,,! ,,etiquette ,,( ,,to-,,day ,,h&books ,,by ,,edi? ,b4 ,,ordway ,! ,h&book ( ,conundrums #abmo1 clo? #a4be net ,! ,h&book ( ,quotations #abmo1 clo? #a4be net ,! ,etiquette ( ,to-day #abmo1 clo? #a4be net ,h&book ( ! ,op]as ,new & ,enl>g$ ,edition #abmo1 clo? #a4ej net ,full pa/e1 gra9 lea!r #c4jj net ,synonyms & ,antonyms #abmo1 clo? #a4ej net ,,george ,,sully ,,company ,,new ,,york ,,! ,,etiquette ,,( ,,to-,,day ,,revis$ ,,& ,,enl>g$ ,,by ,,edi? ,b4 ,,ordway ,au?or ( ,! ,op]a ,book1 etc4 ,,new ,,york ,,george ,,sully ,,& ,,company ,copyright1 #aiah ,,by ,,sully ,,& ,,kle9tei* 99 99 99 99 99 ,revis$ ,edition1 ,copyright1 #aibj ,,by ,,george ,,sully ,,& ,,company ,all rights res]v$ ,,pr9t$ ,,9 ,u4 ,s4 ,a4 ,,preface ,,! cu/oms ( social life ne$ frequ5t re/at+ & adaptation to new ne$s4 ,!y are cu/oms because !y are ! be/ rules ( conduct t h be5 g>n]$ f ! exp]i5ces ( succe$+ g5]ations "u common conditions4 ,to "k !m1 to cat* _! _s1 & to foll[ !m 9 an intellig5t way1 )\t slavi% punctili\sness b ) c>eful obs]vance1 make "o skillful 9 ! art ( social int]c\rse1 & at home 9 any society4 ,etiquette w n take ! place ( "*1 nor ( an accurate k ( human nature & ! arts ( practical life4 ,giv5 ^!1 h[ev]1 x w unlock to any man or woman doors ( success & pr(it & real happ9ess :i*1 )\t x1 w\ld h rema9$ =ev] clos$4 ,e4 ,b4 ,o4 ,we feel 'at home' :]ev] we "k h[ to conduct ourselves4 ,t4 ,l4 ,,ni*ols ,,cont5ts ,,*apt] ,,page ,i4 ,! ,rew>ds ( ,etiquette #a ,,ii4 ,p]sonality #f ,,iii4 ,family ,etiquette #bj ,obligations ( ! ,m>ri$ #bj ,g5]al ,rules ( ,conduct #bf ,table ,etiquette #cc ,anniv]s>ies #dj ,! ,giv+ ( ,pres5ts #da ,intimate ,fri5ds #db ,illness 9 ! ,home #dd ,c\rtesy to ,s]vants #de ,,iv4 ,conv]sation & ,correspond5ce #dh ,! ,art ( ,conv]sation #dh ,correspond5ce #eb ,pap] #ee ,ink #eh ,h&writ+ #eh ,seal+1 ,/amp+1 & ,direct+ ( ,envelopes #ei ,salutation1 ,conclusion1 & ,signature ( ,lett]s #ff ,lett]s ( ,introduction #gj ,lett]s ( ,recomm5dation #gc ,?ird-p]son ,lett]s #gd ,in=mal ,invitations & ,ann\ncem5ts #gd ,lett]s ( ,condol5ce #ge ,answ]+ ,lett]s #gf ,v4 ,casual ,meet+s & ,calls #gh ,greet+s & ,recognitions #gh ,introductions #hd ,calls #ij ,social ,calls ( ,m5 #ib ,fir/ ,calls #id ,,vi4 ,! ,p]sonal ,c>d & ! ,engrav$ ,invitation #if ,=m ( ,c>d #if ,inscription #ig ,titles #ajj ,use #ajb ,! ,engrav$ ,invitation #aje ,d9+ & ,p>ty ,invitations #ajh ,w$d+ ,invitations & ,ann\ncem5ts #aad ,v>i\s ,ann\ncem5t ,c>ds #aai ,,vii4 ,behavior 9 ,public #abb ,,viii4 ,! ,art ( ,be+ a ,gue/ #acg ,,ix4 ,duties ( ,ho/ & ,ho/ess #ade ,breakfa/s & ,lun*eons #adh ,! ,=mal ,d9n] #adi ,visits #aeh ,special ,duties ( ! ,c\ntry ,ho/ess #afa ,public ,functions #afe ,x4 ,duties ( ! ,*ap]on #afi ,,xi4 ,etiquette ( ! ,m>riage ,engagem5t #agd ,! ,proposal #agd ,ann\ncem5t ( ,engagem5t #agi ,bridal ,%[]s #aha ,! ,brok5 ,engagem5t #ahc ,prep>ation = a ,w$d+ #ahe ,,xii4 ,! ,conduct ( a ,w$d+ #aid ,! ,*ur* ,w$d+ #aid ,! ,home ,w$d+ #bja ,! ,w$d+ ,breakfa/ #bjd ,! ,w$d+ ,j\rney #bjh ,! ,w$d+ ,fee #bjh ,w$d+ ,pres5ts #baj ,! ,c\ntry ,w$d+ #bab ,,xiii4 ,etiquette = ,*ildr5 #bad ,,xiv4 ,etiquette ( ,m\rn+ #bbd ,,xv4 ,milit>y1 ,naval1 & ,flag ,etiquette #bca ,! ,=mal ,milit>y ,w$d+ #bca ,naval & ,ya*t+ ,usage #bcb ,etiquette ( ! ,flag #bcc ,,index #bcg ,,! secret ( success 9 society is a c]ta9 he>t9ess & sympa?y4 ,a man :o is n happy 9 ! company _c f9d any ^w 9 8 memory t w fit ! occasion4 ,all 8 in=mation is a little imp]t95t4 ,a man :o is happy !re f9ds 9 e turn ( ! conv]sation equally lucky occasions = ! introduction ( t :i* he has to say4 ,! favorites ( society1 & :at x calls :ole s\ls1 are able m51 & ( m _s ?an wit1 :o h no uncom=table egoism1 b :o exactly fill ! h\r & ! company1 cont5t$ & cont5t+1 at a m>riage or a fun]al1 a ball or a jury1 a wat] p>ty or a %oot+ mat*4 ,em]son4 ,,! ,,etiquette ,,( ,,to-,,day ,,*apt] ,i ,,! ,,rew>ds ,,( ,,etiquette ,,society is a game :i* all m5 play4 ,etiquette is ! "n giv5 ! rules ( ! game4 ,if y play x well1 y w94 ,if y play x ill1 y lose4 ,! prize is a c]ta9 sort ( happ9ess )\t :i* no human be+ is ev] q satisfi$4 ,because ! dem& = social happ9ess is ?us fundam5tal 9 human nature1 ! game has to be play$ q s]i\sly4 ,if play$ s]i\sly1 x is p]=ce successful1 ev5 :5 ! outw>d signs ( triumph are lack+4 ,play$ s]i\sly1 x becomes a wor?y "p ( ! great ent]prise ( noble liv+1 ! sci5ce ( :i* is call$ ,e?ics4 ,!re=e ! be/ etiquette is t :i* is bas$ ^u ! fundam5tal pr9ciples ( e?ics4 ,! etiquette1 z well z ! e?ics1 ( to-day may well be summ$ up 9 ! "o maxim kn[n z ! ,gold5 ,rule3 ,d unto o!rs z y w\ld t o!rs %\ld d unto y4 ,or 9 ! philosophic /atem5t ( x1 giv5 by ,kant3 ,act s t ! maxim ( ?y conduct %all be fit to be univ]sal law4 ,a c]ta9 social s5se is1 !re=e1 ! f\ndation ^u :i* all conc]t$ action re/s2 & ?is1 p]meat+ ! "* & w9n+ con=mity 9 ! life1 produces a social ord] :i* is at once ! crit]ion ( civilization & ! s\rce ( its p[]4 ,e social code presupposes ! tra9$ p]sonality1 t is1 ! individual :o is intellig5t en\gh & controll$ en\gh to con=m to ! rules prescrib$ = ! good ( all4 ,x is only 9 ! common good t true individual good c be f\nd4 ,!re=e is x s ess5tial t e man reg>d 8 bro!r's welf>e z anxi\sly z 8 own1 & p]mit himself to be curb$ 9 8 extravagances1 limit$ 9 ! indulg5ce ( ev5 legitimate desires1 9 ord] t he may n defraud ano!r1 or m5ace ! g5]al well-be+4 ,n only 9 social life1 b 9 bus9ess1 politics1 & int]national relations1 ?is pr9ciple ( ! common good z ! ultimate goal1 ! supreme au?ority = conduct1 holds good4 ,to x society approa*es1 n[ by direct progress & n[ by seem+ reaction1 b ev] ) a high] evaluation ( ju/ice4 ,?is is %[n 9 ! fulfillm5t ( bo? small & l>ge obligations4 ,foll[+ ! rules ( c\rtesy1 m5 give to ea* o!r t def]5ce :i* ea* believes is 8 own due1 & ea* receives 9 return tw(old ! def]5ce t he s9c]ely gives4 ,m5 %[1 at home & abroad1 ! c\rtesy to wom5 9 g5]al t !y w\ld wi% %[n to ^? ( _! family1 & !reby ! /&>d ( respect = woman is s lift$ t ev5 ! city /reet at night is a safe place = a woman to pass unacco/$1 if x is necess>y = h] to g unatt5d$4 ,rigidly d we hold ourselves to ! e/abli%$ rules ( good bre$+1 endeavor+ to make ( ourselves all t ,nature w p]mit2 & we are surpris$ to f9d t ,nature's own g5tlem5 & g5tlewom5 ga!r ab\t u1 & r>e s\ls look to u = companion%ip1 z f9d+ 9 u k9dr$ spirits4 ,no field s surely be>s a l h>ve/ z ! "o s[n ) ! se$s ( good-w & consid]ation = o!rs4 ,etiquette tells u h[ to accompli% :at we desire1--to make cle> ! pa? to ! goal ( high companion%ip ) _m wor?y m9ds1--& enables u to get out ( social int]c\rse ! honey t is hidd5 !re4 ,)\t x1 z social be+s1 we %\ld be z workm5 )\t tools1 ar*itects )\t mat]ial1 musicians )\t in/rum5ts4 ,aft] all1 h[ev]1 etiquette is only a tool1 & %\ld nev] be mi/ak5 = ! f9i%$ "w itself4 ,h[ y c>ry y\rself at a reception is n a matt] ( s great mom5t1 z is ! fact t y w5t1 & !re ex*ang$ c]ta9 wor?-:ile ?\ghts ) c]ta9 p4 ,x is ! p1 ! ?\ghts !y gave y & y gave !m1 & ! practical influ5ce on y\r life ( ^? p & ^? ?\ghts1 :i* are ( mom5t4 ,j z1 f a musicale1 y mu/ c>ry ! music away 9 y\r s\l1 ei!r 9 def9ite memories or 9 a refre%$ & m joy\s frame ( m9d1 or x is ( no avail t y att5d$1 s f social int]c\rse x is absolutely necess>y t y c>ry away ! inspiration ( meet+ o!rs & ! ?\ghts t !y h giv5 y1 & g>n] f ^? help & guidance 9 y\r life1 or ! mo/ elaborate ( toilets1 ! mo/ p]fect ( mann]s1 & ! mo/ c]emoni\s ( cu/oms are ( little wor?4 ,! tool1 h[ev]1 becomes invaluable :5 ! ma/] desires to create4 ,!re=e1 if we wi% to ga9 f social life ! enjoym5t & happ9ess & help :i* x %\ld yield1 we %\ld become famili> ) ! practice ( ! be/ =ms ( etiquette1 s t we %all h skill & aptitude 9 _! application4 ,! rew>ds ( etiquette are1 !re=e1 bo? spiritual & mat]ial4 ,t f9e poise ( s\l :i* re/ra9s all selfi% & unlovely t5d5cies1 t cle> insight :i* sees ! individual z b a s+le unit 9 ! composite ( ! human race1 t high aspiration :i* culls only ! be/ f ! m+l$ elem5ts ( life1--all ^! come f a true & s9c]e adh]5ce to ! _s ( c\rte\s obs]vances1 & ea* ( ^! is its own rew>d4 ,on ! o!r h&1 human he>ts op5 only to g5tle influ5ces1 & all t x is 9 ! p[] ( human be+s to be/[ ^u "o ano!r comes mo/ readily & mo/ lavi%ly to ^? :o outrage no social in/9ct4 ,to be highly & s9c]ely honor$ socially means to be well lov$1 & t mu/ mean to be lovable4 ,weal? & family position are matt]s ( *ance z f> z ! individual is conc]n$1 b good bre$+ is a matt] ( p]sonal desire & ef=t4 ,x makes = p[] & influ5ce1 & (t5 lit]ally comm&s ! weal? & position :i* ! accid5t ( bir? has refus$4 ,x is ! necess>y colleague ( intellectual ability 9 w9n+ ! f>!/ heights ( success1 & makes ! pla9s ( m$iocre atta9m5t habitable & pleasant4 ,,*apt] ,,ii ,,p]sonality ,,! social _w is a _w ( p]sonalities4 ,ea* individual has a value & importance accord+ to ! sum total ( 8 *>act]i/ics1 physical1 m5tal1 & moral4 ,o!r & m ext]nal facts ent] into 8 social position1 b 9 ! circle ( 8 fri5ds & acqua9tances1 9 :atev] grade ( society he may move1 8 place is det]m9$ by 8 p]sonality4 ,p]sonality alone is ! f9al te/ ( a man's wor? to society4 ,a man's wor? to ! bus9ess _w z a do]1 mak]1 or z any o!r executive1 8 wor? to ! /ate z an incorruptible (ficial1 8 wor? to 8 family z a devot$ husb& & fa!r1 8 wor? to lit]ature or art z a ?9k] or mak]1--^! values are impr9t$ ^u 8 p]sonality1 h[beit ) almo/ imp]ceptible l9es4 ,if a man w\ld pres5t a pleas+ p]sonality z 8 claim = recognition 9 society1 he mu/ n neglect 8 m5tal attitude1 8 appe>ance1 8 mann]s1 or 8 spee*4 ,!y are all true expressions ( 8 real self1 & !y1 toge!r ) 8 de$s1 are all t 8 fell[ m5 h by :i* to appraise 8 real wor?4 ,"* is ! f\ndation ( all true c\rtesy1 = mann]s are b m9or morals1 z _m a writ] has %[n4 ,x is n ! "p ( a book on etiquette to tell h[ to keep out ( prison1 or to expla9 t "o %\ld be honorable & %\ld d no murd]4 ,no book or p]son1 h[ev]1 c inculcate etiquette )\t %[+ t ! roots ( all true c\rtesy lie deep 9 ! _s ( unselfi% consid]ation = o!rs4 ,to ma/] ?is _s until x becomes "o's own is ! be/ fitt+ "o c h = social a*ievem5t4 ,su* consid]ation is ! t\*/one by :i* all social cu/oms are tri$1 to see :e!r !y be wor?y ( p]petuation or n4 ,x is ! sure te/ ( correct conduct "u all circum/ances1 & c be s utiliz$ 9 case ( d\bt4 ,a v5e] ( virtue long passes z curr5cy 9 no society4 ,x is necess>y to h "* 9 ord] to be respect$4 ,z etiquette is f\nd$ ^u c]ta9 simple virtues1 x is necess>y1 at lea/1 to affect ! semblance ( !m4 ,to be long effective !y mu/ be s9c]e1 z a little exp]i5ce %[s4 ,among ! m9or moral virtues :i* 9 social life are ( major importance are ^? ( self-control1 s9c]ity1 & unselfi%ness4 ,!re is no place = ang] 9 social life4 ,to give expression among a gr\p ( p to any /rong feel+1 no matt] h[ ju/ifi$ x may be1 is n c\rte\s1 because y may be inadv]t5tly tread+ ^u ! beliefs or prejudices ( "s ( y\r he>]s4 ,!re are times :5 debate & ! tak+ ( sides on que/ions ( common int]e/ are 9 ord]1 b t is n usually 9 ! mix$ society ( m5 & wom51 :o are suppos$ly dropp+1 = a "t1 ! burd5s ( life = ! sake ( enjoym5t & recreation4 ,self-control is necess>y n only 9 ! con/ant curb+ ( ang] & ! m viol5t emotions1 b 9 pu%+ into ! backgr\nd "o's p]sonal desires 9 ord] t "o may d "o's social duty4 ,a bridesmaid may h assum$ ! obligations ( t honor1 & !n f\nd t1 = p]sonal reasons1 !y 7 di/a/eful to h]4 ,%e %\ld n1 h[ev]1 p]mit h]self to fail 9 "o iota ( h] duty4 ,! always-rememb]$ disappo9tm5t ( ! bride1 or bridegroom1 if ei!r bridesmaid or be/ man %\ld fail1 at a "t :5 life %\ld be z full ( happ9ess z x possibly c\ld1 %\ld m ?an (fset ! pa9 ( ev5 difficult control on ! "p ( ! *os5 fri5d1 9 ord] to c>ry out 8 or h] obligations satisfactorily4 ,9 ?\s&s ( m9or circum/ances ! ne$ ( absolute self-comm& = ! sake ( social virtues is evid5t4 ,! man & woman :o c s control !mselves1 & ?9k only ( o!rs1 w9 w>m places 9 ! he>ts ( _! fri5ds4 ,x is a dre>y ?+ to be always su/a9+ a %am ( any sort4 ,s9c]ity has its pleasure z well z its virtue4 ,"o %\ld seek to be s9c]e1 z p]haps no social virtue is ( great] importance ?an ?is4 ,! possibilities ( developm5t ( "* & ( ! bett]m5t ( social cu/oms dep5d ^u ! ex]cise ( ?is virtue4 ,= t reason x is well to foll[ c>efully ! ackn[l$g$ rules ( etiquette1 9 ! hope & expectation ( gr[+ into ! attitude ( m9d :i* w make !m a natural expression ( "o's self4 ,! little obs]vances ( social life1 says ,dr4 ,t4 ,l4 ,ni*ols 9 8 book on ,social ,life1 are m important ?an _m p ?9k !m4 ,! outw>d signs or expressions ( any s5tim5t n only manife/ x to o!rs1 b help to keep x active 9 ourselves4 ,?is is ! use ( all c]emony & ritualism 9 religion 4 4 4 & ! same pr9ciple gov]ns all social c]emonies & obs]vances4 ,)\t unselfi%ness & a f9e consid]ation = o!rs1 ! art ( etiquette w\ld be impossible4 ,true etiquette le>ns no maxims to practise me*anically4 ,r1 x le>ns all ! maxims ^u :i* x may h to draw1 & practises !m only z ! consid]ate he>t sees an opportunity & desires to embrace x4 ,p]sonal appe>ance is next to "* 9 importance4 ,! mo/ important factors 9 ?is1 ) ! av]age p]son1 are n ^? t ,nature alone is responsible =1 b ^? t ! individual himself is alone responsible =4 ,beauty is a pleasant ?+1 & n to be despis$1 al?\gh beauty alone is ( little wor?4 ,! social conque/s ( hi/ory h n be5 conf9$ to ! possessors ( beauty1 & !re h be5 _m notable cases :]e decid$ pla9ness & ev5 ugl9ess 0 ! lot ( "o :o nev]!less 0 a p]son ( great *>m4 ,"o's figure & be>+ c\nt p]haps = mo/1 z !y give ! fir/ & di/ant impression1 & are1 z x 71 ! outl9es ( ! picture4 ,self-consci\sness1 = any reason & to ev5 ! slighte/ degree1 is a great b>ri] to social int]c\rse & to m5tal fre$om4 ,x %[s z (t5 9 a p]son's c>riage z 9 8 words or features4 ,x %\ld be brok5 d[n at all co/s1 & ?is c be done only by ! p]son himself4 ,x may be done1 usually ) comp>ative ease1 by becom+ & /ay+ int]e/$ 9 some?+4 ,!n awkw>dness1 & a defiant attitude ( _s & body1 w vani%4 ,haught9ess is usually ! outw>d sign ( a great inn] self-consci\sness4 ,all ( ^! traits1 z well z _! opposites1 /amp !mselves ^u ! be>+ ( ! body1 & reveal !re ! cle>e/ manife/ations ( "*4 ,dress is almo/ z ess5tial4 ,by ?is is n meant a rigid adh]5ce to fa%ion1--! /amp ( a weak m9d1--or ev5 good ta/e1 b an eye to ! appropriate & fitt+4 ,fir/ ( all1 dress %\ld be subord9at$ to "*1 t is1 x %\ld be no m co/ly ?an ! we>] c af=d1 & no m /rik+ ?an mode/y & good ta/e all[4 ,good ta/e 9 dress means pla9 & simple /yles1 b mat]ial z elegant1 s]viceable1 & pleas+ z "o's purse p]mits4 ,x means also a few ?+s well *os5 & kept 9 good ord]1 r ?an _m ?+s m or less untidy2 t "o's w>drobe w be h>moni\s1--n a *eap1 %abby g>m5t to-day1 & an exp5sive1 %[y "o to-morr[4 ,x means also t ! w>drobe ?r\gh\t1 n only ! ext]nal g>m5ts1 is equally well *os5 & well c>$ =4 ,"o %\ld n mix "o's w>drobe4 ,a coat ( "o suit & ! skirt ( ano!r %\ld n be worn toge!r4 ,a c>riage p>asol %\ld n be us$ on a sunny prom5ade1 nor an umbrella 9 a c>riage1 or op5 automobile4 ,x is necess>y to we> a dress appropriate to ! occasion 9 ord] to be well dress$4 ,no matt] h[ excell5t "o's co/ume may be1 if x does n suit ! "t & place x is absurd & incongru\s4 ,"s ( ! major rules = appropriate dress are z foll[s3 ,full ev5+ dress dem&s "o's mo/ elaborate g[n1 made ( silk1 sat91 velvet1 lace1 or crpe-de-*9e1 z co/ly z "o's purse p]mits1 ) dcollet effects1 ga9$ by ei!r actual cut or ! use ( lace & *iffon4 ,"o %\ld we> delicate %oes1 :ite or light-color$ gloves1 & appropriate jewels1 ( :i* x is n good ta/e to h too lavi% a display4 ,z ho/ess at an aft]noon reception or lun*eon "o may we> an elaborate g[n ( ! ri*e/ mat]ials1 ) ei!r long sleeves & high neck1 or elb[ sleeves & slightly l[ neck4 ,z gue/ "o may we> a walk+ suit1 ) pretty bl\se1 :ite gloves1 & decorative hat4 ,! usual dress = a =mal breakfa/ is mu* ! same z = a lun*eon1--a pretty aft]noon /reet co/ume1 ) a da9ty bl\se1 gloves1 & picture hat1 :i* is n remov$4 ,9 summ]1 a g[n ( light mat]ial1 su* z org&ie1 musl91 or o!r s(t goods1 da9ty & some:at elaborate1 is 9 good ta/e4 ,hat & gloves are inv>iably worn ) ?is g[n if ! affair is c]emoni\s4 ,= *ur* we>1 a quiet1 r simple /reet dress1 :i* does n proclaim t ei!r money or "t has be5 sp5t ^u x to any notable ext5t1 is by f> ! mo/ appropriate4 ,! suit %\ld be becom+ b inconspicu\s4 ,ball co/ume is conv5tionally gay & elaborate1 ! lighte/ ( mat]ials be+ us$1 especially by ^? :o int5d to take "p 9 ! danc+1 & a da9ty effect be+ s\ght4 ,any co/ly1 ri*-look+ mat]ials are us$1 & a wide range ( fa%ion is p]mitt$4 ,! g[n is cut %ort-sleev$ & dcollet1 & ! danc+ %oes are ( sat9 or v f9e kid4 ,jewels are worn b sp>+ly by "y wom5 9 _! fir/ season 9 society4 ,! co/ume ( a dbutante at h] fir/ ball is usually :ite4 ,at an in=mal d9n]1 any pretty g[n may be worn1 ) special att5tion to ! coiffure4 ,black %\ld nev] be worn at a w$d+4 ,if "o does n c>e to lay x aside = ! "t be+1 "o %\ld n att5d4 ,= m51 ! prop] co/ume = an e>ly morn+ breakfa/ is ! black cutaway coat ) gray tr\s]s1 & o!r details z = a =mal breakfa/4 ,9 summ] a gray morn+ suit ) fancy wai/coat1 or :ite flannels or l951 ) appropriate hat1 %oes1 & tie1 is p]missible4 ,at a =mal breakfa/ m5 we> frock coats1 fancy wai/coats1 gray tr\s]s1 pat5t-lea!r %oes1 l>ge ties1 high hats1 & gray gloves4 ,aft]noon dress = =mal functions betwe5 noon & ev5+ consi/s ( a d\ble-brea/$ black frock coat1 or a black cutaway coat1 ) ei!r light or d>k wai/coat1 gray tr\s]s1 pat5t-lea!r %oes1 light f\r-9-h& tie1 & light gloves4 ,ev5+ dress is ! correct attire = all occasions aft] six o'clock4 ,x consi/s ( a black suit1--coat cut swall[-tail1 & wai/coat cut l[ & 9 ! %ape ( a ,u1--) :ite lawn tie1 pat5t-lea!r pumps1 black silk /ock+s1 :ite gloves1 & no jewelry b %irt /uds1 cuff l9ks1 & an inconspicu\s wat* fob4 ,a black ov]coat ( "s /yli% cut & a silk hat or cru% or op]a hat is also worn4 ,full ev5+ dress is a man's co/ume = a =mal d9n]4 ,! ,tux$o or %ort d9n] coat ) a black tie is int5d$ only = d9n]s :]e wom5 are n pres5t4 ,al?\gh its use on o!r occasions is common1 x is n correct1 & ill accords ) ! elaborate g[n :i* is usually worn at ! =mal d9n]4 ,"o %\ld always h ! appe>ance ( be+ well-groom$4 ,x is a m9or matt] to add to habits ( p]sonal cleanl9ess1 :i* e man & woman ( ref9em5t adh]es to ) scrupul\s consci5ti\sness1 t att5tion to ! little details & f9i%+ t\*es ( dress+1 :i* give ! impression convey$ 9 t graphic expression well-groom$4 ,! niceties ( life are always matt]s ( small c>e b great mom5t4 ,! aim to be beautiful is a legitimate "o1 & wor?y ( ! att5tion ( e lov] ( beauty4 ,to make ! mo/ ( "o's self1 bo? = "o's own sake & t ( ^? ab\t "o1 is a duty4 ,mu* c be done if good ta/e is consult$1 & "o's sali5t good po9ts /udi$ & emphasiz$4 ,"o c at lea/ dress *>act]i/ically1 & s br+ out ! ideals to :i* "o gives adh]5ce4 ,= in/ance1 ! bus9ess woman1 9 bus9ess h\rs1 dresses ) t same ef=t aft] effici5cy & economy ( "t & /r5g? t %e has to put into h] bus9ess to make x successful4 ,%e is1 !re=e1 besides be+ scrupul\sly neat1 p]fectly pla9ly & yet durably & com=tably dress$4 ,! sudd5 /orm does n cat* h] unprep>$1 = %e _c af=d to lose ev5 an h\r's "w next day because %e caught cold4 ,%e p]mits no fuss+ ) h] g>m5ts1 !re=e !y h to be 9 p]fect work+ ord]1 z fuss+ takes "t1 & "t is money4 ,h] hair is done neatly1 & z becom+ly z possible1 b securely = ! day4 ,if1 on ! o!r h&1 ! bus9ess woman be a mill9]1 ^: own arti/ic p]sonality mu/ be h] be/ adv]tisem5t1 %e takes pa9s to dress arti/ically ev5 ?\gh %e we> less s]viceable & m elaborate co/umes4 ,%e %\ld1 h[ev]1 give ! same impression ( neatness & bus9esslike s]viceabl5ess1 ) ! additional arti/ic impression :i* is go+ to %[ h] cu/om] t %e kn[s h[ to br+ out ! tell+ po9ts 9 h] own p]sonality1 & create a *>m+ effect4 ,! h\sewife ne$s1 9 h] *oice ( morn+ g>m5ts1 ! same effectiv5ess z ! bus9ess woman1 = %e mu/ also "w ) real effici5cy2 b1 9 addition1 %e ne$s to give ! impression ( homelike ab&on1 z well z beauty & grace1 :i* %all appe> re/ful4 ,! art ( correct spee* & intellig5t conv]sation is "o :i* e "o :o wi%es to hold an envi$ place 9 society %\ld possess4 ,!re is no m attractive accompli%m5t4 ,o!rs h only a limit$ use & give only an occasional pleasure1 :ile good conv]sation is appropriate to almo/ any occasion1 & amuses & ent]ta9s :5 all o!r int]e/s h pall$4 ,if "o does n und]take to cultivate ! art ( conv]sation1 "o %\ld at lea/ be correct 9 spee*4 ,"o %\ld n p]mit slov5ly expressions1 or slang1 or ! ?\s& & "o faults ( mispronunciation & ungrammatical con/ruction into :i* p fall1 to be *>act]i/ic ( "o's speak+4 ,= if "o has "t to g into society1 "o %\ld h "t & money en\gh to make "o's self pres5table m5tally z well z physically1 & no?+ s cle>ly %[s lack ( intellig5ce & appreciation ( ! matt]s ( ! intellect1 z c>elessness & neglect ( ! words "o uses & ! ?\ghts "o utt]s4 ,no physical defect is m gl>+ ?an ! m5tal defect reveal$ 9 e s5t5ce ( su* a p]son4 ,mann]isms ( spee* or act are gl>+ flaws 9 ! p]sonality :i* w\ld delight to *>m1 & successfully preclude ! possibility ( popul>ity among ref9$ p4 ,_m a man & woman ( "* h be5 b>r$ f ! pleasurable enjoym5t ( society1 ev5 by p ( less "* ?\gh ( m surface ref9em5t ?an !mselves1 because !y lack$ ! intellig5ce & ! good s5se to aboli% c]ta9 mann]isms ( act or expression1 :i*1 ?\gh !y may h _h normal & logical causes1 7 n su* z society c\ld enjoy or approve1 & w\ld n t5d to any?+ b h>m if *>act]i/ic ( _m p4 ,c]ta9 r gl>+ faults are q conspicu\s among all classes ( wom51 = reasons :i* are h>d to det]m9e1 b :i* mu/ be g5]al z ! faults are s preval5t4 ,wom51 z a rule1 d n respect an appo9tm5t & keep x punctually1 int]rupt conv]sation repeat$ly & ru?lessly1 keep visitors wait+ by ne$less delays1 & d n seem to notice or regret ! sacrifice t "s c\rtesy to !m may h caus$ ano!r4 ,! arraignm5t ( wom5 = ^! faults is inde$ s]i\s1 = social misdemeanors c\ld n easily be mu* worse4 ,x means t ! deep he>t-feel+ ( c\rtesy is q lack+ f c]ta9 classes ( wom51--classes n to be m>k$ (f di/9ctly f any grade ( weal? or le>n+4 ,if ! ladies ( a fa%ionable & progressive intellectual club w n1 aft] two or ?ree ye>s ( repeat$ reque/s1 make x a habit1 "o & all1 to remove _! hats dur+ a d9n] & ! subsequ5t spee*es 9 a cr[d$ & level-floor$ club d9+-room1 x is useless to look = any f9] c\rtesy among ! cultur$ ?an among ! "w-worn labor+ classes4 ,z a rule ! wom5 lea/ at fault 9 ^! matt]s are ! bus9ess wom51 a fact :i* w\ld seem to prove t lack ( bus9ess & pr(essional tra9+ 0 9 "p responsible = ! g5]al apa?y & indiff]5ce t[>d ^! matt]s ( ord9>y c\rtesy4 ,c\rtesy1 l hone/y1 is ! be/ policy 9 all our deal+s ) our fell[ m54 ,!re=e1 we _c af=d to neglect to ex]cise x4 ,polit5ess & int]e/ 9 o!rs alike lead "o to make ^? inquiries conc]n+ fri5ds & _! families :i* %[ real conc]n 9 _! welf>e1 & :i* are exce$+ly gratify+ to all4 ,(t5 ?is k9dly trait alone gives "o a reputation = *>m1 al?\gh x has its disadvantages1 to be sure1 9 its dem&s ^u "o's sympa?y & pati5ce4 ,we ea* "k t we are wor? :ile4 ,we %\ld1 !re=e1 treat o!rs on t assumption1 & !reby make !m rise to _! pot5tial wor?4 ,! good t a p]son1 :o ?us calls out ! good )9 p1 may d is limit$ only by 8 acqua9tance4 ,p]sonality is1 aft] all1 "o's greate/ asset 9 life4 ,no ?\ght or ef=t %\ld be sp>$ 9 mak+ x pleas+ & inspir+1--a fit expression ( "o's "* & ideals1 & a wor?y gift to ! _w4 ,,*apt] ,,iii ,,family ,,etiquette ,,! p]man5ce ( a c\rte\s mann] is ! te/ ( its s9c]ity4 ,if "o is polite inv>iably ev]y:]e b at home1 "o's polit5ess is z sup]ficial z a disguise1 & z easily p5etrat$ by ! disc]n+4 ,unselfi% consid]ation = o!rs meets its /]ne/ discipl9e 9 ! home & 9 family relations1 & becomes1 "u t discipl9e1 a reliable guide1 in/9ctively consult$ 9 e em]g5cy4 ,)\t mann]s at home1 x is impossible to pres]ve ! real nobility & unselfi%ness ( "* :i* make a man or a woman socially desirable4 ,obligations ( ! ,m>ri$ ,! m>riage relation1 :ile bas$ ^u c]ta9 fundam5tal pr9ciples1 & n to be pres]v$ )\t adh]5ce to !m1 has "s little etiquette ( its own :i* adds to its happ9ess4 ,! solemnization ( m>riage is a sacr$ c]emony & %\ld be obs]v$ 9 a rev]5t _s4 ,to p>take ( its home intimacies = ! fir/ "t z ( a sacram5t1 & to p]petuate t same _s on ! anniv]s>ies ( ! day1 w d mu* t[>d mak+ x a holy & a happy union4 ,e m>riage %\ld be at lea/ a p]fect fri5d%ip2 s a m>ri$ c\ple %\ld obs]ve ) ea* o!r ! same little c\rtesies t !y w\ld obs]ve if /ill only fri5ds1 be+ z def]5tial 9 greet+ "o ano!r 9 public1 z c>eful ( ea* o!r's feel+s1 & z obs]vant ( ea* o!r's pref]5ces4 ,a woman %\ld rememb] to accept f h] husb&1 z h] due & )\t surprise or awkw>dness1 ! little att5tions :i* %e expects & receives 9 society4 ,a man1 also1 %\ld expect1 & n be disappo9t$ 9 receiv+1 ! graceful little appreciations & c\rtesies :i* ! woman ( *>m ext5ds to ! man ( a*ievem5t 9 h] social circle4 ,! diff]5ce betwe5 ! appreciations ( society & ^? ( ! family is ma9ly t1 9 society1 only ! m5 ( m>k receive !m1 :ile1 9 ! home1 e man %\ld receive 8 due2 = !re 8 ef=ts are kn[n1 ev5 ?\gh !y are n signal en\gh = society to recognize4 ,z equality is ! only basis ^u :i* ! au?ority ( ! home c happily re/1 s a complete union ( int]e/s is ! only basis = ! successful f9anc+ ( a home4 ,:ile all ! virtues ( good managem5t ( h] h\sehold1 economy 9 ! exp5diture ( money1 ta/e 9 dress+ h]self & h] *ildr51 & promptness & *>m 9 fulfill+ h] social duties are expect$ ( a wife1 & %\ld be fulfill$ to ! be/ ( h] ability1 !re are "s m9or ?+s :i* make = happ9ess :i* %\ld n be neglect$4 ,! wife :o %9es socially %\ld rememb] t h] family ne$s ! *>m ( h] pres5ce m ?an society does1 & x %\ld be a daily h\sehold quality r ?an = use only on /ate occasions4 ,! wife %\ld confide 9 h] husb& on e matt] ( importance4 ,%e %\ld n tr\ble him ) trivial ?+s1 b1 if a matt] is ( conc]n to h]1 %e %\ld n fail to let him "k ab\t x1 & get 8 advice ^u x4 ,! cem5t ( love is mutual confid5ce4 ,if a wife takes pa9s to und]/& h] husb&1 to be 8 companion1 & to d h] full duty by him1 by h] *ildr51 & by h] home1 %e _c fail1 "u ! ord9>y circum/ances ( ! ,am]ican home1 ( w9n+ happ9ess & mak+ h] husb& happy4 ,x is 9 ! lack ( desire to und]/& & love t ! real m5ace to ! happ9ess ( ! home lies4 ,! deep-he>t$ & ?\ghtful p approa* ne>e/ ! ideal ( love4 ,x is tak5 = grant$ t ! husb& w p]=m ! major duties ( 8 relation1 su* z be+ a good citiz51 a good bus9ess man1 & h5ce a good provid] = 8 family1 & t he w 9 all ?+s seek ! mutual happ9ess ( 8 family & himself4 ,he mu/ be consid]ate to 8 wife if he w\ld keep h] love & respect4 ,he %\ld confide 8 bus9ess to h] z f> z %e1 9 h] inexp]i5ce1 is able to grasp x1 & he %\ld tea* h] ! ?+s ab\t x :i* x is important = h] to "k4 ,?r\gh 8 conv]sation alone %e c get ! rudim5ts ( a good bus9ess tra9+1 & %e w at lea/ be able to compreh5d ! *anges he may make or ! difficulties 9 :i* he may f9d himself1 &1 see+ _! cause1 ?us be able to sympa?ize1 & n to blame1 if rev]ses come4 ,he %\ld s tra9 h] 9 bus9ess ways & me?ods t1 9 case ( 8 dea? or disability1 %e c\ld att5d to ! bus9ess ( 8 e/ate1 ev5 ?\gh %e c\ld n1 or ne$ n1 e>n money = ! family4 ,! "w ( adju/+ ! labors ( ea* to ^? ( ! o!r1 s t !re %all be "t = recreation & social life toge!r1 %\ld be a matt] ( mutual ef=t1 & %\ld n be dropp$ until solv$ to mutual satisfaction4 ,if ! memb]s ( ! family _c move 9 ! same social circle1 & toge!r1 a s]i\s brea* ( family happ9ess is ?reat5$4 ,!re is no m>riage lic5se :i* gives ! "r to con/ant h>p+ ^u "o ano!r's faults4 ,9 ?is1 z 9 all o!r respects1 ! rule ( fri5d%ip %\ld prevail4 ,a husb& %\ld n op5 8 wife's lett]s1 nor %\ld a wife h] husb&'s4 ,all invitations are s5t to a husb& & wife jo9tly1 except ^? = su* occasions z a /ag d9n]1 or a lun*eon or %[] to :i* ladies only are invit$4 ,if = any reason ei!r ! husb& or ! wife _c att5d a function1 ! o!r also mu/ decl9e4 ,! exceptions to ?is rule are ^? cases :]e a man or a woman ( p>ticul> tal5t moves 9 a circle ! int]e/s ( :i* are n especially enjoyable to ! o!r "o ( ! c\ple1 or :]e ! heal? ( ! "o precludes ! possibility ( att5dance ^u affairs ( :i* ! o!r %\ld n be depriv$4 ,too long or too frequ5t use ( ! excuses :i* cov] ^! exceptions1 reflects s]i\sly ^u ! m>ital happ9ess ( ! pair4 ,al?\gh pres5t toge!r at a function1 husb& & wife are n pair$ (f toge!r 9 _! ent]ta9m5t4 ,he takes "s o!r woman out to d9n]1 & %e is escort$ by "s o!r man4 ,ev5 at dances & balls x is n good =m = !m to dance toge!r too frequ5tly1 except at public dances :]e !y are two ( a private p>ty ( f\r or six1 9 :i* case rotation ( p>tn]s w\ld br+ !m toge!r m frequ5tly ?an if a l>g] numb] ( _! p]sonal fri5ds 7 pres5t4 ,9 ,am]ica a wife nev] %>es h] husb&'s titles4 ,consultation & advice toge!r on ev]y?+ :i* conc]ns ei!r is "o ( ! privileges z well z ! duties ( m>riage4 ,to reproa* = errors :i* 7 made ) good motives & ! be/ ( judgm5t available at ! "t is always unju/4 ,always to greet & to "p f ea* o!r ) affection is ! s\rce ( mu* happ9ess4 ,nei!r p>5t %\ld be ov]ambiti\s4 ,_! p]sonalities make ! home1 & if !y are ov]work$ & cr[d$ ) c>e1 ! home is n happy4 ,! "m %\ld always rememb] t home comes fir/1 & %\ld n abs5t h]self f x save at ^? times & = t l5g? ( "t :5 %e is really n ne$$ !re4 ,nei!r husb& nor wife %\ld confide family matt]s to any "o b ea* o!r1 nor discuss ea* o!r ) any o!r p]son4 ,companion%ip means ! will+ness to let "o's own mood be dom9at$ by ano!r4 ,!re=e1 if !y w\ld be companionable1 a husb& & wife %\ld meet ea* o!r's moods halfway4 ,= :at is lo/ p]sonally n[ & !n1 f> m ( great] mutual value is obta9$2 & x is l>gely by a habit ( companionabl5ess t ! happ9ess ( ! home c be made s satisfy+ t !re c arise no "q ( its p]man5ce4 ,to keep "o's self up to "o's be/ /&>d ( spee* & conduct is necess>y1 = only ?us c ! family /&>d be kept high4 ,an arbitr>y disposition 9 ! home ru9s ! com=t ( all4 ,companion%ip & mutual au?ority & helpfulness are ! only f\ndations = a happy home4 ,g5]al ,rules ( ,conduct ,seek ! companion%ip ( ! ref9$ & ! g5tle-mann]$ if y w\ld be ! same4 ,move 9 t society 9 ^: ways y are v]s$ & ^: rules y practice1 if y w\ld be appreciat$ or met ) l c\rtesy4 ,nev] fail to say k9d words to ^? 9 di/ress :om y meet4 ,! k9dness1 h[ev]1 mu/ be g5u9e1 & come f ! he>t1 nev] 9 /]eotyp$ & holl[ phrases4 ,! c\rtesy :i* (f]s att5tions %\ld be met ) graci\sness 9 receiv+ !m4 ,surprise is a sign t "o rates "o's self l[] ?an did ! p]son :o %[$ ! c\rtesy4 ,att5tions %\ld be w>mly accept$1 & ! gratitude express$ %\ld be ( ! sort :i* does n =get4 ,a woman1 :5 9 ! pres5ce ( ! m5 ( ! family1 %\ld expect t doors w be op5$ = h]1 t %e w pass ?r\gh !m fir/1 t packages w be c>ri$1 & err&s run4 ,%e %\ld n1 h[ev]1 let ^! little att5tions be paid h] by h] fa!r or an eld]ly relative4 ,ent] a room fill$ ) p 9 a dignifi$ mann] & ) a slight b[ to ! g5]al company4 ,we all d /amp our value on ourselves is true en\gh1 & our private /amp is nev] m conspicu\s ?an :5 we confront a roomful ( p4 ,if we %[ mode/y b int5se self-respect 9 our be>+1 !re is no "o :o w n raise 8 p]sonal e/imate ( u no matt] :at x 04 ,! head %\ld be well up1 ! body squ>ely erect1 ! *e/ out4 ,self-consci\sness at su* a "t is a mi/ake1 if natural1 & %[s ! actual littl5ess :i* "o is try+ by an upright be>+ to conceal4 ,"o %\ld tra9 "o's self until ! meet+ ( p1 no matt] :o !y may be1 :e!r s+ly or 9 l>ge numb]s1 is a matt] ( no p>ticul> conc]n z to deportm5t4 ,nev] ent] a room noisily1 nor fail to close a door aft] y1 )\t slamm+4 ,nev] take ano!r's seat unless y give x up ^u 8 return4 ,dignifi$ po/ures 9 sitt+ are m>ks ( respect to y\rself & ! company y are )4 ,a g5tleman does n sit a/ride a *air1 nor ) legs spread out1 nor a lady ) h] legs cross$4 ,nev] put out y\r foot1 9 ! /reet c> or else:]e1 or place x :]e x may tr\ble o!rs 9 pass+ by4 ,:5 sev]al p ent] a room 9 a private h\se :]e y are sitt+1 always rise1 especially if !y are old] ?an y4 ,:5 an eld]ly p]son ent]s ! room alone1 x is always a graceful %[ ( def]5ce = all y\ng] ?an he to rise & rema9 /&+ until he is seat$4 ,! greet+s ( night & morn+ are due to all memb]s ( "o's h\sehold1 & %\ld n be omitt$4 ,! "o :o ent]s a room :]e o!rs are assembl$ gives ! salutation fir/4 ,good morn+ is ! appropriate greet+ till noon4 ,good aft]noon & ,good ev5+ are ! greet+s = ! lat] h\rs ( ! day4 ,good-by is1 h[ev]1 ! common & mo/ acceptable =m ( f>ewell4 ,aft] an ev5+'s ent]ta9m5t1 x is p]missible also to say ,good night in/ead4 ,good day1 ,good aft]noon1 & ,good ev5+1 us$ 9 f>ewell1 are prov9cial4 ,i beg p>don1 spok5 ) an inquir+ inflection1 is mu* bett] ?an simply ,:at8 :5 y d n he> :at is said4 ,! abruptness ( ! latt] savors ( rud5ess4 ,:isp]+ is n p]missible 9 company1 & x is n necess>y 9 private4 ,!re=e1 :isp] n at all1 especially n 9 a sick-room or 9 *ur*1 :]e ! :isp] is f> m p5etrat+ ?an a l[1 di/9ct tone4 ,! call+ up or d[n /airs is inconsid]ate1 = y attract ! att5tion ( two floors ( p1 z well z publi% y\r message4 ,to c>ry on a conv]sation ov] ! bani/]s is also equally bad4 ,ev5 a ^w ( inquiry %\ld usually be spok5 at %ort di/ance 9 a hall :i* leads to sev]al rooms1 & :]e _m p may he> or be di/urb$ by ! noise4 ,su* call+ %\ld nev] be p]mitt$ to s]vants or *ildr51 = once begun its conv5i5ce w dem& its cont9uance4 ,int]rupt+ ano!r's conv]sation is a s]i\s brea* ( c\rtesy4 ,f9d+ fault is a v di/urb+ feature ( home life1 no matt] h[ gl>+ ! faults :i* may be criticis$4 ,faults h to be rem$i$1 b e ef=t %\ld be made to d x skillfully1 & n make ! rem$y worse ?an ! disease4 ,d n op5 y\r lett]s 9 company1 except 9 case ( em]g5cy1 & 9 ! latt]1 ask ! p]mission ( ! company to d s4 ,nev]1 "u any circum/ances1 op5 a private lett] address$ to ano!r4 ,if ! "o to :om x is address$ is ne> en\gh to give y p]mission to op5 x1 he c usually op5 x himself2 if he is n by to give p]mission1 ! lett] %\ld g to 8 legal repres5tative1 :o !n acts accord+ to ! law4 ,polit5ess z well z pity impel "o to be especially polite to ! call] or visitor :o is uncong5ial1 or /upid1 or unattractive4 ,by ev5 an excess ( hospitality "o %\ld try to make up = ! inevitable slight :i* society always puts ^u su* a "o4 ,imp>tial c\rtesy is ! "r ( all gue/s4 ,! close fri5d & ! di/ant & f> less welcome relative are entitl$ to equal c\rtesy4 ,! hold+ ( a grudge1 & ! fail+ to =give a slight = :i* apology has be5 made1 are ! height ( disc\rtesy4 ,x is inv>iably true t ! same _s ) :i* y mete out social slights w be %[n y 9 return4 ,res5t ea* "o1 :e!r int5tional or a m]e ov]sight1 & y w surely cru% ! spontaneity out ( all att5tions %[n y1 & be met only ) di/ru/4 ,:5 appli$ to = a favor1 if y int5d to grant x1 grant x graci\sly & readily2 if y int5d to refuse1 refuse ) equal civility ev5 ?\gh firmly4 ,none b ! unmann]ly w urge a reque/ :5 ! slighte/ tok5 ( refusal has be5 giv54 ,a g5tleman may (f] p]sonal s]vice to a lady1 if !re is ne$1 ty+ h] %oe1 or hook+ or button+ h] dress1 or do+ any o!r little act :i* %e _c h]self d4 ,9 a company ( p1 x is ! height ( rud5ess to call att5tion to ! =m or features or dress ( any "o pres5t4 ,9 us+ a h&k]*ief1 always d s unobtrusively4 ,at ! d9+ table x %\ld be us$ v sp>+ly4 ,bett] retire ?an be obnoxi\s to ev5 ! mo/ fa/idi\s4 ,nev] look ov] ! %\ld] ( any "o :o is read+ or writ+1 :e!r 9 ! home1 ( 9 a c>1 or at a conc]t1 or any:]e else4 ,d n t\* any "o 9 ord] to arre/ 8 att5tion1 b address him4 ,to l5d a borr[$ article is an appropriation ( x :i* is next to /eal+1 unless "o has p]mission ( ! own] to d s4 ,self-control 9 excitem5t ( any sort is a mo/ valuable trait4 ,x always makes = com=t ( "o's self & ( o!rs1 & (t5 = safety4 ,d n pass betwe5 two p]sons :o are talk+ toge!r1 if avoidable4 ,if x is n1 !n apologize4 ,nev] refuse to receive an apology4 ,c\rtesy requires1 no matt] h[ un=givable ! (f5se1 t an apology %\ld be accept$4 ,fri5d%ip may n be re/or$1 b fri5dly c\rtesy %\ld always !reaft] be ma9ta9$4 ,nev] neglect to p]=m a commission :i* a fri5d intru/$ to y4 ,=getfulness d5otes lack ( reg>d = ! fri5d4 ,nev] fail to be punctual at ! "t appo9t$1 9 keep+ e engagem5t4 ,to make y\rself ! h]o ( y\r own /ory1 or to speak mu* ( y\r own p]=mances1 d5otes deep-seat$ self-conceit1 & may be v di/a/eful to o!rs1 :o also h a*iev$4 ,"o's social obligations %\ld nev] be neglect$ unless "o is det]m9$ to drop out f "o's place entirely4 ,to ackn[l$ge "o invitation & n ano!r is surely to be discr$it$ ) all4 ,nev] "q a *ild or a s]vant ^u family matt]s4 ,fulfill y\r promises1--or d n promise4 ,deaf p]sons %\ld be treat$ ) special consid]ation4 ,act z ?\gh !y c\ld he> :at is be+ said1 yet )\t lay+ ! burd5 ( reply ^u !m1 & )\t p]mitt+ x to be conspicu\s 9 any way t !y may h lo/ ! drift ( ! talk4 ,x is well to talk bo? l\d] & m expressively :5 !y are pres5t1 b always m di/9ctly1 & some:at m sl[ly4 ,nev] %\t at !m1 or attract _! att5tion by t\*+ !m sudd5ly4 ,?is latt] is n polite to any "o1 b ! /rong] impulse to d x 9 case ( ! deaf mu/ be )/ood4 ,x is always bett] to come )9 ! range ( _! vision be=e speak+ to !m4 ,table ,etiquette ,a man %\ld n seat himself at ! d9n] table until 8 wife or 8 ho/ess is seat$4 ,?is rule holds good 9 ! home1 = if x is n practis$ !re1 x w n be obs]v$ gracefully 9 society4 ,seat y\rself n too close to nor too f> f ! table4 ,erect position at table is ! fir/ requisite4 ,"o %\ld s place "o's seat t correct position is possible1 & !n %\ld keep x4 ,elb[s %\ld nev] be plac$ ^u ! table4 ,! h&s %\ld be kept quietly 9 ! lap :ile n busy ) ! food4 ,"o %\ld sit quietly at ! table1 )\t h&l+ ! cutl]y or mak+ useless motions1 :ile wait+ to be s]v$4 ,if !re is "s =m ( grace said1 or "s simple c]emony prelim9>y to ! meal1 "o %\ld pay respectful att5tion sil5tly4 ,d n seem impati5t to be s]v$4 ,! meal is a social occasion & ! food is an adjunct to fri5dly int]c\rse4 ,! success ( ! meal dep5ds equally p]haps ^u ! food & ! conv]sation4 ,because ( ! int]ruptions ( s]vice1 conv]sation _c be long cont9u$1 or deeply ?\ghtful4 ,x mu/ be on subjects ( no great mom5t nor grave int]e/1 or on su* subjects lightly t\*$2 b x %\ld be on bright1 *e]ful topics1 & z witty z ! tal5t ( ! company af=ds4 ,eat+ %\ld be sl[1 & ma/ication ( ! food ?or\gh1 = reasons ( heal? z well z = ! sake ( appe>ance4 ,no meal c be eat5 prop]ly & adequately 9 less ?an ?irty m9utes1 b m ?an an h\r = a meal is %e] wa/e ( bo? "t & food1 unless ! company is l>ge1 ! times ( wait+ betwe5 c\rses long1 & ! portions s]v$ v small4 ,eat sil5tly4 ,! noise ( food be+ ma/icat$ is v di/ress+1 & except 9 cases ( cru/s & crisp vegetables1 p]fectly unnecess>y4 ,! napk9 is unfold$ & spread ov] ! lap4 ,"o is suppos$ to be skillful en\gh 9 rais+ food to ! lips n to ne$ ! napk9 9 front ( ! dress or coat to prev5t injury4 ,9 case y d n c>e = a c\rse1 y %\ld n refuse x4 ,receive x1 & take :at "p ( x y desire1 try+ to take "s2 or1 if y wi%1 leave x unt\*$1 b d n h ! appe>ance ( be+ neglect$ or ill-provid$ =1 ev5 if y d n eat ( x4 ,a little m att5tion to conv]sation on y\r "p may make unnoticeable to ^? ab\t y ! fact t y d n eat ( a c]ta9 c\rse4 ,if y\r pref]5ce is consult$ z to food1 :e!r ! matt] be trivial to y or n1 express "s pref]5ce s t ! "o :o is s]v+1 & :o has ask$ to be guid$1 may be s f> assi/$4 ,nev] place food or wa/e matt] ^u ! tableclo?4 ,an exception to ?is may be made 9 reg>d to h>d breads & cel]y1 :5 individual di%es = ^! are n furni%$4 ,always use ! side ( "s "o ( ! di%es ab\t y = *ips & scraps4 ,! =k is us$ 9 g5]al except ) semi-liquid sauces1 :]e a spoon is ( necessity us$4 ,x is n p]missible to eat peas ) a spoon4 ,! m\? %\ld be clos$ :ile x conta9s food4 ,x %\ld n be too full1 z x is (t5 necess>y to reply to "s "q :5 !re is food 9 ! m\?4 ,d n leave ! table until y h q ceas$ *ew+4 ,be da9ty & skillful 9 us+ y\r napk9 & cutl]y1 avoid+ soil+ ! tableclo?4 ,discussions & unpleasant topics ( conv]sation %\ld nev] be introduc$4 ,"o %\ld reg>d n only "o's own av]sions b ^? ( ! o!rs pres5t4 ,nev] put y\r f+] 9 y\r m\? at table1 nor pick y\r tee?4 ,tid9ess ( p]sonal appe>ance is nev] at a high] premium ?an at ! d9+ table4 ,soil$ h&s1 negligee dress1 %irt sleeves1 & di%evel$ hair are disgu/+ !re4 ,x is q prop] to take ! la/ help+ ( any di% :i* may be pass$ y4 ,to refra9 looks z if y d\bt$ ! supply4 ,bread is n cut1 b brok5 into fairly small pieces4 ,"o %\ld nev] nibble f a l>ge piece4 ,x is p]missible to eat crack]s1 olives1 cel]y1 radi%es1 salt$ nuts1 cry/alliz$ fruits1 corn on ! cob1 bonbons1 & mo/ raw fruits f ! f+]s4 ,apples1 pe>s1 & pea*es are qu>t]$1 peel$1 & !n cut into small pieces4 ,*]ries1 plums1 & grapes are eat5 "o by "o1 ! /ones be+ remov$ ) ! f+]s & laid ^u ! plate4 ,*eese may be laid 9 small pieces on bread or crack]s1 & convey$ to ! m\? 9 t way4 ,asp>agus %\ld be eat5 ) ! =k1 ! "p :i* is n readily brok5 (f by x be+ left4 ,at a =mal meal a second help+ ( a di% is nev] (f]$1 & %\ld nev] be ask$ =2 b at an in=mal d9n] p>ty x is n out ( place to accept a second help+1 if "o is (f]$1 b is complim5t>y to ! ho/ess1 :o is responsible = ! cook4 ,9 pass+ ! plate = a second help+1 ! knife & =k %\ld be laid across x full l5g?1--n held 9 ! h& until ! plate returns4 ,"o may ask ! wait] = a second or ?ird glass ( wat]1 z ev5 at a =mal d9n] t is always p]missible4 ,lettuce1 cress1 & *icory are nev] cut ) a knife1 b roll$ up on ! =k & s convey$ to ! m\?4 ,nev] leave ! spoon 9 any cup :ile dr9k+ f x4 ,liquid b\illon1--n jelli$1--%\ld be drunk f ! b\illon cup4 ,spoons are us$ = grape fruit & oranges1 :5 cut 9 halves & put ^u a plate1 = s(t-boil$ eggs1 pudd+s1 cu/>ds1 & gelat9s4 ,) fruit1 f+]-b[ls %\ld always be pass$4 ,a b[l half-full ( wat] is plac$ ^u a plate cov]$ ) a doily4 ,unless ! fruit is pass$ ^u a second plate1 ! b[l & doily are remov$ f ?is & set at "o side1 ! fruit be+ eat5 f ?is plate4 ,! f+]s are !n dipp$1 "o h& at a "t1 into ! wat]1 & wip$ ^u ! napk94 ,salt %\ld nev] be put ^u ! tableclo?1 b always on ! side ( ! plate1 unless ! individual salts are provid$4 ,nev] spit out a prune1 pea*1 or *]ry /one4 ,nev] hold food on ! =k :ile y are talk+1 ready z soon z y rea* a p]iod to be put into y\r m\?4 ,hav+ once pick$ x up1 eat x promptly4 ,a bit ( bread1 b no?+ else1 may be us$1 if necess>y1 to help "o put food ^u ! =k4 ,if "o ta/es ( some?+ :i* "o does n c>e to swall[1 x may be remov$ f ! m\? ) ! clos$ left h& & plac$ on ! plate4 ,?is %\ld be done sil5tly & ) z little att5tion z possible4 ,nev] take a *ick5 or *op bone 9 ! f+]s4 ,cut ! meat f ! bone1 leav+ all t does n readily sep>ate4 ,bread & butt] plates1 ) ! butt] spread]1 are always us$1 except at =mal d9n]s1 :5 ! d9n]-roll is laid 9 ! fold ( ! napk94 ,! knife is us$ only = cutt+1 & = spread+ butt] on bread 9 ! abs5ce ( butt] spread]s4 ,almo/ all foods are eat5 ) ! =k1 :i* %\ld always be us$ 9 ! "r h& ) ! t9es up4 ,x may be held 9 ! left h&1 t9es d[n1 :5 "o is cutt+1 ! knife be+ 9 ! "r h&4 ,! s\p spoon is an almo/ circul> & q deep spoon4 ,!re=e x is obvi\s t ! s\p %\ld be noiselessly sipp$ f ! side ( x4 ,:5 ! oval dess]t spoon is us$ = s\p1 x is especially necess>y to sip ! liquid f ! side4 ,special spoon-%ap$ =ks are provid$ = salads1 ices1 & creams1 b = ^! spoons may always be sub/itut$4 ,no hot dr9k %\ld be p\r$ f ! cup into ! sauc] to cool x4 ,too?picks %\ld n be pass$ at ! table4 ,!y may be left on ! sidebo>d1 & if "o is ne$$1 x may be reque/$ ( ! wait] or tak5 z y leave ! room1 b always us$ 9 private4 ,:]e9 eld]ly p d diff]5tly f ! e/abli%$ ways ( to-day1 !y are n to be criticis$4 ,mann]s *ange ev5 sev]al times )9 a g5]ation1 & su* may be simply foll[+ ! cu/oms !y 7 taught4 ,:5 ! ?ree-t9$ =k 0 ! only "o 9 common use1 ! blade ( ! knife 0 mu* m 9 requisition ?an n[4 ,on leav+ ! table ! di%es ( ! la/ c\rse %\ld be left exactly z us$1 & ! napk9 left unfold$ by ! side ( ! plate4 ,9 case "o is at home1 or visit+ a fri5d1 & ! napk9s usually s]ve = two or ?ree meals1 !n neatly fold x4 ,_m families h clean napk9s once a day1 t is1 at d9n]4 ,! *air %\ld ei!r be pu%$ q back f ! table1 or close to x1 s t o!rs may easily pass by4 ,if oblig$ to leave ! table 9 ! mid/ ( a meal1 "o %\ld address ! ho/ess1 say+1 ,please excuse me1 z he rises4 ,anniv]s>ies ,! obs]vance ( family fe/ivals is a great bond ( union :5 !re are diff]5t ages & temp]am5ts & int]e/s repres5t$ 9 ! family circle4 ,9 ! home holidays1 all meet on a common gr\nd1 & get once m into t\* ) ea* o!r4 ,yet ! obs]vance ( su* fe/ivals %\ld nev] be m elaborate ?an ! purse w ju/ify1 nor %\ld x be all[$ to become a burd5 ^u any "o1 ev5 ! mo/ will+4 ,! fe/ive _s is lo/ if x becomes obligatory4 ,! obs]vance ( w$d+ anniv]s>ies is usually an honor$ cu/om 9 ! case ( happy m>riages1 :]e *ildr5 gr[ up :o take delight 9 mak+ mu* ( ! days :i* are sacr$ to _! p>5ts4 ,:]e ?is obs]vance is n a matt] ( =m or done ) any ult]ior motive1 b is spontane\s & joy\s1 x adds mu* to ! family happ9ess & /r5g!ns ! bonds1 n only betwe5 p>5ts b betwe5 p>5ts & *ildr54 ,x is cu/om>y to make gifts ( ! sort signifi$ 9 ! "n ( ! anniv]s>y1 & mu* +5uity c be ex]cis$ 9 c>ry+ out ! idea4 ,! anniv]s>ies are nam$ z foll[s3 ,at ! end ( ! fir/ ye> comes a cotton w$d+2 at ! end ( ! second1 a pap] w$d+2 ! ?ird1 a l95 w$d+2 ! fif?1 a wood52 ! t5?1 a t9 w$d+2 ! fifte5?1 a cry/al2 ! tw5tie?1 l952 ! tw5ty-fif?1 silv]2 ! ?irtie?1 pe>l2 =tie?1 ruby2 fiftie?1 a gold5 w$d+2 & ! sixtie?1 a diamond w$d+4 ,^! anniv]s>ies may be add$ to1 z by celebrat+ a lea!r w$d+ ! ?ird ye>1 in/ead ( two ( l952 a wool5 "o ! sev5?2 & a *9a "o ! twelf?4 ,a bir?day anniv]s>y is a mom5t\s ev5t 9 ! life ( a *ild4 ,disreg>d ( x is a he>t-break+ slight4 ,! celebrations ( ^! ev5ts1 ev5 9 families :]e !y are num]\s & res\rces few1 c be made joy\s if !re is love en\gh to d x1 ev5 )\t money4 ,! ,giv+ ( ,pres5ts ,! memb]s ( a family :o h ea* o!r's welf>e at he>t1 (t5 h ! impulse to give ea* o!r some?+ :i* !y may "k is ne$$ or want$4 ,:ile ?is impulse %\ld be cultivat$ ev5 ) ! mo/ limit$ means1 & ! s5se ( g5]osity pres]v$ ev5 among ! poore/1--:]e1 to be frank1 x is m apt to be f\nd ?an among ! ri*1--!re %\ld be no c\nt+ ^u su* pres5ts1 nor obligation to make !m impos$4 ,?is de/roys _! value z expressions ( affection1 & makes ! cu/om h>mful4 ,= t reason x is n well to adh]e to times & seasons1 b at any "t :5 ! "r opportunity (f]s & ! impulse moves1 give ! gift t "o desires to give4 ,:]e su* an impulse is *>act]i/ic ( a family1 ! memb]s w naturally take pride 9 express+ 9 t way _! appreciation ( individual a*ievem5t1 z :5 a memb] graduates f a high s*ool or college1 or atta9s 8 majority1 or makes "s special advance 9 any way4 ,! _s :i* welcomes a*ievem5t & recognizes x1 becomes an inc5tive1 p]haps ! /ronge/ !re is1 & surely ! mo/ noble1 t ( satisfy+ & pleas+ a lov$ "o4 ,life holds too mu* ( defeat = ! av]age p]son1 = its m9or victories to be pass$ ov] 9 sil5ce & indiff]5ce4 ,intimate ,fri5ds ,"o's attitude t[>d intimate fri5ds is ei!r a pleasant memory or a sad revelation4 ,if "o holds !m a little l[] ?an "o's family1 & exp5ds ^u !m ef=t to *>m second only to ! ef=t habitually giv5 to ^? :om "o loves1 !n intimacy becomes a privilege1 no matt] :at ! circum/ances1 & a lifelong gratification & pleasure4 ,if1 h[ev]1 "o consid]s t intimate fri5ds are entitl$ to less c\rtesy ?an ! public1 & are to be made to s]ve "o's purpose m effectually ?an m]e acqua9tances d1 !n ! burd5 ( fri5d%ip is great1 & soon dropp$4 ,affection is n m]c5>y4 ,"o ^w 9 reg>d to ! s+le monopoliz+ fri5d%ip4 ,_m a m>riage has be5 wreck$1 & _m a "m's fri5d%ip turn$ away1 because "s "o fri5d1 ( ab\t "o's own age & ta/es1 ( pron\nc$ influ5ce & exorbitant dem&s1 has usurp$1 at fir/ p]haps unconsci\sly b ev] surely1 ! place 9 "o's life1 & at la/ 9 "o's he>t1 t "s memb] ( ! family %\ld h tak54 ,"s p seem naturally pr$ispos$ to ?is sort ( fri5d%ip1 & z soon z ! intellectual ze/ is gone f absorb+ companion%ip ) "o p]son1 !y turn to ano!r4 ,"o su* in/ance %[$ ?r\gh tw5ty ye>s a s]ies ( su* fri5d%ips on ! "p ( a well-mean+ b fooli% woman1 9 :i* h] husb& figur$ briefly1 pass+ on & (f ! /age z viol5tly z1 & ev5 m spe$ily ?an1 ! o!r fri5ds4 ,too great famili>ity ) new acqua9tances is impolite z well z unwise4 ,x _c fail ( seem+ =c$1 & ev5 if ! fri5d%ip is to be close & p]man5t1 a ha/ily-laid f\ndation is nev] ! mo/ secure4 ,"o %\ld nev] call a fri5d by 8 ,*ri/ian "n until he reque/s "o to d s4 ,illness 9 ! ,home ,illness means t ! ord] ( ! home life mu/ be s]i\sly di/urb$4 ,consid]ation = ! "o :o is ill1 & ef=t to alleviate ! suff]+1 %\ld take ! place ( e o!r ?\ght & ambition4 ,x is necess>y1 ( c\rse1 t ! r\t9e ( liv+ %\ld be suffici5tly pres]v$ = ! heal? ( ! o!rs n to be affect$1 b matt]s ( com=t & well-be+ = all take prec$5ce ( ev]y?+ else4 ,! well %\ld make all wise sacrifices = ! sake ( ! ill1 su* z be+ quiet ab\t ! h\se2 nev] compla9+ at late or simple meals2 sett+ aside p]sonal plans & com=t 9 ord] to assi/1 if ne$$1 9 ! c>e ( ! ill2 look+ out = ! relief & com=t ( ! nurse1 ^u :om ! major "p ( ! responsibility re/s2 nev] grudg+ "t or money 9 ! ef=t to re/ore heal?2 &1 above all1 mak+ ^! sacrifices 9 ! _s ( love & n 9 t ( m>tyrdom4 ,_m p1 :o make ev5 unreasonable sacrifices = o!rs 9 times ( em]g5cy1 d x s ungraci\sly1 t "o does n feel t !y are entitl$ to ! ?anks :i* !y /ill actually des]ve & %\ld receive4 ,c\rtesy dem&s t ! claims ( ! nurse & doctor be settl$ promptly & g5]\sly4 ,!y 7 prompt 9 meet+ ! em]g5cy4 ,!re %\ld be no delay 9 ackn[l$g+ ! obligation to !m1 ev5 ?\gh _! promptness is look$ ^u1 by !m & by society1 z "p ( _! pr(essional duty4 ,! convalesc5t takes su* abnormally ke5 delight 9 be+ rememb]$1 t x is obligatory ^u ! re/ ( 8 family & 8 fri5ds n to =get him4 ,k9dly messages %\ld be frequ5t4 ,trifl+ gifts frequ5tly are bett] ?an l>ge gifts occasionally1 unless ! l>ge gift is some?+ greatly desir$4 ,"o %\ld nev] fail to (f] ! easie/ & be/ seat 9 ! room to an invalid1 an eld]ly p]son1 or a lady4 ,c\rtesy to ,s]vants ,x is safe to pr$ict t1 if ! acum5 ( ! bus9ess man1 & ! c\rtesy ( ! social lead] & woman ( true ref9em5t 7 br\ght to be> ^u ! s]vant problem1 t w\ld soon assume a diff]5t aspect4 ,if ! consid]ation t w\ld be %[n an ail+ gue/ 7 %[n an ail+ s]vant1 s]vice w\ld be m g5]\sly & m fai?fully r5d]$4 ,! waitress at ! table is entitl$ to c\rtesy1 b n to apologetic ef=ts to dim9i% h] task4 ,appreciation may be %[n 9 a ,?ank y1 or1 ,if y please1 b su* notice ( h] %\ld be unobtrusively spok51 s z n to int]f]e ) ! g5]al conv]sation ab\t ! table4 ,! s]vant has e human "r to civility1 & ! )hold+ ( wages is no m culpable1 if m illegal1 ?an is ! )hold+ ( civil treatm5t1 & ! infliction ( ! indignity ( impati5ce & h>% & unm]it$ repro(4 ,all s]vants ne$ c>eful tra9+4 ,neatness is ! fir/ requisite4 ,! lack ( x mo/ s]i\sly reflects ^u ! managem5t ( ! h\sehold4 ,s]vants %\ld be tra9$ to answ] ! door-bell promptly1 reply civilly to que/ions1 & 9 all ?+s repres5t _! ma/] & mi/ress 9 a dignifi$ & c\rte\s way4 ,!y %\ld n admit "o p]son :o calls socially1 & d5y ano!r1 unless "u special & exceptional ord]s4 ,!y %\ld n fail to deliv] promptly all notes1 messages1 & c>ds :i* may be receiv$4 ,v]bal messages %\ld be receiv$ & giv5 ) accuracy4 ,! direct neglect ( ord]s is unp>donable 9 an intellig5t s]vant :o has be5 well tra9$1 & w n occur1 ev5 9 ! abs5ce ( ! mi/ress1 if ! tra9+ has be5 explicit & complete & ! s]vant is honorable1--z he %\ld be 9 ord] to reta9 any position4 ,a c]ta9 degree ( initiative1 too1 %\ld be cultivat$ 9 a s]vant :o is giv5 responsibility1 s t he may meet an em]g5cy ) res\rcefulness1 9 ! abs5ce ( ord]s or specific in/ructions4 ,! s]vant ne$s to respect 8 ma/] & mi/ress4 ,! firm1 /rong1 hone/1 & j control is respect$ by s]vants1 & is mu* pref]r$ to ! irresolute "o1 ev5 :5 ! latt] ov]fl[s frequ5tly 9 lax k9dness4 ,ea* man ne$s to be made to d 8 duty1 & ! p[] t =ces him to d x %\ld be graci\s b mu/ be firm4 ,to be famili> ) s]vants is a fatal mi/ake1 & ev5tually upsets & de/roys all discipl9e4 ,s]vants %\ld nev] be reprov$ 9 ! pres5ce ( gue/s1 or memb]s ( ! family1 or o!r s]vants1 b %\ld be talk$ ) s+ly1 & consid]ately1 b pla9ly4 ,,*apt] ,,iv ,,conv]sation ,,& ,,correspond5ce ,! ,art ( ,conv]sation ,,conv]sation is a game we all play1 b mo/ ( u ) ill success4 ,we d n take pa9s to le>n ! rules1 & we d n consid] ! honor ( w9n+ suffici5tly great4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 an accompli%m5t t all :o w may possess1 t consumes a great deal ( ! "t ( all ( u1 & t yields great pleasure & pr(it if skillfully us$4 ,! subject ( conv]sation %\ld be p]t95t1 & ( int]e/ to all1 or at lea/ ! majority1 ( ^? 9 ! gr\p ( talk]s4 ,! treasures ( exp]i5ce & ( k %\ld be gr\p$ ab\t ! topic1 & e "o :o contributes %\ld take c>e to pr(f] no?+ t ! conv]sation has n logically call$ =?4 ,!n ! pleasure & ! success ( ! "t ?us sp5t is measur$ only by ! wit & m5tal res\rces ( ! talk]s4 ,news :i* has a univ]sal int]e/ is always a legitimate subject ( discussion4 ,p]sonal news :i* has only ! int]e/ ( gossip or sc&al is nev] p]mitt$ among cultur$ p1 no m ?an are physiological facts or ! records ( crim9ology4 ,x is a safe rule to speak ( ?+s r ?an ( p]sons4 ,! brilliant conv]sationali/ nev] monopolizes ! talk1 z su* a me?od w\ld prev5t 8 mo/ tell+ po9ts or 8 ke5e/ wit f hav+ dramatic expression4 ,if he tells an anecdote :i* holds ! att5tion ( ! table or ( ! circle ( li/5]s1 he p]mits 8 dull] neighbor to tell ! next1 n only t 8 own wit may h a foil1 b t 8 next anecdote may meet ! %>p edge ( :ett$ appetites4 ,if d9+ out or be+ ent]ta9$1 d n play ! ho/ or ho/ess by lead+ ! conv]sation1 ev5 ?\gh y\r tal5t 9 t direction be f> sup]ior to !irs4 ,y !reby d !m an inju/ice :i* is exce$+ly disc\rte\s on ! "p ( "o :o has accept$ ( hospitality4 ,nev] int]rupt4 ,x kills ! expression ( any ?\ght to int]rupt ! speak]1 & e p]son1 no matt] h[ badly he may express himself1 has a "r to ! ef=t & to :at he c w9 ( ! he>]'s att5tion4 ,to supply a ^w :i* seems to fail ! speak] is p]haps a fri5dly s]vice1 if he be a =eign]1 b %\ld nev] be t5d]$ to a c\ntryman1 nor (t5 to ev5 ! mo/ grateful wre/l] ) ! ,engli% language4 ,x confuses any "o1 & ! only polite way is to wait quietly until ! speak] collects himself & f9ds 8 words4 ,d n cont5d any po9t4 ,among intellig5t p que/ions may be pleasantly & e>ne/ly debat$1 argum5ts weigh$ & te/$1 & yet ! conv]sation be absolutely c\rte\s1 al?\gh conviction be deep on bo? sides4 ,! impossibility1 among untra9$ p1 ( debate )\t great emotion is :at ret>ds ! progress ( ! intellectual life 9 _m circles4 ,"o %\ld nev] answ] que/ions 9 g5]al company t h be5 put to ano!r4 ,"o %\ld n note ! po9ts ( discrepancy 9 ! rem>ks ( ano!r1 or ! po9ts ( div]g5ce 9 op9ion4 ,9 society ! subjects ( conv]sation are subord9at$ to ! human int]e/ ( ! ga!r+1 & po9ts ( h>mony & agreem5t %\ld be emphasiz$1 leav+ all o!rs unnot$4 ,"o does n ne$ to conceal 8 op9ions1 b he %\ld n arrogantly or dogmatically publi% !m4 ,n op9ions b individuals are ( great] int]e/ at t "t1 & ! battle ( ideas %\ld be f\ght 9 ano!r ar5a4 ,?is is ! only safe rule to foll[ 9 mix$ companies1 or ) p imp]fectly tra9$ socially4 ,) highly intellig5t p ( cong5ial ta/es1 p :o h ideas & convictions ( great wor?1 & :o are controll$ en\gh to express !m )\t undue or fooli% emotion1 ! battle ( ideas is f\ght mo/ effectively & mo/ to ! b5efit ( society1 9 ! draw+-room ( t ho/ & ho/ess ^: own tal5ts make !m able to draw tal5t ab\t !m4 ,"h all ! rules ( polite society may be obs]v$1 & yet ! inn] convictions1 :e!r political1 religi\s1 or moral1 ( ! circle1 may f9d welcome expression & fair he>+4 ,! gr[? ( ideas & ! progress ( ideals 9 su* a society is rapid & along ! "r l9es4 ,nev] try to h ! la/ ^w1 b always refra9 f say+ x4 ,d n ent] into tte--tte conv]sation 9 ! pres5ce ( o!rs1 or ref] to any topic ( conv]sation :i* is n ( common int]e/ & commonly kn[n4 ,my/]i\s allusions or assum$ und]/&+s ) "o or two memb]s ( a gr\p are insults to ! o!rs4 ,inquiries into private affairs %\ld nev] be made1 b ^? on ! subjects ( age & income are especially obnoxi\s1 & m]it = ! inquir] ! cool sil5ce :i* !y usually obta94 ,! l\d-voic$1 aggressive p]son1 ^: op9ions are alone ( vital mom5t 9 8 e/imation1 & :o w n yield a po9t 9 an argum5t1 is mu* to be dread$ 9 any company1 & effectually br+s to an end any g5]al conv]sation into :i* he intrudes4 ,:5 address+ p face to face1 x is necess>y to give !m _! social or pr(essional titles1 if ! latt] be su* z h influ5ce on social rank1 no matt] if su* titles are n inscrib$ on ! visit+ c>d ( ! p]son possess+ !m1 or are purely honor>y4 ,x is n n[ cu/om>y to add ,madam1 or ,sir1 or ! colloquial equival5t ( ! =m]1--m'am or m'm1--to ,yes & ,no1 ev5 by *ildr54 ,correspond5ce ,lett] writ+ is a high art1 & c give great pleasure to "o's fri5ds4 ,x mu/ n1 h[ev]1 be intemp]ately indulg$ 91 ei!r 9 frequ5cy1 l5g? ( lett]s1 or fre$om ( expression4 ,a timely note is a great b9d] ( fri5d%ip1 & may give com=t & satisfaction mu* great] ?an a long] lett] at a less important mom5t4 ,! dang] ( lett] writ+ is t "o is tempt$ to p\r out "o's inmo/ feel+s ) ?\ghtless ab&on1 & f9d lat] t ! relative or fri5d to :om ! lett] 0 address$ 0 unwor?y ( ! confid5ce1 or1 if n unwor?y1 0 repell$ by x1 or indiscreet 9 gu>d+ x4 ,x is always wise = "o to re/ra9 8 expression ( himself1 :5 writ+ or speak+1 )9 ! b\nds ( dignity & a self-respect+ res]ve4 ,! classic lett]s ( lit]ature are usually ^? ! f]vor ( expression & self-revelation ( :i* gave !m a /rong human int]e/1 b 9 ! pres]vation & publication ( :i* sacr$ confid5ce 0 violat$4 ,! av]age lett] ( ! av]age man or woman is by no means a classic1 or wor?y ( pres]vation4 ,x %\ld be de/roy$ :5 x has fulfill$ ! imm$iate purpose = :i* x 0 writt54 ,x may o!rwise sometime be in/rum5tal 9 br++ ridicule1 if n %ame1 ^u ! unsuspect+ writ]4 ,z lett] writ+ is ! mo/ common =m ( composition1 ! g5]al rules p]ta9+ to t art %\ld be obs]v$ 9 ev5 ! mo/ in=mal ( lett]s4 ,all lett]s %\ld be concise & def9ite4 ,an involv$ /yle is a great wa/e ( "t & m5tal p[]1 & has no advantage4 ,a lett] %\ld be writt5 on consecutive pages1 unless x be v %ort1 9 :i* case x is pref]able to use ! fir/ & ?ird1 r ?an only ! fir/ & second1 pages4 ,x %\ld nev] be writt5 s t ! %eet has to be turn$ ar\nd & ! pages read at diff]5t angles4 ,! turn+ ov] ( ! pages %\ld be all t is necess>y4 ,if1 h[ev]1 social note pap] is us$ = a %ort bus9ess lett] to a bus9ess man1 op5 ! %eet out flat1 turn x s t ! left side becomes ! top ( ! %eet1 & use z y w\ld a s+le l>ge %eet ( comm]cial pap]4 ,?is enables ! read] to see ! :ole matt] at a glance4 ,d n scrawl y\r lett] ov] ! page2 b d n1 on ! o!r h&1 appe> to economize 9 pap]4 ,make ! place & date l9es cle> & di/9ct4 ,set (f ! salutation f ! body ( ! lett]1 & make ! =m ( ! lett] ^u ! page arti/ic & concise4 ,pap] is *eap1 & ! delight ( receiv+ a lett] well fram$ 9 ev5 m>g9s & writt5 on regul>1 if invisible1 l9es is a pleasure easily af=d$ a fri5d4 ,! lett] %\ld be begun ab\t two in*es d[n f ! upp] edge ( ! pap]4 ,! left-h& m>g9 %\ld be ?ree-qu>t]s ( an in*1 ) p>agraph ind5tion an in* m4 ,! l[] m>g9 also %\ld be ?ree-qu>t]s ( an in*1 & ! "r m>g9 %\ld be kept ev5 &1 = be/ effect1 almo/ z wide z ! left m>g94 ,d n run on ! lett] )\t p>agraph+ x1 b place ea* subject 9 a p>agraph by itself4 ,a bus9ess lett] %\ld always g /raight to ! po9t4 ,a note ( apology %\ld be direct1 & say b ! "o ?+ :i* is its subject4 ,a note ask+ a favor %\ld d x simply & )\t unnecess>y preamble4 ,! s5se ( fre$om or intimacy :i* p]mits "o to ask a favor1 %\ld be great en\gh to obviate ! necessity ( long explanation1 :i* seems l coax+4 ,! refusal ( a reque/ requires tact1 & may necessitate less directness ?an c\rte\s explanation3 b x %\ld n be s ext5d$ z to be apologetic4 ,a lett] ( ?anks is difficult1 b too great effusiv5ess is z disgu/+ z too great abruptness is unsatisfactory4 ,! elusive b happy m$ium is ! "w ( ! socially well-tra9$4 ,pap] ,! grade ( pap] us$ is a matt] ( no small mom5t4 ,"s p affect a fa/idi\sness 9 color & quality q out ( keep+ ) ! purpose to :i* ! pap] is to be put4 ,o!rs affect an opposite slov5l9ess1 :i* %[s equal disreg>d ( use & effectiv5ess4 ,a good quality ( pap] is ess5tial to elegance4 ,pla9 :ite or cream :ite pap]1 unl9$1 ) ei!r r\gh or smoo? f9i%1 is always correct1 & is ! only k9d = =mal social correspond5ce4 ,= m intimate lett]s ladies sometimes use a pale blue1 delicate pe>l-gray1 light lav5d] or heliotrope1 or a ,colonial buff4 ,!re has lately be5 import$ ! /yle ( an envelope ) l9+ ( ano!r color & pap] to mat*1 9 a v>iety ( bright t9ts & /rik+ designs4 ,^! /yles1 ev5 9 ! da9ti] v>iations ( !m1 appeal only to ! y\ng] memb]s ( ! sm>t set4 ,g5tlem5 nev] use any b :ite /ation]y4 ,correspond5ce c>ds are a great conv5i5ce = ! v %orte/ ( messages1 :]e ev5 ! small note pap] is too l>ge4 ,!y are to social lett] writ+ :at ! po/al is 9 bus9ess4 ,!y1 l ! po/al1 %\ld be us$ only = brief messages ( no special importance1 or = notifications4 ,x is a matt] ( ta/e & ( exp5se to h "o's monogram or home address engrav$ at ! top ( *oice note pap] or lett] pap]4 ,?is may be 9 gilt1 silv]1 or colors4 ,! m common =ms ( head+ are c5t]$ an in* bel[ ! top ( ! pap]1 b may be plac$ some:at l[] d[n1 & to ! "r1 leav+ ab\t ?ree-qu>t]s ( an in* m>g94 ,9 ?is case ! date l9e foll[s4 ,engrav$ & emboss$ head+s are ! mo/ elegant1 & pr9t$ ones %\ld be us$ only = bus9ess purposes4 ,!re c1 h[ev]1 be no objection to a v neatly pr9t$ small head+ = p]sonal bus9ess correspond5ce1 if x is ta/efully done 9 a quiet color4 ,:ile x w\ld n be acceptable = =mal social correspond5ce1 x does v well on m intimate lett]s & saves ! necessity ( writ+ ea* "t ! home address4 ,x is be/ to use pr9t$ lett]heads1 r ?an commit ! blund] n[ s common1 among ^? :o d n habitually use engrav$ pap]1 ( omitt+ ! address f ! lett]4 ,?is1 9 case ! lett] is misdirect$1 & travels to ! ,dead-,lett] ,(fice1 prev5ts effectually its re/oration to ! writ]4 ,! size ( note pap] suit$ to ! lett] to be writt5 %\ld be us$4 ,d n />t ) a small note size1 & run on ov] sev]al %eets4 ,! lett] size %\ld h be5 tak5 9 ! fir/ place1 z ! note is only = su* messages z are ess5tially %ort4 ,! =ms ( head+ :i* are p]missible at ! top ( ! p]sonal lett] pap] are ! foll[+3 a cre/1 monogram1 or ! sep>ate initials2 ! "n ( ! home if1 z an e/ate1 x has a special title2 ! "n ( ! city & /ate2 or ! /reet address1 ) ! "n ( ! city & /ate b5ea?4 ,:5 9 m\rn+1 x is cu/om>y to use a note pap] & envelopes surr\nd$ ) a n>r[ black bord]4 ,! bord] %\ld n exce$ ?ree-eigh?s ( an in* 9 wid?1 & ?ree-sixte5?s ( an in* dur+ ! p]iod ( half m\rn+4 ,sometimes only a black l9e ) ! monogram is us$4 ,sc5t$ note pap] is n 9 good ta/e1 except p]haps t :i* has a v fa9t odor ( violets or ( orris root1 or1 9 ! ,s\?l&1 ( orange blossoms4 ,ink ,color$ inks are n lik$ or approv$ ( by society4 ,a good blue-black ink is ! be/ = all writ+4 ,pale inks1 too fa9t to be easily se51 & too lack+ 9 /ock to la/ any l5g? ( "t1 are useless4 ,h&writ+ ,illegibility 9 h&writ+1 or a /ilt$ & difficult h&1 is a great wa/e ( "t & en]gy1 ma9ly ! w\ld-be read]'s4 ,!re is no excuse1 9 ^! days ( ! typewrit] & ( common k ( /5ography1 = an illegible lett] or manuscript1 & ! c>elessness :i* writes too hurri$ly to =m ! lett]s is excusable only 9 ! grave/ em]g5cy & betwe5 intimate fri5ds1 :]e ! inconv5i5ce caus$ by x w be1 = p]sonal reasons1 gladly =giv54 ,"s h&writ+s :i* are ?or\ghly legible are extremely tir+ to ! read]1 & ! simpl]1 less ornate h& is = e purpose pref]able4 ,! affectation ( a h&writ+ :i* enables y to put b few words on a page1 is absurd & vulg> 9 ! extreme4 ,yet1 on ! o!r h&1 a too delicate or m9ute h& is n desirable4 ,legibility1 neatness1 & cle>ness are ! sali5t virtues ( a lett]4 ,! use ( ! typewrit] is conf9$ to bus9ess4 ,x is /ill v bad =m to use x = p]sonal lett]s2 b %\ld elegant script & small1 cle> =ms ( type1 su* z are furni%$ by "o or two ( ! ma*9es n[ on ! m>ket1 be 9 common use1 !re is little d\bt b :at ! spe$ ( s]vice & ! advantages ( cle>ness w\ld br+ ! typewrit] into use 9 intimate1 & p]haps at la/ into m =mal1 social correspond5ce4 ,! t5d5cy seems to lie 9 t direction4 ,seal+1 ,/amp+1 & ,direct+ ,envelopes ,neatness is especially necess>y 9 ! fold+ ( lett]s1 & 9 address+1 /amp+1 & seal+ ! envelopes4 ,ha/e & slov5l9ess "h take away ! sugge/ion ( complim5t 9 ! c\rtesy ( ! note1 & are z insult+ z any rud5ess ( mann] c well be4 ,! fa/idi\s & leisurely /ill seal _! envelopes ) wax1 impr9t+ ?us _! monogram4 ,! well-gumm$ envelope n[ 9 vogue makes ?is sup]flu\s = ! ord9>y in=mal lett]4 ,addresses %\ld be writt5 ) an eye to legibility1 & ! /amp %\ld be affix$ to ! upp] "r-h& corn] ( ! envelope ) c>e & neatness4 ,social invitations1 al?\gh engrav$ & !re=e conta9+ no h&writ+1 %\ld always be s5t ) lett] po/age4 ,lett]s %\ld be pla9ly & completely address$ to insure _! safe & prompt deliv]y4 ,p]sons :o h a l>ge bus9ess correspond5ce %\ld use = x envelopes on :i* _! "n & po/ (fice address are pr9t$ 9 ! upp] left-h& corn]4 ,9 social correspond5ce ^! %\ld be cle>ly writt5 or engrav$ ^u ! back ( ! envelope4 ,sometimes :]e a bus9ess firm is small or little kn[n1 x facilitates ! deliv]y ( a bus9ess lett] to place ! numb] ( ! (fice room 9 a build+ ^u ! envelope4 ,:]e1 h[ev]1 ! firm is s l>ge t probably ! entire mail is c>ri$ f ! po/ (fice 9 bags1 or :]e a po/ (fice box is d\btless made use ( in/ead ( ! c>ri]s' deliv]y1 ev5 ! /reet numb] is sup]flu\s4 ,lett]s = dep>tm5ts %\ld be s m>k$4 ,if ! city is "o ( ! l>ge/ 9 ! c\ntry1 ! "n ( ! /ate is n add$2 z1 ,new ,york ,city1 ,bo/on1 ,*icago1 & ,philadelphia w\ld /& alone4 ,only a bus9ess lett] %\ld h ! ^w ,city 9 place ( ! "n ( ! city1 & x is bett] to write ! "n1 omitt+1 if y *oose1 ! /ate4 ,?is is p]missible only :5 ! c5tral po/ (fice is us$1 z ! po/m>k ( any suburban /ation might cause confusion1 & railway po/ (fice cl]ks1 especially1 %\ld n be expect$ to guess accurately ! int5ts ( a writ]4 ,:5 /reet addresses l ,broadway1 ,p>k ,r[1 ,aborn ,drive1 are writt51 x is sup]flu\s to write ,/4 aft] !m4 ,! old] =m ( writ+ an address 0 to end ea* l9e ) a comma4 ,! m rec5t /yle1 & "o com+ into q common use1 is to omit ! comma1 us+ only su* punctuation z ! s5se ( ! words )9 ! l9e dem&s4 ,ei!r way is p]missible4 ,uni=mity & concise cle>ness are *>act]i/ics ( a well-writt5 address4 ,an address %\ld be writt5 z foll[s3 ,mr4 ,frankel ,ban*man1 #ae ,we/l& ,av5ue1 ,philadelphia1 ,pa4 ,if ! directions are to be includ$1 !n ! foll[+ arrangem5t is bett]3 ,mrs4 ,ar?ur ,l4 ,casson1 ,nor? ,maplewood1 ,*e/nut ,c\nty1 ,c>e ( ,mr4 ,hiram ,casson4 ,n4 ,y4 ,! sign ( p] c5t is no long] us$ to signify c>e (4 ,a cl]gyman is address$ ,! ,rev]5d ,john ,l4 ,wrigley1 ,d4 ,d41 or1 less correctly1 ,rev4 ,john ,l4 ,wrigley1 ,d4 ,d41 :i* may be transpos$ to ,rev4 ,dr4 ,john ,l4 ,wrigley4 ,! omission ( ! article be=e ! ^w ,rev]5d is q common4 ,a physician is prop]ly address$1 ,alg]non ,brigham1 ,m4 ,d41 & ! salutation is ,de> ,dr4 ,brigham1 or ,de> ,doctor1 if he is an intimate fri5d4 ,a man hav+ ! title ( ,doctor ) any o!r significance ?an t ( ,doctor ( ,m$ic9e1 is usually address$ ,dr4 ,fr$]ic ,v4 ,h>lan4 ,a v =mal way1 h[ev]1 w\ld be to address su* a "o1--suppos+ ea* ( ! titles to be 81--z ,pr(essor ,fr$]ic ,v4 ,h>lan1 ,ph4 ,d4 ,= ! lett]1 ! salutations ,de> ,pr(essor ,h>lan & ,de> ,dr4 ,h>lan are equally correct4 ,a lett] to ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates %\ld be address$ simply ) t title & ) no fur!r specification ( "n1 :e!r x be (ficial or social3 z1 ,to ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 ,executive ,mansion1 ,wa%+ton1 ,d4 ,c4 ,! salutation %\ld be simply ,sir4 ,! conclusion %\ld be1 ,i h ! honor to rema9 ,y\r ob$i5t s]vant4 ,if a social lett] x may be address$ ei!r =mally or ,to ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 7,*ri/ian "n & surname71 ,executive ,mansion1 etc4 ,! salutation w\ld !n be ,my de> ,mr4 ,presid5t4 ,! ,vice ,presid5t %\ld be address$ (ficially 9 ! same =m2 t is1 ,to ! ,vice ,presid5t1 ,hon4 ,*e/] ,a4 ,ar?ur4 ,he %\ld be salut$1 (ficially1 ,mr4 ,vice ,presid5t1 ,sir2 socially1 ,my de> ,mr4 ,ar?ur4 ,9 address+ ! gov]nor ( a /ate ! sup]scription %\ld be1 ,to ,8 ,excell5cy1 ,! ,gov]nor ( ,massa*usetts1 ,/ate ,h\se1 ,bo/on4 ,! salutation %\ld be ,sir1 if (ficial1 b ,de> ,gov]nor ,b>n>d1 if social4 ,! conclusion ( an (ficial lett] %\ld read1 ,i h ! honor to be1 ,sir1 ,y\r ,excell5cy's mo/ ob$i5t s]vant4 ,! mayor ( a city is address$1 ,to ,8 ,honor1 ,! ,mayor ( ,*icago4 ,)91 he is salut$ (ficially z ,y\r ,honor1 socially z ,my de> ,mayor ,sewall4 ,ambassadors ( any c\ntry1 :atev] _! p]sonal di/9ction1 may be giv5 ! title ( ,honorable1 & _! rank plac$ aft] ! surname4 ,z1 ,honorable ,:itelaw ,reid1 ,ambassador to ! ,c\rt ( ,/4 ,james4 ,!y may always be address$ z ,y\r ,excell5cy4 ,! memb]s ( ! ,cab9et ( ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates are always address$ z ,honorable1 & ! "n ( _! dep>tm5t1 or _! title add$3 z1 ,! ,honorable1 ,! ,secret>y ( ,/ate4 ,to give ! "n w\ld be sup]flu\s1 z 9 ! case ( ! ,presid5t4 ,on =mal invitations1 h[ev]1 :5 ! ,secret>y & 8 wife are ent]ta9+1 ! =m is1 ,! ,secret>y ( ,/ate & ,mrs4 ,hay reque/ ! honor1 etc4 ,invitations :i* come to "o because ( 8 (ficial position are n int5d$ = p]sonal complim5ts1 h5ce are address$ to ! (fice1 n to ! man p]sonally4 ,an invitation f ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates is equal to a comm&1 & may n be decl9$4 ,o!r engagem5ts mu/ be brok5 = x1 & only grave calamity or illness %\ld excuse "o1 ! excuse be+ frankly /at$ in/ead ( m]e =mal expressions ( regret4 ,9 c]emoni\s notes abbreviations %\ld nev] be us$4 ,%\ld "o address ! rul] ( ,engl&1 ! sup]scription w\ld be1 ,8 ,maje/y1 ,! ,k+1 ,london4 ,! salutation w\ld be1 ,sir2 ! conclusion1 ,i h ! honor to be1 ,sir1 ,y\r ,maje/y's mo/ ob$i5t s]vant4 ,8 ,grace ! ,duke ( ,fife is ! =m ( address = a ,duke2 ,my ,"l ,duke be+ ! salutation1 & ,y\r ,grace's mo/ ob$i5t s]vant ! subscription4 ,9 writ+ to ! ,pope ( ! ,roman ,ca?olic ,*ur*1 "o %\ld address ! lett] to ,8 ,hol9ess1 ,pope ----1 ,rome4 ,! salutation %\ld be ,y\r ,hol9ess1 b ! conclusion rema9s ! same =m z = o!r dignit>ies4 ,a ,c>d9al ( ! same *ur* is address$ ,to ,8 ,em95ce 7,*ri/ian "n7 ,c>d9al 7surname71 & greet$ z ,y\r ,em95ce4 ,=mality %\ld be /rictly obs]v$4 ,an ,ar*bi%op ( ! ,*ur* ( ,engl& is address$1 ,! ,mo/ ,rev]5d 7"n7 ,8 ,grace ! ,"l ,ar*bi%op ( 7"n ( bi%opric74 ,! salutation is ,my ,"l ,ar*bi%op2 ! subscription1 ,i h ! honor to be1 ) ! highe/ respect1 ,y\r ,grace's mo/ humble s]vant4 ,a ,bi%op is address$ ,! ,"r ,rev]5d ! ,"l ,bi%op ( 7"n ( diocese74 ,he is salut$ ,my ,"l ,bi%op4 ,9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates ! ,bi%ops ( ! ,prote/ant ,episcopal ,*ur*1 :o are n "h ,lords1 are address$1 s+ly1 z ,! ,"r ,rev]5d 7,*ri/ian "n & surname74 ,d4 ,d41 or ,! ,"r ,rev]5d ,bi%op ( 7"n ( diocese74 ,!y are salut$1 s+ly1 ,mo/ ,rev]5d ,sir4 ,! ^w ,to may prec$e a =mal or c]emoni\s address1 add+ to ! =mality4 ,an envelope conta9+ a lett] or c>d ( introduction %\ld nev] be seal$1 if pres5t$ 9 p]son by ! p>ty introduc$4 ,if1 h[ev]1 he %\ld deliv] x by mess5g]1--an exceptional proc$ure1 & "o n to be foll[$ by a man except 9 unusual circum/ances1--! envelope may be seal$4 ,no lett] s5t ?r\gh ! k9dness ( a fri5d %\ld ev] be seal$4 ,! envelope %\ld be>1 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]1 ! ackn[l$gm5t ( ! favor 9 words l ,k9dness ( ,miss ,hall[ell4 ,salutation1 ,conclusion1 & ,signature ( ,lett]s ,a /rang] %\ld be salut$ z foll[s3 ,mr4 ,eug5e ,motley1 ,my de> ,sir2 ,mrs4 ,alonzo ,p>m5t]1 ,de> ,madam2 or ,eug5e ,motley1 ,esq41 ,my de> ,sir4 ,^! are =ms slightly m =mal ?an ,my de> ,mr4 ,motley1 or ,my de> ,mrs4 ,p>m5t]1 :i* 9 ,am]ica are /rangely consid]$ m =mal ?an ,de> ,mr4 ,motley1 or ,de> ,mrs4 ,p>m5t]1 al?\gh 9 ,engl& ! rev]se is true4 ,!re=e1 a m]e acqua9tance is address$ ,my de> ,mrs4 ,judson1 :ile a fri5d is address$ ,de> ,mr4 ,cl>k4 ,a m>ri$ woman signs h] "n1 z ,e!l ,hu/$1 & !n puts h] =mal "n1 ,mrs4 ,hollis ,hu/$1 9 brackets a little to ! left ( & a little bel[ ! o!r4 ,nev] sign a title4 ,! "n only is y\r signature4 ,x may be necess>y to write ! title 9 brackets & at ! left1 z 7,miss7 or 7,mrs471 b x %\ld nev] be "p ( ! signature4 ,su* notes z dem& ! use ( ! title are put 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,! date %\ld be at ! end ( a social note1 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]1 & %\ld be writt5 out1 ) ! "n ( ! ye> omitt$ & no figures us$4 ,! grammatical =m is ,! n9? ( ,decemb]1 nev] ,decemb] ! n9?1 nor ,decemb] n9?4 ,9 bus9ess lett]s ! salutation = a firm "n is ,de> ,sir1 or ,g5tlem54 ,:]e two m>ri$ wom5 g into bus9ess toge!r1 !re seems to be 9 ,engli% no comb9$ title to take ! place ( ! ,fr5*1 s t is g5]ally us$1 & t is ,mesdames1 abbreviat$ ,mmes4 be=e _! names4 ,! =mal conclusions ( lett]s are3 ,respectfully y\rs1 us$ to a sup]ior2 ,s9c]ely y\rs1 or ,truly y\rs1 us$ l>gely 9 bus9ess1 or ! same =ms ) ! adv]b ,v prec$+ !m4 ,less =mal t]ms are3 ,cordially y\rs1 ,frat]nally y\rs1 or ! pron\n ) any appropriate adv]b :i* ! orig9ality ( ! writ] may sugge/4 ,less abrupt1 b n less =mal1 end+s are3 ,) be/ reg>ds1 ,i am1 etc42 ,) k9de/ reg>ds1 ,i rema91 etc42 ,believe me ,v s9c]ely y\rs4 ,= intimate lett]s ei!r to relatives or fri5ds no specifi$ sugge/ions are ne$$4 ,! ord9>y =m1 ,y\r affectionate daught]1 or niece1 etc41 may1 h[ev]1 be employ$1 9 de>? ( special inspiration4 ,di/9ction is sometimes made betwe5 bus9ess & social lett]s by ! position ( ,y\rs1--x be+ plac$ be=e ! adv]b 9 social correspond5ce1 & aft] 9 bus9ess4 ,! tone ( ! lett] may be left to guide 9 ?is matt]4 ,!re is an abruptness always some:at unpleasant 9 ! use ( ! adv]b alone4 ,make ! beg9n+ & end+ ( a lett] ! same 9 degree ( cordiality4 ,d n beg9 =mally ,my de> ,madam1 & end ,cordially y\rs4 ,e lett] %\ld be sign$ ) ! full "n ( ! writ]4 ,a possible exception might be made ( ^? address$ to memb]s ( "o's own family1 :]e ! use ( ! ,*ri/ian "n only w\ld mean no ambiguity1 or :]e ! sign+ ( ! surname gives a t\* ( =mality4 ,x is well1 h[ev]1 to rememb] t lett]s plac$ 9 ! po/ take ! *ances ( =tune1 &1 ) ! pla9e/ ( addresses1 may1 by ! abs5ce ( ! p]son or = "s o!r cause1 br+ up 9 ! ,dead-,lett] ,(fice4 ,_! resurrection !re w dep5d ^u _! conta9+ ! full "n ( ! s5d] z well z 8 address4 ,if a lett] is valuable en\gh to s5d1 x is valuable en\gh to sign1 ev5 if ! signature be d\ble1--fir/ ! famili> or giv5 "n1 & !n1 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]1 ! full "n4 ,x is well to use always ! "n :i* is y\r legal signature4 ,?is w prev5t confusion1 & =e/all ! possibility ( y\r putt+1 f =ce ( habit1 ! wrong =m ( y\r "n ^u a legal docum5t4 ,x is well to write "o's "n 9 full4 ,?ree complete names are none too _m = individual di/9ction 9 s cr[d$ a _w z is ours4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! middle "o is repres5t$ by an initial only1 always write x uni=mly4 ,x is bett]1 if ! =m ) initial only has n become really e/abli%$1 to use ! full "n1 al?\gh x may be long4 ,! =m ( "o's signature & ! /yle ( ! h&writ+ soon become habitual4 ,!re=e1 e ef=t %\ld be made to make & keep x legible4 ,an illegible signature is unp>donable1--save p]haps on a page at ! top ( :i* a pr9t$ or engrav$ lett]head gives ! "n 9 full4 ,!re is1 h[ev]1 ! dang] t ! writ] ( ! illegible signature w sometime sign 8 "n on a legal docum5t1 or a %eet n be>+ 8 lett]head1 & ! signature /& = no?+4 ,lett]s ( ,introduction ,a lett] ( introduction %\ld nev] be reque/$4 ,if x is (f]$ x is a sign ( great reg>d4 ,if x is greatly desir$1 x might be well to acqua9t ! p]son1 9 ^: p[] x is to (f] x1 ) ! circum/ances & int]e/s :i* make x desirable1 b nev] to d m ?an ?is4 ,! advisability ( giv+ lett]s ( introduction dep5ds ^u ! circum/ances4 ,betwe5 bus9ess acqua9tances & = bus9ess purposes1 x is a common =m ( e/abli%+ connection among v>i\s int]e/s1 &1 if done ) discrim9ation1 is to be approv$4 ,x %\ld1 h[ev]1 ev5 9 bus9ess be done sp>+ly1 z x is a matt] ( p]sonal fri5d%ip1 usually1 & z no "o has a "r to make num]\s or exact+ dem&s ^u "o's fri5ds4 ,socially x is a matt] ( great delicacy1 & %\ld h ev5 m re/rictions put ^u x ?an does ! introduction 9 company4 ,= ! writt5 introduction is us$ because di/ance prev5ts ! p]sonal "o1 & t usually ?r[s ! recipi5t ( su* a lett] into ! position ( ho/ to ! travel] or newcom]1 or at lea/ ( b5efactor to "s degree4 ,x places ^u him an obligation n involv$ 9 ! v]bal introduction1 & ! presumption is t he is to d "s favor1 or %[ "s special att5tion4 ,lett]s ( introduction may be explanatory or brief4 ,brevity is pref]able1 b circum/ances mu/ det]m9e4 ,a visit+ c>d is (t5 us$ ) ! words ,introduc+ ,mr4 ,allan ,gold+ to ,mr4 ,morris1 or simil> =m1 writt5 across ! top4 ,! c>d %\ld be enclos$ 9 a small envelope & left unseal$4 ,a brief =m ( lett] simply says3 ,p]mit me to introduce to y\r favorable notice ,mr4 ,silas ,em]son4 ,a m explicit =m w\ld be a lett] ! body ( :i* w\ld resemble ! foll[+3 ,! be>]1 ,mr4 ,m>k ,w4 ,all51 :o is an old fri5d & neighbor ( m9e1 repres5ts ! ,altmann ,irrigation ,company1 & is desir\s ( obta9+ in=mation 9 reg>d to ! sy/em ( wat]ways lately put into y\r c\nty4 ,kn[+ y\r influ5tial position 9 reg>d to all matt]s ( public int]e/1 ,i h s5t him to y 9 ! hope t y may be able to put him 9 t\* ) ! p :o w give him ! desir$ in=mation4 ,any favor t y may d ,mr4 ,all51 or any c\rtesy t y may ext5d to him1 w be deeply appreciat$ by me4 ,a purely social lett] ( introduction w\ld say 9 sub/ance3 ,mrs4 ,ar?ur ,l4 ,we/more1 :o pres5ts ?is lett] to y1 is an intimate & *]i%$ fri5d ( m9e1 & "o :om ,i "k y w\ld desire to meet4 ,%e is to sp5d "s little "t 9 y\r city1 & any c\rtesy t y may d h] ,i %all deeply appreciate4 ,i h told h] ( our fri5d%ip1 & %e kn[s h[ highly ,i value y1 & is eag] to meet y4 ,:5 a lett] ( introduction is giv51 x is well to write ! receiv] conc]n+ ! fri5d :o w pres5t x1 t he may n be tak5 unaw>es1 nor cont9ue long ignorant ( ! claims ( t fri5d ^u him4 ,a g5tleman usually pres5ts su* a lett] by call+ 9 p]son & s5d+ 9 ! lett]1 toge!r ) "o ( 8 p]sonal c>ds1 by ! s]vant :o answ]s ! bell1 or by ! (fice boy4 ,a lady usually mails ! lett] & "o ( h] c>ds giv+ h] address4 ,%e %\ld receive an ackn[l$gm5t ) a call or (f] ( hospitality )9 a day or two4 ,a p]son :o makes use ( a lett] ( introduction %\ld ackn[l$ge to ! giv] ! c\rtesy he has receiv$1 ) due gratitude4 ,lett]s ( ,recomm5dation ,lett]s ( recomm5dation %\ld be sp>+ly giv54 ,x is becom+ less & less important1 9 ! m9ds ( exp]i5c$ employ]s1 to dem& ref]5ces4 ,! p]sonality ( ! applicant c\nts1 & ! v>y+ traits :i* diff]5t positions cultivate make ! exp]i5ces ( ! pa/ ( b little guidance1 save 9 a broad & g5]al way4 ,! giv+ ( recomm5dations at r&om1 ,to :om x may conc]n1 is also less done ?an =m]ly1 z !re is su* unc]ta9ty 9 reg>d to _! use4 ,in/ead ( ?is1 ! s]vant is told t %e may use ! =m] mi/ress's "n z ref]5ce4 ,! new1 w\ld-be employ] !n writes a note ( inquiry to ! =m] employ]4 ,9 reply+ to su* a note great consci5ti\sness %\ld be %[n4 ,full ju/ice %\ld be done ! s]vant4 ,only ! tru? %\ld be told1 & z mu* ( x z a g5]\s he>t & wise consci5ce1 c\pl$ ) a s5se ( responsibility t[>d ! inquir]1 p]mit4 ,^! lett]s %\ld be brief & n effusive on any po9t1 nor evasive ( ! issue at /ake4 ,nev] write to ano!r1 ask+ = in=mation1 or a favor ( any k9d1 )\t enclos+ a /amp$ & address$ envelope = reply4 ,?ird-p]son ,lett]s ,lett]s are writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son 9 answ] to =mal invitations s word$1 & 9 correspond5ce betwe5 p b slightly acqua9t$ or kn[n to ea* o!r only by reputation1 p]sons n social equals1 & by tradespeople & _! patrons4 ,great c>e %\ld be tak5 to pres]ve ! imp]sonal diction ?r\gh\t ! lett]1 & to refra9 f sign+ x4 ,! tone %\ld always be =mal & v polite4 ,an ord] may take ! =m ( a reque/1 z ,w ,mr4 ,su!rl& please 4 4 4 & oblige1 ) ! signature ( ! writ]4 ,in=mal ,invitations & ,ann\ncem5ts ,9 invit+ a fri5d to visit y1 x is cu/om>y to m5tion ! l5g? ( ! visit1 sett+ a def9ite date = x & limit to x4 ,?is makes x possible = bo? ho/ess & gue/ to arrange o!r engagem5ts4 ,a "t-table ( ! tra9s1 if ! gue/ comes f ! di/ance1 ) an acc\nt ( ! trolley l9es1 if f ne> at h&1 %\ld be enclos$4 ,! engagem5t ( a daught] may be ann\nc$ by in=mal notes to "o's :ole circle ( fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,! foll[+ =m ( note may s]ve z a sugge/ion3 ,i am sure t y w jo9 our h\sehold 9 sympa?y ) ,eleanor 9 h] happ9ess :5 ,i tell y t %e has j ann\nc$ h] engagem5t to ,mr4 ,h>old ,f>nham1 a man ( :om h] fa!r & ,i ?or\ghly approve4 ,! w$d+ w n take place = "s mon?s1 b felicitations are 9 ord]4 ,lett]s ( ,condol5ce ,a lett] ( condol5ce %\ld be %ort & q s9c]e1 or else ! c\rte\s cu/om ( s5d+ x is m honor$ 9 ! brea* ?an 9 ! obs]vance4 ,su* lett]s %\ld be s5t v promptly4 ,to expatiate to any ext5t :atev] ^u ! b]eavem5t is he>tless or ?\ghtless1 & z !re is no dang] ( ambiguity1 ! lett] does n ne$ to acc\nt = itself 9 any way4 ,! foll[+ lett] is z explicit z any lett] ( condol5ce ne$ ev] be1 & ! second =m is pref]able1 unless great intimacy makes ! less abrupt "o p]missible4 ,,de> ,,mr4 ,,legr[3 ,i h read ( y\r b]eavem5t ) ! deepe/ sorr[4 ,i _c tell y h[ fully ,i sympa?ize ) y & y\r *ildr51 or h[ my he>t a*es = y 9 y\r lonel9ess4 ,may y h /r5g? & grace to be> up "u ! great loss y h su/a9$4 ,s9c]ely y\rs1 ,,m>g>et ,,edel/one4 ,,de> ,,mrs4 ,,hilcox3 ,y h my deepe/ sympa?y4 ,ev] cordially y\rs1 ,,mildr$ ,,hasselt9e4 ,answ]+ ,lett]s ,bus9ess lett]s %\ld be answ]$ by return mail1 z %\ld also all invitations to d9n] or lun*eon4 ,all invitations %\ld be answ]$ )9 a day if possible1 because delay looks l a reluctance to accept4 ,!y %\ld c]ta9ly be answ]$1 ei!r p]sonally or by lett]1 )9 a week aft] ! invitation is receiv$4 ,fri5dly lett]s %\ld h su* promptness ( response z circum/ances & ! intimacy ( ! fri5d%ip dem&4 ,notes ( congratulation & felicitation %\ld be s5t promptly aft] receiv+ ! c>d or note ann\ncem5t ( an engagem5t or a bir?1 & 9 ! latt] case at lea/1 %\ld be foll[$ by a call4 ,a p]sonal visit+ c>d1 ) ! words ,?ank y = sympa?y writt5 ov] ! "n1 is suffici5t ackn[l$gm5t ( lett]s ( condol5ce4 ,to v intimate fri5ds1 h[ev]1 ! spontane\s note ( ?anks w\ld be m c\rte\s4 ,z x is almo/ impossible1 at su* a "t1 to att5d to matt]s ( social int]c\rse1 ! s5d+ ( ! c>d is always p]missible1 & c occasion no (f5se1 ev5 if ! m intimate ackn[l$gm5t 0 hop$ =4 ,,*apt] ,v ,,casual ,,meet+s ,,& ,,calls ,greet+s & ,recognitions ,,! b[ & ! h&%ake are ! accept$ =ms ( greet+ 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates to-day4 ,! b[ v>ies f a v slight incl9ation ( ! head1 z "o g5tleman passes ano!r1 or f ! quick t\*+ ( ! hat ) ! h&1 9 a sort ( rem9isc5ce ( ! milit>y salute1 to ! v>i\s degrees ( elaborate b[ :i* savors ( ,european c]emonial c\rtesy4 ,! usual =m is a b5d+ ( ! head & %\ld]s1 ) ! eyes kept on ^? ( ! p]son greet$1 ! hat be+ remov$ f ! head & held 9 ! "r h& dur+ ! b[1--:i* is at once brief1 def]5tial1 & dignifi$4 ,x may be accompani$ by ! h&%ake1 9 :i* case ! hat is lift$ by ! left h&4 ,! degree ( ! dep? ( ! b[ is usually spontane\s1 det]m9$ by ! def]5ce felt1 or ! emotions :i* ! meet+ may summon4 ,x is useless to b[ l[ to conceal scorn or real disda91 = !y are sure to reveal !mselves 9 ! artificiality ( ! pose1 or 9 ! c>riage ( ! %\ld]s1 or 9 ! movem5t ( an eyela%1 & usually nobody is deceiv$4 ,! correct position = an extreme b[ is ) ! feet ne> toge!r1 ! legs /raight1 & ! entire body incl9$ f ! hips4 ,?is is some:at too extreme = common use1 & %\ld be modifi$ always 9 public1 ! less elaborate b[ be+ mu* pref]able ^u ! /reet or 9 public places4 ,a woman b[s m erectly ?an a man does1 & gives p]haps z cordial an impression by ! great] expressiv5ess ( h] greet+1 :i* %\ld always be *>act]i/ic1 & nev] me*anical1 or 9 imitation ( o!rs1 ^: natural traits may be f> diff]5t1 h[ev] admirable %e may consid] _! /yle to be4 ,x is only :5 %e meets "s "o h] s5ior1 or 9 mu* m important social position1 or "o :om %e specially delights to honor1 t %e elaborates h] b[1 or curtsies if n 9 public & if ! occasion admit ( ! =mality4 ,a lady %\ld be /raight=w>d 9 h] greet+1 nev] condesc5d+ to ! coquetti% mann]ism ( lett+ ! eyes fall dur+ ! b[4 ,%e %\ld s9k h] p]sonal consci\sness 9 ! fact ( meet+ ano!r1 & %\ld n intrude x into ! intellectual int]e/ ( su* a meet+4 ,! h&%ake is accompli%$ by ext5d+ ! "r h& horizontally f ! elb[ & clasp+1 betwe5 ! clos$ f\r f+]s & ?umb ( ! h&1 ! clos$ f\r f+]s ( ! fri5d's "r h&1 !n quietly %ak+ x4 ,?is is sometimes v>i$ by lift+ ! clasp$ h&s1--n ! elb[1--to ! height ( ! %\ld]s1 & !re mildly %ak+ !m1 or clasp+ !m ) a slight pressure & lett+ !m drop1--/yles savor+ ( affectation4 ,! impulse prompt+ ! h&%ake1--t ( gett+ toge!r 9 intimate p]sonal greet+1--is accompli%$ :5 ! clasp is end$1 & vigor\s & prolong$ %ak+1 or special pressure1 or cont9u$ hold+ ( ! h&1 are all alike unp>donable4 ,! b[ is ! lea/ sign ( recognition1 & may mean little or mu*1 b its significance is kn[n only to ! two conc]n$4 ,:ile x is p]missible 9 public places to make its cordiality1 or lack ( x1 app>5t1 x is n p]missible to greet fell[ gue/s at any private social function ) ei!r m or less ?an a uni=m & imp>tial c\rtesy4 ,! b[ does n mean t "o has a call+ acqua9tance4 ,x may mean only a casual k ( "o ano!r's exi/5ce1 due to "s brief com+ toge!r4 ,int5tionally to neglect to b[1 aft] a b[+ acqua9tance has once be5 e/abli%$1 is an op5 affront1 & d5otes ei!r extreme rud5ess or veil$ insult4 ,! dropp+ ( an acqua9tance by refusal to recognize1 may1 9 our complicat$ social sy/em1 sometimes be necess>y1 b x is only ju/ifi$ by ! necessity = society to safegu>d itself aga9/ "s ( ! m flagrant social abuses4 ,x is a woman's privilege1 9 meet+ a man :om %e kn[s1 to b[ fir/4 ,inde$1 ! man always waits = h] to d s1 unless he is a v intimate fri5d4 ,a woman %\ld always be sure1 be=e b[+ to a man1 t %e kn[s him & t %e has caught 8 eye4 ,:5 a g5tleman is walk+ ) a lady1 he lifts 8 hat :5 %e b[s to an acqua9tance1 ev5 if ! p]son is n kn[n to him4 ,s1 also1 :5 he is alone & meets a man :om he kn[s1 :o is 9 ! company ( a lady1 he lifts 8 hat4 ,:51 walk+ ) a lady1 he meets a g5tleman :om he kn[s1 he removes 8 hat4 ,:5 a g5tleman meets a p>ty ( ladies or /ops to speak ) "o only1 x is cu/om>y = him to reta9 8 hat 9 8 h& until %e reque/s him to replace x4 ,?is is done ) social sup]iors & to %[ great respect1 be+ m c]emonial ?an f9ds common acceptance among ,am]icans4 ,:5 he is ) a g5tleman :o b[s to a lady1 he also lifts 8 hat4 ,x is prop] = him to lift ! hat :5 (f]+ any c\rtesy to a lady1 ev5 ?\gh a total /rang]1 & ^u leav+ a lady ) :om he or a p]son accompany+ him has be5 talk+4 ,x is well to return a b[ :i* is direct$ to y1 ev5 if y d n "k ! "o b[+4 ,?is (t5 saves consid]able emb>rassm5t to ! "o :o has = ! mom5t mi/ak5 y = "s "o else4 ,:5 pass+ be=e ladies seat$ 9 a lecture hall1 or conc]t1 a g5tleman always asks _! p>don = tr\bl+ !m4 ,9 pass+ or repass+ on ! /reet or prom5ade1 a s+le b[ is suffici5t recognition1 ev5 ?\gh y may meet an acqua9tance sev]al times4 ,a lady1 receiv+ 9 h] own home1 %akes h&s ) ! /rang] ) ! same cordiality z ) ! fri5d4 ,a g5tleman :5 greet+ a lady nev] takes ! initiative 9 h&-%ak+4 ,if a lady (f]s h] h&1 h[ev]1 x w\ld be v rude inde$ = a g5tleman n to accept ! c\rtesy4 ,p]sons :o h met at ! h\se ( a mutual fri5d1 b h n be5 introduc$1 are "u no obligation to b[ :5 !y meet else:]e aft]w>d1 & usually d n4 ,:5 a man passes a lady on a /aircase1 9 ! corridor ( a hotel1 9 ! elevator ( a private ap>tm5t h\se1 or 9 ! public rooms ( a hotel1 he lifts 8 hat al?\gh %e may be a /rang]4 ,?is rule does n prevail on ! /aircases & 9 ! corridors ( (fice build+s1 ) ! exception1 p]haps1 ( banks & su* (fices z p ( weal? frequ5t2 = a new f95ess ( c\rtesy has made m5 feel t1 z wom5 are w9n+ an equality ( position 9 ! bus9ess field1 a delicate way ( recogniz+ t equality is by giv+ !m a comradely def]5ce r ?an pay+ !m ! social att5tions4 ,ano!r m>k$ expression ( ?is is 9 ! fact t a bus9ess man1 :5 walk+ on ! /reet ) a bus9ess woman1 does n int]rupt _! conv]sation by *ang+ sides ) h] 9 ord] to keep con/antly on ! outside ( ! walk4 ,an indication ( ! two k9ds ( c\rtesy1 social & bus9ess1 is (t5 grotesquely %[n :5 a woman 9 social life1 p]haps ! wife ( "o ( ! m5 pres5t1 ent]s an (fice :]e !re are bo? m5 & wom5 ( equal bus9ess importance & social rank4 ,!re is an elaborate social c\rtesy paid to ! wife1 :o is 9 private life1 :i* w\ld n be paid1 & w\ld seem grotesque & ill-mann]$ if paid1 to ! bus9ess woman1 ev5 ?\gh %e 7 at once ! active vice presid5t ( ! corporation & wife ( ! presid5t4 ,introductions ,! usual =m ( introduction is1 ,mrs4 ,all51 may ,i pres5t ,mr4 ,br[n8 ,or1 ,mrs4 ,all51 let me pres5t ,mr4 ,br[n4 ,or1 ,mrs4 ,caldwell1 all[ me to pres5t ,colonel ,glazi]4 ,:]e1 h[ev]1 ! p]mission ne$ n be sugge/$1 & ! relative /&+ ( ! p is ! same1 ! =m may be only1 ,mrs4 ,gleason1 ,mr4 ,ansel4 ,:5 x is necess>y to introduce "o p]son to sev]al1 ! =m is1 ,mrs4 ,glad/one1 ,i want y to meet ,mrs4 ,falm\?1 ,miss ,wa%burn1 ,mr4 ,cronk%aw1 & ,mr4 ,edg]ton4 ,! "o introduc$ simply repeats ea* "n & smiles z %e greets ea* 9 turn4 ,ano!r =m mu* 9 use is1 ,miss ,hanscom1 ,i want y to "k my fri5d1 ,mr4 ,?ompson1 ! arti/1 & is pref]able because ( its def9it5ess4 ,! response to an introduction is1 ,i am happy to meet y1 or1 ,i am v glad to meet y4 ,if "o does n cat* ! "n ( ! p]son introduc$1 x is prop] to ask x1 say+1 ,p>don me1 b ,i did n und]/& ! "n4 ,introductions %\ld always be spok5 di/9ctly1 especially ! names4 ,if1 9 introduc+1 "o c add a s5t5ce :i* w give a subject ( conv]sation1 ! prelim9>ies ( acqua9tance may be spe$ily pass$1 & memorable in=mation & real pr(it be glean$ f ev5 a casual meet+4 ,x is a m>k ( intellig5ce & social in/9ct to be quick to cat* & reta9 9 memory a face & "n f ev5 a brief introduction1 & ! tacit complim5t to ! p]son s rememb]$ is apt to w9 8 favor4 ,p]sons :o h n be5 introduc$ are n consid]$ acqua9t$4 ,! exceptions to ?is rule are ! gue/s "u a common ro(1 :ile !y are !re4 ,introductions %\ld nev] be indiscrim9ately made4 ,!re %\ld be will+ness1 if n eag]ness1 on ! "p ( bo? to meet4 ,a ho/ess is1 h[ev]1 w>rant$ 9 introduc+ two p :o %e kn[s w be cong5ial1 or if !y h be=e express$ a desire to become acqua9t$4 ,if any d\bt exi/s z to h[ ! introduction w be receiv$ by ei!r1 !y %\ld n be introduc$4 ,"o %\ld nev] introduce two acqua9tances :o reside 9 ! same t[n b move 9 diff]5t social circles1 unless ea* _h desir$ ! introduction4 ,if !re is a diff]5ce ( /ation or age1 !n x is necess>y only to ask ! old] or m prom95t p]son :e!r ! introduction w\ld be acceptable4 ,?is %\ld be done quietly1 & q out ( he>+ or k ( ! o!r p]son conc]n$4 ,a g5tleman %\ld ask a mutual fri5d = an introduction to a lady :om he wi%es to meet4 ,unless !re is no possible objection1 ! mutual fri5d %\ld n introduce ! g5tleman until he has made sure t ! lady is will+4 ,x is n well to introduce g5tlem5 to "o ano!r indiscrim9ately1 nor %\ld ladies be s introduc$4 ,"o wi%es to keep ! b\nd>ies ( "o's acqua9tance )9 c]ta9 def9ite limits1 & *oice is easi] made be=e acqua9tance ?an aft]4 ,s1 "o %[s great c>e 9 (f]+ introductions to o!rs1 & ex]cises ! same c>e = "o's self4 ,if a ho/ess & h] gue/ are out walk+ toge!r1 ! ho/ess w\ld introduce to h] gue/ e fri5d :o happ5$ to /op & speak ) h]1 & ! gue/1 %\ld %e meet acqua9tances ( h] own1 w\ld introduce ea* ( !m to h] ho/ess4 ,?is is practically ! only case :]e indiscrim9ate introduc+ is good =m1 & "h ! obligations ( hospitality safegu>d x4 ,a lady usually (f]s h] h& to a g5tleman :o has be5 introduc$ to h]1 b a b[1 a smile1 & a repetition ( ! "n are all t is necess>y :]e sev]al introductions are be+ made1 z at a l>ge reception or danc+ p>ty4 ,a g5tleman always (f]s 8 h& to ano!r g5tleman on be+ introduc$4 ,an eld]ly lady may (f] h] h& 9 all introductions ) p]fect propriety4 ,if1 :ile walk+ out ) a fri5d1 y meet ano!r1 d n introduce ! two4 ,a transi5t meet+ is ( no p>ticul> mom5t to !m1 & _! fri5d%ip or acqua9tance ) y is n necess>ily ( /rong en\gh int]e/ to make !m desire acqua9tance4 ,if1 h[ev]1 y meet at "s public place1 & are deta9$ !re toge!r = sev]al m9utes1 !n ! introduction %\ld be giv54 ,:5 meet+ at ! h\se ( a mutual acqua9tance1 fri5ds may introduce fri5ds1 b x is pref]able to leave ! introductions to ! ho/ess4 ,x is no long] necess>y to introduce ea* gue/ to ev]ybody else at a p>ty4 ,introductions are made z opportunity or necessity may dictate4 ,?is aboli%+ ( promiscu\s & :olesale introductions relieves two v emb>rass+ situations1--t ( be+ introduc$ by ann\ncem5t to a :ole roomful ( p1 & t ( be+ tak5 ar\nd & introduc$ to !m s+ly4 ,a "m may pres5t h] son1 or a si/] h] bro!r1 or a wife h] husb&1 if %e s desires1 )\t any "q z to ! propriety ( x4 ,a man %\ld n1 on ! o!r h&1 introduce ano!r man to 8 wife1 or a son or bro!r make a pres5tation ( a man to 8 "m or si/]1 unless he kn[s t su* acqua9tance c\ld n b be agreeable to ! lady1 & unless x meets ) 8 own approval4 ,= x is a man's place always to safegu>d a woman aga9/ undesirable acqua9tances4 ,a woman1 9 introduc+ h] husb&1 gives him 8 title1 if he has "o1 z ,judge ,h>twell1 ,doctor ,foley4 ,! wife ( ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates speaks ( him only z ,! ,presid5t1 & 9 pres5t+ p to him1 he is always address$ z ,mr4 ,presid5t1 ) ! inv>iable omission ( 8 surname4 ,a fri5d or acqua9tance1 no matt] h[ di/+ui%$1 is always pres5t$ to "o's fa!r or "m or "o's intimate relative1 :]e ! intimacy ( ! relation makes an honor m di/+ui%+1 9 ! m9d ( ! introduc]1 ?an any ( reputation or position4 ,a "y man %\ld be introduc$ to an old] man1 a "y woman to an old] woman4 ,a man is always pres5t$ to a woman1 nev] ! rev]se4 ,if a lady is seat$ & a man is pres5t$ to h]1 %e ne$ n rise4 ,if two ladies1 bo? seat$1 are introduc$ to ea* o!r1 !y %\ld rise1 unless "o is old or an invalid1 9 :i* case bo? rema9 seat$4 ,two g5tlem51 ?\gh bo? are seat$1 rise & %ake h&s :5 introduc$4 ,a "y lady always rises :5 an eld]ly p]son is introduc$4 ,introductions are n made at table4 ,! gue/s at a d9n] p>ty %\ld be pres5t$ to "o ano!r 9 ! draw+-room be=e com+ to ! table1 & if t is impossible1 z _m %\ld be introduc$ z may be1 especially ^? :o are to sit beside or ne> or opposite ea* o!r4 ,if "o is seat$ beside a gue/ :om he has n met1 ! man takes ! initiative 9 speak+ a few words z soon z he takes 8 seat1 to :i* ! lady responds always cordially1 keep+ up m or less ( a conv]sation dur+ ! d9n]4 ,at danc+ p>ties all ^? :o are giv+ ! p>ty1 z well z all ! u%]s & ^? :o receive1 make introductions z g5]al z possible1 s z to insure ! pleasure ( ! gue/s dur+ ! ev5+4 ,an introduction at a dance c>ries ) x ! obligation on ! "p ( ! man to ask ! woman = a dance1 & on h] "p to grant 8 reque/ unless h] c>d is full4 ,:5 travel+ great c>e %\ld be tak5 z to introductions4 ,z a gue/ "o %\ld be ready & will+ to meet any "o :om 8 ho/ or ho/ess may introduce1 ev5 ?\gh x be an enemy4 ,! obligations ( hospitality re/ n[h]e m heavily ?an 9 ?is matt]4 ,!y dem& t imp>tial c\rtesy %\ld be %[n to e "o4 ,calls ,calls mu/ be made 9 p]son1 r ?an by c>d left by mess5g] or po/1 aft] an invitation to d9n]1 lun*eon1 supp]1 or simil> function1 & t )9 a week or1 at f>!/1 two weeks ( ! date ( ! affair4 ,"o %\ld also call 9 p]son )9 two weeks ( any ent]ta9m5t to :i* "o has be5 ask$1 especially if "o has att5d$4 ,"o ne$ repay =mal calls1 :]e no invitation to any social occasion has be5 receiv$1 only once a ye>4 ,ev5 9 ?is case1 c>ds may be s5t by mail4 ,9 ! c\ntry x is usual to g 9 p]son1 ?\gh "o does n ask if ! lady ( ! h\se is at home4 ,calls %\ld be made ^u ! ,at ,home day1 if "o is engrav$ ^u ! c>d4 ,if a p]son is ill1 a ne> relative1 or intimate fri5d1 may leave a c>d = h] at ! h\se ( ! fri5d ^u :om %e wi%$ to call4 ,society holds "y p :o are free to att5d p>ties & ent]ta9m5ts "u /]n obligation to pay _! social calls4 ,"y mo!rs1 pr(essional wom51 /ud5ts1 invalids1 & semi-invalids are n expect$ to con=m rigidly to ! same rules4 ,if a "y woman c g to a p>ty to amuse h]self1 %e mu/ call aft]w>ds to ackn[l$ge ! c\rtesy ( ! invitation4 ,if a "m _c call 9 p]son1 h] daught] or "s "o else may pay ! necess>y calls 9 h] /ead4 ,or %e may invite ! p :om %e w\ld o!rwise call on1 to an aft]noon tea1 :i* is m ( a complim5t ?an a call4 ,9 call+ at a h\se1 %\ld ! door be op5$ by a memb] ( ! family1 ! call] does n pres5t h] c>d to ! lady or g5tleman1 b /eps 91 ask+ = ! p]son :om %e wants to see4 ,%e may leave h] c>d unobtrusively on ! table :5 %e goes out4 ,if a maid op5s ! door1 ! c>d is h&$ to h] & receiv$ on a small tray4 ,no well-tra9$ maid ev] ext5ds h] h& to receive a visit+ c>d4 ,if a call] wi%es to be v =mal1 %e leaves a c>d = e lady 9 ! family on :om %e wi%es to call4 ,9 ! beg9n+ ( ! season a wife always leaves h] husb&'s c>d ) h] own1 & %e usually does ?is also :5 mak+ a call at ! close ( ! season4 ,an unm>ri$ woman call+ on a m>ri$ fri5d leaves only "o c>d4 ,if ! fri5d has daught]s or is ent]ta9+ a gue/1 a c>d may be left = ea*4 ,a lady always rises to receive a visitor4 ,x takes good judgm5t to "k :5 to g1 b x %\ld be cultivat$ & practis$4 ,l+]+ 9 tak+ "o's leave is a great we>9ess1 to "o's ho/ess if n to "o's self4 ,aft] a bir? calls are made ^u ! "m aft] ! *ild is a mon? old4 ,aft] a dea? ! fri5ds ( ! family %\ld call 9 p]son inside ( a mon?4 ,! memb]s ( ! family d n receive !m1 h[ev]1 unless !y wi% to d s4 ,social ,calls ( ,m5 ,a man nev] c>ries or leaves ! c>ds ( o!r m51 nor c he leave c>ds = any ( ! wom5 ( 8 family4 ,a g5tleman :o calls on a lady's aft]noon at home leaves 9 ! c>d tray1 on ent]+ ! h\se1 a c>d = 8 ho/ess & "o = 8 ho/4 ,! c>d = 8 ho/ mu/ be left1 ev5 if t g5tleman does n appe> 9 ! draw+-room1 provid$ ! call] is acqua9t$ ) him1 & provid+ he is call+ 9 ackn[l$gm5t ( "s hospitality rec5tly receiv$4 ,if !re is a ho/1 ho/ess1 & "y lady daught] 9 ! h\se1 & ! call] is a fri5d ( ! latt]1 he leaves ?ree c>ds4 ,! man :o is mak+ 8 fir/ or la/ call = ! season on ! regul> aft]noon at home1 leaves "o c>d = ea* ( ! ladies1 & ea* "o ( ! m5 ( ! h\sehold ^: acqua9tance he c claim4 ,:5 a man calls on a lady's day at home1 & 8 call has no ref]5ce to any social debts1 he leaves only "o c>d 9 ! tray4 ,if he is some:at intimate 9 ! h\se :]e ! call is paid1 he leaves no c>d at all4 ,a man does n call ^u a woman unless %e invites him1 or "s memb] ( h] family does1 or he goes ) a mutual fri5d :o has made sure ( 8 welcome4 ,a woman may say to a man1 ,"m & ,i are usually at home ,fridays1 & w\ld l to h y call1 or "s o!r =m ( invitation :i* d5otes cordiality4 ,a man :o desires to call 9 p>ticul> ^u "o lady1 9 a family :]e !re are sev]al1 h&s 8 c>d to ! s]vant ) ! words1 ,please give ?is to ,miss ,curley1 & ,i w\ld l to see all ! o!r ladies also4 ,! ladies appe> & greet him1 )draw+ t he may call ^u ! "o he especially wi%$ to see4 ,if call+ ^u a gue/ 9 a home1 y always ask = ! ho/ess also4 ,a man reta9s 8 hat1 gloves1 & walk+ /ick 9 h& dur+ a =mal call1 ?\gh he may h left 8 ov]coat 9 ! hall4 ,fir/ ,calls ,9 ,am]ica x is ! usual cu/om = resid5ts ( ! city or t[n to call fir/ ^u newcom]s4 ,wa%+ton is a well-kn[n exception to ?is rule1 z /rang]s !re call fir/ ^u gov]nm5t (ficials & _! families4 ,9 mo/ ,european cities newcom]s call fir/ ^u ^? already 9 resid5ce4 ,! resid5ts1 f ! (ficials d[n1 return _! c>ds1 & ! visitor or newcom] receives invitations to social functions4 ,9 practice ! resid5t does n usually "k any?+ ab\t ! /rang]1 & may n h ev5 he>d ( h] arrival4 ,sometimes ! newcom] s5ds out c>ds = sev]al days 9 a mon?1 to ^? ) :om %e w\ld l to become acqua9t$4 ,if %e c enclose ! c>d ( a mutual fri5d1 z a sil5t v\*] = h] social /&+1 h] position is m quickly & m surely grant$ h]4 ,cl]gym5 & _! families1 brides1 & p]sons ( note are entitl$ to receive fir/ calls4 ,! old] resid5ts ( ! community are expect$ to lead 9 ! li/ ( call]s :o welcome ! newcom]s4 ,fir/ calls %\ld be promptly return$1 )9 a week at ! v late/4 ,a m>ri$ woman mak+ a fir/ call ^u a m>ri$ fri5d s5ds "o ( h] own & two ( h] husb&'s c>ds to h] new acqua9tance4 ,,*apt] ,,vi ,,! ,,p]sonal ,,c>d ,,& ,,! ,,engrav$ ,,invitation ,=m ( ,c>d ,a ,,man',s c>d is usually "o & a half by ?ree in*es 9 size1 & made ( fairly /iff bri/ol bo>d4 ,a woman's c>d is usually ab\t two & ?ree-sixte5?s by ?ree in*es1 & made ( dull-f9i%1 f9e1 m$ium-weight bri/ol bo>d4 ,! color ( c>ds is a f9e pe>l :ite4 ,cream or t9t$ c>ds are nev] 9 good =m4 ,! engrav+ v>ies f pla9 script to elaborate ,old ,engli% text1 or %ad$ ,roman type1 accord+ to ! fa%ion4 ,! engrav] may be tru/$ to "k ! /yle & /ock mo/ 9 use4 ,! c>d ( an unm>ri$ lady %\ld be some:at small] ?an t ( ! m>ri$4 ,?is di/9ction is made1 h[ev]1 only 9 case ( ! c>d ( ! dbutante4 ,inscription ,if !re is room across ! c>d ! full "n %\ld be engrav$4 ,if ! names are too long1 only ! initials ( giv5 names %\ld be us$4 ,all inscriptions on "o c>d %\ld be 9 ! same /yle ( type4 ,mr4 is prefix$1 unless !re is a special title1 su* z1 ,rev]5d1 ,doctor1 ,colonel1 etc4 ,if a man %\ld1 9 an em]g5cy1 write 8 own "n on a c>d1 he w\ld n prefix ! ,mr41 or any o!r title4 ,! "n %\ld be writt5 9 full & %\ld be an autograph4 ,a m>ri$ lady %\ld h h] husb&'s full "n1 or su* =m or p>ts ( x z he uses1 ) ! title ,mrs41 & n h] own "n4 ,a "y woman has ! title ,miss engrav$ be=e h] "n1 ev5 ?\gh %e be only a s*oolgirl4 ,a "y man has no title at all on 8 c>d1 b simply 8 full "n4 ,! newly m>ri$ c\ple use a c>d ) ! title ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 = ! fir/ ye> aft] m>riage1 9 return+ _! c]emoni\s calls aft] ! w$d+1 & pay+ =mal calls :5 ! husb& is unable to accompany ! wife4 ,^! c>ds %\ld h ! address 9 ! l[] "r-h& corn]1 & ! reception day or days 9 ! l[] left4 ,aft] ! fir/ ye> !y are seldom us$ 9 pay+ calls1 b c be us$ = condol5ce1 congratulation1 or f>ewell :]e bo? husb& & wife desire to be =mally repres5t$4 ,a woman :o is p]sonally di/+ui%$1 :o occupies a high social position1 or ^: husb& /&s at ! head ( 8 family1 may h only ,mrs4 ,b>naby1 n ,mrs4 ,john ,b>naby1 ^u h] c>ds4 ,x is bett]1 h[ev]1 n to d s unless "o has ! indisputable "r to be consid]$ z ! ,mrs4 ,b>naby ( ! locality4 ,x is cu/om>y = ! wife ( ! olde/ bro!r ( ! olde/ bran* ( ! family alone to h ! privilege ( ?is =m4 ,! same rule ( prec$5ce applies to s+le wom54 ,! olde/ unm>ri$ daught] ( ! olde/ bro!r1 & %e alone1 has ! "r to use ,miss ,campbell on h] c>d1 al?\gh %e may h a c\s9 :o is mu* old] ?an h]self1 b :o is ! daught] ( a y\ng] bro!r ( ! same family4 ,a wid[ has no c>ds dur+ h] ye> ( m\rn+1 z %e makes no =mal visits4 ,aft] t1 c>ds ) black bord] to any dep? desir$ may be us$4 ,a wid[ has no legal "r to reta9 h] husb&'s ,*ri/ian "n1 b %e (t5 pref]s to d s1 & x is entirely prop]1 ! "q be+ "o ( s5tim5t alone4 ,9 case !re is a m>ri$ son ( ! same "n z ! fa!r1 !n x is prop] = ! "m to put ,sr4 = ,s5ior1 at ! end ( h] "n1 %\ld %e desire /ill to reta9 h] husb&'s ,*ri/ian "n4 ,9 su* a case wid[s occasionally pref] to use _! own names or initials4 ,9 ?is c\ntry a m>ri$ woman m]ges h] "n ) t ( h] husb&4 ,x is n uncommon n[adays = m>ri$ wom5 to sign _! own ,*ri/ian "n1 _! maid5 surname1 & _! husb&'s surname z _! signature4 ,!re is value 9 ?is z x pres]ves ! family id5tity ( ! m>ri$ woman1 b ! "q ( its legality may always be rais$4 ,! "n ( daught] or daught]s is (t5 engrav$ bel[ t ( ! "m on h] c>d1 be=e ! "y woman ent]s =mally into society4 ,! =m ,! ,misses ,smi? may be us$1 or ! names giv5 sep>ately4 ,9 ,new ,york 9 "s circles ! dbutante is n giv5 a sep>ate c>d until %e has be5 9 society a ye>4 ,z ,am]ican s*oolgirls (t5 h a c>d ) ! prefix ,miss1 ! dbutante may use ?is among h] girl fri5ds4 ,to write any?+ on an engrav$ c>d except ,condol5ces1 ,congratulations1 ,p4 p4 c41 is n consid]$ good /yle1 al?\gh a lady may use h] visit+ c>d ) ,five o'clock tea1 ,music1 or a special date writt5 ^u x z an in=mal invitation to a musical or ,at ,home4 ,a bus9ess or pr(essional woman may h1 9 addition to h] society c>d1 a c>d ) h] own "n = bus9ess purposes4 ,?is usually has a ^w or two d5ot+ h] pr(ession 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]1 & h] bus9ess address 9 ! l[] "r4 ,a lady's c>d %\ld always conta9 h] home address 9 ! l[] "r-h& corn]4 ,h] aft]noon ,at ,home is usually giv5 9 ! l[] left4 ,! address is (t5 omitt$ f c>ds = m51 be+ engrav$ on ^? ( ! wom5 ( ! family4 ,m5 belong+ to a fa%ionable or well-kn[n club put its "n1 in/ead ( _! resid5ce1 on _! c>ds4 ,?is is especially ! case :5 !y d n live at home4 ,if liv+ at a club1 ! address is put on ! l[] left-h& corn]2 if liv+ at home1 ! l[] "r-h& corn]4 ,on a man's bus9ess c>ds ! title ,mr4 is omitt$1 ! "n ( 8 firm1 _! bus9ess1 & address1 be+ engrav$ 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]4 ,titles ,titles :i* signify p]man5t rank1 or pr(ession t la/s = life1 & :i* are alli$ to a man's id5tity or di/9ctly be> ^u 8 social /&+1 %\ld be us$4 ,tempor>y titles1 :i* h no special social rank or be>+1 or pr(essional titles1 su* z ,esquire = lawy]s1 :i* h no social significance1 are n us$4 ,= ! same reason t tempor>y or te*nical titles are n us$1 honor>y titles are omitt$4 ,!re %\ld be no pret5se 9 reg>d to social position1 z pret5se is easy & futile4 ,a man appe>s 9 society simply z an ord9>y individual1 to w9 favor & position by =ce ( 8 p]sonality1 or to lose x !reby4 ,an army or a naval (fic]1 a physician1 a judge1 or a cl]gyman may use 8 title on 8 c>d1 z1 = in/ance1 ,capta9 ,james ,smi?1 ,judge ,h5ry ,gray1 ,rev4 ,?omas ,jones1 ,d4 ,d4 ,! c>d ( an ,associate ,ju/ice ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates ,supreme ,c\rt at ,wa%+ton reads ,mr4 ,ju/ice ,holmes4 ,milit>y or complim5t>y titles are n us$1 nor are coats ( arms4 ,9 ?is republican c\ntry x is consid]$ an affectation & bad ta/e s to make use ( !m4 ,political & judicial titles are also omitt$1 z are academic titles1 su* z ,*ancellor1 ,dean1 & ,pr(essor4 ,no title bel[ ! rank ( ,capta9 is us$ on ! c>d 9 milit>y circles4 ,a lieut5ant's c>d w\ld give 8 full "n ) ! prefix ,mr4 & bel[ x ! words1 ,lieut5ant ( ,fif? ,cavalry1 ,unit$ ,/ates ,army1 or simply1 ,unit$ ,/ates ,coa/ ,gu>d ,s]vice4 ,use ,! etiquette ( ! visit+ c>d is a fluctuat+ "o4 ,x _c be laid d[n = all "t1 or ev5 = next season4 ,on ent]+ at a reception1 or aft]noon tea1 "o leaves a c>d 9 ! salv] (f]$ by ! butl] or att5dant :o op5s ! door1 or ^u ! hall table1 z a rem9d] to ! ho/ess1 :o c h>dly be expect$ to rememb]1 if ent]ta9+ a l>ge numb]1 e "o :o has be5 !re4 ,"o does n leave c>ds at a w$d+ reception1 h[ev]4 ,at an aft]noon tea1 x is no long] necess>y to leave a c>d apiece f all ! memb]s ( ! invit$ families to all ! memb]s ( ! family ( ! ho/ess & h] gue/s also4 ,! s+le c>d = ! ho/ & ho/ess is all t is requir$4 ,%\ld "o be invit$ to a s]ies ( receptions1 "o leaves c>ds only once al?\gh "o may att5d twice4 ,leav+ c>ds 9 p]son aft] a tea or reception is good =m only = c]emoni\s affairs4 ,aft] ! usual private reception "o %\ld c]ta9ly call4 ,if only "o memb] ( a family c att5d a reception to :i* ! o!rs h be5 invit$1 %e may leave ! c>ds ( ! o!rs1 toge!r ) h] own1 ) p]fect propriety4 ,also :5 "o is n able to att5d a reception or an aft]noon tea1 c>ds may be s5t by mail1 al?\gh x is bett] to s5d !m by mess5g]1 to arrive on ! day ( ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,"o %\ld call )9 a =tnight4 ,x is n n[ consid]$ necess>y to call 9 p]son :]e =m]ly x 0 s held4 ,! s5d+ ( ! p]sonal c>d (t5 takes ! place ( ! call4 ,nor ne$ ?is be done by mess5g]4 ,c>ds = any purpose may n[ be s5t by mail4 ,aft] remov+ f "o "p ( ! city to ano!r1 x is cu/om>y = ladies to s5d engrav$ c>ds ) _! new address & ) _! reception day to all ( _! circle ( acqua9tances4 ,a woman :o is /opp+ = a brief "t 9 a city :]e %e has fri5ds1 s5ds to !m h] c>d conta9+ h] tempor>y address & ! l5g? ( h] /ay1 z ,"h until ,june second1 or ,"h until ,sunday4 ,a man1 h[ev]1 calls ^u 8 fri5ds1 & if !y are abs5t leaves 8 c>d giv+ ! same in=mation4 ,if a son old en\gh to g into society wi%es to d s1 8 c>d is left ) 8 fa!r's & "m's at ! beg9n+ ( ! season4 ,he w !n be invit$ to ! functions giv5 by ! fri5ds ( 8 p>5ts4 ,:5 !re is illness or m\rn+ 9 ! h\sehold1 fri5ds leave _! c>ds ) ! words ,to inquire1 ,s9c]e condol5ce1 or ,sympa?y writt5 ^u !m4 ,! c>d :i* accompanies w$d+ gifts %\ld be ! jo9t c>d ( ,mr4 & ,mrs41 if ! gift is s5t jo9tly1 & may well h ! words ,be/ wi%es & congratulations1 writt5 ^u x4 ,! initials ,p4 p4 c41 mean+ ,p\r pr5dre cong1 or ,to take leave1 are writt5 ^u "o's p]sonal c>ds1 :i* are !n s5t out to "o's fri5ds :5 "o is go+ away f a place ei!r p]man5tly or = a long "t4 ,!y are usually writt5 9 ! l[] left-h& corn] ( ! c>d4 ,^! c>ds may be s5t by po/1 :5 ! p]son leav+ t[n has n ! "t to make a p]sonal visit4 ,!y are n us$ :5 leav+ t[n = ! summ]4 ,x is q prop] to s5d or leave ,p4 p4 c4 c>ds :5 "o goes away f a summ] resort1 especially if ! p to :om !y are s5t d n live dur+ ! ye> 9 ! same t[n or city ) ! s5d]4 ,x is no long] p]missible to fold ov] ! ends ( a c>d1 to signify t x 0 int5d$ = all ! memb]s ( ! family4 ,! bir? ( a *ild may be ann\nc$ by a small c>d conta9+ ! full "n ( ! *ild da9tily engrav$1 ) ! date ( ! bir? 9 ! l[] left-h& corn]4 ,! c>d is ti$ to ! "m's c>d by :ite ribbon1 & bo? are enclos$ 9 "o envelope & s5t by po/4 ,visit+ c>ds = ^? :o are 9 m\rn+ are ! same size z ! ord9>y c>d4 ,! wid? ( ! black bord] is regulat$ by ! degree ( ! relation%ip to ! deceas$4 ,! ,engrav$ ,invitation ,a f9e grade ( heavy1 unglaz$1 pure :ite pap]1 sude f9i%1 9 d\ble %eet fold$ to a size ab\t five by sev5 & a half in*es1 or less1 ins]t$ 9 an envelope ( ! same wid? b half ! l5g?1 is us$ = ! billet on :i* w$d+ invitations & ann\ncem5ts are engrav$4 ,! impress ( ! plate dem>ks a m>g9 ( ab\t an in*4 ,a heavy or m$ium grade ( :ite bri/ol bo>d is us$ = invitations to ,at ,homes1 d9n]1 receptions1 dances1 & all l social functions = :i* ! common visit+ c>d is n us$4 ,! size us$ v>ies ) ! numb] ( words 9 ! invitation1 & may be q l>ge1 z = a club or society reception1 or =mal op5+s or special occasions :]e a bus9ess corporation is ! ho/4 ,^! c>ds h ! same plate m>g9 z ! w$d+ invitation1 al?\gh x is mu* n>r[]4 ,only ! mo/ =mal invitations h space left = ! writ+ 9 ( ! "n ( ! gue/4 ,! billet1 h[ev]1 has c]ta9 advantages1 especially :]e ! occasion is v =mal & select1 & ! in=mation :i* %\ld be furni%$ ! gue/ is consid]able4 ,elegance ( ?is sort is n[ v co/ly4 ,sev]al /yles ( type are 9 use3 namely1 ! script hav+ close r\nd lett]s1 & be+ z ne>ly black z ,roman or ,old ,engli% :5 engrav$2 a script light] & m cursive2 an ,old ,engli% lett]+2 a %ad$ ,roman lett]1 :i* is con/antly gr[+ 9 popul>ity2 %ad$ ,caxton2 solid & %ad$ ,fr5* script2 & a pla9 ,roman block lett]4 ,! script is ! type mo/ commonly us$1 bo? because ( its beauty & legibility1 & because ( ! comp>ative inexp5siv5ess ( engrav+1 ! co/ be+ ab\t half ( t ( ei!r ! ,old ,engli% or ! %ad$ ,roman type4 ,x is obvi\s t ! size ( page 9 ?is book w n p]mit facsimile reproductions ( specim5s ( invitations & o!r social =ms1 :i* 9 ne>ly e case require a diff]5t proportion ( space ?an ! page (f]s4 ,!re=e1 to reproduce ! /yle ( lett]+ us$ = ^! =ms has n be5 attempt$4 ,! examples pres5t correct word+ & proportionate arrangem5t4 ,! foll[+ plates1 :i* are exact photographs ( /eel & copp] engrav+1 pres5t sev]al /yles ( script1 ,old ,engli%1 & %ad$ & pla9 ,roman faces1 b d n repres5t m ?an a few sizes1 & ^? ! mo/ common4 ,illu/ration3 ,type /yles & sizes = invitations at ! ,*ur* ( ! ,messiah ,two ,danc+ ,p>ties reque/ ! pleasure ( ,at ,home ,at ,home ann\nce ! m>riage ( ,,brookl9e1 ,,massa*usetts ,fir/ ,unit>ian ,*ur* reque/ ! hon\r ( y\r pres5ce ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,new ,hamp%ire ,,ann\nce ,,! ,,m>riage ,,( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 at ,emmanuel ,*ur* at ,w>r51 ,p5nsylvania ,mrs4 ,william ,h[ell ,meade ,mrs4 ,william ,h[ell ,meade ,mrs4 ,william ,h[ell ,meade ,,mrs4 ,,william ,,h[ell ,,meade ,d9+ & ,p>ty ,invitations ,! engrav$ c>d invitation = a lun*eon is usually word$ z foll[s3 ,mrs4 ,ev]etts ,s4 ,s9clair reque/s ! pleasure ( y\r company at ,lun*eon on ,tuesday1 ,febru>y n9ete5? at "o o'clock ,hotel ,will>d ,! d9n] invitation is id5tical1 except t = ,lun*eon is sub/itut$ ,d9n]1 & ! h\r is usually half aft] sev5 or eight o'clock4 ,to ?is1 or to any o!r d9+ invitation1 may be add$ 9 ! l[] left-h& corn] ! words ,please reply1 or1 ,! favor ( a reply is reque/$4 ,! p>ty invitation may take ei!r ( ! two foll[+ =ms3 ,mrs4 ,h>old ,h>mon ,williams reque/s ! pleasure ( y\r company at a danc+ p>ty to be giv5 at ! ,gl5dale ,c\ntry ,club ,w$nesday ev5+1 ,decemb] ! tw5ty-n9? f eight until elev5 o'clock ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,samuel ,fairfield ,watson reque/ ! pleasure ( company at ,! ,som]set ,club on ! ev5+ ( ,friday ! n9? ( ,febru>y f n9e until "o o'clock ,danc+ & ,bridge #ie ,jackson ,b\lev>d ,! blank invitation is v conv5i5t1 z x may be s5t out at %ort notice1 & is def9ite & p]sonal4 ,! foll[+ is a =m :i* l5ds itself to any "o ( ! usual k9ds ( home ent]ta9m5t3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,/4 ,john ,ambrose ,lockwood reque/ ! pleasure ( 4444444444444444444444444444444444444444 company at4444444444444444444444444444 on4444444444444444444444444444 at44444444444444444444444444444444 #ig ,wa%+ton ,av5ue ,:51 on an engrav$ invitation ( any sort1 be x w$d+ or d9n] or any o!r1 a blank l9e or l9es are left = ! ins]tion ( ! "n ( ! gue/1 !re is dang] t1 unless ?is is done ) great c>e & by an able p5man1 ! beauty ( ! invitation be ru9$1 & !re=e its co/ ?r[n away4 ,= t reason a :olly engrav$ invitation is p]haps bett]1 unless ! "w ( address+ !m & ins]t+ ! "n is to be done by a pr(essional p5man4 ,( c\rse1 :5 ?is is done & well done1 !re is a p]sonal t\*1 a sugge/ion ( individual welcome1 :i* c be ga9$ 9 no o!r way1 & :i* ! :olly engrav$ invitation lacks4 ,:5 an ent]ta9m5t is giv5 by a family at "s place o!r ?an _! home1 ! invitations h ! "n ( ! place & ! /reet address put 9 at ! usual place on ! invitation1 & !n 9 ! l[] "r-h& corn] ! words ,please reply1 ) ! home address4 ,a ba*elor or wid[] uses 8 "n alone at ! top ( ! invitation4 ,he w1 ( c\rse1 provide a *ap]on1 :o 9 _m respects takes ! place ( a ho/ess & s acts1 b h] "n does n appe> ^u 8 invitation1 unless %e be 8 si/] or ne> relative4 ,! invitation !n becomes a jo9t "o1 aft] ! usual =m4 ,a wid[] ) daught]s may s5d out invitations head$ 9 ei!r ( ! foll[+ =ms3 ,mr4 ,john ,m>qu& ,miss ,m>qu& ,miss ,e/elle ,m>qu& or ,mr4 ,john ,m>qu& ,! ,misses ,m>qu& ,= a d9n] foll[$ by a dance !re are two invitations1 ! "o a d9n] invitation at an e>ly h\r = ! favor$ few1 ! o!r a danc+ p>ty invitation at a lat] h\r4 ,clubs h blanks :i* may be fill$ 9 by _! memb]s :5 !y wi% to ent]ta94 ,^! are issu$ 9 ! club "n1 & are l any o!r private invitation1 except t at ! bottom & to ! left ,complim5ts ( is engrav$1 & ! "n ( ! memb] :o is special ho/ is writt5 94 ,invitations conta9+ ! words ,bal ,p\dre signify t ! ent]ta9m5t is a masqu]ade or fancy dress p>ty1 & ! gue/s are expect$ to come 9 fancy co/ume ) p[d]$ hair4 ,! ^w ball is us$ ( an elaborate =mal dance1 usually a public "o giv5 by "s club or = *>ity1 & r>ely ( a private dance4 ,9 spite ( ! pr$om9ance ( ! engrav$ invitation = ! mo/ =mal affairs1 /ill small d9n]s1 & ev5 receptions & danc+ p>ties1 are sometimes ann\nc$ by ! h&writt5 invitations4 ,! =m %\ld be ! same z ! engrav$ "o1 al?\gh to v intimate fri5ds x %\ld be *ang$ to a fri5dly note4 ,acceptances are 9 ! =m ( ! invitation4 ,if t is an in=mal note1 ! acceptance or regret is s5t 9 ! same /yle4 ,if ! invitation is =mal1 ! reply also %\ld be writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son & be ab\t z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,all/on ,b4 ,s9clair accept ) pleasure ! k9d invitation ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ar?ur ,emanuel ,f>r+ton = d9n] on ,?ursday1 ! n9? ( ,decemb] at half aft] eight o'clock ,! reply to an invitation %\ld be s5t to ! p]son or p]sons :o issu$ x1 nev] to any o!r memb] ( ! family1 al?\gh su* a "o may be bett] kn[n4 ,to write ! ^w ,regrets on "o's visit+ c>d & s5d x 9 decl9ation ( any invitation is bad =m1 ev5 if ! invitation come 9 simil> %ape4 ,"o %\ld always write a note ( regret4 ,ba*elors & wid[]s1 :o ent]ta9 at _! ap>tm5ts or /udio or club1 & army & navy (fic]s nev] use ! words ,at ,home1 b always reque/ ! pleasure 7or hon\r7 ( y\r pres5ce4 ,if "o is ent]ta9+ a gue/ & an invitation is receiv$1 "o may ) propriety ask ! ho/ess = an invitation = "o's gue/1 if ! =m ( ent]ta9m5t is s g5]al z to make ?is "r & reasonable2 o!rwise "o mu/ decl9e ! invitation4 ,x w\ld n be "r to ask = ano!r d9n] invitation1 or "o to a select gr\p ( p1 :]e ! gue/ w\ld be an intrud]4 ,x is pref]able & a mu* lat] =m to use ! words ,please reply1 or ,an e>ly reply is reque/$1 r ?an ! abbreviation ,r4 s4 v4 p4 = ,rpondez1 s'il v\s plat1 mean+ ,reply1 if y please4 ,if a son %\ld return f college or o!r abs5ce1 & ! p>5ts wi% to ent]ta9 = him1 _! invitations w\ld h at ! bottom ! ^w ,= foll[$ by 8 "n4 ,9 s5d+ out invitations1 "o %\ld be s5t to ! fa!r & "m jo9tly1 "o to ea* son sep>ately1 & "o to ! daught]s jo9tly1 ! latt] be+ address$ ,! ,misses ,e/abrook4 ,invitations %\ld be s5t to p 9 m\rn+1 al?\gh !y are n expect$ to accept4 ,!y %\ld n be slight$ or =gott5 dur+ su* a p]iod4 ,w$d+ ,invitations & ,ann\ncem5ts ,! foll[+ are ! usual =ms ( word+ = ! w$d+ invitation3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,re9h>d ,ern/ ,ormond reque/ ! hon\r ( y\r pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,eida to ,dr4 ,otto ,b]telli on ,w$nesday1 ! fir/ ( ,april n9ete5 hundr$ & ?irte5 at twelve o'clock ,*ur* ( ! ,messiah ,/4 ,l\is1 ,miss\ri ,mr4 ,arnold ,hamilton ,=sy? reque/s ! pleasure ( y\r company at ! m>riage reception ( 8 daught] ,m>g>et & ,mr4 ,walt] ,mallory on ! ev5+ ( ,w$nesday1 ! tw5ty-n9? ( ,june "o ?\s& n9e hundr$ & twelve f eight until t5 o'clock #ag ,elm ,hill ,av5ue ,philadelphia1 ,p5nsylvania ,r4 s4 v4 p4 ,dr4 & ,mrs4 ,maurice ,h[e ,cavanaugh reque/ ! hon\r ( pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,rebecca ,falm\? to ,mr4 ,*>les ,hunnewell ,cl>k on ,monday1 ! n9? ( ,july at eight o'clock ,*ur* ( ! ,r$eem] ,wa%+ton ,! usual =m ( m>riage ann\ncem5t is z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,william ,t4 ,kimball ann\nce ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,doro?y ,luc9da to ,mr4 ,le,roy ,l4 ,hallock on ,w$nesday1 ! fir/ day ( ,decemb] "o ?\s& n9e hundr$ & twelve ,*icago1 ,ill9ois ,mr4 ,ar?ur ,edm& ,sawy] & ,miss ,emma ,paul9e ,f>r+ton ann\nce _! m>riage on ,sunday ! sixte5? ( ,july "o ?\s& n9e hundr$ & t5 at ,bo/on1 ,massa*usetts ,! ,at ,home c>d ( ! bridal c\ple1 :i* goes ) a w$d+ invitation1 does n h ! "n ( ! c\ple ^u x1 b reads simply ,at ,home aft] ! fir/ ( ,novemb] #abai ,p5nsylvania ,av5ue ,wa%+ton ,:5 an ,at ,home c>d is includ$ 9 a w$d+ ann\ncem5t1 h[ev]1 ! "n ( ! c\ple appe>s ^u x1 z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,albion ,fr$]ick ,m>/on ,w be at home #gfc ,*apel ,av5ue aft] ! fir/ ( ,augu/ ,toronto ,= ! c>d ( invitation to ! w$d+ reception ! word+ is z foll[s3 ,reception imm$iately aft] ! c]emony ,eight ,salem ,/reet or ,reception imm$iately aft] ! c]emony 9 ! *ur* p>lors ,9 ! case ( a *ur* w$d+1 x is always well to enclose ) ! invitation a small c>d read+3 ,please pres5t ?is c>d at ! *ur* on ,augu/ ! ?ird4 ,9 case ! w$d+ takes place 9 ! c\ntry & invitations are s5t to _m fri5ds 9 ! city1 a c>d giv+ directions z to :at tra9 to take1 & :]e1 :i* is to be pres5t$ to ! conductor in/ead ( a ticket1 & :i* entitles ! possessor to special accommodations1 is enclos$ ) ! invitation4 ,w$d+ invitations1 or ann\ncem5ts1 & _! accompany+ c>ds1 are enclos$ 9 two envelopes1 "o )9 ! o!r1 ( ! same /ock z ! billets4 ,^u ! out] is writt5 ! "n ( ! p]son & 8 /reet address2 ^u ! inn] only ! "n ( ! "o = :om x is int5d$4 ,w$d+ invitations %\ld be address$ to ,mrs4 ,*&l] ,jones1 on ! outside envelope4 ,)9 ?is is a second envelope address$ to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,*&l] ,jones4 ,! old] cu/om is to address ! outside envelope to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,*&l] ,jones1 z well z ! inside4 ,! lady ( ! h\se is n[1 h[ev]1 beg9n+ to be look$ ^u z head ( its social affairs1 z h] husb& is ( its bus9ess affairs1 & h5ce ! /yle ( address+ invitations to h]4 ,! words ,& ,family are no long] us$ aft] ! p>5ts' names1 b sep>ate invitations are s5t to ! memb]s4 ,x is q ! c\rte\s ?+ to include among ! p invit$ to a w$d+1 especially if x is to be 9 a *ur*1 ! special bus9ess fri5ds & associates ( ! bridegroom-elect1 8 fa!r1 & ! bride's fa!r4 ,9 case ! invitations are = ! c]emony only at a *ur* w$d+1 ! address ( ! bride's p>5ts %\ld be emboss$ ^u ! outside envelope4 ,acqua9tances purely pr(essional d n receive c>ds to a w$d+4 ,"o's physician1 h[ev]1 if 8 family is prom95t socially1 may be includ$ among ! gue/s4 ,ann\ncem5t c>ds %\ld be q ready to po/ imm$iately aft] ! c]emony4 ,!y %\ld be s5t to all ! circle ( fri5ds & acqua9tances ( bo? ! bride's & ! bridegroom's families1 save to ^? :o h be5 invit$ to ! m>riage or ! w$d+ reception4 ,! ann\ncem5t ( an ,at ,home or reception %\ld always be made on a sep>ate c>d1--n on a corn] ( ! w$d+ invitation or ann\ncem5t4 ,an imm$iate reply is necess>y :5 "o is invit$ to a home w$d+4 ,if ! w$d+ is a *ur* w$d+1 & !re is no reception foll[+ x1 "o makes no reply if "o int5ds to be pres5t1 b s5ds "o's c>d ^u ! date set1 if "o _c att5d4 ,v>i\s ,ann\ncem5t ,c>ds ,9 case ( ! po/ponem5t ( a w$d+ or a d9n] or reception because ( "s grave accid5t or illness1 ! cancellation ( ! invitations1 or ! ann\ncem5t ( ! po/ponem5t1 %\ld be engrav$ & s5t out at ! e>lie/ possible date4 ,= a w$d+ x may read some:at z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,mayn>d ,s4 ,taylor regret to ann\nce t on acc\nt ( s]i\s illness 9 ! family ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,emmel9e & ,mr4 ,fosdick ,arl+ton w be indef9itely po/pon$ ,a family :i* has pass$ ?r\gh a p]iod ( calamity & b]eavem5t may wi% to make "s ackn[l$gm5t ( ! att5tions ( fri5ds1 & may d s 9 "s su* =m z foll[s3 ,! bro!rs & si/]s ( ,dr4 ,ralph ,j4 ,h>k9s gratefully ackn[l$ge y\r k9d expression ( sympa?y ,! special ,at ,home c>d :i* is us$ = a reception 9 honor ( a fri5d or gue/ may conta9 ! "n ( ! fri5d ei!r on ! fir/ or ! la/ l9e ( ! invitation1 ) ! words ,to meet be=e x2 z3 ,mrs4 ,erne/ ,l4 ,lafrica9 ,at ,home ,?ursday1 ,decemb] tw5ty-?ird f f\r to six #bge ,gr& ,pr ,av5ue1 ,montreal ,to meet ,mrs4 ,jackson ,seym\r ,montgom]y ,= a g5]al reception ! foll[+ =m is good3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h5ry ,ill+ton ,bray ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h>old ,bray reque/ ! honor ( y\r pres5ce on ,new ,ye>'s ,day f f\r until half aft] sev5 o'clock #agd ,albem>le ,/reet ,w9nipeg ,! private engrav$ c>d = ,*ri/mas & ,new ,ye> greet+s1 :i* may be s5t to "o's entire li/ ( fri5ds1 is mu* 9 favor4 ,great di/9ction & individuality ( design & selection ( s5tim5t may be obta9$ by ?is means4 ,! foll[+ is an appropriate =m3 ,! glory breaks ,& ,*ri/mas comes once m ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,na?aniel ,cl>ke ,su!rl& cordially greet ) e good wi% ( ! ,season ,,*apt] ,,vii ,,behavior ,,9 ,,public ,,! te/ ( ! dep? ( "o's c\rtesy is f\nd 9 "o's attitude to /rang]s & ! public at l>ge4 ,if "o obs]ves t[>d !m ! little c\rtesies1 !n "o may be safely tru/$ to keep to ! highe/ ideal ( social int]c\rse 9 times ( em]g5cy & rigid te/+4 ,always 9 a public place ! real g5tleman & lady w be unobtrusive1 speak+ quietly1 & %[+ 9 _! mann] t !y ea* believe himself & h]self b a s+le unit 9 ! _w ( humanity1 & !re=e n entitl$ to monopolize att5tion4 ,!y w g ab\t _! bus9ess ) none ( t idle curiosity :i* =ms ! /reet cr[d4 ,9 places ( public amusem5t1 !y w %[ true c\rtesy by n com+ 9 late1--t is1 by be+ on "t or miss+ ! p]=mance4 ,!y w n ru/le _! programs ne$lessly4 ,!y w s dispose ( _! coats & wraps t o!rs w n be inconv5i5c$ by !m1 ev5 if x takes !m an extra t5 m9utes at ! close ( ! ev5+ to obta9 !m f ! cloak room4 ,!y w n talk or :isp] to ea* o!r dur+ speak+ or s++ on ! /age1 or at any "t :5 s do+ w make x difficult = o!rs to he> :at is go+ on4 ,!y w applaud temp]ately1 & ) only t degree ( f]vor :i* is = ! be/ int]e/s ( ! audi5ce & ! actors z a :ole4 ,t is1 at a conc]t !y w n s applaud "o arti/ z to break up ! program4 ,at =mal bus9ess meet+s !y w take pa9s to con=m to ,p>liam5t>y usage1 :i* is really only ! etiquette ( debate1 & w n insi/ ^u rights :i* h be5 rul$ out1 or 9 ^w or mann] express a disord]ly _s4 ,! greate/ good ( ! l>ge/ numb] w be ! rule ( _! deportm5t 9 public4 ,at a social occasion ( any sort1 e "o pres5t is "u obligation to d :at he c to add to ! g5]al pleasure4 ,if he _c or w n1 he %\ld rema9 away4 ,if he is ask$ to play a musical in/rum5t or s+1 he %\ld d s )\t urg+1 = 8 tal5ts1 except 9 v special cases :]e9 he w\ld n be ask$1 are or %\ld be at ! disposal ( ! company1 or at ! reque/ ( 8 ho/ess4 ,any volunt>y or reque/$ p]=mance ( ?is sort may be z brief z he pleases1 & %\ld be brief1 unless 8 tal5t is s great t !re c be no possible d\bt ( its acceptability1 & he is 9 a g5]\s mood1--a comb9ation ( circum/ances r>e 9 any b ! mo/ tal5t$ circles4 ,if y turn ! pages ( music = a musician1 d s 9 a quiet & self-=getful mann]4 ,int]e/ 9 y is q subord9ate to int]e/ 9 ! p]=m]4 ,d n by extravagant applause enc\rage p>lor recitations1 = m$iocre tal5t is always pr(use4 ,x is a m>k ( good bre$+ to control or at lea/ conceal "o's moods1 s t 9 company "o always appe>s to be cont5t1 if n happy4 ,x adds mu* to ! happ9ess ( o!rs to give ?is impression1 & is !re=e g5]\s z well z wise4 ,x is always rude to int]rupt ) conv]sation1 or yawn+1 or any motion1 a musical p]=mance1 or any ent]ta9m5t :e!r public or private1 9 :i* ^? ab\t "o are int]e/$4 ,"o %\ld retire if he _c refra94 ,behavior 9 *ur* may be taught 9 "o great pr9ciple1 provid+ t pr9ciple is fundam5tal en\gh4 ,! s5se ( rev]5ce = ! ?+s ( ! spiritual life may be felt1 if n compreh5d$1 by ev5 ! *ild4 ,no am\nt ( ,don't's1 if ! _s ( wor%ip be n in/ill$1 w avail to make ! *ild ( any age an att5tive & rev]5t wor%ip] or ev5 att5dant at *ur*4 ,! s5se ( wor%ip w =bid :isp]+ & *att+ ) fri5ds1 ! noisy turn+ ( ! leaves ( hymn-book or ,bible1 or an indiff]5t or scornful attitude :5 any are 9 pray]4 ,ano!r sign ( ! same rev]5ce is ! c>eful obs]vance ( punctuality at ! s]vice4 ,a *ur* s]vice is1 by its v nature1 a m intimate & important s]vice to ! att5dant ?an any o!r4 ,!re=e1 to come 9 late1 ?us di/ract+ ! att5tion ( ^? :o h gone to *ur* = m$itation or wor%ip1 is a f> m flagrant (f5se aga9/ ! rights ( o!rs1 ?an is ! di/urb+ ( _! pleasure at a !atre or a conc]t by a t>dy entrance4 ,! habit ( a vacant or abs5t m9d 9 company is a grave fault1 & works greatly to ! detrim5t ( "o's reputation = intellig5ce1 9 spite ( all else t "o may d to e/abli% x4 ,/raight=w>d att5tiv5ess is ! attitude ( mo/ pr(it & enjoym5t 9 society4 ,"o le>ns !n :at o!r p are ?9k+ ab\t1 & becomes m & m active m5tally4 ,su* an attitude e/abli%es ! confid5ce ( o!rs 9 "o's s9c]ity & intellig5ce4 ,inquisitiv5ess is fatal to real *>m4 ,no "o c>es to talk twice ) a p]son :o1 no matt] :at 8 wit or ability to ent]ta91 has betray$ "o into divulg+ facts or mak+ rem>ks :i* he regrets4 ,^u ! /reet a g5tleman always takes ! outside ( ! walk1 :5 ) a lady1 ! cu/om hav+ come d[n f ! days :5 dang]s beset ! pa?1 & ! man _h to be at ! po9t ( vantage = ! protection ( ! woman4 ,:5 a m>ri$ woman & an unm>ri$ girl are walk+ toge!r1 ! m>ri$ woman takes ! outside ( ! walk4 ,9 pass+ s+le file o!r p or "s ob/acle1 ! g5tleman always /eps back & all[s ! lady to prec$e him4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! way is cr[d$ or !re is necessity t %e %\ld be protect$1 he goes fir/4 ,9 ent]+ a hotel d9+-room ! lady always goes fir/4 ,a lady nev] takes a g5tleman's arm unless %e is bl9d1 infirm1 or crippl$1 or 9 a turbul5t cr[d4 ,! consid]ate p]son w n ent] ev5 a public hotel late at night1 mu* less a home1 8 own or any o!r1 9 a noisy1 c>eless fa%ion4 ,^? :o are asleep des]ve z great consid]ation z if !y 7 awake1 & m also4 ,! mod]n c\rtesy ( lett+ ea* "o pay = himself 9 a c>1 a tra91 a re/aurant1 or a !atre1 is a mu* m rational "o ?an ! old] =m ( p]mitt+ "o to act z ho/1 z if he 7 9 8 own h\se4 ,a g5tleman might (f] to pay = o!rs1 if he wi%$ to1 b he %\ld n insi/ ^u pay+2 nor %\ld any "o c>elessly or design$ly p]mit 8 exp5ses to be paid by ano!r1 unless he himself expects to (f] equal hospitality at ano!r "t4 ,9 ent]+ a c>riage or automobile1 "o %\ld /ep promptly1 )\t ei!r loit]+ or ha/e4 ,if "o is to sit fac+ ! horses or ! front ( ! automobile1 & !re is b "o /ep to take1 "o puts ! left foot on x4 ,if !re are two /eps1 ! "r foot %\ld take ! fir/1 ! left ! second4 ,if "o is to face 9 ! opposite direction f :at ! vehicle is go+1 "o %\ld use ! "r foot fir/ 9 case ( ! "o /ep1 & ! left foot fir/ 9 case ( ! two4 ,:5 two ladies :o are gue/ & ho/ess are driv+ toge!r1 ! gue/ %\ld ent] fir/1 tak+ ! f>!r seat1 fac+ ! front ( ! c>riage1 s t x w n be necess>y = h] ho/ess to pass h]4 ,:5 a "m & daught] ent] a c>riage1 ! "m prec$es1 & ! daught] sits by h] side if no o!r lady is pres5t4 ,9 case ( two daught]s1 ! eld] sits by ! side ( ! "m1 & ! y\ng] sits opposite4 ,! fa%ionable h\rs = driv+ are f two-?irty to five 9 ! w9t]1 & f ?ree to six-?irty 9 ! summ]4 ,"y wom5 nev] ride horseback 9 cities or 9 public p>ks )\t an escort4 ,9 ! c\ntry ! rule is n s rigidly en=c$4 ,9 case a groom is ! escort1 he rides slightly beh9d1 keep+ wat* t he may be ( s]vice4 ,a rid+-habit %\ld be absolutely neat1 simple1 & inconspicu\s4 ,! hat %\ld be pla91 ! hair compactly done1 & ! :ole effect ( ! co/ume trim s]viceabl5ess & grace1 r ?an prett9ess4 ,9 m\nt+ a horse a woman ga!rs up h] habit 9 h] left h&1 & /&s close to ! horse ) h] "r h& on ! pommel ( ! saddle4 ,! man :o assi/s h] /oops & places 8 "r h& ) ! palm up at a conv5i5t di/ance f ! gr\nd4 ,! lady !n puts h] left foot into 8 h&1 & spr+s up into ! saddle ) 8 assi/ance4 ,x is necess>y1 fir/1 to h a firm seat2 secondly1 a skillful h& on ! re94 ,"o %\ld sit 9 ! middle ( ! saddle1 9 an easy1 natural position1 ) ! body n /iff b supple & responsive to ! motion ( ! horse4 ,! elb[s %\ld be well 9 to ! side1 9 a l9e ) ! %\ld]s1 & ! h&s %\ld be relax$ & yet responsive to ! slighte/ pull ( ! re94 ,x is no long] consid]$ wise & necess>y = a woman to use a side saddle4 ,9 ! fre$om ( a graceful divid$ skirt1 %e /rides ! saddle z d ! m51 & !re=e has an equal *ance ) !m to ride gracefully & safely1--a privilege :i* fa%ion long d5i$4 ,to keep to ! "r always is ! only safe rule 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates4 ,9 ,engl& & ,canada ! rule ( keep+ to ! left is obs]v$ ) ! same rigidity4 ,9 bus9ess life x is n good =m to d9e ) y\r employ]4 ,?is does n include a ban ^u ^? bus9ess d9n]s1 :]e !re is a gr\p ( p1 ! majority ( !m m51 ) "o or two unm>ri$ bus9ess wom5 ( equal or sup]ior bus9ess /&+1 :o meet ov] ! d9n] table to talk ( bus9ess problems4 ,t occasion has its own etiquette1 & "o :i* ! bus9ess man or woman readily fa%ions = himself or h]self1 & :i* foll[s ! rules ( bus9ess exp$i5cy r ?an social life4 ,x is n necess>y to recognize 9 society a /rictly bus9ess acqua9tance unless y wi% to d s4 ,neatness dem&s t ! travel] always c>ry 8 own toilet articles1 & n dep5d ^u ! public supplies1 :i* are1 h[ev]1 suppos$ly safe & sanit>y = use 9 em]g5cies4 ,! dress = travel+ %\ld be pla9 & simple1 suit$ to ! ne$ r ?an elaborate4 ,! effect ( crumpl$ f9]y is s v unpleasant t no p]son ( ta/e w make a display ( x 9 a public conveyance4 ,if y wi% to leave y\r seat 9 a tra91 a coat or bag plac$ ^u x is suffici5t to res]ve x = y4 ,! removal ( a coat or bag s plac$ is a v great rud5ess4 ,a g5tleman w give up 8 seat to two ladies1 or to a g5tleman & lady travel+ toge!r1 z he c be m readily accommodat$ 9 ! s+le seats ?an c !y4 ,x is c\rte\s = a g5tleman :o has a vacant place 9 ! seat ) him to (f] x to a lady :o is /&+1 & s prev5t h] f feel+ t %e is intrud+ 9 tak+ x1 if !re are no o!r seats vacant4 ,:5 a man op5s a door = a woman :o is a /rang]1 or (f]s h] any o!r civility1 or begs p>don = "s blund]1 he takes (f 8 hat to h]4 ,:ile travel+ alone1 x is n necess>y or wise to be res5tful ( polite rem>ks or att5tions4 ,!y %\ld be met ) equal polit5ess4 ,quiet dignity & tact w t]m9ate )\t (f5se any conv]sation :i* has gr[n too famili> or t$i\s4 ,! com=t ( all 9 ! c>1 n ( "o individual1 %\ld be consult$ 9 ! op5+ ( w9d[s & doors1 & ! cons5t ( ^? sitt+ ne> %\ld be ga9$4 ,x is a grave brea* ( good mann]s to monopolize a dress+-room = q a p]iod ( "t4 ,"o %\ld be z exp$iti\s z possible1 & %\ld n s]i\sly inconv5i5ce o!rs1 ev5 if he deprives himself ( "s ( ! com=t he desires4 ,x is n well to travel unless y c af=d x4 ,if y c & d travel1 deal c\rte\sly & g5]\sly ) ^? :o s]ve y4 ,ask que/ions only ( (ficials ( ! road or ! %ip1 or ( policem5 9 ! /reet4 ,! ex*ange ( visit+ c>ds ) /rang]s1 unless "u unusual circum/ances1 is unwise & bad =m4 ,ord9>ily a lady pays h] f>e h]self1 unless %e is "u escort ( a relative or intimate fri5d to :om %e gives ! "r to pay = h]4 ,:5 %e ent]s a c> alone & !re meets an acqua9tance1 %e always pays h] own f>e1 unless ! acqua9tance may be an old & intimate fri5d4 ,:5 a lady is tak+ a long trip "u escort ( "s g5tleman fri5d1 x is prop] = h] to reimburse him = 8 exp5ditures 9 h] behalf4 ,%e %\ld h& him h] purse ) :i* to pur*ase h] ticket4 ,! mun*+ ( nuts1 fruit1 or c&y 9 a cr[d$ public conveyance is a s]i\s (f5se aga9/ ^? ab\t y4 ,a neat lun*1 quietly eat5 at an appropriate h\r1 is n (f5sive & is q p]missible4 ,b "o %\ld n impose ev5 ! odor ( food ^u p :o are =c$ to be ne>1 & :o may f9d x extremely disagreeable4 ,! rec5t passage & en=cem5t ( laws reg>d+ expectoration 9 public places is a great /ep 9 advance1 & mu/ be rigidly ma9ta9$ = ! sake ( ! public heal?4 ,! *ew+ ( gum1 :ile no m5ace to society1 is z une/hetic & disgu/+ z expectoration1 & %\ld fall "u z righte\s if n z sev]e a ban4 ,9 a c> or tra9 d n fan y\rself s vigor\sly t ! p]son 9 front ( y feels ! air curr5t ^u ! back ( 8 neck4 ,a book or newspap] %\ld n be plac$ s t x rubs con/antly aga9/ ! hat ( ! p]son 9 ! seat 9 front4 ,pu%+1 %ov+1 & all l me?ods ( gett+ p to move out ( y\r way1 or ( gett+ ahead ( o!rs1 are m>ks ( great rud5ess1 & h a t5d5cy to ret>d r ?an aid "o's progress ?r\gh a cr[d or into a c>4 ,! quiet1 good-natur$ cr[d disp]ses mo/ rapidly4 ,at ! f]ry & all prepaym5t places1 h ! "r *ange 9 h&1 s t y d n keep back ^? :o are 9 a ru% to cat* a boat or a c>1 by fumbl+ = y\r money or mak+ ! receiv] make *ange4 ,d n c>ry an umbrella c>elessly4 ,y are z culpable if y injure ano!r z ano!r w\ld be if he injur$ y4 ,to conv]se 9 l\d tones or talk ( p]sonal matt]s any:]e 9 public %[s great lack ( f9e feel+ & good bre$+4 ,nev] %[ ho/ility1 nor p]mit p to qu>rel ) y4 ,! irritability :i* cr[d$ conditions aggravate makes x necess>y to adh]e1 f pr9ciple1 to ! rule ( /rict good-w t[>d all4 ,if y are escort+ a woman1 d n p]mit h] to suff] any discom=t2 b if1 by *ance1 %e does1 d n pick a qu>rel ) ! p]son :o caus$ x4 ,firmly b quietly af=d h] protection1 b d n dem& satisfaction = discom=ts or insults = :i* !re is no satisfaction & ^: discussion only increases ! (f5se4 ,a lady ne$ feel no emb>rassm5t if %e is oblig$ to sp5d a few days 9 a hotel alone4 ,^u ent]+ %e w\ld g to ! desk & make arrangem5ts = a room4 ,:5 ! *oice is made %e surr5d]s h] h& bag to ! bell-boy1 :o conducts h] to h] room4 ,%e %\ld1 = h] own conv5i5ce & protection1 deposit valuables or l>ge sums ( money ) ! hotel proprietor 9 ! (fice safe4 ,!n ! responsibility becomes 81 b he does n assume x if !y are left 9 ! room4 ,^u leav+ h] room1 %e %\ld lock h] trunks & door1 & leave ! key ) ! cl]k at ! desk4 ,a lady's deportm5t 9 a hotel is t ( quiet res]ve1 b n ( haughty di/ance4 ,%e %\ld dress simply & pla9ly1 s z n to attract att5tion1 z %e is 9 a public place4 ,! only "t :5 elegant dress is p]missible at a hotel is :5 "o is ) an escort1 or is "o ( a gr\p ( p s dress$ 9 ord] to att5d "s function4 ,a lady w n /& or l+] 9 ! halls ( a hotel1 w n loit] ab\t ! hotel (fice1 or walk out alone ^u ! piazza or any conspicu\s place1 or /& at ! w9d[s ( ! p>lor4 ,%e w rememb] t %e is 9 a public place1 :]e %e may enc\nt] all classes ( p1 s %e w n p]mit h]self any ( ! lib]ties ( a home4 ,%e w n g ?r\gh ! halls humm+ or s++1 or take a book or newspap] f ! public p>lor & c>ry x (f to h] room1 ev5 if %e does %ortly return x4 ,%e w n1 ev5 9 h] own room1 make su* noise z w attract att5tion or di/urb o!r gue/s4 ,%e w n call a cab h]self1 b w summon a bell-boy & h him att5d to x4 ,aft] h] baggage is pack$ %e w let ! s]vants att5d to x1 ev5 to ! h&+ h] ( h] umbrella & h& bag aft] %e is 9 ! c>riage4 ,%e w nev] take ! lib]ty ( *id+ a s]vant1 b w make a necess>y compla9t to ! cl]k at ! desk4 ,to op5 a w9d[ 9 ! p>lor ( a hotel1 :5 o!rs are by & may be discom=t$1 is a brea* ( polit5ess4 ,also x is n "r t ev5 an accompli%$ musician or s+] %\ld use ! piano ( ! hotel p>lor1 if o!rs are 9 ! room1 unless he has receiv$ a unanim\s invitation to d s4 ,"o may greet fell[ gue/s 9 ! p>lor or ! d9+-room )\t be+ ?\ght =w>d or intrusive1 & also may respond to su* greet+s )\t compromise1 z su* acqua9tance does n imply or dem& recognition else:]e4 ,a lady1 :5 alone at a hotel d9+ table1 w decide quickly :at di%es %e wi%es1 & ord] !m di/9ctly b quietly4 ,%e w wait pati5tly to be s]v$1 )\t any display ( emb>rassm5t4 ,x is all[able to read a newspap] :ile wait+ = breakfa/1 b n good ta/e to br+ books to ! table at any "t4 ,if %e desires a di% :i* %e sees1 b ! "n ( :i* %e does n "k1 %e w n po9t to x1 b w indicate x to ! wait] by h] glance & h] description4 ,if %e has fri5ds or makes table acqua9tances1 %e w talk ) !m 9 a l[ tone4 ,%e w nev] talk ) "s "o at ano!r table1 nor laugh l\dly4 ,if any civility1 su* z ! pass+ ( food1 is (f]$ h] by ei!r a lady or a g5tleman1 %e w express h] ?anks1 b w n />t a conv]sation4 ,! usual good mann]s ( cultivat$ p1 emphasiz$ by ! additional re/ra9t :i* ! pres5ce ( ! public imposes1 is a safe /&>d ( etiquette 9 a hotel4 ,,*apt] ,,viii ,,! ,,art ,,( ,,be+ ,a ,,gue/ ,,j z ! ho/ & ho/ess1 9 s5d+ out an invitation1 obligate !mselves to make ev]y?+ z enjoyable z possible = _! gue/1 s a gue/1 9 accept+1 obligates himself or h]self to meet ! ef=ts ( ! ho/ & ho/ess at lea/ halfway4 ,success 9 ! art ( be+ a gue/ dep5ds m ^u ! _s 9 :i* "o accepts ( ent]ta9m5t ?an ^u ! ent]ta9m5t (f]$4 ,a =mal d9n] is "o ( ! mo/ solemn obligations ( society4 ,aft] hav+ once accept$ ! invitation1 only dea? or mortal illness is an excuse = n att5d+4 ,"o may att5d a =mal reception & n exp5d m ?an tw5ty m9utes ( "t1 if "o wi%es to be v prompt4 ,! r\nd ( social duty !re is brief4 ,a lady removes h] wrap1 b n h] hat or gloves1 9 ! dress+-room1 & !nce goes directly to ! draw+-room4 ,! gue/ "h greets ! ho/ & ho/ess1 briefly if ! reception is l>ge & ! fl[ ( incom+ gue/s con/ant1 !n passes to ! room :]e ! refre%m5ts are s]v$4 ,aft] p>tak+ ( ^!1 ! gue/ may leave )\t bidd+ adieu to ! ho/ess1 unless ! reception is small & %e is free to speak a second "t ) h] gue/s4 ,if "o is pres5t at an aft]noon tea or reception1 x is n always necess>y to call aft]w>ds2 yet1 _m ho/esses expect su* a call if ! affair has be5 =mal4 ,"o %\ld c]ta9ly call aft] a tea giv5 to introduce a dbutante1 or a w$d+ reception1 or "o giv5 9 honor ( "s special p]son or ev5t4 ,if a gue/ is n pleas$ ) ! food provid$ at a lun*eon or d9n]1 or = any special reason _c eat ( any "o di%1 he %\ld try & satisfy himself ) some?+ else1 & make no comm5t ^u x1 do+ 8 utmo/ to prev5t 8 ho/ess f ?9k+ t %e has n well provid$ = him4 ,at a danc+ p>ty a "y man %\ld assi/ 8 ho/ess 9 see+ t all ! "y ladies h an equal *ance to dance1 & t none are oblig$ to sit out dances because ( a de>? ( p>tn]s4 ,8 obligation to 8 ho/ess & to society %\ld be ?us honor$1 z x is n1 ( c\rse1 a private affair = 8 own amusem5t1 & z ^u him1 m ?an ^u ! "y wom51 dep5ds its success4 ,x is necess>y t introductions be freely made at a danc+ p>ty1 9 ord] t all may enjoy ! ev5+1 & e "o %\ld try to make all 8 fri5ds acqua9t$ ) ea* o!r4 ,a "y woman rema9s seat$ by ! side ( h] *ap]on until ask$ to dance4 ,aft] a dance h] p>tn] returns ) h] to ! *ap]on4 ,if ! son ( ! ho/ess reque/s a dance ( a "y woman1 %e %\ld give x unless h] program is q full4 ,if = any reason %e refuses a dance to "o man1 %e %\ld n give x to ano!r1 b %\ld sit x out4 ,a woman1 hav+ once promis$ a dance1 %\ld fulfill h] promise unless too ill to d s1 9 :i* case %e w dance no m dur+ ! ev5+4 ,! "y man :o is ?us refus$ is free1 hav+ return$ ) h] to h] *ap]on1 to seek ano!r p>tn]4 ,unless a "y c\ple are engag$ to ea* o!r1 !y %\ld n dance toge!r s (t5 z to be conspicu\s4 ,nor may !y disappe> into seclud$ corn]s & sit out dances4 ,x is poor ta/e & v que/ionable etiquette1 ev5 if engag$4 ,:5 ask$ to dance1 a woman h&s ! man h] program1 say+1 ,i am n engag$ = t dance1 & w be pleas$ to give x to y4 ,aft] ! dance ! man may ?ank ! woman = x1 & %e may make "s rem>k to express h] pleasure 9 x4 ,if a man is delay$ 9 claim+ a woman = ! promis$ dance1 he %\ld make pr(use apologies4 ,a man dances fir/ ) ! woman he escorts1 or ) ! daught]s ( ! ho/ess1 or h] gue/s 9 ! h\se4 ,aft]w>d he may *oose = himself1 always rememb]+ t he %\ld assi/ 8 ho/ess 9 giv+ a good "t to all4 ,a woman always makes ! fir/ move t[>d go+ home at e social ga!r+4 ,at a dance x is n necess>y to say good-night to ! ho/ess unless !re is a good opportunity4 ,if a man is sudd5ly call$ away1 he %\ld try to f9d p>tn]s = ! ladies ) :om he engag$ dances1 & %\ld expla9 8 leav+ to !m4 ,x is n obligatory1 b simply a pleasant cu/om1 = a man to s5d fl[]s to ! "y woman :om he is go+ to escort to a danc+ p>ty4 ,:5 %e is 8 fiance1 x is especially appropriate & appreciat$4 ,:5 "o is on a visit1 or at a h\se or week5d p>ty1 "o has to foll[ ! /yle ( dress ( ! p :om "o is visit+1 s no h>d & fa/ rules c be laid d[n4 ,"o %\ld h suitable g>m5ts = ea* ( ! =ms ( recreation :i* "o is to enjoy1 & %\ld foll[ q closely ! requirem5ts ( ! h\r4 ,:5 travel+1 small1 pla9 hats & tidily drap$ veils are necess>y4 ,= m\nta9 visits1 ?ick] clo?+ & heavi] wraps w be 9 dem&1 ?an are us$ 9 ! city4 ,:5 x is ! cu/om to dress = d9n]1 "o %\ld always adh]e to x1 & s plan "o's h\rs t no?+ int]f]es ) s do+ & be+ prompt z well4 ,a gue/ %\ld n claim ! entire "t ( h] ho/ess4 ,! h\rs betwe5 breakfa/ & lun* belong to ! ho/ess = ! do+ ( h] h\sehold & family duties1 & ! gue/ %\ld ent]ta9 h]self dur+ !m4 ,no gue/ %\ld ev] accept an invitation to an ent]ta9m5t1 a drive1 or any o!r amusem5t )\t fir/ consult+ ) h] ho/ess4 ,if1 hav+ fri5ds 9 ! same city or t[n1 %e has invitations f !m = special occasions1 %e %\ld in=m h] ho/ess ( !m promptly1 t two plans may n be made = ! same date4 ,unless a gue/ is ill or v old & feeble1 %e nev] sugge/s retir+4 ,t is ! duty ( ! ho/ess4 ,a gue/ %\ld take pa9s to arrive :5 expect$4 ,if %e has promis$ a visit1 %e %\ld keep h] promise1 unless matt]s ( s]i\s illness or grave mom5t =bid x1 9 :i* case a prompt & explanatory apology is imp]ative4 ,! gue/ %\ld decide ) h] ho/ess1 e>ly 9 h] /ay1 ^u ! date ( h] dep>ture1 if t has n be5 already settl$ 9 ! =m ( ! invitation1 & %\ld !n abide rigidly by x1 all[+ no?+ b ! mo/ e>ne/ importunity on ! "p ( h] ho/ess p]sonally1 & = cle>ly %[n & newly aris+ reasons1 to deta9 h] long]4 ,! gue/ %\ld be pleas$ & well ent]ta9$ ) ev]y?+ t is done = h] amusem5t1 or %\ld appe> to be s4 ,if %e _c give h]self up to ! enjoym5t ( ! sort ( ent]ta9m5t :i* h] ho/ & ho/ess provide1 %e %\ld n accept ! invitation to visit !m4 ,! gue/ %\ld be punctual at meals & con=m 9 e p>ticul> to ! ways ( ! h\sehold4 ,%e %\ld n arrive 9 ! liv+-room or draw+-room at h\rs :5 !re w be none to ent]ta9 h]1 & :5 x w\ld emb>rass h] ho/ess to "k t %e 0 unatt5d$4 ,to sit up aft] ! family has gone to b$1 to lie 9 b$ aft] ! entire family h ris51 to be late at meals1 to be writ+ an important lett] or do+ "s m5d+ :5 ! c>riage is at ! door = a drive1 or wi% to g to drive :5 ! c>riage has be5 dismiss$1 to be too tir$ to att5d ! d9n] or reception giv5 9 "o's honor1 to fail to keep appo9tm5ts = ! /roll or "s sport because "o wants to d some?+ else1--^! ?+s %[ a total lack ( consid]ation on ! "p ( ! gue/1 & make x impossible to enjoy h] /ay or wi% = h] return4 ,at times :i* seem appropriate x is well to retire to "o's room & leave ! family by !mselves4 ,x is n necess>y = ! family life & com=t to be sacrific$ con/antly to ! gue/4 ,hospitality w\ld be m g5]\sly %[n if x did n make s _m unnecess>y dem&s ^u ! "t & com=t ( ! memb]s ( ! family4 ,! gue/ %\ld nev] take sides 9 any family discussion1 & if any?+ unpleasant occurs1 %e %\ld ignore x entirely1 & n seem to "k any?+ ab\t x or take any int]e/ 9 x4 ,x is an unp>donable brea* ( loyalty to "o's ho/s to retail any in=mation "o may h acquir$ on a visit1 or discuss _! *>act]i/ics & managem5t ) any "o4 ,a gue/ ne$ n att5d religi\s s]vices1 or be pres5t at ! calls ( commonplace p1 or ent] into local philan?ropies1 unless he wi%es to d s4 ,true hospitality relieves him f all s5se ( obligation 9 ^! matt]s4 ,if1 h[ev]1 c>riages are provid$ s t gue/s may att5d *ur*1 or gue/s are told ( ! h\r = family wor%ip & are invit$ to be pres5t1 x is m c\rte\s to att5d4 ,gue/s at c\ntry h\ses %\ld be will+ to take hold & help 9 any em]g5cy1 su* z ! abs5ce or sickness ( ! s]vants1 & %\ld be will+ to jo9 he>tily 9 ! c\ntry frolics :]e "w is usually to be %>$ by all4 ,9 ! c\ntry p visit 9 l>ge p>ties1 s :5 "o is invit$ to g on an excursion or ) a cr[d to visit "s neighbor1 "o %\ld n hesitate = fe> ( be+ "o too _m4 ,"o %\ld foll[ ! wi% ( ! ho/ or ho/ess 9 reg>d to giv+ ! s]vants "s gratuity = s]vice r5d]$1 if t wi% is kn[n2 o!rwise1 unless !re is an accept$ rule to ! contr>y1 x is well to give1 :5 leav+1 a small gift ( money to su* ( ! s]vants z h be5 especially helpful4 ,"o %\ld always treat s]vants ) consid]ation & k9dness1 if n ) g5]osity4 ,x is bett] to be less lavi% ) money & m pa9/ak+ 9 rememb]+ p]sonally ! p :o h s]v$ y1 r5ew+ acqua9tance ) !m if opportunity (f]s1 treat+ !m 9 a human way1 & n ) ! indiff]5ce ) :i* y w\ld treat a me*anism4 ,if a gift is giv51 x %\ld be done uno/5tati\sly4 ,! tactful1 quiet way ( do+ x1 free f patronage1 & %[+ only good-w & gratitude = s]vice r5d]$1 is ! only polite way4 ,money nev] comp5sates = haught9ess & brusqu5ess1 & ! g5tleman or lady 9 _s w n be unm9dful ( ! feel+s ( ev5 an incompet5t s]vant4 ,,*apt] ,,ix ,,! ,,duties ,,( ,,ho/ ,,& ,,ho/ess ,,hospitality is a great pleasure to p ( a sociable nature1 & its obligations h a mo/ ref9+ influ5ce4 ,! g5]\s consid]ation ( o!rs rea*es its acme :5 "o is con/antly ent]ta9+ little circles ( fri5ds1 ) no ?\ght b to give happ9ess4 ,! pleasant cu/om ( s]v+ tea ea* day at five o'clock is "o :i* admits ( great enjoym5t4 ,! man ( ! h\se tries to be at home = ! quiet social h\r be=e ! family d9n]4 ,! "y p ( ! family are ga!r+ aft] ! day's disp]sion4 ,! fri5ds1 :o are out call+ or on _! way home1 drop 9 = a pleasant *at2 & ! *>m+ ho/ess has "t = _m glimpses ( fri5ds1 & *ance also to say ! "r ^w to "s fri5d 9 ne$ ( *e]1 :o knew t %e c\ld be f\nd at h] daily h\r ( welcome4 ,! cu/om ( receiv+ on a c]ta9 day ( ! week is a s5sible & hospitable "o4 ,if "o has su* an ,at ,home day1 x is m polite = fri5ds to call on t day ?an on any o!r4 ,if a lady has1 h[ev]1 s5t out c>ds ann\nc+ t %e is ,at ,home on ,w$nesdays 9 ,janu>y & ,febru>y1 "o %\ld n call on ^? days unless "o has receiv$ ! c>d hav+ ! special invitation4 ,"s receive once a mon? dur+ ! season4 ,!y h ! day engrav$ on _! c>d1 z ,! fir/ ,friday until ,l5t1 or ,! second ,w$nesday until ,april4 ,! cu/om ( s5d+ out c>ds = a c]ta9 day ?r\gh\t "o mon? avoids a cru% on any "o day1 & enables a ho/ess to receive in=mally )\t giv+ up a great "p ( h] "t4 ,! in=mal ent]ta9m5t is a great] complim5t to gue/s ?an any =mal ent]ta9m5t1 h[ev] spl5did4 ,! ho/ess %\ld pres]ve ! happy m$ium betwe5 neglect+ & ov]att5d+ to h] gue/s4 ,:5 a ho/ess wi%es to h h] fri5ds meet an expect$ gue/1 %e %\ld in=m !m ( ! int5d$ visit be=eh&1 & s enable !m to make an engagem5t to meet h]1 or plan ent]ta9m5t = h]4 ,invitations to a reception 9 honor ( a fri5d c well be1 & %\ld be1 s5t out 9 advance ( h] com+1 if h] /ay is to be %ort1 & if ! dates ( h] /ay are def9itely kn[n4 ,at a reception = ! introduction ( a fri5d1 ! ho/ess & ! gue/ ( honor w /& ne> ! door ( ! draw+-room & receive4 ,if ! reception is v l>ge1 ! butl] ann\nces ! names ( ! gue/s z !y ent]4 ,! ho/ess gives h] h& to ! newcom]1 & pres5ts h] to ! gue/ ( honor4 ,aft] a few words ( greet+1 ! call] passes on into ! room :]e ! refre%m5ts are s]v$4 ,! refre%m5ts usually consi/ ( da9ty s&wi*es1 salads1 p]haps cream$ oy/]s or *ick51 b\illon1 *ocolate1 c(fee1 or lemonade4 ,aft]noon teas are less =mal & less elaborate ?an receptions4 ,! refre%m5ts consi/ ( tea1 ) ?9 slices ( bread & butt]1 ?9 biscuits1 & cake4 ,at a danc+ p>ty ! ho/ess receives1 toge!r ) h] daught]s & any gue/s :om %e honors by ask+4 ,! ho/ may receive1 z well1 b 8 *ief duty is to keep a wat*ful eye ^u 8 gue/s1 look+ out = ! *ap]ons1 & see+ t ! "y p are suppli$ ) p>tn]s = ! dances4 ,at a dbutante p>ty ! "m /&s ne>e/ ! draw+-room door1 ! daught] next h]1 & ! fa!r beyond4 ,! "m greets ea* gue/ & !n introduces ! daught]4 ,at ! supp] or d9n] h] bro!r or fa!r takes out ! dbutante1 :o sits at h] fa!r's left4 ,9 case h] bro!r takes h] out1 h] fa!r takes out ! olde/ or mo/ honor$ lady pres5t4 ,! successful ho/ & ho/ess see to x t all _! gue/s are introduc$ to ea* o!r1 if ?is is possible1 s t ! be/ ( cordiality & ! lea/ re/ra9t may *>act]ize _! m+l+4 ,breakfa/s & ,lun*eons ,breakfa/s may be homelike1 in=mal affairs1 or q c]emoni\s4 ,! h\r ( ?is meal is at any "t be=e "o o'clock1 usually twelve or twelve-?irty4 ,aft] "o o'clock ! affair becomes a lun*eon4 ,m5 are invit$ to a breakfa/1 b usually at a lun*eon ! gue/s are all wom54 ,a real breakfa/ m5u1 su* z is (t5 s]v$ on ,sunday morn+s 9 ! c\ntry1 consi/s ( fruit1 c]eal1 a *op1 or /eak1 or fi%balls1 ) potatoes1 eggs 9 "s =m1 muff9s or hot rolls1 & c(fee1 waffles or hot cakes1 or1 9 ,new ,engl&1 d\ghnuts4 ,! m5u = lun*eon consi/s usually ( s\p1 fruit1 lob/] 9 cutlets or croquettes1 ) mu%rooms1 or omelet1 or fi%2 broil$ *ick51 or lamb *ops1 ) gre5 peas & potatoes2 a salad1 crack]s & *eese2 ice cream1 ) c(fee1 tea1 or *ocolate4 ,at a breakfa/ or lun*eon1 z at a d9n]1 e ef=t %\ld be made to be punctual4 ,! success ( su* an occasion may be ru9$ by a t>dy gue/4 ,at a lun*eon "o removes wraps & veils 9 ! dress+-room1 reta9+ "o's hat & gloves1 ! latt] be+ remov$ at table1 & resum$ 9 ! draw+-room aft] ! meal1 unless c>ds are ! =m ( ent]ta9m5t4 ,z ! gue/s ent] ! draw+-room ! ho/ess %akes h&s ) !m & introduces !m to "o ano!r be=e go+ to ! d9+-room4 ,:5 no m5 are pres5t ! ho/ess leads ! way to ! d9+-room1 & ! gue/s f9d _! places at ! table by ! "n c>ds4 ,:5 m5 are pres5t ! proc$ure to ! d9+-room foll[s ! cu/om at a =mal d9n]4 ,x is becom+ cu/om>y to use ! daylight z mu* z possible at all social functions2 &1 inde$1 at no affair1 unless x be v late 9 ! aft]noon & v c]emoni\s1 is ! daylight exclud$ & ! c&les & *&eli]s light$4 ,! ,=mal ,d9n] ,! mo/ enjoyable d9n] is t ) f\r or six gue/s1 :i* is s]v$ 9 a simple & only semi=mal way4 ,?is enables a ho/ess to br+ toge!r only cong5ial p1 & ! gr\p is small en\gh = ! talk to be l>gely g5]al1 & !nce especially valuable1 z ea* br+s 8 wittie/ /ories1 8 cle>e/ ?\ghts1 & 8 be/ self to ! appreciative & inspir+ circle4 ,! =mal d9n] is usually set = sev5 o'clock1 or half aft]1 or eight4 ,! elaborate d9n] w take f an h\r to two h\rs1 accord+ to ! numb] ( c\rses & ! effici5cy ( ! s]vice4 ,!re %\ld be a wait] = e six p1 al?\gh at a small d9n] an effici5t maid may s]ve eight cov]s )\t mu* delay4 ,! invitations to a =mal d9n] are s5t out two weeks ahead4 ,no m p %\ld be ask$ ?an c be com=tably seat$ & spe$ily s]v$4 ,tw5ty in*es at ! v lea/ %\ld be all[$ to ea* cov]4 ,*ildr5 are nev] pres5t at a c]emoni\s d9n]4 ,9 *oos+ gue/s e ef=t %\ld be made to h !m cong5ial1 ) no gl>+ div]g5ce ( op9ions1 :i* w\ld by any means make any "o uncom=table if ! conv]sation 7 to become g5]al4 ,9 seat+ ! gue/s1 only cong5ial p %\ld be plac$ side by side4 ,! intellectual h>mony ( a d9n] is z important z ! cul9>y h>mony4 ,ladies we> gloves at a =mal d9n]1 & remove !m only at table1 resum+ !m :5 d9n] is ov] & ! gue/s h return$ to ! draw+-room4 ,! d9+-room mu/ be quietly b well light$4 ,!re %\ld be no gl>+ lights1 b a s(t radiance :i* is s g5]al z to make ev]y?+ cle>4 ,an electric light hang+ eighte5 in*es above ! table1 or a tall lamp ^: light is at ab\t ! same height1 ei!r ( !m well %ad$1 are satisfactory additions to ! c&lelight4 ,sometimes high lights are disp5s$ ) & only c&les us$4 ,c&les %\ld always be light$ ?ree m9utes be=e ! d9n] is ann\nc$4 ,= a d9n] ( n m ?an eight cov]s f\r c&les are suffici5t light4 ,relatives are n seat$ side by side1 z ! ef=t is to h a g5]al m+l+ ( ! company4 ,a clev] ho/ess w see t h] gue/s at a small d9n] p>ty are all introduc$ to ea* o!r be=e !y ent] ! d9+-room4 ,! table may be r\nd1 oval1 or rectangul>1 b if too n>r[ x _c be made to look well4 ,! tableclo? is always spread = a d9n]4 ,a ?ick pad ( felt or d\ble-fac$ cotton flannel %\ld g "u ! tableclo?4 ,! damask %\ld be immaculate & ( good quality4 ,! tableclo? %\ld hang almo/ to ! floor at ! corn]s4 ,at ea* place !re is a c>d on :i* ! gue/'s "n is writt54 ,^! place c>ds (t5 h ! monogram ( ! ho/ess 9 ! c5t] & are o!rwise blank1 except = ! "n writt5 on4 ,! place c>ds at a d9n] %\ld be laid imm$iately be=e ! plates ( ! gue/s or on ! napk9s1 :i* are fold$ squ>ely1 & ( suffici5t size to be ( real usefulness4 ,9 sett+ ! table1 ! spoons = s\p1 dess]t1 & c(fee are arrang$ at ! top ( ! plate2 ! knives & =ks1 ! latt] ( sev]al sizes1 are plac$ on ei!r h&1 9 ord] ( use1 & ! small plate = bread1 olives1 etc41 is on ! "r4 ,9 eat+1 ! oy/] =k is ! fir/ us$1 & !n "o takes ! next 9 ord]4 ,%\ld "o be 9 d\bt1 ! rule is to glance at ! ho/ess & adopt h] me?od1 :atev] t may be4 ,on elegant tables1 ea* cov]1 or plate1 is accompani$ by two l>ge silv] knives1 a small silv] knife1 & =k = fi%1 a small =k = oy/]s on ! half-%ell1 a l>ge tablespoon = s\p1 & ?ree l>ge =ks4 ,! fold$ napk9 is laid 9 ! c5t]1 ) a piece ( bread 9 x4 ,fi% %\ld be eat5 ) silv] knife & =k4 ,a half-ladleful ( s\p is q en\gh = ea* p]son1 unless at a c\ntry d9n]1 :]e a full ladleful may be giv5 )\t (f5se4 ,individual salts or salt cell>s are n[ plac$ at ea* plate1 & x is n improp] to take salt ) ! tip ( ! knife 9 lieu ( a spoon4 ,! place plates /& "u ! oy/] or s\p plates & "u any c\rse :5 x is desirable to h !m4 ,plates mu/ be w>m$ or *ill$ accord+ to ! temp]ature ( ! food :i* is to be s]v$ 9 !m4 ,! indisp5sable c\rses ( a d9n] are s\p1 fi%1 roa/1 salad1 & dess]t4 ,9 arrang+ h] m5u1 h[ev]1 ea* ho/ess w suit h]self to h] pocketbook & to :at %e consid]s good =m 9 ! am\nt & k9d ( food4 ,! =mal d9n] %\ld be s]v$ 9 a v leisurely /yle4 ,at ! daily family d9n] z well z at =mal d9n]s1 all ! ladies ( ! h\se & among ! gue/s %\ld be help$ be=e any ( ! m5 are s]v$1 ev5 if "s di/+ui%$ gue/ is among ! latt]4 ,x is n necess>y to wait until all are s]v$ be=e beg9n+ to eat at a d9n]1 b wait until ! ho/ess has comm5c$ to eat4 ,butt] is n s]v$ at a =mal d9n]1 & bread is laid 9 ! napk9 beside ! plate4 ,!re %\ld be no urg+ ( gue/s to eat4 ,x is assum$ t a gue/ is n afraid to eat z mu* z he wants4 ,:5 ! fruit napk9 is br\ght 91 ! us] takes x f ! glass plate on :i* x is laid1 & ei!r places x at 8 "r h&1 or on 8 knees4 ,! doily b5ea? ! f+] b[l is n meant = use1 b %\ld be laid on ! table beside ! f+] b[l4 ,aft] ! d9n] has be5 eat51 & dess]t is rea*$1 ev]y?+ is cle>$ (f b ! tableclo?1 :i* is n[ nev] remov$4 ,a dess]t spoon is put be=e ea* gue/1 & a gold or silv] spoon1 a silv] dess]t spoon & =k1 & (t5 a que] little comb9ation ( =k & spoon call$ an ice spoon4 ,= ! aft]-d9n] c(fee a v small spoon is us$4 ,c(fee may be s]v$ 9 demi-tasse at ! table1 or lat] 9 ! draw+-room4 ,cream is nev] s]v$ ) a demi-tasse4 ,! napk9 %\ld be left ly+ loosely beside ! plate aft] a meal4 ,9 case ei!r a gue/ or a s]vant meets ) any accid5t "o %\ld pass x ov] ) z mu* spe$ z possible & turn ! att5tion ( all imm$iately t[>d "s int]e/+ matt]4 ,a mi/ake %\ld be completely ignor$ by bo? ho/s & gue/s4 ,:5ev] a c\rse is (f]$ :i* y d n enjoy1 nev] decl9e x1 b accept x1 & endeavor to take a small portion at lea/ ( x4 ,y avoid !n ! tacit criticism ( ! ta/e ( ^? :o l x1 & put y\r ho/ess at ease4 ,no p]sonal pref]5ces 9 foods are to be consult$ or m5tion$ :5 "o is a gue/ at d9n]4 ,if "o _c accept ( ! f>e (f]$1 "o %\ld h decl9$ ! invitation4 ,%\ld a gue/ be late1 ! ho/ess ne$ n wait m ?an fifte5 m9utes = him1 aft] :i* "t1 if he appe>1 ! ho/ rises f ! table to greet him & cov] ! int]ruption ( 8 entrance1 b ! ho/ess does n leave h] place4 ,if he does n come until aft] ! second c\rse1 he is s]v$ only z ! o!rs are s]v$1 & no attempt is made to s]ve ! previ\s c\rses to him4 ,:5 d9n] is ready1 ! maid or butl] appe>s 9 ! draw+-room door1 cat*es ! eye ( ! ho/ess1 & ann\nces quietly t d9n] is s]v$4 ,^u ! signal1 ! ho/ gives 8 arm to ! gue/ ( honor1 & !y lead ! way1 ! lady be+ seat$ at ! "r ( h] ho/4 ,aft] !m come ! o!r c\ples z ! ho/ess has plann$4 ,ea* man has f\nd ^u ! dress+-room table an envelope address$ to him1 9 :i* is ! "n ( ! lady :om he is expect$ to take out to d9n]1 & also 9 ! corn] ,r or ,l to indicate on :i* side ( ! table he & 8 lady are to sit4 ,aft] all ! o!rs h pass$ out1 ! ho/ess br+s up ! re> ) ! g5tleman gue/ ( honor1 :o w sit at h] "r4 ,ev5+ dress %\ld always be worn4 ,= a lady a g[n ) l[ neck & %ort sleeves or elb[ sleeves2 = a g5tleman1 a dress coat & its accompany+ tr\s]s1 ve/1 & tie ( regulation cut & color4 ,arrival a few m9utes be=e ! h\r is cu/om>y 9 ord] = ! gue/s to assemble 9 ! draw+-room1 greet _! ho/ & ea* o!r1 & proce$ toge!r to ! table4 ,:5 ! meal is f9i%$1 ! ho/ess cat*es ! eye ( ! gue/ at h] husb&'s "r1 smiles und]/&+ly1 & !y imm$iately rise1 &1 foll[$ by ! re/ ( ! ladies1 leave ! room1 ! m5 /&+ mean:ile4 ,! m5 l+] = a half-h\r or s ov] _! cig>s & c(fee1 or liqueurs1 be=e foll[+ ! ladies into ! draw+-room4 ,9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates x is m usual = ! m5 & wom5 to leave ! d9+-room toge!r1 & ! ho/ess to s]ve ! c(fee 9 ! draw+-room1 ?an x is = ! m5 to l+] by !mselves at ! table4 ,aft] a d9n] p>ty "o %\ld bid good-night to ! lady "o has tak5 out to ! table1 to "o's ho/ & ho/ess4 ,x is n good =m to omit ! latt]1 = %e %\ld be assur$ t y at lea/ h enjoy$ ! ev5+1 & t h] ef=t at hospitality has be5 appreciat$ by y4 ,x is n necess>y to take a =mal leave ( ! o!r gue/s4 ,if y *oose y may wi% !m a g5]al good-night4 ,a c]emoni\s d9n] beg9s ) a t9y bit ( cavi>e on a t9y bit ( toa/4 ,!n comes ! fruit4 ,x may be melons1 pea*es1 /rawb]ries1 or grape fruit4 ,x mu/ be 9 p]fection1 & %\ld be on ice up to ! mom5t ( s]v+1 & mu/ tempt ! eye z well z ! palate4 ,next comes ! c\rse ( oy/]s or clams on ! half-%ell1 :i* %\ld be s]v$ on cru%$ ice1 on oy/] plates made ) holl[s = ! %ells1 & pick$ up ) silv] =ks made = ! purpose4 ,or !y may be s]v$ m da9tily )\t ! ice1 imm$iately aft] !y h be5 tak5 f ! cool]1 & )\t delay4 ,!n a cle> s\p4 ,x may be s]v$ f a silv] ture5 by ! ho/ess1 or may be br\ght 9 s\p plates to ! gue/s by ! wait]4 ,!n fi%4 ,?is may be s]v$ by ! ho/ or arrang$ 9 a da9ty m9ce & s]v$ 9 %ells to ! sep>ate gue/s4 ,if s]v$ by ! ho/1 potatoes v da9tily cook$ may accompany x4 ,?r\gh\t ! d9n] olives1 salt$ almonds1 radi%es1 & simil> reli%es may be pass$4 ,^! are ! only articles ( food on ! table :5 ! gue/s take _! seats4 ,aft] ! fi% !re c be an entre or two ( "s delicate di%1 b ! roa/ prop]ly comes next4 ,x may be turkey1 beef1 mutton1 or lamb4 ,! ho/ may c>ve x if he pleases1 & ! wait] receive portions f him & c>ry !m to ! gue/s4 ,9 _m h\ses ! lady ( ! h\se is s]v$ fir/1 & next ! gue/ ( honor1 :o is ! lady at ! "r ( ! ho/4 ,) ! roa/ "s vegetables are s]v$4 ,!n comes a salad1 & ) ! salad *eese & crack]s are s]v$4 ,! dess]t foll[s ! salad1 & black c(fee concludes ! repa/4 ,?is la/ may be s]v$ at ! d9+ table1 or lat] 9 ! draw+-room by ! ho/ess4 ,! dess]t may consi/ ( ices1 fruit1 pa/ry1 or confections4 ,frequ5tly !re is a f9al c\rse aft] ! sweets1 consi/+ ( crack]s & toa/$ *eese4 ,visits ,x is n[ consid]$ q prop] = ! ho/ or ho/ess to specify ! l5g? ( "t cov]$ by an invitation = a visit4 ,! complication ( duties 9 our pres5t-day life makes ! assignm5t ( ev5 pleasures to def9ite p]iods necess>y4 ,?is is z important z ! arrangem5t ( tra9s & me?ods by :i* ! gue/ may arrive & leave4 ,! ,engli% mann] ( ent]ta9+ is a v excell5t "o1 z x gives ! gue/ 8 fre$om & makes 8 visit ( ! utmo/ pr(it to himself & also to 8 ho/4 ,! ,engli% ho/ sets ! "t ( arrival1 has 8 s]vant meet ! gue/ at ! /ation ) conveyance1 has him met at ! h\se door aga9 by a s]vant1 & %[n to 8 room1 :]e he is made at home by be+ (f]$ "s light refre%m5ts4 ,he is told at :at h\r he w be receiv$ by 8 ho/ & ho/ess 9 ! draw+-room1 usually a %ort "t be=e d9n]4 ,!n ?r\gh\t 8 /ay he does n see 8 ho/ess till midday1 al?\gh %e provides amusem5t = h] gue/s1 :i* he is at lib]ty to enjoy or ignore z he *ooses4 ,aft] ! noon meal he may d z he *ooses ?r\gh ! aft]noon1 appe>+ only at d9n]1 :i* is ! =mal meal ( ! day1 & at ! g5]al ga!r+ ( ! family & gue/s 9 ! ev5+4 ,! v>i\s memb]s ( ! family are ready to %[ ! visitors ! place1 or ! c\ntryside1 or play _! favorite games dur+ ! day2 b !re is no ef=t to make ! ent]ta9m5t =mal or to =ce x ^u ! gue/4 ,we d n wi% to see ev5 our mo/ honor$ gue/s or our de>e/ fri5ds all ( ! "t1 & ?is arrangem5t makes ! meet+ at d9n] all ! m enjoy$ & valu$4 ,be=e invit+ gue/s x is necess>y to see to ! com=t :i* is repres5t$ 9 ! gue/ *amb]4 ,?is %\ld be z da9ty & com=table z any *amb] 9 ! h\se1 &1 9 addition to ! usual furni%+s1 %\ld h o!r fitt+s int5d$ to supply all ! com=ts ( "o's home4 ,a full l9e ( t[els1 toilet articles1 & ev5 night robe1 ba?robe1 & slipp]s %\ld be ready = ! use ( ! gue/ 9 ! ev5t t h] trunk & suitcase d n arrive at ! expect$ "t4 ,if ! b$ is fitt$ out ) f9]y z well z ) all ! l951 blankets1 & com=tables :i* a well-set-up b$ requires1 ! c>e ( ! f9]y1 its removal at night & fold+ up1 %\ld n be left to ! gue/4 ,?is %\ld be att5d$ to be=e b$time by ! maid1 & ! b$ turn$ d[n ready = occupancy4 ,!re %\ld1 ( c\rse1 be vacant bureau draw]s & w>drobe4 ,! gue/1 especially if h] visit be = a %ort "t1 & %e has n br\ght h] workbox1 w mu* appreciate a small workbasket fitt$ out ) ne$les1 ?read1 ?imble1 & scissors4 ,a desk fitt$ ) /ation]y1 p5s1 & po/age /amps adds mu* to ! com=t ( a gue/ *amb]1 =1 no matt] h[ brief ! /ay1 facilities = writ+ to ! di/ant home are ne$$ promptly & con/antly4 ,! gue/'s com=t %\ld be provid$ = be=e h] ent]ta9m5t or amusem5t1 & %e %\ld be made to feel p]fectly at home 9 h] room1 & h] possession ( x be absolute = ! "t ( h] /ay4 ,x is a complim5t to a gue/ to rememb] h] favorite di%es1 or to arrange ?+s to suit h] kn[n ta/es & pref]5ces4 ,x is ! duty ( ! ho/ess to give ! signal = retir+4 ,?is %\ld be done ) a f9e reg>d = ! desires ( gue/s1 r ?an accord+ to "o's p]sonal wi%es4 ,special ,duties ( ! ,c\ntry ,ho/ess ,! c\ntry ho/ess %\ld make h] ent]ta9+ di/9ctive f t ( ! city4 ,e "o %\ld1 at times1 return to ! c\ntry1 = bo? physical & m5tal well-be+4 ,s :5 he is !re1 x is ( great importance t he get c\ntry f>e & c\ntry life1 r ?an make a fruitless attempt to live 9 ! c\ntry z he does 9 ! city4 ,! c\ntry ho/ess %\ld n attempt to ent]ta9 unless %e c dep5d ^u h] s]vants4 ,h] relations ) !m %\ld be su* t !re is no likelihood ( hav+ a h\seful ( gue/s & ! s]vants !reupon sudd5ly we>y ( ! quiet ( ! c\ntry1 or = any o!r trivial reason promptly dep>t+4 ,! c\ntry ho/ess w1 h[ev]1 fit h]self to meet any em]g5cy :i* may arise1 bo? on h] own & h] family's acc\nt1 z well z on t ( h] gue/s4 ,!re=e1 h\sekeep+ & ent]ta9+ %\ld be simplifi$ z mu* z possible1 & ! mo/ unexpect$ ( em]g5cies %\ld be anticipat$ & provid$ =1 z f> z may be4 ,unless ! c\ntry ho/ess is h]self compet5t to cook & to t5d ! fires1 %e w nev] be safe 9 ! s5d+ out ( invitations4 ,= ! same reason1 o!r memb]s ( ! family %\ld be tra9$ 9 helpfulness1 s t an em]g5cy w simply mean ! adoption ( em]g5cy tactics previ\sly agre$ ^u & practic$ to ! po9t ( effici5cy4 ,! c\ntry ho/ess %\ld rememb] t to h] gue/s ! *>m & novelty ( ! fre% air & outdoor life are p]haps ! greate/ attractions ( h] home4 ,s %e %\ld see to x t gue/s are left untrammel$1 to g & w&] :]e !y may wi%2 & also t ! gue/ *amb]s & all o!r rooms are kept fill$ ) fre% air ev5 9 ! colde/ ( wea!r4 ,(t5 ! *ange to ! invigorat+ c\ntry air makes ! gue/ feel cold] ?an ! actual temp]ature ( ! room w>rants4 ,! ho/ess %\ld rememb] ?is1 & %\ld provide t at all times ! liv+-rooms & gue/ *amb]s be w>m$ z well z v5tilat$4 ,! op5 fireplace is ne$$ 9 addition to /eam or furnace heat 9 an isolat$ c\ntry h\se4 ,simple ?+s ne$ to be excell5t4 ,! ho/ess %\ld provide fre% fruit1 *ick5s1 eggs1 vegetables1 cream1 & milk1 ! products ( ! c\ntry1 r ?an ! elaborate di%es ( ! city4 ,! ho/ess %\ld enjoy ! c\ntry & tea* h] gue/s to enjoy x4 ,%e %\ld "k ! attractive walks & drives1 ! places ( real int]e/1 & %e %\ld be able to po9t out ! picturesque spots1 & ! po9ts ( vantage = especially f9e views1 & to make o!rs feel ! *>m ( ! c\ntry4 ,! ho/ess %\ld furni% outdoor occupations1 %\ld int]e/ h] gue/s 9 mak+ collections ( curi\s plants f ! woodl&s1 & 9 gett+ acqua9t$ ) ! trees4 ,!re %\ld be "s popul> sports provid$ ev5 9 midw9t]1 & all ! necessities = ! enjoym5t ( ^! %\ld be furni%$1 z well z a libr>y1 games1 & all sorts ( indoor ent]ta9m5t & pa/imes = ! possible days ( /orm :i* %all block all exit f ! h\se4 ,! s]v+ ( meals out ( doors1 if ! season & wea!r p]mit1 is a di/9ctive feature ( c\ntry hospitality1 & v enjoyable to city dwell]s4 ,breakfa/ & aft]noon tea are especially easy to s]ve on ! lawn or piazza1 b m elaborate meals may be s s]v$ if !re are s]vants & facilities en\gh4 ,simple meals out ( doors are pref]able to m elaborate meals )94 ,9 ord] to d ?is enjoyably or successfully1 x is necess>y to h ! piazza or g>d5 some:at seclud$4 ,a h$ge1 9 ! abs5ce ( o!r protection f ! curi\s1 easily makes ?is possible4 ,! in=mality possible 9 c\ntry ent]ta9+ is its greate/ *>m4 ,neighbors %\ld be enc\rag$ to drop 9 at any h\r1 z ! monotony ( c\ntry life may ?us be greatly reliev$4 ,! ho/ess :o1 9 ord] to meet an em]g5cy1 is oblig$ to d mu* h]self1 %\ld ei!r simplify h] plans ( ent]ta9m5t1 s t %e c\ld c>ry !m ?r\gh )\t too great we>9ess to play h] "p z ho/ess by be+ ) h] gue/s1 or %\ld call ^u !m to assi/ h]1 & make x a companionable visit at any rate4 ,rural fe/ivities are usually fe/ivals ( labor1 9 :i* all jo9 fir/ 9 ! "w & lat] 9 ! play4 ,"o %\ld endeavor to d "o's "p ( ! "w *e]fully1 & 9 ! _s ( good comrade%ip1 z well z %>e 9 ! fun4 ,"o ( ! mo/ enjoyable res\rces ( ! c\ntry ho/ess is ! picnic4 ,?is idea may be v>i$ to suit any circum/ances & any surr\nd+s4 ,x may take ! =m ( an a?letic frolic = ! "y p1 or ( a read+ p>ty 9 "s seclud$ & %ady gl5 on a hot day1 if ! company be intellectual1 or v>i\s o!r =ms4 ,public ,functions ,m5 & wom5 ( prom95ce are (t5 call$ ^u to act z special ho/s & ho/esses at public or semipublic functions1 su* z club d9n]s or lun*eons1 society receptions1 s*ool or college graduations1 receptions giv5 by ! heads ( bus9ess h\ses on anniv]s>ies or at op5+s1 civil or /ate receptions1 *>itable social affairs1 & ! l4 ,z a rule1 ! etiquette & duties ( su* occasions d n v>y greatly f ^? ( ! m private affairs1 b usually great] =mality is obs]v$1 & !re is less responsibility on ! "p ( ! public ent]ta9]s = ! details ( ! s]vice4 ,at a club reception & lun*eon1 ! presid5t & *ief (fic]s ( ! club1 ) ! gue/s ( ! day1 /& 9 l9e & receive = a half-h\r or m1 9 ! p>lors ( ! club4 ,:5 all ! gue/s1 or ! mo/ ( !m1 h assembl$1 ! procession to ! d9+-room is head$ by ! presid5t ) ! gue/ ( greate/ di/9ction1 :o is seat$ at 8 "r4 ,! o!r (fic]s foll[ 9 ord] ( rank1 ) ! o!r gue/s 9 ord] ( di/9ction4 ,aft] d9n]1 :5 ! la/ c\rse is complet$ & ! dbris remov$1 s t ! tables pres5t a neat appe>ance ) _! decorations intact1 ! presid5t rises & raps = ord]4 ,!n1 aft] a few introductory rem>ks1 he beg9s ! program ( ! day4 ,^! programs v>y greatly1 b usually include aft]-d9n] spee*es ( ! light & happy or only semis]i\s ord]1--unless ! purpose = :i* all are ga!r$ is ( s]i\s mom5t1--music bo? in/rum5tal & vocal1 by excell5t p]=m]s1 & ! responses to ! spee*es1 ei!r by ! presid5t or by o!rs ( ! (fic]s :o may be call$ ^u = brief & p]t95t rem>ks4 ,a _s ( good-w & en?usiasm %\ld *>act]ize su* a ga!r+1 :atev] ! object ( x4 ,:5 "o is appo9t$ on ! ent]ta9m5t committee ( a club1 or ( a city1 or o!r body ( p1 = ! hold+ ( a congress ( any sort1 x is necess>y to provide 9 m9ute detail = ! ent]ta9m5t ( gue/s = a p]iod cov]+ ! entire "t ( _! /ay4 ,su* gue/s %\ld be met at ! depot or boat l&+1 %\ld be giv5 e assi/ance t[>d mak+ !m acqua9t$ ) ! (fic]s ( ! congress & club1 & ) ! city1 & e detail ( provision = _! com=t %\ld be look$ out =4 ,p]sonal social claims ^u _! "t %\ld n be s made z to conflict ) _! real int]e/ 9 com+1 or ) ! advantages !y may h s\ght 9 ! visit1 = c>ry+ out _! p]sonal plans4 ,:5 "o is a gue/ on su* an occasion1 he %\ld rememb] t :ile 8 ent]ta9m5t may h be5 (ficial1 8 obligation = x is p]sonal1 & t he %\ld p]sonally ?ank 8 ho/s &1 9 p>ticul>1 8 special ho/ & ho/ess1 z if he _h be5 _! only gue/4 ,no matt] h[ absorb+ ! bus9ess ( ! congress or conf]5ce1 no matt] h[ /r5u\s 8 own (ficial duties1 8 obligation socially is imp]ative1 & mu/ be met4 ,:5 "o is a memb] ( ! graduat+ class ( a s*ool or college1 or ( any small gr\p ( p :o1 z a society1 are ent]ta9+1 "o %\ld %[ ! c\rtesy ( ho/ or ho/ess to e gue/4 ,?is does n mean t "o is responsible to e gue/1 to see t he or %e is well ent]ta9$1 b t1 aside f 8 p]sonal responsibilities to 8 own gue/s1 he %\ld be1 at all ! public functions1 9 ! attitude ( ho/ to any /rang] to :om he may %[ ev5 ! slighte/ hospitality4 ,z = 8 own gue/s1 !re are "o or two po9ts ( special c\rtesy because ( ! nature ( ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,if he is invit+ "y wom51 or ev5 only "o1 to :om he int5ds to give 8 :ole1 or a l>ge "p ( 8 "t1 he mu/ also invite h] "m or *ap]on4 ,?is rule is inv>iable = ! high-s*ool boy graduate1 = ! graduate ( ! m5's college1 & = ! man graduate ( a co-educational univ]sity4 ,9 addition to ! usual provision = gue/s1 he mu/ provide = _! ent]ta9m5t ov]night or dur+ _! /ay1 if !y be f ! di/ance4 ,he %\ld1 9 addition1 & e>ly 9 _! visit1 acqua9t !m ) ! peculi>ities ( ! local college cu/oms4 ,^! cu/oms are di/9ctive ) ea* college1 & _! etiquette %\ld be made cle> to "o :o1 ?\gh unus$ to !m1 is ab\t to %>e !m4 ,,*apt] ,x ,,duties ,,( ,,! ,,*ap]on ,,! ne$ ( ! *ap]on is recogniz$ 9 communities :]e !re are l>ge populations1 & p are necess>ily ( _m classes & unkn[n to "o ano!r4 ,= ?is reason ! sy/em ( *ap]onage ( ! small communities ( rural ,am]ica has n be5 z elaborate or z /rictly adh]$ to z t ( ! cities4 ,! *ap]on is ! accept$ gu>dian ( v "y girls1 tak+ ov]sight ( !m 9 _! social life z soon z ! gov]ness gives up h] *>ge4 ,! *ap]on is only a poor sub/itute = ! rightful c>e ( a "m1 or takes ! place ( a "m :5 ! latt] _c be pres5t1 or p]=ms 9 ! p]son ( "o ! duties ( sev]al mo!rs4 ,"y girls %\ld nev] g ab\t ! /reets ( a city or l>ge t[n unaccompani$ by an old] p]son or a maid4 ,?is rule is n s mu* = physical protection z = ! example ( tea*+ h] t f9e conduct & discretion :i* w =e/all ! possibility ( unpleasant exp]i5ces4 ,:5 a gr\p ( "y p g to "s public place ( amusem5t or in/ruction1 an old] p]son %\ld always accompany !m4 ,su* an att5dant1 :o %\ld be "o ( ! fa!rs or mo!rs ( ! "y p1 if possible1 w\ld be 9 s great sympa?y ) ! _s ( ! gr\p t 8 pres5ce w\ld impose no re/ra9t & spoil no fun1 yet x w\ld be a curb on undue or undignifi$ gaiety1 & a protection aga9/ criticism4 ,! day is n v f> di/ant :5 x 0 expect$ t if a daught] ent]ta9$ a "y man 9 ! draw+-room1 h] fa!r or "m w\ld be pres5t dur+ ! :ole ( ! call4 ,= dbutante daught]s ! cu/om /ill holds good4 ,= a daught] :o has be5 out 9 society = "o or m seasons1 x seems some:at rigor\s & unnecess>y1 z ! pres5ce ( ! fa!r or "m = a "p ( ! call s]ves all ! purposes ( cordiality1 & gives1 z well1 ! "y p a *ance to talk )\t con/ra9t ( int]e/s :i* seem p]haps fooli% & trivial to any b "y p4 ,! wise fa!r & "m or *ap]on "k :5 to tru/ "y p1 & :5 x is be/ to ?r[ !m q ^u _! honor4 ,x is only by hav+ responsibility = _! actions ?ru/ ?us ^u !m1 t !y ev] atta9 to natural dignity & self-reliance4 ,x is sometimes p]mitt$ to a "y woman to be escort$ to a p>ty or ent]ta9m5t alone by a "y man1 b only by "o :o is well-kn[n to ! family z q to be tru/$1 & only to su* p>ties z are presid$ ov] by responsible patronesses4 ,?is %\ld be exceptional = any b ! "y woman :o has be5 left )\t imm$iate family & :o has be5 already 9 society m ?an "o season4 ,! du5na :o acts z h] natural gu>dian & *ap]on1 ord9>ily accompanies h]4 ,x may be object$ t !re are l>ge numb]s ( "y wom5 :o are ( necessity unprotect$ by adequate *ap]onage1--?r\gh loss ( relatives1 f9ancial limitations1 or ! foll[+ ( "s bus9ess call+ or pr(ession1--& t !y are n1 9 g5]al1 treat$ ) less respect ?an ! "y woman c>efully gu>d$ 9 h] home4 ,x yet rema9s true t ! indep5d5t girl mu/ ne$s provide = h]self a *ap]on ^u c]ta9 occasions1 or lose t consid]ation :i* %e w\ld keep at all co/s4 ,a /rong "* welcomes ! aid ( a c>eful obs]vance ( conv5tions4 ,ev5 ! sp9/] ( recogniz$ pr(essional /&+ f9ds h]self some:at re/rict$ 9 social pleasures4 ,%e _c g out socially ) "o man m ?an occasionally2 %e has little pleasure 9 go+ unatt5d$2 %e c ent]ta9 b infrequ5tly & 9 a small way1 if at all1 & nev] )\t an old] m>ri$ woman to assi/ h]4 ,%e may1 h[ev]1 h h] regul> aft]noon or ev5+ ,at ,home1 provid$ %e has ) h] ?is fri5d2 & ) t fri5d pres5t1 %e may ent]ta9 a g5tleman call] until t5 o'clock 9 ! ev5+1 b %e may n (f] him cig>ettes1 nor any bev]age b tea1 c(fee1 *ocolate1 or lemonade4 ,9 fa%ionable life 9 ! cities1 ! *ap]on is an important & ev]-pres5t p]sonage4 ,:]ev] ! "y dbutante goes 9 society1--to e place ( amusem5t1 :5 walk+ or driv+ 9 ! p>k1 :5 %opp+ or call+1--& dur+ h] call+ h\rs at home1 ! *ap]on is h] fai?ful & int]e/$ att5dant4 ,! common usage ( small] t[ns1 sea%ore places1 & c\ntry villages diff]s 9 degree ( att5dance4 ,! only wise rule is to foll[ ! cu/om ( ! place 9 :i* "o may happ5 to be1 rememb]+ always t ! pr9ciple at ! basis ( ! cu/om is wise & valuable1 & t !re %\ld be good & suffici5t reason = fail+ to foll[ x 9 its entirety4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 n ! lett] ( ! law b ! _s ( x :i* saves4 ,exp]i5ce %[s t n always ! completely *ap]on$ girl is safe & ! q-free girl 9 real dang]4 ,ev]y?+ dep5ds ^u ! girl1 & ! _s ( ! *ap]onage %e receives4 ,! relations ) "o's *ap]on %\ld be ! mo/ intimate & reliable & tru/wor?y ( "o's :ole life2 or !y may be a m]e f>ce & evasion4 ,z a rule1 h[ev]1 too /rict obs]vance ( ! dictates ( society 9 ?is connection is bett] ?an too lax4 ,! c>eless way 9 :i* _m p>5ts all[ _! sons & daught]s to g (f ) a gr\p ( boys & girls ( _! own age1 unatt5d$ by any adult1 is to be deplor$4 ,among ! p>5ts ( sev]al "y p !re c]ta9ly is "s p>5t1 :o c>es en\gh ab\t 8 *ildr5 & _! associates to become a *um1 & be at once a magnet to draw !m to m mature & valuable ways ( ?9k+1 & a safegu>d aga9/ t gr\p folly t[>ds :i* ! irresponsibility ( y\? t5ds4 ,until a girl makes h] db 9 society1 %e is n se5 at a p>ty ( adults except 9 h] own home1 & n !re at a =mal ent]ta9m5t unless x be a bir?day p>ty1 a m>riage1 or a *ri/5+4 ,ev5 aft] an engagem5t is ann\nc$1 ! *ap]on is /ill ! att5dant ( ! "y c\ple 9 fa%ionable circles1 :5 !y g to any place ( public amusem5t4 ,,*apt] ,,xi ,,! ,,etiquette ,,( ,,! ,,m>riage ,,engagem5t ,,x is a wise & c\rte\s action on ! "p ( a lov] to consult ) ! p>5ts ( ! "y woman & w9 _! cons5t to 8 proposals be=e he pres5ts !m to h]4 ,?is is l>gely a =m 9 ,am]ica1 = ! reason t 9 a well-ord]$ home ! "y man has n _h mu* opportunity to pay att5tion to ! daught]1 unless ! fa!r & "m h consid]$ him eligible = _! daught]'s fri5d%ip2 also1 ! daught]1 r ?an ! p>5ts1 does ! *oos+1 & few p>5ts w\ld h ! tem]ity to refuse a "y man1 :om !y _h p]mitt$ to ent] _! home1 a *ance to try 8 fate4 ,%\ld !y h good cause = su* refusal1 !y %\ld h us$ _! influ5ce & au?ority to c\nt]act any favorable impression ! "y man may h made1 be=e matt]s came to a crisis4 ,! ,proposal ,9 matt]s ( great mom5t1 :]e ! emotions are deeply /irr$1 ! trivialities ( etiquette are at once sup]flu\s & important4 ,"o may be s greatly ov]wr\ght z to d ! un9t5tionally cruel & inconsid]ate ?+1 unless habitual good bre$+ comes to ! rescue1 & /eadies "o by %[+ :at is ! conv5tional ?+ to d4 ,no woman %\ld p]mit a fri5d%ip to culm9ate 9 a proposal ( m>riage unless %e is free to ent]ta9 su* a proposal & has n decid$ 9 h] own m9d ^u a negative answ]4 ,( c\rse1 !re are times :5 %e receives1 )\t p[] to *eck x1 an unwelcome proposal4 ,h] refusal !n %\ld be v decisive b v consid]ate4 ,%e %\ld express regret at ! situation1 & h] appreciation ( ! honor :i* has be5 done h]1 at ! same "t leav+ no opportunity = future hope4 ,9 case %e is already engag$1 %e %\ld tell him s4 ,if ! proposal be writt51 x requires an imm$iate answ]4 ,urg5cy ( response is det]m9$ by ! importance to ! s5d]4 ,! return ( a lett] unop5$1 ev5 if ! woman h good reason to ?9k t x conta9s a proposal :i* %e mu/ refuse1 is extremely rude1 & %\ld be done "u no circum/ances b flagrant brea* ( confid5ce4 ,if a lett] is receiv$ by a woman f a man :om %e has refus$ & ^: p]si/5cy %e has s\ght to end1 %e may place ! lett] 9 ! h&s ( h] p>5ts1 or gu>dians1 or legal repres5tatives1 to be act$ on z !y ?9k be/4 ,! mann] ( a proposal is ! t\*/one ( "*4 ,no man & woman1 hav+ pass$ ?r\gh ?is exp]i5ce toge!r1 c fail to h obta9$ at lea/ a glimpse ( ! dep?s or ! %all[s ( ea* o!r's "*4 ,9 a great majority ( cases 9 ,am]ica1 at lea/1 :]e access to ! "y woman is ga9$ ?r\gh a ?\s& social *annels1 ! real decl>ation ( love comes spontane\sly1 & is accept$ or reject$ be=e !re is opportunity ev5 = ! =mal proposal4 ,= by a ?\s& half-unconsci\s signs does t /ate ( m9d reveal itself4 ,s x happ5s t :5 ! opportunity (f]s to settle ! matt]1 !re is little d\bt 9 ! m9d ( ! lov] & little hesitation on ! "p ( ! woman4 ,?is is true 9 t society :]e really well-br$ & noble-m9d$ wom5 hold sway1 = no woman ( "* p]mits ! man to be long 9 d\bt ( h] )drawal ( h]self1 :5 %e sees he is attract$ & yet kn[s t %e _c respond to 8 advances4 ,! me?od ( propos+ is n a matt] = a book on etiquette4 ,x conc]ns1 along ) all major matt]s ( morals1 ^? deep] ?+s ( life1 = :i* !re is no in/ruction beyond ! inculcation ( high ideals4 ,:5 ! engagem5t is a fact & s ackn[l$g$ 9 ! home1 x is n a wise or c\rte\s ?+ = ! engag$ c\ple to monopolize ea* o!r4 ,consid]ation on ! "p ( ! family w\ld see to x t !y h "s "t to be alone toge!r4 ,yet ! lov]s %\ld be z c>eful to keep _! place 9 ! social life ( ! home z if !re 7 no special atta*m5t4 ,= social exclusiv5ess %[s an absorption 9 ea* o!r :i*1 if selfi%ly indulg$1 w br+ its own p5alty4 ,t a c\ple are engag$ d5otes expectation ( a future :5 !y w be ?r[n l>gely ^u ea* o!r's society2 &1 because x is ess5tial = ^? :o are to m>ry to become ?or\ghly acqua9t$1 !y %\ld toge!r m+le ) o!r p1 = s are ! actual traits ( "* be/ br\ght out4 ,?is does n mean t !y %\ld avoid or neglect be+ alone toge!r at times1 b !y %\ld n obvi\sly & selfi%ly abs5t !mselves4 ,! "y woman %\ld be =mally c\rte\s to h] affianc$ husb&1 & %\ld nev] slight him because he is pl$g$ to h]1 nor unduly exalt him = ! same reason4 ,%e %\ld n[ rememb] t ! broad _w ( h] social int]e/s is n>r[+ z !y int5sify1 & %e %\ld n attempt 9 any way to break ! b\nds set = ! engag$ girl4 ,%e %\ld n g alone ) o!r "y m5 to places ( amusem5t or ent]ta9m5t4 ,%e %\ld ma9ta9 h] dignity s c>efully z an affianc$ wife1 t h] betro!d %all n h ! slighte/ reason to be jeal\s ( ! att5tion %e gives to ! m5 :om %e meets 9 society4 ,on ! o!r h& %e mu/ n cat] to ! man %e is to m>ry1 to ! ext5t ( fail+ to d h] social duty1 or ( mak+ o!rs feel t %e has no int]e/ 9 !m4 ,z memb]s ( ! same social set1 ! engag$ c\ple w naturally meet mu* 9 society4 ,!y %\ld n meet ) effusion1 or suffici5tly m>k$ discrim9ation to make o!rs ab\t !m emb>rass$4 ,!y %\ld n sp5d too mu* "t ) ea* o!r4 ,_! ho/ess w s5d !m out to d9n] toge!r1--:i* is 9 m>k$ contra/ to ! cu/om lat] :5 !y are m>ri$1 = !n !y w always be sep>at$ :5 9 society4 ,! "y woman %\ld be c>eful n to p]mit h] fianc to take h] away 9 a corn] f o!r gue/s = a long "t1 & he %\ld rememb] to d 8 social duty by o!r "y ladies pres5t1 ev5 if he wi%es to devote himself to "o4 ,! task ( meet+ ea* o!r's fri5ds1 aft] ! engagem5t is ann\nc$1 is "o :i* %\ld be mo/ int]e/+ & enjoyable1 & %\ld h no?+ ( t emb>rassm5t :i* comes f ! s5se ( critical scrut9y4 ,! great ordeal ( w9n+ ea* o!r is decid$1 & ! die ca/4 ,! small] matt] ( e/abli%+ fri5d%ips on a mutual basis %\ld be a pleasure & n an object ( dread4 ,real affection & deep s9c]ity w make all prom95t r\ghnesses smoo?4 ,an engag$ c\ple are apt to be 9 ! =egr\nd ( any social ev5t :i* !y may bo? grace ) _! pres5ce4 ,! common human int]e/ ( ! un5gag$1 & ! rem9isc5t int]e/ ( ! m>ri$1 t5d to focus all eyes ^u !m4 ,= ?is reason !y w try & be z little conspicu\s z may be4 ,ann\ncem5t ( ,engagem5t ,! ann\ncem5t ( an engagem5t may be made 9 sev]al ways1 b always fir/ by ! family ( ! "y woman4 ,if a public newspap] ann\ncem5t is desir$1 a notice simil> to ! foll[+1 sign$ ) a "n & address1 mu/ be s5t to ! society editor ( ! local pap] or pap]s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,h[>d ,abbott ann\nce ! engagem5t ( _! daught] ,e!l to ,mr4 ,hayd5 ,b4 ,bradley1 ( ,clevel&4 ,! date ( ! w$d+ has n be5 fix$1 b x w probably take place soon aft] ,ea/]4 ,or x may read3 ,miss ,e!l ,abbott ann\nces h] engagem5t to ,mr4 ,hayd5 ,b4 ,bradley1 etc4 ,if a less public ann\ncem5t is desir$1 ! "y c\ple may ea* write p]sonal notes to _! fri5ds4 ,9 ^! notes "o or two aft]noons are m5tion$ :5 ! "y woman ) h] "m w be ,at ,home4 ,?is gives an opportunity = ! relatives & fri5ds ( ! "y man to meet 8 fiance4 ,! ent]ta9m5t w be an in=mal aft]noon tea1 9 :i* %e & h] "m receive1 ! =m] we>+ a pretty b n too ri*-look+ g[n ) long or elb[ sleeves4 ,s&wi*es1 cakes1 & tea %\ld be s]v$4 ,if an engagem5t is to be = long1 x w\ld be well to h ! ann\ncem5t ( x z quiet z possible1 or n to ann\nce x until ! "t = ! w$d+ draws ne>1 &1 also1 = ! "y p n to be se5 v mu* toge!r until its f9al /ages4 ,imm$iately ^u ! ann\ncem5t ( an engagem5t1 ! "m ( ! man %\ld at once call ^u ! "y woman & h] "m1 & invite !m1 or ! entire family1 to d9n]4 ,! family ( ! "y man %\ld be ! fir/ to make advances4 ,! o!r memb]s ( ! "y man's family %\ld call ^u ! "y woman promptly1 ev5 if !y h nev] met h] be=e1 or1 if call+ is impossible1 !y %\ld write & express _! approval & good wi%es4 ,accord+ to ! position ( ! family1 %\ld ! elaborat5ess ( ent]ta9m5t be4 ,x is a nice cu/om1 :5 ! "y lady lives 9 ano!r city & has nev] met ! family ( h] fianc1 = !m to invite h] to come & visit !m4 ,! calls ( 8 family ^u h]1 & _! lett]s to h]1 %\ld be v promptly return$ or answ]$4 ,if ! "y woman live 9 ! c\ntry1 h] fa!r w invite ! "y man = a visit4 ,bridal ,%[]s ,! be/[al ( engagem5t pres5ts has ( late ye>s tak5 on a :olesale aspect4 ,in/ead ( ! occasional receipt ( a pres5t f "o or ano!r ( h] fri5ds & relatives1 ! bride-elect is (t5 n[ ! gue/ ( honor at "o or m p>ties call$ %[]s1 & ! recipi5t ( num]\s gifts :i* are lit]ally %[]$ ^u h]4 ,!re are _m k9ds ( %[]s1 z _m z ! +5uity & f9ancial res\rces ( fri5ds may admit (4 ,:51 h[ev]1 any "o bride is to be made ! object ( a s]ies ( su* att5tions1 x is well = ! girl's fri5ds :o h ! matt] 9 h& to see to x t no "o p]son is invit$ to m ?an "o %[]1 or1 if s invit$1 t x be at h] own reque/ & because %e wi%es to make sev]al gifts to h] fri5d4 ,^! affairs %\ld be purely spontane\s & in=mal1 & occasions ( mu* fun & jollity4 ,nev]!less1 !re is dang] ( ov]do+ ! idea1 & mak+ ! recipi5t feel burd5$ r ?an gratifi$ by ! zeal ( h] fri5ds 9 h] behalf4 ,ef=t %\ld be made n to h ! articles giv5 at a %[] duplicate ea* o!r4 ,!y %\ld be "s simple1 useful gifts1 :i* w be ( imm$iate s]vice1 & ne$ n be ei!r exp5sive or especially durable1 unless ! giv] s desires4 ,a %[] is usually giv5 :5 a w$d+ is 9 prospect1 & ! necessity ( /ock+ up ! new home confronts ! "y home-mak]s4 ,! aim is to take a k9dly int]e/ 9 ! new home & help to fit x out1 m 9 ! way ( sugge/ion ?an 9 any extravagant way1 :i* w\ld make ! recipi5ts feel emb>rass$ or indebt$1 or ov]load !m ) semidesirable gifts4 ,! %[] is usually 9 ! aft]noon1 & is jo9$ 9 almo/ exclusively by ! girl fri5ds ( ! bride-elect1 ) p]haps a few ( h] old] wom5 fri5ds & relatives4 ,if1 h[ev]1 x comes 9 ! ev5+1 ! m5 ( ! bridal p>ty are usually also invit$4 ,! refre%m5ts are simple & ! /yle ( ent]ta9m5t in=mal4 ,! invitations to a %[] are usually giv5 by ! ho/ess v]bally1 or %e s5ds h] c>ds by po/ ) ! words ,l95 %[] = ,miss ,hanley on ,w$nesday at f\r4 ,!re is a wide range ( possible k9ds ( %[]s1 b ! only rational way is to *oose = a donation p>ty ( ?is sort only su* objects z w be ne$$ 9 quantity & v>iety1 & 9 ! *oice ( :i* "o has n too /rong & di/9ctive ta/e1 z1 = in/ance1 ! foll[+3 ,l951 t[els1 glass1 books1 fancy *9a1 silv]1 spoons1 aprons1 etc4 ,( c\rse1 ! furni%+s ( "s "o room1 z ! ba?-room1 laundry1 or kit*51 might be ! subject ( a %[]1 b usually a h\sewife w\ld pref] to h :at %e want$ & no?+ else = use 9 ^! places4 ,! ,brok5 ,engagem5t ,:5 an engagem5t is brok5 ! "y woman %\ld return to ! "y man all lett]s & pres5ts1 & may ask1 by a brief1 c\rte\s1 b dignifi$1 note1 = ! return ( h] lett]s to him4 ,x w\ld n be necess>y1 ord9>ily1 to write su* a note1 z ! man w\ld take ! s5d+ back ( 8 gifts z f9al1 & to mean ! return ( h]s also4 ,9 case ! w$d+ is ne>1 s t w$d+ pres5ts h be5 receiv$ f fri5ds1 ! no long] bride-elect %\ld return !m to ! giv]s ) an explanatory note4 ,! note %\ld m5tion no?+ beyond ! fact t ! engagem5t has be5 brok54 ,! "m ( ! "y woman is ! "o to ann\nce ! break+ ( ! engagem5t4 ,%e quietly does s1 by ^w ( m\? or notes to fri5ds4 ,9 case ( a brok5 engagem5t1 x is n delicate to allude to x1 unless "o is a v intimate fri5d1 & !n x is bett] to leave ! fir/ broa*+ ( ! subject to ! "o mo/ conc]n$4 ,x is cu/om>y = ! privilege to be grant$ ! woman ( t]m9at+ an engagem5t )\t (f]+ any explanation o!r ?an h] w4 ,nev]!less1 %e w n use ?is privilege arbitr>ily1 )\t ca/+ a %ad[ ^u h] reputation & "* = fai?fulness & integrity4 ,a man is expect$ to make no explanation1 ev5 privately1 z to ! reason = ! break+ ( ! engagem5t1 z ! release mu/ at lea/ appe> to come f ! woman4 ,:atev] %e *ooses to say1 or h[ev] unju/ ! rem>ks ( fri5ds seem1 he is 9 honor b\nd to %[ great res]ve1 & n to ca/ any %ad[ ^u h] reputation1 ev5 if 8 own suff]s in/ead4 ,h[ev]1 9 _m circles to-day x is en\gh to say t an engagem5t has be5 brok5 mutually1 ev5 ?\gh no reason is obvi\s4 ,?is %\ld be s1 = if too mu* comm5t atta*es to ! break+ ( a m>riage engagem5t1 m>riages w be ent]$ into ! almo/ c]ta9 outcome ( :i* is ! divorce c\rt4 ,a lady %\ld nev] accept any b trivial gifts1 su* z fl[]s1 a book1 a piece ( music1 or a box ( confection]y1 f a g5tleman :o is n relat$ to h]4 ,ev5 a m>riage engagem5t does n make ! acceptance ( co/ly gifts wise4 ,prep>ation = a ,w$d+ ,! prep>ation :i* ! bridegroom makes = ! new home1 is1 ( c\rse1 by f> ! l>g] %>e ( its e/abli%m5t4 ,he provides ! home1 furni%es x ) ev]y?+ b ! l951 :i* ! bride w br+1 & ! ornam5tal decorations1 includ+ silv] = ! table1 :i* ! w$d+ gue/s may1 9 ^! days ( lavi% pres5ts1 be expect$ to furni%4 ,ev5 if he does n *oose to set up a h\se-home at once1 ! provision = ! future is all 81 & he has to br+ to ! w$d+ ! :]e)al to make a home1 :e!r x be 9 h\sehold furniture or only ! c]tificates ( weal? ) :i* to provide = ! bride4 ,?is is a matt] ( pride ) ev5 ! poore/ lov]1--) all save t small class ( m5 :o1 ei!r f ! mo/ worldly ( motives or1 9 ! v opposite extreme1 f motives s high t !y w n p]mit p]sonal pride to /& 9 ! way ( ! real union ( he>ts1 submit to ! indignity ( becom+ p5sion]s r ?an donors4 ,:atev] ! cu/om = ! division ( responsibility 9 reg>d to ! home & ! future1 9 actual life1 9 e true home responsibility is equal1 & conv5i5ce alone decrees :at ! bride & ! bridegroom %all ea* contribute to ! common ho>d4 ,! bridegroom also provides a "p ( ! w$d+1 & al?\gh 8 %>e is m9imiz$1 yet x is (t5 a co/ly & important "p4 ,he %\ld provide ! fl[]s :i* ! bride & h] att5dants c>ry4 ,! bride usually *ooses h] fl[]s1 :i* are ord9>ily :ite roses1 lilies ( ! valley1 or fragrant :ite fl[]s ( h] favorite k9d4 ,besides provid+ ! w$d+ r+1 ! bridegroom usually pres5ts to ! bride "s gift4 ,x is p]haps ! de$ ( ! h\se he has b\ght & furni%$ = h]4 ,or x may be jewelry1 or any?+ else t %e desires & t he may h x 9 8 p[] to be/[4 ,! bride makes him no special gift o!r ?an h] h&1 z t is h] supreme gift4 ,! p]sonal provision ( ! bridegroom sometimes consi/s ( a new w>drobe ?r\gh\t1 besides 8 w$d+ suit4 ,if he is wise he w we> 8 new suits some:at be=e he appe>s 9 !m z newly m>ri$4 ,8 w$d+ suit w consi/ ( ev5+ dress1 if he is to be m>ri$ 9 ! ev5+1 complete ) :ite gloves & tie1 & b\tonnire ( ! same fl[]s z ! bride's b\quet4 ,if m>ri$ 9 ! aft]noon1 or any "t be=e six o'clock1 he w we> a frock coat ( black1 :ite ve/1 gray tr\s]s1 & :ite tie & gloves4 ,9 case ! w$d+ is 9 ! ev5+ & ! bride is to we> h] travel+ dress1 hat1 & gloves1 ! bridegroom may we> ! same suit z = an aft]noon w$d+1 if he *ooses4 ,! cu/om ( hav+ a new w>drobe ?r\gh\t is n necess>ily foll[$1 ( c\rse4 ,x is ?r\gh ! bridegroom's consid]ation = ! bride1 & 8 appreciation ( ! h\sewifely duties :i* %e und]takes on 8 behalf1 t he makes ^? z small z possible at fir/1 kn[+ t ! ye>s w br+ h] h] full %>e4 ,! bride's w$d+ w>drobe is made a matt] ( special mom5t1 because x is = ! la/ "t t %e is outfitt$ by h] fa!r4 ,!re=e1 he wi%es to give h] all t %e ne$s = "s "t to come1 t %e may gr[ us$ to reliance ^u h] husb& be=e he has to und]take ! burd5 ( h] p]sonal exp5ses 9 ! matt] ( clo!s4 ,! outlay1 h[ev]1 is limit$ 9 quantity to ! probable ne$s ( ! fir/ season ( m>ri$ life1 if ! bride is wise1 z !re is no wisdom 9 hav+ m g>m5ts ?an c be worn to advantage be=e ! /yle *anges4 ,no s5sible woman w set a /&>d ( exp5diture too high = h] future income1 9 :at %e buys = h] w$d+ w>drobe4 ,! only circum/ances 9 :i* %e %\ld exce$ ! mode/ sum ( h] usual outlay1--beyond ! fact t %e ne$s m & special g>m5ts = ! diff]5t social occasions1 & has a pride 9 hav+ !m z nice z possible1--are ^? 9 :i* %e m>ries a man ( mu* high] social /ation & mu* l>g] income ?an h] own4 ,9 t case x may be well = h] to put "s ( h] sav+s = ! future into ! g[ns :i* %e kn[s w be necess>y = h] 9 h] new /ation4 ,! special g[ns necess>y = a bride are3 ,h] w$d+ g[n1--:i* is ( pure :ite if a maid51 or pe>l gray or "s o!r delicate color if a wid[1--! w$d+ veil1 ! travel+ suit1 a reception g[n1 a *ur* suit1 a some:at elaborate visit+ suit1 a pla9 /reet suit1 h\se dresses1 a da9ty wrapp]1 & a new outfitt+ ( und]clo?+1 9 numb] & quality to suit h] usual cu/om1 or z nice z %e c af=d4 ,= ! bride ^: purse is n ov]full ! numb] ( g[ns & suits c be mat]ially dim9i%$2 ! w$d+ g[n1 ) "s slight *anges1 su* z ! removal ( ! high coll> & long sleeves1 c be us$ z an ev5+ dress2 ! travel+1 *ur*1 & visit+ suit may be "o & ! same2 ! h\se dresses may be r$uc$ to a m9imum by frequ5t wa%+4 ,t "o _c provide an elaborate w>drobe ) :i* to beg9 m>ri$ life %\ld n be a b>ri] to a m>riage :i* 9 e o!r respect appe>s to be auspici\s4 ,! bride's tr\sseau prop]1 or t /ore ( l95 :i* %e provides = h] new home1 %\ld consi/ ( approximately ! foll[+3 ,= e b$ ?ree pairs ( %eets1 ?ree pairs ( pill[ cases1 ?ree bol/] cases1 "o or two pairs ( blankets1 two c\nt]panes1 & an extra quilt4 ,= h] b$rooms %e %\ld provide table1 /&1 & bureau cov]s1 z ! /yle ( ! furniture may sugge/1 & also su* cov]s = c\* pill[s or arm*airs z a ?rifty h\sewife w\ld desire = ! sake ( cleanl9ess4 ,= ! ba?-room !re %\ld be ?ree doz5 t[els1 a half-doz5 ba? t[els4 ,t[els = ! maid %\ld also be includ$4 ,= ! d9+-room1 f\r tableclo?s & two doz5 napk9s = common use1 ) two f9] tableclo?s & two doz5 napk9s = special occasions1 make ample provision = ! av]age home4 ,!re %\ld be doilies & tray clo?s1 cov]s = ! sidebo>d1 also mats & c5t]pieces = ! table4 ,= ! kit*51 ?ree doz5 clo? t[els = di%es1 h& t[els1 clean+ clo?s1 hold]s1 & e necess>y sort ( t[el 9 abundance4 ,) ! increas+ use ( ! pap] t[el1 mu* ( ?is provision = ba?-room & kit*5 may be disp5s$ )1 z ! pap] t[el is mu* neat] & m economical4 ,! w$d+ g[n1 :i* is ( :ite sat9 or silk1 & usually z ri* & elegant z ! bride c af=d1 is always cut high 9 ! neck & ) long sleeves1 or1 if elb[ sleeves1 !y are supplem5t$ by long gloves1 :i* are n remov$ ev5 at ! w$d+ breakfa/4 ,! cu/om is to we> :ite exclusively f veil to %oes4 ,:e!r or n ! veil is worn1 a hat is nev] provid$ = ?is g[n4 ,x is cu/om>y1 9 case a bride is m>ri$ 9 h] travel+ suit1 = h] to we> ! hat & gloves :i* g ) x4 ,at a home w$d+1 h[ev]1 ?is rule is n usually adh]$ to1 unless ! c\ple leave at once4 ,! bridal veil & orange blossoms are worn only at ! fir/ m>riage ( a woman1 & usually only ) a g[n made ) a tra94 ,! bridegroom %\ld acqua9t himself ) ! rules & regulations 9 reg>d to ! m>riage lic5se "s weeks ahead ( ! date set = ! w$d+1 if possible1 z ! rules v>y 9 diff]5t /ates1 & 9 "s a p]iod ( resid5ce or notification is necess>y4 ,a m>riage c]tificate1 furni%+ easily available k ( ! legality ( ! m>riage & its date1 is (t5 ( great conv5i5ce 9 ! disposition ( prop]ty1 ! probat+ ( wills1 & 9 ! settlem5t ( num]\s que/ions :i* might arise 9 m9or matt]s4 ,?is %\ld be provid$ be=e ! c]emony1 fill$ out & sign$ imm$iately aft] x by ! (ficiat+ cl]gyman1 & sign$ by sev]al witnesses4 ,! w$d+ r+ is1 by long e/abli%$ cu/om1 a pla9 gold b&4 ,x %\ld be ( ! be/ gold1 & ! fa%ion n[ is = x to be mod]ately n>r[ & ?9 r ?an wide & ?ick4 ,! r+1 ! unbrok5 circle1 is symbolic ( et]nity4 ,! bridegroom gives x into ! keep+ ( ! be/ man1 ^: duty x is to h& x promptly to him at ! prop] mom5t ( ! c]emony4 ,! initials & date are engrav$ ^u ! inn] surface ( ! r+4 ,:5 wid] r+s 7 worn "s appropriate s5tim5t 0 also (t5 engrav$4 ,once plac$ ^u ! bride's f+]1 x is h] pride to see t x is nev] remov$4 ,z ,mrs4 ,sang/] feel+s says1 ,x is a badge ( honor1 &1 worn on any woman's h&1 a symbol ( h] "r to belong to ! ranks ( wor?y matrons4 ,x is well to rehe>se ! movem5ts ( ! bridal procession )9 a day or two ( ! c]emony1 t !re may be no flaw 9 ! conduct ( ! actors 9 ?is dramatic bit ( realism4 ,if x is to be a *ur* w$d+1 m ?an "o rehe>sal may be requir$4 ,9 t case ! organi/ %\ld be pres5t1 z well z e memb] ( ! bridal p>ty1 except ! cl]gyman4 ,! op5+ ( ! *ur* = su* rehe>sal is includ$ 9 ! fee :i* ! sexton receives1 :i* ranges f t5 to fifty doll>s4 ,usually refre%m5ts1 9 ! =m ( ei!r a d9n] or supp]1 foll[ ! rehe>sal1 ! bride ent]ta9+ at h] home4 ,if ! ,episcopal s]vice is to be us$1 or any o!r s]vice 9 :i* ! bride & bridegroom kneel1 cu%ions = _! use %\ld be provid$4 ,^! are usually cov]$ 9 :ite sat91 ) out] cov]s ( v %e] lawn ^u :i* ! initials may be work$4 ,! floral decorations ( ! *ur* or home %\ld be subord9at$ to ! ma9 int]e/2 t is1 !y %\ld n be too elaborate1 take up too mu* room1 or d o!r ?an furni% a fitt+ backgr\nd = ! bridal c\ple4 ,! decorations usually foll[ "s def9ite color s*eme1 al?\gh simply ! :ite fl[]s ) gre5 foliage are appropriate & symbolic = a *ur* w$d+4 ,a few palms1 simple b\quets ( fl[]s arrang$ naturally & gracefully1 ) foliage to contra/ & fill ! corn]s1 w decorate an alt> or make a pleasant b[]4 ,:5 co/l9ess r ?an beauty is ! effect ( fl[]s1 ! display is vulg>4 ,an awn+ %\ld be /ret*$ f ! h\se or *ur* door to ! sidewalk1 s t ! gue/s & bridal p>ty may n be subject$ to ! gaze ( curi\s pass]s-by z !y leave ! c>riages4 ,an att5dant %\ld be /ation$ at ! sidewalk to op5 ! doors ( ! c>riages1 & to give to ! coa*m5 & gue/s numb]s by :i* _! c>riages may be spe$ily call$4 ,:ile ! provision ( ! c>riages belongs ) all o!r ?+s to ! bride's family1 ! c>riages = ! bridegroom & 8 family are provid$ by !m4 ,,*apt] ,,xii ,,! ,,conduct ,,( ,a ,,w$d+ ,,9 cities at pres5t ! mo/ fa%ionable h\r = ! c]emony is high noon1 foll[+ ! ,engli% cu/om1 & 9 remembrance ( ! long-/&+ tradition :i* plac$ ! w$d+ e>ly 9 ! day1 be=e ! night's fa/ _h be5 brok54 ,! aft]noon is a suitable "t1 z x enables fri5ds to ga!r m conv5i5tly f ! di/ance1 & z ! reception ) refre%m5ts is mu* m easily arrang$ = ?an is a breakfa/4 ,= an aft]noon w$d+1 ?ree o'clock is ! prop] h\r 9 ! w9t]1 f\r o'clock 9 ! summ]4 ,! ev5+ 0 at "o p]iod ! fa%ionable "t1 & x /ill reta9s its popul>ity & long w among ! middle class ( p & 9 ! c\ntry1 because a l>g] ga!r+ ( fri5ds c be expect$ at t "t1 z all are free f bus9ess & h\sehold c>es4 ,! ,*ur* ,w$d+ ,= ! *ur* w$d+ special arrangem5ts mu/ be made = ! seat+ ( ! gue/s4 ,a c]ta9 numb] ( pews 9 ! c5t] front ( ! *ur* are res]v$ = ! families & intimate fri5ds ( ! bride & bridegroom4 ,! res]vation is indicat$ by a broad :ite ribbon b>ri] across ! aisle1 or a g>l& ( fl[]s4 ,! family ( ! bride is seat$ on "o side ( ! aisle1 & t ( ! bridegroom on ! o!r4 ,! u%]s %\ld be at ! *ur* at lea/ a half-h\r be=e ! gue/s beg9 to arrive4 ,!y we> small buttonhole b\quets ( fl[]s l ^? us$ 9 ! decorations ( ! *ur*1 :i* are s5t !m !re by ! flori/4 ,9 seat+ ! gue/s !y %\ld take great c>e to seat 9 ! res]v$ space only ^? ^: names are on ! li/ giv5 !m z belong+ !re4 ,!re=e1 !y ask ! "n ( ea* gue/ :om !y d n "k be=e assign+ him 8 seat4 ,sometimes1 h[ev]1 ea* ( ^! special gue/s is provid$ ) a c>d :i* he gives to ! u%]4 ,:5 a g5tleman & lady ent] ! *ur* toge!r1 ! u%] (f]s 8 "r arm to ! lady1 & ! g5tleman foll[s !m z !y proce$ d[n ! aisle4 ,:5 sev]al ladies arrive toge!r1 ! u%] (f]s 8 arm to ! elde/1 & reque/s ! o!rs to foll[ z he conducts h] to h] seat4 ,ea* u%] asks ( ea* gue/ :e!r he is fri5d ( ! bride or bridegroom1 & seats him accord+ly1 ^u ! left ( ! *ur* if a fri5d ( ! bride1 ^u ! "r if a fri5d ( ! groom4 ,9 case ! bridegroom is f ! di/ance1 & !re=e !re are few ( 8 fri5ds pres5t1 ?is cu/om is n foll[$4 ,imm$iately be=e ! bridal p>ty appe>s1 ! "m ( ! bride is escort$ by ! head u%] to a seat 9 ! front pew4 ,any si/]s or bro!rs ( ! bride :o may n be 9 ! bridal procession ent] ) _! "m4 ,mean:ile ! bridal p>ty has be5 ga!r+1 ! bridesmaids go+ to ! home ( ! bride & !re receiv+ f h] _! b\quets1 :i* are ! gift ( ! bridegroom4 ,!nce !y take c>riages to ! *ur*1 :]e !y all arrive at ! h\r set = ! c]emony4 ,:5 ! fir/ c>riage arrives1 conta9+ two ( ! bridesmaids1--z ! c>riage ( ! bride & h] fa!r is ! la/1--! head u%] closes ! inn] ve/ibule door1 & ! o!r u%]s see t all entrance at side doors is b>r$4 ,:5 ! bride arrives ! out] /reet doors are clos$1 & ! procession =ms4 ,two ( ! u%]s h already c>ri$ ! broad :ite ribbon d[n ! sides ( ! ma9 aisle1 ?us %utt+ 9 ! pews1 & h tak5 d[n ! ribbon b>ri] across x4 ,! bridegroom & 8 be/ man h come 9 a c>riage by !mselves & ent]$ ! *ur* by ! ve/ry door4 ,!y & ! cl]gyman await ! notice ( ! bride's arrival4 ,! organi/1 :o has be5 play+ appropriate selections :ile ! gue/s 7 assembl+1 beg9s on ! w$d+ m>* z ! doors to ! *ur* are ?r[n op5 9 signal t all is 9 read9ess4 ,! audi5ce rises4 ,! cl]gyman takes 8 place1 & ! bridgegroom & be/ man ent]1 ! =m] /&+ at ! cl]gyman's left1 ! latt] j beh9d ! bridegroom1 :o is fac+ ! aisle d[n :i* ! bride w come4 ,fir/ come ! u%]s1 two & two1 keep+ pace ) ! "t ( ! music1 :i* is a /ately1 dignifi$ m>*4 ,! bridesmaids foll[1 also two & two1 ) ab\t six feet ( space betwe5 ea* c\ple4 ,! maid ( honor alone1 or ! maid & matron ( honor toge!r1 !n come4 ,! fl[] girl1 or fl[] *ildr5 foll[1 scatt]+ fl[]s f a basket hung ^u ! left arm4 ,!n come ! bride & h] fa!r1 or ne>e/ male relative1 %e ) d[nca/ eyes & lean+ ^u 8 "r arm4 ,! procession divides z x rea*es a spot opposite ! place :]e ! bride & bridegroom are to /&1 or1 9 an ,episcopal *ur*1 ! top ( ! *ancel /eps2 half g to ! "r & half to ! left4 ,! bridesmaids /& betwe5 ! u%]s1 all be+ gr\p$ 9 a semicircle4 ,! maid ( honor /&s at ! left1 9 front ( ! bridesmaids & ne> ! bride4 ,! bridegroom advances to meet ! bride1 :o leaves h] fa!r & takes ! bridegroom's h&1 !n accepts 8 left arm & is escort$ by him to a position 9 front ( ! cl]gyman4 ,! c\ple kneel = a mom5t be=e ! c]emony beg9s4 ,at ! place 9 ! c]emony :]e ! "q is ask$1 ,:o give? ?is woman to be m>ri$ to ?is man8 ! fa!r1 :o has be5 /&+ a few feet back1 advances & places ! bride's "r h& 9 t ( ! cl]gyman1 :o places x 9 ! "r h& ( ! bridegroom4 ,! fa!r !n takes 8 seat 9 ! front pew ) 8 wife1 :om1 z !y leave ! *ur*1 he escorts4 ,%\ld a wid[$ "m be ! only "o to respond to ?is inquiry1 %e simply rises f h] seat & b[s4 ,9 su* a case ! bridegroom usually ent]s ) ! bride1 & ! procession is less elaborate4 ,:5 ! tro? is be+ plight$ & ! r+ is ab\t to be giv51 ! be/ man h&s x to ! bridegroom1 :o passes x to ! bride4 ,%e h&s x to ! cl]gyman1 :o returns x to ! bridegroom4 ,!n ! latt] places x ^u ! ?ird f+] ( ! bride's left h&4 ,! significance ( ! pass+ ( ! r+ is t x completes a circle1 ! symbol ( et]nity1 ( :i* ! cl]gyman is "o1 ?us symboliz+ ! sanction ( ! *ur*4 ,aft] ! c]emony ! cl]gyman congratulates ! newly w$d$ c\ple1 & ! bride takes ! "r arm ( h] husb&1 walk+ ?us d[n ! aisle1 ! bridal p>ty foll[+ 9 rev]se ord]1 ! u%]s !re=e la/4 ,ev5 at a /ately *ur* c]emonial x has be5 kn[n = ! bride to /op & kiss h] "m be=e pass+ d[n ! aisle4 ,! duties ( ! maid ( honor dur+ ! s]vice are to take f ! bride h] glove & b\quet z ! cl]gyman asks ! bride & bridegroom to jo9 h&s4 ,!n x is h] c>e to remove ! veil f be=e ! face ( ! bride :5 ! c]emony is ov]1 & to turn ! tra9 ( h] g[n t x may fall rightly z %e passes up ! aisle4 ,occasionally :5 !re are two ma9 aisles to ! *ur*1 ! bridal procession ent]s on ! "o amid ! fri5ds ( ! bride1 & returns on t amid ! fri5ds ( ! groom1 to signify t ! bride has n[ become "o ( !m4 ,! be/ man foll[s ! cl]gyman to ! ve/ry1 h&s him ! fee1 if ! groom _h n be=e done s1 & passes d[n ! side aisle to signal = ! bridal c>riage1 & to give ! bridegroom 8 hat & coat4 ,he !n goes to ! bride's h\se1 :]e he assi/s ! u%]s 9 introduc+ ! gue/s to ! pair4 ,! organi/ />ts up a v joy\s m>* at ! conclusion ( ! c]emony1 & cont9ues play+ :ile ! gue/s are disp]s+4 ,foll[+ ! bridal procession ! families & intimate fri5ds ( ! c\ple pass out be=e ! audi5ce1 z ! ribbon b>ri]s :i* res]ve ! aisle are n tak5 d[n until all h pass$ out4 ,if ! reception is at ! home1 ?is gives ! bridal p>ty "t to ent] ! c>riages2 if ! reception is 9 ! *ur* p>lors1 x gives "t = !m to take _! places 9 ! receiv+ l9e4 ,at ! bride's home !re is n[ "t1 be=e ! gue/s arrive1 = all ( ! bridal p>ty to congratulate & felicitate ! bride & bridegroom1 & also to sign aft] !m ! regi/] ( ! m>riage1 :i* is 9 ! c>e ( ! be/ man4 ,?is is usually 9 ! =m ( a book b\nd 9 :ite1 ) ! initials ( ! bride & bridegroom emboss$ ^u x1 & opportunity is usually giv5 = ! w$d+ gue/s to add _! signatures also4 ,! bride's "m1 :o is ! real ho/ess ( ! occasion1 /&s ne> ! entrance ( ! room 9 :i* ! reception is held4 ,9 a receiv+ l9e at ! head ( ! room /& ! bride & bridegroom ) half ( ! bridesmaids rang$ on ! bride's "r & ! o!r half on ! groom's left4 ,! p>5ts ( ! groom /& ne> & ! fa!r ( ! bride ) !m or ) 8 wife1 z ho/4 ,! u%]s pres5t ! gue/s to ! bride & bridegroom1 & !n to _! p>5ts1 z gue/s ( honor4 ,a few words ( congratulation to ! bridegroom & ( be/ wi%es to ! bride are all t ! few mom5ts possible = ea* gue/ p]mit4 ,! bride (f]s h] h& to ea* gue/1 & pres5ts to h] husb& h] fri5ds1 z he does 8 to h]4 ,! ,home ,w$d+ ,! home w$d+ may be made 9 e way q z ideal z ! *ur* w$d+1 & is mu* m simple1 its privacy appeal+ to _m4 ,! h\se w be decorat$ ) fl[]s 9 good ta/e & n too great pr(usion4 ,usually a canopy or b[] ( fl[]s & foliage is erect$ at ! head ( ! draw+-room4 ,?is %\ld n be too massive1 z only a special gr\p+ ( ! fl[]s is pref]able to an arrangem5t :i* is too cr[d$ or %ad$4 ,z ! gue/s arrive ! "m & si/]s ( ! bride receive !m4 ,! fa!r ( ! bride does n appe>1 nor1 ( c\rse1 does ! bride1 until !y ent] toge!r4 ,a room is plac$ at ! disposal ( ! bridegroom1 ! be/ man1 & ! cl]gyman4 ,at ! /roke ( ! h\r appo9t$1 ! cl]gyman ent]s & takes 8 /& fac+ ! company4 ,! bridegroom & be/ man also ent] & /& at ! left ( ! cl]gyman1 ! be/ man some:at beh9d4 ,z 9 a *ur* w$d+1 ! broad :ite ribbon is us$ to m>k ! aisle4 ,if b\quets are atta*$ to ! ends ( x1 !y w hold x 9 place4 ,!n f ! f>!/ corn] ( ! room ent]s ! bridal procession1 =m$ z = a *ur* w$d+4 ,at a simple h\se w$d+ !re are (t5 no att5dants1 ! bride & bridegroom ent]+ ! room toge!r1 ! bride's fa!r hav+ tak5 8 position ne> at h&1 :]e he c readily respond at ! "r mom5t4 ,ano!r way ( =m+ ! procession1 :i* has all ! advantages ( ! m elaborate "o1 is = ! be/ man to foll[ ! u%]s1 !n ! "o bridesmaid to ent] imm$iately prec$+ ! bride & bridegroom4 ,music is (t5 disp5s$ ) at a home w$d+4 ,:5 ! c]emony is ov] ! cl]gyman congratulates ! c\ple & )draws1 & !y1 turn+1 face _! fri5ds1 :o !n come to wi% !m happ9ess4 ,:e!r ! w$d+ take place 9 ! home or at ! *ur*1 ! bridal pageant has only "o object 9 view1--x is :olly = ! sake ( ! bridegroom4 ,e woman desires to come to h] husb& 9 all ! glory ( h] womanhood & ( h] social position4 ,by all cu/om ! bridegroom does n see 8 bride ^u ! w$d+ day until %e approa*es him z he /&s at ! alt>4 ,s1 ) h] family do+ h] ! utmo/ honor t !y c1 %e comes to him1 br++ all t %e has & is1 & plac+ h]self & h] future 9 8 c>e4 ,! com+ is j z real1 h[ev]1 ?\gh ! utmo/ simplicity prevail4 ,back ( all ! m9ute detail ( w$d+ cu/om !re is a symbolism4 ,) ! con/ant elevation ( ! /&>ds ( m>riage1 ?is symbolism & ^! cu/oms gr[ pur] & m 9 accord ) ! ideals4 ,j z x is always tak5 = grant$ t a m>riage c]emony is unit+ lov+ he>ts1 s little by little all t is at v>iance ) t ?\ght w drop away1 z h already sev]al m9or details1 & new =ms & cu/oms m 9 h>mony ) ! new ideals take ! place ( ! old4 ,^! *anges1 h[ev]1 come v gradually1 & %\ld n be ha/5$1 b %\ld only keep pace ) ! new conceptions4 ,nev]!less1 !re %\ld n be too t5aci\s a cl++ to ! old =ms1 :i* express$ l[] conceptions1 :5 ! ma/]ly ?\ght ( ! day is =g+ out high] & pur] ideals ( m>riage4 ,! ,w$d+ ,breakfa/ ,! w$d+ breakfa/ is ! "n giv5 to ! refre%m5ts :i* foll[ ! noon w$d+4 ,x is usually giv5 :5 !re are b few relatives & intimate fri5ds1 because x is an exp5sive fea/ if l>ge numb]s are invit$4 ,x is really a d9n]1 s]v$ 9 c\rses1 at num]\s small tables1 ea* ) a complete d9n] s]vice4 ,"o l>ge table1 plac$ 9 ! c5t] ( ! room or else:]e conspicu\sly1 is res]v$ = ! bridal p>ty4 ,! m5u usually consi/s ( fruit1 raw oy/]s1 b\illon1 fi% or lob/] 9 "s fancy =m1 an entre1 birds & salad1 ices1 cakes1 bonbons1 & c(fee1 accord+ to "o recogniz$ au?ority4 ,or x may be mu* simpl]1 & include only oy/]s or b\illon1 s&wi*es & salad1 ices1 cakes1 & c(fee4 ,usually "s pun* is s]v$ 9 :i* to pl$ge ! bride & bridegroom4 ,if w9e is us$1 *ampagne is cu/om>y = w$d+s4 ,! cat]] usually supplies all ! necessities = ! w$d+ fea/1 ev5 to *9a1 l951 silv]1 c&elabra1 & fl[]s1 %\ld ! bride's p>5ts s wi%4 ,at ! w$d+ reception1 aft] ! congratulations & greet+s are ov]1 & ! breakfa/ is ann\nc$1 ! bride & bridegroom lead ! way to ! d9+-room4 ,!n comes ! bride's fa!r ) ! groom's "m4 ,! bridegroom's fa!r foll[s ) "s memb] ( ! bride's family1 !n come ! be/ man & ! maid ( honor4 ,! u%]s & bridesmaids pair (f1 & o!r memb]s ( ! bridal p>ty or ( ! two families foll[ 9 pairs4 ,la/ly1 z ho/ess ( ! occasion1 comes ! bride's "m1 ) ! (ficiat+ cl]gyman1 or ! s5ior & highe/ 9 rank ( ! cl]gym51 if !re be m ?an "o1 z gue/ ( honor4 ,! re/ ( ! gue/s1 :o are n seat$ at ! bridal table1 f9d _! seats z !y *oose1 ) fri5ds1 no place c>ds be+ us$4 ,= an aft]noon or ev5+ reception ! refre%m5ts are s]v$ z = any reception4 ,a l>ge table 9 ! d9+-room is decorat$ ) fl[]s & pil$ ) ! edibles1 :i* are s]v$ by ! wait]s to ! gue/s z !y ent]4 ,! v>iety ( food dep5ds :olly ^u ! res\rces ( ! bride's p>5ts & ! size & elaborat5ess ( ! w$d+4 ,_m pref] a simple repa/ z ! h\r is unusual = a meal1 & a d9n] is n to be s]v$4 ,:5 ! bride & bridegroom ent] & are s]v$1 ! be/ man proposes a toa/ to _! heal? & happ9ess1 & all pres5t /&1 glass 9 h&1 & pl$ge !m4 ,at a w$d+ breakfa/ ! ,engli% cu/om is to h toa/s & spee*es1 b x is n foll[$ l>gely 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,:]e x is1 usually at a small w$d+ p>ty1 ! fa!r ( ! bridegroom or ! be/ man proposes ! heal? ( ! bride & bridegroom4 ,! fa!r ( ! bride responds4 ,sometimes ! bridegroom is call$ on to respond to ?is toa/1 :i* he does1 propos+ 9 turn ! heal? ( ! bridesmaids4 ,to ?is ! be/ man responds4 ,! w$d+ cake is a ri* d>k fruit cake1 :i* is at its be/ only :5 made mon?s 9 advance & kept 9 a /one crock well cov]$4 ,?is is f9ely fro/$ & ornam5t$4 ,at ! close ( ! w$d+ breakfa/ ! w$d+ cake is set be=e ! bride1 :o cuts ! fir/ slice f x4 ,x is !n pass$ to ! o!rs4 ,at a l>ge w$d+1 :]e no breakfa/ is s]v$1 ! w$d+ cake is usually cut into small pieces & plac$ 9 :ite boxes1 :i* are decorat$ ) ! initials ( ! bride & bridegroom & are ti$ ) :ite ribbon4 ,^! are plac$ ^u a table 9 ! hall ne> ! door & ! gue/s ei!r ea* take "o z he leaves1 or "o is h&$ him by a s]vant4 ,sometimes a "p ( ! w$d+ cake is put away 9 a t9 box & seal$1 to be op5$ by ! c\ple on "s future anniv]s>y4 ,! w$d+ cake is di/9ct f ! bride's cake1 :i* may be s]v$ by ! latt] at a d9n] to h] bridesmaids a day or m be=e ! w$d+1 & 9 :i* a ?imble1 a co91 & a r+ are hidd54 ,! sup]/ition is t ! "y wom5 :o by *ance receive ! slices conta9+ ^! are respectively de/9$ = a future ( s+le bless$ness1 weal?1 or dome/ic bliss4 ,at a reception ! l>g] numb] ( ! gue/s dep>t be=e ! bridal c\ple g to ! d9+-room4 ,z soon z refre%m5ts are s]v$ !m1 & ! toa/ to !m has be5 drunk1 !y retire to don suits = travel+4 ,! bridegroom waits = ! bride at ! foot ( ! /aircase1 & ! bridesmaids ga!r !re too1 z :5 %e comes1 %e ?r[s h] bridal b\quet among !m1 & ! bridesmaid :o cat*es x w be ! next bride1 accord+ to an old sup]/ition4 ,z ! out] door is op5$ to let ! c\ple out1 all ! fri5ds & relatives pres5t ?r[ fl[]s or confetti or rice aft] !m1 = good luck1 & an old :ite slipp] is ?r[n aft] ! c>riage z !y drive (f4 ,! cu/om ( ?us %[]+ ! dep>t+ c\ple has be5 sometimes c>ri$ to su* an extreme t _m refra9 f x4 ,rice is some:at dang]\s1 & confetti is s di/9ctive z frequ5tly to cause emb>rassm5t :5 9 a public tra9 or /ation4 ,fl[]s may appropriately be us$1 & are always at h& 9 ! decorations ( ! home4 ,! ,w$d+ ,j\rney ,! w$d+ j\rney is ! bride & bridegroom's affair1 & ! k ( x is kept _! secret & divulg$ only to ! be/ man1 :o probably helps arrange = x1 & to ! fa!r & "m ( ! bride1 & !y all are sil5t ab\t x4 ,! intrusion ( ev5 intimate fri5ds ^u su* a trip is n consid]$ good =m4 ,! cu/om ( tak+ a j\rney at ?is "t is n s rigidly obs]v$ z x us$ to be1 _m "y c\ples pref]r+ to g direct to _! new home1 or to a quiet c\ntry h\se = ! honeymoon4 ,! real wi%es ( ! c\ple %\ld be foll[$ out at ?is "t1 because !y are n[ m free f social obligations ?an !y w be lat]1 & a wise />t ^u m>ri$ life is ( all ?+s mo/ desirable & necess>y4 ,w$d+ ,fee ,! fee %\ld be plac$ 9 an envelope or purse1 & giv5 to ! cl]gyman by ! be/ man or "s fri5d ( ! bridegroom1 j be=e or j aft] ! c]emony1 z may be mo/ conv5i5t4 ,x is sometimes h&$ to ! cl]gyman by ! bridegroom at ! close ( ! c]emony & be=e ! c\ple turn away f ! alt>4 ,x %\ld be always giv5 quietly1 privately1 & ) no display or comm5t4 ,! cl]gyman does n exam9e ! fee or comm5t ^u x1 o!r ?an indicat+ 8 acceptance4 ,! size ( ! fee is a matt] ( individual ta/e4 ,because x is uno/5tati\sly giv51 its size is kn[n only to ! bridegroom & ! cl]gyman1 & to none o!rs unless !y wi% to tell4 ,!re are "s p 9 fa%ionable circles :o employ a m9i/] only at m>riages & fun]als1 & :o labor "u ! impression t !y are objects ( *>ity & t by !m ev5 ! small favor is always ?ankfully receiv$4 ,no "o ?+ s d5otes ! degree ( real ref9em5t 9 a man z ! fee he (f]s ! cl]gyman = m>ry+ him4 ,! cl]gyman is "o ( ! ?ree pr9cipals 9 ! m>riage c]emony4 ,! great majority ( brides desire t _! m>riage %\ld h ! sanction & b5$iction ( ! religi\s body ) :i* !y wor%ip1 or :i* has /&+ 9 _! community & among _! p4 ,at ! v lea/1 9 ! civil m>riage1 )\t a ?ird p>ty to repres5t ei!r *ur* or /ate a m>riage c]emony & !re=e a legaliz$ m>riage is impossible4 ,! ?ird pr9cipal is !re=e an important "p ( ! affair4 ,to treat him %abbily 9 any way d5otes no real appreciation ( 8 pres5ce4 ,s x is t ! true g5tleman is z will+ to give a h&some fee to him1 if 8 means p]mit x1 z he is to give to 8 bride some?+ :i* %all delight & please h]1 & :i* %all symbolize 8 appreciation ( ! gift ( h]self4 ,! bridegroom's (f]+ to ! cl]gyman is inde$ ! t\*/one ( 8 ref9em5t4 ,w$d+ fees v>y f five to a ?\s& doll>s1 ! usual am\nt be+ tw5ty-five doll>s = ! fairly afflu5t4 ,w$d+ ,pres5ts ,s extreme has become ! cu/om ( s5d+ w$d+ pres5ts t x is p]haps necess>y to rem9d ^? :o really desire to d ! correct ?+1 t a p]functory s]vice1 or gift1 or c\rtesy has no intr9sic value1 & ! omission ( x w\ld (t5 be f> m satisfactory ?an its be/[al4 ,! usual =m ( w$d+ gift is some?+ ( use & ornam5t = ! new h\se4 ,silv]1 l951 cut glass1 or *9a = ! d9+-room1 furniture1 rugs1 lamps1 clocks1 vases1 books1 & pictures1 or bric-a-brac = ! re/ ( ! h\se1 are all appropriate4 ,if silv] is giv51 x %\ld n be m>k$1 z ! bride may h duplicates & pref] to ex*ange "s pieces = o!rs1 or z %e may h a special =m ( engrav+ :i* %e pref]s4 ,! ex*ange ( a gift1 h[ev]1 removes f x ! p]sonal ?\ght ( ! giv]1 & makes its acceptance m a matt] ( m]c5>y ?an ( fri5dly int]e/4 ,if1 h[ev]1 su* ex*ange is made at ! sugge/ion or ) ! approval ( ! giv]1 x /ill rema9s a p]sonal gift4 ,! indef9ite way 9 :i* _m p *oose w$d+ gifts = _! fri5ds1 foll[+ only ! conv5tional ideas ( :at is suitable1 has tak5 a great deal ( p]sonal int]e/ f ! gift at ! v fir/4 ,! w$d+ gift %\ld be a real gift 9 _s1 some?+ expressive ( ! giv]'s good wi%es1 & some?+ :i* ! bride & bridegroom c enjoy & appreciate = its wor? to !m4 ,fooli% ?+s1 :e!r exp5sive or n1 h no real utility or beauty1 & h always ! atmosph]e ( insult ab\t !m1 or else always reflect ^u ! intellig5ce ( ! giv]4 ,a bride %\ld ackn[l$ge all gifts z soon z !y are receiv$1 & be=e h] w$d+ day if possible4 ,spontane\s r ?an /]eotyp$ notes ( ?anks are pref]able4 ,!y %\ld %[ appreciation ( ! gift1 & include ! "n ( ! bridegroom-elect 9 h] expression ( _! gratitude4 ,a bride %\ld rememb] t too elaborate notes1 :i* are a grave tax on h] /r5g? or "t 9 ! busy days prec$+ a w$d+1 are unwise1 z is any o!r unnecess>y exp5diture ( en]gy4 ,x is nev] obligatory to s5d a w$d+ pres5t4 ,! w$d+ ann\ncem5t & w$d+ invitation are equally sugge/ive ( su* gifts1 = 9 ei!r case1 :e!r "o is invit$ to ! c]emony or n1 "o is p]fectly free to d z he pleases ab\t conf]r+ a gift4 ,! ,c\ntry ,w$d+ ,!re is an especial attractiv5ess & simplicity ab\t ! out-door w$d+ 9 ! c\ntry1 = ^? :o desire to get rid ( ! conv5tional & artificial4 ,su* a w$d+ is1 ( c\rse1 a day w$d+4 ,! late aft]noon might be *os51 b ! twilight nev]4 ,! wea!r mu/ be w>m4 ,a seclud$ corn] 9 ! g>d51 ! %ade ( "s /ately tree on ! lawn1 or ! fl[]y seclusion ( "s or*>d tree make attractive *ancels = ! c]emony4 ,! grass %\ld be cut close1 & all leaves & dbris swept away4 ,some:at remov$ f ! place ( ! c]emony1 b /ill on ! lawn or piazza1 small tables & *airs may be plac$ 9 gr\ps1 & refre%m5ts s]v$ out ( doors also4 ,! simplicity & homelike yet solemn atmosph]e ( a w$d+ 9 a c\ntry *ur* appeal to _m4 ,!re mu* ( ! =mality ( a city *ur* w$d+ may be disp5s$ )1 & yet ! :ole ( ! religi\s _s1 :i* %\ld att5d a *ur* w$d+1 & inde$ any w$d+1 be reta9$4 ,! c\ntry *ur* l5ds itself m aptly to ^? private w$d+s :]e ! bridal p>ty1 :e!r small or l>ge1 are ! only spectators1 ?an does ! l>ge city *ur*4 ,! s5se ( exclusiv5ess is pres]v$ )\t ! great s5se ( b>5ess & empt9ess4 ,to _m ! private *ur* w$d+ appeals ) great =ce4 ,! religi\s & sacram5tal nature ( ! c]emony is emphasiz$1 )\t ! pomp & display ( ! public s]vice4 ,su* a w$d+ usually takes place 9 ! daytime r ?an 9 ! ev5+4 ,,*apt] ,,xiii ,,etiquette ,,= ,,*ildr5 ,,"o may be taught self-re/ra9t & unselfi% consid]ation = o!rs at s e>ly an age t su* virtues become habitual1 & m9or maxims are to a l>ge ext5t unnecess>y4 ,( c\rse1 ! *ild w /ill h to be %[n ! v>i\s ways 9 :i* he c %[ consid]ation1 b he w q frequ5tly d ( himself ^? acts :i* make = ! com=t & well-be+ ( o!rs4 ,habits ( def]5ce to eld]s spr+ f m complex motives1 & ! tra9+ 9 !m may h to be m p]si/5t & rigor\s4 ,boys %\ld be taught to take (f _! caps to _! eld]s1 bo? 9 ! family & 9 ! circle ( fri5ds1 :5 !y meet !m on ! /reet4 ,!y %\ld rise :5 ladies ent] ! room1 & rema9 /&+ until all are seat$4 ,an important "p 9 a *ild's br++ up is to tea* him to put away 8 own g>m5ts & to cle> up aft] 8 play or "w4 ,if ?is is in/ill$ e>ly into ! *ild1 !re w nev] be any ne$ ( ! pa9 ( c\nt]act+ slov5l9ess1 & also nev] any ( t disagreeable haught9ess t[>d s]vants1 :i* is fo/]$ by no?+ s mu* z by ! in*-by-in* wait+ ^u a *ild4 ,! *ild :o has be5 made a companion (1 & n repress$ or driv5 away by ! old] p ( ! family1 has a sort ( in/9ctive respect = !m1 :i*1 ?\gh x may ov]/ep itself 9 "s d>+ famili>ity occasionally1 is ! basis ( a /rong au?ority ov] him4 ,! *ild :o has be5 spi$ on1 & ^: idea ( all adults is t !y are a sort ( modifi$ policem51 w %[ respect only "u compulsion1 & w fail 9 all ^? f9e c\rtesies :i* ! ?or\ghly well-br$ *ild gr[s to delight 94 ,self-control & self-repression are equal virtues to be cultivat$ 9 ! *ild4 ,to p]mit ! *ild to be indiff]5t & inatt5tive :5 "o is try+ to amuse or ent]ta91 to be impati5t to get at ! end ( a /ory or a game1 to keep yawn+2 or mak+ o!r expressions ( we>9ess :5 be+ reprov$ or reprim&$1 cultivates 9 ! *ild a m5tal laz9ess :i* is z bad z its opposite1--p>rot-l facility = *att]+ & ask+ que/ions1 :i* gives a *ild no *ance to ?9k1 & makes him develop into a man ( only surface intellig5ce & ?\ghtless flippancy4 ,ev5 a *ild c appreciate1 if rightly taught1 ! motive back ( a k9d action1 & c respect t ev5 if ! action does n int]e/ him4 ,on ! o!r h&1 x is a s]i\s matt] to all[ a *ild to be con/antly bor$ ) lectures on 8 conduct1 or ev5 ) ef=ts to amuse him4 ,he %\ld be let alone1 ?r[n ^u 8 own res\rces1 & n p]mitt$ to be tax$ beyond adult endurance by well-mean+ b futile ef=ts on 8 behalf4 ,*ildr5 %\ld nev] be all[$ to int]rupt4 ,= t reason p>5ts1 & ^? :o h ! c>e ( *ildr51 %\ld rememb] n to monopolize ! conv]sation :5 !re are *ildr5 pres5t1 nor talk on & on = a long "t1 z no p]son1 lea/ ( all a *ild1 c foll[ su* cont9u\s talk )\t we>9ess4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be taught t ?9k+ w answ] mo/ ( _! que/ions = !m1 t !y %\ld wait & see if ! answ] w n be giv5 by some?+ t is said lat] on4 ,e ef=t made to drive ! ?\ght ( a loquaci\s *ild back ^u itself is an ef=t 9 ! "r direction2 j z e ef=t made to express & reveal ! ?\ght ( an imag9ative *ild is mu* to ! latt]'s b5efit4 ,! say+s ( a *ild %\ld nev] be quot$ 9 8 pres5ce1 nor 8 do+s relat$4 ,he becomes hopelessly self-consci\s !reby4 ,a *ild %\ld be taught to respect ! rights ( ! fa!r & "m to ! easie/ *airs 9 ! room1 or ^? :i* !y may pref]1 & %\ld leave ^? *airs vacant until ! fa!r & "m are seat$ else:]e4 ,! boy :o has be5 br\ght up at home1 bo? by precept & by 8 fa!r's example1 nev] to seat himself at ! d9+ table or 9 ! family sitt+-room until 8 "m is seat$1 w n ne$ to be told t he %\ld rise 9 a cr[d$ /reet c> & give 8 seat to an eld]ly woman4 ,he w d x s in/9ctively t x w n be a burd51--inde$1 ! regret w\ld be m ke5 if he c\ld n d x4 ,if *ildr5 are pres5t at ! d9+ table1 x is wis] to help !m fir/1 & ! gr[n p la/1 ?an ! rev]se4 ,9 ev]y?+ x is well to foll[ ! etiquette ( adult life1 z1 = in/ance1 by help+ ! girls be=e ! boys4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be taught to be punctual at meals1 n simply = ! sake ( heal?1 b out ( consid]ation = ! cook & = ^? :o might o!rwise be oblig$ to wait = !m4 ,!y %\ld n be all[$ to hurry ?r\gh a meal because ( _! impati5ce to get at play1 al?\gh !y may be wisely excus$ :5 !y are q ?r\gh4 ,!re is no value 9 mak+ !m ! bor$1 squirm+1 or subdu$ li/5]s to conv]sation q beyond _! compreh5sion or int]e/4 ,!y %\ld be taught to eat leisurely1 & to reg>d ! mealtime z a *ance to talk ) _! p>5ts ab\t int]e/+ ?+s1 & n simply z a "t to be %ort5$ & slight$ if possible4 ,usually ! *ild's fir/ rigid lesson 9 punctuality comes at ! beg9n+ ( s*ool life4 ,!n1 mo/ pr(itably1 may be cultivat$ a s5se ( ! rights ( o!rs1 & ( 8 individual responsibility t[>d ! social gr\p1 repres5t$ = him by 8 tea*] & s*oolmates4 ,if ! emphasis is rightly laid ^u ! necessity ( 8 n delay+ ! "w ( 8 classmates & tea*]1 he w naturally f9d _m ways 9 :i* he may apply ! same ?\ght1 greatly to 8 own advantage & to !irs z well1 & to ! p]man5t /r5g!n+ ( 8 habits ( "w4 ,a ke5 s5se ( social on5ess may also prev5t ! too frequ5t he>t-burn+s among %y & s5sitive *ildr54 ,?is is z easily cultivat$ z is ! opposite1 & is ( great importance bo? 9 *ildhood & 9 lat] life4 ,! seem+ inju/ice ( ! tea*] may (t5 be made cle>1 & se5 to be j1 :5 ! welf>e ( ! :ole s*ool is tak5 into consid]ation4 ,?is is a matt] ( ! natural enl>gem5t ( ! *ild's m5tal horizon1 & if ! prop] _s has be5 fo/]$1 ! *ild w welcome x4 ,%\ld x be done c>efully & wisely1 ! roots ( _m social we$s w at once be elim9at$4 ,fault-f9d+ %\ld be disc\rag$ 9 s*ool & at home4 ,x is nev] ! be/ me?od ( fault correction1 & %\ld n be c\nt5anc$4 ,! br++ home ( tales ( ! tea*] & ( s*oolmates1 9 a _s ( compla9t1 %\ld n be p]mitt$4 ,pleasant acc\nts ( happ5+s at s*ool %\ld be enc\rag$1 b grumbl+ aga9/ rules1 z well z p]sonal gossip1 %\ld n be p]mitt$4 ,! au?ority ( ! home mu/ support ! au?ority ( ! s*ool or ! *ild w n[h]e receive t discipl9e & tra9+ :i* he ne$s 9 ord] to meet ! exp]i5ces ( life4 ,! *ild %\ld be all[$ a c]ta9 sum ( money1 :i*1 ev5 9 ! mo/ lavi% homes1 %\ld be a little "u :at ! wants ( ! *ild require4 ,! giv+ ( ?is money %\ld be done regul>ly at a /at$ "t1 & !re %\ld nev] be any extra giv+1 or increase ( ! usual sum1 except "u v unusual circum/ances1 :i* %\ld n be all[$ to happ5 m ?an once a ye>4 ,! *ild %\ld also be held acc\ntable = 8 money4 ,if he is old en\gh to h any money1 or to sp5d any1 he is old en\gh to tell h[ he sp5t x1 ev5 to ! la/ p5ny4 ,unless all is acc\nt$ =1 ! habits ( accuracy & c>e are n =m$4 ,! record ( ?is %\ld be writt5 d[n1 ev5 if done v simply & )\t special =m1 & lat]1 z ! *ild gr[s old]1 m conv5tional =ms ( bookkeep+ %\ld be requir$4 ,x %\ld be also requir$ t !re be "s sav+1 :i* is pref]ably a c]ta9 proportion ( ! :ole1 ?is = a beg9n+ to :i* to add extra sums z ! *ild may wi%4 ,?is sav$ sum %\ld be p]man5tly put by1 & draw+ f x %\ld n be p]mitt$4 ,x may be transf]r$ to a bank at long int]vals1 always by ! *ild himself1 & 8 pride 9 do+ x & keep+ x !re %\ld be cultivat$4 ,^! matt]s may all be made a game & %e] fun4 ,_! grave importance is app>5t on e h&4 ,= ! *ild :i* has be5 taught e>ly to d ^! ?+s1 w d !m ) su* ease z to make x seem in/9ctive1 & ! *ild :o does x w nev]1 "u any ord9>y circum/ances1 come to want4 ,! prop] behavior 9 *ur* %\ld be taught r by try+ to inculcate ! _s ( wor%ip ?an by mak+ rules to be foll[$4 ,a *ild is v susceptible to impressiv5ess ( any sort1 & if ! reason = x is made cle> to him1 he w be quick] to respond to x by a rev]5t attitude ( _s ?an does an old] p]son4 ,ev5 ! ob/rep]\s *ild is at lea/ tempor>ily impress$1 if he sees t o!rs are1 & if he kn[s ! reason = x4 ,*ildr5 %\ld realize t x is _! privilege & duty to s]ve gue/s1 :e!r _! own or _! p>5ts4 ,! sacrifice ( "o's own com=t = ! sake ( ! gue/ takes1 ) a *ild1 ! =m ( a sort ( play1 usually because ( ! excitem5t ( ! arrival ( a /rang]1 & ! possibilities ( fun 9 ! enjoym5t ( ! /rang]'s /ay4 ,! *ild %\ld be taught respect = ! gue/'s p]son1 & %\ld n be all[$ to take ! same lib]ties ) a g[n or a glove t sometimes ! "m or aunts p]mit1 no matt] h[ great ! novelty ( ! texture or h[ x appeals to ! *ild's s5se ( beauty4 ,! privileges ( be+ a gue/ %\ld be always duly respect$1 & ! *ild be ?us taught at once 8 duty z a ho/ & 8 position z a gue/4 ,*ildr5 %\ld nev] be all[$ to play ) a visitor's hat or cane1 or h&le furniture or ornam5ts 9 a /range h\se1 or %[ by ill-mann]ly conduct ! curiosity :i* a *ild1 9 unaccu/om$ surr\nd+s1 naturally feels4 ,!y c be taught s great a respect = ! possessions ( o!rs t !y w\ld become able to /ifle _! curiosity1 or express x only at a fitt+ "t4 ,*ildr5 %\ld n be s5t to ! draw+-room to ent]ta9 visitors1 unless ! visitors reque/ x !mselves4 ,nor %\ld !y be all[$ to be tr\blesome to visitors or gue/s at any "t1 any m ?an s]vants %\ld be all[$ to be insol5t4 ,!y %\ld nev] be all[$ ! fre$om ( ! rooms ( ! gue/s1 nor to visit !m (t5 or long4 ,*ildr5 %\ld n be p]mitt$ to ent] into ! pleasures ( _! eld]s :51 to d s1 w\ld be to spoil ! k9d ( sociability = :i* ! occasion 0 int5d$4 ,at all =mal functions1 *ildr5 are out ( place4 ,:5 mak+ =mal calls1 *ildr5 are usually 9 ! way1 & ! sil5t "p !y are =c$ to play is disagreeable = !m4 ,!y are also out ( place at a fun]al1 or 9 a cemet]y1 or any:]e t !re is m\rn+4 ,x is an injury to a *ild to see grief1--unless x be 8 great conc]n1 & 9 t case x is no long] a matt] ( etiquette1 b ( necess>y life exp]i5ce4 ,*ildr5 %\ld n d9e out except by special invitation4 ,x is z disc\rte\s to p]mit a *ild ?\ghtlessly to inconv5i5ce a neighbor1 z x is wrong = ! *ild to ?9k t su* un9vit$ visits are p]missible4 ,a *ild %\ld be taught nev] to t\* :at does n belong to x1 except ) ! express p]mission ( ! own]4 ,?is applies to goods 9 a /ore1 z well z to ! furniture ( places o!r ?an 8 home1 & to ! belong+s ( o!rs 9 8 home4 ,a *ild %\ld n be all[$ to intrude into a drive1 a walk1 a call1 or a conv]sation4 ,x is unfair to ! *ild1 & awkw>d = him1 & is no k9dness1 z x takes away ! b5efit :i* he might o!rwise d]ive f ! pleasure ei!r by cont9ually snubb+ 8 self-respect1 or by repress+ 8 en]gy & curiosity to ! dang] po9t4 ,*ildr5 %\ld n be all[$ to g to picnic p>ties1 unless !y h be5 invit$ & ent]ta9m5t prep>$ = !m4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be taught to treat s]vants ) all ! polit5ess ) :i* !y treat _! eld]s1 & ) mu* m consid]ation4 ,! conv]se ( ! s]vants ) *ildr5 %\ld be ( ! same c>eful & pleasant quality t ! be/ p>5ts use & desire4 ,?is may well be insi/$ ^u4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ! *ildr5 %\ld be taught t s]vants are busy p1 t !y %\ld nev] be impos$ ^u1 & t unnecess>y "w %\ld n be made = !m4 ,,*apt] ,,xiv ,,etiquette ,,( ,,m\rn+ ,,^u ! occasion ( a dea? 9 ! family a reliable und]tak] is at once notifi$ & 8 sugge/ions foll[$ z to ! necess>y prep>ations to be made = ! fun]al4 ,! %ades are drawn ?r\gh\t ! front ( ! h\se1 z a sign t ! family is 9 retirem5t4 ,! wom5 ( ! family are n se5 ^u ! /reet unless necess>y1 ! m5 tak+ full *>ge ( all bus9ess matt]s4 ,! directions :i* ! und]tak] desires %\ld be decid$ ^u by ! family1 or ne>e/ relative ( ! deceas$1 & !n "s "o memb] ( ! family %\ld be delegat$ to see t !y are c>ri$ out4 ,palm leaves ti$ ) ribbon or *iffon1 spray b\quets ( :ite fl[]s ti$ ) ribbon1 an ivy wrea? brok5 ) a bun* ( purple ev]la/+1 are mu* pref]r$ to crape ^u ! door4 ,press notices ( ! fun]al & dea? %\ld be s5t to ! newspap]s4 ,! conduct ( ! fun]al %\ld be arrang$ ) ! cl]gyman *os5 to (ficiate1 ! sup]9t5d5t ( ! cemet]y consult$ 7usually ?r\gh ! und]tak]71 & ! notes ( reque/ s5t to ^? *os5 to act z pallbe>]s4 ,sometimes ! latt] are purely honor>y1 ! und]tak] furni%+ ! be>]s4 ,! honor is usually giv5 to intimate family fri5ds1 or close bus9ess associates 9 case ( a bus9ess man4 ,a c>riage is always provid$ = ! cl]gyman1 & he is entitl$ to a fee1 al?\gh cl]gym5 d n *>ge x1 ei!r at a home or *ur* fun]al4 ,if ! s]vice is held at a *ur*1 ! sexton1 organi/ & s+]s1--& ! s+]s at a home fun]al z well1--are entitl$ to recomp5se = _! s]vices4 ,c>riages are s5t = ! pallbe>]s1 & are also provid$ to convey ! family1 & z _m ( ! fri5ds z may be invit$ to g1 to ! cemet]y4 ,"o may ann\nce 9 ! newspap] ,burial private1 9 :i* case x is und]/ood t only ! family att5d at ! grave2 or ,no fl[]s if ! family wi% ! usual s5d+ ( fl[]s disp5s$ )4 ,! cl]gyman usually consults ! wi%es ( ! family z to ! =m ( s]vice1 ! hymns or music1 & rem>ks4 ,! fun]al s]vice %\ld be brief1 & pref]ably a ritual s]vice ) no s]mon or eulogy4 ,! la/ are usually h>r[+ to ! feel+s ( ! m\rn]s1 & !re %\ld be e reasonable ef=t made to relieve ! t5sion ( ! occasion1 = ! sake ( ! liv+4 ,at a *ur* fun]al ! pallbe>]s sit 9 ! fir/ pews at ! left ( ! c5t] aisle2 ! family 9 ^? to ! "r4 ,at a home fun]al x is cu/om>y to h ! family 9 "s seclud$ room ne> ! "o :]e ! c(f9 is plac$ & to h ! cl]gyman /& 9 ! hall betwe51 or at ! entrance ( ! draw+-room1 :]e he may be readily he>d by all4 ,if ! s]vice at ! grave imm$iately foll[s ! fun]al ! h\se %\ld mean:ile be air$1 ! %ades lift$1 ! fl[]s all s5t away to "s hospital1 & ! rooms arrang$ 9 ! usual way4 ,be=e a fun]al at ! home1 x is necess>y = "s memb] ( ! family to receive ! relatives f ! di/ance1 & ! v intimate fri5ds1 & see t !y are giv5 necess>y refre%m5t1 & _! return to tra9s1 if !y mu/ leave imm$iately aft] ! fun]al1 ?or\ghly und]/ood by ! hackm54 ,at a home fun]al ! s+]s %\ld be some:at di/ant f ! family1 s t ! music is n l\d4 ,! memb]s ( ! family are dress$ 9 hats & veils ready to ent] ! c>riages1 be=e ! s]vice4 ,!y pass to view ! body1--if1 accord+ to a =m] cu/om1 ! casket is left op51--la/ ( all1 & ent] ! la/ c>riage be=e t ( ! pallbe>]s1 :i* imm$iately prec$es ! he>se4 ,9 s5d+ fl[]s to a fun]al1 "o's c>d is enclos$4 ,!re %\ld be no slighte/ s5se ( obligation 9 ! s5d+ ( fl[]s1 & ea* piece %\ld repres5t only real sympa?y or respect4 ,! putt+ on ( black g>m5ts z a sign t "o has lo/ a ne> relative has be5 mu* modifi$ by ! good s5se ( ! p1 & ! p]iod ( m\rn+ %ort5$1 especially 9 ,engl&4 ,9 /at+ ! accept$ m\rn+ cu/om1 ! mod]ate obs]vance ( x has be5 giv51 bo? extremes be+ ignor$4 ,crape is ! quality ( goods mo/ closely alli$ ) m\rn+4 ,black dresses trimm$ ) black crape are usually worn = ! fir/ few mon?s by wom5 :o h lo/ a ne> relative4 ,! black veil worn by wid[s is n[ ( mod]ate l5g?1 & usually n ( ! v ?ick mat]ial :i* 0 once 9 vogue4 ,a ru*e ( :ite is n[ plac$ j inside ! bonnet1 :i* relieves ! black effect some:at4 ,black furs & sealsk9s are worn ) m\rn+4 ,! ,engli% fa%ion ( six mon?s ( ! deepe/ m\rn+ & six mon?s ( second>y is meet+ ) m & m approval 9 ?is c\ntry1 al?\gh = a close relative a ye> is ! fir/ p]iod & six mon?s ! second4 ,"o :o is 9 m\rn+ does n appe> 9 society = ! fir/ six mon?s2 aft] t x is p]missible to att5d a conc]t or musical1 b n ! !at] or a reception :ile sev]e m\rn+ is worn4 ,dur+ ! m\rn+ p]iod1 black-bord]$ /ation]y is us$4 ,! bord] on pap] & envelopes is usually ?ree-eigh?s ( an in* = a close relative & half t = a m di/ant "o1 or dur+ ! second>y p]iod ( m\rn+1 if "o c>es to make ! *ange4 ,! p]sonal visit+ c>d has a black bord] dur+ ?is "t4 ,! h&k]*ief is bord]$ ) n>r[ black1 or is ( n>r[-bord]$1 pla91 %e] l954 ,= relatives-9-law x is n cu/om>y to put on black1 al?\gh = a fa!r- or "m-9-law x is cu/om>y1 9 ! be/ society1 to dress ne>ly z = an own fa!r or "m4 ,a wid[] we>s a complete suit ( black1 :ite l951 dull-black silk neckties1 dull-black lea!r %oes1 black gloves1 & a black ribbon ( broad] wid? ^u 8 hat4 ,! m\rn+ b& sew$ ^u ! coat sleeve is a discr$it$ =m ( m\rn+4 ,x does n d5ote ! ne>ness ( ! loss1 & has only ! virtue ( *eapness = ^? :o _c af=d to %[ m>k$ respect to ! dead4 ,m5 d n obs]ve ! cu/om ( )draw+ f society = z long a "t z d ! wom51 b usually reappe> at ! homes ( intimate fri5ds1 at public places ( ent]ta9m5t1 & at ! club aft] two or ?ree mon?s4 ,z long z ! m\rn+ b& is worn ^u ! hat1 h[ev]1 no man %\ld att5d l>ge & fa%ionable functions1 z d9n] or danc+ p>ties1 or ! !at]4 ,aft] six mon?s a woman may resume call+1 return+ ! calls ( ^? :o call$ ^u h] 9 ! e>ly weeks ( h] b]eavem5t4 ,*ildr5 ( fifte5 ye>s ( age & "u %\ld n we> m\rn+4 ,! view+ ( ! body ( ! deceas$ z x lies 9 ! casket is ! privilege ( only ! family & ! imm$iate fri5ds1 & %\ld n be reque/$ by o!rs4 ,!re=e1 ! casket is n[ usually clos$ be=e ! fun]al s]vice1 especially if t be at a *ur*4 ,9 case ( a man 9 public (fice1 x is sometimes necess>y t ! body %\ld lie 9 /ate = c]ta9 h\rs1 :5 ! public may pay _! respects4 ,punctuality is v necess>y 9 reg>d to ev]y?+ connect$ ) a fun]al s]vice1 z ! ov]wr\ght n]ves ( ^? :o are sorr[+ %\ld n be tax$ to be> any extra t5sion4 ,)9 t5 days aft] ! fun]al1 a c>d ( ?anks = sympa?y %\ld be s5t to all :o h call$ ^u ! family or s5t fl[]s or (f]$ _! s]vices 9 any way4 ,:5 "o is 9 m\rn+1 "o does n att5d a w$d+ reception1 ?\gh "o may be pres5t at ! c]emony4 ,black %\ld n be worn4 ,m\rn]s ann\nce _! return to society by s5d+ out _! c>ds to fri5ds & acqua9tances4 ,,*apt] ,,xv ,,milit>y1 ,,naval1 ,,& ,,flag ,,etiquette ,,! social usage 9 respect to milit>y or naval (fic]s foll[s ord9>ily ! cu/oms ( =mal occasions or occasions ( /ate 9 civilian life1 or is provid$ = 9 ! in/ructions ( ! army & ! navy1 :i* ! memb]s ( ^? two dep>tm5ts ( ! s]vice w\ld alone be expect$ to "k4 ,!re are1 h[ev]1 "o or two occasions :]e ! etiquette ( social life is1 or may be1 modifi$ by ! =malities due to ^! repres5tatives ( ! ,gov]nm5t4 ,! ,=mal ,milit>y ,w$d+ ,! *ur* or =mal home w$d+ :]e ! bridegroom & 8 att5dants are all army m51 may h ! di/9ctive feature ( ! ar* ( swords or bayonets4 ,! bridegroom & ! u%]s1 9 t case1 are all 9 full dress uni=m4 ,! bride & bridesmaids are dress$ da9tily & fluffily to af=d contra/4 ,! *ur* %\ld be decorat$ ) palms & lilies1 & ) ! national & ! regim5tal flags 9 ! *ancel4 ,z ! organi/ beg9s ! w$d+-m>*1 two color-be>]s ( ! regim5t1 c>ry+ "o ! national flag & ! o!r ! regim5tal colors1 prec$e ! bridegroom & ! be/ man f ! ve/ry4 ,! latt] take _! usual places1 & ! color-be>]s move to a position at ei!r side ( ! *ancel /eps4 ,aft] ! c]emony1 !y move to ! head ( ! aisle1 & ! u%]s =m a l9e to ! foot ( ! *ancel /eps4 ,! u%]s !n put on _! caps1 un%ea! _! swords1 or raise _! bayonets1 & =m an ar* ) !m4 ,"u ?is ar* pass ! bride & bridegroom1 & ! bridesmaids4 ,!n1 %ea?+ _! swords & remov+ _! caps1 ! u%]s fall into l9e at ! end ( ! procession4 ,naval & ,ya*t+ ,usage ,:5 "o is ! gue/ ( ! own]s or ! (fic]s ( a ya*t1 or ( ! (fic]s ( a gov]nm5t w>%ip or o!r l>ge vessel1 x is well to "k t 9 ! lad+ ( ! gig = rea*+ & leav+ ! %ip1 ! ord] ( prec$5ce is always z foll[s3 ,juniors 9 rank or (ficial importance ent] ! gig fir/1 & ! "o highe/ 9 rank imm$iately prec$es ! ,capta91 :o is always ! la/ to emb>k & ! fir/ to disemb>k4 ,9 leav+ ! gig1 ! ord] is rev]s$ f t on ent]+ x1 ! junior 9 rank ?us be+ ! la/ to leave ! boat4 ,! ,etiquette ( ! ,flag ,! flag is display$ e day only on gov]nm5t build+s & s*oolh\ses4 ,on /ate holidays1 & l commemorative days :5 x is cu/om>y = ! flag to be display$ on private build+s1 x %\ld be rais$ at sunrise & l[]$ at sunset4 ,x %\ld n be display$ on /ormy days1 nor left out ov] night4 ,x %\ld nev] be all[$ to t\* ! gr\nd4 ,:5 x is to be display$ at half-ma/ only1 x %\ld be rais$ to ! tip ( ! /aff & !n l[]$ halfway4 ,x %\ld nev] be fe/oon$ or drap$1 b always be hung flat4 ,on ,memorial ,day1 ,may #cj1 ! flag %\ld be display$ at half-ma/ until twelve o'clock noon1 & !n rais$ to ! top ( ! /aff until sunset4 ,! salute = ! *ang+ ( ! position ( ! flag at all army po/s & /ations hav+ artill]y1 is z foll[s3 imm$iately be=e noon1 ! b& plays "s appropriate air1 & at ! /roke ( twelve ! national salute ( tw5ty-"o guns is fir$4 ,aft] ?is ! flag is hoi/$ to ! peak ( ! /aff1 :ile ev]ybody /&s at att5tion1 ) h& rais$ to ! =ehead ready = ! salute4 ,:5 ! colors rea* ! top1 ! salute is giv51 & ! b& plays patriotic airs4 ,! salute to ! flag is us$ at its =mal rais+1 & :5 x passes on p>ade or 9 review4 ,! h& salute accord+ to ! regulations ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates ,army is z foll[s3 ,/&+ at att5tion1 raise ! 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