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----------------------      ,,h]e9 ,,is 
,,love  by  ,,reuel ,l4 ,,h[e    ab\t   
?is book  ,god creat$ man to live 9     
relation ) ! _w ( ?+s1 ) himself1 & ) 8 
fell[ m51 & to live 9 ^! relation%ips 9 
su* a way t he w 444 gr[ 9 8 relation%ip
 ) ,god1 writes ,dr4 ,h[e 9 ?is mean+ful
 book4 ,he describes ! true significance
 ( ,*ri/ian fell[%ip & h[ x c come ab\t 
& exi/4 ,liv+ responsibly by giv+       
ourselves to "o ano!r--p>5t to *ild1    
*ild to p>5t1 pa/or to congregation1    
congregation to "o ano!r1 *ur* to !     
_w--only 9 liv+ out ! ,^w ( ,god's love 
9 human relation%ips c we exp]i5ce !    
love ( ,god4  ,dr4 ,h[e wrote ?is book  
at ! reque/ ( ! ,division ( ,*ri/ian    

,education & ! ,division ( ,evangelism (
 ! ,am]ican ,bapti/ ,conv5tion4 ,x grew 
out ( a s]ies ( lectures he pres5t$ at a
 national conf]5ce on ,*ri/ian education
 at ,gre5 ,lake1 ,wis41 on ! subject1   
,gr[? 9 ! ,*ri/ian ,fell[%ip4  ,x is    
int5d$ t ?is book be us$ 9 /udy gr\ps   
su* z p>5t gr\ps or p>5t-tea*] gr\ps4   
,pa/ors & /ud5ts ( ! *ur* w ga9 new     
insights f x4 ,moreov]1 any individual  
:o is truly int]e/$ 9 ! ,*ri/ian life w 
f9d t x is address$ to him4  ,cov]      
,design by ,alex&] ,limont     ,,h]e9   
,,is ,,love     ,by ! same au?or ,man's 
,ne$ & ,god's ,action ,! ,creative ,ye>s
     ,,h]e9 ,,is ,,love  ,a ,/udy ( !   
,biblical ,doctr9e ( ,love 9 ,its ,be>+ 
on ,p]sonality1 ,p>5?ood1 ,tea*+1 & ,all
 ,o!r ,human ,relation%ips  by  ,,reuel 
,l4 ,,h[e        ,! ,judson ,press      
,*icago       ,valley ,=ge       ,los   
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----------------------     ,to my *ildr5
  ,m>jorie & ,lanny     ,,=eword   ,?is 
book 0 born out ( a liv+ enc\nt] ) !    

memb]s ( ! ,*ri/ian ,education ,conf]5ce
 to :i* ,i lectur$ at ! ,am]ican ,bapti/
 ,assembly at ,gre5 ,lake1 ,wis41 9     
,augu/ ( #aieh4 ,z ,i /epp$ to !        
speak]'s ro/rum to beg9 my fir/ lecture 
to t gr\p1 & my fir/ to s l>ge a gr\p ( 
,bapti/ lay p1 ,i wond]$ :e!r ,i z an   
,episcopalian & !y z ,bapti/s _h images 
( ea* o!r t w\ld help or h9d] our       
communication4 ,i %>$ ) !m my "q & le>n$
 lat] !y _h be5 ask+ !mselves ! same "q4
 ,i expla9$ t ,i _h prep>$ myself to    
speak to !m 9 ! hope t ?r\gh me "s ( !  
tru? ( ,god w\ld be he>d by !m1 & ,i    
expla9$ also t _! lives 7 to be _!      
prep>ation = he>+ :at ,i _h to say2 t   
is1 t ,i hop$ !y w\ld "w z h>d to he> me
 z ,i w\ld "w to make myself und]/ood4  
,!y respond$ 9 good _s1 s t ! ,_s ( ,god
 spoke ?r\gh & to all ( u4  ,i describe 
?is occasion because x produc$ !        
exp]i5ce & context out ( :i* ! pres5t   
book appe>$4 ,h]e9 ,is ,love is1 ,i     
believe1 an outw>d & visible sign ( !   
fell[%ip ( ! ,holy ,_s exp]i5c$ on t    

occasion2 & ,i (f] x z a means ( op5+ to
 o!rs ! possibility ( p>ticipat+ 9 ?is  
fell[%ip ( ! ,holy ,_s4  ,! !me ( ! book
 gr[s out ( t exp]i5ce3 ,z ! love ( ,god
 requir$ inc>nation 9 ,jesus ( ,naz>e? 9
 ord] t x might be receiv$ by u1 s ! ,^w
 ( ,god's love 9 our day calls = p]sons 
9 :om x may be embodi$4 ,! *ur*1 z !    
embodim5t ( div9e love 9 human          
relation%ips1 has trem5d\s              
responsibilities & opportunities 9 our  
mod]n culture4 ,! old & famili> biblical
 symbols & /ories d n always communicate
 _! mean+s to m5 today1 & we mu/ f9d a  
language t does4 ,! language ( ! liv$   
life ( bo? man & ,god is ! "o t we %all 
use "h 9 an attempt to op5 to u ! mean+ 
( ! life ( man & ( ,god4                
,reuel ,l4 ,h[e  ,janu>y #aj1 #aifa     
,,cont5ts                               
,,page   ,,=eword                       
#g    ,,cont5ts                         
#i     ,i   ,,"s ,,fright5$ ,,fri5ds    
#aa      ,!re is no fe> 9 love1 b p]fect
 love ca/s out fe>4     --#a ,john #d3ah

     ,,ii   ,,god ,,9 ,,! ,,_w          
#bf      ,= ,god s lov$ ! _w t he gave 8
 only ,son4444     --,john #c3af        
,,iii   ,,h]e9 ,,is ,,love              
#dc      ,belov$1 let u love "o ano!r2 =
 love is ( ,god1 &     he :o loves is   
born ( ,god & kn[s ,god4--#a ,john #d3g 
,,iv   ,,"s ,,objectives ,,( ,,love     
#fa      ,little *ildr51 let u n love 9 
^w or spee* b 9     de$ & 9 tru?4--#a   
,john #c3ah     ,v   ,,^? ,,:o ,,w\ld   
,,love                                  
#hb      ,we "k t we h pass$ out ( dea? 
into life1 because     we love !        
bre?r54--#a ,john #c3ad     ,,vi        
,,love ,,9 ,,action                     
#ii      ,by ?is we "k love1 t he laid  
d[n 8 life = u3     & we ought to lay   
d[n our lives = ! bre?r54     --#a ,john
 #c3af     ,i  ,,"s ,,fright5$ ,,fri5ds 
,!re is no fe> 9 love1                  
b p]fect love ca/s out fe>4--#a ,john   
#d3ah   ,x seems to me t ! *ur* has lo/ 
its influ5ce4 ,nobody pays mu* att5tion 
to x any m1 except "s ( its own memb]s2 

& !y don't seem to be int]e/$ 9 any?+   
except _! own activities4 ,! "t 0 :5 !  
^w ( ! m9i/] c>ri$ weight4 ,"s may n h  
agre$1 b :5 ! *ur* spoke !y paid        
att5tion4 ,x's n true n[1 ?\gh4  ,mr4   
,cl>ke ey$ ! o!rs 9 ! gr\p z if he 7    
te/+ _! reactions to ! /atem5ts he _h j 
made4 ,! *ur* _h always giv5 him a s5se 
( security1 & n[ he 0 bo? worri$ t x    
seem$ to h lo/ its p[]1 & res5tful t p  
no long] li/5$ to its tea*+4  ,he 0 "o (
 a gr\p ( lead]s ( a local congregation 
:o1 at ! reque/ ( _! m9i/]1 7 meet+ to  
re-exam9e ! purpose ( ! *ur*4 ,n all ( !
 gr\p _h arriv$ z yet1 & ! m9i/] ( !    
congregation1 ,mr4 ,gates1 _h be5 deta9$
 9 8 (fice by an em]g5cy call ^u 8      
pa/oral c>e4  ,)9 ! m9ute aft] ,mr4     
,cl>ke f9i%$1 ,mr4 ,wise spoke up4 ,he 0
 a ?\ghtful & compassionate memb] ( !   
congregation :o (t5 rais$ ! k9d (       
que/ions t c>ri$ ! discussion to deep]  
levels4 ,:5 8 que/ions 7 ignor$1 z !y   
(t5 71 he w\ld smile good-natur$ly &    
cont9ue bo? z a contributor & z a "q    

rais]4 ,turn+ to ,mr4 ,cl>ke1 he said3  
,i ?9k ,i "k h[ y feel4 ,! /atem5ts (   
our orda9$ spiritual lead]s are         
important1 b d y ?9k we %\ld equate _!  
words )--  ,z usual1 ,mr4 ,wise's comm5t
 0 int]rupt$1 & ?is "t by ,mr4 ,*ur*ill 
:o1 ) evid5t irritation1 prote/$ aga9/  
any conc]n ov] :at o!rs ?\ght ab\t !    
*ur*4 ,he said3 ,! *ur* has got to be ! 
*ur*1 & ! _w is diff]5t f x4 ,i don't l 
?is 'return to religion' bus9ess4       
,*ri/ianity & ! *ur* ar5't suppos$ to be
 popul> movem5ts4 ,if p want to jo9 !   
*ur*1 t's f9e2 b if !y don't1 t's _!    
look\t4 ,let's be ! *ur* & leave ! _w to
 itself4  ,b :y 0 ,*ri/ born into ! _w--
 began ,mr4 ,wise4  ,i don't agree1     
exclaim$ ,mrs4 ,/rait1 respond+ to ,mr4 
,*ur*ill's comm5t & n he>+ ,mr4 ,wise4  
,i ?9k we %\ld be conc]n$ ab\t ! _w2    
conc]n$ en\gh1 at lea/1 to set a good   
example1 s t p w "k :at !y're suppos$ to
 live up to & to d4 ,aft] all1 ,jesus   
told u h[ we %\ld live1 & ,he did s 9   
su* simple words t ev5 *ildr5 c und]/&  

!m4 ,all we h to d--& x's writt5 !re = u
 to read--is to keep ! comm&m5ts1       
imitate ,jesus1 & live a good life =    
ourselves & o!rs4  ,yes1 b if x's t     
simple1 :y don't *ur* p live bett]--  ,n
 at all6 ,n at all6 pron\nc$ ! /ately   
,mr4 ,kn[les ) "s disda94 ,i don't agree
 ) any ( y4 ,our difficulties today     
result f ! ignorance ( our p1 & ! answ] 
to ! problem is education4 ,we ne$ to   
tea*1 & tea* aga94 ,*ur* p mu/ "k _!    
fai? & "k :y !y believe 9 x4 ,:5 ,i 0 a 
*ild ,i 0 drill$ ?or\ghly 9 ! k ( !     
,bible1 & ,i once won a prize = kn[+ m  
,bible v]ses ?an any o!r *ild4 ,we ne$ m
 adult education1 & our *ildr5 mu/ be   
fill$ ) ! tru? s !y c recite x =w>ds &  
backw>ds4 ,9 my e/imation1 !re is too   
mu* emphasis n[ on p]sons & n en\gh on !
 cont5t ( ! fai?4  ,b didn't ,jesus say1
 ',= ,god s lov$ ! _w--'  ,x seems to   
me1 int]rupt$ ,pr(essor ,manby1 t all ( 
y are 9 too mu* ( a hurry4 ,"s sci5ti/s 
e/imate t man has be5 eight million ye>s
 com+ to 8 pres5t /ate ( life4 ,9       

contra/1 civiliz$ man is only f\r ?\s&  
ye>s old4 ,?is be+ true1 we %\ld be m   
pati5t4 ,giv5 "t1 man w solve 8         
problems4  ,b has man's "* develop$ 9   
pace ) 8 kn[l--  ,at t mom5t ! ,rev]5d  
,mr4 ,gates1 ) sev]al o!r memb]s ( !    
committee1 came into ! room1 & aft]     
greet+ ev]yone he said3 ,n[ let's get   
d[n to bus9ess4 ,z y "k1 ,i've call$ ?is
 meet+ 9 ord] t we may consid] ! purpose
 ( our *ur* 9 ?is community4 ,i ?9k we  
ne$ a cle>] und]/&+ ( :y we are "h4 ,i  
wi% we c\ld be sur] t we are s]v+ ,god's
 purposes & n our own4 ,i wi% we all    
w\ld assume z true t ,god's purposes =  
,8 *ur* & = u are great] ?an any?+ we   
may ?9k !y are1 & t we w\ld hold our    
op9ions & beliefs op5 to ,8 correction &
 r5ewal4  ,h[ c we be any cle>] ab\t !  
purpose ( ?is *ur* ?an to keep x op5 &  
its organizations go+1 s t p c come to x
 if !y want to1 exclaim$ ,mr4 ,*ur*ill  
abruptly4  ,mr4 ,wise n[ got to 8 feet1 
& ) a tw9kle 9 8 eye began speak+3 ,y've
 all int]rupt$ me sev]al times1 b n[    

,i'm go+ to speak my piece4 ,i ?9k ,mr4 
,gates is "r4 ,we d ne$ occasionally to 
re?9k ! reason = our exi/5ce z a *ur*1  
le/ x become a private club t cat]s to  
our own special ne$s4 ,our discussion s 
f> tonight sugge/s t we want ! *ur* to  
be :at we ne$ x to be4 ,we want ,god cut
 d[n to our own patt]n & size4 ,x may be
 t our *ur* is too small = ,god1 & t    
we'll turn out to be a religi\s1 b      
godless1 club4  ,b h[ c\ld t happ5 to u8
 prote/$ ,mrs4 ,/rait4 ,if we d :at's   
"r1 ,god w love u & use u z ,8 ob$i5t   
s]vants4  ,i wi% ,mr4 ,gates w\ld set u 
/raight on ^! matt]s4 ,7 y go+ to say   
any?+ m1 ,pa/or8 inquir$ ,mr4 ,cl>ke4   
,yes1 ,i'll h m to say1 repli$ ,mr4     
,gates sl[ly1 b ?is is n my problem     
only4 ,t's :y ,i call$ y toge!r4 ,we ne$
 to help ea* o!r ?9k ?is "q ?r\gh4 ,b to
 d t1 we all %all ne$ ! _s ( ,*ri/ to   
help u4 ,we ne$ to look at ! concepts & 
mean+s t we br+ out ( our lives 9 !     
light ( ,*ri/'s tea*+s & example4 ,he   
br\ght ! gift ( ,god's love1 b ,he      

br\ght also a judgm5t t 0 mo/ di/urb+ to
 religi\s p4 ,in/ead ( our judg+ :at is 
good = ,*ri/1 ,i pray t ,he w judge u1 &
 help u to be ! in/rum5ts ( ,8 love4  ,b
 y're our m9i/] & tea*]1 s :y don't y   
tell u :at y ?9k ! job ( ! *ur* is 9 ?is
 community8 ,i'm sure we'd all support y
 9 :atev] y might sugge/1 urg$ ,mr4     
,cl>ke4  ,mr4 ,cl>ke1 ,i am n ! *ur*4 ,i
 appreciate y\r confid5ce 9 me1 b ,i am 
only "o memb] ( ! *ur*4 ,! fact t ,i am 
orda9$ does n make me any m responsible 
= ! *ur* ?an y are1 & ,i refuse to      
assume y\r responsibilities = y4        
,in/ead1 ,i want to use my role z an    
orda9$ memb] ( ! *ur*1 & su* tra9+ &    
exp]i5ce z ,i h _h1 to help y f9d y\r   
role1 s t toge!r we c c>ry on !         
functions ( ! *ur* 9 ways t w s]ve ,god 
& ,8 p4  ,:5 ,mr4 ,gates f9i%$ speak+   
!re 0 sil5ce4 ,! reactions ( 8 he>]s 7  
v>i$1 %[+ anxiety1 irritation1          
confusion1 & blankness4 ,& no wond]6 ,! 
spontane\s discussion t _h gone on be=e 
,mr4 ,gates' arrival _h reveal$ h[      

little _! und]/&+s ( ! *ur* _h prep>$ !m
 to he> ! "q he 0 rais+4 ,! viewpo9ts !y
 _h br\ght to ! meet+ n[ clos$ _! m9ds  
to ! mean+s he 0 try+ to op5 to !m4     
,:at1 !n1 7 ^? concepts & mean+s t made 
x s difficult = !m to he> & und]/& _!   
m9i/]8 ,ea* ( !m repres5t$ a po9t ( view
 t is widely preval5t 9 ! *ur* today &  
:i* keeps ! *ur* f be+ fully relevant & 
effective4   ,cl]icalism  ,:5 ,mr4      
,cl>ke ?\ght ab\t ! *ur*1 he did s 9    
t]ms ( ! cl]gy & _! "w 9 ! *ur*4 ,we    
might call him a cl]icaliz]2 t is1 "o :o
 ?9ks t only ! m9i/] does ! "w ( ! *ur*4
 ,?is idea is ! basis ( cl]icalism1 !   
disease :i* saps ! /r5g? ( ! *ur*       
because "o "p ( ! body1 ! orda9$ m9i/]1 
is made to d ! "w ( ! re/ ( ! body1 !   
unorda9$ memb]s4 ,9 ! discussion ,mr4   
,gates took exception to ?is idea1 &    
rightly s1 = x results 9 a cl]gy t is   
ov]work$ & fru/rat$4 ,inde$1 !y f9d x   
impossible to d all t ne$s to be done4  
,& yet ! idea has a hidd5 appeal = _m ( 
!m1 = x fe$s _! pr(essional pride &     

arrogance4 ,b ! damage done by ?is      
disease does n cease !re4 ,x also makes 
= *ur* p :o are lazy1 :o feel t ! *ur*  
belongs to ! cl]gy1 & :o are n !mselves 
in/rum5ts ?r\gh :i* ,god works 9 ! _w4  
,god is kept f do+ :at ,he w\ld d = !m1 
because ,he _c d ?r\gh ! cl]gy :at ,he  
w\ld d ?r\gh ! :ole ( ,8 *ur*4          
,cl]icalism blocks ! m9i/ry ( ! *ur*1   
because x t5ds to make lay memb]s       
second-class citiz5s :o feel incompet5t 
on matt]s ( religion4 ,:5 ! orda9$ memb]
 makes religi\s int]pretation & action 8
 pr(essional monopoly1 ! lay memb]      
responds by exhibit+ increas+ ignorance 
& incompet5ce4 ,sometimes x seems z if  
lay p %[ less intellig5ce 9 ! *ur* ?an 9
 _! _w4 ,x is z ?\gh ! practice (       
religion _h a /upefy+ effect on !m1     
:]eas 9 o!r areas ( liv+ !y are         
intellig5t1 in=m$1 & p]ceptive4 ,?is    
cl]icaliz+ ( ! *ur*'s m9i/ry produces 9 
lay memb]s ! s5se t religion is sep>ate 
f life4 ,!y are he>d to say to _!       
m9i/]s1 ,y /ick to religion & leave !   

affairs ( ! _w to u4 ,religion ?us      
becomes a ,sunday bus9ess1 & ,sunday    
bus9ess is kept sep>ate f weekday       
bus9ess4  ,/ill ano!r & relat$ ill      
effect ( cl]icalism is t x keeps laym5 f
 discov]+ ! religi\s significance ( _!  
"w4 ,p>5ts1 = example1 are n only p>5ts 
entru/$ ) ! physical1 psy*ological1 &   
social c>e ( _! *ildr51 b also are !    
tea*]s1 pa/ors1 & prie/s ( _! *ildr54 ,a
 tea*] may s]ve ,god 9 8 tea*+1 a doctor
 9 8 practice ( m$ic9e1 a bus9essman 9 !
 conduct ( 8 bus9ess1 a milkman 9 !     
deliv]y ( milk1 & ! g>bageman 9 !       
collection ( g>bage4 ,x is ! bus9ess ( !
 *ur* to help ^! memb]s f9d _! m9i/ry1 b
 cl]icalism nev] all[s !m to make !     
discov]y4  ,cl]icalism1 l any o!r       
concept1 is m ?an a set ( ideas4 ,mr4   
,cl>ke didn't j happ5 to hold t notion (
 ! *ur*4 ,he held x because he ne$$ x4  
,8 ne$ grew out ( 8 dep5d5cy1 8         
timidity1 & 8 fe> ( assum+              
responsibility4 ,he ne$$ to exalt !     
cl]gy4 ,he want$ to be told :at to      

believe & to d2 & 8 doctr9e ( ! m9i/ry1 
namely1 cl]icalism1 ju/ifi$ him 9 8 ne$4
 ,p :o want to be told :at to believe & 
to d inevitably w develop or drift t[>d 
a doctr9e t is au!nticat$ by _! ne$4    
,m9i/]s also contribute to ! preval5ce (
 cl]icalism4 ,all m5 h a v human &      
und]/&able ne$ to be c5trally important 
& indisp5sable1 & m9i/]s are tempt$ to  
exploit ?is ne$ 9 ! conduct ( _! "w4 ,x 
is only natural = !m to ?9k ( ! *ur* z  
my *ur*1 ( ! p z my p1 & ( ! m9i/ry z my
 m9i/ry4 ,^! images cause !m to function
 z if ev]y?+ dep5d$ ^u !m1 & z if !y    
want$ ev]yone to dep5d ^u !m4 ,inde$1 !y
 may ev5 measure ! success ( _! m9i/ry  
by ! numb] ( p :o dep5d ^u !m = guidance
 & support1 r ?an by ! numb] :o are     
a*iev+ mature self-suffici5cy4 ,z a "p (
 ?is same picture1 "s m9i/]s are unable 
to accept sugge/ions1 mu* less          
criticism4 ,! cl]icaliz$ image !y hold (
 !mselves is t ( an answ] man2 t is1 "o 
:o has all ! answ]s to human problems1 &
 always "r answ]s4  ,?us1 cl]icalism is 

a condition contribut$ to by bo? !      
orda9$ & ! lay memb]s ( ! *ur*1 & x     
tragically dim9i%es ! p[] ( ! *ur*4 ,x  
is a symptom ( ,mr4 ,cl>ke's fe> & ( our
 own4 ,x %[s t we are afraid to tru/    
,god & to let ,8 ,_s "w ?r\gh ! :ole (  
,8 p4   ,*ur*ism  ,mr4 ,*ur*ill's ideas1
 on ! o!r h&1 repres5t$ a diff]5t       
concept1 "o :i* may be call$ *ur*ism1 or
 pieti/ic o!rworldl9ess1 a concept :i*  
enc\rages ! *ur*'s retreat f ! _w4 ,x   
creates an artificial di/9ction betwe5 !
 religi\s & ! secul>1 ! religi\s be+    
?\ght ( z wor%ip & all ! o!r activities 
t g on 9 ! *ur* build+1 & ! secul>      
consid]$ to be ev]y?+ t goes on outside 
! build+4 ,9 its local v]sion *ur*ism is
 p>o*ialism1 or total preoccupation ) ! 
*ur* z an in/itution at ! level ( !     
local community4  ,! trag$y ( su*       
p>o*ialism is t ! creative ?\ght &      
en]gies ( p are consum$ 9 ! m]e         
ma9t5ance ( ! *ur* z an in/itution1 & 9 
dead-end religi\s activity & wor%ip4    
,mr4 ,*ur*ill1 & ?\s&s ( o!rs :o are l  

him1 ?9k ( ! *ur* only z ga!r$1 z a     
congregation4 ,!y ?9k t ! *ur* is mo/   
truly ! *ur* :5 its memb]s are assembl$ 
9 ! *ur* build+ & engag$ 9 *ur* "w4 ,!y 
?9k ( ! *ur* 9 t]ms ( go+ to *ur*1 (    
work+ = its organizations1 ( plann+ =   
its promotion1 & ( meet+ ! ne$s ( ! *ur*
 z an entity sep>ate f ! re/ ( life4    
,:at is ev5 worse1 ^! p ?9k t only :5 !y
 are do+ ?is *ur* "w are !y s]v+ ,god4  
,!ologically1 _! concept means t ,*ri/  
di$ = ! *ur*4  ,in/ead1 ,*ri/ di$ = !   
_w6 ,! purpose1 !n1 ( ! *ur* is n to    
meet its own ne$s b to s]ve ,god's      
purposes 9 ! _w4 ,?is =ces ^u u !       
position t n only %\ld we ?9k ( ! *ur* 9
 its ga!r$ s5se1 b also 9 its disp]s$   
s5se4 ,?is means t *ur* p %\ld ?9k (    
!mselves z memb]s ( ! *ur* :5 !y are out
 9 ! _w1 & t _! "w 9 ! _w is ! means    
?r\gh :i* ,god may act ?r\gh !m 9 !     
accompli%m5t ( ,8 purposes4 ,!re=e1 9   
t]ms ( ! ga!r$ *ur* we c speak ( *ur*   
"w1 b 9 t]ms ( ! disp]s$ *ur* we mu/ ?9k
 ( ! "w ( ! *ur* 9 ! _w1 ! "w ( !       

in/rum5t ( ,god's purposes !re4  ,!     
relation betwe5 ! ga!r$ *ur* & ! disp]s$
 *ur* %\ld be complem5t>y4 ,! *ur*1 z ! 
p ( ,god1 comes toge!r 9 a consci\s way 
f out ( ! _w to be r5ew$1 in/ruct$1 &   
equipp$ = ! purpose ( return+1 z ! body 
( ,*ri/1 to its task 9 ! _w4 ,!n1 out ( 
its "w 9 ! _w1 ! *ur* ga!rs aga9 to     
wor%ip1 to make its (f]+s1 & to be      
/r5g!n$ anew = its "w 9 ! _w4 ,else:]e  
,i h lik5$ ! *ur* to an army t has be5  
s5t on a mission4 ,9 ord] to accompli%  
its purpose1 x mu/ h a base4 ,9 ord] to 
h a base1 x mu/ assign c]ta9 troops to !
 task ( build+ & ma9ta9+ t base1 s t !  
re/ ( ! army may be free to accompli%   
its mission4 ,we t5d1 h[ev]1 to =get !  
mission & wa/efully assign mo/ ( our p  
to build+ & ma9ta9+ bases1 ) ! result t 
we d n accompli% our true purpose4 ,m   
memb]s ne$ to be assign$ to & tra9$ = ! 
mission1 :]e ! conflict betwe5 life &   
dea? goes on unceas+ly4  ,contr>y to !  
op9ion ( ,mr4 ,*ur*ill1 !re=e1 a        
complem5t>y relation exi/s betwe5 ! *ur*

 & ! _w4 ,! _w is ! sph]e ( ,god's      
action1 & ! *ur* is ! means ( ,8 action4
 ,! *ur* mu/ be f\nd at "w 9 ! _w1 :]e x
 w enc\nt] ! t5sion betwe5 ! sav+       
purposes ( ,god & ! self-c5t]$ purposes 
( man4  ,z 9 ! case ( cl]icalism1 s x is
 9 ! case ( *ur*ism4 ,!re is a human    
reason = ! exi/5ce ( ! concept & = its  
preval5ce 9 ! *ur*4 ,! reason1 9 ,mr4   
,*ur*ill's case1 0 to be f\nd 9 !       
conflict t he felt betwe5 8 human       
int]e/s & 8 *ur* memb]%ip4 ,he _h c]ta9 
real e/ate hold+s & o!r inve/m5ts f :i* 
he 0 mak+ an excell5t pr(it4 ,"s ( ^!1  
h[ev]1 7 exploitive & 9 contradiction to
 ! fai? :i* he pr(ess$4 ,x 0 necess>y1  
!re=e1 = him to keep ! *ur* & ! _w      
sep>ate2 & 8 doctr9e ( ! *ur* made x    
possible = him to rationalize ! split   
betwe5 8 fai? & 8 life4 ,we mu/ n ?9k t 
,mr4 ,*ur*ill engag$ 9 ?is contradiction
 delib]ately4 ,9 "p1 8 action 0 !       
unconsci\s means by :i* he held on to   
two conflict+ values )\t suff]+ f !     
conflict betwe5 !m4 ,we mu/ n ?9k t ,mr4

 ,*ur*ill is alone 9 ?is k9d ( sep>ation
 ( belief & practice1 ( splitt+ ! *ur* f
 ! _w4 ,we all h our own individual =ms 
( x4  ,x is because ( our insecurity &  
fe> t we develop ^! def5sive attitudes (
 p>o*ialism & *ur*ism4 ,we huddle l     
fright5$ *ildr5 beh9d ! doors ( ! *ur*1 
:]eas1 z soldi]s ( ,*ri/1 we %\ld be    
/ruggl+ c\rage\sly on ! fronti]s ( life 
:]e ! conflicts betwe5 love & hate1 tru?
 & prejudice1 are be+ wag$4   ,moralism 
,! next memb] ( ! gr\p :o spoke up 0    
,mrs4 ,/rait1 & %e voic$ = h]self & =   
millions ( o!r *ur* p ! morali/ic       
und]/&+ ( ! fai?4 ,moralism is p]haps ! 
mo/ widespread ( all ! concepts t we are
 n[ discuss+4  ,moralism is usually     
id5tifi$ z belief 9 good behavior z a   
s\rce ( life4 ,a gr\p ( *ur* p1 _m ( !m 
lead]s ( _! respective p>i%es1 7 ask$ to
 describe ! ,*ri/ian4 ,x w\ld be no     
exagg]ation to say t _! descriptions ( a
 ,*ri/ian made x difficult to di/+ui%   
him f a ,jew1 because1 accord+ to _!    
/atem5ts1 a ,*ri/ian is "o :o a*ieves 8 

/atus z su* by obey+ ! comm&m5ts ( ,god4
 ,he mu/ live a good life by keep+ !    
law4 ,! imitation ( ,jesus is ! me?od1  
illum9at$ by a /udy ( ,8 tea*+s1        
especially ! tea*+s 9 ! ,s]mon on !     
,m\nt4 ,&1 z ,mrs4 ,/rait indicat$1 !y  
agre$ t a ,*ri/ian %\ld set a good      
example = o!r p4  ,:5 ask$ h[ !y felt   
ab\t ?is concept ( ! ,*ri/ian life1 _m (
 !m admitt$ t !y 7 n too en?usia/ic ab\t
 x1 because x 0 h>d to a*ieve4 ,!y      
admitt$ t !y fail$ (t5 & mis]ably4 ,"o  
man put x r well :5 he said t he felt t 
try+ to be a ,*ri/ian 0 l :i/l+ 9 ! d>k4
 ,!y all admitt$ t _! concept 0         
widespread among _! fell[ *ur* memb]s & 
t x _h little appeal4 ,:5 !y 7 ask$ :y  
su* an unappeal+ concept ( a ,*ri/ian 0 
s preval5t1 !y repli$ t x 0 due to p's  
feel+ t !y ought to be bett] ?an !y are4
 ,_! discussion reveal$ fur!r t !y 7    
unable to accept !mselves z human be+s1 
& t !y felt !y _h to ju/ify !mselves by 
do+ good works & by moral liv+4  ,t is !
 reason :y ,mrs4 ,/rait holds to !      

morali/ic concept ( ! ,*ri/ian life4    
,sep>at$ f h] husb& & fe>$ by h] *ildr51
 %e feels acutely vuln]able & guilty4 ,z
 a def5se1 %e has built = h]self a      
=tress made up ( precepts1 ideals1 &    
rules1 all bas$ on a f\ndation (        
righte\sness1 & ?is has made h] a       
=midable & rigid p]son4 ,l all          
self-righte\s p1 %e tirelessly disp5ses 
obvi\s tru?s1 & keeps h] own life & t ( 
o!rs n>r[ly proscrib$4  ,mrs4 ,/rait is 
9 no way an exception4 ,! lives (       
morali/ic p are n beautiful to behold4  
,!y are apt to be conv5tional1          
legali/ic1 & ma9ta9]s ( ! /atus quo4    
,because !y h no s5se ( deliv]ance      
!mselves1 !y are apt to be ungraci\s 9  
relation to o!rs4 ,because !y live by ! 
law1 !y d n %[ ! fruit ( ! ,_s3 namely1 
! love1 joy1 peace1 & long-suff]+ :i*   
%\ld m>k ! foll[]s ( ,*ri/4 ,!y reveal  
h[ impossible x is = a human be+ to be a
 ,*ri/ian by himself4 ,he ne$s ! _s (   
,*ri/ to live 9 him & to remake him4 ,z 
we %all see lat]1 !re is available to u 

! _s ( ,*ri/1 :o accompli%es 9 u !      
righte\sness ( ,*ri/ :i* is ( ! _s & n (
 ! law4  ,moralism also is a sign ( our 
fe> & def5siv5ess4 ,we r$uce life to !  
dim5sions ( a moral code1 because we are
 afraid to tru/ ! ,_s & to risk ! dang]s
 ( love & its communication4 ,z "o p]son
 said1 ,let's be prop] s we won't ne$ to
 pray1 = !re is no kn[+ :at ,god might  
ask u to d if we really li/5$ to ,him4  
,9 o!r words1 moralism is a way ( play+ 
x safe4   ,intellectualism  ,a f\r?     
concept sometimes held by *ur* memb]s   
ab\t ! fai? 0 exhibit$ by ,mr4 ,kn[les4 
,its "n is intellectualism4 ,?is        
intellectualism1 sometimes call$        
gno/icism1 claims t k is ! s\rce ( life1
 & t ! possession ( k deliv]s u f ! p[] 
( evil4 ,?is is an anci5t h]esy t lives 
on 9 e g5]ation4 ,! desire to "k & !    
a*ievem5t ( skill 9 ! use ( k are inde$ 
comm5dable4 ,b to "k is n ju/ifiable z  
an end 9 itself4 ,k ab\t ,god & man1    
ab\t ! ,bible & ! ,*ri/ian fai?1 ab\t ! 
*ur* & its hi/ory1 is good & necess>y = 

in=m$ ,*ri/ian liv+1 b x c 9 no way     
sub/itute = our dep5d5ce ^u ,*ri/ & ! "w
 ( ,8 _s 9 u4 ,we ne$ to "k ab\t        
,*ri/ian fai?1 b x mu/ n replace ! ne$  
to love & to be lov$4 ,k ab\t ,god mu/ n
 become m important ?an our kn[+ ,god4  
,:5 religi\s & !ological k becomes an   
end 9 itself1 ! *ur* is apt to become   
coldly intellectual & sophi/icat$4 ,i am
 rem9d$ ( a gr\p ( laym5 :o became avid 
/ud5ts ( ,*ri/ian !ology1 & :o became s 
prideful 9 _! a*ievem5t t !y exhibit$ 9 
_! relations ) "o ano!r1 z well z ) _!  
o!r associates1 a _s ( pride1 arrogance1
 & competitiv5ess4 ,!y _h acquir$ ! k ( 
,*ri/ianity1 b !y _h lo/ ! _s ( ! ,*ri/4
  ,! "w ( ,*ri/ians is n s mu* to hold &
 transmit a k ( ! fai? z x is to be !   
p]sonal repres5tatives & in/rum5ts (    
,*ri/ 9 ! _w4 ,to be sure1 ,*ri/'s      
repres5tatives %\ld "k :at !y are talk+ 
ab\t & intellectually be able to ent]   
into dialogue ) all m54 ,b _! kn[+ %\ld 
inc>nate !m1 bo? z p]sons & 9 _!        
capacity to repres5t ,god & ,8 ,*ri/ to 

m54  ,?is br+s u also to a controv]sy t 
exi/s 9 ! field ( ,*ri/ian education4   
,_m p feel t ! purpose ( ! *ur* s*ool is
 to transmit ! cont5t ( ! ,*ri/ian fai?4
 ,*ri/ian education1 h[ev]1 mu/ be      
p]sonal4 ,x mu/ take place 9 a p]sonal  
enc\nt]1 & only second>ily is x         
transmissive4 ,x is true1 h[ev]1 t      
,*ri/ian education is responsible = !   
cont9u$ recital ( ,god's sav+ acts1 & = 
! transmission ( ! subject matt] ( !    
hi/orical fai? & life ( ! ,*ri/ian      
community4 ,! cont5t ( our fai? 0 born (
 ,god's action & man's response--a      
div9e-human enc\nt]4 ,x is nei!r        
possible nor correct to r$uce ?is to    
subject matt] & sub/itute ! transmission
 ( subject matt] = ! enc\nt]1 ) !       
assumption t x w accompli% ! same       
purpose 7x _c1 x nev] has1 & x nev] w74 
,actually1 ! relations ( transmission & 
enc\nt] are complem5t>y4 ,bo? are ne$$4 
,! *ur*1 z ! tradition-be>+ community1  
conta9s bo? poles & %\ld n subord9ate "o
 to ! o!r4 ,:5 ! cont5t ( ! tradition is

 lo/1 ! mean+ ( ! enc\nt] is lo/1 & 9 ! 
end ev5 ! enc\nt] itself4 ,!n tradition 
becomes idolatr\s & /]ile4 ,bo? are     
necess>y to ! community ( fai?1 & bo?   
are mean+less1 ev5 dang]\s1 if sep>at$4 
,*ri/ian tea*+ is conc]n$ ) bo?4  ,mr4  
,kn[les1 h[ev]1 is n happy ab\t !       
requir$ complem5t>y relation betwe5 !   
cont5t ( ! ,*ri/ian fai? & 8 life4 ,z   
,mrs4 ,/rait uses moralism = a def5se1 s
 ,mr4 ,kn[les uses 8 emphasis on !      
cont5t ( ! ,bible z a way ( protect+    
himself f ! deep] & m p]sonal *all5ges (
 life4 ,he is e/rang$ f 8 family1 & he  
is reg>d$ z au/]e & unfri5dly by 8      
employees & _m ( 8 bus9ess associates4  
,p]sonal relations fright5 him1 b by    
ma/]y ( k he ga9s sup]iority & p[] ov]  
o!rs4  ,intellectualism & gno/icism are 
n conf9$ to ! *ur*4 ,we see _! influ5ce 
9 e walk ( life4 ,_m p talk mu* ab\t !  
importance ( love 9 human relation%ips1 
b !y d n love4 ,!y use _! k ab\t love z 
an evasion ( _! responsibility to       
express love4 ,man _c be sav$ by :at he 

kn[s1 b only by ! way he lives ) 8      
bro!r4 ,if any "o says1 ',i love ,god1' 
& hates 8 bro!r1 he is a li>4#a ,?is is 
! /]n b cle> ^w ( ! ,scriptures4  ,b we 
c be s fright5$ by ! risks ( express+   
love t we may turn away f ^? :o ne$ our 
love & h a "r to expect x f u4 ,h[ mu*  
easi] & saf] x is to "k ab\t ,god & ,8  
love1 & to conf9e ?is mean+ to !        
sanctu>y & ! /udy gr\p6                 
,intellectualism1 !n1 is ano!r way 9 :i*
 we try to play x safe4   ,humanism     
,pr(essor ,manby speaks = humanism1     
ano!r po9t ( view 9 ! *ur*4 ,he1 ) o!rs1
 says1 ,give man "t & he w "w out 8 own 
salvation4 ,humani/s1 l ,dr4 ,manby1 (t5
 react aga9/ ! religiosity ( ! *ur* ) ! 
compla9t t ! se>* = tru? is clutt]$ )   
obsolete my?s & mean+less obs]vances4   
,on ! o!r h&1 ! humani/s1 :ile spl5did 9
 _! devotion to tru?1 h only _! op9ion (
 :at is good & true to guide !m4        
,because !y ackn[l$ge no life beyond ?is
 "o1 !y become ! s]vants ( a clos$ sy/em
 9 :i* inju/ice fru/rates ! ju/ice = :i*

 !y plead & "w4 ,! plight ( ! humani/s  
is pa!tic4 ,s9ce !y accept no savior1 !y
 c draw only on _! own human res\rces1 &
 are put 9 ! position ( try+ to lift    
!mselves by _! own p[]4 ,!y c only :i/le
 9 ! d>k4 ,:ile man ap>t f ,god _c save 
himself1 ,god's love = ! _w works 9 !   
_w1 & ,he has a "p = man to take4 ,9 !  
relation betwe5 ,god & man1 !re is ne$ =
 bo? ! greatness ( ,god & ! greatness ( 
man4   ,deal+ ) ,conflicts  ,& s ^! five
 fright5$ fri5ds1 famili> types to u    
all1 reveal to u h[ easy x is to get lo/
 9 our preoccupations & to di/ort or    
dim9i% ! tru? we w\ld s]ve4  ,mr4       
,gates1 ! m9i/]1 has 8 anxieties1 too4  
,he repres5ts ! orda9$ m9i/ry ( ! *ur*1 
:i* is caught betwe5 ! dem&s ( ! !ory ( 
,*ri/ianity & ! dem&s ( ! _w2 betwe5 !  
dem&s ( ! pulpit & ! dem&s ( ! pew2     
betwe5 ! *ur* z an in/itution & ! *ur* z
 a sav+ p[] 9 ! _w2 betwe5 ! surges ( ! 
_s & ! suck+ drag ( tradition4 ,& he    
himself is also trapp$ by ! dem&s ( 8   
image ( himself z a m9i/] & ! dem&s ( 8 

p's image ( him2 by ! idealism ( 8 tra9+
 = ! ,*ri/ian m9i/ry & ! realism ( !    
dem&s on 8 m9i/ry 9 ! *ur* & 9 ! _w4    
,he _c resolve ^! conflicts by himself1 
nor %\ld he try4 ,^! are n 8 conflicts4 
,!y are ! conflicts ( ! *ur*'s m9i/ry1 &
 he & ! p ne$ to deal ) !m toge!r4      
,nei!r he nor !y w be able to resolve ! 
conflicts1 because !y are ! inevitable  
t5sions betwe5 ! _s & ! ,law1 & betwe5  
life & =m4 ,b ,mr4 ,gates & all o!r     
m9i/]s1 toge!r ) ! re/ ( ! p ( ,god1 by 
reason ( ! ,*ri/ian fai?1 mu/ live ?r\gh
 ^! conflicts & deal ) !m creatively4   
,bo? ,mr4 ,gates & 8 p ne$ to accept    
conflicts z an inevitable "p ( life1    
especially ( a life t is liv$ 9 response
 to a call or a loyalty4 ,no gr[? or    
le>n+ takes place at any dep? )\t su*   
conflict3 conflict betwe5 ! kn[n & !    
unkn[n1 betwe5 our ne$ = security & our 
ne$ = maturity4 ,?is is ! nature ( life4
 ,z = ! gospel1 let u n =get t its      
univ]sally accept$ symbol is ! cross1 a 
symbol ( ! conflict betwe5 love & hate1 

betwe5 life & dea?4 ,z ,*ri/ians1 our   
only reali/ic expectation is t because (
 our ,*ri/ian belief & practice1 our    
conflicts w increase & int5sify r ?an   
dim9i%4 ,! only peace we may hope to h  
is an irrational peace1 an 9-spite-(    
peace1 ! peace ( ! dep?s b5ea? !        
/orm-toss$ surface2 9 o!r words1 ! peace
 ( ,god1 :i* passes all und]/&+4#b ,to  
sugge/ h[ ?is may be a*iev$ 9 "s areas (
 life is ! purpose ( ?is book4  ,f9ally1
 ,mr4 ,wise1 ! memb] ( ! gr\p ^: rem>ks 
7 always be+ int]rupt$ by ! o!rs1       
repres5ts a ,*ri/ian po9t ( view :i*1 9 
! *ur* g5]ally1 is li/5$ to no m ?an x 0
 "h4 ,:at he 0 try+ to say w be explor$ 
m fully z an answ] to "s ( ! que/ions   
rais$ 9 ?is *apt]4      #a #a ,john     
#d3bj4    #b ,phil4 #d3g4     ,,ii      
,,god ,,9 ,,! ,,_w      ,= ,god s lov$ !
 _w                              t he   
gave 8 only ,son4444--,john #c3af   ,!  
concepts & attitudes ( ,mr4 ,cl>ke1 ,mr4
 ,*ur*ill1 ,mrs4 ,/rait1 ,mr4 ,kn[les1 &
 ,pr(essor ,manby lead !m & ! re/ ( !   

*ur* away f ,god & ! _w4 ,_! cl]icalism1
 pietism1 moralism1 intellectualism1 &  
humanism repres5t ways 9 :i* fright5$ & 
di/urb$ p seek to make !mselves secure4 
,un=tunately1 h[ev]1 _! security !n is  
pur*as$ at ! price ( _! fre$om4 ,_!     
lives become lock$ up 9 ! small closet (
 _! limit$ concepts4 ,_! lit]al & rigid 
und]/&+ ( ! ,*ri/ian *ur* & its fai?    
makes !m s loveless t _! lives h an     
ali5at+ effect on o!rs1 & !y !mselves   
fail to f9d ,god4   ,concepts ,ab\t ,god
 ,may ,be ,dang]\s  ,!y d n1 nor %all   
we1 f9d ,god 9 our concepts ab\t ,him or
 ab\t ,8 *ur*4 ,he is n to be f\nd 9    
ass]tions ab\t ,him or 9 ab/ract belief 
ab\t ,8 omnipot5ce or o!r attributes4   
,god is n an idea1 b ,be+ itself1 & our 
ideas are only our concept or image (   
,him4 ,:5 we confuse ,god ) our ideas   
ab\t ,him1 we are misl$ into ?9k+ t we  
"k :at ,he wants1 & we t5d to repres5t &
 act = ,him uncritically4 ,?is confusion
 betwe5 ,god & our ideas ab\t ,him      
expla9s :y ! religion ( s _m p lacks    

humility & rev]5ce4 ,x is "o ( ! reasons
 :y true ,*ri/ian fell[%ip is z r>e z x 
is4  ,n only may ^! ideas & concepts    
lead u away f ,god1 b also !y may lead u
 out ( ! _w & away f t enc\nt] ) ! _w   
:i* began ) ! ,inc>nation4 ,sep>ation ( 
! *ur* f ! _w1 its assumption t its task
 is to def5d itself f ! attacks ( !     
s-call$ secul>1 its def5siv5ess ( ,god 9
 response to ! unfai? ( ! _w1 all are   
symptoms ( *ur* p's lack ( fai? 9 ,god &
 ( _! failure to und]/& h[ & :]e ,he    
works4 ,9 o!r words1 ! o!rworldl9ess ( !
 *ur* h>dly h>monizes ) ! worldl9ess (  
,god1 ,:o *ose to create ! _w1 to speak 
& act 9 & ?r\gh x1 & ,:o f9ally ent]$ x 
& made ! life ( man 9 hi/ory ,8 "r h&4  
,our belief 9 ! ,inc>nation & our       
und]/&+ ( ! love ( ,god = ! _w %\ld s5d 
u1 z *ildr5 ( ,god1 into ! _w1 into !   
s-call$ secul> ord]1 eag] to p>ticipate 
9 its mean+s1 & to br+ !m into relation 
) ! mean+s ( ,god4  ,z we "w at ?is1 we 
%all beg9 to exp]i5ce true ,*ri/ian     
fell[%ip1 ! fell[%ip ( ! ,holy ,_s1 :i* 

,i und]/& to be ! fell[%ip ( p :o h !   
c\rage to live toge!r z p]sons r ?an to 
relate !mselves to ea* o!r ?r\gh _!     
ideas & preconceptions4 ,*ri/ian        
fell[%ip is liv+ ) & = "o ano!r         
responsibly1 t is1 9 love4 ,if any "o   
says1 ',i love ,god1' & hates 8 bro!r1  
he is a li>4#c ,&1 ,he :o abides 9 love 
abides 9 ,god1 & ,god abides 9 him4#d   
,if we w\ld f9d ,god1 !re=e1 & le>n !   
mean+ ( life & love1 we mu/ live 9 ! _w 
by giv+ ourselves to "o ano!r           
responsibly4 ,x is = ?is t ! *ur* exi/s4
 ,! *ur* does n exi/ to save1 build up1 
& adorn itself4 ,nor does x exi/ to     
protect or def5d ,god4 ,! mission ( !   
*ur* is to p>ticipate 9 ! reconcil+     
dialogue betwe5 ,god & man4 ,"h is !    
s\rce ( ! true life ( ! _w4 ,"h1 too1 is
 ! s\rce ( ! life ( ! *ur* & its wor%ip4
 ,)\t ?is1 ev]y?+1 includ+ wor%ip1 is   
false & idolatr\s4  ,^! are "s ( ! ?+s  
:i* ,mr4 ,wise 0 try+ to say to ! gr\p4 
,he repres5ts ^? 9 ! *ur* :o see b5ea? !
 surface ( ?+s & beh9d ! di/ortions (   

conv5tional & def5sive ,*ri/ianity4 ,b !
 "q t f9ally em]ges is3 ,h[ d we free   
ourselves f ! di/ortions ( our fai?8    
,:at %\ld we d8   ,we ,f9d ,god at ,"w 9
 ! ,_w  ,! answ] is simple4 ,we %\ld    
look = ,god 9 ! _w4 ,we %all f9d ,him 9 
! meet+ betwe5 m54 ,:]e two or ?ree are 
ga!r$ 9 my "n1 !re am ,i 9 ! mid/ (     
!m4#e ,&1 ga!r$ 9 my "n means ga!r$ 9 ! 
_s & aft] ! "* ( ,jesus4 ,x does n mean 
ga!r$ only "u special & sep>ate religi\s
 auspices4 ,to be sure1 ! ga!r+s (      
,god's p = wor%ip & in/ruction are      
indisp5sable to ! life ( ! *ur*1 b      
unless we translate our wor%ip &        
in/ruction into action1 our religi\s    
obs]vances w be idolatr\s & s9ful1 & w  
sep>ate m5 f ea* o!r & f ,god4 ,s we    
look = ,god :]e ,he works2 t is1 9 ! _w 
& betwe5 man & man4  ,! place :]e we    
enc\nt] ,god fir/1 9 ! c\rse ( our      
individual lives1 is 9 ! family4 ,!     
family provides ! individual ) 8 fir/   
exp]i5ce ( liv+ 9 relation to o!r       
p]sons1 & ?is is 8 fir/ exp]i5ce (      

,*ri/ian fell[%ip4 ,imm$iately we are   
confront$ ) ! nature ( ,god's creation  
&1 !re=e1 ) ! revelation ( ,himself & ( 
h[ ,he works4 ,we are confront$ ) !     
relational nature ( all life2 = no?+    
exi/s 9 isolation4 ,ev]y?+ & e p]son    
f9ds full mean+ only 9 relation to o!r  
?+s & p]sons4  ,we are us$ to ?9k+ (    
p]sons z liv+ 9 relation to p]sons2 we  
are less accu/om$ to ?9k+ ( ?+s exi/+ 9 
relation to o!r ?+s4 ,b does n ! tree   
exi/ 9 relation to ! e>?1 atmosph]e1 &  
wat]8 ,& does n ! hamm] exi/ z hamm] 9  
relation to ! h& t uses x & ! object x  
p\nds8 ,! only diff]5ce is t p]sons are 
active p>ticipants 9 relation%ip & ?+s  
are passive4 ,b ?+s may be made active  
symbols or in/rum5ts 9 ! meet+ betwe5   
man & man1 z1 = in/ance1 9 ! case ( !   
bread & w9e ( ! ,"l's ,supp]4  ,god     
creat$ man to live 9 relation ) ! _w (  
?+s1 ) himself1 & ) 8 fell[ m51 & to    
live 9 ^! relation%ips 9 su* a way t he 
w discov] & gr[ 9 8 relation%ip ) ,god4 
,! t]ms man & relation%ip are synonym\s4

 ,an old ,roman prov]b puts x1 ,"o man  
is no man at all4 ,alone we w\ld cease  
to exi/4 ,we all h _h ! exp]i5ce ( be+  
%ut out f "s important relation%ip & we 
"k :at a desp]ate feel+ x produces4 ,we 
lose :atev] s5se ( well-be+ we may h _h1
 & we beg9 to feel unwant$1 depress$1 & 
less alive4 ,:5 we are w>mly ga!r$ aga9 
into an important gr\p1 we beg9 to come 
alive4 ,our blood runs fa/]1 & we "k !  
joy ( life aga94 ,x is almo/ z ?\gh we  
_h be5 resurrect$4 ,! s5se ( be+ a "p1 !
 exp]i5ce ( fell[%ip1 makes ! diff]5ce  
betwe5 life & dea?4 ,i once visit$ 9 a  
home :]e a te5-age girl 0 hav+ "o ( h]  
frequ5t tragic love exp]i5ces4 ,! boy %e
 0 curr5tly dat+ _h n call$ h] up = ?ree
 days4 ,%e 0 full ( gloom1 mop$ ar\nd ! 
h\se1 & lo/ h] usual int]e/ 9 ev]y?+4   
,"o ev5+ ! phone rang & ! call 0 = h]4  
,fir/ we he>d h] laugh1 & !n %e bur/    
into ! room full ( gaiety & en?usiasm4  
,y w\ld n h kn[n h] = ! same girl4      
,alone & reject$1 z %e ?\ght1 %e 0 dead4
 ,re/or$ to relation%ip1 %e came alive  

aga94 ,we may smile patroniz+ly at !    
emotional excesses ( ?is te5-age girl1 b
 on ! o!r h& we und]/& deeply !         
fundam5tal mean+ ( h] exp]i5ce4  ,!     
patt]ns ( relation%ip beg9 ) our bir?4  
,we w\ld n survive if ! :ole community1 
c5t]+ 9 ! basic function ( ! "m1 did n  
assume responsibility = u4 ,our dep5d5ce
 ^u h] = food & c>e is ! occasion = !   
beg9n+ ( relation%ip4 ,& bo? ! infant & 
! "m h _! "p to play4 ,%e moves z a     
p]son t[>d h] *ild ) ! gifts ( h] milk &
 ( h] love4 ,! infant1 on 8 side1 9 r&om
 & non-specific ways1 calls out to h]4  
,he cries & makes 8 simple movem5ts4 ,%e
 responds to 8 cries ) h] c>e4 ,he      
responds to h] c>e by sleep+ & wak+1 by 
cry+ & coo+4 ,& ?us beg9s ! dialogical  
nature ( relation%ip4   ,relation%ip ,is
 ,dialogue  ,relation%ip is dialogue4   
,dialogue occurs :5 "o p]son addresses  
ano!r p]son & ! o!r p]son responds4 ,x  
is a two-way process 9 :i* two or m p   
discuss mean+s t conc]n !m4 ,to :atev]  
degree "o "p ( ! dialogue is lo/1 to t  

degree ! relation%ip ceases to exi/4 ,a 
m>riage1 = in/ance1 ceases to exi/1     
except 9 =m1 only :5 ei!r "o ( ! p>tn]s 
ceases to communicate ) ! o!r1 & !      
quality ( address & response is lo/4    
,likewise1 true religion disappe>s :5 x 
repres5ts only :at ,god says & elim9ates
 ! mean+ ( man's response4 ,religi\s    
dogma is sometimes us$ to %ackle human  
creativity1 & ! =m ( belief is all[$ to 
/ifle ! vitality ( fai?4 ,simil>ly1     
religion disappe>s :5 ! address to ,god 
& ! response ( ,god are elim9at$4 ,!    
,ph>isee 9 ,jesus' p>able _h lo/ !      
dialogical quality ( 8 pray] because he 
/ood & pray$ ?us ) himself4444#f ,he 0 n
 speak+ to ,god & he expect$ no         
response1 ) ! result t 8 religion lo/   
its dialogical quality s9ce he 0 sep>at$
 f ,god by 8 self-righte\sness4 ,?is    
dialogical quality is indisp5sable to   
creative liv+4 ,x is out ( ! dialogical 
enc\nt] t ! individual em]ges4  ,only by
 ! process ( dialogical tea*+ c *ildr5  
really le>n4 ,! relation%ip betwe5 p>5t 

& *ild is n "o-sid$4 ,! *ild may prote/ 
aga9/ ! au?ority ( ! p>5t4 ,?is is !    
*ild's "p ( ! dialogue4 ,! p>5t may     
recognize 8 *ild's ne$ to f9d himself z 
an autonom\s p]son by mak+ all[ance = 8 
prote/ & ex]cise ( fre$om4 ,! next /age 
9 ! dialogue betwe5 !m is ! reassurance 
:i* ! *ild exp]i5ces & reflects 9 8     
behavior 9 response to 8 p>5t's         
affirmation ( him z a p]son4 ,he may %[ 
?is by a m reali/ic acceptance ( !      
p>5t's au?ority4 ,?is 9 turn may        
reassure ! p>5t1 s t he feels m relax$ 9
 ! ex]cise ( 8 au?ority4 ,gradually !   
p>5t & ! *ild beg9 to exp]i5ce a m      
mature relation%ip ) ea* o!r4   ,we ,are
 ,responsible = ,ea* ,o!r  ,because ( ! 
dialogical nature ( relation%ip1 we h   
responsibility = "o ano!r4 ,ea* ( u has 
a responsibility to call =? ! o!r z a   
p]son1 & ea* ne$s to be call$ =? s9ce   
none ( u w develop automatically4 ,we   
call =? "o ano!r 9 ! same way t !       
conductor ( an or*e/ra calls =? ! p[]s (
 8 musicians & ! pot5tialities ( _!     

in/rum5ts4 ,& !y respond by call+ =? !  
int]pretive g5ius ( _! conductor4 ,ea*  
draws out ! p[]s ( ! o!r4  ,!           
pot5tialities = developm5t are inh]5t 9 
u1 b we ne$ ! w>m? & /imulation ( o!r   
p]sons4 ,?is is c]ta9ly true 9 ! case ( 
! newly born4 ,! role ( p>5ts & tea*]s  
is to call =? & welcome ! p]sonal       
responses & initiatives ( _! *ildr54    
,?is is also true ( ^? :o1 because ( !  
pressures ( life1 />t to unfold z p]sons
 b !n )draw 9 ord] to protect !mselves f
 fur!r hurt4 ,"h aga91 p>5ts & tea*]s1  
pa/ors & c\nselors1 & inde$ all m51 f "t
 to "t1 are oblig$ to call =? "s s\l :o 
is ei!r 9 hid+ or 9 retreat4  ,?is role 
is easy to see 9 our relation ) *ildr51 
because *ildr5's responses are sometimes
 s uncomplicat$ t ! process we are talk+
 ab\t is cle>ly reveal$4 ,susie1 feel+ t
 an inju/ice _h be5 done h]1 retreat$ to
 h] room & )drew into h]self4 ,aft] see+
 t %e w\ld ne$ help 9 ord] to come to   
h]self aga91 h] "m f9ally ask$ h] if %e 
w\ld l to help h] bake a cake4 ,soon    

,susie & h] "m 7 *att+ happily toge!r 9 
! kit*5 do+ some?+ t ,susie lov$ to d   
:5ev] h] "m _h "t to help h]4 ,dur+ !   
c\rse ( _! conv]sation1 ! "m _h an      
opportunity to help ,susie und]/& !     
situation t _h upset h]4 ,z a result1   
,susie em]g$ out ( ! situation m mature 
& res\rceful4  ,i once knew a bus driv] 
:o discov]$ t he1 too1 c\ld call =? p by
 ! way 9 :i* he greet$ !m & did bus9ess 
) !m4 ,on 8 morn+ runs he obs]v$ t _m p 
7 grumpy & sull51 & treat$ him & _!     
fell[ pass5g]s disc\rte\sly4 ,at fir/ 8 
incl9ation 0 to respond 9 ! same way4   
,!n he discov]$ t by tak+ ! initiative &
 greet+ 8 pass5g]s ) a smile & cordial  
^w1 & by mak+ *ange *e]fully & be+      
pati5t ) _! grump9ess1 ! _s ( 8 pass5g]s
 und]w5t a trans=mation4 ,ov] ! ye>s a  
numb] ( p told him h[ grateful !y 7 = 8 
good *e]4 ,!y said t 8 influ5ce _h (t5  
be5 decisive 9 _! lives4 ,x _h affect$  
_! relations ) o!r p4 ,?us1 8 attitude  
t[>d p & 8 me?od ( relat+ himself to !m 
z a driv] ( a bus became 8 m9i/ry2 &    

s9ce he 0 a memb] ( ! *ur*1 ! *ur*'s    
m9i/ry rea*$ out & work$ ?r\gh t bus    
driv] into ! lives ( _m :o may nev] h   
come any:]e ne> ! *ur*4 ,?r\gh su*      
relation%ips4 ,god is pres5t & active 9 
! _w4  ,! relation%ip betwe5 man & man1 
!re=e1 n only is important to m51 b also
 is a "p ( ,god's plan = !              
reconciliation ( ! _w unto ,himself4 ,x 
is giv5 to u = our own sakes & also = ! 
accompli%m5t ( ,god's purposes4         
,un=tunately1 h[ev]1 our relat+ to "o   
ano!r (t5 is hurtful because ( our      
anxiety & insecurity4 ,we may attack    
o!rs 9 ord] to make ourselves feel      
secure4 ,in/ead ( call+ !m =?1 we cause 
!m to )draw4 ,ev5 :5 we und]take to love
 o!rs1 we may d x 9 ways t hurt !m1     
because we love !m = selfi% reasons4    
,human relation%ips1 9 !mselves1 are    
ambigu\s1 & we ne$ deliv]ance f !       
ambiguity ( !m1 = ^! relation%ips c ei!r
 de/roy p or call !m =?4   ,human ,love 
,is ,ambigu\s  ,fur!rmore1 because human
 love c be ambigu\s1 we d n "k :e!r x is

 safe to give & accept love4 ,x is a    
risk bo? to love & to accept love1 & all
 ( u1 to "s degree1 are afraid to take !
 risk4 ,"s p1 to be sure1 h m c\rage = x
 ?an o!rs4 ,!y love m c\rage\sly1 & are 
m c\rage\s 9 _! acceptance ( o!rs' love4
 ,^! p seem to h a p[] ( be+ t o!rs     
lack4  ,! giv+ & receiv+ ( love implies 
responsibility = "o ano!r1 & we may     
)hold our love & reject ! love ( o!rs z 
a way ( evad+ ! responsibility ( love4  
,we are will+ to love up to ! po9t :]e x
 beg9s to be inconv5i5t to love any m4  
,we l ! image ( ourselves z lov$ & lov+ 
p1 b we w\ld l ! b5efit )\t !           
responsibilities ( ! role4 ,:5 !        
response to our love pres5ts u ) dem&s1 
we may beg9 to hold p (f4 ,we may say3  
,yes1 to be sure1 ,i love y1 b keep y\r 
di/ance4 ,i am will+ to give ( myself1 b
 n too mu*4 ,i ne$ to keep some?+ ( me =
 myself4 ,by ?is attitude we are admitt+
 t :5 we love ano!r we h to give        
ourselves to him1 entru/ ourselves to   
him4 ,commitm5t to ano!r p]son is a     

c\rage\s act1 & x is no wond] t we      
sometimes recoil f x4  ,:at has be5 said
 ab\t giv+ love is equally true (       
accept+ love1 = ! acceptance ( love also
 calls = tru/ & commitm5t4 ,if ,i really
 respond to y\r love1 ,i w op5 myself to
 ! possibility ( be+ hurt because y\r   
love _c be completely tru/$4 ,fur!rmore1
 if y %\ld really love me1 ,i am n wor?y
 ( y\r love & ,i d n welcome ! judgm5t (
 me t is implicit 9 y\r love4 ,i %all1  
!re=e1 make a cauti\s response to y &   
give myself to y gu>d$ly4 ,!n ! p]son :o
 is giv+ love is made lonely because 8  
gift is n accept$4 ,he1 too1 beg9s to   
)draw & to dole out 8 love1 :i* 9 turn  
increases ! anxiety ( ! "o to :om x is  
be+ giv54 ,?is is an aspect ( human     
fell[%ip :i* we ne$ to recognize be=e we
 talk mu* ab\t ,*ri/ian fell[%ip4 ,human
 fell[%ip is bo? h]oic & tragic2 x is   
bo? r5ew+ & de/ructive2 x is bo? heal+ &
 hurtful1 b x is indisp5sable to life4  
,?is is our human pr$icam5t4  ,some?+ is
 ne$$ to cut into ! ambiguity ( human   

love4 ,& ?is is :at ,*ri/ does4 ,he     
draws ! confus$ curr5ts ( human love    
into ! unify+ /ream ( div9e love1 ?us   
mak+ possible a new relation%ip4 ,z !   
apo/le ,paul makes cle>1 we become new  
creatures 9 ,*ri/1 & z su*1 a "p ( a new
 creation4#g  ,hav+ consid]$ "s ( !     
*>act]i/ics ( human love & fell[%ip1 let
 u n[ look at ,*ri/ian love & fell[%ip4 
,"o ^w ( caution is ne$$ be=e we beg94  
,! fell[%ip ( ,*ri/ian m5 & wom5 w /ill 
h its human look1 b some?+ new has be5  
add$ t makes a diff]5ce4 ,:at is x8 ,h[ 
%all we describe ! new relation%ip8     
,:at ,is ,*ri/ian ,fell[%ip8  ,*ri/ian  
fell[%ip is ! relation ( m5 & wom5 :o1  
by ! p[] ( ! ,holy ,_s1 p>ticipate 9 !  
life & "w ( ,*ri/4 ,*ri/ian liv+ is     
p>ticipation 9 ! cont9u$ liv+ ( ,*ri/   
?r\gh ! activity ( ,8 ,_s4 ,?is concept 
/&s 9 %>p contra/ to ! ones held by !   
*ur* memb]s describ$ 9 ! fir/ *apt]4 ,! 
s\rce ( ! ,*ri/ian's life is n k ab\t   
,god or ev5 our hi/orical remembrance ( 
,8 inc>nate life1 al?\gh !y contribute  

to x4 ,nei!r is x to be f\nd 9 a det]m9$
 imitation ( ,*ri/'s life1 al?\gh t ef=t
 also w help4 ,nor is x 9 ! good w ( man
 :i*1 along ) 8 p[] ( love1 is likewise 
f\nd to be ambigu\s4 ,no1 ! true s\rce (
 ! ,*ri/ian life & ( ! ,*ri/ian         
relation%ip is ! inc>nation ( ,8 ,_s 9 !
 lives ( m54 ,! pres5ce & work+ ( ,8 ,_s
 trans=ms our own _s & provides a new   
dynamic = our liv+4 ,?is does n mean t  
we cease to be human2 ! old conflicts   
are /ill !re & ! old battles mu/ cont9ue
 to be f\ght1 b a new p[] ( be+ & ( love
 is giv5 to u by ! indwell+ ,_s4  ,j n[ 
we ref]r$ to ! inc>nation ( ,8 ,_s 9 u4 
,! concept ( inc>nation is an anci5t "o 
9 ,*ri/ianity1 & repres5ts ! embodim5t (
 ,god 9 ! human =m ( ! hi/oric ,jesus1  
,:o p>ticipat$ 9 ! life ( man z man 9   
ord] t man1 ?r\gh ,him1 might p>ticipate
 9 ! ,be+ ( ,god4 ,:at happ5$ is kn[n to
 u all4 ,! inc>nation produc$ ! life (  
,jesus1 ,8 dea?1 resurrection1 & ! com+ 
( ,8 ,_s4 ,^! are n once-=-all hi/oric  
ev5ts z 0 ! life ( ,julius ,caes> or (  

,george ,wa%+ton4 ,?r\gh ,him a new p[] 
( love 0 releas$ into life t cont9ues   
unto ?is day4 ,b4,c4 & ,a4,d4 are n     
m]ely a way ( divid+ "t1 b are our way (
 ackn[l$g+ t 9 ! life ( ,jesus ( ,naz>e?
 some?+ radically diff]5t ent]$ into    
life1 a new dynamic t *ang$ ! nature (  
creation4 ,we p>ticipate 9 ! hi/oric    
inc>nation ( ,jesus ( ,naz>e? :i* took  
place #aijj ye>s ago by ! daily         
inc>nations ( ,8 ,_s 9 our individual   
lives & 9 ! life ( ! p ( ,god4 ,& s9ce  
,8 inc>nation meant ,god's entry into ! 
_w1 s likewise ! indwell+ ( ,8 ,_s 9 u  
also %\ld mean ,god's entry into our _w 
& into its conflicts & issues4  ,we are 
,*ri/ians by do+ :at ,he did 9 ! _w1 :i*
 0 to h a c>e & a responsibility = o!rs4
 ,8 ,_s seeks to inc>nate ,himself 9 !  
day-to-day decisions ( e responsible    
p]son 9 e sph]e ( 8 liv+4 ,?us ! "m n   
only s]ves ,god by h] decisions &       
actions 9 ! home1 b ?r\gh ^! same       
decisions & actions %e may believe t    
,god is pres5t & accompli%+ ,8 purposes 

= h] & = ! memb]s ( h] family4 ,s1      
likewise1 a bus9essman's sph]e (        
,*ri/ian action is c>ri$ out 9 !        
decisions & "w ( 8 bus9ess1 b also he   
may believe t 9 & ?r\gh ^! same         
decisions & "w ,god seeks to accompli%  
,8 purpose4 ,s ! pr9ciple ( inc>nation  
means t ,god is bo? s]v$ & met at !     
po9ts ( decision & responsibility ( our 
daily lives4 ,& ?is is :at x means to   
p>ticipate 9 ,8 life by ! p[] ( ,8 ,_s1 
to be> ! true m>k ( ! ,*ri/ian4  ,9 !   
context ( ^! ?\ghts1 we may n[ look at !
 ?ree p>ts ( ! e>?ly life ( ,jesus      
,*ri/1 &1 z we exam9e !m1 ! idea (      
p>ticipat+ 9 ,8 life may become cle>]4  
,p>ticipation 9 ! ,life ( ,*ri/  ,fir/ (
 all1 !re is ,8 e>?ly life1 ! life ( !  
man ,jesus1 ,:om we call ,"l & ,savior1 
! ,*ri/4 ,?is life gives u ! picture (  
:at ,god meant man to be4 ,"h is !      
p]fect portrait ( ,god's creation--man4 
,x z a /irr+ picture & we love to look  
at x1 contemplate x1 read ab\t x4 ,x is 
a dull m9d & he>t t does n quick5 9     

response to ,8 amaz+ compassion & /r5g?2
 & z we /udy 8 in/ructions to u1 x      
becomes cle> t ,he expects u to be to   
our g5]ation :at ,he 0 to ,84  ,:5 we   
realize :at ,8 tea*+ & comm&m5t require 
( u1 our s5se ( ! beauty & simplicity ( 
,8 life is ov]%ad[$ by ! t]ror ar\s$ 9 u
 by ,8 expectation ( u4 ,we "k t !      
ugl9ess ( our lives c nev] reproduce !  
beauty ( ,84 ,f a human po9t ( view1 !  
imitation ( ,*ri/ is a complete         
impossibility1 & "o wond]s h[ s _m      
,*ri/ians c g on1 g5]ation aft]         
g5]ation1 ?9k+ t ?is is _! task & t !y c
 accompli% x4 ,yet x is cle> t ,he      
expects u to be memb]s ( ,8 body & to d 
,8 "w 9 our "t4 ,is x possible t ,he    
ask$ u to d some?+ t is beyond our p[]s 
( accompli%m5t8 ,if ?is is s1 !n f> f   
be+ ,savior1 ,he is "o ( ! mo/ cruel (  
m54 ,!re mu/ be "s o!r answ]4  ,! answ]1
 ( c\rse1 is t ,*ri/ did n leave u alone
 to c>ry out ,8 comm&m5ts1 summ$ up 9 ! 
great comm&m5t3 ,y %all love ! ,"l y\r  
,god ) all y\r he>t1 & ) all y\r s\l1 & 

) all y\r /r5g?1 & ) all y\r m9d2 & y\r 
neighbor z y\rself4#h ,he und]/ood only 
too well ! ambiguity ( our lives4 ,h[   
und]/&+ ,he 0 ( vacillat+ ,pet]1 & yet  
,he call$ him ! ,rock4 ,_h ,pet]        
possess$ any self-und]/&+1 he mu/ h     
wond]$ :y 8 ,"l gave him t "n4 ,b aft] !
 resurrection & ! com+ ( ! ,holy ,_s1   
,pet] became ! ,rock1 because !n he     
inc>nat$ ! ,_s ( 8 ,"l4 ,z ) ,pet]1 s ) 
u4 ,! pres5ce ( ! ,_s makes possible an 
imitation ( ,*ri/4 ,n[ we c read !      
,gospels )\t dread1 & n z patt]ns = u to
 imitate lit]ally & slavi%ly4 ,! ,new   
,te/am5t provides ! und]/&+s t help u to
 te/ :e!r or n we are respond+ to ,8 ,_s
 & lett+ ,him accompli% ,8 "w 9 & ?r\gh 
u4 ,?us1 l ,pet]1 we may become rocks1  
inc>nat+ ! ,_s ( our ,"l4  ,nor d we ne$
 to be emb>rass$ by our humanity4 ,we   
beg9 to s5se t we _c be ,*ri/ian )\t    
fir/ be+ human1 :i* means t we %all be  
bo? lov+ & ho/ile1 bo? righte\s & s9ful1
 bo? c\rage\s & c[>dly1 bo? dep5dable & 
vacillat+4 ,we are 9 ! _w & ( ! _w z o!r

 m5 are1 & we %>e ! lot ( human exi/5ce4
 ,b 9 addition1 we h be5 giv5 ! _s ( p[]
 & love & self-control1 n t we may be   
condesc5d+ t[>d ! _w1 or try to regulate
 x z if x 7 a recalcitrant *ild1 b t we 
may be embodim5ts ( ! ,_s ( ,god 9 human
 affairs ?r\gh :om ,he may accompli% ,8 
purposes 9 ! _w4 ,9 ! process1 because  
,8 ,_s is 9 u1 m5 w "k t !y h se5       
,jesus4  ,?us we may come to und]/& !   
life ( ! p ( ,god1 & to f9d !re9 a basis
 = a true evangelism2 & ?us we may      
p>ticipate 9 ! life & tea*+ ( ,*ri/1 :i*
 are at once our ideal & patt]n ( liv+1 
& at ! same "t our judgm5t4             
,p>ticipation 9 ! ,crucifixion  ,s9ce ! 
life ( ! ,*ri/ian is p>ticipation 9 8   
own "t 9 ! life ( ,*ri/1 he mu/         
p>ticipate also 9 ! crucifixion & dea? (
 8 ,"l1 :i* 7 a "p ( ,8 life4 ,*ri/'s   
crucifixion & dea? 7 a natural          
consequ5ce ( ,8 tea*+ & ( ! way 9 :i*   
,he liv$4 ,! acceptance ( !             
unacceptable1 ! lov+ ( ! unlovable1     
inevitably produces ! necessity ( !     

,cross1 :i* itself mu/ be *os5 & accept$
 if ! life ( love is to be triumphant4  
,we w\ld l to evade ?is "p ( ,*ri/ian   
liv+1 if t 7 possible4 ,! ,cross & all t
 x repres5ts is ! "p ( ! ,*ri/ian gospel
 t we w\ld pref] to skip4 ,! lives (    
*ur* p reveal only too cle>ly h[ mu* !y 
wi% x 7 possible to move directly f !   
contemplation ( ! ideal to its          
actualization1 & to bypass ! exp]i5ce ( 
crucifixion & its mean+ = u4 ,lov]s1 =  
example1 w\ld l to move f !             
contemplation ( ! romantic ideal ( _!   
love to its realization 9 _! lives4 ,b !
 full mean+ ( _! love _c become         
available to !m except z !y pass ?r\gh !
 *all5ges & crises ( _! relation%ip &   
die to !mselves = ! sake ( ! o!r4 ,nor c
 anyone ma/] a skill or a field ( /udy  
except z he moves f ! vision ( :at he   
might d1 to its realization ?r\gh ! pa? 
( self-discipl9e1 :i* is a k9d ( dy+ to 
himself & to o!r values :i* he might    
*oose & cultivate4  ,jesus ,*ri/ affirm$
 by ,8 tea*+ & life ?is pr9ciple (      

discipl9$ self-giv+4 ,if we w\ld be     
p>tak]s ( ,8 resurrection1 we mu/ be    
will+ to be buri$ ) ,him 9 ,8 dea?4 ,we 
are expect$ to %[ =? ,8 dea? till ,he   
comes1 & we d ?is by dy+ daily4 ,9 "o   
s5se1 ! life ( ! ,*ri/ian is a life (   
dy+4 ,be+ buri$ ) ,*ri/ 9 ,8 dea? is    
symboliz$ 9 ! act ( baptism1 especially 
:5 x is adm9i/]$ by imm]sion &          
accompani$ ) su* a ,scripture v]se z1   
,we 7 buri$ !re=e ) him by baptism into 
dea?1 s t z ,*ri/ 0 rais$ f ! dead by ! 
glory ( ! ,fa!r1 we too might walk 9    
newness ( life4#i ,9 o!r words we h to  
expect ! pa9 ( our relation%ips & accept
 ! responsibility ( !m = ! sake ( !     
glory 9 !m t may be reveal$ lat]4 ,we   
are to accept ! unacceptable 9 ourselves
 & 9 o!rs1 because on ! cross ,*ri/     
accept$ ! unacceptable 9 all m54 ,?is is
 :at produc$ ! ,cross4 ,& s ,he di$1    
be>+ ! s9 ( man :ile ,he p]fectly       
fulfill$ ,8 own tea*+2 t is1 ,he 0      
p]fectly ob$i5t to ! full mean+ ( love4 
,we too h to die daily to our desire =  

peace at any price1 to our desire to "w 
out conv5i5t & com=table compromises1 & 
to our desire to be ,god & to h ?+s run 
our own way4 ,?us1 we come to realize ! 
mean+ ( ,8 words1 ,:oev] loses 8 life = 
my sake & ! gospel's w save x4#aj  ,!   
,*ri/ian fell[%ip1 !re=e1 is ! fell[%ip 
( m5 & wom5 :o accept dy+ z a "p ( liv+1
 & :o are n surpris$ by ! pres5ce 9     
human relations ( selfi%ness1 betrayals1
 misrepres5tations1 ho/ility1 & all o!r 
violations ( ! ideal4 ,:5 we meet ^!    
?+s1 we %\ld n run away1 or pret5d t su*
 conditions d n exi/4 ,in/ead1 we %\ld  
face ^! ho/ile & negative human         
responses ) c\rage4 ,because we are     
p>ticipat+ 9 ! life ( our ,"l1 we may   
move ?r\gh ^! exp]i5ces1 kn[+ t no?+ c  
really sep>ate u f ! love ( ,god :i*    
seeks to make itself kn[n 9 & ?r\gh our 
relations ) "o ano!r4 ,we may tru/ t if 
we accept ! pa9 t we h 9 our relations )
 "o ano!r & are ob$i5t to ! _s ( ! love 
t seeks to reunite man ) man1 we may    
em]ge on ! f>!r side ( ! pa9ful exp]i5ce

 ) relation%ips t are ri*]1 deep]1 &    
/rong] ?an !y 7 be=e4  ,an excell5t     
illu/ration ( ?is pr9ciple is to be f\nd
 9 ,t5nessee ,williams' play1 ,cat on a 
,hot ,t9 ,ro(1 ! po9t ( :i* _m p miss   
because ( :at !y reg>d to be ! vulg>ity1
 pr(anity1 & lic5ti\sness ( its *>act]s4
 ,9 ! play1 ,brock1 ! son1 evad$ 8      
problems ) himself1 8 fa!r1 8 wife1 & 8 
"w ?r\gh an excessive use ( alcohol4 ,8 
fa!r1 ,big ,daddy1 9 8 r\gh1 pr(ane way 
0 greatly conc]n$ ab\t 8 son4 ,f9ally1 9
 a trem5d\s sc5e betwe5 ,big ,daddy &   
,brock1 ! fa!r pursu$ 8 son ?r\gh e k9d 
( evasion & rationalization 9 a det]m9$ 
ef=t to break ?r\gh to 8 he>t4 ,no?+ t  
,brock c\ld say to 8 fa!r 0 suffici5t to
 cause ,big ,daddy to turn away4 ,he    
c\ld easily h ab&on$ 8 sick boy & evad$ 
! pa9 ( :at he 0 try+ to d4 ,in/ead1 he 
hamm]$ at ! door ( ,brock's life ) a    
love t 0 will+ to accept e rejection t 8
 son c\ld (f]4 ,& he did n give up4     
,f9ally1 he broke ?r\gh1 rea*$ 8 boy1 & 
br\ght him back to 8 life ) 8 family & 8

 "w4 ,because he 0 will+ to die to      
himself & e com=table impulse4 ,big     
,daddy 0 fre$ to be ! in/rum5t ( a sav+ 
love4 ,"h 0 a dramatic portrayal ( !    
tru? :i* our ,"l n only taught b        
exemplifi$1 & :i* ,he w\ld l to see     
reproduc$ 9 ! lives ( all ( u4          
,incid5tally1 x is ironical t s _m      
,*ri/ian p miss$ ! real message ( ?is   
play because !y 7 s easily (f5d$ by t   
:i* is n pretty 9 human life4 ,x is a   
%ame t we w\ld r be pretty ?an          
r$emptive4 ,we seem to place            
respectability above salvation4         
,*ri/ians ought to be able to see ?r\gh 
& beh9d ! dirty & s9ful ways 9 :i* p    
live1 & recognize !m z symptoms ( a     
spiritual condition t calls = t :i* ,god
 is try+ to give !m ?r\gh u4 ,x is      
tragic t "s w\ld-be ,*ri/ians1 l ,mrs4  
,/rait1 become s morali/ic t !y condemn 
r ?an help p4 ,*ri/ c\ld see beh9d !    
suff]+ ( m51 beh9d _! s9s1 & ,he 0 n    
di/ract$ by :at !y did4 ,he 0 conc]n$ = 
m5 fir/ & = _! behavior la/4 ,he knew t 

if ,he c\ld rea* ! man1 ! behavior w\ld 
take c>e ( itself4 ,we are suppos$ to be
 l ,him1 m5 & wom5 :o1 because ,8 ,_s   
indwells u & because we p>ticipate 9 ,8 
liv+ & dy+1 are able to see ! he>ts (   
o!r m5 & wom5 & to unite !m ) ! p[] (   
,god's love & =giv5ess4   ,p>ticipation 
9 ! ,resurrection  ,?is k9d ( liv+ w\ld 
br+ u to our ?ird p>ticipation 9 ! life 
( ,*ri/1 namely1 9 ,8 resurrection4     
,because ,he 0 fai?ful to ,8 love &     
will+ to die 9 ob$i5ce to its dem&1 ,he 
0 rais$ up 9 triumph1 & ) ,him all ?+s 7
 made new4 ,^! 7 ! ev5ts ( ,8 life4 ,b  
,8 life affirms ! pr9ciple ( ,god's life
 z x is liv$ 9 human exi/5ce4 ,s9ce ,8  
,_s inc>nates itself 9 u1 !n we may     
expect t our lives w be triumphant also 
& be ! s\rce ( r5ewal = o!rs4 ,ano!r    
criticism t we c make ( ,*ri/ians is t  
!y d n h ?is s5se ( expectancy1 ?is s5se
 ( deliv]ance1 ?is s5se ( triumph1 & ?is
 appe>ance ( hav+ be5 r5ew$4 ,all too   
(t5 we are grim & sad1 disc\rag$ &      
cynical1 & our lives contradict ! fai?  

we pr(ess4  ,h[ev]1 because we          
p>ticipate 9 ,8 resurrection1 we are    
giv5 ! wond]ful p[] ( fac+ any problem )
 c\rage1 ev5 ?\gh x may seem1 f a human 
po9t ( view1 t no solution is possible4 
,we live 9 ! fai? t if we cons5t to be  
buri$ ) ,*ri/ 9 ,8 dea?1 we %all be made
 p>tak]s ( ,8 resurrection4 ,& ?is1 n 9 
! h]eaft]1 b n[1 9 ?is pres5t life4  ,a 
fa!r told me ( an incid5t ) 8 son t     
illu/rates ! pr9ciple we are n[         
consid]+4 ,he & 8 son _h become involv$ 
9 a qu>rel & bo? _h lo/ _! temp]s4 ,!   
fa!r confess$ t he _h said "s h>% &     
cruel ?+s to 8 boy4 ,f9ally1 h[ev]1 he  
came to himself1 realiz$ :at he 0 do+1  
&1 dy+ to 8 pride1 he ackn[l$g$ 8 fault 
& ask$ 8 son's =giv5ess4 ,:5 ! ex*ange 0
 ov]1 ! boy 0 /ill r subdu$1 b lat] :5  
he came ?r\gh ! room :]e 8 fa!r 0 seat$1
 he call$ out *e]ily1 ,hi1 ,pop4 ,!     
*e]ful greet+ ( ! son 0 a sign ( !      
triumphant relation%ip betwe5 fa!r &    
son1 &1 9 ! human relation%ip1 ! fa!r 0 
p>ticipat+ 9 ! resurrection ( ,jesus    

,*ri/4  ,9 o!r words1 our p>ticipation 9
 ! life1 dea?1 & resurrection ( ,*ri/ w 
give u c\rage1 fai?1 & hope4 ,?is way ( 
life w n save u f ! pa9 ( human liv+1   
nor w x save u f go+ ?r\gh d>k times (  
indecision & lack ( fai?4 ,we %all1     
h[ev]1 be able to live our lives out ( !
 p[] ( ! triumphant life t ,god liv$ 9  
human life4  ,our wor%ip is yet ano!r   
way 9 :i* we p>ticipate 9 ! life1 dea?1 
& resurrection ( our ,"l4 ,9 wor%ip we  
br+ our lives to ! judgm5t ( ,*ri/'s    
tea*+ & life1 & ^! reveal h[ unequal we 
are to live ,8 life1 & h[ greatly we ne$
 ,8 ,_s to trans=m our lives4 ,by our   
confession ( our s9s we p>ticipate 9 ,8 
dea? = u & = our s9s1 & ! assurance ( ,8
 =giv5ess enables u to p>ticipate 9 ,8  
resurrection s t we may rise to our     
feet1 make a confid5t (f]+ ( ourselves1 
& s+ our praises ( ?anksgiv+4  ,!       
,*ri/ian1 we conclude1 is "o 9 :om ! ,_s
 ( ,*ri/ is inc>nate4 ,by ! p[] ( ! ,_s 
he p>ticipates 9 ! life ( ,*ri/1 s t !  
pres5ce ( ,*ri/ & ,8 ,_s has contempor>y

 p[] & mean+ 9 ! ar5a ( human relations4
 ,! love ( ,god is = ! _w1 & ?is _w-love
 ( ,god %\ld be reflect$ 9 ! devotion ( 
,8 p to ,8 "w 9 ! _w4     #c #a ,john   
#d3bj4    #d #a ,john #d3af4    #e      
,matt4 #ah3bj4    #f ,luke #ah3aa4    #g
 ,see #b ,cor4 #e3ag4    #h ,luke       
#aj3bg4    #i ,rom4 #f3d2 ,see also     
,col4 #b3ab4   #aj ,m>k #h3ce4     ,,iii
  ,,h]e9 ,,is ,,love      ,belov$1 let u
 love "o ano!r2 = love is ( ,god1 &     
he :o loves is born ( ,god & kn[s       
,god4--#a ,john #d3g   ,?us f>1 we h    
id5tifi$ ! ,*ri/ian life z p>ticipation 
9 ! life ( ,*ri/1 & ! ,*ri/ian fell[%ip 
z ! relation%ip ( m5 :o h be5 reunit$ to
 "o ano!r by ! pres5ce 9 !m ( ! ,_s (   
,*ri/4 ,we ne$ to make ?is concept ev5 m
 specific &1 !re=e1 n[ ask ! "q3 ,h[    
does "o p>ticipate 9 ! life ( ,*ri/2 h[ 
does "o f9d ! ,_s2 :at mu/ "o d8 ,!     
gospel's answ] is3 ,y %all love4#aa ,x  
has surpass+ attraction1 b is also      
consid]ably disappo9t+4 ,love is        
appeal+1 b its practice is appall+ly    

difficult4 ,:ile ! ,*ri/ian relation%ip 
seems to promise a diff]5ce1 x is h>d to
 id5tify4 ,:at makes ! diff]5ce8 or1    
,:at is ! ,good ,news8   ,! ,gift ( ,god
 9 ,*ri/  ,*ri/ians believe t ! gift (  
,god 9 ,*ri/ conf]s some?+ t man ne$s b 
has lo/4 ,:at is x t we d n h t we are  
suppos$ to receive z a result ( our new 
relation%ip ) ,*ri/8 ,let u recall t 9  
our e>li] discussion we took note ( !   
ambival5t "* ( love4 ,we want to be lov$
 & we are afraid to accept love2 we want
 to love & are afraid to give love = fe>
 x w n be accept$4 ,we are n free to    
love1 !re=e2 t :i* by nature we _c h is 
! fre$om to love4 ,we believe t ,god is 
love4 ,creation is ! "w ( ,8 love1 &    
love is ! "w ( ,8 creation4 ,b !        
ambival5ces ( human nature keep u f be+ 
free 9 ! "w ( love4 ,! com+ ( ,*ri/1 9 !
 mid/ ( hi/ory1 *ang$ ! balance ( p[]   
betwe5 love & hate1 life & dea?1 & set u
 free to love4 ,love became ! en]giz+1  
reconcil+ =ce 9 human exi/5ce4 ,b4,c4 & 
,a4,d4 m>k$ ! transition1 n only ( "t1 b

 also ( ! old creation 9 :i* our p[] (  
love 0 imprison$ 9 our fe> to love1 & ( 
! new creation 9 :i* our p[] ( love 0   
set free by ! love ( ,god 9 ,*ri/4 ,n[ !
 triumphant p[] ( ,god's love is at "w 9
 ! _w & is available to all :o seek to d
 ! "w ( love any:]e & = anyone4         
,accord+ly1 ! "w ( love 0 & is ! break+ 
d[n ( walls ( sep>ation1 & ! reunit+ (  
man & ,god1 man & man1 & man ) himself1 
9 all :i* "w we p>ticipate4   ,:at ,is  
,love8  ,d we "k :at we mean :5 we ?9k (
 love 9 ?is way8 ,a cle> und]/&+ ( love 
is ne$$1 because x is s gravely         
misund]/ood 9 our "t4 ,all too commonly1
 love is reg>d$ z a s5tim5t1 a feel+1 a 
lik+ = someone4 ,:ile s5tim5t & emotion 
are c]ta9ly a "p ( love1 x is tragic to 
make !m synonym\s ) love4 ,c]ta9ly we   
mean m ?an t :5 we say1 ,god is love1 or
 :5 we wre/le ) ! concept ( man %[+ 8   
love ( ,god ?r\gh 8 love = 8 neighbor4  
,9 ^! concepts we are ?9k+ ( love z !   
mov+1 creat+1 heal+ p[] ( life2 ( love t
 is ! mov+ p[] ( ev]y?+ t[>d ev]y?+ else

 t is4#ab ,love reunites life ) life1   
p]son ) p]son1 & z su* is n easily      
disc\rag$4 ,! mo/ dramatic symbol (     
love's c\rage & triumph is1 z we h se51 
! cross & ! resurrection2 x /&s = ! love
 :]e) ,god has lov$ u4 ,9 ?is is love1 n
 t we lov$ ,god b t he lov$ u4444#ac    
,hav+ giv5 u ,8 love1 we h x = our      
response to ,him1 s t we love ,him by   
lov+ "o ano!r ) ,8 love :i* we receiv$  
?r\gh ,8 p4 ,?us1 ! nurtur+ ( our       
response to ,god's love is ! "w ( !     
*ur*4 ,our responsibility is to love    
,him4 ,we are to love ,god by lov+ "o   
ano!r1 & 9 lov+ "o ano!r we introduce "o
 ano!r to ,god4 ,?is is ! "w ( ! *ur* & 
! vocation ( ! p ( ,god4 ,we are call$  
to love "o ano!r reunit+ly ) ! love :]e)
 ,god lov$ u4  ,9 ord] = u to p>ticipate
 9 ! love ( ,god :i* is at "w 9 ! _w1 we
 ne$ to und]/& ourselves & our own      
creaturely problems 9 relation to love4 
,too mu* ,*ri/ian ?\ght ab\t love & its 
"w is ab/ract r ?an a reckon+ ) !       
complications ( human exi/5ce4 ,9 ord]  

to avoid ?is dang]1 let u turn to a     
consid]ation ( :at is involv$ 9 recov]+ 
our fre$om to love4   ,recov]+ ,our     
,fre$om to ,love  ,because we are creat$
 9 ! image ( ,god1 our deepe/ ne$ is to 
be lov$4 ,?is ne$ is fundam5tal & has   
bo? human & div9e roots4 ,! baby comes  
into be+ z a result ( be+ lov$4 ,we take
 him 9 our arms1 c>e = him1 call him by 
"n1 & reveal to him ! love t we h = him4
 ,?us he exp]i5ces love4 ,^! exp]i5ces (
 love /imulate1 9 turn1 8 love1 :i* is !
 completion ( 8 ne$ ( love4 ,8 response 
to be+ lov$ is to love1 & ?is response  
is n long 9 com+4 ,we see x 9 8 smiles1 
9 8 coo+1 :5 he pats 8 "m's *eek1 :5 he 
puts 8 little arms ar\nd h] neck1 & lat]
 :5 he beg9s to toddle & br+ 8 gifts to 
h]4 ,9 _m ways ! individual beg9s to %[ 
t he has be5 lov$ by reveal+ 8 gr[+ p[] 
to love4  ,our day1 h[ev]1 seems to be  
"o 9 :i* p are m consci\s ( _! ne$ to be
 lov$ ?an ( _! ne$ to love1 ) ! result t
 ev]yone is runn+ ar\nd look+ = love4 ,b
 we d n f9d love by look+ = x2 we f9d x 

by giv+ x4 ,& :5 we f9d love by lov+1 we
 f9d ,god4 ,our ,"l gave u ,8 love      
g5]\sly1 n 9 ord] t we might be lov$1 b 
t we might be fre$ to love "o ano!r4 ,y 
receiv$ )\t pay1 give )\t pay4#ad ,he   
calls u f our *ildi% preoccupations )   
security to ! appropriate adult         
occupations ( ! mature ,*ri/ian4 ,he    
calls u away f our suckl+ t5d5cies to   
our responsibility to fe$ o!rs1 f       
receiv+ to giv+4 ,if someone came to me 
& ask$1 ,h[ c ,i f9d ,god8 ,i w\ld      
answ]1 ,g f9d someone to love & y'll f9d
 ,him4  ,unless ! se>*] 0 love-depriv$ &
 9 ne$ ( reassurance1 ,i w\ld n beg9 by 
figuratively putt+ my arm ar\nd him &   
*]i%+ him4 ,!re are situations :]e ?is  
is necess>y4 ,p c be s brok5 & s hurt t 
!y _c love1 & !y ne$ to be *]i%$ &      
reassur$ until !y c4 ,"o ( !            
responsibilities ( ! *ur* is to be on ! 
al]t = ^? p :o 9 lat] life ne$ ! love & 
reassurance !y %\ld h _h :5 !y 7 y\ng]4 
,un=tunately1 h[ev]1 _m ( u are         
emb>rass$ :5 we are confront$ by        

emotionally ne$y p]sons4 ,we may res5t  
_! ne$ & ! dem& :i* x makes on u1 ) !   
result t !y may nev] "k ! love ( man &  
,god1 & may nev] be br\ght to ! po9t :]e
 !y may p>ticipate 9 ! life & "w ( ,*ri/
 :i* is1 z we h se51 to love4  ,( c\rse1
 x is n easy to love1 especially :5 we  
feel unequal to x1 are tempt$ to        
regress1 & want to be lov$ & cuddl$     
ourselves4 ,yet ev5 !n ! answ] to our   
ne$ is to love4 ,_m ( u h _h exp]i5ces t
 h borne out ?is tru?4 ,once :5 my son &
 ,i _h _h a qu>rel 9 :i* ,i _h lo/ my   
temp]1 & 0 feel+ disc\rag$ z a fa!r & n 
at all compet5t :]e human relations 7   
conc]n$1 ! phone rang & a "y c\ple ask$ 
if !y might come & talk ) me ab\t !     
difficulty !y 7 hav+ ) _! "y son4       
,because ( my feel+s ( wret*$           
inadequacy1 my incl9ation 0 to say ,no1 
b !y 7 s obvi\sly 9 ne$ ( help & s      
importunate t ,i arrang$ = !m to come to
 see me imm$iately4 ,i _h no confid5ce 9
 be+ able to help !m1 b ,i did try to   
li/5 to !m4 ,z ,i li/5$1 ,i p>ticipat$ 9

 _! ?9k+ ab\t _! own situation4 ,:5 !   
session 0 ov]1 !y ?ank$ me              
en?usia/ically = my help4 ,aft] !y 7    
gone1 ,i realis$ t h[ev] mu* ,i _h help$
 !m1 ,i myself _h be5 help$4 ,by accept+
 my responsibilities z a c\nselor & by  
li/5+ to !m1 ,i 0 lov+ !m2 & because ,i 
lov$ !m1 ,i _h ! exp]i5ce ( be+ lov$4 ,!
 relation%ip 9 :i* our love is ne$$ may 
(f] little app>5t enc\ragem5t1 b once we
 give ourselves1 ! res\rces = ! "w (    
love become available4  ,x is1 !re=e1 z 
important = u to love z x is = u to be  
lov$1 & our ne$ to love is z great z !  
ne$ to be lov$4 ,if we are n able to    
love1 life is z defici5t z x w\ld h be5 
if we _h n be5 lov$4 ,we mu/ n assume t 
because we h be5 lov$ we %all           
automatically become a p]son :o loves4  
,human be+s d n develop t automatically4
 ,c]ta9ly ! exp]i5ce ( be+ lov$ prep>es 
u to love1 b we c misuse ! gifts ( love4
 ,we may decide to appropriate !m =     
ourselves4 ,we may n want to assume     
responsibility = o!rs4 ,b hav+ receiv$  

love & *oos+ n to love1 we may lose su* 
love z we h4 ,we !n become self-c5t]$ & 
selfi% mis]s ( love1 & !re=e loveless4  
,h[ c we love our *ildr5 s t !y w become
 giv]s ( love r ?an ho>d]s ( x8 ,h[ c ! 
fre$om & p[] to love be releas$ 9 !m8 ,!
 answ] is1 by enc\rag+ _! love          
responses4 ,we h already recogniz$ !    
importance1 fir/1 ( ! ne$ to be lov$1 & 
second1 ( ! ne$ to love4 ,we n[ face !  
importance ( our be+ able to accept love
 & ( enc\rag+ ! attempts ( p1 &         
especially ( our *ildr51 to express _!  
love4 ,we might assume t x is easy to   
welcome _! responses4 ,un=tunately1 our 
expressions ( love d n always please ^? 
to :om we make !m4 ,because our love    
(f]+s are n appreciat$ & accept$1 we may
 feel unlov$ & reject$4 ,aft] repeat$   
attempts to express our love            
successfully1 & hav+ be5 repeat$ly      
reject$ & disc\rag$1 we may give up &   
turn our love 9 on ourselves4  ,a rose  
g>d5] told me ( an in/ance t illu/rates 
h[ difficult x is to accept "s love     

(f]+s4 ,he n only grew roses1 b exhibit$
 !m z well4 ,on "o occasion1 he _h      
sev]al blooms t he 0 nurtur+ = a com+   
%[1 "o ( :i* 0 be+ produc$ on a bu% ( 8 
favorite v>iety4 ,on ! day be=e !       
exhibit 8 f\r-ye>-old son appe>$ be=e   
him ) ec/atic face & ) 8 prize rose     
clut*$ /emless 9 8 h&1 say+1 ,look      
,daddy1 :at ,i br\ght y4 ,x 0 obvi\s t !
 y\ng/]1 :o ador$ 8 fa!r1 ?\ght t he 0  
pres5t+ ! p]fect gift ( 8 love1 because 
he knew h[ mu* 8 fa!r lik$ t p>ticul>   
rose4 ,! fa!r1 on ! o!r h&1 confess$ t  
he respond$ z ! rose gr[] & exhibitor1 r
 ?an z "o :o _h an opportunity to       
enc\rage 8 son's love responses by      
recogniz+1 f 8 son's po9t ( view1 !     
appropriat5ess ( ! gift4 ,:51 !re=e1 he 
v und]/&ably scold$ & spank$ 8 *ild =   
pick+ ! rose1 ! little boy 0 dreadfully 
upset4 ,episodes ( ?is k9d1 if only     
occasional1 are n s]i\s1 because !y are 
exp]i5c$ 9 ! context ( a relation%ip t  
is pr$om9antly lov+1 supportive1 &      
enc\rag+4  ,:5 ! expressions ( love &   

affection ( *ildr5 are n receiv$ )      
und]/&+ & acceptance1 _! attempts to    
le>n to love f9d no enc\ragem5t4        
,because !y are be+ prev5t$ f le>n+ to  
love _! p>5ts & o!rs1 !y are be+ prev5t$
 also f le>n+ to love ,god 9 & ?r\gh !m4
 ,our ,"l's response to ! gifts br\ght  
to ,him demon/rates ! k9d ( responses we
 %\ld make to "o ano!r4 ,ev5 :5 p's     
gifts 7 poorly motivat$ & ill-*os51 ,he 
0 able to look beh9d !m & see & und]/& !
 p]son :o gave4 ,al?\gh ,zac*aeus seem$ 
to be motivat$ only by curiosity1 our   
,"l invit$ him to come d[n out ( ! tree 
& ask$ t ,he might h d9n] ) him1 ?us    
mov+ beh9d ! gre$ t _h made ,zac*aeus a 
publican4#ae ,& because our ,"l 0 able  
to accept ! gift ( ,m>y ,magdal5e1 h]   
true love 0 call$ =?4#af ,s x is ) u4   
,our (f]+s (t5 are pitiful & ill-*os51 b
 ,he looks ^u ! he>t & sees !re t really
 we are try+ to express our love despite
 our ill-*os5 means ( do+ s4  ,if we are
 to p>ticipate 9 ! life ( ,*ri/ & be !  
in/rum5ts ( ,8 love1 we mu/ le>n to be  

hospitable to "o ano!r's ef=ts to       
express love4 ,p>5ts ne$ to look ^u !   
he>ts ( _! *ildr5 & see deeply :at !y   
are try+ to express4 ,husb&s & wives    
likewise ne$ to look beh9d ! ext]nals ( 
behavior4 ,:at we d on ! outside (t5    
fails to repres5t truly & adequately :at
 is on ! inside4 ,we all ne$ enc\ragem5t
 to love1 & hospitality t[>d human      
attempts to express love is "o ( ! sure/
 ways 9 :i* we c p>ticipate 9 !         
contempor>y liv+ ( ,*ri/ 9 ! _w4   ,"s  
,discipl9es ( ,love  ,n[ !re are "s     
discipl9es t we ne$ to foll[ z we engage
 9 ! dialogue ( love4 ,fir/1 !re is !   
discipl9e ( giv+ oneself4 ,x is !       
discipl9e ( keep+ oneself responsible = 
& to "o ano!r1 responsible 9 fac+ issues
 & 9 mak+ decisions4 ,! only way to love
 is to communicate love by ^w & action4 
,we may le>n to use our p[] ( be+ to    
speak & act ! ^w ( love4 ,we %\ld refuse
 to )hold x = any reason1 includ+ our   
fe> ( speak+ x4 ,( c\rse1 !re is risk 9 
giv+ ourselves4 ,our gift ( love may n  

be accept$1 may n be appreciat$1 & may  
ev5 be exploit$4 ,9 giv+ love we may be 
hurt because ( ! nature ( o!rs'         
responses4 ,b we w be /rong] = hav+ giv5
 x1 & o!rs may be call$ =? by x4 ,life  
_c rema9 ! same :5 love has be5         
express$4  ,second1 !re is ! discipl9e (
 hold+ ourselves to our own "p4 ,?is is 
! discipl9e ( all[+ o!rs to speak =     
!mselves2 or aga91 ! discipl9e ( refra9+
 f try+ to c>ry on bo? sides ( a        
dialogue4 ,we are always do+ ?is2 t is1 
we speak to ! image we h ( ! o!r p]son4 
,we try to anticipate 8 response & take 
away 8 fre$om to respond & speak =      
himself4 ,we *oose our "p ( ! dialogue 9
 response to :at we ?9k 8 reaction w be 
& !reby rob ourselves ( our fre$om to   
be4 ,!re c be no communication betwe5 ! 
images :i* two p hold ( ea* o!r4        
,communication is possible only betwe5  
two p]sons :o1 out ( mutual respect1    
really address "o ano!r4  ,a ?ird       
discipl9e is to accept ! dem& 9 love &  
our obligation to meet t dem&4 ,!       

compulsive elem5t 9 love is h>d = u to  
accept4 ,b we _c sep>ate law f love4    
,law is implicit 9 love4 ,our ,"l1 ,:o  
is ! inc>nation ( div9e love1 w>n$ t ,he
 w\ld n remove "o bit ( ! law4 ,he did n
 de/roy ! law1 b by ,8 love fulfill$ x4 
,x is really good t law is a "p ( love4 
,our own love relation%ips b5efit f !   
pres5ce ( law 9 love1 because law guides
 & protects our relation%ip4 ,:5 we are 
9 love1 or 9 union ) "o ano!r1 we are n 
consci\s ( ! law1 b x is implicitly     
pres5t4 ,we c be said to be liv+ above !
 law4  ,! law t is implicit 9 !         
relation%ip betwe5 a man & a woman :o   
love ea* o!r is t !y %all respect & act 
tru/wor?ily 9 relation to "o ano!r2 t !y
 %all c>e = "o ano!r 9 all ! ways t are 
necess>y to _! relation%ip4 ,z long z   
love prevails1 !y are n consci\s ( ?is  
law4 ,!y d n ne$ x4 ,b if = any reason  
!y %\ld fall out ( love1 !n !y become   
consci\s ( _! obligations to ea* o!r4   
,_! relation%ip is n[ liv$ "u ! burd5 ( 
law1 & !y w f9d x h>d] to obs]ve ?an !y 

did be=e4 ,!y n[ are be+ held toge!r by 
_! obligations1 & x may be t :ile be+   
?us held toge!r !y w aga9 f9d ea* o!r 9 
love4 ,:5 !y look back on ?is p]iod "s  
ye>s lat]1 !y may call ! :ole exp]i5ce  
love1 because !n !y w see t !           
obligations ( _! relation%ip are a "p ( 
_! love4 ,obvi\sly1 ?is is mature & n   
infantile love4 ,love t accepts         
responsibility & its obligations is love
 t is n prim>ily conc]n$ ab\t its       
privileges1 al?\gh x gives ?anks =      
:atev] privileges x has4 ,x recognizes  
itself n prim>ily z an emotion1 b z a   
way ( life2 & x is m conc]n$ ab\t       
commitm5t ?an s5sation4  ,by ! employm5t
 ( ^! pr9ciples t we h j rehe>s$1 we c  
help our *ildr5 gr[ 9 _! capacity to    
love & !reby become m capable ( a h]oic 
commitm5t to "o ano!r4 ,?is k9d (       
commitm5t %\ld *>act]ize ! memb]s ( !   
,*ri/ian fell[%ip1 ! m5 & wom5 9 ^:     
lives ! ,_s ( ! ,*ri/ is inc>nate4  ,we 
h se5 t we ne$ to be lov$ 9 ord] t we   
may love o!rs & t we %\ld enc\rage "o   

ano!r's love responses4 ,does ?is mean t
 our attempts to express love %\ld be   
accept$ )\t correction8 ,:at %\ld !     
rose-gr[+ fa!r ( ! little boy h done8   
,"o view is t ! fa!r %\ld h accept$ !   
gift ) ?anks1 recogniz+ only ! *ild's   
int5tion4 ,c]ta9ly1 8 int5tions %\ld be 
honor$ & 8 gift accept$4 ,b ! boy also  
ne$$ help 9 le>n+ h[ to express 8 love  
to o!rs4 ,"h is some?+ we are always    
hav+ to le>n4 ,all ( u h _h ! exp]i5ce (
 do+ or giv+ some?+ t 0 int5d$ to be an 
expression ( our love1 only to discov] t
 ! gift 0 n appreciat$ by ! "o to :om x 
0 giv51 & we f9d ourselves say+1 ,oh1 ,i
 didn't mean x to be t way4 ,) *ildr5 & 
) "o ano!r we ne$ to /rike a balance    
betwe5 acceptance ( ! int5tion &        
guidance 9 *oos+ ! means = ! expression 
( love4 ,lov+ is an art1 & we all ne$ to
 le>n ! art & to ref9e its practice4 ,"o
 w\ld expect ,*ri/ians & *ur* p1 :o are 
suppos$ to be inc>nations ( ! _s ( love1
 to be ma/]s ( ! art4 ,yet1 to ! _w1 we 
(t5 appe> to be ungraci\s p4 ,s let u   

le>n to love "o ano!r1 & let u tra9 our 
*ildr5 9 ! practice ( ! art ( love1 by  
enc\rag+ & discipl9+ !m 9 x4  ,if a text
 = ?is responsibility 7 ne$$1 we might  
take x f ! anci5t liturgical language ( 
! *ur* 9 :i* we say1 ,we receive ?is    
p]son into ! congregation ( ,*ri/'s     
flock1 :i* %\ld mean t we receive !     
p]son into ! congregation ( p]sons 9 :om
 ! love ( ,*ri/ is inc>nate4   ,!       
,language ( ,words & ,life              
,un=tunately1 h[ev]1 we (t5 use ! words 
t sugge/ ! "r mean+ b fail to c>ry out t
 mean+ 9 our lives4 ,all too easily our 
religi\s /atem5ts become empty =ms1     
sep>at$ f ! vitality & mean+ :i* !y are 
suppos$ to express4 ,rememb]1 = in/ance1
 h[ va9ly we sometimes say ! ,"l's      
,pray]1 :i* is a =m t our ,"l gave u1 by
 means ( :i* we c\ld express ! vitality 
( our relation%ip ) ,god & "o ano!r4    
,likewise1 we c honor & use ! correct   
v]bal & o!r symbols ab\t ! *ur* &       
,*ri/ian fell[%ip1 its rites &          
c]emonies1 & yet fail to translate !m   

into action1 ) ! result t our rites &   
c]emonies & doctr9al /atem5ts become    
dry1 empty =ms4 ,in/ead ( be+ ! means ( 
new life1 !y may only disappo9t p1      
because !y d n really communicate !     
mean+ t !y seem to promise4 ,e *ur* %\ld
 always te/ :e!r its =ms are really     
expressive ( ! tru? :i* x pr(esses4 ,x  
is n en\gh t we speak ! tru?2 we mu/    
live x4  ,x has be5 giv5 to m5 to       
communicate bo? by ^w & by ! life t is  
liv$4 ,!re mu/ always be a vital        
relation betwe5 ! mean+ t is be+        
communicat$ 9 ! ^w & ! =m or means ( its
 communication4 ,! breakd[n ( education 
& ( religion occurs :5 !re is a breakd[n
 betwe5 ! human exp]i5ce ) its mean+ & !
 ^w :i* repres5ts x4 ,?is breakd[n is   
complete :5 speak+ ! ^w becomes a       
sub/itute = liv+ its mean+4 ,?is        
breakd[n also occurs :5 a culture       
und]takes to educate by means ( words & 
concepts only1 & neglects to employ :at 
happ5s betwe5 man & man z an integral & 
indisp5sable "p ( ! curriculum4  ,! ^w &

 ! mean+ ( ! exp]i5ce belong to ea* o!r 
& ne$ ea* o!r1 & ! relation betwe5 !m is
 a necess>y "p ( education4 ,let u use !
 ^w fight z an illu/ration4 ,we h ?is ^w
 because ( man's exp]i5ce 9 fight+4 ,out
 ( ! relation%ips ( conflict & combat   
comes ! exp]i5ce we ?9k ( z fight+1 & ! 
^w fight /&s = x4 ,! v "y *ild le>ns to 
fight be=e he le>ns ! ^w fight4 ,s f> z 
he kn[s1 ! exp]i5ce ( fight+ exi/s only 
betwe5 himself & 8 "m1 & x is necess>y =
 him to discov] t fight+ is a univ]sal  
human activity4 ,he le>ns ! mean+ ( ! ^w
 fight by ! mean+s t he br+s out ( 8 own
 combat1 & on ! basis ( ^! he beg9s to  
und]/& ! univ]sal mean+ ( fight4 ,! ^w  
?us unites 8 little1 individual exp]i5ce
 ) ! exp]i5ce ( ! human race ( :i* he is
 a "p4 ,!re=e ! ^w becomes an effective 
in/rum5t 9 tea*+ him ! mean+ ( 8        
exp]i5ce 9 ! context ( ! exp]i5ce ( 8   
own k9d4  ,simil>ly1 because ( 8        
relation%ip to 8 "m1 ! *ild may exp]i5ce
 h] tru/wor?9ess long be=e he kn[s ! ^w 
tru/1 b he ne$s a ^w = ?is exp]i5ce4    

,!n1 z he beg9s to acquire ! ability to 
convey ^! mean+s ) words1 he le>ns ! ^w 
tru/ & imm$iately ! door op5s s t 8     
exp]i5ce becomes relat$ to ! mu* l>g]   
exp]i5ce ( ! p t h liv$ be=e him4 ,if a 
*ild is be+ br\ght up 9 ! ,*ri/ian      
fell[%ip1 ! m9ute he beg9s to h a ^w to 
describe ! tru/wor?9ess ( 8 relation%ip 
) 8 "m1 he also beg9s to und]/& ! mean+ 
( tru/ z ,*ri/ians h exp]i5c$ x 9       
relation to ,god4  ,on ! o!r h&1 x is   
difficult to convey ! mean+ ( ,*ri/'s   
dea? to a *ild4 ,"h ! words are crucial 
to ! und]/&+ ( ! mean+1 b he _c br+ out 
( 8 own life suffici5t exp]i5ces to make
 ! mean+ ( ! concept available to him4  
,b x is important to introduce him to ^!
 concepts by means ( words aga9/ ! "t :5
 ! words w c>ry mean+4 ,z we live ) our 
*ildr5 we help !m int]pret ! mean+ ( _! 
exp]i5ces4 ,"s day !y w be able to move 
f ! little mean+s t !y h accumulat$ ab\t
 life & dea? to ! great mean+s ( ! life 
& dea? & resurrection ( ,*ri/ by means (
 ! little ^w cross & o!r associat$      

words4 ,education requires ! use ( bo? !
 language ( words & ! language (        
relation%ips4 ,we tea* *ildr5 ! words ( 
our fai?1 b at ! same "t we try to live 
) !m 9 ways t w provide ! mean+s t w    
prep>e !m = und]/&+ ! mean+s ( ! fai?4  
,& ?is is :at ,i mean :5 ,i sugge/ t :at
 happ5s betwe5 u is an indisp5sable "p (
 ! curriculum4   ,! ,curriculum (       
,relation%ip  ,?is emphasis ^u !        
relation%ip betwe5 p>5t & *ild1 betwe5  
tea*] & pupil1 betwe5 p]son & p]son1 z a
 "p ( ! le>n+ situation1 seems to put a 
heavy burd5 ^u ! tea*]4 ,aft] all1 x 0  
difficult en\gh :5 ! tea*] _h to be     
responsible = ! correct words = !       
transmission ( ! tru?1 & = ! und]/&+s t 
mu/ g ) !m4 ,n[1 9 addition1 we h to pay
 att5tion to :at is go+ on betwe5 tea*] 
& pupil4 ,! "w ( tea*+ is mu* bigg] ?an 
m]e v]bal transmission1 & no?+ less is  
wor?y ( be+ call$ ,*ri/ian tea*+4  ,?is 
k9d ( tea*+ requires t ! tru? be+ taught
 be inc>nate 9 ! relation%ip betwe5 m51 
:i* 0 :at ,god did 9 ,*ri/4 ,! tea*+ (  

,*ri/ is conta9$ n only 9 ,8 words1 b   
also 9 ,8 life4 ,8 life gave mean+ to ,8
 words & made !m uniquely diff]5t f any 
o!r words t _h ev] be5 spok54 ,actually1
 _m ( ! ?+s t our ,"l taught 7 n new1 b 
,8 life 01 & ?is made ,8 tea*+ unique4  
,! same pr9ciple mu/ apply to u4 ,"s    
in/ruction giv5 9 ! "n ( ,*ri/ian       
education is dull1 monoton\s1 &         
irrelevant4 ,!re is no?+ untrue ab\t x1 
b x is taught )\t ! conviction born (   
exp]i5ce1 & x is n express$ 9 :at goes  
on betwe5 man & man4 ,on ! o!r h&1 a    
recognition ( ! responsibilities ( ?is  
k9d ( tea*+ %\ld be c\pl$ ) ! joys &    
satisfactions ( x4 ,x is ! k9d ( tea*+ t
 c relieve u ( "s ( ! anxieties (       
accompli%m5t4   ,a ,^w ( ,enc\ragem5t   
,_m p>5ts & tea*]s are conc]n$ ab\t !   
quality ( ! c>e & tea*+ :i* !y give     
*ildr51 & !y are p>ticul>ly worri$ ab\t 
_! failures & s9s 9 relation to !m4     
,pres5t 9 _m ( u is ! fe> t we may h    
p]man5tly impair$ ! future welf>e ( ^? =
 :om we are responsible4 ,?is leads u to

 try to be p]fect 9 ! dis*>ge ( our     
duties & ?us prev5t s]i\s injury to our 
*ildr54 ,9 o!r words1 we w\ld l to love 
!m p]fectly1 :i*1 if we 7 able to d1    
w\ld ill prep>e !m = _! life 9 ?is _w4  
,fur!rmore1 & m importantly1 implicit 9 
?is anxiety is a grave misconception (  
:at x means to be a ,*ri/ian4 ,! te/ (  
our love & fai? is n ! abs5ce ( failure 
& s9 & problems1 b lies 9 :at we are    
able to d ab\t !m4 ,( c\rse1 ,*ri/ian   
p>5ts get angry ) _! *ildr5 & say & d   
?+s t hurt !m4 ,we are haunt$ by ! signs
 9 our *ildr5 t we h fail$ !m1 by !     
evid5ces ( _! anxiety1 by ! problems !y 
sometimes h 9 relation to o!r p1 by _!  
ly+ & /eal+1 by _! ho/ility &           
qu>relsom5ess1 & by _! excessive        
competitiv5ess & jeal\sy4 ,sometimes !  
sc5es ar\nd ! family table are f>       
diff]5t f our image ( :at ,*ri/ian      
family life & fell[%ip %\ld be4 ,we     
wond] :]e we h fail$1 gr[ disc\rag$1 &  
fail aga94 ,we are emb>rass$ by !       
contradiction t our *ildr5 see betwe5 ! 

?+s t we say & ! ?+s t we d4  ,p>5ts &  
tea*]s :o1 l ,mrs4 ,/rait1 live by !    
law1 ei!r h to bl9d !mselves to :at's   
go+ on 9 _! relation%ips or else become 
pr(\ndly disc\rag$4 ,& if we are l ,mr4 
,*ur*ill1 our decision w be to ignore   
human problems & to turn ourselves to a 
devotion ( ,god1 z if t 7 possible6 ,dr4
 ,manby w\ld wait = "t to take c>e ( !  
matt]1 & ,mr4 ,kn[les w\ld frantically  
cram m k ab\t ! ,bible into ! m9ds (    
p>5ts & *ildr5 9 ! hope t1 someh[ or    
o!r1 kn[+ ab\t ,god & ,*ri/ian tea*+    
w\ld produce ! necess>y *anges4 ,mr4    
,cl>ke1 ( c\rse1 w\ld turn ! :ole mess  
ov] to ! cl]gy4  ,implicit 9 !          
situations we h be5 discuss+ is a       
concept ( success1 ! assumption be+ t if
 we love ,god & our neighbor ev]y?+ we d
 w turn out all "r4 ,my gr&fa!r always  
ma9ta9$ t 8 bus9ess prosp]$ because he  
kept ! laws ( ,god4 ,:5 we /op to ?9k   
ab\t x1 we realize :at a faulty concept 
?is is4 ,aft] all1 x 0 n easy = ,*ri/ to
 accompli% ! purposes ( love 9 ?is _w1 &

 !re is no reason :y x %\ld be any easi]
 = u4 ,x is n easy to ma9ta9 ! dialogue 
( life2 x is n easy to call =? ! be+ (  
o!rs2 x is n easy to rega9 ! fre$om to  
love ev5 :5 we respond to ! _s ( love4  
,we recognize ! cr$ibility & promise (  
all ^! pr9ciples1 b wond] at !          
difficulty ( _! application4   ,! ,"w ( 
,love  ,we ne$ to rememb] t ev5 ,god1 ) 
all ( ,8 p[] & wisdom1 does n give ,8   
love to u 9 ways t take away our fre$om 
( response4 ,he leaves u free to say    
,yes or ,no to ,him1 to love1 to our    
families1 & to all ! responsibilities ( 
life4 ,?is means1 z we saw e>li]1 t we  
are to speak ! ^w ( love & leave ! o!r  
p]son free to make 8 response4 ,we _c   
expect a gu>ante$ response f him4 ,we _c
 prev5t him f mak+ a wrong response any 
m ?an we c make him give ! "r response4 
,our *ildr5 are free1 & we mu/ respect t
 fre$om4 ,?is is :y ! a*ievem5t ( a love
 relation%ip is s exce$+ly difficult4 ,9
 ! a*ievem5t ( any relation%ip we are   
involv$ 9 a life-&-dea? /ruggle4 ,our   

*ildr51 = in/ance1 want our love1 c>e1 &
 protection4 ,at ! same "t1 !y want to  
be _! own selves & to assume            
responsibility = _! own lives4 ,!y c & d
 res5t1 ) deva/at+ ho/ility1 action on  
our "p t looks to !m l int]f]5ce ) _!   
lives4 ,on ! o!r h&1 we love !m & feel t
 we _c d en\gh = !m4 ,! effect ( our    
zeal (t5 is to ov]:elm !m ) our c>e &   
deprive !m ( ! fre$om 9 :i* to a*ieve _!
 p[] ( be+4  ,inevitably1 !n1 ! liv+    
dialogue betwe5 ! p>5t & ! *ild is bo? a
 happy & a tr\bl$ "o 9 :i* ! p[]s ( love
 & res5tm5t are ex]t$ on bo? sides4 ,!  
/ruggle betwe5 fre$om & tyranny 9 human 
relations is und]/ood 9 ! /ruggle ( !   
cross1 :i* takes place 9 e individual & 
9 e relation%ip4 ,! actualization (     
ourselves 9 relation to "o ano!r is bo? 
difficult & pa9ful4 ,x is h>d to und]/& 
h[ anybody c\ld ev] ?9k x 0 easy4 ,!    
/ruggle calls = a love t is prep>$ to   
lay d[n its life = its fri5ds4 ,!       
entrance ( love into life br+s1         
sometimes1 n peace b a sword4 ,t5sion & 

conflict may accompany ! "w ( love4 ,!  
conflict betwe5 ! love ( ,god & !       
self-c5t]$ness ( man produces an ugly1  
rugg$1 & bloody /ruggle1 :i* !          
crucifixion summ>iz$4   ,! ,p[] ( ,love 
,! good news ( ! gospel is n t a way has
 be5 giv5 u by :i* to avoid conflict1 b 
t ! p[] ( love has be5 giv5 u = !       
conflict4 ,) x we c ent] into ! %ambles 
( life ) assurance1 c\rage1 & a belief  
t1 ev5 ?\gh we _c always und]/& :at is  
go+ on1 ! purpose ( love is to reunite  
man & man1 & t 9 ,*ri/ ,god's love won !
 initial victory 9 ?is process4 ,we may1
 !re=e1 p>ticipate 9 ! life ( ! _w ) all
 ( its conflicts1 includ+ our own       
p]sonal conflicts1 ) fai? 9 ! p[] (     
reunit+ love4 ,we %\ld n be surpris$ :5 
we f9d ourselves embroil$ 9 conflict &  
involv$ 9 complex situations4 ,our fai? 
is n 9 our ability to d "r1 b 9 ! p[] ( 
,god to help u re-ent] ! difficult &    
unpleasant situations we h creat$ ) new 
hope & ) heal+ love4 ,we may be ?ankful 
t ,god reveal$ ,himself ?r\gh a cross &1

 !re=e1 made cle> h[ reali/ic ,he is 9  
relation to ! *>act]i/ics & conditions (
 human exi/5ce4  ,! p[] ( love is       
lib]at+4 ,x frees u s t we c use :at    
happ5s betwe5 u z a "p ( ! curriculum ( 
,*ri/ian liv+ & le>n+4 ,in/ead ( wa/+   
our "t worry+ ab\t :y ?+s happ51 we c   
use our en]gies & our und]/&+s to deal )
 !m con/ructively4 ,! purpose (         
,*ri/ianity is n alone ! prev5tion (    
crime1 b ! r$emption ( crim9als2 n alone
 ! prev5tion ( s91 b ! sav+ ( s9n]s4 ,! 
great ,*ri/ian ^w is r$emption1 :i*     
means trans=m+ a de/ructive relation%ip 
into "o 9 :i* ! conditions & purposes ( 
love are realiz$4 ,let u rememb] t f9e  
l95 pap] is made out ( old dirty rags4  
,simil>ly1 a wond]ful ,*ri/ian          
relation%ip c be =m$ out ( "o t seems   
tragic4 ,z we h se51 ! te/ ( a man is n 
9 :at happ5s to him1 b 9 :at he does    
ab\t :at happ5s to him4 ,! trans=mation 
( :at happ5s 9 human relations is ! "w (
 ! ,holy ,_s1 cont9u+ ! "w t 0 begun 9  
,*ri/4 ,! ,_s gives ! gift ( reconcil+  

love ) :i* we may p>ticipate 9 ! cont9u+
 "w ( ,*ri/1 :i* is ! r$emption &       
trans=mation ( life4 ,s 9 ! context (   
?is love we c relax :ile we also ex]cise
 our c>e4   ,love & ,s9  ,! p[] ( love  
ov] s9 is widely recogniz$4 ,9 ! fir/   
place1 !re is no judgm5t l ! judgm5t    
implicit 9 love4 ,! face ( love is      
compassionate1 b x gives a light t      
reveals ! d>kness ( our he>ts4 ,we "k t 
we are judg$1 b we "k also t we are n   
condemn$4 ,! judgm5t & ! =giv5ess come  
to u z a "p ( ! communication ( love4 ,h
 we n felt ?is z we /ood 9 ! pres5ce (  
someone ^: love 0 true8 ,we wi%$ to be  
rid ( ev]y?+ 9 u t 0 unwor?y ( t love4  
,9 t same in/ant !re may h well$ up )9 u
 a rep5tance & a det]m9ation to live 9  
response to t purify+1 reunit+ love4    
,su* is our exp]i5ce :5 ! ,_s ( ,*ri/   
br+s u face to face ) ,him & ,8 love4   
,to be lov$ is to be illum9$1 purifi$1 &
 trans=m$1 because love has ! p[] (     
re-creation4  ,p>5ts & o!rs :o are      
consci\s ( _! failures & s9s 9 relation 

to _! lov$ ones %\ld rememb] t human    
be+s are fundam5tally resili5t &        
res\rceful4 ,*ildr5's spr+s ( life &    
vitality are p[]ful4 ,_! ne$ to affirm  
!mselves z p]sons is und5iable1 & any   
exp]i5ce ( love t !y h is re9=c+4       
,exp]i5ces ( unlove are to !m           
unbelievable & po9t1 fundam5tally &     
f9ally1 to ! necessity & believability (
 love4 ,:ile our *ildr5 are dep5d5t ^u u
 = _! p]sonal environm5t 9 :i* to gr[   
up1 !y br+ p[]s & res\rces to _! gr[+ up
 :i* are indep5d5t ( u4 ,!y br+ some?+  
to ! dialogue 9 :i* self-actualization  
occurs4 ,_! "p ( ! dialogue is j z      
important & indisp5sable z ours4 ,we _c 
live _! lives = !m4 ,!y h to live _! own
 lives1 & our "p is to live 9 relation  
to !m & contribute our assi/ance to _!  
p[]s ( becom+4  ,p>5ts & tea*]s are n ! 
only ones :o influ5ce _! *ildr54 ,we    
live 9 a society 9 :i* diff]5t p h      
diff]5t roles to play 9 relation to     
ev]yone else4 ,we %\ld n measure !      
progress ( a *ild only by h[ we see him 

or by :at we ?9k he is receiv+ f u4 ,our
 impression ( ! *ild's progress may be  
mi/ak54 ,we may n be able to "k him z he
 is1 nor "k :at o!rs are contribut+4 ,&1
 lea/ ( all1 c we "k ! total effect (   
all 8 relation%ips on :at he is becom+ z
 a p]son4 ,our anxieties ab\t a p>ticul>
 incid5t may exi/ because we fail to see
 x 9 its total context4 ,mu* happ5s 9 ! 
developm5t ( a p]son's life t we d n    
see1 & mu* ( ! trans=mation occurs      
secretly at levels s deep t we _c obs]ve
 x4 ,al?\gh we may n see :at is happ5+1 
we may be sure t some?+ is4 ,9 ! sph]e (
 ! p]sonal we ne$ to tru/ bo? ,god &    
man1 & if we tru/ ,god we c tru/ man4   
,we !n may take a long view ( our task1 
& tea* & "w & live by fai?4  ,?is is :at
 x %\ld mean to be a ,*ri/ian & a memb] 
( ! *ur* ( ,*ri/4 ,:at a wond]ful ?+ x  
is to belong to a fell[%ip t is made up 
( p :o may be unit$ by ! ,_s ( ,god &   
?r\gh :om we believe t ,god works6 ,:at 
a com=t x is to "k t we d n h to d &    
believe ev]y?+ ourselves6 ,n only d we n

 h to live & believe & love = ourselves1
 b o!rs live & believe & love = u at    
times :5 we _c4 ,b let u also rememb] t 
we h to live & believe & love = !m :5   
weakness or d\bt or ho/ility seems to   
ov]:elm !m4 ,?is is ! mean+ ( ,*ri/ian  
fell[%ip2 namely1 t we are n an         
aggregation ( individuals1 b in/ead are 
memb]s ( "o body1 ) e memb] hav+ 8 own  
function1 & ! function ( e memb] /&+ 9 a
 complem5t>y relation to t ( ! o!rs1 (  
:i* body ,*ri/ is ! head4 ,"h is ! s\rce
 ( ! love ab\t :i* we h be5 speak+ & !  
process ?r\gh :i* love is liv$ 9 ! life 
( ! _w t ,god loves4    #aa ,luke       
#aj3bg4   #ab ,f ,love1 ,p[] & ,ju/ice1 
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,us$ by p]mission4   #ac #a ,john #d3aj4
 ,! title ( ?is book 0 sugge/$ by !     
famili>        op5+ words ( ?is v]se 9 !
 ,k+ ,james ,v]sion1 ,h]e9 is           
love4444   #ad ,matt4 #aj3h4   #ae ,see 
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ff4     ,,iv  ,,"s ,,objectives ,,(     

,,love      ,little *ildr51 let u n love
 9 ^w or spee*                          
b 9 de$ & 9 tru?4--#a ,john #c3ah   ,!  
objective ( love1 z we h se51 is to move
 ev]y?+ to ev]y?+ else t is1 especially 
to reunite p]son to p]son4 ,?is is an   
id5tify+ *>act]i/ic ( ! love ( ,god1 & x
 is to "s degree ! *>act]i/ic ( all     
love4 ,we believe t ?is love 0 inc>nate 
9 ,jesus ,*ri/4 ,we believe t ,8 ,_s1   
active 9 ! _w 9 :i* we live1 seeks to   
inc>nate ?is love 9 u "h & n[4          
,fur!rmore1 we h id5tifi$ "s m g5]al    
*>act]i/ics ( love4 ,n[ we turn to look 
at "s ( ! ways 9 :i* love accompli%es   
its purpose1 a purpose :i* is !         
responsibility ( ! *ur* 9 its disp]sion 
9 ! life ( ! _w4   ,love's ,sph]e ,is   
,p]sonal  ,! sph]e ( love's action is 9 
! realm ( ! p]sonal2 x acts 9 & ?r\gh   
relation%ips4 ,! process by :i* ! p]son 
em]ges is bo? wond]ful & fe>ful1 & "o = 
:i* we %\ld h rev]5ce1 ! zeal to und]/&1
 & ! will+ness to be responsible =4     
,c]ta9 specific ?+s ne$ to be accompli%$

 :i* are ! "w ( love1 :i* we h already  
id5tifi$ z ! call+ =? ( p]sons4 ,9 ?is  
"w ( love we p>ticipate 9 ! reconcil+ "w
 ( ,god 9 ,*ri/ today4 ,let u rememb]   
also t *ildr5 fir/ exp]i5ce ! love (    
,god ?r\gh _! exp]i5ce ( _! p>5ts' love1
 & t p>5ts 9 lov+ _! *ildr5 are lov+    
,god1 s9ce we love ,god by lov+ "o      
ano!r4 ,h[ else c we love ,god ?an by   
lov+ "o ano!r8 ,) ?is und]/&+ ( !       
context 9 :i* we live & "w & s]ve "o    
ano!r1 let u turn our att5tion to h[    
love's task is accompli%$4  ,fir/1      
h[ev]1 a ^w ab\t :at t task is n4 ,!    
objective ( love is n to create or      
nurture a s-call$ normal human be+4 ,9 !
 fir/ place1 !re is no univ]sal concept 
( ! normal1 & ! crit]ion ( normality    
v>ies f age to age & f culture to       
culture4 ,all m5 h problems & always w h
 !m4 ,! pursuit ( p]fection is a p]il\s 
project t may cause all k9ds (          
imp]fections & w inevitably produce     
disillusionm5t4  ,adju/m5t _c be ! goal 
( ,*ri/ian liv+ & ! objective ( love4 ,!

 clam is adju/$ ab\t z well z any (     
,god's creatures1 b has v little to (f] 
beyond a passive role 9 a b[l ( s\p4    
,in/ead ( /riv+ to mold a p]son         
completely adju/$ to 8 surr\nd+s1 love  
seeks to nurture a p]son :o is capable (
 ma9ta9+ a creative t5sion betwe5 8 ne$ 
& 8 responsibility1 betwe5 ! vitality ( 
_s & ! =m ( be+4 ,&1 accord+ to te/s1   
su* creative p (t5 are classifi$ z n    
normal & n well adju/$4  ,nor is !      
pursuit ( happ9ess ! objective ( love4  
,happ9ess = human be+s is a =lorn hope4 
,because ( conflicts )9 himself & betwe5
 himself & o!rs1 man is doom$ to be     
unhappy mo/ ( ! "t4 ,he is always hav+  
to deal ) ! inevitable conflicts &      
accid5ts ( life t give him a s5se (     
vuln]ability1 bo? z an individual & z a 
memb] ( 8 tribe1 nation1 or race4       
,in/ead1 ! objective ( love is to       
provide ! human be+ ) res\rces1 by means
 ( :i* he may face 8 human exi/5ce )    
c\rage & ) a s5se ( peace t passes      
und]/&+4 ,x n[ rema9s = u to spell ?is  

out 9 human t]ms4   ,dialogue ,betwe5   
,individual & ,environm5t  ,:5 ! human  
be+ is born1 he leaves ! biological     
ex*ange ( ! womb = ! social ex*ange     
sy/em ( 8 society1 :]e 8 gradually      
increas+ capacities meet ! opportunities
 & limitations ( 8 culture4 ,! appe>ance
 ( ! p]son1 !re=e1 results f ! dialogue 
betwe5 himself & 8 environm5t1 betwe5 8 
gr[+1 autonom\s self & ! direct+        
community ^u :i* he is dep5d5t4 ,?is    
dialogue betwe5 ! individual & 8        
environm5t (t5 has1 z we h se51 !       
*>act]i/ics ( a conflict4 ,! individual 
*all5ges & makes dem&s ( 8 family1 & !  
family *all5ges & makes dem&s ( ! *ild4 
,ea* wre/les ) ! problems ( tru/ 9      
relation to ! o!r1 ea* wre/les =        
autonomy t is equal to ! dom9ation ( !  
o!r1 ea* /rives = ! initiative &        
indu/ri\sly competes ) ! o!r1 & ea*     
seeks an id5tity t may ei!r exclude or  
include ! o!r4 ,! quality ( ! life ( !  
individual & ( ! social ord] dep5ds ^u !
 results ( ! dialogue betwe5 !m4  ,i am 

?9k+ ( two families4 ,9 "o1 ! p>5ts     
help$ _! *ildr5 "w ?r\gh _! difficulties
 ) ea* o!r1 ?us assum+ dialogical       
responsibility = :at happ5$ betwe5 !m4  
,9 late te5hood1 ea* *ild 9 turn became 
a p]son 9 8 own "r :o _h a*iev$ a       
relatively mature1 cong5ial1 & lov+     
relation ) e o!r memb] ( ! family4 ,9 ! 
second family1 ! p>5ts c\ld n face !    
conflicts inevitable to human nature 9 a
 gr[+ family1 & pret5d$ a quality (     
relation%ip t did n exi/ betwe5 !m4 ,:5 
_! *ildr5 became late te5-ag]s & old]1 a
 smold]+ antagonism exi/$ betwe5 !m :i* 
occasionally broke out 9 v5om\s qu>rels4
 ,! p>5ts ( ?is second family _h n      
assum$ dialogical responsibility = !    
cont5t ( _! family life1 ) ! result t ! 
int]action betwe5 ! gr[+ p]son & 8      
environm5t 0 n creative4  ,! process (  
unfold+ patt]ns1 ( decisions made 9     
response to crises1 ( fru/rations &     
a*ievem5ts 9 liv+1 are also ! human     
cont5t = religi\s developm5t1 & provide 
opportunities = bo? conv]sion & nurture4

 ,! developm5t ( a p]son is religi\sly  
significant1 & ! ev5ts 9 8 life h       
ultimate mean+4 ,we may ?9k ( !m 9 only 
psy*ological & sociological dim5sions1 b
 _! mean+ also is !ological & religi\s4 
,z we weave our intricate way ?r\gh !   
ye>s ( our lives1 approa*+ & )draw+1    
attack+ & retreat+1 victori\s & beat51  
decisive & unc]ta91 be+ lov$ & be+      
res5t$1 lov+ & hat+1 & sometimes gladly 
& sometimes reluctantly p>ticipat+ 9 !  
dialogue betwe5 ourselves & our         
environm5t ( influ5tial p]sons1 we may  
ask ourselves ?is "q3 ,:at contributes  
to our em]g5ce z responsible1 res\rceful
 p]sons8 ,z p>ticipants 9 ! dialogue    
betwe5 our *ildr5 & ourselves1 =        
example1 we %\ld l to "k ! k9d ( address
 & response we %\ld make t w\ld call !m 
=? z p]sons :o w be responsible &       
helpful 9 relation to _! dep5d5ts1 pe]s1
 & sup]iors2 & enable u1 ?r\gh !m1 to   
love & s]ve ,god4 ,h[ c we s p>ticipate 
) !m 9 liv+ t !re w be call$ =? 9 !m a  
c\rage t w d>e ! risks ( creativity &   

acquire ! fre$om to love8  ,! dialogue  
betwe5 ! individual & life is initiat$  
by ! basic "q t is implicit 9 our be+1 &
 becomes explicit z our capacities z    
p]sons increase4 ,! basic "q is3 ,:o am 
,i81 & associat$ ) x is its p>tn] "q3   
,:o are y8 ,^! two que/ions h to be ask$
 toge!r almo/ z if !y 7 "o "q1 because  
!re is no answ] to ! "q3 ,:o am ,i81    
except z !re is an answ] to ! "q3 ,:o   
are y8 ,& ?is tw(old "q is n only ask$  
implicitly by ! newborn baby1 b         
explicitly by 8 p>5ts1 ^: own dialogue )
 ! baby involves ask+ & receiv+ answ]s  
to ,:o are y8 & ,:o am ,i8 because !    
relation%ip is "o 9 :i* ! *ild also may 
call =? ! p>5t z a p]son4  ,?is basic   
tw(old "q is "o :i* we all cont9ue to   
ask all ?r\gh our lives 9 _m diff]5t    
ways4 ,we mu/ n associate "q-ask+       
exclusively ) v]balization4 ,obvi\sly1 !
 baby _c ask 8 "m 9 words :o %e is4 ,he 
does x by 8 actions1 by 8 r&om movem5ts1
 by 8 cry+1 by 8 prote/s1 by 8 explor+  
h&s & eyes1 by 8 m\?4 ,& ! "m does n    

give reply to 8 "q by ^w only1 b by h]  
actions2 by h] fe$+ & c>e ( him1 by h]  
neglect1 by h] joy 9 him & h] irritation
 because ( him1 by h] com+ to him & by  
h] unexpla9$ dep>tures f him4 ,all h]   
actions are a language by :i* %e tells  
h] *ild :o %e is 9 response to !        
que/ions implicit 9 8 actions4 ,& h]    
answ] to him z to :o %e is gives him !  
beg9n+ ( an answ] to 8 "q z to :o he is4
  ,?us1 ! dialogue betwe5 "m & *ild1 :i*
 is l>gely nonv]bal1 tells him t 8 "m is
 "o :o 9 "s ways loves him & 9 o!rs does
 n1 & tells him also t he is "o :o 9 "s 
ways is lov$ & 9 o!r ways is n4 ,out (  
?is int]*ange em]ges 8 mann] ( response 
:i* may become 8 /yle ( liv+ & lov+4 ,b 
we ne$ to rememb] t 8 *>act]i/ics z a   
p]son are n :olly det]m9$ by ! action ( 
8 environm5t1 because !y also are       
det]m9$ by :o he is )9 himself z a      
unique be+4 ,8 inh]itance provides him a
 giv5 quality & capacity4 ,!re=e1 !     
dialogue is to be und]/ood also z a     
dialogue betwe5 h]$ity & environm5t 9   

:i* 8 exp]i5ce ( love releases 8 p[] (  
be+4   ,s5se ( ,tru/  ,! fir/ objective 
( love to be accompli%$ out ( ! dialogue
 betwe5 ! individual & ! _w is ! awak5+ 
9 him ( a s5se ( basic tru/4 ,tru/ t[>d 
oneself & t[>d o!rs is acquir$ to "s    
degree dur+ ! fir/ ye>4 ,i h discuss$   
?is at "s l5g? 9 an e>li] book1 ,man's  
,ne$ & ,god's ,action1#ag & "h1 z well z
 !re1 ,i ackn[l$ge my indebt$ness to !  
"w ( ,erik ,erikson4#ah ,9 ?is *apt] ,i 
%all discuss ! o!r s5ses t he id5tifies 
z necess>y acquisitions ( ! gr[+        
p]sonality4  ,p]haps ! greate/          
contribution to ! a*ievem5t ( basic tru/
 is ?r\gh ! exp]i5ce ( be+ f$4 ,!       
exp]i5ce ( be+ f$ regul>ly & responsibly
 causes ! *ild to respond ) tru/1 & he  
le>ns to h fai? long be=e he kn[s ! ^w =
 x4 ,lat]1 at ! appropriate "t he       
acquires ! ^w fai? to po9t to ! mean+ ( 
8 tru/ exp]i5ces4 ,if1 /ill lat]1 he    
all[s ! words to take ! place ( !       
sub/ance ( 8 fai?1 !y w become empty    
words4 ,responsible p>5ts & tea*]s seek 

to comb9e ! "r ^w ) _! action s t !     
mean+ ( ! *ild's exp]i5ces is correlat$ 
) ! words = !m4 ,a mature correlation   
betwe5 ^w & exp]i5ce is "o 9 :i* ! *ild 
has ! exp]i5ce ( f9d+ p bo? tru/wor?y & 
untru/wor?y1 & has be5 help$ to deal ) !
 untru/wor?9ess 9 ! context ( tru/4 ,8  
fir/ exp]i5ce1 !re=e1 is a reali/ic "o 9
 :i* he is /r5g!n$ by 8 exp]i5ces (     
tru/1 & is n made too anxi\s by 8       
exp]i5ces ( ! inevitable failures ( 8   
lov$ ones to take c>e ( him p]fectly4   
,! *ild's exp]i5ce ( tru/ & mi/ru/      
conta9s ! fir/ mean+s = 8 ,*ri/ian      
education4 ,! c>e ( ! ,div9e ,fa!r is   
express$ 9 & ?r\gh ! c>e ( 8 e>?ly      
p>5ts4 ,8 response to ! c>e ( 8 e>?ly   
p>5ts is 8 response to 8 ,div9e ,fa!r4  
,?is ne$s to be int]pret$ to ! *ild z he
 gr[s up1 s t he w accept & believe 9 ! 
p>ticipat+ pres5ce ( ,god 9 human life4 
,an ob/acle 9 ! way ( ?is a*ievem5t     
occurs :5 p sep>ate ,god f life & make  
,him a k9d ( abs5tee op]ator ( ! ma*9e  
call$ ! _w4 ,x !n is necess>y = ! *ild  

to make a huge leap f 8 tru/ ( 8 p>5ts  
to fai? 9 ,god4 ,:ile we _c equate      
p>5tal action ) div9e action1 nev]!less 
we c affirm t div9e action takes place  
?r\gh human action4 ,:5 su* an          
affirmation is made & accept$ z a "p ( !
 p>5ts' fai? & is int]pret$ to ! *ild z 
he is able to receive x1 he is help$ to 
gr[ up ) a religi\s und]/&+ ( life      
itself1 r ?an conceiv+ ( religion z be+ 
m]ely a "p ( life4 ,he w gr[ up ) ! idea
 t be+ tru/wor?y & tru/+ o!rs has n only
 psy*ological & sociological mean+1 b   
also !ological mean+4  ,a s5se ( tru/ is
 basic1 because )\t x ! fur!r developm5t
 ( ! individual w\ld n be possible4 ,its
 f\ndations are laid 9 ! v fir/ ye> ( an
 individual's life4 ,! act ( tak+ f 8 "m
 n j food1 b h] m9i/rations1 h]         
companion%ip & fri5dl9ess1 is ! beg9n+ (
 8 em]g5ce z an individual ap>t f 8     
p>5ts4 ,z he becomes an individual      
p]son1 he imm$iately beg9s to be a giv] 
z well z a tak]4 ,giv+1 z well z        
receiv+1 mu/ become a "p ( ! dialogical 

relation betwe5 two individuals1 :e!r   
betwe5 a *ild & ! p>5t1 or betwe5 two   
adults4 ,z soon z a *ild beg9s to become
 a giv]1 ! p>5t mu/ cons5t to be a      
receiv] ( t :i* ! *ild has to give1 &   
?us1 aga91 is a relation%ip ( basic tru/
 e/abli%$4  ,)\t p>5tal reception ! *ild
 w\ld n be affirm$ z a giv]1 & w\ld1 out
 ( 8 mi/ru/1 become a compulsive tak]1 a
 result t is tragic n only              
psy*ologically & sociologically1 b      
religi\sly z well4 ,he w n be able to   
tru/ ,god2 b because he ne$s to tru/    
,god1 he w beg9 to create images ( ,god 
9 ! context ( :i* he w try to h&le 8    
exi/5tial problems4 ,?us1 ! f\ndations (
 a false religion may be laid 9 e>ly    
*ildhood1 & ?is false religion1 z x     
matures1 closes ! p]son (f f ! tru? ( ! 
gospel & keeps him f becom+ an in/rum5t 
( ! gospel 9 relation to ! :ole _w4 ,!  
*ur* is fill$ ) p :o d n really tru/    
,god1 ev5 ?\gh !y publicly pr(ess _!    
fai? 9 ,him4 ,^! p1 l ,mr4 ,cl>ke1 ,mrs4
 ,/rait1 & ! o!rs1 live timidly4  ,we   

mu/ n conclude t ! e/abli%m5t ( basic   
tru/ conc]ns only infants4 ,! balance   
betwe5 tru/ & mi/ru/ is some?+ t conc]ns
 u all our days1 & ! "q is rais$ acutely
 aga9 e "t we face a dang] 9 !          
circum/ances ( our lives4 ,i h obs]v$ t 
:5 p come toge!r 9 a new gr\p           
relation%ip1 _! basic que/ions1 ,:o am  
,i8 & ,:o are y81 are reactivat$4       
,significant communication betwe5 !m    
does n take place until "s relation%ip (
 tru/ is e/abli%$ on ! basis (          
satisfactory answ]s4 ,our initial ask+ (
 ^! que/ions 9 infancy is1 to "s degree1
 repeat$ at subsequ5t times 9 our lives4
 ,!y are repeat$ 9 times ( m>riage1     
b]eavem5t1 retirem5t1 dea?1 or 9 my     
p]sonal crisis2 & also :5 we face !     
?reat ( w> or ! possibility (           
int]planet>y exi/5ce1 or 9 any economic1
 social1 or political crisis4 ,ne$$ at  
^! times ( ?reat are relation%ips )     
suffici5t p[] to enable u to p>ticipate 
9 ! dialogue out ( :i* w come ! answ]s  
to our que/ions4 ,! objective ( love is 

to provide ! relation%ip ( love = a _w  
t1 aga9 & aga91 & 9 an inf9ite v>iety ( 
ways1 asks ! basic que/ions3 ,:o am ,i8 
& ,:o are y8  ,h[ wond]ful x is to      
p>ticipate 9 ! answ] to ! basic         
que/ions6 ,mo!rs1 = in/ance1 :o t5d to  
lose ! s5se ( purpose 9 ! m9utiae ( _!  
responsibilities1 c\ld be help$ to      
realize h[ pr(\ndly important is ! c>e  
!y give _! *ildr54 ,! way 9 :i* !y fe$ &
 c>e = _! families may be1 if !y op5$   
!mselves to ! pres5ce & action ( ,god 9 
human life1 ! means ( _! *ild's union ) 
man & ,god4  ,z we try to meet !        
physical & emotional ne$s ( *ildr51 &   
travel ) !m ?r\gh ! v>i\s crises ( life 
9 :i* we bo? p>ticipate1 we may h !     
reassurance t we are do+ a great "w1 !  
full mean+ ( :i* we may n be able to see
 at ! mom5t4 ,fur!rmore1 we may be      
reassur$ t we are p>ticipat+ 9 ! "w (   
,god 9 ! _w & engag$ 9 ! true m9i/ry ( !
 *ur* 9 ! _w4 ,:5 !re is ?is liv+ t     
awak5s & r5ews tru/1 ! =mal tea*+ &     
religi\s obs]vances ( ! *ur* bo? receive

 & give additional mean+4   ,s5se (     
,autonomy  ,! second objective ( love is
 ! a*ievem5t ( a s5se ( autonomy4 ,we   
said e>li] t z ! *ild beg9s to take t   
:i* is giv5 to him1 he beg9s to di/+ui% 
betwe5 himself & o!rs1 & !reby to become
 a sep>ate p]son4 ,9 s do+1 he beg9s to 
a*ieve "s degree ( autonomy z an        
indep5d5t p]son4 ,?is second task is    
made easi] = him1 if he is able to      
approa* x ) a s5se ( tru/4 ,! ne$ = a   
s5se ( tru/ 9 ! a*ievem5t ( autonomy    
becomes app>5t once we recognize :at ?is
 second task involves4 ,x introduces !  
*ild into a conflict ( int]e/s4 ,on ! "o
 h&1 he ne$s ! con/ant c>e1 sup]vision1 
& love ( 8 p>5ts2 & on ! o!r h&1 he ne$s
 to ass]t 8 own w & /& ov] aga9/ 8 p>5ts
 z a sep>ate p]son4 ,he bo? ne$s to be a
 "p ( ! "m & di/9ct f h]4 ,! conflict   
betwe5 ^! ne$s increases z ! individual 
becomes a p]son4  ,?is process1 h[ev]1  
(t5 results 9 a w>f>e ( unequal wills   
betwe5 ! *ild & ! p>5t4 ,! *ild himself 
is capable ( viol5t drives :i* fright5  

him & :i* he is unable to control2 & !  
p>5t c be provok$ to emotional responses
 t escape 8 control & are fright5+4 ,!  
relation%ip betwe5 !m1 !re=e1 may become
 "o 9 :i* ea* is seek+ to dom9ate &     
control ! o!r4 ,?is patt]n occurs 9 all 
relation%ips & is (t5 obs]v$ 9 m>riage1 
:]e1 by v>i\s k9ds ( behavior1 ea* p>tn]
 seeks to control ! o!r4  ,! muscul>    
me*anism basic to ! a*ievem5t ( autonomy
 is ! me*anism ( hold+ on & lett+ g4 ,by
 ! employm5t ( x1 ! individual beg9s to 
be aw>e ( 8 p[]s z a sep>ate p]son4     
,aw>5ess ( ^! p[]s & ( ! possibilities  
inh]5t 9 !m precipitates ! /ruggle      
betwe5 him & o!rs4 ,a *ild c be v       
pliable or v /ubborn 9 8 hold+ on or    
lett+ g1 & x is n long be=e p>5ts       
discov] t !y _c make a *ild d some?+ t  
he w n d4 ,at ?is po9t1 ! p>5t's own    
maturity 9 ! employm5t ( ! same         
me*anisms w det]m9e h[ he w respond to !
 *ild's /ubborn & (t5 ho/ile ef=ts to   
a*ieve autonomy4  ,z p mature1 !        
hold+-on & lett+-g t5sion is transf]r$ f

 ! muscul> to ! emotional &             
psy*ological4 ,if adults h a*iev$ a     
relax$ attitude1 !y w be able to provide
 ! *ild ) firmness1 & at ! same "t all[ 
him "s fre$om 9 det]m9+ 8 own action4   
,an environm5t ( fre$om & au?ority w    
help him a*ieve a balance betwe5 love & 
hate1 co-op]ation & willfulness4 ,an    
e>ly s5se ( tru/1 we see1 is necess>y = 
! developm5t ( autonomy4 ,)\t tru/ !    
*ild w n feel free to /ruggle1 z he mu/1
 = its a*ievem5t4 ,he w n feel free1    
because he does n h fai? ei!r 9 himself 
or 9 8 _w1 9 relation to :i* he mu/     
/ruggle4  ,! objective ( love1 !re=e1 is
 to provide a relation%ip ( firmness &  
tol]ance )9 :i* a *ild may become       
autonom\s & acquire a s5se (            
self-control1 self-e/eem1 & relation%ip 
) o!rs4 ,o!rwise he may suff] loss (    
confid5ce 9 himself & become skeptical (
 o!rs1 a result :i* c be ! fruit ( ei!r 
re/rictive discipl9e or un/ructur$      
fre$om4  ,! a*ievem5t ( a s5se (        
autonomy mu/ always rema9 relative1 & w 

v>y f individual to individual4 ,z we h 
se51 !re is no fix$ norm = human        
behavior1 & ! be/ s5se ( autonomy t     
anyone c possibly a*ieve is "o 9 :i* !re
 is a mixture ( co-op]ation &           
willfulness1 ( love & ho/ility4 ,we c   
only hope & pray t z we all mature our  
autonomy w be employ$ ) creative good w1
 & t x w be capable ( deal+ ) ! results 
( our ho/ility & /ubbornness4  ,al?\gh  
our s5se ( autonomy appe>s dur+ our     
second & ?ird ye> ( life1 its fur!r     
developm5t dep5ds ^u our relation%ip )  
o!rs4 ,fur!rmore1 its employm5t has o!r 
ar5as ?an t ( family life4 ,! dialogue f
 :i* autonomy gr[s moves out ( family & 
into ! neighborhood4 ,x is quick5$ &    
discipl9$ by entrance into s*ool1 is    
heat$ & temp]$ by ! developm5t ( social 
life1 especially by ! dialogue betwe5 ! 
sexes :5 ! ne$ to surr5d] oneself to !  
o!r meets ! ne$s ( ea* to be oneself4   
,f9ally1 ! autonomy ( ! individual is   
sure to be *all5g$ by ! complexities &  
organization ( mod]n indu/rial society4 

,m & m ! individual is be+ caught 9 !   
intricacies ( a process 9 :i* 8 s5se (  
autonomy & initiative is violat$4 ,!    
problems ( ! social ord] are s massive t
 ! int]e/s ( ! individual (t5 are       
sacrific$4 ,increas+ly1 p are unable to 
endure ! fru/rations caus$ by _! social1
 political1 & indu/rial environm5t1 &   
develop neurotic responses 9 :i* _!     
aggressions are turn$ 9 on !mselves4 ,! 
autonomy & initiative t once belong$ to 
! individual h be5 transf]r$ to ! social
 ord]1 ) ! result t in/ead ( individuals
 receiv+ _! direction f )91 !y n[       
receive x f )\t1 ) ! inevitable dem& =  
con=mity1 9 :i* ! integrity ( !         
individual is apt to be sacrific$4 ,e "t
 he turns on 8 radio or television set1 
8 autonomy is assault$ by all k9ds (    
pressures4  ,?is condition pres5ts      
education & religion ) peculi> *all5ges4
 ,9 ord] to m9i/] to ! _w1 x is necess>y
 t "o p>ticipate 9 ! life ( ! _w & %>e  
its problems z did our ,"l4 ,b if we are
 to be ! in/rum5t ( ,god's purpose 9 !  

"w ( ! _w1 x w be necess>y = u to h a   
s5se ( autonomy & a p[] ( indep5d5ce4   
,?is is :at x means to be 9 ! _w b n ( !
 _w4  ,"o ( ! objectives ( love1 !re=e1 
is s to live ) "o ano!r1 especially )   
our *ildr51 t out ( t relation%ip we may
 em]ge ) su* a p[] ( be+ z a p]son t we 
%all be able to face ! complexities1    
pressures1 deprivations1 & dang]s (     
mod]n life4 ,our aim is to help ! *ild  
become a responsible p>ticipant 9 !     
crucial issues ( life1 & to pres]ve 8   
integrity z a decid+ p]son4 ,! answ] to 
8 que/ions1 ,:o am ,i8 & ,:o are y81 w  
!n be3 ,i am :at ,i w1 & y are :at y w2 
& our relation%ip is "o ( mutuality 9   
:i* ea* w call =? ! o!r4 ,if ! awak5+ ( 
a s5se ( autonomy is an objective (     
love1 x is also ! objective ( ! *ur*'s  
life1 its tea*+1 & its evangeli/ic      
endeavor4 ,)\t p[] ( autonomy &         
indep5d5ce1 ,*ri/ians w be m]e con=mi/s 
& ma9ta9]s ( ! /atus quo4   ,s5se (     
,initiative  ,! ?ird objective ( love is
 to help ! individual a*ieve a s5se (   

initiative4 ,at ! age ( f\r or five1 a  
*ild is fac$ ) 8 next crisis & mu/ take 
8 next big /ep4 ,he mu/ f9d out :at k9d 
( p]son he is go+ to be4 ,8 se>* w be   
/r5g!n$ by 8 exp]i5ce ( tru/1 & by      
:atev] p[] ( autonomy he has4 ,dr4      
,erikson po9ts out t he wants to be l 8 
p>5ts :o seem v wond]ful to him1 b :o1  
at ! same "t1 pres5t him ) v real       
?reats4 ,dur+ ?is age he plays at be+ 8 
p>5ts4 ,accord+ to ,dr4 ,erikson1 !re   
are ?ree /rong developm5ts :i* help him1
 b :i* also contribute to 8 crisis4     
,fir/1 he le>ns to move ar\nd m freely &
 m viol5tly1 & !re=e e/abli%es a wid]1 &
 s x seems to him1 an unlimit$ radius ( 
goals4 ,two1 8 s5se ( language becomes  
p]fect$ to ! po9t :]e he und]/&s & c ask
 ab\t _m ?+s j en\gh to misund]/& !m    
?or\ghly2 & ?ree1 bo? language &        
locomotion p]mit him to exp& 8          
imag9ation ov] s _m ?+s t he _c avoid   
fright5+ himself ) :at he himself has   
dream$ & ?\ght up4 ,nev]!less1 out ( all
 ?is he mu/ em]ge ) a s5se ( unbrok5    

initiative z a basis = a high1 & yet    
reali/ic1 s5se ( ambition &             
indep5d5ce4#ai  ,initiative is ! p[] t  
moves ! individual to take ov] ! role ( 
o!rs2 ! boy1 8 fa!r2 ! girl1 h] "m2 lat]
 z ! driv] ( ! c>1 & lat] /ill1 lead]%ip
 roles ( v>i\s k9ds4 ,! /ruggles 9 !    
process are accompani$ by feel+s (      
anxiety1 ( inadequacy1 & ( guilt4       
,feel+s ( inadequacy 9 relation to !    
size & p[]s ( ! adult c be consid]able2 
& ! feel+s ( guilt1 9 response to !     
daydreams ab\t replac+ ,daddy1 =        
in/ance1 are crucial1 & too (t5 are     
unrecogniz$ by _m p>5ts & tea*]s4 ,!y   
ne$ to recognize & accept ! developm5tal
 reasons = ! *ild's preoccupations &    
fantasies ab\t himself 9 relation to !m 
& _! roles & functions4 ,fur!rmore1 x is
 entirely appropriate = him to be       
physically aggressive t[>d o!rs1 to     
ov]:elm !m ) 8 incessant *att]+1 8      
aggressive gett+ into ?+s1 & 8          
insatiable curiosity ab\t ev]y?+4 ,!    
objective ( love at ?is "t is to provide

 ! *ild ) a reasonable fre$om )9 :i* to 
develop 8 initiative ) a m9imum s5se (  
guilt 9 relation to its ex]cise1 & ) !  
hope t by s do+ he w become a p]son ^:  
creativity w n be fru/rat$ by an        
ov]develop$ s5se ( guilt4  ,9 contra/1  
_m p are emb>rass$ by recognition ( _!  
a*ievem5ts1 & are prev5t$ f a*ievem5t   
because ( guilt feel+s t block _!       
creative ef=ts4 ,un=tunately1 too mu*   
religi\s tea*+ has made p feel guilty   
ab\t initiative & aggressiv5ess1 bo? (  
:i* c be express$ creatively4 ,f        
*ildhood on1 lives are h$g$ ab\t by     
prohibitions 9 relation to p]sons be>+  
au?ority1 by belittl+ attitudes t[>d    
!mselves & t[>d _! drives to compete &  
to get ahead1 s t p become self-re/rict$
 & are kept f liv+ up to _! inn]        
capacities or f us+ _! p[]s ( imag9ation
 & feel+4 ,:ile "s )draw into a dull k9d
 ( exi/5ce1 o!rs ov]comp5sate 9 a great 
%[ ( tireless initiative & a quality (  
g-at-x-iv5ess at all co/s4 ,^! p (t5    
ov]do to a po9t :]e !y c nev] relax1 &  

!y feel t _! wor? z p consi/s entirely 9
 :at !y are do+ r ?an 9 :at !y are4  ,! 
objective ( love is to help ! *ild      
accept ! necess>y /ructures1 au?orities1
 & p]sonal roles 9 relation to :i* he   
mu/ live1 s t he may gr[ 9 8 capacity to
 love p]sons & to use ?+s4 ,dur+ ?is    
/age ( life1 *ildr5 (t5 turn to o!r     
adults = companion%ip & guidance4 ,!y d 
s because ! conflicts betwe5 !mselves & 
^! new adults d n seem to be z great z )
 _! own p>5ts4 ,!y ne$ ^! fre%          
relation%ips :]e !y c ex]cise initiative
 )\t too mu* conflict & guilt4 ,"h !    
s*ool & *ur*1 ) its tra9$ tea*]s &      
work]s1 h an opportunity to supplem5t1 &
 ev5 to correct1 ! exp]i5ces t *ildr5   
are hav+ at home4 ,we %\ld rememb]1     
h[ev]1 t ! id5tifications ) ! p>5t are  
important1 & t ! exp]i5ces ! y\ng/]s are
 hav+ ) o!rs %\ld be ( a complem5t>y    
nature1 ev5 if !y also are corrective4  
,ano!r & supplem5t>y objective ( love is
 ! provision ( a relation%ip by p>5ts or
 o!rs 9 :i* a _s ( equality makes       

possible an exp]i5ce ( do+ ?+s toge!r1  
in/ead ( a relation%ip 9 :i* ! *ild has 
to compete unequally ) ! adult4 ,fa!rs1 
= in/ance1 may be ( great help to _!    
sons4 ,boys are apt to feel t _! fa!rs  
are too big1 too p[]ful1 & too skillful2
 b if ! fa!r w base ! relation%ip on "s 
int]e/ or exp]i5ce common to !m bo?1 !  
boy has an opportunity to gr[ 9         
initiative & to develop 8 capacities )\t
 a s5se ( unequal competition4  ,! answ]
 to ! *ild's que/ions4 ,:o am ,i8 & ,:o 
are y81 w !n be3 ,i am :at ,i conceive  
myself to be1 & y are :at ,i conceive y 
to be accord+ to my und]/&+ ( h[ y h    
reveal$ y\rself4 ,at ?is p>ticul> "t 9 !
 developm5t ( ! individual1 !re beg9 to 
be =m$ ! p[]ful images ( ourselves &    
o!rs t aid or h9d] our relation%ip ) "o 
ano!r4   ,s5se ( ,indu/ry  ,a f\r?      
objective ( love is to help ! individual
 to a s5se ( indu/ry1 = ! *ild has n[   
become a busy little p]son :o ne$s to   
le>n h[ to be busy ) ?+s & p]sons4 ,a   
*ild's busyness beg9s ) 8 play4 ,*ildr5 

play sep>ately at fir/4 ,9 _! y\nge/    
ye>s1 !y may sit ap>t 9 ! same room1 ea*
 play+ ) 8 own ?+s1 & ea* oblivi\s ( !  
o!r except :5 "o may discov] t ! o!r has
 some?+ he wants4 ,lat]1 z !y gr[ &     
mature1 !re beg9s :at we call p>allel   
play4 ,!y play along side ( ea* o!r4 ,n[
 !y are aw>e ( ea* o!r1 & ea* keeps an  
eye on 8 playmate4 ,_! sep>ate play+    
seems to h an influ5ce on ! o!r 9 t !y  
imitate ea* o!r4 ,!n1 at a /ill lat]    
/age1 !y beg9 to play toge!r4 ,! high   
po9t ( ?is a*ievem5t1 /ill lat]1 is team
 play1 :i* beg9s 9 adolesc5ce or ev5    
e>li]4  ,n[ beg9s ! capacity = direct$  
fell[%ip4 ,! fell[%ip ( a team is to be 
respect$4 ,memb]%ip on ! team may mean m
 to ! boy ?an memb]%ip 9 8 *ur*1 & ?is  
may cause m9i/]s1 p>5ts1 & tea*]s       
consid]able anxiety4 ,in/ead1 !y %\ld   
relax & be glad = ! y\ng/]'s exp]i5ce1  
because team play is provid+ him ) an   
exp]i5ce ( relation%ip t lat] w become !
 basis = 8 und]/&+ ( ! ultimate mean+ ( 
all relation%ips4 ,!y %\ld accept !     

y\ng/]'s exp]i5ce & use x creatively1 to
 help him und]/& ! nature ( ! *ur*1 our 
relation%ip z bro!rs1 & ! capta9cy (    
,*ri/4  ,9 team play1 also1 we see !    
occurr5ce ( some?+ t is v mu* a "p (    
,*ri/ian "*4 ,9 ord] = !re to be team   
play1 x is necess>y = e memb] ( ! team  
to die to ! desire 9 him to be ! :ole   
%[4 ,a mature team memb] has le>n$ t 8  
/r5g? & skills dep5d on ! /r5g? & skills
 ( o!rs4 ,?is is ! !ology ( ! playgr\nd4
 ,:at has be5 le>n$ 9 play may be       
translat$ into "w4 ,!n1 s9ce a man's "w 
is "o ( ! great sph]es 9 :i* he may     
ex]cise 8 m9i/ry z a repres5tative (    
,*ri/1 ! le>n+ ( ?is pr(\nd lesson 9 !  
process ( play is an important "p ( 8   
religi\s education4 ,& x c be religi\s1 
ev5 ?\gh x may n be le>n$ 9 ! =mal *ur*4
  ,! transition f play to "w takes place
 gradually4 ,*ildr5 become dissatisfi$ )
 play & make-believe1 & h a gr[+ ne$ to 
be useful1 to make ?+s well1 &1 !re=e1  
to acquire a s5se ( indu/ry4 ,!y also   
le>n to w9 recognition by produc+ ?+s4  

,?r\gh play !y advance to new /ages (   
real ma/]y 9 ! use ( toys & ?+s1 & le>n 
to ma/] exp]i5ce by m$itation1          
exp]im5t+1 & plann+4 ,! home1 ! s*ool1 &
 ! *ur* %\ld try to help !m to make ?is 
transition easily 9 ord] t !y may       
develop ?is s5se ( indu/ry )\t a s5se ( 
inadequacy4 ,if !y are pu%$ too /r5u\sly
 to produce1 a s5se ( inadequacy may    
result1 especially :5 !y /ill want to be
 cuddl$ & c>$ =4 ,family life has !     
responsibility ( prep>+ ! y\ng/]s =     
s*ool1 :]e1 9 ! context ( _! play       
exp]i5ces1 !y accept ! discipl9es ( "w4 
,relax$ tea*]s are ne$$ :o und]/& !     
process by :i* *ildr5 le>n to move f    
play to "w1 & :o c enc\rage !m to make  
?is transition )\t ei!r sp>+ !m ! ne$$  
discipl9es or impos+ !m too /r5u\sly4   
,"h we see an area 9 :i* ! role ( !     
family & ! role ( ! s*ool are           
complem5t>y4  ,! acquisition ( a s5se ( 
indu/ry is a decisive /ep 9 le>n+ to d  
?+s ) o!rs & alongside o!rs4 ,?is w     
become a major s\rce ( satisfaction & ! 

area ( 8 greate/ s]vice4   ,s5se (      
,id5tity  ,a fif? objective ( love is to
 nurture 9 ! human be+ a s5se ( id5tity 
:i* is acquir$ & consolidat$ 9 a new way
 dur+ adolesc5ce4 ,dr4 ,erikson         
describes id5tity z ! accru$ confid5ce t
 "o's ability to ma9ta9 inn] sam5ess &  
cont9uity is mat*$ by ! sam5ess &       
cont9uity ( "o's mean+ = o!rs4#bj  ,z an
 individual develops & acquires skills1 
he ?9ks ( himself z "o :o c d ?+s1 & 8  
important p may hold a v>iety (         
expectations ( him3 ,he's clumsy1 ,he   
nev] c d any?+ "r2 or1 ,i c always c\nt 
on him1 ,he's got ! "r /uff 9 him4 ,out 
( 8 a*ievem5ts & ! attitudes ( o!rs t[>d
 him1 8 s5se ( self-e/eem & pre/ige is  
built1 little by little4 ,z crisis aft] 
crisis is pass$ & ! individual meets ea*
 ( !m ) reasonable res\rcefulness &     
receives ! enc\ragem5t & recognition (  
o!rs1 he beg9s to believe 9 himself1 to 
h a consi/5t expectation ( :at he w d 9 
! face ( v>i\s circum/ances &           
relation%ips4 ,9 ?is way he beg9s to    

acquire a /yle ( liv+ :i* is 8 own & :i*
 contributes to 8 s5se ( id5tity & to   
o!rs' id5tification ( him4  ,9 !        
a*ievem5t ( a s5se ( self-id5tity1 !    
*ild ne$s models ) :i* to id5tify       
himself4 ,especially is ?is true dur+ 8 
adolesc5ce4 ,he ne$s association ) m5 :o
 are cle> ab\t be+ m51 & wom5 :o are    
cle> ab\t be+ wom51 & :o are capable ( &
 practice a reasonably :olesome         
relation%ip ) ea* o!r4 ,he ne$s m5 &    
wom5 :o h convictions1 :o c di/+ui%     
betwe5 "r & wrong1 :o hold ^!           
convictions firmly1 & yet n rigidly4 ,he
 ne$s guides & c\nselors :o c help him  
br+ toge!r & conc5trate 8 v>i\s &       
fluctuat+ drives & int]e/s1 & :o are n  
dismay$ or misl$ by ! inconsi/5cies &   
fluctuations t may accompany 8          
developm5t4 ,he ne$s help 9 *oos+ a job1
 because self-id5tification is dep5d5t  
^u "s k9d ( occupational id5tity4       
,f9ally1 he ne$s help 9 acquir+1 z a "p 
( 8 s5se ( self-id5tity1 a s5se (       
vocation1 ( be+ call$ to some?+ t is    

great] ?an himself1 :i* w draw him =? z 
a p>ticipant 9 ! deepe/ mean+ ( life4 ,!
 provid+ ( ?is k9d ( relation%ip to help
 ! individual acquire an indisp5sable   
s5se ( id5tity is ano!r ( love's        
objectives4  ,un=tunately1 h[ev]1 9 our 
complex & te*nical society1 ! models    
aft] :i* ! y\ng/]s may n[ patt]n        
!mselves are n z cle> z !y might be4 ,p 
are hav+ to und]go trem5d\s adju/m5ts 9 
a "t ( rapid te*nical gr[?1 z a result (
 :i* _! image ( ! _w 9 :i* !y live is   
*ang+2 produc+1 !re=e1 unc]ta9ties 9    
!mselves1 & mak+ x m difficult =        
adolesc5ts4 ,our *ang+ age creates _m   
difficulties = *ang+ adolesc5ts4        
,cultural conditions (t5 =ce "y p to b& 
toge!r 9 gr\ps or movem5ts t provide !m 
) a po9t ( focus by means ( :i* !y      
/]eotype !mselves & _! ideals4 ,?is is  
"o way 9 :i* !y acquire /ability & a    
s5se ( direction4 ,we ne$1 h[ev]1 to be 
tol]ant ( ?is & to recognize its        
purpose2 we ne$ to realize also t if we 
provide !m ) alt]natives1 _! ne$ = ^!   

/]eotypes may disappe>4  ,! *ur* has a  
special role "h4 ,mo/ ( ! committee ^:  
discussion we read 9 ,*apt] ,i1 gave no 
evid5ce ( be+ able to provide "y p ) !  
k9d ( models !y ne$1 = !re 0 no?+ h]oic1
 cle>-cut1 or creative ab\t !m4 ,_! fai?
 0 def5sive1 & x did n deal ) !         
realities ( life4 ,"y p turn away f t   
k9d ( religion4 ,& q rightly4 ,!y ne$ m5
 & wom5 ^: religion1 in/ead ( be+ a     
def5se aga9/ life1 provides !m ) !      
c\rage to move into life & become a "p (
 x1 to accept its problems & wre/le     
hone/ly = its mean+s2 ^: /yle ( ,*ri/ian
 liv+ is n compulsive1 b lib]at$2 n     
pret5ti\s1 b hone/2 ^: rev]5ce = ,god is
 n conf9$ to ! sanctu>y1 b is exhibit$ 9
 responsible relations ) p4 ,!y ne$     
models :o1 because ( _! religi\s fai?1  
are able to admit :5 !y are wrong & c   
ask = =giv5ess )\t feel+ a loss (       
p]sonal dignity4 ,!y ne$ religi\s tea*]s
 :o c portray1 bo? by ^w & by example1 !
 great p]sonalities ( ! tradition1 !    
h]oes & sa9ts2 tea*]s :o are cle> ab\t  

:at _! contribution really is1 :o c make
 cle> to y\? ! h]oism ( a man ( fai? &  
let x /& =? )\t all ! confusions (      
sup]/iti\s v5]ation4 ,!y ne$ a *ur* &   
religi\s tea*]s & memb]s t h a s5se (   
mission1 a reason & purpose = liv+ t is 
relat$ to all ! excit+ mean+s ( human   
life1 in/ead ( be+ conc]n$ ) su*        
irrelevancies z *ur*ism1 p>o*ialism1    
in/itutionalism1 & o!r mod]n idols4 ,9 !
 context ( ?is k9d ( example1           
adolesc5ts1 ev5 9 complex1 mod]n1       
indu/rial ,am]ica ) all its confus$     
values1 w h ! aid !y ne$ 9 ord] to move 
?r\gh ! intricacies ( _! developm5t &   
em]ge ) a s5se ( p]sonal id5tity & a    
capacity = relation%ip4   ,s5se (       
,integrity  ,a f9al objective ( love is 
to help ! individual1 :o by n[ has      
become an adolesc5t & is fa/ approa*+ ! 
?re%old ( adult life1 to a*ieve a s5se (
 integrity4 ,! acquisition ( ! s5ses (  
tru/1 autonomy1 initiative1 indu/ry1 &  
id5tity ?r\gh ! ye>s ( 8 developm5t %\ld
 prep>e him = responsible liv+ ) himself

 & o!rs4 ,mu* dep5ds1 z we h se51 on !  
ability & will+ness ( ^? 9 8 environm5t 
to accept1 respond to1 & guide him4 ,b  
!re is /ill unf9i%$ bus9ess ) :i* we mu/
 help him2 namely1 ! a*ievem5t ( a s5se 
( integrity4  ,a s5se ( integrity       
includes a capacity = intimacy ) o!rs4  
,m ?an sexual intimacy is meant1 al?\gh 
t is ( m importance ?an _m religi\s p   
want to admit4 ,= ! mom5t1 h[ev]1 we are
 ?9k+ ( intimacy 9 a g5]al s5se1 ( our  
capacity to p>ticipate 9 ! mean+s ( "o  
ano!r's lives1 to fuse into relation%ips
 )\t los+ our respective id5tities4 ,we 
see "y p /riv+ to a*ieve ?is k9d (      
relation ) ea* o!r ?r\gh _! talk+ ?+s   
ov] endlessly1 by confess+ :at "o feels 
l & :at ! o!r seems l1 & by %>+ dreams1 
ideals1 & ambitions4 ,:]e ?is is n      
a*iev$ by e>ly adul?ood1 ! individual   
may f9d himself sep>at$ f o!rs except = 
=mal & /]eotyp$ int]p]sonal relations4  
,only ! p]son :o is capable ( intimacy c
 become a p>tn] 9 any relation%ip4 ,p :o
 m>ry ) ! hope ( a*iev+ ! p[] ( intimacy

 are (t5 disappo9t$1 because mutually   
fulfill+ sexual intimacy requires a     
capacity = p]sonal intimacy4 ,:at we are
 try+ to say "h is t be=e "o c become a 
p>tn]1 "o mu/ fir/ be a p]son4 ,) ?is we
 h rea*$ a k9d ( summ>y 9 ! developm5t (
 our !sis :i* might be /at$ z foll[s3 ,a
 p]son is call$ into be+ out (          
relation%ip1 b ! p]son 9 8 sep>at5ess is
 necess>y to ! a*ievem5t ( a new        
relation%ip4  ,intimacy is n only       
platonic1 b sexual z well4 ,! gr[+ p]son
 ne$s help 9 acquir+ a pot5tial capacity
 = mutual1 satisfy+ intimacy ) a p>tn] (
 ! opposite sex4 ,het]osexual mutuality 
has religi\s significance1 s9ce sexual  
intimacy is suppos$ to be an outw>d &   
visible sign ( p]sonal intimacy4 ,yet   
religion is (t5 /rangely sil5t 9 ?is    
area1 & our "y p are (t5 misl$4 ,a      
te5-ag] rec5tly said1 ,i don't g mu* =  
?is platonic /uff4 ,:5 ask$ :y1 he said1
 ,i guess ,i'm too mu* ( a wolf4 ,:5    
ask$ :at he meant by be+ a wolf1 he said
 t he 0 int]e/$ only 9 mak+ love to a   

girl4 ,8 view ( intimacy1 :i* is simil> 
to t ( _m o!r "y p1 reveals at lea/ two 
misund]/&+s3 fir/1 ! sep>ation 9 8 m9d  
betwe5 ! platonic k9d ( relation%ip & ! 
sexual1 & secondly1 8 association ( !   
sexual ) wolf1 :i* is a symbol ( !      
subhuman4 ,religi\s tea*+ ne$s to affirm
 sexual intimacy z a "p ( p's lives1 &  
nurture !m s t _! sexual relation%ips   
may be a means ( grace r ?an a s\rce (  
guilt4  ,! a*ievem5t ( intimacy1 g5]al &
 specific1 leads to ! developm5t ( ano!r
 capacity ess5tial to integrity2 namely1
 ! capacity = g5]ation1 :e!r ( (fspr+ or
 creativity ( "s o!r k9d4 ,g5]ative     
capacity is basic to an individual's    
assumption ( responsibility1 & to 8     
ability to initiate & br+ to fulfillm5t 
new life or new expressions ( life4 ,!  
p[] ( orig9ation is op5 to anyone1 & we 
c ei!r affirm ! p[] or d5y x4 ,if we d5y
 x1 we %all h to f9d sub/itutes :i*     
usually are subp]sonal & :i* involve u 9
 a k9d ( sup]ficial b unfulfill+        
intimacy4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ! p]son )       

integrity is "o :o c initiate creativity
 ( 8 own1 or cons5t to & p>ticipate 9 ! 
creativity ( o!rs4 ,z ,dr4 ,erikson has 
po9t$ out1 he c be bo? a lead] & a      
foll[]4 ,^! are qualities & values ne$$ 
by all m51 & ! cultivation ( !m is !    
task ( ! *ur* & ! purpose ( its tea*+4  
,! objectives ( love1 we see1 are n     
ab/ract1 b specific & concrete4 ,love   
calls =? p]sons & reunites life ) life  
by provid+ ! relation%ips 9 :i* ! creat$
 ne$s ( m5 are met4 ,! environm5t ( sav+
 love is ne$$ to produce out ( our      
biological nature & ! physical _w 9 :i* 
we live ! image ( ,god 9 ea* ( u & !    
,k+dom ( ,god = all ( u4    #ag ,man's  
,ne$ & ,god's ,action1 ,reuel ,l4 ,h[e1 
,! ,seabury ,press1        ,gre5wi*1    
,connecticut1 #aiec1 ,*apt] ,v4   #ah   
,gr[? & ,crises ( ! ,heal?y ,p]sonality1
 ,erik ,h4 ,erikson4        ,pamphlet f 
,problems ( ,infancy & ,*ildhood1       
,josiah ,macy1        ,jr4 ,f\ndation1  
,new ,york1 #aiej4 ,us$ by p]mission4   
#ai ,ibid4   #bj ,ibid4     ,v  ,,^?    

,,:o ,,w\ld ,,love      ,we "k t we h   
pass$ out ( dea? into life1             
because we love ! bre?r54--#a ,john     
#c3ad   ,?us f> 9 our discussion we h   
consid]$ ! nature ( love1 ! developm5t (
 ! ne$s ( ! individual1 & ! objectives (
 love 9 call+ p]sons into be+4 ,n[ we   
turn to a discussion ( ! lov]1 or ( !   
p]son or p]sons :o are ! in/rum5ts ( t  
love1 su* z p>5ts1 tea*]s1 m9i/]s1 & e  
man ( :atev] function4 ,we %all also    
consid] ! nature ( ! relation%ip 9 :i*  
heal+ & reconciliation take place1 &    
consid] "s ( its res\rces4   ,! ,p[] ( !
 ,p]sonal  ,! doctr9e ( ! ,inc>nation1  
:i* und]lies ! :ole ,*ri/ian life1 is   
really ! doctr9e ( ! p]sonalization (   
love4 ,by x is meant ! embodim5t 9 man (
 ! life ( ,god ,:o is love4 ,!          
,inc>nation makes ?is life p]sonal1 &   
p]sons1 !re=e1 are ( prim>y importance  
to its exi/5ce & its mean+4 ,9 ea*      
g5]ation ! ,*ri/ian is call$ ^u to      
reaffirm 8 fai? 9 ! p[] ( p]sons liv+ 9 
relation to ,god & man4  ,our own       

g5]ation has a special ne$ = a          
reaffirmation ( ! p]sonal because ( our 
preoccupation ) sci5ce & te*nology1 & ) 
va/ space & enorm\s p[]4 ,"o wond]s1 &  
he>s o!rs wond]+1 :at good is a p]son 9 
! face ( all ^! masses1 spaces1 &       
complexities4 ,b x 0 reveal$ 9 ,*ri/1 & 
e n[ & !n x is reveal$ to u afre%1 t !  
:ole va/ /ructure ( life is dep5d5t ^u !
 p[] ( p]sons & ^u our ex]cise ( ! p[] (
 ! p]sonal4 ,! "* ( man1 express$ 9 8   
relations ) 8 fell[ man1 w f9ally       
det]m9e :e!r we w use our va/ p[]s      
creatively or = our de/ruction4  ,!     
prim>y vocation ( ! ,*ri/ian 9 ?is "t is
 to respond to ! call ( ! p]son to be   
p]sonal4 ,! *ur* memb]s ) ^: conv]sation
 we began ?is book1 seem$ oblivi\s to ! 
p]sonal nature ( ! *ur*'s purpose4 ,!y 7
 conc]n$ ab\t sub/itutes = ! p]sonal1   
ab\t in/itutions & pr(essional gr\ps1   
ab\t a legali/ic morality1 & ab\t k =   
its own sake4 ,any "o ( _! conc]ns1 if  
caught up 9 ! vitality ( ! p]sonal1 c\ld
 h valuable mean+4 ,law1 z we h se51 has

 its role1 if x is a "p ( love4 ,human  
ef=t is important z p]sonal response to 
:at ,god has done = u4 ,dep5d5ce ^u !   
cl]gy is a "p ( ! life ( ! *ur*1 b ! "w 
( ! cl]gy1 z we h se51 _c be a sub/itute
 = ! m9i/ry ( ! :ole *ur*4 ,! *ur* is   
important1 b x does n f9d its mean+ 9   
its isolation f ! _w4 ,& k ab\t ,god1 ,8
 creation1 & r$emption is necess>y to ! 
,*ri/ian life1 b su* k mu/ f9d its mean+
 9 our liv+ relation ) ,god4  ,! rec5t  
emphasis on ! int]p]sonal & gr\p process
 has contribut$ mu* to our und]/&+s ( ! 
human relation%ips ( ,*ri/ian fell[%ip4 
,z a result ( ! emphasis1 a new pol>ity 
op]ates 9 ! life & tea*+ ( ! *ur*3 "o   
pole is ! cont5t ( ! ,good ,news2 ! o!r 
pole is ! enc\nt] betwe5 m5 9 :i* !     
,good ,news is realiz$4 ,un=tunately1 ! 
image ( ! relation%ip betwe5 ! enc\nt] &
 ! cont5t ( ! ,*ri/ian fai? has be5 &   
/ill is t ( oppon5ts 9 a battle4 ,?is   
concept is errone\s1 = any dialogue mu/ 
h cont5t4 ,! conv]sation betwe5 two p t 
is n in=m$ by le>n+ produces nons5se4   

,discussion gr\ps h reveal$ _! pov]ty :5
 !y h n be5 in=m$ by responsible k2     
fell[%ip = ! sake ( fell[%ip becomes    
tiresome2 & relation%ip )\t good        
discipl9e1 :e!r 9 ! home or else:]e1    
becomes *aos & an>*y4 ,s1 !re are "s    
discipl9es t we ne$ to obs]ve z p]sons 9
 :om ! ,_s ( ,god seeks to inc>nate ,8  
love4   ,we ,ne$ ,in=m$ ,*ri/ians       
,fir/1 if we are to embody & express !  
love ( ,*ri/ 9 our g5]ation1 we mu/ keep
 our m9ds al]t & our int]e/s alive4 ,at 
?is po9t1 *ur* p fail 9 sev]al ways4    
,in/ead ( hav+ m9ds t se>* = ! mean+ (  
life 9 ,*ri/ian t]ms1 !y sometimes h    
m9ds fill$ ) mu/y op9ions & prejudices4 
,an o!rwise al]t lawy]1 = example1 said 
t he did n want 8 *ur* to take a /& on  
any ( ! great social issues1 b /ick to  
its subject1 namely1 religion4 ,?is     
preoccupation ) ! subject matt] (       
religion ap>t f its relevance to life is
 a *>act]i/ic failure ( _m *ur* p4  ,z  
,*ri/ian *ur*m51 we d n ne$ to be s*ol>s
 9 religion1 b we %\ld be int]e/$ 9 !   

issues ( life1 op5 to new und]/&+s1 &   
engag$ 9 "s k9d ( read+ or /udy t w keep
 u in=m$ & intellectually awake4 ,only 9
 ?is way c we keep ourselves f fall+    
into n>r[ little ruts & pull+ ! _w 9    
aft] u4 ,a "p ( our m9i/ry is to        
p>ticipate 9 & help to keep alive !     
dialogue betwe5 man & man1 betwe5 ! *ur*
 & ! _w1 betwe5 ,*ri/ian ?\ght & !      
problems ( exi/5ce4 ,emotional &        
op9ionat$ ?9k+ ab\t religion1 values1 & 
social issues is appall+ly preval5t     
among religi\s p4 ,! conv]sations ( *ur*
 memb]s (t5 are pitiful 9 _! conc]n = ! 
trivial affairs ( ! local *ur* &        
in/itution1 ab\t its build+ &           
organizations1 its supp]s & baza>s4 ,:at
 a pa!tic & inconsequ5tial way ( s]v+   
,*ri/6 ,he ne$s1 in/ead1 m5 & wom5 :o   
are out on ! fronti]s ( mod]n life1     
repres5t+ ,8 message to ! _w4  ,!       
accompli%m5t ( an intellectually &      
socially responsible m9i/ry calls = "s  
ef=t on ! "p ( ! local *ur*4 ,9 ! fir/  
place1 ! m9i/] w h to prea*1 & tea* out 

(1 ! gospel 9 its relation to life4     
,in/ead ( talk+ s mu* ab\t religion z an
 end 9 itself1 he ought to talk ab\t    
life 9 ! context ( ! tea*+ ( religion4  
,! cont5t ( 8 s]mons & in/ructions %\ld 
be ! affairs ( m51 = ^! raise ! que/ions
 = :i* ! gospel 0 giv54 ,! discussion ( 
religion ap>t f life produces a laity   
:o1 9 _! life 9 ! _w1 are unable to     
repres5t ! message ( ! gospel1 because  
!y d n "k t ! message ( ! gospel has any
 relation to ! affairs ( life4 ,!n we   
he> su* laym5 say to any m9i/] :o might 
try to speak relevantly to human        
que/ions3 ,/ick to y\r subject2 ,i don't
 ?9k ^! ?+s are ! bus9ess ( ! *ur*4     
,*ur* memb]s1 z a "p ( _! devotion to   
,*ri/ :o _h love = ! _w1 %\ld try to    
und]/& ! life ( ! _w 9 t]ms ( its deepe/
 mean+s1 & n be cont5t ) m]ely its      
sup]ficial values4 ,!y w read articles &
 books & editorials1 & li/5 to spee*es &
 =ums on television & radio1 n only t !y
 may be in=m$1 b also t !y may be in=m$ 
= ,god & may s]ve ,him bett] 9 ! _w4    

,religion t seeks escape f ! _w1 &      
simil>ly ! p]son :o w n assume          
responsibility = ,god 9 ! _w1 is s9ful &
 idolatr\s4 ,protection aga9/ ?is s9 &  
idolatry is p>tly secur$ by s]v+ ,god ) 
our m9ds & our int]e/s4   ,pray] & !    
,life ( ,devotion  ,a second discipl9e (
 ! responsible ,*ri/ian is ! discipl9e (
 pray] & devotion4 ,we _c live 9        
relation to ,god & s]ve ,him if we d n  
communicate ) ,him4 ,pray] is "o ( !    
indisp5sable =ms ( ! dialogue betwe5 man
 & man1 man & ,god1 & ,god & ! _w4      
,un=tunately1 h[ev]1 _m p1 includ+ "s   
cl]gym51 h giv5 up pray]1 because x     
seems unreali/ic & unfruitful 9 ?is     
sci5tific age4 ,a "p ( our tr\ble may be
 t we t5d to sep>ate our acts ( pray] f 
our life ( devotion4 ,or1 to use a      
concept we h employ$ e>li]1 we sep>ate !
 =ms ( pray]s f ! vitality :i* provides 
! life ( devotion4 ,bo? public & private
 pray] lose _! vitality by ?is sep>ation
 ( =m f life1 & by ! sep>ation ( ,god f 
! _w1 s t we make ,him ! mon>* (        

religion in/ead ( ! creator & r$eem] (  
life4 ,because ( our belief 9 love z    
,god's *os5 relation to ! _w & 9 !      
inc>nation ( love 9 ! p]sonal1 x becomes
 possible = our pray]s & wor%ip to be   
quick5$ ?r\gh our devotion to ! purposes
 ( ,god 9 ! _w4  ,an analogy may help u 
"h4 ,e relation%ip has its devotional   
rituals & obs]vances :i* are important  
to x4 ,husb& & wife1 = in/ance1 because 
( _! love & devotion to ea* o!r1 develop
 little rituals & ways ( do+ t are      
design$ to express _! devotion to ea*   
o!r4 ,!y come toge!r = ?is purpose4 ,!re
 is ! kiss1 ! t\* ( ! h&1 ! gifts on    
special occasions & ^? :i* come z       
surprises2 _! physical union is ! symbol
 & in/rum5t ( _! spiritual union &      
becomes ! sacram5t ( _! relation%ip z   
p]sons4 ,b ^! acts ( love presuppose &  
dep5d ^u _! ov]-all & lifelong devotion 
to ea* o!r 9 ev]y?+ t !y d4 ,_! life (  
devotion to ea* o!r provides ! cont5t & 
drive = _! acts ( devotion1 & _! acts ( 
devotion are a means ( express+ _! life 

( devotion4 ,_! life ( devotion ne$s ^! 
acts ( devotion1 & )\t ! life ( devotion
 _! acts ( devotion w dry up & become   
mean+less4  ,s x is 9 our relation to   
,god4 ,we _c fall on our knees & cry )  
any mean+3 ,o ,god1 ,o ,fa!r1 ,o ,judge1
 ,o ,savior1 if our :ole lives are n    
liv$ 9 ! context ( ! mean+ ( ^!         
exclamations4 ,!n our words become empty
 & _c rise above our lips1 & we are     
ov]come by ! despair & futility ( our   
pray]s4 ,pray] may n be recov]$ by go+  
to a s*ool ( pray] to le>n v>i\s        
te*niques & k9ds ( pray]1 b by rek9dl+  
our devotion to ! p & ! _w = :om ,*ri/  
di$4 ,!n1 by practic+ our acts (        
devotion 9 ! context ( su* a life (     
devotion1 we may r$iscov] ! mean+ (     
pray]4 ,our acts ( devotion _c be       
quick5$ by ! int5sification ( our pray] 
activity alone4 ,_m p :o are frantically
 try+ to :ip up _! pray] life w\ld d    
bett] to get up (f _! knees & g out & d 
some?+ ab\t _! loveless1 purposeless1 & 
undevot$ lives4 ,! devotion ( ! s-call$ 

*ildr5 ( d>kness to ! pursuit ( _!      
sci5tific or indu/rial purposes may be m
 impressive ?an ! va9 babbl+s ( !       
s-call$ *ildr5 ( ,god ab\t _! s\ls4 ,!  
trivial conc]ns ( "s religi\s p /& 9    
uncomplim5t>y contra/ to ! h]oism ( !   
rese>*]'s devotion to 8 project & to !  
sci5ti/'s devotion to 8 exp]im5t4       
,p]haps ! purposes ( ,god are m s]v$ by 
!m ?an by u1 al?\gh by !m ,8 purposes   
may n be s]v$ consci\sly4  ,h[ c ! life 
( devotion & ! acts ( devotion be br\ght
 toge!r8 ,:5 employ] & labor lead] meet 
to "w out ! problems ( fair employm5t1  
!y may d s ei!r z a necess>y "p ( _!    
bus9ess1 :i* ( c\rse x is1 or z a way ( 
express+ _! devotion to ,god4 ,god's    
love is conc]n$ ) ju/ice betwe5 employ] 
& employee1 & ! employ] & ! labor lead] 
p>ticipate 9 ! "w ( ,god 9 ! _w by _!   
devotion to ^! problems4 ,?is is bo? _! 
way ( be+ responsible bus9essm5 &       
citiz5s1 & _! way ( lov+ ,god & assum+  
responsibility = ,him4 ,to :atev] degree
 !y recognize ?is z be+ true1 !y w f9d  

satisfaction & mean+ 9 ! (f]+ ( _! ef=t 
z an act ( rev]5ce to ,god1 toge!r ) a  
private pray] = ,8 guidance t ea* may be
 op5 n only to :at ,god is try+ to d    
?r\gh him1 b op5 also to :at ,he is try+
 to d ?r\gh ! o!r4  ,9 our acts (       
devotion1 !re=e1 we pray = a life (     
devotion 9 :i* we may be ! in/rum5ts (  
,god's purposes 9 ! inc>nations ( ,8    
,_s4 ,we pray also = o!rs1 = our *ildr51
 = our pupils1 = our associates1 :e!r !y
 be employees1 pe]s or sup]iors1 t !y   
too may be inc>nations ( ,god's ,_s &   
in/rum5ts = ! accompli%m5t ( ,8 purpose4
  ,acts ( devotion1 9 ! context ( ?is   
k9d ( life ( devotion1 *ange ! :ole     
focus ( human relations & get !m (f _!  
self-c5t]$1 competitive1 & ali5at+      
basis4 ,acts ( devotion are revitaliz$  
by be+ re/or$ to a relation to ! life ( 
devotion1 & ! life ( devotion is giv5 an
 opportunity 9 acts ( devotion to       
articulate its mean+1 & to be guid$ &   
r5ew$ 9 ! dialogue betwe5 ,god & man z  
express$ 9 wor%ip4 ,& ! union ( ! acts (

 devotion ) ! life ( devotion w illum9e 
anew = u ! mean+ ( daily life1 & our    
relation%ip ) "o ano!r4 ,x w improve our
 dialogue ) "o ano!r & ) ,god4   ,!     
,practice ( ,creativity  ,a ?ird        
discipl9e to be practic$ by ! p]son     
?r\gh :om ! ,_s w\ld "w is ! cultivation
 ( creative activity4 ,by ! discipl9e ( 
creativity1 ,i mean ! discipl9e ( le>n+ 
& p]fect+ "s skill 9 art or music or    
h&icraft or sport 9 :i* !re is          
opportunity to co-ord9ate motor & m5tal 
p[]s & to ga9 !refrom "s s5se (         
a*ievem5t4 ,a creative approa* to life1 
( c\rse1 is a "p ( a life ( devotion4   
,creative activity is indisp5sable to ! 
heal? ( ! human s\l1 especially 9 ?is   
day :5 !re is an increas+ gap betwe5 our
 ef=ts & _! result4  ,mo!rs are (t5     
fru/rat$ & unhappy because !y d n see   
imm$iately 9 _! *ildr5 ! good results ( 
_! long & pa9ful ef=ts 9 _! behalf4     
,tea*]s c "w ) a pupil = mon?s & ye>s & 
/ill n h a cle>-cut s5se ( a*ievem5t4 ,!
 man 9 8 (fice may be b a "p ( a huge   

organization1 & ! results ( 8 labors are
 nei!r conclusive nor a s\rce ( imm$iate
 satisfaction to him4 ,! rese>*] may h  
to "w = ye>s be=e he a*ieves ! results =
 :i* he is look+4 ,inde$1 he may nev]   
ga9 !m = himself1 because ! "w t he does
 may only lead to ! "w ( o!rs1 & /ill   
o!rs w reap ! h>ve/4 ,!n !re are _m     
engag$ 9 "w f :i* little s5se (         
a*ievem5t c be ga9$1 & yet x is necess>y
 "w & provides !m ) a liv+4 ,lack (     
response or delay$ response to human    
ef=t c be pr(\ndly fru/rat+ to ! human  
_s1 & fru/rat$ p d n make good in/rum5ts
 = ! expression ( love4 ,x is imp]ative1
 !re=e1 t ^? :o w\ld be lov]s ( man &   
,god %\ld f9d sub/itute ways 9 :i* to   
close ! gap betwe5 _! ef=t & _!         
a*ievem5t4  ,! p]son :o has a s5se (    
creative outlets is "o1 !re=e1 :o has   
great] p[]s ( endurance1 pati5ce1 &     
c\rage ) :i* to face ! *all5ges & ?reats
 ( life4 ,he is apt to be m free to     
love1 & he w gr[ old m gracefully4  ,!  
discipl9e ( creative action ne$s to be  

plann$1 "t ne$s to be all[$ = x1 & ^?   
activities *os5 :i* are feasible &      
appropriate to ! p]son & 8 circum/ances4
 ,we c le>n to plan ahead s t f "t to "t
 we are prep>$ to und]take new projects4
 ,an eld]ly p]son ( ! writ]'s           
acqua9tance began1 dur+ 8 sixties1 to   
le>n some?+ new ea* ye>4 ,! result 0 t 8
 _s rema9$ y\?ful & 8 int]e/ 9 life 0   
kept alive4 ,n only is ?is k9d (        
activity fun1 b also x is a way by :i*  
to keep oneself op5 to ! possibilities (
 life4 ,x becomes a way 9 :i* "o c live 
devotionally & realize )9 himself & 9 8 
relations ) o!rs ! image ( ! creative   
,god by ,:om he 0 creat$4   ,relation%ip
 z ,res\rce  ,we come n[ to a           
consid]ation ( ! quality ( relation%ip t
 nurtures p]sons4 ,we discuss$ ?is e>li]
 f ! po9t ( view ( ! *ild's ne$ to be   
lov$1 8 ne$ to love1 & 8 ne$ to h 8     
ef=ts to love welcom$4 ,b n[ we turn to 
a discussion ( relation%ip z a res\rce f
 ! po9t ( view ( ! "o :o is giv+ ! love4
 ,we are ?9k+ ( ! p>5t1 ! tea*]1 !      

pa/or1 or any o!r p]son :o makes himself
 responsible = o!rs4  ,x is curi\s h[   
little we ?9k ( our relation%ip ) "o    
ano!r z a res\rce4 ,:5 someone comes to 
u :o is 9 tr\ble1 we (t5 say1 ,i wi% ,i 
c\ld ?9k ( some?+ to d or say t w\ld    
help him1 n realiz+ t ! greate/ ?+ we c 
d is to be a p]son 9 relation to him4   
,"h aga9 we realize ! mean+ ( !         
inc>nation4 ,ev]yone :o hopes to        
p>ticipate 9 ! life ( ,*ri/ 9 ! _w today
 is call$ to be a p]son 9 relation to   
o!rs1 & :atev] he ?9ks to d or say %\ld 
be an expression ( :at he is4  ,if we   
say or d some?+ t is helpful to o!rs1 x 
is because we are really pres5t to !m1  
really he> :at !y are try+ to say1 & !y 
"k t we are ) !m4 ,on ! o!r h&1 we all h
 _h ! exp]i5ce1 :5 we 7 9 tr\ble & ne$$ 
help1 ( hav+ w\ld-be advis]s & com=t]s  
make all k9ds ( sugge/ions & v]balize   
all k9ds ( w\ld-be com=t+ ?\ghts1 b h   
lack$ ! feel+ t !y 7 really ) u4 ,i     
sometimes h ! impression t we l ! idea (
 be+ helpful p]sons1 b dislike ! dem& & 

di/urbance t goes ) x4 ,x is easi] to be
 dep]sonaliz$ & pr(essional1 b          
pr(essionalism is ! enemy ( relation%ip4
  ,pr(essionalism is ! conduct ( a      
relation%ip = its own sake or = ! sake (
 ! help+ p]son :o is conduct+ x1 r ?an =
 ! "o = :om x 0 int5d$4 ,physicians1 =  
in/ance1 exhibit pr(essionalism :5 !y   
practice m$ic9e )\t conc]n = ! pati5t4  
,tea*]s exhibit pr(essionalism :5 !y    
tea* _! subject z an end 9 itself or =  
_! own satisfaction4 ,m9i/]s c be       
pr(essional 9 relation to _! p>i%ion]s4 
,p>5ts c be pr(essional 9 relation to _!
 *ildr54 ,any relation%ip c det]iorate  
into m]e pr(essionalism4  ,:at are "s ( 
! m>ks ( pr(essionalism8 ,9 ! fir/      
place1 pr(essionalism is m>k$ by        
condesc5sion 9 :i* an attitude (        
sup]iority is evid5t4 ,p>5ts are he>d to
 say3 ,*ildr5 are j *ildr51 y "k4 ,!y   
don't "k :at !y want2 !y don't "k :at   
!y're talk+ ab\t4 ,attitudes (          
condesc5sion are contradictory to !     
concept ( inc>nation1 :i* means to be a 

"p ( & id5tifi$ ) ano!r4 ,condesc5sion1 
!re=e1 closes u to ! possibility ( be+  
indwelt by ! ,_s & f be+ ! in/rum5ts (  
love4  ,ano!r m>k ( pr(essionalism is   
its manipulative t5d5cy4 ,we pu% p ar\nd
 & get !m to d :at we want !m to d1     
because x is easi] t way4 ,"m kn[s be/1 
,y d x because ,i tell y4 ,obvi\sly1 !  
pr(essional attitude is ali5at+1 because
 p d n l to be pu%$ ar\nd1 & !y w n be1 
if !y c help x2 & if !y are1 !y res5t x4
 ,pr(essionalism impov]i%es relation%ip 
because1 = in/ance1 nei!r ! p>5t nor !  
*ild gives or receives4 ,! effect (     
pr(essionalism does n ne$ to be spell$  
out 9 any great] detail1 because we all 
h exp]i5c$ & p>ticipat$ 9 x4 ,we may m  
usefully turn our att5tion to a /udy ( !
 "* ( relation%ip t is ! s\rce ( life4  
,! ,values ( ,mutuality  ,p]sonal gr[?  
is nurtur$ be/ 9 relation%ips 9 :i* !   
quality ( mutuality makes gr[? a        
possibility = bo? ! *ild & ! p>5t1 !    
pupil & ! tea*]4 ,if gr[? occurs on "o  
side1 x mu/ take place also on ! o!r4   

,if p>5t or tea*] does n gr[1 !n we mu/ 
conclude t ! relation%ip is n mutual & t
 ! *ild w n prosp] ei!r4 ,mutuality     
means t ! tea*] & pupil1 or p>5t & *ild1
 are op5 to ea* o!r4 ,:5 "o speaks1 he  
expects to be he>d by ! o!r4            
,communication inevitably takes place 9 
a relation%ip ( mutual expectancy4      
,communication produces a p]sonal       
enc\nt] 9 :i* "o addresses & ! o!r      
responds1 & a real meet+ occurs4 ,we _c 
make ?is k9d ( p]sonal meet+ take place4
 ,we c only prep>e ourselves = x1 :i* is
 "o way ( ?9k+ ( pray]4 ,:5 we practice 
expectancy 9 our relation%ips1 we are   
prep>+ ourselves = possible dep? meet+s 
t may take place betwe5 o!rs &          
ourselves4 ,prep>ation means ridd+      
ourselves ( prejudices & preconceptions1
 fe>s & anxieties1 ult]ior motives &    
purposes1 9 ord] t we may speak ! ^w (  
love & tru? to o!rs1 & really he> ! ^w (
 love & tru? t !y speak to u4 ,9 simil> 
fa%ion1 we may prep>e ourselves to be   
op5 to :atev] ,god may speak to u ?r\gh 

p]sons or situations dur+ t day4        
,f9ally1 because we h ?us prep>$        
ourselves = a real meet+ betwe5 p1 we w 
n s easily seek to manipulate & exploit 
!m4   ,mutual ,att5tion  ,! quality (   
mutuality calls = mutual att5tion4 ,^?  
:o w\ld call ea* o!r into be+ & be !    
in/rum5t ( ,god's love 9 human relations
 mu/ pay att5tion to ea* o!r4 ,x is     
difficult to speak if we d n h ! li/5]'s
 att5tion2 x is difficult to li/5 if we 
d n h ! speak]'s att5tion4 ,abs5ce (    
mutual att5tion breaks d[n              
communication4 ,s]mons may n h !        
att5tion ( ! congregation because !     
prea*]'s att5tion is fix$ only on !     
s]mon z a production1 or on himself z a 
p]=m]1 & n on ! congregation t he is n[ 
address+1 & ^: response is necess>y if 8
 s]mon1 z communication1 is to be       
complet$4 ,likewise1 a *ild may n he> ! 
p>5t because ! p>5t is n really pay+    
att5tion to ! *ild4 ,we he> ourselves   
say+1 ,look "h1 y pay att5tion to me4   
,we say x 9 desp]ation because we "k t  

our angry comm& w n accompli% ! desir$  
result4 ,! inatt5tion t we receive f "o 
ano!r disc\rages u p]sonally & blocks ! 
possibility ( ! dialogue t might reunite
 u4  ,h[ c we secure ! att5tion ( o!rs8 
,! answ] is simple3 by be+ att5tive4 ,z 
a tea*] ,i h f\nd t if ,i am really     
att5tive to my pupils1 !y pay att5tion  
to me4 ,b if ,i am j do+ a job & n      
really conc]n$ ab\t !m1 !y d n he> me   
because ,i am n he>+ !m4 ,if we want    
att5tion we mu/ be att5tive4 ,if we want
 love we mu/ love4 ,if we want any?+ we 
mu/ give x4 ,?is is a ,*ri/ian pr9ciple4
 ,we _c dem& some?+ & get x4 ,att5tion1 
!n1 is a gift t we give "o ano!r4 ,we   
give ! gift ( att5tion & receive x 9    
return4 ,we h no automatic "r to x1 nor 
does anyone4  ,att5tiv5ess is some?+ t c
 be le>n$4 ,we le>n by hav+ eyes t see &
 e>s t he>4 ,eyes1 ( c\rse1 are made =  
see+ & e>s = he>+1 b we c le>n also to  
he> ) our eyes & see ) our e>s4 ,:5 ,i  
am seek+ to und]/& ano!r1 = example1 ,i 
f9d t :at ,i see 9 8 face & mann] helps 

me to und]/& :at he is say+2 &1         
likewise1 att5tive he>+ helps me to     
und]/& :at he is also reveal+ 9 8 face &
 mann]4 ,we pay att5tion by wat*+ !     
eyes1 facial expressions1 & behavior (  
p1 by li/5+ = ! "q beh9d ! "q & = !     
mean+ beh9d ! mean+1 rememb]+ t !re is  
trem5d\s cont5t beh9d :at is said & %[n4
 ,if we w\ld be s]vants ( love1 we mu/ h
 e>s t really he> & eyes t really see2  
&1 l our ,"l1 he> & see deeply 9 ord] t 
! tru? :i* m5 are really seek+ may be   
f\nd4 ,su* he>+ & see+ 0 ! gift ( ,*ri/ 
to m51 & %\ld !re=e be ! gift (         
,*ri/ians to m54  ,x foll[s1 !n1 t !    
good tea*] is "o :o1 p>ticipat+ 9 a     
relation%ip ) our ,ma/] ,tea*]1 c accept
 any "q t a p]son may br+1 kn[+ t if he 
/ays ) x1 he w be l$1 /ep by /ep1 to t  
p]son's real conc]n4 ,:5 ! tea*] gives t
 k9d ( att5tion1 ! /ud5ts are m apt to  
respond relevantly1 :i* is _! att5tion  
to ! tea*]4 ,!n ! tea*] has ! wond]ful  
exp]i5ce ( mutual att5tion 9 :i*        
mean+ful communication has tak5 place4  

,:at ,i h said ab\t tea*+ & !           
relation%ip betwe5 tea*] & pupil is true
 ( all relation%ips4 ,! rew>d = ! gift (
 att5tion is t o!rs w respond ) clues 9 
! =m ( que/ions or comm5ts t w enable u 
to meet !m at ! po9t ( ! mean+ ( _!     
life4 ,n only does ?is k9d ( li/5+      
provide a basis = a highly significant  
curriculum = tea*+1 z we saw e>li]1 b   
also a basis = true human community &   
communication4 ,our self-c5t]$ness1     
h[ev]1 gives u a natural pull away f    
att5tiv5ess4 ,b ! ,_s ( ,*ri/ ,:o1 9    
draw+ u to ,him1 draws u to "o ano!r1 w 
make mutual att5tiv5ess possible s t    
two-way communication w become a reality
 = u4  ,"o curr5t objection to ?is k9d (
 mutual att5tiv5ess travels "u two      
guises3 "o is ! possibility ( be+       
(f5sively nosy & intrusive2 ! o!r is !  
fe> ( really violat+ ! privacy ( o!r p4 
,c]ta9ly1 privacy %\ld be respect$1 & we
 %\ld n =ce ourselves ^u o!rs1 b        
att5tiv5ess is n intrusiv5ess4 ,e human 
be+ wants to be kn[n & to "k z a p]son1 

& 9 ways t are bo? consci\s &           
unconsci\s4 ,we seek o!rs t we may be   
kn[n & may "k4 ,att5tiv5ess is really   
al]tness to ! lonely cry ( man1 &       
respects r ?an violates ! individual's  
sep>at5ess & sanctity4   ,mutual        
,respect  ,mutual respect is also a     
necess>y quality 9 human relations4     
,respect = oneself & = o!rs is n z      
common z "o might expect4 ,we f9d       
self-conc]n & "s conc]n = o!rs1 b n     
respect4 ,respect = o!rs is h>d to      
ma9ta9 if "o does n respect oneself1 & x
 is appall+ to realize :at l[ e/imates  
_m p h ( !mselves4 ,al?\gh !y may       
disguise f !mselves & o!rs _! despair   
ab\t !mselves 9 _m +5i\s ways1 lack (   
self-respect nev]!less is *>act]i/ic (  
_m p's self-image4 ,_! view ( !mselves  
results l>gely f _! exp]i5ces 9         
relation%ip1 _m ( :i* we h already      
discuss$4 ,we may try to prev5t !       
developm5t ( negative attitudes & feel+s
 t[>d ourselves & our *ildr51 b no matt]
 h[ lov+ we try to be1 we %all          

inevitably cause "s injury1 di/ortion1 &
 deprivation to ! matur+ p]son4  ,:at1  
!n1 is ! answ] to ?is human problem8 ,if
 ! effect ( gr[+ up is to produce 9 u   
misgiv+s ab\t ourselves & o!rs1 h[ c we 
acquire ! self-respect & respect = o!rs 
:i* is necess>y = ^? :o w\ld truly s]ve 
,god & man8 ,s9ce mutual respect is a   
necess>y condition = creative human     
relations1 x is necess>y t ! vici\s     
circle ( non-respect be brok5 by        
someone4 ,x is at ?is po9t t our        
p>ticipation 9 ! re-creat+ life ( ,god 9
 ,*ri/1 :i* is made possible by !       
pres5ce & "w ( ,8 ,_s 9 u1 makes a      
decisive diff]5ce 9 our self-e/imate4   
,! ,inc>nation is ! affirmation ( ,god's
 fai? 9 ,8 creation4 ,*ri/ is an        
expression ( ,god's fai? 9 man & :at ,he
 is able to d ?r\gh man4 ,! pr9ciple (  
mutuality1 :i* we h be5 affirm+ 9 our   
pres5t discussion1 is true n only = !   
relation betwe5 man & man1 b betwe5 man 
& ,god z well4 ,= ! love ( ,god 9 ,*ri/ 
affirms our value z p]sons 9 ,8 desire  

to "w ?r\gh ! p :o w respond to ,8 love1
 & %[s ,8 respect = :at !y c d4 ,god's  
love & respect = m5 0 express$ ?r\gh !  
p]son ( ,jesus & cont9ues to be express$
 ?r\gh p]sons 9 ea* g5]ation4 ,8 p1 !   
s]vants ( ,8 ,_s1 are ! ones :o w break 
! vici\s circle ( mutual non-respect1 & 
give ! gift ( mutual respect4  ,we c    
respect ourselves1 !re=e1 because ,god  
%[s ,8 respect = u by lov+ & work+ ?r\gh
 u4 ,:5 we h a great task to d t calls =
 ! c\rage & h]oism ( love1 we c take a  
*ance & set ourselves to ! task because 
our fai? 9 ,god makes x possible to h   
fai? 9 ourselves & 9 ^? :om we w\ld     
love4 ,:5 we let our misgiv+s det] u s t
 we turn away f ! *all5ges ( love1 we n 
only repudiate ourselves1 b also turn   
our backs on ,god's affirm+ judgm5t ( u4
  ,mutual respect has "s id5tifiable    
*>act]i/ics4 ,fir/1 we mu/ respect "o   
ano!r z autonom\s1 decid+ p]sons4 ,we _c
 make our *ildr5 & o!rs d :at we may ?9k
 !y ought to d4 ,we c only meet !m )    
:atev] res\rces we h1 & out ( respect = 

_! own p[] ( decision & action leave !m 
free to make _! response4 ,!n1 :5 !y h  
made x1 we mu/ respect x ev5 ?\gh !y may
 n be do+ :at we want !m to d or do+ x 9
 ! way we ?9k be/4 ,our decisions & way 
( life w n "w = o!rs4  ,we mu/ also     
respect "o ano!r's dep5d5ce4 ,b respect 
= o!rs' dep5d5ce %\ld n increase x2 t   
is1 we %\ld try to meet _! ne$1 b n     
exploit x4 ,"s ye>s ago ,i 0 invit$ to  
lead a cl]gy conf]5ce on ! subject (    
pa/oral c\nsel+4 ,dur+ ! op5+ d9n] be=e 
! beg9n+ ( ! sessions1 ,i sat next to a 
m9i/] :o tri$ to impress me ) h[ mu* he 
knew ab\t pa/oral c\nsel+4 ,among o!r   
?+s1 he said1 ,y "k1 x's a wond]ful ?+  
to /& up be=e my congregation on ,sunday
 morn+ & be able to c\nt ! increas+     
numb] ( p :o dep5d ^u me = my pa/oral   
c>e4 ,! temptation to exploit human ne$ 
is insidi\s1 & we h all succumb$ to x _m
 times & 9 _m ways4 ,t pa/or might bett]
 h rejoic$ 9 ^? ( 8 congregation :o1 9  
spite ( _! dep5d5ce & ne$1 7 able to use
 8 help 9 _! own indep5d5t way & ?us gr[

 /rong] & m res\rceful4 ,likewise1 we   
may m9i/] to ! ne$s ( our *ildr5 &      
accept _! dep5d5ce 9 ways t demon/rate  
our respect = !m & our expectation t !y 
w become m responsible4  ,mutual respect
 also calls = respect ( o!rs :o mu/     
answ] = _! own lives4 ,:ile x is true t 
we are dep5d5t ^u ,god & ,8 love = u1   
our response z individuals is a necess>y
 complem5t to :at ,he has done4 ,! s\rce
 ( our life & ( our r$emption is 9 ,god1
 b we h to respond1 & our responsible   
action makes complete :at ,god has done 
= u4 ,!re=e1 we respect ourselves z hav+
 )9 ourselves ! p[] ( answ] = our own   
lives4 ,mutual respect = "o ano!r z     
responsible be+s increases our          
self-respect1 &1 conv]sely1 our gr[+    
self-respect increases ! respect we h = 
o!rs4   ,mutual ,tru/  ,mutual tru/ is a
 ?ird necess>y quality 9 human life4 ,z 
we saw e>li]1 no?+ c happ5 9 any        
relation%ip :]e !re is n tru/1 & yet1   
lack ( tru/ is ev]y:]e preval5t4 ,!     
great "q is3 ,h[ c we tru/ :5 we h su*  

/rong feel+s ( mi/ru/ n only ( p]sons1 b
 also ( ! process ( life8 ,i h (t5 _h ^!
 misgiv+s z a tea*] :51 beg9n+ ) new    
/ud5ts1 ,i wond]$ h[ we c\ld g ?r\gh !  
crises ( le>n+ aga94 ,:]e w\ld ,i f9d ! 
/r5g? & c\rage = ! *all5ges8 ,w\ld !y   
respond to _! opportunities & res\rces8 
,p>5ts h ! same que/ions :5 !y ?9k ( _! 
*ildr5 & wond] if1 aft] all ! ye>s (    
c>e1 !y w turn out all "r4 ,sometimes we
 become ov]:elm$ at ! %e] weight &      
endlessness ( our responsibilities1 & 9 
^? mom5ts we become pr(\ndly disc\rag$4 
,! ne$ ( love is desp]ate1 & we feel    
:olly unequal to meet+ t ne$4 ,h[       
wond]ful x w\ld be if we c\ld h m       
confid5ce 9 ourselves & 9 o!rs1 &       
likewise 9 ! processes ( life to :i* we 
mu/ commit ourselves4 ,! answ] to ?is   
long+ is 9 ! old1 b ev] new1 affirmation
 t ^? :o h fai? 9 ,god c h fai? 9 man & 
9 ! relation%ips ( life4  ,z we read    
,paul's epi/les to ! ,cor9?ians1 we may 
notice t he seems to h be5 m confid5t ( 
!m ?an !y 7 ( !mselves4 ,yet1 8         

confid5ce 9 !m 0 n s mu* 9 !m z x 0 9 ! 
,holy ,_s4 ,because ( ! ,_s1 he _h      
reason to h confid5ce 9 :at ! ,_s w\ld d
 among1 91 & ?r\gh !m4 ,along ?is same  
l9e1 a tea*] made ! foll[+ comm5t ab\t 8
 exp]i5ce 9 "o ( 8 classes3 ,on "o      
occasion ,i 0 suff]+ f "s ag5da         
anxieties1 afraid t ! memb]s ( ! class1 
9 ! c\rse ( _! discussion1 w\ld n arrive
 at "s important & necess>y insights4 ,i
 0 tempt$ to make sure t !y saw c]ta9   
?+s 9 ! subject t ,i felt !y ought to   
see1 b =tunately ,i 0 re/ra9$ f int]f]+4
 ,in/ead1 ,i _h an excit+ morn+ he>+ all
 ! ?+s t ,i want$ to say said by !m4 ,x 
0 a great exp]i5ce6 ,?is illu/rates h[  
important x is = u to keep ourselves f  
m$dl+1 & to h confid5ce 9 ! ,_s4 ,!n !  
tru? appe>s 9 ! mid/ ( u mu* m p[]fully 
?an if we h&$ x out1 because :5 x appe>s
 out ( ! mid/1 x comes ) au?ority1 x    
comes ) dep?1 x is memorable4 ,! tru? t 
comes to u 9 ?is way makes u free4 ,!   
moral is obvi\s3 ,let u tru/ :at ,god is
 try+ to accompli% 9 u1 & !re=e tru/ "o 

ano!r4  ,to tru/ 9 ! ,_s's work+ ?r\gh  
dialogue does n mean t we %all be       
successful 9 all our endeavors4 ,p's    
response to be+ tru/$ is n dep5dable or 
consi/5t4 ,man's response to ,god's     
tru/1 express$ 9 ! life ( ,*ri/1 produc$
 ! crucifixion4 ,we all h _h ! exp]i5ce 
( hav+ our tru/ 9 o!rs betray$4 ,?is    
tempts u to become bitt]1 to lose fai? 9
 man1 & to lose fai? 9 ,god4 ,b ^!      
responses are n a contradiction ( tru/2 
!y are a "p ( ! curriculum ( tru/4      
,tru/1 if x is to d its full "w1 mu/    
include mi/ru/1 & fai? mu/ include d\bt4
 ,i am help$ to accept ?is insight      
because ( ! aw>5ess ( ! d\bt t is s mu* 
a "p ( my own fai? :i* ,god accepts z a 
"p ( me & :i* gives my fai? some?+ to d4
 ,aft] all1 fai? is = d\bt1 c\rage is = 
anxiety1 love is = hate4 ,in/ead (      
res5t+ hate1 anxiety1 d\bt1 & mi/ru/1 we
 %\ld accept !m z a "p ( life4  ,we are 
call$ by ! div9e love to be lov]s1 call$
 by ,god to be ,8 s]vants1 call$ by !   
,sav+ ,p]son to be ,8 p]son 9 ! realm & 

! relation%ip ( ! p]sonal4 ,we are      
preci\s & important to "o ano!r & to    
,god4 ,we h a responsibility = o!rs t   
mu/ be met by our fir/ be+ responsible =
 :at we are 9 ourselves1 ! in/rum5t = ! 
revelation1 9 p]sonal t]ms1 ( ! p[] (   
love4 ,x is imp]ative1 !re=e1 t if we   
are to love o!rs z we love ,god1 we mu/ 
love ourselves z be+ inf9itely preci\s  
to ,god & ourselves1 & indisp5sable     
because we h respond$ to a means (      
salvation = "o ano!r4     ,,vi  ,,love  
,,9 ,,action      ,by ?is we "k love1 t 
he laid d[n 8 life = u3     & we ought  
to lay d[n our lives = ! bre?r54--#a    
,john #c3af   ,we come n[ to ! climax ( 
our /udy4 ,love mu/ lay d[n its life2 t 
is1 x mu/ give itself4 ,! "q !n is3 ,:at
 is ! mode & place ( its self-giv+8 ,"u 
?is head+ ,i want to consid] ! nature ( 
communication1 evaluate ! *ur* z an ag5t
 ( communication1 & dwell on !          
implications ( our /udy = *ur* unity4   
,! ,importance ( ,communication         
,communication is ess5tial to !         

expression ( love & inde$ to life       
itself4 ,:]e !re is love1 !re mu/ be    
communication1 because love c nev] be   
passive & inactive4 ,love inevitably    
expresses itself & moves out t[>d o!rs4 
,:5 communication breaks d[n1 love is   
block$ & its en]gy w turn to res5tm5t & 
ho/ility4 ,"o ( ! greate/ ( trag$ies    
occurs :5 ! p>tn]s ( a relation%ip break
 (f _! communication ) ea* o!r4 ,)\t    
communication1 ! possibilities = a      
relation%ip become hopeless1 ! res\rces 
( ! p>tn]s = ! relation%ip are no long] 
available1 ! means = heal+ ! hurts t    
previ\s communication may h caus$ are no
 long] pres5t2 & ea*1 :5 he recov]s f 8 
ne$ to ju/ify himself & hurt ! o!r1 w   
f9d himself 9 a bottomless pit (        
lonel9ess f :i* he _c be pull$ except by
 ! ropes ( communication1 :i* may or may
 n be capable ( pull+ him out aga9      
because ( _! weak5$ condition4 ,_m ( u  
"k :at x means to be 9 a =eign c\ntry   
:]e we _c speak ! language1 b !         
lonel9ess ( t condition is z no?+ comp>$

 to ! lonel9ess t is ! product ( an     
ali5ation t has be5 produc$ by ei!r     
irresponsible use ( ! means (           
communication or a willful refusal to   
employ !m4  ,if !re is any "o           
indisp5sable insight ) :i* a "y m>ri$   
c\ple %\ld beg9 _! life toge!r1 x is t  
!y %\ld try to keep op51 at all co/1 !  
l9es ( communication betwe5 !m4 ,ev]yone
 ne$s & %\ld h prem>ital c\nsel+1 if    
only to help !m to ?is all important    
insight4 ,"h is a place :]e ! *ur*'s    
m9i/ry ne$s to be /r5g!n$1 s9ce s _m p  
turn to ! *ur* to h _! m>riages         
solemniz$4 ,be=e ea* m>riage is p]=m$1 !
 m9i/] %\ld meet ) ! c\ple & help !m    
prep>e = ! relation%ip1 & he %\ld       
include 9 t prep>ation ! guidance t w   
help !m to und]/& h[ indisp5sably       
important to its pres]vation1 &1 !re=e1 
to _! life toge!r1 are all ! means (    
communication betwe5 !m4 ,=tunately1 m &
 m m9i/]s are assum+ ?is responsibility2
 & =tunately1 also1 m & m sem9>ies are  
provid+ in/ructions t tea* m9i/]s h[ to 

m9i/] helpfully at ?is /rategically     
important "t4 ,b mu* m ne$s to be done4 
,_m m>ital breakd[ns due to failure (   
communication c\ld be alleviat$1 if n   
prev5t$1 by giv+ "y c\ples assi/ance :5 
!y are beg9n+ _! life toge!r4  ,b       
communication is indisp5sable 9 all     
relation%ips1 & n only 9 ! p]sonal ones 
l m>riage4 ,9 labor disputes1 = in/ance1
 ! b>ga9+ relation%ip breaks d[n :5 ei!r
 "o or bo? p>ties ab&on ! attempt to    
communicate ) ! o!r4 ,!re=e1 we may     
conclude1 9 p>aphrase ( ! ,scriptures3  
,if any man says t he loves ,god & w n  
try to communicate ) 8 bro!r1 he is a   
li>6  ,b :at is communication1 & :y is x
 s difficult to a*ieve8 ,mo/ p seem to  
?9k ( communication z gett+ a message   
across to ano!r p]son4 ,y tell him :at y
 want him to "k4 ,?is concept produces a
 "o-way v]bal fl[ = :i* ! t]m monologue 
is descriptive4 ,mu* ( ! *ur*'s s-call$ 
communication is monological1 ) prea*]s 
& tea*]s tell+ _! he>]s1 bo? adults &   
*ildr51 ! message !y ?9k !y %\ld "k4 ,! 

difficulty ) monological activity is t x
 r5d]s ! he>] passive4 ,x assumes t he  
is a receptacle into :i* ! desir$       
message may be p\r$4 ,x elim9ates !     
possibility ( 8 active p>ticipation 9 ! 
=mulation ( ! message1 & seems n to he$ 
t a "p ( ! message is 9 ! p]son :o is to
 receive x4  ,^? :o h /udi$ ! dynamics (
 communication & ! process by :i* x     
occurs are conv9c$ t ! monological      
pr9ciple is contradictory to ! nature ( 
communication1 & z a me?od is ! lea/    
effective4 ,reflective obs]vation ( our 
own le>n+ indicates t communication is  
mo/ effective :5 we become a "p ( !     
process & meet ! message ) our own      
cont5t4 ,fur!rmore1 ! monological       
pr9ciple is n "o t 0 us$ by our ,"l4    
,he1 ,:o 0 ! full inc>nation ( love1    
made p p>ticipants 9 ! ,good ,news t ,he
 proclaim$4 ,we ?9k1 = example1 ( ,8    
conv]sation ) ! woman at ! well1 9 !    
c\rse ( :i* %e mov$ f h] sup]ficial     
und]/&+ ( wat] to ,8 und]/&+ ( ! wat] ( 
life1 :]e9 ! mean+ ( h] life 0 reveal$  

to h]4#ba ,aga91 we ?9k ( ! lawy] :o put
 ,him to a te/ by ask+ :at he mu/ d to  
inh]it et]nal life1 & our ,"l drew him  
out 9 su* a way t he answ]$ 8 own "q4#bb
 ,! ,gospels are full ( su* illu/rations
 ( our ,"l's me?od ( communication4 ,x  
is curi\s1 !re=e1 t ! *ur* has settl$ = 
! opposite monological pr9ciple :i* is q
 unequal to ! task ( convey+ ! full     
mean+s ( ! gospel4   ,communication ,is 
,dialogue  ,our ,"l's me?od1 :i* we may 
call ! dialogical1 has be5 v9dicat$ by  
mod]n rese>* into ! dynamics (          
communication1 :i* has demon/rat$       
conclusively t ! to-&-fro process betwe5
 tea*] & pupil1 betwe5 p>5t & *ild1     
provides ! mo/ dep5dable & p]man5t k9d (
 education4 ,:at is t to-&-fro betwe5 "o
 :o kn[s & "o :o does n8 ,! monological 
argum5t aga9/ ! dialogical process is t 
! ignorant & untutor$ h no?+ to         
contribute1 s t ! addition ( z]o & z]o  
equals z]o4 ,?is k9d ( comm5t1 :i* is   
made by surpris+ly intellig5t & o!rwise 
p]ceptive p1 & all too (t5 by educators1

 demon/rates h[ little !y "k ab\t !     
processes ( le>n+4 ,nor does x foll[ t !
 dialogical pr9ciple =bids ! use ( !    
monological me?od4 ,!re is a place = !  
lecture & = direct pres5tation ( cont5t1
 b to be mo/ useful !y %\ld be 9 a      
dialogical context4 ,fur!rmore1 x is q  
possible = a p]son giv+ a lecture to    
give x 9 su* a way t he draws 8 he>]s   
into active response to 8 ?\ght1 &      
al?\gh !y rema9 v]bally sil5t1 ! effect 
is t ( dialogue4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 "o  
%\ld n confuse ! diff]5t me?ods ( tea*+ 
) ! dialogical concept ( communication4 
,bo? ! lectur] & ! discussion lead] c be
 ei!r monological or dialogical1 ev5    
?\gh !y are us+ diff]5t me?ods4 ,! p]son
 :o believes t communication1 & !re=e   
education1 is dialogical 9 nature1 w use
 e tool 9 ! accompli%m5t ( 8 purpose4   
,:5 ! "q ne$s to be rais$1 he may use ! 
discussion me?od or p]haps "s visual    
aid4 ,:5 an answ] is indicat$1 he may   
give a lecture or use "s o!r            
transmissive res\rce4 ,b 8 ori5tation to

 8 task is bas$ on 8 belief t 8         
accompli%m5ts z a lead] are dep5d5t     
p>tly ^u :at 8 pupil br+s to le>n+1 & t 
= education to take place _! relation%ip
 mu/ be mutual4  ,:at is x t ! le>n]    
br+s t is ( su* great value to ! tea*]8 
,:at possibly c ! *ild h t ! p>5t ne$s 9
 ord] to help ! *ild le>n & mature8 ,!  
*ild1 & e p]son = t matt]1 br+s to e    
enc\nt] mean+s drawn f 8 previ\s        
exp]i5ce :i*1 9 "o way or ano!r1 prep>es
 him = :at is to be le>n$4 ,9 ,*apt]    
,,iv we consid]$ "s ( ! e>ly1 basic     
acquisitions ( ! individual2 = example1 
! mean+s ( tru/ & mi/ru/ acquir$ 9 8    
fir/ ye>1 ( lib]at+ autonomy or res5tful
 dep5d5ce1 & o!r mean+s :i* influ5ce to 
a high degree 8 op5ness to ! tea*] & to 
:at ! tea*] has to give4 ,9 addition to 
^! basic mean+s1 he has a :ole ho/ (    
o!rs :i* he has pick$ up f 8 previ\s    
exp]i5ce3 k ( p1 ( himself1 ( ! _w 9 :i*
 he lives1 ( ! nature ( ?+s1 all ( :i*  
he uses 9 response to ! approa* ( p>5t1 
tea*]1 fri5d1 or :oev] may be apt to    

confront him ) new tru?4  ,we ne$ to    
rememb] t ! mean+s ! le>n] br+s are f> f
 complete & mature1 & t he is 9 !       
process ( gr[+ & becom+ m adequate4 ,he 
wants to le>n1 b he does n want to le>n 
at ! price ( 8 own integrity4 ,9 le>n+  
he wants to h ! s5se ( acquir+ new p[]s4
 ,any approa* to him t seems to dim9i%  
him 9 any way closes him z a responsive1
 le>n+ p]son4 ,fur!rmore1 8 exp]i5ce ?us
 f> & its mean+ produce 9 him que/ions =
 :i* he w\ld l to h answ]s4 ,!          
individual1 !re=e1 br+s to 8 meet+ )    
o!rs c]ta9 beliefs1 attitudes1 und]/&+s1
 k1 & que/ions1 :i*1 9 "o way or ano!r1 
h prep>$ him or clos$ him to le>n+4 ,a  
good tea*]1 accord+ly1 pays att5tion to 
:at 8 pupil br+s4  ,! tea*] 7& "h ,i am 
n ?9k+ ( ! pr(essional tea*] only7 fir/ 
makes x 8 bus9ess to f9d out ab\t 8     
pupil or ab\t ! p]son ) :om he wi%es to 
communicate4 ,z tea*]1 he ne$s to "k z  
mu* ab\t 8 pupil z he ne$s to "k ab\t 8 
subject4 ,he wants to help him ask 8    
que/ions1 s t :at is communicat$ w be an

 answ] to 8 que/ions4 ,all too (t5 :at  
we (f] z answ]s fail because !y are     
address$ to que/ions :i* h n be5 ask$1  
&1 !re=e1 d n h mean+ = !m4 ,! p>5t &   
tea*]1 !re=e1 %\ld seek to call =? &    
=mulate ! und]/&+s ( *ildr5 9 ord] t !y 
may m readily he> & und]/& ! new tru? t 
is be+ pres5t$4  ,! ne$ to be aw>e ( !  
mean+s t ea* p]son br+s to 8 educational
 enc\nt]s is equally relevant to        
disagreem5ts betwe5 adults4 ,_m a husb& 
& wife1 = in/ance1 fail to deal ) a     
disagreem5t or qu>rel con/ructively     
because ea* is ?9k+ only 9 t]ms ( !     
mean+s he br+s to ! conflict1 in/ead (  
try+ also to discov] ! conc]ns & mean+s 
8 p>tn] br+s4 ,we all "k t sometimes !  
real cause ( a qu>rel is n express$1 ) !
 result t ! qu>rel]s c only deal ) !    
sup]ficial mean+s ( ! conflict & 9 ways 
t fur!r ali5ate !m f ea* o!r4 ,!        
responsibility = communication 9 su*    
in/ances calls = ea* p>tn] to pay       
att5tion to ! mean+s t ! o!r "o br+s to 
! conflict1 & try also to help ! o!r say

 :at he means1 = 8 own & ! sake ( ! o!r4
 ,9 ?is way1 con/ructive communication  
may be resum$4   ,! ,purpose (          
,communication  ,! "q n[ ne$s to be     
rais$3 ,:at is ! purpose (              
communication8 ,!re is a t5d5cy on our  
"p to reg>d cons5sus & ass5t z ! goals (
 communication4 ,! attempt to get p to  
sign on ! dott$ l9e1 z x 71 makes our   
communications aggressive & imp]iali/ic4
 ,! he>] is n respect$ z an autonom\s1  
decid+ p]son1 & ?is may cause him to    
decide aga9/ ! message because ( !      
ali5at+ way 9 :i* x is be+ pres5t$4 ,:5 
! gospel is prea*$ )\t respect = !      
autonomy & integrity ( ! individual1 !  
effect is ali5at+4 ,! same results occur
 :5 p>5ts act imp]iali/ically 9 relation
 to ! educational opportunities 9 !     
home4  ,! goal ( communication is n to  
secure ass5t & agreem5t1 b is1 r1 to    
help ! individual make a decision &     
translate x into action4 ,we h to face !
 possibility t we may n l 8 decision1 b 
t x may be ! decision he mu/ make n[4 ,=

 ! mom5t1 ! *ild may say ,no to "s      
admonition or in/ruction t 8 p>5t is    
giv+ him1 :i* may seem l a breakd[n &   
failure ( communication4 ,on ! o!r h&1  
if x is ! *ild's own decision & if !    
p>5t c respect x1 :ile at ! same "t     
protect+ ! *ild f its un=tunate         
consequ5ces1 x may be a /ep 9 ! process 
by :i* ! *ild w ev5tually say ,yes4     
,reflection w reveal h[ (t5 we h arriv$ 
at an affirmative response by ! r\te ( a
 negative "o4 ,! negative response 0 !n 
se5 z "p ( ! process by :i* we mov$ t[>d
 accept+ a tru?4  ,prep>ation = *ur*    
memb]%ip ( bo? "y & old ne$s to employ  
?is concept ( communication4 ,!         
in/ruction ( _m *ur* memb]s has be5 s   
ambigu\s t !y are n cle> ab\t :at !y h  
decid$ = or aga9/4 ,aft] all1 we _c say 
,yes to any?+ )\t also say+ ,no to o!r  
?+s4 ,p :o are prep>$ = *ur* memb]%ip   
%\ld und]/& & be able to /ate ! reason =
 ! fai? !y affirm1 & "k :at alt]natives 
!y reject$4  ,!y ne$ help also 9        
discov]+ :at _! affirmations & d5ials   

mean = _! way ( life4 ,only !n w !y be  
able to make /rong & enabl+ commitm5ts4 
,"o reason = ! unc]ta9 witness ( _m     
s-call$ ,*ri/ians & *ur* memb]s is t !y 
h be5 p]suad$ to be ,*ri/ians )\t ei!r  
hav+ t relation%ip or its alt]natives   
expla9$ to !m4 ,"y p 9 p>ticul> ne$ help
 9 kn[+ :at !y are *oos+ aga9/ 9 ord] t 
!y may be unambigu\sly = :at !y h *os54 
,9 an age :5 values are confus$ & p's   
ne$ = cle>-cut loyalties is great1 x is 
tragic t ! *ur*'s communication is      
confus$4 ,let u try1 !re=e1 to          
communicate 9 ways t w help p to speak  
_! own yeas & nays ) cl>ity &           
conviction4   ,! ,ag5t ( ,communication 
,?is ?\ght br+s u naturally to a        
consid]ation ( ! *ur* z ! ag5t (        
communication4 ,! *ur*1 z ! fell[%ip ( !
 ,holy ,_s1 is ! in/rum5t t ,god creat$ 
to speak & act = ,him 9 ea* g5]ation4   
,our human response to ,8 call+ u to be 
,8 p & s]vants produc$ ! *ur* z an      
in/itution1 ) its organizational &      
d5om9ational divisions4 ,z any p]ceptive

 p]son realizes1 !re is (t5 conflict    
betwe5 ! *ur* z ! fell[%ip ( ! ,holy ,_s
 & ! *ur* z in/itution4 ,z in/itution1 !
 *ur* faces ! temptation ( be+ m conc]n$
 ab\t itself ?an ab\t ,god & ,8 purposes
 = ,8 p4 ,z we saw 9 ,mr4 ,*ur*ill's    
rem>ks1 9 ,*apt] ,i1 ! *ur* c become s  
preoccupi$ ) itself t x loses its s5se (
 responsibility = its mission to ! _w4  
,we saw also t ! relation%ip betwe5 !   
*ur* & ! _w is int5d$ to be close1 = !  
_w is ! sph]e ( ,god's action1 & ! *ur* 
is ! means ( ,8 action4 ,! *ur*1 !re=e1 
mu/ be f\nd at "w 9 ! _w1 & mu/ feel )9 
itself ! t5sion betwe5 ! sav+ purposes (
 ,god & ! self-c5t]$ purposes ( man4    
,?is is :at might be call$ creative     
t5sion4  ,! ma9ta9+ ( ?is creative      
t5sion requires t ! *ur* z in/itution be
 op5 con/antly to ! re=m+ vitality ( !  
,holy ,_s1 & *ur* p %\ld be op5-m9d$1   
adaptable1 & ready to live = ,god       
exp]im5tally4 ,!y mu/ be prep>$ to face 
! crises ( life z !y occur individually 
& socially ) c\rage & a desire to lead !

 way = _! fell[ m54 ,in/ead ( ?is1 we   
f9d t *ur* p h ! reputation ( be+       
ultra-cons]vative1 reaction>y1 & lov]s (
 ! /atus quo4 ,! *ildr5 ( light1 z x 71 
are be+ dragg$ along by ! *ildr5 (      
d>kness1 & are be+ compell$ by !m to    
face up to responsibilities :i* !y ought
 to h assum$ 9 ! "n ( ,god ye>s be=e    
anyone else4 ,( c\rse1 ! record ( ! *ur*
 is n altoge!r negative4 ,9 _m places ! 
lead]%ip & ! memb]%ip ( ! *ur* h        
c\rage\sly pione]$ ! way 9 times (      
crisis & *ange4 ,?is exp]im5tal approa* 
to life & crisis ought to be m          
*>act]i/ic ( ! *ur* ?an x is4 ,:]e x    
does n exi/1 x is safe to assume t !    
memb]%ip is s]v+ itself r ?an ! ,_s (   
,god4  ,! *ur* t is preoccupi$ ) itself 
c no m express love = o!rs ?an c a      
self-c5t]$ individual4 ,*ur* memb]s :o  
are prim>ily conc]n$ ab\t ! ma9t5ance ( 
a *ur* & its educational unit on a      
p>ticul> corn] 9 a c]ta9 t[n create a   
diseas$ organization4 ,x suff]s f a     
condition :i*1 9 an individual1 w\ld be 

call$ hypo*ondria4 ,x is necess>y1 (    
c\rse1 = an individual to give "s       
att5tion to 8 diet1 cleanl9ess1 & heal? 
9 ord] t he may live 8 life & d 8 "w4   
,likewise1 ! *ur* ne$s to give "s       
att5tion to its ma9t5ance1 = x ne$s to  
be n\ri%$ 9 its ga!r$ life 9 ord] t x   
may d its "w 9 its disp]s$ life4  ,!    
decisive role ( ! *ur* is n 9 ! *ur*'s  
*ur*1 b 9 ! _w3 m9i/]+ to p at ! beg9n+ 
( & dur+ _! m>ri$ lives1 accompany+ !m 9
 & ?r\gh _! m>ital failures1 & help+ !m 
to le>n f _! exp]i5ces s t if !y m>ry   
aga9 !y may d s ) m und]/&+ &           
res\rcefulness2 guid+ !m 9 ! rais+ ( _! 
*ildr51 & help+ !m to correlate !       
insights ( ! social sci5ces t ?r[ light 
on ! nature & mean+ ( human developm5t1 
especially ! ultimate or religi\s mean+s
 ( t developm5t2 help+ !m f9d _! place 9
 ! _w's "w ) z mu* mean+ z possible1 &  
nurtur+ 9 !m a fai? & c\rage t makes x  
possible = !m to face ! conflicts1      
temptations1 & s9s ( mod]n indu/rial    
life2 /&+ by !m 9 all ! crises t !y     

enc\nt] 9 ! c\rse ( _! human exi/5ce2   
enc\rag+ !m to advance 9 company ) ! mo/
 creative m9ds on ! fronti] ( human     
exploration & exp]im5tation2 & fe>lessly
 travel+ ) !m z !y wre/le ) ! *ang+     
value /ructures ( ea* new g5]ation1 &   
guid+ !m 9 ! use ( _! leisure4 ,b mo/ ( 
all1 9 & ?r\gh all ( ^! ways1 ! *ur*'s  
task is to try to reveal to m5 t1 ?\gh  
_! id5tity 9 ! _w may be confus$ & lo/1 
9 _! relation%ip ) ,god !y are kn[n &   
lov$4 ,! *ur*1 z a fell[%ip ( m51 %\ld  
exi/ n only to proclaim ?is tru? 9 !    
ab/ract1 b to live x 9 ! sph]e ( !      
p]sonal & social4   ,v>i\s ,concepts (  
,m9i/ry  ,e congregation & e memb] ( a  
congregation ne$s to ask :at image ( !  
*ur* gov]ns its life1 because our images
 c be idols t keep ! *ur* f be+ !       
in/rum5t ( ,god's action1 & because t   
image c keep u f be+ p]sons 9 :om ! ,_s 
( ,god c be inc>nate4 ,su* an exam9ation
 calls = t sort ( re?9k+ ( our          
conception ( ! m9i/ry t ! ,rev]5d ,mr4  
,gates call$ = 9 our fir/ *apt]4 ,!     

conception ( ! m9i/ry held by bo? m9i/]s
 & laym5 w naturally reflect _!         
conception or image ( ! *ur*4 ,"h bo? ! 
orda9$ memb] & ! lay memb] are caught 9 
! grip ( /]eotypes t ?reat5 to /ifle !  
vitality ( ! *ur*'s m9i/ry4 ,especially 
is ?is true 9 a "t l our own1 :5 !      
social ord] is und]go+ radical *anges4  
,all too (t5 lay p assume t ! problems (
 ! m9i/ry & ( ! *ur* belong to ! cl]gy  
alone4 ,_m consci5ti\s m9i/]s today1    
errone\sly assum+ ?is responsibility1   
are confus$ z to :at _! role is4 ,!     
problem ( m9i/]ial roles belongs to !   
:ole *ur*4 ,x is n easy 9 ?is "t (      
transition = m9i/]s to be sure ( :at is 
expect$ ( !m4 ,!y s5se or see cle>ly t !
 old images & patt]ns ( ! m9i/] ( !     
gospel d n fit ! pres5t "t1 &1 !re=e1   
are n safe ones to foll[4 ,nor d !      
unsettl$ conditions ( our civilization  
give v cle>-cut clues = ! =mation ( new 
& relevant concepts ( ! m9i/ry4         
,consequ5tly1 _m m9i/]s1 includ+ f> too 
_m "y ones1 seek refuge 9 diff]5t       

/]eotypes :i* fail to s]ve ! *ur*1 &    
only provide !m ) ! means ( evad+ ! real
 *all5ges ( _! task4 ,:at1 !n1 are "s ( 
^! /]eotypes8  ,fir/1 "s m9i/]s settle =
 a /]eotype ( ! prie/hood4 ,!y seek to  
recapture & transplant 9 our age an     
e>li] & relevant prie/ly vitality t     
succe$s today only 9 assembl+ ! dry     
bones or ext]nal =ms ( t role4 ,or1 !y  
may succumb to ! prea*] /]eotype4 ,"u ! 
influ5ce ( t image1 !y ?9k ( ! prea*] z 
a p]=m]1 a s]mon z a p]=mance1 & !      
congregation z an audi5ce4 ,t image is  
p>tly a product ( ! monological und]/&+ 
( communication1 & p>tly a result ( !   
human ne$ to ju/ify oneself by an       
ov]simplifi$ function4 ,! proclamation (
 ! ,holy ,^w z m]e cont5t & )\t         
dialogical int5t is n true prea*+ ( !   
gospel4 ,holy words 7 nev] meant to be  
us$ to ju/ify m9i/]ial function4 ,! ,^w 
( ,god ju/ifies u1 b our words ab\t !   
,^w ( ,god d n ju/ify u4 ,fur!rmore1 !  
,liv+ ,^w did n ent] ! _w               
imp]iali/ically1 & t ,^w %\ld n be      

prea*$ presumptively n[1 b ) !          
expectation ( hav+ to engage ! _w       
responsibly4 ,/ill o!r m9i/]s try to f9d
 a contempor>y concept ( m9i/ry by      
model+ !mselves aft] "o ( ! respect$    
patt]ns ( our society3 ! bus9ess        
executive1 ! physician1 or ! gr\p       
!rapi/4 ,b z controll+ images ( ! *ur*'s
 m9i/ry1 ^! are n compreh5sive1 & !y too
 t5d to become con/rict+ /]eotypes4  ,!n
 !re is ! /]eotype ( ! local *ur*1 :i*  
is /ill ?\ght ( z a p>i% 9 a            
n9ete5?-c5tury neighborhood s5se4 ,9 mo/
 places ! p>i% community is no long] !  
c5t] ( p's common life4 ,! neighborhood 
9 :i* ! *ur* is locat$ is an area to :i*
 p come home f _! v>i$ activities 9 ord]
 to sleep4 ,& = an increas+ numb] ( m5  
^: "w keeps !m on ! road1 ev5 sleep+ at 
home occurs only on occasional week     
ends4 ,^! & o!r /]eotypes /ifle ! full  
p[] ( ! m9i/ry & keep x f be+ equal to  
today's task4 ,too _m m9i/]s1 9         
consequ5ce1 feel alone & sep>at$ f _! p1
 & are bewild]$ by ! complexity ( _! "w 

& ! ambigu\s results ( _! ef=ts4  ,lay  
p1 on ! o!r h&1 receive little help 9   
ov]com+ _! /]eotypes ( ! m9i/ry &       
gravitate to a concept ( ! *ur* t is h>d
 to di/+ui% f a middle-class c\ntry club
 or a social s]vice c5t]4 ,ano!r        
complicat+ influ5ce is ! curr5t emphasis
 on ! lay m9i/ry4 ,! g5]al /ress on !   
prie/hood ( all believ]s _h made bo?    
cl]gy & laity less sure ab\t ! role ( ! 
cl]gy1 ev5 to ! po9t1 figuratively      
speak+1 ( seem+ to unorda9 ! orda9$1 &  
)\t cle>ly def9+ ! m9i/ry ( ! lay memb]4
  ,is !re an answ] to ^! confusions &   
ambiguities8 ,:at c cl]gy & laity n[ d  
to f9d _! pres5t & new role 9 ! life ( !
 *ur* & _w8 ,!re is an answ] to ^!      
que/ions :i*1 if foll[$1 w op5 ! m9i/ry 
( ! :ole *ur* to ! r5ew+ vitality ( !   
,holy ,_s4  ,fir/1 ! role ( ! cl]gy & ! 
concepts ( x are ! responsibility ( !   
:ole *ur*4 ,b ! cl]gy are m consci\s ( !
 problems ( ! *ur* & ( ! m9i/ry1 & !y   
%\ld1 !re=e1 %>e !m ) ! laity4 ,m9i/]s  
make ! mi/ake ( keep+ _! problems1 :i*  

are really ! problems ( ! *ur*1 to      
!mselves1 in/ead ( mak+ sure t ! re/ ( !
 *ur* memb]s are aw>e ( & assum+        
responsibility = !m4  ,second1 if !     
cl]gy are to %>e ^! conc]ns ) ! laity1  
!y mu/ break ?r\gh ! /]eotypes held by  
bo? gr\ps z describ$ e>li]4 ,!re is     
evid5ce t bo? m9i/]s & laity are suff]+ 
re/ra9ts z a result ( _! false images ( 
ea* o!r4 ,! "q is3 ,d ! cl]gy d>e to    
reveal !mselves z spiritual lead]s :o d 
n always "k ! answ]s1 & :o !mselves ne$ 
desp]ately to be a "p ( a *ur* t is a   
supportive & accept+ fell[%ip8 ,:5 ask$ 
:y !y d n discuss problems ( ! *ur* )9 !
 *ur*1 m9i/]s (t5 reply3 ,:at w\ld my p 
?9k ( me8 ,i'm suppos$ to be ! answ]    
man4 ,! tru? is t _m laym5 welcome be+  
releas$ f false images ( ! cl]gy4       
,?ird1 m9i/]s1 !re=e1 ne$ to be         
dialogi/s r ?an monologi/s4 ,?is might  
turn out to be ! appropriate concept (  
_! role = ?is day4 ,z repres5tatives ( !
 gospel1 :i* 0 born ( ! full meet+ &    
full int]*ange betwe5 ,god & man 9      

,*ri/1 ! m9i/] mu/ le>n to engage 9     
dialogue ) 8 p1 & to p>ticipate 9 t     
dialogue ) ,god :i* goes on 9 _! liv+4  
,! great que/ions ( ! *ur* & ! m9i/ry   
are n go+ to be solv$ by ! orda9$ m9i/]s
 alone1 b by ! cl]gy & ! laity accept+  
communication ) ea* o!r z a "p ( _!     
common m9i/ry1 & toge!r br++ ! gospel   
into dialogue ) ! _w4  ,x is imp]ative t
 m9i/]s & p talk to ea* o!r deeply1 n   
ab\t ! h\sekeep+ ( ! *ur*1 b ab\t ! *ur*
 & its message1 ab\t its place 9 &      
relation to ! _w1 & ab\t its m9i/ry1    
includ+ ! respective roles ( cl]gy &    
laity4 ,?is k9d ( p]si/5t1 cont9u+ talk 
is imp]ative = two reasons3 fir/1 x br+s
 out & correlates ! tru? t is 9 man ab\t
 ^! matt]s2 &1 second1 ! ,holy ,_s      
reveals ! tru? ( ,*ri/ to & ?r\gh m5 :o 
give !mselves to ea* o!r 9 e>ne/ se>* = 
! tru?4   ,! ,*ur* & ! ,_w 9 ,dialogue  
,we may conclude1 !re=e1 t ! problems ( 
! orda9$ m9i/ry 9 ! _w today are !      
problems ( ! *ur*4 ,memb]s ( ! *ur*1    
includ+ ! cl]gy1 mu/ take ! risks (     

communication1 :i* are ! risks (        
creativity1 & talk ) "o ano!r ab\t _!   
conc]ns4 ,we mu/ d ?is ) ! expectation t
 ,god w speak & act ?r\gh our dialogue  
toge!r1 s t x w become our dialogue )   
,him4 ,out ( ?is w come new insights &  
concepts = our respective roles1 ) a new
 aw>5ess ( our task = ,*ri/ 9 ! _w4 ,x  
w\ld seem1 !n1 t our mo/ effective />t+ 
po9t = a new & relevant image (         
ourselves = our task today is t ( m5 :o 
are 9 dialogue ) ,god ?r\gh _! dialogue 
) _! p4 ,! _s ( ?is dialogue1 h[ev]1 mu/
 be ! ,_s ( ,*ri/4 ,! =m ( ! m9i/ry ne$s
 to be re?\ght 9 ea* age1 b x mu/ be =m$
 by a d\ble focus on ,*ri/'s m9i/ry & ! 
ne$ ( ! _w today4  ,"s ( ?is dialogue1 (
 c\rse1 has already be5 go+ on1 & out ( 
x c]ta9 insights h already appe>$ ab\t !
 relation ( ! cl]gy & ! laity4 ,9 !     
ga!r$ *ur*1 ) ! focus on ! wor%ip1      
pa/oral1 educational1 & organizational  
life1 ! orda9$ memb] is ! *ief m9i/] & !
 lay memb]s are 8 assi/ants4 ,?is does n
 mean t ! lay p are work+ = ! pa/or & t 

_! loyalty is to him4 ,in/ead1 x means t
 bo? are work+ toge!r = ,*ri/ & _!      
loyalty is to ,him4 ,)9 t relation%ip ! 
congregation has call$ a memb]1 usually 
tra9$ & orda9$1 to direct x 9 p]=m+ !   
*ur*'s functions4 ,! m9i/] is entru/$1 =
 example1 ) ! educational "w ( ! *ur*4  
,"s ( 8 educational responsibility is   
delegat$ to ! organization kn[n z ! *ur*
 s*ool4 ,a few laym5 are select$ &      
pr(essionally tra9$ to be directors (   
,*ri/ian education2 o!rs f !            
congregation are tra9$ to be ! tea*]s1  
b1 z su*1 !y are s]v+ z assi/ants to !  
"o :o is (ficially responsible = t      
activity4 ,likewise1 :5 laym5 are us$ 9 
*ur* visitation1 !y d s z assi/ants to !
 m9i/]1 to :om ?is (ficial              
responsibility is delegat$4  ,on ! o!r  
h&1 9 ! "w ( ! disp]s$ *ur*1 :i* is     
active 9 & s]v+ ! _w1 ! *ief m9i/] is ! 
layman :o1 9 ! home or 9 ! (fice1 on !  
/reet or 9 ! %op1 9 ! s*ool or 9 !      
univ]sity1 or :]ev] ! "w ( ! _w is go+  
on1 is ! *ur* 9 t situation & mu/ be !  

m9i/] ( ,*ri/ !re4 ,! orda9$ man1 9 ?is 
aspect ( ! *ur*'s "w1 is ! assi/ant or  
res\rce p]son4  ,?is concept ( !        
complem5t>y relation%ip betwe5 ! orda9$ 
& ! unorda9$ %\ld in=m ! *ur*'s ga!r$   
life4 ,! s]mon1 ! prep>ation = *ur*     
memb]%ip1 all adult education programs1 
& ! g5]al m9i/ry ( ! *ur*1 ne$ to be    
condition$ by ! ?\ght t ! purpose ( !   
(ficial tea*]s & prea*]s & adm9i/rators 
( ! *ur*'s program is to prep>e & guide 
! p ( ,god 9 ! p]=mance ( _! "w 9 ! _w1 
z repres5tatives ( ,*ri/ !re4 ,res\rces 
ne$ to be creat$ 9 ! *ur*'s program     
:]eby p c come back f _! m9i/ry 9 ! _w1 
be help$ to und]/& :at has happ5$1 & by 
reflection ^u x le>n h[ m effectively to
 be ! *ur* 9 ! _w4 ,= ?is reason1 sem9>s
 = p>5ts ne$ to be held 9 ord] t !y may 
receive assi/ance 9 und]/&+ _! role z   
m9i/]s ( ! *ur* 9 ! home4 ,sem9>s =     
bus9essm5 & pr(essional p also are      
indicat$ = ! same reason4 ,a po9t (     
focus = all *ur* memb]%ip c\rses %\ld be
 ! "q3 ,:5 y become a memb] ( ! *ur*1 h[

 are y go+ to ex]cise y\r m9i/ry 9 ! _w8
 ,?is ori5tation c\ld be ! s\rce ( a new
 evangelism t w\ld make its witness he>d
 9 ! dep? & detail ( human life4   ,!   
,reunion ( ! ,*ur*  ,we turn n[ to      
consid] "s ( ! implications ( :at we h  
be5 ?9k+ = ! reunion ( ! *ur*4 ,if !    
*ur* is ! in/rum5t ( ,god's action 9 !  
_w1 & its memb]s are suppos$ to be !    
inc>nations ( ,8 ,_s by means ( :i* ,he 
accompli%es ,8 purpose1 ! condition1 z  
well z ! concept ( ! *ur*1 is important4
 ,"o ( ! trag$ies ( ,*ri/5dom is ! fact 
t ! body ( ,*ri/ is s divid$ & its p>ts 
live 9 su* competitive relation%ip t !  
purposes ( ,god are obscur$ & block$4   
,movem5ts t[>d reunion h borne fruit1 ) 
! result t "s d5om9ations h resolv$ _!  
diff]5ces & reunit$4 ,b mu* m progress  
ne$s to be made1 if ! *ur* is to be     
equal to ! dem&s t mod]n life is mak+ on
 x = spiritual lead]%ip4  ,9 ea*        
d5om9ation !re are cl]gym5 & laym5 :o h 
errone\s concepts & und]/&+s &          
expectations ( ! o!r d5om9ations4 ,i    

direct a tra9+ c5t] :i* is att5d$ by    
cl]gy & laym5 f _m d5om9ations4 ,^! p   
(t5 are surpris$ to discov]1 z a result 
( /udy+ toge!r ! *ur*'s nature &        
purpose1 h[ mu* !y h 9 common4 ,!y      
discov] t doctr9al diff]5ces are n z    
great z !y _h ?\ght1 t !re are no       
d5om9ational diff]5ces built into human 
nature or into human problems1 & t !y h 
_m res\rces 9 common1 namely1 !         
,god-giv5 & r$eem$ res\rces ( human     
relation%ips1 ! ,scriptures1 pray]1     
prea*+1 pa/oral c>e1 & tea*+4 ,_m ( !m h
 be5 he>d to say1 ,i am glad to h _h x  
reveal$ to me t 9 "s ways our diff]5ces 
are m app>5t ?an real4 ,?is k9d (       
insight1 h[ev]1 is n possible unless a  
situation is creat$ 9 :i* repres5tatives
 ( diff]5t d5om9ations c beg9 to tru/   
ea* o!r1 & to ?9k & communicate bel[ !  
level ( _! diff]5ces4 ,x is possible to 
d ?is1 h[ev]1 & m ( x %\ld be done4 ,!re
 is no reason :y ! local congregation   
%\ld n invite neighbor+ congregations to
 come toge!r ) x = a /udy program = !   

purpose ( f9d+ _! common bro!rhood 9    
,*ri/ & _! common responsibility = !    
community 9 :i* !y live4 ,a divid$ *ur* 
does n make a good organ = !            
communication ( love4  ,we come n[ to ! 
di/9ctive contribution ( our discussion 
?us f> 9 ?is matt] ( ! unity ( ! *ur*4  
,! "w ( reunion1 ( c\rse1 is ! "w ( !   
,holy ,_s4 ,b our response to ,him 9    
approa*+ reunion %\ld be c5t]$ 9 a /udy 
( ,8 purposes = ! *ur* n[ & 9 ! future1 
r ?an on a reconciliation ( ! diff]5ces 
t occurr$ 9 ! pa/4 ,x is exce$+ly       
difficult to undo ! mi/akes ( ! pa/ & to
 *ange ! rigid images & patt]ns t h be5 
=g$ by ! misund]/&+s ( our pr$ecessors4 
,m]ely try+ to adju/ !m to ea* o!r w n  
d4 ,x is some?+ else aga9 to be will+ to
 *ange ^! by giv+ ourselves to a        
responsible consid]ation ( :at ,god     
wants ,8 *ur* to be & to d n[1 & ?us    
attempt ! reunion 9 response to pres5t &
 future values4  ,! images t            
,presbyt]ians & ,me?odi/s &             
,episcopalians & ,bapti/s & ,lu!rans n[ 

h ( !mselves might be *ang$1 ?us mak+   
possible *anges 9 _! images ( "o ano!r1 
& ?is w\ld c]ta9ly op5 ! way to deep]   
levels ( communication4 ,in/ead ( ?is1  
we h memb]s ( diff]5t d5om9ations ?9k+ r
 rigidly ab\t !mselves & o!rs4 ,our     
id5tities & responsibilities are accept$
 9 t]ms ( diff]5ces t 7 laid d[n 9 !    
pa/1 & may be held indep5d5tly ( :at    
,god may be want+ ,8 *ur* to d 9 ?is    
mom5t4 ,! *ur* is n ! ,k+dom ( ,god2 x  
is n ! end ( ,god's action4 ,x is a     
means to an end1 &1 z circum/ances (    
human life *ange1 x is n inconceivable t
 ,god w\ld l to h u make *anges 9 t     
in/rum5t = man's salvation :i* ,he      
creat$4  ,proposals = ! reunion ( !     
*ur*es (t5 ar\se ! fe> t our respective 
d5om9ations1 to :i* we are devot$1 w be 
replac$ by :at "s conceive ( z a        
sup]*ur*4 ,su* an arbitr>y replacem5t ( 
*ur* organization is n ! objective ( !  
unity movem5t4 ,in/ead1 we %\ld respond 
to ! ,_s's prompt+ to keep our          
d5om9ational loyalties subject to our   

loyalty to ,him1 9 ord] t we may be op5 
to :atev] =m ( *ur* life & action ! ,_s 
may indicate = our g5]ation4 ,we are    
conc]n$ ab\t ! *ur* z ! body ( ,*ri/ 9  
our "t4 ,z ,8 body1 we mu/ f9d our unity
 9 ,him2 b ?is may mean t we %all h to  
ab&on "s ?+s t h seem$ good4 ,"s words (
 our ,"l are h>d to be>3 ,he :o loves   
fa!r or "m m ?an me is n wor?y ( me4#bc 
,^! words ( our ,"l are equally         
applicable to all o!r relation%ips1     
includ+ our d5om9ational ones4 ,x does n
 foll[1 h[ev]1 t our d5om9ational       
devotion is ( itself disloyal to ,*ri/1 
any m ?an our devotion to our lov$ ones 
is disloyal4 ,we d ne$1 h[ev]1 to make  
sure t we love & s]ve ,him1 & n some?+  
or someone else4 ,our concepts (        
ourselves & ( o!rs may ne$ to be *ang$4 
,! *ang+ ( ^! images ( ourselves & (    
o!rs is n a responsibility t belongs    
only to our top-level *ur* lead]s4 ,e   
,*ri/ian 9 e *ur* 9 e "p ( ! _w mu/ %>e 
x1 because ea* p]son has a specific     
responsibility = 8 relation%ip ) 8      

,*ri/ian bro!rs1 by :atev] "n !y may    
call !mselves4 ,! p>5t :o seeks to      
ex]cise 8 m9i/ry 9 8 relation%ip ) 8    
*ild ne$s also to be op5 to 8           
responsibility z a memb] ( "s hi/oric   
bran* ( ! ,*ri/ian *ur* = ! welf>e ( t  
*ur* & ! relation%ip ( its sep>ate p>ts4
 ,we _c accept :at we h inh]it$ 9 ! =m 9
 :i* we inh]it$ x4 ,our inh]itance 9 _m 
ways is preci\s & wond]ful1 b our human 
response c de=m x4 ,our *ur* c be a     
means ( fulfill+ our disciple%ip1 b x c 
also be an ob/acle to x4 ,!re=e1 our    
memb]%ip & p>ticipation 9 a d5om9ation  
ne$s to be kept "u ! con/ant judgm5t (  
,god 9 ord] t we z memb]s may s]ve ,him 
m loyally4  ,we are ,*ri/'s1 br\ght into
 ?is relation%ip by ,8 love1 & we c gr[ 
9 ?is relation%ip only z we are guid$ by
 ,8 ,_s4 ,ev]y?+ else is second>y to    
?is4 ,b all o!r relation%ips1 if (f]$ to
 ,him & illum9$ & correct$ by ,8 ,_s1 c 
be wond]ful also1 because !n !y too     
become a "p ( ,8 means ( reunit+1 by ,8 
love1 m5 ) "o ano!r & ) ,him4  ,9 ?is is

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s5t 8 ,son4444 ,we love1 because he fir/
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,luke #aj3be ff4   #bc ,matt4 #aj3cg4   
#bd #a ,john #d3aj1 #ai4     ab\t !     
au?or   ,reuel ,lanphi] ,h[e is         
recogniz$ z "o ( ! =emo/ c\nselors 9    
,am]ica 9 ! field ( p]sonal             
relation%ips4 ,! au?oritative           
conclusions gr[+ out ( 8 rese>* are     
pres5t$ 9 ?is book ) e>ne/ness &        
und]/&+4  ,he 0 born 9 ! /ate ( ,wa%+ton
 & receiv$ 8 ,b4,a4 degree f ,:itman    
,college 9 ,walla ,walla4 ,f ! ,div9ity 
,s*ool ( ! ,prote/ant ,episcopal ,*ur*1 
,philadelphia1 he receiv$ ! degrees (   
,s4,t4,b41 ,s4,t4,m41 & ,s4,t4,d4 ,he 0 
orda9$ 9 ! ,prote/ant ,episcopal ,*ur* 9
 #aibi & #aicj4 ,:itman ,college & !    
,*icago ,!ological ,sem9>y h ea* honor$ 
him ) ! ,d4,d4 degree4  ,9 #aica he     
became ,vic> ( ,/4 ,/eph5's ,*ur*1      
,elsm]e1 ,n4,y4 ,!n1 = ab\t tw5ty ye>s1 
he 0 on ! faculties ( ! ,div9ity ,s*ool 
( ! ,prote/ant ,episcopal ,*ur*1        

,philadelphia1 & ! ,prote/ant ,episcopal
 ,!ological ,sem9>y 9 ,virg9ia4 ,9 bo? (
 ^! situations he develop$ a program (  
cl9ical pa/oral tra9+ to prep>e ! cl]gy 
to m9i/] to ! ne$s ( p4 ,he has s]v$ on 
_m important committees & bo>ds & has   
lectur$ ext5sively1 bo? 9 ,am]ica &     
abroad4  ,pres5tly he is ! director ( ! 
,in/itute = ,advanc$ ,pa/oral ,/udies1 9
 ,bloomfield ,hills1 ,mi*41 a           
po/ord9ation tra9+ c5t] = m9i/]s ( v>i\s
 d5om9ations :o h be5 9 ! m9i/ry = at   
lea/ ?ree ye>s4 ,he takes "p 9 _m       
significant educational programs outside
 8 d5om9ation4 ,"o ( ,dr4 ,h[e's major  
int]e/s is 9 ! correlation ( ! insights 
( !ology ) ^? ( ! social & m$ical       
sci5ces4 ,! en?usiasm ) :i* 8 lectures &
 books h be5 receiv$ po9ts to 8         
popul>ity z a ?9k] & writ]4             
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