,illu/ration3 ,a ,,bride',s ,,b\quet ,,! ,,radiance ,,( ,a ,,truly ,,happy ,,bride ,,is ,,s ,,beautify+ ,,t ,,ev5 ,a ,,pla9 ,,girl ,,is ,,made ,,pretty1 ,,& ,a ,,pretty ,,"o1 ,,div9e4 ,page #cgc4 ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,society1 ,,9 ,,bus9ess1 ,,9 ,,politics ,,& ,,at ,,home ,,by ,,emily ,,po/ 7,,mrs4 ,,price ,,po/7 ,au?or ( ,purple & ,f9e ,l951 ,! ,title ,m>ket1 ,wov5 9 ! ,tape/ry1 ,! ,flight ( a ,mo?1 ,lett]s ( a ,worldly ,godmo!r1 etc41 etc4 ,,illu/rat$ ,,) ,,private ,,photographs ,,& ,,facsimiles ,,( ,,social ,,=ms ,,funk ,,wagnalls ,,company ,,new ,,york ,,& ,,london #aibb ,by ,,funk ,,wagnalls ,,company ,pr9t$ 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates ( ,am]ica ,fir/ ,edition publi%$ 9 ,july #aibb ,second ,edition publi%$ 9 ,septemb]1 #aibb ,augu/ #aa1 #aiaj4 ,,to ,,y ,,my ,,fri5ds ,,^: ,,id5tity ,,9 ,,^! ,,pages ,,is ,,veil$ ,,9 ,,fictional ,,disguise ,,x ,,is ,,b ,,fitt+ ,,t ,i ,,d$icate ,,?is ,,book4 ,,cont5ts ,,*apt] ,,introduction ,i4 ,,:at ,,is ,,be/ ,,society8 ,,ii4 ,,introductions ,,iii4 ,,greet+s ,,iv4 ,,salutations ,,( ,,c\rtesy ,v4 ,,on ,,! ,,/reet ,,& ,,9 ,,public ,,vi4 ,,at ,,public ,,ga!r+s ,,vii4 ,,conv]sation ,,viii4 ,,words1 ,,phrases ,,& ,,pronunciation ,,ix4 ,,"o',s ,,position ,,9 ,,! ,,community ,x4 ,,c>ds ,,& ,,visits ,,xi4 ,,invitations1 ,,acceptances ,,& ,,regrets ,,xii4 ,,! ,,well-,,appo9t$ ,,h\se ,,xiii4 ,,teas ,,& ,,o!r ,,aft]noon ,,p>ties ,,xiv4 ,,=mal ,,d9n]s ,,xv4 ,,d9n]-,,giv+ ,,) ,,limit$ ,,equipm5t ,,xvi4 ,,lun*eons1 ,,breakfa/s ,,& ,,supp]s ,,xvii4 ,,balls ,,& ,,dances ,,xviii4 ,,! ,d,,butante ,,xix4 ,,! ,,*ap]on ,,& ,,o!r ,,conv5tions ,,xx4 ,,engagem5ts ,,xxi4 ,,fir/ ,,prep>ations ,,be=e ,a ,,w$d+ ,,xxii4 ,,! ,,day ,,( ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,xxiii4 ,,*ri/5+s ,,xxiv4 ,,fun]als ,,xxv4 ,,! ,,c\ntry ,,h\se ,,& ,,its ,,hospitality ,,xxvi4 ,,! ,,h\se ,,p>ty ,,9 ,,camp ,,xxvii4 ,,notes ,,& ,,%ort] ,,lett]s ,,xxviii4 ,,long] ,,lett]s ,,xxix4 ,,! ,,fundam5tals ,,( ,,good ,,behavior ,,xxx4 ,,clubs ,,& ,,club ,,etiquette ,,xxxi4 ,,games ,,& ,,sports ,,xxxii4 ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,bus9ess ,,& ,,politics ,,xxxiii4 ,,dress ,,xxxiv4 ,,! ,,clo!s ,,( ,a ,,g5tleman ,,xxxv4 ,,! ,,k9d]g>t5 ,,( ,,etiquette ,,xxxvi4 ,,e-,,day ,,mann]s ,,at ,,home ,,xxxvii4 ,,travel+ ,,at ,,home ,,& ,,abroad ,,xxxviii4 ,,! ,,gr[? ,,( ,,good ,,ta/e ,,9 ,,am]ica ,,photographic ,,illu/rations ,a ,,bride',s ,,b\quet ,a ,,gem ,,( ,a ,,h\se ,,! ,,p]sonality ,,( ,a ,,h\se ,,consid]ation ,,= ,,s]vants ,,! ,,aft]noon ,,tea-,,table ,a ,,=mal ,,d9n] ,,detail ,,( ,,place ,,at ,a ,,=mal ,,d9n] ,a ,,d9n] ,,s]vice ,,)\t ,,silv] ,,! ,,mo/ ,,elaborate ,,d9n] ,,dance ,,ev] ,,giv5 ,,9 ,,new ,,york ,a ,,*ur* ,,w$d+ ,a ,,h\se ,,w$d+ ,,! ,,ideal ,,gue/ ,,room ,a ,,breakfa/ ,,tray ,,! ,,*ild ,,at ,,table ,,introduction ,,mann]s ,,& ,,morals ,by ,ri*>d ,duffy ,_m :o sc(f at a book ( etiquette w\ld be %ock$ to he> ! lea/ expression ( levity t\*+ ! ,t5 ,comm&m5ts4 ,b ! ,comm&m5ts d n always prev5t su* virtu\s sc(f]s f deal+s ) _! neighbor ( :i* no g5tleman c\ld be capable & reta9 8 claim to ! title4 ,?\gh x may require +5uity to reconcile _! actions ) ! ,decalogue--! +5uity is always =?com+4 ,!re is no int5tion 9 ?is rem>k to intimate t !re is any high] rule ( life ?an ! ,t5 ,comm&m5ts2 only x is illum9at+ z %[+ ! relation%ip betwe5 mann]s & morals1 :i* is too (t5 ov]look$4 ,! poli%$ g5tleman ( s5tim5tal fiction has s long s]v$ z ! type ( smoo? & consci5celess depravity t urbanity ( demeanor inspires di/ru/ 9 rud] m9ds4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ! blunt1 unpoli%$ h]o ( melodrama & romantic fiction has lift$ brusqu5ess & pu%fulness to a p$e/al n :olly m]it$4 ,consequ5tly1 ! k9%ip betwe5 conduct t keeps u )9 ! law & conduct t makes civiliz$ life wor?y to be call$ su*1 des]ves to be not$ ) emphasis4 ,! ,*9ese sage1 ,confucius1 c\ld n tol]ate ! sugge/ion t virtue is 9 itself en\gh )\t polit5ess1 = he view$ !m z insep>able & saw c\rtesies z com+ f ! he>t1 ma9ta9+ t :5 !y are practis$ ) all ! he>t1 a moral elevation ensues4 ,p :o ridicule etiquette z a mass ( trivial & arbitr>y conv5tions1 extremely tr\blesome to ^? :o practise !m & insupportable to ev]ybody else1 seem to =get ! long1 sl[ progress ( social int]c\rse 9 ! upw>d climb ( man f ! primeval /ate4 ,conv5tions 7 e/abli%$ f ! fir/ to regulate ! rights ( ! individual & ! tribe4 ,!y 7 & are ! rules ( ! game ( life & mu/ be foll[$ if we w\ld play ! game4 ,ages be=e man felt ! ne$ ( indige/ion rem$ies1 he ate 8 food solit>y & furtive 9 "s corn]1 hop+ he w\ld n be espi$ by any /rong] & hungri] fell[4 ,x 0 a long1 long "t be=e ! habit ( eat+ 9 common 0 acquir$2 & x is obvi\s t ! practise c\ld n h be5 tak5 up ) safety until ! individuals ( ! race knew en\gh ab\t "o ano!r & ab\t ! food res\rces to be sure t !re 0 food suffici5t = all4 ,:5 eat+ 9 common became ! vogue1 table mann]s made _! appe>ance & !y h be5 wag+ an uphill /ruggle ev] s9ce4 ,! cu/om ( rais+ ! hat :5 meet+ an acqua9tance d]ives f ! old rule t fri5dly knights 9 acco/+ ea* o!r %\ld raise ! visor = mutual recognition 9 amity4 ,9 ! knightly ye>s1 x mu/ be rememb]$1 x 0 important to "k :e!r "o 0 meet+ fri5d or foe4 ,meet+ a foe meant fight+ on ! spot4 ,?us1 x is evid5t t ! conv5tions ( c\rtesy n only t5d to make ! :eels ( life run m smoo?ly1 b also act z safegu>ds 9 human relation%ip4 ,imag9e ! ,p>is ,peace ,conf]5ce1 or any ( ! lat] conf]5ces 9 ,europe1 )\t ! protective armor ( diplomatic etiquette6 ,nev]!less1 to "s ! v ^w etiquette is an irritant4 ,x implies a great po!r ab\t trifles1 ^! consci5ti\s objectors assure u1 & trifles are unimportant4 ,trifles are unimportant1 x is true1 b !n life is made up ( trifles4 ,to ^? :o dislike ! ^w1 x sugge/s all t is f9ical & sup]flu\s4 ,x means a g>i% embroid]y on ! big s*eme ( life2 a clog on ! =w>d m>* ( a /rong & c\rage\s nation4 ,to su* z ^!1 ! words etiquette & polit5ess connote weakness & timidity4 ,_! notion ( a really polite man is a danc+ ma/] or a man mill9]4 ,!y 7 always will+ to admit t ! ,fr5* 7 ! polite/ nation 9 ,europe & equally ready to ass]t t ! ,fr5* 7 ! weake/ & lea/ valor\s1 until ! w> op5$ _! eyes 9 amazem5t4 ,yet1 t mann]s & fight+ c g h& 9 h& appe>s 9 ! foll[+ anecdote3 ,9 ! mid/ ( ! w>1 "s ,fr5* soldi]s & "s non-,fr5* ( ! ,alli$ =ces 7 receiv+ _! rations 9 a village back ( ! l9es4 ,! non-,fr5* fight]s belong$ to an ,army t suppli$ rations pl5tifully4 ,!y grabb$ _! allotm5ts & /ood ab\t :ile ha/ily eat+1 un9t]rupt$ by conv]sation or o!r conc]n4 ,! ,fr5* soldi]s took _! v meag] portions ( food1 improvis$ a k9d ( table on ! top ( a flat rock1 & hav+ laid out ! rations1 includ+ ! small quantity ( w9e t =m$ "p ( ! repa/1 sat d[n 9 com=t & began _! meal amid a *att] ( talk4 ,"o ( ! non-,fr5* soldi]s1 all ( :om _h f9i%$ _! l>ge supply ( food be=e ! ,fr5* _h begun eat+1 ask$ s>donically3 ,:y d y fell[s make su* a lot ( fuss ov] ! little bit ( grub !y give y to eat8 ,! ,fr5*man repli$3 ,well1 we are mak+ w> = civilization1 are we n8 ,v well1 we are4 ,!re=e1 we eat 9 a civiliz$ way4 ,to ! ,fr5* we owe ! ^w etiquette1 & x is amus+ to discov] its orig9 9 ! commonplace famili> w>n+--,keep (f ! grass4 ,x happ5$ 9 ! reign ( ,l\is ,,xiv1 :5 ! g>d5s ( ,v]sailles 7 be+ laid out1 t ! ma/] g>d5]1 an old ,scotsman1 0 sorely tri$ because 8 newly se$$ lawns 7 be+ cont9ually trampl$ ^u4 ,to keep trespass]s (f1 he put up w>n+ signs or tickets--etiquettes--on :i* 0 indicat$ ! pa? along :i* to pass4 ,b ! c\rti]s paid no att5tion to ^! directions & s ! det]m9$ ,scot compla9$ to ! ,k+ 9 su* conv9c+ mann] t ,8 ,maje/y issu$ an edict comm&+ ev]yone at ,c\rt to keep )9 ! etiquettes4 ,gradually ! t]m came to cov] all ! rules = correct demeanor & deportm5t 9 c\rt circles2 & ?us ?r\gh ! c5turies x has gr[n into use to describe ! conv5tions sanction$ = ! purpose ( smoo?+ p]sonal contacts & develop+ tact & good mann]s 9 social int]c\rse4 ,) ! decl9e ( feudal c\rts & ! rise ( empires ( indu/ry1 mu* ( ! c]emony ( life 0 disc>d$ = pla9 & less =mal deal+4 ,tr\s]s & coats supplant$ d\blets & hose1 & ! *ange 9 co/ume 0 n m extreme ?an ! *ange 9 social ideas4 ,! c\rt ceas$ to be ! arbit] ( mann]s1 ?\gh ! ari/ocracy ( ! l& rema9$ ! high exempl> ( good bre$+4 ,yet1 ev5 s c\rtly & mat]iali/ic a m9d z ,"l ,*e/]field's ackn[l$g$ a connection betwe5 mann]s & morality1 ( :i* latt] ! c\rts ( ,europe seem$ s sp>+4 ,9 "o ( ! fam\s ,lett]s to ,8 ,son he writes3 ,moral virtues are ! f\ndation ( society 9 g5]al1 & ( fri5d%ip 9 p>ticul>2 b att5tions1 mann]s1 & graces1 bo? adorn & /r5g!n !m4 ,aga9 he says3 ,great m]it1 or great fail+s1 w make y respect$ or despis$2 b trifles1 little att5tions1 m]e no?+s1 ei!r done or reflect$1 w make y ei!r lik$ or dislik$1 9 ! g5]al run ( ! _w4 ,= all ! wisdom & brilliancy ( 8 worldly k1 p]haps no o!r writ] has done s mu* to br+ disrepute on ! mann]s & graces z ,"l ,*e/]field1 & ?is1 x is *>g$1 because he debas$ !m s heavily by consid]+ !m m]ely z ! ma*9]y ( a successful c>e]4 ,to ! morali/s1 ! fact t ! moral /&>ds ( society 9 ,"l ,*e/]field's day 7 v diff]5t f ^? ( ! pres5t era r adds to ! odium t has become associat$ ) 8 attitude4 ,8 sev]e/ critics1 h[ev]1 d conc$e t he is c&id & outspok51 & _m admit t 8 social /rategy is widely practis$ ev5 9 ^! days4 ,b ! aims ( ! _w 9 :i* he mov$ 7 r\t$ by ! onru% ( ! ideals ( democratic equality1 frat]nity1 & lib]ty4 ,) ! prosp]ity ( ! new] %ibbole?s1 ! old-"t notion ( ari/ocracy1 g5tility1 & high bre$+ became m & m a curio to be fram$ suitably 9 gold & kept 9 ! glass case ( an art museum4 ,! cra%+ advance ( ! indu/rial age ( gold ?ru/ all c\rts & _! s9u\s graces aside = ! unmi/akable l$g] balance ( ! c\nt+-h\se4 ,?is new ord] ( ?+s _h be5 a long "t 9 process1 :51 9 ! fir/ ye> ( ?is c5tury1 a di/+ui%$ ,engli% social hi/orian1 ! late ,! ,"r ,honorable ,g4,w4,e4 ,russell1 wrote3 ,probably 9 all ages ( hi/ory m5 h lik$ money1 b a hundr$ ye>s ago !y did n talk ab\t x 9 society4444 ,bir?1 bre$+1 rank1 accompli%m5ts1 em95ce 9 lit]ature1 em95ce 9 art1 em95ce 9 public s]vice--all ^! ?+s /ill c\nt = some?+ 9 society4 ,b :5 comb9$ !y are only z ! du/ ( ! balance :5 weigh$ aga9/ ! all-preval5t p[] ( money4 ,! wor%ip ( ! ,gold5 ,calf is ! *>act]i/ic cult ( mod]n society4 ,9 ! ,elizabe?an ,age ( mighty glory1 ?ree hundr$ ye>s be=e ?is 0 said1 ,b5 ,jonson _h rail$ aga9/ money z a ?9 membrane ( honor1 groan+3 ,h[ ha? all true reputation fall5 s9ce money began to h any6 ,n[ ! v fact t ! debas+ effect ( money on ! social organism has be5 s con/antly repreh5d$1 f ,scriptural days onw>d1 proves ! in/9ctive ye>n+ ( mank9d = a sy/em ( life regulat$ by good ta/e1 high intellig5ce & s\nd affections4 ,b1 x rema9s true t1 9 ! succession ( great comm]cial epo*s1 co9cid5t ) ! progress ( mod]n sci5ce & inv5tion1 almo/ ev]y?+ c be b\ght & sold1 & s almo/ ev]y?+ is rat$ by ! /&>d ( money4 ,yet1 ?is /&>d is precisely n ! ultimate te/ ( ! ,*ri/ianity on :i* we h be5 plum+ ourselves ?r\gh ! c5turies4 ,/ill1 no "o c get along )\t money2 & few ( u get along v well ) :at we h4 ,at lea/ we ?9k s--because ev]ybody else seems to ?9k t way4 ,we ,am]icans are memb]s ( ! nation :i*1 mat]ially1 is ! ri*e/1 mo/ prosp]\s & mo/ promis+ 9 ! _w4 ,?is idea is d9n$ into our heads cont9ually by =eign obs]v]s1 & publicly we own ! s(t impea*m5t4 ,privately1 ea* individual ,am]ican seems driv5 ) ! decision t he mu/ live up to ! g5]al conception ( ! nation z a :ole4 ,& he does1 b 9 less /r5u\s mom5ts he might pr(itably pond] ! c\nsel ( ,glad/one to 8 c\ntrym53 ,let u respect ! anci5t mann]s & recollect t1 if ! true s\l ( *ivalry has di$ among u1 ) x all t is good 9 society has di$4 ,let u *]i% a sob] m9d2 take = grant$ t 9 our be/ p]=mances !re are lat5t _m errors :i* 9 _! own "t w come to light4 ,am]ica1 too1 has h] anci5t mann]s to rememb] & respect2 b1 9 ! rapid assimilation ( new peoples into h] economic & social organism1 m press+ conc]ns take up ne>ly all h] "t4 ,! p]fection ( mann]s by int5sive cultivation ( good ta/e1 "s believe1 w\ld be ! greate/ aid possible to ! morali/s :o are al>m$ ov] ! decad5ce ( ! y\ng] g5]ation4 ,good ta/e may n make m5 or wom5 really virtu\s1 b x w (t5 save !m f :at !ologians call occasions ( s94 ,we may note1 too1 t grossness 9 mann]s =ms a l>ge proportion ( ! (f5ses t fanatical re=m]s foam ab\t4 ,besides grossness1 !re is also ! mean] selfi%ness4 ,selfi%ness is at ! pol> remove f ! worldly mann]s ( ! old s*ool1 accord+ to :i*1 z ,dr4 ,pusey wrote1 o!rs 7 pref]r$ to self1 pa9 0 giv5 to no "o1 no "o 0 neglect$1 def]5ce 0 %[n to ! weak & ! ag$1 & unconsci\s c\rtesy ext5d$ to all inf]iors4 ,su* 0 ! beauty ( ! old mann]s1 :i* he felt consi/$ 9 act+ ^u ,*ri/ian pr9ciple1 & if 9 any case x became s\lless1 z ap>t f ,*ri/ianity1 ! beautiful =m 0 !re1 into :i* ! real life might re-ent]4 ,z a /udy ( all t is admirable 9 ,am]ican mann]s1 & z a guide to behavior 9 ! simple/ z well z ! mo/ complex requirem5ts ( life day by day1 :e!r we are at home or away f x1 !re c be no happi] *oice ?an ! pres5t volume4 ,x is conceiv$ 9 ! belief t etiquette 9 its broad] s5se means ! te*nique ( human conduct "u all circum/ances 9 life4 ,yet all m9uti ( correct mann]s are includ$ & no detail is too small to be expla9$1 f ! selection ( a visit+ c>d to ! my/]y ( eat+ corn on ! cob4 ,matt]s ( clo!s = m5 & wom5 are treat$ ) ! same fullness ( in=mation & accuracy ( ta/e z are que/ions ( ! furni%+ ( _! h\ses & ! tra9+ ( _! m9ds to social int]c\rse4 ,b !re is no exagg]ation ( ! m9or details at ! exp5se ( ! m important _s ( p]sonal conduct & attitude ( m9d4 ,to dwell on =mal trivialities1 ! au?or holds1 is l measur+ ! lett]s ( ! sign-bo>ds by ! roadside in/ead ( pr(it+ by ! directions !y (f]4 ,%e w\ld h u "k also t x is n ! p :o make small te*nical mi/akes or ev5 blund]s1 :o are b>r$ f ! pa?s ( good society1 b ^? ( %am & pret5se ^: v5e]$ vulg>ity at e /ep tramples ! fl[]s 9 ! g>d5s ( cultivation4 ,to h] m9d ! /ructure ( etiquette is comp>able to t ( a h\se1 ( :i* ! f\ndation is e?ics & ! re/ good ta/e1 correct spee*1 quiet1 unassum+ behavior1 & a prop] pride ( dignity4 ,to su* z ent]ta9 ! mi/ak5 notion t polit5ess implies all give & little or no return1 x is well to recall ,col]idge's def9ition ( a g5tleman3 ,we feel ! g5tlemanly "* pres5t ) u1 he said1 :5ev]1 "u all circum/ances ( social int]c\rse1 ! trivial1 n less ?an ! important1 ?r\gh ! :ole detail ( 8 mann]s & deportm5t1 & ) ! ease ( a habit1 a p]son %[s respect to o!rs 9 su* a way z at ! same "t implies1 9 8 own feel+s1 & habitually1 an assur$ anticipation ( reciprocal respect f !m to himself4 ,9 %ort1 ! g5tlemanly "* arises out ( ! feel+ ( equality act+ z a habit1 yet flexible to ! v>ieties ( rank1 & modifi$ )\t be+ di/urb$ or sup]s$$ by !m4 ,def9itions ( a g5tleman are num]\s1 & "s ( !m fam\s2 b we d n f9d su* copi\sness = *oice 9 def9itions ( a lady4 ,p]haps x has be5 und]/ood all along t ! admirable & j *>act]i/ics ( a g5tleman %\ld ( necessity be ^? also ( a lady1 ) ! *>m ( womanhood comb9$4 ,&1 9 ^! days1 ) ! add$ responsibility ( ! vote4 ,besides ! significance ( ?is volume z an indubitable au?ority on mann]s1 x %\ld be po9t$ out t z a social docum5t1 x is )\t prec$5t 9 ,am]ican lit]ature4 ,9 ord] t we may bett] realize ! behavior & environm5t ( well-br$ p1 ! di/+ui%$ au?or has introduc$ actual p]sons & places 9 fictional guise4 ,!y are ! p]sons & ! places ( h] own _w2 & :e!r we c or c n p5etrate ! incognito ( ! ,worldlys1 ! ,gild+s1 ! ,k9dh>ts1 ! ,oldnames1 & ! o!rs1 is ( no importance4 ,fictionally1 !y are real en\gh = u to be int]e/$ & in/ruct$ 9 _! way ( liv+4 ,t !y happ5 to move 9 :at is kn[n z ,society is incid5tal1 =1 z ! au?or decl>es at ! v outset3 ,be/ ,society is n a fell[%ip ( ! weal?y1 nor does x seek to exclude ^? :o are n ( exalt$ bir?2 b x is an association ( g5tlefolk1 ( :i* good =m 9 spee*1 *>m ( mann]1 k ( ! social am5ities1 & in/9ctive consid]ation = ! feel+s ( o!rs1 are ! cr$5tials by :i* society ! _w ov] recognizes its *os5 memb]s4 ,! imm$iate fact is t ! *>act]s ( ?is book are ?or\ghbr$ ,am]icans1 repres5tative ( v>i\s sections ( ! c\ntry & free f ! slighte/ t+e ( snobb]y4 ,n all ( !m are ev5 well-to-d1 9 ! po/w> s5se2 & _! devices ( economy 9 h\sehold outlay1 dress & ent]ta9m5t are a revelation 9 ! sci5ce ( ways & means4 ,!re are p>5ts1 *ildr51 relatives & fri5ds all pass+ be=e u 9 ! pageant ( life f ! cradle to ! grave4 ,no circum/ance1 f an introduction to a w$d+1 is ov]look$ 9 ?is panorama & ! spectator has beside him a cic]one 9 ! p]son ( ! au?or :o cle>s e d\bt & answ]s e "q4 ,9 c\rse1 ! conviction gr[s ^u him t etiquette is no flumm]y ( poseurs ap+ ! mann]s ( _! bett]s1 nor a code ( snobs1 :o divide _! "t betwe5 lick+ ! boots ( ^? above !m & kick+ at ^? bel[1 b a sy/em ( rules ( conduct bas$ on respect ( self c\pl$ ) respect ( o!rs4 ,mean:ile1 to gu>d aga9/ conceit 9 8 new k1 he may at odd mom5ts recall ,b5 ,jonson's l9es3 ,nor /& s mu* on y\r g5tility1 ,:i* is an airy1 & m]e borr[$ ?+1 ,f dead m5's du/1 & bones3 ,& none ( y\rs ,except y make1 or hold x4 ,,etiquette ,,*apt] ,i ,,:at ,,is ,,be/ ,,society8 ,society is an ambigu\s t]m2 x may mean mu* or no?+4 ,e human be+--unless dwell+ alone 9 a cave--is a memb] ( society ( "o sort or ano!r1 & !re=e x is well to def9e :at is to be und]/ood by ! t]m ,be/ ,society & :y its au?ority is recogniz$4 ,be/ ,society abroad is always ! olde/ ari/ocracy2 compos$ n s mu* ( p]sons ( title1 :i* may be new1 z ( ^? families & communities :i* h = ! longe/ p]iod ( "t kn[n highe/ cultivation4 ,our own ,be/ ,society is repres5t$ by social gr\ps :i* h _h1 s9ce ?is is ,am]ica1 wide/ r ?an longe/ association ) old _w cultivation4 ,cultivation is always ! basic attribute ( ,be/ ,society1 mu* z we he> 9 ?is c\ntry ( an ,ari/ocracy ( weal?4 ,to ! g5]al public a long purse is synonym\s ) high position--a !ory de> to ! he>t ( ! yell[ press & eag]ly fo/]$ 9 ! prepo/]\s social functions ( scre5 drama4 ,x is true t ,be/ ,society is comp>atively ri*2 x is true t ! ho/ess ( great weal?1 :o con/antly & lavi%ly ent]ta9s1 w %9e1 at lea/ to ! read]s ( ! press1 m brilliantly ?an h] less afflu5t si/]4 ,yet ! latt]1 ?r\gh h] quality ( bir?1 h] poise1 h] inimitable di/9ction1 is (t5 ! jewel ( deep] wat] 9 ! social cr[n ( h] "t4 ,! mo/ adv]tis$ commodity is n always intr9sically ! be/1 b is sometimes m]ely ! product ( a company ) pl5ty ( money to sp5d on adv]tis+4 ,9 ! same way1 money br+s c]ta9 p be=e ! public--sometimes !y are p]sons ( quality1 q z (t5 ! s-call$ society lead]s featur$ 9 ! public press d n belong to good society at all1 9 spite ( _! _m publi%$ photographs & ! en]gies ( _! press-ag5ts4 ,or possibly !y d belong to sm>t society2 b if too mu* adv]tis$1 in/ead ( be+ ! que5s !y seem1 !y might m accurately be classifi$ z ! c\rt je/]s ( to-day4 ,,! ,,imitation ,,& ,,! ,,g5u9e ,new ,york1 m ?an any city 9 ! _w1 unless x be ,p>is1 loves to be amus$1 ?rill$ & surpris$ all at ! same "t2 & w accept ) out/ret*$ h& any "o :o c p]=m ?is a/\nd+ feat4 ,d n und]e/imate ! ability t c a*ieve x3 a sc9tillat+ wit1 an arre/+ orig9ality1 a tal5t = ent]ta9+ t am\nts to g5ius1 & gold p\r$ lit]ally l ra91 are ! lea/ requirem5ts4 ,puritan ,am]ica on ! o!r h& dem&+1 z a ticket ( admission to h] ,be/ ,society1 ! qualifications ( bir?1 mann]s & cultivation1 clasps h] h&s tight across h] slim trim wai/ & ann\nces sev]ely t ,new ,york's ,be/ is1 9 h] op9ion1 v bad inde$4 ,b ?is is because ,puritan ,am]ica1 z well z ! g5]al public1 mi/akes ! je/] = ! que54 ,z a matt] ( fact1 ,be/ ,society is n at all l a c\rt ) an especial que5 or k+1 nor is x conf9$ to any "o place or gr\p1 b might bett] be describ$ z an unlimit$ bro!rhood :i* spreads ov] ! entire surface ( ! globe1 ! memb]s ( :i* are inv>iably p ( cultivation & worldly k1 :o h n only p]fect mann]s b a p]fect mann]4 ,mann]s are made up ( trivialities ( deportm5t :i* c be easily le>n$ if "o does n happ5 to "k !m2 mann] is p]sonality--! outw>d manife/ation ( "o's innate "* & attitude t[>d life4 ,a g5tleman1 = in/ance1 w nev] be o/5tati\s or ov]be>+ any m ?an he w ev] be s]vile1 because ^! attributes nev] animate ! impulses ( a well-br$ p]son4 ,a man ^: mann]s sugge/ ! grotesque is inv>iably a p]son ( imitation r ?an ( real position4 ,etiquette mu/1 if x is to be ( m ?an trifl+ use1 include e?ics z well z mann]s4 ,c]ta9ly :at "o is1 is ( f> great] importance ?an :at "o appe>s to be4 ,a k ( etiquette is ( c\rse ess5tial to "o's dec5t behavior1 j z clo?+ is ess5tial to "o's dec5t appe>ance2 & precisely z "o we>s ! latt] )\t be+ self-consci\s ( hav+ on %oes & p]haps gloves1 "o :o has good mann]s is equally unself-consci\s 9 ! obs]vance ( etiquette1 ! precepts ( :i* mu/ be s ?or\ghly absorb$ z to make _! obs]vance a matt] ( in/9ct r ?an ( consci\s ob$i5ce4 ,?us ,be/ ,society is n a fell[%ip ( ! weal?y1 nor does x seek to exclude ^? :o are n ( exalt$ bir?2 b x is an association ( g5tle-folk1 ( :i* good =m 9 spee*1 *>m ( mann]1 k ( ! social am5ities1 & in/9ctive consid]ation = ! feel+s ( o!rs1 are ! cr$5tials by :i* society ! _w ov] recognizes its *os5 memb]s4 ,,*apt] ,,ii ,,introductions ,,! ,,correct ,,=m ,! ^w pres5t is pref]able on =mal occasions to ! ^w introduce4 ,on in=mal occasions nei!r ^w is express$1 ?\gh und]/ood1 z w be %[n bel[4 ,! correct =mal introduction is3 ,mrs4 ,jones1 may ,i pres5t ,mr4 ,smi?8 or1 ,mr4 ,di/+ui%$1 may ,i pres5t ,mr4 ,"y8 ,! y\ng] p]son is always pres5t$ to ! old] or m di/+ui%$1 b a g5tleman is always pres5t$ to a lady1 ev5 ?\gh he is an old g5tleman ( great di/9ction & ! lady a m]e slip ( a girl4 ,no lady is ev]1 except to ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 a c>d9al1 or a reign+ sov]eign1 pres5t$ to a man4 ,! correct introduction ( ei!r a man or woman3 ,to ! ,presid5t1 is1 ,mr4 ,presid5t1 ,i h ! honor to pres5t ,mrs4 ,jones1 ( ,*icago4 ,to a ,c>d9al1 is1 ,y\r ,em95ce1 may ,i pres5t ,mrs4 ,jones8 ,to a ,k+3 ,mu* =mality ( pres5t+ names on li/s is gone ?r\gh be=eh&2 at ! actual pres5tation an accept$ "n is repeat$ f function>y to equ]ry & no?+ is said to ! ,k+ or ,que5 except3 ,mrs4 ,jones4 ,b a ,=eign ,ambassador is pres5t$1 ,mr4 ,ambassador1 may ,i pres5t y to ,mrs4 ,jones4 ,v few p 9 polite society are introduc$ by _! =mal titles4 ,a ho/ess says1 ,mrs4 ,jones1 may ,i pres5t ! ,duke ( ,ov]!re8 or ,"l ,blank82 nev] 8 ,grace or 8 ,lord%ip4 ,! ,honorable is m]ely ,mr4 ,lordson1 or ,mr4 ,hold(fice4 ,a doctor1 a judge1 a bi%op1 are address$ & introduc$ by _! titles4 ,! cl]gy are usually ,mi/] unless !y =mally hold ! title ( ,doctor1 or ,dean1 or ,canon4 ,a ,ca?olic prie/ is ,fa!r ,kelly4 ,a s5ator is always introduc$ z ,s5ator1 :e!r he is /ill 9 (fice or n4 ,b ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 once he is out ( (fice1 is m]ely ,mr4 & n ,ex-presid5t4 ,,! ,,prevail+ ,,introduction ,,& ,,inflection ,9 ! brief] =m ( introduction commonly us$1 ,mrs4 ,worldly1 ,mrs4 ,norman1 if ! two names are said 9 ! same tone ( voice x is n app>5t :o is introduc$ to :om2 b by acc5tuat+ ! m important p]son's "n1 x c be made z cle> z ?\gh ! words ,may ,i pres5t _h be5 us$4 ,! m important "n is said ) a slightly ris+ inflection1 ! second>y z a m]e /atem5t ( fact4 ,= in/ance1 suppose y say1 ,are y !re8 & !n ,x is ra9+6 ,use ! same inflection exactly & say1 ,mrs4 ,worldly8--,mrs4 ,y\ng]6 ,are y !re8--,x is ra9+6 ,mrs4 ,worldly8--,mrs4 ,y\ng]6 ,! unm>ri$ lady is pres5t$ to ! m>ri$ "o1 unless ! latt] is v mu* ! y\ng]4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 9 introduc+ two ladies to ea* o!r or "o g5tleman to ano!r1 no di/9ction is made4 ,mrs4 ,smi?2 ,mrs4 ,norman4 ,mr4 ,br[n2 ,mr4 ,gre54 ,! inflection is3 ,i ?9k--x's go+ to ra96 ,mrs4 ,smi?--,mrs4 ,norman6 ,a man is also (t5 introduc$1 ,mrs4 ,worldly8 ,mr4 ,norman6 ,b to a v di/+ui%$ man1 a "m w\ld say3 ,mr4 ,edison--,my daught]1 ,m>y6 ,to a "y man1 h[ev]1 %e %\ld say1 ,mr4 ,/ru!rs1 h y met my daught]8 ,if ! daught] is m>ri$1 %e %\ld h add$1 ,my daught]1 ,mrs4 ,sm>tl+ton4 ,! daught]'s "n is omitt$ because x is extremely bad ta/e 7except 9 ! ,s\?7 to call h] daught] ,miss ,m>y to any "o b a s]vant1 & on ! o!r h& %e %\ld n pres5t a "y man to ,m>y4 ,! "y man c easily f9d out h] "n aft]w>d4 ,,o!r ,,=ms ,,( ,,introduction ,o!r p]missible =ms ( introduction are3 ,mrs4 ,jones1 d y "k ,mrs4 ,norman8 or1 ,mrs4 ,jones1 y "k ,mrs4 ,rob9son1 don't y8 7on no acc\nt say ,d y n8 ,be/ ,society always says don't y87 or1 ,mrs4 ,rob9son1 h y met ,mrs4 ,jones8 or1 ,mrs4 ,jones1 d y "k my "m8 or1 ,?is is my daught] ,ell51 ,mrs4 ,jones4 ,^! are all good =m1 :e!r g5tlem5 are introduc$ to ladies1 ladies to ladies1 or g5tlem5 to g5tlem54 ,9 introduc+ a g5tleman to a lady1 y may ask ,mr4 ,smi? if he has met ,mrs4 ,jones1 b y mu/ n ask ,mrs4 ,jones if %e has met ,mr4 ,smi?6 ,,=ms ,,( ,,introductions ,,to ,,avoid ,d n say3 ,mr4 ,jones1 %ake h&s ) ,mr4 ,smi?1 or ,mrs4 ,jones1 ,i want to make y acqua9t$ ) ,mrs4 ,smi?4 ,nev] say3 make y acqua9t$ ) & d n1 9 introduc+ "o p]son to ano!r1 call "o ( !m my fri5d4 ,y c say my aunt1 or my si/]1 or my c\s9--b to pick out a p>ticul> p]son z my fri5d is n only bad /yle b1 unless y h only "o fri5d1 bad mann]s--z x implies ,mrs4 ,smi? is my fri5d & y are a /rang]4 ,y may v prop]ly say to ,mr4 ,smi? ,i want y to meet ,mrs4 ,jones1 b ?is is n a =m ( introduction1 nor is x to be said 9 ,mrs4 ,jones' he>+4 ,^u lead+ ,mr4 ,smi? up to ,mrs4 ,jones1 y say ,mrs4 ,jones may ,i pres5t ,mr4 ,smi? or ,mrs4 ,jones2 ,mr4 ,smi?4 ,"u no circum/ances :atsoev] say ,mr4 ,smi? meet ,mrs4 ,jones1 or ,mrs4 ,jones meet ,mr4 ,smi?4 ,ei!r word+ is equally prepo/]\s4 ,d n repeat ,mrs4 ,jones8 ,mrs4 ,smi?6 ,mrs4 ,smi?8 ,mrs4 ,jones6 ,to say ea* "n once is q en\gh4 ,mo/ p ( good ta/e v mu* dislike be+ ask$ _! names4 ,to say ,:at is y\r "n8 is always abrupt & unflatt]+4 ,if y want to "k ) :om y h be5 talk+1 y c g5]ally f9d a ?ird p]son lat] & ask ,:o 0 ! lady ) ! grey fea!r 9 h] hat8 ,! next "t y see h] y c say ,h[ d y d1 ,mrs4 ---- 7call+ h] by "n74 ,,:5 ,,to ,,%ake ,,h&s ,:5 g5tlem5 are introduc$ to ea* o!r !y always %ake h&s4 ,:5 a g5tleman is introduc$ to a lady1 %e sometimes puts out h] h&--especially if he is "s "o %e has long he>d ab\t f fri5ds 9 common1 b to an entire /rang] %e g5]ally m]ely b[s h] head slightly & says3 ,h[ d y d6 ,/rictly speak+1 x is always h] place to (f] h] h& or n z %e *ooses1 b if he puts out 8 h&1 x is rude on h] "p to ignore x4 ,no?+ c\ld be m ill-br$ ?an to treat curtly any ov]ture made 9 spontane\s fri5dl9ess4 ,no ?or\ghbr$ lady w\ld ev] refuse to %ake any h& t is honorable1 n ev5 ! h& ( a coal heav] at ! risk ( h] fre% :ite glove4 ,^? :o h be5 drawn into a conv]sation d n usually %ake h&s on p>t+4 ,b !re is no fix$ rule4 ,a lady sometimes %akes h&s aft] talk+ ) a casual /rang]2 at o!r times %e does n (f] h] h& on p>t+ f "o :o has be5 punctili\sly pres5t$ to h]4 ,%e may f9d ! =m] sympa!tic & ! latt] v mu* ! contr>y4 ,v few rules ( etiquette are inela/ic & none m s ?an ! acceptance or rejection ( ! /rang]s y meet4 ,!re is a wide di/ance betwe5 rud5ess & res]ve4 ,y c be c\rte\sly polite & at ! same "t extremely alo( to a /rang] :o does n appeal to y1 or y c be welcom+ly fri5dly to ano!r :om y l on sight4 ,individual temp]am5t has also to be tak5 into consid]ation3 "o p]son is naturally au/]e1 ano!r g5ial4 ,! latt] %akes h&s f> m (t5 ?an ! =m]4 ,z already said1 x is un=givably rude to refuse a pr(f]$ h&1 b x is r>ely necess>y to (f] y\r h& if y pref] n to4 ,,:at ,,to ,,say ,,:5 ,,introduc$ ,be/ ,society has only "o phrase 9 ackn[l$gm5t ( an introduction3 ,h[ d y d8 ,x lit]ally accepts no o!r4 ,:5 ,mr4 ,ba*elor says1 ,mrs4 ,worldly1 may ,i pres5t ,mr4 ,/ru!rs8 ,mrs4 ,worldly says1 ,h[ d y d8 ,/ru!rs b[s1 & says no?+4 ,to sweetly e*o ,mr4 ,/ru!rs8 ) a ris+ inflection on --!rs8 is n good =m4 ,sac*>9e *irp+s %\ld be class$ ) crook$ little f+]s1 high h&-%ak+ & o!r affectations4 ,all affectations are bad =m4 ,p]sons ( position d n say3 ,*>m$1 or ,pleas$ to meet y1 etc41 b (t5 ! fir/ rem>k is ! beg9n+ ( a conv]sation4 ,= in/ance1 ,"y ,/ru!rs is pres5t$ to ,mrs4 ,worldly4 ,%e smiles & p]haps says1 ,i he> t y are go+ to be 9 ,new ,york all w9t]8 ,/ru!rs answ]s1 ,yes1 ,i am at ! ,columbia ,law ,s*ool1 etc41 or s9ce he is mu* y\ng] ?an %e1 he might answ]1 ,yes1 ,mrs4 ,worldly1 especially if 8 answ] w\ld o!rwise be a curt yes or no4 ,o!rwise he does n cont9ue repeat+ h] "n4 ,,tak+ ,,leave ,,( ,,"o ,,y ,,h ,,j ,,met ,aft] an introduction1 :5 y h talk$ = "s "t to a /rang] :om y h f\nd agreeable1 & y !n take leave1 y say1 ,good-by1 ,i am v glad to h met y1 or ,good-by1 ,i hope ,i %all see y aga9 soon--or "s "t4 ,! o!r p]son answ]s1 ,?ank y1 or p]haps adds1 ,i hope s1 too4 ,usually ,?ank y is all t is necess>y4 ,9 tak+ leave ( a gr\p ( /rang]s--x makes no diff]5ce :e!r y h be5 introduc$ to !m or m]ely includ$ 9 _! conv]sation--y b[ good-by to any :o happ5 to be look+ at y1 b y d n attempt to attract ! att5tion ( ^? :o are unaw>e t y are turn+ away4 ,,introduc+ ,,"o ,,p]son ,,to ,a ,,gr\p ,?is is nev] done on =mal occasions :5 a great _m p]sons are pres5t4 ,at a small lun*eon1 = in/ance1 a ho/ess always introduces h] gue/s to "o ano!r4 ,let u suppose y are ! ho/ess3 y\r position is n necess>ily ne>1 b x is t[>d ! door4 ,mrs4 ,k+ is sitt+ q close to y1 ,mrs4 ,lawr5ce also ne>4 ,miss ,rob9son & ,miss ,br[n are mu* f>!r away4 ,mrs4 ,jones ent]s4 ,y g a few /eps =w>d & %ake h&s ) h]1 !n /& aside z x 71 = a second only1 to see if ,mrs4 ,jones goes to speak to any "o4 ,if %e app>5tly kn[s no "o1 y say1 ,mrs4 ,k+1 d y "k ,mrs4 ,jones8 ,mrs4 ,k+ be+ close at h& 7usually b n necess>ily7 rises1 %akes h&s ) ,mrs4 ,jones & sits d[n aga94 ,if ,mrs4 ,k+ is an eld]ly lady1 & ,mrs4 ,jones a "y "o1 ,mrs4 ,k+ m]ely ext5ds h] h& & does n rise4 ,hav+ said ,mrs4 ,jones once1 y d n repeat x imm$iately1 b turn+ to ! o!r lady sitt+ ne> y1 y say1 ,mrs4 ,lawr5ce1 !n y look across ! room & cont9ue1 ,miss ,rob9son1 ,miss ,br[n--,mrs4 ,jones6 ,mrs4 ,lawr5ce1 if %e is "y1 rises & %akes h&s ) ,mrs4 ,jones1 & ! o!r two b[ b d n rise4 ,at a v big lun*eon y w\ld introduce ,mrs4 ,jones to ,mrs4 ,k+ & possibly to ,mrs4 ,lawr5ce1 s t ,mrs4 ,jones might h "s "o to talk to4 ,b if o!r gue/s come 9 at ?is mom5t1 ,mrs4 ,jones f9ds a place = h]self & aft] a pause1 falls naturally into conv]sation ) ^? %e is next to1 )\t giv+ h] "n or ask+ !irs4 ,a fri5d's ro( is suppos$ to be an introduction to ^? x %elt]s4 ,9 ,be/ ,society ?is is always recogniz$ if ! ga!r+ is intimate1 su* z at a lun*eon1 d9n] or h\se p>ty2 b x is n accept$ at a ball or reception1 or any g5]al ent]ta9m5t4 ,p always talk to _! neighbors at table :e!r introduc$ or n4 ,x w\ld be a brea* ( etiquette n to6 ,b if ,mrs4 ,jones & ,mrs4 ,norman m]ely spoke to ea* o!r = a few mom5ts1 9 ! draw+-room1 x is n necess>y t !y recognize ea* o!r aft]w>ds4 ,,new ,,york',s ,,bad ,,mann]s ,new ,york's bad mann]s are (t5 condemn$ & (t5 v des]v$ly4 ,ev5 ?\gh ! cause is c>elessness r ?an int5tional indiff]5ce1 ! indiff]5ce is no less actual & ! rud5ess inexcusable4 ,x is by no means unhe>d ( t aft] sitt+ at table next to ! gue/ ( honor1 a ,new ,york] w meet h] ! next day ) utt] unrecognition4 ,n because ! ,new ,york] means to cut ! /rang] or feels ! slighte/ unwill+ness to cont9ue ! acqua9tance1 b because few ,new ,york]s possess en?usiasm en\gh to make an ef=t to rememb] all ! new faces !y come 9 contact )1 b all[ all ^? :o are n especially fix$ 9 _! att5tion1 to drift easily out ( m9d & recognition4 ,x is mortify+ly true2 no "o is s ignorantly indiff]5t to ev]y?+ outside 8 or h] own p]sonal conc]n z ! socially fa%ionable ,new ,york]1 unless x is ! ,london]6 ,! late ,!odore ,roosevelt 0 a brilliantly %9+ exception4 ,&1 ( c\rse1 & happily1 !re are o!r m5 & wom5 l him 9 ?is4 ,b !re are also en\gh ( ! snail-9-%ell v>iety to give color to ! v j res5tm5t t ^? f o!r & m graci\s cities hold aga9/ ,new ,york]s4 ,ev]y:]e else 9 ! _w 7except ,london71 ! impulse ( self-cultivation1 if n ! m g5]\s ones ( consid]ation & hospitality1 induces p ( good bre$+ to try & make ! ef=t to f9d out :at mann] ( m9d1 or exp]i5ce1 or tal5t1 a /rang] has2 & to rememb]1 at lea/ out ( c\rtesy1 anyone = ^: b5efit a fri5d ( !irs gave a d9n] or lun*eon4 ,to fa%ionable ,new ,york1 h[ev]1 lun*eon 0 at "o-?irty2 at ?ree !re is some?+ else occupy+ ! mom5t--t is all4 ,ne>ly all p ( ! ,atlantic ,coa/ dislike g5]al introductions1 & pres5t p to ea* o!r z little z possible4 ,9 ! ,we/1 h[ev]1 p d n feel com=table 9 a room full ( /rang]s4 ,:e!r or n to introduce p !re=e becomes n m]ely a "q ( propriety1 b ( consid]ation = local cu/om4 ,,nev] ,,introduce ,,unnecess>ily ,! "q z to :5 introductions %\ld be made1 or n made1 is "o ( ! mo/ elusive po9ts 9 ! entire range ( social k4 ,:5ev] necess>y to bridge an awkw>d situation1 is a def9ition t is exact en\gh1 b n v helpful or cle>4 ,! ho/ess :o all[s a gue/ to /&1 awkw>d & unkn[n1 9 ! middle ( h] draw+-room is no worse ?an %e :o p\nces on e *ance acqua9tance & drags unwill+ victims into =c$ recognition ( ea* o!r1 ev]y:]e & on all occasions4 ,! fundam5tal rule nev] to introduce unnecess>ily br+s up ! "q3 ,,:i* ,,are ,,! ,,necess>y ,,occasions8 ,fir/1 9 ord] ( importance1 is ! pres5tation ( ev]yone to gue/s ( honor1 :e!r ! gue/s are di/+ui%$ /rang]s = :om a d9n] is giv51 or a bride & groom1 or a dbutante be+ introduc$ to society4 ,x is ! height ( rud5ess = anyone to g to an ent]ta9m5t giv5 9 honor ( "s "o & fail to meet him4 7,ev5 ?\gh "o's memory is too feeble to rememb] him aft]w>d67 ,,introductions ,,at ,a ,,d9n] ,! ho/ mu/ always see t e g5tleman ei!r kn[s or is pres5t$ to ! lady he is to take 9 to d9n]1 & also1 if possible1 to ! "o :o is to sit at ! o!r side ( him4 ,if ! latt] introduction is ov]look$1 p sitt+ next ea* o!r at table ne>ly always introduce !mselves4 ,a g5tleman says1 ,h[ d y d1 ,mrs4 ,jones4 ,i am ,ar?ur ,rob9son4 ,or %[+ h] 8 place c>d1 ,i h to introduce myself1 ?is is my "n4 ,or ! lady says fir/1 ,i am ,mrs4 ,hunt] ,jones4 ,& ! man answ]s1 ,h[ d y d1 ,mrs4 ,jones1 my "n is ,ti!r+ton ,smi?4 ,x is n unusual1 9 ,new ,york1 = ^? plac$ next ea* o!r to talk )\t introduc+ !mselves--p>ticul>ly if ea* c read ! "n ( ! o!r on ! place c>ds4 ,,o!r ,,necess>y ,,introductions ,ev5 9 ,new ,york's mo/ introductionless circles1 p always introduce3 ,a small gr\p ( p :o are to sit toge!r any:]e4 ,p>tn]s at d9n]4 ,! gue/s at a h\se p>ty4 ,ev]yone at a small d9n] or lun*eon4 ,! f\r :o are at ! same bridge table4 ,p>tn]s or fell[-play]s 9 any game4 ,at a dance1 :5 an invitation has be5 ask$ = a /rang]1 ! fri5d :o v\*$ = him %\ld p]sonally pres5t him to ! ho/ess4 ,mrs4 ,worldly1 ?is is ,mr4 ,rob9son1 :om y said ,i might br+4 ,! ho/ess %akes h&s & smiles & says3 ,i am v glad to see y1 ,mr4 ,rob9son4 ,a gue/ 9 a box at ! op]a always introduces any g5tleman :o comes to speak to h]1 to h] ho/ess1 unless ! latt] is engross$ 9 conv]sation ) a visitor ( h] own1 or unless o!r p block ! di/ance betwe5 s t an introduction w\ld be =c$ & awkw>d4 ,a newly arriv+ visitor 9 a lady's draw+-room is n introduc$ to ano!r :o is tak+ leave4 ,nor is an animat$ conv]sation betwe5 two p]sons int]rupt$ to introduce a ?ird4 ,nor is any "o ev] l$ ar\nd a room & introduc$ "r & left4 ,if two ladies or "y girls are walk+ toge!r & !y meet a ?ird :o /ops to speak to "o ( !m1 ! o!r walks sl[ly on & does n /& awkw>dly by & wait = an introduction4 ,if ! ?ird is ask$ by ! "o %e kn[s1 to jo9 !m1 ! saunt]+ fri5d is ov]tak5 & an introduction always made4 ,! ?ird1 h[ev]1 mu/ n jo9 !m unless invit$ to d s4 ,at a v l>ge d9n]1 p 7except+ ! g5tlem5 & ladies :o are to sit next to ea* o!r at table7 are n collectively introduc$4 ,aft] d9n]1 m5 9 ! smok+ room or left at table always talk to _! neighbors :e!r !y h be5 introduc$ or n1 & ladies 9 ! draw+-room d ! same4 ,b unless !y meet soon aga91 or h f\nd ea* o!r s agreeable t !y make an ef=t to cont9ue ! acqua9tance1 !y become /rang]s aga91 equally :e!r !y 7 introduc$ or n4 ,"s writ]s on etiquette speak ( correct introductions t c>ry obligations ( future acqua9tance1 & incorrect introductions1 t seem+ly obligate "o to no?+4 ,degrees ( introduction are utt]ly unkn[n to be/ society4 ,x makes n ! slighte/ diff]5ce s f> z any "o's acceptance or rejection ( ano!r is conc]n$ h[ an introduction is word$ or1 on occasions1 :e!r an introduction takes place at all4 ,fa%ionable p 9 v l>ge cities take introductions lightly2 !y are v]itable %ips t pass 9 ! night4 ,!y %[ _! r$ or gre5 signals--:i* are m]ely polite s5t5ces & pleasant mann]s--& !y pass on aga94 ,:5 y are introduc$ to "s "o = ! second "t & ! fir/ occasion 0 )\t int]e/ & long ago1 !re is no reason :y y %\ld speak ( ! =m] meet+4 ,if "s "o pres5ts y to ,mrs4 ,smi? = ! second "t on ! same occasion1 y smile & say ,i h already met ,mrs4 ,smi?1 b y say no?+ if y met ,mrs4 ,smi? long ago & %e %[$ no int]e/ 9 y at t "t4 ,mo/ rules are ela/ic & contract & exp& accord+ to circum/ances4 ,y d n rem9d ,mrs4 ,smi? ( hav+ met h] be=e1 b on meet+ aga9 any "o :o 0 br\ght to y\r own h\se1 or "o :o %[$ y an especial c\rtesy y in/9ctively say1 ,i am s glad to see y aga94 ,,includ+ ,,someone ,,9 ,,conv]sation ,,)\t ,,an ,,introduction ,on occasions x happ5s t 9 talk+ to "o p]son y want to include ano!r 9 y\r conv]sation )\t mak+ an introduction4 ,= in/ance3 suppose y are talk+ to a se$sman & a fri5d jo9s y 9 y\r g>d54 ,y greet y\r fri5d1 & !n include h] by say+1 ,mr4 ,smi? is sugge/+ t ,i dig up ^! cannas & put 9 delph9iums4 ,:e!r y\r fri5d gives an op9ion z to ! *ange 9 color ( y\r fl[] b$ or n1 %e has be5 made "p ( y\r conv]sation4 ,?is same maneuv] ( evad+ an introduction is also resort$ to :5 y are n sure t an acqua9tance w be agreeable to "o or bo? ( ^? :om an accid5tal circum/ance has br\ght toge!r4 ,,introductions ,,unnecess>y ,y mu/ nev] introduce p to ea* o!r 9 public places unless y are c]ta9 beyond a d\bt t ! introduction w be agreeable to bo?4 ,y _c commit a great] social blund] ?an to introduce1 to a p]son ( position1 "s "o %e does n c>e to "k1 especially on %ipbo>d1 9 hotels1 or 9 o!r v small1 r public1 communities :]e p are s closely ?r[n toge!r t x is correspond+ly difficult to avoid undesirable acqua9tances :o h be5 giv5 ! w$ge ( an introduction4 ,z said above1 introductions 9 v l>ge cities are unimportant4 ,9 ,new ,york1 :]e p are meet+ new faces daily1 seldom see+ ! same "o twice 9 a ye>1 x requires a t5aci\s memory to recognize ^? "o hop$ mo/ to see aga91 & o!rs are blott$ out at once4 ,p 9 good society r>ely ask to be introduc$ to ea* o!r1 b if !re is a good reason = kn[+ "s "o1 !y (t5 introduce !mselves2 = in/ance1 ,m>y ,smi? says3 ,mrs4 ,jones1 ar5't y a fri5d ( my "m's8 ,i am ,mrs4 ,ti!r+ton ,smi?'s daught]4 ,mrs4 ,jones says3 ,:y1 my de> *ild1 ,i am s glad y spoke to me4 ,y\r "m & ,i h kn[n ea* o!r s9ce we 7 *ildr56 ,or1 an eld] lady asks3 ,ar5't y ,m>y ,smi?8 ,i h kn[n y\r "m s9ce %e 0 y\r age4 ,or a "y woman says3 ,ar5't y ,mrs4 ,worldly8 ,mrs4 ,worldly1 look+ r freez+ly1 politely says ,yes & waits4 ,& ! /rang] cont9ues1 ,i ?9k my si/] ,millic5t ,mann]s is a fri5d ( y\rs4 ,mrs4 ,worldly at once unb5ds4 ,oh1 yes1 inde$1 ,i am devot$ to ,millic5t6 ,& y mu/ be ----8 ,i'm ,alice4 ,oh1 ( c\rse1 ,millic5t has (t5 talk$ ( y1 & ( y\r lovely voice4 ,i want v mu* to he> y s+ "s "t4 ,^! self-introductions1 h[ev]1 mu/ nev] presum+ly be made4 ,x w\ld be 9 v bad ta/e = ,alice to introduce h]self to ,mrs4 ,worldly if h] si/] knew h] only slightly4 ,a ,,bus9ess ,,visit ,,n ,,an ,,introduction ,a lady :o goes to see ano!r to get a ref]5ce = a s]vant1 or to ask h] aid 9 an organization = *>ity1 w\ld nev] consid] su* a meet+ z an introduction1 ev5 ?\gh !y talk$ = an h\r4 ,nor w\ld %e (f] to %ake h&s 9 leav+4 ,on ! o!r h&1 neighbors :o are cont9ually meet+1 gradually become accu/om$ to say ,h[ d y d8 :5 !y meet1 ev5 ?\gh !y nev] become acqua9tances4 ,,! ,,retort ,,c\rte\s ,,to ,,"o ,,y ,,h ,,=gott5 ,let u suppose "s "o addresses y1 & !n slightly disconc]t$ says3 ,y don't rememb] me1 d y8 ,! polite ?+--unless 8 mann] does n r+ true1 is to say ,:y1 ( c\rse1 ,i d4 ,& !n if a few neutral rem>ks lead to no enlight5+ topic1 & br+ no fur!r memory1 y ask at ! fir/ opportunity :o x 0 t address$ y4 ,if ! p]son %\ld prove actually to be unkn[n1 x is v easy to repel any fur!r advances4 ,b ne>ly always y f9d x is "s "o y ought to h kn[n1 & y\r hid+ ! fact ( y\r =getfulness saves y f ! r rude & /upid situation ( blankly decl>+3 ,i don't rememb] y4 ,if1 aft] be+ introduc$ to y1 ,mr4 ,jones calls y by a wrong "n1 y let x pass1 at fir/1 b if he p]si/s y may say3 ,my "n is ,simpson1 n ,simpk94 ,at a private dance1 "y m5 n[adays introduce _! m5 fri5ds to "y wom5 )\t fir/ ask+ ! latt]'s p]mission1 because all ^? invit$ to a lady's h\se are suppos$ to be eligible = pres5tation to ev]yone1 or !y w\ld n be !re4 ,at a public ball "y m5 & wom5 keep v mu* to _! own p>ticul> small circle & are n apt to meet outsid]s at all4 ,"u ^! circum/ances a g5tleman %\ld be v c>eful n to introduce a y\? :om he kn[s no?+ ab\t to a lady ( 8 acqua9tance--or at lea/ he %\ld ask h] fir/4 ,he c say frankly3 ,!re is a man call$ ,slid]s :o has ask$ to meet y4 ,i don't "k :o he is1 b he seems dec5t4 ,%all ,i introduce him8 ,! lady c say ,yes2 or1 ,i'd r n4 ,,introduction ,,by ,,lett] ,an introduction by lett] is f> m b9d+ ?an a casual spok5 introduction :i* commits y to no?+4 ,?is is expla9$ fully & example lett]s are giv5 9 ! *apt] on ,lett]s4 ,a lett] ( introduction is h&$ y unseal$1 always4 ,x is correct = y to seal x at once 9 ! pres5ce ( its au?or4 ,y ?ank y\r fri5d = hav+ writt5 x & g on y\r j\rney4 ,if y are a man & y\r introduction is to a lady1 y g to h] h\se z soon z y arrive 9 h] city1 & leave ! lett] ) y\r c>d at h] door4 ,usually y d n ask to see h]2 b if x is betwe5 f\r & six o'clock x is q correct to d s if y *oose4 ,pres5t+ y\rself ) a lett] is always a little awkw>d4 ,mo/ p pref] to leave _! c>ds )\t ask+ to be receiv$4 ,if y\r lett] is to a man1 y mail x to 8 h\se1 unless ! lett] is a bus9ess "o4 ,9 ! latt] case y g to 8 (fice1 & s5d 9 y\r c>d & ! lett]4 ,mean:ile y wait 9 ! reception room until he has read ! lett] & s5ds = y to come into 8 private (fice4 ,if y are a woman1 y mail y\r lett] ( social introduction & d no?+ fur!r until y receive an ackn[l$gm5t4 ,if ! recipi5t ( y\r lett] leaves h] c>d on y1 y 9 return leave y\rs on h]4 ,b ! obligation ( a writt5 introduction is su* t only illness c excuse h] n ask+ y to h] h\se--ei!r =mally or in=mally4 ,:5 a man receives a lett] introduc+ ano!r man1 he calls ! p]son introduc$ on ! telephone & asks h[ he may be ( s]vice to him4 ,if he does n invite ! newcom] to 8 h\se1 he may put him up at 8 club1 or h him take lun*eon or d9n] at a re/aurant1 z ! circum/ances seem to w>rant4 ,,*apt] ,,iii ,,greet+s ,,:at ,,to ,,say ,,:5 ,,introduc$ ,z expla9$ 9 ! =ego+ *apt]1 ! correct =mal greet+ is3 ,h[ d y d8 ,if ,mrs4 ,y\ng] is pres5t$ to ,mrs4 ,worldly1 ,mrs4 ,worldly says ,h[ d y d8 ,if ! ,ambassador ( ,france is pres5t$ to h]1 %e says ,h[ d y d8 ,mrs4 ,y\ng] & ! ,ambassador likewise say ,h[ d y d8 or m]ely b[4 ,!re are a few expressions possible "u o!r circum/ances & ^u o!r occasions4 ,if y h1 ?r\gh fri5ds 9 common1 long he>d ( a c]ta9 lady1 or g5tleman1 & y "k t %e1 or he1 also has he>d mu* ( y1 y may say :5 y are introduc$ to h]3 ,i am v glad to meet y1 or ,i am delight$ to meet y at la/6 ,d n use ! expression pleas$ to meet y !n or on any occasion4 ,& y mu/ n say y are delight$ unless y h reason to be sure t %e also is delight$ to meet y4 ,to "o :o has volunte]$ to help y 9 *>itable "w = in/ance1 y w\ld say3 ,x is v good ( y to help u1 or1 to jo9 u4 ,9 bus9ess a g5tleman says3 ,v glad to meet y1 or ,delight$ to meet y4 ,or1 if 9 8 own (fice3 ,v glad to see y6 ,,in=mal ,,greet+s ,in=mal greet+s are almo/ z limit$ z =mal1 b n q2 = besides say+ ,h[ d y d8 y c say ,good morn+ & on occasions ,h[ are y8 or ,good ev5+4 ,on v in=mal occasions1 x is ! pres5t fa%ion to greet an intimate fri5d ) ,hello6 ,?is seem+ly vulg> salutation is made acceptable by ! tone 9 :i* x is said4 ,to %\t ,hull[6 is vulg>1 b ,hello1 ,m>y or ,h[ 'd ,john1 ea* spok5 9 an ord9>y tone ( voice1 s\nd mu* ! same4 ,b rememb] t ! ,hello is spok51 n call$ out1 & nev] us$ except betwe5 intimate fri5ds :o call ea* o!r by ! fir/ "n4 ,!re are only two =ms ( f>ewell3 ,good-by & ,good night4 ,nev] say ,au revoir unless y h be5 talk+ ,fr5*1 or are speak+ to a ,fr5* p]son4 ,nev] int]l>d y\r conv]sation ) =eign words or phrases :5 y c possibly translate !m into ,engli%2 & ! occasions :5 our "m tongue w n s]ve are extremely r>e4 ,v (t5 9 place ( ! ov]-worn ,h[ d y d1 p]haps m (t5 ?an n1 p skip ! words ( actual greet+ & plunge in/ead into conv]sation3 ,:y1 ,m>y6 ,:5 did y get back8 or ,:at is ! news ) y8 or ,:at h y be5 do+ lately8 ,! wea!r1 too1 fills 9 ) equal fai?fulness4 ,isn't x a heav5ly day6 or ,horrid wea!r1 isn't x8 ,x w\ld seem t ! v>iability ( ! wea!r 0 purposely devis$ to furni% mank9d ) unfail+ mat]ial = conv]sation4 ,9 bidd+ good-by to a new acqua9tance ) :om y h be5 talk+1 y %ake h&s & say1 ,good-by4 ,i am v glad to h met y4 ,to "o :o has be5 especially int]e/+1 or :o is some:at ( a p]sonage y say3 ,x has be5 a great pleasure to meet y4 ,! o!r answ]s3 ,?ank y4 ,,9 ,,*ur* ,p d n greet ea* o!r 9 *ur*1 except at a w$d+4 ,at w$d+s p d speak to fri5ds sitt+ ne> !m1 b 9 a l[ tone ( voice4 ,x w\ld be %ock+ to ent] a *ur* & he> a babel ( voices6 ,ord9>ily 9 *ur* if a fri5d happ5s to cat* y\r eye1 y smile1 b nev] actually b[4 ,if y g to a *ur* n y\r own & a /rang] (f]s y a seat 9 h] pew1 y %\ld1 on leav+1 turn to h] & say3 ,?ank y4 ,b y d n greet anyone until y are out on ! *ur* /eps1 :5 y naturally speak to y\r fri5ds4 ,hello %\ld n be said on ?is occasion because x is too famili> = ! solemnity ( *ur* surr\nd+s4 ,,%ak+ ,,h&s ,g5tlem5 always %ake h&s :5 !y are introduc$ to ea* o!r4 ,ladies r>ely d s ) g5tlem5 :o are introduc$ to !m2 b !y usually %ake h&s ) o!r ladies1 if !y are /&+ ne> toge!r4 ,all p :o "k ea* o!r1 unless m]ely pass+ by1 %ake h&s :5 !y meet4 ,a g5tleman on ! /reet nev] %akes h&s ) a lady )\t fir/ remov+ 8 "r glove4 ,b at ! op]a1 or at a ball1 or if he is u%] at a w$d+1 he keeps 8 glove on4 ,,p]sonality ,,( ,a ,,h&%ake ,a h&%ake (t5 creates a feel+ ( lik+ or ( irritation betwe5 two /rang]s4 ,:o does n dislike a boneless h& ext5d$ z ?\gh x 7 a spray ( sea-we$1 or a m9iature boil$ pudd+8 ,x is equally annoy+ to h "o's h& clut*$ al(t 9 grotesque affectation & %ak5 viol5tly sideways1 z ?\gh x 7 be+ us$ to clean a spot out ( ! atmosph]e4 ,:at woman does n w9ce at ! viselike grasp t cuts h] r+s into h] fle% & tempor>ily p>alyzes e f+]8 ,! prop] h&%ake is made briefly2 b !re %\ld be a feel+ ( /r5g? & w>m? 9 ! clasp1 &1 z 9 b[+1 "o %\ld at ! same "t look into ! c\nt5ance ( ! p]son ^: h& "o takes4 ,9 giv+ h] h& to a =eign]1 a m>ri$ woman always relaxes h] arm & f+]s1 z x is cu/om>y = him to lift h] h& to 8 lips4 ,b by a relax$ h& is n meant a wet rag2 a h& %\ld h life ev5 ?\gh x be passive4 ,a woman %\ld always all[ a man :o is only an acqua9tance to %ake h] h&2 %e %\ld nev] %ake 84 ,to a v old fri5d %e gives a mu* firm] clasp1 b he %akes h] h& m ?an %e %akes 84 ,y\ng] wom5 usually %ake ! h& ( ! old]2 or !y bo? m]ely clasp h&s1 give !m a dropp+ movem5t r ?an a %ake1 & let g4 ,,polite ,,greet+s ,,f ,,y\ng] ,,to ,,old] ,x is ! height ( rud5ess = "y p n to g & %ake h&s ) an old] lady ( _! acqua9tance :5 !y meet h] away f home1 if %e is a ho/ess to ^: h\se !y h (t5 gone4 ,x is n at all necess>y = ei!r "y wom5 or "y m5 to l+] & ent] into a conv]sation1 unless ! old] lady deta9s !m1 :i* %e %\ld n d beyond ! briefe/ m9ute4 ,old] ladies :o are always dragg+ "y m5 up to unprepossess+ p>tn]s1 are /udi\sly avoid$ & ) reason2 b o!rwise x is inexcusable = any y\? to fail 9 ?is small exaction ( polite behavior4 ,if a "y man is talk+ ) "s "o :5 an old] lady ent]s ! room1 he b[s =mally f :]e he is1 z x w\ld be rude to leave a "y girl /&+ alone :ile he w5t up to speak to ,mrs4 ,worldly or ,mrs4 ,topl(ty4 ,b a "y girl pass+ ne> an old] lady c easily /op = a mom5t1 say ,h[ d y d1 ,mrs4 ,jones6 & pass on4 ,p d n cross a room to speak to any "o unless--to %[ polit5ess to an acqua9tance :o is a /rang] !re2 to speak to an intimate fri5d2 or to talk to "s "o ab\t some?+ 9 p>ticul>4 ,,*apt] ,,iv ,,salutations ,,( ,,c\rtesy ,,:5 ,a ,,g5tleman ,,takes ,,(f ,,8 ,,hat ,a g5tleman takes (f 8 hat & holds x 9 8 h& :5 a lady ent]s ! elevator 9 :i* he is a pass5g]1 b he puts x on aga9 9 ! corridor4 ,a public corridor is l ! /reet1 b an elevator is sugge/ive ( a room1 & a g5tleman does n keep 8 hat on 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies 9 a h\se4 ,?is is ! rule 9 elevators 9 hotels1 clubs & ap>tm5ts4 ,9 (fice build+s & /ores ! elevator is consid]$ z public a place z ! corridor4 ,:at is m1 ! elevators 9 su* bus9ess /ructures are usually s cr[d$ t ! only room = a man's hat is on 8 head4 ,b ev5 "u ^! conditions a g5tleman c reveal 8 innate respect = wom5 by n p]mitt+ himself to be cr[d$ too ne> to !m4 ,:5 a g5tleman /ops to speak to a lady ( 8 acqua9tance 9 ! /reet1 he takes 8 hat (f ) 8 left h&1 leav+ 8 "r free to %ake h&s1 or he takes x (f ) 8 "r & transf]s x to 8 left4 ,if he has a /ick1 he puts 8 /ick 9 8 left h&1 takes (f 8 hat ) 8 "r1 transf]s 8 hat also to 8 left h&1 & gives h] 8 "r4 ,if !y walk ahead toge!r1 he at once puts 8 hat on2 b :ile he is /&+ 9 ! /reet talk+ to h]1 he %\ld rema9 hatless4 ,!re is no rud5ess great] ?an = him to /& talk+ to a lady ) 8 hat on1 & a cig> or cig>ette 9 8 m\?4 ,a g5tleman always rises :5 a lady comes into a room4 ,9 public places m5 d n jump up = e /range woman :o happ5s to approa*4 ,b if any woman addresses a rem>k to him1 a g5tleman at once rises to 8 feet z he answ]s h]4 ,9 a re/aurant1 :5 a lady b[s to him1 a g5tleman m]ely makes ! ge/ure ( ris+ by gett+ up half way f 8 *air & at ! same "t b[+4 ,!n he sits d[n aga94 ,:5 a lady goes to a g5tleman's (fice on bus9ess he %\ld /& up to receive h]1 (f] h] a *air1 & n sit d[n until aft] %e is seat$4 ,:5 %e rises to leave1 he mu/ get up in/antly & /& until %e has left ! (fice4 ,x is n necess>y to add t e ,am]ican citiz5 /&s ) 8 hat (f at ! pass+ ( ! colors & :5 ! national an!m is play$4 ,if he didn't1 "s o!r m loyal citiz5 w\ld take x (f = him4 ,also e man %\ld /& ) 8 hat (f 9 ! pres5ce ( a fun]al t passes close or blocks 8 way4 ,a ,,g5tleman ,,lifts ,,8 ,,hat ,lift+ ! hat is a conv5tional ge/ure ( polit5ess %[n to /rang]s only1 n to be confus$ ) b[+1 :i* is a ge/ure us$ to acqua9tances & fri5ds4 ,9 lift+ 8 hat1 a g5tleman m]ely lifts x slightly (f 8 =ehead & replaces x2 he does n smile nor b[1 nor ev5 look at ! object ( 8 c\rtesy4 ,no g5tleman ev] subjects a lady to 8 scrut9y or 8 app>5t obs]vation4 ,if a lady drops h] glove1 a g5tleman %\ld pick x up1 hurry ahead ( h]--on no acc\nt nudge h]--(f] ! glove to h] & say3 ,i ?9k y dropp$ ?is6 ,! lady replies3 ,?ank y4 ,! g5tleman %\ld !n lift 8 hat & turn away4 ,if he passes a lady 9 a n>r[ space1 s t he blocks h] way or 9 any mann] obtrudes ^u h]1 he lifts 8 hat z he passes4 ,if he gets on a /reet c> & ! c> gives a lur* j z he is ab\t to be seat$ & ?r[s him aga9/ ano!r pass5g]1 he lifts 8 hat & says ,excuse me6 or ,i beg y\r p>don6 ,he mu/ n say ,p>don me6 ,he mu/ n take a seat if !re are ladies /&+4 ,b if he is sitt+ & ladies ent]1 %\ld !y be "y1 he may ) p]fect propriety keep 8 seat4 ,if a v old woman1 or a "y "o c>ry+ a baby1 ent]s ! c>1 a g5tleman rises at once1 lifts 8 hat slightly1 & says3 ,please take my seat4 ,he lifts 8 hat aga9 :5 %e ?anks him4 ,if ! c> is v cr[d$ :5 he wi%es to leave x & a lady is directly 9 8 way1 he asks3 ,may ,i get ?r\gh1 please8 ,z %e makes room = him to pass1 he lifts 8 hat & says3 ,?ank y6 ,if he is 9 ! company ( a lady 9 a /reet c>1 he lifts 8 hat to ano!r g5tleman :o (f]s h] a seat1 picks up some?+ %e has dropp$1 or %[s h] any civility4 ,he lifts 8 hat if he asks anyone a "q1 & always1 if1 :5 walk+ on ! /reet ) ei!r a lady or a g5tleman1 8 companion b[s to ano!r p]son4 ,9 o!r words1 a g5tleman lifts 8 hat :5ev] he says ,excuse me1 ,?ank y1 or speaks to a /rang]1 or is spok5 to by a lady1 or by an old] g5tleman4 ,& no g5tleman ev] keeps a pipe1 cig> or cig>ette 9 8 m\? :5 he lifts 8 hat1 takes x (f1 or b[s4 ,,! ,,b[ ,,( ,,c]emony ,! /&+ b[1 made by a g5tleman :5 he rises at a d9n] to say a few words1 9 response to applause1 or across a draw+-room at a =mal d9n] :5 he b[s to a lady or an eld]ly g5tleman1 is usually ! outcome ( ! b[ taught little boys at danc+ s*ool4 ,! in/9ct ( click+ heels toge!r & mak+ a quick b5d ov] f ! hips & neck1 z ?\gh ! human body _h two h+es1 a big "o at ! hip & a slight "o at ! neck1 & 0 q rigid 9 betwe51 rema9s 9 a modifi$ =m ?r\gh life4 ,! man :o z a *ild came habitually into 8 "m's draw+-room :5 !re 0 company1 g5]ally makes a *>m+ b[ :5 gr[n1 :i* is :olly lack+ 9 self-consci\sness4 ,!re is no app>5t heel-click+ b a cam]a w\ld %[ t ! motion is !re4 ,9 e =m ( b[1 z di/9ct f m]ely lift+ 8 hat1 a g5tleman looks at ! p]son he is b[+ to4 ,9 a v =mal /&+ b[1 8 heels come toge!r1 8 knees are rigid & 8 expression is r s]i\s4 ,,! ,,in=mal ,,b[ ,! in=mal b[ is m]ely a modification ( ! above2 x is easy & un/udi$1 b x %\ld sugge/ ! ease ( controll$ muscles1 n ! flopp9ess ( a rag doll4 ,9 b[+ on ! /reet1 a g5tleman %\ld nev] take 8 hat (f ) a fl\ri%1 nor %\ld he sweep x d[n to 8 knee2 nor is x graceful to b[ by pull+ ! hat ov] ! face z ?\gh exam9+ ! l9+4 ,! correct b[1 :5 we>+ a high hat or d]by1 is to lift x by hold+ ! brim directly 9 front1 take x (f m]ely high en\gh to escape ! head easily1 br+ x a few in*es =w>d1 ! back some:at up1 ! front d[n1 & put x on aga94 ,to a v old lady or g5tleman1 to %[ adequate respect1 a sweep+ b[ is sometimes made by a some:at exagg]at$ circul> motion d[nw>d to p]haps ! level ( ! wai/1 s t ! hat's position is upside d[n4 ,if a man is we>+ a s(t hat he takes x by ! cr[n in/ead ( ! brim1 lifts x slightly (f 8 head & puts x on aga94 ,! b[ to a fri5d is made ) a smile1 to a v intimate fri5d (t5 ) a broad gr9 t fits exactly ) ! ^w ,hello2 :]eas ! =mal b[ is m5tally accompani$ by ! =mal salutation3 ,h[ d y d6 ,,! ,,b[ ,,( ,a ,,woman ,,( ,,*>m ,! reputation ( ,s\!rn wom5 = hav+ ! gift ( fasc9ation is p]haps due n to prett9ess ( feature m ?an to ! brilliancy or sweetness ( _! ready smile4 ,t ,s\!rn wom5 are *>m+ & fem99e & lovable is prov]bial4 ,h[ _m h notic$ t ,s\!rn wom5 always b[ ) ! grace ( a fl[] b5d+ 9 ! breeze & a smile l sudd5 sun%9e8 ,! unlovely woman b[s z ?\gh h] head 7 on a h+e & h] smile suck$ ?r\gh a lemon4 ,no?+ is s easy = any woman to acquire z a *>m+ b[4 ,x is su* a %ort & fleet+ duty4 ,n a bit ( tr\ble really2 j to incl9e y\r head & spontane\sly smile z ?\gh y ?\ght ,:y1 !re is ,mrs4 ,smi?6 ,h[ glad ,i am to see h]6 ,ev5 to a /rang] :o does h] a favor1 a woman ( *>m always smiles z %e says ,?ank y6 ,z a possession = ei!r woman or man1 a ready smile is m valuable 9 life ?an a ready wit2 ! latt] may sometimes br+ enemies1 b ! =m] always br+s fri5ds4 ,,:5 ,,to ,,b[ ,"u =mal circum/ances a lady is suppos$ to b[ to a g5tleman fir/2 b p :o "k ea* o!r well b[ spontane\sly )\t obs]v+ ?is etiquette4 ,9 meet+ ! same p]son _m times )9 an h\r or s1 "o does n cont9ue to b[ aft] ! second1 or at mo/ ?ird meet+4 ,aft] t "o ei!r looks away or m]ely smiles4 ,unless "o has a good memory = p1 x is always bett] to b[ to "s "o ^: face is famili> ?an to run ! great] risk ( ignor+ an acqua9tance4 ,,! ,,cut ,,direct ,= "o p]son to look directly at ano!r & n ackn[l$ge ! o!r's b[ is su* a brea* ( civility t only an un=givable misdemeanor c w>rant ! rebuke4 ,nor )\t ! grave/ cause may a lady cut a g5tleman4 ,b !re are no circum/ances "u :i* a g5tleman may cut any woman :o1 ev5 by c\rtesy1 c be call$ a lady4 ,on ! o!r h&1 "o mu/ n confuse abs5t-m9d$ness1 or a =getful memory ) an int5tional cut4 ,anyone :o is preoccupi$ is apt to pass o!rs )\t be+ aw>e ( !m1 & )\t ! lea/ want ( fri5dly reg>d4 ,o!rs :o h bad memories =get ev5 ^? by :om !y 7 mu* attract$4 ,?is does n excuse ! bad memory1 b x expla9s ! seem+ rud5ess4 ,a cut is v diff]5t4 ,x is a direct />e ( blank refusal1 & is n only insult+ to its victim b emb>rass+ to e witness4 ,happily x is practically unkn[n 9 polite society4 ,,*apt] ,v ,,on ,,! ,,/reet ,,& ,,9 ,,public ,,walk+ ,,on ,,! ,,/reet ,a g5tleman1 :e!r walk+ ) two ladies or "o1 takes ! curb side ( ! pavem5t4 ,he %\ld nev] s&wi* himself betwe5 !m4 ,a "y man walk+ ) a "y woman %\ld be c>eful t 8 mann] 9 no way draws att5tion to h] or to himself4 ,too devot$ a mann] is always conspicu\s1 & s is l\d talk+4 ,"u no circum/ances %\ld he take h] arm1 or grasp h] by or above ! elb[1 & %ove h] "h & !re1 unless1 ( c\rse1 to save h] f be+ run ov]6 ,he %\ld n walk along hitt+ ?+s ) 8 /ick4 ,! small boy's delight 9 draw+ a /ick along a picket f5ce %\ld be curb$ 9 ! nurs]y6 ,& x is sc>cely necess>y to add t no g5tleman walks along ! /reet *ew+ gum or1 if he is walk+ ) a lady1 puff+ a cig> or cig>ette4 ,all p 9 ! /reets1 or any:]e 9 public1 %\ld be c>eful n to talk too l\d4 ,!y %\ld especially avoid pron\nc+ p's names1 or mak+ p]sonal rem>ks t may attract pass+ att5tion or give a clue to !mselves4 ,"o %\ld nev] call out a "n 9 public1 unless x is absolutely unavoidable4 ,a "y girl :o 0 sep>at$ f h] fri5ds 9 a baseball cr[d _h ! pres5ce ( m9d to put h] hat on h] p>asol & lift x above ! p surr\nd+ h] s t h] fri5ds might f9d h]4 ,d n attract att5tion to y\rself 9 public4 ,?is is "o ( ! fundam5tal rules ( good bre$+4 ,%un conspicu\s mann]s1 conspicu\s clo!s1 a l\d voice1 />+ at p1 knock+ into !m1 talk+ across anyone--9 a ^w d n attract att5tion to y\rself4 ,d n expose y\r private affairs1 feel+s or inn]mo/ ?\ghts 9 public4 ,y are knock+ d[n ! walls ( y\r h\se :5 y d4 ,,g5tlem5 ,,& ,,bundles ,ne>ly all books on etiquette insi/ t a g5tleman mu/ (f] to c>ry a lady's bundles4 ,bundles d n sugge/ a lady 9 ! fir/ place1 & z = g5tlem5 & bundles6--!y don't g toge!r at all4 ,v neat packages t c\ld nev] )\t injury to _! pride be designat$ z bundles are diff]5t4 ,su*1 = in/ance1 might be a squ>e1 smoo?ly wrapp$ box ( cig>s1 c&y1 or books4 ,also1 a g5tleman might c>ry fl[]s1 or a basket ( fruit1 or1 9 fact1 any package t looks tempt+4 ,he might ev5 /agg] "u bags & suitcases1 or a small trunk--b c>ry a bundle8 ,n twice6 ,& yet1 _m an unkn[+ woman1 sometimes a v "y & pretty "o1 too1 has ask$ a relative1 a neighbor1 or an admir]1 to c>ry some?+ sugge/ive ( a pill[1 done up 9 cr9kl$ pap] & odd l5g?s ( jo9$ /r+4 ,!n %e wond]s aft]w>ds 9 un5light5$ surprise :y h] c\s91 or h] neighbor1 or h] admir]1 :o is "o ( ! sm>te/ m5 9 t[n1 nev] comes to see h] any m6 ,a ,,g5tleman ,,(f]s ,,8 ,,arm ,to an old lady or to an invalid a g5tleman (f]s 8 arm if ei!r ( !m wants 8 support4 ,o!rwise a lady no long] leans ^u a g5tleman 9 ! daytime1 unless to cross a v cr[d$ ?or\ghf>e1 or to be help$ ov] a r\gh piece ( road1 or "u o!r imp$+ circum/ances4 ,9 accompany+ a lady any:]e at night1 :e!r d[n ! /eps ( a h\se1 or f "o build+ to ano!r1 or :5 walk+ a di/ance1 a g5tleman always (f]s 8 arm4 ,! reason is t 9 h] ?9 high-heel$ slipp]s1 & :5 x is too d>k to see h] foo?old cle>ly1 %e is likely to trip4 ,"u any ( ^! circum/ances :5 he pr(f]s 8 assi/ance1 he might say3 ,don't y ?9k y _h bett] take my arm8 ,y might trip4 ,or--,w\ldn't x be easi] if y took my arm along "h8 ,! go+ is pretty bad4 ,o!rwise ! only occasions on :i* a g5tleman (f]s 8 arm to a lady are 9 tak+ h] 9 at a =mal d9n]1 or tak+ h] 9 to supp] at a ball1 or :5 he is an u%] at a w$d+4 ,ev5 9 walk+ across a ballroom1 except at a public ball 9 ! gr& m>*1 x is ! pres5t fa%ion = ! y\ng] g5]ation to walk side by side1 nev] arm 9 arm4 ,?is1 h[ev]1 is m]ely an in/ance :]e etiquette & ! cu/om ( ! mom5t diff]4 ,old-fa%ion$ g5tlem5 /ill (f] _! arm1 & x is1 & long w be1 9 accordance ) etiquette to d s4 ,b etiquette does n p]mit a g5tleman to take a lady's arm6 ,9 see+ a lady to h] c>riage or motor1 x is q correct = a g5tleman to put 8 h& "u h] elb[ to assi/ h]2 & 9 help+ h] out he %\ld alight fir/ & (f] h] 8 h&4 ,he %\ld n hold a p>asol ov] h] head unless mom5t>ily :ile %e se>*es 9 h] wri/-bag = some?+1 or /ops p]haps to put on or take (f h] glove1 or d any?+ t occupies bo? h&s4 ,) an umbrella ! case is diff]5t1 especially 9 a sudd5 & driv+ ra91 :5 %e is (t5 v busily occupi$ 9 try+ to hold good clo!s out ( ! wet & a hat on1 z well4 ,%e may also1 "u ^! circum/ances1 take ! g5tleman's arm1 if ! go+ is !reby made any easi]4 ,a ,,lady ,,nev] ,,on ,,! ,,left ,! own] always sits on ! "r h& side ( ! re> seat ( a c>riage or a motor1 t is driv5 by a coa*man or a *auffeur4 ,if ! vehicle belongs to a lady1 %e %\ld take h] own place always1 unless %e rel9qui%es x to a gue/ ^: rank is above h] own1 su* z t ( ! wife ( ! ,presid5t or ! ,gov]nor4 ,if a man is ! own]1 he mu/1 on ! contr>y1 give a lady ! "r h& seat4 ,:e!r 9 a private c>riage1 a c> or a taxi1 a lady mu/ nev] sit on a g5tleman's left2 because accord+ to ,european etiquette1 a lady on ! left is n a lady4 ,al?\gh ?is etiquette is n /rictly obs]v$ 9 ,am]ica1 no g5tleman %\ld risk all[+ ev5 a s+le =eign] to mis9t]pret a lady's position4 ,,awkw>d ,,que/ions ,,( ,,paym5t ,x is becom+ mu* less cu/om>y ?an x us$ to be = a g5tleman to (f] to pay a lady's way4 ,if 9 tak+ a f]ry or a subway1 a "y woman /ops to buy magaz9es1 *ocolates1 or o!r trifles1 a "y man accompany+ h] usually (f]s to pay = !m4 ,%e q z usually answ]s3 ,don't bo!r1 ,i h x6 & puts ! *ange on ! c\nt]4 ,x w\ld be awkw>d = him to prote/1 & bad ta/e to press ! po9t4 ,b usually 9 small matt]s su* z a subway f>e1 he pays = two4 ,if he invites h] to g to a ball game1 or to a mat9e or to tea1 he naturally buys ! tickets & any refre%m5t :i* !y may h4 ,v (t5 x happ5s t a "y woman & a "y man :o are b\nd = ! same h\se p>ty1 at a few h\rs' di/ance f ! place :]e !y bo? live1 take ! same tra9--ei!r by accid5t or by pre-arrangem5t4 ,9 ?is case ! "y woman %\ld pay = e item ( h] j\rney4 ,%e %\ld n let h] companion pay = h] p>lor c> seat or = h] lun*eon2 nor %\ld he1 :5 !y arrive at _! de/9ation1 tip ! port] = c>ry+ h] bag4 ,a g5tleman :o is by *ance sitt+ next to a lady ( 8 acqua9tance on a tra9 or boat1 %\ld nev] ?9k ( (f]+ to pay = h] seat or = any?+ %e may buy f ! v5dor4 ,,! ,,escort ,not)/&+ ! fact t he is met1 all dress$ 9 8 be/ /ore clo!s1 ) 8 lady fri5d lean+ on 8 arm1 9 ! pages ( c\nt]feit society novels & unau?oritative books on etiquette1 !re is no su* actual p]son kn[n to good society--at lea/ n 9 ,new ,york or any great city--z an escort1 he is n only unkn[n1 b he is impossible4 ,9 good society ladies d n g ab\t "u ! c>e ( g5tlem56 ,x is unhe>d ( = a g5tleman to take a "y girl alone to a dance or to d9e or to p>ties ( any description2 nor c %e accept 8 sponsor%ip any:]e :atsoev]4 ,a well behav$ "y girl goes to public dances only :5 prop]ly *ap]on$ & to a private dance ) h] "m or else accompani$ by h] maid1 :o waits = h] ! entire ev5+ 9 ! dress+ room4 ,x is n only improp]1 x is impossible = any man to take a lady to a p>ty ( any sort1 to :i* %e has n be5 p]sonally invit$ by ! ho/ess4 ,a lady may nev] be "u ! protection ( a man any:]e6 ,a "y girl is n ev5 tak5 ab\t by h] betro!d4 ,8 fri5ds s5d invitations to h] on 8 acc\nt1 x is true1 &1 if possible1 he accompanies h]1 b correct invitations mu/ be s5t by !m to h]1 or %e %\ld n g4 ,old] ladies are (t5 ?\ghtless & say to a "y man3 ,br+ y\r fiance to see me6 ,8 answ] %\ld be3 ,inde$1 ,i'd love to any "t y telephone h]2 or1 ,i "k %e'd love to come if y'd ask h]4 ,if ! lady /upidly p]si/s 9 casually say+1 ,d br+ h]1 he mu/ smile & say lightly3 ,b ,i c't br+ h] )\t an invitation f y4 ,or1 he m]ely evades ! issue1 & does n br+ h]4 ,,! ,,re/aurant ,,*eck ,ev]yone has at "s "t or o!r be5 subject$ to ! awkw>d mom5t :5 ! wait] pres5ts ! *eck to ! ho/4 ,= a ho/ to c\nt up ! items is sugge/ive ( p>simony1 :ile n to look at !m is disconc]t+ly reckless1 & to pay be=e _! faces = :at 8 gue/s h eat5 is emb>rass+4 ,hav+ ! *eck pres5t$ to a ho/ess :5 g5tlem5 are among h] gue/s1 is m unpleasant4 ,!re=e1 to avoid ?is :ole transaction1 p :o h n *>ge acc\nts1 %\ld ord] ! meal ahead1 & at ! same "t pay = x 9 advance1 includ+ ! wait]'s tip4 ,*>ge cu/om]s %\ld make arrangem5ts to h ! *eck pres5t$ to !m else:]e ?an at table4 ,,9 ,,/ores ,,or ,,%ops ,lack ( consid]ation = ^? :o 9 any capacity s]ve y1 is always an evid5ce ( ill-bre$+1 z well z ( inexcusable selfi%ness4 ,occasionally a s-call$ lady :o has no?+ :atev] to d b drive upt[n or d[n 9 h] com=table lim\s9e1 v5ts h] irritability ^u a saleswoman at a cr[d$ c\nt] 9 a /ore1 because %e does n leave o!r cu/om]s & wait imm$iately ^u h]4 ,!n1 p]haps1 :5 ! article %e ask$ = is n to be _h1 %e compla9s to ! floor-walk] ab\t ! saleswoman's /upidity6 ,or hav+ no?+ t %e c ?9k ( to occupy an empty h\r on h] h&s1 %e dem&s t e sort ( mat]ial be dragg$ d[n f ! %elves until1 discov]+ t x is at la/ "t = h] appo9tm5t1 %e yawns & leaves4 ,( c\rse1 on ! o!r h&1 !re is ! g5u9ely le?>gic saleswoman ^: m9d doesn't seem to regi/] a s+le syllable t y h said to h]2 :o1 ) complete indiff]5ce to y & y\r pref]5ces1 insi/s on %[+ :at y di/9ctly say y d n want1 & :o caps ! climax by drawl+ ,!y are we>+ x ?is season6 ,does t sort ( saleswoman ev] succe$ 9 sell+ any?+8 ,does anyone liv+ buy any?+ because someone1 :o kn[s no?+1 tells ano!r1 :o is (t5 an exp]t1 :at an indiscrim9at+ ,!y may be do+8 ,t k9d ( a saleswoman w\ld try to tell ,kreisl] t ,!y are n us+ viol9s ?is season6 ,!re are always two sides to ! case1 ( c\rse1 & x is a cr$it to good mann]s t !re is sc>cely ev] any friction 9 /ores & %ops ( ! fir/ class4 ,salesm5 & wom5 are usually p]sons :o are bo? pati5t & polite1 & _! cu/om]s are mo/ (t5 ladies 9 fact z well z by c\rtesy4 ,betwe5 ^? be=e & ^? beh9d ! c\nt]s1 !re has sprung up 9 _m in/ances a relation%ip ( mutual goodwill & fri5dl9ess4 ,x is1 9 fact1 only ! woman :o is afraid t someone may encroa* ^u h] exce$+ly insecure dignity1 :o %[s nei!r c\rtesy nor consid]ation to any except ^? :om %e consid]s x to h] advantage to please4 ,,reg>d ,,= ,,o!rs ,consid]ation = ! rights & feel+s ( o!rs is n m]ely a rule = behavior 9 public b ! v f\ndation ^u :i* social life is built4 ,rule ( etiquette ! fir/--:i* hundr$s ( o!rs m]ely p>aphrase or expla9 or elaborate--is3 ,nev] d any?+ t is unpleasant to o!rs4 ,nev] take m ?an y\r %>e--:e!r ( ! road 9 driv+ a c>1 ( *airs on a boat or seats on a tra91 or food at ! table4 ,p :o picnic along ! public highway leav+ a clutt] ( greasy pap] & swill 7n1 a pretty "n1 b nei!r is x a pretty object67 = o!r p to walk or drive pa/1 & to make a bre$+ place = flies1 & furni% n\ri%m5t = rats1 *oose a disgu/+ way to repay ! l&-own] = ! lib]ty !y took 9 tempor>ily occupy+ 8 prop]ty4 ,,*apt] ,,vi ,,at ,,! ,,op]a1 ,,! ,,!at]1 ,,& ,,o!r ,,public ,,ga!r+s ,except+ a religi\s c]emonial1 !re is no occasion :]e great] dignity ( mann] is requir$ ( ladies & g5tlem5 bo?1 ?an 9 occupy+ a box at ! op]a4 ,= a g5tleman especially no o!r etiquette is s exact+4 ,9 walk+ ab\t 9 ! foy] ( ! op]a h\se1 a g5tleman leaves 8 coat 9 ! box--or 9 8 or*e/ra *air--b he always we>s 8 high hat4 ,! collapsible hat is = use 9 ! seats r ?an 9 ! boxes1 b x c be worn p]fectly well by a gue/ 9 ! latt] if he hasn't a silk "o4 ,a g5tleman mu/ always be 9 full dress1 tail coat1 :ite wai/coat1 :ite tie & :ite gloves :e!r he is seat$ 9 ! or*e/ra or a box4 ,he we>s :ite gloves n[h]e else except at a ball1 or :5 u%] at a w$d+4 ,z p usually d9e ) _! ho/ess be=e ! op]a1 !y arrive toge!r2 ! g5tlem5 assi/ ! ladies to lay (f _! wraps1 "o ( ! g5tlem5 7:i*ev] is ne>e/7 draws back ! curta9 divid+ ! ante-room f ! box1 & ! ladies ent]1 foll[$ by ! g5tlem51 ! la/ ( :om closes ! curta9 aga94 ,if !re are two ladies besides ! ho/ess1 ! latt] places h] mo/ di/+ui%$ or old] gue/ 9 ! corn] ne>e/ ! /age4 ,! seat fur!/ f ! /age is always h] own4 ,! old] gue/ takes h] seat fir/1 !n ! ho/ess takes h] place1 :]eupon ! ?ird lady goes =w>d 9 ! c5t] to ! front ( ! box1 & /&s until "o ( ! g5tlem5 places a *air = h] betwe5 ! o!r two4 7,! *airs are arrang$ 9 ?ree r[s1 ( "o on ei!r side ) an aisle left betwe547 ,"o ( ! duties ( ! g5tlem5 is to see t ! curta9s at ! back ( ! box rema9 tightly clos$1 z ! light f ! ante-room %9+ 9 ! faces ( o!rs 9 ! audi5ce across ! h\se is v disagreeable to !m4 ,a g5tleman nev] sits 9 ! front r[ ( a box1 ev5 ?\gh he is = a "t alone 9 x4 ,,z ,,to ,,visit+ ,x is ! cu/om = a g5tleman :o is a gue/ 9 "o box to pay visits to fri5ds 9 o!r boxes dur+ ! entr'actes4 ,he mu/ visit none b ladies ( 8 acqua9tance & mu/ nev] ent] a box 9 :i* he kn[s only ! g5tlem51 & expect to be introduc$ to ! ladies4 ,if ,ar?ur ,norman1 = in/ance1 wi%es to pres5t a g5tleman to ,mrs4 ,gild+ 9 h] box at ! op]a1 he mu/ fir/ ask h] if he may br+ 8 fri5d ,james ,dawson4 7,he w\ld on no acc\nt speak ( him z ,mr4 ,dawson unless he is an eld]ly p]son47 ,a lady's box at ! op]a is actually h] h\se1 & only ^? :o are acceptable z visitors 9 h] h\se %\ld ask to be admitt$4 ,b x is q correct = a g5tleman to g into a /rang]'s box to speak to a lady :o is a fri5d ( 81 j z he w\ld g to see h] if %e 7 /ay+ 9 a /rang]'s h\se4 ,b he %\ld n g into ! box ( "o he does n "k1 to speak to a lady ) :om he has only a slight acqua9tance1 s9ce visits are n paid q s casually to ladies :o are !mselves visitors4 ,^u a g5tleman's ent]+ a box x is obligatory = :oev] is sitt+ beh9d ! lady to :om ! arriv+ g5tleman's visit is address$1 to rel9qui% 8 *air4 ,ano!r po9t ( etiquette is t a g5tleman mu/ nev] leave ! ladies ( 8 own box alone4 ,occasionally x happ5s t ! g5tlem5 9 ,mrs4 ,gild+'s box1 = in/ance1 h all rel9qui%$ _! places to visitors & h !mselves gone to ,mrs4 ,worldly's or ,mrs4 ,jones' or ,mrs4 ,t[n's boxes4 ,mrs4 ,gild+'s gue/s mu/1 f ! vantage po9t ( ! ,worldly1 ,jones or ,t[n boxes1 keep a wat*ful eye on _! ho/ess & in/antly return to h] support :5 !y see h] visitors ab\t to leave1 ev5 ?\gh ! ladies :om !y are mom5t>ily visit+ be left to !mselves4 ,x is ( c\rse ! duty ( ! o!r g5tlem5 :o came to ! op]a ) ,mrs4 ,worldly1 ,mrs4 ,jones or ,mrs4 ,t[n to hurry to !m4 ,a g5tleman mu/ nev] /ay 9 any box t he does n belong 91 aft] ! l[]+ ( ! lights = ! curta94 ,nor1 9 spite ( c>toons to ! contr>y1 does good ta/e p]mit conv]sation dur+ ! p]=mance or dur+ ! ov]ture4 ,box hold]s arriv+ late or leav+ be=e ! f9al curta9 d s z quietly z possible & always )\t speak+4 ,a ,,brilliant ,,op]a ,,night ,a brilliant op]a night1 :i* "o (t5 he>s spok5 ( 7mean+ m]ely t all ! boxes are occupi$1 & t ! ladies are m elaborately dress$ ?an usual7 is g5]ally a night :5 a lead] ( fa%ion su* z ,mrs4 ,worldly1 ,mrs4 ,gild+1 or ,mrs4 ,topl(ty1 is giv+ a ball2 & mo/ ( ! hold]s ( ! p>t]re boxes are 9 ball dresses1 ) an unusual display ( jewels4 ,or a h\se w be p>ticul>ly brilliant if a v great s+] is appe>+ 9 a new rle1 or if a p]sonage be pres5t1 z :5 ,m>%al ,j(fre w5t to ! ,metropolitan4 ,,aft] ,,! ,,p]=mance ,"o g5tleman1 at lea/1 mu/ wait 9 ! c>riage lobby until all ! ladies 9 8 p>ty h driv5 away4 ,nev] "u any circum/ances may ! la/ g5tleman leave a lady /&+ alone on ! sidewalk4 ,x is ! duty ( ! ho/ess to take all unatt5d$ ladies home :o h n a private conveyance ( _! own1 b ! obligation does n ext5d to m>ri$ c\ples or odd m54 ,b if a m>ri$ lady or wid[ has ord]$ h] own c> to come = h]1 ! odd g5tleman waits ) h] until x appe>s4 ,x is !n consid]ate = h] to (f] him a lift1 b x is equally prop] = h] to ?ank him = wait+ & drive (f alone4 ,,at ,,! ,,!at] ,new ,york]s ( highe/ fa%ion almo/ nev] occupy a box at ! !at]4 ,at ! op]a ! _w ( fa%ion is to be se5 9 ! p>t]re boxes 7n ! fir/ ti]71 & 9 boxes at "s ( ! horse %[s & at _m public *>ity balls & ent]ta9m5ts1 b ^? 9 boxes at ! !at] are usually /rang]s or outsid]s4 ,no "o c dispute t ! be/ !at] seats are ^? 9 ! c5t] ( ! or*e/ra4 ,a box 9 ^! days ( hatlessness has no?+ to recomm5d x except t ! p c sit 9 a gr\p & g5tlem5 c g out betwe5 ! acts easily1 b ^! advantages h>dly make up = ! disadvantage to f\r or at lea/ ?ree out ( ! six box occupants :o see sc>cely a slice ( ! /age4 ,,w ,,y ,,d9e ,,& ,,g ,,to ,,! ,,play8 ,!re is no m popul> or agreeable way ( ent]ta9+ p ?an to ask !m to d9e & g to ! play4 ,! majority d n ev5 pref] to h op]a sub/itut$ = play1 because ^? :o c>e = s]i\s music are a m9ority comp>$ ) ^? :o l ! !at]4 ,if a ba*elor gives a small !at] p>ty he usually takes 8 gue/s to d9e at ! ,fitz-,*]ry or "s o!r fa%ionable & amus+ re/aurant1 b a m>ri$ c\ple liv+ 9 _! own h\se are m likely to d9e at home1 unless !y belong to a type preval5t 9 ,new ,york :i* is re/aurant mad4 ,! ,gild+s1 9 spite ( ! fact t _! own *ef is ! be/ !re is1 are mu* m apt to d9e 9 a re/aurant be=e go+ to a play--or if !y don't d9e 9 a re/aurant1 !y g to "o = supp] aft]w>ds4 ,b ! ,normans1 if !y ask p to d9e & g to ! !at]1 inv>iably d9e at home4 ,a !at] p>ty c ( c\rse be ( any size1 b six or eight is ! usual numb]1 & ! invitations are telephon$3 ,w ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,lovejoy d9e ) ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,norman at sev5-?irty on ,tuesday & g to ! play8 ,or ,w ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,oldname d9e ) ,mr4 ,clubw9 ,doe on ,saturday at ! ,toit d',or & g to ! play8 ,:5 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,oldname accept ) pleasure a second message is giv53 ,d9n] w be at #g4cj4 ,mrs4 ,norman's gue/s g to h] h\se4 ,mr4 ,doe's gue/s meet him 9 ! foy] ( ! ,toit d',or4 ,b ! gue/s at bo? d9n]s are tak5 to ! !at] by _! ho/4 ,if a d9n] is giv5 by a ho/ess :o has no c> ( h] own1 a gue/ w sometimes ask3 ,don't y want me to h ! c> come back = u8 ,! ho/ess c ei!r say to an intimate fri5d ,:y1 yes1 ?ank y v mu*1 or to a m =mal acqua9tance1 ,no1 ?ank y j ! same--,i h ord]$ taxis4 ,or %e c accept4 ,!re is no rule beyond h] own feel+s 9 ! matt]4 ,mr4 ,doe takes 8 gue/s to ! !at] 9 taxis4 ,! ,normans1 if only ! ,lovejoys are d9+ ) !m1 g 9 ,mrs4 ,norman's little t[n c>1 b if !re are to be six or eight1 ! ladies g 9 h] c> & ! g5tlem5 foll[ 9 a taxi4 7,unless ,mrs4 ,worldly or ,mrs4 ,gild+ are 9 ! p>ty & ord] _! c>s back47 ,,tickets ,,b\ght ,,9 ,,advance ,be=e invit+ anyone to g to a p>ticul> play1 a ho/ess mu/ be sure t good tickets are to be _h4 ,%e %\ld also try to get seats = a play t is new2 s9ce x is dull to take p to some?+ !y h already se54 ,?is is n difficult 9 cities :]e new plays come to t[n e week1 b 9 ,new ,york1 :]e ! same ones run = a ye> or m1 x is (t5 a *oice betwe5 an old good "o or a new "o t is poor4 ,if intimate fri5ds are com+1 a ho/ess usually asks !m :at !y want to see & tries to get tickets accord+ly4 ,x is really unnecess>y to add t "o mu/ nev] ask p to g to a place ( public amusem5t & !n /& 9 l9e to get seats at ! "t ( ! p]=mance4 ,,go+ ,,d[n ,,! ,,aisle ,,( ,a ,,!at] ,! ho/1 or :i*ev] g5tleman has ! tickets1 7if !re is no ho/1 ! ho/ess usually h&s !m to "o ( !1 g5tlem5 be=e leav+ h] h\se71 goes d[n ! aisle fir/ & gives ! *ecks to ! u%]1 & ! o!rs foll[ 9 ! ord] 9 :i* !y are to sit & :i* ! ho/ess mu/ direct4 ,x is necess>y t ea* kn[s :o foll[s :om1 p>ticul>ly if a !at] p>ty arrives aft] ! curta9 has gone up4 ,if ! ho/ess =gets1 ! gue/s always ask be=e troop+ d[n ! aisle ,h[ d y want u to sit8 ,= no?+ is m awkw>d & /upid ?an to block ! aisle at ! r[ :]e _! seats are1 :ile _! ho/ess sorts !m2 & worse yet1 9 h] ef=t to be polite1 s5ds ! ladies to _! seats fir/ & !n lets ! g5tlem5 /umble across !m to _! own places4 ,go+ d[n ! aisle is n a "q ( prec$5ce1 b a "q ( seat+4 ,! "o :o is to sit eigh? f ! aisle1 :e!r a lady or a g5tleman1 goes fir/1 !n ! sev5?1 !n ! six?1 & if ! g5tleman ) ! *ecks is fif?1 he goes 9 8 turn & ! f\r? foll[s him4 ,if a g5tleman & 8 wife g to ! !at] alone1 ! "q z to :o goes d[n ! aisle fir/ dep5ds on :]e ! u%] is4 ,if ! u%] takes ! *ecks at ! head ( ! aisle1 %e foll[s ! u%]4 ,o!rwise ! g5tleman goes fir/ ) ! *ecks4 ,:5 _! places are %[n him1 he /&s aside = 8 wife to take h] place fir/ & !n he takes 84 ,a lady nev] sits 9 ! aisle seat if %e is ) a g5tleman4 ,,good ,,mann]s ,,at ,,! ,,!at] ,9 pass+ across p :o are seat$1 always face ! /age & press z close to ! backs ( ! seats y are fac+ z y c4 ,rememb] also n to drag any?+ across ! heads ( ^? sitt+ 9 front ( y4 ,at ! mov+ pictures1 especially :5 x is d>k & difficult to see1 a coat on an arm pass+ beh9d a *air c lit]ally deva/ate ! hair-dress+ ( a lady occupy+ x4 ,if y are oblig$ to cross 9 front ( "s "o :o gets up to let y pass1 say ,?ank y1 or ,?ank y v mu* or ,i am v sorry4 ,d n say ,p>don me6 or ,beg p>don6 ,?\gh y c say ,i beg y\r p>don4 ,t1 h[ev]1 w\ld be m prop]ly ! expression to use if y bru%$ y\r coat ov] _! heads1 or spill$ wat] ov] !m1 or did some?+ to !m = :i* y %\ld actually beg _! p>don4 ,b ,beg p>don1 :i* is an abbreviation1 is "o ( ! phrases nev] said 9 be/ society4 ,g5tlem5 :o want to g out aft] e act %\ld always be sure to get aisle seats4 ,!re are no great] !at] pe/s ?an ^? :o come back aft] ! curta9 has gone up & tempor>ily snuff out ! view ( ev]yone beh9d1 z well z annoy ^? :o are oblig$ to /& up & let !m by4 ,betwe5 ! acts ne>ly all g5tlem5 g out & smoke at lea/ once1 b ^? w$g$ 9 f> f ! aisle1 :o file out e "t ! curta9 drops are utt]ly lack+ 9 consid]ation = o!rs4 ,if !re are five acts1 !y %\ld at mo/ g out = two entr'actes & ev5 !n be c>eful to come back be=e ! curta9 goes up4 ,,v ,,inconsid]ate ,,to ,,giggle ,,& ,,talk ,no?+ %[s less consid]ation = o!rs ?an to :isp] & rattle programmes & giggle & ev5 make audible rem>ks ?r\gh\t a p]=mance4 ,v "y p love to g to ! !at] 9 droves call$ !at] p>ties & absolutely ru9 ! ev5+ = o!rs :o happ5 to sit 9 front ( !m4 ,if ,m>y & ,johnny & ,susy & ,tommy want to talk & giggle1 :y n arrange *airs 9 r[s = !m 9 a draw+-room1 turn on a phonograph z an accompanim5t & let !m sit !re & *att]6 ,if ^? beh9d y insi/ on talk+ x is nev] good policy to turn ar\nd & gl>e4 ,if y are "y !y pay no att5tion1 & if y are old]--mo/ "y p ?9k an angry old] p]son ! funnie/ sight on e>?6 ,! small boy ?r[s a sn[ball at an eld]ly g5tleman = no o!r reason6 ,! only ?+ y c d is to say amiably3 ,i'm sorry1 b ,i c't he> any?+ :ile y talk4 ,if !y /ill p]si/1 y c ask an u%] to call ! manag]4 ,! s5tim5tal may z well realize t e ^w said above a :isp] is easily he>d by ^? sitt+ directly 9 front1 & ^? :o tell family or o!r private affairs might d well to rememb] ?is also4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 comp>atively few p are ev] any?+ b well behav$4 ,^? :o arrive late & /& long1 leisurely remov+ _! wraps1 & :o insi/ on laugh+ & talk+ are r>ely enc\nt]$2 mo/ p take _! seats z quietly & quickly z !y possibly c1 & are q z mu* int]e/$ 9 ! play & !re=e z att5tive & quiet z y are4 ,a v annoy+ p]son at ! movies is "o :o reads e caption out l\d4 ,,prop] ,,!at] ,,clo!s ,at ! ev5+ p]=mance 9 ,new ,york a lady we>s a d9n] dress2 a g5tleman a d9n] coat1 (t5 call$ a ,tux$o4 ,full dress is n correct1 b ^? go+ aft]w>ds to a ball c p]fectly well g to ! !at] fir/ if !y d n make !mselves conspicu\s4 ,a lady 9 a ball dress & _m jewels %\ld avoid elaborate hair ornam5tation & mu/ keep h] wrap1 or at lea/ a suffici5tly opaque sc>f1 ab\t h] %\ld]s to avoid attract+ p's att5tion4 ,a g5tleman 9 full dress is n conspicu\s4 ,& on ! subject ( !at] dress x might be t5tatively rem>k$ t pr9k+ & mak+ up 9 public are all "p ( an age :i* c n see fun 9 a f>ce )\t b$room sc5es & actors 9 pajamas1 & actresses runn+ ab\t 9 negligs ) _! hair d[n4 ,an audi5ce :i* night aft] night wat*es p dress+ & undress+ probably gets into an unconsci\s habit ( dress+ or pr9k+ itself4 ,9 o!r days x 0 always ?\ght t s mu* z to adju/ a hat-p9 or glance 9 a glass 0 lack ( bre$+4 ,e well br\ght up "y woman 0 taught t %e mu/ f9i% dress+ 9 h] b$*amb]4 ,b to-day "y wom5 9 !at]s1 re/aurants1 & o!r public places1 are cont9ually /udy+ _! reflection 9 little mirrors & patt+ _! hair & p[d]+ _! noses & fix+ ?is or adju/+ t 9 a way t 9 ,mrs4 ,oldname's girlhood w\ld h absolutely b>r$ !m f good society2 nor c ,mrs4 ,worldly or ,mrs4 ,oldname be imag9$ pre5+ & pr9k+ any:]e4 ,!y dress z c>efully & z beautifully z possible1 b :5 !y turn away f ! mirrors 9 _! dress+ rooms !y nev] look 9 a glass or take note ( _! appe>ance until !y dress aga94 ,& x mu/ be grant$ t ,lucy ,gild+1 ,con/ance ,/yle1 ,celia ,lovejoy1 ,m>y ,sm>tl+ton & ! o!r well-br$ memb]s ( ! y\ng] set d n put f9i%+ t\*es on _! faces 9 public--z yet6 ,,! ,,c\rtesy ,,( ,,s5d+ ,,tickets ,,e>ly ,mo/ p are at times oblig$ to take tickets = v>i\s *>ity ent]ta9m5ts--balls1 !atricals1 conc]ts or pageants--to :i*1 if !y d n c>e to g !mselves1 !y give away _! tickets4 ,^? :o int5d giv+ tickets %\ld rememb] t a message1 ,c y use two tickets = ! ,russian ballet to-night8 s5t at sev5 o'clock t same ev5+1 aft] ! ,lovejoys h settl$ !mselves = an ev5+ at home 7,celia hav+ decid$ n to curl h] hair & ,donald hav+ t morn+ s5t 8 only d9n] coat to be re-fac$7 c n give ! same pleasure t _! e>li] (f] w\ld h giv54 ,an op]a box s5t on ! morn+ ( ! op]a is worse1 s9ce to f9d f\r music-lov+ p to fill x on su* %ort notice at ! height ( ! season is an und]tak+ t few c>e to attempt4 ,a ,,big ,,!at] ,,p>ty ,a big !at] p>ty is "o ( ! favorite ent]ta9m5ts giv5 = a dbutante4 ,if fifty or m are to be ask$1 invitations are sometimes engrav$4 ,mrs4 ,topl(ty reque/s ! pleasure ( ,"n ( gue/ is writt5 on ?is l9e4 company at ! !at] & a small dance aft]w>d 9 honor ( h] great-niece ,miss ,millic5t ,gild+ on ,tuesday ! six? ( ,janu>y at half pa/ eight o'clock ,r4s4v4p4 ,b--& usually--! g5]al utility invitation 7see page #aah7 is fill$ 91 z foll[s3 ,,hw3 ,to meet ,miss ,millic5t ,gild+ ,mrs4 ,topl(ty reque/s ! pleasure ( ,,hw3 ,miss ,rosalie ,gray's company at ,,hw3 ! ,!at] & at a dance on ,,hw3 ,tuesday ! six? ( ,janu>y at ,,hw3 #h3ae ,r4s4v4p4 ,or notes 9 ei!r word+ above are writt5 by h&4 ,all ^? :o accept h a ticket s5t !m4 ,ea* ticket s5t a dbutante is accompani$ by a visit+ c>d on :i* is writt53 ,be 9 ! lobby ( ! ,com$y ,!at] at #h4ae4 ,ord] y\r motor to come = y at #jaj ,fif? ,av5ue at #a ,a4,m4 ,on ! ev5+ ( ! !at] p>ty1 ,mrs4 ,topl(ty h]self /&s 9 ! lobby to receive ! gue/s4 ,z soon z any :o are to sit next to ea* o!r h arriv$1 !y are s5t into ! !at]2 ea* gives h] 7or 87 ticket to an u%] & sits 9 ! place allot$ to h] 7or him74 ,x is well = ! ho/ess to h a seat plan = h] own use 9 case ?\ghtless "y p mix _! tickets all up & h& !m to an u%] 9 a bun*6 ,& yet--if !y d mix !mselves to _! own satisfaction1 %e w\ld bett] leave !m ?an attempt to di/urb a plan t may h _h m me?od 9 x ?an madness4 ,:5 ! la/ "y girl has arriv$1 ,mrs4 ,topl(ty goes into ! !at] h]self 7%e does n bo!r to wait = any boys71 & 9 ?is "o in/ance %e v likely sits 9 a /age box s z to keep h] eye on !m1 & ) h] %e has two or ?ree ( h] own fri5ds4 ,aft] ! !at]1 big motor busses drive !m all ei!r to ! h\se ( ! ho/ess or to a hotel = supp] & to dance4 ,if !y g to a hotel1 a small ballroom mu/ be engag$ & ! dance is a private "o2 x w\ld be consid]$ out ( place to take a lot ( v "y p to a public cab>et4 ,c>elessly *ap]on$ "y girls are sometimes1 x is true1 se5 9 v que/ionable places because "s ( ! s-call$ danc+ re/aurants are p]fectly fit & prop] = !m to g to2 _m o!r places h[ev]1 are n1 & = ! sake ( g5]al appe>ances x is saf] to make x a rule t no v "y girl %\ld g any:]e aft] ! !at] except to a private h\se or a private dance or ball4 ,old] p1 on ! o!r h&1 v (t5 g = a supp] to "o ( ! cab>ets = :i* ,new ,york is fam\s 7or infam\s871 or p]haps g to wat* a vaudeville p]=mance at midnight1 or dance1 or d bo? toge!r4 ,o!rs1 if !y are among ! great majority ( quiet p1 g home aft] ! !at]1 especially if !y h d9$ ) _! ho/ess 7or ho/7 be=e ! play4 ,,don',t ,,be ,,late ,:5 y are d9+ be=e go+ to ! op]a or !at] y mu/ arrive on ! /roke ( ! h\r = :i* y are ask$2 x is "o occasion :5 x is inexcusable to be late4 ,9 accept+ an invitation = lun* or d9n] aft] :i* y are go+ to a game1 or any sort ( p]=mance1 y mu/ n be late6 ,no?+ is m unfair to o!rs :o are ke5 ab\t :atev] x is y are go+ to see1 ?an to make !m miss ! beg9n+ ( a p]=mance ?r\gh y\r ?\ghtless selfi%ness4 ,= ?is reason box-hold]s :o are music-lov]s d n ask gue/s :o h ! late habit to d9e be=e ! op]a1 because exp]i5ce has taught !m !y w miss ! ov]ture & mo/ ( ! fir/ act if !y d4 ,^?1 on ! o!r h&1 :o c>e no?+ = music & g to ! op]a to see p & be se51 seldom g until mo/ if n all ( ! fir/ act is ov]4 ,b ^! 9 turn might give music-lov+ gue/s _! *oice ( go+ alone 9 "t = ! ov]ture & wait+ = !m 9 ! box at ! op]a1 or hav+ ! pleasure ( d9+ ) _! ho/ess b miss+ mo/ ( ! fir/ "p4 ,,at ,,games1 ,,! ,,circus ,,or ,,else:]e ,consid]ate & polite behavior by ea* memb] ( an audi5ce is ! same ev]y:]e4 ,at outdoor games1 or at ! circus1 x is n necess>y to /op talk+4 ,9 fact1 a good deal ( noise is n out ( ! way 9 root+ at a mat*1 & a circus b& does n dem& sil5ce 9 ord] to appreciate its *e]ful bl>e4 ,"o v great annoyance 9 op5 air ga!r+s is cig> smoke :5 bl[n directly 9 "o's face1 or worse yet ! smoke f a sm\ld]+ cig>4 ,x is almo/ wor?y ( a /udy 9 air curr5ts to discov] :y ) pl5ty ( space all ar\nd1 a t9y column ( smoke w make /raight = ! no/rils ( ! v "o mo/ nauseat$ by x6 ,! only o!r annoyance met ) at ball games or p>ades or :]ev] p occupy seats on ! gr&/&1 is :5 "s few 9 front get excit$ & insi/ on /&+ up4 ,if ^? 9 front /&--^? beh9d naturally h to6 ,g5]ally p call out d[n 9 front4 ,if !y won't /ay d[n1 !n all ^? beh9d h to /ay up4 ,also umbrellas & p>asols entirely blot out ! view ( ^? beh9d4 ,,*apt] ,,vii ,,conv]sation ,,ne$ ,,( ,,reciprocity ,ideal conv]sation %\ld be a matt] ( equal give & take1 b too (t5 x is all take4 ,! voluble talk]--or *att]]--rides 8 own hobby /raight ?r\gh ! h\rs )\t giv+ anyone else1 :o might also l to say some?+1 a *ance to d o!r ?an exhau/$ly await ! turn t nev] comes4 ,once 9 a :ile--a v long :ile--"o meets a brilliant p]son ^: talk is a delight2 or /ill m r>ely a wit :o manipulates e ord9>y topic ) ! agility ( a sleight-(-h& p]=m]1 to ! ev] increas+ rapture ( 8 li/5]s4 ,b z a rule ! man :o has be5 l$ to believe t he is a brilliant & int]e/+ talk] has be5 l$ to make himself a rapaci\s pe/4 ,no conv]sation is possible betwe5 o!rs ^: e>s are )9 rea* ( 8 pond]\s voice2 anecdotes1 long-w9d$ /ories1 dramatic & pa!tic1 /ock 8 rep]toire2 b wor/ ( all are 8 humor\s y>ns at :i* he laughs upro>i\sly ?\gh e "o else gr[s solemn & m solemn4 ,!re is a simple rule1 by :i* if "o is a voluble *att]] 7to be a good talk] necessitates a good m9d7 "o c at lea/ refra9 f be+ a pe/ or a bore4 ,& ! rule is m]ely1 to /op & ?9k4 ,,?9k ,,be=e ,,y ,,speak ,ne>ly all ! faults or mi/akes 9 conv]sation are caus$ by n ?9k+4 ,= in/ance1 a fir/ rule = behavior 9 society is3 ,try to d & say ^? ?+s only :i* w be agreeable to o!rs4 ,yet h[ _m p1 :o really "k bett]1 p :o are p]fectly capable ( intellig5t und]/&+ if !y didn't let _! bra9s rema9 asleep or lock$ tight1 g night aft] night to d9n] p>ties1 day aft] day to o!r social ga!r+s1 & abs5t-m9d$ly prate ab\t ?is or t )\t ev] tak+ ! tr\ble to ?9k :at !y are say+ & to :om !y are say+ x6 ,w\ld a "y "m describe tw5ty or ?irty cunn+ tricks & say+s ( ! baby to a ba*elor :o has be5 helplessly put beside h] at d9n] if %e ?\ght8 ,%e w\ld "k v well1 alas6 t n ev5 a v de> fri5d w\ld really c>e = m ?an a hors d'oeuvre ( ! subject1 at ! bo>d ( g5]al conv]sation4 ,! old] woman is ev5 worse1 unless some?+ occurs 7(t5 :5 x is too late7 to make h] wake up & realize t %e n only bores h] he>]s b prejudices ev]yone aga9/ h] *ildr5 by ! unre/ra9t ( h] own praise4 ,! daught] :o is cont9ually laud$ z ! mo/ captivat+ & beautiful girl 9 ! _w1 seems to ! we>i$ p]ceptions ( en=c$ li/5]s annoy+ & pla94 ,9 ! same way ! magnific5t son is h&icapp$ by 8 "m's--or 8 fa!r's--ov]we5+ pride & love 9 exact proportion to its display$ int5sity4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ! neglect$ wife1 ! unappreciat$ husb&1 ! misund]/ood *ild1 takes on a glamor 9 ! eyes ( o!rs equally out ( proportion4 ,t great love has seldom p]fect wisdom is "o ( ! great trag$ies 9 ! drama ( life4 ,9 ! case ( ! ov]lov+ wife or "m1 "s "o %\ld love h] en\gh to make h] /op & ?9k t h] lov+ praise is n m]ely a "q ( bor+ h] he>]s b ( h&icapp+ unfairly ^? = :om %e w\ld gladly lay d[n h] life--& yet few w\ld h ! c\rage to po9t out to h] t %e w\ld f> bett] lay d[n h] tongue4 ,! cynics say t ^? :o take "p 9 social conv]sation are b\nd to be ei!r ! bores or ! bor$2 & t :i* y *oose to be1 is a m]e matt] ( selection4 ,& !re mu/ be occasions 9 ! life ( ev]yone :5 ! cynics seem to be "r2 ! man ( affairs :o1 sitt+ next to an attractive look+ "y woman1 is regal$ ?r\gh\t d9n] ) ! detail$ accompli%m5ts ( ! "y woman's husb&2 ! woman ( intellect :o mu/ li/5 ) int]e/ to ! drool+s ( an especially prosy man :o holds =? on ! sup]-ev]y?+ ( 8 own possessions1 c n v well consid] t ! ev5+ 0 wor? dress+1 sitt+ up1 & go+ out =4 ,p :o talk too easily are apt to talk too mu*1 & at times imprud5tly1 & ^? ) vivid imag9ation are (t5 unreliable 9 _! /atem5ts4 ,on ! o!r h& ! man ( sil5ce :o nev] speaks except :5 he has some?+ wor? :ile to say1 is apt to we> well among 8 intimates1 b is n likely to add mu* to ! gaiety ( a p>ty4 ,try n to repeat y\rself2 ei!r by tell+ ! same /ory aga9 & aga9 or by go+ back ov] details ( y\r n>rative t seem$ especially to int]e/ or amuse y\r he>]4 ,_m ?+s are ( int]e/ :5 briefly told & = ! fir/ "t2 no?+ int]e/s :5 too long dwelt ^u2 little int]e/s t is told a second "t4 ,! exception is some?+ v pleasant t y h he>d ab\t ,a4 or m especially ,a4's *ild1 :i* hav+ already told ,a4 y c !n tell ,b41 & lat] ,c4 9 ,a4's pres5ce4 ,nev] d ?is z a habit1 h[ev]1 & nev] drag ! incid5t into ! conv]sation m]ely to flatt] ,a41 s9ce if ,a4 is a p]son ( ta/e1 he w be f> m apt to res5t ?an be pleas$ by flatt]y t bord]s on ! fulsome4 ,be c>eful n to let amiable discussion turn into contradiction & argum5t4 ,! tactful p]son keeps 8 prejudices to himself & ev5 :5 involv$ 9 a discussion says quietly ,no4 ,i don't ?9k ,i agree ) y or ,x seems to me ?us & s4 ,"o :o is well-br$ nev] says ,y are wrong6 or ,no?+ ( ! k9d6 ,if he f9ds ano!r's op9ion utt]ly oppos$ to 8 own1 he swit*es to ano!r subject = a pleasant] *annel ( conv]sation4 ,:5 "s "o is talk+ to y1 x is inconsid]ate to keep repeat+ ,:at did y say8 ,^? :o are deaf are (t51 oblig$ to ask t a s5t5ce be repeat$4 ,o!rwise _! irrelevant answ]s w\ld make !m appe> half-witt$4 ,b c\ntless p]sons ) p]fectly good he>+ say ,:at8 f =ce ( habit & c>eless inatt5tion4 ,,! ,,gift ,,( ,,humor ,! joy ( joys is ! p]son ( light b unmalici\s humor4 ,if y "k any "o :o is gay1 beguil+ & amus+1 y w1 if y are wise1 d ev]y?+ y c to make him pref] y\r h\se & y\r table to any o!r2 = :]e he is1 ! successful p>ty is also4 ,:at he says is ( no matt]1 x is ! twi/ he gives to x1 ! intonation1 ! p]sonality he puts into 8 quip or retort or obs]vation t delights 8 he>]s1 & 9 8 case ! ord9>y rules d n apply4 ,eug5e ,field c\ld tell a gr\p ( p t x _h ra9$ to-day & w\ld probably ra9 to-morr[1 & make ev]yone bur/ into laught]--or te>s if he *ose--accord+ to ! way x 0 said4 ,b ! ord9>y re/ ( u mu/1 if we w\ld be ?\ght sympa!tic1 intellig5t or agreeable1 g fi%+4 ,,go+ ,,fi%+ ,,= ,,topics ,! *>m+ talk] is nei!r m nor less ?an a fi%]man4 7,fi%]woman r1 s9ce 9 ,am]ica wom5 make m ef=t to be agreeable ?an m5 d47 ,sitt+ next to a /rang] %e wond]s :i* fly %e _h bett] *oose to int]e/ him4 ,%e (f]s "o topic2 n mu* ( a nibble4 ,s %e tries ano!r or p]haps a ?ird be=e he rises to ! bait4 ,,! ,,door ,,slamm]s ,!re are p ^: idea ( conv]sation is contradiction & flat /atem5t4 ,f9d+ y\rself next to "o ( ^!1 y v5ture3 ,h y se5 any good plays lately8 ,no1 hate ! !at]4 ,:i* team are y = 9 ! s]ies8 ,nei!r4 ,only an idiot c\ld be int]e/$ 9 baseball4 ,c\ntry mu/ h a good _m idiots6 mock+ly4 ,obvi\sly x has4 ,full /op4 ,9 desp]ation y ve] to ! p]sonal4 ,i've nev] se5 ,mrs4 ,bobo ,gild+ z beautiful z %e is to-night4 ,no?+ beautiful ab\t h]4 ,z = ! "n ',bobo1' x's as99e4 ,oh1 x's j "o ( ^? *ildr5's names t /ick sometimes = life4 ,p]fect rot4 ,ought to be call$ by 8 "n1 etc4 ,ano!r1 n v diff]5t 9 type ?\gh diff]5t 9 me?od1 is ! self-appo9t$ in/ructor ^: prop] place is on ! lecture plat=m1 n at a d9n] table4 ,! e>lie/ co9s /ruck 9 ! ,peloponnesus 7 /amp$ on "o side only2 _! alloy---- etc4 ,ano!r is ! exp\nd] ( ! obvi\s3 ,h y ev] notic$1 says he1 deeply ?9k+1 h[ p's ta/es diff]8 ,!n !re is ! vulg>ian ( fulsome complim5t3 ,:y are y s beautiful8 ,x is n fair to ! o!rs---- & s on4 ,,tactless ,,blund]]s ,tactless p are also legion4 ,! means-to-be-agreeable eld]ly man says to a passe acqua9tance1 ,tw5ty ye>s ago y 7 ! prettie/ woman 9 t[n2 or 9 ! pleasante/ tone ( voice to "o ^: only son has m>ri$4 ,:y is x1 d y suppose1 t "y wives always dislike _! mo!rs-9-law8 ,if y h any ambition to be s\ght aft] 9 society y mu/ n talk ab\t ! unattractiv5ess ( old age to ! eld]ly1 ab\t ! joys ( danc+ & skat+ to ! lame1 or ab\t ! advantages ( ance/ry to ! self-made4 ,x is also dang]\s1 z well z ne$lessly unk9d1 to ridicule or criticize o!rs1 especially = :at !y c't help4 ,if a "y woman's famili> or o!rwise lax behavior des]ves c5sure1 a casual unflatt]+ rem>k may n add to y\r own popul>ity if y\r li/5] is a relative1 b y c at lea/1 )\t be+ %amefac$1 /& by y\r guns4 ,on ! o!r h& to say ne$lessly ,:at an ugly girl6 or ,:at a half-wit t boy is6 c be ( no value except 9 draw+ att5tion to y\r own tactlessness4 ,! "y girl :o admir$ h] own facile adjectives said to a casual acqua9tance3 ,h[ c y g ab\t ) t mo?-eat51 squ9t-ey$1 bag ( a girl6 ,because1 answ]$ ! y\? :om %e _h int5d$ to dazzle1 ! lady ( y\r flatt]+ epi!ts happ5s to be my si/]4 ,x is sc>cely necess>y to say t "o ^: tactless rem>ks ride r\gh-%od ov] ! feel+s ( o!rs1 is n welcom$ by _m4 ,,! ,,bore ,a bore is said to be "o :o talks ab\t himself :5 y want to talk ab\t y\rself6 :i* is sup]ficially true en\gh1 b a bore might m accurately be describ$ z "o :o is int]e/$ 9 :at does n int]e/ y1 & insi/s t y %>e 8 en?usiasm1 9 spite ( y\r dis9cl9ation4 ,to ! bore life holds no dullness2 e subject is ( un5d+ delight4 ,a /ory told = ! ?\s&? "t has n lo/ its ?rill2 e tiresome detail is held up & turn$ ab\t z a morsel ( delectabl5ess2 to him ea* pea 9 a pod diff]s f ano!r ) ! entranc+ v>iety t arti/s f9d 9 tropical sunsets4 ,on ! o!r h&1 to be bor$ is a bad habit1 & "o only too easy to fall into4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 x is impossible1 almo/1 to meet anyone :o has n some?+ ( int]e/ to tell y if y are b clev] en\gh y\rself to f9d out :at x is4 ,!re are c]ta9 always delightful p :o refuse to be bor$4 ,_! attitude is t no subject ne$ ev] be utt]ly un9t]e/+1 s long z x is discuss$ = ! fir/ "t4 ,repetition alone is deadly dull4 ,besides1 :at is ! matt] ) try+ to be agreeable y\rself8 ,n too agreeable4 ,alas6 x is true3 ,be polite to bores & s %all y h bores always r\nd ab\t y4 ,fur!rmore1 !re is no reason :y y %\ld be bor$ :5 y c be o!rwise4 ,b if y f9d y\rself sitt+ 9 ! h$g][ ) no?+ b we$s1 !re is no reason = %utt+ y\r eyes & see+ no?+1 in/ead ( f9d+ :at beauty y may 9 ! we$s4 ,to put x cynically1 life is too %ort to wa/e x 9 draw+ blanks4 ,!re=e1 x is up to y to f9d z _m pictures to put on y\r blank pages z possible4 ,a ,,few ,,important ,,details ,,( ,,spee* ,,9 ,,conv]sation ,unless y wi% to /amp y\rself a p]son :o has nev] be5 out ( prov9cial society1 nev] speak ( y\r husb& z ,mr4 except to an inf]ior4 ,mrs4 ,worldly = in/ance 9 talk+ ) a /rang] w\ld say my husb&1 & to a fri5d1 mean+ "o n only :om %e calls by h] fir/ "n1 b anyone on h] d9n] li/1 %e says1 ,dick ?\ght ! play amus+ or ,dick said----4 ,?is does n give h] li/5] ! privilege ( call+ him ,dick4 ,! li/5] 9 return speaks ( h] own husb& z ,tom ev5 if he is sev5ty--unless h] he>] is a v "y p]son 7ei!r man or woman71 :5 %e w\ld say my husb&4 ,nev] ,mr4 ,old]4 ,to call y\r husb& ,mr4 means t y consid] ! p]son y are talk+ to1 b5ea? y 9 /ation4 ,mr4 ,worldly 9 ! same way speaks ( ,mrs4 ,worldly z my wife to a g5tleman1 or ,edi? 9 speak+ to a lady4 ,always4 ,9 speak+ ab\t o!r p1 "o says ,mrs41 ,miss or ,mr4 z ! case may be4 ,x is bad =m to g ab\t say+ ,edi? ,worldly or ,e!l ,norman to ^? :o d n call !m ,edi? or ,e!l1 & to speak ?us famili>ly ( "o :om y d n call by h] fir/ "n1 is un=givable4 ,x is also effront]y = a y\ng] p]son to call an old] by h] or 8 fir/ "n1 )\t be+ ask$ to d s4 ,only a v und]br$1 ?ick-sk9n$ p]son w\ld attempt x4 ,also y mu/ n take y\r conv]sation out ( ! draw+-room4 ,op]ations1 ills or p]sonal blemi%es1 details & appurt5ances ( ! dress+-room1 = in/ance1 are nei!r suitable nor pleasant topics1 nor are p]sonal jokes 9 good ta/e4 ,,! ,,omnisci5ce ,,( ,,! ,,v ,,ri* ,:y a man1 because he has millions1 %\ld assume t !y conf] omnisci5ce 9 all bran*es ( k1 is some?+ :i* may be left to ! psy*ologi/ to answ]1 b mo/ ( ^? ?r[n mu* 9 contact ) millionaires w agree t an attitude ( infallibility is typical ( a fair majority4 ,a pr(essor :o has devot$ 8 life to a subject mode/ly makes a /atem5t4 ,y are all wrong1 says ! man ( millions1 ,x is ?is way----4 ,z a connoisseur he seems to ?9k t because he c pay = any?+ he fancies1 he is accr$it$ exp]t z well z pot5tial own]4 ,topics he does n c>e = are bo%1 ^? :i* he has a smatt]+ (1 he simply appropriates2 8 prejudices are1 9 8 op9ion1 exp]t criticism2 8 ta/e impeccable2 8 judgm5t infallible2 & to him ! _w is a pleasance built = 8 sole pleasur+4 ,b to ! re/ ( u :o also h to live 9 x ) z mu* h>mony z we c1 su* p]sons are c]ta9ly elephants at l>ge 9 ! g>d54 ,we c sometimes induce !m to pass ?r\gh g5tly1 b !y are j z likely at any mom5t to pull up our f5ces & pu% ! h\se itself ov] on our def5seless heads4 ,!re are c\ntless o!rs ( c\rse1 v (t5 ! ri*e/ ( all1 :o are au?oritative 9 all !y pr(ess1 :o are exp]ts & connoisseurs1 :o are human & helpful & above ev]y?+ respect]s ( ! g>d5 enclosure ( o!rs4 ,,dang]s ,,to ,,be ,,avoid$ ,9 conv]sation ! dang]s are v mu* ! same z ^? to be avoid$ 9 writ+ lett]s4 ,talk ab\t ?+s :i* y ?9k w be agreeable to y\r he>]4 ,don't dilate on ills1 mis=tune1 or o!r unpleasantnesses4 ,! "o 9 greate/ dang] ( mak+ enemies is ! man or woman ( brilliant wit4 ,if %>p1 wit is apt to produce a feel+ ( mi/ru/ ev5 :ile x /imulates4 ,fur!rmore ! applause :i* foll[s e witty sally becomes 9 "t brea? to ! no/rils1 & p]fectly well-int5tion$1 p1 :o mean to say no?+ unk9d1 9 ! fla% ( a second see a po9t1 & 9 ! next second1 score x ) no m p[] to resi/ ?an a drug addict c resi/ a dose put into 8 h&6 ,! mimic is a joy to 8 pres5t company1 b ! ecc5tric mann]ism ( "o is mu* easi] to imitate ?an ! *>m ( ano!r1 & ! subjects ( ! habitual mimic are all too apt to become 8 enemies4 ,y ne$ n1 h[ev]1 be dull because y refra9 f ! rank habit ( a critical attitude1 :i* l a we$ w gr[ all ov] ! place if y let x h half a *ance4 ,a v good resolve to make & keep1 if y w\ld also keep any fri5ds y make1 is nev] to speak ( anyone )\t1 9 imag9ation1 hav+ !m ov]he> :at y say4 ,"o (t5 he>s ! exclamation ,i w\ld say x to h] face6 ,at lea/ be v sure t ?is is true1 & n a bragg>t's phrase & !n--n9e times out ( t5 ?9k bett] ( x & refra94 ,prea*+ is all v well 9 a text-book1 s*oolroom or pulpit1 b x has no place 9 society4 ,society is suppos$ to be a pleasant place2 tell+ p disagreeable ?+s to _! faces or beh9d _! backs is n a pleasant occupation4 ,d n be too app>5tly clev] if y w\ld be popul>4 ,! clev]e/ woman is %e :o1 9 talk+ to a man1 makes him seem clev]4 ,?is 0 ,mme4 ,recami]'s great *>m4 ,a ,,few ,,maxims ,,= ,,^? ,,:o ,,talk ,,too ,,mu*--,,& ,,easily6 ,! faults ( commission are f> m s]i\s ?an ^? ( omission2 regrets are seldom = :at y left unsaid4 ,! *att]] reveals e corn] ( 8 %all[ m9d2 "o :o keeps sil5t c n h 8 dep? plumb$4 ,don't pret5d to "k m ?an y d4 ,to say y h read a book & !n seem+ly to und]/& no?+ ( :at y h read1 proves y a half-wit4 ,only ! v small m9d hesitates to say ,i don't "k4 ,above all1 /op & ?9k :at y are say+6 ,?is is really ! fir/1 la/ & only rule4 ,if y /op y c't *att] or exp\nd or fl\nd] ceaselessly1 & if y ?9k1 y w f9d a topic & a mann] ( pres5t+ y\r topic s t y\r neighbor w be int]e/$ r ?an long-suff]+4 ,rememb] also t ! sympa!tic 7n apa!tic7 li/5] is ! delight ( delights4 ,! p]son :o looks glad to see y1 :o is seem+ly eag] = y\r news1 or en?rall$ ) y\r conv]sation2 :o looks at y ) a k9dl+ ( ! face1 & gives y spontane\s & undivid$ att5tion1 is ! "o to :om ! palm = ! art ( conv]sation w\ld und\bt$ly be aw>d$4 ,,*apt] ,,viii ,,words1 ,,phrases ,,& ,,pronunciation ,,phrases ,,avoid$ ,,9 ,,good ,,society ,x is difficult to expla9 :y well-br$ p avoid c]ta9 words & expressions t are admitt$ by etymology & gramm>4 ,s x mu/ be m]ely /at$ t !y h & und\bt$ly always w avoid !m4 ,moreov]1 ?is *oice ( expression is n set =? 9 any pr9t$ guide or book on ,engli%1 ?\gh x is foll[$ 9 all lit]ature4 ,to lik5 ,be/ ,society to a frat]nity1 ) ! avoidance ( c]ta9 seem+ly unimportant words z ! sign ( recognition1 is n a fanta/ic simile4 ,p ( ! fa%ionable _w inv>iably use c]ta9 expressions & in/9ctively avoid o!rs2 !re=e :5 a /rang] uses an avoid$ "o he proclaims t he does n belong1 exactly z a pret5d$ ,freemason proclaims himself an outsid] by giv+ ! wrong grip--or :atev] x is by :i* ,bro!r ,masons recognize "o ano!r4 ,p ( position are p ( position ! _w ov]--& by _! spee* are mo/ readily kn[n4 ,appe>ance on ! o!r h& (t5 passes mu/]4 ,a %[-girl may be lovely to look at z %e /&s 9 a seem+ly un/udi$ position & 9 p]fect clo!s4 ,b let h] say ,my ,gawd6 or ,w\ldn't t j> y6 & :]e is h] lovel9ess !n8 ,& yet1 & ?is is ! difficult "p ( ! subject to make cle>1 ! mo/ vulg> slang l t quot$ above1 is sc>cely worse ?an ! attempt$ elegance :i* ^? unus$ to good society imag9e to be ! evid5ce ( cultivation4 ,p :o say ,i come1 & ,i se5 x1 & ,i done x prove by _! lack ( gramm> t !y _h little education 9 _! y\?4 ,un=tunate1 v2 b !y may at ! same "t be brilliant1 exceptional *>act]s1 lov$ by ev]yone :o kn[s !m1 because !y are :at !y seem & no?+ else4 ,b ! c>icature lady ) ! comic picture society mann] :o says ,p>don me & talks ( retir+1 & resid+1 & desir+1 & be+ acqua9t$ )1 & att5d+ ?is & t ) h] escort1 & curls h] little f+] ov] ! h&le ( h] teacup1 & prates ( culture1 does n belong to ,be/ ,society1 & nev] w6 ,! (f5se ( pret5ti\sness is committ$ (t5] p]haps by wom5 ?an by m51 :o are usually m natural & direct4 ,a g5u9e1 s9c]e1 k9dly ,am]ican man--or woman--c g any:]e & be welcom$ by ev]yone1 provid$ ( c\rse1 t he is a man ( ability & intellect4 ,"o f9ds him all ov] ! _w1 nei!r ap+ ! mann]s ( o!rs nor tread+ on ! s5sibilities ( ^? less =tunate ?an himself4 ,occasionally too1 !re appe>s 9 ,be/ ,society a prov9cial 9 ^: conv]sation is p]ceptible ! influ5ce ( mu* read+ ( ! ,bible4 ,su* are seldom if ev] /ilt$ or pomp\s or long-word$1 b are inv>iably di/+ui%$ = ! simplicity & dignity ( _! ,engli%4 ,!re is no bett] way to cultivate ta/e 9 words1 ?an by con/antly read+ ! be/ ,engli%4 ,none ( ! words & expressions :i* are taboo 9 good society w be f\nd 9 books ( prov$ lit]>y /&+4 ,b x mu/ n be =gott5 t !re c be a va/ diff]5ce betwe5 lit]>y /&+ & popul>ity1 & t _m ( ! be/ sell]s h no lit]>y m]it :atsoev]4 ,to be able to sep>ate be/ ,engli% f m]ely good ,engli% ne$s a long process ( special education1 b to recognize bad ,engli% "o ne$ m]ely skim ?r\gh a page ( a book1 & if a s+le expression 9 ! left-h& column foll[+ c be f\nd 7unless purposely quot$ 9 illu/ration ( vulg>ity7 x is q c]ta9 t ! au?or nei!r writes be/ ,engli% nor belongs to ,be/ ,society4 ,,nev] ,,say3 ,,correct ,,=m3 ,9 our resid5ce we retire ,at our h\se we g to b$ e>ly 7or arise7 e>ly 7or get up7 ,i desire to pur*ase ,i %\ld l to buy ,make y acqua9t$ ) 7,see ,introductions7 ,p>don me6 ,i beg y\r p>don4 ,or1 ,excuse me6 ,or1 sorry6 ,lovely food ,good food ,elegant home ,beautiful h\se--or place ,a /yli% dress] ,%e dresses well1 or %e we>s lovely clo!s ,*>m$6 or ,pleas$ to ,h[ d y d6 meet y6 ,att5d$ ,w5t to ,i tru/ ,i am n trespass+ ,i hope ,i am n 9 ! way 7unless trespass+ on private prop]ty is actually meant7 ,reque/ 7mean+ ask7 ,us$ only 9 ! ?ird p]son 9 =mal writt5 invitations4 ,w y accord me p]mission8 ,w y let me8 or ,may ,i8 ,p]mit me to assi/ y ,let me help y ,bra9y ,brilliant or clev] ,i presume ,i suppose ,t5d]$ him a banquet ,gave him a d9n] ,conv]se ,talk ,p>took ( liquid refre%m5t ,_h some?+ to dr9k ,p]=m ablutions ,wa% ,a song entitl$ ,call$ 7prop] if us$ 9 legal s5se7 ,i w asc]ta9 ,i w f9d out ,resid5ce or mansion ,h\se1 or big h\se ,9 ! home ,9 "s "o's h\se or ,at home ,phone1 photo1 auto ,telephone1 photograph1 automobile ,t9t9nabul>y summons1 mean+ bell1 & ,bov9e cont9uation1 mean+ c['s tail1 are m amus+ ?an (f5sive1 b !y illu/rate ! !ory ( bad /yle t is pret5ti\s4 ,z examples ( ! v wor/ (f5ses t c be committ$1 ! foll[+ are (f]$3 ,pray1 accept my ?anks = ! flatt]+ ovation y h t5d]$ me4 ,yes1 says ! prepo/]\s bride1 ,i am ! recipi5t ( _m admir$ & highly priz$ gifts4 ,w y p]mit me to recall myself to y8 ,speak+ ( bridesmaids z pretty s]vitors1 disp5s+ hospitality1 ask+ any "o to /ep ?is way4 ,_m o!r expressions are prov9cial & "o :o seeks purity ( spee* %\ld1 if possible1 avoid !m1 b z (f5ses !y are m9or3 ,reckon1 guess1 calculate1 or figure1 mean+ ?9k4 ,all[1 mean+ agree4 ,folks1 mean+ family4 ,cute1 mean+ pretty or w9some4 ,well1 ,i decl>e6 ',pon my ^w6 ,box p>ty1 mean+ sitt+ 9 a box at ! !at]4 ,visit+ )1 mean+ talk+ to4 ,!re are c]ta9 words :i* h be5 s+l$ out & misus$ by ! undiscrim9at+ until _! value is de/roy$4 ,long ago elegant 0 turn$ f a ^w d5ot+ ! ess5ce ( ref9em5t & beauty1 into gaudy trump]y4 ,ref9$ is on ! v]ge4 ,b ! p>iah ( ! language is culture6 ,a ^w r>ely us$ by ^? :o truly possess x1 b s con/antly misus$ by ^? :o und]/& no?+ ( its mean+1 t x is becom+ a synonym = vulg>ity & imitation4 ,to speak ( ! prop] use ( a f+] b[l or ! ability to introduce two p )\t a blund] z be+ evid5ce ( culture ( ! highe/ degree is precisely z ?\gh evid5ce ( highe/ education 7 claim$ = :o ev] c d sums 9 addition1 & read words ( "o syllable4 ,culture 9 its true mean+ is wide/ possible education1 plus especial ref9em5t & ta/e4 ,! fact t slang is apt & =ceful makes its use irresi/ibly tempt+4 ,co>se or pr(ane slang is beside ! m>k1 b flivv]1 taxi1 ! movies1 deadly 7mean+ dull71 feel+ fit1 feel+ blue1 graft]1 a fake1 gr\*1 hun* & "r o6 are typical ( words t x w\ld make our spok5 language /ilt$ to exclude4 ,all colloquial expressions are little foxes t spoil ! grapes ( p]fect diction1 b !y are v little foxes2 x is ! false elegance ( /upid pret5ti\sness t is an annihilat+ blight :i* de/roys root & v9e4 ,9 ! *oice ( words1 we c h>dly f9d a bett] guide ?an ! l9es ( ,alex&] ,pope3 ,9 words1 z fa%ions1 ! same rule w hold2 ,alike fanta/ic1 if too new1 or old3 ,be n ! fir/ by :om ! new are tri$1 ,nor yet ! la/ to lay ! old aside4 ,,pronunciation ,traits ( pronunciation :i* are typical ( :ole sections ( ! c\ntry1 or acc5ts inh]it$ f ,european p>5ts mu/ n be confus$ ) crude pronunciations t h _! orig9 9 illit]acy4 ,a g5tleman ( ,iri% blood may h a brogue z ri* z plum cake1 or ano!r's acc5t be s(t ,s\!rn or flat ,new ,engl&1 or roll+ ,we/]n2 & to ea* ( ^! ! utt]ance ( ! o!rs may s\nd too flat1 too s(t1 too h>%1 too ref9$1 or drawl$1 or clipp$ %ort1 b n uncultivat$4 ,to a ,new ,york e>1 :i* ought to be fairly unbias$ s9ce ! ,new ,york acc5t is a composite ( all acc5ts1 ,engli% wom5 *irrup & twitt]4 ,b ! beautifully modulat$1 cle>-clipp$ enunciation ( a cultivat$ ,engli%man1 "o :o c move 8 jaws & n swall[ 8 words :ole1 comes z ne> to p]fection 9 ,engli% z ! diction ( ! ,comdie ,franaise comes to p]fection 9 ,fr5*4 ,! ,bo/on acc5t is v crisp & 9 places sugge/ive ( ! be/ ,engli% b ! v[els are s curi\sly flatt5$ t ! spee* has a saltless effect4 ,!re is no rhym+ ^w z flat z ! way !y say he>t--haht4 ,& bone & coat--bawn1 cawt1 to rhyme ) awe6 ,!n ,s\?1 !re is too mu* salt--r too mu* sug>4 ,e "o's m\? seems full ( x1 ) ,i turn$ to ah & e /accato a drawl4 ,b ! voices are full ( sweetness & music unkn[n nor? ( ! ,potomac4 ,! ,p5nsylvania burr is p]haps ! "m ( ! ,we/]n "o4 ,x is /rong en\gh to h mo!r$ all ! r's 9 ! wor-r-rld6 ,philadelphia's ha[ & ca[ = h[ & c[1 & me = my is q z bad z ! wat]-r & ?ot ( ! ,we/4 ,n',yawk is suppos$ to say yeh & ,omurica & ,toosdeh1 & pudd9'4 ,probably five p] c5t4 ( x does1 b z a :ole x has no acc5t1 s9ce x is a composite ( all 9 "o4 ,9 be/ ,new ,york society !re is p]haps a g5]ally accept$ pronunciation :i* seems *iefly an elim9ation ( ! acc5ts ( o!r sections4 ,probably t is :at all p ?9k ( _! own pronunciation4 ,or d !y n "k1 :e!r _! inflection is "r or wrong8 ,no?+ %\ld be simpl] to det]m9e4 ,if !y pron\nce accord+ to a /&>d diction>y1 !y are correct2 if !y don't1 !y h an acc5t or are ignorant2 x is = !m to det]m9e :i*4 ,su* diff]5ces z betwe5 say+ wa% or waw%1 adv]tisem5t or adv]tisem5t are ( small importance4 ,b no "o :o makes ! lea/ pret5ce ( be+ a p]son ( education says3 kep = kept1 g5elmun or gempmun or laydee1 vawde-vil1 or eye-talian4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,cultivate ,,an ,,agreeable ,,spee* ,fir/ ( all1 rememb] t :ile affectation is odi\s1 crud5ess mu/ be ov]come4 ,a l[ voice is always pleas+1 n :isp]$ or murmur$1 b l[ 9 pit*4 ,d n talk at ! top ( y\r head1 nor at ! top ( y\r lungs4 ,d n slur :ole s5t5ces toge!r2 on ! o!r h&1 d n pron\nce z ?\gh ea* syllable 7 a sep>ate tongue & lip ex]cise4 ,z a nation we d n talk s mu* too fa/1 z too l\d4 ,t5s ( ?\s&s twang & slur & %\t & burr6 ,_m ( u drawl & _m o!rs ( u race tongues & brea? at full spe$1 b1 z already said1 ! spe$ ( our spee* does n matt] s mu*4 ,pit* ( voice matt]s v mu* & s does pronunciation--enunciation is n s ess5tial--except to "o :o speaks 9 public4 ,enunciation means ! articulation ( :atev] y h to say di/9ctly & cle>ly4 ,pronunciation is ! prop] s\nd+ ( consonants1 v[els & ! acc5tuation ( ea* syllable4 ,!re is no bett] way to cultivate a p]fect pronunciation2 ap>t f association ) cultivat$ p1 ?an by gett+ a small pron\nc+ diction>y ( words 9 ord9>y use1 & read+ x ^w by ^w1 m>k+ & /udy+ any t y use frequ5tly & mispron\nce4 ,:5 y "k !m1 !n read any book at r&om sl[ly al\d to y\rself1 v c>efully pron\nc+ ea* ^w4 ,! consci\sness ( ?is ex]cise may make y /ilt$ 9 conv]sation at fir/1 b by & by ! s5se or impulse to speak correctly w come4 ,?is is a me?od t has be5 foll[$ by _m m5 h&icapp$ 9 y\? ?r\gh lack ( education1 :o h become prom95t 9 public life1 & by _m wom51 :o likewise h&icapp$ by circum/ances1 h n only made possible a cr$itable position = !mselves1 b h !n giv5 _! *ildr5 ! ine/imable advantage ( le>n+ _! "m tongue correctly at _! "m's knee4 ,,*apt] ,,ix ,,"o',s ,,position ,,9 ,,! ,,community ,,! ,,*oice ,fir/ ( all1 x is necess>y to decide :at "o's p]sonal idea ( position is1 :e!r ?is ^w sugge/s m]ely a social "o1 compris+ a l>ge or an exclusive acqua9tance & lead]%ip 9 social gaiety1 or position e/abli%$ ^u ! f\ndation ( communal consequ5ce1 :i* may1 or may n1 include great social gaiety4 ,9 o!r words1 y :o are e/abli%+ y\rself1 ei!r z a "y husb& or a /rang]1 w\ld y1 if y c\ld h y\r wi% grant$ by a g5ie1 *oose to h ! populace look ^u y askance & 9 awe1 because ( y\r weal? & elegance1 or w\ld y wi% to be lov$1 n z a p[] conf]r+ favors :i* belong really to ! fir/ picture1 b z a fell[-be+ ) an und]/&+ he>t8 ,! grant+ ( ei!r wi% is n a bit beyond ! possibilities ( anyone4 ,x is m]ely a "q ( deposit+ securities ( value 9 ! bank ( life4 ,,! ,,bank ,,( ,,life ,life1 :e!r social or bus9ess1 is a bank 9 :i* y deposit c]ta9 funds ( "*1 intellect & he>t2 or o!r funds ( egotism1 h>d-he>t$ness & unconc]n2 or deposit--no?+6 ,& ! bank honors y\r deposit1 & no m4 ,9 o!r words1 y c draw no?+ out b :at y h put 94 ,if y\r community is to give y admiration & honor1 x is m]ely necess>y to be admirable & honorable4 ,! m y put 91 ! m w be paid out to y4 ,x is too trite to put on pap]6 ,b x is a/oni%+1 isn't x1 h[ _m p :o are deposit+ no?+ :atev]1 expect to be paid 9 admiration & respect8 ,a man ( really high position is always a great citiz5 fir/ & above all4 ,o!rwise he is a holl[ puppet :e!r he is a millionaire or has sc>cely a dime to bless himself )4 ,9 ! same way1 a woman's social position t is built on %am1 vanity1 & selfi%ness1 is l "o ( ! build+s at an exposition2 effective at fir/ sight1 b b\nd :5 slightly wea!r-beat5 to %[ /ucco & glue4 ,x w\ld be v presumptu\s to attempt to tell any man h[ to acquire ! highe/ position 9 8 community1 especially z ! answ] is writt5 9 8 he>t1 8 intellect1 8 altrui/ic sympa?y1 & 8 ard5t civic pride4 ,a subject1 h[ev]1 t is n s s]i\s or ov]-awe+1 & :i* c p]haps h directions writt5 = x1 is ! less] ambition ( acquir+ a social position4 ,,tak+ ,,or ,,acquir+ ,a ,,social ,,position ,a bride ^: family or family-9-law has social position has m]ely to take t :i* is h]s by inh]itance2 b a /rang] :o comes to live 9 a new place1 or "o :o has always liv$ 9 a community b unkn[n to society1 h bo? to acquire a /&+ ( _! own4 ,= example3 ,,! ,,bride ,,( ,,good ,,family ,! bride ( good family ne$ d no?+ on h] own initiative4 ,aft] h] m>riage :5 %e settles d[n 9 h] own h\se or ap>tm5t1 ev]yone :o 0 ask$ to h] w$d+ breakfa/ or reception1 & ev5 _m :o 7 only bidd5 to ! *ur*1 call on h]4 ,%e keeps _! c>ds1 ent]s !m 9 a visit+ or ord9>y alphabetically index$ blank book1 & )9 two weeks %e returns ea* "o ( _! calls4 ,z x is etiquette = ev]yone :5 call+ = ! fir/ "t on a bride1 to ask if %e is 91 ! bride1 9 return+ h] fir/ calls1 %\ld d likewise4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 a bride assumes ! intimate visit+ li/ ( bo? h] own & h] husb&'s families1 :e!r !y call on h] or n4 ,by & by1 if %e gives a g5]al tea or ball1 %e c invite :om1 among !m1 %e wants to4 ,%e %\ld n1 h[ev]1 ask any m]e acqua9tances ( h] family to h] h\se1 until !y h fir/ invit$ h] & h] husb& to !irs4 ,b if %e w\ld l to invite intimate fri5ds ( h] own or ( h] husb&1 or ( h] family1 !re is no valid reason :y %e %\ld n d s4 ,usually :5 a bride & groom return f _! w$d+ trip1 all _! p]sonal fri5ds & ^? ( _! respective p>5ts1 give p>ties = !m4 ,& f be+ se5 at "o h\se1 !y are invit$ to ano!r4 ,if !y g n[h]e1 !y d n lose position b !y are apt to be ov]look$ until p rememb] !m by see+ !m4 ,b x is n at all necess>y = "y p to ent]ta9 9 ord] to be ask$ out a great deal2 !y ne$ m]ely be attractive & h engag+ mann]s to be z popul> z he>t c\ld wi%4 ,b !y mu/ make x a po9t to be consid]ate ( ev]yone & nev] fail to take ! tr\ble to g up ) a smil+ ,h[ d y d to e old] lady :o has be5 c\rte\s en\gh to invite !m to h] h\se4 ,t is n toady+1 x is be+ m]ely polite4 ,to g up & gu% is a v diff]5t matt]1 & to g up & gu% ov] a prom95t ho/ess :o has nev] invit$ !m to h] h\se1 is toady+ & ( a v *eap v>iety4 ,a really well-br$ p]son is z *>m+ z possible to all1 b effusive to none1 & %[s no diff]5ce 9 mann] ei!r1 to ! high or to ! l[ly :5 !y are ( equally =mal acqua9tance4 ,,! ,,bride ,,:o ,,is ,a ,,/rang] ,! bride :o is a /rang]1 b ^: husb& is well kn[n 9 ! t[n to :i* he br+s h]1 is 9 mu* ! same position z ! bride not$ above1 9 t h] husb&'s fri5ds call on h]2 %e returns _! visits1 & _m ( !m invite h] to _! h\se4 ,b x !n devolves ^u h] to make h]self lik$1 o!rwise %e w f9d h]self 9 a community ( _m acqua9tances b no fri5ds4 ,! be/ +r$i5ts = likeabl5ess are a happy expression ( c\nt5ance1 an unaffect$ mann]1 & a sympa!tic attitude4 ,if %e is s =tunate z to possess ^! attributes h] pa? w h roses en\gh4 ,b a "y woman ) an affect$ pose & bad or conceit$ mann]s1 w f9d pl5ty ( ?orns4 ,equally unsuccessful is %e ) a *ip-on-h]-%\ld] :o1 com+ f ,new ,york = in/ance1 to live 9 ,brightmead[s1 insi/s ^u dragg+ ,new ,york sky-scrap]s into e comp>ison ) ,brightmead[s' new six-/ori$ build+4 ,%e might bett] pack h] trunks & g back :]e %e came f4 ,nor %\ld ! bride f ,brightmead[s :o has m>ri$ a ,new ,york]1 flaunt ,brightmead[s /&>ds or cu/oms1 & tell ,mrs4 ,worldly t %e does n approve ( a lady's smok+6 ,maybe %e doesn't & %e may be q "r1 & %e %\ld n "u ! circum/ances smoke h]self2 b %e %\ld n make a display ( intol]ance1 or %e1 too1 _h bett] take ! fir/ tra9 back home1 s9ce %e is likely to f9d ,new ,york v1 v lonely4 ,,h[ ,,total ,,/rang]s ,,acquire ,,social ,,/&+ ,:5 new p move into a community1 br++ lett]s ( introduction to prom95t citiz5s1 !y arrive ) an already made position1 :i* ranks 9 direct proportion to ! /&+ ( ^? :o wrote ! introductions4 ,s9ce1 h[ev]1 no "o b p]sons ( position are eligible to lett]s ( importance1 !re w\ld be no "q ( acquir+ position--:i* !y h--b m]ely ( add+ to _! acqua9tance4 ,z said 9 ano!r *apt]1 p ( position are p ( position ! _w ov]1 & all ! cities /rung ar\nd ! :ole globe are l s _m *apt]-h\ses ( a bro!rhood1 to :i* lett]s ( introduction op5 ! doors4 ,h[ev]1 ?is is (f ! subject1 :i* is to advise ^? :o h no position1 or lett]s1 h[ to acquire ! =m]4 ,x is a long & sl[ road to travel1 p>ticul>ly long & sl[ = a man & 8 wife 9 a big city4 ,9 ,new ,york p c\ld live 9 ! same h\se = g5]ations1 & d1 & n h _! next door neighbor "k !m ev5 by sight4 ,b no o!r city1 except ,london1 is z unaw>e z t4 ,:5 p move to a new city1 or t[n1 x is usually because ( bus9ess4 ,! husb& at lea/ makes bus9ess acqua9tances1 b ! wife is left alone4 ,! only ?+ = h] to d is to jo9 ! *ur* ( h] d5om9ation1 & become int]e/$ 9 "s activity2 n only z an op5+ w$ge to acqua9tance%ips & possibly intimate fri5d%ips1 b z an occupation & a respite f lonel9ess4 ,h] social position is ga9$ usually at a snail's pace--nor %\ld %e d any?+ to hurry x4 ,if %e is a real p]son1 if %e has qualities ( m9d & he>t1 if %e has *>m+ mann]s1 soon] or lat] a c]ta9 position w come1 & 9 proportion to h] eligibility4 ,"o ( ! ladies ) :om %e works 9 *ur*1 hav+ gradually le>n$ to l h]1 asks h] to h] h\se4 ,no?+ may ev] come ( ?is1 b ano!r "o also invit+ h]1 may br+ an introduction to a ?ird1 :o takes a fancy to h]4 ,?is ?ird lady also invites h] :]e %e meets an acqua9tance %e has already made on "o ( ! two =m] occasions1 & ?is acqua9tance 9 turn invites h]4 ,by ! "t %e has met ! same p sev]al times1 !y gradually1 "o by "o1 (f] to g & see h]1 or ask h] to come & see !m4 ,"o inviolable rule %e mu/ n =get3 x is fatal to be pu%+ or presum+4 ,%e mu/ rema9 dignifi$ always1 natural & sympa!tic :5 anyone approa*es h]1 b %e %\ld n h]self approa* any "o m ?an half way4 ,a smile1 ! m fri5dly ! bett]1 is nev] out ( place1 b aft] smil+1 %e %\ld pass on6 ,nev] gr9 weakly1 &--cl+6 ,if %e is ask$ to g to see a lady1 x is q "r to g4 ,b n aga91 until ! lady has return$ ! visit1 or ask$ h] to h] h\se4 ,& if admitt$ :5 mak+ a fir/ visit1 %e %\ld rememb] n to /ay m ?an tw5ty m9utes at mo/1 s9ce x is always wis] to make o!rs sorry to h h] leave ?an run ! risk ( hav+ ! ho/ess wond] :y h] visitor doesn't "k en\gh to g6 ,,! ,,entrance ,,( ,,an ,,outsid] ,! outsid] ent]s society by ! same pa?1 b x is /eep] & long] because !re is an out] gate ( reputation call$ ,!y are n p ( any position :i* is difficult to unlat*4 ,nor is x ev] unlat*$ to ^? :o sit at ! gate rattl+ at ! b>s1 or pla9tively pe]+ 94 ,! bett]1 & ! only way if %e has n ! key ( bir?1 is ?r\gh /udy to make h]self eligible4 ,mean:ile1 *>itable1 or civic "w1 w give h] int]e/ & occupation z well z ?r[ h] ) ladies ( good bre$+1 by association ) :om %e c n fail to acquire "s ( ^? qualities ( mann] be=e :i* ! gates ( society always op54 ,,:5 ,,position ,,has ,,be5 ,,e/abli%$ ,:5 h] husb& belongs to a club1 or p]haps %e does too1 & ! neighbors are fri5dly & ^? ( social importance h call$ on h] & ask$ h] to _! h\ses1 a newcom] does n h to /& s exactly on ! *alk l9e ( c]emony z 9 return+ h] fir/ visits & s5d+ out h] fir/ invitations4 ,aft] p h d9$ ) ea* o!r sev]al times1 x is n at all important to consid] :e!r an invitation is ow$ or paid sev]al times ov]4 ,%e :o is hospitably incl9$ c ask p half a doz5 times to _! once if %e wants to1 & !y %[ _! fri5dl9ess by com+4 ,nor ne$ visits be paid 9 alt]nate ord]4 ,once %e is really accept$ by p %e c be z fri5dly z %e *ooses4 ,:5 ,mrs4 ,oldname calls on ,mrs4 ,/rang] ! fir/ "t1 ! latt] may d no?+ b call 9 return2 x w\ld be ! height ( presumption to invite "o ( conspicu\s prom95ce until %e has fir/ be5 invit$ by h]4 ,nor may ! ,/rang]s ask ! ,oldnames to d9e aft] be+ m]ely invit$ to a tea4 ,b :5 ,mrs4 ,oldname asks ,mrs4 ,/rang] to lun*1 ! latt] might !n invite ! =m] to d9n]1 aft] :i*1 if !y accept1 ! ,/rang]s c cont9ue to invite !m on occasion1 :e!r !y are invit$ 9 turn or n2 especially if ! ,/rang]s are cont9ually ent]ta9+1 & ! ,oldnames are n4 ,b on no acc\nt mu/ ! ,/rang]s' p>ties be arrang$ solely = ! b5efit ( any p>ticul> fa%ionables4 ,! ,/rang]s c also invite to a p>ty any *ildr5 :om _! own *ildr5 "k at s*ool1 & ,mrs4 ,/rang] c q prop]ly g to fet* h] own *ildr5 f a p>ty to :i* _! s*oolmates invit$ !m4 ,,money ,,n ,,ess5tial ,,to ,,social ,,position ,ba*elors1 unless !y are v well (f1 are n expect$ to give p>ties2 nor = t matt] are v "y c\ples4 ,all ho/esses g on ask+ s+le m5 & "y p to _! h\ses )\t x ev] occurr+ to !m t any return o!r ?an polit5ess %\ld be made4 ,!re are _m c\ples1 n necess>ily 9 ! y\nge/ set ei!r1 :o are trem5d\sly popul> 9 society 9 spite ( ! fact t !y give no p>ties at all4 ,! ,lovejoys1 = in/ance1 :o are clamor$ = ev]y:]e1 h e attribute--except money4 ,) few] clo!s p]haps ?an any fa%ionable "y woman 9 ,new ,york1 %e c't compete ) ,mrs4 ,bobo ,gild+ or ,con/ance ,/yle = sm>tness b1 z ,mrs4 ,worldly rem>k$3 ,:at w\ld be ! use ( ,celia ,lovejoy's beauty if x dep5d$ ^u cont9ual v>iation 9 clo!s8 ,! only ent]ta9+ ! ,lovejoys ev] d is limit$ to aft]noon tea & occasional wel%-r>ebit supp]s4 ,b !y return e bit ( hospitality %[n !m by help+ to make a p>ty g :]ev] !y are4 ,bo? are amus+1 bo? are int]e/+1 bo? d ev]y?+ well4 ,!y c't af=d to play c>ds = money1 b !y bo? play a v good game & ! table is delight$ to c>ry !m1 or !y play at ! same table aga9/ ea* o!r4 ,?is1 by ! way1 is ano!r illu/ration ( ! conduct ( a g5tleman2 if "y ,lovejoy play$ = money he w\ld w9 und\bt$ly 9 ! long run because he plays unusually well1 b to use c>d-play+ z a means ( mak+ money w\ld be contr>y to ! e?ics ( a g5tleman1 j z play+ = m ?an c be af=d$ turns a game into gambl+4 ,,an ,,elusive ,,po9t ,,ess5tial ,,to ,,social ,,success ,! s5se ( :om to invite ) :om is "o ( ! mo/ important1 & elusive1 po9ts 9 social k4 ,! possession or lack ( x is responsible m ?an any?+ else = ! social success ( "o woman1 & ! failure ( ano!r4 ,& z x is almo/ impossible1 )\t advice1 = any /rang] any:]e to "k :i* p l or dislike ea* o!r1 ! w\ld-be ho/ess mu/ ei!r by means ( natural tal5t or m likely by tra9$ att5tion1 read ! signs ( lik+ or prejudice mu* z a woodsman reads a message 9 e brok5 twig or turn$ leaf4 ,"o :o c read expression1 p]ceives at a glance ! diff]5ce betwe5 fri5dl9ess & polite alo(ness4 ,:5 a lady is unusually sil5t1 /rictly imp]sonal 9 conv]sation1 & entirely unapproa*able1 some?+ is n to h] lik+4 ,! "q is1 :at8 ,or usually1 :om8 ,! greate/ blund] possible w\ld be to ask h] :at ! matt] is4 ,! cause ( annoyance is probably t %e f9ds someone di/a/eful & x %\ld n be h>d = "o ^: faculties are n asleep to discov] ! (f5d] & if possible sep>ate !m1 or at lea/ nev] ask !m toge!r aga94 ,,*apt] ,x ,,c>ds ,,& ,,visits ,,usefulness ,,( ,,c>ds ,:o 0 x t said--9 ! ,victorian era probably1 & a man ( c\rse--,! only me*anical tool ev] ne$$ by a woman is a hair-p98 ,he might h add$ t ) a hair-p9 & a visit+ c>d1 %e is ready to meet mo/ em]g5cies4 ,al?\gh ! pr9cipal use ( a visit+ c>d1 at lea/ ! "o = :i* x 0 orig9ally inv5t$--to be left z an evid5ce ( "o p]son's pres5ce at ! h\se ( ano!r--is go+ gradually out ( ard5t favor 9 fa%ionable circles1 its usefulness seems to keep a nicely adju/$ balance4 ,9 ,new ,york1 = in/ance1 ! visit+ c>d has entirely tak5 ! place ( ! writt5 note ( invitation to in=mal p>ties ( e description4 ,messages ( condol5ce or congratulation are writt5 on x2 x is us$ z an endorsem5t 9 ! giv+ ( an ord]2 x is ev5 tack$ on ! outside ( express boxes4 ,! only employm5t ( x :i* is n z fl\ri%+ z =m]ly is its be+ left 9 quantities & ) frequ5cy at ! doors ( acqua9tances4 ,?is w be expla9$ fur!r on4 ,a ,,c>d',s ,,size ,,& ,,engrav+ ,! c>d ( a lady is usually f ab\t #b-c_/d to #c-a_/b in*es wide1 by #b to #b-c_/d in*es high1 b !re is no fix$ rule4 ,! c>d ( a "y girl is small] & m ne>ly squ>e 9 %ape4 7,ab\t #b in*es high by #b-a_/b or #b-e_/h in*es long1 dep5d+ ^u ! l5g? ( ! "n47 ,"y girls use small] c>ds ?an old] ladies4 ,a g5tleman's c>d is long & n>r[1 f #b-g_/h to #c-a_/d in*es long1 & f #a-a_/d to #a-e_/h in*es high4 ,all visit+ c>ds are engrav$ on :ite unglaz$ bri/ol bo>d1 :i* may be ( m$ium ?ickness or ?91 z "o fancies4 ,a few ye>s ago !re 0 a fad = c>ds z ?9 z writ+ pap]1 b "o seldom sees !m 9 ,am]ica n[4 ,! advantage ( a ?9 c>d is t a great] quantity may be c>ri$ easily4 ,! engrav+ mo/ 9 use to-day is %ad$ block4 ,script is seldom se51 b x is always good =m & s is pla9 block1 b ) ! exception ( old ,engli% all ornate lett]+ %\ld be avoid$4 ,all p :o live 9 cities %\ld h ! address 9 ! l[] "r corn]1 engrav$ 9 small] lett]s ?an ! "n4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 addresses are n important1 z e "o kn[s :]e e "o else lives4 ,p :o h t[n & c\ntry h\ses usually h sep>ate c>ds1 ?\gh n necess>ily a sep>ate plate4 ,,economical ,,engrav+ ,! economically incl9$ c h sev]al v>ieties ( c>ds pr9t$ f "o plate4 ,! c>ds w\ld v>y some:at 9 size 9 ord] to c5t] ! word+4 ,example3 ,! plate3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,gild+ ,miss ,gild+ #jj ,,fif? ,,av5ue ,,gold5 ,,hall may be pr9t$4 ,miss ,gild+'s "n %\ld nev] appe> on a c>d ) bo? h] "m's & fa!r's1 s h] "n be+ out ( l9e "u ! ,mr4 & ,mrs4 engrav+ makes no diff]5ce4 or ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,gild+ ,,gold5 ,,hall or ,mrs4 ,gild+ ,miss ,gild+ #jj ,,fif? ,,av5ue or ,mrs4 ,gild+ ,,gold5 ,,hall ,! p]sonal c>d is 9 a measure an index ( "o's "*4 ,a fanta/ic or g>i% note 9 ! type effect1 9 ! quality or %ape ( ! c>d1 betrays a lack ( ta/e 9 ! own] ( ! c>d4 ,x is n cu/om>y = a m>ri$ man to h a club address on 8 c>d1 & x w\ld be s]viceable only 9 giv+ a c>d ( introduction to a bus9ess acqua9tance1 "u social r ?an bus9ess circum/ances1 or 9 pay+ a =mal call ^u a political or bus9ess associate4 ,unm>ri$ m5 (t5 use no o!r address ?an t ( a club2 especially if !y live 9 ba*elor's qu>t]s1 b "y m5 :o live at home use _! home address4 ,,correct ,,names ,,& ,,titles ,to be impeccably correct1 initials %\ld n be engrav$ on a visit+ c>d4 ,a g5tleman's c>d %\ld read3 ,mr4 ,john ,hunt] ,ti!r+ton ,smi?1 b s9ce names are sometimes awkw>dly long1 & x is ! ,am]ican cu/om to cl+ to ea* & e "o giv5 9 baptism1 he ass]ts 8 possessions by repres5t+ ea* "o ) an initial1 & engraves 8 c>ds ,mr4 ,john ,h4,t4 ,smi?1 or ,mr4 ,j4,h4 ,ti!r+ton ,smi?1 z suits 8 fancy4 ,s1 al?\gh1 accord+ to high au?orities1 he %\ld drop a "n or two & be ,mr4 ,hunt] ,smi?1 or ,mr4 ,ti!r+ton ,smi?1 x is v likely t to ! end ( "t ! ,am]ican man1 & necess>ily 8 wife1 :o mu/ use ! "n z he does1 w g on *]i%+ initials4 ,& a wid[ no less ?an a m>ri$ woman %\ld always cont9ue to use h] husb&'s ,*ri/ian "n1 or 8 "n & ano!r initial1 engrav$ on h] c>ds4 ,%e is ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt] ,ti!r+ton ,smi?1 or1 to compromise1 ,mrs4 ,j4,h4 ,ti!r+ton ,smi?1 b %e is nev] ,mrs4 ,s>ah ,smi?2 at lea/ n any:]e 9 good society4 ,9 bus9ess & 9 legal matt]s a woman is necess>ily address$ by h] own ,*ri/ian "n1 because %e uses x 9 h] signature4 ,b no "o %\ld ev] address an envelope1 except f a bank or a lawy]'s (fice1 ,mrs4 ,s>ah ,smi?4 ,:5 a wid['s son1 :o has ! "n ( 8 fa!r1 m>ries1 ! wid[ has ,sr4 add$ to h] own "n1 or if %e is ! head ( ! family1 %e v (t5 omits all ,*ri/ian names1 & has h] c>d engrav$ ,mrs4 ,smi?1 & ! son's wife calls h]self ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt] ,smi?4 ,smi? is n a v good "n z an example1 s9ce no "o c\ld v well claim ! di/9ction ( be+ ! ,mrs4 ,smi?4 ,x1 h[ev]1 illu/rates ! po9t4 ,= ! daught]-9-law to cont9ue to use a c>d ) ,jr4 on x :5 h] husb& no long] uses ,jr4 on 81 is a mi/ake made by _m p4 ,a wife always be>s ! "n ( h] husb&4 ,to h a man & 8 "m use c>ds engrav$ respectively ,mr4 ,j4,h4 ,smi? & ,mrs4 ,j4,h4 ,smi? & ! son's wife a c>d engrav$ ,mrs4 ,j4,h4 ,smi?1 ,jr41 w\ld ann\nce to :omev] ! ?ree c>ds 7 left ^u1 t ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,smi? & _! daught]-9-law _h call$4 ,! c>ds ( a "y girl aft] %e is sixte5 h always ,miss be=e h] "n1 :i* mu/ be h] real & nev] a nick-"n3 ,miss ,s>ah ,smi?1 n ,miss ,sally ,smi?4 ,! fact t a man's "n has ,jr4 add$ at ! end 9 no way takes ! place ( ,mr4 ,8 c>d %\ld be engrav$ ,mr4 ,john ,hunt] ,smi?1 ,jr41 & 8 wife's ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt] ,smi?1 ,jr4 ,"s p h ! ,jr4 writt5 out1 junior4 ,x is n spell$ ) a capital ,j if writt5 9 full4 ,a boy puts ,mr4 on 8 c>ds :5 he leaves s*ool1 ?\gh _m use c>ds )\t ,mr4 on !m :ile 9 college4 ,a doctor1 or a judge1 or a m9i/]1 or a milit>y (fic] h _! c>ds engrav$ ) ! abbreviation ( _! title3 ,dr4 ,h5ry ,gordon2 ,judge ,horace ,ru%2 ,! ,rev4 ,william ,goode2 ,col4 ,?omas ,doyle4 ,! d\ble c>d reads3 ,dr4 & ,mrs4 ,h5ry ,gordon2 ,hon4 & ,mrs41 etc4 ,a woman :o has divorc$ h] husb& reta9s ! legal z well z ! social "r to use h] husb&'s full "n1 9 ,new ,york ,/ate at lea/4 ,usually %e pref]s1 if h] "n 0 ,alice ,gre51 to call h]self ,mrs4 ,gre5 ,smi?2 n ,mrs4 ,alice ,smi?1 & on no acc\nt ,mrs4 ,alice ,gre5--unless %e wi%es to give ! impression t %e 0 ! guilty "o 9 ! divorce4 ,,*ildr5',s ,,c>ds ,t v little *ildr5 %\ld h visit+ c>ds is n s silly z might at fir/ ?\ght be suppos$4 ,to acquire p]fect mann]s1 & ^? graces ( deportm5t t ,"l ,*e/]field s ard5tly tri$ to in/il into 8 son1 tra9+ c n beg9 e>ly en\gh1 s9ce x is ?r\gh lifelong famili>ity ) ! niceties ( etiquette t mu* ( ! di/9ction ( ^? to ! mann] born is acquir$4 ,_m mo!rs ?9k x good tra9+ = *ildr5 to h _! own c>ds1 :i* !y are taught n s mu* to leave ^u ea* o!r aft] p>ties1 z to s5d ) gifts ^u v>i\s occasions4 ,at ! rehe>sal ( a w$d+1 ! t9y tw9 fl[] girls came c>ry+ _! w$d+ pres5t = ! bride betwe5 !m1 to :i* !y _h !mselves atta*$ _! own small visit+ c>ds4 ,"o c>d 0 bord]$ & engrav$ 9 p9k1 & ! o!r bord]$ & engrav$ 9 blue1 & ! address on ea* read ,*ez ,maman4 ,& 9 go+ to see a new baby c\s9 ea* br\ght a small #ahcj b\quet1 & s5t to _! aunt _! c>ds1 on :i*1 aft] see+ ! baby1 "o _h pr9t$ ,he is v little1 & ! o!r1 ,x has a r$ face4 ,?is %[s t if mod]n society believes 9 beg9n+ social tra9+ 9 ! nurs]y1 x does n believe 9 hamp]+ a *ild's natural expression4 ,,special ,,c>ds ,,& ,,:5 ,,to ,,use ,,!m ,! d\ble c>d1 read+ ,mr4 & ,mrs41 is s5t ) a w$d+ pres5t1 or ) fl[]s to a fun]al1 or ) fl[]s to a dbutante1 & is also us$ 9 pay+ =mal visits4 ,! c>d on :i* a dbutante's "n is engrav$ "u t ( h] "m1 is us$ mo/ frequ5tly :5 no com+-out ent]ta9m5t has be5 giv5 = ! daught]4 ,h] "n on h] "m's c>d ann\nces1 :]ev] x is left1 t ! daught] is gr[n & eligible = invitations4 ,9 ! same way a "m may leave h] son's c>d ) h] own ^u any ( h] own fri5ds--especially ^u ^? likely to ent]ta9 = "y p4 ,?is is ! cu/om if a "y man has be5 away at s*ool & college = s long t he has n a l>ge acqua9tance ( 8 own4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 correct "u any circum/ances :5 =mally leav+ c>ds to leave ^? ( all sons & daught]s :o are gr[n4 ,,! ,p4,p4,c4 ,,c>d ,?is is m]ely a visit+ c>d1 :e!r ( a lady or a g5tleman1 on :i* ! initials ,p4,p4,c4 7p\r pr5dre cong--to take leave7 are writt5 9 ink 9 ! l[] left corn]4 ,?is is usually left at ! door1 or s5t by mail to acqua9tances1 :5 "o is leav+ = ! season1 or = good4 ,x nev] takes ! place ( a f>ewell visit :5 "o has receiv$ especial c\rtesy1 nor is x 9 any s5se a message ( ?anks = especial k9dness4 ,9 ei!r ( ^! in/ances1 a visit %\ld be paid or a note ( f>ewell & ?anks writt54 ,,c>ds ,,( ,,new ,,or ,,tempor>y ,,address ,9 cities :]e !re is no ,social ,regi/] or o!r pr9t$ society li/1 "o notifies acqua9tances ( a *ange ( address by mail+ a visit+ c>d4 ,c>ds are also s5t1 ) a tempor>y address writt5 9 ink1 :5 "o is 9 a /range city & wi%es to notify fri5ds :]e "o is /opp+4 ,x is also q correct = a lady to mail h] c>d ) h] tempor>y address writt5 on x to any g5tleman :om %e w\ld c>e to see1 & :o %e is sure w\ld l to see h]4 ,,:5 ,,c>ds ,,are ,,s5t ,:5 n int5d+ to g to a tea or a w$d+ reception 7! invitation to :i* did n h ,r4s4v4p4 on x & require an answ]71 "o %\ld mail c>ds to ! ho/ess s z to arrive on ! morn+ ( ! ent]ta9m5t4 ,to a tea giv5 = a dbutante c>ds are enclos$ 9 "o envelope & address$3 ,mrs4 ,gild+ ,miss ,gild+ #jj ,fif? ,av5ue ,new ,york ,= a w$d+ reception1 c>ds are s5t to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ----1 ! "m & fa!r ( ! bride1 & ano!r set ( c>ds s5t to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ----1 ! bride & bridegroom4 ,,! ,,visit ,,( ,,empty ,,=m ,n s _m ye>s ago1 a lady or g5tleman1 "y girl or y\?1 :o fail$ to pay h] or 8 p>ty call aft] hav+ be5 invit$ to ,mrs4 ,social-,lead]'s ball 0 left out ( h] li/ :5 %e gave h] next "o4 ,= ! old-fa%ion$ ho/ess kept h] visit+ li/ ) ! precision ( a bookkeep] 9 a bank2 ev]yone's cr$it 0 ent]$ or cancell$ accord+ to ! pres5ce ( h] or 8 c>ds 9 ! c>d receiv]4 ,"y p :o lik$ to be ask$ to h] h\se 7 apt to leave an extra "o at ! door1 on occasion1 s t !irs %\ld n be among ! miss+ :5 ! new li/ = ! season 0 made up--especially z ! m important old ladies 7 v quick to /rike a "n (f1 b seldom if ev] kn[n to put "o back4 ,b ab\t tw5ty ye>s ago ! era ( in=mality set 9 & has be5 ga9+ gr\nd ev] s9ce4 ,9 c]ta9 cities old-fa%ion$ ho/esses1 x is said1 exclude del9qu5ts4 ,b ,new ,york is too exotic & intractable1 & ! too exact+ ho/ess is likely to f9d h] tape/ri$ rooms r empty1 :ile ! y\ng] _w ( fa%ion flocks to ! cry/al-f\nta9$ ballroom ( ! new ,sp5deasy ,we/]ns4 ,& !n1 too1 life holds s _m o!r div]sions & int]e/s = ! v type ( y\? :i* ( necessity is ! vital ess5ce ( all social gaiety4 ,society c h di/9ction & dignity )\t y\?--b n gaiety4 ,! c\ntry ) its outdoor sports1 its fre$om f exact+ conv5tions1 has gradually deflect$ ! int]e/ ( ! y\ng] fa%ionables1 until at pres5t !y c>e v little :e!r ,mrs4 ,topl(ty & ,mrs4 ,social-,lead] ask !m to _! balls or n4 ,!y are glad en\gh to g1 ( c\rse1 b !y don't c>e en\gh = invitations to pay dull visits & to live up to ! conv5tions ( mann]s t old-fa%ion$ ho/esses dem&4 ,& z ^! rebels are inv>iably ! mo/ attractive & ! mo/ eligible y\?s1 x has become almo/ an issue2 a ho/ess mu/ 9 _m cases ei!r invite none b old] p & ! few "y girls & m5 ^: mo!rs h left c>ds = !m1 or ignore conv5tion & invite ! rebels4 ,9 try+ to f9d out :]e ! pres5t indiff]5ce />t$1 _m ascribe x to ,bobo ,gild+1 to :om ent]+ a great draw+-room 0 m sugge/ive ( ! daily aft]noon tea ordeal ( 8 e>ly nurs]y days1 ?an a volunt>y act ( pleasure4 ,he 0 long ago "o ( ! fir/ to rebel aga9/ old ,mrs4 ,topl(ty's exactions ( p>ty calls1 by say+ he did n c>e 9 ! lea/ :e!r 8 great-aunt ,jane ,topl(ty invit$ him to h] /odgy old ball or n4 ,& !n ,lucy ,wellborn 7! pres5t ,mrs4 ,bobo ,gild+7 did n c>e mu* to g ei!r if none ( h] p>ticul> m5 fri5ds 7 to be !re4 ,little %e c>$ to dance ! cotillion ) old ,colonel ,bluff+ton or to g to supp] ) t odi\s ,hector ,newman4 ,& s1 beg9n+ fir/ ) a few gild$ y\?s1 !n includ+ "y society1 ! habit has spread until ! obligatory pay+ ( visits by "y girls & m5 has almo/ jo9$ ! once univ]sal day at home z belong+ to a pa/ age4 ,d n und]/& by ?is t visits are nev] paid on o!r occasions4 ,visits to /rang]s1 visits ( condol5ce1 & ( o!r c\rtesies are /ill paid1 q z punctili\sly z ev]4 ,b )9 ! walls ( society itself1 ! visit ( =mality is decreas+4 ,"o might almo/ say t 9 c]ta9 cities society has become a family affair4 ,its walls are z high z ev]1 high] p]haps to outsid]s1 b among its own memb]s1 su* cu/oms z keep+ visit+ li/s & hav+ days at home1 or ev5 kn[+ :o owes a visit to :om1 is n only unobs]v$ b is unhe>d (4 ,b because punctili\s c>d-leav+1 visit+1 & days at home h gone out ( fa%ion 9 ,new ,york1 is no reason :y ^! really important obs]vances %\ld n be1 or are n1 9 ! height ( fa%ion else:]e4 ,nor1 on ! o!r h&1 mu/ anyone suppose because ! y\ng] fa%ionables 9 ,new ,york pay few visits & nev] h days at home1 t !y are a bit less c>eful ab\t ! ?+s :i* !y happ5 to consid] ess5tial to good-bre$+4 ,! be/ type ( "y m5 pay few1 if any1 p>ty calls1 because !y "w & !y ex]cise1 & :atev] "t is left ov]1 if any1 is sp5t 9 _! club or at ! h\se ( a "y woman1 n tte-a-tte1 b inv>iably play+ bridge4 ,! ,sunday aft]noon visits t ! y\? ( ano!r g5]ation us$ always to pay1 are unkn[n 9 ?is1 because e man :o c1 sp5ds ! week-end 9 ! c\ntry4 ,x is sc>cely an exagg]ation to say t n alone m51 b _m "y m>ri$ wom5 ( highe/ social position1 except to s5d ) fl[]s or w$d+ pres5ts1 d n use a doz5 visit+ c>ds a ye>4 ,b !re are circum/ances :5 ev5 ! mo/ indiff]5t to social obligations mu/ leave c>ds4 ,,:5 ,,c>ds ,,mu/ ,,be ,,left ,etiquette absolutely dem&s t "o leave a c>d )9 a few days aft] tak+ a fir/ meal 9 a lady's h\se2 or if "o has = ! fir/ "t be5 invit$ to lun* or d9e ) /rang]s1 x is inexcusably rude n to leave a c>d ^u !m1 :e!r "o accept$ ! invitation or n4 ,"o mu/ also unfail+ly return a fir/ call1 ev5 if "o does n c>e = ! acqua9tance4 ,only a real cause c excuse ! affront to an innoc5t /rang] t ! refusal to return a fir/ call w\ld imply4 ,if "o does n c>e to cont9ue ! acqua9tance1 "o ne$ n pay a second visit4 ,also a c>d is always left ) a fir/ invitation4 ,suppos+ ,miss ,philadelphia takes a lett] ( introduction to ,mrs4 ,newport--,mrs4 ,newport1 invit+ ,miss ,philadelphia to h] h\se1 w\ld n ?9k ( s5d+ h] invitation )\t also leav+ h] c>d4 ,good =m dem&s t a visit be paid be=e issu+ a fir/ invitation4 ,sometimes a note ( explanation is s5t ask+ t ! =mality be waiv$1 b x is nev] disreg>d$1 except 9 ! case ( an invitation f an old] lady to a "y girl4 ,mrs4 ,worldly1 = in/ance1 :o has kn[n ,jim ,sm>tl+ton always1 might1 in/ead ( call+ on ,m>y ,smi?1 to :om 8 engagem5t is ann\nc$1 write h] a note1 ask+ h] to lun* or d9n]4 ,b 9 invit+ ,mrs4 ,greatlake ( ,*icago %e w\ld leave h] c>d ) h] invitation at ,mrs4 ,greatlake's hotel4 ,x seems sc>cely necess>y to add t anyone n entirely he>tless mu/ leave a c>d on1 or s5d fl[]s to1 an acqua9tance :o has suff]$ a rec5t b]eavem5t4 ,"o %\ld also leave c>ds ( inquiry or s5d fl[]s to sick p4 ,,invitation ,,9 ,,place ,,( ,,return$ ,,visit ,books on etiquette seem agre$ t s5d+ an invitation does n cancel ! obligation ( pay+ a visit--:i* may be te*nically correct--b fa%ionable p1 :o are 9 ! habit ( lun*+ or d9+ ) ea* o!r two or ?ree times a season1 pay no att5tion to visits :atev]4 ,mrs4 ,norman calls on ,mrs4 ,gild+4 ,mrs4 ,gild+ invites ! ,normans to d9n]4 ,!y g4 ,a %ort "t aft]w>d ,mrs4 ,norman invites ! ,gild+s--or ! ,gild+s v likely aga9 invite ! ,normans4 ,"s ev5+ at all ev5ts1 ! ,gild+s d9e ) ! ,normans4 ,som$ay1 if ,mrs4 ,gild+ happ5s to be leav+ c>ds1 %e may leave !m at ! ,normans--or %e may n4 ,"s p leave c>ds almo/ l ! h>es 9 a pap] *ase2 o!rs seldom if ev] d4 ,except on ! occasions m5tion$ 9 ! p>agraph be=e ?is1 or unless !re is an illness1 a dea?1 a bir?1 or a m>riage1 p 9 society invite ea* o!r to _! h\ses & don't leave c>ds at all4 ,nor d !y ev] consid] ^: turn x is to invite :om4 ,,n ,,at ,,home ,:5 a s]vant at a door says ,n at home1 ?is phrase means t ! lady ( ! h\se is ,n at home to visitors4 ,?is answ] nei!r signifies nor implies--nor is x int5d$ to--t ,mrs4 ,jones is out ( ! h\se4 ,"s p say ,n receiv+1 :i* means actually ! same ?+1 b ! n at home is inf9itely m polite2 s9ce 9 ! =m] y "k %e is 9 ! h\se b won't see y1 :]eas 9 ! latt] case y h ! pleasant unc]ta9ty t x is q possible %e is out4 ,to be told ,mrs4 ,jones is at home b doesn't want to see y1 w\ld c]ta9ly be unpleasant4 ,& to beg to be excus$--except 9 a case ( illness or b]eavem5t--has some?+ v sugge/ive ( a cold %\ld]4 ,b n at home means t %e is n sitt+ 9 ! draw+ room beh9d h] tea tray2 t & no?+ else4 ,%e may be out or %e may be ly+ d[n or o!rwise occupi$4 ,nor d p ( ! _w f9d ! slighte/ objection if a ho/ess1 happ5+ to recognize ! visitor z a p>ticul> fri5d1 calls out1 ,d come 96 ,i am at home to y6 ,anyone :o talks ab\t ?is phrase z be+ a :ite lie ei!r doesn't und]/& ! mean+ ( ! words1 or is go+ v f> afield to look = untru?4 ,to be consi/5t1 ^! ov]-lit]als %\ld also exact t :5 a gue/ inadv]t5tly knocks ov] a tea cup & /a9s a s(a1 ! ho/ess in/ead ( say+ ,x is no?+ at all6 ,please don't worry ab\t x1 ought = ! sake ( tru? to say1 ,see :at y\r clums9ess has done6 ,y h ru9$ my s(a6 ,& :5 someone says ,h[ are y8 in/ead ( answ]+ ,v well1 ?ank y1 ! same tru?ful "o %\ld p]haps take an h\r by ! clock & m5tion e symptom ( indisposition t %e c accurately subscribe to4 ,:ile n at home is m]ely a phrase ( polit5ess1 to say ,i am out aft] a c>d has be5 br\ght to y is bo? an untru? & an inexcusable rud5ess4 ,or to h an inquiry answ]$1 ,i don't "k1 b ,i'll see1 & !n to h ! s]vant1 aft] tak+ a c>d1 come back ) ! message ,mrs4 ,jones is out c n fail to make ! visitor feel rebuff$4 ,once a c>d has be5 admitt$1 ! visitor mu/ be admitt$ also1 no matt] h[ inconv5i5t receiv+ h] may be4 ,y may s5d a message t y are dress+ b w be v glad to see h] if %e c wait t5 m9utes4 ,! visitor c ei!r wait or say %e is press$ = "t4 ,b if %e does n wait1 !n %e is r disc\rte\s4 ,!re=e1 x is ( ! utmo/ importance always to leave directions at ! door su* z1 ,mrs4 ,jones is n at home4 ,miss ,jones w be home at five o'clock1 ,mrs4 ,jones w be home at #e4cj1 or ,mrs4 ,jones is at home 9 ! libr>y to intimate fri5ds1 b n at home 9 ! draw+-room to acqua9tances4 ,x is a nuisance to be oblig$ to rememb] ei!r to turn an 9 & out c>d 9 ! hail1 or to r+ a bell & say1 ,i am go+ out1 & aga91 ,i h come 94 ,b :atev] plan or arrangem5t y *oose1 no "o at y\r front door %\ld be left 9 d\bt & !n repuls$4 ,x is n only bad mann]s1 x is bad h\sekeep+4 ,,! ,,old-,,fa%ion$ ,,day ,,at ,,home ,x is d\btful if ! pres5t g5]ation ( ,new ,york]s kn[s :at a day at home is6 ,b _! mo!rs1 at lea/1 rememb] ! "t :5 ! fa%ionable di/ricts 7 divid$ into regul> sections1 :]e9 on a giv5 day 9 ! week1 ! :ole neighborhood 0 at home4 ,friday s\nds famili> z ! day = ,wa%+ton ,squ>e6 ,& 0 x ,monday = l[] ,fif? ,av5ue8 ,at all ev5ts1 ea* neighborhood on ! day ( its own1 sugge/$ a local fte4 ,ladies 9 visit+ dresses ) tra9s & bonnets & nose-veils & tight gloves1 hold+ c>d cases1 tripp$ demurely into ?is h\se1 out ( t1 & aga9 into ano!r2 & !re 7 always _m br\ghams & victorias sl[ly ex]cis+ up & d[n1 & v sm>t footm5 /&+ ) m>oon or tan or fur rugs ov] _! arms 9 front ( ,mrs4 ,wellborn's h\se or ,mrs4 ,oldname's1 or ! big h\se ( ,mrs4 ,topl(ty at ! corn] ( ,fif? ,av5ue4 ,x mu/ h be5 en*ant+ to be a gr[n p]son 9 ^? days6 ,en*ant+ also 7 ! ,c-spr+ victorias1 z 0 life 9 g5]al t 0 tak5 at a sl[ c>riage pace & n at ! motor spe$ ( to-day4 ,! day at home is /ill 9 fa%ion 9 ,wa%+ton1 & x is ard5tly to be hop$ t x also fl\ri%es 9 _m cities & t[ns ?r\gh\t ! c\ntry or t x w be reviv$1 = x is a delightful cu/om--?\gh m 9 keep+ ) ,europe ?an ,am]ica1 :i* does n c>e = g5tle paces once x has ta/$ swift4 ,a c]ta9 "y ,new ,york ho/ess ann\nc$ t %e 0 go+ to /ay home on ,saturday aft]noons4 ,b ! m5 w5t to ! c\ntry & ! wom5 to ! op]a1 & %e gave x up4 ,!re are a few old-fa%ion$ ladies1 liv+ 9 old-fa%ion$ h\ses1 & /ill /ay+ at home 9 ! old-fa%ion$ way to old-fa%ion$ fri5ds :o = decades h dropp$ 9 = a cup ( tea & a *at4 ,& !re are two maid5 ladies 9 p>ticul>1 jo9t *atela9es ( an impos+ly beautiful old h\se :]e1 on a c]ta9 aft]noon ( ! week1 if y come 9 = tea1 y are sure to meet n alone ^? prom95t 9 ! _w ( fa%ion1 b a fair admixture ( arti/s1 sci5ti/s1 au?ors2 inv5tors1 di/+ui%$ /rang]s--9 a ^w ,be/ ,society 9 its true/ s5se4 ,b days at home su* z ^! are n easily duplicat$2 = few h\ses possess a salon atmosph]e1 & few ho/esses a*ieve ei!r ! social tal5t or ! wide cultivation necess>y to attract & int]e/ s v>i$ & brilliant a company4 ,,mod]n ,,c>d ,,leav+3 ,a ,,que/ionable ,,act ,,( ,,polit5ess ,! mod]n ,new ,york fa%ion 9 c>d-leav+ is to da% z fa/ z possible f h\se to h\se1 s5d+ ! *auffeur up ! /eps ) c>ds1 )\t ev] ask+ if anyone is home4 ,"s butl]s ann\nce ,n at home f =ce ( habit ev5 :5 no "q is ask$4 ,!re are occasions :5 ! visitors mu/ ask to see ! ho/ess 7see page #hh72 b c>ds are left )\t ask+ :e!r a lady is at home "u ! foll[+ circum/ances3 ,c>ds are left on ! "m ( ! bride1 aft] a w$d+1 also on ! "m ( ! groom4 ,c>ds are also left aft] any =mal invitation4 ,hav+ be5 ask$ to lun* or d9e ) a lady :om y "k b slightly y %\ld leave y\r c>d :e!r y accept$ ! invitation or n1 )9 ?ree days if possible1 or at lea/ )9 a week1 ( ! date = :i* y 7 invit$4 ,x is n consid]$ necess>y 79 ,new ,york at lea/7 to ask if %e is at home2 promptness 9 leav+ y\r c>d is1 9 ?is in/ance1 bett] mann]s ?an delay+ y\r p>ty call & ask+ if %e is at home4 ,?is matt] ( ask+ at ! door is "o t dep5ds ^u ! cu/oms ( ea* ,/ate & city1 b z x is always wis] to err on ! side ( polit5ess1 x is ! bett] policy1 if 9 d\bt1 to ask ,is ,mrs4 ,blank at home8 r ?an to run ! risk ( (f5d+ a lady :o may l to see visitors4 ,a c>d is usually left ) a fir/ invitation to a /rang] :o has br\ght a lett] ( introduction1 b x is m polite--ev5 ?\gh n necess>y--to ask to be receiv$4 ,"s ladies make x a habit to leave a c>d on ev]yone on _! visit+ li/ once a season4 ,x is correct = ! "m ( a dbutante to leave h] c>d z well z h] daught]'s on e lady :o has invit$ ! daught] to h] h\se1 & a c\rte\s ho/ess returns all ( ^! pa/ebo>d visits4 ,b nei!r visit necessitates clos] or ev5 fur!r acqua9tance4 ,,visits ,,:i* ,,ev]yone ,,mu/ ,,pay ,pay+ visits diff]s f leav+ c>ds 9 t y mu/ ask to be receiv$4 ,a visit ( condol5ce %\ld be paid at once to a fri5d :5 a dea? occurs 9 h] imm$iate family4 ,a lady does n call on a g5tleman1 b writes him a note ( sympa?y4 ,9 go+ to inquire = sick p1 y %\ld ask to be receiv$1 & x is always ?\ghtful to take !m gifts ( books or fruit or fl[]s4 ,if a relative ann\nces 8 engagem5t1 y mu/ at once g to see 8 fiance4 ,%\ld %e be out1 y d n ask to see h] "m4 ,y d1 h[ev]1 leave a c>d ^u bo? ladies & y ask to see h] "m if receiv$ by ! daught]4 ,a visit ( congratulation is also paid to a new "m & a gift inv>iably pres5t$ to ! baby4 ,,messages ,,writt5 ,,on ,,c>ds ,) sympa?y or ,) deepe/ sympa?y is writt5 on y\r visit+ c>d ) fl[]s s5t to a fun]al4 ,?is same message is writt5 on a c>d & left at ! door ( a h\se ( m\rn+1 if y d n "k ! family well en\gh to ask to be receiv$4 ,to inquire is (t5 writt5 on a c>d left at ! h\se ( a sick p]son1 b n if y are receiv$4 ,9 go+ to see a fri5d :o is visit+ a lady :om y d n "k1 :e!r y %\ld leave a c>d on ! ho/ess z well z on y\r fri5d dep5ds ^u ! circum/ances3 if ! ho/ess is "o :o is socially prom95t & y are unkn[n1 x w\ld be bett] ta/e n to leave a c>d on h]1 s9ce y\r c>d aft]w>d f\nd )\t explanation might be int]pret$ z an uncall$-= visit made 9 an attempt = a place on h] li/4 ,if1 on ! o!r h&1 %e is ! unkn[n p]son & y are ! prom95t "o1 y\r c>d is polite1 b unwise unless y mean to include h] "n on y\r li/4 ,b if %e is "o ) :om y h _m int]e/s 9 common1 !n y may v prop]ly leave a c>d = h]4 ,9 leav+ a c>d on a lady /opp+ at a hotel or liv+ 9 an ap>tm5t h\se1 y %\ld write h] "n 9 p5cil across ! top ( y\r c>d1 to insure its be+ giv5 to h]1 & n to "s "o else4 ,at ! h\se ( a lady :om y "k well & :om y are sorry n to f9d at home1 x is fri5dly to write ,sorry n to see y6 or ,s sorry to miss y6 ,turn+ d[n a corn] ( a visit+ c>d is by _m int5d$ to convey t ! visit is meant = all ! ladies 9 ! family4 ,o!r p mean m]ely to %[ t ! c>d 0 left at ! door 9 p]son & n s5t 9 an envelope4 ,o!r p turn !m d[n f =ce ( habit & mean no?+ :atev]4 ,b :i*ev] ! reason1 m c>ds are b5t or dog-e>$ ?an are left flat4 ,,engrav$ ,,c>ds ,,ann\nc+ ,,engagem5t1 ,,bad ,,=m ,someone some:]e ask$ :e!r or n to answ] an engrav$ c>d ann\nc+ an engagem5t4 ,! answ] c h no?+ to d ) etiquette1 s9ce an engrav$ ann\ncem5t is unkn[n to good society4 7,= ! prop] ann\ncem5t ( an engagem5t see page #cjd47 ,,:5 ,,p ,,see ,,_! ,,fri5ds ,five o'clock is ! in=mal h\r :5 p are at home to fri5ds4 ,! correct h\r = leav+ c>ds & pay+ =mal visits is betwe5 #c4cj & #d4cj4 ,"o %\ld hesitate to pay a visit at ! tea h\r unless "o is sure ( "o's welcome among ! intimates likely to be f\nd ar\nd ! ho/ess's tea-table4 ,_m ladies make x _! practise to be home if possible at five o'clock1 & _! fri5ds :o "k !m well come 9 at t "t4 7,= ! aft]noon tea-table & its cu/oms1 see page #aga47 ,,in=mal ,,visit+ ,,(t5 ,,arrang$ ,,by ,,telephone ,= in/ance1 in/ead ( r++ h] door-bell1 ,mrs4 ,norman calls ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t on ! telephone3 ,i hav5't se5 y = weeks6 ,won't y come 9 to tea1 or to lun*--j y4 ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t answ]s1 ,yes1 ,i'd love to4 ,i c come ?is aft]noon2 & five o'clock f9ds !m toge!r ov] ! tea-table4 ,9 ! same way "y ,/ru!rs calls up ,millic5t ,gild+1 ,are y go+ to be 9 ?is aft]noon8 ,%e says1 ,yes1 b n until a qu>t] ( six4 ,he says1 ,f9e1 ,i'll come !n4 ,or %e says1 ,i'm s sorry1 ,i'm play+ bridge ) ,paul9e--b ,i'll be 9 to-morr[6 ,he says1 ,all "r1 ,i'll come to-morr[4 ,! y\ng] p r>ely ev] g to see ea* o!r )\t fir/ telephon+4 ,or s9ce ev5 "y p seldom meet except = bridge1 mo/ likely x is ,millic5t ,gild+ :o telephones ! ,/ru!rs y\? to ask if he c't possibly get upt[n be=e five o'clock to make a f\r? ) ,m>y & ,jim & h]self4 ,,h[ ,a ,,fir/ ,,visit ,,is ,,made ,9 v l>ge cities1 neighbors seldom call on ea* o!r4 ,b if /rang]s move into a neighborhood 9 a small t[n or 9 ! c\ntry1 or at a wat]+-place1 x is n only unfri5dly b uncivil = _! neighbors n to call on !m4 ,! old] resid5ts always call on ! new]4 ,& ! p]son ( greate/ social prom95ce %\ld make ! fir/ visit1 or at lea/ invite ! y\ng] or less prom95t "o to call on h]2 :i* ! y\ng] %\ld promptly d4 ,or two ladies ( equal age or position may ei!r "o say1 ,i wi% y w\ld come to see me4 ,to :i* ! o!r replies ,i w ) pleasure4 ,m usually ! fir/ "o (f]s ,i %\ld l to come to see y1 if ,i may4 ,& ! o!r1 ( c\rse1 answ]s ,i %all be delight$ if y w4 ,! fir/ "o1 hav+ sugge/$ go+ to see ! second1 is b\nd 9 polit5ess to d s1 o!rwise %e implies t ! acqua9tance on second ?\ght seems di/a/eful to h]4 ,ev]yone invit$ to a w$d+ %\ld call ^u ! bride on h] return f ! honeymoon4 ,& :5 a man m>ries a girl f a di/ant place1 c\rtesy absolutely dem&s t 8 fri5ds & neighbors call on h] z soon z %e arrives 9 h] new home4 ,,on ,,op5+ ,,! ,,door ,,to ,a ,,visitor ,on ! hall table 9 e h\se1 !re %\ld be a small silv]1 or o!r c>d tray1 a pad & a p5cil4 ,! nice/ k9d ( pad is "o t :5 fold$1 makes its own envelope1 s t a message :5 writt5 ne$ n be left op54 ,!re are all v>ieties & sizes at all /ation]s4 ,:5 ! door-bell r+s1 ! s]vant on duty1 :o c easily see ! *auffeur or lady approa*+1 %\ld h ! c>d tray ready to pres5t1 on ! palm ( ! left h&4 ,a s]vant at ! door mu/ nev] take ! c>ds 9 8 or h] f+]s4 ,,correct ,,numb] ,,( ,,c>ds ,,to ,,leave ,:5 ! visitor h]self r+s ! door-bell & ! message is n at home1 ! butl] or maid pr(f]s ! c>d tray on :i* ! visitor lays a c>d ( h] own & h] daught]'s = ea* lady 9 ! h\se & a c>d ( h] husb&'s & son's = ea* lady & g5tleman4 ,b ?ree is ! greate/ numb] ev] left ( any "o c>d4 ,9 call+ on ,mrs4 ,t[n1 :o has ?ree gr[n daught]s & h] "m liv+ 9 ! h\se1 & a ,mrs4 ,/rang] /ay+ ) h] :om ! visitor 0 invit$ to a lun*eon to meet1 a c>d on ea* w\ld ne$ a packet ( six4 ,in/ead1 ! visitor %\ld leave ?ree--"o = ,mrs4 ,t[n1 "o = all ! o!r ladies ( ! h\se1 & "o = ,mrs4 ,/rang]4 ,9 ask+ to be receiv$1 h] qu]y at ! door %\ld be ,are any ( ! ladies at home8 ,or 9 m]ely leav+ h] c>ds %e %\ld say ,= all ( ! ladies4 ,,:5 ,,! ,,call] ,,leaves ,! butl] or maid mu/ /& ) ! front door op5 until a visitor re-ent]s h] motor1 or if %e is walk+1 until %e has rea*$ ! sidewalk4 ,x is bad mann]s ev] to close ! door 9 a visitor's face4 ,:5 a *auffeur leaves c>ds1 ! door may be clos$ z soon z he turns away4 ,,:5 ,,! ,,lady ,,( ,,! ,,h\se ,,is ,,at ,,home ,:5 ! door is op5$ by a waitress or a p>lor-maid & ! mi/ress ( ! h\se is 9 ! draw+-room1 ! maid says ,?is way1 please1 & leads ! way4 ,%e goes z quickly z possible to pres5t ! c>d tray4 ,! gue/1 especially if a /rang]1 lags 9 ord] to give ! ho/ess "t to read ! "n on ! c>d4 ,! maid mean:ile moves aside1 to make room = ! approa*+ visitor1 :o goes =w>d to %ake h&s ) ! ho/ess4 ,if a butl] is at ! door1 he reads ! c>d himself1 pick+ x up f ! tray1 & op5+ ! door ( ! draw+-room ann\nces3 ,mrs4 ,so&so1 aft] :i* he puts ! c>d on ! hall table4 ,! duration ( a =mal visit %\ld be 9 ! neighborhood ( tw5ty m9utes4 ,b if o!r visitors are ann\nc$1 ! fir/ "o--on a v =mal occasion--may cut h] visit %ort]4 ,or if conv]sation becomes especially int]e/+1 ! visit may be prolong$ five m9utes or s4 ,on no acc\nt mu/ a visitor /ay an h\r6 ,a ho/ess always rises :5 a visitor ent]s1 unless ! visitor is a v "y woman or man & %e h]self eld]ly1 or unless %e is seat$ beh9d ! tea-table s t ris+ is difficult4 ,%e %\ld1 h[ev]1 always rise & g =w>d to meet a lady mu* old] ?an h]self2 b %e nev] rises f h] tea-table to greet a man1 unless he is q old4 ,if ! lady ( ! h\se is at home b up-/airs1 ! s]vant at ! door leads ! visitor into ! reception room1 say+ ,w y take a seat1 please8 & !n c>ries ! c>d to ! mi/ress ( ! h\se4 ,on an exceptional occasion1 su* z pay+ a visit ( condol5ce or inquir+ = a convalesc5t1 :5 ! "q z to :e!r he w be receiv$ is necess>ily d\btful1 a g5tleman does n take (f 8 coat or gloves1 b waits 9 ! reception room ) 8 hat 9 8 h&4 ,:5 ! s]vant return+ says ei!r ,w y come ?is way1 please8 or ,mrs4 ,t[n is n well en\gh to see any "o1 b ,miss ,alice w be d[n 9 a mom5t1 ! visitor dive/s himself ( 8 coat & gloves1 :i* ! s]vant c>ries1 z well z 8 hat1 out to ! front hall4 ,z said be=e1 few m5 pay visits )\t fir/ telephon+4 ,b p]haps two or ?ree times dur+ a w9t] a "y man1 :5 he is able to get away f 8 (fice 9 "t1 w make a tea-"t visit ^u a ho/ess :o has (t5 invit$ him to d9n] or to h] op]a box4 ,"u ord9>y circum/ances1 h[ev]1 "s woman memb] ( 8 family leaves 8 c>d = him aft] a d9n] or a dance1 or else x is n left at all4 ,a g5tleman pay+ visits1 always asks if ! ho/ess is at home4 ,if %e is1 he leaves 8 hat & /ick 9 ! hall & also removes & leaves 8 gloves--& rubb]s %\ld he be we>+ !m4 ,if ! h\r is betwe5 five & half-pa/1 ! ho/ess is inevitably at h] tea-table1 9 ! libr>y1 to :i*1 if he is at all well kn[n to ! s]vant at ! door1 he is at once %[n )\t be+ fir/ ask$ to wait 9 ! reception room4 ,a g5tleman ent]+ a room 9 :i* !re are sev]al p :o are /rang]s1 %akes h&s ) 8 ho/ess & slightly b[s to all ! o!rs1 :e!r he kn[s !m p]sonally or n4 ,he1 ( c\rse1 %akes h&s ) any :o are fri5ds1 & ) all m5 to :om he is introduc$1 b ) a lady only if %e (f]s him h] h&4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,ent] ,a ,,draw+-,,room ,to "k h[ to ent] a draw+-room is suppos$ to be "o ( ! supreme te/s ( good bre$+4 ,b !re %\ld be no m difficulty 9 ent]+ ! draw+-room ( ,mrs4 ,worldly ?an 9 ent]+ ! sitt+-room at home4 ,p]haps ! be/ in/ruction w\ld be l t 9 le>n+ to swim4 ,take pl5ty ( "t1 don't /ruggle & don't spla% ab\t6 ,good mann]s socially are n unlike swimm+--n ! crawl or ov]h&1 b smoo?1 tranquil swimm+4 7,q probably :]e ! expression 9 ! swim came f anyway67 ,be=e actually ent]+ a room1 x is easie/ to pause long en\gh to see :]e ! ho/ess is4 ,nev] />t =w>d & !n try to f9d h] z an aft]?\ght4 ,! place to pause is on ! ?re%old--n half-way 9 ! room4 ,! way n to ent] a draw+-room is to d>t =w>d & !n /& awkw>dly bewild]$ & look+ ab\t 9 e direction4 ,a man ( ! _w /ops at ! entrance ( ! room = a sc>cely p]ceptible mom5t1 until he p]ceives ! mo/ un5cumb]$ approa* to ! ho/ess1 & he !reupon walks ov] to h]4 ,:5 he greets 8 ho/ess he pauses slightly1 ! ho/ess smiles & (f]s h] h&2 ! g5tleman smiles & %akes h&s1 at ! same "t b[+4 ,a lady %akes h&s ) ! ho/ess & ) e "o %e kn[s :o is ne>by4 ,%e b[s to acqua9tances at a di/ance & to /rang]s to :om %e is introduc$4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,sit ,,gracefully ,hav+ %ak5 h&s ) ! ho/ess1 ! visitor1 :e!r a lady or a g5tleman1 looks ab\t quietly1 )\t hurry1 = a conv5i5t *air to sit d[n ^u1 or drop into4 ,to sit gracefully "o %\ld n p]* /iffly on ! edge ( a /raight *air1 nor sprawl at l5g? 9 an easy "o4 ,! p]fect position is "o t is easy1 b dignifi$4 ,9 o!r days1 no lady ( dignity ev] cross$ h] knees1 held h] h&s on h] hips1 or twi/$ h]self sideways1 or ev5 lean$ back 9 h] *air6 ,to-day all ^! ?+s are done2 & ! only etiquette left is on ! subject ( h[ n to exagg]ate !m4 ,no lady %\ld cross h] knees s t h] skirts g up to or above !m2 nei!r %\ld h] foot be ?ru/ out s t h] toes are at knee level4 ,an arm a-kimbo is n a graceful attitude1 nor is a twi/$ sp9e6 ,ev]yone1 ( c\rse1 leans aga9/ a *air back1 except 9 a box at ! op]a & 9 a ballroom1 b a lady %\ld nev] ?r[ h]self almo/ at full l5g? 9 a recl9+ *air or on a wide s(a :5 %e is out 9 public4 ,nei!r does a g5tleman 9 pay+ a =mal visit sit on ! middle ( 8 backbone ) "o ankle support$ on ! o!r knee1 & bo? z high z 8 head4 ,! prop] way = a lady to sit is 9 ! c5t] ( h] *air1 or slightly sideways 9 ! corn] ( a s(a4 ,%e may lean back1 ( c\rse1 & easily2 h] h&s relax$ 9 h] lap1 h] knees toge!r1 or if cross$1 h] foot mu/ n be ?ru/ =w>d s z to leave a space betwe5 ! heel & h] o!r ankle4 ,on in=mal occasions %e c lean back 9 an easy *air ) h] h&s on ! arms4 ,9 a ball dress a lady ( di/9ction nev] leans back 9 a *air2 "o c n picture a beautiful & high-br$ woman1 we>+ a ti>a & o!r ballroom jewels1 lean+ aga9/ any?+4 ,?is is1 h[ev]1 n s mu* a rule ( etiquette z a "q ( beauty & fitness4 ,a g5tleman1 also on v =mal occasions1 %\ld sit 9 ! c5t] ( 8 *air2 b unless x is a deep l\ng+ "o1 he always leans aga9/ ! back & puts a h& or an elb[ on its arms4 ,,po/scripts ,,on ,,visits ,a lady nev] calls on ano!r "u ! sponsor%ip ( a g5tleman--unless he is h] husb& or fa!r4 ,a "y girl c v prop]ly g ) h] fianc to return visit paid to h] by memb]s or fri5ds ( 8 family2 b %e %\ld n pay an initial visit unless to an invalid :o has writt5 h] a note ask+ h] to d s4 ,if1 :5 arriv+ at a lady's h\se1 y f9d h] motor at ! door1 y %\ld leave y\r c>d z ?\gh %e 7 n at home4 ,if %e happ5s to be 9 ! hall1 or com+ d[n ! /eps1 y say ,i see y are go+ out1 & ,i won't keep y6 ,if %e insi/s on y\r com+ 91 y %\ld /ay only a mom5t4 ,d n1 h[ev]1 fidget & talk ab\t leav+4 ,sit d[n z ?\gh y\r leav+ imm$iately 7 n on y\r m9d1 b aft] two or ?ree m9utes say ,good-by & g4 ,a "y man may g to see a "y girl z (t5 z he feels incl9$ & %e c>es to receive him4 ,if %e cont9ually asks to be excus$1 or %[s him scant att5tion :5 he is talk+ to h]1 or 9 any o!r way indicates t he annoys or bores h]1 8 visits %\ld cease4 ,x is v bad mann]s to invite "o p]son to y\r h\se & leave out ano!r ) :om y are also talk+4 ,y %\ld wait = an opportunity :5 ! latt] is n includ$ 9 y\r conv]sation4 ,9 good society ladies d n kiss ea* o!r :5 !y meet ei!r at p>ties or 9 public4 ,x is well to rememb] t no?+ m blatantly /amps an ill-br$ p]son ?an ! habit ( patt+1 nudg+ or tak+ hold ( p4 ,keep y\r h&s to y\rself6 might almo/ be put at ! head ( ! fir/ *apt] ( e book on etiquette4 ,be v *>y ( mak+ any su* rem>ks z ,i am afraid ,i h /ay$ too long1 or ,i mu/ apologize = hurry+ (f1 or ,i am afraid ,i h bor$ y to dea? talk+ s mu*4 ,all su* expressions are self-consci\s & /upid4 ,if y really ?9k y are /ay+ too long or leav+ too soon or talk+ too mu*--don't6 ,,an ,,invalid',s ,,visit ,,by ,,proxy ,x is n necess>y t an invalid make any attempt to return ! visits to h] fri5ds :o are att5tive en\gh to g (t5 to see h]4 ,b if a /rang] calls on h]--p>ticul>ly a /rang] :o may n "k t %e is always conf9$ to ! h\se1 x is correct = a daught] or si/] or ev5 a fri5d to leave ! invalid's c>d = h] & ev5 to pay a visit %\ld %e f9d a ho/ess at home4 ,9 ?is ev5t ! visitor by proxy lays h] own c>d z well z t ( ! invalid on ! tray pr(f]$ h]4 ,^u be+ ann\nc$ to ! ho/ess1 %e naturally expla9s t %e is appe>+ 9 place ( h] "m 7or :atev] relation ! invalid is to h]7 & t ! invalid h]self is unable to make any visits4 ,a lady nev] pays a p>ty call on a g5tleman4 ,b if ! g5tleman :o has giv5 a d9n] has 8 "m 7or si/]7 /ay+ ) him & if ! "m 7or si/]7 *ap]on$ ! p>ty1 c>ds %\ld ( c\rse be left ^u h]4 ,hav+ ris5 to g1 g6 ,don't /& & keep y\r ho/ess /&+ :ile y say good-by1 & make a la/ rem>k la/ half an h\r6 ,few ,am]icans are s punctili\s z to pay _! d9n] calls )9 tw5ty-f\r h\rs2 b x is ! height ( correctness & good mann]s4 ,:5 a g5tleman1 ^: wife is away1 accepts "s "o's hospitality1 x is correct = 8 wife to pay ! p>ty call ) 7or =7 him1 s9ce x is tak5 = grant$ t %e w\ld h be5 includ$ _h %e be5 at home4 ,9 o!r days a ho/ess ?\ght x necess>y to *ange quickly into a be/ dress if important company rang h] door-bell4 ,a lady ( fa%ion to-day receives h] visitors at once 9 :atev] dress %e happ5s to be we>+1 s9ce n to keep !m wait+ is ! great] c\rtesy4 ,,*apt] ,,xi ,,invitations1 ,,acceptances ,,& ,,regrets ,,! ,,=mal ,,invitation ,z an inh]itance f ! days :5 ,mrs4 ,br[n pres5t$ h] complim5ts & begg$ t ,mrs4 ,smi? w\ld d h] ! honor to take a di% ( tea ) h]1 we /ill--not)/&+ ! pres5t flagrant disreg>d ( old-fa%ion$ conv5tion--s5d our =mal invitations1 acceptances & regrets1 9 ! prescrib$ punctili\sness ( ! ?ird p]son4 ,all =mal invitations1 :e!r !y are to be engrav$ or to be writt5 by h& 7& _! acceptances & regrets7 are inv>iably 9 ! ?ird p]son1 & good usage p]mits ( no deviation f ?is =m4 ,,w$d+ ,,invitations ,! invitation to ! c]emony is engrav$ on ! front %eet ( :ite note-pap]4 ,! sm>te/1 at pres5t1 is t ) a rais$ m>g9--or plate m>k4 ,at ! top ( ! %eet ! cre/ 7if ! family ( ! bride has ! "r to use "o7 is emboss$ )\t color4 ,o!rwise ! invitation be>s no device4 ,! engrav+ may be 9 script1 block1 %ad$ block1 or old ,engli%4 ,! invitation to ! c]emony %\ld always reque/ ! hon\r ( y\r pres5ce1 & nev] ! pleasure ( y\r company4 7,hon\r is spell$ 9 ! old-fa%ion$ way1 ) a u in/ead ( honor47 ,enclos$ 9 ,two ,envelopes ,two envelopes are nev] us$ except = w$d+ invitations or ann\ncem5ts2 b w$d+ invitations & all accompan+ c>ds are always enclos$ fir/ 9 an inn] envelope t has no mucilage on ! flap1 & is sup]scrib$ ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,jameson ,greatlake1 )\t address4 ,?is is enclos$ 9 an out] envelope :i* is seal$ & address$3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,jameson ,greatlake1 #bd ,mi*igan ,av5ue1 ,*icago4 ,to ^? :o are only ask$ to ! *ur* no h\se invitation is enclos$4 ,,! ,,*ur* ,,invitation ,! prop] =m = an invitation to a *ur* c]emony is3 7,=m ,no4 #a47 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt+ton ,smi? reque/ ! hon\r ( y\r pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,m>y ,ka!r9e to ,mr4 ,james ,sm>tl+ton on ,tuesday ! fir/ ( ,novemb] at twelve o'clock at ,/4 ,john's ,*ur* 9 ! ,city ( ,new ,york 7,=m ,no4 #b47 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt+ton ,smi? reque/ ! hon\r ( ,,hw3 ,miss ,paul9e ,t[n's pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,m>y ,ka!r9e to ,mr4 ,james ,sm>tl+ton on ,tuesday ! fir/ ( ,novemb] at twelve o'clock at ,/4 ,john's ,*ur* 7,! size ( invitations is #e-a_/h wide by #g-c_/h deep47 7,:5 ! p>5ts issue ! invitations = a w$d+ at a h\se o!r ?an _! own47 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ri*>d ,littleh\se reque/ ! hon\r ( pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,betty to ,mr4 ,fr$]ic ,rob9son on ,saturday ! fif? ( ,novemb] at f\r o'clock at ! h\se ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,/]l+ton ,tux$o ,p>k ,new ,york ,r4s4v4p4 ,no v>iation is p]missible 9 ! =m ( a w$d+ invitation4 ,:e!r fifty gue/s are to be invit$ or five ?\s&1 ! pap]1 ! engrav+ & ! word+1 & ! d\ble envelope are precisely ! same4 ,*ur* ,c>d ( ,admittance ,9 cities or :]ev] ! g5]al public is n to be admitt$1 a c>d ( ab\t ! size ( a small visit+ c>d is enclos$ ) ! *ur* invitation3 ,please pres5t ?is c>d1 at ,/4 ,john's ,*ur* on ,tuesday ! fir/ ( ,novemb] ,c>ds to ,res]v$ ,pews ,to ! family & v intimate fri5ds :o are to be seat$ 9 especially designat$ pews3 ,please pres5t ?is to an u%] ,pew ,no4 on ,?ursday ! n9? ( ,may ,engrav$ pew c>ds are ord]$ only = v big w$d+s :]e tw5ty or m pews are to be res]v$4 ,! m usual cu/om--at all small & _m big w$d+s--is = ! "m ( ! bride1 & ! "m ( ! bridegroom ea* to write on h] p]sonal visit+ c>d3 ,,hw3 ,pew ,no4 #g ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt+ton ,smi? ,,f\r ,,we/ ,,?irty-,,six? ,,/reet ,a c>d = ! res]v$ enclosure b no especial pew is (t5 inscrib$ ,)9 ! ,ribbons4 ,,invitation ,,to ,,! ,,h\se ,! invitation to ! breakfa/ or reception foll[+ ! *ur* c]emony is engrav$ on a c>d to mat* ! pap] ( ! *ur* invitation & is ! size ( ! latt] aft] x is fold$ = ! envelope3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt+ton ,smi? reque/ ! pleasure ( ,,hw3 ,mr4 ,mrs4 ,james ,greatlake's company on ,tuesday ! fir/ ( ,novemb] at half aft] f\r o'clock at ,f\r ,we/ ,?irty-six? ,/reet ,r4s4v4p4 ,,c]emony ,,& ,,reception ,,invitation ,,9 ,,"o ,occasionally1 especially = a c\ntry w$d+1 ! invitation to ! breakfa/ or ! reception is add$ to ! "o to ! c]emony3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,alex&] ,*att]ton reque/ ! hon\r ( ,,hw3 ,mr4 ,mrs4 ,worldly's pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,he/] to ,mr4 ,james ,t[n1 junior on ,tuesday ! fir/ ( ,june at ?ree o'clock at ,/4 ,john's ,*ur* & aft]w>ds at ,sunnylawn ,ridgefield ,r4s4v4p4 ,or ! invitation reads at twelve o'clock1 at ,/4 ,john's ,*ur*1 & aft]w>ds at breakfa/ at ,sunnylawn2 b aft]w>ds to ! reception at ,sunnylawn is wrong4 ,,! ,,invitation ,,to ,a ,,h\se ,,w$d+ ,is precisely ! same except t at ,sunnylawn or at ,f\r ,we/ ,?irty-six? ,/reet is put 9 place ( at ,/4 ,john's ,*ur*1 & an invitation to /ay on at a h\se1 to :i* ! gue/ is already invit$1 is n necess>y4 ,! ,tra9 ,c>d ,if ! w$d+ is to be 9 ! c\ntry1 a tra9 c>d is enclos$3 ,a special tra9 w leave ,gr& ,c5tral ,/ation at #ab3de ,p4,m41 arriv+ at ,ridgefield at #b3de4 ,return+1 tra9 w leave ,ridgefield at #e3aj ,p4,m41 arriv+ ,new ,york at #g4jb ,p4,m4 ,%[ ?is c>d at ! gate4 ,,invitation ,,to ,,reception ,,& ,,n ,,to ,,c]emony ,x sometimes happ5s t ! bride pref]s none b h] family at ! c]emony1 & a big reception4 ,?is plan is *os5 :]e ! "m ( ! bride or o!r v ne> relative is an invalid4 ,! c]emony may take place at a b$side1 or x may be t ! invalid c g d[n to ! draw+-room ) only ! imm$iate families1 & is unequal to ! pres5ce ( _m p4 ,"u ^! circum/ances ! invitations to ! breakfa/ or reception are s5t on %eets ( note pap] l t us$ = *ur* invitations1 b ! word+ is3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,gran?am ,jones reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company at ! w$d+ breakfa/ ( _! daught] ,muriel & ,mr4 ,burl+ame ,ross1 ,jr4 on ,saturday ! fir/ ( ,novemb] at "o o'clock at ,f\r ,ea/ ,?irty-,eigh? ,/reet ,! favor ( an answ] is reque/$ ,! pleasure ( y\r company is reque/$ 9 ?is case in/ead ( ! hon\r ( y\r pres5ce4 ,,! ,,writt5 ,,w$d+ ,,invitation ,if a w$d+ is to be s small t no invitations are engrav$1 ! notes ( invitation %\ld be p]sonally writt5 by ! bride3 ,sally ,de>3 ,our w$d+ is to be on ,?ursday ! t5? at half-pa/ twelve1 ,*ri/ ,*ur* ,*antry4 ,( c\rse we want y & ,jack & ! *ildr56 ,& we want all ( y to come aft]w>d to ,aunt ,m>y's1 = a bite to eat & to wi% u luck4 ,affectionately1 ,hel54 or ,de> ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t3 ,dick & ,i are to be m>ri$ at ,*ri/ ,*ur* ,*antry at noon on ,?ursday ! t5?4 ,we bo? want y & ,mr4 ,k9dh>t to come to ! *ur* & aft]w>d = a v small breakfa/ to my ,aunt's--,mrs4 ,slade--at ,two ,p>k ,av5ue4 ,) mu* love f u bo?1 ,affectionately1 ,hel54 ,,w$d+ ,,ann\ncem5ts ,if no g5]al invitations 7 issu$ to ! *ur*1 an ann\ncem5t engrav$ on note pap] l t ( ! invitation to ! c]emony1 is s5t to ! entire visit+ li/ ( bo? ! bride's & ! groom's family3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,mayn>d ,b>nes h ! hon\r to ann\nce ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,priscilla to ,mr4 ,eb5 ,hoyt ,leam+ on ,tuesday ! tw5ty-six? ( ,april ,"o ?\s& n9e hundr$ & tw5ty-two 9 ! ,city ( ,new ,york ,,! ,,second ,,m>riage ,,invitations ,invitations to ! m>riage ( a wid[--if %e is v "y--are s5t 9 ! "n ( h] p>5ts exactly z 7 ! invitations to h] fir/ w$d+1 except+ t h] "n in/ead ( be+ m]ely ,priscilla is n[ writt5 ,priscilla ,b>nes ,leam+1 ?us3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,mayn>d ,b>nes reque/ ! hon\r ( y\r pres5ce at ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,priscilla ,b>nes ,leam+ to etc4 ,,ann\ncem5ts ,= a "y wid['s m>riage are also ! same z = a fir/ w$d+3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,mayn>d ,b>nes h ! hon\r to ann\nce ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,priscilla ,b>nes ,leam+ to ,mr4 ,wor?+ton ,adams etc4 ,b ! ann\ncem5t ( ! m>riage ( a wid[ ( matur] ye>s is engrav$ on note pap] & reads3 ,mrs4 ,priscilla ,b>nes ,leam+ & ,mr4 ,wor?+ton ,adams h ! hon\r to ann\nce _! m>riage on ,monday ! second ( ,novemb] at ,s>atoga ,spr+s ,new ,york ,,c>ds ,,( ,,address ,if ! bride & groom wi% to in=m _! fri5ds ( _! future address 7especially 9 cities n cov]$ by ! ,social ,regi/]71 x is cu/om>y to enclose a c>d ) ! ann\ncem5t3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,wor?+ton ,adams w be at home aft] ! fir/ ( ,decemb] at ,tw5ty-five ,ald]ney ,place ,or m]ely _! visit+ c>d ) _! new address 9 ! l[] "r corn]3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,wor?+ton ,adams #be ,ald]ney ,place ,,invitation ,,to ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>y ,= a w$d+ anniv]s>y celebration1 ! ye> ( ! w$d+ & ! pres5t ye> are usually /amp$ across ! top ( an invitation4 ,sometimes ! c\ple's initials are add$4 #ahih-aibb ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,alv9 ,johnson reque/ ! pleasure ( ,,hw3 ,mr4 ,mrs4 ,,illegible company at ! ,tw5ty-fif? ,anniv]s>y ( _! m>riage on ,w$nesday ! fir/ ( ,june at n9e o'clock ,tw5ty-f\r ,au/9 ,av5ue ,r4s4v4p4 ,,answ]+ ,a ,,w$d+ ,,invitation ,an invitation to ! *ur* only requires no answ] :atev]4 ,an invitation to ! reception or breakfa/ is answ]$ on ! fir/ page ( a %eet ( note pap]1 & al?\gh x is writt5 by h& ! spac+ ( ! words mu/ be foll[$ z ?\gh !y 7 engrav$4 ,?is is ! =m ( acceptance3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,rob]t ,gild+1 ,jr41 accept ) pleasure ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt+ton ,smi?'s k9d invitation = ,tuesday ! fir/ ( ,june ,! regret reads3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ri*>d ,br[n regret t !y are unable to accept ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt+ton ,smi?'s k9d invitation = ,tuesday ! fir/ ( ,june ,,o!r ,,=mal ,,invitations ,all o!r =mal invitations are engrav$ 7nev] pr9t$7 on c>ds ( ?9 :ite matte ,bri/ol bo>d1 ei!r pla9 or plate-m>k$ l ^? = w$d+ reception c>ds4 ,note pap] su* z t us$ = w$d+ invitations is occasionally1 b r>ely1 pref]r$4 ,monograms1 addresses1 p]sonal devices are n us$ on engrav$ invitations4 ,! size ( ! c>d ( invitation v>ies ) p]sonal pref]5ce f f\r & a half to six in*es 9 wid?1 & f ?ree to f\r & a half in*es 9 height4 ,! mo/ graceful proportion is ?ree units 9 height to f\r 9 wid?4 ,! lett]+ is a matt] ( p]sonal *oice1 b ! pla9] ! design1 ! bett]4 ,scrolls & ornate trimm+s are bad ta/e always4 ,punctuation is us$ only aft] ea* lett] ( ! ,r4s4v4p4 & x is absolutely correct to use small lett]s = ! s4v4p4 ,capitals ,r4,s4,v4,p4 are p]missible2 b fa/idi\s p pref] ,r4s4v4p4 ,,invitation ,,to ,a ,,ball ,! ^w ball is nev] us$ except+ 9 an invitation to a public "o1 or at lea/ a semi-public "o1 su* z may be giv5 by a committee = a *>ity or a club1 or association ( "s sort4 ,= example3 ,! ,committee ( ! ,gre5wood ,club reque/ ! pleasure ( y\r company at a ,ball to be held 9 ! ,gre5wood ,clubh\se on ! ev5+ ( ,novemb] ! sev5? at t5 o'clock4 = ! b5efit ( ,! ,neighborhood ,hospital ,tickets five doll>s ,invitations to a private ball1 no matt] :e!r ! ball is to be giv5 9 a private h\se1 or :e!r ! ho/ess has engag$ an entire floor ( ! bigge/ hotel 9 ! _w1 ann\nce m]ely t ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,somebody w be ,at ,home1 & ! ^w danc+ is add$ almo/ z ?\gh x 7 an aft]?\ght 9 ! l[] left corn]1 ! words ,at ,home be+ slightly l>g] ?an ^? ( ! re/ ( ! invitation4 ,:5 bo? ,at & ,home are writt5 ) a capital lett]1 ?is is ! mo/ punctili\s & =mal invitation t x is possible to s5d4 ,x is engrav$ 9 script usually1 on a c>d ( :ite ,bri/ol bo>d ab\t five & a half in*es wide & ?ree & ?ree-qu>t]s ( an in* high4 ,l ! w$d+ invitation x has an emboss$ cre/ )\t color1 or no?+4 ,! precise =m is3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ti!r+ton de ,pay/] ,at ,home ,on ,monday ! ?ird ( ,janu>y at t5 o'clock ,"o ,ea/ ,fiftie? ,/reet ,! fav\r ( an answ] is reque/$ ,danc+ or ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,davis ,jeff]son ,at ,home ,on ,monday ! ?ird ( ,janu>y at t5 o'clock ,t[n & ,c\ntry ,club ,k9dly s5d reply to ,?ree ,mt4 ,v]non ,squ>e ,danc+ 7,if pref]r$1 ! above invitations may be engrav$ 9 block or %ad$ block type47 ,,ball ,,= ,d,,butante ,,daught] ,v occasionally an invitation is word$ ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,davis ,jeff]son ,miss ,alice ,jeff]son ,at ,home if ! daught] is a dbutante & ! ball is = h]1 b x is n /rictly correct to h any names b ^? ( ! ho/ & 8 wife above ! words ,at ,home4 ,! prop] =m ( invitation :5 ! ball is to be giv5 = a dbutante1 is z foll[s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 de ,puy/] reque/ ! pleasure ( ,,hw3 ,miss ,rosalie ,gray's company at a dance 9 hon\r ( _! daught] ,miss ,alice de ,puy/] on ,monday ev5+1 ! ?ird ( ,janu>y at t5 o'clock ,"o ,ea/ ,fiftie? ,/reet ,r4s4v4p4 or ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ti!r+ton de ,puy/] ,miss ,alice de ,puy/] reque/ ! pleasure ( ,,hw3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,greatlake's company on ,monday ev5+ ! ?ird ( ,janu>y at t5 o'clock ,"o ,ea/ ,fiftie? ,/reet ,danc+ ,r4s4v4p4 ,! =m mo/ (t5 us$ by fa%ionable ho/esses 9 ,new ,york & ,newport is3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,gild+ reque/ ! pleasure ( company at a small dance on ,monday ! fir/ ( ,janu>y at ,ought ,ought ,fif? ,av5ue ,ev5 if giv5 = a dbutante daught]1 h] "n does n appe>1 & x is call$ a small dance1 :e!r x is really small or big4 ,! reque/ = a reply is (t5 omitt$1 s9ce ev]yone is suppos$ to "k t an answ] is necess>y4 ,b if ! dance1 or d9n]1 or :atev] ! ent]ta9m5t is to be1 is giv5 at "o address & ! ho/ess lives at ano!r1 bo? addresses are always giv53 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,sidney ,oldname reque/ ! pleasure ( company at a dance on ,monday ev5+ ! six? ( ,janu>y at t5 o'clock ,! ,fitz-,*]ry ,k9dly s5d response to ,brookmead[s ,l4,i4 ,if ! dance is giv5 = a "y fri5d :o is n a relative1 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,oldname's invitations %\ld reque/ ! pleasure ( company at a dance 9 hon\r ( ,miss ,rosalie ,grey ,,:5 ,,& ,,h[ ,,"o ,,may ,,ask ,,= ,,an ,,invitation ,,= ,a ,,/rang] ,"o may nev] ask = an invitation = oneself any:]e6 ,& "o may n ask = an invitation to a lun*eon or a d9n] = a /rang]4 ,b an invitation = any g5]al ent]ta9m5t may be ask$ = a /rang]--especially = a h\se-gue/4 ,example3 ,de> ,mrs4 ,worldly1 ,a "y c\s9 ( m9e1 ,david ,blakely f ,*icago1 is /ay+ ) u4 ,may ,paul9e take him to y\r dance on ,friday8 ,if x w be inconv5i5t = y to include him1 please d n hesitate to say s frankly4 ,v s9c]ely y\rs1 ,c>ol9e ,rob9son ,t[n4 ,answ]3 ,de> ,mrs4 ,t[n1 ,i %all be delight$ to h ,paul9e br+ ,mr4 ,blakely on ! t5?4 ,s9c]ely y\rs1 ,edi? ,worldly4 ,or ,a man might write = an invitation = a fri5d4 ,b a v "y girl %\ld n ask = an invitation = a man--or anyone--s9ce x is m fitt+ t h] "m ask = h]4 ,an old] girl might say to ,mrs4 ,worldly1 ,my c\s9 is /ay+ ) u1 may ,i br+ him to y\r dance8 ,or if %e kn[s ,mrs4 ,worldly v well %e might s5d a message by telephone3 ,miss ,t[n w\ld l to "k :e!r %e may br+ h] c\s91 ,mr4 ,mi*igan1 to ,mrs4 ,worldly's dance4 ,,c>d ,,( ,,g5]al ,,invitation ,invitations to important ent]ta9m5ts are ne>ly always especially engrav$1 s t no?+ is writt5 except ! "n ( ! p]son invit$2 b1 = ! ho/ess :o ent]ta9s con/antly1 a c>d :i* is engrav$ 9 blank1 s t x may s]ve = d9n]1 lun*eon1 dance1 g>d5 p>ty1 musical1 or :atev] %e may c>e to give1 is indisp5sable4 ,! spac+ ( ! model %[n bel[1 ! proportion ( ! words1 & ! size ( ! c>d1 are especially good4 ,mrs4 ,/ev5s reque/s ! pleasure ( company at on at o'clock ,two ,elm ,place ,,! ,,d9n] ,,invitation ,! blank :i* may be us$ only = d9n]3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,hunt+ton ,jones reque/ ! pleasure ( company at d9n] on at eight o'clock at ,two ,?\s& ,fif? ,av5ue 7,= type & spac+ foll[ model on p4 #aah47 ,,invitations ,,to ,,receptions ,,& ,,teas ,invitations to receptions & teas diff] f invitations to balls 9 t ! c>ds on :i* !y are engrav$ are usually some:at small]1 ! words ,at ,home ) capital lett]s are *ang$ to w be at home ) small lett]s1 & ! "t is n set at ! h\r4 ,also1 except on v unusual occasions1 a man's "n does n appe>4 ,! "n ( ! dbutante = :om ! tea is giv5 is put "u t ( h] "m1 & sometimes "u t ( h] si/] or ! bride ( h] bro!r4 ,mrs4 ,james ,t[n ,mrs4 ,james ,t[n1 junior ,miss ,paul9e ,t[n w be at home ,on ,tuesday ! eigh? ( ,decemb] f f\r until six o'clock ,two ,?\s& ,fif? ,av5ue4 ,mr4 ,t[n's "n w\ld probably appe> ) t ( 8 wife if he 7 an arti/1 & ! reception 0 giv5 9 8 /udio to view 8 pictures1 or if a reception 7 giv5 to meet a di/+ui%$ gue/ su* z a bi%op or a gov]nor1 9 :i* case ,9 hon\r ( ! ,"r ,rev]5d ,william ,p[ell1 or ,to meet ,8 ,excell5cy ! ,gov]nor1 is at ! top ( ! invitation4 ,,! ,,=mal ,,invitation ,,:i* ,,is ,,writt5 ,:5 ! =mal invitation to d9n] or lun* is writt5 in/ead ( engrav$1 note pap] /amp$ ) h\se or p]sonal device is us$4 ,! word+ & spac+ mu/ foll[ ! engrav$ models exactly4 #cej ,,p>k ,,av5ue ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,k9dh>t reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,rob]t ,gild+ ,jr4's company at ,d9n] on ,tuesday ! six? ( ,decemb] at eight o'clock4 ,x mu/ n be writt53 #cej ,,p>k ,,av5ue ,,telephone #gegb ,,plaza ,mr4 ,mrs4 ,j4 ,k9dh>t reque/ ! pleasure ( ,mr4 ,mrs4 ,james ,t[n's ,company at ,d9n] on ,tuesday etc4 ,! =ego+ example has f\r faults3 7#a7 ,lett]s 9 ! ?ird p]son mu/ foll[ ! prescrib$ =m4 ,?is does n4 7#b7 ,! writ+ is cr[d$ aga9/ ! m>g94 7#c7 ,! telephone numb] %\ld be us$ only = bus9ess & in=mal notes & lett]s4 7#d7 ,! full "n ,john %\ld be us$ in/ead ( ! initial ,j4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 is bett] =m ?an ,mr4 ,mrs4 ,,recall+ ,,an ,,invitation ,if = illness or o!r reason invitations h to be recall$ ! foll[+ =ms are correct4 ,!y are always pr9t$ in/ead ( engrav$1 !re be+ no "t = engrav+4 ,ow+ to sudd5 illness ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt+ton ,smi? are oblig$ to recall _! invitations = ,tuesday ! t5? ( ,june4 ,! =m us$ :5 ! invitation is po/pon$3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt+ton ,smi? regret exce$+ly t ow+ to ! illness ( ,mrs4 ,smi? _! dance is tempor>ily po/pon$4 ,:5 a w$d+ is brok5 (f aft] ! invitations h be5 issu$3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,b5jam9 ,nott+ham ann\nce t ! m>riage ( _! daught] ,m>y ,ka?>9e & ,mr4 ,j]rold ,a!rton w n take place ,,=mal ,,acceptance ,,or ,,regret ,acceptances or regrets are always writt54 ,an engrav$ =m to be fill$ 9 is vulg>--no?+ c\ld be 9 worse ta/e ?an to flaunt y\r popul>ity by ann\nc+ t x is impossible to answ] y\r num]\s invitations )\t ! "t-sav+ device ( a pr9t$ blank4 ,if y h a doz5 or m invitations a day1 if y h a hundr$1 hire a /aff ( secret>ies if ne$ be1 b answ] by h&4 ,! =mal acceptance to an invitation1 :e!r x is to a dance1 w$d+ breakfa/ or a ball1 is id5tical3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,donald ,lovejoy accept ) pleasure ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,smi?'s k9d invitation = d9n] on ,monday ! t5? ( ,decemb] at eight o'clock ,! =mula = regret3 ,mr4 ,clubw9 ,doe regrets extremely t a previ\s engagem5t prev5ts 8 accept+ ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,smi?'s k9d invitation = d9n] on ,monday ! t5? ( ,decemb] or ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,timo?y ,k]ry regret t !y are unable to accept ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,smi?'s k9d invitation = d9n] on ,monday ! t5? ( ,decemb] ,9 accept+ an invitation ! day & h\r mu/ be repeat$1 s t 9 case ( mi/ake x may be rectifi$ & prev5t "o f arriv+ on a day :5 "o is n expect$4 ,b 9 decl9+ an invitation x is n necess>y to repeat ! h\r4 ,,visit+ ,,c>d ,,invitations ,) ! exception ( invitations to h\se-p>ties1 d9n]s & lun*eons1 ! writ+ ( notes is pa/4 ,= an in=mal dance1 musical1 picnic1 = a tea to meet a gue/1 or = bridge1 a lady uses h] ord9>y visit+ c>d3 ,to meet ,miss ,millic5t ,gild+ ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,k9dh>t ,tues4 ,jan4 #g4 ,danc+ at #aj4 o'ck4 #cej ,,p>k ,,av5ue or ,w$4 ,jan4 #h4 ,bridge at #d4 o'ck4 ,,mrs4 ,,john ,,k9dh>t ,r4s4v4p4 #cej ,,p>k ,,av5ue ,answ]s to invitations writt5 on visit+ c>ds are always =mally word$ 9 ! ?ird p]son1 precisely z ?\gh ! invitation _h be5 engrav$4 ,,invitations ,,9 ,,! ,,second ,,p]son ,! in=mal d9n] & lun*eon invitation is n spac$ accord+ to set words on ea* l9e1 b is writt5 m]ely 9 two p>agraphs4 ,example3 ,de> ,mrs4 ,smi?3 ,w y & ,mr4 ,smi? d9e ) u on ,?ursday1 ! sev5? ( ,janu>y1 at eight o'clock8 ,hop+ s mu* = ! pleasure ( see+ y1 ,v s9c]ely1 ,c>ol9e ,rob9son ,t[n4 ,,! ,,in=mal ,,note ,,( ,,acceptance ,,or ,,regret ,de> ,mrs4 ,t[n3 ,x w give u mu* pleasure to d9e ) y on ,?ursday ! sev5?1 at eight o'clock4 ,?ank+ y = y\r k9d ?\ght ( u1 ,s9c]ely y\rs1 ,m>g>et ,smi?4 ,w$nesday4 or ,de> ,mrs4 ,t[n3 ,my husb& & ,i w d9e ) y on ,?ursday ! sev5?1 at eight o'clock1 ) greate/ pleasure4 ,?ank+ y s mu* = ?9k+ ( u1 ,always s9c]ely1 ,m>g>et ,smi?4 or ,de> ,mrs4 ,t[n3 ,we are s sorry t we %all be unable to d9e ) y on ! sev5?1 z we h a previ\s engagem5t4 ,) _m ?anks = y\r k9dness 9 ?9k+ ( u1 ,v s9c]ely1 ,e!l ,norman4 ,,invitation ,,to ,,c\ntry ,,h\se ,to an intimate fri5d3 ,de> ,sally3 ,w y & ,jack 7& ! baby & nurse1 ( c\rse7 come out ! #bh? 7,friday71 & /ay = t5 days8 ,morn+ & ev5+ tra9s take only =ty m9utes1 & x won't hurt ,jack to commute = ! weekdays betwe5 ! two ,sundays6 ,i am sure ! c\ntry w d y & ! baby good1 or at lea/ x w d me good to h y "h4 ,) mu* love1 affectionately1 ,e!l ,norman4 ,to a fri5d ( "o's daught]3 ,de> ,m>y3 ,w y & ,jim come on ,friday ! fir/ = ! ,worldly dance1 & /ay ov] ,sunday8 ,muriel asks me to tell y t ,hel5 & ,dick1 & also ,jimmy ,smi? are to be "h & %e p>ticul>ly hopes t y w come1 too4 ,! ?ree-tw5ty f ,new ,york is ! be/ tra9--mu*4 ,?\gh !re is a f\r-tw5ty & a five-sixte51 9 case ,jim is n able to take ! e>li] "o4 ,v s9c]ely1 ,alice ,jones4 ,confirm+ a v]bal invitation3 ,de> ,hel53 ,?is note is m]ely to rem9d y t y & ,dick are com+ "h = ! ,worldly dance on ! six?4 ,"m is expect+ y on ! ?ree-tw5ty tra91 & w meet y "h at ! /ation4 ,affectionately1 ,muriel4 ,invitation to a h\se p>ty at a camp3 ,de> ,miss ,/range3 ,w y come up "h on ! six? ( ,septemb] & /ay until ! sixte5?8 ,x w\ld give u all ! greate/ pleasure4 ,!re is a tra9 leav+ ,broadway ,/ation at #h4jc ,a4,m4 :i* w get y to ,du/ville ,junction at #e ,p4,m4 & "h 9 "t = supp]4 ,x is only fair to w>n y t ! camp is v primitive2 we h no luxuries1 b we c make y fairly com=table if y l an outdoor life & are n too exact+4 ,please d n br+ a maid or any clo!s t ! woods or wea!r c ru94 ,y w ne$ no?+ b outdoor ?+s3 walk+ boots 7if y c>e to walk71 a ba?+ suit 7if y c>e to swim 9 ! lake71 & some?+ com=table r ?an sm>t = ev5+ 7if y c>e to dress = supp]74 ,b on no acc\nt br+ ev5+1 or any good clo!s6 ,hop+ s mu* t camp+ appeals to y & t we %all see y on ! ev5+ ( ! six?1 ,v s9c]ely y\rs1 ,m>?a ,k9dh>t4 ,,! ,,invitation ,,by ,,telephone ,cu/om :i* has alt]$ _m ways & mann]s has tak5 away all opprobrium f ! message by telephone1 & ) ! exception ( ^? ( a v small m9ority ( lett]-lov+ ho/esses1 all in=mal invitations are s5t & answ]$ by telephone4 ,su* messages1 h[ev]1 foll[ a prescrib$ =m3 ,is ?is ,l5ox #jjjj8 ,w y please ask ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,smi? if !y w d9e ) ,mrs4 ,gran?am ,jones next ,tuesday ! t5? at eight o'clock8 ,mrs4 ,jones' telephone numb] is ,plaza1 "o two r+ two4 ,! answ]3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,hunt+ton ,smi? regret t !y w be unable to d9e ) ,mrs4 ,jones on ,tuesday ! t5?1 z !y are engag$ = t ev5+4 ,or ,w y please tell ,mrs4 ,jones t ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,hunt+ton ,smi? are v sorry t !y w be unable to d9e ) h] next ,tuesday1 & ?ank h] = ask+ !m4 ,or ,please tell ,mrs4 ,jones t ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,hunt+ton ,smi? w d9e ) h] on ,tuesday ! t5?1 ) pleasure4 ,! =mula is ! same1 :e!r ! invitation is to d9e or lun*1 or play bridge or t5nis1 or golf1 or motor1 or g on a picnic4 ,w ,mrs4 ,smi? play bridge ) ,mrs4 ,gran?am ,jones ?is aft]noon at ! ,c\ntry ,club1 at f\r o'clock8 ,hold ! wire please 99 99 99 ,mrs4 ,jones w play bridge1 ) pleasure at f\r o'clock4 ,9 _m h\ses1 especially :]e !re are sev]al gr[n sons or daught]s1 a blank =m is kept 9 ! pantry3 ,w ) ,m on ! at o'clock4 ,telephone numb] ,accept ,regret ,^! slips are tak5 to :i*ev] memb] ( ! family has be5 invit$1 :o crosses (f regret or accept & h&s ! slip back = transmission by ! butl]1 ! p>lor-maid or :oev] is on duty 9 ! pantry4 ,if ,mr4 ,smi? & ,mrs4 ,jones are !mselves telephon+ !re is no long conv]sation1 b m]ely3 ,mrs4 ,jones3 ,is t y ,mrs4 ,smi? 7or ,s>ah78 ,?is is ,mrs4 ,jones 7or ,alice74 ,w y & y\r husb& 7or ,john7 d9e ) u to-morr[ at eight o'clock8 ,mrs4 ,smi?3 ,i'm s sorry we c't4 ,we are d9+ ) ,mabel4 ,or ,we h p com+ "h4 ,invitations to a h\se p>ty are (t5 z n telephon$3 ,hello1 ,e!l8 ,?is is ,alice4 ,w y & ,ar?ur come on ! sixte5? = ov] ,sunday8 ,! sixte5?8 ,t's ,friday4 ,we'd love to6 ,w y take ! #c3bj tra98 etc4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,gem ,,( ,a ,,h\se ,,may ,,be ,,no ,,size ,,at ,,all1 ,,b ,,its ,,l9es ,,are ,,hone/1 ,,& ,,its ,,pa9t+ ,,& ,,w9d[ ,,curta9s ,,9 ,,good ,,ta/e 444 ,,& ,,its ,,bell ,,is ,,answ]$ ,,promptly ,,by ,a ,,trim ,,maid ,,) ,a ,,l[ ,,voice ,,& ,,quiet1 ,,c\rte\s ,,mann]4 ,page #aca4 ,,*apt] ,,xii ,,! ,,well-,,appo9t$ ,,h\se ,e h\se has an outw>d appe>ance to be made z pres5table z possible1 an int]ior cont9ually to be set 9 ord]1 & incessantly to be clean$4 ,& = ^? t dwell )9 x !re are meals to be prep>$ & s]v$2 l95 to be laund]$ & m5d$2 p]sonal g>m5ts to be bru%$ & press$2 & p]haps *ildr5 to be c>$ =4 ,!re is also a door-bell to be answ]$ 9 :i* mann]s z well z appe>ance come into play4 ,beyond ^! fundam5tal necessities1 luxuries c be add$ indef9itely1 su* z spl5dor ( ar*itecture1 ( g>d5+1 & ( furni%+1 ) e ref9em5t ( s]vice t executive ability c produce4 ,) all ?is g5u9e spl5dor possible only to ! greate/ e/abli%m5ts1 a little h\se c no m compete ?an a diamond weigh+ b half a c>at c compete ) a /one weigh+ fifty times z mu*4 ,& ?is is a good simile1 because ! p]fect little h\se may be repres5t$ by a corn] cut f precisely ! same /one & diff]+ !re=e m]ely 9 size 7& value naturally71 :]eas ! h\se 9 bad ta/e & improp]ly run may be repres5t$ by a diamond t is (f color & full ( flaws2 or 9 "s in/ances1 m]ely a piece ( glass t to none b ^? z ignorant z its own]1 = a mom5t sugge/s a gem ( value4 ,a gem ( a h\se may be no size at all1 b its l9es are hone/1 & its pa9t+ & w9d[ curta9s 9 good ta/e4 ,z = its upkeep1 its pa? or sidewalk is beautifully neat1 /eps scrubb$1 brasses poli%$1 & its bell answ]$ promptly by a trim maid ) a l[ voice & quiet c\rte\s mann]2 all ( :i* contributes to ! impression ( quality ev5s ?\gh x 9 no?+ sugge/s ! luxury ( a palace ^: op5$ bronze door reveals a r[ ( p[d]$ footm54 ,b ! mansion ( ba/>d ar*itecture & crude pa9t1 ) its brass indiff]5tly clean1 ) co>se lace beh9d ! plate glass ( its gold5-oak door1 & ! bell answ]$ at elev5 9 ! morn+ by a butl] 9 an ill fitt+ dress suit & we>+ a mu/a*e1 might z well be plac>d$3 ,"h lives a vulg>ian :o has nev] _h an opportunity to acquire cultivation4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 ! k ( h[ to make a h\se di/+ui%$ bo? 9 appe>ance & 9 s]vice1 is a mu* high] te/ ?an pres5t+ a di/+ui%$ appe>ance 9 oneself & acquir+ pres5table mann]s4 ,!re are any numb] ( p :o dress well1 & 9 e way appe> well1 b a lack ( bre$+ is app>5t z soon z y g into _! h\ses4 ,_! s]vants h n good mann]s1 !y are n prop]ly turn$ out1 ! s]vice is n well done1 & ! decorations & furni%+s %[ lack ( ta/e & invit+ arrangem5t4 ,! p]sonality ( a h\se is indef9able1 b !re nev] liv$ a lady ( great cultivation & *>m ^: home1 :e!r a palace1 a f>m-cottage or a t9y ap>tm5t1 did n reflect ! *>m ( its own]4 ,e visitor feels impell$ to l+]1 & is loa? to g4 ,h\ses )\t p]sonality are a s]ies ( rooms ) furniture 9 !m4 ,sometimes _! lack ( *>m is baffl+2 e article is correct & beautiful1 b "o has ! feel+ t ! decorator made *alk-m>ks indicat+ ! exact spot on :i* ea* piece ( furniture is to /&4 ,o!r h\ses are fill$ ) ?+s ( little intr9sic value1 (t5 ) mu* t is %abby1 or !y are p]haps empty to ! po9t ( b>5ess1 & yet !y h t invit+ atmosph]e1 & air ( unmi/akable quality :i* is an unfail+ indication ( high-br$ p4 ,,becom+ ,,furniture ,suitability is ! te/ ( good ta/e always4 ,! mann] to ! mom5t1 ! dress to ! occasion1 ! article to ! place1 ! furniture to ! backgr\nd4 ,& yet to comb9e _m p]iods 9 "o & commit no ana*ronism1 to put some?+ ,fr5*1 some?+ ,spani%1 some?+ ,italian1 & some?+ ,engli% into an ,am]ican h\se & h ! result ! p]fection ( ,am]ican ta/e--is a feat ( leg]dema9 t has be5 accompli%$ "t & aga94 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,p]sonality ,,( ,a ,,h\se ,,is ,,indef9able1 ,,b ,,!re ,,nev] ,,liv$ ,a ,,lady ,,( ,,great ,,cultivation ,,& ,,*>m ,,^: ,,home1 ,,:e!r ,a ,,palace1 ,a ,,f>m-,,cottage ,,or ,a ,,t9y ,,ap>tm5t1 ,,did ,,n ,,reflect ,,! ,,*>m ,,( ,,its ,,own]4 ,page #acb4 ,a woman ( great ta/e foll[s fa%ion 9 h\se furni%+1 j z %e foll[s fa%ion 9 dress1 9 g5]al pr9ciples only4 ,%e we>s :at is becom+ to h] own type1 & %e puts 9 h] h\se only su* articles z are becom+ to x4 ,t a qua9t old-fa%ion$ h\se %\ld be fill$ ) qua9t old-fa%ion$ pieces ( furniture1 9 size proportionate to ! size ( ! rooms1 & t ru%-bottom$ *airs & rag-c>pets h no place 9 a m>ble hall1 ne$ n be po9t$ out4 ,b to an amaz+ numb] ( p]sons1 proportion seems to mean no?+ at all4 ,!y w put a huge piece ( furniture 9 a t9y room s t ! effect is "o ( pa9ful indige/ion2 or !y w cr[d ?+s all into "o corn]--s t x seems ab\t to capsize2 or !y w spoil a really good room by ! addition ( s5seless & inappropriately clutt]+ objects1 9 ! belief t because !y are valuable !y mu/ be beautiful1 reg>dless ( suitability4 ,sometimes a room is m>r$ by treasures clung to = reasons ( s5tim5t4 ,,! ,,bl9dness ,,( ,,s5tim5t ,x is almo/ impossible = any ( u to judge accurately ( ?+s :i* we h ?r\gh\t a lifetime be5 accu/om$ to4 ,a *air t 0 gr&mo!r's1 a pa9t+ fa!r b\ght1 ! silv] t has always be5 on ! d9+ table--are all s "p ( ourselves t we are s5tim5t-bl9d to _! defects4 ,= in/ance1 ! portrait ( a ,colonial (fic]1 among o!rs1 has always hung 9 ,mrs4 ,oldname's d9+-room4 ,"o day an art critic1 ^: k 0 bett] ?an 8 mann]s1 blurt$ out1 ,w y please tell me :y y h t dreadful ?+ 9 ?is o!rwise p]fect room8 ,mrs4 ,oldname1 some:at tak5 back1 answ]$ r wond]+ly3 ,is x dreadful8--,really8 ,i h a feel+ ( affection = him & 8 dog6 ,! critic 0 m]ciless4 ,if y call a cotton-flannel effigy1 a dog6 ,& z = ! figure1 x is equally false & lifeless6 ,x is amaz+ h[ any "o ) y\r ta/e c be> look+ at x6 ,9 spite ( 8 rud5ess1 ,mrs4 ,oldname saw t :at he said 0 q true1 b n until ! fact _h be5 po9t$ out to h]4 ,gradually %e grew to dislike ! poor (fic] s mu* t he 0 f9ally relegat$ to ! attic4 ,9 ! same way mo/ ( u h belong+s t h always be5 !re or p]haps treasures t we love = "s association1 :i* are probably z bad z c be1 to :i* habit has bl9d$ u1 ?\gh we w\ld n h to be told ( _! hide\sness 7 !y se5 by u 9 ! h\se ( ano!r4 ,x is n to be expect$ t all p c ?r[ away e e/hetically unpleas+ possession1 ) :i* ne>ly e h\se tw5ty-five ye>s ago 0 fill$1 b ^? ^: pocket-book & s5tim5t w p]mit1 w\ld add greatly to ! beauty ( _! h\ses by sweep+ ! bad into ! a% c6 ,f> bett] h /one-w>e plates t are good 9 design ?an exp5sive porcela9 t is horrible 9 decoration4 ,! only way to det]m9e :at is good & :at is horrible is to /udy :at is good 9 books1 9 museums1 or 9 art classes 9 ! univ]sities1 or ev5 by /udy+ ! magaz9es devot$ to decorative art4 ,be v c>eful ?\gh4 ,d n mi/ake mod]n ecc5tricities = art4 ,!re are frightful ?+s 9 vogue to-day--flamboyant colors1 grotesque1 triangul> & oblique designs t c n possibly be o!r ?an bad1 because aside f /rik+ novelty1 !re is no?+ good ab\t !m4 ,by no /&>d c a room be 9 good ta/e t looks l a p]fume manufactur]'s phantasy or a design reflect$ 9 "o ( ! di/ort+ mirrors t are mir?-provok]s at c\nty fairs4 ,,to ,,det]m9e ,,an ,,object',s ,,wor? ,9 buy+ an article = a h\se "o might =mulate = oneself a few te/ que/ions3 ,fir/1 is x useful8 ,any?+ t is really useful has a reason = exi/5ce4 ,second1 has x really beauty ( =m & l9e & color8 7,texture is n s important47 ,or is x m]ely /rik+1 or amus+8 ,?ird1 is x entirely suitable = ! position x occupies8 ,f\r?1 if x 7 elim9at$ w\ld x be miss$8 ,w\ld some?+ else look z well or bett]1 9 its place8 ,or w\ld its place look z well empty8 ,a tru?ful answ] to ^! que/ions w\ld at lea/ help 9 det]m9+ its value1 s9ce an article t fail$ 9 any ( !m c\ld n be p]fect4 ,fa%ion affects ta/e--x is b\nd to4 ,we abom9ate ,l\is ! ,f\rte5? & ,empire /yles at ! mom5t1 because curves & sup]-ornam5tation are out ( fa%ion2 :e!r !y are really bad or n1 "t alone c tell4 ,at pres5t we are admir+ pla9 silv] & are p]haps exact+ t x be too pla98 ,! only safe measure ( :at is good1 is to *oose t :i* has be/ endur$4 ,! ,k+ & ! ,fiddle patt]n = flat silv]1 h bo? be5 9 use 9 h\ses ( highe/ fa%ion ev] s9ce !y 7 design$1 s t !y1 among o!rs1 mu/ h m]it to h s long endur$4 ,9 ! same way examples ( old pott]ies & *9a & glass1 at pres5t be+ reproduc$1 are v likely good1 because aft] hav+ be5 = a c5tury or m 9 disuse1 !y are aga9 be+ *os54 ,p]haps "o might say t ! second *oice is pro( ( excell5ce4 ,,s]vice ,! subject ( furni%+s is h[ev] ! lea/ "p ( ?is *apt]--appo9tm5ts mean+ decoration be+ ( less importance 7s9ce ?is is n a book on ar*itecture or decoration671 ?an appo9tm5ts mean+ s]vice4 ,b be=e go+ into ! v>i\s details ( s]vice1 x might be a good mom5t to speak ( ! unreason+ indignity ca/ ^u ! honorable vocation ( a s]vant4 ,!re is an inexplicable t5d5cy1 9 ?is c\ntry only1 = work+ p 9 g5]al to look ^u dome/ic s]vice z an unwor?y1 if n altoge!r degrad+ vocation4 ,! cause may p]haps be f\nd 9 ! fact t ?is same scorn+ public hav+ = ! mo/ "p little opportunity to "k high-class s]vants1 :o are to be f\nd only 9 high-class families1 take x = grant$ t ignorant s]vant girls & hir$ m5 are repres5tative ( _! k9d4 ,!re=e !y put upp] class s]vants 9 ! same category--reg>dless ( :e!r !y are unc\? & illit]ate1 or p]sons ( ref9$ appe>ance & mann] :o (t5 h consid]able cultivation1 acquir$ n s mu* at s*ool z ?r\gh ! con/ant contact ) ultra ref9em5t ( surr\nd+s1 & n infrequ5tly ?r\gh ! opportunity = _w-wide travel4 ,& yet s insi/5tly has ?is obloquy ( ! ^w s]vant spread t e "o s5sitive to ! feel+s ( o!rs avoids us+ x exactly z "o avoids us+ ! ^w cripple :5 speak+ to "o :o is slightly lame4 ,yet are n ! be/ ( u s]vants 9 ! ,*ur*8 ,& ! highe/ ( u s]vants ( ! p & ! ,/ate8 ,to be a slatt]n 9 a vulg> h\sehold is sc>cely an elevat$ employm5t1 b nei!r is work+ 9 a sweat-%op1 or belong+ to a call+ t is really degrad$2 :i* is o!rwise ab\t all t equal lack ( ability w\ld procure4 ,on ! o!r h&1 consid] ! vocation ( a lady's maid or c\ri] valet & comp>e ! advantages ^! enjoy 7to say no?+ ( _! nev] hav+ to worry ab\t ov]head exp5ses71 ) ! opportunities ( ^? :o h nev] be5 out ( ! factory or ! /ore or fur!r away ?an ! adjo9+ t[n 9 _! lives4 ,z = a nurse1 is !re any vocation m honorable8 ,no "* 9 ,e4,f4 ,b5son's ,our ,family ,affairs is m beautiful or m t5d]ly drawn ?an t ( ,be?1 :o 0 n only nurse to ! *ildr5 ( ! ,ar*bi%op ( ,cant]bury b "o ( ! mo/ de>ly belov$ ( ! family's memb]s--h] place 0 absolutely next to _! "m's 9 ! v he>t ( ! h\sehold always4 ,two ye>s ago1 ,anna1 :o _h = a lifetime be5 ,mrs4 ,gild+'s p]sonal maid1 di$4 ,e engagem5t ( t seem+ly frivol\s family 0 cancell$1 ev5 ! invitations = _! ball4 ,n "o ( ! family b m\rn$ = :at %e truly 01 _! humble b ne>e/ fri5d4 ,w\ld x h be5 s mu* bett]1 s mu* m dignifi$1 = ^! two wom51 :o liv$ long useful ye>s 9 close/ association ) e cultivat+ influ5ce ( life1 to h liv$ on 9 _! native villages & work$ 9 a factory1 or to h _h a little /ore ( _! own8 ,does ?is false idea ( dignity--s9ce x is false--g s f> z t8 ,,h[ ,,_m ,,s]vants ,,= ,,correct ,,s]vice8 ,x /&s to reason t "o may expect m p]fect s]vice f a speciali/ ?an f "o ^: functions are multiple4 ,b small h\ses t h a d\ble equipm5t--mean+ an alt]nate :o c g 9 ! kit*51 & two = ! d9+-room--c be e bit z well run1 s f> z ess5tials g1 z ! palaces ( ! ,gild+s & ! ,worldlys1 ?\gh ( c\rse n ) ! same impressiv5ess4 ,b good s]vice is badly h&icapp$ if1 :5 ! waitress goes out1 !re is no "o to op5 ! door1 or :5 ! cook goes out1 !re is no "o to prep>e a meal4 ,= :at "o might call complete s]vice1 7mean+ s]vice t is adequate = con/ant ent]ta9+ & c /& comp>ison ) ! mo/ luxuri\s e/abli%m5ts17 ?ree are ! m9imum--a cook1 a butl] 7or waitress7 & a h\semaid4 ,! reason :y lun*eons & d9n]s c n be p]fectly giv5 ) a waitress alone is because two p]sons are necess>y = ! exactions ( mod]n /&>ds ( s]vice4 ,yet "o alone c1 on occasion1 manage v well1 if att5tion is paid to ord]+ an especial m5u = s+le-h&$ s]vice--describ$ on page #bcc4 ,aside f ! conv5i5ce ( a second p]son 9 ! d9+-room1 a h\se c n be run v com=tably & smoo?ly )\t alt]nat+ %ifts 9 /ay+ 9 & go+ out4 ,! waitress be+ on duty to answ] bell & telephone & s]ve tea "o aft]noon1 & ! h\semaid tak+ h] place ! next4 ,!y also alt]nate 9 go+ out e o!r ev5+ aft] d9n]4 ,x %\ld be realiz$ t above ! numb] necess>y = ess5tials1 ea* additional *amb]maid1 p>lor-maid1 footman1 scull]y maid or useful man1 is made necess>y by ! size ( ! h\se & by ! am\nt ( ent]ta9+ usual1 r ?an 7z is (t5 suppos$7 = ! m]e reason ( %[4 ,! seem+ly sup]flu\s numb] ( footm5 at ,gold5 ,hall & ,great ,e/ates are1 aside f /&+ on p>ade at =mal p>ties1 ne$$ actually to d ! imm5se am\nt ( "w t h\ses ( su* size entail2 :]eas a small ap>tm5t c be fairly well look$ aft] by "o alone4 ,all h\se employees & details ( _! sev]al duties1 mann]s1 & appe>ances1 are enum]at$ bel[4 ,beg9n+ ) ! greate/ & mo/ complicat$ e/abli%m5ts possible1 ! employee ( highe/ rank is3 ,,! ,,secret>y ,,:o ,,is ,,also ,,companion ,! position ( companion1 :i* is always "o ( social equality ) h] employ]1 exi/s only :5 ! lady ( ! h\se is an invalid1 or v eld]ly1 or a wid[1 or a "y girl4 7,9 ! latt] case ! companion is a *ap]on47 ,h] secret>ial duties consi/ 9 writ+ imp]sonal lett]s & notes & probably pay+ bills2 %e may h occasional invitations to s5d out1 & to answ]1 ?\gh a lady ne$+ a companion is n apt to be greatly int]e/$ 9 social activities4 ,! companion nev] p]=ms ! s]vices ( a maid--b %e occasionally does ! h\sekeep+4 ,o!rwise h] duties c n v well be set d[n1 because !y v>y ) individual requirem5ts4 ,"o lady likes cont9ually to travel & m]ely wants a companion1 7usually a poor relative or fri5d7 to g ) h]4 ,ano!r :o is a semi-invalid nev] leaves h] room1 & ! duties ( h] companion are almo/ ^? ( a tra9$ nurse4 ,! av]age requirem5t is 9 be+ p]sonally agreeable1 tactful1 intellig5t1 &--companionable6 ,a companion dresses z any o!r lady does2 accord+ to ! occasion1 h] p]sonal ta/e1 h] age1 & h] means4 ,,v>i$ ,,social ,,/&+ ,,( ,,! ,,private ,,secret>y ,! private secret>y to a diplomat1 s9ce1 he mu/ fir/ pass ! diplomatic exam9ation 9 ord] to qualify1 is inv>iably a "y man ( education1 if n ( bir?1 & 8 social position is always t ( a memb] ( 8 *ief's family4 ,! position ( an ord9>y private secret>y is sometimes t ( an upp] s]vant1 or1 on ! o!r h&1 8 own social position may be mu* high] ?an t ( 8 employ]4 ,a secret>y :o ei!r has position ( 8 own or is giv5 position by 8 employ]1 is 9 e way treat$ z a memb] ( ! family2 he is pres5t at all g5]al ent]ta9m5ts2 & q z (t5 z n at lun*es & d9n]s4 ,! duties ( a private secret>y are naturally to att5d to all correspond5ce1 take %or?& notes ( spee*es or conv]sations1 file pap]s & docum5ts & 9 e way s]ve z extra eyes & h&s & supplem5t>y bra9 = 8 employ]4 ,,! ,,social ,,secret>y ,! position ( social secret>y is an entirely cl]ical "o1 & nev] conf]s any social privileges unless ! secret>y is also companion4 ,h] duties are to write all invitations1 acceptances1 & regrets2 keep a record ( e invitation receiv$ & e "o s5t out1 & to ent] 9 an engagem5t book e engagem5t made = h] employ]1 :e!r to lun*1 d9n]1 to be fitt$1 or g to ! d5ti/4 ,%e also writes all imp]sonal notes1 takes long] lett]s 9 %or?&1 & writes o!rs h]self aft] be+ told _! purport4 ,%e also audits all bills & draws ! *ecks = !m1 ! *ecks are fill$ 9 & !n pres5t$ to h] employ] to be sign$1 aft] :i* !y are put 9 _! envelopes1 seal$ & s5t4 ,:5 ! receipt$ bills are return$1 ! secret>y files !m accord+ to h] own me?od1 :]e !y c at any "t be f\nd by h] if ne$$ = ref]5ce4 ,9 _m cases x is %e 7?\gh x is mo/ (t5 ! butl]7 :o telephones invitations & o!r messages4 ,occasionally a social secret>y is also a social manag]2 devises ent]ta9m5ts & arranges all details su* z ! decorations ( ! h\se = a dance1 or a programme ( ent]ta9m5t foll[+ a v l>ge d9n]4 ,! social secret>y v r>ely lives 9 ! h\se ( h] employ]2 m (t5 ?an n %e goes also to "o or two o!r h\ses--s9ce !re is seldom "w en\gh 9 "o to require h] :ole "t4 ,miss ,brisk1 :o is ,mrs4 ,gild+'s secret>y1 has little "t = any "o else4 ,%e goes e day = f two to sometimes eight or n9e h\rs 9 t[n1 & at ,gold5 ,hall lives 9 ! h\se4 ,usually a secret>y c f9i% all !re is to d 9 an av]age e/abli%m5t 9 ab\t an h\r1 or at mo/ two1 a day1 ) ! addition ( five or six h\rs on two or ?ree o!r days ea* mon? = ! pay+ ( bills4 ,suppos+ %e takes ?ree positions2 %e goes to ,mrs4 ,a4 f #h4cj to #aj e day1 & = ?ree extra h\rs on ! #aj? & #aa? ( e mon?4 ,to ,mrs4 ,b4 f #aj4cj to #a 7h] ne$s be+ great]7 & = six extra h\rs on ! #ab?1 #ac? & #ad? ( e mon?4 ,& to ,mrs4 ,c4 e day at #c o'clock = an indef9ite "t ( sev]al h\rs or only a few m9utes4 ,h] dress is t ( any bus9ess woman4 ,conspicu\s clo!s are out ( keep+ z !y w\ld be out ( keep+ 9 an (fice2 :i*1 h[ev]1 is no reason :y %e %\ld n be well dress$4 ,well-cut tailor-made suits are ! mo/ appropriate ) a good-look+ b simple hat2 z good %oes z %e c possibly af=d1 & good gloves & immaculately clean %irt wai/s1 repres5t ab\t ! mo/ dignifi$ & practical clo!s4 ,b :y describe clo!s6 ,e woman ) good s5se en\gh to qualify z a secret>y has und\bt$ly s5se en\gh to dress ) dignity4 ,,! ,,h\sekeep] ,9 a v big h\se ! h\sekeep] usually lives 9 ! h\se4 ,small] e/abli%m5ts (t5 h a visit+ h\sekeep] :o comes = z long z %e is ne$$ ea* morn+4 ,! resid5t h\sekeep] has h] own b$room & ba? & sitt+-room always4 ,h] meals are br\ght to h] by an especial kit*5-maid1 call$ 9 big h\ses ! hall girl1 or occasionally ! butl] details an "u footman to t duty4 ,9 an occasional h\se all ! s]vants1 ! g>d5] z well z ! cook & butl] & nurses1 come "u ! h\sekeep]'s au?ority2 9 o!r words1 %e sup]9t5ds ! entire h\se exactly z a v consci5ti\s & skill$ mi/ress w\ld d h]self1 if %e gave h] :ole "t & att5tion to x4 ,%e engages ! s]vants1 & if necess>y1 dismisses !m2 %e sees ! cook1 ord]s meals1 goes to ! m>ket1 or at lea/ sup]vises ! cook's m>ket ord]s1 & likewise engages & apportions ! "w ( ! m5 s]vants4 ,ord9>ily1 h[ev]1 %e is 9 *>ge ( no "o b ! h\semaids1 p>lor-maids1 useful man & "o ( ! scull]y maids4 ,! cook1 butl]1 nurses & lady's maid d n come "u h] sup]vision4 ,b %\ld difficulties arise betwe5 h]self & !m x w\ld be )9 h] prov9ce to ask = _! dismissal :i* w\ld probably be grant$2 s9ce %e w\ld n ask )\t grave cause t involv$ mu* m ?an h] p]sonal dislike4 ,a good h\sekeep] is always a woman ( exp]i5ce & tact1 & (t5 a lady2 friction is1 !re=e1 extremely r>e4 ,,! ,,organization ,,( ,a ,,great ,,h\se ,! managem5t ( a h\se ( greate/ size1 is divid$ usually into sev]al di/9ct dep>tm5ts1 ea* "u its sep>ate head4 ,! h\sekeep] has *>ge ( ! appe>ance ( ! h\se & ( its cont5ts2 ! mann]s & looks ( ! h\semaids & p>lor-maids1 z well z _! "w 9 clean+ walls1 floors1 furniture1 pictures1 ornam5ts1 books1 & tak+ c>e ( l954 ,! butl] has *>ge ( ! pantry & d9+-room4 ,he engages all footm51 apportions _! "w & is responsible = _! appe>ance1 mann]s & effici5cy4 ,! cook is 9 *>ge ( ! kit*51 "u-cook & kit*5-maids4 ,! nurse & ! p]sonal maid & cook are "u ! direction ( ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,! butl] & ! valet z well z ! *auffeur & g>d5] are engag$ by ! g5tleman ( ! h\se4 ,,! ,,butl] ,! butl] is n only ! mo/ important s]vant 9 e big e/abli%m5t1 b x is by no means unhe>d ( = him to be 9 supreme comm&1 n only z /ew>d1 b z h\sekeep] z well4 ,at ! ,worldly's = in/ance1 ,ha/+s :o is actually ! butl]1 ord]s all ! supplies1 keeps ! h\sehold acc\nts & engages n only ! m5 s]vants b ! h\semaids1 p>lor-maids & ev5 ! *ef4 ,b normally 9 a great h\se1 ! butl] has *>ge ( 8 own dep>tm5t only1 & 8 own dep>tm5t is ! d9+-room & pantry1 or possibly ! :ole p>lor floor4 ,9 all small] e/abli%m5ts ! butl] is always ! valet--& 9 _m great ones he is valet to 8 employ]1 ev5 ?\gh he details a footman to look aft] o!r g5tlem5 ( ! family or visitors4 ,9 a small h\se ! butl] works a great deal ) 8 h&s & n s mu* ) 8 head4 ,9 a great e/abli%m5t1 ! butl] works v mu* ) 8 head1 & ) 8 h&s n at all4 ,at ,gold5 ,hall :]e gue/s come 9 doz5s at a "t 7bo? 9 ! h\se & ! gue/ annex71 8 /ew>d%ip--ev5 ?\gh !re is a h\sekeep]--is n a job :i* a small man c fill4 ,he has p]haps ?irty m5 "u him at big d9n]s1 t5 :o belong "u him 9 ! h\se always2 he has ! keys to ! w9e cell> & ! comb9ation ( ! silv] safe4 7,! =m] be+ 9 ?is day by f> ! great] responsibility67 ,he also *ooses ! *9a & glass & l95 z well z ! silv] to be us$ ea* day1 ov]sees ! sett+ ( ! table1 & ! s]v+ ( all food4 ,:5 !re is a h\se p>ty e breakfa/ tray t leaves ! pantry is fir/ approv$ by him4 ,at all meals he /&s beh9d ! *air ( ! lady ( ! h\se--9 o!r words1 at ! head ( ! table4 ,9 occasional h\ses1 ! butl] /&s at ! opposite end z he is suppos$ to be bett] able to see any directions giv5 him4 ,at ,gold5 ,hall ! butl] /&s beh9d ,mr4 ,gild+ b at ,great ,e/ates ,ha/+s inv>iably /&s beh9d ,mrs4 ,worldly's *air s t at ! slighte/ turn ( h] head1 he ne$ only take a /ep to be )9 rea* ( h] voice4 7,! husb& by ! way is head ( ! h\se1 b ! wife is head ( ! table47 ,at tea "t1 he ov]sees ! footm5 :o place ! tea-table1 put on ! tea clo? & c>ry 9 ! tea tray1 aft] :i* ,ha/+s himself places ! individual tables4 ,:5 !re is no d9n] at home he waits 9 ! hall & assi/s ,mr4 ,worldly into 8 coat1 & h&s him 8 hat & /ick1 :i* h previ\sly be5 h&$ to ! butl] by "o ( ! footm54 ,! ,butl] 9 a ,small] ,h\se ,9 a small] h\se1 ! butl] also takes *>ge ( ! w9es & silv]1 does v mu* ! same z ! butl] 9 ! bigg] h\se1 except t he has less ov]see+ ( o!rs & m "w to d himself4 ,:]e he is alone1 he does all ! "w--naturally4 ,:]e he has ei!r "o footman or a p>lor-maid1 he passes ! ma9 c\rses at ! table & 8 assi/ant passes ! second>y di%es4 ,he is also valet n only = ! g5tleman ( ! h\se b = any g5tleman gue/s z well4 ,:at ! ,butl] ,we>s ,! butl] nev] we>s ! liv]y ( a footman & on no acc\nt knee bree*es or p[d]4 ,9 ! e>ly morn+ he we>s an ord9>y sack suit--black or v d>k blue--) a d>k1 inconspicu\s tie4 ,= lun*eon or e>li]1 if he is on duty at ! door1 he we>s black tr\s]s1 ) gray /ripes1 a d\ble-brea/$1 high-cut1 black wai/coat1 & black swall[tail coat )\t sat9 on ! rev]s1 a :ite /iff-bosom$ %irt ) /&+ coll>1 & a black f\r-9-h& tie4 ,9 fa%ionable h\ses1 ! butl] does n put on 8 dress suit until six o'clock4 ,! butl]'s ev5+ dress diff]s f t ( a g5tleman 9 a few details only3 he has no braid on 8 tr\s]s1 & ! sat9 on 8 lapels 7if any7 is n>r[]1 b ! mo/ di/9ctive diff]5ce is t a butl] we>s a black wai/coat & a :ite lawn tie1 & a g5tleman always we>s a :ite wai/coat ) a :ite tie1 or a :ite wai/coat & a black tie ) a d9n] coat1 b nev] ! rev]se4 ,unless he is an old-"t color$ s]vant 9 ! ,s\? a butl] :o we>s a dress suit 9 ! daytime is ei!r a hir$ wait] :o has come 9 to s]ve a meal1 or he has nev] be5 employ$ by p]sons ( position2 & x is unnecess>y to add t none b vulg>ians w\ld employ a butl] 7or any o!r h\se s]vant7 :o we>s a mu/a*e6 ,to h him op5 ! door coll>less & 9 %irt-sleeves is sc>cely worse6 ,a butl] nev] we>s gloves1 nor a fl[] 9 8 buttonhole4 ,he sometimes we>s a v ?9 wat* *a9 9 ! daytime b none at night4 ,he nev] we>s a sc>f-p91 or any jewelry t is = ornam5t alone4 ,8 cuff-l9ks %\ld be z pla9 z possible1 & 8 %irt /uds :ite enamel ones t look l l954 ,,! ,,h\se ,,footm5 ,all h\se s]vants :o assi/ 9 wait+ on ! table come "u ! direction ( ! butl]1 & are kn[n z footm54 ,"o :o nev] comes into ! d9+-room is kn[n z a useful man4 ,! duties ( ! footm5 7& useful man7 include clean+ ! d9+-room1 pantry1 l[] hall1 entrance ve/ibule1 sidewalk1 att5d+ to ! furnace1 c>ry+ coal to ! kit*51 wood to all ! op5 fireplaces 9 ! h\se1 clean+ ! w9d[s1 clean+ brasses1 clean+ all boots1 c>ry+ ev]y?+ t is heavy1 mov+ furniture = ! p>lor-maids to clean beh9d x1 valet+ all g5tlem51 sett+ & wait+ on table1 att5d+ ! front door1 telephon+ & writ+ d[n messages1 &--incessantly & ceaselessly1 clean+ & poli%+ silv]4 ,9 a small h\se1 ! butl] poli%es silv]1 b 9 a v big h\se "o ( ! footm5 is silv] speciali/1 & does no?+ else4 ,no?+6 ,if !re is to be a p>ty ( any sort he puts on 8 liv]y & jo9s ! o!rs :o l9e ! hall & br+ di%es to ! table4 ,b he does n assi/ 9 sett+ ! table or wa%+ di%es or 9 clean+ any?+ :atsoev]--except silv]4 ,! butl] also usually answ]s ! telephone--if n1 x is answ]$ by ! fir/ footman4 ,! fir/ footman is deputy butl]4 ,! footm5 also take turns 9 answ]+ ! door4 ,9 h\ses ( great c]emony l ^? ( ! ,worldlys' & ! ,gild+s'1 !re are always two footm5 at ! door if anyone is to be admitt$4 ,"o to op5 ! door & ! o!r to conduct a gue/ into ! draw+-room4 ,b if =mal company is expect$1 ! butl] himself is 9 ! front hall ) "o or two footm5 at ! door4 ,! ,footm5's ,liv]y ,p :o h big h\ses usually *oose a color = _! liv]y & nev] *ange x4 ,m>oon & buff1 = in/ance1 are ! colors ( ! ,gild+s2 all _! motor c>s are m>oon ) buff l9es & cream-color$ or m>oon l9+s4 ,! *auffeurs & outside footm5 we> m>oon liv]ies4 ,! h\se footm51 = ev]yday1 we> ord9>y footm5's liv]ies1 m>oon tr\s]s & long-tail$ coats ) brass buttons & m>oon-&-buff /rip$ wai/coats4 ,= gala occasions1 ,mrs4 ,gild+ adds z _m cat]]'s m5 z necess>y1 b !y all are dress$ 9 h] full-dress liv]y1 consi/+ ( a c\rt coat :i* comes toge!r at ! neck 9 front1 & !n cuts away to long tails at ! back4 ,! coat is ( m>oon broadclo? ) frogs & epaulets ( black braid+4 ,!re is a small /&+ coll> ( buff clo?1 & a fall+ cravat ( pleat$ cream-color$ lace worn 9 front4 ,! wai/coat is ( buff sat91 ! bree*es ( black sat91 cream-color$ /ock+s1 pumps1 & ! hair is p[d]$4 ,x is fir/ pomad$ & !n ?ickly p[d]$4 ,wigs are nev] worn4 ,mrs4 ,worldly h[ev] compromises betwe5 ! c\rt footman & ! ord9>y "o1 & puts h] footm5 9 gre5 clo? coats cut l ! ev]yday liv]ies1 ) silv] buttons on :i* ! cre/ is rais$ 9 relief1 b adds black velvet coll>s1 & black sat9 wai/coats 9 place ( ! ev]yday /rip$ ones4 ,black sat9 knee bree*es1 black silk /ock+s1 & pumps ) silv] buckles1 & _! ord9>y hair1 cut %ort4 ,! p[d]$ footman's c\rt liv]y is1 z a matt] ( fact1 v r>ely se54 ,?ree or f\r h\ses 9 ,new ,york1 & "o or two o!r:]e1 w\ld v likely include !m all4 ,knee bree*es are m usual1 b ev5 ^? are se5 9 none b v lavi% h\ses4 ,to *oose s]vants :o are naturally well-groom$ is m important ?an putt+ !m 9 sm>t liv]ies4 ,m5 mu/ be close %av5 & h _! hair well cut4 ,_! l95 mu/ be immaculate1 _! %oes poli%$1 _! clo!s bru%$ & 9 press1 & _! f+] nails clean & well c>$ =4 ,if a man's f+]s are indelibly /a9$ he w\ld bett] we> :ite cotton gloves4 ,,! ,,cook ,! kit*5 is always 9 *>ge ( ! cook4 ,9 a small h\se1 or 9 an ap>tm5t1 %e is alone & has all ! cook+1 clean+ ( kit*5 & l>d]1 to d1 ! basem5t or kit*5 bell to answ]1 & ! s]vants' table to set & _! di%es to wa% z well z h] kit*5 ut5sils4 ,9 a bigg] h\se1 ! kit*5-maid lights ! kit*5 fire1 & does all clean+ ( kit*5 & pots & pans1 answ]s ! basem5t bell1 sets ! s]vants' table & wa%es ! s]vants' table di%es4 ,9 a /ill bigg] h\se1 ! second cook cooks = ! s]vants always1 & = ! *ildr5 sometimes1 & assi/s ! cook by prep>+ c]ta9 pla9] portions ( ! meals1 ! cook prep>+ all d9n] di%es1 sauces & ! m elaborate items on ! m5u4 ,sometimes !re are two or m kit*5-maids :o m]ely divide ! great] am\nt ( "w betwe5 !m4 ,9 mo/ h\ses ( any size1 ! cook does all ! m>ket+4 ,%e sees ! lady ( ! h\se e morn+1 & submits m5us = ! day4 ,9 small] h\ses1 ! lady does ! ord]+ ( bo? supplies & m5us4 ,h[ a ,cook ,submits ! ,m5u ,9 a h\se ( l>ge/ size--at ! ,gild+s = in/ance1 ! *ef writes 9 8 book e ev5+1 ! m5us = ! next day1 :e!r !re is to be company or n4 7,none1 ( c\rse1 if ! family are to be out = all meals47 ,?is book is s5t up to ,mrs4 ,gild+ ) h] breakfa/ tray4 ,x is a loose-leaf blank book ( r l>ge size4 ,! day's m5u %eet is on top1 b ! o!rs are left 9 _! prop] sequ5ce und]nea?1 s t by look+ at h] engagem5t book to see :o d9$ ) h] on su* a date1 & !n look+ at ! m5u = t same date1 %e kn[s--if %e c>es to--exactly :at ! d9n] 04 ,if %e does n l ! *ef's *oice1 %e draws a p5cil ?r\gh & writes 9 some?+ else4 ,if %e has any ord]s or criticisms to make1 %e writes !m on an envelope pad1 folds ! page1 & seals x & puts ! note 9 ! book4 ,if ! m5u is to be *ang$1 ! *ef re-writes x1 if n ! page is left z x is1 & ! book put 9 a c]ta9 place 9 ! kit*54 ,! butl] always goes into ! kit*5 %ortly aft] ! book has come d[n1 & copies ! day's m5us on a pad ( 8 own4 ,f ?is he kn[s :at table ut5sils w be ne$$4 ,?is sy/em is n necess>y 9 m$ium siz$ or small h\ses1 b :]e !re is a great deal ( ent]ta9+ x is mu* simpl] = ! butl] to be able to g & see = himself ?an to ask ! cook &--=get4 ,& ask aga91 & ! cook =get1 & !n--di/urbance6--because ! butl] did n s5d d[n ! prop] silv] di%es or h ! prop] plates ready1 or _h o!rs heat$ unnecess>ily4 ,,! ,,kit*5-,,maid ,! kit*5-maids are "u ! direction ( ! cook1 except "o kn[n colloquially z ! hall girl :o is sup]vis$ by ! h\sekeep]4 ,%e is evid5tly a survival ( ! betwe5 maid ( ! ,engli% h\se4 ,h] sobriquet comes f ! fact t %e has *>ge ( ! s]vants' hall1 or d9+-room1 & is 9 fact ! waitress = !m4 ,%e also takes c>e ( ! h\sekeep]'s rooms1 & c>ries all h] meals up to h]4 ,if !re is no h\sekeep]1 ! hall girl is "u ! direction ( ! cook4 ,,! ,,p>lor-,,maid ,! p>lor-maid keeps ! draw+-room & libr>y 9 ord]4 ,! useful man br+s up ! wood = ! fireplaces1 b ! p>lor-maid lays ! fire4 ,9 "s h\ses ! p>lor-maid takes up ! breakfa/ trays2 9 o!r h\ses1 ! butl] does ?is himself & !n h&s !m to ! lady's maid1 :o takes !m into ! b$rooms4 ,! w9d[s & ! brasses are clean$ by ! useful man & heavy furniture mov$ by him s %e c clean beh9d !m4 ,! p>lor-maid assi/s ! butl] 9 wait+ at table1 & wa%+ di%es1 & takes turns ) him 9 answ]+ ! door & ! telephone4 ,9 huge h\ses l ! ,worldlys' & ! ,gild+s'1 ! footm5 assi/ ! butl] 9 ! d9+-room & at ! door--& !re is always a pantry maid :o wa%es di%es & cleans ! pantry4 ,,! ,,h\semaid ,! h\semaid does all ! *amb] "w1 cleans all silv] on dress+-tables1 poli%es fixtures 9 ! ba?room--9 o!r words takes c>e ( ! b$room floors4 ,9 a bigg] h\se1 ! head h\semaid has *>ge ( ! l95 & does ! b$rooms ( ! lady & g5tleman ( ! h\se & a few ( ! sp>e rooms4 ,! second h\semaid does ! nurs]ies1 extra sp>e rooms1 & ! s]vants' floor4 ,! bigg] ! e/abli%m5t1 ! m h\semaids1 & ! "w is fur!r divid$4 ,! h\semaid is by _m p call$ ! *amb]maid4 ,,uni=ms ,9 all h\ses ( importance & fa%ion1 ! p>lor-maid & ! h\semaids1 & ! waitress 7:]e !re is no butl]71 are all dress$ alike4 ,_! "w dresses are ( pla9 cambric & 9 :atev] ! h\se color may be1 ) l>ge :ite aprons ) high bibs1 & ,eton coll>s1 b no cuffs 7z !y mu/ be able to unbutton _! sleeves & turn !m up47 ,^? :o s]ve 9 ! d9+-room mu/ always dress be=e lun*1 & ! aft]noon dresses v>y accord+ to ! ta/e--& purse--( ! lady ( ! h\se4 ,:]e no uni=ms are suppli$1 ea* maid is suppos$ to furni% h]self ) a pla9 black dress = aft]noon1 on :i* %e we>s coll>s & cuffs ( embroid]$ musl9 usually 7always suppli$ h]71 & a small aft]noon apron1 ) or )\t %\ld] /raps1 & ) or )\t a cap4 ,9 v beautifully done h\ses 7all ! dresses ( ! maids are furni%$ !m71 ! color ( ! uni=ms is *os5 to h>monize ) ! d9+-room4 ,at ! ,gild+s'1 ,jr41 = in/ance1 :]e !re are no m5 s]vants because ,mr4 ,gild+ does n l !m1 b :]e ! h\se is z p]fect z a picture on ! /age1 ! waitress & p>lor-maid we> 9 ! blue & yell[ d9+-room1 dresses ( ,natti] blue taffeta ) aprons & coll>s & cuffs ( pla9 hem/it*$ cream-color$ org&ie1 t is z transp>5t z possible2 blue /ock+s & pat5t lea!r slipp]s ) silv] buckles1 _! hair always beautifully smoo?4 ,sometimes !y we> caps & sometimes n1 dep5d+ ^u ! waitress' appe>ance4 ,tw5ty ye>s ago1 e maid 9 a lady's h\se wore a cap except ! p]sonal maid1 :o wore 7& /ill does7 a velvet b[1 or no?+4 ,b :5 e little slatt]n 9 e sloppy h\sehold _h a small mat ( :iti% ,swiss p9n$ some:]e on an untidy head1 & 0 deck$ out 9 z _m y>ds ( embroid]y ruffl+ on h] apron & %\ld]s z h] p]son c\ld c>ry1 fa%ionable ladies began tak+ caps & trimm+s (f1 & exact+ in/ead t clo!s be good 9 cut & hair be neatly arrang$4 ,a few ladies ( great ta/e dress _! maids accord+ to individual becom+ness2 "s faces look well "u a cap1 o!rs look ! contr>y4 ,a maid ^: hair is r fluffy--especially if x is d>k--looks pretty 9 a cap1 p>ticul>ly ( ! coronet v>iety4 ,no "o looks well 9 a doily laid flat1 b fluffy fair hair ) a small mat tilt$ up aga9/ a knot ( hair dress$ high c look v sm>t4 ,a "y woman ^: hair is /raight & rebelli\s to ord]1 c be made to look tidy & ev5 attractive 9 a headdress t encircles ! :ole head4 ,a good "o = ?is purpose has a v n>r[ ru*e f #i to #ah in*es long on ei!r side ( a long black velvet ribbon4 ,! ru*e goes "p way1 or all ! way1 ar\nd ! head1 & ! velvet ribbon ties1 ) /ream]s hang+ d[n ! back4 ,on ! o!r h&1 _m extremely pretty "y wom5 ) hair worn flat d n look well 9 caps ( any description--except ,dut* ones :i* are1 9 mo/ h\ses1 too sugge/ive ( fancy dress4 ,if no caps are worn ! hair mu/ be faultlessly smoo? & neat2 & ( c\rse :]e two or m maids are se5 toge!r1 !y mu/ be alike4 ,x w\ld n d to h "o we> a cap & ! o!r n4 ,,! ,,lady',s ,,maid ,a fir/ class lady's maid is requir$ to be a hairdress]1 a good pack] & an exp]t ne$lewoman4 ,h] fir/ duty is to keep h] lady's clo!s 9 ord] & to help h] dress1 & undress4 ,%e draws ! ba?1 lays out und]clo!s1 always bru%es h] lady's hair & usually dresses x1 & gets out ! dress to be worn1 z well z ! /ock+s1 %oes1 hat1 veil1 gloves1 wri/ bag1 p>asol1 or :atev] accessories g ) ! dress 9 "q4 ,z soon z ! lady is dress$1 ev]y?+ t has be5 worn is tak5 to ! sew+ room & ea* article is gone ov]1 c>efully bru%$ if ( wool5 mat]ial1 clean$ if silk4 ,ev]y?+ t is muss$ is press$1 ev]y?+ t c be suspect$ ( n be+ immaculate is wa%$ or clean$ ) clean+ fluid1 & :5 9 p]fect ord] is replac$ :]e x belongs 9 ! closet4 ,und]clo!s z m5d$ are put 9 ! clo!s hamp]4 ,/ock+s are look$ ov] = rips or small holes1 & ! maid usually wa%es v f9e /ock+s h]self1 also lace coll>s or small pieces ( lace trimm+4 ,"s maids h to wait up at night1 no matt] h[ late1 until _! ladies return2 b z _m1 if n m1 are nev] ask$ to wait long] ?an a c]ta9 h\r4 ,b ! maid = a dbutante 9 ! height ( ! season1 betwe5 ! inevitable g fet*+ at ?is place & t1 & m5d+ ( p>ty dresses danc$ to ribbons & soil$ by p>tn]'s h&s on ! back1 & slipp]s walk$ on until !re is q z mu* black "p z sat9 or metal1 has no s9ecure4 ,:y ,two ,maids8 ,9 v important h\ses :]e "m & daught]s g out a great deal !re are usually two maids1 "o = ! "m & "o = ! daught]s4 ,b ev5 9 mod]ate h\seholds x is seldom practical = a dbutante & h] "m to %>e a maid--at lea/ dur+ ! height ( ! season4 ,t a maid :o has to g out night aft] night = weeks & ev5 mon?s on end1 & sit 9 ! dress+-rooms at balls until f\r & five & ev5 six 9 ! morn+1 is !n all[$ to g to b$ & to sleep until lun*eon is m]ely humane4 ,& x c easily be se5 t x is m likely t %e w ne$ ! help ( a seam/ress to refurbi% dance-frocks1 ?an t %e w h any "t to devote to h] "y lady's "m--:o 9 mid-season1 !re=e1 is =c$ to h a maid ( h] own1 ridicul\s z x s\nds1 t two maids = two ladies %\ld be necess>y6 ,sometimes ?is is ov]come by engag+ an especial maid by ! ev5+ to g to p>ties & wait1 & br+ ! dbutante home aga94 ,& ! maid at home c !n be maid = two4 ,dress ( a ,lady's ,maid ,a lady's maid we>s a black skirt1 a laund]$ :ite wai/1 & a small :ite apron1 ! b& ( :i* buttons 9 ! back4 ,9 travel+1 a lady's maid always we>s a small black silk apron & "s maids we> black taffeta ones always4 ,9 ! aft]noon1 %e puts on a black wai/ ) :ite coll> & cuffs4 ,mrs4 ,gild+1 ,jr41 puts h] maid 9 black taffeta ) embroid]$ coll> & cuffs4 ,= company occasions1 :5 %e waits 9 ! dress+-room1 %e we>s light gray taffeta ) a v small embroid]$ mull apron ) a n>r[ black velvet wai/-ribbon1 & coll> & cuffs ( mull to mat*--:i* is extremely pretty1 b also extremely extravagant4 ,,! ,,valet ,! valet 7pron\nc$ val-et n vallay7 is :at ,beau ,brummel call$ a g5tleman's g5tleman4 ,8 duties are exactly ! same z ^? ( ! lady's maid--except t he does n sew6 ,he keeps 8 employ]'s clo!s 9 p]fect ord]1 bru%es1 cleans & presses ev]y?+ z soon z x has be5 worn--ev5 if only = a few mom5ts4 ,he lays out ! clo!s to be put on1 puts away ev]y?+ t is a p]sonal belong+4 ,"s g5tlem5 l _! valet to help !m dress2 run ! ba?1 %ave !m & hold ea* article 9 read9ess z x is to be put on4 ,b mo/ g5tlem5 m]ely l _! clo!s laid out = !m1 :i* means t tr\s]s h belts or braces atta*$1 %irts h cuff l9ks & /uds2 & wai/coat buttons are put 94 ,! valet also unpacks ! bags ( any g5tleman gue/s :5 !y come1 valets !m :ile !re1 & packs !m :5 !y g4 ,he always packs = 8 own g5tleman1 buys tickets1 looks aft] ! luggage1 & makes himself g5]ally useful z a p]sonal att5dant1 :e!r at home or :5 travel+4 ,at big d9n]s1 he is requir$ 7mu* aga9/ 8 w7 to s]ve z a footman--9 a footman's1 n a butl]'s1 liv]y4 ,! valet we>s no liv]y except on su* occasions4 ,8 uni=m is an ord9>y bus9ess suit1 d>k & inconspicu\s 9 color1 ) a black tie4 ,9 a ba*elor's qu>t]s a valet is (t5 g5]al factotum2 n only valet+ b p]=m+ ! s]vices ( cook1 butl]1 & ev5 h\semaid4 ,,! ,,nurse ,ev]ybody kn[s ! nurse is ei!r ! com=t or ! torm5t ( ! h\se4 ,ev]yone also kn[s innum]able "y mo!rs :o put up ) inexcusable crank9ess f a crot*ety middle-ag$ woman because %e 0 s wond]ful to ! baby4 ,& "h let x be emphasiz$ t su* an "o usually turns out to h be5 n wond]ful to ! baby at all4 ,t %e does n actually abuse a helpless infant is m]ely grant+ t %e is n a mon/]4 ,devotion mu/ always be unselfi%2 ! nurse :o is really wond]ful to ! baby is pretty sure to be a p]son :o is k9d g5]ally4 ,9 n9ety-n9e cases out ( a hundr$ ! soon] a dom9e]+ nurse--old or "y--is got rid (1 ! bett]4 ,x has be5 ! exp]i5ce ( _m a "m ^: life _h be5 made p]fectly mis]able ?r\gh h] belief t if %e dismiss$ ! tyrant ! baby w\ld suff]1 t 9 ! end--!re is always an end6--! baby 0 q z reliev$ z ! re/ ( ! family :5 ! "r sort ( a k9dly & humane p]son took ! tyrant's place4 ,x is unnecess>y to add t "o c n be too p>ticul> 9 ask+ = a nurse's ref]5ce & 9 nev] fail+ to get a p]sonal "o f ! lady %e is leav+4 ,n only is x necess>y to h a sweet-temp]$1 compet5t & clean p]son1 b h] moral "* is ( utmo/ importance1 s9ce %e is to be ! con/ant & insep>able companion ( ! *ildr5 ^: :ole lives are influ5c$ by h] example1 especially :]e busy p>5ts give only a small portion ( "t to _! *ildr54 ,,c\rtesy ,,to ,,"o',s ,,h\sehold ,9 a dignifi$ h\se1 a s]vant is nev] spok5 to z ,jim1 ,maisie1 or ,katie1 b always z ,james or ,m>g>et or ,ka!r9e1 & a butl] is call$ by 8 la/ "n1 ne>ly always4 ,! ,worldly's butl]1 = in/ance1 is call$ ,ha/+s1 n ,john4 ,9 ,engl&1 a lady's maid is also call$ by h] la/ "n1 & ! cook1 if m>ri$1 is address$ z ,mrs4 & ! nurse is always call$ ,nurse4 ,a *ef is usually call$ ,*ef or else by 8 la/ "n4 ,always abroad1 & e really well-br$ lady or g5tleman "h1 says please 9 ask+ t some?+ be br\ght h] or him4 ,please get me ! book ,i left on ! table 9 my room6 ,or ,please give me "s bread6 ,or ,"s bread1 please4 ,or "o c say equally politely & omit ! please1 ,i'd l "s toa/1 b x is usual & in/9ctive to e lady or g5tleman to add please4 ,9 refus+ a di% at ! table1 "o mu/ say ,no1 ?ank y1 or ,no1 ?anks1 or else "o %akes "o's head4 ,a head c be %ak5 politely or rudely4 ,to be c\rte\sly polite1 & yet keep "o's walls up is a ?+ e ?or\ghbr$ p]son kn[s h[ to d--& a ?+ t ev]yone :o is try+ to become su* mu/ le>n to d4 ,a rule c't be giv5 because !re isn't any4 ,z said 9 ano!r *apt]1 a well-br$ p]son always lives )9 ! walls ( 8 p]sonal res]ve1 a vulg>ian has no walls--or at lea/ none t d n collapse at ! slighte/ t\*4 ,b ^? :o ?9k !y appe> sup]ior by be+ rude to o!rs :om =tune has plac$ bel[ !m1 might z well1 did !y b "k x1 %\t _! own unexalt$ orig9 to ! _w at l>ge1 s9ce by no o!r me?od c\ld x be m widely publi%$4 ,,! ,,h\se ,,) ,,limit$ ,,s]vice ,! fact t y live 9 a h\se ) two s]vants1 or 9 an ap>tm5t ) only "o1 ne$ n imply t y\r h\se lacks *>m or ev5 di/9ction1 or t x is n completely ! home ( a lady or g5tleman4 ,b1 z expla9$ 9 ! *apt] on ,d9n]s1 if y h limit$ s]vice y mu/ devise sy/ematic economy ( "t & labor or y w h disa/r\s consequ5ces4 ,e p]son1 aft] all1 has only "o pair ( h&s1 & a day has only s _m h\rs1 & "o ?+ is inevitable1 :i* "y h\sekeep]s are apt to =get1 a few c n d ! "w ( _m1 & d x 9 ! same way4 ,x is all v well if ! h\semaid c n get into "y ,mrs4 ,gild+'s room until lun* "t1 nor does x matt] if its confusion looks l ! aft]ma? ( a cyclone4 ,! h\semaid has no?+ to d ! re/ ( ! day b put t "o room & ba? 9 ord]4 ,b 9 "y ,mrs4 ,gaily's small h\se :]e ! h\semaid is also ! waitress1 :o is suppos$ to be dress$ = lun*1 x does n h to be po9t$ out t %e c n sweep1 du/1 tidy up rooms1 wa% out ba?tubs1 poli% fixtures1 & at ! same "t be dress$ 9 aft]noon clo!s4 ,if ,mrs4 ,gaily is out = lun*1 x is true ! *amb]maid-waitress ne$ n be dress$ to wait on table1 b h] ?\ghtless "y mi/ress w\ld n be amiable if a visitor 7 to r+ ! door-bell 9 ! e>ly aft]noon & h x op5$ by a maid 9 a rumpl$ work+ dress4 ,suppos+ ! "t to put ! b$room 9 ord] is f t5 to elev5 ea* morn+3 x is absolutely necess>y t ,mrs4 ,gaily take h] ba? be=e t5 s t ev5 if %e is n o!rwise dress$ %e c be out ( h] b$room & ba? at t5 o'clock promptly4 ,%e c g else:]e :ile h] room is done up & !n come back & f9i% dress+ lat]4 ,9 ?is case %e mu/ h]self tidy any disord] t %e makes 9 dress+2 put away h] nglig & slipp]s & put back any?+ out ( place4 ,on ! days :5 ,mr4 ,gaily does n g to ! (fice he too mu/ get up & out s t ! h\se c be put 9 ord]4 ,,! ,,"o ,,maid ,,alone ,b :]e "o maid alone cooks1 cleans1 waits on table1 & fur!rmore s]ves z lady's maid & valet1 %e mu/ necess>ily be limit$ 9 ! p]=mance ( ea* ( ^! duties 9 direct proportion to _! numb]4 ,ev5 ?\gh %e be eag]ly will+1 quality mu/ give way be=e quantity produc$ ) ! same equipm5t1 or if quality is necess>y !n quantity mu/ give way4 ,9 ! h\se ( a fa%ionable gay c\ple l ! ,lovejoys' = in/ance1 ! "t sp5t 9 maid+ or valet+ has to be tak5 f clean+ or cook+4 ,besides clean+ & cook+1 ! "o maid 9 _! small ap>tm5t c press out ,mrs4 ,lovejoy's dresses & d a little m5d+1 b %e c n sit d[n & sp5d "o or two h\rs go+ ov] a dress 9 ! way a speciali/ maid c4 ,ei!r ,mrs4 ,lovejoy h]self mu/ d ! sew+ or ! h\sework1 or "o or ! o!r mu/ be left undone4 ,,! ,,managem5t ,,( ,,s]vants ,x is c]ta9ly a great] pleasure & inc5tive to "w = ^? :o are appreciative ?an = ^? :o cont9ually f9d fault4 ,ev]yone :o did w> "w c n fail to rememb] h[ easy x 0 to "w =1 or )1 "s p1 & h[ impossible to get any?+ done = o!rs4 ,& j z ! heads ( "w-rooms or w>ds or cante5s 7 ei!r /imulat+ or dispirit+1 s mu/ !y & _! types also be to ^? :o s]ve 9 _! h\seholds4 ,?is1 p]haps1 expla9s :y "s p are always hav+ a s]vant problem2 f9d+ s]vants difficult to get1 m difficult to keep1 & mo/ difficult to get effici5t "w f4 ,x is a "q :e!r ! s]vant problem is n m (t5 a mi/ress problem4 ,x mu/ be6 ,because1 if y notice1 ^? :o h woes & compla9ts are inv>iably ! same1 j z o!rs :o nev] h any tr\ble are also ! same4 ,x does n dep5d on ! size ( ! h\se2 ! ,lovejoys nev] h any tr\ble1 & yet _! "o maid ( all "w has a f> f easy place1 & a vacancy at ,brookmead[s is always s\ght aft]1 ev5 ?\gh ! ,oldnames sp5d t5 mon?s ( ! ye> 9 ! c\ntry4 ,nei!r is !re any friction at ! ,gold5 ,hall or ,great ,e/ates1 ev5 ?\gh ! latt] h\se is run by ! butl]--an almo/ inevitable cause ( tr\ble4 ,^! h\ses repres5t a diff]5ce 9 range ( f "o alone1 to ne>ly =ty on ! h\sehold payroll4 ,,^? ,,:o ,,h ,,p]si/5t ,,tr\ble ,x might be well = ^? :o h tr\ble to rememb] a few rules :i* are (t5 ov]look$3 ,ju/ice mu/ be ! f\ndation ^u :i* e tranquil h\se is con/ruct$4 ,"w mu/ be z ev5ly divid$ z possible2 "o s]vant %\ld n be all[$ lib]ties n accord$ to all4 ,x is n j to be too l5i5t1 any m ?an x is j to be unreasonably /rict4 ,to all[ imp]t95ce or sloppy "w is inexcusable1 b x is equally inexcusable to %[ causeless irritability or to be ov]be>+ or rude4 ,& !re is no great] example ( inju/ice ?an to reprim& ^? ab\t y because y happ5 to be 9 a bad humor1 & at ano!r "t ov]look (f5ses t are great] because y are 9 an amiable mood4 ,!re is also no excuse = correct+ ei!r a s]vant or a *ild be=e p4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,p]fect ,,mi/ress ,,%[s ,,all ,,^? ,,9 ,,h] ,,employ ,,! ,,consid]ation ,,& ,,tru/ ,,due ,,!m ,,z ,,honorable ,,self-,,respect+ ,,& ,,consci5ti\s ,,human ,,be+s4 ,page #aeg4 ,& :5 y d correct1 d n =get to make all[ances1 if !re be any reason :y all[ance %\ld be made4 ,if y live 9 a palace l ,gold5 ,hall1 or any completely equipp$ h\se ( important size1 y ov]look no?+6 ,!re is no m excuse = del9qu5cy ?an !re is 9 ! ,army4 ,if any?+ happ5s1 su* z illness ( "o s]vant1 !re is ano!r to take 8 7or h]7 place4 ,a huge h\sehold is a ma*9e & x is ! bus9ess ( ! eng9e]s--9 o!r words1 ! secret>y1 h\sekeep]1 *ef or butl]1 to keep x go+ p]fectly4 ,b 9 a little h\se1 x may n be fair to say ,selma1 ! silv] is dirty6 :5 !re is a hot-air furnace & y h _h company to e meal1 & y h p]haps s5t h] on err&s betwe5 times1 & %e has lit]ally n _h a mom5t4 ,if y don't "k :e!r %e has _h "t or n1 y c\ld give h] ! b5efit ( ! d\bt & say 7tru/fully1 n haughtily7 ,y h n _h "t to clean ! silv]1 h y8 ,?is--9 case %e has really be5 unable to clean x--po9ts out j z well ! fact t x is n %9+1 b is n a criticism4 ,c>elessness1 on ! o!r h&1 :5 y "k %e has _h pl5ty ( "t1 %\ld nev] be ov]look$4 ,ano!r type t has difficulties is ! di/ru/ful--sometimes actually suspici\s--p]son :o locks ev]y?+ tight & treats all ^? ) :om %e comes 9 contact z ?\gh !y 7 m$dlesomely curi\s at lea/1 or at wor/1 di%one/4 ,x is impossible to ov]/ate ! mis=tune ( ?is temp]am5t4 ,! s]vant :o is wat*$ = fe> %e won't "w1 li/5$ to = fe> %e may be gossip+1 suspect$ ( want+ to take a lib]ty ( "s sort1 or ( do+ some?+ else %e %\ldn't d1 is psy*ologically enc\rag$1 almo/ driv51 to d ^! v ?+s4 ,! p]fect mi/ress expects p]fect s]vice1 b x nev] occurs to h] t p]fect s]vice w n be volunt>ily & gladly giv54 ,%e1 on h] "p1 %[s all ( ^? 9 h] employ ! consid]ation & tru/ due !m z honorable1 self-respect+ & consci5ti\s human be+s4 ,if %e has reason to ?9k !y are n all ?is1 a lady does n keep !m 9 h] h\se4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,s]vice ,! well-tra9$ high-class s]vant is faultlessly neat 9 appe>ance1 retic5t 9 mann]1 speaks 9 a l[ voice1 walks & moves quickly b sil5tly1 & is unfail+ly c\rte\s & respectful4 ,%e 7or he7 always knocks on a door1 ev5 ( ! libr>y or sitt+-room1 b op5s x )\t wait+ to he> ,come 91 z knock+ on a d[n/airs door is m]ely polit5ess4 ,at a b$room door %e w\ld wait = p]mission to ent]4 ,9 answ]+ a bell1 %e asks ,did y r+1 sir8 or if especially well-mann]$ %e asks ,did ,madam r+8 ,a s]vant always answ]s ,yes1 ,madam1 or ,v good1 sir1 nev] ,yes1 ,no1 ,all "r1 or ,sure4 ,"y p 9 ! h\se are call$ ,miss ,alice or ,mr4 ,ollie1 possibly ,mr4 ,oliv]1 b !y are g5]ally call$ by _! famili> names ) ! prefix ( ,miss or ,mi/]4 ,y\ng] *ildr5 are call$ ,miss ,kittie & ,ma/] ,fr$1 b nev] by ! nurse1 :o calls !m by _! fir/ names until !y are gr[n--sometimes always4 ,all c>ds & small packages are pres5t$ on a tray4 ,,"t ,,out ,,& ,,9 ,no d\bt 9 ! f>-(f di/ricts !re are occasional "y wom5 :o "w long & h>d & = little comp5sation1 b at lea/ 9 all cities1 s]vants h _! def9ite "t out4 ,fur!rmore1 !y are all[$ 9 humanely run h\ses to h times 9 :5 !y c be at home to fri5ds :o come to see !m4 ,9 e well-appo9t$ h\se ( size !re is a sitt+-room :i* is furni%$ ) com=table *airs & s(a if possible1 a good droplight to read by1 (t5 books1 & always magaz9es 7s5t out z soon z read by ! family74 ,9 o!r words1 !y h an invit+ room to use z _! own exactly z ?\gh !y 7 liv+ at home4 ,if no room is available1 ! kit*5 has a cov] put on ! table1 a droplight1 & a few re/ful *airs are provid$4 ,,! ,,maids' ,,m5 ,,fri5ds ,are maids all[$ to receive m5 fri5ds8 ,c]ta9ly !y are6 ,:oev] 9 remote ages ?\ght x 0 bett] to =bid foll[]s ! h\se1 & h ,m>y & ,selma slip out ( doors to meet !m 9 ! d>k1 _h v di/ort$ notions to say ! lea/4 ,& any lady :o kn[s s little ( human nature z to make ! same rule = h] maids to-day is act+ 9 ignorant bl9dness ( h] own duties to ^? :o are n only 9 h] employ b also "u h] protection4 ,a pretty "y woman ^: m5 fri5ds come 9 occasionally & play c>ds ) ! o!rs1 or dance to a small & n l\d phonograph 9 ! kit*51 is m]ely be+ treat$ humanly4 ,because %e we>s a uni=m makes h] no less a "y girl1 ) a "y girl's love ( amusem5t1 :i* if n prop]ly provid$ = h] at home w be s\ght = 9 s9i/] places4 ,?is responsibility is "o t _m ladies :o are occupi$ ) *>itable & good works else:]e (t5 ov]look "u _! own ro(4 ,x does n mean t ! kit*5 %\ld be a sc5e ( p]petual revelry & mir? t c by any *ance di/urb ! quiet ( ! neighborhood or ev5 ! family4 ,unseemly noise is *eck$ at once1 mu* z x w\ld be if "y p 9 ! draw+-room became di/urb+4 ,cont9u\s company is n suitable ei!r1 & ^? :o abuse privileges naturally mu/ h !m curtail$1 b ! really high-class s]vant :o does n appreciate k9dness & requite x ) consid]ate & prop] behavior is r>e4 ,,s]vice ,,9 ,,=mal ,,ent]ta9+ ,,on ,,! ,,sidewalk ,,& ,,9 ,,! ,,hall ,= a w$d+1 or a ball1 & sometimes = teas & big d9n]s1 !re is an awn+ f curb to front door4 ,b usually1 especially 9 good wea!r1 a d9n] or o!r mod]ate siz$ ev5+ ent]ta9m5t is prep>$ = by /ret*+ a c>pet 7a r$ "o inv>iably67 d[n ! front /eps & across ! pavem5t to ! curb's edge4 ,at all important functions !re is a *auffeur 7or a cat]]'s man7 on ! sidewalk to op5 ! door ( motors1 & a footman or waitress /ation$ inside ! door ( ! h\se to op5 x on "o's approa*4 ,?is same s]vant1 or m (t5 ano!r /ation$ 9 ! hall beyond1 directs arriv+ gue/s to ! dress+-rooms4 ,,dress+-,,rooms ,h\ses especially built = ent]ta9+1 h two small rooms on ! gr\nd floor1 ea* ) its lavatory1 & (f ( x1 a rack = ! hang+ ( coats & wraps4 ,9 mo/ h\ses1 h[ev]1 gue/s h to g up-/airs :]e two b$rooms are set aside1 "o z a ladies'1 & ! o!r z a g5tlem5's coat room4 ,at an aft]noon tea 9 h\ses :]e dress+-rooms h n be5 in/all$ by ! ar*itect1 ! end ( ! hall1 if x is wide1 is sometimes suppli$ ) a coat rack 7:i* may be r5t$ f a cat]]7 = ! g5tlem54 ,ladies are 9 ?is case suppos$ to g into ! draw+-room z !y are1 or g up-/airs to ! b$room put at _! disposal & 9 *>ge ( a lady's maid or h\semaid4 ,if ! ent]ta9m5t is v l>ge1 *ecks are always giv5 to avoid confusion 9 ! dress+-rooms exactly z 9 public *eck rooms4 ,9 ! ladies' dress+-room--:e!r d[n/airs or up--!re mu/ be an array ( toilet necessities su* z bru%es & combs2 well-plac$ mirrors1 hairp9s1 p[d] ) /acks ( individual cotton balls1 or a roll ( cotton 9 a receptacle f :i* x may be pull$4 ,9 ! lavatory !re mu/ be fre% soap & pl5ty ( small h& t[els4 ,! lady's p]sonal maid & "o or two assi/ants if necess>y1 dep5d+ ^u ! size ( ! p>ty1 b "o & all ( !m z neatly dress$ z possible1 assi/ ladies (f & on ) _! wraps1 & give !m coat *ecks4 ,a lady's maid %\ld always look ! arriv+ gue/s ov]--n boldly nor too app>5tly1 b ) a quick glance = any?+ t may be amiss4 ,if ! drap]y ( a dress is caught up on its trimm+1 or a fa/5+ undone1 x is h] duty to say3 ,excuse me1 madam 7or miss71 b !re is a hook undone--or ! drap]y ( y\r g[n is caught--%all ,i fix x8 ,:i* %e does z quietly & quickly z possible4 ,if !re is a rip ( any sort1 %e says3 ,i ?9k !re is a ?read loose1 ,i'll j tack x4 ,x w only be a mom5t4 ,! well-br$ maid in/9ctively makes little ( a gue/'s accid5t1 & is z consid]ate z ! ho/ess h]self4 ,employees in/9ctively adopt ! attitude ( _! employ]4 ,9 ! g5tlem5's coat room ( a p]fectly appo9t$ h\se ! valet's attitude is mu* ! same4 ,if a g5tleman's coat %\ld h met ) any accid5t1 ! valet says3 ,let me h x fix$ = y1 sir1 x'll only take a mom5t6 ,& he dive/s ! g5tleman ( 8 coat & takes x to a maid & asks h] please to take a /it* 9 x4 ,mean:ile he goes back to 8 duties 9 ! dress+-room until he is sure ! coat is f9i%$1 :5 he gets x & politely helps ! own] into x4 ,9 a small c\ntry h\se :]e dress+-room space is limit$1 ! qua9t tables copi$ f old ones are v useful1 scre5$ (f at ! back ( ! d[n/airs hall1 or 9 a v small lavatory4 ,!y look1 :5 %ut1 l an ord9>y table1 b :5 ! top is lift$ a mirror1 ! height ( ! table's wid?1 sw+s =w>d & a s]ies ( small comp>tm5ts & trays bo? deep & %all[ are laid out on ei!r side4 ,! trays ( c\rse are kept fill$ ) hairp9s1 p9s & p[d]1 & ! comp>tm5ts h sunburn lotion & liquid p[d]1 bru%1 comb & :iskbroom1 & :atev] else ! ho/ess ?9ks w be useful4 ,,! ,,ann\ncem5t ,,( ,,gue/s ,! butl]'s duty is to /& ne> ! entrance to ! reception or draw+-room1 & z ea* gue/ arrives 7unless !y are kn[n to him7 he asks3 ,:at "n1 please8 ,he !n leads ! way into ! room :]e ! ho/ess is receiv+1 & says di/9ctly3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,jones4 ,if ,mrs4 ,jones is consid]ably 9 advance ( h] husb&1 he says3 ,mrs4 ,jones6 !n waits = ,mr4 ,jones to approa* be=e ann\nc+3 ,mr4 ,jones6 ,at a v l>ge p>ty su* z a ball1 or a v big tea or musical1 he does n leave 8 place1 b /&s j outside ! draw+-room1 & ! ho/ess /&s j )91 & z ! gue/s pass ?r\gh ! door1 he ann\nces ea* "o's "n4 ,x is said to be cu/om>y 9 c]ta9 places to h waitresses ann\nce p4 ,b 9 ,new ,york gue/s are nev] ann\nc$ if !re are no m5 s]vants4 ,at a v l>ge function su* z a ball or tea1 a ho/ess :o has no butl] at home1 always employs "o = ! occasion4 ,if1 = in/ance1 %e is giv+ a ball = h] daught]1 & all ! sons & daught]s ( h] own acqua9tance are invit$1 ! *ances are t n half or ev5 a qu>t] ( h] gue/s are kn[n to h] by sight1 s t _! ann\ncem5t is n a m]e matt] ( =m b ( necessity4 ,,! ,,ann\ncem5t ,,( ,,d9n] ,:5 ! butl] on ent]+ ! room to ann\nce d9n]1 happ5s to cat* ! att5tion ( ! ho/ess1 he m]ely b[s4 ,o!rwise he approa*es )9 speak+ di/ance & says1 ,d9n] is s]v$4 ,he nev] says1 ,d9n] is ready4 ,at a l>ge d9n] :]e x is q a prom5ade to circle ! table 9 se>* ( "o's "n1 ! butl] /&s j )9 ! d9+-room & ei!r reads f a li/ or says f memory "r or left z ! case may be1 to ea* g5tleman & lady on approa*+4 ,9 a few ( ! sm>te/ h\ses a leaf has be5 tak5 f ! practise ( royalty & a table plan arrang$ 9 ! front hall1 :i* is %[n to ea* g5tleman at ! mom5t :5 he takes ! envelope enclos+ ! "n ( 8 p>tn] at d9n]4 ,?is table plan is m]ely a diagram made 9 lea!r ) :ite "n c>ds t slip into spaces correspond+ to ! seats at ! table4 ,on ?is a g5tleman c see exactly :]e he sits & betwe5 :om2 s t if he does n "k ! lady :o is to be on 8 left z well z ! "o he is to take 91 he has pl5ty ( "t be=e go+ to ! table to ask 8 ho/ to pres5t him4 ,at ! end ( ! ev5+1 ! butl] is always at ! front door--& by t "t1 unless ! p>ty is v l>ge1 he %\ld h rememb]$ _! names1 if he is a p]fect butl]1 & z ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,jones appe> he op5s ! door & calls d[n to ! *auffeur ,mr4 ,jones' c>6 ,& 9 ! same way ,mr4 ,smi?'s c>6 ,miss ,gild+'s c>6 ,:5 a c> is at ! door1 ! *auffeur runs up ! /eps & says to ! butl]3 ,miss ,gild+'s c> or ,mrs4 ,jones' c>4 ,! butl] !n ann\nces to ei!r ,mr4 or ,mrs4 ,jones1 ,y\r c>1 sir1 or ,y\r c>1 madam1 & holds ! door op5 = h] to g out1 or he may say1 ,y\r c>1 ,miss1 if ! ,gild+ c> comes fir/4 ,,d9+-,,room ,,s]vice ,,at ,,private ,,ent]ta9m5ts ,supp] at a ball 9 a great h\se 7big en\gh = a ball7 is usually 9 *>ge ( ! butl]1 :o by supp] "t is free f 8 duties ( ann\nc+ & is able to look aft] ! d9+-room s]vice4 ,! sit-d[n supp] at a ball is s]v$ exactly l a d9n]--or a w$d+ breakfa/2 & ! buffet supp] ( a dance is l ! buffet ( a w$d+ reception4 ,at a l>ge tea :]e ! butl] is on duty ann\nc+ at ! same "t t o!r gue/s are go+ into ! d9+-room = refre%m5ts1 ! d9+-room s]vice has to be h&$ ov] to ! fir/ footman & 8 assi/ants or a capable waitress is equally able to meet ! situation4 ,%e %\ld h at lea/ two maids ) h]1 z !y h to p\r all cups ( tea & b\illon & *ocolate z well z to take away us$ cups & plates & see t ! food on ! table is repl5i%$4 ,at a small tea :]e ladies p]=m ! (fice ( p\r+1 "o man or maid 9 ! d9+-room is pl5ty1 to br+ 9 m hot wat] or fre% cups1 or :atev] ! table ho/esses h ne$ (4 ,,=mal ,,s]vice ,,)\t ,,m5 ,,s]vants ,_m1 & v fa/idi\s1 p1 :o live 9 big h\ses & ent]ta9 con/antly1 h nei!r m5 s]vants nor employ a cat]]1 ev]4 ,effici5t wom5 take m5's places equally well1 ?\gh two s]vices are omitt$4 ,wom5 nev] 79 ,new ,york at lea/7 ann\nce gue/s or op5 ! doors ( motors4 ,b !re is no diff]5ce :atsoev] 9 ! details ( ! pantry1 d9+-room1 hall or dress+-room1 :e!r ! s]vices are p]=m$ by m5 or wom54 7,no wom51 ( c\rse1 are ev] on duty 9 ! g5tlem5's dress+-rooms47 ,at an ev5+ p>ty1 ! door is op5$ by ! waitress1 assi/$ by ! p>lor-maid :o directs ! way to ! dress+-rooms4 ,! gue/s1 :5 !y are ready to g 9 ! draw+-room1 approa* ! ho/ess unann\nc$4 ,a gue/ :o may n be kn[n by sight does n wait = h] ho/ess to recognize h] b says at once1 ,h[ d y d1 ,mrs4 ,em95t1 ,i'm ,mrs4 ,joseph ,blank2 or a "y girl says1 ,i am ,con/ance ,/yle 7n ,miss ,/yle1 unless %e is beyond ! tw5ties72 or a m>ri$ woman m]ely ann\nces h]self z ,mrs4 ,t[n4 ,%e does n add h] husb&'s "n z x is tak5 = grant$ t ! g5tleman foll[+ h] is ,mr4 ,t[n4 ,,*apt] ,,xiii ,,teas ,,& ,,o!r ,,aft]noon ,,p>ties ,,teas ,except at a w$d+1 ! function /rictly und]/ood by ! ^w reception w5t out ( fa%ion1 9 ,new ,york at lea/1 dur+ ! reign ( ,que5 ,victoria1 & its survivor is a public or semi-public affair presid$ ov] by a committee1 & is a s]i\s1 r ?an a m]ely social ev5t4 ,! v ^w reception br+s to m9d an aggregation ( p]sonages1 v =mal1 v dress$ up1 v pomp\s1 & v le>n$1 among :om ! ord9>y mortal c n d o!r ?an w&] helplessly 9 ! labyr9? ( ! speciali/'s j>gon4 ,art critics on a v>ni%+ day reception1 are sure to dwell on ! effect ( a new te*nique1 & ! comm5t ( mo/ ( u1 to :om a pa9t+ ought to look l a picture1 is fatal4 ,equally fatal to meet an explor] & n "k :]e or :at he explor$2 or to meet a celebrat$ au?or & n h ! lea/ idea :e!r he wrote detective /ories or exp\nd$ ,taoism4 ,on ! o!r h& x is c]ta9ly disc\rag+ aft] /udy+ up on ! late/ ,cretan excavations 9 ord] to talk intellig5tly to ,pr(essor ,diggs1 to be pigeon-hol$ = ! aft]noon beside ,mrs4 ,newmo!r ^: int]e/ 9 discov]y is limit$ to a new too? 9 baby's head4 ,yet ! diff]5ce betwe5 a reception & a tea is "o ( atmosph]e only1 l ! diff]5ce 9 furni%+ tw9 h\ses4 ,"o is envelop$ 9 ! heavy gloom ( ! mid-,victorian p]iod1 ! o!r is light & allur+ 9 ! fa%ion ( to-day4 ,a tea1 ev5 ?\gh x be =mal1 is nev]!less fri5dly & invit+4 ,"o does n g 9 *ur* clo!s nor ) c]emoni\s mann]2 b 9 an in=mal & e-day _s1 to see "o's fri5ds & be se5 by !m4 ,,! ,,aft]noon ,,tea ,,) ,,danc+ ,! aft]noon tea ) danc+ is usually giv5 to br+ out a daught]1 or to pres5t a new daught]-9-law4 ,! invitations are ! same :e!r "o hundr$ or two ?\s& are s5t out4 ,= in/ance3 ,mrs4 ,gran?am ,jones ,miss ,muriel ,jones w be at home on ,tuesday1 ! ?ird ( ,decemb] f f\r until sev5 o'clock ,! ,fitz-,*]ry ,danc+ ,z invitations to =mal teas ( ?is sort are s5t to ! ho/ess' g5]al visit+ li/1 & v big h\ses are comp>atively few1 a ballroom is ne>ly always engag$ at a hotel4 ,_m hotels h a big & a small ballroom1 & unless "o's acqua9tance is enorm\s ! small] room is pref]able4 ,too mu* space = too few p gives an effect ( empt9ess :i* always is sugge/ive ( failure2 also "o mu/ n =get t an undecorat$ room ne$s m p to make x look trimm$ ?an "o 9 :i* ! floral decoration is lavi%4 ,on ! o!r h&1 a cru% is v disagreeable1 ev5 ?\gh x always gives ! effect ( success4 ,! arrangem5ts are n z elaborate z = a ball4 ,at mo/ a scre5 ( palms beh9d :i* ! musicians sit 7unless !y sit 9 a gall]y71 p]haps a few fe/oons ( gre5 "h & !re1 & ! dbutante's own fl[]s bank$ on tables :]e %e /&s to receive1 =m z mu* decoration z is ev] attempt$4 ,:e!r 9 a public ballroom or a private draw+-room1 ! curta9s ov] ! w9d[s are drawn & ! lights light$ z if = a ball 9 ! ev5+4 ,if ! tea is at a private h\se !re is no awn+ unless x ra9s1 b !re is a *auffeur or coa*man at ! curb to op5 motor doors1 & a butl]1 or cat]]'s man1 to op5 ! door ( ! h\se be=e any "o has "t to r+4 ,gue/s z !y arrive are ann\nc$ ei!r by ! ho/ess' own butl] or a cat]]'s ann\nc]4 ,! ho/ess receives ev]yone z at a ball2 if %e & h] daught] are = ! mom5t /&+ alone1 ! new arrival1 if a fri5d1 /&s talk+ ) !m until a new] arrival takes 8 or h] place4 ,aft] receiv+ ) h] "m or "m-9-law = an h\r or s1 z soon z ! cr[d ?9s a little1 ! dbutante or bride may be all[$ to dance4 ,! y\ng] p1 z soon z !y h %ak5 h&s ) ! ho/ess1 dance4 ,! old] ones sit ab\t1 or talk to fri5ds or take tea4 ,at a =mal tea1 ! tea-table is exactly l t at a w$d+ reception1 9 t x is a l>ge table set z a buffet1 & is always 9 *>ge ( ! cat]]'s m51 or ! ho/ess' own butl] or waitress & assi/ants4 ,x is nev] presid$ ov] by deputy ho/esses4 ,,! ,,m5u ,,is ,,limit$ ,only tea1 b\illon1 *ocolate1 bread & cakes are s]v$4 ,!re c be all sorts ( s&wi*es1 hot biscuits1 crumpets1 muff9s1 slic$ cake & little cakes 9 e v>iety t a cook or cat]] c devise--:atev] c come "u ! head ( bread & cake is admissible2 b no?+ else1 or x becomes a reception1 & n a tea4 ,at ! end ( ! table or on a sep>ate table ne> by1 !re are b[ls or pit*]s ( orangeade or lemonade or pun* 7mean+ 9 ^! days some?+ cold t has fruit juice 9 x7 = ! danc]s1 exactly z at a ball4 ,gue/s g to ! table & help !mselves to _! own selection ( bread & cakes4 ,! *ocolate1 already p\r$ into cups & ) :ipp$ cream on top1 is pass$ on a tray by a s]vant4 ,tea also p\r$ into cups1 n mix$ b accompani$ by a small pit*] ( cream1 b[l ( sug>1 & di% ( lemon1 is also pass$ on a tray4 ,a gue/ tak+ h] plate ( food 9 "o h& & h] tea or *ocolate 9 ! o!r1 f9ds h]self a *air some:]e1 if possible1 ne> a table1 s t %e c take h] tea )\t discom=t4 ,,aft]noon ,,teas ,,)\t ,,danc+ ,aft]noon teas )\t danc+ are giv5 9 honor ( visit+ celebrities or new neighbors or engag$ c\ples1 or to w>m a new h\se2 or1 mo/ (t51 = a h\se-gue/ f ano!r city4 ,! invitation is a visit+ c>d ( ! ho/ess ) to meet ,mrs4 ,s-&-,s across ! top ( x & ,jan4 #aj1 ,tea at #d o'clock 9 ! l[] corn]1 opposite ! address4 ,at a tea ( ?is description1 tea & *ocolate may be pass$ on trays or p\r$ by two ladies1 z w be expla9$ bel[4 ,unless ! p]son = :om ! tea is giv5 is su* a celebrity t ! tea becomes a reception1 ! ho/ess does n /& at ! door1 b m]ely ne> x s t anyone com+ 9 may easily f9d h]4 ,! ord9>y aft]noon tea giv5 = "o reason or ano!r is1 9 w9t]1 m]ely & lit]ally1 be+ at home on a specifi$ aft]noon ) ! bl9ds & curta9s drawn1 ! room light$ z at night1 a fire burn+ & a l>ge tea-table spread 9 ! d9+-room or a small "o ne> ! he>?4 ,an aft]noon tea 9 summ] is ! same1 except t artificial light is nev] us$1 & ! table is mo/ (t5 on a v]&a4 ,,d ,,come ,,9 ,,= ,a ,,cup ,,( ,,tea ,?is is ,be/ ,society's favorite =m ( invitation4 ,x is us$ on ne>ly e occasion :e!r !re is to be music or a di/+ui%$ visitor1 or :e!r a ho/ess has m]ely an incl9ation to see h] fri5ds4 ,%e writes on h] p]sonal visit+ c>d3 ,d come 9 on ,friday = a cup ( tea & he> ,ellw9 play1 or ,f>ri% s+1 or to meet ,s5ator ,we/1 or ,lady ,x4 ,or ev5 m in=mally3 ,i h n se5 y = s long4 ,invitations to a tea ( ?is description are nev] g5]al4 ,a ho/ess asks ei!r none b close fri5ds1 or at mo/ h] d9+ li/2 sometimes ?is sort ( a tea is s small t %e sits beh9d h] own tea-table--exactly z %e does e aft]noon4 ,b if ! tea is ( any size1 f tw5ty upw>ds1 ! table is set 9 ! d9+-room & two intimate fri5ds ( ! ho/ess p\r tea at "o end1 & *ocolate at ! o!r4 ,! ladies :o p\r are always especially invit$ be=eh& & always we> aft]noon dresses1 ) hats1 ( c\rse1 z di/+ui%$ f ! /reet clo!s ( o!r gue/s4 ,z soon z a ho/ess decides to give a tea1 %e selects two fri5ds = ?is duty :o are1 9 h] op9ion1 decorative 9 appe>ance & also :o 7?is is v important7 c be c\nt$ on = graci\s mann]s to ev]yone & "u all circum/ances4 ,x does n matt] if a gue/ go+ into ! d9+-room = a cup ( tea or *ocolate does n "k ! deputy ho/esses :o are p\r+4 ,x is p]fectly correct = a /rang] to say ,may ,i h a cup ( tea8 ,! "o p\r+ %\ld answ] v1 responsively1 ,c]ta9ly6 ,h[ d y l x8 ,/rong or weak8 ,if ! latt]1 %e deluges x ) hot wat]1 & aga9 wat*+ = ! gue/'s negative or approval1 adds cream or lemon or sug>4 ,or1 pref]r+ *ocolate1 ! gue/ p]haps goes to ! o!r end ( ! table & asks = a cup ( *ocolate4 ,! table ho/ess at t end also says ,c]ta9ly1 & p\rs out *ocolate4 ,if %e is surr\nd$ ) p1 %e smiles z %e h&s x out1 & t is all4 ,b if %e is unoccupi$ & h] mom5t>y gue/ by c\rtesy is alone1 x is m]e/ good mann]s on h] "p to make a few pleasant rem>ks4 ,v likely :5 ask$ = *ocolate %e says3 ,h[ nice ( y6 ,i h be5 feel+ v neglect$ at my end4 ,ev]yone seems to pref] tea4 ,:]eupon ! gue/ v5tures t p are afraid ( *ocolate because x is s fatt5+ or s hot4 ,aft] an obs]vation or two ab\t ! wea!r1 or ! beauty ( ! *9a or h[ good ! little cakes look1 or ! s&wi*es ta/e1 ! gue/ f9i%es h] *ocolate4 ,if ! table ho/ess is /ill unoccupi$ ! gue/ smiles & slightly nods ,good-by1 b if ! o!r's att5tion has be5 call$ ^u by someone else1 %e :o has f9i%$ h] *ocolate1 leaves unnotic$4 ,if ano!r lady com+ into ! d9+-room is an acqua9tance ( "o ( ! table ho/esses1 ! new visitor draws up a *air1 if !re is room1 & dr9ks h] tea or *ocolate at ! table4 ,b z soon z %e has f9i%$1 %e %\ld give h] place up to a new] arrival4 ,or p]haps a fri5d appe>s1 & ! two take _! tea toge!r ov] 9 ano!r "p ( ! room1 or at vacant places f>!r d[n ! table4 ,! tea-table is n set ) places2 b at a table :]e ladies are p\r+1 & especially at a tea t is in=mal1 a numb] ( *airs are usually ready to be drawn up = ^? :o l to take _! tea at ! table4 ,9 _m cities1 /rang]s :o f9d !mselves toge!r 9 ! h\se ( a fri5d 9 common1 always talk4 ,9 ,new ,york sm>t p always d at d9n]s or lun*eons1 b nev] at a g5]al ent]ta9m5t4 ,_! cordiality to a /rang] w\ld dep5d l>gely ^u ! in=mal1 or intimate1 quality ( ! tea p>ty2 x w\ld dep5d on :o ! /rang] might be1 & :o ! ,new ,york]4 ,mrs4 ,worldly w\ld nev] dream ( speak+ to anyone--no matt] :om--if x c\ld be avoid$4 ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t on ! o!r h&1 talks to ev]yone1 ev]y:]e & always4 ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t's position is z good z ,mrs4 ,worldly's e bit1 b p]haps %e c be m relax$2 n be+ ! conspicu\s ho/ess t ,mrs4 ,worldly is1 %e is n s besieg$ by position-mak]s & invitation-seek]s4 ,p]haps ,mrs4 ,worldly1 f9d+ t ne>ly e "o :o approa*es h] wants some?+1 has come in/9ctively to avoid ea* new approa*4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,aft]noon ,,tea-,,table ,,is ,,! ,,same ,,9 ,,its ,,s]vice ,,:e!r ,,9 ,,! ,,t9y ,,b&box ,,h\se ,,( ,,! ,,newe/ ,,bride1 ,,or ,,9 ,,! ,,draw+-,,room ,,( ,,mrs4 ,,worldly ,,( ,,great ,,e/ates4 ,page #aga4 ,,! ,,e-,,day ,,aft]noon ,,tea ,,table ,! e-day aft]noon tea table is famili> to ev]yone2 !re is n ! slighte/ diff]5ce 9 its s]vice :e!r 9 ! t9y b&box h\se ( ! newe/ bride1 or 9 ! draw+-room ( ,mrs4 ,worldly ( ,great ,e/ates1 except t 9 ! little h\se ! tray is br\ght 9 by a woman--(t5 a picture 9 appe>ance & appo9tm5t--in/ead ( a butl] ) "o or two footm5 9 8 wake4 ,9 ei!r case a table is plac$ 9 front ( ! ho/ess4 ,a tea-table is usually ( ! drop-leaf v>iety because x is m easily mov$ ?an a solid "o4 ,!re are really no correct dim5sions2 any small table is suitable4 ,x ought n to be s high t ! ho/ess seems subm]g$ beh9d x1 nor s small z to be ov]hung by ! tea tray & easily knock$ ov]4 ,x is usually betwe5 #bd & #bf in*es wide & f #bg to #cf in*es long1 or x may be oval or oblong4 ,a d\ble-deck$ table t has its second deck above ! ma9 table is n good because ! tea tray p]*$ on ! upp] deck is nei!r graceful nor conv5i5t4 ,9 prop] s]v+1 n only ( tea b ( cold dr9ks ( all sorts1 ev5 :]e a quantity ( bottles1 pit*]s & glasses ne$ space1 ev]y?+ %\ld be br\ght on a tray & n trundl$ 9 on a tea-wagon6 ,a clo? mu/ always be fir/ plac$ on ! table1 be=e putt+ d[n ! tray4 ,! tea clo? may be a y>d1 a y>d & a half1 or two y>ds squ>e4 ,x may b>ely cov] ! table1 or x may hang half a y>d ov] ea* edge4 ,a y>d & a qu>t] is ! av]age size4 ,a tea clo? c be color$1 b ! conv5tional "o is ( :ite l951 ) little or mu* :ite ne$lework or lace1 or bo?4 ,on ?is is put a tray big en\gh to hold ev]y?+ except ! plates ( food4 ,! tray may be a massive silv] "o t requires a footman ) /rong arms to lift x1 or x may be ( ,%effield or m]ely ( effectively lacqu]$ t94 ,9 any case1 on x %\ld be3 a kettle :i* ought to be already boil+1 ) a _s lamp "u x1 an empty tea-pot1 a caddy ( tea1 a tea /ra9] & slop b[l1 cream pit*] & sug> b[l1 &1 on a glass di%1 lemon 9 slices4 ,a pile ( cups & sauc]s & a /ack ( little tea plates1 all to mat*1 ) a napk9 7ab\t #ab in*es squ>e1 hem/it*$ or edg$ to mat* ! tea clo?7 fold$ on ea* ( ! plates1 l ! fill+ ( a lay] cake1 complete ! p>aph]nalia4 ,ea* plate is lift$ (f ) its own napk94 ,!n on ! tea-table1 back ( ! tray1 or on ! %elves ( a sep>ate curate1 a /& made ( ?ree small %elves1 ea* j big en\gh = "o good-siz$ plate1 are always two1 usually ?ree1 v>ieties ( cake & hot breads4 ,,?+s ,,p ,,eat ,,at ,,tea ,! top di% on ! curate %\ld be a cov]$ "o1 & holds hot bread ( "s sort2 ! two l[] di%es may be cov]$ or n1 accord+ to :e!r ! additional food is hot or cold2 ! second di% usually holds s&wi*es1 & ! ?ird cake4 ,or p]haps all ! di%es hold cake2 little fancy cakes = in/ance1 & pa/ries & slices ( lay] cakes4 ,_m pref] a simpl] diet1 & h bread & butt]1 or toa/$ crack]s1 supplem5t$ by pla9 cookies4 ,o!rs pile ! curate until x lit]ally /agg]s1 "u pa/ries & cream cakes & s&wi*es ( pt de foie gras or mayonnaise4 ,o!rs1 aga91 l m>malade1 or jam1 or honey on bread & butt] or on butt]$ toa/ or muff9s4 ,?is necessitates little butt] knives & a di% ( jam add$ to ! already ov]load$ tea tray4 ,selection ( aft]noon tea food is entirely a matt] ( :im1 & new food-fads sweep ?r\gh communities4 ,= a few mon?s at a "t1 ev]yone1 :e!r 9 a private h\se or a c\ntry club1 w eat no?+ b ,engli% muff9s & jam1 !n sudd5ly !y l only toa/$ *eese crack]s1 or ,sally ,lunn1 or *ocolate cake ) :ipp$ cream on top4 ,! pres5t fad ( a c]ta9 gr\p 9 ,new ,york is bacon & toa/ s&wi*es & fre% hot g+]bread4 ,let x be hop$ = ! sake ( ! small h\sehold t x w die out r ?an become epidemic1 s9ce ! g+]bread mu/ be bak$ e aft]noon1 & ! toa/ & bacon are two o!r items t come f a range4 ,s&wi*es = aft]noon tea z well z = all collations1 are made by butt]+ ! end ( ! loaf1 spread+ on ! fill+ & !n cutt+ (f ! prep>$ slice z ?9 z possible4 ,a second slice1 unspread1 makes ! o!r side ( ! s&wi*4 ,:5 x is put toge!r1 ! cru/ is ei!r cut (f leav+ a squ>e & ! squ>e aga9 divid$ diagonally into two triangul> s&wi*es1 or ! s&wi* is cut into %ape ) a regul> cutt]4 ,9 o!r words1 a p>ty s&wi* is n ! sort ( s&wi* to eat--or ord]--:5 hungry6 ,! tea s]v$ to a lady :o lives alone & c>es = only "o di% ( eatables w\ld naturally elim9ate ! o!r two4 ,b if a visitor is receiv$1 ! s]vant on duty %\ld1 )\t be+ told1 at once br+ 9 at lea/ ano!r di% & an additional cup1 sauc]1 plate & napk94 ,aft]noon tea at a v l>ge h\se p>ty or :]e especially invit$ p are expect$ = tea1 %\ld include two plates ( hot food su* z toa/ or hot biscuits split op5 & butt]$1 toa/$ & butt]$ ,engli% muff9s1 or crumpets1 corn muff9s or hot g+]bread4 ,two cold plates %\ld conta9 cookies or fancy cakes1 & p]haps a lay] cake4 ,9 hot wea!r1 9 place ( "o ( ! hot di%es1 !re %\ld be pt or lettuce s&wi*es1 & always a *oice ( hot or ic$ tea1 or p]haps ic$ c(fee or *ocolate frapp1 b r>ely if ev]1 any?+ else4 ,,! ,,etiquette ,,( ,,tea ,,s]v+ ,,& ,,dr9k+ ,z tea is ! "o meal ( intimate conv]sation1 a s]vant nev] comes to ! room at tea-"t unless rung =1 to br+ fre% wat] or additional *9a or food1 or to take away us$ di%es4 ,:5 ! tray & curate are br\ght 91 individual tables1 usually glass topp$ & v small & l[1 are put beside ea* ( ! gue/s1 & ! s]vant !n )draws4 ,! ho/ess h]self makes ! tea & p\rs x4 ,^? :o sit ne> en\gh to h] put out _! h&s = _! cup-&-sauc]4 ,if any ladies are sitt+ f>!r (f1 & a g5tleman is pres5t1 he1 ( c\rse1 rises & takes ! tea f ! ho/ess to ! gue/4 ,he also !n passes ! curate1 aft]w>d putt+ x back :]e x belongs & resum+ 8 seat4 ,if no g5tleman is pres5t1 a lady gets up & takes h] own tea :i* ! ho/ess h&s h]1 c>ries x to h] own little individual table1 comes back1 takes a plate & napk91 helps h]self to :at %e likes & goes to h] place4 ,if ! cake is v s(t & /icky or fill$ ) cream1 small =ks mu/ be laid on ! tea-table4 ,z said above1 if jam is to be eat5 on toa/ or bread1 !re mu/ be little butt] knives to spread x )4 ,ea* gue/ 9 tak+ h] plate helps h]self to toa/ & jam & a knife & c>ries h] plate ov] to h] own little table4 ,%e !n c>ries h] cup ( tea to h] table & sits d[n com=tably to dr9k x4 ,if !re are no little tables1 %e ei!r draws h] *air up to ! tea-table1 or manages z be/ %e c to balance plate1 cup & sauc] on h] lap--a v difficult feat6 ,9 fact1 ! ho/ess :o1 provid+ no individual tables1 expects h] gue/ to balance knife1 =k1 jam1 cream cake1 plate & cup & sauc]1 all on h] knees1 %\ld *oose h] fri5ds 9 ! circus r ?an 9 society4 ,,! ,,g>d5 ,,p>ty ,! g>d5 p>ty is m]ely an aft]noon tea out ( doors4 ,x may be z elaborate z a sit-d[n w$d+ breakfa/ or z simple z a m9iature /rawb]ry fe/ival4 ,at an elaborate "o 79 ! ra9y section ( our c\ntry7 a t5t or m>quise ) sides t c be easily drawn up 9 f9e wea!r & dropp$ 9 ra91 & ) a good danc+ floor1 is (t5 put up on ! lawn or next to ! v]&a1 s t 9 case ( /orm p w n be oblig$ to g out ( doors4 ,! or*e/ra is plac$ )9 or ne> op5 sides ( ! t5t1 s t x c he he>d on ! lawn & v]&a z well z :]e !y are danc+4 ,or in/ead ( a tea ) danc+1 if mo/ ( ! gue/s are to be old]1 !re may be a conc]t or o!r =m ( pr(essional ent]ta9m5t4 ,on ! lawn !re are usually sev]al huge bright-color$ umbrella t5ts1 & "u ea* a table & a gr\p ( *airs1 & "h & !re num]\s small tables & *airs4 ,=1 al?\gh ! aft]noon tea is always put 9 ! d9+-room footm5 or maids c>ry v>ieties ( food out on l>ge trays to ! lawn1 & ! gue/s hold plates on _! knees & /& glasses on tables ne>by4 ,at a g>d5 p>ty ! food is (t5 mu* m prodigal ?an at a tea 9 t[n4 ,sometimes x is z elaborate z at a w$d+ reception4 ,9 addition to hot tea & *ocolate1 !re is ei!r ic$ c(fee or a v melt$ caf p>fait1 or fro/$ *ocolate 9 cups4 ,!re are also pit*]s ( v>i\s dr9ks t h r my/]i\s +r$i5ts1 b are all v mu* ic$ & embelli%$ ) cru%$ fruits & m9t leaves4 ,!re are (t5 b]ries ) cream1 especially 9 /rawb]ry season1 on an e/ate t prides itself on ^? ( its own gr[+1 z well z ! inevitable array ( fancy s&wi*es & cakes4 ,at teas & musicales & all ent]ta9m5ts :]e ! ho/ess h]self is oblig$ to /& at ! door1 h] husb& or a daught] 7if ! ho/ess is old en\gh1 & lucky en\gh to h "o7 or else a si/] or a v close fri5d1 %\ld look aft] ! gue/s1 to see t any :o are /rang]s are n helplessly w&]+ ab\t alone1 & t eld]ly ladies are giv5 seats if !re is to be a p]=mance1 or to %[ any o!r c\rtesies t devolve ^u a ho/ess4 ,,! ,,atmosph]e ,,( ,,hospitality ,! atmosph]e ( hospitality is some?+ v intangible1 & yet no?+ is m actually felt--or miss$4 ,!re are c]ta9 h\ses t seem to radiate w>m? l an op5 wood fire1 !re are o!rs t sugge/ an arrival by wireless at ! ,nor? ,pole1 ev5 ?\gh a mu* bright] actual fire may be burn+ on ! he>? 9 ! draw+-room ( ! second ?an ( ! fir/4 ,"s p h ! gift ( hospitality2 o!rs ^: int5tions are j z k9d & ^: h\ses are p]fection 9 luxury ( appo9tm5ts1 seem to petrify e approa*4 ,su* p appe>+ at a picnic color ! entire sc5e ) ! blue light ( _! au/]ity4 ,su* p are usually n ma/]s1 b slaves1 ( etiquette4 ,_! *ief conc]n is :e!r ?is is correct1 or :e!r t is prop]ly done1 or is ?is p]son or t su* an "o z !y c>e to "k8 ,!y seem1 l ,h]mione 7,don ,m>quis's h]o9e71 to be anxi\sly ask+ !mselves1 ,h ,i fail$ to-day1 or h ,i n8 ,introspective p :o are fe>ful ( o!rs1 fe>ful ( !mselves1 are nev] successfully popul> ho/s or ho/esses4 ,if y = in/ance1 are "o ( ^!1 if y are really afraid ( kn[+ "s "o :o might "s day prove unpleasant1 if y are su* a snob t y c't take p at _! face value1 !n :y make ! ef=t to bo!r ) p at all8 ,:y n %ut y\r front door tight & pull d[n ! bl9ds &1 sitt+ be=e a mirror 9 y\r own draw+-room1 ord] tea = two8 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,p]fect ,,example ,,( ,a ,,=mal ,,d9n] ,,table ,,( ,,weal?1 ,,luxury ,,& ,,ta/e1 ,,:i* ,,involves ,,no ,,ef=t ,,on ,,! ,,"p ,,( ,,! ,,ho/ess ,,( ,a ,,great ,,h\se ,,beyond ,,decid+ ,,^u ,,! ,,date ,,& ,,! ,,pr9cipal ,,gue/s ,,:o ,,are ,,to ,,=m ,,! ,,nucleus ,,( ,,! ,,p>ty4 ,page #agg4 ,,*apt] ,,xiv ,,=mal ,,d9n]s ,,n ,,= ,,! ,,novice ,,to ,,attempt ,if ! great _w ( society 7 a univ]sity :i* issu$ degrees to ^? :om x tra9s to its usages1 ! magna cum laude honors w\ld be aw>d$ )\t "q1 n to ! ho/ess :o may h giv5 ! mo/ m>vel\s ball ( ! decade1 b to h] :o kn[s be/ e compon5t detail ( prep>ation & s]vice1 no less ?an e inexorable rule ( etiquette1 9 =mal d9n]-giv+4 ,to give a p]fect d9n] ( c]emony is ! supreme accompli%m5t ( a ho/ess6 ,x means n alone p]fection ( furni%+1 ( s]vice1 ( cul9>y skill1 b also ( p]sonal *>m1 ( tact4 ,! only o!r occasion :5 a ho/ess mu/ h equal--& possibly ev5 great] ability--is ! l>ge & some:at =mal week-end p>ty1 :i* includes a d9n] or two z by no means its lea/ =midable features4 ,!re are s _m aspects to be consid]$ 9 d9n] giv+ t x is difficult to "k :e!r to beg9 up-/airs or d[n1 or ) furni%+1 or s]vice1 or p1 or mann]s6 ,"o ?+ is c]ta91 no novice %\ld ev] beg9 h] social c>e] by attempt+ a =mal d9n]1 any m ?an a pupil swimm]1 ^u be+ able to take ?ree /rokes alone1 %\ld attempt to swim ?ree miles out to sea4 ,! =m] w z surely dr[n z ! latt]4 ,,h[ ,a ,,d9n] ,,is ,,giv5 ,,9 ,a ,,great ,,h\se ,:5 ,mrs4 ,worldly gives a d9n]1 x means no ef=t on h] "p :atsoev] beyond decid+ ^u ! date & ! pr9cipal gue/s :o are to =m ! nucleus2 e fur!r detail is left to h] subord9ates--ev5 to ! completion ( h] li/ ( gue/s4 ,= in/ance1 %e decides t %e w h an old] d9n]1 & f9d+ t ! t5? is available = h]self1 %e tells h] secret>y to s5d out invitations = t date4 ,%e does n h especial c>ds engrav$ b uses ! d9n] blank describ$ 9 ! *apt] on ,invitations4 ,%e !n looks ?r\gh h] d9n] li/ & ord]s h] secret>y to invite ! ,oldworlds1 ! ,em95ts1 ! ,le>n$s1 ! ,wellborns1 ! ,highbr[s1 & ! ,oncew]es4 ,%e also picks out ?ree or f\r additional names to be sub/itut$ = ^? :o regret4 ,!n turn+ to ! y\ng] m>ri$ li/ %e se>*es = a few suitable b amus+ or good-look+ ones to give life to h] d9n] :i* might o!rwise be heavy4 ,b h] favorites d n seem appropriate4 ,x w n d to ask ! ,bobo ,gild+s1 n because ( ! diff]5ce 9 age b because ,lucy ,gild+ smokes l a furnace & is mis]able unless %e c play bridge = high /akes1 &1 j z soon z %e c bolt ?r\gh d9n]1 sit at a c>d table2 :ile ,mrs4 ,highbr[ & ,mrs4 ,oncew]e q possibly disapprove ( wom5's smok+ & are surely horrifi$ at gambl+4 ,! ,sm>tl+s won't d ei!r1 = ! same reason1 nor ! ,gaylies4 ,%e c't ask ! ,newell ,ri*es ei!r1 because ,mrs4 ,oldworld & ,mrs4 ,wellborn bo? dislike vulg>ity too mu* to f9d comp5sation 9 qualities :i* are m]ely amus+4 ,s %e ends by add+ h] own fri5ds ! ,k9dh>ts & ! ,normans1 :o g ) ev]yone1 & a few some:at y\ng] p1 & approves h] secret>y's sugge/ions z to additional names if ^? fir/ invit$ %\ld regret4 ,! li/ be+ settl$1 ,mrs4 ,worldly's own "w is done4 ,%e s5ds ^w to h] cook t !re w be tw5ty-f\r on ! t5?2 ! m5u w be submitt$ to h] lat]1 :i* %e w probably m]ely glance at & s5d back4 ,%e nev] sees or ?9ks ab\t h] table1 :i* is 9 ! butl]'s prov9ce4 ,on ! morn+ ( ! d9n] h] secret>y br+s h] ! place c>ds1 7! "n ( ea* p]son expect$1 writt5 on a sep>ate c>d7 & %e puts !m 9 ! ord] 9 :i* !y are to be plac$ on ! table1 v mu* z ?\gh play+ solitaire4 ,/>t+ ) h] own c>d at "o end & h] husb&'s at ! o!r1 %e fir/ places ! lady ( honor on 8 "r1 ! second 9 importance on 8 left4 ,!n on ei!r side ( h]self1 %e puts ! two mo/ important g5tlem54 ,! o!rs %e fits 9 betwe51 try+ to seat side by side ^? cong5ial to ea* o!r4 ,illu/ration3 ,,detail ,,( ,,place ,,set ,,at ,a ,,=mal ,,d9n] ,,table ,,( ,a ,,great ,,h\se4 ,page #agi4 ,:5 ! c>ds are arrang$1 ! secret>y att5ds to putt+ ! "n ( ! lady :o sits on ea* g5tleman's "r 9 ! envelope address$ to him4 ,%e !n picks up ! place c>ds /ill /ack$ 9 _! prop] sequ5ce1 & takes !m to ! butl] :o w put !m 9 ! ord] arrang$ on ! table aft] x is set4 ,fifte5 m9utes be=e ! d9n] h\r1 ,mrs4 ,worldly is already /&+ 9 h] draw+-room4 ,%e has no p]sonal responsibility o!r ?an t ( be+ ho/ess4 ,! :ole ma*9]y ( equipm5t & s]vice runs seem+ly by itself4 ,x does n matt] :e!r %e kn[s :at ! m5u is4 ,h] cook is m ?an capable ( att5d+ to x4 ,t ! table %all be p]fect is m]ely ! e-day duty ( ! butl]4 ,%e kn[s )\t look+ t "o ( ! *auffeurs is on ! sidewalk2 t footm5 are 9 ! hall2 t h] own maid is 9 ! ladies' dress+-room1 & ! valet 9 t ( ! g5tlem52 & t h] butl] is j outside ! door ne> :i* %e is /&+4 ,s ) no?+ on h] m9d 7except a jewell$ ornam5t & p]fectly done hair7 %e receives h] gue/s ) ! tranquillity atta9$ only by ^? ^: h\sehold--:e!r great or small--c be c\nt$ on to run l a p]fectly coord9at$ ma*9e4 ,,h[ ,a ,,d9n] ,,c ,,be ,,bungl$ ,?is is ! contra/+ picture to ! d9n] at ! ,worldly's--a picture to %[ y p>ticul>ly :o are a bride h[ awful an exp]im5t 9 d9n] giv+ c be4 ,let u suppose t y h a q *>m+ h\se1 & t y\r w$d+ pres5ts includ$ ev]y?+ necess>y to set a well-appo9t$ table4 ,y h n v exp]i5c$ s]vants1 b !y w\ld all be good ones ) a little m tra9+4 ,y h be5 at home = s few meals y don't q "k h[ exp]i5c$ !y are4 ,y\r cook at lea/ makes good c(fee & eggs & toa/ = breakfa/1 & ! few o!r meals %e has cook$ seem$ to be all "r1 & %e is su* a nice clean p]son6 ,s :5 y\r h\se is 9 ord] & ! la/ pictures & curta9s are hung1 ! impulse sudd5ly comes to y to give a d9n]6 ,y\r husb& ?9ks x is a spl5did idea4 ,x m]ely rema9s to decide :om y w ask4 ,y hesitate betwe5 a few ( y\r own intimates1 or old] p1 & decide x w\ld be su* fun to ask a few ( ! ho/esses ^: h\ses y h almo/ liv$ at ev] s9ce y came out4 ,y decide to ask ,mrs4 ,topl(ty1 ,mr4 ,clubw9 ,doe1 ! ,worldlys1 ! ,gild+s1 & ! ,k9dh>ts & ! ,wellborns4 ,) y\rselves t makes twelve4 ,y c't h m ?an twelve because y h only a doz5 ( ev]y?+2 9 fact y decide t twelve w be pretty cr[d$1 b t x w be safe to ask t numb] because a few are sure to regret4 ,s y write notes 7s9ce x is to be a =mal d9n]71 &--!y all accept6 ,y are a little worri$ ab\t ! size ( ! d9+-room1 b y are ov]come by ! feel+ ( y\r popul>ity4 ,n[ ! ?+ to d is to prep>e = a d9n]4 ,! fact t ,nora probably c't make fancy di%es does n bo!r y a bit4 ,9 y\r m9d's eye y see delici\s pla9 food pass$2 y mu/ get ,sigrid a dress t prop]ly fits h]1 & ,delia1 ! *amb]maid 7:o 0 engag$ ) ! und]/&+ t %e 0 to s]ve 9 ! d9+-room :5 !re 0 company71 has n yet be5 at table1 b %e is a v will+ "y p]son :o w surely look well4 ,nora1 :5 y tell h] :o are com+1 eag]ly sugge/s ! sort ( m5u t w\ld appe> on ! table ( ! ,worldlys or ! ,gild+s4 ,y are ?rill$ at ! ?\ght ( y\r own kit*5 produc+ ! same4 ,t x may be ! same 9 "n only1 does n occur to y4 ,y ord] fl[]s = ! table1 & c&y = y\r f\r compoti]s4 ,y pick out y\r be/ tableclo?1 b y f9d r to y\r amazem5t t :5 ! waitress asks y ab\t sett+ ! table1 y h nev] notic$ 9 detail h[ ! places are laid4 ,knives & spoons g on ! "r ( ! plate1 ( c\rse1 & =ks on ! left1 b :i* goes next to ! plate1 or :e!r ! w9e glasses %\ld /& ne>] or beyond ! goblet y c only guess4 ,x is q simple1 h[ev]1 to give directions 9 s]v+2 y j tell ! *amb]maid t %e is to foll[ ! waitress1 & pass ! sauces & ! vegetables4 ,& y h already expla9$ c>efully to ! latt] t %e mu/ n deal plates ar\nd ! table l a pack ( c>ds1 or ev] take !m (f 9 piles ei!r4 7,t mu* at lea/ y d "k47 ,y also make x a po9t above ev]y?+ t ! silv] mu/ be v clean2 ,sigrid seems to und]/&1 & ) ! optimism ( y\?1 y approa* ! d9n] h\r )\t misgiv+4 ,! table1 set ) y\r w$d+ silv] & glass1 looks q nice4 ,y are a little worri$ ab\t ! silv]--x does look r yell[1 b p]haps x is j a %ad[4 ,!n y notice !re are a great _m =ks on ! table6 ,y ask y\r husb& :at is ! matt] ) ! =ks8 ,he does n see any?+ wrong4 ,y ne$ !m all = ! d9n] y ord]$1 h[ c !re be less8 ,s y /raight5 a c&le/ick t 0 out ( l9e1 & put ! place c>ds on4 ,!n y g into ! draw+-room4 ,y don't light ! fire until ! la/ mom5t1 because y want x to be burn+ brightly :5 y\r gue/s arrive4 ,y\r draw+-room looks a little /iff someh[1 b an op5 fire m ?an any?+ else makes a room invit+1 & y light x j z y\r fir/ gue/ r+s ! bell4 ,z ,mr4 ,clubw9 ,doe ent]s1 ! room looks *>m+1 !n sudd5ly ! fire smokes1 & 9 ! mid/ ( ! smoke y\r o!r gue/s arrive4 ,e "o beg9s to c\gh & bl9k4 ,!y are v polite1 b ! smoke1 gr[+ ea* mom5t d5s]1 is n to be ov]look$4 ,mrs4 ,topl(ty takes matt]s 9 h] own h&s & makes ,mr4 ,doe & y\r husb& c>ry ! logs1 smoke & all1 & ?r[ !m into ! y>d4 ,! room /ill ?ick ) smoke is n[ *e]lessly fireless1 & ano!r factor beg9n+ to di/ress y is t1 al?\gh ev]yone has arriv$1 !re is no sign ( d9n]4 ,y wait1 at fir/ m]ely eag] to get out ( ! smoke-fill$ draw+-room4 ,gradually y are becom+ n]v\s--:at c h happ5$8 ,! d9+-room door might be t ( a tomb = all ! evid5ce ( life beh9d x4 ,y become really al>m$4 ,is d9n] nev] go+ to be s]v$8 ,ev]yone's eyes are r$ f ! smoke1 & conv]sation is gett+ weak] & weak]4 ,mrs4 ,topl(ty--evid5tly despair+--sits d[n4 ,mrs4 ,worldly also sits1 bo? hold _! eyes %ut & say no?+4 ,at la/ ! d9+-room door op5s1 & ,sigrid in/ead ( b[+ slightly & say+ 9 a l[ tone ( voice1 ,d9n] is s]v$1 /&s /iff z a block ( wood1 & fairly %\ts3 ,d9n]'s all ready6 ,y hope no "o he>d h]1 b y "k v well t no?+ escap$ any "o ( ^? pres5t4 ,& betwe5 ! smoke & ! delay & y\r waitress' mann]s1 y are already ?or\ghly mortifi$ by ! "t y rea* ! table4 ,b y hope t at lea/ ! d9n] w be good4 ,= ! fir/ "t y are assail$ ) d\bt on t score4 ,& aga9 y wait1 b ! oy/] c\rse is all "r4 ,& !n comes ! s\p4 ,y don't h to ta/e x to see t x is wrong4 ,x looks n at all z cle> s\p %\ld6 ,its color1 in/ead ( be+ glass-cle> amb]1 is greasy-look+ br[n4 ,y ta/e x1 fe>+ ! wor/1 & ! wor/ is realiz$4 ,x ta/es l di%-wat]--& is b>ely tepid4 ,y look ar\nd ! table2 ,mr4 ,k9dh>t alone is try+ to eat x4 ,9 remov+ ! plates1 ,delia1 ! assi/ant1 takes !m up by pil+ "o on top ( ! o!r1 cla%+ !m toge!r z %e does s4 ,y c feel ,mrs4 ,worldly look+ ) almo/ hypnotiz$ fasc9ation--z h] att5tion might be drawn to a /reet accid5t aga9/ h] w4 ,!n !re is a wait4 ,y wait & wait1 & look+ 9 front ( y1 y notice ! b>e tableclo? )\t a plate4 ,y "k in/antly t ! s]vice is wrong1 b y f9d y\rself puzzl$ to "k h[ x %\ld h be5 done4 ,f9ally ,sigrid comes 9 ) a :ole doz5 plates /ack$ 9 a pile1 :i* %e proce$s to deal ar\nd ! table4 ,y at lea/ "k t to try to int]f]e w\ld only make matt]s worse4 ,y hold y\r own cold f+]s 9 y\r lap kn[+ t y mu/ sit !re1 & t y c d no?+4 ,! fi% :i* 0 to h be5 a m\sse ) ,holl&aise sauce1 is a huge m\nd1 mu* too big = ! platt]1 ) a n>r[ gutt] ( wat] ar\nd ! edge & ! c5t] dabb$ ov] ) a curdl$ yell[ mess4 ,y realize t n only is ! food itself awful1 b t ! quantity is too great = "o di%4 ,y don't "k :at to d next2 y "k !re is no use 9 apologiz+1 !re is no way ( dropp+ ?r\gh ! floor1 or wak+ y\rself up4 ,y h collect$ ! sm>te/ & ! mo/ critical p ar\nd y\r table to put !m to torture su* z !y w nev] =get4 ,nev]6 ,y h to bite y\r lips to keep f cry+4 ,:atev] possess$ y to ask ^! p to y\r horrible h\se8 ,mr4 ,k9dh>t1 sitt+ next to y1 says g5tly1 ,*e] up1 little girl1 x doesn't really matt]6 ,& !n y "k to ! full h[ t]rible ! situation is4 ,! meal is endless2 ea* c\rse is equally unappetiz+ to look at1 & abom9ably s]v$4 ,y notice t none ( y\r gue/s eat any?+4 ,!y c't4 ,y leave ! table lit]ally sick1 b realiz+ fully t ! giv+ ( a d9n] is n z easy z y ?\ght4 ,& 9 ! draw+-room1 :i* is n[ fireless & freez+1 b at lea/ smokeless1 y />t to apologize & bur/ into te>s6 ,z y are v "y1 & ^? pres5t are all really fond ( y1 !y try to be com=t+1 b y "k t x w be ye>s 7if ev]7 be=e any ( !m w be will+ to risk an ev5+ 9 y\r h\se aga94 ,y also "k t )\t malice1 b 9 tru? & frankness1 !y w tell ev]yone3 ,:atev] y d1 don't d9e ) ! ,neww$s unless y eat y\r d9n] be=e y g1 & we> black glasses s no sight c (f5d y4 ,:5 !y h all gone1 y drag y\rself mis]ably up-/airs1 feel+ t y nev] want to look 9 t draw+-room or d9+-room aga94 ,y\r husb&1 rememb]+ ! tr5*es1 tries to tell y x 0 n s bad6 ,b y "k6 ,y lie awake plann+ to let ! h\se1 & to dis*>ge ea* "o ( y\r awful h\sehold ! next morn+1 & !n y realize t ! fault is n a bit m !irs ?an y\rs4 ,if y _h tri$ ! *imney fir/1 & le>n$ its peculi>ities2 if y y\rself _h kn[n e detail ( cook+ & s]vice1 ( c\rse y w\ld n h attempt$ to give ! d9n] 9 ! fir/ place2 n at lea/ until1 ?r\gh giv+ little d9n]s1 ! te*nique ( y\r h\sehold _h become good en\gh to give a big "o4 ,on ! o!r h&1 suppos+ t y _h _h a v exp]i5c$ cook & waitress2 d9n] w\ld1 ( c\rse1 n h be5 bungl$1 b x w\ld h lack$ some?+1 some:]e1 if y add$ no?+ ( y\r own p]sonality to its p]fection4 ,x is almo/ safe to make ! /atem5t t no d9n] is ev] really well done unless ! ho/ess h]self kn[s e smalle/ detail ?or\ghly4 ,mrs4 ,worldly pays seem+ly no att5tion1 b no?+ escapes h]4 ,%e c walk ?r\gh a room )\t appe>+ to look ei!r to ! "r or left1 yet if ! slighte/ detail is amiss1 an ornam5t out ( place1 or !re is "o dull button on a footman's liv]y1 h] h\se telephone is rung at once6 ,hav+ g5]aliz$ by draw+ two pictures1 x is n[ "t to take up ! specific details to be consid]$ 9 giv+ a d9n]4 ,,detail$ ,,directions ,,= ,,d9n] ,,giv+ ,! requisites at e d9n]1 :e!r a great "o ( #bjj cov]s1 or a little "o ( six1 are z foll[s3 ,gue/s4 ,p :o are cong5ial to "o ano!r4 ,?is is ( fir/ importance4 ,food4 ,a suitable m5u p]fectly prep>$ & di%$4 7,hot food to be hot1 & cold1 cold47 ,table furni%+4 ,faultlessly laund]$ l951 brilliantly poli%$ silv]1 & all o!r table accessories suitable to ! occasion & surr\nd+s4 ,s]vice4 ,exp]t d9+-room s]vants & en\gh ( !m4 ,draw+-room4 ,adequate 9 size to numb] ( gue/s & invit+ 9 arrangem5t4 ,a cordial & hospitable ho/4 ,a ho/ess ( *>m4 ,*>m says ev]y?+--tact1 sympa?y1 poise & p]fect mann]s--always4 ,& ?\gh = all d9n]s ^! requisites are mu* ! same1 ! necessity = p]fection increases 9 proportion to ! =mality ( ! occasion4 ,,ta/e ,,9 ,,selection ,,( ,,p ,! prop] selection ( gue/s is ! fir/ ess5tial 9 all ent]ta9+1 & ! ho/ess :o has a tal5t = assembl+ ! "r p has a great asset4 ,ta/e 9 h\se furni%+s or 9 clo!s or 9 select+ a cook1 is z no?+ comp>$ to ta/e 9 p6 ,"s p h ?is s5se--o!rs hav5't4 ,! fir/ are ! great ho/s & ho/esses2 ! o!rs are ! m$iocre or ! failures4 ,x is usually a mi/ake to invite great talk]s toge!r4 ,brilliant m5 & wom5 :o love to talk want he>]s1 n rivals4 ,v sil5t p %\ld be s&wi*$ betwe5 good talk]s1 or at lea/ voluble talk]s4 ,silly p %\ld nev] be put any:]e ne> le>n$ ones1 nor ! dull ne> ! clev]1 unless ! dull "o is a "y & pretty woman ) a tal5t = li/5+1 & ! clev]1 a man ) an admiration = beauty1 & a love = talk+4 ,mo/ p ?9k two brilliant p %\ld be put toge!r4 ,(t5 !y %\ld1 b ) discretion4 ,if bo? are voluble or n]v\s or temp]am5tal1 y may create a situation l putt+ two op]atic sopranos 9 ! same "p & expect+ !m to s+ toge!r4 ,! endeavor ( a ho/ess1 :5 seat+ h] table1 is to put ^? toge!r :o are likely to be int]e/+ to ea* o!r4 ,pr(essor ,bugge might bore y to te>s1 b ,mrs4 ,entomoid w\ld probably delight 9 him2 j z ,mr4 ,/ocksan ,bonds & ,mrs4 ,ri* w\ld probably h int]e/s 9 common4 ,mak+ a d9n] li/ is a little l mak+ a ,*ri/mas li/4 ,y put d[n :at !y w 7y hope7 l1 n :at y l4 ,^? :o are plac$ betwe5 cong5ial neighbors rememb] y\r d9n] z delightful--ev5 ?\gh bo? food & s]vice 7 m$iocre2 b ask p out ( _! own gr\ps & seat !m next to _! pet av]sions1 & wild horses c\ld n drag !m to y\r h\se aga96 ,,h[ ,a ,,d9n] ,,li/ ,,is ,,kept ,ne>ly e ho/ess keeps a d9n] li/--ap>t f h] g5]al visit+ li/--( p ) :om %e is accu/om$ to d9e1 or to invite to d9n] or o!r small ent]ta9m5ts4 ,b ! prom95t ho/ess1 if %e has gr[n daught]s & cont9ually gives p>ties ( all sorts & sizes & ages1 usually keeps h] li/ 9 a m complete & ready ref]5ce ord]4 ,mrs4 ,gild+1 = in/ance1 has gue/ li/s sep>ately index$4 ,"u ! g5]al head+ ,d9n]s1 %e has old] m>ri$1 y\ng] m>ri$1 girls1 m54 ,h] lun*eon li/ is tak5 f h] d9n] li/4 ,bridge includes especially good play]s ( all ages2 dances1 "y m>ri$ p1 "y girls1 & danc+ m54 ,!n %e has a cross-index li/ ( ,important ,p]sons1 mean+ ^? ( real di/9ction :o are always ! f\ndation ( all good society2 ,amus+1 usually p ( tal5t--invaluable = h\se p>ties2 & ,new ,p1 includ+ _m v>ieties & unassort$4 ,mrs4 ,gild+ ex*anges invitations ) a numb] ( ^! because !y are int]e/+ or amus+1 or because _! p>ties are div]t+ & dazzl+4 ,& ,mrs4 ,gild+ h]self1 be+ typical ( ,new ,york's ,cavali] elem5t r ?an its ,puritan /ra91 p]sonally pref]s div]sion to edification4 ,ne$less to say1 ,bo/on's ,be/1 be+ n9ety-eight p] c5t4 ,puritan1 has no new li/4 ,besides h] li/ ( ,new ,p1 %e has a %ort frivol\s li/ ( o!r ,cavali]s l h]self1 & a ,neutral li/1 :i* is ! mo/ valuable ( all because x comprises ^? :o g ) ev]yone4 ,besides h] own li/s %e has a ,pantry li/1 a li/ t is actually made out = ! b5efit ( ! butl]1 s t on occasions he c invite gue/s to fill 94 ,! ,pantry li/ comprises only intimate fri5ds :o belong on ! ,neutral li/ & fit 9 ev]y:]e2 "y girls & "y & old] s+le m54 ,all[+ ! butl] to invite gue/s at 8 own discretion is n q z casual z x s\nds4 ,x is v (t5 an unavoidable exp$i5t4 ,= in/ance1 at f\r o'clock 9 ! aft]noon1 ,mr4 ,blank telephones t he _c come to d9n] t same ev5+4 ,mrs4 ,gild+ is out2 to wait until %e returns w make x too late to fill ! place4 ,h] butl] :o has be5 ) h] = ye>s kn[s q z well z ,mrs4 ,gild+ h]self exactly :i* p belong 9 ! same gr\p4 ,! d9n] c>ds be+ already 9 8 possession1 he c see n only :o is expect$ = d9n] b ! two ladies betwe5 :om ,mr4 ,blank has be5 plac$1 & he !reupon selects "s "o on ! ,pantry li/ :o is suitable = ,mr4 ,blank's place at ! table1 & telephones ! invitation4 ,p]haps he calls up a doz5 be=e he f9ds "o dis5gag$4 ,:5 ,mrs4 ,gild+ returns he says1 ,mr4 ,blank telephon$ he w\ld n be able to come = d9n] z he 0 call$ to ,wa%+ton4 ,mr4 ,ba*elor w be happy to come 9 8 place4 ,m>ri$ p are seldom on ?is li/1 because ! butl] ne$ n und]take to fill any b an odd place--t ( a g5tleman p>ticul>ly4 ,o!rwise two ladies w\ld be seat$ toge!r4 ,,ask+ ,,someone ,,to ,,fill ,a ,,place ,s9ce no "o b a fairly intimate fri5d is ev] ask$ to fill a place1 ?is invitation is always telephon$4 ,a v "y man is ask$ by ! butl] if he w d9e ) ,mrs4 ,gild+ t ev5+1 & v likely no explanation is made2 b if ! p]son to be invit$ is a lady or an old] g5tleman 7except on su* occasions z not$ above71 ! ho/ess h]self telephones3 ,c y d me a great favor & fill a place at d9n] to-night8 ,! "o :o receives ?is invitation is r b\nd by ! rules ( good mann]s to accept if possible4 ,,importance ,,( ,,d9n] ,,engagem5ts ,d9n] invitations mu/ be answ]$ imm$iately2 engrav$ or writt5 ones by return po/1 or ^? :i* 7 telephon$1 by telephone & at once6 ,also1 no?+ b s]i\s illness or dea? or an utt]ly unavoidable accid5t c excuse ! break+ ( a d9n] engagem5t4 ,to accept a d9n] at ,mrs4 ,nobody's & !n break ! obligation ^u be+ invit$ to d9e ) ! ,worldlys1 proclaims anyone capable ( su* rud5ess an unmitigat$ snob1 :om ,mrs4 ,worldly w\ld be ! fir/ to cut f h] visit+ li/ if %e knew ( x4 ,! rule is3 ,don't accept an invitation if y don't c>e ab\t x4 ,hav+ decl9$ ! ,nobody invitation 9 ! fir/ place1 y are !n free to accept ,mrs4 ,worldly's1 or to /ay at home4 ,!re are times1 h[ev]1 :5 engagem5ts betwe5 v close fri5ds or memb]s ( ! family may p]haps be brok51 b only if made ) ! special /ipulation3 ,come to d9n] ) u alone ,?ursday if no?+ bett] turns up6 ,& ! o!r answ]s1 ,i'd love to--& y let me "k too1 if y want to d any?+ else4 ,mean:ile if "o ( !m is invit$ to some?+ unusually tempt+1 !re is no rud5ess 9 telephon+ h] fri5d1 ,lucy has ask$ u to he> ,galli-,curci on ,?ursday6 & ! o!r says1 ,g1 by all means6 ,we c d9e ,tuesday next week if y l1 or come ,sunday = supp]4 ,?is privilege ( intimacy c1 h[ev]1 be abus$4 ,an engagem5t1 ev5 ) a memb] ( "o's family1 ought nev] to be brok5 twice )9 a brief p]iod1 or x becomes app>5t t ! o!r's pres5ce is m a fill-9 ( idle "t ?an a long$-= pleasure4 ,,! ,,m5u ,x may be due to ! w> p]iod1 :i* accu/om$ ev]yone to go+ ) v little meat & to m>k$ r$uction 9 all food1 or x may be1 ( c\rse1 m]ely vanity t is caus+ ev5 gr&p>5ts to aspire to svelte figures1 b :atev] ! cause1 p are putt+ mu* less food on _! tables ?an =m]ly4 ,! v ri*1 liv+ 9 ! bigge/ h\ses ) ! mo/ impos+ array ( s]vants1 sit d[n to ?ree1 or at mo/ f\r1 c\rses :5 alone1 or :5 intimate fri5ds :o are kn[n to h mod]ate appetites1 are d9+ ) !m4 ,"u no circum/ances w\ld a private d9n]1 no matt] h[ =mal1 consi/ ( m ?an3 #a4 ,hors d'oeuvre #b4 ,s\p #c4 ,fi% #d4 ,entre #e4 ,roa/ #f4 ,salad #g4 ,dess]t #h4 ,c(fee ,! m5u = an in=mal d9n] w\ld leave out ! entre1 & possibly ei!r ! hors d'oeuvre or ! s\p4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 ! m>k$ %ort5+ ( ! m5u is 9 in=mal d9n]s & at ! home table ( ! well-to-d4 ,=mal d9n]s h be5 z %ort z ! above s*$ule = tw5ty-five ye>s4 ,a d9n] int]l>d$ ) a r[ ( extra entres1 ,roman pun*1 & hot dess]t is unkn[n except at a public d9n]1 or 9 ! d9+-room ( a p>v5u4 ,ab\t ?irty-five ye>s ago su* d9n]s are said to h be5 9 fa%ion6 ,,! ,,balanc$ ,,m5u ,"o %\ld always try to *oose well-balanc$ di%es2 an especially ri* di% balanc$ by a simple "o4 ,timbale ) a v ri* sauce ( cream & pt de foie gras might p]haps be foll[$ by ,fr5* *ops1 broil$ *ick5 or "s o!r light1 pla9 meat4 ,an entre ( ab\t f\r broil$ mu%rooms on a small r\nd ( toa/ %\ld be foll[$ by bon$ capon or saddle ( mutton or spr+ lamb4 ,x is equally bad to give y\r gue/s v peculi> food unless z an extra di%4 ,"s p love highly flavor$ ,spani% or ,indian di%es1 b !y are n appropriate = a =mal d9n]4 ,at an in=mal d9n] an ,indian curry or ,spani% en*illada = "o di% is delici\s = ^? :o l x1 & if y h ano!r sub/antial di% su* z a pla9 roa/ :i* practically ev]yone is able to eat1 ^? :o don't l ,indian food c make _! d9n] ( ! o!r c\rse4 ,x is ! same way ) ! ,italian di%es4 ,"o hat+ g>lic & onions w\ld be v wret*$ if onions 7 put 9 ea* & e c\rse1 & lib]ally4 ,) ,indian curry1 a fatally bad selection w\ld be a v pepp]y s\p1 su* z cr\te au pot fill$ ) pepp]1 & fi% ) gre5 pepp]s1 & !n ! curry1 & !n some?+ cass]ole fill$ aga9 ) pepp]s & onions & o!r ?roat-se>+ +r$i5ts1 f9i%+ ) an endive salad4 ,yet m ?an "o ho/ess has done exactly ?is4 ,or equally bad is a d9n] ( flavorless :ite sauces f beg9n+ to end2 a cream$ s\p1 boil$ fi% ) :ite sauce1 !n vol au v5t ( cream$ sweetbreads1 foll[$ by brea/ ( *ick5 & ma%$ potatoes & caulifl[]1 palm root salad1 vanilla ice cream & lady-cake4 ,ea* ?+ is good 9 itself b dreadful 9 ! monotony ( its comb9ation4 ,ano!r ?+3 al?\gh a d9n] %\ld n be long1 nei!r %\ld x consi/ ( samples1 especially if set be=e m5 :o are hungry6 ,! foll[+ m5u might seem at fir/ glance a good d9n]1 b x is "o f :i* ! av]age man w\ld g home & =age rav5\sly 9 ! ice box3 ,a canap 7good1 b m]ely an appetiz]7 ,cle> s\p 7a d9n] p>ty help+1 & no sub/ance7 ,smelts 7"o apiece7 ,individual cr\t>ds ( sweetbreads 7hold+ ab\t a dess]t-spoonful7 ,broil$ squab1 small potato croquette1 & /r+ beans ,lettuce salad1 ) ab\t "o small crack] apiece ,ice cream ,! only ?+ t _h any su/a9+ quality1 b>r+ ! potato :i* 0 n m ?an a m\?ful1 0 ! la/1 & v few m5 c>e to make _! d9n] ( ice cream4 ,if in/ead ( squab !re _h be5 filet ( beef cut 9 g5]\s slices1 & ! potato croquettes _h be5 m num]\s1 x w\ld h be5 adequate4 ,or if !re _h be5 a ?ick cream s\p1 & a fi% ) m sub/ance--su* z salmon or %ad1 or a bak$ ?ick fi% ( :i* he c\ld h _h a g5]\s help+--! squab w\ld h be5 adequate also4 ,b _m wom5 ord] trimm+s r ?an food2 m5 usually l food4 ,,! ,,d9n] ,,table ,,( ,,ye/]day ,all ( u old en\gh to rememb] ! beg9n+ ( ?is c5tury c br+ to m9d ! typical 7& mo/ fa%ionable7 d9n] table ( t "t4 ,occasionally x 0 oblong or rectangul>1 b its favorite %ape 0 r\nd1 & a ?ick :ite damask clo? hung to ! floor on all sides4 ,(t5 z n !re 0 a l>ge lace c5t]piece1 & 9 ! middle ( x 0 a floral m\nd ( roses 7l a fun]al piece1 exactly71 usually r$4 ,! f\r compoti]s 7 mu* scroll$ & emboss$1 & ! f\r c&le/icks1 also scroll$1 b n to mat*1 _h %ades ( p]=at$ silv] ov] r$ silk l9+s1 l ^? 9 re/aurants to-day4 ,& !re 0 a gas droplight ?ickly petticoat$ ) fr+$ r$ silk4 ,! plates 7 always heavily jewell$ & h& pa9t$1 & en\gh =ks & knives & spoons 7 array$ at ea* place = a doz5 c\rses4 ,! glasses numb]$ at lea/ six1 & ! entire table 0 lad5 ) little di%es--& spoons6 ,!re 7 olives1 radi%es1 cel]y & salt$ nuts 9 glass di%es2 & ab\t t5 k9ds ( sug>-plums 9 t5 diff]5t /yles ( ornate & bumpy silv] di%es2 & :]ev] a small space ( tableclo? %[$ ?r\gh1 x 0 fill$ ) ei!r a big ,apo/le spoon or little ,dut* ones criss-cross$4 ,bread 0 always roll$ 9 ! napk9 7& usually fell on ! floor7 & ! oy/]s 7 occasionally f\nd already plac$ on ! table :5 ! gue/s came 9 to d9n]6 ,load+ a table to ! utmo/ ( its capacity ) useless implem5ts :i* only 9 r>e/ in/ances _h ! lea/ value1 w\ld seem to prove t quantity )\t quality mu/ h be5 ?\ght evid5ce ( elegance & g5]\s hospitality6 ,& ! a/\nd+ "p ( ! bad ta/e epidemic 0 t few if any escap$4 ,ev5 ^? :o _h inh]it$ colonial silv] & glass & *9a ( consummate beauty1 s5t x du/-ga!r+ to ! attic & clutt]$ _! tables ) /uffy & spuri\s lumb]4 ,b to-day ! classic has come into its own aga96 ,z ?\gh recov]+ f an illness1 good ta/e is aga9 dem&+ sev]e beauty ( =m & l9e1 & bani%+ ev]y?+ t is useless or sup]flu\s4 ,dur+ ! la/ tw5ty ye>s mo/ ( u h s5t an army ( lumpy di%es to ! melt+-pot1 & junky ornam5ts to ! a% heap along ) plu% table cov]s1 uphol/]$ mantel-bo>ds & f]n di%es6 ,to-day we are go+ almo/ to ! extreme ( b>5ess1 & putt+ no?+ on our tables n actually ne$$ = use4 ,,! ,,d9+-,,room ,x is sc>cely necess>y to po9t out t ! bigg] & m ambiti\s ! h\se1 ! m p]fect its appo9tm5ts mu/ be4 ,if y\r h\se has a great ,georgian d9+-room1 ! table %\ld be set ) ,georgian or an e>li] p]iod ,engli% silv]4 ,fur!rmore1 9 a great d9+-room1 all ! silv] %\ld be real6 ,real mean+ no?+ s trifl+ z /]l+1 b g5u9e & important p]iod pieces made by ,eighte5? ,c5tury silv]smi?s1 su* z de ,lam]ie or ,crespell or ,buck or ,rob]tson1 or p]haps "o ( _! pr$ecessors4 ,or if1 l ,mrs4 ,oldname1 y live 9 an old ,colonial h\se1 y are p]haps also lucky en\gh to h inh]it$ "s g5u9e ,am]ican pieces made by ,daniel ,rog]s or ,paul ,rev]e6 ,or if y are an ard5t admir] ( ,e>ly ,italian ar*itecture & h built y\rself a ,fifte5? ,c5tury /one-floor$ & fresco$ or tape/ry-hung d9+ room1 y mu/ set y\r long refectory table ) a runn] ( old h&-l95 & alt> embroid]y1 or p]haps ,?irte5? ,c5tury damask & great ci/]ns or ew]s & beak]s 9 high-relief silv] & gold2 or 9 ,callazzioli or majolica1 ) great b[ls ( fruit & *ur* c&le/icks ( gilt1 & ev5 foll[ z f> z is practicable ! crude table implem5ts ( t "t4 ,x ne$ n be po9t$ out t ,tw5tie? ,c5tury appurt5ances 9 a ,?irte5? or ,fifte5? ,c5tury room are ana*ronisms4 ,b because ! d9+-table 9 ! replica ( a palace 7:e!r ,engli%1 ,italian1 ,spani% or ,fr5*7 may be equipp$ ) great /&+ cups & c&elabra s heavy a man c sc>cely lift "o1 x does n foll[ t all ! re/ ( u :o live 9 m$ium or small h\ses1 %\ld attempt any?+ ( ! sort4 ,no?+ c\ld be m out ( proportion--& !re=e 9 worse ta/e4 ,nor is x necess>y1 9 ord] to h a table t is invit+1 to set x ) any ( ! completely exquisite ?+s :i* all p ( ta/e long =1 b :i* are possess$ 79 quantity at lea/7 only ?r\gh weal?1 inh]itance1 or collector's luck4 ,a ,,pleas+ ,,d9+-,,room ,,at ,,limit$ ,,co/ ,en*ant+ d9+-rooms & tables h be5 a*iev$ ) an outlay am\nt+ to comp>atively no?+4 ,!re is a d9+-room 9 a c]ta9 small ,new ,york h\se t is q z invit+ z x is lack+ 9 exp5siv5ess4 ,its walls are r\gh-pla/]$ ,fr5* gray4 ,its table is an ord9>y drop-leaf kit*5 "o pa9t$ a light gre5 t is almo/ gray2 ! *airs are wood5 ones1 some:at on ! ,w9dsor v>iety1 b made ( p9e & pa9t$ l ! table1 & ! side tables or consoles are made ( a *eap r\nd p9e table :i* has be5 saw$ 9 half1 pa9t$ gray-gre51 & ! legless sides fa/5$ to ! walls4 ,! glass curta9s are po9t d'esprit net ) a deep fl\nce at ! bottom & outside curta9s are 7exp5sive7 wat]melon p9k *angeable taffeta4 ,!re is a gilt mirror ov] a cream 7absolutely pla97 mantel & ov] ea* console a picture ( a conv5tional b\quet ( fl[]s 9 a flat frame ! color ( ! furniture1 ) ! wat]melon color ( ! curta9s pr$om9at+ 9 a neutral t9t backgr\nd4 ,! table is set ) a r co>se cream-color$ l95 drawn-"w c5t]piece 7a tea clo? actually7 big en\gh to cov] all b ?ree in*es ( table edge4 ,9 ! middle ( ! table is a glass b[l ) a wide turn-ov] rim1 hold+ deep p9k fl[]s 7roses or tulips7 /&+ upright 9 glass fl[] hold]s z ?\gh gr[+4 ,9 midw9t]1 :5 real fl[]s are too exp5sive1 porcela9 ones take _! place--unless !re is a lun* or d9n] p>ty4 ,! compoti]s are glass urns & ! only pieces ( silv] us$ are two tall ,%effield c&elabra at night1 )\t %ades1 ! salts & pepp]s & ! necess>y spoons & =ks4 ,! knives are ivory h&l$4 ,,sett+ ,,! ,,table ,ev]y?+ on ! table mu/ be geometrically spac$2 ! c5t]piece 9 ! actual c5t]1 ! places at equal di/ances1 & all ut5sils balanc$2 beyond ?is "o rule y may set y\r table z y *oose4 ,if ! tableclo? is ( :ite damask1 :i* = d9n] is always good /yle1 a felt mu/ be put "u x4 7,to say t x mu/ be smoo? & :ite1 9 o!r words p]fectly laund]$1 is z beside ! m>k z to say t faces & h&s %\ld be clean67 ,if ! tableclo? has lace ins]tions1 x mu/ on no acc\nt be put ov] sat9 or ov] a color4 ,9 a v important d9+-room & on a v l>ge table1 a clo? ( pla9 & f9e/ quality damask ) no trimm+ o!r ?an a monogram 7or cre/7 embroid]$ on ei!r side1 is 9 bett] ta/e ?an "o ( l95 ) elaborations ( lace & embroid]y4 ,damask is ! old-fa%ion$ b ess5tially cons]vative 7& safely be/ /yle7 tableclo?1 especially1 suitable 9 a high-ceil+$ room t is ei!r ,engli%1 ,fr5*1 or ( no special p]iod1 9 decoration4 ,lace tableclo?s are bett] suit$ to an ,italian room--especially if ! table is a refectory "o4 ,h&k]*ief l95 tableclo?s embroid]$ & lace-ins]t$ are also1 /rangely en\gh1 suit$ to all qua9t1 l[-ceil+$1 old-fa%ion$ b beautifully appo9t$ rooms2 ! reason be+ t ! lace clo? is put ov] a b>e table4 ,! lace clo? mu/ also g ov] a refectory table )\t felt or o!r l9+4 ,v high-/udd$ rooms 7unless ,italian7 on ! o!r h&1 seem to ne$ ! ?ickness ( damask4 ,to be sure1 "o does see 9 c]ta9 h\ses--at ! ,gild+s' = in/ance--an elaborate lace & embroid]y tableclo? put on top ( a pla9 "o :i* 9 turn goes ov] a felt1 b ?is comb9ation is always some:at ov]p[]+1 :]eas lace ov] a b>e table is light & fragile4 ,ano!r ?+--v ornate1 l>ge1 & arabesqu$ designs1 no matt] h[ m>vell\s z examples ( workman%ip1 inevitably produce a vulg> effect4 ,all ne$lework1 :e!r to be us$ on ! table or on a b$1 mu/1 9 a beautifully f9i%$ h\se1 be f9e r ?an /rik+4 ,co>se l951 co>se embroid]ies1 all sorts ( ,russian drawn-"w1 ,italian ne$lework or mosaic 7b avoid+ big scroll$ patt]ns71 are 9 p]fect keep+--& !re=e 9 good ta/e--9 a cottage1 a bungal[ or a h\se ^: furni%+s are n too f9e4 ,b :atev] type ( clo? is us$1 ! middle crease mu/ be put on s t x is an absolutely /raight & unwav]+ l9e d[n ! exact c5t] f head to foot4 ,if x is an embroid]$ "o1 be sure ! embroid]y is "r side out4 ,next goes ! c5t]piece :i* is always ! *ief ornam5t4 ,usually ?is is an arrangem5t ( fl[]s 9 ei!r a b[l or a vase1 b x c be any "o ( an almo/ unlimit$ v>iety ( ?+s2 fl[]s or fruit 9 any arrangem5t t ta/e & +5uity c devise2 or an ornam5t 9 silv] t ne$s no fl[]s1 su* z a cov]$ cup2 or an ep]gne1 :i*1 h[ev]1 necessitates ! use ( fruit1 fl[]s or c&y4 ,mrs4 ,wellborn1 = in/ance1 ^: heirlooms are bett] ?an h] income1 r>ely uses fl[]s1 b has a wond]ful old c5t]piece t is ornam5t en\gh 9 itself4 ,! f\ndation is a mirror repres5t+ a lake1 surr\nd$ by silv] rocks & grass4 ,at "o side1 jutt+ into ! lake1 is a knoll ) a gr\p ( trees %elt]+ a /ag & doe4 ,! ornam5t is entirely ( silv]1 almo/ tw5ty in*es high1 & ab\t tw5ty in*es 9 diamet] across ! lake4 ,! ,normans h a full-rigg$ silv] %ip 9 ! c5t] ( _! table & at ei!r end r tall lant]ns1 ,v5etian really1 b r appropriate to ! %ip2 & ! salt cell>s are v tall ones 7ab\t t5 in*es high71 ( sea %ells support$ on ! backs ( dolph9s4 ,h[ev]1 to g back to table sett+3 ,a clo? laid /raight2 !n a c5t]piece put 9 ! middle2 !n f\r c&le/icks at ! f\r corn]s1 ab\t half-way betwe5 ! c5t] & ! edge ( ! table1 or two c&elabra at ei!r end halfway betwe5 ! places ( ! ho/ & ho/ess & ! c5t]piece4 ,c&les are us$ ) or )\t %ades4 ,fa%ion at ! mom5t1 says )\t1 :i* means t1 9 ord] to br+ ! flame well above p's eyes1 c&le/icks or c&elabra mu/ be high & ! c&les z long z ! proportion c /&4 ,long] c&les c be put 9 massive c&le/icks ?an 9 fragile ones4 ,b :e!r %ad$ or n1 !re are c&les on all d9n] tables always6 ,! c5t] droplight has gone out entirely4 ,electroli]s 9 c&le/icks 7 nev] good /yle1 & k]os5e lamps 9 c&le/icks--horrible6 ,fa%ion says1 ,c&les6 pref]ably )\t %ades1 b %ades if y insi/1 & few or _m--b c&les6 ,next comes ! sett+ ( ! places4 7,if x is an ext5sion table1 leaves h1 ( c\rse1 be5 put 92 or if x is /ation>y1 gue/s h be5 invit$ accord+ to its size47 ,! di/ance betwe5 places at ! table mu/ nev] be s %ort t gue/s h no elb[ room1 & t ! s]vants c n pass ! di%es prop]ly2 :5 ! d9+-room *airs are v high back$ & are plac$ s close z to be almo/ t\*+1 x is impossible = !m n to risk spill+ some?+ ov] "s "o4 ,on ! o!r h&1 to place p a y>d or m ap>t s t conv]sation has to be %\t$ into ! d9 made by ev]yone else's %\t+1 is equally try+4 ,ab\t two feet f plate c5t] to plate c5t] is ideal4 ,if ! *airs h n>r[ & l[ backs1 p c sit mu* clos] toge!r1 especially at a small r\nd table1 ! curve ( :i* leaves a spread+ w$ge ( space betwe5 ! *airs at ! back ev5 if ! seats t\* at ! front corn]s4 ,b on ! long /raight sides ( a rectangul> table 9 a v l>ge--& impressive--d9+-room !re %\ld be at lea/ a foot ( space betwe5 ! *airs4 ,,sett+ ,,! ,,places ,! necess>y numb] ( plates1 ) ! patt]n or initials "r side up1 are fir/ put ar\nd ! table at equal di/ances 7spac$ ) a tape measure if ! butl] or waitress has n an accurate eye74 ,!n on ! left ( ea* plate1 h&le t[>ds ! edge ( ! table1 & prongs up1 is put ! salad =k1 ! meat =k is put next1 & !n ! fi% =k4 ,! salad =k1 :i* w usually be ! ?ird us$1 is ?us laid ne>e/ to ! plate4 ,if !re is an entre1 ! =k = ?is c\rse is plac$ betwe5 ! fi% =k & t = ! roa/ & ! salad =k is left to be br\ght 9 lat]4 ,on ! "r ( ! plate1 & ne>e/ to x1 is put ! /eel meat knife1 !n ! silv] fi% knife1 ! edge ( ea* t[>d ! plate4 ,!n ! s\p spoon & !n ! oy/] =k or grape fruit spoon4 ,additional =ks & knives are put on ! table dur+ d9n]4 ,9 putt+ on ! glasses1 ! wat] goblet is at ! top & to ! "r ( ! knives1 & ! w9e glasses are ei!r gr\p$ to ! "r ( ! goblet1 or 9 a /raight l9e slant+ d[n f ! goblet obliquely t[>ds ! "r4 7,butt] plates are nev] put on a d9n] table47 ,a d9n] napk9 fold$ squ>e & flat is laid on ea* place plate2 v fancy fold+s are n 9 good ta/e1 b if ! napk9 is v l>ge1 ! sides are fold$ 9 s z to make a flatt5$ roll a ?ird ! wid? ( its height4 7,bread %\ld n be put 9 ! napk9--n n[adays47 ,! place c>ds are usually put above ! plate on ! tableclo?1 b "s p put !m on top ( ! napk9 because !y are m easily read4 ,:5 ! places h be5 set1 f\r silv] di%es 7or m on a v big table71 ei!r b[l or basket or pat5 %ap$1 are put at ! f\r corn]s1 betwe5 ! c&le/icks 7or c&elabra7 & ! c5t]piece2 or :]ev] !re are f\r equally spac$ vacancies on ! table4 ,^! di%es1 or compoti]s1 hold c&y or fruit1 *os5 less = ta/e ?an = decorative appe>ance4 ,on a v l>ge table ! f\r compoti]s are fill$ ) c&y1 & two or f\r l>g] silv] di%es or baskets are fill$ ) fruit & put on alt]nately ) ! c&y di%es4 ,fl[]s are also (t5 put 9 two or f\r small] vases1 9 addition to a l>g] & dom9at+ "o 9 ! c5t]4 ,pepp]s & salts %\ld be put at e o!r place4 ,= a d9n] ( twelve !re %\ld be six salt cell>s at lea/1 if n six pepp] pots4 ,olives & radi%es are s]v$ f ! side table1 b salt$ nuts are (t5 put on ! d9n] table ei!r 9 two big silv] di%es1 or 9 small individual ones4 ,,h ,,silv] ,,t ,,%9es ,,or ,,none ,lots ( p :o w\ld n dream ( us+ a wr9kl$ tableclo? or *ipp$ glass or *9a1 seem p]fectly bl9d to dirty silv]--silv] t is wa%$ clean ( food ( c\rse1 b s dull t x looks l jaundic$ pewt]4 ,don't put any silv] on y\r table if y c't h x clean$4 ,inf9itely r h e ornam5t ( glass or *9a--& if knives & =ks h crevices 9 ! design ( _! h&les t are h>d to clean1 buy pla9 plat$ ones1 or use t96 ,any?+ is bett] ?an yell[-fac$ dirty-f+]-nail$ silv]4 ,! fir/ ?+ to ask 9 engag+ a waitress is1 ,c y clean silv]8 ,if %e c't1 %e w\ld bett] be some?+ else4 ,( c\rse no waitress & no s+le-h&$ butl] c keep silv] ! way x is kept 9 su* h\ses z ! ,worldlys'1 nor is su* p]fection expect$4 ,! silv] poli%+ ( p]fection 9 huge h\ses is done by su* an exp]t t no "o c tell :e!r a =k has t mom5t be5 s5t f ! silv]smi?s or n4 ,x is n m]ely poli%$ until x is bright1 b burni%$ s t x is new6 ,e piece ( silv] 9 c]ta9 ( ! great e/abli%m5ts1 or 9 small] ones t are run l a great "o1 is nev] pick$ up by a s]vant except ) a r\g$ *amois4 ,no piece ( silv] is ev] all[$ by ! slighte/ *ance to t\* ano!r piece4 ,e piece is wa%$ sep>ately4 ,! footman :o ga!rs two or ?ree =ks 9 a bun* w nev] d x a second "t1 & keep 8 place4 ,if ! r+ ( a gue/ %\ld happ5 to scrat* a knife h&le or a =k1 ! silv]-poli%] may h to sp5d an entire day us+ 8 ?umb or a silv] buff]1 & rub & rub until no ve/ige ( a scrat* rema9s4 ,p]fection su* z ?is is atta9able only 9 a great h\se :]e s]vants are speciali/s ( sup]-effici5cy2 b 9 e p]fectly run h\se1 :]e s]vice is n too limit$1 e piece ( silv] t is put on ! table1 at e meal1 is h&l$ ) a r\g$ *amois & giv5 a quick wipe-(f z x is laid on ! d9+ table4 ,no silv] %\ld ev] be pick$ up 9 ! f+]s z t always leaves a m>k4 ,& ! way mod]ate h\seholds1 :i* are nev]!less p]fectly run = _! size & type1 h burni%$ silv]1 is by us+ n m ?an !y c h clean$4 ,9 view ( ! pres5t high co/ ( liv+ 7includ+ wages7 & ! consequ5t difficulty1 ) a r$uc$ numb] ( s]vants1 ( keep+ a great quantity ( silv] brilliant1 ev5 ! mo/ fa%ionable p are m & m us+ only :at is ess5tial1 & 9 occasional in/ances1 are tak+ to *9a6 ,p :o are lucky en\gh to h well-/or$ attics ^! days are br++ treasures out ( !m4 ,b s]vices ( ,swansea or ,l[e/(t or ,spode1 :ile easily clean$1 are equally easily brok51 s t g5u9e ,eighte5? ,c5tury pieces are m apt to see a cab9et ?an a d9n] table4 ,b ! mod]n manufactur]s are mak+ en*ant+ sets t are replicas ( ! old4 ,^! tea sets ) cups & sauc]s to mat* & ) a silv] kettle & tray1 are se5 almo/ z (t5 z silv] s]vices 9 simple h\ses 9 ! c\ntry1 z well z 9 ! small ap>tm5t 9 t[n4 ,,don',,ts ,,9 ,,table ,,sett+6 ,don't put ribbon trimm+s on y\r table4 ,sat9 b&s & b[s h no m place on a lady's table ?an h *op-h\se appurt5ances4 ,pickle j>s1 catsup bottles1 too?picks & crack]s are n private-h\se table ornam5ts4 ,crack]s are pass$ ) oy/] /ew & ) salad1 & any "o :o wants reli%es c h !m 9 8 own h\se 7?\gh !y insult ! cook674 ,at all ev5ts1 pickles & tomato sauces & o!r cold meat condim5ts are nev] pres5t$ at table 9 a bottle1 b are put 9 glass di%es ) small s]v+ spoons4 ,no?+ is ev] s]v$ f ! j> or bottle x comes 9 except c]ta9 k9ds ( *eese1 ,b>-le-,duc pres]ves 7only sometimes7 & w9es4 ,pickles1 jellies1 jams1 olives1 are all put into small glass di%es4 ,sauc]s = vegetables are contr>y to all etiquette4 ,! only extra plates ev] p]mitt$ are ! bread & butt] plates :i* are put on at breakfa/ & lun* & supp] above & to ! left ( ! =ks1 b nev] at d9n]4 ,! cresc5t-%ap$ salad plate1 made to fit at ! side ( ! place plate1 is se5 r>ely 9 fa%ionable h\ses4 ,:5 two plates are made necess>y by ! s]v+ ( game or broil$ *ick5 or squab1 = :i* ! plate %\ld be v hot1 at ! same "t z ! salad :i* is cold1 ! cresc5t-%ap$ plate is conv5i5t 9 t x takes little room4 ,a correct & v good s]v+ di% = a family ( two1 is ! vegetable di% t has a p>tition divid+ x into two or ev5 ?ree divisions1 s t a small quantity ( two or ?ree vegetables c be pass$ at ! same "t4 ,napk9 r+s are unkn[n 9 fa%ionable h\ses outside ( ! nurs]y4 ,b 9 l>ge families :]e x is impossible to manage su* a wa% z ?ree clean napk9s a day entail1 napk9 r+s are probably necess>y4 ,9 mo/ mod]ately run h\ses1 a napk9 t is unrumpl$ & spotless aft] a meal1 is put aside & us$ aga9 = breakfa/2 b to be giv5 a napk9 t is n p]fectly clean is a horrid ?\ght4 ,p]haps ?\gh1 ! necessity = napk9 r+s results 9 ! a*ievem5t ( ! immaculate napk9--:i* is q a nice ?\ght4 ,,correct ,,s]vice ,,( ,,d9n] ,:e!r !re are two at table or two hundr$1 plates are *ang$ & c\rses pres5t$ 9 precisely ! same mann]4 ,= faultless s]vice1 if !re are _m accompani$ di%es1 two s]vants are necess>y to wait on z few z two p]sons4 ,b two c also effici5tly s]ve eight2 or ) unaccompani$ di%es an exp]t s]vant c manage eight alone1 & ) "o assi/ant1 he c p]fectly manage twelve4 ,9 old-fa%ion$ times p app>5tly did n m9d wait+ tranquilly ?r\gh c\rses & betwe5 c\rses1 ev5 ?\gh meat grew cold long be=e ! la/ ( _m vegetables 0 pass$1 & !y wait$ endlessly :ile a sl[ talk] & eat] f9i%$ 8 topic & 8 food4 ,b p ( to-day d n l to wait an unnecess>y second4 ,! mom5t fi% is pass$ !m1 !y expect ! cucumb]s or sauce1 or :atev] %\ld g ) ! fi%1 to foll[ imm$iately4 ,& :5 ! fir/ s]vant h&s ! meat c\rse1 !y consid] t !y %\ld n be expect$ to wait a mom5t = a second s]vant to h& ! gravy or jelly or :atev] goes ) ! meat4 ,no s]vice is good 9 ?is day unless swift--&1 ( c\rse1 s\ndless4 ,a late lead] ( ,newport society :o _h a _w-wide reputation = ! brilliancy ( h] ent]ta9m5ts1 _h an equally well-kn[n reputation = rapidly s]v$ d9n]s4 ,tw5ty m9utes is q long en\gh to sit at table--ev]6 is :at %e us$ to say1 & :at h] h\sehold _h to live up to4 ,%e _h a footman to ab\t e two gue/s & any "o d9+ ) h] _h to cl+ to ! edge ( 8 plate or x w\ld be :isk$ away6 ,"o :o look$ aside or let g = a second f\nd 8 plate gone6 ,t 0 extreme2 b1 ev5 s1 bett] ?an a snail-pac$ d9n]6 ,,! ,,d9n] ,,h\r ,9 ,am]ica ! d9n] h\r is n a fixture1 s9ce x v>ies 9 v>i\s sections ( ! c\ntry4 ,! ord9>y ,new ,york h\r :5 giv+ a d9n] is eight o'clock1 half pa/ eight 9 ,newport4 ,9 ,new ,york1 :5 d9+ & go+ to ! op]a1 "o is usually ask$ = sev5-fifte51 & = sev5-?irty be=e go+ to a play4 ,o!rwise only quiet p d9e be=e eight4 ,b invitations %\ld1 ( c\rse1 be issu$ = :atev] h\r is cu/om>y 9 ! place :]e ! d9n] is giv54 ,,! ,,butl] ,,9 ,,! ,,d9+-,,room ,:5 ! d9n] gue/s ent] ! d9+-room1 x is cu/om>y = ! butl] to hold out ! *air ( ! mi/ress ( ! h\se4 ,?is always seems a disc\rtesy to ! gue/s4 ,& an occasional ho/ess insi/s on hav+ ! *air ( ! gue/ ( honor held by ! butl] in/ead ( h] own4 ,if !re are footm5 en\gh1 ! *air ( ea* lady is held = h]2 o!rwise ! g5tleman :o takes h] 9 to d9n] helps h] to be seat$4 ,ord9>ily :]e !re are two s]vants1 ! head "o holds ! *air ( ! ho/ess & ! second1 ! *air on ! "r ( ! ho/4 ,! ho/ess always seats h]self z quickly z possible s t ! butl] may be free to assi/ a gue/ to draw h] *air up to ! table4 ,9 a big h\se ! butl] always /&s ?r\gh\t a meal back ( ! ho/ess' *air1 except :5 giv+ "o ( ! m5 "u him a direction1 or :5 p\r+ w9e4 ,he is n suppos$ to leave ! d9+-room himself or ev] to h&le a di%4 ,9 a small] h\se :]e he has no assi/ant1 he naturally does ev]y?+ himself2 :5 he has a second man or p>lor-maid1 he passes ! pr9cipal di%es & ! assi/ant foll[s ) ! accompany+ di%es or vegetables4 ,s-call$ ,russian s]vice is ! only "o kn[n 9 ,new ,york :i* m]ely means t no?+ to eat is ev] put on ! table except ornam5tal di%es ( fruit & c&y4 ,! meat is c>v$ 9 ! kit*5 or pantry1 vegetables are pass$ & return$ to ! side table4 ,only at breakfa/ or possibly at supp] are di%es ( food put on ! table4 ,,! ,,ev]-,,pres5t ,,plate ,f ! sett+ ( ! table until x is cle>$ = dess]t1 a plate mu/ rema9 at e cov]4 ,"u ! fir/ two c\rses !re are always two plates4 ,! plate on :i* oy/]s or hors d'oeuvres are s]v$ is put on top ( ! place plate4 ,at ! end ( ! c\rse ! us$ plate is remov$1 leav+ ! place plate4 ,! s\p plate is also put on top ( ?is same plate4 ,b :5 ! s\p plate is remov$1 ! und]nea? plate is remov$ ) x1 & a hot plate imm$iately ex*ang$ = ! two tak5 away4 ,! place plate m]ely becomes a hot fi% plate1 b x is !re j ! same4 ,! ,ex*ange ,plate ,if ! fir/ c\rse _h be5 a canap or any cold di% t 0 (f]$ 9 bulk in/ead ( be+ br\ght on sep>ate plates1 x w\ld h be5 eat5 on ! place plate1 & an ex*ange plate w\ld h be5 necess>y be=e ! s\p c\ld be s]v$4 ,t is1 a clean plate w\ld h be5 ex*ang$ = ! us$ "o1 & ! s\p plate !n put on top ( t4 ,! reason = x is t a plate ) food on x c nev] be ex*ang$ = a plate t has _h food on x2 a clean "o mu/ come betwe54 ,if an entre s]v$ on individual plates foll[s ! fi%1 clean plates are fir/ ex*ang$ = ! us$ ones until ! :ole table is set ) clean plates4 ,!n ! entre is put at ea* place 9 ex*ange = ! clean plate4 ,al?\gh di%es are always pres5t$ at ! left ( ! p]son s]v$1 plates are remov$ & replac$ at ! "r4 ,glasses are p\r$ & additional knives plac$ at ! "r1 b =ks are put on z ne$$ f ! left4 ,may ! ,plates = ,two ,p]sons ,be ,br\ght 9 ,toge!r8 ,! only plates t c possibly be br\ght into ! d9+-room "o 9 ea* h& are = ! hors d'oeuvres1 s\p & dess]t4 ,! fir/ two plates are plac$ on o!rs :i* h n be5 remov$1 & ! dess]t plates ne$ m]ely be put d[n on ! tableclo?4 ,b ! plates ( e o!r c\rse h to be ex*ang$ & !re=e ea* individual s]vice requires two h&s4 ,s\p plates1 two at a "t1 w\ld bett] n be attempt$ by any b ! exp]t & sure-h&$1 z x is 9 plac+ "o plate1 :ile hold+ ! o!r al(t t ! mi%ap ( s\p p\r$ d[n "s "o's back occurs6 ,if only "o plate ( s\p is br\ght 9 at a "t1 t accid5t at lea/ _c happ54 ,9 ! same way ! spoon & =k on ! dess]t plate c easily fall (f1 unless x is held level4 ,two plates at a "t !re=e is n a "q ( etiquette1 b ( ! s]vant's skill4 ,plate ,remov$ ,:5 ,=k ,is ,laid ,d[n ,once ^u a "t x 0 actually consid]$ impolite to remove a s+le plate until ! la/ gue/ at ! table _h f9i%$ eat+6 ,9 o!r days p evid5tly did n m9d look+ at _! own dirty plates indef9itely1 nor c\ld !y h m9d$ sitt+ = h\rs at table4 ,good s]vice to-day requires ! removal ( ea* plate z soon z ! =k is laid ^u x2 s t by ! "t ! la/ =k is put d[n1 ! entire table is set ) clean plates & is ready = ! next c\rse4 ,,d\ble ,,s]vice ,,& ,,! ,,ord] ,,( ,,table ,,prec$5ce ,at e well-ord]$ d9n]1 !re %\ld be a d\ble s]vice = t5 or twelve p]sons2 t is1 no hot di% %\ld1 if avoidable1 be pres5t$ to m ?an six1 or n9e at ! outside4 ,at a d9n] ( twelve1 = in/ance1 two di%es ea* hold+ six portions1 are g>ni%$ exactly alike & pres5t$ at opposite ends ( ! table4 ,"o to ! lady on ! "r ( ! ho/1 & ! o!r to ! lady at ! opposite end ( ! table4 ,! s]vices cont9ue ar\nd to ! "r1 b occasional butl]s direct t aft] s]v+ ! lady ( honor on ! "r ( ! ho/1 ! ho/ is skipp$ & ! di% pres5t$ to ! lady on 8 left1 aft] :i* ! di% cont9ues ar\nd ! table to ! left1 to ladies & g5tlem5 z !y come4 ,9 ?is ev5t ! second s]vice />ts opposite ! lady ( honor & also skips ! fir/ g5tleman1 aft] :i* x goes ar\nd ! table to ! left1 skips ! lady ( honor & ends ) ! ho/4 ,! fir/ s]vice :5 x rea*es ! o!r end ( ! table skips ! lady :o 0 fir/ s]v$ & ends ) ! g5tleman :o 0 skipp$4 ,x is p]haps m polite to ! ladies to give !m pref]5ce1 b x is complicat$1 & leaves ano!r g5tleman z well z ! ho/1 sitt+ betwe5 two ladies :o are eat+ :ile he is app>5tly =gott54 ,! object 7:i* is to prev5t ! lady :o is second 9 prec$5ce f be+ s]v$ la/7 c be accompli%$ by beg9n+ ! fir/ s]vice f ! lady on ! "r ( ! ho/ & cont9u+ on ! "r #f places2 ! second s]vice beg9s ) ! lady on ! left ( ! ho/ & cont9ues on ! left five places1 & !n comes back to ! ho/4 ,! be/ way ( all1 p]haps1 is to v>y ! honor by s]v+ ! entre & salad c\rses fir/ to ! lady on ! left in/ead ( to ! lady on ! "r & cont9ue ! s]vice ( ^! two c\rses to ! left4 ,a d9n] ( eighte5 has sometimes two s]vices1 b if v p]fect1 ?ree4 ,:]e !re are ?ree s]vices !y />t ) ! lady ( honor & ! six? f h] on ei!r side & cont9ue to ! "r4 ,,fill+ ,,glasses ,z soon z ! gue/s are seat$ & ! fir/ c\rse put 9 front ( !m1 ! butl] goes f gue/ to gue/ on ! "r h& side ( ea*1 & asks ,apoll9>is or pla9 wat]6 & fills ! goblet accord+ly4 ,9 ! same way he asks lat] be=e p\r+ w9e3 ,cid]1 sir8 ,grape fruit cup1 madam8 ,or 9 a h\se :i* has ! rema9s ( a cell>1 ,*ampagne8 or ,d y c>e = :iskey & soda1 sir8 ,b ! temp]ature & s]vice ( w9es :i* us$ to be an ess5tial detail ( e d9n] h n[ no place at all4 ,:e!r p w (f] frappd cid] or "s o!r ic$ dr9k 9 ! middle ( d9n]1 & a w>m$ some?+ else to take ! place ( cl>et ) ! fi%1 rema9s to be se54 ,a wat] glass /&+ alone at ea* place makes su* a meag] & untrimm$ look+ table t mo/ p put on at lea/ two w9e glasses1 %]ry & *ampagne1 or cl>et & %]ry1 & p\r some?+ p9ki% or yell[i% into !m4 ,a r popul> dr9k at pres5t is an equal mixture ( :ite grape-juice & g+] ale ) m9t leaves & mu* ice4 ,^? few :o /ill h cell>s1 s]ve w9es exactly z !y us$ to1 :ite w9e1 cl>et1 %]ry & ,burgundy w>m1 *ampagne ice cold2 & aft] d9n]1 gre5 m9t p\r$ ov] cru%$ ice 9 little glasses1 & o!r liqueurs ( room temp]ature4 ,:iskey is always p\r$ at ! table ov] ice 9 a tall tumbl]1 ea* g5tleman say+ :5 by putt+ 8 h& out4 ,! glass is !n fill$ ) soda or ,apoll9>is4 ,z soon z s\p is s]v$ ! p>lor-maid or a footman passes a di% or a basket ( d9n] rolls4 ,if rolls are n available1 bread cut 9 ab\t two-in*-?ick slices1 is cut cross-ways aga9 9 ?ree4 ,an old-fa%ion$ silv] cake basket makes a p]fect mod]n bread-basket4 ,or a small wick] basket t is %all[ & inconspicu\s w d4 ,a gue/ helps himself ) 8 f+]s & lays ! roll or bread on ! tableclo?1 always4 ,no bread plates are ev] on a table :]e !re is no butt]1 & no butt] is ev] s]v$ at a d9n]4 ,:5ev] !re is no bread left at any "o's place at table1 m %\ld be pass$4 ,! glasses %\ld also be kept fill$4 ,,pres5t+ ,,di%es ,di%es are pres5t$ held flat on ! palm ( ! s]vant's "r h&2 e hot "o mu/ h a napk9 plac$ z a pad "u x4 ,an especially heavy meat platt] c be /eadi$ if necess>y by hold+ ! edge ( ! platt] ) ! left h&1 ! f+]s protect$ f be+ burn$ by a second fold$ napk94 ,ea* di% is suppli$ ) :atev] implem5ts are ne$$ = help+ x2 a s]v+ spoon 7some:at l>g] ?an an ord9>y tablespoon7 is put on all di%es & a =k ( l>ge size is add$ = fi%1 meat1 salad & any vegetables or o!r di%es t are h>d to help4 ,/r+ beans1 brais$ cel]y1 sp9a* en bran*e1 etc41 ne$ a =k & spoon4 ,asp>agus has v>i\s special lift]s & tongs1 b mo/ p use ! ord9>y spoon & =k1 putt+ ! spoon und]nea? & ! =k1 prongs d[n1 to hold ! /alks on ! spoon :ile be+ remov$ to ! plate4 ,corn on ! cob is tak5 ) ! f+]s1 b is nev] s]v$ at a d9n] p>ty4 ,a galant9e or m\sse1 z well z peas1 ma%$ potatoes1 rice1 etc41 are (f]$ ) a spoon only4 ,,! ,,s]v+ ,,table ,! s]v+ table is an ord9>y table plac$ 9 ! corn] ( ! d9+-room ne> ! door to ! pantry1 & beh9d a scre51 s t x may n be se5 by ! gue/s at table4 ,9 a small d9+-room :]e space is limit$1 a set ( %elves l a s+le bookcase is useful4 ,! s]v+ table is a halfway /ation betwe5 ! d9n] table & ! pantry4 ,x holds /acks ( cold plates1 extra =ks & knives1 & ! f+] b[ls & dess]t plates4 ,! latt] are sometimes put out on ! sidebo>d1 if ! s]v+ table is small or too cr[d$4 ,at little in=mal d9n]s all di%es ( food aft] be+ pass$ are left on ! s]v+ table 9 case !y are call$ ^u = a second help+4 ,b at =mal d9n]s1 di%es are nev] pass$ twice1 & are !re=e tak5 direct to ! pantry aft] be+ pass$4 ,,cle>+ ,,table ,,= ,,dess]t ,at d9n] always1 :e!r at a =mal "o1 or :e!r a memb] ( ! family is alone1 ! salad plates1 or ! plates ( :atev] c\rse prec$es dess]t1 are remov$1 leav+ ! table plateless4 ,! salt cell>s & pepp] pots are tak5 (f on ! s]v+ tray 7)\t be+ put on any napk9 or doily1 z us$ to be ! cu/om71 & ! crumbs are bru%$ (f ea* place at table ) a fold$ napk9 onto a tray held "u ! table edge4 ,a silv] crumb scrap] is /ill se5 occasionally :5 ! tableclo? is pla91 b its h>d edge is n suitable = embroid]y & lace1 & ru9\s to a b>e table1 s t a napk9 fold$ to ab\t ! size & ?ickness ( an iron-hold] is ! crumb-scrap] ( to-day4 ,,dess]t ,! capti\s say dess]t means ! fruit & c&y :i* come aft] ! ices4 ,ices is a mislead+ ^w too1 because sugge/ive ( ! individual ices :i* fl\ri%$ at private d9n]s 9 ! ,victorian age1 & /ill survive at public d9n]s1 supp]s at balls1 & at w$d+ breakfa/s1 b :i* are se5 at n m ?an "o private d9n] 9 a ?\s&--if t4 ,9 ! pres5t _w ( fa%ion ! dess]t is ice-cream1 s]v$ 9 "o mold2 n ices 7a lot ( little froz5 images74 ,& ! refusal to call ! sweets at ! end ( ! d9n]1 :i* c]ta9ly include ice cream & cake1 dess]t1 is at lea/ n ! int]pretation ( ei!r good usage or good society4 ,9 ,france1 :]e ! ^w dess]t orig9at$1 ices 7 set ap>t f dess]t m]ely because ,fr5* *efs delight 9 designat+ ea* item ( a meal z a sep>ate c\rse4 ,b *efs & cook-books not)/&+1 dess]t means ev]y?+ sweet t comes at ! end ( a meal4 ,& ! great ,am]ican dess]t is ice cream--or pie4 ,pie1 h[ev]1 is n a company dess]t4 ,ice cream on ! o!r h& is ! inevitable conclusion ( a =mal d9n]4 ,! fact t ! spoon :i* is d\ble ! size ( a teaspoon is kn[n z no?+ b a dess]t spoon1 is (f]$ 9 fur!r pro( t dess]t is spoon & n f+] food6 ,dess]t ,s]vice ,!re are two1 almo/ equally us$1 me?ods ( s]v+ dess]t4 ,! fir/ or hotel me?od1 also se5 9 _m fa%ionable private h\ses1 is to put on a *9a plate = ice cream or a fir/ c\rse1 & ! f+] b[l on a plate by itself1 aft]w>ds4 ,9 ! private h\se s]vice1 ! entire dess]t p>aph]nalia is put on at once4 ,9 detail3 ,9 ! two-c\rse1 or hotel1 s]vice1 ! dess]t plate is ( *9a1 or if ( glass1 x mu/ h a *9a "o "u x4 ,a *9a dess]t plate is j a fairly deep m$ium siz$ plate & x is always put on ! table ) a dess]t spoon & =k on x4 ,aft] ! inevitable ice cream has be5 eat51 a fruit plate ) a f+] b[l on x1 is put on 9 ex*ange4 ,a doily goes "u ! f+] b[l1 & a fruit knife & =k on ei!r side4 ,9 ! s+le c\rse1 or private h\se1 s]vice1 ! ice cream plate is ( glass & belongs "u ! f+] b[l :i* x mat*es4 ,! glass plate & f+] b[l 9 turn are put on ! fruit plate ) a doily betwe51 & ! dess]t spoon & =k g on ei!r side ( ! f+] b[l 7in/ead ( ! fruit knife & =k74 ,?is arrangem5t ( plates is se5 9 su* h\ses z ! ,worldlys' & ! ,oldnames'1 & 9 fact 9 mo/ v well done h\ses4 ,! f+] b[ls & glass plates t mat* make a pretti] s]vice ?an ! f+] b[l on a *9a plate by itself2 also x elim9ates a *ange--b n a removal--( plates4 ,9 ?is s]vice1 a gue/ lifts ! f+] b[l (f & eats 8 ice cream on ! glass plate1 aft] :i* ! glass plate is remov$ & ! *9a "o is left = fruit4 ,"s p ?9k ?is s]vice confus+ because an occasional gue/1 9 lift+ (f ! f+] b[l1 lifts ! glass plate too1 & eats 8 dess]t on 8 *9a plate4 ,x is m]ely necess>y = ! s]vants to notice at :i* place ! *9a plate has be5 us$ & to br+ a clean "o2 o!rwise a cov] is left ) a glass plate or a b>e tableclo? = fruit4 ,also any "o tak+ fruit mu/ h a fruit knife & =k br\ght to him4 ,fruit is pass$ imm$iately aft] ice-cream2 & *ocolates1 cons]ves1 or :atev] ! decorative sweets may be1 are pass$ la/4 ,?is s+le s]vice may s\nd z ?\gh x 7 m complicat$ ?an ! two-c\rse s]vice1 b actually x is less4 ,few p use ! wrong plate & usually ! ice-cream plates hav+ o!rs "u !m c be tak5 away two at a "t4 ,fur!rmore1 sc>cely any "o takes fruit1 s t ! extra knives & =ks are few1 if any4 ,be=e f9i%+ dess]t1 x may be z well to add 9 detail1 t ! f+] b[l doiley is ab\t five or six in*es 9 diamet]2 x may be r\nd or squ>e1 & ( ! f9e/ & %e]e/ ne$lework t c be f\nd 7or af=d$74 ,x mu/ always be cream or :ite4 ,color$ embroid]ies look well sometimes on a c\ntry lun* table b n at d9n]4 ,no matt] :]e x is us$1 ! f+] b[l is less ?an half fill$ ) cold wat]2 & at d9n] p>ties1 a few violets1 sweet peas1 or occasionally a g>d5ia1 is put 9 x4 7,a slice ( lemon is nev] se5 outside ( a *op-h\se :]e eat+ ) ! f+]s may necessitate ! lemon 9 remov+ grease4 ,pretty ?\ght67 ,black c(fee is nev] s]v$ at a fa%ionable d9n] table1 b is br\ght aft]w>ds ) cig>ettes & liqueurs into ! draw+-room = ! ladies1 & ) cig>s1 cig>ettes & liqueurs into ! smok+ room = ! g5tlem54 ,if !re is no smok+-room1 c(fee & cig>s are br\ght to ! table = ! g5tlem5 aft] ! ladies h gone into ! draw+-room4 ,,place ,,c>ds ,! place c>ds are usually ab\t an in* & a half high by two in*es long1 sometimes slightly l>g]4 ,p ( old family h _! cre/ emboss$ 9 pla9 :ite2 occasionally an eld]ly ho/ess1 foll[+ a lifelong cu/om1 has h] husb&'s cre/ /amp$ 9 gold4 ,no?+ o!r ?an a cre/ mu/ ev] be engrav$ on a place c>d2 & usually !y are pla91 ev5 9 ! h\ses ( old families4 ,ye>s ago h&-pa9t$ place c>ds are said to h be5 9 fa%ion4 ,b except+ on su* occasions z a ,*ri/mas or a bir?day d9n]1 !y are nev] se5 9 private h\ses to-day4 ,,m5u ,,c>ds ,small1 /&+ porcela9 slates1 on :i* ! m5u is writt51 are se5 on occasional d9n] tables4 ,mo/ (t5 !re is only "o :i* is plac$ 9 front ( ! ho/2 b sometimes !re is "o betwe5 e two gue/s4 ,,seat+ ,,! ,,table ,z has already be5 obs]v$1 ! mo/ practical way to seat ! table is to write ! names on individual c>ds fir/1 & !n place !m z ?\gh play+ solitaire2 ! gue/ ( honor on ! ho/'s "r1 ! second lady 9 rank on 8 left2 ! mo/ di/+ui%$ or olde/ g5tleman on ! "r ( ! ho/ess1 & ! o!r gue/s fill$ 9 betwe54 ,,:o ,,is ,,! ,,gue/ ,,( ,,honor8 ,! gue/ ( honor is ! olde/ lady pres5t1 or a /rang] :om y wi% = "s reason to honor4 ,a bride at h] fir/ d9n] 9 y\r h\se1 aft] h] return f h] honeymoon1 takes1 if y *oose to h h]1 prec$5ce ov] old] p4 ,or if a y\ng] woman has be5 long away %e1 9 ?is in/ance ( welcom+ h] home1 takes prec$5ce ov] h] eld]s4 ,! gue/ ( honor is always l$ 9 to d9n] by ! ho/ & plac$ on 8 "r1 ! second 9 importance sits on 8 left & is tak5 9 to d9n] by ! g5tleman on ^: "r %e sits4 ,! ho/ess is always ! la/ to g into ! d9+-room at a =mal d9n]4 ,,! ,,envelopes ,,= ,,! ,,g5tlem5 ,9 an envelope address$ to ea* g5tleman is put a c>d on :i* is writt5 ! "n ( ! lady he is to take d[n to d9n]4 ,?is c>d j fits 9 ! envelope1 :i* is an in* or slightly less high & ab\t two in*es long4 ,:5 ! envelopes are address$ & fill$1 !y are arrang$ 9 two neat r[s on a silv] tray & put 9 ! front hall4 ,! tray is pres5t$ to ea* g5tleman j be=e he goes into ! draw+-room1 on 8 arrival4 ,,! ,,table ,,diagram ,a frame made ( lea!r1 r\nd or rectangul>1 ) small op5+s at regul> int]vals ar\nd ! edge 9 :i* names writt5 on c>ds c be slipp$1 %[s ! seat+ ( ! table at a glance4 ,9 a frame hold+ tw5ty-f\r c>ds1 twelve gue/s w\ld be indicat$ by leav+ e o!r c>d place blank1 or = eight1 only "o 9 ?ree is fill$4 ,?is diagram is %[n to ea* g5tleman ^u 8 arrival1 s t he c see :o is com+ = d9n] & :]e he himself is plac$4 ,at a d9n] ( t5 or less ?is diagram is especially conv5i5t z envelopes are us$ only at =mal d9n]s ( twelve & ov]4 ,,:5 ,,! ,,ho/ess ,,sits ,,at ,,! ,,side ,:5 ! numb] ( gue/s is a multiple ( f\r1 ! ho/ & ho/ess nev] sit opposite ea* o!r4 ,x w\ld br+ two ladies & two g5tlem5 toge!r if !y did4 ,at a table :i* seats two toge!r at ea* end1 ! fact t ! ho/ is opposite a g5tleman & ! ho/ess opposite a lady is n noticeable2 nor is x ev] noticeable at a r\nd table4 ,b at a n>r[ table :i* has room = only "o at ! end1 ! ho/ess inv>iably sits 9 ! seat next to t :i* is prop]ly h] own1 putt+ 9 h] place a g5tleman at ! end4 ,! ho/ usually keeps 8 seat r ?an ! ho/ess because ! seat ( honor is on 8 "r2 & 9 ! etiquette gov]n+ d9n]s1 ! ho/ & n ! ho/ess is ! m important p]sonage6 ,:5 !re are only f\r1 !y keep _! own places1 o!rwise ! ho/ & ho/ess w\ld sit next to ea* o!r4 ,at a d9n] ( eight1 twelve1 sixte51 tw5ty1 etc41 ! ho/ keeps 8 place1 b at supp] = eight or twelve1 ! ho/ess keeps h] place & ! ho/ moves a place to ! "r or left because ! ho/ess at supp] p\rs c(fee or *ocolate4 ,& al?\gh ! ho/ keeps 8 seat at a =mal d9n] 9 honor ( ! lady he takes 91 at a little d9n] ( eight1 :]e !re is no gue/ ( honor1 ! ho/ does n necess>ily keep 8 seat at ! exp5se ( 8 wife unless he c>ves1 9 :i* case he mu/ h ! end place2 j z at supp] %e has ! end place 9 ord] to p\r4 ,,sidewalk1 ,,hall1 ,,& ,,dress+ ,,rooms ,"o c be pretty sure on see+ a r$ velvet c>pet spread d[n ! /eps ( a h\se 7or up6 s9ce !re are s _m sunk5 ,am]ican basem5t entrances7 t !re are p = d9n]4 ,! c>pet is kept roll$1 or turn$ "u ne> ! foot 7or top7 ( ! /eps until a few m9utes be=e ! d9n] h\r :5 x is spread across ! wid? ( ! pavem5t by ! *auffeur or :oev] is on duty on ! sidewalk4 ,v big or =mal d9n]s (t5 h an awn+1 especially at a h\se :]e !re is mu* ent]ta9+ & :i* has an awn+ ( its own2 b at an ord9>y h\se1 = a d9n] ( twelve or s1 ! man on ! pavem5t mu/1 if x is ra9+1 %elt] ea* arriv+ gue/ "u 8 coa*man's umbrella f c>riage to door4 ,if x does n ra91 he m]ely op5s ! doors ( vehicles4 ,*ecks are nev] giv5 at d9n]s1 no matt] h[ big2 e motor is call$ by address at ! end ( ! ev5+4 ,! ,worldly c> is n %\t$ = z ,worldly6 b xox ,fif? ,av5ue6 ,! typical coa*man ( ano!r day us$ to tell y c>riages are ord]$ = t5-fifte54 ,c>riages 7 ne>ly always ord]$ = t h\r1 ?\gh ) sl[ & long d9n]s no "o ev] actually left until ! horses _h ex]cis$ = at lea/ an h\r6 ,b ! *auffeur ( to-day op5s ! door 9 sil5ce--unless !re is to be a conc]t or amateur !atricals1 :5 he1 l ! coa*man says1 ,motors are ord]$ = twelve o'clock1 or :atev] h\r he is told to say4 ,9 ?is day ( telephone & indef9ite bridge games1 _m p pref] to h _! c>s telephon$ =1 :5 !y are ready to g home4 ,^? :o d n play bridge leave an eight o'clock d9n] ab\t half pa/ t51 or at lea/ ord] _! c>s = t h\r4 ,9 all mod]n h\ses ( size !re are two rooms on ! entrance floor1 built sometimes z dress+-rooms & no?+ else1 b m (t5 !y are small reception rooms1 ea* ) a lavatory (f ( x4 ,9 ! "o giv5 to ! ladies1 !re is always a dress+-table ) toilet appo9tm5ts on x1 & ! lady's maid %\ld be on duty to give :atev] s]vice may be requir$2 :5 !re is no dress+-room on ! gr\nd floor1 ! back ( ! hall is arrang$ ) coat-hang]s & an improvis$ dress+-table = ! ladies1 s9ce mod]n p--9 ,new ,york at lea/--nev] g up-/airs to a b$room if !y c help x4 ,9 fact1 n9e ladies out ( t5 drop _! ev5+ cloaks at ! front door1 h&+ !m to ! s]vant on duty1 & g at once )\t m ado to ! draw+-room4 ,a lady arriv+ 9 h] own clos$ c> c't be v mu* bl[n ab\t1 9 a completely air tight comp>tm5t & 9 two or ?ree m9utes ( "t6 ,g5tlem5 also leave _! hats & coats 9 ! front "p ( ! hail4 ,a s]vant pres5ts to ea* a tray ( envelopes1 & if !re is "o1 ! table diagram4 ,envelopes are n really necess>y :5 !re is a table diagram1 s9ce e g5tleman kn[s t he takes 9 ! lady plac$ on 8 "r6 ,b at v big d9n]s 9 ,new ,york or ,wa%+ton1 :]e _m p are sure to be /rang]s to "o ano!r1 an abs5t-m9d$ g5tleman might bett]1 p]haps1 h 8 p>tn]'s "n safely 9 8 pocket4 ,,ann\nc+ ,,gue/s ,a g5tleman always falls beh9d 8 wife 9 ent]+ ! draw+-room4 ,if ! butl] kn[s ! gue/s1 he m]ely ann\nces ! wife's "n fir/ & !n ! husb&'s4 ,if he does n "k !m by sight he asks :i*ev] is ne>e/ to him1 ,:at "n1 please8 ,& :i*ev] "o is ask$1 answ]s3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,lake4 ,! butl] !n prec$es ! gue/s a few /eps into ! room :]e ! ho/ess is /ation$1 & /&+ aside says 9 a l[ tone b v di/9ctly3 ,mrs4 ,lake1 a pause & !n1 ,mr4 ,lake4 ,m>ri$ p are usually ann\nc$ sep>ately z above1 b occasionally p h _! gue/s ann\nc$ ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ----4 ,,ann\nc+ ,,p]sons ,,( ,,rank ,all m5 ( high executive rank are n alone ann\nc$ fir/1 b take prec$5ce ( _! wives 9 ent]+ ! room4 ,! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates is ann\nc$ simply1 ,! ,presid5t & ,mrs4 ,h>d+4 ,8 title ne$s no qualify+ app5dage1 s9ce he & he solely1 is ! ,presid5t4 ,he ent]s fir/1 & alone1 ( c\rse2 & !n ,mrs4 ,h>d+ foll[s4 ,! same =m precisely is us$ = ,! ,vice-,presid5t & ,mrs4 ,coolidge4 ,a gov]nor is sometimes 9 c\rtesy call$ ,excell5cy b ! correct ann\ncem5t w\ld be ! ,gov]nor ( ,new ,j]sey & ,mrs4 ,edw>ds4 ,he ent]s ! room & ,mrs4 ,edw>ds foll[s4 ,! ,mayor & ,mrs4 ,?ompson obs]ve ! same etiquette2 or 9 a city o!r ?an 8 own he w\ld be ann\nc$ ,! ,mayor ( ,*icago & ,mrs4 ,?ompson4 ,o!r ann\ncem5ts are ,! ,*ief ,ju/ice & ,mrs4 ,taft1 ,! ,secret>y ( ,/ate & ,mrs4 ,hughes4 ,s5ator & ,mrs4 ,wa%+ton1 b 9 ?is case ! latt] ent]s ! room fir/1 because 8 (fice is n executive4 ,accord+ to diplomatic etiquette an ,ambassador & 8 wife %\ld be ann\nc$1 ,_! ,excell5cies ! ,ambassador & ,ambassadress ( ,great ,brita94 ,! ,ambassador ent]s ! room fir/4 ,a ,m9i/] ,pl5ipot5ti>y is ann\nc$ ,! ,m9i/] ( ,sw$54 ,he ent]s a mom5t lat] & ,mrs4 ,ogr5 foll[s4 ,b a ,fir/ ,secret>y & 8 wife are ann\nc$1 if !y h a title ( _! own1 ,c\nt & ,c\ntess ,european1 or ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,am]ican4 ,! ,presid5t1 ! ,vice-,presid5t1 ! ,gov]nor ( a ,/ate1 ! ,mayor ( a city1 ! ,ambassador ( a =eign ,p[]--9 o!r words1 all executives--take prec$5ce ov] _! wives & ent] rooms & vehicles fir/4 ,b ,s5ators1 ,repres5tatives1 ,secret>ies ( legations & all o!r (ficials :o are n executive1 all[ _! wives to prec$e !m1 j z !y w\ld if !y 7 private individuals4 ,=eign]s :o h h]$it>y titles are ann\nc$ by !m3 ,! ,duke & ,du*ess ( ,ov]!re4 ,! ,m>quis & ,m>*ioness ( ,l&s5d1 or ,sir ,edw>d & ,lady ,blank1 etc4 ,titles are inv>iably translat$ into ,engli%1 ,c\nt & ,c\ntess ,lorra9e1 n ,m4 le ,comte et ,mme4 la ,comtesse ,lorra9e4 ,,h[ ,a ,,ho/ess ,,receives ,,at ,a ,,=mal ,,d9n] ,on all occasions ( =mality1 at a d9n] z well z at a ball1 ! ho/ess /&s ne> ! door ( h] draw+-room1 & z gue/s are ann\nc$1 %e greets !m ) a smile & a h&%ake & says some?+ pleasant to ea*4 ,:at %e says is no?+ v important1 *>m ( expression & ( mann] c (t5 wordlessly express a f> m graci\s welcome ?an ! mo/ elaborate phrases 7:i* z a matt] ( fact %\ld be /udi\sly avoid$74 ,unless a woman's lovel9ess spr+s f g5]osity ( he>t & sympa?y1 h] mann]s1 no matt] h[ p]fectly practis$1 are no?+ b cosmetics appli$ to hide a want ( inn] beauty2 precisely z r\ge & p[d] are appli$ 9 ! hope ( hid+ ! lack ( a beautiful sk94 ,"o device is ab\t z successful z ! o!r2 q pleas+ unless br\ght into comp>ison ) ! real4 ,mrs4 ,oldname1 = in/ance1 usually welcomes y ) "s su* s5t5ces z1 ,i am v glad to see y or ,i am s glad y c\ld come6 ,or if x is ra9+1 %e v likely tells y t y 7 v unselfi% to come out 9 ! /orm4 ,b no matt] :at %e says or :e!r any?+ at all1 %e takes y\r h& ) a firm pressure & h] smile is really a smile ( welcome1 n a me*anical ex]cise ( ! facial muscles4 ,%e gives y always--ev5 if only = ! mom5t--h] complete att5tion2 & y g into h] draw+-room ) a di/9ct feel+ t y are "u ! ro(1 n ( a m]e acqua9tance1 b ( a fri5d4 ,mr4 ,oldname :o /&s nev] v f> f 8 wife1 always comes =w>d &1 grasp+ y\r h&1 acc5tuates 8 wife's m subtle b no less vivid welcome4 ,& ei!r y jo9 a fri5d /&+ ne>1 or he pres5ts y1 if y are a man1 to a lady2 or if y are a lady1 he pres5ts a man to y4 ,"s ho/esses1 especially ^? ( ! ,lion-,hunt+ & ! ,new-to-,be/-,society v>iety are mu* giv5 to explanations1 & love to say ,mrs4 ,jones1 ,i want y to meet ,mrs4 ,smi?4 ,mrs4 ,smi? is ! au?or ( ',dragg$ f ! ,dep?s1' a mo/ enlight5+ "w ( psy*ic insight4 ,or to a good-look+ woman1 ,i am putt+ y next to ! ,assyrian ,ambassador--,i want him to c>ry back a flatt]+ impression ( ,am]ican wom56 ,b p ( good bre$+ d n ov]-exploit _! di/+ui%$ gue/s ) emb>rass+ hyp]bole1 or make p]sonal rem>ks4 ,bo? are 9 wor/ possible ta/e4 ,d n und]/& by ?is t explanations c n be made2 x is only t !y mu/ n be emb>rass+ly made to _! faces4 ,nor mu/ a speciali/'s subject be =c$ ^u him1 l a pair ( manacles1 by any exploit+ ho/ess :o has captur$ him4 ,mrs4 ,oldname might p]haps1 9 ord] to assi/ conv]sation = an int]e/+ b retic5t p]son1 tell a lady j be=e go+ 9 to d9n]1 ,mr4 ,travel] :o is sitt+ next to y at ! table1 has j come back f two ye>s alone ) ! cannibals4 ,?is is n to exploit h] ,travel$ ,lion b to give 8 neighbor a />t+ po9t = conv]sation at table4 ,& al?\gh p]sonal rem>ks are nev] good =m1 x w\ld be p]missible = an old] lady 9 welcom+ a v "y "o1 especially a dbutante or a bride1 to say1 ,h[ lovely y look1 ,m>y de>1 & :at an adorable dress y h on6 ,b to say to an old] lady1 ,t is a v h&some /r+ ( pe>ls y are we>+1 w\ld be objectionable4 ,,! ,,duty ,,( ,,! ,,ho/ ,! ho/ /&s fairly ne> 8 wife s t if any gue/ seems to be unkn[n to all ( ! o!rs1 he c pres5t him to "s "o4 ,at =mal d9n]s introductions are nev] g5]al & p d n z a rule speak to /rang]s1 except ^? next to !m at table or 9 ! draw+-room aft] d9n]4 ,! ho/ !re=e makes a few introductions if necess>y4 ,be=e d9n]1 s9ce ! ho/ess is /&+ 7& no g5tleman may !re=e sit d[n7 & z x is awkw>d = a lady :o is sitt+1 to talk ) a g5tleman :o is /&+1 ! ladies usually also /& until d9n] is ann\nc$4 ,,:5 ,,d9n] ,,is ,,ann\nc$ ,x is ! duty ( ! butl] to c\nt heads s t he may "k :5 ! company has arriv$4 ,z soon z he has ann\nc$ ! la/ p]son1 he notifies ! cook4 ,! cook be+ ready1 ! butl]1 hav+ glanc$ into ! d9+-room to see t w9d[s h be5 clos$ & ! c&les on ! table light$1 ent]s ! draw+-room1 approa*es ! ho/ess1 b[s1 & says quietly1 ,d9n] is s]v$4 ,! ho/ (f]s 8 arm to ! lady ( honor & leads ! way to ! d9+-room4 ,all ! o!r g5tlem5 (f] _! arms to ! ladies appo9t$ to !m1 & foll[ ! ho/1 9 an ord]ly procession1 two & two2 ! only ord] ( prec$5ce is t ! ho/ & 8 p>tn] lead1 :ile ! ho/ess & h] p>tn] come la/4 ,at all =mal d9n]s1 place c>ds be+ on ! table1 ! ho/ess does n direct p :]e to sit4 ,if !re 0 no table diagram 9 ! hall1 ! butl]1 /&+ j )9 ! d9+-room door1 tells ea* g5tleman z he approa*es ,"r or ,left4 ,r or ,l is occasionally writt5 on ! lady's "n c>d 9 ! envelopes giv5 to ! g5tlem51 or if x is su* a big d9n] t !re are _m sep>ate tables1 ! tables are numb]$ ) /&+ plac>ds 7z at a public d9n]7 & ! table numb] writt5 on ea* lady's "n c>d4 ,,! ,,mann]s ,,( ,a ,,ho/ess ,fir/ ( all1 a ho/ess mu/ %[ ea* ( h] gue/s equal & imp>tial att5tion4 ,also1 al?\gh engross$ 9 ! p]son %e is talk+ to1 %e mu/ be able to notice any?+ amiss t may occur4 ,! m compet5t h] s]vants1 ! less %e ne$ be aw>e ( details h]self1 b ! ho/ess giv+ a =mal d9n] ) unc]ta9 d9+-room effici5cy has a f> f smoo? pa? be=e h]4 ,no matt] :at happ5s1 if all ! *9a 9 ! pantry falls ) a cra%1 %e mu/ n appe> to h he>d x4 ,no matt] :at goes wrong %e mu/ cov] x z be/ %e may1 & at ! same "t cov] ! fact t %e is cov]+ x4 ,to give hectic directions1 m]ely acc5tuates ! awkw>dness4 ,if a di% appe>s t is unpres5table1 %e z quietly z possible ord]s ! next "o to be br\ght 94 ,if a gue/ knocks ov] a glass & breaks x1 ev5 ?\gh ! glass be a piece ( g5u9e ,/eigel1 h] only conc]n mu/ seem+ly be t h] gue/'s place has be5 made uncom=table4 ,%e says1 ,i am s sorry1 b ,i w h x fix$ at once6 ,! brok5 glass is no?+6 ,& %e has a fre% glass br\ght 7ev5 ?\gh x doesn't mat*7 & dismisses all ?\ght ( ! matt]4 ,bo? ! ho/ & ho/ess mu/ keep ! conv]sation go+1 if x lags1 b ?is is n z def9itely _! duty at a =mal1 z at an in=mal d9n] ,x is at ! small d9n] t ! skilful ho/ess has ne$ ( :at ,?ack]ay calls ! %[man quality4 ,%e br+s ea* gue/ =w>d 9 turn to ! c5t] ( ! /age4 ,9 a lull 9 ! conv]sation %e says beguil+ly to a clev] b %y man1 ,john1 :at 0 t /ory y told me---- & !n %e repeats briefly an introduction to a topic 9 :i* ,john p>ticul>ly %9es4 ,or lat] on1 %e beg9s a n>rative & breaks (f sudd5ly1 turn+ to "s "o else1 ,y tell !m6 ,^! examples are r bald1 & ov]emphasize ! me?od 9 ord] to make x cle>4 ,practise & ! k ( human nature1 or ( ! p>ticul> temp]am5t ) :i* %e is try+ to deal1 c alone tell h] :5 %e may lead or provoke ?is or t "o to be+ at 8 be/1 to 8 own satisfaction z well z t ( ! o!rs :o may be pres5t4 ,h] own "* & sympa?y are ! only real %[man assets1 s9ce no "o %[s to advantage except 9 a cong5ial environm5t4 ,,! ,,late ,,gue/ ,a polite ho/ess waits tw5ty m9utes aft] ! d9n] h\r1 & !n ord]s d9n] s]v$4 ,to wait m ?an tw5ty m9utes1 or actually fifte5 aft] ^? :o took ! all[able five m9utes grace1 w\ld be %[+ lack ( consid]ation to _m = ! sake ( "o4 ,:5 ! late gue/ f9ally ent]s ! d9+-room1 ! ho/ess rises1 %akes h&s ) h]1 b does n leave h] place at table4 ,%e doesn't rise = a g5tleman4 ,x is ! gue/ :o mu/ g up to ! ho/ess & apologize = be+ late4 ,! ho/ess mu/ nev] take ! gue/ to task1 b %\ld say some?+ polite & conciliatory su* z1 ,i 0 sure y w\ld n want u to wait d9n]6 ,! newcom] is usually s]v$ ) d9n] f ! beg9n+ unless %e is consid]ate en\gh to say to ! butl]1 ,j let me beg9 ) ?is c\rse4 ,old ,mrs4 ,topl(ty's mann]s to late gue/s are an exception3 on ! la/ /roke ( eight o'clock 9 w9t] & half aft] eight 9 ,newport1 d9n] is ann\nc$4 ,%e waits = no "o6 ,fur!rmore1 a gue/ arriv+ aft] a c\rse has be5 s]v$1 does n h to prote/ aga9/ dis>rang+ ! ord] ( d9n] s9ce ! rule ( ! h\se is t a c\rse :i* has pass$ a *air is n to be return$4 ,a gue/ miss+ 8 turn misses t c\rse4 ,! result is t ev]yone d9+ ) ,mrs4 ,topl(ty arrives on ! /roke ( ! d9n] h\r2 :i* is also r necess>y1 z %e is "o ( ^? :o l ! s]vice to be ru%$ ?r\gh at top spe$1 & anyone arriv+ half an h\r late w\ld f9d d9n] ov]4 ,x w\ld be excell5t discipl9e if !re 7 m ho/esses l h]1 b no "y woman c\ld be s autocratic & few old] ones c>e 7or d>e7 to be4 ,no?+ %[s selfi% want ( consid]ation m ?an be+ habitually late = d9n]4 ,n only are o!rs1 :o 7 !mselves consid]ate1 kept wait+1 b d9n] is dri$ & ru9$ = ev]yone else ?r\gh ! fault ( ! t>dy "o4 ,& ?\gh exp]t cooks "k h[ to keep food f becom+ uneatable1 no food c be s good z at ! mom5t = :i* x is prep>$1 & ! habitually late gue/ %\ld be made to realize h[ unfairly %e is meet+ h] ho/ess' g5]osity by de/roy+ = e "o ! hospitality :i* %e 0 invit$ to %>e4 ,on ! o!r h&1 be=e a =mal d9n]1 x is ! duty ( ! ho/ess to be dress$ & 9 h] draw+-room fifte51 or t5 m9utes at lea/1 be=e ! h\r set = d9n]4 ,= a v in=mal d9n] x is n important to be ready ahead ( "t1 b ev5 !n a late ho/ess is an inconsid]ate "o4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,gloves ,,& ,,napk9 ,ladies always we> gloves to =mal d9n]s & take !m (f at table4 ,entirely (f4 ,x is hide\s to leave !m on ! arm1 m]ely turn+ back ! h&s4 ,bo? gloves & fan are suppos$ to be laid across ! lap1 & "o is suppos$ to lay ! napk9 fold$ once 9 half across ! lap too1 on top ( ! gloves & fan1 & all ?ree are suppos$ to /ay 9 place on a slipp]y sat9 skirt on a little lap1 t m (t5 ?an n slants d[nw>d4 ,x is all v well = etiquette to say ,!y /ay !re1 b e woman kn[s !y don't6 ,& ?is is q a nice "q3 ,if y obey etiquette & lay ! napk9 on top ( ! fan & gloves loosely across y\r sat9-cov]$ knees1 x w dep5d m]ely ^u ! heav9ess & position ( ! fan's h&le :e!r ! avalan*e />ts "r1 left or =w>d1 onto ! floor4 ,!re is j "o way to keep ^! f\r articles 7includ+ ! lap z "o7 f dis9tegrat+1 :i* is to put ! napk9 corn]wise across y\r knees & tuck ! two side corn]s "u l a lap robe1 ) ! gloves & ! fan ti$ 9 place z x 74 ,?is ought n to be put 9 a book ( etiquette1 :i* %\ld say y mu/ d no?+ ( ! k9d1 b x is ei!r d t or h ! g5tleman next y grop+ "u ! table at ! end ( ! meal2 & x is impossible to imag9e t etiquette %\ld wi% to cons]ve ! picture ( g5tlem5 on all f\rs z ! conclud+ c]emonial at d9n]s4 ,,! ,,turn+ ,,( ,,! ,,table ,! turn+ ( ! table is accompli%$ by ! ho/ess1 :o m]ely turns f ! g5tleman 7on h] left probably7 ) :om %e has be5 talk+ ?r\gh ! s\p & ! fi% c\rse1 to ! "o on h] "r4 ,z %e turns1 ! lady to :om ! "r g5tleman has be5 talk+1 turns to ! g5tleman fur!r on1 & 9 a mom5t ev]yone at table is talk+ to a new neighbor4 ,sometimes a s+le c\ple :o h become v mu* engross$1 refuse to *ange p>tn]s & ! :ole table is block$2 leav+ "o lady & "o g5tleman on ei!r side ( ! block1 />+ alone at _! plates4 ,at ?is po9t ! ho/ess has to come to ! rescue by attract+ ! block+ lady's att5tion & say+1 ,sally1 y _c talk to ,pr(essor ,bugge any long]6 ,mr4 ,smi? has be5 try+ 8 be/ to attract y\r att5tion4 ,sally be+ 9 ?is way br\ght awake1 is oblig$ to pay att5tion to ,mr4 ,smi?1 & ,pr(essor ,bugge1 little z he may feel incl9$1 mu/ turn 8 att5tion to ! o!r side4 ,to p]si/ 9 c>ry+ on _! own conv]sation at ! exp5se ( o!rs1 w\ld be inexcusably rude1 n only to _! ho/ess b to e "o pres5t4 ,at a d9n] n long ago1 ,mr4 ,k9dh>t sitt+ next to ,mrs4 ,wellborn & left to himself because ( ! assiduity ( ! lady's f>!r p>tn]1 slid 8 own "n-c>d across & 9 front ( h]1 to br+ h] att5tion to ! fact t x 0 8 turn4 ,,enemies ,,mu/ ,,bury ,,hat*ets ,"o inexorable rule ( etiquette is t y mu/ talk to y\r next door neighbor at a d9n] table4 ,y mu/1 t is all !re is ab\t x6 ,ev5 if y are plac$ next to "s "o ) :om y h _h a bitt] qu>rel1 consid]ation = y\r ho/ess1 :o w\ld be di/ress$ if %e knew y _h be5 put 9 a disagreeable place1 & fur!r consid]ation = ! re/ ( ! table :i* is o!rwise block$1 exacts t y give no outw>d sign ( y\r repugnance & t y make a pret5ce at lea/ = a little :ile1 ( talk+ toge!r4 ,at d9n] once1 ,mrs4 ,topl(ty1 f9d+ h]self next to a man %e q op5ly despis$1 said to him ) app>5t placidity1 ,i %all n talk to y--because ,i don't c>e to4 ,b = ! sake ( my ho/ess ,i %all say my multiplication tables4 ,twice "o are two1 twice two are f\r ---- & %e cont9u$ on ?r\gh ! tables1 mak+ him alt]nate !m ) h]4 ,z soon z %e politely c\ld %e turn$ aga9 to h] o!r companion4 ,,mann]s ,,at ,,table ,x us$ to be an (f5se1 & x /ill is consid]$ impolite1 to refuse di%es at ! table1 because y\r refusal implies t y d n l :at is (f]$ y4 ,if ?is is true1 y %\ld be d\bly c>eful to take at lea/ a little on y\r plate & make a pret5ce ( eat+ "s ( x1 s9ce to refuse c\rse aft] c\rse c n fail to di/ress y\r ho/ess4 ,if y are on a diet & accept$ ! invitation ) t /ipulation1 y\r n eat+ is excusable2 b ev5 !n to sit ) an empty plate 9 front ( y ?r\gh\t a meal makes y a seem+ly reproa*ful table companion = ^? ( good appetite sitt+ next to y4 ,,attack+ ,a ,,complicat$ ,,di% ,:5 a d9n] has be5 prep>$ by a *ef :o prides himself on be+ a decorative arti/1 ! gue/ ( honor & :oev] else may be ! fir/ to be s]v$ h q a problem to "k :i* "p ( an intricate /ructure is to be eat51 & :i* "p is sc5ic effect6 ,! ma9 portion is g5]ally cle> en\gh2 ! unc]ta9ty is 9 :e!r ! fl[]s are eatable vegetables & :e!r ! ?+s t look l ducks are potatoes1 or trimm+4 ,if !re are six or m1 ! *ances are !y are edible1 & t "o or two ( a k9d are embelli%m5ts only4 ,r+s ar\nd food are ne>ly always to be eat52 plat=ms "u food seldom1 if ev]1 are4 ,any?+ t looks l pa/ry is to be eat52 & any?+ divid$ into sep>ate units %\ld be tak5 on y\r plate complete4 ,y %\ld n try to cut a section f any?+ t has already be5 divid$ into portions 9 ! kit*54 ,aspics & dess]ts are1 x mu/ be said1 occasionally ,*9ese puzzles1 b if y d help y\rself to "p ( ! decoration1 no great h>m is done4 ,di%es are nev] pass$ f h& to h& at a d9n]1 n ev5 at ! smalle/ & mo/ in=mal "o4 ,sometimes p pass salt$ nuts to ea* o!r1 or an extra sweet f a di% ne> by1 b n circl+ ! table4 ,,leav+ ,,! ,,table ,at ! end ( d9n]1 :5 ! la/ di% ( *ocolates has be5 pass$ & ! ho/ess sees t no "o is any long] eat+1 %e looks across ! table1 & cat*+ ! eye ( "o ( ! ladies1 sl[ly /&s up4 ,! "o :o happ5s to be obs]v+ also /&s up1 & 9 a mom5t ev]yone is /&+4 ,! g5tlem5 (f] _! arms to _! p>tn]s & conduct !m back to ! draw+-room or ! libr>y or :]ev] !y are to sit dur+ ! re/ ( ! ev5+4 ,ea* g5tleman !n slightly b[s1 takes leave ( 8 p>tn]1 & adj\rns ) ! o!r g5tlem5 to ! smok+-room1 :]e aft]-d9n] c(fee1 liqueurs1 cig>s & cig>ettes are pass$1 & !y all sit :]e !y l & ) :om !y l1 & talk4 ,x is p]fectly correct = a g5tleman to talk to any o!r :o happ5s to be sitt+ ne> him1 :e!r he kn[s him or n4 ,! ho/ on occasions--b x is r>ely necess>y--/>ts ! conv]sation if mo/ ( ! gue/s are incl9$ to keep sil5t1 by draw+ ?is "o or t into discussion ( a g5]al topic t ev]yone is likely to take "p 94 ,at ! end ( tw5ty m9utes or s1 he mu/ take ! opportunity ( ! fir/ lull 9 ! conv]sation to sugge/ t !y jo9 ! ladies 9 ! draw+-room4 ,9 a h\se :]e !re is no smok+-room1 ! g5tlem5 d n conduct ! ladies to ! draw+-room1 b /ay :]e !y are 7! ladies leav+ alone7 & h _! c(fee1 cig>s1 liqueurs & conv]sation sitt+ ar\nd ! table4 ,9 ! draw+-room1 mean:ile1 ! ladies are hav+ c(fee1 cig>ettes1 & liqueurs pass$ to !m4 ,!re is n a mod]n ,new ,york ho/ess1 sc>cely ev5 an old-fa%ion$ "o1 :o does n h cig>ettes pass$ aft] d9n]4 ,at a d9n] ( t5 or twelve1 ! five or six ladies are apt to sit 9 "o gr\p1 or possibly two sit by !mselves1 & ?ree ( f\r toge!r1 b at a v l>ge d9n] !y inevitably fall into gr\ps ( f\r or five or s ea*4 ,9 any case1 ! ho/ess mu/ see t no "o is left to sit alone4 ,if "o ( h] gue/s is a /rang] to ! o!rs1 ! ho/ess draws a *air ne> "o ( ! gr\ps & (f]+ x to h] s+le gue/ sits beside h]4 ,aft] a :ile :5 ?is p>ticul> gue/ has at lea/ jo9$ ! outskirts ( ! conv]sation ( ! gr\p1 ! ho/ess leaves h] & jo9s ano!r gr\p :]e p]haps %e sits beside "s "o else :o has be5 some:at left out4 ,:5 !re is no "o :o ne$s any especial att5tion1 ! ho/ess nev]!less sits = a "t ) ea* ( ! diff]5t gr\ps 9 ord] to sp5d at lea/ a "p ( ! ev5+ ) all ( h] gue/s4 ,,:5 ,,! ,,g5tlem5 ,,return ,,to ,,! ,,draw+-,,room ,:5 ! g5tlem5 return to ! draw+-room1 if !re is a p>ticul> lady t "o ( !m wants to talk to1 he naturally goes directly to :]e %e is1 & sits d[n beside h]4 ,if1 h[ev]1 %e is securely w$g$ 9 betwe5 two o!r ladies1 he mu/ ask h] to jo9 him else:]e4 ,suppos+ ,mr4 ,jones1 = in/ance1 wants to talk to ,mrs4 ,bobo ,gild+1 :o is sitt+ betwe5 ,mrs4 ,/rang] & ,miss ,/iffleigh3 ,mr4 ,jones saunt]s up to ,mrs4 ,gild+--he mu/ n look too eag] or seem too directly to pref] h] to ! two :o are flank+ h] position1 s he says r casually1 ,w y come & talk to me8 ,:]eupon %e leaves h] s&wi*$ position & goes ov] to ano!r "p ( ! room1 & sits d[n :]e !re is a vacant seat beside h]4 ,usually1 h[ev]1 ! ladies on ! ends1 be+ accessible1 are m apt to be jo9$ by ! fir/ g5tleman ent]+ ?an is ! "o 9 ! c5t]1 :om x is impossible to rea*4 ,etiquette has always decre$ t g5tlem5 %\ld n cont9ue to talk toge!r aft] leav+ ! smok+-room1 z x is n c\rte\s to ^? ( ! ladies :o are necess>ily left )\t p>tn]s4 ,at in=mal d9n]s1 & ev5 at _m =mal ones1 bridge tables are set up 9 an adjo9+ room1 if n 9 ! draw+-room4 ,^? few :o d n play bridge sp5d a half h\r 7or less7 9 conv]sation & !n g home1 unless !re is "s special div]sion4 ,,music ,,or ,,o!r ,,ent]ta9m5t ,,aft] ,,d9n] ,v l>ge d9n]s ( fifty or ov] are almo/ inv>iably foll[$ by "s sort ( ent]ta9m5t4 ,ei!r ! d9n] is giv5 be=e a ball or a musicale or amateur !atricals1 or pr(essionals are br\ght 9 to dance or s+4 ,9 ?is day :5 conv]sation is n s mu* a lo/ z a wilfully ab&on$ art1 p 9 numb]s c n be left to sp5d an ev5+ on no?+ b conv]sation4 ,gr\p$ toge!r by ! hundr$ & ) bridge tables abs5t1 ! mod]n fa%ionables 9 ,am]ica1 & 9 ,engl&1 too1 are z helpless z *ildr5 at a p>ty )\t some?+ = !m to d1 li/5 to1 or look at6 ,,v ,,big ,,d9n]s ,a d9n] ( sixty1 = in/ance1 is always s]v$ at sep>ate tables2 a c5t] "o ( tw5ty p1 & f\r corn] tables ( t5 ea*4 ,or if less1 a c5t] table ( twelve & f\r small] tables ( eight4 ,a d9n] ( ?irty-six or less is seat$ at a s+le table4 ,b :e!r !re are eighte51 eighty1 or "o or two hundr$1 ! sett+ ( ea* individual table & ! s]vice is precisely ! same4 ,ea* "o is set ) c5t]piece1 c&les1 compoti]s1 & ev5ly spac$ plates1 ) ! addition ( a numb] by :i* to id5tify x2 or else ea* table is decorat$ ) diff]5t color$ fl[]s1 p9k1 yell[1 or*id1 :ite4 ,:atev] ! mann] ( id5tification1 ! numb] or ! color is writt5 9 ! corn] ( ! ladies' "n c>ds t g 9 ! envelopes h&$ to ea* arriv+ g5tleman at ! door3 p9k1 yell[1 or*id1 :ite1 or c5t] table4 ,9 arrang+ = ! s]vice ( d9n] ! butl] details ?ree footm51 usually1 to ea* table ( t51 & six footm5 to ! c5t] table ( tw5ty4 ,!re are sev]al h\ses 7palaces really7 9 ,new ,york t h d9+-rooms big en\gh to seat a hundr$ or m easily4 ,b sixty is a v big d9n]1 & ev5 ?irty does n g well )\t an ent]ta9m5t foll[+ x4 ,o!rwise ! details are ! same 9 e p>ticul> z well z 9 table sett+3 ! ho/ess receives at ! door2 gue/s /& until d9n] is ann\nc$2 ! ho/ leads ! way ) ! gue/ ( honor4 ,! ho/ess goes to table la/4 ,! ho/ & ho/ess always sit at ! big c5t] table & ! o!rs at t table are inv>iably ! olde/ pres5t4 ,no "o res5ts be+ gr\p$ accord+ to age1 b _m d res5t a segregation ( ultra fa%ionables4 ,y mu/ nev] put all ! prom95t ones at "o table1 unless y want =ev] to lose ! acqua9tance ( ^? at e o!r4 ,aft] d9n]1 ! g5tlem5 g to ! smok+-room & ! ladies sit 9 ! ballroom1 :]e1 if !re is to be a !atrical p]=mance1 ! /age is probably arrang$4 ,! g5tlem5 return1 ! gue/s take _! places1 & ! p]=mance beg9s4 ,aft] ! p]=mance ! leave-tak+ is ! same z at all d9n]s or p>ties4 ,,tak+ ,,leave ,t ! gue/ ( honor mu/ be fir/ to take leave 0 9 =m] times s fix$ a rule t ev]yone us$ to sit on & on1 no matt] h[ late x became1 wait+ = h] ^: duty x 01 to g6 ,m (t5 ?an n1 ! gue/ ( honor 0 an abs5t-m9d$ old lady1 or celebrity1 :o v likely 0 vaguely say+ to h]self1 ,oh1 my6 are ^! p nev] go+ home8 until by & by x dawn$ ^u h] t ! obligation 0 h] own6 ,b to-day1 al?\gh x is /ill ! obligation ( ! gue/ :o sat on ! ho/'s "r to make ! move to g1 x is n consid]$ ill-mann]$1 if ! h\r is gr[+ late1 = ano!r lady to rise fir/4 ,9 fact1 unless ! gue/ ( honor is "o really1 mean+ a /rang] or an eld]ly lady ( di/9ction1 !re is no actual prec$5ce 9 be+ ! "o fir/ to g4 ,if ! h\r is v e>ly :5 ! fir/ lady rises1 ! ho/ess1 :o always rises too1 v likely says3 ,i hope y are n ?9k+ ( go+6 ,! gue/ answ]s1 ,we don't want to 9 ! lea/1 b ,dick has to be at ! (fice s e>ly6 or ,i'm sorry1 b ,i mu/4 ,?ank y s mu* = ask+ u4 ,usually1 h[ev]1 ea* "o m]ely says1 ,good night1 ?ank y s mu*4 ,! ho/ess answ]s1 ,i am s glad y c\ld come6 & %e !n presses a bell 7n "o t any gue/ c he>67 = ! s]vants to be 9 ! dress+-rooms & hall4 ,:5 "o gue/ leaves1 !y all leave--except ^? at ! bridge tables4 ,!y all say1 ,good night to :omev] !y 7 talk+ ) & %ake h&s1 & !n go+ up to _! ho/ess1 !y %ake h&s & say1 ,?ank y = ask+ u1 or ,?ank y s mu*4 ,?ank y s mu*2 good night1 is ! usual expression4 ,& ! ho/ess answ]s1 ,x 0 s nice to see y aga91 or ,i'm glad y c\ld come4 ,b mo/ usually ( all %e says m]ely1 ,good night6 & sugge/s fri5dl9ess by ! tone 9 :i* %e says x--an acc5t slightly m on ! good p]haps ?an on ! night4 ,9 ! dress+-room1 or 9 ! hall1 ! maid is wait+ to help ! ladies on ) _! wraps1 & ! butl] is at ! door4 ,:5 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,jones are ready to leave1 he goes out on ! front /eps & calls1 ,mr4 ,jones' c>6 ,! ,jones' *auffeur answ]s1 ,"h1 ! butl] says to ei!r ,mr4 or ,mrs4 ,jones1 ,y\r c> is at ! door6 & !y g out4 ,! bridge p leave z !y f9i% _! games2 sometimes a table at a "t or mo/ likely two toge!r4 7,husb&s & wives are nev]1 if x c be avoid$1 put at ! same table47 ,"y p 9 say+ good night say1 ,good night1 x has be5 too wond]ful6 or ,good night1 & ?ank y s mu*4 ,& ! ho/ess smiles & says1 ,s glad y c\ld come6 or j ,good night6 ,,! ,,little ,,d9n] ,! little d9n] is ?\ght by mo/ p to be ! v pleasante/ social function !re is4 ,x is always in=mal1 ( c\rse1 & intimate conv]sation is possible1 s9ce /rang]s are seldom1 or at lea/ v c>efully1 includ$4 ,= y\ng] p1 or o!rs :o d n f9d great satisfaction 9 conv]sation1 ! d9n] ( eight & two tables ( bridge aft]w>ds has no rival 9 popul>ity4 ,! =mal d9n] is lik$ by mo/ p n[ & !n 7& = ^? :o don't especially l x1 x is at lea/ salut>y z a sp9e /iff5+ ex]cise71 b = night aft] night1 season aft] season1 ! little d9n] is to social activity :at ! roa/ c\rse is to ! meal4 ,! s]vice ( a little d9n] is ! same z t ( a big "o4 ,z has be5 said1 prop] s]vice 9 prop]ly run h\ses is nev] relax$1 :e!r d9n] is = eighte5 or = two alone4 ,! table appo9tm5ts are equally f9e & beautiful1 ?\gh possibly n q s r>e4 ,really priceless old glass & *9a c't be replac$ because duplicates d n exi/ & to use x ?ree times a day w\ld be to c\rt de/ruction2 replicas1 h[ev]1 are sc>cely less beautiful & c be replac$ if *ipp$4 ,! silv] is id5tical2 ! food is equally well prep>$1 ?\gh a c\rse or two is elim9at$2 ! s]vice is precisely ! same4 ,! clo!s t fa%ionable p we> e ev5+ !y are home alone1 are1 if n ! same1 at lea/ z beautiful ( _! k9d4 ,"y ,gild+'s l\nge suit is q z h&some z 8 d9n] clo!s1 & he tubs & %aves & *anges 8 l95 :5 he puts x on4 ,8 wife we>s a tea g[n1 :i* is classifi$ z a neglig r 9 irony1 s9ce x is apt to be m elaborate & gorge\s 7to say no?+ ( dignifi$7 ?an half ( ! g>m5ts t masqu]ade ^! days z ev5+ dresses6 ,!y we> ^! in=mal clo!s only if v intimate fri5ds are com+ to d9n] alone4 ,alone may include z _m z eight6--b nev] includes a /rang]4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,d9n] ,,s]vice ,,)\t ,,silv]--,,! ,,little ,,d9n] ,,is ,,?\ght ,,by ,,mo/ ,,p ,,to ,,be ,,! ,,v ,,pleasante/ ,,social ,,function ,,!re ,,is4 ,page #bbh4 ,o!rwise1 at in=mal d9n]s1 ! ho/ we>s a d9n] coat & ! ho/ess a simple ev5+ dress1 or p]haps an elaborate "o t has be5 se5 by ev]yone & :i* goes on at little d9n]s = ! sake ( gett+ "s we> out ( x4 ,%e nev]1 h[ev]1 receives =mally /&+1 ?\gh %e rises :5 a gue/ comes into ! room1 %akes h&s & sits d[n aga94 ,:5 d9n] is ann\nc$1 g5tlem5 d n (f] _! arms to ! ladies4 ,! ho/ess & ! o!r ladies g into ! d9+-room toge!r1 n 9 a procession1 b j z !y happ5 to come4 ,if "o ( !m is mu* old] ?an ! o!rs1 ! y\ng] ones wait = h] to g ahead ( !m1 or "o :o is mu* y\ng] goes la/4 ,! m5 /roll 9 ! re>4 ,! ho/ess on rea*+ ! d9+-room goes to h] own place :]e %e /&s & tells ev]yone :]e %e or he is to sit4 ,m>y1 w y sit next to ,jim1 & ,lucy on 8 o!r side2 ,kate1 ov] !re1 ,bobo1 next to me1 etc4 ,,c>v+ ,,on ,,! ,,table ,c>v+ is sometimes se5 at home d9n] tables4 ,a c]ta9 type ( man always likes to c>ve1 & su* a "o does4 ,b 9 =ty-n9e h\ses out ( fifty1 9 ,new ,york at lea/1 ! c>v+ is done by ! cook 9 ! kit*5--a roa/ :ile x is /ill 9 ! roa/+ pan1 & close to ! range at t1 s t no?+ c possibly get cool$ (f 9 ! c>v+4 ,aft] :i* ! pieces are c>efully put toge!r aga91 & transf]r$ to an int5sely hot platt]4 ,?is me?od has two advantages ov] table c>v+2 quick] s]vice1 & hott] food4 ,unless a *ange takes place 9 ! pres5t fa%ion1 none except cooks w "k any?+ ab\t c>v+1 :i* 0 once consid]$ an art necess>y to e g5tleman4 ,! boa/ ( ! high-born ,s\!rn]1 t he c\ld c>ve a canvas-back hold+ x on 8 =k1 w be z unkn[n z ! driv+ ( a f\r-9-h&4 ,old-fa%ion$ butl]s sometimes c>ve 9 ! pantry1 b 9 ! mo/ mod]n s]vice all c>v+ is done by ! cook4 ,cold meats are1 9 ! ,engli% s]vice1 put :ole on ! sidebo>d & ! family & gue/s cut (f :at !y *oose !mselves4 ,9 ,am]ica cold meat is m (t5 slic$ & laid on a platt] g>ni%$ ) f9ely *opp$ meat jelly & wat] cress or p>sley4 ,,! ,,/ag ,,or ,,ba*elor ,,d9n] ,a man's d9n] is sometimes call$ a /ag or a ba*elor d9n]2 & z its "n implies1 is a d9n] giv5 by a man & = m5 only4 ,a man's d9n] is usually giv5 to celebrate an occasion ( welcome or f>ewell4 ,! be/-kn[n ba*elor d9n] is ! "o giv5 by ! groom j be=e 8 w$d+4 ,o!r d9n]s are m apt to be giv5 by "o man 7or a gr\p ( m57 9 honor ( a not$ citiz5 :o has return$ f a long abs5ce1 or :o is ab\t to emb>k on an exp$ition or a =eign mission4 ,or a "y man may give a d9n] 9 honor ( a fri5d's tw5ty-fir/ bir?day2 or an old] man may give a d9n] m]ely because he has a quantity ( game :i* he has %ot & wants to %>e ) 8 especial fri5ds4 ,ne>ly always a man's d9n] is giv5 at ! ho/'s club or 8 ba*elor qu>t]s or 9 a private room 9 a hotel4 ,b if a man *ooses to give a /ag d9n] 9 8 own h\se1 8 wife 7or 8 "m7 %\ld n appe>4 ,= a wife to come d[n/airs & receive ! gue/s = him1 c n be too /rongly condemn$ z out ( place4 ,su* a maneuv] on h] "p1 in/ead ( impress+ 8 gue/s ) h] own grace & beauty1 is f> m likely to make !m ?9k :at a poor worm h] husb& mu/ be1 to all[ himself to be h5-peck$4 ,& = a "m to appe> at a son's d9n] is1 if any?+1 worse4 ,an ess5tial piece ( advice to e woman is3 ,no matt] h[ mu* y may want to say ,h[ d y d to y\r husb&'s or y\r son's fri5ds--don't6 ,,*apt] ,,xv ,,d9n] ,,giv+ ,,) ,,limit$ ,,equipm5t ,,! ,,s]vice ,,problem ,p :o live all ! ye> 9 ! c\ntry are n tr\bl$ ) =mal d9n] giv+1 because 7except+ on great e/ates7 =mality & ! c\ntry d n g toge!r4 ,= ! "o or two =mal d9n]s :i* ! av]age city dwell] feels oblig$ to give e season1 no?+ is easi] ?an to hire pr(essionals2 x is also economical1 s9ce no?+ is wa/$ 9 exp]im5t4 ,a cook equal to ! ,gild+s' *ef c be _h to come 9 & cook y\r d9n] at ab\t ! price ( two *>wom52 skill$ butl]s or waitresses are to be _h 9 all cities ( any size at comp>atively reasonable fees4 ,! real problem is 9 giv+ ! innum]able casual & in=mal d9n]s = :i* pr(essionals are n only exp5sive1 b inappropriate4 ,! problem ( limit$ equipm5t w\ld n pres5t great difficulty if ! t5d5cy ( ! age 7 t[>d a sl[] pace1 b ! opposite is ! case2 no "o wants to be kept wait+ a second at table1 & ! _w ( fa%ion is gr[+ m impati5t & critical in/ead ( less4 ,! s]vice ( a d9n] c h[ev] be mu* simplifi$ & %ort5$ by *oos+ di%es t d n require accessories4 ,,di%es ,,t ,,h ,,accompany+ ,,condim5ts ,no?+ s delays ! s]vice ( a d9n] z di%es t mu/ imm$iately be foll[$ by necess>y accessories4 ,if !re is no "o to help ! butl] or waitress1 no di% mu/ be includ$ on ! m5u--unless y are only "o or two at table1 or unless y\r gue/s are nei!r critical nor mod]n--t is n complete 9 itself4 ,= in/ance1 fi% has ne>ly always an accompany+ di%4 ,broil$ fi%1 or fi% meunire1 has ice-cold cucumb]s slic$ z ?9 z ,s>atoga *ips1 ) a v highly season$ ,fr5* dress+1 or a mixture ( cucumb]s & tomatoes4 ,boil$ fi% always has m\ssel9e1 ,holl&aise1 mu%room or egg sauce1 & r\nd scoop$ boil$ potatoes spr9kl$ ) p>sley4 ,fri$ fi% mu/ always be accompani$ by t>t> sauce & pieces ( lemon1 & a boil$ fi% ev5 if cov]$ ) sauce :5 s]v$1 is usually foll[$ by additional sauce4 ,_m meats h condim5ts4 ,roa/ beef is nev] s]v$ at a d9n] p>ty--x is a family di% & g5]ally has ,york%ire pudd+ or roa/ potatoes on ! platt] ) ! roa/ itself1 & is foll[$ by pickles or spic$ fruit4 ,turkey likewise1 ) its *e/nut /uff+ & accompany+ cranb]ry sauce1 is n a company di%1 ?\gh excell5t = an in=mal d9n]4 ,saddle ( mutton is a typical company di%--all mutton has currant jelly4 ,lamb has m9t sauce--or m9t jelly4 ,p>tridge or gu9ea h5 mu/ h two sauce boats--pres5t$ on "o tray--br[n$ bread-crumbs 9 "o1 & cream sauce 9 ! o!r4 ,apple sauce goes ) b>ny>d duck4 ,! be/ accompanim5t to wild duck is ! precisely tim$ #ah m9utes 9 a quick ov56 ,& cel]y salad1 :i* goes ) all game1 ne$ n be especially hurri$4 ,salad is always ! accompanim5t ( tame game1 aspics1 cold meat di%es ( all sorts1 & is itself accompani$ by crack]s & *eese or *eese s\ffl or *eese /raws4 ,,special ,,m5us ,,( ,,unaccompani$ ,,di%es ,"o p]son c wait on eight p if di%es are *os5 :i* ne$ no supplem5ts4 ,! few] ! di%es to be pass$1 ! few] ! h&s ne$$ to pass !m4 ,& yet _m h\sekeep]s ?\ghtlessly ord] di%es )9 ! li/ above1 & !n wond] :y ! d9n] is s hopelessly sl[1 :5 _! waitress is usually s good6 ,! foll[+ sugge/ions are m]ely (f]$ 9 illu/ration2 ea* h\sekeep] c easily devise fur!r = h]self4 ,x is n necess>y to pass any?+ :atev] ) melon or grapefruit1 or a macdo9e ( fruit1 or a canap4 ,oy/]s1 on ! o!r h&1 h to be foll[$ by tabasco & butt]$ br[n bread4 ,s\p ne$s no?+ ) x 7if y d n *oose split pea :i* ne$s cr\tons1 or petite m>mite :i* ne$s grat$ *eese74 ,fi% di%es :i* are made ) sauce 9 ! di%1 su* z sole au v9 blanc1 lob/] ,newburg1 crab ravigote1 fi% m\sse1 especially if 9 a r+ fill$ ) pl5ty ( sauce1 d n ne$ any?+ m4 ,t>t> sauce = fri$ fi% c be put 9 baskets made ( holl[$-out lemon r9d--a basket = ea* p]son--& us$ z a g>ni%+ ar\nd ! di%4 ,filet mignon1 or fillet ( beef1 bo? ( !m surr\nd$ by little clumps ( vegetables %>e ) *ick5 cass]ole 9 be+ ! life-sav]s ( ! ho/ess :o has "o waitress 9 h] d9+-room4 ,ano!r di%1 b m appropriate to lun* ?an to d9n]1 is ( ,fr5* *ops bank$ aga9/ ma%$ potatoes1 or pure ( *e/nuts1 & surr\nd$ by /r+ beans or peas4 ,none ( ^! di%es requires any foll[+ di% :atev]1 n ev5 a vegetable4 ,fri$ *ick5 ) corn fritt]s on ! platt] is almo/ z good z ! two beef di%es1 s9ce ! "o gre5 vegetable :i* %\ld g ) x1 c be s]v$ leisurely1 because fri$ *ick5 is n quickly eat54 ,& a r+ ( aspic ) salad 9 ! c5t] does n require accompany+ crack]s z imm$iately z pla9 lettuce4 ,/eak & broil$ *ick5 are fairly practical s9ce nei!r ne$s gravy1 condim5t1 or sauce--especially if y h a divid$ vegetable di% s t two vegetables c be pass$ at ! same "t4 ,if a ho/ess *ooses n necess>ily ! above di%es b o!rs :i* approximately take _! places1 %e ne$ h no fe> ( a sl[ d9n]1 if h] "o butl] or waitress is at all compet5t4 ,,! ,,possibilities ,,( ,,! ,,pla9 ,,cook ,9 giv+ in=mal or little d9n]s1 y ne$ nev] worry because y _c set ! di%es ( a pr(essional d9n]-p>ty cook be=e y\r fri5ds or ev5 /rang]s2 s long z ! food t y are (f]+ is good ( its k9d4 ,x is by no means necess>y t y\r cook %\ld be able to make ! cle> s\p t is "o ( ! te/s ( ! p]fect cook 7& practically nev] produc$ by any o!r72 nor is x necess>y t %e be able to con/ruct come/ible mosaics & sculptures4 ,! ess5tial ?+ is to prev5t h] f attempt+ any?+ %e c't d well4 ,if %e c make c]ta9 di%es t are pretty z well z good to ta/e1 s mu* ! bett]4 ,b rememb]1 ! m pret5ti\s a di% is1 ! m x *all5ges criticism4 ,if y\r cook c make nei!r cle> nor cream s\p1 b c make a delici\s clam *[d]1 bett] f> to h a clam *[d]6 ,on no acc\nt let h] attempt cle> gre5 turtle1 :i* has ab\t z good a *ance to be p]fect z a supreme ( bon$ capon--9 o!r words1 none :atsoev]6 ,& ! same way ?r\gh\t d9n]4 ,:i*ev] di%es y\r own p>ticul> ,nora or ,selma or ,m>ie c d be/1 ^? are ! ones y mu/ h = y\r d9n]s4 ,ano!r ?+3 x is n important to h v>iety4 ,because y gave ! ,normans *ick5 cass]ole ! la/ "t !y d9$ ) y is no reason :y y %\ld n give x to !m aga9--if t is ! specialty ( ! h\se z ! ,fr5* say4 ,a late1 & greatly lov$1 ho/ess ^: ,sunday lun*eons at a huge c\ntry h\se j outside ( ,wa%+ton 7 = ye>s "o ( ! out/&+ features ( ,wa%+ton's sm>te/ society1 _h ! same lun* exactly1 week aft] week1 ye> aft] ye>4 ,^? :o w5t to h] h\se knew j z well :at ! di%es w\ld be z !y did :]e ! d9+-room 0 situat$4 ,at h] few enorm\s & =mal d9n]s 9 t[n1 h] cook 0 all[$ to be magnific5tly ar*itectural1 b if y d9$ ) h] alone1 ! *ances 7 t5 to "o t ! ,sunday *ick5 & pancakes w\ld appe> be=e y4 ,,d ,,n ,,exp]im5t ,,= ,,/rang]s ,typical d9n]-p>ty di%es are inv>iably ! temptation no less ?an ! d[nfall ( ambiti\s ignorance4 ,nev] let an inexp]i5c$ cook attempt a new di% = company1 no matt] h[ attractive h] description ( x may s\nd4 ,try x y\rself1 or :5 y are hav+ family or mo/ intimate fri5ds :o w und]/& if x turns out all wrong t x is a trial di%4 ,9 fact1 x is a v good idea to %>e ! te/+ ( x ) "s "o :o c help y 9 sugge/ions1 if !y are ne$$ = its improvem5t4 ,or suppos+ y h a cook :o is r poor on all d9n] di%es1 b makes delici\s bread & cake & waffles & oy/] /ew & cream$ *ick51 or ev5 ha%6 ,y c make a specialty ( ask+ p to supp]4 ,supp]s are necess>ily in=mal1 b !re is no objection 9 t4 ,=mal p>ties play a v small rle anyway comp>$ to in=mal ones4 ,!re are no end ( p1 & ! sm>te/ ones at t1 :o ent]ta9 only 9 ! mo/ in=mal possible way4 ,mrs4 ,oldname gives at mo/ two =mal d9n]s a ye>2 h] typical d9n]s & supp]s are = eight4 ,,prop] ,,di%+ ,! di%+ is q z important z ! cook+2 a sme> or ?umb-m>k on ! edge ( a di% is l a spot on ! front ( a dress6 ,wat] mu/ n be all[$ to collect at ! bottom ( a di% 7t is :y a fold$ napk9 is always put "u boil$ fi% & sometimes "u asp>agus74 ,& di%es mu/ be hot2 !y _c be too hot6 ,meat juice t has />t$ to cru/ is nauseat+4 ,f> bett] h food too hot to eat & let p take _! "t eat+ x ?an t o!rs %\ld suff] ! disgu/ ( cold victuals6 ,s5d+ 9 cold food is "o ( ! wor/ faults 7next to n kn[+ h[ to cook7 t a cook c h4 ,,pr(essional ,,or ,,home ,,d9+ ,,room ,,s]vice ,j z x is bett] to hire a pr(essional d9n]-p>ty cook ?an to run ! risk ( attempt+ a =mal d9n] ) y\r own ,nora or ,selma unless y are v sure %e is adequate1 9 ! same way x is bett] to h a pr(essional waitress z capta9 ov] y\r own1 or a pr(essional butl] ov] y\r own inexp]i5c$ "o1 ?an to h y\r meal s]v$ 9 spasms & long pauses4 ,b if y\r waitress1 assi/$ by ! *amb]maid1 p]fectly waits on six1 y w f9d t !y c v nicely manage t51 ev5 ) accompani$ di%es4 ,,blund]s ,,9 ,,s]vice ,if an inexp]i5c$ s]vant blund]s1 y %\ld pret5d1 if y c1 n to "k x4 ,nev] attract anyone's att5tion to any?+ by apologiz+ or expla9+1 unless ! accid5t happ5s to a gue/4 ,"u ord9>y circum/ances lea/ said1 soone/ m5d$ is ! be/ policy4 ,if a s]vant blund]s1 x makes ! situation mu* worse to take h] to task1 ! cause be+ usually t %e is n]v\s or ignorant4 ,speak1 if x is necess>y to direct h]1 v g5tly & z k9dly z possible2 y\r object be+ to re/ore confid5ce1 n to increase ! disord]4 ,beckon h] to y & tell h] z y might tell a *ild y 7 tea*+3 ,give ,mrs4 ,smi? a tablespoon1 n a teaspoon4 ,or1 ,y h =gott5 ! =k on t di%4 ,nev] let h] feel t y ?9k h] /upid1 b enc\rage h] z mu* z possible & :5 %e does any?+ especially well1 tell h] s4 ,,! ,,enc\ragem5t ,,( ,,praise ,ne>ly all p are quick to c5sure b r *>y ( praise4 ,admoni% ( c\rse :]e y mu/1 b c5sure only ) ju/ice1 & don't =get t :e!r ( high e/ate or humble1 we all ( u l praise--sometimes4 ,:5 a gue/ tells y y\r d9n] is ! be/ he has ev] eat51 rememb] t ! cook cook$ x1 & tell h] x 0 prais$4 ,or if ! d9+-room s]vice 0 sil5t & quick & p]fect1 !n tell ^? :o s]v$ x h[ well x 0 done4 ,if y are ent]ta9+ all ! "t1 y ne$ n comm5d y\r h\sehold aft] e d9n] y give1 b if any especial will+ness1 att5tiv5ess1 or tact is %[n1 don't =get t a little praise is n only m]e/ ju/ice b is beyond ! purse ( no "o4 ,,*apt] ,,xvi ,,lun*eons1 ,,breakfa/s ,,& ,,supp]s ,,! ,,invitations ,al?\gh ! engrav$ c>d is occasionally us$ = an elaborate lun*eon1 especially = "o giv5 9 honor ( a not$ p]son1 =mal invitations to lun* 9 v fa%ionable h\ses are ne>ly always writt5 9 ! fir/ p]son1 & r>ely s5t out m ?an a week 9 advance4 ,= in/ance3 ,de> ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t 7or ,m>?a73 ,w y lun* ) me on ,monday ! t5? at half aft] "o o'clock8 ,hop+ s mu* to see y1 ,s9c]ely 7or affectionately71 ,jane ,topl(ty4 ,if ! above lun* 7 giv5 9 honor ( somebody--,mrs4 ,em95t1 = in/ance--! phrase to meet ,mrs4 ,em95t w\ld h be5 add$ imm$iately aft] ! ^w o'clock4 ,at a v l>ge lun*eon = :i* ! engrav$ c>d might be us$1 ,to meet ,mrs4 ,em95t w\ld be writt5 across ! top ( ! c>d ( invitation4 ,in=mal invitations are telephon$ ne>ly always4 ,invitation to a /&-up lun*eon 7or breakfa/2 x is breakfa/ if ! h\r is twelve or half aft]1 & lun* if at "o1 or "o-?irty71 is ei!r telephon$ or writt5 on an ord9>y visit+ c>d3 ,,hw3 ,sat4 ,oct4 #b4 ,lun*eon at #a o'clock ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,gild+ ,,gold5 ,,hall ,if ,r4s4v4p4 is add$ 9 ! l[] corn]1 ! invitation %\ld be answ]$1 o!rwise ! ho/ess is oblig$ to guess h[ _m to provide =4 ,or1 if ! ho/ess pref]s1 a p]sonal note is always c\rte\s3 ,de> ,mrs4 ,neighbor3 ,we are hav+ a /&-up lun*eon on ,saturday1 ,octob] ,second1 at "o o'clock1 & hope t y & y\r husb& & any gue/s :o may be /ay+ ) y w come1 ,v s9c]ely y\rs1 ,alice ,topl(ty ,gild+4 ,gold5 ,hall ,sept4 #bg4 ,a p]sonal note always exacts a reply--:i* may h[ev] be telephon$1 unless ! invitation 0 word$ 9 ! =mal ?ird p]son4 ,a writt5 answ] is m polite1 if ! ho/ess is some:at ( a /rang] to y4 ,,! ,,=mal ,,lun*eon ,,( ,,to-,,day ,lun*eon1 be+ a daylight function1 is nev] s =midable z a d9n]1 ev5 ?\gh x may be e bit z =mal & diff] f ! latt] 9 m9or details only4 ,lun*eons are g5]ally giv5 by1 & =1 ladies1 b x is n unusual1 especially 9 summ] places or 9 t[n on ,saturday or ,sunday1 to include an equal numb] ( g5tlem54 ,b no matt] h[ l>ge or =mal a lun*eon may be1 !re is r>ely a *auffeur on ! sidewalk1 or a c>pet or an awn+4 ,! ho/ess1 in/ead ( receiv+ at ! door1 sits usually 9 ! c5t] ( ! room 9 "s place t has an unob/ruct$ approa* f ! door4 ,ea* gue/ com+ into ! room is prec$$ by ! butl] to )9 a %ort speak+ di/ance ( ! ho/ess1 :]e he ann\nces ! new arrival's "n1 & !n /&s aside4 ,:]e !re is a waitress in/ead ( a butl]1 gue/s greet ! ho/ess unann\nc$4 ,! ho/ess rises1 or if /&+ takes a /ep =w>d1 %akes h&s1 says ,i'm s glad to see y1 or ,i am delight$ to see y1 or ,h[ d y d6 ,%e !n waits = a second or two to see if ! gue/ :o has j come 9 speaks to anyone2 if n1 %e makes ! necess>y introduction4 ,:5 ! butl] or waitress has c\nt$ heads & kn[s ! gue/s h arriv$1 he or %e ent]s ! room1 b[s to ! ho/ess & says1 ,lun*eon is s]v$4 ,if !re is a gue/ ( honor1 ! ho/ess leads ! way to ! d9+-room1 walk+ beside h]4 ,o!rwise1 ! gue/s g 9 twos or ?rees1 or ev5 s+ly1 j z !y happ5 to come1 except t ! v "y make way = _! eld]s1 & g5tlem5 /roll 9 ) ^? !y happ5 to be talk+ to1 or1 if alone1 fill 9 ! re>4 ,! g5tlem5 nev] (f] _! arms to ladies 9 go+ 9 to a lun*eon--unless !re %\ld be an eld]ly gue/ ( honor1 :o might be tak5 9 by ! ho/1 z at a d9n]4 ,b ! o!rs foll[ in=mally4 ,,! ,,table ,c&les h no place on a lun* or breakfa/ table2 & are us$ only :]e a d9+-room is un=tunately )\t daylight4 ,also a pla9 damask tableclo? 7:i* mu/ always be put on top ( a ?ick table felt7 is correct = d9n] b n = lun*eon4 ,! traditional lun* table is b>e--:i* does n mean actually b>e at all1 b t x has a c5t]piece1 ei!r r\nd or rectangul> or squ>e1 ) place mats to mat*1 made 9 lit]ally unre/rict$ v>ieties ( l951 ne$lework & lace4 ,! c5t]piece is any:]e f #cj in*es to a y>d & a half squ>e1 on a squ>e or r\nd table1 & f half a y>d to a y>d wide by l5g? 9 proportion to ! l5g? ( a rectangul> table4 ,! place mats are r\nd or squ>e or rectangul> to mat*1 & are put at ! places4 ,or if ! table is a refectory "o1 in/ead ( c5t]piece & doilies1 ! table is set ) a runn] n rea*+ to ! edge at ! side1 b fall+ ov] bo? ends4 ,or !re may be a tableclo? made to fit ! top ( ! table to )9 an in* or two ( its edge4 ,occasionally !re is a real clo? t hangs ov] l a d9n] clo?1 b x always has lace or op5-"w & is made ( f9e l95 s t ! table %[s ?r\gh4 ,! decorations ( ! table are practically ! same z = d9n]3 fl[]s1 or a silv] ornam5t or ep]gne 9 ! c5t]1 & fl[] di%es or compoti]s or pat5s fill$ ) ornam5tal fruit or c&y at ! corn]s4 ,if ! table is v l>ge & r b>e )\t c&les1 f\r vases or silv] b[ls ( fl[]s1 or ornam5tal figures are add$4 ,if ! c5t] ornam5t is ( porcela91 f\r porcela9 figures to mat* h at lea/ a logical reason = _! pres5ce1 or a bisque g>d5 set ( vases & balu/rades1 ) small fl[]s & v9es put 9 ! vases to look z ?\gh !y 7 gr[+1 foll[s out ! decoration4 ,mo/ p1 h[ev]1 l a sp>sely ornam5t$ table4 ,! places are set z = d9n]1 ) a place plate1 ?ree =ks1 two knives & a small spoon4 ,! lun* napk91 :i* %\ld mat* ! table l951 is mu* small] ?an ! d9n] napk91 & is n fold$ q ! same3 x is fold$ l a h&k]*ief1 9 only f\r folds 7f\r ?icknesses74 ,! squ>e is laid on ! place plate diagonally1 ) ! monogramm$ 7or embroid]$7 corn] po9t+ d[n t[>d ! edge ( ! table4 ,! upp] corn] is !n turn$ %>ply "u 9 a flat crease = ab\t a qu>t] ( its diagonal l5g?2 !n ! two sides are roll$ loosely "u1 mak+ a sort ( pill[ effect laid sideways2 ) a /raight top edge & a po9t$ l[] edge1 & ! monogram display$ 9 ! c5t]4 ,ano!r feature ( lun*eon s]vice1 :i* is always omitt$ at d9n]1 is ! bread & butt] plate4 ,! ,bread & ,butt] ,plate ,! butt] plate has be5 entirely dispossess$ by ! bread & butt] plate1 :i* is "p ( ! lun*eon s]vice always--z well z ( breakfa/ & supp]4 ,x is a v small plate ab\t five & a half to six & a half in*es 9 diamet]1 & is put at ! left side ( ea* place j beyond ! =ks4 ,butt] is sometimes put on ! plate by ! s]vant 7z 9 a re/aurant7 b usually x is pass$4 ,hot breads are an important feature ( e lun*eon2 hot cresc5ts1 soda biscuits1 bread biscuits1 d9n] rolls1 or corn bread1 ! latt] bak$ 9 small pans l pie plates f\r in*es 9 diamet]4 ,v ?9 bread t is roa/$ 9 ! ov5 until x is curl$ & light br[n 7exactly l a l>ge ,s>atoga *ip71 is (t5 made = ^? :o don't eat butt]1 & is also suitable = d9n]4 ,?is d\ble-bak$ bread1 toa/1 & "o or two ( ! above v>ieties1 are all put 9 an old-fa%ion$ silv] cake-basket1 or actual basket ( wick]1 & pass$ z (t5 z necess>y4 ,butt] is also pass$ 7or help$7 ?r\gh\t ! meal until ! table is cle>$ = dess]t4 ,bread & butt] plates are always remov$ ) ! salt & pepp] pots4 ,,! ,,s]vice ,,( ,,lun*eon ,! s]vice is id5tical ) t ( d9n]4 ,c>v+ is done 9 ! kit*5 & no food set on ! table except ornam5tal di%es ( fruit1 c&y & nuts4 ,! plate s]vice is also ! same z at d9n]4 ,! places are nev] left plateless1 except+ aft] salad1 :5 ! table is cle>$ & crumb$ = dess]t4 ,! dess]t plates & f+] b[ls are arrang$ z = d9n]4 ,fl[]s are usually put 9 ! f+] b[ls1 a little spray ( any sweet-sc5t$ fl[]1 b corsage b\quets laid at ! places ) fl[] p9s complete are 9 v bad ta/e4 ,,! ,,lun*eon ,,m5u ,five c\rses at mo/ 7n c\nt+ ! pass+ ( a di% ( c&y or aft]-d9n] c(fee z a c\rse71 or m usually f\r actual c\rses1 are ?\ght suffici5t 9 ! sm>te/ h\ses4 ,n ev5 at ! ,worldlys' or ! ,gild+s' w y ev] see a long] m5u ?an3 #a4 ,fruit1 or s\p 9 cups #b4 ,eggs #c4 ,meat & vegetables #d4 ,salad #e4 ,dess]t or #a4 ,fruit #b4 ,s\p #c4 ,meat & vegetables #d4 ,salad #e4 ,dess]t or #a4 ,fruit #b4 ,s\p #c4 ,eggs #d4 ,f[l or tame game ) salad #e4 ,dess]t ,an in=mal lun* m5u is seldom m ?an f\r c\rses & w\ld elim9ate ei!r ,no4 #a or ,no4 #b or ,no4 #e4 ,! mo/ popul> fruit c\rse is a macdo9e or mixture ( fre% orange1 grape fruit1 malaga grapes1 banana1 & p]haps a pea* or a little p9eapple2 9 fact1 any sort ( fruit cut into v small pieces1 ) sug> & m>as*9o1 or rum1 = flavor--or no?+ b sug>--s]v$ 9 special b[l-%ap$ glasses t fit into long-/emm$ & mu* l>g] ones1 ) a space = cru%$ ice betwe52 or x c j z well be put 9 *ampagne or any b[l-%ap$ glasses1 aft] be+ kept z cold z possible 9 ! ice-box until s5t to ! table4 ,if ! fir/ c\rse is grape fruit1 x is cut across 9 half1 ! sections cut free & all divid+ sk9 & se$s tak5 out ) a %>p vegetable knife1 & sug> put 9 x & left /&+ = an h\r or s4 ,a slice ( melon is s]v$ pla94 ,s\p at lun*eon1 or at a w$d+ breakfa/ or a ball supp]1 is nev] s]v$ 9 s\p plates1 b 9 two-h&l$ cups1 & is eat5 ) a teaspoon or a b\illon spoon4 ,x is limit$ to a few v>ieties3 ei!r *ick51 or clam bro?1 ) a spoonful ( :ipp$ cream on top2 or b\illon1 or gre5 turtle1 or /ra9$ *ick51 or tomato bro?2 or 9 summ]1 cold b\illon or bro?4 ,lun* p>ty egg di%es mu/ numb] a hundr$ v>ieties4 7,see any cook book67 ,eggs t are sub/antial & ri*1 su* z eggs ,b5$ict1 or /uff$ ) pt de foie gras & a mu%room sauce1 %\ld !n be balanc$ by a simple meat1 su* z broil$ *ick5 & salad1 comb9+ meat & salad c\rses 9 "o4 ,on ! o!r h&1 %\ld y h a light egg c\rse1 l eggs surprise1 y c\ld h meat & vegetables1 & pla9 salad2 or an elaborate salad & no dess]t4 ,or ) fruit & s\p1 omit eggs1 especially if !re is to be an aspic ) salad4 ,! m5u ( an in=mal lun*eon1 if x does n leave out a c\rse1 at lea/ *ooses simpl] di%es4 ,a b\illon or bro?1 %irr$ eggs or an omelette2 or scrambl$ eggs on toa/ :i* has fir/ be5 spread ) a pt or meat pure2 !n *ick5 or a *op ) vegetables1 a salad ( pla9 lettuce ) crack]s & *eese1 & a pudd+ or pie or any o!r family dess]t4 ,or broil$ *ick51 *ick5 croquettes1 or an aspic1 is s]v$ ) ! salad 9 v hot wea!r4 ,:ile cold food is bo? appropriate & palatable1 no meal %\ld ev] be *os5 )\t at lea/ "o c\rse ( hot food4 ,_m p dislike cold food1 & x disagrees ) o!rs1 b if y (f] y\r gue/s s\p1 or ev5 tea or *ocolate1 x w\ld !n d to h ! re/ ( ! meal cold4 ,,lun*eon ,,bev]ages ,x is an ,am]ican cu/om--especially 9 communities :]e ! five o'clock tea habit is nei!r s /rong nor s univ]sal z 9 ,new ,york1 = ! lady ( a h\se to h ! tea set put be=e h] at ! table1 n only :5 alone1 b :5 hav+ fri5ds lun*+ in=mally ) h]1 & to p\r tea1 c(fee1 or *ocolate4 ,& !re is c]ta9ly n ! slighte/ reason :y1 if %e is us$ to ^! bev]ages & w\ld feel _! omission1 %e %\ld n p\r out :at %e *ooses4 ,9 fact1 al?\gh tea is nev] s]v$ hot at =mal ,new ,york lun*eons1 ic$ tea is cu/om>y 9 all c\ntry h\ses 9 summ]2 & *ocolate1 n p\r$ by ! ho/ess1 b br\ght 9 f ! pantry & put d[n at ! "r ( ea* plate1 is by no means unusual at in=mal lun* p>ties4 ,ic$ tea at lun* 9 summ] is p\r$ at ! table by a s]vant f a glass pit*]1 & is prep>$ l a cup ) lemon & sug>1 & sometimes ) cut up fre% fruit & a little squeez$ fruit juice4 ,pla9 cold tea may be pass$ 9 glasses1 & lemon & sug> sep>ately4 ,at an in=mal lun*eon1 cold c(fee1 in/ead ( tea1 is pass$ ar\nd 9 a glass pit*]1 on a tray t also holds a b[l ( p[d]$ sug> & a pit*] ( cold milk1 & ano!r ( z ?ick z possible cream4 ,! gue/s p\r _! c(fee to suit !mselves into tall glasses half full ( brok5 ice1 & furni%$ ) v long-h&l$ spoons4 ,if tea or c(fee or *ocolate are n s]v$ dur+ ! meal1 !re is always a cup ( "s sort3 grape or orange juice 79 ^! days7 ) sug> & m9t leaves1 & g+] ale or c>bonic wat]4 ,if dess]t is a hot pudd+ or pa/ry1 ! hotel s]vice ( dess]t plates %\ld be us$4 ,! glass plate is p>ticul>ly suitable = ice cream or any cold dess]t1 b is apt to crack if int5sely hot food is put on x4 ,,details ,,( ,,etiquette ,,at ,,lun*eons ,g5tlem5 leave _! coats1 hats1 /icks1 9 ! hall2 ladies leave heavy out] wraps 9 ! hall1 or dress+-room1 b always g into ! draw+-room ) _! hats & gloves on4 ,!y we> _! fur neck pieces & c>ry _! muffs 9 _! h&s1 if !y *oose1 or !y leave !m 9 ! hall or dress+-room4 ,b fa%ionable ladies nev] take (f _! hats4 ,ev5 ! ho/ess h]self almo/ inv>iably we>s a hat at a =mal lun*eon 9 h] own h\se1 ?\gh !re is no reason :y %e %\ld n be hatless if %e pref]s1 or if %e ?9ks %e is pretti] )\t6 ,gue/s1 h[ev]1 d n take (f _! hats at a lun* p>ty ev5 9 ! c\ntry4 ,!y take (f _! gloves at ! table1 or soon] if !y *oose1 & ei!r remove or turn up1 _! veils4 ,! ho/ess does n we> gloves1 ev]4 ,x is also v unsuitable = a ho/ess to we> a face veil 9 h] own h\se1 unless !re is some?+ ! matt] ) h] face1 t mu/ n be subject$ to view6 ,a ho/ess 9 a veil does n give h] gue/s ! impression ( veil$ beauty1 b ! contr>y4 ,gue/s1 on ! o!r h&1 may ) p]fect fitness keep _! veils on ?r\gh\t ! meal1 m]ely fa/5+ ! l[] edge up ov] _! noses4 ,!y mu/ n all[ a veil to hang loose1 & c>ry food "u & beh9d x1 nor mu/ !y eat ) gloves on4 ,a veil kept p]si/5tly ov] ! face1 & gloves kept p]si/5tly ov] ! h&s1 means "o ?+3 ,ugl9ess beh9d4 ,s unless y h to--don't6 ,! we>+ ( elaborate dresses at lun*eons has gone entirely out ( fa%ion2 & yet "o does once 9 a :ile see an occasional lady--r>ely a ,new ,york]--:o out%9es a bird ( p>adise & a jewel]'s w9d[2 b ,new ,york wom5 ( di/9ction we> r simple clo!s--simple mean+ untrimm$1 n inexp5sive4 ,v conspicu\s clo!s are *os5 ei!r by ! new ri*1 to assure !mselves ( _! own elegance--:i* is utt]ly lack+--or by ! muttons dress$ lamb-fa%ion1 to assure !mselves ( _! own y\?--:i* alas1 is gone6 ,g5tlem5 at lun*eon 9 t[n on a ,sunday we> cutaway coats2 9 o!r words1 :at !y we> to *ur*4 ,on a ,saturday1 !y we> _! bus9ess suits1 sack coat ) ei!r /iff or pleat$-bosom %irts1 & a />*$ coll>4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 !y we> c\ntry clo!s4 ,illu/ration3 ,,at ,,an ,,in=mal ,,d9n] ,,! ,,table ,,appo9tm5ts ,,are ,,equally ,,f9e ,,& ,,beautiful1 ,,?\gh ,,possibly ,,n ,,q ,,s ,,r>e4 ,page #bbh4 ,,:at ,,! ,,s]vants ,,we> ,a butl] we>s 8 morn+ clo!s2 cutaway coat1 gray /rip$ tr\s]s1 high black wai/coat1 black tie4 ,a hir$ wait] we>s a dress suit1 b nev] a butl] 9 a sm>t h\se2 he does n put on 8 ev5+ clo!s until aft] six o'clock4 ,9 a sm>t h\se1 ! footm5 we> _! dress liv]ies1 & a waitress & o!r maids we> _! be/ uni=ms4 ,,! ,,gue/s ,,leave ,! usual lun* h\r is half pa/ "o4 ,by a qu>t] to ?ree ! la/ gue/ is inv>iably gone1 unless1 ( c\rse1 x is a bridge lun*eon1 or = "s o!r reason !y are /ay+ long]4 ,f half an h\r to ?ree-qu>t]s at ! table1 & f tw5ty m9utes to half an h\r's conv]sation aft]w>ds1 means t by half pa/ two 7if lun* 0 prompt7 gue/s beg9 leav+4 ,once 9 a :ile1 especially at a mix$ lun* :]e p]haps tal5t$ p are p]suad$ to become ent]ta9]s ! audi5ce /ays on = h\rs6 ,b su* p>ties are s out ( ! usual t !y h no?+ to d ) ! ord9>y proc$ure1 :i* is to leave ab\t tw5ty m9utes aft] ! end ( ! meal4 ,! details = leav+ are also ! same z = d9n]s4 ,"o lady rises & says good-by1 ! ho/ess rises & %akes h&s & r+s a bell 7if necess>y7 = ! s]vant to be 9 ! hall to op5 ! door4 ,:5 "o gue/ gets up to g1 ! o!rs inv>iably foll[4 ,!y say ,good-by & ,?ank y s mu*4 ,or1 at a little lun*eon1 intimate fri5ds (t5 /ay on indef9itely2 b :5 lun*+ ) an acqua9tance "o %\ld nev] /ay a mom5t long] ?an ! o!r gue/s4 ,! gue/ :o sits on & on1 unless e>ne/ly press$ to d s1 is want+ 9 tact & social s5se4 ,if a ho/ess invites a /rang] :o might by any *ance prove a b>nacle1 %e c provide = ! cont+5cy by in/ruct+ h] butl] or waitress to tell h] :5 h] c> is at ! door4 ,%e !n says3 ,i _h to h ! c> ann\nc$1 because ,i h an appo9tm5t at ! doctor's4 ,d wait :ile ,i put on my ?+s--,i %all be only a mom5t6 ,& ,i c take y :]ev] y want to g6 ,?is exp$i5t %\ld n be us$ :5 a ho/ess has leisure to sit at home1 b on ! o!r h&1 a gue/ %\ld nev] create an awkw>d situation = h] ho/ess by /ay+ too long4 ,9 ! c\ntry :]e p live miles ap>t1 !y naturally /ay some:at long] ?an 9 t[n4 ,or two or ?ree intimate fri5ds :o p]haps 7especially 9 ! c\ntry7 come to sp5d ! day1 are n b\nd by rules ( etiquette b by ! rules ( _! own & _! ho/ess' p]sonal pref]5ce4 ,!y take (f _! hats or n z !y *oose1 & !y br+ _! sew+ or knitt+ & sit all day1 or !y g out & play games1 & 9 o!r ways behave z h\se-gue/s r ?an visitors at lun*eon4 ,! only rule ab\t su* an in=mal ga!r+ z ?is is1 t no "o %\ld ev] g & sp5d ! day & make h]self at home unless %e is 9 ! h\se ( a really v intimate fri5d or relative1 or unless %e has be5 especially & specifically invit$ to d t v ?+4 ,,! ,,/&-,,up ,,lun*eon ,?is is no?+ m nor less ?an a buffet lun*4 ,x is popul> because x is a v in=mal & jolly sort ( p>ty--an indoor picnic really--& nev] attempt$ except among p :o "k ea* o!r well4 ,! food is all put on ! d9+ table & e "o helps himself4 ,!re is always b\illon or oy/] /ew or clam *[d]4 ,! mo/ in=mal di%es are suitable = ?is sort ( a meal1 z = a picnic4 ,!re are two hot di%es & a salad1 & a dess]t :i* may be1 b seldom is1 ice cream4 ,/&-up lun*eons are v practical = ho/esses :o h m$ium siz$ h\ses1 or :5 an ela/ic numb] ( gue/s are expect$ at ! "t ( a ball game1 or o!r ev5t t congregates a great _m p4 ,a hunt breakfa/ is usually a /&-up lun*eon4 ,x is a breakfa/ by c\rtesy ( half an h\r 9 "t4 ,at twelve-?irty x is breakfa/1 at "o o'clock x is lun*4 ,regul> weekly /&-up lun*eons are giv5 by hospitable p :o h big places 9 ! c\ntry & enc\rage _! fri5ds to drive ov] on "s especial day :5 !y are at home--,saturdays or ,sundays g5]ally--& intimate fri5ds drop 9 un9vit$1 b always prep>$ =4 ,on su* occasions1 lun*eon is made a little m com=table by provid+ innum]able individual tables to :i* p c c>ry ! plates1 glasses or cups & sit d[n 9 com=t4 ,,supp]s ,supp] is ! mo/ intimate meal !re is1 & s9ce none b family or close/ fri5ds are ev] includ$1 invitations are inv>iably by ^w ( m\?4 ,! atmosph]e ( a lun*eon is (t5 =mal1 b in=mal lun*eons & supp]s diff] 9 no?+ except day & ev5+ lights1 & clo!s4 ,/rang]s are occasionally invit$ to in=mal lun*eons1 b only intimate fri5ds are bidd5 to supp]4 ,,! ,,supp] ,,table ,! table is set1 z to places & nap]y1 exactly l ! lun* table1 ) ! addition ( c&le/icks or c&elabra z at d9n]4 ,:]e supp] diff]s f ! usual lun* table is t 9 front ( ! ho/ess is a big silv] tea-tray ) full silv] s]vice = tea or cocoa or *ocolate or breakfa/ c(fee1 mo/ (t5 *ocolate or cocoa & ei!r tea or c(fee4 ,at ! ho/'s end ( ! table !re is p]haps a *af+ di%--t is1 if ! ho/ fancies himself a cook6 ,a numb] ( p ^: e/abli%m5ts are n v l>ge1 h v in=mal ,sunday night supp]s on _! s]vants' ,sundays out1 & =age = !mselves4 ,! table is left set1 a cold di% ( some?+ & salad are left 9 ! icebox2 ! +r$i5ts = "o or two *af+ di% specialties are also left ready4 ,at supp] "t a memb] ( ! family1 & possibly an intimate fri5d or two1 c>ry ! di%es to ! table & make hot toa/ on a toa/]4 ,?is k9d ( supp] is1 9 fact z well z _s1 an indoor picnic2 ?\ght to be ! greate/ fun by ! ,k9dh>ts1 b little appreciat$ by ! ,gild+s1 :i* br+s x d[n1 ) s _m o!r social cu/oms1 to a m]e matt] ( p]sonal ta/e4 ,,*apt] ,,xvii ,,balls ,,& ,,dances ,a ball is ! only social function 9 ,am]ica to :i* su* qualify+ words z spl5dor & magnific5ce c ) prop] mode/y ( expression be appli$4 ,ev5 ! mo/ elaborate w$d+ is n q a sc5e ( spl5dor & magnific5ce no matt] h[ luxuri\s ! decorations or h[ co/ly ! dress ( ! bride & bridesmaids1 because ! majority ( ! w$d+ gue/s d n complete ! picture4 ,a d9n] may be lavi%1 a dance may be beautiful1 b a ball alone is prodigal1 mean+1 ( c\rse1 a private ball ( greate/ importance4 ,on r>e occasions1 a great ball is giv5 9 a private h\se1 b s9ce few h\ses are big en\gh to provide danc+ space = sev]al hundr$ & sit-d[n supp] space = a great] numb] /ill1 besides smok+-room1 dress+-room & sitt+-ab\t space1 x w\ld seem logical to describe a typical ball z tak+ place 9 ! ballroom suite built = ! purpose 9 ne>ly all hotels4 ,a ,,ho/ess ,,prep>es ,,to ,,give ,a ,,ball ,! ho/ess :o is n giv+ ! ball 9 h] own h\se goes fir/ ( all to see ! manag] ( ! hotel 7or ( :atev] suitable assembly rooms !re may be7 & f9ds out :i* ev5+s are available4 ,%e !n telephones--probably f ! manag]'s (fice--& engages ! two be/ or*e/ras = :i*ev] ev5+ bo? ! or*e/ras & ! ballroom are at h] disposal4 ,( ! two1 music is ( m importance ?an rooms4 ,) p]fect music ! success ( a ball is m ?an ?ree-qu>t]s assur$2 )\t x1 ! mo/ beautiful decorations & mo/ delici\s supp] are z flat z a fall5 s\ffl4 ,y _c give a ball or a dance t is any?+ b a dull prom5ade if y h dull music4 ,to illu/rate ! importance t prom95t ho/esses atta* to music3 a c]ta9 or*e/ra 9 ,new ,york to-day is =c$ to da% almo/ daily1 n alone f p>ty to p>ty1 b f city to city4 ,"t & aga9 its lead] has conduct$ ! music at a noon w$d+ 9 ,philadelphia1 & a ball 9 ,bo/on2 or a danc+ tea 9 ,provid5ce & a ball t ev5+ 9 ,new ,york2 because ,bo/on1 ,provid5ce1 ,new ,york & ,philadelphia ho/esses all at ! pres5t mom5t clamor = ?is "o especial or*e/ra4 ,! m5 h a little m respite ?an ! lead] s9ce x is 8 lead+ t e "o insi/s ^u4 ,tomorr[ ano!r or*e/ra w probably make ! daily t\r ( v>i\s cities' ballrooms4 ,at all balls1 !re mu/ be two or*e/ras1 s t ea* "t "o f9i%es play+ ! o!r beg9s4 ,at v dignifi$ private balls1 danc]s %\ld n /& 9 ! middle ( ! floor & clap z !y d 9 a dance hall or cab>et if ! music ends4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ! music %\ld n end4 ,hav+ secur$ ! music & engag$ ! ballroom1 reception rooms1 dress+-rooms & smok+-room1 z well z ! ma9 re/aurant 7aft] x is clos$ to ! public71 ! ho/ess next makes out h] li/ & ord]s & s5ds out h] invitations4 ,,invitations ,! fundam5tal diff]5ce betwe5 a ball & a dance is t p ( all ages are ask$ to a ball1 :ile only ^? ( approximately "o age are ask$ to a dance4 ,once 9 a :ile a ball is giv5 to :i* ! ho/ess invites e p]son on h] visit+ li/4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ti!r+ton de ,puy/] give "o e season1 :i* al?\gh a cr$it to _! int5tions is seldom a cr$it to _! s5se ( beauty6 ,snobbi% z x s\nds & is1 a brilliant ball is necess>ily a collection ( brilliantly fa%ionable p1 & ! ho/ess :o ga!rs 9 all ! oddly assort$ frumps on ! outskirts ( society _c expect to a*ieve a v di/+ui%$ result4 ,ball invitations prop]ly include all ( ! p]sonal fri5ds ( ! ho/ess no matt] :at _! age1 & all h] bett]-kn[n social acqua9tances--mean+ e "o %e w\ld be likely to invite to a =mal d9n]4 ,%e does n usually invite a lady ) :om %e may "w on a *>itable committee1 ev5 ?\gh %e may "k h] well1 & l h]4 ,! "q z to :e!r an outsid] may be invit$ is n a matt] ( a ho/ess' own incl9ation s mu* z a "q :e!r ! outsid] w\ld be agreeable to all ! insid]s :o are com+4 ,if ! co-work] is 9 ev]y?+ a lady & a fitt+ ornam5t to society1 ! ho/ess might v possibly ask h]4 ,if ! ball to be giv5 is = a dbutante1 all ! dbutantes ^: mo!rs are on ! g5]al visit+ li/ are ask$ z well z all "y danc+ m5 9 ^! same families4 ,9 o!r words ! *ildr5 ( all ^? ^: names are on ! g5]al visit+ li/ ( a ho/ess are select$ to receive invitations1 b ! p>5ts on ^: /&+ ! daught]s & sons are ask$1 are r>ely invit$4 ,:5 a ,li/ is ,borr[$ ,a lady :o has a dbutante daught]1 b :o has n giv5 any g5]al p>ties = ye>s--or ev]1 & ^: daught]1 hav+ be5 away at bo>d+-s*ool or abroad1 has !re=e v few acqua9tances ( h] own1 mu/ necess>ily 9 s5d+ out invitations to a ball take ! li/ ( "y girls & m5 f a fri5d or a memb] ( h] family4 ,?is ( c\rse c\ld only be done by a ho/ess ^: position is unque/ion$1 b hav+ _h no occasion to keep a "y p's li/1 %e has n ! lea/ idea :o ! "y p ( ! mom5t are1 & takes a %ort-cut z above4 ,o!rwise %e w\ld s5d invitations to *ildr5 ( t5 & sp9/]s ( =ty1 tru/+ to _! be+ ( suitable age4 ,to take a family or intimate fri5d's li/ is also important to ! unaccu/om$ ho/ess1 because to leave out any ( ! y\ng] set :o belong 9 ! gr\ps :i* are includ$1 is n ! way to make a p>ty a success4 ,^? :o don't f9d _! fri5ds g home1 or /ay & are bor$1 & ! :ole p>ty sags 9 consequ5ce4 ,s t if a ho/ess kn[s ! p>5ts p]sonally (1 let u say1 eighty p] c5t4 ( "y society1 %e c q prop]ly include ! tw5ty p] c5t4 %e does n "k1 s t ! hundr$ p] c5t4 c come toge!r4 ,9 a small community x is r cruel to leave out any ( ! "y p ^: fri5ds are all invit$4 ,9 a v great city on ! o!r h&1 an habitual ho/ess does n ask any to h] h\se :om %e does n "k1 b %e c ( c\rse be z g5]\s z %e *ooses 9 all[+ "y p to h invitations = fri5ds4 ,ask+ = an ,invitation to a ,ball ,x is always p]missible to ask a ho/ess if y may br+ a danc+ man :o is a /rang] to h]4 ,x is r difficult to ask = an invitation = an extra girl1 & /ill m difficult to ask = old] p1 because ! ho/ess has no gr\nd on :i* %e c refuse )\t be+ rude2 %e c't say !re is no room s9ce no dance is really limit$1 & lea/ ( all a ball4 ,m5 :o dance are always an asset1 & ! m ! bett]2 b a /range "y girl hung ar\nd ! neck ( ! ho/ess is ab\t z welcome z a fog at a g>d5 p>ty4 ,if ! girl is to be br\ght & look$ aft] by ! lady ask+ = ! invitation--:o has h]self be5 already invit$--t is ano!r matt]1 & ! ho/ess c n well object4 ,or if ! "y girl is ! fiance ( ! man ^: "m asks = ! invitation1 t is all "r too2 s9ce he w und\bt$ly come ) h] & see t %e is n left alone4 ,invitations = old] p are nev] ask$ = unless !y are r di/+ui%$ /rang]s & unque/ionably suitable4 ,invitations are nev] ask$ = p]sons :om ! ho/ess already kn[s1 s9ce if %e _h c>$ to invite !m %e w\ld h done s4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 n at all out ( ! way = an intimate fri5d to rem9d h] ( "s "o :o 9 receiv+ no invitation has m ?an likely be5 ov]look$4 ,if ! omission 0 int5tional1 no?+ ne$ be said2 if x 0 an ov]sight1 ! ho/ess is v glad to repair h] =getfulness4 ,invitations = ,/rang]s ,an invitation t has be5 ask$ = a /rang] is s5t direct & )\t comm5t4 ,= in/ance1 :5 ! ,greatlakes ( ,*icago came to ,new ,york = a few weeks1 ,mrs4 ,norman ask$ bo? ,mrs4 ,worldly & ,mrs4 ,gild+ to s5d !m invitations2 "o to a musicale & ! o!r to a ball4 ,! ,greatlakes receiv$ ^! invitations )\t ,mrs4 ,norman's c>d enclos$ or any o!r ^w ( explanation1 z x 0 tak5 = grant$ t ,mrs4 ,norman w\ld tell ! ,greatlakes t x 0 ?r\gh h] t ! invitations 7 s5t4 ,! ,greatlakes said ,?ank y v mu* = ask+ u :5 !y bid _! ho/ess good night1 & !y also left _! c>ds imm$iately on ! ,worldlys & ,gild+s aft] ! p>ties--b x 0 also ! duty ( ,mrs4 ,norman to ?ank bo? ho/esses--v]bally--= s5d+ ! invitations4 ,,decorations ,s f> z good ta/e is conc]n$1 ! decorations = a ball _c be too lavi% or beautiful4 ,to be sure !y %\ld n be lavi% if "o's purse is limit$1 b if "o's purse is really limit$1 "o %\ld n give a ball6 ,a small dance or a danc+ tea w\ld be m suitable4 ,ball decorations h on occasions be5 lit]ally a/\nd+1 b z a rule no elaboration is und]tak5 o!r ?an hang+ gre5s & fl[]s ov] ! edge ( ! gall]y1 if !re is a gall]y1 bank+ palms 9 corn]s1 & putt+ up %eaves ( fl[]s or trail+ v9es :]ev] mo/ effective4 ,9 any ev5t ! ho/ess consults h] flori/1 b if ! decorations are to be v important1 an ar*itect or an arti/ is put 9 *>ge1 ) a flori/ "u him4 ,,! ,,ball ,,beautiful ,c]ta9 s\nds1 p]fumes1 places1 always br+ associat$ pictures to m9d3 ,re/aurant supp]s2 ,p>is6 ,di/+ui%$-look+ audi5ces2 ,london6 ,! ess5ce ( *>m 9 society2 ,rome6 ,beguil+ & in=mal joy\sness2 ,san ,francisco6 ,recklessness2 ,colorado ,spr+s6 ,! aft]noon visit2 ,wa%+ton6 ,hectic & spl5did gaiety2 ,new ,york6 ,beautiful balls2 ,bo/on6 ,!re are ?ree reasons 7probably m7 :y ! balls 9 ,bo/on h :at c be describ$ only by ! ^w quality4 ,! ^w elegance be=e x 0 misus$ out ( exi/5ce express$ x ev5 bett]4 ,fir/3 ,be/ ,society 9 ,bo/on hav+ kept its social walls intact1 grant+ admission only to ^? ( bir? & bre$+1 has !re=e pres]v$ a quality ( unmi/akable cultivation4 ,!re are und\bt$ly o!r cities1 especially 9 ! ,s\?1 :i* h also kept _! walls up & _! traditions intact--b ,bo/on has be5 ! wise virg9 z well1 & has kept h] lamp fill$4 ,second3 ,bo/on ho/esses ( position h nev] fail$ to dem& ( ^? :o w\ld rema9 on _! li/s1 /rict ob$i5ce to ! t5ets ( c]emonies & dignifi$ behavior2 nor ceas$ !mselves to cultivate some?+ ( ! gr& mann] t %\ld be ! bir?right ( e ?or\ghbr$ lady & g5tleman4 ,?ird3 ,bo/on's old] ladies & g5tlem5 always dance at balls1 & !y nei!r rock ar\nd ! floor1 nor take _! danc+ viol5tly4 ,& ! fact t old] ladies ( di/9ction dance ) dignity1 has an inevitable effect ^u y\ng] ones1 s t at balls at lea/1 danc+ has n deg5]at$ into gymna/ics or contortions4 ,! extreme rev]se ( a sm>t ,bo/on ball is "o--no matt] :]e--:i* has a roomful ( p :o deport !mselves abom9ably1 :o greet ea* o!r by wav+ _! arms al(t1 :o dance l ,apa*es or jiggl+ music-box figures1 & :o sc>cely sugge/ an assemblage ( ev5 dec5t--let alone well-br$--p4 ,,supp] ,a sit-d[n supp] t is s]v$ cont9u\sly = two or ?ree h\rs1 is ! mo/ elaborate ball supp]4 ,next 9 importance is ! sit-d[n supp] at a set "t4 ,?ird1 ! buffet supp] :i* is s]v$ at dances b n at balls4 ,at ! mo/ fa%ionable ,new ,york balls1 supp] s]vice beg9s at "o & cont9ues until ?ree & p g :5 !y feel l x4 ,! re/aurant is clos$ to ! public at "o o'clock2 ! entrance is !n curta9$ or %ut (f f ! re/ ( ! hotel4 ,! tables are decorat$ ) fl[]s & ! supp] s]vice op5$ = ! ball gue/s4 ,gue/s sit :]e !y please1 ei!r mak+ up a table1 or a man & 8 p>tn] f9d+ a place :]ev] !re are two vacant *airs4 ,at a private ball gue/s d n pay = any?+ or sign supp] *ecks1 or tip ! wait]1 s9ce ! re/aurant is = ! "t be+ ! private d9+-room ( ! ho/ & ho/ess4 ,at a sit-d[n supp] at a set h\r1 ! *oice ( m5u is unlimit$1 b supp]s are nev] z elaborate n[ z !y us$ to be4 ,ye>s ago few balls 7 giv5 )\t t]rap91 & a supp] )\t *ampagne 0 z unhe>d (4 ,9 fact1 *ampagne 0 ! heavie/ item ( exp5diture always4 ,decorations might be v limit$1 b *ampagne 0 z ess5tial z music6 ,cotillion favors 7 also an important item :i* no long] exi/s2 & *ampagne has gone its way ) nect>1 to ! l& ( fable1 s t if y elim9ate elaborate decorations1 ball-giv+ is n half ! exp5se x us$ to be4 ,,= ,a ,,sit-,,d[n ,,supp] ,,t ,,is ,,cont9u\s ,:5 ! s]vice ( supp] cont9ues = sev]al h\rs1 x is necess>y to select food t c be kept hot indef9itely )\t be+ spoil$4 ,birds or broil$ *ick51 :i* %\ld be eat5 ! mom5t !y are cook$1 are !re=e unsuitable4 ,di%es prep>$ 9 sauce keep be/1 su* z lob/] ,newburg1 sweetbreads & mu%rooms1 *ick5 la ,k+1 or cream$ oy/]s4 ,pts are satisfactory z ! %ells c be heat$ 9 a mom5t & hot cream$ *ick5 or oy/]s p\r$ 94 ,( c\rse all cold di%es & salads c /& 9 ! pantry or on a buffet table all ev5+4 ,! m5u = supp] at a ball is entirely a matt] ( ! ho/ess' selection1 b :e!r x is s]v$ at "o "t or cont9u\sly1 ! supp] m5u at an important ball includes3 #a4 ,b\illon or gre5 turtle 7cle>7 9 cups4 #b4 ,lob/] a la ,newburg 7or t]rap9 or oy/] pt or ano!r hot di% ( %ell-fi% or f[l74 #c4 ,a second *oice hot di% ( "s sort1 squab1 *ick5 & peas 7if supp] is s]v$ at a special h\r7 or croquettes & peas if cont9u\s4 #d4 ,salad1 :i* includes e v>iety kn[n1 ) or )\t an aspic4 #e4 ,individual ices1 fancy cakes4 #f4 ,black c(fee 9 little cups4 ,breakfa/ s]v$ at ab\t f\r 9 ! morn+ & consi/+ ( scrambl$ eggs ) sausages or bacon & breakfa/ c(fee & rolls is an occasional cu/om at bo? dances & balls4 ,!re is always an enorm\s glass b[l ( pun* or orangeade--sometimes two or ?ree b[ls ea* conta9+ a diff]5t ic$ dr9k--9 a room adjo9+ ! ballroom4 ,& 9 v cold climates x is ! ?\ghtful cu/om ( "s ho/esses to h a cup ( hot *ocolate or b\illon (f]$ ea* dep>t+ gue/4 ,?is is an especially welcome att5tion to ^? :o h a long drive home4 ,a ,,dance ,a dance is m]ely a ball on a small] scale1 few] p are ask$ to x & x has usually1 b n necess>ily1 simpl] decorations4 ,b ! real diff]5ce is t invitations to balls always include old] p--z _m if n m ?an y\ng] ones--:]eas invitations to a dance = a dbutante1 = in/ance1 include none b v "y girls1 "y m5 & ! m]e/ h&ful ( ! ho/ess' mo/ intimate fri5ds4 ,supp] may equally be a simple buffet or an elaborate sit-d[n "o1 dep5d+ ^u ! size & type ( ! h\se4 ,or a dance may equally well z a ball be giv5 9 ! banquet or small] ballroom ( a hotel1 or 9 ! assembly or ballroom ( a club4 ,a =mal dance diff]s f an in=mal "o m]ely 9 elaboration1 & 9 :e!r ! majority ( ^? pres5t are /rang]s to "o ano!r2 a really in=mal dance is "o to :i* only ^? :o "k "o ano!r well are invit$4 ,,details ,,( ,,prep>ation ,,= ,a ,,ball ,,or ,,dance ,,9 ,a ,,private ,,h\se ,!re is always an awn+ & a r$ c>pet d[n ! /eps 7or up71 & a *auffeur to op5 ! c>riage doors & a policeman or detective to see t /rang]s d n walk un9vit$ into ! h\se4 ,if !re is a great cru%1 !re is a detective 9 ! hall to inve/igate anyone :o does n h himself ann\nc$ to ! ho/ess4 ,all ! necess>y appurt5ances su* z awn+1 r$ c>pet1 coat hang+ racks1 ballroom *airs1 z well z crock]y1 glass1 napk9s1 wait]s & food are suppli$ by hotels or cat]]s4 7,except+ 9 h\ses l ! ,gild+s1' :]e footm5's liv]ies are kept purposely1 ! cat]]'s m5 are nev] 9 footm5's liv]ies47 ,unless a h\se has a ballroom ! room select$ = danc+ mu/ h all ! furniture mov$ out ( x2 & if !re are adjo9+ rooms & ! danc+ room is n especially big1 x adds consid]ably to ! floor space to put no *airs ar\nd x4 ,^? :o dance seldom sit ar\nd a ballroom anyway1 & ! m in=mal gr\p+ ( *airs 9 ! hall or libr>y is a bett] arrangem5t ?an ! wa9scot r[ or wall-fl[] exposition gr\nds4 ,! floor1 x goes )\t say+1 mu/ be smoo? & wax$1 & no "o %\ld attempt to give a dance ^: h\se is n big en\gh4 ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,! ,,ballroom ,new ,york's invitations are usually = t5 o'clock b fir/ gue/s d n appe> be=e t5-?irty & mo/ p arrive at ab\t elev5 or aft]4 ,! ho/ess1 h[ev]1 mu/ be ready to receive on ! /roke ( ! h\r specifi$ 9 h] invitations1 & ! dbutante or any "o ! ball may be giv5 =1 mu/ also be ) h]4 ,x is n cu/om>y to put ! dbutante's "n on ! =mal ,at ,home invitation1 & x is ev5 occasionally omitt$ on invitations t reque/ ! pleasure ( ---- s t ! only way acqua9tances c "k ! ball is be+ giv5 = ! daught] is by see+ h] /&+ beside h] "m4 ,mr4 ,mrs4 ,rob]t ,gild+ reque/ ! pleasure ( ,"n ( gue/ is writt5 "h company on ,tuesday1 ! tw5ty-sev5? ( ,decemb] at t5 o'clock at ! ,fitz-,*]ry ,danc+ ,r4s4v4p4 ,tw5ty-?ree ,ea/ ,laurel ,/reet ,! ho/ess nev] leaves h] po/1 :]ev] x is %e is /&+1 until %e goes to supp]4 ,if1 z at ! ,ritz 9 ,new ,york1 ! ballroom op5s on a foy] at ! head ( a /airway1 ! ho/ess always receives at ?is place4 ,9 a private h\se :]e gue/s g up 9 an elevator to ! dress+ rooms1 & !n walk d[n to ! ballroom floor1 ! ho/ess receives ei!r at ! foot ( ! /airway1 or j outside ! ballroom4 ,,! ,,ho/ess ,,at ,a ,,ball ,gue/s arriv+ are ann\nc$1 z at a d9n] or aft]noon tea1 & aft] %ak+ h&s ) ! ho/ess1 !y mu/ pass on into ! ballroom4 ,x is n etiquette to l+] beside ! ho/ess = m ?an a mom5t1 especially if lat] arrivals are be+ ann\nc$4 ,a /rang] ought nev] g to a ball alone1 z ! ho/ess is p[]less to look aft] any especial gue/s2 h] duty be+ to /& 9 "o precise place & receive4 ,a /rang] :o is a p>ticul> fri5d ( ! ho/ess w\ld be look$ aft] by ! ho/2 b a /rang] :o is invit$ ?r\gh ano!r gue/ %\ld be look$ aft] by t o!r4 ,a g5tleman :o has receiv$ an invitation ?r\gh a fri5d is usually accompani$ by ! fri5d :o pres5ts him4 ,o!rwise :5 ! butl] ann\nces him to ! ho/ess1 he b[s1 & says ,mrs4 ,norman ask$ y if ,i might come4 ,& ! ho/ess %akes h&s & says ,h[ d y d1 ,i am v glad to see y4 ,if o!r "y m5 or any "y girls are /&+ ne>1 ! ho/ess v likely introduces him4 ,o!rwise1 if he kn[s no "o1 he waits among ! /ags until 8 own p>ticul> sponsor appe>s4 ,aft] supp]1 :5 %e is no long] receiv+1 ! ho/ess is free to talk ) h] fri5ds & give h] att5tion to ! roomful ( "y p :o are actually 9 h] *>ge4 ,:5 h] gue/s leave %e does n g back to :]e %e receiv$1 b /&s :]ev] %e happ5s to be1 %akes h&s & says ,good night4 ,!re is "o occasion :5 x is bett] n to bid "o's ho/ess good night1 & t is1 if "o f9ds h] p>ty dull & leaves aga9 imm$iately2 9 ?is "o case x is m polite to slip away s z to attract ! lea/ att5tion possible1 b late 9 ! ev5+ x is inexcusably ill mann]$ n to f9d h] & say ,good night & ,?ank y4 ,! duty ( see+ t gue/s are look$ aft]1 t %y y\?s are pres5t$ to p>tn]s1 t %y] girls are n left on ! f> wall-fl[] outpo/s1 t ! d[ag]s are tak5 9 to supp]1 & t ! eld]ly g5tlem5 are provid$ ) good cig>s 9 ! smok+-room1 falls to ! ho/ & 8 son or son-9-law1 or any o!r ne> male memb] ( ! family4 ,,masqu]ade ,,v\*]s ,v\*]s or tickets ( admission l ^? s5t ) invitations to assembly or public balls %\ld be enclos$ 9 invitations to a masqu]ade2 x w\ld be too easy o!rwise = di%one/ or o!r undesirable p]sons to ga9 admittance4 ,if v\*]s are n s5t ) ! invitations1 or bett] yet1 mail$ aft]w>ds to all ^? :o h accept$1 x is necess>y t ! ho/ess receive h] gue/s s+ly 9 a small private room & reque/ ea* to unmask be=e h]4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,walk ,,across ,a ,,ballroom ,if y analyze ! precepts laid d[n by etiquette y w f9d t = ea* !re is a p]fectly good reason4 ,ye>s ago a lady nev] walk$ across a ballroom floor )\t ! support ( a g5tleman's arm1 :i* 0 mu* easi] ?an walk+ alone across a v slipp]y surface 9 high-heel$ slipp]s4 ,:5 ! late ,w>d ,mc,allister classifi$ ,new ,york society z hav+ f\r hundr$ p :o 7 at ease 9 a ballroom1 he indicat$ t ! ballroom 0 ! te/ ( ! be/ mann]s4 ,he also said at a d9n]--aft] 8 book 0 publi%$ & ! c\ntry _h already made ,new ,york's ,f\r ,hundr$ a !me = c>toons & je/s--t among ! ,f\r hundr$ :o 7 at ease1 n m ?an t5 c\ld gracefully cross a ballroom floor alone4 ,if 8 gho/ is haunt+ ! ballrooms ( our "t1 x is c]ta9 ! numb] is /ill fur!r r$uc$4 ,! a?letic "y woman ( to-day /rides across ! ballroom floor z ?\gh %e 7 on ! golf c\rse2 ! happy-g-lucky "o ambles--%\ld]s /oop$1 arms sw++1 hips & head 9 advance ( *e/2 o!rs trot1 o!rs %uffle1 o!rs make a ru% = x4 ,! "y girl :o c\ld walk across a room ) ! consummate grace ( ,mrs4 ,oldname 7:o z a girl ( eighte5 0 "o ( ,mr4 ,mc,allister's t57 w\ld h to be v assidu\sly s\ght =4 ,h[ does ,mrs4 ,oldname walk8 ,"o might answ] by describ+ h[ ,pavl[a dances4 ,h] body is p]fectly balanc$1 %e holds h]self /raight1 & yet 9 no?+ sugge/s a ramrod4 ,%e takes /eps ( m$ium l5g?1 &1 l all p :o move & dance well1 walks f ! hip1 n ! knee4 ,on no acc\nt does %e sw+ h] arms1 nor does %e re/ a h& on h] hip6 ,nor :5 walk+1 does %e wave h] h&s ab\t 9 ge/iculation4 ,"s "o ask$ h] if %e _h ev] be5 taught to cross a ballroom floor4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 %e _h4 ,h] gr&mo!r1 :o 0 a ,topl(ty1 made all h] gr&*ildr5 walk daily across a poli%$ floor ) s&-bags on _! heads4 ,& ! old lady direct$ ! drill h]self4 ,no %uffl+ ( feet & no /amp+1 ei!r2 no waggl+ ( hips1 no sw++ ( arms1 & n a %\ld] /oop$4 ,fur!rmore1 !y 7 taught to ent] a room & to sit = an indef9ite p]iod 9 self-effac+ sil5ce :ile _! eld]s 7 talk+4 ,old] g5tlem5 /ill give _! arms to old] ladies 9 all prom5ad+ at a ball1 s9ce ! cu/oms ( a lifetime are n brok5 by "o %ort & mod]n g5]ation4 ,^? ( to-day walk side by side1 except 9 go+ d[n to supp] :5 supp] is at a set h\r4 ,at public balls :5 !re is a gr& m>*1 ladies take g5tlem5's arms4 ,,di/9ction ,,vani%$ ,,) ,,cotillion ,! glitt]+ display ( t9sel sat9 favors t us$ to be ! featur$ & gaye/ decoration ( e ballroom1 is gone2 ! cotillion lead]1 8 h&s full ( seat *ecks1 8 mann]s a cross betwe5 ^? ( ,"l ,*e/]field & a traffic policeman1 is gone2 & mu* ( ! di/9ction t us$ to be *>act]i/ic ( ! ballroom is gone ) ! cotillion4 ,!re is no "q t a cotillion 0 pretti] to look at ?an a mob sc5e ( danc]s cr[d+ ea* o!r = e few in*es ( progress4 ,! reason :y cotillions 7 conducive to good mann]s 0 t p 7 on exhibition1 :]e n[ !y are unnotic$ compon5ts ( a g5]al cr[d4 ,:5 only a six?1 at mo/1 ( ^? 9 ! room danc$ :ile o!rs _h no?+ to d b wat* !m1 x 0 only natural t ^? on exhibition %\ld dance z well z !y possibly c\ld1 & s9ce _! walk+ across ! room & ask+ o!rs to dance by (f]+ a favor 0 also wat*$1 grace ( deportm5t & correct mann]s 7 n likely to det]iorate1 ei!r4 ,! cotillion 0 dete/$ & f9ally bann$ by ! majority :o want$ to dance ceaselessly ?r\gh\t ! ev5+4 ,b x 0 ( p>ticul> advantage to ! v "y girl :o did n "k _m m51 z well z to :at might be call$ ! helpless type4 ,ea* "y girl1 if %e _h a p>tn]1 _h a place :]e %e belong$ & :]e %e sat ?r\gh\t ! ev5+4 ,& s9ce no c\ple c\ld dance long] ?an ! few mom5ts all[$ by ! figure1 !re 0 no *ance ( anyone's be+ /uck2 s t ! av]age girl _h a bett] *ance ( be+ ask$ to dance ?an n[--:51 )\t programmes1 & )\t cotillions1 !re is no?+ to relieve ! p]man5cy ( a "y man's atta*m5t to an unkn[n "y girl once he asks h] to dance4 ,,! ,,ordeal ,,by ,,ballroom ,in/ead ( be+ easi]1 x w\ld seem t "t makes x increas+ly difficult = any b di/9ct successes to survive ! ordeal by ballroom4 ,ye>s ago a dbutante 0 suppos$ to flutt] into society 9 ! %ad[ ( mamma's protect+ amplitude2 to-day %e is pack$ (f by h]self & ) no?+ to relieve h] dep5d5ce ^u :oev] may come ne> h]4 ,to lik5 a *>m+ "y girl 9 ! prettie/ ( frocks to a spid] is n v c\rte\s2 & yet ! rle ( spid] is :at %e is =c$ by ! exig5cies ( ballroom etiquette to play4 ,%e mu/ cat* a fly1 mean+ a tr\s]$ companion1 s z n to be left 9 plac>d$ disgrace2 & hav+ caught him %e mu/ hang on to him until ano!r takes 8 place4 ,!re %\ld be dra/ic revision ( ballroom cu/oms4 ,!re is a desp]ate ne$ ( :at 9 local danc+ classes 0 call$ ! ,dump1 :]e )\t rud5ess a g5tleman c\ld leave a lady z soon z !y _h f9i%$ danc+4 ,!re us$ to be a *ap]on into ^: c>e a "y girl c\ld be committ$2 !re us$ to be ! dance c>d1 or programme 7/ill 9 vogue at public balls7 t allott$ a c]ta9 dance to a c]ta9 g5tleman & lady equally4 ,!re us$ to be ! cotillion :i*1 :ile cruel1 at lea/ committ$ its acts ( cruelty ) m]ciful dispat*4 ,:5 ! cotillion began1 ! girl :o _h no p>tn]--w5t home4 ,%e _h to4 ,n[1 once %e has acquir$ a companion1 he is plant$ beside h] until ano!r takes 8 place4 ,x is ?is fact & no o!r :i* is responsible = ! dread t ! av]age "y girl feels 9 fac+ ! ordeal ( a ballroom1 & = ! disc\rte\s unconc]n %[n by danc+ m5 :o "u o!r conditions w\ld be fri5dly4 ,! situation ( a "y girl1 left cruelly alone1 draws its own picture1 b ! reason = ! call\s & ill-mann]$ behavior ( ! av]age danc+ man1 may p]haps ne$ a ^w ( explanation4 ,= in/ance3 ,jim ,sm>tl+ton1 :5 he 0 a s5ior at college1 came d[n to ! ,topl(tys' ball on purpose to see ,m>y ,smi?4 ,v e>ly1 be=e ,m>y arriv$1 he saw a ,miss ,blank1 a girl he _h met at a d9n] 9 ,provid5ce1 /&+ at ! entrance ( ! room4 ,foll[+ a casual impulse ( fri5dl9ess he ask$ h] to dance4 ,%e danc$ badly4 ,no "o cut 9 & !y danc$ & danc$1 sat d[n & danc$ aga94 ,m>y arriv$4 ,jim walk$ ,miss ,blank ne> ! /ag l9e & introduc$ sev]al m51 :o b[$ & slid out ( sight ) ! dext]ity ( eels :o recogniz$ a hook4 ,f half-pa/ t5 until supp] at half-pa/ "o1 ,jim 0 plant$4 ,he 0 !n =c$ to tell h] he _h a p>tn] = supp]1 & left h] at ! door ( ! dress+-room4 ,!re 0 no o!r place to leave h]4 ,he felt l a brute & a cad1 ev5 ?\gh he _h wait$ ne>ly ?ree h\rs be=e be+ able to speak to ! girl he _h come purposely to see4 ,!re really is some?+ to be said on ! man's side2 especially on t ( "o :o has to get up e>ly 9 ! morn+ & :o1 only int5d+ to see "o or two p>ticul> fri5ds & !n g home1 is =c$ because ( an impulse ( c\rtesy n only to sp5d an endless & exhau/+ ev5+1 b to be utt]ly unfit = 8 "w next day4 ,"o is equally sorry = ! girl6 ,b 9 ! example above h] /upid h&l+ ( ! situation n only spoil$ "o well-int5tion$ man's ev5+1 b completely f9i%$ h]self s f> z h] future *ances = success 7 conc]n$4 ,n alone h] p>tn] b e bro!r-/ag :o /ood 9 ! doorway m5tally plac>d$ h] ,keep (f4 ,x is suicidal = a girl to make any man sp5d an entire ev5+ ) h]4 ,if at ! end ( two dances1 !re is no intimate fri5d %e c signal to1 or an old] lady %e c insi/ on be+ left )1 %e %\ld g home2 & if ! same ?+ happ5s sev]al times1 %e %\ld n g to balls4 ,= ! reasons giv5 above1 !re is little t a ho/ess or ho/ c d1 unless a promise ( release is held out1 & t 9 itself is a deplorable situation2 a humiliation t no "y girl's "n %\ld be submitt$ to4 ,& yet !re x is6 ,x is only necess>y = a ho/ess to say ,i want to introduce y to a *>m+---- ,& %e is already speak+ to ! air4 ,bo/on ho/esses solve ! problem ( a "y girl's success 9 a ballroom 9 a way unkn[n 9 ,new ,york1 by hav+ u%]s4 ,,u%]s ,ea* ho/ess *ooses f among ! be/ kn[n "y m5 9 society1 :o h p]fect address & tact1 a numb] to act z u%]s4 ,!y are di/+ui%$ by :ite b\tonnires1 l ^? worn by u%]s at a w$d+1 & !y are deputy ho/s4 ,x is _! duty to see t wall-fl[]s are n left decorat+ ! seats 9 ! ballroom & x is also _! duty to relieve a p>tn] :o has too long be5 plant$ beside ! same rosebud4 ,! u%]s !mselves h little *ance to foll[ _! own incl9ations1 & unless ! honor ( be+ *os5 by a prom95t ho/ess has "s measure ( comp5sation1 ! appo9tm5t--s9ce x may n be refus$--is a d\btful pleasure4 ,an u%] has ! "r to introduce anyone to anyone )\t kn[+ ei!r pr9cipal p]sonally & )\t ask+ any lady's p]mission4 ,he may also ask a lady 7if he has a mom5t to himself7 to dance ) him1 :e!r he has ev] met h] or n1 & he c also leave h] promptly1 because any /ag call$ ^u by an u%] mu/ dance4 ,! u%] 9 turn mu/ release e /ag he calls ^u by sub/itut+ ano!r2 & ! second by a ?ird & s on4 ,9 ord] to make a ball g1 mean+ to keep ev]yone danc+1 ! u%]s h on occasions to sp5d ! entire ev5+ 9 relief "w4 ,at a ball :]e !re are u%]s1 a girl /&+ or sitt+ alone w\ld at once be rescu$ by "o ( !m1 & a rotation ( p>tn]s pres5t$ to h]4 ,if %e is hopeless--mean+ nei!r pretty nor attractive nor a good danc]--ev5 ! u%]s are 9 "t =c$ to relieve h] p>tn]s & take h] to a d[ag] fri5d ( ! ho/ess1 beside :om %e w be oblig$ to sit until %e le>ns t %e mu/ seek h] popul>ity o!r:]e ?an at balls4 ,on ! o!r h&1 on an occasion :5 none ( h] fri5ds happ5 to be pres5t1 ! greate/ belle ( ! ye> c sp5d an equally deadly ev5+4 ,,! ,,dance ,,program ,! program or dance-c>d ( public balls & college class dances1 has und5iable advantages4 ,a girl c give z _m dances z %e *ooses to :omev] %e *ooses2 & a man c be sure ( hav+ n only _m b un9t]rupt$ dances ) ! "o he mo/ wants to be )--provid$ %e is will+4 ,:y ! dance-c>d is unhe>d ( at private balls 9 ,new ,york is h>d to det]m9e1 except t fa%ionable society does n c>e to take its pleasure on s*$ule6 ,! gild$ y\? likes to dance :5 ! impulse moves him2 he also likes to be able to /ay or leave :5 he pleases4 ,9 ,new ,york !re are (t5 two or ?ree dances giv5 on ! same ev5+1 & he likes to drift f "o to ! o!r j z he likes to drift f "o p>tn] to ano!r1 or n dance at all if he does n want to4 ,a man :o writes himself d[n = ! t5? jazz mu/ be eag]ly appe>+ on ! /roke ( ! fir/ b>4 ,or if he does n engage 8 p>tn]s busily at ! op5+ ( ! ev5+1 he c n dance at all--he may n want to1 b he hates n be+ able to4 ,s aga9 we come back to ! pres5t situation & ! problem ( ! av]age "y girl ^: "r x is1 because ( h] y\? & sweetness1 to be happy & "y--& n to be t]rifi$1 wret*$ & neglect$4 ,! "o & only solution seems to be = h] to jo9 a gr\p4 ,,! ,,flock-,,sy/em ,,( ,,! ,,wise ,,fl$gl+s ,if a numb] ( "y girls & "y m5 come toge!r--bett] yet1 if !y g ev]y:]e toge!r1 always sit 9 a flock1 always g to supp] toge!r1 always dance ) "o ano!r--!y n only h a good "t b !y are sure to be popul> ) drift+ odd m5 also4 ,if a man kn[s t hav+ ask$ a girl to dance1 "o ( h] gr\p w inevitably cut 91 he is eag] to dance ) h]4 ,or if he c take h] to ! o!rs :5 !y h danc$ long en\gh1 he is n only delight$ to be ) h] = a :ile b to sit ) h] & ! o!rs (f & on ?r\gh\t t & e o!r ev5+1 because s9ce !re are always "s ( !m toge!r he c g aga9 ! mom5t he *ooses4 ,c]ta9 gr\ps ( clev] girls sit 9 precisely ! same place 9 a ballroom1 to ! "r ( ! door1 or ! left1 or 9 a corn]4 ,"o might almo/ say !y =m a little club2 !y dance z mu* z !y l1 b come back home betwe5 :iles4 ,!y all g to supp] toge!r1 & :e!r individuals h p>tn]s or n is sc>cely noticeable1 nor ev5 kn[n by !mselves4 ,no "y girl1 unless %e is a m>k$ favorite1 %\ld ev] g to a ball alone4 ,if h] especial flock has n z yet be5 sy/ematiz$1 %e mu/ g to a d9n] be=e e dance1 s z to g1 & /ay1 ) a gr\p4 ,if %e is n ask$ to d9n]1 h] "m mu/ give "o = h]2 or %e mu/ h at lea/ "o dep5dable beau--or bett]1 two--:o w wait = h] & look out = h]4 ,,maid ,,goes ,,) ,,h] ,a "y girl :o goes to a ball )\t a *ap]on 7mean+ ( c\rse a private ball71 takes a maid ) h] :o sits 9 ! dress+-room ! entire ev5+4 ,n only is x ?\ght prop] to h a maid wait+1 b no?+ c add m to ! panic ( a p>tn]less girl ?an to feel %e has n ev5 a means ( escape by go+ home2 %e c always call a taxi z long z h] maid is ) h]1 & g4 ,o!rwise %e ei!r has to /ay 9 ! ballroom or sit =lorn among ! visit+ maids 9 ! dress+-room4 ,,:at ,,makes ,a ,,"y ,,girl ,a ,,ballroom ,,success ,mu* ( ! above is s pessimi/ic "o might suppose t a ballroom is always a *amb] ( torture & ! "y girl tak5 z an example above1 a v drab & di/ort$ c>icature ( :at a real "y girl %\ld be & is4 ,b rememb]1 ! "y girl :o is a belle ( ! ballroom ne$s no advice on h[ to manage a happy situation2 no ?\ght sp5t on h[ to make a p]fect "t bett]4 ,! ballroom is ! mo/ wond]ful /age-sett+ !re is = ! girl :o is a ballroom success4 ,& = ?is1 especial tal5ts are ne$$ j z !y are = art or sport or any o!r accompli%m5t4 ,! great ballroom success1 fir/ & =emo/1 dances well4 ,almo/ always %e is pretty4 ,beauty c\nts enorm\sly at a ball4 ,! girl :o is beautiful & dances well is1 ( c\rse1 ! ideal ballroom belle4 ,b--?is = enc\ragem5t--^! qualities c 9 a measure at lea/ be acquir$4 ,all ?+s be+ m or less equal1 ! girl :o dances be/ has ! mo/ p>tn]s4 ,let a daught] ( ,v5us or ! heiress ( ,midas dance badly1 & %e might bett] /ay at home4 ,to dance div9ely is an immortal gift1 b to dance well c 7except 9 ob/9ate cases1 z ! adv]tisem5ts say7 be taught4 ,let u suppose !re=e1 t %e dances well1 t %e has a c]ta9 degree ( looks1 t %e is fairly intellig5t4 ,! next mo/ important ?+1 aft] danc+ well1 is to be unafraid1 & to look z ?\gh %e 7 hav+ a good "t4 ,conv]sational clev]ness is ( no acc\nt 9 a ballroom2 "s ( ! greate/ belles ev] kn[n h be5 z /upid z %eep1 b !y h _h happy dispositions & *>m+ & un-self-consci\s mann]s4 ,!re is "o ?+ e girl :o w\ld really be popul> %\ld le>n1 9 fact1 %e mu/ le>n--self-unconsci\sness6 ,! be/ advice might be to foll[ some:at ! precepts ( m5tal sci5ce & make h]self believe t a good "t exi/s 9 h] own m9d4 ,if %e c become possess$ ) ! idea t %e is hav+ a good "t & look z ?\gh %e 71 ! psy*ological effect is a/oni%+4 ,,cutt+ ,,9 ,:5 "o ( ! /ags /&+ 9 ! doorway sees a girl dance pa/ :om he wants to dance )1 he d>ts =w>d1 lays 8 h& on ! %\ld] ( h] p>tn]1 :o rel9qui%es 8 place 9 favor ( ! newcom]1 & a ?ird 9 turn does ! same to him4 ,or1 ! "o1 :o 0 fir/ danc+ ) h]1 may cut 9 on ! p>tn] :o took h] f him1 aft] %e has danc$ once ar\nd ! ballroom4 ,?is seem+ly f> f polite maneuv]1 is consid]$ correct behavior 9 be/ society 9 ,bo/on1 ,new ,york1 ,philadelphia1 ,buffalo1 ,pittsburgh1 ,*icago1 ,san ,francisco1 & !re=e mo/ likely 9 all p>ts ( ,am]ica4 7,n 9 ,london1 nor on ! ,cont95t47 ,at dances organiz$ dur+ ! ,w> 9 ! cante5s = soldi]s & sailors on furl\gh1 ! m5 refus$ to cut 9 because !y ?\ght x 0 rude & und\bt$ly x is1 except t cu/om has made x acceptable4 ,if1 h[ev]1 x /ill seems rude to ! "y m5 ( ,o!rt[n to cut 91 !n !y %\ld n d s4 ,,sitt+ ,,out ,,dances ,on ! o!r h&1 if a girl is sitt+ 9 ano!r room1 or on ! /airs ) a man alone1 a second "o %\ld n int]rupt1 or ask h] to dance4 ,if %e is sitt+ 9 a gr\p1 he c g up & ask h]1 ,don't y want to dance "s ( ?is8 ,%e !n ei!r smiles & says1 ,n j n[--,i am v tir$1 or if %e likes him1 %e may add1 ,come & sit ) u6 ,to refuse to dance ) "o man & !n imm$iately dance ) ano!r is an op5 affront to ! fir/ "o--excusable only if he 0 intoxicat$ or o!rwise actually (f5sive s t ! affront 0 bo? int5tional & ju/ifiable4 ,b "u ord9>y circum/ances1 if %e is danc+1 %e mu/ dance ) ev]yone :o asks h]2 if %e is n danc+1 %e mu/ n make exceptions4 ,an old] lady c v prop]ly refuse to dance & !n p]haps dance briefly ) h] son or husb&1 )\t hurt+ h] gue/'s prop] pride1 b hav+ refus$ to dance ) "o g5tleman %e mu/ n *ange h] m9d & dance lat] ) ano!r4 ,a "y girl :o is danc+ may n refuse to *ange p>tn]s :5 ano!r cuts 94 ,?is is ! wor/ phase ( ! cutt+ 9 cu/om2 ^? :o p>ticul>ly want to dance toge!r are (t5 unable to take m ?an a doz5 /eps be=e be+ int]rupt$4 ,once 9 a :ile a girl w %ake h] head ,no to a /ag :o d>ts t[>d h]4 ,b t is consid]$ rude4 ,a few o!rs h devis$ danc+ ) _! eyes %ut z a signal t !y d n want to be cut 9 on4 ,b ?is is nei!r cu/om>y nor ev5 a g5]ally kn[n practise4 ,x is always ! privilege ( ! girl to /op danc+2 a man is suppos$ to dance on & on1 until %e--or ! music--/ops4 ,,ask+ ,,= ,a ,,dance ,:5 a g5tleman is introduc$ to a lady he says1 ,may ,i h "s ( ?is8 or ,w\ld y c>e to dance8 ,a lady nev] asks a g5tleman to dance1 or to g to supp] ) h]1 ?\gh %e may if %e is old]1 or if %e is a "y girl :o is "o ( a flock1 %e may say ,come & sit at our table6 ,?is h[ev] w\ld n imply t 9 sitt+ at _! table he is suppos$ to sit next to h]4 ,9 ask+ a lady to g to supp]1 a g5tleman %\ld say ,w y g to supp] ) me8 ,or ,may ,i take y to supp]8 ,he %\ld nev] say1 ,h y a p>tn]8 z %e is put 9 an awkw>d position 9 hav+ to admit t %e has none4 ,a ,,ball ,,is ,,n ,a ,,danc+ ,,s*ool ,s9ce a girl may n )\t rud5ess refuse to dance ) a man :o cuts 91 a man :o does n "k h[ to dance is inexcusably inconsid]ate if he cuts 9 on a good danc] & compels a "y girl to become in/ructress = 8 own pleasure ) utt] disreg>d ( h]s4 ,if at home1 or else:]e1 a "y girl volunte]s to tea* him1 t is ano!r matt]1 b ev5 s1 ! ballroom is no place to practise--unless he is v sure t 8 danc+ is n s bad z to be an imposition on 8 tea*]4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,mo/ ,,elaborate ,,d9n]-,,dance ,,ev] ,,giv5 ,,9 ,,new ,,york ,! sc5e repres5ts ! palace & g>d5 at ,v]sailles4 ,!re 7 only f\r tables4 ,s+]s appe>$ on ! balcony dur+ d9n]1 o!r p]=m]s danc$1 sang & juggl$ on ! pa?ways4 ,aft] ! d9n] ! pa?ways ( grass 7 tak5 up to p]mit danc+ by ! gue/s4 ,page #bga4 ,,novelties ,,& ,,innovations ,=mal occasions dem& /rict conv5tions4 ,at an important w$d+1 at a d9n] ( c]emony1 at a ball1 x is n only bad =m b %ock+ to deviate f accept$ /&>ds ( =mality4 ,surprize is an elem5t t mu/ be avoid$ on all dignifi$ occasions4 ,^? !re=e1 :o ?9k x w\ld be orig9al & pleas+ to spr+ surprizes on _! gue/s at an o!rwise conv5tional & =mal ent]ta9m5t1 %\ld save _! ideas = a *ildr5's p>ty :]e surprizes n only belong1 b are delight$ly appreciat$4 ,to be sure1 "o might p]haps consid] t sc5ic effects or unusual div]sions1 su* z "o sees at a co/ume ball or a p]iod d9n]1 belong "u ! head ( surprize4 ,b 9 ! fir/ place su* ent]ta9m5ts are n conv5tional2 & 9 ! second1 details t are 9 accordance ) ! p]iod or design ( ! ball or d9n] are conv5tions aft] all4 ,on ! o!r h&1 9 ! c\ntry especially1 no?+ c be m fun or m appropriate ?an a b>n dance1 or an impromptu play1 or a calico masqu]ade1 ) prop]ties & clo!s made ( any old ?+ & 9 a few h\rs--ev5 9 a few m9utes4 ,music ne$ n be an or*e/ra b x mu/ be good1 & ! floor mu/ be adequate & smoo?4 ,! supp] is ( second>y importance4 ,z = mann]s1 ev5 ?\gh !y may be unre/ra9$1 !y c be meticul\sly p]fect = all t6 ,!re is no m excuse = rude or c>eless or selfi% behavior at a picnic ?an at a ball4 ,,public ,,balls ,a public ball is a ball giv5 = a b5efit or *>ity4 ,a committee makes ! arrangem5ts & tickets are sold to ! public1 ei!r by be+ put on sale at hotels or at ! h\se ( ! secret>y ( ! committee4 ,a "y girl ( social position does n g to a public ball )\t a *ap]on4 ,to g 9 ! company ( "o or m g5tlem5 w\ld be an unhe>d-( brea* ( propriety4 ,,subscription ,,dances ,,& ,,balls ,^! are (t5 ( great] importance 9 a community ?an any numb] ( its private balls4 ,9 ,bo/on & ,philadelphia = in/ance1 a p]son's social /&+ is dep5d5t ^u :e!r or n %e or he is invit$ to ! ,assemblies4 ,! same 0 once true 9 ,new ,york :5 ! ,patri>* & ,assembly ,balls 7 ! dom9at+ ent]ta9m5ts4 ,9 ,baltimore too1 a man's social /&+ is non-exi/5t if he does n belong to ! ,monday ,g]mans1 & 9 _m o!r cities memb]%ip 9 ! subscription dances or danc+ classes or sew+ circles di/9ctly draws ! l9e betwe5 ! inside somebodies & ! outside nobodies4 ,subscription dances su* z ^! are manag$ & all invitations are issu$ by patronesses :o are always ladies ( unque/ion$ social prom95ce4 ,usually ^! patronesses are elect$ = life1 or at lea/ = a long p]iod ( ye>s4 ,:5 = "o reason or ano!r a vacancy occurs1 a new memb] is elect$ by ! o!rs to fill h] place4 ,no outsid] may ev] ask to become a memb]4 ,usually a numb] ( names are sugge/$ & vot$ on at a meet+1 & :oev] w9s ! highe/ numb] ( votes is elect$4 ,! exp5ses ( balls su* z ,assemblies1 are borne by ! patronesses collectively1 b o!r types ( dances are paid = by subscrib]s :o are invit$ to take tickets--z w be expla9$4 ,h[ ,subscription ,dances ,are ,organiz$ ,:e!r 9 city1 t[n or village1 ! organization is ! same3 ,a small gr\p ( important ladies decide t x w\ld be agreeable to h two or ?ree balls--or maybe only "o--a season4 ,?is orig9al gr\p !n sugge/s additional names until !y h all agre$ ^u a li/ suffici5t 9 size to =m a nucleus4 ,^! !n are invit$ to jo91 & all ( !m at ano!r meet+ decide on ! f9al size ( ! li/ & :om x is to include4 ,! li/ may be a hundr$1 or x may /ay at ! orig9al gr\p ( a half doz5 or s4 ,let u = example say ! complete li/ is fifty4 ,fifty ladies1 !re=e1 ! mo/ prom95t possible1 are ! patronesses or manag]s1 or :atev] !y *oose to call !mselves4 ,!y also elect a *airman1 a vice-*airman1 a secret>y1 & a treasur]4 ,!y !n elect sev5 or eight o!rs :o are to con/itute ! manag+ committee4 ,! o!r ?irty-eight or =ty are m]ely memb]s :o w pay _! dues & h ! "r to a c]ta9 numb] ( tickets = ea* ( ! balls4 ,^! tickets1 by ! way1 are nev] actually s5t by ! memb]s !mselves1 :o m]ely submit ! names ( ! gue/s !y h *os5 to ! committee on invitations4 ,?is is ! only practical way to avoid duplication4 ,o!rwise1 let u say t ,mrs4 ,oldname1 ,mrs4 ,worldly1 ,mrs4 ,norman & ,mrs4 ,gild+ ea* s5d _! two tickets to ! "y ,sm>tl+tons1 :i* w\ld mean t ! ,sm>tl+tons w\ld h to return ?ree1 & ^? ?ree invitations w\ld />t (f on a second j\rney p]haps to be return$ aga94 ,on ! o!r h&1 if ea* patroness s5ds 9 a li/1 ! top names :i* h n yet be5 ent]$ 9 ! invitation book are automatically select$1 & ! committee notify h] to :om h] invitations w5t4 ,!re is also ano!r v important reason = ! s5d+ 9 ( e "n to ! committee3 exclusiv5ess4 ,o!rwise ! balls w\ld all too easily det]iorate into ! "* ( public ones4 ,e "n mu/ be approv$ by ! committee on invitations1 :o always hold a special meet+ = ! purpose1 s t no matt] h[ will+ a c]ta9 c>eless memb] w\ld be to include ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,unsuitable1 %e is p[]less to s5d !m tickets if !y are n approv$ (4 ,z a matt] ( fact !re is r>ely any "q ( )hold+ invitations1 s9ce a s]i\s objection w\ld h to be su/a9$ aga9/ "o to w>rant su* an action on ! "p ( ! committee4 ,numb] ( ,invitations ,issu$ ,) fifty memb]s1 ea* might p]haps be all[$1 besides h] own ticket1 two ladies' invitations & f\r g5tlem5's4 ,t w\ld make ?ree hundr$ & fifty invitations available altoge!r4 ,! f\nd]s c ( c\rse decide on :atev] numb] !y *oose4 ,patronesses c also ex*ange tickets4 ,"o :o might want to ask a d\ble numb] ( gue/s to ! ,fir/ ,assembly c arrange ) ano!r to ex*ange h] ,second ,assembly invitations = ,fir/ ones4 ,also x (t5 happ5s t ! entire li/ s5t 9 by a memb] has already be5 includ$1 & n want+ to use h] tickets1 %e gives !m to ano!r memb] :o may h a dbutante daught] & !re=e be 9 ne$ ( extra ones4 ,ba*elor ,balls 7l ! ,monday ,g]mans ( ,baltimore7 are run by ! g5tlem5 in/ead ( ! ladies4 ,o!rwise !y are ! same z ! ,assemblies4 ,o!r ,=ms ( ,subscription ,dances ,o!r =ms are some:at diff]5t 9 t in/ead ( divid+ ! exp5ses betwe5 memb]s :o jo9tly issue invitations to few or _m gue/s1 ! committee ( t51 we w say1 invites ei!r all ! m5 :o are suppos$ to be eligible or all ! "y girls1 to subscribe to a c]ta9 numb] ( tickets4 ,= in/ance1 dances kn[n usually z ,junior ,assemblies or ! ,holiday ,dances are organiz$ by a gr\p ( ladies--! mo!rs1 usually1 ( dbutantes4 ,! memb]s ( ! organization are elect$ j z ! o!rs are1 = life4 ,b !y are apt aft] a few ye>s1 :5 _! daught]s are too old1 to resign 9 favor ( o!rs ^: daught]s are beg9n+ to be gr[n4 ,! dbutantes ( highe/ social position are invit$ to become memb]s4 ,ea* "o pays dues & has ! privilege ( ask+ two m5 to ea* dance4 ,mo!rs are n expect$ to g to ^! dances unless !y are !mselves patronesses4 ,sometimes "y wom5 g to ^! dances until !y m>ry2 (t5 !y are = dbutantes1 b mo/ (t5 !y are = girls ! ye> be=e !y come out1 & = boys :o are 9 college4 ,patronesses ,receive ,at a subscription dance :]e patronesses take ! place ( a ho/ess1 ab\t f\r ( ^! ladies are especially select$ by ! ball committee to receive4 ,!y always /& 9 l9e & b[ to ea* p]son :o is ann\nc$1 b d n %ake h&s4 ,! gue/ arriv+ also b[s to ! ho/esses collectively 7n f\r times74 ,a lady1 = in/ance1 is ann\nc$3 %e takes a few /eps t[>d ! receiv+ l9e & makes a slight c\rtesy2 ! ladies receiv+ make a c\rtesy 9 unison1 & ! gue/ passes on4 ,a g5tleman b[s c]emoni\sly1 ! way he 0 taught 9 danc+ s*ool1 & ! ladies receiv+ incl9e _! heads4 ,,*apt] ,,xviii ,,! ,d,,butante ,,h[ ,a ,,"y ,,girl ,,is ,,pres5t$ ,,to ,,society ,any "o ( v>i\s ent]ta9m5ts may be giv5 to pres5t a "y girl to society4 ,! favorite & mo/ elaborate ( ^!1 b possible only to p>5ts ( consid]able weal? & wide social acqua9tance1 is a ball4 ,mu* less elaborate1 b equal 9 size1 & second 9 favor to-day1 is an aft]noon tea ) danc+4 ,?ird1 & ga9+ 9 popul>ity1 is a small dance1 :i* pres5ts ! dbutante to ! y\ng] set & a few ( h] "m's intimate fri5ds4 ,f\r?1 is a small tea )\t music4 ,fif?1 ! m]e s5d+ out ( ! "m's visit+ c>d ) ! daught]'s "n engrav$ bel[ h] own1 ann\nces to ! _w t ! daught] is eligible = invitations4 ,a ,,ball ,,= ,a ,d,,butante ,a ball = a dbutante diff]s 9 no?+ f all o!r balls except+ t ! dbutante receives /&+ beside ! ho/ess1 & fur!/ f ! entrance1 :e!r t happ5s to be on ! latt]'s "r or left4 ,! gue/s z !y m\nt ! /airs or ent] ! ballroom & are ann\nc$1 approa* ! ho/ess fir/1 :o1 z %e %akes h&s ) ea*1 turns to ! dbutante & says ,mrs4 ,worldly1 my daught]4 ,or ,cyn?ia1 ,i want to pres5t y to ,mrs4 ,worldly4 7,want to is us$ on ?is occasion because may ,i is too =mal = a "m to say to h] *ild47 ,a fri5d w\ld probably "k ! daught]2 9 any ev5t ! "m's introduction w\ld be1 ,y rememb] ,cyn?ia1 don't y8 ,ea* arriv+ gue/ always %akes h&s ) ! dbutante z well z ) ! ho/ess1 & if !re is a queue ( p com+ at ! same "t1 !re is no ne$ ( say+ any?+ beyond ,h[ d y d8 & pass+ on z quickly z possible4 ,if !re are no o!rs ent]+ at ! mom5t1 ea* gue/ makes a few pleasant rem>ks4 ,a /rang]1 = in/ance1 w\ld p]haps comm5t on h[ lovely1 & _m1 ! dbutante's b\quets are1 or express a hope t %e w enjoy h] w9t]1 or talk = a mom5t or two ab\t ! gaiety ( ! season or ! lack ( balls1 or any?+ t %[s polite int]e/ 9 ! "y girl's fir/ glimpse ( society4 ,a fri5d ( h] "m might p]haps say ,y look too lovely1 ,cyn?ia de>1 & y\r dress is en*ant+6 ,p]sonal complim5ts1 h[ev]1 are prop] only f a close fri5d4 ,no acqua9tance1 unless %e is q old1 %\ld ev] make p]sonal rem>ks4 ,an old lady or g5tleman might v =givably say ,y don't m9d1 my de>1 if ,i tell y h[ sweet ,i ?9k y look1 or ,:at a pretty frock y h on4 ,b x is bad ta/e = a "y woman to say to ano!r ,:at a h&some dress y h on6 & wor/ ( all to add ,:]e did y get x8 ,! "y girl's p>ticul> fri5ds are1 ( c\rse1 apt to tell h] t h] dress is wond]ful1 or m likely1 simply div9e4 ,x is cu/om>y 9 mo/ cities to s5d a dbutante a b\quet at h] com+ out p>ty4 ,!y may be b\quets really1 or baskets1 or o!r decorative fl[]s1 & are s5t by relatives1 fri5ds ( ! family1 h] fa!r's bus9ess associates1 z well z by "y m5 admir]s4 ,^! b\quets are always bank$ ne> & if possible1 ar\nd ! place ! dbutante /&s to receive4 ,if %e has great quantities1 !y are plac$ ab\t ! room :]ev] !y look mo/ effective4 ,! dbutante usually holds "o ( ! b\quets :ile receiv+1 b %e %\ld rememb] t h] *oice ( ?is p>ticul> "o among ! _m s5t h] is some:at po9t$ to ! giv]1 s t unless %e is will+ to ackn[l$ge "o p>ticul> beau z be/ x is wis] to c>ry "o s5t by h] fa!r1 or bro!r1 especially if ei!r s5d h] "o ( ! t9y #ahcj b\quets t h be5 = a ye> or two 9 fa%ion1 & are no weight to hold4 ,^! b\quets are ab\t z big ar\nd z an ord9>y sauc]1 & j z flat on top z a sauc] plac$ upside d[n4 ,! fl[]s *os5 are rosebuds or o!r compact fl[]s1 mass$ tightly toge!r1 & arrang$ 9 a precise patt]n2 = in/ance1 ?ree or f\r p9k rosebuds are put 9 ! c5t]1 ar\nd !m a r[ ( :ite violets1 ar\nd ^! a s+le r[ ( ! p9k roses1 surr\nd$ aga9 by violets1 & s on = f\r or five r[s4 ,! b\quet is !n set 9 /iff :ite lace pap]1 manufactur$ = ! purpose1 ! /ems wrapp$ 9 :ite sat9 ribbon1 ) /ream]s ( :ite & p9k ribbons ab\t a qu>t] ( an in* wide & ti$ to hang tw5ty in*es or s long4 ,! colors & patt]ns 9 :i* ^! little b\quets may be made are unlimit$4 ,,! ,d,,butante ,,receives ,at a ball1 :]e ! gue/s beg9 com+ ab\t half pa/ t51 ! dbutante mu/ /& beside ! ho/ess & receive until at lea/ twelve o'clock--lat] if gue/s /ill cont9ue to arrive4 ,at all com+-out p>ties1 ! dbutante invites a few ( h] be/ girl fri5ds to receive ) h]4 ,:e!r ! p>ty is 9 ! aft]noon or ev5+1 ^! "y girls we> ev5+ dresses & come e>ly & /ay late4 ,_! be+ ask$ to receive is a =m ( expression m]ely1 z !y nev] /& 9 l9e1 & o!r ?an we>+ pretty clo!s & ?us add+ to ! picture1 !y h no duties :atsoev]4 ,,at ,,supp] ,! dbutante goes to supp] ) a p>tn] :o has surely spok5 = ! privilege weeks or ev5 mon?s be=eh&4 ,b ! re/ ( h] own table is always made up by h]self2 t is1 x includes ! "y girls :o are h] mo/ intimate fri5ds1 & _! supp] p>tn]s4 ,h] table is usually 9 ! c5t] ( ! d9+-room1 b1 !re is no especial decoration to di/+ui% x1 except t x is (t5 some:at l>g] ?an ! o!r tables surr\nd+ x1 & a footman or wait] is detail$ to tell any :o may attempt to take x1 t x is res]v$4 ,aft] supp] ! dbutante has no duties & is free to enjoy h]self4 ,! aft]noon tea ) danc+ is describ$ 9 ! *apt] on ,teas & ne$s no fur!r comm5t1 s9ce its etiquette is precisely ! same z t = a ball4 ,! dbutante's b\quets are arrang$ z effectively z possible1 & %e receives ) h] "m1 or :oev] ! ho/ess may be1 until ! queue ( arriv+ gue/s ?9s out1 aft] :i* %e ne$ be occupi$ ) no?+ b h] own good "t1 & t ( h] fri5ds4 ,^? ( small] means1 or ^? :o object to hotel rooms1 ask only y\ng] p1 & give ! tea 9 _! own h\se4 ,:]e !re are two rooms on a floor--draw+-room 9 front1 d9+-room back1 & a libr>y on ! floor above1 ! gue/s are receiv$ 9 ! draw+-room1 b :e!r !y dance 9 ! d9+-room or up 9 ! libr>y1 dep5ds ^u :i* room is ! l>g]4 ,9 ei!r case ! furniture is mov$ out4 ,if possible ! smalle/ room %\ld be us$ to receive 91 ! l>ge/ to dance 91 & ! tea-table %\ld be set 9 ! m$ium "o4 ,,h[ ,,_m ,,gue/s ,,may ,,"o ,,ask8 ,a ho/ess %\ld nev] try to pack h] h\se beyond ! limits ( its capacity4 ,?is "q ( h[ _m invitations may safely be s5t out is "o :i* ea* ho/ess mu/ answ] = h]self1 s9ce beyond a few obvi\s g5]alities no "o c v well advise h]4 ,tak+ a ho/ess ( av]age social position1 :o is br++ out a daught] ( av]age attractiv5ess & popul>ity1 x w\ld be safe to say t e dbutante & y\ng] man ask$ to a p>ty ( any k9d :]e !re is danc+1 w accept1 b t n m ?an f half to "o-?ird ( ! old] p ask$ w put 9 an appe>ance4 ,,lavi% ,,p>ties ,,giv+ ,,way ,,to ,,simple ,,ones ,a ball1 by ! way1 is always a g5]al ent]ta9m5t1 mean+ t invitations are s5t to ! entire d9n] li/--n only actual b pot5tial--( ! ho/ & ho/ess1 z well z to ! y\ng] p :o are ei!r !mselves fri5ds ( ! dbutante1 or daught]s & sons ( ! fri5ds1 & acqua9tances ( ! ho/ess4 ,a dance diff]s f a ball 9 t x is small]1 less elaborate & its invitations are limit$ to ! contempor>ies ( ! dbutante1 or at mo/ ! y\nge/ m>ri$ set4 ,invitations to a tea are ev5 m g5]al & %\ld include a ho/ess' entire visit+ li/1 irrespective ( age or ev5 p]sonal acqua9tance4 ,! old-fa%ion$ visit+ li/ ( ! "y ho/ess includ$ ! entire li/ ( h] "m1 plus t ( h] "m-9-law1 to :i* 0 add$ all ! names acquir$ 9 h] own social life4 ,x c easily be se5 t ?is li/ became a =midable volume by ! "t h] daught] 0 old en\gh to come out1 & yet ?is entire li/ 0 suppos$ to be includ$ 9 all g5]al invitations6 ,9 ! pres5t day1 h[ev]1 at lea/ 9 ,new ,york1 !re is a gr[+ t5d5cy to elim9ate ^! g5]al or imp]sonal invitations4 ,9 sm>te/ society1 x is n ev5 consid]$ necess>y t a g5]al ent]ta9m5t be giv5 to introduce a daught]4 ,9 ,new ,york la/ w9t] !re 7 sc>cely a doz5 private balls all told4 ,_m ( ! mo/ fa%ionable 7& ri*e/7 ho/esses gave dances limit$ to "y girls ( _! daught]s' ages & "y danc+ m54 ,ev5 at _m ( ! teas-)-danc+ none b "y p 7 ask$4 ,anyone :o likes to sit on ! bank & wat* ! tides ( fa%ion rise & fall1 _c fail to notice t big & lavi% ent]ta9m5ts are dw9dl+1 & small & in=mal ones increas+4 ,x is equally app>5t1 contr>y to popul> op9ion1 t extravagance ( exp5diture is gr[+ less & less4 ,x is ye>s s9ce any "o has giv5 su* a ball1 = in/ance1 z ! ,v5etian fte ! ,gild+s gave to br+ out _! elde/ daught]1 :5 ! entire fir/ floor ( ! ,fitz-,*]ry 0 turn$ into a replica ( ,v5ice--canals1 gondolas1 & all4 ,or ! ,p]sian ball ( ! ,van/yles :]e ! :ole h\se 0 hung1 z a backgr\nd = ,ori5tal co/umes1 ) copp]-gold drap]ies1 aga9/ :i* /ood at int]vals ,maxfield ,p>ri% cypress trees4 ,or ! moonlight dance ( ! ,worldlys :i* 0 n a fancy dress "o1 b = :i* ! ballroom 0 turn$ into a g>d5 sc5e1 light$ by simulat$ moonlight t w\ld h add$ to ! r5[n ( ,belasco4 ,su* ent]ta9m5ts z ^! seem almo/ out ( key ) ! attitude ( to-day4 ,= al?\gh fancy-dress & elaborate p>ties are occasionally giv51 !y are n usually giv5 = dbutantes1 nor on ! scale ( ^? m5tion$ above4 ,,! ,d,,butante',s ,,dress ,at a ball1 ! dbutante we>s h] v prettie/ ball dress4 ,old-fa%ion$ s5tim5t pref]s t x be :ite1 & ( "s diaphan\s mat]ial1 su* z net or gauze or lace4 ,x ought n to look ov]elaborate1 ev5 ?\gh x is spangl$ ) silv] or cry/al or is made ( %e] lace4 ,x %\ld sugge/ some?+ light & airy & gay &1 above all1 "y4 ,= a "y girl to :om :ite is unbecom+1 a color is p]fectly suitable z long z x is a pale %ade4 ,%e %\ld n we> /rong colors su* z r$1 or ,yale blue1 & on no acc\nt black6 ,h] "m1 ( c\rse1 we>s z h&some a ball dress z possible1 & all h] jewels4 ,at an aft]noon tea ! dbutante we>s an ev5+ dress--a v simple ev5+ dress1 b an ev5+ dress all ! same4 ,usually a v pale color1 & q untrimm$1 su* z %e might we> at home = d9n]4 ,h] "m we>s an aft]noon dress1 n an ev5+ "o4 ,bo? "m & daught] we> long gloves1 & nei!r !y1 nor ! "y girls receiv+1 we> hats4 ,to describe ! details ( clo!s is futile4 ,almo/ be=e ?is page comes f ! pr9t]1 ! tr5d may q likely *ange4 ,b ! t5d5cy ( ! mom5t is t[>d great] simplicity--9 effect at all ev5ts4 ,,9 ,,confid5ce ,,to ,a ,d,,butante ,let u pret5d a worldly old godmo!r is speak+1 & let u suppose t y are a "y girl on ! ev5+ ( y\r com+-out ball4 ,y are excit$1 ( c\rse y are6 ,x is y\r ev5+1 & y are a sort ( little pr9cess6 ,!re is music1 & !re are lights1 & !re are fl[]s ev]y:]e--a great ballroom mass$ ) !m1 tables heap$ ) b\quets--all = y6 ,y h on an especially beautiful dress--"o t 0 select$ f among _m o!rs1 j because x seem$ to y ! prettie/4 ,ev5 y\r "m & m>ri$ si/] :o1 en gr&e t5ue1 h always seem$ to y dazzl+ figures1 h = ! mom5t become1 = all _! brocades & jewels1 m]ely backgr\nd2 & y alone are ! c5t] ( ! picture4 ,up ! wide /aircase come ?rongs ( fa%ionables--:o mean ! _w4 ,!y are com+ on purpose to b[ to y6 ,y c't help feel+ t ! glitt]+ dresses1 ! ti>as1 ! ropes ( pe>ls & *a9s ( diamonds ( ! d[ag]s1 ! /iff :ite %irt-fronts & b\tonnires & p]fectly fitt+ coats ( ! old] g5tlem51 z well z ! be/ clo!s ( all ! y\ng] p1 7 all put on = y4 ,y %ake h&s & smile sweetly to a numb] ( old] ladies & %ake h&s ) an equal numb] ( g5tlem51 all v politely & prop]ly4 ,!n sudd5ly1 half way up ! /airs y see ,betty & ,anne & ,fr$ & ,ollie4 ,( c\rse y\r att5tion is drawn to !m4 ,y are vaguely consci\s t ! butl] is %\t+ "s /upid "n y nev] he>d (--t y don't c>e 9 ! lea/ ab\t4 ,y\r "m's voice is say+ ,mrs4 zzzzzz----1 ,impati5tly y give y\r h& to someone--y hav5't ! slighte/ idea :o x is4 ,s f> z y\r int]e/ is conc]n$1 y might z well be bru%+ away annoy+ flies4 ,y\r smiles are direct$ to ,betty & ,anne4 ,z !y rea* ! top ( ! /airs y d>t =w>d & ent] into an excit$ conv]sation1 delib]ately ov]look+ a lady & g5tleman :o1 )\t try+ fur!r to attract y\r att5tion1 pass on4 ,lat] 9 ! w9t] y w p]haps wond] :y y alone among y\r fri5ds are nev] ask$ to ,great ,e/ates4 ,! lady & g5tleman ( :om y are s rudely unaw>e1 happ5 to be ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,worldly1 & y h entirely =gott5 t y are a ho/ess1 & fur!rmore t y h ! :ole ev5+1 beg9n+ at supp]1 :5 y c talk to ^! fri5ds ( y\rs6 ,y c dance ) ,fr$ & ,ollie & ,jimmy all ! re/ ( ! ev5+2 y c sp5d mo/ ( y\r "t ) !m = ! re/ ( y\r life if y & !y *oose4 ,b :5 y are out 9 public1 above all at a p>ty :i* is = y1 y\r duty 9 commone/ civility is to ov]come y\r impulses1 & behave z a gr[n-up p]son--& a well-br$ gr[n-up p]son at t6 ,x takes sc>cely m ?an t5 seconds to li/5 to ! "n t is said to y1 to look directly & att5tively at ! "o to :om ! "n belongs1 to put out y\r h& firmly z y w\ld take hold ( some?+ y l1 7n some?+ t y feel an av]sion to71 & ) a smile say ,h[ d y d4 ,at y\r ball y\r "m says ,mrs4 ,worldly1 my daught]4 ,y look directly at ,mrs4 ,worldly1 put out y\r h&1 say ,h[ d y d1 ,mrs4 ,worldly4 ,& %e passes on4 ,x takes no long] to be cordial & att5tive ?an to be di/rait & casual & rude1 yet ! impression made 9 a few seconds ( actual "t may easily ga9 or lose a fri5d = life4 ,:5 no o!r gue/s are arriv+1 y c *att] to y\r own fri5ds z mu* z y l1 b z y turn to greet ano!r /rang]1 y mu/ %[ pleasure1 n annoyance1 9 giv+ him y\r att5tion4 ,a happy attitude to cultivate is to ?9k 9 y\r own m9d t new p are all packages 9 a grab-bag1 & t y c nev] tell :at any ( !m may prove to be until y "k :at is inside ! out] wrapp+s ( casual appe>ances4 ,to be sure1 ! old woman ( ! fairy tale1 :o turns out to be a fairy 9 disguise1 is n (t5 met ) 9 real life1 b nei!r is h] approximate c\nt]p>t an impossibility4 ,z ^? :o h s5t y fl[]s approa*1 y mu/ ?ank !m2 y mu/ also write lat] an additional note ( ?anks to old] p4 ,b to y\r family or y\r own intimate fri5ds1 ! v]bal ?anks--if n too casually made--are suffici5t4 ,a ,,few ,,don',,ts ,,= ,d,,butantes ,don't ?9k t because y h a pretty face1 y ne$ nei!r bra9s nor mann]s4 ,don't ?9k t y c be rude to anyone & escape be+ dislik$ = x4 ,:isp]+ is always rude4 ,:isp]+ & giggl+ at ! same "t h no place 9 good society4 ,ev]y?+ t %[s lack ( c\rtesy t[>d o!rs is rude4 ,if y w\ld be ?\ght a p]son ( ref9em5t1 don't nudge or pat or f+] p4 ,don't hold h&s or walk arm-ab\t-wai/ 9 public4 ,nev] put y\r h& on a man1 except 9 danc+ & 9 tak+ 8 arm if he is u%] at a w$d+ or y\r p>tn] = d9n] or supp]4 ,don't all[ anyone to paw y4 ,don't hang on anyone = support1 & don't /& or walk ) y\r *e/ held 91 & y\r hips =w>d1 9 imitation ( a rev]s$ lett] ,s4 ,don't walk across a ballroom floor sw++ y\r arms4 ,don't talk or laugh l\d en\gh to attract att5tion1 & on no acc\nt =ce y\rself to laugh4 ,no?+ is flatt] ?an laught] t is lack+ 9 mir?4 ,if y only laugh because some?+ is irresi/ibly funny1 ! *ances are y\r laugh w be irresi/ible too4 ,9 ! same way a smile %\ld be spontane\s1 because y feel happy & pleasant2 no?+ has less allure ?an a me*anical grimace1 z ?\gh y 7 try+ to imitate a too?-pa/e adv]tisem5t4 ,,:]e ,,are ,,! ,,belles ,,( ,,ye/]day8 ,9 old5 days & until a comp>atively %ort :ile ago1 a "y girl's social success 0 inv>iably measur$ by h] popul>ity 9 a ballroom4 ,x 0 ! girl :o _h ! mo/ p>tn]s1 :o lea/ frequ5tly sat aga9/ ! wall1 :o c>ri$ home ! greate/ quantity ( ! baubles kn[n z favors1 :o 0 t ev5+'s & usually ! season's belle4 ,b to-day al?\gh ballroom popul>ity is /ill important z a te/ by :i* a "y girl's success is measur$1 x is by no means ! beg9n+ & end t x us$ to be4 ,z repeat$ sev]al times 9 ?is book1 ! day ( ! belle is pa/2 beaux belong to ! pa/ too4 ,to-day is ! day ( woman's equality ) man1 & if 9 prov+ h] equality %e has come d[n f a p$e/al1 h] p$e/al 0 p]haps a !atrical prop]ty at be/ & n to be comp>$ = solid satisfaction ) ! level gr\nd ( ! entirely real position %e n[ occupies4 ,a girl's popul>ity 9 a ballroom is ( importance to be sure1 b n greatly m s ?an ! danc+ popul>ity ( a y\?4 ,!re 0 a "t :5 wall-fl[]s w5t to balls night aft] night :]e !y ei!r sat beside a *ap]on or sp5t ! ev5+ 9 ! dress+-room 9 te>s4 ,to-day a "y girl :o f9ds %e is n a ballroom success avoids ballrooms & seeks h] success o!r:]e4 ,%e does n sit 9 a corn] & hope aga9/ hope t h] luck w turn & t ,pr9ce ,*>m+ w surely "s ev5+ discov] h]4 ,%e sizes up ! situation exactly z a boy might size up 8 own *ances to make ! crew or ! football team4 ,,to-,,day',s ,,speciali/s ,,9 ,,success ,! girl ( to-day soon discov]s1 if %e does n "k x already1 t to be a ballroom belle x is necess>y fir/ ( all to dance really well4 ,a girl may be z beautiful z a "y ,diana or z fasc9at+ z ,circe1 b if %e is heavy or /eps on h] fir/ p>tn]'s toes1 nev] aga9 w he ask h] to dance4 ,& ! news spreads 9 an in/ant4 ,! girl ( to-day !re=e kn[s %e mu/ le>n to dance well1 :i* is difficult1 s9ce danc]s are born1 n made2 or %e mu/ g to balls = supp] only1 or n g to balls at all1 unless--%e plays a really good game ( bridge6 ,9 :i* case1 h] *ances = popul>ity at ! bridge tables1 :i* are at all balls to-day1 are q z good z ?\gh %e 7 a "y ,pavl[a 9 ! ballroom4 ,or p]haps %e skates1 or hunts1 or plays a wond]ful game ( t5nis or golf1 ea* "o ( :i* op5s a vi/a lead+ to popul>ity1 & ! possibilities = a good "t :i* 0 aft] all ! ma9spr+ ( old-fa%ion$ ballroom success4 ,& s9ce ! day ( fem99ity t is purely ornam5tal & utt]ly useless is gone by1 x is ! girl :o does ?+s well :o f9ds life full ( int]e/s & ( fri5ds & ( happ9ess4 ,! old idea also has pass$ t measures a girl's popul> success by ! numb] ( tr\s]$ figures ar\nd h]4 ,x is quality1 n quantity1 t c\nts2 & ! girl :o surr\nds h]self ) indiscrim9ate & possibly *eap y\?s does n excite ! envy b ! d]ision ( behold]s4 ,to ! highe/ type ( "y girl to-day x makes v little diff]5ce :e!r1 9 ! inevitable gr\p 9 :i* %e is p]petually to be f\nd1 !re are m m5 ?an girls or ! opposite4 ,?is does n mean t human nature has *ang$--sc>cely6 ,!re always are & d\btless always w be any numb] ( wom5 to :om admiration & flirtation is ! v brea? ( _! no/rils1 :o love to p>ade a beau j z !y love to p>ade a new dress4 ,b ! t5d5cies ( ! "t d n enc\rage ! flirtati\s attitude4 ,x is n consid]$ a triumph to h _m love affairs1 b r an evid5ce ( /upidity & bad ta/e4 ,,frankness ,,( ,,to-,,day ,a "y man play+ t5nis ) a "y girl a g5]ation ago w\ld h be5 =c$ pati5tly to toss h] g5tle balls & keep 8 bor$om to himself1 or he w\ld h held h] *9 9 8 h&1 :ile he himself /ood %iv]+ = h\rs 9 ?ree feet ( wat]1 & tri$ 8 be/ to disguise 8 op9ion z to ! hopelessness ( h] ev] le>n+ to swim4 ,to-day he w\ld frankly tell h] %e _h bett] play t5nis = a ye> or two ) a m>k] or /ruggle at swimm+ by h]self1 & any s5sible girl w\ld take t advice6 ,,= ,,:at ,,%e ,,really ,,is ,in/ead ( dep5d+ ^u beauty1 ^u sex-appeal1 ! "y girl :o is ! success ( to-day dep5ds *iefly ^u h] actual "* & disposition4 ,x is n ev5 s necess>y to d some?+ well z to refra9 f do+ ?+s badly4 ,if %e is n good at sports1 or games1 or danc+1 !n %e mu/ f9d out :at %e is good at & d t6 ,if %e is good = no?+ b to look 9 ! glass & put r\ge on h] lips & p[d] h] nose & pat h] hair1 life is go+ to be a pretty dre>y affair4 ,9 o!r days beauty 0 wor%ip$ = itself alone1 & x has vot>ies ( sorts to-day4 ,b ! be/ type ( mod]n y\? does n c>e = beauty1 z 8 fa!r did2 9 fact1 he doesn't c>e a bit = x1 if x has no?+ to g ) x1 any m ?an he c>es = butt] ) no bread to spread x on4 ,beauty & wit1 & he>t1 & o!r qualifications or attributes is ano!r matt] altoge!r4 ,a gift ( m value ?an beauty1 is *>m1 :i* 9 a measure is ano!r ^w = sympa?y1 or ! p[] to put y\rself 9 ! place ( o!rs2 to be int]e/$ 9 :atev] int]e/s !m1 s z to be pleas+ to !m1 if possible1 b n to occupy y\r ?\ghts 9 futilely wond]+ :at !y ?9k ab\t y4 ,w\ld y "k ! secret ( popul>ity8 ,x is unconsci\sness ( self1 altrui/ic int]e/1 & inw>d k9dl9ess1 outw>dly express$ 9 good mann]s4 ,,*apt] ,,xix ,,! ,,*ap]on ,,& ,,o!r ,,conv5tions ,a ,,gloomy ,,^w ,( c\rse !re are *ap]ons & *ap]ons6 ,b x mu/ be said t ! v ^w has a repell5t s*ooltea*]i% s\nd4 ,"o pictures in/9ctively a humorless tyrant ^: correct mann] pla9ly reveals h] true purpose1 :i* is to take ! joy out ( life4 ,t %e c be--& (t5 is--a p]fectly human & sympa!tic p]son1 ^: unselfi% desire is m]ely to smoo? ! pa? ( "o :o is ! d>l+ ( h] he>t1 9 no?+ alt]s ! feel+ ( gloom t settles ^u ! _s ( y\? at ! m5tion ( ! v ^w *ap]on4 ,,fre$om ,,( ,,! ,,*ap]on$ ,z a matt] ( fact ! only "y girl :o is really free1 is %e ^: *ap]on is nev] v f> away4 ,%e ne$ give conv5tionality v little ?\ght1 & n bo!r ab\t h] ,p's & ,q's at all1 because h] *ap]on is always a /rong & protective def5se2 b a "y girl :o is unprotect$ by a *ap]on is 9 ! position precisely ( an un>m$ travel] walk+ alone among wolves--8 only def5se is 9 n attract+ _! notice4 ,to be sure ! "t has gone by :5 ! pres5ce ( an eld]ly lady is indisp5sable to e ga!r+ ( "y p4 ,"y girls = ^: sole b5efit & protection ! *ap]on exi/s 7%e does n exi/ = h] own pleasure1 y\?ful op9ion to ! contr>y not)/&+71 h inf9itely great] fre$om f h] surveillance ?an _h ^? ( o!r days1 & ! typical *ap]on is seldom se5 ) any b v "y girls1 too "y to h m>ri$ fri5ds4 ,o!rwise a "y m>ri$ woman1 a bride p]haps sc>cely out ( h] te5s1 is1 on all ord9>y occasions1 a p]fectly suitable *ap]on1 especially if h] husb& is pres5t4 ,a v "y m>ri$ woman gadd+ ab\t )\t h] husb& is n a prop] *ap]on4 ,!re are also _m occasions :5 a *ap]on is unnecess>y6 ,x is consid]$ p]fectly correct = a "y girl to drive a motor by h]self1 or take a "y man ) h]1 if h] family "k & approve ( him1 = any %ort di/ance 9 ! c\ntry4 ,%e may play golf1 t5nis1 g to ! ,c\ntry ,club1 or ,golf ,club 7if ne> by71 sit on ! bea*1 g canoe+1 ride horseback1 & take "p 9 ! normal sports & occupations ( c\ntry life4 ,"y girls always g to private p>ties ( e sort )\t _! own *ap]on1 b ! fact t a lady issues an invitation means t ei!r %e or ano!r suitable *ap]on w be pres5t4 ,,! ,,be/ ,,*ap]on ,,h]self ,e?ically ! only *ap]on is ! "y girl's own s5se ( dignity & pride2 %e :o has ! "r attributes ( "* ne$s no *ap]on--ev]4 ,if %e is want+ 9 dec5cy & prop] pride1 n ev5 ,argus c\ld wat* ov] h]6 ,b ap>t f e?ics1 !re are ! conv5tions to ?9k (1 & ! conv5tions ( propriety dem& t v "y woman mu/ be protect$ by a *ap]on1 because o!rwise %e w be misjudg$4 ,,! ,,resid5t ,,*ap]on ,no "y girl may live alone4 ,ev5 ?\gh %e has a fa!r1 unless he devotes 8 entire "t to h]1 %e mu/ also h a resid5t *ap]on :o protects h] reputation until %e is m>ri$ or old en\gh to protect x h]self--:i* is n until %e has rea*$ a fairly advanc$ age1 ( p]haps ?irty ye>s or ov] if %e is alone1 or tw5ty-six or s if %e lives 9 h] fa!r's h\se & behaves ) su* irreproa*able circumspection t ,mrs4 ,grundy is giv5 no *ance to set tongues wagg+4 ,x goes )\t say+ t a *ap]on is always a lady1 (t5 "o ^: social position is bett] ?an t ( h] *>ge2 occasionally %e is a social sponsor z well z a moral "o4 ,h] position1 if %e is n a relative1 is v l t ( a companion4 ,above all1 a *ap]on mu/ h dignity1 & if %e is to be ( any actual s]vice1 %e mu/ be k9d ( he>t & h intellig5t sympa?y & tact4 ,to h h] *>ge n only c>e = h]1 b be happy ) h]1 is ! only possible way su* a relation%ip c endure4 ,ne$less to say a *ap]on's own conduct mu/ be irreproa*able & h] k ( ! _w su* z c only be ga9$ by p]sonal exp]i5ce2 b %e ne$ n be an old lady6 ,%e c p]fectly well be reasonably "y1 & a sp9/]4 ,v (t5 ! *ap]on keeps ! h\se1 b %e is nev] call$ a h\sekeep]4 ,nor is %e a secret>y ?\gh %e probably draws ! *ecks & audits ! bills4 ,x is by no means unusual = mo!rs :o are ei!r v gay or o!rwise busy1 & _c give mo/ ( _! "t to _! gr[n & gr[+ daught]s1 to put !m 9 *>ge ( a resid5t *ap]on4 ,(t5 _! gov]ness--if %e is a woman ( ! _w--gives up h] autocracy ( ! s*oolroom & becomes social gu>dian in/ead4 ,,! ,,duties ,,( ,a ,,*ap]on ,x is unnecess>y to say t a *ap]on has no "r to be inquisitive or int]f]+ unless = a v good reason4 ,if an objectionable p]son--mean+ "o :o c n be consid]$ a g5tleman--is incl9$ to %[ ! "y girl att5tions1 x is ( c\rse h] duty to cut ! acqua9tance %ort at ! beg9n+ be=e ! "y girl's int]e/ has become ar\s$4 ,= j su* a cont+5cy z ?is x is ( vital importance t confid5ce & sympa?y exi/ betwe5 ! *ap]on & h] *>ge4 ,no mod]n "y girl is likely to obey bl9dly unless %e values ! op9ions ( "o 9 ^: judgm5t & affection %e has le>n$ to believe4 ,,:5 ,,invitations ,,are ,,s5t ,,out ,,by ,a ,,*ap]on ,usually if a "y girl is an orphan1 liv+ ) a *ap]on1 a ball or =mal p>ty w\ld be giv5 9 ! "n ( an aunt or o!r ne> relative4 ,if h] fa!r is alive1 ! invitations g out 9 8 "n ( c\rse1 & he receives ) h]4 ,b if x %\ld happ5 t %e has no ne> family at all1 or if h] *ap]on is h] social sponsor1 ! *ap]on's "n c be put on invitations4 ,= example3 ,miss ,abigail ,ti!r+ton ,miss ,rosalie ,gray w be at home on ,saturday ! fif? ( ,decemb] f f\r until six o'clock ,! ,fitz-,*]ry ,rosalie has no v ne> relatives & ,miss ,ti!r+ton has br\ght h] up4 ,9 s5d+ out ! invitations = a d9n] 7a "y girl w\ld n be giv+ a =mal d9n]7 ,rosalie telephones h] fri5ds ,w y d9e ) me 7or u7 next ,monday8 or1 ,on ! sixte5?8 ,x is n necess>y to m5tion ,miss ,ti!r+ton because x is tak5 = grant$ t %e w be pres5t4 ,x is also n consid]$ prop] = a "y girl ev] to be alone z ho/ess4 ,:5 %e invites "y girls & m5 to h] h\se1 ,miss ,ti!r+ton ei!r receives !m or comes into ! room :ile !y are !re4 ,if ! "t is aft]noon1 v likely %e p\rs tea & :5 ev]yone has be5 help$1 %e goes into ano!r room4 ,%e does n /ay ) !m ev]1 b %e is nev] v f> away4 ,! *ap]on 7or a p>5t7 %\ld nev] g to b$ until ! la/ "y man has left ! h\se4 ,x is an un=givable brea* ( decorum to all[ a "y girl to sit up late at night ) a "y man--or a numb] ( !m4 ,on return+ home f a p>ty1 %e mu/ n invite or all[ a man to come 9 = a :ile4 ,ev5 h] fianc mu/ bid h] good night at ! door if ! h\r is late1 & "s "o ought always to sit up1 or get up1 to let h] 94 ,no "y girl ought to let h]self 9 ) a lat*-key4 ,9 old-fa%ion$ days no lady _h a lat*-key4 ,& x is /ill fitt+ & prop] = a s]vant to op5 ! door = h]4 ,a "y girl may n1 ev5 ) h] fianc1 lun* 9 a road h\se )\t a *ap]on1 or g on a j\rney t c by any possibility la/ ov] night4 ,to g out ) him 9 a small sail-boat s\nds h>mless en\gh1 b might result 9 a que/ionable situation if !y are becalm$1 or if !y are left helpless 9 a sudd5 fog4 ,! ,ma9e coa/1 = example1 is p>ticul>ly subject to fogs t (t5 %ut d[n )\t w>n+ & no "o go+ out on ! wat] c tell :e!r he w be able to get back )9 a reasonable "t or n4 ,a man & a girl w5t out f ,b> ,h>bor & did n get back until next day4 ,ev]yone knew ! fog _h come 9 z ?ick z pea-s\p & t x 0 impossible to get home2 b to ! end ( "t h] reputation w suff] = ! exp]i5ce4 ,a ,,few ,,precepts ,,( ,,conv5tion ,at a d9n] p>ty giv5 = "y p 9 a private h\se1 a some:at old] si/] w\ld be a suffici5t *ap]on4 ,or ! "y ho/ess' "m aft] receiv+ ! gue/s may1 if %e *ooses1 d9e ) h] husb& else:]e ?an 9 ! d9+-room1 ! p>5ts' ro( be+ suppos$ly *ap]onage en\gh4 ,9 go+ to tea 9 a college man's room1 or 9 a ba*elor's ap>tm5t1 ! prop] *ap]on %\ld be a lady ( fairly mature ye>s4 ,to see two or ?ree app>5tly "y p go+ into a ba*elor's qu>t]s w\ld be op5 to criticism4 ,!re are _m places :i* are unsuitable = "y girls to g to :e!r !y are *ap]on$ or n4 ,no well br\ght up "y girl %\ld be all[$ to g to supp] at a cab>et until %e is m>ri$1 or has pass$ ! age :5 v "y c be appli$ to h]4 ,,conv5tions ,,t ,,*ange ,,) ,,locality ,9 ,new ,york1 = in/ance1 no "y girl ( social /&+ may1 )\t be+ criticiz$1 g alone ) a man to ! !at]4 ,absolutely no lady 7unless middle-ag$-& ev5 !n %e w\ld be defy+ conv5tion7 c g to d9n] or supp] 9 a re/aurant alone ) a g5tleman4 ,a lady1 n "y1 :o is /ay+ 9 a v dignifi$ hotel1 c h a g5tleman d9e ) h]4 ,b any m>ri$ woman1 if h] husb& does n object1 may d9e alone 9 h] own home ) any man %e pleases or h a diff]5t "o come 9 to tea e day 9 ! week )\t be+ criticiz$4 ,a v "y girl may motor ar\nd ! c\ntry alone ) a man1 ) h] fa!r's cons5t1 or sit ) him on ! rocks by ! sea or on a log 9 ! woods2 b %e mu/ n sit ) him 9 a re/aurant4 ,all ( :i* is ab\t z upside d[n z x c v well be4 ,9 a re/aurant !y are n only "u ! surveillance ( _m eyes1 b !y c sc>cely speak )\t be+ ov]he>d1 :]eas %ort-di/ance motor+1 driv+1 rid+1 walk+ or sitt+ on ! sea%ore has no elem5t ( protection c]ta9ly4 ,aga91 ?\gh %e may n lun* ) him 9 a re/aurant1 %e is sometimes 7n always7 all[$ to g to a mov+ picture mat9e ) him6 ,:y sitt+ 9 ! d>k 9 a mov+ picture !at] is all[$1 & ! re/aurant is tabu is v my/]i\s4 ,old] girls & "y m>ri$ wom5 are beg9n+ to lun* ) m5 !y "k well 9 "s ( ! ,new ,york re/aurants1 b n 9 o!rs4 ,9 _m cities x w\ld be sc&al\s = a "y m>ri$ woman to lun* ) a man n h] husb&1 b q all "r = a "y girl & man to lun* at a c\ntry club4 ,?is la/ is reasonable because ! room is und\bt$ly fill$ ) p !y "k--:o act z pot5tial *ap]ons4 ,ne>ly ev]y:]e x is ?\ght prop] = !m to g to a danc+ club = tea1 if ! club is manag$ by a *ap]on4 ,z said above1 int]pretation ( :at is prop] %ifts accord+ to locality4 ,ev5 9 ,victorian days x 0 prop] 9 ,baltimore = a "y girl to g to ! !at] alone ) a man1 & to h him see h] home f a ball 0 n only p]mitt$ b absolutely correct4 ,,mrs4 ,,grundy ,( c\rse e "o has 8 own portrait ( ,mrs4 ,grundy1 & "s idea ( ! p]sonality %e %[s to him2 b has any "o ev] tri$ to f]ret out t disagreeable old woman's own position2 to f9d out :]e %e lives & :y %e has no?+ to d b m$dle 9 affairs :i* d n conc]n h]4 ,is %e a lady8 ,"o w\ld imag9e %e is n4 ,"o w\ld also imag9e t %e lives 9 a solid well-repair$ squ>e br[n /one h\se ) a cupola us$ z a conn+ t[] & equipp$ ) p]iscope & telescope & wireless4 ,fur!rmore1 h] h\se is situat$ on a bleak hill s t no?+ imp$es h] view & t ( h] two pets1 a magpie & a jackal4 ,& ! bus9ess 9 life ( all ?ree ( !m is to track d[n & de/roy ! good "n ( e woman :o comes )9 range1 especially if %e is "y & pretty--& un*ap]on$6 ,! pretty "y woman liv+ alone1 mu/ lit]ally foll[ ,c9d]ella's habits4 ,to be out ( ! h\se late at night or sitt+ up1 except to /udy1 are imprud5ces %e c n all[ h]self4 ,if %e is a wid[ h] conduct mu/ be above criticism1 b if %e is "y & pretty & divorc$1 %e mu/ lit]ally live ! life ( a ,puritan sp9/] ( ,salem4 ,! magpie nev] leaves h] w9d[ sill & ! jackal sits on ! doormat1 & ! news ( h] e go+ out & com+ 91 ( e "o :om %e receives1 :5 !y come1 h[ long !y /ay & at :at h\r !y g1 is spread broadca/4 ,no unprotect$ woman c d ! lea/ ?+ t is unconv5tional )\t hav+ ,mrs4 ,grundy %\t+ to ev]yone ! wor/ possible ?+s ab\t h]4 ,,! ,,ba*elor ,,girl ,! ba*elor girl is usually a work]2 %e is g5]ally ei!r e>n+ h] liv+ or /udy+ to acquire ! means ( e>n+ h] liv+4 ,h] days are !re=e sure to be occupi$1 & ! fact t %e has little "t = ! gaiety ( life1 & t %e is a work]1 puts h] 9 a some:at less assailable position4 ,%e c on occasion g out alone ) a man 7n a m>ri$ "o71 b ! !at] %e goes to mu/ be ( conv5tional "*1 & if %e d9es 9 a re/aurant x is imp]ative t a *ap]on be 9 ! p>ty2 & ! same is true 9 go+ to supp] at night4 ,no "o c\ld v well criticize h] = go+ to ! op]a or a conc]t ) a man :5 nei!r h] nor 8 behavior h9ts a lack ( res]ve4 ,b a girl ^: p]sonal dignity is unassailable is n apt to br+ c5sure ^u h]self1 ev5 ?\gh ! _w judges by etiquette1 :i* may (t5 be a false measure4 ,! "y woman :o wants really to be free f ,mrs4 ,grundy's hold on h]1 mu/ ei!r live h] own life1 c>+ no?+ = ! _w's op9ion or ! position x (f]s1 or else be *ap]on$4 ,,! ,,ba*elor ,,ho/ ,,& ,,! ,,*ap]on ,b>r+ ! "o fact t a *ap]on mu/ be on h& be=e "y or s+le wom5 gue/s arrive1 & t %e may n leave until aft] ^? :om %e has *ap]on$ h left1 !re is no diff]5ce :atsoev] 9 an ent]ta9m5t giv5 at ! h\se ( a ba*elor & "o giv5 by a ho/ess4 ,a ba*elor c give d9n]s or !at] p>ties or ya*t+ p>ties or h\se p>ties or any p>ties t a ho/ess c give4 ,x is unnecess>y to say no lady may d9e alone 9 a g5tleman's rooms1 or h\se2 nor may %e d9e ) a numb] ( g5tlem5 7unless "o ( !m is h] husb&1 9 :i* case %e is sc>cely alone74 ,b x is p]fectly correct = two or m ladies to d9e at a g5tleman's rooms if "o ( ! ladies is eld]ly or ! husb& ( "o is pres5t4 ,a ba*elor ent]ta9+ 9 ba*elor's qu>t]s1 mean+ t he has only a man s]vant1 mu/ be mu* m punctili\s1 & mu/ arrange to h ! *ap]on br+ any "y woman gue/s ) h]1 s9ce no "y girls c\ld be se5 ent]+ ba*elor's qu>t]s alone1 & h _! good "n survive4 ,if he has a l>ge e/abli%m5t1 includ+ wom5 s]vants1 & if fur!rmore he is a man ^: own reputation is unblemi%$1 ! *ap]on may be met at 8 h\se4 ,b s9ce x is m prud5t = "y wom5 to arrive "u h] c>e1 :y run ! unnecess>y risk ( meet+ ,mrs4 ,grundy's jackal on ! door/ep8 ,at ! h\se ( a ba*elor su* z describ$ above1 ! *ap]on c\ld be a husb&less "y m>ri$ woman1 or 9 o!r words1 ! mo/ c>eless *ap]on possible1 )\t ev] giv+ ,mrs4 ,grundy's magpie cause = ruffl+ a fea!r4 ,b no "y woman c\ld d9e or h tea1 no matt] h[ well *ap]on$1 9 ! rooms ( a man ( morally bad reputation )\t runn+ a v unpleasant risk ( c5sure4 ,a ,,ba*elor',s ,,h\se ,,p>ties ,ba*elors frequ5tly h h\se p>ties at _! c\ntry places4 ,a m>ri$ lady ^: husb& is ) h] is always ! *ap]on unless ! ho/'s "m or si/] may be /ay+--or liv+--9 8 h\se4 ,!re is always some?+ unusually allur+ ab\t a ba*elor's ent]ta9+4 ,especially 8 h\se p>ties4 ,:]e d all ba*elors get ^? nice & s v respectable eld]ly maid s]vants8 ,!y c't all h be5 _! nurses6 ,& a ba*elor's h\se has a some?+ ab\t x t is v com=table b entirely diff]5t f a lady's h\se1 ?\gh x w\ld be difficult to def9e :]e9 ! diff]5ce lies4 ,he is p]haps m att5tive ?an a ho/ess1 at lea/ he meets 8 gue/s at ! /ation if !y come by tra91 or1 if !y motor to 8 h\se1 he goes out on ! front /eps to greet !m z !y drive up4 ,a possible reason :y ba*elors seem to make su* good ho/s is t only ^? :o h a tal5t = x make ! attempt4 ,!re is nev] any obligation on a g5tleman's "p to invite ladies to /ay ) him1 :]eas x is "p ( e lady's duty at lea/ occasionally to be a ho/ess1 :e!r %e has tal5t1 or ev5 incl9ation1 = ! position or n4 ,a g5tleman c return ! c\rtesies ( ho/esses to him by occasionally s5d+ fl[]s1 or books1 or c&y1 & by %[+ !m polite att5tion :5 he meets !m out4 ,if a ba*elor lives 9 a h\se ( 8 own1 especially 9 a c\ntry community1 he is "u ! same obligations z any o!r h\sehold] to return ! hospitality %[n by 8 neighbors to him4 ,,invitations ,! ba*elor's invitations are ! same z ^? s5t out by a ho/ess4 ,!re is absolutely no diff]5ce4 ,8 butl] or waitress telephones ,w ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,norman d9e ) ,mr4 ,ba*elor on ,w$nesday8 ,or he writes a note or uses ! engrav$ d9n] c>d4 ,9 giv+ an in=mal dance x is q correct1 accord+ to ,new ,york fa%ion1 = him to write on 8 visit+ c>d3 ,,hw3 ,monday ,jan4y #crd ,at #aj o'clock ,mr4 ,fr$]ick ,ba*elor ,,hw3 ,small ,dance #b ,pormanto ,place ,or an arti/ s5ds 8 c>d ) 8 /udio address & ,,hw3 ,saturday ,april #g4 at #d o'ck ,,mr4 ,,an?ony ,,daub] ,,hw3 ,to he> ,ton9i ,play ,p>k ,/udio ,no invitation ( a g5tleman m5tions t !re w be a *ap]on because t is tak5 = grant$4 ,no g5tleman invites ladies ( position to a p>ty unless "o or _m *ap]ons are to be pres5t4 ,a v "y girl nev] goes ev5 to an unm>ri$ doctor's or a cl]gyman's 7unless ! latt] is v eld]ly7 )\t a *ap]on1 :o 9 ?is in/ance may be a semi-eld]ly maid4 ,a lady hav+ h] portrait pa9t$ always takes a woman fri5d1 or h] maid1 :o sits 9 ! /udio1 or at lea/ )9 sight or he>+4 ,,*apt] ,,xx ,,engagem5ts ,,c\rt%ip ,s long z ,romance exi/s & ,lo*9v> rema9s "y manhood's ideal1 love at fir/ sight & m>riage 9 a week is )9 ! b\nd>ies ( possibility4 ,b usually 7& c]ta9ly m wisely7 a "y man is = "s "t att5tive to a "y woman be=e dream+ ( m>riage4 ,?us n only h h] p>5ts pl5ty ( "t to f9d out :at mann] ( man he is1 & ei!r accept or take means to prev5t a s]i\s situation2 b ! mod]n "y woman h]self is n likely to be c>ri$ away by ! p]sonality ( anyone ^: "* & temp]am5t %e does n pretty ?or\ghly und]/& & weigh4 ,9 no?+ does ! pres5t "t m greatly diff] f ! close ( ! la/ c5tury1 ?an 9 ! unres]v$ frankness ( "y wom5 & m5 t[>ds ea* o!r4 ,^? :o speak ( ! dom9ation ( sex 9 ?is day are ei!r too "y to rememb]1 or else h n /opp$ to consid]1 t my/]y play$ a f> great] & m dang]\s rle :5 sex1 l a woman's ankle1 0 c>efully hidd5 f view1 & !re=e f> m allur+ ?an to-day :5 bo? are commonplace matt]s4 ,9 cities tw5ty-five ye>s ago1 a "y girl _h beaux :o came to see h] "o at a "t2 !y 9 =mal clo!s & mann]s1 %e 9 h] company be/ to receive !m1 sat /iffly 9 ! front p>lor & made politely =mal conv]sation4 ,inv>iably !y address$ ea* o!r z ,miss ,smi? & ,mr4 ,jones1 & !y talk$ (f ! top ) ab\t ! same lack ( res]vation z ! ambassador ( "o c\ntry may be suppos$ to talk to him ( ano!r4 ,a "y man 0 said to be devot$ to ?is "y girl or t1 b z a matt] ( fact ea* 0 act+ a rle1 he ( an admir] & %e ( a sir51 & ea* 0 actually an utt] /rang] to ! o!r4 ,,fri5d%ip ,,& ,,gr\p ,,sy/em ,to-day no trace ( /ilt$ artificiality rema9s4 ,! tte-a-tte ( a qu>t] ( a c5tury ago has giv5 place to ! cont9ual pres5ce ( a gr\p4 ,a flock ( "y girls & a flock ( "y m5 =m a little gr\p ( _! own--ev]y:]e !y are toge!r4 ,9 ! c\ntry !y visit ! same h\ses or !y live 9 ! same neighborhood1 !y play golf 9 f\rsomes1 & t5nis 9 mix$ d\bles4 ,9 w9t] at balls !y sit at ! same table = supp]1 !y h little dances at _! own homes1 :]e sc>cely any b !mselves are invit$2 !y play bridge1 !y h tea toge!r1 b :atev] !y d1 !y /ay 9 ! pack4 ,9 m ?an "o way ?is gr\p habit is excell5t2 "y wom5 & m5 are fri5ds 9 a degree ( natural & entirely platonic intimacy undream$ ( 9 _! p>5ts' y\?4 ,hav+ ! habit !re=e ( kn[+ h] m5 fri5ds well1 a "y girl is n go+ to imag9e a /rang]1 no matt] h[ p]fect he may appe> to be1 any?+ b an ord9>y human man aft] all4 ,& 9 f9d+ out 8 bad po9ts z well z 8 good1 %e is aid$ & abett$1 enc\rag$ or held 9 *eck1 by ! memb]s ( ! gr\p to :i* %e belongs4 ,suppose1 = in/ance1 t a /rang] becomes att5tive to ,m>y2 imm$iately h] fri5ds fix _! att5tion ^u him1 wat*+ him4 ,tw5ty-five ye>s ago ! "y m5 w\ld h look$ ^u him ) jeal\sy1 & ! "y wom5 w\ld h s\ght to annex him4 ,to-day _! attitude is3 ,is he good en\gh = ,m>y8 ,&1 eagle-ey$1 protective ( ,m>y1 !y wat* him4 ,if !y ?9k he is all "r he becomes a memb] ( ! gr\p4 ,x may develop t ,m>y & he c>e no?+ = ea* o!r1 & he may fall 9 love ) ano!r memb]1 or he may drift out ( ! gr\p aga9 or he may /ay 9 x & ,m>y h]self m>ry out ( x4 ,b if he is n lik$1 h] fri5ds w n be ba%ful ab\t tell+ ,m>y exactly :at !y ?9k1 & !y w f9d means usually--unless _! prejudice is )\t f\ndation--to break up ! budd+ fri5d%ip f> bett] ?an any old] p]son c\ld d4 ,if %e is really 9 love ) him & det]m9$ to m>ry 9 spite ( _! frankly giv5 op9ion1 %e at lea/ makes h] decision ) h] eyes op54 ,!re are also occasions :5 a "y woman is p]suad$ by h] p>5ts into mak+ a suitable m>riage2 !re are occasions :5 a "y woman p]si/s 9 mak+ a m>riage 9 opposition to h] p>5ts2 b usually a "y man ei!r belongs 9 or jo9s h] p>ticul> circle ( intimate fri5ds1 & "o day1 x may be to _! own surprize1 ?\gh seldom to t ( _! intimates1 !y f9d t ea* is ! only "o 9 ! _w = ! o!r1 & !y become engag$4 ,,fir/ ,,duty ,,( ,,! ,,accept$ ,,suitor ,if a "y man & 8 p>5ts are v close fri5ds x is m ?an likely he w already h told !m ( ! s]i\sness ( 8 int5tions4 ,v possibly he has ask$ 8 fa!r's f9ancial assi/ance1 or at lea/ discuss$ ways & means1 b z soon z he & %e h def9itely made up _! m9ds t !y want to m>ry ea* o!r1 x is ! imm$iate duty ( ! man to g to ! girl's fa!r or h] gu>dian1 & ask 8 cons5t4 ,if h] fa!r refuses1 ! engagem5t _c exi/4 ,! man mu/ !n try1 ?r\gh "w or o!r pro( ( /ability & s]i\sness1 to w9 ! fa!r's approval4 ,fail+ 9 t1 ! "y woman is fac$ ) dismiss+ him or m>ry+ 9 opposition to h] p>5ts4 ,!re are1 ( c\rse1 unreasonable & obdurate p>5ts1 b x is ne$less to po9t out t a "y woman assumes a v great risk :o takes h] future into h] own h&s & elopes4 ,b ev5 s1 !re is no excuse = ! mo/ unfilial act ( all--deception4 ,! honorable "y woman :o has made up h] m9d to m>ry 9 spite ( h] p>5ts' disapproval1 ann\nces to !m1 if %e c1 t on su* & su* a day h] w$d+ w take place4 ,if ?is is impossible1 %e at lea/ refuses to give h] ^w t %e w n m>ry4 ,! height ( di%onor is to give h] ^w & !n break x4 ,,! ,,approv$ ,,engagem5t ,usually1 h[ev]1 :5 ! "y man ent]s ! /udy or (fice ( h] fa!r1 ! latt] has a p]fectly good idea ( :at he has come to say &1 hav+ all[$ 8 att5tions1 is probably will+ to accept 8 daught]'s *oice2 & ! =m] aft] ann\nc+ t ! daught] has accept$ him1 goes into details z to 8 f9ancial /&+ & prospects4 ,if ! f9ances are n suffici5tly /able1 ! fa!r may tell him to wait = a c]ta9 l5g? ( "t be=e consid]+ himself engag$1 or if !y are satisfactory to him1 he makes no objection to an imm$iate ann\ncem5t4 ,9 ei!r case1 ! man probably hurries to tell ! "y woman :at h] fa!r has said1 & if he has be5 v frequ5tly at ! h\se1 v likely !y bo? tell h] "m & h] imm$iate family1 or1 m likely /ill1 %e has told h] "m fir/ ( all4 ,,8 ,,p>5ts ,,call ,,on ,,h]s ,z soon z ! "y woman's fa!r accepts ! engagem5t1 etiquette dem&s t ! p>5ts ( ! bridegroom-elect call at once 7)9 tw5ty-f\r h\rs7 ^u ! p>5ts ( ! bride-to-be4 ,if illness or abs5ce prev5ts "o ( !m1 ! o!r mu/ g alone4 ,if ! "y man is an orphan1 8 uncle1 aunt or o!r ne>e/ relative %\ld g 9 ! p>5ts' place4 ,n ev5 deep m\rn+ c excuse ! failure to obs]ve ?is =mality4 ,,! ,,engagem5t ,,r+ ,x is d\btful if he :o c>ries a solitaire r+ enclos$ 9 a little squ>e box & produces x f 8 pocket ^u ! in/ant t %e says ,yes1 exi/s outside ( ! mov+ pictures6 ,z a matt] ( fact1 ! accept$ suitor usually consults 8 betro!d's ta/e--:i* ( c\rse may be gratifi$ or greatly modifi$1 accord+ to ! l5g? ( 8 purse--or he may1 )\t consult+ h]1 buy :at r+ he *ooses4 ,a solitaire diamond is ! conv5tional emblem ( ! s+l5ess & endurability ( ! "o love 9 8 life1 & ! /one is suppos$ to be pure & flawless z ! bride h]self1 & _! future toge!r--or s5tim5ts equally beautiful4 ,!re is also s5tim5t = a sapphire's dep? ( true blue4 ,pe>ls are suppos$ to mean te>s2 em]alds1 jeal\sy2 opals1 ! ess5ce ( bad luck2 b ! ruby /&s = w>m? & ardor3 all ( :i* x is ne$less to say is pure/ unf\nd$ sup]/ition4 ,9 ! pres5t day1 preci\s /ones hav+ so>$ f> out ( rea* ( all b ! really ri*1 fa%ion r pref]s a l>ge semi-preci\s "o to a microscopic diamond4 ,fa%ion1 h[ev]1 is m]ely mom5t>y & local1 & ! great majority w probably always consid] a diamond ! only r+ to h4 ,x is n obligatory1 or ev5 cu/om>y1 = ! girl to give ! man an engagem5t pres5t1 b !re is no impropriety 9 h] do+ s if %e wants to1 & any ( ! foll[+ articles w\ld be suitable3 ,a pair ( cuff l9ks1 or wai/coat buttons1 or a wat* *a91 or a key *a91 or a cig>ette case4 ,probably because ! giv+ ( an engagem5t r+ is 8 p>ticul> prov9ce1 %e v r>ely gives him a r+ or1 9 fact1 any pres5t at all4 ,! engagem5t r+ is worn = ! fir/ "t 9 public on ! day ( ! ann\ncem5t4 ,,be=e ,,ann\ncem5t ,usually a few days be=e ! =mal ann\ncem5t--& /ill e>li] = lett]s writt5 abroad or to di/ant ,/ates--bo? "y p write to _! aunts1 uncles1 & c\s9s1 & to _! mo/ intimate fri5ds1 ( _! engagem5t1 ask+ !m n to tell anyone until ! det]m9$ date4 ,z soon z !y receive ! news1 all ! relatives ( ! groom-elect mu/ call on ! bride4 ,%e is n welcom$ by ! family until _! c>ds1 left ^u h] 9 p]son1 assure h] s4 ,%e mu/1 ( c\rse1 return all ( ^! visits1 & z soon z possible4 ,if 8 p are 9 ! habit ( ent]ta9+1 !y %\ld v soon ask h] ) h] fianc to lun* or to d9n]1 or aft] ! engagem5t is publicly ann\nc$1 give a d9n] or tea or dance 9 h] honor4 ,if1 on ! o!r h&1 !y are v quiet p1 _! call+ ^u h] is suffici5t 9 itself to %[ _! welcome4 ,9 case ( a rec5t dea? 9 ei!r imm$iate family1 ! engagem5t _c be publicly ann\nc$ until ! fir/ p]iod ( m\rn+ is pa/4 7,x is entirely dignifi$ = a private w$d+ to take place at ! b$side ( a v ill p>5t1 or soon aft] a deep b]eavem5t4 ,9 t case !re is1 ( c\rse1 no celebration1 & ! s]vice is read 9 ! pres5ce ( ! imm$iate families only47 ,! ann\ncem5t is inv>iably made by ! p>5ts ( ! bride-elect4 ,x is a brea* ( etiquette = a memb] ( ! "y man's family to tell ( ! engagem5t until ! =mal ann\ncem5t has be5 arrang$ =4 ,,ann\ncem5t ,,( ,,engagem5t ,on ! ev5+ be=e ! day ( ! ann\ncem5t1 ! bride's "m ei!r s5ds a note1 or has "s "o call ! v>i\s daily pap]s by telephone1 & says3 ,i am speak+ = ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt+ton ,smi?4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,smi? are ann\nc+ ! engagem5t ( _! daught]1 ,m>y1 to ,mr4 ,james ,sm>tl+ton1 son ( ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,ar?ur ,br[n ,sm>tl+ton1 ( #bjjj ,arcade ,av5ue4 ,if ei!r ! ,hunt+ton ,smi?s or ! ,ar?ur ,sm>tl+tons are socially prom95t1 report]s w be s5t to get fur!r in=mation4 ,photographs & details1 su* z ent]ta9m5ts to be giv51 or plans = ! w$d+1 w probably be ask$ =4 ,! prejudices ( old-fa%ion$ p aga9/ giv+ p]sonal news to pap]s is rapidly be+ ov]come & n ev5 ! mo/ cons]vative any long] object to a dignifi$ /atem5t ( facts1 su* z ,mrs4 ,smi?'s telephone message4 ,x is n[ consid]$ entirely good =m to give photographs to magaz9es & newspap]s1 b "o %\ld nev] s5d !m unless specially reque/$4 ,on ! eve ( ! ann\ncem5t1 a d9n] is sometimes giv5 by ! "y girl's p>5ts1 & ! news is told by h] fa!r1 :o at ab\t salad c\rse or dess]t1 proposes ! heal? ( 8 daught] & future son-9-law4 ,,h[ ,a ,,heal? ,,is ,,propos$ ,! ho/ aft] direct+ t all glasses at ! table be fill$1 rises1 lifts 8 own glass & says3 ,i propose we dr9k to ! heal? ( my daught] ,m>y & ! "y man %e has decid$ to add p]man5tly to our family1 ,james ,sm>tl+ton4 ,or3 ,a /&+ toa/3 ,to my ,m>y & to h]--,jim6 ,or3 ,i want y to dr9k ! happ9ess ( a "y pair ^: future welf>e is close to ! he>ts ( all ( u3 ,m>y 7hold+ up 8 glass & look+ at h]7 & ,jim6 7hold+ x up aga9 & look+ at him74 ,e "o except ,m>y & ,jim rises & dr9ks a swall[ or two 7( :atev] ! *ampagne sub/itute may be74 ,e "o !n congratulates ! "y c\ple1 & ,jim is call$ ^u = a spee*6 ,g5]ally r fuss$1 ,jim rises & says some?+ l3 ,i--er--we--?ank y all v mu* inde$ = all y\r good wi%es1 & sits d[n4 ,or if he is an e>ne/ r ?an a %y y\?1 p]haps he cont9ues3 ,i don't h to tell y h[ lucky ,i am1 ! ?+ = me to d is to prove1 if ,i c1 t ,m>y has n made ! mi/ake ( h] life 9 *oos+ me1 & ,i hope t x won't be v long be=e we see y all at our own table ) ,m>y at ! head ( x & ,i1 :]e ,i belong1 at ! foot4 ,or3 ,i c't make a spee* & y "k x4 ,b ,i c]ta9ly am lucky & ,i "k x4 ,,:5 ,,no ,,spee* ,,is ,,made ,! prevail+ cu/om 9 ,new ,york & o!r big cities is = ! p>ty to be giv5 on ! aft]noon or ev5+ ( ! day ( ann\ncem5t4 ,! engagem5t 9 ?is case is nev] proclaim$ to ! gue/s z an assembl$ audi5ce4 ,! news is out & ev]yone is suppos$ to h he>d x4 ,^? :o h n1 c n long rema9 ignorant1 z ! groom-elect is ei!r receiv+ ) 8 fiance or br\ght =w>d by h] fa!r & pres5t$ to e "o he does n "k4 ,ev]ybody congratulates him & (f]s ! bride-to-be good wi%es = h] happ9ess4 ,a d9n] or o!r ent]ta9m5t giv5 to ann\nce an engagem5t is by no means necess>y4 ,quiet p v (t5 m]ely write notes ( ann\ncem5t & say !y w be at home on su* an aft]noon at tea "t4 ,! =m & detail are exactly ! same z on an habitual day at home except t ! bride & groom-elect bo? receive z well z h] "m4 ,,p>ties ,,= ,,! ,,engag$ ,,c\ple ,if ! families & fri5ds ( ! "y c\ple are at all 9 ! habit ( ent]ta9+1 ! ann\ncem5t ( an engagem5t is ! signal always = a %[] ( invitations4 ,! p>5ts ( ! groom-elect are sure to give a dance1 or a p>ty ( "o k9d or ano!r to meet _! daught]-to-be4 ,if ! engagem5t is a %ort "o1 _! life becomes a v]itable da%+ f ?is h\se to t1 & e meal !y eat seems to be "o giv5 = !m by "s "o4 ,x is n uncommon = a bride-elect to receive a few engagem5t pres5ts4 7,^! are entirely ap>t f w$d+ pres5ts :i* come lat]47 ,a small aft]noon teacup & sauc] us$ to be ! typical engagem5t gift1 b x has gone r out ( vogue1 along ) h>lequ9 *9a 9 g5]al4 ,engagem5t pres5ts are usually p]sonal trifles s5t ei!r by h] own v intimate fri5ds or by memb]s ( h] fianc's family z especial messages ( welcome to h]s--& z su* are v *>m+4 ,b any g5]al fa%ion t necessitates giv+ engagem5t z well z w$d+ pres5ts may well be look$ ^u ) al>m by ^? :o h only mod]ately fill$ pocketbooks6 ,,engag$ ,,c\ple ,,9 ,,public ,!re is said to be /ill pres]v$ some:]e 9 ,massa*usetts a :isp]+ re$ ?r\gh ! long holl[ l5g? ( :i* lov]s 7 wont to :isp] messages ( t5d]ness to ea* o!r :ile sep>at$ by a room's l5g? & ! inevitable *ap]onage ( ! fiance's entire family4 ,f ^? days to ^! is a f> cry1 b ev5 9 ?is era ( lib]ty & naturalness ( impulse1 runn+ ! gauntlet ( p's att5tion & criticism is no small te/ ( ! good ta/e & s5se ( a "y c\ple4 ,! hall-m>k ( s-call$ vulg> p is unre/rict$ display ( uncontroll$ emotions4 ,no "o %\ld ev] be made to feel l )draw+ 9 emb>rassm5t f ! ov]-expos$ privacy ( o!rs4 ,! %rew :o publicly b]ates h] husb& is no worse ?an ! engag$ pair :o snuggle 9 public4 ,e "o supposes t lov]s kiss ea* o!r1 b p ( good ta/e w9ce at be+ =c$ to play audi5ce at love sc5es :i* %\ld be private4 ,fur!rmore1 su* cuddl+ gives little evid5ce ( ! deep] c>+--no matt] h[ ard5t ! demon/ration may be4 ,great love is seldom flaunt$ 9 public1 ?\gh x v (t5 %[s itself 9 pride--t is a little obvi\s1 p]haps4 ,!re is a quality ( protectiv5ess 9 a man's expression z x falls on 8 betro!d1 z ?\gh %e 7 s lovely a brea? might break h]2 & 9 ! eyes ( a girl ^: love is really deep1 !re is always evid5ce ( t mo/ beautiful look ( *ampion%ip1 z ?\gh %e ?\ght3 ,no "o else c possibly "k h[ wond]ful he is6 ,?is und]ly+ t5d]ness & pride :i* is at ! base ( ! attitude ( ea*1 only gl9ts b5ea? ! surface ( p]fect comrade%ip4 ,_! frank approval ( :atev] ! o!r may d or say is v *>m+2 & ev5 m s is _! obvi\s fri5dl9ess t[>d all p1 ( want+ ! :ole _w beautiful = all because x is s beautiful to !m4 ,t is love--z x %\ld be6 ,& its evid5ce is a v sure sign-po/ po9t+ to future happ9ess4 ,,etiquette ,,( ,,engag$ ,,p ,x is unnecess>y to say t an engag$ man %[s no att5tion :atev] to o!r wom54 ,x %\ld be pla9 to e "o1 ev5 ?\gh he ne$ n behave l a moon-calf1 t "o is alone 9 8 ?\ghts4 ,(t5 x s happ5s t engag$ p are v little toge!r1 because he is away at "w1 or = o!r reasons4 ,r ?an sit home alone1 %e may cont9ue to g out 9 society1 :i* is q all "r1 b %e mu/ avoid be+ ) any "o man m ?an ano!r & %e %\ld rema9 visibly )9 ! g5]al circle ( h] gr\p4 ,x always gives gossip a *ance to see an engag$ girl sitt+ out dances ) any p>ticul> man1 & sl&] is nev] f> away if any evid5ce ( ardor creeps into _! reg>d1 ev5 if x be m]ely mann]1 & actually mean no?+ at all4 ,,9 ,,! ,,backwat]s ,,( ,,long ,,engagem5t ,unless ! engag$ c\ple are bo? s "y1 or by temp]am5t s irresponsible1 t _! p>5ts ?9k x be/ = !m to wait until "t is giv5 a *ance to prove ! /ability ( _! affection1 no "o c hone/ly advocate a long-delay$ m>riage4 ,:]e !re is no money1 x is necess>y to wait = bett] f9ances4 ,b ! old argum5t t a long engagem5t 0 wise 9 t ! "y c\ple 7 giv5 opportunity to "k ea* o!r bett]1 has little s5se to-day :5 all "y p "k ea* o!r ?or\ghly well4 ,a long engagem5t is try+ to ev]yone--! man1 ! girl1 bo? families1 & all fri5ds4 ,x is an unnatural /ate1 l t ( wait+ at ! /ation = a tra91 & 9 a measure x is "t wa/$4 ,! m9ds ( ! two mo/ conc]n$ are c5t]$ ^u ea* o!r2 to !m life seems to consi/ 9 say+ ! inevitable good-by4 ,h] family ?9k h] abs5t-m9d$1 di/rait1 alo( & g5]ally useless4 ,8 family nev] see him4 ,_! fri5ds are bor$ to dea? ) !m--n t !y are really less devot$ or loyal1 b h] m5 fri5ds )draw1 naturally refra9+ f break+ 94 ,he has no "t betwe5 bus9ess & go+ to see h] to /op at 8 club or :]ev] fri5ds ( 8 may be4 ,h] girl fri5ds d see h] 9 ! daytime1 b gradually !y meet less & less because _! int]e/s & h]s no long] focus 9 common4 ,gradually ! /ream ( ! social _w goes ru%+ on1 leav+ ! two :o are absorb$ 9 ea* o!r to drift =gott5 9 a backwat]4 ,he works h>d]1 p]haps1 ?an ev]1 & %e p]haps occupies h]self 9 mak+ ?+s = h] tr\sseau or h] h\se1 or o!rwise prep>+ = ! m cont5t$ days :i* seem s long 9 com+4 ,once !y are m>ri$1 !y no long] belong 9 a backwat]1 b f9d !mselves aga9 sail+ 9 mid/ream4 ,x may be on a sl[-mov+ curr5t1 x may be on a swift1--b _! b>ge sails 9 common ) all o!r craft on ! riv] ( life4 ,%\ld a ,long ,engagem5t ,be ,ann\nc$8 ,:e!r to ann\nce an engagem5t t mu/ be ( long duration is n a matt] ( etiquette b ( p]sonal pref]5ce4 ,on ! g5]al pr9ciple t frankness is always bett] ?an secretiv5ess1 ! situation is usually cle>$ by ann\nc+ x4 ,on ! o!r h&1 z illu/rat$ above1 ! c]ta9 k ( two p]sons' absorption 9 ea* o!r always creates a m>oon$ situation4 ,:5 x is only suppos$1 b n kn[n1 t a man & girl p>ticul>ly l ea* o!r1 _! segregation is n ne>ly s m>k$4 ,,meet+ ,,( ,,k9sm5 ,at "s "t be=e ! w$d+1 x is cu/om>y = ! two families to meet ea* o!r4 ,t is1 ! p>5ts ( ! groom d9e or lun* at ! h\se ( ! p>5ts ( ! bride to meet ! aunts1 uncles & c\s9s4 ,& !n ! p>5ts ( ! bride are ask$ ) ! same purpose to ! h\se ( ! groom-elect4 ,x is n necess>y t any intimacy ensue1 b x is consid]$ fitt+ & prop] t all ! memb]s ( ! families :i* are to be alli$ %\ld be giv5 an opportunity to "k "o ano!r--at lea/ by sight4 ,,! ,,engag$ ,,c\ple ,,& ,,! ,,*ap]on ,! "q ( a *ap]on diff]s ) locality4 ,9 ,philadelphia & ,baltimore1 cu/om p]mits any "y girl to g alone ) a "y man approv$ by h] family to ! !at]1 or to be se5 home f a p>ty4 ,9 ,new ,york or ,bo/on1 ,mrs4 ,grundy w\ld hold up h] h&s & run to ! neighbors at once ) ! gossip4 ,x is p]haps suffici5t to say t if a man is ?\ght wor?y to be accept$ by a fa!r z 8 daught]'s husb&1 he %\ld also be consid]$ wor?y ( tru/ no matt] :]e he f9ds himself alone ) h]4 ,x is n good =m = an engag$ c\ple to d9e toge!r 9 a re/aurant1 b x is all "r = !m to lun*1 or h aft]noon tea2 & few p w\ld criticize _! be+ at ! op]a or ! !at]--unless ! p]=mance at ! latt] 0 ( que/ionable propriety4 ,!y %\ld take a *ap]on if !y motor to road-h\ses = meals--& x goes )\t say+ t !y _c g on a j\rney alone t c possibly la/ ov] night4 ,,gifts ,,:i* ,,may ,,& ,,^? ,,:i* ,,may ,,n ,,be ,,accept$ ,! fiance ( a "y man :o is sav+ 9 ord] to m>ry1 w\ld be lack+ 9 ta/e z well z good s5se 7 %e to enc\rage or all[ him extravagantly to s5d h] fl[]s & o!r *>m+1 b wa/eful1 pres5ts4 ,b on ! o!r h&1 if ! bridegroom-elect has pl5ty ( means1 %e may n only accept fl[]s b any?+ he *ooses to select1 except we>+ app>el or a motor c> or a h\se & furniture--any?+ t c be classifi$ z ma9t5ance4 ,x is p]fectly suitable = h] to drive 8 c>1 or ride 8 horse1 & %e may select furniture = _! h\se1 :i* he may buy or h built4 ,b1 if %e w\ld keep h] self-respect1 ! c> mu/ n become h]s nor mu/ %e live 9 ! h\se or use its furniture until %e is giv5 8 "n4 ,he may give h] all ! jewels he c af=d1 he may give h] a fur sc>f1 b n a fur coat4 ,! sc>f is an ornam5t1 ! coat is we>+ app>el4 ,if %e is v poor1 %e may h to be m>ri$ 9 *eese-clo?1 or ev5 9 ! dress %e we>s usually1 b h] w$d+ dress & ! clo!s %e we>s away1 mu/ n be suppli$ by ! groom or 8 family4 ,!re is "o exception3 if 8 "m1 = in/ance1 has "s v wond]ful family lace1 or has kept h] own w$d+ dress & has no daught] h]self1 & x w\ld please h] to h h] son's wife we> h] lace or dress1 x is prop] = ! bride to cons5t4 ,b x w\ld be />t+ life on a false basis1 & putt+ h]self 9 a category ) wom5 ( ano!r class1 to be clo!d by any man1 :e!r he is soon to be h] husb& or n4 ,if ! engagem5t %\ld be s un=tunate z to be brok5 (f1 ! engagem5t r+ & all o!r gifts ( value mu/ be return$4 ,,*apt] ,,xxi ,,fir/ ,,prep>ations ,,be=e ,a ,,w$d+ ,to beg9 )1 be=e decid+ ! date ( ! w$d+1 ! bride's "m mu/ f9d out def9itely on :i* day ! cl]gyman :o is to p]=m ! c]emony is dis5gag$1 & make sure t ! *ur* is bespok5 = no o!r s]vice4 ,if x is to be an important w$d+1 %e mu/ also see t ! "t available = ! *ur* is also conv5i5t to ! cat]]4 ,sundays1 & days 9 ,l5t1 are n *os5 = w$d+s1 & ,friday be+ a fa/ day 9 ,ca?olic & v high ,episcopal *ur*es1 w$d+s on t day1 if n =bidd51 are nev] enc\rag$4 ,b ! sup]/ition t ,friday & ! mon? ( ,may are unlucky1 is too /upid to discuss4 ,hav+ settl$ ^u a day & h\r1 ! next /ep is to decide ! numb] ( gue/s t c be provid$ =1 :i* is det]m9$ by ! size ( ! *ur* & ! h\se1 & ! type ( reception int5d$4 ,,! ,,invitations ,! bride-elect & h] "m !n g to ! /ation] & decide details1 su* z size & texture ( pap] & /yle ( engrav+1 = ! invitations4 ,! ord] is giv5 at once = ! engrav+ ( all ! necess>y plates1 & probably = ! full numb] ( h\se invitations1 especially if to a sit-d[n breakfa/ :]e ! gue/s are limit$4 ,!re are also ord]$ a mod]ate numb] ( g5]al *ur* invitations or ann\ncem5ts1 :i* c be increas$ lat] :5 ! li/s are complet$ & ! def9ite numb] ( gue/s m accurately kn[n4 ,,h] ,,"m ,,consults ,,8 ,,"m ,! bride's "m !n consults ) ! groom1 or m likely1 ) 8 "m1 z to h[ ! h\se-li/ is to be divid$ betwe5 !m4 ,?is nev] means a completely d\bl$ li/1 because1 if ! two families live 9 ! same city1 _m names are sure to be 9 duplicate4 ,if ! groom's p live 9 ano!r place1 invitations to ! h\se c be lib]ally s5t1 z ! proportion ( gue/s :o w take a long trip seldom g beyond ^? ( ! imm$iate family & su* close fri5ds z w\ld be ask$ to ! smalle/ ( receptions4 ,usually if ,mrs4 ,smi? tells ,mrs4 ,sm>tl+ton t two hundr$ c be includ$ at ! breakfa/1 ,mrs4 ,smi? & ,mrs4 ,sm>tl+ton w ea* make a li/ ( "o hundr$ & fifty1 c]ta9 t "o hundr$ w be 9 duplicate4 ,invitations to a big *ur* w$d+ are always s5t to ! entire visit+ li/1 & (t5 ! bus9ess acqua9tances ( bo? families1 no matt] h[ long ! comb9$ numb] may be1 or :e!r !y c by any *ance be pres5t or n4 ,ev5 p 9 deep m\rn+ are includ$ z well z ^? :o live ?\s&s ( miles away1 z ! invitations n m]ely pr(f] hospitality b are mess5g]s c>ry+ ! news ( ! m>riage4 ,aft] a h\se w$d+1 or a private c]emony :]e invitations 7 limit$ to relatives & close/ p]sonal fri5ds ( ! "y c\ple1 g5]al ann\ncem5ts are s5t out to ! entire visit+ li/4 ,,h[ ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,li/ ,,is ,,compil$ ,^? :o keep _! visit+ li/ 9 ord] h comp>atively little "w4 ,b ^? :o are n 9 ! habit ( ent]ta9+ on a g5]al scale1 & yet h a l>ge unassort$ visit+ li/1 w h q a piece ( "w ahead ( !m1 & _c beg9 mak+ x soon en\gh4 ,9 ! cities :]e a ,social ,regi/] or o!r ,visit+ ,book is publi%$1 p ( social prom95ce f9d x easie/ to read x ?r\gh1 m>k+ ,,xx 9 front ( ! names to be ask$ to ! h\se1 & ano!r m>k1 su* z a da%1 9 front ( ^? to be ask$ to ! *ur* only1 or to h ann\ncem5ts s5t !m4 ,o!r names :i* d n appe> 9 ! pr9t$ li/ may be writt5 z ?\ght ( at ! top or bottom ( pages4 ,9 c\ntry places & small] cities1 or :]e a publi%$ li/ is n available1 or ( suffici5t use1 ! be/ assi/ant is ! telephone book4 ,li/-mak+ %\ld be done ov] z long a p]iod & = z %ort sessions z possible1 9 ord] t ea* "n z x is read may br+ to memory any o!r t is simil>4 ,long read+ at a "t robs ! repetition ( names ( all s5se1 s t no?+ is easi] ?an to pass ov] ! "n ( a fri5d )\t notic+ x4 ,a ^w ( w>n+3 ,to leave out old fri5ds because !y are nei!r ri* nor fa%ionable & to include comp>ative /rang]s because !y are ( great social importance1 n alone %[s a want ( loyalty & prop] feel+1 b is to invite ! contempt ( ^? v ones :om su* snobb]y seeks to propitiate4 ,f\r li/s1 !re=e1 are comb9$ 9 s5d+ out w$d+ invitations2 ! bride & ! groom make "o ea* ( _! own fri5ds1 to :i* is add$ ! visit+ li/ ( ! bride's family 7made out by h] "m1 or o!r ne> relative7 & ! visit+ li/ ( ! groom's family made out by 8 "m1 or a relative4 ,ea* "n is cle>ly m>k$1 ( c\rse1 :e!r = h\se or *ur* invitation4 ,:5 ! f\r li/s are complet$1 x is ! duty ( "s "o to arrange !m into a s+le "o by :atev] me?od seems mo/ exp$i5t4 ,:5 li/s are v long1 ! compil+ is usually done by a pr(essional secret>y1 :o also addresses ! envelopes1 encloses ! prop] numb] ( c>ds1 & seals1 /amps & po/s ! invitations4 ,! address ( a pr(essional secret>y c always be furni%$ by ! /ation]4 ,v (t51 especially :]e li/s d n run into inord9ate l5g?1 ! envelopes are address$ & ! invitations s5t out by ! bride h]self & "s ( h] fri5ds :o volunte] to help h]4 ,,! ,,mo/ ,,elaborate ,,w$d+ ,,possible ,?is is ! huge w$d+ ( ! daught] ( ultra ri* & prom95t p 9 a city su* z ,new ,york1 or1 m probably1 a high-noon w$d+ out ( t[n4 ,! details w\ld 9 ei!r case he ! same1 except t ! c\ntry sett+ makes necess>y ! additional provision ( a special tra9 :i* takes ! gue/s to a /ation :]e !y are met by doz5s ( motors & driv5 to ! *ur*4 ,lat] !y are driv5 to ! h\se1 & lat] aga91 to ! return+ special tra94 ,o!rwise1 :e!r 9 ! city or ! c\ntry1 ! *ur* 7if ,prote/ant7 is decorat$ ) masses ( fl[]s 9 "s su* elaborat5ess z /&>ds1 or ar*es1 or hang+ g>l&s 9 ! *ur* itself1 z well z ! floral embelli%m5t ( ! *ancel4 ,! s]vice is conduct$ by a bi%op or o!r di/+ui%$ cl]gyman1 ) assi/ant cl]gym51 & accompani$ by a full *oral s]vice1 possibly ) ! addition ( a celebrat$ op]a soloi/4 ,! co/umes ( ! bride & h] maids are *os5 ) pa9/ak+ att5tion to p]fection1 & ) seem+ disreg>d ( co/4 ,lat]1 at ! h\se1 !re is n only a floral b[] "u :i* ! bridal c\ple receive1 b e room has be5 turn$ into a v]itable woodl& or g>d51 s mass$ are ! plants & fl[]s4 ,an or*e/ra--or two1 s t ! play+ may be )\t int]mission--is hidd5 beh9d palms 9 ! hall or :]ev] is mo/ conv5i5t4 ,a huge canopi$ plat=m is built on ! lawn or add$ to ! v]&a 7or built out ov] ! y>d ( a city h\se71 & is decorat$ to look l an enclos$ =mal g>d54 ,x is pack$ ) small tables1 ea* seat+ f\r1 six1 or eight1 z ! occasion may require4 ,,! ,,av]age ,,fa%ionable ,,w$d+ ,! m usual fa%ionable w$d+ is m]ely a modification ( ! "o outl9$ above4 ,! *ancel ( ! *ur* is decorat$ exactly ! same1 b except 9 summ] :5 g>d5 fl[]s are us$1 !re is v little attempt$ 9 ! body ( ! *ur* o!r ?an sprays ( fl[]s at ! ends ( ! t5 to tw5ty res]v$ pews1 or possibly only at ! ends ( ! fir/ two pews & ! two t m>k ! beg9n+ ( ! ribbon$ section4 ,!re is (t5 a *oral s]vice & a di/+ui%$ (ficiat+ cl]gyman4 ,! co/umes ( bride & bridesmaids are usually ! same 9 effect1 ?\gh !y may be less lavi% 9 detail4 ,! real diff]5ce beg9s at ! breakfa/1 :]e probably a hundr$ gue/s are invit$1 or two hundr$ at mo/1 in/ead ( f five hundr$ to a ?\s&1 & except = ! canopi$ backgr\nd aga9/ :i* ! bride & groom receive1 !re is v little floral decoration ( ! h\se4 ,if a t5t is built1 x is left z x is--a t5t--) p]haps "s /&>d trees at int]vals to give x a decorat$ appe>ance4 ,! tables1 ev5 t ( ! bride1 _! g>niture1 ! s]vice1 & ! food are all precisely ! same1 ! diff]5ce be+ 9 ! small] numb] ( gue/s provid$ =4 ,a ,,small ,,w$d+ ,a small w$d+ is m]ely a fur!r modification ( ! two prec$+ ones4 ,let u suppose x is a h\se w$d+ 9 a mod]ate-siz$ h\se4 ,a pray] b5* has be5 plac$ at ! end ( ! draw+-room or liv+-room4 ,back ( x is a scre5 or b[] ( palms or o!r gre5s4 ,"o decoration ?us s]ves = *ancel & backgr\nd at ! reception4 ,a numb] ( small tables 9 ! d9+-room may seat p]haps tw5ty or ev5 fifty gue/s1 besides ! bride's table plac$ 9 ano!r room4 ,if ! bride has no att5dants1 %e & ! groom *oose a few close fri5ds to sit at ! table ) !m4 ,or1 at a small] w$d+1 !re is a private m>riage 9 a little *apel1 or ! cl]gyman reads ! s]vice at ! h\se ( ! bride 9 ! pres5ce ( h] p>5ts & 8 & a small h&ful ( gue/s1 :o all sit d[n aft]w>ds at "o table = a w$d+ breakfa/4 ,or !re may be a great] numb] ( gue/s & a simpl] collation1 su* z a /&-up aft]noon tea1 :]e ! refre%m5ts are s&wi*es1 cakes1 tea & *ocolate4 ,,brea* ,,( ,,etiquette ,,= ,,groom ,,to ,,give ,,w$d+ ,no matt] :e!r a w$d+ is to be l>ge or t9y1 !re is "o unalt]able rule3 ! reception mu/ be ei!r at ! h\se ( ! bride's p>5ts or gr&p>5ts or o!r relative ( h]s1 or else 9 assembly rooms r5t$ by h] family4 ,nev] "u any circum/ances %\ld a w$d+ reception be giv5 at ! h\se ( ! groom's family4 ,!y may give a ball or z _m ent]ta9m5ts ( :atev] description !y *oose = ! "y c\ple aft] !y are m>ri$1 b ! w$d+ breakfa/ & ! tr\sseau ( ! bride mu/ be furni%$ by h] own side ( ! h\se6 ,:5 a poor girl m>ries1 h] w$d+ mu/ be 9 keep+ ) ! means ( h] p>5ts4 ,x is n only inadvisable = !m to attempt exp5diture beyond :at !y c af=d1 b !y w\ld lay !mselves op5 to f> great] criticism ?r\gh inappropriate lavi%ness1 ?an ?r\gh meag]ness ( arrangem5t--:i* ne$ n by any means lack *>m because inexp5sive4 ,,w$d+ ,,( ,a ,,c9d]ella ,"s ye>s ago !re 0 a w$d+ :5 a girl :o 0 poor m>ri$ a man :o 0 ri* & :o w\ld gladly h giv5 h] any?+ %e *ose1 ! beauty ( :i* w be rememb]$ always by e witness 9 spite (1 or maybe because (1 its utt] lack ( co/l9ess4 ,x 0 9 ,june 9 ! c\ntry4 ,! invitations 7 by ^w ( m\? to neighbors & p]sonal notes to ! groom's relatives at a di/ance4 ,! village *ur* 0 decorat$ by ! bride1 h] y\ng] si/]s1 & "s neighbors1 ) dogwood1 ?an :i* no?+ is m bridelike or beautiful4 ,! %abb9ess ( h] fa!r's little cottage 0 smo!r$ ) fl[]s & bran*es cut 9 a neighbor+ wood4 ,h] dress1 made by h]self1 0 ( t>latan cov]$ ) a lay] or two ( tulle1 & h] veil 0 ( tulle fa/5$ ) a spray1 z 0 h] girdle1 ( natural bridal wrea? & laurel leaves4 ,h] b\quet 0 ( trail+ bridal wrea? & :ite lilacs4 ,%e 0 v "y1 & div9ely beautiful1 & fre% & sweet4 ,! tulle = h] dress & veil & h] ?9 silk /ock+s & :ite sat9 slipp]s repres5t$ ! entire outlay ( any importance = h] co/ume4 ,a little si/] 9 smock ( p9k sate5 & a wrea? & tight b\quet ( p9k laurel clu/]s1 toddl$ aft] h] & held h] b\quet--aft] fir/ lay+ h] own on ! floor6 ,! collation 0 z simple z ! dresses ( ! bride & bridesmaid4 ,a home-made w$d+ cake1 pr(essionally ic$ & big en\gh = e "o to take home a ?ick slice 9 wax$ pap] pil$ ne> = ! purpose1 & a :ite w9e cup1 7 ! mo/ pret5ti\s (f]+s4 ,o!rwise !re 7 s&wi*es1 hot biscuits1 cocoa1 tea & c(fee1 scrambl$ eggs & bacon1 ice cream & cookies1 & ! music 0 a victrola1 loan$ = ! occasion4 ,! bride's go+ away dress 0 ( br[n ,holl& l95 & h] hat a pla9 little affair z simple z h] dress2 aga9 h] only exp5diture 0 on %oes1 /ock+s & gloves4 ,lat] on1 %e _h all ! clo!s t money c\ld buy1 b 9 none ( !m 0 %e ev] m lovely ?an 9 h] fa%ionless w$d+ dress ( t>latan & tulle1 & ! pla9 little frock 9 :i* %e drove away4 ,nor are any ( ! big p>ties t %e gives to-day m enjoyable1 ?\gh p]fect 9 _! way1 ?an h] w$d+ on a ,june day1 a numb] ( ye>s ago4 ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,h\r ,! fa%ionable w$d+ h\r 9 ,new ,york is ei!r noon1 or else 9 ! aft]noon at ?ree1 ?ree-?irty or f\r o'clock1 ) ! reception always a half h\r lat]4 ,high noon1 :i* means t ! breakfa/ is at "o o'clock1 & f\r o'clock 9 ! aft]noon1 ) ! reception at half aft]1 are ! conv5tional h\rs4 ,,! ,,ev5+ ,,w$d+ ,9 ,san ,francisco & g5]ally ?r\gh\t ! ,we/ altoge!r sm>t w$d+s are celebrat$ at n9e o'clock 9 ! ev5+4 ,! details are precisely ! same z ^? ( morn+ or aft]noon4 ,! bride & bridesmaids we> dresses t are p]haps m elaborate & ev5+ 9 model1 & ! bridegroom z well z all m5 pres5t we> ev5+ clo!s1 ( c\rse4 ,if ! c]emony is 9 a *ur*1 ! wom5 %\ld we> wraps & an ornam5t or light sc>f ( "s sort ov] _! hair1 z ball dresses are c]ta9ly n suitable1 besides :i* *ur* regulations =bid ! uncov]+ ( wom5's heads 9 consecrat$ places ( wor%ip4 ,,! ,,morn+ ,,w$d+ ,to "s1 n9e o'clock 9 ! morn+ may s\nd r ecc5tric = a w$d+1 b to p ( ! ,atlantic ,coa/ x is n a bit m s ?an an ev5+ h\r--less s1 if any?+1 because morn+ is unconv5tional anyway & etiquette1 nev] be+ v /rong at t h\r1 is n defi$1 b m]ely left quiesc5t4 ,if1 = any reason1 su* z tak+ an e>ly morn+ tra9 or %ip--an e>ly morn+ w$d+ might be a good sugge/ion4 ,! bride %\ld1 ( c\rse1 n we> sat9 & lace2 %e c\ld we> org&ie 7let u hope ! n9e o'clock w$d+ is 9 summ]671 or %e c\ld we> v simple :ite crpe de *9e4 ,h] att5dants c\ld we> ! simple/ sort ( morn+ dresses ) g>d5 hats2 ! groom a sack suit or flannels4 ,& ! breakfa/--really breakfa/--c\ld consi/ ( scrambl$ eggs & bacon & toa/ & c(fee--& griddle cakes6 ,! above is n writt5 9 ridicule2 ! h\r w\ld be unusual1 b a simple e>ly morn+ w$d+ :]e e "o is dress$ 9 morn+ clo!s1 & :]e ! breakfa/ sugge/s ! fir/ meal ( ! day--c\ld be p]fectly adorable6 ,! ev5+ w$d+ on ! o!r h&1 lays itself op5 to criticism because x is a function--a function is =mal1 & ! =mal is always /rictly 9 ! prov9ce ( t au/]e & inflexible lawmak]1 ,etiquette4 ,& ,etiquette at ?is mom5t says3 ,w$d+s on ! ,atlantic seabo>d are celebrat$ n lat] ?an f\r-?irty o'clock 9 ! aft]noon6 ,,w$d+ ,,pres5ts ,& n[ let u return to ! m p>ticul> details ( ! w$d+ ( our especial bride4 ,! invitations are mail$ ab\t ?ree weeks be=e ! w$d+4 ,z soon z !y are out1 ! pres5ts to ! bride beg9 com+ 91 & %e %\ld ent] ea* "o c>efully 9 h] gift book4 ,!re are _m publi%$ = ! purpose1 b an ord9>y blank book1 nicely b\nd1 z %e w probably want to keep x1 ab\t eight to t5 in*es squ>e1 w answ] e purpose4 ,! usual model spreads across ! d\ble page1 z foll[s3 ,pres5t ,date ( receiv$ ,s5d]'s ,:]e ?anks date ,article ,s5t by ,address ,b\ght writt5 ,may #bj ,silv] ,di% ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,:ite #a ,el9ore ,place ,tiffany's ,may #bj ,may #ba #ab ,plates ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,gre5 #b ,nor? ,/reet ,collamore's ,may #ba ,all gifts z !y arrive %\ld be put 9 a c]ta9 room1 or "p ( a room1 & nev] mov$ away until ! description is c>efully ent]$4 ,x w be f\nd a great help to put d[n ! addresses ( donors z well z _! names s t ! bride may n h to wa/e an unnecess>y mom5t ( ! ov]cr[d$ "t :i* mu/ be sp5t at h] desk4 ,,! ,,bride',s ,,?anks ,! bride :o is happy 9 receiv+ a great numb] ( pres5ts sp5ds e sp>e mom5t 9 writ+ h] notes ( ?anks1 :i* mu/ always be writt5 by h] p]sonally4 ,telephon+ won't d at all1 & nei!r w a v]bal ,?ank y s mu*1 z %e meets p "h & !re4 ,%e mu/ write a sep>ate lett] = ea* pres5t--a by no means small und]tak+6 ,a bride ( ?is ye> ^: pres5ts1 because ( h] family's great prom95ce1 ran f> into ! hundr$s1 nev] w5t to b$ a s+le night be=e h] w$d+ until a note ( ?anks 0 *eck$ aga9/ e pres5t receiv$ t day4 ,to ^? :o (f]$ to help h] ?r\gh h] ov]:elm+ task1 %e1 :o is suppos$ to be v spoil$1 answ]$3 ,if p are k9d en\gh to g out & buy a pres5t = me1 ,i ?9k ! lea/ ,i c d is to write at once & ?ank !m4 ,t h] ef=t 0 appreciat$ 0 evid5t by ev]yone's comm5t+ on h] prompt & *>m+ notes4 ,notes ( ?anks c be v %ort1 b !y %\ld be writt5 ) z little delay z possible4 ,:5 a pres5t is s5t by a m>ri$ c\ple1 ! bride writes to ! wife & ?anks bo?3 ,?ank y = ! lovely pres5t y & ,mr4 ,jones s5t me4 ,,arrang+ ,,! ,,pres5ts ,n s mu* 9 an ef=t to p>ade h] possessions z to d ju/ice to ! k9dness ( ! _m p :o h s5t !m1 a bride %\ld %[ h] appreciation ( _! gifts by plac+ ea* "o 9 ! position ( greate/ advantage4 ,naturally1 all p's ta/es are n equally pleas+ to ! ta/e ( ! bride--nor are all pocketbooks equally fill$4 ,v valuable pres5ts are bett] put 9 close contra/ ) o!rs ( l quality--or o!rs entirely diff]5t 9 "*4 ,colors %\ld be c>efully gr\p$4 ,two pres5ts1 bo? lovely 9 !mselves1 c be made completely de/ructive to ea* o!r if ! colors are all[$ to cla%4 ,usually *9a is put on "o table1 silv] on ano!r1 glass on ano!r1 laces & l95s on ano!r4 ,b pieces t j> toge!r mu/ be sep>at$ z f> ap>t z possible & p]haps ev5 mov$ to o!r surr\nd+s4 ,a crudely design$ piece ( silv]w>e %\ld n be left among beautiful examples1 b be put among *9a ornam5ts1 or o!r articles t d n reveal its lack ( f95ess by too direct comp>ison4 ,= ! same reason imitation lace %\ld n be put next to real1 nor /one-w>e next to ,*9ese porcela94 ,to gr\p duplicates is ano!r un=tunate arrangem5t4 ,eighte5 pairs ( pepp] pots or f\rte5 sauce-boats 9 a r[ might z well be label$3 ,look at ?is /upidity6 ,:at c %e d ) all ( u8 ,!y are sure to make ! giv]s feel at lea/ a little *agr9$ at _! *oice4 ,,c>ds ,,) ,,pres5ts ,:5 ,mrs4 ,smi? ord]s a pres5t s5t to a bride1 %e encloses a c>d read+3 ,mr4 ,mrs4 ,john ,hunt+ton ,smi?4 ,ne>ly e m>ri$ woman has a plate engrav$ ) bo? names1 b if %e hasn't1 !n %e encloses ,mr4 ,smi?'s c>d ) h]s4 ,"s p write ,all good wi%es or ,) be/ wi%es1 b mo/ p s5d c>ds )\t messages4 ,,delay$ ,,pres5ts ,if because ( illness or abs5ce1 a pres5t is n s5t until aft] ! w$d+1 a %ort note %\ld accompany x1 giv+ ! reason = ! delay4 ,,:5 ,,! ,,pres5ts ,,are ,,%[n ,!re is absolutely no impropriety 9 %[+ ! pres5ts at ! w$d+ reception4 ,!y are always %[n at c\ntry w$d+s1 &1 m (t5 ?an n1 at ! mo/ fa%ionable t[n h\ses4 ,! only reason = n %[+ !m1 is lack ( room 9 an ap>tm5t h\se4 ,9 a t[n h\se1 an up-/airs libr>y1 or ev5 a b$room1 f :i* all ! furniture has be5 remov$1 is suitable4 ,tables cov]$ ) :ite damask 7pla97 tableclo?s are put l c\nt]s ar\nd ! sides1 & d[n ! c5t] ( ! room4 ,! c>ds t 7 s5t ) ! gifts are sometimes remov$1 b !re is no impropriety 9 leav+ !m on1 & x c]ta9ly saves memb]s ( ! family f repeat+ _m times :o s5t ?is "o1 & :o s5t t6 ,if ! h\se is small s t !re is no room available = ?is display at ! w$d+1 ! pres5ts are %[n on ! day be=e1 & intimate fri5ds are especially ask$ to come 9 = tea1 & to view !m4 ,?is is n done if !y are to be display$ at ! w$d+4 ,v intimate fri5ds seldom ne$ to be ask$2 ! *ances are !y w come 9 (t51 to see :at has come s9ce !y 7 9 la/6 ,w$d+ pres5ts are all s5t to ! bride1 & are1 accord+ to law1 h] p]sonal prop]ty4 ,articles are m>k$ ) h] pres5t--n h] future--initials4 ,m>y ,smi? :o is go+ to m>ry ,jim ,sm>tl+ton is =tunate z ,m4,s4 /&s = h] future z well z h] pres5t "n4 ,b 9 ! case ( ,muriel ,jones :o is to m>ry ,ross1 n a piece ( l95 or silv] 9 ,ross h\se w be m>k$ o!rwise ?an ,m4,j4 ,x is "o ( ! mo/ s5seless cu/oms3 all h] life :i* w be z ,muriel ,ross1 %e uses l95 & silv] m>k$ ) a ,j4 ,lat] on _m p :o g to h] h\se--especially z ,ross comes f ,cali=nia :]e %e w naturally be liv+--w n "k :at ,j /&s =1 & _m ev5 imag9e t ! l95 & plate h be5 acquir$ at auction6 ,s\nds impossible8 ,x has happ5$ m ?an once4 ,occasional brides :o dislike ! confus+ initials1 especially ask t pres5ts be m>k$ ) _! m>riage "n4 ,! groom receives few pres5ts4 ,ev5 ^? :o c>e ab\t him 9 p>ticul> & h nev] met 8 bride1 s5d _! pres5t to h]1 unless !y s5d two pres5ts1 "o 9 c\rtesy to h] & "o 9 affection to him4 ,occasionally "s "o does s5d ! groom a pres5t1 address$ to him & s5t to 8 h\se4 ,r (t5 fri5ds ( ! groom pick out ?+s p>ticul>ly suitable = him1 su* z cig> or cig>ette boxes1 or r mascul9e look+ desk sets1 etc41 :i* are s5t to h] b are obvi\sly int5d$ = 8 use4 ,,ex*ang+ ,,w$d+ ,,pres5ts ,"s p ?9k x disc\rte\s if a bride *anges ! pres5t *os5 = h]4 ,all brides ex*ange "s pres5ts1 & no fri5ds %\ld all[ _! feel+s to be hurt1 unless !y are v close to ! bride & h *os5 ! pres5t ) p>ticul> s5tim5t4 ,a bride nev] *anges ! pres5ts *os5 = h] by h] or ! groom's family--unless especially told t %e may d s4 ,b to keep tw5ty-two salt cell>s & sixte5 silv] trays :5 %e has no pepp]-pots or c(fee spoons or platt]s or vegetable di%es1 w\ld be putt+ s5tim5t above s5se4 ,,! ,,tr\sseau ,a tr\sseau1 accord+ to ! d]ivation ( ! ^w1 0 a little trusse or bundle t ! bride c>ri$ ) h] to ! h\se ( h] husb&4 ,9 mod]n times1 ! little bundle (t5 requires ! s]vices ( a van to transport4 ,! wrapp]s & und]clo!s ( a "y girl are usually v simple1 b :5 %e is to be a bride1 h] "m buys h]1 z lavi%ly z %e c1 & ( ! prettie/ possible assortm5t ( lace trimm$ l+]ie1 tea g[ns1 b$ sacques & caps1 :atev] may be ?\ght especially becom+4 ,! v>i\s undress g>m5ts :i* are to be worn 9 h] room or at ! breakfa/ table1 & = ! sole admiration ( h] husb&1 are ( f> great] importance ?an ! dresses & hats to be worn 9 public4 ,9 ,europe x is ! cu/om to beg9 collect+ l95 = a girl's tr\sseau z soon z %e is born1 b ! ,am]ican bride c>es no?+ = doz5s ^u doz5s ( /\t l95 articles4 ,%e mu* pref]s gossam] texture lavi%ly embelli%$ ) equally p]i%able lace4 ,ev]y?+ mu/ be b\ght = beauty2 utility is n consid]$ at all4 ,no /\t h&-wov5 und]we> trimm$ ) solidly /it*$ ne$lework6 ,mod]n ,miss ,millions dem&s h&k]*ief l95 & ,val5ci5nes lace ( a quality t us$ to be put z trimm+ on a ball g[n1 & ,miss ,smallpurse asks = *iffon & less exp5sive b ev5 m %e] & p]i%able laces4 ,n long ago a /ock+ 0 ?\ght f9e if x c\ld be run ?r\gh a w$d+ r+2 to-day no /ock+ is consid]$ fit to put on = t[n or ev5+ we> unless sev]al toge!r c slip ?r\gh ! measure once ! te/ = "o4 ,,! ,,mo/ ,,extravagant ,,tr\sseau ,! mo/ lavi% tr\sseau imag9able = ! daught] ( ! v ri* might be suppos$ to comprise3 ,h\se ,l95 ,"o to six doz5 f9e/ quality embroid]$ or o!rwise trimm$ l95 %eets ) l>ge embroid]$ monogram4 ,"o to six doz5 f9e/ quality l95 %eets1 pla9 hem/it*$1 l>ge monogram4 ,"o to six doz5 f9e/ quality l95 "u-%eets1 n>r[ hem & small monogram4 ,two pill[ cases & also "o little pill[ case 7= small d[n pill[7 to mat* ea* upp] %eet4 ,"o to two doz5 blanket cov]s 7^! are ( ?9 wa%able silk 9 :ite or 9 colors to mat* ! rooms7 edg$ ) n>r[ lace & bread?s put toge!r ) lace ins]tion4 ,six to twelve blankets4 ,?ree to twelve wool or d[n-fill$ quilts4 ,two to t5 doz5 f9e/ quality1 extra l>ge1 face t[els1 ) ,v5etian ne$lework or heavy h&-made lace ins]tion 7or else embroid]$ at ea* end71 & embroid]$ monogram4 ,five to t5 doz5 f9e/ quality hem/it*$ & monogramm$ b o!rwise pla91 t[els4 ,five to t5 doz5 little h& t[els to mat* ! l>ge ones4 ,"o to two doz5 v l>ge ba? t[els1 ) embroid]$ monogram1 ei!r :ite or 9 color to mat* ! bord] ( t[els4 ,two to f\r doz5 small] t[els to mat*4 ,"o tableclo?1 six or eight y>ds long1 ( f9e/ b untrimm$ damask ) embroid]$ monogram on ea* side1 or f\r corn]s4 ,?ree doz5 d9n] napk9s to mat*4 7,lace ins]t$ & ri*ly embroid]$ tableclo?s ( =mal d9n] size are n 9 ! be/ ta/e47 ,"o tableclo? five to six y>ds long ) two doz5 d9n] napk9s to mat*4 ,"o to f\r doz5 damask tableclo?s two & a half to ?ree y>ds long1 & "o doz5 d9n] napk9s to mat* ea* tableclo?4 ,all tableclo?s & napk9s to h embroid]$ monogram or initials4 ,two to six m$ium siz$ cut-"w1 mosaic or ,italian lace-"w tableclo?s1 ) lun* napk9s to mat*4 ,two to six c5t]pieces1 ) doilies & lun* napk9s to mat*4 ,f\r to a doz5 tea clo?s1 ( filet lace or drawn "w or ,russian embroid]y1 ) t9y napk9s to mat*4 ,table pieces & tea-clo?s h monograms if !re is any pla9 l95 :]e a monogram c be embroid]$1 o!rwise monograms or initials are put on ! napk9s only4 ,"o or two doz5 damask tableclo?s1 pla91 ) monogram1 & a doz5 napk9s to mat* ea*4 ,9 addition to ! above1 !re are two to f\r doz5 s]vants' %eets & pill[ cases 7cotton72 six to twelve wool5 blankets1 six to twelve wool fill$ quilts1 f\r to six doz5 t[els1 & "o or two doz5 ba? t[els2 six to twelve :ite damask 7cotton or l95 & cotton mix$7 tableclo?s & six to twelve doz5 napk9s1 all m>k$ ) ma*9e embroid]y4 ,two to six doz5 kit*5 & pantry t[els & di%clo?s complete ! li/4 ,p]sonal ,tr\sseau ,h[ _m dresses c a bride we>8 ,x all dep5ds--is %e to be 9 a big city = ! w9t] season1 or at a wat]+ place = ! summ]8 ,is %e go+ to travel1 or live quietly 9 ! c\ntry8 ,x is fooli% to get m outside clo!s ?an %e has imm$iate use =2 fa%ions *ange too radically4 ,! mo/ extravagant li/ = a bride :o is to g out cont9ually 9 ,new ,york or ,newport1 w\ld p]haps include a doz5 ev5+ dresses1 two or ?ree ev5+ wraps1 ( v>y+ weights4 ,= t[n !re w\ld be f two to f\r /reet co/umes1 a fur coat1 ano!r long coat1 a doz5 hats & f f\r to t5 h\se dresses4 ,9 ?is day ( week-ends 9 ! c\ntry1 no tr\sseau1 no matt] h[ t[n-br$ ! bride1 is complete )\t "o or two c\ntry coats1 ( fur1 lea!r or wool5 mat]ials2 sev]al homespun1 twe$ or tricot suits or dresses2 skirts ) %irt-wai/s & sweat]s 9 endless v>iety2 l[ or flat heel$ %oes2 wool5 or wool5 & silk mixture /ock+s2 & sport hats4 ,if ! season is to be sp5t out ( t[n--ev5 9 ,newport or ,palm ,bea*--! mo/ extravagant bride w f9d little use = any b c\ntry clo!s1 a v few frocks = ,sunday1 & possibly a lot ( ev5+ dresses4 ,( c\rse1 if %e expects to run to t[n a great deal = lun*1 or if %e is to travel1 %e *ooses h] clo!s accord+ly4 ,s mu* = ! out] ?+s4 ,on ! subject ( ! "u ?+s1 :i* be+ ( fir/ importance are sav$ = ! la/1 "o c dip into any ( ! wom5's magaz9es devot$ to fa%ion & fa%ionables1 & und]/& at fir/ sight t ! furni%+s :i* may be put ^u ! p]son ( "o "y female w\ld require a catalogue z long & z v>i$ z a se$sman's4 ,an extravagant tr\sseau conta9s e article illu/rat$--& m besides--9 quality nev] illu/rat$--& by ! doz5s6 ,b x mu/ n = a mom5t be suppos$ t e fa%ionable bride has a tr\sseau l ?is--especially ! h\sehold l95 :i* requires an outlay possible only to p>5ts :o are v ri* & also v indulg5t4 ,,! ,,mod]ate ,,tr\sseau ,! mod]ate tr\sseau simple cuts ! above li/ into a fraction 9 quantity & also 9 quality4 ,!re is no?+ ( c\rse t takes ! place ( ! smoo? f95ess ( really beautiful l95--x c no m be imitat$ ?an c a diamond1 & its value is sc>cely less4 ,! l95 ( a really mode/ tr\sseau 9 ?is day ( high prices mu/ ( necessity be cotton4 ,=tunately1 h[ev]1 _m p dislike ! *ill ( l95 %eets1 & also pref] cotton-face t[els1 because !y absorb bett]1 & cotton is made 9 attractive designs & 9 endless v>iety4 ,= h] p]sonal tr\sseau1 a bride c h ev]y?+ t is *>m+ & becom+ at comp>atively little exp5se4 ,%e :o kn[s h[ to d f9e sew+ c make ?+s beautiful en\gh = any "o1 & ! dress made or hat trimm$ at home is (t5 q z pretty on a lovely face & figure z ! article b\ght at exorbitant co/ at an e/abli%m5t ( reputation4 ,y\? seldom ne$s exp5sive embelli%m5t4 ,c]ta9 ?+s su* z footwe> & gloves h to be b\ght1 & are necess>y4 ,! co/1 h[ev]1 c be modifi$ by *oos+ dresses t "o-color slipp]s look well )4 ,9 cities su* z ,new ,york1 ,wa%+ton or ,bo/on1 x has nev] be5 consid]$ v good ta/e to make a =mal display ( ! tr\sseau4 ,a bride may %[ an intimate fri5d or two a few ( h] ?+s1 b h] tr\sseau is nev] spread out on exhibition4 ,!re c1 h[ev]1 be no objection to h] s do+1 if x is ! cu/om ( ! place 9 :i* %e lives4 ,,:at ,,! ,,bridesmaids ,,we> ,! co/umes ( ! bridesmaids1 slipp]s1 /ock+s1 dresses1 b\quets1 gloves & hats1 are select$ by ! bride1 )\t consid]+ or ev5 consult+ !m z to _! ta/e or pref]5ces4 ,! bridesmaids are always dress$ exactly alike z to texture ( mat]ials & model ( mak+1 b sometimes _! dresses diff] 9 color4 ,= in/ance1 two ( !m may we> pale blue sat9 slips cov]$ ) blue *iffon & cream lace fi*us1 & cream-color$ picture hats trimm$ ) or*ids4 ,! next two we> or*id dresses1 cream fi*us1 & cream hats trimm$ ) pale blue hydrangeas4 ,! maid ( honor likewise we>s ! same model1 b h] dress is p9k *iffon ov] p9k sat9 & h] cream hat is trimm$ ) bo? or*ids & hydrangeas4 ,! b\quets w\ld all be alike ( or*ids & hydrangeas4 ,_! gloves all alike ( cream-color$ su$e1 & _! slipp]s1 blue1 or*id1 & p9k1 ) /ock+s to mat*4 ,usually ! bridesmaids are all alike 9 color z well z outl9e1 & ! maid ( honor exactly ! same b 9 rev]se colors4 ,suppos+ ! bridesmaids to we> p9k dresses ) blue sa%es & p9k hats trimm$ 9 blue1 & _! b\quets are ( l>kspur--! maid ( honor we>s ! same dress 9 blue1 ) p9k sa%1 blue hat trimm$ ) p9k1 & c>ries p9k roses4 ,at ,lucy ,gild+'s w$d+1 h] bridesmaids 7 dress$ 9 deep %ades ( burnt orange & yell[1 wood-color$ slipp]s & /ock+s1 skirts t %ad$ f br[n ?r\gh orange to yell[2 yell[ leghorn hats trimm$ ) jonquils1 & jonquil b\quets4 ,! maid ( honor wore yell[ runn+ into cream1 & h] hat1 ! ( ! same %ape ( leghorn1 0 trimm$ ) cream fea!rs1 & %e c>ri$ a huge cream fea!r fan4 ,z 9 ! case ( ! w$d+ dress1 x is fooli% to ent] into descriptions ( clo!s m ?an to indicate t !y are ( light & fragile mat]ials1 m suitable to ev5+ ?an to daytime4 ,fl[] girls & pages are dress$ 9 qua9t old-fa%ion$ dresses & suits ( sat9 ) odd old-fa%ion$ bonnets--or :atev] ! bride fancies z be+ especially picturesque4 ,if a bridesmaid is 9 m\rn+1 %e we>s colors on t "o day1 z bridesmaids' dresses are look$ ^u z uni=ms1 n individual co/umes4 ,nor does %e put a black b& on h] arm4 ,a "y girl 9 deepe/ m\rn+ %\ld n be a bridesmaid--unless at ! v private w$d+ ( a bride or groom also 9 m\rn+4 ,9 ?is case %e w\ld mo/ likely be ! only att5dant & we> all :ite4 ,z a w>n+ aga9/ ! gr[+ habit ( artifice1 x may n be out ( place to quote "o comm5t>y made by a man ( great di/9ction :o1 hav+ se5 no?+ ( ! society ( v "y p = _m ye>s1 _h to g to ! w$d+ ( a niece4 ,x 0 "o ( ! bigge/ w$d+s ( ! spr+ season 9 ,new ,york4 ,! fl[]s 7 wond]ful1 ! bridesmaids 7 _m & beautiful1 ! bride lovely4 ,aft]w>ds ! family talk$ long ab\t ! w$d+1 b ! di/+ui%$ uncle said no?+4 ,f9ally1 he 0 ask$ po9t blank3 ,don't y ?9k ! w$d+ 0 too lovely8 ,w]5't ! bridesmaids beautiful8 ,no1 said ! uncle1 ,i did n ?9k x 0 lovely at all4 ,e "o ( ! bridesmaids 0 s p[d]$ & pa9t$ t !re 0 n a sweet or fre% face among !m--,i c see a procession j l !m any ev5+ on ! musical com$y /age6 ,"o expects make-up 9 a !at]1 b 9 ! h\se ( ,god x is %ock+6 ,x is unnecess>y to add--if y\?1 ! mo/ beautiful ?+ 9 ! _w1 w\ld only appreciate h[ beautiful x is1 & h[ opposite is ! false bloom t comes 9 boxes & bottles6 ,%9y noses1 colorless lips1 sall[ sk9s hide z be/ !y may1 & ) "s excuse1 beh9d p[d] or lip-/ick2 b to r\ge a rose--6 ,,! ,,co/ ,,( ,,be+ ,a ,,bridesmaid ,) ! exception ( p>asols1 or muffs or fans1 :i* are occasionally c>ri$ 9 place ( b\quets & pres5t$ by ! bride1 e article worn by ! bridesmaids1 fl[] girls or pages1 al?\gh *os5 by ! bride1 mu/ be paid = by ! we>]s4 ,x is p]haps an irrefutable condemnation ( ! mod]n w$d+ display t _m a "y girl has _h to refuse ! joy ( be+ 9 ! w$d+ p>ty because a complete bridesmaid outfit co/s a sum t p>5ts ( mod]ate means are q unable to meet = popul> daught]s4 ,& x is seldom t ! bride is h]self 9 a position to give six or eight complete co/umes1 mu* z %e may want all ( h] mo/ p>ticul> fri5ds ) h] on h] day ( days4 ,v (t5 a bride tries especially to *oose clo!s t w n be exp5sive1 b ,new ,york prices are ,new ,york prices1 & ! *ic :i* is to make ! w$d+ a p]fect picture is ! ?+ ( all o!rs t has to be paid =4 ,ev5 ?\gh "o p>ticul> girl may be able to dress h]self v sm>tly 9 homemade clo!s ( h] own design & mak+1 ^? same clo!s duplicat$ eight times seldom turn out well4 ,:y ?is is s1 is a my/]y4 ,:5 a girl looks sm>t 9 inf]ior clo!s1 ! m]it is 9 h]1 n 9 ! clo!s--& 9 a gr\p ( six or eight1 five or sev5 w %[ a lack ( f9i%1 & ! t5d]-he>t$ bride :o1 = ! sake ( _! purses s5ds h] bridesmaids to an av]age little woman to h _! clo!s made1 & to a little hat-place ar\nd ! corn]1 is apt to h a r d[dy little flock flutt]+ d[n ! aisle 9 front ( h]4 ,,h[ ,,_m ,,bridesmaids8 ,?is "q is answ]$ by3 ,h[ _m fri5ds has %e :om %e has always promis$ to h ) h] on t day8 ,has %e a l>ge circle ( intimates or only "o or two8 ,h] si/] is always maid ( honor2 if %e has no si/]1 %e *ooses h] mo/ intimate fri5d4 ,a bride may h a v]itable procession3 eight or t5 bridesmaids1 a maid ( honor1 fl[] girls & pages4 ,t is1 if %e foll[s ! ,engli% cu/om1 :]e e y\ng] relative ev5 includ+ ! little boys z pages1 seems always to be br\ght into a p]fect ,may-pole procession ( ragg$ ages & sizes4 ,or %e may h none at all4 ,%e almo/ always has at lea/ "o maid1 or matron1 ( honor1 z ! picture ( h] fa!r /&+ hold+ h] b\quet & /oop+ ov] to adju/ ! fall ( h] dress1 w\ld be difficult to witness ) gravity4 ,at an av]age ,new ,york w$d+1 !re are f\r or six bridesmaids--half ( ! maids may be matrons1 if mo/ ( ! bride's gr\p ( fri5ds h m>ri$ be=e h]4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 n suitable to h "y m>ri$ wom5 z bridesmaids1 & !n h an unm>ri$ girl z maid ( honor4 ,,be/ ,,man ,,& ,,u%]s ,! bridegroom always has a be/ man--8 bro!r if he has "o1 or 8 be/ fri5d4 ,! numb] ( 8 u%]s is 9 proportion to ! size ( ! *ur* & ! numb] ( gue/s invit$4 ,at a h\se w$d+1 u%]s are (t5 m]ely honor>y & he may h _m or none--accord+ to ! numb] ( 8 fri5ds4 ,z u%]s & bridesmaids are *os5 only f close fri5ds ( ! bride & groom1 x is sc>cely necess>y to sugge/ h[ to ^w ! ask+6 ,usually !y are told t !y are expect$ to s]ve at ! "t ! engagem5t is ann\nc$1 or at any "t z !y happ5 to meet4 ,if s*ool or college fri5ds :o live at a di/ance are among ! numb]1 lett]s are necess>y4 ,su* z3 ,m>y & ,i are to be m>ri$ on ! t5? ( ,novemb]1 &1 ( c\rse1 y are to be an u%]4 ,usually he adds3 ,my d9n] is to be on ! sev5? at eight o'clock at ----1 nam+ ! club or re/aurant4 ,x is unhe>d ( = a man to refuse--unless a bridegroom1 = snobbi% reasons1 asks "s "o :o is n really a fri5d at all4 ,,bride',s ,,u%] ,,& ,,groom',s ,,bridesmaid ,a bro!r ( ! bride1 or if %e has no bro!r1 !n h] favorite c\s9 is always ask$ by ! groom to be u%] out ( complim5t to h]4 ,! bride returns ! complim5t by ask+ ! si/] ( ! groom :o is ne>e/ h] own age1 to be bridesmaid1 or if he has no si/]1 %e asks a c\s9 or ev5 occasionally %[s h] c\rtesy by ask+ ! groom to "n a p>ticul> fri5d ( 84 ,! bride 9 ask+ h] does n say3 ,w y be "o ( my bridesmaids because ,jim wants me to ask y4 ,if ! bridesmaid is n a p>ticul> fri5d ( ! bride1 %e kn[s p]fectly t x is on ,jim's acc\nt t %e has be5 ask$4 ,x is ! same ) ! bride's u%]4 ,! groom m]ely asks him z he asks all ( ! o!rs4 ,:5 a =eign] m>ries an ,am]ican girl1 8 own fri5ds be+ too di/ant to s]ve1 ! u%]s are *os5 f among ! fri5ds ( ! bride4 ,,bridegroom ,,has ,,no ,,tr\sseau ,a :ole outfit ( new clo!s is nev] consid]$ necess>y = a bridegroom1 b %abby ones are sc>cely appropriate4 ,:atev] 8 w>drobe may /& 9 ne$ ( %\ld be b\ght1 if possible4 ,he %\ld h1 n necess>ily new1 pl5ty ( good %irts ( all k9ds1 h&k]*iefs1 und]we>1 pajamas1 socks1 ties1 gloves1 etc41 & a c]ta9 numb] ( fre%1 or z good z new1 suits ( clo!s4 ,!re 0 a w$d+ n long ago :i* caus$ q a lot ( d]isive comm5t because ! groom's "m provid$ him ) a complete & elaborate tr\sseau f ,london1 enorm\s trunks full ( e sort ( raim5t imag9able4 ,t "p ( x all 0 v nice2 h] mi/ake 0 9 invit+ a gr\p ( fri5ds 9 to see ! f9]y4 ,! son 0 s mortifi$ by ?is publicity t he appe>$ at ! w$d+ 9 clo!s conspicu\sly %abby1 9 ord] to c\nt]act ! ,mama's-d>l+-little-newly-w$ effect t ! publicity ( h] g5]\s outlay _h produc$4 ,x is prop] & fitt+ = a groom to h z _m new clo!s z he ne$s1 or pleases1 or is able to get--b !y are nev] %[n to indiscrim9ate audi5ces1 !y are n featur$1 & he does n g ab\t look+ dress$ up4 ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,clo!s ,,( ,,! ,,bridegroom ,if he does n already possess a well fitt+ morn+ coat 7(t5 call$ a cutaway7 he mu/ ord] "o = 8 w$d+4 ,! frock coat is out ( fa%ion at ! mom5t4 ,he mu/ also h d>k /rip$ gray tr\s]s4 ,at _m sm>t w$d+s1 especially 9 ! spr+1 a groom 7also 8 be/ man7 we>s a :ite piqu high d\ble-brea/$ wai/coat1 because ! m :ite t c be got into an o!rwise sombre co/ume ! m w$d+-l x looks2 conv5tionally he we>s a black "o to mat* 8 coat1 l ! u%]s4 ,! :ite edge to a black wai/coat is n1 at pres5t1 v good =m4 ,z to 8 tie1 he may *oose an ,ascot ( black & :ite or gray patt]n$ silk4 ,or he may we> a f\r-9-h& mat*+ ^? select$ = ! u%]s1 ( black silk ) a n>r[ s+le1 or brok5 :ite /ripe at n>r[ or wide int]vals4 ,at "o ( ! ultra sm>t w$d+s 9 ,new ,york la/ spr+1 aft] ! ,london fa%ion1 ! groom & all ! m5 ( ! w$d+ p>ty wore b[ ties ( black silk ) small :ite dots4 ,:ite bucksk9 gloves are ! sm>te/1 b gray su$e are ! mo/ conv5tional4 ,:ite kid is worn only 9 ! ev5+4 ,x is ev5 becom+ ! fa%ion = u%]s at small c\ntry w$d+s n to we> gloves at all6 ,b at e w$d+1 great or small1 city or c\ntry1 etiquette dem&s t ! groom1 be/ man1 & u%]s1 all we> high silk hats1 & t ! groom c>ry a walk+ /ick4 ,v p>ticul> grooms h ! soles ( _! %oes black$ ) wat]-pro( %oe poli% s t :5 !y kneel1 _! %oes look d>k & neat4 ,,:at ,,! ,,be/ ,,man ,,we>s ,! be/ man we>s precisely :at ! groom we>s1 ) only "o small exception3 ! groom's b\tonnire is slightly diff]5t & m elaborate4 ,! groom & be/ man (t5 we> ties t are diff]5t f ^? worn by ! u%]s1 & occasionally :ite wai/coats4 ,o!rwise ! two pr9cipal m5 are dress$ l ! u%]s4 ,,:at ,,! ,,u%]s ,,we> ,x is ( greate/ importance t 9 dress ea* u%] be an exact c\nt]p>t ( 8 fell[s1 if ! picture is to be p]fect4 ,ev]yone kn[s :at a ragg$-edg$ appe>ance is produc$ by a company ( recruits ^: uni=ms are odd lots4 ,an aft]-effect ( army tra9+ 0 evid5t at "o or two sm>t ,new ,york w$d+s :]e ! grooms 7 9 ea* case ex-(fic]s & _! u%]s turn$ out 9 milit>y uni=mity4 ,ea* ( ^! grooms s5t typewritt5 in/ructions to 8 u%]s1 cov]+ e detail ( ! equipm5t exact$4 ,few p may h reason$ :y1 b sc>cely any "o fail$ to notice :at sm>t look+ m5 all ! u%]s 74 ,x is always j su* att5tion to detail t produces a p]fectly f9i%$ result4 ,! directions s5t by "o ( ! grooms 0 z foll[s3 ,w$d+ rehe>sal on ,tuesday1 ,/4 ,b>?olomew's at #e ,p4,m4 ,w$d+ on ,w$nesday at #d ,p4,m4 ,please we>3 ,black calfsk9 l[ %oes4 ,pla9 black silk socks4 ,gray /rip$ tr\s]s 7! d>ke/ y h74 ,morn+ coat & s+le-brea/$ black wai/coat4 ,:ite dress %irt 7see t cuffs %[ ?ree-qu>t]s ( an in* bel[ coat sleeves74 ,/&-up w+ coll>4 ,tie & gloves are enclos$4 ,b\tonnire w be at ! *ur*4 ,be at ! *ur* y\rself at ?ree o'clock1 %>p4 ,,! ,,head ,,u%] ,usually !re is no head u%]1 b 9 c]ta9 localities c\rtesy designates ! u%] :o is select$ to take ! bride's "m up ! aisle z ! head1 or fir/ u%]4 ,v occasionally1 too1 a n]v\s groom appo9ts an especially reliable fri5d head u%] s z to be sure t all details w be c>ri$ out--includ+ ! prompt & prop] appe>ance at ! *ur* ( ! o!r u%]s4 ,usually1 ! u%]s divide ! arrangem5ts among !mselves4 ,! groom decides :o goes on :i* aisle4 ,"o ( !m volunte]s or is ask$ to look out = ! bride's com+ & to notify ! groom1 ano!r is especially detail$ to take ! two mo!rs up ! aisle4 ,b v (t5 ?is arrangem5t is arbitr>ily decid$ by height4 ,if "o "m is v tall & ! o!r v %ort1 !y g5]ally g up ) diff]5t u%]s1 ! talle/ be+ *os5 = ! tall] lady1 & "o ( m$ium height = ! %ort]4 ,,! ,,bridesmaids' ,,lun*eon ,9 _m sections ( ,am]ica1 especially 9 ! c\ntry & 9 small t[ns1 brides make an especial feature ( ask+ _! bridesmaids to a f>ewell lun*eon4 ,! table is elaborately decorat$ 7inv>iably 9 p9k ) bridesmaids' roses71 !re is a bride's cake 7lady cake7 & !re are favors 9 ! cake1 & mottoes1 & altoge!r x is a lovely p>ty4 ,9 ,new ,york !re is no?+ l t at all4 ,if ! bride *ooses to give a lun*eon to h] bridesmaids on :atev] day suits h] be/1 !re is no objection to h] do+ s1 or 9 fact1 to h] invit+ :om %e pleases to :atev] sort ( a p>ty h] "m is will+ %e %\ld give4 ,x is n a "q ( approv$ etiquette b ( h] own incl9ation second$ by ! cons5t ( h] "m6 ,if h] "m keeps op5 h\se1 probably !y lun* ) h] _m times be=e ! w$d+2 if1 on ! o!r h&1 x is n ! habit ( ! family to h p runn+ 9 = meals1 x is n necess>y t %e ask !m to lun* at all4 ,b :e!r !y lun* (t5 or nev]1 ! *ances are t !y are 9 & out ( h] h\se e day1 look+ at new pres5ts z !y come1 p]haps help+ h] to write ! descriptions 9 ! gift book1 & 9 arrang+ !m 9 ! room :]e !y are to be display$4 ,! bride usually goes to ov]see ! la/ fitt+s ( ! bridesmaids' dresses 9 ord] to be sure t !y are z %e wants !m4 ,?is f9al try+-on %\ld be arrang$ = sev]al days at lea/ be=e ! w$d+1 s !re may be suffici5t "t to make any alt]ations t are f\nd necess>y4 ,(t5 ! bride tries on h] w$d+ dress at ! same "t s t %e may see ! effect ( ! :ole w$d+ picture z x w be1 or if %e pref]s1 %e tries on h] dress at ano!r h\r alone4 ,usually h] bridesmaids lun* q in=mally ) h]1 or come 9 = tea1 ! day be=e ! w$d+1 & on t day ! bride gives !m ea* h] pres5t :i* is always some?+ to we>4 ,x may be ! muffs !y are to c>ry1 or p>asols1 if !y h be5 *os5 in/ead ( b\quets4 ,! typical bridesmaid's pres5t is a bangle1 a brea/ p91 a hat p91 :i*1 accord+ to ! means ( ! bride1 may h great or sc>cely any intr9sic value4 ,,bridesmaids ,,& ,,u%]s' ,,d9n] ,if a w$d+ is be+ held 9 ! c\ntry1 or :]e mo/ ( ! bridesmaids or u%]s come f a di/ance1 & !y are !re=e /opp+ at ! bride's h\se1 or ) h] neighbors1 !re is naturally a d9n] 9 ord] to provide = ! visitors4 ,b :]e ! w$d+ is 9 ! city--especially :5 all ! memb]s ( ! bridal p>ty live !re also--! cu/om ( giv+ a d9n] has gone r out ( fa%ion4 ,if ! bridal p>ty is ask$ to d9e at ! h\se ( ! bride on ! ev5+ be=e ! w$d+1 x is usually ) ! purpose ( ga!r+ a g5]ally irresponsible gr\p ( "y p toge!r1 & see+ t !y g to ! *ur* = rehe>sal1 :i* is ( all ?+s ! mo/ important4 ,m (t5 ! rehe>sal is 9 ! aft]noon1 aft] :i* ! "y p g to ! bride's h\se = tea1 all[+ h] p>5ts to h h] to !mselves on h] la/ ev5+ home1 & giv+ h] a *ance to g e>ly to b$ s z to be z pretty z possible on ! morr[4 ,,! ,,ba*elor ,,d9n] ,popul>ly suppos$ to h be5 a frightful orgy1 & n[ arid z ! ,sah>a des]t & q z flat & dre>y1 ! ba*elor d9n] 0 9 tru? m (t5 ?an n1 a %eep 9 wolf's clo?+4 ,x is q true t c]ta9 big clubs & re/aurants _h rooms especially con/ruct$ = ! purpose1 ) walls ( /one & no?+ breakable )9 hitt+ di/ance1 :i* c]ta9ly does r sugge/ frightfulness4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 an orgy 0 nev] look$ ^u ) favor by any b silly & :olly misguid$ y\?s1 ^: idea ( a h[l+ good "t 0 to make a h[l+ noise2 *iefly by s++ at ! top ( _! lungs &--break+ crock]y4 ,a boi/]\s picture1 b sc>cely a vici\s "o6 ,especially z quantities ( ! *eape/ glassw>e & crock]y 7 always !re = ! purpose4 ,! break+ habit orig9at$ ) dr9k+ ! bride's heal? & break+ ! /em ( ! w9e glass1 s t x might nev] s]ve a less honorable purpose4 ,a p]fectly high-m9d$ s5tim5t6 ,& ?is same "t-honor$ cu/om is foll[$ to ?is day4 ,t[>d ! latt] end ( ! d9n] ! groom rises1 & hold+ a fill$ *ampagne glass al(t says3 ,to ! bride6 ,e man rises1 dr9ks ! toa/ /&+1 & !n breaks ! delicate /em ( ! glass4 ,! impulse to break m glass is natural to y\?1 & probably /ill occurs4 ,x is n h>d to und]/&4 ,! same impulse is se5 at e c\nty fair :]e en?usia/ic y\?s 7& m57 delight 9 %oot+1 or ?r[+ balls1 at clay pipes & ducks &--crock]y6 ,aside f toa/+ ! bride & its glass-sma%+ result1 ! groom's f>ewell d9n] is exactly l any o!r man's d9n]1 ! details dep5d+ ^u ! extravagance or ! frugality ( ! ho/1 & ^u :e!r 8 p>ticul> fri5ds are /aid citiz5s ( sob] ye>s or m]e boys full ( ! exub]ance ( y\?4 ,usually !re is music ( "s sort1 or ,neapolitans or coons :o s+1 or two or ?ree in/rum5tal pieces1 & ! d9n] p>ty itself does ! s++4 ,(t5 ! d9n] is %ort & all g to ! !at]4 ,,gifts ,,pres5t$ ,,to ,,u%]s ,! groom's pres5ts to 8 u%]s are always put at _! places at ! ba*elor d9n]4 ,cuff l9ks are ! mo/ popul> gift2 sc>f-p9s 9 localities :]e !y are /ill fa%ionable4 ,silv] or gold p5cils1 belt buckles1 key-r+s 9 gold1 key-*a9s 9 silv]1 cig>ette cases1 bill-fold]s1 c>d-cases1 or o!r small & p]sonal articles are suitable4 ,! pres5t to ! be/ man is approximately ! same1 or slightly h&som] ?an ! gift to ! u%]s4 ,,! ,,rehe>sal ,! bride always directs h] w$d+ rehe>sal1 b nev] h]self takes "p 9 x1 z x is suppos$ to be bad luck4 ,"s "o else--anyone :o happ5s to be pres5t--is appo9t$ und]/udy4 ,ne>ly always a few especial fri5ds happ5 91 g5]ally ^? :o are prim$ ) advice z to h[ ev]y?+ %\ld be done1 b ! op9ion ( ! bride or ! bride's "m is f9al4 ,,vital ,,importance ,,( ,,rehe>sal ,mo/ ( u are famili> ) ! w$d+ s]vice1 & its =m seems simple en\gh4 ,b1 unless "o has by exp]i5ce le>n$ to take c>e ( seem+ly non-exi/5t details1 ! effect 7al?\gh few may be able to say :y7 is hit*y & disjo9t$1 & all ! ef=t sp5t 9 prep>ation is wa/$4 ,x is n t gau*e happ5+s are s]i\s (f5ses1 no matt] h[ awkw>d ! incid5t4 ,ev5 7 ! w$d+ p>ty to get hopelessly entangl$1 no crime w\ld h be5 committ$2 b any detail t de/roys ! smoo?ness ( ! g5]al impression is fatal to dignity--& dignity is ! qualification necess>y above all else 9 c]emonial obs]vances4 ,,h[ ,,! ,,procession ,,is ,,drill$ ,! organi/ mu/ always be at ! rehe>sal1 z "o ( ! mo/ important details is m>k+ ! "t ( ! w$d+ m>*4 ,witnesses ( mo/ w$d+s c sc>cely imag9e t a w$d+ m>* is a m>* at all2 m (t5 ?an n1 ! heads ( u%]s & bridesmaids bob up & d[n l some?+ boil+ 9 a pan4 ,a p]fectly drill$ w$d+ procession1 l a milit>y "o1 %\ld move =w>d 9 p]fect /ep1 ris+ & fall+ 9 a block or unit4 ,to secure p]fection ( detail1 ! b>s ( ! processional may be c\nt$ s t ! music comes to an end at precisely ! mom5t ! bride & groom /& side by side at ! *ancel /eps4 ,?is is n difficult2 x m]ely takes "t & att5tion4 ,a w$d+ rehe>sal %\ld proce$ z foll[s3 ,fir/ ( all1 x is necess>y to det]m9e ! exact spe$ at :i* ! m>* is to be play$4 ,! u%]s are ask$ to try x out4 ,!y l9e up at ! door1 walk =w>d two & two4 ,! audi5ce1 consi/+ ( ! bride & h] "m1 & ! bridesmaids1 decides :e!r ! pace looks well4 ,x mu/ n be fa/ en\gh to look brisk1 or s sl[ z to be fun]eal4 ,at "o w$d+ ! u%]s c\nt$ two beats z "o & ! pace 0 s sl[ t !y all wabbl$ 9 try+ to keep _! balance4 ,! pa9fulness to ev]yone may be imag9$4 ,on ! o!r h& x is unsuitable to trot up ! aisle ( a *ur*4 ,! audi5ce hav+ decid$ ! spe$1 & ! organi/ hav+ not$ ! tempo1 ! entire procession1 includ+ ! bridesmaids & a sub/itute1 in/ead ( ! real bride1 on h] fa!r's arm1 g out into ! ve/ibule & make _! entry4 ,rememb]1 ! fa!r is an important factor 9 ! c]emony1 & mu/ take "p 9 ! rehe>sal4 ,! procession is arrang$ accord+ to height1 ! two %orte/ u%]s lead+--unless o!rs ( ne>ly ! same height are f\nd to be m accurate pacemak]s4 ,! bridesmaids come directly aft] ! u%]s1 two & two1 also accord+ to height1 ! %orte/ 9 ! lead4 ,aft] ! bridesmaids1 ! maid 7or matron7 ( honor walks alone2 fl[] girls come next 7if !re are any7 & la/ ( all1 ! und]/udy bride lean+ on ! arm ( ! fa!r1 ) pages 7if %e has any7 hold+ up h] tra94 ,ea* pair 9 ! procession foll[s ! two directly 9 front by f\r paces or beats ( "t4 ,9 ! ve/ibule1 e "o 9 ! procession mu/ pay att5tion to ! feet directly 9 front1 ! pacemak]s c foll[ ! army s]geant's example & say v s(tly left1 left6 ,at ! end ! bride c\nts eight beats be=e %e & ! fa!r put left foot =w>d4 ,! :ole trick is />t+2 aft] t !y j walk naturally to ! beat ( ! music1 b keep+ ! ones 9 front z ne>ly z possible at ! same di/ance4 ,at ! foot ( ! *ancel1 ! u%]s divide4 ,9 a small *ur*1 ! fir/ two g up ! *ancel /eps & /& at ! top2 "o on ! "r1 ! o!r on ! left4 ,! second two g to a /ep or two bel[ ! fir/4 ,if !re are m1 !y /& bel[ aga94 ,*alk m>ks c be made on ! *ancel floor if necess>y1 b x ought n to be difficult1 except = v little *ildr5 :o are fl[] girls or pages1 to le>n _! position4 ,illu/ration3 ,diagram ( ,*ur* ,or 9 a big *ur* !y g up f>!r1 "s ( !m l9+ ! /eps1 or all ( !m 9 front ( ! *oir /alls4 ,! bridesmaids also divide1 half on ei!r side1 & always /& 9 front ( ! u%]s4 ,! maid ( honor's place is on ! left at ! foot ( ! /eps1 exactly opposite ! be/ man4 ,fl[] girls & pages are put above or bel[ ! bridesmaids :]ev] x is ?\ght ! picture is be/4 ,! gr\p+ ( ! u%]s & bridesmaids 9 ! *ancel or l9+ ! /eps also dep5ds ^u _! numb] & ! size ( ! *ur*4 ,9 any ev5t1 ! bridesmaids /& 9 front ( ! u%]s2 half ( !m on ! "r & half on ! left4 ,!y nev] /& all on ! bride's side1 & ! u%]s on ! groom's4 ,,entrance ,,( ,,! ,,bridegroom ,! cl]gyman :o is to p]=m ! m>riage comes into ! *ancel f ! ve/ry4 ,at a few paces beh9d him foll[s ! groom1 :o 9 turn is foll[$ by ! be/ man4 ,! groom /ops at ! foot ( ! *ancel /eps & takes 8 place at ! "r1 z indicat$ 9 ! accompany+ diagram4 ,8 be/ man /&s directly beh9d him4 ,! u%]s & bridesmaids always pass 9 front ( him & take _! places z not$ above4 ,:5 ! bride approa*es1 ! groom takes only a /ep to meet h]4 ,a m effective greet+ ( ! bride is possible if ! door ( ! ve/ry op5s into ! *ancel s t on foll[+ ! cl]gyman1 ! groom f9ds himself at ! top in/ead ( ! foot ( ! *ancel /eps4 ,he goes =w>d to ! "r-h& side 78 left71 8 be/ man beh9d him1 & waits :]e he is until 8 bride approa*es1 :5 he goes d[n ! /eps to meet h]--:i* is p]haps m gallant ?an to /& at ! head ( ! aisle1 & wait = h] to jo9 him4 ,! real bride wat*es c>efully h[ ! pseudo bride takes h] left h& f h] fa!r's arm1 %ifts h] fan1 or :atev] repres5ts h] b\quet1 f h] "r h& to h] left1 & gives h] "r h& to ! groom4 ,9 ! prop] maneuv] ! groom takes h] "r h& 9 8 own "r h& & draws x ?r\gh 8 left arm1 at ! same "t turn+ t[>d ! *ancel4 ,if ! s]vice is undivid$1 & all ( x is to be at ! alt>1 ?is is necess>y z ! bride always goes up to ! alt> lean+ on ! arm ( ! groom4 ,if1 h[ev]1 ! betro?al is to be read at ! foot ( ! *ancel 7:i* is done at mo/ w$d+s n[7 he may m]ely take h] h& 9 8 left "o & /& z !y are4 ,,! ,,organi/',s ,,cue ,! organi/ /ops at ! mom5t ! bride & groom h assum$ _! places4 ,t is ! cue to ! organi/ z to ! numb] ( b>s necess>y = ! procession4 ,aft] ! procession has practis$ m>*+ two or ?ree times1 ev]y?+ ought to be p]fect4 ,! organi/1 hav+ c\nt$ up ! necess>y b>s ( music1 c readily give ! lead+ u%]s _! music cue--s t !y c />t on ! measure t w all[ ! procession & ! organ to end toge!r4 ,! organi/ c1 & usually does1 /op (f %ort1 b !re is a bett] f9i% if ! bride's giv+ h] h& to ! groom & tak+ ! la/ /ep t br+s h] 9 front ( ! *ancel is tim$ s z to fall precisely on ! la/ b>s ( ! processional4 ,no words ( ! s]vice are ev] rehe>s$1 al?\gh all ! positions to be tak5 are practis$4 ,! pseudo bride takes ! groom's left arm & goes sl[ly up ! /eps to ! alt>4 ,! be/ man foll[s beh9d & to ! "r ( ! groom1 & ! maid ( honor 7or fir/ bridesmaid7 leaves h] companions & advances beh9d & to ! left ( ! bride4 ,! pseudo bride 79 pantomime7 gives h] b\quet to ! maid ( honor2 ! be/ man 7also 9 pantomime7 h&s ! r+ to ! groom1 ?is m]ely to see t !y are at a conv5i5t di/ance = ! s]vices !y are to p]=m4 ,! recessional is play$1 & ! procession goes out 9 rev]s$ ord]4 ,bride & groom fir/1 !n bridesmaids1 !n u%]s1 aga9 all tak+ pa9s to fall into /ep ) ! lead]s4 ,on no acc\nt mu/ ! bridesmaids walk ei!r up or d[n ! aisle ) ! u%]s6 ,once 9 a :ile ! maid ( honor takes ! arm ( ! be/ man & toge!r !y foll[ ! bride & groom out ( ! *ur*4 ,b x gives ! impression ( a d\ble w$d+ & spoils ! picture4 ,,obligations ,,( ,,! ,,bridegroom ,9 ord] t ! fir/ days ( _! life toge!r may be z p]fect z possible1 ! groom mu/ make prep>ations = ! w$d+ trip long ahead ( "t1 s t be/ accommodations c be res]v$4 ,if !y are to /op fir/ at a hotel 9 _! own city1 or "o ne> by1 he %\ld g days or ev5 weeks 9 advance & p]sonally select ! rooms4 ,x is mu* bett] frankly to tell ! proprietor1 or room cl]k1 at ! same "t ask+ him to keep ! secret4 ,ev]yone takes a fri5dly int]e/ 9 a bridal c\ple1 & ! *ances are t ! proprietor w try to res]ve ! prettie/ rooms 9 ! h\se1 & give ! be/ s]vice4 ,if _! fir/ /op is to be at a di/ance1 !n he mu/ engage tra9 seats or boat /at]oom1 & write to ! hotel ( _! de/9ation f> en\gh 9 advance to receive a writt5 reply1 s t he may be sure ( ! accommodations !y w f9d4 ,,exp5se ,,( ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,trip ,j z x is contr>y to all laws ( etiquette = ! bride to accept any "p ( h] tr\sseau or w$d+ reception f ! groom1 s x is un?9kable = ! bride to defray ! lea/ fraction ( ! co/ ( ! w$d+ j\rney1 no matt] ?\gh %e h millions 9 h] own "r1 & he be e>n+ t5 doll>s a week4 ,he mu/ save up 8 t5 doll>s z long z necess>y1 & ! trip c be z %ort z !y l1 b conv5tion has no rule m rigid ?an t ! w$d+ trip %all be a responsibility ( ! groom4 ,!re are two modifications ( ?is rule3 a h\se may be put at _! disposal by a memb] ( h] family1 or1 if %e is a wid[1 !y may g to "o ( h] own1 provid$ x is n "o occupi$ by h] ) h] late husb&4 ,x is also q all "r = !m to g away 9 a motor belong+ to h]1 b driv5 by him1 & all g>age exp5ses belong to him2 or if h] fa!r or o!r memb] ( ! family (f]s ! use ( a ya*t or private railway c>1 ! groom may accept b he %\ld rememb] t ! incid5tal & unavoidable exp5se ( su* a gift is sometimes great] ?an ! co/ ( railway tickets4 ,,buy+ ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,r+ ,x is q usual = ! bride to g ) ! groom :5 he buys ! w$d+ r+1 ! reason be+ t z x /ays = life on h] f+]1 %e %\ld be all[$ to *oose ! wid? & weight %e likes & ! size %e f9ds com=table4 ,,! ,,groom',s ,,pres5t ,,to ,,! ,,bride ,he is a v exceptional & enviable man :o is f9ancially able to take 8 fiance to ! jewel]'s & let h] *oose :at %e fancies4 ,usually ! groom buys ! h&some/ ornam5t he c af=d--a /r+ ( pe>ls if he has great weal?1 or a diamond p5dant1 broo* or bracelet1 or p]haps only ! simple/ bangle or *>m--b :e!r x is ( great or little wor?1 x mu/ be some?+ = h] p]sonal adornm5t4 ,,fur!r ,,obligations ,,( ,,! ,,groom ,gifts mu/ be provid$ = 8 be/ man & u%]s1 z well z _! ties1 gloves & b\tonnires1 a b\quet = 8 bride1 & ! fee = ! cl]gyman1 :i* may be a t5 doll> gold piece or "o or two new "o hundr$ doll> bills1 accord+ to 8 weal? & ! importance ( ! w$d+4 ,:atev] ! am\nt1 x is enclos$ 9 an envelope & tak5 9 *>ge by ! be/ man :o h&s x to ! cl]gyman 9 8 ve/ry-room imm$iately aft] ! c]emony4 ,,*apt] ,,xxii ,,! ,,day ,,( ,,! ,,w$d+ ,no "o is busi] ?an ! be/ man on ! day ( ! w$d+4 ,8 (ficial position is a cross betwe5 tra9$ nurse1 valet1 g5]al manag] & keep]4 ,bright & e>ly 9 ! morn+ he hurries to ! h\se ( ! groom1 g5]ally be=e ! latt] is up4 ,v likely !y breakfa/ toge!r2 9 any ev5t1 he takes ! groom 9 *>ge precisely z might a gu>dian4 ,he takes note ( 8 pati5t's g5]al condition2 if he is normal & fit1 s mu* ! bett]4 ,if he is up 9 ! air or n]v\s ! be/ man mu/ br+ him to e>? & jolly him along z be/ he c4 ,,be/ ,,man ,,z ,,expressman ,8 fir/ actual duty is t ( pack] & expressman2 he mu/ see t ev]y?+ necess>y = ! j\rney is pack$1 & t ! groom does n abs5t-m9d$ly put ! furni%+s ( 8 room 9 8 valise & leave 8 belong+s hang+ 9 ! closet4 ,he mu/ see t ! clo!s ! groom is to we> away are put into a special bag to be tak5 to ! h\se ( ! bride 7:]e he1 z well z %e1 mu/ *ange f w$d+ into travel+ clo!s74 ,! be/ man becomes expressman if ! fir/ /age ( ! w$d+ j\rney is to be to a hotel 9 t[n4 ,he puts all ! groom's luggage into 8 own c> or a taxi1 drives to ! bride's h\se1 c>ries ! bag ) ! groom's travel+ suit 9 x to ! room set aside = 8 use--usually ! dress+-room ( ! bride's fa!r or ! b$room ( h] bro!r4 ,he !n collects1 accord+ to pre-arrangem5t1 ! luggage ( ! bride & drives ) ! entire equipm5t ( bo? bride & groom to ! hotel :]e rooms h already be5 engag$1 sees x all into ! rooms1 & makes sure t ev]y?+ is z x %\ld be4 ,if he is v ?\ghtful1 he may himself put fl[]s ab\t ! rooms4 ,he also regi/]s = ! newly-w$s1 takes ! room key1 returns to ! h\se ( ! groom1 gives him ! key & assures him t ev]y?+ at ! hotel is 9 read9ess4 ,?is maneuv] all[s ! "y c\ple :5 !y arrive to g quietly to _! rooms )\t attract+ ! notice ( any "o1 z w\ld be ! case if !y arriv$ ) baggage & 7 conspicu\sly %[n ! way by a bell-boy ^: mann] unmi/akably proclaims ,bride & ,groom6 ,or1 if !y are go+ at once by boat or tra91 ! be/ man takes ! baggage to ! /ation1 *ecks ! l>ge pieces1 & fees a port] to see t ! h& luggage is put 9 ! prop] /at]oom or p>lor c> *airs4 ,if !y are go+ by automobile1 he takes ! luggage out to ! g>age & p]sonally sees t x is be/[$ 9 ! c>4 ,,be/ ,,man ,,z ,,valet ,8 next duty is t ( valet4 ,he mu/ see t ! groom is dress$ & ready e>ly1 & pla/] him up if he cuts himself %av+4 ,if he is wise 9 8 day he ev5 provides a small bottle ( adr5al9e = j su* an accid5t1 s t pla/] is unnecess>y & t ! groom may be :ole4 ,he may ne$ to f9d 8 coll> button or ev5 to po9t out ! miss+ clo!s t are ly+ 9 full view4 ,he mu/ also be sure to ask = ! w$d+ r+ & ! cl]gyman's fee1 & put !m 9 8 own wai/coat pocket4 ,a v c>eful be/ man c>ries a duplicate r+1 9 case ( "o be+ lo/ dur+ ! c]emony4 ,,be/ ,,man ,,z ,,companion-,,9-,,ord9>y ,) ! bride's & groom's luggage prop]ly be/[$1 ! r+ & fee 9 8 pocket1 ! groom's travel+ clo!s at ! bride's h\se1 ! groom 9 complete w$d+ attire1 & himself also ready1 ! be/ man has no?+ fur!r to d b be g5tleman-9-wait+ to ! groom until x is "t to escort him to ! *ur*1 :]e he becomes *ief ( /aff4 ,,at ,,! ,,h\se ,,( ,,! ,,bride ,mean:ile1 if ! w$d+ is to be at noon1 dawn w n h mu* m ?an brok5 be=e ! h\se--at lea/ bel[ /airs--becomes bu/l+4 ,ev5 if ! w$d+ is to be at f\r o'clock1 x w /ill be e>ly 9 ! morn+ :5 ! bus9ess ( ! day beg9s4 ,b let u suppose x is to be at noon2 if ! family is "o t is us$ to assembl+ at an e>ly breakfa/ table1 x is probable t ! bride h]self w come d[n = ?is la/ meal alone ) h] family4 ,!y w1 h[ev]1 n be all[$ to l+] long at ! table4 ,! cat]] w already be clamor+ = possession ( ! d9+-room--! flori/ w by t "t already h dump$ heaps ( wire & gre5s into ! middle ( ! draw+-room1 if n beside ! table :]e ! family are /ill commun+ ) _! eggs4 ,! door-bell has long ago begun to r+4 ,at fir/ !re are telegrams & special deliv]y lett]s1 !n z soon z ! %ops op51 come ! la/-mom5t w$d+ pres5ts1 notes1 messages & ! insi/5t clamor ( ! telephone4 ,next1 excit$ voices 9 ! hall ann\nce memb]s ( ! family :o come f a di/ance4 ,!y all want to kiss ! bride1 !y all want rooms to dress 91 !y all want to talk4 ,also comes ! hairdress]1 to d ! bride's or h] "m's or aunt's or gr&mo!r's hair1 or all ( !m2 ! manicure1 ! masseuse--any "o else t may h be5 ?\ght necess>y to give f9al beautify+ t\*es to any or all ( ! female memb]s ( ! h\sehold4 ,! doz5 & "o articles f ! cat]] are meantime be+ c>ri$ 9 at ! basem5t door2 made di%es1 & di%es 9 ! mak+1 raw mat]ials ( :i* o!rs are to be made2 fold+ *airs1 small tables1 *9aw>e1 glassw>e1 nap]y1 knives1 =ks & spoons--x is a /ruggle to get 9 or out ( ! kit*5 or area door4 ,! bride's "m consults ! flori/ = ! ?ird & la/ "t z to :e!r ! bridal c\ple _h n bett] receive 9 ! libr>y because ( ! bay w9d[ :i* l5ds itself easily to ! decoration ( a backgr\nd1 & because ! room1 is1 if any?+1 l>g] ?an ! draw+-room4 ,& = ! ?ird "t1 ! flori/ agrees ab\t ! advantage ( ! w9d[ b po9ts out t ! libr>y has only "o n>r[ door & t ! draw+-room is mu* bett]1 because x has two wide ones & gue/s go+ into ! room w n be block$ 9 ! doorway by o!rs com+ out4 ,! be/ man turns up & wants ! bride's luggage4 ,! head u%] comes to ask :e!r ! ,joneses to be seat$ 9 ! f\r? pew are ! tall d>k ones or ! blond ones1 & :e!r he _h n bett] put "s ( ! ,ti!r+tons :o belong 9 ! eigh? pew also 9 ! sev5?1 z !re are n9e ,ti!r+tons & ! ,em95ts 9 ! sev5? pew are only f\r4 ,a bridesmaid-elect hurries up ! /eps1 runs into ! be/ man c>ry+ out ! luggage2 mu* conv]sation & giggl+ & guess+ z to :]e ! luggage is go+4 ,be/ man v important1 also v noble & sil5t4 ,bridesmaid %rugs h] %\ld]s1 da%es up to ! bride's room & da%es d[n aga94 ,m pres5ts arrive4 ,! furniture mov]s h come & are c>t+ lumps ( heav9ess up ! /airs to ! attic & d[n ! /airs to ! cell>4 ,x is all v l an ant-hill4 ,"s are /eadily go+ =w>d ) ! bus9ess 9 h&1 b o!rs :o h become q bewild]$1 seem to be scurry+ aimlessly ?is way & t1 pick+ some?+ up only to put x d[n aga94 ,,! ,,draw+-,,room ,"h1 :]e ! bride & groom are to receive1 "o c n tell yet :at ! decoration is to be4 ,p]haps x is a h$g$-9 g>d5 sc5e1 a palm grove1 a fl[]+ recess1 a scre5 & canopy ( w$d+ bells--b a b[] ( foliage ( "s sort is gradually tak+ %ape4 ,,! ,,d9+-,,room ,! d9+-room1 too1 blossoms ) plants & fl[]s4 ,p]haps its space & t ( a t5t adjo9+ is fill$ ) little tables1 or p]haps a s+le r[ ( camp *airs /&s flat aga9/ ! walls1 & 9 ! c5t] ( ! room1 ! d9+ table pull$ out to its f>!/ ext5t1 is be+ deck$ ) trimm+s & ut5sils :i* w be ne$$ lat] :5 ! spaces left at int]vals = v>i\s di%es %all be occupi$4 ,prep>ation ( ^! di%es is mean:ile go+ on 9 ! kit*54 ,,! ,,kit*5 ,! cat]]'s *efs 9 :ite cook's caps & aprons are 9 possession ( ! situation1 & _! assi/ants run "h & !re1 br++ +r$i5ts z !y are told2 or p]haps ! cat]] br+s ev]y?+ already prep>$1 9 :i* case ! wait]s are busy unpack+ ! big t9 boxes & plac+ ! ba9-m>ie 7a sort ( fireless cook] receptacle 9 a tank ( hot wat]7 f :i* ! hot food is to be s]v$4 ,huge tubs ( crack$ ice 9 :i* ! ice cream conta9]s are buri$ are already /&+ 9 ! %ade ( ! areaway or 9 ! back y>d4 ,,la/ ,,prep>ations ,back aga9 9 ! draw+-room1 ! flori/ & 8 assi/ants are /ill ty+ & tack+ & arrang+ & adju/+ bran*es & g>l&s & %eaves & bun*es1 & ! floor is a litt] ( twigs & /r+s & brok5 bran*es4 ,! photograph] is ask+ t ! c5tral decoration be f9i%$ s he c gr\p 8 pictures1 ! flori/ assures him t he is z busy z possible4 ,! h\se is z cold z op5 w9d[s c make x1 to keep ! fl[]s fre%1 & to avoid /uff9ess4 ,! door-bell cont9ues its r++1 & ! p>lor maid f9ds h]self a conte/ant 9 a m>a?on1 until "s "o decides t c>d envelopes & telegrams _h bett] be left 9 ! front hall4 ,a fir/ bridesmaid arrives4 ,%e at lea/ is on "t4 ,all decoration activity /ops :ile %e is look$ at & admir$4 ,panic seizes "s "o6 ,! "t is too %ort1 no?+ w be ready6 ,"s "o else says ! bridesmaid is f> too e>ly1 !re is no end ( "t4 ,up/airs ev]yone is /ill dress+4 ,! fa!r ( ! bride 7"o w\ld suppose him to be ! bridegroom at lea/7 is try+ on mo/ ( 8 %irts1 ! floor /rewn ) disc>d$ coll>s6 ,! "m ( ! bride is hurry+ into h] w$d+ array s z to be ready = any em]g5cy1 z well z to sup]9t5d ! f9i%+ t\*es to h] daught]'s dress & veil4 ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,dress ,ev]yone kn[s :at a w$d+ dress is l4 ,x may be ( any :ite mat]ial1 sat91 brocade1 velvet1 *iffon or entirely ( lace4 ,x may be embroid]$ 9 pe>ls1 cry/als or silv]2 or x may be z pla9 z a slip-cov]--any?+ 9 fact t ! bride fancies1 & made 9 :atev] fa%ion or p]iod %e may *oose4 ,z = h] veil 9 its comb9ation ( lace or tulle & orange blossoms1 p]haps x is copi$ f a head-dress ( ,egypt or ,*9a1 or f ! sev]e drap]y ( ,rebecca h]self1 or proclaim ! kn[+ t\* ( ! ,rue de la ,paix4 ,x may h a cap1 l t ( a lady 9 a ,fr5* pr9t1 or fall 9 cl\ds ( tulle f "u a little wrea?1 su* z might be worn by a *ild ,que5 ( ! ,may4 ,! orig9 ( ! bridal veil is an unsettl$ "q4 ,roman brides wore yell[ veils1 & veils 7 us$ 9 ! anci5t ,hebrew m>riage c]emony4 ,! veil z we use x may be a sub/itute = ! fl[+ tresses :i* 9 old times fell l a mantle mode/ly conceal+ ! bride's face & =m2 or x may be an amplification ( ! veil :i* m$ieval fa%ion add$ to e head-dress4 ,9 old5 days ! g>l& r ?an ! veil seems to h be5 ( greate/ importance4 ,! g>l& 0 ! coronet ( ! good girl1 & h] "r to we> x 0 h] inali5able attribute ( virtue4 ,v old books speak ( ?ree ornam5ts t e virtu\s bride mu/ we>1 a r+ on h] f+]1 a broo* on h] brea/ & a g>l& on h] head4 ,a bride :o _h no d[ry ( gold 0 said nev]!less to br+ h] husb& great treasure1 if %e br\ght him a g>l&--9 o!r words1 a virtu\s wife4 ,at pres5t ! veil is usually m\nt$ by a mill9] on a made f\ndation1 s t x ne$ m]ely be put on--b e "y girl has an idea ( h[ %e p]sonally wants h] w$d+ veil & may *oose r to put x toge!r h]self or h x done by "s p>ticul> fri5d1 ^: ta/e & skill %e especially admires4 ,if %e *ooses to we> a veil ov] h] face up ! aisle & dur+ ! c]emony1 ! front veil is always a %ort sep>ate piece ab\t a y>d squ>e1 ga!r$ on an invisible b&1 & p9n$ ) a hair p9 at ei!r side1 aft] ! long veil is arrang$4 ,x is tak5 (f by ! maid ( honor :5 %e gives back ! bride's b\quet at ! conclusion ( ! c]emony4 ,! face veil is a r old-fa%ion$ cu/om1 & is appropriate only = a v "y bride ( a demure type2 ! tradition be+ t a maid5 is too %y to face a congregation unveil$1 & %[s h] face only :5 %e is a m>ri$ woman4 ,"s brides pref] to remove _! left glove by m]ely pull+ x inside out at ! alt>4 ,usually ! "u seam ( ! w$d+ f+] ( h] glove is ripp$ = ab\t two in*es & %e ne$ only pull ! tip (f to h ! r+ put on4 ,or1 if ! w$d+ is a small "o1 %e we>s no gloves at all4 ,brides h be5 kn[n to *oose colors o!r ?an :ite4 ,clo? ( silv] is q conv5tional & s is v deep cream1 b clo? ( gold sugge/s ! habilim5t ( a wid[ r ?an t ( a virg9 maid--( :i* ! :ite & orange blossoms1 or myrtle leaf1 are ! emblems4 ,if a bride *ooses to be m>ri$ 9 travel+ dress1 %e has no bridesmaids1 ?\gh %e (t5 has a maid ( honor4 ,a travel+ dress is ei!r a tailor made if %e is go+ directly on a boat or tra91 or a morn+ or aft]noon dress--:atev] %e w\ld we> away aft] a big w$d+4 ,b to return to our p>ticul> bride2 ev]yone seem+ly is 9 h] room1 h] "m1 h] gr&mo!r1 ?ree aunts1 two c\s9s1 ?ree bridesmaids1 f\r small *ildr51 two fri5ds1 h] maid1 ! dressmak] & an assi/ant4 ,e little :ile1 ! p>lor-maid br+s a message or a package4 ,h] fa!r comes 9 & goes out at regul> int]vals1 9 %e] n]v\sness4 ,! re/ ( ! bridesmaids gradually appe> & di/ract ! att5tion ( ! audi5ce s t ! bride has mom5ts ( be+ all[$ to dress undi/urb$4 ,at la/ ev5 h] veil is adju/$ & all pres5t gasp _! approval3 ,h[ sweet6 ,de>e/1 y are too lovely6 & ,d>l+1 h[ wond]ful y look6 ,h] fa!r reappe>s3 ,if y are go+ to h ! pictures tak51 y _h bett] all hurry6 ,oh1 ,m>y1 %\ts "s "o1 :at h y on t is ,some?+ old1 some?+ new1 ,some?+ borr[$1 some?+ blue1 ,& a lucky sixp5ce 9 y\r %oe6 ,let me see1 says ! bride1 'old1' ,i h old lace2 'new1' ,i h lots ( new6 ',borr[$1' & 'blue'8 ,a *orus ( voices3 ,we> my r+1 ,we> my p91 ,we> m9e6 ,x's blue6 & "s "o's p9 :i* has a blue /one 9 x1 is fa/5$ on "u ! trimm+ ( h] dress & s]ves bo? ne$s4 ,if ! lucky sixp5ce 7a dime w d7 is produc$1 %e mu/ at lea/ pay discom=t = h] luck4 ,aga9 "s "o sugge/s ! photograph] is wait+ & "t is %ort4 ,hav+ pictures tak5 be=e ! c]emony is a dull cu/om1 because x is tir+ to sit = "o's photograph at be/1 & to attempt any?+ s delay+ z pos+ at ! mom5t :5 ! procession ought to be />t+1 is z try+ to ! n]ves z x is exhau/+1 & m ?an "o w$d+ procession has consi/$ ( v dragg$ out "y wom5 9 consequ5ce4 ,at a c\ntry w$d+ x is v easy to take ! pictures out on ! lawn at ! end ( ! reception & j be=e ! bride goes to dress4 ,sometimes 9 a t[n h\se1 !y are tak5 9 an up-/airs room at t same h\r2 b usually ! bride is dress$ & h] bridesmaids arrive at h] h\se fully half an h\r be=e ! "t necess>y to leave = ! *ur*1 & pictures ( ! gr\p are tak5 z well z sev]al ( ! bride alone--) special lights--aga9/ ! backgr\nd :]e %e w /& & receive4 ,,procession ,,to ,,*ur* ,:e!r ! pictures are tak5 be=e ! w$d+ or aft]1 ! bridesmaids always meet at ! h\se ( ! bride1 :]e !y also receive _! b\quets4 ,:5 x is "t to g to ! *ur*1 !re are sev]al c>riages or motors drawn up at ! h\se4 ,! bride's "m drives away 9 ! fir/1 usually alone1 or %e may1 if %e *ooses1 take "o or two bridesmaids 9 h] c>1 b %e mu/ res]ve room = h] husb& :o w return f *ur* ) h]4 ,! maid ( honor1 bridesmaids & fl[] girls g 9 ! next vehicles1 :i* may be _! own or else are suppli$ by ! bride's family2 & la/ ( all1 comes ! bride's c>riage1 :i* always has a w$d+ appe>ance4 ,if x is a br\gham1 ! horses' headpieces are decorat$ ) :ite fl[]s & ! coa*man we>s a :ite b\tonnire2 if x is a motor1 ! *auffeur we>s a small bun* ( :ite fl[]s on 8 coat1 & :ite gloves1 & has all ! tires pa9t$ :ite to give ! c> a w$d+ appe>ance4 ,! bride drives to ! *ur* ) h] fa!r only4 ,h] c>riage arrives la/ ( ! procession1 & /&s )\t mov+1 9 front ( ! awn+1 until %e & h] husb& 79 place ( h] fa!r7 return f ! c]emony & drive back to ! h\se = ! breakfa/ or reception4 ,if %e has no fa!r1 ?is "p is tak5 by an uncle1 a bro!r1 a c\s91 h] gu>dian1 or o!r close male connection ( h] family4 ,if x %\ld happ5 t ! bride has nei!r fa!r nor v ne> male relative1 or gu>dian1 %e walks up ! aisle alone4 ,at ! po9t 9 ! c]emony :5 ! cl]gyman asks :o gives ! bride1 if ! betro?al is read at ! *ancel /eps1 h] "m goes =w>d & p]=ms ! (fice 9 exactly ! same way t h] fa!r w\ld h done4 ,if ! entire c]emony is at ! alt>1 ! "m m]ely /ays :]e %e is /&+ 9 h] prop] place at ! end ( ! fir/ pew on ! left1 & says v di/9ctly1 ,i d4 ,,at ,,! ,,*ur* ,mean:ile1 ab\t an h\r be=e ! "t = ! c]emony1 ! u%]s arrive at ! *ur* & ! sexton turns 8 gu>dian%ip ov] to !m4 ,!y leave _! hats 9 ! ve/ry1 or coat room4 ,_! b\tonnires1 s5t by ! groom1 %\ld be wait+ 9 ! ve/ibule4 ,!y %\ld be 9 *>ge ( a boy f ! flori/'s1 :o has no?+ else on 8 m9d b to see t !y are !re1 t !y are fre% & t ! u%]s get !m4 ,ea* man puts "o 9 8 buttonhole1 & also puts on 8 gloves4 ,! head u%] decides 7or ! groom has already told !m7 to :i* u%]s are apportion$ ! c5t]1 & to :i* ! side aisles4 ,if x is a big *ur* ) side aisles & gall]y1 & !re are only six u%]s1 f\r w be put 9 ! c5t] aisle1 & two 9 ! side4 ,gue/s :o *oose to sit up 9 ! gall]y f9d places = !mselves4 ,(t51 at a big w$d+1 ! sexton or "o ( 8 assi/ants gu>ds ! entrance to ! gall]y & admission is res]v$ by c>ds = ! employees ( bo? families1 b usually ! gall]y is op5 to ^? :o c>e to g up4 ,an u%] ^: place is 9 ! side aisle may escort occasional p]sonal fri5ds ( 8 own d[n ! c5t] aisle if he happ5s to be unoccupi$ at ! mom5t ( _! entrance4 ,^? ( ! u%]s :o are ! mo/ likely to recognize ! v>i\s close fri5ds & memb]s ( ea* family are inv>iably detail$ to ! c5t] aisle4 ,a bro!r ( ! bride1 = in/ance1 is always *os5 = ?is aisle because he is be/ fitt$ to look out = 8 own relatives & to place !m accord+ to _! ne> or di/ant k9%ip4 ,a second u%] %\ld be ei!r a bro!r ( ! groom or a ne> relative :o w\ld be able to recognize ! family & close fri5ds ( ! groom4 ,! fir/ six to tw5ty pews on bo? sides ( ! c5t] aisle are f5c$ (f ) :ite ribbons into a res]v$ enclosure4 ,! p>5ts ( ! bride always sit 9 ! fir/ pew on ! left 7fac+ ! *ancel72 ! p>5ts ( ! groom always sit 9 ! fir/ pew on ! "r4 ,! "r h& side ( ! *ur* is ! groom's side always1 ! left is t ( ! bride4 ,illu/ration3 ,a ,,*ur* ,,w$d+ ,9 ! city or c\ntry ! *ur* is decorat$ ) masses ( fl[]s1 gre5s & sprays ( fl[]s at ! ends ( ! six to tw5ty res]v$ pews4 ,page #ced4 ,,seat+ ,,! ,,gue/s ,x is ! duty ( ! u%]s to %[ all gue/s to _! places4 ,an u%] (f]s 8 arm to ea* lady z %e arrives1 :e!r he kn[s h] p]sonally or n4 ,if ! ve/ibule is v cr[d$ & sev]al ladies are toge!r1 he sometimes gives 8 arm to ! old] & asks ! o!rs to foll[4 ,b ?is is n done unless ! cr[d is great & ! "t %ort4 ,if ! u%] ?9ks a gue/ belongs 9 front ( ! ribbons ?\gh %e fails to pres5t h] c>d1 he always asks at once ,h y a pew numb]8 ,if %e has1 he !n %[s h] to h] place4 ,if %e has none1 he asks :e!r %e pref]s to sit on ! bride's side or ! groom's & gives h] ! be/ seat vacant 9 ! unres]v$ "p ( ! *ur*4 ,he g5]ally makes a few polite rem>ks z he takes h] up ! aisle4 ,su* z3 ,i am s sorry y came late1 all ! good seats are tak5 fur!r up4 ,or ,isn't x lucky !y h su* a beautiful day8 or ,too bad x is ra9+4 ,or1 p]haps ! lady is fir/ 9 mak+ a simil> rem>k or two to him4 ,:atev] conv]sation !re is1 is c>ri$ on 9 a l[ voice1 n1 h[ev]1 :isp]$ or solemn4 ,! deportm5t ( ! u%]s %\ld be natural b at ! same "t dignifi$ & quiet 9 consid]ation ( ! fact t !y are 9 *ur*4 ,!y mu/ n trot up & d[n ! aisles 9 a bu/l+ mann]2 yet !y mu/ be fairly agile1 z ! ve/ibule is pack$ ) gue/s :o h all to be seat$ z exp$iti\sly z possible4 ,! gue/s )\t res]v$ c>ds %\ld arrive fir/ 9 ord] to f9d good places2 !n come ! res]v$ seat gue/s2 & la/ly1 ! imm$iate memb]s ( ! families1 :o all h especial places 9 ! front pews held = !m4 ,x is n cu/om>y = "o :o is 9 deep m\rn+ to g to a w$d+1 b !re c be little criticism ( an intimate fri5d :o takes a place 9 ! gall]y ( ! *ur* f :i* %e c see ! c]emony & yet be ap>t f ! w$d+ gue/s4 ,at a w$d+ t is necess>ily small because ( m\rn+1 ! wom5 ( ! family usually lay aside black = t "o occasion & we> :ite4 ,9 ,front ( ! ,ribbons ,!re are two ways 9 :i* p 9 front ( ! ribbons are seat$4 ,! less effici5t way is by means ( a typewritt5 li/ ( ^? = :om seats are res]v$ & ( ! pews 9 :i* !y are to be seat$1 giv5 to ea* u%]1 :o has read x ov] = ea* gue/ :o arrives at ! *ur*4 ,f e po9t ( view1 ! typewritt5 li/ is bad2 fir/1 x wa/es "t1 & z ev]yone arrives at ! same mom5t1 & e lady is suppos$ to be tak5 p]sonally up ! aisle on ! arm ( an u%]1 ! "t consum$ :ile ea* u%] looks up ea* "n on sev]al gradually rumpl+ or te>+ %eets ( pap] is easily imag9$4 ,besides :i*1 "o :o is at all intimate ) ei!r family c n help feel+ 9 "s degree slight$ :51 on giv+ "o's "n1 ! u%] looks = x 9 va94 ,! second1 & f> bett] me?od1 is to h a pew c>d s5t1 enclos$ ) ! w$d+ invitation1 or an inscrib$ visit+ c>d s5t by ei!r family4 ,a gue/ :o has a c>d ) ,pew ,no4 #ab on x1 kn[s1 & ! u%] kn[s1 exactly :]e %e is to g4 ,or if %e has a c>d say+ ,res]v$ or ,be=e ! ribbons or any special m>k t means 9 ! res]v$ section b no especial pew1 ! u%] puts h] 9 ! be/ position available beh9d ! fir/ two or ?ree numb]$ r[s t are sav$ = ! imm$iate family1 & 9 front ( ! ribbons m>k+ ! res]v$ enclosure4 ,x is sometimes well = ! head u%] to ask ! bride's "m if %e is sure %e has all[$ en\gh pews 9 ! res]v$ section to seat all ^? ) c>ds4 ,arrang+ def9ite seat numb]s has "o disadvantage2 "o pew may h e seat occupi$ & ano!r may be almo/ empty4 ,9 t case an u%] c1 j be=e ! procession is to =m1 %ift a c]ta9 few p out ( ! cr[d$ pews into ! o!rs4 ,b x w\ld be a brea* ( etiquette = p to re-seat !mselves1 & no "o %\ld be seat$ aft] ! entrance ( ! bride's "m4 ,,! ,,bridegroom ,,waits ,mean:ile1 ab\t fifte5 m9utes be=e ! w$d+ h\r1 ! groom & 8 be/ man--bo? 9 morn+ coats1 top-hats1 b\tonnires & :ite bucksk9 7b rememb] n %9y7 gloves1 walk or drive to ! *ur* & ent] ! side door :i* leads to ! ve/ry4 ,!re !y sit1 or 9 ! cl]gyman's /udy1 until ! sexton or an u%] comes to say t ! bride has arriv$4 ,,! ,,p]fectly ,,manag$ ,,w$d+ ,at a p]fectly manag$ w$d+1 ! bride arrives exactly "o m9ute 7to give a la/ com] "t to f9d place7 aft] ! h\r4 ,two or ?ree s]vants h be5 s5t to wait 9 ! ve/ibule to help ! bride & bridesmaids (f ) _! wraps & hold !m until !y are ne$$ aft] ! c]emony4 ,! groom's "m & fa!r also are wait+ 9 ! ve/ibule4 ,z ! c>riage ( ! bride's "m drives up1 an u%] goes z quickly z he c to tell ! groom1 & any bro!rs or si/]s ( ! bride or groom1 :o are n to take "p 9 ! w$d+ procession & h arriv$ 9 _! "m's c>riage1 are n[ tak5 by u%]s to _! places 9 ! front pews4 ,! mom5t ! entire w$d+ p>ty is at ! *ur*1 ! doors betwe5 ! ve/ibule & ! *ur* are clos$4 ,no "o is seat$ aft] ?is1 except ! p>5ts ( ! "y c\ple4 ,! prop] proc$ure %\ld be c>ri$ out ) milit>y exactness1 & is z foll[s3 ,! groom's "m goes d[n ! aisle on ! arm ( ! head u%] & takes h] place 9 ! fir/ pew on ! "r2 ! groom's fa!r foll[s alone1 & takes 8 place beside h]2 ! same u%] returns to ! ve/ibule & imm$iately escorts ! bride's "m2 he %\ld !n h "t to return to ! ve/ibule & take 8 place 9 ! procession4 ,! beg9n+ ( ! w$d+ m>* %\ld s\nd j z ! u%] returns to ! head ( ! aisle4 ,to repeat3 ,no o!r p]son %\ld be seat$ aft] ! "m ( ! bride4 ,gue/s :o arrive lat] mu/ /& 9 ! ve/ibule or g into ! gall]y4 ,! s\nd ( ! music is also ! cue = ! cl]gyman to ent] ! *ancel1 foll[$ by ! groom & 8 be/ man4 ,! two latt] we> gloves b h left _! hats & /icks 9 ! ve/ry-room4 ,! groom /&s on ! "r h& side at ! head ( ! aisle1 b if ! ve/ry op5s into ! *ancel1 he sometimes /&s at ! top ( ! fir/ few /eps4 ,he removes 8 "r glove & holds x 9 8 left h&4 ,! be/ man rema9s always directly back & to ! "r ( ! groom1 & does n remove 8 glove4 ,,"h ,,comes ,,! ,,bride ,! description ( ! procession is giv5 9 detail on a prec$+ page 9 ! ,w$d+ ,rehe>sal section4 ,/>t+ on ! "r measure & keep+ p]fect "t1 ! u%]s come1 two by two1 f\r paces ap>t2 !n ! bridesmaids 7if any7 at ! same di/ance exactly2 !n ! maid ( honor alone2 !n ! fl[] girls 7if any72 !n1 at a d\ble di/ance1 ! bride on h] fa!r's "r arm4 ,%e is dress$ always 9 :ite1 ) a veil ( lace or tulle4 ,usually %e c>ries a bridal b\quet ( :ite fl[]s1 ei!r %ort1 or ) /ream]s 7n>r[ ribbons ) little bun*es ( blossoms on ! end ( ea*7 or trail+ v9es1 or maybe %e holds a long %eaf ( /iff fl[]s su* z lilies on h] arm4 ,or p]haps %e c>ries a pray] book in/ead ( a b\quet4 ,,! ,,groom ,,comes ,,=w>d ,,to ,,meet ,,! ,,bride ,z ! bride approa*es1 ! groom waits at ! foot ( ! /eps 7unless he comes d[n ! /eps to meet h]74 ,! bride rel9qui%es h] fa!r's arm1 *anges h] b\quet f h] "r to h] left1 & gives h] "r h& to ! groom4 ,! groom1 tak+ h] h& 9 8 "r puts x ?r\gh 8 left arm--j h] f+] tips %\ld re/ ne> ! b5d ( 8 elb[--& turns to face ! *ancel z he does s4 ,x does n matt] :e!r %e takes 8 arm or :e!r !y /& h& 9 h& at ! foot ( ! *ancel 9 front ( ! cl]gyman4 ,,h] ,,fa!r ,,gives ,,h] ,,away ,h] fa!r has rema9$ :]e %e left him1 on h] left & a /ep or two beh9d h]4 ,! cl]gyman /&s a /ep or two above !m1 & reads ! betro?al4 ,:5 he says ,:o give? ?is woman to be m>ri$8 ! fa!r goes =w>d1 /ill on h] left1 & half way betwe5 h] & ! cl]gyman1 b n 9 front ( ei!r1 ! bride turns slightly t[>d h] fa!r1 & gives him h] "r h&1 ! fa!r puts h] h& into t ( ! cl]gyman & says at ! same mom5t3 ,i d6 ,he !n takes 8 place next to 8 wife at ! end ( ! fir/ pew on ! left4 ,,! ,,m>riage ,,c]emony ,a soloi/ or ! *oir !n s+s :ile ! cl]gyman sl[ly asc5ds to ! alt>1 be=e :i* ! m>riage is p]=m$4 ,! bride & groom foll[ sl[ly1 ! f+]s ( h] "r h& on 8 left arm4 ,! maid ( honor1 or else ! fir/ bridesmaid1 moves out ( l9e & foll[s on ! left h& side until %e /&s imm$iately bel[ ! bride4 ,! be/ man takes ! same position exactly on ! "r beh9d ! groom4 ,at ! t]m9ation ( ! an!m1 ! bride h&s h] b\quet to ! maid ( honor 7or h] pray]-book to ! cl]gyman7 & ! bride & groom plight _! tro?4 ,:5 x is "t = ! r+1 ! be/ man produces x f 8 pocket4 ,if 9 ! h&l+ f be/ man to groom1 to cl]gyman1 to groom aga91 & f9ally to ! bride's f+]1 x %\ld slip & fall1 ! be/ man mu/ pick x up if he c )\t se>*+2 if n1 he quietly produces ! duplicate :i* all c>eful be/ m5 c>ry 9 ! o!r wai/coat pocket1 & ! c]emony proce$s4 ,! lo/ r+--or ! unus$ extra "o--is return$ to ! jewel]'s next day4 ,:i* r+1 "u ! circum/ances1 ! bride keeps1 is a "q z h>d to answ] z t ( ! ,lady or ! ,tig]4 ,w\ld %e pref] ! sub/itute r+ t 0 actually ! "o %e 0 m>ri$ )8 ,or ! "o h] husb& b\ght & _h m>k$ = h]8 ,or w\ld %e pref] n to h a sub/itute r+ & h ! :ole w$d+ p>ty on _! knees se>*+8 ,%e alone c decide4 ,=tunately1 ev5 if ! cl]gyman is v old & 8 h& %aky1 a sub/itute is seldom necess>y4 ,! w$d+ r+ mu/ n be put above ! engagem5t r+4 ,on h] w$d+ day a bride ei!r leaves h] engagem5t r+ at home :5 %e goes to *ur* or we>s x on h] "r h&4 ,,aft] ,,! ,,c]emony ,at ! conclusion ( ! c]emony1 ! m9i/] congratulates ! new c\ple4 ,! organ beg9s ! recessional4 ,! bride takes h] b\quet f h] maid ( honor 7:o removes ! veil if %e wore "o ov] h] face74 ,%e !n turns t[>d h] husb&--h] b\quet 9 h] "r h&--& puts h] left h& ?r\gh 8 "r arm1 & !y desc5d ! /eps4 ,! maid ( honor1 h&+ h] own b\quet to a second bridesmaid1 foll[s a %ort di/ance aft] ! bride1 at ! same "t /oop+ & /raight5+ out ! long tra9 & veil4 ,! bride & groom g on d[n ! aisle4 ,! be/ man disappe>s into ! ve/ry room4 ,at a p]fectly conduct$ w$d+ he does n walk d[n ! aisle ) ! maid ( honor4 ,! maid ( honor recov]s h] b\quet & walks alone4 ,if a bridesmaid p]=ms ! (fice ( maid ( honor1 %e takes h] place among h] companion bridesmaids :o g next2 & ! u%]s g la/4 ,! be/ man has mean:ile collect$ ! groom's belong+s & da%$ out ( ! side entrance & ar\nd to ! front to give ! groom 8 hat & /ick4 ,sometimes ! sexton takes *>ge ( ! groom's hat & /ick & h&s !m to him at ! *ur* door z he goes out4 ,b 9 ei!r case ! be/ man always hurries ar\nd to see ! bride & groom into _! c>riage1 :i* has be5 /&+ at ! entrance to ! awn+ s9ce %e & h] fa!r alight$ f x4 ,all ! o!r conveyances are drawn up 9 ! rev]se ord] f t 9 :i* !y arriv$4 ,! bride's c>riage leaves fir/1 next come ^? ( ! bridesmaids1 next ! bride's "m & fa!r1 next ! groom's "m & fa!r1 !n ! ne>e/ memb]s ( bo? families1 & f9ally all ! o!r gue/s 9 ! ord] ( _! be+ able to f9d _! conveyances4 ,! be/ man goes back to ! ve/ry1 :]e he gives ! fee to ! cl]gyman1 collects 8 own hat1 & coat if he has "o1 & goes to ! bride's h\se4 ,z soon z ! recessional is ov]1 ! u%]s hurry back & escort to ! door all ! ladies :o 7 9 ! fir/ pews1 accord+ to ! ord] ( prec$5ce2 ! bride's "m fir/1 !n ! groom's "m1 !n ! o!r occupants ( ! fir/ pew on ei!r side1 !n ! second & ?ird pews1 until all memb]s ( ! imm$iate families h left ! *ur*4 ,mean:ile x is a brea* ( etiquette = o!r gue/s to leave _! places4 ,at "s w$d+s1 j be=e ! bride's arrival1 ! u%]s run ribbons d[n ! :ole l5g? ( ! c5t] aisle1 f5c+ ! congregation 94 ,z soon z ! occupants ( ! fir/ pews h left1 ! ribbons are remov$ & all ! o!r gue/s g out by !mselves1 ! u%]s hav+ by t "t hurri$ to ! bride's h\se to make !mselves useful at ! reception4 ,,at ,,! ,,h\se ,an awn+ makes a cov]$ way f ! edge ( ! curb to ! front door4 ,at ! l[] end ! *auffeur 7or "o ( ! cat]]'s m57 /&s to op5 ! c>riage door2 & give return *ecks to ! *auffeurs & _! employ]s4 ,inside ! h\se ! flori/ has f9i%$1 an or*e/ra is play+ 9 ! hall or libr>y1 ev]y?+ is 9 p]fect ord]4 ,! bride & groom h tak5 _! places 9 front ( ! elaborate sett+ ( fl[]+ plants t has be5 arrang$ = !m4 ,! bride /&s on h] husb&'s "r & h] bridesmaids are ei!r gr\p$ beyond h] or else divid$1 half on h] side & half on ! side ( ! groom1 =m+ a cresc5t ) bride & groom 9 ! c5t]4 ,,u%]s ,,at ,,! ,,h\se ,at a small w$d+ ! duty ( u%]s is p]sonally to take gue/s up to ! bride & groom4 ,b at a big reception :]e gue/s outnumb] u%]s fifty or a hundr$ to "o1 be+ p]sonally conduct$ is an honor accord$ only to ! v old1 ! v celebrat$ or ! u%]'s own be/ fri5ds4 ,all ! o!r gue/s /& 9 a long conge/$ l9e by !mselves4 ,! bride's "m takes h] place some:]e ne> ! entrance ( ! room1 & x is = h] b5efit t h] own butl] or "o furni%$ by ! cat]]1 asks ea* gue/ 8 "n & !n repeats x al\d4 ,! gue/s %ake h&s ) ! ho/ess1 & mak+ "s polite rem>k ab\t ! beautiful w$d+ or lovely bride1 cont9ue 9 l9e to ! bridal pair4 ,,w$d+ ,,conv]sation ,:at y %\ld say 9 congratulat+ a bridal c\ple dep5ds on h[ well y "k "o1 or bo? ( !m4 ,b rememb] x is a brea* ( good mann]s to congratulate a bride on hav+ secur$ a husb&4 ,if y are unkn[n to bo? ( !m1 & 9 a long queue1 x is n ev5 necess>y to give y\r "n4 ,y m]ely %ake h&s ) ! groom1 say a =mal ^w or two su* z ,congratulations62 %ake h&s ) ! bride1 say ,i wi% y e happ9ess6 & pass on4 ,if y "k !m fairly well1 y may say to him ,i hope y\r good luck w /ay ) y always6 or ,i c]ta9ly d congratulate y6 & to h] ,i hope y\r :ole life w be "o long happ9ess1 or1 if y are mu* old] ?an %e1 ,y look too lovely1 de> ,m>y1 & ,i hope y w always be z radiant z y look to-day6 ,or1 if y are a woman & a relative or really close fri5d1 y kiss ! groom1 say+1 ,all ! luck 9 ! _w to y1 de> ,jim1 %e c]ta9ly is lovely6 ,or1 kiss+ ! bride1 ,m>y1 d>l+1 e good wi% 9 ! _w to y6 ,to all ! above1 ! groom & bride answ] m]ely ,?ank y4 ,a man might say to ! groom ,good luck to y1 ,jim1 old man6 ,or1 ,%e is ! mo/ lovely ?+ ,i h ev] se56 ,& to h]1 ,i hope y w h e happ9ess6 ,or ,i 0 j tell+ ,jim h[ lucky ,i ?9k he is6 ,i hope y w bo? be v happy6 ,or1 if a v close fri5d1 also kiss+ ! bride1 ,all ! happ9ess y c ?9k ( isn't z mu* z ,i wi% y1 ,m>y de>6 ,b x _c be too mu* emphasiz$ t promiscu\s kiss+ among ! gue/s is an (f5se aga9/ good ta/e4 ,to a relative1 or old fri5d ( ! bride1 b possibly a /rang] to ! groom1 ! bride always introduces h] husb& say+1 ,jim1 ?is is ,aunt ,kate6 ,or1 ,mrs4 ,neighbor1 y "k ,jim1 don't y8 ,or =mally1 ,mrs4 ,f>away1 may ,i pres5t my husb&8 ,! groom on ! approa* ( an old fri5d ( 81 says1 ,m>y1 ?is is c\s9 ,c>rie4 ,or1 ,mrs4 ,d5v]1 d y "k ,m>y8 ,or1 ,hello1 ,/eve1 let me introduce y to my wife2 ,m>y1 ?is is ,/eve ,mi*igan4 ,/eve says ,h[ d y d1 ,mrs4 ,sm>tl+ton6 ,& ,m>y says1 ,( c\rse1 ,i h (t5 he>d ,jim speak ( y6 ,! bride ) a good memory ?anks ea* arriv+ p]son = ! gift s5t h]3 ,?ank y s mu* = ! lovely c&le/icks1 or ,i c't tell y h[ mu* ,i love ! di%es6 ,! p]son :o is ?ank$ says1 ,i am s glad y l x 7or !m71 or ,i am s glad6 ,i hop$ y might f9d x useful4 ,or ,i didn't h x m>k$1 s t 9 case y h a duplicate1 y c *ange x4 ,conv]sation is nev] a fix$ gr\p+ ( words t are le>n$ or recit$ l a "p 9 a play2 ! above examples are giv5 m to indicate ! sort ( ?+s p 9 good society usually say4 ,!re is1 h[ev]1 "o rule3 ,d n laun* into long conv]sation or details ( y\rself1 h[ y feel or look or :at happ5$ to y1 or :at y wore :5 y 7 m>ri$6 ,y\r subject mu/ n deviate f ! "y c\ple !mselves1 _! w$d+1 _! future4 ,also be brief 9 ord] n to keep ^? beh9d wait+ long] ?an necess>y4 ,if y h any?+ p>ticul> to tell !m1 y c return lat] :5 !re is no long] a l9e4 ,b ev5 !n1 long conv]sation1 especially conc]n+ y\rself1 is out ( place4 ,,p>5ts ,,( ,,! ,,groom ,! groom's "m always receives ei!r ne> ! bride's "m or else cont9u+ ! l9e beyond ! bridesmaids1 & x is prop] = e gue/ to %ake h&s ) h] too1 :e!r !y "k h] or n1 b x is n necess>y to say any?+4 ,! bride's fa!r sometimes /&s beside 8 wife b he usually circulates among 8 gue/s j z he w\ld at a ball or any o!r p>ty :]e he is ho/4 ,! groom's fa!r is a gue/ & x is n necess>y = /rang]s to speak to him1 unless he /&s beside 8 wife &1 z x 71 receives1 b !re is no impropriety 9 any "o tell+ him h[ well !y "k & l 8 son or 8 new daught]-9-law4 ,! gue/s1 z soon z !y h congratulat$ ! bride & groom1 g out & f9d !mselves places 7if x is to be a sit-d[n breakfa/7 at a table4 ,,details ,,( ,a ,,sit-,,d[n ,,breakfa/ ,unless ! h\se is rem>kable 9 size1 !re is usually a canopi$ plat=m built next to ! v]&a or on ! lawn or ov] ! y>d ( a city h\se4 ,! entire space is pack$ ) little tables surr\nd+ ! big "o res]v$ = ! bridal p>ty1 & at a l>ge breakfa/ a second table is res]v$ = ! p>5ts ( ! bride & groom & a few close1 & especially invit$1 fri5ds4 ,place c>ds are n put on any ( ! small tables4 ,all ! gue/s1 except ! few plac$ at ! two res]v$ tables1 sit ) :om !y l2 sometimes by pre-arrangem5t1 b usually :]e !y happ5 to f9d fri5ds--& room6 ,! g5]al sit-d[n breakfa/--except 9 great h\ses l a few ( ^? 9 ,newport--is always furni%$ by a cat]]1 :o br+s all ! food1 tables1 *airs1 nap]y1 *9a & glass1 z well z ! necess>y wait]s4 ,! butl] & footm5 belong+ 9 ! h\se may assi/ or ov]see1 or detail !mselves to o!r duties4 ,small m5u c>ds pr9t$ 9 silv] are put on all ! tables4 ,sometimes ^! c>ds h ! cre/ ( ! bride's fa!r emboss$ at ! top1 b usually ! entw9$ initials ( ! bride & groom are /amp$ 9 silv] to mat* ! w$d+ cake boxes4 ,example3 ,illu/ration3 ,b\illon ,lob/] ,newburg ,suprme ( ,*ick5 ,peas ,aspic ( ,foie ,gras ,cel]y ,salad ,ices ,c(fee ,in/ead ( b\illon1 !re may be cavi> or melon1 or grape fruit1 or a pure1 or clam bro?4 ,= lob/] ,newburg may be s(t-%ell crabs or oy/] pt1 or o!r fi%4 ,or ! b\illon may be foll[$ by a di% su* z sweetbreads & mu%rooms1 or *ick5 pts1 or broil$ *ick5 7a half ( a *ick5 = ea* gue/7 or squab1 ) salad su* z :ole tomatoes fill$ ) cel]y4 ,or ! *ick5 or squab may be ! second c\rse1 & an aspic ) ! salad1 ! ?ird4 ,individual ices are accompani$ by little cakes ( assort$ v>iety4 ,!re us$ always to be *ampagne2 a sub/itute is at be/ a poor ?+1 & :at ! prevail+ "o is to be1 is z yet n det]m9$4 ,orange juice & g+] ale1 or :ite grape juice & g+] ale ) sug> & m9t leaves are two attempts at a satisfy+ cup t h be5 (f]$ lately4 ,,! ,,bride',s ,,table ,! feature ( ! w$d+ breakfa/ is always ! bride's table4 ,plac$ sometimes 9 ! d9+-room1 sometimes on ! v]&a or 9 a room ap>t1 ?is table is l>g] & m elaborately decorat$ ?an any ( ! o!rs4 ,!re are :ite g>l&s or sprays or o!r arrangem5t ( :ite fl[]s1 & 9 ! c5t] z *ief ornam5t is an elaborately ic$ w$d+ cake4 ,on ! top x has a b\quet ( :ite or silv] fl[]s1 or confection]'s qua9t dolls repres5t+ ! bride & groom4 ,! top is usually made l a cov] s t :5 ! "t comes = ! bride to cut x1 x is m]ely lift$ (f4 ,! bride always cuts ! cake1 mean+ t %e ins]ts ! knife & makes "o cut ?r\gh ! cake1 aft] :i* ea* p]son cuts h]self or himself a slice4 ,if !re are two sets ( favors hidd5 9 ! cake1 !re is a m>k 9 ! ic+ to di/+ui% ! bridesmaids' side f t ( ! u%]s4 ,articles1 ea* wrapp$ 9 silv] foil1 h be5 pu%$ ?r\gh ! bottom ( ! cake at int]vals2 ! bridesmaids f9d a t5-c5t piece = ri*es1 a little gold r+ = fir/ to be m>ri$1 a ?imble or little p>rot or cat = old maid1 a wi%-bone = ! luckie/4 ,on ! u%]s' side1 a button or dog is = ! ba*elor1 & a m9iature pair ( dice z a symbol ( lucky *ance 9 life4 ,! r+ & t5-c5t piece are ! same4 ,if a big piece ( ! w$d+ cake is left1 ! bride's "m has x wrapp$ 9 t9 foil & put 9 a seal$ t9 box & kept = ! bride to op5 on h] fir/ anniv]s>y4 ,! evolution ( ! w$d+ cake began 9 anci5t ,rome :]e brides c>ri$ :eat e>s 9 _! left h&s4 ,lat]1 ,anglo-,saxon brides wore ! :eat made into *aplets1 & gradually ! belief develop$ t a "y girl :o ate ( ! gra9s ( :eat :i* became scatt]$ on ! gr\nd1 w\ld dream ( h] future husb&4 ,! next /ep 0 ! bak+ ( a ?9 dry biscuit :i* 0 brok5 ov] ! bride's head & ! crumbs divid$ among/ ! gue/s4 ,! next /ep 0 9 mak+ ri*] cake2 !n ic+ x1 & ! la/ in/ead ( hav+ x brok5 ov] h] head1 ! bride broke x h]self into small pieces = ! gue/s4 ,lat] %e cut x ) a knife4 ,,! ,,table ,,( ,,! ,,bride',s ,,p>5ts ,! table ( ! bride's p>5ts diff]s f o!r tables 9 no?+ except 9 its l>g] size1 & ! place c>ds = ^? :o h be5 invit$ to sit !re4 ,! groom's fa!r always sits on ! "r ( ! bride's "m1 & ! groom's "m has ! place ( honor on ! ho/'s "r4 ,! o!r places at ! table are occupi$ by di/+ui%$ gue/s :o may or may n include ! cl]gyman :o p]=m$ ! c]emony4 ,if a bi%op or dean p]=m$ ! c]emony1 he is always includ$ at ?is table & is plac$ at ! left ( ! ho/ess1 & 8 wife1 if pres5t1 sits at ! bride's fa!r's left4 ,o!rwise only especially close fri5ds ( ! bride's p>5ts are invit$ to ?is table4 ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,cake ,9 addition to ! big cake on ! bride's table1 !re are at all w$d+s1 ne> ! front door s t ! gue/s may ea* take "o z !y g home1 little individual boxes ( w$d+ cake1 black fruit cake4 ,ea* box is made ( :ite moir or gros-gra9 pap]1 emboss$ 9 silv] ) ! la/ initial ( ! groom int]tw9$ ) t ( ! bride & ti$ ) :ite sat9 ribbon4 ,at a sit-d[n breakfa/ ! w$d+ cake boxes are sometimes put1 "o at ea* place1 on ! tables s t ea* gue/ may be sure ( receiv+ "o1 & o!r ?\ghtless ones prev5t$ f c>ry+ m ?an _! %>e away4 ,,! ,,/&+ ,,breakfa/ ,,or ,,reception ,! /&+ breakfa/ diff]s f ! sit-d[n breakfa/ 9 s]vice only4 ,in/ead ( num]\s small tables at :i* ! gue/s are s]v$ ) a c\rse lun*eon1 a s+le long "o is set 9 ! d9+-room4 7,! regul> table pull$ out to its f>!/ ext5t47 ,x is cov]$ ) a pla9 :ite damask clo?--or x may be ( embroid]$ l95 & lace ins]tion4 ,9 ! c5t] is usually a b[l or vase or o!r c5t]piece1 ( :ite fl[]s4 ,on x are piles ( plates1 /acks ( napk9s & r[s ( spoons & =ks at int]vals1 mak+ f\r or possibly six piles altoge!r4 ,always !re are di%es fill$ ) little fancy cakes1 *os5 z mu* = looks z = ta/e4 ,!re is usually a big urn at "o end fill$ ) b\illon & "o at ! o!r fill$ ) *ocolate or tea4 ,9 f\r ev5ly spac$ places are plac$ two cold di%es su* z an aspic ( *ick51 or ham m\sse1 or a t]r9e de foie gras1 or o!r aspic4 ,! hot di%es may be a bon$ capon1 vol-au-v5t ( sweetbread & mu%rooms1 cream$ oy/]s1 *ick5 la ,k+1 or *ick5 croquettes2 or !re may be cold cuts1 or cel]y salad1 9 tomato aspic4 ,:atev] ! *oice may be1 !re are two or ?ree cold di%es & at lea/ two hot4 ,:atev] !re is1 mu/ be select$ ) a view to its be+ easily eat5 ) a =k :ile ! plate is held 9 ! o!r h&6 ,!re are also rolls & biscuits1 pt de foie gras or lettuce & tomato s&wi*es1 ! =m] made usually ( split d9n] rolls ) pt betwe51 or ?9 s&wi*es roll$ l a leaf 9 :i* a mo? has built a cocoon4 ,ices are br\ght 9 a little lat]1 :5 a numb] ( p]sons h app>5tly f9i%$ _! fir/ c\rse4 ,ice cream is q z fa%ionable z individual ices4 ,x is m]ely t cat]]s are less p>tial to x because x has to be cut4 ,aft]-d9n] c(fee is put on a side table1 z ! *ampagne us$ to be4 ,f n[ on !re w probably be a b[l or pit*]s ( some?+ ) a lump ( ice 9 x t c be ladl$ into glasses & become :atev] ^? gift$ ) imag9ation may fancy4 ,unless ! w$d+ is v small1 !re is always a bride's table1 decorat$ exactly z t describ$ = a sit-d[n breakfa/1 & plac$ usually 9 ! libr>y1 b !re is no especial table = ! bride's "m & h] gue/s--or = anyone else4 ,,! ,,bridal ,,p>ty ,,eat ,by ! "t ! sit-d[n breakfa/ has rea*$ its second c\rse & ! queue ( arriv+ gue/s has dw9dl$ & melt$ away1 ! bride & groom decide t x is "t !y too g to breakfa/4 ,arm 9 arm !y lead ! way to _! own table foll[$ by ! u%]s & bridesmaids4 ,! bride & groom always sit next to ea* o!r1 %e on 8 "r2 ! maid ( honor 7or matron7 is on 8 left1 & ! be/ man is on ! "r ( ! bride4 ,ar\nd ! re/ ( ! table come bridesmaids & u%]s alt]nately4 ,sometimes "o or two o!rs--si/]s ( ! bride or groom or intimate fri5ds1 :o 7 n includ$ 9 ! w$d+ p>ty1 are ask$ to ! table1 & :5 !re are no bridesmaids ?is is always ! case4 ,! decoration ( ! table1 ! s]vice1 ! food1 is exactly ! same :e!r ! o!r gue/s are seat$ or /&+4 ,at dess]t1 ! bride cuts ! cake1 & ! bridesmaids & u%]s f9d ! luck pieces4 ,,danc+ ,,at ,,! ,,w$d+ ,on leav+ _! table1 ! bridal p>ty jo9 ! danc+ :i* by n[ has begun 9 ! draw+-room :]e ! w$d+ gr\p receiv$4 ,! bride & groom dance at fir/ toge!r1 & !n ea* ) bridesmaids or u%]s or o!r gue/s4 ,sometimes !y l+] s long t ^? :o _h int5d$ /ay+ = ! go+ away gr[ we>y & leave--:i* is (t5 exactly :at ! "y c\ple want6 ,unless !y h to cat* a tra91 !y always /ay until ! cr[d ?9s be=e go+ to dress = _! j\rney4 ,at la/ ! bride signals to h] bridesmaids & leaves ! room4 ,!y all ga!r at ! foot ( ! /airs2 ab\t half way to ! upp] l&+ z %e goes up1 %e ?r[s h] b\quet1 & !y all try to cat* x4 ,! "o to :om x falls is suppos$ to be ! next m>ri$4 ,if %e has no bridesmaids1 %e sometimes collects a gr\p ( o!r "y girls & ?r[s h] b\quet to !m4 ,,into ,,travel+ ,,clo!s ,! bride goes up to ! room t has always be5 h]s1 foll[$ by h] "m1 si/]s & bridesmaids1 :o /ay ) h] :ile %e *anges into h] travel+ clo!s4 ,a few m9utes aft] ! bride has gone up-/airs1 ! groom goes to ! room res]v$ = him1 & *anges into ! ord9>y sack suit :i* ! be/ man has tak5 !re = him be=e ! c]emony4 ,he does n we> 8 top hat nor 8 w$d+ b\tonnire4 ,! groom's clo!s %\ld be app>5tly new1 b ne$ n actually be s4 ,! bride's clo!s1 on ! o!r h&1 are always br& new--e article t %e has on4 ,,! ,,go+-,,away ,,dress ,a bride necess>ily *ooses h] go+-away dress accord+ to ! j\rney %e is to make4 ,if %e is />t+ (f 9 an op5 motor1 %e we>s a suitably small motor hat & a wrap ( "s sort ov] :atev] dress 7or suit7 %e *ooses4 ,if %e is go+ on a tra9 or boat1 %e we>s a travel+ dress1 su* z %e w\ld *oose "u ord9>y circum/ances4 ,if %e is go+ to a ne>by hotel or a c\ntry h\se put at h] disposal1 %e we>s ! sort ( dress & hat suitable to t[n or c\ntry occasion4 ,%e %\ld n dress z ?\gh ab\t to jo9 a circus p>ade or ! ornam5ts on a ,*ri/mas tree1 unless %e wants to be />$ at & comm5t$ ^u 9 a way t no "o ( good bre$+ c endure4 ,! av]age bride & groom ( good ta/e & feel+ try to be z inconspicu\s z possible4 ,on "o occasion1 9 ord] to hide ! fact t !y 7 bride & groom1 a "y c\ple w5t away 9 _! olde/ clo!s & 7 v mu* pleas$ ) _! clev]ness1 until1 pull+ out 8 h&k]*ief1 ! groom scatt]$ rice all ov] ! floor ( ! p>lor c>4 ,! bride's lam5t aft] ?is 0--,:y _h %e n worn h] prettie/ ?+s8 ,! groom1 hav+ *ang$ 8 clo!s1 waits up-/airs1 9 ! hall g5]ally1 until ! bride em]ges f h] room 9 h] travel+ clo!s4 ,all ! u%]s %ake h&s ) !m bo?4 ,8 imm$iate family1 z well z h]s1 h gradually collect$--any t are miss+ mu/ unfail+ly be s5t =4 ,! bride's "m gives h] a la/ kiss1 h] bridesmaids hurry d[n/airs to h pl5ty ( rice ready & to tell ev]yone bel[ z !y desc5d ,!y are com+6 ,a passage f ! /airway & out ( ! front door1 all ! way to ! motor1 is left free betwe5 two r[s ( eag] gue/s1 _! h&s full ( rice4 ,^u ! wait+ motor ! u%]s h ti$ ev]y?+ !y c lay _! h&s on 9 ! way ( :ite ribbons & %oes & slipp]s4 ,,"h ,,!y ,,come6 ,at la/ ! groom appe>s at ! top ( ! /airs1 a glimpse ( ! bride beh9d him4 ,x surely is runn+ ! gauntlet6 ,!y seem+ly c\nt "o1 two1 ?ree1 g6 ,) %\ld]s hun*$ & coll>s held tight to _! necks1 !y run ?r\gh %rapnel ( rice1 d[n ! /airs1 out ?r\gh ! hall1 d[n ! outside /eps1 into ! motor1 slam ! door1 & are (f6 ,! w$d+ gue/s /& out on ! /reet or roadway look+ aft] !m = z long z a ve/ige c be se5--& !n gradually disp]se4 ,occasionally "y c\ples ?9k x clev] to slip out ( ! area-way1 or ov] ! ro(s1 or out ( ! cell> & across ! g>d54 ,all ?is is suppos$ to be 9 ord] to avoid be+ delug$ ) rice & hav+ labels ( newly w$ or l>ge :ite b[s & odd %oes & slipp]s ti$ to _! luggage4 ,mo/ brides1 h[ev]1 agree ) _! gue/s t x is decid$ly spoil sport to deprive a lot ( fri5ds 7:o h only _! good luck at he>t7 ( ! p]fectly legitimate enjoym5t ( ?r[+ emblems ( good luck aft] !m4 ,if "o :ite slipp] among ^? ?r[n aft] ! motor l&s "r side up1 on top ( x1 & /ays !re1 greate/ good =tune is sure to foll[ ?r\gh life4 ,!re 0 a "t :5 ! go+ away c>riage 0 always furni%$ by ! groom1 & ?is is /ill ! case if x is a hir$ conveyance1 b n[adays :5 ne>ly ev]yone has a motor1 ! newly m>ri$ c\ple--if !y h no motor ( _! own--are sure to h "o l5t !m by ! family ( "o ( !m4 ,v (t5 !y h two motors & are met by a second c> at an appo9t$ place1 into :i* !y *ange aft] %ak+ !mselves free ( rice4 ,! :ite ribbon$ c> returns to ! h\se1 z well z ! decorat$ & label$ luggage1 :i* 0 all empty--_! real luggage hav+ be5 be/[$ safely by ! be/ man t morn+ 9 _! hotel or boat or tra94 ,or1 x may be t !y *oose a novel j\rney1 = !re is1 ( c\rse1 no regulation vehicle4 ,!y c g (f 9 a lim\s9e1 a pony c>t1 a ya*t1 a canoe1 on horseback or by airplane4 ,fancy alone limits ! mode ( travel1 sugge/s ! de/9ation1 or directs ! etiquette ( a honeymoon4 ,,bride',s ,,fir/ ,,duty ,,( ,,?\ght ,,= ,,groom',s ,,p>5ts ,at ! end ( ! w$d+ !re is "o ?+ ! bride mu/ n =get4 ,z soon z %e is 9 h] travel+ dress1 %e mu/ s5d a bridesmaid or someone out into ! hall & ask h] husb&'s p>5ts to come & say good-by to h]4 ,if 8 p>5ts h n !mselves come up-/airs to see _! son1 ! bride mu/ h !m s5t = at once6 ,x is v easy = a bride to =get ?is act ( ?\ghtfulness & = a groom to ov]look ! fact t he c n /op to kiss 8 "m good-by on 8 way out ( ! h\se1 & _m a "m see+ h] son & new daught] ru% pa/ )\t ev5 a glance f ei!r ( !m1 has return$ home ) an a*e 9 h] he>t4 ,x s\nds improbable1 doesn't x8 ,"o naturally exclaims1 ,b h[ /upid ( h]1 :y didn't %e g up-/airs8 ,:y didn't h] son s5d = h]8 ,usually %e does1 or he does4 ,b (t5 ! groom's p>5ts are /rang]s2 & if by temp]am5t !y are %y or retir+ p !y hesitate to g up-/airs 9 an unkn[n h\se until !y are invit$ to4 ,s !y wait1 feel+ sure t 9 good "t !y w be s5t =4 ,mean:ile ! bride =gets & x does n occur to ! groom t unless he makes an ef=t :ile up-/airs !re w be no opportunity 9 ! da% d[n to ! c>riage to recognize !m--or anyone4 ,,flippancy ,,vs4 ,,radiance ,a completely beautiful w$d+ is n m]ely a comb9ation ( wond]ful fl[]s1 beautiful clo!s1 smoo?ness ( detail1 delici\s food4 ,^!1 ?\gh all necess>y1 are ext]nal attributes4 ,! _s1 or s\l ( x1 mu/ h some?+ besides2 & t some?+ is 9 ! behavior & 9 ! expression ( ! bride & groom4 ,! mo/ beautiful w$d+ ev] imag9$ c\ld be turn$ f sacram5t to circus by ! indecor\s behavior ( ! groom & ! flippancy ( ! bride4 ,%e1 above all1 mu/ n rea* up & wig-wag signals :ile %e is receiv+1 any m ?an %e mu/ wave to p z %e goes up & d[n ! aisle ( ! *ur*4 ,%e mu/ n cl+ to h] husb&1 /& pigeon-to$1 or lean aga9/ him or ! wall1 or any p]son1 or ?+4 ,%e mu/ n run h] arm ?r\gh 8 & let h] h& flop on ! o!r side2 %e mu/ n sw+ h] arms z ?\gh !y 7 dangl+ rope2 %e mu/ n swit* h]self ?is way & t1 nor mu/ %e hello or %\t4 ,no matt] h[ "y or natural & ?\ghtless %e may be1 %e mu/1 dur+ ! c]emony & ! %ort "t t %e /&s beside h] husb& at ! reception1 assume t %e has dignity4 ,x is n by *ance t ! phrase happy pair is "o ( ! mo/ trite 9 our language1 = happ9ess above all is ! inn] ess5tial t mu/ dom9ate a p]fect w$d+4 ,an unhappy look+ bride1 an unwill+ look+ groom1 turns ! greate/ w$d+ spl5dor into %am2 )\t love x is a sacram5t inadvis$ly ent]$ into1 & ! sight ( a tragic-fac$ bride /rikes *ill to ! he>t4 ,! radiance ( a truly happy bride is s beautify+ t ev5 a pla9 girl is made pretty1 & a pretty "o1 div9e4 ,!re is some?+ glad yet sweet1 %y yet triumphant1 s]i\s yet--radiant6 ,!re is no o!r way to put x4 ,& a happy groom looks fir/ ( all protective--he1 too1 may h ! quality ( radiance1 b x is diff]5t--m directly glad4 ,!y bo? look z ?\gh !re 7 sunlight beh9d _! eyes1 z ?\gh _! m\?s irresi/ibly turn$ to smiles4 ,no o!r quality ( a bride's expression is s beautiful z radiance2 t visible pro( ( p]fect happ9ess :i* ende>s its possessor to all behold]s & gives to ! simple/ little w$d+ complete beauty4 ,,! ,,h\se ,,w$d+ ,a h\se w$d+ involves slightly less exp5diture b has ! disadvantage ( limit+ ! numb] ( gue/s4 ,! c]emony is exactly ! same z t 9 a *ur*1 except+ t ! procession advances ?r\gh an aisle ( :ite sat9 ribbons f ! /airs d[n :i* ! bridal p>ty desc5ds1 to ! improvis$ alt>4 ,a small space ne> ! alt> is f5c$ (f ) o!r ribbons1 = ! family4 ,!re is a l[ rail ( "s sort back ( :i* ! cl]gyman /&s1 & some?+ = ! bride & groom to kneel on dur+ ! pray]s ( ! c]emony4 ,! pray] b5* is usually ab\t six or eight in*es high1 & betwe5 ?ree & f\r feet long2 at ! back ( x an upright on ei!r end supports a crosspiece--or alt> rail4 ,x c be made 9 r\ghe/ fa%ion by any c>p5t]1 or amateur1 z x is entirely hidd5 "u leaves & fl[]s4 ,on ! kneel+ surface ( ! b5* are plac$ cu%ions r ?an fl[]s1 because ! latt] /a94 ,all cat]]s h ! necess>y /&>ds to :i* ribbons are ti$1 l ! wires to telegraph poles4 ,! top ( ea* /&>d is usually decorat$ ) a spray ( :ite fl[]s4 ,at a h\se w$d+ ! bride's "m /&s at ! door ( ! draw+-room--or :]ev] ! c]emony is to be--& receives p z !y arrive4 ,b ! groom's "m m]ely takes h] place ne> ! alt> ) ! re/ ( ! imm$iate family4 ,! u%]s are purely ornam5tal1 unless ! h\se is s l>ge t pews h be5 in/all$1 & ! gue/s are seat$ z 9 a *ur*4 ,o!rwise ! gue/s /& :]ev] !y c f9d places beh9d ! aisle ribbons4 ,j be=e ! bride's entrance1 h] "m goes =w>d & /&s 9 ! res]v$ "p ( ! room4 ,! u%]s g up to ! top ( ! /airway4 ,! w$d+ m>* beg9s & ! u%]s come d[n two & two1 foll[$ by ! bridesmaids1 exactly z 9 a *ur*1 ! bride com+ la/ on h] fa!r's arm4 ,! cl]gyman & ! groom & be/ man h1 if possible1 rea*$ ! alt> by ano!r door4 ,if ! room has only "o door1 !y g up ! aisle a few mom5ts be=e ! bridal procession />ts4 ,! *ief diff]5ce betwe5 a *ur* & h\se w$d+ is t ! bride & groom d n take a s+le /ep toge!r4 ,! groom meets h] at ! po9t :]e ! s]vice is read4 ,aft] ! c]emony1 !re is no recessional4 ,! cl]gyman )draws1 an u%] removes ! pray] b5*1 & ! bride & groom m]ely turn :]e !y /&1 & receive ! congratulations ( _! gue/s1 unless1 ( c\rse1 ! h\se is s big t !y receive 9 ano!r room4 ,illu/ration3 ,,an ,,attractive ,,alt> ,,arrangem5t ,,= ,a ,,h\se ,,w$d+4 ,page #cgd4 ,:5 !re is no recessional1 ! groom always kisses ! bride be=e !y turn to receive _! gue/s--x is aga9/ all tradition = any "o to kiss h] be=e h] husb& does4 ,!re are seldom _m bridal att5dants at a h\se w$d+1 two to f\r u%]s1 & "o to f\r bridesmaids1 unless ! h\se is an imm5se "o4 ,9 ! c\ntry a h\se w$d+ includes "o 9 a g>d51 ) a w$d+ procession "u ! trees1 & tables out on ! lawn--a p]fect plan = ,cali=nia or o!r ra9less ,/ates1 b difficult to arrange on ! ,atlantic seabo>d :]e ra9 is too likely to spoil ev]y?+4 ,,! ,,w$d+ ,,9 ,,assembly ,,rooms ,^? ^: h\ses are v small & yet :o wi% to h a g5]al reception1 sometimes give ! w$d+ breakfa/ 9 a hotel or assembly rooms4 ,! prep>ations are id5tical ) ^? 9 a private h\se1 ! decorations & m5u may be lavi% or simple4 ,al?\gh x is p]fectly good =m to hold a w$d+ reception 9 a ballroom1 a breakfa/ 9 a private h\se1 no matt] h[ simple1 has great] di/9ction ?an ! mo/ elaborate collation 9 a public e/abli%m5t4 ,:y ?is is s1 is h>d to det]m9e4 ,x is probably t )\t a home atmosph]e1 ?\gh x may be a brilliant ent]ta9m5t1 ! s5tim5t is miss+4 ,,! ,,second ,,m>riage ,! detail ( a sp9/]'s w$d+ is ! same :e!r %e m>ries a ba*elor or a wid[]1 ! diff]5ce be+ t a wid[] does n give a ba*elor d9n]4 ,! m>riage ( a wid[ is ! same z t ( a maid except t %e _c we> :ite or orange blossoms1 :i* are emblems ( virg9ity1 nor does %e h bridesmaids4 ,usually a wid[ *ooses a v quiet w$d+1 b !re is no reason :y %e %\ld n h a big w$d+ if %e c>es to1 except t somb] u%]s & a bride 9 travel+ dress1 or at be/ a light aft]noon "o ) a hat1 does n make an effective processional--unless %e is beautiful en\gh to comp5sate = all t is miss+4 ,a w$d+ 9 v be/ ta/e = a wid[ w\ld be a c]emony 9 a small *ur* or *apel1 a few fl[]s or palms 9 ! *ancel ! only decoration1 & two to f\r u%]s4 ,!re are no ribbon$-(f seats1 z only v intimate fri5ds are ask$4 ,! bride we>s an aft]noon /reet dress & hat4 ,h] dress = a *ur* c]emony %\ld be m conv5tional ?an if %e 7 m>ri$ at home1 :]e %e c\ld we> a semi-ev5+ g[n & sub/itute a headdress = a hat4 ,%e c\ld ev5 we> a veil if x is color$ & does n sugge/ ! bridal :ite "o4 ,a celebrat$ beauty wore = h] second w$d+ 9 h] own h\se1 a dress ( gold brocade1 ) a ,russian c\rt headdress & a veil ( yell[ tulle d[n ! back4 ,ano!r wore a dress ( gray & a ,dut* cap ( silv] lace1 & _h h] little girl 9 qua9t cap & long dress1 to mat* h] own1 z maid ( honor4 ,a wid[ has nev] m ?an "o att5dant & mo/ (t5 none4 ,!re may be a sit-d[n breakfa/ aft]w>ds1 or ! simple/ aft]noon tea2 9 any case1 ! breakfa/ is1 if possible1 at ! bride's own h\se1 & ! bridal pair may ei!r /ay :]e !y are & h _! gue/s take leave ( !m1 or !mselves drive away aft]w>ds4 ,v intimate fri5ds s5d pres5ts = a second m>riage b g5]al acqua9tances are nev] expect$ to4 ,,summ>y ,,( ,,exp5ses ,all ! exp5ses ( a w$d+ belong to ! bride's p>5ts2 ! invitations are issu$ by !m1 ! reception is at _! h\se1 & ! groom's family are little m ?an ord9>y gue/s4 ,! co/ ( a w$d+ v>ies z mu* z ! co/ ( any?+ else t "o has or does4 ,a big fa%ionable w$d+ c total f> up 9 ! ?\s&s & ev5 ! simple/ entails consid]able outlay1 :i* c1 h[ev]1 be modifi$ by ^? :o are capable ( do+ ?+s !mselves in/ead ( employ+ pr(essional s]vice at e po9t4 ,,! ,,p>5ts ,,( ,,! ,,bride ,,provide #a4 ,engrav$ invitations & c>ds4 #b4 ,! s]vice ( a pr(essional secret>y :o compiles a s+le li/ f ! v>i\s ones s5t h]1 addresses ! envelopes1 bo? inn] & out]2 encloses ! prop] numb] ( c>ds1 seals1 /amps & mails all ! invitations4 7,?is item c be omitt$ & ! "w done by ! family47 #c4 ,! bigge/ item ( exp5se--! tr\sseau ( ! bride1 :i* may consi/ n alone ( we>+ app>el ( endless v>iety & lavi% detail1 b h\sehold l95 ( f9e/ quality 7priceless 9 ^! days7 & 9 quantity suffici5t = a lifetime2 or x may consi/ ( ! w$d+ dress1 & ev5 t a travel+ "o1 & "o or two o!rs1 ) b>e/ ess5tials & few accessories4 #d4 ,awn+s = *ur* & h\se4 ,?is may be omitt$ at ! h\se 9 good wea!r1 at ! *ur*1 & also 9 ! c\ntry4 #e4 ,decorations ( *ur* & h\se4 ,co/ c be elim9at$ by amateurs us+ g>d5 or field fl[]s4 #f4 ,*oir1 soloi/s & organi/ at *ur*4 7,*oir & soloi/s unnecess>y47 #g4 ,or*e/ra at h\se4 7,?is may mean fifty pieces ) two lead]s or x may mean a piano1 viol9 & drum1 or a viol91 h>p & guit>47 #h4 ,c>riages or motors = ! bridal p>ty f h\se to *ur* & back4 #i4 ,! collation1 :i* may be ! mo/ elaborate sit-d[n lun*eon or ! simple/ aft]noon tea4 #aj4 ,boxes ( w$d+ cake4 #aa4 ,*ampagne--us$ to be "o ( ! bigge/ items1 z a fa%ionable w$d+ )\t pl5ty ( x 0 unhe>d (4 ,p]haps ?\gh1 pocketbooks may h less relief on acc\nt ( its omission ?an w\ld at fir/ seem probable1 s9ce :at is sav$ on ! w9e bill is made up = on ! additional food necess>y to make ! be/ w9eless m5u seem o!r ?an meagre4 #ab4 ,! bride's pres5ts to h] bridesmaids4 7,may be jewels ( value or tr9kets ( trifl+ co/47 #ac4 ,a w$d+ pres5t to ! bride f ea* memb] ( h] family--n c\nt+ h] tr\sseau :i* is m]ely "p ( ! w$d+4 #ad4 ,! bride gives a w$d+ pres5t or a w$d+ r+ or bo? to ! groom1 if %e especially wants to4 7,n necess>y nor ev5 cu/om>y47 ,,! ,,groom',s ,,exp5ses ,,are #a4 ,! engagem5t r+--z h&some z he c possibly af=d4 #b4 ,a w$d+ pres5t--jewels if he is able1 always some?+ = h] p]sonal adornm5t4 #c4 ,8 ba*elor d9n]4 #d4 ,! m>riage lic5se4 #e4 ,a p]sonal gift to 8 be/ man & ea* ( 8 u%]s4 #f4 ,to ea* ( ! above he gives _! w$d+ ties1 gloves & b\tonnires4 #g4 ,! b\quet c>ri$ by ! bride4 ,9 _m cities x is said to be ! cu/om = ! bride to s5d b\tonnires to ! u%]s & = ! groom to ord] ! b\quets ( ! bridesmaids4 ,9 ,new ,york's sm>t _w1 ! bridesmaids' b\quets are look$ ^u z "p ( ! decorative arrangem5t1 all ( :i* is 9 ! prov9ce ( ! bride's p>5ts4 #h4 ,! w$d+ r+4 #i4 ,! cl]gyman's fee4 #aj4 ,f ! mom5t ! bride & groom />t (f on _! w$d+ trip1 all ! exp5diture becomes 84 ,,w$d+ ,,anniv]s>ies #a ye>1 pap] #e ye>s1 wood #aj ye>s1 t9 #ae ye>s1 cry/al #bj ye>s1 *9a #be ye>s1 silv] #ej ye>s1 gold #ge ye>s1 diamond ,w$d+ anniv]s>ies are celebrat$ 9 any numb] ( ways4 ,! p>ty may be "o ( two alone or x may be a dance4 ,mo/ (t5 x is a d9n]1 & occasionally1 an aft]noon tea4 ,9 ,g]many a silv] w$d+ is a v important ev5t & a great celebration is made ( x1 b 9 ,am]ica x is n v good =m to ask any b intimate fri5ds & family to an anniv]s>y p>ty--especially z ^? bidd5 are suppos$ to s5d pres5ts4 ,^! ne$ n1 h[ev]1 be ( value2 9 fact ! pap]1 wood5 & t9 w$d+ pres5ts are seldom any?+ b jokes4 ,cry/al is ! e>lie/ t is likely to be tak5 s]i\sly by ! gift-be>]s4 ,silv] is always s]i\s1 & ! gold5 w$d+ a q sacr$ ev5t4 ,mo/ usually ?is la/ occasion is celebrat$ by a l>ge family d9n] to :i* all ! *ildr5 & gr&*ildr5 are bidd54 ,or ! m>ri$ c\ple p]haps *oose an aft]noon at home & receive _! fri5ds & neighbors1 :o are1 ( c\rse1 suppos$ to br+s pres5ts made ( gold4 ,,*apt] ,,xxiii ,,*ri/5+s ,a *ild c1 ( c\rse1 be *ri/5$ )\t mak+ a fe/ivity ( x at all--j z two p c be m>ri$ ) none b ! cl]gyman & two witnesses--b ne>ly e "m takes ?is occasion to see h] fri5ds & %[ h] baby to !m4 ,invitations to a *ri/5+ are nev] =mal1 because none b ! family & a v few intimate fri5ds are suppos$ to be ask$4 ,9 ?is day invitations are ne>ly all s5t ov] ! telephone1 except to ^? :o are at a di/ance1 or else fri5ds are ask$ v]bally :5 se52 b x is bo? correct & polite to write notes4 ,su* z3 ,de> ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t3 ,! baby is to be *ri/5$ "h at home1 next ,sunday at half pa/ f\r1 & we hope y & ,mr4 ,k9dh>t--& ! *ildr5 if !y c>e to--w come4 ,affectionately1 ,lucy ,gild+4 ,if a telephone message is s5t1 ! =m is3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,gild+1 ,jr4 w\ld l ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,norman to come to ! baby's *ri/5+ on ,sunday at half pa/ f\r1 at _! h\se4 ,,ask+ ,,! ,,godp>5ts ,be=e sett+ ! date = ! *ri/5+1 ! godmo!rs 7two = a girl & "o = a boy7 & ! godfa!rs 7two = a boy & "o = a girl7 h1 ( c\rse1 already be5 *os54 ,if a godfa!r 7or "m7 aft] hav+ giv5 8 cons5t is abroad or o!rwise out ( rea* at ! "t ( ! *ri/5+1 a proxy takes "p 9 ! c]emony in/ead1 & )\t !reby becom+ a godfa!r4 ,s9ce godp>5ts are always mo/ intimate fri5ds1 x is natural to ask !m :5 !y come to see ! "m & ! baby 7:i* !y probably d (t57 or to write !m if at a di/ance4 ,sometimes !y are ask$ at ! same "t t ! baby's arrival is ann\nc$ to !m1 occasionally ev5 be=e4 ,! ,gild+ baby1 = in/ance1 suppos$ly s5t ! foll[+ telegram3 ,mrs4 ,ri*>d ,worldly1 ,great ,e/ates4 ,i arriv$ la/ night & my "m & fa!r 7 v glad to see me1 & ,i am n[ eag]ly wait+ to see y4 ,y\r lov+ godson1 ,rob]t ,gild+1 #c;d4 ,b m usually a godp>5t at a di/ance is telegraph$3 ,john ,/rong1 ,equitru/1 ,p>is4 ,x's a boy4 ,w y be godfa!r8 ,gild+4 ,b 9 any case a =mally word$ reque/ is out ( place4 ,d n write3 ,my husb& & ,i s9c]ely hope t y w cons5t to be our son's godmo!r1 etc4 ,any "o s slightly kn[n z ?is word+ implies w\ld n be ask$ to fill s close a position z t ( godmo!r )\t great presumption on y\r "p4 ,y mu/ nev] ask any "o to be a godmo!r or godfa!r :om y d n "k intimately well1 z x is a responsibility n lightly to be und]tak5 & impossible to refuse4 ,godp>5ts %\ld1 h[ev]1 be *os5 f among fri5ds r ?an relatives1 s9ce ! sole advantage ( godp>5ts is t !y add to ! *ild's relatives1 s t if x %\ld be left alone 9 ! _w1 its godp>5ts become its protectors4 ,b :]e a *ild is born ) pl5ty ( relatives :o c be call$ ^u = advice & affection & assi/ance 9 ev5t ( 8 or h] becom+ an orphan1 godp>5ts are (t5 *os5 f among !m4 ,no?+ c\ld be m s5seless1 h[ev]1 ?an *oos+ gr&p>5ts1 s9ce ! relation%ip is z close z c be anyway1 & ! *ances t ! p>5ts w outlive _! own p>5ts make su* a *oice /ill m unsuitable4 ,9 ,france1 ! godmo!r is consid]$1 next to ! p>5ts & gr&p>5ts1 ! ne>e/ relative a *ild c h4 ,9 "s ,european c\ntries1 ! ,que5 or ano!r :o is above ! p>5ts 9 rank1 assumes a special protectorate ov] h] god*ild4 ,9 ?is in/ance ! godmo!r appo9ts h]self4 ,9 ,am]ica a simil> situation _c v well exi/2 ?\gh on r>e occasions an employ] volunte]s to /& z godfa!r = an employee's *ild4 ,godp>5ts mu/1 ( c\rse1 give ! baby a pres5t1 if n be=e1 at lea/ at ! *ri/5+4 ,! /&>d gift is a silv] mug1 a porr+]1 or a knife1 =k & spoon1 m>k$ usually ) ! baby's "n & t ( ! giv]4 ,rob]t ,gild+1 #c;d ,f 8 godfa!r ,john ,/rong ,or ! pres5ts may be any?+ else !y fancy4 ,9 ,new ,engl& a v ri* godfa!r sometimes gives ! baby a bond :i* is kept ) int]e/ intact until a girl is eighte5 or a boy tw5ty-"o4 ,,"t ,,( ,,*ri/5+ ,9 o!r days ( /rict] obs]vances a baby 0 baptiz$ 9 ! ,ca?olic & high ,episcopal *ur* on ! fir/ or at lea/ second ,sunday aft] its bir?4 ,b to-day ! *ri/5+ is usually delay$ at lea/ until ! "y "m is up & ab\t aga92 (t5 x is put (f = mon?s & 9 "s d5om9ations *ildr5 ne$ n be *ri/5$ until !y are sev]al ye>s old4 ,! mo/ usual age is f two to six mon?s4 ,if ! family is v high *ur* or ! baby is delicate & its *ri/5+ !re=e takes place :5 x is only a week or two old1 ! "m is c>ri$ into ! draw+-room & put on a s(a ne> ! improvis$ font4 ,%e is dress$ 9 a becom+ neglig & p]haps a cap1 & ) lace pill[s beh9d h] & a cov] equally decorative ov] h] feet4 ,! gue/s 9 ?is ev5t are only ! family & ! fewe/ possible intimate fri5ds4 ,,! ,,*ri/5+ ,,9 ,,*ur* ,9 arrang+ = ! c]emony ! cl]gyman1 ( c\rse1 is consult$ & ! place & h\r arrang$4 ,if x is to be 9 *ur*1 x c take place at ! close ( ! regul> s]vice on ,sunday1 b if a good deal is to be made ( ! *ri/5+1 a week day is *os5 & an h\r :5 ! *ur* is n be+ o!rwise us$4 ,! decorations1 if any at all1 consi/ ( a few palms or "s fl[]+ plants gr\p$ ar\nd ! font1 & ! gue/s invit$ = ! *ri/5+ take places 9 ! pews :i* are ne>e/ to ! font1 :]ev] t happ5s to be4 ,z soon z ! cl]gyman appe>s1 ! baby's coat & cap are tak5 (f 79 any conv5i5t pew1 n necess>ily ! ne>e/ "o71 & ! godmo!r1 hold+ ! baby 9 h] arms1 /&s directly 9 front ( ! cl]gyman4 ,! o!r godp>5ts /& beside h] & o!r relatives & fri5ds ne>by4 ,! godmo!r :o is hold+ ! baby mu/ be sure to pron\nce its "n di/9ctly--9 fact x is a wise precaution if x is a long or an unusual "o1 to %[ ! "n pr9t$ on a slip ( pap] to ! cl]gyman be=eh&--z m ?an "o baby has be5 giv5 a "n n int5d$ = x4 ,& :atev] "n ! cl]gyman pron\nces is fix$ = life4 ,! little ,t[n girl :o 0 to h be5 call$ ,m>ian is actually ,m>y ,ann6 ,z soon z ! c]emony is ov]1 ! godmo!r h&s ! baby back to its nurse1 :o puts on its cap & coat1 & x is !n driv5 ) all its relatives & fri5ds to ! h\se ( its p>5ts or gr&p>5ts1 :]e a lun* or an aft]noon tea has be5 arrang$4 ,,h\se ,,*ri/5+ ,unless =bidd5 by ! *ur* to :i* ! baby's p>5ts belong1 ! h\se *ri/5+ is by f> ! easi]1 saf] & pretti]4 ,easi]1 because ! baby does n h to h wraps put on & (f & be tak5 out & br\ght 92 saf]1 because x is n apt to cat* cold2 & pretti]1 = a doz5 reasons4 ,! baby 9 ! fir/ place looks mu* pretti] 9 a dress t has n be5 cru%$ by hav+ a coat put ov] x & tak5 (f & put on & (f aga94 ,9 ! second place1 a baby br\ght d[n f ! nurs]y )\t any fuss+ is g5]ally good1 :]eas "o t has be5 dress$ & undress$ & tak5 hi!r & yon is apt to be upset & !re=e to cry4 ,if x cries 9 *ur* x j has to cry6 ,9 a h\se x c be tak5 into ano!r room & be br\ght back aga9 aft] x has be5 made m com=table4 ,x is try+ to a "y "m :o is pr\d ( h] baby's looks1 to g to no end ( tr\ble to get exquisite clo!s = x1 & ask all h] fri5ds 91 & !n h x look exactly l a trag$y mask c>v$ 9 a beet6 ,& y c sc>cely expect a self-respect+ baby :o is haul$ & maul$ & tak5 to a /range place & h&$ to a /range p]son :o p\rs cold wat] on x--n to prote/4 ,& alas6 x has only "o means4 ,! arrangem5ts made = a h\se *ri/5+ are some?+ l ^? made = a h\se w$d+--only mu* simpl]4 ,! draw+-room or :]ev] ! c]emony is to be p]=m$ is (t5 decorat$ ) pots ( pale p9k roses1 or daisies1 or bran*es ( dogwood or :ite lilacs4 ,no?+ is pretti] ?an ! blossoms ( fruit trees 7if !y c be p]suad$ to keep _! petals on7 or any o!r spr+ fl[]s4 ,9 summ] !re are all ! g>d5 fl[]s4 ,9 autumn1 cosmos & :ite *rysan!mums1 or at any season1 baby's brea? & roses4 ,! font is always a b[l--( silv] usually--put on a small high table4 ,a :ite napk9 on ! table inevitably sugge/s a re/aurant r ?an a ritual & is !re=e un=tunate1 & mo/ p ( ta/e pref] to h ! table cov]$ ) old *ur* brocade & an arrangem5t ( fl[]s ei!r /&+ beh9d or laid ^u x s t ! /ems are t[>d ! c5t] & cov]$ by ! base ( ! b[l4 ,if ! cl]gyman is to we> ve/m5ts1 a room mu/ be put at 8 disposal4 ,at ! h\r set = ! c]emony1 ! cl]gyman ent]s ! room fir/ & takes 8 place at ! font4 ,! gue/s naturally make way1 =m+ an op5 aisle4 ,if n1 ! baby's fa!r or ano!r memb] ( ! family cle>s an aisle4 ,! godmo!r c>ries ! baby & foll[s ! cl]gyman2 ! o!r two godp>5ts walk beh9d h]1 & all ?ree /& ne> ! font4 ,at ! prop] mom5t ! cl]gyman takes ! baby1 baptizes x & h&s x back to ! godmo!r1 :o holds x until ! c]emony is ov]4 ,,! ,,*ri/5+ ,,dress ,! *ri/5+ dress is always especially elaborate & beautiful4 ,(t5 x is "o t 0 worn by ! baby's "m1 fa!r1 or ev5 its gr& or great-gr&p>5t4 ,baby clo!s %\ld be z %e] z possible & z s(t4 ,! ideal dress is ( mull ) mu* or little val5ci5nes lace 7real7 & f9e/ h& embroid]y4 ,b h[ev] mu* or little its trimm+1 x mu/ be exquisite 9 texture4 ,9 fact1 ev]y?+ = a baby ought to be h&-made4 ,x c be z pla9 z a *>ity g>m5t1 b ( f9e mat]ial & t9y h& /it*es4 ,if ! baby is v little1 x is usually laid on a lace trimm$ pill[4 7,?is lace1 too1 mu/ be val5ci5nes47 ,! godmo!r or godmo!rs %\ld we> ! sort ( clo!s t !y w\ld we> at an aft]noon tea4 ,! godfa!r or fa!rs %\ld we> =mal aft]noon clo!s4 ,! o!r gue/s we> ord9>y aft]noon clo!s & ! "m--unless on ! s(a--we>s a light-color$ aft]noon dress4 ,%e %\ld n we> black on ?is occasion4 ,z soon z ! c]emony is p]=m$1 ! cl]gyman goes to ! room t 0 set ap>t = him1 *anges into 8 ord9>y clo!s & !n returns to ! draw+-room to be "o ( ! gue/s at lun*eon or tea4 ,! godmo!r h&s ! baby to ! nurse1 or maybe to its "m1 & ev]yone ga!rs ar\nd to admire x4 ,& ! p>ty becomes exactly l e in=mal aft]noon tea4 ,! only diff]5ce betwe5 an ord9>y in=mal tea & a *ri/5+ is t a feature ( ! latt] is a *ri/5+ cake & caudle4 ,! *ri/5+ cake is g5]ally a :ite lady cake elaborately ic$1 sometimes ) ! baby's initials1 & g>l&s ( p9k sug> roses4 ,& al?\gh accord+ to cook-books caudle is a gruel1 ! actual caudle inv>iably s]v$ at *ri/5+s is a hot eggnog1 drunk out ( little pun* cups4 ,"o is suppos$ to eat ! cake z a sign t "o p>takes ( ! baby's hospitality1 & is !re=e its fri5d1 & to dr9k ! caudle to its heal? & prosp]ity4 ,b by ?is "t ! "y ho/ 7or ho/ess7 is peacefully asleep 9 ! nurs]y4 ,,*apt] ,,xxiv ,,fun]als ,at no "t does solemnity s possess our s\ls z :5 we /& des]t$ at ! br9k ( d>kness into :i* our lov$ "o has gone4 ,& ! la/ place 9 ! _w :]e we w\ld look = com=t at su* a "t is 9 ! seem+ artificiality ( etiquette2 yet x is 9 ! mom5t ( deepe/ sorr[ t etiquette p]=ms its mo/ vital & real s]vice4 ,all set rules = social obs]vance h = _! object ! smoo?+ ( p]sonal contacts1 & 9 no?+ is smoo?ness s necess>y z 9 obs]v+ ! solemn rites accord$ our dead4 ,x is ! "t-worn s]vitor1 ,etiquette1 :o draws ! %ades1 :o muffles ! bell1 :o keeps ! h\se quiet1 :o hu%es voices & foot/eps & sudd5 noises2 :o /&s betwe5 well-mean+ & importunate outsid]s & ! retirem5t ( ! b]eav$2 :o decrees t ! la/ rites %all be p]=m$ smoo?ly & ) beauty & gravity1 s t ! poignancy ( grief may 9 s f> z possible be assuag$4 ,,fir/ ,,details ,z soon z dea? occurs1 "s "o 7! tra9$ nurse usually7 draws ! bl9ds 9 ! sick-room & tells a s]vant to draw all ! bl9ds ( ! h\se4 ,if !y are n already pres5t1 ! fir/ act ( "s "o at ! b$side is to telephone or telegraph ! imm$iate memb]s ( ! family1 ! cl]gyman & ! sexton ( ! *ur* to :i* ! family belong1 & possibly "o or two close/ fri5ds1 ^: compet5ce & sympa?y c be c\nt$ on--z !re are _m ?+s :i* mu/ be done = ! /rick5 family z well z = ! deceas$4 7,! sexton ( ne>ly e ,prote/ant *ur* is also und]tak]4 ,if he is n1 !n an outside fun]al director is s5t =47 ,if ! illness has be5 a long "o1 x may be t ! family has become atta*$ to ! tra9$ nurse & no "o is bett] fitt$ ?an %e to turn h] m9i/rations f ! "o :om %e c no long] help1 to ^? :o h n[ v real ne$ ( j su* c>e z %e c give4 ,if ! dea? 0 sudd51 or ! nurse unsympa!tic or = o!r reasons unavailable1 !n a relative or a ne> fri5d ( practical sympa?y is ! ideal att5dant 9 *>ge4 ,,consid]ation ,,= ,,! ,,family ,p]sons "u ! %ock ( g5u9e affliction are n only upset m5tally b are all unbalanc$ physically4 ,no matt] h[ calm & controll$ !y seem+ly may be1 no "o c "u su* circum/ances be normal4 ,_! di/urb$ circulation makes !m cold1 _! di/ress makes !m un/rung1 sleepless4 ,p]sons !y normally l1 !y (t5 turn f4 ,no "o %\ld ev] be =c$ ^u ^? 9 grief1 & all ov]-emotional p1 no matt] h[ ne> or de>1 %\ld be b>r$ absolutely4 ,al?\gh ! k t _! fri5ds love !m & sorr[ = !m is a great solace1 ! ne>e/ afflict$ mu/ be protect$ f any "o or any?+ :i* is likely to ov]/ra9 n]ves already at ! ?reat5+ po9t1 & none h ! "r to feel hurt if !y are told !y c nei!r be ( use nor be receiv$4 ,at su* a "t1 to "s p companion%ip is a com=t1 o!rs %r9k f de>e/ fri5ds4 ,"o :o is by *oice or accid5t select$ to come 9 contact ) ^? 9 new affliction %\ld1 l a tra9$ nurse1 bani% all consci\sness ( self2 o!rwise he or %e w be or no s]vice--& s]vice is ! only gift ( value t c be (f]$4 ,,fir/ ,,aid ,,to ,,! ,,b]eav$ ,fir/ ( all1 ! ones 9 sorr[ %\ld be urg$ if possible to sit 9 a sunny room & :]e !re is an op5 fire4 ,if !y feel unequal to go+ to ! table1 a v little food %\ld be tak5 to !m on a tray4 ,a cup ( tea or c(fee or b\illon1 a little ?9 toa/1 a poa*$ egg1 milk if !y l x hot1 or milk toa/4 ,cold milk is bad = "o :o is already ov]-*ill$4 ,! cook may sugge/ some?+ t appeals usually to _! ta/e--b v little %\ld be (f]$ at a "t1 = al?\gh ! /oma* may be empty1 ! palate rejects ! ?\ght ( food1 & dige/ion is nev] 9 be/ ord]4 ,x s\nds p>adoxical to say t ^? 9 sorr[ %\ld be protect$ f all contacts1 & yet t !y mu/ be con/antly ask$ ab\t arrangem5ts & giv5 little "t to rema9 utt]ly undi/urb$4 ,!y mu/ ?9k ( p !y want s5t =1 & !y mu/ decide ! details ( ! fun]al2 :5 !y w\ld l x held1 & :e!r 9 *ur* or at ! h\se1 :e!r !y want special music or fl[]s ord]$1 & :]e ! int]m5t is to be4 ,,on ,,duty ,,at ,,door ,a fri5d or a s]vant is always /ation$ 9 ! hall to op5 ! door1 receive notes & c>ds1 & to take messages4 ,9 a big h\se ! butl] 9 8 day clo!s %\ld answ] ! bell1 ) ! p>lor-maid to assi/ him1 until a footman c procure a black liv]y & take 8 or h] place4 ,a p>lor-maid or waitress at ! door %\ld we> ei!r a black or gray dress1 ) h] pla9e/ :ite apron1 coll> & cuffs4 ,,memb] ,,( ,,family ,,9 ,,*>ge ,a close fri5d or male memb] ( ! family %\ld be--if n at ! door--z ne> ! front hall z possible to see ! c\ntless p ) :om details h to be arrang$1 to admit to a memb] ( ! family anyone !y may want to see1 & to give news to1 or take messages f1 o!rs4 ,z p come to ! h\se to enquire & (f] _! s]vices1 he gives !m commissions ! occasion requires4 ,! fir/ fri5d :o hurries to ! h\se 79 answ] to ! telephone message :i* ann\nc$ ! dea?7 is ask$ to break ! news to an invalid connection ( ! family1 or he may be s5t to ! flori/ to ord] ! bell hung1 or to ! /ation to meet a *ild arriv+ f s*ool4 ,,notice ,,to ,,pap]s ,! sexton 7or o!r fun]al director7 s5ds ! notices to ! daily pap]s ann\nc+ ! dea?1 & ! "t & place ( ! fun]al4 ,! =m is g5]ally select$ by a memb] ( ! family f among ^? appe>+ 9 t day's newspap]s4 ,^! notices are paid = by ! sexton & put on 8 bill4 ,) ! exception ( ! telephone messages or telegrams to relatives & v intimate fri5ds1 no o!r notices are s5t out4 ,only ^? p]sons :o are expect$ to g to ! h\se at once h messages s5t to !m2 all o!rs are suppos$ to read ! notice 9 ! pap]s4 ,:5 ! notice reads fun]al private & nei!r place nor "t is giv51 v intimate fri5ds are suppos$ to ask = ^! details at ! h\se2 o!rs und]/& !y are n expect$4 ,,hang+ ,,! ,,bell ,z a rule ! fun]al director hangs crepe /ream]s on ! bell2 :ite ones = a *ild1 black & :ite = a "y p]son1 or black = an old] p]son4 ,?is signifies to ! pass]by t x is a h\se ( m\rn+ s t ! bell w n be rung unnecess>ily nor long4 ,if !y pref]1 ! family sometimes ord]s a flori/ to hang a bun* ( violets or o!r purple fl[]s on black ribbon /ream]s1 = a gr[n p]son2 or :ite violets1 :ite c>nations--any :ite fl[] )\t leaves--on ! black ribbon = a "y woman or man2 or :ite fl[]s on :ite gauze or ribbon = a *ild4 ,,*eck+ ,,exp5ses ,,9 ,,advance ,x is curi\s t long association ) ! sadness ( dea? seems to h depriv$ an occasional fun]al director ( all s5se ( mod]ation4 ,:e!r ! temptation ( good bus9ess gradually und]m9es 8 "*--kn[+ z he does t b]eav$ families ask no que/ions--or :e!r 8 pr(ession is m]ely devoid ( ta/e1 he w1 if n *eck$1 br+ ! mo/ ornate & exp5sive casket 9 8 e/abli%m5t3 he w p]=m e rite t 8 pr(essional +5uity = exp5diture c devise2 he w employ e att5dant he has2 he w ord] vehicles num]\s en\gh = ! cortge ( a presid5t2 he w ev51 if ?r[n 9 contact ) a bewild]$ *ief-m\rn]1 secure a pl$ge = ! erection ( an elaborate mausoleum4 ,"s "o1 !re=e1 :o has ! family's int]e/ at he>t & kn[s _! ta/e & purse1 %\ld g p]sonally to ! e/abli%m5t ( ! und]tak]1 & n only select ! c(f91 b g c>efully into ! specification ( all o!r details1 s t ev]y?+ necess>y may be arrang$ =1 & unnecess>y items omitt$4 ,?is does n imply t a family t pref]s a v elaborate fun]al %\ld n be all[$ to h "o2 b ! great majority ( p h mod]ate1 r ?an unlimit$ means1 & x is n unhe>d ( t a small e/ate is s]i\sly deplet$ by vulg>ly lavi% & entirely inappropriate fun]al exp5ses4 ,"o w\ld be a poor sort :o = ! sake ( fri5ds w\ld n will+ly endure a little tr\blesome inquiry1 r ?an witness a display ( splurge & bad ta/e & realize at ! same "t t ! fri5ds :o might h be5 protect$ w be delug$ ) bills :i* x _c b emb>rass !m to pay4 ,,honor>y ,,pallbe>]s ,! memb] ( ! family :o is 9 *>ge w ask ei!r :5 !y come to ! h\se1 or by telephone or telegraph if !y are at a di/ance1 six or eight m5 :o are close fri5ds ( ! deceas$ to be ! pallbe>]s4 ,:5 a man has be5 prom95t 9 public life1 he may h twelve or m f among 8 political or bus9ess associates z well z 8 lifelong social fri5ds4 ,ne> relatives are nev] *os51 z _! place is ) ! wom5 ( ! family4 ,= a "y woman1 h] own fri5ds or ^? ( h] family are *os54 ,x is a s]vice t may n "u any circum/ances except s]i\s ill-heal?1 be refus$4 ,! "o 9 *>ge w tell ! pallbe>]s :]e !y are to meet4 ,x us$ to be cu/om>y = !m to g to ! h\se on ! morn+ ( ! fun]al & drive to ! *ur* beh9d ! he>se1 b z ev]y?+ t5d+ to a conspicu\s procession is be+ gradually done away )1 x is (t5 pref]r$ to h !m wait 9 ! ve/ibule ( ! *ur*4 ,honor>y pallbe>]s s]ve only at *ur* fun]als2 ,!y d n c>ry ! c(f9 = ! reason t1 be+ unaccu/om$ to be>+ su* a burd51 "o ( !m might possibly /umble1 or at lea/ give an impression ( unc]ta9ty or awkw>dness t might detract f ! solemnity ( ! occasion4 ,! sexton's assi/ants are tra9$ = ?is s]vice1 s z to prev5t 9 s f> z is humanly possible a blund]+ occurr5ce4 ,,m\rn+ ,,= ,,fun]al ,among ^? :o come to ! h\se !re is sure to be a woman fri5d ( ! family ^: ta/e & me?od ( exp5diture is simil> to !irs4 ,%e looks ?r\gh ! clo!s !y h1 to see if !re is n a black dress or suit t c be us$1 & makes a li/ ( only ! necess>y articles :i* w h to be procur$4 ,all dressmak+ e/abli%m5ts give prec$5ce to m\rn+ ord]s & w fill a commission )9 tw5ty-f\r h\rs4 ,^! fir/ ?+s are made inv>iably )\t bo!r+ ! we>] ) fitt+4 ,alt]ations1 if requir$1 are made lat]4 ,or ! m\rn+ dep>tm5ts ( ! big /ores & specialty %ops are always will+ to s5d a selection on approval1 s t a *oice c be made by ! family 9 ! privacy ( _! own rooms4 ,ne>ly always acqua9tances :o are !mselves 9 m\rn+ (f] to l5d crepe veils1 toques & wraps1 s t ! g>m5ts :i* mu/ be b\ght at fir/ may be z few z possible4 ,mo/ wom5 h a pla9 black suit1 or dress1 ! trimm+ ( :i* c quickly be replac$ ) crepe by a maid or a fri5d4 ,mo/ m5 are ( /&>d size & c g to a clo?i] & buy a ready-made black suit4 ,o!rwise !y mu/ borr[1 or we> :at !y h1 z no tailor c make a suit 9 tw5ty-f\r h\rs4 ,,sitt+ ,,up ,,no ,,long] ,,cu/om>y ,unless ! deceas$ 0 a prelate or p]sonage ^: ly+-9-/ate is a public c]emony1 or unless x is ! especial wi% ( ! relatives1 ! solemn vigil ?r\gh long nights by ! side ( ! c(f9 is no long] ess5tial z a m>k ( v5]ation or love = ! dep>t$4 ,nor is ! s\lless body dress$ 9 elaborate trapp+s ( f>ewell gr&eur4 ,ev]y?+ to-day is done to avoid unnecess>y evid5ce ( ! *ange t has tak5 place4 ,9 case ( a v small fun]al ! p]son :o has pass$ away is sometimes left ly+ 9 b$ 9 night clo!s1 or on a s(a 9 a wrapp]1 ) fl[]s1 b no set pieces1 ab\t ! room1 s t an invalid or o!r s5sitive b]eft "o may say f>ewell )\t ev] see+ ! all too def9ite f9ality ( a c(f94 ,9 any ev5t ! la/ att5tions are paid 9 accordance ) ! wi% ( ^? mo/ ne>ly conc]n$4 ,,extra ,,"w ,,= ,,s]vants ,k9dness ( he>t is lat5t 9 all ( u1 & s]vants1 ev5 if !y h n be5 long ) a family1 rise to ! em]g5cy ( su* a "t z t ( a fun]al1 :i* always puts additional "w ^u !m & (t5 leaves !m to manage "u _! own initiative4 ,! h\se is always full ( p1 family & intimate fri5ds occupy all available accommodation1 b x is a r>e h\sehold :i* does n give sympa?y z g5]\sly bel[ /airs z above2 & he or %e w\ld be ?\ght v he>tless by _! companions :o did n will+ly & helpfully assume a j %>e ( ! tempor>y tax on en]gy1 "t & consid]ation4 ,,*ur* ,,fun]al ,! *ur* fun]al is ! m try+1 9 t ! family h to leave ! seclusion ( _! h\se & face a congregation4 ,on ! o!r h&1 _m :o f9d solemnity only 9 a *ur* s]vice ) ! add$ beauty ( *oir & organ1 pref] to take _! he>tr5d+ f>ewell 9 ! ,h\se ( ,god4 ,,arrang+ ,,& ,,record+ ,,fl[]s ,an h\r be=e ! "t = ! s]vice1 if ! family is ,prote/ant1 "o or two woman fri5ds g to ! *ur* to arrange ! fl[]s :i* are plac$ ab\t ! *ancel4 ,unless !y h _h unusual practise 9 su* arrangem5t !y %\ld1 if possible1 h ! assi/ance ( a flori/1 z effective gr\p+ & fa/5+ ( heavy wrea?s & sprays is apt to ov]tax ! +5uity ( novices1 no matt] h[ p]fect _! usual ta/e may be4 ,:oev] takes *>ge ( ! fl[]s mu/ be sure to collect c>efully all ! notes & c>ds4 ,!y %\ld always take extra p5cils 9 case ! po9ts break1 & write on ! outside ( ea* envelope a description ( ! fl[]s t ! c>d 0 s5t )4 ,spray ( ,ea/] lilies & palm bran*es ti$ ) :ite ribbon4 ,wrea? ( laurel leaves & g>d5ias4 ,long %eaf ( p9k roses & :ite lilacs4 ,^! descriptions w aft]w>ds help id5tify & recall ! fl[]s :5 notes ( ?anks are s5t4 ,z ! appo9t$ "t = ! fun]al draws ne>1 ! organ plays s(tly1 ! congregation gradually fills ! *ur*4 ,! fir/ pews on ei!r side ( ! c5t] aisle are left empty4 ,,! ,,processional ,at ! appo9t$ "t ! fun]al procession =ms 9 ! ve/ibule4 ,if !re is to be a *oral s]vice ! m9i/] & ! *oir ent] ! *ur* f ! re>1 & prec$e ! fun]al cortge4 ,directly aft] ! *oir & cl]gy come ! pallbe>]s1 two by two1 !n ! c(f9 cov]$ ) fl[]s & !n ! family--! *ief m\rn] comes fir/1 lean+ ^u ! arm ( h] close/ male relative4 ,usually ea* man is escort = a woman1 b two wom5 or two m5 may walk toge!r accord+ to ! division ( ! family4 ,if ! deceas$ is "o ( f\r sons :]e !re is no daught]1 ! "m & fa!r walk imm$iately beh9d ! body ( _! *ild1 foll[$ by ! two eld] sons & beh9d !m ! y\ng]1 ) ! ne>e/ woman relative4 ,if !re is a gr&mo!r1 %e walks ) ! elde/ son & ! y\ng] two foll[ toge!r4 ,if x is a family ( daught]s :o are foll[+ _! fa!r1 ! elde/ daught] may walk ) h] "m1 or ! "m may walk ) h] bro!r1 or a son-9-law4 ,al?\gh ! arrangem5t ( ! procession is ?us fix$1 ^? 9 affliction %\ld be plac$ next to ! "o ^: ne>ness may be ( mo/ com=t to !m4 ,a y\ng] *ild :o is calm & soo?+ w\ld bett] be next to 8 "m ?an an old] :o is ( m n]v\s temp]am5t4 ,at ! fun]al ( a woman1 h] husb& sometimes walks alone1 b usually ) 8 "m or 8 daught]4 ,a v few intimate fri5ds walk at ! re> ( ! family1 foll[$ by ! s]vants ( ! h\sehold4 ,at ! *ancel ! *oir take _! accu/om$ places1 ! m9i/] /&s at ! foot ( ! *ancel /eps1 ! honor>y pallbe>]s take _! places 9 ! front pews on ! left1 & ! c(f9 is set ^u a /& previ\sly plac$ !re = ! purpose4 ,! be>]s ( ! c(f9 walk quietly ar\nd to inconspicu\s /ations on a side aisle4 ,! family occupy ! front pews on ! "r1 ! re/ ( ! procession fill vacant places on ei!r side4 ,! s]vice is !n read4 ,,! ,,recessional ,^u ! conclusion ( ! s]vice1 ! procession moves out 9 ! same ord] z x came 9 except+ t ! *oir rema9 9 _! places & ! honor>y pallbe>]s g fir/4 ,outside ! *ur*1 ! c(f9 is put into ! he>se1 ! family gett+ into c>riages or motors wait+ imm$iately beh9d1 & ! fl[]s are put into a cov]$ vehicle4 7,x is v vulg> to fill op5 l&aus ) display$ floral (f]+s & p>ade ?r\gh ! /reets47 ,,few ,,g ,,to ,,! ,,burial ,if ! burial is 9 ! *ur*y>d or o!rwise )9 walk+ di/ance1 ! congregation naturally foll[s ! family to ! graveside4 ,o!rwise1 ! g5]al congregation no long] expects1 nor wi%es1 to g to ! int]m5t :i* 7except+ at a fun]al ( public importance7 is witness$ only by ! imm$iate family & ! mo/ intimate fri5ds1 :o are ask$ if !y c>e to g4 ,! long l9e ( c>riages t us$ to /& at ! *ur* ready to be fill$ ) a long file ( m]e acqua9tances is a b>b>\s ?+ ( ! pa/4 ,,h\se ,,fun]al ,_m p pref] a h\se fun]al--x is simpl]1 m private1 & obviates ! necessity = ^? 9 sorr[ to face p4 ,! ne>e/ relatives may /ay ap>t 9 an adjo9+ room or ev5 ^u ! upp] floor1 :]e !y c he> ! s]vice b rema9 9 unse5 seclusion4 ,ladies keep _! wraps on4 ,g5tlem5 we> _! ov]coats or c>ry !m on _! arms & hold _! hats 9 _! h&s4 ,,music ,to _m p !re is lack ( solemnity 9 a s]vice outside ( a *ur* & lack+ ! accompanim5t ( ! organ4 ,x is almo/ impossible to introduce or*e/ral music t does n s\nd ei!r dang]\sly sugge/ive ( ! gaiety ( ent]ta9m5t or else ?9 & flat4 ,a qu>tet or *oral s++ is beautiful & appropriate1 if available1 o!rwise !re is usually no music at a h\se fun]al4 ,,h\se ,,arrangem5t ,"s au?orities say t only ! fl[]s s5t by v close fri5ds %\ld be %[n at a h\se fun]al1 & t x is o/5tati\s to make a display4 ,b :5 p1 or societies1 h be5 k9d en\gh to s5d fl[]s1 x w\ld c]ta9ly be want+ 9 appreciation1 to say ! lea/1 to relegate _! (f]+s to ! back y>d--or :]ev] x is t ! cavil]s w\ld h !m hid6 ,9 a small h\se :]e fl[]s w\ld be ov]p[]+1 x is cu/om>y to ins]t 9 ! dea? notice3 ,x is reque/$ t no fl[]s be s5t1 or ,k9dly omit fl[]s4 ,arrangem5t = ! s]vice is usually made 9 ! draw+-room1 & ! c(f9 is plac$ 9 front ( ! mantel1 or betwe5 ! w9d[s1 b always at a di/ance f ! door1 usually on /&s br\ght by ! fun]al director1 :o also br+s en\gh camp *airs to fill ! room )\t cr[d+4 ,a fri5d1 or a memb] ( ! family1 collects ! c>ds & arranges ! fl[]s beh9d & at ! side & aga9/ ! /&s ( ! c(f94 ,if !re is to be a blanket or pall ( smilax or o!r leaves ) or )\t fl[]s1 fa/5$ to a frame1 or sew$ on ?9 mat]ial & made into a cov]+1 x is always ord]$ by ! family4 ,o!rwise1 ! wrea?s to be plac$ on ! c(f9 are *os5 f among ^? s5t by ! family4 ,,! ,,s]vice ,z fri5ds arrive1 !y are %[n to ! room :]e ! c]emony is to be held1 b !y take _! own places4 ,a room mu/ be apportion$ to ! m9i/] 9 :i* to put on 8 ve/m5ts4 ,at ! h\r set = ! fun]al ! imm$iate family1 if !y feel l be+ pres5t1 take _! places 9 ! front r[ ( *airs4 ,! wom5 we> small hats or toques & long crepe veils ov] _! faces1 s t _! c\nt5ances may be hidd54 ,! m9i/] takes 8 /& at ! head ( ! c(f9 & reads ! s]vice4 ,at its conclusion ! c(f9 is c>ri$ out to ! he>se1 :i*1 foll[$ by a small numb] ( c>riages1 proce$s to ! cemet]y4 ,x is v r>e n[adays = any b a small gr\p ( relatives & intimate m5 fri5ds to g to ! cemet]y1 & x is n ?\ght unlov+ or slight+ ( ! dead = no wom5 at all to be at ! graveside4 ,if any wom5 are to be pres5t & ! int]m5t is to be 9 ! gr\nd1 "s "o %\ld ord] ! grave l9$ ) b\ghs & gre5 bran*es--to less5 ! impression ( b>e e>?4 ,,di/ant ,,c\ntry ,,fun]al ,9 ! c\ntry :]e relatives & fri5ds arrive by tra91 c>riages or motors mu/ be provid$ to convey !m to ! h\se or *ur* or cemet]y4 ,if ! cl]gyman has no conveyance ( 8 own1 he mu/ always be s5t =1 & if ! fun]al is 9 a h\se1 a room mu/ be set ap>t = him 9 :i* to *ange 8 clo!s4 ,x is unusual = a family to provide a special c>4 ,sometimes ! h\r ( ! fun]al is ann\nc$ 9 ! pap]s z tak+ place on ! arrival ( a c]ta9 tra91 b ev]yone :o att5ds is expect$ to pay 8 own railway f>e & make1 if necess>y1 8 own arrangem5ts = lun*4 ,only :5 ! c\ntry place :]e ! fun]al is held is at a di/ance f t[n & a long drive f ! railway /ation1 a light repa/ ( b\illon1 rolls & tea & s&wi*es may be spread on ! d9+-room table4 ,o!rwise refre%m5ts are nev] (f]$--except to ^? ( ! family1 ( c\rse1 :o are /ay+ 9 ! h\se4 ,,h\se ,,re/or$ ,,to ,,ord] ,:ile ! fun]al cortge is /ill at ! cemet]y1 "s "o :o is 9 *>ge at home mu/ see t ! m\rn+ emblem is tak5 (f ! bell1 t ! w9d[s are op5$1 ! h\se air$ f ! excessive odor ( fl[]s1 & ! bl9ds pull$ up4 ,any furniture t has be5 displac$ %\ld be put back :]e x belongs1 & unless ! day is too hot a fire %\ld be light$ 9 ! libr>y or pr9cipal b$room to make a little m *e]ful ! sad home-com+ ( ! family4 ,x is also well to prep>e a little hot tea or bro?1 & x %\ld be br\ght !m ^u _! return )\t _! be+ ask$ if !y w\ld c>e = x4 ,^? :o are 9 great di/ress want no food1 b if x is h&$ to !m1 !y w me*anically take x1 & some?+ w>m to />t dige/ion & /imulate impair$ circulation is :at !y mo/ ne$4 ,,m\rn+ ,a g5]ation or two ago ! regulations = m\rn+ 7 def9itely prescrib$1 def9ite p]iods accord+ to ! precise degree ( relation%ip ( ! m\rn]4 ,"o's real feel+s1 :e!r ( grief or comp>ative indiff]5ce1 _h no?+ to d ) ! outw>d manife/ation "o 0 oblig$1 9 dec5cy1 to %[4 ,! t5d5cy to-day is t[>d s9c]ity4 ,p d n put on black = aunts1 uncles & c\s9s unless !re is a deep tie ( affection z well z ( blood4 ,_m p]sons to-day d n believe 9 go+ into m\rn+ at all4 ,!re are "s :o believe1 z d ! races ( ! ,ea/1 t great love %\ld be express$ 9 rejoic+ 9 ! re-bir? ( a belov$ _s in/ead ( selfi%ly m\rn+ _! own e>?ly loss4 ,b _m :o object to manife/ations ( grief1 f9d !mselves impell$ to we> m\rn+ :5 _! sorr[ comes & ! numb] ( ^? :o d n put on black is /ill comp>atively small4 ,,protection ,,( ,,m\rn+ ,if y see acqua9tances ( y\rs 9 deepe/ m\rn+1 x does n occur to y to g up to !m & babble trivial topics or ask !m to a dance or d9n]4 ,if y pass close to !m1 irresi/ible sympa?y compels y m]ely to /op & press _! h& & pass on4 ,a wid[1 or "m1 9 ! newness ( h] long veil1 has h] h>d pa? made z little difficult z possible by ev]yone ) :om %e comes 9 contact1 no matt] on :at err& %e may be b5t4 ,a cl]k 9 a /ore w try to wait on h] z quickly & z att5tively z possible4 ,acqua9tances avoid /opp+ h] ) long conv]sation t c\ld n b torture & di/ress h]4 ,%e meets small k9dnesses at e turn1 :i* save unnecess>y j>s to sup]s5sitive n]ves4 ,once 9 a great :ile1 a tactless p]son may h no bett] s5se ?an to ask h] abruptly = :om %e is 9 m\rn+6 ,su* p w\ld n hesitate to walk ov] ! graves 9 a cemet]y6 ,& =tunately1 su* enc\nt]s are few4 ,s9ce _m p1 h[ev]1 dislike long m\rn+ veils & all crepe g5]ally1 x is absolutely correct to omit bo? if pref]r$1 & to we> an untrimm$ coat & hat ( pla9e/ black ) or )\t a veil4 ,a ,,^w ,,( ,,economy ,9 ! fir/ days ( /ress1 p sometimes give away e color$ article !y possess & n until lat] are !y aw>e ( ! ef=t necess>y1 to say no?+ ( ! exp5se1 ( gett+ an entire new w>drobe4 ,!re=e x is well to rememb]3 ,dresses & suits c be dy$ )\t ripp+4 ,any numb] ( fabrics--all wool5s1 s(t silks1 canton crepe1 georgette & *iffon1 dye p]fectly4 ,buttonholes h sometimes to be re-work$1 snaps or hooks & eyes *ang$ to black1 a bit ( trimm+ tak5 (f or cov]$ ) dull braid1 silk or crepe1 & ! clo!s look e bit z well z ?\gh newly ord]$4 ,/raw hats c be pa9t$ ) an easily appli$ /a9 sold 9 e drug & dep>tm5t /ore = ! purpose4 ,if y _c trim hats y\rself1 a mill9] c easily imitate1 or1 if necess>y1 simplify ! g5]al outl9e ( ! trimm+ z x 01 & a seam/ress c easily cov] dy$ trimm+s on dresses ) crepe or dull silk4 ,also tan %oes--ne>ly all footwe> made ( lea!r--c be dy$ black & made to look l new by any fir/ class %oemak]4 ,,m\rn+ ,,mat]ials ,lu/reless silks1 su* z crepe de *9e1 georgette1 *iffon1 grosgra91 peau de soie1 dull f9i% *>meuse & taffeta1 & all pla9 wool5 mat]ials1 are suitable = deepe/ m\rn+4 ,uncut velvet is z deep m\rn+ z crepe1 b cut velvet is n m\rn+ at all6 ,nor is sat9 or lace4 ,! only lace p]missible is a pla9 or hem/it*$ net kn[n z foot+4 ,fancy weaves 9 /ock+s are n m\rn+1 nor is bright jet or silv]4 ,a v p]plex+ decree is t clo!s entirely ( :ite are deepe/ m\rn+ b ! addition ( a black belt or hat or gloves produces second m\rn+4 ,pat5t lea!r & sat9 %oes are n m\rn+4 ,p 9 second m\rn+ we> all comb9ations ( black & :ite z well z clo!s ( gray & mauve4 ,_m ( ! laws = mat]ials seem arbitr>y1 & p int]pret !m ) great] fre$om ?an !y us$ to1 b nev] "u any circum/ances c "o :o is n entirely 9 colors we> sat9 embroid]$ 9 silv] or trimm$ ) jet & lace6 ,) ! exception ( we>+ a small /r+ ( pe>ls & a s+le r+1 especially if x is an engagem5t r+1 jewelry ) deepe/ m\rn+ is nev] 9 good ta/e4 ,,:5 ,a ,,veil ,,is ,,n ,,worn ,nor %\ld a woman ev] we> a crepe veil to ! !at] or re/aurant1 or any public place ( amusem5t4 ,on ! o!r h&1 p left long to !mselves & _! own ?\ghts gr[ easily morbid1 & ! op]a or conc]t or an int]e/+ play may ex]t a b5eficial relaxation4 ,gay re/aurants ) ?ump+ /rid5t musical accompanim5t or ent]ta9m5ts ( ! cab>et v>iety1 ne$ sc>cely be comm5t$ ^u4 ,b to g to a mat9e ) a close fri5d or relative is becom+ m & m usual--& ! picture !at]s :]e "o may sit 9 ! obscurity & be div]t$ by ! /ory on ! silv] scre5 :i*1 requir+ no m5tal ef=t1 (t5 div]ts a sad m9d = an h\r or s1 is an und5iable bless+4 ,an obs]v] w\ld h to be mu* at a loss = mat]ial :o c\ld f9d any?+ to criticise 9 see+ a family toge!r "u su* circum/ances4 ,"o g5]ally leaves (f a long veil1 h[ev]1 = su* an occasion & drives b>ehead$1 if x be ev5+1 or sub/itutes a %ort black face veil ov] "o's hat on ent]+ & leav+ a build+ 9 ! daytime4 ,,m\rn+ ,,= ,,c\ntry ,,we> ,except = *ur*1 crepe veils & clo!s heavily trimm$ ) crepe are n appropriate 9 ! c\ntry--ev]6 ,m\rn+ clo!s = ! summ] consi/ ( pla9 black s]ge or twe$1 silk or cotton mat]ial1 all black ) :ite org&y coll> & cuffs1 & a veil-less hat ) a brim4 ,or "o may dress entirely 9 dull mat]ials ( :ite4 ,a ,,wid[',s ,,m\rn+ ,a wid[ us$ nev] to we> any b wool5 mat]ials1 made z pla9 z possible1 ) deep-hemm$ turn-back cuffs & coll> ( :ite org&y4 ,on ! /reet %e wore a small crepe bonnet ) a little cap-bord] ( :ite crepe or org&y & a long veil ( crepe or nun's veil+ to ! bottom edge ( h] skirt1 ov] h] face z well z d[n h] back4 ,at ! end ( ?ree mon?s ! front veil 0 put back f ov] h] face1 b ! long veil 0 worn two ye>s at lea/1 & frequ5tly = life4 ,^! details are id5tical ) ^? prescrib$ to-day except+ t %e may we> lu/reless silks z well z wool1 ! duration ( m\rn+ may be %ort]1 & %e ne$ nev] we> h] veil ov] h] face except at ! fun]al unless %e *ooses4 ,a wid[ ( mature ye>s :o foll[s old-fa%ion$ conv5tions we>s deep m\rn+ ) crepe veil two ye>s1 black ! ?ird ye> & second m\rn+ ! f\r?4 ,b %ort] p]iods ( m\rn+ are becom+ m & m ! cu/om & _m consid] ?ree or ev5 two ye>s conv5tional4 ,,! ,,v ,,"y ,,wid[ ,! "y wid[ %\ld we> deep crepe = a ye> & !n light] m\rn+ = six mon?s & second m\rn+ = six mon?s long]4 ,!re is no?+ m utt]ly captivat+ ?an a sweet "y face "u a wid['s veil1 & x is n to be wond]$ at t h] own lonel9ess & ne$ ( sympa?y1 comb9$ ) all t is appeal+ to sympa?y 9 a man1 results 9 ! heal+ ( h] he>t4 ,%e %\ld1 h[ev]1 nev] rema9 9 m\rn+ = h] fir/ husb& aft] %e has decid$ %e c be consol$ by a second4 ,!re is no reason :y a woman 7or a man7 %\ld n f9d su* consolation1 b %e %\ld keep ! intrud+ attraction away f h] ?\ghts until ! ye> ( respect is up1 aft] :i* %e is free to put on colors & make happi] plans4 ,,m\rn+ ,,worn ,,by ,a ,,"m ,a "m :o has lo/ a gr[n *ild we>s ! same m\rn+ z t prescrib$ = a wid[ except+ ! :ite cap ru*e4 ,"s mo!rs we> m\rn+ = _! *ildr5 always1 o!rs d n believe 9 be+ long 9 black = a _s t 0 "y1 &1 = babies or v "y *ildr51 we> colorless clo!s ( :ite or gray or mauve4 ,a ,,daught] ,,or ,,si/] ,a daught] or si/] we>s a long veil ov] h] face at ! fun]al4 ,! l5g? ( ! veil may be to h] wai/ or to ! hem ( h] skirt1 & x is worn = f ?ree mon?s to a ye>1 accord+ to h] age & feel+s4 ,an old] woman we>s deep black = h] p>5ts1 si/]s & bro!rs = a ye>1 & !n light5s h] m\rn+ dur+ ! second ye>4 ,a "y girl1 if %e is out 9 society or 9 college1 may we> a long veil = h] p>5ts or h] betro!d1 if %e wants to1 or %e we>s a ?9 net veil edg$ ) crepe & ! corn]s fall+ a %ort way d[n h] back--or none at all4 ,v "y girls ( f f\rte5 to eighte5 we> black = ?ree mon?s & !n six mon?s ( black & :ite4 ,!y nev] we> veils ( any sort1 nor are _! clo!s trimm$ 9 crepe4 ,*ildr5 f eight to f\rte5 we> black & :ite & gray = six mon?s = a p>5t1 bro!r1 si/] or gr&p>5t4 ,"y *ildr5 are r>ely put into m\rn+1 ?\gh _! clo!s are (t5 select$ to avoid vivid color4 ,!y usually we> :ite ) no black except a hair ribbon = ! girls & a necktie = ! boys4 ,v little *ildr5 9 black are too pitiful4 ,,extreme ,,fa%ion ,,inappropriate ,fancy clo!s 9 m\rn+ are always (f5ses aga9/ good ta/e1 because z ! ^w implies1 a p]son is 9 m\rn+4 ,to h ! impression ( fa%ion dom9ant is contr>y to ! purpose ( somb] dress2 x is a co/ume = ! _s1 a cov]+ = ! visible body ( "o ^: s\l seeks ! backgr\nd4 ,no?+ c be 9 worse ta/e ?an crepe :i* is ga!r$ & ru*$ & puff$ & pleat$ & made into wat]falls1 & imitation o/ri* fea!rs z a g>ni%+ = a hat4 ,! m absolutely pla91 ! m appropriate & dignifi$ is ! m\rn+ dress4 ,a long veil is a %ade pull$ d[n--a protection--x %\ld nev] be a flaunt+ arrangem5t to arre/ ! amaz$ att5tion ( ! pass]by4 ,! necessity = dignity c n be ov]emphasiz$4 ,,bad ,,ta/e ,,9 ,,m\rn+ ,m\rn+ obs]vances are all matt]s ( fix$ =m1 & any deviation f precise conv5tion is int]pret$ by ! _w at l>ge z signify+ want ( prop] feel+4 ,h[ (t5 has "o he>d said ( a "y woman :o 0 p]haps m]ely ignorant ( ! effect ( h] inappropriate clo!s or unconv5tional behavior3 ,look at h]6 ,& h] de> fa!r sc>cely cold 9 8 grave6 ,or ,little %e seems to h c>$ = h] "m--& su* a lovely "o %e _h1 too4 ,su* rem>ks are z ?\ghtless z are ! actions ( ! daught]1 b !y po9t to an und5iable condition4 ,bett] f> n we> m\rn+ at all1 say+ y d n believe 9 x1 ?an all[ y\r unseemly conduct to indicate indiff]5ce to ! memory ( a really belov$ p>5t2 bett] t a "y wid[ %\ld g out 9 sc>let & yell[ on ! day aft] h] husb&'s fun]al ?an we> we$s :i* attract att5tion on acc\nt ( _! flaunt+ bad ta/e & flippancy4 ,"o may n1 "o mu/ n1 "o c n we> ! v la/ cry ( exagg]at$ fa%ion 9 crepe1 nor may "o be boi/]\s or flippant or sloppy 9 mann]1 )\t giv+ ! impression to all behold]s t "o's _s is po/ur+1 tripp+1 or danc+ on ! grave ( sacr$ memory4 ,?is may seem exagg]at$1 b if y exam9e ! expressions1 y w f9d t !y are ess5tially true4 ,draw ! picture = y\rself3 ,a slim figure1 if y l1 held 9 ! po/ure ( ! cat]pill> sl\*1 a long l5g? ( /ock+ s ?9 z to give ! effect ( %ad$ sk9 above high-heel$ slipp]s ) sp>kl+ buckles ( bright jet1 a %ort skirt1 a scrappy1 ?91 l[-neck$1 %ort-sleev$ bl\se ?r\gh :i* :ite und]clo?+ %[s v>i\s edg+s ( lace & ribbons1 & on top ( ?is1 a pa9t$ face "u a long crepe veil6 ,yet ! we>] ( ?is co/ume may 9 no?+ b appe>ance resemble ! unm5tionable class ( wom5 %e sugge/s2 z a matt] ( fact %e is v likely a p]fectly dec5t "y p]son & really sad at he>t1 & h] clo!s & make up n diff]5t f c\ntless o!rs :o pass unnotic$ because _! color$ clo?+ sugge/s no mock]y ( solemnity4 ,,m\rn+ ,,we> ,,= ,,m5 ,! necessity ( bus9ess & affairs :i* has made )drawal into seclusion impossible1 has also made x cu/om>y = ! majority ( m5 to g into m\rn+ by ! simple exp$i5t ( putt+ a black b& on _! hat or on ! left sleeve ( _! usual clo!s & we>+ only :ite in/ead ( color$ l954 ,a man nev] "u any circum/ances we>s crepe4 ,! b& on 8 hat is ( v f9e clo? & v>ies 9 wid? accord+ to ! degree ( m\rn+ f two & a half in*es to )9 half an in* ( ! top ( a high hat4 ,on o!r hats ! wid? is fix$ at ab\t two & a half or ?ree in*es4 ,! sleeve b&1 f ?ree & a half to f\r & a half in*es 9 wid?1 is ( dull broadclo? on ov]coats or w9t] clo?+1 & ( s]ge on summ] clo!s4 ,! sleeve b& ( m\rn+ is s5sible = _m reasons1 ! fir/ be+ t ( economy4 ,m5's clo!s d n come successfully f ! enc\nt] ) dye vats1 nor l5d !mselves to alt]ations1 & an entire new w>drobe is an unw>rant$ burd5 to mo/4 ,except = ! "o black suit b\ght = ! fun]al & kept = ,sunday *ur*1 or o!r special occasion1 only weal?y m5 or wid[]s g to ! v consid]able exp5se ( gett+ a new w>drobe4 ,wid[]s--especially if !y are eld]ly--always g into black 7:i* includes v d>k gray mixtures7 ) a deep black b& on ! hat1 & ( c\rse1 black ties & socks & %oes & gloves4 ,,conv5tions ,,( ,,m\rn+ ,,= ,,m5 ,al?\gh ! etiquette is less exact+1 ! /&>ds ( social obs]vance are mu* ! same = a man z = a woman4 ,a wid[] %\ld n be se5 at any g5]al ent]ta9m5t1 su* z a dance1 or 9 a box at ! op]a1 = a ye>2 a son = six mon?s2 a bro!r = ?ree--at lea/6 ,! l5g? ( "t a fa!r /ays 9 m\rn+ = a *ild is m a matt] ( 8 own incl9ation4 ,,m\rn+ ,,liv]y ,coa*m5 & *auffeurs we> black liv]ies 9 t[n4 ,9 ! c\ntry !y we> gray or ev5 _! ord9>y :ipcord ) a black b& on ! left sleeve4 ,! h\se footman is always put into a black liv]y ) dull buttons & a black & :ite /rip$ wai/coat4 ,maids are n put into m\rn+ ) ! exception ( a lady's maid or nurse :o1 ?r\gh _m ye>s ( s]vice1 has become "o ( ! family1 & :o p]sonally desires to we> m\rn+ z ?\gh = a relative ( h] own4 ,,ackn[l$gm5t ,,( ,,sympa?y ,9 ! case ( a v prom95t p]son :]e messages ( condol5ce1 _m ( !m imp]sonal1 m\nt into ! ?\s&s1 ! s5d+ ( engrav$ c>ds to /rang]s is prop]1 su* z3 ,mr4 ,w4 ,ide ,bonds wi%es to gratefully ackn[l$ge y\r k9d expression ( sympa?y or ,s5ator & ,mrs4 ,mi*igan wi% to express _! appreciation ( ,,hw3 ,miss ,millic5t ,gild+s sympa?y 9 _! rec5t b]eavem5t ,"u no circum/ances %\ld su* c>ds be s5t to intimate fri5ds1 or to ^? :o h s5t fl[]s or writt5 p]sonal lett]s4 ,:5 "s "o ) real sympa?y 9 8 he>t has tak5 ! tr\ble to select & s5d fl[]s1 or has gone to ! h\se & (f]$ :at s]vice he might1 or has 9 a _s ( g5u9e reg>d1 writt5 a p]sonal lett]1 ! receipt ( words compos$ by a /ation] & dispat*$ by a pr(essional secret>y is exactly z ?\gh 8 out/ret*$ h& _h be5 pu%$ aside4 ,a family 9 m\rn+ is 9 retirem5t f all social activities4 ,!re is no excuse on ! score ( _! hav+ no "t4 ,also no "o expects a long lett]1 nor does any "o look = an e>ly reply4 ,a p]sonal ^w on a visit+ c>d is all any "o asks =4 ,! envelope may be address$ by "s "o else4 ,x takes b a mom5t to write ,?ank y1 or ,?ank y = all sympa?y1 or ,?ank y = y\r k9d (f]s & sympa?y4 ,or1 on a %eet ( lett] pap]3 ,?ank y1 de> ,mrs4 ,smi?1 = y\r beautiful fl[]s & y\r k9d sympa?y4 ,or3 ,y\r fl[]s 7 s beautiful6 ,?ank y = !m & = y\r lov+ message4 ,or3 ,?ank y = y\r sweet lett]4 ,i "k y meant x & ,i appreciate x4 ,_m1 _m su* notes c be writt5 9 a day4 ,if ! li/ is ov]long1 or ! "o :o receiv$ ! fl[]s & messages is 9 reality s pro/rat$ t %e 7or he7 is unable to p]=m ! task ( writ+1 !n "s memb] ( h] imm$iate family c write = h]3 ,"m 7or fa!r7 is too ill to write & asks me to ?ank y = y\r beautiful fl[]s & k9d message4 ,mo/ p f9d a sad com=t z well z pa91 9 ! read+ & reply+ to lett]s & c>ds1 b !y %\ld n sit at x too long2 x is apt to increase r ?an assuage _! grief4 ,!re=e1 no "o expects m ?an a ^w--b t ^w %\ld be seem+ly p]sonal4 ,,obligations ,,( ,,pres5ce ,,at ,,fun]als ,^u read+ ! dea? notice ( a m]e acqua9tance y may leave y\r c>d at ! h\se1 if y feel s incl9$1 or y may m]ely s5d y\r c>d4 ,^u ! dea? ( an intimate acqua9tance or fri5d y %\ld g at once to ! h\se1 write1 ,) sympa?y on y\r c>d & leave x at ! door4 ,or y %\ld write a lett] to ! family2 9 ei!r case1 y s5d fl[]s address$ to ! ne>e/ relative4 ,on ! c>d accompany+ ! fl[]s1 y write1 ,) sympa?y1 ,) deepe/ sympa?y1 or ,) he>tfelt sympa?y1 or ,) love & sympa?y4 ,if !re is a notice 9 ! pap]s reque/+ no fl[]s be s5t1 y s5d !m only if y are a v intimate fri5d4 ,or if y pref]1 s5d a few fl[]s ) a note1 imm$iately aft] ! fun]al1 to ! memb] ( ! family :o is p>ticul>ly y\r fri5d4 ,if ! notice says fun]al private y d n g unless y h receiv$ a message f ! family t y are expect$1 or unless y are su* an intimate fri5d t y "k y are expect$ )\t be+ ask$4 ,:]e a g5]al notice is publi%$ 9 ! pap]1 x is prop] & fitt+ t y %\ld %[ sympa?y by go+ to ! fun]al1 ev5 ?\gh y _h little m ?an a visit+ acqua9tance ) ! family4 ,y %\ld n leave c>ds nor g to a fun]al ( a p]son ) :om y h n 9 any way be5 associat$ or to ^: h\se y h nev] be5 ask$4 ,b x is he>tless & del9qu5t if y d n g to ! fun]al ( "o ) :om y 7 associat$ 9 bus9ess or o!r int]e/s1 or to ^: h\se y 7 (t5 invit$1 or :]e y are a fri5d ( ! imm$iate memb]s ( ! family4 ,y %\ld we> black clo!s if y h !m1 or if n1 ! d>ke/1 ! lea/ conspicu\s y possess4 ,ent] ! *ur* z quietly z possible1 & z !re are no u%]s at a fun]al1 seat y\rself :]e y approximately belong4 ,only a v intimate fri5d %\ld take a position f> up on ! c5t] aisle4 ,if y are m]ely an acqua9tance y %\ld sit inconspicu\sly 9 ! re> some:]e1 unless ! fun]al is v small & ! *ur* big1 9 :i* case y may sit on ! end seat ( ! c5t] aisle t[>d ! back4 ,,*apt] ,,xxv ,,! ,,c\ntry ,,h\se ,,& ,,its ,,hospitality ,! diff]5ce betwe5 ! great h\se ) tw5ty to fifty gue/ rooms1 all numb]$ l ! rooms 9 a hotel1 & ! h\se ( ord9>y good size ) f f\r to six gue/ rooms1 or ! f>mh\se or small cottage :i* has b "o be/ sp>e *amb]1 ) p]haps a man's room on ! gr\nd floor1 is mu* ! same z ! diff]5ce betwe5 ! elaborate w$d+ & ! simple/--"o m]ely ( degree & n ( k9d4 ,to be sure1 9 ! great h\se1 week-end gue/s (t5 include ^? :o are little m ?an acqua9tances ( ! ho/ & ho/ess1 :]eas ! visitor occupy+ ! only sp>e room is practically always an intimate fri5d4 ,except+1 !re=e1 t p :o h few visitors nev] ask any "o on _! g5]al li/1 & t ^? :o fill an enorm\s h\se "t & "t aga9 necess>ily d1 ! etiquette1 mann]s1 gue/ room appo9tm5ts & ! p :o occupy !m1 are precisely ! same4 ,popul> op9ion to ! contr>y1 a man's social position is by no means proportionate to ! size ( 8 h\se1 & ev5 ?\gh he lives 9 a bungal[1 he may h e bit z high a position 9 ! _w ( fa%ion z 8 ri* neighbor 9 8 palace--(t5 mu* bett]6 ,we all ( u "k a ,mr4 ,newgold :o w\ld give _m ( ! treasures 9 8 m>ble palace = a s+le invitation to ,mrs4 ,oldname's comp>atively little h\se1 & half ( all he possesses = ! latt]'s k1 appe>ance1 mann]1 in/9cts & position--none ( :i* he himself is likely ev] to acquire1 ?\gh 8 *ildr5 may6 ,b 9 our description ( great or m$ium or small h\ses1 we are consid]+ ^? only ^: own]s belong equally to be/ society & :]e1 ?\gh luxuries v>y f ! greate/ to ! lea/1 h\se appo9tm5ts are 9 ess5tials alike4 ,?is is a r notewor?y fact3 all p ( good position talk alike1 behave alike & live alike4 ,ill-mann]$ s]vants1 incorrect liv]ies or s]vice1 sloppily di%$ food1 c>elessness 9 any ( ! details t to well-br$ p con/itute ! dec5cies ( liv+1 are no m tol]at$ 9 ! smalle/ cottage ?an 9 ! palace4 ,b s9ce ! bigge/ h\ses are ^? :i* naturally attract mo/ att5tion1 suppose we beg9 our detail$ description ) !m4 ,,h\se ,,p>ty ,,( ,,_m ,,gue/s ,p]haps !re are t5 or p]haps !re are =ty gue/s1 b if !re 7 only two or ?ree1 & ! h\se a little in/ead ( a big "o1 ! details w\ld be precisely ! same4 ,a week-end means f ,friday aft]noon or f ,saturday lun* to ,monday morn+4 ,! usual "t *os5 = a h\se p>ty is ov] a holiday1 p>ticul>ly :]e ! holiday falls on a ,friday or ,monday1 s t ! m5 c take a ,saturday (f1 & /ay f ,friday to ,tuesday1 or ,?ursday to ,monday4 ,on :i*ev] day ! p>ty beg9s1 ev]yone arrives 9 ! neighborhood ( five o'clock1 or a day lat] at lun* "t4 ,_m come 9 _! own c>s1 ! o!rs are met at ! /ation--sometimes by ! ho/ or a son1 or1 if x is to be a "y p>ty1 by a daught]4 ,! ho/ess h]self r>ely1 if ev]1 goes to ! /ation1 n because ( indiff]5ce or disc\rtesy b because o!r gue/s com+ by motor might f9d ! h\se empty4 ,x is v rude = a ho/ess to be out :5 h] gue/s arrive4 ,ev5 "s "o :o comes s (t5 z to be entirely at home1 is apt to feel dispirit$ ^u be+ %[n into an empty h\se4 ,sometimes a gue/'s arrival unwelcom$ c n be avoid$2 if1 = in/ance1 a man invit$ = t5nis week or a football or baseball game1 arrives be=e ! game is ov] b too late to jo9 ! o!rs at ! sport4 ,:5 y\ng] p come to visit ! daught]s1 x is n necess>y t _! "m /ay at home1 s9ce ! daught]s take _! "m's place4 ,nor is x necess>y t %e receive ! m5 fri5ds ( h] son1 unless ! latt] = "s unavoidable reason1 is abs5t4 ,no ho/ess mu/ ev] fail to s5d a c> to ! /ation or boat l&+ = e "o :o is expect$4 ,if %e has n conveyances en\gh ( h] own1 %e mu/ ord] public ones & h ! f>es *>g$ to h]self4 ,,greet+ ,,( ,,! ,,ho/ ,! ho/ always goes out into ! front hall & %akes h&s ) e "o :o arrives4 ,he asks ! gue/s if !y want to be %[n to _! rooms1 &1 if n1 sees t ! g5tlem5 :o come )\t valets give _! keys to ! butl] or footman1 & t ! ladies )\t maids ( _! own give !irs to ! maid :o is on duty = ! purpose4 ,%\ld any ( !m feel du/y or o!rwise untidy !y naturally ask if !y may be %[n to _! rooms s t !y c make !mselves pres5table4 ,!y %\ld n1 h[ev]1 l+] long] ?an necess>y1 z _! ho/ess may become uneasy at _! delay4 ,ladies d n--9 fa%ionable h\ses--make _! fir/ appe>ance )\t a hat4 ,g5tlem51 ne$less to say1 leave !irs 9 ! hall :5 !y come 94 ,travel 9 ! pres5t day1 h[ev]1 :e!r 9 p>lor c> or clos$ lim\s9es1 or ev5 9 op5 c>s on macadam roads1 obviates ! necessity = an imm$iate remov+ ( travel /a9s1 s t in/ead ( seek+ _! rooms1 ! newcom]s usually g directly into ! libr>y or out on ! v]&a or :]ev] ! ho/ess is to be f\nd beh9d ! inevitable tea tray4 ,,greet+ ,,( ,,! ,,ho/ess ,z soon z h] gue/s appe> 9 ! doorway1 ! ho/ess at once rises1 goes =w>d smil+1 %akes h&s & tells !m h[ glad %e is t !y h safely come1 or h[ glad %e is to see !m1 & leads ! way to ! tea-table4 ,?is is "o ( ! occasions :5 ev]yone is always introduc$4 ,good mann]s also dem& t ! places ne>e/ ! ho/ess be vacat$ by ^? occupy+ !m1 & t ! newly arriv$ receive att5tion f ! ho/ess1 :o sees t !y are suppli$ ) tea1 s&wi*es1 cakes & :atev] ! tea-table af=ds4 ,aft] tea1 p ei!r sit ar\nd & talk1 or1 m likely n[adays1 !y play bridge4 ,ab\t an h\r be=e d9n] ! ho/ess asks h[ long e "o ne$s to dress1 & tells !m ! "t4 ,if any ne$ a %ort] "t ?an %e mu/ all[ = h]self1 %e makes sure t !y "k ! location ( _! rooms1 & goes to dress4 ,a ,,room ,,= ,,e ,,gue/ ,x is almo/ unnecess>y to say t 9 no well-appo9t$ h\se is a gue/1 except "u ?ree circum/ances1 put 9 a room ) any "o else4 ,! ?ree exceptions are3 #a4 ,a man & wife1 if ! ho/ess is sure beyond a d\bt t !y occupy simil> qu>t]s :5 at home4 #b4 ,two "y girls :o are fri5ds & h volunte]$1 because ! h\se is cr[d$1 to room toge!r 9 a room ) two b$s4 #c4 ,on an occasion su* z a w$d+1 a ball1 or an int]collegiate a?letic ev5t1 "y p don't m9d = "o night 7t is sp5t = ! great] "p up7 h[ _m are d\bl$2 & h\se room is limit$ m]ely to cot space1 s(as1 & ev5 ! billi>d table4 ,b %e w\ld be a v clumsy ho/ess1 :o1 = a week-end1 fill$ h] h\se l a s>d9e box to ! discom=t & res5tm5t ( e "o4 ,9 ! well-appo9t$ h\se1 e gue/ room has a ba? adjo9+ = itself alone1 or %>$ ) a connect+ room & us$ only by a man & wife1 two wom5 or two m54 ,a ba?room %\ld nev] 7if avoidable7 be %>$ by a woman & a man4 ,a suitable accommodation = a man & wife is a d\ble room ) ba? & a s+le room next4 ,,! ,,gue/ ,,room ,! p]fect gue/ room is n necess>ily a va/ *amb] decorat$ 9 an hi/orically correct p]iod4 ,its p]fection is ! result ( no?+ m difficult to atta9 ?an pa9/ak+ att5tion to detail1 & its possession is )9 ! rea* ( e woman :o has ! means to invite p to h] h\se 9 ! fir/ place4 ,! ideal gue/ room is nev] f\nd except 9 ! h\se ( ! ideal ho/ess1 & x is by no means idle talk to sugge/ t e ho/ess be oblig$ to sp5d tw5ty-f\r h\rs e n[ & !n 9 ea* room t is set ap>t = visitors4 ,if %e does n d ?is actually1 %e %\ld d s 9 imag9ation4 ,%e %\ld occasionally g into ! gue/ ba?room & draw ! wat] 9 e fixture1 to see !re is no /oppage & t ! hot wat] faucets are n seem+ly jokes ( ! plumb]4 ,if a man is to occupy ! ba?room1 %e mu/ see t ! hook = a razor /rop is n miss+1 & t !re is a mirror by :i* he c see to %ave bo? at night & by daylight4 ,ev5 ?\gh %e c see to p[d] h] nose1 x w\ld be saf] to make h] husb& ba! & %ave bo? a morn+ & an ev5+ 9 ea* ba?room & !n li/5 c>efully to :at he says ab\t x6 ,ev5 ?\gh %e has a p]fect h\semaid1 x is n unwise occasionally to make sure h]self t e detail has be5 att5d$ to2 t 9 e ba?room !re are pl5ty ( ba? t[els1 face t[els1 a fre%ly laund]$ wa% rag1 ba? mat1 a new cake ( unsc5t$ ba? soap 9 ! ba?tub soap rack1 & a new cake ( sc5t$ soap on ! wa%/&4 ,x is n expect$1 b x is (t5 v nice to f9d violet wat]1 ba? salts1 li/]9e1 talcum p[d]1 almond or o!r h& or sunburn lotion1 9 decorat$ bottles on ! wa%/& %elf2 b to cov] ! dress+-table 9 ! b$room ) bru%es & an array ( toilet articles is m ( a nuisance ?an a com=t4 ,a good clo!s bru% & :iskbroom are usually v acceptable1 z /rangely en\gh1 gue/s almo/ inv>iably =get !m4 ,a com=t+ adjunct to a ba?room t is giv5 to a woman is a hot wat] bottle ) a wool5 cov]1 hang+ on ! back ( ! door4 ,ev5 if ! wat] does n run suffici5tly hot1 a gue/ seldom hesitates to r+ = t1 :]eas no "o ev] likes to ask = a hot wat] bag--no matt] h[ mu* %e might long = x4 ,a small bottle ( ,pyro is also conv5i5t = "o :o br+s a curl+ lamp4 ,illu/ration3 ,,! ,,ideal ,,gue/ ,,room ,,is ,,nev] ,,f\nd ,,except ,,9 ,,! ,,h\se ,,( ,,! ,,ideal ,,ho/ess2 ,,& ,,x ,,is ,,by ,,no ,,means ,,idle ,,talk ,,to ,,sugge/ ,,t ,,e ,,ho/ess ,,be ,,oblig$ ,,to ,,sp5d ,,tw5ty-,,f\r ,,h\rs ,,e ,,n[ ,,& ,,!n ,,9 ,,ea* ,,room ,,set ,,ap>t ,,= ,,visitors4 ,page #dad4 ,9 ! b$room ! ho/ess %\ld make sure 7by sleep+ 9 x at lea/ once7 t ! b$ is com=table1 t ! %eets are long en\gh to tuck 91 t !re are en\gh pill[s = "o :o sleeps ) head high4 ,!re mu/ also be pl5ty ( cov]s4 ,besides ! blankets !re %\ld be a wool-fill$ or an eid]d[n quilt1 9 color+ to g ) ! room4 ,!re %\ld be a night light at ! head ( ! b$4 ,n j a decorative gl[-worm effect1 b a light t is really good to lie 9 b$ & read by4 ,& always !re %\ld be books2 *os5 m to div]t ?an to engross4 ,! sort ( selection appropriate = a gue/ room might be/ comprise two or ?ree books ( ! mom5t1 a light novel1 a book ( essays1 ano!r ( %ort /ories1 & a few ( ! late/ magaz9es4 ,sp>e-room books ought to be especially *os5 = ! expect$ gue/4 ,ev5 ?\gh "o c n *oose accurately = ! ta/e ( ano!r1 "o c at lea/ guess :e!r ! visitor is likely to pref] transc5d5tal philosophy or detective /ories1 & supply ei!r accord+ly4 ,!re %\ld be a c&le & a box ( mat*es--ev5 ?\gh !re is electric light x has be5 kn[n to g out6 ,& "s p l to burn a c&le all night4 ,!re mu/ also be mat*es & a% receiv]s on ! desk & a scrap-basket beside x4 ,9 hot wea!r1 e gue/ %\ld h a palm leaf fan1 & 9 ,augu/1 ev5 ?\gh !re are scre5s1 a fly kill]4 ,9 big h\ses ) a swimm+ pool1 ba?-robes are suppli$ & (t5 ba?+ suits4 ,o!rwise dress+-g[ns are n "p ( any gue/ room equipm5t4 ,a com=table s(a is v important 7if ! room is big en\gh7 ) a s(a pill[ or two1 & ) a lightweight quilt or afghan across ! end ( x4 ,! ho/ess %\ld d h] own hair 9 ea* room to see if ! dress+-table is plac$ :]e !re is a good light ov] x1 bo? by electric & by daylight4 ,a v simple exp$i5t 9 a room :]e massive furniture & l[ w9d[s make ! daylight dress+-table difficult1 is ! ,european cu/om ( putt+ an ord9>y small table directly 9 ! w9d[ & /&+ a good siz$ mirror on x4 ,no?+ makes a m p]fect arrangem5t = a woman4 ,& ! p9cu%ion6 ,x is m ?an necess>y to see t ! p9s are usable & n ru/ to ! head4 ,!re %\ld be black ones & :ite ones1 long & %ort2 also safety p9s 9 sev]al sizes4 ,?ree or f\r ?read$ ne$les ( :ite ?read1 black1 gray & tan silk are an addition t has prov$ _m times welcome4 ,%e mu/ also exam9e ! writ+ desk to be sure t ! ink is n a crack$ pat* ( black du/ at ! bottom ( ! well1 & ! p5s solid ru/ & ! writ+ pap] textures & sizes at odds ) ! envelopes4 ,!re %\ld be a fre% blott] & a few /amps4 ,also ?\ghtful ho/esses put a c>d 9 "s conv5i5t place1 giv+ ! po/ (fice s*$ule & say+ :]e ! mail bag c be f\nd4 ,& a cal5d>1 & a clock t goes6 is !re any?+ m typical ( ! av]age sp>e room ?an ! clock t is at a /&/ill8 ,!re mu/ be pl5ty ( clo!s hang]s 9 ! closets4 ,= wom5 a few hat /&s1 & = m5 tr\s] hang]s & ! coat hang]s t h a b> across ! %\ld] piece4 ,x is unnecess>y to add t e bureau draw] %\ld be look$ into to see t no?+ belong+ to ! family is fill+ ! space :i* %\ld belong to ! gue/1 & t ! :ite pap] l9+ ! bottom is new4 ,curta9s & s(a pill[s mu/1 ( c\rse1 be fre%ly laund]$2 ! furniture1 floor1 walls & ceil+ unm>r$ & 9 p]fect ord]4 ,:5 bells are be+ in/all$ 9 new h\ses !y %\ld be on cords & hung at ! side ( ! b$4 ,light swit*es %\ld be plac$ at ! side ( ! door go+ into ! room & ba?room4 ,x is sc>cely practical to *ange ! wir+ 9 old h\ses2 b x c at lea/ be se5 t ! bells "w4 ,p :o l /rong p]fumes (t5 mi/ak5ly ?9k !y are giv+ pleasure 9 fill+ all ! b$room draw]s ) pads heavily sc5t$4 ,in/ead ( feel+ pleasure1 "s p are made almo/ sick6 ,b all p 7hay-fev] pati5ts except$7 love fl[]s1 & vases ( !m beautify rooms z no?+ else c4 ,ev5 a %abby little room1 if du/lessly clean & fill$ ) fl[]s1 loses all effect ( %abb9ess & is invit+ in/ead4 ,9 a hunt+ c\ntry1 !re %\ld be a bootjack & boo?ooks 9 ! closet4 ,gue/ rooms %\ld h %utt]s & d>k %ades = ^? :o l to keep ! morn+ sun out4 ,! rooms %\ld also1 if possible1 be away f ! kit*5 end ( ! h\se & ! nurs]y4 ,a %ortcom+ 9 _m h\ses is ! lack ( a newspap]1 & ! ?\ghtful ho/ess :o has ! morn+ pap] s5t up ) ea* breakfa/ tray1 or has "o put at ea* place on ! breakfa/ table1 des]ves a halo4 ,at night a glass & a !rmos pit*] ( wat] %\ld be plac$ by ! b$4 ,9 a few v specially appo9t$ h\ses1 a small glass-cov]$ tray ( food is also put on ! b$ table1 fruit or milk & s&wi*es1 or :atev] is m>k$ on ! gue/ c>d4 ,,! ,,gue/ ,,c>d ,a clev] device 0 inv5t$ by ,mrs4 ,gild+ ^: palatially appo9t$ h\se is run ) ! mo/ pa9/ak+ att5tion to e "o's com=t4 ,on ! dress+-table 9 ea* sp>e room at ,gold5 ,hall is a c>d pad ) a p5cil atta*$ to x4 ,b if ! gue/ c>d is us$1 a specim5 is giv5 bel[4 ,ne$less to say ! c>ds are us$ only 9 huge h\ses t1 because ( _! size1 are necess>ily run m l a clubh\se ?an z a home4 ,9 e h\se1 ! que/ions bel[ are ask$ by ! ho/ess1 ?\gh ! gue/s may n readily p]ceive ! fact4 ,at b$time %e always asks3 ,w\ld y l to come d[n to breakfa/1 or w y h x 9 y\r room8 ,if ! gue/ says1 9 h] room1 %e is !n ask$ :at %e w\ld l to eat4 ,%e is also ask$ :e!r %e c>es = milk or fruit or o!r light refre%m5t at b$time1 & if !re is a special book %e w\ld l to take up to h] room4 ,! gue/ c>d m5tion$ above is z foll[s3 ,,please ,,fill ,,?is ,,out ,,be=e ,,go+ ,,d[n ,,to ,,d9n]3 ,:at "t d y want to be awak5$8 44444444444444444444444 ,or1 w y r+8 4444444444444444444444444444444444444444 44 ,w y breakfa/ up-/airs8 44444444444444444444444444444444 ,or d[n8 4444444444444444444444444444444444444444 444444444444 ,,und]score ,,y\r ,,ord]3 ,c(fee1 tea1 *ocolate1 milk1 ,oatmeal1 hom9y1 %r$d$ :eat1 ,eggs1 h[ cook$8 ,rolls1 muff9s1 toa/1 ,orange1 pe>1 grapes1 melon4 ,,at ,,b$time ,,w ,,y ,,take ,hot or cold milk1 cocoa1 orangeade1 ,s&wi*es1 meat1 lettuce1 jam1 ,cake1 crack]s1 ,oranges1 apples1 pe>s1 grapes4 ,besides ?is li/1 !re is a catalogue ( ! libr>y ) a c>d1 clipp$ to ! cov]1 say+3 ,foll[+ books = room ,no4 ,x4 ,!n f\r or six blank l9es & a place = ! gue/'s signature4 ,,at ,,! ,,d9n] ,,h\r ,e "o goes d[n to d9n] z promptly z possible & ! proc$ure is exactly t ( all d9n]s4 ,if x is a big p>ty1 ! g5tlem5 (f] _! arms to ! ladies ! ho/ or ho/ess has designat$4 ,at ! end ( ! ev5+1 x is ! cu/om t ! ho/ess sugge/ go+ up-/airs1 r ?an ! gue/s :o ord9>ily dep>t aft] d9n]4 ,b etiquette is n v /rictly foll[$ 9 ?is1 & a reasonable "t aft] d9n]1 if any "o is especially tir$ he or %e q frankly says3 ,i wond] if y w\ld m9d v mu* if ,i w5t to b$8 ,! ho/ess always answ]s3 ,:y1 no1 c]ta9ly n6 ,i hope y w f9d ev]y?+ 9 y\r room6 ,if n1 w y r+8 ,x is n cu/om>y = ! ho/ess to g up-/airs ) a gue/1 s long z o!rs rema9 9 h] draw+-room4 ,if !re is only "o lady1 or a "y girl1 ! ho/ess accompanies h] to h] room1 & asks if ev]y?+ has be5 ?\ght ( = h] com=t4 ,,h[ ,,gue/s ,,are ,,ask$ ,,& ,,receiv$ ,_m old] ladies adh]e to =m] practise & always write p]sonal notes ( invitation4 ,all o!rs write or telegraph to p at a di/ance1 & s5d telephone messages to ^? ne>by4 ,:5 a h\se is to be fill$ ) fri5ds ( daught]s or sons ( ! h\se1 ! "y p 9 ! habit ( com+ to ! h\se1 or "y m51 :e!r mak+ a fir/ visit or n1 d n ne$ any invitation fur!r ?an "o giv5 !m v]bally by a daught]1 or ev5 a son4 ,b a m>ri$ c\ple1 or a "y girl invit$ = ! fir/ "t1 %\ld h ! v]bal invitation ( daught] or son second$ by a note or at lea/ a telephone message s5t by ! "m h]self4 ,e "o is always ask$ = a specifi$ "t4 ,ev5 a ne> relative comes def9itely = a week1 or a mon?1 or :atev] p]iod is select$4 ,?is is because o!r plans h to be made by ! own]s ( ! h\se1 su* z invit+ ano!r gr\p ( gue/s1 or prep>+ to g away !mselves4 ,,:o ,,are ,,ask$ ,,on ,,h\se ,,p>ties ,except+ :5 /rang]s br+ influ5tial lett]s ( introduction1 or :5 a relative or v intimate fri5d rec5tly m>ri$ is invit$ ) h] new husb& or 8 bride1 only v l>ge & g5]al h\se p>ties include any "o :o is n an intimate fri5d4 ,at lea/ sev5ty p] c5t ( ,am]ican h\se p>ties are "y p1 ei!r s+le or n long m>ri$1 &1 9 any ev5t1 all ^? ask$ to any "o p>ty--unless ! ho/ess is a failure 7or a g5ius7--belong to ! same social gr\p4 ,p]haps a m broad-m9d$ attitude prevails among "y p 9 o!r p>ts ( ! c\ntry1 b wilfully n>r[-m9d$ ,miss ,"y ,new ,york is v *>y ( accept+ an invitation until %e f9ds out :o among h] p>ticul> fri5ds are also invit$4 ,if ,mrs4 ,/rang] asks h] = a week-end1 no matt] h[ mu* %e may l ,mrs4 ,/rang] p]sonally1 %e at once telephones two or ?ree ( h] own gr\p4 ,if "s ( !m are go+1 %e accepts ) pleasure1 b if n1 ! *ances are %e regrets4 ,if1 on ! o!r h&1 %e is ask$ by ! ,gild+s1 %e accepts at once4 ,n m]ely because ,gold5 ,hall is ! ultimate 9 luxury1 b because ,mrs4 ,gild+ has a gift = ent]ta9+1 includ+ h] selection ( p1 am\nt+ to g5ius4 ,on ! o!r h&1 ,miss ,"y ,new ,york w\ld accept ) equal alacrity ! invitation ( ! ,jack ,littleh\ses1 :]e !re is no luxury at all4 ,"h 9 fact1 a gue/ is q z likely z n to be press$ into s]vice z auxili>y nurse1 g>d5] or *auffeur4 ,b ! p]sonality ( ! ho/ & ho/ess is su* t !re is sc>cely a day 9 ! week :5 ! motors ( ! mo/ popul> ( ! y\ng] set are n p>k$ at ! ,littleh\se door4 ,,p ,,we ,,love ,,to ,,/ay ,,) ,we enjoy /ay+ ) c]ta9 p usually = "o ( two reasons4 ,fir/1 because !y h wond]ful1 luxuri\s h\ses1 fill$ ) amus+ p2 & visit+ !m is a p]iod cramm$ ) cont9u\s & delightful exp]i5ce1 ev5 ?\gh su* a visit has little t sugge/s any p]sonal int]c\rse or fri5d%ip ) "o's ho/ess4 ,! o!r reason we love to visit a c]ta9 h\se is1 on ! contr>y1 entirely p]sonal to ! ho/ or ho/ess4 ,we love ! h\se because we love its own]4 ,n[h]e d we feel s mu* at home1 & ?\gh x may h none ( ! impos+ magnific5ce ( ! great h\se1 x is (t5 f> m *>m+4 ,five flunkeys c n d m t[>ds a gue/'s com=t ?an to take 8 hat & /ick & to %[ him ! way to ! draw+-room4 ,a v sm>t "y ,new ,york] :o is also some?+ ( a wag1 says t :5 go+ to a v magnific5t h\se1 he always tries to we> suffici5t articles s t he %all h "o to be/[ ^u ea* footman4 ,"s "o saw him1 ^u ent]+ a palace t is a c\nt]p>t ( ! ,worldlys1' q solemnly h& 8 hat to ! fir/ footman1 8 /ick to ! second1 8 coat to ! ?ird1 8 muffl] to ! f\r?1 8 gloves to ! fif?1 & 8 "n to ! six?1 z he ent]$ ! draw+-room4 ,ne$less to say he did ?is z a matt] ( pure amusem5t to himself4 ,( c\rse six m5 s]vants1 or m1 d add to ! impressiv5ess ( a h\se t is a palace & are a fitt+ "p ( ! picture4 ,& yet a neat maid s]vant at ! door c dive/ a gue/ ( 8 hat & coat1 & lead ! way to ! sitt+-room1 ) equal facility4 ,hav+ sev]al times m5tion$ ,gold5 ,hall1 ! palatial c\ntry h\se ( ! ,gild+s1 suppose we jo9 ! gue/s & see :at ! la/ ^w 9 luxury & lavi% hospitality is4 ,gold5 ,hall is n an imag9>y place1 except 9 "n4 ,x exi/s )9 a hundr$ miles ( ,new ,york4 ,! h\se is a palace1 ! gr\nds are a p>k4 ,!re is n only a long w+ ( magnific5t gue/ rooms 9 ! h\se1 occupi$ by "y girls or important old] p1 b !re is also a gue/ annex1 a sep>ate build+ design$ & run l ! mo/ luxuri\s c\ntry club4 ,! second floor has no?+ b b$rooms1 ) ba? = ea*4 ,! ?ird floor has ba*elor rooms1 & rooms = visit+ valets4 ,visit+ maids are put 9 a sep>ate ?ird floor w+4 ,on ! gr\nd floor !re is a small breakfa/ room2 a l>ge liv+-room fill$ ) books1 magaz9es1 a billi>d & pool table2 beyond ! liv+-room is a fully equipp$ gymnasium2 & beyond t a huge1 :ite m>ble1 glass-wall$ natatorium4 ,! swimm+ pool is fifty feet by "o hundr$2 on ?ree sides is j a n>r[ %elf-l walkway1 b ! f\r? is wide & is furni%$ z a room ) l\ng+ *airs uphol/]$ 9 :ite oilclo?4 ,op5+ out ( ?is are p]fectly equipp$ ,turki% & ,russian ba?s 9 *>ge ( ! be/ ,sw$i% masseur & masseuse procurable4 ,9 ! same build+ are two squa% c\rts1 a racquet c\rt1 a c\rt t5nis c\rt1 & a b[l+ alley4 ,b ! feature ( ! gue/ build+ is a glass-ro($ & enclos$ rid+ r+--n big en\gh = games ( polo1 b big en\gh = practise 9 w9t]1--built along "o entire side ( x4 ,! /ables are full ( polo ponies & hunt]s1 ! g>age full ( c>s1 ! boa?\se has e sort ( boat--sailboats1 naph?a laun*es1 a motor boat & ev5 a %ell4 ,e amusem5t is op5-he>t$ly (f]$1 9 fact1 especially devis$ = ! gue/s4 ,at ! ma9 h\se !re is a ballroom ) a /age at "o end4 ,an or*e/ra plays e night4 ,new mov+ pictures are %[n & vaudeville tal5t is import$ f ,new ,york4 ,?is is ! extreme ( luxury 9 ent]ta9+4 ,z ,mrs4 ,topl(ty said at ! end ( a bewild]+ly lavi% p>ty3 ,h[ are any ( u ev] go+ to amuse any "o aft] ?is8 ,i feel l do+ my gue/ rooms up 9 mo? balls4 ,no "o1 h[ev]1 has discov]$ t invitations to ,mrs4 ,topl(ty's are any less welcome4 ,besides1 excitem5t-lov+ y\? & ex]cise-devotees 7 nev] favor$ gue/s at ! ,hudson ,manor anyway4 ,,! ,,small ,,h\se ,,( ,,p]fection ,x matt]s n 9 ! slighte/ :e!r ! gue/ room's c>pet is ,aubusson or rag1 :e!r ! furniture is antique1 or mod]n1 s long z x is pleas+ ( its k9d4 ,on ! o!r h&1 because a h\se is little is no reason t x c n be z p]fect 9 e detail--p]haps m s--z ! palace ( ! multie/ millionaire6 ,! attributes ( ! p]fect h\se c n be bett] repres5t$ ?an by ,brook ,mead[s ,f>m1 ! all-!-ye> home ( ! ,oldnames4 ,nor c any?+ bett] illu/rate its p]fection ?an an incid5t t actually took place !re4 ,a great fri5d ( ! ,oldnames1 b n a man :o w5t at all into society1 or consid]$ :e!r p _h position or n1 0 invit$ ) 8 new wife--a woman f ano!r ,/ate & ( mu* weal? & disc]nm5t--to /ay ov] a week-end at ,brook ,mead[s4 ,nev] hav+ met ! ,oldnames1 %e ask$ some?+ ab\t _! h\se & life 9 ord] to decide :at type ( clo!s to pack4 ,oh1 x's j a little f>mh\se4 ,oldname we>s a d9n] coat1 ( c\rse2 8 wife we>s--,i don't "k :at--b ,i h nev] se5 h] dress$ up a bit6 ,evid5tly pla9 p1 ?\ght 8 wife4 ,& al\d3 ,i wond] :at ev5+ dress ,i h t is high en\gh4 ,i c put 9 ! black lace day dress2 p]haps ,i _h bett] put 9 my c]ise sat9---- ,! c]ise8 ask$ h] husb&1 ,is t ! r$ y _h on ! o!r night8 ,x is mu* too h&some1 mu*6 ,i tell y1 ,mrs4 ,oldname nev] we>s a dress t y c\ld notice4 ,%e always looks l a lady1 b %e isn't a dressy sort ( p]son at all4 ,s ! bride pack$ h] pla9e/ 7t is h] *eape/7 clo!s1 b at ! la/1 %e put 9 ! c]ise4 ,:5 %e & h] husb& arriv$ at ! railroad /ation1 t at lea/ 0 primitive en\gh1 & ,mr4 ,oldname 9 mu* worn twe$s might h come f a ca/le or a cab92 c\ntry clo!s are no evid5ce4 ,b h] practis$ eye notic$ ! p]fect cut ( ! *auffeur's coat & t ! c>1 ?\gh ( an inexp5sive make1 0 "o ( ! prettie/ on ! m>ket1 & beautifully appo9t$4 ,at lea/ !y h good ta/e 9 motors & accessories1 ?\ght %e1 & 0 glad %e _h br\ght h] be/ ev5+ dress4 ,!y drove up to a l[ :ite %+l$ h\se1 at ! end ( an old-fa%ion$ brick walk bord]$ ) fl[]s4 ,! visitor notic$ t ! fl[]s 7 all ( "o color1 all 9 p]fect bloom4 ,%e knew no inexp]i5c$ g>d5] produc$ t app>5tly simple approa* to a door t has be5 *os5 z frontispiece 9 m ?an "o book on ,colonial ar*itecture4 ,! door 0 op5$ by a maid 9 a silv] gray taffeta dress1 ) org&ie coll>1 cuffs & apron1 :ite /ock+s & silv] buckles on black slipp]s1 & ! gue/ saw a qua9t hall & vi/a ( rooms t at fir/ sight might easily be ?\ght simple by an inexp]t apprais]2 b ,mrs4 ,oldname1 :o came =w>d to greet h] gue/s1 0 ! anti!sis ( ev]y?+ ! bride's husb& _h l$ h] to believe4 ,to describe ,mrs4 ,oldname z simple is ab\t z apt z to call a pe>l simple because x doesn't dazzle2 nor 0 !re an article 9 ! app>5tly simple liv+-room t w\ld be refus$ 7 x (f]$ to a museum4 ,! tea-table 0 ,*9ese ,*ipp5dale & set ) old ,spode on a lacqu]$ tray ov] a mosaic-embroid]$ l95 tea-clo?4 ,! soda biscuits & cakes 7 light z fro?1 ! tea an especial bl5d import$ by a prom95t connoisseur & giv5 e ,*ri/mas to 8 fri5ds4 ,!re 7 ?ree o!r gue/s besides ! bride & groom3 a ,unit$ ,/ates ,s5ator1 & a diplomat & 8 wife :o 7 on _! way f a po/ 9 ,europe to "o 9 ,s\? ,am]ica4 ,in/ead ( bridge !re 0 conv]sation on int]national topics until x 0 "t to dress = d9n]4 ,:5 ! bride w5t to h] room 7:i* adjo9$ t ( h] husb&7 %e f\nd h] ba? drawn1 h] clo!s laid out1 & ! dress+-table lights light$4 ,t night ! bride wore h] c]ise dress to "o ( ! sm>te/ d9n]s %e ev] w5t d[n to1 & :5 !y w5t up-/airs & %e at la/ saw h] husb& alone1 %e took him to task4 ,:y 9 ! "n ( goodness didn't y tell me ! tru? ab\t ^! p8 ,oh1 said he aba%$1 ,i told y x 0 a little h\se--x 0 y :o insi/$ on br++ t r$ dress4 ,i told y x 0 too h&some6 ,h&some6 %e cri$ 9 te>s1 ,i don't own any?+ half good en\gh to comp>e ) ! lea/ article 9 ?is h\se4 ,t 'simple' little woman z y call h] w\ld1 ,i ?9k1 almo/ make a que5 seem prov9cial6 ,& z = h] clo!s1 !y are priceless--j z ev]y?+ is 9 ?is little gem ( a h\se4 ,:y1 ! w9d[ curta9s are z f9e z ! be/ clo!s 9 my tr\sseau4 ,! two h\ses contra/$ above are two extremes1 b ea* a luxury4 ,! ,oldnames' exp5diture1 ?\gh 9 no way comp>able ) ! ,worldlys' or ! ,gild+s1' is f> beyond any purse t c be call$ mod]ate4 ,! really mod]ate purse inevitably precludes a woman f play+ an important rle z ho/ess1 = n ev5 ! greate/ magnetism & *>m c make up to spoil$ gue/s = lack ( ess5tial com=t4 ,! only exceptions are a bungal[ at ! sea%ore or a camp 9 ! woods1 :]e a confirm$ luxury-lov] is desp]ately uncom=table = ! fir/ tw5ty-f\r h\rs1 b inv>iably gets us$ to ! lack ( com=t almo/ z soon z he gets dep5d5t ^u x2 & plung+ into a lake = ba?1 or wa%+ 9 a little t9 bas91 sleep+ on p9e b\ghs )\t any %eets at all1 eat+ t9n$ foods & flapjacks on t9 plates ) t9 ut5sils1 he seems to lack no?+ :5 ! air is l *ampagne & ! company fir/ *oice4 ,,gue/ ,,room ,,s]vice ,if a visitor br+s no maid ( h] own1 ! p]sonal maid ( ! ho/ess 7if %e has "o--o!rwise ! h\semaid7 always unpacks ! bags or trunks1 lays toilet articles out on ! dress+-table & 9 ! ba?room1 puts fold$ ?+s 9 ! draw]s & hangs dresses on hang]s 9 ! closet4 ,if :5 %e unpacks %e sees t some?+ ( importance has be5 =gott51 %e tells h] mi/ress1 or1 9 ! case ( a s]vant :o has be5 long employ$1 %e kn[s :at selection to make h]self1 & supplies ! gue/ )\t ask+ ) su* articles z comb & bru% or clo!s bru%1 or ba?+ suit & ba?-robe4 ,! valet ( ! ho/ p]=ms ! same s]vice = m54 ,9 small e/abli%m5ts :]e !re is no lady's maid or valet1 ! h\semaid is always taught to unpack gue/s' belong+s & to press & hook up ladies' dresses1 & g5tlem5's clo!s are s5t to a tailor to be press$ aft] ea* we>+4 ,9 big h\ses1 breakfa/ trays = wom5 gue/s are usually c>ri$ to ! b$room floor by ! butl] 7"s butl]s delegate ?is s]vice to a footman7 & are h&$ to ! lady's maid :o takes ! tray into ! room4 ,9 small h\ses !y are c>ri$ up by ! waitress4 ,trays = m5 visitors are r>e1 b :5 ord]$ are c>ri$ up & into ! room by ! valet1 or butl]4 ,if !re are no m5 s]vants ! waitress has to c>ry up ! tray4 ,:5 a gue/ r+s = breakfa/1 ! h\semaid or ! valet goes into ! room1 op5s ! bl9ds1 & 9 cold wea!r lights ! fire1 if !re is an op5 "o 9 ! room4 ,ask+ :e!r a hot1 cool or cold ba? is pref]r$1 he goes into ! ba?room1 spreads a ba? mat on ! floor1 a big ba? t[el ov] a *air1 ) ! help ( a !rmomet] draws ! ba?1 & sometimes lays out ! visitor's clo!s4 ,z few p c>e = m ?an "o ba? a day & _m p pref] _! ba? be=e d9n] in/ead ( be=e breakfa/1 ?is (fice is (t5 p]=m$ at d9n] dress+ "t in/ead ( 9 ! morn+4 ,,tips ,! tip-roll 9 a big h\se seems to u r appall+1 b comp>$ ) ! am\nts giv5 9 a big ,engli% h\se1 ours are m]e pittances4 ,pleasant to ?9k t some?+ is less exp5sive 9 our c\ntry ?an 9 ,europe6 ,=tunately 9 ?is c\ntry1 :5 y d9e 9 a fri5d's h\se y d n tip ! butl]1 nor d y tip a footman or p>lor-maid :o takes y\r c>d to ! mi/ress ( ! h\se1 nor :5 y leave a c\ntry h\se d y h to give m ?an five doll>s to any "o :atsoev]4 ,a lady = a week-end /ay gives two or ?ree doll>s to ! lady's maid1 if %e w5t )\t h] own1 & "o or two doll>s to e "o :o wait$ on h]4 ,intimate fri5ds 9 a small h\se s5d tips to all ! s]vants--p]haps only a doll> apiece1 b no "o is =gott54 ,9 a v big h\se ?is is nev] done & only ^? are tipp$ :o h s]v$ y4 ,if y _h y\r maid ) y1 y always give h] a tip 7ab\t two doll>s7 to give ! cook 7(t5 ! second "o7 :o prep>$ h] meals & "o doll> = ! kit*5 maid :o set h] table4 ,a g5tleman sc>cely ev] rememb]s any ( ! wom5 s]vants 7to _! *agr97 except a waitress1 & tips only ! butl] & ! valet1 & sometimes ! *auffeur4 ,! lea/ he c (f] any ( ! m5-s]vants is two doll>s & ! mo/ ev] is five4 ,no woman gets z mu* z t1 = su* %ort s]vice4 ,9 a few h\ses ! tipp+ sy/em is aboli%$1 & 9 e gue/ room1 9 a conspicu\s place on ! dress+-table or ov] ! ba? tub :]e y are sure to read x1 is a sign1 say+3 ,please d n (f] tips to my s]vants4 ,_! contract is ) ?is special und]/&+1 & prop] arrangem5ts h be5 made to meet x2 y w n only create 'a situation1' b cause ! imm$iate dismissal ( any "o :o may be p]suad$ by y to break ?is rule ( ! h\se4 ,! notice is sign$ by ! ho/4 ,! arrangem5t ref]r$ to is "o :]eby e gue/ means a bonus add$ to _! wages ( s mu* p] p]son p] day = all employees4 ,?is sy/em is mu* pref]r$ by s]vants = two reasons4 ,fir/1 self-respect+ ones dislike ! demean+ effect ( a tip 7an occasional few won't take !m74 ,secondly1 !y c absolutely c\nt t s _m visitors w br+ !m precisely su* an am\nt4 ,illu/ration3 ,,9 ,,small ,,h\ses ,,breakfa/ ,,trays ,,= ,,wom5 ,,gue/s ,,are ,,c>ri$ ,,up ,,by ,,! ,,waitress4 ,page #dbf ,,breakfa/ ,,d[n/airs ,,or ,,up ,breakfa/ cu/oms are z v>i$ 9 ?is c\ntry z ! topography ( ! l&6 ,communities ( p :o h liv$ or travel$ mu* abroad1 h ne>ly all adopt$ ! ,cont95tal breakfa/ habit ( a tray 9 _! room1 especially on ,sunday morn+s4 ,9 o!r communities x is ! cu/om to g d[n to ! d9+-room = a heavy ,am]ican 7or ,engli%7 meal4 ,9 communities :]e ! latt] is ! cu/om & :]e p are us$ to assembl+ at a set h\r1 x is simple en\gh to provide a breakfa/ typical ( ! section ( ! c\ntry2 corn bread & kidney /ew & hom9y 9 ! ,s\?2 d\ghnuts & codfi% balls way d[n ,ea/2 kipp]$ h]r+1 liv] & bacon & griddle cakes else:]e4 ,b d[n/airs breakfa/ z a cont9u\s p]=mance is1 f a h\sekeep]'s po9t ( view1 a trial to say ! lea/4 ,h[ev]1 9 big h\ses1 :]e m5 refuse to eat 9 _! rooms & equally refuse to get up until !y feel l x1 a d9+-room breakfa/ is manag$ z foll[s3 ,,cont9u\s ,,breakfa/ ,,d[n/airs ,! table is set ) a place = all :o said !y 7 com+ d[n4 ,at "o end is a c(fee urn kept hot ov] a _s lamp1 milk is kept hot "u a tea cosy or 9 a d\ble pit*]1 made l a d\ble boil]4 ,on ! sidebo>d or on ! table are two or ?ree hot wat] di%es 7) or )\t _s lamps und]nea?74 ,9 "o is a c]eal1 9 ! o!r ha% or cream$ beef1 sausage1 or codfi% cakes1 or :atev] ! h\sekeep] ?9ks (1 t c /& = h\rs & /ill be edible6 ,fruit is on ! table & bread & butt] & m>malade1 & ! cook is suppos$ to make fre% tea & eggs & toa/ = ea* gue/ z he appe>s4 ,,prep>+ ,,breakfa/ ,,tray ,! advantage ( hav+ "o's gue/s *oose breakfa/ up-/airs1 is t unless !re is a sep>ate breakfa/ room1 a long delay$ breakfa/ prev5ts ! d9+-room f be+ put 9 ord] or ! lun* table set4 ,trays1 on ! o!r h&1 /& all set 9 ! pantry & int]f]e mu* less ) ! d9+-room "w4 ,! trays are ei!r ( ! pla9 :ite pantry v>iety or regul> breakfa/ ones ) fold+ legs4 ,on ea* is put a tray clo?4 ,x may be pla9 l95 hem/it*$ or scallop$1 or x may be mu* embroid]$ & h mosaic or filet lace4 ,e b$room has a set ( breakfa/ *9a to mat* x4 ,b x is f> bett] to s5d a complete set ( blue *9a to a rose-color$ room ?an a rose set t has pieces miss+4 ,no?+ looks worse ?an odd crock]y4 ,x is l unmat*$ pap] & envelopes1 or odd %oes1 or a woman's skirt & wai/ t d n meet 9 ! back4 ,!re is no?+ unusual 9 a tray set1 e *9a & dep>tm5t /ore c>ries !m1 b only 9 op5 /ock patt]ns c "o buy extra di%es or replace brok5 ones2 a fact x is well to rememb]4 ,!re is a tall c(fee pot1 hot milk pit*]1 a cream pit*] & sug> b[l1 a cup & sauc]1 two plates1 an egg cup & a cov]$ di%4 ,a c]eal is usually put 9 ! cov]$ di%1 toa/ 9 a napk9 on a plate1 or eggs & bacon 9 place ( c]eal4 ,?is ) fruit is ! mo/ elaborate tray breakfa/ ev] provid$4 ,mo/ p :o breakfa/ 9 b$ take only c(fee or tea1 an egg1 toa/ & possibly fruit4 ,,! ,,c\rte\s ,,ho/ ,( ^? elaborate c]emonials betwe5 ho/ & gue/ famili> to all read]s ( ! ,bible & all travel]s 9 ! ,ea/1 only a few fa9t traces rema9 9 our c\ntry & g5]ation4 ,x is /ill un=givable to eat a man's bread & rema9 8 enemy4 ,x is un=givable to criticize y\r ho/1 or 9 8 pres5ce to criticize 8 fri5ds4 ,x is un=givable to be rude to any "o "u y\r own ro( or "u ! ro( ( a fri5d4 ,if y mu/ qu>rel ) y\r enemy1 seek public or neutral gr\nd1 s9ce qu>rels & hospitality mu/ nev] be m+l$4 ,! ,spani>d says to 8 gue/3 ,all ,i h is y\rs4 ,x is suppos$ to be m]ely a pretty spee*--b 9 a measure x is true ( e ho/'s attitude t[>d 8 h\se gue/4 ,if y take "s "o "u y\r ro(1 he becomes "p (1 & %>] 91 y\r life & possessions4 ,y\r horse1 y\r fireside1 y\r arm*air1 y\r s]vants1 y\r "t1 y\r cu/oms1 all are 82 y\r food is 8 food1 y\r ro( 8 %elt]4 ,y give him ! be/ sp>e room1 y set be=e him ! be/ refre%m5ts y c (f]1 & y\r be/ *9a & glass4 ,8 b$ is made up ) y\r be/ company l95 & blankets4 ,y receive y\r gue/ ) a smile1 no matt] h[ inconv5i5t or tr\blesome or /ra9+ to y\r res\rces 8 visit may be1 & on no acc\nt d y let him suspect any ( ?is4 ,,keep+ ,,"o',s ,,gue/s ,,occupi$ ,9 popul> h\ses :]e visitors l to g aga9 & aga91 !re is always a happy comb9ation ( "s att5tion on ! "p ( ! ho/ & ho/ess1 & ! p]fect fre$om ( ! gue/s to occupy _! "t z !y *oose4 ,! ho/ & ! m5 /ay+ 9 ! h\se arrange among !mselves to re/ or play games or fi% or ride or %oot clay pigeons or swim1 etc4 ,! ho/ess1 unless at ! sea%ore :]e p g ba?+ 9 ! morn+1 g5]ally leaves h] gue/s to _! own devices until lun* "t1 ?\gh !y are always (f]$ :atev] div]sions ! place or neighborhood af=d4 ,!y are told !re is ba?+1 fi%+1 golf2 & if !y want to d any ( ^! ?+s1 x is arrang$ = !m4 ,b unless some?+ special1 su* z driv+ to a picnic or clambake1 has be5 plann$1 or !re is a t5nis t\rnam5t or golf mat* ( importance1 ! ho/ess makes h] fir/ appe>ance j be=e lun*eon4 ,?is is ! same z any in=mal family meal4 ,if !re are ?irty gue/s x makes no diff]5ce4 ,sometimes !re are place c>ds--especially if o!r p h be5 invit$ 9--sometimes p f9d places = !mselves4 ,aft] lun*eon some?+ is usually arrang$2 p]haps ^? :o play golf g out = _! game1 & o!rs :o d n play g to ! c\ntry club at ! h\r ! play]s are suppos$ to be com+ 91 s t !y c all h tea toge!r4 ,^? :o l motor+ p]haps g = a drive1 or to a neighbor's h\se = bridge1 or neighbors come 9 = tea4 ,!re is always bridge1 sometimes !re is danc+4 ,9 v big h\ses musicians are (t5 br\ght 9 aft] d9n]1 & danc+ & bridge alt]nate till b$time4 ,a h\seful ( "y p v easily look aft] _! own amusem5t4 ,z said be=e1 a big h\se is run v mu* l a c\ntry club1 & gue/s are suppos$ to look aft] !mselves4 ,mak+ an especial ef=t to ent]ta9 a gue/ :o is to /ay = a week or long] has gone out ( cu/om 9 ! fa%ionable _w1 except = an important p]sonage4 ,a visit f ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates = in/ance1 w\ld necessitate ! mo/ punctili\sly =mal etiquette1 no matt] h[ close a fri5d ( ! family he may always h be54 ,= su* a visitor a ho/ess w\ld ei!r arrange a s]ies ( ent]ta9m5ts or none1 accord+ to h] visitor's incl9ation4 ,a ,,gue/ ,,c ,,look ,,aft] ,,8 ,,own ,,com=t ,! mo/ try+ ?+ to p ( v set habits is an unusual breakfa/ h\r4 ,:5 y h ! un=tunate habit ( wak+ ) ! dawn1 & ! h\sehold y are visit+ has ! cu/om ( sleep+ on ,sunday morn+1 ! long wait = y\r c(fee c q actually upset y\r :ole day4 ,on ! o!r h&1 to be ar\s$ at sev5 on ! only day :5 y d n h to hurry to bus9ess1 9 ord] to yawn ?r\gh an e>ly breakfa/1 & !n sit ar\nd & kill "t1 is q z try+4 ,! gue/ ) ! e>ly habit c 9 a measure prev5t discom=t4 ,he c c>ry 9 a small case 7lock$ if necess>y7 a v small solidifi$ alcohol outfit & ei!r a small package ( tea or p[d]$ c(fee1 sug>1 p[d]$ milk1 & a few crack]s4 ,he c !n />t 8 day all by himself 9 ! b>ny>d h\rs )\t di/urb+ any "o1 & 9 com=t to himself4 ,few p c>e en\gh to fuss1 b if !y d1 ?is equipm5t ( an habitual visitor ) incurably e>ly wak+ h\rs is giv5 z a sugge/ion4 ,or p]haps ! entire gue/ situation may be put 9 "o s5t5ce4 ,if y are an inflexible p]son1 v set 9 y\r ways1 don't visit6 ,at lea/ don't visit )\t c>efully look+ ! situation ov] f e angle to be sure t ! habits ( ! h\se y are go+ to are 9 accord ) y\r own4 ,a solit>y gue/ is naturally mu* m dep5d5t on 8 ho/ 7or h] ho/ess71 b on ! o!r h&1 he or %e is practically always a v intimate fri5d :o m]ely adapts himself or h]self l a *ameleon to ! cu/oms & h\rs & div]sions ( ! h\sehold4 ,,dont',s ,,= ,,ho/ess ,:5 a gue/ asks to be call$ half an h\r be=e breakfa/1 don't h him call$ an h\r & a half be=e because x takes y t long to dress1 nor all[ him a scant t5 m9utes because ! %ort] "t is seem+ly suffici5t4 ,too (t5 ! summons on ! door wakes him out ( s\nd sleep2 he tumbles exhau/$ out ( b$1 into clo!s1 & d[n /airs1 to wait p]haps an h\r = breakfa/4 ,if a gue/ pref]s to sit on ! v]&a & read1 don't int]rupt him e half page to ask if he really does n want to d some?+ else4 ,if1 on ! o!r h&1 a gue/ wants to ex]cise1 don't d ev]y?+ 9 y\r p[] to ob/ruct 8 />t+ (f by say+ t x w surely ra91 or t x is too hot1 or t y ?9k x is s5seless to sp5d days t %\ld be a re/ to him 9 utt]ly exhau/+ himself4 ,don't1 :5 y "k t a "y man c>es little = fem99e society1 f9e-too?-comb ! neighborhood = ! dulle/ or sillie/ "y woman to be f\nd4 ,don't1 on ! o!r h&1 :5 y h an especially attractive "y woman /ay+ ) y1 ask a /olid middle-ag$ c\ple & an octog5>ian pr(essor = d9n]1 because ! *>m & beauty ( ! =m] is sure to appeal to ! latt]4 ,don't1 because y p]sonally happ5 to l a c]ta9 "y girl :o is utt]ly old-fa%ion$ 9 outlook & type f ultra mod]n o!rs :o are /ay+ ) y1 try to br+ !m toge!r4 ,nev] try to make any two p l ea* o!r4 ,if !y d1 !y d2 if !y don't1 !y don't1 & t is all !re is to x2 b x is ( vital importance to y\r own success z ho/ess to f9d out :i* is ! case & collect or sep>ate !m accord+ly4 ,,! ,,casual ,,ho/ess ,! mo/ casual ho/ess 9 ! _w is ! fa%ionable lead] 9 ,newport1 %e :o %\ld by ! rules ( good society be ! mo/ punctili\s1 s9ce no place 9 ,am]ica1 or ,europe1 is m conspicu\sly repres5tative ( luxury & fa%ion4 ,n[h]e are !re m gue/s or half s _m ho/esses1 & yet hospitality z x is und]/ood ev]y:]e else1 is practically unkn[n4 ,no "o ev] goes to /ay 9 a ,newport h\se except+ on 8 own z x 74 ,x is n an exagg]at$ /ory1 b q true1 t 9 _m h\ses ( ultra fa%ion a gue/ on arriv+ is told at :i* meals he is expect$ to appe>1 t is at d9n]s or lun*eons giv5 by 8 ho/ess4 ,at all o!rs he is free to g out or /ay 9 by himself4 ,no ef=t is assum$ = 8 amusem5t1 or responsibility = 8 well-be+4 ,x is small wond] t only ^? :o h pl5ty ( fri5ds c>e to g !re--or 9 fact1 are ev] invit$6 ,^? :o l to g to visit ! mo/ p]fectly appo9t$1 b utt]ly imp]sonal h\se1 f9d no o!r visit+ to comp>e ) its unhamp]+ delightfulness4 ,! ho/ess simply says on 8 7or h]7 arrival3 ,oh1 h[do ,fr$die 7or ,con/ance76 ,!y've put y 9 ! ,*9ese room1 ,i ?9k4 ,r+ = tea :5 y want x4 ,/ru!rs telephon$ he'd be ov] ar\nd five4 ,mrs4 ,topl(ty ask$ y to d9n] to-night & ,i accept$ = y--hope t 0 all "r4 ,if n1 y'll h to telephone & get out ( x y\rself4 ,i want y to d9n] to-morr[ night & = lun* on ,sunday4 ,sorry to leave y1 b ,i'm late = bridge n[4 ,good-by4 ,& %e is (f4 ,! ,newport ho/ess is1 ( c\rse1 an extreme type t is seldom met away f t "o small wat]+ place 9 ,rhode ,isl&4 ,,! ,,en]getic ,,ho/ess ,! en]getic ho/ess is ! anti!sis ( ! "o above1 & f> m univ]sally kn[n4 ,%e is "o :o fusses & plans cont9ually1 :o ?9ks h] gue/s are n hav+ a good "t unless %e ru%es !m1 ,cook's t\ri/ fa%ion1 f ?is engagem5t to t1 & cr[ds ) activity & div]sion--nev] m9d :at s long z x is some?+ to see or d--e mom5t ( _! /ay4 ,%e walks !m ?r\gh ! g>d5 to %[ !m all ! nooks & vi/as4 ,%e dilates ^u ! fl[]s t bloom$ "h la/ mon? & are go+ to bloom next4 ,%e insi/s ^u _! climb+ ov] rocks to a summ]h\se to see ! view2 %e insi/s on tak+ !m 9 ano!r direction to see an old mill2 &1 aga91 e "o is tr\p$ to ! cupola ( ! h\se to see ano!r view4 ,%e insi/s on e "o's play+ croquet be=e lun*1 to :i* %e ga!rs 9 a curi\sly mix$ collection ( neighbors4 ,imm$iately aft] lun* e "o is driv5 to a c\ntry club to see "s duff] golf--= "s reason !re is nev] "t 9 all ! prep>$ pleasures = any ( h] gue/s to play golf !mselves4 ,aft] tw5ty m9utes at ! golf club1 !y are all tak5 to a *ur* fair4 ,! gue/s are all introduc$ to ! ladies at ! boo? & ^? :o 7 fooli% en\gh to br+ _! purses ) !m f n[ on c>ry ar\nd an odd assortm5t ( fancy "w4 ,!re is ano!r ent]ta9m5t t h] gue/s mu/ n miss6 ,a fl[] pageant ( ! d>l+e/ *ildr5 f\rte5 miles away6 ,ev]yone is da%$ to t4 ,on "s "o's front lawn1 daisies & lilies & roses trip & skip--x is all sweetly pretty b ! sun is hot & ! gue/s h be5 on ! g = a great _m h\rs4 ,soon1 h[ev]1 _! ho/ess leaves4 ,home at la/6 ?9k !y4 ,n at all4 ,!y are go+ some:]e = tea & ,fr5* recitations4 ,b :y g on8 ,! portrait is fairly complete1 ?\gh ?is acc\nt cov]s only a few h\rs & !re is /ill all ! ev5+ & to-morr[ to be fill$ 9 j z lib]ally4 ,,! ,,anxi\s ,,ho/ess ,! anxi\s ho/ess does n insi/ on y\r ceaseless activity1 b %e is no less p]si/5t 9 fill+ y\r "t4 ,%e is always ask+ y :at y w\ld l to d next4 ,if y say y are q cont5t z y are1 %e nev]!less cont9ues to %[] sugge/ions4 ,%all %e play ! phonograph to y8 ,w\ld y l h] to telephone to a fri5d :o s+s too wond]fully8 ,w\ld y l to look at a portfolio ( pictures8 ,if y are a mom5t sil5t1 %e is sure y are bor$1 & wond]s :at %e c d to div]t y6 ,,! ,,p]fect ,,ho/ess ,! ideal ho/ess mu/ h s _m p]fections ( s5se & "* t 7 %e describ$ 9 full1 no "o seem+ly b a comb9ation ( se] & angel c\ld ev] hope to qualify4 ,%e mu/ fir/ ( all consid] ! incl9ations ( h] gue/s1 %e mu/ n only make !m z com=table z ! arrangem5ts & limits ( h] e/abli%m5t p]mit1 b %e mu/ subord9ate h] own incl9ations utt]ly4 ,at ! same "t1 %e mu/ n fuss & flutt] & get agitat$ & seem+ly make ef=ts 9 _! behalf4 ,no?+ makes a gue/ m uncom=table ?an to feel 8 ho/ or ho/ess is be+ put to a great deal ( bo!r or ef=t on 8 acc\nt4 ,a p]fect ho/ess l a p]fect h\sekeep] has seem+ly no?+ :atev] to d ) h\sehold arrangem5ts :i* app>5tly run 9 oil$ grooves & ( _! own accord4 ,c]ta9 rules are easy to obs]ve once !y are br\ght to att5tion4 ,a ho/ess %\ld nev] speak ( annoyances ( any k9d--no matt] :at happ5s6 ,unless %e is actually unable to /& up1 %e %\ld n m5tion physical ills any m ?an m5tal ones4 ,%e has invit$ p to h] h\se1 & z long z !y are "u h] ro(1 hospitality dem&s t _! soj\rn %all be made z pleasant z lies 9 h] p[]4 ,if ! cook leaves1 !n a picnic mu/ be made ( ! situation z ?\gh a picnic 7 ! mo/ delightful ?+ t c\ld happ54 ,%\ld a gue/ be tak5 ill1 %e mu/ assure him t he is n giv+ ! slighte/ tr\ble2 at ! same "t no?+ t c be done = 8 com=t mu/ be ov]look$4 ,%\ld %e h]self or "s "o 9 h] family become sudd5ly ill1 %e %\ld make z light ( x z possible to h] gue/s1 ev5 ?\gh %e )draw f !m4 ,9 t ev5t %e mu/ ask a relative or intimate fri5d to come 9 & take h] place4 ,nor %\ld ! deputy ho/ess dwell to ! gue/s on ! illness1 or :atev] x is t has depriv$ !m ( _! ho/ess4 ,,! ,,gue/ ,,no ,,"o ,,invites ,,aga9 ,! gue/ no "o invites a second "t is ! "o :o runs a c> to its detrim5t1 & a horse to a la!r2 :o leaves a borr[$ t5nis racquet out 9 ! ra92 :o dog e>s ! books1 leaves a cig>ette on ! edge ( a table & burns a tr5* 9 its edge1 :o uses t[els = boot rags1 :o /&s a wet glass on poli%$ wood1 :o tracks muddy %oes into ! h\se1 & leaves 8 room look+ z ?\gh x _h be5 ?r\gh a cyclone4 ,nor are m5 ! only (f5d]s4 ,"y wom5 h be5 kn[n to commit e "o ( ^! (f5ses & ! additional "o ( br++ a pet dog t 0 n h\se tra9$4 ,besides ^! actually de/ructive %ortcom+s1 !re are evid5ces ( bad upbr++ 9 _m mod]n y\?s ^: lack ( consid]ation is sc>cely less annoy+4 ,^? :o are late = e meal2 *eeky o!rs :o invite fri5ds ( _! own to meals )\t ! mann]s or ! dec5cy to ask _! ho/ess' p]mission2 :o help !mselves to a c> & g (f & don't come back = meals at all2 & :o write no lett]s aft]w>ds1 nor ev5 take ! tr\ble to g up & speak to a =m] ho/ess :5 !y see h] aga94 ,on ! o!r h&1 a "y p]son :o is consid]ate is a delight immeasurable--su* a delight z only a ho/ess ( mu* exp]i5ce c p]haps appreciate4 ,a "y girl :o tells :]e %e is go+1 fir/ ask+ if x is all "r1 & :o f9ds h] ho/ess z soon z %e is 9 ! h\se at night to report t %e is back1 is "o :o v surely w be ask$ aga9 & (t54 ,a "y man is1 ( c\rse1 mu* fre]1 b a simil> def]5ce to ! plans ( 8 ho/ess1 & to ! h\rs & cu/oms ( ! h\se1 w result 9 repeat$ invitations = him also4 ,! lack ( ^! ?+s is n only bad =m b want ( common civility & dec5cy1 & reflects n only on ! girls & boys !mselves b on _! p>5ts :o fail$ to br+ !m up prop]ly4 ,,! ,,consid]ate ,,gue/ ,c\rtesy dem&s t y1 :5 y are a gue/1 %all %[ nei!r annoyance nor disappo9tm5t--no matt] :at happ5s4 ,be=e y c hope to become ev5 a passable gue/1 let alone a p]fect "o1 y mu/ le>n z x 7 n to notice if hot s\p is p\r$ d[n y\r back4 ,if y nei!r und]/& nor c>e = dogs or *ildr51 & bo? insi/ on climb+ all ov] y1 y mu/ seem+ly l x2 j z y mu/ be amiable & polite to y\r fell[ gue/s1 ev5 ?\gh !y be ( all ! p on e>? ! mo/ dete/able to y4 ,y mu/ ) ! v be/ dissimulation at y\r comm&1 appe> to f9d ! food delici\s ?\gh !y (f] y all ( ! vi&s t are especially di/a/eful to y\r palate1 or antagoni/ic to y\r dige/ion4 ,y mu/ disguise y\r hatr$ ( r$ ants & scrambl$ food1 if ev]yone else is b5t on a picnic4 ,y mu/ pret5d t six is a p]fect d9n] h\r ?\gh y nev] d9e be=e eight1 or1 on ! contr>y1 y mu/ wait until eight-?irty or n9e ) /oical =titude1 ?\gh y\r d9n] h\r is six & by sev5 y\r *e/ seems securely p9n$ to y\r sp9e4 ,if y g = a drive1 & x p\rs1 & !re is no top to ! c>riage or c>1 & y are soak$ to ! sk9 & *ill$ to ! m>r[ s t y\r tee? *att]1 y\r lips mu/ smile & y mu/ appe> to enjoy ! refre%+ coolness4 ,if y g to /ay 9 a small h\se 9 ! c\ntry1 & !y give y a b$ full ( lumps1 9 a room ( mosquitoes & flies1 9 a *amb] ov] t ( a cry+ baby1 "u ! eaves ) a temp]ature ( ov] a hundr$1 y c ! next morn+ walk to ! village1 & s5d y\rself a telegram & leave6 ,b ?\gh y feel />v$1 exhau/$1 wilt$1 & are mosquito bitt5 until y resemble a well-develop$ case ( *ick5pox or measles1 by n s mu* z a facial muscle mu/ y let ! family "k t y\r com=t lack$ any?+ t y\r happie/ imag9ation c\ld picture--nor mu/ y confide 9 any "o aft]w>ds 7hav+ brok5 bread 9 ! h\se7 h[ desp]ately wret*$ y 74 ,if y "k anyone :o is always 9 dem&1 n only = d9n]s1 b = trips on private c>s & ya*ts1 & long visits 9 c\ntry h\ses1 y may be v sure ( "o ?+3 ! popul> p]son is fir/ ( all unselfi% or else extremely gift$2 v (t5 bo?4 ,! p]fect gue/ n only tries to we> becom+ clo!s b tries to put on an equally becom+ m5tal attitude4 ,no "o is ev] ask$ out v mu* :o is 9 ! habit ( tell+ p all ! mis=tunes & ailm5ts %e has exp]i5c$ or witness$1 ?\gh ! p]fect gue/ li/5s ) app>5t sympa?y to e "o else's4 ,ano!r attribute ( ! p]fect gue/ is nev] to keep p wait+4 ,%e is always ready = any?+--or no?+4 ,if a plan is made to picnic1 %e likes picnics above ev]y?+ & proves h] lik+ by en?usia/ically mak+ ! s&wi*es or ! salad dress+ or :atev] %e ?9ks %e makes be/4 ,if1 on ! o!r h&1 no "o seems to want to d any?+1 ! p]fect gue/ has always a book %e is absorb$ 91 or a piece ( sew+ %e is engross$ )1 or else beyond ev]y?+ %e w\ld love to sit 9 an easy *air & d no?+4 ,%e nev] = "o mom5t ?9ks ( h]self1 b ( ! o!r p %e is ?r[n )4 ,%e is a p]son ( sympa?y always1 & in/antane\s disc]nm5t4 ,%e is good temp]$ no matt] :at happ5s1 & makes ! mo/ ( ev]y?+ z x comes4 ,at games %e is a good los]1 & a quiet w9n]4 ,%e has a pleasant ^w1 an amus+ /ory1 & agreeable comm5t = mo/ occasions1 b %e is nei!r gu%+ nor fulsome4 ,%e has m]ely acquir$ a habit1 born ( _m ye>s ( ardu\s practise1 ( turn+ ev]y?+ t looks l a d>k cl\d z quickly z possible = ! glimm] ( a silv] l9+4 ,%e is z sympa!tic to *ildr5 z to old] p2 %e cuts out wond]ful pap] dolls & soldi] hats1 always leisurely & easily z ?\gh x co/ nei!r "t nor ef=t4 ,%e kn[s a hundr$ /ories or games1 e baby & e dog goes to h] on sight1 n because %e has any especial tal5t1 except t "o %e has cultivat$1 ! tal5t ( int]e/ 9 ev]yone & ev]y?+ except h]self4 ,few p "k t !re is su* a tal5t or t x c be cultivat$4 ,%e has m ?an m]e beauty2 %e has inf9ite *>m1 & %e is s well born t %e is *>m+ to ev]yone4 ,h] mann] to a duke :o happ5s to be /ay+ 9 ! h\se is n a bit m c\rte\s ?an h] mann] to ! kit*5-maid :om %e *ances to meet 9 ! kit*5 g>d5s :i!r %e has gone ) ! *ildr5 to see ! new kitt5s2 z ?\gh new kitt5s 7 ! apex ( all delectability6 ,%e always calls ! s]vants by "n2 always says ,h[ d y d :5 %e arrives1 ,good morn+ :ile !re1 & ,good-by :5 %e leaves4 ,& d !y presume because ( h] famili>ity :5 %e rememb]s to ask aft] ! p>lor-maid's "m & ! butl]'s baby8 ,!y wait on h] z !y wait on no "o else :o comes to ! h\se--nei!r ! ,s5ator nor ! ,gov]nor1 nor 8 ,grace ( ,ov]!re6 ,?is ideal gue/ is an equally ideal ho/ess2 ! pr9ciple ( bo? is ! same4 ,a ready smile1 a quick sympa?y1 a happy outlook1 consid]ation = o!rs1 t5d]ness t[>d ev]y?+ t is "y or helpless1 & =getfulness ( self1 :i* is n f> f ! ideal ( womank9d4 ,,! ,,gue/ ,,on ,a ,,private ,,c> ,,or ,,ya*t ,! sole diff]5ce betwe5 be+ a gue/ at a c\ntry h\se & a gue/ on a private c> or a ya*t1 is t y put to a v sev]e te/ t\r adaptability z a travel]4 ,y live 9 v close qu>t]s ) y\r ho/ & ho/ess & fell[ gue/s1 & mu/ !re=e be p>ticul>ly on y\r gu>d aga9/ be+ selfi% or out ( humor4 ,if y are on %ore & don't feel well1 y c /ay home2 b (f on a cruise1 if y are ill y h to make ! be/ ( x1 & a sea-sick p]son's be/ is v bad inde$6 ,!re=e let x be hop$ y are a good sailor4 ,if n1 ?9k v1 v c>efully be=e y emb>k6 ,,*apt] ,,xxvi ,,! ,,h\se ,,p>ty ,,9 ,,camp ,r\gh+ x 9 ! fa%ionable _w 7on ! ,atlantic coa/7 is r sugge/ive ( ! dairymaid play+ ( ,m>ie ,anto9ette2 ! r\gh "p be+ mo/ly picturesque effect ) little ta/e ( actual discom=t4 ,(t51 ( c\rse1 ! r\gh+ x is real1 especially we/ ( ! ,mississippi 7& sometimes 9 ! ,ea/ too72 s real t x has no place 9 a book ( etiquette at all4 ,9 ! foll[+ picture ( a fa%ionable camp+ p>ty x %\ld p]haps be add$1 t n only ! ,worldlys b mo/ ( ! wom5 really ?9k !y are r\gh+ x4 ,at ! same "t !re is no?+ t a g5u9e dep5d5t ^u luxury res5ts m ?an to be told he is dep5d5t4 ,x is he :o has b newly le>n$ ! com=ts ( liv+ :o prote/s 8 inability to endure discom=t4 ,! v same p !re=e :o w5t a %ort "t be=e to ,great ,e/ates1 wom5 :o arriv$ ) _! maids & luggage conta9+ p]sonal equipm5t ( amaz+ p]fection & unlimit$ quantity 7to say no?+ ( jewels wor? a k+'s ransom71 & m5 :o usually travel ) _! own man-s]vants & e v>iety ( raim5t & p>aph]nalia1 on be+ invit$ to r\gh x ) ! ,k9dh>ts at ,m\nta9 ,summit ,camp1 are ! v ones :o mo/ promptly & en?usia/ically telegraph _! delight$ acceptance4 ,at a c]ta9 p>ty a few ye>s ago1 ! only p]son :o decl9$ 0 a "y woman ( s little position t %e 0 q (f5d$ t ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t %\ld suppose h] able to endure discom=t su* z h] invitation impli$4 ,?is ye> ! ,worldlys1 ! ,normans1 ! ,lovejoys1 ! ,bobo ,gild+s1 ! ,littleh\ses1 ,con/ance ,/yle1 ,jim ,sm>tl+ton & 8 bride1 ,clubw9 ,doe & "y ,/ru!rs make up ! p>ty4 ,no "o decl9$1 n ev5 ! ,worldlys1 ?\gh !re is a fly 9 ! amb] ( _! p]fect satisfaction4 ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t wrote n to br+ a maid4 ,mrs4 ,worldly is v mu* di/urb$1 because %e _c d h] hair h]self4 ,mr4 ,worldly is ev5 m p]turb$ at ! ?\ght ( go+ )\t 8 valet4 ,he has nev] 9 ! tw5ty ye>s s9ce he left college be5 tw5ty-f\r h\rs away f ,erne/4 ,he kn[s p]fectly well t ,erne/ is n expect$4 ,b he means to take him--he w say no?+ ab\t x2 he c surely f9d a place = ,erne/ to /ay some:]e4 ,! o!r m5 all look ^u a holiday away f =mality 7:i* includes valet+7 z a relief1 l ! op5+ ( a w9d[ 9 a /uffy room1 & none ( ! wom5 except ,mrs4 ,worldly w\ld take h] maid if %e c\ld4 ,,! ,,clo!s ,,!y ,,take ,! m5 all rummage 9 attics & trunk-rooms = ^? disreputable look+ articles ( we>+ app>el de> to all sportsm52 oil soak$ boots1 wat] soak$ & sun blea*$ wool51 corduroy1 lea!r or canvas g>m5ts & hats1 ea* look+ too %abby f _! wives' 7or valet's7 po9t ( view to be (f]$ to a tramp4 ,e ev5+ is sp5t 9 clean+ guns1 rummag+ = unprepossess+ treasures ( %oot+ & fi%+ equipm5t4 ,! wom5 also give ?\ght to _! w>drobes--consi/+ *iefly 9 a process ( elim9ation4 ,no?+ p]i%able1 no?+ requir+ a maid's help to get into1 or to take c>e (4 ,golf clo!s are fir/ *oice1 & any o!r old c\ntry clo!s1 skirts & sweat]s1 & lots ( pla9 %irt wai/s to g "u ! sweat]s4 ,an old polo coat & a mack9to% is *os5 by ea*4 ,& = ev5+s some?+ com=table & easy to put on 9 ! way ( a h\se g[n or ord9>y summ] day dress4 ,"o or two decide to take tea g[ns 9 d>k color & pla9e/ v>iety4 ,all ! wom5 :o sew or knit take some?+ to "w on 9 unoccupi$ mom5ts1 su* z ! h\rs ( sitt+ sil5t 9 a canoe :ile husb&s fi%4 ,f9ally ! day arrives4 ,e "o meets at ! railroad /ation4 ,!y are all z sm>t look+ z c be1 !re is no sign ( r\gh clo!s any:]e1 ?\gh no?+ 9 ! lea/ l a jewel case or p>asol is to be se54 ,at ! end ( some:]e betwe5 eight & eighte5 h\rs1 !y arrive at a %$ :i* sits at ! edge ( ! s+le track & is labell$ ,du/ville ,junction1 & hurry+ d[n ! n>r[ plat=m is _! ho/4 ,except t 8 face is clean %av5 & 8 mann]s p]fect1 he might be tak5 = a tramp4 ,?ree f> f sm>t look+ teams--two buckbo>ds & an express wagon--are /&+ ne> by4 ,k9dh>t welcomes ev]yone ) en?usiasm--except ! n[ em]g+ ,erne/4 ,= once ,k9dh>t is nonpluss$ & he says to ,worldly3 ,?is isn't ,newport1 y "k--( c\rse we c give him a b$ some:]e1 b ?is is really no place = ,erne/ & !re's no?+ = him to d6 ,worldly1 = ! mom5t at a loss1 expla9s lamely3 ,i ?\ght he might be useful--if y c\ld f9d "s corn] = him to-night1 !n we c see--t's all "r1 isn't x8 ,k9dh>t z ho/ c't say any?+ fur!r except to agree4 ,ev]yone is bundl$ into ! buckbo>ds 7except ,erne/ :o goes on top ( ! luggage 9 ! express wagon71 & a corduroy drive ( six or eight miles beg9s4 ,,:at ,,! ,,camp ,,is ,,l ,summit ,camp is a collection ( wood5 %acks l a gr\p ( pack+ cases dump$ 9 a cle>+ among ! p9e trees at ! edge ( a m\nta9 lake4 ,^? :o h nev] be5 !re be=e feel "s misgiv+s1 ^? :o h be5 !re be=e rememb] ) surprise t !y _h lik$ ! place6 ,! m5 alone are fill$ ) en?usiasm4 ,! only p]son :o is ?or\ghly appreh5sive ( ! imm$iate future is ,erne/4 ,9 front ( ! l>ge/ ( ! %acks1 ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t1 surr\nd$ by dogs & *ildr51 waves & hurries =w>d1 beam+4 ,h] en?usiasm is contagi\s1 ! *ildr5 look bloom+4 ,t ! h>d%ip is n hurt+ !m1 is evid5t6 ,& :5 ! gue/s h se5 ! inside ( ! camps mo/ ( !m are actually z pleas$ z !y look4 ,! bigge/ %ack is a liv+-room1 ! "o ne>e/ is ! d9+ camp1 f\r or five small] ones are sleep+ camps = gue/s & ano!r is ! ,k9dh>ts' own4 ,! liv+ camp is no?+ b a s+le room ab\t ?irty feet wide & =ty feet long1 ) an op5 raft]$ ro( = ceil+4 ,x has w9d[s on f\r sides & a big por* built on ! s\!a/ corn]4 ,!re is an enorm\s op5 fireplace1 & a floor good en\gh to dance on4 ,! woodwork is ( r\gh lumb] & has a s+le coat ( leaf-gre5 pa9t4 ,! %elves betwe5 ! uprights are fill$ ) books4 ,all ! new novels & magaz9es are spread out on a long table4 ,! room is furni%$ ) ,navajo blankets1 wick] furniture1 /eam] *airs1 & hammocks are hung across two ( ! corn]s4 ,two long divan s(as on ei!r side ( ! fireplace are ! only uphol/]$ pieces ( furniture 9 ! :ole camp1 except ! mattresses on ! b$s4 ,! gue/ camps are sep>ate %acks1 ea* "o set back on a plat=m1 leav+ a por* 9 front4 ,inside !y v>y 9 size2 mo/ h two1 "s h f\r rooms1 b ea* is m]ely "o po9t$-ro($ space4 ,! front "p has a fireplace & is furni%$ z a sitt+-room1 ! re> half is p>tition$ into two or m cubicles1 l box-/alls1 ) p>titions ab\t eight feet high & hav+ regul> doors4 ,9 ea* ( ! s+le rooms1 !re is a b$1 bureau1 wa%/&1 *air1 & two %elves ab\t six or sev5 feet high1 ) a calico curta9 nail$ to ! top "o & hang+ to ! floor1 mak+ a hat %elf & clo!s closet4 ,! few d\ble rooms are twice ! size & h all furniture 9 duplicate4 ,!re is also a matt+ or a rag rug on ! floor1 & t is all6 ,ea* cottage has a ba?room b ! hot wat] supply seems complicat$4 ,a sign says y\r guide w br+ x to y :5 ne$$4 ,mrs4 ,worldly1 feel+ vaguely uncom=table & hungry1 is firmly det]m9$ to g home on ! next morn+ tra94 ,be=e %e has _h mu* "t to reflect1 ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t reports t lun* is ne>ly ready4 ,guides come ) cani/]s ( hot wat]1 & ev]yone goes to dress4 ,t[n clo!s disappe>1 & woods clo!s em]ge4 ,?is by no means makes a d[dy picture4 ,good sport clo!s nev] look s well or becom+ z :5 long use has giv5 !m an accu/om$ set *>act]i/ic ( _! we>]4 ,! m5 put on _! olde/ c\ntry clo!s too4 ,n _! fi%+ treasures to sit at table ) ladies6 ,! treasur$ articles g on 9 ! e>ly dawn1 & ! guides are ! only humans 7except !mselves7 suppos$ wor?y to behold !m6 ,pres5tly a gong is s\nd$4 ,! ,k9dh>t *ildr5 run to ! gue/ h\ses to call out t ! gong means d9n] is ready6 ,& d9n] means lun*4 ,,d9+-,,room ,,details ,9 a %ort :ile ! v gr\p ( p :o only t5 days be=e 7 be+ %[n to _! places 9 ! ,worldlys' own tape/ry-hung m>ble d9+-room at ,great ,e/ates by a doz5 footm5 9 sat9 knee bree*es1 file into ! d9+ camp & take _! places at a long p9e table1 pa9t$ turkey r$1 on ord9>y wood5 kit*5 *airs1 also r$6 ,! floral decoration is ( laurel leaves 9 vases made ( pres]ve j>s cov]$ ) bir* b>k4 ,glass & *9a is ( ! *eape/4 ,b !re are a long c5t]piece ( hem/it*$ cra% & cra% doilies1 & !re are real napk9s1 & at ea* plate a bir* b>k napk9 r+ ) a numb] on x4 ,mrs4 ,worldly looks at h] napk9 r+ z ?\gh x 7 an insect4 ,"o or two ( ! o!rs :o h n be5 !re be=e1 look mildly surpris$4 ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t smiles1 ,i'm sorry1 b ,i told y x 0 'r\gh+ x4' ,any "o :o pref]s innum]able pap] napk9s to us+ a wa%$ "o twice1 is welcome4 ,b "o napk9 a day apiece is camp rule6 ,mrs4 ,worldly tries to look amiable1 all ! re/ succe$4 ,! food is limit$ 9 v>iety b delici\s4 ,!re are fre% tr\t f ! lake & v5ison /eak2 bo? well cook$ 9 e way t c be devis$ appe> at e meal4 ,all o!r supplies come 9 hamp]s f ! city4 ,! head cook is ! ,k9dh>ts' own1 & s is ! butl]1 ) "o ( ! *auffeurs 7:5 home7 to help him wait on table4 ,!y we> liv]ies1 evolv$ by ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t1 ( gray flannel tr\s]s1 gre5 flannel blaz]s1 v light gray flannel %irts1 black ties1 & moccas9s6 ,! table s]vice1 s9ce !re are only two to wait on tw5ty includ+ ! *ildr51 is necess>ily some:at f>m] /yle2 ice1 tea1 rolls1 butt]1 m>malade1 cake1 fruit1 are all on ! table1 s t p may help !mselves4 ,,! ,,amusem5ts ,,(f]$ ,aft] lun*eon ,k9dh>t po9ts out a doz5 guides :o are wait+ at ! boat-h\se to take anyone :o wants to be paddl$ or to sail or to g out into ! woods4 ,!re is a small swimm+ pool :i* c be w>m$ artificially4 ,^? :o l x cold swim 9 ! lake4 ,all ! m5 disappe> 9 gr\ps or s+ly ) a guide4 ,! wom5 g ) _! husb&s1 or two toge!r1 ) a guide4 ,%\ld any n want to g out1 %e c take to "o ( ! hammocks1 or a divan 9 ! liv+-room1 & a book4 ,at fir/ sight1 ?is hospitality seems inadequate1 b its discom=t is "o ( outw>d appe>ance only4 ,! food is abundant & delici\s1 :e!r cook$ 9 ! h\se or by ! guides 9 ! woods4 ,! b$s are com=table2 !re are pl5ty ( w>m & good quality1 ?\gh n :ite1 blankets4 ,%eets are flannel or cotton z pref]r$4 ,pill[ cases are l951 t[els ( ! ba? v>iety because wa%+ c be done by natives ne> by1 b iron+ is difficult4 ,let no "o1 h[ev]1 ?9k t ?is is a simple 7by t mean+ ei!r easy or inexp5sive7 =m ( ent]ta9m5t6 ,imag9e ! budget6 ,a doz5 guides1 teams & driv]s1 natives to wa% & clean & to help ! cook2 food = two or ?ree doz5 p s5t hundr$s ( miles by express6 ,x is true t ! build+s are ( ! mo/ primitive1 & ! furni%+s1 too4 ,! bureau draw]s d /ick1 & !re is only curta9$ closet room1 & mirrors are few & dim9utive1 & ord]s = hot wat] h to be giv5 ahead ( "t1 b !re is no discom=t1 except ba?+ 9 ! cold6 ,! huge fire1 light$ e>ly e morn+ by "o ( ! guides 9 ea* gue/ h\se1 keeps ! ma9 "p fairly w>m b ! temp]ature ( "o ( ! ba?rooms on a cold morn+ is sc>cely welcom+4 ,,camp ,,mann]s ,p d n dress = d9n]1 t is1 n 9 ev5+ clo!s4 ,aft] com+ 9 f walk+ or %oot+ or fi%+1 if x is w>m !y swim 9 ! pool or h _! guides br+ !m hot wat] = a ba?4 ,wom5 *ange into h\se g[ns ( "s sort4 ,m5 put on flannel tr\s]s1 s(t %irts1 & flannel or s]ge sack coats4 ,9 ! ev5+1 if x is a beautiful night1 e "o sits on /eam] *airs wrapt 9 rugs ar\nd ! big fire built out doors 9 front ( a sort ( p5?\se or w9dbreak4 ,or if x is /ormy1 !y sit 9 front ( a fire1 almo/ z big1 9 ! liv+-room4 ,sometimes y\ng] ones pop corn or roa/ *e/nuts1 or p]haps make taffy4 ,p]haps "s "o tells a /ory1 or "s "o plays & ev]yone s+s4 ,p]haps "o :o has p>lor tricks amuses ! o!rs--b z a rule ^? :o h be5 all day 9 ! op5 are tir$ & dr[sy & want no?+ b to /ret* out = a :ile 9 front ( ! big fire & !n turn 94 ,! etiquette ( ?is sort ( a p>ty is s app>5tly lack+ t its inclusion p]haps seems out ( place4 ,b x is meant m]ely z a picture ( a phase ( fa%ionable life t is n mu* exploit$1 & to %[ t well-br$ p nev] det]iorate 9 mann]4 ,_! behavior is precisely ! same :e!r at ,great ,e/ates or 9 camp4 ,a g5tleman may be 9 8 %irt sleeves actually1 b he nev] gets into %irt sleeves m5tally--he has no incl9ation to4 ,to be sure1 on ! p>ticul> p>ty describ$ above1 ,mrs4 ,worldly wore a squirrel fur cap 9 ! ev5+ z well z ! daytime2 %e said x 0 because x 0 s w>m & com=table4 ,x 0 really because %e c\ld n d h] hair6 ,p]haps "s "o asks ab\t ,erne/8 ,at ! end ( two days ( alo( & di/a/eful idl5ess1 ,erne/ became q a human be+2 invaluable z bait] ( worms = ! *ildr5's fi%-hooks1 z extra butl]1 & did n scorn ev5 tempor>y exp]im5ts z kit*5-maid4 ,9 fact1 he prov$ ! half-he>t$ recomm5dation t he might be useful s ?or\ghly t ! fir/ p]son ( all to be especially invit$ = next ye> & future ye>s1 0--exactly--,erne/4 ,,*apt] ,,xxvii ,,notes ,,& ,,%ort] ,,lett]s ,9 writ+ notes or lett]s1 z 9 all o!r =ms ( social obs]vance1 ! highe/ a*ievem5t is 9 giv+ ! appe>ance ( simplicity1 naturalness & =ce4 ,^? :o use long p]iods ( fl[]$ prolixity & pret5ti\s phrases--:o write 9 complicat$ =m ) mean+less fl\ri%es1 d n make an impression ( elegance & erudition ^u _! read]s1 b flaunt in/ead unmi/akable evid5ce ( va+lory & ignorance4 ,! lett] y write1 :e!r y realize x or n1 is always a mirror :i* reflects y\r appe>ance1 ta/e & "*4 ,a sloppy lett] ) ! writ+ all p\r+ into "o corn] ( ! page1 badly word$1 badly spell$1 & ) unmat*$ pap] & envelope--ev5 possibly a blot--proclaims ! sort ( p]son :o w\ld h unkempt hair1 unclean l95 & brok5 %oe laces2 j z a neat1 precise1 ev5ly writt5 note portrays a p]son ( l *>act]i/ics4 ,!re=e1 :ile x c n be said ) lit]al accuracy t "o may read ! future ( a p]son by /udy ( 8 h&writ+1 x is true t if a "y man wi%es to *oose a wife 9 ^: daily life he is sure always to f9d ! unf9i%$ task1 ! untidy m9d & ! syncopat$ h\sekeep+1 he may d x q simply by select+ h] f h] lett]s4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,improve ,a ,,lett]',s ,,appe>ance ,"s p are =tunate 9 be+ able easily to make graceful lett]s1 to space _! words ev5ly1 & to put !m on a page s t ! picture is pleas+2 o!rs are disc\rag$ at ! outset because _! f+]s are clumsy1 & _! ef=ts crude2 b no matt] h[ badly =m$ ea* individual lett] may be1 if ! writ+ is consi/5t ?r\gh\t1 ! page z a :ole looks fairly well4 ,y c make y\rself write neatly & legibly4 ,y c 7) ! help ( a diction>y if necess>y7 spell correctly2 y c be sure t y und]/& ! mean+ ( e ^w y use4 ,if x is h>d = y to write 9 a /raight l9e1 use ! l9$ guide t comes ) ne>ly all /ation]y2 if impossible to keep an ev5 m>g91 draw a p]p5dicul> l9e at ! left ( ! guide s t y c />t ea* new l9e ( writ+ on x4 ,y c also make a guide to slip "u ! envelope4 ,f> bett] to use a guide ?an to s5d envelopes & pages ( writ+ t slide up hill & d[n1 9 uncontroll$ disord]4 ,illu/ration3 ,,facsimiles1 ,,r$uc$ ,,9 ,,size1 ,,( ,,lett] ,,& ,,envelope ,,guides ,,*oice ,,( ,,writ+ ,,pap] ,suitability %\ld be consid]$ 9 *oos+ note pap]1 z well z 9 *oos+ a piece ( furniture = a h\se4 ,= a h&writ+ :i* is habitually l>ge1 a l>g] siz$ pap] %\ld be *os5 ?an = writ+ :i* is small4 ,! %ape ( pap] %\ld also dep5d some:at ^u ! spac+ ( ! l9es :i* is typical ( ! writ]1 & :e!r a wide or n>r[ m>g9 is us$4 ,l[1 spread-out writ+ looks bett] on a squ>e %eet ( pap]2 tall1 po9t$ writ+ looks bett] on pap] t is high & n>r[4 ,selection ( pap] :e!r r\gh or smoo? is entirely a matt] ( p]sonal *oice--s t ! quality be good1 & ! %ape & color cons]vative4 ,pap] %\ld nev] be rul$1 or highly sc5t$1 or odd 9 %ape1 or h elaborate or /rik+ ornam5tation4 ,"s p use small] pap] = notes1 or correspond5ce c>ds1 cut to ! size ( ! envelopes4 ,o!rs use ! same size = all correspond5ce & leave a wid] m>g9 9 writ+ notes4 ,! flap ( ! envelope %\ld be pla9 & ! po9t n unduly long4 ,if ! flap is squ>e in/ead ( be+ po9t$1 x may be all[$ great] l5g? )\t be+ ecc5tric4 ,color$ l9+s to envelopes are at pres5t 9 fa%ion4 ,?9 :ite pap]1 ) monogram or address /amp$ 9 gray to mat* gray tissue l9+ ( ! envelope is1 = in/ance1 9 v be/ ta/e4 ,"y girls may be all[$ q gay envelope l9+s1 b ! device on ! pap] mu/ be m9ute1 9 proportion to ! gaiety ( ! color4 ,illu/rations3 ,,good ,,ta/e ,,good ,,ta/e ,,good ,,ta/e ,,bad ,,ta/e ,,bad ,,ta/e ,writ+ pap] = a man %\ld always be /rictly cons]vative4 ,pla9 :ite or gray or granite pap]1 l>ge 9 size & /amp$ 9 ! simple/ mann]4 ,! size %\ld be #e-c_/d x #g-a_/b or #f x #h or #e-a_/h x #h-a_/h or !reab\ts4 ,a pap] suitable = ! use ( all ! memb]s ( a family has ! address /amp$ 9 black or d>k color1 9 pla9 lett]s at ! top ( ! fir/ page4 ,m (t5 ?an n ! telephone numb] is put 9 v small lett]s "u t ( ! address1 a great conv5i5ce 9 ! pres5t day ( telephon+4 ,= example3 #cej ,,p>k ,,av5ue ,,telephone #gegb ,,plaza ,,devices ,,= ,,/amp+ ,z !re is no su* ?+ z h]aldry 9 ,am]ica1 ! use ( a coat ( arms is z mu* a =eign cu/om z ! speak+ ( a =eign tongue2 b 9 c]ta9 communities :]e old families h us$ _! cre/s cont9u\sly s9ce ! days :5 !y br\ght _! device--& _! "r to x--f ,europe1 ! use ( x is suitable & prop]4 ,! sight ( ?is or t cre/ on a c>riage or automobile 9 ,new ,york or ,bo/on ann\nces to all ^? :o h liv$ _! lives 9 ei!r city t ! vehicle belongs to a memb] ( ?is or t family4 ,b = "s "o )\t an inh]it$ "r to select a lion rampant or a /ag c\*ant because he ?9ks x looks /yli%1 is z ?\gh1 = ! same reason1 he *ang$ 8 "n f ,mugg9s to ,m>maduke1 & q prop]ly subjects him to ridicule4 7,/rictly speak+1 a woman has ! "r to use a loz5ge only2 s9ce 9 h]aldic days wom5 did n be> arms1 b no "o 9 ?is c\ntry foll[s h]aldic rule to ?is ext5t47 ,,! ,,p]sonal ,,device ,x is occasionally ! fancy ( arti/s or "y girls to adopt "s especial symbol associat$ ) !mselves4 ,! butt]fly ( ,:i/l] = in/ance is z well-kn[n z 8 "n4 ,a pa9t] ( m>9es has ! small outl9e ( a %ip /amp$ on 8 writ+ pap]1 & a ,new ,york ar*itect ! capital ( an ,ionic column4 ,a g5]ation ago "y wom5 us$ to fancy su* an intrigu+ symbol z a mask1 a sph9x1 a "q m>k1 or _! own names1 if _! names 7 su* z c\ld be pictur$4 ,!re c be no objection to "o's appropriation ( su* an emblem if "o fancies x4 ,b ,lilly1 ,belle1 ,dolly & ,kitt5 are ,lillian1 ,isabel1 ,doro?y & ,ka!r9e 9 ^! days1 & appropriate hall-m>ks are n easily f\nd4 ,,c\ntry ,,h\se ,,/ation]y3 ,,= ,a ,,big ,,h\se ,9 select+ pap] = a c\ntry h\se we g back to ! subject ( suitability4 ,a big h\se 9 important gr\nds %\ld h v pla91 v dignifi$ lett] pap]4 ,x may be :ite or t9t$ blue or gray4 ,! "n ( ! place %\ld be engrav$1 9 ! c5t] usually1 at ! top ( ! fir/ page4 ,x may be plac$ left1 or "r1 z pref]r$4 ,slant+ across ! upp] corn]s or 9 a li/ at ! upp] left side1 may be put z _m addresses z necess>y4 ,_m p]sons use a :ole r[ ( small devices 9 outl9e1 ! eng9e ( a tra9 & beside x ,ardmoor1 mean+ t ,ardmoor is ! railroad /ation4 ,a telegraph pole1 an envelope1 a telephone in/rum5t--& beside ea* an address4 ,^! devices are suitable = all places1 :e!r !y are great or t9y1 t h diff]5t addresses = railroad1 po/-(fice1 telephone telegraph4 ,illu/ration3 7tra97 ,/irl+ton1 ,new ,york ,illu/ration3 7telegraph pole & envelopes7 ,r+wood1 ,new ,j]sey ,illu/ration3 7telephone7 ,sloatsburg1 ,sev5-?ree-two ,= ! ,little ,h\se ,on ! o!r h&1 f>mh\ses & little places 9 ! c\ntry may h v bright-color$ /amp+1 z well z gay-l9$ envelopes4 ,places ) easily illu/rat$ names q (t5 h !m pictur$2 ! ,bird-cage1 = in/ance1 may h a bright blue pap] ) a bird-cage 9 suppos$ r$ lacqu]2 ! ,b&box1 a fanta/ically decorat$ mill9]'s box on oy/] gray pap]1 ! envelope l9+ ( black & gray p9 /ripes1 & ! ,doll's ,h\se might use ! outl9e ( a doll's h\se 9 grass gre5 on gre5-bord]$ :ite pap]1 & :ite envelopes l9$ ) grass gre54 ,ea* ( ^! devices mu/ be z small z ! outl9e ( a *]ry pit & ! pap] ( ! smalle/ size t comes4 7,envelopes #c-a_/b x #e in*es or pap] #d x #f & envelopes ! same size to hold pap] )\t fold+47 ,illu/ration3 7?ree envelope corn]s ) logos7 ,x is fooli% p]haps to give ! description ( su* pap]s1 = _! fa%ion is b ( ! mom5t4 ,a jewel] f ,p>is has be5 responsible = _! pres5t vogue 9 ,new ,york1 & 8 cli5tele is only among ! "y & sm>t4 ,old] & m cons]vative wom5 7&1 ( c\rse1 all m57 keep to ! pla9 fa%ion ( ye/]day1 :i* w j z surely be ! fa%ion ( to-morr[4 ,,m\rn+ ,,pap] ,p]sons :o are 9 m\rn+ use black-edg$ visit+ c>ds1 lett] pap] & envelopes4 ,! dep? ( black corresponds ) ! dep? ( m\rn+ & ! clos5ess ( relation to ! "o :o has gone1 ! wid? decreas+ z "o's m\rn+ light5s4 ,! wid? ( black to use is a matt] ( p]sonal ta/e & feel+4 ,a v heavy bord] 7f #c_/h to #g_/af ( an in*7 ann\nces ! deepe/ retirem5t4 ,,dat+ ,a ,,lett] ,usually ! date is put at ! upp] "r h& ( ! fir/ page ( a lett]1 or at ! end1 & to ! left ( ! signature1 ( a note4 ,x is f> less confus+ = "o's correspond5t to read ,janu>y #i1 #aibj1 ?an #a-i-bj4 ,!oretically1 "o %\ld write out ! date 9 full3 ! n9? ( ,janu>y1 ,n9ete5 hundr$ & tw5ty-"o4 ,t1 h[ev]1 is ! height ( p$antry1 & an unswall[able m\?ful at ! top ( any page n a docum5t4 ,at ! end ( a note ,?ursday is suffici5t unless ! note is an invitation = m ?an a week ahead1 9 :i* case write z 9 a lett]1 ,janu>y #i or ! n9? ( ,janu>y4 ,! ye> is n necess>y s9ce x c h>dly be suppos$ to take a ye> = a lett]'s transportation4 ,,sequ5ce ,,( ,,pages ,if a note is long] ?an "o page1 ! ?ird page is usually next1 z ?is leaves ! f\r? blank & prev5ts ! writ+ f %[+ ?r\gh ! envelope4 ,) heavy or tissue-l9$ envelopes1 ! f\r? is us$ z (t5 z ! ?ird4 ,9 lett]s "o may write fir/1 second1 ?ird1 f\r?1 9 regul> ord]2 or fir/ & f\r?1 !n1 op5+ ! %eet & turn+ x sideways1 write across ! two inside pages z "o4 ,_m pref] to write on fir/1 ?ird1 !n sideways across second & f\r?4 ,9 c]ta9 cities--,bo/on1 = in/ance--! la/ ^w on a page is repeat$ at ! top ( ! next4 ,x is und\bt$ly a good idea1 b makes a /utt]+ impression ^u "o n accu/om$ to x4 ,,fold+ ,a ,,note ,z to :e!r a lett] is fold$ 9 su* a way t ! recipi5t %all read ! cont5ts )\t hav+ to turn ! pap]1 is giv+ too mu* importance to no?+4 ,x is suffici5t if ! pap] is fold$ neatly1 once1 ( c\rse1 = ! envelope t is half ! l5g? ( ! pap]1 & twice = ! envelope t is a ?ird4 ,,seal+ ,,wax ,if y use seal+ wax1 let u hope y are an adept at mak+ an ev5 & smoo?ly f9i%$ seal4 ,*oose a pla9-color$ wax r ?an "o speckl$ ) metal4 ,) ! sort ( pap] describ$ = c\ntry h\ses1 or = "y p1 or ^? liv+ 9 /udios or bungal[s1 gay seal+ wax may be q allur+1 especially if x c be p]suad$ to p\r smoo?ly l liquid1 & n to look l a /reak$ & brok5 (f slice ( d\gh4 ,9 days :5 envelopes 7 unkn[n1 all lett]s _h to be seal$1 h5ce :5 envelopes 7 made1 ! idea obta9$ t x 0 improp] to use bo? gum-arabic & wax4 ,/rictly speak+ ?is may be true1 b s9ce all envelopes h mucilage1 x w\ld be unreasonable to dem& t ^? :o l to use seal+ wax h _! envelopes made to ord]4 ,,=m ,,( ,,address ,! mo/ =mal beg9n+ ( a social lett] is ,my de> ,mrs4 ,smi?4 7,! fact t 9 ,engl& ,de> ,mrs4 ,smi? is m =mal does n greatly conc]n u 9 ,am]ica47 ,de> ,mrs4 ,smi?1 ,de> ,s>ah1 ,de> ,sally1 ,sally de>1 ,de>e/ ,sally1 ,d>l+ ,sally1 are increas+ly intimate4 ,bus9ess lett]s beg93 ,smi?1 ,johnson ,co41 #bj ,broadway1 ,new ,york4 ,de> ,sirs3 ,or if m p]sonal3 ,john ,smi? ,co41 #bj ,broadway1 ,new ,york4 ,my ,de> ,mr4 ,smi?3 ,,! ,,complim5t>y ,,close ,! close ( a bus9ess lett] %\ld be ,y\rs truly1 or ,y\rs v truly4 ,respectfully is us$ only by a tradesman to a cu/om]1 an employee to an employ]1 or by an inf]ior1 nev] by a p]son ( equal position4 ,no lady %\ld ev] sign a lett] respectfully1 n ev5 7 %e writ+ to a que54 ,if an ,am]ican lady %\ld h occasion to write to a que51 %e %\ld conclude h] lett] ,i h ! honor to rema91 ,madam1 y\r mo/ ob$i5t4 7,= address & close ( lett]s to p]sons ( title1 see table at ! end ( ?is *apt]47 ,,close ,,( ,,p]sonal ,,notes ,,& ,,lett]s ,x is too bad t ! ,engli% language does n p]mit ! *>m+ & graceful clos+ ( all lett]s 9 ! ,fr5* mann]1 ^? little fl[]s ( complim5t t leave su* a pleasant fragrance aft] read+4 ,b ev] s9ce ! ,eighte5? ,c5tury ! ,engli%-speak+ h be5 busy prun+ away all ornam5t ( expression2 ev5 ! la/ rema9+ graces1 k9de/ reg>ds1 ) k9de/ remembrances1 are fa/ disappe>+1 leav+ u no?+ b an abrupt ,y\rs truly1 or ,s9c]ely y\rs4 ,clos+ a ,=mal ,note ,! be/ end+ to a =mal social note is1 ,s9c]ely1 ,s9c]ely y\rs1 ,v s9c]ely1 ,v s9c]ely y\rs1 ,y\rs always s9c]ely1 or ,always s9c]ely y\rs4 ,i rema91 de> madam1 is no long] 9 use1 b ,believe me is /ill correct :5 =mality is to be express$ 9 ! close ( a note4 ,believe me ,v s9c]ely y\rs1 or ,believe me1 my de> ,mrs4 ,worldly1 ,mo/ s9c]ely y\rs1 ,?is la/ is an ,engli% =m1 b x is us$ by q a numb] ( ,am]icans--p>ticul>ly ^? :o h be5 mu* abroad4 ,appropriate = a ,man ,fai?fully or ,fai?fully y\rs is a v good signature = a man 9 writ+ to a woman1 or 9 any uncomm]cial correspond5ce1 su* z a lett] to ! ,presid5t ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates1 a memb] ( ! ,cab9et1 an ,ambassador1 a cl]gyman1 etc4 ,! ,intimate ,clos+ ,affectionately y\rs1 ,always affectionately1 ,affectionately1 ,devot$ly1 ,lov+ly1 ,y\r lov+ are 9 increas+ scale ( intimacy4 ,lov+ly is mu* m intimate ?an ,affectionately & s is ,devot$ly4 ,s9c]ely 9 =mal notes & ,affectionately 9 intimate notes are ! two adv]bs mo/ us$ 9 ! pres5t day1 & betwe5 ^! two !re is a blank2 9 ,engli% we h no expression to fit s5tim5t m fri5dly ?an ! fir/ nor "o less intimate ?an ! second4 ,n ,good ,=m ,cordially 0 co9$ no d\bt to fill ?is ne$1 b its self-consci\sness puts x 9 ! category ) resid5ce & retire1 & all ! o!r (f5ses ( pret5ti\sness1 & 9 ,new ,york1 at lea/1 x is n us$ by p ( ta/e4 ,w>mly y\rs is unspeakable4 ,y\rs 9 ha/e or ,ha/ily y\rs is n bad =m1 b is r c>elessly rude4 ,9 a te>+ hurry is a t]m9ation de> to ! bo>d+ s*ool girl2 b its tru? does n make x any m attractive ?an ! vision ( t same "y girl ru%+ into a room ) h] hat & coat half on1 to swoop ^u h] "m ) a peck ( a kiss1 & ) a --by1 mamma6 :irl out aga96 ,turmoil & flurry may be *>act]i/ic ( ! mann]s ( to-day2 bo? are f> f ! ideal ( beautiful mann]s :i* %\ld be z assur$1 z smoo?1 z controll$ z ! runn+ ( a high-grade automobile4 ,flea-l motions are no bett] suit$ to mann]s ?an to motors4 ,o!r ,end+s ,gratefully is us$ only :5 a b5efit has be5 receiv$1 z to a lawy] :o has skilfully h&l$ a case2 to a surgeon :o has sav$ a life de> to y2 to a fri5d :o has be5 put to unusual tr\ble to d y a favor4 ,9 an ord9>y lett] ( ?anks1 ! signature is ,s9c]ely1 ,affectionately1 ,devot$ly--z ! case may be4 ,! phrases t a man might devise to close a lett] to 8 betro!d or 8 wife are b\nd only by ! limit ( 8 imag9ation & d n belong 9 ?is1 or any1 book4 ,,! ,,signature ,abroad1 ! high] ! rank1 ! %ort] ! "n4 ,a duke1 = in/ance1 signs himself ,m>lbor\gh1 no?+ else1 & a que5 h] fir/ "n ,victoria4 ,! social _w 9 ,europe1 !re=e1 laughs at u = us+ our :ole names1 or worse yet1 ins]t+ mean+less initials 9 our signatures4 ,etiquette 9 accord ) ,europe also objects /r5u\sly to initials & dem&s t names be always engrav$1 &1 if possible1 writt5 9 full1 b only v correct p /rictly obs]ve ?is rule4 ,9 ,europe all p]sons h s _m names giv5 !m 9 baptism t !y are =c$1 naturally1 to lay mo/ ( !m aside1 select+ "o1 or at mo/ two1 = use4 ,9 ,am]ica1 ! names be/[$ at baptism become insep>ably "p ( ea* individual1 s t if ! "n is ov]long1 a /r+ ( initials is ! inevitable result4 ,s9ce1 9 ,am]ica1 x is n cu/om>y = a man to disc>d any ( 8 names1 & ,john ,hunt] ,ti!r+ton ,smi? is f> too mu* ( a p5-full = ! "o :o signs ?\s&s ( lett]s & docum5ts1 x is small wond] t he *ooses ,j4,h4,t4 ,smi?1 in/ead1 or p]haps1 at ! end ( p]sonal lett]s1 ,john ,h4,t4 ,smi?4 ,:y %\ldn't he8 ,x is1 aft] all1 8 own "n to sign z he *ooses1 & 9 address+ him def]5ce to 8 *oice %\ld be %[n4 ,a m>ri$ woman %\ld always sign a lett] to a /rang]1 a bank1 bus9ess firm1 etc41 ) h] baptismal "n1 & add1 9 p>5!sis1 h] m>ri$ "n4 ,?us3 ,v truly y\rs1 ,s>ah ,rob9son ,smi?4 7,mrs4 ,j4,h4 ,ti!r+ton ,smi?47 ,nev] "u any circum/ances sign a lett] ,mr41 ,mrs41 or ,miss 7except a note writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son74 ,if1 9 ! example above1 ,s>ah ,rob9son ,smi? 7 ,miss %e w\ld put ,miss 9 p>5!sis to ! left ( h] signature3 7,miss7 ,s>ah ,rob9son ,smi?4 ,,! ,,sup]scription ,=mal invitations are always address$ to ,mr4 ,/anley ,smi?2 all o!r p]sonal lett]s may be address$ to ,/anley ,smi?1 ,esq4 ,! title ( ,esquire =m]ly 0 us$ to d5ote ! elde/ son ( a knight or memb]s ( a y\ng] bran* ( a noble h\se4 ,lat] all graduates ( univ]sities1 pr(essional & lit]>y m51 & important l&hold]s 7 giv5 ! "r to ?is title1 :i* ev5 to-day d5otes a man ( education--a g5tleman4 ,john ,smi?1 esquire1 is ,john ,smi?1 g5tleman4 ,mr4 ,john ,smi? may be a g5tleman2 or may n be "o4 ,& yet1 z not$ above1 all engrav$ invitations are address$ ,mr4 ,nev] "u any circum/ances address a social lett] or note to a m>ri$ woman1 ev5 if %e is a wid[1 z ,mrs4 ,m>y ,t[n4 ,a wid[ is /ill ,mrs4 ,james ,t[n4 ,if h] son's wife %\ld h ! same "n1 %e becomes ,mrs4 ,james ,t[n1 ,sr41 or simply ,mrs4 ,t[n4 ,a divorc$ woman1 if %e 0 ! innoc5t p]son1 reta9s ! "r if %e *ooses1 to call h]self ,mrs4 ,john ,br[n ,smi?1 b usually %e pref]s to take h] own surname4 ,suppos+ h] to h be5 ,m>y ,simpson1 %e calls h]self ,mrs4 ,simpson ,smi?4 ,if a lady is ! wife or wid[ ( ! head ( a family %e may call h]self ,mrs4 ,smi?1 ev5 on visit+ c>ds & invitations4 ,! elde/ daught] is ,miss ,smi?2 h] y\ng] si/]1 ,miss ,jane ,smi?4 ,invitations to *ildr5 are address$1 ,miss ,ka!r9e ,smi? & ,ma/] ,rob]t ,smi?4 ,d n write ,! ,messrs4 ,br[n 9 address+ a fa!r & son4 ,! ,messrs4 ,br[n is correct only = unm>ri$ bro!rs4 ,al?\gh "o occasionally sees an envelope address$ to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,jones1 & ,miss ,jones writt5 und]nea? ! names ( h] p>5ts1 x is bett] =m to s5d a sep>ate invitation address$ to ,miss ,jones alone4 ,a w$d+ invitation address$ to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,jones & family is n 9 good ta/e4 ,ev5 if ! ,jones *ildr5 are "y1 ! ,misses ,jones %\ld receive a sep>ate envelope1 & s %\ld ,ma/] ,jones4 ,,"o ,,la/ ,,rem>k ,write ! "n & address on ! envelope z precisely & z legibly z y c4 ,! po/-(fice has en\gh to d 9 deciph]+ ! lett]s ( ! illit]ate1 )\t be+ ask$ to d unnecess>y "w = y6 ,,bus9ess ,,lett]s ,bus9ess lett]s writt5 by a private individual diff] v little f ^? s5t out f a bus9ess h\se4 ,a lady nev] says ,y\rs ( ! #f? receiv$ & cont5ts not$1 or ,y\rs to h&1 nor does %e address ! firm z ,g5tlem51 nor does %e ev] sign h]self ,respectfully4 ,a bus9ess lett] %\ld be z brief & explicit z possible4 ,= example3 ,tux$o ,p>k ,new ,york ,may #ag1 #aibb ,i4 ,pa9t ,co41 #bb ,bran* ,/41 ,new ,york4 ,de> ,sirs3 ,y\r e/imate = pa9t+ my d9+-room1 libr>y1 s\? b$room1 & dress+-room is satisfactory1 & y may proce$ ) ! "w z soon z possible4 ,i f9d1 on ! o!r h&1 t wa9scot+ ! hall comes to m ?an ,i _h anticipat$1 & ,i h decid$ to leave x z x is = ! pres5t4 ,v truly y\rs1 ,c4,r4 ,t[n4 7,mrs4 ,james ,t[n7 ,,! ,,social ,,note ,!re %\ld be no m difficulty 9 writ+ a social note ?an 9 writ+ a bus9ess lett]2 ea* has a specific message = its sole object & ! pr9ciple ( con/ruction is ! same3 99 ,date ,address 7on bus9ess lett] only7 ,salutation3 ,! /atem5t ( :atev] is ! purpose ( ! note4 ,complim5t>y close1 ,signature4 99 ,or date "h ,! diff]5ce 9 =m betwe5 a bus9ess & a social note is t ! full "n & address ( ! p]son writt5 to is nev] put 9 ! latt]1 bett] quality /ation]y is us$1 & ! salutation is ,my de> ---- or ,de> ---- in/ead ( ,de> ,sir3 ,example3 #cej ,p>k ,av5ue ,de> ,mrs4 ,rob9son3 ,i am enclos+ ! li/ ,i promis$ y--,lub]ge makes ! mo/ beautiful ?+s4 ,m[]1 ! dressmak]1 has = ye>s made clo!s = me1 & ,i ?9k ,revaud ! be/ mill9] 9 ,p>is4 ,leonie is a little mill9] :o (t5 has pretty bl\ses z well z hats & is v reasonable4 ,i d hope ! addresses w be ( "s use to y1 & t y w h a delightful trip1 ,v s9c]ely1 ,m>?a ,k9dh>t4 ,?ursday4 ,,! ,,note ,,( ,,apology ,examples3 ,i ,,broadlawns ,de> ,mrs4 ,t[n3 ,i d deeply apologize = my seem+ rud5ess 9 hav+ to s5d ! message ab\t ,monday night4 ,:5 ,i accept$ y\r invitation1 ,i /upidly =got entirely t ,monday 0 a holiday & t all ( my own gue/s1 naturally1 7 n leav+ until ,tuesday morn+1 & ,ar?ur & ,i c\ld n !re=e g out by ourselves & leave !m6 ,we 7 too disappo9t$ & hope t y "k h[ sorry we 7 n to be ) y4 ,v s9c]ely1 ,e!l ,norman4 ,tuesday morn+4 ,,ii ,de> ,mrs4 ,neighbor3 ,my g>d5] has j told me t our *ick5s got into y\r fl[] b$s1 & did a great deal ( damage4 ,! *ick5 nett+ is be+ built high] at ?is mom5t & !y w n be able to damage any?+ aga94 ,i %all1 ( c\rse1 s5d ,patrick to put 9 %rubs to replace ^? brok51 al?\gh ,i "k t ones newly plant$ _c comp5sate = ^? y h lo/1 & ,i c only ask y to accept my contrite apologies4 ,always s9c]ely y\rs1 ,ka!r9e de ,puy/] ,em95t4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,?anks ,9 ! foll[+ examples ( lett]s intimate & f "y p]sons1 su* pr(use expressions z div9e1 awfully1 petrifi$1 too sweet1 too wond]ful1 are purposely ins]t$1 because to *ange all ( ! above en?usiasms into pleas$ )1 v1 fe>$1 mo/ k9d1 w\ld be to *ange ! vitality ( ! real lett]s into smug & self-consci\s utt]ances at v>iance ) any?+ ev] writt5 by "y m5 & wom5 ( to-day4 ,ev5 ! lett]s ( old] p]sons1 al?\gh !y are m re/ra9$ ?an ^? ( y\?1 avoid any?+ sugge/+ p$antry & affectation4 ,d n f ?is suppose t well-br$ p write badly6 ,on ! contr>y1 p]fect simplicity & fre$om f self-consci\sness are possible only to ^? :o h acquir$ at lea/ "s degree ( cultivation4 ,= flagrant examples ( pret5ti\sness 7:i* is ! infallible sign ( lack ( bre$+71 see page #fa4 ,= simplicity ( expression1 su* z is unatta9able to ! re/ ( u1 b :i* we c at lea/ /rive to emulate1 read fir/ ! ,bible2 !n at r&om "o might sugge/ su* au?ors z ,rob]t ,l\is ,/ev5son1 ,e4,s4 ,m>t91 ,agnes ,reppli]1 ,john ,galswor?y & ,max ,be]bohm4 ,e4,v4 ,lucas has writt5 two novels 9 lett] =m--:i* illu/rate ! be/ type ( pres5t day lett]-writ+4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,?anks ,,= ,,w$d+ ,,pres5ts ,al?\gh all w$d+ pres5ts belong to ! bride1 %e g5]ally words h] lett]s ( ?anks z ?\gh !y belong$ equally to ! groom1 especially if !y h be5 s5t by p>ticul> fri5ds ( 84 ,to ,intimate ,fri5ds ( ! ,groom ,de> ,mrs4 ,norman3 ,to ?9k ( y\r s5d+ u all ?is wond]ful glass6 ,x is simply div9e1 & ,jim & ,i bo? ?ank y a ?\s& times6 ,! pres5ts are1 ( c\rse1 to be %[n on ! day ( ! w$d+1 b d come 9 on ,tuesday at tea "t = an e>li] view4 ,?ank+ y aga91 & ) love f u bo?1 ,affectionately1 ,m>y4 ,=mal ,i ,de> ,mrs4 ,gild+3 ,x 0 m ?an sweet ( y & ,mr4 ,gild+ to s5d u su* a lovely clock4 ,?ank y1 v1 v mu*4 ,look+ =w>d to see+ y on ! t5?1 ,v s9c]ely1 ,m>y ,smi?4 ,sometimes1 z 9 ! two examples above1 ?anks to ! husb& are def9itely express$ 9 writ+ to ! wife4 ,usually1 h[ev]1 y is und]/ood to mean y bo?4 ,,ii ,de> ,mrs4 ,worldly3 ,all my life ,i h want$ a piece ( jade1 b 9 my want+ ,i h nev] imag9$ "o q s beautiful z ! "o y h s5t me4 ,x 0 wond]fully sweet ( y & ,i ?ank y m ?an ,i c tell y = ! pleasure y h giv5 me4 ,affectionately1 ,m>y ,smi?4 ,,iii4 ,de> ,mrs4 ,em95t3 ,?ank y = ^! wond]ful pr9ts4 ,!y g too beautifully ) "s old ,engli% ones t ,jim's uncle s5t u1 & our d9+-room w be q p]fect--z to walls6 ,hop+ t y are surely com+ to ! w$d+1 ,v s9c]ely1 ,m>y ,smi?4 ,to a ,fri5d ,:o ,is 9 ,deep ,m\rn+ ,de> ,susan3 ,) all y h on y\r he>t j n[1 x 0 s sweet & ?\ghtful ( y to g out & buy me a pres5t1 & su* a beautiful "o6 ,i love x--& y\r ?\ght ( me 9 s5d+ x--& ,i ?ank y m ?an ,i c tell y4 ,devot$ly1 ,m>y4 ,v ,intimate ,de> ,aunt ,kate3 ,really y are too g5]\s--x is outrage\s ( y--b1 ( c\rse1 x is ! mo/ beautiful bracelet6 ,& ,i am s excit$ ov5 x1 ,i h>dly "k :at ,i am do+4 ,y are too good to me & y spoil me1 b ,i d love y1 & x1 & ?ank y ) all my he>t4 ,m>y4 ,intimate ,de> ,mrs4 ,neighbor3 ,! tea clo? is p]fectly exquisite6 ,i h nev] se5 su* beautiful "w6 ,i appreciate y\r lovely gift m ?an ,i c tell y1 bo? = its own sake & = y\r k9dness 9 mak+ x = me4 ,don't =get1 y are com+ 9 on ,tuesday aft]noon to see ! pres5ts4 ,lov+ly1 ,m>y4 ,sometimes pu%+ p s5d pres5ts1 :5 !y are n ask$ to ! w$d+1 9 ! hope ( an invitation4 ,sometimes o!rs s5d pres5ts1 :5 !y are n ask$1 m]ely ?r\gh k9dly feel+ t[>d a "y c\ple on ! ?re%old ( life4 ,x ought n to be difficult to di/+ui% betwe5 ! two4 ,i ,my ,de> ,mrs4 ,up/>t3 ,?ank y = ! v h&some c&le/icks y s5t u4 ,!y 7 a great surprize1 b x 0 m ?an k9d ( y to ?9k ( u4 ,v s9c]ely1 ,m>y ,smi?4 ,,ii ,de> ,mrs4 ,k9dly3 ,i c't tell y h[ sweet ,i ?9k x ( y to s5d u su* a lovely pres5t1 & ,jim & ,i bo? hope t :5 we are 9 our own home1 y w see !m (t5 at our table4 ,?ank+ y _m times = y\r ?\ght ( u1 ,v s9c]ely1 ,m>y ,smi?4 ,= a ,pres5t ,s5t ,aft] ! ,w$d+ ,de> ,mrs4 ,*att]ton3 ,! mirror y s5t u is go+ ov] our draw+-room mantel j z soon z we c hang x up6 ,x is exactly :at we mo/ ne$$ & we bo? ?ank y ev] s mu*4 ,please come 9 soon to see h[ becom+ x w be to ! room4 ,y\rs affectionately1 ,m>y ,smi? ,sm>tl+ton4 ,,?anks ,,= ,,*ri/mas ,,or ,,o!r ,,pres5ts ,de> ,lucy3 ,i really ?9k x 0 adorable ( y to h a *air l y\rs made = me4 ,x 0 wor? add+ a ye> to my age = su* a nice bir?day pres5t4 ,jack says ,i am nev] go+ to h a *ance to sit 9 x1 h[ev]1 if he gets !re fir/1 & ev5 ! *ildr5 look at x ) long+4 ,at all ev5ts1 ,i am p]fectly en*ant$ ) x1 & ?ank y ev] & ev] s mu*4 ,affectionately1 ,sally4 ,de> ,uncle ,ar?ur3 ,i "k ,i oughtn't to h op5$ x until ,*ri/mas1 b ,i c\ldn't resi/ ! look ( ! package1 & !n putt+ x on at once6 ,s ,i am all dress$ up 9 y\r beautiful *a94 ,x is "o ( ! lovelie/ ?+s ,i h ev] se5 & ,i c]ta9ly am lucky to h x giv5 to me ,i ,?ank y a ?\s&--& !n m--times = x4 ,rosalie4 ,de> ,kate3 ,i am fasc9at$ ) my utility box--x is too beguil+ = words6 ,y are ! clev]e/ "o anyway = f9d+ :at no "o else c--& e "o wants4 ,i don't "k h[ y d x6 ,& y c]ta9ly 7 sweet to ?9k ( me4 ,?ank y1 de>4 ,e!l4 ,,?anks ,,= ,,pres5t ,,to ,a ,,baby ,de> ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t3 ,( c\rse x w\ld be6 ,because no "o else c sew l y6 ,! sacque y made ! baby is ! prettie/ ?+ ,i h ev] se51 & is p]fectly adorable on h]6 ,?ank y1 z usual1 y de> ,mrs4 ,k9dh>t1 = y\r goodness to ,y\r affectionate1 ,sally4 ,de> ,mrs4 ,norman3 ,?ank y ev] s mu* = ! lovely afghan y s5t ! baby4 ,x is by f> ! prettie/ "o he has2 x is s s(t & close--he doesn't get 8 f+]s tangl$ 9 x4 ,d come 9 & see him1 won't y8 ,we are bo? all[$ visitors 7especial ones7 e day betwe5 #d & #e4cj6 ,affectionately always1 ,lucy4 ,,! ,,bread ,,& ,,butt] ,,lett] ,:5 y h be5 /ay+ ov] ,sunday1 or = long]1 9 "s "o's h\se1 x is absolutely necess>y t y write a lett] ( ?anks to y\r ho/ess )9 a few days aft] ! visit4 ,bread & butt] lett]s1 z !y are call$1 are ! /umbl+-blocks ( visitors4 ,:y !y are s difficult = ne>ly e "o is h>d to det]m9e1 unless x is t !y are (t5 writt5 to p]sons ) :om y are on =mal t]ms1 & ! lett] %\ld be some:at in=mal 9 tone4 ,v likely y h be5 visit+ a fri5d1 & mu/ write to h] "m1 :om y sc>cely "k2 p]haps y h be5 includ$ 9 a l>ge & r =mal h\se p>ty & ! ho/ess is an acqua9tance r ?an a fri5d2 or p]haps y are a bride & h be5 on a fir/ visit to relatives or old fri5ds ( y\r husb&'s1 b /rang]s1 until n[1 to y4 ,z an example ( ! fir/1 :]e y h be5 visit+ a girl fri5d & mu/ write a lett] to h] "m1 y beg9 ,de> ,mrs4 ,t[n at ! top ( a page1 & no?+ 9 ! =bidd+ memory ( ,mrs4 ,t[n enc\rages y to g fur!r4 ,x w\ld be easy en\gh to write to ,paul9e1 ! daught]4 ,v well1 write to ,paul9e !n--on an odd piece ( pap]1 9 p5cil1 :at a good "t y _h1 h[ nice x 0 to be ) h]4 ,!n copy y\r note compos$ to ,paul9e (f on ! page beg9n+ ,de> ,mrs4 ,t[n4 ,y h only to add1 love to ,paul9e1 & ?ank+ y aga9 = ask+ me1 sign x ,v s9c]ely1 & !re y are6 ,don't be afraid t y\r note is too in=mal2 old] p are always pleas$ ) any expressions f ! "y t seem fri5dly & spontane\s4 ,nev] ?9k1 because y c n easily write a lett]1 t x is bett] n to write at all4 ,! mo/ awkw>d note t c be imag9$ is bett] ?an none--= to write none is ! dep? ( rud5ess1 :]eas ! awkw>d note m]ely fails to delight4 ,,examples ,f a ,"y ,woman to a ,=mal ,ho/ess ,aft] a ,h\se ,p>ty ,de> ,mrs4 ,norman3 ,i don't "k :5 ,i ev] _h su* a good "t z ,i did at ,broadlawns4 ,?ank y a ?\s& times = ask+ me4 ,z x happ5$1 ! fir/ p]sons ,i saw on ,monday at ! ,t[ns' d9n] 7 ,celia & ,donald4 ,we imm$iately _h a ?reesome conv]sation on ! wond]ful "t we all _h ov] ,sunday4 ,?ank+ y aga9 = y\r k9dness to me1 ,v s9c]ely y\rs1 ,grace ,smalltalk4 ,to a ,=mal ,ho/ess ,aft] an ,especially ,amus+ ,week-,end ,de> ,mrs4 ,worldly3 ,e mom5t at ,great ,e/ates 0 a p]fect delight6 ,i am afraid my "w at ! (fice ?is morn+ 0 d[n to z]o 9 effici5cy2 s p]haps x is j z well1 if ,i am to keep my job1 t ! av]age week-end 9 ! c\ntry is diff]5t--v4 ,?ank y all ! same1 = ! wond]ful "t y gave u all1 & believe me ,fai?fully y\rs1 ,fr$]ick ,ba*elor4 ,de> ,mrs4 ,worldly3 ,e "t ,i come f ,great ,e/ates1 ,i realize aga9 t !re is no h\se to :i* ,i always g ) s mu* pleasure1 & leave on ,monday morn+ ) s mu* regret4 ,y\r p>ty ov] ?is la/ week-end 0 simply wond]ful6 ,& ?ank y ev] s mu* = hav+ includ$ me4 ,always s9c]ely1 ,con/ance ,/yle4 ,f a ,"y ,c\ple ,de> ,mrs4 ,t[n3 ,we _h a p]fect "t at ,tux$o ov] ,sunday & x 0 s good ( y to include u4 ,jack says he is go+ to practise putt+ ! way ,mr4 ,t[n %[$ him1 & maybe ! next "t he plays 9 a f\rsome he won't be su* a h&icap to 8 p>tn]4 ,?ank+ y bo? = ! pleasure y gave u1 ,affectionately y\rs1 ,sally ,ti!r+ton ,littleh\se ,f a ,bride to ,h] ,new ,relatives-9-,law ,a lett] t 0 writt5 by a bride aft] pay+ a fir/ visit to h] husb&'s aunt & uncle won = h] at a /roke ! love ( ! :ole family4 ,?is is ! lett]3 ,de> ,aunt ,annie3 ,n[ t x is all ov]1 ,i h a confession to make6 ,d y "k t :5 ,dick drove me up to y\r front door & ,i saw y & ,uncle ,bob /&+ on ! top /ep--,i 0 simply p>alyz$ ) fright6 ,suppose !y don't l me1 0 all t ,i c\ld ?9k4 ,( c\rse1 ,i knew y lov$ ,dick--b t only made x worse4 ,h[ awful1 if y c\ldn't l me6 ,! reason ,i /umbl$ com+ up ! /eps 0 because my knees 7 actually knock+ toge!r6 ,y rememb]1 ,uncle ,bob sang out x 0 good ,i 0 already m>ri$1 or ,i w\ldn't be ?is ye>8 ,& !n--y 7 bo? s p]fectly adorable to me--& y made me feel z ?\gh ,i _h always be5 y\r niece--& n j ! wife ( y\r nephew4 ,i lov$ e m9ute ( our be+ ) y1 de> ,aunt ,annie1 j z mu* z ,dick did1 & we hope y are go+ to let u come soon aga94 ,) be/ love f u bo?1 ,y\r affectionate niece1 ,hel54 ,! above type ( lett] w\ld n s]ve p]haps if ,dick's aunt _h be5 a =bidd+ & au/]e type ( woman2 b ev5 su* a "o w\ld be f> m apt to take a new niece to h] he>t if ! new niece h]self gave evid5ce ( hav+ "o4 ,aft] ,visit+ a ,fri5d ,de> ,kate3 ,x 0 hide\sly dull & /uffy 9 t[n ?is morn+ aft] ! fre% coolness ( ,/r&holm4 ,! back y>d is n an allur+ outlook aft] ! wide spaces & delici\s fragrance ( y\r g>d54 ,x 0 good be+ ) y & ,i enjoy$ e mom5t4 ,don't =get y are lun*+ "h on ! #af? & t we are go+ to he> ,kreisl] toge!r4 ,devot$ly always1 ,c>ol9e4 ,f a ,man ,:o ,has ,be5 ,ill & ,convalesc+ at a ,fri5d's ,h\se ,de> ,m>?a3 ,i c]ta9ly hat$ tak+ t tra9 ?is morn+ & realiz+ t ! end _h come to my peaceful days4 ,y & ,john & ! *ildr51 & y\r place1 :i* is ! ess5ce ( all t a home ought to be1 h put me on my feet aga94 ,i ?ank y mu*--mu* m ?an ,i c say = ! wond]ful goodness ( all ( y4 ,fr$4 ,f a ,woman ,:o ,has ,be5 ,visit+ a ,v ,old ,fri5d ,i lov$ my visit ) y1 de> ,m>y2 x 0 m ?an good to be ) y & h a *ance = long talks at y\r fireside4 ,don't =get y\r promise to come "h 9 ,may6 ,i told ,sam & ,hettie y 7 com+1 & n[ ! :ole t[n is r++ ) ! news1 & e "o is plann+ a p>ty = y4 ,david s5ds 8 be/ to y & ,*>lie1 & y "k y always h ! love ( ,y\r devot$ ,pat4 ,to an ,acqua9tance ,aft] a visit to a =mal acqua9tance or :5 "s "o has %[n y especial hospitality 9 a city :]e y are a /rang]3 ,my de> ,mrs4 ,dulu?3 ,x 0 m ?an good ( y to give my husb& & me s mu* pleasure4 ,we enjoy$1 & appreciat$1 all y\r k9dness to u m ?an we c say4 ,we hope t y & ,mr4 ,dulu? may be com+ ,ea/ be=e long & t we may !n h ! pleasure ( see+ y at ,/r&holm4 ,9 ! mean:ile1 ?ank+ y = y\r g5]\s hospitality1 & ) k9de/ reg>ds to y bo?1 9 :i* my husb& jo9s1 believe me1 ,v s9c]ely y\rs1 ,ka!r9e de ,puy/] ,em95t4 ,,an ,,engrav$ ,,c>d ,,( ,,?anks ,an engrav$ c>d ( ?anks is prop] only :5 s5t by a public (ficial to ackn[l$ge ! ov]:elm+ numb] ( congratulatory messages he mu/ inevitably receive f /rang]s1 :5 he has c>ri$ an election or o!rwise be5 honor$ ) ! confid5ce ( 8 ,/ate or c\ntry4 ,a rec5t & excell5t example foll[s3 ,,executive ,,mansion ,my de>4444 ,i w>mly appreciate y\r k9d message ( congratulation :i* has giv5 me a great deal ( pleasure1 & s9c]ely wi% t x 7 possible = me to ackn[l$ge x 9 a less =mal mann]4 ,fai?fully1 7sign$ by h&7 ,an engrav$ =m ( ?anks = sympa?y1 also f "o 9 public life1 is pres5t$ 9 ! foll[+ example3 ,mr4 ,john ,smi? wi%es to express 8 deep gratitude & to ?ank y = y\r k9d expression ( sympa?y ,b rememb]3 an engrav$ c>d s5t by a private individual to a p]sonal fri5d1 is n /yli% or sm>t1 b rude4 7,see also engrav$ ackn[l$gm5t ( sympa?y1 pages #djf-g47 ,,! ,,lett] ,,( ,,introduction ,a lett] ( bus9ess introduction c be mu* m freely giv5 ?an a lett] ( social introduction4 ,= ! =m] x is necess>y m]ely t ! p]sons introduc$ h bus9ess int]e/s 9 common--:i* are mu* m easily det]m9$ ?an social compatibility1 :i* is ! requisite necess>y = ! latt]4 ,x is1 ( c\rse1 prop] to give y\r p]sonal repres5tative a lett] ( introduction to :omev] y s5d him4 ,on ! subject ( lett]s ( social introduction !re is "o *ief rule3 ,nev] ask = lett]s ( introduction1 & be v sp>+ 9 y\r (f]s to write or accept !m4 ,seem+ly few p]sons realize t a lett] ( social introduction is actually a draft = paym5t on dem&4 ,! =m might z well be3 ,! be>] ( ?is has 7because ( x7 ! "r to dem& y\r int]e/1 y\r "t1 y\r hospitality--lib]ally & at once1 no matt] :at y\r incl9ation may be4 ,!re=e1 x is f> bett] to refuse 9 ! beg9n+1 ?an to h$ge & end by committ+ ! great] error ( unw>rant$ly inconv5i5c+ a valu$ fri5d or acqua9tance4 ,:5 y h a fri5d :o is go+ to a city :]e y h o!r fri5ds1 & y believe t x w be a mutual pleasure = !m to meet1 a lett] ( introduction is prop] & v easy to write1 b s5t to a casual acqua9tance--no matt] h[ attractive or di/+ui%$ ! p]son to be introduc$--x is a gross presumption4 ,,! ,,m ,,=mal ,,note ,,( ,,introduction ,de> ,mrs4 ,m>ks3 ,julian ,gibbs is go+ to ,buffalo on ,janu>y t5? to deliv] a lecture on 8 ,pol> exp$ition1 & ,i am s5d+ him a c>d ( introduction to y4 ,he is v agreeable p]sonally1 & ,i ?9k t p]haps y & ,mr4 ,m>ks w enjoy meet+ him z mu* z ,i "k he w\ld enjoy kn[+ y4 ,) k9de/ reg>ds1 9 :i* ,ar?ur jo9s1 ,v s9c]ely1 ,e!l ,norman4 ,if ,mr4 ,norman 7 introduc+ "o man to ano!r he w\ld give 8 c>d to ! =m]1 inscrib$ z foll[s3 ,,hw3 ,introduc+ ,julian ,gibbs ,,mr4 ,,ar?ur ,,lees ,,norman ,,broadlawns ,also ,mr4 ,norman w\ld s5d a private lett] by mail1 tell+ 8 fri5d t ,mr4 ,gibbs is com+1 z foll[s3 ,de> ,m>ks3 ,i am giv+ ,julian ,gibbs a c>d ( introduction to y :5 he goes to ,buffalo on ! t5? to lecture4 ,he is an ent]ta9+ & v dec5t fell[1 & ,i ?9k possibly ,mrs4 ,m>ks w\ld enjoy meet+ him4 ,if y c conv5i5tly ask him to y\r h\se1 ,i "k he w\ld appreciate x2 if n1 p]haps y w put him up = a day or two at a club4 ,fai?fully1 ,ar?ur ,norman4 ,,in=mal ,,lett] ,,( ,,introduction ,de> ,claire3 ,a v great fri5d ( ours1 ,james ,dawson1 is to be 9 ,*icago = sev]al weeks4 ,any k9dness t y c %[ him w be greatly appreciat$ by ,y\rs z always1 ,e!l ,norman4 ,at ! same "t a second & private lett] ( in=mation is writt5 & s5t by mail3 ,de> ,claire3 ,i wrote y a lett] to-day introduc+ ,jim ,dawson4 ,he us$ to be on ! ,yalv>d football team1 p]haps y rememb]4 ,he is "o ( ! be/ sort 9 ! _w & ,i "k y w l him4 ,i don't want to put y to any tr\ble1 b d ask him to y\r h\se if y c4 ,he plays a wond]ful game ( golf & a good game ( bridge1 b he is m a man's ?an a woman's type ( man4 ,maybe if ,tom likes him1 he w put him up at a club z he is to be 9 ,*icago = "s weeks4 ,affectionately always1 ,e!l4 ,ano!r example3 ,de> ,c>ol9e3 ,a v de> fri5d ( m9e1 ,mrs4 ,fr$ ,we/1 is go+ to be 9 ,new ,york ?is w9t]1 :ile h] daught] is at ,b>n>d4 ,i am ask+ h] to take ?is lett] to y z ,i want v mu* to h h] meet y & h h] daught] meet ,paul9e4 ,any?+ t y c d = !m w be ! same z = me6 ,y\rs affectionately1 ,sylvia ,greatlake4 ,! private lett] by mail to accompany ! =ego+3 ,de>e/ ,c>ol9e3 ,mildr$ ,we/1 = :om ,i wrote to y ?is morn+1 is a v close fri5d ( m9e4 ,%e is go+ to ,new ,york ) h] only daught]--:o1 9 spite ( want+ a college education1 is z pretty z a picture1 ) pl5ty ( come-hi!r 9 ! eye--s d n be afraid t ! typical blue-/ock+ is to be ?ru/ ^u ,paul9e6 ,! "m is an altoge!r lovely p]son & ,i "k t y & %e w speak ! same language--if ,i didn't1 ,i w\ldn't give h] a lett] to y4 ,d g to see h] z soon z y c2 %e w be /opp+ at ! ,fitz-,*]ry & probably feel+ r lo/ at fir/4 ,%e wants to take an ap>tm5t = ! w9t] & ,i told h] ,i 0 sure y w\ld "k ! be/ real e/ate & intellig5ce (fices1 etc41 = h] to g to4 ,i hope ,i am n putt+ y to any tr\ble ab\t h]1 b %e is really a d>l+ & y w l h] ,i "k4 ,devot$ly y\rs1 ,sylvia4 ,directions = proc$ure ^u be+ giv5 7or receiv+7 a lett] ( introduction w be f\nd on pages #af & #ag4 ,,! ,,?ird ,,p]son ,9 o!r days :5 ev5 v]bal messages began ) ! pres5t+ ( complim5ts1 a social note1 no matt] :at its l5g? or purport1 w\ld h be5 consid]$ rude1 unless writt5 9 ! ?ird p]son4 ,b z 9 a communication ( any l5g? ! difficulty ( ?is =m is almo/ insurm\ntable 7to say no?+ ( ! p$antic effect ( its accompli%m5t71 x is no long] *os5--aside f ! =mal invitation1 acceptance & regret--except = notes to /ores or subord9ates4 ,= example3 ,w ,b4 ,/]n ,co4 please s5d 7& *>ge7 to ,mrs4 ,john ,h4 ,smi?1 #b ,madison ,av5ue1 #a pap] ( ne$les ,no4 #i #b spools :ite sew+ ,cotton ,no4 #gj #a y>d ( mat]ial 7sample enclos$74 ,janu>y #f4 ,to a s]vant3 ,mrs4 ,em95t wi%es ,patrick to meet h] at ! /ation on ,tuesday ! eigh? at #aa4jc4 ,%e also wi%es him to h ! %utt]s op5$ & ! h\se air$ on t day1 & a fire light$ 9 ! nor?we/ room4 ,no provisions w be necess>y z ,mrs4 ,em95t is return+ to t[n on ! #e4af4 ,tuesday1 ,m>* #a4 ,lett]s 9 ! ?ird p]son are no long] sign$ unless ! s5d]'s signature is necess>y = id5tification1 or = "s action on ! "p ( ! receiv]1 su* z ,w ,mr4 ,ca% please give ! be>] six y>ds ( mat]ial to mat* ! sample enclos$1 & oblige1 ,mrs4 ,john ,h4 ,smi?4,a ,footnote ,a3 ,a note 9 #crd p]son is ! s+le occasion :5 a m>ri$ woman signs ,mrs4 be=e h] "n4 ,,! ,,lett] ,,( ,,recomm5dation ,a lett] ( recomm5dation = memb]%ip to a club is address$ to ! secret>y & %\ld be some:at 9 ?is =m3 ,to ! ,secret>y ( ! ,t[n ,club4 ,my de> ,mrs4 ,br[n3 ,mrs4 ,ti!r+ton ,smi?1 ^: "n is po/$ = memb]%ip1 is a v old & close fri5d ( m9e4 ,%e is ! daught] ( ! late ,rev4 ,samuel ,em95t & is !re=e a memb] 9 h] own "r1 z well z by m>riage1 ( repres5tative ,new ,york families4 ,%e is a p]son ( mu* *>m & di/9ction1 & h] _m fri5ds w agree ) me1 ,i am sure1 9 ?9k+ t %e w\ld be a valuable addition to ! club4 ,v s9c]ely1 ,e!l ,norman4 ,,recomm5dation ,,( ,,employees ,al?\gh ! writt5 recomm5dation t is giv5 to ! employee c>ries v little weight1 comp>$ to ! slip f ! employm5t ag5cies :]e ei!r yes or no has to be answ]$ to a li/ ( specific & important que/ions1 "o is nev]!less put 9 a try+ position :5 report+ on an unsatisfactory s]vant4 ,ei!r a poor ref]5ce mu/ be giv5--possibly prev5t+ a s]vant f e>n+ h] liv+--or "o has to write :at is n true4 ,consequ5tly x has become ! cu/om to say :at "o tru?fully c ( good1 & leave out ! qualifications t are bad 7except 9 ! case ( a c>eless nurse1 :]e evasion w\ld bord] on ! crim9al74 ,t solves ! poor recomm5dation problem pretty well2 b unless "o is v c>eful ?is consid]ation = ! poor "o1 is paid = by ! good4 ,9 writ+ = a v wor?y s]vant !re=e1 x is ( ! utmo/ importance 9 fairness to h] 7or him7 to put 9 e m]it t y c ?9k (1 rememb]+ t omission implies dem]it 9 ea* trait ( "* n m5tion$4 ,all good ref]5ces %\ld include hone/y1 sobriety1 capability1 & a reason1 o!r ?an _! unsatisfactor9ess1 = _! leav+4 ,! recomm5dation = a nurse c n be too consci5ti\sly writt54 ,a lady does n beg9 a recomm5dation3 ,to :om x may conc]n1 nor ,?is is to c]tify1 al?\gh h\sekeep]s & head s]vants writ+ recomm5dations use bo? ( ^! =ms1 & ?ird p]son lett]s1 are frequ5tly writt5 by secret>ies4 ,a lady 9 giv+ a good ref]5ce %\ld write3 ,two ,hundr$ ,p>k ,squ>e4 ,selma ,johnson has liv$ ) me = two ye>s z cook4 ,i h f\nd h] hone/1 sob]1 indu/ri\s1 neat 9 h] p]son z well z h] "w1 ( amiable disposition & a v good cook4 ,%e is leav+ to my great regret because ,i am clos+ my h\se = ! w9t]4 ,selma is an excell5t s]vant 9 e way & ,i %all be glad to answ] p]sonally any inquiries ab\t h]4 ,joseph9e ,smi?4 7,mrs4 ,ti!r+ton ,smi?7 ,octob]1 #aiba4 ,! =m ( all recomm5dations is ! same3 ---- has liv$ ) me ---- mon?s ye>s z ----4 ,i h f\nd him_/ h] ----4 ,he_/,%e is leav+ because ----4 7,any special rem>k ( add$ recomm5dation or %[+ int]e/7 ---- 7,mrs4 ----7 ,date4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,congratulation ,,lett] ,,( ,,congratulation ,,on ,,engagem5t ,de> ,m>y3 ,:ile we are n altoge!r surpriz$1 we are bo? delight$ to he> ! good news4 ,jim's family & ours are v close1 z y "k1 & we h always be5 especially devot$ to ,jim4 ,he is "o ( ! f9e/--& n[ luckie/1 ( "y m51 & we s5d y bo? e good wi% = all possible happ9ess4 ,affectionately1 ,e!l ,norman4 ,j a l9e1 de> ,jim1 to tell y h[ glad we all are to he> ( y\r happ9ess4 ,m>y is ev]y?+ t is lovely &1 ( c\rse1 f our po9t ( view1 we don't ?9k h] exactly un=tunate ei!r6 ,e good wi% t imag9ation c ?9k ( goes to y f y\r old fri5ds4 ,e!l & ,ar?ur ,norman4 ,i c't tell y1 de>e/ ,m>y1 ( all ! wi%es ,i s5d = y\r happ9ess4 ,give ,jim my love & tell him h[ lucky ,i ?9k he is1 & h[ mu* ,i hope all good =tune w come to y bo?4 ,lov+ly1 ,aunt ,kate4 ,,congratulation ,,on ,,"s ,,especial ,,success ,my de> ,mrs4 ,br[n3 ,we h j he>d ( ! honors t y\r son has won4 ,h[ pr\d y mu/ be ( him6 ,we are bo? s glad = him & = y4 ,please congratulate him = u1 & believe me1 ,v s9c]ely1 ,e!l ,norman4 ,or3 ,de> ,mrs4 ,br[n3 ,we are s glad to he> ! good news ( ,david's success2 x 0 a v spl5did accompli%m5t & we are all s pr\d ( him & ( y4 ,please give him our love & congratulations1 & ) full measure ( bo? to y1 ,affectionately1 ,m>?a ,k9dh>t4 ,,congratulat+ ,a ,,fri5d ,,appo9t$ ,,to ,,high ,,(fice ,de> ,john3 ,we are ov]joy$ at ! good news6 ,= once ! rew>d has fall5 :]e x is des]v$4 ,c]ta9ly no "o is bett] fitt$ ?an y\rself = a diplomat's life1 & we "k y w fill ! position to ! honor ( y\r c\ntry4 ,please give my love to ,alice1 & ) r5ew$ congratulations to y f u bo?4 ,y\rs always1 ,e!l ,norman4 ,ano!r example3 ,de> ,mi*ael3 ,we all rejoice ) y 9 ! confirmation ( y\r appo9tm5t4 ,! ,/ate ne$s j su* m5 z y--if we _h m ( y\r sort ! ord9>y citiz5 w\ld h less to worry ab\t4 ,our be/ congratulations6 ,john ,k9dh>t4 ,,! ,,lett] ,,( ,,condol5ce ,intimate lett]s ( condol5ce are l love lett]s1 9 t !y are too sacr$ to foll[ a set =m4 ,"o rule1 & "o only1 %\ld guide y 9 writ+ su* lett]s4 ,say :at y truly feel4 ,say t & no?+ else4 ,sit d[n at y\r desk1 let y\r ?\ghts dwell on ! p]son y are writ+ to4 ,don't dwell on ! details ( illness or ! mann] ( dea?2 don't quote endlessly f ! poets & ,scriptures4 ,rememb] t eyes film$ ) te>s & an a*+ he>t c n foll[ rhetorical l5g?s ( writ+4 ,! m ne>ly a note c express a h&-clasp1 a ?\ght ( sympa?y1 above all1 a g5u9e love or appreciation ( ! "o :o has gone1 ! great] com=t x br+s4 ,write z simply z possible & let y\r he>t speak z truly & z briefly z y c4 ,=get1 if y c1 t y are us+ writt5 words1 ?9k m]ely h[ y feel--!n put y\r feel+s on pap]--t is all4 ,suppos+ x is a "y "m :o has di$4 ,y ?9k h[ "y & sweet %e 0--& ( h] little *ildr51 &1 lit]ally1 y\r he>t a*es = !m & h] husb& & h] own family4 ,into y\r ?\ghts mu/ come "s expression ( :at %e 01 & :at _! loss mu/ be6 ,or maybe x is ! dea? ( a man :o has left a place 9 ! :ole community t w be difficult1 if n impossible1 to fill1 & y ?9k ( all he /ood = t 0 f9e & helpful to o!rs1 & h[ mu* & sorely he w be miss$4 ,or suppose t y are a return$ soldi]1 & x is a pal :o has di$4 ,all y c ?9k ( is ,poor old ,/eve--:at a pea* he 06 ,i don't ?9k any?+ w ev] be ! same aga9 )\t him4 ,say j t6 ,ask if !re is any?+ y c d at any "t to be ( s]vice to 8 p4 ,!re is no?+ m to be said4 ,a l9e1 into :i* y h unconsci\sly put a little ( ! g5u9e feel+ t y _h = ,/eve1 is wor? pages ( eloqu5ce4 ,a lett] ( condol5ce may be abrupt1 badly con/ruct$1 ungrammatical--nev] m9d4 ,grace ( expression c\nts = no?+2 s9c]ity alone is ( value4 ,x is ! expression1 h[ev] clumsily put1 ( a p]sonal some?+ :i* 0 lov$1 & w ev] be miss$1 t alone br+s solace to ^? :o are left4 ,y\r message may speak m]ely ( a small incid5t--some?+ s trifl+ t 9 ! s]i\sness ( ! pres5t1 seems n wor? record+2 b y\r lett] & t ( _m o!rs1 ea* br++ a s+le sprig1 may plant a :ole memory-g>d5 9 ! he>ts ( ! b]eav$4 ,,examples ,,( ,,notes ,,& ,,telegrams ,z has be5 said above1 a lett] ( condol5ce mu/ above ev]y?+ express a g5u9e s5tim5t4 ,! few examples are ins]t$ m]ely z sugge/ive guides = ^? at a loss to con/ruct a %ort b appropriate note or telegram4 ,conv5tional ,note to an ,acqua9tance ,i "k h[ little ! words ( an outsid] mean to y j n[--b ,i mu/ tell y h[ deeply ,i sympa?ize ) y 9 y\r great loss4 ,note or ,telegram to a ,fri5d ,all my sympa?y & all my ?\ghts are ) y 9 y\r great sorr[4 ,if ,i c be ( any s]vice to y1 y "k h[ grateful ,i %all be4 ,telegram to a ,v ,ne> ,relative or ,fri5d ,words are s empty6 ,if only ,i knew h[ to fill !m ) love & s5d !m to y4 ,or3 ,if love & ?\ghts c\ld only help y1 ,m>g>et de>1 y %\ld h all ! /r5g? ( bo? t ,i c give4 ,lett] ,:]e ,dea? ,0 ,release ,! lett] to "o ^: loss is = ! be/ is difficult 9 t y want to express sympa?y b c n feel sad t "o :o has long suff]$ has f\nd release4 ,! expression ( sympa?y 9 ?is case %\ld n be = ! pres5t dea?1 b = ! illness1 or :atev] x 0 t fell long ago4 ,! grief = a p>alys$ "m is = ! /roke :i* cut h] d[n _m ye>s be=e1 & y\r sympa?y1 ?\gh y may n h realiz$ x1 is = t4 ,y might write3 ,y\r sorr[ dur+ all ^! ye>s--& n[--is 9 my he>t2 & all my ?\ghts & sympa?y are ) y4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,address ,,important ,,p]sonages ,if y ,=mal are speak+1 beg9n+ ( y say3 ,envelope address$3 a lett]3 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,! ,presid5t ,mr4 ,presid5t ,! ,presid5t ( ! ,sir3 ,& occasionally ,unit$ ,/ates ?r\gh\t a or m]ely conv]sation1 ,! ,presid5t1 ,sir4 ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 7,!re is only "o ,presid5t7 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,! ,mr4 ,vice-,presid5t ,! ,vice-,presid5t1 ,sir3 ,vice-,presid5t & !n1 ,sir4 ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,ju/ice ( ,mr4 ,ju/ice ,! ,hon4 ,william ,h4 ,taft1 ,sir3 ,supreme ,c\rt ,*ief ,ju/ice ( ! ,supreme ,c\rt1 ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,memb] ( ! ,mr4 ,secret>y ,! ,secret>y ( ,comm]ce1 ,de> ,sir3 ,presid5t's ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 or3 or ,cab9et ,! ,hon4 ,h]b]t ,hoov]1 ,sir3 ,secret>y ( ,comm]ce1 ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,unit$ ,/ates ,s5ator ,lodge ,s5ator ,h5ry ,cabot ,lodge1 ,de> ,sir3 7or ,/ate7 ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 or ,s5ator or a private lett]3 ,sir3 ,s5ator ,h5ry ,cabot ,lodge1 7,8 h\se address7 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,memb] ( ,mr4 ,bell ,! ,hon4 ,h4,c4 ,bell1 ,jr41 ,de> ,sir3 ,congress 7or or1 y may say ,h\se ( ,repres5tatives1 or ,legislature7 ,congressman ,wa%+ton1 ,d4,c4 ,sir3 or3 ,/ate ,assembly1 ,albany1 ,new ,york4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,gov]nor ,gov]nor ,mill] ,8 ,excell5cy1 ,! 7,! ,gov]nor is ,gov]nor1 ,y\r n call$ ,albany1 ,new ,york4 ,excell5cy3 ,excell5cy :5 spok5 to & v r>ely :5 he is ann\nc$4 ,b lett]s are address$ & begun ) ?is title ( c\rtesy47 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,mayor ,mr4 ,mayor ,8 ,honor ! ,mayor1 ,de> ,sir3 ,city ,hall1 ,*icago4 or ,sir3 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,c>d9al ,y\r ,em95ce ,8 ,em95ce ,john ,c>d9al ,y\r ,gibbons1 ,baltimore1 ,md4 ,em95ce3 7section #b7 ,in=mal ,correct titles 9 beg9n+3 ,=mal ,close3 ,in=mal close3 introduction3 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,my de> ,mr4 ,i h ! honor to ,presid5t3 rema91 ,i h ! honor to ,mo/ respectfully rema91 y\rs1 ,y\rs fai?fully1 or or ,! ,presid5t4 ,i h ! honor to ,i am1 de> rema91 sir1 ,mr4 ,presid5t1 ,y\r mo/ ob$i5t ,y\rs fai?fully4 s]vant4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,my de> ,same z = ,believe me1 ,! ,mr4 ,vice ,presid5t4 ,y\rs fai?fully4 ,vice-,presid5t4 ,presid5t3 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,de> ,mr4 ,believe me1 ,! ,*ief ,ju/ice ,ju/ice ,y\rs v truly1 or1 ,taft3 or ,believe me1 if an ,i h ! honor to ,y\rs fai?fully4 ,associate ,ju/ice1 rema91 ,mr4 ,ju/ice ,y\rs v truly4 ,holmes4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,my de> ,mr4 ,! ,secret>y ,secret>y3 ,same z above4 ,same z above4 ( ,comm]ce4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,de> ,s5ator ,s5ator ,lodge4 ,lodge3 ,on v =mal ,same z above4 ,same z above4 & unusual occasions1 ,s5ator ,lodge ( ,massa*usetts4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,de> ,mr4 ,bell4 ,mr4 ,bell3 ,believe me1 or ,y\rs v truly4 ,y\rs fai?fully4 ,de> ,congressman3 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,de> ,! ,gov]nor ,gov]nor ,i h ! honor to ,believe me1 79 8 own /ate7 ,mill]3 rema91 ,y\rs fai?fully4 or1 7out ( x17 ,y\rs fai?fully4 ,! ,gov]nor ( ,mi*igan4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,de> ,mayor ,believe me1 ,y\rs fai?fully4 ,mayor ,rolph4 ,rolph3 ,v truly y\rs4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,y\r ,i h ! honor to ,em95ce3 rema91 ,y\r ,em95ce's ,8 ,em95ce4 ,y\r ,em95ce's humble s]vant4 humble s]vant4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,address ,,important ,,p]sonages ,if y are ,envelope ,=mal beg9n+ speak+1 y say3 address$3 ( a lett] ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,roman ,ca?olic ,y\r ,grace ,! ,mo/ ,rev]5d ,mo/ ,rev]5d ,ar*bi%op ,mi*ael ,corrigan1 & de> ,sir3 7,!re is no ,ar*bi%op ( ,prote/ant ,new ,york4 ,ar*bi%op 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates7 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,bi%op ,bi%op ,mann+ ,to ! ,"r ,rev]5d ,mo/ ,rev]5d 7,:e!r ,roman ,william ,t4 ,mann+1 & de> ,sir3 ,ca?olic or ,bi%op ( ,new ,york4 ,prote/ant47 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,prie/ ,fa!r or ,! ,rev4 ,rev]5d ,fa!r ,duffy ,mi*ael ,duffy4 & de> ,sir3 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,prote/ant ,mr4 ,sa9tly ,! ,rev4 ,geo4 ,sir3 ,cl]gyman 7,if he is ,d4,d4 or ,sa9tly4 7,if y d or ,,ll4,d41 y call him n "k 8 fir/ ,my de> ,sir3 ,dr4 ,sa9tly47 "n1 write ,! ,rev4 444 ,sa9tly4 r ?an ! ,rev4 ,mr4 ,sa9tly7 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,rabbi ,rabbi ,wise ,dr4 ,/eph5 ,wise1 ,de> ,sir3 7,if he is ,d4,d4 or or ,rabbi ,/eph5 ,,ll4,d41 he is call$ ,wise1 or ,rev4 ,dr4 ,wise7 ,/eph5 ,wise4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,ambassador ,y\r ,excell5cy ,8 ,excell5cy ,y\r or ,! ,am]ican ,excell5cy3 ,mr4 ,ambassador ,ambassador1,b ,am]ican ,embassy1 ,london4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,m9i/] ,9 ,engli% he is ,! ,hon4 ,j4,d4 ,sir3 is ,pl5i- usually call$ ,mr4 ,pr9ce1 ,am]ican correct b1 pot5ti>y ,pr9ce1 ?\gh x ,legation1 ,y\r is n incorrect to ,cop5hag51 or ,excell5cy3 call him ,mr4 7m c\rte\sly7 is sometimes ,m9i/]4 ,! ,8 ,excell5cy1 ,! us$ 9 title ,excell5cy ,am]ican ,m9i/]1 c\rtesy4 is also occasionally ,cop5hag51 ,d5m>k us$ 9 c\rtesy1 ?\gh x does n belong to him4 ,9 ,fr5* he is always call$ ,monsieur le ,m9i/re ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- ,consul ,mr4 ,smi? ,if he has held (fice ,sir3 z assemblyman or or commission]1 s t ,my de> ,sir3 he has ! "r to ! title ( ,honorable is address$3 ,! ,hon4 ,john ,smi?1 o!rwise3 ,john ,smi?1 ,esq41 ,am]ican ,consul1 ,rue ,quelque ,*ose1 ,p>is4 7section #b7 ,correct ,in=mal ,in=mal titles 9 beg9n+3 ,=mal close3 close3 introduction3 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,mo/ ,rev]5d ,i h ! honor ,same z =mal ,! ,mo/ & ,de> ,sir3 to rema91 close4 ,rev]5d ,! ,y\r humble s]vant1 ,ar*bi%op4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,my ,de> ,bi%op ,i h ! honor to ,fai?fully ,bi%op ,mann+3 rema91 ,y\r ob$i5t y\rs4 ,mann+4 s]vant1 or1 to rema91 ,respectfully y\rs1 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,de> ,fa!r ,i beg to rema91 ,fai?fully ,fa!r ,duffy3 ,y\rs fai?fully1 y\rs4 ,duffy4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,de> ,dr4 ,sa9tly3 ,same z above1 ,fai?fully ,dr4 7or ,mr47 7or ,de> ,mr4 y\rs1 or ,sa9tly ,sa9tly if he is ,s9c]ely n a ,d4,d47 y\rs1 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,de> ,dr4 ,wise3 ,i beg to rema91 ,y\rs ,rabbi ,wise4 ,y\rs s9c]ely1 s9c]ely1 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,de> ,mr4 ,i h ! honor to ,y\rs ,! ,ambassador3 rema91 ,y\rs fai?fully1 ,am]ican fai?fully1 or1 ,y\rs ,ambassador4 v truly1 or1 ,y\rs respectfully4 or v =mally3 ,i h ! honor to rema91 sir1 y\r ob$i5t s]vant4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,de> ,mr4 ,same z above4 ,y\rs ,mr4 ,pr9ce1 ,m9i/]3 fai?fully1 ! ,am]ican or ,de> ,m9i/]1 or ,mr4 ,pr9ce3 m]ely1 ,! ,am]ican ,m9i/] z ev]yone is suppos$ to "k 8 "n or f9d x out4 ---------------------------------------- ------------------------------------ ,de> ,mr4 ,smi?3 ,i beg to rema91 ,fai?fully1 ,mr4 ,smi? ,y\rs v truly4 ,footnote ,b3 ,al?\gh our ,ambassadors & ,m9i/]s repres5t ! ,unit$ ,/ates ( ,am]ica1 x is cu/om>y bo? 9 ,europe & ,asia to omit ! words ,unit$ ,/ates & write to & speak ( ! ,am]ican ,embassy & ,legation4 ,9 address+ a lett] to "o ( our repres5tatives 9 c\ntries ( ! ,we/]n ,hemisph]e1 ,! ,unit$ ,/ates ( ,am]ica is always specifi$ by way ( c\rtesy to ! ,am]icans ( ,s\? ,am]ica4 ,=eign p]sons ( title are n includ$ 9 ! =ego+ diagram because an ,am]ican 7unless 9 ! ,diplomatic ,s]vice7 w\ld be unlikely to address any b p]sonal fri5ds1 to :om he w\ld write z to any o!rs4 ,an envelope w\ld be address$ 9 ! language ( ! p]son writt5 to3 ,8 ,grace1 ! ,duke ( ,ov]!re 7or m]ely ,! ,duke ( ,ov]!re71 ,hyde ,p>k1 ,london2 ,mme4 la ,pr9cess d',acacia1 ,ave4 du ,bois1 ,p>is2 ,il ,pr9cipe di ,capri1 ,cusano sul ,seveso2 ,lady ,alw91 ,cragm]e1 ,scotl&1 etc4 ,! lett] w\ld beg91 ,de> ,duke ( ,ov]!re 7or ,de> ,duke71 ,de> ,pr9cess1 ,de> ,c\ntess ,aix1 ,de> ,lady ,alw91 ,de> ,sir ,hub]t1 etc41 & close1 ,s9c]ely1 ,fai?fully1 or ,affectionately1 z ! case might be4 ,%\ld an ,am]ican h occasion to write to ,royalty he w\ld beg93 ,madam 7or ,sir71 & end3 ,i h ! honor to rema91 madam 7or ,sir71 y\r mo/ ob$i5t4 7,y\r mo/ ob$i5t s]vant is a signature res]v$ usually = our own ,presid5t--or ,vice-,presid5t47 ,,*apt] ,,xxviii ,,long] ,,lett]s ,! art ( g5]al lett]-writ+ 9 ! pres5t day is %r9k+ until ! lett] ?reat5s to become a telegram1 a telephone message1 a po/-c>d4 ,s9ce ! ev5ts ( ! day are transmitt$ 9 newspap]s ) f> great] accuracy1 detail1 & dispat* ?an !y c\ld be by ! s+le ef=t ( ev5 ,voltaire himself1 ! circulation ( g5]al news1 :i* =m$ ! *ief reason = lett]s ( ! /age-coa* & sail+-vessel days1 has no "p 9 ! correspond5ce ( to-day4 ,tak+ ! cont5ts ( an av]age mail bag z sort$ 9 a ,unit$ ,/ates po/-(fice1 ab\t fifty p] c5t4 is probably adv]tisem5t or appeal1 =ty p] c5t4 bus9ess1 & sc>cely t5 p] c5t4 p]sonal lett]s & invitations4 ,( c\rse1 love lett]s are probably z num]\s z ne$ be1 ?\gh ! long di/ance telephone mu/ h l[]$ ! av]age ( ^!1 too4 ,"y girls write to ea* o!r1 no d\bt1 mu* z !y did 9 old5 times1 & lett]s betwe5 "y girls & "y m5 fl\ri% to-day l unpull$ we$s 9 a g>d5 :]e we$s 7 =m]ly nev] all[$ to gr[4 ,x is ! lett] f ! fri5d 9 ?is city to ! fri5d 9 t1 or f ! travel+ relative to ! relative at home1 t is gradually dw9dl+4 ,z = ! lett] :i* y\ng] relatives dutifully us$ to write--x has gone already ) old-fa%ion$ grace ( spee* & deportm5t4 ,/ill1 p d write lett]s 9 ?is day & !re are "s :o possess ! div9ely flexible gift = a fre% turn ( phrase1 = delightful ke5ness ( obs]vation4 ,x may be1 too1 t 9 o!r days ! av]age writ+ 0 no bett] ?an ! av]age ( to-day4 ,x is naturally ! lett]s ( ^? :o _h unusual gifts :i* h be5 pres]v$ all ^! ye>s1 = ! failures ( a g5]ation are made to die ) x1 & only its successes survive4 ,! diff]5ce ?\gh1 betwe5 lett]-writ]s ( ! pa/ & ( ! pres5t1 is t 9 o!r days !y all tri$ to write1 & to express !mselves ! v be/ !y knew h[--to-day p don't c>e a bit :e!r !y write well or ill4 ,m5tal ef=t is "o ?+ t ! y\ng] g5]ation ( ! sm>t _w seems to consid] x unreasonable to ask--& j z x is ! fa%ion to let _! sp9es droop until !y sugge/ no?+ s mu* z ,t5niel's draw+ 9 ,alice 9 ,wond]l& ( ! cat]pill> sitt+ on ! toad-/ool--s d !y let _! m5tal faculties relax1 slump & atrophy4 ,to su* z ^!1 to :om ef=t is an insurm\ntable task1 x might be j z well to say frankly3 ,if y h a m9d t is entirely bromidic1 if y are lack+ 9 humor1 all p[] ( obs]vation1 & facility = expression1 y _h be/ jo9 ! ev]-gr[+ class ( p :o frankly confess1 ,i c't write lett]s to save my life6 & conf9e y\r lit]>y ef=ts to picture po/-c>ds ) ! engag+ captions ,x is my room1 or ,beautiful wea!r1 wi% y 7 "h4 ,x is n at all c]ta9 t y\r fri5ds & family w\ld n r h frequ5t po/-c>ds ?an occasional lett]s all too obvi\sly display+ ! meag]ness ( _! messages 9 halt+ or?ography4 ,,beg9n+ ,a ,,lett] ,= mo/ p ! difficulty 9 lett]-writ+ is 9 ! beg9n+ & ! close4 ,once !y are />t$1 ! middle goes smoo?ly en\gh1 until !y face ! difficulty ( ! end4 ,! direction ( ! ,pr(essor ( ,engli% to ,beg9 at ! beg9n+ ( :at y h to say1 & g on until y h f9i%$1 & !n /op1 is v l a celebrat$ arti/'s direction = pa9t+3 ,y simply take a little ( ! "r color pa9t & put x on ! "r spot4 ,,h[ ,,n ,,to ,,beg9 ,ev5 "o :o loves ! v sight ( y\r h&writ+1 c\ld n possibly f9d any pleasure 9 a lett] beg9n+3 ,i h be5 mean+ to write y = a long "t b hav5't _h a m9ute to sp>e4 ,or3 ,i suppose y h be5 ?9k+ me v neglectful1 b y "k h[ ,i hate to write lett]s4 ,or3 ,i "k ,i ought to h answ]$ y\r lett] soon]1 b ,i hav5't _h a ?+ to write ab\t4 ,! above s5t5ces are writt5 "t & aga9 by p]sons :o are utt]ly unconsci\s t !y are n express+ a fri5dly or lov+ ?\ght4 ,if "o ( y\r fri5ds 7 to walk into ! room1 & y 7 to receive him /ret*$ out & yawn+ 9 an easy *air1 no "o w\ld h to po9t out ! rud5ess ( su* behavior2 yet c\ntless k9dly int5tion$ p beg9 _! lett]s m5tally recl9+ & yawn+ 9 j su* a way4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,beg9 ,a ,,lett] ,suppose y m]ely *ange ! word+ ( ! above s5t5ces1 s t in/ead ( slamm+ ! door 9 y\r fri5d's face1 y hold x op53 ,d y ?9k ,i h =gott5 y entirely8 ,y don't "k1 de> ,m>y1 h[ _m lett]s ,i h writt5 y 9 ?\ght4 ,or3 ,"t & "t aga9 ,i h want$ to write y b ea* mom5t t ,i sav$ = myself 0 always int]rupt$ by some?+4 ,"o ( ! frequ5t difficulties 9 beg9n+ a lett] is t y\r answ] is s long delay$ t y beg9 ) an apology1 :i* is always a lame duck4 ,b ^! examples indicate a way 9 :i* ev5 an op5+ apology may be attractive r ?an repell5t4 ,if y are go+ to take ! tr\ble to write a lett]1 y are do+ x because y h at lea/ rememb]$ "s "o ) fri5dly reg>d1 or y w\ld n be writ+ at all4 ,y c]ta9ly w\ld l to convey ! impression t y want to be ) y\r fri5d 9 ?\ght = a little :ile at lea/--n t %e ?r\gh "s malignant =ce is hold+ y to a gr9d/one & =c+ y to ! task ( mak+ hateful s*oolroom pot-hooks = h] selfi% ga94 ,a p]fect lett] has always ! effect ( be+ a light dipp+ (f ( ! top ( a spr+4 ,a poor lett] sugge/s digg+ into ! dri$ ink at ! bottom ( an ink-well4 ,x is easy to beg9 a lett] if x is 9 answ] to "o t has j be5 receiv$4 ,! news conta9$ 9 x is fre% & ! impulse to reply ne$s no prodd+4 ,no?+ c be simpl] ?an to say3 ,we 7 all ov]joy$ to he> f y ?is morn+1 or1 ,y\r lett] 0 ! mo/ welcome ?+ ! po/man has br\ght = ages1 or1 ,x 0 m ?an good to h news ( y ?is morn+1 or1 ,y\r lett] f ,capri br\ght all ! allure ( ,italy back to me1 or1 ,y c't imag9e1 de> ,m>y1 h[ glad ,i 0 to see an envelope ) y\r writ+ ?is morn+4 ,& !n y take up ! v>i\s subjects 9 ,m>y's lett]1 :i* %\ld c]ta9ly laun* y )\t difficulty ^u topics ( y\r own4 ,,end+ ,a ,,lett] ,j z ! beg9n+ ( a lett] %\ld give ! read] an impression ( greet+1 s %\ld ! end express fri5dly or affectionate leave-tak+4 ,no?+ c be worse ?an to seem to scrat* helplessly ar\nd 9 ! air = an idea t w effect y\r escape4 ,well1 ,i guess ,i mu/ /op n[1 ,well1 ,i mu/ close1 or1 ,y are probably bor$ ) ?is long epi/le1 s ,i _h bett] close4 ,all ( ^! are z bad z !y c be1 & sugge/ ! untutor$ man :o /&s fir/ on "o foot & !n on ! o!r1 runn+ 8 f+] ar\nd ! brim ( 8 hat1 or ! c\ntry girl twi/+ ! corn] ( h] apron4 ,,h[ ,,to ,,end ,a ,,lett] ,an intimate lett] has no end at all4 ,:5 y leave ! h\se ( a memb] ( y\r family1 y don't h to ?9k up an especial s5t5ce 9 ord] to say good-by4 ,leave-tak+ 9 a lett] is ! same3 ,good-by1 de>e/1 = to-day4 ,devot$ly1 ,kate4 ,or3 ,be/ love to y all1 ,m>t94 ,or3 ,w write aga9 9 a day or two4 ,lov+ly1 ,m>y4 ,or3 ,lun*eon 0 ann\nc$ half a page ago6 ,s good-by1 de> ,m>y1 = to-day4 ,! close ( a less intimate lett]1 l tak+ leave ( a visitor 9 y\r draw+-room1 is necess>ily m c]emoni\s4 ,& ! c]emoni\s close pres5ts to mo/ p ! greate/ difficulty 9 lett]-writ+4 ,x is really q simple1 if y realize t ! aim ( ! clos+ p>agraph is m]ely to br+ 9 a p]sonal hyph5 betwe5 ! p]son writ+ & ! p]son writt5 to4 ,! m\nta9s 7 beautiful at sunset4 ,x is a bad clos+ s5t5ce because ! m\nta9s h no?+ p]sonal to ei!r ( y4 ,b if y c add --!y rem9d$ me ( ! "t we 7 9 ,colorado toge!r1 or --h[ diff]5t f our wide prairies at home1 y h cross$ a bridge1 z x 74 ,or3 ,we h _h a wond]ful trip1 b ,i d miss y all at home1 & long to he> f y soon aga94 ,or 7f "o at home73 ,y\r clos$ h\se makes me v lonely to pass4 ,i d hope y are com+ back soon4 ,sometimes an end+ falls naturally into a s5t5ce t ends ) y\r signature4 ,if ,i c\ld look up n[ & see y com+ into ! room1 !re w\ld be no happi] woman 9 ! :ole ,/ate ?an ,y\r devot$ "m4 ,,lett]s ,,no ,,"o ,,c>es ,,to ,,read ,,lett]s ,,( ,,calamity ,fir/ & =emo/ 9 ! category ( lett]s t no "o c possibly receive ) pleasure might be put ! lett] ( calamity1 ! lett] ( gloomy appreh5sion1 ! lett] fill$ ) petty annoyances4 ,less di/urb+ to receive b f> f enjoyable are su* lett]s z ! blank1 ! me&]+1 ! lett] ( ! capital ,i1 ! pla9tive1 ! apologetic4 ,!re is sc>cely any "o :o has n "o or m relatives or fri5ds ^: lett]s belong 9 "o ( ^! classes4 ,ev5 9 s p]sonal a matt] z ! lett] to an abs5t memb] ( "o's imm$iate family1 x %\ld be borne 9 m9d1 n to write ne$lessly ( mis=tune or unhapp9ess4 ,to he> f ^? we love h[ ill or unhappy !y are1 is to h our di/ress int5sifi$ 9 direct proportion to ! numb] ( miles by :i* we are sep>at$ f !m4 ,?is la/ example1 h[ev]1 has no?+ 9 common ) ! *oos+ ( calamity & gloom z a subject ( welcome tid+s 9 ord9>y correspond5ce4 ,! *ronic calamity writ]s seem to wait until ! skies are d>ke/1 & !n1 ru%+ to _! desk1 luxuriate 9 p\r+ all _! tr\bles & fe>s ( tr\bles out on pap] to _! fri5ds4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,gloomy ,,appreh5sion ,my little ,betty ,my little adds to ! pa?os mu* m ?an say+ m]ely ,betty has be5 feel+ mis]able = sev]al days4 ,i am worri$ to dea? ab\t h]1 z !re are s _m sudd5 cases ( typhoid & app5dicitis4 ,! doctor says ! symptoms are n at all al>m+ z yet1 b doctors see s mu* ( illness & dea?1 !y don't seem to appreciate :at anxiety means to a "m1 etc4 ,ano!r writes3 ,! times seem to be gett+ worse & worse4 ,i always said we w\ld h to g ?r\gh a long night be=e any *ance ( daylight4 ,y c m>k my words1 ! night ( bad times isn't mu* m ?an begun4 ,or1 ,i h sc>cely slept = nights1 worry+ ab\t :e!r ,junior has pass$ 8 exam9ations or n4 ,,lett]s ,,( ,,petty ,,mis=tunes ,o!r p]fectly well-mean+ fri5ds fancy !y are giv+ pleasure :5 !y write su* news z3 ,my cook has be5 sick = ! pa/ t5 days1 & foll[ ?is ) a page or two descriptive ( h] ailm5ts2 or1 ,i h a slight c\gh4 ,i ?9k ,i mu/ h caught x ye/]day :5 ,i w5t out 9 ! ra9 )\t rubb]s2 or1 ,! *ildr5 h n be5 do+ z well 9 _! lessons ?is week z la/4 ,johnny's ari?metic m>ks 7 dreadful & ,katie got an ,e 9 spell+ & an ,f 9 geography4 ,h] husb& & h] "m w\ld be int]e/$ 9 ! *ildr5's weekly reports1 & h] own slight c\gh1 b no "o else4 ,h[ c\ld !y be8 ,if ! writ]s ( all su* lett]s w\ld m]ely read ov] :at !y h writt51 & ask !mselves if !y c\ld f9d pleasure 9 receiv+ messages ( l mann] & matt]1 p]haps !y might beg9 to d a little ?9k+1 & break ! habit ( cataleptic un?9k+ness t seem+ly desc5ds ^u !m z soon z !y are seat$ at _! desk4 ,,! ,,blank ,! writ] ( ! blank lett] beg9s flu5tly ) ! date & ,de> ,m>y1 & !n sits & *ews 8 p5hold] or makes little dots & squ>es & circles on ! blott]-utt]ly unable to attack ! cold1 =bidd+ blankness ( t fir/ page4 ,m5tally1 he seems to say3 ,well1 "h ,i am--& n[ :at8 ,he has n an idea6 ,he c nev] f9d any?+ ( suffici5t importance to write ab\t4 ,a murd] next door1 a h\se burn$ to ! gr\nd1 a burgl>y or an elopem5t c\ld alone furni% mat]ial2 & t1 too1 w\ld be f9i%$ (f 9 a brief s5t5ce /at+ ! b>e fact4 ,a p]son ^: life is a revolv+ :eel ( r\t9e may h really v little to say1 b a lett] does n h to be long to be welcome--x c be v good inde$ if x has a message t seems to h be5 spok54 ,de> ,lucy3 ,life "h is z dull z ev]--dull] if any?+4 ,j ! same old ?+s done 9 ! same old way--n ev5 a fire eng9e out or a new face 9 t[n1 b ?is is to %[ y t ,i am ?9k+ ( y & long+ to he> f y4 ,or3 ,i wi% some?+ really excit+ w\ld happ5 s t ,i might h some?+ ) a little ?rill 9 x to write y1 b ev]y?+ goes on & on--if !re 7 any *eck 9 its sam5ess1 ,i ?9k we'd all l& 9 a heap aga9/ ! edge ( ! t[n4 ,,! ,,me&]+ ,,lett] ,z its "n implies1 ! me&]+ lett] is "o :i* dawdles ?r\gh disconnect$ subjects1 l a trolley c> gone d[n grade (f ! track1 ?r\gh f5ces & fields & fl[]-b$s indiscrim9ately4 ,mrs4 ,blake's c[ di$ la/ week1 ! ,gov]nor & 8 wife 7 on ! ,reception ,committee2 ,m>y ,selfridge w5t to /ay ) h] aunt 9 ,riv]view2 ,i ?9k ! new %ade call$ ,h>d+ blue is p]fectly hide\s4 ,ano!r t is almo/ ak9 to x1 runs glibly on1 page aft] page ( mean+less repetition & detail4 ,i ?\ght at fir/ t ,i w\ld get a gray dress--,i ?9k gray is su* a pretty color1 & ,i h _h s _m blue dresses4 ,i c't decide ?is "t :e!r to get blue or gray4 ,sometimes ,i ?9k gray is m becom+ to me ?an blue4 ,i ?9k gray looks well on fair-hair$ p--,i don't "k :e!r y w\ld call my hair fair or n8 ,i am c]ta9ly n d>k1 & yet fair hair sugge/s a sort ( /raw color4 ,maybe ,i might be call$ m$ium fair4 ,d y ?9k ,i am light en\gh to we> gray8 ,maybe blue w\ld be m s]viceable4 ,gray c]ta9ly looks pretty 9 ! spr+1 x is s clean & fre% look+4 ,!re is a lovely ,fr5* model at ,b5son's 9 gray1 b ,i c h x copi$ = less 9 blue4 ,maybe x won't be z pretty ?\gh z ! gray1 etc41 etc4 ,by ! above me?od ( cud-*ew+1 any subject1 clo!s1 pa9t+ ! h\se1 *ildr5's s*ool1 plant+ a g>d51 or ev5 ! wea!r1 ne$ be limit$ only by ! supply ( pap] & ink4 ,,! ,,lett] ,,( ,,! ,,capital ,i ,! lett] ( ! capital ,i is a pomp\s effusion :i* /rives ?r\gh pret5ti\sness to impress its read] ) its writ]'s weal?1 position1 ability1 or :atev] possession or attribute is ?\ght to be rat$ mo/ highly4 ,none b un=tunate dep5d5ts or ! cr++ 9 _s w\ld subject !mselves to a second lett] ( ?is k9d by answ]+ ! fir/4 ,! lett] :i* h9ts at hop$-= b5efits is no worse6 ,,! ,,lett] ,,( ,,*ronic ,,apology ,! lett] writt5 by a p]son ) an apologetic habit ( m9d1 is diff]5t totally f ! sometimes necess>y lett] ( g5u9e apology4 ,! =m] is z s5seless z x is irritat+3 ,x 0 s good ( y to come to my horrid little %anty4 ,! h\se & ! food %e s]v$ 7 bo? probably bett] ?an t ( ! p]son %e is writ+ to4 ,i "k y _h no?+ fit to eat1 & ,i "k t ev]y?+ 0 j all wrong6 ,( c\rse1 ev]y?+ is always s beautifully done at ev]y?+ y give1 ,i wond] ,i h ! c\rage to ask y to d9e ) me4 ,,! ,,dang]\s ,,lett] ,a pitfall t ^? ( %>p wit h to gu>d aga9/ is ! ?\ghtless t5d5cy t[>d writ+ ill-natur$ ?+s4 ,ridicule is a mu* m amus+ m$ium = ! display ( a subject ?an praise1 :i* is always r bromidic4 ,! amus+ p]son cat*es foibles & exploits !m1 & x is easy to =get t wit fla%es all too irresi/ibly at ! exp5se ( o!r p's feel+s1 & ! brilliant tongue is all too (t5 %>p5$ to rapi] po9t4 ,admiration = ! quickness ( a spok5 quip1 some:at mitigates its cruelty4 ,! exub]ance ( ! retail] ( v]bal gossip elim9ates ! implication ( sc&als b bo? quip & gossip become deadly poison :5 transf]r$ p]man5tly to pap]4 ,,p]man5ce ,,( ,,writt5 ,,emotion ,= all emotions writt5 words are a bad m$ium4 ,! light je/+ tone t saves a quip f (f5se c n be express$2 & rem>ks t if spok5 w\ld amuse1 c b piqu & ev5 insult _! subject4 ,)\t ! int]pretation ( ! voice1 gaiety becomes levity1 raill]y becomes accusation4 ,moreov]1 words ( a pass+ mom5t are made to /& =ev]4 ,ang] 9 a lett] c>ries ) x ! effect ( solidifi$ fury2 ! words spok5 9 repro( melt ) ! brea? ( ! speak] once ! cause is =giv54 ,! writt5 words on ! page fix !m = et]nity4 ,love 9 a lett] endures likewise =ev]4 ,admonitions f p>5ts to _! *ildr5 may v prop]ly be put on pap]--!y are meant to endure1 & be rememb]$1 b mom5t>y annoyance %\ld nev] be m ?an briefly express$4 ,!re is no bett] way ( insur+ 8 lett]s aga9/ be+ read ?an = a p>5t to get into ! habit ( writ+ irritable or faultf9d+ lett]s to 8 *ildr54 ,,! ,,lett]s ,,( ,,two ,,wives ,d y ev] see a man look ?r\gh a /ack ( mail1 & notice t sudd5ly 8 face lights up z he seizes a lett] f home8 ,he te>s x op5 eag]ly1 8 m\? up-curv+ at ! corn]s1 z he l+]s ov] e ^w4 ,y "k1 )\t be+ told1 t ! wife he _h to leave beh9d puts all ! be/ %e c devise & save = him into 8 life z well z on pap]6 ,d y ev] see a man g ?r\gh 8 mail & see him sudd5ly droop--z1 ?\gh a fog _h fall5 ^u 8 spirits8 ,d y see him reluctantly pick out a lett]1 />t to op5 x1 hesitate & !n pu% x aside8 ,8 expression says pla9ly3 ,i c't face t j n[4 ,!n by & by1 :5 8 lips h be5 set 9 a h>d l9e1 he w dogg$ly op5 8 lett] to see :at ! tr\ble is n[4 ,if = once !re is no tr\ble1 he sighs ) relief1 relaxes1 & />ts ! next ?+ he has to d4 ,usually1 ?\gh1 he fr[ns1 looks worri$1 annoy$1 h>ass$1 & y "k t e small unpleasantness is punctili\sly s]v$ to him by "o :o promis$ to love & to *]i% & :o probably ?9ks %e does6 ,,! ,,lett] ,,ev]yone ,,loves ,,to ,,receive ,! lett] we all love to receive is "o t c>ries s mu* ( ! writ]'s p]sonality t %e seems to be sitt+ beside u1 look+ at u directly & talk+ j z %e really w\ld1 c\ld %e h come on a magic c>pet1 in/ead ( s5d+ h] proxy 9 ink-made *>act]s on m]e pap]4 ,let u suppose we h receiv$ "o ( ^? p]fect lett]s f ,m>y1 "o ( ^? lett]s t seem almo/ to h writt5 !mselves1 s easily d ! words fl[1 s bubbl+ & ef=tless is _! spontaneity4 ,!re is a great deal 9 ! lett] ab\t ,m>y1 n only ab\t :at %e has be5 do+1 b :at %e has be5 ?9k+1 or p]haps1 feel+4 ,& !re is a lot ab\t u 9 ! lett]--nice ?+s1 t make u feel r pleas$ ab\t some?+ t we h done1 or are likely to d1 or t "s "o has said ab\t u4 ,we "k t all ?+s ( conc]n to u are ( equal conc]n to ,m>y1 & ?\gh !re w be no?+ ( x 9 actual words1 we are made to feel t we are j z secure 9 our corn] ( ,m>y's he>t z ev] we 74 ,& we f9i% ! lett] ) a v vivid remembrance ( ,m>y's sympa?y1 & a s5se ( loss 9 h] abs5ce1 & a long+ = ! "t :5 ,m>y h]self may aga9 be sitt+ on ! s(a beside u & tell+ u all ! details h] lett] c n b leave out4 ,,! ,,lett] ,,no ,,woman ,,%\ld ,,ev] ,,write ,! mails c>ry lett]s e day t are s _m packages ( ,,tnt %\ld _! cont5ts be explod$ by fall+ into wrong h&s4 ,lett]s t %\ld nev] h be5 writt5 are put 9 evid5ce 9 c\rt rooms e day4 ,_m c n1 "u any circum/ances1 be excus$2 b (t5 silly girls & fooli% wom5 write ?+s t s\nd q diff]5t f :at1 !y innoc5tly1 b /upidly1 int5d$4 ,few p]sons1 except pr(essional writ]s1 h ! lea/ idea ( ! value ( words & ! effect t !y produce1 & ! ?\ghtless lett]s ( emotional wom5 & und]br$ m5 add s5sation to news items 9 ! press almo/ daily4 ,( c\rse ! be/ advice to a "y girl :o is impell$ to write lett]s to m51 c be put 9 "o ^w1 don't6 ,h[ev]1 if y are a "y girl or woman1 & are det]m9$ to write lett]s to an especial--or any o!r--man1 no matt] h[ innoc5t y\r int5tion may be1 !re are "s ?+s y mu/ rememb]--rememb] s int5sely t no situation 9 life1 no circum/ances1 no temptation1 c ev] make y =get4 ,!y are a few set rules1 n ( etiquette1 b ( ! laws ( self-respect3 ,nev] s5d a lett] )\t read+ x ov] & mak+ sure t y h said no?+ t c possibly s\nd diff]5t f :at y int5d to say4 ,nev] s long z y live1 write a lett] to a man--no matt] :o he is--t y w\ld be a%am$ to see 9 a newspap] above y\r signature4 ,rememb] t e ^w ( writ+ is immutable evid5ce = or aga9/ y1 & words :i* are ?\ghtlessly put on pap] may exi/ a hundr$ ye>s h5ce4 ,nev] write any?+ t c be con/ru$ z s5tim5tal4 ,nev] take a man to task ab\t any?+2 nev] ask = explanations2 to d s implies too great an intimacy4 ,nev] put a s+le cl++ t5tacle into writ+4 ,say no?+ ev]1 t c be con/ru$ z dem&+1 ask+1 or ev5 be+ eag] =1 8 att5tions6 ,always keep 9 m9d & nev] = "o in/ant =get t a ?ird p]son1 & t ! v "o y w\ld mo/ object to1 may f9d & read ! lett]4 ,"o ^w m3 ,x is n alone bad =m b lay+ y\rself op5 to e sort ( emb>rassm5t & dang]1 to correspond ) a man y slightly "k4 ,,prop] ,,lett]s ,,( ,,love ,,or ,,affection ,if y are engag$1 ( c\rse y %\ld write love lett]s--! mo/ beautiful t y c--b don't write baby-talk & o!r sill9esses t w\ld make y feel idiotic if ! lett] 7 to fall into /range h&s4 ,on ! o!r h&1 few c f9d objection to ! natural1 fri5dly & ev5 affectionate lett] f a "y girl to a "y man %e has be5 br\ght up )4 ,x is su* a lett] z %e w\ld write to h] bro!r4 ,!re is no h9t ( coquetry or self-consci\sness1 no ^w f fir/ to la/ t might n be %\t$ al\d be=e h] :ole family4 ,h] lett] may beg9 ,de> or ev5 ,de>e/ ,jack4 ,!n foll[s all ! home news %e c ?9k ( t might possibly int]e/ him2 ab\t ! ,simpsons' dance1 ,tom & ,paul9e's engagem5t1 h[ _m tr\t ,bill ,h5d]son got at ,duck ,brook1 h[ furi\s ,mrs4 ,davis 0 because "s di/+ui%$ visitor accept$ ,mrs4 ,br[n's d9n] in/ead ( h]s1 h[ ! new p :o h mov$ onto ! ,ru% f>m don't "k ! fir/ ?+ ab\t f>m+1 & s on4 ,p]haps !re w be "o p]sonal l9e su* z we all miss$ y at ! picnic on ,w$nesday--,ollie made ! flap-jacks & !y 7 too awful6 ,e "o groan$3 ',if ,jack 7 only "h6' ,or1 we all hope y are com+ back 9 "t = ! ,t[ns' dance4 ,kate has at la/ inveigl$ h] "m into lett+ h] h an all-black dress :i* we r suspect 0 b\ght ) ! especial purpose ( impress+ y ) h] advanc$ age & dignity6 ,"m came 9 j z ,i wrote ?is & says to tell y %e has a new recipe = *ocolate cake t is ev5 bett] ?an h] old "o1 & t y _h bett] h a piece add$ to y\r belt be=e y come home4 ,c>rie w write y v soon1 %e says1 & we all s5d love4 ,affectionately1 ,ru?4 ,,! ,,lett] ,,no ,,g5tleman ,,writes ,"o ( ! fundam5tal rules = ! behavior ( any man :o has ! fa9te/ pret5sion to be+ a g5tleman1 is t nev] by ^w or ge/ure mu/ he compromise a woman2 he nev]1 !re=e1 writes a lett] t c be con/ru$1 ev5 by a lawy]1 z damag+ to any woman's good "n4 ,8 lett]s to an unm>ri$ woman may express all ! ardor & devotion t he c>es to subscribe to1 b !re mu/ be no h9t ( 8 hav+ receiv$ especial favors f h]4 ,,don',,ts ,,= ,,correspond5ce ,nev] typewrite an invitation1 acceptance1 or regret4 ,nev] typewrite a social note4 ,be *>y ( und]scor+s & po/scripts4 ,d n write across a page already writt5 on4 ,d n use unmat*$ pap] & envelopes4 ,d n write 9 p5cil--except a note to "o ( y\r family writt5 on a tra9 or :]e ink is unprocurable1 or unless y are flat on y\r back because ( illness4 ,nev] s5d a lett] ) a blot on x4 ,nev] spr9kle ,fr5*1 ,italian1 or any o!r =eign words ?r\gh a lett] writt5 9 ,engli%4 ,y d n give an impression ( cultivation1 b ( ignorance ( y\r own language4 ,use a =eign ^w if x has no ,engli% equival5t1 n o!rwise unless x has become ,angliciz$4 ,if hesitat+ betwe5 two words1 always select ! "o ( ,saxon orig9 r ?an ,lat94 ,= ! be/ selection ( words to use1 /udy ! ,k+ ,james v]sion ( ! ,bible4 ,,*apt] ,,xxix ,,! ,,fundam5tals ,,( ,,good ,,behavior ,f> m important ?an any m]e dictum ( etiquette is ! fundam5tal code ( honor1 )\t /rict obs]vance ( :i* no man1 no matt] h[ poli%$1 c be consid]$ a g5tleman4 ,! honor ( a g5tleman dem&s ! inviolability ( 8 ^w1 & ! incorruptibility ( 8 pr9ciples2 he is ! desc5dant ( ! knight1 ! crusad]2 he is ! def5d] ( ! def5seless1 & ! *ampion ( ju/ice--or he is n a g5tleman4 ,,dec5cies ,,( ,,behavior ,a g5tleman does n1 & a man :o aspires to be "o mu/ n1 ev] borr[ money f a woman1 nor %\ld he1 except 9 unexpect$ circum/ances1 borr[ money f a man4 ,money borr[$ )\t security is a debt ( honor :i* mu/ be paid )\t fail & promptly z possible4 ,! debts incurr$ by a deceas$ p>5t1 bro!r1 si/]1 or gr[n *ild1 are assum$ by honorable m5 & wom51 z debts ( honor4 ,a g5tleman nev] takes advantage ( a woman 9 a bus9ess deal+1 nor ( ! poor or ! helpless4 ,"o :o is n well (f does n sponge1 b pays 8 own way to ! utmo/ ( 8 ability4 ,"o :o is ri* does n make a display ( 8 money or 8 possessions4 ,only a vulg>ian talks ceaselessly ab\t h[ mu* ?is or t co/ him4 ,a v well-br$ man int5sely dislikes ! m5tion ( money1 & nev] speaks ( x 7out ( bus9ess h\rs7 if he c avoid x4 ,a g5tleman nev] discusses 8 family affairs ei!r 9 public or ) acqua9tances1 nor does he speak m ?an casually ab\t 8 wife4 ,a man is a cad :o tells anyone1 no matt] :o1 :at 8 wife told him 9 confid5ce1 or describes :at %e looks l 9 h] b$room4 ,to imp>t details ( h] beauty is sc>cely bett] ?an to publi% h] blemi%es2 to d ei!r is unspeakable4 ,nor does a g5tleman ev] criticise ! behavior ( a wife ^: conduct is sc&al\s4 ,:at he says to h] 9 ! privacy ( _! own ap>tm5ts is no "o's affair b 8 own1 b he mu/ nev] treat h] ) disrespect be=e _! *ildr51 or a s]vant1 or any "o4 ,a man ( honor nev] seeks publicly to divorce 8 wife1 no matt] :at he believes h] conduct to h be52 b = ! protection ( 8 own "n1 & t ( ! *ildr51 he all[s h] to get h] fre$om on o!r ?an crim9al gr\nds4 ,no matt] :o he may be1 :e!r ri*1 or poor1 9 high life or l[1 ! man :o publicly besmir*es 8 wife's "n1 besmir*es /ill m 8 own1 & proves t he is n1 0 n1 & nev] w be1 a g5tleman4 ,no g5tleman goes to a lady's h\se if he is affect$ by alcohol4 ,a g5tleman see+ a "y man :o is n entirely himself 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies1 quietly induces ! y\? to dep>t4 ,an old] man addict$ to ! use ( too mu* alcohol1 ne$ n be discuss$1 s9ce he ceases to be ask$ to ! h\ses ( ladies4 ,a g5tleman does n lose control ( 8 temp]4 ,9 fact1 9 8 own self-control "u difficult or dang]\s circum/ances1 lies 8 *ief asc5dancy ov] o!rs :o impulsively betray e emotion :i* animates !m4 ,exhibitions ( ang]1 fe>1 hatr$1 emb>rassm5t1 ardor or hil>ity1 are all bad =m 9 public4 ,& bad =m is m]ely an action :i* j>s ! s5sibilities ( o!rs4 ,a g5tleman does n %[ a lett] writt5 by a lady1 unless p]haps to a v intimate fri5d if ! lett] is entirely imp]sonal & writt5 by "s "o :o is equally ! fri5d ( ! "o to :om x is %[n4 ,b ! occasions :5 ! lett] ( a woman may be %[n prop]ly by a man are s few t x is safe/ to make x a rule nev] to m5tion a woman's lett]4 ,a g5tleman does n b[ to a lady f a club w9d[2 nor accord+ to good =m %\ld ladies ev] be discuss$ 9 a man's club6 ,a man ^: social position is self-made is apt to be detect$ by 8 cont9ual catalogu+ ( prom95t names4 ,mr4 ,p>v5u inv>iably int]l>ds 8 conv]sation )1 ,:5 ,i 0 d9+ at ! ,bobo ,gild+'s2 or ev5 at ,lucy ,gild+'s1 & q (t5 acc5tuates1 9 8 ignorance1 ^? ( r second-rate1 ?\gh conspicu\s position4 ,i 0 sp5d+ la/ week-end ) ! ,ri*an ,vulg>s1 or ,my great fri5ds1 ! ,gotta ,cru/s4 ,:5 a s-call$ g5tleman insi/s on imp>t+ in=mation1 int]e/+ only to ! ,social ,regi/]1 %un him6 ,! born g5tleman avoids ! m5tion ( names exactly z he avoids ! m5tion ( :at ?+s co/2 bo? are an abom9ation to 8 s\l4 ,a g5tleman's mann]s are an integral "p ( him & are ! same :e!r 9 8 dress+-room or 9 a ballroom1 :e!r 9 talk+ to ,mrs4 ,worldly or to ! laundress br++ 9 8 clo!s4 ,he ^: mann]s are only put on 9 company is a v5e]$ g5tleman1 n a real "o4 ,a man ( bre$+ does n slap /rang]s on ! back nor s mu* z lay 8 f+]-tips on a lady4 ,nor does he punctuate 8 conv]sation by pu%+ or nudg+ or patt+ p1 nor take 8 conv]sation out ( ! draw+-room6 ,not)/&+ ! adv]tisem5ts 9 ! mo/ dignifi$ magaz9es1 a discussion ( und]we> & toilet articles & _! m]it or _! use1 is unpleasant 9 polite conv]sation4 ,all ?or\ghbr$ p are consid]ate ( ! feel+s ( o!rs no matt] :at ! /ation ( ! o!rs may be4 ,?ack]ay's climb] :o licks ! boots ( ^? above him & kicks ! faces ( ^? bel[ him on ! social ladd]1 is a1 v good illu/ration ( :at a g5tleman is n4 ,a g5tleman nev] takes advantage ( ano!r's helplessness or ignorance1 & assumes t no g5tleman w take advantage ( him4 ,,simplicity ,,& ,,unconsci\sness ,,( ,,self ,^! words h be5 lit]ally spr9kl$ ?r\gh ! pages ( ?is book1 yet x is d\btful if !y convey a cle> idea ( ! attributes meant4 ,unconsci\sness ( self is n s mu* unselfi%ness z x is ! m5tal ability to ext+ui% all ?\ght ( "o's self--exactly z "o turns out ! light4 ,simplicity is l x1 9 t x also has a quality ( self-effacem5t1 b x really means a love ( ! ess5tial & ( directness4 ,simple p put no trimm+s on _! phrases1 nor on _! mann]s2 b rememb]1 simplicity is n crud5ess nor any?+ l x4 ,on ! contr>y1 simplicity ( spee* & mann]s means language 9 its pure/1 mo/ limpid =m1 & mann]s ( su* p]fection t !y d n sugge/ mann] at all4 ,,! ,,in/9cts ,,( ,a ,,lady ,! in/9cts ( a lady are mu* ! same z ^? ( a g5tleman4 ,%e is equally punctili\s ab\t h] debts1 equally av]se to press+ h] advantage2 especially if h] adv]s>y is helpless or poor4 ,z an unhappy wife1 h] dignity dem&s t %e nev] %[ h] disapproval ( h] husb&1 no matt] h[ publicly he slights or outrages h]4 ,if %e has be5 s un=tunate z to h m>ri$ a man n a g5tleman1 to draw att5tion to 8 behavior w\ld put h]self on 8 level4 ,if x comes actually to ! po9t :]e %e divorces him1 %e discusses h] situation1 naturally1 ) h] p>5ts or h] bro!r or :oev] are h] ne>e/ & wise/ relatives1 b %e %uns publicity & avoids discuss+ h] affairs ) any "o outside ( h] imm$iate family4 ,"o c n too /rongly c5sure ! unspeakable vulg>ity ( ! woman s un=tunate z to be oblig$ to g ?r\gh divorce proce$+s1 :o confides ! private details ( h] life to report]s4 ,,! ,,hall-,,m>k ,,( ,,! ,,climb] ,no?+ s blatantly proclaims a woman climb] z ! repetition ( prom95t names1 ! own]s ( :i* %e mu/ h /ruggl$ to "k4 ,o!rwise1 :y s eag]ly boa/ ( ! a*ievem5t8 ,nobody c>es :om %e kn[s--nobody t is1 b a climb] l h]self4 ,to ^? :o 7 born & :o live1 no matt] h[ quietly1 9 ! security ( a p]fectly good l$ge above & away f ! social ladd]'s rungs1 ! evid5ce ( "o frantically climb+ & try+ to vaunt h] exalt$ position is m]ely ludicr\s4 ,all ?or\ghbr$ wom51 & m51 are consid]ate ( o!rs less =tunately plac$1 especially ( ^? 9 _! employ4 ,"o ( ! te/s by :i* to di/+ui% betwe5 ! woman ( bre$+ & ! woman m]ely ( weal?1 is to notice ! way %e speaks to dep5d5ts4 ,que5 ,victoria's du*esses1 ^? great ladies ( gr& mann]1 7 ! v ones :o1 on ent]+ ! h\se ( a close fri5d1 said ,h[ d y d1 ,hawk9s8 to a butl]2 & to a si/] du*ess's maid1 ,good morn+1 ,j5k9s4 ,a ,m>yl& lady1 /ill liv+ on ! e/ate grant$ to h] family ?ree g5]ations be=e ! ,revolution1 is q z polite to h] fri5ds' s]vants z to h] fri5ds !mselves4 ,:5 y see a woman 9 silks & sables & diamonds speak to a little err& girl or a footman or a scull]y maid z ?\gh !y 7 ! dirt "u h] feet1 y may be sure ( "o ?+2 %e hasn't come a v long way f ! gr\nd h]self4 ,,*apt] ,,xxx ,,clubs ,,& ,,club ,,etiquette ,a club1 z e "o kn[s1 is m]ely an organization ( p--m5 or wom5 or bo?--:o e/abli% club rooms1 9 :i* !y meet at specifi$ times = specifi$ purposes1 or :i* !y use casually & individually4 ,a club's memb]%ip may be limit$ to a doz5 or may include sev]al ?\s&s1 & ! proc$ure 9 jo9+ a club may be easy or difficult1 accord+ to ! type ( club & ! /&+ ( ! w\ld-be memb]4 ,memb]%ip 9 _m a?letic associations may be _h by walk+ 9 & pay+ dues2 also _m c\ntry golf-clubs are z free to ! public z c\ntry inns2 b jo9+ a purely social club ( rank & exclusiv5ess is a v diff]5t matt]4 ,a man to be eligible = memb]%ip 9 su* a club mu/ n only be completely a g5tleman1 b he mu/ h fri5ds among ! memb]s :o l him en\gh to be will+ to propose him & second him & write lett]s = him2 & fur!rmore he mu/ be dislik$ by no "o--at lea/ n suffici5tly = any memb] to object s]i\sly to 8 company4 ,!re are two ways ( jo9+ a club2 by invitation & by mak+ application or hav+ x made = y4 ,to jo9 by invitation means t y are invit$ :5 ! club is />t$ to be "o ( ! f\nd]s or *>t] memb]s1 or if y are a di/+ui%$ citiz5 y may at ! invitation ( ! gov]nors become an honor>y memb]1 or 9 a small or in=mal club y may become an ord9>y memb] by invitation or sugge/ion ( ! gov]nors t y w\ld be welcome4 ,a *>t] memb] pays dues1 b n always an initiation fee2 an honor>y memb] pays nei!r dues nor initiation1 he is really a p]man5t gue/ ( ! club4 ,a life memb] is "o :o pays 8 dues = tw5ty ye>s or s 9 a lump sum1 & is exempt$ f dues ev5 if he lives to be a hundr$4 ,few clubs h honor>y memb]s & none h m ?an half a doz51 s t ?is type ( memb]%ip may z well be disreg>d$4 ,! ord9>y memb]s ( a club are ei!r resid5t1 mean+ t !y live )9 fifty miles ( ! club2 or non-resid5t1 liv+ beyond t di/ance & pay+ less dues b hav+ ! same privileges4 ,9 c]ta9 ( ! ,london clubs1 "o or two ,new ,york ones1 & ! lead+ club 9 sev]al o!r cities1 x is n unusual = a boy's "n to be put up = memb]%ip z soon z he is born4 ,if 8 "n comes up :ile he is a m9or1 x is laid aside until aft] 8 tw5ty-fir/ bir?day & !n put at ! head ( ! li/ ( applicants & vot$ ^u at ! next meet+ ( ! gov]nors4 ,9 all clubs 9 :i* memb]%ip is limit$ & mu* s\ght aft]1 ! wait+ li/ is sure to be long & a "n takes any:]e f five to m ?an t5 ye>s to come up4 ,,h[ ,a ,,"n ,,is ,,put ,,up ,s9ce a g5tleman is sc>cely likely to want to jo9 a club 9 :i* ! memb]s are n 8 fri5ds1 he tells a memb] ( 8 family1 or an intimate fri5d1 t he w\ld l to jo9 ! ,ne>by ,club1 & adds1 ,d y m9d putt+ me up8 ,i w ask ,dick to second me4 ,! fri5d says1 ,i'll be v glad to1 & ,dick says ! same4 ,x is /ill m likely t ! sugge/ion to jo9 comes f a fri5d1 :o says "o day1 ,:y don't y jo9 ! ,ne>by ,club8 ,x w\ld be v conv5i5t = y4 ,! o!r says1 ,i ?9k ,i %\ld l to1 & ! fir/ replies1 ,let me put y up1 & ,dick w be only too glad to second y4 ,x mu/ be rememb]$ t a g5tleman has no "r to ask any "o :o is n really "o ( 8 be/ fri5ds to propose or second him4 ,x is an awkw>d ?+ to refuse 9 ! fir/ place1 & 9 ! second x involves consid]able ef=t1 & on occasion a great deal ( annoyance & tr\ble4 ,= example let u suppose t ,jim ,sm>tl+ton asks ,donald ,lovejoy to propose him & ,clubw9 ,doe to second him4 ,8 "n is writt5 9 ! book kept = ! purpose & sign$ by bo? propos] & second]3 ,sm>tl+ton1 ,james ,propos]3 ,donald ,lovejoy ,second]3 ,clubw9 ,doe ,no?+ m is done until ! "n is po/$--mean+ t x appe>s among a li/ ( names put up on ! bullet9-bo>d 9 ! club h\se4 ,x is !n ! duty ( ,lovejoy & ,doe ea* to write a lett] ( endorsem5t to ! gov]nors ( ! club1 to be read by !m :5 !y hold ! meet+ at :i* 8 "n comes up = election4 ,example3 ,bo>d ( ,gov]nors1 ,! ,ne>by ,club4 ,de> sirs3 ,x af=ds me mu* pleasure to propose = memb]%ip 9 ! ,ne>by ,club ,mr4 ,james ,sm>tl+ton4 ,i h kn[n ,mr4 ,sm>tl+ton = _m ye>s & consid] him qualifi$ 9 e way = memb]%ip4 ,he is a graduate ( ,yalv>d1 class #aiaf1 r[$ on ! ,v>sity crew1 & s]v$ 9 ! #ahj?1 z #a/ ,lieut41 ov]seas dur+ ! w>4 ,he is n[ 9 8 fa!r's firm 7,jones1 ,sm>tl+ton ,co474 ,y\rs v truly1 ,donald ,lovejoy4 ,lovejoy mu/ also at once tell ,sm>tl+ton to ask ab\t six fri5ds :o are club-memb]s 7b n gov]nors7 to write lett]s endors+ him4 ,fur!rmore1 ! c&idate c n come up = election unless he kn[s sev]al ( ! gov]nors p]sonally1 :o c v\* = him at ! meet+4 ,!re=e ,lovejoy & ,doe mu/ "o or ! o!r take ,sm>tl+ton to sev]al gov]nors 7at _! (fices g5]ally7 & p]sonally pres5t him1 or v likely !y invite two or ?ree ( ! gov]nors & ,sm>tl+ton to lun*4 ,ev5 "u ! be/ ( circum/ances x is a nuisance = a busy man to h to make appo9tm5ts at ! (fices ( o!r busy m54 ,& s9ce x is unc]ta9 :i* ( ! gov]nors w be pres5t at any p>ticul> meet+1 x is necess>y to introduce ! c&idate to a suffici5t numb] s t at lea/ two among ^? at ! meet+ w be able to speak = him4 ,9 ! example we h *os51 ,clubw9 ,doe1 hav+ himself be5 a gov]nor & kn[+ mo/ ( ! pres5t ones v well1 has less difficulty 9 pres5t+ 8 c&idate to !m ?an _m o!r memb]s might h1 :o1 ?\gh !y h = ye>s belong$ to ! club1 h us$ x s seldom t !y "k few1 if any1 ( ! gov]nors ev5 by sight4 ,at ! lead+ woman's club ( ,new ,york1 ! gov]nors appo9t an h\r on sev]al aft]noons be=e elections :5 !y are 9 ! visitors' rooms at ! club h\se on purpose to meet ! c&idates :om _! propos]s mu/ pres5t4 ,?is w\ld c]ta9ly seem a m practicable me?od1 to say no?+ ( its be+ easi] = ev]yone conc]n$1 ?an ! mascul9e etiquette :i* requires t ! gov]nors be /alk$ "o by "o1 to ! extreme inconv5i5ce & loss ( "t & occasionally ! emb>rassm5t ( e "o4 ,z already said1 ,jim ,sm>tl+ton1 hav+ unusually popul> & well-kn[n sponsors & be+ also v well lik$ himself1 is elect$ ) little difficulty4 ,b take ! case ( "y ,breezy3 ,he 0 put up by two n well-kn[n memb]s1 :o wrote half-he>t$ endorsem5ts !mselves & did no?+ ab\t gett+ lett]s f o!rs2 !y knew none ( ! gov]nors1 & tru/$ t two :o knew ,breezy slightly w\ld d4 ,8 casual propos] =got t enemies write lett]s z well z fri5ds--& t moreov] enmity is active :]e fri5d%ip is (t5 passive4 ,two m5 :o dislik$ 8 mann] wrote t !y consid]$ him unsuitable1 & z he _h no fri5ds /rong en\gh to /& up = him1 he 0 turn$ d[n4 ,a g5tleman is r>ely black-ball$1 z su* an action c\ld n fail to injure him 9 ! eyes ( ! _w4 7,! expression black ball comes f ! cu/om ( vot+ = a memb] by putt+ a :ite ball 9 a ballot box1 or aga9/ him by putt+ 9 a black "o47 ,if a c&idate is likely to receive a black ball1 ! gov]nors d n vote on him at all1 b in=m ! propos] t ! "n ( 8 c&idate w\ld bett] be )drawn4 ,lat] on1 if ! objection to him is disprov$ or ov]come1 8 "n c aga9 be put up4 ,! m popul> ! c&idate1 ! less "w !re is = 8 propos] & second]4 ,a /rang]--if he is n a memb] ( ! repres5tative club 9 8 own city--w\ld h ne$ ( /rong fri5ds to elect him to an exclusive "o 9 ano!r1 & an unpopul> man has no *ance at all4 ,h[ev]1 9 all except v r>e in/ances ev5ts run smoo?ly2 ! c&idate is vot$ on at a meet+ ( ! bo>d ( gov]nors & is elect$4 ,a notice is mail$ to him next morn+1 tell+ him t he has be5 elect$ & t 8 initiation fee & 8 dues make a total ( s mu*4 ,! c&idate !reupon at once draws 8 *eck = ! am\nt & mails x4 ,z soon z ! secret>y has _h ample "t to receive ! *eck1 ! new memb] is free to use ! club z mu* or z little z he c>es to4 ,,! ,,new ,,memb] ,! new memb] usually1 b n necess>ily1 goes = ! fir/ "t to a club ) 8 propos] or 8 second]1 or at lea/ an old memb]2 = s9ce 9 exclusive clubs visitors liv+ 9 ! same city are nev] giv5 ! privilege ( ! club1 none b memb]s c "k _! way ab\t4 ,let u say he goes = lun* or d9n]1 at :i* he is ho/1 & 8 fri5d imp>ts su* unwritt5 in=mation z3 ,t *air 9 ! w9d[ is :]e old ,gotrox always sits2 don't occupy x :5 y see him com+ 9 or he w be disagreeable to ev]ybody = a week4 ,or ,!y always play d\ble /akes at ?is table1 s don't sit at x1 unless y mean to4 ,or ,t's ,d\ble com+ 9 n[1 avoid him at bridge z y w\ld ! plague4 ,! roa/s are always good & t wait] is ! be/ 9 ! room1 etc4 ,a new memb] is giv5--or %\ld ask =--a copy ( ! ,club ,book1 :i* conta9s besides ! li/ ( ! memb]s1 ! con/itution & ! by-laws or h\se rules1 :i* he mu/ /udy c>efully & be sure to obey4 ,,c\ntry ,,clubs ,c\ntry clubs are z a rule less exclusive & less exp5sive ?an ! repres5tative city clubs1 b ^? l ! ,myopia ,hunt1 ! ,tux$o1 ! ,saddle & ,cycle1 ! ,burl+ame1 & c\ntless o!rs 9 betwe51 are _m ( !m m exp5sive to belong to ?an any clubs 9 ,london or ,new ,york1 & are precisely ! same 9 matt]s ( memb]%ip & managem5t4 ,!y are also q z difficult to be elect$ to z any ( ! exclusive clubs 9 ! cities--m s if any?+1 because !y are op5 to ! family & fri5ds ( e memb]1 :]eas 9 a man's club 9 a city 8 memb]%ip gives ! privilege ( ! club to no "o b himself p]sonally4 ,! te/ "q always put by ! gov]nors at elections is3 ,are ! c&idate's fri5ds z well z 8 family likely to be agreeable to ! pres5t memb]s ( ! ,club8 ,if n1 he is n admitt$4 ,ne>ly all c\ntry clubs h1 h[ev]1 "o op5 door--unkn[n to city ones4 ,p tak+ h\ses 9 ! neighborhood are (t5 grant$ season privileges2 mean+ t on be+ propos$ by a memb] & ^u pay+ a season subscription1 new h\sehold]s are accept$ z transi5t gue/s4 ,9 "s clubs ?is season subscription may be indef9itely r5ew$2 9 o!rs a man mu/ come up = regul> election at ! end ( ?ree mon?s or six or a ye>4 ,ap>t f :at may be call$ ! few repres5tative & exclusive c\ntry clubs1 !re are hundr$s--m likely ?\s&s--:i* h v simple requirem5ts = memb]%ip4 ,! m]e =m ( hav+ "o or two memb]s v\* = a c&idate's integrity & good behavior is suffici5t4 ,golf clubs1 hunt+ clubs1 political or sports clubs h special memb]%ip qualifications2 all good golf play]s are z a rule welcom$ at all golf clubs2 all huntsm5 at hunt+ clubs1 & yet ! ,myopia w\ld n ?9k ( admitt+ ! be/ rid] ev] kn[n if he 0 n unque/ionably a g5tleman4 ,b ?is is unusual4 ,z a rule1 ! great play] is welcom$ 9 any club specially devot$ to ! sport 9 :i* he excels4 ,9 _m clubs a /rang] may be giv5 a ?ree 7sometimes x is six7 mon?s' transi5t memb]%ip1 available 9 "s in/ances to =eign]s only2 9 o!rs to /rang]s liv+ beyond a c]ta9 di/ance4 ,a "n is propos$ & second$ by two memb]s & !n vot$ on by ! gov]nors1 or ! h\se committee4 ,! be/ kn[n & mo/ di/+ui%$ club ( ,new ,engl& has an ,annex 9 :i* !re are d9+-rooms to :i* ladies z well z g5tlem5 :o are n memb]s are admitt$1 & ?is annex plan has s9ce be5 foll[$ by o!rs else:]e4 ,all m5's clubs h private d9+-rooms 9 :i* memb]s c give /ag d9n]s1 b ! repres5tative m5's clubs exclude ladies absolutely f ev] cross+ _! ?re%olds4 ,,wom5',s ,,clubs ,except+ t ! luxuri\s wom5's club has an atmosph]e t a man r>ely kn[s h[ to give to ! int]ior ( a h\se1 no matt] h[ ar*itecturally p]fect x may be1 !re is no diff]5ce betwe5 wom5's & m5's clubs4 ,9 e ,/ate ( ! ,union !re are wom5's clubs ( e k9d & grade2 social1 political1 sports1 pr(essional2 "s h\s$ 9 enorm\s & p]fect build+s con/ruct$ = !m1 & "s p]haps 9 only a room or two4 ,:5 ! pione] wom5's club ( ,new ,york 0 />t$1 a club t aspir$ to be 9 ! same class z ! mo/ important m5's club1 v>i\s gov]nors ( ! latt] 7 unflatt]+ly outspok52 wom5 c\ld n possibly run a club z x %\ld be run--x 0 un?9kable t !y %\ld be fooli% en\gh to attempt x6 ,& ! husb&s & fa!rs ( ! f\nd]s expect$ to h to dig d[n 9 _! pockets to make up ! deficit2 =gett+ entirely t ! runn+ ( a club is m]ely ! runn+ ( a h\se on a l>ge scale1 & t wom51 n m51 are ! p]fect h\sekeep]s4 ,to-day1 no clubs any:]e are m p]fect 9 appo9tm5t or bett] run ?an ! repres5tative wom5's clubs4 ,9 fact1 "s ( ! m5's clubs h be5 =c$ to foll[ ! lead ( ! =emo/ ( !m & to realize t a club 9 :i* memb]s m]ely sit ab\t & look out ( ! w9d[ is a pretty dull place to ! type ( y\ng] memb]s !y mo/ want to attract1 & t ! comb9ation ( ! com=t & sm>tness ( a p]fectly run private h\se ) e equipm5t = a?letics1 is becom+ ! ideal 9 club-life & club-build+ to-day4 ,,good ,,mann]s ,,9 ,,clubs ,good mann]s 9 clubs are ! same z good mann]s else:]e--only a little m s4 ,a club is = ! pleasure & conv5i5ce ( _m2 x is nev] int5d$ z a /age-sett+ = a /> or cl[n or monologi/4 ,!re is no place :]e a p]son has great] ne$ ( re/ra9t & consid]ation = ! res]ves ( o!rs ?an 9 a club4 ,9 e club !re is a read+-room or libr>y :]e conv]sation is n all[$2 !re are books & easy *airs & good light = read+ bo? by day & night2 & x is "o ( ! unbreakable rules n to speak to anybody :o is read+--or writ+4 ,:5 two p are sitt+ by !mselves & talk+1 ano!r %\ld on no acc\nt jo9 !m unless he is an intimate fri5d ( bo?4 ,to be a m]e acqua9tance1 or1 /ill less1 to h be5 introduc$ to "o ( !m1 gives no privilege :atev]4 ,! fact ( be+ a club memb] does n 7except 9 a c]ta9 few especially in=mal clubs7 grant any "o ! "r to speak to /rang]s4 ,if a new memb] happ5s to f9d no "o 9 ! club :om he kn[s1 he goes ab\t 8 own affairs4 ,he ei!r sits d[n & reads or writes1 or looks out ( ! w9d[1 or plays solitaire1 or occupies himself z he w\ld if he 7 alone 9 a hotel4 ,x is c\rte\s ( a gov]nor or habitual memb]1 on notic+ a new memb] or a visitor1 especially "o :o seems to be r at a loss--to g up & speak to him1 b ! latt] mu/ on no acc\nt be ! "o to speak fir/4 ,c]ta9 ,new ,york & ,bo/on clubs1 z well z ^? ( ,london1 h e>n$ a reputation = snobbi%ness because ! memb]s nev] speak to ^? !y d n "k4 ,?r\gh no int5t to be disagreeable1 b j because x is n cu/om>y1 ,new ,york p d n speak to ^? !y d n "k1 & x does n occur to !m t /rang]s feel slight$ until !y !mselves are giv5 ! same m$ic9e 9 ,london2 or go+ else:]e 9 ,am]ica1 !y appreciate ! c\rtesy & k9dness ( ! ,s\? & ,we/4 ,! fundam5tal rule = behavior 9 a club is ! same z 9 ! draw+-room ( a private h\se4 ,9 o!r words1 heels h no place on furniture1 a%es belong 9 a%-receiv]s1 books %\ld n be abus$1 & all evid5ce ( ex]cis+ %\ld be conf9$ to ! c\rts or c\rses & ! lock] room4 ,_m p :o w\ldn't ?9k ( loll+ ar\nd ! h\se 9 unfit attire1 come troop+ into c\ntry clubs ) _! /eam+ faces1 clammy %irts1 & rumpl$ hair1 giv+ too awful evid5ce ( rec5t ex]tion1 & pres5t fitness = ! ba?tub4 ,,! ,,p]fect ,,clubman ,! p]fect clubman is ano!r ^w = ! p]fect g5tleman4 ,he nev] all[s himself to %[ irritability to any "o1 he makes x a po9t to be c\rte\s to a new memb] or an old memb]'s gue/4 ,he scrupul\sly obs]ves ! rules ( ! club1 he dis*>ges 8 c>d debts at ! table1 he pays 8 %>e always1 ) an in/9ctive horror ( spong+1 & la/ly1 he treats ev]yone ) ! same consid]ation :i* he expects--& dem&s--f !m4 ,,! ,,in=mal ,,club ,! in=mal club is (t5 m sugge/ive ( a frat]nity ?an a club1 9 t e memb] speaks to e o!r--always4 ,9 "o ( ! be/ kn[n ( ?is type1 ! memb]s are arti/s1 au?ors1 sci5ti/s1 sportsm5 & o!r ?9k]s & do]s4 ,!re is a long table set e day = lun* at :i* ! memb]s ga!r & talk1 e "o to e "o else4 ,!re is ano!r d9+-room :]e solit>y memb]s may sit by !mselves or br+ 9 outsid]s if !y c>e to4 ,none b memb]s sit at ! r\nd table :i* isn't r\nd 9 ! lea/6 ,! in=mal club is always a comp>atively small "o1 b ! me?od ( elect+ memb]s v>ies4 ,9 "s1 x is cu/om>y to take ! vote ( ! :ole club1 9 o!rs memb]s are elect$ by ! gov]nors fir/1 & !n ask$ to jo94 ,9 ?is case no man may ask to h 8 "n put up4 ,9 o!rs ! conv5tional me?ods are foll[$4 ,,! ,,visitors ,,9 ,a ,,club ,9 e club 9 ! ,unit$ ,/ates a memb] is all[$ to introduce a /rang] 7liv+ at lea/ fifty miles away7 = a l5g? ( "t v>y+ ) ! by-laws ( ! club4 ,9 "s clubs gue/s may be put up = a day only1 9 o!rs ! privilege ext5ds = two weeks or m4 ,_m clubs all[ ea* memb] a c]ta9 numb] ( visitors a ye>2 9 o!rs visitors are unlimit$4 ,b 9 all city clubs ! same gue/ c n be introduc$ twice )9 ! ye>4 ,9 c\ntry clubs visitors may always be br\ght 9 by memb]s 9 unlimit$ numb]s4 ,z a rule :5 a memb] introduces a /rang]1 he takes him to ! club p]sonally1 writes 8 "n 9 ! visitors' book1 & introduces him to ^? :o may be 9 ! room at ! "t--v possibly ask+ ano!r memb] :om he kn[s p>ticul>ly well to look out = 8 gue/4 ,if = "s reason x is n possible = ! /rang]'s ho/ to take him to ! club1 he writes to ! secret>y ( ! club = a c>d ( introduction4 ,example3 ,secret>y1 ,! ,t[n ,club4 ,de> ,sir3 ,k9dly s5d ,mr4 ,a4,m4 ,/rangleigh a c>d ext5d+ ! privileges ( ! ,club = "o week4 ,mr4 ,/rangleigh is a resid5t ( ,london4 ,y\rs v truly1 ,clubw9 ,doe4 ,! secret>y !n s5ds a c>d to ,mr4 ,/rangleigh3 ,! ,t[n ,club ,ext5ds its privileges to ,mr4 ,,hw3 ,/rangleigh f ,,hw3 ,jan4 #g4 to ,,hw3 ,jan4 #ad4 ,?r\gh ! c\rtesy ( ,mr4 ,,hw3 ,clubw9 ,doe ,mr4 ,/rangleigh goes to ! club by himself4 ,a visitor :o has be5 giv5 ! privileges ( ! club has1 dur+ ! "t ( 8 visit1 all ! rights ( a memb] except+ t he is n all[$ to introduce o!rs to ! club1 & he c n give a d9n] 9 ! private d9+-room4 ,/rict etiquette also dem&s1 if he wi%es to ask sev]al memb]s to d9e ) him1 t he take !m to a re/aurant r ?an into ! club d9+-room1 s9ce ! club is _! home & he is a /rang] 9 x4 ,he may ask a memb] :om he kn[s well to lun* ) him 9 ! club rooms1 b he mu/ n ask "o :om he kn[s only slightly4 ,z acc\nts are s5t to ! memb] :o put him up--unless ! gue/ arranges at ! club's (fice to h 8 *>ges r5d]$ to himself1 he mu/ be punctili\s to ask = 8 bill ^u leav+1 & pay x )\t "q4 ,putt+ a man up at a club nev] means t ! memb] is ho/4 ,! visitor's /atus ?r\gh\t 8 /ay is f\nd$ on ! c\rtesy ( ! memb] :o introduc$ him1 & he %\ld try to %[ an equal c\rtesy to e "o ab\t him4 ,he %\ld rememb] n to obtrude on ! privacy ( ! memb]s he does n "k4 ,he has no "r to criticise ! managem5t1 ! rules or ! organization ( ! club4 ,he has1 9 %ort1 no actual rights at all1 & he mu/ n =get t he hasn't6 ,,club ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,london1 ,,p>is ,,& ,,new ,,york ,9 a v sm>t ,london club 7! words quot$ are ,clubw9 ,doe's7 y keep y\r hat on & gl>e ab\t6 ,9 ,p>is y take y\r hat (f & behave ) su* c\rtesy & polit5ess z seems to y an affectation4 ,9 ,new ,york y take y\r hat (f & behave z ?\gh ! rooms 7 empty2 b z ?\gh y 7 be+ obs]v$ ?r\gh loop-holes 9 ! walls4 ,9 ,new ,york y are introduc$ occasionally1 b y may nev] ask to be introduc$1 & y speak only to ^? y h be5 introduc$ to4 ,9 ,london1 y are nev] introduc$ to any "o1 b if ! memb] :o has tak5 y ) him jo9s a gr\p & y all sit d[n toge!r1 y talk z y w\ld aft] d9n] 9 a g5tleman's h\se4 ,b if y are made a tempor>y memb] & meet ^? y h be5 talk+ to :5 y are alone ! next day1 y d n speak unless spok5 to4 ,9 ,p>is1 y\r ho/ punctili\sly introduces y to v>i\s memb]s & y mu/ j z punctili\sly g ! next day to _! h\ses & leave y\r c>d ^u ea* "o6 ,?is is cu/om>y 9 ! /rictly ,fr5* clubs only4 ,9 any "o :i* has memb]s ( o!r nationalities--especially ) ,am]icans pr$om9at+1 or seem+ to1 ,am]ican cu/oms obta94 ,9 ,fr5* clubs a visitor c n g to ! club unless he is ) a memb]1 b !re are no re/rictions on ! numb] ( times he may be tak5 by ! same memb] or ano!r "o4 ,,unbreakable ,,rules ,failure to pay "o's debts1 or behavior unbefitt+ a g5tleman1 is cause = expulsion f e club2 :i* is look$ ^u 9 mu* ! same light z expulsion f ! ,army4 ,9 c]ta9 cases expulsion = debt may seem unfair1 s9ce "o may f9d himself 9 unexpect$ly /rait5$ circum/ances1 & ! greate/ fault or crime c\ld n be m sev]ely dealt ) ?an be+ expell$ f 8 club2 b club honor--except "u v tempor>y & mitigat+ conditions--takes no acc\nt ( any reason = be+ unable to meet 8 obligations4 ,he mu/--or he is n consid]$ honorable4 ,if a man c n af=d to belong to a club he mu/ resign :ile he is /ill 9 good /&+4 ,if lat] on he is able to rejo91 8 "n is put at ! head ( ! wait+ li/1 & if he 0 consid]$ a desirable memb]1 he is re-elect$ at ! next meet+ ( ! gov]nors4 ,b a man :o has be5 expell$ 7unless he c %[ cause :y 8 expulsion 0 unju/ & be re-in/at$7 c nev] aga9 belong to t1 or be elect$ to any o!r1 club4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxi ,,games ,,& ,,sports ,! popul>ity ( bridge :i/ began a qu>t] ( a c5tury ago ) ! old] p & has increas$ sl[ly b /eadily until x is sc>cely an exagg]ation to say t ^? :o d n play bridge1 :i* means auction1 are seldom ask$ out4 ,& ! epidemic is j z widespread among girls & boys z among old] p4 ,bridge is always tak5 s]i\sly2 a bumble puppy game won't d at all1 ev5 among ! y\nge/ play]s1 & o!r qualifications ( "* & ( etiquette mu/ be obs]v$ by e "o :o w\ld be s\ght aft] to make up a f\r4 ,,p ,,*>m+ ,,to ,,play ,,bridge ,,) ,t no "o likes a poor p>tn]--or ev5 a poor oppon5t--goes )\t say+4 ,! ideal p>tn] is "o :o nev] criticises or ev5 seems to be aw>e ( y\r mi/akes1 b on ! contr>y recognizes a good maneuv] on y\r "p1 & gives y cr$it = x :e!r y w9 ! h& or lose2 :]eas ! inf]ior play] is apt to judge y m]ely by :at y w91 & blame y\r make if y g d[n1 ?\gh y\r play may h be5 exceptionally good & ! loss ev5 occasion$ by wrong in=mation :i* he himself gave y4 ,also1 to be cont9ually f\nd fault ) makes y play y\r wor/2 :]eas appreciation ( good judgm5t on y\r "p acts z a tonic & y play seem+ly bett] ?an y "k h[4 ,,p ,,dislik$ ,,at ,,! ,,bridge ,,table ,!re is no?+ :i* m quickly reveals ! v5e]$ g5tleman ?an ! c>d table1 & 8 v5e] melts equally ) success or failure4 ,be+ c>ri$ away by ! game1 he =gets to keep on 8 company poli%1 & if he w9s1 he becomes grasp+ or ov]be>+1 because ( 8 skill2 if he loses he sne]s at ! luck ( o!rs & seeks to ju/ify himself = ! same fault t he criticis$ a mom5t be=e 9 ano!r4 ,a trick t is annoy+ to mod]ately skill$ play]s1 is to h an ov]-confid5t oppon5t ?r[ d[n 8 h& say+3 ,! re/ ( ! tricks are m9e6 & (t5 succe$ 9 putt+ x ov]1 :5 x is q possible t !y might n be 8 if ! h& 7 play$ out4 ,kn[+ !mselves to be poor] play]s1 ! o!rs are apt n to "q x1 b !y feel none ! less t _! rights h be5 tak5 f !m4 ,a r try+ p>tn] is ! n]v\s play]1 :o has no confid5ce 9 8 own judgm5t & w inv>iably pass a good h& 9 favor ( 8 p>tn]'s bid4 ,if1 = in/ance1 he has six p]fectly good diamonds1 he doesn't m5tion !m because1 8 p>tn] hav+ decl>$ a he>t1 he ?9ks to himself ,h] he>ts mu/ be bett] ?an my diamonds4 ,b a mu* m s]i\s fail+--& "o t is f> m univ]sal--is ! habit ( ov]bidd+4 ,,ov]bidd+ ,9 pok] y play alone & c !re=e play z c>efully or z fooli%ly z y please1 b 9 bridge y\r p>tn] has to suff] ) y1 & y !re=e are 9 honor b\nd to play ! be/ y "k h[--& ! be/ y "k h[ is z f> z c possibly be f ov]bidd+4 ,rememb] t y\r p>tn]1 if he is a good play]1 c\nts on y = c]ta9 def9ite c>ds t y ann\nce by y\r bid to be 9 y\r h&1 & raises y accord+ly4 ,if y h n ^! c>ds y n only lose t p>ticul> h&1 b de/roy 8 confid5ce 9 y1 & ! next "t :5 he has a legitimate raise = y1 he w fail to give x4 ,he disreg>ds y entirely because he is afraid ( y6 ,y mu/ /udy ! rules = makes & nev] "u any circum/ances give y\r p>tn] mis9=mation2 ?is is ! mo/ vital rule !re is1 & any "o :o disreg>ds x is dete/$ at ! bridge table4 ,no matt] h[ great ! temptation to make a gambl]'s bid1 y are 9 honor b\nd to refra94 ,! next ess5tial1 if y w\ld be ?\ght *>m+1 is nev] to take y\r p>tn] to task no matt] h[ /upidly he may h ?r[n ! h&4 ,,don',,ts ,,= ,,^? ,,:o ,,w\ld ,,be ,,s\ght ,,aft] ,don't hold a po/-mortem on anybody's del9qu5cies 7unless y are actually tea*+74 ,if luck is aga9/ y1 x w avail no?+ to sulk or compla9 ab\t ! awful c>ds y are hold+4 ,y\r p>tn] is suff]+ j z mu* 9 f9d+ y a poison v9e z y are 9 be+ "o--& y c sc>cely expect y\r oppon5ts to be sympa!tic4 ,y mu/ le>n to look p]fectly tranquil & *e]ful ev5 ?\gh y hold no?+ b y>bor\ghs = days on end1 & y mu/ on no acc\nt try to def5d y\r own bad play--ev]4 ,:5 y h made a play ( poor judgm5t1 ! be/ ?+ y c say is1 ,i'm v sorry1 p>tn]1 & let x g at t4 ,always pay close att5tion to ! game4 ,:5 y are dummy y h c]ta9 duties to y\r p>tn]1 & s d n w&] ar\nd ! room until ! h& is ov]4 ,if y don't "k :at y\r duties are1 read ! rules until y "k !m by he>t & !n--beg9 all ov] aga96 ,x is impossible to play any game )\t a ?or\gh k ( ! laws t gov]n x1 & y are at fault 9 mak+ ! attempt4 ,don't be (f5d$ if y\r p>tn] takes y out ( a bid1 & don't take him out = ! glory ( play+ ! h&4 ,he is q z anxi\s to w9 ! rubb] z y are4 ,x is unbelievable h[ _m p reg>d _! p>tn] z a ?ird oppon5t4 ,,mann]isms ,,at ,,! ,,c>d ,,table ,mann]isms mu/ be avoid$ l ! plague4 ,if !re is "o ?+ worse ?an ! horrible po/-mortem1 x is ! incessant repetition ( "s j>r+ habit by "o p>ticul> play]4 ,! mo/ usual & mo/ (f5sive is t ( snapp+ d[n a c>d z play$1 or b5d+ a trick "o has tak5 into a lett] ,u1 or pick+ x up & trott+ x up & d[n on ! table4 ,o!r pet (f5ses are drumm+ on ! table ) "o's f+]s1 mak+ v>i\s click+1 :i/l+1 or humm+ s\nds1 massag+ "o's face1 scrat*+ "o's *9 ) ! c>ds1 or wav+ ! c>d "o is go+ to play al(t 9 ! air 9 ,sm>t ,alec fa%ion z ?\gh %\t+1 ,i "k :at y are go+ to lead6 ,& my c>d is ready6 ,all mann]isms t attract att5tion are 9 ! long run equally unpleasant--ev5 un5durable to "o's companions4 ,_m p ^: game is o!rwise admirable are r>ely ask$ to play because !y h all[$ "s su* silly & annoy+ habit to take its hold ^u !m4 ,,! ,,good ,,los] ,! good los] makes x an inv>iable rule nev] to play = /akes t x w be inconv5i5t to lose4 ,! neglect ( ?is rule has be5 responsible = m bad los]s ?an any?+ else1 & ne$less to say a bad los] is ab\t z welcome at a c>d table z ra9 at a picnic4 ,( c\rse !re are p :o c take losses beyond _! means ) p]fect *e]fulness & composure4 ,"s few are s imbu$ ) ! gambl]'s in/9ct t a heavy turn ( luck1 9 ei!r direction1 is ! salt ( life4 ,b ! av]age p]son is equally emb>rass$ 9 w9n+ or los+ a /ake t matt]s & ! only answ] is to play = "o t doesn't4 ,,golf ,golf is a p>ticul>ly sev]e /ra9 ^u ! amiability ( ! av]age p]son's temp]1 & 9 no o!r game1 except bridge1 is s]5ity ( disposition s ess5tial4 ,no "o easily ruffl$ c keep a cle> eye on ! ball1 & exasp]ation at lo/ balls seem+ly bewit*es successive ones into disappe>+ ) ! complet5ess & f9ality ( puffs ( smoke4 ,9 a race or o!r te/ ( endurance a fl>e ( ang] might ev5 help1 b 9 golf x is safe to say t he :o loses 8 temp] is pretty sure to lose ! game4 ,golf play]s ( c\rse "k ! rules & obs]ve !m1 b x q (t5 happ5s t idl]s1 hav+ no?+ bett] to d1 walk out ov] a c\rse & wat* ! play]s4 ,if !y "k ! play]s well1 t is "o ?+1 b !y h no "r to foll[ /rang]s4 ,a play] :o is n]v\s is easily put (f 8 game1 especially if ^? wat*+ him are s ill-br$ z to make audible rem>ks4 ,^? play+ mat*es ( c\rse expect an audi5ce1 & erratic & n]v\s play]s ought n to g into t\rnam5ts--or at lea/ n 9 two-ball f\rsomes :]e !y are likely to h&icap a p>tn]4 ,9 foll[+ a mat*1 onlook]s mu/ be c>eful to /& well )9 b\nds & nei!r talk nor laugh nor d any?+ t c possibly di/ract ! att5tion ( ! play]s4 ,! rule t y %\ld n appo9t y\rself m5tor holds good 9 golf z well z 9 bridge & e o!r game4 ,unless y\r advice is ask$ =1 y %\ld n in/ruct o!rs h[ to hold _! clubs or :i* ones to use1 or h[ !y ought to make ! %ot4 ,a "y woman mu/ on no acc\nt expect ! man %e happ5s to be play+ ) to make h] pres5ts ( golf-balls1 or to caddy = h]1 nor mu/ %e all[ him to provide h] ) a caddy4 ,if %e c't af=d to hire "o ( h] own1 %e mu/ ei!r c>ry h] own clubs or n play golf4 ,,o!r ,,games ,,& ,,sports ,!re are fix$ rules = ! play+ ( e game--& = prop] conduct 9 e sport4 ,! details ( ^! rules mu/ be /udi$ 9 ! books ( ! game1 le>n$ f in/ructors1 or acquir$ by exp]i5ce4 ,a small boy p]haps le>ns to fi% or swim by himself1 b he is taught by 8 fa!r or a guide--at all ev5ts1 "s "o--h[ & h[ n to hold a gun1 ca/ a fly1 or ride a horse4 ,b ap>t f ! te*nique ( ea* sport1 or ! rules ( ea* game1 ! etiquette--or m correctly1 ! basic pr9ciples ( good sportsman%ip1 are ! same4 ,9 no sport or game c any favoritism or evasion ( rules be all[$4 ,sport is bas$ ^u imp]sonal & indiscrim9at+ fairness to e "o alike1 or x is n sport4 ,& to be a good sportsman1 "o mu/ be a /oic & nev] %[ rancor 9 defeat1 or triumph 9 victory1 or irritation1 no matt] :at annoyance is enc\nt]$4 ,"o :o c n help sulk+1 or expla9+1 or prote/+ :5 ! los]1 or exult+ :5 ! w9n]1 has no "r to take "p 9 games & conte/s4 ,,play+ ,,! ,,game ,if y w\ld be ?\ght to play ! game1 mean+ if y aspire to be a true sportsman1 y mu/ foll[ ! rules ( sportsman%ip ! _w ov]3 ,nev] lose y\r temp]4 ,play = ! sake ( play+ r ?an to w94 ,nev] /op 9 ! middle ( a t5nis or golf mat* & compla9 ( a lame ankle1 especially if y are los+4 ,unless x is lit]ally impossible = y to g on1 y mu/ /ick x out4 ,if y are a novice1 don't ask an exp]t to play ) y1 especially z y\r p>tn]4 ,if he %\ld ask y 9 spite ( y\r %ortcom+s1 ma9ta9 ! humility prop] to a beg9n]4 ,if y are a woman1 don't ape ! ways & clo?+ ( m54 ,if y are a man1 don't take advantage ( y\r sup]ior /r5g? to set a pace beyond ! endurance ( a woman oppon5t4 ,& always give ! oppon5t ! b5efit ( ! d\bt6 ,no?+ is m important to y\r /&+ z a sportsman1 ?\gh x co/s y ! p>ticul> po9t 9 "q4 ,a true sportsman is always a *e]ful los]1 a quiet w9n]1 ) a v frank appreciation ( ! admirable traits 9 o!rs1 :i* he seeks to emulate1 & 8 own %ortcom+s1 :i* he tries to improve4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxii ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,bus9ess ,,& ,,politics ,a c]ta9 ri* man ^: appo9tm5t to a =eign po/ ( importance 0 ab\t to be ratifi$1 came into ! corridor ( a ,wa%+ton hotel & /opp$ to speak ) a lady = a few mom5ts4 ,dur+ ! :ole conv]sation he kept 8 hat on 8 head & a cig> 9 ! corn] ( 8 m\?4 ,x happ5$ t ! lady 0 ! wife ( a prom95t s5ator1 & %e lo/ no "t 9 report+ ! incid5t to h] husb&1 :o 9 turn br\ght ! matt] to ! att5tion ( c]ta9 ( 8 colleagues ) ! result t ! appo9tm5t did n g ?r\gh4 ,x is n unlikely t ?is man ?9ks politics play$ aga9/ him1 :]eas ! only factor aga9/ him 0 8 exhibition ( ill-bre$+ :i* prov$ him unsuitable to repres5t ! dignity ( 8 c\ntry4 ,etiquette w\ld n seem to play an important "p 9 bus9ess1 & yet no man c ev] tell :5 its k may be ( advantage1 or its lack may turn ! scale aga9/ him4 ,! man :o rema9s plant$ 9 8 *air :5 a lady 7or an old] man7 speaks to him1 :o receives cu/om]s 9 8 %irt sleeves1 :o does n take (f 8 hat :5 talk+ ) a lady & take 8 cig> out ( 8 m\? :5 b[+ or :5 address+ h]1 c nev] be sure t he is n prep>+ a witness = ! prosecution4 ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,smok+ ,! above does n mean t a g5tleman may nev] smoke 9 ! pres5ce ( ladies--especially 9 ! pres5ce ( ^? :o smoke !mselves--b a g5tleman %\ld n smoke "u ! foll[+ circum/ances3 ,:5 walk+ on ! /reet ) a lady4 ,:5 lift+ 8 hat or b[+4 ,9 a room1 an (fice1 or an elevator1 :5 a lady ent]s4 ,9 any %ort conv]sation :]e he is /&+ ne>1 or talk+ ) a lady4 ,if he is seat$ himself = a conv]sation ) a lady on a v]&a1 9 an hotel1 9 a private h\se1 any:]e :]e smok+ is p]mitt$1 he fir/ asks1 ,d y m9d if ,i smoke8 ,& if %e replies1 ,n at all or ,d1 by all means1 x is !n prop] = him to d s4 ,he %\ld1 h[ev]1 take 8 cig>1 pipe1 or cig>ette1 out ( 8 m\? :ile he is speak+4 ,"o :o is v adroit c say a ^w or two )\t an unpleasant grimace1 b "o %\ld n talk ) "o's m\? ei!r full ( food or b>ricad$ ) tobacco4 ,9 ! c\ntry1 a g5tleman may walk ) a lady & smoke at ! same "t--especially a pipe or cig>ette4 ,:y a cig> is less admissible is h>d to det]m9e1 unless a pipe someh[ belongs to ! c\ntry4 ,a g5tleman 9 golf or c\ntry clo!s ) a pipe 9 8 m\? & a dog at 8 heels sugge/s a picture fitt+ to ! sc5e2 :ile a cig> seems z out ( place z a cutaway coat4 ,a pipe on ! /reet 9 a city1 on ! o!r h&1 is less appropriate ?an a cig> 9 ! c\ntry4 ,9 any ev5t he w1 ( c\rse1 ask 8 companion's p]mission to smoke4 ,,mann]s ,,& ,,bus9ess ,if y _h a commission to give & y ent]$ a man's (fice & f\nd him loll+ back 9 a tipp$ swivel *air1 8 feet above 8 head1 ! ubiquit\s cig> 9 8 m\? & 8 dr[sy att5tion fix$ on ! sport+ page ( ! newspap]1 y w\ld be impress$ n s mu* by 8 lack ( good mann]s z by 8 bad bus9ess policy1 because ( ! incompet5ce t 8 attitude sugge/s4 ,x is sc>cely necess>y to ask3 ,w\ld y give an important commission to him :o has no app>5t int5tion ( do+ any?+ b take 8 ease2 or to him :o is f\nd occupi$ at 8 desk1 :o gets up ) alacrity ^u y\r entrance1 & is seem+ly on 8 toes m5tally z well z actually8 ,or1 w\ld y g 9 pref]5ce to a man ^: mann]s resemble ^? ( a be> at ! ,zoo1 if y c\ld g to ano!r ^: bus9ess ability is supplem5t$ by p]sonal *>m8 ,& ?is aga9 is m]ely an illu/ration ( bad mann]s & good4 ,,an ,,advantage ,,( ,,poli% ,"o advantage ( poli% is t "o's oppon5t c nev] tell :at is go+ on "u ! glaz$ surface ( highly f9i%$ mann]s1 :]eas an unf9i%$ surface is all too easily p5etrat$4 ,& s9ce bus9ess enc\nt]s are (t5 play$ l pok] h&s1 x is surely a bad plan to be play+ ) a m9d-read] :o c pla9ly div9e 8 oppon5t's c>ds1 :ile 8 own are unreveal$4 ,mann]s t c by any possibility be con/ru$ z m9c+1 foppi% or effem9ate are n recomm5d$2 b a g5tleman :o says ,good morn+ to 8 employees & :o inv>iably treats all wom5 z ladies1 does n half s mu* flatt] _! vanity z w9 _! respect = himself z a g5tleman4 ,aga91 good mann]s are1 aft] all1 no?+ b c\rte\s consid]ation ( o!r p's int]e/s & feel+s4 ,t be+ true1 does x n foll[ t all cu/om]s1 sup]ior (fic]s & employees pref] an executive ^: good mann]s imply consid]ation ( 8 cu/om]'s1 8 company's & 8 employee's int]e/ z well z m]ely 8 own8 ,,p]fect ,,poli% ,,t ,,is ,,unsuspect$ ,! presid5t ( a great indu/ry1 ^: ma/]y ( etiquette is "o ( 8 *ief assets1 s subm]ges ?is asset 9 o!r & m app>5t qualifications1 t e pla9 man he comes 9 contact ) takes x = grant$ t he is an equally pla9 man himself4 ,he is pla9 9 s f> z he is /raight=w>d 9 attitude & simple 9 mann]4 ,no r$ tape is requir$ app>5tly to p5etrate into ?is presid5t's private (fice1 :]eas _m small m5 are gu>d$ ) pret5ti\sness t is (t5 an ef=t to give an impression ( importance4 ,9 ?is big man's employ !re is an especial assi/ant *os5 purposely because ( 8 tact & good mann]s4 ,if an unkn[n p]son asks to see ,mr4 ,presid5t1 ?is deputy is s5t out 7z f mo/ (fices7 to f9d out :at ! visitor's bus9ess is2 b in/ead ( be+ told bluntly ! boss doesn't "k him & c't see him1 ! visitor is made to feel h[ mu* ! presid5t w regret n see+ him4 ,p]haps he is told1 ,mr4 ,presid5t is 9 conf]5ce j n[4 ,i "k he w\ld n l y to be kept wait+2 c ,i be ( any s]vice to y8 ,i am 8 junior assi/ant4 ,if ! visitor's bus9ess is really ) ! presid5t1 he is admitt$ to ! *ief executive's (fice1 s9ce x is ! latt]'s policy to see e "o t he c4 ,he has a c\rte\s mann] t makes e "o feel !re is no?+ 9 ! day's "w half s important z :at 8 visitor has come to see him ab\t6 ,nor is ?is mann] ins9c]e2 = :atev] "t "o sees him1 he gives 8 undivid$ att5tion4 ,%\ld 8 "t be %ort1 & ! mom5t approa* :5 he is due at an appo9tm5t1 8 secret>y ent]s1 a purposely arrang$ t5 m9utes ahead ( ! "t necess>y = ! close ( ! pres5t int]view1 & apologetically rem9ds him1 ,i'm sorry1 ,mr4 ,presid5t1 b y\r appo9tm5t ) ! ',z' committee is due4 ,mr4 ,presid5t ) seem+ unconc]n1 uses up mo/ ( ! t5 m9utes1 & 8 l+]+ close ( ! conv]sation gives 8 visitor ! impression t he mu/ h be5 late at 8 appo9tm5t1 & :olly because ( ! unusual int]e/ felt 9 8 call]4 ,?is is nei!r s9c]ity nor ins9c]ity1 b m]ely br++ social k into bus9ess deal+4 ,to make a pleasant & fri5dly impression is n alone good mann]s1 b equally good bus9ess4 ,! crude man w\ld und\bt$ly %[ 8 eag]ness to be rid ( 8 visitor1 & aft] (f5d+ ! latt]'s self-pride because ( 8 inatt5tive disc\rtesy1 be late = 8 own appo9tm5t6 ,! man ( skill saw 8 visitor = few] actual m9utes1 b gave ! impression t circum/ances ov] :i* he _h no control =c$ him unwill+ly to close ! int]view4 ,he n only ga9$ ! good w ( 8 visitor1 b arriv$ at 8 own appo9tm5t 9 pl5ty ( "t4 ,to li/5 att5tively :5 "o is spok5 to1 is m]ely "o ( ! rules ( etiquette4 ,! man :o1 :ile "s "o is talk+ to him1 gazes out ( ! w9d[ or up at ! ceil+1 :o draws squ>es & circles on ! blott]1 or is engross$ 9 8 f+]-nails or 8 %oes1 may 9 8 own m9d be f9ess+1 or v likely he is bor$6 ,9 ! fir/ case1 ! *ances are he w lose ! game2 9 ! second1 lots ( p are bor$1 hide\sly bor$1 & mo/ (t5 ! fault is _! own2 always !y are at fault :o %[ x4 ,,good ,,mann]s ,,& ,,good ,,mix]s ,:5 "o ?9ks ( a man :o is kn[n 9 politics & bus9ess z a good mix]1 "o is apt to ?9k ( him z a r\gh diamond r ?an a poli%$ "o4 ,9 pictur+ a g5tleman1 a man ( high cultivation1 "o in/9ctively ?9ks ( "o :o is some:at alo( & ap>t4 ,a good mix] among unc\? m5 may q accurately be "o :o is also unc\?2 b ! be/ mix] ( all is "o :o adju/s himself equally well to f9] z well z to pla9] society4 ,education t does n conf] flexibility ( m9d is an obvi\sly limit$ education2 ! man ( broade/ education tunes himself 9 unison ) :omev] he happ5s to be4 ,! m subjects he kn[s ab\t1 ! m p he is 9 sympa?y )1 & !re=e ! m cu/om]s or associates or con/itu5ts he is sure to h4 ,! really big man--x makes little diff]5ce :e!r he 0 born ) a gold spoon 9 8 m\? or no spoon at all--is always "o ^: int]e/ 9 p1 ?+s1 & ev5ts is a /imulat+ influ5ce ^u all ^? he comes 9 contact )4 ,he :o says1 ,t does n int]e/ me1 or ,t bores me1 def9es 8 own limitations4 ,he :o is unable to project sympa?y into o!r problems or classes ?an 8 own is an unimportant p]son ?\gh he h ! bir? ( a ,cecil & ! mann]s ( a ,*e/]field4 ,e g5tleman has an inali5able "r to 8 own res]ves--t goes )\t say+--& because he c project sympa?y & und]/&+ :]e & :5 he *ooses1 does n = "o mom5t mean t he !reby %\ld break d[n ! walls ( 8 in/9ctive def5ses4 ,x is n ! latt] type1 b ! ,g5tleman ,limit$ :o has belittl$ ! "n ( g5tleman 9 ! _w ( "w2 n s mu* because he is a g5tleman1 z because he is n entirely "o4 ,he :o is e in* a g5tleman z well z e in* a man is ! highe/ type 9 ! _w to-day1 j z he has always be54 ,! d-no?+ g5tleman is equally look$ d[n ^u ev]y:]e4 ,,etiquette ,,9 ,,rev]se ,,ge> ,etiquette1 rememb]1 is m]ely a collection ( =ms by :i* all p]sonal contacts 9 life are made smoo?4 ,! necessity = a r\gh man to become poli%$ s t he may meet m5 ( cultivation on an equal foot+1 has an equally important rev]se4 ,! "t has gone by :5 a g5tleman by grace ( ,god1 :i* plac$ him 9 a high-born position1 c control numb]s ( o!r m5 plac$ b5ea? him4 ,e man takes 8 place to-day accord+ to born position plus ! te/ ( 8 own exp]i5ce4 ,& j z an unlett]$ exp]t 9 bus9ess is only half au?oritative to m5 ( high cultivation1 s also is ! g5tleman1 no matt] h[ mu* he kn[s ( ,lat91 ,greek1 hi/ory1 art & poli% ( mann]1 h&icapp$ accord+ to 8 ignorance on ! subject ( ano!r's exp]tness4 ,etiquette1 9 rev]se1 prescribes ?is necessity = complete k 9 e contact 9 life4 ,?r\gh k alone1 does "o prove "o's "r to au?ority4 ,= in/ance3 ,a man 9 a ma*9e %ip is work+ at a la!4 ,an (fic] ( ! company comes into ! %op1 a g5tleman 9 :ite coll> & good clo!s6 ,he /&s beh9d ! me*anic & curses him out because 8 "w is ineffici5t4 ,:5 he turns away1 ! man at ! la! says1 ,:o 0 t guy anyway8 ,:at bus9ess has he to tea* me my job8 ,in/ead ( accept+ ! criticism1 he res5ts :at he consid]s unw>rant$ int]f]5ce by a man 9 ano!r class4 ,b suppos+ in/ead ( /&+ by & talk+ ab\t ineffici5cy1 ! g5tleman _h said1 ,get out ( !re a mom5t6 & ?r[+ (f 8 coat & roll+ up 8 silk %irt sleeves1 he _h op]at$ ! la! ) a smoo?ness & rapidity t c\ld only h be5 acquir$ ?r\gh long exp]i5ce at a b5*4 ,! result w\ld be t ! next "t he came on a t\r ( inspection t p>ticul> man 7z well z all ^? :o 7 witnesses ( ! =m] sc5e7 w\ld n only li/5 to him ) respect b )\t res5tm5t ( 8 class1 because 8 exp]tness prov$ t he _h e>n$ 8 "r to good clo!s & silk %irts1 & to tell ^? b5ea? him h[ "w %\ld be done4 ,! same te/ applies to any bran* ( exp]i5ce3 a man :o kn[s z mu* ab\t any specialty z an exp]t does himself1 makes ! exp]t ?9k at once1 ,?is man is a wond]6 ,! v fact t ! fir/ man is n mak+ ! subject 8 specialty1 int5sifies ! a*ievem5t4 ,ev]y?+ he says aft] t on subjects ( :i* ! second man kn[s no?+ is accept$ )\t "q4 ,:5ev] y "k z mu* z ! o!r man1 :e!r y are socially above1 or bel[ him1 y are on t subject 8 equal2 :5 y "k m ?an he does1 y h ! advantage4 ,,! ,,self-,,made ,,man ,,& ,,_w-,,made ,,mann]s ,x is n 9 ord] to %9e 9 society t grace ( mann] is an asset2 comp>atively few p 9 a community c>e a rap ab\t society anyway6 ,a man ( affairs ^: life is sp5t 9 do+ a man's "w 9 a man's way is n apt to be ?rill$ at ! ?\ght ( putt+ on glad clo!s & go+ out ) 8 wife to a p9k tea or a ball4 ,b :at _m successful m5 d n realize is t a fundam5tal k ( etiquette is no less an asset 9 bus9ess or public life1 or 9 any o!r contact ) p1 ?an x is 9 society4 ,j z any exp]t1 :e!r at a ma*9e b5*1 an acc\ntant's desk1 or at golf1 gives an impression ( su* ease z to make 8 accompli%m5t seem+ly require no skill1 a bungl] makes himself & e "o wat*+ him uneasy if n actually fe>ful ( 8 awkw>dness4 ,& z inexp]tness is q z irritat+ 9 p]sonal z 9 me*anical bungl+1 s !re is sc>cely any "o :o soon] or lat] does n feel ! ne$ ( social exp]tness4 ,some?+1 "s day1 w awak5 him to ! folly ( scorn+ z s(t1 m5 :o h accompli%$ mann]s2 despis+ z effem9ate1 y\?s :o h physical grace2 ( be+ contemptu\s ( ! p]fect ,engli% ( ! well-br$ g5tleman2 ( consol+ himself ) ! ?\ght t 8 own crud5ess is /rong1 & manly1 & ,am]ican6 ,,! ,x ,,m>k]s ,b let success come to ?is same inexp]t man--let him be appo9t$ to high (fice1 let him !n %uffle f foot to foot1 nev] kn[+ :at to d or say1 let him meet op5 d]ision or ill-conceal$ contempt f e educat$ p]son br\ght 9 contact ) him1 let opprobrium fall ^u 8 ,/ate because its gov]nor is a boor1 & let him z su* be writt5 ( 9 ! editorials ( ! press & 9 ! ar*ives ( hi/ory6 ,w he be s pleas$ ) himself !n8 ,does any "o ?9k ( ,!odore ,roosevelt z s(t or effem9ate because he 0 "o ( ! greate/ ma/]s ( etiquette :o ev] bore ! mo/ exalt$ honor t c be aw>d$ by ! p ( ! ,unit$ ,/ates8 ,wa%+ton 0 completely a g5tleman--& s 0 ,abraham ,l9coln4 ,because ,l9coln's etiquette 0 self-taught x 0 no less ma/]ly = t6 ,:e!r he happ5$ to "k a lot ( trifl+ details ( pseudo etiquette matt]s n 9 ! lea/4 ,awkw>d he may h be51 b ! ess5ce ( him 0 c\rtesy--unfail+ c\rtesy4 ,no r\gh1 un$ucat$ man has comm& ( p]fect ,engli%1 & ,l9coln's ,engli% is supreme4 ,"o ?+ t "s ,m5 ( ,might =get is t lack ( poli% 9 its wid] aspects is m]ely lack ( education4 ,!y !mselves look d[n ^u a man :o has to make an ,x m>k 9 place ( sign+ 8 "n--b !y ov]look entirely t to ^? m highly educat$1 !y are !mselves 9 degree q z ignorant4 ,,sons ,,( ,,self-,,made ,,m5 ,& yet1 speak to self-made m5 ( ! ne$ ( ! social graces = _! sons1 & n9e out ( t5 /amp$e--= all ! _w z ?\gh x 7 sugge/$ to put !m 9 petticoats4 ,d !y ?9k a poor unlett]$ l\t :o %ambles at ! door1 :o /&s unable to speak1 :o turns 8 cap 9 8 h&s1 :o sidles into ! room1 & c't = ! life ( him get out aga91 well tra9$ = ! battle ( life8 ,picture t ,mr4 ,/rong ,man :o ?ru/s 8 ?umbs into 8 armholes & sits tipp$ back 9 8 *air ) a cig> 9 ! corn] ( 8 m\? & 8 heels com=tably repos+ on 8 solid mahogany desk4 ,?is is n 9 criticism ( 8 relaxation1 x is 8 own desk & c]ta9ly he has a "r to put 8 heels on x if he wants to2 likewise ?umbs & armholes are 8 own4 ,x is m]ely a picture t leads to ano!r3 ,suppos+ a v great man comes into ,mr4 ,/rong ,man's (fice--"o :om he may consid] a great man1 a presid5t p]haps ( a big indu/ry or ( a railroad1 or a s5ator--& %ortly aft]w>ds1 ,/rong ,man's own son comes into ! room4 ,w\ld he l to see 8 son aba%$1 awkw>d1 spasmodically j]ky1 l ! poor bumpk9 :o came ! o!r day to ask ab\t remov+ ! a%es1 or worse yet1 bold & boi/]\s or *eeky2 or w\ld he l t boy ( 8 to come =w>d ) an entire lack ( self-consci\sness1 & z 8 fa!r introduces him z ,my ,son6 h him put out 8 h& 9 frank & easy & yet def]5tial fri5dl9ess8 ,& !n say+ quickly & quietly :atev] x 0 he came to say1 z quickly & quietly make 8 way out aga98 ,w\ld he be sorry t ! big man ?\ght1 ,f9e boy t6 ,ability too6 ,:y w\ld he ?9k he _h ability8 ,because ! ease & dext]ity ) :i* he h&l$ ! social incid5t automatically sugge/s ability to h&le o!r situations6 ,,etiquette ,,& ,,bus9ess ,,au?ority ,ano!r po9t3 ,does ! self-made man /op to realize t 8 au?ority 9 bus9ess w\ld be ev5 great] ?an x is if he _h ! hall-m>ks1 ( cultivation8 ,= in/ance1 :5 he comes 9 contact ) college graduates & o!r cultivat$ m51 8 op9ions ga9 or lose 9 weight exactly 9 proportion z he proves to be 9 _! own class or bel[ x4 ,a man unconsci\sly judges ! au?ority ( o!rs by ! /&>d ( 8 own exp]t k4 ,a crude man may be a g5ius 9 bus9ess managem5t1 b 9 ! unspok5 op9ion ( m5 ( education1 he is 9 o!r contacts inf]ior to !mselves4 ,he is an au?ority !y grant1 b 9 limit$ l9es only4 ,b :5 a man is met ) :o comb9es ) bus9ess g5ius ! advantage ( poli%$ mann]s & evid5t cultivation1 8 op9ion on any subject broa*$ at once assumes add$ weight4 ,doesn't x8 ,,*apt] ,,xxxiii ,,dress ,clo!s are to u :at fur & fea!rs are to bea/s & birds2 !y n only add to our appe>ance1 b !y are our appe>ance4 ,h[ we look to o!rs entirely dep5ds ^u :at we we> & h[ we we> x2 mann]s & spee* are not$ aft]w>d1 & "* la/ ( all4 ,9 ! community :]e we live1 admirabl5ess ( "* is ! fundam5tal ess5tial1 & 9 ord] to a*ieve a position ( importance1 p]sonality is also ess5tial2 b = ! transi5t impression t we make at home1 abroad1 ev]y:]e 9 public1 two sup]ficial attributes are alone indisp5sable3 good mann]s & a pleas+ appe>ance4 ,x is n m]ely a "q ( vanity & incl9ation4 ,9 ,new ,york1 = in/ance1 a woman mu/ dress well1 to pay h] way4 ,9 ,europe1 :]e ! title ( ,du*ess s]ves 9 lieu ( a c\rt tra9 ( gold brocade2 or 9 ,bohemian circles :]e tal5t alone may c\nt2 or 9 small communities :]e p are kn[n = :at !y really are1 appe>ance is ( e/hetic r ?an ess5tial importance4 ,9 ! _w ( sm>t society--9 ,am]ica at any rate--clo!s n only repres5t our ticket ( admission1 b our contribution to ! effect ( a p>ty4 ,:at makes a brilliant p>ty8 ,clo!s4 ,good clo!s4 ,a frumpy p>ty is no?+ m nor less ?an a collection ( badly dress$ p]sons4 ,p ) all ! bra9s1 ev5 all ! beauty imag9able1 make an assemblage ( d[ds1 unless !y are well dress$4 ,n ev5 ! mo/ beautiful ballroom 9 ! _w1 decorat$ l ! ,g>d5 ( ,ed51 c\ld 9 itself sugge/ a brilliant ent]ta9m5t1 if ! majority ( ^? :o fill$ x 7 frumps--or worse yet1 vulg>ians6 ,r be frumpy ?an vulg>6 ,mu*4 ,frumps are (t5 celebrities 9 disguise--b a p]son ( vulg> appe>ance is vulg> all ?r\gh4 ,,! ,,%eep ,frumps are n v typical ( ,am]ica1 vulg>ians are some:at m num]\s1 b ! greate/ numb] ( all are ! quietly dress$1 unnoticeable m5 & wom5 :o make up ! repres5tative backbone 9 e city2 :o buy good clo!s b n m ?an !y ne$1 & ^: ambition is m]ely to be well en\gh dress$ to fit 9 ) _! backgr\nd1 :atev] _! backgr\nd may be4 ,less num]\s1 b f> m conspicu\s1 are ! dress$-to-!-m9ute wom5 :o1 l %eep exactly1 foll[ e turn ( late/ fa%ion bl9dly & )\t ! slighte/ s5se ( di/ance or direction4 ,z ea* new season's fa%ion is def9$1 all ! %eep run & dress !mselves ea* 9 a replica ( ! o!r1 _! own types & p]sonalities h no?+ to d ) ! case4 ,fa%ion says3 ,we> bol/] cases ti$ at ! neck & ankle1 or ,a few wisps ( gauze held 9 place ) c\rt pla/]1 & daught]1 "m1 gr&mo!r1 & all ! neighbors we> ! same4 ,if em]ald gre5 is ! fa%ionable color1 all ( ! yell[e/ sk9s w be fram$ 9 x4 ,:5 hobble skirts are ! ?+1 ! fatte/ wabble along1 look+ = all ! _w l *&eli]s ti$ up 9 mosquito nett+4 ,if ball dresses are cut to ! la/ limit ( d>+1 ! ample bill[s ( ! fat w vie bl&ly ) ! m>vels ( anatomy exhibit$ by ! ?94 ,com=t1 conv5i5ce1 becom+ness1 adaptability1 beauty are ( no importance4 ,fa%ion is foll[$ to ! lett]--!re=e !y fancy1 poor %eep1 !y are ! la/ ^w 9 sm>tness4 ,^? :om ! fa%ion suits are sm>t1 b !y are seldom1 if ev]1 di/+ui%$1 because--!y are all precisely alike4 ,,! ,,woman ,,:o ,,is ,,really ,,*ic ,! woman :o is *ic is always a little diff]5t4 ,n diff]5t 9 be+ beh9d fa%ion1 b always slightly ap>t f x4 ,*ic is a borr[$ adjective1 b !re is no ,engli% ^w to take ! place ( elegant :i* 0 de/roy$ utt]ly by ! report] or practical jok] :o said elegant dresses1 & yet !re is no synonym t w express ! individuality ( beautiful ta/e comb9$ ) p]sonal dignity & grace :i* gives to a p]fect co/ume an inimitable air ( di/9ction4 ,une dame lgante is all ( t6 ,& ,mrs4 ,oldname is j su* a p]son4 ,%e foll[s fa%ion m]ely s f> z is absolutely necess>y4 ,%e gets ! late/ model p]haps1 b has x adapt$ to h] own type1 s t %e has j t di/9ction ( appe>ance t ! %eep lack4 ,%e has ev5 clung ) slight modifications to ! ,wor? ball dress1 & h] wrapp$ or fitt$ bodice has cont9u$ to look ! sm>te/ 9 e ballroom 9 spite ( ! ,greek drap]y & "o-piece meal bag & all ! o!r kaleidoscopic *anges ( fa%ion ! re/ ( u h be5 ?r\gh4 ,b ! av]age w\ld-be indep5d5t :o det]m9es to /& h] gr\nd1 say+1 ,^! new models are prepo/]\s6 ,i %all we> no?+ ( ! sort6 & keeps h] ^w1 soon f9ds h]self n at all an example ( dignity b an object ( d]ision4 ,,fa%ion ,,has ,,little ,,9 ,,common ,,) ,,beauty ,fa%ion ought to be lik5$ to a tide or epidemic2 sometimes "o might def9e x z a sort ( hypnotism1 seem+ly ex]t$ by ! gods z a joke4 ,fa%ion has ! p[] to appe> tempor>ily 9 ! guise ( beauty1 ?\gh x is ! anti!sis ( beauty ne>ly always4 ,if y d\bt x1 look at old fa%ion plates4 ,ev5 ! woman ( beautiful ta/e succumbs occasionally to ! epidemics ( fa%ion1 b %e is m immune ?an mo/4 ,all wom5 :o h any clo!s s5se :atev] "k m or less ! type ( ?+s t are _! /yle--unless !y h su* an attack ( fa%ionitis z to be irresponsibly deliri\s4 ,to describe any details ( dress1 t w n be z que] to-morr[ z to-day's fa%ions are b\nd to be1 w\ld seem at ! outset pretty mu* l writ+ ab\t next ye>'s wea!r4 ,& yet1 !re is "o un*ang+ pr9ciple :i* mu/ be foll[$ by e woman1 man & *ild t is well dress$--suitability4 ,nor does suitability mean m]ely t y mu/ *oose clo!s suitable to y\r age & appe>ance1 & t y mu/ get a ball dress = a ball1 & a /reet dress to walk 92 x means equally t y mu/ n buy clo!s out ( proportion to y\r income1 or out ( keep+ ) y\r surr\nd+s4 ,,disproportionate ,,exp5diture ,,9 ,,bad ,,ta/e ,ab\t fifte5 ye>s ago ! extravagance 9 wom5's dress rea*$ su* a high-wat] m>k t x 0 n unhe>d ( = a ,new ,york woman to sp5d a ?ird ( h] husb&'s income on clo!s4 ,all wom5 ( fa%ion b\ght clo!s :5 x w\ld n h occurr$ to !m to buy furniture--:5 x w\ld h seem$ prepo/]\s to buy a piece ( jewelry--b clo!s1 clo!s1 & m clo!s1 ea* m h&-embroid]$ ?an ! la/1 until j z x seem$ t no dress 0 fit to be se5 if x hadn't a mon? or two ( "s "o's "t embroid]$ on x1 ! "w on clo!s subsid$1 until n[ we are at ! o!r extreme2 no "w is put on !m at all4 ,at lea/1 clo!s to-day are mu* m s5sible1 & let u hope ! s5se w be la/+4 ,! w> did at lea/ make p realize t luxuries & trimm+s c\ld g too f>4 ,t5 ye>s ago ! ,am]ican woman :o liv$ 9 a little cottage1 :o walk$ :5 %e w5t out or took ! /reet c>1 wore ! same clo!s exactly t ,mrs4 ,gild+ wore 9 h] victoria1 or trail$ ov] a ,m+ rug4 ,! ,fr5* woman has always be5 7& ! ,am]ican woman ( ta/e is n[7 too great an arti/ to sit 9 a little room ) its cotton-pr9t slip cov]s1 musl9 curta9s1 & g]anium pots on ! w9d[ l$ge1 9 any?+ /rik+ly elaborate & exp5sive4 ,*>m+ z h] dress may be 9 l9e & cut & color1 %e keeps x 7no matt] h[ intr9sically good x may be7 9 h>mony ) h] g]anium pots & h] *9tz4 ,on ! o!r h&1 clo!s t are too pla9 c be equally out ( proportion4 ,la/ w9t]1 = in/ance1 a committee ( ladies met 9 :at might safely be call$ ! h&some/ h\se 9 ,new ,york1 9 a room t w\ld fit p]fectly 9 ! ,palace ( ,v]sailles1 fill$ ) treasures su* z ^? ( ! ,wallace collection4 ,! ho/ess presid$ 9 a black s]ge golf skirt1 a bus9ess woman's :ite %irt-wai/1 & /\t walk+ boots1 h] hair bru%$ flat & tidily back & fa/5$ z ?\gh = rid+1 h] face & h&s r$ol5t ( soap4 ,no p[d]1 n a nail manicur$4 ,_h %e be5 a girl e>n+ h] liv+1 %e c\ld n h be5 m suitably dress$1 b h] millions & h] palace backgr\nd dem& t h] clo!s be at lea/ mod]ately 9 keep+4 ,"o does n h to be d[dy z an alt]native to be+ too ri*ly dress$1 & to def9e diff]5ces betwe5 clo!s t are notable because ( _! di/9ction & sm>tness1 & clo!s t are m]ely conspicu\s & !re=e vulg>1 is a v elusive po9t4 ,h[ev]1 !re are c]ta9 rules t seem pretty well e/abli%$4 ,,vulg> ,,clo!s ,vulg> clo!s are ^? :i*1 no matt] :at ! fa%ion ( ! mom5t may be1 are always too elaborate = ! occasion2 too exagg]at$ 9 /yle1 or h accessories out ( proportion4 ,p ( uncultivat$ ta/e are apt to fancy di/ortions2 to exagg]ate r ?an modify ! prevail+ fa%ions4 ,= example3 ,a conspicu\s evid5ce ( bad /yle t has p]si/$ ?r\gh numb]less *anges 9 fa%ion1 is ! ov]-dress$ & ov]-trimm$ head4 ,! woman ( uncultivat$ ta/e has no m s5se ( mod]ation ?an ! ,que5 ( ! ,cannibals4 ,%e w elaborate h] hair-dress+ to />t ) 7?is is all "r1 if elaboration really suits h] type7 & !n %e w decorate x ) ev]y?+ 9 ! way ( mill9]y & jewelry t %e c lay h] h&s on4 ,or1 9 ! daytime1 %e fancies equally ov]-weight$ hats1 & ri*-look+ fur coats & ! late/ edition 9 ! mo/ conspicu\s possible footwe>4 ,& %e mu* pref]s we>+ r+s to gloves4 ,maybe %e ?9ks !y d n g toge!r8 ,%e despises s5sible clo?+2 %e also despises pla9 fabrics & untrimm$ models4 ,%e also c>es little 7app>5tly7 = /ay+ at home1 s9ce %e is p]petually se5 at re/aurants & at e public ent]ta9m5t4 ,! food %e ord]s is ri*1 ! appe>ance %e makes is ri*2 9 fact1 to see h] (t5 is l no?+ s mu* z be+ =c$ to eat a l>ge am\nt ( butt]-pla94 ,beau ,brummel's rem>k t :5 "o attract$ too mu* notice1 "o c\ld be sure ( be+ n well-dress$ b ov]-dress$1 has = a hundr$ ye>s be5 ! com=t ( ! d[dy4 ,x is1 ( c\rse1 v (t5 true1 b n inv>iably4 ,a p]son may be />$ at = any "o ( _m reasons4 ,x dep5ds v mu* on ! />e4 ,a woman may be />$ at because %e is indiscreet1 or because %e looks l a left-ov] memb] ( ! circus1 or because %e is en*ant+ to look at4 ,if y are mu* />$ at1 :at sort ( a />e d y usually meet8 ,is x bold1 or mock+1 or is x m]ely t p look at y wi/fully8 ,if ! fir/1 *ange y\r mann]2 if ! second1 we> m conv5tional clo!s2 if ! ?ird1 y may be left z y are4 ,b be sure ( y\r diagnosis ( ?is la/4 ,,extravagance ,,n ,,vulg>ity ,o/5tation is always vulg> b extravagance is n necess>ily vulg>--n by any means4 ,extravagance c become di%one/ if c>ri$ beyond "o's income4 ,ne>ly ev]y?+ t is beautiful or valuable is an extravagance--= mo/ ( u4 ,always to we> new gloves is an extravagant item = "o ) a small all[ance--b sc>cely vulg>6 ,a laundry bill c be extravagant1 fl[]s 9 "o's city h\se1 a piece ( beautiful furniture1 a good tape/ry1 ea* is an extravagance to an income t c n easily af=d ! exp5diture4 ,to "o suffici5t to buy ! tape/ry1 ! fl[]s are n an extravagance at all4 ,to buy quantities ( ?+s t are n ev5 us$ aft] !y are b\ght is %e] wa/efulness1 & to buy ev]y?+ t tempts y1 :e!r y c af=d to pay = x or n1 is1 if y c n af=d x1 v]g+ on ! actually di%one/4 ,,dresses ,,= ,,d9n]s ,,& ,,balls ,suppos+1 s9ce clo!s suitable to ! occasion are ! fir/ requisite ( good ta/e1 we take up a few details t are ap>t f fa%ion4 ,a d9n] dress really means e sort ( l[1 or half l[ ev5+ dress4 ,a =mal d9n] dress1 l a ball dress1 is always l[-neck$ & )\t sleeves1 & is ! h&some/ type ( ev5+ dress t !re is4 ,a ball dress may be exquisite 9 detail b x is (t5 m]ely effective4 ,! p]fect ball dress is "o purposely design$ ) a skirt t is becom+ :5 danc+4 ,a long wrapp$ type ( dress w\ld make ,diana h]self look l a toy monkey-on-a-/ick1 b might be dignifi$ & beautiful at a d9n]4 ,a d9n] dress diff]s f a ball dress 9 little except t x is n necess>ily design$ = fre$om ( movem5t4 ,hair ornam5ts always look well at a ball b are n especially appropriate 7unless univ]sally 9 fa%ion7 on o!r occasions4 ,a lady 9 a ball dress ) no?+ add$ to ! head1 looks a little l be+ hatless 9 ! /reet4 ,?is s\nds l a contradiction ( ! criticism ( ! vulg>ian4 ,b because a ti>a is beautiful at a ball1 or a spray ( fea!rs1 or a high comb1 or ano!r ornam5t1 does n mean t all ( ^! %\ld be put on toge!r & worn 9 a re/aurant2 :i* is j :at ! vulg>ian w\ld d4 ,:e!r1 to we> a head-dress1 h[ev]1 dep5ds n alone ^u fa%ion b ^u ! individual4 ,if ! type ( hair ornam5t at ! mom5t 9 fa%ion is becom+1 we> x1 especially to balls & 9 a box at ! op]a4 ,b if x is n becom+1 don't4 ,ladies ( fa%ion1 by ! way1 d n h _! hair especially dress$ = =mal occasions4 ,ea* we>s h] hair a c]ta9 way1 & x is put up e morn+ j z c>efully z = a ball4 ,! only "t x is arrang$ diff]5tly is = rid+4 ,ah in=mal d9n] dress is m]ely a modifi$ =mal "o4 ,x is l[ 9 front & high 9 ! back1 ) long or elb[ sleeves--or p]haps x is ,dut* neck & no sleeves4 ,:5 tra9s are 9 fa%ion1 all old] wom5 %\ld we> !m4 ,fa%ion or no fa%ion1 no woman :o has pass$ =ty looks really well 9 a cut-(f ev5+ dress4 ,an effect ( tra91 h[ev]1 c v adequately be produc$ ) any arrangem5t or trimm+ t ext5ds ^u ! floor4 ,! in=mal d9n] dress is worn to ! !at]1 ! re/aurant 7( high class71 ! conc]t & ! op]a4 ,in=mal d9n] dresses are worn 9 ! boxes at ! op]a on ord9>y nights1 su* z :5 no especially great /> is to s+1 & :5 "o is n go+ on to a ball aft]w>d1 b a ball dress is nev] inappropriate1 especially )\t head-dress4 ,on gala nights1 ball dresses are worn 9 ! boxes & head-dresses & z _m jewels z "o *ooses--or has4 ,,! ,,tea-,,g[n ,e "o kn[s t a tea-g[n is a hybrid betwe5 a wrapp] & a ball dress4 ,x has always a tra9 & usually long fl[+ sleeves2 is made ( r gorge\s mat]ials & goes on easily1 & its *ief use is n = we> at ! tea-table s mu* z = d9n] alone ) "o's family4 ,x c1 h[ev]1 v prop]ly be put on = tea1 & if "o is d9+ at home1 kept on = d9n]4 ,o!rwise a lady is apt to take tea 9 :atev] dress %e _h on = lun*eon1 & dress aft] tea = d9n]4 ,"o does n g out to d9e 9 a tea-g[n except 9 ! h\se ( a memb] ( "o's family or a mo/ intimate fri5d4 ,"o w\ld we> a tea-g[n 9 "o's own h\se 9 receiv+ a gue/ to ^: h\se "o w\ld we> a d9n] dress4 ,,:5 ,,9 ,,d\bt ,!re is "o rule t is fairly safe to foll[3 ,:5 9 d\bt1 we> ! pla9] dress4 ,x is always bett] f> to be "u-dress$ ?an ov]-dress$4 ,if y don't "k :e!r to put on a ball dress or a d9n] dress1 we> ! d9n] dress4 ,or1 :e!r to we> clo? or brocade to a lun*eon1 we> ! clo?4 ,,on ,,! ,,/reet ,y\r tea-g[ns1 s9ce !y are nev] worn 9 public1 c lit]ally be z biz>re z y please1 & if y are driv+ 9 a clos$ motor1 y c also we> an orig9al type ( dress4 ,b 9 walk+ on ! /reet1--if y c>e to be tak5 = a well-br$ p]son--nev] we> any?+ t is exagg]at$4 ,if skirts are %ort1 don't we> !m two in*es %ort] ?an any "o else's2 if !y are long1 don't g d[n ! /reet dragg+ a tra9 & sweep+ ! dirt up on ! "u-fl\nc+s4 7,let u hope t fa%ion nev] comes back67 ,don't we> too mu* jewelry2 x is 9 bad ta/e 9 ! fir/ place1 & 9 ! second1 is a temptation to a ?ief4 ,& don't "u any circum/ances1 di/ort y\r figure into a grotesque %ape4 ,,c\ntry ,,clo!s ,no?+ s m>ks ! p]son :o doesn't "k z inappropriate *oice ( clo!s4 ,to we> elaborate clo!s out ( doors 9 ! c\ntry1 is q z out ( place z to p>ade sports clo!s on ! /reets 9 t[n4 ,x is safe to say t sport clo!s are appropriate c\ntry clo!s--especially = all "y p4 ,eld]ly ladies1 ne$less to say1 %\ld n don sport+ ecc5tricities nor we> sweat]s to lun* p>ties2 b s5sible c\ntry clo!s1 su* z h = _m decades be5 worn 9 ,engl&1 ( homespun or s]ge or j]sey clo? or :atev] has replac$ ^! mat]ials1 are c]ta9ly m appropriate to walk 9 ?an a t[n co/ume--ev5 = a lady ( sev5ty6 ,"y p go+ to ! c\ntry = ! day we> sports clo!s2 :i* if se5 e>ly 9 ! morn+ 9 t[n & aga9 late 9 ! aft]noon1 m]ely %[ y h be5 to ! c\ntry4 ,b t[n clo!s 9 ! c\ntry proclaim y\r ignorance ( fitness4 ,ev5 = a lun* p>ty at ,gold5 ,hall or ,great ,e/ates1 e "o :o is "y we>s sm>t c\ntry clo!s4 ,,%oes ,,& ,,slipp]s ,sport %oes are naturally adapt$ to ! sport = :i* !y are int5d$4 ,high-heel$ slipp]s d n g ) any c\ntry clo!s1 except org&ie or musl9s or o!r di/9ctly fem99e summ] dresses4 ,elaborate aft]noon dresses ( pa9t$ *iffons1 embroid]$ mulls1 etc41 are se5 only at w$d+s1 lawn p>ties1 or at wat]+-places abroad4 ,a ,,sugge/ion ,,to ,,^? ,,:o ,,m9d ,,sunburn ,no advice is int5d$ = ^? :o h a sk9 t ei!r does n burn at all1 or turns a beautiful smoo? ,hawaiian br[n2 b a woman ^: creamy complexion bur/s into freckles1 z viol5t z !y are hide\s1 at ! fir/ t\* ( ! sun ne$ no long] /ay p]petually indoors 9 daytime1 or v5ture out only :5 swa!d l a ,turk1 if %e kn[s ! virtue 9 orange z a color t defies ! sun's rays4 ,a ?9 veil ( r$-orange is m effective ?an a ?ick "o ( blue or black4 ,orange %irt-wai/s d n s\nd v cons]vative1 b !y are m]cifully cons]v+ to arms s5sitive to sunburn4 ,"y ,mrs4 ,gild+1 ^: sk9 is z p]i%able z x is lovely1 always we>s orange on ! golf c\rse4 ,a skirt ( burnt-orange s]ge ( homespun or l951 & %irt-wai/s ( orange l95 or crepe de *9e4 ,a hat ) a brim & a h>em-veil 7p9n$ across h] nose "u h] eyes7 ( orange m>quisette1--:i* is easi] to brea! ?r\gh ?an *iffon--all[s h] to play golf or t5nis or to motor or ev5 g out 9 a sailboat & keep h] sk9 )\t a blemi%4 ,con/ance ,/yle1 :o also has a sk9 t ! sun de/roys1 we>s orange play+ t5nis1 b = ba?+ we>s a high-neck & long-sleev$ ba?+ suit & makes h] face up 7also ! backs ( h] h&s7 ) !atrical grease pa9t t has a good deal ( yell[ 9 x1 & fle% color ord9>y p[d] on top4 ,! grease pa9t )/&s hot sun & wat]1 b x is messy4 ,! alt]native1 h[ev]1 is a *oice betwe5 complexion or ba?+1 z x is o!rwise prohibitive = ! sun afflict$ to h bo?4 ,,rid+ ,,clo!s ,! di/ort$ circus-mirror clo!s se5 on m5 :o "k no bett]1 are n a bit worse ?an ! rid+ clo!s se5 on actresses 9 our be/ !at]s & mov+ pictures--:o ought to "k bett]4 ,no?+ looks worse ?an rid+ clo!s made & worn badly1 & no?+ looks sm>t] ?an !y :5 well made & well put on4 ,a rid+ habit1 no matt] :at ! fa%ion happ5s to be1 is l a uni=m1 9 t x mu/ be made & worn accord+ to regulations4 ,x mu/ above all be meticul\sly trig & compact4 ,no?+ mu/ be /ick+ out a ?\s&? "p ( an in* t c be flatt5$ 94 ,a rid+ habit is ! c\nt]p>t ( an (fic]'s uni=m2 x is n worn s z to make ! we>] look pretty6 ,a woman to look well 9 a habit mu/ be sm>t or %e is a sight6 ,& no?+ contributes s mu* to ! sights we see at pres5t z ! attempt to look pretty in/ead ( look+ correct4 ,! criticism is n int5d$ = ! woman :o lives f> (f 9 ! op5 c\ntry & jumps on a horse 9 :atev] %e happ5s to h on1 b = ^? :o dress = looks & ride 9 ! p>ks ( our cities1 or walk on ! /age & be=e ! cam]a1 9 sc5es meant to repres5t sm>t society6 ,to repeat1 !re=e1 ! "y woman :o wants to look pretty %\ld conf9e h] ex]cise to danc+4 ,%e c also hold a p>asol ov] h] head & sit 9 a canoe--or %e c be pretty h[ & :]e %e w1 s long z x is n on a horse 9 ! p>k or hunt+-field4 7,to m5tion hunt+-field is sup]flu\s2 ! woman :o c ride well en\gh to foll[ ! h\nds is too good a sportswoman1 too great a lov] ( good =m to be ignorant ( ! prop] outl9e necess>y to sm>tness ( appe>ance 9 ! saddle47 ,9 sm>te/ ,engli% society x is n consid]$ be/ =m = a "y girl to ride a/ride 9 ! hunt+-field or 9 ! p>k aft] %e is gr[n4 ,a high-born ,engli% girl rides a/ride z a *ild1 b z soon z %e is old en\gh to be pres5t$ at ,c\rt1 %e appe>s at a ,meet or 9 ! ,r[ 9 a lady's habit1 trigly p]fect 9 fit1 & on a side-saddle4 ,9 ,am]ica ?is is an extreme op9ion1 & x is only among ! mo/ fa%ionable t a "y girl hav+ all h] life ridd5 9 a man's saddle1 f9ds ! _w a joyless place & p>5ts cruel :5 %e is no long] all[$ to ride l a boy4 ,b %e becomes1 9 spite ( h] prote/s1 ano!r :o looks div9e on a horse4 ,& y c look div9e too1 if y *oose6 ,on second ?\ghts ! adjective mu/ be qualifi$4 ,no "o looks div9e on a horse :o is n ?9 z a %+le4 ,b s9ce diet produces a %+le %ape & e "o /rong-m9d$ 7or va97 en\gh1 c diet1 y ne$ only c>e en\gh to c\nt y\r calories & be z slim z y please4 ,next1 ! be/ habit possible4 ,& be/ habits are exp5sive1 & !re are no second be/4 ,a habit is good or x is bad4 ,:atev] ! pres5t fa%ion may be1 h y\r habit utt]ly conv5tional4 ,don't we> *ecks or h slant pockets1 or ecc5tric cuffs or lapels2 don't h ! wai/ p9*$ 94 ,*oose a pla9 d>k or du/ color4 ,a night blue t has a few :ite hairs 9 ! mixture does n %[ du/ z mu* z a solid d>k color1 & a m$ium weight close mat]ial holds its %ape bett] ?an a light loose weave4 ,y may we> a s+le :ite c>nation or a few violets 9 y\r buttonhole--b no o!r trimm+4 ,keep ! idea ( p]fect clo!s = m5 9 m9d1 get no?+ t ! sm>te/ man w\ld n we>1 & y c't g wrong4 ,get boots l ^? ( a man1 l[-heel$ & ) a /raight l9e f heel to back ( top4 ,don't h ! tops wid] ?an absolutely necess>y n to b9d1 & don't h !m curv$ or fancy 9 %ape4 ,be sure t !re is no elb[ /ick+ out l a horse's hock at ! back ( ! boot1 & don't h a corn] on ! inside edge ( ! sole4 ,& don't try to we> a small size6 ,,:5 ,,y ,,put ,,y\r ,,habit ,,on ,fir/1 hair3 ,nev] m9d if y look l ,mme4 ,recami] ) y\r hair fluff$ & l a sk9n$ rabbit ) x tight back1 tight1 flat back x mu/ g4 ,bru% x smoo? z y c1 braid x or coil x ab\t level ) ! top ( y\r e>s & w9d x 9 a door mat1 n a knob 9 ! back4 ,if y h a great quantity ( hair1 y %\ld take all ! inn] "p ( x1 coil x on top ( y\r head s x w g "u y\r hat out ( ! way4 ,!n take ! out] edge ( x & braid or w9d x z flat z possible4 ,a l>ge bun at ! back ( ! head is almo/ z bad z hair drawn ov] ! e>s at ! side4 ,if y h %ort hairs likely to bl[1 y mu/ we> a hunt+ hair net4 ,& if x is bobb$1 x mu/ be drawn back into a silk rid+ net & made to look trim4 ,correct rid+ clo!s are n fa%ion b =m6 ,:e!r coat skirts are long or %ort1 full or pla91 & wai/s wasp-l or squ>e1 ! above admonitions h held = _m decades1 & are likely to hold = _m m4 ,gloves mu/ be ( heavy lea!r & at lea/ two sizes bigg] ?an ^? ord9>ily worn4 ,a hat mu/ fit ! head & its %ape mu/ be conv5tional4 ,nev] we> a hat t w\ld be incorrect on a man1 & don't we> x on ! back ( y\r head or ov] y\r nose4 ,we> y\r /ock z tight z y com=tably c1 n too tight6 ,tie x sm>tly s z to make x flat & neat1 & an*or :atev] y we> s securely t no?+ c possibly come loose4 ,& if y want to see a liv+ example ( p]fection 9 rid+ clo!s1 g to ! next horse-%[ :]e ,miss ,belle ,bea* is rid+ & look at h]6 ,,:at ,,clo!s ,,to ,,take ,,= ,a ,,week-,,end ,unless fa%ion turns itself upside d[n 7:i* x is1 ( c\rse1 p]fectly capable ( do+71 elaborate clo!s1 except ev5+ ones1 are entirely useless1 ev5 9 ,newport4 ,we h all ( u ab&on$ ,p>is fa%ions = c\ntry we> 9 favor ( ^? ( ,engl&4 ,! ,val5ci5nes ins]tions & trail+ *iffons ( "s ye>s ago1 /ill se5 at wat]+-places 9 ,france1 h be5 entirely sup]s$$ by c\ntry clo!s4 ,9 go+ to any fa%ionable h\se 9 ! c\ntry1 y %\ld take a d9n] dress = ea* ev5+1 ) /ock+s & slipp]s to mat*4 ,y ne$ a c\ntry dress = ea* day1 or if ! wea!r is unc]ta91 a ?ick "o & two ?9 ones1 ) a long coat1 & a dress suitable = *ur*4 ,?is "o c p]fectly well be a c\ntry dress1 b n a sports "o4 ,if y are n too "y & are go+ to /ay 9 an in=mal h\se :]e y w probably be ! only gue/1 & :]e x is likely no "o w be ask$ 91 a tea-g[n or two %\ld be tak54 ,if y are go+ especially = a ball1 b n giv5 by y\r ho/ess1 ne$less to say1 y take a ball dress & an ev5+ wrap4 ,9 ! autumn or w9t]1 a fur coat w d d\ble s]vice = coat & wrap4 ,d n take a big trunk full ( all ! ?+s y don't ne$4 ,don't take sports clo!s = all occasions if y are n a sportswoman4 ,b if y d ride1 or play t5nis or golf1 or skate or swim1 be sure to take y\r own clo!s & don't borr[ o!r p's4 ,!re are pl5ty ( +5i\sly arrang$ week-end trunks1 v compact 9 size1 t h a hat comp>tm5t1 hold+ f two to six hats1 & pl5ty ( room = a half a doz5 dresses & _! accessories4 ,,:5 ,,! ,,income ,,is ,,limit$ ,no "o c dress well on no?+ a ye>2 t mu/ be grant$ at ! outset4 ,b a woman :o has tal5t1 ta/e1 & +5uity c be suitably & *>m+ly dress$ on little a ye>1 especially at pres5t4 ,fir/ ( all1 to m9d we>+ a dress _m times because x indicates a small bank acc\nt1 is to exhibit a false notion ( ! values 9 life4 ,any "o :o ?9ks well or ill ( h]1 9 accordance ) h] income1 c n be too quickly got rid (6 ,b wor?:ile p are influ5c$ 9 h] disfavor :5 %e has clo!s 9 numb] & quality out ( proportion to h] kn[n f9ancial situation4 ,x is tiresome ev]la/+ly to we> black1 b no?+ is s s]viceable1 no?+ s unrecognizable1 no?+ looks s well on e occasion4 ,a v /rik+ dress c n be worn _m times )\t mak+ o!rs z well z its own] feel bor$ at ! sight ( x4 ,"h comes ! ,zebra or ! ,cockatoo6 is inevitable if a dress ( /ripes or flamboyant color is worn (t54 ,%e :o mu/ we> "o dress ?r\gh a season & h x p]haps made ov] ! next1 w\ld bett] *oose black or cream color4 ,or p]haps a c]ta9 color suits h]1 & ?is fact makes x possible = h] habitually to we> x )\t impress+ o!rs ) h] lack ( clo!s4 ,b :e!r h] backgr\nd be black or c]ise x %\ld inv>iably bl5d ) h] :ole w>drobe1 s t all accessories c be made to d d\ble or quadruple s]vice4 ,suppos+ y are a "y woman ) m beauty ?an weal?6 ,let u also suppose y h ?ree ev5+ dresses1 a blue1 a p9k & a gre54 ,at ! mom5t y c we> fle%-color$ slipp]s & /ock+s ) ev]y?+1 :i* r weak5s ! argum5t--h[ev]1 a blue fan does n look well ) a p9k or a gre5 dress1 nor d ! o!r comb9ations4 ,suppos+1 h[ev]1 y _h in/ead a cream-color$ dress1 a fle%-color$1 & an or*id "o4 ,fle%-color$ slipp]s look mu* bett] ) cream & or*id ?an ) ei!r gre5 or blue1 at any rate6 ,a wat]melon p9k fan is lovely 9 night-light ) all ?ree2 s is a cream "o4 ,or p]haps by *ang+ bo? fan & slipp]s1 a diff]5t effect is produc$1 s9ce ! colors ( y\r clo!s are backgr\nd colors4 ,b no?+ really c comp>e ) ! utility & sm>tness ( black4 ,take a black tulle dress1 made 9 ! simple/ possible way2 worn pla91 x is a simple d9n] dress4 ,x c h a lace slip to g ov] x1 & make ano!r dress4 ,) a jet h>ness--mean+ m]ely trimm+ t c be add$ at w--x is /ill ano!r dress4 ,or x c h a tunic ( silv] or ( gold trimm+2 & fans1 fl[]s & slipp]s 9 v>i\s colors1 su* z wat]melon or em]ald1 *ange x aga94 ,9 fact1 a black tulle c be *ang$ almo/ z easily z ?\gh done ) a magician's w&4 ,to *oose daytime clo!s t g ) ! same hats1 %oes1 p>asols1 wri/-bags1 & gloves1 is equally important4 ,a snuff-color$ dress & a gray "o ne$ entirely diff]5t accessories4 ,russet %oes1 *amois gloves1 & s&-color$ hat g also ) h5na1 raspb]ry1 r$s1 etc42 b gray mu/ h gray or :ite %oes1 gloves1 & hat1 :i* also g ) blues1 gre5s & violets4 ,,don',t ,,get ,,too ,,_m ,,clo!s ,*oose ! clo!s :i* y mu/ h1 c>efully1 & if y mu/ cut d[n1 cut d[n on elaborate ones4 ,!re is sc>cely any:]e t y c n1 fitt+ly g 9 pla9 clo!s4 ,v few1 if any1 p ne$ fancy ?+s2 all p ne$ pla9 ones4 ,a v beautiful ,*icago woman :o is always p]fectly dress$ = e occasion1 work$ out ! co/ ( h] own clo!s ?is way3 ,on a %eet ( pap]1 ?umb-tack$ on ! inside ( h] closet door1 %e put a complete typewritt5 li/ ( h] dresses & hats1 & ! co/ ( ea*4 ,e "t %e put on a dress %e made a p5cil m>k4 ,by & by :5 a dress 0 disc>d$1 %e divid$ ! co/ ( x by ! numb] ( times x _h be5 worn4 ,9 ?is way %e f\nd out accurately :i* 7 h] *eape/ & :i* h] mo/ exp5sive clo!s4 ,:5 gett+ new ones %e has ! advantage ( v valuable in=mation1 s9ce %e avoids ! dress t is nev] put on1 :i* is a bigg] h&icap = ! m$ium-siz$ all[ance ?an _m wom5 realize4 ,,:at ,,to ,,we> ,,9 ,a ,,re/aurant ,re/aurant dress dep5ds ^u ! re/aurant & ! city4 ,because wom5 9 ,new ,york we> l[-neck$ dresses & no hats1 does n mean t ^? :o live 9 ,new ,t[n %\ld d ! same1 if x is n ,new ,t[n's cu/om4 ,b y mu/ nev] we> an ev5+ dress & a hat6 ,& nev] we> a day dress )\t "o4 ,if 9 ! city :]e y live1 p we> day clo!s 9 ! ev5+1 y c only v slightly diff] f !m4 ,x is nev] good =m to be elaborately dress$ 9 a public place1 except 9 a box at ! op]a or at a *>ity ball4 ,,at ,a ,,w$d+1 ,a ,,g>d5 ,,p>ty ,,or ,,aft]noon ,,tea ,^! are ! occasions :5 elaborate day dresses are appropriate4 ,b if y h v few clo!s1 y c p]fectly well we> any sort ( day dress t may be 9 fa%ion4 ,a coat & skirt is n appropriate1 s9ce a skirt & %irt-wai/ is & always has be5 a utility comb9ation4 ,unless1 ( c\rse1 ! wai/ is ( a color to mat* ! skirt s t x has ! appe>ance ( a dress4 ,y ne$1 h[ev]1 seldom worry ab\t y\r appe>ance because y are n z dress$ z ! o!rs2 ! "t to worry is :5 y are m dress$ ?an any "o else4 ,= a g>d5-p>ty a c\ntry dress is q all "r2 ?\gh if y h a v elaborate summ] dress1 ?is is ! only "t y c we> x6 ,no "o has to be told :at to we> to *ur*4 ,9 small c\ntry *ur*es1 at ! sea%ore1 p g to *ur* 9 c\ntry clo!s2 o!rwise1 z e "o kn[s1 "o puts on t[n clo!s1 & gloves4 ,at a =mal lun*eon 9 t[n1 "o sees e sort ( dress f velvet to tailor-made4 ,c]ta9 ladies1 old] ones usually1 :o l elaborate clo!s1 we> !m4 ,b y\ng] p are usually dress$ 9 wor/$ mat]ials or silks t are dull 9 f9i%1 & t1 al?\gh !y may be embroid]$ & v exp5sive1 give an effect ( simplicity4 ,"o %\ld always we> a simpl] dress 9 "o's own h\se ?an "o we>s 9 go+ to ! h\se ( ano!r4 ,a ,,few ,,g5]al ,,rem>ks ,! fault ( bad ta/e is usually 9 ov]-dress+4 ,quality n effect1 is ! /&>d to seek =4 ,ma*9e-made passem5t]ie on top ( conspicu\s b sleazy mat]ial is always %oddy4 ,cut & fit are ! two items ( greate/ importance 9 wom5's clo!s1 z well z 9 m5's4 ,b fa%ion *anges too rapidly to make value ( mat]ial always wise exp5diture = "o ( sl5d] purse4 ,bett] usually h two dresses1 ea* cut & made 9 ! :im ( ! mom5t1 ?an "o :i* mu/ be worn aft] ! :im has become a freak4 ,9 m5's clo!s ! opposite rule %\ld be foll[$ s9ce good /yle 9 m5's clo!s is un*ang+4 ,to buy ?+s at sales is v mu* l buy+ ?+s at an auction2 if y really "k :at y want & some?+ ab\t values1 y c (t5 d m>vell\sly well2 b if y are easily bewild]$ & "k little ( values1 y are apt to sp5d y\r good money on tra%4 ,a woman ( small means mu/ ei!r be 7or le>n to be7 discrim9at+ly c>eful1 or %e w\ld bett] h h] clo!s made at home1 or if %e is ( model type1 buy !m ready-made4 ,! ready-to-we> clo!s 9 ! ,misses' ,dep>tm5t are gr[+ e ye> bett] look+2 un=tunately & = "s inexplicable reason1 ! usual ,wom5's ,dep>tm5t does n comp>e 9 good ta/e 9 selection ( models ) ! =m]1 & x is unusual to f9d a dress t a lady ( fa%ion w\ld *oose except among ! import$ models1 = :i* /ore prices are z a rule high] ?an ^? ask$ by ! greate/ dressmak]s4 ,ev5+ clo!s are /ill usually unbuyable by ! ov]-fa/idi\s1 except = a c]ta9 flapp] type 7& an undi/+ui%$ "o at t671 & ! ultra-sm>t woman is /ill oblig$ to g to ! private import]s = h] dbutante daught]'s ball-dresses z well z h] own--or else into h] own sew+-room4 ,,fa%ion ,,& ,,fat ,= ye>s ! ?91 ev5 ! scrawny1 h _h ev]y?+ _! own way4 ,! woman :o is fat1 or ev5 plump1 has a r hopeless problem unless fa%ion goes to ,turkey = its next inspiration1 :i* is s unlikely x is almo/ possible6 ,two ?+s ! fat woman %\ld avoid3 big patt]ns & ! /iff tailor-made4 ,fat wom5 look bett] 9 fem99e clo!s t foll[ 9 ! wake1 nev] 9 ! advance1 ( modifi$ fa%ion4 ,fat wom5 %\ld nev] we> elaborate clo!s or clo!s 9 light colors or heavily fea!r$ hats4 ,! t5d5cy ( fat is to take away f "o's gracility2 !re=e1 any "o incl9$ to be fat mu/ be ultra cons]vative--9 ord] to c\nt]act ! effect4 ,v tight clo!s make fat p look fatt] & ?9 p ?9n]4 ,sat9 is a bad mat]ial1 s9ce high lights are too %imm]+ly acc5tuat$4 ,heavy ankles1 ne$less to say1 %\ld nev] be clo!d 9 light /ock+s & d>k %oes2 long1 po9t$ slipp]s acc5tuate a ?ick ankle1 & s does a %ort skirt t has a /raight hem4 ,a ragg$ edge is mo/ flatt]+4 ,dress1 /ock+s & slipp]s to mat* are unavoidable 9 ev5+ dress1 b :5 possible a ?ick ankle %\ld h a d>k /ock+--or at lea/ a slipp] to mat* ! /ock+4 ,p %\ld select colors t g ) _! sk94 ,& eld]ly wom5 %\ld n we> grass gre51 or ,royal blue1 or purple1 or any h>d color t ne$s a faultless complexion4 ,sw>?y sk9 always looks bett] 9 colors t h r$ or yell[ 9 !m4 ,a v sall[ p]son 9 pale blue or apple gre5 looks l a well-develop$ case ( jaundice4 ,p9k & or*id are (t5 v becom+ to old] wom52 & pale blue or yell[ to ^? ) fair sk94 ,because a woman is no long] "y is no reason :y %e %\ld we> p]petual black--unless %e is fat4 ,,clo!s ,,= ,,travel+ ,,9 ,,europe ,ideal travel+ clo!s are ^? :i* d n wr9kle or %[ ra9 spots2 & to f9d :i* ^! are x is necess>y to take a sample ( ea* mat]ial1 spr9kle x ) wat]1 & twi/ x to see h[ mu* abuse x w /&4 ,e woman kn[s :at %e likes be/1 & :at %e consid]s suitable4 ,two alt]nat+ travel+ dresses at lea/ w be necess>y1 & two or ?ree semi-ev5+ dresses to put on = d9n]4 ,"o v simple half-d9n] dress ( black1 t has a comb9ation ( trimm+s su* z describ$ e>li] 9 ?is *apt]1 is ideally useful4 ,t\ri/s d n put on ev5+ clo!s except 9 v fa%ionable c5t]s1 su* z ,london1 ,p>is1 ,monte ,c>lo or ,deauville1 & !n only if /ay+ at an ultra fa%ionable hotel4 ,to be ov]-dress$ is always 9 bad ta/e4 ,s t unless y are go+ to visit or make sev]al-day /ops ! "o black ev5+ dress sugge/$ w\ld answ] e possible purpose4 ,if y int5d /ay+ = a long "t 9 "o place1 y take all ( y\r season's clo!s2 & if y are go+ to visit 9 ,engl&1 or to /ay any:]e 9 ! c\ntry1 y w ne$ c\ntry clo!s1 b n on ord9>y t\r+4 ,= motor+1 space is preci\s1 & clo!s %\ld be *os5 ) ! object ( pack+ into small dim5sions4 ,motor+ 9 ,europe is cold4 ,a v w>m1 long wrap is necess>y4 ,an old fur "o is mu* ! be/1 & a small1 close hat t does n bl[4 ,,clo!s ,,& ,,p>is ,x is some?+ l ?is3 ,y h be5 hypnotiz$ be=e1 & y v[ y won't be aga96 ,y make up y\r m9d t y are go+ to get a black dress & a d>k blue--& no?+ else4 ,y ent] ! l[] reception hall & m\nt ! bronze balu/rad$ /airs half way :5 already ,mlle4 ,m>ie is aw>e ( y\r approa*4 ,%e greets y n only z ?\gh y are ! only cu/om] %e has ev] _h1 b z ?\gh y\r com+ has sav$--j sav$ 9 "t--! pre/ige ( ! h\se4 ,%e tells y brea?lessly t y are j 9 "t to see ! p>ade ( models2 %e puts y :]e y may h an un9t]rupt$ view4 ,%e !n beg9s h] greet+s all ov] aga9 by ask+ n alone aft] all ! memb]s ( y\r family & an extraord9>ily long li/ ( fri5ds1 b makes a solicit\s inquiry aft] ea* dress t %e has ev] sold y4 ,did ,madame l h] :ite velvet8 %e coos4 ,0 x n mo/ useful8 ,0 n h] black lace *>m+8 ,& ! bisque clo?--surely ,madame _h f\nd great satisfaction 9 we>+ ! bisque clo?8 ,b y\r e>s are z /one to h] bl&i%m5ts6 ,z a travel+ suit1 bisque-color$ clo? _h n be5 s]viceable6 ,black lace ) a c]ise velvet "u petticoat might be effective at ,arm5onville1 b x _h seem$ que]1 to say ! lea/1 at ! t5nis mat* 9 ,augu/4 ,no1 y are at la/ immune f any ( ^? sudd5 attacks ( new fa%ion fev] t result 9 loss ( judgm5t4 ,y op5 y\r little book & consult y\r li/4 ,i %\ld l1 y say1 a navy blue s]ge trimm$ ) black braid or sat9 or some?+ l t2 a black crpe de *9e absolutely pla92 ,i really ne$ no?+ else4 ,y d n look at ,mile4 ,m>ie's cre/fall5 face1 y wat* ! procession ( models4 ,b ! old spell works4 ,besides zebra /ripes & gold %ot ) c]ise & purple1 y ?9k an em]ald gre5 *>meuse is really a p]fect sub/itute = ! pla9 black crpe de *9e y _h 9 m9d4 ,y %[ t y are hypnotiz$ by rem>k+ abs5tly1 ,x is ! color ( ! grass4 ,in/antly1 ,mlle4 ,m>ie1 ! mo/ skillful v5deuse 9 ,p>is1 becomes radiant4 ,li/51 ,madame1 %e says to y 9 t ins9uat+1 confid5tial1 yet humbly +ratiat+ mann] ( h]s4 ,let me expla91 ,madame1--! idea ( dress ?is ye> is altoge!r idyllic6 ,nev] has !re be5 su* *>m+ return to nature4 ,! great orig9ator ( our h\se has tak5 8 sugge/ion--b yes6 f ! little animals ( ! fields & woods--f ,nature h]self6 ,our dresses ?is ye> are int5d$ to foll[ ! example ( all ! little animals dress$ to mat* _! backgr\nds4 ,is n t ?\ght exquisite8 ,is n t delici\s8 ,is an em]ald liz>d conspicu\s 9 ! tropics8 ,is a zebra ev5 se5 9 pat*es ( sun & %ade8 ,& 9 ! sn[1 ?9k ( all ! little animals :o put on :ite coats 9 w9t]6 ,obvi\sly :ite is ! color int5d$ = w9t] we>4 ,& = ! spr+1 gre54 ,em]ald gre5 assur$ly4 ,x is z ,madame h]self said1 ! color ( ! grass4 ,! em]ald *>meuse on a lawn 9 summ] w\ld be a poem ( h>mony4 ,! c]ise = aft]noons at sunset2 ?is orange %ad+ into coral embroid]y to we> beside ! fire4 ,! d>k blue *iffon embroid]$ 9 silv] is = night4 ,all ! colors t ,madame at fir/ f\nd s bright--!y are b ! colors ( a summ] fl[] g>d54 ,:at w\ld ,madame we> 9 a fl[] g>d58 ,black crpe de *9e8 ,assur$ly n6 ,see ?is %ell p9k *iffon1 h[ lovely x w\ld look "u trees ( apple blossoms4 ,blue s]ge6 ,oh1 :at an escape4 ,& n[ if ,madame w p]mit me to sugge/8--! gre51 b assur$ly6 & ! orange & coral1 & ! p9k *iffon g>d5 dress1 & ! zebra1 = travell+1 & ! blue & silv]4444 ,h[ev]1 to be s]i\s1 p d g to ,p>is & buy _! clo!s--beautiful clo!s6 ,( c\rse !y d2 especially ^? :o g e ye>4 ,b ! woman :o goes abroad p]haps e f\r or five ye>s is apt to be defici5t 9 a trans-,atlantic s5se4 ,mat* backgr\nds1 l *>m+ little animals8 ,nev]6 ,oh1 a v big ,nev] ,aga96 ,& yet ! next "t %all y n f9d x a temptation to g j out ( curiosity to f9d out :at ! newe/ artfully entic+ little tune ( ! ,pi$ ,pip]s ( ,p>is w be6 ,,*apt] ,,xxxiv ,,! ,,clo!s ,,( ,a ,,g5tleman ,x w\ld seem t "s ( our great clo?+ e/abli%m5ts1 ) an eye to our polyglot ance/ry1 h attempt$ to incorporate "s feature ( e ,european national co/ume into a h>moni\s :ole1 & h ?us giv5 u t abid+ horror1 ! freak ,am]ican suit4 ,y w see x ev]y:]e1 on ,broadway ( e city & ,ma9 ,/reet ( e t[n1 on ! bo>dwalks & bea*es ( coa/ resorts1 & ev5 9 remote f>m+ villages4 ,x comes up to hit y 9 ! face ye> aft] ye> 9 all its amaz+ v>iations3 wai/-l9e "u ! arm pits1 trick little belts1 :at-nots 9 ! cuffs2 tr\s]s s n>r[ y fe> !y w bur/ be=e y\r eyes1 pockets plac$ 9 e position1 buttons clu/]$ toge!r 9 a tight little r[ or r$uc$ to "o4 ,& ! wor/ ( x is1 few ( our y\ng] m5 "k any bett] until !y g abroad & f9d _! w>drobe a subject = je/ & d]ision4 ,if y w\ld dress l a g5tleman1 y mu/ d "o ( two ?+s2 ei!r /udy ! subject ( a g5tleman's w>drobe until y are compet5t to pick out good suits f freaks & direct y\r misguid$ tailor1 or1 at lea/ until y\r p]ceptions are tra9$1 g to an ,engli% "o4 ,?is latt] me?od is ! easie/1 &1 by all odds1 ! safe/4 ,x is n ,anglomania b pla9 common s5se to admit t1 j z ! ,rue de la ,paix 9 ,p>is is ! f\nta9head ( fa%ions = wom51 ,bond ,/reet 9 ,london is ! home ( irreproa*able clo!s = m54 ,& yet1 curi\sly en\gh1 j z a woman %opp+ 9 ,p>is c buy frightful clo!s--or ! mo/ beautiful2 a man c 9 ,am]ica buy ! wor/ clo!s 9 ! _w--& ! be/4 ,! ord9>y run ( ,engli% clo!s may n be especially good1 b !y are1 on ! o!r h&1 nev] bad2 :]eas ,am]ican freak clo!s are di/ortions l ! reflections se5 9 ! convex & concave mirrors ( ! amusem5t p>ks4 ,b n ev5 ! lead+ tailors ( ,bond ,/reet c excel ! supremely good ,am]ican tailor--^: clo!s h[ev] are id5tical 9 e p>ticul> ) ^? ( ,london1 & _! "r to be call$ be/ is = great] p]fection ( workman%ip & fit4 ,?is la/ is a dang]\s phrase2 fit means p]fect set & l9e1 n pla/] tightness4 ,h[ev]1 let u suppose t y are ei!r "y1 or at lea/ fairly "y2 t y h unque/ion$ social position1 & t y are go+ to get y\rself an entire w>drobe4 ,let u also suppose y\r money is n unlimit$1 s t x may also be se5 :]e y may n1 or may if necess>y1 economize4 ,,=mal ,,ev5+ ,,clo!s ,y\r full dress is ! la/ ?+ to economize on4 ,x mu/ be p]fect 9 fit1 cut & mat]ial1 & ?is means a fir/-rate tailor4 ,x mu/ be made ( a dull-fac$ wor/$1 ei!r black or night blue1 on no acc\nt ( broadclo?4 ,aside f sat9 fac+ & coll>1 :i* c h lapels or be cut %awl-%ap$1 & wide braid on ! tr\s]s1 x mu/ h no trimm+ :atev]4 ,avoid sat9 or velvet cuffs1 moir neck ribbons & fancy coat buttons z y w\ld ! plague4 ,we> a pla9 :ite l95 wai/coat1 n "o ( cream color$ silk1 or figur$ or ev5 black brocade4 ,h all y\r l95 faultlessly clean--always--& y\r tie ( pla9 :ite lawn1 ti$ s x w n only /ay 9 place b look z ?\gh no?+ %ort ( a backw>d som]sault c\ld dis>range x4 ,y\r h&k]*ief mu/ be :ite2 gloves 7at op]a or ball7 :ite2 fl[] 9 buttonhole 7if any7 :ite4 ,if y are a normal size1 y c 9 ,am]ica buy inexp5sive %irts1 & :ite wai/coats t are above reproa*1 b if y are abnormally tall or o!rwise an out size s t ev]y?+ has to be made to ord]1 y w h to pay any:]e f d\ble to f\r times z mu* = ea* article y put on4 ,:5 y g out on ! /reet1 we> an ,engli% silk hat1 n "o ( ! tap] cr[n$ v>iety popul> 9 ! movies4 ,& we> x on y\r head1 n on ! back ( y\r neck4 ,h y\r ov]coat ( pla9 black or d>k blue mat]ial1 = y mu/ we> an ov]coat ) full dress ev5 9 summ]4 ,use a pla9 :ite or black & :ite muffl]4 ,color$ ones are impossible4 ,we> :ite bucksk9 gloves if y c af=d !m2 o!rwise gray or khaki doesk91 & leave !m 9 y\r ov]coat pocket4 ,y\r /ick %\ld be ( pla9 ,malacca or o!r wood1 ) ei!r a crook$ or /raight h&le4 ,! only ornam5tation all[able is a pla9 silv] or gold b&1 or top2 b p]fectly pla9 is be/ =m4 ,& la/ly1 we> pat5t lea!r pumps1 %oes or ties1 & pla9 black silk socks1 & leave y\r rubb]s--if y mu/ we> !m1 9 ! coat room4 ,,! ,,tux$o ,! ,tux$o1 :i* is ! ess5tial ev5+ dress ( a g5tleman1 is simply ! ,engli% d9n] coat4 ,x 0 fir/ introduc$ 9 ?is c\ntry at ! ,tux$o ,club to provide some?+ less =mal ?an ! swall[-tail1 & ! "n has clung ev] s9ce4 ,to a man :o c n af=d to get two suits ( ev5+ clo!s1 ! ,tux$o is ( great] importance4 ,x is worn e ev5+ & ne>ly ev]y:]e1 :]eas ! tail coat is necess>y only at balls1 =mal d9n]s1 & 9 a box at ! op]a4 ,tux$o clo!s are made ( ! same mat]ials & diff] f full dress ones 9 only ?ree p>ticul>s3 ! cut ( ! coat1 ! braid on ! tr\s]s1 & ! use ( a black tie in/ead ( a :ite "o4 ,! d9n] coat has no tails & is cut l a sack suit except t x is held clos$ 9 front by "o button at ! wai/ l9e4 7,a full dress coat1 naturally1 hangs op547 ,! lapels are sat9 fac$1 & ! coll> left 9 clo?1 or if x is %awl-%ap$ ! :ole coll> is ( sat94 ,! tr\s]s are id5tical ) full dress ones except t braid1 if us$ at all1 %\ld be n>r[4 ,cuff$ tr\s]s are n good =m1 nor %\ld a d9n] coat be d\ble-brea/$4 ,fancy ties are bad =m4 ,*oose a pla9 black silk or sat9 "o4 ,we> a :ite wai/coat if y c af=d ! /ra9 on y\r laundry bill1 o!rwise a pla9 black "o4 ,by no means we> a gray "o nor a gray tie4 ,! sm>te/ hat = t[n we> is an op]a1 b a /raw or felt :i* is prop] 9 ! c\ntry1 is n out ( place 9 t[n4 ,o!rwise1 9 ! /reet ! accessories are ! same z ^? already giv5 "u ! previ\s head+4 ,,! ,,h\se ,,suit ,! h\se suit is an extravagance t may be avoid$1 & an old ,tux$o suit worn in/ead4 ,a g5tleman is always suppos$ to *ange 8 clo!s = d9n]1 :e!r he is go+ out or d9+ at home alone or ) 8 family1 & = ?is latt] occasion "s inspir$ p]son evolv$ ! h\se1 or l\nge1 suit1 :i* is simply a d9n] coat & tr\s]s cut some:at loos] ?an ord9>y ev5+ ones1 made ( an all-silk or silk & wool fabric 9 "s d>k color1 & l9$ ) ei!r sat9 or silk4 ,no?+ m com=table--or luxuri\s--c\ld be devis$ = sitt+ 9 a deep easy-*air aft] d9n]1 9 a recl9+ position t is ru9\s to be/ ev5+ clo!s4 ,its purpose is really to save we> on ev5+ clo!s1 & to avoid "s ( _! discom=t also1 because !y c n be giv5 h>d or c>eless usage & long survive4 ,a h\se suit is di/9ctly :at ! "n implies1 & is n an appropriate g>m5t to we> out = d9n] or to receive any b intimate gue/s 9 at home4 ,! accessories are a pleat$ %irt1 ) turnd[n /iff coll>1 & black b[ tie1 or ev5 an un/>*$ %irt ) coll> atta*$ 7:ite ( c\rse74 ,! coat is made ) two buttons in/ead ( "o1 because no wai/coat is worn ) x4 ,,=mal ,,aft]noon ,,dress ,=mal aft]noon dress consi/s ( a black cutaway coat ) :ite piqu or black clo? wai/coat1 & gray-&-black /rip$ tr\s]s4 ,! coat may be b\nd ) braid1 or1 ev5 9 bett] ta/e1 pla94 ,a sat9-fac$ lapel is n cons]vative on a cutaway1 b x is ! correct fac+ = ! m =mal 7& eld]ly7 frock coat4 ,ei!r a cutaway or a frock coat is always accompani$ by a silk hat1 & be/ worn ) pla9 black wai/coat & a black b[ tie or a black & :ite f\r-9-h& tie4 ,a gray silk ascot worn ) ! frock coat is suppos$ to be ! correct w$d+ g>m5t ( ! bride's fa!r4 7,= details ( clo!s worn by groom & u%]s at a w$d+1 see *apt] on w$d+s47 ,%oes may be pat5t lea!r1 al?\gh black calfsk9 are at pres5t ! fa%ion1 ei!r ) or )\t spats4 ,if ) spats1 be sure t !y fit close2 no?+ is worse ?an a wr9kl$ spat or "o t /icks out ov] ! in/ep l ! op5$ bill ( a duck6 ,?\gh gray cutaway suits & gray top hats h always be5 worn to ! races 9 ,engl&1 !y d n seem suitable "h1 z races 9 ,am]ica are n su* full-dress occasions z 9 ,france & ,engl&4 ,b at a spr+ w$d+ or o!r =mal occasions a s&-color$ d\ble-brea/$ l95 wai/coat ) spats & b[ tie to mat* looks v well ) a black cutaway & almo/ black tr\s]s1 on a man :o is "y4 ,,! ,,bus9ess ,,suit ,! bus9ess suit or ?ree-piece sack is made or m>r$ by its cut alone4 ,x is suppos$ to be an e-day inconspicu\s g>m5t & %\ld be4 ,a few rules to foll[ are3 ,don't *oose /rik+ patt]ns ( mat]ials2 suitable wool5 /uffs come 9 endless v>iety1 & any :i* look pla9 at a %ort di/ance are safe1 ?\gh !y may %[ a mixture ( colors or patt]n :5 view$ closely4 ,don't get too light a blue1 too bright a gre51 or any?+ sugge/+ a horse blanket4 ,at ! pres5t mom5t tr\s]s are made ) a cuff2 sleeves are n4 ,lapels are mod]ately small4 ,padd$ %\ld]s are an abom9ation4 ,peg-topp$ tr\s]s equally bad4 ,if y mu/ be ecc5tric1 save y\r ef=ts = ! next fancy dress ball1 :]e y may we> :at y please1 b 9 y\r bus9ess clo?+ be reasonable4 ,above ev]y?+1 don't we> :ite socks1 & don't cov] y\rself ) *a9s1 fobs1 sc>f p9s1 lodge emblems1 etc41 & don't we> horsey %irts & neckties4 ,y w only make a bad impression on e "o y meet4 ,! clo!s ( a g5tleman are always cons]vative2 & x is safe to avoid ev]y?+ ?an c possibly come "u ! head+ ( novelty4 ,,jewelry ,9 y\r jewelry let diamonds be conspicu\s by _! abs5ce4 ,no?+ is m vulg> ?an a display ( ice on a man's %irt front1 or on 8 f+]s4 ,!re is a good deal ( jewelry t a g5tleman may be all[$ to we>1 b x mu/ be *os5 ) discrim9ation4 ,pe>l %irt-/uds 7real ones7 are correct = full dress only1 & n to be worn ) a d9n] coat unless !y are s small z to be entirely inconspicu\s4 ,o!rwise y may we> enamel /uds 7t look l :ite l957 or black onyx ) a rim ( plat9um1 or ) a v inconspicu\s patt]n 9 diamond *ips1 b s t9y t !y c n be told f a ?readlike design 9 plat9um--or o!rs equally mod]ate4 ,wai/coat buttons1 /uds & cuff l9ks1 worn 9 sets1 is an ,am]ican cu/om t is p]missible4 ,bo? wai/coat buttons & cuff l9ks may be jewell$ & valuable1 b !y mu/ n h big preci\s /ones or be conspicu\s4 ,a wat* *a9 %\ld be v ?9 & a man's r+ is usually a seal r+ ( pla9 gold or a d>k /one4 ,if a man we>s a jewel at all x %\ld be sunk into a pla9 gypsy hoop sett+ t has no ornam5tation1 & worn on 8 little1 n 8 ?ird1 f+]4 ,,9 ,,! ,,c\ntry ,gay-color$ socks & ties are q appropriate ) flannels or golf twe$s4 ,only 9 y\r rid+ clo!s y mu/ aga9 be cons]vative4 ,if y c get boots built on ,engli% l9es1 we> !m2 o!rwise we> legg+s4 ,& rememb] t all lea!r mu/ be real lea!r 9 ! fir/ place & poli%$ until its surface is l glass4 ,h y\r bree*es fit y4 ,! coat is less important1 9 fact1 any odd coat w d4 ,y\r legs are ! cynosure ( att5tion 9 rid+4 ,mo/ m5 9 ! c\ntry we> knick]bock]s ) golf /ock+s1 ) a sack or a belt$ or a semi-belt$ coat1 & 9 any v>iety ( homespuns or twe$s or r\gh wor/$ mat]ials4 ,or !y we> long tr\s]$ flannels4 ,coats are ( ! polo or ul/] v>iety4 ,= golf or t5nis _m m5 we> sweat] coats4 ,%irts are ( *eviot or silk or flannel1 all ) s(t coll>s atta*$ & to mat*4 ,! ma9 ?+ is to dress appropriately4 ,if y are go+ to play golf1 we> golf clo!s2 if t5nis1 we> flannels4 ,d n we> a ya*t+ cap a%ore unless y are liv+ on bo>d a ya*t4 ,:ite wool5 socks are correct ) :ite bucksk9 %oes 9 ! c\ntry1 b n 9 t[n4 ,if "s semi-=mal occasion comes up1 su* z a c\ntry tea1 ! "t-worn cons]vative blue coat ) :ite flannel tr\s]s is p]5nially good4 ,,o!r ,,h9ts ,! well-dress$ man is always a p>adox4 ,he mu/ look z ?\gh he gave 8 clo!s no ?\ght & z ?\gh lit]ally !y grew on him l a dog's fur1 & yet he mu/ be p]fectly groom$4 ,he mu/ be close-%av$ & h 8 hair cut & 8 nails 9 good ord] 7n too poli%$74 ,8 l95 mu/ always be immaculate1 8 clo!s 9 press1 8 %oes p]fectly done4 ,8 br[n %oes mu/ %9e l old mahogany1 & 8 :ite bucksk9 mu/ be :it5$ & poli%$ l a prize bull t]ri] at a b5* %[4 ,ties & socks & h&k]*ief may g toge!r1 b too p]fect a mat* betrays an ef=t = effect :i* is always bad4 ,! well-dress$ man nev] we>s ! same suit or ! same pair ( %oes two days runn+4 ,he may h only two suits1 b he we>s !m alt]nately2 if he has f\r suits he %\ld we> ea* e f\r? day4 ,! long] "t !y h to recov] _! %ape1 ! bett]4 ,,:at ,,to ,,we> ,,on ,,v>i\s ,,occasions ,! appropriate clo!s = v>i\s occasions are giv5 bel[4 ,if ev] 9 d\bt :at to we>1 ! be/ rule is to err on ! side ( in=mality4 ,?us1 if y are n sure :e!r to put on y\r dress suit or y\r ,tux$o1 we> ! latt]4 ,,full ,,dress #a4 ,at ! op]a4 #b4 ,at an ev5+ w$d+4 #c4 ,at a d9n] to :i* ! invitations are word$ 9 ! ?ird p]son4 #d4 ,at a ball1 or =mal ev5+ ent]ta9m5t4 #e4 ,at c]ta9 ,/ate functions on ! ,cont95t ( ,europe 9 broad daylight4 ,,tux$o #a4 ,at ! !at]4 #b4 ,at mo/ d9n]s4 #c4 ,at in=mal p>ties4 #d4 ,d9+ at home4 #e4 ,d9+ 9 a re/aurant4 ,a ,,cutaway ,,or ,,frock ,,coat ,,) ,,/rip$ ,,tr\s]s #a4 ,at a noon or aft]noon w$d+4 #b4 ,on ,sunday = *ur* 79 ! city74 #c4 ,at any =mal daytime function4 #d4 ,9 ,engl& to bus9ess4 #e4 ,z u%] at a w$d+4 #f4 ,z pall-be>]4 ,,bus9ess ,,suits #a4 ,all in=mal daytime occasions4 #b4 ,travel+4 #c4 ,! coat ( a blue suit ) :ite flannel or duck tr\s]s = a lun*1 or to *ur*1 9 ! c\ntry4 #d4 ,a blue or black sack suit w d 9 place ( a cutaway at a w$d+1 b n if y are ! groom or an u%]4 ,,c\ntry ,,clo!s #a4 ,only 9 ! c\ntry4 ,to we> odd twe$ coats & flannel tr\s]s 9 t[n is n only inappropriate1 b bad ta/e4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxv ,,! ,,k9d]g>t5 ,,( ,,etiquette ,9 ! h\ses ( ! well-to-d :]e ! nurs]y is 9 *>ge ( a woman ( ref9em5t :o is compet5t to tea* little *ildr5 prop] behavior1 !y are nev] all[$ to come to table 9 ! d9+-room until !y h le>n$ at lea/ ! elem5ts ( good mann]s4 ,b :e!r 9 a big h\se ( ?is description1 or 9 a small h\se :]e p]haps ! "m alone mu/ be ! tea*]1 *ildr5 c sc>cely be too "y to be taught ! rudim5ts ( etiquette1 nor c ! tea*+ be too pati5tly or too consci5ti\sly c>ri$ out4 ,tra9+ a *ild is exactly l tra9+ a puppy2 a little he$less inatt5tion & x is out if h& imm$iately2 ! great ?+ is n to let x acquire bad habits t mu/ aft]w>d be brok54 ,any *ild c be taught to be beautifully behav$ ) no ef=t great] ?an quiet pati5ce & p]sev]ance1 :]eas to break bad habits once !y are acquir$ is a ,h]culean task4 ,,elem5t>y ,,table ,,mann]s ,s9ce a v little *ild c n hold a spoon prop]ly1 & z neatness is ! fir/ requisite 9 table-mann]s1 x %\ld be all[$ to hold its spoon z x might take hold ( a b> 9 front ( x1 back ( ! h& up1 ?umb clos$ ov] fi/4 ,! pu%] 7a small flat piece ( silv] at "r angles to a h&le7 is held 9 ! same way1 9 ! left h&4 ,also 9 ! fir/ eat+ lessons1 a baby mu/ be all[$ to put a spoon 9 its m\?1 po9t$ end =emo/4 ,its fir/ lessons mu/ be to take small m\?fuls1 to eat v sl[ly1 to spill no?+1 to keep ! m\? %ut :ile *ew+ & n sme> its face ov]4 ,9 dr9k+1 a *ild %\ld use bo? h&s to hold a mug or glass until its h& is big en\gh s x c easily hold a glass 9 "o4 ,:5 x c eat )\t spill+ any?+ or sme>+ its lips1 & dr9k )\t mak+ grease moons on its mug or tumbl] 7by always wip+ its m\? be=e dr9k+71 x may be all[$ to come to table 9 ! d9+-room z a treat1 = ,sunday lun* or breakfa/4 ,or if x has be5 taught by its "m at table1 %e c relax h] att5tion some:at f its progress4 ,girls are usually da9ti] & m easily taught ?an boys1 b mo/ *ildr5 w behave badly at table if left to _! own devices4 ,ev5 ?\gh !y may commit no s]i\s (f5ses1 su* z mak+ a mess ( _! food or !mselves1 or talk+ ) _! m\?s full1 all *ildr5 love to crumb bread1 flop ?is way & t 9 _! *airs1 knock spoons & =ks toge!r1 dawdle ov] _! food1 fe$ animals--if any are all[$ 9 ! room--or become re/less & noisy4 ,once graduat$ to ! d9+-room1 any rev]sion to su* tactics mu/ be firmly repreh5d$1 & ! *ild %\ld und]/& t cont9u$ (f5se means a return to ! nurs]y4 ,b be=e company x is be/ to say z little z possible1 s9ce too mu* nagg+ 9 ! pres5ce ( /rang]s less5s a *ild's inc5tive to good behavior be=e !m4 ,if x refuses to behave nicely1 mu* ! be/ ?+ to d is to say no?+1 b get up & quietly lead x f ! table back to ! nurs]y4 ,x is n only bad = ! *ild b annoy+ to a gue/ to cont9ue in/ructions be=e company1 & ! *ild le>ns mu* m quickly to be well-behav$ if x und]/&s t good behavior is ! price ( admission to gr[n-up society4 ,a ^w or two su* z1 ,don't lean on ! table1 d>l+1 or pay att5tion to :at y are do+1 de>1 %\ld suffice4 ,b a *ild t is noisy1 t rea*es out to help itself to c&y or cake1 t int]rupts ! conv]sation1 t eats untidily has be5 all[$ to leave ! nurs]y be=e x has be5 prop]ly graduat$4 ,table mann]s mu/1 ( c\rse1 proce$ sl[ly 9 exactly ! same way t any o!r lessons proce$ 9 s*ool4 ,hav+ le>n$ :5 a baby to use ! nurs]y implem5ts ( spoon & pu%]1 ! *ild1 :5 x is a little old]1 disc>ds !m = ! =k1 spoon & knife4 ,,! ,,prop] ,,use ,,( ,,! ,,=k ,z soon1 !re=e1 z 8 h& is dext]\s en\gh1 ! *ild mu/ be taught to hold 8 =k1 no long] gripp$ baby-fa%ion 9 8 fi/1 b mu* z a p5cil is held 9 writ+2 only ! f+]s are plac$ ne>] ! top ?an ! po9t1 ! ?umb & two fir/ f+]s are clos$ ar\nd ! h&le two-?irds ( ! way up ! %ank1 & ! food is tak5 up %ovel-wise on ! turn$-up prongs4 ,at fir/ 8 little f+]s w hold 8 =k /iffly1 b z he gr[s old] 8 f+]s w become m flexible j z !y w 9 hold+ 8 p5cil4 ,if he f9ds x h>d "w to %ovel 8 food1 he c1 = a :ile1 cont9ue to use 8 nurs]y pu%]4 ,by & by ! pu%] is *ang$ = a small piece ( bread1 :i* is held 9 8 left h& & betwe5 ?umb & fir/ two f+]s1 & aga9/ :i* ! =k %ovels up su* elusive articles z corn1 peas1 poa*$ egg1 etc4 ,,! ,,spoon ,9 us+ ! spoon1 he holds x 9 8 "r h& l ! =k4 ,9 eat+ c]eal or dess]t1 he may be all[$ to dip ! b[l ( ! spoon t[>d him & eat f ! end1 b 9 eat+ s\p he mu/ dip 8 spoon away f him--turn+ ! out] rim ( ! b[l d[n z he does s--fill ! b[l n m ?an ?ree-qu>t]s full & sip x1 )\t noise1 out ( ! side 7n ! end7 ( ! b[l4 ,! reason :y ! b[l mu/ n be fill$ full is because x is impossible to lift a brimm+ spoonful ( liquid to 8 m\? )\t spill+ "s1 or 9 ! case ( porridge )\t fill+ 8 m\? too full4 ,:ile /ill v "y he may be taught nev] to leave ! spoon 9 a cup :ile dr9k+ out ( x1 b aft] /irr+ ! cocoa1 or :atev] x is1 to lay ! spoon 9 ! sauc]4 ,a v ugly table habit1 :i* seems to be an impulse among all *ildr51 is to pile a great quantity ( food on a =k & !n lick or bite x (f piecemeal4 ,?is mu/ on no acc\nt be p]mitt$4 ,x is p]fectly correct1 h[ev]1 to sip a little at a "t1 ( hot liquid f a spoon4 ,9 tak+ any liquid ei!r f a spoon or dr9k+ vessel1 no noise mu/ ev] be made4 ,illu/ration3 ,,9 ,,eat+ ,,s\p ,,! ,,*ild ,,mu/ ,,dip ,,8 ,,spoon ,,away ,,f ,,him--,,turn+ ,,! ,,out] ,,rim ,,( ,,! ,,spoon ,,d[n ,,z ,,he ,,does ,,s4444 ,page #egc4 ,illu/ration3 ,,9 ,,be+ ,,taught ,,to ,,use ,,knife ,,& ,,=k ,,toge!r1 ,,! ,,*ild ,,%\ld ,,at ,,fir/ ,,cut ,,only ,,some?+ ,,v ,,easy1 ,,su* ,,z ,a ,,slice ,,( ,,*ick54444 ,page #egd4 ,illu/ration3 ,,hav+ ,,cut ,,(f ,a ,,m\?ful1 ,,he ,,?ru/s ,,! ,,=k ,,?r\gh ,,x1 ,,) ,,prongs ,,po9t$ ,,d[nw>d ,,& ,,conveys ,,x ,,to ,,8 ,,m\? ,,) ,,8 ,,left ,,h&4 ,,he ,,mu/ ,,le>n ,,to ,,cut ,,(f ,,& ,,eat ,,"o ,,m\?ful ,,at ,a ,,"t4 ,page #egd4 ,illu/ration3 ,,:5 ,,no ,,knife ,,is ,,be+ ,,us$1 ,,! ,,=k ,,is ,,held ,,9 ,,! ,,"r ,,h&1 ,,:e!r ,,us$ ',,prongs ,,d[n' ,,to ,,impale ,,! ,,meat1 ,,or ',,prongs ,,up' ,,to ,,lift ,,vegetables4 ,page #ege4 ,illu/ration3 ,,bread ,,%\ld ,,always ,,be ,,brok5 ,,into ,,small ,,pieces ,,) ,,! ,,f+]s ,,be=e ,,be+ ,,butt]$4 ,page #ehc4 ,illu/ration3 ,,:5 ,,he ,,has ,,f9i%$ ,,eat+1 ,,! ,,*ild ,,%\ld ,,lay ,,8 ,,knife ,,& ,,=k ,,close ,,toge!r1 ,,side ,,by ,,side1 ,,) ,,h&les ,,t[>d ,,! ,,"r ,,side ,,( ,,8 ,,plate4444 ,page #ege4 ,,! ,,=k ,,& ,,knife ,,toge!r ,9 be+ taught to use 8 knife1 ! *ild %\ld at fir/ cut only some?+ v easy1 su* z a slice ( *ick52 he %\ld n attempt any?+ ) bones or gri/le1 or any?+ t is t\gh4 ,9 8 left h& is put 8 =k ) ! prongs d[nw>d1 held ne> ! top ( ! h&le4 ,8 index f+] is plac$ on ! %ank s t x po9ts to ! prongs1 & is support$ at ! side by 8 ?umb4 ,8 o!r f+]s close und]nea? & hold ! h&le tight4 ,he mu/ nev] be all[$ to hold 8 =k emigrant fa%ion1 p]p5dicul>ly clut*$ 9 ! cl5*$ fi/1 & to saw across ! food at its base ) 8 knife4 ,,! ,,knife ,! knife is held 9 8 "r h& exactly z ! =k is held 9 8 left1 firmly & at ! end ( ! h&le1 ) ! index f+] po9t+ d[n ! back ( ! blade4 ,9 cutt+ he %\ld le>n n to scrape ! back ( ! =k prongs ) ! cutt+ edge ( ! knife4 ,hav+ cut (f a m\?ful1 he ?ru/s ! =k ?r\gh x1 ) prongs po9t$ d[nw>d & conveys x to 8 m\? ) 8 left h&4 ,he mu/ le>n to cut (f & eat "o m\?ful at a "t4 ,x is unnecess>y to add t ! knife mu/ nev] be put 9 8 m\?2 nor is x good =m to use ! knife unnecess>ily4 ,s(t foods1 l croquettes1 ha% on toa/1 all eggs & vegetables1 %\ld be cut or m]ely brok5 ap>t ) ! edge ( ! =k held l ! knife1 aft] :i* ! =k is turn$ 9 ! h& to fir/ 7or %ovel7 position4 ,! knife mu/ nev] be us$ to scoop bak$ potato out ( ! sk91 or to butt] potato4 ,a =k mu/ be us$ = all manipulations ( vegetables2 butt] = bak$ potatoes tak5 on ! tip ( ! =k %ovel fa%ion1 laid on ! potato1 & !n press$ d[n & mix$ ) ! prongs held po9ts curv$ up4 ,:5 no knife is be+ us$1 ! =k is held 9 ! "r h&1 :e!r us$ prongs d[n to impale ! meat or prongs up to lift vegetables4 ,to pile ma%$ potato & o!r vegetables on ! convex side ( ! =k on top ( ! meat = two or m in*es ( its l5g?1 is a disgu/+ habit de> to s*ool boys1 & "o t is m easily prev5t$ ?an correct$4 ,9 fact1 tak+ a big m\?ful 7next to sme>+ 8 face & *ew+ ) m\? op57 is ! wor/ (f5se at table4 ,:5 he has f9i%$ eat+1 he %\ld lay 8 knife & =k close toge!r1 side by side1 ) h&les t[>d ! "r side ( 8 plate1 ! h&les project+ an in* or two beyond ! rim ( ! plate4 ,!y mu/ be plac$ f> en\gh on ! plate s t !re is no dang] ( _! ov]-balanc+ on to ! table or floor :5 remov$ at ! end ( ! c\rse4 ,,o!r ,,table ,,matt]s ,! di/ance f ! table at :i* x is be/ to sit1 is a matt] ( p]sonal com=t4 ,a *ild %\ld n be all[$ to be s close t 8 elb[s are b5t l a gras%opp]'s1 nor s f> back t food is apt to be spill$ 9 transit f plate to m\?4 ,*ildr5 l to dr9k v long & rapidly1 all 9 "o brea?1 until !y are p9k ar\nd ! eyes1 & are lit]ally gasp+4 ,!y also love to put _! :ole h&s 9 _! f+]-b[ls & wiggle _! f+]s4 ,a baby ( two1 or at lea/ by ! "t he is ?ree1 %\ld be taught to dip ! tips ( 8 f+]s 9 ! f+]-b[l1 )\t play+1 draw ! f+]s ( ! "r h& across 8 m\?1 & !n wipe 8 lips & f+]s on ! apron ( 8 bib4 ,no small *ild c be expect$ to use a napk9 in/ead ( a bib4 ,no matt] h[ nicely behav$ he may be1 !re is always dang] ( 8 spill+ some?+1 "s "t4 ,s(t boil$ egg is hide\sly difficult to eat )\t ev] gett+ a drop ( x d[n ! front1 & x is mu* easi] to supply him ) a clean bib = ! next meal ?an to *ange 8 dress = ! next mom5t4 ,v little *ildr5 usually h hot wat] plates t are specially made l a d\ble plate ) hot wat] space betwe51 on :i* ! meat is cut up & ! vegetables fix$ 9 ! pantry1 & br\ght to ! *ildr5 be=e o!r p at ! table are s]v$4 ,n only because x is h>d = !m to be made to wait1 & h _! att5tion attract$ by food n = !m1 b because !y take s long to eat4 ,z soon z !y are old en\gh to eat ev]y?+ on ! table1 !y are s]v$1 n la/1 b 9 ! regul> rotation at table 9 :i* !y come4 ,,table ,,tricks ,,t ,,mu/ ,,be ,,correct$ ,to sit up /raight & keep _! h&s 9 _! laps :5 n occupi$ ) eat+1 is v h>d = a *ild1 b %\ld be insi/$ ^u 9 ord] to prev5t a c>eless attitude t all too readily deg5]ates into flopp+ ?is way & t1 & into f+]+ :atev] is 9 rea*4 ,he mu/ n be all[$ to w>m 8 h&s on 8 plate1 or drum on ! table1 or screw 8 napk9 into a rope or make m>ks on ! tableclo?4 ,if he %[s tal5t z an arti/1 give him p5cils or model+ wax 9 8 playroom1 b d n let him bite 8 slice ( bread into ! silh\ette ( an animal1 or model figures 9 s(t bread at ! table4 ,& d n all[ him to con/ruct a t5t out ( two =ks1 or an automobile *assis out ( tumbl]s & knives4 ,food & table implem5ts are n play?+s1 nor is ! d9+-room a playgr\nd4 ,,talk+ ,,at ,,table ,:5 old] p are pres5t at table & a *ild wants to say some?+1 he mu/ be taught to /op eat+ mom5t>ily & look at 8 "m1 :o at ! fir/ pause 9 ! conv]sation w say1 ,:at is x1 de>8 ,& ! *ild !n has 8 say4 ,if he wants m]ely to laun* =? on a long subject ( 8 own conv]sation1 8 "m says1 ,n n[1 d>l+1 we w talk ab\t t by & by1 or ,don't y see t "m is talk+ to ,aunt ,m>y8 ,:5 *ildr5 are at table alone ) _! "m1 !y %\ld n only be all[$ to talk b unconsci\sly tra9$ 9 table conv]sation z well z 9 table mann]s4 ,*ildr5 are all m or less little monkeys 9 t !y imitate ev]y?+ !y see4 ,if _! "m treats !m exactly z %e does h] visitors !y 9 turn play visitor to p]fection4 ,no?+ hurts ! feel+s ( *ildr5 m ?an n be+ all[$ to behave l gr[n p]sons :5 !y ?9k !y are able4 ,to be help$1 to be f$1 to h _! food cut up1 all h a /ultify+ effect ^u _! developm5t z soon z !y h become exp]t en\gh to attempt ^! s]vices = !mselves4 ,*ildr5 %\ld be taught f ! "t !y are little n to talk ab\t :at !y l & don't l4 ,a *ild :o is n all[$ to say any?+ b ,no1 ?ank y1 at home1 w n mortify 8 "m 9 public by scream+1 ,i hate /eak1 ,i won't eat potato1 ,i want ice cream6 ,,quietness ,,at ,,table ,old] *ildr5 %\ld n be all[$ to j]k out _! *airs1 to flop d[n sideways1 to flick _! napk9s by "o corn]1 to rea* out = some?+1 or beg9 to eat nuts1 fruit or o!r table decorations4 ,a *ild z well z a gr[n p]son %\ld sit d[n quietly 9 ! c5t] ( 8 *air & draw x up to ! table 7if !re is no "o to pu% x 9 = him7 by hold+ ! seat 9 ei!r h& :ile mom5t>ily lift+ himself on 8 feet4 ,he mu/ n jump or rock 8 *air into place at ! table4 ,9 gett+ up f ! table1 aga9 he mu/ pu% 8 *air back quietly1 us+ 8 h&s on ei!r side ( ! *air seat1 & n by hold+ on to ! table edge & giv+ himself1 *air & all1 a sudd5 %ove6 ,!re %\ld nev] be a s\nd made by ! pu%+ 9 or out ( *airs at table4 ,,! ,,spoil$ ,,*ild ,! bad mann]s ( ,am]ican *ildr51 :i* un=tunately are suppos$ by =eign]s to be typical1 are ne>ly always ! result ( _! be+ giv5 /> p>ts by ov]-fond b equally ov]-fooli% mo!rs4 ,x is only necess>y to br+ to m9d ! mo/ irritat+ & objectionable *ild "o kn[s1 & ! *ances are t its "m cont9ually ?r[s ! spotlight on x by talk+ to x1 & ab\t x1 & by call+ att5tion to its looks or its cunn+ ways or ev51 possibly1 its naught9ess4 ,x is humanly natural to make a fuss ov] little *ildr51 p>ticul>ly if !y are pretty1 & x takes q sup]-human control = a "y "m n to %[ (f h] treasure1 b to say in/ead1 ,please d n pay any att5tion to h]4 ,"s *ildr51 :o are especially free f self-consci\sness1 /& />dom bett] ?an o!rs :o are m readily spoil$2 b 9 n9e cases out ( t51 ! old-fa%ion$ me?od t assign$ *ildr5 to inconspicu\s places 9 ! backgr\nd & decre$ !y might be se5 b n he>d1 produc$ m5 & wom5 ( f> great] *>m ?an ! mod]n me?od ( enc\rag+ public self-expression f infancy upw>d4 ,,*ief ,,virtue3 ,,ob$i5ce ,no "y human be+1 any m ?an a "y dog1 has ! lea/ claim to attractiv5ess unless x is tra9$ to mann]s & ob$i5ce4 ,! *ild t :9es1 int]rupts1 fusses1 fidgets1 & does no?+ t x is told to d1 has n ! lea/ p[] ( attraction = any "o1 ev5 ?\gh x may h ! features ( an angel & be dress$ l a picture4 ,ano!r t may h no claim to beauty :atev]1 b t is sweet & nicely behav$1 ex]ts *>m ov] e "o4 ,:5 possible1 a *ild %\ld be tak5 away ! in/ant x becomes disob$i5t4 ,x soon le>ns t x c n /ay ) "m unless x is well-behav$4 ,?is means t x le>ns self-control 9 babyhood4 ,n only mu/ *ildr5 obey1 b !y mu/ nev] be all[$ to %[ (f or become p]t1 or to contradict or to answ] back2 & aft] hav+ be5 told no1 !y mu/ nev] be all[$ by p]si/5t nagg+ to w9 yes4 ,a *ild t loses its temp]1 t teases1 t is petulant & disob$i5t1 & a nuisance to ev]ybody1 is m]ely a victim1 poor little ?+1 ( p>5ts :o h be5 too incompet5t or neglig5t to tra9 x to ob$i5ce4 ,moreov]1 t same *ild :5 gr[n w be ! fir/ to res5t & blame ! "m's mi/ak5 spoil+ & lack ( good s5se4 ,,fair ,,play ,no?+ appeals to *ildr5 m ?an ju/ice1 & !y %\ld be taught 9 ! nurs]y to play fair 9 games1 to respect ea* o!r's prop]ty & rights1 to give cr$it to o!rs1 & n to take too mu* cr$it to !mselves4 ,e *ild mu/ be taught nev] to draw att5tion to ! meagre possessions ( ano!r *ild ^: p>5ts are n z well (f z h] own4 ,a purse-pr\d1 ov]be>+ *ild :o says to a playmate1 ,my clo!s 7 all made 9 ,p>is1 & my doll is ev] s mu* h&som] ?an y\rs1 or ,is t real lace on y\r coll>8 is n impress+ h] "y fri5d ) h] gr&eur & discrim9ation b ) h] disagreeabl5ess & rud5ess4 ,a boy :o brags ab\t :at he has1 & boa/s ( :at he c d1 is only less objectionable because o!r boys are sure to take x out ( him promptly & ?or\ghly6 ,nor %\ld a bright1 obs]v+ *ild be enc\rag$ to pick out o!r p's fail+s1 or to tell h] "m h[ inf]ior o!r *ildr5 are comp>$ ) h]self4 ,if %e w9s a race or a m$al or is prais$1 %e naturally tells h] "m1 & h] "m naturally rejoices ) h]1 & x is prop] t %e %\ld2 b a wise "m directs h] *ild's m5tal attitude to appreciate ! fact t arrogance1 selfi%ness & conceit c w9 no place wor? hav+ 9 ! _w4 ,,*ildr5 ,,at ,,aft]noon ,,tea ,a cu/om 9 _m fa%ionable h\ses is to all[ *ildr5 z soon z !y are old en\gh1 to come into ! draw+-room or libr>y at tea-"t1 z no?+ gives !m a bett] opportunity to le>n h[ to behave 9 company4 ,little boys are always taught to b[ to visitors2 little girls to curtsy4 ,small boys are taught to place ! individual tables1 h& plates & tea1 & pass s&wi*es & cakes4 ,if !re are no boys1 girls p]=m ?is (fice2 v (t5 !y bo? d4 ,:5 ev]ybody has be5 help$1 ! *ildr5 are p]haps all[$ a piece ( cake1 :i* !y put on a tea-plate1 & sit d[n1 & eat nicely4 ,b z ! tea-h\r is v ne> _! supp] "t1 !y are (t5 all[$ no?+1 & aft] mak+ !mselves useful1 g out ( ! room aga94 ,if _m p are pres5t & ! *ildr5 are n spok5 to1 !y leave ! room unobtrusively & quietly4 ,if only "o or two are pres5t1 especially ^? :om ! *ildr5 "k well1 !y %ake h&s1 & say ,good-by1 & walk 7n run7 out ( ! room4 ,?is is "o ( ! ways 9 :i* well-br$ p become us$ f *ildhood to in/9ctive good mann]s4 ,unless !y are spok5 to1 !y w\ld n ?9k ( speak+ or mak+ !mselves notic$ 9 any way4 ,v little *ildr5 :o h n rea*$ ! age ( discretion1 :i* may be plac$ at ab\t five1 possibly n until six1 usually g 9 ! draw+-room at tea-"t only :5 ne> relatives or intimate fri5ds ( ! family are !re4 ,ne$less to say t !y are always wa%$ & dress$4 ,"s *ildr5 we> special aft]noon clo!s1 b usually ! clean clo!s put on at tea-"t g on aga9 ! next morn+1 except ! ?9 socks & h\se slipp]s :i* are res]v$ = ! ev5+ h\r ( _! day4 ,,*ildr5',s ,,p>ties ,a small girl 7or boy7 giv+ a p>ty %\ld receive ) h] "m at ! door & greet all h] fri5ds z !y come 94 ,if x is h] bir?day & o!r *ildr5 br+ h] gifts1 %e mu/ say ,?ank y politely4 ,on no acc\nt mu/ %e be all[$ to tell a *ild ,i hate dolls1 if a fri5d has br\ght h] "o4 ,%e mu/ le>n at an e>ly age t z ho/ess %e mu/ ?9k ( h] gue/s r ?an h]self1 & n want ! be/ toys 9 ! grab-bag or scream because ano!r *ild gets ! prize t is (f]$ 9 a conte/4 ,if beat5 9 a game1 a little girl1 no less ?an h] bro!rs1 mu/ nev] cry1 or compla9 t ! conte/ is n fair :5 %e loses4 ,%e mu/ try to help h] gue/s h a good "t1 & n insi/ on play+ ! game %e likes in/ead ( ^? :i* ! o!r *ildr5 sugge/4 ,:5 %e h]self goes to a p>ty1 %e mu/ say1 ,h[ d y d1 :5 %e ent]s ! room1 & curtsy to ! lady :o receives4 ,a boy makes a b[4 ,!y %\ld h equally good mann]s z :5 at home1 & n try to grab m ?an _! %>e ( favors or toys4 ,:5 x is "t to g home1 !y mu/ say1 ,good-by1 ,i _h a v good "t1 or1 ,good-by1 ?ank y ev] s mu*4 ,,! ,,*ild',s ,,reply ,if ! ho/ess says1 ,good-by1 give my love to y\r "m6 ! *ild answ]s1 ,yes1 ,mrs4 ,smi?4 ,9 all monosyllabic replies a *ild mu/ n say ,yes or ,no or ,:at8 ,a boy 9 answ]+ a g5tleman /ill uses ! old-fa%ion$ ,yes1 sir1 ,no1 sir1 ,i ?9k s1 sir1 b ma'am has gone out ( /yle4 ,bo? boys & girls mu/ !re=e answ]1 ,no1 ,mrs4 ,smi?1 ,yes1 ,miss ,jones4 ,a girl says ,yes1 ,mr4 ,smi?1 r ?an sir4 ,all *ildr5 %\ld say1 ,:at did y say1 "m8 ,no1 fa!r1 ,?ank y1 ,aunt ,kate1 ,yes1 ,uncle ,fr$1 etc4 ,!y ne$ n ins]t a "n 9 a long s5t5ce nor ) please1 or ?ank y4 ,yes1 please1 or ,no1 ?ank y1 is q suffici5t4 ,or 9 answ]+1 ,i j saw ,m>y d[n 9 ! g>d51 x is n necess>y to add ,mrs4 ,smi? at ! end4 ,,etiquette ,,= ,,gr[n ,,*ildr5 ,etiquette = gr[n *ildr5 is precisely ! same z = gr[n p]sons1 except+ t 9 _m ways ! mann]s exact$ ( "y p %\ld be m al]t & punctili\s4 ,"y girls 7& boys ( c\rse7 %\ld h ! mann]s ( a g5tleman r ?an ^? ( a lady2 9 t a g5tleman always rises1 rel9qui%es ! be/ seat & walks la/ into a room1 :]eas ^! c\rtesies are %[n to1 & n obs]v$ by ladies 7except to o!r ladies old] ?an !mselves74 ,9 giv+ p>ties1 "y girls s5d out _! invitations z _! mo!rs d1 & _! deportm5t is ! same z t ( _! dbutante si/]4 ,boys behave z _! fa!rs d1 & are equally punctili\s 9 foll[+ ! code ( honor ( all g5tlem54 ,! only details1 !re=e1 n likely to be describ$ 9 o!r *apt]s ( ?is book1 are a few admonitions on table mann]s1 t are some:at above k9d]g>t5 grade4 ,,! ,,graduat+ ,,te/s ,,9 ,,table ,,mann]s ,a "y p]son may be suppos$ to h graduat$ f ! s*ool ( table etiquette :5 %e1 or he1 w\ld be able to sit at a =mal lun* or d9n] table & f9d no difficulty 9 eat+ prop]ly any ( ! come/ibles :i* are suppos$ to be hurdles to ! inexp]t4 ,,corn ,,on ,,! ,,cob ,corn on ! cob c\ld be elim9at$ s f> z ev] hav+ to eat x 9 =mal company is conc]n$1 s9ce x is nev] s]v$ at a lun*eon or a d9n]2 b1 if y insi/ on eat+ x at home or 9 a re/aurant1 to attack x ) z little f]ocity z possible1 is p]haps ! only direction to be giv51 s9ce at be/ x is an ungraceful p]=mance & to eat x gre$ily a horrible sight6 ,,asp>agus ,al?\gh asp>agus may be tak5 9 ! f+]s1 don't take a long droop+ /alk1 hold x up 9 ! air & cat* ! end ( x 9 y\r m\? l a fi%4 ,:5 ! /alks are ?91 x is be/ to cut !m 9 half ) ! =k1 eat+ ! tips l all =k food2 ! ends may !n be tak5 9 ! f+]s & eat5 )\t a dropp+ f\nta9 effect6 ,don't squeeze ! /alks1 or hold y\r h& bel[ ! end & let ! juice run d[n y\r arm4 ,,arti*okes ,arti*okes are always eat5 ) ! f+]s2 a leaf at a "t is pull$ (f & ! edible end dipp$ 9 ! sauce1 & !n bitt5 (f4 ,,bread ,,& ,,butt] ,bread %\ld always be brok5 into small pieces ) ! f+]s be=e be+ eat54 ,if x is to be butt]$ 7at lun*1 breakfa/ or supp]1 b n at d9n]7 a piece is held on ! edge ( ! bread & butt] plate1 or ! place plate1 & en\gh butt] spread on x = a m\?ful or two at a "t1 ) a small silv] butt] knife4 ,bread mu/ nev] be held flat on ! palm ( ! h& & butt]$ 9 ! air4 ,if ! regul> /eel knife is us$1 c>e mu/ be tak5 n to sme> food f ! knife's side on ! butt]4 ,any food t is sme>$ ab\t is loa?some4 ,p :o h beautiful table mann]s always keep _! places at table neat4 ,p ) disgu/+ mann]s get ev]y?+ 9 a horrible mess4 ,,! ,,managem5t ,,( ,,bones ,,& ,,pits ,t]rap9 bones1 fi% bones & grape se$ mu/ be eat5 q b>e & clean 9 ! m\?1 & remov$ "o at a "t betwe5 f+] & ?umb4 ,all spitt+ out ( bones & pits into ! plate is disgu/+4 ,if food is too hot1 quickly take a swall[ ( wat]4 ,on no acc\nt spit x out6 ,if food has be5 tak5 into y\r m\?1 no matt] h[ y hate x1 y h got to swall[ x4 ,x is un=givable to take any?+ out ( y\r m\? t has be5 put 9 x1 except dry bones1 & /ones4 ,to spit any?+ :atev] into ! corn] ( y\r napk91 is too nauseat+ to comm5t on4 ,x is horrid to see any "o spit sk9s or pits on a =k or into ! plate4 ,! only way to take any?+ out ( y\r m\? is betwe5 fir/-f+] & ?umb4 ,dry grape se$s or *]ry pits c be dropp$ f ! lips into ! cupp$ h&4 ,pea*es or o!r v juicy fruits are peel$ & !n eat5 ) knife & =k1 b dry fruits1 su* z apples1 may be cut & !n eat5 9 ! f+]s4 ,nev] wipe h&s t h fruit juice on !m on a napk9 )\t fir/ us+ a f+] b[l1 because fruit juices make indelible /a9s4 ,,birds ,birds are n eat5 ) ! f+]s 9 company6 ,y cut (f z mu* ( ! meat z y c1 & leave ! re/ on y\r plate4 ,,=ks ,,or ,,f+]s ,all juicy or gooey fruits or cakes are be/ eat5 ) a =k1 b 9 mo/ cases x is a matt] ( dext]ity4 ,if y are able to eat a pea* 9 y\r f+]s & n sme> y\r face1 let juice run d[n1 or make a suck+ noise1 y are ! "o 9 a ?\s& :o may1 & ) utmo/ propriety1 cont9ue ! feat4 ,if y c eat a napoleon or a cream puff & n let ! cream ooze out on ! f> side1 y ne$ n use a =k1 b if y c n eat some?+--no matt] :at x is--)\t gett+ x all ov] y\r f+]s1 y mu/ use a =k1 & if necess>y1 a knife also6 ,all rules ( table mann]s are made to avoid ugl9ess2 to let any "o see :at y h 9 y\r m\? is repulsive2 to make a noise is to sugge/ an animal2 to make a mess is disgu/+4 ,on ! o!r h&1 !re are a numb] ( trifl+ decrees ( etiquette t are m]ely f9ical1 unreasonable1 & silly4 ,:y "o %\ld n cut "o's salad 9 small pieces if "o wants to1 makes little s5se1 unless "o wants to cut up a :ole plateful & make ! plate messy6 ,a /eel knife mu/ n be us$ = salad or fruit1 because x turns black4 ,to condemn ! ,am]ican cu/om ( eat+ a s(t-boil$ egg 9 a glass1 or cup1 because x happ5s to be ! ,engli% fa%ion to scoop x ?r\gh ! ragg$ edge ( ! %ell1 is ab\t z reasonable z ?\gh we 7 to proclaim ,engli% mann]s bad because !y tag a breakfa/ di%1 call$ a savory ( fi%-roe or some?+ equally inappropriate1 aft] ! dess]t at d9n]4 ,_m o!r arbitr>y rules = eat+ food ) =k1 spoon or f+]s1 are also /umbl+-blocks r ?an aids to smoo?ness4 ,z said above1 "o eats ) a =k or spoon f+]-foods t are messy & /icky2 "o eats ) ! f+] ^? :i* are dry4 ,x is true t "o %\ld n eat ,fr5* fri$ potatoes or ,s>atoga *ips 9 f+]s1 b t is because !y belong to ! meat c\rse4 ,sep>ate vegetable sauc]s are nev] put on a fa%ionable table1 nei!r is butt] all[$ at d9n]4 ,!re=e bo? mu/ be avoid$ 9 company1 because company is =mal1 & etiquette is fir/ aid always to =mality4 ,b if a man 9 8 own h\se likes butt] ) 8 d9n] or a sauc] = 8 tomatoes1 he is break+ ! rule ( fa%ion to h !m1 b he is sc>cely committ+ an (f5se6 ,9 ! same way1 if he likes to eat a *ick5 w+ or a squab leg 9 8 f+]s he c ask = a f+]-b[l4 ,! real objection to eat+ ) ! f+]s is gett+ !m greasy or /icky1 & to suck !m or sme> "o's napk9 is equally unsightly4 ,,on ,,! ,,subject ,,( ,,elb[s ,al?\gh elb[s on ! table are se5 con/antly 9 highe/ fa%ionable circles1 a :ole table's l5g? ( elb[s plant$ l clo!s-l9e poles & h&s wav+ glasses or =ks ab\t 9 betwe51 is nei!r an attractive nor 7=tunately7 an accurate picture ( a fa%ionable d9n] table4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 ! tol]at$ elb[-on-table is us$ only on occasion & = a reason1 & %\ld nei!r be p]mitt$ to *ildr5 nor practis$ 9 _! pres5ce4 ,elb[s are univ]sally se5 on tables 9 re/aurants1 especially :5 p are lun*+ or d9+ at a small table ( two or f\r1 & x is impossible to make oneself he>d above ! music by "o's table companions1 & at ! same "t n be he>d at o!r tables ne>by1 )\t lean+ f> =w>d4 ,& 9 lean+ =w>d1 a woman's figure makes a m graceful outl9e support$ on h] elb[s ?an d\bl$ =w>d ov] h] h&s 9 h] lap z ?\gh 9 pa96 ,at home1 :5 !re is no reason = lean+ across ! table1 !re is no reason = elb[s4 ,& at a d9n] ( c]emony1 elb[s on ! table are r>ely se51 except at ! ends ( ! table1 :]e aga9 "o has to lean =w>d 9 ord] to talk to a companion at a di/ance across ! table corn]4 ,elb[s are nev] put on ! table :ile "o is eat+4 ,to sit ) ! left elb[ propp$ on ! table :ile eat+ ) ! "r h& 7unless "o is alone & ill71 or to prop ! "r "o on ! table :ile lift+ ! =k or glass to ! m\?1 mu/ be avoid$4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxvi ,,e-,,day ,,mann]s ,,at ,,home ,j z no *a9 is /rong] ?an its weake/ l9k1 no mann]s c be expect$ to /& a /ra9 beyond _! daily te/ at home4 ,^? :o are us$ to los+ _! temp] 9 ! bosom ( _! family w soon] or lat] lose x 9 public4 ,families :i* ex]t nei!r c\rtesy nor *>m :5 alone1 c no m deceive o!r p into believ+ t ei!r attribute belongs to !m ?an !y c\ld hope to make pa9t$ faces look l real complexions4 ,a "m %\ld exact precisely ! same behavior at home & e day1 t %e w\ld l h] *ildr5 to display 9 public1 & %e h]self1 if %e expects !m to take good mann]s s]i\sly1 mu/ %[ ! same mann]s to !m alone t %e %[s to company4 ,a really *>m+ woman ex]ts h] *>m n[h]e m ?an ^u h] husb& & *ildr51 & a noble nature ?r\gh daily ?\gh unconsci\s example is ( c\rse ! greate/ influ5ce = good t !re is 9 ! _w4 ,no prea*]1 no matt] h[ sa9t-l 8 precept or gold5 8 voice1 c equal ! home influ5ce ( admirable p>5ts4 ,x is n m]ely 9 su* matt]s z gett+ up :5 _! "m or o!r old] relatives ent] a room1 answ]+ civilly & hav+ good table mann]s1 b 9 =m+ habits ( admirable liv+ & ?9k+ t a p>5t's example makes or m>s4 ,if *ildr5 see temp] uncontroll$1 he> gossip1 un*>itabl5ess & suspicion ( neighbors1 witness arrogant %>p-deal+ or lax honor1 _! own *>act]s c sc>cely escape p]v]sion4 ,9 ! same way o!rs c n easily fail to be ?or\ghbr$ :o h nev] se5 or he>d _! p>5ts d or say an ignoble ?+4 ,no *ild w ev] accept a maxim t is prea*$ b n foll[$ by ! prea*]4 ,x is a wa/e ( brea? = ! fa!r to ord] 8 ,sons to keep _! temp]1 to behave l g5tlem51 or to be good sportsm51 if he does or is himself none ( ^! ?+s4 ,9 ! pres5t day ( ru% & hurry1 !re is little "t = home example4 ,to ! ov]-busy or gaily fa%ionable1 home might z well be a railroad /ation1 & memb]s ( a family pass5g]s :o see ea* o!r only = a few hurri$ m9utes be=e tak+ tra9s 9 opposite directions4 ,! days are gone :5 ! family sat 9 ! ev5+ ar\nd ! fire1 or a table ) a lamp1 :5 x 0 cu/om>y to read al\d or to talk4 ,few p talk well 9 ^! days2 few] read al\d1 & few] /ill endure li/5+ to any book lit]ally ^w by ^w4 ,railroad /ation read+ is z mu* 9 vogue z railroad /ation bolt+ ( meals4 ,magaz9es--picture ones--are all t ! hurri$ h "t =1 & ev5 ^? :o pr(ess to love read+ d>t t\ri/-fa%ion f page to page only paus+ at attractive p>agraphs2 & family relation%ips are foll[$ some:at 9 ! same way4 ,any numb] ( busy m5 sc>cely "k _! *ildr5 at all1 & h n ev5 /opp$ to realize t !y seldom or nev] talk to !m1 nev] ex]t !mselves to be sympa!tic ) !m1 or 9 ! slighte/ degree to influ5ce !m4 ,to gr[l morn9'1 or ,don't1 ,johnny1 or ,be quiet1 ,alice6 is v1 v f> f be+ an influ5ce on y\r *ildr5's morals1 m9ds or mann]s4 ,,home ,,education ,a ,supreme ,c\rt ,ju/ice ^: education _h be5 cut %ort 9 8 y\? by ! ,civil ,w>1 :5 ask$ h[1 "u ! circum/ances1 8 s*ola/ic atta9m5ts _h be5 acquir$1 answ]$3 ,my fa!r believ$ x 0 ! duty ( e g5tleman to bequea? ! weal? ( 8 intellect1 no less ?an t ( 8 pocket1 to 8 *ildr54 ,weal? might be acquir$ by 'luck1' b prop] cultivation 0 ! bir?right ( e *ild born ( cultivat$ p>5ts4 ,we le>n$ ,lat9 & ,greek by hav+ him talk & read !m to u4 ,he wrote dogg]el rhymes ( hi/ory :i* took ! place ( ,"m ,goose4 ,he also told u 'b$-"t /ories' ( hi/ory1 & read classics to u aft] supp]4 ,:5 !re 0 company1 we 7 br\ght d[n f ! nurs]y s t we might pr(it by ! conv]sation ( our bett]s4 ,volumes full ( mann]s acquir$ aft] !y are gr[n are n wor? half s mu* z ! simple/ precepts acquir$ ?r\gh lifelong habits & ?r\gh hav+ kn[n no?+ else4 ,,! ,,old ,,gray ,,wrapp] ,,habit ,h[ _m times has "o he>d "s "o say3 ,i won't dress = d9n]--no "o is com+ 94 ,or1 ,t old dress w d6 ,old clo!s6 ,no mann]s6 ,& :at is ! result8 ,"o wife m wond]s :y h] husb& neglects h]6 ,curi\s h[ ! habit ( c>eless mann]s & ! habit ( old clo!s g toge!r4 ,if y d\bt x1 put ! "q to y\rself3 ,:o c\ld possibly h ! mann]s ( a que5 9 a gray flannel wrapp]8 ,& h[ _m wom5 really lovely & good--especially good--commit e/hetic suicide by lett+ !mselves slide d[n to :]e !y feel natural 9 an old gray flannel wrapp]1 n only actually b m5tally4 ,! woman ( *>m 9 company is ! woman ( fa/idi\sness at home2 %e :o dresses = h] *ildr5 & pr9ks = h] husb&'s home-com+1 is sure to greet !m ) great] *>m ?an %e :o ?9ks :atev] %e happ5s to h on is good en\gh4 ,any old ?+ good en\gh = ^? %e loves mo/6 ,?9k ( x6 ,a c]ta9 v lovely lady ^: husb& is q z mu* h] lov] z 9 ! days ( 8 c\rt%ip1 has nev] 9 tw5ty ye>s all[$ him to wat* ! progress ( h] toilet1 because ( h] det]m9ation nev] to let him see h] except at h] prettie/4 ,ne$less to say1 he nev] meets any?+ b prettie/ mann]s ei!r4 ,no matt] h[ out ( sorts %e may be feel+1 8 key 9 ! door is a signal = h] to put aside ev]y?+ t is annoy+ or depress+1 ) ! result t wild horses c\ldn't drag 8 att5tion f h]--all because nei!r %e nor he has ev] slump$ into ! gray flannel wrapp] habit4 ,s _m p save up all _! tr\bles to p\r on ! "o !y mo/ love1 ! idea be+1 seem+ly1 t no res]ves are necess>y betwe5 lov]s4 ,nor ne$ !re be really4 ,b :y1 :5 _! h\se looks out ^u a g>d5 t has *>m+ vi/as1 mu/ %e insi/ on 8 look+ into ! clo!s-y>d & ! a%-c8 ,%e :o compla9s incessantly t ?is is wrong1 or t hurts1 or any o!r ?+ worries or vexes h]1 s t 8 inevitable answ] to h] greet+ is1 ,i'm s sorry1 de>1 or ,t's too bad1 or ,poor d>l+1 x's a %ame1 is gett+ m5tally into a gray flannel wrapp]6 ,if some?+ is s]i\sly wrong1 if %e is really ill1 t is diff]5t4 ,b ( ! petty ?+s t are only rememb]$ 9 ord] to be told to ga9 sympa?y--bew>e6 ,!re is a big deposit ( sympa?y 9 ! bank ( love1 b don't draw out little sums e h\r or s--s t by & by1 :5 p]haps y ne$ x badly1 x is all drawn out & y y\rself don't "k h[ or on :at x 0 sp5t4 ,all t has be5 said to w>n a wife f slov5ly habits ( m9d or dress may be adapt$ to apply ) equal =ce 9 sugge/+ a rule = husb&s4 ,a man %\ld always rememb] t a woman's reg>d = him is f\nd$ on h] impressions :5 see+ him at 8 be/4 ,ev5 grant+ t %e has no great illusions ab\t m5 9 g5]al1 he at 8 be/ is at lea/ an approximation to h] ideal--& x is 8 *ief duty nev] to fall bel[ ! /&>d he set = himself 9 mak+ 8 mo/ cog5t appeal4 ,consequ5tly he %\ld cont9ue ?r\gh ! ye>s to be scrupul\s ab\t 8 p]sonal appe>ance & 8 clo!s1 rememb]+ ! adage t ! mo/ successful m>riages are ^? 9 :i* bo? p>ties to ! contract succe$ 9 keep+ up ! illusion4 ,x is ( importance also t he refra9 f burd5+ 8 wife ) ! c>es & worries ( 8 bus9ess day4 ,_m writ]s insi/ t ! wife %\ld be ready to receive a complete consignm5t ( all 8 tr\bles :5 ! husb& comes home at ! end ( ! day4 ,x is a s\nd] practise = him to save h] z mu* z possible f ! trials ( 8 bus9ess h\rs2 &1 incid5tally1 x is ! be/ k9d ( m5tal tra9+ = him to put all bus9ess c>es beh9d him z he closes ! door ( 8 (fice & goes home4 ,:5 x is said t a husb& %\ld n fl+ all ! day's trifl+ annoyances into ! lap ( 8 wife )\t reflect+ t %e may h "s c>es ( h] own1 !re is no int5tion to indicate t a wife %\ld n h a ?or\gh und]/&+ ( h] husb&'s affairs4 ,complete acqua9tance & sympa?y ) 8 "w is "o ( ! f\ndation /ones ( ! dome/ic edifice4 ,,! ,,family ,,at ,,table ,:e!r !re is company or :e!r ! family is alone1 ! l95 mu/ be z spotless1 ! silv] z clean1 & ! table z c>efully set z ?\gh tw5ty 7 com+ = d9n]4 ,sloppy s]vice is no m to be tol]at$ e day at home ?an at a d9n] p>ty1 & 9 s f> z etiquette is conc]n$1 y %\ld live 9 exactly ! same way :e!r !re is company or none4 ,company mann]s & e-day mann]s mu/ be id5tical 9 s]vice z well z family behavior4 ,y may n be able to af=d quantities ( fl[]s 9 y\r h\se & on y\r table1 or p]haps any1 b !re is no excuse = wilt$ fl[]s or an empty vase t m]ely acc5tuates y\r table's fl[]lessness4 ,!re are pl5ty ( table ornam5ts t ne$ no fl[]s4 ,9 ! same way ! compoti]s c be fill$ ) c&ies or cons]ves ( ! ev]la/+ v>iety2 silv]-foil$ *ocolates or n\gat1 or gum drops or cry/aliz$ g+] or cons]v$ fruits--w keep = mon?s6 ,b ! table mu/ be decorat$ & a c]ta9 =m obs]v$ at ! d9n] h\r2 o!rwise gray flannel wrapp] habits become imm95t4 ,lett]s1 newspap]s1 books h no place at a d9n] table4 ,read+ at table is all[able at breakfa/ & :5 eat+ alone1 b a man & 8 wife %\ld no m read at lun* or d9n] be=e ea* o!r or _! *ildr5 ?an !y %\ld all[ _! *ildr5 to read be=e !m4 ,,! ,,table ,,n ,a ,,place ,,= ,,private ,,discussion ,"o v bad habit 9 _m families is ! discussion ( all ( _! mo/ intimate affairs at table--entirely =gett+ :oev] may be wait+ on x2 & n9e times out ( t5 ^? s]v+ 9 ! d9+-room see no h>m 7if !y feel l x7 9 repeat+ :at is said4 ,:y %\ld !y8 ,x sc>cely occurs to !m t !y 7 invisible & t :at 0 op5ly talk$ ab\t at ! table 0 suppos$ to be a secret6 ,ap>t f ! /upidity & imprud5ce ( talk+ be=e witnesses1 x is bad =m to discuss "o's private affairs be=e any "o4 ,& x %\ld be unnecess>y to add t a man & 8 wife :o qu>rel be=e _! *ildr5 or ! s]vants1 deprive ! =m] ( good bre$+ ?r\gh inh]itance1 & publi% to ! latt] t !y d n belong to ! bett] class ?r\gh any qualification except ! possession ( a bank acc\nt4 ,fur!rmore1 p>5ts mu/ nev] disagree be=e ! *ildr54 ,x simply c't be6 ,nor c !re be an appeal to "o p>5t aga9/ ! o!r by a *ild4 ,fa!r told me to jump d[n ! well6 ,!n y mu/ d x1 de>1 is ! "m's only possible comm5t4 ,:5 ! *ild has jump$ d[n ! well1 %e may pull him out promptly1 & %e may 9 private tell h] husb& :at %e ?9ks ab\t 8 issu+ su* ord]s & /& h] own gr\nd aga9/ !m2 b s long z p>5ts are liv+ "u ! same ro(s t ro( mu/ %elt] unity ( op9ion1 s f> z any witnesses are conc]n$4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxvii ,,travel+ ,,at ,,home ,,& ,,abroad ,to d no?+ t c ei!r annoy or (f5d ! s5sibilities ( o!rs1 sums up ! pr9cipal rules = conduct "u all circum/ances--:e!r /ay+ at home or travel+4 ,b 9 ord] to d no?+ t c annoy or give (f5se1 x is necess>y = u to consid] ! po9t ( view ( ^? ) :om we come 9 contact2 & 9 travel+ abroad x is necess>y to "k some?+ ( =eign cu/oms :i* affect ! =eign po9t ( view1 if we w\ld be ?\ght a cultivat$ & *>m+ p in/ead ( an unciviliz$ & objectionable "o4 ,be=e go+ abroad1 h[ev]1 let u fir/ take up ! subject ( travel at home4 ,s9ce x is n likely t any "o w\ld g ar\nd ! _w be+ delib]ately (f5sive to o!rs1 x may be tak5 = grant$ t obnoxi\s behavior is ei!r ! fault ( ?\ghtlessness or ignorance--& = ! =m] !re is no excuse4 ,,on ,a ,,railroad ,,tra9 ,on a railroad tra9 y %\ld be c>eful n to assail ! no/rils ( fell[ pass5g]s ) /rong odors ( any k9d4 ,an odor t may seem to y refre%+1 may cause o!rs :o dislike x & are poor travel]s to suff] really great di/ress4 ,!re is a comb9ation ( banana & ! lea!r smell ( a valise conta9+ food1 t is to _m p an imm$iate emetic4 ,! smell ( a banana or an orange1 is 9 fact to ne>ly all bad travel]s ! la/ /raw4 ,9 ,am]ica :]e !re are d9]s on e ,pullman tra91 ! food odors are seldom enc\nt]$ 9 p>lor c>s1 b 9 ,europe :]e railroad c>riages are small1 "o fruit en?usia/ c make 8 travel+ companions m utt]ly wret*$ ?an p]haps he c imag9e4 ,! cig> :i* is smold]+ has1 on mo/ wom51 ! same effect4 ,c]ta9 p]fumes t are p>ticul>ly heavy1 make o!rs ill4 ,to at lea/ half ( an av]age tra9ful ( p1 /rong odors ( "o k9d or ano!r are disagreeable if n actually nauseat+4 ,,*ildr5 ,,on ,,tra9s ,p ) *ildr5 are mo/ (t5 ! food-(f5d]s4 ,any numb] n only let small *ildr5 eat cont9u\sly s t ! c> is fill$ ) food odors1 b occasional mo!rs h be5 kn[n to let a *ild ) sme>y f+]s clut* a ne>by pass5g] by ! dress or coat & seem+ly ?9k x cunn+6 ,^? :o c af=d x1 usually take ! draw+-room & keep ! *ildr5 9 x4 ,^? :o are to travel 9 seats %\ld plan div]sions = !m ahead ( "t2 s9ce x is unreasonable to expect little *ildr5 to sit quietly = h\rs on end by m]ely tell+ !m to be good4 ,two little girls on ! tra9 to ,wa%+ton ! o!r day 7 cro*et+ doll's sweat]s ) balls ( wor/$ 9 :i* 7 w\nd wrapp$ & disguis$ prizes4 ,! am\nt ( wool cov]+ ea* might take p]haps a half h\r to use up4 ,!y 7 all[$ ! prize only :5 ! la/ /r& ( wool ar\nd x 0 us$4 ,!y 7 !n occupi$ = a :ile ) :atev] x 0--a little book1 or a puzzle1 or a game4 ,:5 !y grew tir$ ( its novelty1 !y cro*et$ aga9 until !y came to ! next prize4 ,9 ! end !y _h also new g>m5ts = _! dolls4 ,,ladies ,,d ,,n ,,travel ,,) ,,escorts ,9 a curi\sly nave book on etiquette appe>$ a *apt] purport+ to give advice to a lady travel+ = an indef9ite numb] ( days ) a g5tleman escort6 ,t any lady c\ld g travel+ = days "u ! protection ( a g5tleman is at lea/ a novelty 9 etiquette4 ,z said else:]e1 9 fa%ionable society an escort is unhe>d (1 & 9 dec5t society a lady doesn't g travel+ ar\nd ! c\ntry ) a g5tleman unless %e is outside ! pale ( society1 9 :i* case social conv5tion1 at lea/1 is n conc]n$ ) h]4 ,ladies are sometimes accompani$ on %ort1 direct trips by g5tlem5 ( _! acqua9tance1 b n = long] ?an a few h\rs4 ,if a lady travel+ alone on a long j\rney1 su* z a trip across ! cont95t1 happ5s to f9d a g5tleman on bo>d :om %e kn[s1 %e mu/ n all[ him to sit ) h] 9 ! d9+-c> m (t5 ?an a casual once or twice1 nor mu/ %e all[ him to sit ) h] or talk to h] en\gh to give a possible impression t !y are toge!r4 ,9 fact %e w\ld be m prud5t to take h] meals by h]self1 z x is sc>cely wor? runn+ ! risk ( o!r pass5g]s' criticism = ! sake ( hav+ companion%ip at a meal or two4 ,if1 on a %ort trip1 a g5tleman asks a lady1 :om he kn[s1 to lun* ) him 9 ! d9+-c>1 !re is no reason :y %e %\ldn't4 ,,! ,,"y ,,woman ,,travel+ ,,alone ,9 ,am]ica1 a "y woman c g across e "o ( our ?\s&s ^u ?\s&s ( rail$ miles )\t ! slighte/ risk ( a disagreeable occurr5ce if %e is h]self dignifi$ & res]v$4 ,%e %\ld be p>ticul>ly c>eful if %e is "y & pretty n to all[ /range m5 to scrape an acqua9tance ) h]4 ,if a /rang] happ5s to (f] to op5 a w9d[ = h]1 or get h] a *air on ! obs]vation plat=m1 x does n give him ! "r to m ?an a civil ?ank y f h]4 ,if1 9 spite ( etiquette1 %e %\ld on a long j\rney drift into conv]sation ) an obvi\sly well-behav$ y\?1 %e %\ld rememb] t talk+ ) him at all is contr>y to ! proprieties1 & t %e mu/ be d\bly c>eful to keep him at a =mal di/ance4 ,!re is little h>m 9 talk+ ( utt]ly imp]sonal subjects--b %e %\ld avoid giv+ him in=mation t is p]sonal4 ,e gu>dian %\ld also w>n a "y girl t if1 :5 %e alights at h] de/9ation1 h] fri5ds fail to meet h]1 %e %\ld on no acc\nt accept a /rang]'s (f]1 :e!r man or woman1 to drive h] to h] de/9ation4 ,! safe/ ?+ to d is to walk4 ,if x is too f>1 & !re is no (ficial taxicab ag5t belong+ to ! railroad company1 %e %\ld g to ! ticket sell] or "s "o we>+ ! railroad uni=m & ask him to select a vehicle = h]4 ,%e %\ld nev]--above all 9 a /range city :]e %e does n ev5 "k h] direction--take a taxi on ! /reet4 ,,regi/]+ ,,9 ,a ,,hotel ,a g5tleman writes 9 ! hotel regi/]3 ,john ,smi?1 ,new ,york4 ,"u no circum/ances ,mr4 or ,hon4 if he is alone4 ,b if 8 wife is ) him1 ! prefix to _! jo9t names is correct3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,john ,smi?1 ,new ,york4 ,he nev] ent]s 8 /reet & h\se numb]4 ,nei!r ,john ,smi? & ,wife nor ,john ,smi? & ,family are good =m4 ,if he does n l ! ,mr4 be=e 8 "n he c sign 8 own )\t1 on "o l9e1 & !n write ,mrs4 ,smi? on ! "o bel[4 ,! :ole family %\ld be regi/]$3 ,john ,t4 ,smi?1 ,new ,york ,mrs4 ,smi?1 & maid 7if %e has br\ght "o7 ,miss ,m>g>et ,smi?1 ,john ,t4 ,smi?1 ,jr41 ,baby & nurse1 ,or1 if ! *ildr5 are "y1 he writes3 ,mr4 ,mrs4 ,john ,t4 ,smi?1 ,new ,york1 #c *ildr5 & nurse4 ,a lady nev] signs h] "n )\t ,miss or ,mrs4 9 a hotel regi/]3 ,miss ,abigail ,ti!r+ton is correct1 or ,mrs4 ,john ,smi?1 nev] ,s>ah ,smi?4 ,,ladies ,,alone ,,9 ,,am]ican ,,hotels ,if y h nev] be5 9 a hotel alone b y are ( suffici5t ye>s1 well behav$ & dignifi$ 9 appe>ance1 y ne$ h no fe> z to ! treatm5t y w receive4 ,b y %\ld write to ! hotel 9 advance--:e!r "h or 9 ,europe4 ,9 ?is c\ntry y regi/] 9 ! (fice & are %[n to y\r room1 or rooms1 by a bell-boy--9 "s hotels by a bell-boy & a maid4 ,"o piece ( advice3 ,y w n get good s]vice unless y tip g5]\sly4 ,if y d n c>e = elaborate meals1 t is no?+ to y\r discr$it2 b y %\ld n g to an exp5sive hotel1 hold a table t w\ld o!rwise be occupi$ by o!rs :o might ord] a long d9n]1 & expect y\r wait] to be cont5t$ ) a tip ( fifte5 c5ts = y\r doll> supp]6 ,! rule is t5 p] c5t1 beg9n+ ) a meal co/+ ab\t ?ree or f\r doll>s4 ,a qu>t] is ! smalle/ possible tip 9 a fir/ class hotel4 ,if y\r meal co/s a qu>t]--y %\ld give ! wait] a qu>t]4 ,if x co/s two doll>s or m ?an two doll>s1 y give ?irty or ?irty-five c5ts1 & t5 p] c5t on a bigg] am\nt4 ,9 small] hotels tips are less 9 proportion4 ,tipp+ is und\bt$ly a bad sy/em1 b x happ5s to be 9 =ce1 & t be+ ! case1 travel]s h to pay _! %>e ( x--if !y l ! way made smoo? & com=table4 ,a lady travel+ alone ) h] maid 7or )\t "o71 ( necessity has h] meals alone 9 h] own sitt+-room1 if %e has "o4 ,if %e goes to ! d9+-room1 %e usually takes a book because hotel s]vice seems endless to "o us$ to meals at home & no?+ is dull] ?an to sit long alone ) no?+ to d b look at ! tableclo?1 :i* is sc>cely div]t+1 or at o!r p1 :i* is impolite4 ,,on ,,! ,,/eam] ,9 ! days :5 our great-gr&p>5ts w5t to ,europe on a clipp] %ip c>ry+ at mo/ a score ( voyag]s & tak+ a mon? p]haps to make ! cross+1 ^? :o sat day aft] day toge!r1 & ev5+ aft] ev5+ ar\nd ! cab9 lamp1 became necess>ily fri5dly2 & 9 _m in/ances n only = ! duration ( ! voyage b = life4 ,m (t5 ?an n1 ^? :o _h endur$ ! rigors ( ! ,atlantic toge!r1 jo9$ =ces 9 engag+ ! c\ri] :o 0 9 ^? days indisp5sable1 & set out on _! ,cont95tal travels 9 company4 ,da%+ to ,europe & back 0 sc>cely to be imag9$1 & travel]s :o _h v5tur$ su* a di/ance1 /ay$ at lea/ a ye> or m4 ,also 9 ^? sl[] days ( crawl+ across ! e>?'s surface by po/-*aise & dilig5ce & horseback1 travel]s meet+ 9 inns & else:]e1 fell lit]ally on ea* o!r's neck at ! s\nd ( an ,am]ican acc5t6 ,& ea* retail$ to ! o!r 8 news ( home2 to :i* 0 add$ ! news ( all :om !y _h enc\nt]$4 ,x is also f ^! travel+ ance/ors t families inh]it _! ,cont95tal visit+ li/s4 ,fri5ds !y made 9 ,europe1 9 turn gave lett]s ( introduction to fri5ds com+ lat] to ,am]ica4 ,& to !m aga9 _! ,am]ican ho/s s5t lett]s by lat] ,am]ican fri5ds4 ,b to-day :5 go+ to ,europe is ( sc>cely great] importance ?an go+ into ano!r ,/ate1 & :5 ! pass5g] li/ numb]s hundr$s1 mak+ fri5ds ) /rang]s is ! la/ ?+ ! great-gr&*ildr5 ( ^? e>li] travel]s w\ld ?9k (4 ,x may be pretty accurately said t ! fa/] & bigg] ! %ip1 ! less likely "o is to speak to /rang]s1 & yet--z always--circum/ances alt] cases4 ,because ! ,worldlys1 ! ,oldnames1 ! ,em95ts1--all ^? :o are innately exclusive--nev] pick up acqua9tances on %ipbo>d1 x does n foll[ t no fa%ionable & well-born p ev] drift into acqua9tance%ip on ,european-,am]ican /eam]s ( to-day--b !y are at lea/ n apt to d s4 ,_m 9 fact take ! ocean-cross+ z a re/-cure & /ay 9 _! cab9s ! :ole voyage4 ,! ,worldlys always h _! meals s]v$ 9 _! own draw+-room & h _! deck *airs plac$ s t no "o is v ne> !m1 & keep to !mselves except :5 !y invite fri5ds ( _! own to play bridge or take d9n] or lun* ) !m4 ,b because ! ,worldlys & ! ,em95ts--& ! ,snobsnifts :o copy !m--/ay 9 _! cab9s1 sit 9 segregat$ *airs & speak to no "o except ! h&ful ( _! p]sonal fri5ds or acqua9tances :o happ5 to be on bo>d1 x does n foll[ t ! ,smi?s1 ,joneses & ,rob9sons are n enl>g+ _! acqua9tance ) e revolution ( ! screws4 ,& if y happ5 to l to be talk$ to by /rang]s1 & if !y 9 turn l to talk to y1 x c n be said t !re is any rule ( etiquette aga9/ x4 ,,d9+ ,,saloon ,,etiquette ,v fa%ionable p z a rule travel a great deal1 :i* means t !y are kn[n v well to ! head /ew>d1 :o res]ves a table1 or !y engage a table = !mselves :5 !y get _! tickets4 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,gild+ = in/ance1 if !y "k t fri5ds ( !irs are sail+ on ! same /eam]1 ask !m to sit at _! table & ask = a suffici5tly l>ge table on purpose4 ,or if !y are travel+ alone1 !y arrange to h "o ( ! small tables = two1 to !mselves4 ,p ( wide acqua9tance 9 big cities are sure to f9d fri5ds on bo>d ) :om !y c arrange1 if !y *oose1 to sit on deck or 9 ! d9+ saloon1 b mo/ p1 unless really intimate fri5ds are on bo>d1 sit :]ev] ! head /ew>d puts !m4 ,aft] a meal or two p always speak to ^? sitt+ next to !m4 ,none b ! rude/ snobs w\ld sit ?r\gh meal aft] meal )\t ev] address+ a ^w to _! table companions4 ,well-br$ p are always c\rte\s1 b t does n mean t !y e/abli% fri5d%ips ) any /rang]s :o happ5 to be plac$ next to !m4 ,9 cross+ ! ,pacific1 p are m g5]ally fri5dly because ! voyage is s mu* long]1 & on ! o!r long voyages1 su* z ^? to ,india & ,s\? ,africa1 ! entire %ip's company become almo/ z intimate z 9 ! old clipp] days4 ,,! ,,tactics ,,( ,,! ,,climb] ,!re are c]ta9 con/ant travel]s :o1 x is said1 c\nt on a ,european voyage to increase _! social acqua9tance by j s mu* ea* trip6 ,ri*an ,vulg>1 = in/ance1 has 8 same especial table e "t he crosses1 :i* is f\r times a ye>6 ,walk+ ?r\gh a /eam] tra9 he sees a celebrity1 a brilliant1 let u say1 b unworldly man4 ,vulg> annexes him by say+1 casually1 ,h y a seat at table8 ,bett] sit ) me1 ,i always h ! table by ! door2 x is easy to get 9 & out4 ,! celebrity accepts1 s9ce !re is no evid5ce t he is to be featur$1 & ! *ances are t he rema9s unconsci\s to ! end ( "t t he s]v$ z a decoy4 ,bo>d+ ! /eam]1 ,vulg> sees ! ,lovejoys1 & p\nces3 ,y mu/ sit at my table6 ,celebrity & ,i are cross+ toge!r--he is ! mo/ delightful man6 ,i want y to sit next to him4 ,!y ?9k ,celebrity s\nds v int]e/+2 s1 n hav+ engag$ a table = !mselves1 !y say !y w be delight$4 ,on ! deck1 ! ,sm>tlys appe> & ask ! ,lovejoys to sit ) !m4 ,vulg>1 :o is /&+ by 7he is always /&+ by7 breaks 9 ev5 )\t an introduction & says3 ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,lovejoy & ,celebrity are sitt+ at my table1 won't y sit ) me also8 ,if ! ,sm>tlys prote/ !y h a table1 he is g5]ally insi/5t & mom5t>ily ov]p[]+ en\gh to make !m jo9 =ces ) him4 ,z ! ,sm>tlys p>ticul>ly want to sit next to ! ,lovejoys & also l ! idea ( meet+ ,celebrity1 x ends 9 ,vulg>'s table be+ a collection ( fa%ionables :om he c\ld n possibly h gott5 toge!r )\t j su* a maneuv]4 ,! "q ( :at he gets out ( x is puzzl+ s9ce ) ea* h\r ! really well-br$ p dislike him m & m int5sely1 & at ! end ( a day or s1 8 table's company are all eat+ on deck to avoid him4 ,p]haps !re is "s recomp5se t does n appe> on ! surface1 b to ! casual obs]v] ! satisfaction ( tell+ o!rs t ! ,sm>tlys1 ,lovejoys & ,wellborns sat at 8 table w\ld sc>cely seem wor? ! ef=t4 ,,^? ,,acquisitive ,,( ,,acqua9tance ,!re is ano!r type ( /eam] pass5g] & hotel gue/ :o may1 or may n1 be a climb]4 ,?is "o se>*es out pot5tial acqua9tances on ! pass5g] li/ & hotel regi/] ) ! avidity ( a bird se>*+ = worms4 ,y h sc>cely f\nd y\r own /at]oom & _h y\r deck *air plac$1 :5 "o ( !m swoops ^u y3 ,i don't "k :e!r y rememb] me8 ,i met y 9 n9ete5 two1 at ,c\ntess della ,robbia's 9 ,flor5ce4 ,y\r memory be+ woefully incomplete1 !re is no?+ = y to say except1 ,h[ d y d6 ,if a few m9utes ( conv]sation1 :i* %\ld be suffici5t1 proves h] to be a lady1 y talk to h] n[ & aga9 ?r\gh\t ! voyage1 & may end by lik+ h] v mu*4 ,if1 h[ev]1 h] spee* breaks into expressions :i* prove h] n a lady1 y become engross$ 9 y\r book or conv]sation ) ano!r :5 %e approa*es4 ,(t5 ^! ov]-fri5dly p are grasp+1 calculat+ & objectionable1 b sometimes l ,ricki ,ticki ,tavi !y are m]ely obsess$ ) a mania to run ab\t & see :at is go+ on 9 ! _w4 ,= in/ance1 ,miss ,sp9/] is "o ( ! be/-br$1 be/-in=m$1 mo/ *>m+ ladies imag9able4 ,b h] mania = p _c fail on occasions to put h] 9 a position to be snubb$--nev] s]i\sly because %e is too obvi\sly a lady = t4 ,b to see h] trott+ along ! deck & !n d>t+ ^u a helpless recl9+ figure1 is at lea/ an illu/ration ( ! way "s p make fri5ds4 ,x c't be done1 ( c\rse1 unless y h once kn[n ! p]son y are address+1 or unless y h a fri5d 9 common :o1 ?\gh abs5t1 c s]ve 9 mak+ ! introduction4 ,z said 9 ,introductions1 introduc+ oneself is (t5 p]fectly correct4 ,if y1 %>+ ,miss ,sp9/]'s love ( p1 f9d y\rself on a /eam] ) ! intimate fri5d ( a memb] ( y\r family1 y may v prop]ly g up & say1 ,i am go+ to speak to y because ,i am ,celia ,lovejoy's c\s9--,i am ,mrs4 ,br[n4 ,& ,mrs4 ,norman1 :o v mu* likes ,celia ,lovejoy1 says cordially1 ,i am s glad y spoke to me1 d sit d[n1 won't y8 ,b to h y\r next *air neighbor on deck insi/ on talk+ to y1 if y don't want to be talk$ to1 is v annoy+1 & x is bad =m = h] to d s4 ,if y are sitt+ h\r aft] h\r do+ no?+ b idly look+ 9 front ( y1 y\r neighbor might address a few rem>ks to y1 & if y receive !m ) any degree ( en?usiasm1 y\r response may be translat$ into a will+ness to talk4 ,b if y answ] 9 ! m]e/ monosyllables1 x %\ld be tak5 to mean t y pref] to be left to y\r own div]sions4 ,ev5 if y are agreeable1 y\r neighbor %\ld %[ tact 9 n speak+ to y :5 y are read+ or writ+1 or %[ no incl9ation = conv]sation4 ,! po9t is really t no "o mu/ d any?+ to int]f]e ) ! enjoym5t ( ano!r4 ,:oev] is mak+ ! advance1 :e!r y\r neighbor or y\rself1 x mu/ nev] be m ?an t5tative2 if n at lea/ met halfway1 x mu/ be )drawn at once4 ,t is really ! only rule !re is4 ,x %\ld m]ely be grant$ t ^? :o d n c>e to meet o!rs h j z mu* "r to _! seclusion z ^? :o delight 9 o!rs h a "r to be delight$--z long z t delight is unmi/akably mutual4 ,,/eam] ,,tips ,ea* ord9>y fir/ class pass5g]1 n[ z always1 gives t5 %ill+s 7#b4ej7 to ! room /ew>d or /ew>dess1 t5 %ill+s to ! d9+-room /ew>d1 t5 %ill+s to ! deck /ew>d1 t5 %ill+s to ! l\nge /ew>d4 ,y\r tip to ! head /ew>d & to "o ( ! *efs dep5ds on :e!r !y h done any?+ especial = y4 ,if n1 y d n tip !m4 ,if y are a bad sailor & h be5 tak+ y\r meals 9 y\r room1 y give tw5ty %ill+s 7#e4jj7 at lea/ to ! /ew>dess 7or /ew>d1 if y are a man74 ,or if y h eat5 y\r meals on deck1 y give tw5ty %ill+s to ! deck /ew>d1 & t5 to 8 assi/ant1 & y give five to ! ba? /ew>d4 ,to any /ew>d :o takes pa9s to please y1 y %[ by y\r mann] 9 ?ank+ him t y appreciate 8 ef=ts1 z well z by giv+ him a some:at m g5]\s tip :5 y leave ! %ip4 ,if y l y\r ba? at a c]ta9 h\r1 y w\ld d well to ask y\r ba? /ew>d = x z soon z y g on bo>d 7unless y h a private ba? ( y\r own71 s9ce ! la/ p]sons to speak get ! inconv5i5t h\rs--naturally4 ,to _m ! daily salt ba? is ! mo/ delightful feature ( ! trip4 ,! wat] is always wond]fully cle> & ! t[els are heat$4 ,if y h be5 ill on ! voyage1 "s %ip's doctors s5d 9 a bill2 o!rs d n4 ,9 ! latt] case y are n actually oblig$ to give !m any?+1 b ! g5]\sly incl9$ put ! am\nt ( an av]age fee 9 an envelope & leave x = ! doctor at ! purs]'s (fice4 ,,dress ,,on ,,! ,,/eam] ,on ! de luxe /eam]s ne>ly e "o dresses = d9n]2 "s actually 9 ball dresses1 :i* is 9 wor/ possible ta/e1 &1 l all ov]-dress+ 9 public places1 indicates t !y h no o!r place to %[ _! f9]y4 ,p ( position nev] put on =mal ev5+ dress on a /eam]1 n ev5 9 ! la c>te re/aurant1 :i* is a feature ( ! de luxe /eam] ( size4 ,9 ! d9+ saloon !y we> aft]noon h\se dresses--)\t hats--= d9n]4 ,9 ! re/aurant !y we> semi-d9n] dresses4 ,"s sm>t m5 on ! ord9>y /eam]s put on a d>k sack suit = d9n] aft] we>+ c\ntry clo!s all day1 b 9 ! de luxe re/aurant !y we> ,tux$o coats4 ,no g5tleman we>s a tail-coat on %ipbo>d "u any circum/ances :atsoev]4 ,,travel+ ,,abroad ,j z "o discordant note makes m impression ?an all ! o!rs t are correctly play$ 9 an entire symphony1 s does a discordant incid5t /& out & dom9ate a hundr$ o!rs t are above criticism1 & !re=e unnotic$4 ,9 e c\ntry ( ,europe & ,asia are ,am]icans :o comb9e ! brilliancy :i* none c d5y is ! bir?right ( ! new] _w1 ) ! cultivation & good bre$+ ( ! old4 ,^! ,am]icans ( ! be/ type g all ov] ! _w1 fitt+ 9 s p]fectly ) _! backgr\nd t n ev5 ! inhabitants notice !y are /rang]s2 9 o!r words !y a*ieve ! highe/ accompli%m5t possible4 ,b 9 contra/ to ^!1 ! numb]less discordant ones are only too famili>2 "o sees !m sw>m+ ov] ,europe 9 bun*es1 sometimes 9 hordes1 on regul> pr(essionally run t\rs4 ,?is1 ( c\rse1 does n mean t all p]sonally conduct$ t\ri/s are any?+ l !m4 ,! objectionables are l\d ( voice1 l\d 9 mann]2 !y always attract z mu* att5tion z possible to !mselves1 & wave ,am]ican flags on all occasions4 ,! ,am]ican flag is ! mo/ wond]ful emblem 9 ! :ole _w1 & ours is ! mo/ glori\s c\ntry too1 b t does n mean t x is good ta/e to wave our flag = no reason :atev]4 ,at a p>ade or on an especial day :5 o!r p are wav+ flags1 !n let u wave ours by all means--b n o!rwise4 ,x does n dignify our flag to make x an object ( ridicule to o!rs1 & t is exactly ! result ( ! ceaseless flaunt+ ( x by a gr\p ( p :o talk at ! top ( _! voices1 :o delib]ately assume t ! atmosph]e belongs to !m1 & :o behave l noisy1 untra9$ savages try+ to %[ (f4 ,9 hotels1 on excursions1 /eam]s & tra9s1 !y insi/ on talk+ to ev]yone1 :e!r ev]yone wants to talk or n4 ,!y are all ov] ! place--!re is no o!r way to express x--& !y all[ privacy to no "o if !y c help x4 ,numb]less cultivat$ ,am]icans travel+ 9 ,europe nev] by any *ance speak ,engli% or c>ry ,engli% books on railroad tra9s1 z a protection aga9/ ! o!r type ( ,am]ican :o all[s no "o to travel 9 ! same comp>tm5t & escape conv]sation4 ,! only way to avoid unwelcome importunities is lit]ally to take refuge 9 assum+ ano!r nationality4 ,/rangely en\gh1 ^! irrepressibles are seldom enc\nt]$ at home2 !y seem to develop on ! /eam] & bur/ into full bloom only on ! beat5 t\ri/ trails--:i* is a pity1 because if !y only develop$ at home in/ead1 we might be int5sely annoy$ b at lea/ we %\ld n be mortifi$ be=e our own citiz5s ab\t o!r fell[-citiz5s4 ,b to a s5sitive ,am]ican x is f> f pleasant to h ! c\ntry he loves repres5t$ by a tableful ( vulg>ians noisily attract+ ! att5tion ( a :ole d9+-room1 & to h a ,european say mock+ly1 ,ah1 & ^? are y\r compatriots8 ,"s ye>s ago1 a ,russian gr& duke sitt+ next to ,mrs4 ,oldname at a lun*eon 9 a ,monte ,c>lo re/aurant1 said to h]3 ,y\r c\ntry puzzles me6 ,h[ c x be possible t x holds )\t explosion su* antagoni/ic types z ! _m *>m+ ,am]icans we are con/antly meet+1 & at ! same "t-- look+ at a gr\p :o 7 actually s++ & beat+ "t on _! glasses ) knives & =ks--^?6 ,a ,fr5* (fic]'s comm5t to an ,am]ican (fic] ) :om he 0 talk+ 9 a club 9 ,p>is1 q unconsci\sly tells ! same tale3 ,y are liaison (fic]1 ,i suppose1 ) ! ,am]icans8 ,b may ,i be p]mitt$ to ask :y y we> _! uni=m8 ,! o!r smil$3 ,i am an ,am]ican6 ,y an ,am]ican8 ,impossible6 ,:y1 y speak ,fr5* l a ,p>isian1 y h ! mann] ( a great g5tleman6 7un gr& seigneur17 :i* w\ld indicate t ! av]age ,am]ican does n speak p]fect ,fr5* nor h beautiful mann]s4 ,!re is mu* excuse = n speak+ =eign languages1 b !re is no excuse :atev] = hav+ (f5sive mann]s & rid+ r\gh-%od ov] p :o own ! l&--n we1 :o seem to ?9k we d4 ,z = s\v5ir hunt]s1 p]haps !y c expla9 :]e9 _! pilf]+ ( ano!r's prop]ty diff]s f petty ?iev+--a di/9ction :i* ! own] c sc>cely be expect$ to und]/&4 ,^? :o write _! names1 defac+ objects ( beauty ) _! va+lori\s smudges & scribbl+s1 are sc>cely less culpable4 ,9 ,france1 9 ,spa91 9 ,italy1 grace & polit5ess ( mann] is z ess5tial to m]e/ dec5cy z be+ clo!d4 ,9 ! hotels t are us$ to u 7some?+ ( a comm5t>y67 our lack ( polit5ess is tol]at$2 b don't ?9k = a mom5t x is n paid =6 ,! (fic] ref]r$ to above1 :o _h _h ! advantage ( summ] aft] summ] sp5t 9 ,europe z a boy1 0 *>g$ j ab\t half :at ano!r mu/ pay :o has ! rud5ess ( a savage4 ,b good mann]s are good mann]s ev]y:]e1 except t 9 ,lat9 & ,asiatic c\ntries we mu/1 z x seems to u1 exagg]ate polit5ess4 ,we mu/1 9 ,france & ,italy1 b[ smil+ly2 we mu/1 9 ,spa9 & ! ,ea/1 b[ gravely2 b 9 any ev5t1 x is necess>y ev]y:]e1 except "u ! ,am]ican & ,briti% flags1 to b[--?\gh y\r b[ is (t5 little m ?an a slight incl9ation ( ! head1 & a smile--& to %[ "s c]emony 9 address+ p4 ,:5 y g into a %op 9 ,france or ,italy1 y mu/ smile & b[ & say1 ,good morn+1 madam1 or ,good ev5+1 monsieur1 & ,until we meet aga91 :5 y leave4 ,if y c't say ,au revoir1 say ,good aft]noon 9 ,engli%1 b at all ev5ts say some?+ 9 a polite tone ( voice1 :i* is mu* m important ?an ! words !mselves4 ,to be civilly polite is n difficult--x is m]ely a matt] ( rememb]+4 ,to fail to say good morn+ to a conci]ge1 a *amb]maid1 or a small tradesman 9 ,france1 treat+ him 7or h]7 z ?\gh he did n exi/1 is n evid5ce ( y\r gr&eur b ( y\r ignorance4 ,a ,fr5* du*ess w\ld n ?9k ( ent]+ ! little/ /ore )\t say+1 ,good morn+1 madame1 to its proprietress1 & if %e is kn[n to h] at all1 )\t mak+ enquiries conc]n+ ! heal? ( ! v>i\s memb]s ( h] family4 ,nor w\ld %e fail to say1 ,good morn+1 ,augu/e1 or ,m>ie1 to h] own s]vants4 ,,europe',s ,,unflatt]+ ,,op9ion ,,( ,,u ,= ye>s we ,am]icans h sw>m$ ov] ! face ( ! _w1 tak+ x = grant$ t ! e>?'s surface belongs to u because we c pay = x1 & x is r worse ?an ev] s9ce ! w>1 :5 ! advantages ( ex*ange add bitt]ness to irritation4 ,& yet !re are _m :o are highly indignant :5 told t1 z a type1 we are n at all admir$ abroad4 ,in/ead ( be+ indignant1 h[ mu* simpl] & bett] x w\ld be to make ourselves admirable1 especially s9ce x is ^? :o mo/ lack cultivation :o are mo/ indignant4 ,! v well-br$ may be mortifi$ & aba%$1 b !y c't be indignant except ) _! fell[ c\ntrym5 :o by _! %ock+ behavior make ,europe's criticism j4 ,und]/&+ (1 & k9d-he>t$ consid]ation = ! feel+s ( o!rs are ! basic attributes ( good mann]s4 ,)\t obs]vation1 und]/&+ is impossible--ev5 9 our own c\ntry :]e ! attitude ( our neighbors is mu* ! same z our own4 ,x is n h>d to appreciate1 !re=e1 t to und]/& ! po9t ( view ( p entirely =eign to ourselves1 requires intuitive p]ception z well z cultivation 9 a v high degree4 ,,am]icans ,,9 ,,european ,,society ,x is only 9 musical com$y t "o c g into a /range city & be pick$ out ( ! cr[d & invit$ to ! tables ( ! high ( ! l&1 because "o looks z ?\gh "o might be agreeable6 ,to see any?+ ( society 9 ! actual _w x is necess>y to h fri5ds1 ei!r ,am]icans liv+ or /ation$ or m>ri$ abroad2 or to take lett]s ( introduction4 ,tak+ lett]s ( introduction %\ld nev] be done c>elessly1 because ( ! obligation t !y impose4 ,b to g to a /range c\ntry & see no?+ ( its social life1 is l a bl9d p]son's go+ to ! !at]1 & ! only way a /rang] c "k p is ?r\gh ! lett]s he br+s4 ,"u ord9>y circum/ances no k :atsoev] beyond ! social am5ities ! _w ov] are necess>y4 ,a d9n] abroad is exactly ! same z "o "h4 ,y ent] a room1 y b[1 y %ake h&s1 y say1 ,h[ d y d4 ,y sit at table1 y talk ( imp]sonal ?+s1 say ,good-by & ,?ank y to y\r ho/ess1 & y leave4 ,! matt] ( address+ p ( title correctly is ( little importance4 ,! beautiful ,lady ,oldworld 7:o 0 ,alice ,t[n7 0 ask$ "o day by a fell[ c\ntryman1 :at %e call$ ?is p]son ( title & t "o1 & %e repli$3 ,i'm n sure t ,i "k6 ,:y %\ld ,i call !m at all8 :i* 0 a p]fectly s5sible answ]4 ,"o nev] says any?+ b y to ! p]son spok5 to2 & x might be an excell5t ?+ n to "k h[ to speak ab\t anyone ) a title1 z x w\ld prev5t "o's m5tion+ !m4 ,hav+ gone into ! subject ?us f>1 h[ev]1 x may be add$ t if at a d9n] y are put next to a ,duke1 if x is necess>y to call him any?+ except y1 y w\ld say ,duke4 ,unless y are wait+ on ! table in/ead ( sitt+ at x1 y w\ld n say1 ,y\r ,grace & n ev5 !n ,my ,"l ,duke4 ,nei!r1 unless y are a valet or a *amb]maid1 w\ld y say ,y\r ,lord%ip to an ,e>l6 ,if y are a lady1 y call him ,"l ,arl+ton4 ,if y "k him really well1 y call him ,arl+ton4 ,to a knight y say1 ,sir ,ar?ur1 :i* s\nds famili>1 b !re is no?+ else y c call him4 ,9 ,engl& a /rang] is n suppos$ to introduce anyone1 s t titles ( address are n necess>y !n ei!r2 b if y happ5 to be ! ho/ess & ,fr5* or ,am]icans are pres5t1 :o l introductions1 y introduce ,sir ,ar?ur ,dryd5 to ! ,duke & ,du*ess ( ,ov]!re1 or to ,pr9ce & ,pr9cess ,capri4 ,9 talk+ to h]1 ! latt] w\ld be call$ ,pr9cess & h] husb& ,pr9ce ,capri or ,pr9ce or by ^? :o "k him well1 ,capri4 ,,pres5tation ,,at ,,c\rt ,frequ5tly ,am]ican m5 are pres5t$ at ! ,briti% ,c\rt at levees held by ! ,k+ = ! purpose4 ,su* m5 are ( c\rse di/+ui%$ citiz5s :o h be5 9 "s bran* ( public s]vice1 or :o h contribut$ some?+ to art1 sci5ce1 hi/ory or progress4 ,an ,am]ican lady to be eligible = pres5tation at a =eign ,c\rt %\ld be ei!r ! wife or daught] ( a di/+ui%$ ,am]ican citiz5 or be h]self notable 9 "s bran* ( le>n+ or accompli%m5t4 ,x is absolutely necess>y t su* a c&idate take lett]s ( introduction to ! ,am]ican ,ambassador1,c or ,m9i/] if 9 a c\ntry :]e we h a ,legation in/ead ( an ,embassy4 ,%e w\ld enclose h] lett]s 9 a note to ! ,ambassadress ask+ t h] "n be put on ! li/ = pres5tation4 ,! propriety ( ?is reque/ is a v difficult subject to advise ^u1 9 t x is bett] t ! sugge/ion come f ! ,ambassador r ?an f oneself4 ,x is1 h[ev]1 p]fectly p]missible = "o ^: pres5tation is appropriate1 b :o may p]haps n "k ! ,ambassador or 8 wife p]sonally1 to d z sugge/$ above4 ,x mu/ also be rememb]$ t r>ely m ?an ?ree or p]haps five p]sons are pres5t$ at any "o "t1 s t ! difficulty ( obta9+ a place on ! li/ is obvi\s4 ,an ,am]ican lady is pres5t$ by ! ,am]ican ,ambassadress 7or ! wife ( ! ,am]ican ,m9i/]7 or by ! wife ( ! ,*>g d',affaires if ! ,ambassadress be abs5t2 or occasionally by ! ,doy5ne ( ! diplomatic corps at ! reque/ ( ! ,am]ican ,embassy4 ,x w\ld be futile to attempt giv+ details ( full c\rt dress or especial details ( etiquette1 z ^! v>y n alone ) c\ntries1 b ) "t6 ,if y are ab\t to be pres5t$1 y w surely be told all t is necess>y by ! p]son pres5t+ y4 ,^! details1 aft] all1 m]ely comprise ! exact l5g? ( tra9 or o!r p>ticul>s ( dress1 ! h\r y are to be at su* & su* a door1 :]e y are to /&1 & h[ _m curtsies or b[s y are to make4 ,9 all o!r & ess5tial p>ticul>s y behave z y w\ld 9 any & e circum/ance ( =mality4 ,9 g5]al outl9e1 h[ev]1 x w\ld be safe to say t on ! day ( ! c]emony y drive to ! ,palace at a specifi$ h\r1 we>+ specifi$ clo!s & c>ry+ y\r c>d ( invitation 9 y\r h&4 ,y\r wraps are left 9 ! c>riage 7or motor-c>71 y ent] ! ,palace & are %[n into a room :]e y wait1 & wait & ,,wait6 until at la/ y are admitt$ to ! ,audi5ce ,*amb] :]e y approa* ! receiv+ ,royalties2 y curtsy deeply be=e !m & !n back out4 ,or else--y /& on an assign$ spot :ile ! ,k+ or ,que5 or bo? make ! t\r ( ^? wait+1 :o curtsy 7or b[7 deeply at _! approa* & aga9 at _! )drawal4 ,if y are spok5 to at l5g?1 y answ] z "u any o!r circum/ances1 exactly z a polite *ild answ]s 8 eld]s4 ,y d n speak unless spok5 to4 ,if y\r answ] is long y ne$ say no?+ except ! answ]2 if %ort1 y add ,sir to ! ,k+ & ,madam to ! ,que54 ,?is seem+ly democratic title is z a matt] ( fact ! correct "o = all ,royalty4 ,yes1 sir4 ,v mu* inde$1 ,madam4 ,i ?9k s1 ,madam4 ,footnote ,c3 ,9 ,s\? ,am]ica alone1 :]e out ( c\rtesy to ^? :o also consid] !mselves ,am]icans1 ! ,embassies & ,legations ( our c\ntry are kn[n z ^? ( ,! ,unit$ ,/ates ( ,am]ica4 ,b 9 all o!r c\ntries ( ! _w we are kn[n simply z ,am]icans--x is ! only "n we h4 ,we are n ,unit$ ,/at]s or ,unit$ ,/atian--!re is n ev5 a ^w to apply to u6 ,to speak ( ! ,am]ican ,m9i/] to ?is c\ntry or t1 & ( ! ,am]ican ,embassy 9 ,p>is = in/ance1 is entirely correct4 ,,=eign ,,languages ,9 ! ,lat9 c\ntries1 grace & facility ( spee* is an object ( lifelong cultivation--& no "o is consid]$ an educat$ p]son :o c n speak sev]al languages well4 ,^? :o speak _m flu5tly1 by ! way1 are seldom ^? :o con/antly int]l>d _! own tongue ) words f ano!r4 ,n to und]/& any =eign languages w\ld be a decid$ h&icap 9 ,european society1 :]e conv]sation is v apt to turn polyglot1 beg9n+ 9 "o tongue & go+ on 9 a second & end+ 9 a ?ird4 ,s t "o :o kn[s only ,engli% is (t5 9 ! position ( a deaf p]son1 ev5 ?\gh ,europeans are inv>iably polite & nev] let a conv]sation run long 9 a language :i* all ^? pres5t d n und]/&4 ,x might easily happ5 t a ,fr5* lady & an ,am]ican1 nei!r und]/&+ ! tongue ( ! o!r1 meet at ! h\se ( an ,italian1 :]e !re is also an ,italian monol+ui/1 s t ! ho/ess has to talk 9 ?ree languages at once4 ,x is unreasonable to expect ! av]age ,am]ican to be a l+ui/2 we are too f> remov$ f =eign c\ntries4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 if y w\ld make y\rself agreeable1 x is mu* bett] 7unless y\r facility 0 acquir$ z a *ild or y h a tal5t am\nt+ to g5ius = acc5t & con/ruction71 to make x a rule :5 y lun* or d9e ) ,europeans to talk ,engli%1 s9ce all ,lat9s acutely suff] at he>+ _! language di/ort$4 ,engli%1 on ! o!r h&1 is n beautiful 9 s\nd to ! =eign e>2 x is a s]ies ( esses & %u%es1 lump$ ) consonants l an iron-:eel$ c>t bump+ ov] a cobble-/on$ /reet4 ,! ,lat9's acc5t 9 ,engli% is annoy+ ev5 to u at times1 b ! ,engli% acc5t 9 ,fr5*1 ,italian or ,spani% is murd]\s6 ,fur!rmore1 ! ,lat9 passionately loves 8 language 9 ! way ! ,we/]n] loves 8 city2 he simply c n endure to h x abus$1 & execrates ! p]son :o does s4 ,&1 proportionately1 he loves ! few :o prove !y %>e 8 love by speak+ x cr$itably4 ,,to ,,improve ,,"o',s ,,acc5t ,if y want to improve y\r acc5t1 no?+ c s help y z go+ to ! !at] abroad until y\r e>s lit]ally absorb ! s\nds6 ,all p are imitative4 ,!re are few :o d n gradually lose ! purity ( a good =eign acc5t :5 long away f ,europe1 & all speak m flu5tly :5 _! e>s become accu/om$ to ! s\nd4 ,! !at] is n only ! be/ possible place to he> correctly enunciat$ spee*1 b a play ( contempor>y life is equally valuable z a /udy 9 mann]s4 ,!re is also a suavity ( grace 9 ! way ,europeans b[ & /& & sit1 & 9 ! way !y speak1 t is unconsci\sly imitat$4 ,^! mann]s ne$ n--9 fact1 %\ld n--be gu%+ or m9c+1 b y gradually p]ceive t j]k+ ramrod motions & /alk+ into a draw+-room l a gr5adi] are less impressive ?an awkw>d4 ,,! ,,spoil$ ,,am]ican ,,girl ,! subject ( ,am]ican mann]s1 z !y appe> to ,europeans1 _c be dismiss$ )\t comm5t on a repreh5sible type ( ,am]ican girl :o fl\ri%es on %ipbo>d1 on t\rs1 & 9 public places g5]ally--b mo/ p>ticul>ly 9 ! l>ge & exp5sive hotels ( ,cont95tal resorts4 ,if %e & h] family h a home1 !y are nev] 9 x1 & if !y h any object 9 life o!r ?an lett+ h] foll[ h] own unhamp]$ incl9ations1 x is n app>5t to ! ord9>y obs]v]4 ,su* a girl is always ov]-dress$1 %e we>s e fa%ion 9 its extreme/ exagg]ation1 %e sp>kles ) jewelry1 & reeks ( sc5t1 %e swit*es h]self ?is way & t1 & is always pos+ 9 public view & play+ to ! public gall]y4 ,%e g5]ally has a small bro!r :o refuses to g to b$ at night1 or to /op mak+ ! piazza *airs into a tra9 ( c>s1 or to use ! public halls z a skat+ r9k4 ,:5 he is n mak+ a noise1 he is eat+4 ,& 8 elegant si/] looks ^u him ) disda94 ,si/]1 mean:ile1 j+l+ ) *a9s & bangles1 deck$ 9 sc>fs & tulle & e>r+s1 leans on or aga9/ :atev] happ5s to be conv5i5t1 flirt+ ) any casual /rang] :o comes along4 ,%e inv>iably goes to h] meals alone--evid5tly ?9k+ h] p>5ts %\ld be kept ap>t f h]4 ,%e is nev] away f ! ,kurhaus or ,cas9o1 abroad or ! hotel lobby 9 ,am]ica4 ,%e is ne>ly always alone1 & ! book %e is p]petually read+ is always op5$ at ! same page1 & %e is sure to look up z y pass4 ,%e is v ready to be pick$ up & to confide h] life's hi/ory1 pa/1 pres5t & future1 to any /rang]1 especially a "y "o ( ! opposite sex4 ,%e is rude only to h] "m & fa!r4 ,%e is also 7we "k1 b ,europe doesn't7 a p]fectly good girl4 ,h] lack ( etiquette is %ock+1 b h] morals are above reproa*4 ,%e does n ev5 mean to be rude to h] p>5ts1 & %e has no idea t ! ?+s %e does are exactly ^? :i* condemn h] 9 ! op9ion ( /rang]s4 ,if %e 7 con/antly )1 & obvi\sly devot$ to h] "m1 %e w\ld make an inf9itely bett] impression1 bo? z to good =m & z to he>t1 ?an by segregat+ h]self s t %e c be jo9$ by any haphaz>d y\? :o /rolls into view1 & !reby *eap5+ n only h]self b ! "n ( ! ,am]ican girl 9 g5]al4 ,curi\sly en\gh1 if %e m>ries 9 ,europe1 %e is apt to settle d[n & become an altoge!r admirable example ( ,am]ican-,european womanhood1 because %e is s\nd fruit at he>t--m]ely wrapp$ 9 tawdry gilt pap] trimm+ by h] ador+ b ignorantly unwise p>5ts :o1 9 _! ef=t to %[ h] (f1 disguise ! v qualities :i* %\ld h be5 acc5tuat$4 ,,ladies ,,travel+ ,,alone ,,9 ,,europe ,europeans c n possibly und]/& h[ any lady ( social position c be )\t a maid4 ,a lady travel+ alone1 !re=e1 has ?is trifl+ h&icap to />t )4 ,x is a v snobbi% op9ion1 & "o :o has ! tem]ity to attempt travel+ all by h]self has und\bt$ly ! ability to see x ?r\gh4 ,%e ne$ aft] all m]ely behave ) extreme quietness & dignity & %e c g f "o end ( ! _w to ! o!r )\t mole/ation or ev5 difficulty--especially if %e is any?+ ( a l+ui/4 ,9 go+ f "o place to ano!r1 x is wis] to write z long z possible ahead = accommodations--possibly giv+ ! "n ( ! "o 7if any7 :o recomm5d$ ! hotel4 ,b 9 go+ f> (f into ,asia or o!r difficult c\ntries1 %e w\ld bett] jo9 fri5ds or at lea/ a p]sonally conduct$ t\r1 unless %e has ! mettle ( a ,burton or a ,/anley4 ,,motor+ ,,9 ,,europe ,motor+ 9 ,europe is p]fectly feasible & easy4 ,a c> has to be put 9 a crate to cross ! ocean1 b 9 cross+ ! *annel betwe5 ,engl& & ,france1 no difficulty :atev] is exp]i5c$4 ,all in=mation necess>y c be _h at any ( ! automobile clubs1 & 9 go+ f "o c\ntry to ano!r1 y h m]ely to %[ y\r passports at ! bord] prop]ly visd & pay a deposit to insure y\r n sell+ ! c> out ( ! c\ntry1 :i* is refund$ :5 y come back4 ,g>age *>ges are reasonable1 b gasol9e is high4 ,roads are beautiful1 & travel+--once y h y\r c>--is mu* *eap] ?an by tra94 ,once (f ! beat5 track1 a t\ri/ :o has n a work+ k ( ! language ( ! c\ntry he is driv+ ?r\gh1 is at a disadvantage1 b pl5ty ( p con/antly d x1 s x is at lea/ n insurm\ntable4 ,) ,engli% y c g to mo/ places--) ,engli% & ,fr5* ne>ly ev]y:]e4 ,! ,mi*el9 guide %[s y 9 a little draw+1 exactly ! type ( hotels y w f9d 9 ea* approa*+ t[n & ! price ( accommodation1 s t y c *oose y\r own /opp+ places accord+ly4 ,& etiquette8 y ask4 ,!re is no etiquette ( motor+ t diff]s f all o!r etiquette4 ,except ( c\rse n to be a road hog--or a road pig6 ,p :o take up ! entire road are n half ! (f5d]s t o!rs are :o picnic along ! side ( x & leave _! old pap]s & food all ov] ev]y:]e4 ,= t matt]1 any "o :o %oves himself =w>d 9 any situation 9 life1 he :o pu%es pa/1 bump+ into y1 walk+ ov] y1 9 ord] to get a fir/ seat on a tra91 or to be ! fir/ (f a boat1 any "o :o pu%es himself out ( 8 turn1 or takes m ?an 8 %>e1 any:]e or ( any?+--is precisely t sort ( an animal4 ,,on ,a ,,cont95tal ,,tra9 ,europeans usually pref] to ride backw>ds1 & z an ,am]ican pref]s to face ! eng9e1 x works out beautifully4 ,x is n etiquette to talk ) fell[ pass5g]s1 9 fact x is v middle-class4 ,if y are 9 a smok+ c>riage 7all ,european c>riages are smok+ unless m>k$ ,ladies alone or ,no smok+7 & ladies are pres5t1 x is polite to ask if y may smoke4 ,language is n necess>y1 z y ne$ m]ely to look at y\r cig> & b[ ) an int]rogatory expression1 :]eupon y\r fell[ pass5g]s b[ ass5t & y smoke4 ,,! ,,p]fect ,,travel] ,"o might say ! p]fect travel] is "o ^: dige/ion is p]fect1 ^: disposition is *e]ful1 :o c be en?usia/ic "u ! mo/ disc\rag+ circum/ances1 to :om discom=t is ( no mom5t1 & :o possesses at lea/ a s5se ( ! ridicul\s1 if n a real s5se ( humor6 ,! p]fect travel] fur!rmore1 is "o :o possesses ! virtue ( punctuality2 "o :o has n =gott5 some?+ at ! la/ m9ute1 & ^: bags are all pack$ & d[n at ! h\r = ! />t4 ,^? :o fuss & flurry ab\t be+ ready1 or ^? ^: disposition is easily upset or :o are incl9$ to be gloomy1 %\ld n travel--unless !y g alone4 ,no?+ c spoil a j\rney m ?an "s "o :o is easily put out ( temp] & :o always wants to d some?+ ! o!rs d n4 ,:e!r travel+ ) y\r family or ) comp>ative /rang]s1 y mu/ realize t y\r p]sonal likes & dislikes h at lea/ on occasion to be subord9at$ to ! likes & dislikes ( o!rs2 nor c y always be com=table1 or h good wea!r1 or make p]fect connections1 or f9d ev]y?+ to y\r p]sonal satisfaction2 & y only add to y\r own discom=t & *agr91 z well z to ! discom=t ( e "o else1 by refus+ to be philosophical4 ,^? :o are bad sailors %\ld n g on ya*t+ p>ties2 !y are always abjectly wret*$1 & are ( no use to !mselves or any "o else4 ,^? :o hate walk+ %\ld n />t out on a tramp t is mu* too f> = !m & expect o!rs to turn back :5 !y get tir$4 ,!y ne$ n />t to beg9 )1 b hav+ once />t$1 !y mu/ see x ?r\gh4 ,!re is no great] te/ ( a man's 7or a woman's7 we>+ qualities ?an travel+ ) him4 ,he :o is always ke5 & ready = any?+1 delight$ ) e amus+ incid5t1 will+ to ov]look %ortcom+s1 & app>5tly oblivi\s ( discom=t1 is1 ne$less to say1 ! "o fir/ includ$ on ! next trip4 ,,*apt] ,,xxxviii ,,gr[? ,,( ,,good ,,ta/e ,,9 ,,am]ica ,good ta/e or bad is reveal$ 9 ev]y?+ we are1 d1 or h4 ,our spee*1 mann]s1 dress1 & h\sehold goods--& ev5 our fri5ds--are evid5ces ( ! propriety ( our ta/e1 & all ^! h be5 ! subject ( ?is book4 ,rules ( etiquette are no?+ m ?an sign-po/s by :i* we are guid$ to ! goal ( good ta/e4 ,:e!r we ,am]icans are drift+ t[>d or f f9] p]ceptions1 bo? m5tal & spiritual1 is too pr(\nd a subject to be tak5 up except on a broad] scope ?an t ( ! pres5t volume4 ,yet x is a commonplace rem>k t old] p inv>iably feel t ! y\ng] g5]ation is spe$+ swiftly on ! road to p]dition4 ,b :e!r ! pres5t y\ng] g5]ation is really any ne>] to t frightful end ?an any previ\s "o1 is a "q t we1 ( ! pres5t old] g5]ation1 are sc>cely qualifi$ to answ]4 ,to be sure1 mann]s seem to h gr[n lax1 & _m ( ! am5ities app>5tly h vani%$4 ,b d ^! ?+s m]ely seem s to u because "y m5 ( fa%ion d n pay p>ty calls n[adays & ! 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( ! beautiful 9 environm5t4 ,t su* exquisite be/ z ,am]ica possess$ 9 h] ,colonial h\ses & g>d5s & furni%+s %\ld ev] h be5 disc>d$ = ! atrocities ( ! p]iod aft] ! ,civil ,w>1 is comp>able to no?+ b ,titania's ,midsumm] ,night's ,dream madness t made h] believe an ass's features m beautiful ?an ^? 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