file :i* includes ! orig9al illu/rations4 ,see #agfji-;h4htm or #agfji-;h4zip3 7https3_/_/www4gut5b]g4org_/dirs_/#a_/g_ /f_/j_/agfji_/agfji-;h_/#agfji-;h4htm7 or 7https3_/_/www4gut5b]g4org_/dirs_/#a_/g_ /f_/j_/agfji_/agfji-;h4zip7 ,,our ,,deportm5t ,or ! ,mann]s1 ,conduct & ,dress ( ! ,mo/ ,ref9$ ,society2 ,,includ+ ,=ms = ,lett]s1 ,invitations1 ,etc41 ,etc4 ,also1 ,valuable ,sugge/ions on ,home ,culture & ,tra9+4 ,compil$ f ! ,late/ ,reliable ,au?orities1 by ,,john ,h4 ,,"y1 ,a4,m4 ,revis$ & ,illu/rat$4 ,illu/ration ,f4 ,b4 ,dick]son ,co41 ,detroit1 ,mi*4 ,/4 ,l\is1 ,mo4 ,p5nsylvania ,publi%+ ,co41 ,h>risburgh1 ,pa4 ,union ,publi%+ ,h\se1 ,*icago1 ,ill4 #ahha4 ,illu/ration ,to g ?r\gh ?is life ) good mann]s possess$1 ,is to be k9d unto all1 ri*1 poor & oppress$1 ,= k9dness & m]cy are balms t w heal ,! sorr[s1 ! pa9s1 & ! woes t we feel4 ,illu/ration ,copyright$ by ,freeman ,b4 ,dick]son1 #ahgi & #ahha4 ,illu/ration ,preface4 ,no "o subject is ( m importance to p g5]ally ?an a k ( ! rules1 usages & c]emonies ( good society1 :i* are commonly express$ by ! ^w ,etiquette4 ,its necessity is felt :]ev] m5 & wom5 associate toge!r1 :e!r 9 ! city1 village1 or c\ntry t[n1 at home or abroad4 ,to acquire a ?or\gh k ( ^! matt]s1 & to put t k into practice ) p]fect ease & self-complac5cy1 is :at p call good bre$+4 ,to display an ignorance ( !m1 is to subject ! (f5d] to ! opprobrium ( be+ ill-br$4 ,9 ! compilation ( ?is "w1 ! object has be5 to pres5t ! usages & rules :i* gov]n ! mo/ ref9$ ,am]ican society1 & to imp>t t in=mation :i* w enable any "o1 9 :atev] circum/ances ( life to acquire ! p]fect ease ( a g5tleman1 or ! g5tle mann]s & graceful deportm5t ( a well-br$ lady1 ^: pres5ce w be s\ght =1 & :o1 by _! graceful deportm5t w le>n ! art ( be+ at home 9 any good society4 ,! "w is s arrang$1 t e subject is conv5i5tly classifi$ & subdivid$2 x is ?us an easy matt] to ref] at once to any giv5 subject4 ,x has be5 ! aim ( ! compil] to give m9utely all po9ts t are prop]ly embrac$ 9 a "w on etiquette1 ev5 ^u matt]s ( seem+ly trivial importance4 ,^u "s hi!rto disput$ po9ts1 ^? rules are giv51 :i* are su/a9$ by ! be/ au?orities & endors$ by good s5se4 ,z ! "w is n ! au?or%ip ( any "o individual1 & z no individual1 :atev] may be 8 acquirem5ts1 c\ld h ! presumption to dictate rules = ! conduct ( society 9 g5]al1 x is !re=e only claim$ t x is a c>eful compilation f all ! be/ & late/ au?orities ^u ! subject ( etiquette & k9dr$ matt]s1 :ile su* additional mat]ial has be5 embrac$ )9 its pages1 z1 x is hop$1 w be f\nd ( b5efit & int]e/ to e ,am]ican h\sehold4 ,j4,h4,y4 ,illu/ration ,cont5ts4 ,,*apt] ,i4 ,,page4 ,,introductory #ac ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,,mann]s4 ,good mann]s z an elem5t ( worldly success--,mann] an index ( "*--,! true g5tleman--,! true lady--,importance ( trifles--,value ( pleas+ mann]s--,p]sonal appe>ance enhanc$ & =tunes made by pleas+ mann]s--,polit5ess ! outgr[? ( good mann]s #bj ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,,introductions4 ,acqua9tances ?us =m$--,promiscu\s1 in=mal & casual introductions--,introduction ( a g5tleman to a lady & a lady to a g5tleman--,introduction at a ball--,! mann] ( introduction--,introduc+ relatives--,obligatory introductions--,salutations aft] introduction--,introduc+ "o's self--,lett]s ( introduction--,h[ !y are to be deliv]$--,duty ( a p]son to :om a lett] ( introduction is address$--,lett]s ( introduction = bus9ess purposes #ca ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,,salutations4 ,! salutation orig9ally an act ( wor%ip--,its =m 9 diff]5t nations--,! b[1 its prop] mode--,words ( salutation--,mann] ( b[+--,duties ( ! "y to old] p--,h[ to avoid recognition--,etiquette ( h&%ak+--,kiss+ z a mode ( salutation--,! kiss ( fri5d%ip--,! kiss ( respect #db ,,*apt] ,v4 ,,etiquette ,,on ,,calls4 ,morn+ calls--,ev5+ calls--,rules = =mal calls--,calls at ,summ] resorts--,reception days--,calls made by c>ds--,return+ ! fir/ call--,calls aft] a betro?al takes place--,=m+ new acqua9tance by calls--,! fir/ call1 by :om to be made--,calls ( ,congratulation--,visits ( condol5ce--,keep+ an acc\nt ( calls--,ev5+ visits--,engag$ or n at home to call]s--,g5]al rules relative to calls--,new ,ye>'s calls #eb ,,*apt] ,,vi4 ,,etiquette ,,on ,,visit+4 ,g5]al invitations n to be accept$--,! limit ( a prolong$ visit--,duties ( a visitor--,duties ( ! ho/ or ho/ess--,true hospitality--,leave-tak+--,invitations to gue/s--,=be>ance ) *ildr5--,gue/s mak+ pres5ts--,treatm5t ( a ho/'s fri5ds #fi ,,*apt] ,,vii4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,c>ds4 ,visit+ & call+ c>ds--,_! size & /yle--,w$d+ c>ds--,leav+ c>ds 9 call+--,c>ds = "m & daught]--,c>ds n to be s5t 9 envelopes to return =mal calls--,glaz$ c>ds n 9 fa%ion--,p4,p4,c4 c>ds--,c>ds ( congratulation--,:5 s5t--,leave c>ds 9 mak+ fir/ calls ( ! season & aft] invitations--,m\rn+ c>ds--,*ri/mas & ,ea/] c>ds--,c>ds ( condol5ce--,bridegroom's c>d4 #ge ,,*apt] ,,viii4 ,,conv]sation4 ,"* reveal$ by conv]sation--,importance ( conv]s+ well--,*ildr5 %\ld be tra9$ to talk well--,cultivation ( ! memory--,importance ( rememb]+ names--,h[ ,h5ry ,clay acquir$ ?is habit--,li/5+--,writ+ d[n "o's ?\ghts--,requisites = a good talk]--,vulg>isms--,flippancy--,sympa?iz + ) ano!r--,be/[+ complim5ts--,slang--,flatt]y--,sc&al & gossip--,satire & ridicule--,religion & politics to be avoid$--,be/[+ ( titles--,int]rupt+ ano!r :ile talk+--,adaptability 9 conv]sation--,correct use ( words--,speak+ "o's m9d--,pr(anity --,display ( k--,d\ble ent5dres--,imp]t95t que/ions --,?+s to be avoid$ 9 conv]sation--,hobbies--,fault-f9d+ --,disputes #hd ,,*apt] ,,ix4 ,,d9n] ,,p>ties4 ,d9n]s are ent]ta9m5ts = m>ri$ p--,:om to invite--,=ms ( invitations--,punctuality requir$--,! success ( a d9n] p>ty--,table appo9tm5ts--,prop] size ( a d9n] p>ty--,arrangem5t ( gue/s at table--,s]v+ d9n] a la ,russe--,duties ( s]vants--,s]v+ ! di%es--,g5]al rules reg>d+ d9n]--,wait+ on o!rs--,monopoliz+ conv]sation--,duties ( ho/ess & ho/--,retir+ f ! table--,calls requir$ aft] a d9n] p>ty--,return+ hospitalities--,exp5sive d9n]s n ! mo/ enjoyable--,w9es at d9n]s #ajf ,,*apt] ,x4 ,,table ,,etiquette4 ,importance ( acquir+ good habits at ! table--,table appo9tm5ts = breakfa/1 lun*eon & d9n]--,use ( ! knife & =k--,( ! napk9--,avoid fa/ eat+ & all appe>ance ( gre$9ess--,g5]al rules on ! subject #abc ,,*apt] ,,xi4 ,,receptions1 ,,p>ties ,,& ,,balls4 ,morn+ receptions--,! dress & refre%m5ts = !m--,invitations--,musical mat9ees--,p>ties 9 ! c\ntry--,five o'clock teas & kettle-drums--,requisites = a successful ball--,introductions at a ball--,receiv+ gue/s--,! numb] to invite--,duties ( ! gue/s--,g5]al rules to be obs]v$ at balls--,"s sugge/ions = g5tlem5--,duties ( an escort--,prep>ations = a ball--,! supp]--,an aft]-call requir$ #abi ,,*apt] ,,xii4 ,,/reet ,,etiquette4 ,! /reet mann]s ( a lady--,=m+ /reet acqua9tances--,recogniz+ fri5ds 9 ! /reet--,salut+ a lady--,pass+ ?r\gh a cr[d--,! fir/ to b[--,d n lack polit5ess--,h[ a lady & g5tleman %\ld walk toge!r--,:5 to (f] ! lady ! arm--,go+ up & d[n /airs--,smok+ 9 ! /reets--,c>ry+ packages--,meet+ a lady acqua9tance--,corn] loaf]s--,%\t+ 9 ! /reet--,%opp+ etiquette--,= public conveyances--,cutt+ acqua9tances--,g5]al sugge/ions #ade ,,*apt] ,,xiii4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,public ,,places4 ,conduct 9 *ur*--,invitations to op]a1 !atres & conc]ts--,conduct 9 public assemblages--,rema9 until ! p]=mance closes--,conduct 9 picture gall]ies--,behavior at *>ity fairs--,conduct at an arti/'s /udio #aeg ,,*apt] ,,xiv4 ,,travel+ ,,etiquette4 ,c\rtesies %[n to ladies travel+ alone--,duties ( an escort--,duties ( a lady to h] escort--,ladies %\ld assi/ o!r ladies travel+ alone--,! seats to be occupi$ 9 a railway c>--,discretion to be us$ 9 =m+ acqua9tances 9 travel+ #afg ,,*apt] ,,xv4 ,,rid+ ,,& ,,driv+4 ,le>n+ to ride on horseback--,! g5tleman's duty z an escort 9 rid+--,h[ to assi/ a lady to m\nt--,rid+ ) ladies--,assi/+ a lady to alight f a horse--,driv+--,! seat ( honor 9 a c>riage--,tru/+ ! driv] #agd ,,*apt] ,,xvi4 ,,c\rt%ip4 ,prop] conduct ( g5tlem5 & ladies t[>d ea* o!r--,premature decl>ation ( love--,love at fir/ sight--,prop] mann] ( c\rt%ip--,p>5ts %\ld ex]cise au?ority ov] daught]s--,an acceptable suitor--,requirem5ts = a happy m>riage--,proposals ( m>riage--,a g5tleman %\ld n press an unwelcome suit--,a lady's refusal--,a d\btful answ]--,unladylike conduct t[>d a suitor--,! reject$ suitor--,ask+ cons5t ( p>5ts--,pres5ts aft] engagem5t--,conduct & relations ( ! engag$ c\ple--,lov]s' qu>rels--,break+ an engagem5t #agi ,,*apt] ,,xvii4 ,,w$d+ ,,etiquette4 ,*oice ( bridemaids & groomsm5 or u%]s--,! bridal co/ume ,co/umes ( bridegroom & u%]s--,pres5ts ( ! bride & bridegroom--,c]emonials at *ur* :5 !re are no bridemaids or u%]s--,invitations to ! c]emony alone--,! late/ c]emonials--,w$d+s at home--,! ev5+ w$d+--,at home receptions--,calls--,! w$d+ r+--,m>riage c]emonials ( a wid[--,=m ( invitations to a reception--,duties ( invit$ gue/s--,( bridemaids & u%]s--,bridal pres5ts--,ma/] ( c]emonies--,w$d+ fees--,congratulations--,! bridal t\r #aid ,,*apt] ,,xviii4 ,,home ,,life ,,& ,,etiquette4 ,home ! woman's k+dom--,home companion%ip--,conduct ( husb& & wife--,duties ( ! wife to h] husb&--,! wife a helpmate--,! husb&'s duties #bjh ,,*apt] ,,xix4 ,,home ,,tra9+4 ,fir/ lessons le>n$ at home--,p>5ts %\ld set good examples to _! *ildr5--,c\rtesies 9 ! home circle--,e>ly moral tra9+ ( *ildr5--,! =mation ( _! habits--,polit5ess at home--,tra9 *ildr5 = "s occupation--,bad temp]--,selfi%ness--,home maxims #baf ,,*apt] ,,xx4 ,,home ,,culture4 ,cultivate moral c\rage--,! p]nici\s influ5ce ( indol5ce--,self-respect--,result ( good bre$+ at home--,fault-f9d+ & grumbl+--,family j>s n to be made public--,conflict+ int]e/s--,religi\s education--,ob$i5ce--,influ5ce ( example--,! influ5ce ( books #bbe ,,*apt] ,,xxi4 ,,woman',s ,,high] ,,education4 ,its importance--,tra9 "y wom5 to "s occupation--,education ( girls too sup]ficial--,an education appropriate to ea* sex--,k ( ! laws ( heal? ne$$ by wom5--,idl5ess ! s\rce ( all mis]y--,a _s ( indep5d5ce--,heal? & life dep5d5t ^u a high] culture--,cultivation ( ! moral s5se #bcc ,,*apt] ,,xxii4 ,,! ,,lett] ,,writ]4 ,lett] writ+ is an indication ( good bre$+--,requirem5ts = correct writ+--,anonym\s lett]s--,note pap] to be us$--,=ms ( lett]s & notes--,=ms ( address+ notes & lett]s--,=ms ( signature--,lett]s ( introduction--,:5 to be giv5--,notes ( invitation & replies !reto--,acceptances & regrets--,=mal invitations mu/ be answ]$--,lett]s ( fri5d%ip--,love lett]s--,bus9ess lett]s & correspond5ce--,=m ( lett] reque/+ employm5t--,reg>d+ ! "* ( a s]vant--,=ms = notes1 drafts1 bills & receipts #bdb ,,*apt] ,,xxiii4 ,,g5]al ,,rules ,,to ,,gov]n ,,conduct4 ,att5tion to ! "y 9 society--,gracefulness ( c>riage--,attitude1 c\gh+1 sneez+1 etc4--,anecdotes1 puns1 etc4--,a sweet & pure brea?--,smok+--,a good li/5]--,give prec$5ce to o!rs--,be mod]ate 9 speak+--,s++ & play+ 9 society--,receiv+ & mak+ pres5ts--,gov]n+ our moods--,a lady driv+ ) a g5tleman--,an invitation _c be recall$--,avoid talk+ ( p]sonalities--,%un gossip & tale be>+--,remov+ ! hat--,intrud+ on privacy--,polit5ess --,adapt+ y\rself to o!rs--,contradict+--,a woman's good "n --,express+ unfavorable op9ions--,vulg>ities--,miscellane\s rules gov]n+ conduct--,wa%+ton's maxims #bff ,,*apt] ,,xxiv4 ,,anniv]s>y ,,w$d+s4 ,h[ & :5 !y are celebrat$--,! pap]1 cotton & lea!r w$d+s--,! wood5 w$d+--,! t9 w$d+--,! cry/al w$d+--,! silv] w$d+--,! gold5 w$d+--,! diamond w$d+--,pres5ts at anniv]s>y w$d+s--,=ms ( invitations1 etc4 #bhe ,,*apt] ,,xxv4 ,,bir?s ,,& ,,*ri/5+s4 ,nam+ ! *ild--,! *ri/5+--,godp>5ts or sponsors--,pres5ts f godp>5ts--,! c]emony--,! breakfa/--,*ri/5+ gifts--,! h]o ( ! day--,fees #bia ,,*apt] ,,xxvi ,,fun]als4 ,dea? notices & fun]al invitations--,arrangem5t = ! fun]al--,! h\se ( m\rn+--,conduct+ ! fun]al s]vices--,! pall-be>]s --,ord] ( ! procession--,floral & o!r decorations--,calls ^u ! b]eav$ family--,seclusion ( ! family #bif ,,*apt] ,,xxvii4 ,,etiquette ,,at ,,wa%+ton4 ,social duties requir$ ( ! ,presid5t & 8 family--,receptions at ! ,:ite ,h\se--,ord] ( (ficial rank--,duties requir$ ( memb]s ( ! cab9et & _! families--,h[ to address (ficials--,! fir/ to visit #cjc ,,*apt] ,,xxviii4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,=eign ,,c\rts4 ,=eign titles--,royalty--,! nobility--,! g5try--,esquires--,imp]ial rank--,european titles--,pres5tation at ! c\rt ( ,/4 ,james--,^? eligible & ineligible = pres5tation--,prelim9>ies--,pres5tation co/umes #cjh ,,*apt] ,,xxix4 ,,bus9ess4 ,! example ( a m]*ant pr9ce--,keep y\r temp]--,hone/y ! be/ policy--,=m good habits--,break+ an appo9tm5t--,prompt paym5t ( bills1 notes & drafts--,g5]al sugge/ions #cae ,,*apt] ,,xxx4 ,,dress4 ,requirem5ts = dress+ well--,p]ils ( ! love ( dress to weak m9ds--,consi/5cy 9 dress--,extravagance--,indiff]5ce to dress--,appropriate dress--,! we>+ ( gloves--,ev5+ or full dress = g5tlem5--,morn+ dress = g5tlem5--,ev5+ or full dress = ladies--,ball dresses--,! full d9n] dress--,= receiv+ & mak+ morn+ calls--,morn+ dress = /reet--,c>riage dress--,prom5ade dress & walk+ suit--,op]a dress--,! rid+ dress--,= wom5 ( bus9ess--,ord9>y ev5+ dress--,= a social p>ty--,dress = ! !at]1 lecture & conc]t--,ar*]y1 croquet & skat+ co/umes--,ba?+ dress--,= travel+--,! bridal co/ume--,dress ( bridemaids--,at w$d+ receptions--,m\rn+ dress--,h[ long m\rn+ %\ld be worn #cbj ,,*apt] ,,xxxi4 ,,colors ,,& ,,_! ,,h>mony ,,9 ,,dress4 ,! prop] arrangem5t ( colors--,! colors adapt$ to diff]5t p]sons--,mat]ial = dress--,size 9 relation to color & dress--,a li/ ( colors t h>monize #cda ,,*apt] ,,xxxii4 ,,! ,,toilet4 ,importance ( neatness & cleanl9ess--,p]fumes--,! ba?--,! tee? & _! c>e--,! sk9--,! eyes1 eyela%es & br[s--,! hair & be>d--,! h&s & feet #cea ,,*apt] ,,xxxiii4 ,,toilet ,,recipes4 ,to remove freckles1 pimples & sunburn--,to beautify ! complexion--,to prev5t ! hair fall+ out--,pomades & hair oils--,sea foam or dry %ampoo--,to prev5t ! hair turn+ gray--,to s(t5 ! sk9--,to cleanse ! tee?--,rem$y = *app$ h&s--,= corns & *ilbla9s1 etc4 #cgb ,,*apt] ,,xxxiv4 ,,sports1 ,,games ,,& ,,amusem5ts4 ,ar*]y & its practice--,lawn ,t5nis--,boat+--,picnics--,private ,!atricals--,c>d play+ #cih ,,*apt] ,,xxxv4 ,,language ,,( ,,fl[]s1 #daj ,,*apt] ,,xxxvi4 ,,preci\s ,,/ones1 #dbc ,,*apt] ,i4 ,introductory4 ,+5i\s ,art ) h] expressive face1 ,/eps =? to fa%ion & ref9e ! race4--,,c[p]4 ,a k ( etiquette has be5 def9$ to be a k ( ! rules ( society at its be/4 ,^! rules h be5 ! outgr[? ( c5turies ( civilization1 _h _! f\ndation 9 fri5d%ip & love ( man = 8 fell[ man--! vital pr9ciples ( ,*ri/ianity--& are mo/ p[]ful ag5ts = promot+ peace1 h>mony & good w among all p :o are enjoy+ ! bless+s ( m advanc$ civiliz$ gov]nm5t4 ,9 all civiliz$ c\ntries ! influ5ce ( ! be/ society is ( great importance to ! welf>e & prosp]ity ( ! nation1 b 9 no c\ntry is ! good influ5ce ( ! mo/ ref9$ society m p[]fully felt ?an 9 our own1 ! l& ( ! future1 :]e mank9d may plant1 essay1 & resolve all social problems4 ,^! rules make social int]c\rse m agreeable1 & facilitate hospitalities1 :5 all memb]s ( society hold !m z b9d+ rules & fai?fully reg>d _! obs]vance4 ,!y are to society :at our laws are to ! p z a political body1 & to disreg>d !m w give rise to con/ant misund]/&+s1 eng5d] ill-w1 & beget bad morals & bad mann]s4 ,says an em95t ,engli% writ]3 ,on mann]s1 ref9em5t1 rules ( good bre$+1 & ev5 ! =ms ( etiquette1 we are =ev] talk+1 judg+ our neighbors sev]ely by ! brea* ( tradition>y & unwritt5 laws1 & *oos+ our society & ev5 our fri5ds by ! t\*/one ( c\rtesy4 ,! ,m>*ioness de ,lamb]t express$ op9ions :i* w be endors$ by ! be/ br$ p ev]y:]e :5 %e wrote to h] son3 ,no?+ is m %ameful ?an a volunt>y rud5ess4 ,m5 h f\nd x necess>y z well z agreeable to unite = ! common good2 !y h made laws to re/ra9 ! wick$2 !y h agre$ among !mselves z to ! duties ( society1 & h annex$ an honorable "* to ! practice ( ^? duties4 ,he is ! hone/ man :o obs]ves !m ) ! mo/ exactness1 & ! in/ances ( !m multiply 9 proportion to ! degree ( nicety ( a p]son's honor4 ,orig9ally a g5tleman 0 def9$ to be "o :o1 )\t any title ( nobility1 wore a coat ( arms4 ,& ! desc5dants ( _m ( ! e>ly coloni/s pres]ve ) mu* pride & c>e ! old armorial be>+s :i* _! ance/ors br\ght ) !m f _! homes 9 ! "m c\ntry4 ,al?\gh despis+ titles & ignor+ ! rights ( k+s1 !y /ill clung to ! gr& old "n ( g5tleman4 ,b race is no long] ! only requisite = a g5tleman1 nor w race unit$ ) le>n+ & weal? make a man a g5tleman1 unless !re are pres5t ! k9d & g5tle qualities ( ! he>t1 :i* f9d expression 9 ! pr9ciples ( ! ,gold5 ,rule4 ,nor w race1 education & weal? comb9$ make a woman a true lady if %e %[s a want ( ref9em5t & consid]ation ( ! feel+s ( o!rs4 ,good mann]s are only acquir$ by education & obs]vation1 foll[$ up by habitual practice at home & 9 society1 & good mann]s reveal to u ! lady & ! g5tleman4 ,he :o does n possess !m1 ?\gh he be> ! highe/ title ( nobility1 _c expect to be call$ a g5tleman2 nor c a woman1 )\t good mann]s1 aspire to be consid]$ a lady by ladies4 ,mann]s & morals are indissolubly alli$1 & no society c be good :]e !y are bad4 ,x is ! duty ( ,am]ican wom5 to ex]cise _! influ5ce to =m s high a /&>d ( morals & mann]s t ! t5d5cy ( society w be cont9ually upw>ds1 seek+ to make x ! be/ society ( any nation4 ,z culture is ! fir/ requirem5t ( good society1 s self-improvem5t %\ld be ! aim ( ea* & all ( its memb]s4 ,mann]s w improve ) ! cultivation ( ! m9d1 until ! pleasure & h>mony ( social int]c\rse are no long] m>r$ by ! introduction ( discordant elem5ts1 & !y only w be exclud$ f ! be/ society ^: lack ( education & ^: rude mann]s w totally unfit !m = its enjoym5ts & appreciation4 ,good mann]s are ev5 m ess5tial to h>mony 9 society ?an a good education1 & may be consid]$ z valuable an acquisition z k 9 any =m4 ,! pr9ciples ( ! ,gold5 ,rule1 :atsoev] ye w\ld t m5 %\ld d to y1 d ye ev5 s to !m1 is ! basis ( all true polit5ess--pr9ciples :i* tea* u to =get ourselves1 to be k9d to our neighbors1 & to be civil ev5 to our enemies4 ,! appe>ance ( s be+ & do+ is :at society dem&s z good mann]s1 & ! man or woman tra9$ to ?is mode ( life is reg>d$ z well-br$4 ,! p1 ?us tra9$1 are easy to get along )1 = !y are z quick to make an apology :5 !y h be5 at fault1 z !y are to accept "o :5 x is made4 ,! noble-he>t$ only und]/& ! noble-he>t$4 ,9 a society :]e ! majority are rude f ! ?\ghtfulness ( ignorance1 or remiss f ! insol5ce ( bad bre$+1 ! iron rule1 ,d unto o!rs1 z !y d unto y1 is m (t5 put into practice ?an ! gold5 "o4 ,! savages "k no?+ ( ! virtues ( =giv5ess1 & reg>d ^? :o are n rev5geful z want+ 9 _s2 s ! ill-br$ d n und]/& undes]v$ civilities ext5d$ to promote ! g5]al int]e/s ( society1 & to c>ry out ! injunction ( ! ,scriptures to /rive aft] ! ?+s t make = peace4 ,society is divid$ into sets1 accord+ to _! bre$+4 ,"o set may be said to h no bre$+ at all1 ano!r to h a little1 ano!r m1 & ano!r en\gh2 & betwe5 ! fir/ & la/ ( ^!1 !re are m %ades ?an 9 ! ra9b[4 ,good mann]s are ! same 9 ess5ce ev]y:]e--at c\rts1 9 fa%ionable society1 9 lit]>y circles1 9 dome/ic life--!y nev] *ange1 b social obs]vances1 cu/oms & po9ts ( etiquette1 v>y ) ! age & ) ! p4 ,a ,fr5* writ] has said3 ,to be truly polite1 x is necess>y to be1 at ! same "t1 good1 j1 & g5]\s4 ,true polit5ess is ! outw>d visible sign ( ^? inw>d spiritual graces call$ mode/y1 unselfi%ness & g5]osity4 ,! mann]s ( a g5tleman are ! index ( 8 s\l4 ,8 spee* is innoc5t1 because 8 life is pure2 8 ?\ghts are "r1 because 8 actions are upright2 8 be>+ is g5tle1 because 8 feel+s1 8 impulses1 & 8 tra9+ are g5tle also4 ,a g5tleman is entirely free f e k9d ( pret5ce4 ,he avoids homage1 in/ead ( exact+ x4 ,m]e c]emonies h no attraction = him4 ,he seeks n to say any civil ?+s1 b to d !m4 ,8 hospitality1 ?\gh he>ty & s9c]e1 w be /rictly regulat$ by 8 means4 ,8 fri5ds w be *os5 = _! good qualities & good mann]s2 8 s]vants = _! tru?fulness & hone/y2 8 occupations = _! usefulness1 _! gracefulness or _! elevat+ t5d5cies1 :e!r moral1 m5tal or political4 ,9 ! same g5]al tone does ,rusk9 describe a g5tleman1 :5 he says3 ,a g5tleman's fir/ *>act]i/ic is t f95ess ( /ructure 9 ! body :i* r5d]s x capable ( ! mo/ delicate s5sation1 & ( t /ructure 9 ! m9d :i* r5d]s x capable ( ! mo/ delicate sympa?ies--"o may say1 simply1 'f95ess ( nature4' ,?is is1 ( c\rse1 compatible ) ! h]oic bodily /r5g? & m5tal firmness2 9 fact1 h]oic /r5g? is n conceivable )\t su* delicacy4 ,elephant9e /r5g? may drive its way ?r\gh a =e/ & feel no t\* ( ! b\ghs1 b ! :ite sk9 ( ,hom]'s ,atrides w\ld h felt a b5t rose-leaf1 yet subdue its feel+s 9 ! gl[ ( battle & behave itself l iron4 ,i d n mean to call an elephant a vulg> animal2 b if y ?9k ab\t him c>efully1 y w f9d t 8 non-vulg>ity consi/s 9 su* g5tl5ess z is possible to elephant9e nature--n 9 8 ins5sitive hide nor 9 8 clumsy foot1 b 9 ! way he w lift 8 foot if a *ild lies 9 8 way1 & 9 8 s5sitive trunk & /ill m s5sitive m9d & capability ( pique on po9ts ( honor4 ,h5ce x w foll[ t "o ( ! probable signs ( high bre$+ 9 m5 g5]ally1 w be _! k9dness & m]cifulness1 ^! always indicat+ m or less firmness ( make 9 ! m9d4 ,c any "o fancy :at our society might be1 if all its memb]s 7 p]fect g5tlem5 & true ladies1 if all ! inhabitants ( ! e>? 7 k9d-he>t$2 if1 in/ead ( cont5d+ ) ! faults ( our fell[s we 7 ea* to wage w> aga9/ our own faults8 ,e "o ne$s to gu>d con/antly aga9/ ! evil f )9 z well z f )\t1 = z has be5 truly said1 a man's greate/ foe dwells 9 8 own he>t4 ,a rec5t ,engli% writ] says3 ,etiquette may be def9$ z ! m9or morality ( life4 ,no obs]vances1 h[ev] m9ute1 t t5d to sp>e ! feel+s ( o!rs1 c be class$ "u ! head ( trivialities2 & polit5ess1 :i* is b ano!r "n = g5]al amiability1 w oil ! creak+ :eels ( life m effectually ?an any ( ^? ungu5ts suppli$ by m]e weal? & /ation4 ,:ile ! social obs]vances1 cu/oms & rules :i* h gr[n up are num]\s1 & "s p]haps consid]$ trivial1 !y are all gr\nd$ ^u pr9ciples ( k9dness to "o ano!r1 & spr+ f ! impulses ( a good he>t & f fri5dly feel+s4 ,! truly polite man acts f ! highe/ & noble/ ideas ( :at is "r4 ,"l ,*e/]field decl>$ good bre$+ to be ! result ( mu* good s5se1 "s good nature & a little self-d5ial = ! sake ( o!rs1 & ) a view to obta9 ! same indulg5ce f !m4 ,aga9 he says3 ,good s5se & good nature sugge/ civility 9 g5]al1 b 9 good bre$+ !re are a ?\s& little delicacies :i* are e/abli%$ only by cu/om4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,ii4 ,our ,mann]s4 ,no "o quality ( ! m9d & he>t is m important z an elem5t conducive to worldly success ?an civility--t feel+ ( k9dness & love = our fell[-be+s :i* is express$ 9 pleas+ mann]s4 ,yet h[ _m ( our "y m51 ) an affect$ contempt = ! =ms & conv5tionalities ( life1 assume to despise ^? delicate att5tions1 t exquisite t5d]ness ( ?\ght & mann]1 t m>k ! true g5tleman4 ,,mann]s ,,z ,,an ,,elem5t ,,( ,,success4 ,hi/ory repeats1 ov] & ov] aga91 examples %[+ t x is ! be>+ ( a man t[>d 8 fell[-m5 :i*1 m ?an any o!r "o quality ( 8 nature1 promotes or ret>ds 8 advancem5t 9 life4 ,! success or failure ( "o's plans h (t5 turn$ ^u ! address & mann] ( ! man4 ,?\gh !re are a few p :o c look beyond ! r\gh husk or %ell ( a fell[-be+ to ! f9] qualities hidd5 )91 yet ! va/ majority1 n s ke5-visag$ nor tol]ant1 judge a p]son by 8 appe>ance & demeanor1 m ?an by 8 sub/antial "*4 ,exp]i5ce ( e day life tea*es u1 if we w\ld b le>n1 t civility is n only "o ( ! ess5tials ( high success1 b t x is almo/ a =tune ( itself1 & t he :o has ?is quality 9 p]fection1 ?\gh a blockhead1 is almo/ sure to succe$ :]e1 )\t x1 ev5 m5 ( good ability fail4 ,a good mann] is ! be/ lett] ( recomm5dation among /rang]s4 ,civility1 ref9em5t & g5tl5ess are passports to he>ts & homes1 :ile awkw>dness1 co>s5ess & gruffness are met ) lock$ doors & clos$ he>ts4 ,em]son says3 ,give a boy address & accompli%m5ts1 & y give him ! ma/]y ( palaces & =tunes :]ev] he goes2 he has n ! tr\ble ( e>n+ or own+ !m2 !y solicit him to ent] & possess4 ,9 e class ( life1 9 all pr(essions & occupations1 good mann]s are necess>y to success4 ,! bus9ess man has no /ock-9-trade t pays him bett] ?an a good address4 ,if ! retail deal] we>s 8 hat on 8 head 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies :o come to buy ( him1 if he does n see t ! heavy door ( 8 %op is op5$ & clos$ = !m1 if he seats himself 9 _! pres5ce1 if he smokes a pipe or cig>1 or has a *ew ( tobacco 9 8 m\?1 :ile talk+ ) !m1 or is guilty ( any ( ! small incivilities ( life1 !y w n be apt to make 8 %op a r5dezv\s1 no matt] h[ attractive ! goods he displays4 ,a tell+ prea*] 9 8 op5+ rem>ks ga9s ! good w ( 8 he>]s1 & makes !m feel bo? t he has some?+ to say1 & t he c say x1 by 8 mann]4 ,! successful m$ical man inspires 9 8 pati5ts belief 9 8 sympa?y1 & confid5ce 9 8 skill1 by 8 mann]4 ,! lawy]1 9 plead+ a case be=e a jury1 & rememb]+ t ! passions & prejudices ( ! jurym5 gov]n !m to z great an ext5t z pure reason1 mu/ n be =getful ( 8 mann]1 if he w\ld br+ !m to 8 own way ( ?9k+4 ,& h[ (t5 does ! motto1 ,mann]s make ! man1 gov]n bo? p>ties 9 matt]s ( c\rt%ip1 ! lady giv+ pref]5ce to him ^: mann]s indicate a true nobility ( ! s\l1 & ! g5tleman pref]r+ h] :o displays 9 h] mann] a g5tl5ess ( _s4 ,,mann] ,,an ,,index ,,( ,,"*4 ,a rude p]son1 ?\gh well mean+1 is avoid$ by all4 ,mann]s1 9 fact1 are m9or morals2 & a rude p]son is (t5 assum$ to be a bad p]son4 ,! mann] 9 :i* a p]son says or does a ?+1 furni%es a bett] index ( 8 "* ?an :at he does or says1 = x is by ! incid5tal expression giv5 to 8 ?\ghts & feel+s1 by 8 looks1 tones & ge/ures1 r ?an by 8 words & de$s1 t we pref] to judge him1 = ! reason t ! =m] are involunt>y4 ,! mann] 9 :i* a favor is grant$ or a k9dness done1 (t5 affects u m ?an ! de$ itself4 ,! de$ may h be5 prompt$ by vanity1 pride1 or "s selfi% motive or int]e/2 ! w>m? or coldness ) :i* ! p]son :o has done x speaks to y1 or grasps y\r h&1 is less likely to deceive4 ,! mann] ( do+ any ?+1 x has be5 truly said1 is t :i* /amps its life & "* on any action4 ,a favor may be p]=m$ s grudg+ly z to prev5t any feel+ ( obligation1 or x may be refus$ s c\rte\sly z to awak5 m k9dly feel+s ?an if x _h be5 ungraci\sly grant$4 ,,! ,,true ,,g5tleman4 ,polit5ess is b5evol5ce 9 small ?+s4 ,a true g5tleman mu/ reg>d ! rights & feel+s ( o!rs1 ev5 9 matt]s ! mo/ trivial4 ,he respects ! individuality ( o!rs1 j z he wi%es o!rs to respect 8 own4 ,9 society he is quiet1 easy1 unobtrusive1 putt+ on no airs1 nor h9t+ by ^w or mann] t he deems himself bett]1 or wis]1 or ri*] ?an any "o ab\t him4 ,he nev] boa/s ( 8 a*ievem5ts1 or fi%es = complim5ts by affect+ to und]rate :at he has done4 ,he is di/+ui%$1 above all ?+s1 by 8 deep insight & sympa?y1 8 quick p]ception (1 & prompt att5tion to1 ^? small & app>5tly insignificant ?+s t may cause pleasure or pa9 to o!rs4 ,9 giv+ 8 op9ions he does n dogmatize2 he li/5s pati5tly & respectfully to o!r m51 &1 if compell$ to diss5t f _! op9ions1 ackn[l$ges 8 fallibility & ass]ts 8 own views 9 su* a mann] z to comm& ! respect ( all :o he> him4 ,frankness & cordiality m>k all 8 int]c\rse ) 8 fell[s1 &1 h[ev] high 8 /ation1 ! humble/ man feels in/antly at ease 9 8 pres5ce4 ,,! ,,true ,,lady4 ,calv]t says3 ,ladyhood is an emanation f ! he>t subtiliz$ by culture2 giv+ z two requisites = ! highe/ bre$+1 transmitt$ qualities & ! culture ( good tra9+4 ,he cont9ues3 ,( ! high] type ( ladyhood may always be said :at ,/eele said ( ,lady ,elizabe? ,ha/+s1 't unaffect$ fre$om & consci\s innoc5ce gave h] ! att5dance ( ! graces 9 all h] actions4' ,at its highe/1 ladyhood implies a spirituality made manife/ 9 poetic grace4 ,f ! lady !re exhales a subtle magnetism4 ,unconsci\sly %e encircles h]self ) an atmosph]e ( unruffl$ /r5g?1 :i*1 to ^? :o come into x1 gives confid5ce & repose4 ,)9 h] influ5ce ! diffid5t gr[ self-possess$1 ! impud5t are *eck$1 ! inconsid]ate are admoni%$2 ev5 ! rude are con/ra9$ to be mann]ly1 & ! ref9$ are p]fect$2 all spell$1 unaw>es1 by ! flexible dignity1 ! comm&+ g5tl5ess1 ! ?or\gh womanl9ess ( h] look1 spee* & demeanor4 ,a sway is ?is1 purely spiritual4 ,e sway1 e legitimate1 e endur+ sway is spiritual2 a regnancy ( light ov] obscurity1 ( "r ov] brutality4 ,! only real ga9s ev] made are spiritual ga9s--a fur!r subjection ( ! gross to ! incorporeal1 ( body to s\l1 ( ! animal to ! human4 ,! f9e/ & mo/ *>act]i/ic acts ( a lady involve a spiritual asc5sion1 a gr[+ out ( h]self4 ,9 h] be+ & be>+1 pati5ce1 g5]osity1 b5ignity are ! graces t give %ape to ! virtues ( tru?fulness4 ,"h is ! te/ ( true ladyhood4 ,:5ev] ! "y f9d !mselves 9 ! company ( ^? :o d n make !m feel at ease1 !y %\ld "k t !y are n 9 ! society ( true ladies & true g5tlem51 b ( pret5d]s2 t well-br$ m5 & wom5 c only feel at home 9 ! society ( ! well-br$4 ,,! ,,importance ,,( ,,trifles4 ,"s p are wont to depreciate ^! k9d & t5d] qualities z trifles2 b trifles1 x mu/ be rememb]$1 make up ! aggregate ( human life4 ,! petty incivilities1 slight rud5esses & neglects ( :i* m5 are guilty1 )\t ?\ght1 or f lack ( =esight or sympa?y1 are (t5 rememb]$1 :ile ! great acts p]=m$ by ! same p]sons are (t5 =gott54 ,!re is no society :]e smiles1 pleasant looks & animal spirits are n welcom$ & deem$ ( m importance ?an sallies ( wit1 or ref9em5ts ( und]/&+4 ,! little civilities1 :i* =m ! small *ange ( life may appe> sep>ately ( little mom5t1 b1 l ! sp>e p5nies :i* am\nt to su* l>ge =tunes 9 a lifetime1 !y owe _! importance to repetition & accumulation4 ,,value ,,( ,,pleas+ ,,mann]s4 ,! man :o succe$s 9 any call+ 9 life is almo/ inv>iably he :o has %[n a will+ness to please & to be pleas$1 :o has respond$ he>tily to ! advances ( o!rs1 ?r\gh nature & habit1 :ile 8 rival has sniff$ & fr[n$ & snubb$ away e help+ h&4 ,! *>m+ mann]s ( ! ,duke ( ,m>lbor\gh1 x is said1 (t5 *ang$ an enemy to a fri5d1 & to be d5i$ a favor by him 0 m pleas+ ?an to receive "o f ano!r4 ,x 0 ^! p]sonal graces t made him bo? ri* & great4 ,8 address 0 s exquisitely fasc9at+ z to dissolve fi]ce jeal\sies & animosities1 lull suspicion & beguile ! subtle/ diplomacy ( its arts4 ,8 fasc9at+ smile & w9n+ tongue1 equally ) 8 %>p sword1 sway$ ! de/9ies ( empires4 ,! graci\s mann]s ( ,*>les ,james ,fox pres]v$ him f p]sonal dislike1 ev5 :5 he _h gambl$ away 8 la/ %ill+1 & politically1 0 ! mo/ unpopul> man 9 ,engl&4 ,,mann]s ,,& ,,p]sonal ,,appe>ance4 ,a *>m+ mann] n only enhances p]sonal beauty1 b ev5 hides ugl9ess & makes pla9ness agreeable4 ,an ill-favor$ c\nt5ance is n necess>ily a /umbl+-block1 at ! outset1 to its own]1 :i* _c be surm\nt$1 = :o does n "k h[ mu* a happy mann] (t5 does to neutralize ! ill effects ( =bidd+ looks8 ,! fasc9ation ( ! demagogue ,wilkes's mann] triumph$ ov] bo? physical & moral de=mity1 r5d]+ ev5 8 ugl9ess agreeable2 & he boa/$ to ,"l ,t[ns5d1 "o ( ! h&some/ m5 9 ,great ,brita91 t ) half an h\r's />t he w\ld get ahead ( 8 lord%ip 9 ! affections ( any woman 9 ! k+dom4 ,! uglie/ ,fr5*man1 p]haps1 t ev] liv$ 0 ,mirabeau2 yet su* 0 ! wit*]y ( 8 mann]1 t ! belt ( no gay ,lo?>io 0 hung ) a great] numb] ( ble$+ female he>ts ?an ?is ?und]] ( ! tribune1 ^: looks 7 s hide\s t he 0 comp>$ to a tig] pitt$ ) ! small-pox4 ,,=tunes ,,made ,,by ,,pleas+ ,,mann]s4 ,pleas+ mann]s h made ! =tunes ( m5 9 all pr(essions & 9 e walk ( life--( lawy]s1 doctors1 cl]gym51 m]*ants1 cl]ks & me*anics--& in/ances ( ?is are s num]\s t !y may be recall$ by almo/ any p]son4 ,! politician :o has ! advantage ( a c\rte\s1 graceful & pleas+ mann] f9ds himself an easy w9n] 9 ! race ) rival c&idates1 = e vot] ) :om he speaks becomes in/antly 8 fri5d4 ,civility is to a man :at beauty is to a woman4 ,x creates an in/antane\s impression 9 8 behalf1 :ile gruffness or co>s5ess excites z quick a prejudice aga9/ him4 ,x is an ornam5t1 wor? m z a means ( w9n+ favor ?an ! f9e/ clo!s & jewels ev] worn4 ,"l ,*e/]field said ! art ( pleas+ is1 9 tru?1 ! art ( ris+1 ( di/+ui%+ "o's self1 ( mak+ a figure & a =tune 9 ! _w4 ,"s ye>s ago a drygoods salesman 9 a ,london %op _h acquir$ su* a reputation = c\rtesy & exhau/less pati5ce1 t x 0 said to be impossible to provoke f him any expression ( irritability1 or ! smalle/ symptom ( vexation4 ,a lady ( rank le>n+ ( 8 wond]ful equanimity1 det]m9$ to put x to ! te/ by all ! annoyances ) :i* a vet]an %op-visitor kn[s h[ to tease a %opman4 ,%e fail$ 9 h] attempt to vex or irritate him1 & !reupon set him up 9 bus9ess4 ,he rose to em95ce 9 trade1 & ! ma9 spr+ ( 8 lat]1 z ( 8 e>li] c>e]1 0 polit5ess4 ,hundr$s ( m51 l ?is salesman1 h ow$ _! />t 9 life :olly to _! pleas+ address & mann]s4 ,,cultivation ,,( ,,good ,,mann]s4 ,! cultivation ( pleas+1 affable mann]s %\ld be an important "p ( ! education ( e p]son ( :atev] call+ or /ation 9 life4 ,_m p ?9k t if !y h only ! sub/ance1 ! =m is ( little consequ5ce4 ,b mann]s are a comp\nd ( _s & =m--_s act$ into =m4 ,! fir/ law ( good mann]s1 :i* epitomizes all ! re/ is1 ,?\ %alt love ?y neighbor z ?yself4 ,true c\rtesy is simply ! application ( ?is gold5 rule to all our social conduct1 or1 z x has be5 happily def9$1 real k9dness1 k9dly express$4 ,x may be met 9 ! hut ( ! ,arab1 9 ! c\rty>d ( ! ,turk1 9 ! hovel ( ! fre$man1 & ! cottage ( ! ,iri%man4 ,ev5 ,*ri/ian m5 sometimes fail 9 c\rtesy1 deem+ x a m>k ( weakness1 or neglect+ x f m]e ?\ghtlessness4 ,yet :5 we f9d ?is add$ to ! o!r virtues ( ! ,*ri/ian1 x w be not$ t 8 influ5ce = good ^u o!rs has be5 p[]fully increas$1 = x 0 by ?is t he obta9$ access to ! he>ts ( o!rs4 ,an old ,engli% writ] said rev]5tly ( our ,savi\r3 ,he 0 ! fir/ true g5tleman t ev] liv$4 ,! influ5ce ( _m good m5 w\ld be m ?an d\bl$ if !y c\ld manage to be less /iff & m ela/ic4 ,g5tl5ess 9 society1 x has be5 truly said1 is l ! sil5t influ5ce ( light :i* gives color to all nature2 x is f> m p[]ful ?an l\dness or =ce1 & f> m fruitful4 ,x pu%es its way sil5tly & p]si/5tly l ! t9ie/ daffodil 9 spr+1 :i* raises ! clod & ?ru/s x aside by ! simple p]si/5ce ( gr[+4 ,,polit5ess4 ,polit5ess is k9dness ( mann]4 ,?is is ! outgr[? ( k9dness ( he>t1 ( nobl5ess1 & ( c\rage4 ,b 9 "s p]sons we f9d an abundance ( c\rage1 nobl5ess & k9dness ( he>t1 )\t k9dness ( mann]1 & we c only ?9k & speak ( !m z n only impolite1 b ev5 rude & gruff4 ,su* a man 0 ,dr4 ,johnson1 ^: rud5ess secur$ = him ! nickname ( ,ursa ,major1 & ( :om ,goldsmi? tru?fully rem>k$1 ,no man alive has a m t5d] he>t2 he has no?+ ( ! be> ab\t him b 8 sk94 ,to acquire t ease & grace ( mann]s :i* is possess$ by & :i* di/+ui%es e well-br$ p]son1 "o mu/ ?9k ( o!rs r ?an ( himself1 & /udy to please !m ev5 at 8 own inconv5i5ce4 ,d unto o!rs z y w\ld t o!rs %\ld d unto y--! gold5 rule ( life--is also ! law ( polit5ess1 & su* polit5ess implies self-sacrifice1 _m /ruggles & conflicts4 ,x is an art & tact1 r ?an an in/9ct & inspiration4 ,an em95t div9e has said3 ,a noble & attractive e-day be>+ comes ( goodness1 ( s9c]ity1 ( ref9em5t4 ,& ^! are br$ 9 ye>s1 n mom5ts4 ,! pr9ciple t rules our life is ! sure po/ure-ma/]4 ,sir ,philip ,sidney 0 ! patt]n to all ,engl& ( a p]fect g5tleman2 b !n he 0 ! h]o t1 on ! field ( ,zutph51 pu%$ away ! cup ( cold wat] f 8 own fev]$ & p>*$ lips1 & held x out to ! dy+ soldi] at 8 side4 ,a ,*ri/ian by ! v conditions ( 8 cre$1 & ! obligations ( 8 fai? is1 ( necessity1 9 m9d & s\l--& !re=e 9 ^w & act--a g5tleman1 b a man may be polite )\t be+ a ,*ri/ian4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,iii4 ,introductions4 ,an acqua9tance%ip or fri5d%ip usually beg9s by means ( introductions1 ?\gh x is by no means uncommon t :5 x has tak5 place "u o!r circum/ances--)\t introduction--x has be5 a great advantage to bo? p>ties2 nor c x be said t x is improp] to beg9 an acqua9tance 9 ?is way4 ,! =mal introduction has be5 call$ ! highway to ! beg9n+ ( fri5d%ip1 & ! scrap$ acqua9tance ! by-pa?4 ,,promiscu\s ,,introduction4 ,!re is a l>ge class ( p :o introduce fri5ds & acqua9tances to ev]ybody !y meet1 :e!r at home or abroad1 :ile walk+ or rid+ out4 ,su* promiscu\s introductions are nei!r necess>y1 desirable1 nor at all times agreeable4 ,,an ,,introduction ,a ,,social ,,endorsem5t4 ,x is to be rememb]$ t an introduction is reg>d$ z a social endorsem5t ( ! p]son introduc$1 & t1 "u c]ta9 circum/ances1 x w\ld be wrong to introduce to our fri5ds casual acqua9tances1 ( :om we "k no?+1 & :o may aft]w>ds prove to be any?+ b desirable p]sons to "k4 ,c>e %\ld be tak51 !re=e1 9 introduc+ two individuals1 t ! introduction be mutually agreeable4 ,:5ev] x is practicable1 x is be/ to settle ! po9t by inquir+ be=eh&4 ,:5 ?is is inexp$i5t f any cause1 a ?or\gh acqua9tance ) bo? p>ties w w>rant ! introduc] to judge ( ! po9t = him or h]self4 ,,univ]sal ,,introductions4 ,:ile ! habit ( univ]sal introductions is a bad "o1 !re are _m m5 9 cities & villages :o are n at all p>ticul> :om !y introduce to ea* o!r4 ,z a g5]al rule1 a man %\ld be z c>eful ab\t ! "* ( ! p]son he introduces to 8 fri5ds1 z he is ( him ^: notes he w\ld endorse4 ,,! ,,introduction ,,( ,a ,,g5tleman ,,to ,a ,,lady4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n be introduc$ to a lady1 unless h] p]mission has be5 previ\sly obta9$1 & no "o %\ld ev] be introduc$ into ! h\se ( a fri5d1 except p]mission is fir/ grant$4 ,su* introductions1 h[ev]1 are frequ5t1 b !y are improp]1 = a p]son _c "k t an introduction ( ?is k9d w be agreeable4 ,if a p]son asks y to introduce him to ano!r1 or a g5tleman asks to be introduc$ to a lady1 & y f9d ! introduction w\ld n be agreeable to ! o!r p>ty1 y may decl9e on ! gr\nds t y are n suffici5tly intimate to take t lib]ty4 ,:5 a g5tleman is introduc$ to a lady1 bo? b[ slightly1 & ! g5tleman op5s conv]sation4 ,x is ! place ( ! "o :o is introduc$ to make ! fir/ rem>k4 ,,in=mal ,,introduction4 ,x is n /rictly necess>y t acqua9tance%ip %\ld wait a =mal introduction4 ,p]sons meet+ at ! h\se ( a common fri5d may consid] t fact a suffici5t w>rant = ! prelim9>ies ( acqua9tance%ip1 if !re appe>s to be a mutual incl9ation t[>d su* acqua9tance%ip4 ,! pres5ce ( a p]son 9 a fri5d's h\se is a suffici5t gu>anty = 8 or h] respectability4 ,g5tlem5 & ladies may =m acqua9tances 9 travel+1 on a /eamboat1 9 a railway c>1 or a /age-coa*1 )\t ! =mality ( an introduction4 ,su* acqua9tance%ip %\ld be conduct$ ) a c]ta9 am\nt ( res]ve1 & ne$ n be prolong$ beyond ! "t ( casual meet+4 ,! slighte/ approa* to disrespect or famili>ity %\ld be *eck$ by dignifi$ sil5ce4 ,a "y lady1 h[ev]1 is n accord$ ! same privilege ( =m+ acqua9tances z is a m>ri$ or eld]ly lady1 & %\ld be c>eful ab\t do+ s4 ,,introductions ,,at ,a ,,ball4 ,x is ! "p ( ! ho/ & ho/ess at a ball to introduce _! gue/s1 ?\gh gue/s may1 ) p]fect propriety1 introduce ea* o!r1 or1 z already intimat$1 may conv]se ) "o ano!r )\t ! c]emony ( a =mal introduction4 ,a g5tleman1 be=e introduc+ 8 fri5ds to ladies1 %\ld obta9 p]mission ( ! latt] to d s1 unless he is p]fectly sure1 f 8 k ( ! ladies1 t ! introductions w be agreeable4 ,! ladies %\ld always grant su* p]mission1 unless !re is a /rong reason = refus+4 ,! ,fr5*1 & to "s ext5t ! ,engli%1 disp5se ) introductions at a private ball4 ,! fact t !y h be5 invit$ to meet ea* o!r is reg>d$ z a gu>anty t !y are fit to be mutually acqua9t$1 & is a suffici5t w>rant = self-introduction4 ,at a public ball p>tn]s mu/ be introduc$ to ea* o!r4 ,special introduc+ may be made ) propriety by ! ma/] ( c]emonies4 ,at public balls x is well = ladies to dance only1 or = ! mo/ "p1 ) g5tlem5 ( _! own p>ty1 or ^? ) :om !y h _h a previ\s acqua9tance4 ,,! ,,mann] ,,( ,,introduction4 ,! prop] =m ( introduction is to pres5t ! g5tleman to ! lady1 ! y\ng] to ! old]1 ! inf]ior 9 social /&+ to ! sup]ior4 ,9 introduc+1 y b[ to ! lady & say1 ,miss ,c41 all[ me to introduce to y ,mr4 ,d4 ,mr4 ,d41 ,miss ,c4 ,x is ! duty ( ,mr4 ,d4 ^u b[+ to say1 ,x gives me great pleasure to =m y\r acqua9tance1 ,miss ,c41 or a rem>k ( ?is nature4 ,if g5tlem5 are to be introduc$ to "o ano!r1 ! =m is1 ,col4 ,blank1 p]mit me to introduce to y ,mr4 ,cole4 ,mr4 ,cole1 ,col4 ,blank4 ,! exact words ( an introduction are immat]ial1 s long z ! prop] =m & ord] is pres]v$4 ,! ^w pres5t is (t5 us$ 9 place ( introduce4 ,:ile x is cu/om>y to repeat ! names ( ! two p>ties introduc$ at ! close ( ! introduction1 x is (t5 omitt$ z a useless =mality4 ,x is ( ! utmo/ importance t ea* "n %\ld be spok5 di/9ctly4 ,if ei!r ( ! p>ties does n di/9ctly he> ! "n ( ! o!r he %\ld say at once1 )\t hesitation or emb>rassm5t1 be=e mak+ ! b[1 ,i beg y\r p>don2 ,i did n cat* 7or und]/&7 ! "n1 :5 x may be repeat$ to him4 ,if sev]al p]sons are to be introduc$ to "o individual1 m5tion ! "n ( ! s+le individual fir/1 & !n call ! o!rs 9 succession1 b[+ slightly z ea* "n is pron\nc$4 ,x is ! "p ( true polit5ess1 aft] introductions1 to expla9 to ea* p]son introduc$ some?+ ( ! bus9ess or resid5ce ( ea*1 z !y w assi/ 9 op5+ conv]sation4 ,or1 if "o p>ty has rec5tly return$ f a =eign trip1 x is c\rte\s to say s4 ,,casual ,,introductions4 ,:ile x is n necess>y to introduce p :o *ance to meet 9 y\r h\se dur+ a morn+ call2 yet1 if !re is no reason = suppos+ t su* an introduction w be objectionable to ei!r p>ty1 x seems bett] to give x1 z x sets bo? p>ties at ease 9 conv]sation4 ,acqua9tance%ip may or may n foll[ su* an introduction1 at ! option ( ! p>ties4 ,p :o meet at ! h\se ( a mutual fri5d ne$ n recognize ea* o!r z acqua9tances if !y meet aga9 else:]e1 unless !y *oose to d s4 ,,introduc+ ,,relatives4 ,9 introduc+ memb]s ( y\r own family1 be c>eful n only to specify ! degree ( relation%ip1 b to give ! "n also4 ,x is awkw>d to a /rang] to be introduc$ to ,my bro!r ,tom1 or ,my si/] ,c>rie4 ,:5 ei!r ! introduc] or ! introduc$ is a m>ri$ lady1 ! "n ( ! p>ty introduc$ c only be guess$ at4 ,,be/[+ ,,( ,,titles4 ,9 introduc+ a p]son give him 8 appropriate title4 ,if he is a cl]gyman1 say ,! ,rev4 ,mr4 ,cl>k4 ,if a doctor ( div9ity1 say ,! ,rev4 ,dr4 ,cl>k4 ,if he is a memb] ( ,congress1 call him ,honorable1 & specify to :i* bran* ( ,congress he belongs4 ,if he is gov]nor ( a ,/ate1 m5tion :at ,/ate4 ,if he is a man ( any celebrity 9 ! _w ( art or lett]s1 x is well to m5tion ! fact some?+ aft] ?is mann]3 ,mr4 ,fi%1 ! arti/1 ^: pictures y h frequ5tly se51 or ,mr4 ,h>t1 au?or ( ',our ,future ,/ate1' :i* y s greatly admir$4 ,,obligatory ,,introductions4 ,a fri5d visit+ at y\r h\se mu/ be introduc$ to all call]s1 & c\rtesy requires ! latt] to cultivate ! acqua9tance :ile y\r visitor rema9s ) y4 ,if y are ! call] introduc$1 y mu/ %[ ! same att5tion to ! fri5d ( y\r fri5d t y wi% %[n y\r own fri5ds "u ! same circum/ances4 ,p]sons meet+ at public places ne$ n introduce ea* o!r to ! /rang]s :o may *ance to be ) !m2 &1 ev5 if ! introduction does take place1 ! acqua9tance ne$ n be cont9u$ unless desir$4 ,,! ,,obligation ,,( ,,an ,,introduction4 ,two p]sons :o h be5 prop]ly introduc$ h 9 future c]ta9 claims ^u "o ano!r's acqua9tance :i* %\ld be recogniz$1 unless !re are suffici5t reasons = ov]look+ !m4 ,ev5 9 t case good mann]s require ! =mal b[ ( recognition ^u meet+1 :i*1 ( itself1 enc\rages no famili>ity4 ,only a v ill-br$ p]son w meet ano!r ) a />e4 ,,! ,,salutation ,,aft] ,,introduction4 ,a slight b[ is all t is requir$ by c\rtesy1 aft] an introduction4 ,%ak+ h&s is optional1 & x %\ld re/ ) ! old]1 or ! sup]ior 9 social /&+ to make ! advances4 ,x is (t5 an act ( k9dness on _! "p1 & z su* to be comm5d$4 ,x is a common practice among g5tlem51 :5 introduc$ to "o ano!r1 to %ake h&s1 & z x ev9ces m cordiality ?an a m]e b[1 is g5]ally to be pref]r$4 ,an unm>ri$ lady %\ld n %ake h&s ) g5tlem5 indiscrim9ately4 ,,! ,,fir/ ,,to ,,recognize4 ,x is ! privilege ( ! lady to det]m9e :e!r %e w recognize a g5tleman aft] an introduction1 & he is b\nd to return ! b[4 ,9 b[+ to a lady on ! /reet1 x is n en\gh t a g5tleman %\ld t\* 8 hat1 he %\ld lift x f 8 head4 ,,! ,,cut ,,direct4 ,! cut direct1 :i* is giv5 by a prolong$ />e at a p]son1 if ju/ifi$ at all1 c only be 9 case ( extraord9>y & notori\sly bad conduct on ! "p ( ! individual cut1 & is v seldom call$ =4 ,if any "o wi%es to avoid a b[+ acqua9tance ) ano!r1 x c be done by look+ aside or dropp+ ! eyes4 ,x is an inv>iable rule ( good society1 t a g5tleman _c cut a lady "u any circum/ances1 b circum/ances may arise :5 he may be excus$ = p]si/+ 9 n meet+ h] eyes1 = if _! eyes meet1 he mu/ b[4 ,,meet+ ,,9 ,,! ,,/reet4 ,if1 :ile walk+ ) "o fri5d1 9 ! /reet1 y meet ano!r & /op a mom5t to speak ) ! latt]1 x is n necess>y to introduce ! two :o are /rang]s to "o ano!r2 b1 :5 y sep>ate1 ! fri5d :o accompanies y gives a p>t+ salutation1 ! same z y\rself4 ,! same rule applies if ! fri5d y meet *ances to be a lady4 ,,introduc+ ,,y\rself4 ,if1 on ent]+ a draw+-room to pay a visit1 y are n recogniz$1 m5tion y\r "n imm$iately4 ,if y "k b "o memb] ( ! family & y f9d o!rs only 9 ! room1 introduce y\rself to !m4 ,unless ?is is done1 mu* awkw>dness may be occasion$4 ,,ab\t ,,%ak+ ,,h&s4 ,:5 a lady is introduc$ to a g5tleman1 %e %\ld m]ely b[ b n give h] h&1 unless ! g5tleman is a well kn[n fri5d ( "s memb] ( ! family4 ,9 t case %e may d s if %e pleases1 z a m>k ( e/eem or respect4 ,a g5tleman mu/ n (f] to %ake h&s ) a lady until %e has made ! fir/ movem5t4 ,a m>ri$ lady %\ld ext5d h] h& ^u be+ introduc$ to a /rang] br\ght to h] h\se by h] husb&1 or by a common fri5d1 z an evid5ce ( h] cordial welcome4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,introduction4 ,fri5dly lett]s ( introduction %\ld only be giv5 to p]sonal fri5ds1 introduc+ !m1 & only address$ to ^? ) :om ! writ] has a /rong p]sonal fri5d%ip4 ,x is n only fooli%1 b positively dang]\s to give su* a lett] to a p]son ) :om ! writ] is b slightly acqua9t$1 z y may ?us give y\r c\nt5ance & endorsem5t to a p]son :o w take advantage ( y\r c>elessness to br+ y into emb>rass+ & mortify+ positions4 ,aga91 y %\ld nev] address a lett] ( introduction to any b an intimate fri5d ( long /&+1 & ev5 !n x %\ld n be done1 unless y are p]fectly satisfi$ t ! p]son y are to introduce w be an agreeable & cong5ial p]son = y\r fri5d to meet1 z x w\ld be v annoy+ to s5d to y\r fri5d a visitor :o w\ld prove to him disagreeable4 ,ev5 among/ fri5ds ( long /&+ su* lett]s %\ld be giv5 v cauti\sly & sp>+ly4 ,! =m ( lett]s ( introduction is giv5 9 ! *apt] on ,lett]-writ+4 ,,deliv]+ ,a ,,lett] ,,( ,,introduction4 ,x is n necess>y to deliv] a fri5dly lett] ( introduction to a p]son :o resides 9 ano!r t[n4 ,x is bett] to s5d x to ! p]son to :om x is direct$1 on y\r arrival1 accompani$ by y\r c>d ( address4 ,if he wi%es to comply ) ! reque/ ( 8 fri5d he w call ^u y1 & give y an invitation to visit him2 circum/ances1 h[ev]1 might r5d] x exce$+ly inconv5i5t1 or impossible = ! p]son to :om ! lett] is address$1 to call ^u y2 consequ5tly a neglect to call ne$ n be consid]$ a m>k ( ill-bre$+1 ?\gh by "s p x is s consid]$4 ,! p]son address$ mu/ consult 8 own feel+s 9 ! matt]1 & :ile aim+ to d :at is "r1 he is n b\nd to sacrifice bus9ess or o!r important matt]s to att5d to ! ent]ta9m5t ( a fri5d's fri5d4 ,9 su* a case he may s5d 8 own c>d to ! address ( ! p]son be>+ ! lett] ( introduction1 & ! latt] is at lib]ty to call ^u him at 8 leisure4 ,,! ,,duty ,,( ,,! ,,p]son ,,address$4 ,9 ,europe x is ! cu/om = a p]son ) a lett] ( introduction to make ! fir/ call1 b 9 ?is c\ntry we ?9k t a /rang] %\ld nev] be made to feel t he is begg+ our att5tion1 & t x is indelicate = him to intrude until he is positive t 8 company w\ld be agreeable4 ,consequ5tly1 if x is y\r wi% & 9 y\r p[] to welcome any "o recomm5d$ to y by lett] f a fri5d1 or to %[ y\r reg>d = y\r fri5d's fri5d1 y mu/ call ^u him ) all possible dispat*1 aft] y receive 8 lett] ( introduction1 & give him z hospitable a reception & ent]ta9m5t z x is possible to give1 & su* z y w\ld be pleas$ to receive 7 y 9 8 place4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,introduction ,,= ,,bus9ess ,,purposes4 ,lett]s ( introduction to & f bus9ess m5 may be deliv]$ by ! be>]s 9 p]son1 & etiquette does n require ! receiv] to ent]ta9 ! p]son introduc$ z a fri5d ( ! writ]4 ,x is entirely optional ) ! p]son to :om ! latt] is introduc$ h[ he welcomes him1 or :e!r he ent]ta9s him or n1 ?\gh 8 c\rtesy w\ld be apt to sugge/ t "s k9d att5tions %\ld be paid him4 ,,*apt] ,,iv4 ,salutations4 ,c>lyle says3 ,:at we call '=mulas' are n 9 _! orig9 bad2 !y are indisputably good4 ,=mula is me?od1 habitude2 f\nd :]ev] man is f\nd4 ,=mulas fa%ion !mselves z pa?s d1 z beat5 highways lead+ t[>d "s sacr$1 high object1 :i!r _m m5 are b5t4 ,consid] x3 ,"o man full ( he>tfelt1 e>ne/ impulse f9ds out a way ( do+ some?+--7 x utt]+ 8 s\l's rev]5ce = ! ,highe/1 7 x b ( fitly salut+ 8 fell[-man4 ,an inv5tor 0 ne$$ to d t1 a poet2 he has articulat$ ! dim1 /ruggl+ ?\ght t dwelt 9 8 own & _m he>ts4 ,?is is ! way ( do+ t4 ,^! are 8 foot/eps1 ! beg9n+ ( a 'pa?4' ,& n[ see ! second man travels naturally 9 ! foot/eps ( 8 =ego]2 x is ! easie/ me?od4 ,9 ! foot/eps ( 8 =ego]1 yet ) 8 improvem5ts1 ) *anges :]e su* seem good2 at all ev5ts ) enl>gem5ts1 ! pa? ev] wid5+ itself z m travel x1 till at la/ !re is a broad highway1 :]eon ! :ole _w may travel & drive4 ,,salutation ,,orig9ally ,,an ,,act ,,( ,,wor%ip4 ,a lady writ] ( di/9ction says ( salutations3 ,x w\ld seem t good mann]s 7 orig9ally ! expression ( submission f ! weak] to ! /rong]4 ,9 a rude /ate ( society e salutation is to ?is day an act ( wor%ip4 ,h5ce ! commone/ acts1 phrases & signs ( c\rtesy ) :i* we are n[ famili>1 date f ^? e>li] /ages :5 ! /rong h& rul$ & ! inf]ior demon/rat$ 8 allegiance by /udi$ s]vility4 ,let u take1 = example1 ! words 'sir' & 'madam4' ',sir' is d]iv$ f seigneur1 sieur1 & orig9ally meant "l1 k+1 rul] &1 9 its patri>*al s5se1 fa!r4 ,! title ( sire 0 la/ borne by "s ( ! anci5t feudal families ( ,france1 :o1 z ,seld5 has said1 'affect$ r to be /yl$ by ! "n ( sire ?an b>on1 z ,le ,sire de ,montmor5ci & ! l4' ',madam' or 'madame1' corrupt$ by s]vants into 'ma'am1' & by ,mrs4 ,gamp & h] tribe into 'mum1' is 9 sub/ance equival5t to 'y\r exalt$1' or 'y\r highness1' madame orig9ally mean+ high-born1 or /ately1 & be+ appli$ only to ladies ( ! highe/ rank4 ,to turn to our e-day =ms ( salutation4 ,we take (f our hats on visit+ an acqua9tance4 ,we b[ on be+ introduc$ to /rang]s4 ,we rise :5 visitors ent] our draw+-room4 ,we wave our h& to our fri5d z he passes ! w9d[ or drives away f our door4 ,! ,ori5tal1 9 l mann]1 leaves 8 %oes on ! ?re%old :5 he pays a visit4 ,! natives ( ! ,tonga ,isl&s kiss ! soles ( a *iefta9's feet4 ,! ,sib]ian peasant grovels 9 ! du/ be=e a ,russian noble4 ,ea* ( ^! acts has a prim>y1 an hi/orical significance4 ,! v ^w 'salutation1' 9 ! fir/ place1 d]iv$ z x is f salutatio1 ! daily homage paid by a ,roman cli5t to 8 patron1 sugge/s 9 itself a hi/ory ( mann]s4 ,to b>e ! head 0 orig9ally an act ( submission to gods & rul]s4 ,a b[ is a modifi$ pro/ration4 ,a lady's c\rtesy is a modifi$ g5uflection4 ,ris+ & /&+ are acts ( homage2 & :5 we wave our h& to a fri5d on ! opposite side ( ! /reet1 we are unconsci\sly imitat+ ! ,romans1 :o1 z ,seld5 tells u1 us$ to /& 'some:at (f be=e ! images ( _! gods1 solemnly mov+ ! "r h& to ! lips & ca/+ x1 z if !y _h ca/ kisses4' ,aga91 m5 remove ! glove :5 !y %ake h&s ) a lady--a cu/om evid5tly ( feudal orig94 ,! knight remov$ 8 iron gauntlet1 ! pressure ( :i* w\ld h be5 all too h>% = ! palm ( a fair *atela9e2 & ! cu/om1 :i* began 9 necessity1 has travel$ d[n to u z a po9t ( etiquette4 ,,salutations ,,( ,,diff]5t ,,nations4 ,ea* nation has its own me?od ( salutation4 ,9 ,s\!rn ,africa x is ! cu/om to rub toes4 ,9 ,lapl& y\r fri5d rubs 8 nose aga9/ y\rs4 ,! ,turk folds 8 arms ^u 8 brea/ & b5ds 8 head v l[4 ,! ,moors ( ,morocco h a some:at />tl+ mode ( salutation4 ,!y ride at a gallop t[>d a /rang]1 z ?\gh !y w\ld unhorse him1 & :5 close at h& sudd5ly *eck _! horse & fire a pi/ol ov] ! p]son's head4 ,! ,egyptian solicit\sly asks y1 ,h[ d y p]spire8 & lets 8 h& fall to ! knee4 ,! ,*9ese b[s l[ & inquires1 ,h y eat58 ,! ,spani>d says1 ,god be ) y1 sir1 or1 ,h[ d y /&8 ,& ! ,neapolitan pi\sly rem>ks1 ,gr[ 9 hol9ess4 ,! ,g]man asks1 ,h[ goes x ) y8 ,! ,fr5*man b[s pr(\ndly & inquires1 ,h[ d y c>ry y\rself4 ,=eign]s are giv5 to embrac+4 ,9 ,france & ,g]many ! p>5t kisses 8 gr[n-up son on ! =ehead1 m5 ?r[ _! arms ar\nd ! necks ( _! fri5ds1 & bro!rs embrace l lov]s4 ,x is a curi\s sight to ,am]icans1 ) _! natural prejudices aga9/ publicity 9 kiss+4 ,9 ,engl& & ,am]ica !re are ?ree modes ( salutation--! b[1 ! h&%ak+ & ! kiss4 ,,! ,,b[4 ,x is said3 ,a b[ is a note drawn at sight4 ,y are b\nd to ackn[l$ge x imm$iately1 & to ! full am\nt4 ,x %\ld be respectful1 cordial1 civil or famili>1 accord+ to circum/ances4 ,betwe5 g5tlem51 an incl9ation ( ! head1 a ge/ure ( ! h&1 or ! m]e t\*+ ( ! hat is suffici5t2 b 9 b[+ to a lady1 ! hat mu/ be lift$ f ! head4 ,if y "k p slightly1 y recognize !m slightly2 if y "k !m well1 y b[ ) m famili>ity4 ,! body is n b5t at all 9 b[+2 ! incl9ation ( ! head is all t is necess>y4 ,if ! g5tleman is smok+1 he )draws 8 cig> f 8 m\? be=e lift+ 8 hat to a lady1 or if he %\ld happ5 to h 8 h& 9 8 pocket he removes x4 ,at ! mom5t ( ! fir/ meet+ ( ! eyes ( an acqua9tance y b[4 ,any "o :o has be5 introduc$ to y1 or any "o to :om y h be5 introduc$1 is entitl$ to ?is m>k ( respect4 ,! b[ is ! t\*/one ( good bre$+1 & to neglect x1 ev5 to "o ) :om y may h a trifl+ diff]5ce1 %[s defici5cy 9 cultivation & 9 ! in/9cts ( ref9em5t4 ,a b[ does n entail a call+ acqua9tance4 ,its entire neglect reveals ! "* & tra9+ ( ! p]son2 ! mann] ( its obs]vance reveals ! v %ades ( bre$+ t exi/ betwe5 ! ill-br$ & ! well-br$4 ,,return+ ,a ,,b[4 ,a g5tleman walk+ ) a lady returns a b[ made to h]1 :e!r by a lady or g5tleman 7lift+ 8 hat n too f> f 8 head71 al?\gh ! "o b[+ is an entire /rang] to him4 ,x is civility to return a b[1 al?\gh y d n "k ! "o :o is b[+ to y4 ,ei!r ! "o :o b[s1 kn[s y1 or has mi/ak5 y = "s "o else4 ,9 ei!r case y %\ld return ! b[1 & probably ! mi/ake w be discov]$ to h occurr$ = want ( quick recognition on y\r own "p1 or f "s resemblance t y be> to ano!r4 ,,! ,,mann] ,,( ,,b[+4 ,! mann] 9 :i* ! salutation ( recognition is made1 may be reg>d$ z an un]r+ te/ ( ! bre$+1 tra9+1 or culture ( a p]son4 ,x %\ld be prompt z soon z ! eyes meet1 :e!r on ! /reet or 9 a room4 ,! int]c\rse ne$ g no fur!r1 b t b[ mu/ be made4 ,!re are b few laws :i* h bett] reasons = _! obs]vance ?an ?is4 ,?is rule holds good "u all circum/ances1 :e!r )9 doors or )\t4 ,^? :o ab/a9 f b[+ at "o "t1 & b[ at ano!r1 %\ld n be surpris$ to f9d t ! p]son :om !y h neglect$1 has avoid$ ! cont9uation ( _! acqua9tance4 ,,duties ,,( ,,"y ,,to ,,old] ,,p4 ,hav+ once _h an introduction t entitles to recognition1 x is ! duty ( ! p]son to recall himself or h]self to ! recollection ( ! old] p]son1 if !re is mu* diff]5ce 9 age1 by b[+ ea* "t ( meet+1 until ! recognition becomes mutual4 ,z p]sons advance 9 life1 !y look = ^! att5tions ^u ! "p ( ! "y4 ,p]sons :o h l>ge circles ( acqua9tance1 (t5 confuse ! faces ( ! "y :om !y "k ) ! famili> faces :i* !y meet & d n "k1 & f frequ5t errors ( ?is k9d1 !y get into ! habit ( wait+ to cat* "s look or ge/ure ( recognition4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,avoid ,,recognition4 ,if a p]son desires to avoid a b[+ acqua9tance ) a p]son :o has be5 prop]ly introduc$1 he may d s by look+ aside1 or dropp+ ! eyes z ! p]son approa*es1 =1 if ! eyes meet1 !re is no alt]native1 b[ he mu/4 ,,on ,,public ,,prom5ades4 ,b[+ once to a p]son ^u a public prom5ade or drive is all t civility requires4 ,if ! p]son is a fri5d1 x is 9 bett] =m1 ! second & subsequ5t pass+s1 %\ld y cat* 8 or h] eye1 to smile slightly in/ead ( b[+ repeat$ly4 ,if an acqua9tance1 x is be/ to av]t ! eyes4 ,a ,,smil+ ,,b[4 ,a b[ %\ld nev] be accompani$ by a broad smile1 ev5 :5 y are well acqua9t$1 & yet a high au?ority well says3 ,y %\ld nev] speak to an acqua9tance )\t a smile 9 y\r eyes4 ,,def]5ce ,,to ,,eld]ly ,,p4 ,a "y lady %\ld %[ ! same def]5ce to an eld]ly lady t a g5tleman does to a lady4 ,x may also be said t a "y man %\ld %[ prop] def]5ce to eld]ly g5tlem54 ,,words ,,( ,,salutation4 ,! words commonly us$ 9 salut+ a p]son are ,good ,morn+1 ,good ,aft]noon1 ,good ,ev5+1 ,h[ d y d 7sometimes contract$ into ,h[dy & ,h[ dye d17 & ,h[ are y4 ,! ?ree =m] are mo/ appropriate1 z x seems some:at absurd to ask aft] a p]son's heal?1 unless y /op to receive an answ]4 ,a respectful b[ %\ld accompany ! words4 ,,%ak+ ,,h&s4 ,among fri5ds ! %ak+ ( ! h& is ! mo/ g5u9e & cordial expression ( good-w4 ,x is n necess>y1 ?\gh 9 c]ta9 cases x is n =bidd51 ^u introduction2 b :5 acqua9tance%ip has rea*$ any degree ( intimacy1 x is p]fectly prop]4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,h&%ak+4 ,an au?ority ^u ?is subject says3 ,! etiquette ( h&%ak+ is simple4 ,a man has no "r to take a lady's h& until x is (f]$4 ,he has ev5 less "r to p9* or reta9 x4 ,two "y ladies %ake h&s g5tly & s(tly4 ,a "y lady gives h] h&1 b does n %ake a g5tleman's unless %e is 8 fri5d4 ,a lady %\ld always rise to give h] h&2 a g5tleman1 ( c\rse1 nev] d>es to d s seat$4 ,on introduction 9 a room1 a m>ri$ lady g5]ally (f]s h] h&2 a "y lady1 n4 ,9 a ball-room1 :]e ! introduction is to danc+1 n to fri5d%ip1 y nev] %ake h&s2 & z a g5]al rule1 an introduction is n foll[$ by %ak+ h&s1 only by a b[4 ,x may p]haps be laid d[n t ! m public ! place ( introduction1 ! less h&%ak+ takes place4 ,b if ! introduction be p>ticul>1 if x be accompani$ by p]sonal recomm5dation1 su* z1 ',i want y to "k my fri5d ,jones1' or if ,jones comes ) a lett] ( pres5tation1 !n y give ,jones y\r h&1 & w>mly1 too4 ,la/ly1 x is ! privilege ( a sup]ior to (f] or )hold 8 or h] h&1 s t an inf]ior %\ld nev] put 8 =w>d fir/4 ,:5 a lady s f> puts aside h] res]ve z to %ake h&s at all1 %e %\ld give h] h& ) frankness & cordiality4 ,!re %\ld be equal frankness & cordiality on ! g5tleman's "p1 & ev5 m w>m?1 ?\gh a c>eful avoidance ( any?+ l (f5sive famili>ity or t :i* might be mi/ak5 z su*4 ,9 %ak+ h&s1 ! "r h& %\ld always be (f]$1 unless x be s engag$ z to make x impossible1 & !n an excuse %\ld be (f]$4 ,! ,fr5* give ! left h&1 z ne>e/ ! he>t4 ,! mi/ress ( a h\sehold %\ld (f] h] h& to e gue/ invit$ to h] h\se4 ,a g5tleman mu/ n %ake h&s ) a lady until %e has made ! fir/ move 9 t direction4 ,x is a m>k ( rud5ess n to give 8 h& in/antly1 %\ld %e ext5d h] own4 ,a m>ri$ lady %\ld always ext5d h] h& to a /rang] br\ght to h] h\se by a common fri5d1 z an evid5ce ( h] cordial welcome4 ,:]e an introduction is = danc+ !re is no %ak+ ( h&s4 ,,! ,,kiss4 ,?is is ! mo/ affectionate =m ( salutation1 & is only prop] among ne> relations & de> fri5ds4 ,,! ,,kiss ,,( ,,fri5d%ip4 ,! kiss ( fri5d%ip & relation%ip is on ! *eeks & =ehead4 ,9 ?is c\ntry ?is act ( affection is g5]ally exclud$ f public eyes1 & 9 ! case ( p>5ts & *ildr5 & ne> relations1 x is p]haps unnecess>ily s4 ,,kiss+ ,,9 ,,public4 ,! cu/om :i* has become q preval5t ( wom5 kiss+ ea* o!r :5ev] !y meet 9 public1 is reg>d$ z vulg>1 & by ladies ( delicacy & ref9em5t is entirely avoid$4 ,,! ,,kiss ,,( ,,respect4 ,! kiss ( respect--almo/ obsolete 9 ?is c\ntry--is made on ! h&4 ,! cu/om is reta9$ 9 ,g]many & among g5tlem5 ( ! mo/ c\rtly mann]s 9 ,engl&4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,v4 ,etiquette ( ,calls4 ,!re are calls ( c]emony1 ( condol5ce1 ( congratulation & ( fri5d%ip4 ,all b ! latt] are usually ( %ort duration4 ,! call ( fri5d%ip is usually ( less =mality & may be ( "s l5g?4 ,,morn+ ,,calls4 ,morn+ calls1 z !y are t]m$1 %\ld n be made e>li] ?an #ab ,p4,m41 nor lat] ?an #e ,p4,m4 ,a morn+ call %\ld n exce$ half an h\r 9 l5g?4 ,f t5 to tw5ty m9utes is ord9>ily q long en\gh4 ,if o!r visitors come 91 ! visit %\ld t]m9ate z spe$ily z possible4 ,^u leav+1 b[ slightly to ! /rang]s4 ,9 mak+ a call be c>eful to avoid ! lun*eon & d9n] h\r ( y\r fri5ds4 ,f two until five is ord9>ily ! mo/ conv5i5t "t = morn+ calls4 ,,ev5+ ,,calls4 ,x is sometimes m conv5i5t = bo? ! call] & ^? call$ ^u t ! call %\ld be made 9 ! ev5+4 ,an ev5+ call %\ld nev] be made lat] ?an n9e o'clock1 nor be prolong$ aft] t51 nei!r %\ld x exce$ an h\r 9 l5g?4 ,,rules ,,= ,,=mal ,,calls4 ,! lady ( ! h\se rises ^u ! entrance ( h] visitors1 :o at once advance to pay _! respects to h] be=e speak+ to o!rs4 ,if too _m call]s are pres5t to enable h] to take ! lead 9 conv]sation1 %e pays special att5tion to ! late/ arrivals1 wat*+ to see t no "o is left alone1 & talk+ to ea* ( h] gue/s 9 succession1 or see+ t "s "o is do+ s4 ,a lady :o is n 9 h] own h\se does n rise1 ei!r on ! arrival or dep>ture ( ladies1 unless !re is "s great diff]5ce ( age4 ,att5tion to ! ag$ is "o ( ! m>ks ( good bre$+ :i* is nev] neglect$ by ! ?\ghtful & ref9$4 ,x is n cu/om>y to introduce resid5ts ( ! same city1 unless ! ho/ess kn[s t an introduction w be agreeable to bo? p>ties4 ,/rang]s 9 ! place are always introduc$4 ,ladies & g5tlem5 :o meet 9 ! draw+-room ( a common fri5d are privileg$ to speak to ea* o!r )\t an introduction2 ?\gh g5tlem5 g5]ally pref] to ask = introductions4 ,:5 introduc$ to any "o1 b[ slightly1 & ent] at once into conv]sation4 ,x %[s a lack ( good bre$+ n to d s4 ,:5 introductions are giv51 x is ! g5tleman :o %\ld be pres5t$ to ! lady2 :5 two ladies are introduc$1 x is ! y\ng] :o is pres5t$ to ! old]4 ,a lady receiv+ gives h] h& to a /rang] z to a fri5d1 :5 %e wi%es to be/[ "s m>k ( cordiality 9 welcom+ a gue/ to h] home1 b a g5tleman %\ld n take ! initiatory 9 h&%ak+4 ,x is ! lady's privilege to give or )hold1 z %e *ooses4 ,a g5tleman rises :5 ^? ladies ) :om he is talk+ rise to take _! leave4 ,he also rises ^u ! entrance ( ladies1 b he does n (f] seats to ^? ent]+1 unless 9 8 own h\se1 or unless reque/$ to d s by ! ho/ess1 & !n he does n (f] 8 own *air if o!rs are available4 ,a call %\ld n be less ?an fifte5 m9utes 9 duration1 nor %\ld x be s long z to become t$i\s4 ,a bore is a p]son :o does n "k :5 y h _h en\gh ( 8 or h] company1 & gives m ( x ?an is desirable4 ,*oose a "t to leave :5 !re is a lull 9 ! conv]sation1 & ! ho/ess is n occupi$ ) fre% arrivals4 ,!n take leave ( y\r ho/ess1 b[+ to ^? y "k z y leave ! room1 n to ea* 9 turn1 b let "o b[ include all4 ,calls ought to be made )9 ?ree days aft] a d9n] or tea p>ty1 if x is a fir/ invitation2 & if n1 )9 a week4 ,aft] a p>ty or a ball1 :e!r y h accept$ ! invitation or n1 y call )9 a week4 ,a lady :o has no regul> reception day w endeavor to receive call]s at any "t4 ,if %e is occupi$1 %e w in/ruct h] s]vant to say t %e is engag$2 b a visitor once admitt$ into ! h\se mu/ be se5 at any inconv5i5ce4 ,a lady %\ld nev] keep a call] wait+ )\t s5d+ to see :e!r a delay ( a few m9utes w inconv5i5ce ! call]4 ,s]vants %\ld be in/ruct$ to return & ann\nce to ! p]son wait+ t ! lady w be d[n imm$iately4 ,any delay :atev] %\ld be apologiz$ =4 ,if1 on mak+ a call1 y are introduc$ into a room :]e y are unkn[n to ^? assembl$1 at once give y\r "n & m5tion ^u :om y\r call is made4 ,9 meet+ a lady or g5tleman ^: "n y _c recall1 frankly say s1 if y f9d x necess>y4 ,s5sible p]sons w pref] to recall !mselves to y\r memory r ?an to feel t y are talk+ to !m )\t fully recogniz+ !m4 ,to affect n to rememb] a p]son is despicable1 & reflects only on ! pret5d]4 ,g5tlem51 z well z ladies1 :5 mak+ =mal calls1 s5d 9 b "o c>d1 no matt] h[ _m memb]s ( ! family !y may wi% to see4 ,if a gue/ is /opp+ at ! h\se1 ! same rule is obs]v$4 ,if n at home1 "o c>d is left = ! lady1 & "o = ! gue/4 ,! c>d = ! lady may be fold$ s z to include ! family4 ,,rules ,,= ,,summ] ,,resorts4 ,at places ( summ] resort1 ^? :o own _! cottages1 call fir/ ^u ^? :o r5t !m1 & ^? :o r5t1 9 turn1 call ^u ea* o!r1 accord+ to priority ( arrival4 ,9 all ^! cases !re are exceptions2 z1 :]e !re is any great diff]5ce 9 ages1 ! y\ng] !n call+ ^u ! old]1 if !re has be5 a previ\s acqua9tance or ex*ange ( calls4 ,if !re has be5 no previ\s acqua9tance or ex*ange ( calls1 ! old] lady pays ! fir/ call1 unless %e takes ! initiative by invit+ ! y\ng] to call ^u h]1 or by s5d+ h] an invitation to "s ent]ta9m5t1 :i* %e is ab\t to give4 ,:5 ! occupants ( two villas1 :o h arriv$ ! same season1 meet at ! h\se ( a common fri5d1 & ! old] ( ! two uses h] privilege ( invit+ ! o!r to call1 x w\ld be a positive rud5ess n to call2 & ! soon] ! call is made1 ! m civil w x be consid]$4 ,x is equally rude1 :5 "o lady asks p]mission ( ano!r to br+ a fri5d to call1 & !n neglects to d x1 aft] p]mission has be5 giv54 ,if ! acqua9tance is n desir$1 ! fir/ call c be ! la/4 ,,calls ,,made ,,by ,,c>ds4 ,only calls ( pure c]emony--su* z are made previ\s to an ent]ta9m5t on ^? p]sons :o are n to be invit$1 & to :om y are indebt$ = any att5tions--are made by h&+ 9 c>ds2 nor c a call 9 p]son be return$ by c>ds4 ,exceptions to ?is rule comprise ,p4,p4,c4 calls1 c>ds left or s5t by p]sons 9 m\rn+1 & ^? :i* ann\nce a lady's day = receiv+ calls1 on h] return to t[n1 aft] an abs5ce4 ,,reception ,,days4 ,"s ladies receive only on c]ta9 days or ev5+s1 :i* are once a week1 once a =tnight1 or once a mon? z ! case may be1 & ! "t is duly ann\nc$ by c>ds4 ,:5 a lady has made ?is rule x is consid]ate1 on ! "p ( h] fri5ds1 to obs]ve x1 = x is sometimes reg>d$ z an intrusion to call at any o!r "t4 ,! reason ( h] hav+ made ?is rule may h be5 to prev5t ! loss ( too mu* "t f h] duties1 9 ! receiv+ ( calls f h] fri5ds4 ,,calls ,,aft] ,,betro?al4 ,:5 a betro?al takes place & x is =mally ann\nc$ to ! relatives & fri5ds on bo? sides1 calls ( congratulation foll[4 ,! bridegroom t is to be1 is introduc$ by ! family ( ! propos$ bride to _! connections & mo/ intimate fri5ds1 & 8 family 9 return introduce h] to relatives & acqua9tances :om !y desire h] to "k4 ,! simple/ way ( br++ ?is ab\t is by ! p>5ts leav+ ! c>ds ( ! betro!d1 ) _! own1 ^u all families on _! visit+ li/ :om !y wi% to h ! betro!d pair visit4 ,,! ,,c>ds ,,& ,,calls ,,( ,,/rang]s4 ,/rang]s arriv+ are expect$ to s5d _! c>ds to _! acqua9tances1 be>+ _! direction1 z an ann\ncem5t t !y are 9 ! city4 ,?is rule is (t5 neglect$1 b1 unless x is obs]v$1 /rang]s may be a long "t 9 t[n )\t _! pres5ce be+ kn[n4 ,,return+ ,a ,,fir/ ,,call4 ,a fir/ call ought to be return$ )9 ?ree or f\r days4 ,a long] delay ?an a week is consid]$ an intimation t y are unwill+ to accept ! new acqua9tance1 unless "s excuse = ! remissness is made4 ,,=m+ ,,acqua9tance4 ,9 an ev5t ( ex*ange ( calls betwe5 two ladies1 )\t meet+1 :o are kn[n to ea* o!r only by sight1 !y %\ld ^u ! fir/ opportunity1 make !mselves acqua9t$ ) "o ano!r4 ,! y\ng] %\ld seek ! old]1 or ! "o :o has be5 ! recipi5t ( ! fir/ att5tion %\ld introduce h]self1 or seek an introduction1 b x is n necess>y to /& ^u c]emony on su* po9ts4 ,ladies kn[+ ea* o!r by sight1 b[1 aft] an ex*ange ( c>ds4 ,,! ,,fir/ ,,call4 ,:5 x becomes a "q z to :o %all call fir/1 betwe5 old resid5ts1 ! old] %\ld take ! initiatory4 ,ladies1 :o h be5 9 ! habit ( meet+ = sometime )\t ex*ang+ calls1 sometimes say to ea* o!r3 ,i hope y w come & see me6 & (t5 ! answ] is made3 ,oh1 y mu/ come & see me fir/6 ,t answ] c\ld only be giv51 ) propriety1 by a lady :o is mu* ! old] ( ! two4 ,! lady :o ext5ds ! invitation makes ! fir/ advance1 & ! "o :o receives x %\ld at lea/ say3 ,i ?ank y--y are v k9d1 & !n accept ! invitation or n1 z x pleases h]4 ,x is ! cu/om = resid5ts to make ! fir/ call ^u /rang]s4 ,,calls ,,( ,,congratulation4 ,calls ( congratulation are made :5 any happy or auspici\s ev5t may h occurr$ 9 ! family visit$--su* z a bir?1 m>riage1 or any piece ( good =tune4 ,su* visits may be made ei!r simil> to ! morn+ or ! ev5+ call4 ,su* visits may also be made ^u ! appo9tm5t ( fri5ds to any important (fice or honor$ position1 or :5 a fri5d has di/+ui%$ himself by a notable public address or oration4 ,p4,p4,c4 ,,calls4 ,:5 p]sons are go+ abroad to be abs5t = a consid]able p]iod1 if !y h n "t or incl9ation to take leave ( all _! fri5ds by mak+ =mal calls1 !y w s5d to ea* ( _! fri5ds a c>d ) ! lett]s ,p4,p4,c4 writt5 ^u x4 ,!y are ! initials ( ,p\r ,pr5dre ,conge--to take leave--& may ) propriety /& = pres5ts p>t+ complim5ts4 ,on return+ home1 x is cu/om>y t fri5ds %\ld fir/ call ^u !m4 ,a neglect to d s1 unless = "s good excuse1 is suffici5t cause to drop _! acqua9tance4 ,9 tak+ leave ( a family1 y s5d z _m c>ds z y w\ld if y 7 pay+ an ord9>y visit4 ,,visits ,,( ,,condol5ce4 ,visits ( condol5ce %\ld be made )9 a week aft] ! ev5t :i* occasion$ !m2 b if ! acqua9tance be slight1 imm$iately aft] ! family appe> at public wor%ip4 ,a c>d %\ld be s5t 91 & if y\r fri5ds are able to receive y1 y\r mann]s & conv]sation %\ld be 9 h>mony ) ! "* ( y\r visit4 ,x is deem$ c\rte\s to s5d 9 a m\rn+ c>d2 & = ladies to make _! calls 9 black silk or pla9-color$ app>el4 ,x d5otes t !y sympa?ize ) ! afflictions ( ! family1 & a w>m1 he>tfelt sympa?y is always appreciat$4 ,,ev5+ ,,visits4 ,ev5+ visits are paid only to ^? ) :om we are well acqua9t$4 ,!y %\ld n be frequ5t1 ev5 :]e "o is intimate1 nor %\ld !y be protract$ to a great l5g?4 ,frequ5t visits are apt to become tiresome to y\r fri5ds or acqua9tances1 & long visits may entitle y to ! appellation ( bore4 ,if y %\ld happ5 to pay an ev5+ visit at a h\se :]e a small p>ty _h assembl$1 unkn[n to y1 pres5t y\rself & conv]se = a few m9utes ) an unemb>rass$ air1 aft] :i* y may leave1 plead+ z an excuse t y _h only int5d$ to make a %ort call4 ,an invitation to /ay & sp5d ! ev5+1 giv5 = ! sake ( c\rtesy1 %\ld n be accept$4 ,if urg$ v /rongly to rema91 & ! company is an in=mal ga!r+1 y may ) propriety cons5t to d s4 ,,keep ,,an ,,acc\nt ,,( ,,calls4 ,a p]son %\ld keep a /rict acc\nt ( c]emonial calls1 & take note ( h[ soon calls are return$4 ,by do+ s1 an op9ion c be =m$ z to h[ frequ5tly visits are desir$4 ,in/ances may occur1 :51 9 consequ5ce ( age or ill heal?1 calls %\ld be made )\t any ref]5ce to _! be+ return$4 ,x mu/ be rememb]$ t no?+ mu/ int]rupt ! dis*>ge ( ?is duty4 ,,calls ,,( ,,c]emony ,,among ,,fri5ds4 ,among relatives & fri5ds1 calls ( m]e c]emony are unnecess>y4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 ne$ful to make suitable calls1 & to avoid /ay+ too long1 if y\r fri5d is engag$4 ,! c\rtesies ( society %\ld be ma9ta9$ among ! ne>e/ fri5ds1 & ev5 ! dome/ic circle4 ,,engag$ ,,or ,,n ,,at ,,home4 ,if a lady is s employ$ t %e _c receive call]s %e %\ld *>ge ! s]vant :o goes to answ] ! bell to say t %e is engag$ or n at home4 ,?is w prove suffici5t ) all well-br$ p4 ,! s]vant %\ld h h] ord]s to say engag$ or n at home be=e any "o has call$1 s t ! lady %all avoid all risk ( be+ oblig$ to inconv5i5ce h]self 9 receiv+ company :5 %e has int5d$ to d5y h]self4 ,if !re are to be exceptions made 9 favor ( any individual or individuals1 m5tion _! names specially to ! s]vant1 add+ t y w see !m if !y call1 b to all o!rs y are engag$4 ,a lady %\ld always be dress$ suffici5tly well to receive company1 & n keep !m wait+ :ile %e is mak+ h] toilet4 ,a well-br$ p]son always endeavors to receive visitors at :atev] "t !y call1 or :oev] !y may be1 b !re are times :5 x is impossible to d s1 & !n1 ( c\rse1 a s]vant is in/ruct$ be=eh& to say n at home to ! visitor4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! s]vant admits ! visitor & he is seat$ 9 ! draw+ room or p>lor1 x is ! duty ( ! ho/ess to receive him or h] at :atev] inconv5i5ce x may be to h]self4 ,:5 y call ^u p]sons1 & are in=m$ at ! door t ! p>ties :om y ask = are engag$1 y %\ld nev] insi/ 9 an attempt to be admitt$1 b %\ld acquiesce at once 9 any arrangem5ts :i* !y h made = _! conv5i5ce1 & to protect !mselves f int]ruption4 ,h[ev] intimate y may be 9 any h\se y h no "r1 :5 an ord] has be5 giv5 to exclude g5]al visitors1 & no exception has be5 made ( y1 to violate t exclusion1 & decl>e t ! p>ty %\ld be at home to y4 ,!re are times & seasons :5 a p]son desires to be left entirely alone1 & at su* times !re is no fri5d%ip = :i* %e w\ld give up h] occupation or h] solitude4 ,,g5]al ,,rules ,,reg>d+ ,,calls4 ,a g5tleman 9 mak+ a =mal call %\ld reta9 8 hat & gloves 9 8 h& on ent]+ ! room4 ,! hat %\ld n be laid ^u a table or /&1 b kept 9 ! h&1 unless x is f\nd necess>y f "s cause to set x d[n4 ,9 t case1 place x ^u ! floor4 ,an umbrella %\ld be left 9 ! hall4 ,9 an in=mal ev5+ call1 ! hat1 gloves1 ov]coat & cane may be left 9 ! hall4 ,a lady1 9 mak+ a call1 may br+ a /rang]1 ev5 a g5tleman1 ) h]1 )\t previ\s p]mission4 ,a g5tleman1 h[ev]1 %\ld nev] take ! same lib]ty4 ,no "o %\ld prolong a call if ! p]son ^u :om ! call is made is f\nd dress$ ready to g out4 ,a lady %\ld be m ri*ly dress$ :5 call+ on h] fri5ds ?an = an ord9>y walk4 ,a lady %\ld nev] call ^u a g5tleman except ^u "s bus9ess1 (ficially or pr(essionally4 ,nev] all[ "y *ildr51 dogs or pets ( any sort to accompany y 9 a call4 ,!y (t5 prove disagreeable & tr\blesome4 ,two p]sons out ( "o family1 or at mo/ ?ree1 are all t %\ld call toge!r4 ,x is n cu/om>y 9 cities to (f] refre%m5ts to call]s4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 :]e ! call] has come f "s di/ance1 x is exce$+ly hospitable to d s4 ,calls 9 ! c\ntry may be less c]emoni\s & ( long] duration1 ?an ^? made 9 ! city4 ,a p]son mak+ a call %\ld n1 :ile wait+ = a ho/ess1 t\* an op5 piano1 walk ab\t ! room exam9+ pictures1 nor h&le any ornam5t 9 ! room4 ,if !re is a /rang] visit+ at ! h\se ( a fri5d1 ! acqua9tances ( ! family %\ld be punctili\s to call at an e>ly date4 ,nev] (f] to g to ! room ( an invalid ^u :om y h call$1 b wait = an invitation to d s4 ,9 receiv+ morn+ calls1 x is unnecess>y = a lady to lay aside any employm5t1 n ( an absorb+ nature ^u :i* %e may happ5 to be engag$4 ,embroid]y1 cro*et+ or light ne$le-"w are p]fectly 9 h>mony ) ! requirem5ts ( ! h\r1 & ! lady looks mu* bett] employ$ ?an 9 absolute idl5ess4 ,a lady %\ld pay equal att5tion to all h] gue/s4 ,! display ( unusual def]5ce is alone all[able :5 di/+ui%$ rank or reputation or advanc$ age ju/ifies x4 ,a gue/ %\ld take ! seat indicat$ by ! ho/ess4 ,a g5tleman %\ld nev] seat himself on a s(a beside h]1 nor 9 a *air 9 imm$iate proximity1 unless %e specially invites him to d s4 ,a lady ne$ n lay aside h] bonnet dur+ a =mal call1 ev5 ?\gh urg$ to d s4 ,if ! call be a fri5dly & unc]emoni\s "o1 %e may d s if %e ?9ks prop]1 b n )\t an invitation4 ,a g5tleman call] mu/ n look at 8 wat* dur+ a call1 unless1 9 do+ s1 he pleads "s engagem5t & asks to be excus$4 ,=mal calls are g5]ally made twice a ye>2 b only once a ye> is b9d+1 :5 no invitations h be5 receiv$ t require calls 9 return4 ,9 call+ ^u a p]son liv+ at a hotel or bo>d+-h\se1 x is cu/om>y to /op 9 ! p>lor & s5d y\r c>d to ! room ( ! p]son call$ ^u4 ,:5 a p]son has once ris5 to take leave1 he %\ld n be p]suad$ to prolong 8 /ay4 ,call]s %\ld take special pa9s to make _! visits opportune4 ,on ! o!r h&1 a lady %\ld always receive h] call]s1 at :atev] h\r or day !y come1 if x is possible to d s4 ,:5 a g5tleman has call$ & n f\nd ! lady at home1 x is civility on ! "p ( ! lady1 ^u ! occasion ( _! next meet+1 to express h] regret at n see+ him4 ,he %\ld reciprocate ! regret1 & n reply un?9k+ly or awkw>dly3 ,oh1 x made no p>ticul> diff]5ce1 x 0 ( no great consequ5ce1 or words to t effect4 ,aft] y h visit$ a fri5d at h] c\ntry seat1 or aft] receiv+ an invitation to visit h]1 a call is due h] ^u h] return to h] t[n resid5ce4 ,?is is "o ( ! occasions :5 a call %\ld be made promptly & 9 p]son1 unless y h a reason = wi%+ to discont9ue ! acqua9tance2 ev5 !n x w\ld be m civil to take ano!r opportunity = dropp+ a fri5d :o wi%$ to %[ a civility1 unless h] "* has be5 irretrievably lo/ 9 ! meantime4 ,,new-,,ye>',s ,,calls4 ,! cu/om ( ,new-,ye>'s call+ is preval5t 9 all cities1 & mo/ villages 9 ! c\ntry1 & s agreeable a cu/om is x1 t x is becom+ m 9 favor e ye>4 ,?is is ! day :5 g5tlem5 keep up _! acqua9tance%ip ) ladies & families1 "s ( :om !y are unable to see1 probably1 dur+ ! :ole ye>4 ,( late x has be5 cu/om>y 9 _m cities to publi% 9 "o or m newspap]s1 a day or two be=e ,new ,ye>s1 a li/ ( ! ladies :o w receive calls on t day1 & f ?is li/ g5tlem5 arrange _! calls4 ,= conv5i5ce & to add to ! pleasure ( ! day1 sev]al ladies frequ5tly unite 9 receiv+ calls at ! resid5ce ( "o ( _! numb]1 b ?is is usually done :5 only "o or two memb]s ( a family c receive4 ,:]e !re are sev]al memb]s ( a family1 :o c d s1 !y usually receive at _! own home4 ,g5tlem5 call ei!r s+ly1 9 c\ples1 by ?rees or f\rs & sometimes ev5 m1 9 c>riages or on foot1 z !y *oose4 ,calls comm5ce ab\t t5 o'clock 9 ! morn+1 & cont9ue until ab\t n9e 9 ! ev5+4 ,:5 ! g5tlem5 g 9 p>ties1 !y call ^u ! lady fri5ds ( ea*1 & if all are n acqua9t$1 ^? :o are1 introduce ! o!rs4 ,! l5g? ( a call is usually f five to fifte5 m9utes1 b x is (t5 gov]n$ by circum/ances1 & may be prolong$ to ev5 an h\r4 ,refre%m5ts are usually provid$ = ! call]s1 & %\ld always be (f]$1 b x is n necess>y t !y %\ld be accept$4 ,if n accept$1 an apology %\ld be t5d]$1 ) ?anks = ! (f]4 ,! refre%m5ts may consi/ ( oy/]s1 raw or scallop$1 cold meats1 salads1 fruits1 cakes1 s&wi*es1 etc41 & hot tea & c(fee4 ,:5 call]s are u%]$ into ! reception-room1 !y are met by ! ladies1 :5 introductions are giv51 & ! call]s are invit$ to remove _! ov]coats1 b x is optional ) !m :e!r !y d s or n4 ,x is also optional ) !m :e!r !y remove _! gloves4 ,:5 g5tlem5 are introduc$ to ladies 9 mak+ ,new-,ye>'s calls1 !y are n !reby w>rant$ 9 call+ aga9 ^u any ( ^! ladies1 unless especially invit$ to d s4 ,x is ! lady's pleasure :e!r ! acqua9tance %all be ma9ta9$4 ,9 mak+ ,new-,ye>'s calls1 a g5tleman leaves "o c>d1 :atev] may be ! numb] ( ladies receiv+ ) ! ho/ess4 ,if !re is a basket at ! door1 he leaves a c>d = ea* ( ! ladies at ! h\se1 includ+ lady gue/s ( ! family1 provid$ !re are any4 ,! ,new-,ye>'s c>d %\ld n diff] f an ord9>y call+ c>d4 ,x %\ld be pla91 ) ! "n engrav$1 or pr9t$ 9 neat script4 ,x is n n[ consid]$ 9 good ta/e to h ,happy ,new ,ye> or o!r words ^u x1 unless x may be ! resid5ce ( ! g5tleman1 :i* may be pr9t$ or writt5 9 ! "r h& corn]1 if deem$ desirable4 ,a g5tleman does n make calls ! fir/ ,new-,ye>'s aft] 8 m>riage1 b receives at home ) 8 wife4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,vi4 ,etiquette ( ,visit+4 ,"s ( ! social obs]vances p]ta9+ to visit+ away f "o's own home1 & accept+ ! hospitalities ( fri5ds1 are "h giv51 & are applicable to ladies & g5tlem5 alike4 ,,g5]al ,,invitations4 ,no "o %\ld accept a g5]al invitation = a prolong$ visit4 ,d come & sp5d "s "t ) me may be said ) all e>ne/ness & cordiality1 b to give ! invitation real mean+ ! date %\ld be def9itely fix$ & ! l5g? ( "t /at$4 ,a p]son :o pays a visit ^u a g5]al invitation ne$ n be surpris$ if he f9ds himself z unwelcome z he is unexpect$4 ,8 fri5ds may be abs5t f home1 or _! h\se may be already full1 or !y may n h made arrangem5ts = visitors4 ,f ^! & o!r causes !y may be greatly inconv5i5c$ by an unexpect$ arrival4 ,x w\ld be well if p w\ld ab/a9 altoge!r f ?is cu/om ( giv+ g5]al invitations1 :i* really mean no?+1 & be scrupul\s to invite _! desir$ gue/s at a /at$ "t & = a giv5 p]iod4 ,,limit ,,( ,a ,,prolong$ ,,visit4 ,if no exact l5g? ( "t is specifi$1 x is well = visitors to limit a visit to ?ree days or a week1 accord+ to ! degree ( intimacy !y may h ) ! family1 or ! di/ance !y h come to pay ! visit1 ann\nc+ ?is limitation soon aft] arrival1 s t ! ho/ & ! ho/ess may invite a prolongation ( ! /ay if !y desire x1 or s t !y c make _! arrangem5ts 9 accordance4 ,"o nev] likes to ask ( a gue/1 ,h[ long d y int5d to rema98 yet x is (t5 mo/ desirable to "k4 ,,true ,,hospitality4 ,(f] y\r gue/s ! be/ t y h 9 ! way ( food & rooms1 & express no regrets1 & make no excuses t y h no?+ bett] to give !m4 ,try to make y\r gue/s feel at home2 & d ?is1 n by urg+ !m 9 empty words to d s1 b by mak+ _! /ay z pleasant z possible1 at ! same "t be+ c>eful to put out ( sight any trifl+ tr\ble or inconv5i5ce !y may cause y4 ,devote z mu* "t z is consi/5t ) o!r engagem5ts to ! amusem5t & ent]ta9m5t ( y\r gue/s4 ,,duties ,,( ,,! ,,visitor4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ! visitor %\ld try to con=m z mu* z possible to ! habits ( ! h\se :i* tempor>ily %elt]s him4 ,he %\ld nev] object to ! h\rs at :i* meals are s]v$1 nor %\ld he ev] all[ ! family to be kept wait+ on 8 acc\nt4 ,x is a good rule = a visitor to retire to 8 own ap>tm5t 9 ! morn+1 or at lea/ seek out "s occupation or amusem5t ( 8 own1 )\t seem+ to ne$ ! assi/ance or att5tion ( ho/ or ho/ess2 = x is und5iable t ^! h c]ta9 duties :i* mu/ be att5d$ to at ?is portion ( ! day1 9 ord] to leave ! balance ( ! "t free = ! ent]ta9m5t ( _! gue/s4 ,if any family matt]s ( a private or unpleasant nature come to ! k ( ! gue/ dur+ 8 /ay1 he mu/ seem bo? bl9d & deaf1 & nev] ref] to !m unless ! p>ties int]e/$ speak ( !m fir/4 ,! rule on :i* a ho/ & ho/ess %\ld act is to make _! gue/s z mu* at ease z possible2 t on :i* a visitor %\ld act is to int]f]e z little z possible ) ! ord9>y r\t9e ( ! h\se4 ,x is n requir$ t a ho/ess %\ld sp5d h] :ole "t 9 ! ent]ta9m5t ( h] gue/s4 ,! latt] may pref] to be left to _! own devices = a portion ( ! day4 ,on ! o!r h&1 x %[s ! wor/ ( bre$+ = a visitor to seclude himself f ! family & seek 8 own amusem5ts & occupations reg>dless ( _! desire to jo9 9 !m or ent]ta9 him4 ,y %\ld try to hold y\rself at ! disposal ( ^? :om y are visit+4 ,if !y propose to y to ride1 to drive or walk1 y %\ld acquiesce z f> z y\r /r5g? w p]mit1 & d y\r be/ to seem pleas$ at ! ef=ts made to ent]ta9 y4 ,y %\ld n accept invitations )\t consult+ y\r ho/4 ,y %\ld n call ^u ! s]vants to d err&s = y1 or to wait ^u y too mu*1 nor keep ! family up aft] h\rs ( retir+4 ,if y h obs]v$ any?+ to ! disadvantage ( y\r fri5ds1 :ile p>tak+ ( _! hospitality1 x %\ld nev] be m5tion$1 ei!r :ile y are "u _! ro( or aft]w>ds4 ,speak only ( :at r$\nds to _! praise & cr$it4 ,?is feel+ ought to be mutual betwe5 ho/ & gue/4 ,:atev] good is obs]v$ 9 ei!r may be comm5t$ ^u1 b ! curta9 ( sil5ce mu/ be drawn ov] _! faults4 ,give z little tr\ble z possible :5 a gue/1 b at ! same "t nev] ?9k ( apologiz+ = any little additional tr\ble :i* y\r visit may occasion4 ,x w\ld imply t y ?\ght y\r fri5ds incapable ( ent]ta9+ y )\t "s inconv5i5ce to !mselves4 ,keep y\r room z neat z possible1 & leave no articles ( dress or toilet ar\nd to give tr\ble to s]vants4 ,a lady gue/ w n hesitate to make h] own b$1 if few or no s]vants are kept2 & 9 ! latt] case %e w d :atev] else %e c to light5 ! labors ( h] ho/ess z a return = ! additional ex]tion h] visit occasions4 ,,invitations ,,to ,,gue/s4 ,any invitation giv5 to a lady gue/ %\ld also include ! ho/ess1 & ! gue/ is ju/ifi$ 9 decl9+ to accept any invitation unless ! ho/ess is also invit$4 ,invitations receiv$ by ! ho/ess %\ld include ! gue/4 ,?us1 at all places ( amusem5t & ent]ta9m5t1 gue/ & ho/ may be toge!r4 ,,=be>ance ,,) ,,*ildr54 ,a gue/ %\ld n notice nor f9d fault ) ! bad behavior ( ! *ildr5 9 ! h\sehold :]e visit+1 & %\ld put up ) any ( _! faults1 & ov]look any ill-br$ or disagreeable actions on _! "p4 ,,gue/s ,,mak+ ,,pres5ts4 ,if a gue/ wi%es to make a pres5t to any memb] ( ! family %e is visit+1 x %\ld be to ! ho/ess1 or if to any ( ! *ildr51 to ! y\nge/ 9 pref]5ce1 ?\gh x is usually bett] to give x to ! "m4 ,^u return+ home1 :5 ! gue/ writes to ! ho/ess1 %e expresses h] ?anks = ! hospitality1 & reque/s to be rememb]$ to ! family4 ,,treatm5t ,,( ,a ,,ho/',s ,,fri5ds4 ,if y are a gue/1 y mu/ be v cauti\s z to ! treatm5t ( ! fri5ds ( y\r ho/ or ho/ess4 ,if y d n c>e to be intimate ) !m1 y mu/ be c>eful n to %[ a dislike = !m1 or t y wi% to avoid !m4 ,y mu/ be exce$+ly polite & agreeable to !m1 avoid+ any special famili>ity1 & keep !m at a di/ance )\t hurt+ _! feel+s4 ,d n say to y\r ho/ or ho/ess t y d n l any ( _! fri5ds4 ,,leave-,,tak+4 ,^u tak+ leave1 express ! pleasure y h exp]i5c$ 9 y\r visit4 ,^u return+ home x is an act ( c\rtesy to write & in=m y\r fri5ds ( y\r safe arrival1 at ! same "t repeat+ y\r ?anks4 ,a ho/ & ho/ess %\ld d all !y c to make ! visit ( a fri5d agreeable2 !y %\ld urge him to /ay z long z x is consi/5t ) 8 own plans1 & at ! same "t conv5i5t to !mselves4 ,b :5 ! "t = dep>ture has be5 fully fix$ ^u1 no ob/acle %\ld be plac$ 9 ! way ( leave-tak+4 ,help him 9 e possible way to dep>t1 at ! same "t giv+ him a cordial invitation to r5ew ! visit at "s future p]iod4 ,welcome ! com+1 spe$ ! p>t+1 gue/1 expresses ! true _s ( hospitality4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,vii4 ,visit+ & ,call+ ,c>ds4 ,an au!ntic writ] ^u visit+ c>ds says3 ,to ! unref9$ or und]br$1 ! visit+ c>d is b a trifl+ & insignificant bit ( pap]2 b to ! cultur$ disciple ( social law1 x conveys a subtle & unmi/akable intellig5ce4 ,its texture1 /yle ( engrav+1 & ev5 ! h\r ( leav+ x comb9e to place ! /rang]1 ^: "n x be>s1 9 a pleasant or a disagreeable attitude1 ev5 be=e 8 mann]s1 conv]sation & face h be5 able to expla9 8 social position4 ,! high] ! civilization ( a community1 ! m c>eful x is to pres]ve ! elegance ( its social =ms4 ,x is q z easy to express a p]fect bre$+ 9 ! fa%ionable =malities ( c>ds1 z by any o!r me?od1 & p]haps1 inde$1 x is ! safe/ h]ald ( an introduction = a /rang]4 ,its texture %\ld be f9e1 its engrav+ a pla9 script1 its size nei!r too small1 s t its recipi5ts %all say to !mselves1 ',a :imsical p]son1' nor too l>ge to sugge/ o/5tation4 ,ref9em5t seldom t\*es extremes 9 any?+4 ,,call+ ,,c>ds4 ,a c>d us$ 9 call+ %\ld h no?+ ^u x b ! "n ( ! call]4 ,a lady's c>d %\ld n be> h] place ( resid5ce2 su* c>ds hav+1 ( late1 be5 appropriat$ by ! memb]s ( ! demi-monde4 ,! /reet & numb] always look bett] ^u ! c>d ( ! husb& ?an ^u t ( ! wife4 ,:5 necess>y1 !y c be add$ 9 p5cil on ! c>ds ( ! wife & daught]4 ,a bus9ess c>d %\ld nev] be us$ = a fri5dly call4 ,a physician may put ! prefix ,dr41 or ! affix ,m4,d41 ^u 8 c>d1 & an army or navy (fic] 8 rank & bran* ( s]vice4 ,,w$d+ ,,c>ds4 ,w$d+ c>ds are only s5t to ^? p :om ! newly m>ri$ c\ple desire to keep among _! acqua9tances1 & x is !n ! duty ( ^? receiv+ ! c>ds to call fir/ on ! "y c\ple4 ,an anci5t cu/om1 b "o :i* has be5 rec5tly reviv$1 is = ! fri5ds ( ! bride & groom to s5d c>ds2 ^! are ( great v>iety 9 size & design1 & resemble ,*ri/mas or ,ea/] c>ds b are usually m arti/ic4 ,,*ri/mas ,,& ,,ea/] ,,c>ds4 ,a v *>m+ cu/om t is com+ into vogue is ! giv+ or s5d+ ( ,ea/] & ,*ri/mas c>ds4 ,^! are ( su* elegant designs & v>iety ( colors t ! /ation] takes great pride 9 decorat+ 8 %op w9d[s ) !m2 inde$ "s ( !m are s elegant z to resemble oil pa9t+s4 ,books & o!r small (f]+s may accompany c>ds z a tok5 ( remembrance4 ,,c>ds ,,to ,,s]ve ,,= ,,calls4 ,a p]son may make a c>d s]ve ! purpose ( a call1 & x may ei!r be s5t 9 an envelope1 by mess5g] or left 9 p]son4 ,if left 9 p]son1 "o corn] %\ld be turn$ d[n4 ,to indicate t a call is made on all or sev]al memb]s ( ! family2 ! c>d = ! lady ( ! h\se is fold$ 9 ! middle4 ,if gue/s are visit+ at ! h\se1 a c>d is left = ea* gue/4 ,,enclos+ ,a ,,c>d ,,9 ,,an ,,envelope4 ,to return a call made 9 p]son ) a c>d inclos$ 9 an envelope1 is an intimation t visit+ betwe5 ! p>ties is end$4 ,^? :o leave or s5d _! c>ds ) no su* int5tion1 %\ld n inclose !m 9 an envelope4 ,an exception to ?is rule is :]e !y are s5t 9 return to ! newly m>ri$ liv+ 9 o!r cities1 or 9 answ]+ w$d+ c>ds =w>d$ :5 abs5t f home4 ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds are also s5t 9 ?is way1 & are ! only c>ds t x is z yet univ]sally consid]$ admissible to s5d by po/4 ,,size ,,& ,,/yle ,,( ,,visit+ ,,or ,,call+ ,,c>ds4 ,a m$ium siz$ is 9 bett] ta/e ?an a v l>ge c>d = m>ri$ p]sons4 ,c>ds be>+ ! "n ( ! husb& alone are small]4 ,! c>ds ( unm>ri$ m5 %\ld also be small4 ,! engrav+ 9 simple writ+ is pref]r$1 & )\t fl\ri%es4 ,no?+ 9 c>ds c be m commonplace ?an l>ge pr9t$ lett]s1 be ! type :at x may4 ,"y m5 %\ld disp5se ) ! ,mr4 be=e _! names4 ,illu/ration3 ,,call+ ,,c>ds4 ,,corn]s ,,( ,,c>ds ,,turn$ ,,d[n4 ,! signification ( turn+ d[n ! corn]s ( c>ds are3 ,visite--,! "r h& upp] corn]4 ,felicitation--,! left h& upp] corn]4 ,condol5ce--,! left h& l[] corn]4 ,p4,p4,c4 ,to ,take ,leave ,! "r h& l[] corn]4 ,c>d1 "r h& end turn$ d[n--,deliv]$ 9 ,p]son4 ,,c>d ,,= ,,"m ,,& ,,daught]4 ,! "n ( "y ladies are sometimes pr9t$ or engrav$ on _! "m's c>ds2 bo? 9 script4 ,x is1 ( c\rse1 all[able1 = ! daught] to h c>ds ( h] own4 ,"s ladies h adopt$ ! fa%ion ( hav+ ! daught]'s "n on ! same c>d ) _! own & _! husb&'s names4 ,,glaz$ ,,c>ds4 ,glaz$ c>ds are q out ( fa%ion1 z are c>ds & note pap] ) gilt edges4 ,! fa%ion 9 c>ds1 h[ev]1 *ange s (t51 t :at is 9 /yle "o ye>1 may n be ! next4 ,p4,p4,c4 ,,c>ds4 ,a c>d left at a f>ewell visit1 be=e a long protract$ abs5ce1 has ,p4,p4,c4 7,p\r ,pr5dre ,conge7 writt5 9 "o corn]4 ,x is n necess>y to deliv] su* c>ds 9 p]son1 = !y may be s5t by a mess5g]1 or by po/ if necess>y4 ,p4,p4,c4 c>ds are n left :5 ! abs5ce f home is only = a few mon?s1 nor by p]sons />t+ 9 mid-summ] = a =eign c\ntry1 z resid5ts are !n suppos$ to be out ( t[n4 ,!y are s5t to or left ) fri5ds by ladies j previ\s to _! contemplat$ m>riage to s]ve ! purpose ( a call4 ,,c>ds ,,( ,,congratulation4 ,c>ds ( congratulation mu/ be left 9 p]son1 or a congratulatory note1 if desir$1 c be made to s]ve in/ead ( a call2 except+ ^u ! newly m>ri$4 ,calls 9 p]son are due to !m1 & to ! p>5ts :o h invit$ y to ! m>riage4 ,:5 !re has be5 a reception aft] ! c]emony1 :i* y h be5 unable to att5d1 b h s5t c>ds by "s memb] ( y\r family1 y\r c>ds ne$ n aga9 repres5t y until !y h be5 return$1 ) ! new resid5ce ann\nc$2 b a call is due to ! p>5ts or relatives :o h giv5 ! reception4 ,:5 no w$d+ c>ds are s5t y1 nor ! c>d ( ! bridegroom1 y _c call )\t be+ consid]$ intrusive4 ,"o mon? aft] ! bir? ( a *ild ! call ( congratulation is made by acqua9tances4 ,,leave ,,c>ds ,,9 ,,mak+ ,,fir/ ,,call4 ,9 mak+ ! fir/ calls ( ! season 79 ! autumn7 bo? ladies & g5tlem5 %\ld leave a c>d ea*1 at e h\se call$ ^u1 ev5 if ! ladies are receiv+4 ,! reason ( ?is is t :]e a lady is receiv+ morn+ calls1 x w\ld be too great a tax ^u h] memory to oblige h] to keep 9 m9d :at calls %e has to return or :i* ( !m h be5 return$1 & 9 mak+ out li/s = invit+ in=mally1 x is (t5 ! c>d-/& :i* is fir/ se>*$ = ba*elors' c>ds1 to meet ! em]g5cy4 ,"y m5 %\ld be c>eful to write _! /reet & numb] on _! c>ds4 ,,leave ,,c>ds ,,aft] ,,an ,,invitation4 ,aft] an invitation1 c>ds mu/ be left ^u ^? :o h s5t x1 :e!r x is accept$ or n4 ,!y mu/ be left 9 p]son1 & if x is desir$ to end ! acqua9tance ! c>ds c be left )\t inquir+ :e!r ! ladies are at home4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld n expect to receive invitations f ladies ) :om !y are only on t]ms ( =mal visit+1 until ! ye>ly or autumnal call has be5 made1 or until _! c>ds h be5 left to repres5t !mselves4 ,,c>ds ,,9 ,,memoriam4 ,^! are a lov+ tribute to ! memory ( ! dep>t$2 an ,engli% cu/om rapidly ga9+ favor ) u2 x ann\nces to fri5ds ! dea?1 ( :i* !y might rema9 9 ignorance b = ?is m>k ( respect3 ,illu/ration3 ,george ,a4 ,cu/] ,lieut5ant-,colonel ,sev5? ,cavalry1 ,brevet ,major-,g5]al ,unit$ ,/ates ,army1 ,born ,decemb] #e?1 #ahci1 ,h>rison ,c\nty1 ,ohio1 ,kill$1 ) 8 entire ,comm&1 9 ! ,battle ( ,little ,big ,horn1 ,june #be?1 #ahgf4 99 99 99 99 99 ,oh1 ,cu/]--,gallant ,cu/]6 man =e-doom$ ,g ride1 l ,rup]t1 spurr$ & wav+-plum$1 ,into ! v jaws ( dea?4 ,,c>ds ,,( ,,condol5ce4 ,c>ds ( condol5ce left by m]e acqua9tances mu/ be return$ by m\rn+ c>ds be=e su* p]sons feel at lib]ty to make a call4 ,:5 ! b]eav$ are ready to receive calls 7in/ead ( ! c>ds7 ( _! acqua9tances1 m\rn+ c>ds 9 envelopes1 or o!rwise1 are return$ to all ^? :o h left _! c>ds s9ce ! dea?1 :i* 0 ! occasion ( ! c>ds be+ left4 ,intimate fri5ds1 ( c\rse1 d n wait = c>ds1 b cont9ue _! calls1 )\t reg>d to any c]emoni\s obs]vances made = ! protection ( ! b]eav$4 ,acqua9tances leav+ c>ds %\ld inquire aft] ! heal? ( ! family1 leav+ ! c>ds 9 p]son4 ,,m\rn+ ,,c>ds4 ,on ann\ncem5t ( a dea? x is correct to call 9 p]son at ! door2 to make inquiries & leave y\r c>d1 ) l[] left h& corn] turn$ d[n4 ,unless close intimacy exi/s1 x is n usage to ask to see ! afflict$4 ,c>ds c be s5t to express sympa?y1 b notes ( condol5ce are p]missible only f intimate fri5ds4 ,a ,,bridegroom',s ,,c>d4 ,:5 only ! family & ! mo/ intimate fri5ds ( a bride & bridegroom h be5 includ$ 9 ! invitation = ! m>riage1 or :]e !re has be5 no reception aft] ! m>riage at *ur*1 ! bridegroom (t5 s5ds 8 ba*elor c>d 7inclos$ 9 an envelope7 to ^? ( 8 acqua9tances ) :om he wi%es to cont9ue on visit+ t]ms4 ,^? :o receive a c>d %\ld call on ! bride1 )9 t5 days aft] %e has tak5 possession ( h] home4 ,"s p]sons h receiv$ su* a c>d z an intimation t ! c>d 0 to end ! acqua9tance4 ,?is mi/ake %[s ! necessity ( a bett] und]/&+ ( social cu/oms4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,viii4 ,conv]sation4 ,! "* ( a p]son is reveal$ by 8 conv]sation z mu* z by any "o quality he possesses1 = /rive z he may he _c always be act+4 ,,importance ,,( ,,conv]s+ ,,well4 ,to be able to conv]se well is an atta9m5t :i* %\ld be cultivat$ by e intellig5t man & woman4 ,x is bett] to be a good talk] ?an a good s+] or musician1 because ! =m] is m widely appreciat$1 & ! company ( a p]son :o is able to talk well on a great v>iety ( subjects1 is mu* s\ght aft]4 ,! importance1 !re=e1 ( cultivat+ ! art ( conv]sation1 _c easily be ov]-e/imat$4 ,x %\ld be ! aim ( all intellig5t p]sons to acquire ! habit ( talk+ s5sibly & ) facility ^u all topics ( g5]al int]e/ to society1 s t !y may bo? int]e/ o!rs & be !mselves int]e/$1 9 :atev] company !y may *ance to be ?r[n4 ,,tra9+ ,,*ildr54 ,! tra9+ = ?is %\ld be comm5c$ 9 e>ly *ildhood4 ,p>5ts %\ld n only enc\rage _! *ildr5 to express !mselves freely ^u ev]y?+ t attracts _! att5tion & int]e/s !m1 b !y %\ld also incite _! faculties ( p]ception1 memory & close obs]vation1 by requir+ !m to rec\nt ev]y?+1 ev5 to its m9ute/ details1 t !y may h obs]v$ 9 walk+ to & f s*ool1 or 9 tak+ a ride 9 a c>riage or 9 ! c>s4 ,by tra9+ a *ild to a close obs]vation ( ev]y?+ he meets or passes1 8 m9d becomes v active1 & ! habit hav+ once be5 acquir$1 he becomes int]e/$ 9 a great v>iety ( objects2 sees m & enjoys m ?an "o :o has n be5 s tra9$4 ,,cultivat+ ,,! ,,memory4 ,a good memory is an invaluable aid 9 acquir+ ! art ( conv]sation1 & ! cultivation & tra9+ ( ?is faculty is a matt] ( importance4 ,e>ly y\? is ! prop] "t to beg9 ?is tra9+1 & p>5ts & tea*]s %\ld give special att5tion to ! cultivation ( memory4 ,:5 *ildr5 are tak5 to *ur*1 or to he> a lecture1 !y %\ld be requir$ to relate or to write d[n f memory1 su* a dige/ ( ! s]mon or lecture z !y c rememb]4 ,adults may also adopt ?is plan = cultivat+ ! memory1 & !y w be surpris$ to f9d h[ cont9u$ practice 9 ?is w improve ?is faculty4 ,! practice ( tak+ notes impairs r ?an aids ! memory1 = !n a p]son relies almo/ entirely 9 ! notes tak51 & does n tax ! memory suffici5tly4 ,a p]son %\ld also tra9 himself to rememb] ! names ( p]sons :om he becomes acqua9t$ )1 s z to recall !m :5ev] or :]ev] he may subsequ5tly meet !m4 ,x is relat$ ( a l>ge :olesale boot & %oe m]*ant ( an ea/]n city1 t he 0 call$ ^u "o day by "o ( 8 be/ cu/om]s1 resid+ 9 a di/ant city1 :om he _h frequ5tly met1 b ^: "n1 at ! "t1 he c\ld n recall1 & receiv$ 8 ord] = a l>ge bill ( goods4 ,z he 0 ab\t to leave1 ! m]*ant ask$ 8 "n1 :5 ! cu/om] indignantly repli$ t he suppos$ he 0 kn[n by a man f :om he _h pur*as$ goods = _m ye>s1 & c\nt]m&+ 8 ord]1 he left ! /ore1 deaf to all attempts at explanation4 ,?\gh ?is may be an extreme case1 x illu/rates ! importance ( rememb]+ ! names ( p :5 circum/ances require x4 ,,h5ry ,,clay',s ,,memory ,,( ,,names4 ,"o secret ( ,h5ry ,clay's popul>ity z a politician 0 8 faculty ( rememb]+ ! names ( p]sons he _h met4 ,x is said ( him t if he 0 once introduc$ to a p]son1 he 0 ev] aft]w>ds able to call him by "n1 & rec\nt ! circum/ances ( _! fir/ meet+4 ,?is faculty he cultivat$ aft] he ent]$ ^u ! practice ( law 9 ,k5tucky1 & soon aft] he began 8 political life4 ,at t "t 8 memory = names 0 v poor1 & he resolv$ to improve x4 ,he adopt$ ! practice1 j be=e retir+ at night1 ( recall+ ! names ( all ! p]sons he _h met dur+ ! day1 writ+ !m 9 a note book1 & repeat+ ov] ! li/ ! next morn+4 ,by ?is practice1 he acquir$ 9 "t1 8 wond]ful faculty 9 rememb]+ ! names ( p]sons he _h become acqua9t$ )4 ,,writ+ ,,z ,,an ,,aid ,,to ,,correct ,,talk+4 ,to conv]se correctly--to use correct language 9 conv]sation--is also a matt] ( importance1 & :ile ?is c be acquir$ by a /rict att5tion to grammatical rules1 x c be greatly facilitat$ by ! habit ( writ+ d[n "o's ?\ghts4 ,9 writ+1 /rict reg>d is1 or %\ld be1 paid to ! correct use ( language1 & :5 a p]son1 f con/ant writ+1 acquires ! habit ( us+ correct language1 ?is habit w foll[ him 9 talk+4 ,a p]son :o is accu/om$ to mu* writ+1 w always be f\nd to use language correctly 9 speak+4 ,,requisites ,,= ,a ,,good ,,talk]4 ,to be a good talk] !n1 "o %\ld be possess$ ( mu* g5]al in=mation1 acquir$ by ke5 obs]vation1 att5tive li/5+1 a good memory1 ext5sive read+ & /udy1 logical habits ( ?\ght1 & h a correct k ( ! use ( language4 ,he %\ld also aim at a cle> intonation1 well *os5 phraseology & correct acc5t4 ,^! acquirem5ts are )9 ! rea* ( e p]son ( ord9>y ability1 :o has a det]m9ation to possess !m1 & ! en]gy & p]sev]ance to c>ry out t det]m9ation4 ,,vulg>isms4 ,9 conv]sation1 "o mu/ scrupul\sly gu>d aga9/ vulg>isms4 ,simplicity & t]s5ess ( language are ! *>act]i/ics ( a well educat$ & highly cultivat$ p]son4 ,x is ! un$ucat$ or ^? :o are b half educat$1 :o use long words & high-s\nd+ phrases4 ,a hyp]bolical way ( speak+ is m]e flippancy1 & %\ld be avoid$4 ,su* phrases z awfully pretty1 imm5sely jolly1 abom9ably /upid1 disgu/+ly mean1 are ( ?is nature1 & %\ld be avoid$4 ,awkw>dness ( attitude is equally z bad z awkw>dness ( spee*4 ,loll+1 ge/iculat+1 fidget+1 h&l+ an eye-glass or wat* *a9 & ! l1 give an air ( gau*]ie1 & take (f a c]ta9 p]c5tage f ! respect ( o!rs4 ,,li/5+4 ,! habit ( li/5+ ) int]e/ & att5tion is "o :i* %\ld be specially cultivat$4 ,ev5 if ! talk] is prosy & prolix1 ! well-br$ p]son w appe> int]e/$1 & at appropriate int]vals make su* rem>ks z %all %[ t he has he>d & und]/ood all t has be5 said4 ,"s sup]ficial p are apt to /yle ?is hypocrisy2 b if x is1 x is c]ta9ly a comm5dable hypocrisy1 directly f\nd$ on t /rict rule ( good mann]s :i* comm&s u to %[ ! same c\rtesy to o!rs t we hope to receive ourselves4 ,we are comm&$ to *eck our impulses1 conceal our dislikes1 & ev5 modify our lik+s :5ev] or :]ev] ^! are liable to give (f5se or pa9 to o!rs4 ,! p]son :o turns away ) manife/ displeasure1 disgu/ or want ( int]e/ :5 ano!r is address+ him1 is guilty n only ( an ill-br$1 b a cruel act4 ,,flippancy4 ,9 conv]sation all prov9cialism1 affectations ( =eign acc5ts1 mann]isms1 exagg]ations & slang are dete/able4 ,equally to be avoid$ are inaccuracies ( expression1 hesitation1 an undue use ( =eign words1 & any?+ approa*+ to flippancy1 co>s5ess1 triviality or provocation4 ,g5tlem5 sometimes address ladies 9 a v flippant mann]1 :i* ! latt] are oblig$ to pass ov] )\t notice1 = v>i\s reasons1 :ile inw>dly !y rebel4 ,_m a wor?y man has done himself an irrep>able injury by ?us creat+ a la/+ prejudice 9 ! m9ds ( ^? :om he might h made 8 fri5ds1 _h he address$ !m z ?\gh he consid]$ !m rational be+s1 capable ( su/a9+ _! "p 9 a conv]sation ^u s5sible subjects4 ,flippancy is z mu* an evid5ce ( ill-bre$+ z is ! p]petual smile1 ! w&]+ eye1 ! vacant />e1 & ! half-op5$ m\? ( ! man :o is prep>+ to break 9 ^u ! conv]sation4 ,,be ,,sympa!tic ,,& ,,animat$4 ,d n g into society unless y make up y\r m9d to be sympa!tic1 unselfi%1 animat+1 z well z animat$4 ,society does n require mir?1 b x does dem& *e]fulness & unselfi%ness1 & y mu/ help to make & su/a9 *e]ful conv]sation4 ,! mann] ( conv]sation is z important z ! matt]4 ,,complim5ts4 ,complim5ts are said by "s to be inadmissible4 ,b betwe5 equals1 or f ^? ( sup]ior position to ^? ( inf]ior /ation1 complim5ts %\ld be n only acceptable b gratify+4 ,x is pleasant to "k t our fri5ds ?9k well ( u1 & x is always agreeable to "k t we are ?\ght well ( by ^? :o hold high] positions1 su* z m5 ( sup]ior tal5t1 or wom5 ( sup]ior culture4 ,complim5ts :i* are n s9c]e1 are only flatt]y & %\ld be avoid$2 b ! say+ ( k9d ?+s1 :i* is natural to ! k9d he>t1 & :i* conf]s pleasure1 %\ld be cultivat$1 at lea/ n suppress$4 ,^? p>5ts :o /rive mo/ = ! be/ mode ( tra9+ _! *ildr5 are said to h f\nd t x is nev] wise to c5sure !m = a fault1 )\t prep>+ ! way by "s judici\s m5tion ( _! good qualities4 ,,slang4 ,all slang is vulg>4 ,x l[]s ! tone ( society & ! /&>d ( ?\ght4 ,x is a great mi/ake to suppose t slang is 9 any mann] witty4 ,only ! v "y or ! uncultivat$ s consid] x4 ,,flatt]y4 ,d n be guilty ( flatt]y4 ,! flatt]y ( ^? ri*] ?an ourselves or bett] born is vulg>1 & born ( rud5ess1 & is sure to be receiv$ z emanat+ f unwor?y motives4 ,te/ify y\r respect1 y\r admiration1 & y\r gratitude by de$s m ?an words4 ,words are easy b de$s are difficult4 ,few w believe ! =m]1 b ! latt] w c>ry confirmation ) !m4 ,,sc&al ,,& ,,gossip4 ,sc&al is ! lea/ excusable ( all conv]sational vulg>ities4 ,envy prompts ! tongue ( ! sl&]]4 ,jeal\sy is ! di/urb] ( ! h>mony ( all int]e/s4 ,a writ] on ?is subject says3 ,gossip is a tr\blesome sort ( insect t only buzzes ab\t y\r e>s & nev] bites deep2 sl&] is ! bea/ ( prey t leaps ^u y f its d5 & te>s y 9 pieces4 ,sl&] is ! prop] object ( rage2 gossip ( contempt4 ,^? :o be/ und]/& ! nature ( gossip & sl&]1 if ! victims ( bo?1 w take no notice ( ! =m]1 b w all[ no sl&] ( !mselves to g unrefut$ dur+ _! lifetime1 to spr+ up 9 a hydra-head$ attack ^u _! *ildr54 ,no woman c be too s5sitive z to any *>ges affect+ h] moral "*1 :e!r 9 ! influ5ce ( h] companion%ip1 or 9 ! influ5ce ( h] writ+s4 ,,religion ,,& ,,politics4 ,religion & politics are topics t %\ld nev] be introduc$ into g5]al conv]sation1 = !y are subjects dang]\s to h>mony4 ,p]sons are mo/ likely to diff]1 & lea/ likely to pres]ve _! temp]s on ^! topics4 ,long argum5ts 9 g5]al company1 h[ev] ent]ta9+ to ! disputants1 are v tiresome to ! he>]s4 ,,satire ,,& ,,ridicule4 ,"y p]sons appe> ridicul\s :5 satiriz+ or ridicul+ books1 p or ?+s4 ,op9ions to be wor? ! consid]ation ( o!rs %\ld h ! advantage ( com+ f mature p]sons4 ,cultivat$ p are n 9 ! habit ( resort+ to su* weapons z satire & ridicule4 ,!y f9d too mu* to correct 9 !mselves to indulge 9 co>se c5sure ( ! conduct ( o!rs1 :o may n h _h advantages equal to _! own4 ,,titles4 ,9 address+ p]sons ) titles always add ! "n2 z :at d y ?9k ( x1 ,doctor ,hayes8 n :at d y ?9k ( x1 ,doctor8 ,9 speak+ ( =eign]s ! rev]se ( ! ,engli% rule is obs]v$4 ,no matt] :at ! title ( a ,fr5*man is1 he is always address$ z ,monsieur1 & y nev] omit ! ^w ,madame1 :e!r address+ a du*ess or a dressmak]4 ,! =m] is ,madame la ,du*esse1 ! latt] pla9 ,madame4 ,always give a =eign] 8 title4 ,if ,g5]al ,%]man travels 9 ,europe & is receiv$ by ! be/ classes ) ! dignity t 8 wor?1 culture & position z an ,am]ican g5]al dem&1 he w nev] be call$ ,mr4 ,%]man1 b 8 title w inv>iably prec$e 8 "n4 ,!re are p]sons :o fancy t ! omission ( ! title is annoy+ to ! p>ty :o possesses x1 b ?is is n ! gr\nd tak5 :y ! title %\ld be giv51 b because x reveals ei!r ignorance or ill-bre$+ on ! "p ( ^? omitt+ x4 ,,*ri/ian ,,names4 ,!re is a class ( p]sons1 :o f ignorance ( ! cu/oms ( good society1 or f c>elessness1 speak ( p]sons by _! ,*ri/ian names1 :o are nei!r relations nor intimate fri5ds4 ,?is is a famili>ity :i*1 outside ( ! family circle1 & beyond fri5ds ( ! close/ intimacy1 is nev] indulg$ 9 by ! well-br$4 ,,int]ruption4 ,int]ruption ( ! spee* ( o!rs is a great s9 aga9/ good-bre$+4 ,x has be5 aptly said t if y int]rupt a speak] 9 ! middle ( a s5t5ce1 y act almo/ z rudely z if1 :5 walk+ ) a companion1 y 7 to ?ru/ y\rself be=e him & /op 8 progress4 ,,adaptability ,,9 ,,conv]sation4 ,! great secret ( talk+ well is to adapt y\r conv]sation1 z skillfully z may be1 to y\r company4 ,"s m5 make a po9t ( talk+ commonplace to all ladies alike1 z if a woman c\ld only be a trifl]4 ,o!rs1 on ! contr>y1 seem to =get 9 :at respects ! education ( a lady diff]s f t ( a g5tleman1 & commit ! opposite error ( conv]s+ on topics ) :i* ladies are seldom acqua9t$1 & 9 :i* few1 if any1 are ev] int]e/$4 ,a woman ( s5se has z mu* "r to be annoy$ by ! "o1 z a woman ( ord9>y education by ! o!r4 ,if y really wi% to be ?\ght agreeable1 s5sible1 amiable1 unselfi% & ev5 well-in=m$1 y %\ld lead ! way1 9 tete-a-tete conv]sations1 = sportsm5 to talk ( _! %oot+1 a "m to talk ( h] *ildr51 a travel] ( 8 j\rneys & ! c\ntries he has visit$1 a "y lady ( h] la/ ball & ! prospective ones1 an arti/ ( 8 picture & an au?or ( 8 book4 ,to %[ any int]e/ 9 ! imm$iate conc]ns ( p is v complim5t>y1 & :5 n 9 g5]al society "o is privileg$ to d ?is4 ,p take m int]e/ 9 _! own affairs ?an 9 any?+ else y c "n1 & if y manife/ an int]e/ to he>1 !re are b few :o w n su/a9 conv]sation by a n>ration ( _! affairs 9 "s =m or ano!r4 ,?ack]ay says3 ,be int]e/$ by o!r p & by _! affairs4 ,x is because y y\rself are selfi% t t o!r p]son's self does n int]e/ y4 ,,correct ,,use ,,( ,,words4 ,! correct use ( words is indisp5sable to a good talk] :o w\ld escape ! unfavorable criticism ( an educat$ li/5]4 ,!re are _m words & phrases1 us$ 9 "s cases by p]sons :o h kn[n bett]1 b :o h become c>eless f association ) o!rs :o make con/ant use ( !m4 ,because t & b t %\ld nev] be us$ 9 connection1 ! ^w t be+ entirely sup]flu\s4 ,! ^w vocation is (t5 us$ = avocation4 ,unheal?y food is spok5 ( :5 x %\ld be un:olesome4 ,_h n ought to is sometimes he>d = ought n to2 bani/] = balu/]2 h&sful & spoonsful = h&fuls & spoonfuls2 x 0 him = x 0 he2 x 0 me = x 0 ,i2 :om d y ?9k 0 !re8 = :o d y ?9k 0 !re82 a mutual fri5d = a common fri5d2 l ,i did in/ead ( z ,i did2 ^? sort ( ?+s in/ead ( ?is sort ( ?+s2 lay+ d[n = ly+ d[n2 sett+ on a *air = sitt+ on a *air2 try & make him in/ead ( try to make him2 %e look$ *>m+ly = %e look$ *>m+2 loan = l5d2 to get along in/ead ( to get on2 cupalo in/ead ( cupola2 :o = :om--z1 :o did y see = :om did y see2 d\ble negatives1 z1 he did n d nei!r ( ^? ?+s2 less] = lea/2 move in/ead ( remove2 (f-set in/ead ( set-(f1 & _m o!r words :i* are (t5 c>elessly us$ by ^? :o h be5 bett] taught1 z well z by ^? :o are ignorant ( _! prop] use4 ,,speak+ ,,"o',s ,,m9d4 ,c]ta9 hone/ b un?9k+ p (t5 commit ! griev\s mi/ake ( speak+ _! m9d on all occasions & "u all circum/ances1 & (t5times to ! great mortification ( _! he>]s4 ,& especially d !y take cr$it to !mselves = _! c\rage1 if _! fre$om ( spee* happ5s to give (f5se to any ( !m4 ,a little reflection ought to %[ h[ cruel & unju/ ?is is4 ,! law re/ra9s u f inflict+ bodily injury ^u ^? ) :om we disagree1 yet !re is no legal prev5tive aga9/ ?is w\nd+ ( ! feel+ ( o!rs4 ,,unwise ,,expression ,,( ,,op9ion4 ,ano!r class ( p1 actuat$ by ! be/ ( int5tions1 seem to consid] x a duty to p>ade _! op9ions ^u all occasions1 & 9 all places )\t reflect+ t ! highe/ tru? w suff] f an unwise & ov]-zeal\s advocacy4 ,civility requires t we give to ! op9ions ( o!rs ! same tol]ation t we exact = our own1 & good s5se %\ld cause u to rememb] t we are nev] likely to conv]t a p]son to our views :5 we beg9 by violat+ 8 notions ( propriety & excit+ 8 prejudices4 ,a sil5t advocate ( a cause is always bett] ?an an indiscreet "o4 ,,pr(anity4 ,no g5tleman uses pr(ane language4 ,x is unnecess>y to add t no g5tleman w use pr(ane language 9 ! pres5ce ( a lady4 ,= pr(anity !re is no excuse4 ,x is a l[ & paltry habit1 acquir$ f association ) l[ & paltry spirits1 :o possess no s5se ( honor1 no reg>d = dec5cy & no rev]5ce or respect = be+s ( a high] moral or religi\s nature ?an !mselves4 ,! man :o habitually uses pr(ane language1 l[]s 8 moral tone ) e oa? he utt]s4 ,moreov]1 ! sill9ess ( ! practice1 if no o!r reason1 %\ld prev5t its use by e man ( good s5se4 ,,public ,,m5tion ,,( ,,private ,,matt]s4 ,d n p>ade m]ely private matt]s be=e a public or mix$ assembly or to acqua9tances4 ,if /rang]s really wi% to become in=m$ ab\t y or y\r affairs1 !y w f9d ! means to gratify _! curiosity )\t y\r advis+ !m gratuit\sly4 ,besides1 p]sonal & family affairs1 no matt] h[ int]e/+ !y may be to ! p>ties imm$iately conc]n$1 are g5]ally ( little mom5t to outsid]s4 ,/ill less w ! well-br$ p]son inquire into or n>rate ! private affairs ( any o!r family or individual4 ,,o/5tati\s ,,display ,,( ,,k4 ,9 ref9$ & intellig5t society "o %\ld always display himself at 8 be/1 & make a prop] & legitimate use ( all su* acquirem5ts z he may happ5 to h4 ,b !re %\ld be no o/5tati\s or p$antic %[ ( erudition4 ,besides be+ vulg>1 su* a %[ subjects ! p]son to ridicule4 ,,prud]y4 ,avoid an affectation ( excessive mode/y4 ,d n use ! ^w limb = leg4 ,if legs are really improp]1 !n let u1 on no acc\nt1 m5tion !m4 ,b hav+ f\nd x necess>y to m5tion !m1 let u by all means give !m _! appropriate "n4 ,,d\ble ,,ent5dres4 ,no p]son ( dec5cy1 /ill less ( delicacy1 w be guilty ( d\ble ent5dre4 ,a well-br$ p]son always refuses to und]/& a phrase ( d\btful mean+4 ,if ! phrase may be int]pret$ dec5tly1 & ) su* int]pretation w\ld provoke a smile1 !n smile to j ! degree call$ = by su* int]pretation1 & no m4 ,! prud]y :i* sits 9 solemn & sev]e rebuke at a d\ble ent5dre is only second 9 indelicacy to ! indec5cy :i* gr[s hil>i\s ov] x1 s9ce bo? mu/ recognize ! evil int5t4 ,x is suffici5t to let x pass unrecogniz$4 ,,indelicate ,,words ,,& ,,expressions4 ,n s :5 "o he>s an indelicate ^w or expression1 :i* all[s ( no possible h>mless int]pretation4 ,!n n ! %ad[ ( a smile %\ld flit across ! lips4 ,ei!r complete sil5ce %\ld be pres]v$ 9 return1 or ! words1 ,i d n und]/& y1 be spok54 ,a lady w always fail to he> t :i* %e %\ld n he>1 or1 hav+ unmi/akably he>d1 %e w n und]/&4 ,,vulg> ,,exclamations4 ,no lady %\ld make use ( any fem99e sub/itute = pr(anity4 ,! woman :o exclaims ,! ,dick5s6 or ,m]cy6 or ,goodness6 :5 %e is annoy$ or a/oni%$1 is z vulg> 9 _s1 ?\gh p]haps n q s reg>d$ by society1 z ?\gh %e _h us$ expressions :i* x w\ld require b little /ret* ( ! imag9ation to be reg>d$ z pr(ane4 ,,wit4 ,y may be witty & amus+ if y l1 or r if y c2 b nev] use y\r wit at ! exp5se ( o!rs4 ,wit's an unruly eng9e1 wildly /rik+ ,sometimes a fri5d1 sometimes ! eng9e]2 ,ha/ ?\ ! knack8 pamp] x n ) lik+2 ,b if ?\ want x1 buy x n too de>4 ,_m affect+ wit beyond _! p[] ,h got to be a de> fool = an h\r4--,,h]b]t4 ,,display ,,( ,,emotions4 ,avoid all exhibitions ( temp] be=e o!rs1 if y f9d x impossible to suppress !m entirely4 ,all emotions1 :e!r ( grief or joy1 %\ld be subdu$ 9 public1 & only all[$ full play 9 ! privacy ( y\r own ap>tm5ts4 ,,imp]t95t ,,que/ions4 ,nev] ask imp]t95t que/ions4 ,"s au?orities 9 etiquette ev5 g s f> z to say t all que/ions are /rictly taboo$4 ,?us1 if y wi%$ to inquire aft] ! heal? ( ! bro!r ( y\r fri5d1 y w\ld say1 ,i hope y\r bro!r is well1 n1 ,h[ is y\r bro!r's heal?8 ,,! ,,confid5ce ,,( ,,o!rs4 ,nev] try to =ce y\rself into ! confid5ce ( o!rs2 b if !y give y _! confid5ce ( _! own free w1 let no?+ :atev] induce y to betray x4 ,nev] seek to pry into a secret1 & nev] divulge "o4 ,,use ,,( ,,=eign ,,language4 ,d n =m ! habit ( introduc+ words & phrases ( ,fr5* or o!r =eign languages into common conv]sation4 ,?is is only all[able 9 writ+1 & n !n except :5 ! =eign ^w or phrase expresses m cle>ly & directly ?an ,engli% c d ! desir$ mean+4 ,9 famili> conv]sation ?is is an affectation1 only p>donable :5 all p]sons pres5t are p>ticul>ly famili> ) ! language4 ,,pret5ses4 ,avoid all pret5se at g5tility4 ,pass = :at y are1 & no?+ m4 ,if y are oblig$ to make any little economies1 d n be a%am$ to ackn[l$ge !m z economies1 if x becomes necess>y to speak ( !m at all4 ,if y keep no c>riage1 d n be ov]-solicit\s to impress ^u y\r fri5ds t ! sole reason = ?is defici5cy is because y pref] to walk4 ,d n be a%am$ ( pov]ty2 b1 on ! o!r h&1 d n flaunt its rags unm]cifully 9 ! faces ( o!rs4 ,x is bett] to say no?+ ab\t x1 ei!r 9 excuse or def5se4 ,,dogmatic ,,/yle ,,( ,,speak+4 ,nev] speak dogmatically or ) an assumption ( k or in=mation beyond t ( ^? ) :om y are conv]s+4 ,ev5 if y are consci\s ( ?is sup]iority1 a prop] & becom+ mode/y w lead y to conceal x z f> z possible1 t y may n put to %ame or humiliation ^? less =tunate ?an y\rself4 ,if !y discov] y\r sup]iority ( _! own accord1 !y w h mu* m admiration = y ?an ?\gh y =c$ ! recognition ^u !m4 ,if !y d n discov] x1 y _c =ce x ^u _! p]ceptions1 & !y w only hold y 9 contempt = try+ to d s4 ,besides1 !re is ! possibility t y ov]-e/imate y\rself1 & in/ead ( be+ a wise man y are only a self-suffici5t fool4 ,,fault-,,f9d+4 ,d n be c5sori\s or fault-f9d+4 ,long & close fri5d%ip may sometimes excuse "o fri5d 9 reprov+ or criticis+ ano!r1 b x mu/ always be done 9 ! k9de/ & g5tle/ mann]1 & 9 n9e cases out ( t5 _h be/ be left undone4 ,:5 "o is incl9$ to be c5sori\s or critical1 x is well to rememb] ! scriptural injunction1 ,fir/ ca/ ! beam out ( ?9e own eye1 & !n %alt ?\ see cle>ly to ca/ ! mote out ( ?y bro!r's eye4 ,,conv]s+ ,,) ,,ladies4 ,a g5tleman %\ld nev] l[] ! intellectual /&>d ( 8 conv]sation 9 address+ ladies4 ,pay !m ! complim5t ( seem+ to consid] !m capable ( an equal und]/&+ ) g5tlem54 ,y w1 no d\bt1 be some:at surpris$ to f9d 9 h[ _m cases ! supposition w be gr\nd$ on fact1 & 9 ! few in/ances :]e x is n1 ! ladies w be pleas$ r ?an (f5d$ at ! delicate complim5t y pay !m4 ,:5 y come d[n to commonplace or small-talk ) an intellig5t lady1 "o ( two ?+s is ! consequ5ce2 %e ei!r recognizes ! condesc5sion & despises y1 or else %e accepts x z ! highe/ intellectual ef=t ( :i* y are capable1 & rates y accord+ly4 ,,hobbies4 ,p ) hobbies are at once ! easie/ & mo/ difficult p]sons ) :om to engage 9 conv]sation4 ,on g5]al subjects !y are idealess & voiceless beyond monosyllables4 ,b introduce _! special hobby1 & if y *oose y ne$ only to li/54 ,!re is mu* pr(it to be d]iv$ f ! conv]sation ( ^! p]sons4 ,!y w give y a cle>] idea ( ! aspects ( any subject or !ory :i* !y may h tak5 to he>t1 ?an y c\ld p]haps ga9 9 any o!r way4 ,! too con/ant rid+ ( hobbies is n1 h[ev]1 to be specially recomm5d$4 ,an individual1 ?\gh he may be p>don$ 9 cultivat+ special ta/es1 %\ld yet be possess$ ( suffici5tly broad & g5]al in=mation to be able to conv]se intellig5tly on all subjects1 & he %\ld1 z f> z possible1 res]ve 8 hobby-rid+ = exhibition be=e ^? :o ride hobbies simil> to 8 own4 ,,?+s ,,to ,,be ,,avoid$4 ,x mu/ be rememb]$ t a social ga!r+ %\ld nev] be made ! ar5a ( a dispute4 ,consequ5tly e subject liable to provoke a discussion %\ld be avoid$4 ,ev5 slight inaccuracy 9 a /atem5t ( facts or op9ions %\ld r>ely be rem>k$ on 9 conv]sation4 ,d n p]mit y\rself to lose y\r temp] 9 society1 nor %[ t y h tak5 (f5se at a suppos$ slight4 ,if anyone %\ld assume a disagreeable tone ( voice or (f5sive mann] t[>d y1 nev] return x 9 company1 &1 above all1 d n adopt ! same /yle ( conv]sation ) him4 ,appe> n to notice x1 & g5]ally x w be discont9u$1 z x w be se5 t x has fail$ 9 its object4 ,avoid all co>s5ess & undue famili>ity 9 address+ o!rs4 ,a p]son :o makes himself (f5sively famili> w h few fri5ds4 ,nev] attack ! "* ( o!rs 9 _! abs5ce2 & if y he> o!rs attack$1 say :at y c consi/5tly to def5d !m4 ,if y are talk+ on religi\s subjects1 avoid all cant4 ,cant words & phrases may be us$ 9 good fai? f ! =ce ( habit1 b _! use subjects ! speak] to a suspicion ( ins9c]ity4 ,d n ask ! price ( articles y obs]ve1 except f intimate fri5ds1 & !n v quietly1 & only = "s good reason4 ,d n appe> to notice an error 9 language1 ei!r 9 pronunciation or gramm>1 made by ! p]son ) :om y are conv]s+1 & d n repeat correctly ! same ^w or phrase4 ,?is w\ld be z ill-br$ z to correct x :5 spok54 ,mimicry is ill-br$1 & mu/ be avoid$4 ,sne]+ at ! private affairs ( o!rs has long ago be5 bani%$ f ! conv]sation ( well-mann]$ p4 ,nev] introduce unpleasant topics1 nor describe revolt+ sc5es 9 g5]al company4 ,nev] give (fici\s advice4 ,ev5 :5 s\ght =1 give advice sp>+ly4 ,nev]1 directly or indirectly1 ref] to ! affairs ( o!rs1 :i* x may give !m pa9 9 any degree to recall4 ,nev] hold y\r companion 9 conv]sation by ! button-hole4 ,if y are oblig$ to deta9 him =cibly 9 ord] to say :at y wi%1 y are press+ ^u him :at is disagreeable or unwelcome1 & y commit a gross brea* ( etiquette 9 s do+4 ,especially avoid contradictions1 int]ruptions & monopoliz+ all conv]sation y\rself4 ,^! faults are all intol]able & v (f5sive4 ,to speak to "o p]son 9 a company 9 ambigu\s t]ms1 und]/ood by him alone1 is z rude z if y _h :isp]$ 9 8 e>4 ,avoid /ale & trite rem>ks on commonplace subjects2 also all egotism & anecdotes ( p]sonal adv5ture & exploit1 unless !y %\ld be call$ out by p]sons y are conv]s+ )4 ,to make a classical quotation 9 a mix$ company is consid]$ p$antic & out ( place1 z is also an o/5tati\s display ( y\r le>n+4 ,a g5tleman %\ld avoid talk+ ab\t 8 bus9ess or pr(ession1 unless su* matt]s are drawn f him by ! p]son ) :om he is conv]s+4 ,x is 9 bad ta/e1 p>ticul>ly1 to employ te*nical or pr(essional t]ms 9 g5]al conv]sation4 ,long argum5ts or heat$ discussions are apt to be tiresome to o!rs1 & %\ld be avoid$4 ,x is consid]$ extremely ill-br$ = two p]sons to :isp] 9 society1 or to conv]se 9 a language ) :i* all p]sons are n famili>4 ,avoid talk+ too mu*1 & d n inflict ^u y\r he>]s int]m9ably long /ories1 9 :i* !y c h b little int]e/4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,ix4 ,d9n] ,giv+ & ,d9+ ,out4 ,d9+ %\ld be rank$ among ! f9e arts4 ,a k ( d9n]-table etiquette is all important 9 _m respects2 b *iefly 9 ?is3 t x is reg>d$ z "o ( ! /rong te/s ( good bre$+4 ,d9n]s are g5]ally look$ ^u z ent]ta9m5ts = m>ri$ p & ! middle ag$1 b x is (t5 desirable to h "s "y unm>ri$ p]sons among ! gue/s4 ,,:om ,,to ,,invite4 ,^? invit$ %\ld be ( ! same /&+ 9 society4 ,!y ne$ n necess>ily be fri5ds1 nor ev5 acqua9tances1 b1 at d9n]1 z p come into clos] contact ?an at a dance1 or any o!r k9d ( a p>ty1 ^? only %\ld be invit$ to meet "o ano!r :o move 9 ! same class ( circles4 ,c>e mu/1 ( c\rse1 be tak5 t ^? :om y ?9k agreeable to ea* o!r are plac$ side by side ar\nd ! fe/ive bo>d4 ,good talk]s are invaluable at a d9n] p>ty--p :o h fre% ideas & pl5ty ( w>m words to clo! !m 92 b good li/5]s are equally invaluable4 ,,invitations4 ,invitations to d9n] p>ties are n usually s5t by po/1 9 cities1 & are only answ]$ by po/ :]e ! di/ance is su* z to make x inconv5i5t to s5d ! note by h&4 ,!y are issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! g5tleman & lady ( ! h\se1 f two to t5 days 9 advance4 ,!y %\ld be answ]$ z soon z receiv$1 )\t fail1 z x is necess>y t ! ho/ & ho/ess %\ld "k :o are to be _! gue/s4 ,if ! invitation is accept$1 ! engagem5t %\ld1 on no acc\nt1 be lightly brok54 ,?is rule is a b9d+ "o1 z ! non-arrival ( an expect$ gue/ produces dis>rangem5t ( plans4 ,g5tlem5 _c be invit$ )\t _! wives1 :]e o!r ladies ?an ^? ( ! family are pres5t2 nor ladies )\t _! husb&s1 :5 o!r ladies are invit$ ) _! husb&s4 ,?is rule has no exceptions4 ,no m ?an ?ree out ( a family %\ld be invit$1 unless ! d9n] p>ty is a v l>ge "o4 ,,mann] ,,( ,,writ+ ,,invitations4 ,! invitations %\ld be writt5 on small note pap]1 :i* may h ! initial lett] or monogram /amp$ ^u x1 b good ta/e =bids any?+ m4 ,! envelope %\ld mat* ! %eet ( pap]4 ,! invitation %\ld be issu$ 9 ! "n ( ! ho/ & ho/ess4 ,! =m ( invitations %\ld be z foll[s3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,pott] reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,b>ton's company at d9n] on ,?ursday1 ! #ac? ( ,octob] at #e o'clock4 ,an answ] %\ld be return$ at once1 s t if ! invitation is decl9$ ! ho/ess may modify h] arrangem5ts accord+ly4 ,,invitation ,,accept$4 ,an acceptance may be giv5 9 ! foll[+ =m1 & may be s5t ei!r by po/ or mess5g]3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,b>ton h mu* pleasure 9 accept+ ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,pott]'s invitation = ,octob] #ac?4 ,,invitation ,,decl9$4 ,! invitation is decl9$ 9 ! foll[+ mann]3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,b>ton regret t a previ\s engagem5t 7or :atev] ! cause may be7 prev5ts _! hav+ ! pleasure ( accept+ ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,pott]'s invitation at d9n] = ,octob] #ac?4 ,or1 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,b>ton regret exce$+ly t ow+ to 7:atev] ! prev5t+ cause may be71 !y _c h ! pleasure ( d9+ ) ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,pott] on ,?ursday1 ,octob] #ac?4 ,:atev] ! cause = decl9+ may be1 x %\ld be /at$ briefly1 yet pla9ly1 t !re may be no occasion = misund]/&+ or h>d feel+s4 ,,invitation ,,to ,,tea-,,p>ty4 ,! invitation to a tea-p>ty may be less =mal4 ,x may take ! =m ( a fri5dly note1 some?+ 9 ?is mann]3 ,illu/ration3 ,de> ,miss ,summ]3 ,we h "s fri5ds com+ to dr9k tea ) u to-morr[3 w y give u ! pleasure ( y\r company also8 ,we hope y w n disappo9t u4 ,,fail+ ,,to ,,fill ,,an ,,engagem5t4 ,:5 x becomes absolutely necess>y to break an engagem5t once made = d9n] or tea1 a note mu/ be s5t at once to ! ho/ess & ho/1 ) full explanation ( ! cause1 s t y\r place may be suppli$1 if possible4 ,,punctuality4 ,! h\r g5]ally select$ 9 cities is aft] bus9ess h\rs1 or f five to eight o'clock4 ,9 ! c\ntry or villages x may be an h\r or two e>li]4 ,to be punctual at ! h\r m5tion$ is obligatory4 ,if y are too e>ly y are 9 ! way2 if too late y annoy ! ho/ess1 cause impati5ce among ! assembl$ gue/s1 & p]haps spoil ! d9n]4 ,fifte5 m9utes is ! longe/ "t requir$ to wait = a t>dy gue/4 ,,! ,,success ,,( ,a ,,d9n]4 ,a ho/ & ho/ess g5]ally judge ( ! success ( a d9n] by ! mann] 9 :i* conv]sation has be5 su/a9$4 ,if x has flagg$ (t51 x is consid]$ pro( t ! gue/s h n be5 cong5ial2 b if a /eady /ream ( talk has be5 kept up1 x %[s t !y h smoo?ly amalgamat$1 z a :ole4 ,no "o %\ld monopolize conv]sation1 unless he wi%es to w9 = himself ! appellation ( a bore1 & be avoid$ z su*4 ,,! ,,table ,,appo9tm5ts4 ,a sn[-:ite clo? ( ! f9e/ damask1 beautiful *9a1 gli/5+ or f9ely engrav$ glass1 & poli%$ plate are consid]$ ess5tial to a gr& d9n]4 ,*oice fl[]s1 f]ns & mosses ta/efully arrang$1 add mu* to ! beauty ( ! table4 ,a salt-cell> %\ld be )9 ! rea* ( e gue/4 ,napk9s %\ld be fold$ squ>e & plac$ ) a roll ( bread ^u ea* plate4 ,! dess]t is plac$ on ! table amid/ ! fl[]s4 ,an ep]gne1 or a l[ di% ( fl[]s1 graces ! c5tre2 /&s ( bon-bons & confection]y are rang$ on bo? sides ( ! table1 :i* complete ! decorations ( ! table4 ,! "n ( ea* gue/1 writt5 ^u a c>d & plac$ "o on ea* plate1 m>ks ! seat assign$4 ,,assign+ ,,p>tn]s ,,= ,,d9n]4 ,! numb] at a d9n] %\ld n be less ?an six1 nor m ?an twelve or f\rte54 ,!n ! ho/ w be able to designate to ea* g5tleman ! lady :om he is to conduct to ! table2 b :5 ! numb] exce$s ?is limit x is a good plan to h ! "n ( ea* c\ple writt5 ^u a c>d & enclos$ 9 an address$ envelope1 ready to be h&$ to ! g5tleman by ! s]vant1 be=e ent]+ ! draw+-room1 or left on a tray = ! gue/s to select ^? :i* be> _! names4 ,if a g5tleman f9ds ^u 8 c>d ! "n ( a lady ) :om he is unacqua9t$1 he reque/s ! ho/ to pres5t him imm$iately aft] he has spok5 ) ! ho/ess1 also to any memb]s ( ! family ) :om he is n acqua9t$4 ,,introductions4 ,all ! gue/s %\ld secure introductions to ! "o = :om ! d9n] is giv54 ,if two p]sons1 unkn[n to ea* o!r1 f9d !mselves plac$ side by side at a table1 !y may ent] into conv]sation )\t an introduction4 ,,arrangem5ts ,,( ,,gue/s ,,at ,,! ,,table4 ,:5 d9n] is ann\nc$1 ! ho/ (f]s 8 "r arm to ! lady he is to escort to ! table4 ,! o!rs foll[1 arm 9 arm1 ! ho/ess be+ ! la/ to leave ! draw+-room4 ,age %\ld take ! prec$5ce 9 proce$+ f ! draw+-room to ! d9+-room1 ! y\ng] fall+ back until ! eld] h advanc$4 ,! ho/ escorts ! elde/ lady or ! greate/ /rang]1 or if !re be a bride pres5t1 prec$5ce is giv5 to h]1 unless ! d9n] is giv5 = ano!r p]son1 9 :i* case he escorts ! latt]4 ,! ho/ess is escort$ ei!r by ! greate/ /rang]1 or "s g5tleman :om %e wi%es to place 9 ! seat ( honor1 :i* is at h] "r4 ,! ho/ places ! lady :om he escorts at 8 "r4 ,! seats ( ! ho/ & ho/ess may be 9 ! middle & at opposite sides ( ! table1 or at ! opposite ends4 ,husb&s %\ld n escort _! wives1 or bro!rs _! si/]s1 z ?is p>takes ( ! nature ( a family ga!r+4 ,,d9n] ,a ,,la ,,russe4 ,! late/ & mo/ satisfactory plan = s]v+ d9n]s is ! d9n] a la ,russe 7! ,russian /yle7--all ! food be+ plac$ ^u a side table1 & s]vants d ! c>v+ & wait+4 ,?is /yle gives an opportunity = m pr(use ornam5tation ( ! table1 :i*1 z ! meal progresses1 does n become encumb]$ ) p>tially empty di%es & platt]s4 ,,duties ,,( ,,s]vants4 ,! s]vants comm5ce1 9 pass+ ! di%es1 "o ^u ! "r ( ! ho/ & "o ^u ! "r ( ! ho/ess4 ,a ma/] or mi/ress %\ld nev] c5sure ! s]vants at d9n]1 h[ev] ?+s may g wrong4 ,s]vants %\ld we> ?9-sol$ %oes t _! /eps may be noiseless1 & if !y %\ld use napk9s 9 s]v+ 7z is ! ,engli% cu/om7 in/ead ( gloves1 _! h&s & nails %\ld be faultlessly clean4 ,a good s]vant is nev] awkw>d4 ,he avoids c\gh+1 brea?+ h>d or tread+ on a lady's dress2 nev] lets any article drop1 & deposits plates1 glasses1 knives1 =ks & spoons noiselessly4 ,x is consid]$ good =m = a s]vant n to we> gloves 9 wait+ at table1 b to use a damask napk91 ) "o corn] wrapp$ ar\nd ! ?umb1 t he may n t\* ! plates & di%es ) ! nak$ h&4 ,,s\p4 ,s\p is ! fir/ c\rse4 ,all %\ld accept x ev5 if !y let x rema9 unt\*$1 because x is bett] to make a pret5se ( eat+ until ! next c\rse is s]v$1 ?an to sit wait+1 or compel ! s]vants to s]ve "o be=e ! re/4 ,s\p %\ld n be call$ = a second "t4 ,a s\p-plate %\ld nev] be tilt$ = ! la/ spoonful4 ,,fi%4 ,fi% foll[s s\p & mu/ be eat5 ) a =k1 unless fi% knives are provid$4 ,if fi% knives are n provid$1 a piece ( bread 9 ! left h& answ]s ! purpose z well1 ) ! =k 9 ! "r h&4 ,fi% may be decl9$1 b mu/ n be call$ = a second "t4 ,,! ,,side ,,di%es4 ,aft] s\p & fi% come ! side di%es1 :i* mu/ be eat5 ) ! =k1 ?\gh ! knife is us$ 9 cutt+ meats & any?+ too h>d = a =k4 ,,g5]al ,,rules ,,reg>d+ ,,d9n]4 ,:5 ! plate ( ea* c\rse is set be=e y1 ) ! knife & =k ^u x1 remove ! knife & =k at once4 ,?is matt] %\ld be c>efully att5d$ to1 z ! s]v+ ( an entire c\rse is delay$ by neglect+ to remove !m4 ,gre$9ess %\ld n be indulg$ 94 ,indecision mu/ be avoid$4 ,d n take up "o piece & lay x d[n 9 favor ( ano!r1 or hesitate4 ,nev] all[ ! s]vant1 or ! "o :o p\rs1 to fill y\r glass ) w9e t y d n wi% to dr9k4 ,y c *eck him by t\*+ ! rim ( y\r glass4 ,*eese is eat5 ) a =k & n ) a knife4 ,if y h occasion to speak to a s]vant1 wait until y c cat* 8 eye1 & !n ask 9 a l[ tone = :at y want4 ,! m\? %\ld always be kept clos$ 9 eat+1 & bo? eat+ & dr9k+ %\ld be noiseless4 ,bread is brok5 at d9n]4 ,vegetables are eat5 ) a =k4 ,asp>agus c be tak5 up ) ! f+]s1 if pref]r$4 ,olives & arti*okes are always s eat54 ,fruit is eat5 ) silv] knives & =ks4 ,y are at lib]ty to refuse a di% t y d n wi% to eat4 ,if any c\rse is set d[n be=e y t y d n wi%1 d n t\* x4 ,nev] play ) food1 nor m9ce y\r bread1 nor h&le ! glass & silv] ne> y unnecess>ily4 ,nev] reprove a wait] = neglig5ce or improp] conduct2 t is ! bus9ess ( ! ho/4 ,:5 a di% is (f]$ y1 accept or refuse at once1 & all[ ! wait] to pass on4 ,a g5tleman w see t ! lady :om he has escort$ to ! table is help$ to all %e wi%es1 b x is (fici\sness to (f] to help o!r ladies :o h escorts4 ,if ! gue/s pass ! di%es to "o ano!r1 in/ead ( be+ help$ by a s]vant1 y %\ld always help y\rself f ! di%1 if y desire x at all1 be=e pass+ x on to ! next4 ,a knife %\ld nev]1 on any acc\nt1 be put into ! m\?4 ,_m p1 ev5 well-br$ 9 o!r respects1 seem to reg>d ?is z an unnecess>y regulation2 b :5 we consid] t x is a rule ( etiquette1 & t its violation causes surprise & disgu/ to _m p1 x is wise/ to obs]ve x4 ,be c>eful to remove ! bones f fi% be=e eat+4 ,if a bone inadv]t5tly %\ld get into ! m\?1 ! lips mu/ be cov]$ ) ! napk9 9 remov+ x4 ,*]ry /ones & grape sk9s %\ld be remov$ f ! m\? z unobtrusively z possible1 & deposit$ on ! side ( ! plate4 ,nev] use a napk9 9 place ( a h&k]*ief = wip+ ! =ehead1 face or nose4 ,pa/ry %\ld be eat5 ) a =k4 ,e ?+ t c be cut )\t a knife %\ld be eat5 ) ! =k alone4 ,pudd+ may be eat5 ) a =k or spoon4 ,nev] lay y\r h&1 or play ) y\r f+]s1 ^u ! table4 ,d n toy ) y\r knife1 =k or spoon1 make crumbs ( y\r bread1 or draw imag9>y l9es ^u ! table clo?4 ,nev] bite fruit4 ,an apple1 pea* or pe> %\ld be peel$ ) a knife1 & all fruit %\ld be brok5 or cut4 ,,wait+ ,,on ,,o!rs4 ,if a g5tleman is seat$ by ! side ( a lady or eld]ly p]son1 polit5ess requires him to save !m all tr\ble ( procur+ = !mselves any?+ to eat or dr9k1 & ( obta9+ :atev] !y are 9 want ( at ! table1 & he %\ld be eag] to (f] !m :at he ?9ks may be mo/ to _! ta/e4 ,,prais+ ,,di%es4 ,a ho/ess %\ld n express pride reg>d+ :at is on h] table1 nor make apologies if ev]y?+ %e (f]s y is n to h] satisfaction4 ,x is mu* bett] t %e %\ld obs]ve sil5ce 9 ?is respect1 & all[ h] gue/s to eulogize h] d9n] or n1 z !y deem prop]4 ,nei!r is x 9 good ta/e to urge gue/s to eat1 nor to load _! plates aga9/ _! incl9ation4 ,,monopoliz+ ,,conv]sation4 ,= "o or two p]sons to monopolize a conv]sation :i* ought to be g5]al1 is exce$+ly rude4 ,if ! d9n] p>ty is a l>ge "o1 y may conv]se ) ^? ne> y1 rais+ ! voice only l\d en\gh to be di/9ctly he>d by ! p]sons y are talk+ )4 ,,pick+ ,,tee? ,,at ,,! ,,table4 ,x is a m>k ( rud5ess to pick y\r tee? at ! table1 & x %\ld always be avoid$4 ,to hold y\r h& or napk9 ov] y\r m\? does n avoid ! rud5ess ( ! act1 b if x becomes a matt] ( necessity to remove "s ob/acle f betwe5 ! tee?1 !n y\r op5 m\? %\ld be conceal$ by y\r h& or napk94 ,,select+ ,a ,,p>ticul> ,,di%4 ,nev] express a pref]5ce = any di% or any p>ticul> portion ( a f[l or ( meat1 unless reque/$ to d s1 & !n answ] promptly1 t no "t may be wa/$ 9 s]v+ y & o!rs aft] y4 ,,duties ,,( ,,ho/ess ,,& ,,ho/4 ,tact & self-possession are dem&$ ( ! ho/ess1 9 ord] t %e may p]=m h] duties agreeably1 :i* are n on]\s4 ,%e %\ld in/ruct h] s]vants n to remove h] plate until h] gue/s h f9i%$4 ,if %e speaks ( any omission by :i* h] s]vants h inconv5i5c$ h] gue/s1 %e mu/ d x ) dignity1 n betray+ any undue annoyance4 ,%e mu/ put all h] gue/s at _! ease1 & pay e possible att5tion to ! requirem5ts ( ea* & all ar\nd h]4 ,no accid5t mu/ di/urb h]2 no disappo9tm5t emb>rass h]4 ,if h] preci\s *9a & h] r>e glass are brok5 be=e h] eyes1 %e mu/ seem to take b little or no notice ( x4 ,! ho/ mu/ aid ! ho/ess 9 h] ef=ts4 ,he %\ld h ease & frankness ( mann]1 a calmness ( temp] t no?+ c ruffle1 & a k9dness ( disposition t c nev] be exhau/$4 ,he mu/ enc\rage ! timid1 draw out ! sil5t & direct conv]sation r ?an su/a9 x himself4 ,no matt] :at may g wrong1 a ho/ess %\ld nev] seem to notice x to ! annoyance ( h] gue/s4 ,by pass+ x ov] h]self1 x w v frequ5tly escape ! att5tion ( o!rs4 ,if h] gue/s arrive late1 %e %\ld welcome !m z cordially z if !y _h come e>ly1 b %e w commit a rud5ess to ^? :o h arriv$ punctually1 if %e awaits d9n] = t>dy gue/s = m ?an ! fifte5 m9utes ( grace prescrib$ by cu/om4 ,,retir+ ,,f ,,! ,,table4 ,:5 ! ho/ess sees t all h f9i%$1 %e looks at ! lady :o is sitt+ at ! "r ( ! ho/1 & ! company rise1 & )draw 9 ! ord] !y are seat$1 )\t prec$5ce4 ,aft] retir+ to ! draw+-room1 ! gue/s %\ld int]m+le 9 a social mann]4 ,x is expect$ t ! gue/s w rema9 f "o to ?ree h\rs aft] d9n]4 ,,accept+ ,,hospitality ,a ,,sign ,,( ,,good-,,w4 ,z eat+ ) ano!r "u 8 own ro( is 9 all conditions ( society reg>d$ z a sign ( good-w1 ^? :o p>take ( pr(f]$ hospitalities1 only to gossip ab\t & abuse _! ho/ & ho/ess1 %\ld rememb]1 t 9 ! op9ion ( all honorable p]sons1 !y injure !mselves by s do+4 ,,calls ,,aft] ,a ,,d9n] ,,p>ty4 ,calls %\ld be made %ortly aft] a d9n] p>ty by all :o h be5 invit$1 :e!r ! invitation be accept$ or n4 ,,return+ ,,hospitality4 ,^? :o are 9 ! habit ( giv+ d9n] p>ties %\ld return ! invitation be=e ano!r is ext5d$ to !m4 ,society is v sev]e ^u ^? :o d n return debts ( hospitality1 if !y h ! means to d s4 ,if !y nev] ent]ta9 anyone because ( limit$ means1 or = o!r good reasons1 x is s und]/ood1 & x is n expect$ t !y %\ld make exceptions2 or if !y are 9 ! habit ( giv+ o!r ent]ta9m5ts & n d9n]s1 _! debts ( hospitality c be return$ by invitations to :atev] ! ent]ta9m5t might be4 ,"s are det]r$ f accept+ invitations by ! feel+ t !y _c return ! hospitality 9 s magnific5t a =m4 ,x is n ! co/ly prep>ations1 nor ! exp5sive repa/ (f]$ :i* are ! mo/ agreeable features ( any ent]ta9m5t1 b x is ! k9d & fri5dly feel+ %[n4 ,^? :o are n det]r$ f accept+ su* invitations = ?is reason1 & :o enjoy ! fruits ( fri5dl9ess ?us %[n !m1 mu/ possess n>r[ views ( _! duty1 & v little self-respect1 if1 :5 an opportunity pres5ts itself 9 any way to reciprocate ! k9d feel+ manife/$1 !y fail to avail !mselves ( x4 ,true hospitality1 h[ev]1 nei!r expects nor desires any return4 ,,exp5sive ,,d9n]s ,,n ,,! ,,mo/ ,,enjoyable4 ,x is a mi/ake to ?9k t 9 giv+ a d9n]1 x is indisp5sable to h c]ta9 di%es & a v>iety ( w9es1 because o!rs s]ve !m4 ,^? :o ent]ta9 frequ5tly (t5 use _! own discretion1 & nev] feel oblig$ to d z o!rs d1 if !y wi% to d diff]5tly4 ,"s ( ! mo/ enjoyable d9n]s giv5 are ^? :i* are lea/ exp5sive4 ,x is ?is mi/ak5 feel+ t p _c ent]ta9 )\t committ+ all sorts ( extravagances1 :i* causes _m p]sons1 9 e way well qualifi$ to d incalculable good socially1 to exclude !mselves f all g5]al society4 ,,w9es ,,at ,,d9n]s4 ,! m5u ( a d9n] p>ty is by "s n reg>d$ z complete1 unless x includes "o or m v>ieties ( w9e4 ,:5 us$ x is fir/ s]v$ aft] s\p1 b any gue/ may1 ) propriety1 decl9e be+ s]v$4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 mu/ n be done o/5tati\sly4 ,simply say to ! wait]1 or :oev] p\rs x1 n any2 ?ank y4 ,w9e1 (f]$ at a d9n] p>ty1 %\ld nev] be criticiz$1 h[ev] poor x may be4 ,a p]son :o has p>tak5 ( w9e1 may also decl9e to h ! glass fill$ aga94 ,if ! gue/s %\ld include "o or m p ( well-kn[n temp]ance pr9ciples1 9 def]5ce to ! scruples ( ^! gue/s1 w9es or liquors %\ld n be br\ght to ! table4 ,p :o ent]ta9 %\ld also be cauti\s z to s]v+ w9es at all4 ,x is impossible to tell :at h>m y may d to "s ( y\r highly e/eem$ gue/s4 ,x may be t y\r palatable w9es may create an appetite = ! habitual use ( w9es or /rong] alcoholic liquors2 or y may r5ew a passion long controll$ & entomb$2 or y may turn a wav]+ w f a seem+ly /eadfa/ resolution to =ev] ab/a94 ,?is is an age ( re=ms1 ! temp]ance re=m be+ by no means ! lea/ p[]ful ( ^!1 & no ladies or g5tlem5 w be c5sur$ or misund]/ood if !y neglect to supply _! d9n] table ) any k9d ( intoxicat+ liquor4 ,mrs4 ex-,presid5t ,hayes bani%$ w9es & liquors f h] table1 & an example set by ! fir/ lady ( ! l& c be safely foll[$ 9 e ,am]ican h\sehold1 :atev] may h be5 =m] prevail+ cu/oms4 ,x is safe to say t no mi/ress ( ! ,:ite ,h\se w ev] set aside ! temp]ance pr9ciples e/abli%$ by ,mrs4 ,hayes4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,x4 ,table ,mann]s & ,etiquette4 ,x is ( ! highe/ importance t all p]sons %\ld conduct !mselves ) ! /ricte/ reg>d to good bre$+1 ev5 9 ! privacy ( _! own homes1 :5 at table1 a neglect ( su* obs]vances w r5d] "o /iff & awkw>d 9 society4 ,!re are s _m little po9ts to be obs]v$1 t unless a p]son is habitually accu/om$ to obs]ve !m1 he unconsci\sly commits "s error1 or w appe> awkw>d & con/ra9$ ^u occasions :5 x is important to be fully at ease4 ,to be ?or\ghly at ease at su* times is only acquir$ by ! habitual practice ( good mann]s at ! table1 & is ! result ( prop] home tra9+4 ,x is ! duty ( p>5ts to accu/om _! *ildr51 by example z well z by precept1 to be att5tive & polite to ea* o!r at e meal1 z well z to obs]ve prop] rules ( etiquette1 & if !y d s1 !y ne$ nev] fe> t !y w be rude or awkw>d :5 !y g abroad4 ,ev5 :5 p]sons habitually eat alone1 !y %\ld pay due reg>d to ! rules ( etiquette1 = by s do+ !y =m habits ( ease & gracefulness :i* are requisite 9 ref9$ circles2 o!rwise !y spe$ily acquire rude & awkw>d habits :i* !y _c %ake (f )\t great difficulty1 & :i* are at times emb>rass+ to !mselves & _! fri5ds4 ,9 private families x %\ld be obs]v$ z a rule to meet toge!r at all meals ( ! day ar\nd "o common table1 :]e ! same rules ( etiquette %\ld be rigidly en=c$1 z ?\gh ea* memb] ( ! family 7 sitt+ at a /rang]'s table4 ,x is only by ?is con/ant practice ( ! rules ( good behavi\r at home1 t good mann]s become easy :5 any ( !m g abroad4 ,,! ,,breakfa/4 ,at ! fir/ meal ( ! day1 ev5 9 ! mo/ ord]ly h\seholds1 an am\nt ( fre$om is all[$1 :i* w\ld be unju/ifiable at any o!r meal4 ,! head ( ! h\se may look ov] 8 morn+ pap]1 & ! v>i\s o!r memb]s may glance ov] correspond5ce or su* books or /udies z !y are int]e/$ 94 ,ea* may rise & leave ! table :5 bus9ess or pleasure dictates1 )\t await+ = ! o!rs or = a g5]al signal4 ,! breakfa/ table %\ld be simply decorat$1 yet x may be made v attractive ) its sn[y clo? & napk9s1 its array ( glass1 & its ornam5tation ( fruits & fl[]s4 ,bread %\ld be plac$ ^u ! table1 cut 9 slices4 ,9 eat+1 x mu/ always be brok51 nev] cut1 & c]ta9ly n bitt54 ,fruit %\ld be s]v$ 9 abundance at breakfa/ :5ev] practicable4 ,!re is an old adage :i* decl>es t fruit is gold 9 ! morn+1 silv] at noon1 & lead at night4 ,,lun*eon4 ,9 _m ( our l>ge cities1 :]e bus9ess prev5ts ! head ( ! family f return+ to d9n] until a late h\r1 lun*eon is s]v$ ab\t midday & s]ves z an e>ly d9n] = *ildr5 & s]vants4 ,!re is mu* less =mality 9 ! s]v+ ( lun* ?an ( d9n]4 ,x is all plac$ ^u ! table at once1 :e!r x consi/s ( "o or m c\rses4 ,:]e only "o or two are at lun*eon1 ! repa/ is ord9>ily s]v$ on a tray4 ,,d9n]4 ,! private family d9n] %\ld be ! social h\r ( ! day4 ,!n p>5ts & *ildr5 %\ld meet toge!r1 & ! meal %\ld be ( su* l5g? z to admit ( ! greate/ sociality4 ,x is an old say+ t *att$ food is half dige/$4 ,! utmo/ good feel+ %\ld prevail among all4 ,bus9ess & dome/ic c>es & tr\bles %\ld be1 = ! "t1 =gott51 & ! pleasures ( home mo/ he>tily enjoy$4 ,9 ano!r *apt] we h spok5 at l5g? ^u fa%ionable d9n] p>ties4 ,,! ,,knife ,,& ,,=k4 ,! knife & =k 7 n made = play?+s1 & %\ld n be us$ z su* :5 p are wait+ at ! table = ! food to be s]v$4 ,d n hold !m erect 9 y\r h&s at ea* side ( y\r plate1 nor cross !m on y\r plate :5 y h f9i%$1 nor make a noise ) !m4 ,! knife %\ld only be us$ = cutt+ meats & h>d sub/ances1 :ile ! =k1 held 9 ! left h&1 is us$ 9 c>ry+ food into ! m\?4 ,a knife mu/ nev]1 on any acc\nt1 be put into ! m\?4 ,:5 y s5d y\r plate to be refill$1 d n s5d y\r knife & =k1 b put !m ^u a piece ( bread1 or hold !m 9 y\r h&4 ,,gre$9ess4 ,to put l>ge pieces ( food into y\r m\? appe>s gre$y1 & if y are address$ :5 y\r m\? is s fill$1 y are oblig$ to pause1 be=e answ]+1 until ! va/ m\?ful is ma/icat$1 or run ! risk ( *ok+1 by swall[+ x too ha/ily4 ,to eat v fa/ is also a m>k ( gre$9ess1 & %\ld be avoid$4 ,! same may be said ( soak+ up gravy ) bread1 scrap+ up sauce ) a spoon1 scrap+ y\r plate & gorm&iz+ ^u "o or two articles ( food only4 ,,g5]al ,,rules ,,on ,,table ,,etiquette4 ,refra9 f mak+ a noise :5 eat+1 or supp+ f a spoon1 & f smack+ ! lips or brea?+ heavily :ile ma/icat+ food1 z !y are m>ks ( ill-bre$+4 ,! lips %\ld be kept clos$ 9 eat+ z mu* z possible4 ,x is rude & awkw>d to elevate y\r elb[s & move y\r arms at ! table1 s z to incommode ^? on ei!r side ( y4 ,:5ev] "o or bo? h&s are unoccupi$1 !y %\ld be kept bel[ ! table1 & n pu%$ ^u ! table & into prom95ce4 ,d n leave ! table be=e ! re/ ( ! family or gue/s1 )\t ask+ ! head1 or ho/1 to excuse y1 except at a hotel or bo>d+ h\se4 ,tea or c(fee %\ld nev] be p\r$ into a sauc] to cool1 b sipp$ f ! cup4 ,if a p]son wi%es to be s]v$ ) m tea or c(fee1 he %\ld place 8 spoon 9 8 sauc]4 ,if he has _h suffici5t1 let x rema9 9 ! cup4 ,if by *ance any?+ unpleasant is f\nd 9 ! food1 su* z a hair 9 ! bread or a fly 9 ! c(fee1 remove x )\t rem>k4 ,ev5 ?\gh y\r own appetite be spoil$1 x is well n to prejudice o!rs4 ,always make use ( ! butt]-knife1 sug>-spoon & salt-spoon1 in/ead ( us+ y\r knife1 spoon or f+]s4 ,nev]1 if possible1 c\gh or sneeze at ! table4 ,at home fold y\r napk9 :5 y are done ) x & place x 9 y\r r+4 ,if y are visit+1 leave y\r napk9 unfold$ beside y\r plate4 ,eat nei!r too fa/ nor too sl[4 ,nev] lean back 9 y\r *air1 nor sit too ne> or too f> f ! table4 ,keep y\r elb[s at y\r side1 s t y may n inconv5i5ce y\r neighbors4 ,d n f9d fault ) ! food4 ,! old-fa%ion$ habit ( ab/a9+ f tak+ ! la/ piece ^u ! plate is no long] obs]v$4 ,x is to be suppos$ t ! vacancy c be suppli$1 if necess>y4 ,if a plate is h&$ y at ! table1 keep x y\rself in/ead ( pass+ x to a neighbor4 ,if a di% is pass$ to y1 s]ve y\rself fir/1 & !n pass x on4 ,! ho/ or ho/ess %\ld n insi/ ^u gue/s p>tak+ ( p>ticul> di%es2 nor ask p]sons m ?an once1 nor put any?+ on _! plates :i* !y h decl9$4 ,x is ill-br$ to urge a p]son to eat ( any?+ aft] he has decl9$4 ,:5 sweet corn is s]v$ on ! e>1 ! gra9 %\ld be p>$ f x ^u ! plate1 in/ead ( be+ eat5 f ! cob4 ,/rive to keep ! clo? z clean z possible1 & use ! edge ( ! plate or a side di% = potato sk9s & o!r refuse4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xi4 ,receptions1 ,p>ties & ,balls4 ,morn+ receptions1 z !y are call$1 b m correctly speak+1 aft]noon p>ties1 are g5]ally held f f\r to sev5 o'clock 9 ! aft]noon4 ,sometimes a suffici5t numb] = a quadrille arrange to rema9 aft] ! assemblage has = ! mo/ "p disp]s$4 ,,! ,,dress4 ,! dress = receptions is1 = m51 morn+ dress2 = ladies1 demi-toilet1 ) or )\t bonnet4 ,no l[-neck$ dress nor %ort sleeves %\ld be se5 at day receptions1 nor :ite neck-ties & dress coats4 ,! mat]ial ( a lady's co/ume may be ( velvet1 silk1 musl91 gauze or gr5ad9e1 accord+ to ! season ( ! ye>1 & ta/e ( ! we>]1 b h] m elegant jewelry & laces %\ld be res]v$ = ev5+ p>ties4 ,,! ,,refre%m5ts4 ,! refre%m5ts = morn+ receptions are g5]ally light1 consi/+ ( tea1 c(fee1 froz5 pun*1 cl>et pun*1 ices1 fruit & cakes4 ,(t5 a cold collation is spread aft] ! light] refre%m5ts h be5 s]v$1 & sometimes ! table is set ) all ! v>ieties1 & r5ew$ f "t to "t4 ,,invitations4 ,invitations to a reception are simple1 & are usually v in=mal4 ,frequ5tly ! lady's c>d is s5t ) ! simple inscription1 ,at ,home ,?ursday1 f f\r to sev54 ,no answ]s are expect$ to ^! invitations1 unless ,r4,s4,v4,p4 is on "o corn]4 ,"o visit+ c>d is left by ea* p]son :o is pres5t1 to s]ve = ! aft] call4 ,no calls are expect$ f ^? :o att5d4 ,^? :o are n able to be pres5t1 call soon aft]4 ,,musical ,,mat9ees4 ,a mat9ee musicale p>takes ( ! nature ( a reception1 & is "o ( ! mo/ difficult ent]ta9m5ts attempt$4 ,= ?is x is necess>y to secure ^? p]sons possess+ suffici5t vocal & in/rum5tal tal5t to insure ! success ( ! ent]ta9m5t1 & to arrange ) !m a programme1 assign+ to ea*1 9 ord]1 8 or h] "p4 ,x is cu/om>y to comm5ce ) a piece ( in/rum5tal music1 foll[$ by solos1 duets1 qu>tettes1 etc41 ) in/rum5tal music int]sp]s$1 9 n too great proportions4 ,"s compet5t p]son is ne$$ z accompani/4 ,x is ! duty ( ! ho/ess to ma9ta9 sil5ce among h] gue/s dur+ ! p]=mance ( in/rum5tal z well z vocal music4 ,if any are unaw>e ( ! brea* ( good mann]s !y commit 9 talk+ or :isp]+ at su* times1 %e %\ld by a ge/ure endeavor to acqua9t !m ( ! fact4 ,x is ! duty ( ! ho/ess to see t ! ladies are accompani$ to ! piano2 t ! leaves ( ! music are turn$ = !m1 & t !y are conduct$ to _! seats aga94 ,:5 n intimately acqua9t$ ) !m1 ! ho/ess %\ld jo9 9 express+ gratification4 ,! dress at a musical mat9ee is ! same z at a reception1 only bonnets are m g5]ally disp5s$ )4 ,^? :o h tak5 "p1 (t5 rema9 = a hot supp]4 ,,p>ties ,,9 ,,! ,,c\ntry4 ,morn+ & aft]noon p>ties 9 ! c\ntry1 or at wat]+ places1 are ( a less =mal "* ?an 9 cities4 ,! ho/ess introduces su* ( h] gue/s z %e ?9ks mo/ likely to be mutually agreeable4 ,music or "s amusem5t is ess5tial to ! success ( su* p>ties4 ,,sunday ,,hospitalities4 ,9 ?is c\ntry x is n expect$ t p]sons w call aft] in=mal hospitalities ext5d$ on ,sunday4 ,all ga!r+s on t day ought to be in=mal4 ,no d9n] p>ties are giv5 on ,sunday1 or1 at lea/1 !y are n consid]$ z good =m 9 good society4 ,,five ,o',,clock ,,tea1 ,,c(fee ,,& ,,kettle-,,drums4 ,five o'clock tea1 c(fee & kettle-drums h rec5tly be5 introduc$ into ?is c\ntry f ,engl&4 ,= ^! invitations are usually issu$ on ! lady's visit+ c>d1 ) ! words writt5 9 ! left h& corn]4 ,illu/ration3 ,five o'clock tea1 ,w$nesday1 ,octob] #f4 ,or1 if = a kettle-drum3 ,illu/ration3 ,kettle-drum1 ,w$nesday1 ,octob] #f4 ,no answ]s are expect$ to ^! invitations1 unless !re is an ,r4,s4,v4,p4 on ! c>d4 ,x is optional ) ^? :o att5d1 to leave c>ds4 ,^? :o d n att5d1 call aft]w>ds4 ,! ho/ess receives h] gue/s /&+1 aid$ by o!r memb]s ( ! family or intimate fri5ds4 ,= a kettle-drum !re is usually a cr[d1 & yet b few rema9 ov] half an h\r--! conv5tional "t allott$--unless !y are deta9$ by music or "s ent]ta9+ conv]sation4 ,a table set 9 ! d9+-room is suppli$ ) tea1 c(fee1 *ocolate1 s&wi*es1 buns & cakes1 :i* con/itute all t is (f]$ to ! gue/s4 ,!re is less =mality at a kettle-drum ?an at a l>g] day reception4 ,! "t is sp5t 9 desultory conv]sation ) fri5ds1 9 li/5+ to music1 or su* ent]ta9m5t z has be5 provid$4 ,g5tlem5 we> ! usual morn+ dress4 ,ladies we> ! demi-toilet1 ) or )\t bonnets4 ,at five o'clock tea 7or c(fee71 ! equipage is on a side table1 toge!r ) plates ( ?9 s&wi*es1 & ( cake4 ,! p\r+ ( ! tea & pass+ ( refre%m5ts are usually done by "s memb]s ( ! family or fri5ds1 )\t ! assi/ance ( s]vants1 :]e ! numb] assembl$ is small2 =1 z a rule1 ! p :o frequ5t ^! social ga!r+s1 c>e m = social int]c\rse ?an = eat+ & dr9k+4 ,,m ,,=mal ,,ent]ta9m5ts4 ,ev5+ p>ties & balls are ( a mu* m =mal "* ?an ! ent]ta9m5ts t h be5 m5tion$4 ,!y require ev5+ dress4 ,( late ye>s1 h[ev]1 ev5+ dress is almo/ z mu* worn at gr& d9n]s z at balls & ev5+ p>ties1 only ! mat]ial is n ( s diaphan\s a "*4 ,lace & musl9 are out ( place4 ,invitations to ev5+ p>ties %\ld be s5t f a week to two weeks 9 advance1 & 9 all cases !y %\ld be answ]$ imm$iately4 ,,balls4 ,! requisites = a successful ball are good music & pl5ty ( p to dance4 ,an ,engli% writ] says1 ,! advantage ( ! ball is1 t x br+s "y p toge!r = a s5sible & innoc5t recreation1 & takes !m away f silly1 if n f bad ones2 t x gives !m ex]cise1 & t ! g5]al effect ( ! beauty1 elegance & brilliancy ( a ball is to elevate r ?an to deprave ! m9d4 ,x may be t ! r\nd dance is monopoliz+ ! ball room to a too great ext5t1 & x is possible t ^! may be s frequ5t z to m> ! pleasure ( "s p]sons :o d n c>e to p>ticipate 9 !m1 to ! exclusion ( squ>e & o!r dances4 ,am]ica %\ld n be ! only nation t conf9es ball room danc+ to waltzes1 z is done 9 "s ( our cities4 ,!re %\ld be an equal numb] ( waltzes & quadrilles1 ) "o or two contra dances1 :i* w\ld give an opportunity to ^? :o object 7or ^: p>5ts object7 to r\nd dances to appe> on ! floor4 ,,prep>ations ,,= ,a ,,ball4 ,!re %\ld be dress+-rooms = ladies & g5tlem51 ) a s]vant or s]vants to ea*4 ,!re %\ld be c>ds ) ! names ( ! invit$ gue/s ^u !m1 or *ecks ) duplicates to be giv5 to ! gue/s ready to p9 ^u ! wraps ( ea* "o4 ,ea* dress+-room %\ld be suppli$ ) a complete set ( toilet articles4 ,x is cu/om>y to decorate ! h\se elaborately ) fl[]s4 ,al?\gh ?is is an exp5sive luxury1 x adds mu* to beautify+ ! rooms4 ,,! ,,music4 ,f\r musicians are en\gh = a dance4 ,:5 ! danc+ room is small1 ! flageolet is pref]able to ! horn1 z x is less noisy & m>ks ! "t z well4 ,! piano & viol9 =m ! ma9/ay ( ! b&2 b :5 ! rooms are l>ge en\gh1 a l>g] b& may be employ$4 ,,! ,,dances4 ,! dances %\ld be arrang$ be=eh&1 & = l>ge balls programmes are pr9t$ ) a li/ ( ! dances4 ,usually a ball op5s ) a waltz1 foll[$ by a quadrille1 & ^! are succe$$ by galops1 lanc]s1 polkas1 quadrilles & waltzes 9 turn4 ,,introductions ,,at ,a ,,ball4 ,g5tlem5 :o are introduc$ to ladies at a ball1 solely = ! purpose ( danc+1 wait to be recogniz$ be=e speak+ ) ladies ^u meet+ aft]w>ds1 b !y are at lib]ty to recall !mselves by lift+ _! hats 9 pass+4 ,9 ,engl& a ball-room acqua9tance r>ely goes any f>!r1 until !y h met at m balls ?an "o2 s1 also1 a g5tleman _c1 aft] be+ introduc$ to a "y lady1 ask h] = m ?an two dances dur+ ! same ev5+4 ,9 ,engl& an introduction giv5 = danc+ purposes does n con/itute acqua9tance%ip4 ,) u1 z 9 ,cont95tal ,europe1 x does4 ,x is = ?is reason t1 9 ,engl&1 ladies are expect$ to b[ fir/1 :ile on ! ,cont95t x is ! g5tlem5 :o give ! fir/ m>ks ( recognition1 z x %\ld be "h1 or bett] /ill1 simultane\sly1 :5 ! recognition is simultane\s4 ,x is z mu* ! g5tleman's place to b[ 7) our mode ( life7 z x is ! lady's4 ,! "o :o recognizes fir/ %\ld be ! fir/ to %[ t recognition4 ,introductions take place 9 a ball room 9 ord] to provide ladies ) p>tn]s1 or betwe5 p]sons resid+ 9 diff]5t cities4 ,9 all o!r cases p]mission is ask$ be=e giv+ introductions4 ,b :]e a ho/ess is suffici5tly discrim9at+ 9 ! selection ( h] gue/s1 ^? assembl$ "u h] ro( %\ld rememb] t !y are1 9 a c]ta9 s5se1 made kn[n to "o ano!r1 & ought1 !re=e1 to be able to conv]se freely )\t introductions4 ,,receiv+ ,,gue/s4 ,! cu/om ( ! ho/ & ho/ess receiv+ toge!r1 is n n[ preval5t4 ,! receiv+ devolves ^u ! ho/ess1 b x is ! duty ( ! ho/ to rema9 )9 sight until aft] ! arrivals are pr9cipally ov]1 t he may be easily f\nd by any "o seek+ him4 ,! same duty devolves ^u ! sons1 :o1 t ev5+1 mu/ %>e _! att5tions ) all4 ,! daught]s1 z well z ! sons1 w look aft] p>tn]s = ! "y ladies :o desire to dance1 & !y w try to see t no "o is neglect$ be=e !y jo9 ! danc]s !mselves4 ,,an ,,aft]-,,call4 ,aft] a ball1 an aft]-call is due ! lady ( ! h\se at :i* y 7 ent]ta9$1 & %\ld be made z soon z conv5i5t--)9 two weeks at ! f>!/4 ,! call loses its significance entirely1 & passes into remissness1 :5 a long] "t is p]mitt$ to elapse4 ,if x is n possible to make a call1 s5d y\r c>d or leave x at ! door4 ,x has become cu/om>y ( late = a lady :o has no weekly reception day1 9 s5d+ invitations to a ball1 to inclose h] c>d 9 ea* invitation = "o or m receptions1 9 ord] t ! aft]-calls due h] may be made on t day4 ,,supp]4 ,! supp]-room at a ball is ?r[n op5 g5]ally at twelve o'clock4 ,! table is made z elegant z beautiful *9a1 cut-glass & an abundance ( fl[]s c make x4 ,! hot di%es are oy/]s1 /ew$1 fri$1 broil$ & scallop$1 *ick51 game1 etc41 & ! cold di%es are su* z bon$ turkey1 boeuf a la mode1 *ick5 salad1 lob/] salad & raw oy/]s4 ,:5 supp] is ann\nc$1 ! ho/ leads ! way ) ! lady to :om he wi%es to %[ especial att5tion1 :o may be an eld]ly lady1 or a /rang] or a bride4 ,! ho/ess rema9s until ! la/1 ) ! g5tleman :o takes h] to supp]1 unless "s di/+ui%$ gue/ is pres5t1 ) :om %e leads ! way4 ,no g5tleman %\ld ev] g into ! supp]-room alone1 unless he has se5 e lady ent] be=e him4 ,:5 ladies are left unatt5d$1 g5tlem51 al?\gh /rang]s1 are at lib]ty to (f] _! s]vices 9 wait+ ^u !m1 = ! ho/ & ho/ess are suffici5t gu>antees = ! respectability ( _! gue/s4 ,,! ,,numb] ,,to ,,invite4 ,p]sons giv+ balls or danc+ p>ties %\ld be c>eful n to invite m ?an _! rooms w accommodate1 s z to avoid a cru%4 ,invitations to cr[d$ balls are n hospitalities1 b inflictions4 ,a ho/ess is usually safe1 h[ev]1 9 invit+ "o-f\r? m ?an h] rooms w hold1 z t proportion ( regrets are apt to be receiv$4 ,p :o d n dance w n1 z a rule1 expect to be invit$ to a ball or danc+ p>ty4 ,,duties ,,( ,,gue/s4 ,"s p]sons may be a/oni%$ to le>n t any duties devolve ^u ! gue/s4 ,9 fact !re are circles :]e all su* duties are ignor$4 ,x is ! duty ( e p]son :o has at fir/ accept$ ! invitation1 & subsequ5tly f9ds t x w be impossible to att5d1 to s5d a regret1 ev5 at ! la/ mom5t1 & z x is rude to s5d an acceptance ) no int5tion ( go+1 ^? :o s accept w d well to rememb] ?is duty4 ,x is ! duty ( e lady :o att5ds a ball1 to make h] toilet z fre% z possible4 ,x ne$ n be exp5sive1 b x %\ld at lea/ be clean2 x may be simple1 b x %\ld be nei!r soil$ nor tumbl$4 ,! g5tlem5 %\ld we> ev5+ dress4 ,x is ! duty ( e p]son to arrive z e>ly z possible aft] ! h\r nam$1 :5 x is m5tion$ 9 ! invitation4 ,ano!r duty ( gue/s is t ea* "o %\ld d all 9 8 or h] p[] to contribute to ! enjoym5t ( ! ev5+1 & nei!r hesitate nor decl9e to be introduc$ to su* gue/s z ! ho/ess reque/s4 ,x is n b9d+ ^u any g5tleman to rema9 "o mom5t long] ?an he desires ) any lady4 ,by con/antly mov+ f "o to ano!r1 :5 he feels s incl9$1 he gives an opportunity to o!rs to circulate z freely2 & ?is cu/om1 g5]ally introduc$ 9 our society1 w\ld g a long way t[>d contribut+ to ! enjoym5t ( all4 ,! false notion g5]ally ent]ta9$ t a g5tleman is expect$ to rema9 /&+ by ! side ( a lady1 l a s5t9el on duty1 until reliev$ by "s o!r p]son1 is absurd1 & det]s _m :o w\ld gladly give a few pass+ mom5ts to lady acqua9tances1 c\ld !y b "k t !y w\ld be free to leave at any in/ant t conv]sation flagg$1 or t !y desir$ to jo9 ano!r4 ,9 a society :]e x is n consid]$ a rud5ess to leave aft] a few s5t5ces ) "o1 to ex*ange "s words ) ano!r1 !re is a con/ant int]*ange ( civilities1 & ! m5 circulate ?r\gh ! room ) t *>m+ fre$om :i* insures ! enjoym5t ( all4 ,:ile ! ho/ess is receiv+1 no p]son %\ld rema9 beside h] except memb]s ( h] family :o receive ) h]1 or su* fri5ds z %e has designat$ to assi/ h]4 ,all p]sons ent]+ %\ld pass on to make room = o!rs4 ,,"s ,,sugge/ions ,,= ,,g5tlem54 ,a g5tleman %\ld nev] attempt to /ep across a lady's tra94 ,he %\ld walk ar\nd x4 ,if by any accid5t he %\ld tread ^u any portion ( h] dress1 he mu/ in/antly beg h] p>don1 & if by great] c>elessness he %\ld te> x1 he mu/ pause 9 8 c\rse & (f] to escort h] to ! dress+-room s t %e may h x repair$4 ,if a lady asks any favor ( a g5tleman1 su* z to s5d a s]vant to h] ) a glass ( wat]1 to take h] into ! ball-room :5 %e is )\t an escort1 to inquire :e!r h] c>riage is 9 wait+1 or any ( ! num]\s s]vices :i* ladies (t5 require1 no g5tleman w1 "u any circum/ances1 refuse h] reque/4 ,a really well-br$ man w rememb] to ask ! daught]s ( a h\se to dance1 z x is 8 imp]ative duty to d s2 & if ! ball has be5 giv5 = a lady :o dances1 he %\ld include h] 9 8 att5tions4 ,if he wi%es to be consid]$ a ?or\gh-br$ g5tleman1 he w sacrifice himself occasionally to ^? :o are uns\ght & neglect$ 9 ! dance4 ,! consci\sness ( hav+ p]=m$ a k9d & c\rte\s action w be 8 rew>d4 ,:5 g5tlem51 invit$ to a h\se on ! occasion ( an ent]ta9m5t1 are n acqua9t$ ) all ! memb]s ( ! family1 _! fir/ duty1 aft] speak+ to _! ho/ & ho/ess1 is to ask "s common fri5d to introduce !m to ^? memb]s :om !y d n "k4 ,! ho/ & ho/ess are (t5 too mu* occupi$ 9 receiv+ to be able to d ?is4 ,,duties ,,( ,,an ,,escort4 ,a lady's escort %\ld call = h] & accompany h] to ! place ( ent]ta9m5t2 g ) h] z f> z ! dress+-room1 return to meet h] !re :5 %e is prep>$ to g to ! ball-room2 ent] ! latt] room ) h] & lead h] to ! ho/ess2 dance ! fir/ dance ) h]2 conduct h] to ! supp]-room1 & be ready to accompany h] home :5ev] %e wi%es to g4 ,he %\ld wat* dur+ ! ev5+ to see t %e is suppli$ ) danc+ p>tn]s4 ,:5 he escorts h] home %e %\ld n invite him to ent] ! h\se1 & ev5 if %e does s1 he %\ld by all means decl9e ! invitation4 ,he %\ld call ^u h] )9 ! next two days4 ,,g5]al ,,rules ,,= ,,balls4 ,a "y man :o c dance1 & w n dance1 %\ld /ay away f a ball4 ,! lady ) :om a g5tleman dances la/ is ! "o he takes to supp]4 ,!re=e he c make no engagem5t to take out any o!r1 unless 8 p>tn] is already engag$4 ,public balls are mo/ enjoyable :5 y h y\r own p>ty4 ,! great *>m ( a ball is its p]fect accord & h>mony4 ,all alt]cations1 l\d talk+ & noisy laught] are d\bly ill-mann]$ 9 a ball-room4 ,v little suffices to di/urb ! :ole p>ty4 ,9 leav+ a ball1 x is n deem$ necess>y to wi% ! lady ( ! h\se a good night4 ,9 leav+ a small dance or p>ty1 x is civil to d s4 ,! diff]5ce betwe5 a ball & an ev5+ p>ty is1 t at a ball !re mu/ be danc+1 & at an ev5+ p>ty !re may or may n be4 ,a ,london au?ority def9es a ball to be an assemblage = danc+1 ( n less ?an sev5ty-five p]sons4 ,common civility requires t ^? :o h n be5 pres5t1 b :o 7 among ! gue/s invit$1 %\ld1 :5 meet+ ! ho/ess ! fir/ "t aft] an ent]ta9m5t1 make x a po9t to express "s ackn[l$gm5t ( _! appreciation ( ! invitation1 by regrett+ _! inability to be pres5t4 ,:5 danc+ a r\nd dance1 a g5tleman %\ld nev] hold a lady's h& beh9d him1 or on 8 hip1 or high 9 ! air1 mov+ h] arm z ?\gh x 7 a pump h&le1 z se5 9 "s ( our we/]n cities1 b %\ld hold x gracefully by 8 side4 ,nev] =get ball-room engagem5ts1 nor confuse !m1 nor promise two dances to "o p]son4 ,if a lady has =gott5 an engagem5t1 ! g5tleman %e has ?us slight$ mu/ pleasantly accept h] apology4 ,good-bre$+ & ! appe>ance ( good temp] are insep>able4 ,x is n necess>y = a g5tleman to b[ to 8 p>tn] aft] a quadrille2 x is en\gh t he (f]s 8 arm & walks at lea/ half way r\nd ! room ) h]4 ,he is n oblig$ to rema9 beside h] unless he wi%es to d s1 b may leave h] ) any lady :om %e kn[s4 ,nev] be se5 )\t gloves 9 a ball-room1 or ) ^? ( any o!r color ?an :ite1 unless !y are ( ! mo/ delicate hue4 ,?\gh n cu/om>y = a m>ri$ c\ple to dance toge!r 9 society1 ^? m5 :o wi% to %[ _! wives ! complim5t ( su* unusual att5tion1 if !y possess any indep5d5ce1 w n be det]r$ f do+ s by _! fe> ( any comm5ts f ,mrs4 ,grundy4 ,! soon] t we recov] f ! effects ( ! ,puritanical idea t cl]gym5 %\ld nev] be se5 at balls1 ! bett] = all :o att5d !m4 ,:]e x is wrong = a cl]gyman to g1 x is wrong = any memb] ( 8 *ur* to be se54 ,9 leav+ a ball room be=e ! music has ceas$1 if no memb]s ( ! family are 9 sight1 x is n necess>y to f9d !m be=e tak+ y\r dep>ture4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! invitation is a fir/ "o1 endeavor n to make y\r exit until y h ?ank$ y\r ho/ess = ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,y c speak ( ! pleasure x has af=d$ y1 b x is n necess>y t y %\ld say x has be5 a gr& success4 ,"y ladies mu/ be c>eful h[ !y refuse to dance1 = unless a good reason is giv51 a g5tleman is apt to take x z evid5ce ( p]sonal dislike4 ,aft] a lady refuses1 ! g5tleman %\ld n urge h] to dance1 nor %\ld ! lady accept ano!r invitation = ! same dance4 ,! memb]s ( ! h\sehold %\ld see t ^? gue/s :o wi% to dance are provid$ ) p>tn]s4 ,ladies leav+ a ball or p>ty %\ld n all[ g5tlem5 to see !m to _! c>riages1 unless ov]coats & hats are on = dep>ture4 ,:5 balls are giv51 if ! wea!r is bad1 an awn+ %\ld be provid$ = ! protection ( ^? pass+ f _! c>riages to ! h\se4 ,9 all cases1 a broad piece ( c>pet %\ld be spread f ! door to ! c>riage /eps4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld engage _! p>tn]s = ! approa*+ dance1 be=e ! music /rikes up4 ,9 a private dance1 a lady _c well refuse to dance ) any g5tleman :o invites h]1 unless %e has a previ\s engagem5t4 ,if %e decl9es f we>9ess1 ! g5tleman w %[ h] a complim5t by ab/a9+ f danc+ himself1 & rema9+ ) h] :ile ! dance progresses4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xii4 ,etiquette ( ! ,/reet4 ,! mann]s ( a p]son are cle>ly %[n by 8 treatm5t ( ! p he meets 9 ! public /reets ( a city or village1 9 public conveyances & 9 travel+ g5]ally4 ,! true g5tleman1 at all times1 9 all places1 & "u all circum/ances1 is k9d & c\rte\s to all he meets1 reg>ds n only ! rights1 b ! wi%es & feel+s ( o!rs1 is def]5tial to wom5 & to eld]ly m51 & is ev] ready to ext5d 8 aid to ^? :o ne$ x4 ,,! ,,/reet ,,mann]s ,,( ,a ,,lady4 ,! true lady walks ! /reet1 wrapp$ 9 a mantle ( prop] res]ve1 s imp5etrable t insult & co>se famili>ity %r9k f h]1 :ile %e1 at ! same "t1 c>ries ) h] a cong5ial atmosph]e :i* attracts all1 & puts all at _! ease4 ,a lady walks quietly ?r\gh ! /reets1 see+ & he>+ no?+ t %e ought n to see & he>1 recogniz+ acqua9tances ) a c\rte\s b[1 & fri5ds ) words ( greet+4 ,%e is always unobtrusive1 nev] talks l\dly1 or laughs boi/]\sly1 or does any?+ to attract ! att5tion ( ! pass]s-by4 ,%e walks along 9 h] own quiet1 lady-l way1 & by h] pre-occupation is secure f any annoyance to :i* a p]son ( less p]fect bre$+ might be subject$4 ,a lady nev] dem&s att5tion & favors f a g5tleman1 b1 :5 volunt>ily (f]$1 accepts !m gratefully1 graci\sly1 & ) an expression ( he>ty ?anks4 ,,=m+ ,,/reet ,,acqua9tances4 ,a lady nev] =ms an acqua9tance ^u ! /reet1 or seeks to attract ! att5tion or admiration ( p]sons ( ! o!r sex4 ,to d s w\ld r5d] false h] claims to ladyhood1 if x did n make h] liable to f> grav] *>ges4 ,,recogniz+ ,,fri5ds ,,9 ,,! ,,/reet4 ,no "o1 :ile walk+ ! /reets1 %\ld fail1 ?r\gh pre-occupation1 or abs5t-m9d$ness1 to recognize fri5ds or acqua9tances1 ei!r by a b[ or "s =m ( salutation4 ,if two g5tlem5 /op to talk1 !y %\ld retire to "o side ( ! walk4 ,if a /rang] %\ld be 9 company ) "o ( ! g5tlem51 an introduction is n necess>y4 ,if a g5tleman meets ano!r g5tleman 9 company ) a lady :om he does n "k1 he lifts 8 hat to salute !m bo?4 ,if he kn[s ! lady1 he %\ld salute h] fir/4 ,! g5tleman :o accompanies a lady1 always returns a salutation made to h]4 ,a ,,cr[d$ ,,/reet4 ,:5 a g5tleman & lady are walk+ 9 ! /reet1 if at any place1 by reason ( ! cr[d1 or f o!r cause1 !y are compell$ to proce$ s+ly1 ! g5tleman %\ld always prec$e 8 companion4 ,,intrusive ,,inquiries4 ,if y meet or jo9 or are visit$ by a p]son :o has any article :atev]1 "u 8 arm or 9 8 h&1 & he does n (f] to %[ x to y1 y %\ld n1 ev5 if x be y\r mo/ intimate fri5d1 take x f him & look at x4 ,t intrusive curiosity is v inconsi/5t ) ! delicacy ( a well-br$ man1 & always (f5ds 9 "s degree4 ,,! ,,fir/ ,,to ,,b[4 ,9 ,engl& /rict etiquette requires t a lady1 meet+ ^u ! /reet a g5tleman ) :om %e has acqua9tance1 %all give ! fir/ b[ ( recognition4 ,9 ?is c\ntry1 h[ev]1 good s5se does n insi/ ^u an imp]ative foll[+ ( ?is rule4 ,a well-br$ man b[s & raises 8 hat to e lady ( 8 acqua9tance :om he meets1 )\t wait+ = h] to take ! initiative4 ,if %e is well-br$1 %e w c]ta9ly respond to 8 salutation4 ,z polit5ess requires t ea* salute ! o!r1 _! salutations w ?us be simultane\s4 ,,always ,,recognize ,,acqua9tances4 ,"o %\ld always recognize lady acqua9tances 9 ! /reet1 ei!r by b[+ or words ( greet+1 a g5tleman lift+ 8 hat4 ,if !y /op to speak1 x is n obligatory to %ake h&s4 ,%ak+ h&s is n =bidd51 b 9 mo/ cases x is to be avoid$ 9 public4 ,illu/ration3 ,,g5tleman ,,meet+ ,a ,,lady4 ,,b[+ ,,to ,,/rang]s ,,) ,,fri5ds4 ,if a g5tleman meets a fri5d1 & ! latt] has a /rang] ) him1 all ?ree %\ld b[4 ,if ! g5tleman /ops 8 fri5d to speak to him1 he %\ld apologize to ! /rang] = deta9+ him4 ,if ! /rang] is a lady1 ! same def]5ce %\ld be %[n z if %e 7 an acqua9tance4 ,,d ,,n ,,lack ,,polit5ess4 ,nev] hesitate 9 acts ( polit5ess = fe> !y w n be recogniz$ or return$4 ,"o _c be too polite s long z he con=ms to rules1 :ile x is easy to lack polit5ess by neglect ( !m4 ,besides1 if c\rtesy is met by neglect or rebuff1 x is n = ! c\rte\s p]son to feel mortification1 b ! boori% "o2 & s all look]s-on w reg>d ! matt]4 ,,talk+ ,,) ,a ,,lady ,,9 ,,! ,,/reet4 ,9 meet+ a lady x is optional ) h] :e!r %e %all pause to speak4 ,if ! g5tleman has any?+ to say to h]1 he %\ld n /op h]1 b turn ar\nd & walk 9 h] company until he has said :at he has to say1 :5 he may leave h] ) a b[ & a lift ( ! hat4 ,,lady ,,& ,,g5tleman ,,walk+ ,,toge!r4 ,a g5tleman walk+ ) a lady %\ld treat h] ) ! mo/ scrupul\s polit5ess1 & may take ei!r side ( ! walk4 ,x is cu/om>y = ! g5tleman to h ! lady on 8 "r h& side1 & he (f]s h] 8 "r arm1 :5 walk+ arm 9 arm4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! /reet is cr[d$1 ! g5tleman mu/ keep ! lady on t side ( him :]e %e w be ! lea/ expos$ to cr[d+4 ,,(f]+ ,,! ,,arm ,,to ,a ,,lady4 ,a g5tleman %\ld1 9 ! ev5+1 or :5ev] h] safety1 com=t or conv5i5ce seems to require x1 (f] a lady companion 8 arm4 ,at o!r times x is n cu/om>y to d s unless ! p>ties be husb& & wife or engag$4 ,9 ! latt] case1 x is n always advisable to d s1 z !y may be made ! subject ( unju/ rem>ks4 ,,keep+ ,,/ep4 ,9 walk+ toge!r1 especially :5 arm 9 arm1 x is desirable t ! two keep /ep4 ,ladies %\ld be p>ticul> to adapt _! pace z f> z practicable1 to t ( _! escort4 ,x is easily done4 ,,op5+ ,,! ,,door ,,= ,a ,,lady4 ,a g5tleman %\ld always hold op5 ! door = a lady to ent] fir/4 ,?is is obligatory1 n only 9 ! case ( ! lady :o accompanies him1 b also 9 t ( any /range lady :o *ances to be ab\t to ent] at ! same "t4 ,,answ]+ ,,que/ions4 ,a g5tleman w answ] c\rte\sly any que/ions :i* a lady may address to him ^u ! /reet1 at ! same "t lift+ 8 hat1 or at lea/ t\*+ x respectfully4 ,,smok+ ,,^u ,,! ,,/reets4 ,9 ,engl& a well-br$ man nev] smokes ^u ! /reets4 ,:ile ?is rule does n hold good 9 ?is c\ntry1 yet no g5tleman w ev] insult a lady by smok+ 9 ! /reets 9 h] company1 & 9 meet+ & salut+ a lady he w always remove 8 cig> f 8 m\?4 ,,(f5sive ,,behavior4 ,no g5tleman is ev] guilty ( ! (f5se ( /&+ on /reet corn]s & ! /eps ( hotels or o!r public places & boldly scrut9iz+ e lady :o passes4 ,,c>ry+ ,,packages4 ,a g5tleman w nev] p]mit a lady ) :om he is walk+ to c>ry a package ( any k9d1 b w insi/ ^u reliev+ h] ( x4 ,he may ev5 acco/ a lady :5 he sees h] ov]burd5$ & (f] 8 assi/ance1 if _! ways lie 9 ! same direction4 ,,%\t+4 ,nev] speak to y\r acqua9tances f "o side ( ! /reet to ! o!r4 ,%\t+ is a c]ta9 sign ( vulg>ity4 ,fir/ approa*1 & !n make y\r communication to y\r acqua9tance or fri5d 9 a mod]ately l\d tone ( voice4 ,,two ,,g5tlem5 ,,walk+ ,,) ,a ,,lady4 ,:5 two g5tlem5 are walk+ ) a lady 9 ! /reet !y %\ld n be bo? ^u ! same side ( h]1 b "o ( !m %\ld walk ^u ! outside & ! o!r ^u ! inside4 ,,cross+ ,,! ,,/reet ,,) ,a ,,lady4 ,if a g5tleman is walk+ ) a lady :o has 8 arm1 & !y cross ! /reet1 x is bett] n to dis5gage ! arm1 & g r\nd ^u ! outside4 ,su* ef=t ev9ces a palpable att5tion to =m1 & t is always to be avoid$4 ,,fulfill+ ,,an ,,engagem5t4 ,:5 on y\r way to fill an engagem5t1 if a fri5d /ops y on ! /reet y may1 )\t committ+ a brea* ( etiquette1 tell him ( y\r appo9tm5t1 & release y\rself f any delay t may be occasion$ by a long talk2 b d s 9 a c\rte\s mann]1 express+ regret = ! necessity4 ,,walk+ ,,) ,a ,,lady ,,acqua9tance4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n jo9 a lady acqua9tance on ! /reet = ! purpose ( walk+ ) h]1 unless he asc]ta9s t 8 company w\ld be p]fectly agreeable to h]4 ,x might be o!rwise1 & %e %\ld frankly say s1 if ask$4 ,,pass+ ,,be=e ,a ,,lady4 ,:5 a lady wi%es to ent] a /ore1 h\se or room1 if a g5tleman accompanies h]1 he %\ld hold ! door op5 & all[ h] to ent] fir/1 if practicable2 = a g5tleman mu/ nev] pass be=e a lady any:]e if he c avoid x1 or )\t an apology4 ,,%opp+ ,,etiquette4 ,9 inquir+ = goods at a /ore or %op1 d n say to ! cl]k or salesman1 ,i want su* an article1 b1 ,please %[ me su* an article1 or "s o!r polite =m ( address4 ,y %\ld nev] take hold ( a piece ( goods or an article :i* ano!r p]son is exam9+4 ,wait until x is replac$ ^u ! c\nt]1 :5 y are at lib]ty to exam9e x4 ,x is rude to int]rupt fri5ds :om y meet 9 a /ore be=e !y h f9i%$ mak+ _! pur*ases1 or to ask _! att5tion to y\r own pur*ases4 ,x is rude to (f] y\r op9ion unask$1 ^u _! judgm5t or ta/e1 9 ! selection ( goods4 ,x is rude to sne] at & depreciate goods1 & exce$+ly disc\rte\s to ! salesman4 ,use no deceit1 b be hone/ ) !m1 if y wi% !m to be hone/ ) y4 ,avoid jew+ d[n ! prices ( articles 9 any way4 ,if ! price does n suit1 y may say s quietly1 & dep>t1 b x is g5]ally be/ to say no?+ ab\t x4 ,x is an insult = ! salesman to (f5sively sugge/ t y c d bett] else:]e1 :i* %\ld be res5t$ by in/ant dep>ture4 ,ladies %\ld n monopolize ! "t & att5tion ( salesm5 9 small talk1 :ile o!r cu/om]s are 9 ! /ore to be wait$ ^u4 ,:isp]+ 9 a /ore is rude4 ,l\d & %[y behavi\r is exce$+ly vulg>4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,public ,,conveyances4 ,9 /reet c>s1 omnibuses & o!r public /reet conveyances1 x %\ld be ! endeavor ( ea* pass5g] to make room = all p]sons ent]+1 & no g5tleman w reta9 8 seat :5 !re are ladies /&+4 ,:5 a lady accepts a seat f a g5tleman1 %e expresses h] ?anks 9 a k9d & pleasant mann]4 ,a lady may1 ) p]fect propriety1 accept ! (f] ( s]vices f a /rang] 9 alight+ f1 or ent]+ an omnibus or o!r public conveyance1 & %\ld always ackn[l$ge ! c\rtesy ) a pleasant ,?ank y1 sir1 or a b[4 ,nev] talk politics or religion 9 a public conveyance4 ,g5tlem5 %\ld n cross _! legs1 nor /ret* _! feet out into ! passage-way ( a public conveyance4 ,,avoid ,,cutt+4 ,no g5tleman w refuse to recognize a lady aft] %e has recogniz$ him1 "u any circum/ances4 ,a "y lady %\ld1 "u no provocation1 cut a m>ri$ lady4 ,x is ! privilege ( age to fir/ recognize ^? :o are y\ng] 9 ye>s4 ,no "y man w fail to recognize an ag$ "o aft] he has met ) recognition4 ,cutt+ is to be avoid$ if possible4 ,!re are o!r ways ( conv9c+ a man t y d n "k him1 yet1 to "y ladies1 x is sometimes ! only means available to rid !m ( tr\blesome acqua9tances4 ,cutt+ consi/s 9 return+ a b[ or recognition ) a />e1 & is publicly ignor+ ! acqua9tance ( ! p]son s treat$4 ,x is sometimes done by words 9 say+1 ,really ,i h n ! pleasure ( y\r acqua9tance4 ,,avoid+ ,,c>riages4 ,= a lady to run across ! /reet to avoid an approa*+ c>riage is inelegant & also dang]\s4 ,to attempt to cross ! /reet betwe5 ! c>riages ( a fun]al procession1 is rude & disrespectful4 ,! =eign cu/om ( remov+ ! hat & /&+ 9 a respectful attitude until ! melan*oly tra9 has pass$1 is a comm5dable "o to be foll[$ 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,,keep ,,to ,,! ,,"r4 ,on meet+ & pass+ p 9 ! /reet1 keep to y\r "r h&1 except :5 a g5tleman is walk+ alone2 !n he mu/ always turn aside to give ! pref]r$ side ( ! walk to a lady1 to anyone c>ry+ a heavy load1 to a cl]gyman or to an old g5tleman4 ,,"s ,,g5]al ,,sugge/ions4 ,if a g5tleman is walk+ ) two ladies 9 a ra9 /orm1 & !re is b "o umbrella1 he %\ld give x to 8 companions & walk outside4 ,no?+ c be m absurd ?an to see a g5tleman walk+ betwe5 two ladies hold+ an umbrella :i* p]fectly protects himself1 b half deluges 8 companions ) its dripp+ /reams4 ,nev] turn a corn] at full spe$ or y may f9d y\rself knock$ d[n1 or may knock d[n ano!r1 by ! viol5t contact4 ,always look 9 ! way y are go+ or y may *ance to meet "s awkw>d collision4 ,a "y lady %\ld1 if possible1 avoid walk+ alone 9 ! /reet aft] d>k4 ,if %e passes ! ev5+ ) a fri5d1 provision %\ld be made be=eh& = an escort4 ,if ?is is n practicable1 ! p]son at ^: h\se %e is visit+ %\ld s5d a s]vant ) h]1 or "s prop] p]son--a g5tleman acqua9tance pres5t1 or h] own husb&--to p]=m ! duty4 ,a m>ri$ lady may1 h[ev]1 disreg>d ?is rule1 if circum/ances prev5t h] be+ able to conv5i5tly f9d an escort4 ,a g5tleman w always prec$e a lady up a flight ( /airs1 & all[ h] to prec$e him 9 go+ d[n4 ,d n qu>rel ) a hack-driv] ab\t 8 f>e1 b pay him & dismiss him4 ,if y h a compla9t to make aga9/ him1 take 8 "n & make x to ! prop] au?orities4 ,x is rude to keep a lady wait+ :ile y are disput+ ) a hack-man4 ,illu/ration ,illu/ration3 ,,summ] ,,aft]noon1 ,,c5tral ,,p>k4 ,,*apt] ,,xiii4 ,etiquette ( ,public ,places4 ,all well-br$ p]sons w conduct !mselves at all times & 9 all places ) p]fect decorum4 ,:]ev] !y meet p !y w be f\nd polite1 consid]ate ( ! com=t1 conv5i5ce & wi%es ( o!rs1 & unobtrusive 9 _! behavior4 ,!y seem to "k1 z if by in/9ct1 h[ to conduct !mselves1 :]ev] !y may g1 or 9 :atev] society !y may be ?r[n4 ,!y consid] at all times ! fitness ( ?+s1 & _! actions & spee* are gov]n$ by feel+s ( g5tl5ess & k9dness t[>ds ev]ybody ) :om !y come into social relations1 hav+ a due consid]ation = ! op9ions & prejudices ( o!rs1 & do+ no?+ to w\nd _! feel+s4 ,_m p1 h[ev]1 ei!r f ignorance1 ?\ghtlessness or c>elessness1 are con/antly violat+ "s ( ! obs]vances ( etiquette p]ta9+ to places ( public assemblages4 ,x is = ?is reason t rules are "h giv5 by :i* may be regulat$ ! conduct ( p 9 v>i\s public ga!r+s1 :]e awkw>dness & o/5tati\s display (t5 call =? unfavorable criticism4 ,,conduct ,,9 ,,*ur*4 ,a g5tleman %\ld remove 8 hat ^u ent]+ ! auditorium4 ,:5 visit+ a /range *ur*1 y %\ld wait 9 ! ve/ibule until an u%] appe>s to %[ y to a seat4 ,a g5tleman may walk up ! aisle ei!r a little ahead (1 or by ! side ( a lady1 all[+ ! lady to fir/ ent] ! pew4 ,!re %\ld be no ha/e 9 pass+ up ! aisle4 ,p %\ld pres]ve ! utmo/ sil5ce & decorum 9 *ur*1 & avoid :isp]+1 laugh+1 />+1 or mak+ a noise ( any k9d ) ! feet or h&s4 ,x is ill-mann]$ to be late at *ur*4 ,if "o is unavoidably late1 x is bett] to take a pew z ne> ! door z possible4 ,ladies always take ! inside seats1 & g5tlem5 ! outside or head ( ! pew4 ,:5 a g5tleman accompanies a lady1 h[ev]1 x is cu/om>y = him to sit by h] side dur+ *ur* s]vices4 ,a p]son %\ld nev] leave *ur* until ! s]vices are ov]1 except 9 "s case ( em]g5cy4 ,d n turn ar\nd 9 y\r seat to gaze at anyone1 to wat* ! *oir1 to look ov] ! congregation or to see ! cause ( any di/urb+ noise4 ,if books or fans are pass$ 9 *ur*1 let !m be (f]$ & accept$ or refus$ ) a sil5t ge/ure ( ! head4 ,x is c\rte\s to see t /rang]s are provid$ ) books2 & if ! s]vice is /range to !m1 ! places = ! day's read+ %\ld be indicat$4 ,x is p]fectly prop] to (f] to %>e ! pray]-book or hymn-book ) a /rang] if !re is no sep>ate book = 8 use4 ,9 visit+ a *ur* ( a diff]5t belief f y\r own1 pay ! utmo/ respect to ! s]vices & con=m 9 all ?+s to ! obs]vances ( ! *ur*--t is1 kneel1 sit & rise ) ! congregation4 ,no matt] h[ grotesquely "s ( ! =ms & obs]vances may /rike y1 let no smile or contemptu\s rem>k indicate ! fact :ile 9 ! *ur*4 ,:5 ! s]vices are conclud$1 !re %\ld be no ha/e 9 cr[d+ up ! aisle1 b ! dep>ture %\ld be conduct$ quietly & decor\sly4 ,:5 ! ve/ibule is rea*$1 x is all[able to ex*ange greet+s ) fri5ds1 b "h !re %\ld be no l\d talk+ nor boi/]\s laught]4 ,nei!r %\ld g5tlem5 congregate 9 knots 9 ! ve/ibule or ^u ! /eps ( ! *ur* & compel ladies to run ! gauntlet ( _! eyes & tongues4 ,if a ,prote/ant g5tleman accompanies a lady :o is a ,roman ,ca?olic to h] own *ur*1 x is an act ( c\rtesy to (f] ! holy wat]4 ,?is he mu/ d ) ! unglov$ "r h&4 ,9 visit+ a *ur* = ! m]e purpose ( see+ ! edifice1 "o %\ld always g at a "t :5 !re are no s]vices be+ held4 ,if p are ev5 !n f\nd at _! devotions1 z is apt to be ! case 9 ,roman ,ca?olic *ur*es especially1 ! demeanor ( ! visitor %\ld be respectful & subdu$ & 8 voice l[1 s t he may n di/urb !m4 ,,invitation ,,to ,,op]a ,,or ,,conc]t4 ,a g5tleman ^u invit+ a lady to accompany him to op]a1 !atre1 conc]t or o!r public place ( amusem5t1 mu/ s5d 8 invitation ! previ\s day4 ,! lady mu/ reply imm$iately1 s t if %e decl9es1 !re %all yet be "t = ! g5tleman to secure ano!r companion4 ,x is ! g5tleman's duty to secure good seats = ! ent]ta9m5t1 or else he or 8 companion may be oblig$ to take up ) seats :]e !y c nei!r see nor he>4 ,,conduct ,,9 ,,op]a1 ,,!at] ,,or ,,public ,,hall4 ,on ent]+ ! hall1 !at] or op]a h\se ! g5tleman %\ld walk side by side ) 8 companion unless ! aisle is too n>r[1 9 :i* case he %\ld prec$e h]4 ,^u rea*+ ! seats1 he %\ld all[ h] to take ! inn] "o1 assum+ ! out] "o himself4 ,a g5tleman %\ld1 on no acc\nt1 leave ! lady's side f ! beg9n+ to ! close ( ! p]=mance4 ,if x is a prom5ade conc]t or op]a1 ! lady may be invit$ to prom5ade dur+ ! int]mission4 ,if %e decl9es1 ! g5tleman mu/ reta9 8 position by h] side4 ,!re is no obligation :atev] ^u a g5tleman to give up 8 seat to a lady4 ,on ! contr>y1 8 duty is solely to ! lady :om he accompanies4 ,he mu/ rema9 beside h] dur+ ! ev5+ to conv]se ) h] betwe5 ! acts1 & to r5d] ! ent]ta9m5t z agreeable to h] z possible4 ,dur+ ! p]=mance complete quiet %\ld be pres]v$1 t ! audi5ce may n be prev5t$ f see+ or he>+4 ,betwe5 ! acts x is p]fectly prop] to conv]se1 b x %\ld be done 9 a l[ tone1 s z n to attract att5tion4 ,nei!r %\ld "o :isp]4 ,!re %\ld be no l\d talk+1 boi/]\s laught]1 viol5t ge/ures1 lov]-l demon/rations or any?+ 9 mann]s or spee* to attract ! att5tion ( o!rs4 ,x is prop] & desirable t ! actors be applaud$ :5 !y des]ve x4 ,x is _! only means ( kn[+ :e!r !y are giv+ satisfaction4 ,! g5tleman %\ld see t ! lady is provid$ ) a programme1 & ) libretto also if !y are att5d+ op]a4 ,9 pass+ out at ! close ( ! p]=mance ! g5tleman %\ld prec$e ! lady1 & !re %\ld be no cr[d+ or pu%+4 ,if ! means ( ! g5tleman w>rant him 9 s do+1 he %\ld call = 8 companion 9 a c>riage4 ,?is is especially necess>y if ! ev5+ is /ormy4 ,he %\ld call suffici5tly e>ly to all[ !m to rea* _! de/9ation be=e ! p]=mance comm5ces4 ,x is unju/ to ! :ole audi5ce to come 9 late & make a di/urbance 9 obta9+ seats4 ,! g5tleman %\ld ask p]mission to call ^u ! lady ! foll[+ day1 :i* p]mission %e %\ld grant2 & if %e be a p]son ( delicacy & tact1 %e w make him feel t he has conf]r$ a real pleasure ^u h] by 8 invitation4 ,ev5 if %e f9ds occasion = criticism 9 ! p]=mance1 %e %\ld be l5i5t 9 ?is respect1 & seek = po9ts to praise in/ead1 t he may n feel regret at tak+ h] to an ent]ta9m5t :i* has prov$ unwor?y4 ,,rema9 ,,until ,,! ,,p]=mance ,,closes4 ,at a !atrical or op]atic p]=mance1 y %\ld rema9 seat$ until ! p]=mance is conclud$ & ! curta9 falls4 ,x is exce$+ly rude & ill-br$ to rise & leave ! hall :ile ! play is draw+ to a close1 yet ?is sev]ely exasp]at+ practice has ( late be5 foll[$ by _m well-mean+ p1 :o1 if !y 7 aw>e ( ! ext5t to :i* !y outrag$ ! feel+s ( _m ( ! audi5ce1 & unwitt+ly (f]$ an insult to ! actors on ! /age1 w\ld %r9k f repeat+ su* flagrantly rude conduct4 ,,conduct ,,9 ,,picture-,,gall]ies4 ,9 visit+ picture-gall]ies "o %\ld always ma9ta9 ! deportm5t ( a g5tleman or a lady4 ,make no l\d comm5ts & d n seek to %[ sup]ior k 9 art matt]s by gratuit\s criticism4 ,if y h n an art education y w probably only be giv+ publicity to y\r own ignorance4 ,d n /& 9 conv]sation be=e a picture1 & ?us ob/ruct ! view ( o!rs :o wi% to see r ?an talk4 ,if y wi% to conv]se ) any anyone on g5]al subjects1 draw to "o side1 out ( ! way ( ^? :o want to look at ! pictures4 ,,conduct ,,at ,,*>ity ,,fairs4 ,9 visit+ a fancy fair make no comm5ts on ei!r ! article or _! price1 unless y c praise4 ,if y want !m1 pay ! price dem&$1 or let !m alone4 ,if y c consci5ti\sly praise an article1 by all means d s1 z y may be giv+ pleasure to ! mak] if %e *ances to be )9 he>+4 ,if y h a table at a fair1 use no unladylike means to obta9 buy]s4 ,n ev5 ! dem&s ( *>ity c ju/ify y 9 importun+ o!rs to pur*ase articles aga9/ _! own judgm5t or beyond _! means4 ,nev] appe> s begg>ly z to reta9 ! *ange1 if a l>g] am\nt is pres5t$ ?an ! price4 ,(f] ! *ange promptly1 :5 ! g5tleman w be at lib]ty to donate x if he ?9ks be/1 & y may accept x ) ?anks4 ,he is1 h[ev]1 "u no obligation :atev] to make su* donation4 ,be guilty ( no l\d talk+ or laugh+1 & by all means avoid conspicu\s flirt+ 9 s public a place4 ,z a g5tleman mu/ always remove 8 hat 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies1 s he %\ld rema9 ) head uncov]$1 c>ry+ 8 hat 9 8 h&1 9 a public place ( ?is "*4 ,,conduct ,,9 ,,an ,,arti/',s ,,/udio4 ,if y h occasion to visit an arti/'s /udio1 by no means m$dle ) any?+ 9 ! room4 ,rev]se no picture :i* /&s or hangs ) face to ! wall2 op5 no portfolio )\t p]mission1 & d n alt] by a s+le t\* any lay-figure or its drap]y1 piece ( furniture or article ( v]tu pos$ z a model4 ,y d n "k ) :at c>e ! arti/ may h arrang$ ^! ?+s1 nor :at tr\ble ! dis>rangem5t may co/ him4 ,use no /rong expression ei!r ( delight or disapprobation at any?+ pres5t$ = y\r inspection4 ,if a picture or a /atue please y1 %[ y\r approval & appreciation by close att5tion1 & a few quiet1 well *os5 words1 r ?an by extravagant praise4 ,d n ask ! arti/ 8 prices unless y really int5d to become a pur*as]2 & 9 ?is case x is be/ to att5tively obs]ve 8 works1 make y\r *oice1 & tru/ ! negotiation to a ?ird p]son or to a writt5 correspond5ce ) ! arti/ aft] ! visit is conclud$4 ,y may express y\r desire = ! "w & obta9 ! refusal ( x f ! arti/4 ,if y desire to conclude ! b>ga9 at once y may ask 8 price1 & if he names a high] "o ?an y wi% to give1 y may say z mu* & m5tion ! sum y are will+ to pay1 :5 x w be optional ) ! arti/ to ma9ta9 8 fir/ price or accept y\r (f]4 ,x is n prop] to visit ! /udio ( an arti/ except by special invitation or p]mission1 & at an appo9t$ "t1 = y _c e/imate h[ mu* y may di/urb him at 8 "w4 ,! h\rs ( daylight are all gold5 to him2 & /ead9ess ( h& 9 manipulat+ a p5cil is sometimes only acquir$ ea* day aft] h\rs ( practice1 & may be in/antly lo/ on ! irruption & consequ5t int]ruption ( visitors4 ,nev] take a "y *ild to a /udio1 = x may d mu* mis*ief 9 spite ( ! mo/ c>eful wat*+4 ,at any rate1 ! juv5ile visitor w try ! arti/'s temp] & n]ves by keep+ him 9 a con/ant /ate ( appreh5sion4 ,if y h engag$ to sit = y\r portrait nev] keep ! arti/ wait+ "o mom5t beyond ! appo9t$ "t4 ,if y d s y %\ld 9 ju/ice pay = ! "t y make him lose4 ,a visitor %\ld nev] /& beh9d an arti/ & wat* him at 8 "w2 = if he be a man ( n]v\s temp]am5t x w be likely to di/urb him greatly4 ,,g5tlem5 ,,pass+ ,,be=e ,,ladies4 ,g5tleman hav+ occasion to pass be=e ladies :o are already seat$ 9 lecture & conc]t rooms1 !at]s & o!r public places1 %\ld beg p>don = di/urb+ !m2 pass+ ) _! faces & nev] ) _! backs t[>d !m4 ,,:]e ,,g5tlem5 ,,may ,,keep ,,_! ,,hats ,,on4 ,at g>d5 p>ties & at all assemblies held 9 ! op5 air1 g5tlem5 keep _! hats on _! heads4 ,if draughts ( cold air1 or o!r causes1 make x necess>y = !m to reta9 _! hats on _! heads1 :5 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies )9 doors1 !y expla9 ! necessity & ask p]mission ( ! ladies :om !y accompany4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xiv4 ,etiquette ( ,travell+4 ,!re is no?+ t te/s ! natural polit5ess ( m5 & wom5 s ?or\ghly z travel+4 ,we all desire z mu* com=t z possible & z a rule are selfi%4 ,9 ^! days ( railroad travel1 :5 e railway is equipp$ ) elegant coa*es = ! com=t1 conv5i5ce & sometimes luxury ( its pass5g]s1 & provid$ ) g5tlemanly conductors & s]vants1 ! longe/ j\rneys by railroad c be made alone by self-possess$ ladies ) p]fect safety & b little annoyance4 ,!n1 too1 a lady :o deports h]self z su* may travel f ! ,atlantic to ! ,pacific1 f ,ma9e to ! ,gulf ( ,mexico1 & meet ) no affront or insult1 b on ! contr>y receive polite att5tions at e po9t1 f m5 :o may *ance to be h] fell[-travel]s4 ,?is may be acc\nt$ = f ! fact t1 z a rule 9 ,am]ica1 all m5 %[ a def]5tial reg>d = wom51 & are especially desir\s ( %[+ !m su* att5tions z w r5d] a long & lonesome j\rney z pleasant z possible4 ,,duties ,,( ,,an ,,escort4 ,h[ev] self-possess$ & ladylike 9 all h] deportm5t & g5]al be>+ a lady may be1 & ?\gh capable ( und]tak+ any j\rney1 h[soev] long x may be1 an escort is at all times mu* m pleasant1 & g5]ally acceptable4 ,:5 a g5tleman und]takes ! escort ( a lady1 he %\ld proce$ ) h] to ! depot1 or meet h] !re1 a suffici5t "t be=e ! dep>ture ( ! tra9 to att5d to ! *eck+ ( h] baggage1 procure h] ticket1 & obta9 = h] an eligible seat 9 ! c>s1 all[+ h] to *oose su* seat z %e desires4 ,he w !n dispose ( h] packages & h&-baggage 9 _! prop] receptacle1 & make h] seat & surr\nd+s z agreeable = h] z possible1 tak+ a seat ne> h]1 or by ! side ( h] if %e reque/s x1 & d all he c to make h] j\rney a pleasant "o4 ,^u arriv+ at h] de/9ation1 he %\ld conduct h] to ! ladies' wait+-room or to a c>riage1 until he has att5d$ to h] baggage1 :i* he arranges to h deliv]$ :]e ! lady reque/s x4 ,he %\ld !n escort h] to :atev] "p ( ! city %e is go+ & deliv] h] into ! h&s ( h] fri5ds be=e relax+ 8 c>e4 ,on ! foll[+ day he %\ld call ^u h] to inquire aft] h] heal?4 ,x is optional ) ! lady :e!r ! acqua9tance %all be prolong$ or n aft] ?is call4 ,if ! lady does n wi% to prolong ! acqua9tance1 %e c h no "r1 nor c h] fri5ds1 to reque/ a simil> favor ( him at ano!r "t4 ,,! ,,duty ,,( ,a ,,lady ,,to ,,h] ,,escort4 ,! lady may supply h] escort ) a sum ( money ample to pay all ! exp5ses ( ! j\rney be=e pur*as+ h] ticket1 or furni% him ! exact am\nt requir$1 or1 at ! sugge/ion ( h] escort1 %e may all[ him to defray ! exp5ses f 8 own pocket1 & settle ) him at ! end ( ! j\rney4 ,! latt] c\rse1 h[ev]1 %\ld only be pursu$ :5 ! g5tleman sugge/s x1 & a /rict acc\nt ( ! exp5ses incurr$ mu/ be insi/$ on4 ,a lady %\ld give h] att5dant z little tr\ble & annoyance z possible1 & %e %\ld make no unnecess>y dem&s ^u 8 good nature & g5tlemanly s]vices4 ,h] h&-baggage %\ld be z small z circum/ances w p]mit1 & :5 once dispos$ (1 x %\ld rema9 undi/urb$ until %e is ab\t to leave ! c>1 unless %e %\ld absolutely require x4 ,z ! ! tra9 ne>s ! end ( h] j\rney1 %e w delib]ately ga!r toge!r h] effects prep>atory to dep>ture1 s t :5 ! tra9 /ops %e w be ready to leave ! c> at once & n wait to hurri$ly grab h] v>i\s p>cels1 or cause h] escort unnecess>y delay4 ,a ,,lady ,,travel+ ,,alone4 ,a lady1 9 travel+ alone1 may accept s]vices f h] fell[-travel]s1 :i* %e %\ld always ackn[l$ge graci\sly4 ,inde$1 x is ! bus9ess ( a g5tleman to see t ! wants ( an unescort$ lady are att5d$ to4 ,he %\ld (f] to raise or l[] h] w9d[ if %e seems to h any difficulty 9 do+ x h]self4 ,he may (f] 8 assi/ance 9 c>ry+ h] packages ^u leav+ ! c>1 or 9 engag+ a c>riage or obta9+ a trunk4 ,/ill1 wom5 %\ld le>n to be z self-reliant z possible2 & "y wom5 p>ticul>ly %\ld accept pr(f]$ assi/ance f /rang]s1 9 all b ! slighte/ (fices1 v r>ely4 ,,ladies ,,may ,,assi/ ,,o!r ,,ladies4 ,x is n only ! "r1 b ! duty ( ladies to r5d] any assi/ance or be ( any s]vice to y\ng] ladies1 or ^? less exp]i5c$ 9 travel+ ?an !mselves4 ,!y may %[ _m little c\rtesies :i* w make ! j\rney less t$i\s to ! inexp]i5c$ travel]1 & may give h] important advice or assi/ance :i* may be ( b5efit to h]4 ,an acqua9tance =m$ 9 travel+1 ne$ nev] be reta9$ aft]w>ds4 ,x is optional :e!r x is or n4 ,,! ,,com=t ,,( ,,o!rs4 ,9 seek+ 8 own com=t1 no pass5g] has a "r to ov]look or disreg>d t ( o!rs4 ,if = 8 own com=t1 he wi%es to raise or l[] a w9d[ he %\ld consult ! wi%es ( pass5g]s imm$iately ar\nd him be=e do+ s4 ,! discom=ts ( travel+ %\ld be borne *e]fully1 = :at may enhance y\r own com=t may endang] ! heal? ( "s fell[-travel]4 ,,att5d+ ,,to ,,! ,,wants ,,( ,,o!rs4 ,see ev]y:]e & at all times t ladies & eld]ly p h _! wants suppli$ be=e y ?9k ( y\r own4 ,nor is !re ne$ = unmanly ha/e or pu%+ 9 ent]+ or leav+ c>s or boats4 ,!re is always "t en\gh all[$ = ea* pass5g] to ent] 9 a g5tlemanly mann] & ) a due reg>d to ! rights ( o!rs4 ,if1 9 rid+ 9 ! /reet-c>s or cross+ a f]ry1 y\r fri5d insi/s on pay+ = y1 p]mit him to d s )\t s]i\s remon/rance4 ,y c return ! favor at "s o!r "t4 ,,read+ ,,:5 ,,travell+4 ,if a g5tleman 9 travel+1 ei!r on c>s or /eamboat1 has provid$ himself ) newspap]s or o!r read+1 he %\ld (f] !m to 8 companions fir/4 ,if !y are refus$1 he may ) propriety read himself1 leav+ ! o!rs free to d ! same if !y wi%4 ,,occupy+ ,,too ,,_m ,,seats4 ,no lady w reta9 possession ( m ?an h] rightful seat 9 a cr[d$ c>4 ,:5 o!rs are look+ = accommodations %e %\ld at once & ) all *e]fulness s dispose ( h] baggage t ! seat beside h] may be occupi$ by anyone :o desires x1 no matt] h[ agreeable x may be to reta9 possession ( x4 ,x %[s a great lack ( prop] mann]s to see two ladies1 or a lady & g5tleman turn ov] ! seat 9 front ( !m & fill x ) _! wraps & bundles1 reta9+ x 9 spite ( ! entreat+ or remon/rat+ looks ( fell[-pass5g]s4 ,9 su* a case any p]son :o desires a seat is ju/ifi$ 9 rev]s+ ! back1 remov+ ! baggage & tak+ possession ( ! unus$ seat4 ,,reta9+ ,,possession ,,( ,a ,,seat4 ,a g5tleman 9 travel+ may take possession ( a seat & !n g to pur*ase tickets or look aft] baggage or procure a lun*1 leav+ ! seat 9 *>ge ( a companion1 or deposit+ travel+-bag or ov]coat ^u x to %[ t x is engag$4 ,:5 a seat is ?us occupi$1 ! "r ( possession mu/ be respect$1 & no "o %\ld presume to take a seat ?us previ\sly engag$1 ev5 ?\gh x may be want$ = a lady4 ,a g5tleman _c1 h[ev]1 9 ju/ice1 vacate 8 seat to take ano!r 9 ! smok+-c>1 & at ! same "t res]ve 8 rights to ! fir/ seat4 ,he pays = b "o seat1 & by tak+ ano!r he =feits ! fir/4 ,x is n requir$ ( a g5tleman 9 a railway c> to rel9qui% 8 seat 9 favor ( a lady1 ?\gh a g5tleman ( g5u9e bre$+ w d s r ?an all[ ! lady to /& or suff] inconv5i5ce f poor accommodations4 ,9 ! /reet c>s ! case is diff]5t4 ,no woman %\ld be all[$ to /& :ile !re is a seat occupi$ by a man4 ,! inconv5i5ce to ! man w be tempor>y & trifl+ at ! mo/1 & he c well af=d to suff] x r ?an to d an unc\rte\s act4 ,,discretion ,,9 ,,=m+ ,,acqua9tances4 ,:ile an acqua9tance =m$ 9 a railway c> or on a /eamboat1 cont9ues only dur+ ! trip1 discretion %\ld be us$ 9 mak+ acqua9tances4 ,ladies may1 z has be5 /at$1 accept small c\rtesies & favors f /rang]s1 b mu/ *eck at once any attempt at famili>ity4 ,on ! o!r h&1 no man :o pret5ds to be a g5tleman w attempt any famili>ity4 ,! practice ( "s "y girls j ent]+ into womanhood1 ( flirt+ ) any "y man !y may *ance to meet1 ei!r 9 a railway c> or on a /eamboat1 indicates l[-bre$+ 9 ! extreme4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! j\rney is long1 & especially if x be on a /eamboat1 a c]ta9 sociability may be all[$1 & a m>ri$ lady or a lady ( middle age may use h] privileges to make ! j\rney an enjoyable "o1 = fell[-pass5g]s %\ld always be sociable to "o ano!r4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xv4 ,,rid+ ,,& ,,driv+4 ,"o ( ! mo/ exhil>at+ & enjoyable amusem5ts t c be indulg$ 9 by ei!r ladies or g5tlem5 is t ( rid+ on horseback1 & x is a matt] ( regret t x is n p>ticipat$ 9 to a great] ext5t ?an x is4 ,! etiquette ( rid+1 ?\gh meagre1 is exact & important4 ,,le>n+ ,,to ,,ride4 ,! fir/ ?+ to d is to le>n to ride1 & no "o %\ld attempt to appe> 9 public until a few prelim9>y lessons 9 rid+ are tak54 ,until a p]son has le>n$ to appe> at ease on horseback1 he or %e %\ld n appe> 9 public4 ,! advice giv5 9 ! old rhyme %\ld be kept 9 m9d1 viz3 ,keep up y\r head & y\r he>t1 ,y\r h&s & y\r heels keep d[n2 ,press y\r knees close to y\r horse's sides1 ,& y\r elb[s close to y\r own4 ,,! ,,g5tleman',s ,,duty ,,z ,,an ,,escort4 ,:5 a g5tleman contemplates rid+ ) a lady1 8 fir/ duty is to see t h] horse is a prop] "o = h] use1 & "o t %e c readily manage4 ,he mu/ see t h] saddle & bridle are p]fectly secure1 & tru/ no?+ ( ?is k9d to ! /able m51 )\t p]sonal exam9ation4 ,he mu/ be punctual at ! appo9t$ h\r1 & n keep ! lady wait+ = him clad 9 h] rid+ co/ume4 ,he %\ld see ! lady com=tably seat$ 9 h] saddle be=e he m\nts himself2 take 8 position on ! lady's "r 9 rid+1 op5 all gates & pay all tolls on ! road4 ,illu/ration ,,assi/+ ,a ,,lady ,,to ,,m\nt4 ,! lady w place h]self on ! left side ( ! horse1 /&+ z close to x z possible1 ) h] skirts ga!r$ 9 h] left h&1 h] "r h& ^u ! pommel1 & h] face t[>d ! horse's head4 ,! g5tleman %\ld /& at ! horse's %\ld]1 fac+ ! lady1 & /oop+1 hold 8 h& s t %e may place h] foot 9 x4 ,?is %e does1 :5 ! foot is lift$ z %e spr+s1 s z to g5tly aid h] 9 ga9+ ! saddle4 ,! g5tleman mu/ !n put h] foot 9 ! /irrup1 smoo? ! skirt ( h] rid+ habit1 & give h] ! re9s & h] rid+ :ip4 ,,rid+ ,,) ,,ladies4 ,9 rid+ ) "o lady1 a g5tleman takes 8 position to ! "r ( h]4 ,:5 rid+ ) two or m1 8 position is /ill to ! "r unless "o ( !m ne$s 8 assi/ance or reque/s 8 pres5ce ne> h]4 ,he mu/ (f] all ! c\rtesies ( ! road1 & yield ! be/ & %adie/ side to ! ladies4 ,! lady mu/ always decide ^u ! pace at :i* to ride4 ,x is ung5]\s to urge h] or incite h] horse to a fa/] gait ?an %e feels compet5t to und]take4 ,if a g5tleman1 :5 rid+ alone1 meets a lady :o is walk+ & wi%es to ent] into conv]sation ) h]1 he mu/ alight & rema9 on foot :ile talk+ ) h]4 ,,assi/+ ,a ,,lady ,,to ,,alight ,,f ,,h] ,,horse4 ,aft] ! ride1 ! g5tleman mu/ assi/ 8 companion to alight4 ,%e mu/ fir/ free h] knee f ! pommel1 & be c]ta9 t h] habit is entirely dis5gag$4 ,he mu/ !n take h] left h& 9 8 "r1 & (f] 8 left h& z a /ep = h] foot4 ,he !n l[]s 8 h& sl[ly & all[s h] to rea* ! gr\nd g5tly )\t spr++4 ,a lady %\ld n attempt to spr+ f ! saddle4 ,,driv+4 ,! *oice/ seat 9 a d\ble c>riage is ! "o fac+ ! horses1 & g5tlem5 %\ld always yield ?is seat to ! ladies4 ,if only "o g5tleman & "o lady are rid+ 9 a two-seat$ c>riage1 ! g5tleman mu/ sit opposite ! lady1 unless %e invites him to a seat by h] side4 ,! place ( honor is on ! "r h& ( ! seat fac+ ! horses4 ,?is is also ! seat ( ! ho/ess1 :i* %e nev] resigns4 ,if %e is n driv+1 x mu/ be (f]$ to ! mo/ di/+ui%$ lady4 ,a p]son %\ld ent] a c>riage ) ! back to ! seat1 s z to prev5t turn+ r\nd 9 ! c>riage4 ,a g5tleman mu/ be c>eful n to trample ^u or cru% a lady's dress4 ,9 driv+1 "o %\ld always rememb] t ! rule ( ! road 9 meet+ & pass+ ano!r vehicle is to keep to ! "r4 ,,assi/+ ,,ladies ,,to ,,alight4 ,a g5tleman mu/ fir/ alight f a c>riage1 ev5 if he has to pass be=e a lady 9 do+ s4 ,he mu/ !n assi/ ! ladies to alight4 ,if !re is a s]vant ) ! c>riage1 ! latt] may hold op5 ! door1 b ! g5tleman mu/ by all means furni% ! ladies ! requir$ assi/ance4 ,if a lady has occasion to leave ! c>riage be=e ! g5tleman accompany+ h]1 he mu/ alight to assi/ h] out1 & if %e wi%es to resume h] seat1 he mu/ aga9 alight to help h] to d s4 ,9 assi/+ a lady to ent] a c>riage1 a g5tleman w take c>e t ! skirt ( h] dress is n all[$ to hang outside4 ,a c>riage robe %\ld be provid$ to protect h] dress f ! mud & du/ ( ! road4 ,! g5tleman %\ld provide ! lady ) h] p>asol1 fan & %awl1 & see t %e is com=table 9 e way1 be=e he seats himself4 ,,tru/+ ,,! ,,driv]4 ,:ile driv+ ) ano!r :o holds ! re9s1 y mu/ n int]f]e ) ! driv]1 z any?+ ( ?is k9d implies a repro(1 :i* is v (f5sive4 ,if y ?9k 8 conduct wrong1 or are 9 fe> ( dang] result+1 y may delicately sugge/ a *ange1 apologiz+ !re=4 ,y %\ld resign y\rself to ! driv]'s control1 & be p]fectly calm & self-possess$ dur+ ! c\rse ( a drive4 ,,*apt] ,,xvi4 ,c\rt%ip & ,m>riage4 ,! correct behavior ( "y m5 t[>d "y ladies1 & ( "y ladies t[>d "y m51 dur+ t portion ( _! lives :5 !y are respectively pay+ att5tion to1 & receiv+ att5tion f1 "o ano!r1 is a matt] :i* requires consid]ation 9 a "w ( ?is nature4 ,a ,,g5tleman',s ,,conduct ,,t[>d ,,ladies4 ,"y p ( ei!r sex1 :o h arriv$ at mature age1 & :o are n engag$1 h ! utmo/ fre$om 9 _! social int]c\rse 9 ?is c\ntry1 & are at lib]ty to associate & m+le freely 9 ! same circles ) ^? ( ! opposite sex4 ,g5tlem5 are at lib]ty to invite _! lady fri5ds to conc]ts1 op]as1 balls1 etc41 to call ^u !m at _! homes1 to ride & drive ) !m1 & make !mselves agreeable to all "y ladies to :om _! company is acceptable4 ,9 fact !y are at lib]ty to accept invitations & give !m ad libitum4 ,z soon1 h[ev]1 z a "y g5tleman neglects all o!rs1 to devote himself to a s+le lady1 he gives t lady reason to suppose t he is p>ticul>ly attract$ to h]1 & may give h] cause to believe t %e is to become engag$ to him1 )\t tell+ h] s4 ,a g5tleman :o does n contemplate matrimony %\ld n pay too exclusive att5tion to any "o lady4 ,a ,,lady',s ,,conduct ,,t[>d ,,g5tlem54 ,a "y lady :o is n engag$ may receive calls & att5tions f su* unm>ri$ g5tlem5 z %e desires1 & may accept invitations to ride1 to conc]ts1 !atres1 etc4 ,%e %\ld use due discretion1 h[ev]1 z to :om %e favors by ! acceptance ( su* invitations4 ,a "y lady %\ld n all[ special att5tion f anyone to :om %e is n specially attract$1 because1 fir/1 %e may d injury to ! g5tleman 9 seem+ to give 8 suit enc\ragem5t2 &1 secondly1 %e may keep away f h] ^? :om %e likes bett]1 b :o w n approa* h] "u ! mi/ak5 idea t h] feel+s are already int]e/$4 ,a "y lady %\ld n enc\rage ! addresses ( a g5tleman unless %e feels t %e c return 8 affections4 ,x is ! pr]ogative ( a man to propose1 & ( a woman to accept or refuse1 & a lady ( tact & k9d he>t w ex]cise h] pr]ogative be=e h] suitor is br\ght to ! humiliation ( an (f] :i* mu/ result 9 a refusal4 ,no well-br$ lady w too eag]ly receive ! att5tions ( a g5tleman1 no matt] h[ mu* %e admires him2 nor1 on ! o!r h&1 w %e be s res]v$ z to altoge!r disc\rage him4 ,a man may %[ consid]able att5tion to a lady )\t becom+ a lov]2 & s a lady may let x be se5 t %e is n disagreeable to him )\t disc\rag+ him4 ,%e w be able to judge soon f 8 actions & deportm5t1 z to 8 motive 9 pay+ h] 8 att5tions1 & w treat him accord+ly4 ,a man does n l to be refus$ :5 he makes a proposal1 & no man ( tact w risk a refusal4 ,nei!r w a well-br$ lady enc\rage a man to make a proposal1 :i* %e mu/ refuse4 ,%e %\ld endeavor1 9 disc\rag+ him z a lov]1 to reta9 8 fri5d%ip4 ,a "y man ( s5sibilities1 :o c take a h9t :5 x is (f]$ him1 ne$ n run ! risk ( a refusal4 ,,premature ,,decl>ation4 ,x is v injudici\s1 n to say presumptu\s1 = a g5tleman to make a proposal to a "y lady on too brief an acqua9tance4 ,a lady :o w\ld accept a g5tleman at fir/ sight c h>dly possess ! discretion ne$$ to make a good wife4 ,,?or\gh ,,acqua9tance ,,z ,a ,,basis ,,= ,,m>riage4 ,p]haps !re is su* a ?+ z love at fir/ sight1 b love alone is a v unc]ta9 f\ndation ^u :i* to base m>riage4 ,!re %\ld be ?or\gh acqua9tance%ip & a c]ta9 k ( h>mony ( ta/es & temp]am5ts be=e matrimony is v5tur$ ^u4 ,,prop] ,,mann] ,,( ,,c\rt%ip4 ,x is impossible to lay d[n any rule z to ! prop] mode ( c\rt%ip & proposal4 ,9 ,france x is ! bus9ess ( ! p>5ts to settle all prelim9>ies4 ,9 ,engl& ! "y man asks ! cons5t ( ! p>5ts to pay addresses to _! daught]4 ,9 ?is c\ntry ! matt] is left almo/ entirely to ! "y p4 ,x seems t circum/ances mu/ det]m9e :e!r c\rt%ip may lead to engagem5t4 ,?us1 a man may beg9 s]i\sly to c\rt a girl1 b may discov] be=e any promise b9ds !m to ea* o!r1 t !y are entirely unsuit$ to "o ano!r1 :5 he may1 ) p]fect propriety & )\t s]i\s injury to ! lady1 )draw 8 att5tions4 ,c]ta9 au?orities insi/ t ! cons5t ( p>5ts mu/ always be obta9$ be=e ! daught] is ask$ to give h]self 9 m>riage4 ,:ile !re is no?+ improp] or wrong 9 su* a c\rse1 /ill1 9 ?is c\ntry1 ) our social cu/oms1 x is deem$ be/ 9 mo/ cases n to be too /rict 9 ?is reg>d4 ,ea* case has its own peculi> circum/ances :i* mu/ gov]n x1 & x seems at lea/ p>donable if ! "y man %\ld pref] to "k 8 fate directly f ! lips ( ! mo/ int]e/$ p>ty1 be=e he submits himself to ! cool] judgm5t & ! critical obs]vation ( ! fa!r & "m1 :o are n by any means 9 love ) him1 & :o may possibly reg>d him ) a some:at jeal\s eye1 z hav+ already monopoliz$ _! daught]'s affections1 & n[ desires to take h] away f !m altoge!r4 ,,p>5ts ,,%\ld ,,ex]cise ,,au?ority ,,ov] ,,daught]s4 ,p>5ts %\ld always be p]fectly famili> ) ! "* ( _! daught]'s associates1 & !y %\ld ex]cise _! au?ority s f> z n to p]mit h] to =m any improp] acqua9tances4 ,9 regulat+ ! social relations ( _! daught]1 p>5ts %\ld be> 9 m9d ! possibility ( h] fall+ 9 love ) any "o ) :om %e may come 9 frequ5t contact4 ,!re=e1 if any g5tleman ( h] acqua9tance is p>ticul>ly ineligible z a husb&1 he %\ld be exclud$ z f> z practicable f h] society4 ,a ,,wat*ful ,,c>e ,,requir$ ,,by ,,p>5ts4 ,p>5ts1 especially mo!rs1 %\ld also wat* ) a jeal\s c>e ! t5d5cies ( _! daught]'s affections2 & if !y see !m turn+ t[>d unwor?y or undesirable objects1 influ5ce ( "s sort %\ld be br\ght to be> to c\nt]act ?is4 ,great delicacy & tact are requir$ to manage matt]s rightly4 ,a m suitable p]son may1 if available1 be br\ght =w>d1 9 ! hope ( attract+ ! "y girl's att5tion4 ,! objectionable traits ( ! undesirable suitor %\ld be made app>5t to h] )\t ! act seem+ to be int5tional2 & if all ?is fails1 let *ange ( sc5e & surr\nd+s by travel or visit+ accompli% ! desir$ result4 ,! latt] c\rse w g5]ally d x1 if matt]s h n be5 all[$ to progress too f> & ! "y girl is n in=m$ :y %e is tempor>ily bani%$ f home4 ,,an ,,acceptable ,,suitor4 ,p>5ts %\ld always be able to tell f obs]vation & in/9ct j h[ matt]s /& ) _! daught]2 & if ! suitor is an acceptable "o & ev]y?+ satisfactory1 !n ! mo/ scrupul\s rules ( etiquette w n prev5t _! lett+ ! "y c\ple alone4 ,if ! lov] *ooses to propose directly to ! lady & consult h] fa!r aft]w>d1 consid] t he has a p]fect "r to d s4 ,if h] p>5ts h sanction$ 8 visits & att5tions by a sil5t cons5t1 he has a "r to believe t 8 addresses w be favorably receiv$ by !m4 ,,requirem5ts ,,= ,a ,,happy ,,m>riage4 ,respect = ea* o!r is z necess>y to a happy m>riage z t ! husb& & wife %\ld h an affection = "o ano!r4 ,social equality1 intellectual sympa?y1 & suffici5t means are v important matt]s to be consid]$ by ^? :o contemplate matrimony4 ,x mu/ be rememb]$ t husb& & wife1 aft] m>riage1 h social relations to su/a91 & p]haps x w be discov]$1 be=e _m mon?s ( w$d$ life h pass$1 :5 !re is a social inequality1 t "o ( ! two h made a sacrifice = :i* no adequate comp5sation has be5 or ev] w be receiv$4 ,& s bo? lives become s\r$ & spoil$1 because nei!r receives nor c receive ! sympa?y :i* _! ef=ts des]ve1 & because _! c>es are multipli$ f a want ( cong5iality4 ,"o or ! o!r may f9d t ! noble qualities se5 by ! impulse ( e>ly love1 7 b ! creation ( an infatuat$ fancy1 exi/+ only 9 ! m9d :]e x orig9at$4 ,ano!r condition ( dome/ic happ9ess is intellectual sympa?y4 ,man requires a woman :o c make 8 home a place ( re/ = him1 & woman requires a man ( dome/ic ta/es4 ,:ile a woman :o seeks to f9d happ9ess 9 a m>ri$ life w nev] cons5t to be w$d$ to an idl] or a pleasure-seek]1 s a man ( intellig5ce w w$ none b a woman ( intellig5ce & good s5se4 ,nei!r beauty1 physical *>act]i/ics nor o!r ext]nal qualifications w comp5sate = ! abs5ce ( intellectual ?\ght & cle> & quick compreh5sions4 ,an absurd idea is held by "s t intellig5ce & dome/ic virtues _c g toge!r2 t an intellectual woman w nev] be cont5t to /ay at home to look aft] ! int]e/s ( h] h\sehold & *ildr54 ,a m unreasonable idea has nev] be5 sugge/$1 = z ! intellect is /r5g!n$ & cultur$1 x has a great] capacity ( affection1 ( dome/icity & ( self-sacrifice = o!rs4 ,mutual tru/ & confid5ce are o!r requisites = happ9ess 9 m>ri$ life4 ,!re c be no true love )\t tru/4 ,! responsibility ( a man's life is 9 a woman's keep+ f ! mom5t he puts 8 he>t into h] h&s4 ,)\t mutual tru/ !re c be no real happ9ess4 ,ano!r requisite = conjugal happ9ess is moral & religi\s sympa?y1 t ea* may walk side by side 9 ! same pa? ( moral purpose & social usefulness1 ) jo9t hope ( immortality4 ,,proposals ,,( ,,m>riage4 ,rules 9 reg>d to proposals ( m>riage _c be laid d[n1 = !y are & %\ld be z diff]5t z p4 ,! be/ way is to apply to ! lady 9 p]son1 & receive ! answ] f h] own lips4 ,if c\rage %\ld fail a man 9 ?is1 he c resort to writ+1 by :i* he c cle>ly & boldly express 8 feel+s4 ,a spok5 decl>ation %\ld be bold1 manly & e>ne/1 & s pla9 9 its mean+ t !re c be no misund]/&+4 ,z to ! exact words to be us$1 !re c be no set =mula2 ea* propos] mu/ be gov]n$ by 8 own ideas & s5se ( propriety 9 ! matt]4 ,,d ,,n ,,press ,,an ,,unwelcome ,,suit4 ,a g5tleman %\ld ev9ce a s9c]e & unselfi% affection = 8 belov$1 & he w %[ z well z feel t h] happ9ess mu/ be consid]$ be=e 8 own4 ,consequ5tly he %\ld n press an unwelcome suit ^u a "y lady4 ,if %e has no affection = him1 & does n conceive x possible ev5 to ent]ta9 any1 x is cruel to urge h] to give h] p]son )\t h] love4 ,! eag] lov] may believe1 = ! "t be+1 t su* possession w\ld satisfy him1 b ! day w surely come :5 he w reproa* 8 wife t %e _h no love = him1 & he w possibly make t an excuse = all mann] ( unk9dness4 ,a ,,lady',s ,,fir/ ,,refusal4 ,x is n always necess>y to take a lady's fir/ refusal z absolute4 ,diffid5ce or unc]ta9ty z to h] own feel+s may sometimes influ5ce a lady to reply 9 ! negative1 & aft]-consid]ation cause h] to regret t reply4 ,?\gh a g5tleman may repeat 8 suit ) propriety aft] hav+ be5 once repuls$1 /ill x %\ld n be repeat$ too (t5 nor too long1 le/ x %\ld deg5]ate into importun+4 ,no lady wor?y any g5tleman's reg>d w say no twice to a suit :i* %e int5ds ultimately to receive ) favor4 ,a lady %\ld be all[$ all ! "t %e requires be=e mak+ up h] m9d2 & if ! g5tleman gr[s impati5t at ! delay1 he is always at lib]ty to insi/ on an imm$iate answ] & abide by ! consequ5ces ( 8 impati5ce4 ,a ,,lady',s ,,positive ,,refusal4 ,a lady :o really means no %\ld be able to s say x z to make h] mean+ unmi/akable4 ,= h] own sake & t ( h] suitor1 if %e really desires ! suit end$ h] d5ial %\ld be positive1 yet k9d & dignifi$1 & ( a "* to let no d\bt rema9 ( its be+ f9al4 ,,trifl+ ,,) ,a ,,lady4 ,a man %\ld nev] make a decl>ation 9 a je/+ mann]4 ,x is mo/ unfair to a lady4 ,he has no "r to trifle ) h] feel+s = m]e sport1 nor has he a "r to hide 8 own mean+ "u ! guise ( a je/4 ,a ,,d\btful ,,answ]4 ,no?+ c be m unfair or m unju/ifiable ?an a d\btful answ] giv5 "u ! plea ( sp>+ ! suitor's feel+s4 ,x raises false hopes4 ,x r5d]s a man re/less & unsettl$4 ,x may cause him to express himself or to %ape 8 conduct 9 su* a mann] z he w\ld n dream ( do+ 7 8 suit utt]ly hopeless4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,treat ,a ,,refusal4 ,z a woman is n b\nd to accept ! fir/ (f] t is made to h]1 s no s5sible man w ?9k ! worse ( h]1 nor feel himself p]sonally injur$ by a refusal4 ,t x w give him pa9 is mo/ probable4 ,a scornful no or a simp]+ promise to ?9k ab\t x is ! rev]se ( g5]\s4 ,9 refus+1 ! lady ought to convey h] full s5se ( ! high honor int5d$ h] by ! g5tleman1 & to add1 s]i\sly b n (f5sively1 t x is n 9 accordance ) h] incl9ation1 or t circum/ances compel h] to give an unfavorable answ]4 ,,unladylike ,,conduct ,,t[>d ,a ,,suitor4 ,x is only ! contemptible flirt t keeps an honorable man 9 susp5se = ! purpose ( glorify+ h]self by 8 att5tions 9 ! eyes ( fri5ds4 ,nor w\ld any b a frivol\s or vici\s girl boa/ ( ! (f] %e _h receiv$ & reject$4 ,su* an (f] is a privileg$ communication4 ,! secret ( x %\ld be held sacr$4 ,no true lady w ev] divulge to anyone1 unless x may be to h] "m1 ! fact ( su* an (f]4 ,x is ! sev]e/ brea* ( honor to d s4 ,a lady :o has once be5 guilty ( boa/+ ( an (f] %\ld nev] h a second opportunity = ?us boa/+4 ,no true-he>t$ woman c ent]ta9 any o!r feel+ ?an t ( commis]ation = ! man ov] ^: happ9ess %e has be5 compell$ to ?r[ a cl\d1 :ile ! idea ( triumph+ 9 8 di/ress1 or abus+ 8 confid5ce1 mu/ be inexpressibly pa9ful to h]4 ,,! ,,reject$ ,,suitor4 ,! duty ( ! reject$ suitor is q cle>4 ,etiquette dem&s t he %all accept ! lady's decision z f9al & retire f ! field4 ,he has no "r to dem& ! reason ( h] refusal4 ,if %e assign x1 he is b\nd to respect h] secret1 if x is "o1 & to hold x inviolable4 ,to p]si/ 9 urg+ 8 suit or to foll[ up ! lady ) m>k$ att5tions w\ld be 9 ! wor/ possible ta/e4 ,! prop] c\rse is to )draw z mu* z possible1 f ! circles 9 :i* %e moves1 s t %e may be sp>$ rem9isc5ces :i* _c be o!rwise ?an pa9ful4 ,,pres5ts ,,aft] ,,engagem5t4 ,:5 a c\ple become engag$1 ! g5tleman pres5ts ! lady ) a r+1 :i* is worn on ! r+-f+] ( ! "r h&4 ,he may also make h] o!r small pres5ts f "t to "t1 until !y are m>ri$1 b if %e has any scruples ab\t accept+ !m1 he c s5d h] fl[]s1 :i* are at all times acceptable4 ,,conduct ,,( ,,! ,,fiancee4 ,! conduct ( ! fiancee %\ld be t5d]1 assidu\s & unobtrusive4 ,he w be k9d & polite to ! si/]s ( 8 betro!d & fri5dly ) h] bro!rs4 ,yet he mu/ n be 9 any way unduly famili> or =ce himself into family confid5ces on ! gr\nd t he is to be reg>d$ z a memb] ( ! family4 ,let ! advance come r f !m to him1 & let him %[ a due appreciation ( any confid5ces :i* !y may be pleas$ to be/[ ^u him4 ,! family ( ! "y man %\ld make ! fir/ advances t[>d an acqua9tance ) 8 future wife4 ,!y %\ld call ^u h] or write to h]1 & !y may ) p]fect propriety invite h] to visit !m 9 ord] t !y may become acqua9t$4 ,,! ,,position ,,( ,,an ,,engag$ ,,woman4 ,an engag$ woman %\ld es*ew all flirtations1 ?\gh x does n foll[ t %e is to cut h]self (f f all association ) ! o!r sex because %e has *os5 h] future husb&4 ,%e may /ill h fri5ds & acqua9tances1 %e may /ill receive visits & calls1 b %e mu/ try to conduct h]self 9 su* a mann] z to give no (f5se4 ,,position ,,( ,,an ,,engag$ ,,man4 ,! same rules may be laid d[n 9 reg>d to ! o!r p>ty to ! contract1 only t he pays visits in/ead ( receiv+ !m4 ,nei!r %\ld assume a ma/]ful or jeal\s altitude t[>d ! o!r4 ,!y are nei!r ( !m to be %ut up away f ! re/ ( ! _w1 b mu/ m+le 9 society aft] m>riage ne>ly ! same z be=e1 & take ! same delight 9 fri5d%ip4 ,! fact t !y h confess$ _! love = ea* o!r1 ought to be deem$ a suffici5t gu>antee ( fai?fulness2 = ! re/ let !re be tru/ & confid5ce4 ,,! ,,relations ,,( ,,an ,,engag$ ,,c\ple4 ,a "y man has no "r to put a slight ^u 8 future bride by appe>+ 9 public ) o!r ladies :ile %e rema9s neglect$ at home4 ,he is 9 future h] legitimate escort4 ,he %\ld att5d no o!r lady :5 %e ne$s 8 s]vices2 %e %\ld accept no o!r escort :5 he is at lib]ty to att5d h]4 ,a lady %\ld n be too demon/rative ( h] affection dur+ ! days ( h] engagem5t4 ,!re is always ! *ance ( a slip 'twixt ! cup & ! lip2 & ov]-demon/rations ( love are n pleasant to be rememb]$ by a "y lady1 if ! man to :om !y are giv5 by any *ance fails to become h] husb&4 ,an honorable man w nev] tempt 8 future bride to any su* demon/ration4 ,he w always ma9ta9 a respectful & decor\s demeanor t[>d h]4 ,no "y man :o w\ld %r9k f be+ guilty ( a great impropriety1 %\ld ev] prolong 8 visits beyond t5 o'clock1 unless x be ! common cu/om ( ! family to rema9 up & to ent]ta9 visitors to a lat] h\r1 & ! visit paid is a family "o & n a tete-a-tete4 ,two h\rs is q long en\gh = a call2 & ! "y man w give evid5ce ( 8 affection no less ?an 8 consid]ation1 by mak+ 8 visits %ort1 &1 if ne$ be1 mak+ !m (t51 r ?an by prolong+ to unreasonable h\rs4 ,,lov]s' ,,disputes4 ,nei!r p>ty %\ld try to make ! o!r jeal\s = ! purpose ( te/+ 8 or h] affection4 ,su* a c\rse is contemptible2 & if ! affections ( ! o!r are p]man5tly lo/ by x1 ! (f5d+ p>ty is only ga9+ 8 or h] j des]ts4 ,nei!r %\ld !re be provocation to little qu>rels = ! fooli% delight ( reconciliation4 ,no lov] w assume a dom9e]+ attitude ov] 8 future wife4 ,if he does s1 %e w d well to escape f 8 ?rall be=e %e becomes 8 wife 9 reality4 ,a dom9e]+ lov] w be c]ta9 to be m dom9e]+ z a husb&4 ,,break+ ,,an ,,engagem5t4 ,sometimes x is necess>y to break (f an engagem5t4 ,_m circum/ances w ju/ify ?is4 ,inde$ any?+ :i* may occur or be discov]$ :i* %all promise to r5d] ! m>riage an unsuitable or unhappy "o is1 & %\ld be accept$ z1 ju/ification = su* rupture4 ,/ill1 break+ an engagem5t is always a s]i\s & di/ress+ ?+1 & ought n to be contemplat$ )\t absolute & j reasons4 ,x is g5]ally be/ to break an engagem5t by lett]4 ,by ?is means "o c express himself or h]self m cle>ly1 & give ! true reason = 8 or h] c\rse mu* bett] ?an 9 a p]sonal int]view4 ,! lett] break+ ! engagem5t %\ld be accompani$ by ev]y?+1 9 ! way ( portraits1 lett]s or gifts1 t has be5 receiv$ dur+ ! engagem5t4 ,su* lett]s %\ld be ackn[l$g$ 9 a dignifi$ mann]1 & no ef=ts %\ld be made or measures be tak5 to *ange ! decision ( ! writ]1 unless x is manife/ t he or %e is greatly mi/ak5 9 8 or h] premises4 ,a simil> return ( lett]s1 portraits & gifts %\ld be made4 ,_m m51 9 tak+ retrospective glances1 rememb] h[ !y 7 devot$ to wom51 ! memory ( :om calls up only a vague sort ( wond] h[ !y ev] c\ld h fall5 into ! /ate ( infatuation 9 :i* !y once 74 ,! same may be said ( _m wom54 ,he>t-break+ sep>ations h tak5 place betwe5 "y m5 & "y wom5 :o h le>n$ t ! /+ ( p>t+ does n la/ =ev]4 ,! he>t1 lac]at$ by a hopeless or misplac$ atta*m5t1 :5 sev]$ f ! cause ( its woe1 gradually heals & prep>es itself to receive fre% w\nds1 = affection requires ei!r a con/ant contemplation (1 or int]c\rse1 ) its object1 to keep x alive4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xvii4 ,etiquette ( ,w$d+s4 ,! circum/ances "u :i* w$d+s take place are s v>i$1 & ! religi\s =ms obs]v$ 9 _! solemnization s num]\s1 t to lay d[n rules applicable to all cases w\ld be a matt] ( great difficulty1 if n an impossibility4 ,consequ5tly only ^? =ms ( m>riage att5d$ ) ! fulle/ c]emonies1 & all ! att5dant c]emonials w "h be giv51 & o!rs may be model$ aft] !m z ! occasion may seem to require4 ,aft] ! m>riage invitations are issu$1 ! fiancee does n appe> 9 public4 ,x is also de rigueur at morn+ w$d+s1 t %e does n see ! bridegroom on ! w$d+-day1 until !y meet at ! alt>4 ,,! ,,bridemaids ,,& ,,groomsm54 ,only relatives & ! mo/ intimate fri5ds are ask$ to be bridemaids--! si/]s ( ! bride & ( ! bridegroom1 :]e x is possible4 ,! bridegroom *ooses 8 be/ man & ! groomsm5 & u%]s f 8 circle ( relatives & fri5ds ( 8 own age1 & f ! relatives ( 8 fiancee ( a suitable age4 ,! dresses ( ! bridemaids are n giv5 unless _! circum/ances are su* z to make x necess>y4 ,,! ,,bridal ,,co/ume4 ,! mo/ approv$ bridal co/ume = "y brides is ( :ite silk1 high corsage1 a long wide veil ( :ite tulle1 rea*+ to ! feet1 & a wrea? ( maid5-blu% roses ) orange blossoms4 ,! roses %e c cont9ue to we>1 b ! orange blossoms are only suitable = ! c]emony4 ,,co/umes ,,( ,,! ,,bridegroom ,,& ,,u%]s4 ,! bridegroom & u%]s1 at a morn+ w$d+1 we> full morn+ dress1 d>k blue or black frock coats1 or cut-aways1 light neckties1 & light tr\s]s4 ,! bridegroom we>s :ite gloves4 ,! u%]s we> gloves ( "s delicate color4 ,,pres5ts ,,( ,,! ,,bride ,,& ,,bridegroom4 ,:]e ! bride makes pres5ts to ! bridemaids on h] w$d+-day1 !y g5]ally consi/ ( "s articles ( jewelry1 n co/ly1 & giv5 m z a mem5to ( ! occasion ?an = _! own intr9sic wor?4 ,! bridegroom sometimes gives ! groomsm5 a sc>f p9 ( "s qua9t device1 or "s o!r slight mem5to ( ! day1 z a slight ackn[l$gm5t ( _! s]vices4 ,,c]emonials ,,:5 ,,!re ,,are ,,no ,,u%]s ,,or ,,bridemaids4 ,:5 !re are no bridemaids or u%]s ! m>riage c]emonials at ! *ur* are z foll[s3 ,! memb]s ( ! bride's family proce$ to ! *ur* be=e ! bride1 :o foll[s ) h] "m4 ,! bridegroom awaits !m at ! *ur* & gives 8 arm to ! bride's "m4 ,!y walk up ! aisle to ! alt>1 ! "m fall+ back to h] position on ! left4 ,! fa!r1 or relative repres5t+ him1 conducts ! bride to ! bridegroom1 :o /&s at ! alt> ) 8 face turn$ t[>d h] z %e approa*es1 & ! fa!r falls back to ! left4 ,! relatives foll[1 tak+ _! places /&+2 ^? ( ! bride to ! left1 ^? ( ! groom to ! "r4 ,aft] kneel+ at ! alt> = a mom5t1 ! bride1 /&+ on ! left ( ! bridegroom1 takes ! glove (f f h] left h&1 :ile he takes ! glove (f f 8 "r h&4 ,! s]vice !n beg9s4 ,! fa!r ( ! bride gives h] away by b[+ :5 ! "q is ask$1 :i* is a mu* simpl] =m ?an /epp+ =w>d & plac+ 8 daught]'s h& 9 t ( ! cl]gyman4 ,p]fect self-control %\ld be exhibit$ by all p>ties dur+ ! c]emony4 ,! bride leaves ! alt>1 tak+ ! bridegroom's "r arm1 & !y pass d[n ! aisle )\t look+ to ! "r or left4 ,x is consid]$ v bad =m to recognize acqua9tances by b[s & smiles :ile 9 ! *ur*4 ,! bride & bridegroom drive away 9 _! own c>riage1 ! re/ foll[+ 9 _! c>riages4 ,,invitations ,,to ,,! ,,c]emony ,,only4 ,:5 ! circle ( fri5ds on bo? sides is v ext5sive1 x has become cu/om>y ( late to s5d invitations to su* z are n call$ to ! w$d+ breakfa/1 to att5d ! c]emony at *ur*4 ,?is /&s 9 ! place ( issu+ c>ds4 ,no "o mu/ ?9k ( call+ on ! newly m>ri$ c\ple :o has n receiv$ an invitation to ! c]emony at *ur*1 or c>ds aft] _! e/abli%m5t 9 _! new home4 ,,! ,,late/ ,,c]emonials4 ,! late/ ,new ,york =m = conduct+ ! m>riage c]emony is sub/antially z foll[s3 ,:5 ! bridal p>ty has arrang$ itself = entrance1 ! u%]s1 9 pairs m>* sl[ly up to ! alt> & turn to ! "r4 ,beh9d !m foll[s ! groom alone4 ,:5 he rea*es ! alt> he turns1 faces ! aisle1 & wat*es int5tly = ! com+ ( 8 bride4 ,aft] a slight int]val ! bridemaids foll[1 9 pairs1 & at ! alt> turn to ! left4 ,aft] ano!r brief int]val1 ! bride1 alone & entirely veil$1 ) h] eyes ca/ d[n1 foll[s h] companions4 ,! groom comes =w>d a few /eps to meet h]1 takes h] h&1 & places h] at ! alt>4 ,bo? kneel = a mom5t's sil5t devotion4 ,! p>5ts ( ! bride1 hav+ foll[$ h]1 /& j beh9d h] & p>tly to ! left4 ,! s]vices by ! cl]gyman n[ proce$ z usual4 ,:ile ! bride & bridegroom are pass+ out ( ! *ur*1 ! bridemaids foll[ sl[ly1 ea* ^u ! arm ( an u%]1 & !y aft]w>d ha/5 on z spe$ily z possible to welcome ! bride at h] own door1 & to arrange !mselves ab\t ! bride & groom 9 ! reception room1 half ( ! ladies ^u h] side & half ^u 8--! fir/ bridemaid reta9+ ! place ( honor4 ,,! ,,u%]s' ,,duties4 ,! u%]s at ! door ( ! reception room (f] !mselves z escorts to p>ties1 :o arrive sl[ly f ! *ur*1 conduct+ !m to ! bridal p>ty1 & !re pres5t+ !m by "n4 ,?is ann\ncem5t becomes necess>y :5 two families & two sets ( fri5ds are br\ght toge!r = ! fir/ "t4 ,if ladies are pres5t )\t g5tlem51 ! u%]s accompany !m to ! breakfa/ or refre%m5t room1 or provide !m ) att5dants4 ,at ! *ur* ! u%]s are ! fir/ to arrive4 ,!y /& by ! inn] entrance & (f] _! arms to escort ! ladies1 z !y ent]1 to _! prop] seats 9 ! *ur*4 ,if a lady be accompani$ by a g5tleman1 ! latt] foll[s ! u%] & ! lady to ! seat %[n h]4 ,! u%]s1 kn[+ ! two families1 und]/& :]e to place ! ne>]1 & :]e ! remot] relatives & fri5ds ( ! bridal p>ty1 ! groom's fri5ds be+ arrang$ ^u ! "r ( ! entrance1 & ! bride's ^u ! left4 ,! di/ribution ( gue/s places ! fa!r 7or gu>dian7 ( ! bride at ! prop] place dur+ ! c]emony4 ,,ano!r ,,=m ,,( ,,*ur* ,,c]emonials4 ,! c]emonials = ! entry to ! *ur* by ! bridal p>ty may be v>i$ to suit ! ta/e4 ,prec$5ts = ! /yle already describ$ are f\nd among ! highe/ social circles 9 ,new ,york & o!r l>ge cities1 b !re are brides :o pref] ! fa%ion ( _! gr&mo!rs1 :i* is almo/ /rictly an ,am]ican fa%ion4 ,9 ?is /yle1 ! bridemaids1 ea* lean+ ^u ! arm ( a groomsman1 fir/ pass up ! aisle to ! alt>1 ! ladies go+ to _! left1 & ! g5tlem5 to _! "r4 ,! groom foll[s ) ! bride's "m1 or "s "o to repres5t h]1 lean+ on 8 arm1 :om he seats 9 a front pew at ! left4 ,! bride foll[s1 cl++ to ! arm ( h] fa!r 7or ne> relative71 :o leads h] to ! groom4 ,! fa!r waits at h] left & a /ep or two back ( h]1 until ask$ to give h] away1 :i* he does by tak+ h] "r h& & plac+ x 9 t ( ! cl]gyman4 ,aft] ?is he jo9s ! "m ( ! bride 9 ! front pew1 & becomes h] escort :ile !y pass out ( ! *ur*4 ,9 case !re are no bridemaids1 ! u%]s walk into *ur* 9 pairs1 j 9 advance ( ! groom1 & p>t+ at ! alt>1 half ( !m /& at "o side & half at ! o!r4 ,:ile ! cl]gyman is congratulat+ ! bride1 !y pass out 9 pairs1 a little 9 advance ( ! w$d$ c\ple4 ,,w$d+s ,,at ,,home4 ,w$d+s at home v>y b little f ^? at *ur*4 ,! music1 ! assembl+ ( fri5ds1 ! entree ( ! bridal p>ty to ! position select$1 are ! same4 ,an alt> ( fl[]s1 & a place ( kneel+ c be easily arrang$ at home4 ,! space beh9d ! alt> ne$ be no wid] ?an is all[$ = ! cl]gyman to /&4 ,! alt> is g5]ally only a f5d] or rail+ entirely w\nd & conceal$ by gre5]y or blossoms4 ,o!r floral accessories1 su* z ! m>riage-bell1 horse%oe1 or :ite dove1 etc41 c be arrang$ ) ease by a skillful flori/1 if desir$4 ,:5 ! m>riage c]emony is conclud$1 ! p>ty turn 9 _! places & face _! fri5ds1 :o proce$ to congratulate !m4 ,if space be requir$1 ! kneel+ /ool & floral alt> may be remov$1 a little lat]1 )\t obs]vation4 ,,! ,,ev5+ ,,w$d+4 ,if ! w$d+ occur 9 ! ev5+1 ! only diff]5ce 9 ! c]emonials f ^? 9 ! morn+ is t ! u%]s or groomsm5 we> full ev5+ dress1 & ! bridal pair retire quietly to dress = _! j\rney be=e ! danc+ p>ty disp]ses1 & ?us leave unobs]v$4 ,at ! morn+ w$d+ only bridemaids1 u%]s & relatives rema9 to witness ! dep>ture ( ! pair4 ,,at ,,home ,,receptions4 ,:5 ! newly m>ri$ c\ple comm5ce life 9 a home ( _! own1 x is cu/om>y to issue at home c>ds = a few ev5+s1 at an e>ly date aft] ! w$d+1 = in=mal receptions4 ,only su* p]sons are invit$ z ! "y c\ple *oose to keep z fri5ds1 or p]haps only ^? :om !y c af=d to reta94 ,?is is a suitable opportunity to c>efully re-arrange "o's social li/1 & _! li/ ( old acqua9tances may be sift$ at ! "t ( ! beg9n+ ( h\sekeep+4 ,?is cu/om ( arrang+ a fre% li/ is admitt$ z a social necessity1 & nobody is (f5d$4 ,,calls4 ,all gue/s & fri5ds :o receive at home invitations1 or :o are invit$ to ! *ur*1 are requir$ by etiquette to call ^u ! family ( ! bride1 or to leave _! c>ds1 )9 t5 days aft] ! w$d+4 ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,r+4 ,all *ur*es at pres5t use ! r+1 & v>y ! s5tim5t ( its adoption to suit ! cu/oms & ideas ( _! own rites4 ,a jewel$ r+ has be5 = _m ye>s ! sign & symbol ( betro?al1 b at pres5t a pla9 gold circlet1 ) ! date ( ! engagem5t inscrib$ )91 is g5]ally pref]r$4 ,! r+ is remov$ by ! groom at ! alt>1 pass$ to ! cl]gyman & us$ 9 ! c]emony4 ,a jewel$ r+ is plac$ ^u h] h& by ! groom on ! way home f ! *ur*1 or z soon aft] ! s]vice z is conv5i5t4 ,x /&s gu>d ov] its preci\s fell[1 & is a confirmation ( ! fir/ promise4 ,,! ,,m>riage ,,c]emonials ,,( ,a ,,wid[4 ,! m>riage c]emonials ( a wid[ diff] f t ( a "y lady 9 n we>+ ! veil & orange blossoms4 ,%e may be co/um$ 9 :ite & h h] maids at ! alt> if %e pleases4 ,?is lib]ty1 h[ev]1 has only be5 giv5 h] )9 a few ye>s4 ,on h] w$d+ c>ds ( invitation1 h] maid5 "n is us$ z a "p ( h] prop] "n2 :i* is done 9 respect to h] p>5ts4 ,hav+ dropp$ ! initials ( h] dead husb&'s "n :5 %e laid aside h] m\rn+1 %e uses h] ,*ri/ian "n4 ,if %e has sons or unm>ri$ daught]s at ! "t %e becomes aga9 a wife1 %e may prefix ! la/ "n ( h] *ildr5 to h] new "o on all c]emoni\s occasions 9 :i* !y are int]e/$ 9 common ) h]self4 ,?is respect is really due !m1 & etiquette p]mits x1 al?\gh our social usages d n comm& its adoption4 ,! =malities :i* foll[ ! m>riage ( a wid[ c seldom be regulat$ 9 ! same mann] z ^? ( a y\ng] bride4 ,no fix$ =ms c be arrang$ = ent]ta9m5ts1 :i* mu/ be controll$ by circum/ances4 ,,invitations4 ,w$d+ invitations %\ld be h&somely engrav$ 9 script4 ,nei!r ,old ,engli% nor ,g]man text are admissible 9 invitations4 ,! foll[+ is giv5 z ! late/ =m = invitations3 ,illu/ration3 ,mr4 ,mrs4 ,!odore ,gross] reque/ y\r pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught]1 ,miss ,felicia ,gross] to ,mr4 ,julius ,c4 ,=sy?1 on ,w$nesday1 ,septemb] #e?1 at #ab o'clock4 ,/4 ,luke's ,*ur*1 ,cass ,av5ue4 ,?is invitation requires no answ]4 ,fri5ds liv+ 9 o!r t[ns & cities receiv+ x1 inclose _! c>ds1 & s5d by mail4 ,resid5ts call on ! family )9 ! prescrib$ "t1 or z soon aft] z possible4 ,! invitation to ! w$d+ breakfa/ is enclos$ 9 ! same envelope1 g5]ally convey$ on a squ>e c>d1 ! same size z ! %eet ( note pap] :i* be>s ! invitation = ! c]emony aft] x has be5 once fold$ across ! middle4 ,! foll[+ is "o ( ! adopt$ =ms3 ,illu/ration3 ,at ,home1 ,w$nesday1 ,septemb] #e?1 f #ab until #c o'clock4 #bj ,ma9 ,av5ue4 ,! sep>ate c>ds ( ! bride & groom are no long] necess>y4 ,! c>d ( admission to ! *ur* is n>r[]1 & is pla9ly engrav$ 9 l>ge script1 z foll[s3 ,illu/ration3 ,/4 ,luke's ,*ur*1 ,c]emony at #ab o'clock4 ,g5]ally only half an h\r int]v5es betwe5 ! c]emony & ! reception4 ,,duties ,,( ,,^? ,,invit$4 ,p :o receive ,at ,home w$d+ invitations1 are expect$ to ackn[l$ge !m z soon z receiv$1 & nev] fail to accept1 unless = "s v good reason4 ,gue/s invit$ to ! h\se1 or to a m>riage fea/ foll[+ ! c]emony1 %\ld n feel at lib]ty to decl9e f any :im or caprice4 ,,requirem5ts ,,( ,,! ,,bridemaids ,,& ,,u%]s4 ,bridesmaids & u%]s %\ld all[ no?+ b illness or "s unavoidable accid5t to prev5t !m f (ficiat+1 ?us %[+ _! appreciation ( ! fri5d%ip :i* has caus$ _! selection to ?is honor$ position4 ,if by reason ( sudd5 affliction1 "s "o ( ! bridemaids or u%]s is prev5t$ f att5d+1 a sub/itute %\ld1 if possible1 be provid$ imm$iately4 ,! reasons = ?is1 h[ev]1 %\ld be well und]/ood1 t no opportunity may be giv5 = un*>itable comm5ts4 ,,bridal ,,pres5ts4 ,:5 bridal pres5ts are giv51 !y are s5t to ! bride previ\s to ! day ( ! m>riage c]emony4 ,z ! univ]sal bridal pres5t has fall5 into disuse1 ?is cu/om is n n[ consid]$ obligatory1 & if imm$iate fri5ds & relatives desire to make pres5ts1 x %\ld be spontane\s1 & 9 no s5se consid]$ obligatory4 ,^! pres5ts are n put on exhibition z =m]ly1 b are ackn[l$g$ by ! bride 9 a private note to ! donor4 ,x is n n[ consid]$ 9 good =m to talk ab\t ^! contributions4 ,,arrangem5ts ,,= ,,! ,,c]emonies4 ,9 w$d+s at *ur*es a ma/] ( c]emonies is (t5 provid$1 :o is expect$ to be at ! *ur* z soon z ! doors are op5$4 ,he arranges be=eh& = ! spread+ ( a c>pet f ! *ur* door to ! pavem5t1 & if ! wea!r be inclem5t1 he sees t an awn+ is also spread4 ,he also sees t a :ite ribbon is /ret*$ across ! ma9 aisle ( ! *ur*1 f> en\gh back f ! alt> to af=d suffici5t room = all invit$ gue/s to occupy ! front pews ( ! ma9 aisle4 ,sometimes an ar* ( fl[]s ext5ds ov] ! aisle1 s z to divide ^? :o come 9 w$d+ g>m5ts1 f ^? :o d n4 ,! organi/ %\ld be e>ly at 8 po/1 & is expect$ to play dur+ ! arrival ( gue/s4 ,! ord] ( ! religi\s "p ( ! m>riage c]emony is fix$ by ! *ur* 9 :i* x occurs4 ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,fees4 ,!re is no prescrib$ fee = p]=m+ ! m>riage c]emony4 ,x is regulat$ accord+ to ! means & lib]ality ( ! bridegroom1 b no less am\nt ?an five doll>s %\ld be giv5 "u any circum/ances4 ,,! ,,congratulations4 ,at w$d+ receptions1 fri5ds :o congratulate ! newly m>ri$ c\ple %\ld address ! bride fir/1 if !y h any previ\s acqua9tance ) h]1 !n ! bridegroom1 !n ! bridemaids1 & aft] t ! p>5ts & family ( ! bride & groom4 ,!y %\ld give _! good wi%es to ! bride & congratulate ! bridegroom4 ,if !y are acqua9t$ ) ! bridegroom & n ) ! bride1 let !m address him fir/ & he w introduce !m to 8 bride4 ,,! ,,bridal ,,t\r4 ,! honeymoon ( repose1 exempt f all claims ( society1 is n[ prescrib$ by ! dictates ( common s5se & fa%ion1 & ! same arbit]s unite 9 condemn+ ! h>rass+ bridal t\r4 ,x is no long] de rigueur to ma9ta9 any secrecy z to _! plans = travel+1 :5 a newly m>ri$ c\ple dep>t ^u a t\r4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xviii4 ,home ,life & ,etiquette4 ,home is ! woman's k+dom1 & !re %e reigns supreme4 ,to embelli% t home1 to make happy ! lives ( h] husb& & ! de> ones committ$ to h] tru/1 is ! honor$ task :i* x is ! wife's prov9ce to p]=m4 ,all praise be to h] :o s rules & gov]ns 9 t k+dom1 t ^? re>$ b5ea? h] ro( %all rise up & call h] bless$4 ,a ,,home4 ,aft] m>riage "o ( ! fir/ requirem5ts = happ9ess is a home4 ,?is c seldom be f\nd 9 a bo>d+ h\se or at a hotel1 & n always b5ea? ! p>5tal ro( ( ei!r husb& or wife4 ,x w (t5e/ be f\nd 9 a h\se or ev5 a cottage ap>t f ! imm$iate association ( relatives or fri5ds1 acqua9tances or /rang]s1 & "h husb& & wife may beg9 9 reality1 t new life ( :i* !y h _h fond dreams2 & ^u _! own actions mu/ dep5d _! future welf>e4 ,,home ,,companion%ip4 ,illu/ration ,husb& & wife %\ld rememb]1 :5 />t+ out ^u _! newly w$d$ life1 t !y are to be life companions1 t ! affection !y h possess$ & express$ z lov]s mu/ rip5 into a life-long devotion to "o ano!r's welf>e & happ9ess1 t ! close/ fri5d%ip mu/ be begott5 f _! e>ly love1 & t ea* mu/ live & "w = ! o!r4 ,!y mu/ seek to be cong5ial companions to ea* o!r1 s t e h\r !y pass toge!r w be mutually enjoyable4 ,!y %\ld aim to h ! same ta/es s t :at "o enjoys w be alike enjoyable to ! o!r1 & :at is di/a/eful to "o %all be no less s to ! o!r4 ,ea* %\ld yield 9 matt]s :]e x is "r to yield1 & be firm only :]e duty is conc]n$4 ,) a firm tru/ 9 "o ano!r !y %\ld ev] abide1 t ea* may say to ! _w1 ,i possess "o on ^: "* & he>t ,i c lean z ^u a rock4 ,,conduct ,,( ,,husb& ,,& ,,wife4 ,let nei!r ev] deceive ! o!r1 or d any?+ to %ake ! o!r's confid5ce1 = once deceiv$1 ! he>t c nev] :olly tru/ aga94 ,fault-f9d+ %\ld only be done by g5tle & mild criticism1 & !n ) lov+ words & pleasant looks4 ,make all[ances = "o ano!r's weaknesses1 & at ! same "t endeavor to mutually repress !m4 ,= ! sake ( mutual improvem5t ! husb& & wife %\ld receive & give corrections to "o ano!r 9 a _s ( k9dness1 & 9 do+ s !y w prep>e !mselves = ! "w ,god gives ! p>5ts ( tra9+ lives = usefulness "h & h]eaft]4 ,_! motto %\ld be fai?ful unto dea? 9 all ?+s1 & !y mu/ ex]cise =be>ance ) ea* o!r's peculi>ities4 ,let bo? pres]ve a /rict gu>d ov] _! tongues1 t nei!r may utt] any?+ rude1 contemptu\s or sev]e1 & gu>d _! temp]s1 t nei!r may ev] gr[ passionate or become sull5 or morose 9 "o ano!r's pres5ce4 ,!y %\ld n expect too mu* f ea* o!r2 if ei!r (f5ds1 x is ! "p ( ! o!r to =give1 rememb]+ t no "o is free f faults1 & t we are all con/antly err+4 ,if1 p]*ance1 aft] !y h ent]$ ^u ! /]n realities ( life1 !y f9d1 t !y h made a mi/ake1 t !y are n well mat$1 !n !y mu/ accept ! inevitable & endure to ! end1 = bett] or = worse2 = only 9 ?is way c !y f9d consolation = hav+ f\nd out1 :5 too late1 t !y 7 unfitt$ = a life-long companion%ip4 ,a j\rnali/ has said3 ,no lessons le>n$ by exp]i5ce1 h[ev] %>ply taught & sadly e>n$1 c enlight5 ! numb$ s5ses :i* love has s5t to sleep by its magic fasc9ation2 & ?+s z pla9 z ! sun 9 heav5 to o!rs are d>k z night1 unfa?omable z ! sea1 to ^? :o let !mselves love be=e !y prove4 ,,duties ,,( ,,! ,,wife ,,to ,,h] ,,husb&4 ,! wife %\ld rememb] t ^u h]1 to ! greate/ ext5t1 devolves ! duty ( mak+ home happy4 ,%e %\ld d no?+ to make h] husb& feel uncom=table1 ei!r m5tally or physically1 b on ! o!r h& %e %\ld /rive to ! utmo/ ( h] ability to d :atev] is be/ calculat$ to please him1 cont9ually %[+ him t h] love1 plight$ ^u ! alt>1 rema9s /eadfa/1 & t no vicissitudes ( =tune c *ange or dim9i% x4 ,%e %\ld nev] indulge 9 fits ( temp]1 hy/]ics1 or o!r habits ( ill-bre$+1 :i*1 ?\gh easy to conqu] at fir/1 gr[ & /r5g!n ) indulg5ce1 if %e w\ld reta9 h] husb& z h] lov] & h] de>e/ & ne>e/ fri5d4 ,%e %\ld be equally z neat & tidy respect+ h] dress & p]sonal appe>ance at home z :5 %e appe>s 9 society1 & h] mann]s t[>ds h] husb& %\ld be z k9d & pleas+ :5 alone ) him z :5 9 company4 ,%e %\ld be> 9 m9d t to reta9 ! good op9ion ( h] husb& is wor? f> m ?an to ga9 ! good op9ion ( hundr$s ( ! devotees ( society1 & t z %e possesses ! love & confid5ce ( h] husb&1 s w %e receive ! respect & e/eem ( all 8 fri5ds4 ,%e %\ld be c>eful n to confide to ano!r any small misund]/&+s or petty qu>rels betwe5 h]self & husb&1 %\ld any occur4 ,?is is ! sure/ me?od ( wid5+ any brea* ( h>mony t may occur betwe5 husb& & wife1 = ! m su* misund]/&+s are talk$ ab\t1 & ! m advice %e receives f h] confidants1 !re is less probability t h>moni\s relations w be spe$ily resum$4 ,,! ,,wife ,a ,,helpmate4 ,a wife %\ld act op5ly & honorably 9 reg>d to money matt]s1 keep+ an exact acc\nt ( h] exp5ditures1 & c>efully gu>d+ aga9/ any extravagances2 & :ile h] husb& is indu/ri\sly at "w1 %e %\ld seek to enc\rage him1 by h] own frugality1 to be economical1 ?rifty1 ent]pris+ & prosp]\s 9 8 bus9ess1 t he may be bett] enabl$1 z ye>s g by & family c>es press m heavily on ea*1 to af=d all ! com=ts & p]haps "s ( ! luxuries ( a happy home4 ,no condition is hopeless :5 ! wife possesses firmness1 decision & economy1 & no outw>d prosp]ity c c\nt]act indol5ce1 folly & extravagance at home4 ,%e %\ld consult ! disposition & ta/es ( h] husb&1 & endeavor to lead him to high & noble ?\ghts1 l(ty aims1 & temporal com=t2 be ev] ready to welcome him home1 & 9 8 companion%ip draw 8 ?\ghts f bus9ess & lead him to ! enjoym5t ( home com=ts & happ9ess4 ,! influ5ce ( a good wife ov] h] husb& may be v great1 if %e ex]ts x 9 ! "r direction4 ,%e %\ld1 above all ?+s1 /udy to le>n ! disposition ( h] husb&1 & if1 p]*ance1 %e f9ds h]self unit$ to a man ( quick & viol5t temp]1 ! utmo/ discretion1 z well z p]fect equanimity on h] own "p is requir$1 = %e %\ld h su* p]fect control ov] h]self z to calm 8 p]turb$ spirits4 ,a ,,husb&',s ,,duties4 ,x mu/ n be suppos$ t x devolves ^u ! wife alone to make m>ri$ life & home happy4 ,%e mu/ be second$ 9 h] noble ef=ts by him :o took h] f h] own p>5tal fireside & k9d fri5ds1 to be 8 companion ?r\gh life's pilgrimage4 ,he has plac$ h] 9 a new home1 provid$ ) su* com=ts z 8 means p]mit1 & ! :ole curr5t ( bo? _! lives h be5 *ang$4 ,8 con/ant duty to 8 wife is to be ev] k9d & att5tive1 to love h] z he loves himself1 ev5 sacrific+ 8 own p]sonal com=t = h] happ9ess4 ,f 8 affection = h]1 !re %\ld gr[ out a fri5d%ip & fell[%ip1 su* z is possess$ = no o!r p]son4 ,8 ev5+s & sp>e mom5ts %\ld be devot$ to h]1 & ^! %\ld be us$ = _! intellectual1 moral & social advancem5t4 ,! c>es & anxieties ( bus9ess %\ld n exclude ! att5tions due to wife & family1 :ile he %\ld c>efully keep h] in=m$ ( ! condition ( 8 bus9ess affairs4 ,_m a wife is capable ( giv+ h] husb& important advice ab\t v>i\s details ( 8 bus9ess1 & if %e kn[s ! condition ( 8 pecuni>y affairs1 %e w be able to gov]n h] exp5ditures accord+ly4 ,x is ! husb&'s duty to jo9 ) 8 wife 9 all h] endeavors to in/ruct h] *ildr51 to def] all matt]s p]ta9+ to _! discipl9e to h]1 aid+ h] 9 ?is respect z %e requires x4 ,9 h\sehold matt]s ! wife rules pr$om9ant1 & he %\ld nev] int]f]e ) h] au?ority & gov]nm5t 9 ?is sph]e4 ,x is 8 duty & %\ld be 8 pleasure to accompany h] to *ur*1 to social ga!r+s1 to lectures & su* places ( ent]ta9m5t z !y bo? mutually enjoy & appreciate4 ,9 fact he ought n to att5d a social ga!r+ unless accompani$ by 8 wife1 nor g to an ev5+ ent]ta9m5t )\t h]4 ,if x is n a fit place = 8 wife to att5d1 nei!r is x fit = him4 ,:ile he %\ld give 8 wife 8 p]fect confid5ce 9 h] fai?fulness1 tru/+ implicitly to h] honor at all times & 9 all places1 he %\ld1 on 8 "p1 rema9 fai?ful & con/ant to h]1 & give h] no cause ( compla9t4 ,he %\ld pass by unnotic$ any disagreeable peculi>ities & mi/akes1 tak+ c>e at ! prop] "t1 & )\t giv+ (f5se1 to rem9d h] ( !m1 ) ! idea ( hav+ h] correct !m4 ,he %\ld nev] seek to break h] ( any disagreeable habits or peculi>ities %e may possess1 by ridicul+ !m4 ,he %\ld enc\rage h] 9 all h] s*emes = promot+ ! welf>e ( h] h\sehold1 or 9 laudable endeavors to promote ! happ9ess ( o!rs1 by engag+ 9 su* works ( b5evol5ce & *>ity z ! duties ( h] home w all[ h] to p]=m4 ,! husb&1 9 fact1 %\ld act t[>d 8 wife z becomes a p]fect g5tleman1 reg>d+ h] z ! be/ lady 9 ! l&1 to :om1 above all o!r e>?ly be+s1 he owes p>am\nt allegiance4 ,if he s endeavors to act1 8 good s5se & judgm5t w dictate to him ! _m little c\rtesies :i* are due h]1 & :i* e good wife _c fail to appreciate4 ,! obs]vance ( ! rules ( polit5ess are n[h]e m desirable ?an 9 ! dome/ic circle1 betwe5 husb& & wife1 p>5ts & *ildr54 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xix4 ,home ,tra9+4 ,our e>lie/ & be/ recollections are associat$ ) home4 ,!re ! fir/ lessons ( infancy are le>n$4 ,! "m's he>t is ! *ild's fir/ s*ool-room4 ,! p>5ts' examples are fir/ imitat$ by ! *ild1 ^: e>lie/ impressions are ga9$ f !m4 ,9 no way are evil habits m effectually propagat$ ?an by example1 & !re=e p>5ts %\ld be :at !y wi% _! *ildr5 to be4 ,,! ,,"m',s ,,influ5ce4 ,to ! "m belongs ! privilege ( plant+ 9 ! he>ts ( h] *ildr5 ^? se$s ( love1 :i*1 nurtur$ & fo/]$1 w be> ! fruit ( e>ne/ & useful lives4 ,x is %e :o mu/ fit !m to meet ! duties & em]g5cies ( life1 & 9 ?is "w ( tra9+ %e keeps h] he>t fre% & "y1 & !reby insures ! gr[? ( ^? p[]s ) :i* nature has end[$ h]4 ,z ! faculties ( man1 woman or *ild are br\ght into active ex]cise1 s d !y become /r5g!n$1 & ! "m1 9 do+ h] "w 9 ! tra9+ ( h] *ildr51 gr[s 9 wisdom1 9 k & 9 p[]1 ?us enabl+ h] ! bett] to p]=m h] duties4 ,,p>5ts ,,%\ld ,,set ,,good ,,examples4 ,z *ildr5 fir/ acquire k & habits f ! examples ( _! p>5ts1 ! latt] %\ld be circumspect 9 all _! actions1 mann]s & modes ( spee*4 ,if y wi% y\r *ildr5's faces illum9$ ) good humor1 cont5tm5t & satisfaction1 s t !y w be *e]ful1 joy\s & happy1 day by day1 !n mu/ y\r own c\nt5ance appe> illum9$ by ! sun%9e ( love4 ,k9d words1 k9d de$s & lov+ looks are true works ( *>ity1 & !y are ne$$ 9 our home circle4 ,nev] a te> b$ims ! eye1 ,t "t & pati5ce c n dry2 ,nev] a lip is curv$ ) pa91 ,t c n be kiss$ into smiles aga94 ,y\r *ildr5 w =m habits ( evil speak+ if !y he> y deal lightly ) ! reputation ( ano!r--if !y he> y sl&] or revile y\r neighbor4 ,if y wi% y\r *ild to %[ *>ity t[>d ! err+1 y mu/ set ! example by ! habitual ex]cise ( t virtue y\rself4 ,)\t ?is y\r tea*+ w be ( b little avail4 ,if y take pleasure 9 dwell+ ^u ! faults ( o!rs1 if y refuse to cov] ov] _! infirmities ) ! mantle ( *>ity1 y\r example w nullify y\r tea*+1 & y\r admonitions w be lo/4 ,,c\rtesies ,,9 ,,! ,,home ,,circle4 ,mo!rs %\ld e>ly tra9 _! *ildr5 to reg>d all ! c\rtesies ( life z scrupul\sly t[>d ea* o!r z to m]e acqua9tances & /rang]s4 ,?is is ! only way 9 :i* y c secure to !m ! daily enjoym5t ( a happy home4 ,:5 ! ext]nal =ms ( c\rtesy are disreg>d$ 9 ! family circle1 we are sure to f9d cont5tion & bick]+ p]petually recurr+4 ,rud5ess is a con/ant s\rce ( bick]+4 ,ea* w h 8 own way ( be+ rude1 & ea* w be angry at "s portion ( ! ill-bre$+ ( all ! re/1 ?us provok+ accusations & retorts4 ,:]e ! rule ( life is to d good & to make o!rs happy1 !re w be f\nd ! art ( secur+ a happy home4 ,x is said t !re is some?+ high] 9 polit5ess ?an ,*ri/ian morali/s h recogniz$4 ,9 its be/ =ms1 none b ! truly religi\s man c %[ x1 = x is ! sacrifice ( self 9 ! habitual matt]s ( life--always ! be/ te/ ( our pr9ciples--toge!r ) a respect = man z our bro!r1 "u ! same great de/9y4 ,,e>ly ,,moral ,,tra9+4 ,! true te/ ( ! success ( any education is its effici5cy 9 giv+ full use ( ! moral & intellectual faculties :]e) to meet ! duties & ! /ruggles ( life1 & n by ! v>iety ( k acquir$4 ,! developm5t ( ! p[]s ( ! m9d & its cultivation are ! "w ( a tea*]2 moral tra9+ is ! "w ( ! "m1 & comm5ces long be=e "o ^w ( precept c be und]/ood4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be e>ly taught to reg>d ! rights ( o!rs1 t !y may e>ly le>n ! rights :i* prop]ty conf]s & n ent]ta9 confus$ ideas ^u ?is subject4 ,,=mation ,,( ,,habits4 ,virtue is ! *ild ( good habits1 & ! =mation ( habits may be said to almo/ con/itute ! :ole "w ( education4 ,! "m c create habits :i* %all mold "* & enable ! m9d to ma9ta9 t habitual s5se ( duty :i* gives comm& ov] ! passions1 & p[] to fight temptation1 & :i* makes ob$i5ce to pr9ciple comp>atively easy1 "u mo/ circum/ances4 ,! social & dome/ic life are m>r$ by habits :i* h gr[n into a second nature4 ,x is n 9 an occasional act ( civility t ! *>m ( ei!r home or society consi/s1 b 9 cont9u$ practice ( c\rtesy & respect = ! rights & feel+s ( ^? ar\nd u4 ,:atev] may be ! precepts = a home1 ! practices ( ! fireside w give =m to ! habits4 ,p>5ts :o indulge 9 gossip1 sc&al1 sl&] & tale-tell+1 w re> *ildr5 possess+ ! same ta/es & det]iorat+ habits4 ,a p>5t's example outl9es ! *ild's "*4 ,x s9ks d[n deep into 8 he>t & influ5ces 8 :ole life = good or = evil4 ,a p>5t %\ld c>efully avoid speak+ evil ( o!rs1 & %\ld nev] exhibit faults requir+ ! mantle ( *>ity to cov]4 ,a p>5t's example %\ld be su* z to excite an abhorr5ce ( evil speak+1 ( tattl+ & ( un*>itable con/ruction ( ! motives ( o!rs4 ,let ! "m beg9 ! prop] tra9+ ( h] *ildr5 9 e>ly life & %e w be able to s mold _! *>act]s t n only w !y acquire ! habit ( bridl+ ! tongue1 b !y w le>n to avoid ! pres5ce ( ! sl&]] z !y d a deadly vip]4 ,,polit5ess ,,at ,,home4 ,g5u9e polit5ess is a great fo/]] ( dome/ic love1 & ^? :o are habitually poli%$ at home are ^? :o exhibit good mann]s :5 abroad4 ,:5 p>5ts receive any little att5tion f _! *ildr51 !y %\ld ?ank !m = x4 ,!y %\ld ask a favor only 9 a c\rte\s way2 nev] reply to que/ions 9 monosyllables1 or indulge 9 ! rud5ess ( pay+ no att5tion to a "q1 = su* an example w be surely foll[$ by ! *ildr54 ,p>5ts sometimes ?\ghtlessly all[ _! *ildr5 to =m habits ( disrespect 9 ! home circle1 :i* crop out 9 ! bad mann]s t are f\nd 9 society4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,reprove4 ,p>5ts %\ld nev] *eck expressions ( t5d]ness 9 _! *ildr51 nor humiliate !m be=e o!rs4 ,?is w n only cause suff]+ to little s5sitive he>ts1 b w t5d to h>d5 !m4 ,repro(1 if ne$$1 %\ld be adm9i/]$ to ea* *ild s+ly & alone4 ,,*e]fulness ,,at ,,! ,,table4 ,*ildr5 %\ld n be prohibit$ f laugh+ & talk+ at ! table4 ,joy\sness promotes ! circulation ( ! blood1 enliv5s & invigorates x1 & s5ds x to all p>ts ( ! sy/em1 c>ry+ ) x animation1 vigor & life4 ,controv]sy %\ld n be p]mitt$ at ! table1 nor %\ld any subjects :i* call =? political or religi\s diff]5ce4 ,e topic introduc$ %\ld be calculat$ to in/ruct1 int]e/ or amuse4 ,bus9ess matt]s1 pa/ disappo9tm5ts & mi%aps %\ld n be allud$ to1 nor %\ld bad news be spok5 ( at ! table1 nor = half an h\r be=e4 ,all conv]sation %\ld be ( joy\s & gladsome "*1 su* z w br+ out pleasant rem>ks & agreeable associations4 ,repro( %\ld nev] be adm9i/]$ at ! table1 ei!r to a *ild or to a s]vant2 no fault f\nd ) any?+1 & no unk9d ^w %\ld be spok54 ,if rem>ks are to be made ( abs5t ones1 !y %\ld be ( a k9d & *>itable nature4 ,?us w ! family table be ! c5t] ( pleasant memories 9 future ye>s1 :5 ! family %all h be5 scatt]$ f> & ne>1 & "s1 p]haps1 h be5 laid 9 _! f9al re/+-place4 ,,tra9 ,,*ildr5 ,,= ,,"s ,,occupation4 ,*ancellor ,k5t says3 ,)\t "s prep>ation made 9 y\? = ! sequel ( life1 *ildr5 ( all conditions w\ld probably become idle & vici\s :5 !y gr[ up1 f want ( good in/ruction & habits1 & ! means ( subsi/5ce1 or f want ( rational & useful occupations4 ,a p>5t :o s5ds 8 son into ! _w )\t educat+ him 9 "s art1 sci5ce1 pr(ession or bus9ess1 does great injury to mank9d1 z well z to 8 son & 8 own family1 = he defrauds ! community ( a useful citiz51 & bequea?s to x a nuisance4 ,t p>5t :o tra9s 8 *ild = "s special occupation1 :o inspires him ) a feel+ ( g5u9e self-respect1 has contribut$ a useful citiz5 to society4 ,,bad ,,temp]4 ,dread an insubord9ate temp]1 & deal ) x z "o ( ! greate/ evils4 ,let ! *ild feel by y\r mann] t he is n a safe companion = ! re/ ( ! family :5 he is 9 ang]4 ,all[ no "o to speak to him at su* times1 n ev5 to answ] a "q4 ,take f him books1 & :atev] he may h1 & place him :]e he %all feel t ! indulg5ce ( a bad temp] %all deprive him ( all enjoym5t1 & he w soon le>n to control himself4 ,,selfi%ness4 ,selfi%ness t b9ds ! mis] 9 8 *a9s1 t *ills ! he>t1 mu/ nev] be all[$ a place 9 ! family circle4 ,tea* ! *ild to %>e 8 gifts & pleasures ) o!rs1 to be oblig+1 k9d & b5evol5t1 & ! influ5ce ( su* in/ruction may come back into y\r own bosom1 to bless y\r late/ h\rs4 ,,home ,,maxims ,,= ,,tra9+ ,,*ildr54 ,rememb] t *ildr5 are m5 & wom5 9 m9iature1 & ?\gh !y %\ld be all[$ to act z *ildr51 /ill our deal+s ) !m %\ld be manly & n morose4 ,rememb] also t e ^w1 tone & ge/ure1 nay1 ev5 y\r dress1 makes an impression4 ,nev] correct a *ild on suspicion1 or )\t und]/&+ ! :ole matt]1 nor trifle ) a *ild's feel+s :5 "u discipl9e4 ,be always mild & *e]ful 9 _! pres5ce1 communicative1 b nev] extravagant1 trifl+ or vulg> 9 language or ge/ure4 ,nev] trifle ) a *ild nor speak besee*+ly :5 x is do+ wrong4 ,always foll[ comm&s ) a close & c>eful wat*1 until ! ?+ is done1 all[+ no evasion & no modification1 unless ! *ild ask = x1 & x be expressly grant$4 ,nev] reprove *ildr5 sev]ely 9 company1 nor hold !m up to ridicule1 nor make light ( _! fail+s4 ,nev] speak 9 an impati5t1 pitiful mann]1 if y h occasion to f9d fault4 ,nev] say to a *ild1 ,i don't believe :at y say1 nor ev5 imply y\r d\bts4 ,if y h su* feel+s1 keep !m to y\rself & wait2 ! tru? w ev5tually be made pla94 ,nev] disappo9t ! confid5ce a *ild places 9 y1 :e!r x be a ?+ plac$ 9 y\r c>e or a promise4 ,always give prompt att5tion to a *ild :5 he speaks1 s z to prev5t repeat$ calls1 & t he may le>n to give prompt att5tion :5 y call him4 ,nev] try to impress a *ild ) religi\s tru? :5 9 ang]1 or talk to him ( ,god1 z x w n h ! desir$ effect4 ,d x "u m favorable circum/ances4 ,at ! table a *ild %\ld be taught to sit up & behave 9 a becom+ mann]1 n to tease :5 d5i$1 nor to leave 8 *air )\t ask+4 ,a p>5t's wi% at su* "t %\ld be a law f :i* no appeal %\ld be made4 ,ev5 9 sickness g5tle re/ra9t is bett] = a *ild ?an indulg5ce4 ,!re %\ld nev] be two sets ( mann]s1 ! "o = home & ! o!r = company1 b a g5tle behavior %\ld be always requir$4 ,illu/ration ,illu/ration3 ,,music4 ,a protection aga9/ vice1 ,an inc5tive to virtue4 ,,*apt] ,,xx4 ,home ,culture4 ,! "w ( home culture %\ld be made a matt] ( great importance to e "o1 = ^u x dep5ds ! happ9ess ( e>?ly homes1 z well z our fitness = ! enjoym5t ( ! et]nal home 9 heav54 ,! suff]+s endur$ "h1 fri5d = fri5d1 p>5ts = *ildr51 unrequit$ sacrifices1 c>es & te>s1 all t5d to discipl9e u1 & prep>e u = ! recomp5se :i* et]nity br+s4 ,,cultivate ,,moral ,,c\rage4 ,moral c\rage w be cultivat$ 9 y\r *ildr5 z !y obs]ve t y say & d :atev] y consci5ti\sly believe to be "r & true1 )\t be+ influ5c$ by ! views ( o!rs2 ?us %[+ !m t y fe> no?+ s mu* z fail+ to d y\r duty4 ,p]haps ?is may be difficult to d1 b e "m c at lea/ %[ h] appreciation ( moral c\rage :5 %e sees x exhibit$ by o!rs1 & 9 ?is way incite its gr[? 9 ! s\ls ( h] *ildr54 ,moral c\rage is a r>e end[m5t1 & ^? :o possess x are able to act ) p]fect indep5d5ce ( ! op9ions ( o!rs1 & gov]n !mselves only by ! laws ( propriety1 uprightness & *>ity4 ,,! ,,p]nici\s ,,influ5ce ,,( ,,indol5ce4 ,if y w\ld pres]ve y\r *ildr5 f ! p]nici\s influ5ce ( indol5ce & all its corrupt+ t5d5cies1 y mu/ be e>ne/ 9 purpose1 active1 en]getic & f]v5t 9 _s4 ,e>ne/ness %>p5s ! faculties2 indol5ce corrodes & dulls !m4 ,by ! =m] we rise high] & high]1 by ! latt] we s9k l[] & l[]4 ,indol5ce begets discont5t1 envy & jeal\sy1 :ile labor elevates ! m9d & "*4 ,cultivate 9 y\r *ildr5 habits ( ?\ght :i* w keep _! m9ds occupi$ ^u some?+ t w be ( use or advantage1 & prev5t !m f acquir+ habits ( idl5ess1 if y w\ld secure _! future well-be+4 ,x has be5 said t he :o p]=ms no useful act 9 society1 :o makes no human be+ happi]1 is lead+ a life ( utt] selfi%ness--a life ( s9--= a life ( selfi%ness is a life ( s94 ,!re is n[h]e room = idl5ess4 ,"w is bo? a duty & a necessity ( our nature1 & a befitt+ rew>d w ev] foll[ x4 ,to fo/] & enc\rage labor 9 "s useful =m1 is a duty :i* p>5ts %\ld urge ^u _! *ildr51 if !y %\ld seek _! be/ good4 ,,self-,,respect4 ,x is ! "m's duty to see t h] *ildr5 protect !mselves f ! _m pit-falls :i* surr\nd !m1 su* z malice1 envy1 conceit1 av>ici\sness1 & o!r evils1 by be+ clad 9 ! armor ( self-respect2 & !n !y w be able to enc\nt] temptation & corruption1 un/a9$ & unpollut$4 ,?is feel+ ( self-respect is some?+ /rong] ?an self-reliance1 high] ?an pride4 ,x is an en]gy ( ! s\l :i* ma/]s ! :ole be+ = its good1 wat*+ ) a nev]-ceas+ vigilance4 ,x is ! s5se ( duty & ! s5se ( honor comb9$4 ,x is an armor1 :i*1 ?\gh p[]less to %ield f sorr[s t purify & invigorate1 yet w av]t all ho/ile influ5ces t assail1 f :atev] s\rce !y come4 ,! "m hav+ once made h] *ildr5 consci\s t always & ev]y:]e !y c>ry ) !m su* an angel to %ield1 w>n & rescue !m1 may let !m g out into ! _w1 & fe> no?+ f ! wiles & temptations :i* may beset !m4 ,,results ,,( ,,good-,,bre$+ ,,9 ,,! ,,home ,,circle4 ,! laws ( good-bre$+ 9 no place be> m gratify+ results ?an 9 ! home circle4 ,"h1 temp]$ ) love1 & nurtur$ by all k9dly impulses1 !y be> ! *oice/ fruit4 ,a true lady w %[ z mu* c\rtesy1 & obs]ve ! duties ( polit5ess z unfail+ly1 t[>d e memb] ( h] family z t[>d h] mo/ di/+ui%$ gue/4 ,a true g5tleman w feel b\nd to ex]cise c\rtesy & k9dness 9 8 int]c\rse ) ^? :o dep5d ^u him = protection & example4 ,*ildr5 influ5c$ by su* examples at home1 w nev] fail to %[ to _! eld]s ! respect due !m1 to _! "y companions ! same consid]ation = _! feel+s :i* !y expect to meet ) 9 return1 nor to s]vants t pati5ce :i* ev5 ! be/ too (t5 require4 ,9 su* a home peace & good w are ! h\sehold gods4 ,,fault-,,f9d+ ,,& ,,grumbl+4 ,! oil ( civility is requir$ to make ! :eels ( dome/ic life run smoo?ly4 ,! habit ( fault-f9d+ & grumbl+ indulg$ 9 by "s1 is an exce$+ly vexati\s "o1 & w1 9 "t1 ruffle ! calme/ _s & ! sweete/ temp]4 ,x is ! little annoyances1 p]plexities & mis=tunes :i* (t5 r5d] life a burd52 ! little omission ( m9or duties & ! committ+ ( little faults t p]petually sc\rge u & keep ! he>t sore4 ,con/ant fault-f9d+1 p]si/5t misrepres5tations ( motives1 suspicions ( evil :]e no evil 0 int5d$1 w complete ! "w 9 all b ! f9e/ & mo/ h]oic natures4 ,!y alone c /& ! fi]y te/1 com+ out pur] & /rong] = ! ordeal4 ,*ildr5 :o habitually obey ! comm&m5t1 ,be k9d to "o ano!r1 w f9d 9 mature life1 h[ /rong ! bonds ( affection may be t b9d ! memb]s ( ! h\sehold toge!r4 ,,family ,,j>s ,,n ,,to ,,be ,,made ,,public4 ,:atev] may be ! family disagreem5ts1 !y %\ld nev] be made kn[n outside ( ! home circle1 if x c be avoid$4 ,^? :o expose ! faults ( ! memb]s ( _! family are sev]ely judg$ by ! _w1 & no provocation c be a good excuse = x4 ,x is exce$+ly vulg>1 n to say un*ri/ianlike1 = ! memb]s ( ! same family to be at enmity ) "o ano!r4 ,,yield+ ,,to ,,"o ,,ano!r4 ,"o ( ! greate/ discipl9es ( human life1 is t :i* tea*es u to yield our wills to ^? :o h a claim ^u u to d s1 ev5 9 trifl+1 e-day affairs2 ! wife to ! husb&1 *ildr5 to p>5ts1 to tea*]s & to "o ano!r4 ,9 cases :]e pr9ciple is conc]n$1 x is1 ( c\rse1 necess>y to be firm1 :i* requires an ex]cise ( moral c\rage4 ,,conflict+ ,,int]e/s4 ,conflict+ int]e/s are a fruitful s\rce ( family difficulties4 ,! comm& ( ,*ri/ to ! two bro!rs :o came to ,him ) _! disputes1 ,bew>e ( covet\sness1 is z applicable among memb]s ( ! same family n[1 z x 0 :5 ^? words 7 spok54 ,x is bett] t y h few or no bus9ess transactions ) any "o :o is ne> & de> to y1 & connect$ by family ties4 ,9 bus9ess relations m5 are apt to be v exact1 because ( _! habits ( bus9ess1 & ?is exactness is too (t5 con/ru$ by ne> fri5ds & relatives z actuat$ by purely selfi% motives4 ,^u ?is rock _m a b>k ( family love has be5 wreck$4 ,,religi\s ,,education4 ,x is well to rememb] t e bless+ ( our lives1 e joy ( our he>ts & e ray ( hope %$ ^u our pa?way1 h _h _! orig9 9 religion1 & may be trac$ 9 all _! hall[$1 heal?ful influ5ces to ! ,bible4 ,) ! dawn ( *ildhood1 !n1 9 ! e>lie/ days ( intellig5ce1 %\ld ! m9d be impress$ & /or$ ) religi\s tru?1 & no?+ %\ld be all[$ to exclude or efface x4 ,x %\ld be taught s e>ly t ! m9d w nev] rememb] :5 x began to le>n2 x w !n h ! "* ( innate1 inbr$ pr9ciples1 incorporat$ ) _! v be+4 ,,ob$i5ce4 ,if y w\ld n h all y\r in/ructions & c\nsels ineffectual1 tea* y\r *ildr5 to obey4 ,gov]nm5t 9 a family is ! great safegu>d ( religion & morals1 ! support ( ord] & ! s\rce ( prosp]ity4 ,no?+ has a great] t5d5cy to br+ a curse ^u a family ?an ! insubord9ation & disob$i5ce ( *ildr51 & !re is no m pa9ful & disgu/+ sight ?an an ungov]n$ *ild4 ,,influ5ce ,,( ,,example4 ,nev] =get t ! fir/ book *ildr5 read is _! p>5ts' example--_! daily deportm5t4 ,if ?is is =gott5 y may f9d1 9 ! loss ( y\r dome/ic peace1 t :ile y\r *ildr5 well "k ! "r pa?1 !y foll[ ! wrong4 ,*ildhood is l a mirror1 cat*+ & reflect+ images all ar\nd x4 ,rememb] t an impi\s1 pr(ane or vulg> ?\ght may op]ate ^u ! he>t ( a "y *ild l a c>eless spray ( wat] ^u poli%$ /eel1 /a9+ x ) ru/ t no ef=ts c ?or\ghly efface4 ,improve ! fir/ t5 ye>s ( life z ! gold5 opportunity1 :i* may nev] return4 ,x is ! se$ "t1 & y\r h>ve/ dep5ds ^u ! se$ !n s[n4 ,,! ,,influ5ce ,,( ,,books4 ,few mo!rs c ov]-e/imate ! influ5ce :i* ! companion%ip ( books ex]ts 9 y\? ^u ! habits & ta/es ( _! *ildr51 & no "m :o has ! welf>e ( h] *ildr5 at he>t w neglect ! important "w ( *oos+ ! prop] books = !m to read1 :ile !y are "u h] c>e4 ,%e %\ld select = !m su* z w bo? int]e/ & in/ruct1 & ?is %\ld be done dur+ ! e>ly ye>s1 be=e _! m9ds %all h imbib$ ! p]nici\s tea*+s ( bad books & s5sational novels4 ,! poison imbib$ f bad books works s secretly t _! influ5ce = evil is ev5 great] ?an ! influ5ce ( bad associates4 ,! "m has x 9 h] p[] to make su* books ! companions & fri5ds ( h] *ildr5 z h] good judgm5t may select1 & to impress ^u !m _! tru?s1 by conv]s+ ) !m ab\t ! moral lessons or ! intellectual in/ructions !y conta94 ,a ta/e may be easily cultivat$ = books on natural sci5ce & = hi/ory1 z well z = ^? t tea* important & :olesome lessons = ! "y1 su* z are conta9$ 9 ! works ( ,mrs4 ,edgewor?1 ,mrs4 ,*ild1 ,mrs4 ,yonge1 & _m o!r books writt5 = ! "y4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xxi4 ,woman's ,high] ,education4 ,x has be5 se5 t 9 ! re>+ & tra9+ ( h] *ildr51 woman has a great "w to p]=m2 t 9 ?is "w %e ex]ts an incalculable influ5ce ^u untold numb]s1 & t %e molds ! m9ds & *>act]s ( h] sons & daught]s4 ,h[ important1 !n1 t %e %\ld cultivate h] m5tal faculties to ! highe/ ext5t1 if = no o!r reason ?an to fit h]self ! bett] = ! p]=mance ( ?is great duty ( educat+ h] *ildr54 ,h[ important x is1 also1 t %e %\ld look to ! high] education ( h] daught]s1 :o1 9 turn1 w become mo!rs ( future g5]ations1 or may1 p]haps1 by "s vicissitude ( =tune1 become dep5d5t ^u _! own res\rces = support4 ,) ! highe/ culture ( ! m5tal faculties1 woman w be be/ enabl$ to fai?fully p]=m :atev] %e may und]take4 ,,tra9 ,,"y ,,wom5 ,,to ,,"s ,,occupation4 ,ow+ to ! *anges 9 social & indu/rial life :i* h cr[d$ _m wom5 f _! homes into bus9ess & public life1 wom5 mu/ tra9 = _! bran* ( labor z m5 tra9 = _! "w1 if !y wi% to atta9 any degree ( success4 ,ev5 :]e wom5 h indep5d5t =tunes1 _! lives w be all ! happi] if !y h be5 tra9$ to "s occupation1 t1 9 case ( rev]ses1 may be made a self-su/a9+ "o4 ,a "y woman :o is able to support h]self1 increases h] *ances = a happy m>riage1 =1 n be+ oblig$ to rely ^u a husb& = support or = a home1 %e is able to judge calmly ( an (f] :5 x comes1 & is free to accept or decl9e1 because ( h] indep5d5ce4 ,wom5 are capable ( & adapt$ to a l>ge numb] ( employm5ts1 :i* h hi!rto be5 kept f !m1 & "s ( ^! !y are sl[ly wr5*+ f ! h&s ( ! /]n] sex4 ,9 ord] t wom5 may ent] ! ranks ( labor :i* %e is =c+ op5 to h]self1 %e ne$s a special education & tra9+ to fit h] = su* employm5t4 ,,education ,,( ,,girls ,,too ,,sup]ficial4 ,! s*ool in/ruction ( our girls is too sup]ficial4 ,!re is a smatt]+ ( too _m bran*es1 :]e two or ?ree sy/ematically /udi$ & ?or\ghly ma/]$1 w\ld accompli% mu* m = !m 9 ! way ( a s\nd m5tal tra9+1 :i* is ! real object ( education4 ,! pres5t me?od ( educat+ "y girls is to give !m f five to t5 /udies1 9 :i* !y prep>e lessons1 & ?is1 too1 at an age :5 _! physical developm5t suff]s & is *eck$ by excess ( m5tal labor4 ,su* a c\rse ( in/ruction1 be/[+ only a smatt]+ ( _m bran*es1 wa/es ! p[]s ( ! m9d1 & det]s1 r ?an aids1 self-improvem5t4 ,x is only a conc5tration ( ! m9d ^u ! ?or\gh acquisition ( all x und]takes t /r5g!ns ! reflective1 & =ms ! reason+1 faculties1 & ?us helps to lay a solid f\ndation = future usefulness4 ,! ^w education means to educe1 to draw out ! p[]s ( ! m9d2 n ! cramm+ into x ( facts1 dates & :ole pages to be repeat$ v]batim4 ,,an ,,education ,,appropriate ,,to ,,ea* ,,sex4 ,! fact is becom+ m palpable e ye> t !re is an education appropriate to ea* sex2 t id5tical education = ! two sexes is s unnatural1 t physiology prote/s aga9/ x & exp]i5ce weeps ov] x4 ,! physiological motto 9 education is1 ,educate a man = manhood1 a woman = womanhood1 & bo? = humanity4 ,h]b]t ,sp5c]1 9 speak+ ( ! want ( a prop] c\rse ( education = girls1 says3 ,x is an a/oni%+ fact t1 ?\gh on ! treatm5t ( (fspr+ dep5d _! lives or dea?s1 & _! moral welf>e or ru91 yet n "o ^w ( in/ruction on treatm5t ( (fspr+ is ev] giv5 to ^? :o w1 by & by1 be p>5ts4 ,x w ?us be se51 t z wom5 h ! c>e1 ! tra9+ & ! education ( *ildr51 !y ne$ an education 9 a special direction1 & %\ld h a v ?or\gh "o1 to prep>e !m = ! task4 ,,wom5 ,,%\ld ,,h ,a ,,k ,,( ,,! ,,laws ,,( ,,heal?4 ,physiology is "o ( ! bran*es ( t high] education1 :i* %\ld be ?or\ghly pursu$ by wom5 to enable !m to fulfill ! v>i\s duties ( _! allott$ /ations4 ,yet x is also desirable t !y %\ld h a ?or\gh k ( all bran*es t !y und]take1 & a ma/]y ( ! /udies pursu$ by !m2 = ! want ( ?or\ghness 9 woman's education is an ob/acle to success 9 all bran*es ( labor4 ,b woman %\ld especially h a ?or\gh k ( ! laws ( physiology & hygi5e4 ,if %e becomes a "m1 su* k w enable h] to gu>d bett] ! lives & heal? ( h] *ildr54 ,%e w und]/& t :5 %e s5ds out h] *ild insuffici5tly clad1 & he comes home *ill$ ?r\gh1 t 8 vitality1 8 p[] ( resi/+ disease1 is wa/$4 ,%e w "k t by tak+ ! necess>y precautions1 %e may save ! *ild's life2 t %e mu/ n take him ?us *ill$1 to ! fire or into a room highly heat$1 b t by g5tle ex]cise or friction1 %e mu/ re/ore ! circulation ( ! blood1 & 9 us+ su* precautions1 %e may w>d (f ! attacks ( disease t w\ld surely foll[ if !y 7 neglect$4 ,?is is b a s+le case1 = !re are in/ances ( almo/ daily occurr5ce :5 a prop] k ( ! laws ( heal? w w>d (f disease1 9 h] own case1 z well z 9 ^? ( v>i\s memb]s ( h] h\sehold4 ,! diseases :i* c>ry (f *ildr51 are = ! mo/ "p1 su* z ought to be "u ! control ( ! wom5 :o love !m1 pet !m1 educate !m1 & :o w\ld1 9 _m cases1 lay d[n _! lives = !m4 ,,result ,,( ,,ignorance ,,( ,,sanit>y ,,laws4 ,ignorance ( ! laws ( v5tilation 9 sleep+-rooms & s*ool-rooms is ! cause ( a va/ am\nt ( disease4 ,f ignorance ( ! signs ( approa*+ disease1 *ildr5 are (t5 puni%$ = idl5ess1 li/lessness1 sulk9ess & wilfulness1 & ?is puni%m5t is too (t5 by conf9em5t 9 a clos$ room1 & by an increase ( tasks2 :5 :at is really ne$$ is m oxyg51 m op5-air ex]cise1 & less /udy4 ,^! =ms ( ignorance h too (t5 result$ 9 malignant typhus & bra9 fev]s4 ,k ( ! laws ( hygi5e w (t5 sp>e ! wa/e ( heal? & /r5g? 9 ! "y1 & w also sp>e anxiety & mis]y to ^? :o love & t5d !m4 ,if ! "t devot$ to ! _m tra%y s-call$ accompli%m5ts 9 a "y lady's education1 7 giv5 to a /udy ( ! laws ( pres]v+ heal?1 h[ _m preci\s lives might be sp>$ to lov+ p>5ts1 & h[ _m frail & delicate =ms1 result+ f inatt5tion to physical tra9+1 might h become /rong & beautiful temples ( exalt$ s\ls4 ,we are all 9 duty b\nd to "k & to obey ! laws ( nature1 on :i* ! welf>e ( our bodies dep5ds1 = ! full enjoym5t ( our faculties c only be atta9$ :5 ! body is 9 p]fect heal?4 ,,idl5ess ,a ,,s\rce ,,( ,,mis]y4 ,p]haps ! greate/ cause ( mis]y & wret*$ness 9 social life is idl5ess4 ,! want ( some?+ to d is :at makes p wick$ & mis]able4 ,x bre$s selfi%ness1 mis*ief-mak+1 envy1 jeal\sy & vice1 9 all its mo/ dreadful =ms4 ,x is ! duty ( mo!rs to see t _! daught]s are tra9$ to habits ( indu/ry1 t _! m9ds are at all times occupi$1 t !y are well in=m$ z to h\sehold duties1 & to ! duties ( m>ri$ life1 = ^u a k ( h\sehold details may dep5d _! life-long happ9ess or mis]y4 ,x is frequ5tly ! case1 t a girl's education ends j z h] m9d is beg9n+ to mature & h] faculties are beg9n+ to develop4 ,h] education ends :5 x ought prop]ly to beg94 ,%e ent]s ^u m>riage entirely unprep>$1 &1 p]*ance1 by "s mis=tune1 %e is ?r[n p5niless ^u ! _w ) no means ( obta9+ a livelihood1 = h] education has nev] fitt$ h] = any vocation4 ,n hav+ be5 prop]ly taught h]self1 %e is n able to tea*1 & %e f9ds no av5ue ( employm5t op5 to h]4 ,an ,engli% cl]gyman1 writ+ ^u ?is subject1 says3 ,let girls take a s]i\s int]e/ 9 art2 let !m take up "s cong5ial /udy1 let x be a bran* ( sci5ce or hi/ory4 ,let !m write4 ,!y c d almo/ any?+ !y try to d1 b let _! mo!rs nev] re/ until !y h implant$ 9 _! daught]s' lives "o gr[+ int]e/ beyond flirtation & gossip1 :e!r x be "w at ! easel1 music1 lit]ature1 ! /ructure ( ! human body & ! laws ( heal?1 any solid int]e/ t w occupy _! ?\ghts & _! he>ts4 ,idl5ess1 frivolity & ignorance c only be put d[n by education & employm5t4 ,9 ! la/ resort1 ! _s ( evil becomes tea*] & task-ma/]4 ,,wom5 ,,%\ld ,,cultivate ,a ,,_s ,,( ,,indep5d5ce4 ,9 ?is c\ntry m ?an any o!r1 wom5 %\ld1 to "s ext5t1 cultivate a _s ( indep5d5ce4 ,!y %\ld acquire a k ( h[ bus9ess is transact$1 ( ! relation betwe5 capital & labor1 & ( ! value ( labor1 skill$ & unskill$4 ,z h\sekeep]s1 !y w\ld !n be sav$ f _m annoyances & mi/akes4 ,if !y *ance to be left alone1 wid[s1 or orphans possess+ means1 !y w\ld be sav$ f _m losses & vexati\s exp]i5ces by kn[+ h[ to transact _! own bus9ess4 ,& ^? wom5 :o are oblig$ to take c>e ( !mselves1 :o h no means1 h[ necess>y is x t !y %\ld h a ?or\gh k ( "s occupation or bus9ess by :i* !y c ma9ta9 !mselves & o!rs dep5d5t ^u !m4 ,9 ?is c\ntry1 ! daught] br\ght up 9 afflu5ce1 may1 by "s rapid *ange ( =tune1 be oblig$1 ^u arriv+ at maturity1 to be among ! applicants = :atev] employm5t %e may be fitt$4 ,if %e has be5 tra9$ to "s useful occupation1 or if h] faculties h be5 develop$ by a ?or\ghness ( /udy ( any subject %e has und]tak51 %e w be bett] qualifi$ to prep>e h]self to fill any position :i* may be op5 to h]4 ,) a m9d drill$ by con/ant /udy %e w ! m quickly acquire a k & grasp ! details ( any subject or bus9ess to :i* %e may devote h]self4 ,,heal? ,,& ,,life ,,dep5d5t ,,^u ,a ,,high] ,,culture4 ,n only weal? & com=t1 b heal? & life are dep5d5t ^u a high] =m ( culture1 a m ?or\gh c\rse ( education ?an is n[ ! /&>d4 ,n m1 b few] bran*es ( /udy & a m ?or\gh compreh5sion ( ^? pursu$4 ,n only are ! heal? & life ( ea* woman dep5d5t ^u ! k9d & degree ( ! education %e receives1 b ! heal? & lives ( great numb]s may dep5d ^u x4 ,9 proportion z %e has a k ( ! laws & nature ( a subject w %e be able to "w at x easily1 rapidly & successfully4 ,k ( physical laws saves heal? & life1 k ( ! laws ( intellect saves we> & te> ( ! bra91 k ( ! laws ( political economy & bus9ess affairs saves anxiety & worry+4 ,,cultivation ,,( ,,! ,,moral ,,s5se4 ,a well educat$ moral s5se prev5ts idl5ess & develops a well regulat$ "*1 :i* w pres]ve f excess ^? t5d]] emotions & deep] passions ( woman1 :i* are pot5t 9 h] = evil or = good1 9 proportion z !y are undiscipl9$ & all[$ to run wild1 or are tra9$ & develop$ into a noble & h>moni\s self-re/ra9t4 ,! girl :o has s educat$ & regulat$ h] intellect1 h] ta/es1 h] emotions & h] moral s5se1 z to be able to disc]n ! true f ! false1 w be ready = ! fai?ful p]=mance ( :atev] "w 9 life is allott$ to h]2 :ile %e :o is all[$ to gr[ up ignorant1 idle1 va91 frivol\s1 w f9d h]self fitt$ = no /ate ( exi/5ce1 &1 9 aft] ye>s1 ) feel+s ( remorse & despair ov] a wa/$ life1 may ca/ reproa* ^u ^? 9 ^: tru/ 0 repos$ h] e>ly education4 ,x is n = wom5 alone t !y %\ld seek a high] education ( _! faculties & p[]s b = ! sake ( ! communities 9 :i* !y live1 = ! sake ( ! homes 9 :i* !y rule & gov]n1 & gov]n immortal s\ls1 & = ! sake ( ^? o!r homes 9 ! humbl] walks ( life1 :]e !y owe duties z m9i/]+ spirits z well z 9 _! own1 = 9 proportion z !y m9i/] to ! com=t & heal? ( o!rs1 s d !y exalt _! own s\ls4 ,wom5 %\ld seek a high] education 9 ord] t !y may elevate !mselves1 & t !y may prep>e !mselves = :atev] duty !y may be call$ ^u to p]=m4 ,9 social life we f9d t ! true/ wives1 ! mo/ pati5t & c>eful mo!rs1 ! mo/ exempl>y h\sekeep]s1 ! model si/]s1 ! wise/ philan?ropi/s & ! wom5 ( ! greate/ social influ5ce are wom5 ( cultivat$ m9ds4 ,,*apt] ,,xxii4 ,! ,art ( ,lett] ,writ+4 ,a ,fr5* writ] says1 t ! writ+ a note or lett]1 ! word+ ( a regret1 ! prompt or ! delay$ answ]+ ( an invitation1 ! mann] ( a salutation1 ! neglect ( a requir$ att5tion1 all betray to ! well-br$ ! degree or ! abs5ce ( good-bre$+4 ,a p]son :o has self-respect z well z respect = o!rs1 %\ld nev] c>elessly write a lett] or note4 ,,requirem5ts ,,= ,,correct ,,writ+4 ,! lett] or note %\ld be free f all fl\ri%es4 ,! rules ( punctuation %\ld be foll[$ z ne>ly z possible1 & no capital lett]s us$ :]e !y are n requir$4 ,ink-blots1 erasures1 & /a9s on ! pap] are inadmissible4 ,any abbreviations ( "n1 rank or title are consid]$ rude1 beyond ^? sanction$ by cu/om4 ,no abbreviations ( words %\ld be indulg$ 91 nor und]l9+ ( words int5d$ to be made emphatic4 ,all am\nts ( money or o!r numb]s %\ld be writt51 res]v+ ! use ( num]ical figures = dates only4 ,x is a good =m to h ! address ( ! writ] pr9t$ at ! top ( ! %eet1 especially = all bus9ess lett]s4 ,= lett]s ( fri5d%ip & notes1 pure :ite pap] & envelopes are 9 bett] ta/e ?an t9t$ or color$1 & ! pap] %\ld be ( a sup]ior quality4 ,:5 a page is once writt5 f left to "r side1 x %\ld n be writt5 ov] aga9 f top to bottom4 ,,anonym\s ,,lett]s4 ,no att5tion %\ld ev] be paid to anonym\s lett]s4 ,! writ]s ( su* /amp !mselves z c[>dly1 & c[>ds d n hesitate to say or write :at is n true :5 x suits _! purpose4 ,all /atem5ts made 9 su* lett]s %\ld be reg>d$ z false1 & ! writ]s z actuat$ by "s bad motives4 ,anonym\s lett]s %\ld be burn$ at once1 = !y are n to be notic$4 ,,lett]s ,,& ,,notes4 ,! writ+ ( notes 9 ! ?ird p]son is g5]ally conf9$ to notes ( invitation1 & su* notes are nev] sign$4 ,:5 a lett] is ^u bus9ess1 comm5c+ ,sir or ,de> ,sir1 ! "n ( ! p]son address$ may be writt5 ei!r at ! beg9n+ or at ! close ( ! lett]1 9 ! left h& corn]4 ,9 lett]s comm5c+ ) ! "n ( ! p]son to :om y are writ+1 z1 ,my ,de> ,mrs4 ,br[n1 ! "n %\ld n be repeat$ 9 ! left h& corn]4 ,no notes %\ld be comm5c$ v high or v l[ on ! page1 b ne>] ! top ?an ! middle ( ! %eet4 ,,mann] ,,( ,,address4 ,9 address+ a cl]gyman1 x is cu/om>y to comm5ce ,rev]5d ,sir1 or ,de> ,sir4 ,x is n n[ cu/om>y to write ,b4,a4 or ,m4,a4 aft] 8 "n4 ,doctors ( div9ity & m$ic9e are ?us di/+ui%$3 ,to ! ,rev4 ,john ,blair1 ,d4,d41 or ,rev4 ,dr4 ,blair2 ,to ,g4,t4 ,roscoe1 ,m4,d41 ,doctor ,roscoe or ,dr4 ,roscoe4 ,! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates & ,gov]nors ( ,/ates1 are address$ ,8 ,excell5cy4 ,u4,s4 ,s5ators1 memb]s ( ,congress & m5 di/+ui%$ by hold+ v>i\s political (fices ( an honorable nature1 are address$ z ,honorable4 ,! sup]scription or address %\ld be writt5 ^u ! envelope z legibly z possible1 beg9n+ a little to ! left ( ! c5t] ( ! envelope4 ,! numb] ( ! h\se & "n ( ! /reet may be writt5 imm$iately "u ?is l9e1 or 9 ! l[] left h& corn]1 z ! writ] sees fit4 ,! po/age /amp %\ld be securely fix$ 9 ! upp] "r h& corn] ( ! envelope4 ,! foll[+ =ms w %[ ! appe>ance ( a prop]ly address$ envelope3 ,illu/ration3 ,?os4 ,y4 ,/ev5s1 ,esq4 ,*icago1 #gif ,a%l& ,ave4 ,ills4 ,illu/ration3 ,/amp ,mr4 ,?os4 ,y4 ,/ev5s1 #gif ,a%l& ,av5ue1 ,*icago1 ,ills4 ,illu/ration3 ,/amp ,wm4 ,b4 ,h\/on ,esq41 ,woo/]1 ,wayne ,c\nty4 ,ohio4 ,9 s5d+ a lett] 9 c>e ( ano!r p]son ! foll[+ =m is ! mann] 9 :i* ! envelope %\ld be address$3 ,illu/ration3 ,/amp ,mrs4 ,s4,m4 ,?omas1 ,c>e ( ,/4 ,l\is1 ,h4,h4 ,johnson ,mo4 ,9 s5d+ a lett] by a fri5d or acqua9tance1 & n ?r\gh ! mail1 ackn[l$ge ! c\rtesy ( y\r fri5d on ! envelope4 ,! lett] %\ld n be seal$4 ,! foll[+ is ! prop] =m3 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,julia ,c4 ,:eel]1 #gcd ,simson ,/reet1 ,k9dness 7or ,polit5ess7 ( ,dayton1 ,james ,/e9field4 ,ohio4 ,a note or lett] s5t to a fri5d resid+ 9 ! same place1 by a mess5g]1 may be address$ z foll[s1 or be> ! full address3 ,illu/ration3 ,miss ,m>y ,wyman1 ,pres5t$4 ,,=m ,,( ,a ,,lett]4 ,illu/ration3 ,d5v]1 ,may #ac1 #ahha4 ,my ,e/eem$ ,fri5d3 ,i receiv$ y\r v good lett]1 & ha/5 to reply4 ,i am ov]joy$ at ! prospects ( a spe$y return to ! anci5t1 b delightful ,city ( ! ,/raits1 & anticipate sp5d+ a pleasant summ] ) y & my _m fri5ds4 ,we are mak+ prep>ations to leave ,june #e?4 ,y\r old fri5d1 ,joe ,j4 ,wilson ,geo4 ,w4 ,smy?1 ,detroit1 ,mi*4 ,,degrees ,,( ,,=mality ,,obs]v$4 ,9 comm5c+ & sign+ notes & lett]s !re is a diff]5ce ( op9ion 9 ! degrees ( =mality to be obs]v$1 b g5]ally ?is scale is us$ accord+ to ! degree ( acqua9tance or fri5d%ip4 ,madam or ,sir1 ,de> ,madam or ,de> ,sir1 ,my ,de> ,madam or ,my ,de> ,sir1 ,de> ,mrs4 ,br[n or ,de> ,mr4 ,br[n1 ,my ,de> ,mrs4 ,br[n or ,my ,de> ,mr4 ,br[n1 ,my ,de> ,fri5d4 ,9 clos+ a note1 ! degrees are impli$ z foll[s3 ,truly ,y\rs or ,y\rs ,truly1 ,v ,truly ,y\rs1 ,s9c]ely ,y\rs1 ,cordially ,y\rs1 ,fai?fully ,y\rs1 ,affectionately ,y\rs4 ,! prop] words %\ld be c>efully select$1 z ! conclusion ( a note or lett] makes an impression on ! p]son read+ x4 ,to ag$ p]sons ! =m1 ,) great respect1 s9c]ely y\rs1 recomm5ds itself z a prop] =m4 ,y\rs1 etc41 is consid]$ a rude end+4 ,if y are suffici5tly well acqua9t$ ) a p]son to address h] ,my ,de> ,mrs4 ----1 d n sign ,y\rs ,truly1 or ,truly ,y\rs1 z ?is is ! =m to be us$ 9 writ+ to /rang]s or 9 bus9ess lett]s4 ,,signature ,,( ,,ladies4 ,a m>ri$ lady %\ld n sign h]self ) ! ,mrs4 be=e h] baptismal "n1 or a s+le lady ) ! ,miss4 ,9 writ+ to /rang]s :o d n "k :e!r to address y z ,mrs4 or ,miss1 ! address %\ld be giv5 9 full1 aft] sign+ y\r lett]2 z ,mrs4 ,john ,smi?1 foll[$ by ! direction2 or if unm>ri$1 ! ,miss %\ld be plac$ 9 brackets a %ort di/ance prec$+ ! signature4 ,only ! lett]s ( unm>ri$ ladies & wid[s are address$ ) _! baptismal names4 ,! lett]s ( m>ri$ ladies are address$ ) _! husb&s' names1 z ,mrs4 ,john ,smi?4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,introduction4 ,lett]s ( introduction %\ld be brief & c>efully word$4 ,give 9 full ! "n ( ! p]son introduc$1 ! city or t[n he is f1 intimat+ ! mutual pleasure t y believe ! acqua9tance w conf]1 add+ a few rem>ks conc]n+ ! "o introduc$1 z circum/ances seem to require4 ,mode/ p]sons sometimes %r9k f deliv]+ lett]s ( introduction :i* appe> to !m to be undes]v$ly complim5t>y4 ,lett]s ( introduction are left unseal$1 to be seal$ be=e deliv]y by ! "o introduc$4 ,!y %\ld receive imm$iate att5tion by ! p>ties :o receive !m4 ,:5 a g5tleman deliv]s su* a lett] to a lady1 he is at lib]ty to call ^u h]1 s5d+ h] 8 c>d to asc]ta9 :e!r %e w receive him !n1 or appo9t ano!r h\r t w be m conv5i5t4 ,! same rule is to be obs]v$ by ^? ^: /ay 9 ! city is %ort4 ,he may also s5d x to h] ) 8 c>d be>+ 8 address4 ,a lett] ( introduction %\ld n be giv51 unless ! p]son writ+ x is v well acqua9t$ ) ! "o :om he introduces1 & ! "o to :om he writes4 ,if ! p]son :o receives su* a lett] is really well-br$1 y w he> f him or h] )9 tw5ty-f\r h\rs1 = a lett] ( introduction is said to be l a draft1 x mu/ be ca%$ at sight4 ,! "o receiv+ x ei!r invites y to d9e1 or to meet o!rs1 or to a drive1 or to visit "s place ( amusem5t4 ,too great caution _c be ex]cis$ 9 giv+ a lett] :i* makes su* dem&s ^u an acqua9tance4 ,:5 ! lett] ( introduction is left ) a c>d1 if !re is a g5tleman 9 ! family1 he may call ^u ! /rang] ! next day1 unless "s engagem5t prev5ts1 :5 he %\ld s5d 8 c>d ) an invitation4 ,if ! lett] introduces a g5tleman to a lady1 %e may write a note ( invitation 9 answ]1 appo9t+ a "t = him to call4 ,! foll[+ is an appropriate =m = a lett] ( introduction4 ,illu/ration ,illu/ration3 ,new ,york1 ,dec #bj1 #ahhj4 ,de> ,sir3 ,i take great pleasure 9 introduc+ to y my e/eem$ fri5d1 ,miss ,ida ,a ,?ornton1 a "y lady ( culture & ref9em5t1 :o w sp5d a few mon?s 9 y\r city4 ,i am sure t an acqua9tance ) h] w be a pleasure to y1 z x w also be to ,miss ,?ornton4 ,any favor y may %[ h] dur+ h] /ay 9 y\r city1 ,i w consid] a p]sonal favor4 ,y\rs ,s9c]ely1 ,mrs4 ,j4,q4,a4 ,jones4 ,to ,geo4 ,morris1 ,*icago4 ,! envelope conta9+ a lett] ( introduction1 %\ld be address$ z foll[s3 ,illu/ration3 ,geo4 ,morris1 ,esq4 #afga ,jackson ,/reet1 ,*icago1 ,introduc+ ,ill4 ,miss ,ida ,a4 ,?ornton4 ,,notes ,,( ,,congratulation ,,or ,,condol5ce4 ,notes ( congratulation & condol5ce %\ld be brief1 & ! lett] %\ld only be s5t by ne> & intimate fri5ds4 ,d n allude to any subject except ! "o = :i* y are (f]+ y\r congratulations or sympa?y4 ,su* notes %\ld be made expressive ( real feel+1 & n be m]e matt]s ( =m4 ,,invitation ,,to ,a ,,reception4 ,= a g5]al reception1 invitations are pr9t$ on c>ds4 ,_! /yle is l ! foll[+1 & d n require an answ] unless ,r4,s4,v4,p4 is ^u "o corn]4 ,illu/ration3 ,mrs4 ,j4,l4 ,a%ton1 ,at home1 ,w$nesday ,ev5+1 ,jan4 #f1 ,no4 #bdh ,james ,/ #h to #aa ,p4,m4 ,,invitation ,,to ,a ,,ball4 ,! ,at ,home =m ( invitation = a reception is (t5 adopt$ = a ball ) ! ^w ,danc+ 9 "o corn]1 ?\gh _m p use ! ,at ,home =m only = receptions4 ,= balls ! h\rs are n limit$ z at receptions4 ,:5 ! above =m is n us$ = a ball1 ! invitation may read z foll[s3 ,mrs4 ,blair reque/s ! pleasure ( ,miss ,milton's company at a ball1 on ,tuesday1 ,febru>y #g1 at #i o'clock4 ,invitations to a ball are always giv5 9 ! "n ( ! lady ( ! h\se1 & require an answ]1 :i* %\ld n be delay$4 ,if ! invitation is accept$1 ! answ] %\ld be z foll[s3 ,miss ,milton accepts ) pleasure ,mrs4 ,blair's k9d invitation = ,tuesday1 ,febru>y #g4 ,if x is f\nd impossible to att5d1 a note ( regrets1 some?+ l ! foll[+1 %\ld be s5t3 ,miss ,milton regrets t int5d$ abs5ce f home 7or :atev] may be ! prev5t+ cause7 prev5ts h] accept+ ,mrs4 ,blair's k9d invitation = ,febru>y #g4 ,,invitation ,,to ,a ,,l>ge ,,p>ty4 ,! invitation to a l>ge p>ty is simil> to t = a ball1 only ! words at a ball are omitt$1 & ! h\r may be e>li]4 ,! notes ( acceptance & regret are ! same z = a ball4 ,if ! p>ty is a small "o1 x %\ld be indicat$ by ins]t+ ! words1 to a small ev5+ p>ty1 s t !re may be no misund]/&+4 ,a l>ge p>ty calls = full ev5+ dress1 & x w\ld be emb>rass+ = a lady or g5tleman to g to a h\se 9 full ev5+ dress1 expect+ to f9d a l>ge p>ty !re 9 simil> co/umes1 & meet only a few fri5ds & acqua9tances pla9ly dress$4 ,if !re is any special feature :i* is to give "* to ! ev5+1 x is be/ to m5tion ?is fact 9 ! note ( invitation4 ,?us ! words musical p>ty1 to take "p 9 dramatic read+s1 amateur !atricals1 w d5ote ! "* ( ! ev5+'s ent]ta9m5t4 ,if y h programmes1 enclose "o 9 ! invitation4 ,,invitation ,,to ,a ,,public ,,ent]ta9m5t4 ,an invitation f a g5tleman to a lady to att5d a conc]t1 lecture1 !atre1 op]a or o!r amusem5t1 may read z foll[s3 ,mr4 ,hayd5 w\ld be pleas$ to h ,miss ,morton's company to ! ,academy ( ,music1 on ,monday ev5+1 ,novemb] #h1 :5 ',ri*elieu' w be play$ by ,edw9 ,boo?'s ,company4 ,an invitation ( ?is k9d dem&s an imm$iate answ] ( acceptance or regrets4 ,a previ\s engagem5t may be a reason = rejection4 ,,d9n] ,,invitations4 ,^! are writt5 9 ! "n ( ! husb& & wife1 & dem& an imm$iate reply4 ,?is =m may be us$3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,eug5e ,sn[ reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,horace ,all5's company at d9n]1 on ,tuesday1 ! #ac? ( ,janu>y1 at #g o'clock4 ,a note ( acceptance may read z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,horace ,all5 accept ) pleasure ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,eug5e ,sn['s k9d invitation to d9e ) !m on ,tuesday1 ! #ac? in/41 at #g o'clock4 ,a note ( regret may read3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,horace ,all5 regret exce$+ly t sickness 9 ! family 7or :atev] ! cause may be7 prev5ts ! acceptance ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,eug5e ,sn['s k9d invitation to d9e ) !m on ,tuesday1 ,janu>y #ac?4 ,,invitations ,,to ,,tea4 ,an invitation to a tea-dr9k+ may be less =mal & %\ld p>take m ( ! nature ( a private note2 ?us3 ,de> ,miss ,brock3 ,"s fri5ds are com+ to dr9k tea ) me on ,?ursday1 & ,i %\ld be glad ( ! pleasure ( y\r company also4 ,please d n disappo9t me4 ,an invitation ( ?is in=mal nature ne$s no reply1 unless ,r4,s4,v4,p4 is app5d$1 9 :i* case ! answ] mu/ be return$1 if possible1 by ! mess5g] :o br\ght x1 or s5t at once1 z y\r fri5d may dep5d ^u hav+ a c]ta9 numb] ( p at h] tea-dr9k+1 & if y _c g1 %e w want to supply y\r place4 ,,less ,,=mal ,,invitations4 ,invitations ( a less =mal "* are s5t = *>ades1 private !atricals1 & = ar*]y1 croquet1 sail+ & g>d5 p>ties2 b1 h[ev] in=mal ! invitation 7except only :5 a visit+ c>d is us$7 on no acc\nt neglect to give imm$iate att5tion to x1 by s5d+ an acceptance or a regret1 = any want ( c\rtesy 9 ?is respect is unp>donable4 ,,promptness ,,9 ,,answ]+4 ,all invitations requir+ answ]s %\ld be answ]$ z soon z possible aft] receiv+ !m4 ,! ,fr5* h a say+1 applicable to all notes ( invitation1 to ! effect t x is z important to reply z promptly to a note requir+ an answ]1 z x is to a "q 9 speak+4 ,all ref9$ p :o are accu/om$ to ! be/ social =ms1 consid] t x w\ld be an unp>donable neglig5ce to omit = a s+le day reply+ to an invitation or a note requir+ a reply4 ,9 accept+ d9n] invitations1 repeat ! h\r & day nam$ 9 y\r lett] ( acceptance1 9 ord] t if any mi/ake has be5 made x may be correct$4 ,promptly ackn[l$ge all att5tions y receive1 su* z receiv+ pres5ts ( books1 fl[]s1 etc4 ,,expressions ,,to ,,be ,,us$4 ,! expression pres5ts complim5ts has become obsolete 9 ! writ+ ( invitations4 ,! expression k9d or v k9d invitation has tak5 ! place ( polite1 9 notes ( acceptance or regret4 ,be p>ticul> to di/+ui% betwe5 g & come1 y g to a fri5d's h\se & y\r fri5d comes to y\r h\se4 ,,"t ,,to ,,s5d ,,invitations4 ,invitations = p>ties & ent]ta9m5ts ( a =mal nature1 c be s5t out = a week or two weeks be=e ! ent]ta9m5t is to take place4 ,a notice ( n less ?an "o week is expect$ = su* invitations4 ,!y %\ld be pr9t$ or engrav$ on small note pap] or l>ge c>ds1 ) ! envelopes to mat*1 ) no colors 9 ! monogram1 if "o is us$4 ,,invitations ,,= ,,sev]al ,,memb]s ,,( ,a ,,family4 ,x is n consid]$ good =m to h "o c>d ( invitation answ] = sev]al p]sons belong+ to ! same family1 or to address an invitation ,mrs4 ,blank & family1 z x indicates a sc>city ( c>ds4 ,"o c>d or invitation may be s5t to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,blank1 & "o ea* to ! sev]al memb]s ( ! family :o are to be invit$4 ,,! ,,lea/ ,,=mal ,,invitations4 ,! lea/ =mal1 ( =mal invitations1 is :5 a lady s5ds or leaves h] own visit+ c>d ) ! invitation ^u x4 ,an invitation ( ?is k9d ne$ n be answ]$ unless an ,r4,s4,v4,p4 7,respondez s'il v\s plait71 is on ! c>d4 ,y g or n1 z y please1 b if y d n g1 y call1 or leave a c>d z soon aft] z is conv5i5t4 ,,uncivil ,,answ]s4 ,uncivil & curt1 n to say rude1 answ]s are sometimes return$ to invitations1 m frequ5tly ! result ( c>elessness 9 _! writ]s ?an ( prem$itat$ rud5ess4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,adam ,br[n regret t !y _c accept ,mrs4 ,smi?'s invitation = ,w$nesday ev5+1 is a rude =m ( regret4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,adam ,br[n decl9e ,mrs4 ,moses ,smi?'s invitation = ,friday ev5+1 is a /ill rud] =m4 ,a curt & ?\ghtless reply is3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,adam ,br[n's complim5ts & regrets = ,friday ev5+4 ,,reasons ,,= ,,regrets4 ,all regrets f p]sons :o are n able to accept invitations1 %\ld conta9 a reason = regrett+1 is a rule /rictly obs]v$ 9 our be/ society1 & is consid]$ especially b9d+ 9 answ]+ a fir/ invitation4 ,if p]sons are 9 m\rn+1 !y regret t a rec5t b]eavem5t prev5ts !m f accept+4 ,^? contemplat+ be+ abs5t f home1 regret t contemplat$ abs5ce f home prev5ts !m f accept+4 ,a previ\s engagem5t is made ! excuse :5 !re is an engagem5t ei!r at home or away f x1 & also :5 "o has no incl9ation to accept2 :i* makes x q necess>y = ^? :o really regret _! inability to accept1 to m5tion :at t engagem5t is4 ,,! ,,family ,,lett]4 ,x seems h>dly necess>y to give ! =m ( a lett] f "o memb] ( a family to ano!r4 ,x is (t5 ! case t lett]s s5t f home to an abs5t memb] are decid$ly unsatisfactory1 if n to a great ext5t ( little int]e/ outside ( "o or two facts m5tion$4 ,consequ5tly "s h9t z to :at ^? lett]s %\ld be1 are "h giv54 ,!y %\ld be writt5 z ?\gh ! writ] 7 talk+1 us+ famili> expressions1 & su* peculi>ities z ! writ] possesses 9 ord9>y spee* %\ld f9d a place 9 ! lett]4 ,! writ] may speak ( _m trivial ?+s at & ab\t home1 & gossipy matt]s 9 ! neighborhood1 & %\ld keep ! abs5t "o po/$ ^u all m9or facts & occurr5ces1 z well z ! m important ones4 ,! writ] may make inquiries z to h[ ! abs5t "o is enjoy+ himself1 :e!r he f9ds any place bett] ?an home1 & ask su* o!r que/ions z he may desire1 conclud+ ) s9c]e expressions ( affection f v>i\s memb]s ( ! family4 ,! abs5t "o may1 9 l mann]1 express himself freely on all subjects1 describe 8 j\rney m9utely1 & speak ( :atev] he may feel deep int]e/ 94 ,9 %ort1 a family lett] may be z gossipy z ! writ] c make x1 )\t mu* reg>d to an attempt at %[y or dignifi$ composition4 ,,! ,,lett] ,,( ,,fri5d%ip4 ,?is %\ld be ( a m dignifi$ tone1 conta9 less trivialities ?an ! family lett]1 & %\ld embrace matt]s t w be ( int]e/ to bo?4 ,a lett] ( fri5d%ip %\ld be answ]$ 9 due "t1 accord+ to ! intimacy ( ! p>ties1 b %\ld n be delay$ long en\gh to all[ ! fri5d%ip to cool1 if !re is a desire to keep x w>m4 ,,! ,,love ,,lett]4 ,( ?is x may be only said1 t :ile x may be expressive ( s9c]e e/eem & affection1 x %\ld be ( a dignifi$ tone1 & writt5 9 su* a /yle1 t if x %\ld ev] come "u ! eyes ( o!rs ?an ! p>ty to :om x 0 writt51 !re may be f\nd 9 x no?+ ( :i* ! writ] may be a%am$1 ei!r ( sill9ess or ( extravagant expression4 ,,bus9ess ,,lett]s4 ,^! %\ld be brief & to ! po9t1 %\ld be ( pla9 *irography1 & relate to ! bus9ess 9 h&1 9 z few words & z cle>ly z possible4 ,beg9 at once )\t apology or explanation1 & f9i% up ! matt] p]ta9+ to ! bus9ess4 ,if an apology or explanation is due1 x may be made briefly at ! close ( ! lett]1 aft] ! bus9ess has be5 att5d$ to4 ,a lett] on bus9ess %\ld be answ]$ at once1 or z soon z possible aft] receiv+ x4 ,x is all[able1 9 "s cases1 ^u receiv+ a brief bus9ess lett]1 to write ! reply on ! same page1 b5ea? ! orig9al lett]1 & return bo? lett] & answ] toge!r4 ,among bus9ess lett]s may be class$ all correspond5ce relat+ to bus9ess1 applications = situations1 te/imonials reg>d+ ! "* ( a s]vant or employe1 lett]s reque/+ ! loan ( money or an article1 & lett]s grant+ or d5y+ ! favor2 :ile all =ms ( draw+ up notes1 drafts & receipts may prop]ly be includ$4 ,! =ms ( "s ( ^! are "h giv54 ,,lett]s ,,reque/+ ,,employm5t4 ,a lett] ( ?is k9d %\ld be %ort1 & writt5 ) c>e & neatness1 t ! writ] may bo? %[ 8 p5man%ip & 8 bus9ess-l qualities1 :i* are (t5 judg$ ( by ! =m ( 8 lett]4 ,x may be aft] ?is fa%ion3 ,,new ,,york1 ,m>* #a1 #ahhj4 ,,messrs4 ,,"l ,,noble1 ,,de> ,,sirs3 ,hav+ he>d t y are 9 ne$ ( m assi/ance 9 y\r e/abli%m5t 7or /ore1 (fice7 ,i v5ture to ask y = employm5t4 ,i c ref] y to ,messrs4 ,jones ,smi?1 my late employ]s1 z to my qualifications1 %\ld y decide to consid] my application4 ,y\rs truly1 ,,james ,,rob]ts4 ,,lett]s ,,reg>d+ ,,! ,,"* ,,( ,a ,,s]vant4 ,,de> ,,madam3 ,s>ah ,riley1 hav+ appli$ to me = ! position ( cook1 ref]s me to y = a "*4 ,i feel p>ticul>ly anxi\s to obta9 a good s]vant = ! com+ w9t]1 & %all !re=e feel oblig$ by y\r mak+ me acqua9t$ ) any p>ticul>s ref]r+ to h] "*1 & rema91 madam1 ,y\r v ob$i5t s]vant1 ,,mrs4 ,,george ,,/one4 ,,to ,,mrs4 ,,alfr$ ,,/>k4 ,,mrs4 ,,george ,,/one1 ,,de> ,,madam3 ,x gives me pleasure to say t ,s>ah ,riley liv$ ) me = two ye>s1 & dur+ t "t ,i f\nd h] active1 dilig5t & effici5t4 ,%e is a sup]ior cook1 & ,i h full confid5ce 9 h] hone/y4 ,i feel t ,i c recomm5d h] ) full confid5ce ( h] be+ likely to give y satisfaction4 ,i am1 madam1 ,y\r v ob$i5t s]vant1 ,,mrs4 ,,alfr$ ,,/>k4 ,,mrs4 ,,george ,,/one1 ,,de> ,,madam3 ,9 reply+ to y\r note ( inquiry1 ,i beg to in=m y t ,s>ah ,riley1 :o liv$ ) me 9 ! capacity ( cook1 left my s]vices because ,i did n f9d h] temp] & habits 9 all respects satisfactory4 ,%e 0 ?or\ghly compet5t z a cook1 b 9 o!r respects ,i _c consci5ti\sly recomm5d h]4 ,i rema91 ,y\rs1 v truly1 ,,mrs4 ,,alfr$ ,,/>k4 ,,notes1 ,,drafts1 ,,bills ,,& ,,receipts4 ,! foll[+ are =ms ( notes1 drafts1 receipts1 etc43 ,promissory ,note ,)\t ,int]e/4 #ejj4 ,,c9c9nati1 ,o41 ,june #f1 #ahhj4 ,sixty days aft] date1 ,i promise to pay ,samuel ,ar*ov]1 or ord]1 at my (fice 9 ,c9c9nati1 five hundr$ doll>s1 value receiv$4 ,,timo?y ,,mortgrave4 ,promissory ,note ,) ,int]e/ b n ,negotiable4 #abe4cj4 ,,*icago1 ,sept4 #b1 #ahhj4 ,= value receiv$1 ,i promise to pay ,daniel ,c>tright "o hundr$ & tw5ty-five doll>s & ?irty c5ts1 on ,augu/ #ab? next1 ) int]e/ at sev5 p] c5t4 aft] ,janu>y #a1 #ahha4 ,,john ,s4 ,,allbright4 ,a ,negotiable ,note ,payable to ,be>]4 #ge4 ,,detroit1 ,,mi*41 ,oct4 #h1 #ahha4 ,?irty days aft] date1 = value receiv$1 ,i promise to pay ,silas ,g4 ,smi!rs1 or be>]1 at my (fice 9 ,detroit1 sev5ty-five doll>s ) int]e/ f date4 ,,samuel ,q4 ,,pettibone4 ,=m ( a ,receipt4 #be4 ,,new ,,york1 ,nov4 #c1 #ahhj4 ,receiv$ f ,james ,o4 ,mit*ell1 tw5ty-five doll>s1 to apply on acc\nt4 ,,smi?1 ,,jones ,,co4 ,=m ( a ,draft1 ,"t f ,sight4 #a1jjj4 ,,detroit1 ,,mi*41 ,july #g1 #ahhj4 ,at t5 days sight1 pay to ! ord] ( ,j4 ,smi? ,co41 "o ?\s& doll>s1 & *>ge ! same to ! acc\nt ( ,,%ep>d ,,niles ,,to ,,samuel ,,/ok] ,,co41 ,indianapolis1 ,ind4 ,a ,draft or ,ord] ,)\t ,grace4 #age4 ,,c9c9nati1 ,,ohio1 ,aug4 #ab1 #ahhj4 ,at sight1 )\t grace1 pay to ,f4 ,b4 ,dick]son ,co41 "o hundr$ & sev5ty-five doll>s1 & *>ge to ! acc\nt ( ,h4,s4 ,moreh\se4 ,,to ,,trad]s' ,,national ,,bank1 ,c9c9nati1 ,ohio4 ,=m ( a ,bill4 ,,buffalo1 ,n4,y41 ,dec4 #f1 #ahhj4 ,,m>t9 ,,hughes1 ,dr4 ,,to ,,john ,j4 ,,h>t4 ,f\r volumes ,hi/ory ( ,france1 at #b4ej p] volume1 #aj4jj4 ,receiv$ paym5t4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xxiii4 ,g5]al ,rules ( ,conduct4 ,9 society1 ev]ybody %\ld receive equal att5tion1 ! "y z well z ! old4 ,a high au?ority says1 ,if we wi% our "y p to gr[ up self-possess$ & at ease1 we mu/ e>ly tra9 !m 9 ^? graces by giv+ !m ! same att5tion & consid]ation we d ^? ( matur] ye>s4 ,if we snub !m1 & sy/ematically neglect !m1 !y w acquire an awkw>dness & a deprecatory mann]1 :i* w be v difficult = !m to ov]come4 ,,gracefulness ,,( ,,c>riage4 ,physical education is indisp5sable to e well-br$ man & woman4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n only "k h[ to f5ce1 to box1 to ride1 to %oot & to swim1 b he %\ld also "k h[ to c>ry himself gracefully1 & h[ to dance1 if he w\ld enjoy life to ! utmo/4 ,a graceful c>riage c be/ be atta9$ by ! aid ( a drill+ ma/]1 z danc+ & box+ are taught4 ,a man %\ld be able to def5d himself f ruffians1 if attack$1 & also to def5d wom5 f _! insults4 ,danc+ & cali/h5ics are also ess5tial = a lady1 = ! bett] ! physical tra9+1 ! m graceful & self-possess$ %e w be4 ,e lady %\ld "k h[ to dance1 :e!r %e int5ds to dance 9 society or n4 ,swimm+1 skat+1 ar*]y1 games ( lawn-t5nis1 & croquet1 rid+ & driv+1 all aid 9 /r5g!n+ ! muscles & giv+ op5 air ex]cise1 & are !re=e desirable recreations = ! "y ( bo? sexes4 ,,attitude4 ,awkw>dness ( attitude is a m>k ( vulg>ity4 ,loll+1 ge/iculat+1 fidget+1 h&l+ an eye-glass1 a wat*-*a9 or ! l1 gives an air ( gau*]ie4 ,a lady :o sits cross-legg$ or sidewise on h] *air1 :o /ret*es out h] feet1 :o has a habit ( hold+ h] *91 or twirl+ h] ribbons or f+]+ h] buttons2 a man :o l\nges 9 8 *air1 nurses 8 leg1 bites 8 nails1 or c>esses 8 foot cross$ ov] on 8 knee1 %[s cle>ly a want ( good home tra9+4 ,ea* %\ld be quiet & graceful1 ei!r 9 _! sitt+ or /&+ position1 ! g5tleman be+ all[$ m fre$om ?an ! lady4 ,he may sit cross-legg$ if he wi%es1 b %\ld n sit ) 8 knees f> ap>t1 nor ) 8 foot on 8 knee4 ,if an object is to be indicat$1 y mu/ move ! :ole h&1 or ! head1 b nev] po9t ! f+]4 ,,c\gh+1 ,,sneez+1 ,,etc4 ,c\gh+1 sneez+1 cle>+ ! ?roat1 etc41 if done at all1 mu/ be done z quickly z possible4 ,snuff+1 hawk+ & expectorat+ mu/ nev] be done 9 society4 ,a sneeze c be *eck$ by press+ ! ?umb or f+]s firmly across ! bridge ( ! nose4 ,if n *eck$1 ! face %\ld be buri$ 9 ! h&k]*ief1 dur+ ! act ( sneez+1 = obvi\s reasons4 ,,anecdotes1 ,,puns ,,& ,,rep>tees4 ,anecdotes %\ld be seldom br\ght into a conv]sation4 ,puns are always reg>d$ z vulg>4 ,rep>tee %\ld be indulg$ 9 ) mod]ation1 & nev] kept up1 z x deg5]ates into ! vulg>ity ( an alt]cation4 ,a ,,sweet ,,& ,,pure ,,brea?4 ,! brea? %\ld be kept sweet & pure4 ,onions are ! =bidd5 fruit1 because ( _! (f5siv5ess to ! brea?4 ,no g5tleman %\ld g into ! pres5ce ( ladies smell+ ( tobacco4 ,,smok+4 ,x is nei!r respectful nor polite to smoke 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies1 ev5 ?\gh !y h giv5 p]mission1 nor %\ld a g5tleman smoke 9 a room :i* ladies are 9 ! habit ( frequ5t+4 ,9 ^? homes :5 ! husb& is p]mitt$ to smoke 9 any room ( ! h\se1 ! sons w foll[ ! fa!r's example1 & ! air ( ! rooms becomes l t ( a public h\se4 ,,suppression ,,( ,,emotion4 ,suppression ( undue emotion1 :e!r ( laught]1 ( ang]1 or ( mortification1 ( disappo9tm5t1 or ( selfi%ness 9 any =m1 is a m>k ( good bre$+4 ,a ,,good ,,li/5]4 ,to be a good li/5] is almo/ z great an art z to be a good talk]2 b x is n en\gh only to li/51 y mu/ endeavor to seem int]e/$ 9 ! conv]sation ( ^? :o are talk+4 ,only ! l[-br$ all[ _! impati5ce to be manife/4 ,,give ,,prec$5ce ,,to ,,o!rs4 ,give prec$5ce to ^? old] or ( high] social position ?an y\rself1 unless !y requir$ y to take ! prec$5ce1 :5 x is bett] to obey ?an to refuse4 ,be m c>eful to give o!rs _! rank ( prec$5ce ?an to take y\r own4 ,,be ,,mod]ate4 ,always express y\r own op9ions ) mode/y1 &1 if call$ ^u1 def5d !m1 b )\t t w>m? :i* may lead to h>d feel+s4 ,d n ent] into argum5t4 ,hav+ spok5 y\r m9d1 & ?us %[n y are n c[>dly 9 y\r beliefs & op9ions1 drop ! subject & lead to "s o!r topic4 ,!re is seldom any pr(it 9 idle discussion4 ,,s++ ,,& ,,play+ ,,9 ,,society4 ,a lady 9 company %\ld nev] exhibit any anxiety to s+ or play3 b be+ reque/$ to d s1 if %e int5ds to comply1 %e %\ld d s at once1 )\t wait+ to be urg$4 ,if %e refuses1 %e %\ld d s 9 a mann] t %all make h] decision f9al4 ,hav+ compli$1 %e %\ld n monopolize ! ev5+ ) h] p]=mances1 b make room = o!rs4 ,,receiv+ ,,& ,,mak+ ,,pres5ts4 ,em]son says3 ,our tok5s ( love are = ! mo/ "p b>b>\s1 cold & lifeless1 because !y d n repres5t our life4 ,! only gift is a portion ( ?yself4 ,!re=e let ! f>m] give 8 corn2 ! m9] 8 gem2 ! sailor coral or %ells2 ! pa9t] 8 picture1 & ! poet 8 poem4 ,to p]sons ( ref9$ nature1 :atev] ! fri5d creates takes add$ value z "p ( !mselves--"p ( _! lives1 z x 71 hav+ gone into x4 ,p ( ! highe/ rank1 abroad1 w (t5 accept1 ) gratitude1 a bit ( embroid]y done by a fri5d1 a poem inscrib$ to !m by an au?or2 a pa9t+ execut$ by "s arti/2 :o w\ld n c>e = ! mo/ exp5sive bauble t 0 (f]$ !m4 ,m]e co/l9ess does n con/itute ! s\l ( a pres5t2 x is ! k9d feel+ t x manife/s :i* gives x its value4 ,p :o possess noble natures d n make gifts :]e !y feel nei!r affection nor respect1 b _! gifts are be/[$ out ( ! fullness ( k9d he>ts4 ,a pres5t %\ld be ackn[l$g$ )\t delay1 b y mu/ n foll[ x quickly by a return4 ,x is to be tak5 = grant$ t a gift is int5d$ to af=d pleasure to ! recipi5t1 n to be reg>d$ z a "q ( inve/m5t or ex*ange4 ,nev] allude to a pres5t y h giv51 unless y h reason to believe t x has n be5 receiv$ by ! p]son to :om x 0 s5t4 ,unm>ri$ ladies %\ld n accept pres5ts f g5tlem5 :o are nei!r relat$ nor engag$ to !m1 nor indebt$ to !m = "s m>k$ favors4 ,a m>ri$ lady may accept pres5ts f a g5tleman :o is indebt$ to h] = hospitality4 ,9 pres5t+ a book to a fri5d1 d n write 9 x ! "n ( ! p]son to :om x is giv54 ,b ?is is a rule bett] honor$ 9 its brea* ?an 9 its obs]vance1 :5 ! giv] ( ! book is its au?or4 ,pres5ts made by a m>ri$ lady to a g5tleman1 %\ld be 9 ! "n ( bo? h]self & h] husb&4 ,nev] refuse a pres5t if (f]$ 9 k9dness1 unless ! circum/ances are su* t y _c1 ) propriety1 receive x4 ,nor1 9 receiv+ a pres5t1 make su* comm5ts z w\ld seem to indicate t y\r fri5d _c af=d to make ! pres5t4 ,on ! o!r h&1 nev] make a pres5t :i* y _c af=d to make4 ,9 t case ! recipi5t1 if he or %e kn[s any?+ ( y\r circum/ances1 w ?9k t y _h bett] kept x y\rself4 ,,gov]n+ ,,our ,,moods4 ,we %\ld subdue our gloomy moods be=e we ent] society4 ,to look pleasantly & to speak k9dly is a duty we owe to o!rs4 ,nei!r %\ld we afflict !m ) any dismal acc\nt ( our heal?1 /ate ( m9d or outw>d circum/ances4 ,nev]!less1 if ano!r makes u ! confidant ( 8 woes1 we %\ld /rive to appe> sympa!tic1 & if possible help him to be /rong] "u !m4 ,a lady :o %[s by act1 or expresses 9 pla91 curt words1 t ! visit ( ano!r is unwelcome1 may p]haps pride h]self ^u be+ no hypocrite4 ,b %e is1 9 reality1 worse4 ,%e is grossly selfi%4 ,c\rtesy requires h]1 = ! "t be+1 to =get h] own feel+s1 & rememb] ^? ( h] visitor1 & ?us x is h] duty to make t visitor happy :ile %e rema9s4 ,a ,,lady ,,driv+ ,,) ,a ,,g5tleman4 ,:5 a lady (f]s to drive a g5tleman 9 h] phaeton1 he %\ld walk to h] h\se1 if he accepts ! invitation1 unless1 ! di/ance be+ great1 %e %\ld propose to call = him4 ,9 t case he w be on ! wat*1 s z n to keep h] wait+1 &1 if possible1 meet h] on ! way4 ,,an ,,invitation ,,_c ,,be ,,recall$4 ,an invitation1 once giv51 _c be recall$1 ev5 f ! be/ motives1 )\t subject+ ! "o :o recalls x to ! *>ge ( be+ ei!r ignorant or reg>dless ( all conv5tional rules ( polit5ess4 ,!re is b "o exception to ?is rule1 & t is :5 ! invitation has be5 deliv]$ to ! wrong p]son4 ,,avoid ,,talk+ ,,( ,,p]sonalities4 ,avoid speak+ ( y\r bir?1 y\r travels & ( all p]sonal matt]s1 to ^? :o may misund]/& y1 & consid] x boa/+4 ,:5 induc$ to speak ( !m1 d n dwell too long ^u !m1 & d n speak boa/fully4 ,,ab\t ,,p]sons' ,,names4 ,d n speak ( abs5t p]sons1 :o are n relatives or intimate fri5ds1 by _! ,*ri/ian names or surnames1 b always z ,mr4 ----1 or ,mrs4 ----1 or ,miss ----4 ,nev] "n anyone by ! fir/ lett] ( 8 "n1 z ,mr4 ,c4 ,give a =eign] 8 "n 9 full :5 speak+ ( him4 ,,%un ,,gossip ,,& ,,tale-,,be>+4 ,gossip & tale-be>+ are always a p]sonal confession ei!r ( malice or imbecility4 ,! "y ( bo? sexes %\ld n only %un ^! ?+s1 b1 by ! mo/ ?or\gh culture1 relieve !mselves f all temptation 9 t direction4 ,,remov+ ,,! ,,hat4 ,a g5tleman nev] sits 9 ! h\se ) 8 hat on 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies4 ,inde$1 a g5tleman in/9ctively removes 8 hat z soon z he ent]s a room1 ! habitual resort ( ladies4 ,a g5tleman nev] reta9s 8 hat 9 a !atre or o!r place ( public ent]ta9m5t4 ,,treatm5t ,,( ,,inf]iors4 ,nev] affect sup]iority4 ,9 ! company ( an inf]ior nev] let him feel 8 inf]iority4 ,if y invite an inf]ior z y\r gue/1 treat him ) all ! polit5ess & consid]ation y w\ld %[ an equal4 ,,intrud+ ,,on ,,privacy4 ,nev] ent] a private room any:]e )\t knock+4 ,sacr$ly respect ! private prop]ty ( o!rs1 & let no curiosity tempt y to pry into lett]s1 desks1 packets1 trunks1 or o!r belong+s ( ano!r4 ,x is ill-mann]$ to read a writt5 pap] ly+ ^u a table or desk2 :atev] x may be1 x is c]ta9ly no bus9ess ( y\rs4 ,no p]son %\ld ev] look ov] ! %\ld] ( ano!r :o is read+ or writ+4 ,y mu/ n "q a s]vant or *ild ^u family affairs4 ,nev] betray an impli$ confid5ce1 ev5 if y h n be5 b\nd to secrecy4 ,,keep+ ,,engagem5ts4 ,no?+ is m rude ?an to make an engagem5t1 be x ( bus9ess or pleasure1 & break x4 ,if y\r memory is n suffici5tly ret5tive to keep all ! engagem5ts y make1 c>ry a little memor&um book1 & ent] !m !re4 ,,value ,,( ,,polit5ess4 ,*e/]field says3 ,z le>n+1 honor & virtue are absolutely necess>y to ga9 y ! e/eem & admiration ( mank9d1 polit5ess & good-bre$+ are equally necess>y to make y welcome & agreeable 9 conv]sation & common life4 ,great tal5ts1 su* z honor1 virtue1 le>n+ & arts1 are above ! g5]ality ( ! _w1 :o nei!r possess !m !mselves1 nor judge ( !m rightly 9 o!rs2 b all p are judges ( ! less] tal5ts1 su* z civility1 affability1 & an oblig+1 agreeable address & mann]2 because !y feel ! good effects ( !m1 z mak+ society easy & pleas+4 ,,adapt+ ,,y\rself ,,to ,,o!rs4 ,con=m y\r conduct z f> z possible to ! company y *ance to be )1 only d n ?r[ y\rself into improp] company4 ,x is bett] ev5 to laugh at & jo9 9 ) vulg>ity1 s t x d n deg5]ate into indec5cy1 ?an to set y\rself up z bett]1 & bett]-mann]$ ?an ^? ) :om y may *ance to be associat$4 ,true polit5ess & g5u9e good mann]s (t5 n only p]mit b absolutely dem& a tempor>y violation ( ! ord9>y obligations ( etiquette4 ,a ,,woman',s ,,good ,,"n4 ,let no man speak a ^w aga9/ a woman at any "t1 or m5tion a woman's "n 9 any company :]e x %\ld n be spok54 ,civility1 says ,"l ,*e/]field1 is p>ticul>ly due to all wom52 & rememb] t no provocation :atsoev] c ju/ify any man 9 n be+ civil to e woman2 & ! greate/ man w\ld ju/ly be reckon$ a brute if he 7 n civil to ! meane/ woman4 ,x is due to _! sex1 & is ! only protection !y h aga9/ ! sup]ior /r5g? ( ours4 ,,d ,,n ,,contradict4 ,nev] directly contradict anyone4 ,say1 ,i beg y\r p>don1 b ,i ?9k y are mi/ak5 or mis9=m$1 or "s su* simil> phrase :i* %all break ! weight ( direct contradiction4 ,:]e ! matt] is unimportant x is bett] to let x pass )\t correction4 ,,express+ ,,unfavorable ,,op9ions4 ,y %\ld be exce$+ly cauti\s ab\t express+ an unfavorable op9ion relative to a "y lady to a "y man :o appe>s to be attract$ by1 & att5tive to h]4 ,if !y %\ld m>ry1 ! remembrance ( y\r obs]vations w n be pleasurable to y\rself nor ! m>ri$ p>ties4 ,a ,,conv]sation ,,*eck$4 ,if a p]son *ecks himself 9 a conv]sation1 y %\ld n insi/ on he>+ :at he int5d$ to say4 ,!re is "s good reason = *eck+ himself1 & x might cause him unpleasant feel+s to urge him to c>ry out 8 fir/ int5tions4 ,,vulg>ities4 ,"s ( ! acts :i* may be class$ z vulg>ities :5 committ$ 9 ! pres5ce ( o!rs are giv53 ,to sit ) y\r back to a p]son1 )\t ask+ to be excus$4 ,to /& or sit ) ! feet wide ap>t4 ,to hum1 :i/le or s+ 9 suppress$ tones4 ,to /& ) ! arms akimbo2 to l\nge or yawn1 or to d any?+ :i* %[s disrespect1 selfi%ness or indiff]5ce4 ,to correct inaccuracies 9 ! /atem5ts ( o!rs1 or _! modes ( spee*4 ,to use pr(ane language1 or /rong] expression ?an ! occasion ju/ifies4 ,to *ew tobacco & its unnecess>y accompanim5t1 spitt+1 are vulg> 9 ! extreme4 ,,miscellane\s ,,rules4 ,a g5tleman prec$es a lady pass+ ?r\gh a cr[d2 ladies prec$e g5tlem5 "u ord9>y circum/ances4 ,give y\r *ildr51 unless m>ri$1 _! ,*ri/ian names only1 or say my daught] or my son1 9 speak+ ( !m to any "o except s]vants4 ,ladies 9 escort+ ea* o!r1 nev] (f] to take ! arm4 ,ackn[l$ge an invitation to /op ) a fri5d1 or any unusual att5tion )\t delay4 ,nev] boa/ ( bir?1 money or fri5ds1 or ( any sup]ior advantages y may possess4 ,nev] ridicule o!rs1 be ! object ( y\r ridicule pres5t or abs5t4 ,always %[ respect = ! religi\s op9ions & obs]vances ( o!rs1 no matt] h[ mu* !y may diff] f y\r own4 ,y %\ld nev] scrat* y\r head1 pick y\r tee?1 clean y\r nails or pick y\r nose 9 company4 ,nev] lean y\r head aga9/ ! wall1 z y may disgu/ y\r wife or ho/ess by soil+ ! pap] ( h] room4 ,nev] slam a door or /amp noisily on ent]+ a room4 ,always be punctual4 ,y h no "r to wa/e ! "t ( o!rs by mak+ !m wait = y4 ,always h& a *air = a lady1 pick up h] glove & p]=m any little s]vice %e may seem to require4 ,nev] attract att5tion to y\rself by talk+ or laugh+ l\dly 9 public ga!r+s4 ,keep y\rself quiet & compos$ "u all circum/ances4 ,d n get fidgety4 ,if y feel t "t drags heavily1 d n let ?is be app>5t to o!rs by any visible sign ( uneas9ess4 ,refra9 f abs5t-m9d$ness 9 ! pres5ce ( o!rs4 ,y pay !m a poor complim5t if y ?us =get !m4 ,nev] refuse to accept an apology = an (f5se1 & nev] hesitate to make "o1 if "o is due f y4 ,nev] answ] ano!r rudely or impati5tly4 ,reply c\rte\sly1 at :atev] inconv5i5ce to y\rself4 ,nev] intrude ^u a bus9ess man or woman 9 bus9ess h\rs unless y wi% to see !m on bus9ess4 ,nev] engage a p]son 9 private conv]sation 9 pres5ce ( o!rs1 nor make any my/]i\s allusions :i* no "o else und]/&s4 ,on ent]+ a room1 b[ slightly z a g5]al salutation1 be=e speak+ to ea* ( ! p]sons assembl$4 ,d n seem to notice by ^w or glance1 ! de=mity ( ano!r4 ,to adm9i/] repro( to anyone 9 ! pres5ce ( o!rs is v impolite4 ,to scold at any "t is unwise4 ,nev] und]take a commission = a fri5d & neglect to p]=m x4 ,nev] play a practical joke ^u anyone1 or answ] a s]i\s rem>k by a flippant "o4 ,nev] l5d a borr[$ book1 & nev] keep su* a book a s+le day aft] y are done ) x4 ,nev] pass betwe5 two p]sons :o are talk+ toge!r2 & nev] pass be=e p]sons :5 x is possible to pass beh9d !m4 ,:5 su* an act is absolutely necess>y1 always apologize = s do+4 ,nev] speak ( a man's virtues be=e 8 face1 or 8 faults beh9d 8 back1 is a maxim to be rememb]$4 ,ano!r maxim is1 ,9 private wat* y\r ?\ghts2 9 y\r family wat* y\r temp]2 9 society wat* y\r tongue4 ,nev] address a m]e acqua9tance by 8 or h] ,*ri/ian "n4 ,x is a presumption at :i* ! acqua9tance may take (f5se4 ,haught9ess & contempt are among ! habits to be avoid$4 ,! be/ way is to deal c\rte\sly ) ! rude z well z ) ! c\rte\s4 ,9 ! pres5ce ( o!rs1 talk z little ( y\rself z possible1 or ( ! bus9ess or pr(ession 9 :i* y are engag$4 ,x %[s a want ( c\rtesy to consult y\r wat*1 ei!r at home or abroad4 ,if at home1 x appe>s z ?\gh y 7 tir$ ( y\r company1 & wi%$ !m to be gone4 ,if abroad1 x appe>s z ?\gh ! h\rs dragg$ heavily1 & y 7 calculat+ h[ soon y w\ld be releas$4 ,d n t\* or h&le any ( ! ornam5ts 9 ! h\se :]e y visit4 ,!y are int5d$ to be admir$1 n h&l$ by visitors4 ,d n read 9 company4 ,a g5tleman or lady may1 h[ev]1 look ov] a book ( engrav+s or a collection ( photographs ) propriety4 ,e species ( affectation %\ld be avoid$1 z x is always detect$1 & exce$+ly disagreeable4 ,,wa%+ton',s ,,maxims4 ,mr4 ,sp>ks1 9 8 biography ( ,wa%+ton1 has giv5 to ! public a collection ( ,wa%+ton's directions z to p]sonal conduct1 :i* he call$ 8 ,rules ( ,civility & ,dec5t ,behavior 9 ,company4 ,we give ^! rules entire1 z ! read] may be int]e/$ 9 le>n+ ! pr9ciples :i* gov]n$ ! conduct ( ! ,fa!r ( 8 ,c\ntry4 ,e action 9 company ought to be ) "s sign ( respect to ^? pres5t4 ,9 ! pres5ce ( o!rs s+ n to y\rself ) a humm+ voice1 nor drum ) y\r f+]s or feet4 ,speak n :5 o!rs speak1 sit n :5 o!rs /&1 & walk n :5 o!rs /op4 ,turn n y\r back to o!rs1 especially 9 speak+2 jog n ! table or desk on :i* ano!r reads or writes2 lean n on anyone4 ,be no flatt]]1 nei!r play ) anyone t delights n to be play$ )4 ,read no lett]s1 books or pap]s 9 company2 b :5 !re is a necessity = do+ x1 y mu/ n leave4 ,come n ne> ! books or writ+s ( anyone s z to read !m unask$2 also look n nigh :5 ano!r is writ+ a lett]4 ,let y\r c\nt5ance be pleasant1 b 9 s]i\s matt]s some:at grave4 ,%[ n y\rself glad at ! mis=tune ( ano!r1 ?\gh he 7 y\r enemy4 ,!y t are 9 dignity or (fice h 9 all places prec$5cy1 b :il/ !y are "y1 !y ought to respect ^? t are _! equals 9 bir? or o!r qualities1 ?\gh !y h no public *>ge4 ,x is good mann]s to pref] !m to :om we speak be=e ourselves1 especially if !y be above u4 ,let y\r disc\rse ) m5 ( bus9ess be %ort & compreh5sive4 ,9 visit+ ! sick d n pres5tly play ! physician if y be n kn[+ !re94 ,9 writ+ or speak+1 give to e p]son 8 due title accord+ to 8 degree & ! cu/om ( ! place4 ,/rive n ) y\r sup]iors 9 argum5t1 b always submit y\r judgm5t to o!rs ) mode/y4 ,und]take n to tea* y\r equal 9 ! art he himself pr(esses2 x savors arrogancy4 ,:5 a man does all he c ?\gh x succe$s n well1 blame n him t did x4 ,be+ to advise or repreh5d anyone1 consid] :e!r x ought to be 9 public or 9 private1 pres5tly or at "s o!r "t1 also 9 :at t]ms to d x2 & 9 reprov+ %[ no signs ( *ol]1 b d x ) sweetness & mildness4 ,mock n nor je/ at any?+ ( importance2 break no je/s t are %>p or bit+1 & if y deliv] any?+ witty or pleasant1 ab/a9 f laugh+ !reat y\rself4 ,:]e9 y reprove ano!r be unblamable y\rself1 = example is m preval5t ?an precept4 ,use no reproa*ful language aga9/ any "o1 nei!r curses or revil+s4 ,be n ha/y to believe fly+ reports to ! disp>agem5t ( anyone4 ,9 y\r app>el be mode/1 & endeavor to accommodate nature r ?an procure admiration4 ,keep to ! fa%ion ( y\r equals1 su* z are civil & ord]ly ) respect to "t & place4 ,play n ! peacock1 look+ ev]y:]e ab\t y to see if y be well deck$1 if y\r %oes fit well1 if y\r /ock+s set neatly & clo!s h&somely4 ,associate y\rself ) m5 ( good quality if y e/eem y\r reputation1 = x is bett] to be alone ?an 9 bad company4 ,let y\r conv]sation be )\t malice or envy1 = x is a sign ( a tractable & comm5dable nature2 & 9 all cases ( passion admit reason to gov]n4 ,be n immode/ 9 urg+ y\r fri5d to discov] a secret4 ,utt] n base & frivol\s ?+s among/ gr[n & le>n$ m51 nor v difficult que/ions or subjects among/ ! ignorant1 nor ?+s h>d to be believ$4 ,speak n ( doleful ?+s 9 "t ( mir? nor at ! table2 speak n ( melan*oly ?+s1 z dea? & w\nds2 & if o!rs m5tion !m1 *ange1 if y c1 ! disc\rse4 ,tell n y\r dreams b to y\r intimate fri5ds4 ,break n a je/ :5 none take pleasure 9 mir?4 ,laugh n al\d1 nor at all )\t occasion4 ,d]ide no man's mis=tunes1 ?\gh !re seem to be "s cause4 ,speak n injuri\s words1 nei!r 9 je/ nor e>ne/4 ,sc(f at none1 al?\gh !y give occasion4 ,be n =w>d1 b fri5dly & c\rte\s1 ! fir/ to salute1 he> & answ]1 & be n p5sive :5 x is "t to conv]se4 ,detract n f o!rs1 b nei!r be excessive 9 comm5d+4 ,g n ?i!r :]e y "k n :e!r y %all be welcome or n4 ,give n advice )\t be+ ask$2 & :5 desir$1 d x briefly4 ,if two cont5d toge!r1 take n ! "p ( ei!r uncon/ra9$1 & be n ob/9ate 9 y\r op9ions2 9 ?+s indiff]5t be ( ! major side4 ,repreh5d n ! imp]fection ( o!rs1 = t belongs to p>5ts1 ma/]s & sup]iors4 ,gaze n on ! m>ks or blemi%es ( o!rs1 & ask n h[ !y came4 ,:at y may speak 9 secret to y\r fri5d deliv] n be=e o!rs4 ,speak n 9 an unkn[n tongue 9 company1 b 9 y\r own language2 & t z ^? ( quality d1 & n z ! vulg>4 ,sublime matt]s treat s]i\sly4 ,?9k be=e y speak2 pron\nce n imp]fectly1 nor br+ out y\r words too he>tily1 b ord]ly & di/9ctly4 ,:5 ano!r speaks1 be att5tive y\rself1 & di/urb n ! audi5ce4 ,if any hesitate 9 8 words1 help him n1 nor prompt him )\t be+ desir$2 int]rupt him n1 nor answ] him till 8 spee* be end$4 ,treat ) m5 at fit times ab\t bus9ess1 & :isp] n 9 ! company ( o!rs4 ,make no comp>isons2 & if any ( ! company be comm5d$ = any brave act ( virtue1 comm5d n ano!r = ! same4 ,be n apt to relate news if y "k n ! tru? !re(4 ,9 disc\rs+ ( ?+s t y h he>d1 "n n y\r au?or always4 ,a secret discov] n4 ,be n curi\s to "k ! affairs ( o!rs1 nei!r approa* to ^? :o speak 9 private4 ,und]take n :at y _c p]=m2 b be c>eful to keep y\r promise4 ,:5 y deliv] a matt]1 d x )\t passion & indiscretion1 h[ev] mean ! p]son may be y d x to4 ,:5 y\r sup]iors talk to anybody1 he> !m2 nei!r speak nor laugh4 ,9 disputes be n s desir\s to ov]come z n to give lib]ty to ea* "o to deliv] 8 op9ion1 & submit to ! judgm5t ( ! major "p1 especially if !y are judges ( ! dispute4 ,be n t$i\s 9 disc\rse1 make n _m digressions1 nor repeat (t5 ! same matt] ( disc\rse4 ,speak no evil ( ! abs5t1 = x is unju/4 ,be n angry at table1 :atev] happ5s2 & if y h reason to be s %[ x n2 put on a *e]ful c\nt5ance1 especially if !re be /rang]s1 = good humor makes "o di% a fea/4 ,set n y\rself at ! upp] end ( ! table2 b if x be y\r due1 or ! ma/] ( ! h\se w h x s1 cont5d n1 le/ y %\ld tr\ble ! company4 ,:5 y speak ( ,god or 8 attributes1 let x be s]i\sly1 9 rev]5ce & honor1 & obey y\r natural p>5ts4 ,let y\r recreations be manful1 n s9ful4 ,labor to keep alive 9 y\r brea/ t little sp>k ( cele/ial fire call$ consci5ce4 ,,*apt] ,,xxiv4 ,anniv]s>y ,w$d+s4 ,! cu/om ( celebrat+ anniv]s>y w$d+s has1 ( late ye>s1 be5 l>gely practic$1 & !y h become a v pleasant means ( social reunion among ! relatives & fri5ds ( bo? husb& & wife4 ,(t5 ?is is ! only reason = celebrat+ !m1 & ! occasion is sometimes tak5 advantage ( to give a l>ge p>ty1 ( a m in=mal nature ?an c\ld be giv5 "u o!r circum/ances4 ,! occasion becomes "o ( ! memorable ev5ts 9 ! life ( ! c\ple ^: w$d+ anniv]s>y is celebrat$4 ,x is an occasion = recall+ ! happy ev5t :i* br\ght to ea* a new exi/5ce1 & *ang$ ! curr5t ( _! lives4 ,x is an occasion = !m to receive congratulations ^u _! pa/ m>ri$ life1 & wi%es = _m additional ye>s ( w$d$ bliss4 ,^u ^! occasions ! m>ri$ c\ple sometimes appe> 9 ! co/umes worn by !m on _! w$d+ day1 :i* !y h pres]v$ ) punctili\s c>e1 & :5 _m ye>s h int]v5$ ! qua9tness & oddity ( ! /yle ( dress f ! prevail+ /yle is a matt] ( int]e/1 & ! occasion ( pleasant comm5ts4 ,! c\ple receive _! gue/s toge!r1 :o ^u ent]+ ! draw+-room1 :]e !y are receiv+1 ext5d to !m _! congratulations & wi%es = cont9u$ prosp]ity & happ9ess4 ,! v>i\s anniv]s>ies are designat$ by special names1 indicative ( ! pres5ts suitable on ea* occasion1 %\ld gue/s deem x advisable to s5d pres5ts4 ,x may be "h /at$ t x is entirely optional ) p>ties invit$ z to :e!r any pres5ts are s5t or tak54 ,at ! e>li] anniv]s>ies1 mu* pleasantry & amusem5t is occasion$ by pres5t+ unique & fanta/ic articles1 gott5 up = ! occasion4 ,:5 ?is is contemplat$1 c>e %\ld be tak5 t !y %\ld n be su* z are liable to give (f5se to a p]son ( s5sitive nature4 ,,! ,,pap]1 ,,cotton ,,& ,,lea!r ,,w$d+4 ,! fir/ anniv]s>y ( ! w$d+-day is call$ ! ,pap] ,w$d+1 ! second ! ,cotton ,w$d+1 & ! ?ird ! ,lea!r ,w$d+4 ,! invitations to ! fir/ %\ld be issu$ on a grey pap]1 repres5t+ ?9 c>dbo>d4 ,pres5ts1 if giv5 %\ld be solely articles made ( pap]4 ,! invitations = ! cotton w$d+ %\ld be neatly pr9t$ on f9e :ite clo?1 & pres5ts %\ld be ( articles ( cotton clo?4 ,= ! lea!r w$d+ invitations %\ld be issu$ ^u lea!r1 ta/ily gott5 up1 & pres5ts1 ( c\rse1 %\ld be articles made ( lea!r4 ,,! ,,wood5 ,,w$d+4 ,! wood5 w$d+ is ! fif? anniv]s>y ( ! m>riage4 ,! invitations %\ld be ^u ?9 c>ds ( wood1 or !y may be writt5 on a %eet ( w$d+ note pap]1 & a c>d ( wood enclos$ 9 ! envelope4 ,! pres5ts suitable to ?is occasion are mo/ num]\s1 & may range f a wood5 pap] knife or trifl+ article = kit*5 use up to a complete set ( p>lor or kit*5 furniture4 ,,! ,,t9 ,,w$d+4 ,! t5? anniv]s>y ( ! m>riage is call$ ! t9 w$d+4 ,! invitations = ?is anniv]s>y may be made ^u c>ds cov]$ ) a t9 c>d inclos$4 ,! gue/s1 if !y desire to accompany _! congratulations ) appropriate pres5ts1 h ! :ole li/ ( articles manufactur$ by ! t9n]'s art f :i* to select4 ,,! ,,cry/al ,,w$d+4 ,! cry/al w$d+ is ! fifte5? anniv]s>y4 ,invitations may be on ?91 transp>5t pap]1 or color$ %eets ( prep>$ gelat9e1 or on ord9>y w$d+ note-pap]1 enclos+ a %eet ( mica4 ,! gue/s make _! (f]+s to _! ho/ & ho/ess ( trifles ( glass1 :i* may be m or less valuable1 z ! donor feels incl9$4 ,,! ,,*9a ,,w$d+4 ,! *9a w$d+ occurs on ! tw5tie? anniv]s>y ( ! w$d+-day4 ,invitations %\ld be issu$ on exce$+ly f9e1 semi-transp>5t note-pap] or c>ds4 ,v>i\s articles = ! d9+ or tea-table or = ! toilet-/&1 vases or mantel ornam5ts1 all are appropriate on ?is occasion4 ,,! ,,silv] ,,w$d+4 ,! silv] w$d+ occurs on ! tw5ty-fif? m>riage anniv]s>y4 ,! invitations issu$ = ?is w$d+ %\ld be ^u ! f9e/ note-pap]1 pr9t$ 9 bright silv]1 ) monogram or cre/ ^u bo? pap] & envelope1 9 silv] also4 ,if pres5ts are (f]$ by any ( ! gue/s1 !y %\ld be ( silv]1 & may be ! m]e/ trifles1 or m exp5sive1 z ! means & incl9ations ( ! donors incl9e4 ,,! ,,gold5 ,,w$d+4 ,! close ( ! fiftie? ye> ( m>ri$ life br+s r\nd ! appropriate "t = ! gold5 w$d+4 ,fifty ye>s ( m>ri$ happ9ess may inde$ be cr[n$ ) gold4 ,! invitations = ?is anniv]s>y celebration %\ld be pr9t$ on ! f9e/ note-pap] 9 gold1 ) cre/ or monogram on bo? pap] & envelopes 9 highly-burni%$ gold4 ,! pres5ts1 if any are (f]$1 are also 9 gold4 ,,! ,,diamond ,,w$d+4 ,r>ely1 inde$1 is a diamond w$d+ celebrat$4 ,?is %\ld be held on ! sev5ty-fif? anniv]s>y ( ! m>riage-day4 ,s seldom are ^! occurr5ces t cu/om has sanction$ no p>ticul> /yle or =m to be obs]v$ 9 ! invitations4 ,!y might be issu$ ^u diamond-%ap$ c>ds1 enclos$ 9 envelopes ( a correspond+ %ape4 ,!re c be no g5]al (f]+ ( pres5ts at su* a w$d+1 s9ce diamonds 9 any numb] are beyond ! means ( mo/ p]sons4 ,,pres5ts ,,at ,,anniv]s>y ,,w$d+s4 ,x is n1 z be=e /at$1 requir$ t an invitation to an anniv]s>y w$d+ be ackn[l$g$ by a valuable gift1 or inde$ by any4 ,! donors on su* occasions are usually only memb]s ( ! family or intimate fri5ds1 & may act at _! own discretion 9 ! matt] ( giv+ pres5ts4 ,on ! occasion ( gold5 or silv] w$d+s1 x is n amiss to h pr9t$ at ! bottom ( ! invitation ! words ,no pres5ts1 or to enclose a c>d ann\nc+-- ,x is pref]r$ t no w$d+ gifts be (f]$4 ,,invitations ,,to ,,anniv]s>y ,,w$d+s4 ,! invitations to anniv]s>y w$d+s may v>y some?+ 9 _! word+1 accord+ to ! fancy ( ! writ]1 b !y are all simil>4 ,!y %\ld give ! date ( ! m>riage & ! anniv]s>y4 ,!y may or may n give ! "n ( ! husb& at ! "r-h& side & ! maid5 "n ( ! wife at ! left4 ,:at ! anniv]s>y is %\ld also be indicat$4 ,! foll[+ =m w s]ve z a model3 ,illu/ration3 #aheeahhj4 ,! pleasure ( y\r company is reque/$ at ! ,silv] ,w$d+ ,reception ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,cyrus ,j5n+s1 ,on ,?ursday ev5+1 ,novemb] #ac? at n9e o'clock4 #be ,jackson ,av5ue4 ,r4,s4,v4,p4 ,a prop] v>iation w make ?is =m equally suitable = any ( ! o!r anniv]s>y w$d+s4 ,,m>riage ,,c]emony ,,at ,,anniv]s>y ,,w$d+s4 ,x is n unusual to h ! m>riage c]emony repeat$ at ^! anniv]s>y w$d+s1 especially at ! silv] or gold5 w$d+4 ,! e>lie/ anniv]s>ies are almo/ too trivial occasions ^u :i* to introduce ?is c]emony4 ,! cl]gyman :o (ficiates may s *ange ! exact words ( ! m>riage c]emony z to r5d] !m appropriate to ! occasion4 ,,*apt] ,,xxv4 ,bir?s & ,*ri/5+s4 ,^u ! ann\ncem5t ( ! bir? ( a *ild1 ! lady fri5ds ( ! "m s5d h] _! c>ds1 ) inquiries aft] h] heal?4 ,z soon z %e is /rong en\gh to p]mit1 ! "m returns h] own c>d to all f :om %e receiv$ c>ds & inquiries1 ) ?anks = k9d inquiries4 ,h] lady fri5ds !n make p]sonal visits1 b g5tlem5 d n call ^u ! "m on ^! occasions4 ,if !y wi%1 !y may pay _! visits to ! fa!r1 & inquire aft] ! heal? ( ! "m & *ild4 ,,nam+ ,,! ,,*ild4 ,x becomes an all-important matt] to ! p>5ts1 :at "n !y %all give to ! newly-born *ild1 & z ?is is a matt] :i* may also conc]n ! latt] at "s future day1 x becomes an object ( solicitude1 until a suitable "n is settl$ ^u4 ,! cu/om 9 ,scotl& is to "n ! fir/ son aft] ! fa!r's fa!r1 & ! fir/ daught] aft] ! "m's "m1 ! second son aft] ! fa!r1 ! second daught] aft] ! "m1 & succe$+ *ildr5 aft] o!r ne> relations4 ,?is p]petuates family names1 & if !y are p]sons ^: names are reg>d$ z wor?y ( p]petuation1 x may be consid]$ a good cu/om to foll[4 ,) "s x is cu/om>y to "n *ildr5 aft] "s r5[n$ p]son1 ei!r liv+ or dead4 ,!re are objections to ?is plan1 h[ev]1 = if ! p]son be /ill liv+1 he may commit "s act :i* w br+ opprobrium to 8 "n1 & s cause bo? ! p>5t & *ild to be a%am$ ( be>+ su* a disgrac$ "n4 ,if ! p]son aft] :om ! *ild is nam$ be dead1 x may be t ! *ild's "* may be s entirely diff]5t f ! p]son :o =m]ly bore x1 t ! "n %all be made a reproa* or satire4 ,! plan ( reviv+ ! old ,saxon names has be5 adopt$ by "s1 & x has be5 claim$ t ! names ( ,edg>1 ,edw91 ,ar?ur1 ,alfr$1 ,e!l1 ,maud1 ,edi?1 ,!resa1 & _m o!rs ( ! ,saxon names are pleasant s\nd+ & /rong1 & a desirable contra/ to ! ,fannies1 ,mamies1 ,m9nies1 ,lizzies1 ,sadies1 & o!r petty dim9utives :i* h tak5 ! place ( bett] s\nd+ & /rong] names4 ,,! ,,*ri/5+4 ,! *ri/5+ & ! baptism usually occur at ! same "t1 & are regulat$ accord+ to ! practices ( ! special *ur* :]e ! p>5ts att5d wor%ip4 ,z ^! are q v>i$1 x w be suffici5t only to indicate ! =ms & cu/oms :i* society imposes at su* times4 ,,godp>5ts ,,or ,,sponsors4 ,9 ! ,episcopal ,*ur* !re are two1 & sometimes ?ree1 godp>5ts or sponsors4 ,if ! *ild is a boy1 !re are two godfa!rs & "o godmo!r4 ,if a girl1 two godmo!rs & "o godfa!r4 ,! p]sons select$ = godp>5ts %\ld be ne> relatives or fri5ds ( long & close /&+1 & %\ld be memb]s ( ! same *ur* into :i* ! *ild is baptiz$4 ,! mat]nal gr&mo!r & pat]nal gr&fa!r usually act z sponsors = ! fir/ *ild1 ! mat]nal gr&fa!r & pat]nal gr&mo!r = ! second4 ,a p]son invit$ to act z godp>5t %\ld n refuse )\t good reason4 ,if ! gr&p>5ts are n select$1 x is an act ( c\rtesy to select ! godmo!r1 & all[ h] to designate ! godfa!r4 ,"y p]sons %\ld n /& sponsors to an infant2 & none %\ld (f] to act unless _! sup]ior position w>rants !m 9 s do+4 ,,pres5ts ,,f ,,godfa!rs4 ,! sponsors mu/ make _! god*ild a pres5t ( "s sort--a silv] mug1 a knife1 spoon & =k1 a h&somely-b\nd bible1 or p]haps a co/ly piece ( lace or embroid]y suitable = infants' we>4 ,! godfa!r may give a cup1 ) "n engrav$1 & ! godmo!r ! *ri/5+ robe & cap4 ,,! ,,*ri/5+ ,,c]emony4 ,^u ent]+ ! *ur* ! babe is c>ri$ fir/ 9 ! arms ( its nurse4 ,next come ! sponsors1 & aft] !m ! fa!r & "m1 if %e is able to be pres5t4 ,! invit$ gue/s foll[4 ,9 tak+ _! places ! sponsors /&1 ! godfa!r on ! "r & ! godmo!r on ! left ( ! *ild4 ,:5 ! "q is ask$1 ,:o are ! sponsors = ! *ild8 ! prop] p]sons %\ld m]ely b[ _! heads )\t speak+4 ,9 ! ,roman ,ca?olic ,*ur* baptism takes place at z e>ly a date z possible4 ,if ! *ild does n seem to be /rong1 a prie/ is s5t = at once1 & ! c]emony is p]=m$ at ! "m's b$side4 ,if1 on ! o!r h&1 ! *ild is heal?y1 x is tak5 to ! *ur* )9 a few days aft] its bir?4 ,9 ,prote/ant *ur*es ! c]emony ( baptism is usually def]r$ until ! "m is able to be pres5t4 ,if ! c]emony is p]=m$ at home1 a c>riage mu/ be s5t = ! cl]gyman1 & reta9$ to convey him back aga9 aft] ! c]emony is conclud$4 ,a lun*eon may foll[ ! *ri/5+1 ?\gh a collation ( cake & w9e w fill all ! requirem5ts ( etiquette4 ,x is ! duty ( ! godfa!r to propose ! heal? ( ! infant4 ,,pres5ts ,,f ,,gue/s4 ,fri5ds invit$ to a *ri/5+ %\ld rememb] ! babe 9 ^: honor !y conv5e1 by "s trifl+ gift4 ,g5tlem5 may pres5t an article ( silv]1 ladies some?+ ( _! own manufacture4 ,,! ,,h]o ,,( ,,! ,,occasion4 ,x %\ld be rememb]$ t ! baby is ! p]son ( ! greate/ importance on ^! occasions1 & ! gue/s %\ld give x a l>ge %>e ( att5tion & praise4 ,! p>5ts1 h[ev]1 mu/ n make ?is duty too on]\s to _! gue/s by keep+ a tir$1 fretful *ild on exhibition4 ,x is bett] to s5d x at once to ! c>e ( ! nurse z soon z ! c]emony is ov]4 ,,fees ,,to ,,! ,,cl]gyman4 ,?\gh ! ,*ur* p]=ms ! c]emony ( baptism gratuit\sly1 ! p>5ts %\ld1 if !y are able1 make a pres5t to ! (ficiat+ cl]gyman1 or1 ?r\gh him a donation to ! poor ( ! neighborhood4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xxvi4 ,fun]als4 ,! sadde/ ( all c]emonies is t att5dant ^u ! dea? ( relatives & fri5ds1 & x becomes u to %[1 9 e possible way1 ! utmo/ consid]ation = ! feel+s ( ! b]eav$1 & ! deepe/ respect = ! melan*oly occasion4 ,( late ! =ms ( o/5tation at fun]als are gradually dim9i%+1 & by "s p ( intellig5ce1 ev5 m\rn+ habilim5ts are reject$ 9 :ole or 9 "p4 ,,invitation ,,to ,a ,,fun]al4 ,x is cu/om>y 9 cities to give ! notice ( dea? & ann\ncem5t ( a fun]al ?r\gh ! daily newspap]s1 ?\gh sometimes :5 su* ann\ncem5t may n rea* all fri5ds 9 "t1 invitations to ! fun]al are s5t to p]sonal & family fri5ds ( ! deceas$4 ,9 villages :]e !re is no daily pap]1 su* invitations are (t5 issu$4 ,private invitations are usually pr9t$ on f9e small note pap]1 ) a heavy black bord]1 & 9 su* =m z ! foll[+3 ,illu/ration3 ,y\rself & family are respectfully invit$ to att5d ! fun]al ( ,mr4 ,james ,b4 ,s\!y1 f 8 late resid5ce1 ,no4 #hig ,williams av5ue1 on ,friday1 ,octob] #ah1 at #c o' clock ,p4,m4 7or f ,/4 ,paul's ,episcopal ,*ur*71 to proce$ to ,woodl& ,cemet]y4 ,:5 an ann\ncem5t ( a dea? is s5t to a fri5d or relative at a di/ant po9t1 x is usual to telegraph or to write ! notice ( dea?1 "t & place ( fun]al1 to all[ ! fri5d an opportunity to arrive be=e ! s]vices4 ,x is a brea* ( good mann]s n to accept an invitation to a fun]al1 :5 "o is s5t4 ,,arrangem5ts ,,= ,,! ,,fun]al4 ,x is cu/om>y to tru/ ! details ( ! arrangem5ts = ! fun]al to "s relative or fri5d ( ! family1 & if !re be no fri5d :o c p]=m ?is duty1 x c be safely left ) ! und]tak] to p]=m ! pa9ful duties ( ma/] ( c]emonies4 ,x is prud5t to "n a limit = ! exp5ses ( ! fun]al1 & ! means ( ! family %\ld always gov]n ^!4 ,pomp & display %\ld always be avoid$1 z !y are out ( keep+ ) ! solemn occasion1 & inconsi/5t ) real grief4 ,at ! fun]al "s "o %\ld act z u%] to seat ! fri5ds :o att5d4 ,,! ,,h\se ,,( ,,m\rn+4 ,^u ent]+ ! h\se ( m\rn+1 a g5tleman %\ld always remove 8 hat 9 ! hall1 & n replace x until he is ab\t to dep>t4 ,no calls ( condol5ce %\ld be made ^u ! b]eav$ family :ile ! dead rema9s 9 ! h\se1 & memb]s ( ! family may be excus$ f receiv+ any b _! mo/ intimate fri5ds at t "t4 ,!re %\ld be no l\d talk+ or confusion :ile ! body rema9s 9 ! h\se4 ,all diff]5ces & qu>rels mu/ be =gott5 9 ! h\se ( m\rn+1 & p]sonal enemies :o meet at a fun]al mu/ treat ea* o!r ) respect & dignity4 ,! bell knob or door h&le is drap$ ) black crape1 ) a black ribbon ti$ on1 if ! deceas$ is m>ri$ or advanc$ 9 ye>s1 & ) a :ite ribbon1 if "y or unm>ri$4 ,,! ,,fun]al ,,s]vices4 ,if ! s]vices are held at ! h\se1 "s ne> fri5d or relative w receive ! gue/s4 ,! imm$iate memb]s ( ! family & ne> relatives %\ld take a f9al view ( ! corpse j be=e ! arrival ( ! gue/s1 & %\ld n make _! appe>ance aga9 until ! s]vices are ab\t to comm5ce4 ,x is becom+ cu/om>y n[ to res]ve a room ( ! h\se adjo9+ t 9 :i* ! s]vices are held1 = ! exclusive use ( ! ne> relatives & memb]s ( ! family dur+ ! s]vices4 ,!n ! cl]gyman takes 8 position at ! door betwe5 ! two rooms :ile conduct+ ! s]vices4 ,z gue/s arrive1 !y are reque/$ to take a la/ look at ! corpse be=e seat+ !mselves1 & ^u ! conclusion ( ! s]vices ! c(f9 lid is clos$1 & ! rema9s are borne to ! he>se4 ,! cu/om ( op5+ ! c(f9 at ! *ur* to all[ all :o att5d to take a f9al look at ! corpse1 is rapidly com+ into disfavor4 ,! fri5ds :o desire x are reque/$ to view ! corpse at ! h\se1 be=e x is tak5 to ! *ur*4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! deceas$ is a p]son ( great prom95ce 9 ! community1 & ! h\se is n able to accommodate ! l>ge numb]s :o desire to take a la/ look at ! face ( ! deceas$1 !n1 p]haps1 x may be well t ! c(f9 %\ld be op5$ at ! *ur*4 ,,! ,,pall-,,be>]s4 ,! pall-be>]s1 usually six1 b sometimes eight1 :5 ! deceas$ is a p]son ( consid]able prom95ce1 are g5]ally *os5 f ! intimate acqua9tances ( ! deceas$1 & ( ne>ly ! same age4 ,if !y walk to ! cemet]y1 !y take _! position 9 equal numb]s on ei!r side ( ! he>se4 ,if !y ride1 _! c>riage or c>riages prec$e ! he>se4 ,,ord] ,,( ,,! ,,procession4 ,! c>riages conta9+ ! cl]gyman & pall-be>]s prec$e ! he>se1 imm$iately foll[+ :i* are ! c>riages ( ! ne>e/ relatives1 m di/ant relatives & fri5ds respectively4 ,:5 societies or masonic bodies take "p 9 ! procession !y prec$e ! he>se4 ,! horse ( a deceas$ m\nt$ milit>y (fic]1 fully equipp$ & drap$ 9 m\rn+1 w be l$ imm$iately aft] ! he>se4 ,z ! m\rn]s pass out to ent] ! c>riage1 ! gue/s /& ) uncov]$ heads4 ,no salutations are giv5 or receiv$4 ,! p]son :o (ficiates z ma/] ( c]emonies1 assi/s ! m\rn]s to ent] & alight f ! c>riages4 ,at ! cemet]y ! cl]gyman or prie/ walks 9 advance ( ! c(f94 ,9 t[ns & villages :]e ! cemet]y is ne> at h& & ! procession goes on foot1 ! m5 %\ld g ) uncov]$ heads1 if ! wea!r p]mit1 ! hat be+ held 9 ! "r h&4 ,gue/s return to _! respective homes aft] ! s]vices at ! grave4 ,,floral ,,decorations4 ,! usual decorations ( ! c(f9 are fl[]s1 ta/efully arrang$ 9 a beautiful wrea? = a *ild or "y p]son1 & a cross = a m>ri$ p]son1 :i* are plac$ ^u ! c(f94 ,^! fl[]s %\ld mo/ly be :ite4 ,ne> fri5ds ( ! deceas$ may s5d beautiful floral devices1 if !y wi%1 z a m>k ( _! e/eem = ! deceas$1 :i* %\ld be s5t 9 "t to be us$ = decorative purposes4 ,,o!r ,,decorations4 ,a p]son ( rank g5]ally be>s "s insignia ^u 8 c(f94 ,?us a deceas$ army or naval (fic] w h 8 c(f9 cov]$ ) ! national flag1 & 8 hat1 epaulettes1 sword & sa% laid ^u ! lid4 ,! regalia ( a deceas$ (fic] ( ! ,masonic or ,odd ,fell[s' frat]nity is (t5 plac$ ^u ! c(f94 ,,calls ,,^u ,,! ,,b]eav$ ,,family4 ,ab\t a week aft] ! fun]al1 fri5ds call ^u ! b]eav$ family1 & acqua9tances call )9 a mon?4 ,! calls ( ! latt] are n repeat$ until c>ds ( ackn[l$gm5t h be5 receiv$ by ! family1 ! leav+ ( :i* ann\nces t !y are ready to see _! fri5ds4 ,x is ! cu/om = fri5ds to we> no bright colors :5 mak+ _! calls ( condol5ce4 ,9 mak+ fir/ calls ( condol5ce1 none b mo/ intimate fri5ds ask to see ! family4 ,%ort notes ( condol5ce1 express+ ! deepe/ sympa?y1 are usually accept$1 & help to com=t /rick5 he>ts4 ,=mal notes ( condol5ce are no long] s5t4 ,^? :o h kn[n any?+ ( ! uns\nd$ dep?s ( sorr[ d n attempt consolation4 ,all t !y attempt to d is to f9d words :]e9 to express _! deep sympa?y ) ! grief-/rick5 ones4 ,,seclusion ,,( ,,! ,,b]eav$ ,,family4 ,no memb] ( ! imm$iate family ( ! deceas$ w leave ! h\se betwe5 ! "t ( ! dea? & ! fun]al4 ,a lady fri5d w be commission$ to make all necess>y pur*ases1 engage seam/resses1 etc4 ,x is n desirable to en%r\d ourselves 9 gloom aft] a b]eavem5t1 h[ev] great x may be1 & consequ5tly no prescrib$ p]iod ( seclusion c be giv54 ,real grief ne$s no appo9t$ "t = seclusion4 ,x is ! duty ( e "o to int]e/ himself or h]self 9 accu/om$ objects ( c>e z soon z x is possible to make ! ex]tion2 =1 9 fulfill+ our duties to ! liv+1 we be/ %[ ! /r5g? ( our affection = ! dead1 z well z our submission to ! w ( ,him :o kn[s :at is bett] = our de> ones ?an we c "k or dream4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xxvii4 ,wa%+ton ,etiquette4 ,c]ta9 local rules h be5 recogniz$ 9 society at ,wa%+ton1 f ! fact t a g5tleman's social position is acquir$ by virtue ( c]ta9 (fices :i* he holds1 & ! social /atus ( woman is also det]m9$ by ! (ficial rank ( h] husb&4 ,,! ,,presid5t4 ,z ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates holds ! highe/ (ficial rank 9 political life1 s is he also by virtue ( t (fice1 aw>d$ prec$5ce 9 social life4 ,!re is no necessity ( special =malities to =m 8 acqua9tance1 & he receives calls )\t be+ "u any obligation to return !m4 ,he may be address$ ei!r z ,mr4 ,presid5t1 or ,y\r ,excell5cy4 ,sometimes he gives up ! morn+ h\rs to receiv+ calls1 & at su* times prec$5ce is giv5 to su* p z h bus9ess ) him1 ov] p>ties :o g to make a =mal call4 ,9 ei!r case1 ! call] is %[n to ! room occupi$ by ! ,presid5t's secret>ies1 pres5ts 8 c>d & waits 8 turn to be admitt$4 ,if ! call] has no bus9ess1 b goes out ( curiosity1 he pays 8 respects & )draws to make room = o!rs4 ,x is bett] 9 mak+ a private call1 to secure ! company ( "s (ficial or "s fri5d ( ! ,presid5t to introduce y4 ,,receptions ,,at ,,! ,,:ite ,,h\se4 ,/at$ receptions are giv5 at ! ,:ite ,h\se by ! ,presid5t dur+ sessions ( congress1 & all are at lib]ty to att5d !m4 ,sometimes ^! are morn+1 & sometimes ev5+1 receptions4 ,^u ent]+ ! reception room1 ! call] gives 8 "n to ! u%]1 :o ann\nces x1 & ^u approa*+ ! ,presid5t is introduc$1 by "s (ficial to :om ! duty is assign$1 bo? to ! ,presid5t & to ! memb]s ( 8 family :o receive ) him4 ,! call]s pass on1 aft] be+ introduc$1 m+le 9 social int]c\rse & view ! v>i\s rooms until ready to dep>t4 ,if a call] wi%es he may leave 8 c>d4 ,! same rules ( etiquette prevail at /ate d9n]s giv5 by ! ,presid5t z at any =mal d9n]1 prec$5ce be+ giv5 to gue/s accord+ to (ficial rank & dignity4 ,an invitation by ! ,presid5t mu/ be accept$1 & x is admissible to break any o!r engagem5t already made2 h[ev]1 x is necess>y to expla9 ! cause1 9 ord] to avoid giv+ (f5se4 ,x is n reg>d$ z disc\rte\s to break an engagem5t = ?is reason4 ,! wife ( ! ,presid5t is n "u obligation to return calls1 ?\gh %e may visit ^? :om %e wi%es to favor ) su* att5tions4 ,o!r memb]s ( ! ,presid5t's family may receive & return calls4 ,,new-,,ye>',s ,,receptions ,,at ,,! ,,:ite ,,h\se4 ,z ! ,new-,ye>'s receptions at ! ,:ite ,h\se are ! mo/ c]emoni\s occasions ( ! executive mansion1 x is ! cu/om ( ! ladies :o att5d !m to appe> 9 ! mo/ elegant toilets suit$ to a morn+ reception4 ,memb]s ( =eign legations appe> 9 ! c\rt dresses ( _! respective c\ntries on ?is occasion1 9 pay+ _! respects to ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates4 ,,ord] ,,( ,,(ficial ,,rank4 ,next 9 rank to ! ,presid5t come ! ,*ief ,ju/ice1 ! ,vice-,presid5t & ! ,speak] ( ! ,h\se ( ,repres5tatives4 ,^! receive fir/ visits f all o!rs4 ,! ,g5]al ( ! army & ! ,admiral ( ! navy come next 9 ! ord] ( (ficial rank4 ,memb]s ( ! ,h\se ( ,repres5tatives call fir/ on all ! (ficials nam$4 ,! wife ( any (ficial is entitl$ to ! same social prec$5ce z h] husb&4 ,among (fic]s ( ! army & navy1 ! ,lieut5ant-,g5]al corresponds to ! ,vice-,admiral1 ! ,major-,g5]al to ,re>-,admiral1 ,brigadi]-,g5]al to ,commodore1 ,colonel to ,capta9 9 ! navy1 & s on ?r\gh ! l[] grades4 ,,! ,,cab9et ,,(fic]s4 ,! (fic]s ( ! cab9et1 compris+ ! ,secret>ies ( ,/ate1 ! ,treasury1 ! ,w>1 ! ,navy1 ! ,po/ma/]-,g5]al1 ! ,secret>y ( ! ,int]ior & ,attorney-,g5]al1 expect to receive calls1 & z all ! (fic]s are ( ! same rank & dignity1 x is only on occasions ( ,/ate c]emonies t an ord] ( pref]5ce is obs]v$1 :i* is z above giv54 ,! wives ( ! cab9et (fic]s1 or ! ladies ( _! h\sehold1 h on]\s social duties to p]=m4 ,!y hold receptions e ,w$nesday dur+ ! season1 :i* la/s f ! fir/ ( ,janu>y to ,l5t1 :5 _! h\ses are op5 to all :o *oose to favor !m ) a call1 & on ^! occasions refre%m5ts are s]v$4 ,! ladies ( ! family are expect$ to return ^! calls1 at :i* "t !y leave ! c>d ( ! cab9et (fic]1 & an invitation to an ev5+ reception4 ,! cab9et (fic]s are expect$ to ent]ta9 ,s5ators1 ,repres5tatives1 ,ju/ices ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt1 memb]s ( ! diplomatic corps & di/+ui%$ visitors at ,wa%+ton1 z well z ! ladies ( _! respective families4 ,! visit+ h\rs at ! capital are usually f two until half-pa/ five4 ,! labor & fatigue :i* social duties require ( ! ladies ( ! family ( a cab9et (fic] are fairly appall+4 ,to /& = h\rs dur+ receptions at h] own h\se1 to /& at a s]ies ( ent]ta9m5ts at ! h\ses ( o!rs1 ^: invitation c\rtesy requires %\ld be accept$1 & to return 9 p]son calls made ^u h]1 are a few ( ! duties ( ! wife ( a cab9et (fic]4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,address ,,! ,,(ficials4 ,:5 writ+ to ! diff]5t (ficials1 ! ,presid5t is address$ ,8 ,excell5cy1 ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates2 ! memb]s ( ! cab9et ,! ,honorable1 ! ,secret>y ( ,/ate1 etc41 giv+ ea* 8 prop] title2 ! ,vice-,presid5t1 ,! ,honorable1 ! ,vice-,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates4 ,9 a c]emoni\s note1 words mu/ n be abbreviat$4 ,9 conv]sation ! ,speak] ( ! ,h\se ( ,repres5tatives is address$ z ,mr4 ,speak]2 a memb] ( ! cab9et z ,mr4 ,secret>y2 a s5ator z ,mr4 ,s5ator2 a memb] ( ! ,h\se ( ,repres5tatives z ,mi/]1 unless he has "s o!r title2 b he is introduc$ z ,! ,honorable ,mr4 ,burr[s1 ( ,mi*igan4 ,! cu/om is becom+ preval5t ( address+ ! wives ( (ficials ) ! prefix$ titles ( _! husb&s1 z ,mrs4 ,g5]al ,%]man1 ,mrs4 ,s5ator ,?urman1 ,mrs4 ,secret>y ,ev>ts4 ,,! ,,fir/ ,,to ,,visit4 ,! cu/om ( fir/ visits or calls at ! capital is t resid5ts %all make ! fir/ call on /rang]s1 & among ! latt] ^? arriv+ fir/ ^u ^? com+ lat]4 ,=eign m9i/]s1 h[ev]1 9 ord] to make !mselves kn[n1 call fir/ ^u ! memb]s ( ! cab9et1 :i* is return$4 ,,s5ators ,,& ,,repres5tatives4 ,x is entirely optional ) ,s5ators1 ,repres5tatives & all o!r (ficials except ! ,presid5t & memb]s ( 8 cab9et1 :e!r !y ent]ta94 ,!y act ^u _! own pleasure 9 ! matt]4 ,,*apt] ,,xxviii4 ,=eign ,titles4 ,9 ?is c\ntry1 :]e ev]ybody possesses "o & ! same title1 t ( a citiz5 ( ?is ,republic1 no "o c claim a sup]iority ( rank & title4 ,n s 9 ,european c\ntries1 :]e ! "r ( bir? entitles a p]son to honor1 rank & title4 ,& z our citiz5s are con/antly visit+ =eign c\ntries1 x is well to und]/& some?+ ( titles & ranks & _! ord] ( prec$5ce4 ,,royalty4 ,9 ,engl&1 ! k+ & que5 are plac$ at ! top ( ! social /ructure4 ,! mode by :i* !y are address$ is 9 ! =m ,y\r ,maje/y4 ,! ,pr9ce ( ,wales1 ! heir-app>5t to ! ?rone1 /&s second 9 dignity4 ,! o!r *ildr5 are all kn[n dur+ _! m9ority z pr9ces & pr9cesses4 ,! elde/ pr9cess is call$ ! cr[n pr9cess4 ,^u _! majority ! y\ng] sons h ! title ( duke be/[$ ^u !m1 & ! daught]s reta9 t ( pr9cesses1 add+ to x ! title ( _! husb&s4 ,!y are all designat$ z ,_! ,royal ,highnesses4 ,,! ,,nobility4 ,a duke :o inh]its ! title f 8 fa!r1 /&s "o grade bel[ a royal duke4 ,! wife ( a duke is kn[n z a du*ess4 ,!y are bo? address$ z ,y\r ,grace4 ,! elde/ son is a m>quis until he inh]its ! high] title ( 8 fa!r4 ,8 wife is a m>*ioness4 ,! y\ng] sons are lords by c\rtesy1 & ! daught]s are di/+ui%$ by hav+ ,lady prefix$ to _! ,*ri/ian names4 ,e>ls & b>ons are bo? spok5 ( z lords & _! wives z ladies1 ?\gh ! latt] are by "r respectively c\ntesses & b>onesses4 ,! daught]s ( ! =m] are ladies1 ! y\ng] sons ( bo? honorables4 ,! e>l occupies ! high] position ( ! two 9 ! pe]age4 ,^! complete ! li/ ( nobility1 unless we include bi%ops1 :o are lords 9 "r ( _! ecclesia/ical (fice1 b ^: title is n h]$it>y4 ,all ^! are entitl$ to seats 9 ! upp] ,h\se ( ,p>liam5t4 ,,! ,,g5try4 ,b>onets are kn[n z ,sirs1 & _! wives receive ! title ( ,lady2 b !y are only common]s ( a high] degree1 ?\gh !re are families :o h borne _! title = _m successive g5]ations :o w\ld n ex*ange x = a rec5tly creat$ pe]age4 ,a cl]gyman1 by "r ( 8 call+1 /&s on an equality ) all common]s1 a bi%op ) all pe]s4 ,,esquire4 ,! title ( ,esquire1 :i* is only an empty complim5t 9 ?is c\ntry1 has special significance 9 ,engl&4 ,! foll[+ 9 t c\ntry h a legal "r to ! title3 ,! sons ( pe]s1 :e!r kn[n 9 common conv]sation z lords or honorables4 ,! elde/ sons ( pe]s' sons1 & _! elde/ sons 9 p]petual succession4 ,all ! sons ( b>onets4 ,all esquires ( ! ,knights ( ! ,ba?4 ,lords ( manors1 *iefs ( clans & o!r t5ants ( ! cr[n 9 capite are esquires by prescription4 ,esquires creat$ to t rank by pat5t1 & _! elde/ sons 9 p]petual succession4 ,esquires by (fice1 su* z ju/ices ( ! peace :ile on ! roll1 mayors ( t[ns dur+ mayoralty1 & %]iffs ( c\nties 7:o reta9 ! title = life74 ,memb]s ( ! ,h\se ( ,commons4 ,b>ri/]s-at-law4 ,ba*elors ( div9ity1 law & physic4 ,all :o 9 commissions sign$ by ! sov]eign1 are ev] /yl$ esquires reta9 t designation = life4 ,,imp]ial ,,rank4 ,emp]ors & empresses rank high] ?an k+s4 ,! sons & daught]s ( ! emp]or ( ,au/ria are call$ ar*dukes & ar*du*esses1 ! names be+ h&$ d[n f ! "t :5 ! rul] ( t c\ntry claim$ = himself no high] title ?an t ( ar*duke4 ,! emp]or ( ,russia is kn[n z ! cz>1 ! "n be+ id5tical ) ! ,roman caes> & ! ,g]man kais]4 ,! heir-app>5t to ! ,russian ?rone is ! cz>[it*4 ,,european ,,titles4 ,titles 9 cont95tal ,europe are s common & s frequ5tly unsu/a9$ by l&$ & money$ int]e/s1 t !y h n t significance :i* !y hold 9 ,engl&4 ,a c\nt may be a p5niless scamp1 dep5d+ ^u ! gambl+-table = a prec>i\s subsi/5ce1 & look+ out = ! *ance ( mak+ a weal?y m>riage4 ,a ,g]man b>on may be a good1 sub/antial1 unpret5d+ man1 some?+ aft] ! mann] ( an ,am]ican f>m]4 ,a ,g]man pr9ce or duke1 s9ce ! absorption ( ! small] pr9cipalities ( ,g]many by ,prussia1 may h no?+ left him b a b>r5 title & a meagre r5t-roll4 ,! ,italian pr9ce is ev5 ( less acc\nt ?an ! ,g]man "o1 s9ce 8 r5t-roll is too frequ5tly lack+ altoge!r1 & 8 only inh]itance may be a gr& b decay$ palace1 )\t means suffici5t to keep x 9 repair or furni% x prop]ly4 ,,pres5tation ,,at ,,! ,,c\rt ,,( ,,/4 ,,james4 ,x is frequ5tly a satisfaction to an ,am]ican to be pres5t$ to ! ,que5 dur+ a soj\rn 9 ,engl&1 & z ! ,que5 is really an excell5t woman1 wor?y ( all honor1 n only c !re be no valid cause = objection to su* pres5tation1 b x may well be look$ ^u z an honor to be s\ght =4 ,,^? ,,eligible ,,to ,,pres5tation ,,at ,,c\rt4 ,! nobility1 ) _! wives & daught]s1 are eligible to pres5tation at c\rt1 unless !re be "s grave moral objection1 9 :i* case1 z x has ev] be5 ! aim ( ! good & virtu\s ,que5 to ma9ta9 a high /&>d ( morality )9 h] c\rt1 ! objectionable p>ties are rigidly exclud$4 ,! cl]gy1 naval & milit>y (fic]s1 physicians & b>ri/]s & ! squire>*y1 ) _! wives & daught]s1 h also ! "r to pay _! p]sonal respects to _! que54 ,^? ( m democratic pr(essions1 su* z solicitors1 m]*ants & me*anics1 h n1 z a rule1 t "r1 ?\gh weal? & connection h rec5tly prov5 an op5 sesame at ! gates ( ,/4 ,james4 ,any p]son :o has be5 pres5t$ at c\rt may pres5t a fri5d 9 8 or h] turn4 ,a p]son wi%+ to be pres5t$1 mu/ beg ! favor f ! fri5d or relative ( ! highe/ rank he or %e may possess4 ,,prelim9>ies ,,to ,,pres5tation4 ,any nobleman or g5tleman :o proposes to be pres5t$ to ! que51 mu/ leave at ! "l *amb]la9's (fice be=e twelve o'clock1 two days be=e ! levee1 a c>d ) 8 "n writt5 !reon1 & ) ! "n ( ! nobleman or g5tleman by :om he is to be pres5t$4 ,9 ord] to c>ry out ! exi/+ regulation t no pres5tation c be made at a levee except by a p]son actually att5d+ t levee1 x is also necess>y t a lett] f ! nobleman or g5tleman :o is to make ! pres5tation1 /at+ x to be 8 int5tion to be pres5t1 %\ld accompany ! pres5tation c>d above ref]r$ to1 :i* w be submitt$ to ! que5 = ,h] ,maje/y's approbation4 ,^! regulations ( ! "l *amb]la9 mu/ be implicitly obey$4 ,directions at :at gate to ent] & :]e ! c>riages are to /op are always pr9t$ 9 ! newspap]s4 ,^! directions apply ) equal =ce to ladies & to g5tlem54 ,! p]son to be pres5t$ mu/ provide himself or h]self ) a c\rt co/ume1 :i* = m5 consi/s p>tly ( knee-bree*es & hose1 = wom5 ( an ample c\rt tra94 ,^! co/umes are indisp5sable1 & c be hir$ = ! occasion4 ,,! ,,pres5tation4 ,x is desirable to be e>ly to escape ! cr[d4 ,:5 ! lady leaves h] c>riage1 %e mu/ leave ev]y?+ 9 ! %ape ( a cloak or sc>f beh9d h]4 ,h] tra9 mu/ be c>efully fold$ ov] h] left arm z %e ent]s ! long gall]y ( ,/4 ,james1 :]e %e waits h] turn = pres5tation4 ,! lady is at l5g? u%]$ into ! pres5ce-*amb]1 :i* is ent]$ by two doors4 ,%e goes 9 at ! "o indicat$ to h]1 dropp+ h] tra9 z %e passes ! ?re%old1 :i* tra9 is in/antly spread out by ! w&s ( ! lords-9-wait+4 ,! lady !n walks =w>d t[>ds ! sov]eign or ! p]son :o repres5ts ! sov]eign4 ,! c>d on :i* h] "n is inscrib$ is !n h&$ to ano!r "l-9-wait+1 :o reads ! "n al\d4 ,:5 %e arrives j be=e ,8 or ,h] ,maje/y1 %e %\ld c\rtesy z l[ z possible1 s z to almo/ kneel4 ,if ! lady pres5t$ be a pe]ess or a pe]'s daught]1 ! que5 kisses h] on ! =ehead4 ,if only a common]1 !n ! que5 ext5ds h] h& to be kiss$ by ! lady pres5t$1 :o1 hav+ done s1 rises1 c\rtesies to ea* ( ! o!r memb]s ( ! royal family pres5t1 & !n passes on4 ,%e mu/ keep h] face turn$ t[>d ! sov]eign z %e passes to & ?r\gh ! door lead+ f ! pres5ce-*amb]4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xxix4 ,bus9ess4 ,9 ! *apt] on ,our ,mann]s1 we h spok5 ( ! importance ( civility & polit5ess z a means ( success to ! bus9ess & pr(essional man4 ,x is 9 ! ord9>y walks ( life1 9 ! mo/ trivial affairs t a man's real "* is %[n1 & consequ5tly e man1 :atev] may be 8 call+1 w d well to give due att5tion to ^? trivial affairs :i*1 9 8 daily association ) m5 ( ! _w1 w give him a reputation ( be+ cold1 au/]e1 & unapproa*able1 or w>m-he>t$1 g5ial1 & sympa!tic4 ,,=m ,,good ,,habits4 ,x is important = ! "y man le>n+ bus9ess1 or j gett+ a />t 9 bus9ess1 to =m correct habits1 & especially ( =m+ ! habit ( be+ polite to all ) :om he has bus9ess relations1 %[+ ! same c\rte\s treatm5t to m5 or wom51 poorly or pla9ly dress$1 z ?\gh !y 7 attir$ 9 ! mo/ co/ly ( g>m5ts4 ,a man :o =ms habits ( polit5ess & g5tlemanly treatm5t ( ev]ybody 9 e>ly life1 has acquir$ ! good-w ( all ) :om he has ev] be5 br\ght into social or bus9ess relations4 ,he %\ld also gu>d aga9/ su* habits z pr(anity1 ! use ( tobacco & intoxicat+ liquors1 if he w\ld ga9 & reta9 ! respect ( ! be/ portion ( ! community1 & %\ld1 if possible1 cultivate ! habit ( be+ *e]ful at all times & 9 all places4 ,,keep ,,y\r ,,temp]4 ,9 discuss+ bus9ess matt]s1 nev] lose y\r temp]1 ev5 ?\gh y\r oppon5t 9 a controv]sy %\ld become angry1 & 9 ! heat ( discussion make rude & disagreeable rem>ks & *>ges4 ,by a calm & dignifi$ be>+ & c\rte\s treatm5t y w conqu] 8 rud5ess4 ,,hone/y ,,! ,,be/ ,,policy4 ,hone/y is ! be/ policy1 is a maxim :i* m]*ants & tradesm5 w f9d z true z x is trite1 & no tradesman :o wi%es to reta9 8 cu/om]s & 8 reputation w kn[+ly misrepres5t ! quality ( 8 goods4 ,x is n good policy = a m]*ant or cl]k1 9 sell+ goods1 to tell ! cu/om] :at !y co/1 z1 9 a majority ( cases1 he w n be believ$4 ,,! ,,example ,,( ,a ,,m]*ant ,,pr9ce4 ,! value ( polit5ess to a m]*ant is n[h]e m cle>ly %[n ?an 9 ! case ( ! late ,a4,t4 ,/ew>t1 ! m]*ant pr9ce ( ,new ,york4 ,he n only treat$ e cu/om] he wait$ ^u ) ! utmo/ c\rtesy1 b he dem&$ x ( e employe1 & s\ght = m5 possess+ e quality ( "* t5d+ to secure ?is suavity ( mann]1 9 ! selection ( 8 salesm5 & cl]ks4 ,he requir$ !m to obs]ve rigidly all rules & =ms ( polit5ess1 & w\ld all[ no p>tiality %[n to p on acc\nt ( _! dress1 ^? clad 9 humble app>el be+ treat$ ) ! same affability & polit5ess z ^? ri*ly dress$4 ,ev]ybody :o ent]$ 8 /ore 0 sure ( receiv+ k9d & c\rte\s treatm5t4 ,?is may1 or may n1 h be5 8 secret ( success1 b x c]ta9ly ga9$ & reta9$ = him a l>ge cu/om1 & 0 "o elem5t 9 8 "* :i* c be highly comm5d$4 ,& e m]*ant w be judg$ ( by 8 cu/om]s 9 proportion to ! c\rte\s treatm5t !y receive f him1 or f cl]ks 9 8 /ore4 ,! lawy] or ! doctor w also acquire popul>ity & patronage z he exhibits c\rte\s & k9d treatm5t to all ) :om he comes into social or bus9ess relations4 ,,break+ ,,an ,,appo9tm5t4 ,d n break an appo9tm5t ) a bus9ess man1 if possible to avoid x1 = if y d1 ! p>ty ) :om y made x may h reason to ?9k t y are n a man ( y\r ^w1 & x may also cause him great annoyance1 & loss ( "t4 ,if1 h[ev]1 x becomes absolutely necess>y to d s1 y %\ld in=m him be=eh&1 ei!r by a note or by a special mess5g]1 giv+ reasons = its non-fulfillm5t4 ,,promptly ,,meet+ ,,notes ,,& ,,drafts4 ,e bus9ess man kn[s ! importance ( meet+ promptly 8 notes & drafts1 = to neglect x is disa/r\s to 8 reputation z a prompt bus9ess man4 ,he %\ld consid]1 also1 ap>t f ?is1 t he is "u a moral obligation to meet ^! paym5ts promptly :5 due4 ,if circum/ances :i* y _c control prev5t ?is1 write at once to y\r cr$itor1 /at+ pla9ly & frankly ! reason :y y are unable to pay him1 & :5 y w be able4 ,he w accommodate y if he has reason to believe y\r /atem5ts4 ,,prompt ,,paym5t ,,( ,,bills4 ,if a bill is pres5t$ to y = paym5t1 y %\ld1 if x is correct1 pay x z promptly z ?\gh x 7 a note at ! bank already due4 ,! p>ty :o pres5ts ! bill may be 9 ne$ ( money1 & %\ld receive :at is 8 due :5 he dem&s x4 ,on ! o!r h&1 d n treat a man :o calls ^u y to pay a bill1 or to :om y s5d to collect a bill1 z ?\gh y 7 "u no obligation to him4 ,:ile y h a "r to expect him to pay x1 /ill its prompt paym5t may h s inconv5i5c$ him z to des]ve y\r ?anks4 ,,g5]al ,,rules4 ,if y *ance to see a m]*ant's books or pap]s left op5 be=e y1 x is n good mann]s to look ov] !m1 to asc]ta9 _! cont5ts4 ,if y write a lett] ask+ = in=mation1 y %\ld always enclose an envelope1 address$ & /amp$ = ! answ]4 ,c\rtesy dem&s t y reply to all lett]s imm$iately4 ,if y are 9 a company ( m5 :]e two or m are talk+ ov] bus9ess matt]s1 d n li/5 to ! conv]sation :i* x 0 n int5d$ y %\ld he>4 ,9 call+ ^u a man dur+ bus9ess h\rs1 transact y\r bus9ess rapidly & make y\r call z %ort z is consi/5t ) ! matt]s on h&4 ,z a rule1 m5 h b little "t to visit dur+ bus9ess h\rs4 ,if an employ] has occasion to reprove any ( 8 cl]ks or employes1 he w f9d t by speak+ k9dly he w accompli% ! desir$ object mu* bett] ?an by h>%] means4 ,9 pay+ out a l>ge sum ( money1 insi/ t ! p]son to :om x is paid %all c\nt x 9 y\r pres5ce1 & on ! o!r h&1 nev] receive a sum ( money )\t c\nt+ x 9 ! pres5ce ( ! p>ty :o pays x to y4 ,9 ?is way mi/akes may be avoid$4 ,,*apt] ,,xxx4 ,dress4 ,to dress well requires good ta/e1 good s5se & ref9em5t4 ,a woman ( good s5se w nei!r make dress h] fir/ nor h] la/ object 9 life4 ,no s5sible wife w betray t total indiff]5ce = h] husb& :i* is impli$ 9 ! neglect ( h] appe>ance1 & %e w rememb] t to dress consi/5tly & ta/efully is "o ( ! duties :i* %e owes to society4 ,e lady1 h[ev] insignificant h] social position may appe> to h]self1 mu/ ex]cise a c]ta9 influ5ce on ! feel+s & op9ions ( o!rs4 ,an att5tion to dress is useful z reta9+1 9 ! m9ds ( s5sible m51 t pride 9 a wife's appe>ance1 :i* is s agreeable to h]1 z well z t due influ5ce :i* _c be obta9$ )\t x4 ,b a love ( dress has its p]ils = weak m9ds4 ,uncontroll$ by good s5se1 & /imulat$ by p]sonal vanity x becomes a temptation at fir/1 & !n a curse4 ,:5 x is indulg$ 9 to ! detrim5t ( bett] employm5ts1 & beyond ! compass ( means1 x _c be too sev]ely condemn$4 ,x !n becomes crim9al4 ,,consi/5cy ,,9 ,,dress4 ,consi/5cy 9 reg>d to /ation & =tune is ! fir/ matt] to be consid]$4 ,a woman ( good s5se w n wi% to exp5d 9 unnecess>y extravagances money wrung f an anxi\s1 labori\s husb&2 or if h] husb& be a man ( =tune1 %e w n1 ev5 !n1 encroa* ^u h] all[ance4 ,9 ! e>ly ye>s ( m>ri$ life1 :5 ! income is mod]ate1 x %\ld be ! pride ( a woman to see h[ little %e c sp5d ^u h] dress1 & yet pres5t t ta/eful & cr$itable appe>ance :i* is desirable4 ,mu* dep5ds ^u managem5t1 & ^u ! c>e tak5 ( g>m5ts4 ,%e %\ld turn ev]y?+ to acc\nt1 & be c>eful ( h] clo?+ :5 we>+ x4 ,,extravagance ,,9 ,,dress4 ,dress1 to be 9 p]fect ta/e1 ne$ n be co/ly4 ,x is un=tunate t 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 too mu* att5tion is paid to dress by ^? :o h nei!r ! excuse ( ample means nor ( social culture4 ,! wife ( a poorly paid cl]k1 or ( a "y man j />t+ 9 bus9ess1 aims at dress+ z /yli%ly z does ! weal?ie/ among h] acqua9tances4 ,! sew+ girl1 ! %op girl1 ! *amb]maid1 & ev5 ! cook1 mu/ h _! elegantly trimm$ silk dresses & velvet cloaks = ,sunday & holiday we>1 & ! injury done by ?is /ate ( ?+s to ! morals & mann]s ( ! poor] classes is incalculable4 ,z fa%ions are con/antly *ang+1 ^? :o d n adopt ! extremes1 z !re are s _m ( ! prevail+ modes at pres5t1 c f9d some?+ to suit e =m & face4 ,,indiff]5ce ,,to ,,dress4 ,indiff]5ce & inatt5tion to dress is a defect ( "* r ?an virtue1 & (t5 d5otes indol5ce & slov5l9ess4 ,e woman %\ld aim to make h]self look z well z possible ) ! means at h] comm&4 ,among ! ri*1 a fondness = dress promotes ex]tion & activity ( ! m5tal p[]s1 cultivates a correct ta/e & fo/]s indu/ry & +5uity among ^? :o seek to procure = !m ! mat]ial & designs = dress4 ,among ! middle classes x enc\rages dilig5ce1 contrivance1 plann+ & deftness ( h&iwork1 & among ! poor] classes x promotes indu/ry & economy4 ,a fondness = dress1 :5 x does n deg5]ate into va9 %[1 has an elevat+ & ref9+ influ5ce on society4 ,,appropriate ,,dress4 ,to dress appropriately is ano!r important matt] to be consid]$4 ,due reg>d mu/ be paid to ! physical appe>ance ( ! p]son1 & ! dress mu/ be made to h>monize ?r\gh\t4 ,an appropriate dress is t :i* s h>monizes ) ! figure z to make ! app>el unnoticeable4 ,?9 ladies c we> delicate colors1 :ile /\t p]sons look be/ 9 black or d>k grey4 ,= "y & old ! "q ( appropriate color mu/ be det]m9$ by ! figure & complexion4 ,ri* colors h>monize ) brunette complexions or d>k hair1 & delicate colors ) p]sons ( light hair & blonde complexions4 ,,gloves4 ,gloves are worn by g5tlem5 z well z ladies 9 ! /reet1 at an ev5+ p>ty1 at ! op]a or !atre1 at receptions1 at *ur*1 :5 pay+ a call1 rid+ or driv+2 b n 9 ! c\ntry or at d9n]4 ,:ite %\ld be worn at balls2 ! pale/ colors at ev5+ p>ties & neutral %ades at *ur*4 ,,ev5+ ,,dress ,,= ,,g5tlem54 ,! ev5+ or full dress = g5tlem5 is a black dress-suit--a swall[-tail coat1 ! ve/ cut l[1 ! cravat :ite1 & kid gloves ( ! pale/ hue or :ite4 ,! %irt front %\ld be :ite & pla92 ! /uds & cuff-buttons simple4 ,especial att5tion %\ld be giv5 to ! hair1 :i* %\ld be nei!r %ort nor long4 ,x is bett] to err ^u ! too %ort side1 z too long hair savors ( affectation1 de/roys ! %ape ( ! physiognomy1 & has a t\* ( vulg>ity ab\t x4 ,ev5+ dress is ! same = a l>ge d9n] p>ty1 a ball or an op]a4 ,9 "s circles1 h[ev]1 ev5+ dress is consid]$ an affectation1 & x is z well to d z o!rs d4 ,on ,sunday1 morn+ dress is worn & on t day ( ! week no g5tleman is expect$ to appe> 9 ev5+ dress1 ei!r at *ur*1 at home or away f home4 ,gloves are disp5s$ ) at d9n] p>ties1 & pale colors are pref]r$ to :ite = ev5+ we>4 ,,morn+ ,,dress ,,= ,,g5tlem54 ,! morn+ dress = g5tlem5 is a black frock-coat1 or a black cut-away1 :ite or black ve/1 accord+ to ! season1 gray or color$ pants1 plaid or /ripes1 accord+ to ! fa%ion1 a high silk 7/ove-pipe7 hat1 & a black sc>f or necktie4 ,a black frock coat ) black pants is n consid]$ a good comb9ation1 nor is a dress coat & color$ or light pants4 ,! morn+ dress is suitable = g>d5 p>ties1 ,sundays1 social teas1 in=mal calls1 morn+ calls & receptions4 ,x w be se5 t morn+ & ev5+ dress = g5tlem5 v>ies z mu* z x does = ladies4 ,x is decid$ly out ( place = a g5tleman to we> a dress coat & :ite tie 9 ! day-"t1 & :5 ev5+ dress is desir$ on c]emoni\s occasions1 ! %utt]s %\ld be clos$ & ! gas or lamps light$4 ,! true ev5+ co/ume or full dress suit1 accept$ z su* ?r\gh\t ! _w1 has firmly e/abli%$ itself 9 ?is c\ntry2 yet !re is /ill a consid]able am\nt ( ignorance display$ z to ! occasions :5 x %\ld be worn1 & x is n uncommon = ! av]age ,am]ican1 ev5 high (ficials & dignifi$ p1 to we> ! full ev5+ co/ume at a morn+ reception or "s midday c]emony4 ,a dress coat at a morn+ or aft]noon reception or lun*eon1 is entirely out ( place1 :ile ! frock-coat or cut-away & gray pants1 make a becom+ co/ume = su* an occasion4 ,,jewelry ,,= ,,g5tlem54 ,x is n consid]$ 9 good ta/e = m5 to we> mu* jewelry4 ,!y may ) propriety we> "o gold r+1 /uds & cuff-buttons1 & a wat* *a91 n too massive1 ) a mode/ p5dant1 or none at all4 ,any?+ m looks l a sup]abundance ( ornam5t4 ,,ev5+ ,,dress ,,= ,,ladies4 ,ev5+ dress = ladies may be z ri*1 elegant & gay z "o *ooses to make x4 ,x is ev]y:]e ! cu/om to we> full ev5+ dress 9 brilliant ev5+ assemblages4 ,x may be cut ei!r high or l[ at ! neck1 yet no lady %\ld we> h] dress s l[ z to make x q noticeable or a special subject ( rem>k4 ,ev5+ dress is :at is commonly kn[n z full dress1 & w s]ve = a l>ge ev5+ p>ty1 ball or d9n]4 ,no directions w be laid d[n ) ref]5ce to x1 z fa%ion devises h[ x is to be made & :at mat]ial us$4 ,,ball ,,dress4 ,ball dress+ requires less art ?an ! nice gradations ( co/ume 9 ! d9n] dress1 & ! dress = ev5+ p>ties4 ,= a ball1 ev]y?+ %\ld be light & diaphan\s1 some:at fanciful & airy4 ,! heavy1 ri*ly trimm$ silk is only appropriate to ^? :o d n dance4 ,! ri*e/ velvets1 ! brighte/ & mo/ delicate t9ts 9 silk1 ! mo/ exp5sive laces1 elaborate coiffures1 a l>ge display ( diamonds1 artificial fl[]s = ! head-dress & natural fl[]s = h& b\quets1 all belong1 m or less1 to ! co/ume = a l>ge ball4 ,,! ,,full ,,d9n] ,,dress4 ,! full d9n] dress = gue/s admits ( great spl5dor4 ,x may be ( any ?ick texture ( silk or velvet = w9t]1 or light ri* goods = summ]1 & %\ld be long & sweep+4 ,e trifle 9 a lady's co/ume %\ld be1 z f> z %e c af=d x1 faultless4 ,! fan %\ld be p]fect 9 its way1 & ! gloves %\ld be q fre%4 ,diamonds are us$ 9 broa*es1 p5dants1 e>-r+s & bracelets4 ,if artificial fl[]s are worn 9 ! hair1 !y %\ld be ( ! *oice/ description4 ,all ! light neutral t9ts1 & black1 d>k blue1 purple1 d>k gre51 g>net1 br[n & fawn are suit$ = d9n] we>4 ,,dress ,,( ,,ho/ess ,,at ,a ,,d9n] ,,p>ty4 ,! dress ( a ho/ess at a d9n] p>ty %\ld be ri* 9 mat]ial1 b subdu$ 9 tone1 s z n to eclipse any ( h] gue/s4 ,a "y ho/ess %\ld we> a dress ( ri* silk1 black or d>k 9 color1 ) coll> & cuffs ( f9e lace1 & if ! d9n] be by daylight1 pla9 jewelry1 b by gaslight diamonds4 ,,%[y ,,dress4 ,! gl>+ colors & l\d co/umes1 once s common1 h giv5 place to sob] grays1 & br[ns & olives2 black pr$om9at+ ov] all4 ,! light1 %[ily-trimm$ dresses1 :i* 7 once display$ 9 ! /reets & fa%ionable prom5ades1 are n[ only worn 9 c>riages4 ,?is display ( %[y dress & gl>+ colors is g5]ally conf9$ to ^? :o love o/5tation m ?an com=t4 ,,dress ,,= ,,receiv+ ,,calls4 ,if a lady has a special day = ! reception ( calls1 h] dress mu/ be ( silk1 or o!r goods suitable to ! season1 or to h] position1 b mu/ be ( quiet colors & pla9ly worn4 ,lace coll>s & cuffs %\ld be worn ) ?is dress1 & a c]ta9 am\nt ( jewelry is also admissible4 ,a lady ^: morn+s are devot$ to ! sup]9t5d5ce ( h] dome/ic affairs1 may receive a casual call] 9 h] ord9>y morn+ dress1 :i* mu/ be neat1 yet pla91 ) :ite pla9 l95 coll>s & cuffs4 ,= ,new ,ye>'s1 or o!r calls ( special significance1 ! dress %\ld be ri*1 & may be elaborately trimm$4 ,if ! p>lors are clos$ & ! gas light$1 full ev5+ dress is requir$4 ,,c>riage ,,dress4 ,! mat]ial = a dress = a drive ?r\gh ! public /reets ( a city1 or along a fa%ionable drive or p>k1 _c be too ri*4 ,silks1 velvets & laces1 are all appropriate1 ) ri* jewelry & co/ly furs 9 cold wea!r4 ,if ! fa%ion require x1 ! c>riage dress may be long en\gh to trail1 or x may be ( ! l5g? ( a walk+ dress1 :i* _m pref]4 ,= driv+ 9 ! c\ntry1 a diff]5t /yle ( dress is requir$1 z ! du/ & mud w\ld soil ri* mat]ial4 ,,visit+ ,,co/umes4 ,visit+ co/umes1 or ^? worn at a fun]al or in=mal calls1 are ( ri*] mat]ial ?an walk+ suits4 ,! bonnet is ei!r simple or ri*1 accord+ to ! ta/e ( ! we>]4 ,a jacket ( velvet1 or %awl1 or fur-trimm$ mantle are ! concomitants ( ! c>riage dress = w9t]4 ,9 summ] all %\ld be bright1 cool1 agreeable to we> & pleasant to look at4 ,,dress ,,= ,,morn+ ,,calls4 ,morn+ calls may be made ei!r 9 walk+ or c>riage dress1 provid$ ! latt] is ju/ifi$ by ! pres5ce ( ! c>riage4 ,! dress %\ld be ( silk2 coll> & cuffs ( ! f9e/ lace2 light gloves2 a full dress bonnet & jewelry ( gold1 ei!r dead1 burni%$ or enamel$1 or ( cameo or coral4 ,diamonds are n usually worn 9 daylight4 ,a dress ( black or neutral t9t1 9 :i* light colors are introduc$ only 9 small quantities1 is ! mo/ appropriate = a morn+ call4 ,,morn+ ,,dress ,,= ,,/reet4 ,! morn+ dress = ! /reet %\ld be quiet 9 color1 pla9ly made & ( s]viceable mat]ial4 ,x %\ld be %ort en\gh to cle> ! gr\nd )\t collect+ mud & g>bage4 ,lisle-?read gloves 9 midsumm]1 ?ick gloves 9 midw9t]1 are m com=table = /reet we> ?an kid ones4 ,l95 coll>s & cuffs are mo/ suitable = morn+ /reet dress4 ,! bonnet & hat %\ld be quiet & inexpressive1 mat*+ ! dress z ne>ly z possible4 ,9 /ormy wea!r a l>ge wat]pro( ) hood is m conv5i5t & less tr\blesome ?an an umbrella4 ,! morn+ dress = visit+ or breakfa/+ 9 public may be1 9 w9t]1 ( wool5 goods1 simply made & quietly trimm$1 & 9 summ]1 ( cambric1 pique1 m>seilles or o!r wa% goods1 ei!r :ite or figur$4 ,= morn+ we> at home ! dress may be /ill simpl]4 ,! hair %\ld be pla9ly arrang$ )\t ornam5t4 ,,! ,,prom5ade ,,dress4 ,! dress = ! prom5ade %\ld be 9 p]fect h>mony ) itself4 ,all ! colors worn %\ld h>monize if !y are n /rictly id5tical4 ,! bonnet %\ld n be ( "o color1 & p>asol ( ano!r1 ! dress ( a ?ird & ! gloves ( a f\r?4 ,nor %\ld "o article be new & ano!r %abby4 ,! coll>s & cuffs %\ld be ( lace2 ! kid gloves %\ld be select$ to h>monize ) ! color ( ! dress1 a p]fect fit4 ,! jewelry worn %\ld be bracelets1 cuff-buttons1 pla9 gold e>-r+s1 a wat* *a9 & broo*4 ,,op]a ,,dress4 ,op]a dress = mat9ees may be z elegant z = morn+ calls4 ,a bonnet is always worn ev5 by ^? :o occupy boxes1 b x may be z dressy z "o *ooses to make x4 ,9 ! ev5+1 ladies are at lib]ty to we> ev5+ dresses1 ) ornam5ts 9 _! hair1 in/ead ( a bonnet1 & z ! effect ( light colors is mu* bett] ?an d>k 9 a well-light$ op]a h\se1 !y %\ld pr$om9ate4 ,,! ,,rid+ ,,dress4 ,a lady's rid+ habit %\ld fit p]fectly )\t be+ tight4 ,! skirt mu/ be full1 & long en\gh to cov] ! feet1 b n ( extreme l5g?4 ,! boots mu/ be /\t & ! gloves gauntlet$4 ,broadclo? is reg>d$ z ! m dressy clo?1 ?\gh wat]pro( is ! m s]viceable4 ,some?+ light] may be worn = summ]1 & 9 ! light] co/umes a r[ ( %ot mu/ be /it*$ at ! bottom ( ! bread?s ( ! left side to prev5t ! skirts f be+ bl[n by ! w9d4 ,! rid+ dress is made to fit ! wai/ closely1 & button ne>ly to ! ?roat4 ,above a small coll> or rev]se ( ! wai/ is %[n a pla9 l95 coll>1 fa/5$ at ! ?roat ) a bright or black necktie4 ,coat sleeves %\ld come to ! wri/ ) l95 cuffs b5ea? !m4 ,no lace or embroid]y is all[able 9 a rid+ co/ume4 ,x is well to h ! wai/ atta*$ to a skirt ( ! usual l5g?1 & ! long skirt fa/5$ ov] x1 s t if any accid5t occurs oblig+ ! lady to dism\nt1 %e may easily remove ! long ov]skirt & /ill be prop]ly dress$4 ,! hair %\ld be put up compactly1 & no veil %\ld be all[$ to /ream 9 ! w9d4 ,! %ape ( ! hat w v>y ) ! fa%ion1 b x %\ld always be pla9ly trimm$1 & if fea!rs are worn !y mu/ be fa/5$ s t ! w9d _c bl[ !m ov] ! we>]'s eyes4 ,a ,,walk+ ,,suit4 ,! mat]ial = a walk+ suit may be ei!r ri* or pla9 to suit ! ta/e & means ( ! we>]4 ,x %\ld always be well made & nev] appe> %abby4 ,bright colors appe> be/ only z trimm+s4 ,black has g5]ally be5 adopt$ = /reet dresses z ! mo/ becom+4 ,= ! c\ntry1 walk+ dresses are made ta/eful1 solid & /rong1 m = s]vice ?an display1 & :at w\ld be p]fectly appropriate = ! /reets ( a city w\ld be entirely out ( place on ! muddy1 unpav$ walks ( a small t[n or 9 a c\ntry neighborhood4 ,! walk+ or prom5ade dress is always made %ort en\gh to cle> ! gr\nd4 ,?ick boots are worn ) ! walk+ suit4 ,,dress ,,= ,,ladies ,,( ,,bus9ess4 ,= wom5 :o are engag$ 9 "s daily employm5t su* z tea*]s1 saleswom5 & ^? :o are occupi$ 9 lit]ature1 art or bus9ess ( "s sort1 ! dress %\ld be some:at diff]5t f ! ord9>y walk+ co/ume4 ,its mat]ial %\ld be m s]viceable1 bett] fitt$ to endure ! vicissitudes ( ! wea!r1 & ( quiet colors1 su* z br[n or gray1 & n easily soil$4 ,:ile ! co/ume %\ld n be ( ! simple/ nature1 x %\ld disp5se ) all sup]fluities 9 ! way ( trimm+4 ,x %\ld be made ) special ref]5ce to a free use ( ! arms1 & to easy locomotion4 ,l95 cuffs & coll>s are be/ suit$ to ?is k9d ( dress1 gloves :i* c be easily remov$1 /reet walk+ boots1 & = jewelry1 pla9 cuff-buttons1 broo* & wat* *a94 ,! hat or bonnet %\ld be neat & ta/y1 ) b few fl[]s or fea!rs4 ,= w9t] we>1 wat]pro(1 ta/efully made up1 is ! be/ mat]ial = a bus9ess woman's out] g>m5t4 ,,ord9>y ,,ev5+ ,,dress4 ,! ord9>y ev5+ h\se dress %\ld be ta/eful & becom+1 ) a c]ta9 am\nt ( ornam5t1 & worn ) jewelry4 ,silks are ! mo/ appropriate = ?is dress1 b all ! heavy wool5 dress fabrics = w9t]1 & ! light] lawns & org&ies = summ]1 elegantly made1 are suitable4 ,= w9t]1 ! colors %\ld be ri* & w>m1 & knots ( bright ribbon ( a becom+ color1 %\ld be worn at ! ?roat & 9 ! hair4 ,! latt] %\ld be pla9ly dress$4 ,artificial fl[]s & diamonds are out ( place4 ,?is is bo? a suitable dress 9 :i* to receive or make a casual ev5+ call4 ,if a hood is worn1 x mu/ be remov$ dur+ ! call4 ,o!rwise a full dress bonnet mu/ be worn4 ,,dress ,,= ,,social ,,p>ty4 ,= ! social ev5+ p>ty1 m latitude is all[$ 9 ! *oice ( colors1 mat]ial1 trimm+s1 etc41 ?an = ! ord9>y ev5+ dress4 ,dresses %\ld cov] ! arms & %\ld]2 b if cut l[ 9 ! neck1 & ) %ort sleeves1 puff$ illusion wai/s or "s simil> device %\ld be employ$ to cov] ! neck & arms4 ,gloves may or may n be worn1 b if !y are !y %\ld be ( "s light color4 ,,dress ,,= ,,*ur*4 ,! dress = *ur* %\ld be pla91 ( d>k1 quiet colors1 ) no sup]flu\s trimm+ or jewelry4 ,x %\ld1 9 fact1 be ! pla9e/ ( prom5ade dresses1 z *ur* is n ! place = display ( f9e clo!s4 ,,! ,,dress ,,= ,,! ,,!atre4 ,! prom5ade dress ) ! addition ( a h&some cloak or %awl1 :i* may be ?r[n aside if x is uncom=table1 is suitable = a !atre4 ,! dress %\ld be quiet & pla9 )\t any attempt at display4 ,ei!r a bonnet or hat may be worn4 ,gloves %\ld be d>k1 h>moniz+ ) ! dress4 ,,dress ,,= ,,lecture ,,& ,,conc]t4 ,= ! lecture or conc]t1 silk is an appropriate dress1 & %\ld be worn ) lace coll>s & cuffs & jewelry4 ,a ri* %awl or velvet prom5ade cloak1 or op]a cloak = a conc]t is an appropriate out] g>m5t4 ,! latt] may or may n be kept on ! %\ld]s dur+ ! ev5+4 ,:ite or light kid gloves %\ld be worn4 ,,croquet1 ,,ar*]y ,,& ,,skat+ ,,co/umes4 ,croquet & ar*]y co/umes may be simil>1 & !y admit ( m brilliancy 9 color+ ?an any ( ! out-(-door co/umes4 ,!y %\ld be %ort1 display+ a h&somely fitt+ b /\t boot1 & %\ld be s arrang$ z to leave ! arms p]fectly free4 ,! gloves %\ld be s(t & wa%able4 ,kid is n suitable = ei!r occasion4 ,! hat %\ld h a broad brim1 s z to %ield ! face f ! sun1 & r5d] a p>asol unnecess>y4 ,! trimm+ = ar*]y co/umes is usually ( gre54 ,an elegant skat+ co/ume may be ( velvet1 trimm$ ) fur1 ) fur bord]$ gloves & boots4 ,any ( ! w>m1 bright color$ wool fabrics1 h[ev]1 are suitable = ! dress4 ,if blue or gre5 are worn1 !y %\ld be reliev$ ) trimm+s ( d>k furs4 ,silk is n suitable = skat+ co/ume4 ,to avoid suff]+ f cold feet1 ! boot %\ld be amply loose4 ,,ba?+ ,,co/ume4 ,flannel is ! be/ mat]ial = a ba?+ co/ume1 & gray is reg>d$ z ! mo/ suitable color4 ,x may be trimm$ ) bright wor/$ braid4 ,! be/ =m is ! loose sacque1 or ! yoke wai/1 bo? ( !m to be belt$ 91 & fall+ ab\t midway betwe5 ! knee & ankle2 an oilsk9 cap to protect ! hair f ! wat]1 & m]9o socks to mat* ! dress1 complete ! co/ume4 ,,travel+ ,,dress4 ,com=t & protection f du/ & dirt are ! requirem5ts ( a travel+ dress4 ,:5 a lady is ab\t mak+ an ext5sive j\rney1 a travel+ suit is a great conv5i5ce1 b = a %ort j\rney1 a l>ge l95 ov]dress or du/] may be put on ov] ! ord9>y dress 9 summ]1 & 9 w9t] a wat]pro( cloak may be us$ 9 ! same way4 ,= travel+ co/umes a v>iety ( mat]ials may be us$1 ( s(t1 neutral t9ts1 & smoo? surface :i* does n reta9 ! du/4 ,^! %\ld be made up pla9ly & q %ort4 ,! und]skirts %\ld be color$1 wool5 9 w9t] & l95 9 summ]4 ,! hat or bonnet mu/ be pla9ly trimm$ & completely protect$ by a l>ge veil4 ,velvet is unfit = a travel+ hat1 z x cat*es & reta9s ! du/2 coll>s & cuffs ( pla9 l954 ,! hair %\ld be put up 9 ! pla9e/ mann]4 ,a wat]pro( & w>m wool5 %awl are indisp5sible1 & may be roll$ 9 a %awl /rap :5 n ne$$4 ,a sat*el %\ld be c>ri$1 9 :i* may be kept a *ange ( coll>s1 cuffs1 gloves1 h&k]*iefs1 toilet articles1 & t[els4 ,a travel+ dress %\ld be well suppli$ ) pockets4 ,! wat]pro( %\ld h l>ge pockets1 & !re %\ld be "o 9 ! und]skirt 9 :i* to c>ry su* money & valuables z are n ne$$ = imm$iate use4 ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,dress4 ,a full bridal co/ume %\ld be :ite f head to foot4 ,! dress may be ( silk1 heavily cord$1 moire antique1 sat9 or pla9 silk1 m]9o1 alpaca1 crape1 lawn or musl94 ,! veil may be ( lace1 tulle or illusion1 b x mu/ be long & full4 ,x may or may n desc5d ov] ! face4 ,orange blossoms or o!r :ite fl[]s & maid5 blu% roses %\ld =m ! bridal wrea? & b\quet4 ,! dress is high & ! arms cov]$4 ,slipp]s ( :ite sat9 & :ite kid gloves complete ! dress4 ,! dress ( ! bridegroom & u%]s is giv5 9 ! *apt] treat+ ( ! etiquette ( w$d+s4 ,,dress ,,( ,,bridemaids4 ,! dresses ( bridemaids are n s elaborate z t ( ! bride4 ,!y %\ld also be ( :ite1 b may be trimm$ ) delicately color$ fl[]s & ribbons4 ,:ite tulle1 worn ov] pale p9k or blue silk & caught up ) blu% roses or =get-me-nots1 ) b\quet de corsage & h& b\quet ( ! same1 makes a beautiful co/ume = ! bridemaids4 ,! latt]1 may or may n1 we> veils1 b if !y d1 !y %\ld be %ort] ?an t ( ! bride4 ,,travel+ ,,dress ,,( ,a ,,bride4 ,?is %\ld be ( silk1 or any ( ! f9e fabrics = walk+ dresses2 %\ld be ( "s neutral t9t2 & bonnet & gloves %\ld mat* 9 color4 ,x may be m elaborately trimm$ ?an an ord9>y travel+ dress1 b if ! bride wi%es to attract z little att5tion z possible1 %e w n make h]self conspicu\s by a too %[y dress4 ,9 private w$d+s ! bride is sometimes m>ri$ 9 travel+ co/ume1 & ! bridal pair at once set out ^u _! j\rney4 ,,dress ,,at ,,w$d+ ,,receptions4 ,at w$d+ receptions 9 ! ev5+1 gue/s %\ld we> full ev5+ dress4 ,no "o %\ld att5d 9 black or m\rn+ dress1 :i* %\ld give place to grey or lav5d]4 ,at a morn+ reception ( ! w$d$ c\ple1 gue/s %\ld we> ! ri*e/ /reet co/ume ) :ite gloves4 ,,m\rn+4 ,! p ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates h settl$ ^u no prescrib$ p]iods = ! we>+ ( m\rn+ g>m5ts4 ,"s we> !m long aft] _! he>ts h ceas$ to m\rn4 ,:]e !re is pr(\nd grief1 no rules are ne$$1 b :]e ! sorr[ is n s great1 !re is ne$ ( obs]vance ( fix$ p]iods = we>+ m\rn+4 ,deep m\rn+ requires ! heavie/ black ( s]ge1 bombaz9e1 lu/reless alpaca1 dela9e1 m]9o or simil> heavily cl++ mat]ial1 ) coll> & cuffs ( crape4 ,m\rn+ g>m5ts %\ld h little or no trimm+2 no fl\nces1 ruffles or b[s are all[able4 ,if ! dress is n made en suite1 !n a long or squ>e %awl ( b>ege or ca%m]e ) crape bord] is worn4 ,! bonnet is ( black crape2 a hat is inadmissible4 ,! veil is ( crape or b>ege ) heavy bord]2 black gloves & black-bord]$ h&k]*ief4 ,9 w9t] d>k furs may be worn ) ! deepe/ m\rn+4 ,jewelry is /rictly =bidd51 & all p9s1 buckles1 etc41 mu/ be ( jet4 ,lu/reless alpaca & black silk trimm$ ) crape may be worn 9 second m\rn+1 ) :ite coll>s & cuffs4 ,! crape veil is laid aside = net or tulle1 b ! jet jewelry is /ill reta9$4 ,a /ill less degree ( m\rn+ is indicat$ by black & :ite1 purple & gray1 or a comb9ation ( ^! colors4 ,crape is /ill reta9$ 9 bonnet trimm+1 & crape fl[]s may be add$4 ,light gray1 :ite & black1 & light %ades ( lilac1 indicate a slight m\rn+4 ,black lace bonnet1 ) :ite or violet fl[]s1 sup]c$es crape1 & jet & gold jewelry is worn4 ,,p]iods ,,( ,,we>+ ,,m\rn+4 ,! foll[+ rules h be5 giv5 by an au?ority compet5t to speak on ^! matt]s reg>d+ ! degree ( m\rn+ & ! l5g? ( "t x %\ld be worn3 ,! deepe/ m\rn+ is t worn by a wid[ = h] husb&4 ,x is worn two ye>s1 sometimes long]4 ,wid['s m\rn+ = ! fir/ ye> consi/s ( solid black wool5 goods1 coll> & cuffs ( fold$ untrimm$ crape1 a simple crape bonnet1 & a long1 ?ick1 black crape veil4 ,! second ye>1 silk trimm$ ) crape1 black lace coll> & cuffs1 & a %ort] veil may be worn1 & 9 ! la/ six mon?s gray1 violet & :ite are p]mitt$4 ,a wid[ %\ld we> ! hair p]fectly pla9 if %e does n we> a cap1 & %\ld always we> a bonnet1 nev] a hat4 ,! m\rn+ = a fa!r or "m is worn = "o ye>4 ,! fir/ six mon?s ! prop] dress is ( solid black wool5 goods trimm$ ) crape1 black crape bonnet ) black crape fac+s & black /r+s1 black crape veil1 coll> & cuffs ( black crape4 ,?ree mon?s1 black silk ) crape trimm+1 :ite or black lace coll> & cuffs1 veil ( tulle & :ite bonnet-fac+s2 & ! la/ ?ree mon?s 9 gray1 purple & violet4 ,m\rn+ worn = a *ild is ! same z t worn = a p>5t4 ,m\rn+ = a gr&p>5t is worn = six mon?s1 ?ree mon?s black wool5 goods1 :ite coll> & cuffs1 %ort crape veil & bonnet ( crape trimm$ ) black silk or ribbon2 six weeks 9 black silk trimm$ ) crape1 lace coll> & cuffs1 %ort tulle veil2 & six weeks 9 gray1 purple1 :ite & violet4 ,m\rn+ worn = a fri5d :o leaves y an inh]itance1 is ! same z t worn = a gr&p>5t4 ,m\rn+ = a bro!r or si/] is worn six mon?s1 two mon?s 9 solid black trimm$ ) crape1 :ite l95 coll> & cuffs1 bonnet ( black ) :ite fac+ & black /r+s2 two mon?s 9 black silk1 ) :ite lace coll> & cuffs2 & two mon?s 9 gray1 purple1 :ite & violet4 ,m\rn+ = an uncle or aunt is worn = ?ree mon?s1 & is ! second m\rn+ nam$ above1 tulle1 :ite l95 & :ite bonnet fac+s be+ worn at once4 ,= a nephew or niece1 ! same is worn = ! same l5g? ( "t4 ,! deepe/ m\rn+ excludes kid gloves2 !y %\ld be ( clo?1 silk or ?read2 & no jewelry is p]mitt$ dur+ ! fir/ mon? ( close m\rn+4 ,embroid]y1 jet trimm+s1 puffs1 plaits--9 fact1 trimm+ ( any k9d--is =bidd5 9 deep m\rn+1 b worn :5 x is light5$4 ,m\rn+ h&k]*iefs %\ld be ( v %e] f9e l951 ) a bord] ( black1 v wide = close m\rn+1 n>r[] z ! black is light5$4 ,m\rn+ silks %\ld be p]fectly lu/]less1 & ! ribbons worn )\t any gloss4 ,ladies invit$ to fun]al c]emonies %\ld always we> a black dress1 ev5 if !y are n 9 m\rn+2 & x is bad ta/e to appe> ) a gay bonnet or %awl1 z if = a fe/ive occasion4 ,! m\rn+ = *ildr5 "u twelve ye>s ( age is :ite 9 summ] & gray 9 w9t]1 ) black trimm+s1 belt1 sleeve ruffles & bonnet ribbons4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xxxi4 ,h>mony ( ,colors 9 ,dress4 ,! selection & prop] arrangem5t ( colors1 s t !y w produce ! mo/ pleasant h>mony1 is "o ( ! mo/ desirable requisites 9 dress4 ,sir ,jo%ua ,reynolds says3 ,color is ! la/ atta9m5t ( excell5ce 9 e s*ool ( pa9t+4 ,! same may also be said 9 reg>d to ! art ( us+ colors 9 dress4 ,nev]!less1 x is ! fir/ ?+ to :i* we %\ld give our att5tion & /udy4 ,we put bright colors ^u our little *ildr52 we dress our "y girls 9 light & delicate %ades2 ! bloom+ matron is ju/ifi$ 9 adopt+ ! w>m1 ri* hues :i* we see 9 ! autumn leaf1 :ile black & neutral t9ts are decl>$ appropriate to ! old4 ,"o color %\ld pr$om9ate 9 ! dress2 & if ano!r is adopt$1 x %\ld be 9 a limit$ quantity & only by way ( contra/ or h>mony4 ,"s colors may nev]1 "u any circum/ances1 be worn toge!r1 because !y produce positive discord to ! eye4 ,if ! dress be blue1 r$ %\ld nev] be introduc$ by way ( trimm+1 or vice v]sa4 ,r$ & blue1 r$ & yell[1 blue & yell[1 & sc>let & crimson may nev] be unit$ 9 ! same co/ume4 ,if ! dress be r$1 gre5 maybe introduc$ 9 a m9ute quantity2 if blue1 orange2 if gre51 crimson4 ,sc>let & solf]9o are deadly enemies1 ea* kill+ ! o!r :5ev] !y meet4 ,two contra/+ colors1 su* z r$ & gre51 may n be us$ 9 equal quantities 9 ! dress1 z !y are bo? s positive 9 tone t !y divide & di/ract ! att5tion4 ,:5 two colors are worn 9 any quantity1 "o mu/ approa* a neutral t9t1 su* z gray or drab4 ,black may be worn ) any color1 ?\gh x looks be/ ) ! light] %ades ( ! diff]5t colors4 ,:ite may also be worn ) any color1 ?\gh x looks be/ ) ! d>k] tones4 ,?us :ite & crimson1 black & p9k1 ea* contra/ bett] & h a ri*] effect ?an ?\gh ! black 7 unit$ ) ! crimson & ! :ite ) ! p9k4 ,drab1 be+ a %ade ( no color betwe5 black & :ite1 may be worn ) equal effect ) all4 ,a p]son ( v fair1 delicate complexion1 %\ld always we> ! mo/ delicate ( t9ts1 su* z light blue1 mauve & pea-gre54 ,a brunette requires bright colors1 su* z sc>let & orange1 to br+ out ! brilliant t9ts 9 h] complexion4 ,a florid face & auburn hair call = blue4 ,black hair has its color & dep? enhanc$ by sc>let1 orange or :ite1 & w be> diamonds1 pe>ls or lu/reless gold4 ,d>k br[n hair w be> light blue1 or d>k blue 9 a less] quantity4 ,if ! hair has no ri*ness ( color+1 a pale yell[i% gre5 w by reflection produce ! lack+ w>m t9t4 ,light br[n hair requires blue1 :i* sets (f to advantage ! gold5 t9t4 ,pure gold5 or yell[ hair ne$s blue1 & its beauty is also increas$ by ! addition ( pe>ls or :ite fl[]s4 ,auburn hair1 if v]g+ on ! r$1 ne$s sc>let to tone x d[n4 ,if ( a gold5 r$1 blue1 gre51 purple or black w br+ out ! ri*ness ( its t9ts4 ,flax5 hair requires blue4 ,,mat]ial ,,= ,,dress4 ,! mat]ial = dress mu/ be select$ ) ref]5ce to ! purpose :i* x is to s]ve4 ,no "o buys a yell[ sat9 dress = ! prom5ade1 yet a yell[ sat9 se5 by gaslight is beautiful1 z an ev5+-dress4 ,nei!r w\ld "o buy a heavy s]ge ( neutral t9t = an op]a-dress4 ,,size ,,9 ,,relation ,,to ,,dress ,,& ,,colors4 ,a small p]son may dress 9 light colors :i* w\ld be simply ridicul\s on a p]son ( l>g] proportions4 ,s a lady ( maje/ic appe>ance %\ld nev] we> :ite1 b w be se5 to ! be/ advantage 9 black or d>k t9ts4 ,a lady ( dim9utive /ature is dress$ 9 bad ta/e :5 %e appe>s 9 a g>m5t ) l>ge figures1 plaids or /ripes4 ,nei!r %\ld a lady ( l>ge proportions be se5 9 simil> g>m5ts1 because1 unit$ ) h] size1 !y give h] a l\d appe>ance4 ,inde$1 pron\nc$ figures & broad /ripes & plaids are nev] 9 p]fect ta/e4 ,heavy1 ri* mat]ials suit a tall figure1 :ile light1 full drap]ies %\ld only be worn by ^? ( sl5d] proportions & n too %ort4 ,! v %ort & /\t mu/ be cont5t ) meagre drap]y & quiet colors4 ,tall & slim p]sons %\ld avoid /ripes2 %ort1 *unky ones1 fl\nces1 or any horizontal trimm+ ( ! dress :i*1 by break+ ! outl9e f ! wai/ to ! feet1 produces an effect ( %ort5+4 ,,h[ ,,colors ,,h>monize4 ,colors may =m a h>mony ei!r by contra/ or by analogy4 ,:5 two remote %ades ( "o color are associat$1 su* z v light blue & a v d>k blue1 !y h>monize by contra/1 ?\gh ! h>mony may be nei!r /rik+ nor p]fect4 ,:5 two colors :i* are simil> to ea* o!r are gr\p$1 su* z orange & sc>let1 crimson & orange1 !y h>monize by analogy4 ,a h>mony ( contra/ is *>act]iz$ by brilliancy & decision1 & a h>mony ( analogy by a quiet & pleas+ association ( colors4 ,:5 a color is *os5 :i* is favorable to ! complexion1 x is well to associate ) x ! t9ts :i* w h>monize by analogy1 z to use contra/+ colors w\ld dim9i% its favorable effect4 ,:5 a color is us$ 9 dress1 n suitable to ! complexion1 x %\ld be associat$ ) contra/+ colors1 z !y h ! p[] to neutralize its objectionable influ5ce4 ,illu/ration ,colors ( simil> p[] :i* contra/ ) ea* o!r1 mutually int5sify ea* o!r's brilliancy1 z blue & orange1 sc>let & gre52 b d>k & light colors associat$ d n int5sify ea* o!r to ! same degree1 ! d>k appe>+ d>k] & ! light appe>+ light]1 z d>k blue & /raw color4 ,colors :i* h>monize ) ea* o!r by analogy1 r$uce ea* o!r's brilliancy to a great] or less degree1 z :ite & yell[1 blue & purple1 black & br[n4 ,! v>i\s %ades ( purple & lilac1 d>k blues & d>k gre5s1 lose mu* ( _! brilliancy by gaslight1 :ile orange1 sc>let1 crimson1 ! light br[ns & light gre5s1 ga9 brilliancy by a /rong artificial light4 ,bel[ ! read] w f9d a li/ ( colors t h>monize1 =m+ mo/ agreeable comb9ations1 9 :i* are includ$ all ! late/ & mo/ fa%ionable %ades & colors3 ,black & p9k4 ,black & lilac4 ,black & sc>let4 ,black & maize4 ,black & slate color4 ,black & orange1 a ri* h>mony4 ,black & :ite1 a p]fect h>mony4 ,black & br[n1 a dull h>mony4 ,black & drab or buff4 ,black1 :ite or yell[ & crimson4 ,black1 orange1 blue & sc>let4 ,black & *ocolate br[n4 ,black & %ad$ c>d9al4 ,black & c>d9al4 ,black1 yell[1 bronze & light blue4 ,black1 c>d9al1 blue & old gold4 ,blue & br[n4 ,blue & black4 ,blue & gold1 a ri* h>mony4 ,blue & orange1 a p]fect h>mony4 ,blue & *e/nut 7or *ocolate74 ,blue & maize4 ,blue & /raw color4 ,blue & :ite4 ,blue & fawn color1 weak h>mony4 ,blue & /one color4 ,blue & drab4 ,blue & lilac1 weak h>mony4 ,blue & crimson1 imp]fectly4 ,blue & p9k1 poor h>mony4 ,blue & salmon color4 ,blue1 sc>let & purple 7or lilac74 ,blue1 orange & black4 ,blue1 orange & gre54 ,blue1 br[n1 crimson & gold 7or yell[74 ,blue1 orange1 black & :ite4 ,blue1 p9k & bronze gre54 ,blue1 c>d9al & old gold4 ,blue1 yell[1 *ocolate-br[n & gold4 ,blue1 mulb]ry & yell[4 ,bronze & old gold4 ,bronze1 p9k & light blue4 ,bronze1 black1 blue1 p9k & gold4 ,bronze1 c>d9al & peacock blue4 ,br[n1 blue1 gre51 c>d9al & yell[4 ,br[n1 yell[1 c>d9al & peacock blue4 ,crimson & gold1 ri* h>mony4 ,crimson & orange1 ri* h>mony4 ,crimson & br[n1 dull h>mony4 ,crimson & black1 dull h>mony4 ,crimson & drab4 ,crimson & maize4 ,crimson & purple4 ,c>d9al & old gold4 ,c>d9al1 br[n & black4 ,c>d9al & navy blue4 ,*ocolate1 blue1 p9k & gold4 ,cl>et & old gold4 ,d>k gre51 :ite & c>d9al4 ,ecrue1 bronze & peacock4 ,ecrue & light blue4 ,g>net1 bronze & p9k4 ,g5sd'arme & c>d9al4 ,g5sd'arme & bronze4 ,g5sd'arme & myrtle4 ,g5sd'arme & old gold4 ,g5sd'arme1 yell[ & c>d9al4 ,g5sd'arme1 p9k1 c>d9al & lav5d]4 ,gre5 & gold1 or gold color4 ,gre5 & sc>let4 ,gre5 & orange4 ,gre5 & yell[4 ,gre51 crimson1 blue & gold1 or yell[4 ,gre51 blue & sc>let4 ,gre51 gold & mulb]ry4 ,gre5 & c>d9al4 ,lilac & :ite1 poor4 ,lilac & gray1 poor4 ,lilac & maize4 ,lilac & *]ry4 ,lilac & gold1 or gold color4 ,lilac & sc>let4 ,lilac & crimson4 ,lilac1 sc>let & :ite or black4 ,lilac1 gold color & crimson4 ,lilac1 yell[ or gold1 sc>let & :ite4 ,light p9k & g>net4 ,light drab1 p9e1 yell[ & :ite4 ,myrtle & old gold4 ,myrtle & bronze4 ,myrtle1 r$1 blue & yell[4 ,myrtle1 mulb]ry1 c>d9al1 gold & light gre54 ,mulb]ry & old gold4 ,mulb]ry & gold4 ,mulb]ry & bronze4 ,mulb]ry1 bronze & gold4 ,mulb]ry & pe>l4 ,mode1 pe>l & mulb]ry4 ,m>oon1 yell[1 silv]y gray & light gre54 ,navy blue1 light blue & gold4 ,navy blue1 g5sd'arme & pe>l4 ,navy blue1 maize1 c>d9al & yell[4 ,orange & bronze1 agreeable4 ,orange & *e/nut4 ,orange1 lilac & crimson4 ,orange1 r$ & gre54 ,orange1 purple & sc>let4 ,orange1 blue1 sc>let & purple4 ,orange1 blue1 sc>let & cl>et4 ,orange1 blue1 sc>let1 :ite & gre54 ,orange1 blue & crimson4 ,pe>l1 light blue & peacock blue4 ,peacock blue & light gold4 ,peacock blue & old gold4 ,peacock blue & c>d9al4 ,peacock blue1 pe>l1 gold & c>d9al4 ,purple & maize4 ,purple & blue4 ,purple & gold1 or gold color1 ri*4 ,purple & orange1 ri*4 ,purple & black1 heavy4 ,purple & :ite1 cold4 ,purple1 sc>let & gold color4 ,purple1 sc>let & :ite4 ,purple1 sc>let1 blue & orange4 ,purple1 sc>let1 blue1 yell[ & black4 ,r$ & :ite1 or gray4 ,r$ & gold1 or gold color4 ,r$1 orange & gre54 ,r$1 yell[ or gold color & black4 ,r$1 gold color1 black & :ite4 ,seal br[n1 gold & c>d9al4 ,sapphire & bronze4 ,sapphire & old gold4 ,sapphire & c>d9al4 ,sapphire & light blue4 ,sapphire & light p9k4 ,sapphire & corn4 ,sapphire & g>net4 ,sapphire & mulb]ry4 ,%ad$ blue & black4 ,sc>let & blue4 ,sc>let & slate color4 ,sc>let & orange4 ,sc>let1 blue & :ite4 ,sc>let1 blue & yell[4 ,sc>let1 black & :ite4 ,sc>let1 blue1 black & yell[4 ,%ad$ blue1 %ad$ g>net & %ad$ gold4 ,%ad$ blue & black4 ,:ite & *]ry4 ,:ite & crimson4 ,:ite & br[n4 ,:ite & p9k4 ,:ite & sc>let4 ,:ite & gold color1 poor4 ,yell[ & black4 ,yell[ & br[n4 ,yell[ & r$4 ,yell[ & *e/nut or *ocolate4 ,yell[ & :ite1 poor4 ,yell[ & purple1 agreeable4 ,yell[ & violet4 ,yell[ & lilac1 weak4 ,yell[ & blue1 cold4 ,yell[ & crimson4 ,yell[1 purple & crimson4 ,yell[1 purple1 sc>let & blue4 ,yell[1 c>d9al & peacock blue4 ,yell[1 p9k1 m>oon & light blue4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xxxii4 ,! ,toilet4 ,to appe> at all times neat1 clean & tidy1 is dem&$ ( e well-br$ p]son4 ,! dress may be pla91 ri* or extravagant1 b !re mu/ be a neatness & cleanl9ess ( ! p]son4 ,:e!r a lady is possess$ ( few or _m p]sonal attractions1 x is h] duty at all times to appe> tidy & clean1 & to make h]self z comely & attractive z circum/ances & surr\nd+s w p]mit4 ,! same may be said ( a g5tleman4 ,if a g5tleman calls ^u a lady1 8 duty & 8 respect = h] dem& t he %all appe> n only 9 good clo!s1 b ) well comb$ hair1 exquisitely clean h&s1 well trimm$ be>d or cleanly %av5 face1 :ile ! lady w n %[ h]self 9 an untidy dress1 or di%evel$ hair4 ,!y %\ld appe> at _! be/4 ,^u ! m9or details ( ! toilet dep5d1 9 a great degree1 ! heal?1 n to say ! beauty1 ( ! individual4 ,9 fact ! highe/ /ate ( heal? is equival5t to ! highe/ degree ( beauty ( :i* ! individual is capable4 ,,p]fumes4 ,p]fumes1 if us$ at all1 %\ld be us$ 9 ! /ricte/ mod]ation1 & be ( ! mo/ re*]*e k9d4 ,musk & pat*\li %\ld always be avoid$1 z1 to _m p ( s5sitive temp]am5t1 _! odor is exce$+ly disagreeable4 ,cologne wat] ( ! be/ quality is nev] (f5sive4 ,,! ,,ba?4 ,cleanl9ess is ! outw>d sign ( inw>d purity4 ,cleanl9ess ( ! p]son is heal?1 & heal? is beauty4 ,! ba? is consequ5tly a v important means ( pres]v+ ! heal? & enhanc+ ! beauty4 ,x is n to be suppos$ t we ba! simply to become clean1 b because we wi% to rema9 clean4 ,cold wat] refre%es & invigorates1 b does n cleanse1 & p]sons :o daily use a sponge ba? 9 ! morn+1 %\ld frequ5tly use a w>m "o1 ( f n9ety-six to "o hundr$ degrees ,fahr5heit = cleans+ purposes4 ,:5 a plunge ba? is tak51 ! safe/ temp]ature is f eighty to n9ety degrees1 :i* answ]s ! purposes ( bo? cleans+ & refre%+4 ,soap %\ld be pl5tifully us$1 & ! fle%bru% appli$ vigor\sly1 dry+ ) a co>se ,turki% t[el4 ,no?+ improves ! complexion l ! daily use ( ! fle%bru%1 ) e>ly ris+ & ex]cise 9 ! op5 air4 ,9 _m h\ses1 9 l>ge cities1 !re is a sep>ate ba?-room1 ) hot & cold wat]1 b 9 small] places & c\ntry h\ses ?is conv5i5ce is n to be f\nd4 ,a sub/itute = ! ba?-room is a l>ge piece ( oil-clo?1 :i* c be laid ^u ! floor ( an ord9>y dress+-room4 ,^u ?is may be plac$ ! ba? tub or bas91 or a p]son may use x to /& ^u :ile tak+ a sponge ba?4 ,! v>i\s k9ds ( ba?s1 bo? hot & cold1 are ! %[] ba?1 ! d\*e1 ! hip ba? & ! sponge ba?4 ,! %[] ba? c only be endur$ by ! mo/ vigor\s con/itutions1 & !re=e _c be recomm5d$ = indiscrim9ate use4 ,a d\*e or hip ba? may be tak5 e morn+1 ) ! temp]ature ( ! wat] suit$ to ! endurance ( ! individual4 ,9 summ] a sponge ba? may be tak5 ^u retir+4 ,once a week a w>m ba?1 at f n9ety to "o hundr$ degrees1 may be tak51 ) pl5ty ( soap1 9 ord] to ?or\ghly cleanse ! pores ( ! sk94 ,r\gh t[els %\ld be vigor\sly us$ aft] ^! ba?s1 n only to remove ! impurities ( ! sk9 b = ! b5eficial friction :i* w s5d a gl[ ov] ! :ole body4 ,! hair glove or fle% bru% may be us$ to advantage 9 ! ba? be=e ! t[el is appli$4 ,,! ,,tee?4 ,! tee? %\ld be c>efully bru%$ ) a h>d bru% aft] ea* meal1 & also on retir+ at night4 ,use ! bru% s t n only ! outside ( ! tee? becomes :ite1 b ! inside also4 ,aft] ! bru% is us$ plunge x two or ?ree times into a glass ( wat]1 !n rub x q dry on a t[el4 ,use too?-wa%es or p[d]s v sp>+ly4 ,ca/ile soap us$ once a day1 ) frequ5t bru%+s ) pure wat] & a bru%1 _c fail to keep ! tee? clean & :ite1 unless !y are disfigur$ & de/roy$ by o!r bad habits1 su* z ! use ( tobacco1 or too hot or too cold dr9ks4 ,,decay$ ,,tee?4 ,on ! slighte/ appe>ance ( decay or t5d5cy to accumulate t>t>1 g at once to ! d5ti/4 ,if a d>k spot appe>+ "u ! enamel is neglect$1 x w eat 9 until ! too? is ev5tually de/roy$4 ,a d5ti/ see+ ! too? 9 its fir/ /age1 w remove ! decay$ "p & plug ! cavity 9 a prop] mann]4 ,,t>t> ,,on ,,! ,,tee?4 ,t>t> is n s easily dealt )1 b x requires equally e>ly att5tion4 ,x results f an impair$ /ate ( ! g5]al heal?1 & assumes ! =m ( a yell[i% concretion on ! tee? & gums4 ,at fir/ x is possible to keep x d[n by a repeat$ & vigor\s use ( ! too? bru%2 b if a firm1 solid mass accumulates1 x is necess>y to h x *ipp$ (f by a d5ti/4 ,un=tunately1 too1 by t "t x w probably h begun to loos5 & de/roy ! tee? on :i* x fixes1 & is pretty c]ta9 to h produc$ "o obnoxi\s effect--t ( ta9t+ ! brea?4 ,wa%+ ! tee? ) v9eg> :5 ! bru% is us$ has be5 recomm5d$ z a means ( remov+ t>t>4 ,t5d]ness ( ! gums1 to :i* "s p]sons are subject1 may sometimes be met by ! use ( salt & wat]1 b x is well to r9se ! m\? frequ5tly ) wat] ) a few drops ( t9cture ( myrrh 9 x4 ,,f\l ,,brea?4 ,f\l brea?1 unless caus$ by neglect$ tee?1 indicates a d]ang$ /ate ( ! sy/em4 ,:5 x is occasion$ by ! tee? or o!r local case1 use a g>gle consi/+ ( a spoonful ( solution ( *loride ( lime 9 half a tumbl] ( wat]4 ,g5tlem5 smok+1 & ?us ta9t+ ! brea?1 may be glad to "k t ! common p>sley has a peculi> effect 9 remov+ ! odor ( tobacco4 ,,! ,,sk94 ,beauty & heal? ( ! sk9 c only be obta9$ by p]fect cleanl9ess ( ! entire p]son1 an avoidance ( all cosmetics1 add$ to prop] diet1 correct habits & e>ly habits ( ris+ & ex]cise4 ,! sk9 mu/ be ?or\ghly wa%$1 occasionally ) w>m wat] & soap1 to remove ! oily exudations on its surface4 ,if any unpleasant s5sations are exp]i5c$ aft] ! use ( soap1 !y may be imm$iately remov$ by r9s+ ! surface ) wat] to :i* a little lemon juice or v9eg> has be5 add$4 ,,pres]v+ ,a ,,y\?ful ,,complexion4 ,! foll[+ rules may be giv5 = ! pres]vation ( a y\?ful complexion3 ,rise e>ly & g to b$ e>ly4 ,take pl5ty ( ex]cise4 ,use pl5ty ( cold wat] & good soap frequ5tly4 ,be mod]ate 9 eat+ & dr9k+4 ,d n lace4 ,avoid z mu* z possible ! vitiat$ atmosph]e ( cr[d$ assemblies4 ,%un cosmetics & wa%es = ! sk94 ,! latt] dry ! sk91 & only defeat ! end !y are suppos$ to h 9 view4 ,,moles4 ,moles are frequ5tly a great disfigurem5t to ! face1 b !y %\ld n be tamp]$ ) 9 any way4 ,! only safe & c]ta9 mode ( gett+ rid ( moles is by a surgical op]ation4 ,,freckles4 ,freckles are ( two k9ds4 ,^? occasion$ by exposure to ! sun%9e1 & consequ5tly evanesc5t1 are d5om9at$ summ] freckles2 ^? :i* are con/itutional & p]man5t are call$ cold freckles4 ,) reg>d to ! latt]1 x is impossible to give any advice :i* w be ( value4 ,!y result f causes n to be affect$ by m]e ext]nal applications4 ,summ] freckles are n s difficult to deal )1 & ) a little c>e ! sk9 may be kept free f ?is cause ( disfigurem5t4 ,"s sk9s are s delicate t !y become freckl$ on ! slighte/ exposure to op5 air 9 summ]4 ,! cause assign$ = ?is is t ! iron 9 ! blood1 =m+ a junction ) ! oxyg51 leaves a ru/y m>k :]e ! junction takes place4 ,we give 9 _! appropriate places "s recipes = remov+ ^! latt] freckles f ! face4 ,,o!r ,,discolorations4 ,!re are v>i\s o!r discolorations ( ! sk91 proce$+ frequ5tly f d]angem5t ( ! sy/em4 ,! cause %\ld always be discov]$ be=e attempt+ a rem$y2 o!rwise y may aggravate ! compla9t r ?an cure x4 ,,! ,,eyes4 ,beautiful eyes are ! gift ( ,nature1 & c owe little to ! toilet4 ,z 9 ! eye consi/s mu* ( ! expression ( ! face1 !re=e x %\ld be borne 9 m9d t ^? :o w\ld h _! eyes be> a pleas+ expression mu/ cultivate pleas+ traits ( "* & beautify ! s\l1 & !n ?is beautiful s\l w look ?r\gh its natural w9d[s4 ,nev] tamp] ) ! eyes4 ,!re is dang] ( de/roy+ !m4 ,all daub+ or dye+ ( ! lids is fooli% & vulg>4 ,,%ort-,,sight$ness4 ,%ort-sight$ness is n always a natural defect4 ,x may be acquir$ by bad habits 9 y\?4 ,a %ort-sight$ p]son %\ld supply himself ) glasses exactly adapt$ to 8 wants2 b x is well n to use ^! glasses too con/antly1 z1 ev5 :5 !y p]fectly fit ! eye1 !y really t5d to %ort5 ! sight4 ,unless "o is v %ort-sight$1 x is be/ to keep ! glasses = occasional use1 & tru/ ord9>ily to ! unaid$ eye4 ,p>5ts & tea*]s %\ld wat* _! *ildr5 & see t !y d n acquire ! habit ( hold+ _! books too close to _! eyes1 & ?us injure _! sight4 ,,squ9t-,,eyes ,,& ,,cross-,,eyes4 ,p>5ts %\ld also be c>eful t _! *ildr5 d n become squ9t or cross-ey$ ?r\gh any c>elessness4 ,a *ild's hair hang+ d[n loosely ov] its eyes1 or a bonnet project+ too f> ov] !m1 or a loose ribbon or tape flutt]+ ov] ! =ehead1 is sometimes suffici5t to direct ! sight irregul>ly until x becomes p]man5tly cross$4 ,,! ,,eyela%es ,,& ,,eyebr[s4 ,a beautiful eyela% is an important adjunct to ! eye4 ,! la%es may be l5g!n$ by trimm+ !m occasionally 9 *ildhood4 ,c>e %\ld be tak5 t ?is trimm+ is done neatly & ev5ly1 & especially t ! po9ts ( ! scissors d n p5etrate ! eye4 ,! eyebr[s may be bru%$ c>efully 9 ! direction 9 :i* !y %\ld lie4 ,9 g5]al1 x is 9 exce$+ bad ta/e to dye ei!r la%es or br[s1 = x usually br+s !m into di%>mony ) ! hair & features4 ,!re are cases1 h[ev]1 :5 ! beauty ( an o!rwise f9e c\nt5ance is utt]ly ru9$ by :ite la%es & br[s4 ,9 su* cases "o c h>dly be blam$ if ,india ink is resort$ to to give !m ! desir$ color4 ,nev] %ave ! br[s4 ,x adds to _! beauty 9 no way1 & may result 9 an irregul> gr[? ( new hair4 ,,take ,,c>e ,,( ,,! ,,eyes4 ,! utmo/ c>e %\ld be tak5 ( ! eyes4 ,!y %\ld nev] be /ra9$ 9 an imp]fect light1 :e!r t ( %r\d$ daylight1 twilight or flick]+ lamp or c&le-light4 ,_m p]sons h an idea t an habitually d>k room is be/ = ! eyes4 ,on ! contr>y1 x weak5s !m & r5d]s !m p]man5tly unable to be> ! light ( ! sun4 ,our eyes 7 naturally design$ to endure ! broad light ( day1 & ! ne>] we approa* to ?is 9 our h\ses1 ! /rong] w be our eyes & ! long] w we reta9 our sight4 ,,eyebr[s ,,meet+4 ,"s p]sons h ! eyebr[s meet+ ov] ! nose4 ,?is is usually consid]$ a disfigurem5t1 b !re is no rem$y = x4 ,x may be a consolation = su* p to "k t ! anci5ts admir$ ?is /yle ( eyebr[s1 & t ,mi*ael ,angelo possess$ x4 ,x is useless to pluck out ! unit+ hairs2 & if a depilatory is appli$1 a m>k l t ( a sc> left f a burn rema9s1 & is m disfigur+ ?an ! hair4 ,,inflam$ ,,eyes4 ,if ! lids ( ! eyes become inflam$ & scaly1 d n seek to remove ! scales r\ghly1 = !y w br+ ! la%es ) !m4 ,apply at night a little cold cream to ! edges ( ! clos$ eyelids1 & wa% !m 9 ! morn+ ) lukew>m milk & wat]4 ,x is well to h on ! toilet-table a rem$y = inflam$ eyes4 ,sp]maceti o9tm5t is simple & well adapt$ to ?is purpose4 ,apply at night1 & wa% (f ) rose-wat] 9 ! morn+4 ,!re is a simple lotion made by dissolv+ a v small piece ( alum & a piece ( lump-sug> ( ! same size 9 a qu>t ( wat]2 put ! +r$i5ts into ! wat] cold & let !m simm]4 ,ba! ! eyes frequ5tly ) x4 ,,! ,,/y4 ,a /y 9 ! eye is irritat+ & disfigur+4 ,ba! ) w>m wat]2 at night apply a bread-&-milk p\ltice4 ,:5 a :ite head =ms1 prick x ) a f9e ne$le4 ,%\ld ! inflammation be ob/9ate1 a little citr9e o9tm5t may be appli$1 c>e be+ tak5 t x does n get into ! eye4 ,,! ,,hair4 ,!re is no?+ t s adds to ! *>m ( an individual1 especially a lady1 z a good head ( hair4 ,! sk9 ( ! head requires ev5 m t5d]ness & cleanl9ess ?an any o!r portion ( ! body1 & is capable ( be+ irritat$ by disease4 ,! hair %\ld be bru%$ c>efully4 ,! bru% %\ld be ( mod]ate h>dness1 n too h>d4 ,! hair %\ld be sep>at$1 9 ord] t ! head itself may be well bru%$1 z by do+ s ! scurf is remov$1 & t is mo/ ess5tial1 z x is n only unpleasant & unsightly1 b if suff]$ to rema9 x becomes saturat$ ) p]spiration1 & t5ds to weak5 ! roots ( ! hair1 s t x is easily pull$ out4 ,9 bru%+ or comb+1 beg9 at ! extreme po9ts1 & 9 comb+1 hold ! portion ( hair j above t ?r\gh :i* ! comb is pass+1 firmly betwe5 ! fir/ & second f+]s1 s t if x is entangl$ x may drag f t po9t1 & n f ! roots4 ,! f9e/ head ( hair may be spoil$ by ! practice ( plung+ ! comb into x high up & dragg+ x 9 a reckless mann]4 ,%ort1 loose1 brok5 hairs are ?us creat$1 & become v tr\blesome4 ,,! ,,use ,,( ,,hair ,,oils4 ,d n pla/] ! hair ) oil or pomatum4 ,a :ite1 concrete oil p]ta9s naturally to ! cov]+ ( ! human head1 b "s p]sons h x 9 m abundance ?an o!rs4 ,^? ^: hair is glossy & %9+ ne$ no?+ to r5d] x s2 b :5 ! hair is h>%1 poor & dry1 artificial lubrication is necess>y4 ,p]sons :o p]spire freely1 or :o accumulate scurf rapidly1 require x also4 ,no?+ is simpl] or bett] 9 ! way ( oil ?an pure1 unsc5t$ salad oil1 & 9 ! way ( a pomatum1 be>'s grease is z pleasant z any?+4 ,apply ei!r ) ! h&s1 or keep a s(t bru% = ! purpose1 b take c>e n to use ! oil too freely4 ,an ov]oil$ head ( hair is vulg> & (f5sive4 ,s are sc5ts ( any k9d 9 ! oil appli$ to ! hair4 ,x is well also to keep a piece ( flannel ) :i* to rub ! hair at night aft] bru%+ x1 9 ord] to remove ! oil be=e lay+ ! head ^u ! pill[4 ,v9eg> & wat] =m a good wa% = ! roots ( ! hair4 ,ammonia dilut$ 9 wat] is /ill bett]4 ,! hair-bru% %\ld be frequ5tly wa%$ 9 dilut$ ammonia4 ,= remov+ scurf1 glyc]9e1 dilut$ ) a little rose-wat]1 w be f\nd ( s]vice4 ,any prep>ation ( rosem>y =ms an agreeable & highly cleans+ wa%4 ,! yolk ( an egg beat5 up 9 w>m wat] is an excell5t application to ! scalp4 ,_m heads ( hair require no?+ m 9 ! way ( wa% ?an soap & wat]4 ,bew>e ( lett+ ! hair gr[ too long1 z ! po9ts are apt to weak5 & split4 ,x is well to h ! ends clipp$ (f once a mon?4 ,"y girls %\ld we> _! hair cut %ort until !y are gr[n up1 if !y w\ld h x !n 9 its be/ condition4 ,,dye+ ,,! ,,hair4 ,a s]i\s objection to dye+ ! hair is t x is almo/ impossible to give ! hair a t9t :i* h>monizes ) ! complexion4 ,if ! hair beg9s to *ange e>ly1 & ! color goes 9 pat*es1 procure f ! druggi/'s a prep>ation ( ! husk ( ! walnut wat] ( eau crayon4 ,?is w1 by daily application1 d>k5 ! t9t ( ! hair )\t actually dye+ x4 ,:5 ! *ange ( color has gone on to any great ext5t1 x is bett] to ab&on ! application & put up ) ! *ange1 :i*1 9 n9e cases out ( t51 w be 9 accordance ) ! *ange ( ! face4 ,inde$1 !re is no?+ m beautiful ?an s(t1 :ite hair worn 9 b&s or clu/]+ curls ab\t ! face4 ,! walnut wat] may be us$ = ton+ d[n too r$ hair4 ,,baldness4 ,g5tlem5 are m liable to baldness ?an ladies1 ow+1 no d\bt1 to ! use ( ! close hat1 :i* conf9es & ov]heats ! head4 ,if ! hair is f\nd to be fall+ out1 ! fir/ ?+ to d is to look to ! hat & see t x is light & ?or\ghly v5tilat$4 ,!re is no great] enemy to ! hair ?an ! silk dress-hat4 ,x is be/ to lay ?is hat aside altoge!r & adopt a light felt or /raw 9 its place4 ,long1 fl[+ hair on a man is n 9 good ta/e1 & w indicate him to ! obs]v] z a p]son ( unbalanc$ m9d & unpleasantly erratic "*--a man1 9 brief1 :o seeks to impress o!rs ) ! fact t he is ecc5tric1 some?+ :i* a really ecc5tric p]son nev] attempts4 ,,! ,,be>d4 ,^? :o %ave %\ld be c>eful to d s e morn+4 ,no?+ looks worse ?an a %abby be>d4 ,"s p]sons ^: be>ds are /rong %\ld %ave twice a day1 especially if !y are go+ to a p>ty 9 ! ev5+4 ,! /yle ( ! gr[? ( ! be>d %\ld be gov]n$ by ! "* ( ! face4 ,b :atev] ! /yle be1 ! great po9t is to keep x well bru%$ & trimm$1 & to avoid any appe>ance ( wildness or inatt5tion4 ,! full1 fl[+ be>d ( c\rse requires m look+ aft] 9 ! way ( cleanl9ess1 ?an any o!r4 ,x %\ld be ?or\ghly wa%$ & bru%$ at lea/ twice a day1 z du/ is sure to accumulate 9 x1 & x is v easy to suff] x to become objectionable to "o's self z well z to o!rs4 ,if x is naturally glossy1 x is bett] to avoid ! use ( oil or pomatum4 ,! m\/a*e %\ld be worn neatly & n ov]-l>ge4 ,!re is no?+ t s adds to native manl9ess z ! full be>d if c>efully & neatly kept4 ,,! ,,h&4 ,! beautiful h& is long & sl5d]1 ) tap]+ f+]s & p9k1 filb]t-%ap$ nails4 ,! h& to be 9 prop] proportion to ! re/ ( ! body1 %\ld be z long z f ! po9t ( ! *9 to ! edge ( ! hair on ! =ehead4 ,! h&s %\ld be kept scrupul\sly clean1 & !re=e %\ld be v frequ5tly wa%$--n m]ely r9s$ 9 soap & wat]1 b ?or\ghly la!r$1 & scrubb$ ) a s(t nail-bru%4 ,9 cold wea!r ! use ( lukew>m wat] is unobjectionable1 aft] :i* ! h&s %\ld be dipp$ into cold wat] & v c>efully dri$ on a f9e t[el4 ,be c>eful always to dry ! h&s ?or\ghly1 & rub !m briskly = "s "t aft]w>d4 ,:5 ?is is n suffici5tly att5d$ to 9 cold wea!r1 ! h&s *ap & crack4 ,:5 ?is occurs1 rub a few drops ( honey ov] !m :5 dry1 or ano9t !m ) cold cream or glyc]9e be=e go+ to b$4 ,,*app$ ,,h&s4 ,z cold wea!r is ! usual cause ( *app$ h&s1 s ! w9t] season br+s ) x a cure = !m4 ,a ?or\gh wa%+ 9 sn[ & soap w cure ! wor/ case ( *app$ h&s1 & leave !m beautifully s(t4 ,,to ,,make ,,! ,,h&s ,,:ite ,,& ,,delicate4 ,%\ld y wi% to make y\r h&s :ite & delicate1 y might wa% !m 9 milk & wat] = a day or two4 ,on retir+ to re/1 rub !m well ov] ) "s palm oil & put on a pair ( wool5 gloves4 ,! h&s %\ld be ?or\ghly wa%$ ) hot wat] & soap ! next morn+1 & a pair ( s(t lea!r gloves worn dur+ ! day4 ,!y %\ld be frequ5tly rubb$ toge!r to promote circulation4 ,sunburnt h&s may be wa%$ 9 lime-wat] or lemon-juice4 ,,treatm5t ,,( ,,w>ts4 ,w>ts1 :i* are m common ) "y p ?an ) adults1 are v unsightly1 & are sometimes v difficult to get rid (4 ,! be/ plan is to buy a /ick ( lun> cau/ic1 :i* is sold 9 a hold] & case at ! druggi/'s = ! purpose1 dip x 9 wat]1 & t\* ! w>t e morn+ & ev5+1 c>e be+ tak5 to cut away ! )]$ sk9 be=e repeat+ ! op]ation4 ,a /ill bett] plan is to apply acetic acid g5tly once a day ) a camel's hair p5cil to ! summit ( ! w>t4 ,c>e %\ld be tak5 n to all[ ?is acid to t\* any ( ! surr\nd+ sk92 to prev5t ?is ! f+] or h& at ! base ( ! w>t may be cov]$ ) wax dur+ ! op]ation4 ,,! ,,nails4 ,no?+ is s repulsive z to see a lady or g5tleman1 h[ev] well dress$ !y may o!rwise be1 ) unclean nails4 ,x always results f c>elessness & inatt5tion to ! m9or details ( ! toilet1 :i* is mo/ repreh5sible4 ,! nails %\ld be cut ab\t once a week--c]ta9ly n (t5]4 ,?is %\ld be accompli%$ j aft] wa%+1 ! nail be+ s(t] at su* a "t4 ,c>e %\ld be tak5 n to cut !m too %ort1 ?\gh1 if !y are left too long1 !y w frequ5tly get torn & brok54 ,!y %\ld be nicely r\nd$ at ! corn]s4 ,recollect ! filb]t-%ap$ nail is consid]$ ! mo/ beautiful4 ,nev] bite ! nails2 x n only is a mo/ disagreeable habit1 b t5ds to make ! nails jagg$1 de=m$ & difficult to clean1 besides gives a r$ & /umpy appe>ance to ! f+]-tips4 ,"s p]sons are tr\bl$ by ! cuticle adh]+ to ! nail z x gr[s4 ,?is may be press$ d[n by ! t[el aft] wa%+2 or %\ld t n prove efficaci\s1 x mu/ be loos5$ r\nd ! edge ) "s blunt in/rum5t4 ,on no acc\nt scrape ! nails ) a view to poli%+ _! surface4 ,su* an op]ation only t5ds to make !m wr9kl$4 ,absolute smallness ( h& is n ess5tial to beauty1 :i* requires t ! prop] proportions %\ld be obs]v$ 9 ! human figure4 ,) prop] c>e ! h& may be reta9$ beautiful1 s(t & %apely1 & yet p]=m its fair %>e ( labor4 ,! h&s %\ld always be protect$ by gloves :5 engag$ 9 "w calculat$ to injure !m4 ,gloves are imp]atively requir$ = g>d5-"w4 ,! h&s %\ld always be wa%$ c>efully & dri$ ?or\ghly aft] su* labor4 ,if !y are r\gh5$ by soap1 r9se !m 9 a little v9eg> or lemon-juice1 & !y w become s(t & smoo? at once4 ,,rem$y ,,= ,,moi/ ,,h&s4 ,p afflict$ ) moi/ h&s %\ld revolutionize _! habits1 take m out-door ex]cise & m frequ5t ba?s4 ,!y %\ld adopt a nutriti\s b n ov]-/imulat+ diet1 & p]haps take a tonic ( "s sort4 ,local applications ( />*-p[d] & ! juice ( lemon may be us$ to advantage4 ,,! ,,feet4 ,a well =m$ foot is broad at ! sole1 ! toes well spread1 ea* sep>ate toe p]fect & r\nd$ 9 =m4 ,! nails are regul> & p]fect 9 %ape z ^? ( ! f+]s4 ,! second toe projects a little beyond ! o!rs1 & ! fir/1 or big toe1 /&s slightly ap>t f ! re/ & is slightly lift$4 ,! feet1 f ! circum/ance ( _! be+ s mu* conf9$ by boots & %oes1 require m c>e 9 wa%+ ?an ! re/ ( ! body4 ,yet !y d n always get ?is c>e4 ,! h&s receive frequ5t wa%+s e day4 ,once a week is q z (t5 z _m p c be/[ ! same att5tion ^u _! feet4 ,a tepid ba? at ab\t #hj or #ij degrees1 %\ld be us$4 ,! feet may rema9 9 ! wat] ab\t five m9utes1 & ! in/ant !y are tak5 out !y %\ld be rapidly & ?or\ghly dri$ by be+ well rubb$ ) a co>se t[el4 ,sometimes bran is us$ 9 ! wat]4 ,few ?+s are m invigorat+ & refre%+ aft] a long walk1 or gett+ wet 9 ! feet1 ?an a tepid foot-ba?1 clean /ock+s & a pair ( easy %oes4 ,aft] ! ba? is ! "t = p>+ ! toe-nails1 z !y are s mu* s(t] & m pliant aft] hav+ be5 imm]s$ 9 w>m wat]4 ,,treatm5t ,,= ,,moi/ ,,or ,,damp ,,feet4 ,"s p]sons are tr\bl$ ) moi/ or damp feet4 ,?is compla9t arises m p>ticul>ly dur+ ! hot wea!r 9 summ]-"t1 & ! greate/ c>e & cleanl9ess %\ld be ex]cis$ 9 respect to x4 ,p]sons s afflict$ %\ld wa% _! feet twice a day 9 soap & w>m wat]1 aft] :i* !y %\ld put on clean socks4 ,%\ld ?is fail to cure1 !y may1 aft] be+ wa%$ z above1 be r9s$1 & !n ?or\ghly rubb$ ) a mixture consi/+ ( half a p9t ( w>m wat] & ?ree tablespoonfuls ( conc5trat$ solution ( *loride ( soda4 ,,bli/]s ,,on ,,! ,,feet4 ,p :o walk mu* are frequ5tly afflict$ ) bli/]s4 ,! be/ prev5tative ( ^! is to h easy1 well-fitt+ boots & wool5 socks4 ,%\ld bli/]s occur1 a v good plan is to pass a l>ge d>n+-ne$le ?read$ ) wor/$ ?r\gh ! bli/] l5g?wise1 leav+ an in* or s ( ! ?read outside at ea* end4 ,?is keeps ! scurf-sk9 close to ! true sk91 & prev5ts any grit or dirt ent]+4 ,! ?read absorbs ! matt]1 & ! old sk9 rema9s until ! new "o gr[s4 ,a bli/] %\ld n be punctur$ save 9 ?is mann]1 z x may deg5]ate into a sore & become v tr\blesome4 ,,*ilbla9s4 ,to avoid *ilbla9s on ! feet x is necess>y to obs]ve ?ree rules3 #a4 ,avoid gett+ ! feet wet2 if !y become s1 *ange ! %oes & /ock+s at once4 #b4 ,we> lamb's wool socks or /ock+s4 #c4 ,nev] "u any circum/ances toa/ y\r toes be=e ! fire1 especially if y are v cold4 ,frequ5t ba?+ ( ! feet 9 a /rong solution ( alum is useful 9 prev5t+ ! com+ ( *ilbla9s4 ,on ! fir/ indication ( any r$ness ( ! toes & s5sation ( it*+ x w\ld be well to rub !m c>efully ) w>m spirits ( rosem>y1 to :i* a little turp5t9e has be5 add$4 ,!n a piece ( l9t soak$ 9 camphorat$ spirits1 opodeldoc or camphor l9im5t may be appli$ & reta9$ on ! "p4 ,%\ld ! *ilbla9 break1 dress x twice daily ) a pla/] ( equal p>ts ( l>d & beeswax1 ) half ! quantity 9 weight ( oil ( turp5t9e4 ,,! ,,toe ,,nails4 ,! toe-nails d n gr[ s fa/ z ! f+]-nails1 b !y %\ld be look$ aft] & trimm$ at lea/ once a =tnight4 ,!y are mu* m subject to irregul>ity ( gr[? ?an ! f+]-nails1 ow+ to _! conf9$ position4 ,if ! nails %[ a t5d5cy to gr[ 9 at ! sides1 ! feet %\ld be ba!d 9 hot wat]1 pieces ( l9t introduc$ b5ea? ! p>ts ) an inw>d t5d5cy1 & ! nail itself scrap$ longitud9ally4 ,p>e ! toe-nails squ>] ?an ^? ( ! f+]s4 ,keep !m a mod]ate l5g?--long en\gh to protect ! toe1 b n s long z to cut holes 9 ! /ock+s4 ,always cut ! nails2 nev] te> !m1 z is too frequ5tly ! practice4 ,be c>eful n to de/roy ! spongy sub/ance bel[ ! nails1 z t is ! great gu>d to prev5t !m go+ into ! quick4 ,,corns4 ,x is tol]ably safe to say t ^? :o we> loose1 easy-fitt+ %oes & boots w nev] be tr\bl$ ) corns4 ,"s p are m liable to corns ?an o!rs1 & "s w p]si/ 9 ! use ( tightly-fitt+ %oes 9 spite ( corns4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,h ,,%oes ,,made4 ,! great fault ) mod]n %oes is t _! soles are made too n>r[4 ,if "o w\ld secure p]fect heal?fulness ( ! feet1 he %\ld g to ! %oemak] & /ep ) 8 /ock+$ feet on a %eet ( pap]4 ,let ! %oemak] m>k ) a p5cil ^u ! pap] ! exact size ( 8 foot1 & !n make him a %oe ^: sole %all be z broad z ?is outl9$ foot4 ,/ill m de/ructive ( ! beauty & symmetry ( our wom5's feet h be5 ! high1 n>r[ heels s mu* worn lately4 ,!y make x difficult to walk1 & ev5 9 "s cases p]man5tly cripple ! feet4 ,a %oe1 to be com=table1 %\ld h a broad sole & a heel ( mod]ate height1 say "o-half an in*1 z broad at ! bottom z at ! top4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xxxiii4 ,toilet ,recipes4 ,,to ,,remove ,,freckles4 ,bruise & squeeze ! juice out ( common *ick-we$1 & to ?is juice add ?ree times its quantity ( s(t wat]4 ,ba! ! sk9 ) ?is = five or t5 m9utes morn+ & ev5+1 & wa% aft]w>ds ) clean wat]4 ,eld] fl[]s treat$ & appli$ exactly 9 ! same mann] z above4 ,:5 ! fl[]s are n to be _h1 ! di/ill$ wat] f !m1 :i* may be procur$ f any druggi/1 w answ] ! purpose4 ,a good freckle lotion is made ( honey1 "o ounce1 mix$ ) "o p9t ( lukew>m wat]4 ,apply :5 cold4 ,c>bonate ( potassa1 tw5ty gra9s2 milk ( almonds1 ?ree ounces2 oil ( sassafras1 ?ree drops4 ,mix & apply two or ?ree times a day4 ,"o ounce ( alcohol2 half a dram salts t>t>2 "o dram oil bitt] almonds4 ,let /& = "o day & apply e second day4 ,,= ,,pimples ,,on ,,! ,,face4 ,wa% ! face 9 a solution compos$ ( "o teaspoonful ( c>bolic acid to a p9t ( wat]4 ,?is is an excell5t purify+ lotion1 & may be us$ on ! mo/ delicate sk94 ,be c>eful n to get any ( x 9 ! eyes z x w weak5 !m4 ,"o tablespoonful ( borax to half a p9t ( wat] is an excell5t rem$y = cutane\s eruptions1 cank]1 r+worm1 etc4 ,pulv]ize a piece ( alum ! size ( a walnut1 dissolve x 9 "o ounce ( lemon juice1 & add "o ounce ( alcohol4 ,apply once or twice a day4 ,mix two ounces ( rose-wat] ) "o dram ( sulphate ( z9c4 ,wet ! face g5tly & let x dry4 ,!n t\* ! affect$ "p ) cream4 ,,wa% ,,= ,,! ,,complexion4 ,a teaspoonful ( ! fl\r ( sulphur & a w9e-glassful ( lime-wat]1 well %ak5 & mix$2 half a w9e-glass ( glyc]9e & a w9e-glass ( rose wat]4 ,rub x on ! face e night be=e go+ to b$4 ,%ake well be=e us+4 ,ano!r prescription1 us$ by hunt]s to keep away ! black flies & mosquitoes1 is said to leave ! sk9 v cle> & fair1 & is z foll[s3 ,mix "o spoonful ( ! be/ t> 9 a p9t ( pure olive oil or almond oil1 by heat+ ! two toge!r 9 a t9 cup set 9 boil+ wat]4 ,/ir till completely mix$ & smoo?1 putt+ 9 m oil if ! comp\nd is too ?ick to run easily4 ,rub ?is on ! face :5 go+ to b$1 & lay pat*es ( s(t clo? on ! *eeks & =ehead to keep ! t> f rubb+ (f4 ,! b$ l95 mu/ be protect$ by clo? fold$ & ?r[n ov] ! pill[s4 ,! :ites ( f\r eggs boil$ 9 rose-wat]2 half an ounce ( alum2 half an ounce ( sweet almonds2 beat ! :ole toge!r until x assumes ! consi/5cy ( pa/e4 ,spread ^u a silk or musl9 mask1 to be worn at night4 ,take a small piece ( ! gum b5zo9 & boil x 9 spirits ( w9e till x becomes a ri* t9cture4 ,9 us+ x p\r fifte5 drops into a glass ( wat]1 wa% ! face & h&s & all[ x to dry4 ,,boracic ,,acid ,,= ,,sk9 ,,diseases4 ,boracic acid has be5 us$ ) great success z an ext]nal application 9 ! treatm5t ( vegetable p>asitic diseases ( ! sk94 ,a solution ( a dram ( ! acid to an ounce ( wat]1 or z mu* ( ! acid z ! wat] w take up1 is f\nd to meet ! requirem5ts ( ! case satisfactorily4 ,! affect$ p>ts %\ld be well ba!d 9 ! solution twice a day & well rubb$4 ,,to ,,s(t5 ,,! ,,sk94 ,mix half an ounce ( glyc]9e ) half an ounce ( alcohol1 & add f\r ounces ( rose-wat]4 ,%ake well toge!r & x is ready = use4 ,?is is a spl5did rem$y = *app$ h&s4 ,,rem$y ,,= ,,r+worm4 ,apply a solution ( ! root ( common n>r[-leaf$ dock1 :i* belongs to ! botanical g5us ( ,rumex4 ,use v9eg> = ! solv5t4 ,dissolve a piece ( sulphate ( pota%1 ! size ( a walnut1 9 "o ounce ( wat]4 ,apply night & morn+ = a c\ple ( days1 & x w disappe>4 ,,to ,,remove ,,sunburn4 ,take two drams ( borax1 "o dram ( alum1 "o dram ( camphor1 half an ounce ( sug>-c&y1 & a p\nd ( ox-gall4 ,mix & /ir well = t5 m9utes1 & /ir x ?ree or f\r times a =tnight4 ,:5 cle> & transp>5t1 /ra9 ?r\gh a blott+ pap] & bottle = use4 ,,to ,,prev5t ,,hair ,,fall+ ,,out4 ,ammonia "o ounce1 rosem>y "o ounce1 can?>ides f\r drams1 rose-wat] f\r ounces1 glyc]9e "o ounce4 ,fir/ wet ! head ) cold wat]1 !n apply ! mixture1 rubb+ briskly4 ,v9eg> ( can?>ides half an ounce1 eau-de-cologne "o ounce1 rose-wat] "o ounce4 ,! scalp %\ld be bru%$ briskly until x becomes r$1 & ! lotion %\ld !n be appli$ to ! roots ( ! hair twice a day4 ,,to ,,beautify ,,! ,,hair4 ,take two ounces ( olive oil1 f\r ounces ( good bay rum1 & "o dram ( ! oil ( almonds2 mix & %ake well4 ,?is w d>k5 ! hair4 ,,hair ,,oils4 ,mix two ounces ( ca/or oil ) ?ree ounces ( alcohol1 & add two ounces ( olive oil4 ,p]fume to lik+4 ,,to ,,make ,,pomades ,,= ,,! ,,hair4 ,take ! m>r[ out ( a beef %ank bone1 melt x 9 a vessel plac$ ov] or 9 boil+ wat]1 !n /ra9 & sc5t to lik+1 ) ott> ( roses or o!r p]fume4 ,unsalt$ l>d five ounces1 olive oil two & a half ounces1 ca/or oil "o-qu>t] ounce1 yell[ wax & sp]maceti "o-qu>t] ounce4 ,^! +r$i5ts are to be liquifi$ ov] a w>m ba?1 & :5 cool1 p]fume to lik+4 ,fre% beef m>r[1 boil$ ) a little almond oil or sweet oil1 & sc5t$ ) ott> ( roses or o!r mild p]fume4 ,a transp>5t hair pomade is made z foll[s3 ,take half a p9t ( f9e ca/or oil & an ounce ( :ite wax4 ,/ir until x gets cool en\gh to ?ick51 :5 p]fume may be /irr$ 92 g]anium1 b]gamot or lemon oil may be us$4 ,,g]man ,,me?od ,,( ,,treat+ ,,! ,,hair4 ,! wom5 ( ,g]many h rem>kably f9e & luxuriant hair4 ,! foll[+ is _! me?od ( manag+ x3 ,ab\t once 9 two or ?ree weeks1 boil = half an h\r or m a l>ge h&ful ( bran 9 a qu>t ( s(t wat]2 /ra9 into a bas91 & :5 tepid1 rub into ! wat] a little :ite soap4 ,) ?is wa% ! head ?or\ghly1 us+ a s(t l95 clo? or t[el1 ?or\ghly divid+ ! hair s z to rea* ! roots4 ,!n take ! yolk ( an egg1 slightly beat5 9 a sauc]1 & ) ! f+]s rub x into ! roots ( ! hair4 ,let x rema9 a few m9utes1 & !n wa% x (f entirely ) a clo? dipp$ 9 pure wat]4 ,r9se ! head well till ! yolk ( ! egg has disappe>$ f x1 !n wipe & rub x dry ) a t[el1 & comb ! hair f ! head1 p>t+ x ) ! f+]s1 !n apply "s s(t pomatum4 ,9 w9t] x is be/ to d all ?is 9 a w>m room4 ,,to ,,keep ,,! ,,hair ,,f ,,turn+ ,,grey4 ,take ! hulls ( butt]nuts1 ab\t f\r ounces1 & infuse 9 a qu>t ( wat]1 & to ?is add half an ounce ( copp]as4 ,apply ) a s(t bru% e two or ?ree days4 ,?is prep>ation is h>mless1 & is f> bett] ?an ^? dyes made ( nitrate ( silv]4 ,oxide ( bismu? f\r drams1 sp]maceti f\r drams1 pure hog's l>d f\r ounces4 ,melt ! two la/ & add ! fir/4 ,,to ,,cleanse ,,! ,,hair ,,& ,,scalp4 ,beat up a fre% egg & rub x well into ! hair1 or if m conv5i5t1 rub x into ! hair )\t beat+4 ,rub ! egg 9 until a la!r is =m$1 occasionally wett+ ! h&s 9 w>m wat] s(t5$ by borax4 ,by ! "t a la!r is =m$1 ! scalp is clean1 !n r9se ! egg all out 9 a bas9 ( w>m wat]1 conta9+ a tablespoonful ( p[d]$ borax3 aft] t r9se 9 a bas9 ( clean wat]4 ,,hair ,,wa%4 ,bay rum six ounces1 aromatic spirits ( ammonia half an ounce1 b]gamot oil six drops4 ,mix4 ,,to ,,make ,,! ,,hair ,,gr[4 ,if ! head be p]fectly bald1 no?+ w ev] cause ! hair to gr[ aga94 ,if ! scalp be glossy1 & no small hairs are disc]nible1 ! roots or follicles are dead1 & c n be resuscitat$4 ,h[ev] if small hairs are to be se51 !re is hope4 ,bru% well1 & ba! ! bald spot ?ree or f\r times a week ) cold1 s(t wat]2 c>bonate ( ammonia "o dram1 t9cture ( can?>ides f\r drams1 bay rum f\r ounces1 ca/or oil two ounces4 ,mix well & use x e day4 ,,sea ,,foam ,,or ,,dry ,,%ampoo4 ,take a p9t ( alcohol1 half p9t ( bay rum1 & half an ounce ( spirits ( ammonia1 & "o dram ( salts t>t>4 ,%ake well toge!r & x is ready = use4 ,p\r a quantity on ! head1 rub well ) ! palm ( ! h&4 ,x w produce a ?ick foam1 & w cleanse ! scalp4 ,?is is us$ g5]ally by fir/-class b>b]s4 ,,b>b]',s ,,%ampoo4 ,to "o p9t ( w>m wat] add half an ounce ( salts t>t>4 ,cut up v f9e a piece ( ca/ile soap1 ! size ( two crack]s1 & mix x1 %ak+ ! mixture well1 & x is ready = use4 ,,clean+ ,,gold ,,jewelry4 ,gold ornam5ts may be kept bright & clean ) soap & w>m wat]1 scrubb+ !m well ) a s(t nail bru%4 ,!y may be dri$ 9 sawdu/ ( box-wood4 ,imitation jewelry may be treat$ 9 ! same way4 ,,to ,,loos5 ,,/opp]s ,,( ,,toilet ,,bottles4 ,let a drop ( pure oil fl[ r\nd ! /opp] & let ! bottle /& a foot or two f ! fire4 ,aft] a "t tap ! /opp] sm>tly1 b n too h>d1 ) ! h&le ( a hair bru%4 ,if ?is is n effectual1 use a fre% drop ( oil & repeat ! process4 ,x is almo/ sure to succe$4 ,,to ,,make ,,b&ol9e4 ,half a p9t ( wat]1 rectifi$ spirits ) an equal quantity ( wat] ?ree ounces1 gum tragacan? "o & a half drams4 ,add p]fume1 let ! mixture /& = a day or two & !n /ra94 ,simm] an ounce ( qu9ce se$ 9 a qu>t ( wat] = =ty m9utes1 /ra91 cool1 add a few drops ( sc5t1 & bottle1 cork+ tightly4 ,icel& moss "o-f\r? ( an ounce1 boil$ 9 a qu>t ( wat]1 & a little rectifi$ _s add$1 s t x w keep4 ,,to ,,make ,,lip-,,salve4 ,melt 9 a j> plac$ 9 a bas9 ( boil+ wat] a qu>t] ( an ounce ea* ( :ite wax & sp]maceti1 fl\r ( b5zo9 fifte5 gra9s1 & half an ounce ( ! oil ( almonds4 ,/ir till ! mixture is cool4 ,color r$ ) alkanet root4 ,,to ,,clean ,,kid ,,boots4 ,mix a little :ite ( egg & ink 9 a bottle1 s t ! composition may be well %ak5 up :5 requir$ = use4 ,apply to ! kid ) a piece ( sponge & rub dry4 ,! be/ ?+ to rub dry ) is ! palm ( ! h&4 ,:5 ! kid %[s symptoms ( crack+1 rub 9 a few drops ( sweet oil4 ,! soles & heels %\ld be poli%$ ) common black+4 ,,to ,,clean ,,pat5t-,,lea!r ,,boots4 ,9 clean+ pat5t-lea!r boots1 fir/ remove all ! dirt ^u !m ) a sponge or flannel2 !n ! boot %\ld be rubb$ lightly ov] ) a pa/e consi/+ ( two spoonfuls ( cream & "o ( l9se$ oil1 bo? ( :i* require to be w>m$ be=e be+ mix$4 ,poli% ) a s(t clo?4 ,,to ,,remove ,,/a9s ,,& ,,spots ,,f ,,silk4 ,boil five ounces ( s(t wat] & six ounces ( p[d]$ alum = a %ort "t1 & p\r x into a vessel to cool4 ,w>m x = use1 & wa% ! /a9$ "p ) x & leave dry4 ,wa% ! soil$ "p ) e!r1 & ! grease w disappe>4 ,we (t5 f9d t lemon-juice1 v9eg>1 oil ( vitriol & o!r %>p corrosives1 /a9 dy$ g>m5ts4 ,sometimes1 by add+ a little pe>la% to a soap-la!r & pass+ ! silks ?r\gh ^!1 ! fad$ color w be re/or$4 ,pe>la% & w>m wat] w sometimes d alone1 b x is ! mo/ efficaci\s to use ! soap-la!r & pe>la% toge!r4 ,,too?a*e ,,prev5tive4 ,use fl[] ( sulphur z a too? p[d] e night1 rubb+ ! tee? & gums ) a r h>d too?bru%4 ,if done aft] d9n]1 too1 all ! bett]4 ,x pres]ves ! tee? & does n communicate any smell :atev] to ! m\?4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,:it5 ,,l954 ,/a9s occasion$ by fruit1 iron ru/ & o!r simil> causes may be remov$ by apply+ to ! p>ts injur$ a weak solution ( ! *loride ( lime1 ! clo? hav+ be5 previ\sly well wa%$4 ,! p>ts subject$ to ?is op]ation %\ld be subsequ5tly r9s$ 9 s(t1 cle>1 w>m wat]1 )\t soap1 & be imm$iately dri$ 9 ! sun4 ,oxalic acid dilut$ ) wat] w accompli% ! same end4 ,,to ,,take ,,/a9s ,,out ,,( ,,silk4 ,mix toge!r 9 a vial two ounces ( ess5ce ( lemon & "o ounce ( oil ( turp5t9e4 ,grease & o!r spots 9 silk mu/ be rubb$ g5tly ) a l95 rag dipp$ 9 ! above composition4 ,to remove acid /a9s f silks1 apply ) a s(t rag1 spirits ( ammonia4 ,,to ,,remove ,,/a9s ,,f ,,:ite ,,cotton ,,goods4 ,= mildew1 rub 9 salt & "s butt]milk1 & expose x to ! influ5ce ( a hot sun4 ,*alk & soap or lemon juice & salt are also good4 ,z fa/ z ! spots become dry1 m %\ld be rubb$ on1 & ! g>m5t %\ld be kept 9 ! sun until ! spots disappe>4 ,"s "o ( ! prec$+ ?+s w extract mo/ k9ds ( /a9s1 b a hot sun is necess>y to r5d] any "o ( !m effectual4 ,scald+ wat] w remove fruit /a9s4 ,s also w h>t%orn dilut$ ) w>m wat]1 b x w be necess>y to apply x sev]al times4 ,common salt rubb$ on fruit /a9s be=e !y become dry w extract !m4 ,color$ cotton goods t h ink spill$ on !m1 %\ld be soak$ 9 lukew>m s\r milk4 ,,to ,,remove ,,spots ,,( ,,pit* ,,or ,,t>4 ,scrape (f all ! pit* or t> y c1 !n saturate ! spots ) sweet oil or l>d2 rub x 9 well1 & let x rema9 9 a w>m place = an h\r4 ,,to ,,extract ,,pa9t ,,f ,,g>m5ts4 ,saturate ! spot ) spirits ( turp5t9e1 let x rema9 a numb] ( h\rs1 !n rub x betwe5 ! h&s2 x w crumble away )\t injury ei!r to ! texture or color ( any k9d ( wool51 cotton or silk goods4 ,,to ,,clean ,,silks ,,& ,,ribbons4 ,take equal quantities ( s(t lye-soap1 alcohol or g91 & molasses4 ,put ! silk on a clean table )\t creas+2 rub on ! mixture ) a flannel clo?4 ,r9se ! silk well 9 cold1 cle> wat]1 & hang x up to dry )\t wr++4 ,iron x be=e x gets dry1 on ! wrong side4 ,silks & ribbons treat$ 9 ?is way w look v nicely4 ,camph5e w extract grease & clean ribbons )\t *ang+ ! color ( mo/ ?+s4 ,!y %\ld be dri$ 9 ! op5 air & iron$ :5 pretty dry4 ,! wat] 9 :i* p>$ potatoes h be5 boil$ is v good to wa% black silks 92 x /iff5s & makes !m glossy & black4 ,soap-suds answ] v well4 ,!y %\ld be wa%$ 9 two suds & n r9s$ 9 clean wat]4 ,,rem$y ,,= ,,burnt ,,kid ,,or ,,lea!r ,,%oes4 ,if a lady has _h ! mis=tune to put h] %oes or slipp]s too ne> ! /ove1 & ?us _h !m burn$1 %e c make !m ne>ly z good z ev] by spread+ s(t-soap ^u !m :ile !y are /ill hot1 & !n1 :5 !y are cold1 wa%+ x (f4 ,x s(t5s ! lea!r & prev5ts x draw+ up4 ,,rem$y ,,= ,,corns4 ,soak ! feet = half an h\r two or ?ree nights successively 9 a pretty /rong solution ( common soda4 ,! alkali dissolves ! indurat$ cuticle & ! corn comes away1 leav+ a little cavity :i*1 h[ev]1 soon fills up4 ,corns betwe5 ! toes are g5]ally m pa9ful ?an o!rs1 & are frequ5tly s situat$ z to be almo/ inaccessible to ! usual rem$ies4 ,!y may be cur$ by wett+ !m sev]al times a day ) spirits ( ammonia4 ,,inflam$ ,,eyelids4 ,take a slice ( /ale bread1 cut z ?9 z possible1 toa/ bo? sides well1 b d n burn x2 :5 cold soak x 9 cold wat]1 !n put x betwe5 a piece ( old l95 & apply1 *ang+ :5 x gets w>m4 ,,to ,,make ,,cold ,,cream4 ,melt 9 a j> two ounces ( :ite wax1 half an ounce ( sp]maceti1 & mix ) a p9t ( sweet oil4 ,add p]fume to suit4 ,melt toge!r an ounce ( :ite wax1 half an ounce ( sp]maceti1 & mix ) a p9t ( oil ( sweet almonds & half a p9t ( rose-wat]4 ,beat to a pa/e4 ,,to ,,make ,,rose-,,wat]4 ,take half an ounce ( p[d]$ :ite sug> & two drams ( magnesia4 ,) ^! mix twelve drops ( ott> ( roses4 ,add a qu>t ( wat]1 two ounces ( alcohol1 mix 9 a gradual mann]1 & filt] ?r\gh blott+ pap]4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,wa% ,,laces4 ,take a qu>t bottle & cov] x ov] ) ! leg ( a s(t1 firm /ock+1 sew x tightly above & bel[4 ,!n w9d ! coll> or lace smoo?ly ar\nd ! cov]$ bottle2 take a f9e ne$le & ?read & sew v c>efully ar\nd ! out] edge ( ! coll> or lace1 cat*+ e loop fa/ to ! /ock+4 ,!n %ake ! bottle up & d[n 9 a pailful ( w>m soap-suds1 occasionally rubb+ ! soil$ places ) a s(t sponge4 ,x mu/ be r9s$ well aft] ! same mann] 9 clean wat]4 ,:5 ! lace is clean1 apply a v weak solution ( gum arabic & /& ! bottle 9 ! sun%9e to dry4 ,take (f ! lace v c>efully :5 p]fectly dry4 ,in/ead ( iron+1 lay x betwe5 ! :ite leaves ( a heavy book2 or1 if y are 9 a hurry1 iron on flannel betwe5 a few ?icknesses ( f9e musl94 ,done up 9 ?is way1 lace coll>s w we> long]1 /ay clean long]1 & h a ri*1 new1 lacy look t !y w n h o!rwise4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,d>k5 ,,fad$ ,,false ,,hair4 ,! swit*es1 curls & frizzes :i* fa%ion dem&s %\ld be worn1 w fade 9 c\rse ( "t2 & ?\gh !y mat*$ ! natural hair p]fectly at fir/1 !y w f9ally pres5t a light] t9t4 ,if ! hair is br[n ?is c be rem$i$4 ,obta9 a y>d ( d>k br[n calico4 ,boil x until ! color has well come out into ! wat]4 ,!n into ?is wat] dip ! hair1 & take x out & dry x4 ,repeat ! op]ation until x %all be ( ! requir$ dep? ( %ade4 ,,putt+ ,,away ,,furs ,,= ,,! ,,summ]4 ,:5 y are ready to put away furs & wool5s1 & want to gu>d aga9/ ! depr$ations ( mo?s1 pack !m securely 9 pap] fl\r sacks & tie !m up well4 ,?is is bett] ?an camphor or tobacco or snuff scatt]$ among !m 9 *e/s & draw]s4 ,be=e putt+ y\r muffs away = ! summ]1 twirl !m by ! cord at ! ends1 s t e hair w /raight54 ,put !m 9 _! boxes & pa/e a /rip ( pap] :]e ! lid fits on4 ,,to ,,keep ,,! ,,hair ,,9 ,,curl4 ,to keep ! hair 9 curl take a few qu9ce-se$1 boil !m 9 wat]1 & add p]fum]y if y l2 wet ! hair ) ?is & x w keep 9 curl long] ?an f ! use ( any o!r prep>ation4 ,x is also good to keep ! hair 9 place on ! =ehead on go+ out 9 ! w9d4 ,,protection ,,aga9/ ,,mo?s4 ,dissolve two ounces ( camphor 9 half a p9t ea* ( alcohol & spirits ( turp5t9e2 keep 9 a /one bottle & %ake be=e us+4 ,dip blott+ pap] 9 ! liquid1 & place 9 ! box ) ! articles to be pres]v$4 ,,to ,,take ,,mildew ,,out ,,( ,,l954 ,wet ! l95 9 s(t wat]1 rub x well ) :ite soap1 !n scrape "s f9e *alk to p[d]1 & rub x well into ! l952 lay x out on ! grass 9 ! sun%9e1 wat*+ to keep x damp ) s(t wat]4 ,repeat ! process ! next day1 & 9 a few h\rs ! mildew w entirely disappe>4 ,,cure ,,= ,,9-,,gr[+ ,,nails ,,on ,,toes4 ,take a little tall[ & put x into a spoon1 & heat x ov] a lamp until x becomes v hot2 !n p\r x on ! sore or granulation4 ,! effect w be almo/ magical4 ,! pa9 & t5d]ness w at once be reliev$4 ,! op]ation causes v little pa9 if ! tall[ is p]fectly heat$4 ,p]haps a repetition may be necess>y 9 "s cases4 ,,to ,,remove ,,grease-,,spots ,,f ,,wool5 ,,clo?4 ,take "o qu>t ( spirits ( w9e or alcohol1 twelve drops ( w9t] gre51 "o gill ( beef-gall & six c5ts' wor? ( lav5d>4 ,a little alkanet to color if y wi%4 ,mix4 ,,to ,,clean ,,wool5 ,,clo?4 ,take equal p>ts ( spirits h>t%orn & e!r4 ,ox-gall mix$ ) x makes x bett]4 ,,to ,,take ,,ink-,,spots ,,f ,,l954 ,take a piece ( m\ld c&le ( ! f9e/ k9d1 melt x1 & dip ! spott$ "p ( ! l95 9 ! melt$ tall[3 ,!n ?r[ ! l95 into ! wa%4 ,,to ,,remove ,,fruit-,,/a9s4 ,moi/5 ! p>ts /a9$ ) cold wat]2 !n hold x ov] ! smoke ( burn+ brim/one1 & ! /a9 w disappe>4 ,?is w remove iron m\ld also4 ,,clean+ ,,silv]4 ,= clean+ silv]1 ei!r articles ( p]sonal we> or ^? p]ta9+ to ! toilet-table or dress+-case1 !re is no?+ bett] ?an a spoonful ( common :it+1 c>efully p\nd$ s z to be )\t lumps1 r$uc$ to a pa/e ) g94 ,,to ,,remove ,,grease ,,spots4 ,fr5* *alk is useful = remov+ grease-spots f clo?+4 ,spots on silk w sometimes yield if a piece ( blott+-pap] is plac$ ov] !m & ! blade ( a knife is heat$ 7n too mu*7 & pass$ ov] ! pap]4 ,,to ,,remove ,a ,,tight ,,r+4 ,:5 a r+ happ5s to get s tight on a f+] t x _c be remov$1 a piece ( /r+1 well soap$1 may be w\nd tightly r\nd ! f+]1 comm5c+ at ! end ( ! f+] & cont9u$ until ! r+ is rea*$4 ,!n =ce ! end ( ! tw9e betwe5 ! r+ & f+]1 & z ! /r+ is unw\nd1 ! r+ w be gradually =c$ (f4 ,,mosquitoes ,,w>d$ ,,(f4 ,to w>d (f mosquitoes1 apply to ! sk9 a solution made ( fifty drops ( c>bolic acid to an ounce ( glyc]9e4 ,mosquito bites may be in/antly cur$ by t\*+ !m ) ! solution4 ,add two or ?ree drops ( ! ott> ( roses to disguise ! smell4 ,! pure1 cry/aliz$ =m ( ! acid has a less p[]ful odor ?an ! common prep>ation4 ,,l9im5t ,,= ,,! ,,face ,,aft] ,,%av+4 ,"o ounce ( lime wat]1 "o ounce ( sweet oil1 "o drop oil ( roses1 is a good l9im5t = ! face aft] %av+4 ,%ake well be=e us+4 ,apply ) ! =ef+]4 ,,to ,,remove ,,sunburn4 ,wa% ?or\ghly ) milk ( almonds1 :i* c be obta9$ at ! drug /ore4 ,,to ,,:it5 ,,! ,,f+] ,,nails4 ,take two drams ( dilute sulphuric acid1 "o dram ( ! t9cture ( myrrh1 f\r ounces ( spr+ wat]1 & mix 9 a bottle4 ,aft] wa%+ ! h&s1 dip ! f+]s 9 a little ( ! mixture4 ,r+s ) /ones or pe>ls 9 !m %\ld be remov$ be=e us+ ?is mixture4 ,,to ,,remove ,,tan4 ,tan c be remov$ f ! face by dissolv+ magnesia 9 s(t wat]4 ,beat x to a ?ick mass1 spread x on ! face1 & let x rema9 a m9ute or two4 ,!n wa% (f ) ca/ile soapsuds & r9se ) s(t wat]4 ,,to ,,cure ,,w>ts4 ,take a piece ( raw beef /eep$ 9 v9eg> = tw5ty-f\r h\rs1 tie x on ! "p affect$4 ,apply ea* night = two weeks4 ,,rem$y ,,= ,,9-,,gr[+ ,,toe-,,nails4 ,! be/ rem$y = 9-gr[+ toe-nails is to cut a not* ab\t ! %ape ( a ,v 9 ! end ( ! nail1 ab\t "o-qu>t] ! wid? ( ! nail f ! 9-gr[+ side4 ,cut d[n z ne>ly to ! quick z possible1 & "o-?ird ! l5g? ( ! nail4 ,! pressure ( ! boot or %oe w t5d to close ! op5+ y h made 9 ! nail1 & ?is soon af=ds relief4 ,all[ ! 9-gr[+ portion ( ! nail to gr[ )\t cutt+ x1 until x gets beyond ! fle%4 ,,to ,,remove ,,wr9kles4 ,melt "o ounce ( :ite wax1 add two ounces ( juice ( lily-bulbs1 two ounces ( honey1 two drams ( rose-wat]1 & a drop or two ( ott> ( roses4 ,use x twice a day4 ,put p[d] ( be/ myrrh ^u an iron plate suffici5tly hot to melt ! gum g5tly1 & :5 x liquefies1 cov] ov] y\r head ) a napk91 & hold y\r face ov] ! fumes at a di/ance t w cause y no inconv5i5ce4 ,if x produces heada*e1 discont9ue its use4 ,9 wa%+1 use w>m in/ead ( cold wat]4 ,,rem$y ,,= ,,*app$ ,,h&s4 ,aft] wa%+ ) soap1 r9se ! h&s 9 fre% wat] & dry !m ?or\ghly1 by apply+ ,indian meal or rice fl\r4 ,lemon-juice ?ree ounces1 :ite w9e v9eg> ?ree ounces1 & :ite br&y half a p9t4 ,add t5 drops ( c>bolic acid to "o ounce ( glyc]9e1 & apply freely at night4 ,,to ,,cure ,,*ilbla9s4 ,two tablespoonfuls ( lime wat] mix$ ) en\gh sweet oil to make x z ?ick z l>d4 ,rub ! *ilbla9s ) ! mixture & dry x 91 !n wrap up 9 l954 ,ba! ! *ilbla9s 9 /rong alum wat]1 z hot z x c be borne4 ,:5 indications ( ! *ilbla9s fir/ pres5t !mselves1 take v9eg> ?ree ounces & camphorat$ spirits ( w9e "o ounce2 mix & rub on ! p>ts affect$4 ,ba! ! feet 9 w>m wat]1 9 :i* two or ?ree h&sful ( common salt h be5 dissolv$4 ,rub ) a raw onion dipp$ 9 salt4 ,,hair ,,re/orative4 ,! oil ( mace "o-half ounce1 mix$ ) a p9t ( deodoriz$ alcohol1 is a p[]ful /imulant = ! hair4 ,to apply x1 p\r a spoonful or two into a sauc]1 dip a /iff bru% into x & bru% ! hair & head sm>tly4 ,on bald heads1 if hair w />t at all1 x may be /imulat$ by friction ) a piece ( flannel till ! sk9 becomes r$4 ,repeat ?is process ?ree times a day1 until ! hair beg9s to gr[1 :5 ! t9cture may be appli$ b once a day1 till ! gr[? is well e/abli%$4 ,! head %\ld be ba!d 9 cold wat] e morn+1 & briskly bru%$ to br+ ! blood to ! surface4 ,,wa% ,,= ,,! ,,tee?4 ,dissolve two ounces ( borax 9 ?ree p9ts ( w>m wat]4 ,be=e ! wat] is q cold1 add "o teaspoonful ( spirits ( camphor4 ,bottle ! mixture = use4 ,"o w9e-glass ( ! mixture1 add$ to half a p9t ( tepid wat]1 is suffici5t = ea* application4 ,?is solution us$ daily1 beautifies & pres]ves ! tee?4 ,,foe ,,:it5+ ,,! ,,h&s4 ,a w9e-glass ( cologne & "o ( lemon-juice /ra9$ cle>4 ,scrape two cakes ( br[n ,w9dsor soap to a p[d] & mix well 9 a m\ld4 ,:5 h>d1 x is fit = use1 & w be f\nd excell5t = :it5+ ! h&s4 ,we> dur+ ! night1 l>ge clo? mitt5s fill$ ) wet bran or oatmeal1 & ti$ closely at ! wri/4 ,p]sons :o h a great deal ( h\se-"w to d1 may keep _! h&s s(t & :ite by we>+ bran or oatmeal mitt5s4 ,,to ,,r$uce ,,! ,,fle%4 ,a /rong decoction ( sassafras1 drank frequ5tly1 w r$uce ! fle% z rapidly z any rem$y kn[n4 ,a /rong infusion is made at ! rate ( an ounce ( sassafras to a qu>t ( wat]4 ,boil x half an h\r v sl[ly1 & let x /& till cold1 heat+ aga9 if desir$4 ,keep x f ! air4 ,,smoo? ,,& ,,s(t ,,h&s4 ,a few drops ( glyc]9e ?or\ghly rubb$ ov] ! h&s1 aft] wa%+ !m1 w keep !m smoo? & s(t4 ,,to ,,make ,,t9cture ,,( ,,roses4 ,take ! leaves ( ! common rose & place1 )\t press+ !m1 9 a glass bottle1 !n p\r "s spirits ( w9e on !m1 close ! bottle & let x /& till requir$ = use4 ,its p]fume is ne>ly equal to t ( ott> ( roses4 ,,s(t ,,corns4 ,a weak solution ( c>bolic acid w heal s(t corns betwe5 ! toes4 ,,burn$ ,,eyebr[s4 ,five gra9s sulphate ( qu99e dissolv$ 9 an ounce ( alcohol1 w1 if appli$1 cause eyebr[s to gr[ :5 burn$ (f by ! fire4 ,,to ,,re/ore ,,gray ,,hair4 ,a recipe = re/or+ gray hair to its natural color1 said to be v effective :5 ! hair is *ang+ color1 is z foll[s3 ,"o p9t ( wat]1 "o ounce t9cture ( acetate ( iron1 half an ounce ( glyc]9e1 & five gra9s sulphuret potassium4 ,mix & let ! bottle /& op5 until ! smell ( ! potassium has disappe>$1 !n add a few drops ( ott> ( roses4 ,rub a little into ! hair daily1 & x w re/ore its color & b5efit ! heal?4 ,ba?+ ! head 9 a /rong solution ( rock salt1 is said to re/ore gray hair 9 "s cases4 ,make ! solution two heap+ tablespoonfuls ( salt to a qu>t ( boil+ wat]1 & let x /& until cold be=e us+4 ,a solution made ( a tablespoonful ( c>bonate ( ammonia to a qu>t ( wat] is also recomm5d$1 wa% ! head ?or\ghly ) ! solution & bru% ! hair :ile wet4 ,,to ,,take ,,/a9s ,,out ,,( ,,silks4 ,make a solution ( two ounces ( ess5ce ( lemon1 & "o ounce oil ( turp5t9e4 ,rub ! silk g5tly ) l95 clo?1 dipp$ 9 ! solution4 ,to remove acid /a9s f silk1 apply spirits ( ammonia ) a s(t rag4 ,,to ,,take ,,ink-,,spots ,,f ,,l954 ,dip ! spott$ "p ( ! l95 9 clean1 pure melt$ tall[1 be=e be+ wa%$4 ,,to ,,remove ,,discoloration ,,by ,,bruis+4 ,apply to ! bruise a clo? wrung out ( v hot wat]1 & r5ew frequ5tly until ! pa9 ceases4 ,,to ,,clean ,,kid ,,gloves4 ,make a solution ( "o qu>t ( di/ill$ b5z9e ) "o-f\r? ( an ounce ( c>bonate ( ammonia1 "o-f\r? ( an ounce ( fluid *lor(orm1 "o-f\r? ( an ounce ( sulphuric e!r4 ,p\r a small quantity into a sauc]1 put on ! gloves1 & wa%1 z if wa%+ ! h&s1 *ang+ ! solution until ! gloves are clean4 ,rub !m clean & z dry z possible ) a clean dry clo?1 & take !m (f & hang !m :]e !re is a good curr5t ( air to dry4 ,?is solution is also excell5t = clean+ ribbons1 silks1 etc41 & is p]fectly h>mless to ! mo/ delicate t9ts4 ,d n get ne> ! fire :5 us+1 z ! b5z9e is v inflammable4 ,wa%+ ! gloves 9 turp5t9e1 ! same z above1 is also a good means ( clean+ !m4 ,,p]spiration4 ,to remove ! unpleasant odor produc$ by p]spiration1 put two tablespoonfuls ( ! comp\nd _s ( ammonia 9 a bas9 ( wat]1 & use x = ba?+4 ,x leaves ! sk9 cle>1 sweet & fre% z "o c\ld wi%4 ,x is p]fectly h>mless1 v *eap1 & is recomm5d$ on ! au?ority ( an exp]i5c$ physician4 ,,to ,,remove ,,fle% ,,worms4 ,fle% worms1 or little black specks1 :i* appe> on ! nose1 may be remov$ by wa%+ 9 w>m wat]1 dry+ ) a t[el1 & apply+ a wa% ( cologne & liquor ( pota%1 made ( ?ree ounces ( ! =m] to "o ounce ( ! latt]4 ,,*app$ ,,lips4 ,oil ( roses f\r ounces1 :ite wax "o ounce1 sp]maceti half an ounce2 melt 9 a glass vessel1 /irr+ ) a wood5 spoon1 & p\r into a *9a or glass cup4 ,,recipes ,,= ,,! ,,c>e ,,( ,,! ,,tee?4 ,a rem$y = uns\nd gums1 is a g>gle made ( "o ounce ( co>sely p[d]$ ,p]uvian b>k /eep$ 9 half a p9t ( br&y = two weeks4 ,put a teaspoonful ( ?is into a tablespoonful ( wat]1 & g>gle ! m\? twice a day4 ,! a%es ( /ale bread1 ?or\ghly burn$1 is said to make a good d5tifrice4 ,! tee? %\ld be c>efully bru%$ aft] e meal1 z a means ( pres]v+ a sweet brea?4 ,9 addition1 a small piece ( licorice may be dissolv$ 9 ! m\?1 :i* corrects ! effects ( indige/ion4 ,licorice has no smell1 b simply corrects ill-flavor$ odor4 ,a good way to clean tee? is to dip ! bru% 9 wat]1 rub x ov] :ite ca/ile soap1 !n dip x 9 prep>$ *alk1 & bru% ! tee? briskly4 ,to beautify ! tee?1 dissolve two ounces ( borax 9 ?ree p9ts ( boil+ wat]1 & be=e x is cold1 add "o teaspoonful ( spirits ( camphor2 bottle = use4 ,use a teaspoonful ( ?is ) an equal quantity ( w>m wat]4 ,,to ,,make ,,cold ,,cream4 ,five ounces oil ( sweet almonds1 ?ree ounces sp]maceti1 half an ounce ( :ite wax1 & ?ree to five drops ott> ( roses4 ,melt toge!r 9 a %all[ di% ov] hot wat]4 ,/ra9 ?r\gh a piece ( musl9 :5 melt$1 & z x beg9s to cool1 beat x ) a silv] spoon until cold & sn[y :ite4 ,= ! hair use sev5 ounces ( oil ( almonds in/ead ( five4 ,,rem$y ,,= ,,black ,,tee?4 ,take equal p>ts ( cream ( t>t> & salt1 pulv]ize x & mix x well4 ,wa% ! tee? 9 ! morn+ & rub !m well ) ! p[d]4 ,,to ,,cleanse ,,! ,,tee? ,,& ,,gums4 ,take an ounce ( myrrh 9 f9e p[d]1 two tablespoonfuls ( honey1 & a little gre5 sage 9 v f9e p[d]2 mix !m well toge!r1 & wet ! tee? & gums ) a little1 twice a day4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xxxiv4 ,sports1 ,games1 ,amusem5ts4 ,!re is a great v>iety ( games1 sports & amusem5ts = bo? out-door & 9-door ent]ta9m5t1 9 :i* bo? sexes m+le = pleasure1 & brief m5tion is "h made ( "s ( ^!4 ,,ar*]y4 ,! int]e/ t has be5 rec5tly awak5$ 9 ?is c\ntry 9 ar*]y1 is wor?y ( m5tion4 ,z a graceful1 heal?ful & innoc5t sport1 x has no equal among any ( ! games t h be5 introduc$1 :]e bo? sexes p>ticipate4 ,our "y & middle ag$ ladies too (t5 neglect out-door physical ex]tion1 :i* is ess5tial to acquir+ /r5g? ( limbs & muscle1 & a gracefulness ( c>riage :i* is dep5d5t !reon4 ,x is a mi/ak5 idea t ) y\? all indulg5ce 9 physical recreation %\ld cease4 ,on ! contr>y1 su* ex]cises z are mo/ conducive to heal?1 & are att5d$ ) pleasure1 might ) propriety be kept up by "y wom5 z well z by "y m51 z a means ( reta9+ /r5g? & ela/icity ( ! muscles2 &1 in/ead ( weak1 trembl+ frames & brok5 d[n con/itutions1 9 ! prime ( life1 a bright1 vigor\s old age w\ld be ! rew>d4 ,! pursuit ( ar*]y is recomm5d$ to bo? "y & old1 male & female1 z hav+ advantages f> sup]ior to any ( ! out-door games & ex]cises1 z a graceful & invigorat+ pa/ime1 develop+ 9 ladies a /rong con/itution1 p]fection ( sight at long range1 & above all1 imp>t+ to ! figure a graceful appe>ance & p]fect action ( ! limbs & *e/4 ,let ! wom5 ( ?is c\ntry devote "s ( _! sp>e h\rs to ?is pleasant1 heal?-giv+ sport1 & _! rew>d w be bright1 ruddy faces1 ela/icity ( movem5t1 & /rong & vigor\s con/itutions4 ,,implem5ts ,,= ,,ar*]y4 ,= ! purposes ( ar*]y1 ! implem5ts requir$ are ! b[1 arr[s1 t>gets1 a quiv] p\* & belt1 an arm-gu>d or brace1 a %oot+ glove or f+] tip1 & a scor+ c>d4 ,! b[ is f five to six feet long1 made ( lancewood or locu/4 ,spani% yew is consid]$ ! *oice/1 next comes ! ,italian1 !n ! ,engli% yew2 lancewood & lancewood back$ ) hickory are us$ m ?an any o!r4 ,9 *oos+ a b[1 get ! be/ y c af=d1 x w prove ! *eape/ 9 ! end4 ,m5 %\ld use b[s six feet long1 pull+ f =ty to sixty p\nds1 & ladies b[s ( five feet or five feet six in*es 9 l5g?1 & pull+ f tw5ty-five to =ty p\nds4 ,! arr[s are g5]ally ( uni=m ?ickness ?r\gh\t1 & are made ( p9e2 ! f9e/ grades be+ made ( :ite deal1 ) %>p po9ts ( iron or brass4 ,!y are f #be to #cj in*es 9 l5g?4 ,! quiv] belt is worn r\nd ! wai/1 & conta9s ! arr[s :i* are be+ us$4 ,! arm is protect$ f ! bl[ ( ! /r+ by ! arm-gu>d1 a broad gu>d ( /rong lea!r buckl$ on ! left wri/ by two /raps4 ,a %oot+-glove is worn on ! "r h& to protect ! f+]s f sor5ess 9 draw+ ! /r+ ( ! b[4 ,! t>get consi/s ( a circul>1 ?ick mat ( /raw1 f two to f\r feet 9 diamet]1 cov]$ ) canvas1 pa9t$ 9 a s]ies ( circles4 ,! inn] circle is a gold color1 !n comes r$1 :ite1 black1 & ! out] circle :ite4 ,! score = a gold hit is n9e2 ! r$ #g1 ! inn] :ite #e2 ! black #c1 & ! out] :ite #a4 ,! use ( ! b[ & arr[s1 ! prop] mann] ( hold+ !m1 & directions = %oot+ are to be f\nd 9 pamphlets ( in/ruction1 :i* (t5 accompany ! implem5ts4 ,,ar*]y ,,clubs ,,& ,,practice4 ,9 _m cities & villages ?r\gh\t ! c\ntry1 clubs h be5 =m$1 & regul> days = practice & prize %oot+ are appo9t$4 ,ea* memb] ( ! ! club is expect$ to furni% 8 or h] own implem5ts1 & to att5d all ! practice meet+s & prize %oot+s4 ,! clubs are ab\t equally divid$ z to ladies & g5tlem51 z bo? sexes p>ticipate equally 9 ! sport4 ,! (fic]s are su* z are usually *os5 9 all organizations1 ) ! addition ( a ,lady ,p>am\nt1 a scor]1 & a ,field ,m>%al4 ,! lady p>am\nt is ! highe/ (fice ( honor 9 ! club4 ,%e is expect$ to act z an umpire or judge 9 all matt]s ( dispute t may come up 9 ! club1 & h] decisions mu/ be reg>d$ z f9al4 ,%e is also expect$ to d all 9 h] p[] to fur!r ! int]e/s ( ! organization4 ,a field m>%al has be5 appo9t$ by "s clubs1 & 8 duties are to place ! t>gets1 measure ! %oot+ di/ances1 & h g5]al sup]vision ( ! field on practice days4 ,! scor] keeps a score ( ea* individual memb] ( ! club4 ,9 meet+ = practice1 x is cu/om>y to h "o t>get = e six1 eight or t5 p]sons1 ! latt] numb] be+ suffici5t = any "o t>get4 ,! t>gets are plac$ at any di/ance requir$1 f ?irty to "o hundr$ y>ds2 ladies be+ all[$ an advantage ( ab\t "o-f\r? ! di/ance 9 %oot+4 ,to beg9n]s1 a di/ance ( f tw5ty-five to =ty y>ds = g5tlem51 & tw5ty to ?irty = ladies1 is suffici5t1 & ?is di/ance may be increas$ z practice is acquir$4 ,an equal numb] ( ladies & g5tlem5 usually occupy "o t>get1 & ea* %oots a c]ta9 numb] ( arr[s z agre$ ^u1 usually f ?ree to six1 a score be+ kept z ! t>get is hit4 ,aft] ea* p]son has %ot ! allott$ numb] ( arr[s1 x is reg>d$ z an end1 & a c]ta9 numb] ( ends1 z agre$ ^u1 con/itute a r\nd4 ,= prize %oot+1 ! ,national ,ar*]y ,association has e/abli%$ ?ree r\nds1 kn[n z ! ,york ,r\nd1 ! ,am]ican ,r\nd1 & ! ,columbia ,r\nd 7= ladies74 ,! ,york ,r\nd consi/s ( #gb arr[s at #ajj y>ds1 #dh at #hj y>ds1 & #bd at #fj y>ds4 ,! ,am]ican ,r\nd consi/s ( #cj arr[s1 ea* at #fj1 #ej & #dj y>ds respectively1 & ! ,columbia ,r\nd 7= ladies71 #bd arr[s1 ea* at #ej1 #dj & #cj y>ds respectively4 ,a capta9 is appo9t$ = ea* t>get1 :o designates a t>get scor]1 & ! g5tleman :o makes ! l>ge/ score1 is appo9t$ capta9 ( ! t>get at ! succe$+ meet+4 ,! t>get scor]1 at ! close ( ! r\nd1 h&s ! score to ! (ficial scor]1 :o ann\nces ! result at ! next meet+ ( ! club4 ,"s clubs h adopt$ ! plan ( hav+ e alt]nate meet+ = prize %oot+1 aw>d+ "s small tok5 to ! lady & g5tleman :o makes ! highe/ scores4 ,ladies' co/ume = ar*]y may be m brilliant ?an = an ord9>y walk+ dress1 & are usually trimm$ ) gre5 & gold color1 & 9 _m cases a gre5 jacket is worn4 ,! co/umes are %ort en\gh = conv5i5ce 9 movem5t1 & made s z to give free & easy movem5t ( ! arms4 ,,lawn-,,t5nis4 ,among/ all games1 none1 p]haps c s ju/ly lay claim to ! honor ( antiquity z t5nis4 ,! anci5t ,greeks play$ x1 ! ,romans knew x z pila1 & ev] s9ce ^? days1 ) little int]mission1 ! game has be5 play$ 9 _m ,european c\ntries4 ,aft] a long season ( re/1 ! game has n[ re-appe>$ 9 all ! fre%ness ( r5ew$ y\?4 ,!re are _m po9ts to be said to comm5d t5nis4 ,bo? ladies & g5tlem5 c jo9 9 ! game1 & (t5 ! palm w be borne (f by ! weak]1 yet fair] sex4 ,! ex]cise requir$ to enjoy ! game is n 9 any way ( an exhau/+ "*1 & af=ds ladies a tra9+ 9 graceful & *>m+ movem5ts4 ,lawn-t5nis may be play$ ei!r 9 summ] or w9t]1 & 9 cold wea!r1 if ! gr\nd be dry1 is a v agreeable out-door recreation4 ,at a croquet or g>d5 p>ty x is c]ta9ly a desid]atum4 ,! requisites = play+ lawn-t5nis1 are a lawn or level surface ab\t #de by #ajj feet1 z ! c\rt ^u :i* ! play+ is done is #bg by #gh feet4 ,a net f\r or five feet 9 height & #bg feet long1 divides ! c\rt4 ,a ball made ( india rubb] & cov]$ ) clo?1 & a racket = ea* play] are ! implem5ts ne$$ = play+4 ,! racket is us$ = h&l+ ! ball1 & is ab\t two feet 9 l5g?1 ) net "w at ! out] end1 by means ( :i* ! ball is toss$ f "o place to ano!r4 ,rules = play+ ! game are obta9$ ) ! implem5ts ne$$1 :i* c be procur$ f deal]s 9 su* l9es ( goods4 ,,croquet4 ,! game ( croquet is play$ by opposite p>ties1 ( "o or m on a side1 ea* play] be+ provid$ ) a mallet & h] own ball :i* are di/+ui%$ by _! color4 ,! play]s 9 _! turn place _! ball a mallet's l5g? f ! />t+ /ake1 & /rike x ) ! mallet1 ! object be+ to pass x ?r\gh ! fir/ "o or two hoops4 ,! turn+ or upp] /ake mu/ be /ruck ) ! ball be=e ! play] c pass h] ball ?r\gh ! return+ hoops1 & on return+ to ! />t+ po9t ! ball mu/ hit ! />t+ /ake be=e ! play] is ! w9n]4 ,! "o :o passes ?r\gh all ! hoops & gets h] ball to ! />t+ /ake fir/ is ! w9n]4 ,we d n give ! rules ( ! game z ea* croquet set is accompani$ by a complete set ( rules4 ,:]e f\r are play+1 two ( :om are g5tlem51 "o lady & g5tleman usually play z p>tn]s4 ,z x is ! height ( ill-mann]s to display any rud5ess1 no lady or g5tleman w be s f> =getful z to become angry %\ld ! oppos+ p>ties be f\nd *eat+4 ,invitations to a croquet p>ty may be ( ! same =m z invitations to any o!r p>ty4 ,,boat+4 ,:]e !re is a suffici5tly l>ge body or /ream ( wat] to admit ( x1 boat+ is a v enjoyable recreation1 :i* may be pursu$ by bo? ladies & g5tlem54 ,!re is mu* dang] 9 sail+1 & ! prop] managem5t ( a sail-boat requires consid]able tact & exp]i5ce4 ,r[+ is saf]1 b caution %\ld be obs]v$ 9 n ov]-load+ ! boat4 ,a g5tleman %\ld n invite ladies to ride on ! wat] unless he is ?or\ghly capable ( manag+ ! boat4 ,r[+ is a heal?ful & delightful recreation1 & _m ladies become exp]t & skillful at x4 ,e g5tleman %\ld h "s k ( r[+1 z x is easily acquir$4 ,if a g5tleman :o is inexp]i5c$ 9 r[+1 goes out ) o!r g5tlem5 9 a boat1 he %\ld refra9 f any attempt to r[1 z he w only display 8 awkw>dness1 & r5d] ! ride uncom=table to 8 companions4 ,9 r[+ ) a fri5d1 x is polite to (f] him ! /roke o>1 :i* is ! po/ ( honor4 ,:5 two g5tlem5 take a p>ty ( ladies out = a r[1 "o /&s 9 ! boat to /eady x & (f] assi/ance to ! ladies 9 gett+ seat$1 & ! o!r aids f ! :>f4 ,a lady's dress = r[+ %\ld be "o :i* w give p]fect fre$om to h] arm2 a %ort skirt1 /\t boots1 & hat ) suffici5t brim to protect h] face f ! sun4 ,,picnics4 ,:ile ladies & g5tlem5 nev] =get _! good mann]s1 & are always polite & c\rte\s1 yet at picnics !y are privileg$ to relax _m ( ! =ms & c]emonies requir$ by /rict etiquette4 ,"h m5 & wom5 m+le = a day ( pleasure 9 ! woods or fields1 or on ! wat]1 & x is ! "p ( all :o att5d to d :at !y c = _! own & _! neighbor's enjoym5t4 ,h5ce1 =mal introductions & o!r c]emonies ne$ n /& 9 ! way ( enjoym5t ei!r by ladies or g5tlem51 & at ! same "t no act ( rud5ess %\ld occur to m> ! pleasure ( ! occasion4 ,x is ! duty ( g5tlem5 to d all !y c to make ! occasion enjoyable & ev5 mir?ful4 ,!y %\ld also look to provid+ ! means ( conveyance to & f ! spot select$ = ! fe/ivities1 make su* arrangem5ts z are necess>y 9 ! way ( provid+ music1 games1 boats1 & :atev] else is ne$$ to enhance ! pleasure ( ! day4 ,! ladies provide ! lun*eon or d9n]1 :i* is spread ^u ! grass or eat5 out ( _! baskets1 & at :i* ! re/ra9ts ( ! table are )drawn4 ,at picnics1 g5tlem5 become ! s]vants z well z ! escorts & guides ( ! ladies1 & p]=m su* s]vices = ladies 9 ! way ( procur+ fl[]s1 c>ry+ baskets1 climb+ trees1 bait+ _! fi%-hooks1 & _m o!r ?+s z are reque/$ ( !m4 ,,private ,,!atricals4 ,private !atricals may be made v pleas+ & in/ructive ent]ta9m5ts = fall or w9t] ev5+s1 among ei!r "y or m>ri$ p4 ,!y include *>ades1 prov]bs1 tableaux1 dramatic read+s1 & ! pres5tation ( a %ort dramatical piece1 & may successfully be giv5 9 ! p>lor or draw+ room4 ,! ho/ess seeks ! aid ( fri5ds 9 ! prep>ation ( h] arrangem5ts1 & if a drama has be5 det]m9$ ^u1 %e assigns ! v>i\s p>ts to ea*4 ,h] fri5ds %\ld aid h] 9 h] ef=ts by giv+ h] all ! assi/ance !y c1 & by will+ly & good-natur$ly comply+ ) any reque/ %e may make1 accept+ ! p>ts allott$ to !m1 ev5 if !y are obscure or di/a/eful4 ,!y %\ld endeavor to p]=m _! "p 9 any dramatical piece1 tableau or *>ade z well z possible1 & ! success !y a*ieve w det]m9e h[ conspicu\s a "p !y may be call$ ^u to p]=m at a subsequ5t "t4 ,! ho/ess %\ld consult ea* p]=m] be=e allot+ a "p1 & endeavor to suit ea* "o4 ,! ho/ or ho/ess %\ld n h any conspicu\s "p assign$ !m1 unless x is urg$ by all ! o!r p]=m]s4 ,^? :o are to p>ticipate1 %\ld n only le>n _! p>ts1 b endeavor to imbue !mselves ) ! _s ( ! "* !y p]sonate1 s z to af=d pleasure to all :o are invit$ to witness its p]=mance4 ,:5 p]sons h cons5t$ to p>ticipate 9 any su* ent]ta9m5t1 only sickness or "s v grave cause %\ld prev5t !m f und]tak+ _! "p4 ,supp] or refre%m5ts usually foll[ private !atricals1 ( :i* bo? ! p]=m]s & invit$ gue/s are invit$ to p>take1 & ! rema9d] ( ! ev5+ is sp5t 9 social int]c\rse4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,c>d ,,play+4 ,nev] urge any "o :o seems to be unwill+ to play a game ( c>ds4 ,!y may h consci5ti\s scruples 9 ! matt]1 :i* mu/ be respect$4 ,if y h no scruples ( consci5ce1 x is n c\rte\s to refuse1 :5 a game _c be made up )\t y4 ,y may refuse to play if y d n und]/& ! game ?or\ghly4 ,if1 h[ev]1 y are urg$ to try1 & y\r p>tn] & oppon5ts (f] to in/ruct y1 y may acc$e to _! reque/s1 = 9 s do+1 y w acquire a bett] k ( ! game4 ,m>ri$ & eld]ly p take prec$5ce ov] "y & unm>ri$ p1 9 a game ( c>ds4 ,x is ! privilege ( ! ho/ & ho/ess to sugge/ c>ds z a means ( amusem5t = ! gue/s4 ,! latt] %\ld nev] call = !m4 ,:i/ is a game ( c>ds s-call$1 because x requires sil5ce & close att5tion4 ,!re=e 9 play+ ?is game1 y mu/ give y\r :ole att5tion to ! c>ds1 & secure at lea/ comp>ative sil5ce4 ,d n sugge/ or keep up any conv]sation dur+ a game1 :i* w di/ract y\r own m9d or ! m9d ( o!rs f ! game4 ,nev] hurry any "o :o is play+4 ,9 endeavor+ to play _! be/1 !y %\ld take _! own "t1 )\t int]ruption4 ,bett+ at c>ds is vulg>1 p>takes ( ! nature ( gambl+1 & %\ld at all times be avoid$4 ,nev] f+] ! c>ds :ile !y are be+ dealt1 nor take up any ( !m until all are dealt out1 :5 y may take y\r own c>ds & proce$ to play4 ,9 l>ge assemblies x is be/ to furni% ! c>ds & tables1 & all[ gue/s to play or n1 at _! option1 ! ho/ & ho/ess giv+ _! assi/ance 9 seek+ = p dispos$ to play1 & 9 mak+ up a game4 ,9 giv+ c>d p>ties1 new c>ds %\ld be provid$ on e occasion4 ,illu/ration ,,*apt] ,,xxxv4 ,! ,language ( ,fl[]s4 ,h[ beautiful & yet h[ *eap are fl[]s6 ,n exotics1 b :at are call$ common fl[]s4 ,a rose1 = in/ance1 is among ! mo/ beautiful ( ! smiles ( nature4 ,! laugh+ fl[]s1 exclaims ! poet4 ,b !re is m ?an gayety 9 bloom+ fl[]s1 ?\gh x takes a wise man to see ! beauty1 ! love1 & ! adaptation ( :i* !y are full4 ,:at %\ld we ?9k ( "o :o _h inv5t$ fl[]s1 suppos+ t1 be=e him1 fl[]s 7 unkn[n8 ,w\ld he n be reg>d$ z ! op5]-up ( a p>adise ( new delight8 ,%\ld we n hail ! inv5tor z a g5ius1 z a god8 ,& yet ^! lovely (fspr+s ( ! e>? h be5 speak+ to man f ! fir/ dawn ( 8 exi/5ce until n[1 tell+ him ( ! goodness & wisdom ( ! ,creative ,p[]1 :i* bid ! e>? br+ =?1 n only t :i* 0 useful z food1 b also fl[]s1 ! bright consummate fl[]s to clo! x 9 beauty & joy6 ,illu/ration3 ,,fl[]s4 ,! meane/ fl[] t bl[s1 c give ,?\ghts t d (t5 lie too deep = te>s4 ,br+ "o ( ! commone/ field-fl[]s into a room1 place x on a table1 or *imney-piece1 & y seem to h br\ght a ray ( sun%9e into ! place4 ,!re is a *e]fulness ab\t fl[]s4 ,:at a delight are !y to ! droop+ invalid6 ,!y are a sweet enjoym5t1 com+ z mess5g]s f ! c\ntry1 & seem+ to say1 ,come & see ! place :]e we gr[1 & let y\r he>t be glad 9 our pres5ce4 ,!re is a s5tim5t atta*$ to fl[]s1 & ?is s5tim5t has be5 express$ 9 language by giv+ names to v>i\s fl[]s1 %rubs & plants4 ,^! names con/itute a language1 :i* may be made ! m$ium ( pleasant & amus+ int]*ange ( ?\ght betwe5 m5 & wom54 ,a b\quet ( fl[]s & leaves may be select$ & arrang$ s z to express mu* dep? 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