,transcrib]'s note ,m9or punctuation errors h be5 *ang$ )\t notice4 ,pr9t] errors h be5 *ang$ & are li/$ at ! end4 ,,conv]sation ,:at to ,say & ,h[ to ,say ,x ,,conv]sation ,:at to ,say & ,h[ to ,say ,x ,,by ,,m>y ,,gre] ,,conkl9 ,,funk ,,wagnalls ,,company ,,new ,,york ,,& ,,london #aiab ,,copyright1 #aiab1 ,,by ,,funk ,,wagnalls ,,company ,all rights res]v$ = all c\ntries ,pr9t$ 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates ( ,am]ica ,publi%$ ,novemb]1 #aiab ,,9 ,,lov+ ,,memory ,,to ,a4 ,e4 ,c4 ,,^: ,,delightful ,,conv]sation ,,/imulat$ ,,my ,,y\? ,,& ,,9 ,,grateful ,,ackn[l$gm5t ,,( ,,_! ,,sev]e ,,criticism ,,& ,,fri5dly ,,aid ,,to ,,*>les ,,t[ns5d ,,copel& ,,assi/ant ,,pr(essor ,,( ,,engli% ,,at ,,h>v>d ,,college ,,& ,,frank ,,wilson ,,*5ey ,,h]sey ,,in/ructor ,,9 ,,engli% ,,at ,,h>v>d ,,college ,,preface ,! be/ book t 0 ev] writt5 ^u good bre$+1 said ,dr4 ,johnson to ,boswell1 ! be/ book1 ,i tell y1 ,il ,cortegiano by ,ca/iglione1 grew up at ! little c\rt ( ,urb9o1 & y %\ld read x4 ,il ,cortegiano 0 fir/ publi%$ by ! ,ald9e ,press at ,v5ice1 9 #aebh4 ,be=e ! close ( ! c5tury m ?an "o hundr$ editions saw ! light2 ,fr5*1 ,spani%1 ,engli%1 & ,g]man v]sions foll[$ ea* o!r 9 rapid succession1 & ! ,cortegiano 0 univ]sally acclaim$ z ! mo/ popul> prose "w ( ! ,italian ,r5aissance4 ,h y read ,ca/iglione's ,cortegiano8 asks ! c\rti] ,malpiglio1 9 ,tasso's dialog4 ,! beauty ( ! book is su* t x des]ves to be read 9 all ages2 z long z c\rts endure1 z long z pr9ces reign & knights & ladies meet1 z long z valor & c\rtesy hold a place 9 our he>ts1 ! "n ( ,ca/iglione w be held 9 honor4 ,9 8 ,book ( ! ,c\rti]1 ,ca/iglione said v little ab\t p]fection ( spee*2 he discu/ only ! /&>d ( lit]>y language & ! prescrib$ limits ( ! vulg> tongue1 or ! ,italian 9 :i* ,petr>* & ,boccaccio _h writt54 ,:at he says ab\t grace1 h[ev]1 applies also to conv]sation3 ,i say t 9 ev]y?+ x is s h>d to "k ! true p]fection z to be well-nigh impossible2 & ?is because ( ! v>iety ( op9ions4 ,?us !re are _m :o w l a man :o speaks mu*1 & w call him pleas+2 "s w pref] mode/y2 "s o!rs an active & re/less man2 /ill o!rs "o :o %[s calmness & delib]ation 9 ev]y?+2 & s e man praises or decries accord+ to 8 m9d1 always clo?+ vice ) ! "n ( its k9dr$ virtue1 or virtue ) ! "n ( its k9dr$ vice2 = example1 call+ an impud5t man frank1 a mode/ man dull1 an ignorant man good1 a knave discreet1 & s 9 all ?+s else4 ,yet ,i believe t !re exi/s 9 ev]y?+ its own p]fection1 al?o conceal$2 & t ?is c be det]m9$ ?r\gh rational discussion by any hav+ k ( ! ?+ 9 h&4 ,if ?is sup]b c\rti] c\ld n rea* decisions reg>d+ p]fection 9 matt]s ( culture & poli%1 ,i c\ld sc>cely hope to h entirely reconcil$ ! cont5d+ phases ( conv]sation1 ev5 if ,i h succe$$ 9 impress+ positively ! evid5t faults to be avoid$1 & ! av[$ graces ( spee* to be atta9$4 ,) ,ca/iglione z a model ,i c only say reg>d+ conv]sation :at he said ab\t ! p]fect c\rti]3 ,i praise ! k9d ( c\rti] t ,i mo/ e/eem1 & approve him :o seems to me ne>e/ "r1 accord+ to my poor judgm5t4444 ,i only "k t x is worse n to wi% to d well ?an n to "k h[4 ,^? h]et(ore int]e/$ 9 agreeable spee* w at once recognize my obligation to ! few m5 & wom5 :o h writt5 ent]ta9+ly on conv]sation1 & f :om ,i h (t5 quot$4 ,my excuse = (f]+ a new treatm5t is t ,i may p]haps h succe$$ 9 br++ ! subject m )9 ! rea* ( ! g5]al public1 & to h writt5 m exhau/ively4 ,! d$uctions ,i h made are ! result ( an affectionate int]e/ 9 my subject & ( notes tak5 dur+ a p]iod ( _m ye>s4 ,if ! book af=ds read]s "o-half ! pleasure & /imulus x has br\ght to me1 my labors w be happily rew>d$4 ,beyond my *ief critics1 to :om ,i d$icate ?is volume1 ,i express my gratitude to ,mrs4 ,fannie ,bloomfield ,zeisl]1 ! piani/e1 & to ,dr4 ,h5rietta ,beck] von ,kl5ze1 =m]ly ( ! ,univ]sity ( ,*icago1 ^: int]e/ 9 all ,i h ev] attempt$ to d has be5 an unfail+ support1 & ^: sugge/ions h add$ value to ?is "w2 to ,dr4 ,gu/avus ,h[>d ,maynadi]1 ( ,h>v>d ,college1 = fri5dly assi/ance 9 _m ways2 & to ,mr4 ,george ,b5son ,we/on1 ( ,h>v>d ,college1 :o has be5 k9d en\gh to read ! manuscript1 & by ^: k ( ! lit]ature ( _m languages ,i h greatly pr(it$4 ,,bo/on1 ,,massa*usetts1 ,augu/1 #aiab4 ,,cont5ts ,*apt] ,i ,,introductory ,,:at ,,conv]sation ,,is ,,& ,,:at ,,x ,,is ,,n ,,page ,:at is ! aim ( conv]sation8--,! talk ( ,col]idge & ,macaulay--,br[n+'s delightful conv]sation--,:y we g into society--,! elem5ts ( good conv]sation--,:at x is n--,g5ius & s*ol>%ip n ess5tial to good conv]sation #ba ,*apt] ,,ii ,,discussion ,,v]sus ,,controv]sy ,dr4 ,johnson's & ,rob]t ,l\is ,/ev5son's op9ion ( discussion--,polit5ess & discussion--,! ho/ess 9 discussion--,flat contradiction 9 discussion--,polemical squabbles--,brilliant discussion 9 ,france--,! secret ( delightful conv]sation 9 ,france--,lead+ ! talk--,topics = discussion--,glad/one's conv]sation #ce ,*apt] ,,iii ,,gossip ,gossip 9 lit]ature--,gossip comes f be+ ( "o k9dr$ "u ,god--,gossip & ! misan?rope--,p]sonal hi/ory ( p we "k & p we don't "k--,gossip ( books ( biography--,int]e/ 9 o!rs gives fell[%ip & w>m? to life--,ess5tial diff]5ce betwe5 sl&] & innoc5t gossip--,! psy*ology ( ! sl&]]--,! apocryphal sl&]]--,talk+ beh9d ano!r's back--,p]sonal *at ! curr5t co9 ( conv]sation #fc ,*apt] ,,iv ,,:at ,,%\ld ,,gue/s ,,talk ,,ab\t ,,at ,,d9n]8 ,gue/s' talk dur+ ! qu>t] ( an h\r be=e d9n]--,:at gue/s may talk ab\t--,talk+ to "o's d9n]-companion--,gue/s' duty to ho/ & ho/ess--,! dom9ant note 9 table-talk--,g5]al & tete-a-tete conv]sation betwe5 gue/s--,! raconteur at d9n] #hi ,*apt] ,v ,,talk ,,( ,,ho/ ,,& ,,ho/ess ,,at ,,d9n] ,! amalgam = comb9+ gue/s--,ho/s' talk dur+ ! qu>t] ( an h\r be=e d9n]--,seat+ gue/s to enhance conv]sation--,numb] ( gue/s = ! be/ conv]sation--,direct+ ! conv]sation at d9n]--,draw+ gue/s out--,signal+ = conv]sation--,g5]al & tete-a-tete conv]sation--,putt+ /rang]s at ease--,/e]+ talk away f (f5sive topics--,! graci\s ho/ & ho/ess--,an ideal d9n] p>ty #aaa ,*apt] ,,vi ,,int]ruption ,,9 ,,conv]sation ,its dead5+ effect on conv]sation--,habitual int]ruption--,n]v\s int]ruption--,glib talk]s--,int]rupt+ by ov]-accuracy--,int]ruptions outside ! conv]sation-circle--,*ildr5 & _! int]ruption--,good talk at table--,anecdotes ( *ildr5's appreciation ( good conv]sation--,! ho/ess :o is ,mi/ress ( h]self ?o ,*9a fall #acc ,*apt] ,,vii ,,p[] ,,( ,,fitness1 ,,tact1 ,,& ,,nicety ,,9 ,,bus9ess ,,words4 ,:y cultivat+ ! social in/9ct adds /r5g? to bus9ess p]suasion--,secret ( ! ability to use tactful & vivid words 9 bus9ess--,ess5tial tra9+ necess>y to ! nice use ( words--,bus9ess success dep5ds ^u nicety & tact m ?an on any quality ( =ce #afa ,*apt] ,,viii ,,conclusion ,conv]sation is reciprocal--,good conv]sationali/s _c talk to ! be/ advantage )\t conf$]ates--,z 9 :i/ x is ! comb9ation :i* effects :at a s+le :i/-play+ g5ius _c accompli%--,good conv]sation does n m>k a di/9ction among subjects2 ,x d5otes a diff]5ce 9 talkability--,! diff]5t degrees ( talkability--,imp]turbable glibness imp$es good conv]sation--,ease ) :i* "o may improve "o's conv]sational p[]s #age ,,*apt] ,i ,,introductory ,,:at ,,conv]sation ,,is ,,& ,,:at ,,x ,,is ,,n ,:at ,is ! ,aim ( ,conv]sation8--,! ,talk ( ,col]idge & ,macaulay--,br[n+'s ,delightful ,conv]sation--,:y ,we ,g into ,society--,! ,elem5ts ( ,good ,conv]sation--,:at ,x ,is ,n--,g5ius & ,s*ol>%ip ,n ,ess5tial to ,good ,conv]sation4 ,,*apt] ,i ,,introductory ,,:at ,,conv]sation ,,is ,,& ,,:at ,,x ,,is ,,n ,good conv]sation is m easily def9$ by :at x is n ?an by :at x is4 ,to come to any conclusions on ?is subject1 "o %\ld fir/ det]m9e3 ,:at is ! aim ( conv]sation8 ,%\ld ! int5tion be to make int]c\rse ) our fell[s a free s*ool 9 :i* to acquire in=mation2 %\ld x be to dissem9ate k2 or %\ld ! object be to div]t & to amuse8 ,x might seem t any p]son ) a good subject mu/ talk well & be int]e/+4 ,alas6 highly cultivat$ p are sometimes ! mo/ sil5t4 ,or1 if !y talk well1 !y are likely to talk too well to be good conv]sationali/s1 z did ,col]idge & ,macaulay1 :o talk$ long & h>d ab\t int]e/+ subjects1 b 7 nev]!less record$ z bores 9 conv]sation because !y talk$ at p in/ead ( talk+ ) !m4 ,9 society ,br[n+ 0 delightful 9 8 talk4 ,he w\ld n discuss poetry1 & 0 z communicative on ! subject ( a s&wi* or ! adv5tures ( "s woman's tra9 at ! la/ draw+-room z on m weighty subjects4 ,?o to "s he may h seem$ obscure 9 8 art1 all agre$ t he 0 simple & natural 9 8 disc\rse4 ,:atev] he talk$ ab\t1 !re c\ld n be a mom5t's d\bt z to 8 mean+4 ,f ^! facts conc]n+ ?ree m5 ( g5ius1 x c be inf]r$ t we d n g into society to get in/ruction gratis2 t good conv]sation is n necess>ily a vehicle ( in=mation2 t to be natural1 easy1 gay1 is ! cate*ism ( good talk4 ,no matt] h[ le>n$ a man is1 he is (t5 ?r[n ) ord9>y mortals2 & ! ord9>y mortals h z mu* "r to talk z ! extraord9>y ones4 ,"o c conceive1 on ! o!r h&1 t :5 g5iuses h leisure to mix 9 society _! desire is to escape f ! que/ions :i* daily burd5 _! m9ds4 ,if !y pref] to conf9e !mselves to an int]*ange ( ideas ap>t f _! special "w1 !y h a "r to d s4 ,9 ?is %r9k+ ( p ( g5ius f discuss+ ! v subjects ) reg>d to :i* _! op9ion is mo/ valuable1 !re is no d\bt a great loss to ! _w4 ,b unless !y !mselves br+ =? ! topic ( _! art1 x mu/ rema9 9 abeyance4 ,society has no "r to =ce _! m5tion+ x4 ,?is leads u1 !n1 to ! conclusion t ! aim ( conv]sation is to di/ract1 to int]e/1 to amuse2 n to tea* nor to be taught1 unless incid5tally4 ,9 good conv]sation p give _! *>m1 _! gaiety1 _! humor1 c]ta9ly--& _! wisdom1 if !y w4 ,b conv]sation :i* ess5tially ent]ta9s is n ess5tially nons5se4 ,"s "o has drawn ?is subtle di/9ction3 ,i ent] a room full ( pleasant p z ,i g to see a picture1 or li/5 to a song1 or z ,i dance--t ,i may amuse myself1 & invigorate myself1 & raise my natural spirits1 & laugh dull c>e away4 ,true1 !re mu/ be ideas1 z 9 all amusem5ts wor?y ( ! "n !re is a c]ta9 s]i\sness impossible to def9e2 only !y mu/ be kept 9 ! backgr\nd4 ,! aim & design ( conv]sation is1 !re=e1 pleasure4 ,?is agre$1 we c det]m9e its elem5ts4 ,conv]sation1 above all1 is dialog1 n monolog4 ,x is a p>tn]%ip1 n an individual affair4 ,x is li/5+ z well z talk+4 ,monopoliz+ tyrants ( society :o w all[ no dog to b>k 9 _! pres5ce are n conv]sationali/s2 !y are lectur]s4 ,!re are pl5ty ( p :o1 z ,mr4 ,b5son says1 possess e qualification = conv]s+ except ! p[] to conv]se4 ,!re are pl5ty ( p :o deliv] "o monolog aft] ano!r & call _! talk conv]sation4 ,! good conv]sationali/s are n ! ones :o dom9ate ! talk 9 any ga!r+4 ,!y are ! p :o h ! grace to contribute some?+ ( _! own :ile g5]\sly draw+ out ! be/ t is 9 o!rs4 ,!y haz>d topics = discussion & endeavor ea* to give to ! o!r ! *ance ( enl>g+ ^u !m4 ,conv]sation is ! int]*ange ( ideas2 x is ! will+ness to communicate ?\ght on all subjects1 p]sonal & univ]sal1 & 9 turn to li/5 to ! s5tim5ts ( o!rs reg>d+ ! ideas advanc$4 ,good conv]sation is ! nimbl5ess ( m9d to take ! *ance ^w or ! accid5tal subject & play ^u x1 & make x pass f gue/ to gue/ at d9n] or 9 ! draw+-room4 ,x is ! discussion ( any topic :atev]1 f religion to ! fa%ions1 & ! avoidance ( any phase ( any subject :i* might /ir ! irascible talk] to controv]sy4 ,z expre/ by ,c[p] 9 8 essay1 ,conv]sation3 ,ye p[]s :o rule ! tongue1 if su* !re are1 ,& make colloquial happ9ess y\r c>e1 ,pres]ve me f ! ?+ ,i dread & hate-- ,a duel 9 ! =m ( a debate4 ,we>+ "o's he>t on "o's sleeve is good = "o conv]sationally4 ,ready conv]s]s are p :o give _! ?\ght to o!rs 9 abundance2 :o make o!rs feel a famili> he>tbeat4 ,no "o c approa* s ne> to u z ! s9c]e talk]1 ) 8 sympa?y & 8 will+ utt]ances4 ,lu!r1 :o /&s out z "o ( ! giants ( ! ,r5aissance1 came into close human t\* ) 8 fri5ds 9 talk2 9 conv]sation ) him !y c\ld always feel 8 fi]ce & /eady pulse4 ,ano!r elem5t ( successful conv]sation is good-humor$ tol]ance1 ! will+ness to be> rubs unavoidably occasion$4 ,! talk] :o cavils at any?+ t is said /ops conv]sation m ?an if he answ]$ only yes or no to all rem>ks addre/ to him4 ,/ill ano!r elem5t ( good conv]sation is ! "r sort ( gossip2 gossip :i* is contempor>y & pa/ hi/ory ( p we "k & ( p we don't "k2 gossip :i* is 9 no way a temptation to detract4 ,raill]y may also become a legitimate "p ( good conv]sation1 if ! ridicule is l a good p>ody ( good lit]ature--9 no way malignant or commonplace4 ,%op1 if nicely adju/$ to ! conv]sational conditions1 may h its rightful %>e 9 int]e/+ talk4 ,fri5ds (t5 meet toge!r j to talk ?+s ov]1 to get ea* o!r's po9t ( view1 to he> ea* o!r tell ( 8 own affairs1 ( 8 "w & ( 8 progress4 ,%op talk 0 sometimes ! ess5ce ( ^? fam\s conv]sations ( ! sev5te5? c5tury c(fee-h\se4 ,anecdotes are a natural "p ( conv]sation1 b !y become ! bane ( talk unless kept 9 /rict re/ra9t4 ,!re are times :5 good conv]sation is mom5t>y sil5ce r ?an spee*4 ,x is only ! h>angu]s :o feel x _! duty to break 9 ) idle & ins9c]e *att] ^u a pleasant & natural pause4 ,a "p ( ! good fell[%ip ( acceptable conv]sation is :at "o might call int]e/ que/ions4 ,int]e/ que/ions are j :at ! words imply1 & h ab\t !m no suspicion ( ! inquisitive & imp]t95t cate*iz+ :i* only fools1 & n ev5 knaves1 indulge 94 ,! negative phase ( conv]sation may l>gely gr[ out ( a discussion ( ! positive4 ,by discov]+ :at conv]sation is1 we f9d1 9 a measure1 :at x is n4 ,x is n monolog nor monopoliz+2 x is n lectur+ nor h>angu+2 x is n detract+ gossip2 x is n ill-tim$ %op talk2 x is n controv]sy nor debate2 x is n /r++ anecdotes toge!r2 x is n inquisitive nor imp]t95t que/ion+4 ,!re are /ill o!r ?+s :i* conv]sation is n3 ,x is n cross-exam9+ nor bully+2 x is n ov]-emphatic1 nor is x too insi/5t1 nor dogg$ly dom9e]+1 talk4 ,nor is good conv]sation grumbl+ talk4 ,no "o c play to advantage ! conv]sational game ( toss & cat* ) a p>tn] :o is cont9ually pelt+ him ) grievances4 ,x is out ( ! "q to expect ev]ybody1 :e!r /rang] or intimate1 to *oke 9 cong5ial sympa?y ) petty woes4 ,! trivial & p]v]se annoyances ( "o's own life are comp5sat+ subjects = conv]sation only :5 !y lead to a discussion ( ! phase ( "* or ! fl+ ( fate on :i* su*-&-su* incid5ts ?r[ light1 because ! tr5d ( ! ?\ght !n enc\rages a toss+ back ( ideas4 ,p]haps ! mo/ important ?+ :i* good conv]sation is n1 is ?is3 ,x is n talk+ = effect1 or h$g+4 ,!re are two k9ds ( h$g+ 9 conv]sation3 "o :i* comes f fail+ to foll[ ! tr5d ( ! discussion2 ano!r :i* is ! result ( talk+ at r&om m]ely to make bulk4 ,! fir/ is tol]able2 ! la/ is contemptible4 ,! mom5t "o beg9s to talk = effect1 or to h$ge flippantly1 he is talk+ ins9c]ely4 ,& :5 a good conv]s] runs aga9/ ?is sort ( talk]1 8 he>t calls out1 ) ,c>lyle1 = an empty room1 8 tobacco1 & 8 pipe4 ,x is ma9ta9$ by "s "o t !re are ?ree k9ds ( a bore3 ! p]son :o tells ! plot ( a play1 ! "o :o tells ! /ory ( a novel1 & ! "o :o tells 8 dreams4 ,?is may be go+ too f> ) reg>d to dreams2 = dreams1 if h&l$ 9 ! "r way1 are easily made a "p ( int]e/+ talk4 ,b 9 sophi/icat$ society books & plays are discu/ only by talk+ ab\t ! prevail+ idea r\nd :i* ! /ory c5t]s4 ,!y are criticiz$1 n outl9$4 ,! mo/ le>n$ & cultivat$ talk]s d n attempt ! difficult & unrew>d$ feat ( giv+ a concise summ>y ( plots4 ,good conv]sation1 !n1 is ! give & take ( talk4 ,a p]son :o conv]ses well also li/5s well4 ,! "o is insep>able f ! o!r4 ,any?+ c be talk$ ab\t 9 cultivat$ society provid$ ! subjects are h&l$ ) humanity & discrim9ation4 ,ev5 ! wea!r & ! ?ree dreadful ,d's ( conv]sation1 ,dress1 ,disease1 & ,dome/ics1 may be made an acceptable "p ( talk if suit$ to ! "t1 ! place1 & ! situation4 ,nor is g5ius or s*ol>%ip ess5tial to good conv]sation4 ,! qualities mo/ ne$$ are tact1 a s9c]e desire to please1 & an appreciation ( ! tru? t ! man :o nev] says a fooli% ?+ 9 conv]sation w nev] say a wise "o4 ,,*apt] ,,ii ,,discussion ,,v]sus ,,controv]sy ,dr4 ,johnson's & ,rob]t ,l\is ,/ev5son's ,op9ion ( ,discussion--,polit5ess & ,discussion--,! ,ho/ess 9 ,discussion--,flat ,contradiction 9 ,discussion--,polemical ,squabbles--,brilliant ,discussion 9 ,france--,! ,secret ( ,delightful ,conv]sation 9 ,france--,lead+ ! ,talk--,topics = ,discussion--,glad/one's ,conv]sation4 ,,*apt] ,,ii ,,discussion ,,v]sus ,,controv]sy ,_m p object to discussion1 b !y are inv>iably ^? on ! midway r\nds ( ! conv]sational ladd]2 p to :om ! joy ( ! amicable intellectual tussle is unkn[n1 & to :om ! highe/ /&>ds ( ! art ( talk+ d n appeal4 ,:]e !re is mu* intellectual activity discussion is sure to arise1 = ! simple reason t p w n ?9k alike4 ,polite discussion is ! mo/ difficult & ! mo/ happy atta9m5t ( society z x is ( lit]ature2 & :y %\ld oral discussion be less attractive ?an writt58 ,dr4 ,johnson us$ to express unb\nd$ contempt = all talk t 0 n discussion2 & ,rob]t ,l\is ,/ev5son has giv5 u frankly 8 view3 ,!re is a c]ta9 attitude1 combative at once & def]5tial1 eag] to fight yet mo/ av]se to qu>rel1 :i* m>ks out at once ! talkable man4 ,x is n eloqu5ce1 nor fairness1 nor ob/9acy1 b a c]ta9 proportion ( all ^! t ,i love to enc\nt] 9 my amicable adv]s>ies4 ,!y mu/ n be pontiffs hold+ doctr9e1 b huntsm5 que/+ aft] elem5ts ( tru?4 ,nei!r mu/ !y be boys to be in/ruct$1 b fell[-/ud5ts ) :om ,i may argue on equal t]ms4 ,f ,mr4 ,john ,b4 ,yeats1 "o ( ! _m ,iri%m5 :o h writt5 tell+ly on ?is int]e/+ subject ( human int]c\rse1 we h3 ,conv]sation is an art1 z lit]ature is1 z pa9t+ is1 z poetry is1 & subject to ! same laws f :i* no?+ human is exclud$1 n ev5 argum5t4 ,!re is lit]ature :i* argues1 & pa9t+ :i* argues1 & poetry :i* argues1 s :y n conv]sation :i* argues8 ,only argum5t is ! mo/ difficult to mold into ! mo/ bless$ %ape ( art4 ,"s p conceive an ev]la/+ opposition betwe5 polit5ess & e>ne/ discussion4 ,polit5ess consi/s1 !y ?9k1 9 always say+1 yes1 yes1 or at mo/ a non-committal inde$8 to e ^w addre/ to !m4 ,?is is apt to be our ,am]ican vice ( conv]sation1 :]e1 = lack ( c\rage 9 tak+ up discussion1 talk (t5 falls into a s]ies ( anecdotes4 ,9 ,g]many ! t5d5cy is to be swept away 9 discussion to ! po9t ( a v]bal dispute4 ,!re is no great] bore 9 society ?an ! p]son :o agrees ) ev]ybody4 ,discussion is ! ar5a 9 :i* we measure ! /r5g? ( "o ano!r's m9ds & run a fri5dly tilt 9 pleas+ self-ass]tiv5ess2 x is ! common meet+-gr\nd :]e x is und]/ood t ,b>nabas w take g5tle repro( f ,paul1 & ,paul take g5tle repro( f ,b>nabas4 ,^? :o look ^u any diss5t f _! views z a p]sonal affront to be visit$ ) signs ( res5tm5t are no m fit = brilliant talk ?an !y are fit = life & its vicissitudes4 ,:oso keepe? 8 m\? & 8 tongue keepe? 8 s\l 9 peace1 x is true2 b he also keeps himself dead to all human int]c\rse & z colorless 9 ! _w z an oy/]4 ,too great a desire to please1 says ,/ev5son1 bani%es f conv]sation all t is /]l+4444 ,x is bett] to emit a scream 9 ! %ape ( a !ory ?an to be entirely ins5sible to ! j>s & incongruities ( life & take ev]y?+ z x comes 9 a =lorn /upidity4 ,?is is equival5t to tell+ ! individual :o treads too nicely & fe>s a %ock t he _h pleas$ u bett] _h he pleas$ u less1 :i* is ! subtle obs]vation ( ,mr4 ,price ,colli] writ+ 9 ! ,nor? ,am]ican ,review3 ,x is p]haps m (t5 true ( wom5 ?an ( m5 t !y conceive affability z a concession4 ,at any rate1 x is n unusual to f9d a ho/ess busy+ h]self ) attempts to agree ) all t is said1 ) ! idea t %e is !reby do+ homage to ! effem9ate categorical imp]ative ( etiquette1 :5 9 reality no?+ becomes m quickly tiresome ?an incessant affirmatives1 no matt] h[ pleasantly !y are modulat$4 ,nor c "o avoid "o ( two conclusions :5 "o's talk is ?us neglig5tly agre$ to3 ei!r ! speak] is conf9+ h]self entirely to incontradictable platitudes1 or ! li/5] has no m9d ( h] own2 & 9 ei!r case sil5ce 7 gold54 ,9 ?is connection x 7 well to recall ! really brilliant epigram ( ! ,abbe de ,sa9t-,real1 t ',on s'ennuie presque t\j\rs avec ceux que l'on ennuie4' ,= n ev5 a lov] c fail to be bor$ at la/ by ! con/ant lassitude ( ass5t express+ itself 9 tw9 s5tim5ts to 8 own4 ',coquett+ ) an e*o1' ,c>lyle call$ x4 ,=1 ?o x may make a man feel m5tally ma/]ful at fir/1 x makes him feel m5tally maudl9 at la/2 &1 z ! ,abbe says1 to be bor$ "o's self is a sure sign t "o's companion is also we>y4 ,?o polite diss5t is desirable 9 discussion1 flat contradiction is contemptible4 ,dean ,swift affirms t a p]son giv5 to contradiction is m fit = ,b$lam ?an = conv]sation4 ,9 discussion1 f> m ?an 9 light] talk1 dec5cy z well z honor comm&s t ea* p>tn] to ! conv]sational game con=m to ! niceties & fairness ( x4 ,i don't ?9k s1 ,x isn't s1 ,i don't agree ) y at all1 are too flat & positive = true delicacy & ref9em5t 9 conv]sation4 ,i h be5 incl9$ to ?9k o!rwise1 ,i %\ld be pleas$ to he> y\r reasons1 ,ar5't y mi/ak58 are m acceptable phrases ) :i* to introduce diss5t4 ,9 ,fr5* society a discrepancy ( views is always manife/$ by "s c\rtesy-phrase1 su* z ,mais1 ne p5sez-v\s pas or ,je v\s dem&e p>don--! urbane sub/itutes = ,no1 y are wrong1 ,no1 x isn't4 ,our own ,b5jam9 ,frankl91 ^: appreciation ( ! conv]sational art 9 ,france won completely ! he>ts ( ! ,fr5* p1 tells u 9 8 autobiography t 9 lat] life he f\nd x necess>y to ?r[ (f habits acquir$ 9 y\?3 ,i cont9u$ ?is positive me?od = "s ye>s1 b gradually left x1 reta9+ only ! habit ( express+ myself 9 t]ms ( mode/ diffid5ce3 nev] us+ :5 ,i advanc$ any?+ t might possibly be disput$1 ! words 'c]ta9ly1' 'und\bt$ly1' or any o!rs t give ! air ( positiv5ess to an op9ion1 b r say1 'x appe>s to me1' or ',i %\ld ?9k x s-&-s1 = su*-&-su* a reason1' or ',i imag9e x to be s1' or x is s 'if ,i am n mi/ak54' ,unyield+ ob/9acy 9 discussion is dead5+ to conv]sation1 & yet ! extreme contr>y is crippl+4 ,op5 res5tm5t ( any attempt at w>m? ( spee* is p>alysis & torpor to talk4 ,:5 "o meets a ho/ess1 or a conv]sational p>tn]1 ^: only pleasure is to be displeas$1 "o is rem9d$ ( ! railway sup]9t5d5t :o kept ! wires hot ) fault-f9d+ messages be>+ 8 initials ,h4 ,f4 ,c4 until he came to be kn[n along ! road z ,hell ,= ,c]ta94 ,p ( a res5tful turn ( m9d1 ^: e s5t5ce is a wag]1 & :o conv]t e ^w into a missile1 are fit = polemical squabbles1 b n = polite discussion4 ,^? rauc\s p]sons :o1 :5 _! oppon5ts attempt to speak1 cry out aga9/ x z a mon/r\s unfairness1 are v well adapt$ to association ) ,kilk5ny cats1 b n ) human be+s4 ,x is 9 ord] to vanqui% by ?is means "o :o might o!rwise outmat* !m entirely t !y ?us seek to r$uce _! oppon5t to a m]e int]jection4 ,a man ( culture1 says ,mr4 ,rob]t ,wat]s1 is n intol]ant ( opposition4 ,he frankly /ates 8 views on any giv5 subject1 )\t hesitat+ to say :]e9 he is ignorant or d\btful1 & he is ready = correction & enlight5m5t :]ev] he f9ds x4 ,su* a man nev] presses 8 he>]s to accept 8 views2 he n only tol]ates b consid]s oppos$ op9ions & li/5s att5tively & respectfully to !m4 ,hazlitt said ( ! *>m+ discussion ( ,nor?cote1 ! pa9t]3 ,he l5ds an e> to an obs]vation z if y _h br\ght him a piece ( news1 & ent]s into x ) z mu* avidity & e>ne/ness z if x int]e/$ only himself p]sonally4 ,( all ! t5ets ( good conv]sation to :i* ! ,fr5* give he$1 _! devotion to li/5+ is ! mo/ notable4 ,f ?is judici\sly receptive attitude spr+s _! un9t]rupt+ %rug ( ass5t or disapproval4 ,b li/5+ is only "o ( _! _m e/abli%$ conv]sational dicta3 ,! conv]sation ( ,p>isians is nei!r diss]tation nor epigram2 !y h pleasantry )\t buffoon]y2 !y associate ) skill1 ) g5ius1 & ) reason1 maxims & fla%es ( wit1 %>p satire1 & sev]e e?ics4 ,!y run ?r\gh all subjects t ea* may h some?+ to say2 !y exhau/ no subject = fe> ( tir+ _! he>]2 !y propose _! !mes casually & !y treat !m rapidly2 ea* succe$+ subject gr[s naturally out ( ! prec$+ "o2 ea* talk] deliv]s 8 op9ion & supports x briefly2 no "o attacks ) undue heat ! supposition ( ano!r1 nor def5ds ob/9ately 8 own2 !y exam9e 9 ord] to enlight51 & /op be=e ! discussion becomes a dispute4 ,su* 0 ,r\sseau's description ( ,p>isian conv]sation2 & "s "o else has decl>$ t ! ,fr5* are ! only nation 9 ! _w :o und]/& a salon :e!r 9 uphol/]y or talk4 ,e ,briti%]1 said ,novalis m ?an a hundr$ ye>s ago1 is an isl&2 & ,he9e once def9$ sil5ce z a conv]sation ) ,engli%m54 ,we ,am]icans1 ?o n s res]v$ 9 talk z our ,engli% bro!rs1 are less respectful to conv]sational am5ities2 & bo? ( u are f> beh9d ! ,fr5* 9 ! graci\s art ( v]bal expression4 ,n only is ! spok5 ,engli% ( ! cultur$ ,iri% ! mo/ cosmopolitan & be/ modulat$ ( any ,engli% 9 ! _w1 b ! conv]sation ( cultivat$ ,iri%m5 m adequately approa*es ! p]fection ( ! ,fr5*4 ,x is z illum9at+ to /udy ! be/ models 9 human int]c\rse z to /udy ! be/ models 9 lit]ature1 or pa9t+1 or any o!r art4 ,"o ( ! di/9ct elem5ts 9 ,fr5* conv]sation is t x is inv>iably kept g5]al2 & by g5]al ,i mean includ+ 9 ! talk all ! conv]sational gr\p z oppos$ to tete-a-tete dialog4 ,_m p disagree ) ! ,fr5* 9 ?is4 ,addison decl>$ t !re is no su* ?+ z conv]sation except betwe5 two p]sons2 & ,ralph ,waldo ,em]son & ,walt] ,savage ,l&or said some?+ ( ! same sort4 ,%elley 0 di/9ctly a tete-a-tete talk]1 z ,mr4 ,b5son1 ! pres5t-day essayi/1 9 "s ( 8 intimate disc\rses1 proclaims himself to be4 ,b ,burke & ,br[n+1 ! be/ conv]sationali/s 9 ! hi/ory ( ! ,anglo-,saxon race1 l all ! fam\s wom5 ( ! ,fr5* salon1 f ,mme4 ,rol& to ,mme4 de ,/ael1 kept pace ) any numb] ( int]locutors on any numb] ( subjects1 f ! mo/ ab/ruse sci5ce to ! lighte/ jeu d'esprit4 ,good talk betwe5 two is no d\bt a duet ( exquisite sympa?y2 b true conv]sation is m l a fugue 9 f\r or eight p>ts ?an l a duet4 ,fur!rmore1 g5]al & tete-a-tete conv]sation h bo? _! place & occasion4 ,at a d9n]-table 9 ,france private *ats are v quickly dispell$ by "s ?\ghtful mod]ator4 ,d9n] gue/s :o devote !mselves to ea* o!r alone are n tol]at$ by ! ,fr5* ho/ess z by ! ,engli% & ,am]ican4 ,because tete-a-tete conv]sation is consid]$ good =m s g5]ally among ,engli%-speak+ peoples1 ,i h 9 o!r essays adapt$ my comm5ts on ?is subject to our cu/oms2 b talk :i* is di/ribut$ among sev]al :o con=m to ! c\rtesies & laws ( good conv]sation is ! be/ k9d ( talk4 ,9 g5]al talk e "o ought to h a voice4 ,x is ! undue humility ( "s & ! arrogance & polemical t5d5cy ( o!rs t prev5t good g5]al conv]sation4 ,p h only to beg9 ) ?ree axioms3 ! fir/1 t ev]ybody is entitl$1 & (t5 b\nd1 to =m 8 own op9ion2 second1 t ev]ybody is equally entitl$ to express t op9ion2 & ?ird1 t ev]ybody's op9ion is entitl$ to a he>+ & to consid]ation1 n only on ! gr\nd ( c\rtesy1 b because any op9ion hone/ly & indep5d5tly =m$ is wor? some?+ & contributes to ! discussion4 ,ano!r pr9ciple ( ,fr5* conv]sation is t x is kept p]sonal1 9 ! s5se1 ,i mean1 t ! p]sonality ( ! speak]s suffuses x4 ,! !me be+ tak51 z ,/ev5son says1 ea* talk] plays on himself z on an in/rum5t1 affirm+ & ju/ify+ himself4 ,?is c\nt]-ass]tion ( p]sonality1 to all appe>ances1 is combat1 b at bottom is amicable4 ,an issue :i* is ess5tially g5]al & imp]sonal is lo/ 9 ! accid5tal conflicts ( p]sonalities1 because ! quality :i* plays ! mo/ important "p is pres5ce ( m9d1 n correct reason+4 ,a conv]sationali/ ^: argum5t is :olly fallaci\s w (t51 by ex]cise ( v]bal adroitness1 dispose ( an objection :i* is really fatal4 ,! full sw+ ( ! p]sonalities ( ! speak]s 9 a conv]sation is :at makes ! fl9t /rike fire4 ,x is only f heat$ m9ds t ! true ess5ce ( conv]sation spr+s2 & x is 9 talk :i* glances f "o to ano!r ( a gr\p1 m ?an 9 dialog1 t ?is p]sonality is reflect$4 ,x is curi\s to note1 says an editorial 9 ,! ,spectator1 h[ v mu* dialog !re is 9 ! _w1 & h[ little true conv]sation2 h[ v little1 t is1 ( ! g5u9e attempt to comp>e ! diff]5t be>+ ( ! same subject on ! m9ds ( diff]5t p4 ,x is ! r>e/ ?+ 9 ! _w to come1 ev5 9 ! be/ au?ors1 on a successful picture ( ! diff]5t views tak5 by diff]5t m9ds on ! same subject1 & ! gr\nds ( ! diff]5ce4 ,q z noticeable an elem5t 9 ,fr5* conv]sation is ! attitude ( ! conv]s]s to _! subject4 ,!y nev] try to settle matt]s z if _! decisions 7 ! la/ c\rt ( appeal1 & z if !y mu/ make frantic ef=t to c>ry _! side ( ! "q to victory4 ,!y discuss = ! pleasure ( discuss+2 n = ! pleasure ( vanqui%+1 nor ev5 ( conv9c+4 ,!y discuss1 m]ely2 !y d n debate1 nor d !y ent] into controv]sy4 ,"o ( ! greate/ conv]sational *>ms ( ! ,fr5* is _! am5ity 9 lead+ talk4 ,?is gr[s out ( a univ]sal eag]ness 9 ,france to take pa9s 9 conv]sation & to le>n its unwritt5 behe/s4 ,! un9itiat$ suspect little ( ! insight & c>e :i* matures ev5 ! natural conv]sational ability ( a ,madame de ,/ael or a ,francisque ,s>cey4 ,! initiat$ "k t ! same pr9ciples :i* make ! ,fr5* prodigi\s conv]sationali/s make !m capable & *>m+ ho/s & ho/esses4 ,! talk] :o c foll[ 9 conv]sation kn[s h[ to lead1 & vice v]sa4 ,)\t a lead] or mod]ator1 z ! admirable ,scot* ^w has x1 conv]sation is apt to become ei!r tepid or demoraliz$2 & (t51 = ! want ( prop] & sophi/icat$ lead+1 discussion t w\ld o!rwise be brilliant det]iorates into p&emonium4 ,z p>adoxical z x s\nds on fir/ ?\ght1 x is nev]!less true t ?or\ghly good conv]sation is impossible :]e !re is too mu* talk4 ,"s sort ( ord] mu/ be imp]ceptibly if n unconsci\sly ma9ta9$1 or ! s5t5ces cla% 9 g5]al conv]sation4 ,lead+ conv]sation is ! adroit spee* :i* *ecks ! refractory conv]sationali/ & *anges imp]ceptibly ! subject :5 x is suffici5tly ?re%$ or gr[s ov]-heat$2 x is guid+ ! talk )\t palpable break into fre% fields ( ?\ght2 x is ! tact ) :i*1 unp]ceiv$1 ! too sl[ n>ration ( a gue/ is hurri$ by su* c\rte\s int]polations z ,s y got to ! inn1 & :at !n8 or1 ,did ! m>riage take place aft] all82 x is ! art ) :i* ! skilful ho/ or ho/ess sees t all are drawn into ! conv]sational gr\p2 x is ! wat*fulness t s5ds ! %uttle ( talk 9 all directions in/ead ( all[+ x to reb\nd betwe5 a few2 x is ! int]e/ ) :i* a ho/ or ho/ess solicits ! op9ions ( gue/s1 & develops :atev] _! answ]s may vaguely sugge/2 x is ! c>e ) :i* an accid5tally int]rupt$ spee* ( a gue/ is resuscitat$2 x is ! consid]ation :i* puts "o :o arrives late 9 t\* ) ! subject :i* 0 be+ discu/ j be=e 8 appe>ance4 ,x is ?is conc]n = conv]sational cues :i* gives any ho/ or ho/ess an almo/ unb\nd$ p[] 9 social int]c\rse2 = he is ! be/ talk] :o c lead o!rs to talk well4 ,x goes )\t say+ t a p :o h assimilat$ all ! =ego+ t5ets ( good conv]sation are nev] disjo9t$ 9 _! talk4 ,_! consummate art ( li/5+ is responsible = _! skill 9 foll[+ ! logical tr5d ( ! disc\rse4 ,?is may be consid]$ a national trait4 ,9 dec5t ,fr5* society !re are no abrupt transitions ( ?\ght 9 ! diff]5t spee*es4 ,! spee* ( ea* speak] gr[s naturally out ( :at "s "o ( 8 conv]sational p>tn]s has j be5 say+1 or x is duly prefac$ by an introductory s5t5ce connect+ x ) a c]ta9 prec$+ spee*4 ,!y "k t1 once emb>k$1 no conv]s] c tell :]e ! give & take ( talk w c>ry him2 b !y also "k t ?is does n necessitate awkw>d & direct *anges ( subject4 ,! weakness ( inatt5tion & ( unconsci\s %unt+ 9 conv]sation is virtually unkn[n 9 good society 9 ,france4 ,is x any wond] t 9 a c\ntry :]e conv]sation is consid]$ an art capable ( cultivation & hav+ c]ta9 fixt pr9ciples1 s _m ,fr5* wom5 ( humble bir?1 l ,sophie ,arn\ld & ,julie ,lesp9asse1 h e>n$ _! way to fame by _! conv]sational p[]s8 ,is x any wond] t 9 ,france polite discussion is made ! mo/ exhil>at+ & delightful ex]cise 9 ! _w8 ,"o reason !re is s little acceptable conv]sational discussion is ! indisposition ( p 9 society to say :at !y ?9k2 _! unwill+ness to express _! :ole m9ds on any "o subject4 ,x is ?is elem5t ( unfett]$ expression or revelation :i* makes lit]ature ent]ta9+2 :y !n )hold ?\ght too cauti\sly f conv]sation8 ,! habit ( evasion is c[>dly z well z unsocial2 & no?+ s augm5ts conv]sation z be+ pleasantly d[nright2 lett+ p "k :]e to f9d y4 ,! mo/ prepo/]\s views get respect if utt]$ intrepidly4 ,s9c]e spee* is necess>y to good conv]sation ( any k9d1 & especially is x ess5tial to discussion4 ,"o ( ! /upide/ ( conv]sational s9s is quibbl+--talk+ ins9c]ely1 j = ! sake ( us+ words1 & %ift+ ! po9t at issue to "s incid5tal1 subord9ate argum5t on :i* ! decision does n at all dep5d4 ,x is ! intellectually hone/ p]son :o sp>kles 9 discussion4 ,ano!r reason :y discussion is wan+ is ! disrespect we feel = great subjects4 ,we only m5tion !m1 or h9t at !m2 & ?is _c lead to v brilliant talk4 ,?o prattle & p]siflage h _! place 9 conv]sation1 talk]s ( ! highe/ ord] tire ( cont9ually enc\rag+ *it-*at4 ,:at a piece ( bus9ess2 mon/r\s6 ,i h n read x2 impossible to get a box at ! op]a = ano!r =tnight2 h[ d y l my dress8 ,x 0 imm5sely admir$ ye/]day at ! ,b----s2 h[ badly y\r cravat is ti$6 ,did y "k t ---- lo/ heavily by ! cra% ( ,?ursday8 ,t de> man's dea? gave me a good fit ( cry+2 d y travel ?is summ]8 ,is ,blank really a man ( g5ius8 ,x is incompreh5sible2 !y m>ri$ only two ye>s ago4 ,?is sort ( nimble talk is all v well2 b because "o likes sillibub occasionally is no pro( t "o is will+ to disc>d meat entirely4 ,conv]sational topics c be too trivial = recreation z well z too s]i\s2 & ev5 important subjects c be h&l$ 9 a light way if necess>y4 ,clev] p are ! be/ encyclop$ias1 said ,goe!2 & ! great premi] ,glad/one 0 a *>m+ man 9 society1 ?\gh he nev] talk$ on any b s]i\s subjects4 ,he 0 not$ = 8 ability to pump p dry )\t seem+ 9 ! lea/ to probe4 ,true conv]sation is n cont5t ) ?ru/ & p>ry1 ) m]e sword-play ( any k9d1 b %\ld lay m9d to m9d & %[ ! real l9es ( agreem5t & ! real l9es ( div]g5ce4 ,yet ?is is ! v k9d ( conv]sation :i* seems to me s v r>e4 ,9 ord] t a great subject %all be a good topic ( conv]sation1 x mu/ provoke an en?usiasm ( belief or disbelief2 p mu/ h decid$ op9ions "o way or ! o!r4 ,i believe ) ,/ev5son t !ology1 ( all subjects1 is a suitable topic = conv]sational discussion1 & = ! reason he gives3 t religion is ! m$ium ?r\gh :i* all ! _w consid]s life1 & ! dialect 9 :i* p express _! judgm5ts4 ,try to talk = any l5g? ( "t ) p to :om y mu/ n m5tion cre$s1 morals1 politics1 or any o!r vital int]e/ 9 life1 & see h[ inane & fett]$ talk becomes4 ,! tranquil & yet spirit$ discussion ( great subjects is ! mo/ /imulat+ ( all talk4 ,! ?+ to be desir$ is n ! avoidance ( discussion b ! enc\ragem5t ( x accord+ to its unwritt5 codes & precepts4 ,! fir/ condition ( any conv]sation at all1 says ,pr(essor ,mahaffy ( ,dubl91 is t p %\ld h _! m9ds s f> 9 sympa?y t !y are will+ to talk ^u ! same subject1 & to he> :at ea* memb] ( ! company ?9ks ab\t x4 ,! high] condition :i* n[ comes be=e u is1 t ! speak]1 ap>t f ! matt] ( ! conv]sation1 feels an int]e/ 9 8 he>]s z di/9ct p]sons1 ^: op9ions & feel+s he desires to "k4444 ,sympa?y1 h[ev]1 %\ld n be excessive 9 quality1 :i* makes x demon/rative4 ,we h an excell5t ^w :i* describes ! ov]-sympa!tic p]son1 & m>ks ! judgm5t ( society1 :5 we say t he or %e is gu%+4 ,to be too sympa!tic makes discussion1 :i* implies diff]5ce ( op9ion1 impossible4 ,^? :o try to discov] h[ f> conv]sation is advanc$ by sympa?y & h9d]$ by ov]-sympa?y2 ^? :o attempt to detect to :at ext5t :olesome discussion is degrad$ by acrid controv]sy1 ne$ n be afraid ( vigor\s intellectual buffet+4 ,discussion spr+s f human nature :5 x is "u ! influ5ce ( /rong feel+1 & is z mu* an +r$i5t ( conv]sation z ! vocaliz+ ( s\nds is a "p ( ! ef=t ( express+ ?\ght4 ,,*apt] ,,iii ,,gossip ,gossip 9 ,lit]ature--,gossip ,comes f ,be+ ( ,"o ,k9dr$ ,"u ,god--,gossip & ! ,misan?rope--,p]sonal ,hi/ory ( ,p ,we ,"k & ,p ,we ,don't ,"k--,gossip ( ,books ( ,biography--,int]e/ 9 ,o!rs ,gives ,fell[%ip & ,w>m? to ,life--,ess5tial ,diff]5ce ,betwe5 ,sl&] & ,innoc5t ,gossip--,! ,psy*ology ( ! ,sl&]]--,! ,apocryphal ,sl&]]--,talk+ ,beh9d ,ano!r's ,back--,p]sonal ,*at ! ,curr5t ,co9 ( ,conv]sation4 ,,*apt] ,,iii ,,gossip ,x seems /range t1 9 all ! long li/ ( brilliant diss]tations on e subject "u ! sun1 no ,engli% essayi/ %\ld h yield$ a ^w "u ! s$uctive title ( ,gossip4 ,ev5 ,leigh ,hunt1 :o wrote vivaci\sly & exquisitely on s _m light topics1 0 n attract$ by ! entic+ possibilities ( ?is subject to :i* bo? ! le>n$ & ! unle>n$ are ready at all times to be/[ a will+ e> or eye4 ,"o usually conceives gossip z some?+ to :i* "o l5ds only "o's e>1 & nev] "o's eye2 b :at are ,plut>*'s ,lives b ! "r sort ( gossip8 ,t s _m lit]>y m5 & wom5 h vaguely suspect$ ! allur+ tone-color ( ! ^w gossip is prov$ by3 ,a ,gossip 9 ,romance1 ,rob]t ,l\is ,/ev5son2 ,gossip 9 a ,libr>y1 ,edmund ,william ,gosse2 ,gossip ( ! ,c>ibbees1 ,william ,r4 ,h4 ,tr[bridge1 ,jr42 ,gossip f ,p>is ,dur+ ! ,second ,empire1 ,an?ony ,nor? ,peet2 ,gossip 9 ! ,fir/ ,decade ( ,victoria's ,reign1 ,jane ,we/2 ,gossip ( ! ,c5tury1 ,julia ,cl>a ,byrne2 ,gossip+ ,guide to ,wales1 ,askew ,rob]ts & ,edw>d ,woodall2 ,gossip ) ,girls & ,maid5s ,betro!d & ,free1 ,blan*e ,/4 ,john ,bellairs4 ,yet no "o has ev] ?\ght ( writ+ ab\t gossip = its own sweet sake4 ,among e-day words p]haps ! ^w gossip is m to be reckon$ ) ?an any o!r 9 our language4 ,! *ild :o runs confid+ly to "m to report 8 grievance is a gossip2 he is also an hi/orian4 ,c]ta9ly gossip is 9 its tone famili> & p]sonal2 x is ! famili> & p]sonal t\* :i* makes ,plut>*'s ,lives int]e/+4 ,at ! root ( ! ^w gossip1 say etymologi/s1 !re lies an hone/ ,saxon mean+1 ,god's sib--( "o k9dr$ "u ,god4 ,x w\ld be only a misan?rope :o w\ld ass]t t he has no int]e/ 9 8 fell[s4 ,he is inv>iably a selfi% p]son :o %uns p]sonality 9 talk & refuses to "k any?+ ab\t p2 :o says3 ,:at is x to me :e!r ?is p]son has he>d ,slezak 9 ,tannhaeus]2 :at d ,i c>e :e!r ,mrs4 ,s-&-,s has visit$ ! ,fr5* play2 :at conc]n is x ( m9e if ,mr4 ,millions ( eighty m>ries ,miss ,beautiful ( eighte52 :at is x to me :e!r y h wat*$ ! agonies ( a furni%+ p>ty at ,m>%all ,field's & h obs]v$ ! bridegroom ( t5d] ye>s victimiz$ by 8 wife & "m-9-law ) _! appeals to 8 excell5t ta/e2 ( :at int]e/ to me are ! acc\nts ( ! dissolute excesses :i* int]sp]s$ ! wild outbreaks ( religi\s fanaticism ( ,h5ry ! ,?ird ( ,france8 ,?is selfi% p]son is also v /upid1 = no?+ s augm5ts conv]sation z a normal int]e/ 9 o!r p4 ,i %ook him well f side to side ,until 8 face 0 blue4 ,come1 tell me h[ y live1 ,i cri$1 ,& :at x is y d4 ,?is plan ( ,alice's ,?r\gh ! ,look+ ,glass ballad s+] = %ak+ conv]sation out ( p1 ?o some:at too /r5u\s1 is less fatigu+ ?an ,%]lock ,holmes's inductive me?ods4 ,l ,%]lock )\t 8 excuse1 ! k9d & g5]\s mu/ confess to a colossal int]e/ 9 ! affairs ( o!rs4 ,gossip is ! dialog ( ! drama ( mank9d2 & we h a "r to introduce any innoc5t & graceful means ( ?aw+ _! /ories f ! actors1 & ( unravel+ dramatic knots4 ,p ) ke5 judgm5t ( m5 & ?+s ga!r ! h>ve/ ( a quiet eye2 !y see 9 ! little _w ( private life hi/ories z wond]ful & issues z great z ^? t get our att5tion 9 lit]ature1 or 9 ! !at]1 or 9 public life4 ,p]sonal gossip 9 its intellectual =m has a *>m n unheal?y2 & x gives new lights on "* m (t5 favorable ?an unfavorable4 ,!re is no diff]5ce1 betwe5 enjoy+ ?is p]sonal talk & enjoy+ ,! ,mill on ! ,floss or books ( biography4 ,boswell1 9 8 ,life ( ,johnson1 & ,mrs4 ,?rale1 9 h] ,lett]s1 7 invet]ate gossips ab\t ! great man4 ,& :at an incomp>able little tattl] 0 ,fanny ,burney--,madame d',arblay6 ,"l ,william ,l5nox1 9 8 ,drafts on ,my ,memory1 is full ( irrepressible & fasc9at+ memorabilia1 f ! /ory ( ,g5]al ,bull>d's salad-dress+ to important dramatic hi/ory connect$ ) ! !at] ( 8 "t4 ,! ,spectator 0 ! qu9tess5ce ( gossip 9 an age ( gossip & good conv]sation4 ,we c\ld g a great deal fur!r back to ! gossips ( ,!ocritus1 :o are z liv+ & life-l z if we _h j met !m 9 ! p>k4 ,all biography is a putt+ toge!r ( trifles :i* 9 ! aggregate make up ! engross+ life-/ories ( m5 & wom5 ( =m] & contempor>y preem95ce4 ,x is to ! gossips ( all ages t we owe mu* ( value 9 lit]>y hi/ory4 ,)\t ! p]sonal int]e/ 9 ! affairs ( o!rs :i* makes gossip possible1 !re w\ld be no fell[%ip or w>m? 9 life2 social int]c\rse & conv]sation w\ld be inhuman & lifeless4 ,mr4 ,b5son 9 8 essay ,conv]sation tells u t an imp]sonal talk] is likely to be a dull dog4 ,mr4 ,h5ry van ,dyke says t ! quality ( talkability does n m>k a di/9ction among ?+s2 t x d5otes a diff]5ce among p4 ,& ,*ateaubri&1 9 8 ,memoirs d',outre-tombe1 confides to u t he has he>d "s v pleasant reports become irksome & malici\s 9 ! m\?s ( ill-dispos$ v]bal hi/orians4 ,"o c int]e/ "o's self 9 ! dramatic incid5ts 9 ! lives ( "o's acqua9tances )\t v5tilat+ or vilify+ _! "*4 ,gossip is capable ( a m g5ial purpose ?an traduc+ p4 ,x is ! malignity :i* turns gossip into sc&al aga9/ :i* temp]ate conv]sationali/s revolt2 ! sort ( ?+ :i* ,%]idan gibbet$ 9 8 celebrat$ play1 ,! ,s*ool = ,sc&al3 ,give me ! pap]s1 7lisp7--h[ bold & free6 ,la/ night ,"l ,l4 0 caught ) ,lady ,d46 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 ,s /rong1 s swift1 ! mon/] !re's no gagg+3 ,cut sc&al's head (f1 /ill ! tongue is wagg+4 ,b ?is is sc&al1 n gossip1 & sc&al comes f p incapable ( any?+ bett] ei!r 9 m9d or conv]sation4 ,among ^? :o und]/& ! art ( conv]sation1 libel\s talk is r>ely he>d2 ) ^? :o cultivate x to p]fection1 nev]4 ,x is ! fir/ comm&m5t ( ! sl&]] to repeat promptly all ! vitriolic talk he he>s1 b to keep /rictly to himself all pleasant words or k9dly gossip4 ,^? :o draw no di/9ction betwe5 sc&al & gossip %\ld reflect t gossip may be good-natur$ & comm5datory z well z ho/ile & adv]se4 ,9 ! publi%$ lett]s ( ! late ,james ,russell ,l[ell is an acc\nt ( 8 meet+ ,pr(essor ,mahaffy ( ,tr9ity ,college1 ,dubl91 :o is kn[n to be "o ( ! mo/ agreeable ( m54 ,!y met at ! h\se ( a fri5d 9 ,birm+ham1 ,engl&1 & :5 ,l[ell took leave ( ,mr4 ,mahaffy he said to 8 ho/3 ,well1 t's "o ( ! mo/ delightful fell[s ,i ev] met1 & ,i don't m9d if y tell him s6 ,:5 ,l[ell's rem>k 0 repeat$ to ,mr4 ,mahaffy1 he exclaim$1 ,poor ,l[ell6 to ?9k t he c nev] h met an ,iri%man be=e6 ,& ?is 0 gossip z surely z ! inimical prattle ab\t ,"l & ,lady ,byron 0 gossip4 ,no1 inde$1 sl&] & libel\s talk are n necess>y +r$i5ts ( gossip4 ,p :o take malici\s pleasure 9 us+ spee* = malign purposes suff] f a m5tal disord] :i* does n come "u ! scope ( conv]sation4 ,reg>d+ ! m5tal defici5cies ( ^? :o love to wall[ 9 ! mire ( salaci\s news ab\t o!rs1 ! psy*ologi/s h come to "s int]e/+ conclusions4 ,to !m x seems t !re is an ess5tial id5tity betwe5 ! gossip & ! g5ius4 ,9 bo?1 ! m5tal processes "w ) ! same t5d5cy to reproduce e fragm5t ( pa/ exp]i5ce1 because bo? ?9k by :at is kn[n z total recall4 ,f ! ?\ght ( "o ?+ _! m9ds pass to all sorts ( remote connections1 sane & silly1 rational & grotesque1 relevant & irrelevant4 ,! ess5tial diff]5ce betwe5 ! gossip m9d & ! g5ius m9d is ! p[] ( g5ius to di/+ui% betwe5 ! wor?y & ! unwor?y1 ! trivial & ! relevant1 ! true & ! false4 ,! ?\ghts ( ! gossip1 s ! psy*ologi/s tell u1 h connection b n coh]5ce2 ! ?\ghts ( ! g5ius h coh]5ce & likewise connection & unity4 ,?us we discov] t sc&al-mong]s are at fault 9 ! m9d m ?an 9 ! he>t2 & t x behooves p :o d n wi% to h !mselves vot$ m5tally defective to draw a di/9ction betwe5 sc&al & innoc5t gossip4 ,z ,i h already said1 !re is no?+ s int]e/+ z ! dramatic incid5ts 9 ! lives ( human be+s4 ,despite ! nature-/udy en?usia/s :o seem to refuse mank9d a place 9 nature1 ! prop] /udy ( mank9d is man & w =ev] rema9 s4 ,b ?is does n mean t m5tal weakl+s %\ld be all[$ to discov] & talk ab\t only salaci\s episodes 9 ! hi/ory ( _! acqua9tances4 ,! vici\s sc&al-mong] :o defames ano!r1 or he>s him defam$ or sc&aliz$1 & !n runs to him ) enl>g$ & consid]ably color$ tales ( :at 0 said ab\t him1 is ! poison ( ! s]p5t & %\ld n be tol]at$ 9 society4 ,a sanit>ium = m5tal del9qu5ts is ! only prop] place = su* a p]son4 ,& let me add t ! apocryphal sl&]]1 ! p]son :o nev] says b h9ts all sorts ( malici\s ?+s1 is ! wor/ sort ( sc&al-mong]4 ,! cultivat$ conv]sationali/ :o talks gossip 9 its intellectual =m does n indulge 9 oblique h9ts & ins9uations4 ,he says :at he has to say intrepidly because he says x discrim9at+ly4 ,ke5 judgm5t :i* discov]s ! fundam5tal di/9ction betwe5 sc&al & suitable p]sonality 9 talk raises gossip to ! p]fection ( an art & ! dignity ( a sci5ce4 ,undiscrim9at+ p1 !re=e1 _h bett] leave p]sonalities alone & /ick to ! m g5]al & less resili5t topics ( conv]sation4 ,good gossip is atta9able only by m9ds t are capable ( mu* high] talk ?an gossip4 ,cultivat$1 well-pois$1 well-dispos$ p]sons ne$ nev] be afraid ( indulg+ _! conv]sation to a c]ta9 ext5t ) gossip1 because !y indulge x 9 ! "r way4 ,& provid$ _! p]sonal & famili> talk is li/5$ to by equally cultivat$1 well-pois$1 & well-dispos$ p1 _! gossip ne$ n necess>ily be limit$ to ! m5tion ( only pleasant & complim5t>y hi/ory2 no m1 inde$1 ?an ,plut>* f\nd x necess>y to tell ( ! glory ( ,demo/h5es )\t m5tion t !re 7 ^? :o :isp]$ graft & brib]y 9 connection ) 8 "n4 ,!re are a few v good & v dull p :o try to /op all adv]se criticism4 ,all raill]y /rikes !m z cruel4 ,!y w\ld l to see e p>ody murd]$ by ! common hangman4 ,ev5 ! be/ ( com$y is con/itutionally repell5t to !m4 ,!y want only highly color$ *>act]s f :i* e mell[ %ade ( fault has be5 oblit]at$4 ,"o _c say t !y h a real love ( human nature1 because !y d n "k :at human nature is4 ,!y are ready to take up arms ) x at e turn4 ,su* p _c see t ridicule1 or gossip1 c be ei!r innoc5t or malignant2 t hi/ory c be ei!r prejudic$ or unbias$4 ,) _m1 refus+ to he> adv]se criticism is a m]e pose1 :ile ) o!rs x is cynicism4 ,9 int]c\rse ) ! un$ucat$1 any well-br$ p]son is prop]ly %ock$ by _! pleasure 9 detraction & 9 bad news ( all sorts4 ,b ! dete/able p :o seek e occasion to vilify1 & :o wi% to he> only h>m ( ! _w1 are s exceptional z to be negligible4 ,^! r>e villa9s are elim9at$ :5 "o speaks ( inability to di/+ui% betwe5 detraction & adv]se criticism4 ,^? :o c praise well are always adepts at criticiz+ adv]sely4 ,!y nev] c>ry _! criticism too f>1 nor give purposely an acrid t\* to x4 ,!re is a grim tradition t a p]son %\ld nev] say any?+ beh9d ano!r's back :i* he w\ld n say be=e 8 face4 ,?is is all v well s f> z x relates to v5om\s tales repeat$ purposely to injure2 b h[ colorless are ! p :o nev] h critical op9ions on any?+ or anybody2 or p :o1 hav+ !m1 nev] express !m6 ,criticism & cavil are two v diff]5t ?+s4 ,abs5ce ( criticism is abs5ce ( ! p[] ( di/9ction4 ,?is age ( sci5ce has taught p to look tru? /raight 9 ! face & le>n to discrim9ate4 ,t p]son to :om ev]y?+ is sweet does n "k :at sweet is4 ,! sophi/icat$ _w1 unlike ! unsophi/icat$1 is n afraid ( pass+ rem>ks4 ,!re is no d\bt t criticism1 :e!r x comes directly or r\ndab\t1 adds a t]ror to life z soon z "o goes bel[ a c]ta9 level ( cultivation4 ,! un$ucat$ are fright5$ at ! m]e ?\ght ( criticism2 ! cultivat$ are n4 ,p]haps ! reason = ?is diff]5ce is t ord9>y p h a brutal & entirely uncritical criticism to fe>4 ,9 t society s5sitiv5ess is n v common4 ,!y are n di%onorable2 !y are m]ely h>dy & c see no di/9ctions4 ,x is n giv5 to ^! p to praise rationally & to c5sure discrim9at+ly4 ,vilify+ rem>ks are made & repeat$ among !m :i* clev] p w\ld be incapable ( utt]+4 ,! educat$ n only use a s(t5$ mode ( spee*1 b !y avoid repeat+ rem>ks1 unless ) a disc]n+ wi% to be helpful to o!rs4 ,! cultivat$ :o h br\ght life to a f> high] po9t ?an ! uncultivat$ h protect$ _! lib]ty by a social rule4 ,!y say :at !y l1 & x does n get to ! e>s ( ! p]son ab\t :om !y h said x4 ,& if x did x w\ldn't mu* matt]4 ,criticism :i* is critically giv5 is usually critically receiv$4 ,! malici\sness ( adv]se criticism seldom lies 9 ! p]son :o voices x1 b 9 ! p]son :o c>ries a tale4 ,! mom5t sophi/icat$ p le>n t "o among !m has v5om\sly repeat$ an adv]sely critical rem>k1 !y imm$iately "k t t p]son is n to ! mann] born4 ,!re is no sur] pro(4 ,if ! born advocate is n always a sa9t1 ! born critic is n always a s9n]4 ,rob]t ,l\is ,/ev5son und]/ood ! importance ( ! p]sonal t\* 9 conv]sation :5 he wrote3 ,s f> z conv]sational subjects are truly talkable1 m ?an half ( !m may be r$uc$ to ?ree3 t ,i am ,i1 t y are y1 & t !re are o!r p dimly und]/ood to be n q ! same z ei!r4 ,s1 also1 did ,mr4 ,j4 ,m4 ,b>rie1 :5 he told u t 8 belov$ ,m>g>et ,ogilvy1 9 spite ( no p]sonal int]e/ 9 ,glad/one1 _h a pr(\nd fai? 9 him z an aid to conv]sation4 ,if !re 7 sil5t m5 9 ! company1 %e w\ld give him to !m to talk ab\t precisely z %e w\ld divide a cake among *ildr54 ,x is (t5 h9t$ by m5 t wom5 are made good conv]sationali/s by a s5se ( irresponsibility4 ,b ,i am incl9$ to ?9k t a little gossip n[ & !n is reli%$ by ! be/ ( m5 z well z wom54 ,! t5d5cy to gossip ) :i* m5 con/antly cr$it wom51 & 9 :i* t5d5cy ! m5 !mselves keep pace1 helps bo? m5 & wom5 v effectually to good conv]sation4 ,x is m important1 says ,/ev5son aga91 t a p]son %\ld be a good gossip & talk pleasantly & sm>tly ( common fri5ds & ! ?\s& & "o no?+s ( ! day & h\r1 ?an speak ) ! tongues ( m5 & angels4444 ,talk is ! creature ( ! /reet & m>ket-place1 fe$+ on gossip2 & its la/ resort is /ill 9 a discussion on morals4 ,t is ! h]oic =m ( gossip2 h]oic 9 virtue ( its high pret5sions2 b /ill gossip because x turns on p]sonalities4 ,gossip1 we mu/ admit1 has a p]5nial int]e/ = all ( u4 ,p]sonal *at is ! curr5t co9 ( conv]sational capital4 ,society lives by gossip z x lives by bread4 ,! mo/ absurd rule 9 ! _w is to avoid p]sonalities 9 conv]sation4 ,to annihilate gossip w\ld be to cut conv]sational topics 9 half4 ,!re is musical gossip1 art gossip1 !atrical gossip1 lit]>y gossip1 & c\rt gossip2 !re is political gossip1 & fa%ionable gossip1 & milit>y gossip2 !re is m]cantile gossip & comm]cial gossip ( all k9ds2 !re is physicians' gossip & pr(essional gossip ( e sort2 !re is sci5ti/s' gossip2 & !re is ! gossip ( ! s*ools indulg$ 9 by ma/]s & /ud5ts all ov] ! educational _w4 ,( all ! gossip 9 ! _w ! mo/ prodigi\s & prolific is religi\s gossip4 ,ar*bi%ops1 bi%ops1 deans1 rectors1 & curates are discuss$ unres]v$ly2 & ! que/ions put & answ]$ are n :e!r !y are apo/olic tea*]s1 b :e!r !y are high1 l[1 broad1 or no *ur*2 :e!r !y we> sc>let or black1 intone or read1 say %ibbole? or sibbole?4 ,! roots ( gossip are deep 9 human int]e/2 &1 despite ! ne>ly univ]sal op9ion ( morali/s1 great reputations are m (t5 built out ( gossip ?an de/roy$ by x4 ,discrim9at+ p d n create enemies by p]sonalities1 nor sep>ate fri5ds1 because !y gossip ) a he>t full ( love1 ) *>ity = all1 & ) malice t[>d none4 ,gossip z a legitimate "p ( conv]sation is def5d$ by "o ( ! greate/ ( pres5t-day s*ol>s2 & ,i _c d bett] ?an to quote1 9 clos+1 :at ,mr4 ,mahaffy has said ab\t x3 ,! topic :i* ought to be always int]e/+ is ! discussion ( human "* & human motives4 ,if ! novel be s popul> a =m ( lit]ature1 h[ c ! novel 9 real life fail to int]e/ an intellig5t company8 ,p ( s]i\s temp] & philosophic habit w be able to conf9e !mselves to l>ge e?ical views & ! g5]al deal+s ( m52 b to av]age p1 bo? m5 & wom51 & p]haps mo/ ( all to busy m5 :o desire to f9d 9 society relaxation f _! toil1 t light] & m p]sonal k9d ( criticism on human affairs w prevail :i* is kn[n z gossip4 ,x is idle to d5y t !re is no k9d ( conv]sation m fasc9at+ ?an ?is4 ,b its immorality may easily become su* z to %ock hone/ m9ds1 & ! man :o indulges 9 x too freely at ! exp5se ( o!rs w probably h to pay ! co/ ( x himself 9 ! long run2 = ^? :o he> him w fe> him1 & w retire into !mselves 9 8 pres5ce4 ,on ! o!r h&1 no?+ is m honorable ?an to /& =? z ! def5d] or ! palliator ( ! faults imput$ to o!rs1 & no?+ is easi] ?an to exp& su* a def5se into g5]al consid]ations z to ! purity ( human motives1 :i* w raise ! conv]sation f its un:olesome gr\nds into ! upp] air4 ,,*apt] ,,iv ,,:at ,,%\ld ,,gue/s ,,talk ,,ab\t ,,at ,,d9n]8 ,gue/s' ,talk ,dur+ ! ,qu>t] ( an ,h\r be=e ,d9n]--,:at ,gue/s ,may ,talk ,ab\t--,talk+ to ,"o's ,d9n]-,companion--,gue/s' ,duty to ,ho/ & ,ho/ess--,! ,dom9ant ,note 9 ,table-,talk--,g5]al & ,tete-a-,tete ,conv]sation betwe5 ,gue/s--,! ,raconteur at ,d9n]4 ,,*apt] ,,iv ,,:at ,,%\ld ,,gue/s ,,talk ,,ab\t ,,at ,,d9n]8 ,good talk is n to be _h = ! ask+4 ,humors mu/ fir/ be accord$ 9 a k9d ( ov]ture = prolog2 h\r1 company1 & circum/ances be suit$2 & !n at a fit juncture1 ! subject1 ! qu>ry ( two heat$ m9ds1 spr+ up l a de] out ( ! wood4 ,/ev5son knew z well z ,alice 9 ,wond]l& t some?+ has to op5 ! conv]sation4 ,y c't ev5 dr9k a bottle ( w9e )\t op5+ x1 argu$ ,alice2 & e d9n] gue/1 dur+ ! qu>t] ( an h\r be=e d9n]1 has felt ! s5t5ti\sness ( h] rem>k4 ,someone 9 writ+ ab\t ?is critical p]iod s conv]sationally difficult has cont5d$ t no p]son 9 8 s5ses w\ld ?9k ( wa/+ good talk 9 ! draw+-room be=e d9n]1 b ,pr(essor ,mahaffy ?9ks o!rwise3 ,9 ! v =efront !re />es u 9 ! face t awkw>d p]iod :i* ev5 ! g5tle ,m5&] notes z ! wor/ possible = conv]sation1 ! %ort "t dur+ :i* p are assembl+1 & wait+ = ! ann\ncem5t ( d9n]4 ,if ! witty man 7 n usually a selfi% p]son1 :o w n exhibit 8 tal5t )\t ! rew>d ( full & leisurely appreciation1 ?is is ! real mom5t to %[ 8 p[]s4 ,a brilliant ?+ said at ! v />t :i* sets p laugh+1 & makes !m =get t !y are wait+1 may alt] ! :ole complexion ( ! p>ty1 may make ! sil5t & di/ant p feel !mselves drawn into ! sympa?y ( common m]rim5t1 & ?aw ! ic9ess :i* s (t5 fett]s ,anglo-,saxon society4 ,b z ?is faculty is n giv5 to _m1 s ! av]age man may cont5t himself ) hav+ some?+ ready to tell1 & ?is1 if possible1 9 answ] to ! usual "q expre/ or impli$3 ,is !re any news ?is aft]noon8 ,!re are few days t ! daily pap] w n af=d to ! intellig5t critic some?+ ridicul\s ei!r 9 /yle or matt] :i* has escap$ ! ord9>y public2 "s local ev5t1 nay1 ev5 "s local trag$y1 may sugge/ a topic n wor? m ?an a few mom5ts ( att5tion1 :i* w secure ! int]e/ ( m9ds vacant1 & p]haps m hungry to be f$ ?an _! bodies4 ,"h !n1 if any:]e 9 ! :ole range ( conv]sation1 ! man or woman :o desires to be agreeable may v5ture to ?9k be=eh&1 & br+ ) !m some?+ ready1 m]ely z ! fir/ kick or />t+ po9t to make ! ev5+ run smoo?ly4 ,h[ev] ?is may be1 x is only ) t communicative feel+ :i* comes aft] eat+ & dr9k+ t talk]s w>m up to discrim9at+ discussion2 & 9 ! draw+-room j be=e d9n]1 "o c sc>cely expect ! conv]sation to turn on any?+ b trifles4 ,at ! mom5t a man pres5ts 8 arm to ! woman he is to take 9 to d9n]1 he mu/ h some?+ ready 9 ! way ( a rem>k1 = if he goes 9 9 sil5ce1 he is lo/4 ,!re are a ?\s& & "o no?+s he may say at ?is "t4 ,i "k a clev] man :o talks int]e/+ly = fifte5 m9utes ab\t ! old-fa%ion$ practice ( (f]+ a woman ! h& to lead h] 9 to d9n]1 & :e!r or n t cu/om 0 m c\rte\s & graceful ?an our mod]n way ( proce$+4 ,! "q is (t5 ask$1 ,:at %\ld gue/s talk ab\t at a d9n]8 ,i re/rict my int]rogation to gue/s1 because !re is a di/9ction betwe5 ! direct+ ( a d9n]-gue/'s conv]sation & ! guid+ ( ! talk by ho/ or ho/ess into necess>y or int]e/+ *annels4 ,d9n]s1 especially 9 diplomatic circles1 are z (t5 giv5 to br+ ab\t dext]\sly c]ta9 ends 9 view z !y are giv5 = m]e pleasure2 & :5 ?is is ! case x is necess>y z well z graci\s to /e] conv]sation along ! pa?s t x %\ld g4 ,a gue/'s fir/ duty is to 8 d9n]-companion1 ! p]son ) :om1 accord+ to ! pre>rang$ plan ( ! ho/ess1 he ent]s ! d9+-room & by :om he f9ds himself seat$ at table4 ,8 next duty is to 8 ho/s4 ,he has also an ab/ract conv]sational duty to 8 next ne>e/ neighbor at table4 ,x is e gue/'s duty1 too1 to keep 8 e>s op5 & be ready to jo9 9 g5]al talk %\ld ! ho/ or ho/ess attempt to draw all _! gue/s into any g5]al discussion4 ,! be/ answ] to ! "q1 ,:at %\ld gue/s at d9n] talk ab\t8 is1 any?+ & ev]y?+1 provid$ ! talk is t9ctur$ ) tact1 discretion1 & discrim9ation4 ,to "o's d9n]-companion1 if he happ5s to be a famili> acqua9tance1 "o c ev5 =get to taboo dress1 disease1 & dome/ics4 ,"o might likewise1 ) discretion1 set at lib]ty ! usually =bidd5 talk ( %op1 on condition t su* intimate conv]sation is to "o's d9n]-companion alone & is n dragg$ into ! g5]al flights ( ! table-talk4 ,:ile "o talks to "o's d9n]-companion 9 a l[ voice1 h[ev]1 x ne$s nice discrim9ation n to seem to talk "u "o's brea?1 or to say any?+ to a left-h& neighbor :i* w\ld n be appropriate = a "r-h& neighbor to he>4 ,:5 9 g5]al talk1 ! habit "s suppos$ly well-br$ p]sons h ( glanc+ furtively at any "o gue/ to int]rogate telepa?ically ano!r's op9ion ( "s rem>k is bad ta/e beyond ! p[] ( c5sure or ! possibility ( =giv5ess4 ,at l>ge1 =mal d9n]s1 on ! ord] ( banquets1 x w\ld be impossible = all gue/s to include a ho/ or ho/ess 9 _! conv]sational gr\ps f any & e "p ( ! table2 only ^? gue/s seat$ ne> !m c d ?is4 ,b at small1 in=mal d9n]s all gue/s %\ld1 :5ev] possible1 consid] x _! duty to direct mu* ( _! conv]sation to _! ho/ & ho/ess4 ,i h se5 gue/s at small d9n]s ( no m ?an six or eight cov]s g ?r\gh ! v>i\s c\rses ( a ?ree h\rs' d9+1 ignor+ _! ho/ & ho/ess 9 ! entire table-talk1 :ile conv]s+ volubly ) o!rs4 ,!re is some?+ m due a ho/ & ho/ess ?an m]e greet+s on ent]+ & leave-tak+s on dep>t+4 ,if ! d9n]-p>ty is s l>ge t all gue/s _c %[ !m at ! table ! att5tion due !m1 ! del9qu5t ones c at lea/ seek an opportunity 9 ! draw+-room1 aft] gue/s h left ! d9+-room1 to pay _! ho/ & ho/ess ! prop] c\rtesy4 ,ho/s %\ld nev] be made to feel t x is to _! cook !y owe _! di/9ction1 & to _! table alone t gue/s pay visits4 ,to say t ! dom9ant note 9 table-talk %\ld be light & humor\s is go+ too f>2 b conv]sation betwe5 d9n]-companions %\ld t5d /rongly to ! humor\s1 to ! light1 to ! small *ange ( ideas4 ,!re %\ld be an adroit int]mix+ ( light & s]i\s talk4 ,i not$ once ) ke5 int]e/ a %rewd m+l+ ( s]i\s talk & small talk at a d9n] giv5 to a di/+ui%$ ,g]man sci5ti/4 ,a clev] woman ( my acqua9tance f\nd h]self ! "o select$ to ent]ta9 at table ?is =eign] & s*ol>4 ,:5 %e 0 pres5t$ 9 ! draw+-room to ! em95t man :o 0 to take h] 9 to d9n]1 h] ho/ess op5$ ! conv]sation by in=m+ ! not$ gue/ t 8 new acqua9tance1 j t morn+1 _h _h conf]r$ ^u h] ! degree ( doctor ( philosophy1 :i* 0 ! reason %e _h be5 assign$ z d9n]-companion to s pr(\nd a man4 ,! =eign] foll[$ ! conv]sational cue1 rec\nt+ to 8 companion 8 obs]vations on ! numb] ( ,am]ican wom5 seek+ high] education1 et cet]a4 ,su* a conv]sational situation 0 little conducive to small talk2 b on ! way f ! draw+-room to ! d9+-table1 ?is clev] woman direct$ ! talk into light ve9 by assur+ ! s*ol> & diplomat t !re 0 no?+ dang]\s ab\t h] ev5 if %e did possess a univ]sity degree2 t %e w\ld nei!r bite nor philosophize on all occasions2 t %e 0 q z full ( life & frolic z if %e _h nev] se5 a univ]sity4 ,y c imag9e ! effect ( ?is vivacity ^u ! pr(\nde/ ( m51 & y c see h[ ?is clev] woman's ability at small talk made a comrade ( a notable academician4 ,z ! d9n] progress$ ! talk betwe5 ^! two wav]$ f je/ to e>ne/ 9 a mo/ *>m+ mann]4 ,apropos ( a late book on "s s]i\s subject n expurgat$ = babes & suckl+s1 b writt5 = ?9k+ m5 & wom51 ! ,g]man sci5ti/ ask$ if he might pres5t 8 companion ) a copy1 provid$ he promis$ to glue c>efully toge!r ! pages unfit = frolick+ fem99e m9ds4 ,two days lat] %e receiv$ ! book ) "s ( ! m>g9s pa/$--:i* pages1 ( c\rse1 7 ! fir/ ones %e read4 ,:5 mak+ an attempt to sp>kle 9 small talk1 d9n]-gue/s %\ld rememb] t ! l9e ( dem>cation betwe5 light talk & buffoon]y may become dang]\sly delicate4 ,"o c talk lightly1 b nicely2 :ile buffoon]y is j :at ! lexicograph]s def9e x to be3 ,amus+ o!rs by cl[ni% tricks & by commonplace pleasantries4 ,g5tle dulness ev] lov$ a joke2 & ! fact t v (t5 humori/s1 paid s highly 9 lit]ature to p]=m1 w n play a s+le conv]sational trick1 is ! be/ pro( t !y h ! good s5se to vote _! ho/s & companions capable ( be+ ent]ta9$ by some?+ nobl] ?an m]e pleasantry4 ,:5 wit1 says ,sydney ,smi?1 is comb9$ ) s5se & in=mation2 :5 x is 9 ! h&s ( "o :o c use x & n abuse x 7& "o :o c despise x72 :o c be witty & some?+ m ?an witty2 :o loves dec5cy & good nature t5 ?\s& times bett] ?an wit1--wit is !n a beautiful & delightful "p ( conv]sation4 ,op9ions z to :at good nature is w\ld p]haps v>y4 ,y may be good-natur$1 sir1 said ,boswell to ,doctor ,johnson1 b y are n good-humor$4 ,! spee* ( m5 & wom5 is div]se & v>i\sly *>act]i/ic4 ,all p say good morn+1 b no two ( ,god's creatures say x alike4 ,_! words range f a grunt to gu%+ exub]ance2 & "o is z objectionable z ! o!r4 ,ev5 weighty subjects c be talk$ ab\t 9 tones ( bad9age & good bre$+4 ,plato 9 8 wond]ful conv]sations always gave 8 subject a fr+e ( graceful wit1 b b5ea? ! delicate %ell !re 0 inv>iably a h>d nut to be crack$4 ,if good nature above all is s9c]e1 x w escape be+ gu%+4 ,! hypocrisy :i* says1 ,my de> ,mrs4 ,s-&-s1 ,i'm p]fectly delight$ to see y2 d sit "r d[n on ?is b5t p96 is n good nature2 x is pure bald]da%4 ,?\ghtful d9n]-gue/s take pa9s n to monopolize ! conv]sation4 ,!y br+ o!rs ( ! company into _! talk1 giv+ !m opportunities ( talk+ 9 _! turn1 & li/5+ !mselves :ile !y d s3 ,y1 ,mr4 ,br[n1 w agree ) me 9 ?is2 or1 ,mr4 ,black1 y h _h m exp]i5ce 9 su* cases ?an ,i h2 :at is y\r op9ion8 ,! p]fection ( ?is quality ( conv]sational *>m consi/s 9 t r>e gift1 ! art ( draw+ o!rs out1 & is z valuable & graceful 9 gue/s z 9 ho/s4 ,! ,fr5* h "s d9n]-table conv5tions :i* to u seem /range4 ,at any small d9+ ( eight or t5 p ! talk is always suppos$ to be g5]al4 ,! p]son :o w\ld try to beg9 a tete-a-tete conv]sation ) ! gue/ sitt+ next to him at table w\ld soon f9d out 8 mi/ake4 ,g5]al conv]sation is z mu* a "p ( ! repa/ z ! vi&s2 & wo to ! unw>y mortals :o1 tempt$ by %ort di/ances1 />t to *att] among !mselves4 ,a d9]-out mu/ be able to hold 8 own 9 a conv]sation 9 :i* all sorts ( di/ant1 z well z ne>1 contributors take "p4 ,( c\rse1 ?is implies small d9n]s2 b ,engli%-speak+ p1 ev5 9 small ga!r+s1 d n attempt g5]al conv]sation to su* an ext5t4 ,!y consid] x a difficult matt] to accompli% ! diagonal feat ( address+ gue/s at too great a di/ance4 ,d9n]-companions1 h[ev]1 %\ld be al]t to o!rs ( ! conv]sational gr\p4 ,a gue/ c z easily lead ! talk into g5]al pa?s z c a ho/ or ho/ess4 ,inde$1 x is graci\s = him to d ?is1 ?o x is n 8 duty4 ,! duty lies entirely ) a ho/ or ho/ess4 ,at any "t ?r\gh ! d9n] a gue/ c help to make conv]sation g5]al3 ,if "s "o has j told 9 a l[ voice1 to a "r-h& or left-h& neighbor alone1 "s clev] imp]sonal ?+1 or a good anecdote1 or "s int]e/+ happ5+ suitable to g5]al table-talk1 ! gue/ c get ! att5tion ( all pres5t by address+ "s "o at ! fur!/ po9t ( ! table f him3 ,mr4 ,sn[1 ,miss ,fro/ has j told me some?+ :i* w int]e/ y1 ,i "k1 & p]haps all ( u3 ,miss ,fro/1 please tell ,mr4 ,sn[ ab\t1 et cet]a4 ,miss ,fro/1 !n1 speak+ a little l\d] 9 ord] t ,mr4 ,sn[ may he>1 engages ! att5tion ( ! entire table4 ,! mom5t any "o r\nd ! table ?us invites ! att5tion ( ! :ole d9n]-gr\p1 d9n]-companions %\ld drop in/antly _! private *ats & jo9 9 :atev] g5]al talk may ensue on ! topic g5]ally introduc$4 ,! ?read ( _! tete-a-tete conv]sation c be tak5 up lat] z ! g5]al table-talk is susp5d$4 ,a n>ration or an anecdote %\ld n be long drawn out4 ,a d9n]-gue/1 or a ho/1 or a ho/ess1 is = ! "t be+ a conv]sationali/1 n a lectur]4 ,x is ! unwritt5 law ( successful d9n]-talk t no "o p]son r\nd ! table %\ld keep ! floor = m ?an a few %ort s5t5ces4 ,! po9t 9 anecdotes %\ld be br\ght out quickly1 & no happ5+ ( long duration %\ld be rec\nt$4 ,a gue/ 9 tell+ any exp]i5ce c break 8 own n>ration up into conv]sation by draw+ into 8 talk1 or recital1 o!rs :o are int]e/$ 9 8 hobby or 9 8 exp]i5ce4 ,responses to toa/s at banquets may be some:at long] ?an ! individual spee*es ( a s+le p]son 9 g5]al table-talk2 b any d9n]-speak] kn[s t ev5 8 response runs ! risk ( be+ spoil$ if ext5d$ beyond a few m9utes4 ,!re are nev]-fail+ topics ( int]e/ & untold mat]ial out ( :i* to weave suitable d9n]-talk1 provid$ x is wov5 9 ! "r way4 ,& ?is weav+ ( talk is an art 9 :i* "o may become pr(ici5t by giv+ x att5tion1 j z "o becomes ! ma/] ( any o!r art by tak+ ?\ght & prob+ into und]ly+ pr9ciples4 ,s 9 ! art ( talk+ well1 ev5 naturally flu5t talk]s ne$ by fai?ful pa9s to get beyond ! po9t :]e !y only happ5 to talk4 ,!y ne$ to atta9 t consci\s p[] ov] conv]sational situations :i* gives !m precision & grace 9 adapt+ means to ends & a f9e discrim9ation 9 *oos+ among _! res\rces4 ,a "o-sid$ conv]sation betwe5 companions is deadly unless discrim9ation is us$ 9 ! matt] ( li/5+ z well z talk+4 ,= in/ance3 ,mr4 ,cook3 ,don't y ?9k ! plan ( build+ a great riv]side drive a spl5did "o8 ,miss ,br[n3 ,yes4 ,mr4 ,cook3 ,! ,new ,york drive is "o ( ! joys ( life2 x gives m unalloy$ pleasure ?an any?+ ,i "k (4 ,miss ,br[n3 ,yes4 ,unless "u conditions suitable to li/5+ & n to talk+1 ,mr4 ,cook might feel l say+ to ,miss ,br[n1 z a bright "y man once said to a quiet1 beautiful girl3 ,= heav5's sake1 ,miss ,m>y1 say some?+1 ev5 if y h to take x back4 ,:ile x is true t li/5+ att5tively is z valuable & necess>y to ?or\ghly good conv]sation z is talk+ "o's self1 good li/5+ dem&s ! same discretion & discrim9ation t good talk+ requires4 ,x is ! bus9ess ( any suppos$ly good conv]sationali/ to disc]n :5 & :y "o mu/ give "o's companion ov] to soliloquy1 & :5 & :y "o mu/ n d s4 ,! d9+-room is bo? an ar5a 9 :i* talk]s fight ) words ^u a field ( :ite damask1 & a love-fea/ ( discussion4 ,if gue/s are nei!r hatefully disputati\s1 nor hypocritically humble1 if !y are g5]\s1 frank1 natural1 & :olly hone/ 9 ^w & m9d1 ! impression !y make _c help be+ agreeable4 ,,*apt] ,v ,,talk ,,( ,,ho/ ,,& ,,ho/ess ,,at ,,d9n] ,! ,amalgam = ,comb9+ ,gue/s--,ho/s' ,talk ,dur+ ! ,qu>t] ( an ,h\r be=e ,d9n]--,seat+ ,gue/s to ,enhance ,conv]sation--,numb] ( ,gue/s = ! ,be/ ,conv]sation--,direct+ ! ,conv]sation at ,d9n]--,draw+ ,gue/s ,out--,signal+ = ,conv]sation--,g5]al & ,tete-a-tete ,conv]sation--,putt+ ,/rang]s at ,ease--,/e]+ ,talk ,away f ,(f5sive ,topics--,! ,graci\s ,ho/ & ,ho/ess--,an ,ideal ,d9n] ,p>ty4 ,,*apt] ,v ,,! ,,talk ,,( ,,ho/ ,,& ,,ho/ess ,,at ,,d9n] ,sydney ,smi?1 by all acc\nts a great ma/] ( ! social art1 said ( himself3 ,!re is "o tal5t ,i ?9k ,i h to a rem>kable degree3 !re are sub/ances 9 nature call$ amalgams1 ^: prop]ty x is to comb9e incongru\s mat]ials4 ,n[ ,i am a moral amalgam1 & h a peculi> tal5t = mix+ up human mat]ials 9 society1 h[ev] repell5t _! natures4 ,& c]ta9ly1 adds 8 biograph]1 ,i h se5 a p>ty compos$ ( mat]ials z ill-sort$ z c\ld possibly be imag9$1 drawn out & attract$ toge!r1 till at la/ y w\ld believe !y _h be5 born = ea* o!r4 ,b ?is role ( moral amalgam is su* a difficult "o1 x mu/ be p]=m$ ) su* tact & delicacy1 t ho/esses are ju/ifi$ 9 employ+ :atev] me*anical aids are at _! comm&4 ,9 d9n]-giv+1 ! fir/ process ( amalgamation is to select cong5ial p4 ,d9n]s are v (t5 flat failures conv]sationally because gue/s are invit$ at r&om4 ,*oos+ ! less] ( two evils1 x is bett] to run ! risk ( (f5d+ ?an to jeop>dize ! fl[ ( talk by invit+ uncong5ial p4 ,:5 d9n]s are giv5 to return obligations x is n always easy to arrange pr(itably ! invit+ & seat+ ( gue/s4 ,b ! judgm5t display$ j "h makes or m>s a d9n]4 ,a good way out ( ! difficulty1 :]e ho/s h obligations to p ( diff]5t ta/es & int]e/s1 is to give a s]ies ( d9n]s1 & to s5d ! invitations out at ! same "t4 ,if ,mrs4 ,x4 is ask$ to d9e ) ,mrs4 ,z4 ! ev5+ foll[+ ! d9n] to :i* ,mrs4 ,z4 has invit$ ,mrs4 ,y41 ,mrs4 ,x4 is n (f5d$4 ,to see t !re is no failure ( tact 9 seat+ gue/s %\ld be ! next process ( amalgamation4 ,to get ! be/ results a great deal ( c>e %\ld be be/[$ ^u ! mixture ( ?is human salad4 ,gue/s %\ld be seat$ 9 su* a way t neighbors at table w int]e/ ea* o!r2 a brilliant gue/ %\ld be plac$ :]e he may at lea/ snat* crumbs ( intellectual com=t if 8 ne> companions1 ?o talkative1 are n conv]sationali/s ( ! highe/ ord]2 ! loquaci\s gue/ %\ld be put next to ! usually taciturn1 provid$ he is "o :o c be r\s$ to conv]sation :5 ?r[n ) talkable p4 ,o!rwise "o ( ! ho/s %\ld devote himself to ! bus9ess ( promot+ talk ) ! uncommunicative b no less int]e/+ p]son4 ,a wise ho/ess w consid] ?is matt] ( seat+ gue/s 9 connection ) select+ & invit+ !m4 ,x is1 !re=e1 "o ( ! subord9ate & purely me*anical processes ( ! real art ( amalgamation4 ,if ho/s =get no?+ t w tempt a gue/ to 8 com=t1 !y w rememb] above all ! qu>t] ( an h\r be=e d9n]1 & w beg9 ! actual conque/ ( amalgamation :ile _! fri5ds are assembl+4 ,by animation & cordiality !y w put cong5ial gue/s 9 conv]sation ) ea* o!r1 & w br+ =? _! m9es ( ?+s old & new1 co9+ ! ore into v>i\s sums1 l>ge & small1 z may be ne$$4 ,9 "s highly cultur$ circles1 m5 & wom5 are suppos$ to be suffici5tly educat$ & ent]ta9+ to require no lit]>y or *ildi% aids to conv]sation4 ,e d9n]-giv]1 h[ev]1 kn[s ! device ( suitable quotations1 or orig9al say+s1 or clev] lim]icks1 on place-c>ds1 & ! impetus !y give to conv]sation betwe5 d9n]-companions z ! gue/s are seat$4 ,b ! responsibility ( ho/ & ho/ess does n end :5 !y ?us furni% d9n]-companions a conv]sational cue4 ,?is is :y1 z has be5 well said by ,canon ,a+]1 a d9n] p>ty to be good = any?+1 beyond ! m]e enjoym5t ( ! m5u1 %\ld be nei!r too l>ge nor too small4 ,"s =gott5 g5ius laid x d[n t ! numb] %\ld nev] be less ?an t ( ! ,graces1 nor m ?an t ( ! ,muses1 & ! latt] half ( ! epigram may be safely accept$4 ,t5 z a maximum1 eight = p]fection2 = !n conv]sation c be ei!r dialog1 or may spread & become g5]al1 & ! ho/ or ho/ess has to direct no m ?an c pr(itably be wat*$ ov]4 ,x is ! d9n] p>ty ( sixte5 to tw5ty t is s t]rible a risk4444 ,good g5]al conv]sation at table among a few is n[ r ! exception1 f ! common habit ( cr[d+ our rooms or our tables & gett+ rid ( social obligations z if !y 7 comm]cial debts4 ,inde$ _m ( our "y p h s seldom he>d a g5]al conv]sation t !y gr[ up 9 ! belief t _! only duty 9 society w be to talk to "o man or woman at a "t4 ,s s]i\s are ! results ( ! fa%ion ( l>ge d9n] p>ties4 ,= really good society no d9n]-table %\ld be too l>ge to exclude g5]al conv]sation4 ,at a banquet ( ?irty or =ty1 = in/ance1 g5]al talk is impossible4 ,at su* banquets toa/s & responses take ! place ( g5]al talk2 b at small d9n]s x is graci\s = a ho/ & ho/ess to lead ! conv]sation (t5 into g5]al pa?s4 ,ignor+ a ho/ & ho/ess ?r\gh ! v>i\s c\rses ( a ?ree h\rs' d9+1 :i* ,i h already m5tion$1 c z easily be ! fault ( ! ho/ & ho/ess !mselves z x c be due to inatt5tion on ! "p ( gue/s4 ,a ho/ & ho/ess %\ld no m ignore any "o gue/ ?an any "o gue/ %\ld ignore !m2 & if !y sit at _! own table1 z ,i h sometimes se5 ho/s & ho/esses d1 assum+ no diff]5t function 9 ! conv]sation ?an if !y 7 ! mo/ ?\ghtless gue/ at ! table ( ano!r1 !y _c expect _! own gue/s to be any?+ b petrifi$1 h[ev] in/9ctively social4 ,! conv]sational duty ( a ho/ & ho/ess is1 !re=e1 to ! entire company ( p assembl$ at _! bo>d1 z well z especially to _! "r-h& neighbors1 ! gue/s ( honor4 ,x is ! express function ( a ho/ & ho/ess to see t ea* gue/ takes active "p 9 g5]al table-talk4 ,lead+ ! talk into g5]al pa?s & draw+ gue/s out ?us become id5tical4 ,x is ?is promot+ ( g5]al conv]sation :i* is ! backbone ( all good talk4 ,_m p1 h[ev]1 d n ne$ to be drawn out4 ,mr4 ,mahaffy cautions3 ,above all1 ! p>ticul> gue/ ( ! occasion1 or ! p]son be/ kn[n z a wit or /ory-tell]1 %\ld n be press$ or *all5g$ at ! outset1 z if he 7 manife/ly exploit$ by ! company4 ,su* a gue/ c safely be left q to himself1 unless he is a /rang]4 ,z draw+ out ! p by :om "o f9ds "o's self surr\nd$ 9 society w be treat$ 9 a =?com+ essay1 ,i %all n deal ) x "h fur!r ?an to tell h[ a fam\s pun ( ,*>les ,lamb's gave a ?\ghtful ho/ n only ! means ( sway+ ! conv]sation ( ! entire table to a subject ( univ]sal int]e/1 b z well ! means ( draw+ out a well-in=m$ yet timid girl4 ,guid+ 8 talk ) 8 ne> neighbor into a discussion ( ! pros & cons ( punn+1 he attract$ ! att5tion ( all 8 gue/s by address+ "s "o at ! fur!r end ( ! table3 ,mr4 ,:ite1 we 7 speak+ ( punn+ z a =m ( wit1 & x rem9d$ me t ,i h he>d ,miss ,black1 at y\r left1 repeat a clev] pun ( ,*>les ,lamb's--a retort he made :5 "s "o accus$ him ( punn+4 ,miss ,black1 c y give u t pun8 ,i'm afraid ,i've =gott5 x4 ,9 ord] t h] ho/ & all ! table might he> h] di/9ctly1 ,miss ,black pit*$ h] voice a little high] ?an 9 talk ) h] ne> neighbors & respond$ quickly3 ,i'll try to rememb] x1 yes3 ',if ,i 7 puni%-ed ,= e pun ,i've %$1 ,i %\ld n h a puny %$ ,:]e9 to lay my puni%$ head6' ,?us ,miss ,black 0 n only drawn out1 %e 0 also drawn into ! conv]sation & became ! c5t] ( an ext5d$ g5]al discussion on ! v imp]sonal & int]e/+ subject ( punn+4 ,z ! talk on punn+ div]g$1 ! conv]sation gradually fell back into private *ats betwe5 d9n]-companions4 ,a ho/ or ho/ess w "k intuitively :5 ! conv]sation has rema9$ tete-a-tete long en\gh1 & w once m make x g5]al4 ,:5 gue/s pay due att5tion to _! ho/ & ho/ess1 ! talk w naturally be c>ri$ into g5]al *annels1 especially :]e gue/s are seat$ a little di/ance away4 ,ev5 9 g5]al conv]sation a good /ory1 if %ort & crisp1 is no d\bt a good ?+2 b :5 ei!r a ho/ or a gue/ does no?+ b anecdote f ! s\p to ! c(fee1 /ory-tell+ becomes tiresome4 ,anecdotes %\ld n be dragg$ 9 by ! neck1 b %\ld come naturally z ! talk ab\t _m diff]5t subjects may sugge/ !m4 ,x is ! duty ( ! ho/ & ho/ess1 & c]ta9ly _! pleasure1 to make conv]sational pa?s easy = any /rang]s 9 a /range l&4 ,x does n foll[ t a ho/ & ho/ess are always well acqua9t$ ) all _! gue/s4 ,!re are in/ances :]e !y h nev] ev5 met "s ( !m4 ,an invitation is ext5d$ to ! h\se-gue/ ( a fri5d2 or "s p]son ( di/9ction tempor>ily 9 ! vic9ity is invit$1 ! =mality ( previ\s calls be+ waiv$ = ?is reason or t4 ,unless a ho/ess c feel p]fectly safe 9 delegat+ to "s "o else ! ent]ta9+ ( a /rang]1 x is wise to seat ?is gue/ z ne> to h]self z possible1 ev5 ?o he is n made a gue/ ( honor4 ,%e c ?us le>n some?+ ab\t h] new acqua9tance & put ! /rang] on an equal conv]sational foot+ ) ! gue/s :o "k ea* o!r well4 ,9 _! zeal to give _! fri5ds pleasure1 a ho/ or ho/ess (t5 tells a gue/ t he is to take a p>ticul>ly brilliant woman 9 to d9n]1 & ! woman is in=m$ t %e is to be ! neighbor ( a notably clev] man4 ,to "o ^: p[]s are br\ght out by be+ put on 8 mettle ?is might prove ! be/ sort ( conv]sational tonic2 on ! o!r h& x might be bett] tact to say t ?o a c]ta9 p]son has ! reputation ( be+ exceptionally clev]1 he is1 9 tru?1 z natural z an old %oe2 t all "o has to d to ent]ta9 him is to talk ord9>ily ab\t commonplace topics4 ,9 n9ety-n9e cases out ( a hundr$ ?is is s4 ,"s "o is responsible = ! epigram3 ,a great man always lives a great way (f2 & x is true t :5 we come to "k really great p we f9d t !y are z mu* int]e/$ z any "o else 9 ! commonplaces ( life4 ,inde$1 ! m intellectual p are1 ! m ! homely ?+s ( life int]e/ !m4 ,:5 ,t5nyson 0 once a pass5g] on a /eam] cross+ ! ,engli% ,*annel1 "s p :o _h be5 assign$ to seats opposite him 9 ! d9+ saloon le>n$ t _! neighbor at table 0 ! great poet4 ,9 a flutt] ( int]e/ !y li/5$ = ! wisdom :i* w\ld drop f ! di/+ui%$ man's m\? & he>d ! he>ty words1 ,:at f9e potatoes ^! are6 ,?is p>ticul> po9t requires nice disc]nm5t on ! "p ( ho/ & ho/ess2 !y %\ld "k :5 !y may safely impress "o gue/ ) ! clev]ness ( ! o!r1 & :5 x w\ld be disa/r\s to d s4 ,suppose ! consequ5ce is t ea* gue/ waits = ! sp>kl+ fl[ ( wit f ! o!r1 & to ! con/]nation ( ! ho/ & ho/ess !re is pr(\nd sil5ce betwe5 two really int]e/+ p on ^: clev]ness !y _h c\nt$ to make _! d9n] a success6 ,x is also ! prov9ce ( a ho/ & ho/ess tactfully to /e] ! drift ( g5]al table-talk away f topics likely to (f5d ! s5sibilities ( any "o gue/4 ,ho/s owe n only att5tion b protection to e p]son :om !y ask to _! home1 & x devolves ^u !m to int]pose & come to ! rescue if a gue/ is disabl$ 9 any way f do+ himself any sort ( conv]sational ju/ice4 ,sway+ conv]sation r\nd & ov] topics emb>rass+ to any gue/ requires ! utmo/ tact & delicacy on ! "p ( a ho/ & ho/ess2 = 9 keep+ "o gue/ f be+ w\nd$ or emb>rass$1 ! (f5d] himself mu/ n be made to feel consci\s ( 8 mis/ep4 ,inde$ he may be1 & usually is1 q unconsci\s ( ! effect 8 words are hav+ on ^? :om he does n "k well4 ,any subject :i* is be+ h&l$ dang]\sly mu/ be juggl$ out ( sight1 & ! det]m9ation to juggle x mu/ be conceal$4 ,?o x is q correct = "o to say "o's self1 ,i beg p>don = *ang+ ! subject abruptly1 no?+ is worse =m ?an to say to ano!r1 ,*ange ! subject1 or1 ,let u *ange ! subject4 ,to d ?is is bo? rude & crude4 ,direct+ conv]sation means lead+ talk]s unconsci\sly to talk ( some?+ else4 ,any gue/1 z well z a ho/ or ho/ess1 may graci\sly /e] conv]sation :5 x t\*es a subject "s phase ( :i* is likely to (f5d s5sitive & unsophi/icat$ p4 ,at a s]ies ( d9n]s giv5 to a circle ( philosophic m9ds religi\s intol]ance 0 l>gely ! subject ( discussion4 ,! circle1 = ! mo/ "p well kn[n to ea* o!r1 0 ( lib]al belief4 ,a gue/ appe>$ among !m1 & x 0 kn[n only to "o or two t ?is man 0 a s9c]e ,ca?olic4 ,z ! talk turn$ ^u religi\s discussion1 "o ( ! gue/s s direct$ ! conv]sation z to br+ out ! in=mation t ! /rang] 0 a ,ca?olic by fai? & re>+4 ,?is 0 a v k9d & appropriate ?+ to d4 ,x acqua9t$ ! ho/ess ) a fact ( :i* %e 0 ignorant2 & x gave all pres5t a feel+ ( security 9 :atev] !y might say4 ,a hospitable ho/ & ho/ess w n absorb ! conv]sation at _! table4 ,!y w r5d] ! graci\s s]vice ( furni%+ a backgr\nd = ! clev]ness ( o!rs1 r ?an display unsp>+ly _! own brilliancy4 ,inde$1 a man or woman does n h to be brilliant or intellectual to succe$ 9 ?is mo/ graci\s ( social arts4 ,! ho/ or ho/ess :o possesses sympa?y & tact w surpass 9 d9n]-giv+ ! mo/ brilliant p]son 9 ! _w :o selfi%ly monopolizes conv]sation at 8 own table4 ,if gue/s _c g away f a d9n]-table feel+ bett] pleas$ ) !mselves1 t campaign ( hospitality has be5 a failure4 ,:5 ! self-satisfaction on _! faces betrays ! subtle art ( ! ho/ & ho/ess 9 hav+ conv9c$ all _! gue/s t !y h made !mselves int]e/+1 !n ! acme ( hospitality has be5 a*iev$4 ,"o ( ! mo/ good-natur$ b mo/ inane ( m5 0 "o day *uckl+ at hav+ be5 royally div]t$ at a d9n]-p>ty4 ,he 0 at ,mrs4 ,x's1 said "s "o4 ,h[ d y "k t8 ,inde$6 ,don't ,i "k h] way8 ,%e'd make a rav5 g home rival+ ! night+ale4 ,to be able to make y\r gue/s bett] pleas$ ) !mselves is ! greate/ ( all social accompli%m5ts4 ,an ideal d9n] p>ty1 says a fam\s ,london ho/ess1 resembles no?+ s mu* z a ma/]piece ( ! jewel]'s art 9 ! c5t] ( :i* is "s cry/all9e gem 9 ! =m ( a sp>kl+ & sympa!tic ho/ess r\nd :om ! gue/s are arrang$ 9 an effective sett+4 ,x w\ld seem q z necess>y t a ho/ prove a cry/all9e gem 9 ?is ma/]piece ( ! jewel]'s art4 ,to be signally successful at d9n]-giv+1 c>e to make ! talk int]e/+ is z necess>y z c>e 9 ! prep>ation ( vi&s4 ,really successful ho/s & ho/esses take z mu* precaution aga9/ fatalities 9 conv]sation z aga9/ ^? :i* (f5d ! palate4 ,:ile att5d+ c>efully to ! poli%+ ( ! cry/al & to ! prep>+ ( ! m5u :i* w make _! table a delight1 !y rememb] t ! intellect ( _! gue/s mu/ be satisfi$ no less ?an _! eyes & _! /oma*s4 ,,*apt] ,,vi ,,int]ruption ,,9 ,,conv]sation ,its ,dead5+ ,effect on ,conv]sation--,habitual ,int]ruption--,n]v\s ,int]ruption--,glib ,talk]s--,int]rupt+ by ,ov]-,accuracy--,int]ruptions ,outside ! ,conv]sation-,circle--,*ildr5 & ,_! ,int]ruption--,good ,talk at ,table--,anecdotes ( ,*ildr5's ,appreciation ( ,good ,conv]sation--,! ,ho/ess ,:o ,is ,mi/ress ( ,h]self ,?o ,*9a ,fall4 ,,*apt] ,,vi ,,int]ruption ,,9 ,,conv]sation ,int]ruption1 m surely ?an any?+ else1 kills conv]sation4 ,! effusive talk] :o1 9 spite ( 8 facility = words1 is 9 no s5se a conv]sationali/1 refuses to recognize ! fact t conv]sation involves a p>tn]%ip2 t 9 ?is company ( jo9t int]e/ ea* p>ty has a "r to 8 turn 9 ! conv]sational engagem5t4 ,he ignores 8 conv]sational p>tn]s2 he breaks into _! s5t5ces ) 8 own spee* be=e !y h _! words well out ( _! m\?s4 ,he has gr[n s habitual 9 8 int]rupt+ t he rattles on unconsci\s ( ! disgu/ he is produc+ 9 ! m9d ( any well-br$1 discrim9at+ conv]sationali/ :o he>s him4 ,! be/ ( talk]s int]rupt occasionally 9 conv]sation2 b ! unconsci\s1 rude int]ruption ( ! habitual int]rupt]1 & ! un9t5tional1 consci\s int]ruption ( ! cultivat$ talk] are easily disc]nible1 & are two v diff]5t ?+s4 ,we are accu/om$ to ?9k t *ildr5 are ! only (f5d]s 9 int]rupt+2 b1 %ades ( ! ,fr5* salon1 ! crimes ( ! adults6 ,! great pity ab\t ?is positive phase ( int]rupt+ is t all habitual int]rupt]s are totally unconsci\s t !y cont9ually break into ! spee*es ( _! conv]s]s & lit]ally knock _! v words back into _! m\?s4 ,rob]t ,l\is ,/ev5son pron\nc$ ?is eulogy ov] 8 fri5d1 ,james ,walt] ,f]ri]3 ,he 0 ! only man ,i ev] knew :o did n habitually int]rupt4 ,n[1 y :o read ?is may n believe t y are "o ( ! violators ( ?is fir/ comm&m5t ( good conv]sation1 ?\ %alt n int]rupt2 b /op to ?9k :at small *ance y h ( escape :5 only "o acqua9tance ( ,/ev5son's 0 acquitt$ ( ?is crime4 ,"o mu/ become consci\s ( ! fact t he cont9ually int]rupts be=e he c cease int]rupt+4 ,! unconsci\sness is :at con/itutes ! crime2 = consci\s int]ruption ceases to be int]ruption4 ,! mom5t a good talk] is aw>e ( hav+ brok5 into ! spee* ( 8 conv]s]1 he =e/alls int]ruption by wait+ to he> :at 0 ab\t to be said4 ,he in/antly cuts (f 8 own spee* ) ! conv5tional c\rtesy-phrase1 ,i beg y\r p>don1 :i* is ! same z say+1 ,p>don me = seem+ to be unwill+ to li/5 to y2 ,i really am bo? will+ & glad to he> :at y h to say4 ,& he proves 8 will+ness by wait+ until ! o!r p]son c f9i% ! ?\ght he v5tur$ ^u4 ,:at bett] pro( t conv]sation is li/5+ z well z talk+8 ,%e]1 n]v\s inability to li/5 is responsible = "o phase ( int]ruption to conv]sation4 ,x is ! int]ruption ( ! w&]+ eye :i* tells t "o's words h n be5 he>d4 ,! p]son next to y mu/ be bor$ by my conv]sation1 = x is go+ into "o ( y\r e>s & out ( ! o!r1 said a talk] r te/ily to 8 inatt5tive d9n]-companion ^: abs5t-m9d$ & t>dy replies _h be5 snapp+ ! ?read ( ! ?\ght until x grew intol]able4 ,%e 0 p]haps only a little less irritat+ ?an ! man :o became s unconsci\s 9 ! habit ( inatt5tion t on "o occasion 8 conv]s] _h sc>cely f9i%$ :5 he began ab/ract$ly3 ,yes1 v odd1 v odd1 & told ! id5tical anecdote all ov] aga94 ,!re is ano!r phase ( int]rupt+ :i* proce$s f ! j]ky talk] ^: rem>ks are n provok$ by :at 8 conv]sational p>tn] is say+1 ) obs]vation & answ]1 affirmation & rejo9d]1 b :o waits brea?lessly = a pause to jump 9 & tell "s ?\ght ( 8 own4 ,( ?is sort ( talk] ,dean ,swift wrote3 ,!re are p ^: mann]s w n suff] !m to int]rupt y directly1 b :at is almo/ z bad1 w discov] abundance ( impati5ce1 & lie ^u ! wat* until y h done1 because !y h />t$ some?+ 9 _! own ?\ghts1 :i* !y long to be deliv]$ (4 ,meantime1 !y are s f> f reg>d+ :at passes t _! imag9ations are :olly turn$ ^u :at !y h 9 res]ve1 = fe> x %\ld slip out ( _! memory2 & ?us !y conf9e _! inv5tion1 :i* might o!rwise range ov] a hundr$ ?+s full z good1 & t might be mu* m naturally introduc$4 ,an anecdote or a rem>k w keep4 ,we are n "u ! necessity ( begrudg+ e mom5t t %ort5s our own inn+s2 ( int]rupt+ our companion by our looks & vot+ him an imp$im5t to our own mu* bett] rem>ks4 ,a less objectionable phase ( int]rupt+1 because x z (t5 spr+s f k9d ?\ght z f arrogance1 is t ( ! conv]sationali/ s anxi\s to prove 8 quickness ( p]ception t he assumes to "k :at y are go+ to say be=e y h f9i%$ y\r s5t5ce 9 y\r own m9d1 & to put an int]pretation on y\r argum5ts be=e y are done /at+ !m4 ,8 int]pretation is z (t5 exactly ! opposite ( y\r own z x is id5tical2 &1 "r or wrong1 ! foi/$-9 explanation s]ves only to int]rupt ! sequ5ce ( ?\ght4 ,z e>ly z #ahcb a writ] 9 ! ,new ,engl& ,magaz9e wax$ wro? to pugili/ic outbur/ aga9/ ?is =m ( int]ruption3 ,i h he>d individuals prais$ = ?is1 z indicat+ a rapidity ( m9d :i* arriv$ at ! end be=e ! o!r 0 half ?r\gh4 ,b ,i %\ld feel z mu* dispos$ to knock a man d[n :o took my words out ( my m\?1 z "o :o /ole my money out ( my pocket4 ,su* a habit may be a cr$it to "o's p[]s1 b n to "o's mode/y or good feel+4 ,:at is x b say+1 ',my de> sir1 y are mak+ a v bungl+ piece ( "w ) t s5t5ce ( y\rs2 all[ me to f9i% x = y 9 prop] /yle4' ,?o "o is incl9$ to feel t ?is au?or c\ld well h res]v$ 8 v]bal sc\rg+ = m irritat+ =ms ( imp]t95t int]ruption1 x is nev]!less true t p are m entirely consid]ate :o all[ _! conv]sational p>tn]s to f9i% _! /atem5ts )\t fe> ( be+ tript up4 ,x is only lack ( discrim9ation on ! "p ( glib talk]s to suppose t ^? :o express !mselves m delib]ately are less int]e/+ 9 conv]sation4 ,! pig is "o ( ! mo/ rapidly loquaci\s ( animals1 yet no "o w\ld say t ! pig is an attractive conv]sationali/4 ,pope may h be5 sl[ 9 =m+ ! mosaic ( symbols :i* express s sup]bly ! fact t ,words are l leaves2 & :]e !y mo/ ab\nd ,mu* fruit ( s5se b5ea? is r>ely f\nd1 b 8 delib]at5ess did n dim ! wisdom1 or int]e/1 or beauty1 ( 8 l9es4 ,sl[ talk]s1 if all[$ to express !mselves 9 _! own way1 only add to ! attractiv5ess ( any gr\p4 ,:y %\ld we enjoy *>act]ization m 9 lit]ature & 9 drama ?an 9 life8 ,good talk+1 says ,/ev5son1 is decl>ative ( ! man2 x is dramatic l an impromptu piece ( act+ :]e ea* %\ld repres5t himself to ! greate/ advantage2 & t is ! be/ k9d ( talk :]e ea* speak] is mo/ fully & c&idly himself1 & :]e1 if y %\ld %ift ! spee*es r\nd f "o to ano!r1 !re w\ld be ! greate/ loss 9 significance & p]spicuity4 ,! ,gradgr9ds ( society :o are always com+ d[n ^u u ) "s horrible & unnecess>y piece ( fact are ano!r =m ( int]ruption to good conv]sation4 ,!y /op y to rem9d y t ! accid5t happ5$ 9 ,tremont ,/reet1 n 9 ,boyl/on2 & !y susp5d a p]t95t po9t 9 ! air to in=m y t x 0 ,mr4 ,jones's elde/ si/]1 n 8 y\nge/1 :o 0 abroad at ! "t ( ! ,san ,francisco e>?quake4 ,if "s "o ref]s to an incid5t z hav+ occurr$ on ! t5? ( ! mon?1 !y deem x necess>y to /op ! talk] because !y happ5 to "k t x 0 on ! n9?4 ,p are (t5 _! own ,gradgr9ds1 int]rupt+ !mselves 9 ! mid/ ( a n>ration to correct "s trivial mi/ake :i* has no be>+ "o way or ! o!r on :at !y are say+4 ,_m o!rwise good talk]s are at times afflict$ ) aphasia & lose ! simple/ & mo/ famili> ^w at j ! crucial mom5t--! v ^w :i* is necess>y to ! po9t !y wi% to make4 ,?is happ5s m (t5 ) eld]ly p2 & x 0 on su* an occasion t ,i he>d a cat*word fi5d1 a mod]ately "y p]son1 use h] pet phrase z a r$ lant]n to /op bett]1 if m halt+1 talk4 ,mr4 ,black 0 tell+ me to-day ab\t ,mr4 ,:ite's be+ appo9t$ to ---- :at d y call t (fice8 implor$ ! dignifi$ matron4 ,j call x any?+1 ,mrs4 ,gray1 a b&]snat*1 or a buttonhook1 or a batt]+-ram1 imp]t95tly sugge/$ ! glib und]graduate :o _h be5 apply+ ^! words to ev]ybody & ev]y?+1 & :o cont9u$ to d s until %e _h f\nd a new cat*word z ! ma9 sub/ance ( h] conv]sation4 ,! infirmities ( age1 z well z ! mell[$ wisdom ( x1 des]ve ! utmo/ consid]ation1 especially f y\?2 & 9 ?is in/ance def]5ce 9 aid+ ! eld]ly woman to f9d h] ^w w\ld h be5 m graceful ?an pleasantry1 ev5 if ! pleasantry 7 ( a less spuri\s k9d4 ,conv]sation suff]s f outside int]ruptions z mu* z f int]rupt+ directly )9 ! conv]sational gr\p4 ,br++ v little *ildr5 into gr[n-up company l$ ,*>les ,lamb to propose ! heal? ( ,h]od1 ,k+ ( ! ,jews6 ,society is no place = "y *ildr52 & if old] *ildr5 are p]mitt$ to be pres5t !y %\ld be l$ to li/5 att5tively & to jo9 ! conv]sation mode/ly4 ,if a *ild v5tures an op9ion or asks a "q conc]n+ ! topic he is he>+ discu/1 he %\ld be welcom$ into ! conv]sation4 ,8 views %\ld1 9 ?is case1 be giv5 ! same consid]ation1 no matt] h[ immature1 z ! rip] views ( 8 eld]s2 he %\ld be made a legitimate "p ( ! conv]sational gr\p4 ,ei!r ?is1 or he %\ld be s5t entirely away4 ,!re are no half measures 9 a matt] ( ?is sort4 ,! p>5t's reit]at$ comm&s to keep quiet1 or to be se5 & n he>d1 int]rupt z mu* z ! *ild's prattle4 ,fur!rmore1 _m a *ild's natural aptitude = talk+ well has be5 cru%t by old] p /ifl+ e ?\ght ! y\ng/] attempt$ to utt]4 ,a bright "y girl ( my acqua9tance 0 s suppre/ by h] p>5ts f ! age ( sev5 to fifte5 t %e e>ly acquir$ ! habit ( nev] op5+ h] m\? )\t fir/ gett+ ! cons5t ( fa!r's eyebr[1 or "m's4 ,a *ild ?us treat$ 9 y\? gr[s up to be timid & halt+ 9 spee*2 8 individuality & spontaneity are smo!r$4 ,ei!r let ! *ildr5 talk1 mean:ile tea*+ !m h[ to conv]se1 or s5d !m (f to !mselves :]e !y may at lea/ express _! ?\ghts to citiz5s ( _! own age4 ,! v be/ conv]sational lesson t a *ild c be giv5 is imp>t$ :5 he is taught n to int]rupt2 :5 he is made to und]/& t he mu/ ei!r talk accord+ to ! niceties ( ?or\ghly good conv]sation or mu/ be s5t away4 ,x is (t5 cont5d$ t *ildr5 are out ( place at a d9+-table :]e ev5 tol]able conv]sation is suppos$ to be c>ri$ on4 ,?is view is no d\bt well tak5 reg>d+ =mal d9n]s2 b r\nd ! family bo>d is ! be/ place 9 ! _w to implant 9 *ildr5 ! pr9ciples ( good conv]sation & int]e/+ table-talk4 ,to ?is end family diff]5ces & unpleasantnesses %\ld be left beh9d :5 ! family goes to ! table4 ,p>5ts %\ld insi/1 z f> z possible1 t _! *ildr5 discuss at ! d9+-table only ! pleasant & int]e/+ happ5+s ( ! day4 ,fir/ ( all1 says ,mr4 ,mahaffy1 let me w>n ^? :o ?9k x is n wor? :ile tak+ tr\ble to talk 9 _! family circle1 or :o read ! newspap] at meals1 t !y are mak+ a mi/ake :i* has f>-rea*+ consequ5ces4 ,x is ne>ly z bad z ^? conv5t s*ools or ladies' academies1 :]e ei!r sil5ce or a =eign tongue is impos$ at meals4 ,:atev] p may ?9k ( ! value ( !ory1 !re is no d\bt :atev] t practise is necess>y = conv]sation2 & x is at home among ^? :o are intimate1 & free 9 express+ _! ?\ghts1 t ?is practise mu/ be s\ght4 ,x is ?us1 & ?us only1 t "y p c g out into ! _w prop]ly provid$ ) ! only univ]sal introduction to society--agreeable spee* & mann]4 ,trampl+ on ! social & conv]sational rights ( ! "y 0 "s "t ago s well comm5t$ ^u 9 ,! ,outlook t ,i transf] "p ( ! article to ^! pages4 ,! editorial emphasiz$ also ! educational advantages ( good table-talk 9 ! home3 ,!re is no educational opportunity 9 ! home m important ?an ! talk at table4 ,*ildr5 :o h gr[n up 9 homes 9 :i* ! talk ran on l>ge l9es & t\*$ all ! great int]e/s ( life w agree t no?+ gave !m great] pleasure or m g5u9e education4444 ,p]haps "o reason :y "s ,am]ican *ildr5 are aggressive & lack+ 9 respect is ! frivolity ( ! talk t goes on 9 "s ,am]ican families4 ,if *ildr5 are 9 ! "r atmosph]e !y w n be intrusive or imp]t95t4 ,make place = _! int]e/s1 _! que/ions1 ! problems ( _! exp]i5ce2 = !re are "y z well z old p]plexities4 ,enc\rage !m to talk1 & meet !m m ?an half-way by ! utmo/ hospitality to ! subjects t int]e/ & puzzle !m4 ,give !m s]i\s att5tion2 d n ridicule _! confusion ( /atem5t nor belittle _! tr\bles4444 ,d n limit ! talk at table to ! topics ( *ildhood1 b make x intelligible to *ildr54 ,"s p make ! mi/ake ( 'talk+ d[n' to _! *ildr52 ( turn+ ! conv]sation at table into a k9d ( elaborate 'baby-talk'2 n realiz+ t !y are robb+ _! *ildr5 ( he>+ old] p talk ab\t ! _w 9 :i* !y live4 ,! *ild is always look+ ahead1 pe]+ curi\sly into ! my/]i\s _w r\nd him1 he>+ /range voices f x1 gett+ wond]ful glimpses into x4 ,at night :5 ! murmur ( voices comes up/airs1 he he>s 9 x ! s\nds ( a future full ( great ?+s4444 ,x is n1 !re=e1 ! *ild ( six :o sits at ! table & li/5s2 x is a human _s1 eag]1 curi\s1 wond]+1 surr\nd$ by my/]ies1 sil5tly tak+ 9 :at x does n und]/& to-day1 b :i* w take possession ( x next ye> & become a tor* to light x on its way4 ,x is ?r\gh association ) old] p t ^! fructify+ ideas come to ! *ild2 x is ?r\gh su* talk t he f9ds ! _w he is to possess4444 ,! talk ( ! family ought n1 !re=e1 to be direct$ at him or %ap$ = him2 b x ought nev] to =get him2 x ought to make a place = him4 ,apropos ( *ildr5's appreciation ( good talk1 ?is /ory is told ( a "y son ( "o ( ! clev] m5 ( ,*icago3 ,gue/s 7 pres5t & ! boy sat quietly li/5+ to ! brilliant conv]sation ( 8 eld]s1 :5 8 fa!r sugge/$ to ,paul t x 0 late & p]haps he _h bett] g to b$4 ,please1 fa!r1 let me /ay1 plead$ ! y\ng/]1 ,i d s enjoy int]e/+ conv]sation4 ,ano!r & z deep a *ildlike appreciation comes f ! classic city ( our ,am]ican ,cambridge4 ,! little daught] ( "o ( its repres5tative families _h la9 awake = h\rs up/airs /ra9+ h] e>s to he> ! conv]sation f bel[4 ,:5 h] "m came into ! little "o's room aft] h] gue/s _h gone1 ! t9y lady said pla9tively1 ,"m de>1 :ile ,i've be5 ly+ "h all alone y 7 hav+ su* a lib]al "t d[n/airs4 ,unconsci\s recognition ( 8 j "r to conv]se occasionally ) old] p 0 expre/ naively by ! little son ( a prom95t ,atlanta family :5 visit+ fri5ds on a plantation4 ,i l to /ay "h because y let me talk e day at ! table1 answ]$ ,john1 :5 8 ho/ ask$ him :y he 0 pleas$ 9 ! c\ntry4 ,don't !y let y talk e day at home1 ,john8 ,oh1 :5 fa!r says 'give ! kiddo a *ance1' !n !y let me talk4 ,?is appreciation ( 8 ho/'s welcom+ him into ! conv]sation 0 a r>e complim5t f little ,john to 8 old] fri5ds & to _! int]e/ 9 *ild-life4 ,ano!r ext]nal & demoraliz+ int]ruption to talk is poor table-s]vice4 ,!re c be no good conv]sation at table :]e ! talk is con/antly int]rupt$ by wordy in/ructions to s]vants4 ,a ho/ess :o takes pride 9 ! table-talk ( h] gue/s assures h]self 9 advance t ! maid or ! butl] s]v+ ! table is well tra9$1 9 ord] t no que/ions ( s]vants c jeop>dize ! fl[ ( conv]sation4 ,if any?+ makes x necess>y = s]v+ maid or butl] to conf] ) ho/ or ho/ess1 x %\ld be done 9 an und]tone s t conv]sation is n int]rupt$4 ,b no matt] h[ quietly ! s]vant does ?is1 ! conv]sation is int]rupt$ by ! m]e fact t ! att5tion ( ! ho/ or ho/ess is div]t$ = ev5 a mom5t f ! subject be+ discu/4 ,9 ! home1 z 9 ! bus9ess (fice1 effici5t help means effici5t managem5t4 ,x is a reflection on any ho/ess to h h] table s]v$ s badly ?ree hundr$ & sixty-five days 9 ! ye> t ! s]vice is an int]ruption to table-talk4 ,if %e 7 capable h]self1 %e w\ld h a capable1 well-tra9$ maid or butl]4 ,if a maid or butl] c\ld n be tra9$ prop]ly1 h] capability w\ld %[ itself 9 dismiss+ t s]vant & gett+ "o :o c\ld be tra9$4 ,to ! end t conv]sation w n be int]rupt$1 ! ,russian me?od ( d9+-table s]vice is pref]able to all o!rs1 & is becom+ z popul> 9 ,am]ica z 9 ! re/ ( ! _w4,a ,a ho/ & ho/ess c !mselves1 by ! v atmosph]e !y create1 become an unconsci\s elem5t ( int]ruption to table-talk4 ,to insure flu5t conv]sation at table1 ho/s mu/ be free f worry2 !y mu/ cultivate imp]turbability2 !y mu/ be able to ignore or smile at any accid5t :i* might happ5 9 ! be/ regulat$ family4 ,!re is no?+ m di/a/eful to gue/s ?an to obs]ve t _! ho/ is anxi\s le/ ! arrangem5ts ( ! ho/ess misc>ry1 or t _! ho/ess is mak+ h]self q wret*$ by a fe> t ! di%es w n be prep>$ to p]fection1 or ov] ! break+ ( "s *oice bit ( cry/al4 ,at a d9n] rec5tly ,i saw ! ho/ess n]v\s en\gh to weep ov] an accid5t :i* demoli%$ a treasur$ salad b[l2 & ! result 0 t x took /rong ef=t on ! "p ( a self-sacrific+ & fri5dly gue/ to keep up ! pleasant fl[ ( talk4 ,h[ mu* m tactful & delightful 0 ! mann] 9 :i* ano!r ho/ess treat$ a simil> situation4 ,! gue/s 7 />tl$ by a cra% 9 ! butl]'s pantry1 & e "o knew f ! t9kl+ s\nd t x 0 cut glass4 ,aft] a few words ( in/ruction quietly giv51 ! ho/ess laugh+ly said1 ,i hope !re is en\gh glass 9 res]ve s t none ( y de> p w h to dr9k *ampagne f teacups4 ,?is 0 n only a *>m+1 in=mal way ( smoo?+ out an awkw>d situation1 b x gave ! poor butl] ! necess>y confid5ce to f9i% s]v+ ! d9n]4 ,_h ! ho/ess be5 upset ov] ! affair h] agitation w\ld h be5 communicat$ to ! s]vants2 & in/ead ( "o mi%ap !re might h be5 sev]al4 ,a ho/ess %\ld /ill be mi/ress ( h]self ?o ,*9a fall4 ,9 d9n]-giv+1 z 9 life1 x is ! "p ( g5ius to turn disa/] into advantage4 ,i 0 once at a d9n]-p>ty1 said an accompli%t d9]-out1 app>5tly ( und]tak]s hir$ to m\rn = ! jo9ts & birds 9 ! di%es1 :5 "p ( ! ceil+ fell4 ,f t mom5t ! gue/s 7 z m]ry z crickets4 ,int]rupt+ )9 ! conv]sational gr\p is p]haps ! mo/ insuff]able ( all imp$im5ts to rippl+ talk2 & int]ruptions f )\t are q z intol]able4 ,:at pleasure is !re 9 conv]sation betwe5 two p1 or among ?ree or f\r1 :5 ! ?\ght is int]rupt$ e o!r rem>k8 ,frequ5t ref]5ces to subjects entirely =eign to ! topic "u discussion give conv]sation mu* ! same j]ky1 sputt]+ ineffectualness z /ick+ a spigot mom5t>ily 9 a faucet prev5ts an ev5 fl[ ( wat] f a tank4 ,p :o h any feel+ = really good conv]sation d n all[ ne$less h9drances to de/roy ! cont9uity & joy ( _! int]c\rse ) fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,& p :o d p]mit ^! int]ruptions are n conv]sationali/s2 !y are m]e drivel]s4 ,,footnote3 ,footnote ,a3 ,! au?or1 if addre/ ,secret>y = ,m>y ,lav9ia ,gre] ,conkl91 ,po/ ,(fice ,box #abci1 ,bo/on1 ,massa*usetts1 w\ld be glad to give in=mation ab\t ! ,russian me?od ( s]v+1 & w\ld be pleas$1 also1 to answ] que/ions & to correspond ) read]s reg>d+ any individual conv]sational situation 9 :i* !y may f9d !mselves1 provid$ a self-addre/ & /amp$ envelop is enclos$ = reply4 ,,*apt] ,,vii ,,p[] ,,( ,,fitness1 ,,tact1 ,,& ,,nicety ,,9 ,,bus9ess ,,words ,:y ,cultivat+ ! ,social ,in/9ct ,adds ,/r5g? to ,bus9ess ,p]suasion--,secret ( ! ,ability to ,use ,tactful & ,vivid ,words 9 ,bus9ess--,ess5tial ,tra9+ ,necess>y to ! ,nice ,use ( ,words--,bus9ess ,success ,dep5ds ^u ,nicety & ,tact ,m ,?an on ,any ,quality ( ,=ce4 ,,*apt] ,,vii ,,p[] ,,( ,,fitness1 ,,tact1 ,,& ,,nicety ,,9 ,,bus9ess ,,words ,!re is an aspect ( bus9ess words :i* has to d ) social tact4 ,! social tact ( bus9ess words s\nds incongru\s on fir/ ?\ght4 ,bus9ess is l>gely =ce1 to be sure2 b a pleas+ mi5 is (t5 p[]ful :]e =ce w\ld fail4 ,tra9+ 9 social in/9ct & nicety is m ess5tial to a man's comm]cial int]e/s ?an is visible on ! face ( ?+s4 ,= in/ance3 ,cu/om] 7ent]+ /ore7--,i wi% a t9 ( ',cobra' boot poli%1 black4 ,deal]--,sorry1 madam1 we d n /ock ',cobra1' z we are seldom ask$ = x4 ,d y wi% poli% = ! class ( %oes y are we>+8 ,to tell a cu/om] abruptly1 ,we d n c>ry su*-&-su* a br& 9 /ock has ! effect ( lead+ h] imm$iately to turn to g4 ,?is is n cordial1 nor graci\s1 nor diplomatic2 h5ce x is unbus9ess-l4 ,fur!rmore1 to tell a cu/om] t ! br& %e m5tions is seldom ask$ = is imm$iately to "q h] judgm5t4 ,! deal]1 9 ?is case1 lo/ a *ance to get att5tion on ! "p ( 8 cu/om] by fail+ to inf]1 ! mom5t he m5tion$ h] %oes1 t %e wore a good quality1 _h good ta/e1 or common s5se1 or "s su* ?+4 ,8 reply c\ld h be5 va/ly improv$ by an ex]cise ( ! social in/9ct4 ,to answ] h] ) "s non-committal1 tactful response w\ld op5 up cordial relations at once & af=d ! *ance easily & gracefully to lead ! talk to ano!r br& ( poli%4 ,deal]--,d y pref] ',cobra' poli%1 madam8 ,= high-grade %oes su* z y we> we f9d ?is br& m g5]ally s]viceable & lik$4 ,tell+ expression1 :e!r 9 bus9ess or 9 ! draw+-room1 dep5ds z mu* ^u h[ "o says a ?+ z ^u :at "o says2 z mu* ^u :at "o refra9s f say+ z ^u :at "o does say4 ,:at is ! secret ( ! ability to put ?\ght into tactful z well z vivid words8 ,or is !re a secret8 ,!re are ^? :o inv>iably say ! "r ^w 9 ! "r way4 ,! "q is3 h[ h !y f\nd x possible to d ?is2 h[ h !y le>n$2 h[ h !y br\ght ! faculty ( expression to a p]fect$ art8 ,or 0 ?is ability born 9 !m8 ,or1 if !re is a secret ( pr(ici5cy1 d ! adroit manag]s ( words gu>d _! secret c>efully8 ,& if s1 :y8 ,piano arti/s1 & viol9 arti/s1 & canvas arti/s1 & s++ arti/s1 are uni=mly pr\d ( ! p]sev]+ practise by :i* !y w9 success4 ,:y %\ld n ready writ]s & ready talk]s be j z pr\d ( hone/ endeavor8 ,are !y s va9 ( ! praise ( natural facility = expression t !y seldom ackn[l$ge ! /eps ( progression by :i* !y falt]+ly b t5aci\sly climb ! ladd] ( _! atta9m5t8 ,a few great s\ls & ma/]s ( words h be5 v hone/ ab\t ! ways & means by :i* !y became skilful phrase-build]s4 ,rob]t ,l\is ,/ev5son1 z p]fect 9 8 talk z 9 8 writt5 expression1 said ( himself3 ,?o consid]$ an idl] at s*ool1 ,i 0 always busy on my own private ends1 :i* 0 to le>n to use words4 ,i kept two books 9 my pocket1 "o to read1 "o to write 94 ,z ,i walk$ my m9d 0 busy fitt+ :at ,i saw ) appropriate words4 ,z ,i sat by ! roadside a p5ny v]sion book w\ld be 9 my h&1 to note d[n ! features ( ! sc5e4 ,?us ,i liv$ ) words4 ,& :at ,i ?us wrote 0 writt5 consci\sly = practise4 ,i _h v[$ t ,i w\ld le>n to write2 x 0 a pr(ici5cy t tempt$ me1 & ,i practis$ to acquire x4 ,i work$ 9 o!r ways also2 (t5 accompani$ my walks ) dialogs & (t5 ex]cis$ myself 9 writ+ d[n conv]sations f memory4 ,?is 0 excell5t1 no d\bt2 b !re 0 p]haps m pr(it1 z !re 0 c]ta9ly m ef=t1 9 my secret labors at home4,b ,t is ! way to le>n expression4 ,x 0 s ,keats le>n$1 & !re 0 nev] a f9] temp]am5t = lit]ature ?an ,keats's2 x 0 s1 if we c\ld trace x out1 t all m5 h le>n$4 ,:at1 !n1 is ! ess5tial tra9+ necess>y to ! nice h&l+ ( words8 ,! idea is q g5]al t an ext5sive vocabul>y alone makes ?\ght fl[ exactly (f ! tip ( "o's tongue or p54 ,b is ?is true8 ,"o %\ld h a comm& ( words1 to be sure2 "o %\ld "k m descriptive words ?an awful1 fi]ce1 f9e1 *>m+--t]ms us$ 9 an un?9k+ way by p :o d n conc]n !mselves ) specific adjectives4 ,b to "k h[ to use a vocabul>y is ( ev5 m importance ?an to possess "o4 ,inde$1 m]ely to possess a vocabul>y )\t ! ability to weave ! words into accurate1 *>act]iz$ designs on an effective backgr\nd is ru9\s to ! success ( any talk] or writ]4 ,to employ an ext5sive vocabul>y riot\sly is worse ?an to own none4 ,:5 ! poet ,keats wrote ^? well-kn[n l9es1 ,a ?+ ( beauty is a joy =ev] ,its lovel9ess increases1 ! fir/ l9e /ood orig9ally3 ,a ?+ ( beauty is a con/ant joy4 ,! poet knew t ?is 0 ! ?\ght he want$1 b he felt t x _h n ! simple1 virile sw+ he covet$4 ,& s ! l9e rema9$ = _m mon?s1 ,a ?+ ( beauty is a con/ant joy1 9 spite ( ! au?or's _m attempt$ phras+s to improve x4 ,f9ally ! simple ^w =ev] came to him1 ,a ?+ ( beauty is a joy =ev]4 ,!n he _h x1 & he knew he _h x--! ess5tial note1 ! exact ^w4 ,c]ta9ly ! ^w =ev] 0 a "p ( ,keats's vocabul>y2 he und\bt$ly knew ?is simple ^w4 ,x 0 n ! ^w1 b adroitness 9 us+ x1 :i* made ,keats's l9es complete 9 _! poli%$ & natural p]fection4 ,"o ( ! _w's wor%ip$ piano virtuosi1 :o has q z intellectual a compreh5sion ( words z ( music1 0 ask$ by ! editor ( a magaz9e to contribute biographical data & photographs = an article on musical compos]s4 ,! piani/e _h publi%$ no compositions1 & ! graci\s answ] swung readily into l9e3 ,if y\r article is to deal exclusively ) musical compos]s1 ,i _c be includ$4 ,i h nev] publi%$ any ( my compositions because ,i feel t !y _c add any?+ to my reputation z a piani/e1 ( :i* ,i am---- ,j "h1 z ) ,keats's l9e1 vocabul>y c\ld n s]ve ! purpose4 ,! piani/e c\ld h said ( :i* ,i am pr\d4 ,no1 a mode/ phrase mu/ express hone/ pride--my reputation z a piani/e :i* ,i gu>d s$ul\sly1 or def5d zeal\sly4 ,no1 ?is ! exactness & simplicity ( true art reject$4 ,!n came ! simple1 p]fect phras+--my reputation z a piani/e1 ( :i* ,i am some:at jeal\s4 ,unque/ionably1 z ) ,keats's ^w =ev]1 ! ^w jeal\s 0 p]fectly famili>4 ,x 0 n any "o exceptional ^w :i* 0 necess>y1 b a weav+ ( simple words--if ,i may be p]mitt$ ! expression4 ,"h1 9 ord] to get ! effect desir$ ?is ma/]-m9d refra9$ f us+ a vocabul>y4 ,words came readily en\gh2 b ! tongue 0 9 comm& ( sil5ce because pret5ti\s words fail$ ! end4 ,?is p]fection ( expression is n a matt] ( vocabul>y alone4 ,x is m ?an vocabul>y2 x is a grappl+ aft] ! really subtle & intellectual elem5ts ( ! art ( expression & p]suasion4 ,( :at use all ! delicately t9t$ tape/ry ?reads 9 ! _w1 spread out be=e a tape/ry-work]1 if he does n possess ! ability to weave !m into faultless designs1 employ+ 8 colors sp>+ly "h1 & lavi%ly !re8 ,"o's tongue & p5 %\ld be 9 absolute comm&1 :e!r = sil5ce or attack1 says ,/ev5son aga92 &1 m ?an on any quality ( =ce1 bus9ess success dep5ds ^u t same nicety 9 ! use ( words :i* selects ! tactful expression1 ! mode/ & simple phrase1 9 ! draw+-room2 ! sort ( nicety :i* is unobtrusive exactness & delicacy2 an arti/ry :i* 9 no way labels itself skilful4 ,b und]nea? all1 ! wo( ( ! process is social skill--t skill :i* is ! ability to g back to unadorn$ fir/ pr9ciples ) ! dext]ity ( "o :o has acquir$ ! p[] to d ! simple ?+ p]fectly by hav+ ma/]$ ! entire gamut ( ! complex4 ,,footnote3 ,footnote ,b3 ,ev5 ,/ev5son ackn[l$g$ secrecy 9 8 e>li] climb+s4 ,,*apt] ,,viii ,,conclusion ,conv]sation ,is ,reciprocal--,good ,conv]sationali/s ,_c ,talk to ! ,be/ ,advantage )\t ,conf$]ates--,z 9 ,:i/1 ,x ,is ! ,comb9ation ,:i* ,effects ,:at a ,s+le ,:i/-play+ ,g5ius ,_c ,accompli%--,good ,conv]sation ,does n ,m>k a ,di/9ction among ,subjects2 ,x ,d5otes a ,diff]5ce 9 ,talkability--,! ,diff]5t ,degrees ( ,talkability--,imp]turbable ,glibness ,imp$es ,good ,conv]sation--,ease ) ,:i* ,"o ,may ,improve ,"o's ,conv]sational ,p[]s4 ,,*apt] ,,viii ,,conclusion ,good conv]sation1 !n1 is l a well-play$ game ( :i/4 ,ea* has to give & take2 ea* has to deal regul>ly r\nd to all ! play]s2 to signal & respond to signals2 to foll[ suit or to trump ) pleasantry or je/4 ,& nei!r y y\rself1 nor any o!r ( ! play]s1 c w9 ! game if ev5 "o refuses to be guid$ by its rules4 ,x is ! comb9ation :i* effects :at a s+le :i/-play+ g5ius c\ld n accompli%4 ,good conv]sation1 !re=e1 consi/s no m 9 ! ?+ communicat$ ?an 9 ! mann] ( communicat+2 no m ?an good :i/ consi/s entirely 9 play+ ! c>ds )\t recogniz+ ev5 "o ( ! rules ( ! game4 ,"o _c talk well ab\t ei!r cabbages or k+s ) "o ^: att5tion w&]s2 ) "o :o deliv]s a su/a9$ soliloquy1 or lecture1 & calls x conv]sation2 ) "o :o refuses to ent] into amicable discussion2 or1 :5 91 does no?+ b contradict flatly2 ) "o :o makes abrupt transitions ( ?\ght e "t he op5s 8 m\?2 ) "o1 9 %ort1 :o has nev] attempt$ to discov] ev5 a few ( ! ?\s& & "o ess5tial h9drances & aids to conv]sation4 ,z ,david c\ld n walk z well :5 %ea!d 9 ,saul's armor1 s ev5 nimble m9ds _c d !mselves ju/ice :5 surr\nd$ by p ^: e utt]ance is demoraliz+ to any ord]ly & /imulat+ ex*ange ( ideas4 ,= wit is l a re/ ,held up at t5nis1 :i* m5 d ! be/ ,) ! be/ play]s1 said ,sir ,foppl+ ,flutt]2 & few w\ld refuse to admit t =tunate circum/ances ( companion%ip are z mu* a factor ( good conv]sation z is native clev]ness4 ,satisfactory conv]sation does n dep5d ^u :e!r x is betwe5 ^? intellectually sup]ior or inf]ior1 or betwe5 /rang]s or acqua9tances2 b ^u :e!r1 m5tally sup]ior or inf]ior1 kn[n or unkn[n1 ea* p>ty to ! conv]sation talks ) due recognition ( its fir/ pr9ciples4 ,!re are1 to be sure1 diff]5t classes ( talk]s4 ,!re are ^? ( ! glory ( ! sun & o!rs ( ! glory ( ! moon4 ,x is easy en\gh to cat* ! note ( ! company 9 :i* "o f9ds "o's self2 b ! mo/ ent]ta9+ & captivat+ p]son 9 ! _w is petrifi$ :5 he c n put 8 f+] on "o conf$]ate :o und]/&s ! simple/ m&ates ( 8 art1 :e!r talk+ bad9age or wisdom4 ,)\t intellig5t li/5]s1 ! be/ talk] is at sea2 & any good conv]sationali/ is defeat$ :5 he is ! only memb] ( a cr[d ( int]rupt]s :o scream ea* o!r d[n4 ,conv]sation is ess5tially reciprocal1 & :5 a good conv]s] fl+s out 8 ball ( ?\ght he kn[s j h[ ! ball %\ld come back to him1 & feels balk$ & defraud$ if 8 p>tn] is n ev5 wat*+ to cat* x1 mu* less %[+ any int5tion ( toss+ x back on precisely ! "r curve4 ,! habit ( int]ruption1 says ,bagehot1 is a symptom ( m5tal defici5cy2 x proce$s f n kn[+ :at is go+ on 9 o!r p's m9ds4 ,x is impossible = a good talk] to talk to any advantage ) a companion :o does n conc]n himself 9 ! lea/ ) anybody's m5tal processes--n ev5 8 own4 ,giv5 conv]sation :i* is m>k$ by con=mity to all its unwritt5 precepts1 ,m5 & wom5 !n range !mselves1 says ,h5ry ,?omas ,buckle1 into ?ree classes or ord]s ( intellig5ce4 ,y c tell ! l[e/ class by _! habit ( talk+ ab\t no?+ else b p]sons2 ! next by ! fact t _! habit is always to talk ab\t ?+s2 ! highe/ by _! pref]5ce = ! discussion ( ideas4 ,discussion is ! mo/ delightful ( all conv]sation1 if ! company are up to x2 x is ! highe/ type ( talk1 b suit$ only to ! highe/ type ( individuals4 ,!re=e1 a p]son :o 9 "o circle might obs]ve a prud5t sil5ce may 9 ano!r v prop]ly be ! *ief talk]4 ,highly br$ & cultur$ p h atta9$ a c]ta9 unity ( type1 & are int]e/$ 9 ! same sort ( conv]sation4 ,talk dep5ds s :olly on our company1 says ,/ev5son4 ,we %\ld l to introduce ,fal/aff & ,m]cutio1 or ,fal/aff & ,sir ,toby2 b ,fal/aff 9 talk ) ,cordelia seems ev5 pa9ful4 ,mo/ ( u1 by ! ,protean quality ( man1 c talk to "s degree ) all2 b ! true talk t /rikes out all ! slumb]+ be/ ( u comes only ) ! peculi> bre?r5 ( our spirits4444 ,& h5ce1 ,i suppose1 x is t good talk mo/ commonly arises among fri5ds4 ,talk is1 inde$1 bo? ! sc5e & ! in/rum5t ( fri5d%ip4 ,on ! :ole1 !n1 ! v be/ social int]c\rse is possible only :5 !re is equality4 ,hazlitt 9 "o ( 8 delightful essays has said t1 ,9 g5]al1 wit %9es only by reflection4 ,y mu/ take y\r cue f y\r company--mu/ rise z !y rise1 & s9k z !y fall4 ,y mu/ see t y\r good ?+s1 y\r kn[+ allusions1 are n flung away1 l ! pe>ls 9 ! adage4 ,:at a *eck x is to be ask$ a fooli% "q2 to f9d t ! fir/ pr9ciples are n und]/ood6 ,y are ?r[n on y\r back imm$iately2 ! conv]sation is /opt l a c\ntry-dance by ^? :o d n "k ! figure4 ,b :5 a set ( adepts1 ( illum9ati1 get ab\t a "q1 x is wor? :ile to he> !m talk4 ,if we are to h a ris+ g5]ation ( good talk]s1 by our own *oice & delib]ate aim social int]c\rse %\ld be fre$ f ! b>b>isms :i* s (t5 hamp] x4 ,conv]sation at its highe/ is ! mo/ delightful ( intellectual /imulants2 at its l[e/ ! mo/ dead5+ to intellect4 ,bett] be z sil5t z a deaf-mute ?an to indulge c>elessly 9 imp]turbable glibness :i* imp$es r ?an enc\rages good conv]sation4 ,really clev] p dislike to compete 9 a race ) talk]s :o r>ely speak f ! abundance ( _! he>ts & (t5 f ! empt9ess ( _! heads4 ,on ! o!r h&1 "o c easily imag9e a sage l ,em]son ! victim ( conceit$ prigs1 li/5+ to _! vapid conv]sational p]=mances1 & c readily und]/& :y he consid]$ conv]sation betwe5 two cong5ial s\ls ! only really good talk4 ,m>k$ conv]sational p[]s are 9 "s measure natural & 9 "s acquir$2 & to ma9ta91 says ,mr4 ,mahaffy1 t !y dep5d entirely ^u natural gifts is "o ( ! commone/ & mo/ widely-spread popul> errors4444 ,x is bas$ on ! mi/ake t art is oppos$ to nature2 t natural means m]ely :at is spontane\s & unprep>$1 & arti/ic :at is manife/ly /udi$ & artificial4444 ,ask any *ild ( five or six ye>s old1 any:]e ov] ,europe1 to draw y ! figure ( a man1 & x w always produce v mu* ! same k9d ( ?+4 ,y might !re=e ass]t t ?is 0 ! natural way = a *ild to draw a man1 & yet h[ remote f nature x is4 ,if "o or two *ildr5 out ( a ?\s& made a fair attempt1 y w\ld attribute ?is ei!r to special g5ius or special tra9+--& :y8 because ! *ild _h really approa*$ nature4 ,j z a *ild1 ei!r ) tal5t = draw+ or )\t x1 c draw a bett] picture ( a man aft] he has be5 tra9$1 ?an be=e1 s c ^? n end[$ by nature ) ready spee* poli% & am5d _! natural defects4 ,nei!r ne$ !re be artificiality or affectation 9 talk t is consci\sly cultivat$2 no m inde$ ?an x is affectation to eat ) a =k because "o kn[s t x is pref]able to eat+ ) a knife4 ,! faculty ( talk+ is too seldom reg>d$ 9 ! light ( a tal5t to be poli%$ & v>i\sly improv$4 ,x is s freely employ$ 9 all sorts ( trivialities t1 l ! dy]'s h&1 x becomes subdu$ to t x works 94 ,canon ,a+] has decl>$ positively t ,conv]sation might be improv$ if only p w\ld take pa9s & h a few lessons4 ,ne>ly two hundr$ ye>s be=e ,canon ,a+] came to ?is decision1 ,dean ,swift cont5d$ t ,conv]sation might be r$uc$ to p]fection2 = "h we are only to avoid a multitude ( errors1 :i*1 al?o a matt] ( "s difficulty1 may be 9 e man's p[]4 ,!re=e x seems t ! true/ way to und]/& conv]sation is to "k ! faults & errors to :i* x is subject1 & f !nce e man to =m maxims to himself :]eby x may be regulat$1 because x requires few tal5ts to :i* mo/ m5 are n born1 or at lea/ may n acquire1 )\t any great g5ius or /udy4 ,= nature has left e man a capacity = be+ agreeable1 ?o n ( %9+ 9 company2 & !re are hundr$s ( p suffici5tly qualifi$ = bo?1 :o1 by a v few faults t !y might correct 9 half an h\r1 are n s mu* z tol]able4 ,x is record$ ( ,lady ,bless+ton by ,"l ,l5nox 9 8 ,drafts on ,my ,memory t 9 y\? %e did n give any promise ( ! *>ms = :i* %e 0 aft]w>ds s conspicu\s1 & :i*1 9 ! fir/ half ( ! n9ete5? c5tury1 made ,gore ,h\se 9 ,london fam\s = its hospitality4 ,a m>riage at an e>ly age to a man subject to h]$it>y insanity 0 t]m9at$ by h] husb&'s sudd5 dea?1 & 9 #ahah %e m>ri$ ! ,e>l ( ,bless+ton4 ,ev]y?+ goes to prove t1 9 ^? few ye>s dur+ h] fir/ husb&'s life1 %e set h]self e>ne/ly to cultivat+ *>m ( mann] & ! art ( conv]sation4 ,talk+ well is giv5 s little s]i\s consid]ation t ! av]age p]son1 :5 he probes ev5 slightly into ! art1 is z surpriz$ z 0 ,moli]e's b\rgeois g5tilhomme ^u discov]+ t he _h spok5 prose = =ty ye>s4 ,plato says3 ,:osoev] seeke? mu/ "k t :i* he seeke? = 9 a g5]al notion1 else h[ %all he "k x :5 he ha? f\nd x8 ,& if :at ,i write on ?is subject enables read]s to "k = :at !y seek 9 good conv]sation1 ev5 9 ab/ract fa%ion1 ,i %all be grateful4 ,:5 all p cultivate ! art ( conv]sation z assidu\sly z ! notably good talk]s ( ! _w h done1 !re w be a g5]al fea/ ( reason & fl[ ( s\l2 ea* w !n say to ! o!r1 9 ,milton's words1 ,) !e conv]s+1 ,i =get all "t4 ,,9 ,,prep>ation3 ,! ,art ( ,draw+ ,o!rs ,out ,conv]sation v]sus ,m]e ,talk ,foll[+ ! ,tr5d ( ! ,conv]sation2 ,abrupt ,transitions ( ,?\ght ,li/5+ 9 ,conv]sation ,"s ,common ,errors 9 ,mak+ ,introductions ,raconteurs & ,_! ,anecdotes ,commonplaces ( ,conv]sation ,subjects = ,conv]sation2 ,book ,talk ,! ,give & ,take ( ,talk ,di/9ction ,betwe5 ,inquisitive ,que/ion+ & ,int]e/ ,que/ions ,ju/ifiable ,limits ( ,wit1 ,raill]y1 & ,humor ,! ,use & ,abuse ( ,slang ,small ,talk3 ,glib ,talk]s ,adju/+ ,%op to ! ,"t1 ! ,place1 & ! ,situation ,giv+ & ,accept+ ,complim5ts ,jok+ & ,je/+2 ,diff]5ce ,betwe5 ,pleasantry & ,buffoon]y ,a ,s(t5$ ,mode ( ,spee* ,brutal ,frankness & ,intellectual ,hone/y ,?ru/+ & ,p>ry+ 9 ,conv]sation ,! ,value 9 ,conv]sation ( ,kn[+ ,:o's ,:o 99 99 99 99 99 ,transcrib]'s note ,! foll[+ *anges h be5 made to ! text3 ,page #da3 x isn't s *ang$ to ,x isn't s4 ,page #fe3 ,tannhaues] *ang$ to ,tannhaeus]4