see t x is inflict$2 if a rew>d is promis$1 be sure t x is giv54 ,enjo9 ^u *ildr5 /rict ju/ice 9 _! deal+s "o ) ano!r1 ev5 9 _! games1 nev] all[+ ! /rong] to impose ^u ! weak1 b tea*+ =be>ance & t5d]ness 9 all _! actions4 ,talebe>+4 ,disc\rage1 z f> z possible1 all talebe>+ 9 ! home1 &1 z a rule1 d n li/5 to compla9ts1 & long recitals ( injuries receiv$ f little playfell[s4 ,c>e 9 ?is respect w nip 9 ! bud ! t5d5cy t[>d exagg]ation & talebe>+ t s e>ly develops 9 a *ild1 & s soon matures into ! gossip ( rip] ye>s4 ,?is dem& = exactitude 9 *ildi% /atem5ts w pave ! way = /rictly tru?ful decl>ations 9 ! m important affairs ( lat] life1 r$\nd+ ?us to ! la/+ b5efit ( ! individual & ! community4 ,tru?fulness4 ,! lea/ approa* t[>d prev>ication1 or concealm5t ( _! *ildi% misdemeanors1 %\ld be treat$ z a grave fault4 ,to prev5t1 z f> z possible1 all attempts at disguis+ ! tru?1 p5alties = faults %\ld r>ely be ( s sev]e a nature t ! little transgressor resorts to evasion ?r\gh fe> ( ! consequ5ces4 ,respectfulness4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be taught to be respectful t[>d _! p>5ts & o!rs old] ?an !mselves1 to be polite t[>ds ^? ( _! own age1 & v ?\ghtful = ! com=t ( ! sick & weak4 ,respect mu/ also be %[n t[>d s]vants & dep5dants1 & no unnecess>y dem&s made ^u _! "t or s]vices4 ,ob$i5ce4 ,prompt ob$i5ce %\ld always be dem&$ ( a *ild1 & ! _s ( murmur+ & que/ion+ firmly repress$4 ,none c comm& except !y h fir/ le>n$ to obey4 ,d n all[ *ildr5 to tease1 nor1 hav+ once refus$ on good & suffici5t gr\nd1 suff] y\r cons5t to be ga9$ by siege4 ,make y\r refusal f9al1 b d n refuse ?\ghtlessly1 or = m]e caprice4 ,! wi%es ( a *ild are z real to him z ^? ( gr[n p are to !m4 ,mann] ( ,address4 ,rud5ess & abruptness mu/ nev] be tol]at$ 9 ! mann]s ( a *ild4 ,yes1 & no1 9 reply1 & :at8 9 int]rogatory1 are unc\? & disagreeable 9 s\nd4 ,yes1 sir1 ,yes1 ma'am1 & ,:at1 ma'am1 are mu* bett] sub/itut$1 b ev5 ^! are op5 to criticism4 ,engli% etiquette relegates ,sir & ,ma'am to ! use ( s]vants1 save 9 case ( address+ ! high] nobility :5 ,sir is sometimes us$4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,nurs]y4 ,! bett] & m graceful etiquette ( ! day w\ld tea* a *ild to say1 ,yes1 mamma1 ,no1 papa2 or a /ud5t at s*ool to address ! tea*]s z1 ,yes1 ,pr(4 ,/anley1 ,no1 ,miss ,liv+/one4 ,if !y fail to und]/& a rem>k1 a quick1 ,beg p>don1 or1 ,i beg y\r p>don1 or ev51 ,i did n und]/&1 c soon be taught to ev5 *ildi% lips & nev] be =gott5 z !y advance to maturity4 ,! use ( ,please1 & ,?ank y1 or1 ,i ?ank y1 7nev] ! ?ankless ,?anks17 %\ld be e>ly impress$ ^u _! m9ds4 ,tea* !m nev] to speak ( gr[n p )\t prefix+ ,mr41 ,mrs41 or ,miss1 to _! "n4 ,x is v objectionable = a *ild to fall into ! habit ( say+ ,br[n did s & s1 in/ead (1 ,mr4 ,br[n1 etc4 ,insi/1 too1 t at s*ool !y %all nev] say ,tea*]1 b address _! preceptor by 8 prop] "n4 ,impress ^u *ildr5 t !y mu/ answ] politely :5 spok5 to1 b /rictly repress any t5d5cy on _! "p t[>d que/ion+ visitors at ! h\se4 ,"h let x be add$1 = ! b5efit ( _! eld]s1 t no?+ c be a sur] evid5ce ( ill-bre$+ ?an = a gr[n p]son to "q a *ild 9 reg>d to 8 family affairs4 ,int]rupt+ ,conv]sation4 ,nev] p]mit *ildr5 to int]rupt ! conv]sation ( _! eld]s1 & see1 z a prep>ation = ?is1 t among ! little ones !mselves1 "o :o has a /ory to tell is p]mitt$ to f9i% )\t an impati5t bro!r or si/] break+ 9 ) 81 or h]1 v]sion ( ! same tale4 ,see t ea* has 8 turn & _m ( ! noisy disagreem5ts ( ! playroom w ?us be done away )4 ,insi/1 too1 ^u ! l[]+ ( ea* eag] little voice1 & a long /ep w h be5 tak5 t[>d do+ away ) ! high-key$ voices & ! all-talk+-toge!r habits t afflict s _m ( _! eld]s4 ,see1 too1 t ! *ildr51 :ile n all[$ to int]rupt ! conv]sation ( gr[n p]sons1 receive 9 "s degree ! same consid]ation f !m4 ,9 o!r words1 let ! *ildr5 talk sometimes1 & li/5 to !m s9c]ely & respectfully4 ,!re is no bett] way to tra9 a *ild 9 c\rtesy ?an to obs]ve t[>d x ! mo/ scrupul\s polit5ess1 & a *ild ^: own conv]sation is respect$ c be easily taught to respect ! conv]sation ( o!rs1 & to "k :5 to talk & :5 to be sil5t4 ,?is habit ( li/5+1 inculcat$ 9 *ildhood1 w d mu* t[>d =m+ agreeable memb]s ( society 9 aft] ye>s4 ,if a gue/ %\ld conv]se ) a *ild = a mom5t1 wat* t x does n make itself tiresome by engag+ 8 or h] entire att5tion4 ,%[+ ,(f4 ,nev] %[ (f *ildr5 to visitors4 ,x fo/]s 9 !m a feel+ ( vanity1 & is (t5 v t$i\s to ! p]sons ^u :om x is inflict$1 x be+ b>ely possible t y\r own e/imate ( _! brilliancy is n %>$ by outsid]s4 ,nei!r %\ld /rang]s be all[$1 "u any circum/ances1 at home or abroad1 to tease a *ild j = fun4 ,its angry answ]s may be amus+1 b ! practice is "o t works irrep>able injury to ! *ild4 ,z soon z ?is t5d5cy is discov]$ 9 a visitor1 s5d ! *ild quietly1 b firmly1 f ! room1 rem>k+ casually1 :5 x is gone1 t *ildr5 are apt to be tr\blesome :5 !y talk too mu*4 ,repro( ,be=e ,o!rs4 ,nev]1 unless x is absolutely unavoidable1 reprove a *ild 9 ! pres5ce ( /rang]s4 ,to d ?is injures _! feel+ ( self-respect4 ,x is an annoyance to ! visitor also4 ,:ile x frequ5tly happ5s t a ^w ( timely admonition is necess>y1 all ext5d$ repro( %\ld be left until alone ) ! *ild4 ,cleanl9ess & ,ord]4 ,insi/ ^u cleanl9ess 9 dress1 & tea* ! *ildr5 e>ly t _! hair %\ld be comb$1 _! tee? & f+]-nails clean1 & _! clo?+ fre% & neat ^u all occasions4 ,tea* ! boys t _! %oes %\ld be poli%$ & free f du/1 & _! clo!s ?or\ghly bru%$4 ,slipp]s %\ld be furni%$ boys = h\se we>1 & ! importance ( us+ a doormat be=e ent]+ %\ld be e>ly impress$ ^u bo? girls & boys4 ,tea* !m also ord] & c>e z to _! p]sonal belong+s1 & ! lessons ( neatness ?us e>ly inculcat$ w be ( untold value 9 _! aft] life4 ,home ,h9ts4 ,cultivate 9 *ildr5 ! habit ( assum+ pleas+ attitudes4 ,d n let !m con/antly l\nge ab\t ov] *airs1 c\*es & tables1 & _! company mann]s w n !n be a t]ror 9 ! h\se4 ,tea* !m ! prop] use ( a h&k]*ief1 & insi/ t !y obs]ve x4 ,in/ruct !m :at to d ) _! h&s & feet1 nev] twi/+ ! =m]1 or sw++ ! latt]4 ,nev] p]mit !m to scrat* ! head or p]son1 to clean e>s or f+] nails1 or to use a too?pick 9 public4 ,tea* !m to suppress a yawn or to conceal ! m\? ) ! h&4 ,d n let !m pass 9 front ( p 9 a room1 or1 if f ! arrangem5t ( ! furniture x is impossible to avoid s do+1 let !m ask to be excus$4 ,if !y %\ld accid5tly tread ^u ! toes1 or o!rwise di/urb a gue/1 tea* !m at once to apologize ) an ,excuse me1 or1 ,i beg y\r p>don4 ,d n p]mit !m to slam doors1 or to %\t up & d[n /airs4 ,nev] all[ reque/s or messages to be call$ f "o end ( ! h\se to ! o!r2 insi/ ^u a *ild com+ into ! room ) :atev] he or %e may h to say4 ,impress ^u boys & girls n to />e at o!rs1 nor to take any app>5t notice ( p]sonal peculi>ities1 de=mities1 or oddities ( dress or demeanor4 ,tea* ! *ildr5 always to play a fair game ^u ! playgr\nd1 & n to lose _! temp]s ov] any little diff]5ce ( op9ion t may arise dur+ its c\rse4 ,d n all[ !m to be cruel 9 _! treatm5t ( animals2 to d s1 is to delib]ately tea* !m habits ( cruelty = a lifetime & r5d] !m brutal 9 disposition4 ,visit+4 ,*ildr5 %\ld n be all[$ to visit o!r *ildr5 solely ^u ! reque/ ( ! *ildr54 ,! invitation %\ld come f ! p>5ts4 ,o!rwise great annoyance may result f su* unconsid]$ calls4 ,d n take *ildr5 :ile mak+ =mal visits4 ,!y are (t5 an annoyance1 & always a *eck ^u conv]sation4 ,if !y mu/ be tak51 d n all[ !m to m$dle ) any?+ 9 ! room1 nor to int]rupt ! conv]sation4 ,nei!r %\ld !y be p]mitt$ to h&le ! belong+s1 or f+] ! attire1 ( call]s at ! h\se4 ,d n take !m to art gall]ies1 arti/'s or sculptor's /udios1 & nev] all[ !m to m$dle ) goods 9 /ores4 ,slang1 ,pr(anity1 ,intemp]ance4 ,slang %\ld be elim9at$1 z mu* z possible1 f ! h\sehold vocabul>y4 ,boys %\ld be taught t pr(anity1 or vulg>ity 9 expression1 f> f be+ manly1 only l[]s !m 9 ! e/imation ( all s5sible p4 ,x %\ld also be e>ly impress$ ^u !m t !re is dang] 9 ! use ( liquor 9 any =m1 z well z folly 9 fall+ into ! tobacco habit4 ,at ,table4 ,punctuality at ! table %\ld be taught fir/ ( all4 ,! little table obs]vances s necess>y to ref9em5t ( mann] %\ld be e>ly inculcat$4 ,table mann]s 7see prop] dep>tm5t7 %\ld be taught at ! e>lie/ age t ! *ild is capable ( appe>+ at ! table4 ,! prop] use ( knife1 =k1 spoon & napk9 %\ld be impress$ ^u _! m9ds f ! fir/1 & mu* aft] annoyance w be sav$4 ,tea* !m to eat quietly )\t any noise ( ma/ication1 swall[+ or dr9k+ be+ audible4 ,insi/ ^u _! sitt+ /ill :ile wait+ to be s]v$ & n to play ) knife1 napk9 r+ or o!r small articles on ! table4 ,insi/ ^u _! break+ bread1 in/ead ( cutt+ x1 & nev] to pick up "o piece ( bread or cake f ! plate & !n ex*ange x = ano!r4 ,tea* !m to eat fruit prop]ly1 to use f+] b[ls1 if su* are provid$1 & to keep _! lips clos$ z mu* z possible :ile eat+4 ,tea* !m to pass a pit*] ) ! h&le t[>d ! "o s]v$1 & n to eat ) "o h& & pass "s article ) ! o!r4 ,see t !y d n eat too fa/--bo? heal? & appe>ances be+ consid]$ 9 ?is item--& t !y d n talk ) _! m\?s full4 ,tea* !m to turn away _! heads & cov] _! m\? ) _! h&1 if oblig$ to c\gh1 sneeze or yawn at table1 &1 z soon z possible1 require !m to suppress ^! exhibitions4 ,nev] let !m pick _! tee? at ! table1 or l\nge ^u x ) _! elb[s :ile eat+4 ,leav+ ! ,table4 ,if *ildr5 mu/ leave ! table be=e ! meal is ov]1 !y %\ld ask to be excus$1 & %\ld nev] rise ) _! m\? full4 ,:5 !y h once left ! table1 d n1 z a rule1 p]mit !m to return1 = a *ild soon falls into ! habit1 if p]mitt$1 ( leav+ ! table to play1 & return+ to complete 8 meal4 ,tea* *ildr5 n to compla9 ( ! food set be=e !m2 b1 at ! same "t1 if a *ild has kn[n likes or dislikes1 !y %\ld be1 to a c]ta9 ext5t1 gratifi$1 s9ce1 to "s delicately con/itut$ temp]am5ts1 a compell$ p>tak+ ( "s obnoxi\s di% is a real torture4 ,tea* !m also to acquire a lik+ = z l>ge a v>iety ( food z possible4 ,9 aft] life1 on _m occasions1 ?is may be a great conv5i5ce4 ,9 conclusion1 let x be add$ t ! ,dep>tm5t on ,home ,etiquette %\ld be read 9 connection ) ?is1 especially ! section devot$ to *ildr54 ,see to x c>efully t *ildr5 are n taught "o code ( mann]s = company use1 & p]mitt$ to ex]cise no mann]s = home use4 ,,d9n] ,,giv+4 ,illu/ration ,man is ess5tially a d9+ animal4 ,creatures ( ! inf]ior races eat & dr9k2 only man d9es6 ,& he %\ld d x prop]ly4 ,to invite a fri5d to d9n]1 says ,brillat ,sav>91 is to become responsible = 8 happ9ess s long z he is "u y\r ro(4 ,if1 !re=e1 any lady w\ld ent]ta9 h] fri5ds 9 ! be/ mann] t h] means p]mit1 x w be well = h] to und]/& ! r\t9e ( ! table h]self1 & nev] tru/ entirely to ! skill ( an ord9>y cook4 ,x is h>dly to be expect$ t %e %\ld und]/& ! prep>ation ( ea* di%1 b %e mu/ be capable ( judg+ x :5 s]v$4 ,if %e di/ru/s h] own p[] ( arrang+ a m5u1 & see+ x prop]ly c>ri$ out1 ! d9n] %\ld be ord]$ f ! be/ ( cat]]s4 ,!n1 ) full assurance ( p]fect cook]y1 & faultless s]vice1 "o may prep>e "o's li/ ( favor$ gue/s ) a peaceful consci5ce & a m9d free f c>e4 ,invitations4 ,=ms ( invitations suit$ to all classes ( d9n]s1 h be5 giv5 at l5g? 9 ! dep>tm5t devot$ to t subject1 & acceptances & regrets = ! same c>efully expla9$1 toge!r ) ! obligation ^u e "o to answ] all su* invitations at once1 ei!r 9 ! affirmative or negative4 ,s9ce a d9n] is1 9 all respects1 s important a social ev5t t ! lea/ "o c d is to signify imm$iately "o's c\rse ( action1 ,sidney ,smi? 0 n s f> out ( ! way :5 he burlesqu$ ! solemnity ( ! occasion1 & ! av]sion t all d9n]-giv]s h to an empty *air1 :5 he wittily wrote3 ,a man %\ld1 if he die aft] hav+ accept$ an invitation to d9n]1 leave 8 executors a solemn *>ge to fill 8 place4 ,ho/ & ,ho/ess4 ,! ho/ess is expect$ to put h] gue/s1 z mu* z possible1 at _! ease4 ,%e mu/ enc\rage ! timid1 & wat* ! requirem5ts ( all4 ,no accid5t mu/ ruffle h] temp]4 ,9 %ort1 %e mu/1 = ! "t1 be t p]fect woman :o is-- ,mi/ress ( h]self ?\gh *9a fall4 ,%e mu/ n seem to wat* h] s]vants2 %e mu/ n scold !m4 ,h] br[ mu/ rema9 smoo? ?r\gh all emb>rass+ hit*es1 h] smile be bright & quick1 h] att5tions close & complim5t>y to h] gue/s4 ,on ! ho/ devolves ! duty ( draw+ out any ( ! gue/s ) ^: p>ticul> specialties he is acqua9t$1 & 8 mann]s1 too1 mu/ at lea/ simulate ease1 if he h x n4 ,let ho/ & ho/ess refra9 f boa/+ ( ! price ( any article ( food ^u ! table4 ,:om to ,invite4 ,all ! tact & good bre$+ at ! comm& ( ! ho/ess %\ld be ex]cis$1 fir/ 9 *oos+1 !n 9 arrang+1 ! gue/s to be pres5t4 ,n too _m are to be bidd5 to ! ord9>y d9n]2 six1 eight & twelve are desirable numb]s1 & f\r frequ5tly =ms ! cosie/ p>ty imag9able4 ,! reason ( ?us arrang+ = ev5 numb]s arises f ! fact t1 9 a mix$ d9n] p>ty1 x is well to h z _m ladies z g5tlem54 ,! conv]sation w !n be prev5t$ f dropp+ into long1 or heat$1 discussions1 bo? ( :i* are de/ructive ( pleasure4 ,x w also be f\nd pleasant to invite ! 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( m advanc$ ye>s1 toge!r = an occasion ( ?is sort4 ,l>ge p>ties may be made v enjoyable1 b :]e !re are m ?an eight or t5 at table g5]al conv]sation becomes impracticable4 ,tw5ty-f\r1 & ev5 ?irty1 gue/s1 h[ev]1 :5 well select$1 may make a v brilliant & successful ga!r+4 ,too brilliant a conv]sationali/ is n always a desirable acquisition1 s9ce he may sil5ce & put 9 ! %ade ! rema9d] ( ! company to an ext5t t is h>dly agreeable ev5 to ! meeke/ among !m4 ,a small d9n] ( "o's mo/ intimate fri5ds is easily arrang$4 ,an em95t arti/1 au?or1 musician1 to pose z *ief gue/1 r5d]s x always easy to select among "o's o!r acqua9tances a suffici5t numb] :o w\ld be pleas$ )1 & pleas+ to1 ?is bright1 p>ticul> />4 ,or1 if x be a bride1 or a woman ( fa%ion1 to :om ! c\rtesy is to be ext5d$1 x is equally easy to f9d a suffici5t numb] ( gue/s ( simil> social /&+ & aspirations to make ! occasion a success4 ,!re is also ! satisfaction ( kn[+ t1 z "o _c possibly invite all ( "o's de> five hundr$ fri5ds to a little d9n]1 no "o c be (f5d$ at be+ left out1 ?us r5d]+ x easy to *oose "o's li/ to fit ! circum/ances4 ,d n invite m gue/s ?an !re is room to com=tably seat4 ,no?+ s spoils a d9n] z cr[d+ ! gue/s4 ,seat+ ! ,gue/s4 ,s9ce1 at no social ent]ta9m5t are ! gue/s s dep5d5t ^u "o ano!r = mutual ent]ta9m5t z at a d9n]1 bo? by reason ( its smallness & ! compactness ( arrangem5t1 x w be se5 t an equal c>e devolves ^u ! ho/ess 9 seat+ z 9 invit+ h] gue/s4 ,! mo/ t$i\s ( "o's fri5ds c be tol]at$ at a p>ty :]e x is possible to turn to o!rs = relief1 b to be *a9$ = two or ?ree h\rs1 ) ! necessity ^u y ( talk+1 or try+ to talk1 to ! same dull or conceit$ individual t ! fates h unk9dly aw>d$ z y\r companion1 is a sev]e social /ra9 ^u equanimity ( s\l4 ,h5ce1 ea* ho/ess %\ld /rive to s arrange h] gue/s t l-m9d$ p %\ld be seat$ toge!r1 & p ) hobbies %\ld ei!r be h&$ ov] to ^? likewise possess$1 or into ! h&s ( "s sympa!tic li/5]1 ?us secur+ ! pleasure ( all4 ,kn[n enemies %\ld be seat$ z f> ap>t z possible1 &1 9 reality1 %\ld nev] be invit$ to ! same d9n]4 ,if ?is %\ld inadv]t5tly happ51 !y mu/ rememb] t common respect = _! ho/ess dem&s t !y recognize "o ano!r ) ord9>y polit5ess4 ,lay+ ! ,table4 ,mu* has be5 said ^u ?is subject 9 ! dep>tm5t ( ,table ,etiquette1 & z lay+ ! table =mally = a /ate affair approa*es s ne>ly ! prop] sett+ ( ! home table1 mu* w be f\nd !re t is available ^u ?is important topic4 ,! table1 :i*1 s9ce ! introduction ( ! ext5sion1 is no long] ! cosy r\nd =m :i* br\ght ! gue/s s com=tably ne> "o ano!r1 %\ld be fir/ cov]$ ) heavy felt+1 or d\ble ,canton flannel4 ,ov] ?is is to be laid ! heavie/1 sn[ie/ damask clo? t ! l95 closet af=ds4 ,?is %\ld h be5 faultlessly laundri$1 & is accompani$ by l>ge1 f9e napk9s mat*+ ! clo? 9 design4 ,^! %\ld be v simply fold$1 & )\t />*1 & are laid j beyond ! plate t[>d ! c5t] ( ! table4 ,squ>e is ! be/ =m = fold+1 & ea* %\ld conta9 a small ?ick piece ( bread 9 its folds4 ,?is %\ld be ab\t ?ree in*es long & at lea/ an in* ?ick4 ,?is is to be eat5 ) ! s\p1 n crumb$ into x4 ,a roll sometimes takes its place4 ,"s ho/esses h ! bread pass$ 9 a silv] basket4 ,a plate is furni%$ ea* place1 l>ge en\gh to conta9 ! ,majolica plate = raw oy/]s4 ,( c\rse a small pla9 plate may be us$ = ^!1 b ^? design$ = ! purpose are mu* m elegant4 ,a t9y1 fancy salt is provid$ = ea* place 7see f>!r 9 ,table ,etiquette74 ,two knives1 ?ree =ks1 & a s\p spoon1 all ( silv]1 are plac$ at ea* plate4 ,"s d9n]-giv]s place ! knives1 =ks1 & spoon1 all on ! "r side ( ! plate1 except+ ! small1 peculi>ly-%ap$ oy/] =k1 :i* is plac$ at ! left1 x hav+ be5 decid$ t raw oy/]s %all be eat5 ) ! =k 9 ! left h&1 prongs d[n4 ,/ill o!r ho/esses place ! knives & spoon at ! "r h&1 ! =ks at ! left1 ! oy/] =k diagonally1 ) ! prongs cross+ ! h&les ( ! o!rs1 ! law ( _! arrangem5t be+ n[ise immutable 9 its nature4 ,silv]1 glass1 & *9a1 %\ld all be ( ! brighte/4 ,at ! "r h& ( ea* gue/ %\ld be plac$ an engrav$ glass = wat]4 ,to make c]ta9 t ^! are 9 l9e all ar\nd1 x is well to measure ) ! h& f ! edge ( ! table to ! tip ( ! middle f+] & !re place ! glass2 foll[+ ?is rule ar\nd ! entire circumf]5ce4 ,?is glass1 if w9e is us$1 gives a c5t]1 r\nd :i* ! v>i-color$ w9eglasses may be gr\p$4 ,a ,well-,furni%$ ,sidebo>d4 ,! sidebo>d %\ld conta9 relays ( knives1 =ks1 & spoons1 9 r[s2 glasses1 d9n] plates1 f+] b[ls /&+ on ! fruit plates1 z well z any o!r accessories t may be ne$$4 ,at ano!r sidebo>d1 or table1 ! head wait]1 or ! butl]1 does ! c>v+4 ,if ! room is small1 ?is la/ may be relegat$ to hall or pantry4 ,9 luxuri\s h\ses ! sidebo>ds are (t5 devot$ to bewild]+ displays ( r>e *9a1 & cut glass1 b 9 m mode/ domiciles !y are us$ simply = ! ne$s ( ! h\r4 ,wat] c>afes 7wat] bottles7 are plac$ betwe5 e two or ?ree gue/s4 ,! table %\ld be laid 9 "t1--?us1 if ! d9n] is to be at sev51 all ?+s %\ld be 9 read9ess on table & sidebo>d at six o'clock2 ?is c\rse prev5t+ ! slighte/ confusion4 ,if ! d9n] napk9s are to be *ang$ = small] ones1 ^! also %\ld be laid 9 read9ess4 ,all ! cold di%es1 salads1 reli%es1 condim5ts1 etc41 %\ld also be on h&4 ,! mo/ elegant tables frequ5tly h a long mat1 or sc>f1 ( ruby1 or "s o!r color$ plu%1 ) fr+$ & embroid]$ ends1 laid ! entire l5g? d[n ?r\gh ! c5t] ( ! table4 ,?is af=ds a *>m+ contra/ to ! sn[y nap]y1 & sets ! keynote ( color = ! floral decorations4 ,! c5t] decorative pieces are n[ no long] high1 ?us r5d]+ a glimpse ( ! p]son opposite almo/ impossible1 b are l[ & long4 ,a mirror1 fram$ 9 silv]1 may be set 9 ! c5t] ( "o ( ^! plu% mats2 & ^u ?is arti/ically arrang$ floral decorations are plac$ to be reflect$ 9 its poli%$ dep?s4 ,:]e massive silv] table-w>es are heirlooms 9 ! family1 !y are us$1 despite _! height4 ,c5t] pieces t are rec5t pur*ases1 are usually ( glass1 cut & jewell$1 until _! brilliancy is a m>vel 9 ! lamplight4 ,table ,decorations4 ,:]e ! res\rces ( ! d9n]-giv] are limit$1 ! simple decoration ( a few fl[]s arrang$ 9 a fanciful basket1 or a r>e old b[l fill$ ) roses1 is suffici5t1 & is f> m indicative ( ta/e & bre$+ ?an _m ( ! set floral pieces fre% f ! flori/'s h&1 & speak+ m eloqu5tly ( ! size ( 8 bill1 ?an ( ta/e or appropriat5ess4 ,! fancy ( ! h\r1 & a pretty "o x is1 is = mass+ "o v>iety ( fl[] = decorative purposes4 ,banks ( crimson roses d[n ! c5t] ( ! sn[y clo?1 or great clu/]s ( vivid r$ fl[]s1 c be v effectively employ$4 ,%ells may be fill$ ) fl[]s & us$ z a table decoration4 ,a l>ge "o 9 ! middle1 & a small] "o on ea* side1 has a pleas+ effect4 ,at ea* plate a small b\quet ( fl[]s may be laid1 ^? = ! g5tlem5 arrang$ z buttonholes4 ,9 *oos+ ! fl[]s = decorations1 avoid ^? blossoms hav+ a heavy fragrance1 su* z ! tub]ose1 jasm9es1 syr+as1 z _! p5etrat+ odor is productive ( fa9tness 9 "s1 & is disagreeable to _m1 :ile roses1 lilies1 lilacs1 & _m o!r delicately-sc5t$ blossoms1 are pleasant to all4 ,naturalness is to be aim$ at 9 ^! decorations1 & set floral pieces are 9 bad ta/e at a private d9n]4 ,?\gh hundr$s ( doll>s may h be5 sp5t 9 ! fleet+ lovel9ess ( fl[]s1 ! effect to be aim$ at is naturalness r ?an display4 ,a bord] ( holly1 or ivy leaves fre%ly ga!r$1 may be sew$ ar\nd ! plu% sc>f ?r\gh ! c5t] ( ! table1 & is a beautiful decoration1 f> out%9+ gold embroid]y & lace4 ,h>monize ! color ( ?is sc>f ) ! decorations ( ! d9+-room4 ,blue1 h[ev]1 or gre51 does n light up well1 :ile ruby1 or "s o!r r$1 br+s out ! effect ( glass1 *9a1 & silv] to ! be/ advantage4 ,old gold1 or olive-br[n1 is also v pretty4 ,! d9+-room %\ld be c>pet$ to dead5 ! s\nd ( foot/eps4 ,light+ ! ,table4 ,gas is1 p]=ce1 ! mo/ common1 b n by any means ! mo/ /hetic means ( table illum9ation1 because ( its heat+ & gl>+ qualities4 ,wax c&les are extremely pretty ) tissue %ades to mat* ! prevail+ t9t ( ! o!r decorations1 besides giv+ an opportunity = display+ all mann] ( pretty conceits 9 c&elabra4 ,ab\t tw5ty-six c&les w1 all o!r conditions be+ favorable1 light a table = twelve gue/s4 ,mu* dep5ds1 h[ev]1 on :e!r ! d9+-room is f9i%$ 9 light or d>k woods z to ! numb] ( c&les requir$4 ,v c>efully fill$ & c>efully c>$-= lamps ( pretty designs are also1 especially 9 c\ntry places1 an admirable me?od ( light+ ! table4 ,s]v+ ! ,d9n]4 ,!re are two me?ods ( p]=m+ ?is mo/ important function ( ! entire d9n]1 namely1 s]vice la ,russe1 & ! ,am]ican s]vice4 ,! fir/ nam$1 ! ,russian s]vice1 is univ]sally adopt$ 9 all c\ntries at d9n]s :]e ! requisite numb] ( suffici5tly well-tra9$ s]vants are to be _h4 ,?is s]vice1 :i* consi/s 9 hav+ all articles ( food c>v$1 & o!rwise prep>$1 & br\ght to ! gue/s sep>ately by wait]s1 or footm51 z !y are call$ 9 ,engl& at private tables1 has ! advantage ( leav+ ! ho/ & ho/ess free to conv]se ) _! gue/s4 ,x also has ano!r advantage ( pres5t+ ! table1 z ! gue/s ent] ! room1 free f di%es1 save ! oy/] plates1 glass1 silv]1 fl[]s1 & p]haps at ! two ends ( ! bo>d1 ,bohemian glass flagons1 ( ruby-r$1 conta9+ su* decant$ w9es z d n ne$ ic+4 ,! table also1 be+ s c>efully cle>$ at ! end ( ea* c\rse1 %\ld pres5t ab\t ! same faultless appe>ance at ! close ( ! fea/ z at its beg9n+4 ,! gue/s be+ seat$ at _! respective places1 ,majolica plates conta9+ raw oy/]s on ! half-%ell1 or o!rwise1 ) a piece ( lemon 9 ! c5t] are1 if n already 9 place1 imm$iately put be=e ea* gue/4 ,! roll1 or piece ( bread1 %\ld be at once remov$ f ! folds ( ! napk91 & ! s]vants1 :5 all are seat$1 pass r$ & black pepp]4 ,! oy/] plates are !n remov$ & plates ( s\p foll[1 di%$ f a side table by ! head wait]1 & s]v$ by two o!rs1 :o pass d[n opposite sides ( ! table c>ry+ ea* two di%es4 ,:]e two k9ds ( s\p are provid$1 ea* gue/ is giv5 ! *oice4 ,h[ ! ,di%es are to be ,pass$4 ,! s]vants1 9 pass+ ! di%es1 beg9 ) ! gue/ ^u ! "r h& ( ! ma/] on "o side ( ! table1 end+ ) ! mi/ress ( ! h\se4 ,^u ! o!r side !y beg9 ) ! gue/ ^u h] "r & end ) ! ho/4 ,z "o s]vant passes ! meat or fi%1 ano!r %\ld foll[1 be>+ ! appropriate sauce or vegetable t accompanies x4 ,! s]vants %\ld we> ?9-sol$ %oes1 /ep lightly1 be unglov$1 & always h a small-siz$ damask napk9 wrapp$ ar\nd ! ?umb ( ! "r h&1 z dext]ity 9 h&l+ ! di%es requires t !y %\ld ext5d ! ?umb ov] ! edge ( ! di%4 ,!y %\ld pass all di%es at ! left ( ! gue/s1 t _! "r h& may be free to take !m4 ,w9es only are except$1 ^! be+ always p\r$ at ! "r4 ,s]vants %\ld nev] lean across any gue/ at table 9 ord] to rea* or pass an article4 ,9 pass+ an entre 7ongtray71 :i* is simply a di% s]v$ 9 ! fir/ c\rse aft] fi%1 ! di% %\ld be suppli$ ) a silv] spoon & =k & held l[ en\gh s t ! gue/s c help !mselves easily4 ,entres foll[ ! roa/s sometimes1 z well z1 or in/ead (1 com+ aft] fi%4 ,sweetbreads & croquettes come "u ?is head4 ,^! require hot plates4 ,! s\p remov$1 :i* %\ld be done quickly z possible1 fi% %\ld be imm$iately s]v$1 toge!r ) :atev] vegetables =m ! accompanim5t4 ,:5 ^! plates are remov$ ! roa/ meats are s]v$ on hot plates4 ,"o vegetable is usually s]v$ ) ea* meat c\rse1 & occasionally "s vegetable =ms a c\rse by itself4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 only l5g!ns out ! repa/1 & is n to be recomm5d$4 ,a fre% plate is s]v$ ) ea* c\rse1 x be+ ! rule t no two meals %\ld be eat5 f ! same plate4 ,s]v+ ! ,diff]5t ,c\rses4 ,game =ms ! next c\rse1 ) su* sauces & accompanim5ts z are desir$4 ,! salad foll[s & usually =ms a c\rse by itself1 accompani$ by crack]s1 or ?9ly butt]$ half slices ( br[n bread4 ,^! are usually pass$ 9 a silv] breadbasket4 ,roman pun*1 :5 x is s]v$1 comes betwe5 ! roa/s & ! game1 ?us prep>+ ! palate = ! new flavor4 ,*eese foll[s ! salad sometimes1 & sometimes accompanies x4 ,!n ! ices & sweets4 ,:5 ! ices are remov$1 ! des]t plates1 ov]laid ) a da9ty doily1 ^u :i* is set a f+]-b[l1 are pass$1 & ! fruits appe>4 ,confections are !n s]v$1 to be foll[$ ) black c(fee 9 t9y aft]-d9n] c(fee-cups1 :i* are pass$ on a salv]1 toge!r ) lump sug>1 & small gold or silv] spoons2 no cream4 ,! /rong1 ,fr5* ,caf et noir ,transcrib]'s ,note3 ,caf noir1 or black c(fee1 is always us$4 ,if liquors are s]v$ !y come 9 "h1 a decant] ( ,cognac be+ frequ5tly h&$ ar\nd ) ! c(fee4 ,jellies = ! meats1 reli%es su* z olives1 cel]y & radi%es2 all ! %>p sauces & condim5ts :i* are to be us$ dur+ ! meal1 are on a sidebo>d1 toge!r ) a silv] breadbasket conta9+ a res]ve ( bread4 ,! butl] %\ld h "s means ( signall+ = any?+ want$ by means ( a bell t r+s 9 ! kit*51 also ( lett+ ! cook "k :5 x is "t to s5d up ano!r c\rse4 ,gue/s1 :ile n expect$ to ask = second help+s ( any c\rse1 are always p]mitt$ to ask = r5ew$ supplies ( bread1 wat] or *ampagne :5 wi%$4 ,all di%es are to be remov$ quietly1 & ei!r plac$ 9 a dumbwait] or giv5 9 *>ge ( a maids]vant j outside ! door4 ,if x is necess>y to h any di%es or silv] us$ aga91 !y mu/ be cleans$ out ( sight & he>+ ( ! gue/s1 z also no odor ( cook]y mu/ rea* ! d9+-room4 ,l>ge1 flat baskets mu/ be 9 read9ess to transport ! *9a & silv] to ! kit*54 ,to wait at a l>ge d9n] ! att5dants %\ld av]age "o to e ?ree p3 h5ce1 x w be well = ! small h\sehold to engage outside att5dance4 ,v skilful s]vants h be5 kn[n to successfully att5d to z _m z six gue/s1 b "o mu/ be sure ( ?is be=eh&4 ,! ,m5u4 ,x w be se5 aft] a p]usal ( ?is t ! ord] ( ! =mal1 mod]n d9n] la ,russe1 is v mu* z foll[s3 ,oy/]s1 s\p1 fi%1 roa/1 entres1 ,roman pun*1 game1 salad & *eese1 dess]t1 fruits1 sweets1 c(fee4 ,to make ?is cle>]1 "o bill ( f>e w be giv5 z an example1 always rememb]+ t ! numb] ( c\rses may be less5$ 9 ord] to suit ! ta/e or purse ( ! ho/4 ,_m c\rses are n a necessity1 b ! f9e/ quality & ! be/ ( cook]y %\ld m>k ea* di% s]v$4 ,e d9n] %\ld beg9 ) s\p1 to be foll[$ by fi%1 & include "s k9d ( game4 ,to ?is ord] !re is no repeal1 s9ce s\p is to ! d9n]1 says ,de la ,regni]1 :at ! portico is to ! build+ or ! ov]ture is to an op]a4 ,f ?is !re is nev] any deviation4 ,a /&>d bill ( f>e = a well-regulat$ d9n] is z foll[s3 ,oy/]s on ! ,half-%ell4 ,mock ,turtle ,s\p4 ,salmon ) ,lob/] ,sauce4 ,cucumb]s4 ,*ick5 ,croquettes4 ,tomato ,sauce4 ,roa/ ,lamb ) ,sp9a*4 ,canvas-back ,duck4 ,cel]y4 ,/r+ ,beans s]v$ on ,toa/4 ,lettuce ,salad4 ,*eese ,omelet4 ,p9eapple ,bav>ian ,cream4 ,*>lotte ,russe4 ,ices4 ,fruits4 ,c(fee4 ,ea* c\rse may be s]v$ on di%es diff]5t f ! o!r c\rses2 also fancy di%es1 unlike any ( ! re/1 may be us$ to pass reli%es1 su* z olives1 & add greatly to ! beauty ( ! table s]vice4 ,suitable sets = fi% & game1 decorat$ 9 accordance1 are greatly to be admir$4 ,m5u hold]s are frequ5tly v pretty1 & ^u ! m5u c>d itself mu* ta/e & exp5se are sometimes lavi%$4 ,/ill x is n consid]$ good ta/e to h !m at e plate1 = ! reason t x savors too mu* ( hotel /yle4 ,! gue/s are expect$ to all[ _! glasses to be fill$ at e c\rse4 ,if x is some?+ = :i* !y d n c>e1 !y may cont5t !mselves ) a few morsels ( bread & a sip or two ( wat] until ! next c\rse is s]v$4 ,! ho/ %\ld always h a m5u at 8 plate1 t he may see if ! d9n] is mov+ prop]ly 9 its appo9t$ c\rse4 ,favors4 ,v pretty favors besides fl[]s are frequ5tly laid at ! ladies' plates to s]ve z s\v5irs ( ! occasion4 ,! location c>d or "n c>d may be v beautifully pa9t$4 ,o!r articles1 su* z decorat$ ,ea/] eggs ( plu%1 velvet1 or sat9 h&k]*ief hold]s1 fans1 pa9t$ sat9 bags1 etc41 are all 9 good ta/e4 ,ea* ( !m1 if possible1 is made to op5 & disclose "s *oice confection4 ,!y may be ord]$ 9 quantity f "s h\se deal+ 9 su* articles1 or _m ( !m c be prettily & inexp5sively devis$ at home by any "o hav+ suffici5t "t & ta/e4 ,baskets ( fl[]s1 ) b[s ( broad sat9 ribbon ti$ on "o side ! h&le1 are also suitable = bo? ladies & g5tlem54 ,g5tlem5's favors are usually useful1 su* z sc>f p9s1 sleeve buttons1 small purses1 etc4 ,w9es1 & ,h[ to ,s]ve ,!m4 ,=tunately1 s9ce m ?an once ! fir/ lady 9 our l&1 = ! "t be+1 has prov5 to u by example t ! /atelie/ ( d9n]s may be w9eless1 x is f> f necess>y t w9e %\ld be s]v$4 ,/ill1 if w9es are to be us$1 !y %\ld be br\ght on correctly1 ea* w9e hav+ its prop] place 9 ! v>i$ c\rses ( a d9n]1 z ea* note has its fit position 9 a *ord ( music4 ,by long-e/abli%$ cu/om c]ta9 w9es h come to be tak5 ) c]ta9 di%es4 ,%]ry & ,saut]ne1 z giv5 by a v good au?ority1 g ) s\p & fi%2 ,hock & ,cl>et ) roa/ meats2 ,pun* ) turtle2 ,*ampagne ) sweet breads or cutlets2 ,port ) v5ison2 ,port or ,burgundy ) o!r game2 sp>kl+ w9es betwe5 ! meats & ! confection]y2 ,madeira ) sweets2 ,port ) *eese2 ,%]ry & ,cl>et1 ,port1 ,tokay & ,madeira ) dess]t4 ,r$ w9es %\ld nev] be ic$1 ev5 9 summ]2 ,cl>et & ,burgundy %\ld always be slightly w>m$ 7left 9 a w>m room is suffici5t74 ,cl>et-cup & ,*ampagne are ic$ 7"s epicures object to ?is74 ,cool ! w9es 9 ! bottles4 ,to put cle> ice 9 ! glasses is simply to weak5 ! quality & flavor ( ! w9e1 &1 z a matt] ( fact1 to s]ve w9e & wat]4 ,! glasses = ! v>i\s w9es are usually gr\p$ at ! "r ( ! plate1 & z diff]5t /yles & sizes are us$ = diff]5t w9es1 x is well = ! novice to be accu/om$ to ^! 9 ord] to avoid ! awkw>dness ( putt+ =w>d ! wrong glass4 ,high & n>r[1 also v broad & %all[ glasses1 are us$ = ,*ampagne2 l>ge1 goblet-%ap$ glasses = ,burgundy & a ruby-r$ glass = ,cl>et2 ord9>y w9eglasses = ,%]ry & ,madeira2 gre5 ,bohemian glasses = ,hock2 & l>ge1 bell-%ap$ glasses = ,port4 ,port1 ,%]ry & ,madeira are decant$4 ,hock & ,*ampagne appe> 9 _! native bottles4 ,cl>et & ,burgundy are h&$ ar\nd 9 a cl>et jug4 ,9 h&+ a bottle fre% f ! ice-*e/ ! wait] wraps a napk9 ar\nd x to absorb ! moi/ure4 ,c(fee & liquors %\ld be h&$ ar\nd :5 ! dess]t has be5 ab\t a qu>t] ( an h\r on ! table4 ,aft] ?is ! ladies usually retire1 a cu/om t has happily fall5 into disrepute1 ! c(fee be+ s]v$ )\t ! liquors1 & ladies & g5tlem5 p>tak+ ( x toge!r4 ,roman pun* is s]v$ 9 all mann] ( da9ty conceits z to glass1 imitations ( fl[]s1 etc4 ,nev] all[ s]vants to ov]fill ! w9eglasses4 ,ladies nev] empty _! glasses1 & usually take b "o k9d ( w9e4 ,?is is especially true ( "y ladies1 :o1 v (t51 d n ta/e _! "o glass4 ,gracefully ,decl9$4 ,if w9e is n desir$ f pr9ciple1 m]ely t\*+ ! brim ( ! glass ) ! f+]-tip is all ! refusal a well-tra9$ s]vant ne$s4 ,a /ill bett] plan is to p]mit "o glass to be fill$ & all[ x to /& unta/$ at y\r plate4 ,9 respond+ to a heal?1 x is ungraci\s n to1 at lea/1 lift ! glass & let its cont5ts t\* ! lips4 ,nev] make y\r refusal ( w9e conspicu\s4 ,y\r position z gue/ 9 no wise appo9ts y a c5sor ( y\r ho/'s conduct 9 (f]+ w9e at 8 table1 & any m>k$ feel+ display$ on ! subject w\ld simply %[ a want ( consid]ation & good bre$+4 ,a d9n] giv5 to a p]son ( kn[n temp]ance pr9ciples is (t5 m>k$1 9 complim5t1 by an entire abs5ce ( w9e4 ,if !re is b "o w9e s]v$ ) a simple d9n]1 x %\ld be ,%]ry or ,cl>et1 & %\ld be 9 glass decant]s on ! table4 ,! gue/s c help !mselves2 ! ho/ess c (f] x imm$iately aft] s\p4 ,! ann\ncem5t ( d9n] is giv5 z quietly z possible4 ,! butl]1 or head wait]1 :o %\ld be 9 full ev5+ dress1 m9us gloves1 quietly says1 ,d9n] is s]v$1 or1 z 9 ,france1 ,madame is s]v$4 ,bett] /ill1 he cat*es ! eye ( ! ho/ess & simply b[s1 :]eupon %e imm$iately rises1 & ! gue/s foll[+ h] example1 ! ord] ( ! procession to ! d9+-room is =m$ at once4 ,! wait]s1 aside f ! head "o1 are usually 9 liv]y4 ,ord] ( ,prec$5ce4 ,9 ! matt] ( go+ out to d9n] ! ho/ takes prec$5ce1 giv+ 8 "r arm to ! mo/ honor$ lady gue/4 ,if ! d9n] is giv5 9 honor ( any p>ticul> gue/1 %e is ! "o *os51 if n1 any bride t may be pres5t1 or ! olde/ lady1 or "s visitor f abroad4 ,! o!r gue/s !n fall 9 l9e1 g5tlem5 hav+ _h _! p>tn]s po9t$ out to !m1 & :]ev] necess>y1 introductions are giv54 ,! ho/ess comes la/ ( all1 hav+ tak5 ! arm ( ! g5tleman mo/ to be honor$4 ,9 ! d9+-room no prec$5ce is obs]v$ aft] ! ho/1 save t ! y\ng] c\ples draw back & all[ _! eld]s to be seat$4 ,prec$5ce ( rank is n z common "h z 9 ,europe4 ,on ent]+ ! door1 if x is n wide en\gh to p]mit ( two ent]+ abrea/1 ! g5tleman falls back a /ep & p]mits ! lady to ent] fir/4 ,all rema9 /&+ until ! ho/ess seats h]self1 :5 ! gue/s f9d _! places1 ei!r by means ( "n c>ds at _! plates1 or by a few quiet directions1 ! g5tlem5 be+ seat$ la/4 ,! highe/ place ( honor = g5tlem5 is at ! "r ( ! ho/ess1 ! next1 at h] left1 & = ladies at ! "r & left ( _! ho/4 ,! ho/ess %\ld nev] eclipse h] gue/s 9 h] toilet1 & nei!r ho/ nor ho/ess %\ld endeavor to %9e 9 conv]sation4 ,to draw out ! gue/s1 to lead ! conv]sation 9 pleasant *annels1 to break up long discussions1 & to discov] all possibilities ( brilliancy 9 ! company ar\nd _! bo>d1 %\ld be _! aim4 ,! ho/ess mu/ nev] press di%es ^u h] gue/s1 b !y are p]mitt$1 if !y wi%1 to praise any vi& t has pleas$ !m4 ,! ho/ess mu/ appe> to be eat+ until all ! company h f9i%$1 & h] wat*ful eye mu/ see t e want is suppli$4 ,at ! close ( ! repa/ ! ho/ess slightly b[s to ! lady at ! "r ( ! ho/1 :5 all ! gue/s rise & return 9 ord] to ! draw+-room4 ,:]e g5tlem5 rema9 ar\nd ! table = t fraction ( an h\r1-- ,across ! walnuts & ! w9e1 all rise1 & ! g5tlem5 rema9 /&+ until ! ladies leave ! room4 ,! g5tleman :o _h ! honor ( escort+ ! ho/ess into ! table1 walks ) h] to ! door2 "h %e pauses to all[ ! ho/'s companion to pass ?r\gh1 :5 ! ho/1 :o has escort$ h] ?i!r1 returns to ! table1 ! o!r g5tlem5 foll[+ 8 example4 ,! ho/ess is ! la/ lady to leave ! room1 :]eupon h] escort closes ! door & returns to ! table1 :]e ! g5tlem5 gr\p !mselves c>elessly at "o end ( ! table1 = t half h\r ( conv]sation & cig>s4 ,:]e w9e is n us$ ! g5tlem5 frequ5tly rema9 beh9d = smok+1 & "s ho/s imm$iately )draw ) !m to ! smok+-room4 ,c(fee is frequ5tly s]v$ 9 ! draw+-room1 :]e ! ladies h _h _! little *at aft] ! return ?i!r ( ! g5tlem54 ,in=mal & ,easy4 ,! ho/ess1 assi/$ by a daught]1 or a "y lady fri5d1 usually p\rs ! bev]age1 & ! g5tlem5 pass x ar\nd to ! ladies1 ?us =m+ ! mo/ delightfully in=mal gr\ps = conv]sation4 ,sug> is pass$ by a s]vant1 or else ! ho/ess drops two or ?ree lumps ( x 9 ea* sauc]1 a sug> b[l1 ) sug> tongs1 /&+ beside h]4 ,cream is n ! correct ?+ = aft]-d9n] c(fee4 ,v _m ho/esses1 h[ev]1 pref] to h c(fee & fruits f9i% ! table m5u1 aft] :i* ! entire p>ty retire to ! draw+-room1 :]e1 = ! half or ?ree-qu>t]s ( an h\r prec$+ _! dep>ture1 s(t music f "s hidd5 or*e/ra may be p]mitt$ to fill ! air ) h>mony4 ,occasionally1 a little programme is arrang$ ( music & song1 to fill ?is int]val4 ,b1 9 _m cases1 & wisely1 conv]sation is ! pref]r$ ent]ta9m5t4 ,fr5* ,t]ms4 ,good ta/e n[ dictates t ! bill ( f>e1 :]e "o is pr9t$ or writt51 %\ld be c\*$ 9 ! ,k+'s ,engli%1 yet1 "o is s frequ5tly ?r[n 9 positions :]e a k ( ! ,fr5* t]ms s (t5 us$ 9 su* cases is some:at ( necessity1 t a %ort gloss>y ( ! same may be useful3 ,m5u ,bill ( f>e4 ,caf et noir ,black c(fee4 ,caf au lait ,c(fee ) milk4 ,a d9n] beg9s )1 ,huitres ,oy/]s4 ,foll[$ by1 ,potage ,s\p1 ,hors d'oeuvres ,da9ty di%es1 ,poisson ,fi%1 ,entremets ,vegetables1 ,roti ,roa/1 ,entres ,di%es aft] roa/1 ,gibi] ,game1 ,salades ,salads1 ,fruits et dess]t ,fruits & dess]t1 ,fromage ,*eese1 ,caf ,c(fee4 ,"r or ,left ,arm8 ,?is is a disput$ "q1 = ! solution ( :i* ea* p>ty gives valid reasons4 ,mo/ g5tlem5 pref] to give ! "r arm1 s9ce ! seat+ ( ! lady is at ! "r side always2 b _m1 to pres]ve ! feudal significance ( ! cu/om t bade ! good knight keep 8 sword arm free = def5ce1 if ne$ be1 (f] ! left4 ,s9ce1 too1 d9n] g[ns h usually a tra9 to be manag$ z be/ x may1 ladies also pref] ! t5d] ( ! left arm1 z t leaves _! own left arm free to manage ! trail+1 silk5 folds4 ,! "r arm1 h[ev]1 has ! balance ( favor1 ?\gh g5tlem5 are b\nd to foll[ ! example ( _! ho/ z he prec$es !m to ! d9+-room4 ,fur!r ,h9ts4 ,memb]s ( families %\ld nev] be seat$ toge!r4 ,?is rule has no exceptions4 ,a g5tlem5 %\ld nev] =get ! wants ( ! lady "u 8 *>ge1 b ! lady %\ld rememb] n to monopolize 8 att5tion exclusively4 ,! g5tleman is suppos$ to be p>ticul>ly att5tive to ! lady at 8 "r1 to pass ! lady on 8 left any?+ ) :i* %e may be unsuppli$1 & to be agreeable to ! lady opposite4 ,he w1 ev5 if a "y man1 feel x a m>k ( respect :5 he is invit$ to take an eld]ly lady d[n1 b if ! ho/ess is c>eful = ! happ9ess ( h] gue/s1 he w probably f9d a "y lady at 8 left h&4 ,9 select+ ! numb] ( gue/s1 c>e %\ld be tak5 t x is n su* z %all br+ two ladies or two g5tlem5 toge!r4 ,odd numb]s w d ?is1 :ile ev5 w n4 ,am]ican ,d9n] ,s]vices4 ,! ,am]ican d9n] s]vice is mu* m simple1 & is ! "o usually adopt$ 9 mode/ e/abli%m5ts 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,"o well-tra9$ maid %\ld be able to r5d] all ! assi/ance requir$ at ! table4 ,giv5 ! be=e-m5tion$ maid1 a lady c1 ) previ\s managem5t1 give a d9n] z elegantly1 & p]haps ) m p]fect hospitality1 ?an :]e ! :ole affair is relegat$ to ! h&s ( an exp]i5c$ cat]]4 ,9 lay+ ! table ! same mann] ( arrangem5t is to be obs]v$ z = d9n] la ,russe1 save t !re are m di%es on ! bo>d & ! decorations are plac$ ) a view to leav+ all ! space possible4 ,cel]y is n[ s]v$ 9 l[1 flat di%es1 & ^!1 toge!r ) olives & v>i\s reli%es1 may be plac$ on ! table 9 all mann] ( da9ty1 ornam5tal di%es4 ,l>ge spoons = ! next c\rse are also suppli$4 ,oy/]s are 9 place :5 ! gue/s ent] ! room1 & ! s]vant sometimes passes br[n bread to eat ) !m2 ?is is cut ?91 butt]$ & fold$4 ,aft] pass+ ?is x is replac$ on ! sidebo>d2 wat] is !n p\r$1 :51 beg9n+ ) ! oy/] plate ( ! gue/ at ! "r ( ! ho/1 %e removes x1 & ! o!rs1 z rapidly z possible1 leav+ ! "u plate4 ,s\p ture51 ladle1 & plates1 or b[ls1 are !n plac$ be=e ! ho/ess & ! maid1 /&+ at h] left h&1 takes ! plates "o by "o1 & passes !m at ! left h& ( gue/s4 ,?is accompli%$1 ! ture5 is remov$1 & ! ho/1 hav+ f9i%$ 8 s\p1 is ready = ! fi%1 :i* is plac$ be=e him toge!r ) hot plates1 & potatoes 9 "s =m1 accompani$ or n by a salad4 ,directions to ,wait]s4 ,! s]vant !n proce$s to remove ! s\p-plates & ! plates b5ea?4 ,by ?is "t ! ho/ has divid$ ! fi%1 &1 /&+ at 8 left h&1 ! maid takes ! plates z he fills !m1 & passes !m1 s]v+ fir/ ! gue/ at 8 "r4 ,a piece ( fi%1 a potato1 & a little fi% sauce1 are plac$ on ea* plate4 ,if bo? salad & potato are s]v$ at ! same c\rse1 place ! salad di% be=e ! ho/ess & let h] s]ve x ^u small1 extra plates or di%es4 ,if salad alone is s]v$1 x is usually plac$ ^u ! plate ) ! fi%4 ,! fi%-platt] %\ld n[ be remov$4 ,! plates may also be tak5 :5 x is se5 !re is no m ne$ ( !m1 beg9n+ ) ^? fir/ s]v$1 z x is presum$ !y w h fir/ f9i%$1 s9ce x is etiquette = ea* gue/ to beg9 eat+ s soon z ! plate is plac$ be=e him4 ,! next c\rse is ! roa/4 ,:ile ! ho/ is c>v+ ?is1 "o or m v>ieties ( vegetables are set at h&4 ,portions ( ! meat & ! accompany+ vegetable are plac$ on ! same plate1 & ! s]vant passes !m 9 ! same ord] z be=e1 & imm$iately foll[s !m ) ! second or ?ird vegetable di%1 if two k9ds h be5 plac$ on ! plate4 ,?is is :]e ! g5tleman sitt+ next ! lady on ! ho/'s "r c help h] & !n himself1 aft]w>ds mov+ x z %e passes ! plates1 s t ! o!r g5tlem5 c d likewise4 ,if a d\ble c\rse is s]v$1 :i* is h>dly advisable1 save at v l>ge d9n]s1 ! light] di% is plac$ be=e ! ho/ess1 & ! s]vant pres5ts ea* plate to h] = a portion be=e pass+ x4 ,aft] ?is ! c\rses d n move s rapidly & ! maid rema9s /&+ a little back at ! left ( ! ho/ess' *air :]e %e c easily obs]ve ! slighte/ signal4 ,! ho/ess signs :5 ! plates are to be remov$1 & ! pr9cipal di%es are all[$ to rema9 until ! c\rse is f9i%$4 ,9 remov+ c\rses no pil+ up ( di%es %\ld be all[$4 ,"o plate 9 ea* h& is all t c be conv5i5tly manag$4 ,aft] ! fi%1 if o!r =ks are n on ! table1 !y mu/ be suppli$ = ! next c\rse4 ,aft] ! plates are remov$1 ! roa/ & small] di%es foll[4 ,salads & ,dess]ts4 ,%]bet1 or w9es1 are s]v$ "h1 if at all4 ,! game1 or p\ltry1 comes next1 salads or jelly accompany+ x4 ,! salad is plac$ be=e ! ho/ess4 ,if salad is s]v$ 9 a sep>ate c\rse1 x is usually accompani$ by *eese1 & sometimes by small pieces ( br[n bread1 ?9ly butt]$ & fold$4 ,?is c\rse f9i%$1 ev]y?+ is remov$ f ! table--plates1 di%es1 reli%es1 etc4--crumbs bru%$1 & ! pr9cipal dess]t-di% plac$ be=e ! ho/ess toge!r ) e requisite = s]v+ x4 ,! maid !n passes ! t>t or pudd+ same z ! o!r di%es1 tak+ two plates at a "t1 & beg9n+ ) ! two ladies on "r & left ( ho/1 tak+ ! o!rs 9 ord]4 ,ea* p]son1 on receiv+ a plate 9 any c\rse1 beg9s to eat1 s9ce ?is facilitates ! s]v+ ( ! d9n] & gives w>m di%es to all4 ,! maid1 dur+ ?is c\rse1 quietly arranges ! fruit-plates1 f+]-b[ls1 & ! aft]-d9n] c(fees & t9y spoons ^u ! sidebo>d1 :5 %e is ready to remove ! di%es1 & place ! fruit-plates 9 position4 ,! c(fees are !n put at ea* gue/'s "r1 unless !y are to be s]v$ aft]w>d 9 ! draw+-room1 & ! d9n] s]vice is virtually end$4 ,if w9e is (f]$1 x is s]v$ betwe5 ! c\rses1 ! ho/ help+ ! lady at 8 "r1 & ask+ ! g5tleman next to d ! same1 & s on ar\nd ! table4 ,bo? ho/ & ho/ess %\ld h be5 able to keep up an int]e/ 9 ! conv]sation at table1 & n to betray ! slighte/ anxiety z to ! success ( ! affair4 ,ho/ or ho/ess %\ld nev] make disp>ag+ rem>ks z to ! quality ( di%es2 & /ill less %\ld !y ref] to _! co/l9ess1 & %\ld "k be=eh& z to ! edge ( ! c>v+-knife1 z ! use ( a /eel is n p]missible4 ,! =ego+ rules w be f\nd to embody ! simple/ & mo/ correct me?od ( s]v+ a d9n] la ,am]ican ,transcrib]'s ,note3 l'amrica9e4 ,d9n] ,dress4 ,ladies dress elegantly1 & 9 any mann]1 or color1 t fancy or becom+ness may dictate4 ,corsages1 h[ev]1 :ile op5 at ! neck 9 ei!r squ>e1 or he>t-%ap$ fa%ion1 are n z l[-cut z = a ball-dress1 :ile ! sleeves are usually ( demi-l5g?4 ,gloves are always worn1 & n remov$ until seat$ at ! table4 ,!y are n resum$ aft]w>d unless danc+ foll[s4 ,v "y ladies we> less exp5sive toilets ( :ite or delicately t9t$ wools1 or light-weight silks4 ,g5tlem5 are expect$ to we> ! conv5tional ev5+ dress4 ,to be glov$ or n to be glov$ is a vex$ "q ) !m4 ,x is well to be provid$ ) a pair ( light gloves1 & let y\r own self-possession & ! example ( o!rs decide = y at ! mom5t4 ,a g5tleman faultlessly glov$ _c g f> wrong4 ,com+ & ,go+4 ,promptness 9 arriv+ is a virtue1 b rememb] t y h no claim ^u ! "t ( y\r ho/ or ho/ess1 until t5 or fifte5 m9utes be=e ! h\r appo9t$1 &1 if y inadv]t5tly arrive too soon y %\ld rema9 9 ! dress+-room until v ne> ! h\r4 ,dep>ture is f half to ?ree-qu>t]s ( an h\r aft] ! repa/1 & no matt] :at ! ent]ta9m5t1 elev5 o'clock %\ld f9d e d9n] gue/ dep>t$4 ,functions4 ,! practice ( call+ ! ord9>y reception1 ball1 p>ty or d9n] a function is simply a bad habit4 ,x comes to u f ,engl&1 :]e a confusion ( ideas has made ?is ^w ! popul> synonym = any social happ5+4 ,! error 9 ,engl& is p]haps p>donable1 = ! reason t v _m ( ! society p]=mances !re are actually functions1 & 9 c\rse ( "t ! unle>n$ & ! c>eless h come to call e society p]=mance a function4 ,! royal draw+-rooms 7s-call$7 are functions1 & ! ,"l ,mayor's d9n] is a function--9 f9e1 t is a function :i* is a c\rse ( action peculi>ly p]ta9+ to any public (fice 9 *ur* or /ate4 ,! receptions & d9n]s :i*1 9 8 (ficial capacity z ,presid5t ( ! ,_w's ,fair1 ,mr4 ,hig9bo?am gave 7 functions4 ,b ! receptions1 d9n]s1 high teas1 giv5 by p hold+ no (ficial position :atsoev]1 d n p>take ( ! nature ( functions4 ,d9n] ,favors4 ,favors may be simple or elaborate1 z ! purse ( ! giv] may dictate4 ,appropriat5ess & simplicity1 h[ev]1 %[ bett] ta/e ?an ! extraord9>y vag>ies 9 :i* "s indulge4 ,among ! really admirable selections :i* are (f]$ by deal]s ( _m sorts1 no?+ is bett] ?an ! bonbonnires %[n by confection]s ( ! high] grade4 ,!y are delightful 9 color1 exquisite 9 design1 & :ile !y are made into receptacles = sweets = ! "t be+1 !y c lat] be turn$ to a doz5 m p]man5t uses4 ,"o design :i* is1 p]haps1 ! mo/ elegant ( all1 takes ! =m ( an op]a bag4 ,x is made ( ! heavie/ cream-:ite silk & has embroid]$ on x 9 da9ty ribbon "w =get-me-nots1 t9y rosebuds1 or jessam9e4 ,at ! top x is f9i%$ ) ! popul> ext5sion clasp ( f9e burni%$ gilt1 & :5 9 use z a favor is l9$ ) t9t$ pap] & fill$ ) ! f9e/ *ocolates or ) c&i$ violets4 ,slipp]s1 too1 are se51 &1 :ile n ( glass1 are sugge/ive ( ,c9d]ella's t9y foot4 ,!y are cro*et$ ( f9e color$ cord1 are /iff5$ & mold$ ov] a =m1 !n fitt$ ) a bag ( silk & ti$ ) ribbons ( ! same %ade4 ,l ! bags1 !y are made ! excuse ( sweets1 &1 l !m1 !y add to ! decorative effect1 = !y /& 9 coquetti% fa%ion be=e ea* cov] & *all5ge ! admiration inspir$ 9 ! pr9ce ( fairy leg5d4 ,books & booklets are mu* 9 vogue & make z acceptable favors z any t c be desir$ if only select$ ) judgm5t & ) c>e4 ,small volumes ( v]se b\nd 9 vellum are always good4 ,s+le poems f any "o ( ! recogniz$ poets put up 9 arti/ic booklet =m are z ne>ly p]fect z favors c be4 ,book cov]s1 too1 are good1 & "s bookm>ks are %[n t are excell5t bo? 9 color & 9 _! evid5t ability to )/& ! usage !y are sure to get if !y are all[$ to d any s]vice at all4 ,"o clev] ho/ess :o gave a d9n]1 & :o h&les h] bru% unusually well1 devis$ a book cov] & leaflet comb9$ t prov$ a great success4 ,%e _h ! cov]s made 9 ! regulation size ( pale sage *amois sk9 & add$ ! decoration h]self4 ,%e pa9t$ ea* 9 ! fl[] t ! gue/ lov$ be/1 = h] fem99e fri5ds1 & ea* 9 "s conv5i5t design = ! m51 & across ! corn] 0 ! "n ( ea* 9 qua9t gold lett]s4 ,%e fold$ heavy p>*m5t pap] 9 booklet =m1 & ) h] bru% wrote 9 silv] bronze selections f ! wit & wisdom ( ! ages4 ,!n %e slipp$ ! m9iature books )9 ! cov]s & left ! brilliant ?\ghts t !y conta9$ to />t ! conv]sational ball4 ,h] d9n] 0 pron\nc$ a great success1 & x 0 rem>k$ by _m t !re 0 none ( t awkw>d sil5ce :i* s (t5 prec$es ! s\p4 ,table ,etiquette4 ,illu/ration ,! m9uti ( table etiquette (f]s to onlook]s ! be/ evid5ce ( good or ill-bre$+1 & 9 ! graceful obs]vance !re( is display$ all ! diff]5ce betwe5 d9+ elegantly & m]ely consum+ food1 = x is at ! table t ! ill-br$ & ! well-br$ man are mo/ /rongly contra/$4 ,h[ to eat s\p1 or p>take ( grapes1 & :at to d ) a *]ry /one1 ?\gh app>5tly trivial 9 !mselves1 are weighty matt]s :5 tak5 z an index ( social /&+4 ,& x is safe to say t ! "y man :o drank f 8 sauc]1 or ! "y woman :o ate peas ) h] knife1 w\ld c\rt ! risk ( bani%m5t f good society4 ,9 reg>d to ! fir/ ess5tials ( table mann]s we are b\nd to consid] ! lay+ ( ! table1 ! mann] ( be+ seat$ !reat1 ! use ( ! napk91 ! prop] h&l+ ( ^? mo/ invaluable implem5ts1 knife1 =k & spoon1 toge!r ) a %ort diss]tation on ^? old] implem5ts1 ,adam's knives & =ks4 ,! ,breakfa/ ,table4 ,?is fir/ repa/ ( ! day %\ld always be da9tily & appetiz+ly spread1 & ! etiquette !re obs]v$1 z at all o!r meals ( ! day1 %\ld be ( a nature to r5d] ! obs]vance on m /ately occasions second nature to ! memb]s ( ! family4 ,*ildr5 s tra9$ w f9d little difficulty 9 aft] days z to _! table etiquette4 ,! table itself %\ld be spread ) clean l951 fir/ ov]lay+ ! surface ) a sub-clo? ( d\ble canton flannel1 felt+1 or a :ite blanket t has se5 its be/ days ( usefulness4 ,?is is done = ! bett] appe>ance ( ! table l951 = ! dead5+ ( s\nd1 & ! protection ( ! table f ! heat$ di%es4 ,! table l95 = home use ne$ n be ( ! f9e/2 cleanl9ess be+1 aft] all1 ! *ief requisite4 ,illu/ration3 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,! ,,table4 ,be=e ! mi/ress ( ! h\se /&s ! tray cov]$ ) a l>ge napk91 or a prettily et*$ tray-clo?4 ,?is is fill$ ) cups & sauc]s4 ,! c(fee-urn is at h] "r h& ) cream1 sug>1 spoons1 & wa/e-b[l conv5i5t4 ,9 front ( ! ma/] ( ! h\se is spread a l>ge napk9 ) ! corn] to ! c5t] ( ! table4 ,an ornam5tal c>v+ clo? may be us$ 9 its place4 ,on ?is is plac$ :atev] di% ( meat x is 8 prov9ce to s]ve4 ,on ! opposite side ( ! table di%es ( bread & any hot breakfa/ rolls or gems balance "o ano!r4 ,! di% ( potatoes /&s close to1 & at ! "r (1 ! platt]1 ready to be s]v$ ) ! meat4 ,any o!r vegetable s]v$ at ! same meal %\ld be plac$ at ! left ( ! platt]4 ,mats are :olly a /yle ( ! pa/4 ,:]e ! di% is v hot1 or liable to soil ! clo?1 fr+$ squ>es ( heavy l951 et*$ or embroid]$1 take _! place4 ,! ca/or1 too1 is bani%$ f tables polite1 & its place may be tak5 by a few fl[]s1 or bits ( v9e1 9 a simple vase4 ,! butt] di% & ! individual butt]s %\ld be plac$ by ! side ( ! "o :o is to s]ve x4 ,fancy sauce & v9eg> cruets1 & salts & pepp]s are gr\p$ at ea* end ( ! table1 sometimes on small trays ( hamm]$ brass4 ,knives1 ,=ks & ,napk9s4 ,heat$ plates are plac$ be=e ! c>v]1 & ! c>v+ knife 7well %>p5$7 & =k are plac$1 ) _! re/ at 8 "r4 ,on any occasion :5 plates are laid at ea* place1 turn !m face up4 ,to ! "r ( ! plate is ! knife ) edge turn$ f ! p]son to use x4 ,z to ! =k1 au?orities diff]1 "s cont5d+ t x %\ld be plac$ on ! "r h&1 & ! knife next1 ) %>p edge turn$ f ! us]4 ,?is latt] fa%ion is be/ at simple meals :]e b "o knife & =k are us$4 ,o!rs cont5d t ! =k %\ld be laid at ! left4 ,?is latt] fa%ion %\ld be foll[$ :]e sev]al knives & =ks are necess>y = an elaborate d9n]4 ,! simply-fold$ napk9 is at ! left h&4 ,! glass & individual butt] plate are plac$ ne> ! po9t ( ! knife4 ,to avoid wait+ :]e !re is any ha/e1 ! butt]s may be fill$ be=e ! family are seat$4 ,if oatmeal1 or any porridge1 is to be s]v$1 ! di% %\ld be plac$ ^u ! table be=e ! h\se mi/ress1 toge!r ) ! requisite numb] ( small b[ls1 or sauc]s1 9 :i* %e s]ves x1 add+ sug> & cream1 or pass+ ^!1 z seems be/ to h]4 ,aft]w>ds ^! plates & ! di% itself %\ld be remov$1 :5 ! hot plates & ! rema9d] ( ! breakfa/ %\ld be br\ght 94 ,:]e !re is fruit1 z is ! case 9 v nice homes1 x is to =m a ?ird c\rse2 all o!r di%es are to be remov$ be=e ! fruit is plac$ ^u ! table1 & ea* p]son provid$ ) a small plate ) a doily1 or fruit napk91 laid ^u x1 a silv] fruit knife1 & possibly a f+]-b[l set ^u ! doily2 also a teaspoon or orange-spoon :5 oranges are on ! table4 ,if b]ries are s]v$ fruit sauc]s w be requir$4 ,9 busy homes ! fruit is frequ5tly plac$ ^u ! table at ! beg9n+ ( ! repa/ & s]v$ at its end )\t *ange ( plates4 ,_m p]sons pref] to beg9 _! breakfa/ ) fruit4 ,! nap]y at breakfa/ may be color$ if s desir$4 ,! ,d9n] ,table4 ,! d9n] table = home meals is laid v mu* aft] ! fa%ion ( ! breakfa/ table ) ! omission ( ! s]v]4 ,if !re is to be m ?an "o c\rse1 su* z a salad1 ano!r =k mu/ be add$1 9 :i* case x w be be/ to place ! =ks at ! left ( ! plate4 ,if !re is fi%1 ano!r extra =k1 or else ! appropriate little fi% knife & =k1 is dem&$4 ,if a =k only is us$1 ! flakes ( fi% may be pu%$ ^u ! =k by means ( a bit ( bread4 ,a half slice ( bread %\ld lie 91 or beside1 ! fold$ napk94 ,! s\p ture5 is plac$ be=e ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 toge!r ) ! s\p di%es4 ,into ea* ( ^! %e puts a ladle full ( s\p & passes x along4 ,:]e !re is a s]vant to wait1 he1 or %e1 takes ea* di% f h] h& & s]ves ^? at table1 always pass+ to _! left h& 9 s do+4 ,:5 ! s\p is remov$1 ! "u plates %\ld also be tak5 & hot plates br\ght 9 = ! next c\rse4 ,! meat is plac$ be=e ! c>v]1 di%es ( vegetables flank+ ei!r side4 ,! plates are fill$ & pass$1 or else h&$ ar\nd by a s]vant4 ,sometimes ! meat only is put on ! plates & ! di%es ( vegetables are pass$ f "o to ano!r at ! table or h&$ ar\nd by a s]vant4 ,d n place a quantity ( small vegetable di%es at ea* plate2 x is too sugge/ive ( hotel & re/aurant life2 peas & "s o!r simil>ly cook$ vegetables are an exception to ?is rule4 ,side di%es1 su* z pickles1 etc41 are plac$ on ! table :5 x is fir/ laid4 ,if a salad is to =m ! next c\rse1 all ! di%es %\ld be c>ri$ out1 ! meat be+ tak5 fir/1 !n ! di%es ( vegetables1 aft] t1 plates & butt] plates4 ,a tray is mu* bett] to transf] all articles except l>ge platt]s4 ,nev] p]mit a maid to scrape ! cont5ts ( "o plate into ano!r1 ) a clatt] ( knives & =ks1 & !n triumphantly be> (f ! entire pile at once4 ,! salad is to be eat5 ) a silv] =k1 & is s]v$ ) rolls or biscuit4 ,:]e ! home d9n] is simple ! salad is frequ5tly s]v$ 9 small di%es & pass$ dur+ ! progress ( ! repa/4 ,be=e dess]t is br\ght on1 all table furniture %\ld be remov$ save glasses & wat] bottle1 & ! clo? bru%$ free f crumbs ) crumb-tray & napk91 or scrap]1 9 pref]5ce to a bru%1 :i* is apt to soil ! clo?4 ,! dess]t is !n to be plac$ on ! table & ! mi/ress s]ves ! pa/ry or pudd+ on small plates or sauc]s :i* are plac$ be=e h]4 ,tea1 c(fee1 or *ocolate1 may n[ be h&$ ar\nd1 b nev] soon]4 ,at a v c]emoni\s d9n] !y appe> la/ ( all4 ,if fruit is to foll[ ! pa/ry1 fruit plates1 arrang$ z = breakfa/1 mu/ be sub/itut$ = ! dess]t plates1 z soon z ! gue/s are done ) ^!4 ,x is to be expect$ t ea* family w adapt ! above outl9e to suit _! own ne$s1 omitt+ su* features z !y h nei!r "t to devote to nor s]vants to accompli%4 ,! ideas "h giv51 h[ev]1 are suitable z ! nucleus ( ! mo/ elaborate d9n]1 or may be simplifi$ to fit ! pla9e/ repa/4 ,! ,supp] ,table4 ,! table = supp] is laid v mu* aft] ! g5]al plan giv5 = breakfa/1 ) ! exception ( ! oatmeal4 ,if ! tea is made at ! table1 :i* is ! da9tie/ way1 ! o!r adjuncts ( ! tray mu/ be supplem5t$ by a da9ty brass or bronze hot-wat] kettle swung ov] an alcohol lamp1 & a pretty tea caddy4 ,lovely silv] caddies1 ) lock & key1 are to be _h & make an appropriate w$d+ gift4 ,a cosy or ?ick wadd$ cap = sett+ ov] ! teapot1 to keep ! heat 91 is ano!r pretty ess5tial1 :i* may be made z ornam5tal z is lik$4 ,at supp] cold meats are usually s]v$1 & cake is tak5 ) ! fruit1 :ile vegetables1 unless ^? s]v$ 9 salad =m1 are omitt$4 ,! ,lun* ,table4 ,9 cities1 ! lun* takes ! place ( ! twelve o'clock d9n]1 j z ! late city d9n] replaces ! supp]1 de> to c\ntry he>ts4 ,! table = lun* is laid mu* l t = supp]1 ! di%es be+ all plac$ at ! table at "o "t1 & ! ladies ( ! family1 = to !m x is usually devot$1 ga!r+ ar\nd x )\t ! =mality ( a s]vant4 ,signs ( ,ill-,bre$+4 ,! ord] ( lay+ ! table1 & s]v+ ! di%es hav+ be5 giv51 x n[ rema9s to give "s in=mation z to ! conduct ( ^? at ! table4 ,?is is r5d]$ m necess>y f ! fact t _m well-dress$1 & app>5tly well-br$ p1 s9 s griev\sly aga9/ ! simple/ laws ( table etiquette1 z n only to display _! own want ( bre$+1 b to actually annoy ^? ab\t !m by _! s9s ( omission & commission4 ,! mo/ important table implem5ts are knife1 =k1 & spoon1 & ) ^! we beg91 9 ! ord] ( _! prom95ce4 ,! ,=k4 ,! =k hav+1 z "o writ] happily sugge/s1 subjugat$ ! knife1 dem&s our fir/ att5tion4 ,! subjugation ( ! knife is s complete 9 ?is c\ntry1 ,engl&1 ,france & ,au/ria t any attempt to give ! knife undue prom95ce at table is look$ ^u z a gl>+ (f5se aga9/ good ta/e4 ,?is av]sion to ! use ( ! knife probably arose fir/ f ! m agreeable s5sation to ! lips t is produc$ by ! delicate t9es ( a =k 9 contra/ to ! broad blade ( a knife4 ,also ! fact t ! /eel ( :i* knives 71 & are /ill1 to "s ext5t1 made1 imp>ts1 by contact1 a disagreeable flavor to _m articles ( food4 ,9 ! use ( ! knife & =k da9t9ess %\ld be cultivat$4 ,!y %\ld be held ) ! h&les re/+ 9 ! palms ( ! h&s :5 cutt+1 or sep>at+ food2 b1 9 convey+ food to ! m\?1 ! h&le ( ! =k %\ld n be kept aga9/ ! palm1 z to d s w\ld give x an awkw>d appe>ance 9 lift+ to ! lips4 ,=k & knife %\ld be held firmly b )\t any app>5t ex]tion ( /r5g?4 ,nev] /rive to load ! =k ) meat & vegetables at ! same "t4 ,to d s is to commit an (f5ce aga9/ mann]s & dige/ion1 & nev] pu% ! food f ! =k ) ! knife4 ,take ^u ! =k :at x w easily c>ry & no m4 ,oy/] =ks are usually provid$ :5 oy/]s on ! %ell are s]v$4 ,ei!r ! "r or ! left h& may be employ$ 9 lift+ !m to ! lips4 ,! %ell %\ld be /eadi$ ) ! o!r h&4 ,! =k may be h&l$ ) ei!r h&1 ! "r be+ m g5]ally us$4 ,x is well1 h[ev]1 to be tra9$ 9 ! use ( bo? h&s1 ?us avoid+ ! slight awkw>dness att5d+ ! con/ant *ang+ ( ! =k f "o h& to ! o!r4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,correct ,,position ,,= ,,hold+ ,,knife ,,& ,,=k4 ,9 us+ ! =k 9 ! left h& x %\ld be lift$ to ! lips1 t9es po9t+ d[nw>d4 ,! =k1 :i* %\ld convey b a v mod]ate am\nt ( food1 %\ld always be c>ri$ to ! m\? 9 a position z ne>ly p>allel to x z possible4 ,?is does away ) ! ?ru/+ motion & ! awkw>d sweep ( ! elb[ t is s annoy+ to ! onlook]4 ,! =k is also us$ to convey back to ! plate bits ( bone or o!r sub/ances unfit to swall[4 ,eject !m quietly ^u ! =k & quickly deposit !m ^u ! edge ( ! plate4 ,! s(t] *eeses are eat5 ) a =k4 ,z to ! h>d] v>ieties1 "s use ! =k & o!rs break ) ! =k & convey to ! m\? ) ! f+]s4 ,use ! =k to break up a potato on y\r plate2 d n t\* x ) ! knife4 ,ices1 /iffly pres]v$ fruits1 etc41 are all eat5 ) a =k4 ,9 fact1 ! =k is to convey all food to ! m\? t is n s liquid 9 its nature z to require ! use ( a spoon4 ,! ,spoon4 ,! spoon comes next z an article ( importance at ! table4 ,s\ps1 all ?9ly cook$ vegetables1 cann$ & /ew$ fruits1 pea*es & cream1 melons1 oranges by "s1 v ?ick *ocolate1 ,roman pun*1 & o!r di%es t common s5se w dictate at ! mom5t1 are to be p>tak5 ( by its aid4 ,"o %\ld dr9k tea & c(fee1 h[ev]1 & n spoonful x4 ,use ! teaspoon to g5tly /ir up & dissolve ! sug> 9 ! cup1 !n lay x 9 ! sauc] & lift ! cup to ! lips by ! h&le4 ,nev] be guilty ( leav+ ! spoon 9 ! cup & compass+ x ) "o or m f+]s 9 c>ry+ x to ! lips4 ,9 p>tak+ ( s\p ! spoon %\ld be swept ?r\gh ! liquid away f ! p]son1 lift$ to ! m\?1 & ! s\p tak5 noiselessly f ! side ( ! spoon4 ,9 ?us lift+ any liquids f ! fur!r side ( ! di%1 or cup1 !re is "t = any drop adh]+ to ! outside to fall 9 ! di% be=e c>ry+ to ! lips4 ,only to g5tlem5 possess$ ( a luxuriant mu/a*e is x p]mitt$ to take s\p f ! po9t ( ! spoon1 always provid+ !y c d s skilfully & )\t an awkw>d use ( ! arm4 ,! gold or silv] spoons = aft]-d9n] c(fee are v small1 z befits ! da9ty cups ( egg-%ell *9a4 ,! ,knife4 ,prop]ly1 ! knife may be said to h no use at ! table save to assi/ ! =k 9 sep>at+ food into morsels fit = ma/ication4 ,nev]1 no1 nev]1 p]mit x to be introduc$ into ! m\? ^u any occasion :atev]4 ,to d s is ! height ( ill-bre$+4 ,adam's ,knives & ,=ks4 ,!re are a numb] ( ?+s t ! mo/ fa%ionable & well-br$ p n[ eat at ! d9n] table ) _! f+]s4 ,!y are3 ,olives1 to :i* a =k %\ld nev] be appli$2 asp>agus1 :e!r hot or cold1 :5 s]v$ :ole1 z x %\ld be2 lettuce1 :i*1 :5 s]v$ 9 :ole leaves1 %\ld be dipp$ 9 ! dress+ or 9 a little salt2 cel]y1 :i* may be prop]ly plac$ ^u ! tableclo? beside ! plate4 ,to ^! may be add$ /rawb]ries1 :5 s]v$ ) ! /ems on1 z !y are 9 mo/ elegant h\ses4 ,dip !m 9 cream & !n 9 sug> 7sometimes sug> only is s]v$71 hold+ by ! /em end & eat+ 9 "o or m bites1 accord+ to size4 ,bread1 toa/1 & all t>ts & small cakes2 fruit ( all k9ds1 except melons & pres]ves1 :i* are eat5 ) a spoon2 *eese1 except ! s(t] v>ieties2 all ^! are eat5 ) ! f+]s1 ev5 by ! mo/ fa/idi\s p4 ,ev5 ! leg1 or o!r small piece ( a bird is tak5 up da9tily 9 ! f+]s ( "o h& at fa%ionable d9n]s4 ,wat] cress is tak5 9 ! f+]s4 ,x is usually s]v$ ^u a %all[ di% or a basket1 a fr+$ napk9 cov]+ bottom & sides4 ,arti*okes1 also1 are eat5 ) ! f+]s4 ,lump sug> may be tak5 ) ! f+]s1 if no tongs are provid$4 ,if a plate ( hot1 unbrok5 biscuit is pass$1 "o may be brok5 (f ) ! f+]s4 ,napk9 & ,f+]-,b[l4 ,napk9s v>y 9 size1 f ! dim9utive1 fancy doily1 = ornam5t r ?an use1 ?r\gh all gradations1 up to ! l>ge/ siz$ d9n] napk94 ,9 us+ ^! d n spread ov] ! entire lap1 nor fa/5 "u ! *9 bib-fa%ion1 nor 9 ! buttonhole1 &1 if a man1 d n tuck 9 ! ve/ pockets4 ,all ^! are fa%ions :i* %\ld h be5 outgr[n 9 ! nurs]y4 ,simply unfold & lay c>elessly 9 ! lap on "o knee1 use to wipe ! lips lightly1 or ! f+] tips :5 necess>y4 ,"s v exquisite p manage to eject fruit se$s1 or sk9s1 or any?+ unfit to swall[1 f ! lips into ! napk91 by press+ x aga9/ ! m\?1 !n dropp+ !m skilfully f its folds ^u ! plate4 ,all su* c>eful obs]vances t5d to remove1 z mu* z possible1 f ! mod]n repa/1 ! prosaic1 & unromantic ideas sugge/$ by ! idea ( eat+4 ,f+]-b[ls are br\ght on ! table aft] ! dess]t is remov$ & be=e ! fruit is s]v$4 ,!y are usually plac$ be=e ea* individual on ! fancy glass or *9a plate t is to be us$ = ! fruit1 a fancy doily be+ laid betwe5 ! b[l & plate4 ,remove b[l & doily at once to ! "r h& side1 leav+ plate free = ! fruit4 ,?is doily is frequ5tly an elaborate article ( fancy "w1 n = use b ornam5t4 ,h5ce1 unless its place is tak5 by a fruit napk9 or small] napk91 z is sometimes done1 pass$ ar\nd be=e dess]t1 ! d9n] napk9 is us$4 ,avoid+ ,fruit ,/a9s4 ,"s ho/esses dislike to h fruit /a9s ^u _! elegant d9n] napk9s2 h5ce1 ! cu/om ( supply+ small] napk9s at ! beg9n+ ( dess]t4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 cumb]s ! d9n] ) mu* s]v+ & is n to be recomm5d$4 ,if done1 ! small] napk9s are to be pass$ ar\nd1 & ! l>ge ones p]mitt$ to rema94 ,at ! close ( ! d9n] ! napk9 is n to be fold$1 b left ly+ loosely at ! side ( ! plate4 ,if a gue/ 9 ! h\se1 h[ev]1 unless fre% napk9s are suppli$ at e meal1 !y %\ld be fold$ & plac$ 9 ! napk9 r+4 ,! rule = us+ napk9s is t !y be t\*$ g5tly to ! lips1 & ! f+]-tips wip$ da9tily ^u !m1 b z nice cu/oms c\rtesy to great k+s1 s1 to ^? g5tlem5 possess+ luxuriant mu/a*es1 a great] fre$om is p]mitt$ 9 its use4 ,! f+]-b[ls are to be two-?irds full ( slightly w>m$ wat]1 & a rose g]anium leaf or a slice ( lemon %\ld float ^u ! surface ( ea*4 ,! f+]s ( "o h& at a "t are to be dipp$ 9 ! wat]1 rubb+ ! leaf or lemon betwe5 !m to remove any odor ( food1 & !n dri$ ^u ! napk94 ,sometimes1 aft] p>tak+ ( meats1 "o may dip a corn] ( ! napk9 9 ! f+]-b[l1 &1 all[+ x to drop back ( ! dry portion ( ! napk91 wipe ! lips ) x4 ,a g5tleman is p]mitt$ to moi/5 & wipe 8 mu/a*e 9 ! same mann]4 ,rememb]1 always to ex]cise ! greate/ c>e n to h ! op]ation a v visible "o1 z x is n p>ticul>ly attractive to ! onlook]4 ,a small glass ( p]fum$ wat] is sometimes plac$ 9 ! c5t] ( ! f+]-b[l = ?is purpose4 ,lift x to ! lips & sip slightly1 be+ c>eful n to h ! appe>ance ( tak+ x = a bev]age1 & imm$iately dry ! lips ^u ! napk94 ,:ile eat+ meats1 etc41 use ! napk9 be=e t\*+ ! lips to a glass1 else ! cry/al edge may pres5t a v disagreeable spectacle to "o's neighbors4 ,g5]al ,table ,etiquette4 ,9 seat+ "o's self at table1 assume a com=table position1 nei!r s close z to be awkw>d1 nor s f> away z to endang] ! clo?+ by dropp+ food 9 its passage f table to lips4 ,sit upright1 & d n b5d ov] to take ea* m\?ful ( food4 ,if a g5tleman is accompani$ by a lady1 he %\ld draw h] *air out f ! table1 &1 :5 %e is seat$1 assi/ h] 9 putt+ x back 9 position1 unless 9 "s public d9+ place1 :]e ?is (fice w be assum$ by a wait]4 ,on be+ seat$1 remove ! roll1 or piece ( bread1 f ! napk9 7! be/ =m = ?is bread is 9 blocks f\r in*es ?ick & ab\t ?ree in*es long71 unfold ! napk91 lay x ^u ! knee1 & quietly wait y\r turn to be s]v$4 ,nev] h&le1 or play )1 any articles on ! table2 x bespeaks ill-bre$+4 ,nev] drum on ! table ) ! f+]s4 ,z soon z a b[l ( s\p1 or a plate ( oy/]s is (f]$ y1 beg91 )\t any appe>ance ( ha/e1 to eat4 ,?is facilitates s]v+1 z1 by ! "t ! la/ are s]v$1 ! fir/ w h f9i%$ _! half-ladleful ( s\p 7:i* is all t society all[s7 & ! wait] may beg9 to remove ! fir/ c\rse4 ,! old cu/om ( wait+ until ev]yone 0 s]v$ be=e beg9n+ is no long c\nt5anc$1 s9ce s\p is no?+1 if n hot1 & by wait+ x is decid$ly cool$4 ,nev]1 unless reque/$ s to d1 pass a plate on to a neighbor t has be5 h&$ to y4 ,x is suppos$ t ! c>v] kn[s :at he int5ds = ea* gue/4 ,:5 di%es are pass$1 help y\rself z quickly z possible1 & nev] insi/ ^u "s "o hav+ x fir/4 ,if a g5tleman1 y may help ! lady next y f its cont5ts1 if %e s desire4 ,always take ! food (f]$ 9 a c\rse4 ,quietly wait & talk :ile o!rs eat1 r ?an call ! att5tion ( ! table to y\r likes & dislikes1 & dis>range ! :ole ord] ( s]v+4 ,if a g5tleman1 see t ! lady y h br\ght d[n wants = no?+1 & let ! lady1 on h] side1 take c>e n to entirely monopolize ! att5tion ( h] escort4 ,h[ to ,treat ,wait]s4 ,if1 = any cause1 ! s]vices ( a wait] are desir$1 cat* 8 eye quietly1 & on 8 approa*1 /ate y\r own or ! lady's wi%es1 9 a l[ tone ( voice4 ,?is same rule ( conduct w apply to public places1 :]e ! knock+ ( spoons aga9/ cups1 & o!r noisy attempts to ga9 ! att5tion ( a wait] _c be too greatly disc\rag$4 ,nev] ?ank a s]vant = pass+ any ( ! di%es or w9es2 t is 8 bus9ess2 b = any p]sonal s]vice1 su* z pick+ up a fall5 napk91 or replac+ a dropp$ knife by ano!r1 x is prop] to return a murmur$ ,?ank y1 n ,?anks4 ,a lady %\ld nev] look up 9 a wait]'s face :ile giv+ an ord]1 refus+ w9e1 or ?ank+ him = any special s]vice4 ,?is savors ( famili>ity1 & %\ld be avoid$4 ,a man1 h[ev]1 t is att5tive w see t a lady has none ( ^! ?+s to d4 ,at table "o may talk to "o's neighbor on ei!r side1 or to ^? directly opposite1 if ! c5t] decorations are n too high2 b x is absolutely ill-br$ to lean across an individual to conv]se ) "s "o on ! o!r side4 ,( c\rse1 at a small d9n]1 or at ! family table1 conv]sation is expect$ to be g5]al4 ,nev] attempt to conv]se :ile ! m\? is fill$ ) food1 & nev] h ! m\? fill$ ) food2 x is bad bo? = mann]s & dige/ion4 ,decl9e any di% pass$ t y d n wi% ) ,?ank y1 n any2 if by a wait]1 ,n any1 is suffici5t4 ,d n ent] into any explanations z to y\r ta/es1 nor ! :ys & :]e=es ( y\r refusal4 ,t int]e/s no "o b y\rself4 ,if w9e is s]v$1 d n call ! att5tion ( ev]yone to ! fact t y d n dr9k x4 ,! table ( a fri5d1 to :i* y h _h ! honor ( an invitation1 is no place = a temp]ance lecture4 ,d n rev]se ! glass2 x is a ne$lessly conspicu\s act2 simply motion ! wait] away ) y\r f+] on ! edge ( ! glass1 or %ake y\r head4 ,"s1 /ill m c>eful1 all[ a glass to be fill$ = !m at fir/1 &1 by lett+ x /& unta/$1 %[ to ! wait] t fur!r (f]s are useless4 ,if a lady does n wi% m w9e ?an rema9s 9 h] glass1 let h] make a little motion ( diss5t :5 ! wait] is ab\t to repl5i% x1 o!rwise a good glass ( w9e is wa/$4 ,9 dr9k+ w9e1 lift ! glass by ! /em1 in/ead ( by ! b[l4 ,"y ladies1 if !y dr9k w9e1 _h be/ cont5t !mselves ) "o glassful4 ,rosebuds %\ld n indulge4 ,! late/ dictum decl>es t sp>kl+ w9es %\ld be drunk at once & n sipp$4 ,sundry ,rules & ,h9ts4 ,nev] display any hesitation 9 select+ food4 ,if y\r ho/ asks :at "p ( a f[l y pref]1 at once give y\r *oice4 ,to say y h none is an annoyance4 ,nev] tip ! plate 9 ord] to dip up ! la/ spoonful ( s\p4 ,9 p>tak+ ( s\p1 or imbib+ any liquid1 d s noiselessly4 ,be sure n to spread ! elb[s :ile us+ knife & =k4 ,keep !m close to y\r side :ile cutt+ meats4 ,nev] try to dispose ( ! la/ m\?ful ( s\p1 ! la/ morsel ( food4 ,x is n expect$1 says "o writ]1 t y\r plate %\ld be s5t away cleans$ by y\r ga/ronomic ex]tions4 ,on no acc\nt cool any dr9k or s\p ) ! brea?4 ,nev] p\r tea or c(fee into ! sauc] to cool x4 ,nev] dr9k f ! sauc]2 x is an unp>donable s94 ,) salads small knifes & =ks are (t5 furni%$1 :]e ! salad is s]v$ uncut ) dress+4 ,aga91 ! uncut leaves are tak5 9 ! f+]s & dipp$ 9 ! salt or dress+4 ,! roll is to be eat5 ) ! salad4 ,individual salts are an ,am]ican fa%ion4 ,if us$1 x is prop] to take salt f !m ) ! knife1 if !y are ! op5 salts4 ,9 ! mo/ /yli% circles great favor is %[n to ample silv] salires ) _! accompany+ salt spoons or %ovels4 ,salt1 ?us tak51 %\ld be deposit$ ^u ! left h& rim ( ! plate4 ,! cu/om foll[$ by s _m ( deposit+ little piles ( salt on ! tableclo? is v annoy+ to ! ho/ess1 z giv+ h] table a %abby look dur+ ! removal ( c\rses4 ,salt is ! only condim5t plac$ ^u ! table at a d9n]2 ! o!rs are pass$ ) ! c\rse dem&+ _! use4 ,nei!r is butt] put ^u ! table at an elaborate d9n]3 ! small squ>e ( bread or ! roll furni%$1 are to be eat5 )\t4 ,use ( ,knife & ,=k4 ,pepp]s & salts are to be %ak5 ) "o h&4 ,nev] use ! o!r to 9 any wise exp$ite ! di/ribution ( _! cont5ts4 ,nev] cut up all ! meat on y\r plate at once1 9 morsels fit = eat+2 to d s savors ( ! nurs]y4 ,b1 on ! o!r h&1 d n seem to be p]petually us+ y\r knife & =k at table4 ,be sure n to ins]t =k or spoon too f> into ! m\?4 ,nev] turn ! spoon ov] 9 ! m\? 9 ! ef=t to free x entirely f its cont5ts4 ,d n let ! mo/ adhesive ( food betray y into ?is mo/ disagreeable ( habits4 ,take small m\?fuls & !re w be less dang] ( ?is occurr+4 ,h&le knife & =k c>efully1 s z n to cause any unnecess>y clatt] at table4 ,wait]s pass all food to ! left1 & all di%es are remov$ at ! left4 ,w9e is pass$ at ! "r4 ,all di%es t are be+ pass$ mu/ be held l[ en\gh s t ! gue/s c help !mselves )\t difficulty4 ,:5 !re is a wait] to remove ! di%es f ! table1 ! gue/s %\ld nev] assi/ 9 ! "w by pil+ small di%es1 etc41 ^u _! plate4 ,simply place knife & =k ^u ! plate4 ,9 pass+ ! plate = a second help+1 remove knife & =k & hold easily by ! h&les4 ,nev] ask = a second help+ ( s\p1 or ( any?+ at a c\rse d9n]4 ,at an in=mal repa/1 :]e !re is b "o pr9cipal di%1 x is prop] to pass ! plate = m4 ,a second help+ ( fi% *[d] is all[able1 b n ( s\p4 ,food %\ld be ma/icat$ quietly1 & ) ! lips clos$4 ,dr9k all liquids )\t ! slighte/ s\nd4 ,nev] butt] bread t is to be eat5 ) s\p4 ,to d ?is is only less vulg> ?an to ?ick5 ! s\p ) ! crumbs ( bread4 ,simply eat ! bit ( bread ) ! s\p4 ,take ! s\p t is br\ght y1 ev5 if y d n c>e = x1 s z n to int]rupt ! ord] ( ! d9n] by a refusal4 ,disgu/+ ,habits4 ,lift cups by ! h&les1 & w9eglasses by ! /em1 & d n tip !m up1 until almo/ rev]s$ ^u ! face1 9 ord] to dra9 ! la/ drop4 ,x is n necess>y1 & really bad =m to completely empty a w9eglass4 ,nev] pick ! tee? at ! table4 ,su* habits are well calculat$ to disgu/ s5sitive p1 & %\ld be p]=m$ 9 private z mu* z any o!r portion ( our daily toilet4 ,nev] r9se ! m\? ) ! la/ m\?ful ( c(fee1 tea or wat]2 no?+ c be m disagreeable4 ,bread %\ld be brok5 by ! f+]s 9 pieces suffici5t = m\?fuls1 z x is ne$$4 ,nev] butt] a slice & cut ) a knife2 butt] ea* piece z ne$$4 ,butt] %\ld nev] be eat5 9 l>ge quantities4 ,cake is brok5 9 bits & eat5 f ! f+]s4 ,v ri*1 crumbly1 or fill$ cake may be eat5 ) a =k2 t>ts also1 unless !y are ( a nature to p]mit ! use ( ! f+]s1 & pa/ry ( all k9ds1 z well z pudd+s n too liquid 9 =m4 ,muff9s c be eat5 f ! plate ) a =k1 or !y c be torn ap>t1 butt]$1 & eat5 :ile held 9 ! f+]s1 l toa/$ bread4 ,hot gems c be torn ap>t & p>tak5 ( 9 ! same way4 ,nev] take "o piece ( bread or cake & !n reject x = ano!r4 ,if any little accid5t %\ld occur at table1 d n apologize = x2 let x pass )\t note1 & x w be apt to escape obs]vation4 ,if !re %\ld be any?+ accid5tally spill$ ^u ! clo?1 ! wait] %\ld quickly remove ! traces1 & spread a fre% napk9 ov] ! soil$ spot4 ,fruits4 ,apples are p>$ ) a silv] knife at table1 & eat5 9 small sections f ! f+]s4 ,!re is (t5 mu* "t devot$ to p>+ fruit by hold+ x on a =k1 n t\*+ x ) ! f+]s4 ,?is is unnecess>y1 unless :5 a g5tleman is prep>+ ! fruit = a lady1 or :]e ! pea* or pe> is too juicy to d o!rwise4 ,grapes are pluck$ f _! /ems & ! pulp squeez$ into ! m\?1 :ile ! f+]s hold ! sk9 :i* is !n laid on "o side ! plate4 ,?is is f> da9ti] ?an to put ! fruit 9 ! m\? & !n eject ! sk9 into ! h& or ^u ! plate4 ,bananas are peel$ & eat5 f ! plate ) a =k4 ,oranges are sk9n$1 divid$ into sections1 & eat5 f ! f+]s1 reject+ ! se$s into ! h&4 ,"s pref]1 h[ev]1 to cut ! end ( ! orange & eat ! pulp ) a spoon4 ,p9eapple is ! only fruit t mu/ be eat5 ) a knife & =k4 ,silv] knives & =ks mu/ always be us$ ) fruits1 z /eel becomes color$ by contact ) ! fruit juices & imp>ts a disagreeable flavor4 ,gre5 corn1 9 e>1 is a /umbl+-block1 & p]haps "o's be/ plan w\ld be to con=m to ! cu/om ( ! table :]e y may be4 ,9 eat+ x directly f ! e> hold x 9 "o h& only4 ,"s ho/esses provide small doilies ) :i* to hold ! e>4 ,if a gue/ is pleas$ ) any p>ticul> di% on ! table1 a delicate complim5t ^u its unusual excell5ce is always pleas+ to ! ho/ess4 ,,ev5+ ,,p>ties1 ,,receptions ,,& ,,supp]s4 ,illu/ration ,! ev5+ p>ty may be z elaborate or z simple an affair z ! ho/ess may desire4 ,9 its elaborate =m x only diff]s f ! ball 9 ! "o respect t danc+ may1 or may n1 be introduc$ z a feature ( ! ent]ta9m5t1 :ile a ball is giv5 = ! express purpose ( danc+1 & is always s und]/ood4 ,invitations4 ,invitations = an elaborate ev5+ p>ty are s5t out t5 days or two weeks 9 advance & are issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! ho/ess alone4 ,husb& & wife may be invit$ toge!r1 address+ ! envelope to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,doe2 & daught]s1 if !re are sev]al1 may be includ$ 9 "o invitation z ,! ,misses ,doe4 ,sons1 if !re be m ?an "o1 receive sep>ate invitations1 ?\gh !y c be includ$ 9 "o z ,messrs4 ,doe4 ,b fri5ds1 ev5 ?\gh %elt]$ by ! same ro(-tree1 mu/ receive sep>ate invitations4 ,to invite ,! ,misses ,doe & ,roe1 or ,messrs4 ,br[n & ,gre51 or ev5 ,mrs4 ,doe & ,family1 w\ld be 9 bad =m4 ,to invite ! husb& to any ent]ta9m5t :]e !re are ladies )\t includ+ ! wife w\ld be a direct insult4 ,invitations may be s5t by po/ or c>ri$ by mess5g]s4 7,= =ms see ,dep>tm5t ( ,invitations1 ,=mal & ,in=mal47 ,society is s complex1 & !re is s mu* gr\nd to cov] 9 pick+ up its relations t _m ladies are tempt$ to pay (f all social debts at once by giv+ "o great cru% ( an ent]ta9m5t & invit+ all ^? to :om !y are socially indebt$4 ,to all ^! "o is tempt$ to say1 ,don't4 ,! labor is less & ! pleasure great] :]e two or m small] ent]ta9m5ts are giv5 at diff]5t times4 ,a ho/ess is at lib]ty to invite only ^? to :om %e is socially indebt$1 & memb]s ( a l>ge social circle f :om %e has n receiv$ rec5t hospitalities mu/ n feel hurt at be+ left out4 ,:]e ! family is l>ge %e may invite "s memb]s & n o!rs1 b %\ld %e c\rte\sly invite ! entire gr\p1 x is a rule ( society t nev] m ?an ?ree memb]s ( ! same family %\ld accept an invitation to ! same ent]ta9m5t4 ,ei!r accept or decl9e su* invitations at once4 7,= prop] =ms see dep>tm5t ( ,acceptances & ,regrets47 ,receiv+4 ,at a l>ge ev5+ p>ty ! arrangem5ts = receiv+ gue/s1 ! dress+ rooms1 etc41 & duties ( ! ho/ess 9 receiv+1 are ! same z at a ball1 & ! supp] s]v$ 9 ! same fa%ion4 ,ladies invit$ to help receive are n simply ask$ z a complim5t to _! fri5d%ip4 ,x is n _! sole duty to /& beside ! ho/ess = ! h\r ( com+ & smile & %ake h&s ) ea* gue/ & !n see no m ( !m t ev5+4 ,:5 a lady issues invitations = a l>ge ev5+ ga!r+ %e usually decides to ask "s intimate fri5ds to receive ) h]4 ,if %e express$ :at %e really meant1 & :at %e supposes h] fri5ds und]/&1 %e w say3 ,w y come & help me 9 ! actual ent]ta9+ ( ! gue/s1 = ,i %all h only "t to /& at ! door & say1 ',h[ d y d2' ',good-by4' ,b no1 %e phrases x conv5tionally3 ,w y come & receive ) me8 ,& s !y come 9 a flock & d no?+ b receive4 ,%\ld ,make ,e ,"o ,happy4 ,a woman :o is invit$ to receive %\ld arrive at ! h\r ( ! invitation1 n "o m9ute be=e1 unless = "s especial reason %e is reque/$ to d s by h] ho/ess4 ,%e %\ld remove h] wraps & quietly jo9 h] ho/ess 9 ! rooms bel[1 :]e1 probably1 %e w h a cup ( hot b\illon br\ght to h] at once & maybe a glass ( w9e4 ,= a half h\r or s %e %\ld /& ) ! ho/ess & only take ^u h]self ! task ( greet+1 b1 z ! rooms beg9 to fill1 %e %\ld leave h] place & g sl[ly ab\t ! rooms1 n talk+ & visit+ ) fri5ds1 & hav+ a good "t h]self1 b pass+ by ! gr\ps ( gay & lively ones1 :o "k e "o & seek out ! solit>y & alone4 ,to ^! is h] especial mission1 to make !m kn[n to "s ( h] own intimates1 ^: fri5d%ip is s c]ta9 & s w>m t x w /& ?is dem& ( introduc+ a /rang]4 ,an acqua9tance is n necess>y = ?is giv+ ( att5tion4 ,a memb] ( ! receiv+ p>ty may speak to any "o 9 ! room )\t ev5 ! =m ( introduc+ h]self1 al?\gh1 if %e sees aft] a few words t %e is unkn[n %e w br+ h] own "n casually into ! conv]sation1 mak+ no ef=t to d s4 ,any gue/ w feel flatt]$ on be+ address$ by ! ladies receiv+4 ,mak+ ,?+s ,easy = ! ,ho/ess4 ,ano!r duty %e owes is keep+ h] eyes on ! ho/ess & see+ t %e is nev] left alone = "o s+le mom5t 9 h] position by ! door4 ,"o ( ! receiv+ p>ty ought to be beside h] con/antly ready to execute any wi% %e may express1 z1 = in/ance1 if %e say3 ,i see ,mrs4 ,k4 com+ d[n ! /airs2 %e is a p]fect /rang]2 see t %e meets a few--,mrs4 ,blank1 especially4 ,%e w greet ,mrs4 ,k41 *at a second1 & quietly draw h] to "o side cont9u+ ! conv]sation all ! "t4 ,!n see+ somebody ne> %e w say3 ,i want y to "k ,mrs4 ,s-&-,s2 come ov] "h & let me introduce y4 ,!n %e may leave ,mrs4 ,k4 & look aft] "s o!r awkw>d "o ne>1 &1 aft] a few m9utes1 tak+ "s "o else up to :]e ,mrs4 ,k4 & ,mrs4 ,s-&-,s /ill /&1 make !m kn[n4 ,if ,mrs4 ,s-&-,s has a k9d he>t1 by ?is "t %e w h made ,mrs4 ,k4 acqua9t$ ) "s "o else4 ,! lady receiv+ %\ld keep an eye on ,mrs4 ,k41 p>ticul>ly if %e seems to be afraid to move f "o spot1 z /rang]s sometimes are4 ,meantime1 ano!r memb] ( ! receiv+ p>ty notices t ! ho/ess is alone1 & %e leaves h] acts ( m]cy & returns to h] po/1 ready to assi/ 9 any way4 ,to h su* a little gr\p ( fri5ds trans=m !mselves into will+ slaves = ! mom5t makes ! art ( ent]ta9+ no tr\ble or fatigue at all4 ,?9k ( ! utt] lonel9ess to ! /rang] ( ent]+ ! draw+-room to be greet$ by ! ho/ess & h&$ d[n a long l9e ( ! receiv+ p>ty & !n left to t ba? ( lonel9ess amid/ ! multitude1 :i* has its t]rors = u all4 ,x is ov] su* /rays z ?is t ! receiv+ p>ty is suppos$ to h mo/ c>eful ov]sight1 s9ce to ! ho/ess comes small leisure = ?is duty4 ,ent]ta9m5t4 ,be=e supp]1 c>ds1 conv]sation1 music are made use ( to ent]ta9 ! gue/s4 ,:5 danc+ is a feature1 x does n beg9 until aft] supp]1 & :ile ?is amusem5t is 9 progress opportunity = conv]sation1 games1 etc41 %\ld be provid$ 9 o!r rooms = ^? :o d n dance4 ,rules = go+ out to supp] at a l>ge p>ty are ! same z ^? at a ball4 ,duties ( ! ,gue/s4 ,if music is "o ( ! features1 try & suit its "* to ! company4 ,d n play classical music :]e x _c possibly be appreciat$1 &1 above all1 attempt no?+ t _c be execut$ p]fectly4 ,9 s++1 let g5tlem5 rememb] t if x is an amus+ song !y are to r5d]1 x mu/ be p]fectly unexceptional 9 "*4 ,ladies %\ld be> 9 m9d 9 s++ t x is mu* bett] ta/e 9 l>ge assemblies to avoid ! purely s5tim5tal ord] ( songs1 :i*1 ) ! l>ge numb] ( beautiful compositions at our disposal1 is easily done4 ,illu/ration3 ,,ent]ta9+ ,,! ,,gue/s ,,) ,a ,,song4 ,obs]ve scrupul\s sil5ce :ile o!rs are play+ & s++4 ,if y possess any musical accompli%m5ts1 & are ask$ to contribute y\r %>e t[>d ! ent]ta9m5t ( o!rs1 d s )\t wait+ to be urg$2 or1 if y decl9e1 decl9e absolutely4 ,urg+ %\ld n be resort$ to by ! ho/ess1 :i* cu/om w\ld soon cure a c]ta9 class ( p]=m]s f ! disagreeable habit ( hold+ back = repeat$ solicitations4 ,if y cons5t to play or s+1 d n we>y y\r audi5ce4 ,two or ?ree /anzas ( a song1 or f\r or five pages f a long in/rum5tal piece are suffici5t4 ,if m is greatly desir$ x w always be call$ =4 ,rememb]1 x is only ! lady ( ! h\se :o has ! "r to ask y to play or s+1 & to all o!r reque/s give a smil+ refusal4 ,bew>e ( too ,mu* ,res]ve4 ,rememb] also1 t1 = ! "t be+1 ow+ to y\r mutual acqua9tance ) ! ho/ & ho/ess1 y /& on a p]fect equality ) all ! gue/s pres5t & %\ld1 !re=e1 )\t fur!r prelim9>ies1 conv]se freely ) any4 ,nev] commit ! blund] ( /eal+ away to a side table1 & !re affect+ to be absorb$ 9 "s volume ( engrav+s1 or f9d+ "s unlucky acqua9tance 9 ! room1 fa/5 ^u him or h] = ! entire ev5+4 ,^! are social crimes t no %yness c or %\ld excuse4 ,:]e ! p>ty is a small social ga!r+ & v>i\s p>lor games are resort$ to = amusem5t1 "o %\ld always jo9 9 :5 ask$1 ev5 :ile n c>+ s to d4 ,ex]cise skill1 appe> pleas$1 & :ile1 p]haps1 n enjoy+ ! ev5+ greatly "o's self1 !re w be at lea/ ! consci\sness ( hav+ contribut$ to ! happ9ess ( o!rs4 ,9 reality1 !re is no bett] field = employ+ ! ,gold5 ,rule ?an 9 ! :irl ( social life--no wid] field = unselfi%ness4 ,a sup]ficial k ( ! etiquette & rules t gov]n ! v>i\s social games ( c>ds w be f\nd a great advantage 9 society1 s9ce1 if "o does n dance or play c>ds1 he w be =c$ to cont5t himself ) o!r wall-fl[]s l himself4 ,a g5tleman %\ld nev] let ev5 urg5t solicitation induce him to play = /akes at a p>ty4 ,!re is a code ( "r & wrong beside :i* ! code ( society has no weight4 ,h\rs ( ,arrival & ,dep>ture4 ,an ev5+ p>ty usually beg9s ab\t n9e ,p4,m4 ,x is suppos$ to end ab\t midnight unless ! devotees pref] to rema9 lat]4 ,"s1 :o d n c>e = ?is amusem5t retire imm$iately aft] supp]4 ,:5 to leave at a ball is a v ela/ic rule :i* v>ies to suit ! circum/ances ( ! case4 ,to leave z soon aft] supp] z may be or to /ay until ! ball is actually ov]1 are equally correct c\rses to foll[4 ,half pa/ "o is a v good "t to dep>t4 ,"h 9 ?is busy c\ntry :]e ! gallants ( ! ev5+ w be ! bus9ess m5 ( ! morr[1 e>li] h\rs are usual ?an among ! leisure classes ( ! ,old ,_w4 ,9 retir+ f a l>ge p>ty x is suffici5t to b[ politely :5 express+ ! pleasure y h receiv$4 ,& if ! ho/ess or ho/ (f] ! h&1 %ake x cordially1 b n too r\ghly4 ,an aft] call is requir$ ! same z aft] a ball or d9n] p>ty4 ,,receptions4 ,= in=mal receptions1 invitations are mo/ frequ5tly writt5 on ! left h& corn] ( ! ho/ess's visit+ c>d3 ,,mrs4 ,,*>les ,,grey1 ,?ursday1 f five to eight o'clock4 ,at an ev5+ reception1 ! lady %\ld be dress$ 9 h&some home toilet1 & receive /&+4 ,if sev]al ladies receive toge!r1 _! c>ds %\ld be enclos$ ) ! invitation4 ,! simplicity ( ! occasion leaves ! ho/ess ! m "t to devote to ! enjoym5t ( h] gue/s4 ,music1 bo? vocal & in/rum5tal1 is a great addition to an ev5+ reception4 ,refre%m5ts are g5]ally s]v$ in=mally4 ,! table %\ld be set ta/ily 9 ! d9+-room1 & suppli$ ) c(fee or *ocolate at "o end & a tea s]vice at ! o!r4 ,besides ^!1 da9tily prep>$ s&wi*es1 buns1 cakes1 ices & fruits are s]v$4 ,if ! reception is v select1 & ! numb] ( gue/s small1 a s]vant pres5ts a tray ) tea1 sug> & cream1 :ile ano!r foll[s ) ! simple refre%m5ts t %\ld accompany x4 ,a w$d+ reception1 or a v elaborate ev5+ reception1 ( c\rse admits ( mu* m c]emony1 z well z m sub/antial refre%m5ts1 ?an small ent]ta9m5ts4 ,ladies att5d ev5+ receptions 9 demi-toilette1 ) or )\t bonnets1 & g5tlem5 9 full morn+ dress4 ,illu/ration3 ,,reception ,,to ,a ,,di/+ui%$ ,,gue/4 ,invitations to ev5+ receptions1 lawn or musical p>ties are in=mal1 b require an answ]1 z x is agreeable to e ho/ess to "k ! numb] ( h] expect$ gue/s4 ,illu/ration3 ,to meet _! ,royal ,highnesses1 ,! ,infantes ,eulalia ,& ,anto9e ( ,spa94 ,! ,spani% ,consul ,& ,mrs4 ,*atfield-,taylor4 ,at ,home1 ,monday1 ,june twelf?1 at n9e o'clock4 #ba ,pe>son ,/reet4 ,if ! reception is giv5 9 honor ( "s individual or celebrity ! "n ( ! honor$ gue/ %\ld appe> at ! top ( ! invitation1 z above fac-simile ( c>ds issu$ by ! ,spani% ,consul 9 honor ( ! ,infanta ( ,spa9 dur+ ! ,columbian ,exposition4 ,ev5+ ,receptions4 ,ev5+ receptions be+ simpl] 9 detail & less exp5sive ?an p>ties1 are becom+ m fa%ionable e ye>1 especially among p ( lit]>y & arti/ic ta/es4 ,gue/s call+1 meet a select circle1 among :om are usually poets1 arti/s1 & p]sons ( elegant leisure1 =mality is readily brok51 & ! occasion is always "o ( pleasure4 ,! h\r = leav+ a reception is v>i$ 7any:]e f elev5 ,p4,m4 to "o ,a4,m4 be+ usual74 ,e>ly h\rs are usual among ^? :o h o!r engagem5ts & :o g on to o!r p>ties1 rema9+ ab\t half an h\r at ea* "o3 ?us1 at cr[d$ receptions ! dep>tures comm5ce be=e ! arrivals h ceas$ to be ann\nc$4 ,morn+ ,receptions or ,mat9es4 ,( all ! ent]ta9m5ts giv5 dur+ ! daytime1 lun*eons1 breakfa/s1 aft]noon teas1 kettl$rums1 etc41 ! morn+ reception1 s-call$1 al?\gh x is giv5 9 ! aft]noon1 is p]haps ! mo/ =mal4 ,"s ho/esses adopt ! ,fr5* fa%ion ( call+ x a mat9e1 mean+ any social ga!r+ t is held be=e d9n]1 z any p>ty is call$ 9 ,france a soire4 ,!re are _m advantages 9 a morn+ p>ty4 ,x af=ds ladies :o d n att5d ev5+ receptions ! pleasure ( meet+ on a semi-=mal occasion1 & is also a well *os5 occasion = introduc+ a new piani/ or s+]4 ,= a busy woman ( fa%ion a mat9e1 beg9n+ at two & end+ at f\r or half-pa/1 :i* are ! usual h\rs = ^! ent]ta9m5ts1 is a mo/ conv5i5t "t4 ,x does n int]f]e ) a five o'clock tea1 or a drive1 nor unfit h] = a d9n] p>ty or ev5+ ent]ta9m5t4 ,conv5i5t1 h[ev]1 z ?is h\r is = ladies1 x is q ! rev]se = g5tlem51 s9ce ! majority ( !m 9 ,am]ica d n belong to ! leisure class4 ,h5ce to avoid ?is inequality ( ! sexes1 ladies (t5 give ^! mat9es on "s ( our national holidays4 ,:51 z (t5 happ5s1 "s great celebrity is to be pres5t$ to a l>ge circle ( fri5ds1 !re is no m satisfactory =m ( ent]ta9m5t to be af=d$ him ?an a morn+ reception4 ,to ?is we may draw to meet him _m m5 :o c\ld n be br\ght toge!r at a late-h\r1 full-dress1 ev5+ ent]ta9m5t4 ,au?ors1 arti/s1 cl]gym51 lawy]s1 /atesm51 editors1 doctors & capitali/s1 z well z cultivat$ society wom51 f9anci]s & philosoph]s1 c all be br\ght toge!r 9 easy & fri5dly social int]c\rse4 ,b1 if we hope to ga!r ab\t u m5 ( m9d & di/9ction1 we mu/ n expect to be amus$ only1 we mu/ be amus+1 we mu/ (f] "s tempt+ equival5t2 some?+ t has ! r+ ( pure gold1 r ?an ! glam\r ( fa%ionable dress1 danc+ or music4 ,s1 ) an ,ar*bi%op to ent]ta91 we may hope to attract ! di/+ui%$ cl]gy ( ! city2 ) a great au?or1 o!r celebrities ( ! p5 & p5cil :o w gladly come to greet him2 & once drawn to a successful & brilliant assembly1 !y w be easily induc$ to return4 ,!re=e1 any lady :o w\ld make h] home attractive to ! be/ society mu/ (f] "s high] /imulant ?an ! glitt] ( fa%ion4 ,= good society we ne$ m5 & wom5 :o c talk4 ,we ne$ relaxation1 & x is be/ s\ght 9 int]c\rse ( abid+ value ) ^? ^: lives diff] f ^? ( our own4 ,correct ,dress4 ,! invitations are writt5 9 ! same =m z ^? giv5 = an ev5+ ent]ta9m5t1 & al?\gh giv5 by daylight1 ! rooms are frequ5tly d>k5$ & artificial illum9ation gives to ! :ole a fe/ive air4 ,! ho/ess may be dress$ 9 demi-toilet1 some:at l[ at ! ?roat if wi%$1 & ( ! ri*e/ mat]ials1 b n 9 full ev5+ dress1 laces or conspicu\s jewels4 ,%e may h fri5ds to receive ) h] :o w dress 9 ! same demi-toilets4 ,! gue/s we> reception dresses or h&some /reet dresses4 ,wraps are laid aside1 b hats & gloves are kept on4 ,g5tlem5 we> full morn+ dress on all ^! occasions4 ,ov]coats & umbrellas are left 9 ! hall or dress+-room1 b hats1 if ! /ay is to be %ort1 may be c>ri$ into ! draw+-room4 ,visitors d n usually rema9 m ?an half an h\r1 ?\gh1 if ! occasion is especially int]e/+1 an h\r or m is (t5 sp5t4 ,conv]sation is indulg$ 91 & gue/s li/5 to music1 or :atev] is provid$ = _! ent]ta9m5t4 ,at an ord9>y morn+ reception ! refre%m5ts are light1 & s]v$ ! same z at an ev5+ reception4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! occasion is unusually important1 ! collation is m abundant1 & ! s]vice m =mal4 ,visitors leave c>ds to s]ve in/ead ( ! aft] call4 ,^? :o 7 invit$ b unable to att5d1 call )9 a few days4 7,= g5]al =ms ( invitations see ,dep>tm5t ( ,invitations47 ,introductions are n expect$ to be g5]al1 except :]e ! reception is giv5 9 honor ( "s "o p]son1 :51 ( c\rse1 all com]s are pres5t$ to ?is gue/4 ,morn+ p>ties giv5 9 small c\ntry t[ns are att5d$ ) less =mality ?an 9 l>ge cities1 & introductions are g5]al4 ,,supp] ,,p>ties4 ,"s lov] ( ?is social repa/ says1 ,supp]s h always be5 inve/$ ) a peculi> *>m4 ,!y are ! mo/ conv]sational1 ! mo/ intimate & ! mo/ poetical ( all ent]ta9m5ts4 ,!y are ! favorite repa/ ( m5 ( lett]s1 ! inspiration ( poets1 & a =m ( hospitability em95t 9 hi/ory4 ,:o has n he>d ( ! petite s\p]s ( ! ,reg5cy & ! brilliant m9ds !re assembl$8 ,supp]s are ! popul> ent]ta9m5t ( g5tlem51 & usually take "s di/9ctive "n1 su* z fi% supp]s1 game supp]s1 w9e supp]s1 & ea* has suitable supplies = ! table4 ,invitations to supp]s may be giv5 9 p]son1 by a fri5dly note1 or writ+ on ! c>d ( ! ho/ or ho/ess3 ,supp] at #aj o'clock1 ,?ursday1 ,decemb] #ah?4 ,! v late city d9n]s h prev5t$ supp] p>ties f keep+ _! popul>ity1 b !re is no reason :y 9 t[ns ^! %\ld n be favorite ent]ta9m5ts4 ,! same s]vice is prop] at a supp] z at a d9n]1 ) ! exception ( s\p plates4 ,oy/]s on ! half-%ell & b\illon s]v$ 9 cups are ! fir/ two c\rses4 ,!n foll[s ! usual ord] ( di%es1 su* z sweetbreads & gre5 peas1 :atev] game may be 9 season1 salads ( all k9ds1 !n ices1 fruits & c(fee4 ,x is n q s heavy a repa/ z ! elaborate d9n] p>ty4 ,games & salads are s]v$ toge!r4 ,if w9e is us$ x is f\nd on ! table 9 h&some decant]s4 ,?ree sorts may be s]v$1 su* z ,%]ry or ,madeira & ,burgundy4 ,bread & napk9 are beside ea* plate1 or else ! bread is pass$ aft] ! gue/s are seat$4 ,next1 pla9 plates & cups ( b\illon are s]v$1 ) gold teaspoons4 ,!n foll[ ! o!r c\rses4 ,! di%es are remov$ aft] ea* c\rse z at a =mal d9n]4 ,at ! close ( ! supp] a t9y glass ( cordial is s]v$ to ! g5tlem54 ,w9es may be entirely omitt$ if aga9/ ! pr9ciples1 & m9]al wat]s may be sub/itut$4 ,! table may be decorat$ z = a d9n] p>ty4 ,!re is p]haps no ent]ta9m5t :]e s mu* brilliant conv]sation & rep>tee is indulg$ 9 z at ! sit-d[n supp]4 ,resid5ts ( l>ge cities1 possess+ abundant means1 c avoid tr\ble by ord]+ supplies f ! pr(essional cat]]1 b 9 ! c\ntry home1 :]e economy is an object1 x devolves on ! h\sekeep] to prep>e ! appetiz+ da9ties = h] ent]ta9m5ts4 ,= ! b5efit ( su*1 we give a few items t may be useful 9 arrang+ ! m5u4 ,any reliable "w on cook]y w give ! directions = _! prep>ation3 ,bon$ turkey1 bon$ ham1 devil$ ham s&wi*es1 salmon salad1 *ick5 salad1 pott$ fi%1 fi% salad1 etc41 etc4 ,a ,simple ,supp]4 ,!re is a mu* simpl] supp] possible to be (f]$ by a ho/ess aft] ! op]a or !atre :i* may be made v *>m+ & inexp5sive4 ,?is is a desirable little spread1 s9ce !re are few p :o c und]go ! excitem5t ( an ev5+ at ! op]a1 play1 conc]t1 or c>d p>ty1 )\t a feel+ ( hung]2 & ) _m1 unless ?is hung] is appeas$ a sleepless night w be ! result2 & z ! excitem5t is usually s good an aid to dige/ion1 no evil consequ5ces may be fe>$4 ,?is little supp] is well set out ) a few oy/]s1 a pair ( cold roa/ *ick5s1 a bon$ turkey1 or bon$ ham1 & a di% ( "s k9d ( salad1 & p]haps "o sort ( ice cream or ice & c(fee4 ,oy/]s are invaluable = a supp]4 ,scallop$ or broil$1 !y c be us$ 9 place ( *ick5 or turkey4 ,a ,game ,supp]4 ,a game supp] consi/s ( wild f[ls & fi%1 ) jellies1 ices & bon-bons1 :ile a w9e supp] admits ( almo/ e v>iety ( lusci\s di%es1 diff]+ v little f d9n]1 except t ! delicacies are all cold1 & ( c\rse no vegetables are s]v$4 ,fillets ( game1 bon$ turkey1 cold ham1 fi%1 salads1 ices1 jellies & creams1 are suitable to ?is /yle ( ent]ta9m5t4 ,a ,fi% ,supp]4 ,:5 a fi% supp] is giv51 di%es are g5]ally compos$ ( ! products ( ! sea or riv]4 ,?is is a fa%ionable mode ( ent]ta9m5t = ! season ( ,l5t4 ,salads1 olives1 pickles & sauces are s]v$ z reli%es4 ,sweet dess]ts nev] accompany a fi% supp]1 b fruits are an appropriate addition4 ,c(fee mu/ be giv5 ) all supp]s4 ,illu/ration ,,balls1 ,,danc+ ,,& ,,masqu]ades ,illu/ration ,balls1 to di/+ui% !m f o!r ev5+ ga!r+s :]e danc+ is "o ( ! features ( ! ev5+1 may be designat$ z p>ties giv5 = ! express purpose ( danc+4 ,balls %\ld beg9 at ab\t n9e o'clock 9 ! ev5+1 & t]m9ate at two or ?ree 9 ! morn+4 ,a private ball may be a v elaborate affair1 f fifty to sev5ty-five gue/s be+ necess>y to make ! occasion enjoyable4 ,:]e ! size ( ! ball-room w p]mit1 _m m are frequ5tly bidd54 ,ov]-cr[d+ %\ld be gu>d$ aga9/1 z ru9\s to ! toilets ( ! ladies1 & ! pleasure ( all conc]n$4 ,! invitations to v elaborate affairs are sometimes s5t out f ?ree weeks to "o mon? 9 advance4 ,x is always prop] = an invit$ gue/ to solicit an invitation = a "y lady visitor1 or "s /rang] ( di/9ction1 or = a "y g5tleman kn[n to be a danc+ man1 & x is always p]missible = ! ho/ess1 if %e wi%1 to refuse su* solicitations on ! gr\nd t h] li/ is full1 & no "o %\ld feel (f5d$ at su* refusal4 ,%\ld ! reque/1 h[ev]1 be = ! admission ( an eligible1 danc+ man1 x is r>ely refus$4 ,nev] m ?an ?ree f "o family 7! "m or *ap]on except$7 %\ld accept an invitation to a ball1 or p>ty1 unless 9 ! case ( a ball1 :]e two bro!rs1 if !y dance1 may be accompani$ by two si/]s f ! same family4 ,^? :o d n dance %\ld refuse invitations to balls 7*ap]ons except$74 ,! mo/ brilliant man :o does n dance is usually out ( place 9 an ent]ta9m5t giv5 = t sole purpose4 ,! ball-room %\ld be l>ge2 ! floor well wax$1 or cov]$ ) drugget1 & an abundance ( palms & pott$ plants set ab\t to make cosy nooks j light$ by a %ad$ lamp4 ,cut fl[]s may be mass$ ^u ! mantels ) gorge\s effect4 ,if ! /airway be ( suffici5t bread?1 x %\ld be bravely furni%$ =? ) plants 9 bloom4 ,if x %\ld be a fir/-floor room & op5 into ! cool dusk ( a fa9tly light$ cons]vatory1 !n x is ev]y?+ to be desir$ = ! occasion4 ,good v5tilation is an absolute necessity4 ,invite at lea/ "o qu>t] m gue/s ?an c be com=tably accommodat$1 s9ce ab\t t numb] w fail1 f diff]5t causes1 to accept4 ,if x is impossible to ent]ta9 ) com=t all ^? to :om "o is socially indebt$1 !n x is bett] to divide ! ent]ta9m5t into two or ?ree small] ga!r+s1 always leav+ space = z _m mo!rs ( daught]s1 or o!r appo9t$ *ap]ons1 z may *oose to att5d & :o %\ld always be includ$ 9 ! invitations4 ,sitt+ accommodations %\ld be furni%$ = !m1 z well z = ^? :o may n be danc+4 ,all o!r furniture %\ld be remov$ f ! rooms4 ,full-dress toilets are dem&$ = ! occasion2 fl[]s1 jewels1 ,! gloss ( sat9 & ! glimm] ( pe>ls1 %\ld m+le 9 ?is fe/ivity1 ! gaye/ ( our social ga!r+s4 ,! ball-room %\ld be brilliantly1 & at ! same "t1 s(tly illum9at$1 ! lights com+ *iefly f ! sides4 ,g5]al ,arrangem5ts4 ,9 a l>ge city x is necess>y to provide an awn+ to ext5d f ! c>riage to ! front entrance1 ?us scre5+ gue/s f ! cr[d t usually ga!rs on su* an occasion4 ,a c>pet %\ld also cov] ! /eps & walk to protect ! ladies' g[ns4 ,a mans]vant 9 ev5+ dress & :ite lisle gloves %\ld be at ! curb/one to assi/ ladies1 :o may h come unatt5d$1 9 alight+1 7provid+ !y h no footman74 ,he also provides ea* p>ty ) ! numb] ( _! c>riage1 giv+ ! same to ! driv]1 9 ord] t he may be ready :5 call$4 ,?is same att5dant also calls = ! c>riages ^u ! dep>ture ( ! gue/s4 ,ano!r mans]vant1 or a :ite-capp$ maid1 waits at ! door1 :i* is op5$ )\t ! bell be+ t\*$4 ,?is function>y receives ! c>ds ( ! gue/s1 & directs !m to _! respective dress+-rooms4 ,^! %\ld be l>ge & conv5i5t z possible4 ,assi/ants %\ld be provid$ ) ?read1 ne$les & p9s to rectify any accid5ts t may occur to ! ladies' toilets1 & to r5d] e possible aid to !m 9 mak+ ready = ! draw+-rooms4 ,duplicate tickets %\ld also be 9 read9ess2 "o to atta* to ea* wrap & "o to h& its own]4 ,^! precautions less5 ! confusion & add to ! com=t ( all conc]n$4 ,combs1 bru%es1 & hairp9s %\ld be 9 abundance1 :ile a p[d]-box & puff is n amiss4 ,cologne1 camphor & ammonia %\ld also be 9 ! rooms = use 9 cases ( sudd5 fa9tness4 ,a c\* 9 ! room is also useful1 & l[ *airs or ottomans1 9 case any ( ! ladies %\ld wi% to *ange _! %oes4 ,! g5tlem5s' dress+-room %\ld also be presid$ ov] by an att5dant suppli$ ) ! same duplicate sy/em ( tickets & ready to r5d] any call$-= assi/ance4 ,programs ) ! ord] ( ! dances & blanks = record+ engagem5ts = ea*1 %\ld be di/ribut$ to ! gue/s z !y ent] ! ball-room4 ,to ea* c>d %\ld be atta*$ a small p5cil4 ,conc]n+ ! ,music4 ,good music is a prime necessity4 ,an or*e/ra1 ev5 if x mu/ be a small "o1 is ne$ful = a ball4 ,f\r pieces are en\gh3 viol91 piano1 viol9cello1 or h>p1 & cornet4 ,if m are desir$1 leave ! *oice to ! lead]1 ) :om ! selections w h be5 c>efully talk$ ov] be=eh&1 & :o mu/ be furni%$ ) a copy ( ! danc+ program4 ,! musicians %\ld be conceal$ back ( a gr\p ( fl[]+ %rubs at ! end ( ! hallway1 or "s o!r conv5i5t nook or corn]4 ,if !re %\ld be a balcony1 a %ady b[] c be con/ruct$ = !m !re1 & by tak+ out ! w9d[ frame !y w be he>d to p]fection4 ,nev]1 ev5 at a small & e>ly1 dep5d1 = ! piani/1 ^u volunte] s]vice f among ! gue/s4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 x is a tiresome & unwill+ly p]=m$ s]vice1 & 9 ! second1 !re are few amateurs :o play dance-music ) suffici5t correctness to r5d] danc+ aft] _! music a pleasure4 ,refre%m5ts4 ,at a ball elaborate refre%m5ts are to be expect$1 & are usually s]v$ all ! ev5+ f a long table load$ ) silv] & glass & s(tly b brilliantly illum9at$4 ,no "o is expect$ to sit d[n at su* a supp]1 b ! gue/s z !y come 91 a few at a "t1 are s]v$ by wait]s 9 att5dance4 ,bo? hot & cold di%es are to be _h2 & sub/antial food1 z well z all mann] ( sweets1 %\ld be furni%$ = an amusem5t t begets a mo/ unromantic hung]4 ,small game birds may be s]v$ cold2 ! l>g] f[l hot4 ,bon$ turkey 7cold7 is especially lik$4 ,game pats1 oy/]s1 cook$ or raw1 all mann] ( truffl$ di%es1 & a v>iety ( salads are s]v$1 :ile fruits1 ices1 confections1 cakes1 & s on1 ad inf9itum1 d fitly furni% =? ! fea/4 ,if ! ,g]man is to f9i% ! ev5+1 a sep>ate1 hot supp] %\ld be s]v$ at its close1 & ! all-night supp] conf9$ m exclusively to cold di%es1 ) ! exception ( hot dr9ks4 ,9 case ( a v spaci\s mansion1 ! ho/ess may1 if %e pref]1 keep ! supp]-room clos$ until half-pa/ twelve1 or "o1 :5 %e w give ! ^w4 ,h] husb& %\ld lead ! way to supp] ) "s lady to be especially honor$4 ,! ho/ess %\ld n g out h]self until %e sees t e lady has be5 prop]ly escort$1 save 9 cases :]e %e is to accompany "s v di/+ui%$ g5tleman :o is pres5t4 ,9 ?is case %e delegates h] au?ority ei!r to a gr[n son1 "s o!r relative1 or to "s g5tleman especially appo9t$1 :o takes h] place 9 see+ t !re are no =gott5 wall-fl[]s left to blu% unse54 ,no g5tleman %\ld presume to (f] ! ho/ess 8 escort to ! supp]-room1 ?is be+ an honor %e conf]s at pleasure4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,coquette4 ,a small tea-room on an upp] floor is v desirable at a l>ge ga!r+4 ,"h gue/s1 ladies especially1 c1 unatt5d$1 seek ! refre%m5t ( a cup ( tea1 c(fee1 cocoa1 or b\illon be=e desc5d+ to ! draw+-rooms4 ,g5tlem51 too1 may escort _! we>i$ p>tn]s to ?is hav5 = a mom5t's light refection & re/ aft] danc+4 ,ic$ lemonade %\ld also be s]v$ "h1 & ! room nev] left )\t an att5dant4 ,_m :o d n c>e = a heavy supp]1 are wont to resort to ?is room1 :]e t9y s&wi*es1 macc>oons1 etc41 %\ld also be 9 read9ess4 ,a smok+-room is frequ5tly provid$ at l>ge ent]ta9m5ts :]e ! g5tlem5 may retire4 ,cig>s1 eff]vesc5t wat]s1 & lemonade are furni%$ "h1 & sometimes /rong] dr9ks4 ,?is la/1 h[ev]1 is a "q :i* e ho/ess mu/ settle accord+ to h] own convictions4 ,if w9es are furni%$1 *ampagne & cl>et pun* are ! usual *oice1 & a tru/$ att5dant %\ld be at h& to s]ve !m4 ,^? :o patronize ?is room w1 if !y wi% to lay any claim to ! "n ( g5tlem51 c>efully refra9 f ! slighte/ ov]-indulg5ce 9 ^! cool+1 b deceptive dr9ks4 ,if !re %\ld be no smok+-room set aside1 g5tlem5 mu/ nev] smoke 9 _! dress+-room4 ,to d s is especially ?\ghtless & impolite4 ,ho/ & ,ho/ess4 ,9 giv+ a ball ! ho/ess1 ^u :om ! greate/ /ra9 w fall1 mu/ be sure ( h] own physical & m5tal /r5g?4 ,to /& = two consecutive h\rs 9 "o spot & receive ea* com] ) ! same sweet c\rtesy is a sev]e /ra9 ^u bo?4 ,daught]s1 "y lady relatives or ladies invit$ to receive1 are usually at h& to support h]4 ,! ho/1 if !re be "o1 does n /& beside 8 wife to receive1 b is usually n f> away & %\ld assi/ 9 mak+ ! occasion an agreeable "o4 ,sons ( ! h\se d n seek _! own pleasure at su* a "t1 b quietly endeavor1 aid$ by ! daught]s or receiv+ ladies1 to provide danc+ & supp] p>tn]s = all pres5t4 ,sometimes two or ?ree "y m5 are appo9t$ be=eh& to att5d to ?is duty4 ,! ho/ess1 :ile ri*ly dress$1 %\ld nev] %[ any desire by ! elaborat5ess ( h] co/ume to out%9e h] gue/s4 ,%\ld an obtuse cabman1 misl$ by "s simil>ity ( "n or error 9 numb] 7z may occur 9 l>ge cities71 p]mit a p]plex$ gue/1 p]haps a /rang]1 to drift across ! wrong ?re%old1 let x be a hospitable "o4 ,! ho/ess1 ?\gh %e may n be able to unravel ! my/]y1 %\ld be graci\s & att5tive4 ,arrival & ,dep>ture4 ,! fir/ move aft] leav+ ! dress+-rooms is = ladies to jo9 _! escorts & proce$ to ! draw+-rooms4 ,9 go+ up or d[n /airs ! g5tleman always prec$es ! lady by sev]al /eps1 unless !y walk side by side4 ,?is rule holds good on e occasion4 ,a lady1 if %e wi%es ! g5tleman's assi/ance %\ld take 8 "r arm1 ?us leav+ h] "r h& free to c>ry h] tra94 ,h] b\quet or fan may be c>ri$ 9 ! h& ^u 8 arm4 ,g5tlem5 & ladies nev] ent] ! room arm 9 arm1 no matt] :at _! relation%ip may be4 ,a lady ent]s some:at 9 advance ( a g5tleman accompany+ h]1 b at ! side ( a maid5 :om %e *ap]ons4 ,a "m prec$es h] daught]4 ,d n (f] to %ake h&s ) ! ho/ess z y b[1 unless %e makes ! initiatory move1 s9ce :]e ! numb] invit$ is l>ge ! process becomes some:at we>isome4 ,_m ho/esses pref] to sweep a graceful c\rtesy z !y receive _! gue/s4 ,d n rema9 *att+ ) ! receiv+ p>ty4 ,a b[1 & a simple ex*ange ( k9dly inquiries1 is suffici5t1 :5 y %\ld pass on imm$iately to leave room = o!rs4 ,a g5tleman's next duty is to se>* out 8 ho/ & ex*ange ! c\rtesies ( ! ev5+ ) him4 ,any :o may arrive late %\ld at once se>* out bo? ho/ & ho/ess to (f] a belat$ greet+4 ,a /rang] :o has receiv$ an invitation ?r\gh fri5ds1 %\ld be introduc$ to bo? ho/ & ho/ess & to any daught]s ( ! h\se4 ,if a g5tleman1 he %\ld be sure to invite ! ladies to dance4 ,at a l>ge ball any =mal leave-tak+ is unnecess>y4 ,to ,fold y\r t5ts l ! ,arabs1 ,& z sil5tly /eal away1 is q ! ?+4 ,d n make su* a /ir by y\r go+ z to call att5tion to y\r dep>ture1 app>5tly wi%+ o!rs to take notice ( x4 ,! ,escort4 ,! escort ( a "y lady owes h] att5tion beyond all o!rs he may meet 9 ! ball-room4 ,he %\ld assi/ h] f ! c>riage1 accompany h] to ! dress+-room door1 & aft] due "t return to escort h] to ! reception-room4 ,he mu/ be h] p>tn] 9 ! op5+ dance & %\ld also put 8 "n d[n = ! "o imm$iately prec$+ supp]1 s9ce x is expect$ t ! g5tleman danc+ ) a lady !n w take h] out to supp]1 & !re see t all h] wants are anticipat$4 ,if1 = any reason1 he _c d ?is1 he mu/ see t %e is suitably att5d$2 a g5tleman tak+ a lady into ! supp]-room mu/ also escort h] back to ! ball-room & leave h] :]ev] %e may desire4 ,if !re %\ld be any seem+ neglect he mu/ see t %e is provid$ ) p>tn]s = z _m dances z %e may desire2 nev] danc+ himself unless %e1 too1 is on ! floor1 or1 if %e pref]1 sitt+ out ! dance ) "s pleasant companion4 ,he may introduce o!r g5tlem5 to h]1 aft] ask+ h] p]mission4 ,x is 8 privilege to s5d h] a b\quet = ! occasion1 & he fir/ asks :at ! lady's co/ume is to be1 9 ord] to h>monize ! color ( ! fl[]s ) ! %ade ( ! dress1 s9ce x w\ld be mo/ annoy+ to s5d blue violets to be worn ) a sea-gre5 g[n4 ,x is ! lady's privilege to sugge/ ! h\r ( dep>ture4 ,aft] see+ h] safely )9 h] own door he %\ld leave2 ev5 if %e asks him to ent] he %\ld politely refuse1 rememb]+1 h[ev]1 to call ^u h] )9 two days4 ,illu/ration3 ,,confid5ces4 ,receiv+ ,ladies4 ,ladies call$ ^u to assi/ 9 receiv+ are n to consid] _! duties end$ :5 !y h support$ ! ho/ess ?r\gh ! try+ h\rs ( /&+ to greet h] gue/s1 b are suppos$ 7?\gh !y too (t5 fail 9 ?is7 to m+le ) ! company1 see+ t /rang]s & timid or non-attractive girls are n all[$ to rema9 wall-fl[]s = any l5g? ( "t4 ,ba%ful m51 too1 mu/ n be left )\t p>tn]s1 & all %\ld be provid$ ) escorts to supp]4 ,^! ?+s are a "p ( ! ho/ess' duty1 b 9 a l>ge ent]ta9m5t x is q beyond h] p[] to att5d to all ! claims ^u h] "t4 ,! sons ( ! h\se1 & sometimes a few o!r especially deputiz$ "y m51 mu/ sacrifice _! own pref]5ces 9 ord] to give pleasure to o!rs4 ,if ! numb] ( ladies exce$ t ( g5tlem51 ^! aids frequ5tly take two out to supp]4 ,daught]s ( ! h\se1 toge!r ) receiv+ ladies & ! ho/ess1 d n g out to supp] until ! la/ gue/s are suppli$ ) p>tn]s4 ,h[ev]1 %\ld ! ho/ess be expect$ to accompany "s di/+ui%$ g5tleman to ! table1 %e w delegate h] duties to ano!r4 ,g5]al ,rules = ,obs]vance4 ,g5tlem5 may introduce o!r m5 to ladies ( _! own family or to fri5ds1 fir/ ask+ _! p]mission or ! p]mission ( _! *ap]ons4 ,9 case ( a *ap]on1 ! introduction is made fir/ to h] & !n to ! "y lady1 & ! g5tleman at close ( ! dance returns 8 p>tn] to h] *ap]on4 ,:]e ! g5tleman is well acqua9t$ ) ! lady1 a %ort prom5ade is (t5 indulg$ 92 b if ! g5tleman be a /rang] to h]1 %e %\ld n expect ?is1 = he may h ano!r engagem5t1 & w return h] imm$iately to ! side ( h] *ap]on or "s lady fri5d %e may designate4 ,9 ,europe ?is prom5ad+ is n all[$1 ! "y lady be+ at once escort$ back to h] *ap]on aft] danc+4 ,supp] be+ ann\nc$1 a g5tleman1 hav+ no o!r engagem5t1 (f]s 8 arm to ! lady ) :om he may be talk+ or danc+ & escorts h] out1 unless "s previ\s p>tn] arrives to claim h] be=e 8 invitation is giv54 ,once giv51 a lady is n free 7unusual circum/ances except$7 to decl9e x1 ev5 ?\gh %e may h expect$ ano!r to (f] h] ! same att5tion4 ,if %e be accompani$ by a *ap]on1 ! eld] lady is invit$ at ! same "t1 & x is to h] t 8 arm is (f]$1 ! y\ng] lady walk+ by h] side4 ,= two ladies to ea* take an arm is n good =m4 ,a g5tleman reque/+ a lady = a c]ta9 dance1 %\ld nev] ask if %e is engag$ = x4 ,he may reque/ ! pleasure or honor ( h] company = ! next dance1 & he w le>n f h] answ] :e!r %e be free1 )\t compell+ h] to ackn[l$ge at ! la/ mom5t t %e has be5 hi!rto uns\ght4 ,=mality ( ,introductions4 ,! reque/ = a dance %\ld be accompani$ by a b[ on ! "p ( ! g5tlem54 ,at its close he %\ld ?ank h] = ! pleasure1 & %e %\ld return ?is c\rtesy ) a smile & b[1 & a murmur$ ,?ank y4 ,an introduction to a lady 9 ! ball-room presupposes t ! g5tleman w dance ) h] or walk ) h] ?r\gh "o dance4 ,9 ,engl&1 :]e introductions are r>ely giv5 to ^? invit$ to an ent]ta9m5t1 a g5tleman may ask any lady = a dance4 ,%e w probably accept1 b he mu/ n take ?is z ! prelude to an aft] acqua9tance4 ,9 ,am]ica1 h[ev]1 x is necess>y to ask "s mutual fri5d to fir/ reque/ ! favor ( ! lady1 & !n1 if grant$1 give ! introduction4 ,h[ev]1 9 case ( any little accid5t1 or sudd5 fa9tness1 g5tlem5 %\ld be quick to assi/1 br++ an ic$ dr9k1 aid+ to ! dress+-room1 or call+ a c>riage1 z ! case may be1 )\t ! =mality ( an introduction4 ,a g5tleman may also ask an old] lady :o seems left unatt5d$ at supp]-"t1 if he may br+ h] "s refre%m5ts1 & ?is )\t an introduction4 ,x is v bad =m = g5tlem5 to /& ab\t ! ball-room1 especially if !re be a sc>city ( danc+ m5 pres5t4 ,ev5 if !re is no "o 9 ! room = :om !y p>ticul>ly c>e1 !y %\ld be unselfi% en\gh to rememb] t danc+ is almo/ ! only active =m ( amusem5t 9 :i* ! majority ( ladies may p>ticipate4 ,a "y man %\ld ask ! "y ladies1 daught]s or relatives ( ! ho/ess1 = _! company 9 ! dance e>ly 9 ! ev5+4 ,a m>ri$ g5tleman %\ld be g5]al 9 8 att5tions 9 ! ball-room4 ,he %\ld n dance m ?an once or twice ) 8 wife1 nor %\ld he take h] out to supp]2 b he mu/ keep a quiet outlook ov] h] com=t1 & see t %e is no wise lonely or neglect$4 ,att5tions ,paid to ,ladies4 ,nei!r %\ld he conf9e 8 att5tions 9 a m>k$ mann] to any "o lady4 ,x is ill-bre$+ to excite ! comm5t sure to foll[ su* a c\rse4 ,x is also bad =m = any g5tleman to conf9e 8 att5tions to any "o lady1 or1 z a rule1 to ask h] = m ?an two dances4 ,ev5 engag$ c\ples are n exempt f ?is law4 ,g5tlem5 may put d[n _! "n on a lady's program = c]ta9 dances1 & ! engagem5t %\ld nev] be =gott54 ,if1 h[ev]1 ?is lapse %\ld occur1 ! humble/ apology %\ld foll[1 :i* ! "y lady1 no matt] h[ annoy$1 %\ld gracefully accept4 ,ill-humor is out ( place 9 ! ball-room4 ,if a lady f we>9ess1 or any o!r cause1 %\ld wi% to /op at any "t 9 ! dance1 ! g5tleman mu/1 )\t any comm5t1 at once lead h] to a seat1 & rema9 ) h] until ! set is f9i%$1 not)/&+ t %e may1 f a _s ( k9dness1 reque/ him to seek ano!r p>tn]4 ,%\ld %e %[ symptoms ( we>9ess1 & be ei!r too timid or too ?\ghtful = 8 enjoym5t to ask him to take h] f ! floor1 he %\ld be quick to see1 & to sugge/ t %e re/ = a mom5t4 ,gloves =m an important adjunct to a g5tleman's toilet = a danc+ p>ty4 ,light color$ gloves are always good =m4 ,g5tlem5 are expect$ to we> gloves :ile danc+1 s9ce _! unglov$ h&s w\ld n only soil ! delicate t9ts ( ! lady's gloves1 b ! slighte/ pressure ( a w>m1 uncov]$ h& is liable to discolor ! frail gauzes1 or pale silks ( _! ball-room toilet4 ,x is n amiss to be provid$ ) an extra pair ( gloves :i* w be v useful %\ld ! fir/ pair come to grief4 ,^u ! same pr9ciple1 two fre% h&k]*iefs %\ld be c>ri$4 ,if danc+ is n =mally ann\nc$ 9 ! invitation1 g5tlem5 w d well to provide !mselves ) gloves to be donn$ if t amusem5t is introduc$ 9 ! c\rse ( ! ev5+4 ,not)/&+ ! royal indol5ce or :im ( ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales l$ him "s "t back to disc>d ! use ( gloves at ev5+ p>ties1 an example :i* _m ultra-fa%ionables h foll[$1 x /ill rema9s t gloves are bo? prop] & necess>y4 ,if a g5tleman attempts to dance )\t !m he mu/ hold 8 h&k]*ief 9 8 h& 9 su* a mann] z to prev5t its contact ) ! bodice ( ! lady's g[n4 ,l\d talk+ & boi/]\s laught] are n to be tol]at$4 ,scrupul\sly avoid /epp+ ^u ! tra9 ( a lady's g[n4 ,apologize if x accid5tally occurs1 & if s]i\s damage ensue f ! awkw>dness1 beg ! privilege ( tak+ h] to ! dress+-room to h ! damage repair$4 ,= ,ladies4 ,"y ladies mu/ nev] refuse to dance ) "o g5tleman1 & aft]w>d give ! same dance to a m favor$ suitor4 ,no?+ s quickly speaks ( ill-bre$+ z ?is c\rse4 ,ball-room engagem5ts %\ld n be =gott54 ,"y ladies %\ld nev] be s unwise z to appe> on ! floor at e dance4 ,daught]s ( ! ho/ess %\ld n repeat$ly appe> ^u ! floor :ile o!r lady gue/s are neglect$4 ,n _! own pleasure1 b ! pleasure ( ! company %\ld be _! fir/ c>e4 ,ladies %\ld n cross ! ball-room alone4 ,x invites att5tion4 ,ladies mu/ n burd5 g5tlem5 7unless husb& or ne> relative7 ) b\quet or fan to hold :ile !y dance4 ,"y ladies %\ld n refuse a ball-room introduction to a g5tleman )\t a suffici5t reason1 s9ce to d s is always an emb>rassm5t to ! "o ask+ x4 ,/ill a lady has ! privilege ( refusal & may n be press$ = a reason4 ,"y *ap]ons %\ld nev] dance :ile _! protgs are unprovid$ ) p>tn]s4 ,illu/ration3 ,,sc5e ,,at ,a ,,railway ,,/ation ,,9 ,,p>is4 ,a lady removes at lea/ "o glove :ile p>tak+ ( supp]4 ,b :5 a cup ( tea1 or an ice1 only is tak5 ?is is n necess>y4 ,,danc+4 ,pope says3 ,!y move easie/ :o h le>n$ to dance1 & :ile ! op9ions ( society are greatly divid$ on ! subject ( ?is amusem5t1 x _c be d5i$ t !re is mu* tru? 9 ! assurance t ,locke gives u 9 8 treatise on ,education3 ,s9ce no?+ appe>s to me to give *ildr5 s mu* becom+ confid5ce & behavior z danc+1 ,i ?9k !y %\ld be taught to dance z soon z !y are capable ( le>n+ x4 ,= ?\gh ?is consi/s only 9 outw>d gracefulness ( motion1 444 yet x gives *ildr5 manly ?\ghts & c\rage m ?an any?+4 ,= ! _m1 h[ev]1 to :om ^! e>ly advantages h n be5 giv51 :ile ! d[ry ( a quick e> & natural grace has enabl$ !m to pick up ?is social accompli%m5t1 a few h9ts may be ( use4 ,danc+ is really an art1 & "o t ! g5tleman especially %\ld und]/& 7s9ce he takes ! lead7 be=e he v5tures to ask a lady out ^u ! floor4 ,! g5tleman %\ld be v c>eful 9 ! mann] ( hold+ 8 p>tn]4 ,he %\ld give h] prop] support by putt+ 8 arm firmly ar\nd h]1 b n draw+ h] too close4 ,h] "r h& %\ld be held 9 8 left1 ! lady turn+ ! "r palm d[nw>d & almo/ /raight5+ h] "r arm4 ,! g5tleman %\ld b5d 8 left arm slightly backw>d4 ,! jo9$ h&s %\ld be held /eadily b kept away f ! g5tleman's body4 ,to re/ !m ^u 8 hip1 is actual vulg>ity4 ,! g5tleman's "r %\ld] & ! lady's left1 %\ld be kept z f> ap>t z ! o!r %\ld]s1 h5ce 8 "r elb[ mu/ n be too mu* b5t4 ,! upp] "p ( ! body %\ld be kept quiet1 & ! head held naturally1 n turn$ "o side1 :ile ! eyes are nei!r ?r[n up nor ca/ d[n 9 an affect$ /yle4 ,_! /eps %\ld be 9 h>mony & ! g5tleman mu/ be v c>eful n to p]mit a collision ) o!r c\ples4 ,at e slighte/ pause 9 ! dance ! g5tleman %\ld in/antly drop 8 arm f ! lady's wai/4 ,9 ^! int]vals x is prop] to fan h] if %e desire x1 & to ent] into *atty conv]sation4 ,g5tlem5 avoid all boi/]\s conduct 9 ! dance1 su* z sw++ a p>tn] too rapidly1 or lift+ h] too mu* f ! floor4 ,%e1 on h] "p1 %\ld dance lightly1 nev] p]mitt+ h] p>tn] to c>ry h] ar\nd1 b p]=m+ h] %>e well1 or n dance at all4 ,! ,mo/ ,desirable ,dances4 ,9 mak+ up a danc+ program1 quadrilles %\ld always f9d a place1 s9ce _m c walk ?r\gh its measures t w n und]take ! m active dances4 ,x also gives opportunity = ! graceful curtsy :i* no lady %\ld fail to le>n1 & c be enliv5$ ) conv]sation4 ,to ! allur+ r\nd dances1 polka1 s*ottis*e1 waltz1 etc41 !re are _m :o /rongly object1 b1 danc$ 9 private homes & 9 mo/ cases "u ! eye ( ! "y girl's "m1 !re c be f\nd no?+ dang]\sly objectionable 9 ?is favorite amusem5t4 ,! m9uet is a /ately1 beautiful old dance t is sometimes introduc$1 enabl+ bo? old & "y to jo9 9 its sl[ & graci\s measure4 ,new /eps1 new *anges & new dances1 ) ! te*nical features ( :i* x is n ! prov9ce ( ?is book to deal1 are cont9ually com+ into vogue ) ea* season4 ,a few words1 h[ev]1 ) reg>d to ! g5]al etiquette ( t ju/ly popul> dance1 ! ,g]man1 w be 9 place "h4 ,! ,g]man1 call$ ! ,cotillion 9 ,france & 9 ,g]many1 :]e x orig9at$1 is ! mo/ fasc9at+ dance 9 social use4 ,balls at :i* x is to appe>1 signify+ t fact 9 ! invitations s5t out are m elaborate 9 _! arrangem5ts1 & are held to a lat] h\r1 s9ce ! e>li] portion ( ! night is devot$ to waltz+ & o!r dances1 & ! ,g]man is n comm5c$ until aft] supp]4 ,_m leave be=e x beg9s1 especially ^? :o expect to make ! t\r ( sev]al balls & receptions dur+ ! night4 ,a second & hot supp] is usually s]v$ at its close1 to ^? :o p>ticipate 9 its measures4 ,be c]ta9 :5 ! ,g]man is to be introduc$ t a suffici5t numb] ( m5 are invit$ to make ! affair a success4 ,! lead] ( ! cotillion is *os5 by ! ho/ess1 & %\ld be ?or\ghly famili> ) all its figures1 new & old2 skill$ to comm&1 & prompt to br+ ord] out ( confusion2 at ! same "t en]getic & good temp]$4 ,z !re w always be "s 9 a ,g]man :o d n und]/& x1 ! lead] mu/ be ready to help !m out4 ,su* p>ties %\ld take _! places ne> ! end1 &1 9 ?is way1 w become famili> ) a figure be=e x is _! turn to dance4 ,no ,favorites to be ,all[$4 ,! lead] w also see t g5tlem5 d n neglect "s ladies = ! pleasure ( danc+ frequ5tly ) m favor$ p>tn]s4 ,9 ?is he %\ld be assi/$ by ! ho/ess1 & g5tlem5 %\ld nev] disreg>d h] quiet sugge/ion on ?is score4 ,aft] all1 ! ball-room is a m fitt+ field = a display ( ! ,*ri/ian graces ?an mo/ ,evangelical p are will+ to admit4 ,all ^? danc+ ! ,g]man mu/ consid] !mselves z introduc$1 & ea* lady or g5tleman is free to call up any p>ticipant = 8 or h] p>tn]4 ,9 fact x is desirable t !y %\ld d s1 s9ce by devot+ !mselves entirely to _! acqua9tance !re is dang] ( "s be+ deb>r$ f ! amusem5t4 ,= ^! reasons ! ,g]man is unsuit$ = a public ball1 & fitt$ only = a private h\se :]e ! invitation is expect$ to c]tify ! "* ( ! gue/4 ,v>i$ & beautiful are ! figures t may be adopt$1 b ! scope ( ?is book w n p]mit full in/ructions = its elaborate *anges4 ,"o sugge/ion1 h[ev]1 is 9 po9t2 d n *oose ^? romp+ figures :]e ! fun is liable to become too fa/ & furi\s = ball-room decorum4 ,! figures requir+ prop]ties1 su* z ribbons1 flags1 ,japanese lant]ns1 aprons1 mirrors1 etc41 %\ld h all ! necess>y articles c>efully provid$ be=eh&4 ,dur+ mo/ ( ! figures1 favors are di/ribut$2 fl[]s1 amus+ tr9kets1 or sometimes pretty little s\v5irs are giv54 ,rosettes1 sc>f p9s1 bangles1 t9y flags1 artificial butt]flies1 bon-bons 9 embroid]$ sat9 bags1 badges1 pa9t$ silk sa*ets1 etc41 are all appropriate4 ,t9y lant]ns fill$ ) p]fume1 & sometimes amus+ toys w add to ! fun ( ! occasion4 ,x is bett] ta/e to give simple articles ?an to resort to ! gifts ( great value t "s ho/esses h be/[$1 s9ce su* giv+ always sugge/s o/5tation4 ,fl[]s alone are sometimes us$ & x is n necess>y to make ! favors a s\rce ( undue exp5se4 ,regrets mu/ be s5t "o's ho/ess if unable to att5d a ,g]man1 t ! place may be fill$4 ,if a g5tleman invites a lady especially z 8 p>tn] = a ,g]man1 he %\ld s5d h] a b\quet & if "s un=ese5 occurr5ce %\ld prev5t 8 att5dance1 he mu/ at once s5d h] an explanatory regret to t effect4 ,private ,balls ,giv5 9 ,public4 ,_m ho/esses1 feel+ ! inadequacy ( _! p>lors to accommodate all ! gue/s t !y wi% to invite at "o "t1 )\t disagreeable ov]cr[d+1 h adopt$ ! cu/om ( giv+ _! l>ge ent]ta9m5ts at public assembly rooms4 ,?is cu/om1 :ile x frees ! ho/ess f mu* c>e1 mu/ also be deplor$ z depriv+ ! ga!r+ ( t home atmosph]e :i* is ev] a safegu>d4 ,! etiquette is ! same z t ( a private ball1 & aft] calls are dem&$ )9 ! same l5g? ( "t4 ,! decorations & arrangem5ts resemble closely z possible ^? ( a private h\se4 ,public ,balls4 ,mu* ( ! etiquette giv5 = ,private ,balls gov]ns ! conduct ( ^? att5d+ public ent]ta9m5ts ( ! same nature4 ,introductions1 h[ev]1 mu/ be s\ght be=e any att5tions are (f]$ a lady1 & !re is mu* m c>e ex]cis$ 9 grant+ !m ?an "u a private ro(4 ,g5tlem51 too1 use _! own pleasure 9 ! *oice ( p>tn]s1 n hav+ ! c\rtesy ( _! ho/ess to reg>d 9 ?is respect4 ,( c\rse1 ,milit>y1 ,*>ity & ,civic ,balls are "u ! *>ge ( tru/ees & committees1 :o n only take *>ge ( ! conv5i5ce ( ! gue/s1 b endeavor by all means )9 _! p[] to regulate ! social /&+ ( ^? obta9+ entre to ! assembly4 ,9 _m ( ! l>ge cities a bo>d ( lady patronesses add pre/ige & a c]ta9 home protection to ! successful c>ry+ out ( a public ball ( ! highe/ ord]4 ,x seems to supply ! protection ( a ho/ess to ! fte4 ,a "y girl1 ev5 if ! omission be excus$ at a private ball1 does n att5d a public affair ( ?is nature )\t a *ap]on4 ,late h\rs are m especially objectionable at public balls ?an at a private h\se4 ,"o1 or half-pa/1 %\ld f9d ! adieux made4 ,a "y lady1 9 refus+ to dance ) a g5tleman1 is n oblig$ to sit ! dance out z %e w\ld be at ! h\se ( a mutual fri5d4 ,%e may1 h[ev]1 if %e wi%1 d x 9 def]5ce to 8 feel+s4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,masqu]ade ,,assembly4 ,,masqu]ades4 ,a few words ) reg>d to masqu]ades w n be out ( place "h1 ) ! "o proviso add$ t !y ref] exclusively to private ent]ta9m5ts4 ,public ga!r+s ( ?is nature %\ld be %unn$ z que/ionable amusem5ts1 except+1 ( c\rse1 any case :]e1 f want ( room1 a lady may *oose to give ! ent]ta9m5t 9 "s public assembly-room in/ead ( h] own p>lors4 ,?is c\rse l5ds ! protection ( home to ! *>m ( its veil$ my/]ies4 ,a masqu]ade is an ent]ta9m5t giv+ mu* tr\ble to bo? ho/ess & gue/s4 ,elaborate decorations are necess>y 9 ! ball-room4 ,invitations = x %\ld be issu$ f ?ree weeks to a mon? 9 advance1 9 ord] to give ! gue/ "t to *oose & prep>e ! co/ume to be worn4 ,"s ho/esses give _! invitations = a fancy dress p>ty only1 omitt+ ! feature ( masks4 ,9 ?is !y may act _! own pleasure4 ,9 ev5t ( p]mitt+ masks !y mu/ be laid aside at supp] h\r4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,masqu]ade4 ,occasionally ! ho/ess arranges a co/ume s*eme = ! entire fte be=eh&1 signify+ to ea* gue/ ! "*1 hi/orical or imag9>y1 t x is h] pleasure he %all1 = ! "t be+1 p]sonify4 ,9 ?is way ! p]fection & beauty ( ! ball-room are assur$ be=eh&1 & repetitions ( "t-worn *>act]s prev5t$ f appe>+ ^u ! floor4 ,*oice ( ,co/umes4 ,aga91 ! ho/ess may cont5t h]self by select+ ! co/umes t %e wi%es a few p>ticul> fri5ds to don1 suffici5t 9 numb] to =m "o or m quadrilles to op5 ! ball4 ,ea* set mu/ be c>efully arrang$ z = in/ance1 a c\rt p>ty1 co/um$ aft] ! "t ( ,l\is ,,xiv4 ,a gr\p ( ,watteau ,%eph]ds & %eph]desses1 or a hunt+ p>ty g>b$ aft] any *os5 p]iod1 etc4 ,! rema9d] ( ! gue/s may be p]mitt$ to use _! own ta/e 9 ! selection ( co/umes4 ,a full dress rehe>sal ( ^! especially arrang$ quadrilles %\ld be held be=eh& to asc]ta9 ! mo/ satisfactory me?od ( gr\p+ ! *>act]s 9 ea* set4 ,invitations to an ent]ta9m5t ( ?is nature are issu$ l ^? = ord9>y balls1 add+ ,bal-masque or ,fancy ,dress ,ball1 d[n 9 ! left h& corn]4 ,:5 ! ent]ta9m5t is to be v elaborate ^! words are giv5 an entire l9e1 ext5d+ ?r\gh ! c5t] ( ! invitation4 ,occasionally ! words1 ,ord9>y ball dress p]mitt$1 f9d a place ^u ! c>d1 to ! relief ( ^? :o pref] to appe> 9 _! own prop] "*4 ,! ho/ & ho/ess 9 fancy dress1 assi/$ by daught]s or fri5ds1 all co/um$1 receive z 9 o!r balls1 & ! etiquette is 9 all ways simil>4 ,"s ladies1 & g5tlem5 also1 we> mask & dom9o ov] ! regulation p>ty dress1 remov+ ?is :5 ! o!rs unmask4 ,gue/s1 z f> z 9 !m lies1 %\ld seek = orig9ality 9 _! co/umes4 ,hi/orical & my?ological *>act]s1 p]sonification ( ! p[]s & attributes ( nature--z ice1 sn[1 />s1 planets1 etc4--are always suitable4 ,/&>d works ( fiction ^: *>act]s are famili> to all1 z well z ,"m ,goose & ,kate ,gre5away1 are always fruitful s\rces = *>act]s4 ,accurat5ess %\ld be s\ght aft] 9 c>ry+ ! co/umes out4 ,etiquette ( ,ball ,dress1 ,invitations1 etc41 may be f\nd 9 _! appropriate dep>tm5ts4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,social ,,*at4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,leisure ,,h\r ,,9 ,,! ,,p>k4 ,,soir,,es1 ,,musicales ,,& ,,lawn ,,p>ties4 ,illu/ration ,9 ,france almo/ any social ga!r+ t occurs 9 ! ev5+ is call$ a soire4 ,"h 9 ?is c\ntry ! t]m soire is appli$ to an ev5+ ent]ta9m5t t p>takes ( ! nature ( an ev5+ p>ty1 b is n q s elaborate & means e>li] h\rs bo? ( arrival & dep>ture4 ,soires1 z a rule1 (f] "s p>ticul> =m ( amusem5t1 su* z music1 danc+1 a read+2 an int]*ange ( bright ideas1 su* z a conv]sazione4 ,x means also pretty ev5+ dress1 n elaborate1 ball co/ume1 & a supp]4 ,x attracts g5tlem51 :o appreciate ! easy-go+1 e>ly-h\r$ soire4 ,t is1 g5tlem5 :o d n p>ticul>ly c>e = ! ball-room1 & x is "h we are sure to f9d wits & ! ari/ocracy ( intellect4 ,9 %ort1 ! v be/ elem5ts ( society are f\nd 9 ! elegant unpret5ti\s soire1 :]e ! intellig5t woman ( fa%ion has ! tact to welcome & make at home ! arti/1 ! au?or1 ! pr(essional man1 & ! man ( bus9ess4 ,! soire has /ill ano!r advantage3 a lady c give "o 9 a small h\se & ) v little exp5diture1 & if %e has ! gift ( ent]ta9+1 h] ga!r+ w always be s\ght aft]4 ,suitable ,dress4 ,wom51 z be=e m5tion$1 we> pretty ev5+ dress 7n ball co/ume71 & remove _! bonnets1 & 9 ?is way diff]+ f mat9es & f morn+ receptions1 at bo? ( :i* ent]ta9m5ts bonnets are worn4 ,m5 we> morn+ dress4 7,see ,dep>tm5t ( ,dress47 ,receiv+ ,gue/s4 ,= small ev5+ p>ties1 ! ho/ & ho/ess dur+ ! e>ly "p ( ! ev5+ rema9 ne> ! door to receive gue/s4 ,lat] !y mu/ m+le ) ! company to assi/ 9 ent]ta9+4 ,a late arrival1 h[ev]1 %\ld be not$1 ?\gh x is _! place to se>* out _! ho/ess & (f] ! greet+s ( ! ev5+4 ,z gue/s ent] ! room ! ho/ess %\ld advance a /ep to meet !m4 ,h] words ( greet+ %\ld be fir/ address$ to ! eld] ladies ( an incom+ gr\p1 !n ! "y ladies1 la/ly ! g5tlem54 ,! ho/ess %\ld be p]fectly at h] ease1 hav+ app>5tly no ?\ght beyond ! reception rooms4 ,! ,ent]ta9m5t4 ,:]e ! ent]ta9m5t is mix$1 a little music is appropriate1 a little danc+ & a little c>d-play+4 ,x is well to engage "s "o to play = ! danc+1 s9ce gue/s usually d n c>e to preside at ! in/rum5t4 ,a viol9 is a great addition4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! danc+ is an aft]?\ght1 any g5tleman :o is a good piani/ may (f] 8 s]vices to relieve any lady at ! in/rum5t4 ,! ho/ess %\ld see t conv]sation does n lag4 ,%e mu/ n int]rupt an ent]ta9+ tte--tte1 unless x la/ too long2 b1 if conv]sation langui% betwe5 a c\ple ?r[n toge!r1 %e %\ld br+ 9 a ?ird p]son1 or draw away "o1 :ile sub/itut+ ano!r4 ,invitations4 ,if invitations are issu$ a week or t5 days 9 advance1 ! ho/ess has a "r to expect t h] gue/s %\ld arrive on "t1 & c>efully attir$4 ,! =m ( ! invitation is simil> to an ,at ,home1 z3 ,,mrs4 ,,emmons ,,van ,,zant1 ,at ,home1 ,?ursday1 ,june sixte5?1 at eight o'clock4 #bjdj ,we/morel& ,/reet4 ,duty ( ,gue/s4 ,! ho/ess may ask h] gue/s to s+ or play2 b1 if !y refuse1 x is bad ta/e to urge !m4 ,! ho/ess1 if %e plays or s+s1 may favor ! gue/s ) a s+le selection aft] o!rs h be5 he>d4 ,x is well = amateurs to ma/] a few pieces t !y c r5d] )\t ! notes4 ,?is relieves "o ( t "t-worn excuse--,i hav5't my notes4 ,?is is also ! case ) ^? :o s+4 ,by ceas+ to urge p]=m]s1 ! company w be fre$ f mu* ( t repeat$1 coy refusal t only ne$s suffici5t coax+ to comply4 ,:5 a lady is ask$ to play or s+1 ! g5tleman ne>e/ h] %\ld at once escort h] to ! piano1 rema9+ ne> h] :ile %e plays1 & turn+ ! music1 if he be compet5t4 ,he w also take *>ge ( h] fan1 b\quet & gloves1 & :5 ! music is f9i%$1 he w aga9 (f] 8 arm = h] return to h] seat4 ,at ! same "t he w ?ank h] = ! pleasure %e has giv5 himself & ! company4 ,o!r gue/s1 toge!r ) ! ho/ess1 %\ld also express _! gratification4 ,nev] comm5t on ! quality ( ! in/rum5t4 ,nev] (f] to turn ! %eets ( in/rum5tal music unless famili> ) ! notes4 ,:5 any "o is play+ or s++1 let ! company pres]ve sil5ce1 & if !y %\ld conv]se1 let x be 9 ! l[e/ tones4 ,to int]rupt a p]=m] is ! wor/ possible ta/e4 ,in/rum5tal p]=m]s h z mu* "r to expect ! c\rtesy ( sil5ce z vocali/s4 ,! ho/ess has ! privilege ( indicat+1 to a noisy gr\p1 by a ge/ure1 h] desire = sil5ce4 ,^? :o w talk %\ld at lea/ )draw f ! imm$iate vic9ity ( ! in/rum5t4 ,if ask$ to play an accompanim5t1 d s1 n to display y\r own accompli%m5ts1 b s z to af=d ! be/ possible support = ! s+]4 ,,musicales4 ,a musicale1 or a musical reception1 is a difficult ent]ta9m5t4 ,a program mu/ be arrang$1 & suffici5t amateur p]=m]s secur$ to make a success ( ! affair4 ,h]e9 comes ! difficulty1 amateurs1 aft] a v unwill+ cons5t has be5 wrung f !m & _! "n & selection plac$ ^u ! program1 are s little to be dep5d$ ^u4 ,w\ld t !re c\ld be f\nd "s way ( oil+ ! ma*9]y at a musical ent]ta9m5t & ( soo?+ ! ruffl$ feel+s ( a ho/ess :5 ^? mo/ dep5d$ ^u to r5d] assi/ance )draw at ! la/ mom5t = "s vague reason4 ,:5 "o firmly refuses at ! fir/ to appe> ^u ! program1 no (f5ce c be tak51 b to )draw = any b ! mo/ urg5t reason is an actual brea* ( etiquette4 ,= ?is reason1 ^? ho/esses ^: purses are ( suffici5t l5g?1 are driv5 to employ pr(essional assi/ance ^u ^! occasions4 ,ano!r objection to amateur p]=m]s is ! semi-pr(essional jeal\sy exi/+ betwe5 !m z to prec$5ce on ! program4 ,p]=m]s %\ld arrive punctually1 & :ile ! ord] ( ! program %\ld be foll[$ z f> z possible1 no "o %\ld be (f5d$ at be+ ask$1 :5 x is necess>y to play or s+ out ( ! ord] agre$ ^u4 ,arrang+ ! ,program4 ,if ! musicale is to be entirely pr(essional1 mu* tr\ble w be sav$ by seek+ "s prom95t musician1 & ) him arrange ! program1 & lett+ him act = ! ho/ess 9 ! matt]4 ,a pr(essional arti/ %\ld n be kept beyond ! "t agre$ =1 nei!r %\ld he be urg$ to r5d] selections entirely diff]5t1 or l>gely 9 excess ( ^? arrang$ =4 ,! ho/ess %\ld express h] pleasure1 & may reque/ "s little favor4 ,applause is all[able1 b x mu/ be )9 limits4 ,a c\rte\s reception mu/ be accord$ to all p]=m]s by ^? :o desire _! tal5ts4 ,! ho/ess %\ld see t ! piano is c>efully tun$ & n key$ too high4 ,x is cu/om>y to comm5ce ) a piece ( in/rum5tal music1 foll[$ by solos1 duets1 qu>tets1 etc41 ) in/rum5tal music betwe54 ,a successful musicale c be held ) ! piano alone = music1 an accompani/1 & a t5or & soprano ( note1 b v (t5 a viol9 is add$1 & sometimes a m&ol9 or*e/ra & f\r or m s+]s v>y ! program4 ,pr(essional s+]s & musicians usually leave :5 _! numb]s are ov]1 9 ord] to protect _! ?roats f night air & ! /ra9 ( conv]s+4 ,gue/s %\ld arrive e>ly s t ! confusion ( entrance & tak+ seats w be ov] be=e ! music beg9s4 ,if late1 !y %\ld wait until ! numb] !n 9 progress is f9i%$ be=e tak+ _! places4 ,! s+ul> impression1 s common ev]y:]e1 t at all society ga!r+s x is mu* m g5teel to appe> late ^u ! sc5e ?an at ! "t appo9t$1 has less reason to ju/ify x :5 a musicale is ! ent]ta9m5t ?an at any o!r ent]ta9m5t or society ev5t1 except a d9n]4 ,music1 int]rupt$ by noise1 is a failure4 ,! c>ds ( invitation are aft] ?is fa%ion3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,*&os ,mill]1 ,at ,home1 ,?ursday1 ,june fif?1 at eight o'clock4 #be ,we/morel& ,/reet4 ,music4 ,! programs are usually writt5 in/ead ( pr9t$1 & are sometimes h&-pa9t$ & ribbon-b$eck$1 & aga9 !y are engrav$ on da9ty c>ds4 ,!y are frequ5tly enclos$ ) ! invitations4 ,if danc+ is includ$1 ?is is ! =mula3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,*&os ,mill]1 ,at ,home1 ,?ursday1 ,june fif?1 at eight o'clock4 #be ,we/morel& ,/reet4 ,music4 ,danc+ at elev54 ,if ! musicale is = aft]noon1 x p>takes ( ! nature ( ! mat9e4 ,bonnets are to be worn4 ,refre%m5ts are n necess>ily s]v$4 ,! aft]noon is (t5 select$ :5 not$ />s are to s+1 s9ce _! "t is tak5 up 9 ! ev5+4 ,! ev5+ musicale1 h[ev]1 is a m brilliant affair4 ,replies are to be s5t to ^! invitations1 s9ce = any ent]ta9m5t :5 all are to be seat$1 x is a conv5i5ce to "k ! numb] ( ! gue/s4 ,! draw+-room is cle>$ ( ! great] "p ( its furniture1 &1 if danc+ is to foll[1 ! c>pet is cov]$ ) canvas1 or remov$1 if !re is a h>d wood floor4 ,camp *airs are provid$ = ! gue/s4 ,arrangem5t ( ,p]=m]s & ,gue/s4 ,! seat+ arrangem5ts %\ld pres5t a cle> space = ! p]=m]s4 ,too close proximity is n conducive to tranquility on ! "p ( ! s+]1 & also spoils ! tone effect4 ,pr(essional s+]s insi/ ^u suffici5t space4 ,remove all ornam5ts ( breakable *9a & bric--brac f ! vic9ity ( ! piano1 :i* %\ld be b>e ( cov]1 & admit ( ! lid be+ easily rais$ & l[]$4 ,a b[l ( crack$ ice1 "s tumbl]s1 & a pretty jug ( wat] %\ld be plac$ ^u a table ne> ! piano4 ,good v5tilation %\ld be ensur$4 ,a read+ or recitation c be introduc$ into a musical program ) good effect1 & a long program %\ld be divid$ by a recess = conv]sation1 & to p]mit ^? to retire :o d n wi% to rema9 to ! end4 ,if danc+ foll[s1 ! camp *airs are remov$1 or plac$ :]e !y c be us$4 ,supp] is also s]v$ be=e ! danc+4 ,cig>s1 mat*es & a% trays are usually f\nd 9 ! libr>y by ! g5tlem51 or ! cig>s are plac$ 9 ! cloak room to be smok$ on ! j\rney home4 ,ei!r plan1 or _! omission altoge!r1 is em95tly prop]4 ,a day musicale calls = morn+ dress = m51 & a visit+ or walk+ toilet = wom54 ,an ev5+ affair1 ) danc+1 calls = ev5+ dress = bo?4 ,,lawn ,,p>ties4 ,a gre5 lawn1 a few trees1 a f9e day1 & some?+ to eat are really all ! absolute requirem5ts ( a g>d5 p>ty4 ,if true1 ?is places ! pleasant mode ( ent]ta9+ our fri5ds 9 ! p[] ( _m p ( mod]ate means4 ,9 remote c\ntry localities ^! p>ties are v delightful1 p>ticul>ly if city fri5ds are gue/s = ! ,summ]4 ,:5 prop]ly conduct$1 a g>d5 p>ty may be giv5 ) v little tr\ble1 & made v simple & in=mal1 b if desir$ may be made elaborate & c]emoni\s4 ,:5 only neighbors are to be ent]ta9$1 a ha/y invitation1 s z to be sure ( f9e wea!r1 may be s5t two or ?ree days 9 advance1 b :5 gue/s are expect$ f any di/ance x is cu/om>y to s5d invitations eight or t5 days 9 advance1 z suitable prep>ations mu/ be made4 ,^! invitations are usually engrav$ on h&some1 pla9 note pap]1 & may be 9 ?is =m3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,*>les ,leigh ,reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mrs4 ,morton's ,company on ,?ursday1 ! fif? ( ,augu/1 ,at ?ree o'clock4 ,g>d5 ,p>ty4 ,maple ,grove4 ,:5 gue/s are to come by rail x is well to s5d a c>d /at+ ! h\rs at :i* tra9s arrive & leave ! /ation4 ,!n if c>riages are to meet ! tra91 on a c>d enclos$ might be pr9t$3 ,c>riages w meet ! #c4cj tra9 f ,union ,depot4 ,a lady1 also1 may invite h] fri5ds to a g>d5 p>ty by s5d+ h] visit+ c>d ) ,t5nis or ,g>d5 ,p>ty writt5 9 ! l[] left h& corn]1 & day & h\r 9 ! l[] "r h& corn]1 or "u h] "n4 ,x is well sometimes to specify ! "t ( clos+4 ,at a g>d5 p>ty ! ho/ess receives h] gue/s on ! lawn1 or 9 ! g>d51 we>+ h] hat & gloves4 ,b gue/s %\ld always be invit$ to ! h\se to take (f _! wraps1 or arrange _! toilet if desir$4 ,( c\rse1 a maid s]vant %\ld be 9 ! dress+-room to att5d _! wants4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,naval ,,ball ,,on ,,%ipbo>d4 ,illu/ration3 ,,an ,,absorb+ ,,/ory4 ,! ?\ghtful ho/ess w take c>e to h ev]y?+ 9 read9ess = ! com=t & ent]ta9m5t ( ! company4 ,rugs %\ld be laid on ! grass = ! accommodation ( ^? n accu/om$ to /&+ on ! gr\nd1 & easy *airs provid$ = delicate or ag$ ladies :o may be pres5t1 s all may enjoy ! p>ty )\t fe> ( ! consequ5ce4 ,amusem5ts to be ,provid$4 ,mu* tact is requir$ to prop]ly ent]ta9 gue/s at a g>d5 p>ty1 & prev5t !m f w&]+ aimlessly ab\t ! gr\nds4 ,ample amusem5ts mu/1 !re=e1 be provid$4 ,! lawn t5nis gr\nd mu/ be 9 p]fect ord]1 croquet sets 9 read9ess1 ar*]y tools suppli$1 z well z arrangem5ts = all k9ds ( suitable games made4 ,music is a v delightful addition to ! pleasure ( su* an occasion1 & %\ld always be _h1 :5 practicable4 ,ladies we> hats or bonnets at a g>d5 p>ty1 & %\ld dress o!rwise appropriately4 ,if a pla91 in=mal affair1 ! dress %\ld be simple & becom+1 & if games l lawn t5nis or ar*]y are among ! amusem5ts1 light flannel dresses are suitable4 ,b if invit$ to a c]emoni\s lawn p>ty1 :]e /yle w prevail1 h&some ?\gh simple toilets are requir$4 ,picturesque co/umes may be made v effective on ! grass & "u ! trees1 & ladies ( ta/e h a f9e field = display+ x ^u su* occasions4 ,_m v fa%ionable p conduct ! g>d5 p>ty 9 ! /yle ( an aft]noon tea1 receiv+ & ent]ta9+ _! gue/s 9 ! op5 air until ready to s]ve refre%m5ts1 :5 all are invit$ to ! d9+-room to p>take ( !m4 ,?is mode is v conv5i5t & q pleasant1 ?\gh x dive/s ! occasion ( mu* ( ! novelty & *>m belong+ to x4 ,:5 ! refre%m5ts are to be s]v$ 9 ! g>d5 or lawn1 ( c\rse ! di%es mu/ all be cold1 & may consi/ ( salads1 pats1 press$ meats1 ,*>lottes1 jellies1 ices1 cakes1 lemonade & ic$ tea4 ,a cup ( hot tea %\ld always be 9 read9ess 9 ! kit*5 = ^? ladies desir+ x4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,lawn ,,p>ty4 ,s]vants %\ld be well tra9$ :5 9 att5dance to prev5t confusion4 ,di%es1 knives1 =ks & spoons %\ld be remov$ :5 us$1 & put 9 baskets or trays 9 read9ess = !m1 & a fre% supply br\ght to replace !m4 ,tables & ,refre%m5ts4 ,numb]s ( small tables1 ) pretty1 fancy cov]s1 & color$ napk9s1 %\ld be set ar\nd "u trees1 ne> f\nta9s & o!r suitable places1 ) camp-/ools = ! accommodation ( gue/s :5 p>tak+ ( refre%m5ts4 ,s]vants %\ld to be v c>eful 9 go+ f place to place ) di%es to be s]v$ nev] to spill or drop ! cont5ts on ladies' dresses4 ,g5tlem5 may help ! ladies1 if !y pref]1 & wait on !mselves1 requir+ ! s]vants only to remove ! di%es & repl5i% ! pit*]s ) lemonade1 milk or wat]4 ,fruits1 p9eapples1 /rawb]ries1 raspb]ries1 pea*es & grapes are s]v$ at g>d5 p>ties1 & %\ld be ( ! f9e/ quality4 ,ices are a v acceptable addition to an outdoor ent]ta9m5t1 be+ light & refre%+ = w>m wea!r2 !y are s]v$ 9 fancy pap] cups1 laid on ice plates4 ,= ladies desir+ to give g>d5 p>ties1 ! foll[+ bill ( f>e w be f\nd suffici5t3 ,cold ,rolls4 ,mix$ ,s&wi*es4 ,br[n ,bread4 ,pickl$ ,tongue4 ,pat de foie gras4 ,jelli$ ,*ick54 ,cold ,birds4 ,lob/] ,salad4 ,*>lotte ,russe4 ,biscuit4 ,glacs4 ,fancy ,cakes4 ,fruits4 ,lemonade4 ,ic$ ,tea4 ,/rawb]ry ,acid4 ,9 ,engl& ! refre%m5ts are always s]v$ 9 a m>quee 7l>ge t5t7 on ! lawn4 ,= su* outdoor ent]ta9m5ts foods t require little use ( knife & =k %\ld be *os52 s&wi*es %\ld nev] be made ( slic$ meats z !y are awkw>d to h&le4 ,cru/s %\ld be trimm$ (f1 & ! fill+ %r$d$ or grat$ to a pa/e1 & highly season$4 ,= ! same reason hot dr9ks %\ld be disp5s$ ) z f> z possible4 ,glasses are to be fill$ b two-?irds full4 ,none ( ^! precautions are necess>y :5 ! refre%m5ts are s]v$ indoors4 ,= ! out-(-doors fea/ a numb] ( small tables %\ld be provid$2 cov] ) fancy clo?s & on !m place piles ( plates alt]nat+ ) fold$ napk9s1 breadbaskets1 or trays heap$ ) s&wi*es & butt]$ tea biscuit1 baskets ( fancy cakes1 & pl5ty ( res]ve napk9s4 ,h "s ( ! assi/ants pass ^!1 beg9n+ ) ! plates1 & to ! maids]vants leave ! s]vice ( tea1 c(fee1 cream & sug> 7:5 ^! are giv57 & o!r dr9kables4 ,by ?is "t ! g5tlem5 :o fir/ assi/$ w h be5 s]v$ & ! maids c turn _! att5tion to ! ices4 ,ice cream c be s]v$ z above1 & ices 9 glass cups2 aft] ?is ! maids c ga!r up ! di%es 9 baskets4 ,a cat]] may be call$ ^u to furni% ! fea/1 9 :i* ev5t all tr\ble w be sp>$ ! ho/ess4 ,d n use ! be/ glass & *9a at ^! ent]ta9m5ts2 ! dang] ( breakage is too great4 ,at _m ga!r+s a special table is suppli$ = ! g5tlem51 :]e soda-wat]1 cl>et cup1 & sometimes w9es are s]v$4 ,! m5 help !mselves1 b a mans]vant is pres5t to supply fre% glasses1 etc4 ,?is table dep5ds entirely ^u ! pr9ciples ( ! ho/ess4 ,if no h\rs are m5tion$1 ! gue/s usually disp]se ab\t dusk1 unless danc+ is provid$ = ^? :o wi% to /ay & enjoy x4 ,seats4 ,! bus9ess ( provid+ seats is a comp>atively trifl+ affair :5 !re are to be "y p pres5t1 :o pref] clean turf or ! piazza /eps to any m luxuri\s l\ng+ place4 ,= ! old] gue/s1 less unconv5tional accommodations may be devis$4 ,light rock]s1 camp *airs1 wood5 or wick] settees are pretty1 & 9 h>mony ) ! ru/ic nature ( ! reception4 ,x is well1 also1 to h rugs or /rips ( c>pet laid ab\t1 = ! b5efit ( ^? :o dread ! dampness t "s imag9e rises f ! gr\nd ev5 9 ! mid/ ( ! mo/ ob/9ate dr\ght4 ,cu%ions are invaluable at su* times1 :e!r us$ z foot/ools = ! m delicate gue/s1 to s(t5 por* /eps1 or to conv]t /umps & grassy knolls into divans1 = ^? :o l l[ seats1 b yet h a due reg>d = _! bones or dresses4 ,a *>m+1 & ?or\ghly ru/ic /yle ( seat1 c be =m$ ( dry1 sweet hay4 ,toss$ up 9 g5]\s piles1 to make c\*es1 or heap$ aga9/ ! trunks ( trees to simulate arm *airs1 !y provide re/+ places t are n only luxuri\s1 b uncommon4 ,! co/lie/ uphol/]] c furni% no *airs or s(as m s(tly padd$ or m delici\sly p]fum$ ?an ^!4 ,) rugs or %awls ?r[n ov] !m1 to gu>d ! g>m5ts ( _! occupants f any possible injury f moi/ure or f cru%$ insects1 !y are all t ! mo/ fa/idi\s c\ld dem&4 ,hammocks1 also furni%$ ) cu%ions1 are always com=table & picturesque1 :ile scre5s are valuable additions to ! furniture ( ?is op5-air draw+-room4 ,cov]$ ) cretonne1 felt or pap] ( any %ape & size1 ^! are almo/ indisp5sable = %ield+ f draughts 9 breezy wea!r1 or %elt]+ f obtrusive sunlight on a sultry day4 ,lawn ,p>ties = ,*>ity4 ,9 case ( a *>itable object1 ! refre%m5ts are dispos$ ( at reasonable prices4 ,9 ?is case ! m5u %\ld be re/rict$ to a few articles4 ,b]ries1 ice cream & cake are frequ5tly suffici5t2 c(fee c be add$4 ,da9ty buttonhole b\quets %\ld also be provid$ & sold to ! g5tlem5 = prices 9 advance ( _! value4 ,aft]w>d1 ) ! piazza = a /age1 a little program ( music1 s++ & recitations c be c>ri$ out4 ,at any g>d5 p>ty1 music & s++ are 9 ord]1 & at v gr& affairs1 paid musicians ( note are engag$4 ,or*e/ras also are frequ5tly some:]e on ! gr\nds4 ,breakfa/s1 ,lun*eons & ,teas4 ,illu/ration ,a breakfa/ or a lun*eon is some:at less =mal ?an a d9n] &1 h5ce1 s mu* ! m delightful4 ,! breakfa/ p>ty includes bo? g5tlem5 & ladies :ile1 z a rule1 ! lun*eon is an ent]ta9m5t giv5 to ladies4 ,! invitations to a breakfa/ may be writt51 engrav$ or v]bal4 ,if a l>ge numb] ( gue/s are invit$ to meet "s di/+ui%$ /rang]1 engrav$ invitations are issu$4 ,five days or a week's notice is usually consid]$ suffici5t1 b if di/+ui%$ wits & s*ol>s are to be secur$1 x is well to give a long] p]iod1 s9ce _! "t1 always 9 dem&1 %\ld be bespok5 well 9 advance4 ,a reply to ! invitation is a necessity1 because ! ho/ess wi%es "t1 9 case ( non-acceptance1 to secure ano!r gue/4 ,:]e ! breakfa/ is less /ately 9 "*1 an in=mal note1 writt5 by ! ho/ess1 9 ! fir/ p]son1 is a pleasant me?od1 or simply writt5 on ! lady's visit+ c>ds "u ! "n 9 ?is =m3 ,breakfa/1 ,tuesday1 t5 o'clock1 ,febru>y fifte5?4 ,artificial light is out ( place1 & sun%9e %\ld flood ! ap>tm5t1 :ile a c]ta9 air9ess & da9t9ess %\ld p]vade ! table appo9tm5ts1 q ! opposite ( ! elaborate display t *>act]izes ! d9n] p>ty4 ,fl[]s %\ld =m ! decorations ( ! table4 ,breakfa/ p>ties are a v conv5i5t mode ( social ent]ta9m5t = ^? ^: limit$ means w n admit ( a m ext5sive display ( hospitality4 ,t5 o'clock is ! usual h\r1 ?\gh x may be z late z twelve1 ?us diff]+ f ! lun*eon1 :i* is nev] e>li] ?an "o4 ,breakfa/ p>ties are a favorite reunion ) lit]>y p1 :o g5]ally take ! morn+ h\rs = leisure1 leav+ bra9 "w until lat] 9 ! day4 ,sidney ,smi? said he lik$ breakfa/s1 because no man 0 conceit$ be=e "o o'clock 9 ! day4 ,9 s]v+ breakfa/ ! bill ( f>e1 unless = special occasions1 %\ld nev] be elaborate1 b r da9ty & attractive1 z ! appetite usually ne$s tempt+ at ?is e>ly h\r2 few] c\rses ( a m delicate v>iety %\ld be s]v$ ?an at o!r meals4 ,! ho/ess disp5ses ! c(fee1 tea & *ocolate f ! head ( ! table2 ! sub/antials are set 9 front ( ! ho/1 :o may help ! plates & h& !m to ! wait] to s]ve2 ! vegetables & o!r di%es may be h&$ f ! side table4 ,conc]n+ ! ,vi&s4 ,x is well-br$ to s]ve ! breakfa/ ) z little =mality z possible1 & ) z few att5dants2 "o s]vant1 a maid1 or man s]vant is suffici5t unless ! p>ty is unusually l>ge4 ,if grape-fruit be us$ = a fir/ c\rse1 or orange sk9s fill$ ) juice1 a wrea? ( smilax on ea* plate makes a pretty decoration4 ,a breakfa/ %\ld inv>iably beg9 ) fruit1 foll[$ by a c\rse ( eggs4 ,?is latt] is "o ( ! ess5tials1 & (f]s a great] v>iety ?an is p]haps kn[n outside ( ,france4 ,a ,spani% omelette1 if prop]ly made1 is a ?+ to be treasur$ among ! pleasures ( memory4 ,/uff$ eggs1 or h>d boil$ eggs cut 9 slices1 ) a be*amel or :ite sauce1 are appropriate & g5]ally lik$4 ,a fi% c\rse1 an entre1 "o meat1 a salad & a sweet c\rse %\ld foll[ next 9 ord]1 conclud+ ) c(fee4 ,! entre & ! meat may =m "o c\rse1 if a slice ( duck ) olives1 fri$ *ick5 or "s su* di% be select$4 ,ices ( all k9ds are entirely out ( place at a breakfa/4 ,an omelette s\ffle1 pea*es ) cream1 or be/ ( all a fruit salad1 are )9 ! proprieties4 ,?is la/ nev] fails to call =? en?usia/ic appreciation4 ,x is simply made1 & keeps p]fectly = two or ?ree days4 ,half a doz5 oranges %\ld be peel$1 leav+ no p>ticle ( ! :ite adh]+1 & !n cut 9 small pieces4 ,half a ripe p9eapple1 brok5 ) a =k into bits & sug>$ to ta/e1 & f\r bananas slic$1 are mix$ ) ! oranges1 & ! :ole put on ice = ?ree or f\r h\rs4 ,?is w be f\nd a di% rivall+ ! ambrosia ( high ,olympus4 ,) ! fir/ c\rse ( fruit1 f+]-b[ls are 9 read9ess1 b are remov$ at its close4 ,hot breads & breakfa/ cakes are always suitable1 & oatmeal1 c>efully cook$ & s]v$ ) ?ick cream & p[d]$ sug>1 (t5 foll[s ! fruit4 ,! clos+ c\rse %\ld be hot cakes s]v$ ) honey or maple syrup4 ,if !re are ladies pres5t1 or ! ho/ess presides1 ! c(fee1 *ocolate1 etc41 are p\r$ by h]1 & aft] ! fir/ c\rse %e asks ! gue/s :5 !y w h x s]v$4 ,! foll[+ w be f\nd an acceptable bill ( f>e = an ord9>y breakfa/ p>ty4 ,x c ( c\rse be v>i$ to suit ! conv5i5ce & ta/e ( h\sekeep]s4 ,bill ( ,f>e = ,breakfa/4 ,melons4 ,grapes4 ,oranges4 ,fri$ ,p]* ) ,sauce ,t>t>e4 ,"y ,*ick5s ) ,cream ,gravy4 ,s>atoga ,potatoes4 ,poa*$ ,eggs on ,toa/4 ,broil$ ,quails4 ,bak$ ,mu%rooms4 ,tomatoes or ,cel]y4 ,bread & ,butt]4 ,crack]s4 ,hot ,cakes4 ,c(fee4 ,tea4 ,*ocolate4 ,if a butl] s]ves at a breakfa/ he does n we> full dress z at a d9n]4 ,w$d+ ,breakfa/ ,m5u4 ,a m5u t w\ld be easy to prep>e = a w$d+ breakfa/ w\ld be two hot di%es consi/+ ( *ick5 croquettes1 lob/] cutlets1 oy/] patties or cream$ oy/]s4 ,ev]y?+ else might be cold & z foll[s3 salad1 ei!r *ick5 or lob/]1 pickl$ oy/]s1 a small w$d+ cake1 little cakes = ! bridemaids1 ,*>lotte russe & c(fee4 ,! table decorations %\ld ei!r be all :ite1 or ! colors us$ 9 ! bridemaids' co/umes4 ,let ! waitresses be dress$ 9 :ite4 ,illu/ration3 ,frances ,folsom ,clevel& ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,cotillion4 ,! simple/ co/ume is 9 good ta/e = breakfa/ p>ties4 ,m5 we> morn+ dress1 & ladies h&some b pla9 /reet co/umes4 ,gloves are remov$ be=e go+ to ! table4 ,bonnets are kept on4 ,ea* g5tleman is giv5 ! escort ( a lady4 ,! ho/ conducts ! lady :o is ! mo/ di/+ui%$ gue/ to ! table1 & ! ho/ess foll[s la/ ) ! g5tleman :om x is desir$ to honor p>ticul>ly4 ,^u ent]+ ! d9+-room ! ladies are assi/$ to _! seats1 & ! g5tlem5 !n foll[1 & ! meal is s]v$4 ,! signal = ris+ f ! table is giv5 by ! ho/ess1 ) a smile & simple b[1 & all proce$ to ! p>lor1 ex*ange a few pleasant rem>ks1 & take _! leave4 ,= in=mal breakfa/s no aft]-call is expect$1 b = c]emoni\s ent]ta9m5ts ( ?is k9d ! same obs]vance ( ! rules ( etiquette are requir$ z = d9n]s & l>ge p>ties4 ,gue/s %\ld n rema9 m ?an half an h\r aft] leav+ ! table1 & _m d n ev5 return to ! draw+-room4 ,a ,ba*elor ,breakfa/4 ,if a breakfa/ has be5 giv5 by a g5tleman to ladies & g5tlem51 ! lady :o *ap]ons x & presides z ho/ess1 receives all ! att5tions ( a lady 9 h] own home4 ,! ho/ calls ^u h] soon aft] ! ev5t1 & also calls ^u 8 lady gue/s4 ,g5tlem5 usually give _! breakfa/s at fa%ionable hotels or re/aurants4 ,a ,gold5-,rod ,breakfa/4 ,?is is a pretty c\ntry ent]ta9m5t4 ,x c be giv5 out ( doors "u wide-spread+ trees4 ,= ! "o 9 m9d1 great roots ( gold5-rod 7 dug up & transplant$ into j>d9ires 7/one j>s 9 ?is case7 & a h$ge ( ! nodd+ yell[ plumes plac$ all ab\t4 ,! c>pet 0 ( *eck]$ sun%9e & %ade1 & ! gre5 canopy ( ! leaves made ! sc5e a p]fect "o4 ,! gue/s1 arriv+ at t5 o'clock1 7 u%]$ into ! ru/ic breakfa/ room4 ,f\r tables 7 us$4 ,on "o pure :ite damask nap]y 0 enliv5$ by l[ baskets ( maid5hair f]n1 & sprays ( ! same delicate plant ti$ ) baby ribbon ( gre5 gave a cool look to ! :ole4 ,! l>ge/ table 0 respl5d5t ) cut glass vases fill$ ) gold5-rod4 ,:ite a/]s gave a h9t ( autumn's sn[ to ! ?ird table1 & ! +5uity ( ! ho/ess f\nd pleasure 9 decorat+ ! rema9+ "o ) ! delicate grasses & ri*-color$ small fruits ( autumn4 ,gold-b&$ *9a1 cut glass & silv]1 :i* _h be5 9 ! family = ?ree g5]ations1 supplem5t$ ! floral *>ms ( ! tables4 ,*oice ,bl5d+ ( ,colors4 ,autumn & yell[ 7 ! ma9 ideas :i* guid$ ! selection ( ! m5u = ?is gold5-rod breakfa/4 ,ev]y?+ possible 0 9 ! yell[ t9t or ri* gold5 br[n4 ,) pl5ty ( cream & fre% eggs & ! fre% fruits ( ! f>m to "w ) ! m5u 0 an easy "o to furni%4 ,ices s]v$ 9 ! %ape ( t9y melons & cakes decorat$ ) fro/$ sug>4 ,z a mem5to ( ! fea/ ea* gue/ reta9$ h] "n c>d :i* bore a spray ( press$ gold5-rod fa/5$ ) n>r[ yell[ ribbon1 & on x 9 gold5 script a v]se ) "s ?\ght sugge/$ by autumn or ! fl[]4 ,t9y g>d5 hats ( yell[ /raw1 fill$ ) gold5-rod1 accompani$ ! "n c>ds4 ,! gold5-rod 9 itself prov$ a v]itable gold m9e z a help to conv]sation4 ,discussions z to :e!r or n x %\ld be *os5 z ! national fl[]2 descriptions by travel]s ( :]e !y _h se5 x gr[+ be/1 bright quotations ( favorite au?ors lead+ to discussions ( poems or books by ^! au?ors1 anecdotes ( travel all foll[$ ea* o!r & naturally1 l$ by ! clev] ho/ess :o1 9 h] qua9t g[n ( yell[1 ) gold5-rod 9 h] belt & a spray tuck$ close to ! wide tortoise %ell comb :i* held h] gold5 hair1 look$ l ! p]sonification ( ! fl[] %e _h honor$ at h] breakfa/4 ,w9e at a breakfa/ is optional4 ,if us$1 two v>ieties are en\gh1 & %\ld be 9 keep+ ) ! pr9cipal di%es2 cl>et1 %]ry1 ,burgundy are suitable4 ,,lun*eons4 ,a lun*eon is usually an ent]ta9m5t giv5 by a woman to wom54 ,f :atev] cause1 lun*eon p>ties are rapidly ga9+ popul>ity among u4 ,macaulay wrote1 ,d9n] p>ties are m]e =malities1 b y invite a man to breakfa/ because y want to see him1 & ! same may apply to lun*eon p>ties = ladies1 ^! be+ almo/ exclusively _! affair4 ,invitations to small lun*eons are usually v in=mal1 & may be writt5 9 ! /yle ( a famili> note ( fri5d%ip2 or a visit+ c>d may be us$1 und]nea? ! "n ( :i* is simply writt53 ,lun*eon at "o o'clock1 ,?ursday1 ,janu>y eight4 ,! repa/ may be elaborately made up ( salads1 oy/]s1 small game1 *ocolate1 ices & a v>iety ( di%es :i* w de/roy ! appetite = d9n]1 or x may simply consi/ ( a cup ( tea or *ocolate1 ?9 slic$ bread & butt]1 *ip beef or cold tongue1 b !re is ! same opportunity to display good ta/e & a well-appo9t$ table z at a gr&] ent]ta9m5t4 ,ladies att5d =mal lun*eons 9 v elegant /reet or c>riage co/umes4 ,!y we> ri* & becom+ bonnets1 :i* !y d n take (f4 ,!y appe> ) gloves1 remov+ !m :5 seat$ at ! table4 ,! toilet ( ! ho/ess may be z elegant z %e wi%es1 any?+1 9 fact1 %ort ( an actual ev5+ co/ume4 ,lun*eons ( c]emony are sometimes giv5 9 honor ( di/+ui%$ gue/s1 or ^u special occasions1 in/ead ( d9n]s1 & may !n be v /yli% affairs4 ,fl[]s %\ld be arti/ically arrang$1 bo? = ! adornm5t ( ! p>lor & d9+-room & ! table m sumptu\s1 ?\gh always da9ty2 broil$ delicacies1 su* z d n require c>v+1 take ! place ( jo9ts1 & too ri* di%es1 ) salads1 oy/]s1 croquettes & ices2 b\illon is v g5]ally s]v$ at l>ge or small lun*es1 z is also *ocolate ) :ipp$ cream4 ,tea is n expect$ to be pres5t on ^! occasions4 ,c(fee1 s]v$ )\t cream aft] lun*eon 9 ! prettie/ little cups ! ho/ess c mu/]1 is g5]ally at h&4 ,! table may be decorat$ ) fl[]s & fruit z a c5t]piece1 ar\nd :i* %\ld be plac$ glass di%es ( fancy cakes1 & bon-bons4 ,at v =mal lun*eons ea* di% is s]v$ z a sep>ate c\rse4 ,in/ead ( c(fee be+ s]v$ 9 ! draw+-room1 z aft] d9n]1 ! ho/ess disp5ses x at ! lun*eon table4 ,! invitations to fa%ionable1 elaborate lun*eons %\ld be h&somely engrav$ aft] ! foll[+ /yle3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,rob]t ,b>ton ,ke5e ,reque/s ! pleasure ( ,mrs4 ,fr$]ick ,daniel's company at ,lun*eon1 ,friday1 ,may six?1 at half-pa/ "o o'clock4 #f ,portl& ,place4 ,! toilets ( ! ladies att5d+ %\ld be elegant1 & always appropriate to ! occasion4 ,! ho/ess usually leads ! way to ! table1 keep+ ! mo/ di/+ui%$ gue/ at h] "r1 ! o!rs foll[+ & seat+ !mselves z !y *oose4 ,gue/s are n expect$ to rema9 long] ?an half an h\r aft] !y return to ! p>lors4 ,calls are a polite ackn[l$gm5t aft] receiv+ hospitalities1 & %\ld be made )9 a few days aft] ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,if g5tlem5 are invit$1 & ! ma/] ( ! h\se is pres5t1 ! gue/s proce$ to ! d9+-room 9 ! same ord] z at a =mal d9n] p>ty4 ,if ! lun*eon is giv5 9 honor ( "s p>ticul> individual1 ?is fact %\ld appe> ^u ! invitation4 ,! foll[+ is a good =m3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,v9c5t ,reque/s ! pleasure ( y\r company at lun*eon1 ,on ,tuesday1 ,febru>y fif?1 ,to meet ,g5evieve ,gallat94 ,"o o'clock4 #ahjg ,*e/nut ,/reet4 ,! rooms are usually d>k5$ = an elaborate lun*eon1 & artificial light+ resort$ to4 ,wax c&les are ! mo/ pleas+1 _! radiance hav+ a s(t5+ effect4 ,n[adays !re are c&les 9 ! m>ket w>rant$ n to drip1 & made n :olly ( wax1 b ( "s composition :i* burns brilliantly & sl[ly4 ,!y av]age eight to ! p\nd1 & co/ some?+ l tw5ty-five or ?irty c5ts a p\nd4 ,no light is s satisfactory or s becom+ z c&lelight4 ,:5 ! great "q ( illum9ation & fl[]s is settl$1 !re rema9s "o m opportunity = individual ta/e1 = bon-bons1 salt$ almonds & olives may be dispos$ "h & !re 9 small di%es ( cut glass or silv]4 ,! usual h\r at :i* to take leave aft] lun*eon is ?ree o'clock1 &1 unless press$ to d s1 lun*eon gue/s %\ld n rema9 beyond ?is h\r1 ?us avoid+ any inconv5i5ce to a ho/ess 9 ! matt] ( h] aft]noon engagem5ts4 ,( c\rse1 ! h\r ( leav+ dep5ds on ! h\r at :i* ! lun*eon is giv54 ,lun*eon ,refre%m5ts4 ,! refre%m5ts mu/ n be heavy1 = ! reason t _m ( ! gue/s may be expect+ to att5d a d9n] or ev5+ p>ty t same day4 ,if a butl] s]ves at a lun*eon he does n we> full dress1 z at a d9n] p>ty4 ,only light w9es are (f]$ at a ladies' lun*eon1 & m frequ5tly none at all4 ,m9]al wat]s & pure wat] are suppli$4 ,ent]+ ! ,d9+-,room4 ,ladies :o are intimate ) ! ho/ess (t5 arrive half an h\r be=e ! "t set = ! lun*eon & *at ) ! ho/ess4 ,usually !re is no =mality 9 ent]+ ! d9+-room4 ,! ho/ess leads ! way ) ! honor$ gue/1 if !re be "o1 on h] "r4 ,! ladies g d[n toge!r1 talk+ z !y g4 ,if !re are g5tlem5 pres5t1 !y foll[4 ,once !re1 !y seat !mselves at r&om1 ) ! exception ( ! ho/ & ho/ess1 :o seat !mselves at ! head & foot ( ! table4 ,aga91 x may happ5 t ! gue/s1 :5 !y rea* ! table1 f9d "n c>ds at ea* plate to designate ! place to occupy4 ,^! (t5 are simple bits ( pa/ebo>d ) a gild$ edge :i* ! ho/ess buys & writes !reon h] gue/s' names4 ,?is is especially ! case if o!r favors are giv54 ,:]e ! lun*eon is v in=mal ! entire m5u frequ5tly consi/s ( cold di%es1 su* z bon$ turkey1 bon$ ham1 raw oy/]s1 salads ( all k9ds1 *ick5s1 fruits1 fruit salad1 ,bav>ian cream1 or o!r creams1 fancy cakes1 pat de foie gras1 etc4 ,! c(fee is hot4 ,let ! h& ( ! cat]] be kept z mu* z possible out ( lun*eon4 ,lun* or ,lun*eon4 ,!re has be5 mu* que/ion+ z to ! di/9ction betwe5 ! words lun* & lun*eon1 :i* are (t5 us$ int]*angeably4 ,! late/ & be/ def9ition w\ld be1 t a lun* is a meal to be p>tak5 ( in=mally by ! memb]s ( a h\sehold1 at midday or be=e go+ on "s pleasure excursion4 ,lun*eon1 on ! contr>y1 signifies a =m ( ent]ta9m5t giv5 aft] breakfa/ & be=e ! ev5+ d9n] h\r4 ,x is a meal ( complim5t & m frequ5tly ext5d$ to ladies alone4 ,! invitations giv5 = a lun*eon are issu$ on ! same pr9ciple z ^? = a breakfa/4 ,a "y p]=m]1 vocali/ or elocutioni/1 is (t5 introduc$ at a lun*eon4 ,lun*eon ,favors4 ,favors = a lun*eon may be v elegant1 or only simple & pretty4 ,a s+le rose laid at ea* plate is frequ5tly all t is giv54 ,"n c>ds are (t5 made to s]ve z s\v5irs4 ,a v new & pretty design = a "n c>d is made ( a pla9 :ite or cream squ>e envelope1 pa9t$ ) a da9ty design ( violets4 ,:]e ! "n is to be se51 an op5+ l t ( a picture frame is cut ?r\gh ! face ( ! envelope1 a l9e ( n>r[ gild+ f9i%+ ! edge4 ,! "n ( ! gue/ is writt5 on a pla9 c>d & put inside ! envelope s z to %[ ?r\gh ! op5+4 ,"s o!r small graceful fl[] 9 place ( ! violet is sometimes pa9t$ on x ) good effect2 & if "o color1 z yell[1 = in/ance1 pr$om9ates 9 ! table decoration1 a design ( jonquils or butt]cups is *os54 ,a c>dbo>d re/ is ti$ 9 at ! top ( ^! envelope c>ds by a n>r[ ribbon caught ?r\gh two little slits 9 ! envelope ov] ! "o 9 ! re/ itself4 ,!y are !n /ood ar\nd ! table l da9ty little picture frames1 :i* 9 reality !y are1 mak+ ! mo/ *>m+ s\v5irs :5 tak5 home & a small photograph sub/itut$ = ! c>d ) ! "n on x4 ,"s qua9t & pretty conceit is always s\ght aft] = favors4 ,too exp5sive articles sugge/ a desire = display4 ,pa9t$ sat9 bags or o!r fancy receptacles1 fill$ ) *oice confection]y1 are always acceptable1 especially at a ladies' lun*eon4 ,if ! sat9 bag c be turn$ into an op]a bag1 s mu* ! bett]4 ,t9y baskets1 pur*as$ = a trifle1 & metamorphos$ by means ( a little gold pa9t1 & a b[ ( ribbon on ! h&le1 into da9ty fl[]-hold]s1 are also pretty4 ,h&-pa9t$ book cov]s are suitable1 &1 aga91 fans are mu* admir$4 ,^? ( ,japanese /yle c be b\ght reasonably4 ,favors = g5tlem51 su* z fancy pocket p9cu%ions1 small co9 purses1 sc>fp9s1 sleeve-buttons1 etc41 are m useful ?an ladies' favors1 b n s ornam5tal on ! table4 ,a pair ( o>s1 arti/ically c>v$1 are appropriate = ! a?letic-m9d$4 ,silk h&k]*iefs ) initials are also prop]4 ,little silv] bonbonnires are nice = wom51 & silv] mat*boxes = m54 ,"s ,betro?al ,lun*eons4 ,! bride-elect ent]ta9s h] girl fri5ds at lun*eon1 & revives all ! old innoc5t sup]/itions to add m]rim5t & int]e/ to ! occasion1 notable among !m ! r+ bak$ 9 ! cake1 ! *ance recipi5t ( :i* w be fir/ to we> ! orange blossoms4 ,"o ( ! prettie/ ( ^! lun*eons 0 giv5 on occasion ( ! ann\ncem5t ( ! betro?al ( ! "y ho/ess1 & a v]itable fea/ ( roses 0 ! result4 ,z 0 prop]1 ev]y?+ 0 c\leur de rose--ev5 ! light 9 :i* ! gue/s saw ea* o!r %one ?r\gh da9ty c&le %ades =m$ :olly ( p9k silk rose petals4 ,! c5tral ep]gne1 hold+ a lusci\s mass ( bridemaids' roses1 0 laid on a circle ( filmy1 transp>5t bolt+ clo?1 ! edge ( :i* 0 embroid]$ ) a wrea? ( p9k roses ( natural size & v>i$ %ades4 ,ev5 ! salt 0 conta9$ 9 ! he>t ( a rose--t9y little porcela9 affairs--orig9ally int5d$ = c&le/icks1 b n[ appropriately us$ = ! symbol ( hospitality4 ,illu/ration3 ,,free ,,f ,,! ,,re/ra9ts ,,( ,,society4 ,illu/ration3 ,,out ,,= ,,heal?ful ,,ex]cise4 ,dresd5 cupids1 9 pretty & arti/ic poses1 held di%es fill$ ) c&i$ rose leaves & he>t-%ap$ cakes cov]$ ) p9k ic+4 ,a wrea? ( pap] roses surr\nd$ ! drop-light above ! table2 ! ladies' names 7 writt5 on rose-petals 7( c>dbo>d71 ! sorbet 0 9 ! =m ( p9k roses & flavor$ ) ! cordial p>fait am\r1 :ile ! ice cream repeat$ ! design1 & 0 s]v$ 9 a g>d5 hat ( /raw-color$ c&y wrea!d ) natural roses4 ,! human fl[]s ar\nd ! table aga9/ su* a backgr\nd ( sweetness & light made ! sc5e "o to be rememb]$4 ,blue & ,:ite ,tablew>e4 ,a contra/ to ! =ego+ 7:i* 01 p]haps1 r sugge/ive ( languors & luxury7 0 a da9ty1 prim little lun*eon1 :]e ! table decorations 7 all ( ! s(t delf1 blue & :ite4 ,! c5t]piece held bluets & m>gu]ites1 t c>ri$ "o's ?\ghts f> afield1 & br\ght memories ( fl[]-sc5t$ breezes & ( joys1 heal?ful1 pure & vivify+4 ,! s]vice 0 entirely ( blue & :ite delf *9a1 & ! qua9t c&elabra1 ( l mat]ial1 7 decorat$ ) crimp$ pap] c&le %ades repeat+ ! same colors4 ,"u ! di% hold+ ! fl[]s 0 a squ>e ( l95 embroid]$ 9 blue4 ,! design 0 an exact copy ( t on ! *9a4 ,! c&lelight m]ely illum9at$ ! little %ades & add$ to ! effectiv5ess ( ! decorations1 b its pale beams 7 lo/ 9 ! sun%9e t /ream$ into ! room & light$ up ! intellig5t faces ( ! wom5 ab\t ! table4 ,ea* gue/ read on ! rev]se side ( h] "n c>d a little rhym+ assurance ( h] welcome4 ,= in/ance3 ,if wi%es 7 di%es1 ,^! %\ld be s r>e1 ,y w\ld v[ t y nev] ,_h ta/$ su* f>e6 ,if wi%es 7 ri*es1 ,a fea/ %\ld be spread ,t w\ld tempt old ,lucullus ,to rise f ! dead4 ,b1 s9ce wi%+ is va91 ,take ! w = ! de$1 ,& ! w>me/ ( welcomes ,i (f] in/ead4 ,a ,dresd5 ,lun*eon4 ,a ,dresd5 lun*eon is a da9ty & fl[]y /yle ( ent]ta9m5t = spr+time1 t is consid]$ a m p]fect comb9ation ( ! exquisite & ! elegant ?an any arti/ic ga!r+ yet se54 ,! keynote is ! bl5d+ ev]y:]e ^u ! table ( ! delicate ,dresd5 *9a colors1 blue1 p9k1 yell[ & violet4 ,! f9e fl[]s se5 ^u ! royal *9a are scatt]$ 9 embroid]y ov] ! l95 c5t]piece2 on ?is /&s a ,dresd5 b[l hold+ an old-fa%ion$ nosegay ( p9k rosebuds1 ho?\se daisies ) _! yell[ c5t]s1 pansies & heliotrope4 ,^! are ti$ loosely toge!r ) a b[ ( blue ribbon1 :i* gives ! ne$$ t\* ( t color1 unless "o is able to get natural =get-me-nots or "s o!r f9e blue fl[]s1 l scillas4 ,a few airy & small] bun*es ( ! same fl[]s1 9 little cut-glass /&s1 are plac$ ab\t ! table4 ,! c&elabra h p9k rose %ades4 ,! f+]-b[l mats are embroid]$ to mat* ! ,dresd5 fl[] c5t]piece1 & float+ 9 ! wat] ( ! b[ls are ! diff]5t fl[]s--a few rose petals 9 "o1 a daisy 9 ano!r & a pansy 9 ano!r until ea* has "o4 ,e cup1 sauc]1 plate or di% us$ is ( ,dresd5 *9a1 ! great] ! v>iety ( _! %apes ! pretti]4 ,! ice cream is s]v$ 9 small sat9 cases1 9 ! diff]5t pale colors1 blue1 p9k1 violet & yell[4 ,:5 boxes 9 ^! colors _c be procur$ pla9 :ite is us$4 ,on ! top ( ea* is ti$ a little bun* ( sat9 fl[]s compos$ ( t9y p9k rosebuds1 blue =get-me-nots1 a daisy1 a bit ( heliotrope1 or a few violets4 ,at ! place ( ea* gue/ is a "n c>d1 done 9 ! ,dresd5 design4 ,! c>ds are made ( wat]-colors pap] & ! design pa9t$ 9 wat]-color4 ,! color ( ! pa9t$ ribbon b[s 9 ! designs giv5 v>ies 9 ! diff]5t c>ds 9 blue1 p9k1 yell[ & violet1 & :]e ! loop ends ext5d ov] ! edge !y are cut out1 mak+ ! ribbon look m reali/ic4 ,! sign ( all ,dresd5w>e f ! royal factories is ! t9y blue cross$ swords on ! rev]se or bottom ( ! di%1 )\t :i* no piece is g5u9e2 s on ! back ( ! c>ds "o mu/ be sure to pa9t ! sword sign 9 j ! "r %ade ( old blue1 ?us mak+ complete ! idea ( a v]itable fea/ ( royal ,dresd54 ,,conc]n+ ,,teas4 ,! di/9ction betwe5 five o'clock teas1 kettl$rums1 aft]noon receptions & high tea1 is n v cle>ly drawn4 ,/rictly speak+1 ! aft]noon or morn+ reception is ! mo/ =mal1 & has be5 dwelt ^u 9 a =m] *apt]4 ,high ,tea4 ,?is is really ! ev5+ supp]1 :i* has also be5 describ$ 9 detail1 al?\gh sometimes ! high tea is spread = an e>li] h\r ?an ! supp]1 say sev5 or eight o'clock4 ,! ladies come 9 visit+ co/ume1 & ! g5tlem5 9 morn+ dress 9 c\ntry t[ns4 ,9 cities1 sometimes1 dress coats & light g[ns are consid]$ ess5tial4 ,gue/s are expect$ to sp5d ! ev5+4 ,:]e !re are two rooms1 su* z d9+-room & p>lor1 or two p>lors1 ! tables c be laid 9 "o room1 :ile ! gue/s are assembl+ 9 ! o!r4 ,(t51 h[ev]1 ! ho/ess c comm& b "o l>ge room 9 :i* to ent]ta9 h] fri5ds4 ,9 ?is case1 ! little tables c be br\ght 9 by a s]vant & spread 9 ! pres5ce ( ! gue/s )\t ! lea/ brea* ( propriety4 ,aft] ! meal is ov]1 ! di%es are quickly c>ri$ out on trays & ! tables ei!r tak5 f ! room or left :]e !y /& = c>ds or any ( ! _m p5cil-&-pap] games t are pleasant at su* ga!r+s4 ,"o waitress1 if quick & deft1 c readily wait on a doz5 p1 especially if all ! necess>y articles = *ang+ ! c\rses1 plates1 silv]1 etc41 are arrang$ on a side table 9 ! room or outside ! door4 ,!re are _m attractive m5us t c be sugge/$ = teas1 b ! foll[+ seems to dem& z little home labor = satisfactory results z any o!r4 ,! ^w tea1 by ! way1 is some?+ ( a misnom]1 z at ^! ent]ta9m5ts ! bev]ages are almo/ inv>iably c(fee or *ocolate1 or bo?1 tea be+ left entirely out ( ! "q4 ,m5u4 ,b\illon4 ,bread4 ,crack]s4 ,cel]y4 ,pickl$ ,oy/]s4 ,*ick5 ,salad4 ,peanut ,s&wi*es4 ,olives4 ,salt$ ,almonds4 ,*ocolate4 ,c(fee4 ,ice ,cream4 ,fancy ,cakes4 ,fruit4 ,s]ve ! b\illon 9 cups1 & be sure t x is v hot4 ,h a ?9 slice ( lemon float+ on ! surface ( ea* cup4 ,pass crack]s 7! ,zephyr or ,sn[flake br&s are be/17 ) ?is1 & *oice blan*$ cel]y4 ,if ! tables are set be=e ! gue/s arrive1 x is well to h a c\ple ( %ort /alks ( cel]y laid at ea* plate & sp>e t am\nt ( wait+4 ,h ea* cup & sauc] set 9 a plate1 & take all ?ree pieces (f at once4 ,ei!r tea or c(fee cups may be us$1 & x is1 ( c\rse1 unnecess>y to h !m mat*4 ,! pickl$ oy/]s1 ) n too mu* liquor1 may ei!r be s]v$ on ! same plate ) ! salad or sep>ately4 ,glass or *9a di%es may hold ! salad & oy/]s4 ,=ks %\ld be us$ ) ?is c\rse4 ,! s&wi*es mu/ be neatly pil$ on fr+$ napk9s on bread plates1 & mu/ be pass$ sev]al times1 & ! olives & salt$ almonds may fill small glass di%es4 ,! olives may be help$ ) a =k or spoon or ) ! f+]s1 ! almonds may be s]v$ ) spoons4 ,! c(fee & *ocolate %\ld be p\r$ out at a side table1 & sug> & cream pass$ ) !m to ea* p]son4 ,! ice cream %\ld also be s]v$ (f ! table & pass$ 9 ! plate or sauc] f :i* x is to be eat54 ,! cakes %\ld be prettily arrang$ 9 a cake di% ) a doily "u !m4 ,! fruit %\ld be plac$ on a flat salv]1 z high pil$ di%es are apt to be top-heavy & difficult to pass4 ,oranges1 bananas1 grapes1 ! la/ cut into r small bun*es1 make a pretty array4 ,ea* gue/ mu/ be suppli$ ) a fruit plate1 doily1 f+]-b[l1 fruit-knife & =k or spoon4 ,s\v5irs are sometimes giv51 or attractive m5u c>ds are us$4 ,five ,o'clock ,teas1 or ,at ,homes4 ,"s ladies make x a po9t to be at home almo/ e day at a c]ta9 h\r1 & s]ve tea or c(fee 9 _! draw+-rooms1 accompani$ by ei!r waf]s1 macc>oons1 fancy cakes1 or small delicate s&wi*es1 & p]haps b\illon = mascul9e call]s4 ,su* a lady :o is bright & int]e/+1 :o gives a w>m welcome1 yet does n b9d any "o to a long] /ay ?an ! conv5tional t5 m9utes1 is sure ( draw+ ab\t h] a delightful circle ( acqua9tances1 m5 & wom5 alike be+ pleas$ to drop 9 on _! way home f ! city1 or f m pret5ti\s ga!r+s4 ,?is is ! aft]noon tea 9 its simple/ =m4 ,9 ,london aft]noon tea is univ]sal4 ,if y are call+ any:]e 9 ! latt] "p ( ! aft]noon1 tea & ?9 bread & butt] w be (f]$ y z a matt] ( c\rse1 or if x has already be5 h&$ r\nd1 y w be ask$ if y h _h y\r tea1 & if n a fre% supply w be imm$iately br\ght4 ,if bread is ?9 en\gh1 butt] fre%1 cake good1 & tea & c(fee p]fection1 y h provid$ all t is necess>y4 ,9 w>m wea!r ices or /rawb]ries c\ld be add$4 ,9 ,engl& y w v seldom be giv5 m ?an ?is at ! be/ h\ses1 & 9 ,italy1 :]e ! aft]noon receptions are ! mo/ agreeable ent]ta9m5ts imag9able1 y w nev] be (f]$ any?+ m ?an da9ty little cakes1 *ocolate & tea4 ,^! slight refre%m5ts are usually s]v$ 9 ! simple/ way4 ,! ho/ess h]self1 or if ! gue/s are num]\s a :ite-capp$ bonne or two1 p\rs out ! tea & *ocolate & ! m5 ( ! p>ty h& x to ! ladies4 ,(t5 ! *ildr5 ( ! h\se flit to & fro1 c>ry+ cups ( tea or plates ( cake1 & ev]ybody talks to ev]ybody else4 ,!re w be ! be/ pictures on ! walls or ! easels1 (t5 ! be/ music f p ! _w kn[s well1 & a reception ?us simple 9 po9t ( refre%m5t1 b ri* 9 ! pleasures ( art1 is a memorable delight4 ,/ill o!r ladies are at home on "s "o aft]noon 9 ea* week1 & ann\nce t fact on _! c>ds "u _! names z foll[s3 ,?ursdays 9 ,febru>y4 ,tea at ,f\r ,o'clock4 ,or1 if = a s+le occasion1 x may read ?us3 ,f\r ,o'clock ,tea4 ,tuesday1 ,febru>y ,fif?4 ,or1 ,,mrs4 ,,george ,,gre51 ,five ,o'clock ,tea4 ,tuesday1 ,janu>y ,fif?4 #dg ,sussex ,place4 ,or1 ,,mrs4 ,,george ,,gre54 ,?ursdays4 ,f\r to ,sev54 #dg ,sussex ,place4 ,! ye>1 or ,p4,m41 %\ld n appe> on ! c>d4 ,^! invitations require no answ]1 & no aft] calls1 s9ce really x is no?+ m ?an a gr& call+ day4 ,^? :o _c att5d1 call z soon z conv5i5t1 & ^? :o come leave c>ds 9 ! hall4 ,walk+ or c>riage co/umes are worn4 ,m5 we> morn+ dress4 ,! ho/ess dons a h&some reception g[n1 nev] an ev5+ dress4 ,! "y ladies :o assi/ h] are prettily clad 9 fabrics t suit ! season1 b :i* mu/ n sugge/ ball toilet4 ,! simple refre%m5ts s]v$ mu/ be ! v be/ ( _! k9d4 ,?is /yle ( aft]noon tea is suitable = city or suburban life4 ,! ,five ,o'clock ,tea ,table4 ,beg9n+ ) ! table itself1 x may be a small oval1 circul> or hexagon %ape4 ,any "o ( ^! is pref]able to a squ>e "o4 ,if ! surface ( ! table is highly poli%$ & x is pref]r$ n to cov] x entirely1 a h&some squ>e or r\nd c5t]piece doily1 :i* is only a d9n] c5t]piece1 is us$1 or a teaclo? a y>d squ>e may prettily & :olly veil x4 ,= ! actual furni%+ ( ! table !re are requir$ a tea caddy1 teapot1 a hot wat] kettle1 a cosy1 a waf] or crack] di%1 two or ?ree pretty cups & sauc]s1 cream jug & sug> b[l4 ,to measure ! tea ) a spoon is n consid]$ q s correct1 & s r$ol5t ( ! old-"t flavor z to use ! cup-cov] ( ! caddy1 "o fill to a brew4 ,a glass mat may be provid$ to set ! hot teapot ^u1 & ! spoons are laid loose ^u ! table4 ,cups %\ld hold m ?an an actual ?imbleful1 ?\gh !y ne$ n hold a p9t1 & %\ld be> "s relation to ! laws ( gravitation 9 _! poise ^u ! sauc]4 ,!y %\ld h a smoo? rim4 ,a flut$ edge is a mo/ uncom=table f9i% = a dr9k+ vessel4 ,! waf]-basket may be silv]1 *9a or cut glass4 ,= ! w9t] mon?s _m ho/esses h introduc$ a v>iety on ! m5u ( ! five o'clock tea table4 ,tea is a d\btful bev]age 9 _m h&s1 & is :olly abjur$ by _m wom5 z injuri\s to ! complexion1 h5ce a big1 egg-%ap$ urn1 b5ea? :i* a t9y alcohol jet burns1 is set up 9 ! corn] ( ! draw+-room4 ,! urn is fill$ ) *ick5 b\illon1 s]v$ pip+ hot 9 small silv] cups1 & ) an invigorat+ da% ( %]ry = ^? :o pref] x s4 ,) ! b\illon are s]v$ platt]s ( toa/$ wat] biscuit t h be5 sp>+ly butt]$ & lightly spr9kl$ ) salt4 ,sometimes1 9 place ( salt1 a p[d]+ ( *eese is grat$ ov] ! hot crack]1 & = a reli% at five o'clock no?+ c\ld be pref]able to ?is light1 w>m repa/4 ,m51 x is well to rem>k1 he>tily advocate ! *ange f insipid tea to ! invigorat+ hot b\illon4 ,pages4 ,! special innovation = ! b5efit ( wom5 are two draw+-room pages4 ,^! are small1 well-tra9$ little boys 9 buttons1 liv]y or done up 9 /ipp]s1 :ite l95 & turbans1 :o at int]vals ( fifte5 m9utes c>ry ab\t among ! call]s l>ge lacqu] trays1 on :i* are spread violets & rose leaves1 cry/alliz$ & salt$ nuts ) g+]4 ,"o is suppos$ to scoop up a few ( ! confections or nuts z ! pages pass4 ,receiv+ ,fri5ds4 ,^? fri5ds invit$ to p\r tea or *ocolate also come at ! h\r nam$1 & aft] remov+ _! wraps seat !mselves at _! p>ticul> tables1 or at _! end ( ! "o long table4 ,x is _! duty to disp5se1 besides ! cups t *e]1 words & smiles t *e] also to e "o :o comes1 no matt] :e!r !y "k !m or n4 ,usually !y c d mu* to make x lively = all 9 _! imm$iate vic9ity4 ,if ! aft]noon is a long "o & gue/s num]\s sev]al ( ! receiv+ p>ty volunte] to relieve ^? at ! urns1 & !y sp5d an h\r pleasantly ab\t ! rooms & beside ! ho/ess4 ,^! are ! k9dly ?+s expect$ ( a woman :o accepts an invitation to receive1 & :5 %e has done !m gracefully & prettily %e is a social si/] ( m]cy4 ,if ! numb] ( gue/s is small ! ho/ess h]self frequ5tly s]ves1 ) p]haps h] daught] or "s fri5d1 to assi/4 ,! ,eatables4 ,! tea1 ) its pretty equipage1 is plac$ on ! table by h] side2 sometimes *ocolate is provid$1 & occasionally a cry/al pit*] ( milk = any :o may desire x4 ,"s v ?9 s&wi*es 7roll$ ones are bett]71 a silv] basket ( sweet biscuit & "o ( mix$ fancy cakes1 =m an all-suffici5t m5u4 ,a small clu/] ( fl[]s 9 a sl5d] vase & ! table is complete4 ,fri5ds greet "o ano!r1 dr9k a social cup ( tea1 *at a little1 & t is all4 ,=mal leave-tak+ is n expect$4 ,slic$ lemon %\ld be at h& = any :o pref] ! creamless1 sug>less ,russian tea ) a slice ( lemon float+ on its amb] tide4 ,"s ladies invite sev]al "y girls to help s]ve & ent]ta91 &1 9 ! eyes ( ! mascul9e half ( creation1 ?is adds greatly to ! beauty ( ! picture2 = ev] s9ce tea became fam\s 9 our society1 m5 h f\nd mu* to admire 9 a girl :o c s]ve x gracefully4 ,a kettl$rum & an elaborate five o'clock tea are precisely ! same =m ( ent]ta9m5t4 ,! t]m kettl$rum is n v frequ5tly us$4 ,"s ( ! gue/s at at homes h s little judgm5t 9 ! matt] ( dep>ture t exp]i5ce nev] s]ves !m 9 good /ead4 ,!y are n]v\s & vacillat+ :5 !y %\ld be nei!r2 !y l+] & "k n h[ to get !mselves gracefully away1 & usually succe$ 9 mak+ an abrupt exit4 ,!y "k ! "r mom5t at :i* to leave1 b fail to put ?is k into practice4 ,almo/ ?9k x is "t to g n[1 or ,i wond] :e!r ,i ought to say good-bye or wait until "s "o else comes 94 ,! regulation conv5tional "t = a call on an at home day is ab\t tw5ty m9utes1 b ?is c be l5g!n$ out to half an h\r or =ty m9utes1 circum/ances be+ favorable1 or %ort5$ to t5 m9utes :5 ! position is di/9ctly unfavorable to a long] /ay4 ,br++ ,out a ,dbutante4 ,! br++ out ( a dbutante at an aft]noon tea has become1 because ( its simplicity1 a favorite me?od4 ,x af=ds opportunity to invite a numb] ( "y rosebuds to clu/] ab\t h]1 & x does n subject ! bud to ! ordeal ( a c]emoni\s1 or l>ge1 ball4 ,! dbutante's "n w be engrav$ bel[ t ( h] "m1 on at ,at ,home c>d4 ,if %e be ! elde/ daught]1 h] "n is writt5 ,,miss ,,mann+4 ,if %e h eld] si/]s1 x is ,,miss ,,amy ,,may ,,mann+4 ,no answ] is expect$ to ^! c>ds1 b ea* recipi5t w note ! especial significance ( ! occasion by leav+ c>ds 9 ! hall = h] z well z h] "m1 &1 if ! invitation be n accept$1 !y w s5d or leave c>ds )9 a few days1 = bo? h] & h] "m4 ,an elaborate aft]noon tea is (t5 giv5 9 honor ( "s /rang]1 :5 ! c>ds w read z foll[s3 ,,mrs4 ,,james ,,ladd1 ,at ,home1 ,tuesday1 ,m>* ,t5?1 f ,f\r until ,sev5 o'clock1 to meet ,,mrs4 ,,gordon ,,b5net4 #e ,s\? ,fiftie? /reet4 ,?is w\ld indicate a daytime1 b n usually a day-light$ assembly1 & means fl[]s1 gaslight & music2 elaborate co/umes z may be )\t infr++ on actual ev5+ dress1 & refre%m5ts1 all too abundant = ^? :o expect a d9n] to foll[4 ,ladies leave out] wraps 9 hall1 or dress+-room1 b d n remove _! bonnets4 ,g5tlem5 :o expect to sp5d b a few mom5ts1 c>ry _! hats ) !m into ! draw+-room4 ,! table is made attractive ) beautiful l951 *9a1 & silv]1 & salads & oy/]s1 ices & cake turn ?is ent]ta9m5t f a simple aft]noon tea into a high tea4 ,! tea-room is nev] des]t$1 &1 al?\gh s]vants are 9 att5dance1 !re are "y girls to p\r ! tea & add ! *>m ( _! pres5ce to ! h\r4 ,danc+ ev5 is sugge/$ by ! en*ant+ waltz music t floats f "s hidd5 nook1 & a ho/ess ) a suffici5tly spaci\s home (t5 provides a room = ?is amusem5t1 g5tlem5 & ladies :o wi% to p>ticipate1 dispos+ ( _! wraps 9 ! dress+-room4 ,g5tlem5 ,visitors4 ,^! occasions usually capture m m5 ?an any o!r daytime ga!r+4 ,!y att5d 9 ,pr9ce ,alb]t 7frock7 coat1 neat sc>f1 faultless gloves1 p]fect-fitt+ %oes1 & unexceptionable hat4 ,!y ne$ n rema9 long1 !y ne$ n talk mu*1 & !y are sure to f9d "s few t !y recognize2 & besides1 9 ! be/ society1 ! !ory ( non-introduction gives ea* p]son ! privilege ( conv]s+ ) anyone pres5t4 ,yet1 ho/esses :o are /rong 9 _! social positions are n afraid to introduce p :o meet "u _! ro(1 or to express pleasure t y took ! "t to call4 ,su* a ho/ess bright5s & w>ms ! atmosph]e1 & ! busy1 tir$ man1 :o does n usually enjoy su* affairs1 w enjoy com+ to h] h\se & w come aga94 ,h[ to ,leave4 ,:5 ! draw+-room is cr[d$ x is possible to leave )\t say+ adieu to ! ho/ess1 & good =m does n necessitate ! ho/ess to ask anyone to call aga94 ,an ,aft]noon ,tea-,sauc]4 ,a conv5i5ce t any victim ( ! aft]noon tea w appreciate is a tray or elongat$ sauc]1 oval 9 %ape4 ,at "o end is a re/ made ( gold wire1 9 :i* ! cup /&s4 ,! o!r is q l>ge en\gh to all[ ( s]v+ s&wi*es1 biscuit1 or ev5 a bit ( salad )\t burd5+ ! gue/ ) a second object to hold4 ,! cup /&s firm 9 its place4 ,n ev5 ! jo/l+ common 9 a cr[d$ room w displace x or endang] t breakage :i* s (t5 foll[s a cru%4 ,! tray is easily held 9 "o h&1 & ! o!r is free to h&le =k or spoon )\t inconv5i5ce ( ! smalle/ sort4 ,pretty teapots = ! five o'clock tea table are ( rosewood 9 a p9ki% br[n & 9 ! usual olive color+4 ,! h&les ( ! lids are butt]flies1 & a butt]fly is on ! h&le us$ = p\r+4 ,"s ( ^! elegant little pots are ov]laid ) a trac]y ( silv]4 ,teapots int5d$ = ,ea/] favors are ( br[n porcela9 9 ! =m ( a *ick5 ) ! m\? do+ duty = ! sp\t4 ,p9k & ,blue ,teas4 ,^! h be5 a great fad1 & :ile n q s popul>1 are pretty en\gh to des]ve m5tion4 ,a table is too (t5 confus$ 9 its arrangem5t ( color on acc\nt ( its *anges ( c\rses4 ,?is c be entirely done away ) by adopt+ "s simple color s*eme4 ,a lun*eon1 or tea1 is easi] to s]ve 9 ?is fa%ion because ( its simpl] m5u4 ,amb] & :ite w h>monize ) cel]y1 salads1 ices & o!r articles ne$$ at a lun*eon4 ,! yell[i% :ite1 full ( sunlight1 h>monizes ) amb] & c be foll[$ up to deepe/ bronze4 ,amb] glasses1 creamy damask1 all ! t9ts f :ite to bronze1 c be us$ 9 ! di%es4 ,apricots heap$ on amb] di%es1 ices t9t$ 9 h>mony1 & a great mass ( :ite roses = a c5t] ornam5t1 are appropriate4 ,ano!r beautiful effect is to d away ) ! clo? & let ! poli%$ wood ( ! table set ! keynote ( color4 ,an oak table1 ) its ri* yell[s & br[ns & its lurk+ sugge/ions ( gre51 w\ld af=d a color s*eme ) :i* all %ades ( amb]1 bronze & yell[ w\ld bl5d4 ,bon ,silne or ,malmaison roses w\ld also be 9 h>mony ) ! o!r decorations4 ,miscellane\s ,ent]ta9m5ts4 ,illu/ration ,c(fees are s exactly l teas1 ) ! exception t c(fee is ! reign+ bev]age1 t ext5d$ description is unnecess>y4 ,! invitations are precisely ! same z = teas1 simply sub/itut+ ! ^w1 ,c(fee1 or ,kaffee ,klats* 9 ! corn] ( ! c>d in/ead ( ,tea4 ,! ,g]man t]m1 ,kaffee ,klats*1 is frequ5tly us$4 ,?is1 lit]ally translat$1 w\ld be ,c(fee ,*at or ,gossip4 ,! ent]ta9m5t is ( ,g]man orig91 & 0 adopt$ to fit ! fiction t ! /rong] sex1 ( :om ! lat5ess ( ! h\r captures _m a will+ or unwill+ victim1 d n revel 9 tea4 ,*ocolataire4 ,?is is r a new ent]ta9m5t4 ,its novelty lies 9 ! fact t ! bev]age s]v$ is *ocolate1 & t *ocolate ent]s into all ! refre%m5ts s]v$1 su* z *ocolate waf]s1 etc4 ,a *ocolate lemonade w be a nice addition 9 hot wea!r1 *ocolate bon-bons be+ pass$ 9 da9ty silv] bon-bon baskets4 ,! c>ds are ! same z = ,teas & ,c(fees1 simply sub/itut+ ! ^w ,*ocolataire or ,*ocolate 9 ! left h& corn]4 ,if ?is is us$1 z x sometimes is1 = a *ur* or *>itable ent]ta9m5t1 c>ds are n issu$1 b x is simply ann\nc$ ?r\gh ! usual *annels z a ,*ocolataire1 & num]\s o!r refre%m5ts all conta9+ *ocolate 9 "s =m c be disp5s$1 *ocolate ice cream1 *ocolate cake1 etc4 ,!at] p>ties may be made into v elaborate ent]ta9m5ts1 or !y may be simple & quietly arrang$4 ,ladies & families (t5 give ^! p>ties z an easy me?od ( repay+ _! social debts4 ,b ! !at] p>ty is ! ent]ta9m5t1 p> excell5ce1 de> to ba*elor ho/s1 especially ^? :o h no homes ( _! own to :i* !y may invite gue/s1 & wi% to return "s ( ! _m c\rte\s hospitalities ( :i* !y h be5 ! recipi5ts4 ,9 "o ( ^! elaborate affairs ! ho/ fir/ secures "s popul> lady to *ap]on ! p>ty4 ,!n he calls ^u 8 flori/1 makes arrangem5ts ) "s fam\s re/aurant & pays a visit to ! box-(fice ( "s !at] :]e a new play is to be br\ght out 9 t5 days or two weeks4 ,invitations = ,!at] ,p>ties4 ,he !n gives ! invitations 9 p]son to ! select$ numb] ( 8 lady fri5ds1 n less ?an six1 n m ?an fifte51 expla9+ to ! mo!rs :o w *ap]on ! p>ty & :at g5tlem5 he has invit$4 ,^! mu/ numb] ! same z 8 lady gue/s & w h be5 *os5 f among ! mo/ eligible ( 8 fri5ds4 ,! r5dezv\s w be at ! re/aurant :]e d9n] w be s]v$ at six o'clock4 ,! "y ladies att5d$ by fa!r1 bro!r or a maid1 come 9 c>riages & ! coa*man is told at :at h\r to return4 ,?is is usually half pa/ twelve or "o o'clock4 ,! d9n] w be s]v$ 9 a sumptu\sly decorat$1 private d9+-room1 & by eight o'clock ! p>ty are en r\te 9 c>riages = ! play4 ,ea* lady is fir/ suppli$ ) exquisite corsage & h& b\quets by an att5tive maid4 ,boxes are engag$ at ! !at]1 or 9 case ( l>ge p>ties1 ! front r[ ( ! balcony4 ,programs pr9t$ on sc5t$ sat9 are frequ5tly plac$ 9 front ( ea* *air & s]ve z s\v5irs ( ! occasion4 ,:5 ! play is ov] ! p>ty returns 9 c>riages to ! same re/aurant :]e an elegant supp] is laid4 ,frequ5tly ea* lady f9ds co/ly s\v5irs at h] plate4 ,ea* g5tleman acts z escort ?r\gh ! ev5+ to :atev] lady he has be5 assign$ by ! ho/4 ,at ! appo9t$ h\r c>riages call = ! ladies & ! g5tlem5 escort !m !reto4 ,if "s male relative come1 he does n accompany h] home1 b if x is ! maid only1 he is expect$ s to d4 ,! "y ladies & g5tlem5 mu/ call ^u ! *ap]on )9 a few days & ! ho/ calls ^u ! mo!rs to express ?anks = ! pleasure ( ! daught]'s att5dance4 ,! m5 invit$ mu/ ea* call )9 ?ree days ^u ! especial lady to :om !y devot$ _! "t dur+ ! ev5+1 or if ?is is impossible1 leave a c>d4 ,a simpl] =m ( ?is ent]ta9m5t is :]e ! ho/ calls ^u ea* propos$ gue/1 & if ! invitation is accept$1 leaves two entrance tickets1 & "o = "s male relative :o mu/ accompany h]4 ,! p>ty meet 9 ! box1 :]e ! ho/ & a lady *ap]on greet !m4 ,aft] ! !at] supp] is s]v$ at "s fa%ionable resort1 or p]haps at ! home ( "s fri5d1 :]e danc+ occasionally foll[s ! supp]4 ,aft] calls are expect$4 ,^! p>ties are sometimes giv5 by a lady1 :5 ! invitations are s5t by in=mal notes 9 h] own "n1 & a six o'clock d9n] laid 9 h] own home prec$es ! op]a4 ,aft] ! ent]ta9m5t ! gue/s return 9 c>riages to ! h\se :]e a little supp] is s]v$1 & p]haps "s danc+ v>ies ! program4 ,occasionally ?is ent]ta9m5t takes ! =m ( a mat9e p>ty ( ladies only1 :o adj\rn at its close to ! ho/ess's home = a supp]4 ,dress = ! ,op]a4 ,:5 a g5tleman invites a lady to ! op]a1 he %\ld tell h] :at "p ( ! h\se !y are to occupy4 ,if x is a box %e mu/ at lea/ we> a light op]a cloak1 ev5 if %e does n array h]self 9 full ev5+ dress4 ,h[ev]1 ev5+ toilet1 no bonnet & beautifully dress$ hair1 are ! correct ?+4 ,at an op]a mat9e1 elegant visit+ dress & da9ty bonnets are always worn4 ,if a g5tleman is to escort a lady to ! op]a 9 any ( ! public conveyances %e mu/ we> /reet toilet4 ,picnic ,p>ties4 ,picnics & excursions are delightful summ] ent]ta9m5ts4 ,b x is ess5tial t :oev] goes on a picnic %\ld possess ! p[] to f9d s]mons 9 /ones1 books 9 ! runn+ brooks1 & good 9 ev]y?+2 "k h[ to dress1 "k :]e to g1 & above all1 "k :at to c>ry to eat4 ,a v great v>iety ( food %\ld be avoid$1 also s(t pudd+s & creamy mixtures ( any sort1 :i* p]si/5tly leak out4 ,pla91 sub/antial food1 simple & well-cook$1 %\ld ev] be *os51 ) a few sweet & simple da9ties to top (f )4 ,?is c be divid$ up among ! p>ty by ! "o :o is mo/ executive1 ) ! ladies to furni% ! sub/antials & ! g5tlem5 ! bev]ages4 ,! m5 assume ! exp5ses ( ! boats or o!r conveyances4 ,p>aff9e pap] is indisp5sable 9 wrapp+ up ! vi&s1 :i* are mu* m wisely c>ri$ 9 boxes1 ?an baskets1 z ! =m] c be ?r[n away1 & ! few] ! burd5s on ! home-com+ ! bett]4 ,a rubb] coat or mack9to% is also a necessity1 = no matt] h[ w>m ! day1 !re is a risk ( sitt+ out 9 ! woods on ! b>e gr\nd4 ,?is c be easily manag$ 9 a %awl /rap4 ,x is be/ n to c>ry a tableclo?1 b if some?+ is pref]r$ to spread ^u ! gr\nd1 a /rip ( enamel$ clo? is ! mo/ satisfactory ?+1 & :atev] is spill$ ^u x c be easily clean$ (f4 ,japanese napk9s take ! place ( l951 & wood5 plates1 :i* c be ?r[n away1 are mo/ desirable1 l ^? :i* ! bak]s use = pies4 ,!re are sev]al important items :i* mu/ n be =gott51 & among !m are h&-t[els & soap1 combs1 h&-mirror1 ?read1 ne$le & ?imble1 a corkscrew & a c op5]4 ,:at to ,eat4 ,!re %\ld be a cle> und]/&+ at ! outset :at eatables ea* "o is to br+4 ,"o girl may promise to furni% a c]ta9 proportion ( ! rolls or s&wi*es1 & ano!r1 "p ( ! cake4 ,o!rs may promise cold or pott$ meats1 s>d9es1 /uff$ eggs1 ,s>atoga potatoes1 olives1 pickles1 fruit1 lemonade & cold c(fee4 ,salad may easily be c>ri$ if ! lettuce & *ick5 or lob/] are arrang$ 9 a di% set 9 a basket1 & ! dress+ conta9$ 9 a wide-m\!d bottle or pickle j>4 ,! be/ way to transport lemonade1 if fre% wat] c be readily procur$ at ! picnic gr\nds1 is to take ! lemon juice & sug> 9 a j>1 add+ ! wat] aft] ! p>ty rea* _! de/9ation4 ,apoll9>is wat] is excell5t = lemonade4 ,! c(fee & milk %\ld h be5 put toge!r be=e leav+ home1 b ! sug> is c>ri$ sep>ately4 ,tongue & ,s&wi*es4 ,to beg9 ) ! sub/antials1 a cold roa/1 a boil$ tongue1 devil$ eggs1 are simple & ta/y4 ,! roa/ may be slic$ (f be=e go+1 & c>efully wrapp$ up1 b ! tongue %\ld be c>ri$ :ole & cut up :5 requir$1 or x is apt to become dry4 ,! eggs are easily prep>$1 be+ h>d boil$1 cut l5g?wise1 ! yolks tak5 out1 mix$ 9 a b[l ) pepp]1 salt & mu/>d1 & a few drops ( ,worce/] & put back aga9 9 ! :ites4 ,diff]5t k9ds ( s&wi*es may be s]v$4 ,= "o "t !re may be f+]-rolls1 split1 ! inside holl[$ out & fill$ ) *opp$ *ick5 or tongue1 & ! two sides ti$ toge!r ) ! n>r[e/ ( ribbon4 ,aga91 bread & butt]1 cut waf] ?9 & roll$1 may appe>4 ,sweetbread s&wi*es1 s>d9e s&wi*es1 egg s&wi*es1 are delici\s & easily prep>$ v>iations ^u ! ev]la/+ ham & tongue4 ,v da9ty s&wi*es are made ( two ?icknesses ( ?9 bread & butt]1 ) a lay] betwe5 ( cream *eese & *opp$ wat] cress4 ,! fruit %\ld be heap$ 9 a basket or arrang$ z a c5t]piece ) ! fl[]s4 ,ice cream may be tak5 to a picnic )\t mu* additional tr\ble4 ,! brick molds c be s pack$ by a confection] 9 a pail ( ice t !re w be no dang] ( ! cream melt+4 ,= ?is1 ( c\rse1 wood5 plates are n available1 b *9a sauc]s w h to be transport$4 ,= ! sweets "s pla9 cake & bon-bons1 & a box ( cry/alliz$ g+] are all-suffici5t4 ,cold tea1 ) lemon & ice1 is c]ta9ly ! mo/ refre%+ & satisfactory4 ,if m side di%es are pref]r$1 !re are olives1 salt$ peanuts or pecans1 gh]k9s1 radi%es or club-h\se *eese & waf]s to *oose f1 & if b]ries 9 season are desir$1 !y are be/ c>ri$ 9 a glass pres]ve j>4 ,if "o p]son gives a picnic1 %e %\ld expect to furni% all ! food1 ! means ( transportation = h] gue/s1 ! plates1 glasses1 knives1 =ks & napk9s--9 %ort1 to defray all ! exp5ses ( ! trip4 ,?is is apt to prove a r exp5sive proce$+1 if !re are _m gue/s invit$1 b x is a v pretty /yle ( ent]ta9+ = ^? ^: means p]mit !m to indulge 9 x4 ,a ,basket ,picnic is a m g5]al affair1 :]e ea* memb] ( ! p>ty supplies a quota ( ! provisions4 ,"s "o p]son und]takes ! *>ge ( ! p>ty1 & invites su* p to jo9 x z %e ?9ks w\ld make x a success4 ,! girls usually provide ! refre%m5ts4 ,*ap]ons4 ,x might seem ne$less to say t !re %\ld always be a *ap]on on picnic p>ties if x 7 n t ev5 9 ?is day !re appe>s1 9 "s places1 to be a lack ( prop] und]/&+ ( ?is subject4 ,dwell]s 9 l>ge cities see matt]s 9 a cle>] light1 & a "y man :o is ?or\ghly v]s$ 9 po9ts ( etiquette w n ?9k ( invit+ a "y lady to accompany him to ! !at] )\t also reque/+ h] "m or a m>ri$ fri5d to jo9 !m4 ,9 ! same mann] he asks a *ap]on to g ) !m :5 he escorts a "y lady to a ball or p>ty4 ,:5 a numb] ( "y p get (f toge!r1 !y are apt1 )\t ! lea/ int5tion ( impropriety1 to let _! spirits c>ry !m away & lead !m into absurdities !y w\ld nev] commit 9 a grav] mom5t4 ,if a *ap]on is bright & *e]y1 sympa?iz+ 9 ! enjoym5t ( ! "y p1 & avoid+ mak+ h] pres5ce a b> ^u innoc5t gayety1 %e ne$ be no drawback to ! pleasure ( ! exp$ition4 ,on ! contr>y1 mo/ "y m5 & wom5 w feel a security & s5se ( com=t f hav+ "s "o along to take ! responsibility ( ! conduct ( ! p>ty t !y c\ld nev] "k 7 !re no *ap]on pres5t4 ,x is a good rule1 if possible1 to h an equal numb] ( p]sons ( ea* sex on a picnic4 ,?is is especially desirable if ! p>ty is to be on ! wat]1 9 r[boats1 :]e ea* boatload mu/ be ev5ly divid$4 ,! ho/ess or projector ( ! p>ty may arrange 9 ^: escort ea* girl is to g1 or ?is may be left to ! "y p !mselves4 ,a ,m>%mall[ ,toa/4 ,?is is exclusively a girl's ent]ta9m5t4 ,a v pretty "o 0 giv5 to ab\t tw5ty girl fri5ds4 ,! gue/s 7 invit$ 9 ! aft]noon f two until six o'clock4 ,a l>ge room _h its furniture remov$ & 9 its /ead 7 plac$ small tables1 :i* conta9$ trays hold+ m>%mall[ c&ies1 skew]s & lamps4 ,! mall[s 7 toa/$ & eat5 aft] a little supp]4 ,tables 7 spread prettily ) :ite l95 & decorat$ ) fl[]s4 ,! supp] 0 arrang$ z foll[s3 ,oy/] ,patties4 ,butt]$ ,bread4 ,s&wi*es4 ,salad ) ,fr5* ,dress+4 ,assort$ ,cakes4 ,*ocolate4 ,toa/$ ,m>%mall[s4 ,! "y girls _h a delightful "t & ! ent]ta9m5t 0 simple & inexp5sive4 ,ro( ,p>ties4 ,ro( p>ties are ! v late/ div]sion :i* ! girl :o /ays 9 t[n is enjoy+4 ,!y are ! v jollie/ ent]ta9m5ts imag9able1 & ! be/ "p ( !m is t "o c g 9 any sort ( an out+ suit )\t feel+ de trop4 ,ev5 ! dwell]s 9 ! big ap>tm5t h\ses are able to give ^! high-9-!-air fe/ivals1 & !y h become v popul> f ! fact t !y are s in=mal & delightfully novel4 ,if y\r ro( is spaci\s & wall$ 9 by a high p>apet s mu* ! bett]1 =1 ( c\rse1 "o c always imag9e dang] if !re be only a n>r[ cop+ ab\t ! edge4 ,pick out a night :5 ! cl]k ( ! wea!r w be polite en\gh to give moon & />s & s(t s\!rn breezes4 ,!n cov] ! surface ( ! ro( ) rugs or else /ret* a matt+ ov] ! t94 ,improvise c\*es ^u boxes cov]$ ) rugs1 or br+ up a c\ple ( cots & pile cu%ions ^u !m4 ,palms & plants plac$ ab\t always add to ! effect1 & if y wi% ! place to look l a little bit ( fairy l& hang ,*9ese lant]ns on /r+s /ret*$ ab\t ! edge1 & :5 !y are lit !y w look rem>kably pretty4 ,if ! ro( be provid$ ) l$ges betwe5 y\r own & y\r neighbors1 ! bricks c be spread ) napk9s & refre%m5ts arrang$ !reon4 ,almo/ any sort ( m5u is p]missible1 b salads1 s&wi*es1 olives1 ice cream & liquid refre%m5ts ( all k9ds are always 9 ord]4 ,ba*elor's ,p>ties4 ,ba*elors :o live 9 ap>tm5ts are giv+ ,dut* p>ties on ro(s1 & 9 ^? cases ! refre%m5ts consi/ ( be] & ale s]v$ f ! wood1 rye bread & *eese s&wi*es1 sausages cook$ 9 a *af+-di% & ,rh9e w9e 9 ! cup4 ,ro( p>ties c be s elaborate t !y w co/ q z mu* z a m pret5ti\s function1 b !y are m enjoyable :5 !y are simply gott5 up4 ,"o 0 giv5 9 a fa%ionable "p ( ! city1 & ! aid ( ! cat]] & ! decorator _h be5 utiliz$ 9 su* a mann] z to produce ! effect ( a gorge\s al fresco reception4 ,a gaily /rip$ awn+ 0 /ret*$ across ! "p ( ! ro( :]e ! edibles 7 spread ^u a table load$ ) fl[]s4 ,a c>pet 0 spread = a dance at "o side ) only ! />s = a canopy4 ,ab\t ! entire ro( & rea*+ f> up 9 a pyramid ( light !re 7 lant]ns lit by electric lamps fa/5$ )94 ,!re 0 a pleasant breeze bl[+1 & ^! _m sway+ color$ lights produc$ a beautiful effect4 ,ri* rugs c>pet$ ! ro( surface1 & flags 7 drap$ ab\t ! high cop+4 ,?is p>ty 0 giv5 on ! ro( ( a l>ge hotel & 0 su* a success t a numb] ( simil> ones 7 arrang$ =4 ,a ,fl[] ,p>ty4 ,ano!r "y girls' ent]ta9m5t is a fl[] p>ty--an appropriate "n1 z ! writ] once att5d$ "o :]e all ! "y ladies wore sn[y g[ns1 ea* beautifully adorn$ ) ! we>]'s favorite fl[]4 ,a l>ge silv] salv] fill$ ) sprigs ( fl[]s await$ ! "y m5 9 ! reception-hall1 & ^u 8 entrance ea* select$ accord+ to 8 fancy a fl[] f ! wait] & s5t x up ! decorat$ /aircase to f9d its mate & ! "y lady we>+ ! mat*+ "o met him on ! l&+1 p9n$ 8 *os5 fl[] to ! lapel ( 8 coat & became 8 p>tn] = ! ev5+4 ,bicycle ,teas4 ,) ! bicycle comes ! bicycle tea4 ,9 ! l>ge cities ^! teas h be5 giv5 = *>ity & h be5 great successes4 ,b !re is no reason :y any girl may n give an attractive bicycle tea & make x v orig9al4 ,s&wi*es 9 ! %ape ( t5nis rackets1 ) an olive /eak 9 ! c5t] = a ball1 are among ! novelties4 ,s&wi*es 9 ! %ape ( a :eel & a saddle might easily be cut4 ,bicycle lant]ns1 :i* resemble gl[worms1 %\ld furni% decoration4 ,if possible1 a bicycle tea %\ld be giv5 out ( doors1 :]e out+ co/umes w\ld n be incongru\s4 ,a ,b>n ,p>ty4 ,!re is a big1 r$ b>n on a f9e old f>m1 t is easily rea*$ by city fri5ds1 & !re1 e ye>1 is giv5 an autumn revel 9 ! %ape ( a g5u9e b>n dance4 ,! m[ is fill$ ) sweet smell+ hay & ! cattle1 /all$1 are bel[4 ,! big c5t] floor is cle>$ & swept & reswept & *alk$ to make x fit = danc+ feet4 ,! decorations = ! dance consume mu* "t1 & into !m ! ho/ess ?r[s _m a lov+ ?\ght4 ,pumpk9s =m ! *ief !me4 ,9 fl[]-l or hide\s =ms z jack-o'-lant]ns !y hold po/s ( honor on raft] & beam4 ,! lant]ns us$ are ! regul> f>m lant]ns1 ?\gh ! walk ?r\gh ! old-fa%ion$ g>d5 to ! b>n is outl9$ by ! fancy ,japanese lant]ns4 ,e>s ( corn ti$ by flutt]+ ribbons1 ! husks turn$ back to %[ ! gold5 e>s1 corn/alks1 gold5-rod1 milkwe$1 woodb9e & clu/]s ( purple grapes are all work$ into ! decorations4 ,! "y folks le>n by previ\s exp]i5ces n to we> p]i%able f9]y at ! b>n dance1 & ! girls all come 9 pretty wa%-dresses t w /& a good romp4 ,music is furni%$ by an old d>key fiddl]1 n viol9i/1 :o plays ,money ,musk1 ,fi%]'s ,hornpipe1 ,ole ,dan ,tuck] & any numb] ( plantation melodies4 ,! supp]1 ( c\rse1 is ! be/ "p ( ! dance to hungry city-br$ p4 ,hot c(fee is s]v$ 9 bright new t9-cups1 = ^! "y p mimic h>ve/]s2 !re is fri$ *ick51 cold ham1 potato salad1 rolls ) gold5 c\ntry butt] t melts 9 "o's m\?1 pl5ty ( fre% milk1 pumpk9 & apple pie1 ) cottage *eese1 g+] cakes & d\ghnuts1 & ev5 cid] = ^? :o wi%4 ,! dance is always giv5 dur+ ! full h>ve/ moon & ! /one wall :i* b\nds ! or*>d1 ! old f>m wagons1 ! gra9 b9s & ev5 ! l[ apple trees furni% flirtation nooks = lov]s4 ,"o ye> ! b>n dance 0 also a potato roa/4 ,huge fires 7 built on ! lawn1 & dur+ ! int]mission ! cr[d ga!r$ ar\nd ! fires & roa/$ potatoes4 ,?is "t1 too1 ! dance 0 made a h\se p>ty1 & ! girls 7 /[$ away 9 ! f>mh\se :ile ! boys enjoy$ t5ts & ! big haym[4 ,is x any wond] t ! pretty ho/ess' fri5ds call h] b>n dance ! big ev5t ( ! ye>8 ,ba*elor ,wom5 & _! ,ent]ta9m5ts4 ,! ba*elor wom5 9 _! cosy little city ap>tm5ts1 or ev5 _! "o ap>tm5t1 refuse to be deb>r$ f ! pleasure & privilege ( giv+ ! little ent]ta9m5ts s de> to ! he>t fem99e4 ,!y n only give ! mo/ *>m+ little teas & c(fees1 b !y are pa/ ma/]s 9 ! use ( ! *af+ di% & ^? :o h fea/$ ) !m w no long] deem t liv]i$ s]vice & /ately rooms are necess>y to ! prop] receiv+ ( "o's fri5ds4 ,aft] all1 ! highe/ hospitality is 9 giv+ :at "o has4 ,haw?orne & 8 wife nev] =got ! little ,am]ican /udy+ art 9 ,rome1 :o1 9 h] t[] room1 rea*$ by _m flights ( /airs1 made tea be=e _! eyes1 & took f a cupbo>d ! cake & crack]s t made h] fea/4 ,nei!r w ! _w =get h]1 s9ce %e x 01 :o1 9 ! ,m>ble ,faun1 is ! ,hulda :o f$ ! doves f ! t[]4 ,a ,s&wi* ,spread4 ,a s&wi* spread is ano!r ent]ta9m5t easily giv5 by a ba*elor maid4 ,?is is a meal at :i* ev]y?+1 b>r+ ! tea & c(fee1 is s]v$ 9 ! =m ( a s&wi*4 ,n until "o has tri$ does "o realize to :at excell5ce & v>iety ?is =m ( vi& l5ds itself4 ,devil$ ham s&wi*es1 egg s&wi*es1 *eese s&wi*es1 lettuce s&wi*es1 pott$ ham1 pott$ fi%1 pott$ *eese s&wi*es1 p9eapple s&wi*es1 peanut s&wi*es1 cucumb] s&wi*es1 tomato s&wi*es1 walnut s&wi*es1 oy/] s&wi*es & s on indef9itely4 ,any mod]n cookbook w furni% ! =mulas = all ^! & m4 ,he or %e1 says "o writ]1 :o p>takes1 =gets ! pres5ce ( ! fold+ b$ & gas /ove2 ( ! curta9$ *9a cupbo>d 9 fri5dly proximity to ! writ+ desk or easel4 ,!re is no pa9t on ! arti/'s f+]s1 & ! newspap] woman we>s z pretty a g[n z any woman c\ld wi%4 ,private ,!atricals4 ,! etiquette ( invitations is ! same = ,private ,!atricals1 z = musicales4 ,simply sub/itut+ ! ^w1 ,!atricals1 ,*>ades1 or ,tableaux1 :i*ev] x is to be1 9 ! left h& corn] ( ! c>d4 ,! same obs]vances z to arrang+ ! seats1 toilettes ( ! gue/s1 etc41 are requisite1 & p]=m]s %\ld be equally c>eful n to fail at ! la/ mom5t 9 tak+ _! "p4 ,9 reality !y %\ld be m s1 s9ce ! failure ( "o p]=m] might ru9 ! entire play4 ,a drama entails m exp5se & c>e ?an *>act]s & tableaux4 ,a ho/ or ho/ess %\ld nev] take lead+ "p unless x be especially urg$ ^u !m by ! o!rs1 & ev5 !n x is n be/1 fir/1 because ! ent]ta9]s %\ld nev] eclipse _! gue/s1 &1 second1 !y %\ld be free = a g5]al ov]sight ( ! :ole affair1 ready to settle disput$ po9ts & f9d miss+ /age prop]ties4 ,an ef=t %\ld be made to assign1 z ne>ly z possible1 acceptable & suitable p>ts to all4 ,^? invit$ %\ld display will+ness to take p>ts assign$ !m1 ev5 if n ! mo/ important 9 ! ca/4 ,all _c be ,romeos or ,juliets4 ,!re are m9or p>ts to play on all /ages4 ,le>n ! "p giv5 y ?or\ghly1 & d y\r be/ to make ! play a success4 ,if sickness or unavoidable accid5t int]v5e1 in=m ! ho/ess at once t %e may be able to supply a sub/itute = ! "p4 ,gue/s indulge 9 conv]sation betwe5 ! acts1 & ! music ( an or*e/ra (t5 fills ! pause4 ,a c>p5t] is usually call$ 9 to build ! tempor>y /age1 or a curta9 is fitt$ to rise & fall 9 ! ar*way betwe5 two p>lors2 ! fir/ p>lor be+ us$ = ! audi5ce room & ! second "o = /age1 ) dress+-room 9 ! re>4 ,a private billi>d-room1 also1 c be us$ to good advantage4 ,at ! conclusion ( ! play1 supp] is s]v$1 & social conv]sation & danc+ foll[4 ,a ,social ,ev5+4 ,!re are _m ways ( mak+ pleasant ent]ta9m5ts out ( ^! in=mal ga!r+s4 ,su* an ev5+ may la/ f n9e to twelve o'clock4 ,:]e impromptu danc+ is resort$ to1 z x s (t5 is1 ano!r h\r is sometimes add$4 ,if danc+ be exclud$1 games1 music1 c>ds1 or recitations %\ld take its place4 ,if nei!r c>d-play+1 nor danc+ is p]mitt$1 ! supp] usually becomes ! feature ( ! ev5+4 ,:5 fri5ds are invit$ to pass an ev5+ socially ) c>ds & music1 refre%m5ts are always s]v$4 ,!y c be plac$ ^u ! d9+-room table1 & ! company invit$ to p>take ( !m4 ,!y %\ld consi/ ( s&wi*es or cold meats & rolls1 & cakes & c(fee or *ocolate1 or only cakes1 ices & lemonade c be s]v$4 ,! be/ di%es ! *9a closet af=ds %\ld be us$4 ,or1 ! supp] c be made an elaborate sit-d[n banquet4 ,if ! long table is n suffici5t = all1 ! gue/s c be s]v$ 9 relays4 ,! table %\ld be prettily decorat$4 ,!re are diff]5t =ms ( home p>ties1 su* z bir?day celebrations1 :]e gifts & toa/s are 9 ord]1 h\se-w>m+s1 or a *ur* p>ty4 ,:5 ! supp] is s]v$ 9 relays ! ho/ess _h bett] wait until ! la/ table1 & circulate ab\t among ^? gue/s :o h n yet be5 s]v$4 ,"s appo9t$ lady c s]ve z ho/ess at ea* table4 ,! eld] gue/s %\ld be seat$ at ! fir/4 ,sometimes small tables are scatt]$ ab\t ! rooms to accommodate ^? :o _c f9d place at ! l>ge table1 ?us all are s]v$ at once4 ,:]e nei!r c>d-play+ nor danc+ are indulg$ 91 x becomes necess>y to f9d "s o!r amusem5t4 ,impromptu *>ades are sure to break ! ice4 ,a %ad[ p>ty also1 :]e any am\nt ( sport c be _h ) a d>k5$ room & a tightly /ret*$ %eet illum9at$ f ! re>1 :]eon %ad[s c be ca/ = guess+4 ,!re are also a great _m int]e/+ games ( :i* en\gh c be furni%$ = an entire company4 ,au?ors' ,p>ties ,are also amus+ ent]ta9m5ts1 b !y mu/ be arrang$ = be=eh&4 ,x is usual to take ! works ( "o au?or & give out ! *>act]s to be repres5t$ to ea* "o1 t repetitions may be prev5t$4 ,!n ! guess+ t w foll[ :5 ! company are all toge!r1 & ! conv]sation t naturally ensues on lit]>y subjects1 ensures ! success ( ! p>ty4 ,firelight ,p>ties ,are pleasurable affairs4 ,!re is no light furni%$ except by an op5 fire4 ,! gue/s sit ar\nd 9 a circle & tell /ories4 ,ea* "o is provid$ ) a bun* ( twigs1 or fagot to be ?r[n on ! fire1 ! gue/ be+ expect$ to s+ a song1 tell a /ory1 give a recitation1 or o!rwise amuse ! company :ile 8 fagot burns4 ,conv]saziones4 ,^! ga!r+s1 z ! "n signifies1 are devot$ entirely to conv]sation1 & are suppos$ to be *iefly ga!r+s ( lit]>y & sci5tific p4 ,:]e "o especially f9e conv]sationali/ is ! /> ( ! ev5+1 "o or two less] lights %\ld be invit$ to %>e ) him ! honors ( ! occasion4 ,a ,c\ntry ,d9n]4 ,a summ] d9n] 9 ! c\ntry has _m pleasant features peculi> to itself4 ,*ief among ^! is its lack ( =mality1 & city gue/s are always pleasurably ent]ta9$ at ! c\ntry d9n] table4 ,a good cook & a compet5t waitress are necessities4 ,! fl[]s t ornam5t ! table mu/ p>take ( ! field & =e/ r ?an sugge/ ! city ho?\se4 ,sl5d]1 light1 glass vases & rose-b[ls are be/ = ! light grasses1 field fl[]s & g>d5 blossoms4 ,pretty1 mod]n1 inexp5sive *9a is suffici5t = a c\ntry d9n]1 & n too mu* silv]w>e %\ld be us$4 ,light1 cle> s\ps %\ld =m ! fir/ c\rse 7mock turtle or ox-tail s\p is n 9 ord]74 ,! roa/ %\ld be c>v$ away f ! table4 ,pl5ty ( fre% vegetables %\ld be prep>$1 t be+ "o ( ! privileges ( c\ntry life4 ,delightfully fre% salads are also at comm& ( ! suburban h\sehold]2 & if ! d9+-room be cool & l>ge1 & !re) ! grace be giv5 ( a beautiful view1 :at great] gift c ! gods grant6 ,let ! h\sekeep] =be> to s]ve hot pudd+s or heavy pa/ries4 ,fruit t>ts1 ! fre%e/ ( fruits ) great glass pit*]s ( c\ntry cream1 cold cu/>ds1 gelat9e creams ( all k9ds & ice cream are always satisfactory2 & _m sub/itute = ! heavy roa/ ! light] di%es ( broil$ fi%1 *ick51 or *ops4 ,a cold boil$ ham on ! sidebo>d adds ano!r di% to ! bo>d4 ,etiquette ( ,c>d ,play+ & ,games4 ,!re is a c]ta9 etiquette to be obs]v$ 9 play+ all social games4 ,9 c>d-play+ especially ?is is a necessity4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 x is ! ho/ess :o proposes ! game4 ,9 ! second1 no "o :o refuses %\ld be urg$ to jo9 9 ! amusem5t4 ,!y may h consci5ti\s scruples1 & respect %\ld be %[n _! pr9ciples4 ,unless1 h[ev]1 ?is be ! reason1 no "o %\ld refuse to play f m]e caprice :5 _! pres5ce is requir$ to make up a table4 ,new packs ( c>ds %\ld be provid$ by ! ho/ess4 ,play+ = money1 ev5 ! smalle/ am\nt1 %\ld be /rictly avoid$4 ,x is unfit = ! home p>lor4 ,^? :o d n und]/& play+ %\ld n jo9 a set unless especially urg$1 z _! ignorance is apt to spoil ! pleasure ( ! o!rs4 ,! f+]s %\ld n be wet to deal ! c>ds4 ,p>tn]s %\ld nev] ex*ange signs4 ,let e "o play 8 be/ & n act indiff]5t to ! game4 ,d n talk on all mann] ( topics2 x di/urbs ^? :o enjoy ! game4 ,d n criticise1 nor hurry o!r play]s4 ,nev] lose temp] ov] a game4 ,to *eat is extremely ill-br$4 ,if y h a poor p>tn] manife/ no annoyance4 ,nev] reflect ^u ! play+ ( y\r oppon5ts4 ,^? :o h play$ toge!r s mu* t !y und]/& "o ano!r's play %\ld n be p>tn]s 9 g5]al company4 ,nev] manife/ ang] at defeat1 nor undue exultation at w9n+4 ,^! rules1 _m ( !m1 apply to all o!r social games1 bo? outdoors & 94 ,outdoor ,amusem5ts4 ,coa*+ p>ties are delightful4 ,!y give mu* latitude = gay1 pretty co/umes1 & !re are few bright] pictures ?an t ( a tally-ho coa* z x da%es along ! city b\lev>ds & ov] ! c\ntry roads to ! music ( j+l+ *a9s & w9d+ horns4 ,illu/ration3 ,,outdoor ,,sports4 ,appetites are %>p5$ by ! long drive1 & hamp]s mu/ be well pack$ ) sub/antial vi&s4 ,pott$ meats1 all mann] ( s&wi*es1 game pies1 cold birds1 & sub/antial beef & tongue1 w be sure ( appreciation4 7,see ,dress1 etc41 = suitable attire47 ,hunt+ ,p>ties4 ,hunt+ is v little favor$ by ladies on ?is side ! wat]1 ?\gh x is occasionally indulg$ 9 by a few4 ,! en?usiasm1 h[ev]1 ( a ride to h\nds is mu* damp5$ by ! k t an anise-se$ bag1 in/ead ( a fox1 furni%es ! sc5t ov] :i* ! h\nds give eag] tongue4 ,^? :o attempt to hunt mu/ be at home 9 ! saddle4 7,see ,dress1 etc41 = appropriate attire47 ,ar*]y1 ,lawn ,t5nis & ,croquet4 ,^! popul> games h _! own etiquette1 rules1 dress1 etc41 s ?or\ghly e/abli%$ t all devotees ( ^! sports und]/& ! r\t9e )\t giv+ x place "h4 ,nev] dispute1 or %[ any temp] ov] ! outcome ( any game4 ,boat+ & ,ya*t+4 ,_m ladies are q exp]t ) ! o>s1 & boat+1 :5 n ov]done1 is a heal?ful & pleasant amusem5t4 ,:5 g5tlem5 are ) a p>ty ( ladies1 "o ( !m %\ld /ep 9 ! boat to /eady x1 :ile ano!r assi/s ! ladies 94 ,see t _! dress is s arrang$ t !y w n get wet4 ,inexp]i5c$ r[]s %\ld le>n be=e jo9+ a p>ty4 ,! /roke o> is ! seat ( honor4 ,x may be (f]$ to a gue/4 ,ladies %\ld we> %ort dresses1 free f encumb]+ drap]ies1 heavy %oes1 & a hat ) a broad brim4 ,heavy gloves1 if !y int5d r[+1 %\ld be worn4 ,ya*t+ is a delightful & r dang]\s amusem5t4 ,ladies we> w>m wool dresses t wat] w n injure1 made %ort 9 ! skirt1 & jaunty ( cut1 ) sailor-l emblems = adornm5t4 ,no "y lady %\ld g out alone ) a g5tleman ei!r ya*t+ or r[+4 ,9 ya*t+ especially a boat is sometimes becalm$ = h\rs & ev5 all night4 ,a p>ty compos$ entirely ( "y p %\ld h a *ap]on4 ,*ildr5's ,p>ties4 ,! celebration ( *ildr5's bir?days & o!r little anniv]s>ies by means ( p>ties1 is a pleasant cu/om & "o wor?y ( obs]vance4 ,su* r$-lett] days are long rememb]$ by ! little ones4 ,! invitations are issu$ 9 ! *ildr5's own names1 & may be writt5 or engrav$4 ,usually !y are writt5 ^u small note %eets & enclos$ 9 small envelopes4 ,if ! invitation is = a ,*ri/mas-tree1 or an ,ea/]-egg hunt1 a t9y tree1 or a color$ egg1 may ornam5t "o corn] ( ! %eet4 ,! =m v>ies h>dly at all3 ,miss ,,g]trude ,,hall reque/s ! pleasure ( ,miss ,,cl>a ,,w9%ip',s company1 on ,w$nesday1 ,june tw5tie?4 ,f ?ree until five o'clock4 #c ,madison ,av5ue4 ,^! invitations %\ld be c>efully & promptly answ]$ 9 ! same =m z giv5 & 9 ! ?ird p]son4 7,see ,invitations1 etc47 ,?is tea*es ! little ho/ or ho/ess ! gravity ( _! position z ent]ta9]s1 & impresses ! little gue/s ) ! importance ( _! behavior4 ,also giv+ !m an e>ly lesson 9 ! etiquette ( social life4 ,if x is a bir?day p>ty1 a bir?day cake w be ! *ief feature1 & x is a pretty fancy to h x decorat$ ) z _m t9y wax c&les z !re are ye>s 9 ! *ild's life 9 ^: honor ! p>ty is giv54 ,^! tap]s may be plac$ ar\nd ! cake1 or put 9 t9 tubes & sunk into ! top ( ! cake4 ,light !m j be=e ! little gue/s are call$ out to ! table4 ,at ! close ( ! supp] ! *ild ^: bir?day x is1 bl[s out ! c&les1 &1 if old en\gh1 cuts ! cake & passes x4 ,pres5ts are sometimes br\ght by ! gue/s1 b x is n be/ to enc\rage ?is fa%ion4 ,danc+ or games may foll[ ! supp]1 & old] p]sons %\ld con/antly sup]9t5d ! amusem5ts to see t ! m]rim5t does n flag1 nor ! little folks become too boi/]\s4 ,at an ,ea/] p>ty1 da9ty little egg-%ap$ boxes1 fill$ ) bon-bons1 may be plac$ at ea* plate1 or else hidd5 9 a room f :i* ! light] articles ( furniture h be5 remov$1 & ! *ildr5 p]mitt$ to se>* = !m4 ,! hunt is ! *ief pleasure4 ,if x is a ,*ri/mas p>ty ! tree is ! s\rce ( int]e/1 & (t5 a make-believe ,santa ,claus adds to ! m]rim5t ( ! occasion4 ,! refre%m5ts %\ld be simple b fanciful4 ,make ! table bright z possible--sn[balls1 cornucopias1 lady-f+]s1 assort$ cakes1 love-knots1 s&wi*es 7fancy71 cry/aliz$ fruits1 t>ts1 slic$ tongue1 press$ veal1 ?9 bread & butt]1 roll$ & ti$1 ice cream 9 molds1 & "o l>ge heavily-fro/$ cake4 ,a ho/ ( fl[]s1 & ! table is complete4 ,lemonade = a dr9k1 or p]haps hot *ocolate4 ,! good bre$+ le>n$1 ! opportunities ( impress+ ^u *ildr5 ! beauty ( self-d5ial & polit5ess1 & ( tea*+ !m to disp5se1 & to receive hospitalities1 & to re/ra9 t t5d5cy t[>d favor+ c]ta9 playmates1 s /rong 9 *ildhood1 w m ?an repay = ! tr\ble ( prep>+ ! fea/4 ,nev] p]mit ! p>ty to ext5d to late h\rs1 & nev] ov]dress ! little folks4 ,:ite is always suitable = girls1 & jacket suits = boys "u ! age = long tr\s]s4 ,illu/ration ,*ri/5+s1 ,confirmations & ,graduations4 ,illu/ration ,ann\ncem5t ,c>ds are frequ5tly s5t out to all fri5ds imm$iately ^u ! arrival ( a little heir or heiress4 ,^! c>ds are v>i\sly word$4 ,"o se5 by ! writ] 0 z foll[s3 ,,arriv$3 ,9 ,los ,gatos1 ,sunday morn+1 ,novemb] ?ird1 eighte5 hundr$ & n9ety-five1 ,,flor5ce ,,wescott4 ,weight1 t5 p\nds2 blue eyes & s\nd lungs4 ,%e s5ds greet+ to all h] fri5ds4 ,a simpl] "o w\ld be3 ,,greet+3 ,,edi? ,,may ,,t\cey1 ,novemb] #a1 #ahie4 ,weight1 #i-a_/b p\nds4 ,^! c>ds receiv$ 7or ev5 if !y are omitt$71 ! lady fri5ds & acqua9tances call & leave c>ds ) k9d inquires or s5d !m by a s]vant4 ,g5tlem5 d n call1 b !y are expect$ to see ! happy fa!r & inquire aft] "m & *ild4 ,:5 ! "m is ready to receive fri5ds %e s5ds out c>ds to all t h call$ ) ?anks = k9d inquiries1 writt5 b5ea? h] "n1 or issues invitations = a c&le or *ri/5+ p>ty4 ,! ,*ri/5+4 ,! baptism or *ri/5+ is p]=m$ accord+ to ! rites ( :atev] *ur* ! p>5ts may be memb]s (4 ,if ! c]emony is p]=m$ 9 *ur*1 p]sonal fancy has v little play1 ?\gh x is almo/ a law t fl[]s %all clu/] ab\t ! place :]e little ones are br\ght = d$ication4 ,if ! occasion is to be fur!r celebrat$ by fe/ivities at ! h\se !y may take :atev] =m is mo/ agreeable4 ,:5 ! *ri/5+ is held at ! h\se & gue/s are invit$1 x is cu/om>y to def] ! c]emony until ! "m is ready to take ! "p ( ho/ess2 usually until ! *ild is a mon? or six weeks old4 ,invitations are issu$ = an aft]noon or e>ly ev5+ reception4 ,!y may be writt5 or engrav$1 & are issu$ 9 ! "n ( bo? p>5ts1 ?us3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,james ,,gray reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r pres5ce at ! ,*ri/5+ ( _! son at half-pa/ f\r o'clock1 ,w$nesday1 ,may t5?4 #ab ,madison ,av5ue4 ,or3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,?ur/on reque/ ! honor ( ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,br[n',s pres5ce at ! ,*ri/5+ ( _! daught] on ,?ursday1 ,may #aa?1 at ?ree o'clock4 ,reception f two to five1 #aej ,delaw>e ,place4 ,sometimes ! words1 ,no pres5ts expect$1 are add$ to ! invitation4 ,att5dance at ! ,c]emony4 ,^! invitations are promptly answ]$1 & ^? :o att5d %\ld we> a reception dress4 ,! solemnity ( ! occasion %\ld be recogniz$ by ! appe>ance1 previ\s to ! h\r nam$1 ( all :o expect to be pres5t4 ,^? :o _c be 9 "t to witness ! c]emony %\ld def] _! arrival until a suffici5t "t has elaps$ to all[ ( its completion4 ,a tempor>y font is plac$ 9 a c5tral position4 ,?is is be/ arrang$ by bank+ up ! top ( a small r\nd table ) mosses1 smilax & delicate f]ns1 :ile ! top1 outside ! rim ( ! b[l hold+ ! *9a bas9 conta9+ ! wat]1 is a mass ( :ite fl[]s4 ,! draw+-room may be decorat$ ) blossoms1 & vocal or in/rum5tal music is usually provid$4 ,hir$ musicians are sometimes engag$4 ,see t ! selections are suitable to ! sacr$ "* ( ! occasion4 ,fri5ds are sometimes ask$ to give two or ?ree vocal selections4 ,at ! appo9t$ "t ! fa!r & "m /& be=e ! cl]gyman at ! font & receive _! *ild f ! nurse or "s fri5d2 ! godp>5ts range !mselves on ei!r side1 & ! cl]gyman proce$s ) ! s]vice4 ,if ! p>5ts are able1 ! cl]gyman is usually giv5 a h&some fee on ^! occasions4 ,congratulations are (f]$ ! fa!r & "m1 & ! baby1 rob$ elaborately1 !n becomes ! c5t] ( attraction = a few mom5ts1 until ! ho/ leads ! way to ! refre%m5t table :i* is b\ntifully spread z = a reception4 ,a toa/ 9 ! *ild's honor is (t5 giv5 at ?is "t by "o ( ! sponsors4 ,gue/s %ortly disp]se4 ,aft] calls are made1 or c>ds left1 )9 t5 days4 ,sometimes relatives only are invit$ to ^! p>ties4 ,:5 ! *ri/5+ is held 9 *ur*1 ! p>ty is set = "s h\r ( ! same day4 ,godfa!rs & ,godmo!rs4 ,9 select+ godp>5ts or sponsors1 relatives are (t5 giv5 prec$5ce & v close fri5ds come next4 ,be c>eful 9 ! *oice1 z f ^! godp>5ts is to be expect$ mu* good c\nsel & k9dly aid 9 ! future4 ,9 all old c\ntries ?is relation%ip is expect$ to la/ = a lifetime1 & ! godp>5ts are suppos$ to wat* ov] ! religi\s gr[? ( ! *ild & see t 9 due "t he is br\ght =w>d = confirmation1 or = union ) ! *ur* 9 "s o!r mann]4 ,a boy is expect$ to h two godfa!rs & "o godmo!r2 a girl "o godfa!r & two godmo!rs4 ,a note is s5t to ea* p]son select$ z sponsor ask+ him to assume t fri5dly (fice4 ,?is reque/ %\ld nev] be refus$ except = good & suffici5t reason4 ,godp>5ts usually make a pres5t to ! *ild1 g5]ally 9 ! =m ( "s suitable silv] article4 ,among ! v weal?y1 especially if ! *ild be>s ! godfa!r's "n1 v valuable pres5ts are (t5 made1 ^! g5]ally tak+ ! =m ( *ecks = l>ge am\nts4 ,c&le ,p>ty4 ,! mod]n c&le p>ty is giv5 :5 ! *ild is ab\t six weeks old1 & is q a sep>ate affair f ! *ri/5+1 ! *ur* hav+ object$ 9 "s cases to hav+ ! two celebrat$ at ! same "t4 ,c&le p>ties1 simply 9 ! nature ( a "n-fe/ival1 are frequ5tly giv5 :5 ! *ri/5+ is n obs]v$4 ,invitations are s5t out "o week 9 advance1 & are 9 ! foll[+ =m3 ,,mr4 & ,,mrs4 ,,br[n reque/ y\r company1 ,w$nesday aft]noon1 at ?ree4 ,,c&le4 #abe ,vanc\v] ,/reet4 ,no pres5ts expect$4 ,! words1 no pres5ts1 ne$ n prev5t any :o wi% f mak+ a gift1 b relieves ^? :o may n be prep>$4 ,! phrase1 ,c&le ,p>ty1 is some:at difficult to def9e1 b ! "n & ! cu/om h come d[n f old5 times4 ,x us$ !n to be ! habit to s]ve all :o call$ ) inquiries & congratulations on ! arrival ( a little /rang]1 ) a k9d ( spic$ gruel1 flavor$ ) rum or ,madeira1 & kn[n z c&le4 ,?is 0 s]v$ 9 *9a cups hav+ two h&les1 s !y c\ld be pass$ f "o to ano!r4 ,^! 7 call$ c&le cups1 & are mu* priz$ heirlooms 9 m ?an "o old family4 ,?is c]emony 0 !n obs]v$ :5 ! *ild 0 ?ree days old2 n[ ! c&le p>ty is celebrat$ :5 x is at lea/ six weeks old4 ,! "m receives h] gue/s 9 "s elaborate h\se g[n1 ! baby 9 robes ( /ate is on exhibition = a %ort "t1 & ! gue/s are s]v$ ) c&le 9 ! =m ( an oatmeal gruel1 long & sl[ly boil$ ) rais9s & spices1 & f9e old ,madeira or rum add$ at ! la/ until ! bev]age is to ! ,que5's ta/e4 ,*ri/5+ ,gifts4 ,:5 ! ann\ncem5t c>ds ( a baby's bir? are s5t out1 v _m fri5ds ( ! family int]pret ?is z an opportunity = mak+ a pres5t to ! new arrival4 ,?is is n a new social cu/om1 = its orig9 goes back to ! "t ( ! ,*aldean %eph]ds1 :5 wise m5 ( ! ,ea/ j\rney$ to ! /able cradle to pres5t _! gifts ( frank9c5se & myrrh4 ,! mo/ s5sible plan 9 ?is case1 &1 9 fact1 9 all gift mak+1 is to consult ! condition ( ! recipi5t z well z ! purse ( ! giv]4 ,if ! p>5tal purse is a little slim1 gifts t are useful are g5]ally ! be/ to give4 ,da9ty g[ns1 embroid]$ flannels1 coa* rugs1 ?+s t e baby ne$s4 ,! lea/ exp5sive & simple/ gifts & always ( use1 are ! lace p91 %\ld] p9 & *a9$ buttons 9 gold4 ,?ree p9s connect$ by delicate gold *a9s are v mu* 9 dem&1 & a /udd+ ( turquoise ( pe>l adds mu* to _! beauty4 ,! de> little silv]-back$ bru%es & p[d] boxes h always be5 favorites4 ,"o exquisite pres5t f a po9t ( s5tim5t & value 0 rec5tly pres5t$ to a girl4 ,ea* ( h] fa!r's groomsm5 s5t a five-doll> gold piece to ! goldsmi?1 :o melt$ !m d[n & trans=m$ !m into a gold *a9 & locket4 ,! locket bore ! monogram ( ! baby & ! initial lett] ( ea* groomsman's "n4 ,da9ty ,pres5ts = ! ,newcom]4 ,ano!r t9y new woman receiv$ f h] gr&mo!r a spoon :i* 0 made ( little bits ( silv] melt$ d[n4 ,a silv] piece tak5 f ! pocket ( a dead aunt1 two or ?ree bits left 9 ! purse ( ! gr&fa!r1 :o _h di$2 a bit ( a brok5 spoon us$ by ! baby's own mamma--^! & o!r s\v5irs ( ! family hi/ory made ! gift spoon some?+ f> out ( ! ord9>y4 ,"o ( ! mo/ magnific5t & co/ly gifts 9 silv] t is giv5 to ! baby is ! entire food set1 consi/+ ( plate1 b[l1 pit*]1 knife & =k1 spoon & napk9 r+4 ,^! sets come 9 cases & range 9 prices ord9>ily f #ej to #aej1 ?\gh "s v elaborate ones may be ord]$ :i* g f> into ! hundr$s4 ,a v pretty & surely mo/ int]e/+ gift t c\ld be s5t to a baby is a baby di>y 9 :i* ! pr9cipal ev5ts ( ! little "o's life c be ent]$ by ! "m & kept 9 aft] ye>s z a record ( ^? m>vel\sly int]e/+ days ( babyhood4 ,a c]ta9 v s5sible woman usually deposits a small sum ( money 9 ,transcrib]'s ,note3 a bank & pres5ts ! bank book to h] little new fri5d1 ?us lay+ ! f\ndation = future habits ( economy & ?rift4 ,"s ,bir?day ,sup]/itions4 ,monday's *ild is fair ( face4 ,tuesday's *ild is full ( grace4 ,w$nesday's *ild is born = woe4 ,?ursday's *ild has f> to g4 ,friday's *ild is lov+ & giv+4 ,saturday's *ild mu/ "w = a liv+4 ,b ! *ild t is born on ! ,sabba? day1 ,is bonny & happy & weal?y & gay4 ,,confirmation4 ,9 ! ,episcopal1 ,lu!ran & ,roman ,ca?olic *ur*es1 ,confirmation is ! sequel ( baptism4 ,"h comes 9 "o ( ! duties ( ! godp>5ts1 & %\ld ! *ild become orphan$1 or %\ld its p>5ts by reason ( c>elessness1 or irreligion1 neglect ?is important matt]1 ! *ur* holds ! godp>5ts 9 a l>ge measure responsible t ^! *ildr5 be br\ght be=e ! ,bi%op = confirmation4 ,"s weeks prior to ! arrival ( ! ,bi%op1 p]sons desir\s ( admission to ! *ur* pres5t _! names to ! cl]gym51 & classes are =m$ ( in/ruction & prep>ation = ! solemn ev5t4 ,! c]emony ( ! confirmation s]vice is 9 accordance ) ! =ms ( ! *ur* 9 :i* x is obs]v$4 ,! only uni=mity be+ 9 ! g>b ( ! "y c&idates4 ,?is = ! girls is always g[ns ( pure/ :ite1 ) gloves & %oes to mat*4 ,:ite b\nd pray]-books %\ld be c>ri$1 & 9 ! ,roman ,ca?olic & ! ,lu!ran *ur*es :ite veils & wrea?s cr[n ! "y heads4 ,= ! y\?s1 black suits1 black ties & gloves are ! prop] ?+4 ,,graduation4 ,) ! important ev5t ( graduation ends ! ?ree great c]emonies ( y\?4 ,! *ur* & ! s*ool h bo? set _! seal ^u ! "y man & maid51 & ! bus9ess _w & ! social _w are wait+ to receive !m4 ,9 ! matt] ( dress = ?is important ev5t1 ! "y man is suppos$ to conf9e himself to conv5tional black ) :ite tie4 ,! "y girl is usually 9 :ite1 ) gloves1 %oes1 hose & fan to mat*4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 dep5ds ^u ! ta/e ( ! class1 z !y expect to dress alike1 & (t5 select "s o!r delicate %ade ( color = ! class co/ume4 ,avoid all ,extravagance4 ,!re is "o ?+ to be rememb]$--t is1 t too mu* extravagance %\ld n be display$ 9 ! selection & adornm5ts ( ! g[n = ! occasion4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 simplicity is ! pr]ogative ( y\?4 ,9 ! second1 x is bad ta/e to ov]load a "y s*oolgirl ) exp5sive mat]ials & lavi% ornam5ts4 ,9 ! ?ird1 !re w always be f\nd 9 e graduat+ class "o or m /ud5ts to ^: purse ! exp5ses incid5t ^u ! s*ool c\rse h be5 a heavy dra91 & to :om compliance ) ! /yle ( dress worn by o!r memb]s ( ! class w mean a s]i\s /ra9 ^u ! home ex*equ]1 or ! incurr+ ( a debt = ! future1 :ile to dress z _! purse af=ds requires m self-d5ial ?an an outsid] realizes4 ,! slights1 ! sne]s ( insol5t classmates h driv5 m ?an "o s5sitive s\l to solitude & te>s1 & cl\d$ :at %\ld h be5 ! bright beg9n+ ( life ) sorr[ & ang]4 ,directors ( s*ools h m ?an once /riv5 to d away ) ?is abuse ( ! occasion by prescrib+ ! dress to be worn1 b ) poor success1 s9ce sumptu>y laws are n k9dly receiv$ 9 ?is free c\ntry4 ,n[1 ! rem$y lies 9 ! h&s ( ! girls !mselves1 & ) _! p>5ts4 ,let x be once und]/ood t su* a display is ! m>k ( social p>v5us1 ( ! newly-ri*1 & ! cu/om w cease to exi/4 ,fri5ds br+ fl[]s to ! place ( graduation :i* are s5t up1 ei!r by ! u%]s1 :o are *os5 among intimates ( ! classmates1 or by t9y boys dress$ z pages4 ,^! floral (f]+s h come to be s ext5sive t ! /age is (t5 bank$ ) ! beautiful blossoms4 ,"h1 too1 is ano!r abuse4 ,to ^? :o h few fri5ds1 & less money1 ! abs5ce ( ^! remembrances is (t5 s m>k$ z to cause _m a he>ta*e4 ,c>ds ) ! donor's "n & ! words1 ,congratulations1 or ,graduation ,congratulations1 p5n$ 9 "o corn]1 are ti$ ) n>r[ ribbons to ^! gifts4 ,pres5ts ( a m sub/antial nature are also s5t up2 books1 wat*es1 jewels1 etc41 & h a m la/+ remembrance ?an ! fleet+ blossoms4 ,"o ( ! prettie/ floral gifts se5 on an occasion ( graduation 0 a graceful %ip1 :ite sail$1 & lovely1 all ( fragrant fl[]s1 & full freight$ ) ! hopes & pray]s = ! "y legal graduate1 :o 0 sole son ( ! h\se4 ,c>riages convey ! graduates to & f ! hall1 & a class reception is suppos$ to f9i% ! long r\nd ( ! gaieties ( ,class ,week4 ,illu/ration ,etiquette ( ,fun]als & ,m\rn+ ,illu/ration ,! great sorr[ br\ght ^u a family by ! dea? ( a lov$ "o r5d]s ! imm$iate memb]s ( ! family incapable ( att5d+ to ! necess>y arrangem5ts = ! fun]al4 ,! s]vices ( an intimate fri5d1 or a relative1 %\ld1 !re=e1 be s\ght4 ,he %\ld receive g5]al in/ructions f ! family1 aft] :i* he %\ld take entire *>ge ( ! arrangem5ts1 & relieve !m f all c>e on ! subject4 ,if su* a p]son _c be _h1 ! arrangem5ts may be plac$ 9 ! h&s ( ! sexton ( ! *ur* ! deceas$ att5d$ 9 life1 or ( "s responsible und]tak]4 ,! exp5ses ( ! fun]al %\ld be 9 accordance ) ! means ( ! family4 ,no false pride %\ld p]mit ! relatives to incur undue exp5se 9 ord] to make a %[y fun]al4 ,at ! same "t1 affection w dictate t all ! m>ks ( respect :i* y c provide %\ld be paid to ! memory ( y\r belov$ dead4 ,fun]al ,invitations4 ,9 "s p>ts ( ! c\ntry x is cu/om>y to s5d notes ( invitation to ! fun]al to ! fri5ds ( ! deceas$ & ( ! family4 ,^! invitations %\ld be pr9t$1 neatly & simply1 on m\rn+ pap]1 ) envelopes to mat*1 & %\ld be deliv]$ by a private mess5g]4 ,! foll[+ is a correct =m1 ! names & dates to be *ang$ to suit ! occasion3 ,y\rself & family are respectfully invit$ to att5d ! fun]al ( ,,david ,b4 ,,jones1 on ,tuesday1 ,m>* #ah1 #ahi-1 at #aa o'clock ,a4,m41 f 8 late resid5ce1 #aibf ,amb] ,/reet1 to proce$ to ,laurel ,hill ,cemet]y4 ,:]e ! fun]al is f a *ur*1 ! invitation %\ld read3 ,y\rself & family are respectfully invit$ to att5d ! fun]al ( ,,david ,b4 ,,jones1 f ! ,*ur* ( ! ,holy ,tr9ity1 on ,tuesday1 ,m>* #ah1 #ahi-1 at #aa o'clock ,a4,m41 to proce$ to ,laurel ,hill ,cemet]y4 ,:]e su* invitations are s5t1 a li/ ( p]sons s invit$ mu/ be giv5 to ! p]son 9 *>ge ( ! fun]al1 9 ord] t he may provide a suffici5t numb] ( c>riages4 ,no "o to :om an invitation has n be5 s5t %\ld att5d su* a fun]al1 nor %\ld ^? invit$ p]mit any?+ b an important duty to prev5t _! att5dance4 ,:5 ! fun]al is at ! h\se1 "s ne> relative or intimate fri5d %\ld act z u%]1 & %[ ! company to _! seats4 ,%[+ ,respect = ! ,dead4 ,pres]ve a decor\s sil5ce 9 ! *amb] ( dea?--speak z little z possible1 & !n only 9 l[1 subdu$ tones4 ,! memb]s ( ! family are n oblig$ to recognize _! acqua9tances4 ,! latt] %[ _! sympa?y by _! pres5ce & consid]ate sil5ce4 ,z ! c(f9 is borne f ! h\se to ! he>se1 g5tlem5 :o may be /&+ at ! door or 9 ! /reet remove _! hats1 & rema9 uncov]$ until x is plac$ 9 ! he>se4 ,! pall-be>]s %\ld be *os5 f among ! intimate fri5ds ( ! deceas$1 & %\ld correspond to him 9 age & g5]al "*4 ,) reg>d to s5d+ fl[]s1 ! wi%es ( ! family %\ld be consid]$4 ,if y are unc]ta9 ^u ?is po9t1 x is safe to s5d !m4 ,!y %\ld be simple & ta/eful4 ,lett]s ( condol5ce are s5t to ^? 9 b]eavem5t by _! intimate fri5ds4 ,we app5d a few =ms t w be helpful to all p]sons :o wi% to express _! sympa?y ) ! b]eav$4 ,to a ,lady on ! ,dea? ( h] ,husb&4 ,,clevel&1 ,o41 ,june #f1 #ahi-4 ,,de> ,,mrs4 ,,walrod3 ,?\gh ,i "k t no words ( m9e c br+ com=t to y\r sorely tri$ he>t1 yet ,i c n refra9 f writ+ to y to express my deep & he>tfelt sympa?y 9 y\r affliction4 ,kn[+ y\r husb& z intimately z ,i did1 ,i c und]/& :at a bl[ 8 dea? is to y4 ,he 0 a man ^: place w n be easily fill$ 9 ! _w2 h[ impossible to fill x 9 8 home6 ,y are1 ev5 9 y\r loss1 =tunate 9 ?is4 ,he left beh9d him a "n unsulli$1 & :i* %\ld be a priceless legacy to 8 *ildr5 & to y4 ,8 life 0 s pure & 8 ,*ri/ian fai? s und\bt$1 t we may feel ! bless$ assurance t he has gone to ! home prep>$ = ^? :o love & fai?fully s]ve ! ,"l ,jesus4 ,?is %\ld com=t y4 ,y h ! hope ( meet+ him "o day 9 a bett] & a happi] union ?an ! ties t b\nd y "h on e>?4 ,he waits = y1 & reunit$ !re1 y w "k no m p>t+4 ,i pray ,god to temp] y\r affliction & give y /r5g? to endure x4 ,may ,he1 9 ,8 own good "t1 give y ! peace t w enable y to wait ) pati5ce until ,he %all call y to meet y\r lov$ "o 9 heav54 ,s9c]ely y\rs1 ,,walt] ,,bailey4 ,,mrs4 ,,lydia ,,walrod1 ,new ,york4 ,to a ,fri5d on ! ,dea? ( ,h] ,si/]4 ,,g5eva1 ,n4,y41 ,may #d1 #ahi-4 ,,my ,,de> ,,nellie3 ,! melan*oly intellig5ce ( y\r si/]'s dea? has griev$ me m ?an ,i c express1 & ,i beg to r5d] y my he>tfelt sympa?y4 ,truly we live 9 a _w :]e solemn %ad[s are cont9ually fall+ ^u our pa?--%ad[s t tea* u ! insecurity ( all temporal bless+s1 & w>n u t "h !re is no abid+ place4 ,we h1 h[ev] ! bless$ satisfaction ( kn[+ t dea? _c ent] t sph]e to :i* ! dep>t$ are remov$4 ,let hope & fai?1 my de> fri5d1 m+le ) y\r natural sorr[4 ,look to t future :]e ! sund]$ ties ( e>? are reunit$4 ,v s9c]ely y\rs1 ,,s>ah ,,cl>k4 ,to ,,miss ,,nellie ,,b>ton1 ,no4 #d ,beacon ,place1 ,bo/on4 ,to a ,fri5d on ! ,dea? ( ,8 ,bro!r4 ,,*icago1 ,july #ab #ahi-4 ,,de> ,,mr4 ,,ames3 ,9 ! dea? ( y\r bro!r1 y h su/a9$ a mis=tune :i* all :o _h ! pleasure ( kn[+ him c feel+ly e/imate4 ,i condole ) y mo/ s9c]ely on ! sad ev5t1 & if ! sympa?y ( fri5ds c be any consolation "u ! try+ circum/ance1 be assur$ t all :o knew him %>e 9 y\r sorr[ = 8 loss4 ,!re is1 h[ev]1 a high] s\rce ( consolation ?an e>?ly fri5d%ip1 &1 comm5d+ y to t1 ,i rema91 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 ,,j]ome ,c4 ,,hoov]4 ,g4,h4 ,,ames1 ,/4 ,l\is4 ,to a ,fri5d on ! ,dea? ( ,h] ,*ild4 ,,atlanta1 ,ga41 ,novemb] #ag1 #ahi-4 ,,my ,,de> ,,blan*e3 ,i feel t a "m's sorr[ = ! loss ( a belov$ *ild _c be assuag$ by ! commonplaces ( condol5ce1 yet ,i mu/ write a few l9es to assure y ( my he>tfelt sympa?y 9 y\r grief4 ,!re is "o ?+1 h[ev]1 t %\ld s(t5 ! %>pness ( a "m's agony "u su* a b]eavem5t4 ,x is ! reflection t little *ildr5 are pure & guileless1 & t ( su* is ! k+dom ( heav54 ,x is well ) ! *ild4 ,mu* s9 & woe has x escap$4 ,x is treasure laid up 9 a bett] _w1 & ! gate ?r\gh :i* x has pass$ to peace & joy unspeakable is left op5 s t y1 9 due "t1 may foll[4 ,let ?is be y\r consolation4 ,affectionately y\rs1 ,,maud ,,tr[bridge4 ,to ,,mrs4 ,,blan*e ,,norton1 ,new ,hav51 ,conn4 ,to a ,fri5d on a ,sudd5 ,rev]se ( ,=tune4 ,,l\isville1 ,ky41 ,june #e1 #ahi-4 ,,my ,,de> ,,fri5d3 ,hackney$ phrases ( condol5ce nev] yet com=t$ a man 9 ! h\r ( tr\ble1 & ,i am n go+ to try _! effect 9 y\r case4 ,& yet let me say1 9 he>tfelt e>ne/1 t ,i 0 deeply pa9$ to he> ( y\r sudd5 & unexpect$ rev]se ( =tune4 ,mis=tune is v h>d to be>1 :5 x falls ^u "o1 l a fla% ( lightn+ f a cle> sky1 )\t any w>n+4 ,b d n be disc\rag$4 ,:5 ,s5ator ,b5ton saw ! "w ( _m ye>s consum$ 9 t5 m9utes1 he took ! matt] coolly1 w5t to "w aga91 & liv$ long en\gh to repair ! damage4 ,s ,i hope w y4 ,!re is no motto l try aga91 = ^? :om fate has /rick5 d[n4 ,besides1 !re are bett] ?+s ?an weal? ev5 9 ?is _w1 to say no?+ ( ! next1 :]e we %all nei!r buy nor sell4 ,if ,i c be ( any assi/ance to y1 let me "k x1 & ,i w help y z f> z ,i am able4 ,9 ! meantime1 *e] up1 & believe me z ev]1 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 ,,james ,,/]l+4 ,h4,r4 ,,drayton1 ,cov+ton1 ,ky4 ,illu/ration3 ,,%e ,,ent]$ ,,on ,,untr\bl$ ,,re/4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,public ,,places ,illu/ration ,!re is no sur] m>k ( a well-br$ man or woman ?an prop] & dignifi$ conduct 9 public4 ,! truly polite are always quiet1 unobtrusive1 consid]ate ( o!rs1 & c>eful to avoid all manife/ations ( sup]iority or elegance4 ,l\d & boi/]\s talk+1 immod]ate laugh+ & =w>d & pu%+ conduct are always m>ks ( bad bre$+4 ,!y inevitably subject a p]son to ! satirical rem>ks ( ! p]sons ) :om he is ?r[n1 & are p]haps ! sure/ means ( proclaim+ t su* a p]son is n us$ to ! ways ( polite society4 ,etiquette 9 ,*ur*4 ,x is ! duty ( a well-br$ p]son to att5d *ur* regul>ly on ,sunday4 ,9 ent]+ ! *ur* y %\ld pass quietly & delib]ately to y\r pew or seat4 ,walk+ rapidly up ! aisle is sure to di/urb ! congregation4 ,if y are a /rang]1 wait 9 ! l[] "p ( ! aisle until ! sexton or u%]s %[ y a seat1 or y are invit$ to ent] "s pew4 ,a g5tleman %\ld remove 8 hat z soon z he ent]s ! inn] doors ( ! *ur*1 & %\ld n replace x on 8 head aft] s]vice until he has rea*$ ! out] ve/ibule4 ,9 accompany+ a lady to *ur*1 pass up ! aisle by h] side1 op5 ! pew door = h]1 all[ h] to ent] fir/1 & !n ent] & seat y\rself beside h]4 ,%\ld a lady desire to ent] a pew 9 :i* y are sitt+ next ! door1 rise1 /ep out into ! aisle1 & all[ h] to ent]4 ,once 9 *ur*1 obs]ve ! mo/ respectful sil5ce except :5 jo9+ 9 ! wor%ip4 ,:isp]+ or laugh+ be=e ! s]vice beg9s1 or dur+ s]vice1 is highly improp]4 ,:5 ! wor%ip is ov]1 leave ! sacr$ edifice quietly & delib]ately4 ,y may *at ) y\r fri5ds 9 ! ve/ibule1 b n 9 ! hall ( wor%ip4 ,rememb]1 ! *ur* is ! h\se ( ,god4 ,%\ld y see a /rang] /&+ 9 ! aisle1 unnotic$ by ! sexton or u%]1 quietly invite him into y\r pew4 ,y %\ld see t a /rang] 9 y\r pew is provid$ ) ! books necess>y to enable him to jo9 9 ! s]vice4 ,if he does n "k h[ to use !m1 assi/ him z quietly z possible4 ,:]e !re are n books en\gh = ! sep>ate use ( ea* p]son1 y may %>e y\rs ) an occupant ( y\r pew4 ,9 att5d+ a *ur* ( a diff]5t d5om9ation f y\r own y %\ld c>efully obs]ve ! outw>d =ms ( wor%ip4 ,/& up :5 ! congregation d1 & kneel ) !m4 ,a ,prote/ant att5d+ a ,roman ,ca?olic *ur* %\ld be c>eful to d ?is4 ,x involves no sacrifice ( pr9ciple1 & a failure to d s is a m>k ( bad bre$+4 ,:atev] ! d5om9ation1 ! *ur* is devot$ to ! wor%ip ( ,god4 ,y\r rev]5ce is to ,him--n to ! m9i/]s :o conduct ! wor%ip4 ,to be late at *ur* is an (f5ce aga9/ good mann]s4 ,g5tlem5 w n congregate 9 gr\ps 9 front ( a *ur*1 & />e at ! ladies z !y pass out4 ,9 receiv+ ! ,holy ,communion bo? h&s %\ld be unglov$4 ,etiquette ( ,fairs4 ,fairs are g5]ally giv5 9 aid ( a *ur* or "s *>itable purpose4 ,at su* fairs ladies s]ve ! tables at :i* articles are (f]$ = sale4 ,ladies %\ld n use unfair or unladylike means to sell _! w>es4 ,d n importune a g5tleman to buy ( y2 & d n *>ge an extortionate price = a trifl+ article4 ,a "y man may n h ! c\rage to refuse to buy ( a lady acqua9tance2 b 8 pur*ase may be beyond 8 means1 & may involve him 9 s]i\s emb>rassm5t4 ,visitors to a fair %\ld make no comm5ts ^u ! "* or quality ( ! articles (f]$1 unless !y c (f] s9c]e praise4 ,d n dispute ! price ( an article (f]$ = sale4 ,if y _c af=d to buy x1 decl9e x frankly4 ,if y c1 pay ! sum ask$1 al?\gh y may ?9k x exorbitant1 & make no comm5t4 ,a g5tleman mu/ remove 8 hat ^u ent]+ ! room 9 :i* a fair is held1 al?\gh x be a public hall1 & rema9 uncov]$ :ile 9 ! room4 ,flirt+1 l\d or boi/]\s talk+ or laugh+1 & conspicu\s conduct1 are m>ks ( bad bre$+4 ,:5 a pur*as] (f]s a sum l>g] ?an ! price ask$ = ! article1 return ! *ange promptly4 ,"s ?\ghtless "y ladies consid] x a /roke ( bus9ess to reta9 ! :ole am\nt1 kn[+ t a g5tleman w n insi/ ^u ! return ( ! *ange4 ,to d ?is is simply to be guilty ( an act ( gross ill-bre$+4 ,a lady may accept any donation ( money a g5tleman may wi% to make at h] table4 ,! gift is to ! *>ity1 n to h]2 & ! g5tleman pays h] a delicate complim5t 9 mak+ h] ! means ( increas+ ! receipts ( ! fair4 ,etiquette ( ,%opp+4 ,9 visit+ a /ore = ! purpose ( exam9+ ! goods or mak+ pur*ases1 conduct y\rself ) c\rtesy & amiability4 ,speak to ! cl]ks & employs ( ! /ore ) c\rtesy & k9dness4 ,d n ord] !m to %[ y any?+4 ,reque/ !m to d s 9 a polite & ladylike or g5tlemanly mann]4 ,give !m no m tr\ble ?an is necess>y1 & express y\r ?anks = ! att5tions !y may %[ y4 ,9 leav+ _! c\nt]1 say pleasantly1 ,good-morn+1 or ,good-day4 ,by treat+ ! employs ( a /ore ) c\rtesy1 y w r5d] y\r pres5ce !re1 welcome1 & w receive all ! att5tion su* conduct m]its4 ,%\ld y f9d ano!r p]son exam9+ a piece ( goods1 d n take hold ( x4 ,wait until x is laid d[n1 & !n make y\r exam9ation4 ,to attempt to beat d[n ! price ( an article is rude4 ,9 ! be/ conduct$ /ores ! price ( ! goods is fix$1 & ! salesm5 are n all[$ to *ange x4 ,if ! price does n suit y1 y are n oblig$ to buy1 b c g else:]e4 ,pu%+ or cr[d+ at a c\nt]1 or ! indulg5ce 9 p]sonal rem>ks1 h&l+ ! goods 9 a c>eless mann]1 or s r\ghly z to injure !m1 l\ng+ ^u ! c\nt]1 or talk+ 9 a l\d voice1 are m>ks ( bad bre$+4 ,nev] express y\r op9ion ab\t an article ano!r is pur*as+1 unless ask$ to d s4 ,to say to a cu/om] ab\t to make a pur*ase t ! article c be b\ght *eap] at ano!r /ore1 is to (f] a gratuit\s insult to ! cl]k mak+ ! sale4 ,y %\ld nev] ask or expect a cl]k engag$ 9 wait+ ^u a cu/om] to leave t p]son & att5d to y4 ,wait pati5tly = y\r turn4 ,x is rude to make unfavorable comp>isons betwe5 ! goods y are exam9+ & ^? ( ano!r /ore4 ,h y\r p>cels s5t1 & s avoid ! fatigue ( c>ry+ !m4 ,x is be/ to buy = ca%4 ,y c always buy *eap] 9 ?is way4 ,if y make bills1 h[ev]1 pay !m promptly4 ,make no bill y are n sure ( pay+ at ! "t promis$ by y4 ,avoid debt z ! greate/ curse ( life4 ,etiquette ( ! ,!atre1 ,op]a & ,conc]t4 ,a g5tleman1 desir+ a lady to accompany him to ! op]a1 !atre1 or o!r place ( amusem5t1 mu/ s5d h] a writt5 invitation n lat] ?an ! day previ\s to ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,x mu/ be writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 ^u :ite note-pap] ( ! be/ quality1 ) an envelope to mat*4 ,! lady mu/ s5d h] reply imm$iately1 s t %\ld %e be unable to accept1 ! g5tleman may secure ano!r companion4 ,%\ld ! lady accept ! invitation1 ! g5tleman mu/ secure ! be/ seats )9 8 means4 ,to ask a lady to accompany y to a place ( amusem5t1 & incur ! risk ( be+ oblig$ to /& dur+ ! p]=mance1 is to be inexcusably rude to h]4 ,%\ld ! dem& = seats be s great t y _c secure !m1 in=m h] at once1 & propose ano!r occasion :5 y c make ?is provision = h] com=t4 ,9 ent]+ ! hall 9 :i* ! ent]ta9m5t is giv51 a g5tleman %\ld walk by ! side ( ! lady until ! seat is rea*$4 ,if ! wid? ( ! aisle is n suffici5t to all[ ?is1 he %\ld prec$e h]4 ,z a rule1 he %\ld take ! out] seat2 b if ?is is ! be/ = see+ or he>+1 x belongs to ! lady4 ,! habit ( leav+ ladies alone dur+ ! waits1 & go+ out to get a dr9k1 or to speak to a fri5d1 is indicative ( bad mann]s4 ,a g5tleman escort+ a lady to a place ( amusem5t is b\nd to rema9 by h] side to ! end ( ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,betwe5 ! ,acts4 ,at ! op]a x is cu/om>y = ladies & g5tlem5 to leave _! seats1 & prom5ade 9 ! lobbies or foy] ( ! h\se dur+ ! int]vals betwe5 ! acts4 ,! g5tleman %\ld always invite ! lady to d s4 ,%\ld %e decl9e1 he is b\nd to rema9 ) h]4 ,a g5tleman accompany+ a lady is n b\nd to give up 8 seat to ano!r lady4 ,8 duty is solely to ! lady he accompanies4 ,he _c tell at :at mom5t %e may ne$ 8 s]vices1 & mu/ rema9 :]e %e c comm& !m4 ,x is rude to :isp] or talk dur+ a p]=mance4 ,x is disc\rte\s to ! p]=m]s1 & annoy+ to ^? ( ! audi5ce ar\nd y1 :o desire to enjoy ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,to seek to draw att5tion to y\rself at a place ( amusem5t is simply vulg>4 ,x is 9 especial bad ta/e = lov]s to indulge 9 any affectionate demon/rations at su* places4 ,a g5tleman mu/ see t ! lady accompany+ him is provid$ ) a programme4 ,if at ! op]a1 he mu/ also provide h] ) a libretto4 ,applause is ! j due ( ! des]v+ actor1 & %\ld be giv5 lib]ally4 ,applaud by clapp+ ! h&s1 & n by /amp+ or kick+ ) ! feet4 ,^u escort+ ! lady back to h] home1 ! g5tleman %\ld ask p]mission to call ^u h] ! next day1 :i* reque/ %e %\ld grant4 ,%e %\ld1 9 h] own sweet way1 cause him to feel t he has conf]r$ a g5u9e pleasure ^u h] by 8 invitation4 ,a g5tleman :o c af=d x %\ld always provide a c>riage on su* occasions4 ,if 8 means d n p]mit ?is1 he %\ld n emb>rass himself by assum+ ! exp5se4 ,if ! ev5+ be /ormy1 he %\ld n expect ! lady to v5ture out )\t a c>riage4 ,a g5tleman %\ld call at ! lady's h\se 9 full "t to all[ !m to rea* _! de/9ation be=e ! comm5cem5t ( ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,illu/ration ,,walk+1 ,,rid+1 ,,boat+1 ,,driv+4 ,illu/ration ,y\r conduct on ! /reet %\ld always be mode/ & dignifi$4 ,l\d & boi/]\s conv]sation or laught] & all undue livel9ess are improp] 9 public1 especially 9 a lady4 ,:5 walk+ on ! /reet d n p]mit y\rself to be s abs5t-m9d$ z to fail to recognize y\r fri5ds4 ,walk erect & ) dignity1 & d n g along read+ a book or a newspap]4 ,%\ld y /op to speak to a fri5d1 )draw to ! side ( ! walk ) him1 t y may n int]rupt ! pass+ ( o!rs4 ,%\ld y\r fri5d h a /rang] ) him1 apologize to ! /rang] = ! int]ruption4 ,y mu/ nev] leave y\r fri5d ) :om y are walk+ to speak to ano!r )\t fir/ ask+ him to excuse y4 ,9 walk+ ) a lady on ! /reet1 give h] ! inn] side ( ! walk1 unless ! outside is ! saf] "p1 9 :i* case %e is entitl$ to x4 ,y\r arm %\ld n be giv5 to any lady except y\r wife or a ne> relative1 or a v old lady1 dur+ ! day1 unless h] com=t or safety require x4 ,at night ! arm %\ld always be (f]$2 also 9 asc5d+ ! /eps ( a public build+4 ,a g5tleman %\ld accommodate 8 walk to t ( a lady1 or an eld]ly or delicate p]son4 ,:5 a lady ) :om a g5tleman is walk+ wi%es to ent] a /ore1 he %\ld op5 ! door1 p]mit h] to pass 9 fir/1 if practicable1 foll[ h]1 & close ! door4 ,he %\ld always r+ door bells or rap at a door = h]4 ,a g5tleman %\ld nev] pass 9 front ( a lady1 unless absolutely necess>y1 & %\ld !n apologize = s do+4 ,%\ld a lady ask in=mation ( a g5tleman on ! /reet1 he mu/ raise 8 hat1 b[1 & give ! desir$ in=mation4 ,if unable to d s1 he mu/ b[ & c\rte\sly express 8 regrets4 ,9 cross+ ! /reet1 a lady %\ld gracefully raise h] dress a little above h] ankle ) "o h&4 ,to raise ! dress ) bo? h&s is vulg>1 except 9 places :]e ! mud is v deep4 ,a g5tleman meet+ a lady acqua9tance on ! /reet %\ld n presume to jo9 h] 9 h] walk )\t fir/ ask+ h] p]mission4 ,x may n be agreeable to h]1 or conv5i5t t h] mo/ intimate fri5d %\ld jo9 h]4 ,%e has ! "r1 aft] grant+ su* p]mission1 to excuse h]self & leave ! g5tleman :5ev] %e may see fit2 & a g5tleman w nev] take (f5se at ! ex]cise ( su* a "r4 ,if x is inconv5i5t = a lady to accept ! g5tleman's company1 %e %\ld frankly say s1 m5tion+ "s reason1 & excus+ h]self ) fri5dly c\rtesy4 ,g5tlem5 give place to ladies1 & to g5tlem5 accompany+ ladies1 9 cross+ ! /reet4 ,if y h any?+ to say to a lady :om y may happ5 to meet 9 ! /reet1 h[ev] intimate y may be1 d n /op h]1 b turn r\nd & walk 9 company2 y c take leave at ! end ( ! /reet4 ,etiquette ( ! ,/reet4 ,:5 y are pass+ 9 ! /reet1 & see com+ t[>d y a p]son ( y\r acqua9tance1 :e!r a lady or an eld]ly p]son1 y %\ld (f] !m ! wall--t is to say1 ! side next ! h\ses4 ,if a c>riage %\ld happ5 to /op 9 su* a mann] z to leave only a n>r[ passage betwe5 x & ! h\ses1 bew>e ( elb[+ & rudely cr[d+ ! pass5g]s1 ) a view to get by m exp$iti\sly4 ,wait y\r turn1 &1 if any ( ! p]sons be=e m5tion$ come up1 y %\ld edge up to ! wall1 9 ord] to give !m ! place4 ,!y also1 z !y pass1 %\ld b[ politely to y4 ,:5 two g5tlem5 accompany a lady 9 a walk1 %e %\ld place h]self betwe5 !m1 & n unduly favor ei!r4 ,a g5tleman meet+ a lady fri5d accompani$ by ano!r g5tleman %\ld n jo9 h] unless satisfi$ t 8 pres5ce is agreeable to bo? p>ties4 ,a lady %\ld n v5ture out ^u ! /reet alone aft] d>k4 ,by s do+ %e compromises h] dignity1 & exposes h]self to indignity at ! h&s ( ! r\gh] class4 ,:5 a lady passes ! ev5+ ) a fri5d1 %e %\ld make arrangem5ts be=eh& = "s "o to come = h] at a /at$ h\r4 ,if ?is _c be done1 or if ! escort fails to come1 %e %\ld c\rte\sly ask ! ho/ to p]mit a s]vant to accompany h] home4 ,a m>ri$ lady may1 if circum/ances r5d] x necess>y1 return home alone4 ,an unm>ri$ lady %\ld nev] d s4 ,%\ld y\r ho/ (f] to accompany y himself1 decl9e 8 (f]1 politely /at+ t y d n wi% to give him s mu* tr\ble2 b %\ld he insi/ ^u x1 accept 8 escort4 ,9 ! case ( a m>ri$ lady1 ! husb& %\ld always come = h]4 ,he is an ill-br$ fell[ :o refuses to r5d] 8 wife su* att5tion4 ,a lady1 ^u arriv+ at h] home1 %\ld always dismiss h] escort ) ?anks4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n ent] ! h\se1 al?\gh invit$ by ! lady to d s1 unless = "s especial reason4 ,evad+ a ,long ,talk4 ,nev] (f] to %ake h&s ) a lady 9 ! /reet if y h on d>k gloves z y may soil h] :ite ones4 ,if1 :5 on y\r way to fulfil an engagem5t1 a fri5d /ops y 9 ! /reet1 y may1 )\t committ+ any brea* ( etiquette1 tell him ( y\r appo9tm5t1 & release y\rself f a long talk2 b d s 9 a c\rte\s mann]1 express+ regret = ! necessity4 ,a lady does n =m acqua9tances ^u ! /reet1 or seek to attract ! att5tion ( ! o!r sex1 or ( p]sons ( h] own sex4 ,h] conduct is always mode/ & unassum+4 ,nei!r does a lady dem& s]vices or favors f g5tlem54 ,%e accepts !m graci\sly1 always express+ h] ?anks4 ,a g5tleman w n /& on ! /reet corn]s1 or 9 hotel doorways1 or club w9d[s1 & gaze imp]t95tly at ladies z !y pass by4 ,?is is ! exclusive bus9ess ( loaf]s1 ^u :i* well-br$ m5 w n trespass4 ,d n %\t to y\r acqua9tances f ! opposite side ( ! /reet4 ,b[1 or wave y\r h&1 or make any c\rte\s motion2 b d x quietly & ) dignity4 ,if y wi% to speak to !m1 cross ! /reet1 signall+ to !m y\r desire4 ,a lady walk+ ) two g5tlem5 %\ld n take an arm ( ea*2 nei!r %\ld a g5tleman walk ) a lady on ea* arm1 unless at night1 9 com+ f a place ( amusem5t or pass+ ?r\gh a cr[d4 ,9 walk+ ) a lady :o has y\r arm1 %\ld y h to cross ! /reet1 d n dis5gage y\r arm & g ar\nd ^u ! outside unless ! lady's com=t r5d]s x necess>y4 ,9 walk+ ) a lady1 :]e x is necess>y = y to proce$ s+ly1 always g be=e h]4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,rid+4 ,! etiquette ( rid+ is v exact & important4 ,rememb] t y\r left :5 9 ! saddle is call$ ! ne>-side1 & y\r "r ! (f-side1 & t y always m\nt on ! ne>-side4 ,9 do+ ?is1 put y\r left foot 9 ! /irrup2 y\r left h& on ! saddle2 !n1 z y take a spr+1 ?r[ y\r "r leg ov] ! animal's back4 ,rememb]1 also1 t ! rule ( ! road1 bo? 9 rid+ & driv+1 is1 t y keep to ! "r4 ,nev] appe> 9 public on horseback unless y h ma/]$ ! inelegancies att5d+ a fir/ appe>ance 9 ! saddle1 :i* y %\ld d at a rid+-s*ool4 ,a novice makes an exhibition ( himself1 & br+s ridicule on 8 fri5ds4 ,hav+ got a seat by a little practice1 be> 9 m9d ! advice convey$ 9 ! old rhyme-- ,keep up y\r head & y\r he>t1 ,y\r h&s & y\r heels keep d[n1 ,press y\r knees close to y\r horse's sides ,& y\r elb[s close to y\r own4 ,9 rid+ ) ladies1 recollect t x is y\r duty to see !m 9 _! saddles be=e y m\nt4 ,& ! assi/ance !y require mu/ n be r5d]$ by a groom2 y mu/ assi/ !m y\rself4 ,! lady w place h]self on ! ne> side ( ! horse1 h] skirt ga!r$ up 9 h] left h&1 h] "r on ! pommel1 keep+ h] face t[>d ! horse's head4 ,y /& at its %\ld]1 fac+ h]1 & /oop+1 hold y\r h& s t %e may place h] left foot 9 x2 !n lift x z %e spr+s1 s z to aid h]1 b n to give su* an impetus t1 l vault+ ambition1 %e loses h] balance1 & falls o' ! o!r side4 ,next1 put h] foot 9 ! /irrup & smoo? ! skirt ( h] habit--!n y are at lib]ty to m\nt y\rself4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,prop] ,,position ,,( ,a ,,lady ,,& ,,g5tleman ,,9 ,,rid+4 ,keep to ! "r ( ! lady or any ladies rid+ ) y4 ,op5 all gates & pay all tolls on ! road4 ,nev]1 "u any circum/ances1 all[ a lady to att5d to any duty ( ?is k9d :ile "u y\r escort4 ,y mu/ anticipate h] e ne$1 & provide = x2 mak+ h] com=t y\r fir/ ?\ght4 ,if y meet fri5ds on horseback1 d n turn back ) !m2 if y ov]take !m1 d n ?ru/ y\r company ^u !m unless y feel assur$ t x is agreeable to !m = y to d s4 ,if y are on horseback & meet a lady :o is walk+1 & ) :om y wi% to speak1 dism\nt = t purpose1 & lead y\r horse4 ,to put h] to ! inconv5i5ce ( /ra9+ aft] & %\t+ to y1 w\ld be a gross brea* ( mann]s4 ,if y ent] a c>riage ) a lady1 let h] fir/ take h] place on ! seat fac+ ! horses4 ,ent] a c>riage s t y\r back is t[>d ! seat y are to occupy2 y w ?us avoid turn+ r\nd 9 ! c>riage1 :i* is awkw>d4 ,take c>e t y d n trample on ! ladies' dresses1 or %ut !m 9 z y close ! door4 ,illu/ration3 ,,mode ,,( ,,assi/+ ,a ,,lady ,,into ,a ,,c>riage4 ,! rule 9 all cases is ?is3 y quit ! c>riage fir/ & h& ! lady out4 ,y may prop]ly spe$ y\r horse 9 driv+ ) a lady1 b rememb] t x is vulg> to drive too fa/2 x sugge/s ! idea ( y\r hav+ hir$ ! trap f a liv]y /able1 & is 9 e respect ung5tlemanly4 ,! c>riage or buggy %\ld be driv5 close to ! sidewalk1 & ! horses turn$ f ! sidewalk1 s z to spread ! :eels away f ! /ep4 ,! g5tleman %\ld !n alight1 quiet ! horses1 & hold ! re9s 9 8 "r h& z a gu>d aga9/ accid5ts4 ,! lady %\ld1 9 leav+ ! c>riage1 place h] h&s on ! g5tleman's %\ld]s1 :ile he %\ld place 8 "u h] elb[s4 ,!n1 ) 8 assi/ance1 %e %\ld spr+ lightly to ! pavem5t1 pass+ him on 8 left side to avoid ! re9s :i* he holds 9 8 "r4 ,9 driv+1 ! g5tleman mu/ place a lady on 8 left4 ,?is leaves 8 "r arm free to manage 8 horses4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n drive fa/ if ! lady accompany+ him is timid1 or objects to x4 ,he %\ld consult h] wi%es 9 all ?+s1 & take no risks1 z he is responsible = h] safety4 ,above all1 he %\ld nev] race ) ano!r team4 ,su* conduct is disrespectful to ! lady :o accompanies him4 ,,! ,,etiquette ,,( ,,boat+4 ,!re are c]ta9 cu/oms & usages 9 connection ) ?is int]e/+ pa/ime t des]ve to be not$ & obs]v$4 ,g5tlem5 unaccu/om$ to ! managem5t ( a boat %\ld nev] v5ture out ) ladies4 ,to d s is foolh>dy1 if n crim9al4 ,great c>e %\ld be tak5 n to ov]load a boat4 ,! frequ5t boat+ accid5ts t happ5 are 9 mo/ in/ances due ei!r to ov]load+1 or to ! inexp]i5ce ( ! man at ! o>s4 ,m5 :o _c swim %\ld nev] take ladies ^u ! wat]4 ,assi/+ ,ladies to ,_! ,seats4 ,:5 ! g5tlem5 are go+ out ) ! ladies1 "o ( !m /eps into ! boat & helps ! ladies 9 & seats !m1 ! o!r h&+ !m d[n f ! bank or pi]4 ,:5 ! ladies h com=tably dispos$ !mselves1 & n be=e1 ! boat may be %ov$ (f4 ,great c>e mu/ be tak5 n to spla% ! ladies1 ei!r 9 fir/ dipp+ ! o>s or subsequ5tly4 ,nei!r %\ld any?+ be done to cause !m fright4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,boat+ ,,p>ty4 ,:o ,%\ld ,r[4 ,if a fri5d is ) y1 he mu/ be giv5 ! pref]5ce ( seats4 ,y mu/ ask him to r[ /roke1 z t is ! place ( honor4 ,if y _c r[1 d n pret5d y c4 ,say "r out t y c't1 & ?us settle x1 consol+ y\rself ) ! pleasant reflection t y\r confession entitles y to a seat by ! side ( ! ladies & relieves y f ! possibility ( dr[n+ ! :ole p>ty4 ,a ,popul> ,ex]cise4 ,r[+ has become a great fad among ! ladies 9 rec5t ye>s1 & x is to be comm5d$ z a :olesome & vigor\s ex]cise4 ,b x %\ld be indulg$ only on quiet riv]s or on private lakes4 ,if ladies v5ture into m frequ5t$ wat]s1 !y mu/ at lea/ h ! protection ( a g5tleman4 ,& 9 all cases !y mu/ we> co/umes prop] = ! ex]cise1 :i* requires fre$om ( movem5t 9 e "p4 ,corsets %\ld be left at home1 & a good pair ( /\t boots %\ld complete an equipm5t 9 :i* a skirt b>ely t\*+ ! gr\nd1 a flannel %irt & a sailor hat are ! lead+ features4 ,r[+ gloves %\ld protect ! h&s4 ,! ord9>y r[+ co/ume = g5tlem5 is :ite flannel tr\s]s1 :ite r[+ j]sey & a /raw hat4 ,peajackets are worn :5 _! own]s are n absolutely employ$ 9 pull+ ! o>4 ,illu/ration ,bicycle ,etiquette ,illu/ration ,cycl+ hav+ tak5 su* a mighty grasp ^u ! l&1 x has naturally foll[$ t an etiquette ( cycl+ %\ld be e/abli%$1 & t x %\ld be well e/abli%$ & rigidly reg>d$ by society4 ,!re are ! details ( meet+1 m\nt+1 "r ( way & v>i\s o!r po9ts :i* are c>efully obs]v$ & give ! desir$ air ( fa%ionable righte\sness1 )\t :i*1 = _m p1 ! pleasure ( meet+ 9 a social way on "o's :eel w\ld be b leg5d>y4 ,x is di/9ctly und]/ood 9 ! fir/ place t cycl+ is ! correct ^w2 ! up-to-date woman d>es n speak ( bicycl+ nor ( :eel+4 ,a ,cycl]'s ,guide4 ,if 9 t[n1 ! e>ly h\rs ( ! morn+ are *os5 = a ride ?r\gh ! p>k4 ,?is is on ! same pr9ciple t x is consid]$ good =m = a "y woman to drive only 9 ! morn+1 t is1 :5 %e h]self is ! :ip4 ,9 ! c\ntry ! rules1 bo? z reg>ds cycl+ & driv+1 are n z rigid4 ,! maid51 h[ev]1 :o is a /ickl] = =m1 does all h] cycl+ 9 ! h\rs :i* come be=e noon--unless !re be a special meet1 a bicycle tea1 = in/ance1 or a sp9 by moonlight4 ,nei!r is x correct = a "y woman to ride unaccompani$4 ,9 ! matt] ( *ap]ons we are becom+ almo/ z rigid z ! ,fr5*1 :o sc>cely all[ a "y girl to cross ! /reet1 to say no?+ ( %opp+ or call+1 )\t be+ accompani$ by an eld] woman1 h] "m1 relative1 or a fri5d1 z a *ap]on4 ,dur+ ! pa/ few ye>s !re has be5 a t5d5cy 9 ,am]ica t[>d a clos] imitation ( all ,fr5* etiquette :i* has br\ght 9 its tra9 a /rict con/ruction ( ! duties ( a *ap]on4 ,maids ,d ,duty4 ,! unm>ri$ woman :o cycles mu/ be *ap]on$ by a m>ri$ lady--z e "o rides n[adays1 ?is is an affair easily manag$4 ,nei!r mu/ ! m>ri$ woman ride alone2 fail+ a male escort1 %e is foll[$ by a groom or a maid4 ,a woman is v =tunate if among h] m5 or wom5 s]vants1 "o kn[s h[ to ride a bicycle4 ,ladies occasionally g to ! exp5se ( hav+ a s]vant tra9$ 9 ! art4 ,a ,man's ,duty4 ,if "o possesses su* a commodity z a bro!r or a husb&1 he c always be made useful on a cycl+ excursion4 ,nev] is a man bett] able to %[ = :at purpose he 0 made ?an ^u su* occasions4 ,! man's duty to ! woman :o rides might be made ! text = a long s]mon2 b long s]mons are nev] popul>2 !re=e1 x may be bett] to /ate briefly t he mu/ always be on ! al]t to assi/ 8 fair companion 9 e way 9 8 p[]--he mu/ be clev] en\gh to repair any slight damage to h] ma*9e :i* may occur en r\te1 he mu/ assi/ h] 9 m\nt+ & dism\nt+1 pick h] up if %e has a tumble1 & make himself g5]ally useful & incid5tally ornam5tal & agreeable4 ,he rides at h] left 9 ord] to give h] ! m gu>d$ place1 z ! rule ( ! road 9 meet+ o!r cycl]s is ! same z t = a c>riage1 to turn to ! "r4 ,9 ,engl&1 ! rev]se is ! case4 ,assi/+ ! ,lady4 ,9 m\nt+1 ! g5tleman :o is accompany+ a lady holds h] :eel2 %e /&s on ! left side ( ! ma*9e & puts h] "r foot across ! frame to ! "r p$al1 :i* at ! "t mu/ be up2 pu%+ ! "r p$al causes ! ma*9e to />t & !n ) ! left foot 9 place1 ! rid] />ts ahead--sl[ly at fir/1 9 ord] to give h] cavali] "t to m\nt 8 :eel1 :i* he w d 9 ! briefe/ "t possible4 ,:5 ! end ( ! ride is rea*$1 ! man quickly dism\nts & is at 8 companion's side to assi/ h]1 %e1 9 ! meantime1 assi/+ h]self z mu* z possible4 ,?is is done--t is1 dism\nt+ 9 ! mo/ approv$ /yle--by rid+ sl[ly1 & :5 ! left p$al is on ! rise1 ! weight ( ! body is ?r[n on x1 ! "r foot is cross$ ov] ! frame ( ! ma*9e1 &1 ) an assi/+ h&1 ! rid] easily /eps to ! gr\nd4 ,9 meet+ a p>ty ( cycli/s :o are kn[n to ea* o!r & desire to /op = a p>ley1 x is consid]$ ! prop] ?+ = ! m5 ( ! p>ty to dism\nt :ile 9 conv]sation ) ! ladies4 ,z to ! furni%+s ( ! bicycle1 to be really complete1 x mu/ be fitt$ out ) a clock & a bell1 luggage c>ri] & a cyclomet]1 ! latt] be+ an absolute s9e qua non to ! woman :o c>es = records4 ,f five to six lessons are always consid]$ necess>y be=e "o c ma/] ev5 ! details ( rid+4 ,on ! ,road4 ,on ! road ! woman :o wi%es to ride la mode has to "k a numb] ( little ?+s t are ov]look$ by ano!r woman1 j z ! sm>t set h a code = rid+ & driv+ t is z inexorable z t !y %\ld n eat ) _! knives or put sug> on oy/]s4 ,society insi/s on an upright position1 )1 ( c\rse1 no attempt at rac+ pace4 ,x also fr[ns ^u con/ant r++ ( ! bell--t w d = ! vulg> h]d :o delight 9 noise4 ,! well-in=m$ :eelwoman keeps eye & e> al]t & t\*es h] bell r>ely4 ,%e dresses da9tily & inconspicu\sly--effaces h]self1 9 fact1 z mu* 9 ?is ex]cise z %e does 9 all public places4 ,v gallant escorts use a t[rope :5 accompany+ a lady on a :eel+ sp94 ,^! are manag$ 9 v>i\s ways2 "o consi/s ( an ,india-rubb] door-spr+ j /rong en\gh to /ret* a little ) ! /ra91 & ab\t six feet ( %ade cord4 ,"o end is atta*$ to ! lady's :eel at ! lamp bracket or brake rod by a spr+ swivel1 & ! o!r end is hook$ to ! escort's h&le b> 9 su* a way t he c set x free 9 a mom5t1 if necess>y4 ,:5 he has f9i%$ t[+ he drops back to ! lady's side1 hang+ ! loose end ( ! cord ov] h] %\ld]1 to be ready = ! next hill4 ,a g5tle pull t is a bagatelle to a /rong rid] is ( great assi/ance to a weak "o up hill or aga9/ a /rong w9d4 ,= ,protection ,aga9/ ,dogs4 ,e bicycli/ 9 ! l& w rise up & call ! inv5tor ( ! ammonia gun = dogs bless$4 ,no?+ is m annoy+ to ! rid] ?an to h a mongrel dog b>k+ at 8 p$als & scurry+ across 8 pa?way 9 su* close proximity to ! front :eel z to be a con/ant rem9d] ( a possible head]4 ,! gun is calculat$ to make an annoy+ dog sneeze & sniff away all future ambitions to inve/igate ! pace ( a rid]4 ,x is said to be a p]fect in/rum5t 9 e way4 ,! advantages enum]at$ = x are3 ,positively w n leak2 has no spr+ to press or caps to remove1 & w %oot f five to twelve times f fifte5 to ?irty feet ) "o load+4 ,a ,few ,don'ts = ,cycl]s4 ,don't try to raise y\r hat to ! pass+ bloom] until y become an exp]t 9 guid+ y\r :eel4 ,don't buy a bicycle ) d[n-curve h&les4 ,x is impossible to sit erect & hold t k9d ( a h&le4 ,don't g out on a bicycle we>+ a tail coat unless y enjoy mak+ a ridicul\s %[ ( y\rself4 ,don't travel )\t a jacket or loose wrap1 to be worn :ile re/+4 ,a summ] cold is a /ubborn ?+4 ,don't all[ a ta/e = a bit ( color 9 y\r make-up to tempt y to we>+ a r$ or o!r gay-color$ cap4 ,don't get (f ! old gag ab\t t tir$ feel+ e "t y /op by ! roadside = a little brea?+ spell4 ,don't abs5t y\rself f *ur* to g :eel+1 z y & y\r bicycle are welcome at mo/ h\ses ( wor%ip4 ,don't leave y\r bicycle 9 ! l[] hallway ( y\r flat-h\se = ! o!r t5ants to fall ov] 9 ! d>k4 ,don't believe ! f>m] boy :o says t x is two miles to ! next t[n4 ,x may be two1 f\r1 six or twelve4 ,don't be m ?an an h\r pass+ a giv5 po9t1 al?\gh :eel+ on a du/y road is hone/ly conducive to ?ir/4 ,don't smile at ! figure o!rs cut a/ride _! :eels1 z x is n giv5 y to see y\rself z o!rs see y4 ,don't coa/ d[n a /range hill ) a curve at its bottom4 ,!re is no tell+ :at y w meet :5 x is too late4 ,don't ride t5 miles at a scor*+ pace1 !n dr9k cold wat] & lie ar\nd on ! grass1 unless y are tir$ ( life4 ,don't try to c>ry y\r bike d[n/airs "u y\r arm4 ,put x on y\r %\ld]1 or y w come to di/ress4 ,don't laugh ! wat*ful copp] to scorn because y\r lamp is burn+ brightly4 ,he c af=d to wait 8 "t to laugh4 ,don't dress immode/ly or 9 ! co/ume ( a track spr9t]4 ,sweat]s worn l a ,*9aman's bl\se are almo/ indec5t4 ,don't =get t ! mod]n law ( ! road requires y to turn out to ! "r 9 pass+ ano!r bicycle or o!r vehicle4 ,wom5's ,bicycle ,rides4 ,wom5 :o ride bicycles %\ld make x a law ) !mselves nev] to ride aft] a feel+ ( we>9ess comes ov] !m1 said a well-kn[n physician4 ,i j came f visit+ a woman :o tri$ to ride ar\nd ! city la/ ,sunday4 ,x 0 ! f\r? "t %e _h ev] ridd5 a :eel out ( doors4 ,%e got half way ar\nd1 came home1 9 /reet c>s & a c>riage1 & has be5 sick 9 b$ ev] s9ce4 ,%e ought to be an example to all wom5 :o ride4 ,= ^? :o are beg9n+1 especially1 & 9 a measure = all wom51 !re is a great dang] 9 ov]do+4 ,"s wom5 ride c5turies1 x is true1 b !y are m5 9 /r5g?4 ,no ord9>y woman %\ld />t out be=e kn[+ h[ f> %e is go+4 ,ord9>ily1 ?\gh1 !y ride twice z f> z !y ought4 ,!y />t out & ride away f home until !y get tir$4 ,!n !y h to ride back1 gett+ m & m exhau/$ ) e turn ( ! :eels4 ,no ord9>y woman :o rides once or twice a week %\ld g m ?an t5 miles at a trip4 ,t is p]haps an h\r's ride1 t may be easily ext5d$ to an h\r & a qu>t] be=e t di/ance is cov]$1 & if %e does n feel fre% & 9 a gl[ :5 %e /ops1 %e may be c]ta9 t %e has ridd5 too long4 ,naturally !re is t heal?y tir$ feel+ :i* any "o recognizes aft] a?letic ex]cise1 b x is q diff]5t f & nev] to be mi/ak5 = ! we>9ess :i* comes f too mu* ex]tion & /ra9+ ( ! n]ves & muscles4 ,v few wom5 h ev] be5 injur$ on a bicycle :o kept to ?is rule & limit$ _! rid+ to nom9al di/ances4 ,l5g? ( ! ,ride4 ,?is limit ( di/ance1 :i* is designat$ by ! feel+ ( we>9ess1 is only a little m important ?an ! limit ( spe$ :i* ! female frame is capable ( und]go+ "u heal?y ex]cis+ rules4 ,:e!r a man c ride at full spe$ = a long di/ance & /ill reta9 8 good heal? is a d\btful "q4 ,x is c]ta91 h[ev]1 t no woman c keep up a high rate ( spe$ = ev5 a g5]\s portion ( a mile & n create ! beg9n+ ( injuries4 ,! add$ /r5g? requir$ to increase spe$ ev5 a little aft] a c]ta9 am\nt ( p[] has be5 exp5d$ is out ( all proportion to ! results4 ,!re is no relaxation ( ! muscles betwe5 revolutions ( ! p$als1 nor any let up on ! n]v\s & muscul> /ra9 :ile ! spe$ la/s4 ,! he>t is f> m tax$ ?an "o realizes at ! mom5t1 & t species ( t+l+ or numbness 9 ! n]ves & muscles :i* (t5 results is only a sign t !y h bo? be5 ov]tax$4 ,prop]ly us$1 a :eel is c]ta9ly a promot] ( heal?4 ,x develops muscles t are seldom1 if ev]1 o!rwise us$4 ,x ga9s = wom5 t ideal condition ( ! fle% s priz$ by sculptors & arti/s1 namely1 a firm1 solid tissue :5 ! muscles are flex$1 & a s(tness ( an infant ) muscul> relaxation4 ,x develops ! entire torso & limbs1 x r5d]s "o's n]ves l /eel & is a spl5did antidote = heada*es4 ,an exce$+ly sm>t & yet ?or\ghly practical cycl+ co/ume is kn[n z ! ,londond]ry1 & is made 9 gray-gre5 hopsack1 a s(t fabric :i* l5ds itself admirably to ! full folds ( ! ample knick]bock]s1 :i* =m a mo/ important "p ( ?is co/ume4 ,! ,londond]ry coat is made ) long & v full basques1 :i* =m a k9d ( skirt :5 on ! ma*9e1 & :i*1 nev]!less1 d n int]f]e 9 ! lea/ ) ! rid]'s fre$om ( action4 ,?is coat is prettily braid$ ) black1 & fa/5$ ) big black buttons4 ,x is s arrang$ 9 front t x c be worn ei!r ) a %irt or ov] a d\ble-brea/$ ve/ ( clo? or lea!r4 ,skirts are an ,abom9ation4 ,a r5[n$ lady writ] says3 ,9 ! fir/ place let me condemn ! skirt--n f prejudice1 b f exp]i5ce4 ,skirts1 no matt] h[ light1 h[ trim1 h[ heavy1 are bo? a nuisance & a dang]4 ,a nuisance because !y are always subject to entanglem5t 9 ! :eel2 because !y fly up ) e breeze & motion2 because !y h n ! *ic appe>ance ( ! prop]ly made bloom]1 & because1 if !y are weight$1 l a rid+ habit1 !y make s mu* m to c>ry aga9/ ! w9d4 ,& breeze makes weight4 ,!y are a dang] because ) ! con/ant pump+ ( ! p$als ! knee is requir$ to raise too great a weight2 ?is be>s ^u ! body j bel[ ! back ( ! hips1 giv+ backa*e2 (t5 m s]i\s tr\bles4 ,i w\ldn't we> a skirt4 ,i _h "o torn (f me by ! :eel2 b ,i rode ) !m long en\gh to give a j comp>ison ( ! m]its ( skirts v]sus bloom]s4 ,rid+ suits %\ld be ( f9e1 light weight1 navy blue or black mat]ial1 made ) bloom]s1 & ! bl\se ) tailor-made jacket4 ,i we> ! sweat] myself 9 pref]5ce1 because x is n s apt to leave "o subject to *anges ( temp]ature4 ,! ,alp9e hat ( ,tam ,o',%ant] is au fait = /reet1 ) legg+s to mat* ! bloom]s & jacket1 & l[ %oes made broad on ! ball ( ! foot4 ,all bicycle %oes %\ld be broad on ! ball1 because ! p$al+ is done ) ! ball1 n ) ! "u curve1 z s _m ?9k4 ,doesk9 gloves are be/ = ord9>y rid+4 ,bloom]s %\ld be made to fa/5 at ! left side ( ! back1 :i* leaves room = a pocket on ! "r side4 ,t9t$ legg+s %\ld always mat* ! hat & gloves4 ,tell ! ladies to h _! saddles built high & wide 9 ! back1 slop+ away & d[nw>ds 9 front2 & t if !y p$al prop]ly !re is no reason :y bicycl+ %\ld n be a heal?ful1 moral1 mode/ & p]man5t =m ( ex]cise4 ,=1 m>k x1 %e add$1 z a p>t+ sally1 ! :eel has come to /ay4 ,a ,pace ,indicator4 ,a man :o rides = heal? & pleasure & n to race or score c5turies says t 8 plan is nev] to g s fa/ t he mu/ brea! ?r\gh 8 m\?4 ,z long z 8 no/rils c supply suffici5t air he kn[s t he is n ov]-ex]t+ himself4 ,z soon z he feels an incl9ation to brea! ?r\gh 8 m\? he slack5s 8 pace4 ,don't ,dodge a ,bicycle4 ,be=e bicycl+ w ev] become a success a meet+ mu/ be call$ = ! purpose ( all[+ ! :eelm5 & ! p$e/rian to arrive at "s und]/&+4 ,i am 9 favor ( a conv5tion or some?+ ( t sort1 said a prom95t :eelman to a report]4 ,z x is n[1 a rid] comes d[n ! /reet & sees ahead ( him at a cross+ a man or woman :o is suppos$ to be end[$ ) reasonable intellig5ce4 ,?is p]son is 9 ! act ( cross+ ! /reet4 ,he looks up1 sees ! rid] com+ & /&s /ill "r 9 ! middle ( ! /reet4 ,( c\rse1 he is m5tally calculat+ 8 *ances = gett+ across safely4 ,9 ! meantime1 ! rid] is gett+ clos] & clos] & is 9 a /udy equally z pr(\nd z to :at ! p]son is go+ to d4 ,! p$e/rian takes a /ep =w>d1 takes ano!r glance up ! /reet1 /ops1 />ts back1 makes an ef=t to rea* ! pavem5t1 /ops aga91 />ts =w>d1 /ops4 ,( c\rse1 by ?is "t ! cycli/ is almo/ at a /&/ill & is also zigzagg+ f "o side to ! o!r1 wait+ & mutt]+4 ,! p$e/rian seems to give up all possibility ( escape1 faces ! rid]1 bo? arms ext5d$1 jumps f "o foot to ! o!r1 & ! two collide4 ,! cycli/ is ?r[n to ! gr\nd1 8 :eel twi/$1 & he gets ! blame4 ,& h[ easily all ?is c be avoid$6 ,let ! p$e/rian1 in/ead ( p]=m+ all ^! try+ evolutions1 m]ely walk along z ?\gh !re 0 no?+ beh9d him1 keep 8 c\rse1 & ! cycli/ w "k :at to d4 ,he w turn 8 :eel to "o side & slide pa/ ) p]fect ease & safety4 ,on ! cross+s let a man walk along z ?\gh !re 7 n a bicycle 9 ! /ate1 & ! :eelman w judge 8 c\rse accord+ly4 ,he has control ( 8 :eel & is z anxi\s n to collide z ! o!r fell[4 ,illu/ration ,,club ,,etiquette4 ,illu/ration ,club life 9 all l>ge cities is becom+ s important a factor ( social life t no book on etiquette w\ld be complete )\t "s notice ( its v>i$ features4 ,! memb]%ip ( ! small] social clubs is *os5 solely = ! purpose ( social enjoym5t1 & !y frequ5tly blackball names t are br\ght up = memb]%ip simply f ! /&po9t ( "s memb] to :om ! "o propos$ may n be p]sonally agreeable4 ,if an applicant is blackball$ once1 8 fri5ds %\ld n p]si/ 9 introduc+ 8 "n aga94 ,9 ! l>g] clubs1 :]e ! memb]s are nev] all ?r[n toge!r at any "o "t1 no "o %\ld blackball a "n f a p]sonal /&po9t4 ,if any "o1 h[ev]1 is aw>e ( "s blemi% 9 ! "* ( ! c&idate = admission1 he has good gr\nds = objection4 ,obs]v+ ! ,rules4 ,a new memb] ( a club %\ld at once acqua9t himself ) ! rules & regulations t gov]n ! organization & gov]n himself accord+ly4 ,! c\rtesy t obta9s 9 ! home is to be obs]v$ 9 ! club-rooms4 ,op9ions ( o!rs %\ld be respect$1 & excit+ discussions1 or di/urb+ topics ( conv]sation1 are to be avoid$ !re1 z !y %\ld be 9 ! home circle4 ,rememb] t e "o has ! same "r to 8 preconceiv$ op9ions z y h to y\rs4 ,treat all books1 pap]s & o!r club prop]ty ) due c>e4 ,nev] take any article away f ! club-h\se4 ,nev] monopolize any "o article to ! exclusion ( o!rs4 ,:5 !re are c]ta9 rooms appo9t$ = smok+1 conf9e y\rself to !m :5 indulg+ 9 ! we$4 ,9 ! read+-room obs]ve ! same respect = ! read]s t y w\ld wi% obs]v$ t[>d y\rself1 only ano!r r5d]+ ( ! ,gold5 ,rule :i* is at ! f\ndation ( all good mann]s4 ,:ile !re conv]se v little1 & t 9 a l[ tone ( voice4 ,d n look ^u ! s]vants ( ! club z y\r private prop]ty1 & nev] s5d !m on p]sonal err&s )\t fir/ obta9+ ! cons5t ( ! manag]4 ,nev] expect undue att5tion f ! wait]s4 ,d n take dogs into club-rooms2 !y are liable to de/roy furniture1 & ev]yone may n appreciate !m z mu* z y d4 ,morn+ dress is worn at ! club4 ,9 ! ev5+ a dress suit may be worn if desir$1 b morn+ co/ume is equally appropriate4 ,hats %\ld be remov$ at lun*eon or d9n]4 ,g5tlem5 w refra9 f mu* m5tion+ ( ! names ( ladies :ile 9 ! club-rooms1 or f indulg+ 9 sc&al4 ,s]i\s ill-feel+ is (t5 ar\s$ 9 ?is mann]4 ,_m m5 refuse to li/5 to any?+ ( ! k9d1 & w retire if any su* subject is br\ght up4 ,introduction ( ,fri5ds4 ,"s clubs h c>ds = introduc+ visitors1 z3 ,,visit+ ,,c>d4 ,,columbia ,,club1 #dbj ,madison ,squ>e4 ,admit ,mr4 ,introduc$ by ,mr4 ,club memb]s are at lib]ty to introduce fri5ds at _! respective clubs1 b c>e %\ld be ex]cis$ 9 ?is respect1 s9ce !y mu/ v\* = _! fri5ds' behavior1 & 9 _m cases are held responsible = ! debts !y may contract4 ,x is n at all necess>y t su* a gue/ %\ld be =mally pres5t$ to any ( ! (ficials1 nor to _m ( ! memb]s1 unless 9 ! case ( "s gue/ :om ! club w\ld delight to honor4 ,illu/ration3 ,,reception ,,at ,,! ,,club4 ,! gue/ ( a club is expect$ to con=m to all rules ( ! association :ile enjoy+ its hospitalities1 b he may also avail himself ( all its privileges1 ) ! exception t he is n p]mitt$ to introduce ano!r /rang]4 ,a g5tleman ab\t to leave t[n1 & :o has be5 ent]ta9$ at a club1 leaves 8 c>d 9 a seal$ envelope = ! g5tleman :o introduc$ him4 ,ladies' clubs are n[ com+ to ! front 9 su* pr(usion z to make x necess>y to give !m "s notice4 ,! same g5]al rules ( etiquette apply to !m z to a club ( m54 ,z a rule1 wom5's clubs h "s especial feature1 "s object to call !m into be+4 ,! mo/ usual =m t ! club activities assume is t ( lit]>y "w ( "s k9d1 ei!r z a ga!r+ ( lit]>y wom51 or simply a ga!r+ ( wom5 = "s p>ticul> =m ( lit]>y /udy4 ,!y usually give club banquets & club lun*eons1 b r>ely atta9 to ! dignity ( a caf4 ,b>r+ ,out ,disput$ ,que/ions4 ,! temp] ( ! meet+s dep5ds v l>gely on ! k9d ( organization t holds !m1 :e!r1 = in/ance1 z 9 ! case ( ,sorosis1 x is a club ( ref9$ & educat$ wom51 ( lit]>y & arti/ic pursuits & ta/es1 or :e!r x is "o = re=m1 z temp]ance1 suffrage1 social purity1 or religi\s developm5t & "w4 ,! memb]s ( ,sorosis1 :5 9 session1 are well-br$1 if n always cle>-head$ & reasonable4 ,religi\s ga!r+s ( wom5 are seldom o!r ?an ( good temp]1 & quiet 9 _! tone4 ,political meet+s & sect>ian meet+s are apt to be turbul5t4 ,?is fact has be5 recogniz$ by "s wom5's clubs1 ,sorosis1 = example1 & !y w n p]mit ! subjects to be discuss$ or introduc$ 9 any way at meet+s4 ,! v>i\s bus9ess wom5s' & work+ girls' clubs are in/itut$ = ! sole purpose usually ( furni%+ good lun*es at ! noon h\r at reasonable rates1 & comb9e ?is feature ) pleasant reception & l\ng+ rooms1 & (t5 ) v>i\s lit]>y & bus9ess c\rses ( /udy4 ,!re is "o ,ladies' ,suburban ,club--! ,alex&ra--! mo/ exclusive ( ,london's wom5 clubs4 ,x is also ! mo/ successful4 ,no individual ( ! o!r sex above ! age ( twelve is admitt$ beyond ! doormat4 ,husb&s1 fa!rs1 & bro!rs1 are all ru?lessly exclud$ f )9 its sacr$ prec9cts4 ,x furni%es an admirable c5t] = %opp+ op]ations1 & = lun*es1 teas1 etc4 ,x possesses ! advantages ( b$rooms1 let at ! mo/ reasonable rate1 s t girls & "y m>ri$ wom5 c sp5d a night or two 9 t[n )\t any tr\ble to *ap]ons or maids4 ,wom5 fri5ds1 ( c\rse1 may be admitt$ into ! club1 & s]vants & tradespeople int]view$4 ,x is nam$ = ! ,pr9cess ( ,wales1 & no "o :o has n be5 pres5t$ to ! ,que5 is eligible to memb]%ip4 ,!re is also a ,ladies' ,suburban ,club 9 ,*icago t p>takes ( ! same features1 save t x is n f\nd$ ^u q s ari/ocratic a basis1 & ! suburban woman he>tily appreciates its b5efits4 ,no m does %e w&] aimlessly up & d[n ! /reets :ile await+ a home-b\nd tra94 ,%e has a re/+ place ( h] own )9 easy rea* ( ! %opp+ di/rict1 "o :]e %e c be made pres5table = mat9e or !at]4 ,"h1 on "o floor1 %e f9ds hairdress]s1 manicuri/s1 a caf1 a woman ready to repair damag$ g>m5ts2 & %\ld %e miss ! la/ tra91 com=table sleep+-rooms1 :]e %e c sp5d ! night quietly4 ,!re1 ! club-%opp] is ready to att5d sales & d all mann] ( pur*as+--f ord]+ fun]al fl[]s to select+ a good seat at ! !at]1 :ile ! club nurs]y is responsible = all *ildr5 left !re4 ,_! memb]%ip hails f _m /ates4 ,presid+ at a ,woman's ,club4 ,! av]age woman is n s well qualifi$ to preside ov] meet+s 9 :i* cont9ual int]ruptions are occurr+1 ?r\gh ! memb]s ris+ to po9ts ( ord]1 & o!r que/ions ( privilege1 because1 unlike ! av]age man1 %e has n giv5 mu* att5tion to ! /udy ( p>liam5t>y law4 ,! rules = conduct+ a meet+ d n admit ( any p]sonal feel+ or individual ta/e on ! "p ( ! presid+ (fic]4 ,on ! contr>y1 !re is a code ( rules expressly laid d[n to guide & regulate su* matt]s4 ,! presid+ (fic] is n suppos$ to control ! op9ions ( ! memb]s1 b m]ely to direct !m4 ,%e %\ld be 9 entire sympa?y ) ! objects ( ! meet+1 & h a full & complete und]/&+ ( all its aims1 objects & purposes4 ,?is latt] is a v important consid]ation4 ,memb]s1 & especially new ones1 are con/antly ask+ = in=mation1 & unless ! presid+ (fic] c furni% x briefly & at once1 delays are sure to occur1 & ! meet+ be any?+ b pleasant or satisfactory to ! o!r memb]s pres5t4 ,ord] ( ,bus9ess4 ,hav+ be5 *os5 to preside1 ! fir/ duty is to call ! meet+ to ord]4 ,if x is a fir/ meet+1 ! objects = :i* x is call$ %\ld !n be /at$ cle>ly1 b 9 z few words z possible4 ,if x is n a fir/ meet+1 b a regul> or con/itut$ "o1 ! presid+ (fic] %\ld h ! roll ( memb]s call$ by ! secret>y4 ,! m9utes ( ! la/ meet+ %\ld !n be read4 ,next1 ! presid+ (fic] %\ld appo9t h] committees = ! session2 or1 if x is a regul> meet+1 ! reports ( ! v>i\s committees appo9t$ at ! previ\s session %\ld be he>d4 ,next1 ! regul> bus9ess %\ld be tak5 up1 & hav+ be5 dispos$ (1 ! presid+ (fic] %\ld all[ ! introduction ( any new bus9ess t may prop]ly come be=e ! meet+4 ,x is ( ! utmo/ importance t a presid+ (fic] %\ld be possess$ ( good eyesight1 s z to be able to p]ceive a memb] z soon z %e rises4 ,!re mu/ be no hesitation or n]v\sness ab\t a presid+ (fic]4 ,%e mu/ be ev] on ! al]t1 ) all h] faculties ab\t h]4 ,%e mu/ be broad-m9d$1 lib]al1 & cle>-vision$1 ) a read9ess to in/ruct ! memb]s :5 any mi/akes are made1 & always will+ to grant ! full lib]ty ( debate to all2 = out ( ! wide/ diff]5ces w come ! v be/ conclusions aft] full & fair discussion4 ,,society ,illu/ration ,wom5 are our only leisure class4 ,?is has be5 s (t5 repeat$ t x sc>cely matt]s to :om ! cr$it ( ! say+ mu/ be giv54 ,9 ?is c\ntry ! burd5 ( social "w re/s ^u wom51 :ile 9 all ,european c\ntries1 m51 "y & old1 /atesm51 (ficials1 pr9ces1 ambassadors1 make x "o ( ! duties ( life to visit1 leave c>ds & take up all ! num]\s burd5s ( ! social _w4 ,"h x is ! lady ( ! h\se t does all ?is4 ,husb&s1 fa!rs1 sons1 are all too mu* engross$ 9 ! pursuit ( bus9ess or pleasure to sp5d "t 9 ^! multif>i\s c>es4 ,mrs4 ,john ,%]wood says3 ,!y _c ev5 sp5d "t to make _! d9n] calls4 ',mamma1 please leave my c>ds1' is ! leg5d writt5 on _! bann]s4 ,influ5ce ( ,wom54 ,! wond]ful influ5ce ( wom5 ( culture & fa%ion1 ) _! happy ways ( do+ ?+s 9 ! political1 z well z ! social _w1 is z great n[ 9 ,wa%+ton z x ev] 0 9 ,p>is1 9 ! palmie/ days ( ! ,imp]ial ,salon4 ,! graces & ! c\rtesies ( life are 9 _! h&s4 ,x is wom5 :o create society4 ,x is wom5 f :om etiquette is le>n$1 n f association ) m54 ,! height ( a /age ( civilization c always be measur$ by ! am\nt ( def]5ce paid to woman4 ,! culture ( a p>ticul> man c be gaug$ by 8 mann] :5 9 ! company ( ladies4 ,primitive man made wom5 d all ! h>d "w ( life1 be> all ! burd5s1 eat ( ! leav+s1 & be ! s]vants ( ! tribe4 ,civiliz$ man1 on ! o!r h&1 gives prec$5ce to woman 9 e p>ticul>4 ,he s]ves h] fir/1 he gives h] places ( com=t & safety1 he rises to assi/ h] at e opportunity1 & we measure 8 culture by s9s ( omission1 or commission1 along ?is l9e4 ,?us1 all ^! small obs]vances n only conduce to ! com=t ( woman1 b !y ref9e & d away ) ! r\gh & selfi% side ( man's nature1 = )\t ?is ref9+ contact ) g5tle womanhood1 a man w nev] lose ! innate r\ghness ) :i* nature has end[$ him4 ,x is wom51 z be=e said1 :o create etiquette1 & ,burke tells u t mann]s are ( m importance ?an laws4 ,a f9e mann] is ! op5 sesame t admits u to ! audi5ce *amb] ( ! _w4 ,x is ! magic w& at ^: t\* all b>ri]s dissolve4 ,effect ( ,cultur$ ,mann]s4 ,give a boy address & accompli%m5ts & y give him ! ma/]y ( palaces & =tunes :]ev] he goes4 ,he has n ! tr\ble ( e>n+ or own+ !m2 !y solicit him to ent] & possess4 ,:atev] enjoym5t we obta9 f our daily int]c\rse ) o!rs is ?r\gh our ob$i5ce to ! laws ( etiquette1 :i* gov]n ! :ole ma*9]y ( society1 & x is l>gely to wom5 ) _! leisure1 & _! tact1 t we mu/ look to create & su/a9 ! social fabric4 ,to "k h] is a lib]al education1 0 ! /ately complim5t once paid a woman1 & !re are wom5 left to :om x /ill applies4 ,z ,em]son says 9 8 essay ^u ,mann]s3 ,are !re n wom5 :o inspire u ) c\rtesy2 :o unloose our tongues1 & we speak2 :o ano9t our eyes1 & we see8 ,we say ?+s we nev] ?\ght to h said4 ,= once1 our walls ( habitual res]ve vani%$ & left u at l>ge2 we 7 *ildr5 play+ ) *ildr5 9 a wide field ( fl[]s4 ,/eep u1 we cri$1 9 ^! influ5ces = days1 = weeks1 & we %all be sunny poets & write out 9 _m color$ words ! romance t y are4 ,! successful society woman has a g5ius = lead]%ip4 ,%e molds & makes :at %e w ( h] surr\nd+s4 ,%e und]values ! tal5ts ( no "o2 %e r draws out & makes ! mo/ ( e "o ) :om %e comes 9 contact4 ,%e is quiet1 %e is reposeful1 %e has ! tact t puts e "o ) :om %e meets at ease1 &1 above all1 %e is sympa!tic4 ,a judici\sly express$ sympa?y ) our fell[-be+s is "o ( ! highe/ attributes ( our nature4 ,unite sympa?y to obs]vation & ! dead spr+ to life4 ,x is tact to s express t sympa?y z n to seem aw>e ( ! weakness t we w\ld support & conceal f o!rs4 ,madame ,rcami] _h ?is gift ( hidd5 sympa?y1 ?is p[] ( draw+ out ! be/ t 0 9 ^? :o approa*$ h]4 ,to ?is gift x 0 t %e ow$ t p[] ov] all m5 :i* surviv$ h] wond]ful beauty4 ,a ,sympa!tic ,nature4 ,x 0 n h] wit1 = ) ?is %e 0 n s greatly end[$2 x 0 n alone h] beauty1 = ! em95t m5 & wom5 ( ! day foll[$ h] :51 bl9d & poor1 %e s\ght ! solitude ( ! abbey2 b x 0 ! delicate t5drils ( h] sympa?y & ! /eadfa/ness ( h] fri5d%ip t drew t[>ds h] all he>ts1 & mold$ & weld$ h] company ( foll[]s into "o ( ! mo/ p]fect & p[]ful social circles t has ev] surr\nd$ any society lead]4 ,_m an awkw>d situation has be5 sav$ by fem99e tact4 ,!re 0 ! cab9et-memb]'s wife :o drank out ( h] f+]-b[l because h] gue/1 a s5ator1 _h done s4 ,& ! g5]al's wife :o1 :5 a clumsy tea dr9k] sma%$ a priceless cup1 pick$ up ano!r ( ! fragile affairs & cru%$ x betwe5 h] f+]s ) a ,!y d break easily1 don't !y8 ,& ! woman :o1 :5 ,m4 ,blanc 0 mi/ak5 at an ,engli% g>d5 p>ty = a page1 repli$1 ,well1 ,m4 ,blanc is a page--( hi/ory4 ,?is tact is 9 great measure a natural gift1 b x c be cultivat$1 & is well wor? ! tr\ble4 ,no?+ c be s utt]ly pa9ful 9 society z ! tactless p]son :o is p]petually do+ ^? ?+s :i* he ought n to h done1 & leav+ undone ^? ?+s :i* he ought to h done4 ,! art ( conv]sation1 too1 is wor? cultivat+4 ,a woman1 not$ among h] fri5ds = h] delightful lett]s & z delightful gifts ( conv]sation1 0 ask$ h[ %e manag$ x4 ,frankly1 0 ! reply1 ,i /rive = x4 ,:5 ,i see 9 a book or he> any:]e a happy phrase1 or a tell+ s5t5ce1 ,i make a m5tal note ( x1 & wat* = an opportunity to incorporate x 9 my own spee* or writt5 ^w4 ,i don't mean ,i appropriate o!r folks' ideas 9 :olesale fa%ion1 b ,i d /eal or utilize _! knack ( expression4 ,ano!r po9t ,i make is nev] to p]mit myself to speak c>elessly1 t is1 slov5ly1 any m ?an ,i let my hair be untidy or my g[ns mud-/a9$4 ,x does n seem to me frivol\s or be/[+ too mu* c>e on trifles to take ?is small pa9s = my bett]m5t4 ,i p9 a fl[] on my dress = a bit ( color1 or adju/ a b[ :]e ,i "k x is becom+2 :y %\ld ,i n apply ! decorative idea to my spee*8 ,p[] ?r\gh ,repose4 ,cultivate repose ( mann]4 ,be calm & re/ful4 ,d n fidget4 ,comm& ( ! tongue is a valuable accompli%m5t to cultivate4 ,_m a "y girl is actually fidgety1 because %e ?9ks to be a success %e mu/ be full ( life & always on ! g4 ,%e wants to be bright & vivaci\s4 ,if su* is h] temp]am5t & h] vivaci\sness comes spontane\sly x is p]haps attractive1 ?\gh x is v likely to get tiresome4 ,n9e out ( t5 wom5 w\ld be twice z attractive if !y w\ld le>n to keep /ill & ?us ga9 ! full social value ( ?is ability4 ,especially is ?is true ( "y girls4 ,:5 a "y man is introduc$1 :y plunge at him ) a volley ( phrases8 ,an effect is made twice z quickly if 8 look is met ) /eady1 quiet eyes1 a few words spok5 9 a g5tle1 s9c]e voice1 & a *ance giv5 him4 ,presumably1 he reque/$ ! introduction1 & s1 probably1 he has some?+ to say4 ,anyway1 he is likely to h1 if y are s]5e & quiet4 ,a habit ( repose w save f _m a blund]4 ,:5 a man1 "o does n rememb]1 plunges into a conv]sation1 ! habit ( repose enables "o to keep an unmov$ & quiet demeanor until some?+ is said t w place him4 ,to be 9 a hurry to speak is to betray oneself1 & emb>rassm5t ensues on bo? sides4 ,?is comm& ( quiet is also a protection aga9/ tiresome1 talkative1 p4 ,x enables "o to pres]ve an air ( k9dly att5tion1 :ile "o's ?\ghts1 free & untrammel$1 roam at _! own sweet w1 drift+ back j 9 "t to utt] an appreciative affirmative1 or negative4 ,a ,good ,li/5]4 ,?is repose ( mann] is a boon to ! %y & awkw>d man1 :o1 "u its influ5ce1 actually acquires "s confid5ce 9 himself1 :i* is simply impossible :5 he is bomb>d$ ) a volley ( vivaci\s conv]sation4 ,le>n to be a good li/5]1 a sympa!tic & int]e/$ li/5]1 & ! majority ( p w pron\nce y int]e/+4 ,if ! p>tn] assign$ y at a d9n] p>ty seems to h no topic 9 common ) y\r ?\ght1 /rive to f9d out :at does int]e/ him2 a few skillful que/ions1 & he is laun*$ on a tide ( talk1 at 8 ease1 ev5 brilliant1 & all t is ne$$ on y\r "p is to appe> int]e/$4 ,:e!r y und]/& ! subject1 or c>e = x1 is ano!r "q2 y h e/abli%$ y\r place 9 t man's e/imation1 & he w ev] !reaft] h a ^w ( praise :5 y\r "n is m5tion$4 ,!re are wom5 :o are !mselves n flu5t1 & :o enjoy be+ talk$ to1 to be sp>$ ! tr\ble ( mak+ conv]sation4 ,) ^! wom5 x is ! ready talk] :o f9ds favor4 ,b !re is ano!r class ( wom5 q z l>ge :o love to talk1 & to !m ! good li/5] is welcome2 !re=e1 let ! man :o wi%es to talk *oose 8 audi5ce ) discretion4 ,madame ,rcami] lik$ to be talk$ to1 & 0 s sympa!tic a li/5] t ! c>eful /ud5t ( h] times is =c$ to conclude t 0 "o ( ! *iefe/ ( h] *>ms1 b he w\ld h be5 a bold man :o w\ld h int]rupt$ ! fl[ ( ,madame de ,/al's eloqu5ce4 ,m5 are less incl9$ to c]ta9 =ms ( etiquette ?an wom54 ,n t !y w\ld be less polite1 b1 z a rule1 !y d n atta* s mu* importance to ! little niceties ( life1 & !y are too prone to lack 9 c]ta9 c\rtesies :i* a society man %\ld practice4 ,h[ ,m5 are ,spoil$4 ,?is process ( spoil+ beg9s ) ! mo!rs1 & ends ) ! "y wom54 ,wom5 pride !mselves ^u be+ indep5d5t1 & ! result is t ! m5 naturally fall back & let !m wait ^u !mselves4 ,wom5 take ! lead1 wom5 plan ent]ta9m5ts & excursions1 wom5 tol]ate neglect1 & all ( ?is spoils ! m54 ,be a woman fir/ & la/1 & exact all ^! little c\rtesies = ! sake ( y\r sex4 ,says a well-kn[n lady3 ,i rememb] a ?+ t impress$ me v mu*1 & made me a%am$ ( my own sons :om ,i h always wait$ ^u1 ,i am sorry to say4 ,we _h z gue/s a g5tleman1 wife & son1 ! latt] ab\t ?irte54 ,9 ! morn+ !re 0 a p>ade2 ! g5tleman & 8 wife w5t1 :ile ,i /ay$ at home ) ano!r relative4 ,! boys came 9 to lun*eon1 & !n z ,i 0 go+ up-t[n1 ,h>ry1 our visitor1 put up 8 :eel1 bru%$ 8 clo!s1 & ann\nc$ t he 0 ready to escort me4 ,i assur$ him t we did n ne$ him1 to run along ) ! o!r boys1 b he w\ld n he> ( x4 ,he op5$ ! gates1 c>ri$ my umbrella1 & /ay$ ) me until he saw me safe at home4 ,i complim5t$ him to 8 "m1 b %e assur$ me t he w\ld nev] h ?\ght ( do+ any?+ else1 = :5 ! fa!r c\ld n accompany h]1 ,h>ry _h be5 taught to d s4 ,i _h always assur$ my boys t ,i c\ld take c>e ( myself1 b ,i wi% n[ ,i _h made !m take c>e ( me4 ,,g5]al ,,etiquette4 ,illu/ration ,?is *apt] is devot$ to ! ga!r+ up ( ! fragm5ts t rema9 f all ! o!r dep>tm5ts t _c be rigidly classifi$1 & yet are useful to rememb]4 ,!re are _m m9ute po9ts ( etiquette :i*1 al?\gh n extremely important1 (t5 s]ve z a s\rce ( emb>rassm5t to un9itiat$ p]sons1 & ^u :i* in=mation t c be reli$ ^u is desir$4 ,:o ,b[s ,fir/8 ,:e!r ! lady or g5tleman %\ld b[ fir/ is a po9t :]e _m diff]4 ,t ! lady %\ld b[ fir/1 mo/ au?orities agree 9 decl>+4 ,?is acts z a safegu>d to a lady1 p]mitt+ h] to drop an undesirable acqua9tance1 z a failure to b[ w\ld be consid]$ ! cut direct4 ,b "s ladies are =getful ( faces1 & "s are ne>-sight$1 ?us prev5t+ ready recognition ( o!rs2 s t1 :ile ?is cu/om might apply to introductions giv5 at a ball1 /ill1 a b[ hurts no "o1 & an undesirable acqua9tance is easily dropp$ )\t ?is rud5ess4 ,h5ce x w\ld seem t1 :i*ev] "o recognizes fir/1 ! o!r ought to h ! privilege ( b[+ )\t break+ ?is social law1 :i* is bett] obs]v$ 9 ! _s ?an 9 ! lett]4 ,lady or ,g5tleman8 ,^! t]ms h come to be us$ s cont9u\sly1 & sometimes s mean+lessly t !y bid fair to cr[d out ! sweet1 /rong words1 man & woman1 & a revulsion ( ta/e has swept 9 t goes nigh 9 "s sets to utt]ly swamp ! lady & g5tleman4 ,ei!r extreme is a mi/ake4 ,!re is a "r & wrong use ( ^! t]ms2 = example1 "o says to "o's s]vants1 or to "o's *ildr51 ,i expect "s ladies to visit me to-morr[1 :ile lat]1 ref]r+ to !m 9 conv]sation ) a fri5d1 "o may say1 !y are wom5 ( exquisite culture4 ,a matron may speak ( "y ladies z girls1 b if %e be n intimate1 "y ladies1 is m usual1 or %e may address !m collectively z "y wom54 ,misuse ( ! ,t]m ,lady4 ,! t]m lady has be5 m abus$ ?an t ( g5tleman4 ,! words =e-lady1 sales-lady1 wa%-lady1 h r5d]$ x ludicr\s :5 "o ?9ks ( contra/+ x ) ! t]ms1 happily nev] us$1 ( =e-g5tleman1 sales-g5tleman1 etc4 ,=mal consid]ation asks if ! ladies are at home1 & ref9$ cu/om requires x4 ,b to express ! graces & end[m5ts ( a woman1 x is h] womanl9ess t is emphasiz$4 ,%e is a graci\s1 sweet-temp]$1 k9dly woman4 ,! same di/9ction applies to ! use ( ! t]m g5tleman1 or man4 ,says "o writ]1 giv+ "s examples ( ! use ( ^! words3 ,a polite ho/ w\ld say1 ',! m5 are look+ = "s ladies :o w\ld enjoy a game ( t5nis1' or1 ',i c promise ! "y ladies a pleasant "t1 = !re w be a great _m danc+ m5 pres5t4' ,"o g5tleman says to ano!r1 9 express+ 8 admiration1 ,miss ,blank is my ideal ( a lovely & lovable woman' 7he does n say 'lady'71 b 9 ! same brea? he may add1 ',let u jo9 ! ladies 7n 'wom5'7 on ! balcony4' ,"o %\ld always say %e is su* a sweet old lady1 r ?an %e is su* a sweet old woman4 ,mu* might be said 9 ?is reg>d1 b aft] all1 exact discrim9ation ( ! prop] t]m at ! prop] "t mu/ be left some:at to ! p]sonal judgm5t ( ea* man & woman4 ,! lead+ bus9ess & pr(essional m5 owe _! success1 9 great measure1 to _! graci\sness 9 bus9ess mann]s4 ,x is well1 f _m po9ts ( view1 to =m ! habit ( treat+ all1 ri* & poor1 m5 & wom51 ) uni=m c\rtesy4 ,! pleasant bus9ess man draws ! l>ge/ cu/om4 ,! polite pr(essional man secures ! be/ cli5tage4 ,pay bills & drafts promptly1 or else expla9 satisfactorily to y\r cr$itor :5 y w be able to meet ! obligation4 ,if y\r ^w has always be5 z good z y\r bond1 9 n9e cases out ( t5 he w grant ! ext5sion ( "t desir$4 ,keep appo9tm5ts to ! mom5t4 ,if unable to d s1 s5d a mess5g] to expla94 ,f9i% y\r bus9ess promptly & !n leave4 ,"t is money4 ,nev] misrepres5t goods1 nor all[ o!rs 9 y\r employ s to d4 ,enclose a /amp$ envelope = reply :5 ask+ = in=mation t is to b5efit y\rself solely4 ,answ] lett]s ( inquiry promptly4 ,d n display curiosity 9 reg>d to bus9ess matt]s t d n conc]n y1 nor try to exam9e ! books or private pap]s ( ano!r4 ,be polite to all employs4 ,!y w give mu* bett] s]vice4 ,bus9ess ,=ms are always useful1 h5ce we furni% "s t are 9 con/ant use3 ,a ,promissory ,note4 #cjj4 ,,*icago1 ,ill41 ,novemb] #e1 #ahi-4 ,n9ety days aft] date ,i promise to pay to ,*>les ,*apman1 or ord]1 at ! ,second ,national ,bank1 ,?ree ,hundr$ ,doll>s1 value receiv$4 ,,m>t9 ,,voorhees4 ,if x is int5d$ to draw int]e/ t %\ld be add$1 ?us1 ) int]e/ at six p] c5t4 ,a ,jo9t ,note4 #bjj4 ,,salida1 ,col41 ,decemb] #b1 #ahi-4 ,?ree mon?s aft] date we jo9tly promise to pay ,h[>d ,crosby1 or ord]1 ,two ,hundr$ ,doll>s1 value receiv$4 ,,grace ,,h>d+4 ,,george ,,h>d+4 ,a ,receipt on ,acc\nt4 #ejj4 ,,san ,,mateo1 ,cal41 ,novemb] #a1 #ahi-4 ,receiv$ ( ,george ,woods1 ,five ,hundr$ ,doll>s1 on acc\nt4 ,,frank ,,james4 ,a ,receipt 9 ,full4 #bjj4 ,,l\isiana1 ,mo41 ,octob] #ca1 #ahi-4 ,receiv$ ( ,john ,j5k9s1 ,two ,hundr$ ,doll>s1 9 full = all dem&s up to date4 ,,james ,,higg9s4 ,=m = a ,bill4 ,,new ,,york1 ,decemb] #c1 #ahi-4 ,,mr4 ,,john ,,h5son4 ,,to ,,james ,,c>roll1 ,,dr4 ,to #aj p\nds c(fee1 #cj;c #c4jj ,to #bj p\nds sug>1 #e;c #a4jj ,to #b p\nds l>d1 #ah;c 4#cf ,to #a p\nd tea1 #fj;c 4#fj ----- #d4if ,:at & ,:at ,n to ,say4 ,don't say ,i feel good1 = ,i feel well4 ,don't say ^! k9d1 b ?is k9d4 ,don't say n s good z1 = n z good z4 ,don't say betwe5 ?ree1 b among ?ree4 ,don't describe an unusual occurr5ce z funny1 unless some?+ comic is meant4 ,/range1 peculi>1 unique1 odd1 are bett] expressions4 ,don't say a g>m5t sets good1 b x fits well4 ,don't say _h r1 _h bett]1 = w\ld r1 w\ld bett]4 ,don't speak ( articles ( diet z heal?y1 b z heal?ful or :olesome4 ,don't say fix my g[n1 fix ?is room1 b arrange my g[n1 ! room4 ,! be/ au?orities r>ely use fix1 except to indicate /ability or p]man5ce4 ,y don't fix ! h\se1 y repair x4 ,say money is pl5tiful1 n pl5ty4 ,say betwe5 y & me4 ,say ,if he %\ld live1 ,if he %\ld come1 in/ead ( ,if he comes1 ,if he live4 ,don't say ,i h saw = ,i h se54 ,don't say dress2 if a lady1 say g[n4 ,! ^w dress applies to ! entire toilet4 ,g[n1 to ! "o article4 ,v>i\s ,h9ts on ,etiquette4 ,ent] a room z if y felt y\rself entitl$ to a welcome1 b wi%$ to take no undue advantage ( x4 ,d n press a favor :]e y see x w be unwelcome4 ,treat all ! gue/s y meet at y\r fri5d's table1 = ! "t be+1 z y\r equals4 ,a v trifl+ & yet important ?+ t e woman %\ld "k is t x is exce$+ly inelegant 9 ris+ f a *air to raise h]self by pressure on ! arms4 ,unless %e is old or infirm %e %\ld rise )\t assi/ance4 ,d n ru% into a fri5d%ip ) ev]ybody y meet4 ,fri5d%ips s quickly made are quickly brok54 ,9 ano!r man's h\se d n take ^u y\rself to play ! ho/--n ev5 at ! ho/'s reque/4 ,9 mak+ gifts let !m be 9 proportion to y\r means4 ,a ri* man does n ?ank a poor man = mak+ him a pres5t :i* he kn[s ! giv] _c af=d4 ,d n claim ! acqua9tance ( a man ( rank on ! gr\nd t y once met him at a h\se to :i* y _h be5 invit$4 ,let x be said ( y z x 0 said ( ,macaulay1 t he rememb]$ ev]y?+1 except an injury4 ,9 mak+ calls1 d y\r be/ to light5 ! infliction to y\r ho/ess4 ,d n /ay long2 & d n ent] ^u a subject ( conv]sation :i* may t]rify h] ) ! appreh5sion t y int5d to rema9 until y h exhau/$ x4 ,d n give ano!r1 ev5 if x be a bett]1 v]sion ( a /ory already told by "o ( y\r companions4 ,! t\*/one ( good mann]s is ! way 9 :i* a man behaves to 8 sup]iors or inf]iors4 ,x is n prop] = a g5tleman to call ^u a lady unless he has fir/ receiv$ p]mission to d s4 ,x is n prop] = a g5tleman to we> 8 ov]%oes 9 ! draw+-room4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,morn+ ,,walk4 ,*ildr5 or "y p %\ld nev] monopolize ! mo/ desirable positions & mo/ com=table *airs4 ,no g5tleman w smoke :ile walk+1 rid+ or driv+ ) a lady1 or :ile speak+ to h] 9 ! /reet4 ,sometimes1 at in=mal summ] resorts1 !re is a little latitude all[$ "h4 ,if a d9n] p>ty is giv5 9 honor ( a lady1 x is ! ho/'s place to g 9 to d9n] fir/1 tak+ 9 ! lady 9 ^: honor ! d9n] is giv54 ,fur!rmore1 x is prop]1 "u "s circum/ances1 = ! ho/ess to g 9 to d9n] la/ ) ! husb& ( ! lady :om ! ho/ is escort+4 ,x is prop] to help all ! ladies1 includ+ ^? ( ! h\sehold1 be=e any g5tleman is help$1 no matt] h[ di/+ui%$ a p]son he may be4 ,fir/ ,att5tions = ,ladies4 ,:5 ! visitors are g5tlem51 & only a "m & daught] are at ! table1 ! maid ought fir/ to s]ve ! "m1 !n ! daught] & la/ ! g5tlem54 ,if ! "m s]ves tea at lun*eon %e helps ! daught] fir/1 & aft] h] ! m5 gue/s4 ,! rule is always t a lady takes prec$5ce4 ,on leav+ ! table at a public place1 su* z a re/aurant or hotel d9+-room1 ! lady prec$es ! g5tleman4 ,apples are p>$1 & eat5 9 small qu>t]s1 at dess]t4 ,grapes are pluck$ f _! /ems1 & ! pulp squeez$ out 9 ! m\?1 :ile ! f+]s hold ! sk9s1 :i* are laid at "o side ( ! plate4 ,bananas are peel$1 cut 9 ?9 slices1 & eat5 ) a =k4 ,pea*es are eat5 aft] p>+1 ) a silv] knife & =k4 ,oranges are sk9n$ by cutt+ 9 qu>t]s1 or left :ole1 & ! sections are !n pull$ ap>t1 & eat51 reject+ ! se$s into ! h&4 ,cel]y is usually dipp$ into ! salt-cell>1 & eat5 f ! /alk1 or x c be cut on ! plate1 9 small bits1 & eat5 ) a =k4 ,:5 d9+ at a hotel y c p>take ( ! side di%es on ! same plate t meat & potato h be5 s]v$1 or ask ! wait] to *ange y\r plate1 z y pref]4 ,:5 fri$ eggs are us$ = a breakfa/ di%1 !y are put ^u y\r plate1 f ! side di%2 b 9 _m homes1 eggs are bak$ 9 small di%es1 ea* p]son be+ s]v$ ) a di%1 :i* %\ld be well butt]$ be=e putt+ 9 ! egg to be cook$4 ,x does n matt] ^u :i* side ( h] escort a lady sits at table4 ,! g5tleman w draw out a *air = ! lady1 if a wait] is n 9 att5dance to d x1 & take ! next seat himself4 ,:5 pass+ y\r plate to be help$ a second "t1 lay ! knife & =k at ! left-h& side4 ,d n1 if talk+ to a fri5d1 drop all conv]sation s soon z a *ild requires att5tion1 or has "s *ildi% rem>k to make4 ,:5 9 p>lor1 or draw+-room1 if a woman1 /&+1 h&s a cup1 a book1 a fl[]1 or any article to a man :o is seat$1 he %\ld rise to receive x4 ,?is rule is )\t exception4 ,m9or ,usages ( ! ,be/ ,society4 ,:5 a man (f]s a lady any civility1 a /rang] or an acqua9tance1 op5s a door1 h&s h] a p>cel %e has dropp$1 or (f]s h] a seat1 he %\ld lift 8 hat at ! same mom5t4 ,if a "y lady accepts ! escort ( a g5tleman to an ent]ta9m5t1 %e %\ld nev] accompany him1 at its close1 to a re/aurant = refre%m5ts unless %e is *ap]on$ by a lady mu* old] ?an h]self4 ,good-ev5+ is a prop] salutation ^u ent]+ a room = a call4 ,good-night ^u retir+ at its close4 ,a man on horseback1 :o sees a lady wi%es to /op him1 w dism\nt & walk by h] side1 lead+ 8 horse1 = !re are few occasions on :i* x is p]missible to /& talk+ on ! /reet4 ,a lady may p]mit a man walk+ ) h] to c>ry any small p>cel t %e has1 b nev] m ?an "o4 ,a lady wi%+ to avoid b[+ to an undesirable acqua9tance1 mu/ look aside1 or drop ! eyes1 = if ! eyes meet a b[ is absolutely necess>y4 ,if a lady asks a man to accompany h] to a place ( amusem5t1 %e mu/ provide ! conveyance4 ,if a lady invites a man to drive ) h]1 he %\ld walk to h] h\se1 unless ! di/ance is too great1 :5 %e %\ld (f] to call = him4 ,if ?is is ! case1 he %\ld wat*1 &1 if possible1 meet h] on ! way4 ,d n refuse to accept an apology2 ev5 if fri5d%ip is n re/or$1 an op5 qu>rel w be av]t$4 ,d n be famili> ) a new acqua9tance4 ,"o c be c\rte\s )\t famili>ity4 ,brea*es ( ,etiquette4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to remove ! gloves :5 mak+ a =mal call4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to />e ar\nd ! room4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette = a call] :o is wait+ ! entrance ( ! ho/ess to op5 ! piano or t\* x if x is op54 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to g to ! room ( an invalid unless invit$4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to look at y\r wat* :5 call+4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to walk ar\nd ! room :5 wait+ = ! ho/ess4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette = ! call] to op5 or %ut a door1 raise or l[] a w9d[ curta91 or 9 any o!r way alt] ! arrangem5t ( a room4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to turn y\r *air s z to br+ y\r back to "s "o ne> y4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette :5 mak+ a call to play ) any ornam5t 9 ! room1 or to seem to be aw>e ( any?+ b ! company pres5t4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to rema9 :5 y f9d ! ho/ or ho/ess dress$ to g out4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette dur+ a call to draw ne> ! fire to w>m y\r h&s or feet1 unless y are invit$ by ! mi/ress ( ! h\se to d s4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to make rem>ks ^u a call] :o has j left ! room1 :e!r by ! ho/ess or visitors4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette & a positive unk9dness to call ^u a fri5d :o is 9 r$uc$ circum/ances ) any p>ade ( weal? 9 equipage or dress4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette = ! ho/ess to leave ! room :5 visitors are pres5t4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette to assume any ungraceful or unc\? position1 su* z /&+ ) ! arms akimbo1 sitt+ a/ride a *air1 smok+ 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies1 we>+ y\r hat1 lean+ back 9 ! *air1 /&+ ) legs cross$ or feet on ! *airs1 lean+ =w>d 9 ! *air ) elb[s on ! knees4 ,all ^! acts /amp y z ill-br$ & unpoli%$4 ,illu/ration ,,wa%+ton ,,etiquette ,illu/ration ,9 addition to ! ord9>y rules ( etiquette1 (ficial society 9 ,wa%+ton ,city is gov]n$ by a code ( fix$ laws4 ,! social obs]vances ( ! ,:ite ,h\se are prescrib$ ) great exactness1 & con/itute ! ,c\rt ,etiquette ( ! ,republic4 ,at ! v comm5cem5t ( ! ,gov]nm5t "u ! ,con/itution ! social "q became "o ( great magnitude1 & 9 ord] to adju/ x ^u a prop] basis1 ,presid5t ,wa%+ton caus$ a def9ite ,code to be drawn up2 b ! rules 7 too arbitr>y & exact+ to give satisfaction1 & society 0 n dispos$ to ackn[l$ge s g5u9e an equality z ! code requir$ among its memb]s4 ,frequ5t & bitt] qu>rels arose 9 consequ5ce ( ! cla%+ ( social claims1 & at la/ a code 0 agre$ ^u1 :i* may be /at$ z foll[s3 ,! ,recogniz$ ,head4 ,! ,presid5t & 8 family are recogniz$ z ! head & front ( ! social /ructure4 ,! ,presid5t1 z su*1 mu/ n be invit$ to d9n] by any "o1 & accepts no su* invitations1 & pays no calls or visits ( c]emony4 ,he may visit 9 8 private capacity at pleasure4 ,an invitation to d9e at ! ,:ite ,h\se takes prec$5ce ( all o!rs1 & a previ\s engagem5t mu/ n be plead$ z an excuse = decl9+ x4 ,su* an invitation mu/ be promptly accept$ 9 writ+4 ,dur+ ! w9t] season1 a public reception or levee is held at /at$ times1 at :i* gue/s are expect$ to appe> 9 full dress4 ,!y are pres5t$ by ! u%] to ! ,presid5t1 & h ! honor ( %ak+ h&s ) him4 ,!y !n pass on1 & are pres5t$ by ano!r u%] to ! wife ( ! ,presid5t1 to :om !y b[1 & pass on4 ,^! receptions la/ f eight until t5 o'clock ,p4,m4 ,on ! fir/ ( ,janu>y & ! ,f\r? ( ,july ! ,presid5t holds public receptions1 comm5c+ at noon1 at :i* ! ,=eign ,m9i/]s pres5t 9 ,wa%+ton appe> 9 full c\rt dress1 & ! (fic]s ( ! army & navy 9 full uni=m4 ,on su* occasions1 ! ,presid5t receives fir/ ! ,heads ( ,dep>tm5ts1 ,gov]nors ( ,/ates1 ,ju/ices ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt & ,memb]s ( ! two ,h\ses ( ,congress1 9 ! ord] nam$2 !n ! ,memb]s ( ! ,diplomatic ,corps1 :o are foll[$ by ! (fic]s ( ! army & navy4 ,! doors are !n ?r[n op5 to ! g5]al public1 :o = ! space ( two h\rs pay _! respects to ! ,*ief ,magi/rate ( ! ,nation4 ,! ,vice-,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates is expect$ to pay a =mal visit to ! ,presid5t on ! meet+ ( ,congress1 b he is entitl$ to ! fir/ visit f all o!r p]sons1 :i* he may return by c>d or 9 p]son4 ,=mal ,calls4 ,! ,judges ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates call ^u ! ,presid5t & ,vice-,presid5t on ! annual meet+ ( ! c\rt 9 ,decemb]1 & on ,new ,ye>'s ,day & ! ,f\r? ( ,july4 ,!y are entitl$ to ! fir/ call f all o!r p]sons4 ,memb]s ( ! ,cab9et call ^u ! ,presid5t on ! fir/ ( ,janu>y & ! ,f\r? ( ,july4 ,!y are requir$ to pay ! fir/ calls1 ei!r 9 p]son or by c>d1 to ! ,vice-,presid5t1 ! ,judges ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt1 ,s5ators & ! ,speak] ( ! ,h\se ( ,repres5tatives on ! meet+ ( ,congress4 ,!y are entitl$ to ! fir/ call f all o!r p]sons4 ,s5ators call 9 p]son ^u ! ,presid5t & ,vice-,presid5t on ! meet+ ( ,congress1 ,new ,ye>'s ,day & ! ,f\r? ( ,july1 if ,congress is 9 session at ! la/ nam$ "t4 ,!y also call fir/ ^u ! ,judges ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt1 & ^u ! ,speak] ( ! ,h\se ( ,repres5tatives on ! meet+ ( ,congress4 ,!y are entitl$ to ! fir/ call f all o!r p]sons4 ,! ,speak] ( ! ,h\se ( ,repres5tatives calls ^u ! ,presid5t on ! meet+ ( ,congress1 on ,new ,ye>'s ,day1 & on ! ,f\r? ( ,july1 if ,congress is 9 session4 ,! fir/ call is due f him to ! ,vice-,presid5t & ! ,judges ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt1 b to him f all o!r p]sons4 ,memb]s ( ! ,h\se ( ,repres5tatives call 9 p]son ^u ! ,presid5t on ! meet+ ( ,congress1 & on ,new ,ye>'s ,day1 & by c>d or 9 p]son on ! ,f\r? ( ,july1 if ,congress is 9 session4 ,!y call fir/1 by c>d or 9 p]son1 ^u ! ,vice-,presid5t1 ! ,judges ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt1 ,speak] ( ! ,h\se1 ,s5ators1 ,cab9et ,(fic]s & ,=eign ,m9i/]s1 soon aft] ! op5+ ( ! session4 ,m9i/]s f ,=eign ,c\ntries4 ,=eign ,m9i/]s call ^u ! ,presid5t on ! fir/ ( ,janu>y & ! ,f\r? ( ,july4 ,!y call fir/1 9 p]son or by c>d1 ^u ! ,vice-,presid5t1 ,cab9et ,(fic]s1 ,judges ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt & ! ,speak] ( ! ,h\se on ! fir/ opportunity aft] pres5t+ _! cr$5tials to ! ,presid5t4 ,!y also make an annual call ( c]emony1 by c>d or 9 p]son1 on ! above m5tion$ (ficials soon aft] ! meet+ ( ,congress4 ,!y are entitl$ to ! fir/ calls f all o!r p]sons4 ,! ,judges ( ! ,c\rt ( ,claims call 9 p]son ^u ! ,presid5t on ,new ,ye>'s ,day & ! ,f\r? ( ,july4 ,!y pay fir/ calls to ,cab9et ,(fic]s & ,memb]s ( ! ,diplomatic ,corps1 & call annually1 by c>d or 9 p]son1 ^u ! ,vice-,presid5t1 ,judges ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt1 ,s5ators1 ,speak] & ,memb]s ( ! ,h\se soon aft] ! meet+ ( ,congress4 ,! int]c\rse ( ! o!r (fic]s ( ! ,gov]nm5t is regulat$ by sup]iority ( rank 9 ! public s]vice4 ,! int]c\rse ( ! families ( (ficials is regulat$ by ! rules :i* gov]n ! (ficials !mselves4 ,besides ! public levees ( ! ,presid5t1 ! ladies ( ! ,:ite ,h\se hold receptions at /at$ p]iods1 to :i* invitations are regul>ly issu$4 ,! ,presid5t sometimes appe>s ^u ^! occasions1 b is "u no obligation to d s4 ,x has long be5 ! cu/om = ! ,presid5t to give a s]ies ( ,/ate ,d9n]s dur+ ! session ( ,congress1 to :i* ! v>i\s memb]s ( t body1 ! high] ,gov]nm5t (ficials & ! ,diplomatic ,corps are successively invit$4 ,9 ord] to %[ att5tion to all1 & (f5d none1 x is necess>y to give q a numb] ( ^! d9n]s dur+ ! session4 ,! prop] titles to be us$ 9 address+ ! ,presid5t1 ,memb]s ( ! ,cab9et1 ,memb]s ( ,congress1 ,judges ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt & o!r ,gov]nm5t (ficials1 are f\nd 9 ! ,dep>tm5t on ,lett]-,writ+4 ,illu/ration ,,dels>tean ,,discipl9e ,illu/ration ,! end & aim ( all our "w %\ld be ! h>moni\s gr[? ( our :ole be+1 says ,frebel4 ,"k ?yself1 quo? ,epictetus1 ! ,/oic1 &1 kn[+ ?yself1 gr[ /rong ( m9d1 self-c5t]$ & self-possess$4 ,"k ?yself1 reit]ates ! mod]n disciple ( ,dels>te1 s9ce only by k ( self c be develop$ ! real p]sonality ( ! individual4 ,grace & self-possession are ! aim ( ,dels>te2 x !re=e fairly falls )9 ! prov9ce ( a "w on etiquette to look some:at into ! subject4 ,if "o w\ld control o!rs he mu/ fir/ control himself1 possess himself4 ,dels>te look$ ^u ! nature ( man z a tr9ity1 & believ$ t ! m5tal1 moral & physical %\ld be educat$ at ! same "t4 ,mod]n education t5ds to develop man 9 special directions to ! neglect ( o!rs4 ,ei!r ! ov]/ra9$ m5tal faculties rev5ge !mselves by giv+ u ! n]v\s1 brok5-d[n1 m5tal type s common2 or else we h ! crude physical type :]e9 ord9>y labor has ex]cis$ b a few muscles & jo9ts4 ,! ,?ree ,languages4 ,aga91 says ,dels>te1 ,man has = ! expression ( 8 triune nature ?ree languages1 ! ^w1 ! tone1 ! ge/ure4 ,tones express bodily conditions1 pleasure or pa94 ,words are symbols to int]pret ?\ght4 ,ge/ures relate to o!r be+s & express our emotions4 ,( ^! ?ree1 ! fir/ receives undue cultivation1 s9ce we /udy all ! words t h be5 said or writt51 :ile s+]s & actors alone cultivate tone or ge/ure4 ,?us x comes t ! s\l /ruggles to speak ?r\gh an imp]fect in/rum5t2 sometimes x ceases to /ruggle & f9ally has no?+ to say4 ,9 labor ! man moves1 special muscles d special "w1 b :5 a man is mov$1 an undulat+ wave ( feel+ passes ov] him & 8 :ole body becomes eloqu5t4 ,a b[ may be s c>eless & j]ky z to be almo/ an insult1 or x may be s graci\s z to seem a c>ess4 ,aga91 ! real self1 graci\s & beautiful1 may /rive to express itself ?r\gh a set ( faculties t are h>d5$ & n>r[$ by decades ( self-con/ra9t on ! "p ( himself & 8 ance/ors4 ,physical habits h a way ( mak+ !mselves felt by a reflex action on ! inn] nature1 & ) ?is axiom 9 view we feel t cultivation ( ! ,dels>tean ,art ( ,expression becomes a vital "p ( our education to ! end t all our emotions & all our tones may become ! outw>d & visible signs ( an inw>d & spiritual nature4 ,?is pr9ciple may be call$ ! keynote ( ,dels>teanism1 & ,edmond ,russell1 t mod]n expon5t !re(1 claims t z ^! beautiful1 expressive gymna/ics are = ! purpose ( correct+ individual deviations f grace1 no regul> set ( rules %\ld be pr9t$ = ! use ( all1 b t ea* special angul>ity ( p]son or h>%ness ( tone mu/ be correct$ by special ex]cises4 ,h>moni\s ,developm5t ( ! ,body4 ,nev]!less1 !re are _m set =ms ( movem5ts by ! practice ( :i* none c fail to d]ive b5efit bo? = ! inn] & ! out] man4 ,o!r physical gymna/ics seek to give /r5g? to c]ta9 sets ( muscles to ! neglect ( o!rs4 ,! ry?mical movem5ts ( ! ,dels>te sy/em br+ into action ea* muscle ( ! body )\t we>y+ any1 to ! h>moni\s develop+ ( all1 s9ce 9 all1 save exceptional cases1 x w be f\nd1 ^u beg9n+ ?is treatm5t1 t m ?an half ! muscles ( ! body are unus$1 :ile ! o!r1 & ov]work$ half1 move 9 /iff & angul> fa%ion4 ,all /ud5ts w discov] x is fir/ requisite t an undo+ process %all prec$e ! upbuild+ process4 ,/iffness ( jo9t1 or t5sion ( muscles1 :e!r recogniz$ or n1 mu/ fir/ be done away ) be=e ! body c be mold$ to ! expression ( high ?\ght4 ,= ?is purpose ! decompos+1 relax+ or devitaliz+ motions are giv54 ,! old gymna/ d\bl$ up ! fi/ &1 ) great t5sion1 gave a bl[ :i* j>r$ ! :ole n]v\s sy/em4 ,! free+ motions ( ,dels>te give h>moni\s1 re/ful1 wave movem5ts to all portions ( ! anatomy4 ,graceful motions are nev] 9 ! nature ( a bl[ /ruck /raight f ! %\ld]1 b curves & spirals con/itute ! l9es ( beauty4 ,nature %[s u ?is 9 ! free untrammell$ motions ( a *ild1 or aga9 9 man1 :5 8 :ole nature is s /irr$ to its be/ & sweete/ dep?s t he is c>ri$ out ( 8 usual t5se1 consci\s self into unconsci\s ry?mic expression ( 8 feel+4 ,:at nature does = u 9 times ( great excitem5t ,dels>te w d = u at all times by means ( 8 ex]cises1 practic$ until ! consci\s me*anical motion becomes unconsci\s1 automatic1 & ! body gr[s responsive to all high emotions & impulses4 ,relax+ ! ,muscles4 ,9 relax+ movem5ts1 ! :ole arm & h&1 %\ld]1 elb[1 wri/1 f+]s1 are %ak5 until ! jo9ts are completely relax$ & a w>m1 t+l+ s5sation passes ?r\gh ! entire arm4 ,x is !n dropp$ at ! side 9 p]fect passivity4 ,! result is tw(old--a feel+ ( repose & controll+ p[]1 & an abs5ce ( t n]v\s t5d5cy to fidget1 or h&le some?+1 glove buttons1 or wat* *a91 )\t :i* a morn+ call c sc>cely be accompli%$ by ei!r ho/ess or gue/4 ,?is alone w give u a s5se ( p]fect re/ :i* we h nev] be=e exp]i5c$4 ,simil> ex]cises are giv5 = o!r portions ( ! body--legs & feet--a revolv+ ( ! head to limb] ! neck2 a revolution ( ! %\ld]s & ! body to ga9 t flexibility :i* is ! secret ( grace4 ,dels>tean ex]cises break up con/ra9$ awkw>d physical habits1 e/abli% 9 _! /ead re/ful1 graceful1 natural ones4 ,( ^! !re are _m classes4 ,! ,dels>te relax+ ex]cises prec$e & prep>e ! way = all o!rs4 ,9 _! re/ful removal ( n]ve-t5sion !y appeal especially to ! ov]work$1 n]v\s class4 ,! ,dels>te sleep ex]cises are useful 9 ov]com+ insomnia4 ,! ,dels>te laws ( expression give u a key to "*1 /udy1 & ! laws t und]lie all art4 ,! ,dels>te "w develops self-possession4 ,! ,dels>te ry?mical ex]cises enable "o n only to appe> bett] & feel bett]1 b1 by a reflex action1 to be bett]4 ,9 ?is physical "w ! fir/ object is an entire1 absolute lett+ g ( all unnecess>y t5sion1 all t5sion t has ov]/ra9$ ! muscles ?r\gh an excess ( ef=t 9 our daily life1 ?\gh _m times ?is ef=t is purely unconsci\s on ! "p ( ! individual4 ,h[ _m a pati5t1 tru/+ s\l d we see ) ! muscles ( ! =ehead /ra9$ & elevat$ until ! eyebr[s nev] fall to _! normal height1 or ! br[s are contract$ until ! h>d l9es grav5 betwe5 ! eyes ev] bespeak ei!r pa9 or c>e4 ,! f\nd]s ( ! ,b5$ict9e nuns caught "s e*o ( ?is tru? :51 by a rule ( _! ord]1 no si/] among !m is p]mitt$ to we> a fr[n ^u h] br[4 ,& ! placid-fac$ si/]hood evid5ce 9 _! sweet expressions ! close relation betwe5 ! exot]ic & esot]ic ( our natures2 ! reflex action betwe5 ! physical & ! spiritual entities ( our be+4 ,art ( ,brea?+4 ,!re are a few g5]al po9ts t may be giv5 "h to ! improvem5t ( _m little habits t unconsci\sly enslave u & to ! lett+ g ( ! (fici\s p]sonal endeavor t we make1 z x 71 to hold ourselves toge!r--nev] believ+ t nature is m capable ( ! task4 ,aft] ! decompos+ ex]cises comes ! practice ( "o ( ! fir/ ,dels>tean axioms3 ,control at ! c5t]1 fre$om at ! extremities4 ,)\t ?is control ! newly acquir$ flexibility w be weak & affect$4 ,to obta9 ?is control ! art ( brea?+ mu/ fir/ be acquir$4 ,to d ?is prop]ly ! *e/ %\ld be inflat$ & ?r[n =w>d by ! action ( ! diaphragm & held z ! mo/ prom95t "p ( ! body2 a position too (t5 usurp$ by ! inf]ior abdom54 ,! same motion :i* ?r[s out ! *e/ %\ld draw 9 ! l[] "p ( ! trunk1 hang+ x f ! curve ( ! sp9e4 ,9 ! prop] attitude = good brea?+ ! hips turn slightly inw>d & ! *9 goes back1 b n up4 ,!re %\ld be no ef=t to ?r[ back ! %\ld]s4 ,take c>e ( ! *e/1 & ! %\ld]s w take c>e ( !mselves4 ,position ( ! ,%\ld]s4 ,mrs4 ,edmond ,russell says %e w\ld l to make a call t w\ld rea* e man & woman 9 ! c\ntry4 ',lift up y\r %\ld]s4' ,:5 "o says ?is n9e-t5?s ( !m /iff5 at ! neck1 ?r[ !mselves backw>d & project ! body bel[ ! wai/1 ! :ole figure out ( l9e4 ,no1 y %\ld get ! poise ( a ,greek goddess4 ,lift ! *e/1 ) ! %\ld]s d[n1 until x is on a l9e ) ! toes4 ,?is ?r[s ! ext5sion on ! c5t] ( ! body :]e x %\ld be4 ,! he>t & lungs n[ h full play4 ,close ! lips2 draw 9 ! air ?r\gh ! no/rils1 us+ ! muscles bel[ ! diaphragm z a bell[s1 until ! pressure aga9/ ! ribs has a bur/+ s5sation4 ,keep ?is t5sion firmly & /eadily z long z y c2 !n sl[ly & gradually let ! brea? out ?r\gh ! lips4 ,if y wi% to s+1 or recite1 or ev5 to talk1 see :at p[] is at y\r comm&4 ,try ?is brea?+1 inspiration1 ret5tion1 expiration--^! ?ree movem5ts--at night be=e y g to b$1 :5 ! body is free2 9 ! morn+ be=e y dress4 ,:5 y walk take 9 great1 glori\s lungsful ( air until full1 or deep brea?+ becomes a habit4 ,believe me1 brea?+ prop]ly is a c]ta9 cure = n]v\sness1 %yness & emb>rassm5t4 ,x gives comm& & fre$om ( motion1 a s5se ( p[]4 ,keep ! lips clos$ & brea! only ?r\gh ! no/rils4 ,?is is a mo/ important fact to rememb]1 & %\ld always be impress$ ^u *ildr54 ,! cold air %\ld nev] be tak5 directly into ! lungs z is ! case :5 x is inhal$ ?r\gh ! p>t$ lips4 ,*ildr51 z well z gr[n p1 %\ld le>n to keep ! m\? clos$ dur+ sleep2 ?is w\ld prev5t _m lung diseases1 ! disagreeable habit ( snor+1 & ! vacant1 inane expression produc$ by an op5 m\?4 ,!re is no bett] ex]cise to acquire a good habit ( brea?+ ?an read+ al\d4 ,try h[ mu* c be read easily1 )\t /ra91 ^u a s+le inflation ( ! lungs4 ,nev] gasp1 cat* up1 or piece out a brea?4 ,y may add ye>s to y\r life by ! simple act ( brea?+4 ,e public speak] kn[s1 or %\ld "k1 ! feel+ ( repose & self-possession t comes ov] him z he calmly1 sil5tly1 faces 8 audi5ce long en\gh to draw ?ree ( ^! deep1 full brea?s4 ,n]v\sness has vani%$2 he & 8 audi5ce h _h "t to become acqua9t$1 &1 hav+ comm& ov] himself1 he is able to comm& ! m9ds ( ^? be=e him4 ,/&+ & ,walk+4 ,:5 "o has le>n$ to brea! prop]ly1 !n x is t /&+ & walk+ may be practic$4 ,lift up ! *e/1 inflate ! lungs naturally1 z 9 p>agraph on brea?+1 !n /ep up to ! front ( a door1 lett+ ! toes t\* ! woodwork4 ,at ! same "t ! =ehead %\ld meet ! upp] portion ( ! door1 :5 x may be assum$ t a p]fect /&+ po/ure has be5 tak54 ,! poise w seem at fir/ to be a little =w>d ( a /raight l9e1 b to disprove ?is x w be f\nd t a plumb l9e dropp$ f ! e> w fall ?r\gh %\ld]1 hip & ankle4 ,! head w be pois$ z if to c>ry a burd5 /eadily on ! cr[n & ! weight ( ! body w re/ on ! ball ( ! foot1 n ! heel4 ,?is position may seem insecure at fir/1 z well z /iff & self-consci\s4 ,) "s ?is s5sation w we> (f soon] ?an ) o!rs1 accord+ to _! adaptability1 & ! result w be assur$ p[] = long1 graceful1 /r5g!n+ walks4 ,9 walk+1 a common fault is to let ! knees b5d cont9u\sly2 ?is gives a flabbyness to ! :ole p]sonal expression1 t always seems an outw>d expon5t ( a weak-kne$ "*4 ,! knees1 to obviate ?is1 %\ld be /iff5$ :5 walk+4 ,9 ! o!r extreme1 mo/ wom5 /iff5 ! ankle-jo9t unduly1 ?us giv+ a /raight up & d[n cramp$ walk1 :i* is accompani$ by com+ d[n ) all =ce ^u ! heel1 !reby produc+ a j> ?r\gh\t ! entire n]v\s sy/em1 z well z an awkw>d locomotion4 ,9 ?is way all b5efit ( ! /rong1 natural spr+ ( ! in/ep1 :i* t5ds to less5 ?is j> & give grace & spr+9ess to ! /ep is lo/1 & mu* we>9ess ( ! fle% is ! result4 ,mrs4 ,russell says3 ,we h a sy/em ( lev]s to d our walk+ )1 & !y act precisely z d all lev]s4 ,"o leg is a lev] to pry ! body ov] ! o!r leg1 & ! latt] becomes a p5dulum & sw+s back by =ce ( gravity4 ,:5 y walk ?ree miles & feel z if y c\ld walk t51 y are walk+ t way4 ,:5 y are tir$ out1 y are tak+ irregul> /eps & walk+ on y\r heels4 ,9 walk+ ! foot %\ld be us$ z an ela/ic ar*1 ! ball /rik+ ! gr\nd fir/1 n ! heel4 ,try+ to /ep too f> is productive ( awkw>dness4 ,hurry+ is ano!r cause4 ,x is bad walk+ to lift up y\r foot & put x d[n4 ,if ! sole ( ! foot %[s at all1 x %\ld be f ! re>4 ,:at is want+ is ela/icity4 ,sw++ ! arms 9 walk+1 :i* is univ]sal1 is absolutely unnecess>y1 & purely a wa/e ( /r5g?4 ,let !m hang p5dulum fa%ion4 ,/air-,climb+4 ,tra9$ /air-climb]s %\ld be ! heal?ie/ z well z ! mo/ beautiful ( wom51 yet1 says ,mrs4 ,russell1 a t[n ( /airs giv51 & ,i w prophesy ?91 eye-circl$1 cross-look+ wom54 ,all ( ?is is to be laid to ! fact t mo/ wom5 climb /airs 9 ! h>de/ & mo/ awkw>d mann]4 ,9 go+ up/airs !re %\ld be no waddl+ f side to side1 no trudg+1 no lean+ =w>d1 & no app>5t we>9ess4 ,! body %\ld rema9 erect1 ! /ep %\ld be tak5 ) ! ball ( ! foot1 & ! movem5t to ! next /ep be made ) a spr++ motion4 ,?is produces a graceful1 poetic elevation in/ead ( a cumb]some haul+ ( ! body upw>d1 & ?r[s all ( ! /ra9 ^u ! /rong muscles ( ! calf ( ! leg4 ,?is slightly acc5t$ spr++ f /ep to /ep leads ! true sy/em ( pac+ on level gr\nd2 h5ce1 ! /airway may be made ! walk]'s gymnasium4 ,art ( ,lett+ ,g4 ,relax1 relax1 says ,edmond ,russell4 ,let g ! t5se hold ( y\r arms t is we>+ out y\r vitality4 ,y w get re/ by do+ ?is4 ,sleepless p w fall asleep4 ,/op hold+ y\rself 9 a knot & relax4 ,hold up ! *e/1 brea! sl[ly & deeply ?r\gh ! nose1 & relax ! extremities4 ,try lett+ g1 says ,mrs4 ,russell2 x is a great re/4 ,y c let y\rself g = a few mom5ts 9 ! !at]1 9 a cr[d1 9 *ur*1 9 ! /reet c>1 any:]e4 ,x is ! univ]sal habit to hold on to "o's self ) a grip t w\ld almo/ lift "o's weight1 muscles tight5$1 n]ves /ra9$ to no purpose4 ,! m9d is too eag] & fa/ = ! body4 ,! result is exhau/ion4 ,h[ %all x be avoid$8 ,take ! w out ( ! body :5 x is n 9 action4 ,9 walk+1 let ! l[] limbs d ! "w2 ! arms h no?+ to d3 let !m be c>ri$ z atta*m5ts1 p5dulums if y w1 b at re/4 ,let ! h&s fall easily :5 sitt+ 9 c>riage1 /reet c>1 or draw+-room4 ,on ,corset ,we>+4 ,! we>+ ( corsets meets ! /rong disapproval ( all ,dels>teans1 z control ( ! brea? und]lies ge/ure1 walk & voice1 & a tight5$ corset-lace necess>ily cramps ! brea?+ p[]4 ,! tight1 high coll> is also objectionable = ! same reason4 ,an ,engli% writ] ju/ly obs]ves t all ! great] h>monies & high] c\rtesies ( life mu/ ext5d ov] ! :ole body4 ,n[1 9 great emotions ! *e/ exp&s1 & especially ! l[] "p :]e ! ribs are free/ & int5d$ to exp& mo/1 & ?is "p x is t tight corsets mo/ compress to atta9 ! artificial wai/4 ,! figure1 try+ to accommodate itself to ! new conditions becomes det]iorat$ 9 all directions4 ,! back gr[s r\nd$1 ! ribs fall 91 & ! /oma* obtrudes itself unduly2 all ?is to ! injury ( heal? & ( h>moni\s beauty ( =m4 ,mr4 ,russell also ass]ts t a =c$ compression ( ! wai/ damages ! p[] ( ! figure z an in/rum5t = ! expression ( emotions1 ! result ( all ?is be+ an unfavorable reaction ^u ! m9d & "* ( ! un=tunate victims4 ,"o ( 8 maxims is3 ,a beautiful woman is at h] l[e/ plane 9 a tight-fitt+ dress2 an ugly woman on h] highe/ 9 drap]y6 ,g5]al ,rem>ks4 ,educat$ m5 & wom5 ( to-day /udy social1 dome/ic & political economy1 =gett+ t vital economy t ,dels>te tea*es is m ess5tial to our int]e/s & ! int]e/s ( our desc5dants4 ,relax1 relax1 relax6 "o is tempt$ to cry 9 unison ) ,edmond ,russell4 ,give u :at !re is 9 y4 ,make y\rself a be+ ^: body is ! expon5t ( ! s\l responsive to e comm& ( ! _s4 ,cease limp+ ?r\gh life on high-heel$ %oes4 ,cease lift+ ! %\ld]s1 fidget+ ! h&s1 pa9fully rais+ ! eyebr[s1 & contort+ ! face into a mean+less smile4 ,rememb] t all facial contortions leave indelible traces 9 _! wake4 ,! laugh1 or broad smile t half closes1 or squ9ts ! eyes1 engraves ^? f9e ray-l1 mu*-dread$ l9es ab\t ! eye1 kn[n z cr['s feet4 ,rememb] t laught] ages ! face m ?an te>s4 ,smile m (t5 ) ! eyes4 ,let !m light up & laugh = y4 ,tru/ me1 9 mo/ cases a va/ improvem5t w result1 s9ce sc>cely any adult laughs well1 & if !re is "s trait ( affectation1 frivolity1 cruelty1 or ev5 co>s5ess 9 ! "*1 uncontroll$ laught] w be ! sure expon5t !re(4 ,re/ m4 ,d n try to accompli% too _m ?+s at once4 ,d n let y\r ?\ghts be weeks or days ahead ( y & ! task 9 h&4 ,?is w\ld be impos+ d\ble duty ^u ! already /ra9$ physique4 ,if ! body is at "o /ore1 d n let ! m9d fly (f to %op 9 half a doz5 o!r /ores to snat* b>ga9s f ! h&s ( o!r ov]-burd5$ ones4 ,/raight5 out ! fr[ns on y\r /ra9$ br[s4 ,cease c>ry+ numb]less loose packages1 & loads ( heavy skirts 9 y\r h&s1 & /ruggl+ ) ! well-dress$ mob to secure covet$ b>ga9s4 ,!y are de>ly b\ght at ! loss ( beauty1 y\? & repose4 ,"o su* day ages ! face4 ,if y d n believe x1 ye dwell]s 9 cities1 g /& be=e y\r mirror next "t y rea* home1 du/y1 rasp$1 fragm5t>y1 we>y f a day ( c\nt]-%ov+1 nei!r mi/ress ( y\rself nor ^? ab\t y1 & ! face t meets y\r gaze w tell its own /ory4 ,rightly does ,h]b]t ,sp5c] say1 ,we h _h some?+ too mu* ( ! gospel ( "w1 x is "t to prea* ! gospel ( relaxation4 ,& ?is *apt] w h rea*$ its aim if x %all be ! means ( induc+ any to become disciples ( ,dels>te1 re/ful conv]ts ( ?is gospel ( relaxation1 :i* is "o ) ! ,gospel ( ,beauty4 ,illu/ration ,,art ,,( ,,dress ,illu/ration ,dress may be call$ ! spee* ( ! body1 says ,mrs4 ,haweis4 ,a woman's dress %\ld be s mu* ! expression ( h]self t1 see+ x1 we ?9k n ( ! g[n1 b ( ! woman :o is its s\l4 ,! true art ( dress is rea*$ :5 x s]ves only to height5 ! *>ms ( ! we>]1 n to draw att5tion f h] to c5t] ^u h] g>m5ts4 ,"o writ] on beauty 9 dress claims t ! object is ?reefold3 to cov]1 to w>m1 to beautify1 & 9 deal+ ) ?is latt] po9t f>!r says t1 r ?an to beautify1 x is to emphasize beauty4 ,to ?is /atem5t %\ld be add$ t its mission is also to m9imize or d away ) defects4 ,mo/ dress+ is done to enhance ! beauty ( ! face1 b wom5 %\ld rememb] t ! t9t ( ! complexion1 ! color ( hair & eyes1 are b a small "p ( ! p]sonnel4 ,! physique mu/ be tak5 into acc\nt4 ,! type is a fact fix$ & inevitable1 & ! woman is wise :o sets h]self /eadfa/ly to develop & emphasize its beauties & ov]%ad[ & efface its defects4 ,x is only by real /udy t a woman gr[s to und]/& & analyze h] type & suit all accessories to h] own p]sonality2 to adju/1 z x 71 h] relations4 ,art1 aft] all1 is simply1 z ,edmund ,russell admirably def9es x1 relations1 ! "r ?+ 9 ! "r place4 ,/udy y\r own individuality & ass]t x 9 y\r dress4 ,no woman ne$ be ugly if %e kn[s h] own po9ts1 & "s po9ts ( attractiv5ess e woman has4 ,"l ,*e/]field1 t cynical man ( ! _w1 assures u t no woman is ugly :5 %e is well dress$4 ,t is1 dress$ ) ref]5ce to reveal+ good po9ts & conceal+ weak ones4 ,"t sp5t 9 ?is /udy is ga91 :5 "o rememb]s 9 h[ _m ways actual outw>d ugl9ess is an imp$im5t4 ,! great] portion ( ill-temp]$1 ugly wom5 are ill-temp]$ simply because !y believe !mselves hopelessly ugly4 ,a woman1 f9d+ h] fair] fri5ds con/antly pref]r$ despite h] va9 attempts to please1 gr[s di%e>t5$1 !n s>ca/ic1 envi\s1 ill-temp]$1 half unconsci\sly4 ,k is p[]2 beauty & k comb9$ are well-nigh all-p[]ful4 ,/\t & ,?94 ,texture1 color & =m mu/ all be consid]$ 9 relation to ! p]sonal appe>ance or type4 ,! beautiful 9 itself is n always a safe guide1 b its beauty 9 relation to ! we>] mu/ be ! te/4 ,fair1 delicate1 sl5d] wom5 make a great mi/ake :5 !y ov]-weigh !mselves ) ri*1 heavy fabrics1 no matt] h[ beautiful ^! may be 9 !mselves4 ,in/ead1 !y %\ld keep to cl++1 drap+ mat]ials1 %e] lawns & %9+ silks4 ,on ! contr>y1 ! v /\t woman may we> all mann] ( ri* g[n+s t fall 9 graci\s massive folds4 ,clad ?us1 h] size w h ab\t x a re/ful elem5t ( repose4 ,let h] bew>e ( closely fitt$ g[ns4 ,^! t5d to enhance ! size !y are suppos$ to conceal4 ,watteau or ,pr9cess robes fall+ f ! %\ld] 9 unbrok5 l9es r5d] h] impos+4 ,little ruffles %\ld be avoid$1 or frills ( lace1 & :atev] drap]y !re be %\ld fall f %\ld] or hip2 ?is gives long curv+ undulations t foll[ e movem5t4 ,! /\t woman %\ld leave black sat9 sev]ely alone2 reflect+ ! light1 x reveals =m & size rel5tlessly4 ,reveal$ =m is vulg>1 sugge/$ =m poetic1 says ! high art ( to-day1 & :o w\ld n be poetic & graci\s if %e c\ld8 ,if /\t wom51 decl>es ,edmund ,russell1 w\ld le>n to move 9 gr&1 sl[ rhy?m1 & we> textures s heavy t ! l9es ( _! figures 7 conceal$1 !y w\ld h a gr&eur & dignity t no sl5d] woman c\ld hope to atta94 ,wom5 mu/ recognize _! defects be=e !y c hope to correct !m4 ,a tall1 angul> woman mu/ adopt s(t1 fleecy mat]ials1 s made t !y c float & curve ab\t all ungraceful angles1 hid+1 or s(t5+ !m4 ,%e ( a defici5t figure mu/ nev] we> a pla91 tightly fitt+ g[n1 unless x is reliev$1 & fill$ out ) s(t full ve/s1 or veil$ ) fall+ folds ( lace4 ,!re is only an occasional p]fect =m t w be> ! m]ciless revelation ( ! pla91 tight habit1 & ev5 !n ! sugge/ion ( a conceal+ drap]y height5s ! beauty ( ! reveal$ curves4 ,all dress %\ld be gov]n$ by %awl in/ead ( glove rule1 ass]t ! late/ canons ( co/ume4 ,tall or ,%ort4 ,!re are proportionately m wom5 t are too %ort1 ?an too tall4 ,always a little s5sitive to ?is defect1 "s try to increase _! /ature by high heels1 :i* r5d]s _! gait awkw>d1 besides be+ injuri\s to heal?4 ,o!rs endeavor to add to _! app>5t height by cultivat+ a long wai/4 ,?is !y d at ! exp5se ( %ort5+ ! l[] limbs1 ?us mak+ !mselves seem %ort] ?an !y actually are4 ,o!rs /rive to atta9 ! same end by dress+ ! hair high1 9 ?is way too (t5 add+ to ! app>5t bulk ( ! head & giv+ a top-heavy appe>ance to ! figure4 ,x is "h t a full-l5g? glass becomes almo/ a necessity 9 ! dress+-room1 s t ! entire effect ( ! figure may be obs]v$ at once1 & defects ( ?is nature detect$ at a glance4 ,sometimes a high ornam5t worn at ! top ( ! head app>5tly increases height1 b bew>e ( any bulky /yle4 ,long l9es ( drap]y f %\ld] to foot give ! effect ( height4 ,horizontal l9es cross+ ! figure %ort5 ! =m4 ,%ort1 /\t wom51 by we>+ %ort basques t make a l9e ab\t ! hips1 or ruffles & puffs at ! %\ld]s1 increase _! bulk & %ort5 _! /ature4 ,wom5 too tall & sl5d] use horizontal l9es & puff$ & ruffl$ effects to great advantage1 ?us increas+ ! app>5t size ( an arm by puffs & surr\nd+ b&s1 or hips by ! descriptive l9e ( a basque4 ,! way ( we>+ ! hair1 also1 may greatly *ange ! :ole appe>ance4 ,worn at ! nape ( ! neck x is dome/ic2 l[]1 romantic2 on a level ) ! head1 classic2 on top ( ! head1 /yli%4 ,decorations4 ,a t5et ( ,dels>tean art ass]ts t1 ,a decoration is to make some?+ else beautiful & mu/ n ass]t1 b sacrifice itself4 ,ornam5t t has no use :atev] is nev]1 9 any high s5se1 beautiful4 ,a trimm+ ) no reason = be+ is g5]ally ungraceful4 ,buttons :i* fa/5 no?+ %\ld nev] be scatt]$ ov] a g>m5t4 ,b[s1 :i* are simply /r+s ti$ toge!r1 %\ld only be plac$ :]e !re is "s possible use = /r+s ti$ toge!r4 ,9 %ort1 accord+ to ,mrs4 ,haweis1 ,any?+ t looks useful1 & is useless1 is 9 bad ta/e4 ,= in/ance1 ! dress imitat+ a peasant or a fi%wife is nev] s graceful or piquant z ! real co/ume1 s9ce ! h&k]*ief cov]+ ! peasant's b>e neck is mu* m picturesque ?an a bodice trimm$ 9 =m ( a k]*ief4 ,sla%es are at all times a mo/ beautiful decoration4 ,at %\ld]1 elb[1 brea/1 edge ( a flatt5$ cap1 ! knees1 cut j :]e a devotee ( com=t might cut !m to give m fre$om ( movem5t4 ,! sla% =ms an unrivall$ opportunity = displays ( color4 ,deep blue1 p>t+ to display a glimpse ( amb]1 :ite ?r\gh black1 ! comb9ations are endless1 & ! :ole gives ! idea ( a glimpse ( an und]g>m5t ?r\gh an out] "o4 ,! contra/ ( a l9+ ( ve/1 sleeve or panel is also a h>moni\s ornam5t4 ,dcollet ,co/ume4 ,x is n ! prov9ce ( ?is "w to decide ! vex$ "q ( ! l[-cut bodice = full dress4 ,9 ?is respect e woman w be a law unto h]self1 & e woman kn[s 9 h] own m9d ! bord] l9e bel[ :i* ! corsage %\ld n fall4 ,all1 h[ev]1 d n "k h[ greatly ! h>d1 horizontal l9e ( ! l[-cut bodice dim9i%es ! appe>ance ( height4 ,h]e9 lies ! great advantage ( ! he>t or squ>e-%ap$ op5+ %[+ ! ?roat1 s9ce a dress high beh9d1 or on ! %\ld]s1 gives all ! height4 ,la/1 b n lea/1 all ! lovely curves ( ! ?roat are %[n 9 ?is way1 & any suspicion ( angul>ity ( ! coll> bone is hidd54 ,a dress %\ld nev] end directly ^u ! sk94 ,! l9e ( contact %\ld always be s(t5$ by an edge ( lace1 tulle1 or ru*+4 ,fir/1 = ! idea ( cleanl9ess2 second1 because nature abhors %>p edges4 ,9 fl[]s !re are contra/s ( color1 b !y are always s(t5$1 ea* %ade /eal+ a little f ! o!r z !y bl5d4 ,a regul>ly dcollet g[n is prop]ly worn only dur+ ! same h\rs t a g5tleman's dress suit is donn$1 t is1 f dusk to dawn4 ,%>p edges %\ld be avoid$ z mu* z possible 9 ! entire co/ume4 ,a glove t ends exactly at ! wri/ bone1 or a boot at ! ankle jo9t1 ) a /raight l9e1 is always ugly2 s are dresses :5 !y are cut 9 a circle close to ! juncture ( ! neck ) ! %\ld]1 giv+ ! neck a decapitat$ appe>ance4 ,! l9e ( contra/ %\ld always be s(t5$ ) an edge ( lace1 or a necklace1 & only r\nd1 pretty ?roats %\ld d>e su* a display4 ,! skirt ought to appe>1 ev5 if x is n1 z a portion & a cont9uance ( ! bodice4 ,t is1 if ! bodice be cut to fit ! figure tightly1 ! skirt ought prop]ly to be pla9ly gor$4 ,if ! bodice be full at ! wai/ l9e1 ! skirt also %\ld conta9 fullness1 = ?is =m signifies a loose1 full g>m5t b\nd at ! wai/ ) a girdle4 ,full wai/s & pla9 skirts1 or vice v]sa1 betray at once t skirt & bodice d n belong to ea* o!r4 ,?is c\rse1 h[ev]1 is admissible at times1 = in/ance1 9 case ( ! lovely1 loose tea-jackets worn n[1 or 9 donn+ any cool lawn bl\se1 or dress+ sacque = com=t4 ,! tra9$ skirt is a mo/ graceful g>b1 add+ to height & dim9i%+ /\tness1 b x is nev] suitable = ! /reet4 ,= h\se1 ev5+ or c>riage toilets x is em95tly prop] & pretty4 ,all ! movem5ts ( ! =m are s(t5$ & dignifi$ by its sweep+ undulations until "o comes to feel t %ort skirts are really a mi/ake = a h\se g[n1 s9ce s mu* grace & beauty ( motion are sacrific$ !reby4 ,graceful ,sleeves4 ,few wom5 h beautiful arms above ! elb[4 ,fatness is n correctness ( =m1 s t a %ort sleeve1 no sleeve1 or ! pa9ful /rap :i* is all s _m ev5+ dresses c boa/1 is by no means always a ?+ ( beauty4 ,a sleeve t falls 9 lace & frills j bel[ ! elb[ hides _m defects1 besides s(t5+1 & r5d]+ delicate1 ! l[] arm & ! h&4 ,a sleeve long en\gh to turn upw>d z a cuff1 is mu* m effective ?an a simulat$ cuff1 j z ! ?+ itself is always bett] ?an an imitation4 ,a sleeve t /ops %ort at ! wri/ jo9t %\ld be reliev$ by lace to be arti/ic4 ,full sleeves improve e =m4 ,! v /\t %\ld nev] make ! mi/ake ( we>+ a v tight sleeve1 s9ce to d s simply increases ! app>5t size ( ! arm4 ,a full sleeve b\nd to ! arm betwe5 jo9ts gives an impression ( com=t & beauty l ! sla%$ sleeve be=e m5tion$4 ,pa9t]s h immortaliz$ beautiful sleeves1 z well z beautiful co/umes4 ,inde$1 to decide on really beautiful g[ns "o mu/ /udy ! great ma/]s--,ga9sbor\gh1 ,reynolds1 ,watteau--until ! /udy ( co/ume becomes :at x %\ld be--a /udy ( art4 ,pur*as+4 ,!re %\ld nev] be try+ contra/s 9 ! quality ( ! v>i\s articles t g to make up ! sum-total ( dress4 ,to exp5d almo/ ! entire all[ance on a gorge\s bonnet t puts e o!r detail ( ! co/ume to blu%1 or to we> a %abby cloak ) an elegant g[n are examples ( injudici\s exp5diture4 ,in/ead1 let x be rememb]$ h[ _m articles mu/ be pur*as$ & !n s exp5d ! sum to be drawn ^u t x w n be exhau/$ on two or ?ree exp5sive articles to ! neglect ( ! necess>y accessories4 ,an important po9t to be consid]$ is ! surr\nd+s 9 :i* ! g>m5ts are to be worn4 ,:e!r "o is to drive ov] c\ntry roads or walk city /reets2 :e!r !y mu/ la/ "o season or m4 ,9 ?is latt] case c>e %\ld be tak5 to *oose quiet colors & inconspicu\s patt]ns4 ,if ! g[n mu/ s]ve _m purposes let x be ( "s pla9 wool goods1 ta/efully made1 hat & gloves h>moniz+ 9 t9t1 ! :ole be>+ ! impr9t ( ! true lady & suitable = almo/ any occasion4 ,at ! same "t ! entire outfit w h co/ no m ?an ! de>ly-pur*as$ silk g[n t left no m>g9 = hat1 gloves1 or %oes1 & mu/ be worn on e occasion1 suitable or unsuitable1 to ! discom=t ( ! we>] & ! ru9 ( ! g[n4 ,if rid+ ab\t 9 ! c\ntry1 *oose wool fabrics t w n crease easily1 or %[ du/1 & = summ]1 cotton mat]ials t w come bright & fre% f ! h&s ( ! laundress4 ,! ,"y ,girl4 ,sweet simplicity alone %\ld be ! guide = ! "y girl's co/ume4 ,! dewy bloom ( ! *eek1 ! cle> "y eyes1 ! s(t rosebud lips1 ! sweet curves ( ! li! =m t come b once 9 a lifetime1 are :at we want mo/ to see4 ,no heavy velvets or gorge\s trimm+s %\ld be worn by any girl "u tw5ty-"o4 ,to call att5tion to h] ornam5ts is to detract f h] priceless ornam5t ( sweet & fleet+ y\?4 ,simple musl9s & wools1 s(t1 cl++ silks & gauzes %\ld be worn4 ,fl[]s are pref]able to jewels4 ,a necklace ( pe>ls may be worn1 %\ld ! complexion w>rant1 b o!r ?an ?is is a wa/e ( money1 & a wa/e ( beauty4 ,s(t colors1 :]e ! sk9 p]mits1 simplicity 9 cut1 little if any trimm+1 & we h ! co/ume mo/ fitt+ = a girl to we>1 & :5 we say fitt+ we h f\nd ! key to p]fect dress+4 ,diamonds & ,preci\s ,/ones4 ,wom5 seem to look ^u diamonds z a sort ( social p>ole1 :ile1 9 tru?1 !re are b few wom5 :o c we> !m )\t detract+ f _! own brilliancy2 )\t sacrific+ !mselves to _! jewels4 ,d>k1 brilliant eyes & dazzl+ tee? may we> !m safely1 or1 v cle>1 cool sk9s ) bright1 blue eyes may d>e !m at _! own risk4 ,yet1 to tip ! e> ) diamond fire is sure to call att5tion f ! be/ po9ts ( ! face1 & 9 too _m cases simply effaces & out%9es ! face itself4 ,edmond ,russell sev]ely criticises diamond solitaires = e>r+s & e/eems ! /one a difficult "o to we> except :5 small & us$ 9 quantities z sett+s = o!r jewels4 ,! secret ( good ta/e 9 jewels is = a woman to seek out ^? gems ^: colors h>monize ) or height5 h] own t9ts1 z %e does ! %ades = h] g[n1 & conf9e h]self to !m4 ,x is q ! ?+ n[ to h a special /one1 z x is to h a special p]fume4 ,= in/ance1 ! turquoise is v becom+ to "s 7x is ,mrs4 ,langtry's /one71 g>nets or rubies to o!rs4 ,! pe>l1 :]e x c be worn1 s(t5s ! face m ?an any o!r jewel4 ,! moon/one is v ne>ly z effective1 z well z ! beautiful opal4 ,r+s1 "s au?orities say1 %\ld be worn 9 b>b>ic pr(usion1 or n at all4 ,a sl5d]1 beautifully model$ h& c af=d to be guiltless ( r+s4 ,"o less p]fect 9 %ape1 b :ite1 c be enhanc$ 9 *>m by a blaze ( jewels4 ,plump ,wom54 ,9 ! days ( ! pa9t] ,rub5s /\t wom5 7 ! mo/ fa%ionable creatures t walk$ ! face ( ! e>?4 ,rub5s w\ld pa9t none o!r ?an ^? ( v firm build1 & s arti/ically did he drape !m1 s clev]ly did he pose !m1 & s well did he color !m1 t e woman aspir$ to sit = 8 pictures4 ,to be pa9t$ by ,rub5s 0 a gu>antee ( beauty1 grace & fem99e lovel9ess ( e description4 ,! ,rub5s woman is a /\t woman ( good figure4 ,/\t wom5 ne>ly always h f9e =ms4 ,_! bu/ l9e is good4 ,x is l[ & ! neck curve full1 ev5 if n v long4 ,! ,rub5s arti/ makes ! mo/ ( ^! good po9ts & conceals o!rs4 ,9 mod]n times1 h[ev]1 ! /\t woman f9ds t ! fa%ions are r>ely meant = h]4 ,9 view ( ?is1 a numb] ( weal?y ,new ,york wom5 h b&$ !mselves toge!r 9 a ,rub5s ,club1 ) "o ( its *ief aims ! design+ ( dresses = ! memb]s4 ,= ?is purpose a pr(essional design] is *os51 an arti/ ( no mean m]it4 ,! presid5t ( ! ,rub5s ,club1 :o is a woman ( beauty & weal? & great lovel9ess ( mann]1 _h ! honor ( hav+ ! fir/ g[n design$ = h]self4 ,?is 0 an ev5+ robe ( great beauty1 a regul> ,rub5s g[n4 ,! mat]ials 7 dead :ite ca%m]e & dull black sat91 ) a v little lace & jet4 ,! "u g[n1 or ! g[n itself1 m /rictly speak+1 fell f ! %\ld]s 9 a long1 loose robe4 ,9 ! front !re 0 a c5t] trimm+ ( black sat9 & lace & a heavy ruffle ( lace outl9$ ! bu/ & sugge/$ ! wai/4 ,a few jets 7 add$4 ,! back fitt$ closely1 & ar\nd ! foot ext5d$ a deep b& ( ! black4 ,ov] ! ,rub5s g[n fell a robe ( ! sat94 ,x 0 caught at ea* %\ld] & fell into a tra9 ?ree feet long :5 ! we>] walk$4 ,9 repose x lay ar\nd h] feet1 giv+ h] height & a becom+ sett+4 ,! good po9ts ( ?is g[n are1 fir/1 ! way x %[$ (f ! v plump neck ( ! we>]4 ,! f9e ?roat l9e 0 visible1 b at ! %\ld]s1 :]e too mu* massiv5ess takes ! place ( f9e firm fle%1 ! robe 0 drap$4 ,! arms 7 likewise cov]$ at ! top1 _! ?icke/ "p1 &1 z ! robe fell ov] !m :5 9 repose1 mu* ( _! app>5t size disappe>$4 ,! robe _h "o v odd feature4 ,! tra9 0 a d\blet "o4 ,! back ( ! robe 0 little m ?an walk+ l5g?1 b ! ends 7 v long inde$4 ,?is made a squ>e c\rt tra9 l a mon>*'s robe1 & c\ld be easily br\ght front by ! h&1 = trimm+ or drap]y :5 ! we>] 0 n walk+4 ,black ,sat9 & ,sp>kl+ ,jets4 ,9 *oos+ ! color ( ! g[n to be sn[-:ite in/ead ( cream color1 ! arti/ knew :at he 0 specify+4 ,:ite is a dim9i%+ color1 :ile cream color enl>ges4 ,! same ) black sat94 ,sat91 be+ full ( lights & %ades1 is unc]ta9 9 size1 & x is pref]able to silk or velvet1 :i* makes ! p]son ?ick]4 ,! jets are dressy1 wick$ little ornam5ts t w9k at y unexpect$ly & disappe>4 ,mu* pa9s are tak5 9 *oos+ colors1 & !n comes ! arti/'s real "w4 ,! h>de/ ?+ is to fit out 8 patrons ) /reet g[ns t w be conv5tional1 & yet ,rub5esque4 ,to d ?is he takes advantage ( ! cape idea4 ,a /\t woman 9 a neat fitt+ g[n1 n too close "u ! bu/1 looks picturesque ) a golf cape sw++ f "o %\ld]4 ,x gives h] height4 ,! dolmans t op5 9 front & fall l[ at ea* side are admirable also1 accord+ to 8 ideas4 ,,colors ,,& ,,complexions4 ,illu/ration ,a ?+ %\ld be beautiful 9 itself1 & x %\ld be beautiful = y4 ,good dress+ includes a sugge/ion ( poetry2 b to ga9 ?is poetic grace c>eful /udy mu/ be made ( hair1 eyes & sk91 = a dress t is beautiful 9 itself1 or beautiful on "o we>]1 may be a failure on ano!r4 ,/udy to compose y\r co/ume well2 !n1 donn+ x1 cease to ?9k ( x or y\rself4 ,lead up g5tly to all contra/+ colors t are introduc$ into a co/ume = l9+s ( loose drap]ies1 sleeves1 or z ve/s4 ,gl>+ contra/s1 or spotty effects %\ld be gu>d$ aga9/4 ,all brilliant colors 9 a co/ume %\ld be rea*$ gradually l a climax 9 music1 or a high light 9 a f9e pa9t+4 ,o!rwise !re is a j>1 & ! h>mony ( relation is brok54 ,complexion ,det]m9es ,dress ,colors4 ,sometimes a color us$ sp>+ly 9 a knot ( ribbon1 or glimps$ z a l9+1 is becom+1 :ile ! same color1 us$ 9 quantity1 or z a gr\nd color ( ! co/ume1 might prove inh>moni\s ) ! complexion4 ,x is well = e woman to *oose a c]ta9 prov$ range ( colors t %e c be>1 & to v5ture cauti\sly or seldom on new exp]im5ts4 ,^! colors w be f\nd l a musical scale1 to h>monize well 9 almo/ any comb9ation4 ,?us beauty1 conv5i5ce & economy are all consult$ by loyalty to ^! prov$ %ades4 ,endless arrangem5ts might be sugge/$ on ! economical side ( ! "q4 ,! light ev5+ silk ( ! season be=e may be us$ = l9+ or =m ! long loose front ( ! tea-g[n ( ! pres5t4 ,! ri* drap]ies ( la/ ye>'s c>riage g[n may fitly furni% =? ! natty velvet ve/ & da9ty bonnet to we> ) ?is ye>'s /reet suit1 & no?+ be lo/4 ,"o m caution z to colors4 ,! v delicate blonde :o has revel$ 9 pale/1 da9tie/ %ades mu/ bew>e ( presum+ too long on t evanesc5t bloom1 le/ %e f9d h]self bas+ ! color ( h] dress on a fl[] t fad$ ye>s ago4 ,or else1 maybe1 on "o t has unfold$ into a ri*] bloom1 & by n adapt+ h] color scale to ! *anges ( "t1 %e loses all ! beauty ( ! pres5t4 ,ano!r mi/ake wom5 make is to =get t lovely *ildi% curves ( e>ly y\? *ange ) ! advanc+ ye>s & ! babyi% /yle ( dress+1 s becom+ !n1 may be worn too long4 ,! r\nd$ ?roat ( ! plump woman becomes muscul> all too soon1 & ! delicate ?roat ( ! sl5d] woman is too prone to lose its s(t outl9es4 ,! *anges ( color t occur almo/ always 9 cool1 pale blondes are (t5 b *anges 9 beauty2 /ill1 ^! *anges 9 complexion mu/ be met ) *anges 9 dress4 ,comb9ations ( ,color4 ,a secret ( arti/ic dress+ is to mat* ! hair z ne>ly z possible = day & ! eyes = ev5+4 ,! produc+ ( an all-ov] effect by drap]y1 veil+1 & head-ge> ( ! same %ade is mo/ ?or\ghly arti/ic4 ,^! two high art axioms may be giv5 z a safe f\ndation = ! *oice ( colors1 9 foll[+ :i* no "o c greatly err4 ,! woman ( mezzo-t9ts1 ( s(t half-tones ( complexion1 hair & eyes1 loses all color & =ce :5 %e clo!s h]self ) deep1 int5se hues4 ,l[1 w>m1 unaggressive %ades are ne$$ z a backgr\nd to br+ out all h] own be/ po9ts4 ,"s p1 says ,miss ,oakey1 h _m possibilities ( =m & color :i* may be br\ght out "u special treatm5t1 b mo/ p h only ! "o possibility :i* c be improv$ ^u4 ,c]ta9 wom5 may be dress$ 9 "o set ( colors t emphasize ! :it5ess ( _! sk92 &1 9 /ill ano!r1 t br+ out _! own color1 :ile o!rs mu/ be cont5t ) "o c]ta9 range ( t9ts4 ,r$ ,hair1 ) ,br[n ,eyes4 ,?is type ( woman may we> amb]1 deep l9$ ) fawn or pale yell[i% p9k2 d>k1 ri* r$1 l a r$ hollyhock2 creamy-:ite 7creamy-:ite sat9 ) pe>ls & old po9t lace72 olives & d>k gre5s1 cl>et1 m>oon1 plum & gold color4 ,jewels--topaz1 amb]1 pe>ls & gold ornam5ts4 ,all mann] ( lovely comb9ations may be made out ( ^! colors2 especially d>k amb]1 approa*+ br[n1 contra/$ ) pale fawn or gold color4 ,topazes = jewels4 ,sable furs & ! deep] %ade ( m9k are exce$+ly becom+1 & ! same colors ( ! fur c be _h 9 mo/ dress mat]ials4 ,!re is also a c]ta9 %ade ( m>oon :i* makes r$ hair a positive gold51 & ?r[s into bold relief ! cle> :ite t9t ( ! complexion ev5 :5 !re are freckles4 ,^! same freckles are also improv$ by ! we>+ ( ?is m>oon color4 ,r$ ,hair1 ) ,gray or ,gre5 ,eyes4 ,?is type may we> all ! above colors1 add+ to !m all ! br[ns & purples4 ,ame?y/s may be worn ) ! grays4 ,grays & any ( ! above gre5s contra/ beautifully4 ,! ,ineffective ,type4 ,?is /yle ( woman has dull1 light br[n hair1 no brilliancy ( complexion1 usually gray or blue eyes4 ,! type (t5 numb]s "s ( our mo/ spiritual & intellectual wom51 z well z1 v (t51 our con/itutionally delicate wom54 ,x is a type v difficult to dress effectively4 ,! black ( velvet may be worn1 & s(t wools reliev$ by velvet or lace2 creamy :ite1 by ca/+ reflect$ lights1 cle>s ! complexion4 ,be c>eful ( ?is h[ev]4 ,w>m1 pale p9k may be worn ) x4 ,invisible blues & gre5s 79 o!r words1 v d>k %ades74 ,! pale/ possible p9k may be comb9$ ) ^! z l9+s1 ve/s or ribbons4 ,pale p9k1 l9$ ) a p9k almo/ :ite2 pale1 b n *alky blues4 ,blue %\ld n be worn 9 silk1 unless ( a v dull or lu/]less quality4 ,/yli% & ,appropriate ,jewels4 ,if ! eyes are blue1 sapphires may be p]mitt$ 7a gray sapphire is be/72 pe>ls1 ! gre5i% turquoise1 moon/ones1 intaglios1 cameos1 antique co9s4 ,?is ineffective type frequ5tly1 because ( bett] heal?1 ga9s a w>m] gl[ to ! sk9 & a ri*] tone to ! hair4 ,9 ?is case !re may be add$ to ! above colors yell[-br[ns1 fawn-br[ns1 & a little light] gre51 contra/$ ) ! d>k] gre5s4 ,br[n-black hair1 /eel-gray eyes1 fair sk9 ) color 9 *eeks1 may we> all gre5s 7save ! v light71 cream-:ite1 fawns1 grays1 br[ns1 r$s1 violet1 a ri* p9k1 & all blues4 ,if any type c we> black ) impunity1 ?is c4 ,= jewels1 any desir$ /one4 ,black hair1 v d>k eyes1 gold5-br[n sk91 w>m color1 brilliantly :ite tee?1 may we> ri* br[ns1 cl>ets1 deep amb]1 cream-:ite1 w>m p9ks & flame-color4 ,avoid black & v pale colors4 ,yell[ may be worn sometimes1 b ) a w>n+ "h to ! black-hair$ type 9 g5]al4 ,a writ] on color wisely says t yell[ is a color t %\ld be suspici\sly approa*$ ) black hair4 ,x is v (t5 b a vulg> contra/4 ,= jewels1 diamonds & all ri* color$ preci\s /ones4 ,black ,hair1 ,r ,sall[ ,sk94 ,?is /yle c we> black1 b x mu/ be reliev$ by :ite laces to s(t5 & light up ! face1 ?us giv+ ! effectness ,transcrib]'s ,note3 effectiv5ess ( a draw+ 9 black & :ite4 ,d>k grays1 ! dull r$s occasionally4 ,!re is a peculi> yell[-r$1 du/y1 unlum9\s1 v d>k1 t c be pr(itably worn4 ,flame-color c be worn z l9+s1 or trimm+s1 ?\gh s9ce !re is s little color 9 ?is /yle1 no colors seem to h a true relation to x4 ,dull gold is ab\t ! only ornam5t t c be worn1 save a delicate onyx cameo4 ,fl[]s3 :ite wat]-lilies1 camellias1 or ! d>ke/1 duskie/1 damask roses1 & none ( ^! 9 su* pr(usion z to appe> conspicu\s4 ,black ,hair1 ,cle> ,sk91 ,blue ,eyes4 ,?is beautiful comb9ation gives a wide range ( color = selection4 ,blues1 especially sapphire %ades1 d>k r$s1 pale p9k1 blue grays1 :ite1 bo? cream & blue-:ite1 & black1 solid & transp>5t4 ,= jewels1 pe>ls1 sapphires1 opals1 turquoise1 diamonds4 ,:ite fl[]s1 also violets1 pansies1 etc4 ,! woman ) blue eyes %\ld always h "s blue ab\t h]4 ,x is really extremely int]e/+ to notice h[ blue br\ght up close to ! ?roat & !n a b[ ( ! same 9 h] hair int5sifies ! blue 9 ! eyes1 mak+ ev5 ! pale1 wi%y-wa%y orbs a deep violet4 ,:5 ! blue b5ea? ! face is too try+ !re mu/ be "s ( ! same put 9 ! hair or hat1 z ! case may be4 ,?is applies to all colors4 ,br[n hair1 w>m br[n sk91 br[n eyes1 may we> br[ns1 yell[s1 amb]s1 cream-:ite1 ri* blues1 tans1 fawns1 all r$s1 olive-gre5 & m>oon2 flame-color1 & rose p9k 9 small quantities4 ,?is type c we> %>p brilliant contra/s ( colors if %e *oose1 provid+ !y keep )9 range4 ,black1 blue1 :ite & all cold1 pale colors are to be avoid$4 ,! jewels may be diamonds & all ri* color$ /ones4 ,br[n-ey$ wom5 %\ld we> br[n = ! v same reason t ! blue-ey$ woman %\ld we> blue4 ,n necess>ily entire br[n co/umes1 b br[n plac$ ne> en\gh ! face to h ! desir$ effect4 ,d>k br[n hair1 creamy-:ite sk9 & velvety-br[n eyes1 ?is comb9ation is beautiful1 & may we> ! black ( silk1 or velvet ) creamy lace to relieve ! face4 ,d>k r$s1 purples & m>oons1 peacock-gre51 olive-gre51 amb]s1 violet1 rose p9k1 ) pe>ls1 amb]1 topaz1 ruby1 g>net1 diamonds4 ,*e/nut ,hair1 ,fair ,sk91 ,blue ,eyes4 ,?is type c we> almo/ any color1 except mauve & my/]i\s1 pale colors4 ,to we> yell[1 %e mu/ contra/ x ) br[n or subdu$ gre54 ,*e/nut hair1 gray or gre5 eyes3 ?is type mu/ be m cauti\s1 especially if ! complexion be pale or sall[4 ,olive-gre5 7n too br[n71 reliev$ ) pale/ p9k4 ,:ite contra/$ ) old gold4 ,d>k & light blues2 purple ) :ite2 lilac & burnt cream m+l$ 7pongee is burnt cream %ade74 ,black ) yell[ gre5s4 ,r$ 9 small quantities4 ,9 almo/ e eye !re is a t\* ( gre54 ,9 "s cases x is ! pr$om9ant color1 & :5 t is ! case gre5 %\ld be worn4 ,blonde1 fair hair 7pale gold or flax571 blue eyes1 ) or )\t a rose flu%3 ?is is "o ( ! few types t c we> blue-:ite4 ,all cool1 refre%+ colors2 cold silv]y blues1 pale gre5s1 pale grays1 black1 ev5 ! %9y black ( sat91 are all becom+4 ,heliotrope1 purple1 cool violet1 p9k & lav5d] may be worn4 ,x may be m5tion$ "h t1 :ile !re are _m o!r colors %e c we>1 ! cool blonde w nev] be bett] dress$ ?an :5 adh]+ to ! colors t rightfully belong to h]1 & to h] alone4 ,h] /yle is nev] m *>m+ ?an :5 array$ 9 %e]1 float+1 gauzy mat]ials4 ,b s9ce w9t] mu/ come1 silks1 velvets & all wools are at h] disposal 9 ! desir$ %ades4 ,ame?y/s1 em]alds1 sapphires & opals %\ld be h] jewels4 ,almo/ ,any ,color4 ,! gold5 blonde gradually deep5s 9 color z "t passes on2 %e has usually gray-gre5 or hazel eyes1 & a w>m1 rosy sk94 ,x is a type t has a wide range ( color f :i* to *oose4 ,w>m r$s & ev5 flame-color c be worn1 b amb]s1 yell[s & fawns w be ! m h>moni\s4 ,w>m p9k1 too1 black1 br[n1 w>m gre5s1 cream-:ite1 turquoise-blue1 violet1 purple & w>m gray4 ,?is same type ) pale1 cle> sk91 in/ead ( ! roseate blue1 mu/ *oose v diff]5t %ades4 ,olive-gre5s1 all s(t yell[-gre5s1 cream & transp>5t :ite1 pale peacock & turquoise-blues1 pale amb]1 mauve p9ks1 %ades ( ame?y/ & heliotrope are all suit$ to ?is type4 ,pe>ls1 opals1 moon/ones1 turquoise & topaz1 all fl[]s may be worn1 also pansies1 sweet peas1 & pale t9t$ roses4 ,all blondes1 save ! cool blonde1 deep5 9 color z "t goes on4 ,let !m wat* = ?is1 drop _! pale/ t9ts1 & adopt a few w>m] hues4 ,occasionally1 we see a blonde 9 :om ?is deep5+ process has turn$ ! hair to a gold5 br[n1 br\ght out ! w>m gold5 t9ts ( ! sk91 & ) x ! blue eyes4 ,"h ! mi/ake is (t5 made ( ignor+ ! blue eyes4 ,?is %\ld nev] be done4 ,fawns & old golds are good = ?is type4 ,br[ns1 deep1 ri* p9ks1 blues1 all gre5s b ! pale/1 blui% grays1 cream-:ite & pansy-purple4 ,gray ,hair4 ,premature gray hair has a picturesque & *>m+ effect1 (t5 giv+ beauty to :at might o!rwise prove a commonplace c\nt5ance4 ,!re are sev]al types to be consid]$4 ,gre5i% gray hair1 premature or natural1 accompani$ ) br[n1 or d>k gray eyes1 & a sk9 9 :i* ! br[ni% t9ts prevail1 c we> all d>k gre5s & olives1 blue1 br[ns1 & d>k amb]1 w>m yell[s & d>k1 dusky r$s1 yell[i%-p9ks1 d>k blues & purple1 especially ! br[ni%-purples1 also cream-:ite4 ,gray or black is to be avoid$4 ,?is range ( color w1 ( c\rse1 be *os5 f1 9 accordance ) ! age ( ! we>]4 ,= jewels1 r$di% topaz1 & ame?y/ are beautiful = ?is type1 & tea-roses a mo/ effective fl[]4 ,gray hair ) a light]1 cle> complexion &1 p]haps1 "s color 9 ! *eeks1 c we> ! lovelie/ h>monies 9 grays4 ,black c also be adopt$ & any ( ! fir/ m5tion$ colors except br[n4 ,a pale complexion ) gray or blue & sn[y hair1 w be elegant 9 ! black ( lace or velvet4 ,prematurely gray ) f9e cle> complexion1 ei!r pale or roseate1 toge!r ) blue eyes1 is a magnific5t type4 ,! gray hair gives ! brilliancy ( p[d]1 & diamonds comb9$ ) turquoise c be worn ) f9e effect2 pe>ls also4 ,! ,black ,g[n4 ,wom51 z a rule1 consid] _! w>drobe incomplete unless x embraces at lea/ "o good black g[n4 ,s v conv5i5t1 y "k1 & suitable = s _m occasions4 ,9 _m respects ?is is v true4 ,b !re are sev]al po9ts to be consid]$4 ,fir/1 !re are "s types t %\ld nev] we> black4 ,aga91 !re are o!rs t mu/ c>efully discrim9ate betwe5 ! black ( velvet1 wool1 sat91 or lace1 & ! transp>5t black ( gr5ad9e & gauze4 ,:ile to all comes ! caution t1 aft] ?irty ye>s ( age1 no woman c safely we> all black )\t !reby age+ h] face4 ,black c]ta9ly :it5s ! sk9 by contra/1 b x br+s out & deep5s e l9e4 ,only plump1 fair1 unl9$ faces c safely be> ! contra/4 ,9 we>+ black1 ! mat]ial ^: tone is mo/ becom+ to ! sk91 mu/ be *os54 ,= in/ance1 v few sk9s c be> ! glossy black ( sat9 ) its reflect$ lights4 ,black1 h[ev]1 may be s(t5$ by a pr(usion ( cream laces or jett$ until x sc9tillates ) e motion1 & = ev5+ we> ! bodice may be cut l[1 ?us remov+ x f direct contra/ ) ! face4 ,v>i\s ,h9ts4 ,blondes may1 if !y *oose1 we> yell[s 9 h>mony ) _! hair4 ,?is possibility 0 fir/ d>+ly act$ ^u by ,wor? ) mo/ *>m+ results4 ,blue eyes c always be deep5$ by we>+ ! appropriate %ade ( blue4 ,:ite c be worn by wom5 ( all ages1 & 9 almo/ all mat]ials is x becom+4 ,= ev5+ we> & = day we> x is mo/ satisfactory4 ,s\!rn wom5 make a po9t ( dress+ 9 x altoge!r4 ,= ev5+ we>1 :]e ! complexion r5d]s x possible1 a v pretty effect is produc$ by we>+ colors t relate or melt into ! sk9 t9ts1 su* z p9ky br[ns1 s(t drabs1 a%es ( roses or w>m1 creamy t9ts1 l ! he>t ( a tea-rose4 ,! ,*oice ( ,colors4 ,mu* m lies 9 *oos+ a becom+ color ?an p g5]ally imag9e4 ,!re is an old /ory told ab\t "s celebrat$ man1 ^: lifelong devotion to 8 wife 0 consid]$ some:at rem>kable1 z %e 0 a v pla9 woman4 ,"o ( 8 fri5ds ask$ him :at _h be5 ! fir/ ?+ ab\t h] t _h attract$ him4 ,he said3 ,a p9k %awl t 0 ly+ on ! back ( ! *air 9 :i* %e 0 sitt+ made s pleas+ a contra/ to ! :ite frock %e wore t ,i ?\ght only ( t1 & ^u ask+ = an introduction to h] solely on acc\nt ( ! p9k %awl1 ,i 0 !n introduc$ to a wond]ful fasc9ation ( mann] & grace ( m9d :i* h en?rall$ me ev] s9ce4 ,a woman's surr\nd+s ( necessity play a great "p 9 h] appe>ance1 b x does n by any means foll[ t luxuri\s furni%+s h any m effect ?an ! v simple/ & pla9e/1 p>ticul>ly if !y d n ?r[ out well ! beauty ( ! color+4 ,:at %ades ( ribbon to *oose1 :at colors to we> are f> m s]i\s matt]s ?an ! majority ( p realize4 ,! mo/ /unn+ g[n 9 ! _w1 if x be unbecom+1 w n be half s efficaci\s z ! simple/ & pla9e/ ( g[ns ( a becom+ color & cut4 ,?is is emphatically a picturesque era1 & wide latitude is all[$ 9 ! *oice ( :at is becom+4 ,b big hats1 big sleeves1 v /&-out skirts & a g5]al fa%ion-plate air d n d = e woman1 & %e :o has h] g[n made on ! simple/ possible l9es w create m s5sation 9 a roomful ( v mu* gott5-up wom5 ?an if %e attempt$ to vie ) !m4 ,h>mony & ,contra/ ( ,colors4 ,! foll[+ is a li/ ( colors :i* contra/ & h>monize3 ,:ite contra/s ) black & h>monizes ) gray4 ,:ite contra/s ) br[n & h>monizes ) buff4 ,:ite contra/s ) blue & h>monizes ) sky-blue4 ,:ite contra/s ) purple & h>monizes ) rose4 ,:ite contra/s ) gre5 & h>monizes ) pea-gre54 ,cold gre5s contra/ ) crimson & h>monize ) olive4 ,cold gre5s contra/ ) purple & h>monize ) citr9e4 ,cold gre5s contra/ ) :ite & h>monize ) blues4 ,w>m gre5s contra/ ) crimson & h>monize ) yell[s4 ,w>m gre5s contra/ ) m>oon & h>monize ) orange4 ,w>m gre5s contra/ ) purple & h>monize ) citr9e4 ,w>m gre5s contra/ ) r$ & h>monize ) sky-blue4 ,w>m gre5s contra/ ) p9k & h>monize ) gray4 ,orange contra/s ) purple & h>monizes ) yell[4 ,orange contra/s ) blues & h>monizes ) r$4 ,orange contra/s ) black & h>monizes ) w>m gre54 ,orange contra/s ) olive & h>monizes ) w>m br[n4 ,citr9e contra/s ) br[n & h>monizes ) gre54 ,citr9e contra/s ) crimson & h>monizes ) buff4 ,russet contra/s ) gre5 & h>monizes ) r$4 ,olive contra/s ) :ite & h>monizes ) black4 ,olive contra/s ) m>oon & h>monizes ) br[n4 ,gold contra/s ) any d>k color1 b looks ri*] ) purple1 gre51 blue1 black & br[n ?an ) ! o!r colors4 ,x h>monizes ) all light color1 b lea/ ) yell[4 ,! be/ h>mony is ) :ite4 ,illu/ration ,dress = ,special ,occasions ,illu/ration ,! beautiful is ! suitable4 ,a woman c>eless ( h] dress is ei!r unlov$1 or unhappy4 ,dress is to ! body :at good s5se is to ! m9d4 ,dress is really a dep>tm5t ( mann]s1 & appeals to ! eye ) ! same =ce t graci\s words & s(tly key$ voices appeal to ! e>4 ,co/l9ess is n ! measure ( ! beauty ( dress4 ,nay1 r suitability1 h>mony1 becom+ness1 unobtrusiv5ess1 fitness = ! place & p]son are ! qualities t make x p]fect4 ,& because ^! canons ( good ta/e are s frequ5tly s9n$ aga9/ x has seem$ be/ to give ! prop] dress & appo9tm5ts = ! prop] times4 ,n z to p>ticul> /yles = !y are fleet+ z ! brea? ( fa%ion1 b z to g5]al pr9ciples :i* are well nigh *angeless4 ,once c]ta9 ( ^! fundam5tal pr9ciples1 emb>rassm5t & self-consci\sness are bani%$4 ,dress at ,home4 ,x is1 p]haps1 ! dress at home t tells mo/ ( ! c>e & "* ( ! we>]4 ,mu* reg>d is giv5 to ! dress = o!r occasions1 b "h comes ! te/ ( delicacy & ref9em5t1 ! crit]ion ( ! individual4 ,neatness is ! fir/ requisite1 suitability ! second4 ,!re is no?+ m ( an (f5se to good ta/e ?an see+ ! delicate fabric1 ! ribbons1 ! laces ( a once elegant toilet1 degrad$ to ! uses ( ! kit*51 spott$ & soil$ almo/ beyond recognition4 ,h g[ns adapt$ to ! tasks = :i* !y are int5d$4 ,! neat g+ham1 ! pla9 wool g[n1 are pretty & appropriate = ! morn+ we> ( any lady :o mu/ sup]9t5d ! work+s ( h] own h\sehold4 ,aprons1 gloves1 du/ caps1 :i* c be quickly d(f$ & w leave h] neat & pres5table = ! /ray morn+ call] )\t ! necessity1 on h] "p1 ( a *ange ( co/ume1 & on 81 ( a t$i\s wait+4 ,= aft]noon ! prettie/ ( toilets may be worn 9 ! %ape ( h\se-dresses1 or tea-jackets made ( o!rwise useless remnants ( bright silks1 & ribbons may be us$ to we> ) o!rwise pres5table skirts ^: orig9al bodices h be5 long outworn4 ,tra9s1 m$ium1 are always pretty 9 ! h\se1 h5ce tea-g[ns1 f ! ri*e/ to ! mo/ mode/ 9 co/1 are always 9 favor4 ,avoid v %ort skirts = ! h\se2 !y are awkw>d1 & belittle y f a m5tal z well z a physical /&po9t4 ,obs]ve ! utmo/ neatness 9 e detail ( ! toilet = home or /reet4 ,x is an old rule1 b a v good "o1 t a woman may be judg$ by h] boots1 gloves & pocket-h&k]*iefs4 ,to ?is may be add$ f+] nails1 & la/ b n lea/1 skirt edges4 ,no matt] h[ elegant ! g5]al get-up may be1 ass]ts "o fa/idi\s critic1 if a woman's skirt b9d+ is muddy1 fray$1 or p5dant1 %e is1 to my m9d1 n a g5tlewoman4 ,! ,g5]al ,fitness4 ,! /yle ( ! p]son %\ld h mu* to d ) *oos+ ! /yle ( dress = any occasion4 ,only p lack+ ! slighte/ orig9ality ( m9d w\ld ?9k ( bl9dly foll[+ ! dictates ( fa%ion )\t any ref]5ce to _! own physical /yle4 ,v %ort wom5 %\ld n we> v l>ge hats4 ,wom5 ) v ?9 faces %\ld avoid wide hat brims & _m plumes4 ,wom5 ) l>ge1 full faces %\ld n g to ! extreme 9 we>+ small bonnets4 ,to d s is b to exagg]ate ! defect 9 ea* case4 ,no matt] :at ! extremity ( /yle may be1 !re is always a happy m$ium f :i* to *oose4 ,fly+ curls & a great sup]abundance ( ribbons & flutt]+ ends belong only to a "y girl4 ,to p]si/ 9 an extremely y\?ful /yle ( dress long aft] ! pass+ ( y\?1 in/ead ( add+ to ! app>5t y\? ( ! we>]1 simply defeats its own end by exagg]at+ ! defects x 0 meant to conceal4 ,small1 ?9 wom5 %\ld n we> too mu* black4 ,let !m we> a pr(usion ( fluffy laces ab\t ! ?roat2 s(t1 puffy ve/s1 or1 z "o writ] obs]ves1 le>n some?+ f ,s>a ,b]nh>dt & h] consummate skill 9 conceal+ bones4 ,%ort1 /\t wom5 %\ld see t all adornm5ts1 su* z folds1 plaits1 etc41 keep z mu* z possible 9 p]p5dicul> l9es4 ,x is a mi/ake to ?9k t p]fect pla9ness w disguise ! bread?1 x r emphasizes x4 ,on ?is /yle ( woman a loosely-fitt$ wrap has a bett] effect = ! /reet ?an a tight1 pla9 g>m5t4 ,common-,s5se ,sleeves4 ,a v /\t or a v ?9 woman %\ld nev] we> extremely light sleeves1 no matt] :at ! /yle may be4 ,! /\t woman %\ld also avoid an elb[ sleeve ) loosely fall+ ruffles1 & ! trimm+1 if possible1 %\ld run 9 l5g?wise folds or b&s4 ,?is precaution t5ds to decrease ! app>5t size ( ! arm4 ,! sl5d] woman1 on ! contr>y1 is mu* improv$ by ! puff$ elb[ sleeve end+ ) a fall ( lace4 ,let wom5 le>n to put on belts s t !y w slip d[nw>d 9 front & up 9 ! back4 ,?is does ev]y?+ = ! wai/ 9 mak+ x look sl5d] & graceful4 ,if yokes are worn1 x is well to rememb] t a deep yoke is m becom+ ?an a n>r[ "o4 ,if x is %ort 9 front1 x looks awkw>d1 & if x is %ort beh9d1 x gives a r\nd %\ld]$ effect4 ,:]e a ri* toilet is worn = any occasion1 be sure t ev]y?+ is 9 keep+4 ,if ! g[n be ( velvet d n we> ) x a l95 coll> or *eap lace4 ,if real lace is beyond ! means !re are always ! filmy tulles & crpe lisse4 ,if jewelry is worn1 x %\ld be ( ! be/1 be x mu* or little4 ,! fan1 also1 = su* a co/ume %\ld c>ry out ! idea ( luxury4 ,*eap1 fanciful1 pretty ?+s h _! place 9 connection ) s(t wool1 or pretty cotton co/umes1 b lightness or grace is "o ?+2 magnific5ce or luxury1 ano!r4 ,a v "y girl %\ld nev] we> ri*1 heavy fabrics2 !y are unsuit$ to h] y\?ful face & ways4 ,! evils ( tight lac+ are s pron\nc$ t x w\ld seem almo/ unnecess>y to remon/rate aga9/ !m 9 ?is age ( enlight5m5t1 7 !y n s cont9ually =c$ ^u our view4 ,no?+ c\ld be m unbecom+ to ! wom5 fair1 fat & =ty1 :o are usually ! ones to adopt ?is cu/om2 an in* less 9 wai/ is h>dly ga9$ at ! price ( an unbecom+ flu%1 a labor$ brea?+1 & a s]i\s injury to ! heal?1 besides ! lack ( grace t comes f b9d+ & con/rict+ any portion ( ! human =m div9e4 ,gloves & ,%oes4 ,to h _m dresses is always a mi/ake ev5 among ! v weal?y4 ,!y are con/antly go+ out ( fa%ion & unless ! own] is cont9ually se5 at balls1 receptions & o!r ga!r+s1 !y are entirely unnecess>y4 ,! glove ( to-day is fitt$ com=tably4 ,no?+ is m indicative ( a lack ( ta/e ?an to cr[d ! h& into a glove t is sev]al sizes too small = x4 ,! same might be said ( ! foot1 & ) m reason1 s9ce a pa9fully tight %oe n only injures ! heal?1 com=t & complexion ( ! we>]1 b is ru9\s to all grace ( c>riage4 ,!re is no?+ m>ks ! true lady z mu* z ! p]fection ( neatness & /yle 9 gloves & %oes4 ,to be well glov$ & to h "o's feet neatly clad1 no matt] h[ pla9 ! attire1 is to be well dress$4 7,o!r h9ts on ?is subject w be f\nd 9 ! dep>tm5ts ( ,art 9 ,dress & ,colors & ,complexions47 ,! umbrella1 too1 mu/ be c>efully *os54 ,if x is possible to h p>asols & umbrellas = diff]5t occasions1 !n !re is no difficulty ( *oice1 b :]e "o mu/ answ] = all occasions ( ! season1 let x be a pla91 d>k or black silk4 ,?is w be suitable at all times1 b if ! fancy ( ! mom5t1 z to pale & delicate color+s be consult$1 ! result is too (t5 pa9fully incongru\s4 ,9 buy+ gloves1 %oes or umbrellas1 x is wor? :ile to inve/ 9 a good article4 ,!re is no economy 9 ! poor] grades4 ,artifices ( ! ,toilet4 ,all artificial aids to beauty %\ld be sp>+ly us$1 & h no place :atev] ^u ! toilet table ( ! "y girl4 ,p[d] & pa9t are s obvi\s to ! eye1 t _! use1 or r abuse1 by "s o!rwise s5sible wom51 is a cont9ual wond]4 ,a du/ ( rice p[d] is sometimes excusable1 b !re c be no possible apology = ! made-up faces "o sees ^u our /reets4 ,!y deceive no "o & h no excuse = be+4 ,! woman :o /&s 9 ! pitiless gl>e ( ! footlights mu/ ne$s add color to replace t /ol5 f h] face by ! /rong :ite light ( day1 b o!rs h no su* excuse = fresco+ ! face4 ,x is a s9 alike aga9/ good ta/e & good bre$+4 ,!re are v>i\s simple prep>ations t c be us$ to cle> ! sk91 & v>i\s massage treatm5ts to smoo? out ! cruel little l9es t "t writes on all faces1 & k9dly ungu5ts to fill out ! holl[ *eeks & temples1 & ?us keep ! outl9es ( y\? a little long]4 ,& !re is :olesome liv+ & vigor\s ex]cise1 & daily & revivify+ ba?s to call ! flu% ( heal? to ! *eek2 & lov+ ?\ghts & k9dly de$s to keep ! eyes s(t & bright1 & ?us to set ! inroads ( "t at defiance = _m ye>s4 ,& s9ce a woman is no old] ?an %e looks1 & s9ce ! pr]ogatives ( y\? are de> to ! he>t1 x is h] b\nd5 duty to keep h]self sweet & "y4 ,!re is "o excusable addition to ! p]sonal *>ms & t is :]e nature has d5i$ ! grace ( luxuriant locks4 ,?is lack c be s cunn+ly suppli$ by ! hairdress]'s art t detection is impossible1 & z x ev] has be51 & ev] w be1 t a woman's hair is a glory unto h]1 !re c be no reason aga9/ h] hid+ f view any lack ( x :5 x is done 9 an arti/ic fa%ion4 ,:5 to ,we> ,jewels4 ,mme4 de ,ma9t5on decl>$ t good ta/e simply indicates good s5se1 b _m wom5 :o boa/ ( good s5se seem n to h ! slighte/ idea ( ! times & places = we>+ preci\s /ones4 ,x is conc$$ by all au?orities t articles ( adornm5t consi/+ ( or conta9+ jewels or preci\s /ones %\ld nev] be worn 9 ! /reet4 ,exception is made 9 favor ( r+s & wat*es4 ,! woman :o wi%es to adopt correct =m 9 dress w nev] we> any b ! simple/ little p9 to fa/5 h] g[n at ! ?roat dur+ ! morn+ h\rs & on ! /reet4 ,= c]emoni\s visits1 a pretty & ornam5tal p9 ( gold is prop]1 or ( gold & enamel1 b ev5 !n x %\ld h a useful purpose2 x %\ld fa/5 "s "p ( ! toilet4 ,! enamel$ & gold wrea?s ( myrtle or ( =get-me-nots are extremely pretty = ^! simple p9s4 ,s are ! true love-nots or a fl[] ( enamel ^u gold1 b )\t ! all-prevail+ diamond dewdrop or c5t]4 ,= d9n]1 a woman may we> ! ri*e/ gems1 x be+ und]/ood t ! function is a c]emoni\s "o1 & t %e %all we> a l[ g[n4 ,%\ld %e d9e 9 a m democratic way & ! m5 ( ! family d n we> ev5+ dress1 %e naturally w we> a high g[n or "o possibly op5 a little at ! ?roat4 ,%e may we> a p9 ) a s+le gem "u ^! circum/ances4 ,= balls1 op]as or ent]ta9m5ts ( correspond+ spl5dor1 a woman1 :5 %e is n h]self ! ho/ess1 may we> any numb] ( well-*os5 jewels4 ,x is q correct to be sumptu\s 9 ?is p>ticul>1 b well to rememb] t jewels1 l fl[]s1 h>monize or d n h>monize1 & t em]alds & turquoises1 = example1 may n be worn 9 conjunction1 because1 z ! ,fr5* say1 !y swe> at ea* o!r4 ,x is n good =m to we> ornam5ts made 9 ! =m ( bea/s or reptiles4 ,! sacr$ emblem ( ! cross set 9 %9+ jewels & worn at ball or r\t1 %[s a mo/ pitiable ignorance ( ! et]nal fitness ( ?+s4 ,well br$ "y girls are limit$ z to jewels--a /r+ ( pe>ls = ! sl5d] neck1 a r+ ) ! natal /one or an armam5t ( turquoises & pe>ls1 a little gold love manacle ab\t ! wri/1 t is all1 & q en\gh until aft] m>riage4 ,a bride may we> = ! m>riage c]emony ei!r diamonds or pe>ls--n 9 pr(usion--b nev] gold ornam5ts4 ,use ( ,sc5ts & ,fl[]s4 ,! use ( v>i\s sc5ts is m s9n$ aga9/ ?an any o!r toilet accessory4 ,only ! fa9te/ sugge/ion ( p]fume %\ld be all[$ to hang ab\t ! g>m5ts ( a well-br$ woman or girl4 ,to we> any r$ol5ce on ! p]son 9 ! %ape ( sa*et bags is unp>donable4 ,to _m p /rong p]fumes are extremely unpleasant1 & ^? :o h reg>d = ! feel+s ( o!rs w\ld =be> _! use = ?is reason alone1 ev5 7 x n a s9 aga9/ ! canons ( good bre$+ z well4 ,:5 p]fumes are us$1 x is a da9ty cu/om to *oose "o favorite sc5t & to use t1 & t only1 s t 9 "t ! sweet1 illusive odor becomes almo/ a "p ( ! p]sonality4 ,fl[]s1 fre%1 dewy fl[]s seem ! natural adornm5t ( y\? especially1 & to =swe> ! pretty cu/om w\ld appe> an uncall$-= giv+ up ( ! sweet ?\ght :i* d$icates ! fl[]s ( ! field to _! human prototypes4 ,yet !re is reason 9 ! cu/om t has1 9 great measure1 )drawn !m f ! heat$ ball-room & ! artificially illum9at$ d9n] table4 ,corsage b\quets1 9 danc+1 become an e>ly ru94 ,c>ri$ 9 ! h& at a ball1 !y are spe$ily toss$ aside on ! ne>e/ po9t ( refuge & left !re to ignom9i\sly fade4 ,:5 fl[]s are worn at an ev5+ ent]ta9m5t1 *oose ^? t w be/ /& ! light & heat4 ,! ,face ,veil4 ,9 spite ( ! prote/ations ( oculi/s1 wom5 cont9ue to reg>d veils z an ess5tial "p ( _! toilets2 fir/1 because !y are becom+2 &1 second1 because !y keep _! hair 9 ord]4 ,! pla9 tulles & nets1 :i* come 9 all colors1 s+le & d\ble wid?s1 are always pleasant to we> & less try+ to ! eyes ?an ! co>s] me%es4 ,! veil ( ,brussels net wr\ght 9 sprigg$ designs is a failure4 ,x is becom+ to nobody1 & is ess5tially in>ti/ic4 ,wom5 ) d>k hair & eyes & a brilliant color look well 9 veils ) ! dots l>g] & ne>] toge!r4 ,if ! sk9 is cle>1 :ite veils are v becom+1 ?\gh apt to give an impression ( a made-up complexion4 ,! woman ) fair hair & blue eyes1 & )\t color1 g5]ally looks be/ 9 a l>ge me%$ black veil1 ) ! dots--if dots are worn--f> ap>t4 ,a navy blue veil makes ! sk9 look cle> & fair1 & a gray veil %\ld nev] be worn by ! pale or sall[ woman4 ,:5 to ,we> ,gloves4 ,! "q ( :5 to we> gloves is a mu* disput$ po9t 9 ! etiquette ( dress4 ,!y are worn to d9n] p>ties1 b cu/om prescribes t !y %all be remov$ 9 sitt+ d[n at ! table4 ,aft] us+ ! f+]-b[l1 ! gloves %\ld be resum$ be=e leav+ ! table1 or else imm$iately aft] return+ to ! draw+-room4 ,to we> gloves :ile assi/+ to p\r tea = an at home1 is out ( place1 b x is v usual to we> !m :ile receiv+ 9 ! aft]noon1 ?\gh _! omission at su* a "t is p>donable4 ,! visitors1 ( c\rse1 we> bo? gloves & bonnets4 ,at a /&-up ev5+ supp] x is n usual to remove ! gloves s9ce !re is really no "t or place to d x1 :]e ea* "o is expect$ to leave z soon z possible to make room = ! next4 ,remove ! h& only ( ! "r glove & tuck x back "u ! wri/4 ,danc+ p>ties always call = gloves1 pref]ably light 9 t9t4 ,to we> gloves :ile play+ c>ds is also an unnecess>y affectation ( elegance4 ,walk+1 driv+1 %opp+ & all outdoor ev5ts1 su* z lawn p>ties1 etc41 call = gloves4 ,t9t & quality ( ^! are to be regulat$ by ! occasion or ! co/ume4 ,:5 to ,we> ,l[-cut ,g[ns4 ,?is "q has b "o answ]1 ,nev] by daylight4 ,9 ?is respect ! rule t gov]ns ! we>+ ( a man's dress suit--f dusk to dawn1 is applicable4 ,ev5 on ^? occasions :5 ! jeal\s daylight is %ut out & c&lelight reigns1 dress suits & full dcollet g[ns are n p]missible4 ,a concession c be made by cutt+ ! corsage a little l[ 9 ! ?roat1 & by elb[ sleeves or almo/ no sleeves4 ,= e social function held f midday to a late d9n] h\r1 "y girls1 especially1 %\ld we> _! g[ns cut high ) long sleeves1 except on "s gala occasion1 :5 ! rule may be some:at relax$ z above4 ,ev5 at balls1 ev5+ p>ties1 late d9n]s1 ! "y girl's ev5+ dress1 if dcollet1 %\ld be v mode/ 9 cut4 ,:]e a d9n] & dance foll[ a l>ge aft]noon reception & ! m5 :o are invit$ are apt to arrive at d9n] 9 full ev5+ dress1 a girl's dress may be some:at elaborat$1 b n to ! extreme ( ball co/ume4 ,ball ,dress4 ,= ! ball-room ! mo/ elaborate dress is to be worn2 dcollet corsage1 fl[]s & jewels are all appropriate4 ,^? :o dance %\ld we> pale colors & light1 float+ fabrics1 leav+ ! heavy silks & velvets = ^? :o d n indulge 9 ?is amusem5t4 ,a l[-cut corsage is n expect$ ( eld]ly wom5 unless !y wi% x4 ,*ap]ons c we> an elegant d9n] dress if !y desire2 velvets or brocades1 cut squ>e 9 ! neck1 ) a pr(usion ( f9e lace & ri* ornam5ts4 ,9 %ort1 %e %\ld be z diff]5t z possible f h] *>ge4 ,if an eld]ly woman ( full figure we>s a l[-neck$ dress1 a lace sc>f or some?+ ( t sort %\ld be ?r[n ov] h] %\ld]s4 ,g[ns cut danc+ l5g? or ) tra91 are appropriate = ! ball-room1 b :]e mu* danc+ is to be indulg$ 91 tra9s are v mu* 9 ! way4 ,op]a ,dress4 ,= ! op]a ! mo/ elegant dress+ is desirable4 ,ladies may we> ev5+ g[ns1 & m5 dress suits4 ,if !y occupy boxes ?is is almo/ an obligation4 ,light colors r5d] ! h\se m attractive--are1 9 fact1 a "p ( ! :ole spectacle4 ,jewels & fl[]s are !re1 & ^? :o we> visit+ or /reet co/ume are 9 ! m9ority4 ,if a man we> a dress suit x is expect$ t ! woman w %[ him suffici5t respect to we> an ev5+ g[n4 ,! man's co/ume is donn$ out ( respect = ! occasion & ! woman1 & %e betrays utt] ignorance or remissness ( duty :5 %e does n return ! complim5t 9 k9d4 ,high hats are an abom9ation at op]a or !at]4 ,:]e any?+ is worn ^u ! head1 x %\ld be 9 ! %ape ( a t9y bonnet1 a da9ty confection ( tulle1 fl[]s & ribbon4 ,?is is especially necess>y :]e a public conveyance mu/ be made use ( to rea* ! place4 ,at an op]a mat9e ! bonnet mu/ be worn 9 connection ) an elegant visit+ or reception co/ume4 ,middle-ag$ wom5 we> ! same co/ume at ! op]a t !y w\ld at a d9n] p>ty4 ,!at] ,co/ume4 ,to dress = ! !at] is a mu* simpl] matt] ?an = ! op]a4 ,display is n requir$ "h4 ,elegant visit+ or prom5ade co/ume is appropriate4 ,dressy little bonnets or small hats1 gloves1 ei!r mat*+ ! g[n or light 9 t9t1 complete ! !at] toilet4 ,if a l>ge hat is worn to ! !at]1 common c\rtesy dem&s its removal t ^? 9 ! re> may see ! /age4 ,dress = conc]ts admits ( a little m display ?an = ! !at]4 ,a silk g[n ) a little lace & jewelry1 & :ite or light kid gloves4 ,d9n] ,dress4 ,a lady's d9n] dress may be elegant z h] fancy dictates4 ,b if %e is ho/ess %e %\ld nev] try to eclipse h] gue/s4 ,tra9$ g[ns are em95tly suitable1 & may be worn by maids or matrons alike4 ,full l5g? tra9s are n necess>y1 & ev5 demi-tra9s ne$ n be worn by v "y wom54 ,b ! s(t sweep ( a tra9 l5ds an add$ grace to a woman's g[n1 & ?is is "o ( ! few places :]e x c be appropriately worn4 ,! corsage may be cut squ>e1 or he>t-%ap$1 or op5$ at ! ?roat 9 any pretty way1 b nev] s l[ z = a ball dress4 ,sleeves are usually half l5g?1 & bracelets are giv5 an opportunity = display4 ,long gloves mu/ be worn4 ,z to color1 all %ades1 f ! safe selection ( a black silk or velvet1 d[n to ! pale/ t9ts1 are 9 ord]1 ! only proviso be+ t color & mat]ial suit ! /yle ( ! we>]4 ,an eld]ly lady incl9$ to /\tness1 & ) a florid ca/ ( c\nt5ance1 is at h] wor/ 9 light silks or sat94 ,!y height5 h] defects1 :ile d>k] %ades subdue h] color+ & s]ve to decrease h] app>5t size & sup]flu\s bread?4 ,= a "y girl1 a simple dress ( wool goods 9 :ite1 or pale becom+ t9ts1 is all t is necess>y4 ,op5 x slightly at ! ?roat1 s(t5 x ) a little lace1 %[ ! pretty arms 9 a demi-sleeve1 & x is f> m suit$ to h] y\? ?an an ov]-elaborate g[n4 ,if ! d9n] is held by daylight & ! m5 we> morn+ dress ! ladies mu/ conf9e !mselves to high-cut g[ns turn$ 9 slightly at ! front & fa/5$ ) a simple p9 ( gold enamel1 )1 p]haps1 a s+le gem at its he>t4 ,travel+ ,notes4 ,a dress = travel+ %\ld be pla9 & s]viceable2 a t9t %\ld be *os5 t does n %[ soil or du/4 ,a du/]1 an ul/] or ov]-g>m5t ( "s k9d made ( pongee silk1 l95 or :atev] mat]ial is 9 vogue1 %\ld be worn to protect ! co/ume f smoke & du/4 ,illu/ration3 ,,travel+ ,,co/ume4 ,! hat %\ld be pla9 & a veil worn to %ield ! eyes f c9d]s :5 travel+ by railway4 ,a pair ( slightly smok$ spectacles are v good = ?is purpose4 ,c>ry an extra wrap & a h&-sat*el to hold ! ne$$ toilet articles4 ,let ev]y?+ else g 9 ! trunk4 ,a woman burd5$ ) big bundle1 little bundle1 b&box & umbrella1 is a burd5 to h]self & a t]ror to o!rs4 ,let ! sat*el conta9 a flask ( "s invigorat+ toilet wat]--,florida1 lav5d] or :atev] is mo/ refre%+1 ) a s(t sponge to ba! ! face1 h&s & wri/s1 & !reby _m a heada*e c be w>d$ (f4 ,if travel+ 9 a sleep+ coa*1 a l>g] valise %\ld be c>ri$ & ought to conta9 a pretty loose g[n ( d>k silk or wool to s]ve z a slumb] robe1 s9ce clad 9 ?is "o may safely v5ture f b]? to dress+-room )\t excit+ obs]vation4 ,! rule = travel+ dress is t !re %\ld be no?+ ab\t a lady to attract att5tion1 b ?is is relax$ 9 case ( ladies travel+ a %ort di/ance = a brief visit1 :o are privileg$ to we> ! dress t suits _! purpose4 ,bridal ,dress4 ,! conv5tional bridal dress is pure :ite1 :e!r ! mat]ial be sat91 silk or musl94 ,x may be made tra9$ or walk+ l5g?4 ,if a veil is worn ! g[n is cut en tra94 ,:ite sat9 slipp]s mu/ be worn & :ite gloves4 ,rip ! f\r? f+] ( ! left-h& glove ready = ! r+2 ! maid ( honor w turn ?is back at ! prop] mom5t4 ,natural fl[]s are c>ri$ & a wrea? is worn ) a veil4 ,! veil %\ld sweep to ! edge ( ! tra9 & may be simply a cl\d ( %e]e/ tulle or filmy lace wor? a k+'s ransom4 ,x may be worn ov] ! face or n1 z fancy dictates4 ,sometimes a :ite lea!r or pe>l b\nd pray]-book is c>ri$ in/ead ( ! b\quet4 ,?is cu/om has ! advantage ( hav+ ! pray]-book z a mem5to ( ! occasion1 :ile ! fl[]s )]4 ,a "y girl1 kn[n to ! writ]1 c>ri$ ) h] to ! alt> ! same pray]-book t h] "m be=e h] _h c>ri$ on h] w$d+ day4 ,! w$d+ dress1 no matt] :at its mat]ial1 mu/ be cut high 9 ! neck & ) long sleeves4 ,?is 9 def]5ce to ! fact t a m>riage is n simply a gala occasion1 b ! turn+ po9t = weal or woe 9 ! bride's life1 & a solemn sacram5t ( ! *ur*1 & n to be celebrat$ 9 ! g>b ( frivolity4 ,:]e fl[]s are worn1 orange blossoms are p>ticul>ly appropriate1 ?\gh no ,g]man maid5 w\ld ?9k ( donn+ ! bridal veil )\t its att5dant myrtle wrea?4 ,any :ite fl[]s1 h[ev]1 are appropriate4 ,:]e jewels are worn ! *oice is absolutely conf9$ to pe>ls & diamonds 7n 9 too great pr(usion74 ,in/ead ( fl[]s1 ! veil is sometimes fa/5$ ) a /> or sunbur/ ( diamonds4 ,wid[s1 no matt] h[ y\?ful1 are n privileg$ to we> ! :ite bridal robe1 ! veil1 nor ! orange blossoms4 ,h[ev]1 ! mo/ exquisitely delicate t9ts may be *os5 = _! adornm5t4 ,if ! m>riage is private & ! bride leaves imm$iately on h] w$d+ trip %e c be m>ri$ 9 h] travel+ suit4 ,at o!r private w$d+s1 :]e no trip is tak51 ! bride usually we>s a pretty reception or visit+ co/ume ( silk or wool1 *oos+ "s color t w be appropriate = aft]-we>4 ,! bride's "m1 :e!r ! w$d+ be at home or 9 *ur*1 we>s an elegant reception g[n4 ,ev5 if %e be 9 deep m\rn+ %e lays aside its sombre %ades = ?is "o h\r4 ,invit$ gue/s %\ld also avoid m\rn+ g>b4 ,bridemaid's ,dress4 ,! bridemaids' dresses are (t5 all ( :ite1 b frequ5tly colors are *os51 sometimes all alike2 aga91 two by two ( diff]5t hues4 ,! mat]ial ( ^! g[ns mu/ be mu* less exp5sive ?an t ( ! bride's4 ,_! b\quets or baskets ( fl[]s may be ei!r :ite or color$4 ,!y sometimes we> lovely picture hats ) broad brims & droop+ plumes4 ,:at ,w$d+ ,gue/s ,we>4 ,if ! w$d+ reception is held 9 ! ev5+1 full ev5+ dress is worn2 reception g[ns be+ suitable = ! eld] ladies4 7,see ,ball ,dress47 ,:]e *ildr5 are pres5t1 ! girls are dress$ 9 %e] musl9 or lace ov] silk slips1 & adorn$ ) flutt]+ ribbons4 ,! boys 9 fanciful co/umes1 su* z pages' suits1 etc4 ,if x is a morn+ reception1 ri* visit+ or prom5ade co/umes %\ld be worn1 small dress bonnets & :ite gloves4 ,ord9>y ,ev5+ ,dress4 ,?is applies to small p>ties at home or ) fri5ds1 to receiv+ calls at home or 9 mak+ an ev5+ call4 ,x %\ld be appropriate to ! season4 ,pretty wool goods1 exquisitely made1 9 w9t]2 org&ies1 gr5ad9es & mulls = summ]2 laces1 a mode/ bit ( jewelry or a simple fl[]1 & "o is suffici5tly well-g[n$4 ,if ! ga!r+ is a little m =mal1 reception dresses may be worn by ! matrons1 :ile ! "y ladies g>b !mselves z = receiv+ at an aft]noon tea4 ,if gloves are worn at all on su* an occasion !y mu/ be light color$4 ,!y are really unnecess>y1 unless ! ta/e ( t especial set is v /rongly 9 _! favor4 ,if 9 d\bt1 x is well to g furni%$ ) a pair = use 9 case "o f9ds all ! gue/s glov$1 & has n ! moral c\rage to rema9 ! exception4 ,dress = ,*ur*4 ,well-br$ p att5d *ur* 9 simple co/umes1 free f display4 ,^! may be ( ri* mat]ials1 b !y are quiet 9 color & make4 ,jewelry1 o!r ?an a simple p91 %\ld n be us$2 e>r+s1 ( c\rse1 if "o is 9 ! habit ( we>+ !m1 b n diamonds4 ,! *ur* is n ! place to flaunt elegant attire 9 ! face ( less =tunate wor%ip]s 9 ! ,i-am-ri*]-?an-?\ /yle t m>ks ! p>v5u4 ,receiv+ ,calls4 ,a lady ) regul> days = receiv+ calls we>s a reception dress z be=e describ$4 ,casual call]s %e receives 9 h] morn+ or aft]noon h\se dress4 ,h] morn+ dress1 if %e sup]9t5ds h] h\sehold affairs1 %\ld be pla9 & neat1 & be s protect$ by cap & apron t by d(f+ ^!1 %e w be pres5table 9 a mom5t4 ,:]e !re are no h\sehold c>es1 a da9ti] morn+ dress may be adopt$1 b let x be suitable to ! occasion1 n "s old1 half-worn f9]y revamp$ = ! occasion4 ,if visit+1 a /ill ri*] g[n may be worn1 & = a late breakfa/ at a wat]+ place "o may be q luxuri\s4 ,call+ or ,visit+ ,co/ume4 ,= morn+ calls dress quietly 9 prom5ade co/ume4 ,we> light-color$ gloves unless 9 deep m\rn+4 ,if driv+1 c>riage dress may be worn4 ,= day receptions ! dress may be m elaborate & ! bonnet m dressy4 ,by n c>efully di/+ui%+ betwe5 ! g[ns = diff]5t occasions & ov]-dress+ at all times1 wom5 lose all ! advantages ( contra/ 9 /yle4 ,if lace & silk are worn indiscrim9ately1 :at is !re left = ! full dress function8 ,walk+ ,dress4 ,?is %\ld be pla9--tailor-made is ! be/--walk+ l5g?1 & ( good mat]ial4 ,fussy /yles %\ld n be *os5 = /reet we>1 & ! hat or bonnet %\ld be r pla9 & h>monize ) ! g[n4 ,c>riage ,dress4 ,!re is mu* m latitude = display p]mitt$ by ! c>riage dress4 ,ri* mat]ials1 elegant wraps1 co/ly furs1 are all all[able "h4 ,coa*+ p>ties1 too1 h gr[n to be occasions = mo/ gorge\s co/um+4 ,e hue ( ! ra9b[ is to be se5 z ! l(ty tally-ho rolls pa/1 until1 s great has become ! lic5se ( color & ri*ness ( mat]ial1 t ! f\r hundr$ are call+ a halt1 & sob]] t9ts are beg9n+ to m>k ?is amusem5t4 ,d n we> too _m flutt]+ ribbons1 especially if occupy+ t covet$ position--! box seat4 ,x does n add to ! skill & accuracy ( ! driv] at a critical mom5t to h a flutt]+ ribbon cut l a :ip-la% across 8 eyes4 ,dress = ,l5t4 ,?is %\ld be ! sort ( g[n mo/ appropriate & becom+ to ! attitude ( rep5tance4 ,! g[ns1 ( c\rse1 are simple1 quiet affairs4 ,symphonies 9 gray1 poems 9 black & :ite1 mu/1 says "o writ]1 reflect 9 _! con/ruction z well z color ! sob]ness ( ! ev5t :i* !y w grace4 ,a tra9 is always admissible = ! ,l5t5 robe--t is1 if x is = h\se we>4 ,o!rwise ! skirt mu/ be %ort--q %ort en\gh1 inde$1 to give "o's *ur*wom5 a glimpse ( a da9ty gray or black walk+ boot4 ,any ( ! heliotrope1 mauve or pansy %ades1 also1 are appropriate expressions ( ! sorr[ ( ! fa%ionable woman1 ?us giv+ a color s*eme capable ( ! mo/ exquisite effects4 ,:ite ca%m]e is well suit$ = ! h\se2 & v little drap]ies1 b long1 /raight l9es1 give ! s\ght-aft] effect1 & ?us ! da9ty *rysalis re/s dur+ ! =ty days t prec$e ! unfold+ ( ! gorge\s w+s ( ! ,ea/] butt]fly4 ,dress = ,rid+4 ,! rid+-habit %\ld be made ( broadclo? or "s o!r suitable clo?4 ,! skirt %\ld be weight$ by sew+ %ot 9 ! l[] edge ( ! left-h& bread?s4 ,eque/rian tights %\ld be worn4 ,! habit is sometimes worn ov] ano!r dress-skirt1 :51 9 case ( dism\nt+ or accid5t1 ! habit-skirt c be slipp$ (f & ! rid] /ill left prop]ly attir$4 ,v long skirts are n worn4 ,! habit %\ld fit p]fectly & button to ! ?roat4 ,l95 coll>1 a pretty tie & l95 cuffs are worn1 & a lea!r glove ) gauntlet4 ,! hat %\ld be pla91 & ( ! prevail+ fa%ion4 ,lawn ,p>ties4 ,! dress = ^! occasions has be5 already describ$2 suffici5t "h to say x %\ld be light & graceful1 & ! bonnet or hat ornam5tal & effective4 ,picnics & ,excursions4 ,light-weight wool goods1 or heavy cotton or l95 mat]ial t w wa% & n te> easily1 is mo/ suitable = ^! occasions4 ,l95 or cotton duck is v s]viceable4 ,croquet1 ,ar*]y1 ,skat+1 ,etc4 ,all ( ^! semi-a?letic games call = bright1 pretty co/umes1 %ort en\gh to give ! fre$om ( movem5t necess>y to excel 9 ! game4 ,= summ] out-(-door games1 pliable gloves %\ld be worn1 & a hat to protect ! eyes f ! sun4 ,= skat+1 ri*1 w>m mat]ials1 fur trimm+s1 fur caps1 & w>m1 furr$ gauntlets %\ld be worn4 ,ba?+ ,dress4 ,ba?+ calls = a co/ume ( "s mat]ial t w n cl+ to ! =m :5 wet4 ,flannel is appropriate1 & a heavy quantity ( mohair also makes a successful dress1 z x resi/s wat] & has no cl++ qualities4 ,an oil-silk cap %\ld be worn ov] ! hair4 ,! cut ( ! dress %\ld be mode/2 ! co/ume loose & full1 & x %\ld be made ) a skirt4 ,! neck %\ld be cut q high4 ,ya*t+ ,dress4 ,?is is a pretty1 nautically devis$ & ornam5t$ suit1 made ( w>m mat]ials & ^? t w /& sea wat]4 ,dress = ,g5tlem54 ,! subject ( dress1 :ile n s complex = a man z = a woman1 mu/ /ill receive a c]ta9 am\nt ( c>e at 8 h&s1 = no g5tleman c possess complete disreg>d ( reign+ /yles )\t !reby sacrific+ a c]ta9 am\nt ( dignity 9 ! e/imation ( 8 associates4 ,z f> z ! c>d9al po9ts ( ! toilet ext5d1 a man is b\nd by ! same laws ( exquisite neatness t are incumb5t ^u a woman4 ,! same c>e ( tee?1 f+]-nails1 h&s & hair is necess>y4 ,don't neglect ! small hairs t sometimes project f ! no/rils & ! ap]tures ( ! e>s4 ,use a small pair ( scissors4 ,a g5tleman w h spotless coll>s1 cuffs & h&k]*iefs1 irreproa*able gloves1 nicely black5$ %oes & ?or\ghly bru%$ clo!s4 ,hair oil mu/ nev] be us$2 x is ill-br$4 ,clo!s ( pla9 colors are always 9 good ta/e1 & s is pure :ite l954 ,! fancy dott$ & /rip$ coll>s1 cuffs & bosoms1 s (t5 worn1 are n z good ta/e4 ,jewelry %\ld be us$ v sp>+ly4 ,utility %\ld be app>5t 9 ! articles worn4 ,wat* *a91 sleeve buttons & /uds 7"o or ?ree1 z lik$7 are necess>y4 ,:]e "o /ud is us$1 ! /one1 ?\gh n conspicu\s = size1 %\ld be a v f9e "o4 ,a sc>f p9 is sometimes worn1 & "o r+ is all[able1 b n too l>ge or %[y4 ,don't use quantities ( p]fum]y1 x is v bad ta/e4 ,keep a dress+-g[n = use 9 ! dress+-room or ! sick-room4 ,x is n a prop] g>m5t = ! table or ! sitt+-room4 ,we> ! hat prop]ly & squ>ely ^u ! head4 ,we> a coat at all prop] times--9 ! sitt+-room1 draw+-room1 & at table4 ,la/ly1 a g5tleman avoids all conspicu\s /yles ( dress1 & conf9es himself to quiet colors & well-fitt+1 well-c>$-= g>m5ts4 ,ev5+ ,dress = ,g5tlem54 ,! ev5+ dress = g5tlem5 v>ies v little f ye> to ye>1 & ! "t ( we>+ x v>ies n at all4 ,f dusk to dawn1 9 o!r words1 a g5tleman we>s a dress suit dur+ ! same h\rs t a lady we>s an ev5+ dress4 ,g5tlem5's ev5+ dress consi/s ( black tr\s]s1 a l[-cut black or :ite ve/1 dress or swall[-tail coat1 & :ite necktie4 ,! l95 mu/ be immaculate4 ,a "y man we>s a /&+ coll>2 an eld]ly man1 if he *oose1 may we> 8 favorite /yle1 ) due def]5ce to ! reign+ /yle4 ,"o or ?ree /uds adorn ! bosom4 ,prop]ly speak+1 :ite or v light kid gloves are a "p ( ev5+ dress1 b to say :e!r or n !y %all be worn always at a =mal d9n] is h>dly safe4 ,if worn1 remove !m at ! table2 b at a ball !y are indisp5sable4 ,on all d\btful occasions x is well to be provid$ ) a pair1 to use if wi%$4 ,ev5+ dress is to be worn at balls1 l>ge d9n]s1 p>ties & ! op]a4 ,x is nev] worn at *ur*1 save 9 case ( an ev5+ w$d+4 ,x is nev] worn any:]e on ,sunday4 ,9 a small t[n a dress suit on any occasion is apt to seem an affectation4 ,nev] we> a dress suit any:]e be=e six o'clock 9 ! ev5+4 ,a g5tleman nev] looks m ?or\ghly a g5tleman ?an 9 an ev5+ dress1 says "o writ] on etiquette1 & x is well = ^? to :om ! occasion is liable to come to le>n to we> "o gracefully & easily4 ,9 ,france a dress suit is worn ^u ne>ly all fe/ive occasions4 ,9 ,engl& ! same cu/oms prevail = its use z 9 our own c\ntry4 ,morn+ ,dress = ,g5tlem54 ,black cutaway1 or ,pr9ce ,alb]t coat 7frock coat71 black ve/1 :ite 9 summ]1 light-color$ tr\s]s1 silk or "s o!r /yle ( /iff hat1 & a black necktie4 ,a light coat is nev] worn ) black tr\s]s4 ,?is morn+ dress is worn at *ur*1 morn+ receptions1 in=mal p>ties1 g>d5 p>ties1 :5 mak+ calls1 & at places ( amusem5t4 ,w$d+ ,dress = ,g5tlem54 ,at morn+ w$d+s1 t is1 all w$d+s be=e six o'clock1 ! g5tlem51 bridegroom1 be/ man1 & all1 we> morn+ dress ) light-color$ ties4 ,if gloves are worn1 light-color$ ones mu/ be select$4 ,if !re is a =mal reception held 9 ! ev5+1 ev5+ dress & :ite or v pale gloves may !n be worn4 ,at an ev5+ w$d+1 ev5+ dress is expect$4 ,gloves = ,g5tlem54 ,g5tlem5 we> gloves :5 walk+1 rid+1 or driv+1 at *ur* & all places ( amusem5t1 :5 mak+ calls1 & at receptions1 balls & ev5+ p>ties4 ,:ite or v pale t9ts = balls & w$d+s2 delicate t9ts = ev5+ p>ties2 any %ade pref]r$ = ! o!r occasions4 ,g5]al ,h9ts4 ,a silk hat %\ld only be worn on appropriate occasions4 ,worn ) a r\gh bus9ess suit1 or on a picnic or m\nta9 ramble1 x is 9 ! wor/ possible ta/e4 ,x %\ld appe> only ) frock coats1 dress coats & a f9e quality ( clo?4 ,felt or /raw hats %\ld be worn ) %ort coats or bus9ess suits4 ,! m\rn+ we$1 conv5tionally speak+1 is worn only on a silk hat2 b !re is no good reason :y ^? :o wi% to we> m\rn+ = lo/ fri5ds %\ld always be 9 dress ( c]emony s to d4 ,diamonds %\ld n be worn dur+ bus9ess h\rs by m5 :o are oblig$ to /& beh9d c\nt]s or engage 9 any toil4 ,bus9ess suits %\ld nev] be worn to an ev5+ p>ty 9 ! city1 ?\gh 9 small c\ntry ga!r+s !y might be p]missible4 ,ev5 v>i\s /yles ( out+ suits are all[able 9 "s ( ! in=mal ga!r+s at summ] resorts4 ,nice cu/oms c\rtesy to great k+s1 or to occasions4 ,ev5+ ,suit = ,boys4 ,?is is black clo? ) ! r\gh surface t is se5 9 ! mat]ial us$ = gr[n-up1 ev5+ clo!s4 ,8 tr\s]s are ! prop] wid? & %[ a slight b n too pron\nc$ crease4 ,8 wai/coat is cut l[1 & ov] x he we>s an ,eton jacket ( black clo? t is acc5tuat$ by ! deep :ite l95 coll> :i* turns ov] x1 & :i* is atta*$1 l 8 cuffs1 to 8 immaculate :ite %irt4 ,he scorns all jewelry b a little wat* & ! :ite enamel buttons t are 9 8 %irt4 ,8 silk hat has a l[] & a some:at broad] cr[n ?an t made = an old] g5tleman4 ,a suit l ?is is worn by a boy f ! "t he is twelve until he is eighte51 & !n he is suppos$ to assume ! regulation ev5+ dress worn by m54 ,lett] ,writ+4 ,illu/ration ,lett]s are ! memory ( fri5d%ip1 & are to be reckon$ among ! *ief l9ks 9 ! social *a9 t b9ds p>5t & *ild1 lov] & swee!>t1 fri5d & fri5d1 9 h>moni\s accord4 ,a lett] may1 f a bus9ess po9t ( view1 make or m> ! =tunes ( its s5d]1 :ile none ! less surely1 f a social /&>d1 w our epi/les approve or condemn our claim = consid]ation4 ,e position 9 life1 & e occasion :i* may arise !re91 dem& m or less ex]cise ( our epi/ol>y p[]s1 & :ile b few c hope = ! grace1 ! wit1 ! rep>tee t sp>kle 9 ! missives ( a de ,/al1 a ,rcami]1 a ,walpole1 a ,macaulay1 e "o c & %\ld le>n to write a cle>1 concise1 intellig5t1 appropriate lett]4 ,a ,r>e ,accompli%m5t4 ,to d ?is prop]ly is a social accompli%m5t1 & "o ( ! greate/ boons t education conf]s4 ,a graceful note1 a k9dly1 sp>kl+ lett]1 are ea* ! expon5t ( a true lady or g5tleman1 ?\gh x mu/ be confess$1 s9ce our c\ntry furni%es no s-call$ leisure class1 ! art ( lett]-writ+ has1 9 great measure1 fall5 into fem99e h&s1 ! c>es ( bus9ess & pr(essional life (ttimes prev5t+ ! /]n] half ( creation f m]e fri5dly ex]cise ( ! p54 ,x is among wom51 !re=e1 t we w f9d 9 ! pres5t1 z we h f\nd 9 ! pa/1 ! be/ & mo/ flu5t ( correspond5ts4 ,a c]ta9 dread ( lett]-writ+1 h[ev]1 seems to haunt a l>ge class ( p4 ,?is dread1 aris+ ei!r f imp]fect education1 a lack ( practice or a fe> ( no?+ to say1 c be ov]come 9 great measure by c>eful /udy ( ! few ma9 requisites ( ! art1 z embrac$ 9 /yle1 or?ography1 =ms to be adopt$ & /ation]y to be us$ = c]ta9 occasions4 ,! ,/yle1 ( c\rse1 is a subtle some?+ inh]5t 9 ea* individual1 n to be entirely done away ) 9 any case1 b to be improv$ by a c>eful /udy ( good models1 su*1 = example1 z ! lett]s ( ! above m5tion$ au?ors4 ,to read ! be/ prose writ]s also _c fail to "w an improvem5t4 ,= in/ance1 ! writ] once1 aft] an en?usia/ic /udy ( ,ta9e1 0 rew>d$ by ! assurance f a lit]>y correspond5t t h] lett]s 7 ?or\ghly ,ta9esque 9 /yle4 ,by judici\s read+ & c>efully tak+ ?\ght1 an abrupt /yle may be s(t5$ & m graceful1 fl[+ s5t5ces sub/itut$ = its %ort1 %>p phrases2 :ile a r$undant /yle1 by ! same c>e1 may be prun$ ( its exub]ance4 ,! *ief *>m ( a lett] consi/s 9 x be+ writt5 naturally & z "o w\ld talk4 ,we %\ld write z we speak1 & t's a true famili> lett] :i* expresse? a man's m9d z if he 7 disc\rs+ ) ! p>ty to :om he writes1 says ,h[ell1 &1 anci5t z ! words are1 no bett] advice c be giv5 to-day4 ,write easily1 & nev] simply = effect2 ?is gives a con/ra9$1 /ilt$ /yle t w soon cool ! correspond5ce4 ,let y\r ?\ghts fl[ z !y w\ld 7 y conv]s+ ) y\r fri5d1 b d n gossip2 give fri5dly intellig5ce only :5 c]ta9 ( its tru?4 ,?is w n seem too mu* :5 x is rememb]$ h[ writt5 words sometimes rise up 9 judgm5t aga9/ _! au?ors :5 ! spok5 words w\ld long s9ce h be5 =gott54 ,a lapse ( "t w bru% ! bloom f our s5t5ces & no?+ c br+ back aga9 ! t5d] grace t transfigur$ ! ov]-sweetness ( "s little writt5 s5tim5t1 or r$eem x f ! realm ( ! bomba/ic 9 our eyes to-day4 ,!n let y\r communications be1 n exactly 'yea & nay1' b d let !m be su* t y w\ld n fe> to he> !m read al\d be=e y1 = m ?an ?is 'come? ( evil4' ,illu/ration3 ,,^! ,,are ,,my ,,keepsakes4 ,gramm> & ,or?ography4 ,^! %\ld receive mo/ c>eful att5tion4 ,a great au?or is "o1 accord+ to ,ta9e1 :o1 hav+ passions1 kn[s also 8 diction>y & gramm>4 ,& a good lett]-writ]1 z well1 mu/ "k 8 diction>y & gramm> to r5d] 8 missives pres5table4 ,grammatical errors are almo/ unp>donable1 & a misspell$ ^w is an actual crime 9 ^! days ( diction>ies4 ,punctuation & capitalization1 too1 mu/ be look$ aft]1 & ! :ole lett] give evid5ce ( ?\ght & c>e on ! writ]'s "p4 ,h&writ+1 ,pap] & ,ink are all ( importance1 & etiquette has prescrib$ c]ta9 =mulas = ^! adjuncts ( a good lett]1 t1 h[ev] ! vag>ies ( fa%ion may invade ! out] bord]s ( ! realm epi/ol>y1 are always correct & 9 good /yle4 ,! pap] 9 be/ ta/e is ?ick1 :ite or creamy-t9t$1 unrul$ & ( su* a size z to fold once = fitt+ squ>e-%ap$ envelopes1 creamy-:ite l ! pap]4 ,nev] use envelopes s ?9 9 quality z to p]mit ! writ+ to be se5 ?r\gh f ! outside4 ,! squ>e envelope is n a necessity2 ! slightly oblong is also us$1 ! pap] be+ fold$ twice to fit ?is size4 ,?is pap] w\ld be suitable & 9 p]fect /yle 9 any portion ( ! civiliz$ _w1 & on any occasion1 & no "o ) any pret5sions to good bre$+ %\ld be f\nd unsuppli$4 ,?is is an item 9 :i* we _c af=d to economize1 = "o judges a lady or g5tleman1 unconsci\sly1 by ! cont5ts ( 8 or h] writ+ desk1 z exemplifi$ by ! lett]s s5t f _! h&s4 ,monograms are n entirely out1 b !y are only us$ by ^? to :om _! own especial design1 ?r\gh long use1 has come to seem almo/ a "p ( !mselves4 ,all fleet+ fancies 9 /ation]y %\ld be pass$ by on ! o!r side1 or1 at mo/1 left to ! wayw>d ta/es ( sweet sixte51 or to "s few ^: v ecc5tricities are "p ( _! fame4 ,s>ah ,b]nh>dt1 = in/ance1 uses blue pap] fram$ 9 a pale gray l9e on ! top ( ! page1 & ! flap ( ! envelope is a tragic m>k1 above :i* h] initials are trav]s$ by a scroll be>+ h] motto1 ,qu& mme4 ,%e is z exact1 h[ev]1 9 ! =mulas ( h] lett]s z any d[ag] ( ! old s*ool4 ,! ,royal ,highnesses ( ,engl& use ! pap] & squ>e envelopes be=e describ$2 initials1 monograms & cre/s are left to =eign]s & outsid]s1 & ! ,orlans family1 ( ,france1 are sev]ely pla9 9 _! *oice ( /ation]y4 ,illu/ration3 ,,incorrect ,,mode ,,( ,,hold+ ,,! ,,p54 ,illu/ration3 ,,prop] ,,mode ,,( ,,hold+ ,,! ,,p54 ,illu/ration3 ,,correct ,,position ,,( ,,! ,,h&4 ,giv5 ! correct pap] & envelopes & pla91 jet-black ink 7no o!r t9t %\ld ev] be us$71 ! p5man%ip mu/ next be consid]$4 ,x is v well = ,madame ,b]nh>dt to write an elegant1 graceful h& t is absolutely impossible to deciph]1 & = ,g5]al ,b\rbaki to indite 8 epi/les 9 a microscopically m9ute script1 b less important p w d well to r5d] _! *irography z p]fect & legible z possible1 & n to fl\ri%4 ,avoid always too ne> an approa* to ! cl]kly1 comm]cial h&4 ,a tal5t$ =eign] once rem>k$ to ! writ] ^u 8 a/oni%m5t at ! pr$om9ance ( ?is h& 9 ,am]ica4 ,i d n l x1 he said2 ! cl]k s5ds me 9 my rates1 ! l&lord my bill1 & ! "y lady h] reply to my invitation1 all 9 t same comm]cial h&4 ,!re is no individuality1 no "*1 9 su* writ+4 ,& !re 0 too mu* reason 9 8 remon/rance4 ,we are n q a nation ( %opkeep]s1 & !re is no reason :y ?is bus9ess h&writ+ %\ld s p]meate all classes ( society4 ,! l9es %\ld be /raight1 & z rul$ pap] is n p]missible 9 =mal notes1 invitations or punctili\s correspond5ce1 savor+ too ne>ly ( ! s*ool-room & ! c\nt+-h\se1 "s little practice may be necess>y to keep ! l9es ev54 ,%\ld ?is prove impossible1 let a %eet ( pap] ) heavily rul$ black l9es t w %[ ?r\gh ! writ+ pap]1 be kept 9 ! desk & slipp$ b5ea? ! page z a guide4 ,x may also be ins]t$ 9 ! envelope to keep ! sup]scription or address p]fectly /raight4 ,! l9es %\ld be r f> ap>t1 & ! fa%ionable h& j n[ is n ! po9t$ ,engli% /yle1 b some:at v]g+ on ! l>ge1 r\nd h& ( ! la/ c5tury2 ! ladies1 z a rule1 indulg+ 9 a r mascul9e /yle4 ,illu/ration3 ,,prop] ,,position ,,( ,a ,,lady ,,9 ,,writ+4 ,?9 =eign note pap] may be us$ = lett]s abroad1 unless ! mo/ =mal4 ,?is is usually rul$4 ,s is ! comm]cial note us$ = bus9ess lett]s4 ,^! =ms answ] = ladies & g5tlem5 alike4 ,!re is no p>ticul> objection to g5tlem5 us+ 9 _! in=mal fri5dly lett]s1 bus9ess note ) pr9t$ lett] head1 b = c]emoni\s occasions !y mu/ be b\nd by ! =ego+ =ms4 ,v fa9tly p]fum$ pap] is ! pr]ogative ( ! ladies4 ,g5tlem5 are d5i$ ?is privilege & a lady avails h]self ( x ) discretion1 select+ a favorite odor & adh]+ closely to x1 s t correspond5ts c\ld tell h] missives ) clos$ eyes1 by _! v fragrance4 ,:]e black-edg$ pap] & envelopes are us$ by p]sons 9 m\rn+1 ! wid? ( ! black bord] v>ies accord+ to ! ne>ness ( ! deceas$ relative or ! l5g? ( "t s9ce ! loss1 ?\gh "s nev] use m ?an ! n>r[e/ l9e ( black1 :ile o!rs /ill1 ) ! mo/ p]fect propriety1 disc>d x altoge!r4 ,its use is a matt] ( ta/e simply1 & mu/ cease s soon z ! m\rn+ g>b is dropp$4 ,nev] be guilty1 h[ev]1 ( writ+ a lett] ( congratulation on black-edg$ pap]1 ev5 if 9 m\rn+2 use pla9 :ite = ?is purpose4 ,at ! same "t1 x is nev] necess>y to write a lett] ( condol5ce on black-bord]$ pap]1 unless ! writ] himself is 9 m\rn+4 ,illu/ration3 ,,improp] ,,position4 ,,prop] ,,position4 ,! c>eful writ+ ( a note or lett] is a m>k ( respect to ! recipi5t1 & blots1 erasures & m5d$ words %\ld nev] be p]mitt$ to disfigure x4 ,eras+ _c be done )\t m>r+ ! entire page & a m5d$ or rewritt5 ^w is an (f5se to ! eye4 ,to copy ! lett] afre% is ! only real rem$y1 & ^? :o value _! own /&+ w n grudge ! pa9s sp5t 9 ! composition ( a lett] t %all be a cr$it to ! writ] & a pleasure to ! receiv]4 ,?is comes "u ! g5]al recomm5dation ( do+ ev]y?+ y d z x ought to be done4 ,!re %\ld be no slip%od way ( writ+ a lett] by :i* y are to be judg$4 ,figures & abbreviations are (t5 us$4 ,few num]als are all[able1 except ! dates1 ! /reet numb] & ! h\r ( ! day4 ,v l>ge sums ( money are also /at$ 9 figures unless !y beg9 a s5t5ce1 :5 all numb]s mu/ be writt5 out fully4 ,figures are also pref]able 9 unev5 sums ( money too long to be writt5 ) "o1 or at mo/ two words2 p] c5t41 z well1 is rulable 9 figures4 ,degrees %\ld be ei!r writt5 #ge1 or sev5ty-five degrees4 ,fractions1 giv5 alone1 %\ld be 9 words1 & all o!r num]als occurr+ 9 a lett] mu/ foll[ ! same rule1 except quotations f /ock & m>ket reports4 ,= extra precaution1 sometimes sums ( money are writt51 foll[$ by figures repres5t+ ! same1 9 p>5!sis4 ,common ,abbreviations4 ,abbreviations prop] to social & =mal lett]-writ+ are few 9 numb]4 ,honor>y titles1 su* z ,dr41 ,pr(41 ,hon41 ,rev41 ,messrs41 ,esq41 ,capt41 etc41 are usually abbreviat$ z above1 ?\gh v good au?orities advocate1 & ) mu* reason1 ! use ( ! full ^w ,rev]5d1 z also ! titles ,honorable & ,pr(essor4 ,! s*ola/ic titles are also abbreviat$ by ! prop] initials1 z ,a4,m41 ,m4,d41 ,,ll4,d41 foll[+ ! "n4 ,! names ( mon?s1 ( /ates1 ! words ,c\nty & ,po/ ,(fice1 :5 us$ on ! sup]scription are also abbreviat$4 ,! use ( ,a4,m41 ,m41 ,p4,m41 to m>k ! divisions ( ! day1 te*nical abbreviations1 & ! usual e4g41 i4e41 viz41 etc41 are too famili> to ! us]s to ne$ m5tion4 ,fur!r ?an ! above1 brevity is n always ! s\l ( wit4 ,! lett] itself1 z a :ole1 is n[ to be consid]$1 & to facilitate its writ+ !re %\ld be "s "o corn] 9 e home devot$ to ?is purpose4 ,! inc5tive to lett]-writ+ is always damp$1 ! happy ?\ght we w\ld s5d our fri5d takes flight1 if we mu/ f9d ! p5s up/airs1 ! pap] d[n1 ! ink bottle 9 ! pantry1 empty or n1 z ! case may be1 & our pati5ce :]ev] x may be aft] ! se>* is end$4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,scrap ,,( ,a ,,lett]4 ,lett]s w\ld be m frequ5tly writt51 m punctually answ]$1 & half ! unreasonable dread ( writ+ done away )1 7 ?is matt] att5d$ to prop]ly4 ,let ! writ+ desk /& 9 "s well-light$ corn] ( sitt+1 d9+1 or "m's room1 & let x be /or$ ) all articles necess>y to ! exig5cies ( correspond5ce4 ,%\ld ! desk prove beyond ! dep? ( ! family purse1 !n let its sub/itute be f\nd 9 a firm1 good-siz$ table or /&1 ) a draw] :]e necess>y supplies may be kept4 ,two or m sizes ( note pap]1 unrul$1 ) envelopes to mat*1 = ! eld]s ( ! h\sehold2 writ+ tablets & comm]cial note1 toge!r ) pla9 envelopes1 = ! s*ool-*ildr5 & ev]yday uses2 a good diction>y1 a tray ) p5 rack & ink/& !reon1 & a goodly supply ( p5s1 w complete a corn] t w d m t[>d ! family education 9 good bre$+ & culture ?an any o!r exp5diture t c be made1 & w r5d] lett]-writ+ ! pleasure x %\ld be1 in/ead ( ! dread x too (t5 is4 ,if "o possesses a p]man5t address1 /reet1 numb] & city may1 ) great propriety1 be engrav$ on ! pap] at ! top ( ! %eet4 ,if ?is is n done ! address %\ld always be writt5 cle>ly on all lett]s4 ,x is too mu* to expect "o's fri5ds to rememb] ! private addresses ( all _! correspond5ts1 & "t is too preci\s to be sp5t se>*+ out "s miss+ lett] 9 que/ ( /reet or numb]1 9 default ( :i* m ?an "o lett] has gone unansw]$4 ,! date ( a lett]1 mon?1 day1 ye> & city is fir/ 9 place4 ,?is %\ld be writt5 on "o l9e1 beg9n+1 accord+ to l5g?1 m or less ne> ! c5t] ( ! %eet & end+ at ! "r-h& m>g94 ,9 bus9ess lett]s1 unless ! pr9t$ lett] head fixes ! place1 ?is l9e %\ld n be m ?an "o-qu>t] d[n ! page2 :ile 9 social or =mal lett]s x %\ld be "o-?ird ! di/ance d[n4 ,if x %\ld be desirable to give ! c\nty also1 ! date may be all[$ to occupy two or m l9es1 z foll[s3 ,,m5dota1 ,,la ,,salle ,,co41 ,,ill41 ,may #bi1 #ahi-4 ,9 ! same mann] a city numb] & address may be giv53 #cji ,,po/ ,,/reet1 ,,ottawa1 ,,ill41 ,janu>y #cj1 #ahi-4 ,9 writ+ f hotels1 ! foll[+ =m %\ld be adopt$3 ,,! ,,arl+ton1 ,,b+hamton1 ,n4,y41 ,octob] #c1 #ahi-4 ,"s1 9 polite lett]-writ+1 pref] to give ! address at ! conclusion r ?an ! beg9n+ ( ! lett]4 ,"u ^! circum/ances ! prescrib$ =m w\ld be3 ,truly y\r fri5d1 ,,m>y ,n4 ,,prescott4 ,,frankl9 ,,grove1 ,lee ,co41 ,ill41 ,janu>y #ad1 #ahi-4 ,!re are sev]al ways ( writ+ ! figures t compose ! date ( a lett]4 ,_m bus9ess m5 & o!rs use ?is =m1 #a-b-ahi-1 or1 #a_/b_/i-1 = ,janu>y #b1 #ahi-4 ,o!rs /ill w\ld write z foll[s3 ,jan4 #bnd1 #ahif4 ,ta/e & habit w decide ! matt] = ea*4 ,to give ! "n in/ead ( ! numb] ( ! mon? is1 p]haps1 m elegant4 ,! address1 suppos+ x to be a bus9ess lett] w\ld come next 9 ord]1 beg9n+ at ! left-h& m>g91 & our lett] w\ld /& ?us3 ,,tipton1 ,,i[a1 ,april #a1 #ahi-4 ,,mr4 ,,william ,h4 ,,hill1 #cjg ,wall ,/reet1 ,new ,york4 ,! salutation is a matt] :]e9 !re is great latitude ( usage4 ,9 con=mity ) cu/om1 "s title is to be us$ 9 address+ correspond5ts1 & ?is title diff]s greatly 9 accordance ) ! degree ( acqua9tance1 or fri5d%ip1 ) ! p>ty address$4 ,x %\ld always beg9 at ! left ( ! page4 ,9 ! bus9ess lett] j above1 ! =m might be z foll[s3 ,,tipton1 ,,i[a1 ,april #a1 #ahi-4 ,,mr4 ,,william ,h4 ,,hill1 #cjg ,wall ,/reet1 ,new ,york4 ,,de> ,,sir3 7or1 ,,sir37 ,or1 if !re %\ld be a firm "n1 ! address w\ld be z foll[s3 ,messrs4 ,,williams ,,hill1 #cjg ,wall ,/reet1 ,new ,york4 ,,de> ,,sirs3 7or1 ,,sirs37 7or1 ,,g5tlem537 ,aga91 if wi%$1 ! salutation might be omitt$ & ! address made to s]ve z title4 ,ano!r =m is ?is3 ,,mr4 ,,william ,h4 ,,hill1 #cjg ,wall ,/reet1 ,new ,york4 ,,mr4 ,,hill3 ,! foll[+ =m1 ?\gh caus+ an unpleasant repetition ( ! "n1 is (t5 adopt$ 9 bus9ess lett]s to unm>ri$ ladies1 probably to escape ! problem t ! *oice ( ,miss or ,madam (f]s to s _m3 #cje ,,beacon ,,/reet1 ,,bo/on1 ,,mass41 ,febru>y #aj1 #ahi-4 ,,miss ,,m>y ,,wright1 ,*]ry ,valley1 ,ill4 ,,miss ,,wright3 ,or1 omitt+ ! "n1 ! simple address may be us$4 ,h[ev]1 !re ne$ n be ! slighte/ difficulty 9 address+ an unm>ri$ lady1 ev5 %\ld %e be 9 h] te5s1 z ,madam1 or ,de> ,madam1 x be+ a g5]al t]m z applicable to wom5 )\t reg>d to age or condition1 z ,sir is to _! bre?r54 ,?is w be easily se5 :5 x is recollect$ t x is a d]ivation f ma dame1 my lady1 & s9ce our language is defici5t 9 any equival5t t]m to ! pretty ,fr5* ,mademoiselle1 or ! ,g]man1 ,frule91 &1 z ,de> ,miss is obsolete1 we mu/ be cont5t to utilize ,madam on all necess>y occasions4 ,!re is ano!r =m mu* us$ :]e ! address is omitt$3 #cje ,,mi*igan ,,av5ue1 ,,*icago1 ,july #aj1 #ahi-4 ,,miss ,,hal/ead4 ,,de> ,,madam3 ,or1 if on fri5dly foot+1 simply3 ,,de> ,,miss ,,hal/ead3 ,if two "y ladies are to be address$1 ! t]m ,misses %\ld be us$1 z3 ,,havana1 ,,ill41 ,febru>y #bj1 #ahi-4 ,,misses ,,taylor ,,watson1 ,/5ograph]s1 #aei ,*ur* ,/reet1 ,rock=d1 ,ill4 ,,mesdames3 ,! ,mesdames may be omitt$ & ! address us$ alone1 b its addition indicates m poli%4 ,! translation is ,my ,ladies4 ,"s sub/itute = x1 simply ,ladies1 :i* is q prop]4 ,! prefix ,de> may be omitt$ :]ev] desirable1 b nev] write ,my de> ,miss ,hal/ead1 ,my de> ,madam1 or ,my de> ,sir1 unless intimately acqua9t$4 ,9 writ+ a social lett] ! address is omitt$ or add$ at close ( ! lett]4 ,a g5tleman 9 private or pr(essional life w\ld be address$ z3 ,,fr$]ic ,,guy1 ,esq4 ,,de> ,,sir3 7or1 ,,sir37 ,or1 ,,hon4 ,,fr$]ic ,,guy4 ,,de> ,,sir3 7or1 ,,sir37 ,respectfully y\rs1 ,,john ,,gracel&4 ,! use ( titles w be expla9$ f>!r on1 b "h x may be said t two titles are v seldom giv5 to ! same individual at once4 ,= in/ance1 nev] write ,mr4 ,fr$4 ,guy1 ,esq41 nor ,hon4 ,mr4 ,fr$4 ,guy4 ,!re are "s exceptions to ?is rule1 z :]e ! ,rev4 ,mr4 ,*ur*ill & ! ,hon4 ,mr4 ,brice are address$ "u circum/ances :]e _! ,*ri/ian "n is unkn[n1 & :]e a m>ri$ lady makes use ( h] husb&'s title1 z3 ,mrs4 ,capt4 ,jones2 ,mrs4 ,judge ,snyd]1 & :]e ! ,rev4 ,pr(4 ,dr4 ,kemp %[s by 8 titles ! weight ( 8 le>n+4 ,nev] d5y an individual ! titles t are rightfully 84 ,!y %[ t he has f\ght & conqu]$ m51 or books1 to w9 !m1 & !y are ! well-e>n$ me$ ( 8 endeavor4 ,b nev]1 if y h titles1 be guilty ( be/[+ !m on y\rself2 leave t = o!rs4 ,a g5tleman writ+ to a m>ri$ lady w\ld address h] 9 fri5dly correspond5ce z1 ,de> ,mrs4 ,fr5*1 or1 ,my de> ,mrs4 ,fr5*4 ,to an unm>ri$ lady1 ,de> ,miss ,fr5*1 or ,my de> ,miss ,fr5*4 ,a lady addresses a g5tleman 9 ! same fa%ion1 z ,de> ,mr4 ,c\rtney1 or ,my de> ,mr4 ,c\rtney1 or ,de> ,dr4 ,c\rtney4 ,! ,prop] ,salutation4 ,ne>] degrees ( intimacy1 ( c\rse1 =mulate _! own laws 9 ?is reg>d1 b ev5 "h1 be x said1 t discretion may be ex]cis$ to advantage4 ,x w also be obs]v$ t if ! ^w de>1 or any l t]m1 beg9s ! salutation x is capitaliz$2 o!rwise1 n4 ,?us3 ,my de> ,fri5d2 n ,my ,de> ,fri5d4 ,au?orities on etiquette diff] some:at on ?is score1 diff]5t works 9 ! au?or's possession tak+ exactly opposite sides1 ! weight ( evid5ce1 h[ev]1 fall+ on ! =m giv5 "h4 ,! complim5t>y conclusion1 ,y\rs truly1 ,v truly y\rs1 ,v respectfully1 etc41 %\ld beg9 ab\t ! middle ( ! page on ! next l9e bel[ ! body ( ! lett]4 ,! fir/ ^w only %\ld be capitaliz$1 & ! expression foll[$ by a comma4 ,! signature %\ld come on ! l9e bel[ & end at ! "r-h& m>g9 ( ! page4 ,! address also is sometimes1 especially 9 social notes giv5 at ! conclusion1 :]e x %\ld beg91 "o or two l9es bel[ ! signature1 at ! left-h& m>g9 ( ! page1 occupy+ two or m l9es1 accord+ to its l5g?1 z3 ,,de> ,,miss ,,lo?rop3 ,9 reply to y\r k9d note1 ,i w\ld say1 etc4 ,cordially y\rs1 ,,m>ion ,,k5t4 #b ,arcade ,c\rt1 ,*icago1 ,ill41 ,octob] #e1 #ahi-4 ,ano!r v =mal /yle w\ld be3 #ba ,,delaw>e ,,place1 ,,buffalo1 ,n4,y41 ,june #a1 #ahi-4 ,,de> ,,miss ,,lo?rop3 ,9 reply to y\r k9d note1 etc4 ,truly y\rs1 ,,george ,,h>l&4 ,to ,,miss ,,julia ,,lo?rop1 #aaj ,beacon ,/reet1 ,bo/on1 ,mass4 ,! conclusion ( a lett] gives ! writ] fully z mu* latitude ( /yle z ! salutation4 ,"s graceful little phrase %\ld foll[ ! subject-matt] ( ! lett] & lead up to ! conclusion1 ?us3 ,i am1 ) love to ! family1 & remembrances to all my fri5ds1 ,y\rs cordially1 ,,m>y ,,roe4 ,salutation & conclusion %\ld always correspond 9 =mality or fri5dl9ess ) "o ano!r1 ?us3 ,,mr4 ,,john ,,bright4 ,,sir3 w\ld appropriately conclude )3 ,i am1 sir1 ,respectfully y\rs1 ,,frank ,b4 ,,folsom4 ,a fri5dly lett] beg9n+3 ,,de> ,,bright3 or1 ,,my ,,de> ,,bright3 w\ld t]m9ate ?us3 ,cordially y\rs1 ,,frank ,b4 ,,folsom4 ,o!r =ms = clos+ bus9ess lett]s are3 ,i am1 respectfully1 ,,james ,,ross4 ,or1 ,respectfully1 ,,james ,,ross4 ,^! =ms d away ) ! p]sonal pron\n ,y\rs1 :i*1 al?\gh cu/om has 9 reality r5d]$ x a pure =mality1 /ill reta9s a c]ta9 mean+ 9 ! m9ds ( "s1 z ! man1 :o1 9 a long correspond5ce ) 8 wife-t-0-to-be1 nev] sign$ a lett] o!rwise ?an ,truly y\rs4 ,:at m c\ld ,i be1 he qu]i$1 ?an h]s truly1 body & s\l8 & ) ?is feel+ c\ld _! m>ri$ life h be5 o!r ?an x 01 beautiful to look ^u8 ,nev] abbreviate ! conclusion to ,y\rs1 etc42 x has too mu* ! c>eless1 ?ankless s\nd ( ,?anks1 & nei!r c be suffici5tly condemn$4 ,lett]s beg9n+1 ,,my ,,de> ,,m>g>et3 or1 ,,my ,,de> ,,daught]3 might end1 respectively3 ,ev] y\rs1 or1 ,y\r fri5d1 ,,jane ,,br[n4 ,&1 ,y\r affectionate "m1 ,,g]trude ,,mason4 ,a g5tleman1 writ+ to a lady1 c\ld say3 ,v s9c]ely 7or respectfully7 y\rs1 ,p4,h4 ,,g\ld4 ,or1 ,y\rs1 ) s9c]e reg>d1 ,,h5ry ,,grayson4 ,! address ne$ n be add$ unless ! acqua9tance is v slight4 ,at times a m elaborate clos+ is desirable & graceful1 z :5 ! correspond5t is v mu* high] 9 /ation1 or old] 9 ye>s1 or y h be5 ! recipi5t ( "s great favor at 8 or h] h&s3 ,i am1 de> madam1 ) ! mo/ pr(\nd e/eem1 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 ,,james ,,talbot4 ,or1 to a g5tleman1 "u l circum/ances3 ,i h ! honor to be1 sir1 ,y\rs mo/ respectfully1 ,,james ,,talbot4 ,su* clos+s z ,ob$i5t1 humble s]vant1 are q too mu* = ,republican simplicity1 & ev5 9 writ+ to no less a dignit>y ?an ! ,presid5t3 ,to ,,! ,,presid5t1 ,,sir3 ,v respectfully1 ,,james ,,talbot1 really fulfills all requirem5ts1 ?\gh "o may consult 8 own ta/e 9 mak+ use ( ! two complim5t>y conclusions giv5 above4 ,a lady 9 writ+ to a /rang] %\ld always sugge/ :e!r %e is m>ri$ or s+le4 ,?is w prev5t mi/akes & annoyance1 & c be done 9 two ways3 ,respectfully1 7,,miss7 ,,frances ,,clayton4 ,or1 m elaborately3 ,respectfully1 ,,frances ,,clayton4 ,address1 ,,miss ,,frances ,,clayton1 #ba ,/4 ,c>ol9e's ,c\rt1 ,*icago4 ,a lady nev] signs h]self z ,mrs4 ,hel5 ,b4 ,hayes1 or ,miss ,g]trude ,vance1 )\t1 at lea/1 putt+ ! titles 9 a p>5!sis4 ,prim>ily1 a woman is ,hel5 ,hayes or ,g]trude ,vance1 & %\ld sign h]self z su*4 ,! ,miss or ,mrs4 signifies simply an incid5t 9 h] exi/5ce1 & is add$1 z x 71 9 a note1 to prev5t mi/ake on ! "p ( o!rs4 ,a failure to obs]ve ?is rule indicates a lack ( culture4 ,nei!r does a g5tleman ev] sign himself ,mr4 ,br[n1 b ,george ,g4 ,br[n1 or ,g4,g4 ,br[n4 ,use ( ! ,husb&'s ,"n4 ,a m>ri$ lady %\ld always be address$ by h] husb&'s "n prec$$ by ,mrs41 except 9 case ( well-kn[n names1 su* z ,mrs4 ,pott] ,palm]1 or ,mrs4 ,isabella ,b4 ,hook]4 ,a wid[ is no long] call$ by h] husb&'s giv5 "n1 b rev]ts to h] own *ri/5$ cognom51 prec$$ by ,mrs4 ,?us1 ,mrs4 ,james ,h4 ,hayes 9 h] wid[hood is1 to e "o1 ,mrs4 ,hel5 ,b4 ,hayes4 ,an exception to ?is w\ld be 9 ! case ( su* well-kn[n names z ,abraham ,l9coln1 or ,james ,g4 ,bla9e1 :]e cu/om grants ! wid[ ! "r to be> ! belov$ title4 ,! sup]scription or address %\ld be writt5 pla9ly 7if spe$y deliv]y is expect$7 ^u ! l[] half ( ! envelope1 ! flap be+ at ! top4 ,! title & "n =m "o l9e ) ab\t an equal space at ea* end4 ,! writ+ %\ld be j bel[ ! middle ( ! envelope4 ,! /reet numb]1 ! "n ( ! city & ! /ate ea* =m a sep>ate l9e1 "o bel[ ! o!r1 & ea* %\ld beg9 a little to ! "r ( ! "o above1 s t ! la/ l9e w approa* ne>ly to ! l[] "r-h& corn] ( ! envelope4 ,! c\nty or numb] ( po/ (fice box may be giv5 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]4 ,:]e !re is no /reet numb] ! c\nty1 or ev5 ! box numb]1 may be writt5 directly b5ea? ! "n ( ! t[n4 ,! /amp %\ld be inv>iably plac$ squ>ely & "r-side up 9 ! upp] "r-h& corn]4 ,a reque/ = return 9 a giv5 "t may be writt51 if necess>y1 9 ! upp] left-h& corn]4 ,a physician is address$ ?us3 ,,dr4 ,,alb]t ,,"y1 ,watseka1 ,i[a4 ,or1 ,,alb]t ,,"y1 ,m4,d41 ,watseka1 ,i[a4 ,9 address+ ! wife ( a doctor ! foll[+ =mula may be us$3 ,,mrs4 ,,dr4 ,,alb]t ,,"y1 ,watseka1 ,i[a4 ,! /ricte/ etiquette1 h[ev]1 w\ld involve writ+3 ,,mrs4 ,,alb]t ,,"y1 c>e ( ,dr4 ,alb]t ,"y1 ,watseka1 ,i[a4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,place ,,= ,,/amp ,,& ,,sup]scription4 ,ei!r ( ! above =ms may be tak5 = address+ ! wife ( a pr(essor1 an army or ,unit$ ,/ates (ficial1 a m9i/] or a legal dignit>y1 always rememb]+ t ! long] is m elegant1 z3 ,,mrs4 ,,melville ,b4 ,,full]1 c>e ( ! ,hon4 ,melville ,b4 ,full]1 ,*ief ,ju/ice ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 ,! ,presid5t1 h[ev]1 w\ld be address$3 ,to ! ,presid5t1 ,executive ,mansion1 ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 ,?is is ! simple/ =m1 & z su*1 9 ! be/ ta/e1 b x is sometimes writt53 ,to ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 ,,honorable ,,grov] ,,clevel&4 ,8 ,excell5cy 0 =m]ly us$ 9 address+ ! ,presid5t & ! ,gov]nors ( ,/ates1 b x is l>gely ab&on$ z inconsi/5t ) ! lack ( titles 9 our c\ntry4 ,! same rule is obs]v$ 9 writ+ to ! ,gov]nor ( a ,/ate3 ,to ! ,gov]nor1 ,gub]natorial ,mansion1 ,spr+field1 ,ill4 ,or1 ,to ! ,gov]nor1 ,,rob]t ,p4 ,,morton1 ,albany1 ,n4,y4 ,a memb] ( ! ,cab9et3 ,to ! ,honorable1 ! ,secret>y ( ! ,int]ior1 ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 ,a ,/ate (ficial has ! foll[+ address3 ,,dr4 ,,john ,c4 ,,wyatt1 ,secret>y ( ! ,/ate ,bo>d ( ,*>ity1 ,spr+field1 ,ill4 ,9 address+ "o p]son 9 c>e ( ano!r ! =m w\ld be3 ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,drap]1 ,gr& de ,t\r1 ,ill4 ,c>e ,dr4 ,i4,s4 ,prime4 ,a note to be deliv]$ by a fri5d is always unseal$ & usually address$3 ,,miss ,,flor5ce ,,w>d51 ,vass> ,college1 ,p\ghkeepsie1 ,n4,y4 ,k9dness ( ,,mr4 ,g4,a4 ,,rhodes4 ,a /ill bett] =m is to simply use ! address ( ! p]son )\t f>!r preamble4 ,always fold a lett] %eet s t ! op5+ l9es face ! read] on unfold+4 ,punctuation ,m>ks4 ,punctuation & capitalization are v necess>y matt]s 9 ! art ( lett]-writ+1 b 9 ^! days ( common s*ools1 & all b compulsory education1 x is to be suppos$ t "s k ( ^! important facts w h be5 ga9$4 ,x w n be amiss1 h[ev]1 to m5tion a few ( ! mo/ necess>y rules4 ,! f\r *ief punctuation po9ts are ! comma1 semicolon1 colon1 p]iod4 ,9 ! days ( our gr&mo!rs *ildr5 7 taught to m9d _! /ops1 ) ?is rule = a guide3 ,c\nt "o at a comma1 two at a semicolon1 ?ree at a colon1 & f\r at a p]iod1 or 'full /op4' ,9 punctuat+ ! date1 address1 clos+ & sup]scription ( a lett]1 c]ta9 rules are necess>y4 ,"o ( ^! is t a p]iod foll[s all abbreviations1 su* z ^? ( title1 /ate & c\nty1 & sep>ates & foll[s all initials1 :e!r abbreviations ( names or titles2 :ile ! slight pause occurr+ betwe5 su* abbreviations is m>k$ by a comma1 & ! end ( ! date1 l ! end ( a s5t5ce1 is clos$ by a p]iod2 = example3 #edj ,we/ ,ma9 ,/41 ,galesburgh1 ,ill4 ,or1 ,p\ghkeepsie1 ,n4,y41 ,jan4 #aj1 #ahi-4 ,a colon sugge/s some?+ m to foll[1 h5ce 9 ! salutation ( a lett] we f9d a colon at ! end1 signify+ t ! body ( ! lett] is yet to come1 z3 ,de> ,sir3 or1 :]e ! communication beg9s on same l9e ( salutation1 we f9d bo? colon & da%1 z3 ,de> ,madame3--,y\rs (1 etc4 ,commas are us$ frequ5tly to divide long complex s5t5ces1 & ! s5t5ce is some:at fur!r brok5 by ! use ( ! semicolon betwe5 its m decid$ sections4 ,abraham ,l9coln once said3 ,i ?r[ 9 a semicolon :5ev] ,i am at a loss :at pause to use2 x always fits4 ,! complim5t>y close ( ! lett] is foll[$ by a comma & ! signature by a p]iod4 ,a p]iod also sep>ates & foll[s two or m initials1 z3 ,y\rs truly1 7,,mrs47 ,,adel9e ,d4,t4 ,,:itney4 ,writ+ ! ,sup]scription4 ,a v long complim5t>y conclusion %\ld be punctuat$ l a s5t5ce1 z3 ,i am1 de> madam1 ) ! mo/ pr(\nd e/eem1 ,y\rs truly1 ,,james ,,talbot4 ,! sup]scription on ! envelope is to be punctuat$ accord+ to ! above giv5 rules4 ,an int]rogation po9t 787 %\ld be us$ at ! end ( all que/ions4 ,x is 9 tru?1 z ! small boy said1 ,a little crook$ ?+ t asks que/ions4 ,! exclamation po9t 767 express+ a/oni%m5t1 ! da% & p>5!sis1 ne$ only be employ$ by ^? ?or\ghly und]/&+ _! use4 ,quotation m>ks 7 7 %\ld always be plac$ at ! beg9n+ & end ( words quot$ f ano!r2 slang1 or any fa%ionable fad if writt51 %\ld be quot$4 ,z = capitals1 "o %\ld beg9 e s5t5ce1 all names ( p]sons & places1 all appellations ( ! ,deity1 ! fir/ ^w ( e l9e ( poetry1 & %[ !mselves 9 ! pron\n ,i1 & ! exclamation ,o4 ,seal+ wax is to be us$1 or n1 z incl9ation directs1 b neatness & skill are necess>y 9 its use1 or an unsightly blot* w result1 ?an :i* ! self-seal+ envelope is f> pref]able4 ,a heavy cream-:ite envelope seal$ ) a l>ge1 p]fect seal ( ri* r$1 or bronze-br[n wax ) a cle> monogram or initial /amp$ !reon1 is always pleas+ to ! eye4 ,to v slightly oil ! seal w prev5t x adh]+ to ! wax & !reby spoil+ ! impression4 ,9 a =eign correspond5ce1 ! self-seal+ envelopes are bett] s9ce 9 tropical c\ntries ! great heat (t5 melts ! wax1 & x is always liable1 dur+ transportation 9 ! holds ( vessels1 to become crack$ & loos5$ f ! pap] by ! weight ( o!r goods1 & close pack+ 9 ! hold4 ,f9al rem>ks are sc>cely necess>y1 b x might be sugge/$ t x is r fa%ionable to write "o's full "n1 z m elegant ?an initials4 ,a lady nev] signs h]self simply by initials4 ,m>y ,creighton ,cutt] %\ld s write h] "n1 or1 at lea/1 ,m>y ,c4 ,cutt]4 ,nev] ,m4,c4 ,cutt]4 ,a g5tleman is privileg$ to d ?is 9 bus9ess or =mal lett]s1 b 9 any o!rs1 in/ead ( ,l4,b4 ,bancr(t he is ,lucius ,bright ,bancr(t or ,lucius ,b4 ,bancr(t4 ,po9ts to be ,rememb]$4 ,m>g9s are no long] a necessity ev5 9 ! mo/ =mal lett]s4 ,sometimes 9 writ+ a long1 fri5dly1 n =mal1 lett]1 in/ead ( utiliz+ "o side only ( ! pap]1 x is writt5 across ! %eet ^u ! fir/ & f\r? pages1 & !n l5g?wise ^u ! second & ?ird1 ?\gh ( c\rse x is p]fectly correct to write ^u ! pages consecutively4 ,tautology1 or a cont9u$ repetition ( ! same ^w1 is a disagreeable & inelegant fault 9 writ+1 z3 ,if ,john w come home1 we w all come1 b if he fails to come1 we w n come until he c come also4 ,"o o!r po9t rema9s to t\* ^u3 ,any "o t has ev] glanc$ at ! ,correspond5ce ,column ( any pap] w see h[ (t5 "y wom5 ask if x is prop] to write to g5tlem5 :o h reque/$ ! favor ( correspond+ ) !m1 & :i* %\ld write fir/4 ,?is po9t is rightfully "o t %\ld be settl$ by ! "m or o!r gu>dian ( ! girl2 b let x be said "h t :ile ?is is ! only c\ntry 9 ! _w :]e a s-call$ fri5dly correspond5ce is or c be c>ri$ on betwe5 "y m5 & "y wom5 )1 or )\t1 any p>ticul> object 9 view1 ev5 "h x is well to be c>eful4 ,girls are sometimes a little too confid5tial1 & all m5 are n g5tlem51 outw>d poli% not)/&+4 ,a fri5d%ip too easily won or too fully express$ is n always priz$1 & :ile manly m5 are suppos$ nev] to boa/ ( ! numb] ( _! correspond5ts1 yet club-room walls1 c\ld !y speak1 w\ld /amp _m a man z less ?an a g5tleman4 ,titles4 ,! prop] use ( titles =ms an important item 9 lett]-writ+4 ,! slighte/ hesitancy on ?is po9t %[s a lack ( culture on ! "p ( ! writ] t l[]s him at once 9 ! eyes ( ! recipi5t4 ,! ord9>y social titles us$ are simple & famili>4 ,^! are3 ,mrs41 ,madam1 ,miss1 = wom52 ,mr41 ,esq41 ,messrs41 ,sir1 = m51 & ,ma/] = boys4 ,( c\rse1 9 writ+ to an acqua9tance1 :ile ! out] address reta9s all its =mality1 ! comm5cem5t w be :atev] is w>rant$ by ! degree ( fri5d%ip betwe5 ! p>ties4 ,dome/ic ,titles4 ,by ! con/itution ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates x is provid$ t no titles ( nobility %all be grant$ by ! gov]nm5t4 ,nei!r %all a p]son hold+ a gov]nm5tal (fice accept any title f any k+1 pr9ce or =eign /ate1 except express p]mission be giv5 by ,congress4 ,! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates & ! ,gov]nor ( ,massa*usetts are ! only citiz5s possess+ z (ficials a title by legislative act4 ,?is title is ! same3 ,excell5cy4 ,gov]nors ( o!r /ates are giv5 ?is title by c\rtesy only4 ,h[ev]1 ?is title may be omitt$ at discretion1 & inde$ ! simpl] =m giv5 is f> m suit$ to our ,republican simplicity ( mann]s4 ,! foll[+ li/ w be f\nd a complete guide 9 ! use ( all honor>y titles sanction$ by cu/om 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates3 ,ambassadors1 ,=eign1 to ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 are address$ (ficially by ! titles recogniz$ 9 _! own c\ntries1 & if !y h no title1 z ,mr4 ----1 foll[$ by title ( (fice4 ,unit$ ,/ates ambassadors to =eign c\ntries1 (ficially z ,mr4 ---- or ,hon4 ----1 foll[$ by title ( (fice4 ,!re are b f\r ambassadors s5t out by ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 ! m9i/]s to ,russia & ,engl& hav+ be5 b lately inve/$ ) t title4 ,! ,hon4 ,john ,jones1 ,unit$ ,/ates ,ambassador to ! ,unit$ ,k+dom ( ,great ,brita9 & ,irel&1 or to ! ,c\rt ( ,/4 ,james4 ,ar*bi%op 7,roman ,ca?olic7--,lett]s address$3 ,! ,mo/ ,rev]5d ----1 ,d4,d41 ,ar*bi%op ( ----4 ,associate ,ju/ices--,address$ )3 ,hon41 "n & "n ( (fice1 b spok5 ( z ,mr4 ,ju/ice ----4 ,bi%op--,address$3 ,! ,"r ,rev]5d ----1 ,d4,d41 ,bi%op ( ----4 ,! address ( ,prote/ant ,episcopal & ,roman ,ca?olic ,bi%ops is precisely ! same4 ,bi%ops ( ! ,me?odi/ ,episcopal ,*ur* are address$ z ! ,rev]5d ,bi%op ----1 ,d4,d4 ,cab9et ,memb]s--,address$ z3 ,honorable1 usually contract$ to ,hon41 z3 ,hon4 ,james ,johnson1 ,secret>y ( ,/ate1 ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 ,c>d9al 7,roman ,ca?olic7 is address$ 9 writ+1 & spok5 ( z3 ,8 ,em95ce ----1 ,c>d9al 7,bi%op1 ,prie/1 or ,deacon1 accord+ to rank7 ( ! ,holy ,roman ,*ur*1 spok5 to z1 ,y\r ,grace4 ,*ief ,ju/ice--,address$ z3 ,hon4 ,*ief ,ju/ice ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates4 ,*ief ,ju/ice's ,wife--,address$ z3 ,mrs4 ,*ief ,ju/ice ----1 by virtue ( a social cu/om t is l>gely obs]v$4 ,?is cu/om does n ext5d to daught]s4 ,cl]gym5--,address$ z3 ,! ,rev4 ----1 spok5 to z1 ,mr4 ----4 ,if a doctor ( div9ity1 address$ z1 ---- ----1 ,d4,d41 or ,! ,rev]5d ----1 ,d4,d41 & spok5 to or ( z1 ,dr4 ----4 ,college ,degrees4--,all recipi5ts ( regul> or honor>y degrees %\ld be address$ by "n foll[$ by abbreviation ( degree3 ,a4,b41 ,a4,m41 ,ph4,d41 ,m4,d41 ,d4,d41 z ---- ----1 ,a4,b4 ,congress1 memb]s (--,address$3 ,hon4 ----1 ,m4,c4 ,esquire4--,ju/ice ( ! peace1 z well z "s grades ( lawy]s1 are address$ 9 writ+ & spok5 ( z ----1 ,esq4 ,any g5tleman may be s address$1 b ,mr4 is pref]able4 ,gov]nm5t--,(ficial communications f--,always beg9 ,sir4 ,gov]nor4--,may be address$ z ,8 ,excell5cy ! ,gov]nor ( ----4 ,spok5 to1 ,y\r ,excell5cy4 ,see1 also1 o!r =ms giv5 be=e4 ,gov]nor's wife is by c\rtesy address$1 ,mrs4 ,gov]nor ----4 ,?is usage does n apply to daught]s4 ,judges--,address$ by c\rtesy ) ! title1 ,honorable1 contract$ to ,hon41 & ! "n ( ! (fice usually foll[s1 z3 ,hon4 ----1 ,u4,s4 ,s5ate4 ,legislature1 memb]s (4--,address z1 ,hon4 ----1 foll[$ by "n ( (fice4 ,mayor4--,! ,hon4 ,mr4 ----1 ,mayor ( ----4 ,m9i/]1 ,am]ican--,address$ z3 ,hon4 ----1 ,am]ican 7or ,u4,s47 ,m9i/] to ,france4 ,municipal ,c\ncils1 memb]s (4--,c\rtesy grants ! title ,honorable4 ,(fic]s ( ,army & ,navy4--,address$ by "n1 foll[$ by title ( highe/ rank atta9$1 &1 if 9 comm& ( a milit>y division1 naval squadron or /ation1 or on retir$ li/1 by a signification ( ! fact1 z3 ---- ----1 ,major ,g5]al ,u4,s4,a41 ,comm&+ ,milit>y ,division ( ! ,atlantic2 ---- ----1 ,re> ,admiral ,u4,s4,n41 ,comm&+ ,european ,squadron2 ---- ----1 ,g5]al ,u4,s4,a41 ,retir$4 ,presid5t4--,address$ z ,8 ,excell5cy ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates4 ,spok5 to z1 ,y\r ,excell5cy4 ,presid5t's ,wife4--,address$ by c\rtesy1 ,mrs4 ,presid5t ----4 ,usage does n apply to daught]s4 ,,=ms ,,= ,,lett]s ,illu/ration ,"l ,*e/]field says 9 ^? inimitable lett]s to 8 son1 t /yle is ! dress ( ?\ghts1 & let !m be ev] s j1 if y\r /yle is homely1 co>se & vulg>1 !y w appe> to z mu* disadvantage z y\r p]son1 ?\gh ev] s well proportion$1 w\ld if dress$ 9 rags1 dirt & tatt]s4 ,s true is ?is t graceful commonplaces1 ei!r spok5 or writt51 are f> m apt to produce a pleas+ impression ?an weighti] matt] awkw>dly utt]$1 or unc\?ly express$4 ,h5ce1 ! l5g? & famili>ity ( ! fri5dly epi/le %\ld nev] be c>ri$ into ! %ort1 concisely word$ bus9ess lett]1 :ile ! social note1 ?\gh brief1 %\ld diff] greatly 9 its gracefully turn$ phrases f ! =mal note ( acceptance1 regret1 application1 or introduction4 ,! foll[+ =ms are to be look$ ^u1 n z copies1 b *iefly z sugge/ions t may be us$ to solve "s d\btful po9t4 ,social & ,fri5dly ,lett]s4 ,^! are less subject to rule ?an any o!r class1 & ! models "h giv5 are simply to %[ h[ fl[+ & easy ! /yle may be betwe5 fri5d & fri5d1 or h[ graci\s & in/ructive f p>5t to *ild4 ,9 ! fri5dly lett] great fre$om ( detail is all[able1 especially among ne> relatives4 ,y d n tell me half en\gh1 writes ,h4,h4 f ,europe4 ,i ev5 want to "k if ! front gate is (f its h+es4 ,b d n r5d] a fri5dly lett] s long z to tax ! pati5ce ( ! read]4 ,samivel ,vell] discov]$ "o ( ! secrets ( lett]-writ+ :5 he made t fam\s love lett] ( 8 %ort1 s %e vill vi% !re vos m ( x4 ,nei!r rail+1 nor fretfulness1 nor too great egotism1 is wise 9 lett]-writ+1 = writt5 words h a sad fa%ion ( outla/+ ! mood 9 :i* !y 7 p5n$1 nay1 ev5 ! h& t p5n$ !m4 ,lett]s ( ,introduction4 ,^! are left unseal$1 t ! be>] may be p]mitt$ to read ! cont5ts4 ,!y are brief1 s t if read 9 ! pres5ce ( ! p]son introduc$1 ! slight emb>rassm5t may be %ort5$ z mu* z possible4 ,!y usually conta9 a ref]5ce to ! occupation or "* ( ! individual 9 ord] t "s slight clue may be giv5 to ! recipi5t 9 beg9n+ a conv]sation1 & usually conclude ) "s pleasant1 complim5t>y phrase4 ,"o simple =m w\ld be3 ,,evan/on1 ,janu>y #a1 #ahi-4 ,,my ,,de> ,,miss ,,kimb]l93 ,?is lett] w introduce to y my fri5d1 ,mr4 ,otis ,van ,or91 a memb] ( ! ,corps ( ,civil ,eng9e]s1 to be locat$ ne> y\r home = sev]al mon?s dur+ a p>tial survey ( ! new railroad4 ,may ,i n be assur$ t y w ext5d to him "s ( ! hospitalities ( y\r delightful home1 ?us be+ to him t fri5d at c\rt s desirable to ! /rang] 9 a /range l&8 ,tru/+ t ?is w be ! case1 ,i am1 ,v s9c]ely y\rs1 ,,*>les ,h4 ,,calcraft4 ,ano!r1 f a "m introduc+ h] daught] to an old fri5d1 w\ld read3 ,,wat]bury1 ,conn41 ,m>* #aj1 #ahi-4 ,,de> ,,frances3 ,my daught] ,madge w pres5t ?is lett] 9 p]son1 z %e is ab\t to ent] s*ool 9 y\r t[n = a sev]al ye>s' c\rse ( /udy4 ,"u ^! circum/ances1 & 9 memory ( our own lifelong fri5d%ip1 may ,i n ask t y w help h] to =get "s ( ! sorr[ ( ?is1 ! fir/ p>t+ h] happy1 "y life has kn[n8 ,tru/+ t y w d ?is = ! sake ( auld lang syne1 ,i am1 z ev]1 y\r fri5d1 ,,m>g>et ,m4 ,,blat*=d4 ,,mrs4 ,,frances ,h4 ,,page1 ,portl&1 ,me4 ,a /ill brief] =m w\ld be3 ,,baltimore1 ,md41 ,novemb] #bj1 #ahi-4 ,,de> ,,d5ton3 ,my fri5d1 ,l\is ,ross1 w pres5t ?is note4 ,any k9dness y may %[ him w conf] a favor ^u ,y\rs truly1 ,,frank ,p4 ,,breck5ridge4 ,,to ,,mr4 ,,james ,,d5ton1 ,ottumwa1 ,ill4 ,! envelope to a lett] ( introduction %\ld be address$ z foll[s3 ,,mr4 ,,james ,,d5ton1 ,ottumwa1 ,ill4 ,introduc+ ,,mr4 ,,l\is ,,ross4 ,lett]s ( introduction %\ld n be s5t indiscrim9ately1 z no "o has a "r to =ce a possibly undesirable acqua9tance ^u a fri5d1 :ile1 at ! same "t1 ! individual ask+ su* a favor %\ld be ?or\ghly conv9c$ t he is entitl$ to ! privilege4 ,lett]s ( introduction1 :]e !y are betwe5 ladies1 may be left by ! call]1 toge!r ) h] c>d4 ,%e mu/ n1 h[ev]1 ask to see ! lady ( ! h\se1 :o is expect$1 %ortly aft] ! receipt ( su* a missive1 to call 9 p]son1 & %\ld endeavor1 dur+ h] /ay1 to include h] 9 a portion ( h] social plans = ! season2 circum/ances1 ( c\rse1 gov]n+ ! ext5t to :i* ^! att5tions %\ld be c>ri$4 ,a g5tleman1 9 pres5t+ a lett] ( introduction to a lady1 may1 if %e %\ld be at home1 make 8 fir/ call :5 s5d+ 9 8 lett] & c>d1 :]eon %\ld be designat$ 8 hotel or place ( resid5ce4 ,if ?is %\ld n be ! case1 %e w answ] by s5d+ h] c>d ) h] reception day engrav$ ^u x1 or1 if t be too f> di/ant1 a note1 /at+ :5 he may call1 %\ld be s5t2 x may also be expect$ t h] husb&1 son or bro!r w call ^u him & (f] :at civilities are at comm&4 ,ev5 %\ld nei!r c>d nor note be s5t1 x is /ill p]mitt$ him to call once m4 ,8 responsibility ceases "h1 & if no att5tion foll[s he may conclude 8 fri5d has ov]/epp$ ! limits ( a slight acqua9tance 9 giv+ him ! lett] ( introduction4 ,a ,lett] ( ,recomm5dation to "s position or appo9tm5t is v mu* ! same z "o ( introduction4 ,its reception1 h[ev]1 does n necessitate social att5tions4 ,! =m is v simple3 #fdd ,,broadway1 ,,new ,,york1 ,novemb] #bb1 #ahi-4 ,,de> ,,mr4 ,,hill3 ,recogniz+1 z ,i d1 t y\r position 9 comm]cial circles w give y\r influ5ce great weight1 ,i take x ^u myself to introduce to y ,mr4 ,philip ,palm]1 a graduate ( "o ( ! be/ bus9ess colleges 9 ,new ,york ,city1 & a "y man ( integrity & capacity4 ,any recomm5dations :i* y c grant him w be look$ ^u z a favor by ,y\r fri5d1 ,,milton ,,jones4 ,,to ,,william ,,hill1 ,elmira1 ,n4,y4 ,a g5]al lett] ( introduction1 int5d$ = ! p]usal ( /rang]s1 w\ld read some:at z foll[s3 ,to :om x may conc]n3 ,?is is to c]tify t ! be>] ( ?is lett]1 ,miss ,m>ietta ,hope1 0 graduat$ ) high honors f ,vass> ,college1 & has s9ce taught 9 ! s*ools ( ?is city4 ,z h] pr9cipal = a numb] ( mon?s1 ,i c tru?fully recomm5d h] z capable ( fill+ any position = :i* %e may apply4 ,,james ,h4 ,,blan*>d1 ,pr9cipal ( ,liv+/on ,s*ool1 ,new ,york ,city4 ,lett]s ( ,condol5ce %\ld be writt5 v soon aft] ! occurr5ce ( ! sorr[ful ev5t1 &1 :ile brief1 %\ld n be cold & =mal2 nei!r %\ld !y t\* ! opposite extreme1 &1 by dwell+ ) madd5+ it]ation ^u ! fre% sorr[1 h>r[ anew ! /rick5 s\l ( ! m\rn]4 ,! occasion %\ld nev] be seiz$ ^u z a text = a s]mon on resignation1 nor %\ld frequ5t ref]5ce be made to v>i\s l b]eavem5ts suff]$ by ! writ]4 ,^! comp>isons only w\nd1 = !re is no sorr[ l unto my sorr[1 has ev] be5 ! cry ( ! /rick5 s\l4 ,& :5 fri5ds h done _! little all1 ea* m\rn] /ill feels ! tru? ( ,l[ell's l9es3 ,condole if y w1 ,i c be> x1 ',tis ! well-meant alms ( brea?1 ,yet all ( ! prea*+s s9ce ,adam ,_c make ,dea? o!r ?an ,dea?4 ,yet fri5ds _c d5y !mselves ! privilege ( a few lov+ words1 & a lett] on ! loss ( a belov$ daught] might be z foll[s3 ,,cape ,,may1 ,june #a1 #ahi-4 ,,my ,,de> ,,mrs4 ,,su!rl&3 ,i _c resi/ my desire to write y a few words ( love & sorr[2 only a few1 = my he>t is full & words seem v weak4 ,?ank ,god1 my fri5d1 = ! n9ete5 beautiful ye>s t end$ t morn+ 9 ,may4 ,if y c\ld b "k h[ sweet & t5d] a recollection %e has left en%r9$ 9 ! he>ts ( h] fri5ds1 & all ! lov+1 graci\s utt]ances t are (f]$ to h] memory6 ,x is well ) ,alice 9 heav52 t x may be well ) y on e>?1 9 ! days t are to come1 is ! pray] ( ,y\r lov+ fri5d1 ,,m>ie4 ,to a fri5d :o has su/a9$ a f9ancial loss might be writt53 ,,tonaw&a1 ,n4,y41 ,novemb] #ab1 #ahi-4 ,,my ,,de> ,,blake3 ,! fir/ ann\ncem5t t ,i _h ( y\r sev]e f9ancial loss 0 ?r\gh ! morn+ pap]4 ,i c only express my sorr[ at ! ev5t & my indignation ov] ! falsity ( ! ca%i] 9 :om y plac$ s mu* confid5ce4 ,hop+ t y h employ$ ! be/ ( detective skill1 & t y w succe$ 9 recov]+ a portion1 at lea/1 ( ! seque/rat$ funds1 ,i am1 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 ,,george ,g4 ,,p>sons4 ,,mr4 ,,flet*] ,,blake1 ,presid5t ( ! ,fir/ ,national ,bank1 ,aurora1 ,m9n4 ,x mu/ be rememb]$ t lett]s ( condol5ce1 unlike ^? ( congratulation1 are n expect$ to receive an e>ly answ]1 &1 9 case ( v deep affliction1 may rema9 seem+ly unnotic$1 save p]haps1 aft] a "t1 by c>ds ( ?anks4 ,lett]s ( ,congratulation %\ld be s5t imm$iately ^u ! occurr5ce ( ! =tunate ev5t t calls =? congratulatory wi%es2 !y %\ld be brief1 gracefully word$ & conta9 no m5tion ( o!r matt]4 ,! occasions 9 life t call =? su* missives are num]\s3 bir?days1 engagem5ts1 m>riages1 anniv]s>ies1 bus9ess successes1 etc41 ea*1 or all1 %\ld w9 "s congratulatory notice4 ,! =mal congratulation is 9 set t]ms1 usually writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 & may be us$ betwe5 individuals b slightly acqua9t$2 = example3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,/u>t congratulate ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,field+ ^u ! successful conclusion ( ,mr4 ,h>old ,field+'s college c\rse & express ! pleasure ) :i* !y li/5$ to ! deliv]y ( 8 eloqu5t oration on ,comm5cem5t ,day4 #ha ,/4 ,c>ol9e's ,c\rt1 ,july #a1 #ahi-4 ,?is1 9 common ) all congratulatory lett]s1 %\ld be repli$ to at once1 &1 :]ev] any missive is writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 ! reply mu/ foll[ ! same fa%ion4 ,an appropriate answ] = ! above =m w\ld be3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,field+ unite 9 s5d+ ?anks to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,/u>t = k9dly praise aw>d$ _! son ,h>old on ! late important ev5t 9 8 life1 & also = ! exquisite fl[]s !y s5t to grace ! occasion4 #hia ,mi*igan ,av5ue1 ,july #b1 #ahi-4 ,a fri5dly congratulation 9 ! fir/ p]son is less /ately1 z1 = in/ance1 "o fri5d might congratulate ano!r ^u 8 m>riage3 ,,georget[n1 ,d4,c41 ,janu>y #aj1 #ahi-4 ,,de> ,,jack3 ,& s !y 7 m>ri$ & liv$ happy ev] aft]1 ( c\rse4 ,at lea/1 t is :at y & ,mrs4 ,julia anticipate at ?is pres5t "t1 & is :at ,i1 kn[+ y bo?1 d confid5tly pr$ict4 ,accept my he>tfelt congratulations1 & believe me ,y\r true fri5d1 ,,ri*>d ,,doe4 ,,to ,,john ,,my]s1 ,esq41 ,yankton1 ,da4 ,answ] to ! =ego+ might be3 ,,yankton1 ,da41 ,janu>y #bj1 #ahi-4 ,,de> ,,dick3 ,julia & ,i receiv$ y\r congratulations ) pleasure1 my only regret be+ t ,i _c return !m 9 k9d4 ,ga!r roses :ile ye may1 ,old ,"t's a-fly+4 ,a ^w to ! wise1 etc41 & let me spe$ily h occasion to felicitate y 9 l mann]4 ,y\r fri5d & well-wi%]1 ,,john ,,my]s4 ,,mr4 ,,ri*>d ,,doe1 ,georget[n1 ,d4,c4 ,x %\ld be m5tion$ "h t :ile "o congratulates a g5tleman ^u 8 engagem5t1 or m>riage1 & may congratulate 8 p>5ts ^u ! same occasion1 x is inadmissible to congratulate a lady on a simil> ev5t1 or to ext5d ! congratulations to h] p>5ts4 ,well-br$ mo!rs h be5 kn[n to res5t ?is solecism ke5ly4 ,y may1 & inde$ are expect$ to1 (f] to h]1 & h] p>5ts1 all mann] ( good wi%es = future happ9ess1 b be sure n to congratulate4 ,almo/ any success1 or pleasant happ9ess 9 life1 may be made ! subject ( a congratulatory lett]1 b a multiplicity ( =ms is unnecess>y "h4 ,proposals1 ,engagem5ts1 ,nam+ ! ,day1 & o!r lett]s ( ?is description are important affairs t may all be transact$ ?r\gh ! m$ium ( correspond5ce1 b x is to be hop$ t a matt] s closely p]sonal w quick5 ! imag9ation & inspire ! p5 ( ! dulle/ swa94 ,let him woo 8 ,dulc9ea swiftly & tempe/u\sly1 z ,k+ ,hal woo$ ,kate1 or let him s]ve twice sev5 ye>s z ,jacob s]v$ = ,ra*el1 b let him nev] se>* out pr9t$ =ms :]eby to decl>e 8 passion2 nor fit ! measure ( 8 love to ! l9es ( ! ,model ,lett]-,writ]4 ,z to nam+ ! day1 'tw]e a wordless lov] inde$ :o c\ld n say1 z ! poet says3 ,sun comes1 moon comes1 ,"t slips away4 ,sun sets1 moon sets1 ,love1 fix a day4 ,! note has become a factor 9 mod]n social life4 ,we s5d a note :5 we s5d a gift1 :5 we ask a favor1 :5 we ackn[l$ge a favor1 :5 we (f] an apology1 :5 we po/pone an engagem5t1 & :5 we give1 accept1 or refuse an in=mal invitation4 ,^! =ms w be giv5 "h = ref]5ce1 except+ ^? p]ta9+ to invitations1 :i* are discuss$ 9 _! place4 ,notes ,accompany+ a ,gift %\ld be brief1 prettily word$1 & /rictly conf9$ to ! subject 9 h&2 = in/ance1 a g5tleman s5d+ fl[]s to a lady might say3 ,mr4 ,irw91 he>+ ,miss4 ,/4 ,john express a pref]5ce = roses1 hopes t he may h ! pleasure ( see+ h] we>+ ! accompany+ clu/] ?is ev5+ at ! ,op]a4 #ia ,a%l& ,b\lev>d1 ,octob] #b;d4 ,! we>+ ( ! fl[]s w\ld be all ! answ] requir$ by ?is note4 ,) a bir?day gift an appropriately word$ note w\ld be z foll[s3 ,,at ,,home1 ,augu/ #a/4 ,,de> ,,nettie3 ,rememb]+ t y\r bir?day is at h&1 ,i s5d y ?is little pa9t+ z a tok5 ( my love1 toge!r ) wi%es = _m happy returns ( ?is day4 ,y\r fri5d1 ,,m>ie ,,/4 ,,john4 ,^! little notes %\ld always receive an answ]1 z1 = in/ance1 ?is la/ might be appropriately repli$ to ?us3 #fcb ,,corson ,,/reet1 ,augu/ #b4 #ahi-4 ,,my ,,de> ,,m>ie3 ,y _c ?9k ) :at delight ,i receiv$ y\r beautiful bir?day gift1 r5d]$ t5fold de>] by ! k t x is ! h&iwork ( my fri5d4 ,) _m ?anks1 ,i am1 z ev]1 y\rs1 ,,nettie ,d4 ,,caton4 ,notes ( ,apology are a frequ5t necessity4 ,!y %\ld be writt5 ) promptness1 ev9ce a rep5tant _s1 & %\ld be ackn[l$g$ pleasantly & =giv+ly4 ,always rememb] 9 su* a note to expla9 ! cause r5d]+ ! apology necess>y4 ,= in/ance1 an unfulfill$ engagem5t might be apologiz$ = ?us3 ,,de> ,,miss ,,mason3 ,i _c suffici5tly regret t ,i 0 un=tunately prev5t$ f keep+ my engagem5t to drive ) y on ,w$nesday4 ,an important telegram1 receiv$ b a mom5t be=e ! "t set = our out+1 left me b a brief five m9utes to cat* ! fir/ tra9 = ,r----1 :]e affairs1 p]mitt+ no delay1 await$ my att5tion4 ,d>e ,i hope t ,i h y\r p>don = s great a seem+ neglig5ce8 ,v respectfully y\rs1 ,,john ,h4 ,,curran4 ,?is note be+ writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son w be repli$ to 9 ! same mann] by ! recipi5t3 ,,mr4 ,,curran 7or1 ,,de> ,,mr4 ,,curran1 accord+ to ! degree ( famili>ity73 ,i accept y\r apology z q suffici5t1 & beg t y w give y\rself no fur!r uneas9ess ov] s unavoidable an occurr5ce4 ,i am1 s9c]ely1 ,,g]trude ,,mason4 ,notes ( ,po/ponem5t are always to be s5t :5 ! necessity arises = def]r+ any social ga!r+4 ,write !m promptly1 & expla9 ! unavoidable reasons = ! po/ponem5t2 = example3 ,,de> ,,mrs4 ,,briggs3 ,x is ) great regret t ,i in=m y t our exhibition ( private !atricals is indef9itely po/pon$ on acc\nt ( ! sudd5 & s]i\s illness ( ,miss ,hope ,l$y>d1 :o 0 ! *ief /> ( our little company4 ,! ,lady ( ,lyons1 ) ! ,lady left out1 w\ld be l ,hamlet1 ) ! noble ,dane miss+1 an impossible p]=mance2 &1 z !re 0 no "o else s capable ( fill+ ! "p z ,miss ,l$y>d1 we are resolv$ to await h] recov]y4 ,y\r fri5d1 ,,elizabe? ,,/u>t4 ,notes ( ,reque/ or ,refusal are frequ5tly necess>y1 b c>e %\ld be tak5 nei!r to make an unreasonable reque/1 nor to return an unju/ifiable refusal4 ,%\ld d5ial seem imp]ative1 /rive to imitate t ,engli% /atesman :o c\ld refuse m gracefully ?an o!rs c\ld grant4 ,! foll[+ examples w suffice3 ,,de> ,,mrs4 ,,w9t]blossom3 ,y rememb] ! little picture1 a ,sunset ,view1 t ,i admir$ s mu* ! o!r ev5+ at y\r home8 ,w\ld y h any objection to l5d+ x to me = a copy8 ,%\ld y h ev5 a %ad[ ( dislike t[>d my proposition1 d n hesitate to refuse at once4 ,s _m p are av]se1 & ju/ly s1 to hav+ _! pa9t+s duplicat$ t ,i feel my reque/ almo/ an imp]t95ce4 ,believe me1 truly y\rs1 ,,edi? ,,grang]4 ,refusal to ! same3 ,,my ,,de> ,,miss ,,grang]3 ,i dread to answ] y\r note1 s9ce x mu/ be a refusal ( y\r reque/1 = ! little pr9t+ is ! prop]ty ( a fri5d ( m9e1 :o has left x1 toge!r ) a few o!rs1 9 my c>e dur+ h] t\r 9 ,europe4 ,! fact t %e has a morbid dislike to hav+ duplicate copies made ( h] pictures1 =ces me to d5y a reque/ t1 7 ! pa9t+ 9 "q m9e1 ,i w\ld gladly grant4 ,s9c]ely y\r fri5d1 ,,hel5 ,,w9t]blossom4 ,bus9ess ,lett]s ne$ especial c>e 9 writ+4 ,!y are to be read by m5 ) :om "t is preci\s & ! dem&s ^u x num]\s4 ,h5ce !y %\ld be brief1 cle>ly word$ & /raight to ! po9t4 ,su* a lett] is mu* m c]ta9 ( spe$y att5tion & prompt returns ?an ! rambl+1 incoh]5t missive ( ! unaccu/om$ writ]4 ,if y want t5 y>ds ( ribbon ( a c]ta9 color & quality1 say s1 b d n lose ! ord] 9 a maze ( irrelevant matt]2 = in/ance3 ,,m5dota1 ,ill41 ,april #d1 #ahi-4 ,,messrs4 ,,blank ,,co4 ,please s5d me3 #aj y>ds ( black silk1 at #a p] y>d #aj #jj #ad y>ds ( gre5 ca%m]e1 at #ge;c4 p] y>d #aj #ej #a pair black kid gloves #a #ej #a pair tan kid gloves1 undress$ #b #jj ------ ,total #bc #jj ,enclos$ f9d money ord] = ! above am\nt4 ,goods to be s5t by ,am]ican ,express4 ,by fill+ ! above ord] quickly z possible1 y w greatly oblige1 ,,m>y ,,mcnett4 ,address3 ,,mrs4 ,w4,d4 ,,mcnett1 ,m5dota1 ,ill4 ,if !re is any special reason = fill+ an ord] ha/ily1 su* z a bir?day gift or w$d+ pres5t1 m5tion ! fact briefly1 & c>e w be tak5 t x is s5t 9 "t4 ,always make use ( money ord]1 draft or regi/]$ lett]1 :5 s5d+ o!r ?an v small am\nts ( money by mail4 ,%\ld y h any?+ to say 9 su* a lett] aside f ! affair 9 h&1 att5d fir/ & briefly to ! matt] ( bus9ess1 & !n add :atev] rem>ks may seem necess>y4 ,answ]s to ,adv]tisem5ts %\ld also be concisely word$1 z = example3 #fa ,,delaw>e ,,place1 ,febru>y #ai1 #ahi-4 ,,mrs4 ,,g5]al ,,*ann+3 ,see+ y\r adv]tisem5t = a gov]ness 9 to-day's ,h]ald1 ,i wi% to in=m y t ,i am a graduate ( ,wellesley1 & h1 = ! two ye>s s9ce be+ graduat$1 taught ,fr5* & ,g]man 9 ! college4 ,any ref]5ces :i* y may desire z to my effici5cy = complet+ ! education ( y\r daught] w be furni%$ y by ! ,college ,faculty4 ,hop+ to he> favorably f y1 ,i am1 respectfully1 7,,miss7 ,,elizabe? ,,/u>t4 ,a lett] ( inquiry might be some?+ z foll[s3 ,,dr4 ,j4,h4 ,,gratiot3 ,9 mak+ "s inquiries relative to ! pres5t resid5ce ( a fri5d ( m9e1 ,miss ,grace ,gage1 a mutual acqua9tance ( ours1 ,mrs4 ,emmons ,b4 ,cor!ll1 ( ?is place1 gave me y\r address1 sugge/+ t y c\ld af=d me ! desir$ in=mation4 ,?is be+ ! case1 w\ld y be s k9d z to s5d ! lady's pres5t address1 or1 by h&+ h] ?is note1 p]mit h] p]sonally to furni% ! desir$ in=mation4 ,any communication address$1 f n[ on1 to #abfg ,madison ,av5ue1 w f9d & greatly oblige1 7,,miss7 ,,kate ,g4 ,,cox4 ,a lett] ( resignation1 be+ a r =mal docum5t1 %\ld be word$ v mu* z foll[s3 ,to ! ,directors ( ! ,owatonna ,public ,libr>y4 ,,g5tlem53 ,i h]eby t5d] my resignation ( ! ,libr>ian%ip ( ! ,owatonna ,public ,libr>y1 said resignation to take effect on ! ---- day ( ----1 #ahi-4 ,?ank+ y = ! k9dness & ?\ghtfulness ) :i* y h acc$$ to my wi%es & reque/s dur+ my late t]m ( (fice1 ,i am1 respectfully1 ,,george ,h4 ,,graham4 ,,owatonna1 ,m9n41 ,augu/ #a1 #ahi-4 ,"s ,don'ts & ,d's = ,lett]-,writ]s4 ,don't write an anonym\s lett]2 x is a c[>dly /ab 9 ! d>k4 ,don't pay any att5tion to an anonym\s lett]2 x is n wor? y\r reg>d4 ,don't conduct private correspond5ce on a po/al c>d4 ,_m p]sons consid] ?is an insult4 ,a purely bus9ess message may be ?us s5t1 b ev5 !n ! slight sav+ 9 po/age is small recomp5se = ! delay s (t5 att5d+ ! deliv]y ( po/al c>ds4 ,don't use a po/script2 x is unnecess>y1 old-fa%ion$1 s*ool-girli%1 & 9 a p>ticul>1 punctili\s lett] ! omission ( any important matt] necessitates ! rewrit+ ( ! entire lett] r ?an ! use ( a po/script4 ,9 v fri5dly lett]s "o may be p]mitt$ to add ! =gott5 p>agraph 9 ! =m ( a po/script1 omitt+1 h[ev]1 ! obsolete abbreviation1 ,p4,s4 ,don't write on a half-%eet ( pap] unless ! nature ( ! correspond5ce p]mits ! use ( ! ord9>y bus9ess lett]-head4 ,if ! note is %ort1 write only on "o side ( ! pap]1 b don't te> a %eet 9 half = economy's sake4 ,! r\gh1 torn edges1 d5ote ha/e1 ill-bre$+1 or c>elessness on ! "p ( ! writ]4 ,don't use tablet pap] = c]emoni\s lett]s4 ,don't write on bo? sides ( ! pap] to any b v intimate fri5ds or relatives1 !y be+ dispos$ to tol]ate slight dep>tures f =mality on our "p4 ,don't m$dle ) =eign n\ns or v]bs unless conv]sant ) ! language itself2 incorrect & ungrammatical usage is too apt to be ! unhappy result4 ,ev5 =eign names & titles %\ld n be us$ )\t ! exacte/ c>e z to _! or?ography & application4 ,?is rule %\ld be especially rememb]$ ) ref]5ce to all matt]s de/9$ to pass ?r\gh h&s editorial4 ,don't erase misspell$ words 9 lett]s ( any mom5t4 ,recopy ! entire missive4 ,don't quote too con/antly4 ,don't und]score y\r words1 unless !y express some?+ v important4 ,don't s5d enclosures 9 a lett] writt5 by "s "o else2 only ! greate/ intimacy c excuse ?is practice4 ,write y\r own lett]s & s5d 9 a sep>ate envelope4 ,don't write a lett] 9 a t[]+ passion2 y w\ld n c>e to h x confront y 9 "s cool] mom5t4 ,don't cross ! writ+ 9 y\r lett]s4 ,life is too %ort & ! "t & eyesight ( y\r correspond5t too preci\s = ?is4 ,don't fill up e available blank space & m>g9 ( y\r lett] ) =gott5 messages4 ,if ^! are v valuable1 add an extra %eet to y\r lett]1 ?us sav+ its appe>ance & ! pati5ce ( its recipi5t4 ,don't divide a syllable at ! end ( a l9e4 ,! pr9t] may d ?is1 n ! lett]-writ]4 ,don't fall into ! habit ( us+ long words 9 a lett]1 !y %[ a /ra9+ aft] effect4 ,"o %\ld say1 r ?an obs]ve1 talk1 r ?an conv]se1 if "o's missives are to be easy1 well-br$ & readable4 ,don't refold a lett]1 ! m>ks always rema9 to %[ y\r c>elessness4 ,fold x correctly ! fir/ "t4 ,d rememb] to answ] all important que/ions 9 a lett] cle>ly & decisively4 ,d burn ! great majority ( y\r lett]s aft] answ]+4 ,^? t are to be kept %\ld be fil$ away 9 packages add+ date & writ]'s "n on corn] ( envelope & by a ^w or two sugge/+ ! topics ) :i* !y deal4 ,?is w save "t 9 ref]r+ to !m4 ,d answ] y\r fri5dly lett]s ) reasonable promptness4 ,to d o!rwise is a brea* ( etiquette4 ,an unansw]$ lett] is an insult1 a cut direct4 ,bus9ess lett]s1 ( c\rse1 mu/ be repli$ to at once4 ,d s5d a po/age /amp :5 y write a lett] ( inquiry1 ! answ] to :i* is ( int]e/ only to y\rself4 ,a /amp$ & address$ envelope w\ld be a /ill bett] enclosure4 ,d1 if y are an abs5t son or daught]1 write home promptly & regul>ly2 ! com=t ?is w be to ! p>5ts at home1 & ! pa9 !y suff] at any neglig5ce on y\r "p1 _c be ov]e/imat$4 ,husb&s & wives1 :5 sep>at$ = a "t1 w\ld d well to foll[ ?is same advice4 ,d date y\r lett]s c>efully4 ,ev5ts & pro(s ( ! greate/ importance h hung ^u ! date ( a s+le lett]4 ,d put suffici5t /amps ^u a lett] to make sure ( no extra po/age fall+ to ! lot ( y\r correspond5t4 ,d put y\r address pla9ly 9 all lett]s4 ,?is ensures a prompt answ] &1 9 case ( misc>riage1 a spe$y return f ! ,dead-,lett] ,(fice4 ,d1 if a bus9ess man or woman1 h y\r address on ! outside ( y\r envelope4 ,?is w make sure ( y\r uncall$-= lett]s return+ to y imm$iately4 ,x is well to d ?is 9 any case :]e a little unc]ta9 z to ! exact address ( y\r correspond5t4 ,d read y\r lett]s ov] c>efully be=e s5d+1 t no errors may be ov]look$4 ,d give e subject a sep>ate p>agraph in/ead ( runn+ ! :ole lett]1 social items & s5tim5t1 all into "o indi/+ui%able :ole4 ,d beg9 ! fir/ l9e ( ea* p>agraph1 at lea/1 "o in* f ! m>g91 ( ! page4 ,illu/ration ,arti/ic ,home ,decorations4 ,illu/ration ,! greate/ art "w ! individual has to d is ! build+ ( a home4 ,a small & inexp5sive h\se may be ! ,h\se ,beautiful1 says ,edmund ,russell4 ,a fam\s ar*itect once wrote t he c\ld furni% a plan = a h\se ( a giv5 size & co/ )\t kn[+ :e!r ! own] 0 a millionaire or a day labor]4 ,b if he want$ a home ! case 0 diff]5t4 ,i desire !n to "k 8 antec$5ts1 h[ he made 8 money1 ! size ( 8 family1 ! numb] ( 8 s]vants1 & h[ 8 daught]s sp5d _! "t3 :e!r !y are dome/ic1 musical1 lit]>y or /yli%4 ,i want to "k ! numb] & quality ( 8 gue/s1 :e!r he dr9ks w9e ) 8 d9n]1 & 8 views on sanit>y que/ions2 = ?is home-build+ is n m]e sp5d+1 x is ! %ap+ ( human de/9y4 ,9 a home ?+s mu/ be beautiful & true & good1 & z a celebrat$ art critic says1 relat$ to u1 belong+ to u1 express+ u at our be/2 our ta/e & culture1 our p]sonal lik+s1 our com=ts & ne$s1 & n m]ely ! high-tide m>k ( our purses4 ,fireplaces & ,w9d[s4 ,we are all ( u by nature fire wor%ip]s & ! alt> ( e home is1 or %\ld be1 ! gl[+1 op5 fire4 ,next to ?is are ! great1 cle> w9d[s meant to admit ! glori\s glances ( ! fire wor%ip]'s sun4 ,z to ! fir/1 if y c h b "o1 ! h\se or ! fireplace1 give up ! h\se & keep ! fire4 ,if y wi% to te/ ! s\ndness ( ?is advice1 build a h\se1 furni% x extravagantly & supply furnace heat to all b "o room1 & 9 t room build ^u an ample he>? a gl[+ fire ( hickory logs1 & 9 ! pres5ce ( t g5ial blaze1 ^u ! b>e floor ( t unfurni%$ room1 w ga!r ! unit$ h\sehold4 ,! broad] ?is family he>? ! bett]4 ,! old ,engli% b>onial halls ) _! mighty fireplaces & _! great /one he>?s _h m ( light & beauty ?an all our mod]n improvem5ts4 ,illu/ration3 ,,arti/ic ,,fireplace4 ,next come ! broad1 op5 w9d[s4 ,bett] "o w9d[ five feet wide ?an two ( two & a half feet4 ,bett] = light1 w>m? or int]ior furni%+1 & bett] = ! illum9at+ effect1 ^u ! :ole ap>tm5t4 ,/airways4 ,/airs are a necessity1 & _! com=t & sightl9ess dep5d on sev]al features4 ,/eps mu/ be broad & deep1 l&+s wide & w9d[$1 if may be4 ,if !y mu/ be cr[d$ into a n>r[ hallway x is bett] t !y be made deep & slop+ z space p]mits1 & !n inclos$ ) an ar*way & curta9 at foot in/ead ( a door4 ,?is also saves heat4 ,b :]e ! great squ>e reception hall c be devot$ to !m !y may be made a ?+ ( beauty4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,lov]',s ,,tale4 ,woodwork4 ,says "o writ]1 ,!re is a widespread illusion gone out ?r\gh ! _w t to h ev]y?+ 9 a dwell+ 'f9i%$ 9 h>d wood ?r\gh\t1' z ! adv]tisem5ts say1 is ! only or?odox ?+4 ,pa9t smells ( turp5t9e & h]esy4 ,9 ?is respect x is useless to d5y t !re is solid com=t 9 ! p]man5cy & g5u95ess ( oak1 walnut1 or a%1 t pa9t is p[]less to give4 ,b ! natural color ( woods 9 _m cases may fail to h>monize ) ! s*eme ( color to be c>ri$ out 9 ! furni%+s ( ! ap>tm5t4 ,9 su* case1 ! woodwork %\ld be subject$ to delicate1 h>moni\s1 pa9t$ t9ts1 or poli% or gild+1 z ! case may be4 ,illu/ration3 ,,w9d[ ,,decoration4 ,!re is a great v>iety ( woods f :i* we may *oose1 b to obta9 f !m ! f9] %ad+s & comb9ations ( color is difficult1 n to say impossible4 ,!re is no necessity = mak+ ! woodwork t is to be pa9t$ unnecess>ily sub/antial or elaborate4 ,woods su* z :ite maple1 holly1 popl>1 = ! light effects2 black bir*1 *]ry1 mahogany1 = d>k]4 ,"o fallacy among p1 says an ar*itect1 is an immovable fai? t ! fir/ duty ( a human ap>tm5t is to look z high z possible4 ,a ca!dral1 or ! rotunda ( ! ,capitol1 mu/ h height to produce an ov]p[]+ effect4 ,b 9 an ord9>y room ( ord9>y size1 com=t1 conv5i5ce & prett9ess are m to be s\ght aft] ?an height4 ,illu/ration ,ord9>y woodwork mu/ be pa9t$ 9 su* %ades z w deb> x f occupy+ ! prom95t position to :i* positive beauty is alone entitl$4 ,give x a simil>ity to ! gr\nd ( ! pap]1 b a little d>k]1 & ! r\nd$ surface ( any fancy mold+s1 a %ade or two d>k]4 ,pa9t ! doors ! same1 except ! panels1 :i* may be decorat$1 9 :i* case !y mu/ be pa9t$ ! t9t ( ! furniture z a backgr\nd = ! design4 ,?is may be v simple1 a b& ( color1 a v9e 9 outl9e or flat color4 ,trace ! outl9e ( wild v9es1 or f]ns1 any?+ graceful4 ,orig9ality is n dem&$4 ,!re are good reasons :y w9d[ cas+s %\ld />t f floor or base1 s9ce 9 ?is way a visible means ( support is giv5 to ! entire w9d[1 :i* o!rwise has a susp5d$1 insecure look4 ,! panel und]nea? may be ( wood or pla/]4 ,doors4 ,doors are ! greate/ problem 9 a room4 ,!y monopolize ! space on ! floor & wall t %\ld be free = pictures & l>ge articles ( furniture1 & o!rwise completely demoralize ! ap>tm5t4 ,to d away ) ?is inconv5i5ce sub/itute heavy curta9s :5ev] an impassable b>ri] is unnecess>y2 closet doors1 = in/ance1 & ^? betwe5 p>lors4 ,aga91 doors t are mu* op5 may be made to slide into ! walls4 ,!n1 = ornam5t & z a scre51 ! doorway may be furni%$ ) hang+s1 co/ly or n1 z ! purse may dictate4 ,! out] doors are int5d$ z a def5se f intrusion f )\t4 ,x is n really good ta/e to h ^! doors ( plate glass z t militates aga9/ ! primal idea ( /r5g? & protection4 ,a ,door ,divan4 ,*airs & s(as we h )\t end 9 v>iety & beauty4 ,e alcove & nook 9 e possible sort ( room has be5 ?\ght ( & provid$ = except ! "o place t exi/s 9 almo/ e h\se & is ! "o place :]e p are always want+ to sit--t is ! doorway itself4 ,fold+ doors betwe5 communicat+ rooms are seldom clos$4 ,an ord9>y *air )9 a few feet ( ! space nev] looks well4 ,x %[s its back to "o room or ! o!r & is 9 ! way4 ,a divan is an addition to any decorative arrangem5t ( ei!r room4 ,x does n int]f]e ) any graceful drap]y t may be arrang$ at ! door4 ,x is decid$ly useful1 conv5i5t & gives a c]ta9 t\* ( ! unusual to ! room4 ,an ,improvis$ ,bookcase4 ,a sup]flu\s doorway or w9d[ too (t5 m>s ! effect ( a room1 & ! pres5t day ar*itecture1 z f\nd 9 *eap ap>tm5ts & h\ses1 frequ5tly ab\nds 9 ?is sort ( g5]osity4 ,to surm\nt ! difficulty a v useful inclosure c be con/ruct$ by plac+ two uprights & a few %elves )9 ! door jamb1 or aga9/ x1 z ! case may be4 ,/a9+ or pa9t+ !m to mat* ! re/ ( ! woodwork is a small matt]1 :ile arrang+ brass rods & pretty curta9s is n mu* m4 ,scre5s4 ,scre5s are a necess>y object ( h\sehold adornm5t4 ,x is n requisite t !y %\ld be exp5sive1 b ! uses to :i* !y c be put are legion4 ,a pla9 frame ( h>d wood1 or p9e /a9$1 rectangul>1 ?ree or f\r in*es wide & "o in* ?ick1 furni%$ ) feet1 & ) or )\t ca/ors1 is all t is necess>y4 ,cov]+ may be done ) a great v>iety ( mat]ials1 *eap or de>4 ,ornam5tation may be appli$1 embroid]$1 sket*$1 outl9$1 or pa9t$4 ,if ! scre5 is made 9 two or ?ree p>ts to fold l clo!s b>s1 feet w n be necess>y4 ,a ru/ic fire-scre5 is a unique affair1 h&some & useful :]e !re are op5 fires1 z a %ield f heat 9 cold wea!r1 & z a scre5 = ! empt9ess ( grate or fireplace dur+ ! summ]4 ,x is =m$ f natural bran*es1 two /raight & two crot*$ ones1 f :i* all ! small] bran*es & twigs h be5 cut away s z to h b little m ?an protrud+ knots4 ,:5 ^! are well season$1 rub1 bru% & rebru%1 bo? ) a s(t bru% & a /iff "o1 to remove f e crevice 9 ! b>k e loose p>ticle ( moss & du/4 ,!n1 ) liquid gold1 gild ! b>k all ov]1 or1 if pref]r$1 gild only ! b>e wood :]e x is expos$ at ! ends & :]e ! limbs are cut (f1 & give a t\* ( gold to e crack or protub]ance1 or1 if a smoo!r f9i% is desir$1 remove all ( ! b>k & smoo?ly gild or enamel ! :ole surface4 ,! scre51 susp5d$ f ! upp] crosspiece1 is a fr+$ silk rug wov5 on a h& loom1 z old-fa%ion$ c>pets 7 wov54 ,x falls freely f ! top1 its own weight keep+ x 9 place1 b x might be ti$ to ! /&>ds--half way d[n & at ! upp] corn]s--) b[s ( braid1 s(t ribbon or ) heavy tassel-tipp$ cords1 or a small] rug )\t fr+e might be susp5d$ by gilt r+s & f9i%$ at ! bottom ) a r[ ( tassels 9 m+l$ %ades4 ,9 a small ap>tm5t1 :]e ! radiator is an objection1 hang on ! wall ov] x a l>ge picture1 plac+ be=e ! unsightly heat] a scre5 ( n too high dim5sions4 ,if a space is too l>ge = y\r picture1 hang on ei!r side a bracket1 on :i* place a qua9t jug or j>4 ,illu/ration ,= a sew+-room1 or1 9 fact1 any ap>tm5t :]e ! weekly m5d+ is done1 a d>n+ scre5 is wond]fully commodi\s4 ,its conv5i5ces consi/ ( two capaci\s pockets1 to hold /ock+s or any g>m5t fre% f ! laundry & ne$+ att5tion2 a h&y %elf :]eon to place "o's sew+1 a tidy little cu%ion ) scissors & loosely swung by ribbons to "o side4 ,illu/ration3 ,,ornam5tal ,,scre54 ,x is a delightful bit ( prop]ty to s]ve "o1 :ile seat$ at an op5 w9d[ 9 summ] "t or ^u an upp] v]&a ) "o's "w1 look+ out ov] ! sea ) ! p]fume ( fl[]s 9 ! air4 ,trim ! skeleton scre5 to h>monize ) ! fitt+s ( ! room4 ,a c>p5t] con/ruct$ ! framework = ! two panels1 ) ! b> across ! top1 & ! little %elf = tw5ty-five c5ts4 ,! p9e us$ 0 an old pack+ box4 ,! panels mu/ be ?ree & "o-half feet high & eighte5 in*es wide1 made ( /rips ?ree in*es broad4 ,! %elf %\ld be eight in*es wide & twelve in*es long4 ,f\r y>ds & "o-half ( *9tz 9 cream-t9t$ gr\nd1 spr9kl$ ) ,dresd5 nosegays gaily da%$ ) p9k & delicate gre5 color1 eight c5ts a y>d4 ,f\r grades ( delicate p9k silesia & two & "o-half y>ds ( unblea*$ musl9 = int]l9+1 made an item ( fifty c5ts4 ,h+es & corn]s & nail-heads ( brass1 sat9 ribbon & tacks1 by consid]able calculation1 c be press$ into ! am\nt ( sev5ty-five c5ts4 ,a ,saturday morn+ indu/ri\sly sp5t 9 ! uphol/]y ( ! little scre5 pres5t$ x 9 complet5ess4 ,scre5s c be us$ to protect f drafts ( air1 by day or night1 to keep ! sun f an expos$ spot on ! c>pet1 to %ade ! light f we>y eyes1 to tempor>ily close ar*ways t h no doors1 & to conceal a door t is n (t5 us$4 ,!y w divide a l>ge room into two small ones :5 a sudd5 influx ( company arrives1 or ev5 close 9 a corn] = ! same hospitable em]g5cy4 ,!y make delightful nooks 9 sitt+-rooms = ! little folks' playh\se1 or !y may scre5 (f1 f ! morn+ call]1 a tempor>y sew+-room 9 ! back p>lor1 & 9 sleep+-rooms1 occupi$ by m ?an "o p]son1 a cosy dress+-room may be made by _! use4 ,drap]ies4 ,! new sw++ portires t h appe>$ h a h&some sw++ crane fa/5$ to ! wall ne> ! ceil+1 ^u :i* a portire or curta9 is susp5d$4 ,?is c !n be swung back aga9/ ! wall or swung out to make a cozy corn] or to %ut (f "o portion ( a room f ano!r4 ,^! sw++ portires c 9 _m cases be made to take ! place ( scre5s & (t5 fit ) great advantage :]e a fix$ portire ( ! old sort c\ld n be us$4 ,! h&some cranes are ( c\rse m or less exp5sive1 b a home-made sub/itute w answ] ! purpose v well4 ,x is n exactly home-made1 h[ev]1 = ! s]vices ( a blacksmi? may h to be call$ 9 to b5d ! ?ree-eigh?s in* iron rod into %ape = use4 ,! ends are b5t to fit into screw eyes or o!r sockets fa/5$ to ! wall1 ^u :i* ?is improvis$ crane c be swung4 ,! portire is susp5d$ f ! iron rod by r+s4 ,d5im is "o ( ! be/ ( all fabrics = a portire 9 rooms con/antly us$4 ,x may be wa%$ out & w look q z well z new4 ,if y want a v>iety put "o entire wid? 9 "r side out1 & split ano!r & jo9 to ! fir/ section1 putt+ ! side pieces wrong side out4 ,sew ! seams1 !n fell !m & fea!r/it* ! outside ( ! seams 9 color$ l954 ,!n ) a teacup or sauc] draw "s circles1 int]sect+ or lapp+ at "o edge4 ,"w ^! ) l95 9 %ort /it*es & make ecc5tric l9es or spid]-web l9es f ! c5tral design4 ,! edges may be hemm$ or fea!r/it*$ or done 9 buttonhole & cut out 9 scallops4 ,x is bett] to h ! edge ( ! fac+ in/ead ( mak+ a turn$-9 hem4 ,!n d5im1 z a floor cov]+1 we>s f> bett] ?an l[-co/ matt+ & nev] becomes disagreeably fad$2 =1 be+ made = h>d usage1 x b takes a quiet] tone :5 o!r blues w\ld surely fade into unpleasant1 soil$-look+ hues4 ,"s ,useful ,bits ( ,furniture4 ,a settee table ( oak has an adju/able top1 :i* c be turn$ ov] by ! removal ( two pegs1 mak+ a high back to ! b5*1 ^: deep seat is utiliz$ z a h\sehold l95 closet4 ,^! tables are 9 great dem& :]e ! sav+ ( space is an object & come 9 v>i\s sizes4 ,!y c be pur*as$ )\t ! top & us$ z a w9d[ seat4 ,"o 9 a pretty /udio ( a woman arti/ 9 ,new ,york 0 mo/ arti/ically treat$4 ,x 0 pa9t$ a dull gre54 ,! back & ! lid ( ! seat 7 uphol/]$ 9 an effective gold color$ tape/ry drawn ov] a padd+ ( hair & held d[n by gimp & gilt nails1 mak+ a mo/ arti/ic seat or table1 z its use = ei!r 0 requir$4 ,ano!r "o 0 /a9$ gre51 & on ! back & lid ( ! seat 0 us$ natural ton$ burlap1 ) /5cil$ griff9s 9 d>k br[n z a decoration4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,pa9t+ ,,= ,,home ,,decoration4 ,^! tables may be treat$ 9 v>i\s ways to suit _! surr\nd+s4 ,x is sugge/$ 9 ,! ,decorator & ,furni%] t "o /a9$ ! natural oak & uphol/]$ 9 gre5 rep1 turcoman1 corduroy1 burlap or d5im w\ld be mo/ attractive1 or = gre51 sub/itute br[n 9 ! same mat]ials & put on ) dull brass nails1 mak+ an effective seat = a hall4 ,ano!r1 pa9t$ :ite & enamel$1 w\ld be *>m+ 9 a blue & :ite d9+-room4 ,uphol/] 9 d>k blue d5im ) :ite nails1 & fill ) a numb] ( pretty pill[s 9 v>i\s designs ( blue & :ite1 & "o ( vivid sc>let to give a w>m t\*1 :i* is ne$$ 9 ^! coldly decorat$ rooms4 ,! lovely lib]ty *9tzes 9 d>k blue & :ite1 & sometimes yell[1 r$ & :ite on blue1 are good to use on ^! settees1 :i* are fir/ pa9t$ black4 ,a ,hang+ ,desk4 ,! economy ( space necess>y 9 ap>tm5t liv+ has br\ght ab\t ! evolution ( "s rem>kable pieces ( furniture t may be useful 9 small h\ses any:]e4 ,! writ+ desk may be includ$ 9 ! li/ ( h\sehold wond]s directly attributable to ! necessity ( fitt+ t mo/ useful h\sehold article 9 a six by t5 ap>tm5t4 ,:5 clos$1 x really occupies ! v smalle/ am\nt ( room imag9able1 & = ! "y /ud5ts' use1 or 9 flat b$rooms1 :]e space is at a premium1 x is unique & valuable4 ,! mat]ial may be oak or su* wood z "o fancies4 ,p9e enamel$ 9 :ite or black is z good1 s long z x mat*es ! woodwork or furniture ( ! room4 ,two /rips ( ! wood1 ea* two in*es by ?ree feet1 are atta*$ to ! wall by long screws4 ,across ! top ( ^! are plac$ ?ree %elves ab\t five in*es wide1 support$ by brackets ( brass4 ,betwe5 ! two upp] ones p>titions are glu$ 9 to =m pigeonholes4 ,f f\r to six in*es f ! l[] end ( ea* ( ! /rips ( wood is firmly plac$ a /rip ab\t two in*es wide1 to :i* is h+$ ! %elf t =ms ! desk4 ,?is is upheld :5 op5 by brass *a9s1 & is ?us made firm4 ,:5 x is desir$ to close x1 x is m]ely %ut to ! wall1 ! *a9s fall+ into place4 ,! l$ge ^u :i* ! lid is h+$ =ms a firm place = ! ink/& & o!r necess>y fitm5ts ( a desk4 ,aga9/ ! wall1 betwe5 ! support+ /rips1 may be fix$ a ,japanese panel or "s tape/ry or silk1 z ta/e may dictate4 ,a picture c be s fa/5$ to ! panel z to =m a good lett] or c>dhold]4 ,! :ole affair is simple & easily manag$4 ,any good c>p5t] w make ! necess>y woodwork = a v small sum4 ,a ,w9d[ ,desk4 ,"o ( ! mo/ conv5i5t & altoge!r satisfactory contrivances q 9 ! p[] ( a woman to manipulate is a w9d[ desk4 ,take a bo>d ab\t fifte5 in*es wide & saw x ! l5g? ( ! w9d[ sill4 ,put small iron h+es on x & screw x to ! sill1 s t x c hang d[n aga9/ ! "u wall :5 desirable4 ,tack a n>r[ /rip ( wood "u ! bo>d1 ne> ! front edge4 ,re/+ on ! floor & w$g$ "u ?is cleat !re is a prop ( plan$ wood1 sl5d] & neat look+4 ,y c put a bead+ ar\nd ! bo>d1 ) small brads & /a9 x *]ry or "s o!r color4 ,! sill holds p5s1 p5cils & ink/&s1 & a l>ge blott] laid on ! bo>d1 is a mo/ desirable writ+ pad4 ,?is idea comes f an art /ud5t 9 ,p>is1 :o dotes on h] w9d[ desk4 ,x w be f\nd useful 9 ! nurs]y z a place = pa/+ pictures1 draw+s1 etc41 & :5 done c be swung d[n & out ( ! way4 ,a ,hall ,*e/4 ,a pretty hall *e/ is "o ( ! ?+s t may be successfully produc$ at home4 ,9 a seaport t[n1 ! *e/ ( "s anci5t m>9] is easily procur$2 o!rwise1 "o ( simil> /yle & make mu/ be fa%ion$ = y by a c>p5t]4 ,z x ne$ only be made ( s(t wood ! co/ is n great4 ,aft] x has left ! c>p5t]'s h&s x may be decorat$ ) ! appli$ ornam5tation 9 scroll design1 :i* is n[ obta9able ready to put on1 & aft]w>d treat$ to a coat ( /a94 ,old oak is ! mo/ satisfactory1 or x may be eboniz$1 if pref]r$4 ,poli%$ brass corn]s & h+es may be add$1 & a r[ ( brass nails set ar\nd ! edge ) good effect4 ,! conv5i5ce ( ^! *e/s = hall use has be5 accept$4 ,!y beautifully conceal rubb]s1 mack9to%es1 a /orm %awl & v>i\s unsightly b useful imp$im5ta ( ! hall rack1 & if1 9 addition1 a seat is desir$1 a /rip ( d>k lea!r ) a light pad b5ea? x may be set on ) brass nails across ! middle ( ! lid4 ,cozy ,corn]s4 ,!y are s easy to arrange4 ,h y\r c>p5t] make a d\ble "r-angle b5*1 ) a high1 /raight back4 ,! seat mu/ be two & a half feet wide1 & ! top ( ! back five feet f ! floor4 ,?is n[ looks l an unga9ly ?ree-sid$ squ>e1 or r oblong1 = x is bett] to h "o side some:at long] ?an ! o!rs4 ,! wood %\ld be /a9$ *]ry or oak1 to mat* ! o!r furniture 9 ! room1 & oil$ & poli%$ s z to be smoo? & ( ri* appe>ance2 or1 use h>d wood1 black walnut1 ebony1 mahogany4 ,! seat & inside back may be ?ickly & prettily uphol/]$1 & !n pil$ high ) pill[s1 or1 ! wood hav+ be5 nicely f9i%$1 ! uphol/]y may cov] ! seat only4 ,be sure & h ! seat made l[1 o!rwise ! ,cozy ,corn] w be uncom=table1 its "n w be beli$1 & no "o w hie to :at might h be5 ! favorite seat 9 ! room4 ,n[1 :]e %all we place ! corn]8 ,put x 9 ! space next to ! grate fire1 & s9ce y h _h ?is place 9 view1 ! side to fit 9 !re %\ld be made ! requisite numb] ( feet & in*es s z to actually fit4 ,plac$ 9 ?is "p ( ! room1 two sides ( ! corn] are aga9/ ! wall1 b ! ?ird side pres5ts a b>e & un9vit+ appe>ance4 ,?is may be avoid$ by susp5d+ a silk or gauze hang+ close to its side1 9 ! same way t ! back ( an upright piano is (t5 scre5$4 ,! seats %\ld be pil$ ) s(a pill[s1 & 9 ! inclosure a few hassocks w\ld n be f\nd amiss4 ,! ^w cozy sugge/s w>m? & pleasantry1 z well z com=t4 ,!re=e1 ?is corn] is always by ! fire1 & ^? occupy+ x are presumably *e]y & happy4 ,x is j ! place to re/ 91 j ! place to read 91 j ! place = y & y\r de>e/ fri5d to *at 91 j ! place to play a game 91 z bags1 balls1 etc41 c\ld easily be toss$ f "o seat to ! o!r2 j ! place to lay plans 91 = y are 9 no hurry to move1 & s y\r plans1 n be+ hurri$ly complet$1 w\ld be m apt to prove satisfactory2 j ! place to nap 91 j ! place to frolic 94 ,inde$1 j ! place to add to our already com=table homes if we w\ld h !m "o remove ne>] ! ideal home ?an !y n[ are4 ,pl5ty ( ,pill[s4 ,all cosy corn]s & all c\*es are incomplete )\t numb]less pill[s ( all sorts1 %apes & sizes4 ,a s]viceable pill[1 & "o t c be laund]$1 is ( blue d5im1 ) a b& ( ,iri% po9t embroid]y runn+ ar\nd ! f\r sides ( ! squ>e ) ! edge t[>d ! c5t]4 ,a ruffle ( d5im ) a n>r[ embroid]$ ins]tion to mat* ! edge1 completes ?is s5sible head-re/4 ,an ,indian silk pill[ is always pretty1 & is pleasant next to ! face :5 "o is ly+ d[n4 ,an op5-"w scrim ) r[s ( ribbon plac$ ^u ! pla9 /ripes1 made ov] a contra/+ color ( silk1 ) ruffle ( %e] lace ov] ! color ( ! pill[1 is effective & bright look+4 ,any "o :o is fond ( an ,ori5tal effect c h x 9 ! pill[ by sew+ silks & sat9s hit & miss1 z 9 mak+ an old-"t rag c>pet1 !n hav+ x wov5 ) black l95 *a94 ,"o :o is exp]t ) cro*et ne$le c h a creation wor?y ( h&+ d[n = ages to come4 ,cro*et a numb] ( arti/ic :eels or m$alions ( knitt+ silk 9 a gold5 yell[ %ade2 jo9 toge!r1 mak+ a squ>e ! size ( ! pill[ desir$4 ,place ?is lace cov] ov] a contra/+ %ade ( yell[1 f9i%+ ! edges ) yell[ silk pompons plac$ close toge!r4 ,yell[ *eese clo? p]fectly pla9 on bo? sides1 ) two ruffles ( ! same & a fullness ( lace betwe51 makes a da9ty & inexp5sive pill[2 ! "u ruffle be+ six in*es1 lace ruffle five in*es1 & ! top ruffle ( *eese clo? ?ree in*es 9 wid?4 ,= ! woman ^: ta/es run to ! elegant1 a pill[ ( silk-fac$ velvet & sat9 ribbon is grateful4 ,a novel pill[ is ! clov] pill[1 b to c>ry out ! idea z orig9ally design$ "o mu/ await ! com+ ( ! season :5 clov] is at its fulle/ & sweete/ blossom4 ,!n ga!r ! l>ge r$ clov] heads4 ,take z _m z w\ld fill a l>ge wa%tub1 spr9kle a p\nd ( f9e salt ov] !m1 & /ir !m well1 ab\t once a day1 until !y are ?or\ghly dri$1 )\t fall+ to pieces4 ,?is is ! fill+ = a pill[ made ( :ite l95 duck1 embroid]$ ) a /raggl+ design ( clov]4 ,! conv5i5t & ornam5tal floor pill[ is especially adapt$ = ! summ] home1 ! piazza1 ! lawn or ! l\ng+-room4 ,! frame1 :i* is made ( good spr+s enclos$ 9 a /rong l95 cov]+1 is on ca/]s1 & c be readily mov$ f place to place4 ,cov]$ ) ,bagdad /ripes1 tape/ry1 or any arti/ic mat]ial1 x makes a ,*ri/mas pres5t t w\ld please ! mo/ fa/idi\s ta/e4 ,a ,corn] ,closet4 ,lack ( closet room 9 a h\se is a fruitful !me = compla9t 9 ^! days ( contract$ space4 ,ar*itects !re are :o are will+ to sacrifice e consid]ation1 n except+ int]nal utility1 = picturesque outside effects4 ,9 su* cases rec\rse mu/ be _h to w>drobes1 b z ^! are exp5sive1 ! busy f+]s ( ! h\sewife mu/ be dep5d$ ^u to improvise sub/itutes4 ,if !re is a corn] 9 ! room ) suffici5t space 7sometimes ! ar*itect d5ies u ?is small boon7 x may be utiliz$ 9 ! mann] h]e) describ$4 ,two /rips ( wood z long z y desire & f\r in*es wide by "o in* ?ick are screw$ 9 ! angle ( ! wall ab\t six feet f ! floor2 bo>ds are cut (f to fit 9 ! corn] & re/+ on ^! /rips2 ?is w =m ! ro(4 ,a brass or wood5 rod is !n run across ! front ( ?is bo>d f wall to wall & f :i* ! curta9 is susp5d$ by r+s4 ,cretonne1 *9tz or pr9t$ cotton1 w make a good li/ to *oose f1 & are inexp5sive4 ,"o may screw ^u ! und]side ( ! ro( & on ! cleats z _m hooks z are requir$1 &1 if desir$1 a %elf may be introduc$ ab\t fifte5 in*es bel[ ! ro(1 & on t atta* ! hooks4 ,su* an em]g5cy closet w (t5 be f\nd a great conv5i5ce1 & ! co/ w be trifl+4 ,x w be well to /ret* a piece ( musl9 or pap] across ! upp] side ( ! ro( to keep out ! du/4 ,illu/ration3 ,,replica ,,( ,a ,,grecian ,,vase4 ,a home-made ,japanese cab9et may be readily made ( ! common mat]ials f\nd ab\t ! h\se1 su* z boxes ( h>d or s(t wood4 ,! smoo!r ! boxes1 ! bett]2 b !y c be plan$1 if !y are n4 ,! %elves are s arrang$ z to accommodate ! diff]5t sizes ( ,japanese bric--brac4 ,! small cab9et 9 ! upp] left-h& corn] is simply a smoo? bit ( ! bo>d1 f9i%$ ) two ornam5tal h+es1 ei!r brass or bronze4 ,! escut*eon is ( ! same4 ,! circul> panel c be ei!r ( ,l9cru/a1 bronz$1 or to make x a little m unique1 a circul> hole c be cut 9 ! door1 & a pretty blue ,japanese plate ins]t$1 held 9 place at ! back1 & ! door l9$4 ,! supports are easily obta9$ by a visit to a factory :]e !y h a turn+ la!4 ,! ornam5tal f9i% at ! bottom is ( lightly c>v$ wood1 if "o c d ^! ?+s1 or a /rip c be pur*as$ at a c>p5t] %op or wall pap] /ore4 ,/ill ano!r way out ( ! difficulty is to get j ! l5g? ( ,l9cru/a & tack x on neatly4 ,be=e ! h+es & escut*eon are put on1 ! /a9+ %\ld be done1 & ! simple/ way out ( ! difficulty is to pur*ase ,pik-,ron1 /a9 :atev] color or wood y require1 !n aft]w>d give x a coat ( v>ni%1 coa* v>ni% giv+ a durable f9i% t is heavy & beautiful1 or ! :ole cab9et may be cov]$ ) ! /amp$ ,japanese cotton goods 9 gilt & colors1 ea* %elf be+ cov]$ be=e be+ put 9 place1 & ! uprights gild$ or /a9$4 ,/ill aga91 if ! "w is ( p9e1 x may be /a9$ a ri* bronze1 & left ) dead f9i%1 :i* is a v fair imitation ( ,japanese woodwork4 ,piano ,decoration4 ,an upright piano %\ld be plac$ ) its back to ! room4 ,?is position is n only good f a decorative /&po9t1 b a p]=m] likes to be %ield$ by ! in/rum5t4 ,"h are enum]at$ v>i\s graceful ways to cov] ! poli%$ b>5ess ( ?is musical in/rum5t4 ,to hang a squ>e ( tape/ry ov] ! back f a brass rod is exce$+ly /rik+4 ,if possible1 let ! pa9t$ subject relate to music or s5tim5t1 & h x suffici5tly l>ge to cov] ! surface ( ! piano4 ,if ! tape/ry is v f9e "w its surface %\ld be unspoil$ by additions4 ,across ! top ( ! piano lay a sc>f ( ,lib]ty silk1 or ano!r pa9t$ panel4 ,! only bric--brac t comb9es ) ?is drap]y is a pair ( c&elabra1 ! qua9t] 9 /yle ! bett]4 ,alg]ian /ripes1 ,bagdad tape/ry or ,p]sian pr9ts make good backgr\nds4 ,_! co/ is #a4be a y>d1 & wid? fifty in*es4 ,) ?is z a f\ndation _m s*emes may be c>ri$ out4 ,bas-relief heads 9 pla/] c be swung on x )\t injur+ ! wood ( ! piano4 ,m$allions ( ,bee?ov51 ,moz>t or ,wagn] c be pur*as$ = #a ea*4 ,a long panel ( *]ubs goes well1 or a l9e ( ,delft or ,japanese plates4 ,a l[ settle has a com=table re/+ place und]nea? ?is4 ,ei!r a box seat uphol/]$ 9 d>k1 contra/+ /uff1 or "o ( ! #d4ej gre5 wood5 settles1 sold to arti/s1 w\ld s]ve4 ,a numb] ( cu%ions plac$ on ! seat aga9/ ! piano add to ! coz9ess & grace ( ! decoration4 ,light+4 ,rooms %\ld be light$ f ! sides1 if possible4 ,! great c5tral *&eli]s1 ca/+ _! d[nw>d %ad[s1 age e face 9 ! room by emphasiz+ e l9e1 & br++ out e defect %>ply4 ,decorat+4 ,9 decorat+ a room a h>mony ( ! %ades ( "o color %\ld be us$4 ,bew>e ( spotty effects4 ,x %\ld really1 accord+ to ,edmond ,russell1 be conceiv$1 z a piece ( music is1 9 a c]ta9 key4 ,!re %\ld be sympa?y & h>mony4 ,ev5 ! pictures %\ld be *os5 ) z mu* reg>d to _! surr\nd+s z to _! individual m]its4 ,ano!r important item 9 ! decoration ( ! home is consid]+ ! *oice ( gr\nd tones ) ref]5ce to ! complexion ( its ho/ess4 ,gue/s appe> !re b casually4 ,%e is always !re1 & no "o %\ld elect to occupy a room1 ^: color tones ei!r totally efface :at little color "o may possess1 or else1 by an exagg]ation ( natural rudd9ess1 be made a rival ( ! sett+ sun4 ,! effect ( color ^u ! appe>ance is s important t e *ange ( color1 *anges n only ! color ( ! sk91 b t ( ! hair & eyes z well4 ,edmond ,russell once /udi$ a room ) ref]5ce to complexions1 mix+ 8 pa9ts to a relative hue ) ! g5]al tone ( complexions1 mak+ x dull] & gray]1 s t /&+ ne> x ! sk9 look$ cle> & fre% beside x4 ,i made ! tone1 he said1 a little gre5] & cold] ?an fle%1 s t "o look$ light] & w>m] & 0 enri*$ by ! contra/4 ,any :o /ood 9 front ( t wall look$ five or t5 ye>s y\ng] ?an !y 74 ,9 us+ a fl[]1 or o!r design1 = a frieze or dado1 !y %\ld be conv5tionaliz$4 ,?is t]m is us$ to signify ! modification ( a real object ) its surr\nd+s4 ,! m =mal !y are ! bett]2 no attempt at %ad+ or p]spective is necess>y1 & ! squ>e & compass %\ld be us$ z mu* z possible 9 _! design+4 ,9 decorat+ a room1 a d>k floor is ! beg9n+1 & ! walls gr[ light] z ! ceil+ is approa*$4 ,! ri*e/ effects %\ld be congregat$ at ! mantel1 ) ! fire z its c5tral object4 ,! ability to comb9e is a r>e "o4 ,rusk9 writes truly t1 "o r>ely meets ev5 an educat$ p]son :o c select a good c>pet1 a wall pap]1 & a ceil+1 & h !m 9 h>mony4 ,!re is too mu* ( a temptation to adopt beautiful ?+s simply because !y are beautiful1 )\t paus+ to consid] ! weighti] matt] ( _! et]nal fitness1 or rememb]+ t a ?+ intr9sically beautiful 9 itself may become hide\s by inh>moni\s proximity or comb9ation ) ano!r beautiful object4 ,home ( ! ,s\l4 ,a my/ic ,g]man writ] calls a h\se1 prop]ly ord]$1 ! home ( ! s\l1 c>ry+ out ! idea t ! h\se 9 :i* an ord]ly s\l lives1 is only an expansion ( ! body built & adorn$ out ( h] pass+ exp]i5ces4 ,all sorts ( delicate aff9ities e/abli% !mselves betwe5 h] & ! lights & %ad[s ( h] abode2 ! p>ticul> picture on ! wall2 ! sc5t ( fl[]s at a p>ticul> w9d[ until %e seems incorporat$ into x4 ,9 o!r words1 "o's environm5ts1 z "o's dress1 mu/ be 9 h>mony ) _! individual type1 or a p]man5t discord w result2 = in/ance1 ,emma ,m(fett ,tyng speaks ( a pond-lily type ( woman1 s(t color1 gray blue eyes1 pale br[n eyes1 appeal+ to h] z to ! effect ( ! gorge\s1 r$ecorat$ int]ior ( h] home1 ) flames ( color 9 hang+s & rugs1 & h] ,egyptian g[n ) its gl[ & gl9t ( purple & gold4 ,all ^! ?+s 7 arti/ic & beautiful1 & p]fect 9 _! relations to ea* o!r1 b 9 _! relation to h] no?+ c\ld h be5 worse4 ,! woman1 h]self1 0 eclips$1 oblit]at$4 ,a ,cleopatra1 d>k & fla%+1 w\ld make ! picture complete4 ,b su* a colorless woman ne$s repose 9 h] surr\nd+s2 ! l[ tones ( blue & gray1 ! pale/ flu% ( ! sunset heav5s4 ,"s ,lovely ,rooms4 ,edmond ,russell has treat$ two rooms exquisitely4 ,a gold & ivory p>lor1 t9t$1 walls & ceil+ 9 a grayi% :ite ) a gre5i% t+e1 & ?is is mottl$ ) gold fleck$ lightly ov] ! surface4 ,! broad frieze is adorn$ 9 free1 simple /yle ) leaves & blossoms ( magnolia4 ,ev]y?+ 9 ?is room %\ld be light & delicate 9 color4 ,! s(t gold & ivory w\ld be nullifi$ by heavy walnut w9d[ cas+s2 r$ & gre5 c>pet1 r$ or blue plu% furni%+s1 or vivid hang+s w\ld ru9 ! effect4 ,pictures 9 su* a room %\ld be pref]ably wat]-colors ) pale gray mats1 & gold or :ite frames4 ,oil pa9t+s are only p]missible :5 dreamy & vapor\s 9 t9t4 ,light1 delicate colors 9 uphol/]y1 creamy madras = curta9s4 ,! c>pet may be a little d>k]1 v]g+ on "s ( ! delicate1 woody br[ns4 ,any bric--brac %\ld be 9 pale %ades ( yell[ or rose4 ,! t5d] lights ( ?is room seem to cle> & s(t5 ! complexion ( ! occupants4 ,ano!r is a d9+-room ( copp]1 bronze & t]ra cotta %ades4 ,a pale t9t ( copp] to ! backgr\nd ov]laid ) da%es ( bronze & /rong copp] color4 ,! frieze is a succession ( p9e b\ghs1 lightly fr+$ ) _! ne$les4 ,above ! sidebo>d is a panel repres5t+ magnolia blossoms1 & _! heavy poli%$ leaves1 ) br[n 9 /em & %ad[s4 ,! effect ( ?is color s*eme is to give a sugge/ion ( w>m? & *e]4 ,! gold & copp] us$ 9 fleck+ ! wall are m]ely ! two %ades ( ! common bronze p[d]4 ,illu/ration3 ,,ri* ,,pieces ,,( ,,furniture4 ,/ill ano!r ne/ ( a sleep+-room comes to m9d1 a creation ( ,mos*eles4 ,floor cov]$ ) :ite be>sk9 rugs1 furni%$ ) a delicate t9t ( rob9's-egg blue4 ,toilet table /rewn ) e imag9able luxury 9 old ivory & silv]4 ,panels 9 ! w>drobe & doors fill$ ) pa9t+s by ,burne-,jones1 classic figures giv5 ! pref]5ce4 ,^! rooms are giv5 z examples ( h>mony ( color+4 ,great exp5se is n always necess>y to secure ?is arti/ic h>mony4 ,money goes a long way1 b good ta/e & +5uity w g j z f>1 ) a m9imum ( exp5diture4 ,!re is a little room1 a symphony 9 gre5 & gold1 creat$ by "o girl's ta/e1 a pale seafoam gre5 t is delightful to ! eye4 ,! woodwork1 b&$ ) a n>r[ /rip ( gilt1 is ( ?is color1 & ! ent]pris+ "y woman pa9t$ x all ) h] own h&s4 ,! curta9s at ! ?ree w9d[s are ( ! fre%e/ & pure/ :ite musl91 prettily ruffl$4 ,!y are ! k9d t always look z if !y _h j be5 laund]$ & !y are ti$ back ) pale gre5 ribbons t make !m look ! m exquisitely neat4 ,! floor is cov]$ ) pla9 matt+1 :i* p>ticul>ly recomm5d$ itself1 by ! way1 because x 0 inexp5sive4 ,z to ,furniture4 ,e article ( furniture 9 ! room is ( ! prevail+ gre5 & !re are no (f %ades1 = !y 7 all pa9t$ f ! same c ( pa9t4 ,! b$/ead 0 no?+ b common p9e1 made to ord] at ! factory1 & x is ( a qua9t design t orig9at$ 9 ! same f]tile bra9 t is responsible = all ! re/ ( ! p]fect appo9tm5ts4 ,! headbo>d is 9 ! %ape ( a %ield & !re is pa9t$ !reon a spray ( wild roses to br+ to ! sleep] ov] :om !y b5d sweet dreams ( p]petual summ] "t4 ,& ! :ite c\nt]pane & sn[y pill[s 9 ! sett+ ( gre5 & gold make x a mo/ invit+ place ( repose4 ,! *airs 7 resurrect$ f ! dbris 9 ! family attic4 ,!re are two heavy old-fa%ion$ ones ( curly maple1 & !y are cu%ion$ ) a brocad$ gre5 & gold mat]ial t exactly mat* ! gre5 ( ! furniture4 ,!n !re is a com=table little rock+ *air cu%ion$ ) ! same mat]ial & pa9t$ 9 gre5 ) _m /ripes ( gold4 ,b x is ! dress+ table t is ! mo/ *>m+ ( all ! unique devices t make ! room attractive4 ,x 0 a batt]$ old wa%/& at fir/1 b n[ x is a "w ( art4 ,x is pa9t$1 ( c\rse1 9 gre5 & gilt1 & !re is a spray ( wild roses on ! front4 ,above x is a gre5 & gilt fram$ mirror ) a spray ( ! favorite wild roses aga9 ov]hang+ ! top "p4 ,ov] mirror & wa%/& & all is drap$ a canopy ( :ite musl94 ,among ! o!r articles t f9d place on ! table is a little fairy lamp ) a %ade ( gre5 tissue pap] t gives ! s(te/ light imag9able4 ,a com=table gre5 w9d[ seat 9 ! corn] is well suppli$ ) pill[s cov]$ 9 gre5 & gold brocade1 & up & ar\nd ! w9d[ !re clamb]s an old ,engli% ivy4 ,!re is an oddly fa%ion$ bookcase 9 ano!r corn]4 ,y w\ld nev] guess x1 ( c\rse1 b x 0 con/ruct$ out ( two dry goods boxes4 ,x is pa9t$ gre5 inside & out & fitt$ up ) f\r %elves4 ,a gre5 silk curta9 hangs f a brass rod1 & ab\t ! edge ( ! bookcase is a gilt cornice4 ,! top is cov]$ ) bric--brac4 ,= pictures !re is an et*+ or two on ! wall 9 gre5 & gold frames1 & y h a room ! v sight ( :i* is cool & refre%+1 & :i* co/ its own] "s "t & "s plann+1 b v little money4 ,pictures4 ,be c>eful ( ! pictures & _! relations to ! walls4 ,rooms %\ld r be a sett+ = a beautiful mov+ picture ( ! %ift+ gr\ps ( p 9 x4 ,too mu* gild+1 too _m gaudy oil pa9t+s attract ! eye & di/ract ! m9d4 ,!re is a simple picture 9 my room1 r$ curta9s1 a :ite-rob$ *ild kneel+1 t is all1 b ev]y?+ 9 x h>monizes1 & x h>monizes ) ! furni%+s ( ! room1 & my eye is (t5 drawn t[>d x4 ,"o au?ority objects to portraits z a decoration4 ,_! pres5ce1 if at all impressive1 is too /imulat+4 ,picture frames %\ld nev] be s gorge\s z to di/ract ! m9d f ! picture4 ,frames are to protect ! picture & relate x to ! walls4 ,gr\p et*+s toge!r & put engrav+s 9 ! portfolio4 ,ov] l[ bookcases pictures %\ld be l>ge1 & 9 ?is =m !y give a /yle to ! room4 ,wat] colors look admirable if treat$ 9 ?is mann]1 & if two bookcases are put toge!r s z to =m "o1 divide ! pictures by a bracket1 on :i* place a j> ( "s unique patt]n4 ,illu/ration3 ,,select+ ,,pa9t+s ,,= ,,home ,,decoration4 ,small rooms require m$ium-size pictures1 :i* c be hung "o above ! o!r1 & ?ree may ev5 be plac$ on l9e ) good effect4 ,= an ideal head 9 oil ! frame %\ld be ( broad gilt4 ,hang x 9 a good light1 & on "o side gr\p two small wat]-color pieces 9 ! fa%ionable :ite b& frame4 ,= an oblong picture a small sket* "u x looks well equipp$4 ,a v l>ge & beautiful picture sometimes sets ! keynote ( color = ! ap>tm5t4 ,o!rwise1 subord9ate !m z decorations to ! color+s ( ! room1 z 9 ! ivory & gold room4 ,9 a room :]e !re are to be _m pictures1 give r a neutral color to ! walls1 m]ely z a picture backgr\nd4 ,:]e !re are f9ely decorat$ walls pictures are r out ( place1 s9ce "o decoration spoils ! effect ( ! o!r4 ,mottoes4 ,! motto1 ^: revival is not$ 9 ! above title1 is ! expression 9 ar*itecture ( "s s5tim5t suitable to ! place to :i* x is appli$4 ,x is m frequ5tly & m noticeably 9 dome/ic ar*itecture ?an else:]e t ! motto is f\nd4 ,sc>cely a c\ntry h\se ( suffici5t size to boa/ a hall & fireplace b ann\nces 9 script or text a welcome to all gue/s or "s appreciation ( ! com=ts ( its f\r walls4 ,! favorite place = ?is motto is ov] ! fireplace1 ei!r above or bel[ ! mantel %elf1 & ( all ! old ones1 ,ea/ or we/1 home is be/1 ) its v>iety ( expressions1 is ! favorite4 ,a man's h\se is 8 ca/le4 ,home is ! resort ,( love1 ( joy1 ( peace4 ,a man's be/ ?+s are ne>e/ him2 ,our h\se is ev] at y\r s]vice2 ,y are v welcome2 ,take ! goods ! gods provide !e--any "o ( ^! w z appropriately welcome ! /rang] z ! fri5d4 ,ov] ! mantel ( "o's private room ! re/ful motto1 ,duty done is ! s\l's fireside1 may f9d appropriate place4 ,h[ to be ,beautiful4 ,illu/ration ,to beg9 at ! beg9n+3 to insure a good complexion /rict att5tion mu/ be paid to ! diet4 ,:olesome1 well-cook$ food mu/ be eat52 regul> ex]cise 9 ! op5 air is ano!r po9t1 & ! body mu/ be ba!d ?ree hundr$ & sixty-five times a ye>4 ,x may be consid]$ almo/ sup]]ogatory to rem>k t n any am\nt ( c]ates1 wa%es or p[d]s w cov] or oblit]ate blot*es1 pimples & blackheads caus$ by un:olesome food or uncleanly habits4 ,we may n be able to af=d elegantly-appo9t$ ba?-rooms1 b we all c indulge 9 a daily ba?4 ,a quick & simple me?od = ! busy h\sekeep]1 :i* ne$ only occupy a few mom5ts1 is z foll[s3 buy a y>d ( co>se ,turki% t[el+1 & make ( x two mitt5s4 ,h a b[l ( w>m wat]1 9 :i* dissolve "s borax4 ,?is is soo?+ to tir$ n]ves1 besides r5d]+ ! sk9 s(t & :ite4 ,:5 ready1 slip on "o ( ! mitt5s1 wet x ?or\ghly1 rub well ) soap1 & quickly wa% ! body all ov]4 ,all ! impurities ( ! body are n[ on ?is mitt54 ,lay x to "o side4 ,put on ! o!r mitt51 & wa% ! body aga94 ,! mitt5s may be wa%$ & hung to dry1 ready = ! next ba?4 ,rub ! sk9 briskly ) a r\gh t[el until x gl[s4 ,if ?is treatm5t is foll[$ daily1 ) a tub-ba? weekly1 y w n compla9 ( ^? tir$1 n]v\s heada*es1 y\r face w lose its sall[ness1 & y\r walk w ga9 9 sprightl9ess4 ,"h let u say1 = ! b5efit ( ^? :o are oblig$ to live 9 r5t$ h\ses1 or :o h no facilities = a ba?-room1 t a fold+ ba?tub is n[ (f]$4 ,x folds up some:at aft] ! mann] ( a fold+ b$4 ,:5 clos$ x looks l a cab9et1 & is nicely f9i%$ 9 oak4 ,9 connection ) x is a tank & heat+ app>atus4 ,! wat] may be heat$ ) gas1 k]os5e or gasol9e4 ,lemon juice1 dilut$1 is a fam\s :it5] = ! sk91 z are all vegetable acids1 su* z tomato1 cucumb] & wat]melon4 ,(t5times some?+ is ne$$ to heal z well z :it54 ,= ?is1 take two tablespoonfuls ( oatmeal & cook x ) en\gh wat] to =m a ?9 gruel1 /ra91 & :5 cool add to two tablespoonfuls ( ! gruel "o tablespoonful ( lemon juice4 ,wa% ! face ) ?is at night1 all[+ x to dry on ! sk94 ,?is is excell5t = a %9y face4 ,ano!r v soo?+ prep>ation to use at night is made ( "o ounce ( glyc]9e1 half an ounce ( rosem>y 7fluid71 & tw5ty drops ( c>bolic acid4 ,?is is excell5t = any irritation ( ! sk91 & also = prickly heat4 ,! face mu/ always be well wa%$ ) wat] & pure soap be=e apply+ any ( ^! prep>ations4 ,if ! sk9 is oily1 ba! ) dilut$ camphor 7a teaspoonful to a p9t ( wat]71 b x is injuri\s to a naturally dry sk94 ,treatm5t = a ,r\gh ,sk94 ,a wa% = a r\gh face is two ounces ( wat]1 "o ounce ( glyc]9e1 "o ounce ( alcohol1 & half an ounce ( gum ( b5zo91 to be dissolv$ 9 ! alcohol fir/4 ,apply at night4 ,= wr9kles--d we see "s ( y look+ int]e/$8--take "s clipp+s ( %eep's wool & /eep 9 hot alcohol4 ,x is said t ! grease ?us obta9$ is id5tical ) an elem5t f\nd 9 ! human bile4 ,i "k t if rubb$ on ! sk9 x n only removes b prev5ts wr9kles1 mak+ ! sk9 s(t & pliable4 ,^! rem$ies all h ! m]it ( be+ h>mless1 :i* _c be said ( all cosmetics4 ,let u give "o m recipe1 & t is = bright5+ ! eyes4 ,:5 y are tir$ & w>m1 & y\r eyes are dull1 take a clo? & wr+ x out ( v hot wat]1 z hot z y c be> x4 ,lie d[n = t5 m9utes ) ?is clo? spread ov] y\r burn+ face & tir$ eyes4 ,y w be surpris$ to see h[ ! tir$ l9es w fade out & h[ ! eyes w %9e1 & :5 y\r de>e/ comes home he w pay y a complim5t :i* w m ?an rew>d y4 ,r$uc+ ,fle%4 ,! real mode ( life & diet %\ld be *ang$ if ! fat w\ld be r$uc$4 ,if necess>y1 procure a pair ( scales & weigh ! diff]5t foods t are tak5 into ! sy/em4 ,r$uce ! diet !n to ab\t f\r ounces ( />* or sug> mat]ial p] day1 "o & a half ounces ( fat1 tak5 *iefly 9 ! =m ( butt]1 & ab\t six or sev5 ounces ( album9\s food1 su* z lean meat or fi%4 ,?is is ! m9imum t %\ld be resort$ to1 & ! pati5t c take m ( ea* at fir/ & r$uce ! diet gradually to ?is po9t4 ,! proportion ( ! diff]5t food comp\nds1 h[ev]1 ) ! exception ( figs1 dates1 grapes & nuts1 %\ld also be eat5 daily1 & "o-?ird ( a p\nd ( "s ( ! foll[+ vegetables3 asp>agus1 turnips1 cucumb]s1 p>sley1 wat]cress1 cel]y1 kale or cabbage4 ,fluids h a fatt5+ t5d5cy1 & !y mu/ be tak5 9 small quantities4 ,! dr9k+ %\ld be conf9$ to tea1 c(fee or wat]1 & nev] %\ld be tak5 at mealtime1 nor )9 "o h\r ( a meal4 ,?is is p]emptory1 = food w produce fat mu* quick] & sur] :5 wat]$ by "s good bev]age4 ,refre%+ ,sleep4 ,:at is ! correct me?od to pursue 9 prep>+ = a trip into dreaml&1 = !re is a "r z well z a wrong way8 ,! bus9ess ( disrob+ %\ld be s sy/ematiz$ t att5d+ to all ! little niceties includ$ 9 ! process w become1 aft] a :ile1 second nature4 ,!re is some?+ m to be done1 let u assure y1 9 addition to putt+ y\r hair up 9 curl-pap]s & dabb+ a bit ( cold cream on y\r face1 if y w\ld wake up 9 ! morn+ look+ z fre% z a rose4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 d n put (f ^! important prep>ations until y are s heavy-lidd$ t y are ready to give ev]y?+ belong+ to ! toilet ! g by4 ,& n[ = ! fir/ /ep4 ,e>ly 9 ! ev5+ y\r sleep+ ap>tm5ts %\ld be ?or\ghly air$ by dropp+ ! w9d[ f ! top & rais+ x at ! bottom4 ,! curr5t ( fre% air is especially important :5 ! room has be51 z s _m sleep+ ap>tm5ts are1 9 con/ant use all day4 ,t5 m9utes w be q suffici5t = ton+ up ! atmosph]e4 ,n[ close ! w9d[ & all[ ! room to become ?or\ghly w>m$1 t y may n exp]i5ce a *ill :ile tak+ a rub d[n4 ,prep>e a big b[l ( tepid wat]1 into :i* y spr9kle a small quantity ( ammonia or borax4 ,take a ,turki% t[el1 :i* is mu* bett] ?an a sponge1 wr+ x out z dry z possible1 &1 grasp+ a corn] 9 ea* h&1 give ! sp9e a vigor\s rubb+4 ,h at h& ano!r ,turki% t[el1 & z y ba! ! body 9 sections1 dry z quickly z possible4 ,f ! po9ts ( y\r rosy toes to ! curve ( y\r s(t ?roat y are a blu%+ model ( ! *>m+ effects ( ! ba?4 ,:5 f9i%$1 slip ov] y\r head a s(t little %irt1 high neck & %ort sleeves 7a :ite silk or lisle ?read is ! be/71 ! rosy sk9 b5ea? giv+ x ! appe>ance ( be+ l9$ ) p9k silk4 ,!n comes ! nightrobe1 & next ! pajama or l\ng+ robe1 :i* may be ( any?+1 f flannel to eid] d[n4 ,tuck y\r feet into a pair ( b$room slipp]s1 & y are ready to att5d to m9or details4 ,nev] ?9k ( retir+ 9 any article ( clo?+ :i* y h worn dur+ ! day4 ,su* a b>b>\s cu/om has no?+ :atev] 9 common ) heal? & ref9em5t4 ,nei!r is x well to disc>d ev]y?+ b y\r nightg[n1 = x is exce$+ly dang]\s to *ill ! sy/em by night draughts4 ,h[ to ,take ,c>e ( ! ,eyes4 ,avoid sudd5 *anges f d>kness to brilliant light4 ,avoid ! use ( /imulants & drugs :i* affect ! n]v\s sy/em4 ,avoid read+ :5 ly+ d[n or :5 m5tally & physically exhau/$4 ,:5 ! eyes feel tir$ re/ !m by look+ at objects at a long di/ance4 ,pay special att5tion to ! hygi5e ( ! body1 = t :i* t5ds to promote ! g5]al heal? acts b5eficially ^u ! eye4 ,d n dep5d on y\r own judgm5t 9 select+ spectacles4 ,old p]sons %\ld avoid read+ mu* by artificial light1 be gu>d$ z to diet & avoid sitt+ up late at night4 ,aft] fifty1 ba! ! eyes morn+ & ev5+ ) wat] s hot t y wond] h[ y /& x2 foll[ ?is ) cold wat] t w make !m gl[ ) w>m?4 ,d n give up 9 despair :5 y are in=m$ t a cat>act is develop+2 rememb] t 9 ^! days ( advanc$ surg]y x c be remov$ ) little or no dang] to vision4 ,nev] read 9 b$ or :5 ly+ ^u ! s(a4 ,sit ) y\r back to ! light z mu* z possible4 ,att5d to y\r dige/ion4 ,d n "w long] ?an two h\rs )\t clos+ y\r eyes & re/+ !m = five m9utes4 ,if y\r eyes are weak1 ba! !m 9 wat] to :i* a little salt & a little br&y h be5 add$4 ,! ,hair & ,h[ to ,take ,c>e ( ,x4 ,if ! hair has t s(t1 glossy look t tells ( regul> c>e1 & if x is well kept1 ) e p9 9 its place1 y may rely ^u x t its own] possesses ! in/9ct ( ladyhood4 ,ea* hair has t9y prongs or t5tacles1 some?+ l ^? on ! cockle bur1 :i* cat* ! du/2 h5ce ! especial ne$ ( bru%+4 ,at a lady's s*ool 9 ,engl&1 "s tw5ty ye>s ago1 ! girls 7 requir$ to bru% _! hair = fifte5 m9utes daily 9 ! long dress+-room1 & !y 7 tim$ at ?is exactly z if x 7 any o!r ex]cise4 ,occasionally ! hair & ! scalp ne$ wa%+1 z ! face1 ?\gh less (t5 if ! bru%+ be c>efully att5d$ to4 ,:51 h[ev]1 x beg9s to seem dirty1 give x a good %ampoo+4 ,wa% bo? hair & scalp ?or\ghly 9 a wa%b[l ( w>m wat] 9 :i* has be5 dissolv$ a tablespoonful ( p[d]$ borax2 !n r9se x well 9 cle> w>m wat]2 y w be surpris$ sometimes at ! complexion ( ! wat]4 ,_m wom5 dread ! %ampoo+ because ( _! liability to take cold 9 ! process4 ,let su* a p]son *oose a room :]e ! air is w>m & dry4 ,aft] wip+ ! hair ?or\ghly dry ) t[els1 & p9n+ a fre% "o ar\nd ! neck & %\ld]s1 let h] get "s "o to come & make a breeze ) a l>ge palm-leaf fan ^u h] hair :ile %e is engag$ 9 c>efully dis5tangl+ x ) a bru% & comb1 occasionally giv+ ! scalp a little vigor\s rubb+ if x beg9s to feel *illy4 ,! fann+ greatly ha/5s ! dry+ process4 ,ano!r plan is to lie d[n ) ! hair spread out on cu%ions 9 ! sun%9e4 ,be sure to get x ?or\ghly dry be=e putt+ x up4 ,an ,excell5t ,head ,cov]+4 ,a v pleasant /ep1 ?\gh n a necess>y "o1 next to take is to h a little ?9 silk mob-cap 7( "s pretty %ade ( silk1 s t x is becom+ r ?an disfigur+1 if ne$ful1 to we> ab\t ! home71 l9$1 & ?ickly wadd$ ) cotton-batt+1 well p[d]$ ) heliotrope or "s o!r delicate sa*et p[d] 7^! come 9 t5 or fifte5-c5t packages71 & we> ?is f "o to ?ree h\rs4 ,"h1 aga91 ^? ?\s&s ( m9ute t5tacles come into play2 !y cat* & reta9 7"o w\ld almo/ ?9k !y close ov] !m7 ! atoms ( ! p]fume :5 !y are ?us fre$ f du/1 & :5 ! hair is s(t & light 9 its new cleanness--& x is a/oni%+ = h[ long a "t ! hair w reta9 t fa9t1 delicate aroma :i* is s truly lovely 9 a woman's hair2 & all to be obta9$ 9 s simple & innoc5t a way z ) ?is little mob-cap1 put on at ! "r "t4 ,a good rule = ensur+ ! regul> bru%+ ( ! hair1 :i* may be taught to *ildr5 7& p]haps good = busy wom5 also71 is to bru% ! hair ) fifty long /rokes bo? at morn+ & at night4 ,mu* also dep5ds ^u ! bru%4 ,let x n be /iff en\gh to hurt ! scalp4 ,*oose a bru% ( m$ium /iffness1 ) bri/les long & close toge!r1 & n[h]e w x pay bett]1 9 ! long run1 to give a good price = a good article ?an 9 a woman's hairbru% :i* %e proposes to use z describ$ above4 ,d n use a f9e-too? comb4 ,frequ5t wa%+ w remove ! d&ruff 9 all cases1 & )\t ! injury caus$ to ! scalp by ! f9e comb4 ,x is also well to clip ! ends ( ! hair regul>ly once a mon?1 keep+ x smoo? & ev51 besides1 z is ?\ght by "s /imulat+ ! gr[? & keep+ x 9 a m heal?y condition4 ,p]sev]ance 9 ?is treatm5t w give ! hair a f9e natural gloss1 & a heal?y tone4 ,x w t5d to prev5t its fall+ out1 & w also help to pres]ve its natural color mu* long] ?an if x 7 neglect$4 ,%[ me a woman1 said a wise matron ! o!r day1 ?\gh %e be 9 ! busie/ f>m]'s kit*5 9 ,am]ica1 :o may always be f\nd ) h] hair neatly & c>efully arrang$ & ) a fre% l95 coll>1 & ,i w %[ y a lady 9 m9d & mann]s4 ,^? two po9ts always settle ! re/ 9 my op9ion6 ,recipe = ! ,complexion4 ,a mixture = pres]v+ ! complexion1 easily made at home1 is z foll[s3 take a w9eglassful ( ! be/ ,fr5* orange fl[] wat]4 ,add a t9y p9* ( c>bonate ( soda & two teaspoonfuls ( glyc]9e4 ,melt a piece ( camphor ! size ( a pea & ?ree teaspoonfuls ( cologne wat] & add to ! orange fl[] wat]4 ,%ake ! :ole = five m9utes4 ,apply to ! face e night4 ,c>e ( ! ,lips4 ,! ,cupid's b[ 9 da9ty curves has always be5 symbolical ( a p]fect m\?1 & lips mo/ kissable h nev] be5 repres5t$ z o!r ?an p9k & p]fect4 ,no o!r portion ( ! face1 h[ev]1 s quickly responds to symptoms ( ill-heal? 9 ! body z d ! lips4 ,fev] bli/]s are ! disfigur+ rem9d]s ( a cold2 dry1 brok5 or bloodless lips %[ t "o is out ( sorts1 ev5 m c]ta9ly ?an heavy eye or deject$ mi51 & x is a woman's duty to endeavor to re/ore !m to _! s(t1 ri* r$ness1 :i* is ! outw>d & visible sign ( good heal?4 ,to d ?is ! g5]al sy/em mu/ be ton$ up1 diet regulat$1 & a regul> h\se-clean+ gone into2 b !re are c]ta9 defects ( ! lips t c be ov]come )\t all ?is tr\ble1 because !y arise f a woman's own fault4 ,_m ( u1 f n]v\sness1 or habit1 h a way ( bit+ our lips :i* w surely result 9 swell+1 bruise or dryness t is bo? uncom=table & unpleasant to look at4 ,!re=e1 ! fir/ /ep is to break (f s p]nici\s a practice by wat*+ "o's self v c>efully4 ,next1 ano9t ! poor1 bruis$ memb]s ) "s heal+ salve ( a pure make4 ,d n1 h[ev]1 ?9k to cure *app$ lips by ano9t+ !m aft] be+ out 9 ! air4 ,! "t = treatm5t is be=e ! mis*ief is done1 putt+ on a little cold cream e "t y />t out = a walk1 :i* y w f9d highly b5eficial & w keep y\r lips 9 w9t] j z sweet & rosy z :5 ! mild] zephyrs ( summ] rule ! air4 ,rem$ies = ! ,lips4 ,a writ] ^: k ( su* subjects is beyond "q says t glyc]9e & rose wat] %\ld nev] be us$ to s(t5 ! lips1 z ?is rem$y has "o great drawback1 namely1 t x induces ! gr[? ( sup]flu\s hair1 a w>n+ :i* all wom5 w gladly he$1 = no "o desires to pose z a be>d$ lady4 ,:5 cold sores appe> rub !m ) cold cream1 be+ c>eful n to break !m1 & !y w soon disappe>4 ,! reason t !y usually cl+ s long is1 t !y are tamp]$ ) by rubb+ or bit+1 & !re=e _c h a *ance to heal prop]ly1 z !y w\ld if left alone4 ,! same writ] :o w>ns u aga9/ glyc]9e & rose wat] is a /rong advocate ( hot wat]1 & affirms t !re is sc>cely any ailm5t t w n succumb to its heal+ virtues4 ,!re=e1 ) cold cream & hot wat] "o %\ld be able to pres5t to ! _w a pair ( rosy lips free f any unsightly blemi%es4 ,smoo?+ ,out ! ,wr9kles4 ,wr9kles are1 ( c\rse1 ! special dete/ation ( e woman1 & :5 !y beg9 to make _! appe>ance1 "o ( ! mo/ p]plex+ que/ions is z to h[ !y c be remov$1 or at lea/ ! evil h\r ( _! com+ be put (f = a "t4 ,!re has rec5tly be5 a good deal ( nons5se pr9t$ 9 v>i\s *annels z to ?is subject1 & "o ( ! mo/ *]i%$ fads is t ! /eam+ ( ! face w remove !m4 ,?is is "o ( ^? half-tru?s :i* are simply deceit & disappo9tm5t4 ,wr9kles appe> because ! f9e muscles ( ! face lose _! tone1 ! tissue %r9ks1 & ! sk9 fits itself to ! depressions :i* are ?us left4 ,x is a mi/ake to suppose t wr9kles c be :olly eradicat$1 especially ^? :i* are due to advanc+ ye>s4 ,let u gr[ old gracefully & accept ! inevitable ) ! be/ grace possible4 ,a *e]ful disposition w d wond]s t[>d light+ up ! face & mak+ "o's fri5ds =get or ov]look entirely ! signs ( advanc+ ye>s4 ,b wr9kles frequ5tly come on prematurely1 & prove extremely vexati\s4 ,x is unque/ionably true t a prop]1 ?or\gh & c>eful c\rse ( face massage w d a good deal to help ?+s1 :]e ! sk9 has become dull & lifeless1 z w especially happ5 9 cases ( g5]al decl9e or ill heal?4 ,f two to f\r times dur+ ea* tw5ty-f\r h\rs ! face %\ld be g5tly b sy/ematically rubb$1 ! be/ me?od be+ to employ a f9e t[el or a bit ( r$ flannel4 ,! f+] ends answ] v well1 b x is q difficult to use !m )\t we>9ess4 ,x w be notic$ aft] a few days t ! sk9 is ga9+ 9 tone & vigor1 :5 ! degree ( vigor employ$ may prop]ly be increas$4 ,bad air is "o ( ! mo/ pot5t causes ( wr9kles & ! rem$y1 ( c\rse1 is ! gett+ ( good air4 ,excell5ce ( ! highe/ degree may n be atta9able2 if n1 let u get ! be/ we c4 ,) good air %\ld come good liv+ & pl5ty ( nutriti\s food1 especially t :i* has fat-produc+ qualities4 ,massage ( ! face is well recomm5d$1 us+ a light1 g5tle1 circul> motion ( ! f+]s1 :ile mu* may be done by cultivat+ flexibility & volunt>y motions ( ! muscles ( ! face1 especially ^? affect+ ! wr9kl$ portions4 ,& x may n be amiss1 ?\gh x be a delicate matt]1 to sugge/ t an ov]work$1 ?ankless1 hopeless life w inevitably wr9kle ! faire/ face ) furr[s t no ag5cy ?is side ( ! grave c remove1 till ! cause %all h be5 lift$4 ,! ,fem99e ,wai/4 ,we h already _h occasion to discuss ! "q ( small wai/s & ! abuse ( proportions t tight-lac+ frequ5tly entails4 ,we h only to consid] n[ ! caprices ( fa%ion ) reg>d to l5g?4 ,sometimes ?is fickle goddess s5ds our wai/s up "u our arms1 & !n a reaction sets 91 & !y l5g!n gradually till ! po9ts & basques ( our bodices rea* v ne>ly to our knees4 ,( ! two extremes1 ! m sanit>y1 z well z ! m arti/ic1 is ! =m]1 b ^! consid]ations h little effect on ! arrangem5ts ( fa%ion4 ,! weight ( clo?+ %\ld hang z little z possible f ! wai/4 ,_m wom5 believe t x is bett] t x %\ld come f ! hips ?an f ! %\ld]s1 b ! te/imony ( all m$ical m5 is cle> & indisputable on ?is subject4 ,nor is x ^u hygi5ic gr\nds alone t ?is is objectionable4 ,?is weight f ! hips de/roys all fre$om ( movem5t1 j z ! tight corset deprives ! body ( all ! suppl5ess & flexibility giv5 x by nature4 ,! belt is1 on a p]fect figure1 an int]ruption to h>moni\s l9es t c\ld well be disp5s$ )4 ,on an imp]fect figure x is excusable1 :5 associat$ ) a =m ( bodice t seems to require to be conf9$1 su* z ! loosely plait$ or ga!r$ bodice sometimes worn4 ,ov] a tight bodice ! belt has no reason = be+1 & is absurdly out ( place4 ,= ?is & also sanit>y reasons we feel incl9$ to condemn x4 ,beautiful ,arms4 ,beautiful arms are a p[]ful weapon 9 ! armory ( beauty2 b ?\gh mo/ wom5 appreciate to ! full ! *>m ( ?is possession1 ! fact rema9s t 9 ,am]ica undevelop$ arms are ! rule1 & r\nd$1 dimpl$ symmetry ! exception4 ,lately1 h[ev]1 ! gymnasium is produc+ *>m+ arms4 ,ex]cise is ess5tial to ! developm5t ( ! arms3 ex]cise1 t is1 ( ! arms !mselves4 ,gymna/ic ex]cises t br+ ! muscles ( ^! into play %\ld be1 z f> z possible1 enc\rag$ 9 girls1 z t5d+ n only to _! improvem5t 9 ?is p>ticul>1 b z be+ b5eficial to ! g5]al heal?4 ,arms disproportionately l>ge z comp>$ to ! re/ ( ! frame are1 on ! o!r h&1 at lea/ equally disagreeable ) ^? we h be5 discuss+4 ,v l>ge arms c>ry ) !m a sugge/ion ( co>s5ess t is unpleasant z associat$ ) a woman4 ,x is1 z we h said be=e1 impossible to give ! exact proportions :i* "o portion ( ! human frame %\ld be> to ! re/4 ,! ideal arm1 h[ev]1 %\ld gradually decrease 9 size f ! %\ld] to ! wri/1 ! outl9es be+ m>k$ by ^? inw>d curves :i* are also noticeable 9 well-=m$ %\ld]s4 ,! wri/ %\ld be sl5d] )\t be+ ?91 ! bone at ! out] side be+ well cov]$ & indicat$ r by dimples ?an o!rwise4 ,!re is an old rule = measurem5t t approa*es accuracy 9 "s degree4 ,we give x = :at x may be wor?1 advis+ our read]s n to p9 _! fai? to x too implicitly4 ,twice r\nd ! ?umb1 once r\nd ! wri/2 twice r\nd ! wri/1 once r\nd ! neck2 twice r\nd ! neck1 once r\nd ! wai/4 ,! r\nde/ arms 9 ! _w fail to be beautiful if !y are r$4 ,!re are beautiful :ite arms1 br[n arms1 copp]-color$ arms1 & ev5 black arms1 b beautiful r$ arms are n4 ,?is fault is seldom to be f\nd ) ! arms ( ladies1 :i* are s con/antly kept cov]$ z to be protect$ f ! influ5ces ( wea!r4 ,x is *>act]i/ic ( a cook1 a dairymaid1 a h\semaid1 a field-h&1 to h r$ arms1 & x is probably f ?is association t !y h fall5 into su* extreme disrepute4 ,! use ( violet-p[d] may be condon$ :5 x modifies ! contra/ betwe5 r$ arms & :ite ev5+ dresses4 ,! application be+ only tempor>y1 x c only v slightly affect ! well-be+ ( ! pores1 b x %\ld be v c>efully us$1 or x w come (f on ! coat sleeves ( ! p>tn]s ( ! r$-arm$ "o4 ,:5 ! arms are v ?9 ! sleeves %\ld n be too tight1 ?\gh1 z a rule1 ?9 arms d n look at all badly 9 tight sleeves4 ,:5 ! arms are too long1 _! app>5t l5g? may be dim9i%$ by crossway trimm+s on ! sleeve4 ,:51 on ! contr>y1 ! arms are disproportionately %ort1 a l5g?wise trimm+ w rem$y ! defect4 ,! sleeve ( to-day is a bless+ 9 disguise = ladies ) ?9 arms4 ,! leg-(-mutton 7gigot7 sleeve 0 inv5t$ to conceal defects 9 ! arm1 & to make ! wai/ appe> small by contra/ ) ! size ( ! sleeves4 ,puffs at ! %\ld] give grace & delicacy to ! neck & head4 ,! pagoda sleeves1 copi$ f ! ,*9ese1 be+ wide & op51 cause ! h&s to appe> small] by contra/ ) ! ap]ture f :i* !y em]ge2 b :5 ! sleeve is exagg]at$ly l>ge & wide1 ! effect ( ! contra/ is lo/1 ! sleeve los+ itself 91 & m+l+ )1 ! re/ ( ! drap]ies4 ,! epaulette worn "s ye>s ago is useful z giv+ wid? to n>r[ %\ld]s4 ,! ,l\is ,,xv41 or sabot sleeve1 tight to ! elb[1 & end+ 9 a frill ( lace1 is p]haps ! mo/ becom+ ( all sleeves to a really pretty arm1 :ile ! sleeve op5 to ! %\ld] is ! mo/ try+ to a defective outl9e4 ,treatm5t = ! ,h&s4 ,! h&s ( gr[+ girls are (t5 r$ & clumsy1 & girls :o are beg9n+ to take ?\ght ( _! appe>ance are sometimes 9 despair ab\t !m1 n be+ aw>e t !y w gr[ :it] & :it] ) e ye>4 ,! ideal h& is :ite1 c]ta9ly1 b n dead :ite4 ,x %\ld h a da% ( heal?y fle%-t9ts4 ,! tips ( ! f+]s & ! portions t surr\nd ! palm %\ld be t+$ ) p9k4 ,! f+]s %\ld tap] t[>ds ! nails1 ! mo/ approv$ %ape = :i* is ! filb]t1 s call$ f its resemblance to ! oval =m ( ! nut ( t "n1 & ! simil>ity ( ! direction ( ! l9es ( ! nail to ^? on ! wood ( ! nut4 ,scissors & ,nail-bru%4 ,! appe>ance ( :ite spots on ! nails is caus$ by knocks or bl[s4 ,to obviate ! appe>ance ( su* spots ! h&s mu/ be tak5 c>e ( & ! nails di/urb$ z little z possible4 ,:5 ! nails become /a9$ or discolor$1 a little lemon juice is ! be/ ag5t to employ z a corrective4 ,x is equally valuable 9 discoloration ( ! sk94 ,! c>e ( ! nails1 %\ld be /rictly limit$ to ! use ( ! knife or scissors to _! free bord]1 & ( ! ivory press] to _! base1 to prev5t ! adhesion ( ! free m>g9 ( ! sc>f-sk9 to ! surface ( ! nail & its =w>d gr[? ^u x4 ,! edge ( sc>f-sk9 %\ld nev] be p>$1 nor surface ( ! nail ev] scrap$1 nor %\ld ! nails be clean$ ) any in/rum5t :atev] except ! nail-bru%4 ,!re is no rule = ! managem5t ( ! nail ( great] importance ?an t :i* prescribes ! press+ back ( ! edge ( ! sc>f-sk9 :i* =ms ! b\nd>y ( ! base ( ! nail4 ,?is m>g9 is naturally adh]5t to ! surface ( ! nail1 & has a t5d5cy to gr[ =w>d ) x & become ragg$ & att5uat$4 ,:5 all[$ to d s1 ! ragg$ edge is apt to split up into %r$s1 & ^! project+ f ! surface1 are pull$ & torn1 & (t5 occasion a lac]ation ( ! sk9 & a pa9ful w\nd4 ,! occurr5ce ( ^! little %r$s1 d5om9at$ agnails1 may be effectually prev5t$ by ! regul> use ( ! press] once or twice a week4 ,x mu/ be us$ ) g5tl5ess4 ,! foll[+ is said to be an excell5t prep>ation = mak+ ! h&s :ite2 & z x _c possibly injure !m1 we give x a place "h4 ,take z mu* scrap$ hors]adi% z w fill a tablespoon2 p\r on x half-a-p9t ( hot milk4 ,use x be=e wa%+1 all[+ x to dry on ! h&s be=e apply+ ! wat]4 ,r$ness & *app+ are sometimes caus$ by ! h&s be+ imp]fectly dri$4 ,! greate/ c>e %\ld be tak5 9 dry+ !m1 m especially 9 cold wea!r1 & :5 ! h&s are expos$ to cold w9ds4 ,if ! h&s become r\gh f any cause1 ! foll[+ may be appli$ ) good effect3 ,half fill a bas9 ) f9e s& & soap-suds1 z hot z c be borne4 ,bru% & rub ! h&s ?or\ghly ) hot s&4 ,! be/ is fl9t s&1 or ! p[]$ qu>tz sold = filt]s4 ,x may be us$ repeat$ly by p\r+ ! wat] away & add+ fre%4 ,r9se ! h&s 9 a w>m la!r ( f9e soap1 !n clean cold wat]4 ,:ile !y are /ill wet1 put into ! palm ( ea* h& a v small piece ( almond cream & rub x all ov] !m4 ,?is1 aga91 =ms a /rong la!r4 ,aft] dry+ ! h&s1 rub !m 9 dry bran or p[d]$ />* till e atom ( moi/ure is absorb$1 & f9i% by du/+ (f ! bran or />*4 ,?is w make ! h&s v s(t & smoo?4 ,to ,cure ,burn+ ( ! ,sk94 ,occasionally ! h&s & face become r$ & flu%$ :ile ! feet are cold4 ,?is v uncom=table /ate ( ?+s may be effectually rem$i$ by ba?+ ! feet 9 hot wat] ) a tablespoonful ( ,kretol 9 x4 ,?is w frequ5tly be f\nd an imm$iate cure = heada*e1 b mu/ n be attempt$ j be=e go+ out 9 cold or damp wea!r4 ,a simple rem$y is to wa% ! face & h&s 9 v w>m wat]1 z hot z c be borne4 ,?is w frequ5tly dispel ! burn+ s5sation & induce a cool] condition ( ! sk94 ,a slice ( raw potato rubb$ well into !m w remove /a9s f ! f+]s & h&s4 ,lemon juice is also effective 9 ?is way1 &1 if n us$ immod]ately1 may be appli$ )\t fe> ( evil consequ5ces4 ,= *app$ h&s & lips ! foll[+ w be f\nd efficaci\s3 ,equal quantities ( :ite wax 7wax c&le7 & sweet oil2 dissolve 9 ^! a small piece ( camphor2 put x 9 a jam crock1 & place x ^u ! hob till melt$4 ,x mu/ be kept closely cov]$4 ,x %\ld be appli$ to ! h&s aft] wa%+1 & previ\s to dry+ !m4 ,a few drops ( glyc]9e p\r$ into ! palms ( ! h&s aft] wa%+1 & rubb$ all ov] !m be=e dry+ ) a t[el1 is p]haps ! be/ & simple/ rem$y = *app+2 b if good soap is always us$1 & ! h&s well dri$ & protect$ by w>m gloves aga9/ ! cold1 ! *app+ w be prev5t$1 :i* is pref]able to ! v be/ cures4 ,rem$y = ,*ilbla9s4 ,*ilbla9s may be cur$ v spe$ily by rubb+ into !m morn+ & ev5+ z mu* spirits ( turp5t9e z !y w absorb4 ,?is mu/ n be appli$ to brok5 *ilbla9s1 b if tak5 9 "t x w prev5t _! break+4 ,! wat] 9 :i* potatoes h be5 boil$ is an excell5t rem$y = *ilbla9s on feet or h&s4 ,^! memb]s %\ld be put into ! wat] :ile x is z hot z c be borne4 ,! same specific applies equally to :at are call$ :itl[s1 or felons a ga!r+ 9 ! region ( ! f+]-nail t is extremely pa9ful1 & to :i* "s are con/itutionally liable4 ,:5 ! feet are l>ge1 ! own]s %\ld nev] be tempt$ into we>+ any b ! v pla9e/ boots & %oes4 ,ornam5tation ( any k9d makes ! foot look l>g]4 ,ev5 a pretty foot looks its be/ 9 a p]fectly pla9 sat9 slipp]1 ) only a small rosette ) buckle on ! toe4 ,?is rosette mu/ n1 h[ev]1 be p]mitt$ to ! l>ge foot4 ,x may1 c]ta9ly1 be worn on ! place int5d$ = ! in/ep1 :5 t ornam5tal rise 9 ! outl9e ( ! foot is totally abs5t4 ,l9es ( :ite /it*+ on ! boot make x look l>g] ?an x really is4 ,! be/ boot = a l>ge foot is "o 9 :i* ! toe-cap comes well up on ! foot4 ,its l9es are ?us brok5 up1 & ! app>5t l5g? dim9i%$4 ,a pretty foot1 on ! contr>y1 looks bett] 9 a boot t has no toe-cap1 ! upp] ( :i* is made all 9 "o4 ,?is displays to advantage ! beautiful outl9e ( ! foot1 & ! g5tle b decid$ curve ( ! in/ep4 ,! possessors ( l>ge feet %\ld be p>ticul>ly c>eful to h _! boots p]fectly clean$ & v glossy4 ,! feet look mu* small] :5 ?is is ! case ?an :5 ! boot has a rim ( mud ar\nd ! sole & a %ad[ ( du/ ^u ! upp]s4 ,:]e ! in/ep is defective or totally abs5t1 a pret5ce at "o may be made by black+ t portion ( ! sole ( ! foot t is imm$iately adjac5t to ! heel4 ,?is causes a k9d ( optical illusion :i* is favorable to ! flat-foot$4 ,pat5t lea!r is a mo/ objectionable mat]ial = we>+ ^u ! feet4 ,?r\gh x v5tilation is absolutely impossible4 ,s mu* = ! sanit>y "p ( ! subject2 & z to conv5i5ce1 ?is is z mu* 9 ! %ade z sanitation1 = pat5t lea!r draws ! feet mu* m ?an any o!r k9d4 ,( late1 ladies & *ildr5 h begun to borr[ ?is mat]ial f g5tlem51 b z mu* small] %oes c be worn ) com=t 9 any o!r k9d ( lea!r1 x is n likely to become univ]sally popul>4 ,l>ge feet %\ld nev] be clad 9 sat94 ,foot-,we>4 ,! fit ( ! /ock+ is almo/ z ess5tial to ! p]fection ( ! foot z t ( ! boot or ! %oe itself4 ,x %\ld be l>ge en\gh to all[ fre$om to ! toes1 & n s l>ge z to wr9kle on ! foot4 ,9 a well-fitt+ /ock+ ! foot c be m accurately measur$ ?an o!rwise1 & ! com=t ( ! foot is sadly imp$$ by an ill-fitt+ "o4 ,! feet %\ld be ba!d e morn+1 & = ^? :o walk mu*1 a daily *ange ( /ock+s is advisable4 ,?is daily *ange is m ?an advisable1 x is necess>y1 = p]sons :o suff] f p]spir+ feet4 ,regul> wa%+ ( ! feet pres]ves _! /r5g? & ela/icity1 & helps to keep !m 9 %ape4 ,at lea/ once a week !y %\ld be wa%$ 9 hot wat]1 ) pl5ty ( soap1 rubb+ !m ) a ball ( s&/one1 :i* w be f\nd a v useful article = toilet purposes1 also a tablespoonful ( ,kretol 9 ! wat]4 ,! nails %\ld !n be c>efully p>$1 &1 9 dry+ ! feet1 mu* friction %\ld be us$ 9 ord] to /imulate ! sk9 to heal?y action4 ,:5 corns appe>1 !y may be accept$ ) resignation z lifelong acqua9tances4 ,seldom1 inde$1 d !y quit ! victim1 :o has invit$ !m by ill-advis$ p9*+s & squeez+s4 ,all t "o c d is to keep !m "u control by con/ant c>e4 ,! treatm5t recomm5d$ is ! same z t us$ = w>ts--viz41 to p>e ! h>d & dry sk9 f ! tops1 & !n t\* !m ) ! smalle/ drop ( acetic acid1 tak+ c>e t ! acid does n run (f ! w>t ^u ! neighbor+ sk91 :i* w\ld occasion inflammation & mu* pa94 ,?is %\ld be done once or twice a day ) regul>ity4 ,we %\ld1 no d\bt1 easily get rid ( all our corns if we c\ld make up our m9ds to d )\t %oes1 or ev5 to we> !m ( su* a l>ge size z w\ld prev5t all pressure ^u ! corn4 ,?is disagreeable effect results q z (t5 f badly made boots z f injudici\sly tight ones4 ,!re is a p>ticul> knack to be obs]v$ 9 p>+ a corn4 ,x %\ld be cut 9 su* a mann] z to excavate ! c5t]1 :ile ! h>d5$ sides are left to protect ! m s5sitive portion aga9/ ! pressure ( ! boot4 ,:5 ! corn is small & yet "y1 ! be/ application is a piece ( s(t buff-lea!r spread ) adhesive pla/] & pi]c$ 9 ! c5t] ) a hole ( exactly ! size ( ! summit ( ! corn4 ,!re are two v>ieties ( corn1 ! h>d & ! s(t4 ,! latt] occurs betwe5 ! toes1 & is q z pa9ful z1 & less easily gu>d$ aga9/1 ?an ! h>d v>iety4