,! ,complete ,ba*elor ,mann]s = ,m5 ,by ! ,au?or ( ! ,z ,se5 by ,him ,pap]s ,) ,index ,illu/ration3 ,publi%]'s logo ,new ,york ,d4 ,appleton & ,company #ahif ,,copyright1 #ahif1 ,,by ,d4 ,,appleton ,,& ,,company4 ,,preface4 ,i suppose a book ( ?is "* ne$s "s excuse4 ,! _w is full ( volumes writt5 on etiquette1 &1 9 add+ ano!r to ! numb]1 my plea = fill+ ! want long felt may seem ridicul\s4 ,b ,i h an excell5t reason1 & t is1 t 9 all treatises ( ?is "* ,i h f\nd ! ba*elor sadly neglect$4 ,= _m ye>s1 :ile conduct+ ! qu]y or agony dep>tm5t 9 ,vogue1 ,i receiv$ lett]s f all p>ts ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates ask+ = in=mation on c]ta9 details ( etiquette :i* seem to h be5 ov]look$ by ! compil]s or writ]s ( etiquette manuals4 ,my correspond5ts always want$ ^! que/ions answ]$ f ! ,new ,york /&po9t4 ,all ?is ,i h endeavor$ to d 9 ?is volume4 ,i h devot$ a *apt] to sports4 ,9 ?is ,i h made no attempt to give ! rules ( ! v>i\s pa/imes !re9 enum]at$4 ,i h simply jott$ d[n "s po9ts :i* ,i hope may be ( use to ! outsid]4 ,9 ! *apt] on danc+ ,i h tak5 ! ,patri>*s' ,ball 9 ,new ,york z my /&>d ( subscription ent]ta9m5ts ( ?is "*4 ,i h also writt5 ab\t cotillons z !y are conduct$ 9 ,new ,york4 ,i h endeavor$ to be pla9 & lucid4 ,i only desir$ t ?is book %\ld be a help to my read] 9 any dilemma ( social import1 & if ,i %all h prov$ ( assi/ance1 ,i %all feel t my mission has be5 accompli%$1 & t ,i h rea*$ ! goal ( my ambition4 ,,cont5ts4 ,,*apt] ,,page ,i4 ,,! ,,ba*elor ,,9 ,,public #a ,,ii4 ,,h[ ,a ,,ba*elor ,,%\ld ,,dress #aj ,,iii4 ,,! ,,ba*elor',s ,,toilet #ag ,,iv4 ,,! ,,c>e ,,( ,a ,,ba*elor',s ,,clo!s #bd ,v4 ,,introductions1 ,,invitations1 ,,& ,,calls #da ,,vi4 ,,c>ds #di ,,vii4 ,,! ,,d9]-,,out #ed ,,viii4 ,a ,,code ,,( ,,table ,,mann]s #fb ,,ix4 ,,! ,,city ,,ba*elor ,,z ,,ho/ #gd ,x4 ,,! ,,c\ntry ,,h\se #he ,,xi4 ,a ,,ba*elor',s ,,s]vants #id ,,xii4 ,,! ,,dance #ajb ,,xiii4 ,,! ,,cotillon #aab ,,xiv4 ,a ,,ba*elor',s ,,lett]s #aai ,,xv4 ,,! ,,ba*elor',s ,,club #abf ,,xvi4 ,,! ,,sport+ ,,ba*elor #acf ,,xvii4 ,a ,,ba*elor',s ,,travels ,,at ,,home ,,& ,,abroad #afj ,,xviii4 ,,! ,,engag$ ,,ba*elor #afi ,,xix4 ,,! ,,ba*elor',s ,,w$d+ #agb ,,xx4 ,,fun]als #aic ,,! ,,complete ,,ba*elor4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,,! ,,ba*elor ,,9 ,,public4 ,! av]age man is judg$ by 8 appe>ance & 8 deportm5t 9 public4 ,8 dress1 8 be>+1 8 conduct t[>d wom5 & 8 fell[-m51 are tell+ *>act]i/ics4 ,9 ! /reet1 :5 walk+ ) a woman--! t]m lady be+ objectionable1 except 9 case ( di/9ction--e man %\ld be on 8 mettle4 ,common s5se1 :i* is ! basis ( all etiquette1 tea*es him t he %\ld be h] protector4 ,!re=e1 "u g5]al circum/ances1 8 place is on ! /reet or out] side4 ,%\ld !re be a cr[d on ! inn] side1 %\ld ! walk+ be muddy or r\gh1 or %\ld !re be a build+ 9 process ( repair1 or "o or ! o!r ( ! inconv5i5ces ( city life1 !n ! man %\ld take ! side :i* w enable him to %ield 8 fair companion f all annoyance4 ,at night a man (f]s 8 arm to a woman4 ,9 ! daytime etiquette all[s ?is only :5 ! sidewalk is v r\gh1 :5 !re are /eps to climb1 a cr[d to be pilot$ ?r\gh1 or a /reet cross+ to effect4 ,9 any "o ( ^! em]g5cies sugge/1 ,i ?9k y w f9d x bett] to take my arm4 ,a man nev] walks bodk9--t is1 s&wi*$ betwe5 two wom54 ,x is ! privilege ( a woman to b[ fir/4 ,%e may h reasons :y %e %\ld n wi% to cont9ue an acqua9tance1 & a man %\ld nev] take ! initiative4 ,abroad1 9 _m c\ntries1 ! man b[s fir/4 ,:5 old fri5ds meet1 h[ev]1 ! b[+ is simultane\s4 ,a man lifts 8 hat 9 ackn[l$gm5t ( any salutation made to ! woman ) :om he is walk+4 ,x is 8 place1 on su* an occasion1 to b[ to a man fri5d1 :e!r ! latt] enjoys or does n h ! pleasure ( ! acqua9tance ( ! woman4 ,a man's failure to d ?is signifies t ! woman does n wi% to "k him1 or t h] companion does n wi% h] to "k ! o!r man4 ,hotel corridors & halls may be class$ z semi-public places4 ,a man meet+ a woman 9 "o ( ^!1 :]e by cu/om he is p]mitt$ to keep on 8 hat1 mu/ /ep aside & let h] pass1 rais+ 8 hat z he does s4 ,?is does n apply to !at] corridors1 !at] or hotel lobbies1 or (fices4 ,9 su* h\ses z ! ,waldorf 9 ,new ,york1 :]e ! hall is utiliz$ z a g5]al sitt+ room by bo? sexes1 x is n good =m = a man to keep on 8 hat4 ,9 ,london1 h[ev]1 ! rule is n z /rict4 ,m5 9 ?is c\ntry d n lift _! hats to "o ano!r1 except :5 !y are introduc$ 9 ! op5 or a public place4 ,civility is nev] wa/$1 & x is prop]1 z well z an act ( rev]5ce1 to ?us salute a cl]gyman or a v5]able & di/+ui%$ g5tleman4 ,a man always lifts 8 hat :5 (f]+ a woman a s]vice1 su* z pick+ up or re/or+ to h] a dropp$ pocket h&k]*ief or o!r article1 or :5 pass+ a f>e 9 a public conveyance1 or :5 r5d]+ any trifl+ assi/ance4 ,%\ld %e be ) a male escort1 ! latt] %\ld raise 8 hat & ?ank ! p]son :o has r5d]$ ! s]vice4 ,?is bit ( polit5ess is "u no circum/ances ! prelude to an acqua9tance ) an unescort$ woman1 & no g5tleman w\ld take advantage ( x4 ,a man always raises 8 hat & rema9s uncov]$ :5 talk+ to a woman4 ,x is n good =m to /op a woman on ! /reet1 ev5 if ! ex*ange ( a few commonplace rem>ks be ! excuse4 ,a man nev] jo9s a woman on a ?or\ghf>e unless %e be "o f ^: fri5d%ip he is sure t he c claim ?is privilege4 ,a g5tleman always assi/s a woman 9 & out ( a c>riage or a public conveyance4 ,he op5s ! door ( ! vehicle = h]1 helps h] 9 by a deft motion ( ! "r arm1 & ) 8 left protects h] skirts f any possible mud or du/ on ! :eel4 ,z he leaves h] he closes ! door1 &1 if x be a private conveyance1 gives directions to ! driv]4 ,he lifts 8 hat 9 bidd+ h] good-by4 ,ev5 :5 !re is a footman1 a second man1 or an att5dant1 x %\ld be e/eem$ a favor to give ?is assi/ance4 ,9 ent]+ %ops1 !at]s1 or o!r build+s1 :]e !re are sw++ doors1 ! escort goes ahead & holds "o ( !m aj>1 pass+ 9 la/4 ,a woman always prec$es a man1 except 9 "o or two special cases4 ,a man prec$es a woman walk+ d[n ! aisle ( a !at]1 & x is bett] =m t he %\ld take ! inside seat1 especially if !re is a man occupy+ ! place next to ! vacant "o4 ,a man prec$es a woman up a n>r[ /aircase 9 a public build+1 b 9 a private h\se1 9 asc5d+ or desc5d+ a /airway1 he %\ld always all[ ! woman to prec$e him4 ,9 ent]+ a !at] box a man foll[s ! u%]1 prec$+ ! woman d[n ! !at] corridor to ! door ( ! box4 ,he !n holds ?is op51 & ! wom5 prec$e him1 he foll[+ !m4 ,9 a *ur*1 9 go+ d[n a n>r[ aisle1 ! woman prec$es ! man4 ,! lift or elevator1 z well z ! corridors & lobbies ( a public build+1 ! (fice ( a hotel1 & ! ve/ibule ( a !at]1 are public highways4 ,9 ^! places a man keeps on 8 hat1 8 deportm5t be+ ! same z he w\ld obs]ve 9 ! /reet4 ,b :5 ! lift or elevator is fitt$ up z a draw+ room1 su* z is us$ 9 hotels & o!r semi-public build+s1 a man removes 8 hat :5 ! o!r sex is ( ! numb] ( its pass5g]s4 ,:5 escort+ a woman to a h\se :]e %e is to make a visit1 always m\nt ! /oop or /eps ) h]1 r+ ! bell1 & rema9 !re until ! s]vant comes to ! door4 ,!n1 if y are n go+ 91 take (f y\r hat & leave h]4 ,re/aurants1 ! d9+ rooms ( hotels1 ro( g>d5s1 & places ( amusem5t 9 ! op5 air1 :]e refre%m5ts are s]v$1 are semi-public4 ,a man always rises f ! table at :i* he is sitt+ :5 a woman b[s to him & imm$iately returns ! salutation4 ,%\ld ! place be 9 ! op51 he d(fs 8 hat1 :i* "u su* circum/ances he is oblig$ to we>4 ,:5 he is 9 a p>ty & a lady & h] escort *ance to /op at 8 table to ex*ange greet+s ) 8 fri5ds1 he %\ld rise & rema9 /&+ dur+ ! conv]sation4 ,if a man is introduc$ to him1 unatt5d$ by a woman1 & he is ) a /ag p>ty1 polit5ess bids him also rise4 ,a g5tleman w nev] be se5 9 public ) *>act]s :om he c\ld n introduce to 8 "m or 8 si/]4 ,a man :5 he is ) a lady %\ld be v c>eful1 especially at ro( g>d5s & su* places 9 midsumm]1 ab\t recogniz+ male acqua9tances :o seem to be 9 r d\btful company4 ,9 walk+1 a man %\ld c>ry ei!r a /ick or a well-roll$ umbrella4 ,! /ick %\ld be grasp$ j bel[ ! crook or knob1 b ! f]rule mu/ be kept d[nw>d4 ,9 bus9ess h\rs or on bus9ess ?or\ghf>es to c>ry a /ick is an affectation1 b ! man ( leisure is reg>d$ l5i5tly 9 ^! abodes z a privileg$ "*4 ,! umbrella is an in/rum5t ( peace r ?an a weapon ( w>1 & %\ld n be c>ri$ z trail$ arms1 b l ! /ick x %\ld be grasp$ a %ort di/ance bel[ ! h&le1 & ! latt] held almo/ upright on a v slight p]p5dicul>4 ,9 ! pres5ce ( ladies1 unless by special p]mission1 a g5tleman nev] smokes1 & "u no circum/ances does he indulge 9 a we$ :ile on ! /reet or walk+ ) !m4 ,if1 :ile smok+1 a man %\ld meet a woman & !re %\ld be any /opp+ to talk1 he mu/ at once ?r[ away 8 cig> or 8 cig>ette4 ,a pipe is nev] smok$ on fa%ionable prom5ades1 & a man 9 a top hat & a frock coat ) a pipe 9 8 m\? is an anomaly4 ,! pipe accompanies twe$s & a pot hat 9 ! c\ntry or on bus9ess ?or\ghf>es4 ,a me]s*aum or a wood5 pipe is !n all[able1 b nev] a clay or a dude54 ,! cuspidor is a bani%$ in/rum5t4 ,! fil?y cu/om ( tobacco *ew+ & consequ5t expectoration c n be tol]at$ 9 civiliz$ society4 ,a g5tleman is nev] hurri$1 nor does he loit]4 ,! fa%ionable gait is comp>atively sl[1 ) long /eps4 ,! exagg]at$ /ride ( ! ,anglomaniac is z bad =m z ! swagg] ( ! ,b[]y t\gh4 ,! correct demeanor is )\t ge/ure or app>5t ef=t4 ,/>+ at or ogl+ wom51 /&+ at ! entrances ( !at]s1 *ur*es1 or o!r public build+s1 /opp+ /ill & turn+ back to look at "s "o or some?+ 9 ! /reet1 c be classifi$ z (f5ses ( :i* no g5tleman c be guilty4 ,free & easy attitudes are n tol]at$ 9 good society1 & ?is same rule %\ld apply to public conveyances4 ,z ! man :o crosses 8 legs 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies is absolutely impossible1 s %\ld be ! individual :o commits ! same crime 9 a public conveyance4 ,he n only proves a nuisance to ^? ar\nd him1 b he is a s\rce ( damage z well z dang] to ! com=t & safety ( 8 fell[-pass5g]s4 ,9 a cr[d$ c>1 f]ryboat1 or /age1 x is yet a moot$ "q z to :e!r or n a man %\ld give up 8 seat to a woman4 ,9 !ory he %\ld1 b !re are circum/ances "u :i* he may be p>don$4 ,to a ref9$ or delicate lady1 to an old or an enfeebl$ woman1 or "o burd5$ ) bundles or ) a baby 9 ! arms1 ! answ] to ?is %\ld be a decid$ affirmative4 ,9 ! ,s\?1 ?is gallant action is univ]sally practic$1 except :5 ! woman is a negress4 ,9 public conveyances a man %\ld sit to ! "r ( a woman4 ,an escort %\ld pay all f>es 9 public conveyances1 & %\ld look aft] ! com=t & welf>e ( 8 companion1 tak+ entire *>ge ( tickets1 luggage1 & luggage *ecks4 ,%\ld a woman insi/ ^u pay+ h] pro rata ( ! exp5ses ! arrangem5t c be made be=e />t+1 _m s5sible wom5 h&+ _! escorts _! purses = ! purpose4 ,d n (f] to pay ! f>e ( any ( y\r wom5 fri5ds :o might possibly ent] y\r tra9 or /age4 ,?is is emb>rass+ & n necess>y4 ,a railway c> or c>riage be+ a public conveyance1 a man always keeps on 8 hat1 z he also does 9 a cab or any o!r vehicle 9 :i* he is driv+1 accompani$ or n accompani$ by "o ( ! opposite sex4 ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,,h[ ,a ,,ba*elor ,,%\ld ,,dress4 ,!re are ?ree rules ( dress :i*1 = ! ord9>y man 9 8 ev]yday life1 might be resolv$ into two4 ,^! orig9ally are morn+1 aft]noon1 & ev5+4 ,morn+ & ev5+ are absolutely necess>y2 aft]noon dress is donn$ on special occasions only4 ,morn+ dress is t :i* is worn dur+ bus9ess h\rs or at any "t 9 any place1 :]e semi=mal dress is n requir$ until c&lelight or sev5 o'clock 9 ! ev5+4 ,x consi/s usually 9 w9t] ( a l\nge or s+le-brea/$ sack suit made ( _m diff]5t k9ds ( mat]ial1 ! favorites be+ ,scot* twe$s or black & blue *eviots1 r\gh-fac$ & smoo?4 ,fa%ions are liable to "s v>iation season aft] season1 & ! g5]al rule c only be laid d[n 9 a book ( ?is k9d4 ,) ! morn+ or l\nge dress 9 w9t] is worn ! ,d]by or s(t-felt ,alp9e hat1 call$ ! ,homb\rg4 ,! ,d]bies are black1 br[n1 or drab1 & ! felts are gray1 br[n1 drab1 or black4 ,! color$ %irt ) :ite /&+ or turn$-d[n coll> is ! usual accompanim5t to ! l\nge suit4 ,! fa%ion = color$ %irts 9 /ripes has be5 t ! patt]ns run up & d[n & n across ! bosom4 ,! tie is a f\r-9-h& or an ,ascot1 or a simple b[1 ! boots black lea!r or d>k-br[n russet1 & ! gloves ( tan or gray undress$ kid or ( dogsk94 ,= ord9>y bus9ess we>1 suits ( black or gray mix$ *eviot1 vicuna or wor/$1 or fancy ,scot* goods1 ! coat ( :i* is a cutaway1 are also popul>2 b ! black diagonal cutaway has pass$ entirely out ( fa%ion1 & is utiliz$ at pres5t 9 rid+ co/ume4 ,! l\nge suit 9 summ] is ( blue flannel or v light *eviot or twe$4 ,/raw hats are worn 9 place ( ,d]bies & felts4 ,fa%ion sometimes dictates fancy wai/coats ( l95 to be worn ) bus9ess suits2 o!rwise ! entire co/ume--tr\s]s1 coat1 & wai/coat--is ( ! same mat]ial4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 at ! seaside1 or 9 communities :]e golf1 :eel+1 t5nis1 ya*t+ or o!r sports & pa/imes are ! ord] ( ! day1 ! co/umes appropriate = ^! are 9 vogue = l\nge or morn+ suits4 ,?is is :at ! ,engli% call mufti4 ,su* co/umes are1 h[ev]1 n 9 good =m 9 ! city4 ,black lea!r1 tan1 or russet %oes are worn ) morn+ dress4 ,:ite duck or flannel tr\s]s1 ) black or blue *eviot coat & wai/coat1 make fa%ionable l\nge suits = summ] resorts4 ,aft]noon dress consi/s ( a d\ble-brea/$ frock coat ( s(t *eviot1 vicuna1 or diagonal wor/$ ) ei!r wai/coat to mat*--s+le-brea/$ or d\ble-brea/$--( fancy clo?1 ,m>seilles duck or pique2 tr\s]s ( diff]5t mat]ial1 usually ca%m]e1 quiet 9 tone1 ) a /rip$ patt]n on a d>k gray1 drab1 or blue backgr\nd2 boots ( pat5t lea!r1 button$1 n ti$2 a :ite or color$ %irt ) /raight /&+ :ite coll>2 a f\r-9-h&1 puff$ ,ascot1 or small club tie2 silk hat & undress$ gray1 tan1 or br[n kid gloves4 ,! color$ %irt is an innovation1 & x %\ld be us$ sp>+ly1 :ite l95 on any semi=mal function be+ 9 bett] =m4 ,:5 spats are us$ !y %\ld be ( br[n1 gray1 or drab clo? or canvas1 to mat* ! tr\s]s z ne>ly z possible4 ,"s ultra faddi/s we> :ite kid gloves ) aft]noon dress1 b ! fa%ion is n univ]sal4 ,aft]noon dress1 is ! attire = w$d+s--= ! bridegroom1 be/ man1 u%]s1 & male gue/s2 at aft]noon teas1 aft]noon receptions1 aft]noon calls1 aft]noon walks on ! fa%ionable av5ue1 g>d5 p>ties 7b n picnics71 lun*eons1 &1 9 fact1 at all =mal or semi=mal functions tak+ place betwe5 midday & c&lelight1 z well z at *ur* on ,sundays1 at fun]als1 & 9 ! p>k 9 ,london aft] midday4 ,gray frock-coat suits are rec5t introductions f ,london1 & h be5 worn at all ! functions at :i* ! black is requir$1 b ! latt] is m cons]vative & 9 bett] ta/e4 ,! aft]noon dress is seldom worn 9 midsumm]1 morn+ suits be+ all[able at seaside & m\nta9-resort day functions4 ,ev5+ dress is ! prop] attire1 w9t] or summ]1 on all occasions aft] c&lelight4 ,!re are two k9ds ( ev5+ dress1 =mal & in=mal4 ,=mal or full ev5+ dress1 z x is sometimes vulg>ly call$1 consi/s ( ! ev5+ or swall[tail coat ( black dress wor/$ or s(t-fac$ vicuna1 ) or )\t silk or sat9 fac+1 ) wai/coat & tr\s]s ( ! same mat]ial1 ! latt] pla9 or ) a braid d[n ! sides4 ,! dress wai/coat c also be ( :ite duck or pique1 9 :i* case x is d\ble-brea/$4 ,! %ape ( ! dress wai/coat %[s ! %irt bosom 9 ! =m ( a ,u4 ,! ev5+ %irt is ( pla9 :ite l951 ) two %irt buttons & l9k cuffs1 /raight /&+ coll>1 :ite lawn or l95 tie4 ,! gloves are :ite ) :ite /it*+1 ! hose ( black silk1 & ! h&k]*ief1 :i* mu/ be pres5t b n se51 ( pla9 :ite l954 ,! %oes are pat5t-lea!r pumps or l[ qu>t]s1 ti$1 n button$4 ,! ov]coat is an ,inv]ness ( black *eviot1 l9$ ) sat9 & )\t sleeves1 & ! hat a cru% op]a4 ,^! two latt] adjuncts are n indisp5sable1 b mo/ conv5i5t4 ,an ord9>y black ov]coat & top hat c be worn ) ev5+ dress4 ,no visible jewelry--n ev5 a wat* *a9--is all[$4 ,! %irt buttons are ei!r ( :ite enamel1 dull-f9i%$ gold1 or pe>ls1 & ! sleeve l9ks :ite-enamel$ or loz5ge-%ap$ disks ( gold1 ) a monogram !reon engrav$4 ,ev5+ dress is de rigueur at balls1 dances1 ev5+ receptions1 ev5+ w$d+s1 d9n]s1 supp]s1 ! op]a1 & ! !at]1 :5 call+ aft] c&lelight1 & 9 fact at any =mal ev5+ function & g5]ally :5 ladies are pres5t4 ,in=mal ev5+ dress diff]s f =mal 9 ! we>+ ( ! ,tux$o or d9n] coat 9 place ( ! swall[tail1 & ! sub/itution ( a black silk = a :ite lawn tie4 ,! d9n] coat is ( black wor/$ or vicuna1 sat9-fac$4 ,x is ! badge ( in=mality4 ,=m]ly x 0 only worn at ! club1 at small /ag d9n]s1 & on occasions :5 ladies 7 n pres5t4 ,n[ x is 9 vogue dur+ ! summ] at hotel hops & at small in=mal p>ties to ! play1 at b[l+ p>ties1 re/aurant d9n]s1 &1 9 fact1 on any occasion :i* is n =mal4 ,f ,june to ,octob] m5 we> x 9 t[n e ev5+ )\t ov]coat4 ,z ! d9n] jacket is %ort1 a top or silk hat c n be worn ) x4 ,! prop] headge> 9 w9t] is a black felt s(t hat1 9 summ] a /raw4 ,! d9n] jacket is becom+ a necessity4 ,x is worn also by all y\?s & boys f twelve ye>s to sev5te51 at :i* latt] p]iod !y c assume ! toga virilis or swall[tail4 ,i "h app5d a few caution>y h9ts :i* mu/ be tak5 if y wi% to dress well4 ,all sc>ves & ties %\ld be ti$ by "o's self4 ,made-up neckwe> ( any k9d is n worn by well-groom$ m54 ,:ite ev5+ wai/coats & ,tux$o coats d n agree2 black is only all[able4 ,jewelry is vulg>4 ,! r+ = a man is a seal ( ei!r gre5 or r$ /one1 or ( pla9 burni%$ gold ) ! seal or monogram engrav$ ^u x4 ,x mu/ be worn on ! little f+]4 ,wat* *a9s & wat* fobs are n 9 vogue4 ,wat*es & lat*keys are atta*$ to a key *a9 & hidd5 9 ! tr\s]s pocket4 ,diamonds are only 9 good =m :5 set 9 a sc>f p91 & ev5 !n !y are 9 que/ionable ta/e4 ,diamond buttons & diamond r+s are absolutely vulg>4 ,! fa%ionable ov]coat 9 w9t] is a ,*e/]field or s+le-brea/$ frock ( k]sey or l mat]ial 9 br[n1 blue1 or black1 ) velvet coll>4 ,= autumn & spr+ ! tan cov]t coat is 9 vogue4 ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,,! ,,ba*elor',s ,,toilet4 ,! fir/ c>e ( a ba*elor is 8 ba? or tub4 ,to-day1 h\ses--especially clubs & ba*elor ap>tm5ts--are fitt$ up s luxuri\sly t ea* t5ant has 8 own individual til$ ba?room1 :i* he uses also z a dress+ room4 ,b :]e ^! are n1 ! t9 or ! ,india-rubb] ba? tub s]ves z well ! purpose ( our fir/ ablution4 ,a cold ba? to _m is a good refre%] & awak5]1 b !re are o!rs aga9 ^: con/itutions c n /& ! %ock1 especially 9 w9t]1 ( icy-cold wat]4 ,= cleans+ purposes1 tepid wat] is be/1 or a mixture ( hot & cold1 s z to take ! *ill (f4 ,a g5tleman takes at lea/ "o tub a day1 & t1 z may be inf]r$ f ! previ\s rem>ks1 :5 he arises4 ,if ! tub is 9 ! b$room1 h a rubb] clo? plac$ "u1 & fill x only half full4 ,! sponge is us$ = ! ba?1 ! wa% rag = ! wa%/&4 ,! body %\ld h a ?or\gh soap+4 ,! soap %\ld be ei!r ,ca/ile or a pure unsc5t$ glyc]94 ,sweet-sc5t$ soaps1 p]fum]y1 & sweet wat]s ( all k9ds %\ld be es*ew$4 ,! ,turki% t[el is ! be/ = dry+1 & x %\ld be vigor\sly b n r\ghly appli$4 ,a fle% bru% may be also us$ ) com=t4 ,z soon z ! body is p]fectly dry ! ba? robe or l>ge ,turki% t[el1 :i* "s pref] to wrap !mselves 91 l ,indians1 %\ld be resum$ & %av+ begun4 ,e man %\ld le>n to %ave himself4 ,razors are v delicate in/rum5ts & %\ld be kept 9 ?or\gh ord]4 ,safety razors ) little blades = ea* day 9 ! week are excell5t1 b if y use ! ord9>y razor add to y\r collection f "t to "t1 until y h at lea/ half a doz54 ,once a mon? s5d ^! to a b>b] to be /ropp$1 & /rop !m y\rself bo? be=e & aft] us+4 ,wipe !m dry ) a piece ( *amois clo? & put !m back 9 _! cases4 ,! be/ /rop is ( ,russia lea!r or ( canvas4 ,w>m wat] is n absolutely necess>y = %av+1 z "s be>ds are s(t & resi/ heat4 ,if possible1 arrange a %av+ /& ) a triplicate mirror & places = y\r razors1 %av+ mug1 bru%1 & soap4 ,y c pur*ase "o ( ^!1 ) ! entire outfit1 = a few doll>s at any ( ! l>ge city %ops4 ,a r+ or little silv] or metal hook = %av+ pap] c be plac$ on "o side ( ! /&4 ,a cleanly man %aves e morn+4 ,aft] %av+1 wa% ! face ) a little w>m wat] & wipe x ?or\ghly dry4 ,add to ! wat] a few drops ( ammonia or ( ,pond's extract1 if ! sk9 is liable to *ap4 ,9 ! fa%ion ( be>ds1 ! clean or smoo?-%av5 face1 ! po9t$ be>d1 & ! simple mu/a*e are ^? g5]ally 9 vogue4 ,%\ld y we> a be>d1 y %\ld h = x a special comb & bru%4 ,a small t9 bas91 a package ( sea salt1 & a special wa% rag are ! requisites = a morn+ eye ba?4 ,sea salt & w>m wat] are recomm5d$ by oculi/s z ! be/ tonic = ! eyes4 ,! tee? next claim y\r att5tion4 ,!re is no?+ m disgu/+ ?an f\l brea?1 :i* comes frequ5tly f neglect$ tee?4 ,use a s(t too?bru%4 ,avoid pat5t too? wa%es & lotions4 ,an excell5t too? p[d] is made ( two ?irds ,fr5* *alk1 "o ?ird orris root1 & a p9* ( myrrh4 ,any *emi/ w put ?is up = fifte5 c5ts4 ,tepid & n cold wat] %\ld be us$4 ,9 r9s+ ! m\? a drop or two ( li/]9e add$ to ! wat] is excell5t4 ,tee? %\ld be bru%$ at lea/ twice a day--morn+ & ev5+4 ,nev] use soap on y\r too?bru%4 ,get a spool ( d5tal silk--x w co/ y eight c5ts--& draw ! ?read betwe5 y\r tee? be=e y retire1 s z to remove any sub/ance :i* might h got into a crevice4 ,&1 above all1 h y\r tee? exam9$ c>efully by a good d5ti/ at lea/ twice a ye>4 ,see t y\r too?bru% is sweet & clean1 & place x h&le d[n 9 ! too? mug4 ,! h&s %\ld be well wa%$ & dri$1 tepid wat]1 sc5tless soap1 & a smoo? t[el be+ us$4 ,! nails %\ld h a vigor\s rubb+ ) a good nailbru% 9 ! morn+ be=e y\r meals & be=e y g to b$ at night4 ,! nail file & nail scissors mu/ be us$ z (t5 z possible4 ,rememb]1 dirty f+] nails betray ! vulg> & ! unkempt4 ,a man ) dirty h&s is impossible4 ,! nails %\ld n be po9t$1 b well r\nd$ & kept free ( bits ( call\s sk9 ar\nd ! base1 call$ hangnails4 ,f+] nails %\ld be kept %ort1 j a bit beyond ! fle%y tip ( ! f+]4 ,! nails ( ! toes %\ld be kept z c>efully z ^? ( ! h&s4 ,9 summ] a little talcum p[d] on ! feet w prev5t ! odor ( p]spiration4 ,! fa%ions = p>t+ ! hair *ange ) ! times4 ,at pres5t x is ! direct "p 9 ! middle :i* is mo/ fa%ionable4 ,v "y m5 we> _! hair unusually long1 b ?is fad is uncleanly4 ,! hair %\ld be cut at lea/ once a mon?1 & a glimpse ( ! sk9 ( ! neck %\ld always int]v5e betwe5 ! roots & ! coll>4 ,pomatums & greases & sc5ts ( all k9ds are /icky & injuri\s4 ,if y suff] ) dryness ( ! scalp rub a little vasel9e into x occasionally4 ,wa%+s ) t> soap or ) a little alcohol & rosem>y are b5eficial4 ,! scalp %\ld be well bru%$ ) mod]ately firm b n h>d bri/les4 ,! be/ bru%es are ^? )\t h&les1 kn[n z army & navy4 ,wat] is bad = ! hair4 ,con/ant comb+ ) a f9e-too? comb is apt to irritate ! scalp & provoke d&ruff1 :i* c be allay$ by bru%+1 %ampoo+1 & ! use ( borax & w>m wat]4 ,turki% or ,russian ba?s are b5eficial n[ & !n1 & ! vigor\s massage aft] a ?or\gh /eam+ is admirable = ! sk94 ,a man %\ld be scrupul\sly neat ab\t 8 toilet articles & appliances4 ,9 y\r ba?room y %\ld h a rack = y\r co>se & f9e t[els4 ,always place ! t[el y h us$ at ! side ( a /ation>y or on ! back ( a movable tub to dry4 ,see t ! soap is remov$ f y\r sponges1 & once a =tnight clean !m 9 "o qu>t] ( an ounce ( borax dissolv$ 9 tepid wat]4 ,let !m soak = an h\r1 & squeeze !m out 9 clean wat]4 ,hairbru%es are wa%$ 9 a little soda put into a qu>t ( hot wat]4 ,! bru% mu/ be dipp$ d[nw>d s z n to wet ! back4 ,:5 !y are cleans$ !y c be r9s$ 9 cold wat] & /ood on _! side1 aft] ! wat] is %ak5 out1 until q dry4 ,nailbru%es mu/ be turn$ on _! sides1 aft] us+1 s t ! wat] w n soak 9 & crack _! backs4 ,a man's toilet articles1 :e!r 9 silv] or wood1 %\ld be ( "o di/9ctive /yle & mat]ial4 ,too? & nail bru%es %\ld nev] h silv] h&les1 b hair & clo!s bru%es ) silv] backs are v sm>t4 ,!y %\ld be kept poli%$ ) a *amois clo?1 & occasionally a little silv] poli% or :it+4 ,y\r bureau or dress+ table is ! place = ! hair & clo!s bru%es1 ! combs1 ! toilet mirror1 nail files1 nail scissors1 & su* small] articles4 ,y\r nail & too? bru%es & soaps g on ! wa%-h& /&4 ,y\r sponges are be/ put 9 a little wire basket at ! side ( ! wa%-h& /&1 or ! immovable wa%/& if y\r room or ba?room has ! latt] conv5i5ce4 ,y\r b$room %\ld be v5tilat$ & all ! w9d[s op5$ aft] y leave x1 & y %\ld h at lea/ "o w9d[ up dur+ y\r sleep+ h\rs4 ,if y h a movable tub see t x is air$ ea* morn+ aft] us+4 ,always make a *ange ( clo!s & ( %oes :5 y come 9 f a busy day & f ! /reet4 ,no?+ ru9s clo!s s mu* z l\ng+ ab\t y\r room 9 !m4 ,& la/ b n lea/1 z x conta9s ! ess5tial ( all ^! rules & h9ts1 be always immaculately clean4 ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,,! ,,c>e ,,( ,a ,,ba*elor',s ,,clo!s4 ,!re are comp>atively few m5 :o c af=d ! luxury ( a good valet1 & t p]sonage himself1 :5 f\nd ?or\ghly compet5t1 is inde$ a treasure4 ,b x is an absurd mi/ake = any "o to ?9k t a valet is a necessity4 ,if y take a qu>t] ( an h\r = ! c>e ( y\r clo!s e day1 y c be j z well turn$ out z if y hir$ an exp5sive s]vant4 ,ev5 if y h indulg$ 9 ! luxury ( a valet1 y y\rself %\ld "k all ab\t look+ aft] y\r w>drobe4 ,:5ev] y *ange y\r clo!s y %\ld fir/ empty all y\r pockets4 ,!n1 z soon z ea* g>m5t is remov$1 x %\ld be vigor\sly %ak5 & bru%$ be=e x is fold$ & put away4 ,nev] hang coats1 tr\s]s1 or wai/coats2 always fold !m4 ,wire coat hang]s & tr\s]s /ret*]s ru9 clo!s4 ,:isk brooms are useful only :5 an extra-vigor\s treatm5t is desir$4 ,take a clo!s bru% & give y\r coat1 z soon z y take x (f1 a ?or\gh bru%+1 & hold x to ! light1 s t no p>ticle ( du/ may escape y\r eye4 ,! coat is !n fold$ exactly 9 half l5g?wise1 sleeve to sleeve1 ! l9+ on ! outside4 ,) ev5+ coats x is sometimes necess>y to fold ! sleeves 9 half1 ow+ to ! %ortness ( ! wai/4 ,9 pack+ a trunk ! same me?od is us$1 only ! sleeves are /uff$ ) tissue pap] to avoid possible wr9kles4 ,l>ge & bulky g>m5ts1 su* z ov]coats & frock coats1 %\ld be fold$ 9 triplicate4 ,lay ! coat flat on a table & fir/ fold on bo? sides1 ! "r & ! left1 s mu* ( ! lapel & coll> l5g?wise z w cov] ! sleeve4 ,?is w make two folds f ! top ( ! coll> to ! bottom ( ! skirt4 ,!n fold ! coat aga9 9 half l5g?wise1 us+ ! back z a h+e4 ,y w f9d ! same pr9ciple illu/rat$ by a cook ) a pancake4 ,! wai/coat is fold$ 9 half1 ) ! l9+ on ! outside4 ,always take (f y\r %oes & unbutton ! braces be=e y remove y\r tr\s]s1 & fold !m ov] ! back ( a *air1 :i* is to s]ve y z a clo!s rack4 ,take ! tr\s]s by ! wai/ & place toge!r ! fir/ two susp5d] buttons1 "o on ! left & ! o!r on ! "r4 ,?is w make ! fold pres]ve ! natural crease & dispose ( ! extra mat]ial1 button & buttonhole tab at ! wai/4 ,tr\s]s c>efully fold$ w only ne$ press+ ab\t twice a ye>4 ,hose %\ld be well %ak51 & unless p]fectly clean1 ?r[n 9 ! soil$-l95 basket4 ,ev5+ silk hose c be worn sev]al times4 ,! und]ve/1 or und]%irt1 & ! draw]s %\ld be also subject$ to a vigor\s %ak+1 & hung on ! back ( ! same *air :]e y h already plac$ y\r hose4 ,all ^! intimate g>m5ts are to be air$1 & ! *air on :i* y h hung !m tak5 to ! w9d[4 ,use a closet & a *e/ ( draw]s = y\r clo!s4 ,if y are 9 v limit$ qu>t]s1 six draw]s & a trunk %\ld be suffici5t = all y\r belong+s4 ,! ev5+ clo!s occupy "o draw] or %elf1 & ! morn+ & aft]noon suits ! o!r or two o!rs4 ,! rema9d] w be = l951 und]clo?+1 ties1 & h&k]*iefs4 ,betwe5 ea* suit ( clo!s !re %\ld be laid a newspap]2 ^? publications :i* use ! blacke/ ( pr9t]'s ink--! sure/ antidote = mo?s--be+ ! be/ = ?is purpose4 ,cov] ! top ( ea* pile ( clo!s1 :5 ! draw] or %elf is full1 ) a clean t[el4 ,9 a *e/ ) f\r draw]s ! bottom "o %\ld be us$ = und]clo!s1 ! top = h&k]*iefs1 hose1 & ties1 & ! two int]m$iate = y\r l954 ,! closet w h to s]ve = y\r suits ( clo!s1 or1 9 lieu ( t1 y\r trunk4 ,o!rwise ! la/-m5tion$ receptacle is ! place = clo!s out ( season1 c>efully laid away ) a full complem5t ( newspap] & camphor4 ,:5 y remove y\r %irt at night1 or :5 y *ange = d9n]1 be c>eful to take out ! buttons & sleeve l9ks1 unless y int5d to we> ! g>m5t aga94 ,9 t case1 hang x up 9 y\r closet4 ,! fir/ gift :i* a ba*elor usually receives f 8 si/] or 8 swee!>t is a h&k]*ief case1 & ,i h>dly ne$ advise y to pur*ase :at is a /&>d ,*ri/mas (f]+4 ,keep y\r h&k]*iefs 9 ?is1 y\r neatly fold$ ties 9 ! second division ( ! draw]1 & y\r hose 9 ! ?ird4 ,if y %\ld h a silv] & plu% p9cu%ion ) a movable top1 y\r small articles ( jewelry g 9 its int]ior1 or 9 a small box 9 ! top draw]4 ,silk hats1 ,d]bies1 & ,alp9es or s(t-felt hats %\ld nev] be bru%$ ) a :isk broom4 ,a hatt] w sell y = a small sum a s(t bru% ) a pliable plu% back1 :i* w d = smoo?+ y\r silk hat1 ! bri/les to be appli$ 9 remov+ ! du/4 ,a silk h&k]*ief w also smoo? a silk hat4 ,frequ5t iron+ de/roys ! nap4 ,/raw hats c be clean$ by fir/ rubb+ !m ov] ) ! half ( a lemon1 !n tak+ an old nail bru% & "s br[n soap & wat] & giv+ x a vigor\s bru%+4 ,!n y %\ld take heavy books & lay !m on ! brim ( ! hat4 ,an old p9cu%ion or sev]al t[els roll$ into a firm ball1 or a book :i* w fit exactly1 %\ld be plac$ inside ! cr[n4 ,all[ ! hat to dry1 & d n remove ! weights until ?is is accompli%$4 ,y w f9d y\r /raw z good z new & ! %ape pres]v$4 ,! writ] has tri$ ?is ) great success4 ,boots & %oes :5 n 9 use %\ld be put on wood5 trees to keep !m 9 %ape4 ,z trees are r exp5sive1 "o c use pap] & /uff x inside ! boot or %oe4 ,?is w n prove a bad sub/itute4 ,) pat5t lea!rs1 pap] or cotton /uff$ 9 ! toes prev5ts ! lea!r f wr9kl+1 & 9 ?is in/ance ! v *eap mat]ial is bett] ?an ! m exp5sive appliance4 ,pat5t lea!rs mu/ be cream$ & rubb$ ) a *amois clo? or l95 or flannel rag aft] all mud & du/ h fir/ be5 remov$4 ,?is op]ation %\ld be repeat$ daily4 ,"s m5 ma9ta9 t pat5t lea!rs %\ld be v>ni%$ z soon z !y come home f ! bootmak]1 b ,i disagree ) !m4 ,a v>ni%$ pat5t lea!r has always a *eap look1 & ! coat ( v5e] is only appli$ z a la/ resort1 to hide ! cracks4 ,russet boots & %oes are treat$ daily ) ! special cream sold = !m1 :i* c be obta9$ at any bootmak]'s or %oe %op4 ,! price is small1 & ! /uff w la/ a long "t4 ,russet boots1 h[ev]1 c be v well treat$ ) a little vasel9e1 b t product w n give !m ! deep-br[n color :i* is s fa%ionable4 ,! soles ( boots & %oes %\ld be pa9t$ black4 ,:5 a man is oblig$ to kneel 9 any c]emony1 ! sight ( :ite or yell[ gleam+ soles is absurd4 ,9 wet wea!r x is absolutely necess>y to turn up ! bottoms ( y\r tr\s]s1 to keep !m f fray+4 ,i w\ld sugge/ a g5]al ov]haul+ ( clo!s ab\t once a mon?4 ,at ! end ( ea* season ! heavy or light g>m5ts %\ld receive a f9al bru%+ & be /or$ away 9 a trunk1 *e/1 or sp>e room )1 z ,i h already advis$1 newspap]s betwe5 !m1 & "s camphor or mo? de/roy] z an extra precaution4 ,ov]coats1 :i* are 9 su* g5]al use1 may be hung dur+ _! season ( s]vice1 b %\ld be frequ5tly bru%$ & well %ak54 ,! economy ( space ?us obs]v$ 9 ! arrangem5t ( clo!s 9 a room w make x an easy matt] :5 ab\t to travel to pack "o's w>drobe 9 a trunk4 ,a %oe bag is a great conv5i5ce4 ,a simple canvas arrangem5t c be pur*as$ v *eaply1 or "o ( y\r fair fri5ds c make y "o4 ,y\r %oes %\ld be plac$ 9 ?is & put at ! bottom ( ! trunk 9 a corn]4 ,o!rwise y %\ld wrap y\r %oes & boots 9 pap]4 ,if y travel ) two trunks1 "o %\ld be res]v$ = y\r out] g>m5ts & ! o!r = y\r %irts & und]clo!s4 ,) "o trunk1 a %irt box is z mu* an article to be desir$ z a %oe bag1 b 9 lieu ( ?is ! %irts %\ld be plac$ 9 ! fir/ or top tray1 ! und]clo!s & hose 9 ! second1 & ! out] g>m5ts 9 ! bottom4 ,a small space 9 ! top c be res]v$ = y\r ties & h&k]*iefs4 ,toilet articles are c>ri$ 9 a h& bag2 wat]pro(s1 ov]coats1 & umbrellas & walk+ /icks 9 a %awl /rap4 ,y\r silk hat has b "o place1 & t is 9 a hatbox4 ,y c put a ,d]by 9 a corn] ( a trunk b a silk hat w\ld be ru9$4 ,:5 a long j\rney is tak51 x is economy 9 ! end to pur*ase an extra /eam] trunk = y\r und]clo!s & l954 ,trunks are n exp5sive1 & y w f9d t by n cr[d+ y\r clo!s y w save 9 ! long run4 ,always keep 9 y\r room a small bottle ( a good grease-remov] z well z "o ( ammonia1 "s s(t rags1 & a *amois = g5]al clean+ purposes4 ,an exp5diture ( a little ov] a qu>t] ( a doll> w provide y ) ^! necess>ies4 ,nev] l\nge ar\nd y\r room 9 y\r /reet or ev5+ dress4 ,if y are to /ay a:ile1 or if y come 9 = ! night1 take (f y\r clo!s & put on a ba? robe or y\r pyjamas if y d n possess a dress+ g[n1 :i* is n a necessity4 ,at y\r (fice y %\ld always h an old coat to we>1 & if x be summ] h "o ( l954 ,to sit ar\nd 9 "o's %irt sleeves1 ev5 at "o's place ( bus9ess1 is n *>act]i/ic ( ! g5tleman4 ,,! ,,co/ ,,( ,,clo!s4 ,e "y man />t+ 9 life & wi%+ naturally to take a "p 9 social functions & to become a memb] ( t body indef9itely kn[n z society1 is confront$ ) ! problem ( clo!s4 ,a few ye>s ago ! ord9>y *anges ( morn+1 aft]noon1 & ev5+ 7 all t 7 requisite1 b to-day1 ) special co/umes = v>i\s sports & pa/imes1 ! outlook at fir/ glance to "o ( limit$ income is n enc\rag+4 ,& yet a man ) a mode/ sal>y c dress v well on two to ?ree hundr$ doll>s a ye>1 & ev5 less4 ,x is only ! fir/ /ep :i* co/s4 ,"o mu/ h a f\ndation or a slight capital ) :i* to />t4 ,aft] t ) a little c>e exp5ses c be easily regulat$4 ,! ev5+ suit is ! mo/ exp5sive ess5tial ( a man's w>drobe4 ,?is he is oblig$ to h4 ,i w\ld advise1 9 select+ a suit ( ?is k9d1 to h x ( good mat]ial f a good tailor1 aft] a model n too pron\nc$1 s t 9 case ( any small alt]ation 9 ! fa%ions x c survive a season or two4 ,) prop] c>e y\r ev5+ suit %\ld la/ at lea/ five ye>s4 ,dur+ ! fir/ two or ?ree x %\ld be y\r co/ume = =mal occasions4 ,dur+ ! ?ird season y might possibly h ano!r pair ( tr\s]s made or r5ew ! wai/coat or ev5 ! coat4 ,:5 y f9d y\rself1 ?us by ! pr9ciples ( ! doctr9e ( ! survival ( ! fitte/1 ! possessor ( two ev5+ suits1 use ! old "o = !at]s & small d9n]s1 & ! be/ = ! =mal functions4 ,:ite wai/coats are v sm>t = ev5+ we>1 & an inve/m5t 9 "o or two ( ^! dur+ ! c\rse ( a season w save ! wai/coat ( ! ev5+ suit4 ,! prices ( ev5+ suits v>y4 ,! mo/ fa%ionable ,fif? ,av5ue tailors *>ge z mu* z "o hundr$ & tw5ty-five doll>s = !m4 ,"s m5 argue t ?is sum insures an excell5t inve/m5t4 ,h[ev]1 y c h an excell5t "o made by a good tailor = an outlay ( ab\t =ty doll>s4 ,! l>ge retail clo?+ %ops h a cu/om dep>tm5t1 & t is _! figure = an ev5+ suit made to ord]4 ,y c ev5 h "o = tw5ty-five doll>s1 b ,i w\ld n sp5d a less am\nt4 ,sup]9t5d ! mak+ ( x y\rself4 ,"s m5 h adju/able figures1 & !y c pur*ase _! clo!s f ! block--t is1 ready-made4 ,! only fault to f9d ) ^! g>m5ts is _! ma*9elike cut4 ,! pockets1 if any1 ! l9es1 ! b9d+1 & ! entire get-up look z if ^! affairs _h be5 turn$ out by ! doz54 ,:ite wai/coats = ev5+ we> are1 h[ev]1 some:at 9 ! nature ( luxuries4 ,!y are difficult to h laund]$1 & "s v sm>t m5 object to hav+ !m s5t to ! wa%1 & w\ld n we> "o aft] x has gone ?r\gh t process4 ,! ,fif? ,av5ue tailor w *>ge z mu* z tw5ty doll>s = a :ite duck wai/coat made to ord]4 ,x may fit y p]fectly1 b yet aga9 x may n look a :it bett] ?an ! ready-made :i* y c pur*ase at a hab]da%]'s = f ?ree to five doll>s4 ,a ,tux$o or d9n] coat1 z expla9$ 9 ano!r *apt]1 is almo/ a necessity4 ,x is really a sav+4 ,if y c n af=d to h an entire suit ( ?is k9d made y may simply h ! jacket1 :i* w co/ f tw5ty-five to =ty doll>s1 & we> x ) ! tr\s]s & wai/coat1 & keep x to be "p ( y\r in=mal ev5+ dress4 ,i h kn[n m5 to h _! black sack coats or old black diagonal cutaways or old ev5+ coat *ang$ into a ,tux$o by ! cutt+ (f ( tails1 ! sub/itution ( a silk coll>1 or "s o!r alt]ation4 ,a sack coat is easily arrang$1 & any little tailor ar\nd ! corn] w make ! metamorphosis = ?ree doll>s4 ,suppose y h _h "o ( y\r old coats trans=m$ into a ,tux$o4 ,y c pur*ase1 if y d n wi% to h made1 a pair ( black tr\s]s ( ! same mat]ial = a v few doll>s1 & an old black wai/coat1 :i* w5t ) ! orig9al coat1 c also be alt]$4 ,rememb] t a ,tux$o d9n] coat has n to be ( a c]ta9 mat]ial4 ,x mu/ be black & h a silk coll>4 ,x is really neglige4 ,y %\ld />t ) a capital ( at lea/ six ev5+ %irts4 ,if y are a weal?y man ^! w co/ possibly1 made to ord]1 z high z fifty-six doll>s1 b y c also h excell5t ones = n9e doll>s4 ,x is consid]$ sm>t to h ! coll>s atta*$1 b n necess>y4 ,! cuffs1 h[ev]1 %\ld be always a "p ( ! %irt4 ,:ite ties are tw5ty-five to ?irty-five c5ts a piece4 ,always /ate ! numb] ( coll> y we> :5 pur*as+ ev5+ ties1 & y w nev] h cause to compla9 ( ! l5g?4 ,black pat5t-lea!r pumps1 made to ord]1 are f eight to n9e doll>s4 ,y c get !m mu* *eap] ready made1 b ! only tr\ble ) !m is t !y are n usually good fits1 & t 9 future ye>s y w h cause to regret ?is economy4 ,( black silk /ock+s1 ( :i* y w ne$ two or ?ree pair1 y c h a *oice f a doll> & a half to six doll>s a pair4 ,i w\ld advise ! pur*ase ( two bus9ess or l\nge suits a ye> = ! fir/ ?ree ye>s4 ,9 mak+ ?is e/imate ,i c h>dly suppose t y are 9 ! /ate ( ,adam1 & ,i w\ld advise y to we> y\r old suit 9 w9t] especially1 & on ra9y & /ormy days4 ,y\r ov]coat w conceal x 9 ! /reet1 & at ! (fice ! old] ! clo!s ! bett]4 ,! pivotal po9ts ( a man are 8 hat1 boots1 & tie4 ,h ^! p]fectly correct1 & ! re/ w take c>e ( itself4 ,= w9t] buy a ?ick1 useful clo?1 su* z ,scot* homespun or r\gh *eviot or twe$4 ,br[n & gray mixtures are always fa%ionable & we> well4 ,9 summ] a light-gray *eck or a blue *eviot or flannel are always sm>t4 ,?us mak+ an old suit ( ! ye> be=e alt]nate ) ! new "o1 y w f9d t eighty doll>s w be suffici5t to help y be a well-groom$ man4 ,a half doz5 color$ %irts = morn+ we> are necess>y1 ) atta*$ cuffs b deta*$ coll>s4 ,e n[ & !n ,i w\ld inve/ a few doll>s 9 %irts1 & be=e y "k x y w h a l>ge supply4 ,z dress %irts gr[ old s5d !m to be repair$ at any ( ! _m places :i* y w f9d adv]tis$1 & use !m = morn+ %irts4 ,six *anges ( und]we>--m]9o or wool--& a doz5 balbriggan or wool5 hose w be suffici5t4 ,summ] und]we> is v *eap1 & y c get a light m]9o suit = "o doll>4 ,a f\r-doll> inve/m5t w la/ sev]al seasons4 ,good w9t] und]we> is exp5sive1 co/+ f\r or five doll>s a suit4 ,pyjamas ( ,madras or pongee silk1 v effective & pretty1 c be _h = a doll> & a half to ?ree doll>s a suit4 ,f\r suits ( ^!--two = summ] & two = w9t]--w la/ at lea/ two ye>s4 ,a man mu/ h1 besides 8 danc+ pumps1 a pair ( pat5t-lea!r walk+ boots & a pair ( /\t common boots = ev]yday we>4 ,if y c af=d x1 h two pair ( boots made at ! same "t1 or ev5 m4 ,an inve/m5t ( fifty doll>s 9 boots1 at say eight doll>s a pair1 w\ld be excell5t4 ,y c *ange daily1 & !y w la/ y ov] a p]iod ( two or ?ree or m ye>s4 ,! aft]noon suit is m or less a luxury4 ,unless y frequ5t aft]noon teas or make _m aft]noon calls1 or act z an u%] at w$d+s 9 any city b ,new ,york1 ! frock coat is n1 = ! fir/ ?ree or f\r ye>s ( y\r c>e]1 an absolute necessity4 ,9 ,new ,york1 h[ev]1 :]e calls are only made 9 ! aft]noon1 x mu/ =m a "p ( y\r w>drobe4 ,a frock coat c be made = =ty or fifty doll>s2 sev5ty-five to "o hundr$ doll>s is *>g$ by ! mo/ exp5sive tailors4 ,:5 y ord] x1 see t x is n 9 ! extreme ( fa%ion4 ,! cons]vative g>m5t w la/ a numb] ( ye>s4 ,! mat]ial1 z ,i h already sugge/$ 9 ano!r *apt]1 mu/ be ( r\gh wor/$1 vicuna1 or mat]ial ( t k9d1 & nev] ( broadclo?4 ,) x y mu/ h a pair ( fancy or ca%m]e tr\s]s4 ,^! w co/ f eight to fifte5 doll>s1 & !y w la/ y sev]al ye>s4 ,9 fact1 ! pur*as+ ( ! aft]noon suit 9 "o way is excell5t3 x does n h to be r5ew$ z (t5 z o!r p>ts ( y\r w>drobe4 ,x /ays practically 9 fa%ion1 ) little deviation1 = almo/ a decade4 ,! silk hat1 :i* is necess>y = ! aft]noon suit1 is "o ( ! mo/ exp5sive items ( a man's w>drobe4 ,a top hat mu/ be ( ! prevail+ mode4 ,autumn is ! be/ "t = pur*as+1 z y c disp5se ) x aft] ,may1 except on v special occasions4 ,two ,d]bies--"o = autumn & ! o!r = spr+--at f two to f\r doll>s1 or only "o1 = t matt]1 to la/ ?r\gh ! entire eight mon?s1 & a /raw hat1 f two to f\r doll>s1 w be ! entire am\nt exp5d$ = headge> by ! v be/-dress$ m54 ,= a ,d]by y c sub/itute an ,alp9e or ,homb\rg4 ,! op]a cru% hat is a luxury1 & y c we> ) y\r ev5+ suit y\r top hat ( ! ye> be=e1 :i* y c *ri/5 y\r night hawk4 ,%irt buttons & sleeve l9ks are also an exp5sive item4 ,h[ev]1 ! pur*ase ( ^! occurs b once 9 a lifetime1 & fifte5 doll>s w\ld d beautifully = enamel or pla9 gold4 ,ties v>y 9 price1 & x is difficult to limit a man on ?is exp5diture4 ,_m inve/ 9 !m z a fad1 pick+ !m up "h & !re1 & ?us accumulat+ a l>ge assortm5t4 ,a little judgm5t 9 pur*as+ w all[ y to acquire q a l>ge w>drobe4 ,if y give y\r p]sonal sup]vision to ! mak+ ( y\r clo!s y c employ a *eap tailor :o w turn out v good "w4 ,= fa%ion plates1 ,i d n "k ( any bett] ?an ,du ,mauri]'s pictures ( sm>t ,london m5 9 ! ,london ,pun*4 ,wat* ! sales 9 ! autumn & ! late spr+ = b>ga9s 9 hab]da%]y4 ,/udy well ! advice giv5 9 ! *apt] on ! ,c>e ( ,clo!s 9 ?is book1 & y w f9d !re9 t :i* w c]ta9ly tea* y economy4 ,,*apt] ,v4 ,,introductions1 ,,invitations1 ,,& ,,calls4 ,=mal introductions are n 9 vogue 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,! ne>e/ approa* to x is :5 "o is desir\s ( introduc+ a /rang] or "o ( 8 p>ticul> fri5ds to ano!r4 ,:5 y desire to pres5t a man to a woman y mu/ ask h] if y may br+ ,mr4 ---- to h] h\se4 ,9 ,new ,york ! cu/om>y "t = su* visits is 9 ! aft]noon1 betwe5 f\r & six4 ,9 introduc+ m5 to "o ano!r x is unnecess>y to make a =mal appo9tm5t4 ,9 pres5t+ a man to a woman h] p]mission mu/ fir/ be ask$4 ,! =mula is1 ,mrs4 ,c----1 may ,i pres5t ,mr4 ,d----8 ,in=mal introductions may be made betwe5 p visit+ 9 ! same h\se by simply say+1 ,mrs4 ,d----1 may ,i pres5t ,mr4 ,b----8 or ,mr4 ,f----1 d y "k ,mr4 ,c----8 ,^! in=mal introductions ne$ n be recogniz$ aft]w>d unless mutually agreeable4 ,introductions are nev] made 9 ! /reet or 9 public places ( any k9d1 or 9 public conveyances1 unless "u exceptional circum/ances4 ,x is extremely bad =m to introduce a gue/ on 8 entrance into a room to m ?an "o o!r4 ,:olesale introductions are n ! cu/om 9 ,new ,york4 ,g5]al introductions are n made at a d9n] or at any function4 ,p are suffici5tly well br$ to engage 9 g5]al conv]sation :5 9 ! h\ses ( _! fri5ds1 ev5 if !y d n "k ea* o!r1 & n to take advantage ( ! circum/ances aft]w>d4 ,at any function at :i* ! gue/s are told (f1 ! ho/ or ho/ess only pres5ts ! man to ! woman :om he is to take d[n4 ,a man nev] %akes h&s ^u be+ pres5t$ to a woman1 b always on be+ introduc$ to a man4 ,a man %\ld nev] %ake h&s ) a woman :ile we>+ 8 gloves unless %e also is glov$4 ,y\r ho/ess w give h] h& to y :5 y make y\r obeisance4 ,aft] be+ pres5t$1 an invitation is apt to foll[4 ,x may be1 ,drop 9 to tea any aft]noon1 or simply1 ,i w\ld be glad to h y call4 ,?is invitation %\ld always come f a m>ri$ woman4 ,unm>ri$ wom5 d n ask "y m5 to call4 ,a man may ask ! privilege ( call+1 or ! "m ( ! "y woman may say1 ,we %\ld be pleas$ to h y call1 ,mr4 ,smi?4 ,9 ,new ,york & 9 _m ( ! l>g] cities1 z has already be5 /at$1 ! prop] "t = a man to call on a woman is betwe5 ! h\rs ( f\r & six 9 ! aft]noon4 ,sometimes wom5 h days 9 ! season1 & y %\ld pay y\r call on "o ( !m4 ,o!rwise any aft]noon may d1 & y c use ,sunday = ?is purpose aft] ?ree o'clock4 ,aft]noon dress is1 ( c\rse1 requisite4 ,9 ^? places :]e ev5+ calls are made a man mu/ we> =mal ev5+ dress4 ,on ! op5+ ( ! door by ! s]vant1 a man asks ( him :e!r ! ho/ess or ! ladies are at home4 ,?is w dep5d on ! numb] ( ! memb]s ( ! family receiv+4 ,he gives to ! dome/ic ! prop] numb] ( c>ds4 ,! s]vant prec$es him1 op5s ! draw+-room door = him1 & 9 "s ultra ,engli% h\ses he is ann\nc$4 ,8 c>d or c>ds h be5 deposit$ on ! silv] tray :i* ! s]vant has pres5t$ to him 9 ! hall & left !re4 ,a visit+ c>d is nev] br\ght into ! draw+ room4 ,a man on a fir/ or a =mal call c>ries 8 /ick & hat into ! draw+ room ) him4 ,to hang 8 hat 9 ! hall %[s great intimacy--ev5 relation%ip--9 ! h\se4 ,he1 h[ev]1 %\ld leave !re 8 ov]coat & 8 rubb]s & umbrella4 ,8 ho/ess w advance to meet him1 & w ext5d to him h] "r h& ) a some:at /iff angul> motion1 & he %\ld %ake x ) a quick n]v\s movem5t ( 8 "r4 ,he %\ld nei!r grasp nor squeeze h] h&1 nor %\ld he attempt t absurd s-call$ ,briti% %ake 9 ! air1 :i* is nev] practic$ except by play] folk4 ,a man removes 8 glove f 8 "r h& on ent]+ ! draw+ room1 & holds ?is ) 8 /ick & hat 9 8 left4 ,! hat %\ld be at an angle1 ! top ab\t level ) 8 nose4 ,at w$d+s1 ! op]a1 & dances1 :]e a woman is glov$1 a man1 if x is requir$ to %ake h&s1 does n remove 8 gloves4 ,on ord9>y occasions a woman is seldom glov$ 9 h] own draw+ room1 & if %e is1 h&%ak+ is n usually expect$4 ,%\ld ! ho/ess be glov$1 z at a l>ge affair1 su* z a =mal or w$d+ reception1 a man %akes h&s ) h] ) !m on4 ,tea is g5]ally s]v$ 9 ! aft]noon on a tray ) waf]s1 little cakes1 & sometimes s&wi*es4 ,if y take a s&wi* or a cup ( tea1 a doylie w be giv5 y1 :i* place ^u y\r knee4 ,:5 ano!r call] ent]s ! room /& up1 :e!r x is a woman or a man4 ,t5 m9utes is all t is necess>y = a =mal call4 ,x is less awkw>d to leave :5 a new call] is ann\nc$4 ,%ake h&s ) y\r ho/ess & b[ to ! p pres5t4 ,leave ! room sideways1 s z n to turn y\r back ^u ! company1 & b[ to !m z y rea* ! door1 ?us b[+ y\rself out4 ,rememb]1 d n be a l+]] or a sitt]4 ,no m5 are m dread$ 9 society ?an ^! wret*$ bores4 ,! fir/ arrivals leave fir/4 ,freez+ out is n kn[n 9 good society4 ,calls %\ld be made aft] e civility ext5d$ & e invitation accept$ or regrett$2 aft] w$d+s1 w$d+ receptions1 dea?s 9 families1 etc41 z fully expla9$ 9 ! *apt] on c>d-leav+4 ,a lett] ( introduction is always s5t1 nev] left 9 p]son4 ,calls at ! !at] or 9 op]a boxes are m]e social am5ities1 & are n accept$ z =mal4 ,a man ent]s an op]a box1 /&s1 & b[s4 ,8 ho/ess w turn ar\nd & greet him4 ,he w !n1 if !re is a vacant *air1 take "o1 & sit & talk a little :ile1 leav+ on ! arrival ( ano!r call]4 ,^! rules = aft]noon calls c be appli$ also to ^? made 9 ! ev5+4 ,if no day is set = a fir/ call1 a man is expect$ to drop 9 any aft]noon )9 t5 days aft] ! invitation4 ,! soon] a call is made ! great] ! complim5t4 ,a second call may be made )9 two or ?ree mon?s2 aft] t once or twice a ye>1 z intimacy p]mits4 ,a man is nev] ask$ to d9n] or to any function at a h\se at :i* he has n fir/ call$4 ,! usual =m ( a d9n] invitation1 ! ho/ess be+ m>ri$1 reads3 ,my de> ,mr4 ,smi?3 ,w y d9e ) u1 mo/ in=mally1 on ,w$nesday1 ,decemb] ! n9?1 at eight o'clock8 ,hop+ t y h no engagem5t = t ev5+1 believe me1 ,y\rs v s9c]ely1 ,alice de ,tompk9s4 ,novemb] ?irtie?4 ,an answ] to an invitation l ?is1 :i* %\ld be s5t )9 tw5ty-f\r h\rs1 reads3 ,my de> ,mrs4 de ,tompk9s3 ,x w give me great pleasure to d9e ) y on ,w$nesday ev5+1 ,decemb] ! n9?1 at eight o'clock4 ,) _m ?anks = y\r k9d ?\ght ( me1 ,y\rs v s9c]ely1 ,alg]non ,smi?4 ,decemb] fir/4 ,or1 9 ! case ( a =mal d9n] consi/+ ( m ?an t5 or twelve gue/s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 de ,tompk9s reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 ,smi?'s company at d9n] on ,w$nesday ev5+1 ,decemb] ! n9?1 at eight o'clock4 ,! answ] reads3 ,mr4 ,alg]non ,smi?1 ,jr41 accepts ) pleasure ,mr4 & ,mrs4 de ,tompk9s's k9d invitation = ,w$nesday ev5+1 ,decemb] ! n9?1 at eight o'clock4 ,decemb] fir/4 ,answ]s to =mal lun*eon invitations are writt5 9 ! same mann]1 only *ang+ ! h\rs1 etc4 ,in=mal invitations to breakfa/s & lun*eons w be treat$ 9 ! *apt] on t subject4 ,! =m ( an invitation to a private dance is3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 de ,tompk9s reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 ,alg]non ,smi?'s company on ,friday ev5+1 ,janu>y ! n9?1 at n9e o'clock4 ,r4 ,s4 ,v4 ,p4 ,danc+4 ,! answ] to ?is w\ld be simil>ly word$ z 9 case ( ! =mal d9n]4 ,z dance invitations are usually s5t out ?ree weeks 9 advance1 ?ree days' grace is all[$ = ! answ]4 ,:5 an invitation is receiv$ to a subscription ball1 l ! assemblies 9 v>i\s cities1 y %\ld ackn[l$ge x1 by y\r acceptance or regret1 to ! subscrib] s5d+ x2 b :5 an invitation is receiv$ f a ball committee1 y %\ld accept z foll[s3 ,mr4 ,james de ,c\rcy ,pet]son accepts ) pleasure ! committee's k9d invitation = ,?ursday ev5+1 ,febru>y ! fifte5?4 ,janu>y second4 ,,*apt] ,,vi4 ,,c>ds4 ,!re is only "o visit+ c>d 9 vogue = a man4 ,x mu/ be ( pla9 :ite bri/ol bo>d1 unglaz$1 ab\t ?ree or f\r in*es 9 l5g? & ab\t two in*es 9 wid?4 ,! "n %\ld be engrav$1 n pr9t$1 9 ! middle ( ! c>d1 9 small copp]plate type1 )\t ornam5tation ( any k9d4 ,! prefix ,mr4 is always us$ unless ! p]son is a physician1 9 :i* case he c place ,dr4 be=e 8 "n1 or a cl]gyman1 :5 he may use ! ,rev4 ,mr4 or ! ,rev4 ,dr41 accord+ to 8 rank4 ,army & navy m51 rank+ z capta9 or above1 %\ld put _! rank on _! c>ds4 ,mr4 is ! prefix = subalt]ns4 ,! address is plac$ und]nea? ! "n 9 small] type & 9 ! "r-h& corn]4 ,if an address1 h[ev]1 is t ( a man's club1 x %\ld be engrav$ on ! left h&4 ,a man's c>d %\ld also conta9 8 ,*ri/ian z well z 8 surname4 ,if he possesses two ,*ri/ian names1 or any di/9ctive family "n1 t %\ld also be giv51 s t 8 appellation is %[n 9 full4 ,= in/ance1 ,mr4 ,john ,william ,jones1 ,mr4 ,james ,br[n ,smi?1 ,mr4 ,hamilton ,hamilton-,/uyvesant4 ,visit+ c>ds %\ld be kept 9 a small case ( sealsk9 or black or ,russia lea!r & c>ri$ 9 ! inside pocket ( a frock coat1 or if small en\gh m conv5i5tly 9 ! wai/coat pocket4 ,c>d cases %\ld be /amp$ ) initials or h a silv] monogram4 ,visit+ c>ds %\ld nev] be c>ri$ loose 9 ! pocket4 ,a c>d is left 9 p]son ! day aft] a d9n]1 lun*eon1 or breakfa/1 or )9 a week at late/ aft] a ball4 ,civility mu/ be return$ by civility1 & c>ds mu/ be left on e occasion on :i* a call is necess>y4 ,c>ds %\ld n be s5t by mail1 unless :5 ab\t to leave ! c\ntry1 or "u circum/ances :]e x is impossible to make a p]sonal call4 ,on leav+ ! c\ntry y %\ld write ! initials ,p4 ,p4 ,c4 7p\r pr5dre conge7 9 ! "r-h& corn]4 ,9 ,new ,york _m m5 s5d c>ds by mail1 (f]+ ! excuse t ! city is too l>ge to get ab\t to make p]sonal calls4 ,?is is only a flimsy pretext1 & %\ld h no weight4 ,! "q ( h[ _m c>ds to leave is "o :i* seems to bewild] mo/ p4 ,! g5]al rule is a c>d to ea* p]son4 ,?is w h to be expla9$4 ,:5 y call on ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,smi? y mu/ leave a c>d = ea*--two c>ds4 ,:5 y call on ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,smi? & ! ,misses ,smi?1 ?ree c>ds1 ! "y ladies c\nt+ z a unit4 ,= ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,smi?1 ! ,misses ,smi?1 & _! m>ri$ daught] ,mrs4 ,jones /ay+ ) !m1 f\r c>ds--,mrs4 ,jones be+ entitl$ to ! f\r?4 ,if ,mr4 ,jones is also /opp+ at ! ,smi?s leave an extra c>d = him4 ,= ,mrs4 ,smi? 7wid[7 & ! ,misses ,smi?1 two c>ds4 ,= ,mr4 ,smi? 7wid[]7 & ! ,misses ,smi?1 two c>ds4 ,9 mail+ c>ds1 address !m on ! envelope ,mrs4 ,smi?1 ! ,misses ,smi?1 or ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,br[n-,smi?2 ,! ,misses ,br[n-,smi?1 ! "o "u ! o!r4 ,nev] write on y\r c>ds ,= ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,br[n-,smi?4 ,x is bad =m4 ,nev] leave c>ds = p :o h n ask$ y to call4 ,:5 fri5ds f ano!r city1 :o h ent]ta9$ y or :o h be5 polite to y1 %\ld arrive 9 y\r own city1 y %\ld imm$iately call & leave c>ds = !m4 ,9 t case1 %\ld y ev5 n be acqua9t$ ) _! ho/ & ho/ess1 x w\ld be civil to leave c>ds also = !m4 ,aft] a w$d+1 if invit$ to ! reception1 y mu/ p]sonally leave c>ds at ! h\se :]e ! reception has be5 giv5 = y\r ho/ & ho/ess1 & also = ! "y c\ple :5 !y return f _! bridal trip4 ,two c>ds at ea* place w be suffici5t 9 ?is case4 ,:5 invit$ to ! *ur* only1 leave or s5d c>ds to ! bride's p>5ts & ! "y c\ple4 ,z ! c>d to ! *ur* only1 is r an equivocal complim5t1 mail+ c>ds 9 ?is case c\ld be excus$4 ,leave p]sonally c>ds = ! patroness :o has ask$ y to a subscription ball1 )9 a week aft] ! invitation4 ,9 cases ( dea?1 leave c>ds )9 a =tnight4 ,9 answ] to lett]s ( condol5ce1 x is be/ to s5d y\r c>ds ) ! words ,?ank y = y\r k9d sympa?y writt5 !reon4 ,= m\rn+1 use ! same size or /yle ( c>d1 b ) a n>r[ or deep bord] z befits ! ne>ness ( degree ( relation%ip ) ! deceas$4 ,! deepe/ bord] p]missible is ab\t a qu>t] ( an in*4 ,x is bad =m to b5d c>ds or to turn d[n ! corn]s !re(4 ,^! signs mean no?+ n[ 9 good society4 ,9 call+--x may be repeat$ "h--y ask1 if !re are m ?an "o ( ! fair sex 9 ! h\se1 = ! ladies1 & h& ! s]vant ! numb] ( c>ds necess>y4 ,he takes !m on a silv] salv] & leaves !m 9 ! hall1 goes be=e y1 & ann\nces y4 ,y\r c>d is nev] tak5 to ! lady ( ! h\se1 unless x is a bus9ess call4 ,,*apt] ,,vii4 ,,! ,,d9]-,,out4 ,:5 ,i speak ( ! d9]-out1 ,i include "u ?is title ! ba*elor gue/ n only at d9n]s1 b also at lun*eons & at supp]s4 ,! =mal breakfa/ is a fe/ivity ( ! pa/1 & ! fir/ meal 9 a h\sehold is purely a family affair4 ,h[ev]1 lun*eons on ,sunday at "o or two o'clock are 9 ,new ,york frequ5tly call$ breakfa/s1 because ,i believe _m fa%ionable p d n want ! impression to g abroad t ev5 once a week !y d9e 9 ! middle ( ! day4 ,! lun*eon aft] a day w$d+ c]emony is also call$ a breakfa/1 b ?is1 l ! ,sunday meal1 is simply a title by c\rtesy4 ,lun*eons1 :]e m5 are gue/s1 are popul> ent]ta9m5ts at all ! l>ge summ] resorts1 su* z ,newport1 ,long ,bran*1 ,b> ,h>bor1 z well z at ! m celebrat$ ( ! ,we/]n & ,pacific wat]+ places & ! w9t] cities ( ! ,s\?4 ,9 ,new ,york & o!r great c5t]s1 :]e !re exi/s a numb] ( g5tlem5 ( leisure1 ^! ent]ta9m5ts are greatly 9 vogue1 & 9 ,wa%+ton !y sometimes assume ! color ( diplomatic functions4 ,! h\r = a lun*eon is half pa/ "o o'clock1 & sometimes x is advanc$ to two4 ,all gue/s are expect$ to be punctual to ! m9ute & to take advantage ev5 ( ! qu>t] ( an h\r latitude is bad =m4 ,bett] a little too e>ly ?an too late4 ,h[ev]1 d n make y\rself ridicul\s by appe>+ on ! sc5e too soon4 ,be> 9 m9d t ! reputation ( be+ ! late ,mr4 ,smi? is n enviable4 ,a t>dy gue/ only acc5tuates 8 own insignificance4 ,?is rule applies to d9n]s & supp]s & to all ent]ta9m5ts :]e y are a gue/1 ) only "o exception--dances1 :]e y h an h\r's grace4 ,lun*eons1 z a rule1 are in=mal affairs4 ,m5 h att5d$ !m 9 l\nge suits1 b x is m c\rte\s to y\r ho/ess to appe> 9 aft]noon dress4 ,ov]coats1 hats1 & /icks are left 9 ! hall4 ,y\r gloves are remov$ 9 ! draw+ room4 ,:5 lun*eon is ann\nc$1 unless x is a v =mal affair1 y\r ho/ess leads ! way to ! d9+ room1 & %e is foll[$ by h] gue/s1 wom5 & m51 n 9 procession4 ,! m51 ( c\rse1 mu/ all[ ! fair] sex to pass be=e !m ?r\gh ! draw+-room door & into ! d9+ room4 ,lun*eon m5us consi/ ( oy/]s1 clams1 or grape fruit ) cru%$ ice & saturat$ ) m>as*9o = ! fir/ c\rse4 ,?is is foll[$ by b\illon1 an entree1 a roa/ or *ops ) peas1 or broil$ *ick51 salad ) birds1 ices & fruits1 c(fee & liqueurs4 ,%]ry & cl>et are ! w9es1 & sometimes *ampagne is s]v$4 ,a lun*eon la/s ?ree h\rs at mo/1 & ! m5 are left to smoke at dess]t4 ,h[ev]1 sometimes ?is =mality is waiv$4 ,d9n] invitations are s5t out at lea/ a =tnight 9 advance4 ,9 ! ,new ,york season sometimes !y are issu$ a full mon? be=e ! ev5t4 ,!y mu/1 "u all circum/ances1 be answ]$ )9 tw5ty-f\r h\rs1 & c>ds left on y\r prospective ho/ & ho/ess )9 a week4 ,! fa%ionable h\rs = d9+ are betwe5 half pa/ sev5 & eight o'clock4 ,d9n]s be+ =mal ev5+ functions1 =mal ev5+ dress is ess5tial4 ,except at v small h\ses & ap>tm5ts1 two rooms are res]v$--"o = ! m5 & ! o!r = ! ladies--z dress+ rooms4 ,y\r hat1 coat1 & outdoor attire are remov$1 & a s]vant w assi/ y 9 arrang+ y\r toilet4 ,a nef>i\s practice ( fee+ ^! att5dants1 ev5 at private h\ses1 has be5 some:at 9 vogue 9 a v sm>t & weal?y set 9 ,new ,york4 ,x is n good =m1 & ,i w\ld advise y aga9/ x4 ,! s]vant :o ann\nces y1 h&s y a small envelope on :i* is writt5 y\r "n4 ,?is incloses a c>d on :i* is ! "n ( ! lady :om y are to take 9 to d9n]4 ,aft] ex*ang+ greet+s ) y\r ho/ess & remov+ y\r gloves1 y %\ld endeavor to f9d y\r p>tn] & engage 9 "s prelim9>y conv]sation4 ,%\ld y n h be5 pres5t$ to h]1 in=m y\r ho/ess ( ?is fact1 & y w be at once introduc$4 ,d9n] is ann\nc$ by ! butl] ent]+ ! draw+ room & say+1 ,d9n] is s]v$4 ,! ho/ leads ! way ) ! woman gue/ ( honor1 & y are assign$ y\r place 9 ! procession by ! ho/ess1 :o comes la/ ) ! man gue/ ( honor4 ,ea* man (f]s 8 "r arm to 8 fair p>tn]4 ,9 ! d9+ room1 c>ds are plac$ at ea* cov] ) ! names ( ! gue/s inscrib$ !reon4 ,ev5 %\ld !re be a ret9ue ( s]vants1 pull back ! *air ( y\r p>tn] & assi/ h] to seat h]self4 ,9 "s old-fa%ion$ h\ses grace is said1 & x is always ! rule :5 a cl]gyman is "o ( ! gue/s4 ,?is bless+ is ask$ aft] ! company is seat$4 ,dur+ d9n] y mu/ devote y\rself to ! com=t & ent]ta9m5t ( ! woman :om y h tak5 94 ,%e mu/ be y\r fir/ c>e1 al?\gh !re may be "s "o on y\r o!r side1 or opposite1 :o is m cong5ial to y4 ,talk+ across ! table is v bad =m4 ,let y\r conv]sation be pleasant & g5]al1 b avoid politics1 religion1 & p]sonal criticisms4 ,!re is no =m = refus+ w9e1 if x is aga9/ y\r scruples to dr9k x4 ,d n ?us =ce y\r p]sonal prejudices on y\r ho/ by mak+ any demon/ration1 su* z putt+ y\r f+] ov] ! glass or %ak+ y\r head at ! butl]4 ,let him fill y\r glasses1 b d n dr9k ! cont5ts4 ,! "q ( wa/e is n to be consid]$2 & if y are a man ) firm pr9ciples reg>d+ total ab/95ce1 9 y\r he>t y %\ld rejoice t at lea/ a quota ( ! fluid w d no h>m4 ,! ho/ess gives ! signal at dess]t = ! ladies to retire to ! draw+ room4 ,ev]ybody rises1 & ! ladies leave ! table 9 solemn procession1 ! man ne>e/ ! door op5+ x = !m4 ,a pretti] cu/om1 & "o mu* 9 vogue 9 ,new ,york1 is ! escort+ ( ! ladies by ! m5 to ! draw+ room1 ! ho/ lead+ ! way4 ,:5 ! draw+-room door is rea*$ ! m5 b[ & retire aga9 to ! d9+ room1 :]e c(fee1 liqueurs1 & cig>s are s]v$4 ,at ! end ( a half h\r !y return to ! draw+ room4 ,ano!r half h\r ( conv]sation1 dur+ :i* sometimes !re is danc+1 & ! gue/s make _! adieus to _! ho/ess & ho/ & leave4 ,on bidd+ good-night1 always assure y\r ho/ess ( ! pleasant ev5+ :i* y h enjoy$4 ,progressive d9n]s are sometimes giv51 al?\gh n[ almo/ obsolete4 ,small tables are arrang$ = ^! ) p>ties ( f\r or six at ea* table4 ,! gue/s *ange places at ea* c\rse1 ! signal = ?is be+ giv5 by ! ho/ess r++ a bell4 ,! ladies rema9 9 _! seats4 ,z !re w n be a fre% napk9 provid$ at ea* c\rse1 a man br+s 8 ) him f 8 fir/ table4 ,public d9n]s1 except :5 giv5 by c]ta9 *ur*1 debat+1 or lit]>y societies1 are /ag affairs4 ,! gue/s assemble at ! re/aurant1 hotel1 or hall :]e ! banquet is to be held1 & deposit _! hats1 coats1 & walk+ p>aph]nalia 9 ! cloakroom4 ,a ticket is giv5 ) ! numb] ( y\r rack ^u x1 & a small fee--usually tw5ty-five c5ts--is expect$4 ,! gue/s assemble 9 "o ( ! small] draw+ rooms1 & ea* "o is h&$ a plan ( ! tables ) ! location ( 8 cov] designat$ by 8 "n ^u x4 ,a procession is =m$1 ! gue/s ( honor & reception committee lead+1 to ! banquet hall4 ,aft] dess]t1 spee*es are 9 ord]4 ,d9n] dances are a =m ( ent]ta9m5t :]e d9n] is foll[$ by a dance1 o!r gue/s com+ 9 f o!r d9n] p>ties & meet+ at "o h\se :i* has be5 agre$ ^u z ! place :]e ! dance is to take place4 ,a %ort "t aft] d9n]1 at ea* ( ! o!r h\ses1 ! gue/s are convey$ !refrom 9 c>riages1 or1 bett] yet1 9 /ages1 to ! g5]al r5dezv\s4 ,calls are due )9 ! week at ! h\se :]e y h d9$ z well z at ! "o at :i* y h danc$4 ,supp] etiquette diff]s b little f t obs]v$ at d9n]s4 ,! occasion is a bit m in=mal & ! m5u n s elaborate4 ,! etiquette ( ball supp]s is treat$ 9 ! *apt] on ,! ,dance1 & supp]s aft] ! play1 at re/aurants & clubs1 be+ favorite ba*elor ent]ta9m5ts1 w be expla9$ 9 t "p ( ?is book res]v$ = ! ,ba*elor z ,ho/4 ,,*apt] ,,viii4 ,a ,,code ,,( ,,table ,,mann]s4 ,_m ( ! cautions conta9$ 9 ?is *apt] w seem elem5t>y 9 _! nature4 ,b "o expects 9 a book ( ?is k9d to see ! old famili> don'ts1 & _! abs5ce w\ld p]haps det] f ! usefulness ( ,! ,complete ,ba*elor4 ,i w\ld1 h[ev]1 sugge/ a c>eful /udy ( t clev] bro*ure1 entitl$ ,don't1 :i* w\ld refre% ! memory on _m po9ts n )9 ! scope ( ?is "w4 ,x is really q surpris+ to see h[ few m5 h p]fect table mann]s4 ,! ,am]ican is un=tunately too (t5 9 a hurry4 ,he bolts 8 food4 ,he is a victim ( ! quick-lun* sy/em4 ,aga91 a ba*elor eat+ a solit>y meal at a club or a re/aurant is apt f %e] lonel9ess to try & dispose ( x z rapidly z possible4 ,drill y\rself into eat+ leisurely4 ,p]sons ( ref9em5t take only small morsels at a "t4 ,"o c n be too da9ty at table4 ,to attempt to talk :ile y\r m\? is full is ano!r vulg>ity ^u :i* x is ne$less to dwell4 ,! ,fr5* h made u ! reproa* t we frequ5tly dr9k :ile our m\?s are 9 ?is condition4 ,i fe> !re is "s f\ndation = ?is accusation4 ,wipe y\r m\? c>efully be=e putt+ a glass to y\r lips4 ,grease /a9s ar\nd ! edge ( a goblet or w9eglass are sil5t b telltale witnesses ( c>eless habits4 ,! napk9 is an emb>rass+ article to _m m54 ,its place is on ! lap & n tuck$ into ! %irt bosom or fe/oon$ ar\nd ! neck4 ,:5 "o arises f ! table1 ! napk9 is ?r[n c>elessly on x1 unfold$4 ,! days ( napk9 r+s are ov]4 ,n]v\s & ba%ful p]sons fidget1 !y d n sit squ>ely or firmly at table1 _! *airs are crook$1 !y play or ge/iculate ) _! knives & =ks1 or !y beat dismal tattoos ) !m aga9/ _! plates4 ,^! same timid m9ds f9d v5t = inspiration 9 ! crumbs ( ! bread1 ( :i* !y involunt>ily make little figures or small r\nd balls4 ,! economi/1 ano!r p]son on ! li/1 pla/]s 8 food1 tak+ a bit ( potato1 a little tomato1 & a good-siz$ squ>e ( meat z a f\ndation1 & spread+ ^! tidbits "o on ! o!r1 prep>es ( !m a delectable p\ltice :i* he swall[s at a m\?ful4 ,i pass ov] ! man :o leaves traces ( ea* meal on 8 %irt or 8 clo!s4 ,su* a be+1 ,i h no d\bt1 w\ld convey food to 8 m\? ) 8 knife1 w\ld bl[ on 8 s\p1 tea1 or c(fee ) ! idea ( cool+ x1 or w\ld p\r ! two latt] *e]+ fluids into a sauc] & dr9k !m !refrom4 ,! caution to keep "o's h&s above ! clo? & "o's elb[s out ( rea* ( o!rs1 also falls "u ! head ( k9d]g>t5 classification4 ,! ridicul\s idea prevail+ t "o mu/ n eat until o!rs are s]v$ has pass$ away ) _m old-"t fallacies4 ,"o comm5ces to eat z soon z s]v$4 ,y ne$ n proce$ v actively1 b y c take up y\r =k or spoon1 z ! case may be1 & make at lea/ a fe9t at x4 ,toa/s h also fall5 into desuetude at private d9n]s4 ,sometimes y w f9d an old-fa%ion$ ho/ :o w1 on t\*+ 8 glass ) 8 lips1 b[ to 8 gue/s1 & !y may wait = ?is signal to sip _! w9e1 b ! cu/om is utt]ly obsolete 9 l>ge cities & at =mal d9n]s4 ,:5 y h f9i%$ ! c\rse1 lay y\r knife & =k side by side on y\r plate1 ! prongs ( ! =k upw>d4 ,d n cross !m4 ,no :i/like signals are ne$$ to-day to signify t y h _h suffici5t to eat4 ,d9n]s are g5]ally s]v$ a la ,russe--t is1 f ! sidebo>d1 & ! di%es are pass$ ar\nd by ! s]vants on silv] trays4 ,v l>ge plats1 su* z roa/s & fi%1 are sometimes c>ri$ )\t ! trays4 ,on all occasions ( c]emony ! m5 s]vants are glov$4 ,c>v+ at table is b little se5 except at v in=mal d9n]s & 9 ! c\ntry1 :]e sometimes ! ma/] ( ! h\se %[s (f ?is old-fa%ion$ accompli%m5t1 especially if he has a d9+ room 9 colonial /yle & wi%es to h ev]y?+ 9 keep+4 ,! "q ( second help+s is !re=e n "o ( mom5t4 ,! s]vants pass ! vi&s twice or m ar\nd4 ,if a ho/ or ho/ess s]ves at table1 he or %e w ask ! gue/s :e!r !y w\ld l a second help+4 ,x is nev] dem&$4 ,except :5 absolutely necess>y ! h&k]*ief %\ld be kept out ( sight4 ,x c be us$ 9 case !re %\ld be "s sudd5 irritation ( ! sk91 b to bl[ "o's nose at table is disgu/+4 ,! ,am]ican ba*elor takes usually a v light fir/ meal4 ,x consi/s ( tea1 c(fee1 or cocoa1 toa/1 eggs1 oatmeal1 & fruit4 ,!re are yet a few m5 :o g 9 = ! old-fa%ion$ he>ty breakfa/ ) beef/eak1 buck:eat cakes1 & trimm+s1 b 9 cities ! light] meal is pref]able4 ,all ?is is1 ( c\rse1 m a matt] ( environm5t & hygi5e ?an etiquette4 ,i h compil$ a li/ ( c]ta9 vi&s1 :i* society does require %\ld be eat5 at a special meal & 9 only "o mann]4 ,) ?is catalogue ,i w close ?is *apt]4 ,,breakfa/ ,,& ,,lun*eon ,,di%es4 ,eggs4--,x is mu* bett] =m to h egg cups ?an egg glasses = boil$ eggs4 ,cut ! top ( ! egg (f ) a dext]\s bl[ ( a %>p knife & eat x 9 ! %ell ) a small egg spoon4 ,sug>4--,lump sug> if s]v$ is always tak5 ) ! sug> tongs4 ,butt]4--,butt] is only s]v$ at breakfa/ or lun*eon4 ,x is pass$ ar\nd 9 a silv] di%1 ) a little silv] pick ) :i* to spe> x4 ,butt] plates--i4 e41 ! small r\nd silv] or *9a affairs--h giv5 place to bread & butt] plates1 :i* are ( *9a & are some:at l>g] ?an an ord9>y sauc]4 ,! butt] plate ( a few ye>s ago 0 nev] se5 outside ( ,am]ica1 & is n[ de/9$ to vani% f our tables4 ,x is ne$less to add t butt] is nev] s]v$ at d9n]4 ,radi%es4--,radi%es appe> at lun*eon4 ,put !m on y\r bread & butt] plate & eat !m ) a little salt4 ,cantal\pes are s]v$ cut 9 half & fill$ ) ice4 ,!y are eat5 z a fir/ c\rse1 a =k be+ bett] to eat !m ) ?an a spoon4 ,salt is ! condim5t to use ) !m1 b sug> is all[able4 ,9 s\!rn climates !y are sometimes s]v$ at d9n] z a sep>ate c\rse betwe5 ! fi% & roa/4 ,?is is a ,creole cu/om4 ,grape fruit is s]v$ z a fir/ c\rse 7vide *apt] ,d9]-,out7 at a late breakfa/ or lun*eon4 ,x is eat5 ) a spoon4 ,,d9n]4 ,! m5u ( to-day is simple4 ,x consi/s ( oy/]s or clams1 accord+ to season1 s\p1 fi%1 entree1 roa/ & vegetables1 game & salad1 ices & dess]t4 ,sorbets or froz5 pun*es are n s]v$1 except at public banquets & hotel table-d'hotes4 ,oy/]s or clams are plac$ on ! table 9 plates = ! purpose be=e d9n] is ann\nc$4 ,!y are imb$d$ 9 ice & arrang$ ar\nd a half-slic$ lemon1 :i* is 9 ! middle ( ! plate4 ,oy/]s or clams are eat5 ) a =k only4 ,g\rmets say t !y %\ld n ev5 be cut ) x1 & %\ld be swall[$ :ole4 ,i w\ld n advise any "o to try ?is ) l>ge oy/]s4 ,! oy/] =k is ! fir/ 9 ! numb] ( ! implem5ts plac$ beside y\r plate4 ,condim5ts1 su* z pepp] & salt1 w be pass$ y4 ,saut]ne is s]v$ ) oy/]s4 ,oy/] cocktails h be5 9 vogue 9 place ( oy/]s4 ,^! are a mixture ( ! bivalve ) ,tabasco sauce & v9eg>1 & !y are said to be excell5t appetiz]s4 ,!y are eat5 ) a small =k f cocktail glasses4 ,ba*elors frequ5tly s]ve !m 9 place ( oy/]s4 ,s\p4--,at l>ge & =mal d9n]s a cle> s\p is 9 vogue4 ,y\r s\p spoon w be on ! knife side ( y\r plate4 ,s\p is eat5 f ! side & n f ! end ( ! spoon4 ,! motion ( ! h& guid+ ! spoon is t[>d & n f y4 ,take s\p 9 small spoonfuls1 & use y\r napk9 9 wip+ y\r m\? & mu/a*e aft] ea*1 especially if ! s\p is ?ick or a puree4 ,?is w avoid ! dripp+ ( t liquid f y\r upp] lip4 ,nev] aft] ?is op]ation ?r[ y\r napk9 back into y\r lap ) ! greasy side t[>d y\r clo!s1 b use ! inside ( x = ?is purpose4 ,fi% is eat5 ) a silv] fi% =k4 ,*as+ morsels ( fi% ar\nd y\r plate ) bits ( bread is obsolete4 ,silv] fi% knives h be5 put 9 use1 b !y are n g5]ally ! vogue4 ,cucumb]s are s]v$ ) fi% on ! same plate4 ,little plates or sauc]s = cucumb]s1 vegetables1 or salads are bad =m4 ,%]ry is s]v$ ) fi%4 ,cel]y1 olives1 & salt$ almonds are plac$ on ! table 9 small di%es4 ,sometimes ! gue/s are ask$ to help !mselves1 b at =mal d9n]s !y are pass$ ar\nd aft] ! fi%4 ,cel]y is eat5 ) ! f+]s & dipp$ 9 a little salt plac$ on ! tableclo? or on ! edge ( y\r plate4 ,x is also s]v$ z an entree raw1 ! /alks /uff$ ) ,p>mesan *eese4 ,x %\ld !n be eat5 ) a =k4 ,entrees require a =k only4 ,among ^! are patties1 rissoles1 croquettes1 & sweetbreads4 ,mu%rooms are eat5 ) a =k1 & s]v$ z a sep>ate c\rse 9 lieu ( an entree4 ,t]rap9 is s]v$ sometimes 9 little silv] saucepans ei!r z an entree or z fi%1 & aga9 9 a *af+ di%1 & sometimes ) salad4 ,x is m ( a supp] ?an a d9n] plat1 & %\ld be eat5 ) a =k4 ,asp>agus is eat51 except 9 ! intimate privacy ( y\r own family circle1 ) a =k4 ,cut ! po9ts (f ) ! end ( ! prongs4 ,! /alk or :ite "p is n eat54 ,x is all[able to eat x ) y\r f+]s1 z ,i h said1 9 private4 ,x is s]v$ aft] ! roa/ z a special c\rse4 ,"o c n dr9k *ampagne ) asp>agus except at ! risk ( a sev]e heada*e4 ,arti*okes are s]v$ z a sep>ate c\rse aft] ! roa/4 ,!y %\ld be plac$ 9 ! c5t] ( y\r plate & ! inside tips ( ! leaves alone eat54 ,! leaves are remov$ ) ! f+]s & dipp$ 9 salt1 sauce v9aigrette1 or melt$ butt]4 ,! c5t] ( ! arti*oke is call$ ! he>t4 ,! hairy "p is remov$ ) ! =k1 & ! he>t itself1 :i* is delici\sly t5d]1 is convey$ to ! m\? ) ! =k4 ,*ampagne is s]v$ 9 small tumbl]s or cl>et glasses4 ,! *ampagne /em glasses are out ( fa%ion4 ,! dry may be s]v$ f ! fi% to ! close ( d9n]1 b ! old rule 0 to give x ) ! roa/1 cl>et ) ! entree1 & ,burgundy ) ! game4 ,salad is eat5 ) a =k only4 ,9 cutt+ game or p\ltry1 ! bone ( ei!r w+ or leg %\ld n be t\*$ ) ! f+]s1 b ! meat cut close (f4 ,x is bett] to sev] ! w+ at ! jo9t4 ,savories1 a species ( salt fi% & *eese s&wi*1 is s]v$ 9 ,engl& hot1 ab\t ! end ( d9n]4 ,!y %\ld be eat5 ) a =k4 ,undress$ salad is sometimes s]v$ ) !m1 or radi%es1 butt]1 & *eese4 ,?is is ! only occasion :5 "o sees butt] on a d9n] table1 & ?is at in=mal d9n]s4 ,! salad undress$ c be eat5 ) ! f+]s4 ,at ba*elor d9n]s & at lun*eons *eese is s]v$ ) salad4 ,! ,fr5* s(t *eeses are ! favorites4 ,pa/ry1 ices1 & dess]ts are eat5 ) a =k4 ,fruit1 su* z pea*es1 pe>s1 & apples1 are s]v$ frequ5tly already p>$4 ,:5 ?is is ! case1 f+] b[ls are disp5s$ )1 b z yet ?is is n a g5]al rule4 ,usually at dess]t !re is plac$ be=e y a f+] glass & doily & a dess]t plate1 ) ! dess]t knife & =k on ei!r side4 ,remove ! glass & doily2 put x 9 front ( y\r plate a little to ! "r4 ,fruit mu/ be p>$ or peel$ ) a silv] knife4 ,/rawb]ries are n[ s]v$ ) ! /ems on1 & sug> & cream are pass$ ar\nd & are tak5 on y\r dess]t plate4 ,p9eapples are eat5 ) a =k4 ,a crack] is us$ = nuts1 & silv] picks are br\ght 9 ) ! dess]t4 ,corn on ! cob is a favorite at small in=mal d9n]s z a sep>ate c\rse4 ,9 polite society y mu/ remove ! gra9s ( ! corn ) y\r =k or y\r knife & =k1 & nev] eat x (f ! cob hold+ ! end ) y\r f+]s4 ,by hold+ "o end ) y\r napk91 y c pl[ d[n ! furr[ ( ! gra9s ) y\r =k1 & y w f9d t !y w fall (f easily4 ,corn is always s]v$1 :5 giv5 9 ?is /yle1 on a :ite napk94 ,y help y\rself to ! e> ) y\r f+]s4 ,mac>oni & spaghetti %\ld only be eat5 ) a =k4 ,9 ,new ,orleans boil$ %rimps are (t5 s]v$ at small d9n]s4 ,! sk9s & heads are on1 & y remove ^! ) y\r f+]s4 ,aft] ?is c\rse f+] b[ls ) orange leaves are pass$ ar\nd1 & ! p]fume ( ! wat] w remove ! odor ( fi% f y\r f+]s4 ,black c(fee is s]v$ aft] d9n]4 ,milk or cream does n accompany x1 except 9 ! c\ntry1 :]e sometimes a little silv] pit*] ( cream is plac$ on ! tray4 ,c(fee is drunk f small cups4 ,c(fee & milk are nev] s]v$ dur+ d9n]1 nor aga9 is ic$ milk4 ,^! are b>b>isms4 ,*>treuse1 kuemmel1 curacoa1 & cognac are ! liqueurs usually s]v$ aft] d9n]4 ,cl>et1 9 _m ,fr5* families1 especially ^? ( ! middle class1 is plac$ on ! table 9 decant]s4 ,y are expect$ to help y\rself4 ,!re are also c>afons or decant]s ( wat] to mix ) ! w9e4 ,! cl>et decant]s are call$ c>afes4 ,cl>et is drunk at ! twelve o'clock dejeun] z well z at d9n]4 ,tea is pass$ ar\nd 9 old-fa%ion$ ,engli% h\ses ab\t an h\r aft] d9n]4 ,9 "s places butt]$ muff9s accompany x1 b ?is extra refre%m5t is only se5 n[ 9 v old-fa%ion$ h\ses4 ,scot* :isky & hot wat] or m9]al wat]s are s]v$ 9 c\ntry h\ses be=e b$time4 ,,*apt] ,,ix4 ,,! ,,city ,,ba*elor ,,z ,,ho/4 ,,lun*eons1 ,,d9n]s1 ,,!at] ,,p>ties1 ,,club ,,& ,,re/aurant ,,supp]s1 ,,& ,,o!r ,,ba*elor ,,ent]ta9m5ts4 ,! ba*elor :o ent]ta9s is a mo/ popul> memb] ( society4 ,x does n co/ a =tune to return 9 "s mann] ! civilities once receiv$1 & e man1 ev5 if 8 income be limit$1 c once 9 a :ile ent]ta91 ev5 if x be on a v small scale & 9 a v mode/ way4 ,ba*elor functions are always enjoyable4 ,= a ho/ ( mod]ate income1 ,i w\ld sugge/ a lun*eon1 a d9n]1 or a p>ty to ! play1 foll[$ by a little supp]4 ,a ba*elor lun*eon c be giv5 ei!r at ! ho/'s ap>tm5ts or *amb]s1 at a re/aurant1 or 9 ! ladies' annex ( 8 club1 if t organization possesses su* an in/itution4 ,at all ent]ta9m5ts giv5 "u a ba*elor's v9e & fig tree1 extreme simplicity %\ld be a *>act]i/ic4 ,! table l95 %\ld be ( ! f9e/ damask1 or ! be/ mat]ial 8 income w all[2 ! glass p]fectly pla91 cle> cry/al1 ! *9a ( a ri* b quiet patt]n1 ! silv] good b absolutely )\t ornam5tal devices ( any k9d4 ,9 fact1 ! silv] c be limit$ to =ks & spoons1 & ! re/ ,%effield or pr9ce's plate4 ,silv] is n exp5sive1 b plate is consid]$ q sm>t1 & x has ! advantage ( be+ utt]ly valueless f ! burgl>'s po9t ( view4 ,individual salt & pepp] affairs1 cut or color$ glass1 or ! hundr$ & "o knick-knacks :i* "o sees adv]tis$ & :i* ev5tually f9d _! way to ! bo>d+-h\se table1 are vulg>4 ,be=e y\r clo? is laid y %\ld h a cov] ( felt plac$ ov] ! table1 s z to =m a %ield betwe5 x & ! damask or l954 ,9 ! c5t] goes a silv] or plat$ f]n]y1 fill$ ) f]ns & asp>agus v9es1 on a mirror tray1 or an ep]gne ) fruit4 ,two heavy1 old-fa%ion$ decant]s 9 ,que5 ,anne coa/]s %\ld be plac$1 "o at y\r "r & ! o!r at ! "r ( y\r vis-a-vis4 ,^! conta9 %]ry & cl>et4 ,f\r pla9 silv]1 plat$1 or *9a di%es are at ! corn]s ) salt$ almonds1 olives1 bonbons1 & fancy cakes4 ,if y wi% to be v effective & h ! money to sp>e1 x is sm>t at a d9n] to h silv] c&le/icks ) c&les or t9y lamps gleam+ beh9d r$ or p9k %ades at ea* cov]4 ,two or ?ree =ks are laid at ! left ( ea* plate4 ,if m are requir$1 y\r s]vant w replace !m4 ,on ! "r ( ! plate are ! knives1 includ+ "o = ! roa/1 ) ! tablespoon = ! s\p1 if x is a d9n]1 & ! oy/] =k4 ,! napk9s %\ld be pla9 & flat1 & conta9 a roll ( bread4 ,^! h9ts = arrang+ ! table w d = ei!r lun*eon or d9n]4 ,n "o ( ! articles is 9 itself exp5sive1 & y may possess !m all ) ! accumulation ( ye>s4 ,if n1 a simpl] arrangem5t c\ld be effect$1 or y c\ld give ! ent]ta9m5t at a re/aurant in/ead ( y\r rooms or h\se4 ,! invitations c be ei!r v]bal or writt51 b at be/ a lun*eon or d9n] 9 a ba*elor's ap>tm5ts is reg>d$ z a little frolic1 & y mu/ try to pres]ve ! _s & waive ! =malities4 ,a *ap]on1 ( c\rse1 is necess>y4 ,! p>ty c be limit$ to ab\t eight4 ,if y h a mans]vant he %\ld be dress$ 9 black coat & tr\s]s1 :ite %irt1 /&+ coll> & tie1 & liv]i$ wai/coat4 ,8 duties are to op5 ! door & to s]ve ! lun*eon4 ,b a mans]vant is n necess>y4 ,"s ( ! sm>te/ ba*elors 9 ,new ,york give delightful little d9n]s & lun*eons at _! ap>tm5ts1 at :i* ! maid :o has cook$ ! meal1 dress$ 9 :ite apron & black g[n1 also s]ves x4 ,! m5u %\ld be ! usual "o expect$ at lun*eons1 b *ampagne is nev] (f]$ by a man to wom5 9 8 ap>tm5ts1 unless at d9n] or a !at] supp]4 ,if a weal?y ba*elor has a l>ge h\se1 & in/ead ( "o !re are a numb] ( matrons *ap]on+1 ! case is diff]5t4 ,manhattan or ,m>t9i cocktails c\ld be pass$ ar\nd be=e lun*eon1 or "s little peculi> di% be s]v$ to give a ze/ to ! occasion4 ,a ba*elor's d9n] at 8 h\se or ap>tm5ts is a m =mal ent]ta9m5t1 b x diff]s 9 n[ise f a regul> function ( t "*4 ,! *ap]on takes ! place ( ! lady ( ! h\se = t occasion4 ,dress+ rooms are arrang$ = ! m5 & wom51 & ! same c]emonies obs]v$ z at any =mal d9n]4 ,if ! affair is giv5 9 ap>tm5ts1 ( c\rse ! "* mu/ be m or less in=mal1 z ! accommodations are limit$4 ,%\ld y h a man s]ve at y\r d9n]1 he mu/ be 9 ev5+ dress4 ,bo? at d9n] & at lun*eon he mu/ h gloves1 b ?is is n requir$ ( a maid4 ,a ba*elor's supp] 9 8 own ap>tm5ts is sometimes giv5 aft] ! play4 ,( ! m5u1 ,i w speak a little f>!r on4 ,a *af+-di% supp] is1 h[ev]1 an unique & enjoyable ent]ta9m5t4 ,sev]al *af+ di%es %\ld be ready1 s t ea* c\rse c foll[ )\t delay4 ,t]rap91 truffl$ eggs1 curri$ oy/]s1 & o!r da9ties ( ?is k9d comprise usually ! m5u4 ,x w\ld be well to s]ve fir/ oy/]s on ! half %ell1 foll[$ by lob/] a la ,newburg1 ! latt] be+ ! fir/ plat cook$ ) ! *af+ di%4 ,*ampagne is a good w9e1 & all[able = a *af+-di% supp]2 b if ,wel% r>ebits are ! *ef d'oeuvre1 !n be] or ale w\ld be bett]4 ,a !at] p>ty %\ld be conf9$ to eight or t54 ,a p>ti c>re--f\r p--is delightful4 ,unm>ri$ wom5 d n g to !at]s or re/aurants ) a man alone4 ,!y mu/ be *ap]on$1 ev5 at a mat9ee or a lun*eon p>ty at a hotel or re/aurant--9 fact1 an unm>ri$ c\ple is seldom se5 at public places 9 ,new ,york1 unless !y are engag$1 & m>ri$ wom5 are z mu* compromis$ z unm>ri$ ones by indiff]5ce to ?is absolute rule ( etiquette4 ,! invitations c be ei!r v]bal or writt54 ,9 ! season x is bett] to write !m1 to insure ! acceptance ( gue/s4 ,be c>eful 9 ! word+ to give n only ! ev5+1 b ! "n ( ! play & ! !at]4 ,= a p>ty1 always secure end seats1 & !re w be no di/urb+ ( o!rs 9 case y might be a little late4 ,a box is necess>y at ! circus or at a music hall1 b or*e/ra seats or /alls are ! be/ selection = a ba*elor's p>ty4 ,_m mo!rs object to _! daught]s be+ se5 at ! !at] 9 a prosc5ium box4 ,! r5dezv\s or meet+ place %\ld be at ! *ap]on's4 ,! ve/ibule ( ! !at] is awkw>d1 except = p>ties ( f\r4 ,a /age is ! be/ vehicle to convey y\r gue/s to ! playh\se4 ,at ! !at] ! ho/ sees t 8 gue/s are provid$ ) playbills4 ,he gives ! tickets to ! u%]1 & prec$es ! p>ty d[n ! aisle4 ,he indicates ! ord] ( sitt+4 ,a man %\ld g 9 fir/1 foll[$ by ! woman ) :om he is to sit1 & !n1 ?us s&wi*$1 ! re/ ( ! p>ty file 91 ! ho/ tak+ ! aisle or end seat4 ,! ho/ sits next to ! *ap]on4 ,g5tlem5 d n g out betwe5 ! acts at ! !at]1 b sometimes1 :5 !re is a p>ty to ! op]a1 !y c leave _! seats if o!r m5 come to visit ! ladies4 ,a man go+ 9 or out a !at] aisle %\ld d s ) 8 face t[>d ! /age & 8 back to ! seat4 ,a ho/ nev] leaves 8 gue/s4 ,aft] ! play g a little ahead & give y\r c>riage *eck to ! port] z soon z possible1 s t !re may n be a long wait4 ,! port] expects a small fee4 ,all !at] p>ties are foll[$ by a supp] giv5 ei!r at a re/aurant1 at ! club1 9 ! ladies' annex1 or at y\r ba*elor ap>tm5ts4 ,all lun*eons1 d9n]s1 or supp]s at a re/aurant1 unless organiz$ on ! spur ( ! mom5t1 are ord]$ be=eh&1 & ev]y?+1 includ+ ! wait]'s tip1 arrang$ & settl$ =4 ,if y h n an acc\nt at ! re/aurant1 pay ! bill at ! "t y ord] ! m5u & res]ve ! table4 ,fl[]s %\ld be includ$1 & a c5t]piece ( roses1 :i* are s arrang$ z to come ap>t & be di/ribut$ 9 bun*es to ea* ( y\r fair gue/s1 is "o ( ! favorite devices4 ,small b\tonni]es are provid$ = ! m54 ,! public re/aurant or d9+ room is ! place = a ba*elor supp] :5 ladies are gue/s4 ,a private room is n prop]1 & y\r gue/s want to see & be se54 ,! *ap]on is seat$ at ! "r h& ( ! ho/1 unless ! p>ty is giv5 9 honor ( a p>ticul> woman1 9 :i* case %e has t place4 ,! *ap]on is !n at y\r left4 ,wraps & coats are tak5 (f 9 ! hall ( ! re/aurant & *eck$4 ,!re is no ord] ( entry1 except t ! ho/ %\ld prec$e & ! o!rs foll[4 ,! usual m5u = a !at] supp] is3 ,i4 ,clams or oy/]s on ! half %ell4 ,,ii4 ,b\illon 9 cups4 ,,iii4 ,*ick5 croquettes or sweetbreads ) peas1 or lob/] a la ,newburg4 ,,iv4 ,t]rap9 or birds ) salad4 ,v4 ,ices1 cakes1 cafe noir1 bonbons4 ,,vi4 ,liqueurs4 ,) ! oy/]s or clams :ite w9e is s]v$4 ,*ampagne foll[s ! b\illon until ! end ( ! supp]4 ,aft] supp] ! p>ty usually returns to ! resid5ce ( ! *ap]on1 :]e ! unm>ri$ wom5 h _! maids & family escorts await+ !m4 ,! ho/ accompanies !m to ! *ap]on's h\se1 b ! o!r m5 take leave at ! re/aurant4 ,! *ap]on may h x arrang$ to h danc+ at h] h\se1 9 :i* case ! p>ty return ) h] aft] supp]4 ,a supp] 9 ! ladies' annex 9 n[ise diff]s f ?is1 except t y d n tip ! wait] or pay ! bill1 b h x *>g$ 9 y\r mon?ly acc\nt4 ,! m5u = a supp] at y\r own ap>tm5ts foll[s ! same l9es z ^? already giv54 ,!at] clubs are associations ( wom5 & m51 all subscrib+1 meet+ at ! h\ses ( diff]5t memb]s1 "o ( :om gives ! supp]4 ,ba*elors' dances or balls are giv5 at a l>ge hall by a numb] ( unm>ri$ m51 :o subscribe a c]ta9 am\nt ea*4 ,a numb] ( well-kn[n matrons are ask$ to receive ! gue/s1 & a cotillon usually foll[s ! supp]4 ,impromptu lun*es1 d9n]s1 or supp]s at re/aurants sometimes require ! imm$iate settlem5t ( ! acc\nt4 ,be c>eful to draw f y\r pocketbook a bill ( l>ge d5om9ation1 & n a h&ful ( *ange4 ,d n con ov] or dispute ! items4 ,if y h an acc\nt1 simply sign ! *eck4 ,if n1 x is be/ to give ! wait] 8 tip & g to ! desk & pay :ile ! memb]s ( y\r p>ty are gett+ _! wraps4 ,d9n]s at re/aurants are frequ5tly giv5 by ba*elors1 & are foll[$ by a visit to ! !at]4 ,! r5dezv\s is ei!r at ! h\se ( ! *ap]on or at ! re/aurant itself1 %\ld ! p>ty be limit$ 9 numb]4 ,! m5u v>ies accord+ to ! season4 ,six c\rses1 includ+ raw oy/]s or clams1 s\p1 fi%1 entree1 roa/ & vegetables1 birds & salad1 ices & dess]t1 are suffici5t4 ,! =m & mann] ( ent]ta9+ at a d9n] ( ?is k9d are simil> to ^? obs]v$ at supp]s4 ,to a man :o frequ5tly ent]ta9s1 & at a p>ticul> re/aurant1 an occasional tip to ! head wait] w\ld be ( s]vice4 ,?is is a ^w to ! wise4 ,c>d p>ties = ! play+ ( :i/1 dom9o1 or pok] are (t5 giv5 by ba*elors at _! ap>tm5ts or resid5ces4 ,9 ap>tm5ts ?is class ( ent]ta9m5t is only = m54 ,wom5 %\ld n g to ba*elors' ap>tm5ts except = lun*eon1 d9n]1 or supp]4 ,9 a ba*elor's h\se1 h[ev]1 any ent]ta9m5t c be giv54 ,small /akes are play$ = & ! usual supp] foll[s4 ,! f>ewell ba*elor d9n] w h its prop] place 9 ! *apt] on ,w$d+ ,etiquette4 ,,*apt] ,x4 ,,! ,,c\ntry ,,h\se4 ,,! ,,ba*elor ,,z ,,ho/4--,,! ,,ba*elor ,,z ,,gue/4 ,ba*elors1 ^: incomes are ( all sizes & conditions1 c h "s k9d ( a c\ntry h\se4 ,x may be a fi%+ lodge1 a hunt+ box1 ma9ta9$ by ?ree or f\r m5 clubb+ toge!r2 a small cottage pla9ly & simply furni%$ at ! sea%ore1 ne> golf l9ks1 or 9 a good neighborhood2 or aga9 a l>ge e/abli%m5t1 a villa at ,newport or 9 a fa%ionable colony ) a ret9ue ( s]vants & a /able fill$ ) horses4 ,:i*ev] x might be1 op5 hospitality1 z mu* z x is 9 y\r p[]1 %\ld prevail4 ,h[ev]1 nev] attempt any?+ m ?an y c accompli%1 & by all means d n run into debt4 ,to a fi%+ or hunt+ lodge m5 only %\ld be invit$4 ,x %\ld be furni%$ ) ! m]e necess>ies1 & hung ) fi%+ & hunt+ pr9ts & trophies ( ! *ase4 ,! hall s]ves z sitt+ & ev5 mess room4 ,a man ( all "w or an old m>ri$ c\ple are ! be/ s]vants4 ,ample supplies are s5t f t[n1 b ! lead+ idea is r\gh+ x1 & ! table is p>tially suppli$ by ! game & fi% br\ght back by y & y\r fri5ds4 ,:5 ! t]m ( ! visit ( y\r gue/s expires1 ea* %\ld be able to br+ home a basket ( fi% or "s game4 ,f "t to "t s5d to any ( y\r ho/esses ( ! w9t] some?+ f y\r pres]ves4 ,^! att5tions are mu* appreciat$4 ,a truck f>m or a small c\ntry place ne> t[n1 :i* may h ei!r fall5 to y by inh]itance or :i* y may h pur*as$1 or :i* y h = k5nels or = y\r horses1 c also be us$ = ent]ta9+4 ,ev5 9 ! l>ge/ ( ^! h\ses ! plan ( furni%+ is sub/antially ! same4 ,!re %\ld be a mascul9e note ?r\gh\t ! entire s*eme4 ,! furniture %\ld be old-fa%ion$1 & ! pictures sport+ & hunt+ pr9ts & /eel engrav+s4 ,!re %\ld be an air ( homel9ess & op5 hospitality ab\t ! place4 ,x %\ld look z if x 7 v]ily ,lib]ty ,hall4 ,a tract ( unpr(itable l& c\ld be conv]t$ into golf l9ks & a t5nis c\rt laid out4 ,a picnic is ! popul> =m 9 :i* ba*elors :o h su* a possession may ent]ta94 ,"s fifty to "o hundr$ p c be invit$1 & a special tra9 or boat1 if ! place is too f> f ! city = a drive1 *>t]$ = _! accommodation4 ,! invitations %\ld /ate ! h\r at :i* ?is tra9 or boat w\ld leave ! city4 ,/ages await ! gue/s at ! c\ntry /ation & br+ !m up to ! h\se4 ,cocktails1 dr9kables1 cl>et cup1 tea1 & s&wi*es are s]v$ on _! arrival4 ,!re %\ld be no fix$ programme ( amusem5t4 ,lun*eon1 or lun*eon & d9n] bo?1 accord+ to ! l5g? ( /ay1 c\ld be s]v$1 & ! m5u %\ld embrace a few c\rses ( c\ntry f>e4 ,danc+ 9 ! b>n dur+ ! aft]noon w be ano!r =m ( ent]ta9m5t1 or if y wi% to give an elaborate ent]ta9m5t1 vaudeville p]=m]s might be hir$ = ! h\r aft] lun*eon4 ,9 a l>ge e/abli%m5t ! ba*elor :o ent]ta9s usually has resid+ ) him a si/] or female relative :o acts z ho/ess4 ,"o ( ! delights ( a weal?y ba*elor is to h a l>ge & well-appo9t$ /able ) a numb] ( traps :i* are at ! disposition ( 8 gue/s4 ,a ba*elor ho/ always drives to ! /ation or boat to meet 8 gue/s4 ,a drag1 ?ree-seat$ surrey1 or a /ation van w\ld be ! sm>t vehicle4 ,i am n[ writ+ ( a man ( l>ge means4 ,! me?od ( ent]ta9+ %\ld be ! ,engli% "o1 )\t any fix$ programme = ! days ( ! gue/s' /ay4 ,only :5 !re is %oot+1 ! p>ty is expect$ to assemble 9 ! morn+4 ,if !re is a local club1 y\r m5 gue/s %\ld be put up at x1 & ! entire p>ty made visit+ memb]s ( ! neighbor+ cas9o4 ,! re/ is convey$ 9 ! advice to h always pl5ty ( good *e] & to ent]ta9 ! visitors z mu* z possible4 ,9 ^! h\ses !re is mu* dr9k+1 possibly1 & p]haps c>ds1 b a "y man :o is a gue/ %\ld be firm en\gh to resi/ temptation1 & to /& by 8 convictions4 ,"o ^w m1 & ?is applies to _m c\ntry h\ses1 if n all ( !m4 ,see t y\r gue/s' b$rooms are provid$ ) soap1 hair & clo!s' bru%es1 & toilet articles4 ,! desk %\ld be fill$ ) lett] pap] & envelopes1 & if y want to appe> v fa%ionable1 ! /ation]y %\ld h ! "n ( y\r place 9 blue or r$ lett]s at ! top or 9 ! "r-h& corn] ( ! fir/ %eet4 ,_m convivial s\ls place on a side table 9 ea* room m9]al wat]1 cig>ettes1 cig>s1 & ! inevitable decant]4 ,:5 y are a gue/ y are met at ! /ation by "o ( y\r ho/'s traps4 ,d n be surpris$1 h[ev]1 if y d n f9d ?is accommodation4 ,x is consid]$ v ,engli%1 ,i "k n :y1 to all[ ba*elors to rea* a c\ntry h\se by ! be/ means !y c f9d at ! /ation or l&+4 ,y are receiv$ by y\r ho/1 & aft] refre%m5t are %[n to y\r room4 ,if y arrive late 9 ! aft]noon y d n see y\r ho/ess1 b dress = d9n] & f9d h] 9 ! draw+ room :5 y g d[n/airs4 ,y are expect$ to con=m to ! rules ( ! h\se z to ! h\rs = meals1 & to place y\rself at ! s]vice ( y\r ho/ess4 ,y mu/ c]ta9ly appe> at any function :i* has be5 arrang$ = y1 & x is v impolite to accept1 dur+ y\r /ay1 any outside invitation to any affair to :i* y\r ho/ & ho/ess h n also be5 ask$4 ,if y h a valet y may br+ him ) y1 b y mu/ c]ta9ly notify y\r ho/ ( ?is int5tion4 ,few h\ses 9 ?is c\ntry h ! accommodations necess>y = outside s]vants4 ,tipp+ is demoraliz+1 b x is an accept$ cu/om4 ,on y\r dep>ture aft] a %ort /ay1 at ,newport or a v fa%ionable resort1 ! s]vant :o att5ds y %\ld h five doll>s1 ! butl] five doll>s1 ! coa*man five doll>s1 & ! *amb]maid two doll>s4 ,at small] places five doll>s altoge!r1 judici\sly di/ribut$1 is ample1 or a doll> ea* to ?ree ( ! s]vants4 ,! fir/-m5tion$ am\nts c be plac$ 9 envelopes & giv5 to ! s]vant att5d+ y = ! o!rs4 ,all ?is is a "q ( res\rces1 & !re are _m m5 :o avoid invitations to ! l>ge c\ntry h\ses 9 ! ,ea/ & ,nor? because !y c n af=d ! tips4 ,9 ,engl&1 :5 "o is invit$ to ! %oot+1 "o tips ! gamekeep] "o to five p\nds1 accord+ to ! ext5t ( ! bag & duration ( visit4 ,! usual me?od ( invit+ m5 9 ?is c\ntry = a %ort /ay is f ,friday or ,saturday until ,monday4 ,x has (t5 be5 a puzzle to !m z to :at !y %\ld take 9 _! bag or h[ mu* luggage !y %\ld c>ry4 ,at mo/ n m ?an a good-siz$ bag or valise & p]haps a hatbox4 ,= an ev5+'s /ay a dress-suit case is suffici5t4 ,9 y\r valise mu/ be plac$ y\r ev5+ clo!s1 & if ! p>ty is to be some:at ( an in=mal "o1 ,i w\ld also take my d9n] jacket4 ,if y are go+ to a v fa%ionable resort1 a black frock coat1 wai/coat1 & fancy tr\s]s w\ld n be amiss1 b 9 t case y w\ld h also to take a hatbox = y\r top hat4 ,( rec5t ye>s m5 9 ! c\ntry h be5 consult+ _! com=t m ?an absolute accuracy 9 ! details ( dress4 ,ev5 at g>d5 p>ties1 at *ur*1 & at aft]noon teas dur+ ! mon? ( ,augu/ at ,newport1 :i* is1 aft] all1 only ! fa%ionable metropolis transport$ to ano!r locality = ! summ]1 y seldom see a frock coat or a top hat4 ,unless y are sure t !re w be an occasion :]e ^! w\ld be positively requir$1 ,i w\ld n take !m1 especially on s %ort a visit4 ,! l95 to be br\ght %\ld consi/ ( a dress %irt = ea* ev5+ & a color$ %irt = ea* morn+1 half a doz5 h&k]*iefs1 two complete *anges ( und]clo!s1 ?ree pairs ( ord9>y & two pairs ( black silk hose1 & a pair ( pyjamas4 ,take ?ree ( y\r ties = day we> & f\r :ite lawn = ev5+1 & "o black 9 case y are to use y\r d9n] jacket4 ,slipp]s = ! b$room & pumps = ev5+ we> %\ld complete ! clo?+ c>ri$1 unless y take y\r frock coat1 :5 y w\ld h to br+ pat5t lea!r boots to we> ) aft]noon dress4 ,i h giv5 r a lib]al all[ance ( articles = a %ort /ay1 b "o mu/ be prep>$ = accid5ts or em]g5cies4 ,x is bett] to take an extra %irt1 or a *ange ( und]clo!s1 or a few m ties ?an "o c\ld ord9>ily use1 s t "s contretemps w\ld n cause great annoyance & inconv5i5ce4 ,9 ! abs5ce ( a dress+ case1 c>e mu/ be tak5 ( ! articles = ! toilet4 ,! too?1 nail1 & %av+ bru%es1 ! sponges & wa%rags1 %\ld be pack$ 9 little wat]pro( silk bags1 :i* c be obta9$ at a small price at any *emi/'s4 ,y\r ho/ or ho/ess %\ld provide y ) soap1 b ,i w\ld n take ! risk4 ,i %\ld br+ my own 9 a little metal soapbox or well wrapp$ 9 ?ick pap]4 ,y\r %av+ articles1 a %oehorn1 button hook1 nail file1 small pair ( nail scissors1 too? p[d]1 or li/]9e %\ld n be =gott54 ,! l>ge articles1 y\r combs & y\r bru%es1 c all be wrapp$ sep>ately 9 tissue pap]4 ,x w\ld be gallant ( y to br+ a box ( sweets = y\r ho/ess4 ,if y are ask$ to play golf1 x might be m conv5i5t to travel 9 y\r golf togs1 :i* w\ld s]ve z a l\nge suit4 ,b 9 t case a pair ( long tr\s]s to mat* y\r coat & wai/coat1 or an entire l\nge suit %\ld be c>ri$1 z on ,sunday y w\ld be v uncom=table 9 golf dress1 & some:at out ( place4 ,or y might put y\r knick]s 9 ! bag1 & we> ! coat & wai/coat ) long tr\s]s4 ,,*apt] ,,xi4 ,a ,,ba*elor',s ,,s]vants4 ,z soon z a ba*elor beg9s to bran* out a little & to h an ap>tm5t or a h\se or a c\ntry e/abli%m5t1 ?\gh ! latt] be only a fi%+ or a hunt+ box1 he mu/ hire s]vants4 ,! g5]al s]vant is p]haps ! "o mo/ univ]sally employ$4 ,_m ba*elors hire "s middle-ag$ woman :o n only does ! cook+1 b takes c>e ( ! ap>tm5t1 valets him1 & waits at table :5 he has gue/s to d9n]4 ,o!rs employ a man to look aft] !m1 :o is valet & g5]al factotum1 & o!rs aga91 ) l>g] e/abli%m5ts1 a man & wife4 ,! =m] does ! valet+1 ! wait+1 & is /ew>d & butl]1 :ile ! woman att5ds to ! cook+ & laundry4 ,!re are q a numb] ( ba*elor h\seholds ( ?is description 9 our l>ge cities1 ! occupants be+ sev]al 9 numb] & clubb+ toge!r4 ,"o is appo9t$ treasur]1 & ! butl] & cook are hir$ at a /at$ price & receive a c]ta9 sum = cat]+4 ,:5 good s]vants ( ?is k9d are f\nd !y are treasures4 ,all m5s]vants %\ld be clean %av54 ,a %ort bit ( side :isk]s--a la mutton *op--is all[$2 b "u no circum/ances %\ld !y h be>d$ faces or we> a mu/a*e4 ,_! l95 & attire %\ld be faultless4 ,9 ! treatm5t ( s]vants a man mu/ ex]cise an iron w4 ,he c be k9d & consid]ate1 b he mu/ nev] desc5d to dispute ) "o1 & c]ta9ly n swe> at him4 ,to be on famili> t]ms ) "o's s]vants %[s ! clov5 foot ( vulg>ity4 ,dis*>ge a s]vant at once :5 he is disrespectful or :5 he is c>eless 9 8 duties or 9 8 conduct4 ,:5 ask+ = any?+ !re is no necessity ( =gett+ ! elem5ts ( true polit5ess1 nor is x a blot on y\r deportm5t to utt] a civil ?ank y = a s]vice p]=m$4 ,all s]vants %\ld address y z ,sir1 & :5 call$ %\ld reply ,yes1 sir1 & c]ta9ly n ,all "r4 ,y\r m5s]vants t\* _! hats to y on receiv+ ord]s 9 ! op51 on be+ address$1 & ^u y\r appe>ance4 ,enc\rage y\r s]vants n[ & !n by a k9d ^w1 & see t !y h good & :olesome food1 clean & com=table qu>t]s4 ,once 9 a :ile give !m a holiday1 or an ev5+ (f1 a ca% remembrance at ,*ri/mas1 & f "t to "t "s "p ( y\r w>drobe or ca/-(f clo?+4 ,!y are j l *ildr51 & mu/ be treat$ ) ! rigor & mild discipl9e :i* a s*oolma/] uses t[>d 8 pupils4 ,9 all _! movem5ts !y %\ld be noiseless & z automatic z possible 9 _! actions4 ,& n[ = p>ticul> s]vants hir$ by a ba*elor3 ,! groom is1 ) ! exception ( ! g5]al s]vant1 ! fir/ dome/ic likely to be 9 ! employ ( an unm>ri$ man ( mod]ate means4 ,:5 a ba*elor becomes a horse own] he c nev] be too p>ticul> ab\t 8 turn\ts & 8 liv]ies4 ,! groom 9 ! city or at a fa%ionable wat]+ place %\ld h two liv]ies--"o = dress occasions & ! o!r = :at is kn[n z a /able suit4 ,! latt]1 :i* is a simple ,engli% twe$ or :ipcord1 made ) a cutaway coat ( ! same mat]ial1 w answ] p]fectly well = ! c\ntry1 :]e x is ridicul\s to h elaborate liv]ies4 ,a squ>e br[n ,d]by is worn ) ?is suit1 br[n ,engli% driv+ gloves1 & a :ite pla/ron or coa*man's sc>f4 ,?is flat sc>f is ! badge ( di/9ction betwe5 ! h\se & /able s]vant4 ,no tie p9 nor tr9kets ( any description %\ld be all[$ s]vants4 ,! be/ dress liv]y is a frock coat1 s+le-brea/$1 ( k]sey1 ! color ( y\r liv]y2 :ite bucksk9 rid+ bree*es1 top boots1 top hat1 :ite pla/ron1 /&+ coll>1 & br[n driv+ gloves4 ,"o di/9ctive color %\ld be us$1 n only = y\r liv]ies b also = y\r traps1 z well z "o k9d ( h>ness4 ,! cockade on ! hat is ! privilege abroad ( ambassadors2 x is bad =m4 ,besides ! c>e ( y\r horse or horses1 y\r groom mu/ be a species ( outside g5]al s]vant1 ready to g on err&s or att5d to ! num]\s duties ( a mans]vant ab\t a c\ntry place4 ,by no means c he be sub/itut$ = a valet1 a butl]1 or an indoor s]vant4 ,:5 he br+s y\r trap to ! door he holds ! animals' heads until y are seat$1 :5 he t\*es 8 hat & lets g ! re9s4 ,if he is to sit beh9d 9 ! trap he mu/ hold himself upright ) fold$ arms4 ,he alights imm$iately ! trap is /opp$1 runn+ all err&s1 & hold+ ! horses until ! drive is resum$4 ,he sometimes accompanies 8 ma/] :5 ! latt] rides4 ,he br+s 8 horse to ! door & holds x until ! m\nt4 ,he foll[s1 occasionally1 on ano!r horse at a respectful di/ance4 ,%\ld y be weal?y en\gh to h also a coa*man1 y\r groom c act z second man on ! box4 ,a coa*man's dress liv]y consi/s ( a d\ble-brea/$ long coa*man's coat1 top boots1 & bucksk9 bree*es1 :ite flat pla/ron1 high coll> & top hat1 & br[n driv+ gloves4 ,:5 bo? s]vants are employ$ ! groom is "u ! ord]s ( ! coa*man z reg>ds ! /able "w4 ,! ,valet4--,( c\rse a valet is a luxury4 ,a man c valet himself v easily1 & if ! in/ructions giv5 9 ! *apt]s on ! ,c>e ( ,clo!s & ,! ,toilet are foll[$ c>efully1 ,i h>dly ?9k t y w\ld ne$ su* a p]sonage4 ,a woman c be p]fectly tra9$ to valet a man4 ,y\r g5]al s]vant c also1 & is requir$ to fill ?is position4 ,if y live at a club ! club valet w att5d to y\r clo!s1 & p]=m ! duties ( a private s]vant4 ,!re are valet+ companies organiz$ 9 _m l>ge cities1 :i* take entire *>ge ( y\r w>drobe1 & aga9 !re are valets :o are hir$ by sev]al m5 clubb+ toge!r1 & :o are v capable s]vants4 ,! individual valet1 h[ev]1 is a v valuable aid to a "y ba*elor ( weal?1 especially if he is a man ( leisure1 or if he goes out a great deal 9 society4 ,a valet's duties are fir/ & pr9cipally ! entire *>ge ( 8 ma/]'s w>drobe & toilet1 ! details ( :i* h be5 giv5 9 previ\s *apt]s4 ,!y beg9 an h\r or s be=e ! ma/] rises1 :5 clo!s are to be press$ & put 9 ord]1 boots & %oes to be poli%$ & plac$ on _! trees1 & ! co/ume ( ! day to be made ready4 ,if possible1 a small room is provid$ = him z 8 work%op4 ,at ! h\r = ris+1 ! valet ent]s 8 ma/]'s room v quietly1 &1 if he is awake1 pulls up ! %ades & lets 9 ! daylight4 ,! ba? is !n prep>$1 & :ile t is be+ tak5 ! newspap]s1 mail1 & breakfa/ tray are br\ght 91 & ! valet waits = ord]s4 ,"s m5 require _! valets to %ave !m1 b ! majority simply intru/ ! c>e ( _! razors to !m1 pref]r+ to p]=m t op]ation !mselves4 ,! valet assi/s 8 ma/] 9 dress+1 &1 :5 ! toilet is f9i%$1 ties or buttons ! boots1 arranges ! spats1 & gives a f9al bru% to ! clo!s4 ,he !n fet*es ! /ick1 gloves1 & hat4 ,dur+ ! day he may be employ$ on err&s1 9 answ]+ tradespeople1 9 pay+ bills1 or 9 any m9or occupations ( t k9d4 ,a fir/-class s]vant ( ?is "* %\ld n only be /ew>d b secret>y4 ,:5 writ+ lett]s = 8 ma/] he %\ld write !m 9 ! ?ird p]son1 & also sign !m ,respectfully y\rs1 ,,john ,,smi?1 valet4 ,a valet is told ( ! engagem5ts ( ! day1 & has ! clo!s arrang$ accord+ly1 & he mu/ be at 8 po/4 ,9 ! ev5+ ! dress suit is laid out1 ) *oice ( ties & two coats1 ! =mal & in=mal1 or ,tux$o4 ,a valet mu/ be at ! rooms :5 8 ma/] retires4 ,9 travel+ he takes c>e ( ! luggage1 tickets1 & all ! little annoy+ details4 ,he travels second class abroad1 & 9 ?is c\ntry he %\ld nev] be all[$ to be a pass5g] 9 a draw+-room c> ) 8 ma/]4 ,! valet we>s no liv]y4 ,he dresses quietly 9 a pla9 sack suit ( d>k mat]ial1 & we>s a ,d]by hat4 ,%\ld he be requir$ to wait on table1 he dresses 9 semi-liv]y if ! affair is a lun*eon1 & 9 ev5+ dress if x is a d9n]4 ,! butl] is a v r>e function>y 9 a ba*elor's e/abli%m5t1 only ! weal?ie/ be+ able to af=d him4 ,! valet or g5]al s]vant acts z butl]1 & :5 9 ?is position he %\ld always h a black coat on :5 answ]+ ! bell4 ,i h us$ ! t]ms ?r\gh\t ?is *apt] ( ma/] & s]vant4 ,employ] & employee are correct only :5 ! relations betwe5 ! two p]sons are n ( a dome/ic "*4 ,! mo/ fa%ionable & effici5t m5s]vants are ( ,engli%1 ,scot*1 or ,iri% bir? or desc5t4 ,japanese make excell5t valets4 ,color$ coa*m5 & grooms are n ! vogue 9 ,new ,york or vic9ity1 b !y are se5 9 ! ,s\?4 ,v weal?y ba*elors h introduc$ a fad = ,ea/ ,indian s]vants1 b at pres5t only a few ( ^! h be5 employ$1 & ^? at ,newport4 ,,*apt] ,,xii4 ,,! ,,dance4 ,?is is c]ta9ly a mo/ important subject1 & "o :i* c n be lightly treat$4 ,i h ?\ght x bett] to use exclusively ! ,new ,york =ms1 :i* diff] some:at f ! ,engli%1 ! ,fr5*1 & cont95tal1 z well z f a c]ta9 code ( etiquette prevail+ 9 o!r ,am]ican cities4 ,i %all !re=e1 z we h no ,/ate balls or c]emonials ( t "*1 consid] public assemblages1 a few ( :i* are patroniz$ by society 9 ,new ,york & else:]e4 ,( absolutely public balls ! only "o :i* society att5ds is ! ,*>ity4 ,9 ,new ,york ?is has fall5 some:at 9 fa%ionable popul>ity1 al?\gh ef=ts are be+ made to revive x4 ,9 ,*icago & 9 o!r cities x is /ill a v fa%ionable function4 ,x is !re well patroniz$ & is consid]$ sm>t4 ,tickets to ! ,*>ity are sold by a numb] ( lady patronesses1 & y are apt to receive "o or sev]al f "s ( !m1 if y are a ri* "y man1 ) a reque/ to pur*ase4 ,if ! note /ates t y are expect$ to be a gue/ y are simply to answ] x1 z y w\ld any o!r invitation1 & c]ta9ly n to inclose any money4 ,patronesses frequ5tly are nam$ because x is expect$ t !y w pur*ase q a numb] ( tickets4 ,& "h let me give a useful h9t4 ,9 s5d+ money to ?is & = *>itable ent]ta9m5ts 9 g5]al1 always d x by *eck2 nev] inclose bills4 ,if y mu/ use ca%1 keep x = y\r small tradespeople4 ,ev]y?+ may be said to h its price at a ,*>ity ,ball4 ,supp] is sometimes includ$ ) ! ticket4 ,! repa/ is usually r poor1 b !n y mu/ rememb] x is = *>ity4 ,p]haps y w be ask$ "s "t 9 advance by ! patronesses to be "o 9 ! gr& m>*4 ,! gr& m>* prop] is a =m ( exhibition long s9ce relegat$ to balls ( ! ,t\gh ,boys' ,cot]ie & o!r assemblages ( ! same class4 ,b x has surviv$1 9 place ( a lanc]s or quadrille ( honor1 at ! ,*>ity ,ball1 & we h ei!r to g ?r\gh ) x or wat* x f ! boxes ) ,*ri/ian pati5ce4 ,if y are to take "p1 ,i w\ld advise y to pres5t y\rself at ! hall or op]a h\se ab\t n9e o'clock4 ,! floor manag] w d ! re/4 ,y are to (f] y\r left arm to ! lady y are tak+ out1 & y m>* ar\nd ! place 9 regul> l9e1 sometimes once1 sometimes twice1 & ! agony is ov]4 ,! company assembl$ does n jo9 9 ?is c]emony1 & ! =mation ( figures & c\nt]m>*es is an affair 9 vogue at balls ( a diff]5t class1 :i* ,i %\ld imag9e none ( my read]s w\ld patronize or ev5 he> tell (1 except ?r\gh ! newspap]s4 ,! ,inauguration ,ball 9 ,wa%+ton1 z well z ! ,new ,ye>s' receptions at ! diff]5t embassies' & secret>ies' h\ses1 are public functions to :i* ! populace get admittance4 ,!y are cru%es ( ! wor/ description1 & at _m ( !m refre%m5ts are s]v$4 ,except to make an obeisance to y\r di/+ui%$ ho/ & ho/ess--if to ! ,presid5t1 %ak+ h&s ) him--no o!r c]emony is ne$$4 ,at ,newport & at o!r wat]+ places !re are dur+ ! season semipublic dances at ! ,cas9o4 ,any "o :o subscribes to t place ( amusem5t is entitl$ to all ! social privileges4 ,! tickets c be obta9$ f ! secret>y or 8 ag5t4 ,9 e city !re is an assembly or danc+ organization on ! l9es ( ! ,patri>*s & ,matri>*s 9 ,new ,york4 ,?is is 9 itself n orig9al ) ! ,f\r ,hundr$--vulg> t]m6--b 0 copi$ f ! ,/4 ,cecilia1 ! mo/ exclusive affair ( ! k9d 9 ari/ocratic ,*>le/on1 :]e x has exi/$ s9ce ! days ( ! ,revolution4 ,! assemblies prop] 9 ,new ,york are call$ ! ,matri>*s4 ,! arrangem5ts are 9 ! h&s ( a numb] ( fa%ionable wom5 in/ead ( m54 ,! plan ( all ^! organizations is practically ! same4 ,9 ord] to make matt]s easy & to pilot my read] ?r\gh ! intricacies ( a fa%ionable ball1 ,i w suppose t he is a /rang] 9 ,new ,york1 ) "s sm>t fri5ds1 & t he is go+ ei!r to ! ,patri>*s' or to ! ,assembly4 ,! rules laid d[n w hold good = o!r cities4 ,y\r fir/ intimation may be :ile visit+ at ! h\se ( "o ( ! patrons or patronesses1 :5 y\r ho/ess or ho/ may ask y if y w\ld l to g to ! ,assembly or ! ,patri>*s'4 ,if y h no o!r engagem5t = t ev5+--& ,i ?9k x w\ld be policy = y to make o!rs subs]vi5t to ?is--y %\ld reply t y w\ld be delight$ to d s4 ,y\r ho/ or ho/ess w !n say t he or %e w s5d y a ticket4 ,?is may be "o way1 or y may receive a note ask+ if y are free = t p>ticul> date1 :e!r w\ld y l to g to ! ,assembly8 etc41 or aga91 y might simply receive a note ) a ticket4 ,9 any "o ( ^! cases1 j z soon z y receive ! ticket y mu/ answ] y\r correspond5t imm$iately1 accept+1 or1 if y c n g1 regrett+ & return+ x4 ,y mu/ rememb] t all tickets are p]sonal & ea* ,patri>* or ea* patroness has only a c]ta9 numb]4 ,i w\ld1 if !re 7 "t betwe5 ! date = ! ball & ! reception ( y\r ticket1 call or leave c>ds p]sonally on y\r ho/ess or ho/ = ! ev5+1 accord+ to rules 9 a =m] *apt]4 ,i d n believe ?is is consid]$ necess>y 9 ,new ,york1 & p]haps "s p w\ld ?9k y 7 /ra9+ a po9t1 b ,new ,york society mann]s to-day are n all t c\ld be desir$4 ,! ev5+ arrives4 ,balls & dances are !oretically suppos$ to beg9 at t5 o'clock4 ,y c safely g a little aft] elev54 ,y w be e>ly en\gh4 ,y\r ticket is receiv$1 y\r hat & coat remov$1 y\r hat *eck giv51 & y proce$ to ! ballroom4 ,x is almo/ ne$less = me to tell y h[ to dress = ?is occasion4 ,at dances ( any k9d1 =mal ev5+ dress is requir$4 ,on ent]+ ! room1 if x is at ! ,assembly1 y w enc\nt] a l9e ( patronesses4 ,y %\ld make a l[1 sweep+ b[ to !m &1 if conv5i5t1 speak to y\r ho/ess1 be x only a few words ( greet+4 ,if n at t "t1 select a lat] h\r 9 ! ev5+4 ,no "o %akes h&s4 ,y look ar\nd to f9d y\r fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,at ! ,patri>*s' ! *ap]ons sit ^u a rais$ plat=m1 or dais1 ,i might call x1 all toge!r4 ,_! *>ges1 once away f !m1 are ar\nd ! rooms4 ,9 ne>ly all ! cities1 except ,new ,york1 e gue/ is provid$ ) a danc+ c>d1 :i* makes ! keep+ ( danc+ engagem5ts a "p ( ! fe/ivity4 ,new ,york is too l>ge = su* ?+s1 & danc+ c>ds h be5 relegat$ to ! realms ( innocu\s desuetude4 ,h[ev]1 if y are at a ball or a dance 9 ano!r city :]e !y are us$1 y\r fir/ duty w\ld be to h y\r engagem5ts fill$4 ,y %\ld rema9 ) y\r p>tn] aft] ea* dance until h] next cavali] appe>s4 ,new ,york]s are s5sible1 if only = ?is reason1 = hav+ bani%$ ! dance c>d4 ,x is h>d = a man to tell a woman he mu/ leave h]1 b ,i ?9k x is bett] by f> to d s ?an to appe> rude to y\r succe$+ p>tn]4 ,a woman :o has s little reg>d = y & su* selfi% consid]ation = h]self does n des]ve to be h&l$ ) gloves4 ,& yet x ne$s a h]oic s\l to ab&on h] 9 a cr[d$ ballroom1 ev5 if x is to lead h] back to h] *ap]on4 ,9 ,new ,york ev]y?+ is simplifi$4 ,!re exi/ no su* social complications4 ,ev]ybody is m or less gr\p$ toge!r1 & y g5]ally "k 9 :i* "p ( ! room y are to f9d y\r fri5ds4 ,y ex*ange greet+s ) ! wom5 y "k1 & if y wi% to ask "o ( !m to dance1 y say1 ,may ,i h ! pleasure ( ?is turn ) y8 or ,c ,i h a turn ) y8 ,x is absolutely impossible to keep dance engagem5ts1 & y are oblig$1 p]haps1 to snat* a dance :5ev] y c get x4 ,aft] y\r turn y mu/ always manage to /op at ab\t ! po9t :]e y began4 ,y w be sure to f9d y\r p>tn]'s *ap]on j at t place4 ,!re are two reasons = ?is--"o is t ! man ) :om y\r p>tn] has engag$ weeks1 if n mon?s1 be=e 7"o has to d ?is 9 ,new ,york7 to dance ! cotillon has res]v$ 8 *airs !re1 & %e has told _m ( h] fri5ds j ab\t 9 :i* "p ( ! ballroom %e may be f\nd2 & ano!r is t ,new ,york wom51 "u all circum/ances1 keep a di/9ctive place 9 a ballroom4 ,a g5tleman nev] dances )\t gloves4 ,he always puts !m on be=e ent]+ ! ballroom4 ,a man %\ld dance easily & gracefully1 & look z if he 7 enjoy+ himself4 ,he %\ld be c>eful ab\t guid+ & n runn+ into p4 ,sw++ ! h&s is vulg> & unsightly4 ,! waltz seems to survive all o!r =ms ( danc+1 b !re is e n[ & !n a revival ( ! polka4 ,two /eps & fancy dances are ! vogue at summ] hotels1 b n at sm>t functions4 ,! quadrille ( to-day is ! simple lanc]s1 & "s ye>s ago x 0 a silly fad to pret5d n to rememb] ! figures4 ,a little life & _s are sometimes introduc$ 9 ! lanc]s :5 ! ga!r+ is small1 & among intimate fri5ds !re is m or less occasion = x4 ,! b>n dance has gone out ( fa%ion entirely 9 ,am]ica1 b our ,engli% c\s9s1 especially ^? liv+ 9 ! c\ntry & 9 ,suburbia1 are v fond ( x4 ,balls frequ5tly end ) ,sir ,rog] de ,cov]ley1 ! ,engli% =m ( ! ,virg9ia reel4 ,ab\t two o'clock supp] is ann\nc$1 & ?is is done all ov] ! _w1 ,i believe1 by ! /ra9s ( ! ,prie/s' ,m>* 9 ,norma4 ,s x 0 9 my gr&fa!r's day1 & s x is to-day & 0 at ! v la/ ,patri>*s'1 ! v la/ ,assembly1 & ! v la/ l>ge ball at ,newport4 ,engagem5ts = supp] are made 9 ,new ,york weeks or ev5 mon?s be=eh&4 ,y %\ld settle ?is ) y\r p>tn]1 & z supp] is s]v$ at tables ( p>ties ( f\r or six1 an agreeable qu>tette or sextette c be secur$4 ,p>ties are nev] less ?an f\r1 & a girl :o sups alone ) a man1 ev5 at ! ,patri>*s'1 is consid]$ v fa/1 & by su* impud5t behavior w\ld lose ca/e4 ,y %\ld arrange ) y\r p>tn]1 !re=e1 to be z ne> ! supp]-room door z possible ab\t ! supp] h\r4 ,!re is always a ru% & a cru%1 & no tables are res]v$ except ^? = ! patronesses or ! ,patri>*s4 ,two ( ! p>ty %\ld get 9 e>ly & res]ve ! table & wait until ! re/ arrive4 ,ball supp]s are ne>ly all alike4 ,f\r or five c\rses1 :i* comm5ce ) oy/]s1 are foll[$ by b\illon1 & !n t]rap9 & birds1 & salad & ices1 fruit & c(fee4 ,?ree k9ds ( w9e are s]v$1 & *ampagne =ms ! *ief4 ,_m matrons ev5 w n all[ _! daught]s to g to supp] )\t be+ *ap]on$1 & s :5 y ask y\r p>tn] %e w sometimes h h] p>5ts obta9 ! table4 ,%\ld y be ask$ to ! table ( "o ( ! patronesses1 y w h a p>tn] provid$ = y4 ,rememb] ! fir/ engagem5t %\ld always be kept1 & if a patroness %\ld honor y ) su* an invitation1 & y h made prior arrangem5ts1 y %\ld at once expla9 by note y\r position1 :i* w be a suffici5t excuse to y\r w\ld-be ho/ess4 ,aft] supp] ! cotillon1 or ,g]man1 z x is sometimes call$1 is danc$4 ,,*apt] ,,xiii4 ,,! ,,cotillon4 ,at l>ge balls1 l ! ,patri>*s'1 !re is h>dly "t = m ?an two or ?ree figures & "o favor figure4 ,x is almo/ useless = me to g into ! hi/ory ( ! cotillon1 & ,i d n believe t x w\ld be ( any s]vice to my read]s4 ,we import$ x f ,france ab\t ! same "t z ! ,engli%1 & x owes its orig91 ,i believe1 to ,g]many4 ,= ! pa/ ?irty ye>s x has be5 a favorite =m ( dance4 ,x is picturesque & amus+1 &1 besides1 gives ! opportunity = ! ex*ange among ! danc]s ( pretty trifles provid$ by ! g5]osity ( ! ho/4 ,at l>ge semipublic balls l ! ,patri>*s' 7,i use semipublic simply because giv5 by a numb] & n 9 a private h\se7 ! favors are v simple1 b at special cotillons or at ^? danc$ at private h\ses !y are extremely elaborate & co/ly4 ,cotillon seats are g5]ally secur$ 9 ! e>ly "p ( ! ev5+ by ty+ h&k]*iefs to ! backs ( ! *airs4 ,at ! ,patri>*s' & o!r l>ge balls !y c be secur$ by arrangem5t ) "o ( ! /ew>ds1 z ea* ,patri>* has s _m res]v$ = him1 & ! man invit$ by "o ( !m c obta9 p]mission & ask = two ( 8 ho/'s seats4 ,b ?is is n usual1 & is kn[n z a little trick ( ! trade4 ,to be a successful lead] ( cotillons x requires ! skill & ! tact ( a g5]al--,i might almo/ say ( a ,napoleon ,bonap>te4 ,"o's tal5ts %\ld n be altoge!r 9 "o's heels & "o's toes4 ,! lead] mu/ be an excell5t danc] & a firm discipl9>ian4 ,he mu/ see t ! wall fl[]s h an occasional turn1 & t e "o gets at lea/ "o favor4 ,z he has to m>%al a l>ge =ce ( p he is b\nd to f9d among !m--( c\rse 9 ! or?odox society mann]--a few turbul5t spirits1 a few :o w\ld mut9y1 & :o mu/ be taught _! places 9 a conciliatory b positive mann]4 ,! cotillon 9 ,new ,york is g5]ally danc$ aft] supp]4 ,x la/s ab\t two h\rs4 ,at l>ge balls two figures are all t c be danc$1 ow+ to ! numb] ( gue/s4 ,sometimes x is l$ by two c\ples4 ,a lead] frequ5tly dances /ag--t is1 )\t a p>tn]4 ,all m5 danc+ )\t p>tn]s are call$ /ags4 ,^! usually h _! place by ! door & are giv5 _! turn la/4 ,! lead] mu/ ann\nce aft] supp] ! "t = ! cotillon to beg94 ,he mu/ see t ! p>tn]s are all 9 _! places4 ,! favor table is g5]ally plac$ at ! end ( ! room opposite ! doors1 b ?is dep5ds on ! %ape & ! /yle ( ! ap>tm5t4 ,=m]ly a cotillon lead] us$ a :i/le = ! diff]5t figures2 to-day1 h[ev]1 he simply claps 8 h&s to d5ote ! *anges4 ,x is almo/ unnecess>y "h to illu/rate ! =m ( ! cotillon4 ,x consi/s 9 waltzes & sometimes polkas1 danc$ by eight1 t51 or twelve c\ples at a "t4 ,! c\ples are seat$ 9 *airs ar\nd ! room1 ! m5 )\t p>tn]s kn[n z ! /ags be+ ne> ! door4 ,! lead] beg9s ! fir/ figure1 :i* is usually ! simple/ "o1 by tak+ out or *oos+ a p>tn] & motion+ ! fir/ f\r1 six1 or eight c\ples ) places ne>e/ him on "o or bo? sides ( ! room to rise4 ,all waltz4 ,aft] a turn ar\nd ! room ! lead] /ops & claps 8 h&s4 ,! p>tn]s all sep>ate1 & ea* ( !m goes & *ooses a new "o--! man a new woman1 ! woman :o 0 8 p>tn] a new man4 ,! figure is !n arrang$ & danc$4 ,aft] ! evolution requir$ by ! figure is f9i%$ !re is ano!r %ort waltz1 & ! danc]s return to _! places4 ,! lead] !n calls out ! next p>ty1 & ?is is repeat$ until e "o 9 ! room has _h a turn4 ,! /ags are call$ out la/4 ,hav+ no p>tn]s to dance )1 ea* has ! privilege ( tak+ out two ladies--! fir/ be=e ! figure is =m$1 & ! second :5 ! *ange ( p>tn]s is signall$ by ! lead]4 ,! lead] directs ! figures & dances all ! "t4 ,e second figure is "o = ! di/ribution ( favors4 ,! same proc$ure occurs1 & :5 ! lead] claps 8 h&s ! danc]s sep>ate1 wait+ = ! favors to be di/ribut$4 ,! late/ cu/om is = ! lead] & 8 p>tn] to c>ry ar\nd ! favors1 to ! c\ples ^: turn comes next4 ,he gives to ! ladies1 %e to ! m54 ,! scramble at ! favor table has be5 aboli%$4 ,! m5 pres5t _! favors to ! new p>tn]s :om !y select1 & ! wom5 d likewise4 ,x is v emb>rass+ & n good =m to give y\r favor to ! p>tn] ) :om y are danc+ ! cotillon4 ,favors mu/ be suffici5t 9 quantity n only to g once all ar\nd1 b !re %\ld be "s left ov]1 z ! adv5t ( ! /ags gives ! ladies a d\ble *ance to be/[ favors ^u m54 ,! mo/ graceful way ( (f]+ a favor is to pres5t x ) a little b[4 ,try & locate ! places :]e y\r fri5ds are sitt+4 ,x is c]ta9ly rude1 if n tantaliz+1 to se>* ?r\gh a long r[ ( girls dangl+ a favor4 ,x is n difficult 9 ! figures to become well acqua9t$ ) ! local geography4 ,matrons are ask$ frequ5tly to preside at ! favor tables1 b rec5tly "s ( ! floral trifles are br\ght 9 arrang$ 9 a s$an *air ( fl[]s1 at :i* two p[d]$ lackeys are /ation$1 l ! l9kboys ( old4 ,orig9ality1 h[ev]1 has n be5 rampant 9 cotillons4 ,favor figures are ! mo/ popul>4 ,! woman :o br+s ! greate/ numb] ( favors f a cotillon scores an und\bt$ triumph4 ,%e comes f ! ballroom flu%$ & delight$1 c>ry+ ) h] ! trophies ( h] victory1 :i* %e is pleas$ to call h] scalps4 ,social obligations are (t5 paid (f by m5 9 ?is way4 ,( ! few cotillon figures danc$ 9 ,new ,york society1 ! gr& *a9 is ! mo/ popul> & ! simple/4 ,! numb] ( c\ples call$ by ! lead] =m !mselves 9 a r+ ar\nd ! room4 ,at 8 signal !y face ea* o!r & dance ! "r & left gr& *a91 ! m5 to ! "r & ! wom5 to ! left1 until ! orig9al p>ties are br\ght toge!r1 :5 all waltz4 ,! ,sir ,rog] de ,cov]ley figure is =m$ 9 l9es ( f\r abrea/1 ! m5 /&+ toge!r on ! inside1 & ! wom5 next to _! p>tn]s on ! outside ( ! l9e4 ,:5 ! lead] signals1 ! wom5 advance quickly1 "o aft] ! o!r1 to ! head ( ! l9e4 ,! m5 !n jo9 h&s1 =m+ an ar*1 z 9 ,sir ,rog] de ,cov]ley2 ! wom51 pass+ "u two by two1 meet+ _! p>tn]s1 waltz ) !m4 ,9 ! snake figure--"o :i* is v seldom danc$--q a l>ge numb] ( c\ples are call$1 :o =m a r+ ar\nd ! room4 ,! lead]1 tak+ ! h& ( "o ( ! m51 breaks ! *a91 & ! c\ples are w\nd ar\nd until !y come toge!r 9 a knot1 :5 ! signal is giv5 to !m to waltz4 ,! :eel figure is some:at simil>1 & is q a romp4 ,9 ! r+ figure ano!r evolution is borr[$ f ! lanc]s4 ,r+s ( f\r c\ples =m ?r\gh ! room4 ,! m5 raise _! arms & ! wom5 pass ?r\gh1 danc+ ) ! m5 9 ! next r+1 & s on1 until !y get to ! top ( ! room1 ! m5 rema9+ /ation>y4 ,!n a gr& m>*1 m5 to ! left1 ladies to ! "r1 is =m$1 & ! p>tn]s meet & dance4 ,! ,maypole & all complicat$ figures :i* require ! use ( toys or papi]-ma*e articles are n 9 vogue 9 ,new ,york4 ,9 ,p>is ^! trifles1 su* z vegetables & heads ( animals & o!r gewgaws1 pass = favors1 z well z to l5d a v>iety to ! cotillon4 ,9 ,new ,york v h&some s\v5irs h sup]s$$ ^!4 ,frequ5tly 9 l>ge cotillons 9 ,new ,york ! blank or nonfavor figures are danc$ only once )\t *ange ( p>tn]s1 z 9 ! snake or gr& *a92 o!rwise ! cotillon w\ld be int]m9able4 ,! lead] calls out a numb] ( c\ples & goes ?r\gh ! figure at once1 ! orig9al p>tn]s danc+ all ! "t ) ea* o!r4 ,i h giv5 bo? =ms1 & al?\gh ! fir/ explanation may seem to ^? :o g out e ye> antiquat$1 x is /ill ! vogue = small & consequ5tly enjoyable cotillons4 ,,*apt] ,,xiv4 ,a ,,ba*elor',s ,,lett]s4 ,lett] writ+ is an art1 & !re is no pleasure equal to t ( receiv+ & read+ a *atty & well-word$ epi/le f "s de> fri5d4 ,i h "s packets ( lett]s pres]v$ to-day t ,i read & r]ead4 ,!y are always fre% & int]e/+ to me4 ,!y are a complete index to ! "* ( ! writ]1 & !y s]ve1 aft] long ye>s h pass$1 to br+ up aga9 delightful pictures ( days & sc5es :i* 7 bright]4 ,h[ev]1 !re is "o rule a man mu/ obs]ve3 nev] keep a compromis+ lett]--if y %\ld receive "o--especially f a woman4 ,sometimes wom5 are fooli% & c>eless1 & !y all[ _! p5s to run away ) !m4 ,!y bitt]ly regret _! folly1 & ! v idea t !re exi/s some:]e a packet ( lett]s :i* w\ld br+ s]i\s tr\ble1 if n ru91 ^u !m & ^? !y love1 is a cause ( con/ant grief & worry4 ,i "k t !re are lett]s writt5 by "o once de>1 b n[ p]haps turn$ fickle or false1 or sep>at$ f u =ev]1 f :i* we feel loa? to "p2 b we mu/ be m5 & r$uce to a%es :at w\ld hurt 9 ! v lea/ degree or ca/ a reflection ^u an innoc5t if silly woman4 ,suppose y 7 to die sudd5ly1 & among y\r pap]s ^! lett]s 7 f\nd1 ) y alone1 dumb 9 dea?1 p]haps1 only able to v9dicate ! un=tunate writ]4 ,we mu/ ?9k ( ^? ?+s4 ,!y belong to ! p]sonnel n only ( a true g5tleman1 b !y appeal to our common s5se4 ,"* is frequ5tly judg$ by h&writ+4 ,write a good1 cle>1 legible h&1 )\t any fl\ri%es1 & always use ! be/ & ! blacke/ ( ink4 ,! typewrit] is employ$ only = bus9ess correspond5ce4 ,= social correspond5ce use only ,iri%-l95 :ite note pap]1 unrul$1 ) squ>e envelopes to mat*4 ,fancy or t9t$ note pap] ( any k9d is vulg>4 ,if y h a p]man5t resid5ce y\r address c be legibly engrav$ 9 "o color1 usually blue or sc>let1 at ! head ( ! fir/ %eet4 ,if y are a memb] ( a club1 ! club note pap] is prop] = all social correspond5ce4 ,if y want to1 use y\r cre/ 9 lieu ( address1 b ?is practice is some:at /ra9$ 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,always add ! date 9 writ+4 ,9 lett]s1 ! day1 ! mon?1 & ! ye> %\ld be writt54 ,9 notes y only put ! day--= in/ance1 ,saturday ! tw5ty-second4 ,! be/ signature is ,s9c]ely y\rs1 & n ,y\rs s9c]ely4 ,9 ,engl& ! qua9t ,fai?fully y\rs is us$ = bus9ess correspond5ce4 ,tradespeople & s]vants only sign ,respectfully y\rs4 ,9 ,am]ica we esquire all m5 :o are our equals4 ,a but*]1 a bak]1 a tailor or o!r p]son1 :5 we ord] supplies1 we address z ,mr4 ,! abbreviation ,esq4 is ! usual =m4 ,9 ,engl& y w\ld write to a duke & address ! lett] ,! ,duke ( ,buck+ham2 to a knight1 ,sir ,?omas ,appleby2 to an e>l or a m>quis1 ,"l ,duff]9--t is1 suppos+ ! lett] w\ld be a social "o4 ,9 writ+ to a fri5d or 9 answ] to an invitation or a note1 y w\ld beg91 ,my de> ,mrs4 ,br[n1 ,my de> ,mr4 ,br[n1 or ev5 ,my de> ,br[n1 b nev] ,de> ,miss ,br[n1 ,de> ,mrs4 ,br[n1 or ,de> ,br[n1 unless y 7 on t]ms ( great intimacy ) !m4 ,b if ! lett] is a /rictly bus9ess "o1 & ! t]m ,sir or ,sirs is us$1 !n y w\ld be oblig$ to drop ! possessive pron\n4 ,a v =mal or a bus9ess lett] w\ld beg9 ?us3 ,john ,smi?1 ,esq41 #bb ,pacific ,av5ue1 ,brooklyn1 ,n4 ,y4 ,de> ,sir3 & n ,my de> ,sir4 ,a bus9ess lett] to a woman dem&s1 h[ev]1 ! possessive ,my1 ?us3 ,my de> ,madam4 ,to a firm1 "o writes3 ,messrs4 ,john ,smi? ,co41 ,de> ,sirs3 & nev] ,g5tlem5--a mo/ ridicul\s =m ( address4 ,! cl]gy are address$ ,rev]5d & de> ,sir4 ,a bi%op is ,"r ,rev]5d & de> ,sir1 & an ar*bi%op ,mo/ ,rev]5d & de> ,sir4 ,9 ?is republican c\ntry all o!r dignit>ies c be address$ z ,de> ,sir4 ,=mal invitations are writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son1 also lett]s address$ to tradespeople4 ,! address on a lett] %\ld be writt5 ab\t ! middle ( ! envelope1 ! /reet & numb] a little to ! "r1 & ! "n ( ! city & ,/ate 9 ! corn]4 ,all notes or lett]s to p 9 ! same city %\ld be direct$ simply ) ! po/-(fice "n )\t ! ,/ate1 unless x is a v small t[n1 or x be>s a "n su* z ,augu/a or ,columbus1 ( :i* !re are m ?an "o 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates4 ,?us3 ,mrs4 ,john ,br[n1 #bbg ,euclid ,av5ue1 ,clevel&4 ,! /amp %\ld be plac$ neatly 9 ! "r-h& corn]4 ,! mail to-day is almo/ ! quicke/ means ( deliv]y1 & a special t5-c5t /amp w insure1 9 a l>ge city1 a m prompt reception ( y\r epi/le ?an if y intru/$ x to ! t5d] m]cies ( a mess5g] boy4 ,y\r pap] %\ld fold once 9 ! middle4 ,!re is no?+ s awkw>d or s apt to give a bad impression z a lett] improp]ly fold$4 ,x is bulky & unsightly4 ,private lett]s %\ld always be seal$ ) wax1 9 color d>k gre5 or r$4 ,black is us$ = m\rn+4 ,9 seal+ a lett] be c>eful to make a neat effect1 & n to sme> ! wax all ov] ! envelope4 ,! seal is !n /amp$ ) y\r monogram1 or1 if y insi/ ^u x1 ) y\r cre/1 b nev] ) y\r coat ( arms4 ,= ! purpose ( seal+ lett]s m5 use _! seal r+s or a little /amp :i* c be obta9$ at any silv]smi?'s4 ,:5 writ+ f ! club y c use ! club /amp4 ,bus9ess lett]s are moi/5$ & gumm$1 a little damp sponge be+ us$ = ?is purpose4 ,to moi/5 envelopes ) ! tongue is na/y4 ,lett]s writt5 on hotel or bus9ess pap] %\ld be conf9$ to ! comm]cial _w4 ,y\r fri5ds & acqua9tances %\ld n receive !m4 ,sometimes1 :5 writ+ f a v int]e/+ place to a v intimate fri5d or to relatives1 hotel pap] may be us$1 z y w\ld l y\r correspond5t to see a picture ( ! h\se at :i* y are /opp+4 ,e g5tleman %\ld1 h[ev]1 c>ry 9 8 portmanteau a flat portfolio ) writ+ mat]ials & a travel+ ink/&4 ,y\r p]sonal correspond5ce %\ld be a reflection ( y\rself4 ,be pi?y1 bright1 & witty4 ,give ! news & innoc5t gossip1 b bew>e ( mak+ /atem5ts 9 lett]s :i* y c n sub/antiate4 ,above all1 ?9k twice be=e y p5 a h>% or an unk9d ^w1 ev5 if a repro( be m]it$4 ,9 bus9ess lett]s be brief & to ! po9t4 ,!re are two k9ds ( lett]s :i* sometimes puzzle ! writ]--lett]s ( condol5ce & lett]s ( congratulation4 ,a lett] ( condol5ce--z w be expla9$ 9 ! *apt] on ,fun]als--is due f y at ! dea? ( a ne> or de> fri5d to ! relative or relatives--if y feel t y "k !m all well en\gh to address m ?an "o epi/le ( sympa?y--ne>e/ & de>e/ to ! deceas$4 ,usually "o lett] is suffici5t1 b sometimes x may occur t y feel t y %\ld also write to o!rs4 ,make x z natural z possible4 ,avoid all /ilt$ phrases & /udi$ ef=ts at consolation4 ,a few words is all t is necess>y4 ,if y h be5 on intimate t]ms ) ! family wire !m y\r sympa?y1 & write a week or s aft]w>d4 ,lett]s ( congratulation are mu* easi] to compose4 ,on ! occasion ( ! ann\ncem5t ( an engagem5t ( a fri5d1 or 9 answ] to 8 lett] ann\nc+ ! happy ev5t1 or on ! arrival ( any good =tune to ^? ( :om y are fond or = :om y h a high reg>d1 a lett] ( congratulation is necess>y or acceptable4 ,all lett]s ann\nc+ sad or joy\s news %\ld receive an imm$iate reply4 ,,*apt] ,,xv4 ,,! ,,ba*elor',s ,,club4 ,club life 9 ,am]ica is a gr[? ( rec5t ye>s4 ,x is n[ s firmly e/abli%$1 & x is s popul> t !re is n a village or ev5 a settlem5t 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates :i* has n at lea/ its cas9o1 or its little cot]ie organiz$ = golf1 t5nis1 a?letic1 or m]ely social enjoym5t4 ,all ( ^!1 f ! great metropolitan clubs ( ! cities d[n to ! v humble/ 9 ! wilds1 are gov]n$ by club laws & are regulat$ by club etiquette4 ,9 ,new ,york1 n[ a city ( clubs1 ?is etiquette diff]s mu* f t obs]v$ 9 ,london1 ,p>is1 or any ( ! l>ge cont95tal c5t]s4 ,9 ,london1 a man is id5tifi$ ) 8 club4 ,he r>ely belongs to m ?an "o1 & 8 memb]%ip !re d5otes 8 social /&+1 8 pursuits 9 life1 &1 above all1 8 politics4 ,engli% clubs are also v jeal\s ( admittance ( /rang]s1 & are n 9 ! lea/ hospitable to ! =eign]4 ,!re are exceptions to ?is among ! lit]>y1 !atrical1 & ,bohemian organizations1 b ! ,pall ,mall clubs are clos$4 ,9 ,new ,york1 ,bo/on1 ,*icago1 & o!r ,am]ican cities !re are organizations :i* insi/ ^u c]ta9 qualifications1 su* z be+ a univ]sity man1 a lawy]1 an au?or1 a physician1 or a memb] ( a college frat]nity1 = admittance2 b !n ! memb]s also belong to o!r clubs1 :]e _! social /&+1 or p]haps ! ext5t ( _! bank acc\nt1 is _! passport4 ,if a man wi%es to get on socially1 he %\ld belong to at lea/ "o good club4 ,x gives him 8 /&+ 9 ! community1 & places him4 ,he is no long] on ! li/ ( ! unid5tifi$4 ,:5 a *oice is made ( a club :i* y desire to jo91 ! next /ep w\ld be to h two memb]s 9 good /&+ to act z y\r sponsors--"o proposes y\r "n & ! o!r seconds4 ,a good sponsor is necess>y1 & y %\ld *oose "o :o has _m fri5ds 9 ! organization ( :i* y desire to become a memb]4 ,! presid5t1 (fic]s1 & ! gov]n+ committee are deb>r$ f ei!r propos+ or second+ a "n = memb]%ip4 ,! t]m ( a man's novitiate dep5ds ^u ! /ate ( ! wait+ li/4 ,y\r propos] w notify y :5 y\r "n w be rea*$1 z he himself w be notifi$ 9 writ+ by ! committee on memb]%ip4 ,! rules ( c&idacy diff] 9 v>i\s clubs4 ,9 "s1 ! "n ( ! c&idate ) ^? ( ! two memb]s propos+ him is expos$ 9 a conspicu\s place :]e ! entire club c see x4 ,!re is also a book 9 :i* o!r memb]s sign ! application1 & ! numb] ( signatures1 ( c\rse1 has weight ) ! gov]nors4 ,aga91 ! "n is inscrib$ 9 a book kept = ! purpose 9 ! /ew>d's (fice1 & x is n necess>y t any o!r indorsem5t except t ( y\r sponsors be made4 ,any memb] object+ to ! "n ( a c&idate has two me?ods by :i* he c make kn[n 8 objection4 ,"o is to write directly to ! gov]nors1 or to ! committee on admissions & memb]%ip1 :i*ev]1 accord+ to ! laws ( ! club1 has ! matt] 9 h&4 ,usually x is ! gov]n+ committee or bo>d ( gov]nors4 ,?is communication is treat$1 z are all club matt]s1 ) ! secrecy ( ! confessional4 ,y\r sponsors are writt5 to & ! objections /at$1 b ! "n ( ! p]son object+ is )held4 ,! o!r me?od is1 if any "o has an objection to y\r admission1 t he %\ld g at once 9 a manly way to "o ( y\r sponsors & /ate x4 ,x is a r>e occurr5ce 9 a ,new ,york club t any c&idate is black-ball$4 ,! w>n+ f ! gov]n+ committee1 or f ano!r memb] to ! sponsors1 is a ^w to ! wise1 & ! m5 :o propose y %\ld imm$iately )draw y\r "n to avoid a disa/]4 ,o!rwise a v great risk is run1 z objections :i* h any f\ndation h great weight ) ! gov]n+ committee4 ,9 ! clubs :]e ! names ( ! c&idates are kept only 9 a small book1 :ile on ! wait+ li/ !y are po/$ t5 days be=e ! election 9 a conspicu\s "p ( ! clubh\se4 ,no c&idate c be elect$ to a club :o is n p]sonally kn[n to two or m memb]s ( ! gov]n+ committee4 ,a %ort "t be=e election1 if ! c&idate has n ?is acqua9tance1 x is ! duty ( 8 sponsors to take him ar\nd & introduce him1 or to arrange t he w meet ^! g5tlem5 9 "s way2 o!rwise 8 "n w g ov]2 & aft] two setbacks ( ?is k9d1 x w be reject$4 ,on ! election ( a c&idate--! ballot+ be+ done by ! gov]n+ committee--! sponsors are notifi$1 sometimes by po/+ & o!rwise simply by lett]4 ,! secret>y ( ! club w let ! new memb] "k imm$iately ( 8 election1 & ! lett]1 :i* is usually a =m1 w also notify him t 8 admission fee & ye>ly dues are payable4 ,! admission or entrance fee to a club is f "o hundr$ to two hundr$ doll>s 9 ! well-kn[n ,new ,york organizations1 & ! ye>ly dues are f sev5ty-five to "o hundr$ doll>s4 ,^! mu/ be paid at once by *eck4 ,! rules ( mo/ clubs all[ a ?irty-day limit4 ,if y are s =tunate z to be admitt$ aft] ! date ( ! ye>ly meet+1 y w only be liable = "o half ! curr5t ye>ly dues2 o!rwise y pay ! entire am\nt4 ,x is n[ ! duty ( ! sponsors to introduce _! newly elect$ c&idate to ! club4 ,?is is an easy matt]4 ,"o ( !m w g ) y1 sit 9 ! g5]al smok+ or l\ng+ room1 & make y acqua9t$ ) "o or two ( 8 fri5ds4 ,! responsibility is !n ov]4 ,club etiquette is v simple4 ,x is only ! application ( ! usual rules ( c\rtesy obs]v$ 9 private life4 ,! club is y\r home4 ,y %\ld behave !re z y w\ld 9 y\r own h\se z ho/1 & consequ5tly y\r conduct t[>d y\r fell[-memb]s %\ld be *>act]iz$ by ! utmo/ consid]ation4 ,! av]age clubh\se has a l>ge room on ! gr\nd or fir/ floor :i* is us$ = smok+1 read+1 ! newspap]s1 & liv+ g5]ally4 ,on ! floors above !re are ! d9+ rooms1 ! libr>y1 & read+ & c>d rooms4 ,! billi>d room occupies a special qu>t]1 accord+ to ! plan ( ! h\se4 ,a clev] man said t !re 0 b "o rule ( clubh\se etiquette diff]5t f ! g5]al laws ( mann]s1 & t 0 to keep y\r hat on4 ,?is is true1 b !n !re are _m o!rs4 ,m5 d n take (f _! hats on ent]+ a club1 & d n remove !m 9 any room except t 9 :i* !y d9e4 ,all social clubs are m or less clos$4 ,visitors are only all[$ "u c]ta9 re/rictions4 ,! g5]al rule is t a memb] may invite to ! use ( ! club = a p]iod ( t5 consecutive days any "o n a resid5t ( ! city1 b c h no m ?an "o gue/ at a "t4 ,no /rang] %all be introduc$ a second "t unless he %all h be5 abs5t f ! city ?ree mon?s4 ,9 "s clubs a memb] may introduce z a visitor a resid5t ( ! city1 b he c h no m ?an "o su* gue/ at a "t4 ,no p]son %all be introduc$ m ?an once 9 twelve mon?s4 ,o!r clubs are op5 to ! admission ( visitors at c]ta9 p]iods1 & o!rs aga9 h ladies' days1 at :i* a reception to ! fair fri5ds ( ! memb]s is giv54 ,all ?is dep5ds on ! rules ( ! club4 ,z soon z y are made a memb] y are giv5 a little book 9 :i* ^! are conta9$1 & y %\ld /udy !m c>efully4 ,! "n ( a gue/ %\ld be ent]$ on ! visitors' book ) t ( 8 ho/4 ,if ! visitor is put up = a c]ta9 p]iod a c>d to ! club is s5t him1 & dur+ 8 /ay he has all ! privileges ( a memb]4 ,he c run up an acc\nt1 b he %\ld c]ta9ly settle x be=e 8 t]m expires1 o!rwise 8 ho/ w be held responsible4 ,a clubman nev] pays an att5dant = refre%m5t or food s]v$4 ,gratuities ( any k9d to s]vants are =bidd54 ,:5 refre%m5t is requir$1 y press ! electric bell1 ( :i* !re are a numb] 9 all ! rooms1 & ! att5dant comes to y = y\r ord]4 ,:5 he br+s x he has ) x a *eck :i* y sign4 ,^! *ecks are1 ( c\rse1 debit$ to y1 & y receive y\r bill once a mon?1 or y c make arrangem5ts to pay at ! /ew>d's or ca%i]'s desk daily4 ,y ord] y\r meals 9 ! same mann]1 & :5 !y are ready1 ! s]vant w notify y4 ,at mo/ ( ! clubs smok+ is n p]mitt$ 9 ! d9+ rooms until aft] n9e1 nor are refre%m5ts all[$ to be s]v$ 9 ! visitors' room or libr>y at any "t4 ,books & magaz9es are n to be remov$ f ! read+ room or libr>y1 nor any publication belong+ to ! club f ! clubh\se4 ,!re is /ill a prejudice aga9/ pipe smok+ 9 _m ( ! clubs1 & y mu/ consult ! rules be=e y attempt ?is practice4 ,a man does n remove 8 coat or sit 9 8 %irtsleeves 9 any ( ! public rooms4 ,an all[ance1 h[ev]1 is made 9 ! billi>d room4 ,! l\d-voic$ man is "o ( ! nuisances ( a club4 ,l\d talk+ may be endur$ 9 ! smok+ or g5]al room1 b c]ta9ly n 9 ! libr>y or ! read+ rooms4 ,! kick] is ano!r objectionable p]son4 ,he %\ld rememb] t ! be/ way ( rectify+ abuses is to s5d to ! h\se committee all compla9ts ( any defici5cy 9 ! s]vice ( ! club1 ( ov]*>ges1 mi/akes1 or defects4 ,! club is n a place to conduct "o's comm]cial int]e/s4 ,invitations & special correspond5ce c be conduct$ on club pap]1 b c]ta9ly x is a brea* ( club etiquette to use x = bus9ess purposes4 ,! man :o b[s to a woman f a club w9d[ is n a g5tleman4 ,by ?is action he fa/5s ^u h] ! mo/ disgraceful odium "o ( h] sex c be>4 ,! "n ( a woman %\ld nev] be :isp]$ 9 a club unless x is to say some?+ complim5t>y ( h]4 ,ev5 ?is is n 9 good ta/e4 ,x is n club etiquette to treat4 ,y c d s if y desire1 b y are n oblig$ to foll[ ?is inane cu/om1 :i* is born ( b>-room e?ics4 ,all ! affairs ( a club mu/ be reg>d$ 9 /rict confid5ce4 ,"u no consid]ation %\ld t :i* has occurr$ )9 ^! sacr$ portals be divulg$ to outsid]s4 ,once a ye>--usually at ,*ri/mas--a subscription is tak5 up = ! employees & s]vants4 ,f five to t5 doll>s is ! prop] am\nt to give4 ,a few clubs h a ladies' re/aurant atta*$1 :]e memb]s may take _! families or give d9n]s1 or :]e ! wives ( memb]s h ! privilege ( giv+ lun*eons or o!r ent]ta9m5ts4 ,o!rwise ladies are n admitt$ to ! privileges ( ! clubh\se1 except on ladies' days1 & :]e !re is an annex !y c only avail !mselves ( t "p set aside = _! conv5i5ce ^u ! au?ority ( a memb]4 ,^! rules p]ta9+ to ! g5]al gov]nm5t ( clubs h be5 compil$ f ! con/itution & by-laws ( ! ,union1 ,metropolitan1 ,knick]bock]1 ,calumet1 & ,manhattan ,clubs ( ,new ,york4 ,! con/itutions ( ! ,philadelphia1 ,bo/on1 ,wa%+ton1 ,*icago1 ,san ,francisco1 & o!r clubs are almo/ id5tical4 ,,*apt] ,,xvi4 ,,! ,,sport+ ,,ba*elor4 ,driv+4--,driv+ really comprises coa*+ z well z ! t&em4 ,a man :o has any pret5sions :atev] to keep+ 8 own horses or driv+ %\ld be judg$ by ! appe>ance ( 8 traps4 ,he submits himself to :at "o1 to-day1 might call ! ,x-ray ( criticism4 ,he ent]s a field1 & he mu/ be weigh$ 9 ! balance & 8 position def9$ by ! /&>d ( 8 associates4 ,i "k ( no o!r city 9 ! _w :]e !re are bett] groom$ horses & bett] turn$ out equipages ?an 9 ,new ,york4 ,! ,am]ican 9 ,hyde ,p>k is %ock$ at ! appe>ance ( ! traps 9 t fam\s driveway ( fa%ion1 & 8 national pride is gratifi$ by obs]v+ t ! sm>te/ are ( ,am]ican makes4 ,z to ,p>is1 x is simply beyond ! pale ( criticism1 ! private turn\ts1 su* z !y are1 be+ almo/ lo/ 9 a sea ( dirty1 disgraceful fiacres4 ,9 ! fir/ place1 y\r horses mu/ be well groom$1 _! ho(s black5$1 & _! tails prop]ly bang$4 ,i d n int5d "h to ent] a discussion conc]n+ ! cruelty ( dock+ horses' tails4 ,! social law is )\t exception4 ,horses ) long tails are impossible4 ,i believe bang+ is n accompani$ by any physical pa94 ,! h>ness1 ! trap itself1 ! coa*man1 & groom or grooms %\ld be z immaculate z ! horses4 ,!re %\ld n be a s+le item out ( ge>4 ,e detail mu/ be p]fect4 ,*oose "s individual color = y\r traps1 & nev] *ange ! colors ( y\r /able any m ?an y w\ld y\r liv]ies4 ,i h discuss$ fully 9 ! *apt] on ,s]vants ! duties ( coa*m5 & grooms1 & ,i ref] ! read] to t section ( ?is book = in=mation conc]n+ liv]ies & ! human p]sonnel ( y\r trap4 ,z to ! color ( y\r horses y %\ld consult ! fa%ion ( ! mom5t4 ,to-day grays & bays are mat*$1 & a p]son 9 half m\rn+ rec5tly appe>$ on a lead+ ?or\ghf>e ) a black trap & h>ness & :ite horses4 ,a ba*elor1 h[ev]1 %\ld c\rt simplicity1 & ,i d n ev5 approve ( an equipage ) two m5 on ! box = an unm>ri$ man4 ,9 fact ,i d n "k ( a s+le ba*elor :o has su* a turn\t4 ,a coa*1 a t&em1 a drag1 or any ( ! array ( fa%ionable c>ts1 or a private hansom %\ld limit ! li/4 ,coolness & absolute confid5ce are ! requisite virtues ( good driv+4 ,! driv] salutes always ) ! :ip2 ^? on ! coa* ) him or 9 ! trap b[4 ,dress = driv+ 9 ! city is usually t ( aft]noon1 & a high hat is indisp5sable4 ,sometimes ! huge gray coats ) l>ge buttons & a gray topp] are worn4 ,dogsk9 driv+ gloves & driv+ boots complete ! co/ume4 ,9 ! c\ntry "o we>s twe$ or ,scot* *eviot & a ,d]by hat4 ,! man :o drives m\nts la/1 8 horses' heads be+ held by ! groom4 ,8 :ip %\ld be 9 its socket2 ! re9s loosely ?r[n ov] ! horses' backs4 ,he %\ld spr+ into 8 seat & />t imm$iately4 ,!re is a c]ta9 sm>tness 9 driv+1 9 ! way y manage y\r :ip1 y\r horses1 & ! _m o!r details1 :i* x is ! prov9ce ( a good ma/] ( ! sport to tea* y4 ,! fa%ionable h\r = driv+ 9 ,new ,york is f ?ree to five1 & ! drive ! ,p>k4 ,at ,newport "o drives bo? 9 ! morn+ & ev5+4 ,rememb]1 h[ev]1 t ! secret ( y\r ma/]y ov] y\r /ables %\ld be y\r p]fect k ( e detail4 ,if y are a novice y %\ld beg9 by le>n+ ! "n & use ( ea* "p ( y\r h>ness4 ,y %\ld be able to tell at a glance if ev]y?+ is "r1 & y c n be too sev]e if any?+ is out ( ge> or ! animals are n prop]ly groom$4 ,! be/ position on ! box is a firm seat ) y\r feet close toge!r4 ,drive ) "o h& & keep ! :ip h& free1 except = its legitimate use 9 t\*+ y\r horses n[ & !n1 & 9 salut+4 ,a man always sits ) 8 back to ! horses 9 a ,victoria1 or any o!r f\r-seat$ vehicle1 :5 !re are two ladies ) him4 ,:5 !re is only "o he sits by h] side4 ,he alights fir/ ) a view to assi/+ ! ladies4 ,he gets 9 la/4 ,x is n good =m 9 ,new ,york = unm>ri$ c\ples to drive toge!r1 unaccompani$ by a *ap]on4 ,x is p]mitt$ at ,newport & ! c\ntry & seaside resorts1 b a groom always sits on ! back seat4 ,9 ?is case ! woman is frequ5tly ! :ip4 ,a man & a woman may drive toge!r 9 ! city 9 a hansom1 al?\gh ?is is consid]$ unconv5tional4 ,buggy driv+ is n 9 vogue 9 ,new ,york4 ,rid+1 s9ce ! adv5t ( ! :eel1 is n z fa%ionable an amusem5t 9 cities z =m]ly4 ,rid+ classes1 :i* meet two ev5+s dur+ ! week1 usually 9 ! ,l5t5 season1 are /ill v popul>4 ,^! ga!r+s take place at a rid+ academy1 & a compet5t rid+ ma/] is 9 *>ge4 ,:5 rid+ ) a woman1 a man %\ld always be at h] "r4 ,a woman's rid+ habit falls to ! left & %e is m\nt$ f ! left4 ,9 assi/+ h] to m\nt1 :i*1 ev5 :5 a groom is pres5t1 is ! gallant ?+ to d1 a man %\ld grasp ! bridle ) ! left h& & hold 8 "r s t %e c /ep into x4 ,! woman puts h] left foot1 !re=e1 9 a man's "r h&1 & holds to ! pommel ) h] "r h&4 ,! escort gives 8 arm a slight spr+1 & ) a correspond+ action on ! "p ( ! fair eque/ri5ne1 %e is lift$ into ! saddle4 ,! man faces ! ne> side ( ! horse1 or ! left4 ,he takes ! re9s 9 8 "r h& & ) x grasps ! pommel ( ! saddle1 %ort5+ ! re9s until he feels ! m\? ( ! horse4 ,he ins]ts ! left foot 9 ! /irrup & spr+s into ! saddle4 ,9 speak+ ( a pommel1 ,i wi% x und]/ood t ! ,engli% saddle is us$1 :i* has no visible pommel1 b t "p ( x is /ill call$ by ! "n 9 lieu ( ano!r t]m4 ,a good rid] %\ld nev] m\nt f a horse block or a f5ce4 ,! ,engli% mode ( rid+ is fa%ionable4 ,! sm>t pace is a %ort cant]4 ,9 trott+1 a man may rise to ! trot4 ,squ>+ ! elb[s is a trifle vulg> & obsolete4 ,9 meet+ acqua9tances1 a man %\ld b[4 ,a man accompany+ a lady %\ld always keep pace ) h]1 & nev] ei!r g ahead or let 8 horse fall beh9d4 ,a man rid+ alone %\ld nev] pass or cat* up ) a woman unatt5d$4 ,:5 "o rides 9 ,new ,york x is only 9 ! morn+4 ,aft]noon rid+ 9 ! ,p>k is n ! vogue x 04 ,! ,new ,york] dislikes to dress up 9 any special co/ume1 s t = ye>s ! fa%ionable aft]noon rid+ co/ume 0 a black cutaway or morn+ coat1 ord9>y tr\s]s /rapp$ "u ! ord9>y walk+ boot1 top hat1 & gloves1 b ! pres5t rid+ co/ume = ! morn+ 9 ,new ,york & ! c\ntry consi/s ( :ipcord or corduroy rid+ bree*es & jacket1 br[n lea!r wai/coat1 br[n ,d]by hat1 boots or legg+s1 & d>k gloves4 ,y c we> ?is 9 ! aft]noon1 b ! ord9>y co/ume is consid]$ sm>t] & m conv5i5t4 ,m5 9 ,new ,york only ride 9 ! ,p>k1 & _m ( !m d n belong to rid+ academies or h lock]s4 ,a complete *ange ( co/ume is n conv5i5t1 & y nev] see a ,new ,york clubman on ! /reets 9 rid+ togs4 ,! ev5+ classes always end ) a supp] & a dance4 ,! woman's habit is easily *ang$1 b to appe> at night 9 rid+ co/ume or ) boots 9 a draw+ room is c]ta9ly absurd4 ,to we> ev5+ dress on horseback1 ev5 a ,tux$o coat1 is also outl&i%1 & ?us ! compromise has be5 effect$1 & ! old black diagonal cutaway br\ght into use4 ,rid+ to h\nds requires special k z to ! rules & ! etiquette ( ! diff]5t hunts4 ,^! v>y4 ,! meet is g5]ally at "s f>m or c\ntry h\se1 & y are expect$ to appe> 9 ! regulation hunt colors4 ,! or?odox co/ume is morn+ coat1 :ite or fancy wai/coat1 rid+ bree*es1 top boots1 crop1 top hat1 & hunt+ sc>f4 ,! ma/] ( ! h\nds %\ld we> a r$ or sc>let frock coat & hunt+ cap4 ,aft] ! hunt !re is a breakfa/1 & sev]al times dur+ ! ye> a ball4 ,at ! latt] fe/ivity1 memb]s ( ! club %\ld we> _! sc>let ev5+ coats4 ,coa*+ is yet ano!r ( ! intricate arts4 ,i w give a few po9ts to ! novice4 ,! place ( honor is ! box seat & %\ld be giv5 to a lady1 :5 ladies are ( ! p>ty4 ,if a ba*elor is a good :ip1 a coa*+ p>ty is an excell5t way = him to ent]ta94 ,! />t %\ld be f "s fa%ionable locality 9 t[n1 & eight or t5 is a l>ge p>ty4 ,x is ne$less = me to call ! att5tion ( a :ip to ! importance ( 8 drag & horses & appo9tm5ts be+ p]fect4 ,dur+ ! progress ( ! coa* ! gu>d :o sits 9 ! re> bl[s 8 horn at regul> int]vals4 ,a bugle or cornet is n good =m1 al?\gh ,i h he>d x 9 small t[ns4 ,x may seem elem5t>y1 b = ! requirem5ts ( ^? :o h nev] coa*$ ,i might z well /ate t ! gue/s sit on ! top & n inside ! coa*4 ,a neat & s]viceable team may be made ) two br[ns z lead]s & a br[n & a bay z :eel]s4 ,to ! novice ! names ( ^! w indicate _! position4 ,a coa*+ r\te %\ld be ab\t t5 to fifte5 miles4 ,a halt is made at a c\ntry club1 ( :i* ! ho/ is a memb]1 or a hotel1 :]e lun*eon is s]v$4 ,! m5u consi/s ( ! usual come/ibles ) pl5ty ( *ampagne4 ,two h\rs altoge!r are all[$ = re/1 & !n ! />t homew>d is made4 ,! :ip %\ld we> driv+ co/ume1 ) gray or black high hat4 ,! m5 gue/s c be dress$ 9 morn+ co/ume1 twe$s1 & ,d]by hats1 unless ! occasion is "o ( =mality1 su* z a coa*+ p>ade1 :5 "o %\ld don aft]noon dress4 ,! g5]al etiquette ( driv+ applies to coa*+4 ,:eel+ is ! popul> & fa%ionable amusem5t at pres5t writ+1 & x bids fair to cont9ue s until q late 9 ! tw5tie? c5tury4 ,z yet !re are no special rules ( etiquette = ?is new sport1 except t :i* w\ld gov]n its dress4 ,o!rwise !re are ! rules ( ! road--keep+ & turn+ to ! "r--& ! ext5d+ by g5tlem5 ( ^? civilities :i* !y %\ld nev] =get to ! fair sex1 & consid]ation = _! fell[-m54 ,a man %\ld always wait = a lady to m\nt1 hold+ ! bicycle4 ,he %\ld ride at h] left1 keep+ pace ) h]1 & suffici5tly ne> to be ( assi/ance 9 case ( an accid5t4 ,he %\ld dism\nt fir/ & help h] to d s if necess>y4 ,! pres5t fa%ionable co/ume = cycl+ consi/s ( twe$ knick]s & %ort l\nge jacket ( same mat]ial1 br[n lea!r or l95 wai/coat1 color$ %irt1 ) :ite turn-d[n coll> & club tie1 golf /ock+s1 & l[-qu>t]$ tan :eel+ %oes4 ,a cap ( twe$ to mat* ! suit completes ! rig4 ,at cycl+ clubs black small clo!s ) d9n] jacket may be worn1 b z yet x is n ! prevail+ fa%ion4 ,9 summ] v natty :eel+ co/umes are made ( l95 or cra%4 ,"o ^w m z to :eel+4 ,ow+ to its popul>ity1 _m h s\ght to make x vulg> & common4 ,an idea t a man has ! privilege ( address+ any woman on a bicycle is mo/ errone\s4 ,y w\ld n (f] su* an imp]t95ce to an eque/ri5ne1 & y mu/ rememb] t a :eel is only a metal horse4 ,to cat* up ) or pass un*ap]on$ or unescort$ wom5 :eel]s is z mu* a brea* ( etiquette z to be guilty ( ! same vulg>ity t[>d an unaccompani$ ,amazon4 ,%oot+ des]ves a few words1 al?\gh %oot+ p>ties 9 ! acceptance ( ! =eign & ,briti% ent]ta9m5ts h z yet b few c\nt]p>ts 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,m5 *ase ! anise$ bag or an import$ fox :5 rid+ to h\nds1 & :5 !y take gun 9 h& x is = ! purpose ( hunt+ big game1 su* z "o w\ld obta9 9 ! ,adirondacks1 9 ! ,rockies1 9 ! ,s\!rn swamp l&s1 & 9 ! wild]ness ( ,canada4 ,9 ,engl& y may be invit$ = ! %oot+4 ,! />t is 9 ! morn+1 9 a p>ty accompani$ by ! gamekeep]s4 ,! birds are flurri$1 ! guns are load$ by y\r special att5dant1 & y only pause 9 y\r "w ( de/ruction = lun*eon1 :i* is s]v$ some:]e 9 ! woods or on ! moors4 ,y are expect$ to be at ! h\se ab\t f\r1 :]e1 aft] *ang+ y\r clo!s1 y appe> 9 ! draw+ room = tea4 ,y are caution$ 9 ^! p>ties1 9 ord] to avoid accid5t1 be=e cross+ a h$ge1 gate1 or any o!r ob/acle1 to remove y\r c>tridges4 ,y are to be unusually c>eful 9 ! mann] ( hold+ y\r gun1 & %\ld c]ta9ly n fl\ri% x ar\nd or po9t x at any liv+ ?+1 save t :i* x is int5d$ to kill4 ,guns us$ z walk+ /icks or props to take fly+ leaps or o!r extraord9>y purposes are ! ass99e div]sions ( "s idiots4 ,9 ,engl& a position is assign$ to y4 ,x is etiquette to rema9 9 x1 %oot+ 9 a lib]al & sportsmanlike _s1 accept+ %ots z !y come4 ,! gamekeep]s expect a tip at ! end ( ! visit4 ,! correct dress is loose jacket1 knick] corduroy bree*es1 /\t ribb$ /ock+s1 & box-clo? legg+s4 ,heavy russet boots & a clo? %oot+ cap are also worn4 ,b[ls is a favorite game 9 ! c\ntry1 & dur+ ! ,l5t5 season 9 ,new ,york1 :]e !re are a numb] ( clubs =m$ = its enjoym5t4 ,al?\gh ! sessions are 9 ! ev5+1 ! m5 dress at clubs 9 mufti or neglige1 ! golf or cycl+ suits be+ ! favorites4 ,:5 y are ask$ to play b[ls at a private h\se1 & :5 !re is a dance to foll[1 or :5 y are ask$ to a b[l+ p>ty1 x is p]haps bett] =m to we> y\r d9n] jacket or ,tux$o1 z !re w be supp] & danc+ aft]w>d4 ,! pres5ce ( ladies w n det] y f we>+ on an occasion l ?is demitoilet or d9n] jacket1 z !re is a c]ta9 in=mality ab\t all a?letic sports4 ,! same may be said ( badm9ton1 ano!r favorite ,l5t5 game1 play$ some:at aft] ! mann] ( t5nis4 ,! diff]5ce is t in/ead ( racquet & ball1 battl$ore & %uttlecock are us$4 ,= skat+1 ev5 at a r9k on artificial ice1 golf co/ume or mufti is good =m4 ,polo has likewise no code ( etiquette n connect$ ) ! rules ( ! game4 ,! dress = polo includes bucksk9 knee bree*es1 flannel or madras %irt ) l[ turn-d[n coll>1 top rid+ boots1 & polo cap4 ,,ya*t+1 ,,boat+1 ,,ba?+1 ,,t5nis1 ,,& ,,rac+4 ,a ya*t 9 commission is ! mo/ exp5sive & luxuri\s toy a man c h4 ,no "o b a millionaire c af=d x4 ,true1 z 9 o!r possessions1 !re are degrees1 & consequ5tly !re are ya*ts & ya*ts4 ,only l>ge s*oon] or /eam ya*ts1 h[ev]1 are adaptable = ent]ta9+4 ,a man's ya*t is inde$ 8 ca/le1 & ! ho/ has only to foll[ ! rules :i* gov]n social functions to be p]fect 9 ?is delightful me?od ( ent]ta9+4 ,yet !re are a few little details ( :i* x w\ld be prud5t to speak4 ,! prop] ent]ta9m5ts = a ya*t 9 h>bor are lun*eons1 d9n]s1 dances1 & %ort cruises4 ,none ( ^! %\ld be elaborate1 ! ya*t itself--a ?+ ( joy & beauty--be+ alone a great attraction4 ,y\r sailors %\ld meet ! p invit$ at ! dock 9 ! cutt]1 & r[ !m to ! place :]e y\r ya*t rides at an*or4 ,y %\ld be at ! gangway ready to receive !m4 ,! same ord] %\ld be obs]v$ on _! leav+4 ,dur+ a club cruise !re are sev]al =malities to be obs]v$4 ,y are !n z if "u milit>y or naval ord]s4 ,! commodore %\ld be treat$ ) ! same consid]ation z an admiral4 ,y %\ld n appe> be=e him except 9 ! uni=m ( ! club1 & y %\ld always salute him on pass+1 & he %\ld h prec$5ce at all ent]ta9m5ts4 ,ya*t+ dress = m5 consi/s 9 ei!r blue flannel or s]ge suit1 or wea!r pilot or pea-jacket ( r\gh clo? or witney1 or blue s]ge or flannel coat ) naval :ite duck tr\s]s4 ,! cap1 blue or :ite clo? or duck4 ,:ite flannels are also worn1 b !y are n s appropriate4 ,9 ! ev5+1 usual =mal l&sman's co/ume4 ,!re are a few rules ( practical ya*t+ :i* are s intimately connect$ ) etiquette t1 al?\gh x is n exactly 9 my prov9ce1 ,i propose to give a summ>y ( !m "h2 !y may be useful1 & may s]ve my read] a good turn4 ,i take ! regulations ( ! ,new ,york ,ya*t ,club = my guide4 ,x is )\t d\bt ! lead+ ya*t+ organization ( ?is c\ntry4 ,:5 on a cruise1 all ya*ts belong+ to a club %\ld hoi/ _! colors at eight o'clock ,a4 ,m4 & haul !m d[n at sunset1 tak+ "t f ! s5ior (fic] pres5t 9 port1 if !re %\ld be "o4 ,betwe5 sunset & colors !y %\ld c>ry a night p5nant4 ,guns %\ld only be fir$ on sett+ or haul+ d[n ! colors1 except by ! ya*t giv+ ! "t1 nor betwe5 sunset & colors1 nor on ,sunday1 & ! rules ( _m ya*t clubs insi/ on ^! =malities be+ obs]v$ :e!r a ya*t is on a cruise or n4 ,! s5ior (fic] 9 port %\ld be 9 comm&1 & %\ld make colors & sunset & return salutes & visits1 etc4 ,8 ya*t %\ld rema9 ! /ation vessel until a s5ior to him 9 rank arrives1 :5 su* s5ior %\ld assume ! duties ( ! an*orage4 ,flag (fic]s %\ld display _! p5nants :ile 9 commission1 except :5 abs5t = m ?an =ty-eight h\rs4 ,9 ?is case _! private signal %\ld be hoi/$4 ,a blue rectangul> flag at ! />bo>d spread] %\ld be display$ :5 ! own] is n on bo>d4 ,all salutes %\ld be return$ 9 k9d4 ,ya*ts ( all clubs %\ld always salute vessels ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates ,navy4 ,ya*ts pass+ at sea %\ld salute ea* o!r1 juniors salut+ fir/4 ,?is is done by dipp+ ! ensign ?ree times or by fir+ a gun1 foll[$ by dipp+ ! ensign4 ,arriv+ 9 h>bor aft] sunset or on ,sunday ! salute %\ld be made ! fir/ ?+ next morn+4 ,:5 a squadron or a cruis+ exp$ition ent]s a port or an*orage & f9ds !re a =eign ya*t1 ! s5ior (fic] ( ! squadron or cruise %\ld s5d its own] a t5d] ( ! civilities ( ! club4 ,all vessels are consid]$ =eign n belong+ to ! int]/ate squadron1 or to a club n includ$ 9 ! association ( ya*ts to :i* y\r vessel & y belong4 ,( c\rse ,i h only skimm$ ?r\gh ! sail+ & salut+ regulations4 ,y are suppos$ to h a book ( y\r club1 :i* w give !m to y1 & y are b\nd to foll[ ! rules laid d[n !re94 ,z a rule1 ! commodore ( a ya*t club we>s on 8 cap an an*or "o in* & a half 9 diamet]1 plac$ horizontally1 embroid]$ 9 gold1 ) a silv] /> ( half an in* diamet] at ea* end ( & above ! an*or4 ,a vice commodore we>s only a s+le />2 capta9s two cross$ f\l an*ors4 ,! dress uni=m ( mo/ ya*t clubs is a pla9 blue or black dress coat1 a :ite dress wai/coat1 ea* ) ! club button 9 gilt2 blue or :ite tr\s]s ) cravat black or :ite4 ,! undress consi/s ( a d\ble-brea/$ sack coat ( blue clo?1 s]ge1 or flannel1 blue or :ite wai/coat1 ea* ) ! black club button2 tr\s]s ( same mat]ial1 or ( :ite drill4 ,! commodore has five black silk /ripes on 8 cuff1 ! vice commodore f\r1 ! re> commodore ?ree1 ! capta9 & o!r (fic]s two1 & ! memb]s "o4 ,y\r crew %\ld we> %irts ( blue flannel or :ite l95 ) wide blue cuffs & coll>s1 /it*$ ) blue or :ite ?read4 ,h&k]*iefs %\ld be ( black silk1 caps ( blue clo? )\t visor2 /raw hats ) black ribbon c be us$ = summ]4 ,! "n ( ! ya*t mu/ be work$ on ! brea/ ( ! %irt1 or pr9t$ ^u ! b& ( ! cap or ! ribbon ( ! hat4 ,! tr\s]s %\ld be ( blue flannel or :ite l95 duck4 ,no braces are worn4 ,,golf4 ,! etiquette ( golf is incorporat$1 m or less1 ) ! te*nicalities ( ! rules gov]n+ ! game4 ,i d n int5d to g into ^!1 b to give a few h9ts to ! novice1 to prev5t him1 if possible1 committ+ solecisms4 ,golf has a vocabul>y ( its own4 ,! gr\nds on :i* ! game is play$ is a /ret* ( r r\gh c\ntry1 ab\nd+ 9 hills1 hillocks1 & s&y d[ns1 & is kn[n by no o!r "n b ! l9ks4 ,! game is usually play$ by two p]sons1 b x c be by m4 ,x consi/s 9 driv+ a ball1 small & black1 or pa9t$ r$ = ! w9t] sn[s1 along a r\te laid out by a s]ies ( holes to a goal1 ) a selection ( clubs ) metal ends4 ,a small boy c>ries ^! clubs ar\nd = ! play]s4 ,he is call$ ! caddie4 ,! clubs h v>i\s names & v>i\s uses4 ,!y are = propell+ or driv+ ! ball1 accord+ to ! rules ( ! game4 ,!y are ! driv]1 long spoon1 %ort spoon1 putt]1 iron putt]1 cleek1 iron1 niblick1 brassey1 l(t+ iron1 & ma%ie4 ,a tee is a small m\nd ( s& or e>? ^u :i* ! ball re/s4 ,z be=e expla9$1 ! ball is propell$ or driv5 f ! tee into "o ( ! holes4 ,! t]m putt+ is appli$ to ! locality 9 :i* ?is op]ation ( driv+ ! ball into ! hole takes place4 ,! etiquette ( ! spectator is embrac$ 9 ! common-s5se ess5tial ( be+ an onlook] & no?+ m4 ,sil5ce is gold54 ,advice & comm5t1 %\ld y pr(ess to "k any?+ ab\t ! game1 are braz54 ,be consid]ate2 d n int]f]e ) ! com=t ( ! play]s4 ,z at billi>ds1 ! /roke %\ld be made 9 utt] sil5ce4 ,! golf l9ks is n a place = criticism1 & if y are all[$ to foll[ ! play]s ar\nd1 y mu/ control y\r feel+s alike :5 en?usia/ic or :5 contemptu\s4 ,besides be+ a brea* ( good mann]s1 rememb] t golf is m or less an outdoor game ( :i/4 ,golf is ! easie/ game at :i* to *eat1 b z x is a sport 9 ! rep]toire ( a g5tleman1 x w\ld seem almo/ an insult to h9t at su* a cont+5cy4 ,h[ev]1 ap>t f ! moral effect ( *eat+ at any game1 if a man is dead to all s5se ( honor1 he %\ld be alive to ! fe> ( be+ f\nd out4 ,su* discov]y means social o/racism4 ,! prop] golf co/ume is bas$ on common s5se4 ,! man :o rigs himself up = ?is or any o!r sport 9 :at he consid]s ! mo/ approv$ /yle is ei!r a v bad play] or a novice4 ,! *ampion%ips h be5 won by m5 we>+ _! ord9>y /reet co/umes or bus9ess l\nge suits4 ,! ,engli% & ,scot* golf dress1 h[ev]1 is sack coat1 knick]s )\t lea!r ext5sions1 & a pla9 twe$ %oot+ cap4 ,! %irt is :ite madras1 s(t1 un/>*$ bosom1 ) a golf /ock or ,ascot4 ,golf %oes or boots are ( heavy russet or black lea!r4 ,! hose has a long ribb$ top1 :i* is turn$ ov]1 =m+ a sort ( heavy b& on ! calf ( ! leg4 ,x is made ( heavy wor/$1 pla9 or ribb$4 ,?is co/ume w d = w9t] 9 ! ,engli% climate1 :5 y c n employ too heavy twe$s 9 ! nor? & we/4 ,! ,am]ican co/ume1 h[ev]1 is made ( light] twe$s = ! spr+ & autumn1 & ( br[n l95 or holl& = ! summ]4 ,z yet1 except 9 "o or two localities1 golf is n g5]ally play$ 9 w9t]1 except by en?usia/s4 ,at a mat*1 golf]s we> _! club uni=m coats1 :i* are made ( hunt+ p9k ) brass buttons4 ,! club dress uni=m is full & prop] dress = all golf functions1 su* z d9n]s & dances & receptions4 ,= golf club ev5+ functions1 black silk or lisle ?read /ock+s & pumps & black knick]s w\ld be appropriate dress4 ,?is w be regulat$ by ! rules ( ! club4 ,,boat+ ,,& ,,ba?+1 ,,t5nis ,,& ,,rac+4 ,b a ^w1 & ?is on co/ume4 ,! prop] dress 9 ,engl&1 :]e boat+ is a social amusem5t1 is ! blaz] madras %irt ) :ite l95 all-ar\nd coll>s & madras cuffs1 same mat]ial z %irt1 :ite duck tr\s]s1 & /raw hat ) color$ ribbons4 ,= ba?+1 ! pres5t ocean co/ume is all pla91 "o d>k-color two-piece suits1 %ort tr\s]s com+ to ! knees1 & j]sey ) v %ort sleeves4 ,= t5nis1 :i* ,i h omitt$ 9 ! category ( sports1 z !re is no peculi> etiquette atta*$1 y %\ld we> :ite duck tr\s]s1 a :ite madras %irt1 :ite flannel coat1 pla9 or f9ely /rip$1 & /raw hat or flannel cap to mat* coat4 ,! /raw hat 0 9 vogue la/ summ]4 ,9 ,engl& _m m5 we> gray vicuna frock coats to ! races4 ,ab\t ?is co/ume1 h[ev]1 9 ,am]ica1 :]e races are b seldom social functions1 y mu/ be guid$ by ! season1 circum/ances1 & place4 ,( c\rse1 a top hat mu/ be worn ) any species ( frock coat1 b ! gray top hat has gone out ( fa%ion4 ,gymkhana races are burlesque affairs import$ f ,india4 ,! p>ticipants are dress$ 9 grotesque fancy co/umes1 & are oblig$ to race hold+ umbrellas1 toy balloons1 or "s o!r absurdity4 ,!y are 9 great favor at summ] wat]+ places4 ,,billi>ds4 ,! etiquette ( ?is popul> pa/ime is possibly embrac$ 9 ! g5]al maxim ( ! ext5d+ ( ! utmo/ consid]ation = o!rs4 ,billi>ds con/itutes q an important factor 9 club life1 & %\ld h be5 includ$ 9 ! *apt] on t subject b = ! fact t s _m private h\ses h billi>d rooms1 & ! game is bett] classifi$ ) ! diff]5t sports ( a ba*elor4 ,at ! club x is all[able to play ! game sans "o's coat1 or 9 %irt sleeves4 ,! billi>d room is a place :]e "o c be unconv5tional4 ,ord]1 h[ev]1 9 a mat* game especially1 %\ld be /rictly ma9ta9$4 ,! sev]e ,engli% rule at clubs1 "u su* circum/ances1 requires ! man :o has play$ 8 /roke to retire to a reasonable di/ance1 & keep out ( ! l9e ( sight 7vide ! ,badm9ton treatise on ! game74 ,ord]s = dr9ks to ! wait]1 l\d talk+1 criticism ( ! play1 light+ pipes & cig>s--! latt] be+ only g5]ally all[$ 9 ,new ,york club billi>d rooms--are all (f5ses aga9/ etiquette4 ,9 private h\ses x is c]ta9ly a brea* ( good mann]s to bolt into a billi>d room :ile a game is 9 progress1 except betwe5 ! /rokes1 & ?is p]iod c be easily asc]ta9$ by li/5+ at ! door4 ,! ideal game is conduct$ ) /rict obs]vance ( ! etiquette ( ! room4 ,x is1 accord+ to ! same ,badm9ton au?ority1 a game dur+ ! progress ( :i* nei!r play] smokes nor int]rupts ! o!r1 & spectators are g5]ally c\rte\s1 sil5t1 & imp>tial4 ,9 a private h\se :]e ladies are apt to be pres5t & to be play]s1 %irt sleeves are c]ta9ly n tol]at$4 ,! d9n] coat is useful on ^! occasions4 ,smok+ is p]missible if ! ho/ess cons5ts4 ,! etiquette ( c>ds calls = b a ^w4 ,:i/ means sil5ce4 ,no g5tleman qu>rels ) a billi>d m>k] or a golf caddie2 /ill less %\ld he dispute a po9t at c>ds4 ,bett] lose1 especially :5 wom5 are pres5t1 ?an ent] a controv]sy4 ,,*apt] ,,xvii4 ,a ,,ba*elor',s ,,travels ,,at ,,home ,,& ,,abroad4 ,to seem entirely at "o's ease is ! be/ maxim ,i c give = travel+4 ,y c n actually pret5d to exp]i5ce t :i* may be totally lack+1 b by mak+ y\rself com=table y w increase ! pleasure ( o!rs4 ,!re is1 9 ^! days ( luxuri\s travel+1 b little occasion to be flurri$1 & no excuse :atev] = n be+ z well dress$ z y are calm & self-possess$4 ,dress means a great deal1 & if y h n a s]vant ) y x w simply require a little c>e at ! comm5cem5t to insure y\r entire fre$om f all annoyance4 ,z ,i h already obs]v$ 9 a previ\s *apt]1 9 a long j\rney x w\ld be bett] to take m ?an "o trunk1 b ev5 if y h b ! "o y %\ld c>ry also a bag ) y\r toilet articles4 ,a dress+ bag is mo/ requisite1 & if y c n af=d ?is y c\ld h an ord9>y bag1 or ev5 a dress suit case1 fitt$ up ) ! necess>y appliances ( ! toilet4 ,^!1 x is almo/ absurd to /ate1 consi/ ( y\r razors1 too? & nail bru%es1 combs & hairbru%es1 individual soap1 & a few small vials ( v useful physic1 su* z ,jamaica g+]1 ,pond's extract1 liv] pills1 cologne1 &1 if y d n c>ry x 9 y\r pocket1 a br&y flask4 ,!re are times :5 ?is is absolutely necess>y4 ,9 my dress+ bag1 if possible1 ,i w\ld take my pyjamas1 s z to be p]fectly equipp$ = ! night1 9 case1 at ! end ( my j\rney1 ,i c\ld n get at my trunk4 ,ov]coats1 wat]pro( coat1 umbrellas1 walk+ /icks1 etc41 %\ld be c>ri$ 9 a %awl /rap1 :]e y c\ld also h a novel or s1 or a budget ( int]e/+ newspap]s or magaz9es4 ,= %ort railway or /eam] j\rneys1 ! be/ dress is ! ord9>y l\nge or morn+ sack suit1 ) a s(t felt or ,homb\rg hat4 ,gloves are necess>y4 ,tan or gray su$e is ! mo/ correct4 ,9 w9t] an ul/] %\ld be worn4 ,select = sea or = ocean voyages ! w>me/ l\nge suit y h1 or1 if y feel m dispos$1 a w>m twe$ knick]bock] suit1 su* z y we> = golf4 ,i ?9k x is a good pr9ciple to put on y\r old clo!s at sea4 ,only v vulg> p dress = ?is occasion4 ,= late d9n] on ! %ip ,i w\ld h a black cutaway coat & a light tie4 ,i believe m5 mu/ *ange _! clo!s be=e d9n] at all places & "u all circum/ances4 ,russet %oes are worn4 ,d n hurry4 ,h y\r tickets pur*as$ 9 "t1 & arrive at a tra9 s t y w h fully five m9utes 9 :i* to *eck y\r luggage4 ,on an ocean voyage1 if ! %ip is go+ to leave at an e>ly h\r 9 ! morn+1 g on bo>d ! night be=e4 ,f>ewell supp]s are l greet+s 9 tugboats & o!r vulg> celebrations1 ! me$ ( ! second-class politician4 ,arrange ) y\r bank] = lett]s ( cr$it1 & take ) y j suffici5t small *ange to c>ry y com=tably & pay y\r little exp5ses1 ) "o note ( a l>g] d5om9ation 9 case ( accid5t4 ,d n get y\r money *ang$ on ! %ip4 ,x is effect$ at a v high rate ( disc\nt4 ,?us on ,engli% %ips--! ,cun>d1 ,:ite ,/>1 ,an*or1 & ,allan l9es--,engli% curr5cy is us$4 ,! ,hamburg & ! ,nor? ,g]man ,lloyd employ ,g]man1 & ! ,transatlantique1 ,fr5*4 ,y\r /eam] trunk & y\r bag & %awl /rap %\ld be plac$ 9 ! cab9 ) y4 ,/eam] *airs1 9 ^! days1 c be hir$4 ,d n c>ry "o ar\nd ) y4 ,x is a nuisance4 ,on ! ocean /eam]s ! /ew>d w att5d to y\r little wants1 & prep>e y\r ba? = y 9 ! morn+1 = :i* !re is a fee1 ,i ?9k1 ( tw5ty-five c5ts a day4 ,x is cu/om>y on leav+ a %ip to give gratuities to s]vants4 ,to ! cab9 /ew>d on ,engli% %ips1 t5 %ill+s1 ! head /ew>d t5 %ill+s1 & y\r wait] t5 %ill+s4 ,on o!rs1 = a six days' voyage1 a fee equal to two doll>s %\ld be giv5 to y\r wait] & y\r cab9 /ew>d & to ! head /ew>d4 ,s]vants abroad are fe$ on a regul> t>iff1 :i* y w f9d 9 ! guidebooks4 ,9 ?is c\ntry ! draw+-c> fi5d expects tw5ty-five c5ts = a day's j\rney2 fifty c5ts to a doll> = long] & m ext5d$ s]vice4 ,at ,am]ican hotels ! wait]s are tipp$ :5 y leave1 & a small gratuity giv5 to *amb]maids4 ,c\rtesy1 especially to wom51 is ! "o ?+ expect$ f e g5tleman :o travels1 & if y c assi/ any "o 9 di/ress by advice or by help ( any k9d d s1 p>ticul>ly if x is an unprotect$ woman4 ,b be v gu>d$ 9 mak+ new acqua9tances4 ,su* z are pick$ up on ! /eam]1 = in/ance1 c be dropp$ z soon z y l&4 ,bew>e ( ! c>droom & ! pok] %>ps :o travel on ! great l9]s4 ,make x a rule1 if y w play = money1 nev] to d s ) /rang]s4 ,:5 travel+ ) a lady1 always c>ry h] bag & assi/ h] 9 & out ( ! tra9s4 ,y\r behavior is on its mettle "u ^! circum/ances1 & travel+ is v apt to be l a mu/>d pla/]1 br++ out bo? ! good & evil attributes ( a man4 ,! subject ( =eign travel also ne$s a few words z well z a bit ( g5]al advice4 ,engli% cu/oms & our own are s mu* alike t x w\ld be /range1 inde$1 if an ,am]ican c\ld n get along 9 ! l& :]e 8 own tongue is spok54 ,"o ( ! fir/ difficulties :i* once beset travel+ ,am]icans 9 ,london 0 ! regulation 9 !at]s t ! audi5ce1 or t "p ( x occupy+ ! be/ /alls1 %\ld be 9 ev5+ dress4 ,z ev5+ dress is n[ also ! rule 9 ,new ,york1 ?is qu&>y is a ?+ ( ! pa/4 ,programmes at _m ( ! ,engli% !at]s are n[ free1 :]e "s ye>s ago x 0 cu/om>y to sell bills ( ! play = sixp5ce4 ,! fee+ ( s]vants at hotels1 h[ev]1 cont9ues1 & we yet h ! *>ge on hotel bills = s]vice4 ,y are expect$ to give some?+ to ! hall port]1 to y\r wait]1 to ! boots1 & to ! *amb]maid4 ,! am\nt ( ^! fees diff]s accord+ to ! l5g? ( y\r /ay4 ,i %\ld say a half cr[n to ! port] & less sums to ! o!rs4 ,9 ,london a %ill+ a mile is ! accept$ price = cabs )9 a c]ta9 metropolitan radius call$ ! circle4 ,?rup5ce or sixp5ce extra is ! tip to dr9k y\r heal?4 ,aft]noon dress is ! correct attire = ! p>k aft] midday1 & cabs & hansoms are n se5 on ! ,r[ dur+ rid+ & driv+ h\rs4 ,9 ,p>is y may we> a blue bl\se & make ! turn ( ! ,bois 9 a fiacre4 ,! t>iff !re is two francs an h\r1 or two francs fifty p] c\rse1 f "o place to ano!r4 ,! p\rboire is fifty c5times4 ,9 ,france ! p\rboire is a v]itable tax1 z x is 9 ,italy & 9 ! ,lat9 c\ntries4 ,9 ,g]many ! m>k is equal to ab\t tw5ty-five c5ts ( our money1 & x w g a long way4 ,t5 m>ks w fee a h\seful ( s]vants4 ,at ! /ation 9 ,p>is fifty c5times is giv5 to ! port]4 ,! commissionnaire at ! hotel expects fifty c5times4 ,wait]s' p\rboires are eighty-five c5times at breakfa/1 & at d9n] a franc4 ,9 a cafe !y are tw5ty-five c5times4 ,! woman at ! !at] :o puts a foot/ool "u y\r feet expects "o franc1 & at _m ( ! playh\ses %e mu/ be fe$ = a res]v$ seat4 ,9 ,p>is ! or*e/ra /alls are occupi$ only by m54 ,at ! op]a dur+ ! season ev5+ dress 9 ! boxes & /alls is1 ( c\rse1 de rigueur4 ,at ! ,com$ie ,francaise on ,tuesdays & at ! ,odeon on ,?ursdays y mu/ be 9 ev5+ dress 9 ord] to ga9 admittance4 ,*airs are sold 9 ,p>is at ! ,ca?olic *ur*es1 & 9 bo? ! ,london & ,p>is p>ks seats c be hir$ = a few p5nies or s\s4 ,9 ,p>is omnibuses only ! seat+ capacity is all[$4 ,:5 ! omnibus is full1 a sign1 ,complet1 is fa/5$ on ! outside4 ,at ! gates ( ea* small t[n 9 ,france ! octroi1 or impo/1 levies on articles ( food br\ght 91 & ! cu/omh\se 9 ,engl& seizes all ,am]ican repr9ts ( ,engli% books4 ,!re1 z well z 9 ,france1 spirits & tobacco are dutiable4 ,x is only civil to b[ :5 pass+ ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales or memb]s ( ! royal family4 ,9 ,p>is e hat is remov$ :5 a he>se passes1 z also 9 ,italy4 ,9 ,g]many ! hat is remov$ :5 ! emp]or passes4 ,passports are necess>y = ,russian & ,ea/]n travel4 ,all l>ge functions on ! ,cont95t1 no matt] :at "t ( ! day !y occur1 dem& ev5+ dress4 ,9 ,p>is ! bridegroom at a w$d+ 9 ! aft]noon we>s ev5+ dress1 z well z ! *ief male m\rn] at a fun]al1 b ! o!rs pres5t d n4 ,?is does n apply to groomsm5 & honor>y pallbe>]s1 :o are 9 ev5+ dress4 ,9 ,g]many1 ,au/ria1 & ,italy1 :]ev] royalty appe>s1 ev5+ dress is necess>y4 ,at ! audi5ces grant$ by ! ,pope all m5 mu/ be 9 ev5+ dress1 & ! wom5 9 d>k g[ns & veils4 ,! ,que5 ( ,engl&1 ! ,pr9cess ( ,wales1 & all o!r female memb]s ( ! royal family are address$ z ,ma'am2 ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales & ! male memb]s z ,sir1 & nev]1 except by tradesm51 z ,y\r ,royal ,highness4 ,! ,engli% dukes are address$ simply z ,duke & n z ,y\r ,grace2 a m>quis is ,"l & a m>*ioness ,lady4 ,y\ng] sons ( dukes %\ld be spok5 ( z "l4 ,a ,fr5* duke & du*ess are address$ z ,monsieur & ,madame4 ,9 ,g]many "o drops ! ,von :5 address+ a nobleman :o has t title1 b :5 y write to him y mu/ give him 8 full cr$5tials4 ,a =eign bi%op is always address$ z ,my ,"l & a c>d9al z ,y\r ,em95ce4 ,! etiquette at a h\se :]e ! ,pr9ce ( ,wales or a memb] ( ! royal family 9 ,engl& visits is rigor\s1 & on ! ,cont95t1 :5 royalty is pres5t1 x is ev5 m sev]e4 ,! pr9ce is nev] address$ unless he speaks to y4 ,he alone has ! privilege ( *ang+ ! subject ( conv]sation1 & all plans = ! day's recreation are submitt$ to him4 ,^! obs]vations are1 ( c\rse1 v g5]al1 b ! av]age ,am]ican to-day is at home 9 ,europe4 ,he %\ld only rememb] ! old adage to d 9 ,rome z ! ,romans d1 & he w n be mu* emb>rass$ by =eign cu/oms & habits4 ,,*apt] ,,xviii4 ,,! ,,engag$ ,,ba*elor4 ,! etiquette ( engagem5ts is simple4 ,!re are no rules z to h[ a man %\ld ask a woman to be 8 wife4 ,a man is n at lib]ty to ann\nce 8 engagem5t until 8 fiancee gives him p]mission to d s4 ,x is h] family :o h ! "r to "k fir/ ( ! exi/5ce ( an engagem5t4 ,v few engagem5ts are ent]$ into s hurri$ly z n to be anticipat$ 9 a way by ! memb]s ( ! "y woman's h\sehold4 ,h[ev]1 ! fir/ /ep to be tak5 is ! ann\ncem5t by ! fiancee to h] "m1 h] fa!r1 or h] prop] gu>dian ( ! exi/+ circum/ances4 ,sometimes ?is is done 9 a mo/ in=mal way by bo? p>ties4 ,! day aft] ! engagem5t has ?us be5 ann\nc$ x is good =m = ! man to h a private talk ) ! "y woman's p>5ts or gu>dian4 ,9 ,am]ica we are suppos$ to be above ! discussion ( m>riage settlem5ts4 ,a man %\ld nev] ask a woman to m>ry him unless he has ! :]e)al to support h] 9 ! mann] 9 :i* %e has be5 accu/om$ to live4 ,an inquiry into ! /ate ( ! propos$ son-9-law's f9ances is p]fectly prop] & %\ld n be tak5 amiss4 ,engagem5ts are ann\nc$ to o!r memb]s ( ! family ?an ^? ( ! h\sehold by in=mal notes :5 x is decid$ x %\ld be made public4 ,relatives & intimate fri5ds %\ld be appris$ ( x be=e "o's g5]al acqua9tances4 ,9 ^! days ( society news ! g5]al ann\ncem5t is frequ5tly made ?r\gh ! m$ium ( ! newspap]s4 ,x c also be made v]bally4 ,dur+ ! engagem5t x is expect$ t a man's relatives & fri5ds %\ld pay ! prospective bride z mu* att5tion z possible4 ,!y %\ld call on h] & felicitate h] z soon z !y h be5 in=m$ ( ! affair4 ,a pretty complim5t = a male memb] ( ! man's family or "o ( 8 intimates is to s5d fl[]s to ! new fiancee4 ,engagem5ts %\ld nev] be ann\nc$ unless ! w$d+ day is fix$ approximately4 ,avoid long engagem5ts4 ,! engagem5t r+ is a solitaire diamond1 b "o ) two small] diamonds is appropriate4 ,?is w dep5d ^u ! income ( ! swa94 ,r+s ) color$ /ones1 h[ev]1 are n 9 vogue = engagem5ts4 ,dur+ ! engagem5t ! betro!d c\ple %\ld be se5 z mu* z possible 9 ea* o!r's society4 ,nei!r %\ld appe> at l>ge ent]ta9m5ts to :i* ! o!r has n be5 ask$4 ,little att5tions are expect$4 ,a man %\ld s5d f "t to "t1 accord+ to ! /ate ( 8 f9ances1 fl[]s1 sweets1 or o!r tok5s4 ,a s5sible girl w n approve ( co/ly gifts if y c n af=d !m4 ,a v acceptable tok5 w\ld be a bun* ( violets or ,am]ican beauty roses s5t f a fa%ionable flori/4 ,,*apt] ,,xix4 ,,! ,,ba*elor',s ,,w$d+4 ,:5 a ba*elor m>ries ! arrangem5t ( ! details ( ! c]emony & reception are left to ! bride's family1 & !re is really v little ab\t :i* to in/ruct him4 ,_m m5 wi% to "k h[ ^! matt]s %\ld be conduct$1 & a %ort review is "h giv5 "u ! p5alty ( its be+ n )9 ! scope ( ! ,complete ,ba*elor4 ,w$d+s 9 society are celebrat$ ei!r at *ur* or at ! home ( ! bride4 ,! *ur* w$d+ is ! mo/ popul>1 & 9 l>ge cities ! mo/ fa%ionable1 z x admits ( ! pres5ce ( a l>ge numb] ( p & l5ds mu* solemnity to ! occasion4 ,! fa%ionable h\r = a w$d+ is f high noon--midday--until five o'clock4 ,ev5+ w$d+s h )9 ! pa/ five ye>s n be5 z mu* 9 vogue z =m]ly4 ,! invitations are issu$ )9 a =tnight ( ! c]emony4 ,! =mula is an ann\ncem5t engrav$ on a %eet ( heavy cream pap] fold$ 9 two4 ,x is issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! bride's p>5ts or gu>dian1 & x reque/s ! pleasure ( ! gue/'s pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] or w>d at su* a *ur* or su* a numb]1 at su* an h\r ( ! day1 mon?1 & ye>4 ,a sep>ate c>d1 inclos$1 ) ! ann\ncem5t & invitation to ! *ur*1 /ates ! h\rs ( ! reception4 ,! invitations are v simple1 engrav$ 9 pla9 ,engli% script1 & ! pap] & c>ds are ( a /&>d quality kn[n to /ation]s = ?is purpose4 ,! inn] "o is address$ only ) ! "n ( ! p]son invit$1 ! out] "o has ?is & ! /reet1 ! /reet numb]1 & full directions = mail+4 ,gilt-edg$ or fancy /ation]y is vulg>4 ,i h]e) app5d "s examples4 ,! ,engli% inv>iably insi/ on ! ,r4 ,s4 ,v4 ,p41 or answ] if y please1 on ev5 *ur* invitations4 ,?is is n ! regul> ,new ,york cu/om4 ,! reason = ?is is t 9 ,engl& ^? ask$ to ! *ur* are always expect$ also at ! reception4 ,only ! bridal p>ty sit d[n to an elaborate breakfa/1 ! o!r gue/s be+ giv5 ! v lighte/ ( refre%m5ts4 ,am]ican =m3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ---- reque/ y\r pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,ka!r9e to ,mr4 ----1 ,?ursday1 ,febru>y ! tw5ty-eigh?1 at twelve o'clock4 ,grace ,*ur*1 ,broadway & ,t5? ,/reet4 ,also3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ---- reque/ ! honor ( y\r pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,annie to ,mr4 ---- on 7etc474 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ---- reque/ y\r pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,myra ,raymond to ,mr4 ----1 ,?ursday1 ,febru>y ! tw5ty-eigh?1 at twelve o'clock4 ,grace ,*ur*1 ,broadway & ,t5? ,/reet4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ---- reque/ ! honor ( y\r pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,annie to ,mr4 ---- on ,tuesday morn+1 ,novemb] tw5ty-sev5?1 at half pa/ elev5 o'clock4 ,/4 ,leo's ,*ur*1 ,ea/ ,tw5ty-eigh? ,/reet4 ------ ,please pres5t ?is c>d at ,/4 ,leo's ,*ur*1 ,novemb] tw5ty-sev5?4 ,engli% =m3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ---- reque/ ! pleasure ( ,"l & ,lady ----'s company at ,/4 ,pet]'s1 ,eaton ,squ>e1 on ,saturday1 ,novemb] #d?1 at two o'clock1 on ! occasion ( ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,m>g>et & ---- ----1 & aft]w>d at #a ,grosv5or ,squ>e4 ,r4 ,s4 ,v4 ,p4 ------ ,admit be>] to ,/4 ,pet]'s ,*ur*1 ,eaton ,squ>e1 on ,novemb] #d?1 #ahie1 at two o'clock4 ,if ! bride :om a ba*elor is m>ry+ is a wid[ & lives 9 h] own h\se1 ! invitations to ! *ur* & ! reception1 or to ei!r or bo?1 w\ld read simply1 ,! pleasure ( y\r company is reque/$ at ! w$d+1 etc41 ) a sep>ate c>d be>+ ! ^w reception & /at+ ! h\r & address4 ,%\ld !re be no gue/s at ! w$d+1 & %\ld x be conduct$ v quietly or privately1 x is necess>y t ann\ncem5t c>ds be s5t out aft] ! ev5t has tak5 place4 ,^! are issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! bride's p>5t1 p>5ts1 or gu>dian1 :o simply ann\nce ! m>riage ( _! daught] or w>d ,elizabe? to ,mr4 ,h5ry ,smi? ,walcott1 ,?ursday1 ,june ! tw5tie?1 eighte5 hundr$ & n9ety-six4 ,9 ! left-h& corn] is plac$ ! address ( ^? s5d+ out ! c>ds4 ,a c>d is also inclos$ ) ! names ( ! newly m>ri$ c\ple1 _! address1 & _! reception day4 ,%\ld !re be nei!r p>5ts nor gu>dians1 ! p>ties to ! contract c ann\nce x !mselves ) "o c>d ?us3 ,mr4 ,william ,b5ham ,?orne & ,miss ,eleanore ,taylor1 m>ri$ on ,?ursday1 ,novemb] ! sev5?1 eighte5 hundr$ & ----1 ,new ,york4 ,ano!r c>d c also be inclos$1 on :i* is ! new address ( ! m>ri$ c\ple1 z well z _! day at home4 ,if x is a *ur* w$d+1 & !re are nei!r gu>dians nor p>5ts1 y c use ! =m1 ,y are invit$ to be pres5t at ! w$d+ ( ----1 etc4 ,a too rigid economy %\ld n be obs]v$ 9 ! s5d+ ( w$d+ invitations1 & ! prospective bridegroom %\ld see t ?is is c>ri$ out4 ,9 case !re are sev]al memb]s ( a family1 x is good =m to inclose an invitation to ea*2 ?us1 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,alg]non ,smi?1 ! ,misses ,smi?1 & ,messrs4 ,smi? mak+ ?ree small] envelopes inclos$ 9 ! l>g] "o address$ to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,alg]non ,smi?4 ,z ,i h advis$ 9 ! *apt] on ,c>ds1 y\r pa/ebo>d %\ld be left at ! h\se ( ^? 9 ^: "n ! invitations are issu$1 ev5 if y are ask$ only to ! *ur*4 ,if to ! reception1 y owe two visits ( dige/ion--"o to ! bride's p>5ts & "o to ! happy pair4 ,all ! exp5ses p]ta9+ to a w$d+ are borne by ! bride's p>5ts4 ,! bridegroom1 h[ev]1 pays ! cl]gyman's fee & provides 8 own c>riage1 cab1 or hansom f 8 rooms to ! *ur*4 ,?is vehicle is also s5t to ! h\se ( ! be/ man4 ,all exp5ses aft] ! m>riage are1 ( c\rse1 defray$ by ! bridegroom4 ,x has be5 /rict etiquette = ! bride & bridegroom n to use ! family c>riage1 :i* usually takes !m f ! *ur*1 to fet* !m to ! railroad /ation1 b "o provid$ by ! bridegroom4 ,x is frequ5tly a matt] ( c\rtesy = ! bride's p>5ts to (f] ?is = ! occasion4 ,! bridegroom %\ld1 z soon z ! w$d+ day is appo9t$1 *oose 8 be/ man & 8 u%]s4 ,! vogue is to ask 8 ne>e/ unm>ri$ male relative or 8 mo/ intimate ba*elor fri5d to s]ve 9 ! capacity ( be/ man4 ,m rec5tly a numb] ( v fa%ionable ,new ,york]s h _h m>ri$ m5 take t position1 & ?us ! innovation has sanction ?r\gh ! action ( ! sm>t set4 ,a m>ri$ be/ man is said to be an ,engli% fad1 b ,i f9d t x c\ld be m correctly t]m$ an ,anglo-,indian mode1 z ?is new idea is mu* m popul> 9 ,calcutta & ,bombay ?an 9 ,london4 ,9 ! selection ( u%]s1 a man asks usually "s few ( 8 intimates or club fri5ds1 & ?r\gh c\rtesy to 8 prospective bride a male memb] ( h] family1 frequ5tly h] bro!r4 ,six u%]s are ! usual numb]1 al?\gh f\r are q suffici5t4 ,"s few m5 h be5 kn[n to disp5se ) ! s]vices ( ! be/ man & h only u%]s1 b ?is is n exactly correct at a fa%ionable *ur* w$d+4 ,! u%]s c be v easily omitt$ if ! c]emony is to take place at ! h\se4 ,! bridegroom pres5ts 8 be/ man & 8 u%]s ) _! ties1 _! gloves1 & tie p91 :i* is a s\v5ir ( ! occasion1 z well z _! b\tonni]es1 or buttonholes1 to accept ! la/ ,engli% expression1 to be worn at ! c]emony4 ,! tie1 gloves1 & tie p9 are giv5 to ! be/ man & ! u%]s at ! f>ewell ba*elor d9n]2 ! b\tonni]es are ord]$ at ! flori/'s & s5t to !m on ! morn+ ( ! w$d+4 ,lilies ( ! valley are ! favorite w$d+ fl[]s1 b ! floral arrangem5ts are regulat$ by ! bride's family1 :o possibly h a c]ta9 color or fl[] s*eme = ! *ur* decorations1 & ! buttonholes mu/ be 9 keep+4 ,! bridegroom g5]ally provides hansoms or c\pes to drive 8 u%]s to ! *ur* f _! respective resid5ces4 ,z ! bride's family provides ! c>riages = ! cortege1 ^! o!r vehicles may be dismiss$ at ! *ur*4 ,! bridegroom himself drives to ! *ur* 9 a hansom ) 8 be/ man4 ,if x is a h\se w$d+ ^! c>riages ne$ n be provid$4 ,9 ?is c\ntry ! bridegroom does n give ! bridesmaids any tok5 or pres5t4 ,9 ,engl& he pres5ts !m ) broo*es or bracelets4 ,9 ,new ,york ! bride pres5ts h] maid ( honor & bridesmaids ) s\v5irs 9 ! %ape ( lace p9s1 broo*es1 or bracelets4 ,! bridegroom always gives to 8 bride a h&some w$d+ pres5t1 :i* is to be worn or c>ri$ on ! happy day4 ,x may be a diamond ti>a1 x may be a diamond />1 x may be jewels ( any k9d :i* he c asc]ta9 w\ld be acceptable to h]1 or x may be a pray] book4 ,! bridegroom does n provide any "p ( ! bride's co/ume4 ,if ! bride %\ld c>ry fl[]s in/ead ( a pray] book1 ?is special b\quet is ! gift ( ! bridegroom1 b ! fl[]s = ! bridesmaids are provid$ by ! bride4 ,! exp5ses ( ! w$d+ notices 9 ! newspap]s & ! fee to ! cl]gyman are paid by ! bridegroom ?r\gh ! ag5cy ( ! be/ man4 ,! w$d+ r+ is ( bright burni%$ gold1 p]fectly pla94 ,! date ( ! w$d+ & ! initials ( ! happy pair %\ld be engrav$ on ! inside4 ,! r+ is confid$ to ! be/ man1 :o produces x at ! prop] "t dur+ ! c]emony4 ,x is cu/om>y = a prospective bridegroom to pur*ase or1 r1 to h a w$d+ outfit made4 ,v elaborate affairs ( ?is k9d are n 9 good ta/e1 & any?+ :i* sugge/s ! occasion is c]ta9ly vulg>4 ,beyond ! clo!s = ! c]emony1 !re %\ld be a g5]al ov]haul+ ( ! w>drobe & %irts1 und]ve/s1 und]clo!s1 h&k]*iefs1 & su* articles mu/1 if any ( !m are ne$$ or h fall5 into decay1 be suppli$ or r5ew$4 ,all ?is is a matt] ( ta/e4 ,! ba*elor f>ewell d9n] is n[ a recogniz$ in/itution4 ,p]haps next to ! c]emony itself1 x is reg>d$ z ! mo/ important social function ( ! w$d+ week4 ,if y are a memb] ( a club1 y\r f>ewell d9n] %\ld be giv5 !re 9 "o ( ! private d9+ rooms4 ,o!rwise x is p]fectly correct to h x at a well-kn[n re/aurant or hotel1 91 ( c\rse1 a private d9+ room4 ,y may h x at y\r own h\se1 &1 %\ld y\r p>5ts be liv+ & y reside ) !m1 x c be giv5 at home4 ,! club1 h[ev]1 is really fir/ *oice4 ,sometimes ! /rictly ba*elor d9n] is disp5s$ )1 & 9 its /ead a d9n] is giv5 to ! entire bridal p>ty by ! family ( ! bride4 ,?is does away ) ! presum$ selfi%ness ( ! /ag d9n]1 & ! possible excuse = "s "o or m ( ! gue/s to become exhil>at$--a f9ale1 ,i am griev$ to say1 t has happ5$ on m ?an "o occasion4 ,at ! /ag d9n] y %\ld h y\r be/ man1 y\r u%]s1 & sev]al ( y\r fri5ds4 ,y c invite a m>ri$ man or s1 especially if he is a v jolly fell[1 & x is expect$ t "s "o or m ( y\r bride's relatives w be includ$4 ,twelve is a good numb]1 b1 ( c\rse1 nev] ?irte51 because wom5 are g5]ally sup]/iti\s1 & %\ld ?is become kn[n to y\r future "o x might cause h] great m5tal anxiety4 ,! gloves1 ties1 & tie or sc>f p9s to be giv5 to ! be/ man & u%]s are plac$ 9 :ite boxes ti$ ) :ite sat9 ribbon & put 9 ! out] room to be h&$ to ea* man z he bids adieu4 ,p]haps x might be m prud5t to place !m at ! cov]s1 b x w\ld h>dly be good =m1 z !re w\ld be 9 t case sev]al ( ! gue/s )\t favors4 ,&1 besides1 a d9n] ) favors is n p]missible 9 ^! days4 ,b\tonni]es ( lilies ( ! valley %\ld be also plac$ at ea* cov]4 ,! m5u c>ds %\ld be simple b ta/eful4 ,elaborate m5us are n n[ 9 ! be/ =m4 ,9 fact1 ) a ba*elor d9n]1 z ) all functions ( ?is k9d1 elegant simplicity %\ld be ! pr$om9at+ *>act]i/ic2 cut glass & silv] are all t is requir$4 ,9 ! c5t] ( ! table a basket1 or1 bett]1 a silv] j>d9i]e ( roses1 is ! only floral decoration4 ,dur+ ! c\rse ( ! d9n] ^! fl[]s are remov$ & are s5t to ! bride-elect4 ,x is sometimes ! cu/om--& a v pretty "o--= ea* gue/ to note a s5tim5t on a m5u c>d or simply 8 own "n1 & h t s5t also ) ! fl[]s4 ,! d9n] itself c1 b ne$ n be v elaborate4 ,i d n l a d9n] ( _m c\rses4 ,x is usual to s]ve %]ry & :isky & cavi>e s&wi*es 9 ! ant]oom be=e d9n]1 & also to h cig>s & cig>ettes galore !re z well z at table1 al?\gh x is n p]missible to smoke be=e ! *eese is s]v$4 ,i w\ld recomm5d raw oy/]s1 a cle> s\p1 a bit ( fi% ) slic$ cucumb]--an attractive entree2 a fillet ) vegetables1 canvas-back duck1 *eese & salad1 c(fee1 & fruit4 ,,! ,,c]emony4 ,on ! morn+ ( ! w$d+ ! bridegroom is call$ = 9 ! hansom or cab :i* has be5 ord]$ = himself & ! be/ man4 ,! be/ man calls = him & takes him to ! *ur*4 ,!y %\ld "t _! movem5ts s z to arrive at lea/ five m9utes be=e ! h\r appo9t$ = ! c]emony4 ,! same precaution %\ld be obs]v$ if x is a h\se w$d+4 ,at day w$d+s aft]noon dress is de rigueur = bridegroom1 be/ man1 u%]s1 & all male gue/s4 ,! bridegroom1 be/ man1 & u%]s %\ld be dress$ alike 9 frock coats & wai/coats to mat*1 tr\s]s ( d>k gray /rip$1 pat5t-lea!r %oes1 gray su$e gloves1 :ite or pe>l-color$ sc>fs1 & top hats4 ,! ,engli% h all[$ "s latitude1 & we> gray frock coats & ev5 color$ %irts1 b ?is fa%ion is n g5]ally 9 vogue 9 ,am]ica4 ,ev5+ w$d+s require =mal ev5+ dress4 ,a w$d+ at dusk 9 w9t]1 :]e ! bride we>s travel+ co/ume1 calls = aft]noon dress on ! "p ( ! bridegroom4 ,! bridegroom & be/ man alight at ! ve/ry4 ,!y rema9 9 ! back ( ! *ancel until ! fir/ notes ( ! w$d+ m>* notify !m ( ! pres5ce ( ! bride4 ,! be/ man mu/ see be=e ! c]emony t ! bridegroom's top hat1 z well z 8 own1 is s5t to ! entrance ( ! *ur* to be h&$ to ! respective own]s on _! exit4 ,:5 ! bride1 on ! arm ( h] fa!r or gu>dian1 approa*es ! alt>1 ! bridegroom & be/ man walk out f ! ve/ry1 ei!r toge!r or ! be/ man 9 advance4 ,9 ! latt] case ! be/ man /eps back at ! *ancel rail1 & all[s ! bridegroom to pass be=e him4 ,! bridegroom /&s on ! "r-h& side ( ! alt> or read+ desk & ! be/ man on 8 "r4 ,! bride is on ! bridegroom's left1 & h] fa!r or gu>dian a little beh9d h] on h] left4 ,to avoid confusion1 ! c]emony is g5]ally rehe>s$ an ev5+ or two be=e4 ,mu* dep5ds on ! liturgy ( ! communion to :i* ! c\ple belong4 ,! be/ man has *>ge ( ! r+1 & mu/ produce x & h& x to ! cl]gyman at ! "t x is dem&$4 ,at ! conclusion ( ! c]emony ! be/ man prec$es ! bride & bridegroom 9 ! procession1 escort+ ! maid ( honor1 unless ! cortege has be5 diff]5tly arrang$4 ,9 t case1 he makes 8 way ei!r ?r\gh ! ve/ry or d[n "o ( ! aisles to ! *ur* door1 :]e he sup]9t5ds ! fil+ away ( ! bridal c>riages & p>ty4 ,at ! reception he goes 9 to breakfa/ ) ! maid ( honor1 or ) a ne> relative ( ! bride's family4 ,he may use ! bridegroom's hansom f ! *ur* to ! h\se1 or he may g ) "o ( ! family4 ,!re is no rule = ?is4 ,! bride & bridegroom use ! bride's c>riage4 ,! be/ man is intru/$ also ) ! pay+ ( ! cl]gyman4 ,! bridegroom w give him a *eck = ?is purpose4 ,z already /at$1 he also ins]ts ! m>riage notices 9 ! newspap]s1 ! funds = :i* are also provid$ by ! bridegroom4 ,he pays 8 own p]sonal exp5ses4 ,! u%]s meet 9 ! *ur* ab\t an h\r be=e ! c]emony4 ,! bridegroom g5]ally puts c>riages at _! disposal1 b t is n 9 ! lea/ obligatory4 ,!y c take hansoms or cabs1 or = t matt] g to ! r5dezv\s 9 ! c> or /age4 ,! u%]s /& at ! foot ( ! nave or aisle & busy !mselves escort+ gue/s to seats4 ,an u%] (f]s 8 "r arm to ! lady he escorts up ! aisle4 ,ev5 if a lady %\ld be accompani$ by h] husb& or escort1 ! u%] %\ld (f] h] 8 arm1 & ! o!r man walks up beh9d !m4 ,if an u%] %\ld n h _h ! =mality ( an introduction to ! lady he is %[+ to a seat1 a b[ & a smile :5 leav+ h] is all t is necess>y4 ,an u%]1 be+ a fri5d ( ! family1 kn[s ^? :o ought to g beyond ! ribbon & ^? :o are n relatives or family connections4 ,! bride's bro!rs1 if !y are u%]s1 take c>e ( ! memb]s ( _! family1 & ! intimate fri5ds ( ! bridegroom or 8 relations4 ,! relatives ( ! bride are plac$ 9 ! front pews beyond ! ribbon on ! "r-h& side ( ! alt>1 & ! bridegroom's on ! left-h& side4 ,at ! arrival ( ! bridal p>ty ! u%]s get toge!r & =m 9 ! back ( ! *ur* = ! procession up ! aisle or nave4 ,_! meet+ ?us is ! cue = ! sexton1 :o signals ! organi/1 & ! m>* is />t$4 ,! u%]s advance up ! aisle1 two by two1 until !y rea* ! *ancel1 :]e !y divide on ! "r & on ! left1 all[+ ! bridesmaids to pass be=e !m1 /&+ 9 a semicircle ar\nd ! alt> rails4 ,if x is a ,roman ,ca?olic w$d+ !y g5uflect z !y rea* ! *ancel4 ,!y file d[n ! aisle 9 ! same ord]1 head+ ! bridal procession4 ,at ! c>riage way !y assi/ ! bridesmaids 9 _! c>riages1 & by previ\s arrangem5t !y are allott$ to c]ta9 c>riages escort+ ! bridesmaids4 ,at ! reception ! bride & bridegroom take _! places "u a w$d+ bell ( fl[]s or 9 ! front draw+ room betwe5 ! two front w9d[s1 or1 aga91 9 ! back draw+ room4 ,! h\se is decorat$ ) palms1 pott$ plants1 fl[]s1 & o!r foliage4 ,p9k & :ite or*ids1 f]ns1 & *rysan!mums make v effective decorations4 ,! "m ( ! bride1 or ne>e/ female relative1 /&s at ! door ( ! draw+ room & greets ! gue/s4 ,! u%]s & bridesmaids are scatt]$ ab\t ! room4 ,if !re is only a reception1 !n ! gue/s1 aft] ex*ang+ greet+s ) ! lady ( ! h\se1 pass on & %ake h&s ) & congratulate ! bridegroom & wi% ! bride joy4 ,unless y are an intimate fri5d1 d n attempt any set spee*4 ,! bride w say1 if %e has n se5 y = a %ort "t be=e ! w$d+1 ,i mu/ ?ank y1 ,mr4 ,smi?1 = y\r beautiful pres5t1 or some?+ ( t k9d4 ,if y d n "k ! bridegroom %e w pres5t y to him4 ,if y are a fri5d ( ! bridegroom he w pres5t y to ! bride1 & %\ld say1 if su* is ! case1 ,evangel9e1 or ,may1 or ,m>g>et1 or o!rwise2 or ,my de>1 let me pres5t to y ,mr4 ,alg]non ,smi?1 :o1 y rememb]1 is "o ( my be/ fri5ds4 ,& if ,mrs4 ---- has any tact1 %e w at once reply1 ,i am s pleas$ to meet any ( my husb&'s old fri5ds1 & ,i mu/ ?ank y1 ,mr4 ,smi?1 = ! beautiful bonbon di%es4 ,!y 7 j :at ,i want$1 or words to t effect4 ,!n pass on4 ,refre%m5ts are s]v$ at a w$d+ reception f a buffet 9 ! d9+ room4 ,if y ent] ) a lady1 ask h] :at %e w\ld l1 & get x = h]4 ,!n take y\r own *oice ( refre%m5t1 & /& or sit by h] z ! accommodations ( ! room w p]mit4 ,a half h\r at a w$d+ reception is suffici5t4 ,x is n good =m to bid good-by to ! bride & bridegroom1 b only to ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,if !re is no *ap]on--= in/ance1 if ! bride be a wid[ or divorcee & is 9 h] own home--!n y mu/ bid h] good-by1 b 9 su* cases l>ge receptions are n giv54 ,!re is always a breakfa/ or lun*eon set = ! bridal p>ty1 at :i* ! bride1 escort$ by ! bridegroom1 leads ! way4 ,! bride's fa!r1 escort+ ! bridegroom's "m1 ! u%]s & bridesmaids & relatives foll[4 ,9 ?is c\ntry we h no special law ( prec$5ce1 & ^! bridal lun*eons are m or less in=mal4 ,!re are no toa/s4 ,aft] breakfa/ ! valet1 %\ld !re be "o1 mu/ be ready ) ! bridegroom's valise1 :5 8 ma/] retires to put on a twe$ suit = travel+2 o!rwise x c be laid out by "o ( ! s]vants4 ,) ! coa*man on ! box & amid ! usual %[] ( rice & slipp]s1 z also ! fusillade ( a batt]y ( eyes f neighbors' w9d[s1 & p]haps a cr[d ( /reet ur*9s & admir+ s]vants1 ! happy c\ple />t out on _! w$d+ j\rney4 ,i ?9k x is bett] ta/e to wait until d>k1 almo/1 s z to avoid all ?is unseemly publicity1 & ,i am av]se to hav+ ! coa*man & horses deck$ ) :ite ribbons2 b1 ( c\rse1 "o does n m>ry e day 9 ! ye>1 & ^! little ecc5tricities are p>donable on su*--%all ,i say8--an auspici\s occasion4 ,at a home w$d+1 z has be5 said above1 u%]s are n necess>y4 ,! same c]emonial is obs]v$ z at *ur*1 b due all[ance mu/ be made = cr[d$ qu>t]s4 ,usually v few are ask$ to ! c]emony1 b _m to ! reception aft]w>d4 ,z soon z ! c]emony is ov] congratulations are 9 ord]1 ! newly m>ri$ c\ple /&+ "u ! bell ( fl[]s :]e !y 7 m>ri$1 & receiv+ ! good wi%es ( _! fri5ds4 ,if a man m>ries abroad !re are _m annoy+ bits ( r$ tape to be consid]$4 ,9 ,london y are oblig$ to h a legal resid5ce 9 ! p>i% :]e ! c]emony is to be p]=m$4 ,9 ,p>is a civil m>riage be=e ! mayor ( ! di/rict is necess>y4 ,c]tificates ( baptism mu/ be fil$ ) him1 & y mu/ give pro( ( ! legal cons5t ( bo? y\r p>5ts z well z ^? ( ! bride4 ,! religi\s c]emony takes place tw5ty-f\r h\rs aft] ! civil4 ,x is /rict etiquette t ! contract+ p>ties d n see ea* o!r dur+ ?is int]im4 ,! ord] ( ! w$d+ procession 9 ,france & on ! ,cont95t diff]s va/ly f t 9 ,engl& & ,am]ica4 ,!re are nei!r u%]s nor a be/ man4 ,if !re are bridesmaids ! groomsm5 accompany !m4 ,! bride ent]s on ! arm ( h] fa!r prec$$ by ! att5dants1 & ! bridegroom foll[s1 escort+ 8 future "m-9-law4 ,a long procession ( relatives br+s up ! re>4 ,! m51 no matt] at :at "t ( ! day ! c]emony might take place--& ev5+ w$d+s are unkn[n--are 9 =mal ev5+ dress4 ,"u ! ,fr5* law also no wid[ or divorcee c rem>ry until t5 mon?s h elaps$ s9ce ! dissolution ( ! previ\s contract4 ,?is %\ld n be =gott5 by ba*elors contemplat+ matrimony ) ei!r "o ( ^! classes ( eligibles4 ,9 ,g]many !re are fur!r complications1 & ,i w\ld advise all citiz5s ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates contemplat+ matrimony !re to consult ! consul or m9i/] at ! legation4 ,,*apt] ,,xx4 ,,fun]als4 ,:5 a dea? occurs 9 ! h\se all matt]s %\ld at once be plac$ 9 *>ge ( a relative or a fri5d ( ! family4 ,! family itself %\ld be kept away f e "o z mu* z possible1 & none ( ! sad details left to !m4 ,!y %\ld n be se5 until ! day ( ! fun]al4 ,front w9d[s %\ld be %ut1 bl9ds & %ades pull$ d[n1 & ! out] or /orm door ( ! h\se clos$4 ,a s]vant is /ation$ 9 ! hall ne> ! door1 z on reception days1 to receive ! c>ds ( p]sons call+4 ,all acqua9tances :o h be5 ent]ta9$ at ! h\se leave c>ds 9 p]son1 o!rs may mail !m4 ,only intimate fri5ds ( ! family are admitt$ to ! h\se4 ,%\ld y s5d fl[]s1 d n pur*ase or ord] any set designs4 ,!y are hide\s--rem9d "o ( ! t5em5t fun]als1 & are /rik+ly inappropriate4 ,a bun* ( :ite roses or ( violets is a beautiful (f]+ = a "y woman1 or two palms cross$1 ) violets or lilies ( ! valley atta*$1 = a man or an eld]ly p]son4 ,^! %\ld be accompani$ by y\r c>d4 ,if y h be5 an intimate fri5d1 a few words writt5--a %ort note ( condol5ce--w\ld n be amiss4 ,to all ( ^! notes1 & 9 ackn[l$gm5t ( ^! (f]+s1 "o ( ! family ne>e/ ! deceas$ 9 relation%ip %\ld respond by s5d+ _! c>d ) ! words1 ,?ank y = y\r k9d sympa?y1 or some?+ ( t sort1 writt5 ^u x4 ,z a rule1 :5 ! deceas$ is a "y man :o belongs to sev]al clubs or :o has a num]\s acqua9tance1 x is bett] to h ! fun]al f a *ur*4 ,pallbe>]s are *os5 f among 8 intimate fri5ds2 a relative nev] acts z pallbe>]4 ,x is n cu/om>y = any except ! ne>e/ relatives to g to ! cemet]y4 ,ladies ( ! family d n accompany ! rema9s to ! cemet]y1 & !y frequ5tly d n att5d ! fun]al s]vices at ! *ur* if ! deceas$ is a man4 ,if ! fun]al s]vices are held at ! h\se ! relatives & intimate fri5ds are invit$ into ! back p>lor1 d9+ room1 or up/airs1 & make _! appe>ance only :5 ! s]vices beg94 ,! und]tak] att5ds to seat+ p1 arrang+ ! rooms1 etc4 ,!re is only "o prop] dress = a man to we> at a fun]al4 ,x %\ld consi/ ( black frock coat1 d>k tr\s]s1 d>k sc>f & gloves 7gray or d>k tan1 b n black1 unless y are a relative71 & top hat4 ,%\ld y be a relative or a pallbe>]1 we> a black we$ on y\r hat4 ,z to p]iods ( m\rn+1 !re seems to be "s little diff]5ce ( op9ion 9 ,new ,york4 ,w>d ,mc,allister treat$ ! subject 9 q an exhau/ive mann]1 advocat+ %ort m\rn+ t]ms ev5 = ! ne>e/ relatives4 ,= a wife eighte5 mon?s is consid]$ ! prop] ?+2 = a p>5t1 twelve to eighte5 mon?s1 sometimes two ye>s2 = a bro!r or a si/]1 "o ye>2 & = a gr&p>5t1 six mon?s4 ,a mat]nal or pat]nal uncle or aunt is entitl$ to ab\t two mon?s or less1 accord+ to ! intimacy :i* has exi/$ betwe5 ! families4 ,seclusion f society is g5]ally consonant ) m\rn+ = ne> relatives4 ,h[ev]1 p n[ g to ! !at] & small d9n]s & teas aft] n9e mon?s ( m\rn+ = ! v ne>e/ relatives4 ,x is n necess>y = a man to %r\d himself 9 black4 ,a silk hat ) a crape b& ne>ly to ! top %\ld be worn by wid[]s dur+ ! fir/ ye> ( _! wid[]hood2 b black %irt /uds1 black sleeve buttons1 h&k]*iefs bord]$ ) black1 & ! o!r abom9ations 9 :i* ! grief-/rick5 ,fr5*man arrays himself are n tol]at$ 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,9 deep m\rn+ "o c we> black ties & black gloves1 b a :ite l95 tie 9 summ] is p]missible4 ,i d n advocate ! use ( black sc>f p9s4 ,a black b& on ! sleeve ( a gray suit is also ano!r affectation :i* %\ld be avoid$4 ,c>ds %\ld be left aft] a fun]al4 ,!re is no code ( etiquette e/abli%$ z yet = divorce4 ,second m>riages %\ld be z quiet z possible4 ,?is advice is giv5 to ba*elors :o are contemplat+ matrimony ) divorcees4 ,,g5]al ,,advice ,,= ,,unclassifi$ ,,occasions4 ,if y are *os5 godfa!r1 y are expect$ to s5d a silv] mug to y\r god*ild4 ,*ri/5+ p>ties are held ab\t f\r 9 ! aft]noon4 ,aft]noon dress is requir$4 ,:5 giv+ a d9n] or any ent]ta9m5t at a c]ta9 well-kn[n ,new ,york re/aurant d n ref] to x z ,del's4 ,?is is an e>m>k ( vulg>ity4 ,:5 speak+ ( ! city ( ,new ,york d n ref] to x z ,go?am4 ,?is %[s ! wor/ k9d ( prov9cialism & a vulg> _s4 ,ev5 %\ld y\r fri5ds be among ! mo/ exclusive & fa%ionable 9 any place1 !y are nev] swells1 nor d !y belong to ! ,f\r ,hundr$4 ,! latt] t]m 0 once us$ by a g5tleman to designate ! probable li/ ( p :o 7 to ent]ta9 9 ,new ,york t season1 & has no be>+ :atev] ^u ! "q ( social limit4 ,if y s5d fl[]s nev] h !m arrang$ 9 set designs4 ,fair voyag]s w ?ank y mu* m if y s5d fruit1 sweets1 or books1 z fl[]s on %ipbo>d or railroad tra9s are nuisances4 ,books1 sweets1 & fl[]s are ! only gifts :i* a ba*elor c (f] or a woman accept f him4 ,! t]ms lady & g5tleman are di/9ctive4 ,y\r fri5ds & acqua9tances are all suppos$ to be ladies & g5tlem54 ,to di/+ui% !m z su* implies a d\bt4 ,%\ld y call at a h\se y ask if ! ladies are 91 s z to di/+ui% !m f ! o!r females 9 ! h\sehold4 ,y also toa/ ! ladies4 ,9 ref]r+ to ! g5tl] sex1 x is m complim5t>y to speak ( !m z wom54 ,y w\ld say1 ,%e is a clev] woman1 n a clev] lady4 ,! p]son :o speaks ( a lady or a g5tleman fri5d has a def9$ social position--on ! ,b[]y4 ,avoid slang1 especially t ( ! music halls or ! comic 787 newspap]s4 ,y c well af=d n to be up to date4 ,9 greet+ a p]son say ,good morn+1 ,good aft]noon1 or ,good ev5+1 b refra9 f su* inane phrases z ,delight$1 ,i'm sure4 ,on introduction or pres5tation1 x is suffici5t to say ,i am delight$ to meet y4 ,avoid also ! ,h[ d'y d8 ,h[ are y8 ,v well1 ,i ?ank y4 ,all ?is is idiotic4 ,:i/le all y l 9 y\r b$room1 b n 9 public4 ,g5tlefolk h fri5ds /opp+ ) !m1 nev] company4 ,s]vants h & keep company4 ,:5 y ref] to w9e x means any k9d ( v9tage1 & n necess>ily *ampagne4 ,!re=e bew>e ( ! g5tleman :o op5s w9e1 or ! "o :o gives a w9e p>ty1 :atev] t may mean4 ,we speak ( a d9n]1 b n ( a d9n] p>ty4 ,a p>ty to ! play1 no matt] :]e ! location ( ! places may be1 is nev] a box p>ty4 ,d n be a pr(ess$ je/] nor yet a pun/]4 ,! cl[ns ( society are n enviable be+s4 ,:5 speak+ ( a fa%ionable woman d n ref] to h] z a society woman4 ,t w\ld imply t %e belongs to v>i\s societies or guilds1 :i* is n probably ! impression y desire to convey4 ,:5 a p]son has a pr$ilection = ! use ( ! ^w elegant1 & especially :5 x is employ$ 9 ! s5se ( beautiful1 good1 *>m+1 or delightful1 y are q j 9 y\r e/imation ( 8 or h] vulg>ity4 ,answ]s to que/ions %\ld be giv5 9 ! direct affirmative or ! direct negative4 ,all "r is n1 to say ! lea/1 civil1 & is ill-br$4 ,nev] exhibit y\r accompli%m5ts1 unless by special reque/1 9 ! public p>lors ( hotels1 or saloons ( %ips1 or o!r places ( g5]al ga!r+4 ,! p]sons :o s+ & play ! piano & make !mselves bores are z repreh5sible z ! w9d[ op5+ & %utt+ fi5ds1 ! fidgety travel]s1 ! l\d-voic$ & con/ant compla9+1 all ( :om are mo/ obnoxi\s4 ,"u great provocation ! expletive damn is tol]at$ by society1 b x %\ld be :isp]$ & n pron\nc$ al\d4 ,! man :o swe>s is c]ta9ly beyond ! pale1 & ! "o :o uses silly & s5seless exclamations is n f> away f him4 ,"o ( ! m>ks ( a g5tleman is 8 complete ma/]y ( himself "u ! mo/ try+ & aggravat+ circum/ances4 ,^! are b few ( ! _m don'ts :i* x seems necess>y to repeat 9 works ( ?is k9d4 ,= a m ext5d$ catalogue ( social & grammatical s9s1 ! read] is ref]r$ to t excell5t book ,! ,v]bali/1 by ,alfr$ ,ayres1 & ! clev] little bro*ure ,don't4 ,a c>eful /udy ( ^! w assi/ him mu* 9 review+ elem5t>y que/ions1 ! k ( :i* 0 tak5 = grant$ by ! au?or ( ! ,complete ,ba*elor4 ,,index4 ,,acceptance1 invitations1 #df-dh4 ,admission to clubs1 rules =1 #abg-abi4 ,admission1 visitors to clubs1 #aca1 #acb4 ,advice1 g5]al1 = unclassifi$ occasions1 #aie1 #aif4 ,aft]noon calls1 etiquette (1 #dc-de4 ,aft]noon dress1 :5 worn1 #ab1 #ac4 ,aft]noon tea1 #de4 ,aft]noon w$d+1 #ahd1 #ahe4 ,aisle1 *ur* & !at]1 go+ up1 #e4 ,almonds1 salt$1 #fi4 ,alp9e hats1 #bh4 ,amateur accompli%m5ts1 #aii4 ,ann\ncem5t c>ds1 #agf4 ,ann\ncem5t1 engagem5t1 me?od (1 #afi4 ,answ]s1 ,assembly & ,patri>*s1 #dh4 ,answ]s1 ball invitations1 #dh4 ,answ]s1 committee invitations1 #dh4 ,answ]s1 d9n] invitations1 #dh4 ,answ]s1 =m (1 #df-dh4 ,answ]s1 g5]al1 #dh4 ,arti*okes1 me?od ( eat+1 #gj4 ,asp>agus1 me?od ( eat+1 #gj4 ,assembly balls1 etiquette (1 #dh1 #aje-aaj4 ,,ba*elor4--,= all functions ) ?is title1 see v>i\s heads ( *apt]s4 ,ba*elor's f>ewell d9n]1 #aha-ahd4 ,badm9ton1 #adh4 ,bag1 %oe1 #cj4 ,bag1 travel+1 :at to take on a visit f ,friday to ,monday1 #ia-ic4 ,bag1 travel+1 voyage long1 #afj1 #afa4 ,ball1 ,assembly1 #aje-aaj4 ,ball1 ,*>ity1 #ajc4 ,ball1 g5]al etiquette (1 #dh1 #ajb-aaj4 ,ball1 ,inauguration1 #ajd4 ,ball1 public1 #dh1 #ajc1 #ajd4 ,ball1 supp] at1 #aaj1 #aaa4 ,ba?1 ba*elor's1 #ag1 #ah4 ,ba?+1 #aef4 ,ba?1 ,turki%1 #bb4 ,be>d1 c>e (1 #ai4 ,be/ man1 dress =1 #ahd4 ,be/ man1 etiquette =1 #ahj-ahb1 #ahd-ahg4 ,bicycl+1 #add1 #ade4 ,billi>ds1 #aeg1 #aeh4 ,boat+1 #aef4 ,bolt+ food1 #fb4 ,boots1 #ab1 #ac1 #bh-cj1 #cg4 ,boots1 c>e (1 #bh-cj4 ,boots1 rid+1 #adb4 ,boots1 russet1 #ac1 #db1 #adg1 #aee4 ,b[+1 etiquette (1 #b-f1 #i4 ,b[l+1 #adg4 ,bridegroom1 #agh-ahj4 ,bridegroom1 dress (1 #ahd4 ,bridegroom1 exp5ses (1 #agg1 #agh4 ,bridegroom1 pres5ts to bride & w$d+ p>ty1 #agi1 #ahj4 ,bru%es1 #ai-bf1 #bh-ca4 ,bru%es1 clo!s1 #be1 #bf1 #bh-ca4 ,bru%es1 hair1 #ai1 #bb4 ,bru%es1 hat1 #bh4 ,bru%es1 nail1 #bb4 ,bru%es1 too?1 #bj4 ,butl]1 duties (1 #ajj4 ,butt]1 :5 s]v$1 #ff4 ,,cabs1 ,london & ,p>is1 #afd1 #afe4 ,cabs1 u%]s & be/ m51 #ahd1 #ahf4 ,calls1 aft]noon1 #dc-df4 ,calls1 balls & dances1 #de4 ,calls1 condol5ce1 #de1 #aic4 ,calls1 d9n]1 #de4 ,calls1 ev5+1 #dc1 #df4 ,calls1 g5]al etiquette (1 #dc-df1 #ajf1 #aic4 ,calls1 op]a & !at]1 #de1 #df4 ,calls1 p]iod 9 :i* to be made1 #de4 ,c>d cases1 #ej4 ,c>d p>ties1 #ee4 ,c>ds1 ann\ncem5t1 #agf1 #agg4 ,c>ds1 condol5ce1 #ej1 #aie4 ,c>ds1 etiquette ( leav+1 #eb1 #ec4 ,c>ds1 etiquette ( play+1 #aei4 ,c>ds1 etiquette ( visit+1 #di-ec1 #ajf1 #aic4 ,c>ds1 h[ _m to leave1 #ea4 ,c>ds1 leav+ 9 p]son1 #ej1 #ea4 ,c>ds1 mail+1 #ej4 ,c>ds1 w$d+1 #agd-agf4 ,c>riage1 etiquette (1 #d1 #aci4 ,c>s1 etiquette 9 /reet1 #d1 #h1 #i4 ,c>v+1 #fe4 ,c]emony1 w$d+1 #ahd1 #ahe4 ,*af$ faces1 h[ to prev5t1 #ai4 ,*af+-di% supp]s1 #gh4 ,*a9s1 wat*1 #af4 ,*ampagne1 #ga1 #gg1 #gh1 #ha4 ,*ang+ clo!s1 #bc1 #bd4 ,*ap]ones1 #gf1 #gi1 #hb1 #hg1 #aji4 ,*eat+ at games1 #aed4 ,*ri/5+1 etiquette (1 #aif4 ,*ur*1 aisles1 go+ up1 #e4 ,*ur*1 c]emony at w$d+s1 #ahd1 #ahe4 ,*ur*es1 =eign1 #aff4 ,cl>et1 #ga4 ,clean+ clo!s1 #ca4 ,cl]gy1 address+1 mann] (1 #abb1 #afh4 ,closets1 clo!s put 91 #bf4 ,clo!s1 c>e (1 #bd-ca4 ,clo!s1 co/ (1 #cb-db4 ,clo!s1 fold+ & bru%+1 #bd-ca4 ,clo!s1 ov]haul+1 #cj4 ,clo!s1 pack+ & putt+ away1 #cj1 #ca1 #ia-ic4 ,clo!s1 remov+ & *ang+1 #bc-bg4 ,clo!s1 remov+ grease /a9s f1 #ca4 ,cl[ns ( society1 #aii4 ,club1 admission ( visitors1 #aca1 #acb4 ,club1 admission to1 #abh-acj4 ,club1 b[+ f1 w9d[1 #acd4 ,club1 elections to memb]%ip1 #abh-acj4 ,clubs1 etiquette (1 #abf-acf4 ,club1 pipe smok+ at1 #acc4 ,club s]vants1 #acd4 ,club1 treat+ at1 #acd4 ,club1 we>+ hat at1 #acc4 ,club1 :]e ladies are admitt$1 #ace4 ,coa*+1 #adc1 #add4 ,coa*+1 dress =1 #add4 ,coa*man1 dress or & liv]y1 #ih4 ,coa*man1 duties (1 #ih4 ,coat ( arms1 #aba4 ,coats1 c>e1 fold+1 & keep+ (1 #bd-bf4 ,coats1 co/ (1 #cc-cf1 #ch4 ,coats1 d9n] or ,tux$o1 #ae1 #ce4 ,coats1 d9n] or ,tux$o1 co/ (1 #ce4 ,coats1 dress or ev5+1 :5 to we>1 #ac1 #ef1 #afd-afg1 #ahf4 ,coats1 frock1 co/ (1 #ch4 ,coats1 frock1 :5 to we>1 #ab1 #ac1 #ahf1 #ahg1 #aie4 ,coats1 frock1 color$1 #ac4 ,coats1 l\nge or sack1 #aj-ab4 ,c(fee1 black1 :5 s]v$1 #gc4 ,company1 #aih4 ,condol5ce1 lett]s (1 #abe4 ,congratulation1 lett]s (1 #abe4 ,corn1 eat+ on cob1 #gb4 ,correspond5ce1 etiquette ( bus9ess1 #abj-abc4 ,correspond5ce1 etiquette ( fri5dly1 #aai-aba1 #abd4 ,cotillon1 etiquette (1 #aab-aah4 ,cotillon1 figures (1 #aaf-aah4 ,cotillon1 =m (1 #aab-aae4 ,cotillon1 lead+ a1 #aac-aae4 ,c\ntry h\se1 ent]ta9+ by ba*elor1 #hf-hi4 ,c\ntry h\se1 etiquette at1 #he-ic4 ,c\ntry h\se1 furni%+ (1 #hh4 ,c\ntry h\se1 tipp+ s]vants at1 #ij4 ,c\ntry h\se1 visits at1 #hh-ij4 ,cre/s1 use (1 #aba4 ,cross+ legs 9 public1 #h4 ,cross+ /reets1 #a1 #b4 ,cucumb]s1 h[ s]v$ & eat51 #fi4 ,cu/omh\se1 ,fr5* & ,engli%1 #aff1 #afg4 ,damn1 :5 x may be excus$1 #bjj4 ,dance c>d1 n us$ 9 ,new ,york1 #ajh4 ,dance1 etiquette (1 #ajb-aah4 ,dance1 =ms (1 #aji1 #aad-aah4 ,dance1 mann] ( ask+ to1 #ajh4 ,dances1 ba*elor1 #hb4 ,dances1 d9n]1 #fj4 ,dances1 invitations to1 #dh4 ,del's1 #aig4 ,diamonds1 #af4 ,d9n]1 ba*elor f>ewell1 #afa1 #afb4 ,d9n]1 ba*elor ho/ at home1 #gg1 #gh4 ,d9n]1 ba*elor ho/ at re/aurant1 #hc4 ,d9n] coat1 :5 worn1 #ae4 ,d9n] dance1 #fj4 ,d9n]1 g5]al etiquette (1 #df1 #dg1 #ed-gd1 #gg1 #gh1 #hb1 #hc1 #afa1 #afb4 ,d9n]1 s]v+ at1 #gh1 #ajj4 ,don'ts ( table etiquette1 #fb-fe4 ,dress1 aft]noon1 #ac4 ,dress1 aft]noon w$d+1 #agi1 #ahe1 #ahg4 ,dress1 ba*elor's1 = all times1 #ac-af4 ,dress1 badm9ton1 #adh4 ,dress1 ba?+1 #aef4 ,dress1 boat+1 #aef4 ,dress1 b[l+1 #aeg4 ,dress1 butl]1 #aja4 ,dress1 coa*+1 #ach4 ,dress1 coa*man1 #ih4 ,dress1 driv+ & coa*+1 #ach4 ,dress1 ev5+1 #ac-ae1 #cb-ce1 #ef1 #aef1 #afd1 #aff1 #afg4 ,dress1 ev5+1 =mal1 #ac1 #ad4 ,dress1 ev5+1 in=mal1 #ae4 ,dress1 ev5+ w$d+1 #ahg4 ,dress1 =eign1 morn+ & ev5+ functions1 #afd1 #aff1 #afg4 ,dress1 fun]al1 #aie4 ,dress1 golf1 #aed4 ,dress1 groom1 #if1 #ig4 ,dress1 morn+ or l\nge1 #aa1 #ab4 ,dress1 polo1 #adh4 ,dress1 rid+1 #adb4 ,dress1 rid+ to h\nds1 #adb4 ,dress1 %ipbo>d1 #afa1 #afb4 ,dress1 %oot+1 #adf4 ,dress1 skat+1 #adh4 ,dress1 t5nis1 #aef4 ,dress1 !at]s1 ,london & ,p>is1 #aff4 ,dress1 travel+1 #afj4 ,dress1 valet1 #ii1 #ajj4 ,dress1 :eel+1 #ade4 ,dress1 ya*t+1 #adi1 #aeb4 ,dr9k+ ) m\? full1 #fc4 ,eggs1 eat5 f %ell1 #ff4 ,elevator1 etiquette (1 #e4 ,engagem5ts1 ann\ncem5t1 #afi1 #agj4 ,engagem5ts1 etiquette (1 #afi1 #aga4 ,engagem5ts1 pres5ts dur+1 #aga4 ,engagem5t r+1 #agj4 ,entrees1 mann] ( s]v+1 #fi4 ,envelopes & /ation]y1 prop] =m (1 #abj1 #abb1 #abc4 ,envelopes1 seal+1 #abb1 #abc4 ,escorts1 #e1 #i4 ,esquire1 :5 us$1 #aba4 ,exp5ses1 w$d+1 :o pays1 #agg4 ,eye1 ba? =1 #ai4 ,f>es1 pay+1 #i4 ,fees1 =eign c\ntries1 #afc-afe4 ,feet1 c>e (1 #ba4 ,fi%1 mann] ( eat+1 #fi4 ,flask1 br&y1 #afa4 ,fl[]s1 s5d+1 #aga1 #aid1 #aih4 ,=eign etiquette1 #afb1 #afd4 ,=eign m>riages1 #aia1 #aib4 ,f\r hundr$1 #aig4 ,fr5* titles1 #afh4 ,frock coats1 #ab1 #ac1 #ch1 #ahd1 #aie4 ,fruit1 mann] ( eat+1 #ga1 #gb4 ,gifts1 :5 engag$1 #aga4 ,golf1 dress =1 #aee4 ,golf1 etiquette (1 #aec1 #aed4 ,go?am1 #aig4 ,grace at meals1 #eh4 ,grape fruit1 #fg4 ,grease1 removal (1 #ca4 ,greet+s1 #aih4 ,groom1 dress (1 #if1 #ig4 ,groom1 duties (1 #if-ih4 ,hairbru%es1 #bb4 ,hair1 c>e (1 #ba4 ,h&k]*iefs1 pocket1 #ad1 #bg4 ,h&s1 c>e (1 #bj4 ,h&s on table1 #fd4 ,hat1 c>e (1 #bh4 ,hat1 ,d]by1 :5 worn1 #aa4 ,hat1 ,homb\rg or ,alp9e1 :5 worn1 #aa4 ,hat1 op]a or cru%1 #ac4 ,hat1 /raw1 #ae4 ,hat1 top or silk1 #ac1 #ad4 ,hoi/+ colors1 #aej1 #aea4 ,h\nds1 rid+ to1 #adb4 ,introduc+ m5 to wom51 #da4 ,introduction1 lett]s (1 #de4 ,introductions1 etiquette (1 #da1 #db4 ,introductions1 =mal1 #da4 ,introductions1 g5]al1 #da4 ,introductions 9 /reet n good =m1 #db4 ,introductions1 :5 & :5 n made1 #da1 #db4 ,invitation1 ball1 #dh1 #ajc4 ,invitation1 dance1 #dh4 ,invitation1 d9n]1 #df1 #dg4 ,invitation1 lun*eon1 #ed1 #gf4 ,invitation1 w$d+1 #agb-agf4 ,invitations1 v>i\s =ms (1 #df-dh1 #ed1 #gf1 #agb-agf4 ,inauguration ,ball1 #ajd4 ,jacket1 d9n] or ,tux$o coat1 #ae1 #cd1 #ce4 ,jewelry1 use (1 #af4 ,ladies annex to clubs1 #ace4 ,lady & g5tleman1 :5 us$1 #aih4 ,lanc]s1 #aji4 ,legs1 cross+1 #h4 ,lett]s1 a ba*elor's1 #aai-abf4 ,lett]s1 address+1 #aba-abc4 ,lett]s1 bus9ess1 #abb1 #abd4 ,lett]s1 condol5ce1 #abe4 ,lett]s1 congratulation1 #abe4 ,lett]s1 club1 pap] writt5 on1 #abd4 ,lett]s1 de/roy+ old1 #abj4 ,lett]s1 fri5dly1 #abb4 ,lett]s1 hotel or bus9ess pap]1 writt5 on1 #abd4 ,lett]s ( introduction1 #de4 ,lett]s1 seal+1 #abc4 ,lett]s1 /amp+1 #abc4 ,lift+ hat1 occasions =1 #b-g4 ,lift or elevators1 etiquette (1 #e4 ,liqueurs1 #gc4 ,london1 cab & hotel fees1 #afe1 #aff4 ,london1 g5]al travel+ etiquette1 #afe1 #aff4 ,lun*eon di%es1 #ff4 ,lun*eons1 #ed-ef1 #ff1 #gd1 #gf1 #gg4 ,lun*eons1 ba*elor1 #gf1 #gg4 ,lun*1 quick1 #fd4 ,mac>oni1 #gb4 ,mail+ c>ds1 #ea4 ,mann]s1 code ( table1 #fd-gc4 ,m>riage ann\ncem5ts1 #agf4 ,m>riage c]emony1 #agh4 ,m>riages1 =malities at =eign1 #aib4 ,m5 s]vants1 #id-aja4 ,m5us1 #fg1 #gg1 #gh1 #ha1 #aaa1 #ahc4 ,m9i/]s fees1 by :om paid1 #ahf4 ,morn+ ba?1 #ag4 ,morn+ or l\nge suit1 #aa1 #ab4 ,mr4 & ,esq41 :5 to use1 #aba4 ,mu%rooms1 h[ to eat1 #gj4 ,nailbru%es1 #bj4 ,nails1 #bj4 ,napk91 prop] use (1 #fc4 ,n]v\s p at table1 #fc4 ,nobility1 address+1 #afg1 #afh4 ,omnibus1 ,p>is & ,london1 #aff4 ,olives1 h[ to eat1 #fi4 ,op]a or cru% hat1 #ad1 #ci4 ,op]a or !at] calls1 #de4 ,op]a1 visits betwe5 ! acts1 #hj4 ,ov]coats1 #ad-af1 #be4 ,ov]coats1 ,*e/]field & cov]t1 #ad-af4 ,ov]haul+ clo!s1 #cj4 ,oy/]s1 #fh4 ,oy/] cocktails1 #fh4 ,pap]1 note1 correct k9d1 #abj4 ,p>is cabs1 #afe4 ,p>is1 etiquette = /rang]s1 #afd-aff4 ,p>is !at]s1 #aff4 ,p>k suits1 #ac4 ,patri>*s' ,ball1 #aje-aaa4 ,picnics1 #he-hg4 ,pipe smok+1 #g1 #acc4 ,pope1 audi5ce )1 #aff4 ,p\rboires1 #afe4 ,programme at ,london !at]s1 #afd4 ,que51 h[ to address1 #aff4 ,quick lun*1 #fb4 ,radi%es1 :5 s]v$1 #fg4 ,reception1 w$d+1 #ahh4 ,remov+ grease1 #ca4 ,re/aurant1 ba*elor d9n] & lun*eon at1 #hj-hc4 ,re/aurants1 etiquette (1 #e1 #f4 ,rid+1 #adj1 #ada4 ,rid+ to h\nds1 #adb4 ,r+1 engagem5t1 #afi1 #agj4 ,sack suits1 #ab4 ,salad1 #ga4 ,salt & pepp]1 individual1 #ge4 ,savories1 #ga4 ,sc>ves1 #af4 ,scot* :isky1 #gc4 ,sea1 co/ume at1 #afa1 #afb4 ,seal+ lett]s1 #abc4 ,seat1 giv+ "o's1 9 c> or f]ry1 #h1 #i4 ,second help+1 #fe4 ,s]vants1 a ba*elor's1 #id-aja4 ,s]vants1 club1 #acb1 #acd4 ,s]vants1 g5]al duties (1 #id1 #ie4 ,%av51 clean1 s]vants1 #id1 #ie4 ,%av+1 #ah1 #ai4 ,%awl /raps1 #afa4 ,%]ry1 #fi4 ,%ip1 etiquette on bo>d1 #afj-afb4 ,%ip1 s5d+ fl[]s to1 #aih4 ,%irts1 #aa-ad1 #bd1 #cb1 #ce1 #cg4 ,%irts1 color$1 #ab1 #cg4 ,%oe bag1 #cj4 ,%oes & boots1 c>e (1 #bh1 #bi4 ,%oes1 black lea!r1 #ab4 ,%oes1 co/ (1 #cf4 ,%oes1 g5]al in=mation ab\t1 #ab1 #ad1 #bh1 #bi1 #cg1 #ch4 ,%oes1 pat5t lea!r1 #ab1 #ad1 #bh1 #bi4 ,%oes1 russet1 #ab1 #bi1 #ade1 #aee1 #afb4 ,%oot+1 #adf4 ,%ops1 etiquette (1 #d4 ,signatures to lett]s1 #aba4 ,smok+1 #g1 #acc4 ,smok+ 9 /reet1 #g4 ,smok+1 pipe1 #g1 #acc4 ,slang1 use (1 #aih4 ,society lady1 #aii4 ,s\p1 #fh4 ,sport+ ba*elor1 #acf-afj4 ,/ages1 etiquette (1 #d1 #h4 ,/airways1 etiquette (1 #f1 #g4 ,/amp+ lett]s1 #abc4 ,/amp1 use ( club1 #abc4 ,/&+1 9 pres5ce ( wom51 #f1 #h4 ,/>+ at wom51 #h4 ,/ation]y1 bus9ess & hotel1 #abd4 ,/ation]y1 club1 #abd1 #acd4 ,/ation]y1 prop] to use1 #abj1 #abd4 ,/opp+ acqua9tances 9 /reet1 #d4 ,/rawb]ries1 #gb4 ,/reet1 cross+1 ) lady1 #a4 ,/reet1 etiquette (1 #a-i4 ,/reet1 introductions on1 #db4 ,/reet1 smok+ 91 #g4 ,/ick1 prop] me?od ( hold+1 #g4 ,/yle ( walk+1 prop]1 #g4 ,supp]1 ball & dance1 #aaj1 #aaa4 ,supp]1 *af+-di%1 #gh4 ,supp]1 giv5 by a ba*elor1 #gh1 #ha1 #hc1 #hd4 ,supp]1 re/aurant1 #gh1 #ha1 #hb4 ,supp]1 sugge/ions = m5u1 #gh1 #ha1 #hb4 ,swe>+1 caution aga9/1 #aih4 ,table1 c>v+ at1 #fe4 ,table mann]s1 #fb-gd4 ,table1 sett+ & arrangem5t (1 #ge1 #gf4 ,tea1 aft]noon1 etiquette (1 #de4 ,tee?1 c>e (1 #ai1 #bj4 ,t5nis1 etiquette (1 #adh4 ,t]rap91 h[ to eat & s]ve1 #gj4 ,!at] aisle1 walk+ d[n1 #e4 ,!at] & op]a1 calls at1 #de1 #df4 ,!at] clubs1 #hb4 ,!at]1 etiquette at1 #c-e1 #h1 #de1 #df1 #gh-hj1 #hb4 ,!at] p>ties1 #gh-hb4 ,!at]s1 etiquette at =eign1 #afb1 #afc4 ,?ird p]son1 address+ p 91 #abb4 ,ties & sc>fs1 #aa1 #ab1 #ad1 #af1 #ce1 #agi1 #ahd4 ,ties1 m5's1 co/ (1 #ce4 ,ties1 pres5tation (1 to be/ man & u%]s1 #agi4 ,tips & tipp+1 #ij1 #acb1 #afe1 #aff4 ,titles1 =eign1 #afg1 #afh4 ,toa/s at d9n]1 #fd4 ,too?bru%es1 c>e (1 #bj4 ,too? wa%es1 #ai1 #bj4 ,toilet articles1 c>e (1 #bb4 ,toilet1 ba*elor's1 #ag-bd4 ,tonic = hair1 #ba4 ,t[els = ba?1 #ah4 ,travel+1 etiquette (1 abroad1 #afa-afc4 ,travel+1 etiquette (1 9 ,am]ica1 #afj-afb4 ,tr\s]s1 c>e (1 #bf1 #bg4 ,tr\s]s1 fold+1 #bf4 ,tr\s]s1 :ite duck & flannel1 #ab4 ,trunk1 or bag1 pack$ = ,friday to ,monday visit1 #hi4 ,trunks1 h[ to pack1 #afj4 ,trunks1 travel+ )1 #afa4 ,turki% ba?s1 #bb4 ,tux$o coat1 :5 to we>1 #ae4 ,umbrella1 h[ to c>ry1 #g4 ,u%]1 dress (1 #ahd4 ,u%]s1 duties (1 at w$d+1 #ahf1 #ahg4 ,valet1 dress (1 #ii1 #ajj4 ,valet1 duties (1 #ih-ajj4 ,visit+ c>ds1 #di-ec4 ,visit+ c>ds1 leav+1 mail+1 s5d+1 #ea-ec4 ,visit+ c>ds1 /yle (1 #di1 #ej4 ,visit+1 c\ntry h\se1 #he-ic4 ,visit+1 fa%ionable "t =1 9 ,new ,york1 #dc4 ,visitors at clubs1 #aca1 #acb4 ,von1 use ( title1 #afh4 ,walk+1 etiquette (1 #a-h4 ,walk+1 prop] /yle (1 #g4 ,waltz+1 #aji4 ,w$d+1 ann\ncem5t1 c>ds1 #agf4 ,w$d+1 *ur*1 #ahd-ahf4 ,w$d+ etiquette1 #agb-aic4 ,w$d+ exp5ses1 #agg4 ,w$d+1 h\se1 #ahh4 ,w$d+1 h\r fa%ionable =1 #agb4 ,w$d+ receptions1 #ahh1 #ahi4 ,w$d+s1 divorcee's & wid['s1 #agf1 #aib4 ,w$d+s1 ,engli% & ,fr5*1 #add1 #ade4 ,:eel+1 etiquette (1 #add1 #ade4 ,:eel+1 prop] dress =1 #ade4 ,:isky1 ,scot*1 #gc4 ,ya*t+1 club rules =1 cruise1 #adi-aea4 ,ya*t+1 etiquette (1 #adh-aeb4 ,ya*t+1 prop] dress =1 #adi4 ,ya*t+1 prop] uni=m = (fic]s & crew1 #aeb4 ,,! ,,end4 ,transcrib]'s ,note3 ,! foll[+ typographical errors f ! orig9al edition h be5 correct$4 ,no o!r corrections h be5 made to ! orig9al text4 ,9 addition1 page ref]5ces 9 ! index conta9 num]\s m9or & sev]al major inaccuracies4 ,9 mo/ cases1 ! ,,html v]sion l9ks to ! ne>e/ relevant section2 9 "o case1 no l9k has be5 provid$4 ,9 ,*apt] ,,ii1 ,ev5+ dress is de rigeur has be5 *ang$ to ,ev5+ dress is de rigueur4 ,9 ,*apt] ,,vii1 convey$ !re=m 9 c>riages has be5 *ang$ to convey$ !refrom 9 c>riages4 ,9 ,*apt] ,,viii1 ,*atreuse1 kuemmel1 curacoa1 & cognac has be5 *ang$ to ,*>treuse1 kuemmel1 curacoa1 & cognac4 ,9 ,*apt] ,,xix1 c>riages = ! cortege has be5 *ang$ to c>riages = ! cortege1 unless ! cortege has be5 diff]5tly arrang$ has be5 *ang$ to unless ! cortege has be5 diff]5tly arrang$1 & ! intimate fri5ds ( ! 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