,,sex ,,& ,,common-,,s5se ,,by ,a4 ,,maude ,,royd5 ,,assi/ant ,,prea*] ,,at ,,! ,,city ,,temple1 ,,london #aiah-aibj ,to ,,my ,,fri5ds ,a4,j4,s4 ,,& ,w4,h4,s4 ,,preface ,,to ,,am]ican ,,edition ,,! ,,nobility ,,( ,,! ,,sex ,,problem ,( all ! problems :i* ! al]t & curi\s m9d ( mod]n man is consid]+1 none occupies him m ?an t ( ! relations ( ! sexes4 ,?is is natural4 ,x t\*es u all & we h made r a mess ( x6 ,we want to "k :y1 & we want to d bett]4 ,we res5t be+ ! sport ( circum/ance & p]haps we are beg9n+ to und]/& t ?is in/9ct ( sex :i* has be5 s great a cause ( suff]+ & %ame & has be5 treat$ z a subject fit only = furtive :isp]s or silly jokes1 is 9 fact "o ( ! greate/ p[]s 9 human nature1 & t its misuse is inde$ ! exp5se ( _s 9 a wa/e ( %ame4 ,x is n ! abnormal or ! biz>re t int]e/s mo/ ( u to-day4 ,x is n into ! by-ways ( vice t we seek to p5etrate4 ,x is ! normal ex]cise ( a normal in/9ct by normal p t int]e/s u3 & x is ( ?is t ,i h tri$ to write & speak4 ,! curiosities ( depravity are = ! physician & ! psy*ologi/ to discuss & cure4 ,ord9>y m5 & wom5 want fir/ to "k h[ to live ord9>y human lives on a high] level & aft] a nobl] patt]n ?an be=e4 ,!y want1 ,i ?9k1--& ,i want1--to gr[ up1 b to gr[ rightly1 beautifully1 humanely4 ,& ,i believe ! fir/ ess5tial is to realize t ! sex-problem1 z x is call$1 is ! problem ( some?+ noble1 n some?+ base4 ,x is n a disagreeable duty to "k our own natures & und]/& our own in/9cts3 x is a joy4 ,! sex-in/9ct is n ! ,fall ( ,man2 nei!r is x an in/ance ( div9e wisdom on :i* morali/s c\ld1 if !y _h only be5 consult$ 9 "t1 greatly h improv$4 ,x is a ?+ noble 9 ess5ce4 ,x is ! developm5t ( ! high]1 n ! l[]1 creation4 ,x is ! asexual :i* is ! l[]1 & ! sexually diff]5tiat$ :i* is ! high] organism4 ,9 ! humbl] ranks ( be+ !re is no sex1 & 9 a s5se no dea?4 ,! organism is immortal because--/range p>adox--x is n yet alive en\gh to die4 ,b z we pass f ! l[] to ! high]1 we pass f ! less individual to ! m individual2 f asexual to sexual4 ,& ) ?is *ange comes t great rhy?m by :i* life & dea? succe$ ea* o!r1 & dea? is ! co/ ( life1 & to br+ life into ! _w means sacrifice2 &--z we rise high] /ill--to su/a9 life means prolong$ & altrui/ic love4 ,?is is ! hi/ory ( sex & ( procreation1 a hi/ory associat$ ) ! ris+ ( humanity 9 ! scale ( be+1 a hi/ory n s mu* ( 8 physical z ( 8 spiritual gr[?4 ,by :at an irony h we come to associate ! in/9ct ( sex ) all t is be/ial & %ameful6 ,x has happ5$ because ! corruption ( ! be/ is ! wor/4 ,i always want to rem9d p ( ?is truism :5 !y h fir/ come into contact ) sex 9 "s horrible & %ameful way4 ,t is "o ( ! greate/ mis=tunes t c happ5 to any ( u1 & un=tunately x happ5s to _m4 ,boys & girls are all[$ to gr[ up 9 ignorance4 ,! girls p]haps "k no?+ till !y h to "k all4 ,! boys le>n f grimy s\rces4 ,i 0 speak+ on ?is subject at "o ( our great univ]sities ! o!r day1 & aft]w>ds _m ( ! m5 came & talk$ to me privately4 ,) h>dly a s+le exception !y said to me--,our p>5ts told u no?+4 ,we h nev] he>d sex spok5 ( except 9 a dirty way4 ,x is difficult = u1 9 su* a case1 to realize t sex is n a dirty ?+4 ,x c only be realiz$1 ,i ?9k1 by rememb]+ t ! corruption ( ! be/ is ! wor/1 & t we c measure by ! hide\sness ( debas$ & deprav$ sexuality1 ! greatness & ! wond] ( sex love4 ,?is is to me ! great tea*+ ( ,*ri/ ab\t sex4 ,o!r great religi\s tea*]s--"s ( !m v great inde$--h ?\ght & taught contemptu\sly ( our animal nature4 ,he spake ( ! temple ( ,8 body4 ,t is sublime6 ,t is ! :ole secret4 ,& t is :y vice is horrible3 because x is ! desecration1 n ( a hovel or a %op1 ( a m>ketplace or a place ( bus9ess3 b ( a temple4 ,*ri/1 ,i am told1 told u no?+ ab\t sex4 ,he did n ne$ to tell u any?+ b ,y\r body is ! ,temple ( ! ,holy ,_s4 ,x is my belief t 9 appeal+ to an ,am]ican public ,i %all be appeal+ to ^? :o are ready to face ! subject ( ! relations ( ! sexes ) p]fect frankness & ) c\rage4 ,am]ica is /ill a c\ntry ( exp]im5ts--a c\ntry adv5tur\s en\gh to make exp]im5ts1 & to risk mak+ mi/akes4 ,t is ! only _s 9 :i* x is possible to make any?+ at all2 & ?\gh ! mi/akes we may make 9 a matt] :i* s deeply & tragically affects human life mu/ be s]i\s1 & we mu/ ) correspond+ s]i\sness weigh e ^w we say1 & take ! tr\ble to ?9k h>d] & m hone/ly ?an we h p]haps ev] ?\ght be=e2 yet ,i believe t we mu/ above all h c\rage4 ,human nature is s\nd & m5 & wom5 d1 on ! :ole1 want to d :at is "r4 ,! great impulse ( sex is "p ( our v be+1 & x is n base4 ,passion is ess5tially noble & ^? :o are incapable ( x are ! weak]1 n ! /rong]4 ,if !n we h light to direct our c\rse1 we %all le>n to direct x wisely1 = inde$ ?is is our desire4 ,su* is my cre$4 ,my pray] is = m light4 ,& my desire to take my "p 9 spread+ x4 ,a4 ,,maude ,,royd54 ,april1 #aibb4 ,,preface ,,to ,,?ird ,,engli% ,,edition ,9 ! fir/ editions ( ?is book a c]ta9 passage on our ,"l's humanity 7see p4 #dj7 has1 ,i f9d1 be5 misund]/ood by "s4 ,!y h suppos$ x to imply a sugge/ion t our ,"l 0 n only tempt$ 9 all ?+s l z we are--:i* ,i firmly believe--b t ,he fell--:i* is to me un?9kable4 ,i hope ,i h made ?is p]fectly cle> 9 ! pres5t edition4 ,beyond ?is !re are few alt]ations except ! correction ( "s v abom9able errors ( /yle4 ,! book /ill be>s ! impress ( ! speak] r ?an ! writ]1 & z su* ,i mu/ leave x4 ,) reg>d to ! *apt] call$ ,common-,s5se & ,divorce ,law ,re=m1 :i* n[ has be5 add$ to ?is edition1 ,i wi% to express my indebt$ness to ,dr4 ,jane ,walk] & ! gr\p ( inquir]s ov] :i* %e presid$1 = ! memor&um on ,divorce :i* !y drew up & publi%$ 9 ! ,*all5ge1 ( ,july1 #aiah4 ,i am n 9 complete agreem5t ) _! views on all po9ts1 b read]s ( _! memor&um w easily see :5ce ,i d]iv$ my view z a :ole4 ,a4,m4,r4 ,janu>y1 #aibb4 ,,=eword ,*apt]s ,i4 to ,,vii4 ( ?is book 7 orig9ally giv5 9 ! =m ( addresses1 9 ! ,k5s+ton ,t[n ,hall1 on successive ,sunday ev5+s 9 #aiba4 ,!y 7 tak5 d[n v]batim1 b h be5 revis$ & ev5 to "s ext5t rewritt54 ,i d n l reports 9 pr9t ( ?+s spok51 = speak+ & writ+ are two diff]5t arts1 & :at is "r :5 x is spok5 is almo/ inevitably wrong :5 x is writt54 7,i ref]1 ( c\rse1 to /yle1 n matt]47 ,if ,i _h _h "t1 ,i %\ld h re-%ap$ :at ,i h said1 ?\gh x w\ld h be5 ! mann] only & n ! sub/ance t w\ld h be5 *ang$4 ,?is has be5 impossible1 & ,i c !re=e only expla9 t ! defective =m & ! occasional repetition :i* ! read] _c fail to m>k 7 =c$ ^u me by ! fact t ,i 0 speak+--n writ+--& t ,i felt b\nd to make ea* address1 z f> z possible1 complete & compreh5sible 9 itself4 ,*apt]s ,,viii41 ,,ix41 & ,x4 7 add$ lat] to meet v>i\s difficulties1 que/ions1 or criticisms evok$ by ! addresses :i* =m ! e>li] "p ( ! book4 ,i desire to record my gratitude to ,mr4 & ,mrs4 ,d\glas ,slad51 b = ^: active help & enc\ragem5t ,i %\ld h>dly h proce$$ ) ! book3 to ,miss ,ir5e ,taylor1 :o1 out ( p]sonal fri5d%ip = me1 took d[n1 ,sunday aft] ,sunday1 all t ,i said1 ) an accuracy :i*1 ) a consid]able exp]i5ce ( report]s1 ,i h only once kn[n equall$ & nev] surpass$3 & to my congregation1 ^: que/ions & spee*es dur+ ! discussion t foll[$ ea* address greatly help$ my "w4 ,a4 ,,maude ,,royd54 ,septemb]1 #aiba4 ,,cont5ts ,i4--,,! ,,old ,,problem ,,int5sifi$ ,,by ,,! ,,disproportion ,,( ,,! ,,sexes ,,ii4--,a ,,solution ,,( ,,! ,,problem ,,( ,,! ,,unm>ri$ ,,iii4--,,consid]ation ,,( ,,o!r ,,solutions ,,( ,,! ,,problem ,,( ,,! ,,disproportion ,,( ,,! ,,sexes ,,iv4--,,! ,,true ,,basis ,,( ,,morality ,v4--,,! ,,moral ,,/&>d ,,( ,,! ,,future3 ,,:at ,,%\ld ,,x ,,be8 ,,vi4--,a ,,plea ,,= ,,light ,,vii4--,,fri5d%ip ,,viii4--,,misund]/&+s ,,ix4--,,fur!r ,,misund]/&+s3 ,,! ,,ne$ ,,= ,,sex ,,*ivalry ,x4--,,! ,,s9 ,,( ,,! ,,bridegroom ,,xi4--,,common-,,s5se ,,& ,,divorce ,,law ,,re=m ,i ,,! ,,old ,,problem ,,int5sifi$ ,,by ,,! ,,disproportion ,,( ,,! ,,sexes ,!re has aris5 9 society1 a figure :i* is c]ta9ly ! mo/ m\rnful1 & 9 "s respects ! mo/ awful1 ^u :i* ! eye ( ! morali/ c dwell4 ,t unhappy be+ ^: v "n is a %ame to speak2 :o c\nt]feits ) a cold he>t ! transports ( affection1 & submits h]self z ! passive in/rum5t ( lu/2 :o is scorn$ & insult$ z ! vile/ ( h] sex1 & doom$ = ! mo/ "p to disease & abject wret*$ness & an e>ly dea?1 appe>s 9 e eye z ! p]petual symbol ( ! degradation & s9fulness ( man4 ,h]self ! supreme type ( vice1 %e is ultimately ! mo/ effici5t gu>dian ( virtue4 ,b = h] ! un*all5g$ purity ( c\ntless happy homes w\ld be pollut$1 & n a few :o1 9 ! pride ( _! untempt$ *a/ity1 ?9k ( h] ) an indignant %udd]1 w\ld h kn[n ! agony ( remorse & despair4 ,%e rema9s :ile cre$s & civilisations rise & fall1 ! et]nal prie/ess ( humanity1 bla/$ = ! s9s ( ! p4 ,lecky's ,hi/ory ( ,european ,morals1 ,*ap4 ,v4 ,"o ( ! _m problems :i* h be5 int5sifi$ by ! w> is ! problem ( ! relations ( ! sexes4 ,difficult z x has always be51 ! difficulty inevitably becomes great] :5 !re is a grave disproportion--an excess 9 numb]s ( "o sex ov] ! o!r4 ,& 9 ?is c\ntry1 :]eas !re 0 a disproportion ( some?+ l a million m wom5 ?an m5 be=e ! w> broke out1 !re is n[ a disproportion ( ab\t "o & ?ree-qu>t] millions4 ,?is accid5tal & 7,i believe7 tempor>y difficulty--a difficulty n natural & necess>y to human life1 b artificial & peculi> to c]ta9 conditions :i* may be alt]$--does n1 ( c\rse1 create ! problem we h to deal )3 b x =ces t problem on our att5tion by %e] =ce ( suff]+ inflict$ on s l>ge a scale4 ,x compels u to ask ourselves on :at we base1 & at :at we value ! moral /&>d :i*1 if x is to be pres]v$1 mu/ mean a trem5d\s sacrifice on ! "p ( s l>ge a numb] ( wom5 z is involv$ 9 _! acceptance ( life-long celibacy4 ,!re is no subject on :i* x is m difficult to f9d a common gr\nd ?an ?is4 ,to "s p x seems to be immoral ev5 to ask ! "q--on :at are y\r moral /&>ds bas$8 ,to o!rs :at we call our moral /&>ds are s obvi\sly absurd & unnatural t ! "q has = !m no mean+4 ,& betwe5 ^! extremes !re are s _m v>ieties ( op9ion t "o c take no?+ z g5]ally accept$ by m5 & wom54 ,i want1 !re=e1 to leave aside ! ord9>y conv5tions--n because !y are necess>ily bad1 b because !y are n to my purpose1 :i* is to discov] :e!r !re is a real morality :i* we c ju/ify to ourselves )\t appeal to any au?ority h[ev] great1 or to any tradition h[ev] highly e/eem$3 a morality :i* is bas$ on ! real ne$s1 ! real aspirations ( humanity itself4 ,& ,i beg9 by call+ y\r att5tion to ! morality ( ,jesus ( ,naz>e?1 n because ,he is div9e1 b because ,he 0 a great ma/] ( ! human he>t1 & m ?an o!rs knew :at 0 9 man4 ,y w notice at once ! height ( ,8 morality--! dep? ( ,8 m]cy4 ,he dem&s su* purity ( _s1 su* loyalty ( he>t1 t ! mo/ loyal ( ,8 disciples %rank appall$3 ,:osoev] %all look ^u a woman to lu/ aft] h] ha? committ$ adult]y ) h] already 9 8 he>t4 444 ,:osoev] %all put away 8 wife & m>ry ano!r1 committe? adult]y aga9/ h]4 ,f su* a /&>d ,*ri/'s disciples %rank--,if ! case ( ! man be s ) 8 wife1 x is n good to m>ry4 ,& "o evangeli/ almo/ c]ta9ly ins]t$ 9 ?is absolute prohibition ! exception--,sav+ = ! cause ( =nication--feel+ t ! ,ma/] c\ld n h meant any?+ else4 ,b1 9 fact1 !re is little d\bt t ,jesus did bo? say & mean t m>riage dem&$ lifelong fidelity on ei!r side2 j z ,he really taught t a lu/ful ?\ght 0 adult]y 9 ! sight ( ,god4 ,b if ,*ri/5dom has be5 /agg]$ at ! au/]ity ( ,*ri/'s morality n less has x be5 %ock$ at ! quality ( ,8 m]cy4 ,8 g5tl5ess to ! s5sual s9n] has be5 comp>$1 ) amazem5t1 to ! /]nness ( ,8 attitude to ! s9s ( ! _s4 ,n ! pr(ligate or ! h>lot b ! ,ph>isee & ! scribe 7 ^? :o provok$ ,8 /]ne/ rebukes4 ,& p]haps ! mo/ *>act]i/ic ( all ,8 deal+s ) su* matt]s 0 t incid5t ( ! woman tak5 9 adult]y1 :5 ,he at once reaffirm$ ! ne$ ( absolute *a/ity = m5--dem& undream$ ( by ! woman's accus]s--& put aside ! "r to condemn :i* 9 all t assembly ,he alone c\ld claim--,nei!r d ,i condemn !e2 g1 & s9 no m4 ,hav+ !n 9 m9d ?is mo/ l(ty & compassionate ( morali/s1 let u turn to ! problem ( to-day4 ,"h are ne>ly #b1jjj1jjj wom5 :o1 if ! au/]e dem&s ( fai?ful monogamy are to be obey$1 w nev] "k ! satisfaction ( a c]ta9 physical ne$4 ,n[ x is ! desire ( e normal human be+ to satisfy all 8 in/9cts4 ,& ?is is z true ( wom5 z ( m54 ,:at ,i h to say applies inde$ to _m m5 to-day1 = _m m5 are unable to m>ry because !y h be5 s brok5 by w>--or o!rwise--s %att]$ or maim$ or impov]i%$ t !y d n feel ju/ifi$ 9 m>ry+4 ,b ,i want to emphasize ) all my p[] t ! h>dness ( en=c$ celibacy presses z cruelly on wom5 z on m54 ,wom51 difficult z "s p f9d x to believe1 are human be+s2 & because wom5 are s1 !y want "w1 & int]e/1 & love--bo? giv5 & receiv$--& *ildr51 &1 9 %ort1 ! satisfaction ( e human ne$4 ,! idea t exi/5ce is en\gh = !m--t !y ne$ n "w1 & d n suff] if _! sex in/9cts are repress$ or />v$--is a conv5i5t b mo/ cruel illusion4 ,p (t5 tell me1 & ne>ly always unconsci\sly assume1 t wom5 h no sex hung]--no sex ne$s at all until !y m>ry1 & t ev5 !n _! ne$ is n at all s imp]i\s z m5's1 or s h>d to repress4 ,su* p are ne>ly always ei!r m51 or wom5 :o h m>ri$ "y & happily & borne _m *ildr51 & _h a v full & int]e/+ outside life z well6 ,su* wom5 w assure me ) ! utmo/ complac5cy t ! sex-in/9cts ( a woman are v easily controllable1 & t x is prepo/]\s to speak z if _! repression really co/ v mu*4 ,i ?9k ) bitt]ness ( t age-long repression1 ( its unmeasur$ co/2 ( ! gibe conta9$ 9 ! phrase old maid1 ) all its implication ( a n>r[$ life1 a prudi% m9d1 an acrid tongue1 an embitt]$ disposition4 ,i ?9k ( ! imbecilities 9 :i* ! repress$ in/9ct has s\ght its pitiful baffl$ release1 ( ! adulation lavi%$ on a p>rot1 a cat1 a lap-dog2 or ( ! emotional religion1 ! p>son-wor%ip1 on :i* e fool is clev] en\gh to %>p5 8 wit4 ,& all ^! cramp$ & /ultifi$ lives h n avail$ to make ! _w und]/& t wom5 h _h to pay = _! celibacy6 ,! toad b5ea? ! h>r[ kn[s ,exactly :]e ea* too?-po9t goes4 ,! butt]fly beside ! road ,prea*es cont5tm5t to t toad4 ,mod]n psy*ology is lift+ ! veil to-day f ! suff]+ :i* repression causes4 ,x is a pity t its mo/ brilliant expon5ts %\ld ascribe to a s+le in/9ct--h[ev] pot5t--all ! ills t afflict mank9d1 = su* "o-sid$ness defeats its own object2 b1 at lea/1 ! mod]n psy*ologi/ is try+ to %[ u exactly :]e ea* too?-po9t goes 9 ! repression ( ! sex-in/9ct among wom5 z among m54 ,nor does ! fact t ! tabu ( society has actually 9 _m cases enabl$ a woman to inhibit ! developm5t ( h] own nature1 obviate ! fact t %e does s at great co/1 ev5 :5 %e lea/ und]/&s :at %e does4 ,i affirm ?is1 & ) insi/5ce1 t ! normal--! av]age--woman sacrifices a great deal if %e accepts life-long celibacy4 ,%e sacrifices q z mu* z a man4 ,9 ^? cases--too frequ5t ev5 n[--:]e %e is n educat$ or expect$ to e>n h] own liv+ or to h a c>e]1 ,i ma9ta9 t %e loses m ?an a man :o is expect$ to "w4 ,i d n say1 & ,i d n believe1 t passion 9 a woman is ! same z 9 a man1 or t !y suff] 9 precisely ! same way4 ,i believe inde$ t if m5 & wom5 und]/ood ea* o!r a little bett] !y w\ld hurt ea* o!r a good deal less4 ,b ,i am p]suad$ t we %all n ev5 beg9 to rea* a wise morality s long z we p]si/ 9 bas+ our dem&s on ! imbecile assumption t wom5 suff] no?+ or little by ! unsatisfaction ( ! sex side ( _! nature4 ,i emphasize ?is po9t "h1 because x is involv$ 9 ! pres5t /ate ( affairs4 ,i h rem9d$ y t !re are ne>ly #b1jjj1jjj wom5 ^: lives are to be consid]$4 ,if ! numb] 7 q small1 x might com=tably be assum$ t ! wom5 :o rema9$ unm>ri$ 7 ^? :o1 9 any case1 _h no vocation = m>riage4 ,= x is1 ( c\rse1 true t !re are su* wom51 z !re are su* m54 ,! normal man & woman desire m>riage & p>5?ood1 & are fitt$ = x2 b !re are always exceptions :o ei!r d n desire x1 or1 desir+ x1 feel b\nd to put x aside at ! call ( "s o!r vocation1 :i* !y feel to be supremely !irs1 & :i* is n compatible ) m>riage4 ,!y sacrifice2 b !y d s joyfully1 n = repression1 b = a diff]5t life1 ano!r vocation4 ,& :]e ! numb] ( ! unm>ri$ is small1 x may )\t ess5tial inju/ice be suppos$ t ^! are ! natural celibates4 ,b y _c suppose t ( #b1jjj1jjj6 ,among ! numb] h[ _m are "y wid[s1 girls engag$ to m>ry m5 n[ dead1 & h[ _m ^: natural vocation 0 m>riage1 mo!rhood1 home-mak+1 & all t is meant by su* ?+s z ^!8 ,if ?is be ! normal vocation ( ! normal woman h[ _m ( ^! h be5 depriv$ ( all t seem$ to !m to make life wor? liv+8 ,is x a/oni%+ if !y rebel8 ,if !y det]m9e to snat* at any?+ t yet lies 9 _! grasp8 ,if !y affirm ! "r to mo!rhood :5 !y want *ildr51 or ! satisfaction ( ! sex-in/9ct :5 t ne$ becomes imp]i\s8 ,if we are to say to su* wom5--,! normal life is d5i$ to y1 n by y\r fault1 or because y d n ne$ x1 b because we h un=tunately be5 oblig$ to sacrifice 9 w> ! m5 :o %\ld h be5 y\r mates3 & we n[ invite y 9 ! int]e/s ( morality to accept z y\r lot p]petual virg9ity--x is n difficult to imag9e _! reply3 ,:at is ?is morality 9 ^: int]e/s y ask s huge a sacrifice8 ,is x wor? su* a price8 ,is ! :ole community will+ to pay x1 or is x exact$ f u alone8 ,& on :at1 9 ! end1 is x bas$8 ,! answ] to ?is "q is (t5 giv5 to ! "y1 ev5 be=e ! "q arises2 & x is giv5 9 ! lives ( m5 & wom54 ,! lives ( ^? :o are nobly celibate1 or nobly m>ri$1 are 9 !mselves s mov+ a plea1 t few :o h be5 closely 9 contact ) !m are left unt\*$4 ,x is ! ideal realiz$ t is ! be/ def5ce ( ! ideal4 ,b let u admit t1 too (t51 ! actual m>riage is a v pitiful comm5t on our morality1 & celibacy ei!r a m]e pret5ce or a v mean & p9*$ reality4 ,:at answ] !n %all we give to ! ris+ g5]ation :i* que/ions u--,on :at d y base y\r moral /&>ds8 ,i d n d\bt t ,i am voic+ ! exp]i5ce ( _m if ,i say t :5 ,i fir/ began to ask su* que/ions ,i met fir/ ( all ) extreme horror at su* a "q be+ put at all2 & t1 :5 ,i p]si/$1 ,i f\nd t x 0 almo/ entirely by wom5 t ! co/ 0 to be borne4 ,wom5 7 to con=m /rictly to ! moral /&>d 7^: basis ,i 0 n que/ion+71 b m5 ne$ n &1 g5]ally speak+1 did n4 ,i reason$ t if m5 ne$ n be *a/e !re mu/ exi/ at lea/ a c]ta9 numb] ( wom5 :o c\ld n be s1 & t ?is r$uc$ morality to a f>ce4 ,i soon f\nd t x 0 n a f>ce b a trag$y4 ,^! wom5 7 admitt$ly necess>y b outca/4 ,!y 7 ! safegu>ds ( ! re/4 ,i wi% t m5 w\ld try = a mom5t to put !mselves 9 ! place ( a "y girl :o le>ns = ! fir/ "t t pro/itution is ! safegu>d ( ! virtu\s6 ,i ?9k t !y w\ld nev] aga9 wond] at ! rejection ( su* moral /&>ds by ! ris+ g5]ation ( wom54 ,y w\ld only wond] :y wom5 _h tol]at$ su* a comb9ation ( folly & cruelty s long4 ,y w\ld n ask !m to accept or to suff] = a /&>d l t4 ,aga91 ?is morality = :i* 7x is affirm$7 society is prep>$ to pay s horrible a price--:at is x8 ,a physical condition6 ,a /ate ( body1 :i* any man c de/roy6 an hon\r :i* lies at ! m]cy ( a ruffian6 ,a woman rap$ is a woman di%on\r$4 ,are h] morals !n at ! m]cy ( ano!r p]son8 ,is morality n a /ate ( m9d or ( w1 a spiritual passion = purity1 b a mat]ial1 physical ?+ :i* is only h]s z long z no "o snat*es x f h]8 ,h[ s5seless6 ,h[ false6 ,:5 y ask a woman to-day to make ! great sacrifice 9 ! int]e/s ( morality1 y mu/ (f] h] a morality t is moral--a morality ^: ju/ice & humanity move h] to a response2 n a morality :i* (f5ds e in/9ct ( ju/ice & reality ! mom5t ! p]son to :om x is (f]$ und]/&s :at x means4 ,= :at is ask$ to-day is too (t5 t wom5 %\ld sacrifice !mselves = ! conv5i5ce ( o!r p--( a hypocritical society :i* prea*es a morality z s5seless z x is base4 ,:5 old] p tell me t ! "y seem to h no morals at all1 ,i ask myself :e!r ! repudiation ( mu* t has be5 call$ morality 0 n1 aft] all1 a necessity1 if we are to advance at all4 ,:5 ,i reflect on1 = example1 ,lecky's ,hi/ory ( ,european ,morals1 & rememb] t x 0 n a pr(ligate or a h$oni/1 b an hon\rable & respectable memb] ( a civiliz$ society1 :o proclaim$ ! pro/itute ! high prie/ess ( humanity--! protectress ( ! purity ( a ?\s& homes,a--,i am prep>$ to say t to h no morals at all is bett] ?an to accept su* infamy & call x morals2 z x is bett] to be an agno/ic or an a!i/ ?an to wor%ip a devil--to h no /&>d ?an to say3 ,evil be ?\ my good4 ,footnote ,a3 ,lecky's ,hi/ory ( ,european ,morals4 ,*ap4 ,v4 ,& ,i believe t ! t5d5cy to reject all moral /&>ds is l>gely due to ! refusal ( an old] g5]ation to exam9e & to ju/ify its own /&>d4 ,to refuse to discuss or def5d x--to affirm t x is beyond debate & n to be que/ion$ )\t depravity is m]ely to produce ! impression t x is beyond def5ce & impossible to ju/ify4 ,x is n surpris+ t p beg9 to say3 ,let u eat & dr9k1 = to-morr[ we die4 ,let u exp]i5ce all we desire4 ,let u act l ! normal heal?y creatures t we are4 ,let u ignore ! flimsy b>ri]s a corrupt & imbecile moral code w\ld erect betwe5 u & :at we desire4 ,t is ! po9t ( view ( _m m5 & wom5 to-day4 ,t is :at ! abs5ce ( a j & reason$ moral code has l$ to4 ,& ,i am prep>$1 9 spite ( all prote/s1 to affirm t x is n a /ep backw>d1 b =w>d2 t promiscuity is n z vile z pro/itution--a pro/itution :i* has be5 accept$1 :i* has be5 def5d$ by ,*ri/ian p6 ,x is less horrible = a human be+ to h ! morals ( an animal ?an ! morals ( a devil4 ,we h to beg9 by reject+ ! morality ( fi5ds1 & we beg91 ev5 if ! imm$iate effect is m t]rify+ to ! morali/ ?an ! old hidd5-up devilry t l5t itself to an easi] disguise4 ,s ,i believe4 ,& s ! pres5t *aos1 ?\gh x has its elem5ts ( anxiety & its obvi\s dang]s1 leaves me unafraid4 ,i am utt]ly p]suad$ t we %all w9 ?r\gh to solid gr\nd4 ,i believe t ! long grop+ ( humanity aft] a sex-relation%ip :i* %all be /able1 equal1 passionate1 discipl9$1 pure1 is ! grop+ ( a "r in/9ct1 ! hung] ( a real ne$2 & t we mu/--we %all--f9d its answ]4 ,) _m failures1 ) _m reactions1 x c1 ,i ?9k1 be se51 z hi/ory unrolls its record & civilizations rise & fall1 t ! movem5t ( humanity has be5 t[>ds a m /able1 a m responsible1 a m discipl9$1 b n less passionate =m ( relation%ip betwe5 m5 & wom54 ,let u n =get t great & pregnant fact :5 we reject ! immoral argum5ts1 ! cruelties & inju/ices1 ) :i* society has s\ght ei!r to ju/ify its ideals or to conceal its horrible failures4 ,= if we c ?us di/+ui%1 & g =w>d1 ?is g5]ation w n h suff]$ 9 va94 ,x w1 on ! contr>y1 make ( its suff]+ ! spur :i* %all =ce u all onw>d & upw>d4 ,x w by its c\rage & its hone/y give to ! _w a tru] & a nobl] moral /&>d ?an ! _w has ev] accept$ yet4 ,,ii ,a ,,solution ,,( ,,! ,,problem ,,( ,,! ,,unm>ri$ ,jesus said1 ! foxes h holes1 & ! birds ( ! air h ne/s1 b ! ,son ( ,man ha? n :]e to lay 8 head4 7,/4 ,luke ix4 #eh47 ,9 ! la/ *apt] ,i tri$ to deal ) ! actual problem creat$ 9 ?is c\ntry by ! disproportion ( ! sexes--! fact t !re are1 r\ghly1 "o & ?ree-qu>t]s to two million m wom5 ?an m5 9 ?is c\ntry2 & ,i 0 oblig$ to conf9e myself simply to /at+ ! problem1 :i*1 to my m9d1 is v greatly int5sifi$ by ! fact1 g5]ally ignor$1 t ! sex ne$s ( a woman are j z imp]ative1 _! suppression j z h>d to be>1 z a man's2 t woman is fully z human z man1 & t p>5?ood & lov]hood & all t ! satisfaction ( ! sex in/9ct means to him1 x means also to h]4 ,i d n affirm t ! difficulty ( self-control or ! suff]+ ( ab/95ce pres5ts itself to m5 & wom5 9 j ! same way2 ,i am sure x does n4 ,i d n "u-e/imate ! diff]5ce4 ,b ,i d emphasize ! fact t1 z f> z ,i am able to judge1 ! suff]+ is equal1 al?\gh x is diff]5t 9 "*4 ,!re=e1 ! d5ial ( m>riage to a v l>ge numb] ( wom5 means t1 al?\gh "s wom51 l "s m51 are naturally celibate1 :5 s great a numb] ( wom5 are d5i$ ! possibility ( m>riage1 we mu/ take x = grant$ t among !m ! av]age w n be natural celibates1 b wom5 :o suff] a v great loss if !y d n m>ry4 ,n[ ,i want to add t ?is disproportion ( ! sexes is q artificial1 &1 !re=e1 %\ld be tempor>y4 ,f "s ( ! lett]s ,i h receiv$ ,i ga!r t p imag9e t !re has always be5 a v mu* l>g] numb] ( wom5 ?an m51 & n only 9 ?is c\ntry1 b ?r\gh\t ! _w2 & t1 !re=e1 we ought to %ape our cu/oms & our moral /&>ds ) ?is disproportion 9 m9d z a p]man5t fact4 ,i want to po9t out t ?is is n ! case4 ,! causes ( ! pres5t excess ( wom5 ov] m5 9 ?is c\ntry are q artificial4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 !re are m boys born 9 ?is c\ntry ?an girls--ab\t #ajg to #ajj is ! ratio--b ! boys die 9 v mu* l>g] numb]s dur+ ! fir/ twelve mon?s ( _! life1 because !y are m difficult to re> 9 bad conditions4 ,b bad conditions are n inevitable6 ,^! babies die f prev5table causes4 ,x is n )9 ! ,provid5ce ( ,god t ^! *ildr5 mu/ die1 nor is x a necessity ( human nature4 ,x is due to prev5table causes1 & is1 !re=e1 z ,i say1 artificial4 ,aga91 we h a v l>ge empire1 /ret*+ out to ! remot] p>ts ( ! _w1 & to t empire m5 g out 9 v mu* l>g] numb]s ?an wom51 s t ! disproportion "h is1 9 "p1 ! rev]se side ( ! disproportion 9 ! great ,ov]seas ,dom9ions1 :]e !re are m m5 ?an wom54 ,b t1 too1 is a purely artificial & tempor>y /ate ( ?+s1 :i* has no?+ to d ) ! fundam5tal conditions ( human society4 ,f9ally1 ( c\rse1 !re is ! w>1 :i* aga9 creates an artificial /ate ( affairs1 by kill+ enorm\s numb]s ( "y m51 j at ! age--betwe5 tw5ty & =ty or =ty-five--:5 !y %\ld be gr[+ into manhood1 & becom+ husb&s & fa!rs4 ,t aga9 is artificial4 ,! reason :y ,i emphasize ?is is because ,i feel v /rongly t we mu/ n remodel our :ole society1 & recreate our moral /&>ds1 to meet a pass+ & an artificial /ate ( affairs4 ,t is my answ] to ^? :o seem to ?9k ! solution ( all our difficulties is to be f\nd 9 ! adoption ( polygamy4 ,n[ polygamy is a p]fectly respectable in/itution 9 a l>ge numb] ( c\ntries4 ,x is q an old idea4 ,x has n occurr$ to p = ! fir/ "t betwe5 la/ ,sunday & to-day4 ,x has be5 discuss$ 9 ! ,sunday newspap]s1 :i* are ! mo/ widely read ( any pap]s issu$ by ! press4 ,my answ] to x is t su* an exp$i5t w\ld be j an in/ance ( ?is remodell+ ( y\r :ole moral /&>d to meet an entirely artificial /ate ( affairs4 ,polygamy is n possible & nev] has be5 possible on a great scale1 because 9 h>dly any c\ntry1 c]ta9ly n 9 ! _w z a :ole1 is !re a great disproportion ( ! sexes "u ord9>y circum/ances4 ,! idea mo/ p appe> to h ab\t x is t 9 "s p>ts ( ! _w1 l ,india & ,*9a1 e man is bless$ ) ?ree or f\r wives4 ,x is a p]fectly fanta/ic picture4 ,! balance ( ! sexes--on ! :ole--is equal4 ,x is1 !re=e1 a physical impossibility = polygamy to be a univ]sal cu/om4 ,x _c be practis$1 & has nev] be5 practis$1 except among ! ri*--a small class always4 ,n[ t surely makes x obvi\s t x is n a real solution4 ,x might meet a tempor>y difficulty2 b is x reasonable1 is x /atesmanlike1 to alt] our entire moral /&>d m]ely to tide ov] a tempor>y difficulty2 to meet a /ate ( affairs :i* is purely artificial8 ,i ?9k t morals g deep]1 & %\ld be bas$ on "s fundam5tal ne$1 r ?an on a purely artificial ne$ creat$ by a pass+ difficulty1 h[ev] great t difficulty may be at ! "t4 ,i d n1 !re=e1 wi% to dwell on o!r bett] b tempor>y solutions1 su* z emigration4 ,i d ?9k t ?is is a solution :i* w\ld ease ! situation to "s ext5t1 & 9 a normal & "r way1 because ! disproportion 9 ! ,ov]seas ,dom9ions1 :]e ! balance is ! o!r way1 & !re are m m5 ?an wom51 is e :it z un:olesome & z disa/r\s z is ! disproportion ( wom5 9 ?is c\ntry4 ,consequ5tly1 f ! po9t ( view ( bo? m5 & wom51 ,i ?9k t emigration is a ?+ t ought to be consid]$ & help$ =w>d v mu* m ?an x is2 b !re1 aga91 ?is is only a tempor>y solution4 ,we are try+ to arrive at "s moral position :i* is bas$ on ! p]man5t ne$s & ! real nature ( human be+s4 ,x has become almo/ a habit ) me to feel t ! real solution ( e problem c be f\nd1 by ^? p :o are hurt by x1 if !y w take hold ( life :]e x hurts1 & f9d out1 n h[ !y !mselves c escape f t hurt1 b h[ !y c prev5t t hurt f becom+ a p]man5t factor 9 ! lives ( _! bro!rs & si/]s4 ,n[1 ! po9t at :i* ?is problem hurts _m ( u lies 9 ?is1 t wom5 h be5 taught1 by a curi\s p>adox1 fir/ ( all t !y ought n to h any sexual feel+1 any hung]1 any appetite at all on t side ( _! natures2 & secondly1 t !y exi/ solely to meet t p>ticul> physical ne$ 9 m54 ,! idea t woman 0 creat$1 n l man1 = ! glory ( ,god1 b = ! conv5i5ce ( man1 has greatly embitt]$ & poison$ public op9ion on ?is subject4 ,wom5 are taught1 almo/ f ! mom5t !y come into ! _w1 t _! *ief end 9 exi/5ce is to be1 9 "s way or o!r1 a helpmeet = man4 ,i rememb]1 9 ! e>ly days ( ! ,suffrage /ruggle1 he>+ p1 & wom5 q z (t5 z m5--m (t5 ,i ?9k--urg+ c]ta9 rights & pr9ciples = wom51 on ! gr\nd t !y 7 meant to be ! helpmeets ( man4 ,!y us$ to quote ! e>li] *apt]s ( ! ,book ( ,g5esis to %[ t wom5 7 creat$ = t purpose2 & x 0 consid]$ a v l(ty k9d ( appeal4 ,i ?9k x nev] fail$ to evoke ! applause ( ^? :om y w =give my call+ a little s5tim5tal4 ,i d n ?9k x ev] fail$ to ar\se 9 myself a deep s5se ( res5tm5t4 ,! writ] ( ! fir/ *apt] ( ! ,book ( ,g5esis speaks ( humanity z be+ creat$ 9 ! image & lik5ess ( ,god1 male & female creat$ ,he !m2 !re is no sugge/ion "h t "o sex 0 simply to be ! s]vant ( ! o!r4 ,t occurs 9 ! second *apt]4 ,! idea is p]si/5t2 x is1 ( c\rse1 mu* old] ?an ! ,old ,te/am5t4 ,& x p]si/s "r into ! ,new ,te/am5t1 :]e y he> a man ( ! intellectual & spiritual calibre ( ,/4 ,paul affirm t man 0 made = ,god1 b woman 0 made = man4 ,d[n ! ages ?is message has come1 & wom5 h be5 taught to consid] !mselves1 & m5 to consid] !m1 z prim>ily in/rum5ts ( sex1 ( m>riage & mo!rhood1 or ( o!r =ms ( s]v+ m5's ne$s4 ,y d n f9d t feel+ 9 ,*ri/'s attitude t[>ds wom54 ,:5 p speak z ?\gh x 7 "o ( ! weaknesses ( ,*ri/ianity t x appeals1 or seems to appeal1 m to wom5 ?an to m51 ,i ask y to believe t sometimes consci\sly1 (t5 q unconsci\sly1 wom5 respond ) passionate gratitude to ,*ri/1 because ( ,8 sublime tea*+ t e human s\l 0 made = ,god1 & t no "p or section ( society1 no race1 no class1 & no sex1 0 made = ! conv5i5ce ( ano!r4 ,i want !n to combat ) all my p[] ?is anci5t b un-,*ri/like belief t wom5 miss _! object 9 life if !y are n wives & mo!rs4 ,x may seem some?+ ( a contradiction t ,i %\ld 9 a previ\s *apt] s h emphasiz$ ! ne$ ( wom5 = ! satisfaction ( _! sexual nature1 & n[ be argu+ t we mu/ n assume t !y h no "r to exi/ if !y d n meet ?is p>ticul> satisfaction2 b ,i ?9k y w realize t x is n a p>adox :5 ,i ask y to consid] = a mom5t :at y\r attitude to m5 on ?is subject is4 ,_m p hold t a man's passions are a trem5d\s factor 9 8 exi/5ce1 s /rong t he mu/ always be =giv5 if he _c control !m2 s /rong t1 on ! :ole1 x is h>dly to be expect$ t he %\ld control !m4 ,b yet1 if a man does n m>ry1 or if !re are m m5 ?an wom5 9 a c]ta9 c\ntry--z1 = in/ance1 9 ,au/ralia1 or ,we/]n ,canada to-day--nobody speaks ( ^? m5 z ?\gh !y 7 sup]flu\s1 z ?\gh !y _h ceas$ to h any real object = exi/5ce4 ,p w realize t x is a h>d%ip--a v great h>d%ip--9 _! lives2 !y w be apt to excuse !m = tak+ :at !y c get if !y _c get ev]y?+2 b no human be+ talks ( ! sup]flu\s m5 9 any ( our great ,dom9ions4 ,p always realize t a man has a human value1 & t1 h[ev] great ! urg5cy ( ! sex side ( him1 he /ill is a human be+1 he /ill has 8 value 9 ! _w1 ev5 suppos+ t he %\ld live & die celibate4 ,if y w try to put y\r m9d into t attitude t[>ds wom51 y w1 ,i ?9k1 see t x is n a p>adox to say t a woman may & does suff] if %e does n fulfil ! :ole ( h] nature1 & yet t x is a mon/r\s fallacy to affirm t1 because ( t1 %e ceases to h any reason = exi/5ce2 t %e is a futile life1 a p]son :o does n really c\nt4 ,sex is a great & a mighty p[]1 b x is some?+ m ?an ! m]e satisfaction ( a physical ne$4 ,x is "p ( ! great rhy?m ( life1 runn+ ?r\gh all ! high] creation2 x is ! in/9ct to create1 go+ =? 9 ! p[] ( love1 prov+ to u day by day t only love c create1 br++ u ne>] to ! ,div9e ,p[]1 ,:o is ,love1 & ,:o creat$ ! heav5 & ! e>?4 ,9 spite ( our horrible ?\ghts ab\t sex1 our hide\s s9s aga9/ x1 ,i d n ?9k t 9 any?+ ,god has made man m 9 ,8 image & lik5ess ?an :5 ,he gave him ! p[]1 ?r\gh love1 to create life4 ,t is a p[] t makes u ak9 to ,god ,himself1 & ! in/9ct ( sex is n a grimy secret betwe5 two r %am$ human be+s1 b a great impulse ( life & love--yes1 ev51 at ! height ( x1 an in/9ct to sacrifice 9 ord] t life may come into ! _w2 x is a great bond ( union betwe5 human be+s2 x is ! secret ( exi/5ce1 ! secret ( ! mean+ ( life2 t :i* is to ! nature ( man l ! s5se ( music to ! musician1 ( beauty to ! arti/1 ( insight to ! poet4 ,a man may h no e> = music1 & yet be a good & noble man2 b :o w d5y t he lacks some?+ because he has x n8 ,a man may h no s5se ( beauty1 b he is n1 !re=e1 a deprav$1 immoral p]son2 yet does he n /& outside "s ( ! great secrets ( life8 ,s1 :5 ?is /ill deep] in/9ct ( creative love is n y\rs1 d n congratulate y\rselves1 or pride y\rselves t y h nev] felt x4 ,= x means t y /& outside ! great communion ( ! life ( ! _w2 x means t = y "s ( ! music ( ! univ]se is dumb1 & "s ( ! beauty ( ! univ]se d>k4 ,yet h[ long h wom5 be5 taught t ?is div9e impulse ( creation is some?+ base6 ,base ev5 9 a man1 belong+ to 8 l[] nature2 /ill m deplorable 9 a woman1 a ?+ to be a%am$ (1 a ?+ to cru% d[n & suppress1 a ?+ y w\ld n confess to y\r ne>e/ fri5ds1 or discuss ) y\r physician4 ,to speak ( x ev5 to y\r own "m w\ld be to be met ) ! av]t$ look & ^w ( disapproval4 ,if1 z a consequ5ce ( ?is1 wom5 h inhibit$ _! own nature1 s t _m wom5 h creat$ 9 _! m9ds a k9d ( tone-deafness1 a col\r-bl9dness to ?is side ( life1 does t n seem to y a trag$y8 ,to h s great & wond]ful a ?+ 9 y\r nature & to suppress x z ?\gh x 7 some?+ %ameful & weak8 ,d y wond] if ! t]m old maid has become synonym = ev]y?+ t is n>r[1 & h>d1 & prudi% & repressive8 ,d y wond] t ! girls ( ?is g5]ation1 confront$ ) ! *oice betwe5 su* an attitude t[>ds life z t1 & its opposite--will+ness to give oneself to anyone1 to take all t "o c get1 because life refuses s mu* t "o _h hop$ =--d y wond] t !y (t5 *oose ! second alt]native8 ,does x seem to y s a/oni%+ t girls1 :o ?9k m ?an !y us$ to1 :o feel t !re is no?+ to be a%am$ ( 9 ! div9e impulse ( _! creative womanhood1 %\ld r take :at !y c get ?an accept t cruel1 cramp$ attitude ( %e] repression :i* has be5 all too (t5 _! only *oice 9 ! pa/8 ,is x really fair to say to !m t _! moral /&>ds are go+ d[n1 t !y h no s5se n[ ( morality or self-respect8 ,i tell y t if "o has to make a *oice betwe5 ! suppression ( "o half--& t s beautiful a half--( human nature1 & its degradation1 ,i w\ld n sit 9 judgm5t on ^? :o *ose ei!r way4 ,b !re is ano!r possibility4 ,y c repress1 & ,god kn[s h[ _m boys & "y m51 h[ _m "y wom5 & girls h /ruggl$ to d s1 & are try+ to d s to-day1 ) a s5se always ( guilt & %ame 9 _! m9ds1 lay+ up m5tal difficulties = !mselves1 ! psy*ologi/s tell u1 by ?is repression4 ,y "k ! type2 y "k ! k9d ( p]son :o becomes h>d & n>r[ & uncompreh5d+4 ,t is "o type4 ,y c read x 9 _! faces4 ,! p9*$ look1 ! cramp$ m5tality reflects itself 9 ! body & 9 ! face4 ,& !n !re is ! o!r type1 ^? :o h reject$ ?is attitude t[>ds life1 d5y+ t !re is any?+ to be a%am$ ( 9 ! natural impulse ( _! sex1 or cause = regret if !y give re9 to t ^: repression does s mu* h>m1 :o frankly fl+ away ! idea ( self-control1 because repression has seem$ su* a disa/r\s me?od ( self-control4 ,y c see x 9 _! faces also2 9 ! gradual demoralization ( _! nature4 ,! rake on "o h&1 ! prude on ! o!r1 repres5t ! ultimate consequ5ce ( ! process ,i am try+ to describe4 ,_m p h m>k$ on _! s\ls1 if n on _! faces1 "o or o!r ( ^! ways ( life4 ,!y h n1 p]haps1 gone f>1 !y may h gone b a little way 9 "o direction or ! o!r2 b ! m>k on ! s\l rema9s all ! same4 ,& :5 y see ! extreme result1 ! prude on "o side1 ! rake on ! o!r1 d y n beg9 to desire a bett] way8 ,to ask y\rself :e!r !re is n a ?ird *oice be=e y8 ,i believe !re is2 & ! *oice is ?is3 ,x is nei!r ! repression nor ! degradation1 b trans=mation ( ! sex side ( our nature4 ,i w take z ! supreme example ( t trans=mation ! figure ( ,*ri/ ,himself--,*ri/ :o _h nei!r wife nor *ild--,/4 ,francis ( ,assisi1 ,/4 ,ca!r9e ( ,si5a1 ,/4 ,!resa ( ,spa94 ,f\r ( ! greate/ figures--,"o ( !m supreme--:o 7 n natural celibates 9 ! s5se t implies t !y did n h surg+ ?r\gh !m ! div9e impulse ( creative love2 = ^! are ! greate/ lov]s ! _w has ev] se51 & comp>$ ) !irs ev5 ! great love ( "o man = "o woman1 "o woman = "o man1 is ! less] ?+4 ,b ^! great figures 9 human hi/ory are ^? on ^: he>ts ,humanity itself made su* a claim t x became impossible = !m to give to "o :at 0 claim$ by all ! _w4 ,y w see t ?is is n a d5ial ( creative love1 = no "o 9 ! _w has s lov$ ! _w z ^!4 ,!y are ! beacons ( humanity 9 ?is matt] ( love1 & h[ are !y1 %all we say1 h[ are !y n fa!rs & mo!rs1 ^: spiritual *ildr5 are all ov] ! _w8 ,h !y n born into ! _w ) travail ( s\l1 ! s\ls ( m5 & wom58 ,^! great ,lov]s ( ,humanity 7 n lack+ 9 passion2 _h !y be5 !y c\ld n h mov$ ! _w2 b _! passion 0 transmut$ to ! s]vice ( ,humanity itself1 = no?+ else 0 great or wide en\gh = su* a love4 ,does anyone suppose t x 0 a m]e in/9ct ( asceticism t drove ,/4 ,francis to make out ( sn[1 cold images ( wife & *ild8 ,0 x n r ! sudd5 resurg5t desire ( ! greate/ ( ! sa9ts = "s m humanly w>m affection1 some?+ m individual1 some?+ t ne/les m closely to ! he>t1 ?an ?is great s]vice ( ,humanity8 ,& 9 a savage irony he mocks 8 pa94 ,!re are ?y *ildr51 !re is ?y wife1 says ,/4 ,francis1 & 8 cry is n ! answ] ( ! _s to a lu/ful temptation3 x 0 ! cry ( a lonely human he>t = ! human happ9ess ( wife & *ildr5 & home4 ,aye1 & ,i w\ld claim t ,our ,"l ,himself _h ?is desire4 ,= ,i _c d\bt t 9 t glori\s "y manhood ( ,81 s full ( p[] & sympa?y & love1 ?is agony ( long+ sometimes swept ov] ,him4 ,he ^: vitality & p[] 7 su* t ,he h>dly knew fatigue1 :o 0 s close a fri5d1 s mu* lov$ & s\ght by wom51 s t5d] to little *ildr51 s "y1 s /rong--is x n c]ta9 t ,he 0 inde$ tempt$ 9 all ?+s l z we are8 ,h[ c\ld "o s physically vital1 s humanly & div9ely full ( love1 escape ! conflict8 ,t ,he conqu]$ we "k2 t ,he suff]$ we _c d\bt4 ,all ,8 p]fect humanity speaks to u 9 t lonely cry3 ,! foxes h holes1 & ! birds ( ! air h ne/s1 b ! ,son ( ,man ha? n :]e to lay ,8 head4 ,d n dream1 ^? ( y :o may h to /ruggle ) y\r own nature1 d n dream t ,*ri/ has n be5 !re ) y1 t ,he _h no?+ to feel or to suff]4 ,h[ w\ld ,he h develop$ t spiritual p[]1 h[ w\ld ,he h become s great a ,lov] ( ! _w if ,he knew no?+ ( t side ( life8 ,b ,he1 & ,8 greate/ foll[]s--,/4 ,francis ( ,assisi1 ,/4 ,ca!r9e & ,/4 ,!resa1 & c\ntless o!rs :o h foll[$ !m--le>n$ to transmute t great creative =ce1 disda9$ bo? *oices :i* ,i set be=e y1 f9d+ a nobl] & m glori\s way4 ,^! w\ld nei!r repress ?is great impulse1 nor dissipate x1 b s us$ x = ! s]vice ( man t !re is 9 all ! hi/ory ( man no life m ri*1 m human1 m full ( love1 m full ( creation1 or m full ( p[]1 ?an ! lives ( ^! celibate m5 & wom51 :o le>n$ f ,*ri/ h[ !y c\ld live & love4 ,x is n easy = m5 & wom5 ?is way1 b x is possible4 ,x is possible1 & x is glori\s2 &1 9 its degree1 ! ne$ = x comes to ev]yone4 ,d n imag9e t x is n ne$$ 9 m>riage z well z out ( m>riage4 ,e m>ri$ lov] w tell y t if 8 love is to rema9 :at x 0 9 ! beg9n+--if x is r to gr[ 9 p[] & beauty--he also mu/ be able gradually to transmute 8 love 9 su* a way t ! _s dom9ates ! fle% m & m1 & t ! physical side ( m>riage becomes simply an expression ( ! love ( ! _s1 ! p]fect f9al expression1 ! sacram5t ( love4 ,d n imag9e t ?is is n ne$$1 ?is ef=t1 & ?is p[]1 by e human be+ :o desires to be human 9 8 love1 & n some?+ less ?an human4 ,& to ^? to :om ! ne$ comes 9 its /]ne/ =m1 ,i w n pret5d = a mom5t t x is n h>d4 ,nay1 ,i w prophesy to y t if y d s *oose to s]ve ! _w1 x w to all ( y sometimes seem too h>d4 ,) ,*ri/1 ) ,/4 ,francis1 y\r human nature w sometimes ass]t itself4 ,! foxes h holes1 & ! birds ( ! air h ne/s1 b ! ,son ( ,man--! ,s]vant ( ,humanity--has no su* joy4 ,b ( :atev] life y *oose1 t is sometimes true4 ,to ! f9e/ _s 9 m>riage !re comes sometimes ! ?\ght t1 b = ?is great claim1 he might h und]tak5 "s adv5ture1 might h answ]$ "s call1 :i* n[ he _c answ]4 ,does t mean t he regrets 8 *oice8 ,no1 n = a mom5t6 ,x only means t human nature is s ri* & s v>i$ t :atev] life y =ego w sometimes seem to y ! bett] *oice4 ,y w ?9k1 = a mom5t1 t y might h *os5 diff]5tly4 ,if t happ5$ to ,/4 ,francis1 believe me1 x w happ5 to y4 ,b yet1 is x n a h]oic pa? t ,i po9t out to y8 ,is x n possible t to ?is g5]ation h]oism may be possible 9 su* a way1 on su* a scale1 t y w leave ?is _w nobl] 9 moral /ature because ( ! h>dness :i* y endur$1 ! *oice t y made8 ,wom51 to :om ?is comes home specially at ?is "t1 may x n be t y1 by tak+ ?is way1 w become ! mo!rs 9 _s ( wom5 9 a happi] g5]ation1 on :om w nev] aga9 be impos$ our cramp$1 /ifl+1 sub-human conception ( :at wom5 ought to be8 ,y w %[ to ! _w n only t ! individual woman ( g5ius may h a value to ,humanity beyond h] sex1 b t e woman has t value4 ,9 solv+ y\r own problem1 & tak+ hold ( life :]e mo/ x hurts y1 y w end by mak+ a moral /&>d nobl]1 a humanity ri*] & m human1 a womanhood fre]1 great]1 m ,*ri/like ?an x 04 ,& future g5]ations %all rise up & call y bless$4 ,,iii ,,consid]ation ,,( ,,o!r ,,solutions ,,( ,,! ,,problem ,,( ,,! ,,disproportion ,,( ,,! ,,sexes ,my _s's b>k is driv5 ,f> f ! %ore1 f> f ! trembl+ ?rong ,^: sails 7 nev] to ! tempe/ giv54 ,%elley3 ,adonais4 ,let u n[ move away f t aspect ( ! moral problem :i* has conc]n$ u hi!rto--t ( ! difficulties creat$ by ! disproportion ( ! sexes at ?is "t & 9 ?is c\ntry--& consid] ! problem z x pres5ts itself "u m normal conditions4 ,= ev5 9 ages & 9 c\ntries :]e !re are an equal numb] ( m5 & wom5 !re are difficulties 9 _! relations ) "o ano!r1 & a moral problem4 ,p ask1 = example1 :e!r sex-relation%ips %\ld be gov]n$ by law at all2 :e!r !y %\ld cont9ue 9 any giv5 case :5 passion has di$1 or :5 love 7:i* is m ?an passion7 has gone4 ,%\ld love ev] be o!r ?an p]fectly free1 & is n ! attempt to b9d x ess5tially immoral8 ,%\ld x ev] be exclusive or propriet>y8 ,is n ! moral problem really creat$1 n by human nature1 b by ! attempt to b9d :at _c be b\nd & to co]ce :at %\ld be free8 ,! answ] giv5 to su* que/ions is (t5 to-day on ! side ( :at is call$1 mi/ak5ly1 ,i ?9k1 free love4 ,& 9 consid]+ ?is answ]1 ,i want to rem9d y t x is (t5 giv5 by p :o are mo/ s9c]e1 mo/ ideali/ic1 9 _! own lives & 9 _! own love4 ,inde$ x has (t5 be5 po9t$ out t x is at times ( great spiritual exaltation & f]v\r t ! cult ( free love is mo/ likely to f9d adh]5ts4 ,! great pr9ciple t love is ! fulfill+ ( ! law is held ) a f]v\r :i* makes any "q z to :at love is1 & h[ mu* x involves1 seem half-he>t$ & cold4 ,^? :o prea* ?is doctr9e rem9d u--& v ju/ly--( ! weakness & ins9c]ity ( ! or?odox moral /&>d1 :e!r x is en=c$ by law or by cu/om4 ,!y revolt aga9/ ! propriet>y & possessive view ( m>riage z giv+ a woman a hold ov] h] husb& :5 he has gr[n tir$ ( h]1 or z ju/ify+ a man 9 en=c+ ^u 8 wife ! rights :i* only love makes "r1 :5 %e has gr[n tir$ ( him4 ,i appeal1 !re=e1 to ^? to :om ! dispassionate discussion ( free love seems q outrage\s1 to rememb] t !re are ^? to :om ?is tea*+ is n a m]e excuse = lic5ce1 b an attempt to rea* some?+ loveli] & nobl] ?an ! pres5t moral code1 ^: failures & ins9c]ities no ?9k+ p]son c ignore4 ,9 consid]+ ?is view1 ,i want fir/ to po9t out t al?\gh to h no legal or en=ceable tie 9 sex-relation%ips seems on ! surface mu* ! simple/ & easie/ way to arrange life1 al?\gh p]man5t monogam\s m>riage is exce$+ly difficult & inconv5i5t1 yet ! movem5t ( humanity does seem to h be5 on ! :ole 9 t direction4 ,x is1 ( c\rse1 untrue to say t among primitive peoples !re is any?+ t c fairly be call$ promiscuity4 ,hi/orians & an?ropologi/s h taught u t among all peoples1 h[ev] b>b>\s1 !re are conv5tions1 sanctions1 tabus1 by :i* ! relations ( m5 & wom5 are regulat$4 ,! cu/oms ( su* p may seem to u m]e lic5ce2 b !y are n s4 ,& "s ( ! cu/oms ( m civiliz$ c\ntries are at lea/ z horrify+ to ! savage z 8 c be to u4 ,nev]!less1 x is true to say t z civilization advances1 & especially :]e ! position ( wom5 improves1 ! movem5t has be5 t[>ds a m /able & exclusive =m ( m>riage4 ,we grope unc]ta9ly t[>ds x3 we fail atroci\sly4 ,yet we d n ab&on an ideal :i* asks s mu* ( human nature t human nature is cont9ually invok$ to prove its impossibility4 ,:y h we p]si/$8 ,x is idle to speak ( monogamy z ?\gh x 7 a s5seless rule impos$ on un=tunate humanity by "s all-p[]ful ,sup]man4 ,we h impos$ x on ourselves4 ,x is our do+4 ,:y h we done x8 ,surely because1 9 spite ( its alleg$ impossibility1 its obvi\s inconv5i5ces1 !re is "s ne$ 9 human nature :i* dem&s a p]man5t & a /able sex relation%ip to meet x4 ,i believe t !re is some?+ 9 our human nature :i* desires /ability 9 its relations ) o!r human be+s4 ,x is p]haps a recognition ( ! fact t1 ?\gh we live 9 "t & suff] its conditions1 we are immortal also & *afe "u too /rict a bondage to "t4 ,our relations ) o!r human be+s ought n to be evanesc5t6 ,!re is some?+ *eap & %oddy 9 ! giv+ & tak+ ( human p]sonality on su* easy soon-=gott5 t]ms4 ,x is n only 9 sexual relations t ?is is true4 ,x is true ( all human int]c\rse4 ,! long] c>e & devotion ( human p>5ts = _! (fspr+ is n a physical only1 b a spiritual necessity3 & x is b\nd up ) ! great] fai?fulness ( human lov]s4 ,9 p>5?ood1 9 lov]hood1 9 fri5d%ip1 ^? :o take _! obligations lightly are n ! f9] sort ( m5 & wom51 b ! slight]1 *eap] make4 ,x is n a love ( fre$om b a c]ta9 inf]iority & %odd9ess t makes x possible = u to give ourselves1 & take o!rs1 lightly4 ,= 9 all human relation%ips x is ourselves t we give & take4 ,x is n :at y\r fri5d does = y or gives to y t makes him y\r fri5d2 b :at he is to y4 ,x is 8 p]sonality t y h %>$4 ,& s !re is some?+ r repulsive 9 quickly =gett+ or ?r[+ x away4 ,p :o make fri5ds & lose !m z ! trees put out _! leaves 9 spr+ to %$ !m 9 ! autumn1 are n q human4 ,! capacity to make fri5ds--to make _m fri5ds--is a great p[]3 ! capacity to lose !m n s admirable4 ,yet !re are p :o always h a bosom-fri5d1 e "t y meet !m2 only x is nev] ! same fri5d4 ,& ?is is a poor sort ( fri5d%ip1 = x is poor to give & take s little t y easily cease or =get to give at all4 ,if ?is is true ( fri5ds1 x is n less true ( lov]s3 x is m true4 ,= sex-love includes m ( "o's p]sonality1 x m completely involves body1 s\l & _s1 is ! mo/ p]fect =m ( union t human be+s "k4 ,h[ /range1 !n1 to argue t "o may treat a lov] z "o w\ld n treat a fri5d6 ,make "o & lose "o s lightly1 & disav[ all ! responsibility ( a love 9 :i* s mu* is giv51 s mu* involv$6 ,x is true t all human love has a physical elem5t1 ev5 if x is only ! desire = ! physical pres5ce ( ! belov$ "o4 ,we all want sometimes to see & to t\* our fri5ds4 ,b 9 sex-love t physical elem5t becomes a desire = p]fect union1 express+ a spiritual h>mony4 ,c "o take su* a gift lightly1 & pass f "o relation%ip to ano!r ) a read9ess :i* w\ld seem contemptible 9 a fri5d8 ,x is ?is hold+ ( human p]sonality *eap t is really immoral1 really di%one/3 = x is n *eap4 ,x is ?is :i* makes pro/itution a horror1 & pro/itutes ! ,i%maels ( _! race4 ,!y sell *eap :at is mo/ de>1 &1 kn[+ ?is1 rage aga9/ _! buy]s4 ,! hide\sly demoraliz+ effect ( a life ( pro/itution on ! s\l is a commonplace4 ,^! wom51 x has be5 said1 s9k s l[ t !y cease to "k :at love is1 !y cease to be able to give4 ,!y c only *eat & /eal & sell4 ,x is true4 ,:atev] virtues ( k9dl9ess & pity ! pro/itute may 7& (t5 does7 h = o!r un=tunates & outca/s1 h] attitude 9 g5]al does become t ( ! p>asite1 ! sw9dl]1 ! vampire4 ,:y8 ,because on h] ! deepe/ outrage aga9/ human p]sonality is committ$4 ,)\t a %ad[ ( claim1 )\t a pret5ce ( (f]+ its equival5t1 t1 9 h]1 is b\ght & sold :i* is beyond price4 ,:y %\ld %e n *eat & ?ieve8 ,take all %e c1 %e _c get ! true value ( :at has be5 b\ght f h]4 ,does %e reason all t out8 ,m (t5 ?an we ?9k4 ,b :e!r %e reasons consci\sly or n1 %e kn[s %e has be5 defraud$3 & %e defrauds4 ,b x is ! buy+ & sell+1 ,i %all be told1 t makes h] s vile3 betwe5 su* a sale & ! free gift ( lov]s lies ! :ole diff]5ce betwe5 morality & immorality4 ,i d n ?9k s4 ,x is ! contemptu\s use ( ano!r :i* is immoral1 & ?\gh actually to buy & sell ! p]son is ! l[e/ dep? ( immorality1 because x is ! l[e/ & mo/ brutal expression ( su* contempt1 any lightness or irrev]5ce is immoral 9 its degree2 s !re=e is conduct :i* makes love an evanesc5t ?+1 or ! giv+ ( p]sonality :i* love involves1 a pass+ emotion4 ,if we feel ?is to be s 9 fri5d%ip1 surely x is m & n less true ( a union s complete on e plane z t ( sex4 ,c y take t--& give x--& pass on1 z ?\gh x 7 a light ?+8 ,! desire = p]man5ce1 = /ability1 = tru/wor?9ess lies v deep 9 human nature4 ,we may--we d--rebel aga9/ x1 & speak ) rapture ( an unfett]$ exi/5ce )\t mat]ial ties3 b ev5 9 mat]ial ?+s ! nomad is ! lea/ creative1 ! lea/ civiliz$ ( 8 k9d4 ,8 exi/5ce is nei!r s picturesque nor s human z we imag9e4 ,"o has only to read hi/ory to see h[ little he has contribut$ to humanity--& h[ little he has help$ to raise ! human level above ! animal4 ,x is n = no?+ t we f9d ! home impos$ ^u human k9d by ! necessities ( human infancy4 ,x is ! helplessness ( ! *ild t has humaniz$ our species by creat+ ! home :i* its helplessness dem&$1 & ?\gh a great deal t is s5tim5tal is said ab\t homes1 ?is rema9s a fact4 ,! nomadic1 ! homeless race gives little to ! _w2 x is by nature & circum/ances an exploit] ( res\rces = :i* x feels no responsibility1 f :i* x is cont5t to take )\t giv+4 ,read+ 9 a pamphlet ( ,pr(essor ,toynbee's ! o!r day1 ,i f\nd ?is description ( ! ,ea/]n _w 9 ! #ae? & #af? c5turies ( our era3--,ev5 :5 ! ,ea/ began to recov] & comp>atively /able ,moslem /ates arose aga9 9 ,turkey & ,p]sia & ,h9du/an1 ! nomadic ta9t 0 9 !m & condemn$ !m to /]ility4444 ,"o gets ! impression n ( a gov]nm5t adm9i/]+ a c\ntry1 b ( a horde ( nomads exploit+ x4,b ,footnote ,b3 ,! italics are m9e4--,a4,m4,r4 ,ev5 s is x ) human love4 ,^! nomads ( ! affections give & take s little z !y pass f h& to h& t !y become *eap & h little left to give at la/3 nor d !y really get :at !y w\ld take4 ,m5 & wom5 claim ! "r to exp]i5ce1 b exp]i5ce ( :at8 ,we d n live by bread alone1 & ! physical exp]i5ce is n really all we seek4 ,x is some?+1 h[ev]8 ,yes--c]ta9ly some?+3 b by a p>adox famili> en\gh 9 human affairs1 to snat* ! less] is to sacrifice ! great]4 ,! exp]im5tal lov]1 ! giv] ^: small & c>eful gift is = a "t1 claims 9 ! "n ( exp]i5ce1 ( ! fulfilm5t ( 8 nature1 :at really belongs only to a great] giv+4 ,su* lov]s are l a ri* man :o sets out tramp+ ) no?+ 9 8 pocket4 ,he may suff] tempor>y inconv5i5ce1 b is )9 safe di/ance ( 8 bank+ acc\nt4 ,he plays ) a risk he c nev] really "k1 s9ce k & exp]i5ce are n = ^? ^: sails 7 nev] to ! tempe/ giv54 ,! prud5t lov] ^: love is lightly giv5 = z long z x la/s is z wise--& z futile4 ,i ?9k1 too1 t ^? :o (f] ?is little price = s great a ?+ h no?+ left at la/4 ,to ta/e love1 to use ! great passion ( sex is on a p> ) ! exploitation ( g5ius on a s]ies ( pot-boil]s4 ,g5ius may outla/ a few su* meannesses1 b !y w murd] x at la/1 & ! man :o by pot-boil+ has ga9$ ! opportunity to create a real "w ( art f9ds !re is no m art left 9 him4 ,he has n[ ! leisure1 ! opportunity1 ! public3 b n ! p[]4 ,s is x ) ^? :o lightly use s great a ?+ z sex4 ,yield$ to e impulse1 giv5 to ea* new-hat*$1 unfl$g$ companion1 x loses its capacity = greatness1 & ! exp]i5ce desir$ passes = ev] f ! grasp4 ,x is ?is :i*1 to my m9d1 rules out ! exp]im5tal m>riage4 ,mu* may be said = x--& has be51 & is be+ said by p ^: judgm5t mu/ comm& respect4 ,b love is impati5t ( l5d+4 ,if x is n giv5 outright 9 ! belief t ! gift is f9al1 c ! exp]im5t be valid8 ,is n ?is v s5se ( f9ality--?is desire to give & burn "o's %ips--( ! v ess5ce ( love8 ,"o _c exp]im5t 9 f9ality4 ,x is true t _m m>riages w\ld n h tak5 place1 & _h mu* bett] n h tak5 place1 if !re _h be5 great] k3 b we h yet to le>n :at great] k c d ev5 )\t exp]im5t4 ,hi!rto we h gone to ! opposite extreme & buri$ all t belongs to sex n 9 a fog ( ignorance only1 b "u a m\nta9 ( hypocrisy & lies4 ,let 9 ! light1 & see if we _c d bett]6 ,& ?\gh x is true t "s ?+s _c be kn[n by any am\nt ( tea*+1 & wait ^u exp]i5ce1 yet ,i submit t ! ess5tial exp]i5ce is realiz$ only :5 x is believ$ to be ! expression ( an undy+ love--a gift & n a loan4 ,let me say "o la/ ^w on ! solution to our moral difficulties propos$ by ^? :o affirm = e woman ! "r to mo!rhood4 ,?is claim is bas$ on ! belief t ! creative impulse is m1 or m consci\sly1 pres5t 9 ! sexual nature ( a woman ?an ( a man1 & t1 9 consequ5ce1 ! satisfaction ( t impulse is to a great ext5t ! satisfaction ( a ne$ :i* makes ! disproportionate numb] ( wom5 9 any c\ntry a real trag$y4 ,x is impossible to g5]alize ) any degree ( confid5ce ab\t ! sexual nature ( ei!r man or woman 9 our pres5t /ate ( crude & b>b>\s ignorance2 b ,i am incl9$--v t5tatively--to agree t ?is g5]alization is correct1 & t ! creative impulse is an ev5 /rong] factor 9 ! sexual life ( wom5 ?an ( m54 ,i realize ! cruelty ( a civilization 9 :i* w> & its accessories create an artificial excess ( wom5 ov] m51 & 9 consequ5ce deprive hundr$s ( ?\s&s ( wom5 ( mo!rhood4 ,i d n ?9k ,i und]e/imate t cruelty or its tragic consequ5ces4 ,i admit ! "r ( wom5 to ! ex]cise ( _! vocation & ! fulfilm5t ( _! nature4 ,b ,i affirm t ^? :o base ^u ?is claim ! "r to br+ *ildr5 into ! _w1 :]e society has made m>riage impossible1 are n mov$ to d s by ! in/9ct ( mo!rhood4 ,no1 no1 = mo!rhood is m ?an a physical act2 x is a spiritual p[]4 ,its fir/ ?\ght is n = ! "r ( ! "m b ( ! *ild4 ,& :at are a *ild's rights8 ,a home--two p>5ts--all t makes complete ! spiritual z well z ! mat]ial mean+ ( home4 ,i d n believe t !re is any woman :o is ! "m ( "y *ildr51 & a wid[1 :o does n daily realize h[ irrep>able is ! loss su/a9$ by ! fa!rless4 ,w> p]haps has inflict$ t loss ^u !m2 x is "o ( ! iniquities ( w>4 ,& ?\gh ! "m tries all %e c--yes1 & works miracles ( love to make h]self all %e c be to h] *ild1 t loss _c :olly be made up4 ,i speak ) int5sity ( conviction on ?is po9t1 = ,i h myself a little adopt$ *ild--orphan$ ( bo? p>5ts--9 my home4 ,i nev] see o!r *ildr5 ) _! p>5ts )\t realiz+ :at %e has lo/ n only 9 h] "m b h] fa!r4 ,!re is ne$$ ! diff]5t po9t ( view1 ! diff]5t relation%ip1 br++ ) x a full] & a ri*] exp]i5ce ( life4 ,:at woman t ha/ lo/ h] husb& does n realize ! tru? ( :at ,i say8 ,x is beside ! m>k to say t a bad fa!r is worse ?an no fa!r1 or t accid5t may take ! fa!r ev5 f happily circum/anc$ homes4 ,?is is true4 ,b a woman does n delib]ately *oose a bad fa!r = h] *ildr51 or *oose t he %all be tak5 away f !m by dea?4 ,x is ! delib]ate infliction be=eh& ( ?is great loss ^u a *ild t seems to me ! v negation ( t mo!rhood 9 ^: "n ?is "r is en=c$4 ,& = :at purpose is a *ild to be br\ght into ! _w "u conditions s imp]fect8 ,to fulfil ! nature ( its "m2 to complete h] exp]i5ce2 to meet h] ne$4 ,is !re any mock]y ( mo!rhood m complete ?an ?is sacrifice ( ! *ild to ! "m8 ,:y1 our physical nature itself is less selfi%6 ,:5 a woman conceives1 h] *ild receives fir/ all ! n\ri%m5t x ne$s2 :atev] x does n dem&1 ! "m has4 ,a woman h]self und]n\ri%$ c1 if ! process has n gone too f>1 be> a well-n\ri%$ & a heal?y *ild1 because %e has giv5 all to t *ild4 ,x is ! epitome ( mo!rhood6 ,& n[ x is affirm$ t a woman1 to satisfy h] own ne$1 has a "r to br+ into ! _w a *ild on :om %e--its "m--has delib]ately inflict$ a grave disadvantage4 ,i d n speak ( su* less] disadvantages z may be involv$ 9 illegitimacy4 ,i tru/ ! "t is at h& :5 we %all cease to br& any *ild z illegitimate or despise "o = ano!r's defect4 ,b ?\gh *ildr5 are nev] illegitimate1 p>5ts may be s2 & none m ?an ! woman :o sacrifices h] *ild to h]self4 ,= ?is disadvantage is n a m]e cruelty ( society :i* may be civiliz$ away2 x is inh]5t 9 ! case4 ,a *ild %\ld h a fa!r & a "m & a home4 ,x is no def5ce to say t ! unm>ri$ "m proposes to give h] *ild a bett] home ?an _m a *ild ( m>ri$ p>5ts has4 ,if h] conc]n is = ! *ild1 !re are1 alas6 only too _m waifs already 9 ! _w to :om su* a home1 ?\gh imp]fect1 w\ld be a p>adise to :at x has4 ,real mo!rhood c\ld & (t5 does rescue su* *ildr5 ) joy4 ,t s few *ildr5 are adopt$ 9 a _w ( wom5 clam\r+ = mo!rhood proves ! ess5tial selfi%ness ( ! claim4 ,x is n ! *ild--x is h]self--t ! woman :o dem&s mo!rhood z a "r is conc]n$ )4 ,:at an irony6 ,= to satisfy h]self fir/ is ! negation ( mo!rhood4 ,we h he>d mu* ( late ye>s--& rightly--( ! exploitation ( wom5 by m54 ,let u n celebrate our gr[+ enfran*isem5t by becom+ ourselves ! exploit]s2 & t1 n ( m51 b ( babes4 ,,iv ,,! ,,true ,,basis ,,( ,,morality ,let me n to ! m>riage ( true m9ds ,admit imp$im5ts4 ,love is n love ,:i* alt]s :5 x alt]ation f9ds1 ,or b5ds ) ! remov] to remove3 ,o no6 x is an ev] fix$ m>k ,t looks on tempe/s1 & is nev] %ak52 ,x is ! /> to e w&]+ b>k1 ,^: wor?'s unkn[n1 al?\gh 8 height be tak54 ,love's n ,"t's fool1 ?\gh rosy lips & *eeks ,)9 8 b5d+ sickle's compass come2 ,love alt]s n ) 8 brief h\rs & weeks1 ,b be>s x out ev'n to ! edge ( doom3-- ,if ?is be error1 & ^u me prov$1 ,i nev] writ1 nor no man ev] lov$4 ,w4 ,%akespe>e4 ,he t committe? =nication s9ne? aga9/ 8 own body4 ,:at8 "k ye n t y\r body is ! temple ( ! ,holy ,gho/ :i* is 9 y1 :i* ye h ( ,god1 & ye are n y\r own8 7,i4 ,cor4 vi41 #ah-ai47 ,i said 9 an e>li] *apt] t ,i want$ to f9d a moral /&>d :i* %\ld be bas$ on ! realities ( human nature1 & 9 ord] to d t we mu/ fir/ h a cle> idea ( :at human nature really is1 & by :at law x lives4 ,we h be5 pass+ dur+ ! la/ g5]ation f an idea ( law :i* belong$ to our =efa!rs to a new idea ( law :i* has be5 giv5 to u by mod]n sci5ce2 & 9 transition we /ill talk 9 ambigu\s t]ms ab\t law--moral law1 = in/ance--confus+ ourselves betwe5 a law t is impos$ on u f outside1 a law t is pass$ by ,p>liam5t1 = in/ance1 or a law t has be5 ! common cu/om ( ! c\ntry ?r\gh its judges1 & t k9d ( law :i* sci5ce has reveal$ to u4 ,sci5tific law is n impos$ f )\t2 x is ! law ( our be+4 ,:5 y talk ( ! law ( gravitation1 y d n mean t somebody outside has laid x d[n t mass %all act 9 a c]ta9 way ) reg>d to o!r masses2 y mean t mass-mat]ial--be+ :at x is--behaves 9 a c]ta9 way4 ,t is to say1 a sci5tific law is ! law ( be+ ( t :i* obeys ! law4 ,x obeys x because x is its nature to d s4 ,if we c\ld get a firm1 hold ( t idea ( law1 our own legislation w\ld n be s s5seless z x (t5 is2 = we %\ld try to discov] :at is ! nature ( human be+s--_! real nature1 ab\t :i* we are (t5 deceiv$--& we %\ld try to make our laws1 includ+ our moral laws1 ^? to :i* human nature1 at its be/1 w\ld mo/ naturally & fully respond4 ,t is ! conception t is at ! back ( ! great phrase :i* s\nds l a p>adox 9 "o ( ! ,collects ( ! ,engli% ,pray] ,book3 ,^: s]vice is p]fect fre$om4 ,^: s]vice is p]fect fre$om2 t is to say1 :5 y obey ,god1 y f9d p]fect fre$om because y are do+ :at x is y\r true nature to d4 ,& t is :y ,i want to base our moral law1 our moral /&>d1 on ! realities ( human nature4 ,b1 y w reply1 :5 p are free to act z !y *oose !y sometimes *oose to violate _! own nature4 ,i _c say h[ t happ5s2 x involves ! entire problem ( evil2 & ,i d n propose ev5 to attempt to deal ) x 9 ?is book4 ,i w only say t our confusion has aris51 z ,i ?9k1 out ( ! v fact t in/ead ( obey+ ! law ( our be+ we h violat$ x2 & n[ are s confus$ t we h>dly "k :at human nature really is1 or ( :at x is capable4 ,t is :y we get su* extraord9>ily diff]5t ideas ab\t morals1 & :y1 z ,i ?9k1 we get su* arbitr>y judgm5ts on human be+s4 ,be=e1 !n1 we c rightly e/abli% our moral /&>d we h to decide :at human nature really is1 & :5 we h done t we %all "k :at is really moral4 ,i suppose t s\nds l a p>adox to _m1 because !y ?9k t morality is always go+ aga9/ human nature4 ,if p d any?+ t is g5]ally call$ immoral1 !y w excuse !mselves on ! gr\nds ( human nature2 !y w say3 ,aft] all1 human nature be+ :at x is1 y mu/ expect ?is1 t & ! o!r k9d ( lic5ce & immorality2 & to say t morality1 real morality1 c only be bas$ on ! realities ( human nature w !re=e s\nd to _m ( y ! wilde/ k9d ( p>adox4 ,b ,i want to pursue x j z ?\gh x 7 true1 because ,i believe x is true4 ,:at1 !n1 are ! realities ( our nature8 ,"h is "o3 a human be+ is n & nev] c be cut (f f o!r human be+s4 ,he is n alone4 ,he _c consid] himself only4 ,if he does s he violates 8 own nature1 because x is n 8 nature to be alone1 & he _c act )\t 8 actions affect+ o!r p4 ,he _c ?9k1 he _c feel1 he _c act or speak )\t affect+ o!r p1 & x is futile = anyone to say3 ,x does n matt] to o!rs :at ,i d2 nobody kn[s2 x conc]ns only myself4 ,y\r inn]mo/ ?\ght affects ! :ole _w 9 :i* y live1 & :atev] moral /&>d y are go+ to adopt1 y mu/ take x = grant$ t y\r /&>d w affect o!r p1 & t x is absolutely impossible = y to act or ?9k alone4 ,& !n human be+s are ?ree-fold 9 nature4 ,!y h a body1 a m9d--or :at ,/4 ,paul calls a s\l--& a _s4 ,s\l is a ^w ^: mean+ we h alt]$ s mu* t ,i mu/ def9e :at ,i mean by x & :at ,i ?9k ,/4 ,paul meant by x4 ,! s\l includes ! emotions & ! intellect1 t "p ( a man :i* is n :olly physical & :i* is n entirely spiritual4 ,ev]yone has a s\l4 ,& e "o ( y1 h[ev] mu* y ignore y\r body1 h[ev] mu* y may tell me y\r body does n really exi/1 h got a body too4 ,y h to eat & dr9k & sleep1 j l ! mo/ mat]ial ald]man1 ?\gh y may eat less4 ,& y _c base a real moral /&>d on ! pret5ce t y h n got a body4 ,y are1 on "o side ( y\r nature1 physical1 mat]ial1 animal2 b y h got a m9d & emotions or s\l2 & y h got a _s4 ,to act z ?\gh y _h n is j z futile z to pret5d t y h n got a body4 ,:]e !re is no vision ! p p]i%4 ,mank9d is incurably religi\s4 ,all ! _w seeks aft] ,god4 ,^? prov]bs1 ^? say+s1 :i* are famili> to all1 cry/allize ! _w's exp]i5ce t human be+s are spiritual be+s4 ,if !re is any p]son :o ?9ks t he is m]ely an intellect & a body1 ,i w direct ! att5tion ( t intellect ( 8 away f himself to ! race1 & ,i w rem9d him t practically no race 9 ! _w has ev] be5 entirely )\t ! s5se ( ,god2 t1 h[ev] h>d m5 try1 !y h nev] be5 able to cure humanity ( its spiritual hung]2 t ?\gh our gods are (t5 gross & e>?y1 ev5 diabolical1 yet !y are spiritual1 & !y are ! pro( t man is spiritually aw>e2 t he is a _s z well z a body & a s\l4 ,n[ ,i say t anyone :o tries to base 8 morality on ! assumption t he is only a body1 or only an intellig5ce1 or only a _s1 has got a false /&>d1 & 8 morality is a di%one/ k9d ( morality4 ,! body w av5ge itself on ^? :o ignore x4 ,psy*ologi/s are tea*+ u t ! m9d w av5ge itself on ^? :o ignore x4 ,& ?is is j z true ( ! _s4 ,:]e !re is no vision ! p d p]i%4 ,y\r spiritual nature av5ges itself on ^? :o try to rule x out4 ,base y\r morality ei!r on ! exclusion ( any "p ( y\r be+1 or on ! assumption t :at y d conc]ns y\rself alone2 & y w f9d t y are violat+ human nature4 ,x is useless = y to act wrongly & to affirm t y d x because human nature is :at x is4 ,:5 y d s1 y are assum+ t human nature is n :at x is2 t is to say y assume t x is purely physical1 :51 9 fact1 x is ?ree-fold--body1 s\l & _s4 ,y c see = y\rselves1 ,i ?9k1 h[ ?is violation ( human nature works itself out4 ,= animals promiscuity is n wrong4 ,:5 !y treat !mselves z purely animals !y are bas+ _! moral /&>d1 if ,i may put x s1 on b$-rock2 !y are animals1 & !re=e !y behave z animals )\t violat+ any law ( _! be+4 ,z !y rise high] 9 ! scale ( evolution _! morals become nobl]4 ,!re are moral /&>ds among ! l[] animals1 b !y rema9 at a c]ta9 level1 & rightly s4 ,no animal is h>m$ by behav+ l an animal1 = 9 do+ s he obeys ! law ( 8 be+2 b if human be+s behave z ?\gh !y 7 animals1 :at happ5s8 ,!y f9d to _! horror t !y h let loose ^u ! _w dete/able1 hide\s & deva/at+ diseases4 ,d y ?9k t m$ic9e w ev] be able to rid ! _w ( :at are call$ ! diseases ( immorality z long z immorality rema9s8 ,i d n believe x4 ,i "k t y c d mu* = individual suff]]s1 ?\gh y _c d "o-t5? "p ( :at doctors ?\ght !y 7 go+ to be able to d1 eight or n9e ye>s ago4 ,&1 ( c\rse1 :atev] we c d1 we mu/ & ought to d4 ,b we d n rea* ! root ( ! matt] by m$ic9e4 ,no sci5ti/ c tell u h[ small-pox or tub]culosis or rheumatism fir/ ent]$ ! _w2 b any sci5ti/ c tell u t by wrong liv+1 wrong h\s+1 wrong fe$+1 we c bre$ & spread & p]petuate disease4 ,9 o!r words1 we are diseas$ n because we obey ! laws ( our nature b because we violate !m3 & ?\gh we c take ! individual suff]] & 7sometimes7 cure him1 we %all n get rid ( ! disease until we h le>nt to obey ^? laws & to live rightly4 ,9 j ! same way ! diseases ( vice1 ?\gh no "o c say h[ !y fir/ came into ! _w1 cont9ue & fl\ri%1 n because ( human nature1 b because we violate "s law ( our own nature 9 :at we d4 ,we may ev5 cure ! individual2 we may see a ?\s& /ruck & a ?\s& guilty escape2 ! fact rema9s t ^! diseases are br$ 9 ! swamp ( immorality1 j z c]ta9ly z mal>ia is br$ 9 ! mosquito-haunt$ pools ( ! mal>ia swamp4 ,dra9 ! swamp1 & y get rid ( ! mal>ia1 = !re is no long] any place = ! mal>ia-be>+ mosquito to bre$4 ,dra9 ! swamp ( immorality1 & y get rid ( v5]eal disease1 because !re is no long] a place :]e ^! diseases c bre$4 ,live rightly1 & y\r nature w respond 9 heal?4 ,:5 human be+s elect to make _! relations ) "o ano!r promiscu\s--:51 t is to say1 !y treat !mselves z animals--!y are n obey+1 !y are violat+ ! law ( _! own be+2 = !y are n animals only1 & to treat !mselves z su* is to disobey ! law ( _! own nature4 ,& disob$i5ce reacts 9 disease4 ,s aga91 ! relations ( m5 & wom5 are ( ! m9d z well z ( ! body & ! _s4 ,y _c rule out y\r m9d1 & ,i ?9k t ^? :o believe1 z _m d today1 n inde$ 9 a m]ely animal promiscuity1 b 9 r casual relations betwe5 m5 & wom5--exp]im5ts1 if y l1 m5 & wom5 pass+ f "o union to ano!r--rule out ! fact t a human be+ has a m9d1 a memory & =esight2 t our be+ includes a pa/1 &1 9 a s5se1 includes a future also2 & :5 y try to divorce y\r physical exp]i5ce f y\r intellectual & emotional be+ y are aga9 violat+ ! law ( y\r own nature4 ,i rememb] ask+ "o ( ! mo/ happily m>ri$ wom5 t ,i "k to put into words1 if %e c\ld1 ! reason :y %e believ$ t m>ri$ p1 m>ri$ lov]s1 %\ld n h gone ?r\gh o!r relation%ips ) o!r p be=e !y gave !mselves to "o ano!r4 ,i ask$ h] to express 9 words :at seem$ to h] immoral4 ,%e wrote ?is3 ,9 ! ideal union betwe5 ,god & man1 we "k t man mu/ give ! fulness ( 8 be+1 body1 m9d & _s1 ?r\gh\t 8 :ole life1 to ,god1 & t any?+ less ?an ?is1 ?\gh x may be f9e & noble1 does fall %ort ( p]fection4 ,x is ! same ) ! human love ( m5 & wom54 ,! 'fulness ( our be+' :i* we desire to give to our lov] consi/s n only 9 :at we are at any giv5 mom5t b 9 :at we h be5 9 ! pa/1 :at we may become 9 ! future4 ,& s 9 ! =mation ( m]ely tempor>y unions ! highe/ & deepe/ unity c nev] be fully a*iev$4 ,%e w5t on to say3 ,:5 we h pass$ beyond ! physical sph]e we %all be able1 l ,god1 to give ourselves equally to all2 b :ile we are 9 ! fle% we _c %>e ourselves equally ) all1 & any attempt to d s l[]s ! /&>d ( p]fect human love4 ,i l t1 because x is bas$ aga9 on a loyal acceptance ( human nature4 ,we are n yet z ,god 9 ! s5se t1 be+ :olly _s1 we c %>e ourselves equally ) all4 ,we d /ill live 9 bodies1 & we h 9 ?is life memory & prevision1 & surely t is inde$ an ideal union1 if we are look+ = ! highe/1 :i* is able to give its pa/ & its future z well z its pres5t1 s t ! :ole p]sonality is involv$1 9 t act ( union1 & t any?+ %ort ( t is at lea/ n q p]fect4 ,human be+s are /ill 9 ! body1 & are yet s\l & _s 9 t body1 & mu/ take bo? into acc\nt4 ,divorce ! physical f ! spiritual 9 y\rself1 & y are violat+ y\rself4 ,divorce ! physical f ! spiritual 9 someone else--y :o p]haps say3 ,i myself love su* a man1 su* a woman1 ) ! be/ "p ( myself2 :at ,i d ) ano!r is ( no importance--y violate ! nature ( t o!r f :om y take :at is physical1 & leave :at is spiritual z ?\gh x 7 n !re4 ,y\r life1 l y\r body1 is too highly organiz$1 too s5sitive1 too knit toge!r by memories & prevision = y to leave beh9d y any?+ t has really ent]$ into y\r life4 ,x is a %oddy & sup]ficial nature t passes easily f exp]i5ce to exp]i5ce1 & :5 y look at su* y c see h[ %all[] /ill x becomes4 ,x is ! deep] & ! l(ti] nature t _c ent] into any human relation%ip & !n pass away f x altoge!r un*ang$4 ,& ev5 t %oddy1 t poor1 t mean little s\l :i* seems to pass s lightly f "o exp]i5ce to ano!r does n really altoge!r escape4 ,"s m>k is left ^u ! s\l1 "s association rema9s 9 ! memory2 & aga9 & aga9 m>riages h be5 wreck$ because a man has tak5 ! associations ( ! gutt] into ! sanctu>y ( 8 home4 ,unwill+ly1 ) an imag9ation t fa9 w\ld reject ! /a91 he has injur$1 he has insult$ ! love t has n[ come to him1 ! mo/ preci\s ?+ on e>?1 because he has n kn[n h[ to d o!rwise2 because all ! associations ( passion h be5 to him degrad$1 smir*$1 treat$ frivol\sly 9 ! pa/4 ,x is true ( m52 x is also true ( wom54 ,i d n "k ( any?+ t makes und]/&+ h>d] betwe5 two p ?an ! fact t "o has _h exp]i5ces & associations :i* ! o!r has n _h & does n und]/&1 because !y are on an entirely diff]5t level4 ,^! create betwe5 !m1 ) all ! desire = und]/&+ 9 ! _w1 a b>ri] ( misund]/&+ & incompreh5sion1 :i* is all ! m fatal because x is s intangible1 s obscure1 s h>d to put into words1 s (t5 actually unconsci\s or subconsci\s 9 ! m9d ( "o or ( ! o!r4 ,aga91 y mu/ n ?9k t y are altoge!r _s1 & "h p]haps x is ! woman :o is m apt to s9 ?an ! man4 ,h[ (t5 h ,i talk$ to wom5 :o speak ( ! physical side ( love z ?\gh x 7 some?+ base & unwor?y6 ,su* a conception ( passion is inhuman1 & !re=e x is n really moral4 ,a woman :o ?9ks ( ?is sacram5t ( love1 = :i* p]haps ! man :o loves h] has kept himself clean all 8 life1 z a base ?+1 & :o treats x z ?\gh x 7 a concession to some?+ base 9 a man's nature1 in/ead ( be+ ! v consecration ( body & s\l at once1 ! sacram5t ( union1 "o ( ! lovelie/ ?+s 9 human nature--su* a woman gives z great a %ock to :at is sacr$ & lovely 9 h] husb&'s nature z he :5 he br+s ) him into 8 m>riage ! associations ( ! /reet4 ,x is z h>d1 x is z insult+1 x makes m>riage z difficult 9 und]/&+1 "o way z ! o!r4 ,= x is n true t our bodies are vile & base2 !y are ! temples ( ! ,holy ,_s4 ,or if y ?9k t y c /& alone1 t :at y d is ! conc]n ( no "o else1 t y\r life is a solit>y ?+1 s solit>y t no man or woman is conc]n$1 no "o b y\rself1 & y may s9 alone--!re aga9 y misund]/&4 ,y _c /& alone1 & no?+ t y say or ?9k or d leaves ! _w un*ang$4 ,is t difficult to believe 9 ^! days1 :5 psy*ology is tea*+ u h[ all-important ?\ght is8 ,ought y to f9d x h>d to believe t :at y d 9 ! utmo/ secrecy affects o!rs1 s9ce x affects y1 & no man lives to himself alone8 ,i d n wi% to exagg]ate4 ,i h a horror ( ^? books & p :o speak 9 exagg]at$ t]ms ( any k9d ( sexual lapse4 ,i am p]suad$ t human be+s c rise f su* mi/akes1 & rise mu* m easily ?an f ! subtl] spiritual s9s :i* h s mu* m respectable an air4 ,b yet d n s9 "u ! impression t :at y d conc]ns y\rself alone4 ,d n use1 = y\r own satisfaction only1 p[]s :i* 7 giv5 y = creation & = ! _w4 ,b ?is1 y may say1 is n ! accept$ /&>d ( morality4 ,t is a matt] r ( laws & c]emonies4 ,& p beg9 to ask2 ,:at real diff]5ce c a m]e c]emony make8 ,x does n make any diff]5ce to ! morality ( y\r relation%ips ) y\r fell[ m5 & wom54 ,no?+ t is immoral becomes moral because x has be5 done "u a legal contract1 or consecrat$ by a rite4 ,!re1 ,i ?9k1 is :]e ! _w has gone s wrong4 ,! idea t a relation t is selfi%1 cruel1 m]c5>y1 becomes moral because someone has said "s words ov] y1 & y h sign$ a regi/]--:at a f>cical idea6 ,h[ on e>? does t *ange any?+ at all8 ,! morality ( all civil or religi\s c]emony lies1 ,i ?9k1 9 ?is--t by accept+ & go+ ?r\gh x1 y accept ! fact t y\r love does conc]n o!rs besides y\rself2 x w conc]n y\r *ildr52 & beyond t1 x conc]ns ! _w4 ,y are "r :5 y ask y\r fri5ds to come & rejoice ) y at y\r w$d+4 ,x is ! conc]n ( all ! _w :5 p love ea* o!r1 & x is ! failure ( love t conc]ns !m :5 m>riage is a failure4 ,su* failure *ills ! atmosph]e2 x %akes our fai? 9 love z ! supreme p[] 9 ! univ]se2 x makes u all wav] 9 our allegiance to con/ancy & love :5 love fails4 ,x is a joyful ?+ :5 p love4 ,all ! _w loves a lov]4 ,x is an old say+1 b :at a true "o6 ,x is our conc]n :5 p nobly & loyally love ea* o!r1 x is ! conc]n ( ! community1 & ^? :o take ^u !mselves ^! public v[s seem to me to h a m truly moral conception ( love ?an ^? :o say3 ,?is is our affair only2 x is n ! affair ( ! ,/ate or ! affair ( ! ,*ur*4 ,b ! actual c]emony mu/ be ! expression ( a moral feel+ su* z t4 ,x _c 9 itself make moral :at is immoral6 ,! old idea t if a woman 0 s$uc$ by a man %e 0 made hone/ by ! man m>ry+ h] is ess5tially immoral4 ,v likely all t %e knew ab\t ! man 0 t %e c\ld n tru/ him1 & to suppose t we c set "r :at is wrong by ty+ !m toge!r = ! re/ ( _! lives is to imag9e an absurdity & to e/abli% a lie4 ,or take ! case f ano!r po9t ( view4 ,i h two 9 my m9d at ?is mom5t1 :o = "s reason 7a reason n v f> to seek if y read our ,engli% m>riage laws7 came to ! conclusion t x is n "r to place oneself 9 su* a position z a m>ri$ woman is 9 "u ,engli% law4 ,i am n discuss+ :e!r !y 7 "r or wrong2 ,i say t q s9c]e & moral p d come to t conclusion sometimes1 & s did ^! two4 ,!y liv$ toge!r1 !re=e1 )\t be+ legally m>ri$4 ,!y 7 absolutely fai?ful to ea* o!r2 _! love 0 z responsible1 z dignifi$1 z true z any su* relation c\ld be4 ,x lack$ to my m9d "o ?+--! s5se ( a wid] responsibility--b !n x _h v mu* t _m legal m>riages h n4 ,^? two p are put outside society2 x is made almo/ impossible = !m to e>n _! liv+2 & at la/ 9 despair !y g to ! regi/ry (fice1 & sign _! names 9 a book4 ,:at diff]5ce has be5 made 9 _! relation to ea* o!r8 ,absolutely none4 ,!y are no m conv9c$ ( ! "r & duty ( ! community to be conc]n$ ) m>riage ?an !y 7 be=e4 ,!y h yield$ to co]cion4 ,_! moral /&>d1 good or bad1 is precisely :at x 02 _! relation to ea* o!r :olly un*ang$4 ,b 9 ! eyes ( ! _w !y h become respectable1 !y are moral1 !y c be receiv$ back into ! bosom ( society4 ,& :y8 ,because !y h gone ?r\gh a c]emony 9 :i* !y d n believe6 ,e m>riage 9 ! _w probably lacks some?+ ( p]fection4 ,!re are no p]fect human be+s1 &1 !re=e1 h>dly1 p]haps1 a p]fect m>riage2 & to my m9d ^? :o d n admit ! conc]n ( ! community 9 _! m>riage d lack some?+4 ,b to suppose t ^? p are immoral1 :5 o!rs :o live toge!r1 legally lic5s$ to d s1 9 selfi%ness1 9 infidelity1 = f9ancial reasons1 or = social reasons1 are moral is fundam5tally di%one/4 ,:5 a woman sells h] body = money1 d y ?9k t x makes x moral t %e does x 9 a *ur* or 9 a regi/ry (fice8 ,is !re "o :it ( diff]5ce1 morally1 betwe5 ! pro/itution t has no legal recognition & ! pro/itution t has8 ,is x any?+ b pro/itution to sell y\rself = money1 :e!r y are a man or a woman8 ,d y imag9e t because y h a contract to protect y :ile y d x1 y are do+ :at is moral8 ,if y m>ry = any reason b love--= exp]i5ce1 to complete y\r nature--)\t mu* reg>d to ! man or woman y m>ry1 or to ! *ildr5 y br+ into ! _w1 are y n exploit+ human nature j z c]ta9ly1 ?\gh n s brutally1 z a man :o buys a woman 9 ! /reet8 ,x is n s base a =m ( exploitation1 ,god kn[s2 t ,i admit2 b :5 !re is any elem5t ( exploitation 9 ! b>ga9 x is n made m truly moral because x happ5s to be bless$ 9 a *ur* or regi/]$ 9 an (fice4 ,! legal c]emony mu/ be ! outcome ( a morality :i* makes y realize t :at y d affects o!r p1 t :at y d mo/ pr(\ndly affects ! *ildr5 t y hope to h1 & t ! community has bo? an int]e/ & a responsibility 9 all ?is4 ,t is moral4 ,b if ! relation%ip ?us to be legaliz$ is n moral1 x is di%one/ to pret5d t x c be made s by any c]emony :i* ^? conc]n$ may und]go4 ,b1 y w say1 we _c pe] into o!r p's lives & judge !m 9 ?is k9d ( way4 ,h[ are we to "k8 ,h[ are we1 :o h _m fri5ds1 _m neighb\rs1 on :om our /&>ds mu/ react1 to judge _! lives8 ,we c tell :o has gone ?r\gh a legal c]emony & :o refuses to d s4 ,t is a nice conv5i5t rule by :i* we c judge & condemn su* p4 ,b we _c g pok+ into p's lives & /udy+ _! motives & judg+ _! fundam5tal moral /&>ds6 ,no1 y _c4 ,:y %\ld y8 ,?is little set ( iron rules makes x v easy to judge1 does x n8 ,b :y d y desire x to be easy to judge8 ,y & ,i "k h[ inf9ite are ! gradations betwe5 ! mo/ noble k9d ( *a/ity & ! mo/ ignoble k9d ( immorality2 b :i* ( u is to create a rigid /&>d & measure our fri5ds & acqua9tances aga9/ x8 ,we d n d x ) ! o!r virtues3 :y d we desire to d x ) ?is "o8 ,take su* a virtue z tru?4 ,conceive ! cry/all9e s9c]ity ( "s tru?-lov+ m9ds1 realize t "s h su* a devotion to tru? t ! fa9te/ %ad[ ( ins9c]ity--n a lie1 b ! m]e/ %ad[ ( ins9c]ity 9 ! dep?s ( _! he>ts--is abhorr5t to !m4 ,consid] ! inf9ite gradations betwe5 t m9d & ! m9d :i* takes a lie = tru?1 a m9d t is rott5 ) corruption1 t does n "k h[ to ?9k /raight1 let alone c>e to speak /raight4 ,y d n draw up y\r little set ( rules & say3 ,i d n call on t p]son because he does n speak ! tru?2 & ,i won't h any?+ to d ) t "o--su* p]sons are outside ! social pale altoge!r because _! conception ( tru? is diff]5t f m9e6 ,no1 y keep y\r admiration = ! tru?-lov+ & ! s9c]e4 ,y recognize t p h diff]5t /&>ds ab\t :at is tru?4 ,"o p]son w nev] tell a lie "u any circum/ances3 ano!r w reckon himself free to tell a lie to save a ?ird1 or to pres]ve a confid5ce2 w y judge :i* is ! m hon\rable ( ! two8 ,:]e is y\r little set ( rules8 ,y _c h "o4 ,y %r9k f ! p]son :o is morally di%one/ & corrupt2 y wor%ip ! p]son :o loves tru? z ,d>w9 lov$ x4 ,b betwe5 ^? two extremes :at an inf9ite v>iety ( atta9m5t6 ,:o c say3 ,^! p are moral because !y are m>ri$1 & ^? are immoral1 !y are n m>ri$8 ,x is n true1 x is n hone/1 to make ^! rules our measure4 ,!y d n meet ! realities ( human nature1 & ,i cont5d t we1 :o h kn[n s\ls s *a/e & lovely t !y make u 9 love ) virtue1 d f> m to raise ! moral /&>d ( humanity by seek+ to imitate su* p ?an by sett+ up our little codes ( rules & condemn+ or ju/ify+ all m5 by !m4 ,let u treat ?is virtue z we d e o!r virtue1 n fitt+ x to a set ( rules :i* ev]yone kn[s d n fit ! realities1 b tak+ our c\rage 9 our h&s & judg+ human be+s 7if we mu/ judge !m7 by _! real s9c]ity1 _! real unselfi%ness1 _! real unwill+ness to exploit o!rs--! measure ( ! *a/ity ( _! s\ls4 ,v ,,! ,,moral ,,/&>d ,,( ,,! ,,future3 ,,:at ,,%\ld ,,x ,,be8 ,ye h he>d t x 0 said by !m ( old "t1 ,?\ %alt n commit adult]y3 b ,i say unto y1 ,t :osoev] looke? on a woman to lu/ aft] h] ha? committ$ adult]y ) h] already 9 8 he>t4 ,x ha? be5 said1 ,:osoev] %all put away 8 wife let him give h] a writ+ ( divorcem5t3 ,b ,i say unto y t :osoev] %all put away 8 wife1 sav+ = ! cause ( =nication1 cause? h] to commit adult]y3 & :osoev] %all m>ry h] t is divorc$ committe? adult]y4 ,aga9 ye h he>d t x has be5 said by !m ( old "t1 ,?\ %alt n =swe> ?yself1 b %all p]=m unto ! ,"l ?9e oa?s3 b ,i say unto y1 ,swe> n at all2 nei!r by heav52 = x is ,god's ?rone2 nor by ! e>?2 = x is 8 foot/ool2 nei!r by ,j]usalem2 = x is ! city ( ! great ,k+4 ,nei!r %alt ?\ swe> by ?y head1 because ?\ can/ n make "o hair :ite or black4 ,b let y\r communications be1 ,yea1 yea2 ,nay1 nay3 = :atsoev] is m ?an ^! come? f evil4 7,mat!w v41 #bg-bh2 #ca-cg47 ,i h tri$ to rea* ^? realities ( human nature on :i* human morality mu/ be bas$4 ,i believe t ! fundam5tal ?+s :i* we mu/ take into acc\nt are1 fir/1 ! complex nature ( human be+s1 :o hav+ body1 s\l1 & _s to reckon ) _c neglect any "o ( ^! )\t ins9c]ity2 &1 secondly1 ! solid>ity ( ! human race1 :i* makes x futile to act z ?\gh ! morals ( any "o ( u c\ld be 8 own affair alone4 ,x is because ( ?is solid>ity t m>riage has always be5 reg>d$ z a matt] ( public int]e/1 to be recogniz$ by law1 celebrat$ by "s public c]emony1 protect$ by a legal contract4 ,all are conc]n$ 9 ?is matt]1 = x affects ! race itself1 ?r\gh ! *ildr5 t may be born4 ,human *ildr5 ne$ :at animals d n1 or n to ! same ext5t4 ,!y ne$ two p>5ts3 !y ne$ a /able & p]man5t home3 !y ne$ a spiritual m>riage1 a real h>mony betwe5 _! p>5ts1 z well z a physical "o4 ,a *ild is n provid$ = :5 y h giv5 x a home & food & clo?+1 s9ce x is a _s z well z a body--a s\l & a _s1 a be+ crav+ = love1 & ne$+ to live 9 an atmosph]e ( love4 ,! "y ( no o!r species ne$ ?is z *ildr5 d1 & !re=e1 x is ! conc]n ( ! community to see t ! rights ( ^! mo/ helpless & mo/ preci\s little ones are safegu>d$4 ,i _c believe t any ,/ate call+ itself civiliz$ c ev] disreg>d ! duty ( safegu>d+ ! human rights ( ! *ild1 & ,i repeat its human rights are n suffici5tly met :5 its physical necessities are gu>ante$4 ,b ,i g fur!r4 ,i claim t x is really ! conc]n ( all ( u t p :o love %\ld d s hone/ly1 fai?fully1 responsibly4 ,m>riage %\ld be p]man5t2 t is true 9 a s5se t makes x important to all ( u t x %\ld succe$4 ,^? :o h lov$ & ceas$ to love h n fail$ = !mselves only b = all4 ,!y h %ak5 ! fai? ( ! _w4 ,!y h incl9$ u to ! false belief t love is n et]nal4 ,!y h1 s f> z !y c\ld1 de/roy$ a great ideal1 injur$ a great fai?4 ,p--& "s ( ^! are my p]sonal fri5ds1 & p = :om ,i h a v great respect--:o affirm t a legal or religi\s m>riage is n necess>y because _! relations to "o ano!r are n ! conc]n ( ! community1 may h1 x seems to me1 a morality t is l(ty1 b n "o t is broad1 n "o t is truly human4 ,x is n true 7&1 !re=e1 x is n moral7 to say t m>riage is n ! conc]n ( o!r p4 ,no "o c fail 9 love1 no "o c take on himself s great a responsibility & fail to fulfil x1 )\t all ( u be+ conc]n$4 ,humanity is solidaire4 ,! community is & mu/ be conc]n$ 9 ! love ( m5 & wom5 9 m>riage4 ,b :at %\ld be ! nature ( t conc]n8 ,:at %\ld we--! community--hold up z ! "r /&>d ( sex-relation%ip1 & :at me?ods %\ld we use to impose x on o!rs8 ,i ?9k y w h ga!r$ f :at ,i h said already t1 to my m9d1 m>riage %\ld be a union t looks =w>d to be+ p]man5t1 fai?ful1 monogam\s4 ,x %\ld be ! expression ( a union ( _s s p]fect t ! union ( ! bodies ( ^? :o love foll[s z a k9d ( natural necessity4 ,x %\ld be ! sacram5t ( love1 ! outw>d & visible sign ( an inw>d & spiritual grace4 ,& some?+ ( ?is p]fection is to be f\nd 9 _m m>riages t seem 7& are7 f> f complete4 ,i (t5 he> ( ! lives ( m>ri$ p :]e !re has be5 v mu* to ov]come1 :]e p]haps ! m>riage has be5 ent]$ into 9 ignorance & error2 :]e ! passion t br\ght ! two toge!r has be5 v evanesc5t2 :]e x has soon become evid5t t _! temp]am5ts d n fit2 :]e x might easily be said t !y 7 n really m>ri$ at all3 yet !re has be5 9 ^! two su* a /ubborn loyalty to responsibilities und]tak51 su* a magnific5t s5se ( fai?fulness1 su* a det]m9ation to make ! be/ out ( :at !y h r lightly und]tak52 sometimes ev5 only on "o side1 !re has be5 su* fai?1 su* hon\r1 su* loyalty1 su* a refusal to admit a f9al failure1 t a relation%ip poor 9 promise has become beautiful & sacr$4 ,9 face ( su* loyalty1 ! !ory t sex-relation%ips c rightly be brief1 evanesc5t1 ?r[n aside z soon z passion has gone1 seems to me v *eap & %oddy1 v unwor?y ( human be+s4 ,m>riage %\ld be all t--%all ,i say8--! ,br[n+s made ( x4 ,b :5 x is n1 !re is /ill (t5 mu* t is left4 ,m5 & wom51 y _c ent] into "o ano!r's lives 9 ?is deep & intimate way & g on y\r way z ?\gh no?+ _h happ5$4 ,y _c te> asund] p s unit$ )\t ble$+4 ,y _c make a failure ( x )\t immeasurable loss4 ,h[ d ,i love !e8 ,let me c\nt ! ways4 ,i love !e to ! dep? & bread? & height ,my s\l c rea*1 :5 feel+ out ( sight ,= ! ends ( ,be+ & ideal ,grace4 ,i love !e to ! level ( ev]yday's ,mo/ quiet ne$1 by sun & c&lelight4 ,:o t has once he>d ?is c easily take any?+ less8 ,or :o1 hav+ lov$ 9 any ( ^! ways1 w lightly break ! bond8 ,i ?9k t "o ( ! mo/ pr(\ndly moral relation%ips ,i h ev] met betwe5 a man & a woman 01 9 spite ( all t ,i h said up till n[1 ! relation%ip ( a man to a woman to :om at fir/ he 0 n legally m>ri$4 ,x 0 h] wi%1 n 81 b !y 7 n legally m>ri$4 ,!y _h no *ildr51 & %e 0 unfai?ful to him m ?an once1 & yet ?is man--& he did n call himself a ,*ri/ian--?is man felt t he _h tak5 ! responsibility ( t woman's life1 & ?\gh he c\ld easily h put h] away1 & ?\gh1 at la/1 %e kill$ 9 him all t y w\ld normally call love betwe5 a man & woman1 & he le>n$ to c>e = ano!r woman1 yet he w\ld n ab&on h] because n[ %e _h gr[n to ne$ him1 & he felt he c\ld n take s great a human responsibility z ! life ( ano!r p]son & !n ca/ x away z ?\gh x _h nev] be54 ,t is morality4 ,to su* a s5se ( :at human relation%ips dem& my :ole s\l gives homage4 ,t seems to me a p]fectly humane &1 !re=e1 truly moral idea ( :at love involves4 ,su* a s5se ( responsibility %\ld g ) all love4 ,passion _c la/1 9 ! nature ( ?+s1 &1 !re=e1 ^? :o m>ry d s1 if !y "k any?+ at all ( love--&1 ,god help !m1 _m ( !m d n--b if !y "k any?+ at all ( love1 !y "k t x is physically impossible = ?is p>ticul> bond always to unite !m4 ,!y mu/ be aw>e t !re is some?+ m ?an t1 some?+ t mu/ 9 ! end transc5d t physical union4 ,look+ at m>riage f t po9t ( view1 c "o desire t x %\ld be any?+ less ?an p]man5t1 indissoluble8 ,t :i* ,god made1 &1 !re=e1 :i* no man %\ld put asund]8 ,let ! community--bo? ,*ur* & ,/ate--tea* ?is4 ,let u make x cle> t m5 & wom5 %\ld n m>ry unless !y d s9c]ely believe t _! love = ea* o!r is ( ?is "*4 ,let !m und]/& t physical union %\ld be ! expression ( a spiritual union4 ,let !m le>n t love1 ?\gh x includes passion1 is m ?an passion1 & mu/ transc5d & outlive passion4 ,& let u insi/ t all %\ld le>n ! tru? ab\t !mselves--ab\t _! own bodies & ab\t _! own natures--s t !y may und]/& :at !y d1 & may h all ! help t k c give 9 do+ x4 ,i hold t on su* k & su* und]/&+ ! community %\ld insi/1 if x is to uphold ! high & difficult /&>d ( indissoluble monogam\s m>riage4 ,s only c x be rightly upheld4 ,i urge also t :5 a m>riage takes place ! ,/ate has a "r & a duty ) reg>d to x4 ,= ! sake ( e citiz51 & mo/ ( all = ! sake ( ! *ildr51 x %\ld solemnize m>riage1 & %\ld d s on ! und]/&+--cle>ly express$--t ^? :o come to be m>ri$ int5d to be fai?ful to ea* o!r z long z !y bo? %all live4 ,9 do+ ?is ,i believe ! ,/ate does all--or ne>ly all--t x usefully c to uphold ! dignity ( m>riage & a high /&>d ( morality4 ,i d n believe t x %\ld seek to p5alize ^? ^: sex-relation%ips are n ( ?is "*1 except s f> z legislation = ! protection ( ! immature or ! helpless is conc]n$4 ,& ,i d n ?9k x %\ld compel--or seek to compel1 = compulsion is1 9 fact1 impossible--! obs]vance ( a m>riage :i* has lo/ or nev] _h ! elem5ts ( reality4 ,is ?is to ab&on ! ideal ,i h be5 uphold+8 ,i d n ?9k s4 ,let u ref] aga9 to ! greate/ ( ,tea*]s & ! l(tie/ ( ,ideali/s--,jesus ,*ri/4 ,see :at ,he tea*es 9 ! ,s]mon on ! ,m\nt & else:]e4 ,ev]y:]e ,he emphasizes ! spiritual "* ( virtue & ( s94 ,to be a murd]] x is n necess>y to kill3 to hate is1 9 itself1 en\gh4 ,if y hate y are ess5tially a murd]]4 ,to be an adult]] x is n necess>y to commit adult]y3 to look on a woman lu/fully is already to h committ$ adult]y ) h] 9 y\r he>t4 ,x is ! _s t s9s4 ,s keep y\r _s pure4 ,x is n en\gh to keep y\r oa?s3 y %\ld be s utt]ly & transp>5tly s9c]e t !re is no ne$ & no s5se 9 support+ y\r words by great oa?s4 ,yea & ,nay %\ld be suffici5t4 ,y w notice t ! ,s]mon on ! ,m\nt has be5 divid$ 9 ?is *apt] into a numb] ( p>agraphs1 ea* ( :i* beg9s by a ref]5ce to ! old ext]nal law ( conduct1 & goes on to dem& a m se>*+1 m spiritual & int]ior virtue4 ,ye h he>d t x 0 said by !m ( old "t4444 ,b ,i say unto y4 ,ye h he>d t x 0 said3 ',?\ %alt n kill' 444 b ,i say unto y t :osoev] is angry %all be 9 dang] ( ! judgm5t4 ,ye h he>d t x 0 said3 ',?\ %alt n commit adult]y1' b ,i say unto y t :osoev] looke? on a woman to lu/ aft] h] ha? committ$ adult]y ) h] already 9 8 he>t4444 ,ye h he>d t x 0 said3 ',?\ %alt n =swe> ?yself1' b ,i say unto y3 ',swe> n at all4' ,:at is ! significance ( su* tea*+8 ,surely t we are n to be satisfi$ ) keep+ ! lett] ( ! law1 b are to keep x 9 our he>ts4 ,s cle> is ?is t ! ,*ur* has completely ab&on$ ! lett] ( ! la/ precept4 ,no "o except a ,quak] refuses to take an oa?4 ,e bi%op on ! b5* has done s1 & e incumb5t ( a liv+4 ,n[h]e ?r\gh\t ! ,s]mon on ! ,m\nt h ,*ri/ians felt !mselves b\nd to a lit]al or legal int]pretation ( its tea*+4 ,no "o wants a man to be tri$ = murd] & hang$ = hat+ 8 bro!r4 ,no judge grants a divorce because a man or woman has committ$ adult]y 9 8 he>t4 ,*ri/ ,himself did n lit]ally turn ! o!r *eek :5 /ruck by a soldi]4 ,8 disciples ev]y:]e pray 9 places q z public z ! /reet-corn]s =bidd5 9 ! next *apt] ( ,/4 ,mat!w1 & give _! alms publicly or 9 secret z seems to !m be/4 ,x may be cont5d$ t 9 ?is spiritual int]pretation ( ,*ri/'s comm&s x is v easy to g too f> & int]pret all ! mean+ out ( !m4 ,x is c]ta91 h[ev]1 t ! dang] mu/ be incurr$1 s9ce no?+ c\ld make s5se out ( an absolutely lit]al int]pretation4 ,x w\ld mean a r$uctio ad absurdum4 ,apply su* a lit]alism1 = example1 to ! po9t at :i* = c5turies ! ,*ur* has s\ght to apply x--! indissolubility ( m>riage4 ,x is admitt$ t s9ce a phrase1 ( h[ev] d\btful au?ority1 does make an exception 9 fav\r ( divorce = adult]y1 ! ,*ur* c recognize a law 9 ?is s5se4 ,b if we are to be lit]ali/s1 x seems t a lu/ful wi% is adult]y6 ,is ?is to be a cause = divorce8 ,& if n1 :y n8 ,obvi\sly because we c no m apply su* spiritual tea*+ lit]ally ?an we c take a man out & hang him because he hates 8 bro!r6 ,!re we cease to be lit]al3 h[ !n c we fall back on a lit]al int]pretation at ano!r po9t8 ,i claim t !re is no gr\nd :atev] = a m rigid & legal int]pretation ( our ,"l's tea*+ ab\t m>riage ?an ab\t tak+ oa?s or pray+ 9 public4 ,i believe t ,*ri/ held t m>riage %\ld be p]man5t & indissoluble1 t only ^? p %\ld m>ry :o lov$ ea* o!r ) a love s pure1 s true1 s f9e z to be reg>d$ rightly z a gift f ,god1 :o accept$ _! union z a great tru/ z well z a great joy1 ^: m>riage might inde$ be said to be made 9 heav5 be=e x 0 solemniz$ on e>?2 b t ,he %\ld insi/ on a legal contract f :i* all reality _h dep>t$1 or reg>d z a m>riage a union ( :i* ! mo/ cynical c\ld only say t x 0 made 9 hell1 m]ely because ! ,*ur* or ! ,/ate _h *os5 to bless or regi/] x1 seems to me z unlike ! :ole ( ! re/ ( ! ,s]mon on ! ,m\nt & z f> f ! _s ( ,*ri/ z ea/ is f we/4 ,x surely is n conceivable t ,he to ,:om m>riage meant s mu* t ,he spoke ( x z be+ made by ,god1 ,:o conceiv$ ( ! union ( a man & woman z be+ ! "w ( ,god ,himself ,^? :om ,god has jo9$ toge!r--w\ld h c>$ = ! %ell out ( :i* ! k]nel _h gone1 = ! m]e legal bond out ( :i* all ! _s _h fl$4 ,m>riage %\ld be indissoluble2 b :at is m>riage8 ,i he>d a little :ile ago ( a girl ( #ai :o 0 m>ri$ to a man ( #ef4 ,he 0 immoral 9 m9d & diseas$ 9 body1 & at ! end ( a ye> %e left him ) ano!r man4 ,he divorc$ h]1 & %e is n[ m>ri$ to t o!r man1 & !re are p :o say t ?is m>riage1 :i*1 s f> z "o c judge1 is a moral1 fai?ful1 & a responsible union1 ble/ ) *ildr5 :o are gr[+ up 9 a good home1 is no m>riage because ! wife w5t ?r\gh a c]emony ) ?is o!r man be=e1 & m>riage is indissoluble4 ,m>riage is indissoluble3 ,^? :om ,god has jo9$ toge!r let no man put asund]4 ,did ,god jo9 ^? two toge!r8 ,!y 7 m>ri$ 9 a *ur*4 ,x is ! ,*ur* t %\ld rep5t 9 sackclo? & a%es = p]mitt+ su* a mock]y ( m>riage4 ,let ! ,*ur* by all means d :at x has s long fail$ to d1 emphasize ! sanctity ( human relation%ips1 make m5 & wom5 realize h[ deep a responsibility !y take 9 m>riage1 h[ sacr$ a ?+ is ?is creative love1 f :i* future g5]ations w spr+1 :i* br+s into ! _w human bodies & immortal s\ls2 :i*1 ev5 if x is *ildless1 is /ill ! v sacram5t ( human love4 ,let ! ,*ur* tea* all t x c to make m>riage sacr$ & div9e1 b :5 x prea*es t su* a m>riage z t is a m>riage at all x does n uphold our moral /&>d b degrades x4 ,i h said en\gh be=e1 ,i hope1 to make y realize t ,i d n ?9k t :5 passion has gone m>riage is dead4 ,i h se5 m>riages :i* seem$ unequal1 difficult1 unble/1 made into some?+ lovely & sacr$ by ! deep pati5ce & loyalty ( human nature1 & believe x is ! k ( su* possibilities :i* makes ,*ri/ian p1 & ev5 ^? :o w\ld n call !mselves ,*ri/ians1 g5]ally desire "s religi\s c]emony :5 !y are m>ri$4 ,!y "k t = su* love human nature itself is h>dly great en\gh4 ,!y desire ! grace ( ,god to inspire _! love = ea* o!r ) some?+ ( t et]nal quality :i* belongs to ! love ( ,god4 ,i h se5 husb&s love _! wives1 & wives _! husb&s1 ) a div9e compassion1 an inexhau/ible pity1 :i* goes out to ! mo/ unwor?y & degrad$4 ,yes1 ,i w\ld ev5 g s f> z to say t unless y feel t y are able to face ! possibility ( *ange 9 ! "o y love1 t y c love s well t ev5 if !y alt] = ! worse y\r love w\ld no m disappe> ?an ! love ( ,god = y w\ld disappe> :5 y *ange or fail1 y h n atta9$ to ! p]fect love :i* ju/ifies m>riage4 ,b ?is is a h>d say+1 &1 !re=e1 ^? ( u :o believe 9 ,god 9 any s5se in/9ctively desire ! bless+ ( ,god to re/ on ! und]tak+ ( s great a responsibility4 ,we want our love to be div9e be=e we c und]take ! :ole happ9ess ( ano!r human be+4 ,let ! ,*ur* by all means tea* ?is1 & ,i believe t future g5]ations w conceive m nobly & m responsibly ( m>riage = h] tea*+4 ,b d n seek to hold toge!r ^? betwe5 :om !re is no real m>riage at all4 ,:5 s]i\sly & p]si/5tly a man & a woman believe t _! m>riage nev] 0 or has n[ ceas$ to be real1 surely _! p]si/5t & consid]$ op9ion ought to be en\gh = ! ,/ate to act ^u4 ,let no "o be all[$ to give up 9 ha/e4 ,let no "o fl+ responsibility aside easily4 ,let x always be a "q ( long consid]ation1 ( advice f fri5ds1 p]haps ev5 f judges4 ,b ,i _c help feel+ t :5 ?r\gh ye>s ?is conviction t !re is no reality 9 a m>riage p]si/s1 ?is is ! "o really dec5t & suffici5t reason = decl>+ t t m>riage is dissolv$4 ,let u h done ) ! infam\s sy/em n[ 9 =ce1 by :i* a man & woman mu/ commit adult]y or p]jury be=e !y c get u to admit ! pat5t fact t _! m>riage no long] exi/s z a reality4 ,let u h done ) a sy/em :i* makes a mock]y ( our divorce c\rts4 ,i h ! utmo/ sympa?y ) ^? :o d5\nce ! light way 9 :i* m5 & wom5 p]jure !mselves to obta9 release1 b ,i affirm t ! :ole sy/em is1 9 ! ma91 s bas$ on legalisms1 s divorc$ f morality1 t ! resultant adult]ies & p]juries are :at e /ud5t ( human nature mu/ inevitably expect1 h[ev] mu* he may regret & hate !m4 ,x w be 9 va9 t laws are devis$ to prev5t divorce by collusion1 9 va9 t ,k+'s proctors or judges detect & p5alize "h & !re ! less w>y & +5i\s (f5d]s4 ,! law w cont9ue to be evad$ or defi$4 ,& ! reason is fundam5tal3 x is t ! law is n bas$ on reality4 ,x affirms t a m>riage /ill exi/s :5 x does n exi/4 ,x dem&s t two human be+s %\ld give to ea* o!r :at !y _c give4 ,&--! ess5ce ( m>riage be+ cons5t--x makes ! fact t bo? p>ties desire its dissolution ! f9al reason = d5y+ !m6 ,to =ce a woman to dem& ! re/itution ( conjugal rights :5 su* rights h become a horrible wrong2 to compel a man to commit1 or p]jure himself by pret5d+ he has committ$1 adult]y1 be=e he c get ! ,/ate to face ! fact t 8 m>riage is no long] a reality--is ?is to uphold morality8 ,is ?is ! ideal ( ! ,s]mon on ! ,m\nt8 ,let u once = all ab&on ! pret5ce t all ! m>riages made 9 *ur*es or 9 regi/r>s' (fices are1 !re=e1 necess>ily made 9 heav54 ,let u get to "w in/ead to see t ! m>riages ( ! future %all be made 9 heav51 &1 above all1 let u aboli% ! idea t a m>riage is a real m>riage :i* is bas$ on ignorance1 on fraud1 on exploitation1 on selfi%ness4 ,let u n dream t we c raise our /&>d ( morals1 by affirm+ t e mi/ake t m5 & wom5 make 9 a matt] 9 :i* mi/ak+ is s tragically easy ought to imprison !m 9 a lie = ! re/ ( _! lives4 ,b let u take ! ideal ( ,*ri/1 9 all its gr&eur & all its reality1 ) our eyes fix$ ^u ! ideal1 b ) t respect = human p]sonality1 t respect = reality & tru?1 :i* makes u refuse to accept ! pret5ce t all ! m>riages we h kn[n h be5 made by ,god4 ,let u1 at lea/1 9 p]petuat+ su* blasphemies z are "s ( ! m>riages on :i* we h se5 ! bless+ ( ! ,*ur* invok$1 cease to drag 9 ! "n ( ,*ri/ to ! def5ce ( a sy/em :i* has laid all its weight ^u a legal contract1 & kept a conspiracy ( sil5ce ab\t ! sacr$ union ( body & s\l by :i* ,god makes man & woman "o4 ,,vi ,a ,,plea ,,= ,,light ,jesus said3 ,if any man walk 9 ! day1 he /umble? n1 because he see? ! light ( ?is _w4 ,b if a man walk 9 ! night1 he /umble?1 because !re is no light 9 him4 ,my la/ address = ! pres5t,c on ! difficult que/ions t we h be5 consid]+ "h1 ,sunday aft] ,sunday1 is a plea = light4 ,footnote ,c3 ,ano!r address 0 add$ a few weeks lat] 9 response to urg5t reque/s4 ,walk+ 9 d>kness has be51 9 sexual matt]s1 ! exp]i5ce ( mo/ ( u4 ,ev5 n[1 9 ! tw5tie? c5tury1 x is n too mu* to say t mo/ ( u h _h to fight our battle 9 almo/ complete d>kness & some?+ v ne> to complete isolation4 ,!re are two great passions connect$ ) ! bodies ( m5 & wom51 s fundam5tal t !y h m\ld$ ! hi/ories ( nations & ! developm5t ( ! human race4 ,!y are ! hung] = food & ! in/9ct ( sex4 ,!re is no o!r passion connect$ ) our bodies s fundam5tal1 s p[]ful1 z ^! two2 & yet1 ) reg>d to ! second1 mo/ ( u are expect$ to manage our lives & to gr[ up into maturity )\t any real k at all1 & ) su* advice z we get wrapp$ up 9 a j>gon t we d n und]/&4 ,we h be5 z ^? :o set out to sea )\t a *>t2 z soldi]s :o fight a campaign )\t a map4 ,i d n ?9k ?is is too mu* to say ( ! way 9 :i* a l>ge numb] ( ! m5 & wom5 t ,i "k--ev5 ^? ( ?is g5]ation--h be5 expect$ to tackle "o ( ! greate/ problems t ! human race has to solve4 ,may ,i sket* :at ,i imag9e is ! exp]i5ce ( mo/ p8 ,at "s po9t 9 our lives we beg9 to be curi\s2 we ask a "q2 we are met ) a je/ or a lie1 or ) a rebuke1 or ) "s evasion t conveys to u1 q successfully1 t we ought n to h ask$ ! "q4 ,! "q g5]ally has to d ) ! matt] ( bir?--! bir? ( babies1 or kitt5s1 or *ick5s2 "s po9t ( curiosity connect$ ) ! bir? ( "y creatures is g5]ally ! fir/ ?+ t awak5s our int]e/4 ,:5 we meet ) evasion1 lies1 or repro(1 we naturally conclude t !re is some?+ ab\t ! bir? ( life into ! _w t we ought n to "k1 & s9ce x is app>5tly wrong ( u ev5 to wi% to "k x1 x is presumably disgu/+4 ,we seek to le>n f o!r & m grimy s\rces :at our p>5ts might h told u1 &1 le>n+1 arrive at ! conclusion t 9 ! relations ( m5 & wom5 !re is also some?+ t is repulsive4 ,& s9ce1 9 spite ( ?is1 our int]e/ does n cease b becomes furtive curiosity1 we also conclude t !re is some?+ deprav$ & disgu/+ ab\t ourselves4 ,n[1 all ( ^! ?ree conclusions are lies2 &1 !re=e1 we set out 9 life equipp$ ) a lie 9 our s\ls4 ,x is n a good beg9n+4 ,x means t almo/ at once ^? ( u :o p]si/ 9 our desire to "k are 9 dang] ( los+ our self-respect4 ,we le>n t !re is some?+ 9 sex t is base--s base t ev5 our own p>5ts w n speak to u ab\t x2 & because ( t1 & because a *ild in/9ctively does accept1 dur+ ! fir/ few ye>s ( its exi/5ce1 :at its p>5ts or gu>dians say1 we assume t !re mu/ be some?+ bad 9 u1 s9ce we s p]si/5tly desire to "k :at is s evil t nobody w speak ( x at all4 ,or if anyone does allude to x1 x is ) un:olesome furtiv5ess & a r silly k9d ( mir?1 s z to increase 9 ! m9ds ( _m ( u ! s5se t !re mu/ be some?+ 9 our nature t we _c respect because nobody else f9ds x beautiful or respectable4 ,our next /ep1 especially if we are consci5ti\s p1 is to repress t some?+4 ,& "h ,i want to say a ^w 9 answ] to a numb] ( lett]s t ,i h _h on ! po9t :i* ,i rais$ e>ly 9 ?is book1 :5 ,i claim$ t wom5 h to pay z great a tax & suff] z great a h>d%ip f repression z m5 d4 ,p--bo? m5 & wom5--h writt5 to say t ?is is n true1 & to su* ,i wi% to make my po9t q cle>4 ,i did n say t m5 & wom5 suff]$ 9 ! same way4 ,i said t !y suff]$ equally2 & s9ce ! "q has be5 rais$1 ,i %\ld l j to answ] x "h4 ,to me x seems1 judg+ z f> z ,i c1 f ! p t ,i "k1 t--speak+ v g5]ally--passion comes to a man ) great] viol5ce1 & is m liable to leave him 9 peace at o!r times4 ,passion is to a man :o is ( /rong temp]am5t l a /orm at sea4 ,x seems ! v embodim5t ( viol5ce & =ce4 ,! m]e sight ( ! sea angry almo/ t]rifies "o1 ev5 if "o is p]fectly safe f ! viol5ce ( ! /orm2 b ! dep?s are n /irr$4 ,& 9 ! case ( a woman ,i w\ld take a diff]5t figure ( spee* altoge!r1 & say t v (t5 ! /ra9 on h] is mu* less dramatic1 mu* less viol5t1 & m p]si/5t4 ,i ?9k ( ! /ra9 z some?+ l t sil5t1 un9t]rupt$ ?ru/ ( an ar* aga9/ ! wall1 ( a dome on ! walls t support x4 ,!re is no sign ( /ress4 ,b x is s difficult to build a dome rightly t ,italy1 ! l& ( domes1 is cov]$ ) ! ru9s ( ^? *ur*es ^: domes gradually1 sl[ly1 ?ru/ outw>ds till ! walls on :i* !y re/$ gave way & ! *ur* 0 9 ru9s4 ,t k9d ( /ra9 is easily d5i$ by ! v p :o are endur+ x4 ,x is s cu/om>y1 s mu* a "p ( _! life1 t !y are unconsci\s ( x4 ,no "o :o /udies psy*ology to-day c fail to realize h[ unconsci\s p (t5 are ( ! seat & ! nature ( _! own tr\bles4 ,x is true t ! t5d5cy to exagg]ate ! importance ( sex seems likely to vitiate to "s ext5t ! conclusions ( psy*ologi/s l ,freud & 8 disciples4 ,b t !y h reveal$ to u a mass ( hi!rto unkn[n & un-und]/ood suff]+ 9 ! m9ds ( bo? wom5 & m51 aris+ f ! cont9ual repression ( a passion ^: /r5g? may be measur$ by ! disa/r\s consequ5ces caus$ by repress+ x1 no "o :o kn[s any?+ at all ( mod]n psy*ology c d5y4 ,^? :o d n und]/& _! own tr\ble w (t5 d5y t ! tr\ble exi/s1 & d5y x q hone/ly4 ,b ^? :o h become ! physicians ( ! m9d are j beg9n+ to le>n h[ trem5d\s a sacrifice ! _w has ask$ ( wom5 9 ! pa/ :ile d5y+ t x 0 a sacrifice at all6 ,n[1 ?is repression foll[s1 9 _m wom5 & 9 a consid]able numb] ( m51 on ! assumption t !re is some?+ 9 sex too %ameful to be spok5 ab\t or look$ at 9 ! light4 ,we set out1 ,i repeat1 on our campaign )\t a map ( ! c\ntry & ) our compasses po9t+ ! wrong way4 ,& ?is1 above all1 is true :5 repression has caus$ "s actual p]v]sion 9 ! m9d1 "s arre/$ developm5t1 "s abnormal condition4 ,?is is n always ! consequ5ce ( delib]ate repression on ! "p ( ! individual1 b x is1 ,i believe1 (t5 ! consequ5ce ( an artificial /ate ( civilization2 an attitude t[>ds a great & wond]ful impulse :i* has p]v]t$ our :ole view ( :at is div9e & lovely 9 human nature4 ,:atev] ! cause1 ! result is abnormality ( "s k9d1 & to p :o h suff]$ s1 ,i want1 above all1 to say ?is3 light & und]/&+ are ne$$ m by y1 p]haps1 ?an by anyone else1 & to y1 above all1 !y h be5 d5i$4 ,lonel9ess1 isolation1 ! loss ( self-respect1 ! d>kness ( ignorance h surr\nd$ ^? to :om ! sacrifice has be5 h>de/1 &1 !re=e1 ! repression1 :e!r racial or individual1 mo/ disa/r\s4 ,y c1 if y *oose1 leave ! _w a nobl] place because y let light 9 on ^! d>k places4 ,d n say to y\rselves t y\r suff]+ is useless & purposeless because x is no good to anyone3 no "o kn[s ( x3 no "o und]/&s x3 &1 !re=e1 x has all ! additional bitt]ness ( be+ to no purpose4 ,t ne$ n be true4 ,ignorance ne$ n cont9ue4 ,if y w try to make y\r suff]+ ( s]vice to ! _w1 x is n difficult to measure h[ great may be our advance 9 fundam5tal morality 9 ?is pres5t g5]ation4 ,we d n "k yet ( :at human nature is capable1 & ^? :o are /udy+ ! human m9d are p]haps ! greate/ ( all pione]s at ! pres5t mom5t4 ,"s ( y h tru/$ me1 & by y\r tru/ h enabl$ me to help o!r p4 ,o!rs ( y1 p]haps1 h y\rselves become or w become /ud5ts ( psy*ology4 ,y w advance a little fur!r 9 a sci5ce :i* is z yet only mak+ its fir/ unc]ta9 /eps4 ,ev5 if y d none ( ^! ?+s1 yet if y w try to und]/& y\rselves1 by ! m]e fact t y und]/&1 y w f9d t y are able to help o!r p--o!r p ^: condition is mo/ tragic1 mo/ lonely--to face ) c\rage ! problem !y %>e ) y4,d ,try to solve x1 z y c4 ,y w ga9 9 und]/&+ & /r5g?1 s t ^? 9 yet great] ne$ w in/9ctively come to y = help4 ,base y\r own moral /&>d on all t is noble1 & wise & human1 & y w f9d t 9 y ! spiritual beg9s s to dom9ate ! physical t o!rs w see its p[] & come to y = help4 ,footnote ,d3 ,?is subject is m fully dealt ) 9 ! next *apt]4 ,) a*+ h&s & ble$+ feet1 ,we toil & toil2 lay /one on /one4 ,n till ! light ( day return ,all we h built %all we disc]n4 ,n[ let u turn to ! o!r side ( ! problem--! m normal relations ( m5 & wom5 :o are lov]s1 :o are husb&s & wives4 ,may ,i aga9 recapitulate :at appe>s to be ! hi/ory ( _m m>ri$ p1 ev5 9 #aiba4 ,let me rem9d y fir/ t ?is contract ( m>riage is ! mo/ important1 probably1 9 ! :ole life ( ! man & woman :o und]take x2 t x conc]ns human p]sonality z p]haps no o!r relation 9 ! _w does1 s deeply1 s closely1 s intimately1 t ^? :o ent] into x are v ne> ei!r to heav5 or hell4 ,! ne>] y come to any o!r human p]sonality1 ! ne>] y get to ! supreme happ9ess or ! supreme failure4 ,& :5 p ent] on ?is relation%ip1 h[ are !y prep>$8 ,_m ( !m are ignorant--& 9 ! case ( wom5 (t5 :olly s--( :at m>riage actually involves4 ,i f9d x difficult to speak 9 measur$ t]ms ( ^? p>5ts :o delib]ately all[ _! daught]s to take a /ep :i* involves ! :ole ( _! future life & happ9ess1 & t ( ano!r human be+ also1 9 ignorance ( :at !y are do+4 ,?is relation%ip1 :i* requires all ! love & all ! wisdom ( m5 & wom5--s mu* s t ev5 ^? :o d n call !mselves ,*ri/ians (t5 desire to g to a *ur* & ask = ! grace ( ,god to enable !m to c>ry out s great an und]tak+--is ent]$ ^u by p :o lit]ally d n "k :at1 f ! v nature ( m>riage1 is requir$ ( !m4 ,i suppose _m p w say t ,i speak ( a /ate ( ?+s :i* pass$ a g5]ation ago4 ,no1 ,i d n4 ,i speak ( a /ate ( ?+s t is only too common at ?is pres5t "t4 ,i h kn[n m>riage aft] m>riage wreck$ by ! almo/ unbelievable ignorance t has be5 pres5t on bo? sides4 ,i say bo? sides4 ,fir/ ( all1 !re is ! girl4 ,to h]1 m>riage comes sometimes z s great a %ock t h] :ole temp]am5t is w>p$ & embitt]$ by x4 ,!n !re is ! man1 equally ignorant--v (t51 probably less ignorant ( himself1 b equally ignorant ( h]--n realiz+ h[ %e %\ld be treat$4 ,!y are (t5 q ignorant ( ea* o!r's views on m>riage2 ( :at sort ( claims !y are go+ to make on ea* o!r2 :at ea* ?9ks ab\t ! duty ( hav+ *ildr54 ,^! elem5t>y facts ( human life1 :i* mu/ confront ^? :o m>ry1 are fac$ by !m )\t any k9d ( prep>ation1 )\t ! mo/ rudim5t>y k ( ea* o!r's po9t ( view4 ,& t !re are s _m happy m>riages 9 spite ( all ?is makes "o realize h[ extraord9>ily loyal1 f9e & c\rage\s1 on ! :ole1 human nature is4 ,only ! o!r day ,i 0 speak+ 9 a t[n 9 ! nor? ( ,engl& on ?is v subject1 & ,i got a lett] aft]w>ds to say t ! writ] _h v greatly enjoy$ my address at ! "t4 ,%e _h f\nd x1 %e assur$ me1 inspir+ & elevat+4 ,b %e felt b\nd to write & tell me aft]w>ds 7:at %e 0 sure w\ld bo? %ock & di/ress me7 t %e _h f\nd t "s ( ! p 9 my audi5ce 7 actually act+ on :at ,i said6 ,i suppose e public speak] comes up aga9/ t sort ( ?+ sometimes--! calm assurance t y are m]ely talk+ 9 ! air & h n ! slighte/ desire t anyone %\ld act on :at y say4 ,s ?is lady wrote to say t1 ?\gh %e & h] husb& _h bo? be5 greatly impress$ by :at ,i said1 !y 7 horrifi$ to f9d t1 z a result1 p 7 actually discuss+ ) "o ano!r1 be=e !y m>ri$1 c]ta9 po9ts :i* %e m5tion$ to me & :i* %e said !y ought nev] to discuss until !y 7 m>ri$4 ,is x n amaz+ t anyone %\ld s]i\sly cont5d t x is bett] to arrive at an und]/&+ ) ! p]son he or %e is ab\t to m>ry aft] m>riage ?an be=e8 ,t p :o w\ld n dream ( betray+ anyone into any k9d ( contract ab\t :i* !y 7 n satisfi$ t its t]ms 7 und]/ood %\ld be will+ to betray o!rs--,i delib]ately call x a betrayal--into a contract ( su* inf9ite importance1 & positively desire t !y %all be ignorant ( its nature8 ,x really seems sometimes z if pa9s 7 positively tak5 to mislead ^? :o are go+ to be m>ri$4 ,"o ( ! mo/ amaz+ /atem5ts on ?is subject1 = in/ance1 is conta9$ 9 ! m>riage s]vice ( ! ,*ur* ( ,engl&1 :]e ! bride & bridegroom are told t m>riage 0 orda9$ t su* p]sons z h n ! gift ( cont95cy might m>ry & keep !mselves undefil$ memb]s ( ,*ri/'s body4 ,t !re %\ld be anyone 9 ! tw5tie? c5tury :o does n "k t a man or a woman :o has n ! gift ( cont95cy is totally unfit = m>riage is really r />tl+4 ,:at su* a p]son requires is bo? a div9e & a physician2 b t he %\ld be told t he is fit = m>riage & t m>riage 0 expressly design$ = him is n only mislead+1 x is absolutely horrify+4 ,x expla9s ! tragic wreck :i* s _m m>riages become aft] a comp>atively %ort "t4 ,i w\ld urge1 !n1 = ! future1 t we %\ld n conc5trate all our moral1 e?ical1 religi\s1 & social =ce on p]petuat+ ! tragic failure ( an empty m>riage1 b1 r1 %\ld conc5trate our ef=ts on try+ to make p und]/& :at m>riage is2 :at _! own natures are2 :at m>riage is go+ to dem& f !m2 :at !y ne$ 9 ord] to make x noble4 ,i urge1 moreov]1 t ! same pr9ciple %\ld apply to ^? :o d n m>ry--t !y also %\ld le>n 9 ! light :at _! difficulties are go+ to be2 h[ to face _! own temp]am5ts2 h[ to deal ) _! own m9ds & bodies4 ,y\r temp]am5t1 m5 & wom51 does n decide y\r de/9y2 x does decide y\r trials4 ,to "k h[ to deal ) x & h[ to make x y\r s]vant1 h[ s to en?rone spiritual p[] 9 y\r nature t x %all dom9ate all t is physical1 n z some?+ base1 b z a sacr$ & a consecrat$ ?+--x is on ?is t ! tea*]s ( to-day %\ld conc5trate ) all _! p[]4 ,x is true t :5 we h le>nt all t is possible f tea*+1 !re is /ill some?+ to le>n4 ,9 m>riage is x possible to "k f9ally until ! f9al /ep is tak58 ,no1 ,i d n ?9k s4 ,b :5 y consid] h[ we h /ruggl$ aga9/ ignorance1 h[ _m pitfalls h be5 put 9 ! pa? ( ^? :o desir$ k1 h[ we h1 z x seems1 done our be/ to make ?is relation%ip a failure1 surely x is wor? :ile1 at lea/1 to try :at k1 & und]/&+1 & education1 & tra9+ c d4 ,we _c "k all4 ,t is no reason :y we %\ld n "k all t we c4 ,surely m>riage mu/ be a div9e in/itution1 s9ce we h done s mu* to make x a failure1 & yet "o sees aga9 & aga9 su* spl5did love1 su* magnific5t loyalty & fai?6 ,y advocate1 someone wrote to me ! o!r day1 y advocate t p %\ld leave ea* o!r :5 !y are tir$ ( ea* o!r4 ,no1 ,i d n advocate t anyone %\ld accept a failure4 ,i advocate t e human be+ %\ld d all t is possible--m p]haps ?an is possible )\t ! grace ( ,god--to make m>riage ! noble & lovely ?+ x %\ld be4 ,i ?9k ^? are fa9t-he>t$ :o easily accept ! fact t x is difficult1 & f t drift swiftly to ! conclusion t = !m x is impossible4 ,i advocate t ! greate/ fai? & loyalty %\ld be practis$4 ,i believe 9 my he>t t !re is p]haps no relation%ip :i* _c be r$eem$ by ! love & devotion & ! grace ( ,god 9 ! he>ts ( ^? :o seek to make x r$eemable4 ,:at ,i d say is t 9 ,*ur* & ,/ate we %\ld conc5trate all our ef=ts on help+ m5 & wom5 to a wise1 enlight5$1 noble conception ( m>riage be=e !y ent] ^u x1 & n on a futile & immoral attempt to hold !m toge!r by a m]e legal contract :5 all t made x valid has fl$4 ,i believe t ! m "o kn[s ( human nature ! m "o rev]5ces x4 ,i believe t ! va/ majority ( human be+s /ra9 e n]ve r ?an fail 9 s great a responsibility4 ,d y rememb] read+ 9 ,mr4 ,b]tr& ,russell's book1 ,pr9ciples ( ,social ,recon/ruction1 ( a little *ur* ( :i* x 0 discov]$1 n1 ,i ?9k1 v long ago1 t1 ow+ to "s defect 9 its title1 m>riages :i* _h be5 celebrat$ !re 7 n legal8 ,mr4 ,b]tr& ,russell says t !re 7 at t "t ,i =get h[ _m c\ples /ill liv+ :o _h be5 m>ri$ 9 t *ur*1 :o f\nd t1 by ?is legal defect1 !y 7 n legally b\nd4 ,d y "k h[ _m ( ^? m>ri$ p seiz$ ! opportunity to des]t ea* o!r & g & m>ry somebody else8 ,n a s+le "o6 ,e "o ( ^? c\ples w5t quietly away to *ur* & got m>ri$ aga96 ,religi\s p d sometimes ?9k su* mean ?+s ( human nature1 & human nature is1 = ! mo/ "p1 s mu* nobl]1 s mu* m loyal1 s mu* m lov+ ?an we imag9e4 ,lift up y\r eyes unto ! hills f :5ce come? y\r help4 ,he t walke? 9 ! light1 /umble? n1 = he see? ! light ( ! _w4 ,let u face ! future c\rage\sly1 ) great rev]5ce = o!r p's op9ions & views4 ,let u n jo9 t mob ( %\t]s :o are prep>$ to h[l at ev]yone :o desires to say some?+ t is n q or?odox1 b :i* is _! s]i\s & consid]$ contribution to a great & difficult problem4 ,let u greet !m ) respect1 h[ev] mu* we may diff] f !m4 ,let u look =w>d )\t fe>4 ,believe me1 bel[ all ! fro? & scum ( :i* we make s mu*1 human nature is v noble4 ,let u give t example to ! _w :i* is wor? a ?\s& argum5ts--! example ( a noble m>ri$ life1 ! example ( a noble s+le life4 ,^? ( y :o are alone c d inf9itely m = virtue by be+ full ( g5tl5ess1 wisdom1 sanity1 & love ?an by any h>% repression ( y\rselves4 ,x is by :at y c make ( celibacy t ! _w w judge celibacy4 ,& s ( m>ri$ lov]s4 ,believe me1 x is n ! *ildr5 ( m>ri$ lov]s :o are rebels aga9/ a l(ty /&>d4 ,^? :o h se5 ) _! eyes a lovely1 fai?ful & unwav]+ love are n easily satisfi$ ) any?+ t is less4 ,lift up y\r eyes unto ! hills4 ,f :5ce come? y\r /r5g?4 ,& 9 ! light ( a great ideal1 9 ! light ( k1 s9c]ity & tru?1 9 ! light ( :at ,i "k ( human nature1 ,i1 = "o1 am n afraid = ! future moral /&>d ( ?is c\ntry4 ,,vii ,,fri5d%ip ,saul & ,jona?an 7 lovely & pleasant 9 _! lives1 & 9 _! dea? !y 7 n divid$3 !y 7 swift] ?an eagles1 !y 7 /rong] ?an lions4 ,ye daught]s ( ,israel1 weep ov] ,saul1 :o clo!d y 9 sc>let1 ) o!r delights1 :o put on ornam5ts ( gold ^u y\r app>el4 ,h[ are ! mighty fall5 9 ! mid/ ( ! battle6 ,oh ,jona?an1 ?\ wa/ sla9 9 ?9e high places4 ,i am di/ress$ = !e1 my bro!r ,jona?an3 v pleasant ha/ ?\ be5 unto me3 ?y love to me 0 wond]ful1 pass+ ! love ( wom54 ,h[ are ! mighty fall51 & ! weapons ( w> p]i%$6 7,,ii4 ,sam4 i4 #bc-bg47 ,& ,orpah kiss$ h] "m-9-law2 b ,ru? clave unto h]4 ,& %e said1 ,behold ?y si/]-9-law has gone back unto h] p1 & unto h] gods3 return ?\ aft] ?y si/]-9-law4 ,& ,ru? said1 ,intreat me n to leave !e1 or to return f foll[+ aft] !e3 = :i!r ?\ goe/1 ,i w g2 & :]e ?\ lodge/1 ,i w lodge3 ?y p %all be my p1 & ?y ,god my ,god3 ,:]e ?\ die/1 w ,i die1 & !re w ,i be buri$3 ! ,"l d s to me1 & m also1 if ought b dea? "p me & !e4 7,ru? i4 #ad-ag47 ,p h sometimes discuss$ ) me :e!r x is "r to h z int5se & absorb+ a love = a fri5d ( "o's own sex z exi/s betwe5 lov]s4 ,! ^w absorb+ is p]haps ! difficulty 9 _! m9ds4 ,all love is ess5tially ! same1 & x has be5 po9t$ out t ! great classic in/ances ( great love h be5 almo/ z (t5 betwe5 fri5ds z betwe5 lov]s4 ,b ! te/ ( love's nobility rema9s ! same4 ,if x is 9 ! /rict s5se absorb+--if1 t is1 x is exclusive1 if x n>r[s "o's int]e/s in/ead ( enl>g+ !m1 if x involves a failure 9 love or sympa?y ) o!r p1 x is wrong--x is n 9 ! true s5se love2 b if x enri*es ! und]/&+1 wid5s int]e/1 deep5s sympa?y--if1 9 a ^w1 to love "o tea*es u to love o!rs bett]1 !n x is good1 x is love inde$4 ,a fri5d%ip :i* is ( su* "* t no "o outside x is ( any int]e/1 a mat]nal love :i* n only conc5trates on its own b :olly excludes all o!r *ildr51 ev5 a m>riage :i* ultimately n>r[s r ?an wid5s & is exclusive 9 its int]e/s1 is a poor c>icature ( love4 ,a "y "m may1 9 ! fir/ rapture ( h] mo!rhood1 seem :olly absorb$2 b1 z a matt] ( fact1 %e g5]ally ends by c>+ m = all *ildr5 because %e loves "o s deeply4 ,ev5 lov]s1 aft] ! fir/ absorption ( newly-discov]$ joy1 mu/ le>n to %>e _! happ9ess & ! happ9ess ( _! home ) o!rs if x is n to gr[ h>d & dull4 ,& fri5ds may easily e/imate ! wor? ( _! fri5d%ip by ! measure ) :i* x has humaniz$ _! relations to all o!r human be+s4 ,!re is ano!r te/ also = love3 ,does x express itself naturally & rightly8 ,?is te/ is mu* m difficult to apply4 ,"o may believe t all love is ess5tially ! same1 b x is c]ta9 t all human relation%ips are n ! same1 &1 !re=e1 love _c always be express$ 9 ! same way2 b x is n possible to lay d[n any exact rule betwe5 ! sort ( expression legitimate to ea*4 ,ev]yone mu/ h suff]$ sometimes f a s5se ( hav+ =c$ undesir$ demon/rations on o!r p1 or hav+ !m =c$ on oneself4 ,"o's suff]+ 9 ! fir/ in/ance is int5sifi$ by ! k ( ! extremity ( revolt creat$ by ! second4 ,!re is no?+1 ,i suppose1 m acutely pa9ful ?an ! s5se ( be+ compell$ to accept demon/rations ( affection to :i* "o _c 9 ! same way respond4 ,i believe t ?is %r9k+ f expressions :i* seem unnatural1 is rightly int5sifi$ a hundr$fold :5 ! s5se ( wrongness or unnaturalness is due n to ! individual b to ! relation%ip itself4 ,! love :i* unites ! s\l to ,god1 *ildr5 to _! p>5ts1 mo!rs & fa!rs to sons & daught]s1 lov]s to "o ano!r1 fri5d to fri5d1 ! disciple to 8 ma/]1 is all "o4 ,y _c divide ,love4 ,b to ea* belongs its "r & natural expression1 & to p>ody ! love ( lov]s betwe5 fri5ds revolts ! gr[+ s5se ( humank9d4 ,! v horrors ( pro/itution create a less %udd]+ disgu/ ?an ! debau*+ ( a "y boy by an old] man1 ?\gh ) a tragically common inju/ice society is m apt to be disgu/$ by ! un=tunate victim1 be>+ all ! m>ks ( 8 moral & physical p]v]sion1 ?an by ! m responsible old] man :o pr(its by or ev5 creates x4 ,yet x is1 z ,i h said1 only by ! gr[+ s5se ( humanity t su* ?+s are condemn$4 ,!y 7 n always s 9 e case4 ,on ! contr>y x has sometimes be5 ma9ta9$ t fri5d%ip betwe5 m5 0 s mu* nobl] ?an ! love ( m5 & wom5 t ev5 :5 x dem&$ physical expression x 0 /ill ! f9e/ ( all human relation%ip4 ,?is idea 01 ( c\rse1 widely held by ! ,greeks dur+ ! noble/ epo*s ( _! hi/ory1 & ,plato1 ?\gh he does n1 z is commonly believ$1 ju/ify su* expression z good 9 itself1 evid5tly reg>ds x z practically inevitable &1 !re=e1 to be condon$4 ,& ?\gh f ?is indulg5t attitude !re has be5 a v g5]al revolt 9 mod]n times1 ! reaction has n always be5 v discrim9at+ 9 its condemnation or v j 9 its reprisals4 ,n[--9 consequ5ce1 no d\bt1 ( ?is inju/ice--!re has aris5 ano!r attempt to ass]t ! sup]ior nobility ( fri5d%ip ov] love1,e & ev5 to claim a sup]ior humanity = p :o are m attract$ by memb]s ( _! own sex4 ,footnote ,e3 ,i am us+ ! t]ms fri5d%ip & love 9 _! ord9>ily accept$ & n>r[ s5se1 z mean+ respectively ! love ( fri5ds & ! love ( lov]s4 ,?is is arbitr>y1 b ,i _c f9d o!r words except by us+ long phrases4 ,!re is n 9 ?is any "q ( ! be/ial depravity :i* delib]ately debau*es ! "y & innoc5t3 x is a "q ( ! k9d ( fri5d%ip glorifi$ by ,plato4 ,& ^? :o uphold ! ,platonic view are n always debau*ees b sometimes m5 & wom5 :o1 h[ev] incompreh5sibly1 /ill s9c]ely believe t !y & n we :o oppose !m are ! true ideali/s4 ,?is is :y x is wor? :ile to /ate our reasons = our pr(\nd disagreem5t1 & to d s z intellig5tly & fairly z possible4 ,x is also wor? :ile because no "o has suff]$ m cruelly or m hopelessly ?an ^? ^: temp]am5t or abnormality has be5 treat$ by mo/ ( u z ?\gh x 7 9 itself1 & )\t actual wrong-do+1 a crime wor?y ( d5unciation & scorn4 ,fir/1 !n1 let x be rememb]$ t ! highe/ types humanity has evolv$ h be5 m5 & wom5 :o are really human1 t is to say :o h n only ^? qualities :i* are g5]ally reg>d$ z *>act]i/ic ( _! sex1 b h _h "s %>e ( ! o!r sex's qualities also4 ,a man :o is 7if su* a ?+ c\ld be7 :olly & exclusively male 9 all 8 qualities w\ld be repulsive2 s w\ld a woman :olly & exclusively female4 ,"o has only to look at hi/ory to realize x4 ,comp>$ ) ! exquisite t5d]ness & joy ( a ,/4 ,francis ( ,assisi1 ! c\rage & det]m9ation ( a ,/4 ,joan ( ,arc1 ! intellectual p[] ( a ,/4 ,ca!r9e ( ,si5a or ,/4 ,!resa ( ,spa91 ! brute male :o is :olly male1 ! et]nal fem99e ) h] suffocat+ sexuality seem on ! "o h& inhuman1 on ! o!r subhuman4 ,x is n ! abs5ce ( ! mascul9e qualities 9 a man1 or ( ! fem99e qualities 9 a woman :i* raises !m above ! mass2 x is ! pres5ce 9 p[] ( bo?2 & no man is truly human :o has n some?+ ( ! woman 9 him--no woman :o has n some?+ ( ! man4 ,"h is a c]ta9 tru?4 ,& its supreme example is ,*ri/ ,himself--,*ri/ 9 ,:om p[] & t5d]ness1 /r5g? & insight1 c\rage & compassion 7 equally pres5t--,*ri/ ,:o is 9 tru? ! ideal ( all humanity )\t di/9ction ( race1 class or sex4 ,?is is true4 ,b its tru? has be5 misund]/ood by tea*]s l ,edw>d ,c>p5t]4 ,beauty & /r5g? 9 human nature z else:]e dep5d on h>mony1 & 9 su* *>act]s z ,i h cit$ t h>mony is f\nd4 ,=1 9 fact1 !re is no in/ance 9 nature ( a male :olly male or a female entirely female4 ,ev5 physically ! elem5ts are %>$4 ,& if we say ) confid5ce t :]e ^! elem5ts are mo/ fully %>$ !re is f\nd ! fulle/ humanity1 we are n committ$ to add+ t :]e ! body has "o pr$om9at+ "* & ! _s ano!r !re is some?+ f9] /ill6 ,= h>mony ( life & temp]am5t ! body %\ld be ! p]fect in/rum5t & expression ( ! _s4 ,:5 y h ! temp]am5t ( "o sex 9 ! body ( ano!r1 ?is _c be4 ,!re is at once a di%>mony1 a dislocation1 a disord]--9 fact1 a less p]fect n a m p]fect type4 ,humanity does1 ,i believe1 progress t[>ds a full] elem5t ( ! woman 9 ! man1 ! man 9 ! woman1 & ! be/ we h produc$ s f> confirm ! tru? ( ?is4 ,b x is n an advance to produce a type 9 :i* ! temp]am5t & ! body are at odds4 ,?is is n progress b p]v]sion4 ,x is ! same consci\sness ( dislocation :i* makes u condemn homosexual practices4 ,"h x is a dislocation betwe5 ! means & ! end4 ,! in/9ct ( sex1 to :atev] use x may h be5 put1 is fundam5tally ! creative in/9ct4 ,x is n by an accid5t1 x is n z a side-issue1 t x is ?r\gh sexual attraction t *ildr5 are born4 ,& h[ev] sublimat$1 h[ev] enri*$1 re/ra9$ & condition$1 ! creative p[] ( physical passion rema9s at once its ju/ification & its consecration4 ,to use x 9 a relation%ip :i* mu/ = ev] be b>r5 is unnatural & 9 ! deepe/ s5se immoral4 ,x is n easy to def9e immorality1 because morality is "o ( ! fundam5tals :i* defy def9ition2 b ?\gh x is n easy to def9e1 x is n h>d to recognize4 ,all ! _w kn[s t x is immoral to pro/itute ! creative p[] ( g5ius to m]e comm]cialism1 = money or = fame4 ,no "o c draw a h>d & fa/ l9e4 ,no "o w qu>rel ) a great arti/ because he lives by 8 art1 or because he w sometimes turn aside to amuse himself1 8 public1 or 8 fri5ds4 ,mi*aelangelo is n blam$ because1 "o w9t]'s aft]noon1 he made a sn[-/atue = ,lor5zo de ,m$ici6 ,yet all w admit t m]ely to amuse1 m]ely to make money1 m]ely to ga9 popul>ity is a pro/itution ( g5ius4 ,:y8 ,because x is to put to ano!r ?an its real purpose ! creative p[] ( a great arti/4 ,9 ! same way1 to use ! p[] ( ano!r great creative impulse--t ( sex--9 a way :i* divorces x :olly f its end--creation on ! physical z well z ! spiritual plane--is immoral because x is unnatural4 ,aga9 & aga9 x w be f\nd to lead to a viol5t reaction ( feel+--a repulsion :i* is z int5se & viol5t z ! devotion :i* 0 its prelude4 ,:at !n %\ld ^? d :o h ?is temp]am5t8 ,no "o1 p]haps1 c wisely c\nsel !m b !mselves4 ,!y alone c f9d out ! way by :i* ! di%>mony ( _! be+ c be transc5d$4 ,t x c be s ,i am p]suad$4 ,t mod]n psy*ology has already made /rides 9 ! k ( ?is problem we all "k4 ,:at is due to arre/$ developm5t or to repression c be set "r or lib]at$3 :at is temp]am5tal transmut$4 ,b ,i appeal to ^? :o "k ?is1 b :o h suff]$ & d /ill suff] "u ?is difficulty1 to make x _! bus9ess to let 9 ! light1 to help o!rs1 to "k !mselves1 to le>n h[ to w9 h>mony out ( di%>mony & to transc5d _! own limitations4 ,let !m take hold ( life !re :]e x has hurt !m mo/ cruelly1 & wre/ f _! own suff]+ ! means by :i* o!rs %all be sav$ f suff]+ & humanity br\ght a little fur!r into ! light4 ,:o kn[s yet ( :at x is capable8 ,:o kn[s :at is our ultimate goal8 ,x may be t out ( a nature s complex & s difficult may come ! noble/ yet1 :5 ! _s has subdu$ ! w>r+ temp]am5t :olly to itself4 ,& to ! o!rs ,i w\ld say ?is4 ,if ! homosexual is /ill ! mo/ misund]/ood1 maltreat$1 & suff]+ ( our race1 x is due to our ignorance & brutal contempt4 ,h[ _m h ev5 tri$ to und]/&8 ,h[ _m h refra9$ f scorn8 ,o!r tr\bles h be5 mitigat$1 o!r griefs respect$ if n und]/ood4 ,b ?is we refuse ev5 to discuss4 ,we are cont5t to condemn 9 ignorance1 boa/+ t we are too good to und]/&4 ,9 consequ5ce1 ?\gh a few "h & !re h prea*$ homosexuality z a k9d ( gospel1 f> m h suff]$ an agony ( %ame1 a self-loa?+ :i* makes life a hell4 ,to be l$ to believe t "o is naturally deprav$6--to be condemn$ z ! wor/ ( s9n]s be=e "o has committ$ ev5 a s+le s96 ,is t n ! height & dep? ( cruelty8 ,d y wond] if "h & !re "o ( ! /rong] spirits among ^! condemn$ ones reacts 9 a fi]ce1 unconsci\s egotism & proclaims himself ! true type ( humanity1 ! truly civiliz$ man8 ,h[ %all !y see cle>ly :om we h clo!d 9 d>kness1 or judge truly :o are s t]ribly alone8 ,to h a temp]am5t is n 9 itself a s96 ,to f9d 9 y\r nature a di%>mony :i* y mu/ transc5d1 a dislocation y h to re/ore to ord]1 is n a s96 ,^: nature is all h>mony8 ,^: temp]am5t gu>antees him f temptation8 ,is !re "o "h :o is n consci\s ( "s dislocation 9 8 life t he mu/ combat8 ,n "o6 ,x is a di%>mony to h an active _s 9 a sickly body4 ,x is a di%>mony to h1 l "o ( ! v greate/ ( ,*ri/'s disciples1 a ?orn 9 ! fle% to buffet him4 ,:o %all deliv] u f ?is body ( dea?8 ,:5 y he> ( a ,bee?ov5 deaf or ( a ,rob]t ,l\is ,/ev5son spitt+ blood1 are y n consci\s ( di%>mony8 ,:]e !re is p]fect h>mony--p]fect1 ,i say--su* a dislocation c\ld n be4 ,epilepsy has be5 call$ la maladie des gr&s1 because "s great ones h suff]$ f x4 ,p]haps ,/4 ,paul did4 ,x is n possible to imag9e ,*ri/ do+ s4 ,9 ,him !re exi/$ s p]fect a h>mony ( be+ t "o c no m associate ,him ) ill-heal? ?an ) any o!r disord] or defect4 ,yet we d n speak 7or ?9k7 ) horrifi$ contempt ( ! di%>mony pres5t 9 ,/4 ,paul or 9 ,bee?ov54 ,r we rev]5ce ! glori\s conque/ ( ! _s ov] ! weakness & limitations ( ! fle%4 ,"s ( u h ev5 ru%$ to ! opposite extreme & prea*$ ill-heal? z a k9d ( sanctity1 9 our j admiration = ^? :o h battl$ aga9/ x & %[n u ! _s dom9ant ov] ! fle%4 ,b1 x w be urg$1 ill-heal? is q ano!r k9d ( di%>mony ?an vice4 ,we are n responsible = x1 & _c be blam$4 ,i am n prep>$ to admit t ?is is altoge!r true1 b ,i w n discuss x n[4 ,! po9t ,i want to make cle>1 if ,i make no?+ else cle>1 is t to be born ) a c]ta9 temp]am5t is n 9 itself a s9 nor does x compel y to be a s9n]4 ,y\r temp]am5t decides y\r trials2 x does n decide y\r de/9y4 ,x is no m wick$ to h ! temp]am5t ( a homosexual ?an to h ! weakness ( an invalid4 ,x is difficult = ! _s to dom9ate & to br+ into a heal?y h>mony a body pr$ispos$ to illness & disord]4 ,! great] ! glory to ^? :o succe$6 ,let u confess ) %ame t 9 ?is o!r & f> h>d] case we h n only ignor$ ! difficulty & despis$ ! /ruggl]1 b--,god =give u--h1 s f> z 9 u lay1 made impossible ! victory4 ,,viii ,,misund]/&+s ,if !re is "o result or conclusion t we may pick out f ! sci5ce ( sex :i* has develop$ s rapidly ( rec5t ye>s1 z ?or\ghly e/abli%$ & p]man5tly accept$1 x is t ! old notion ( ! s9fulness ( ! sex process1 9 se1 is sup]/iti\s1 n religi\s2 & mu/ be disc>d$ be=e e?ical religion c ass]t its full sway ov] humanity's sex life4 ,&1 mo/ assur$ly1 ! conception n>ratives ( ! ,new ,te/am5t1 by reta9+ ! sex process to ! important ext5t ( normal pregnancy & p>turition1 =e%ad[$ & hall[$ ?is developm5t ( e?ical ?\ght4 ,!y make x cle> t ! ,_s ( ,god & ! _s ( woman1 9 consci\s union1 refuse to ju/ify sup]/iti\s & p>alyz+ fe>s1 refuse to all[ t ! sex process is irr$eemable2 !y r5d] possible & imp]ative ! work+ out ( ! e?ical problems directly conc]n$ ) sex4 ,nor?cute3 ,*ri/ianity & ,sex ,problems1 pp4 #dae1 #daf4 ,dur+ ! c\rse ( ^! addresses ,i h m ?an once1 & ) m ?an common urg5cy1 plead$ = ! light ( k1 t we may 9 future n make s _m disa/r\s mi/akes f %e] ignorance & misund]/&+4 ,i h be5 ask$ to say m def9itely :at misund]/&+s ,i _h 9 m9d1 & to discuss !m ) at lea/ z mu* c\rage z ,i h s press+ly dem&$ f o!rs4 ,! dem& is j2 & ,i feel ! less able to disreg>d x because ,i h discuss$ ^! v difficulties ) p ^: lives h be5 wreck$ by ! ignorance 9 :i* !y 7 br\ght up1 or sav$ by k wisely imp>t$ be=e ! difficulties arose4 ,k _c save u f h>d%ip or difficulty2 x _c make u invuln]able to attack1 or lift u above ! ord9>y temptations ( ord9>y mortals2 b x c %[ u :]e we are go+2 x c guide u :5 we wi% to be guid$2 x c save u1 :5 we wi% to be sav$1 f mi/akes cruel to ourselves & (t5 f> m cruel to o!r p4 ,= in/ance3 x is v g5]ally believ$ t ! /ruggle = cont95ce is greatly eas$ by cont9ual & ev5 exhau/+ physical activity4 ,to "w h>d--to "w ev5 to exhau/ion--is believ$ by "s to be a panacea4 ,at our great public s*ools ! craze = a?leticism is ju/ifi$ on ! gr\nd t1 ev5 at ! exp5se ( ! ?+s ( ! m9d1 x does at lea/ keep ! boys f moral evil4 ,i believe ?is to be a mi/ake1 & a mi/ake :i* is due to our look+ at sex f a too purely physical po9t ( view4 ,x is1 ( c\rse1 imbecile to =get ! physical1 & deal ) sex simply z a s92 b x is no less /upid to =get t our bodies & s\ls are intimately b\nd toge!r1 & t !re is mu* m 9 passion ?an a m]ely physical in/9ct4 ,z a matt] ( fact1 a tir$ p]son is n immune f sex-hung]1 & ev5 an exhau/$ p]son is likely to f9d t1 f> f sexual feel+ be+ exhau/$ too1 x turns out to be ! only s5sation t w respond to /imulus at all4 ,! exploitation ( sexuality by our !atres & ,press is n successful only 9 ! case ( ! idle & ! ov]f$2 x f9ds its patrons also among ^? :o are too tir$ to put _! m9ds into any?+ really int]e/+ f an intellectual or arti/ic po9t ( view1 b ^: att5tion c be di/ract$ & ^: int]e/ held by a m or less op5 appeal to ! primitive in/9cts ( sex4 ,tir$ p want to be amus$ & int]e/$ if possible2 b !y are n easily amus$ by any?+ t appeals to ! m9d1 because !y are tir$4 ,!y want a s5sation o!r ?an ! cu/om>y "o ( fatigue1 & ! easie/ s5sation to excite is a sexual "o4 ,!y get x ?9ly disguis$1 9 a !atre or music-hall1 m ?ickly disguis$ 9 ! =m ( *eap fiction1 or q undisguis$ else:]e4 ,b ! idea t sexuality is de/roy$ by fatigue is a v mis*iev\s illusion :i* has misl$ & help$ to de/roy "s ( ! mo/ hone/ /riv]s aft] self-control4 ,su* p w1 ) a t\*+ belief 9 saws1 seek to f9d 9 exhau/ion relief f temptation4 ,b x is n amus+ always to feel tir$4 ,"o desires at la/ some?+ else--"s o!r k9d ( feel+--& "o is too tir$ to make an ef=t4 ,b sexual s5sation is easily excit$1 & 9 ! end ! un=tunate f9ds t he has yield$ aga94 ,8 h>d fight has only end$ 9 defeat1 & he ei!r ab&ons ! advice z mi/ak51 or himself z hopelessly & uniquely deprav$4 ,! tru? is1 ( c\rse1 t :at is ne$$ is n physical exhau/ion any m ?an physical idl5ess & ov]fe$+4 ,:at is want$ is h>d & int]e/+ "w--"w t absorbs "o's m5tal z well z physical /r5g?4 ,a boy at a public s*ool :o really c>es = games c p\r 8 en]gies into !m & appe> a f9e example ( ! sy/em2 a boy :o1 ?\gh games are compulsory1 _c int]e/ himself 9 !m at all1 is n help$ by be+ physically exhau/$4 ,if1 !n1 he yields to a temptation ! o!r has escap$1 ?is ne$ n be because he is m wick$ or m weak4 ,x may q well be because ! insi/5ce on a?leticism1 :i* has be5 elevat$ into a cult1 9 our public s*ools1 has suppli$ a real & absorb+ int]e/ = ! "o1 b has m]ely us$ ! physical capacity ( ! o!r )\t t\*+ 8 m9d or 8 _s at all4 ,:5 %all we le>n t e human be+ is a unity1 & t to ignore any "p ( x--body1 m9d or _s--is idiotic8 ,! muscul> ,*ri/ian :o believes t cont95ce is a*iev$ by physical fatigue is z %ort-sight$ z he :o w\ld treat ! :ole matt] z a purely e?ical problem4 ,b ! man or woman :o works h>d at "s cong5ial & absorb+ task--especially if x be creative "w--f9ds ! virtue ( cont95ce well )9 8 grasp )\t exhau/ion & )\t asceticism4 ,x is because sex is ess5tially a creative--! creative--p[] 9 humanity t we h to direct its =ce into "s m spiritual *annel ?an m]e physical lab\r1 if we are to make ourselves its ma/]4 ,aga91 an increas+ numb] ( u believe t to ma/] our physical impulses is possible2 & t x has seem$ impossible--at lea/1 = m5--9 ! pa/ l>gely because s little k & s little common-s5se has be5 us$ 9 a*iev+ ma/]y4 ,naturally1 x 0 simpl] to assume t x 0 impossible to control oneself ?an to f9d out h[ to make x possible1 b z we gr[ m civiliz$ we cease to be p]fectly cont5t ) ?is simple plan1 & beg9 to p]ceive its extraord9>y inju/ices & brutalities4 ,x has be5 said t ! civilization ( any p or p]iod may be judg$ by ! position ( its wom51 & ?\gh ?is is too simple to be q true1 x is f> m true ?an false4 ,if1 h[ev]1 civilization does raise ! position ( wom51 & assign to !m a great] fre$om ( action & a wid] scope = _! lives ?an 0 !irs be=e1 x mu/ be cle>ly und]/ood t wom5 9 ^! circum/ances & ( ?is type w take a q diff]5t l9e on ! "q ( sex morals ?an _! great-gr&mo!rs did4 ,x is1 = example1 /ill urg$ t wom5 mu/ n d ?is1 t or ! o!r "w1 because x involves work+ ) m5 ^: sex in/9cts may be uncontrollably ar\s$ by su* collaboration4 ,sir ,almro? ,wright has plead$ ?is1 & x is be+ urg$ to-day aga9/ ! entrance ( wom5 into :at is n[ almo/ ! only sph]e /ill clos$ to !m--! spiritual "w ( ! ,*ur*es4 ,x is urg$ t "s m5 are afraid ( be+ sexually excit$ if !y are address$ by a woman-prea*]1 & t o!rs _c be )9 ! sanctu>y1 ) a woman ne> !m1 )\t simil> dang]4 ,! misund]/&+ t arises "h is1 surely1 t ! cause ( ?is abnormal excitem5t is 9 ! woman1 :]eas 79 ! cases cit$7 x is 9 ! man4 ,!re are1 ( c\rse1 wom5 :o f9d an exactly simil> difficulty 9 work+ ) m53 wom5 :o are trans=m$ by ! m]e pres5ce ( m51 z !re are m5 :o _c ent] a room full ( wom5 )\t physical di/urbance4 ,su* m51 su* wom51 are n necess>ily deprav$ or immoral p]sons1 _! temp]am5t may be a s\rce ( g5u9e di/ress to !m4 ,x may be mo/ admirably controll$1 & 9 ?\s&s ( cases x is s1 especially :5 ! suff]] und]/&s himself or--m r>ely--und]/&s h]self4 ,all ! help t psy*ology & m$ical sci5ce c give 7& x is mu*7 %\ld be giv5 to & accept$ by su* p4 ,! "o ?+ t %\ld n be yield$ is ! ridicul\s claim t m5 & wom5 :o are n s susceptible 7& :o are 9 ! va/ majority7 %\ld rule _! lives accord+ to ! /&>ds ( ^? :o are sexually ov]-develop$ or "o-sid$ly develop$4 ,x _c be too /rongly insi/$ t ?is problem is ! problem ( ! individual4 ,he 7or %e7 has got to settle x4 ,he mu/ le>n to manage himself 9 su* a way t he ceases to be abnormally excitable1 or he mu/ arrange 8 life s t he avoids1 z f> z possible1 ! causes ( excitem5t4 ,he mu/ n expect o!rs to cramp _! lives to fit him2 he mu/ n expect civilization to be p]v]t$ or arre/$ 9 ord] to avoid a difficulty :i* is 8 own4 ,! only alt]native to ?is is to rev]t to a =m ( civilization 9 :i* x 0 frankly admitt$ t sex-impulses c\ld n be controll$1 ei!r by m5 or by wom51 & society 0 !re=e organiz$ on a basis :i*1 q logically1 provid$ = ! re/ra9t ( wom5 9 a bondage :i* prev5t$ !m f satisfy+ _! impulses z !y *ose1 & at ! same "t protect$ !m f attack by o!r m5 ?an _! lawful own]s2 & :i*1 fur!r1 provid$ conv5i5ces = ! equally uncontrollable in/9cts ( m54 ,?is sy/em is q logical2 s is ! "o "h advocat$1 ( assum+ t ! sexual in/9cts ( bo? sexes c be controll$4 ,:at is n logical is ! assumption t !y c be controll$1 b t su* control is to be ex]cis$ n by ea* "o ma/]+ himself1 b by ! removal ( all possibility ( temptation6 ,?is dem& is really incompatible ) our civilization1 & ^? :o make x %\ld try to und]/& t :at !y ask is1 9 fact1 ! rev]sal ( all advance 9 real self-control 9 matt]s ( sex4 ,let u ab&on ! pret5ce t x is wick$ = ei!r a man or a woman to h /rongly-develop$ sex-in/9cts4 ,:5 we d ?is1 we %all be on ! high way to le>n+ h[ to manage ourselves )\t mak+ prepo/]\s dem&s ^u our neighb\rs or inroads ^u _! individual fre$om4 ,we %all also1 ,i believe1 get rid ( ^? p]v]sions :i* d>k5 und]/&+ z well z joy4 ,"o ne$ n g all ! way ) ,freud--"o may1 inde$1 suspect him ( suff]+ f a sev]e repression himself--:ile admitt+1 nev]!less1 t mu* ( ! folly t surr\nds our treatm5t ( sex-que/ions is due to ! pa!tic det]m9ation ( highly respectable p to h no sex nature or impulses at all4 ,c]ta9ly ?is acc\nts = mu* t is call$ prud]y 9 wom51 ^: repress$ & />v$ in/9cts rev5ge !mselves 9 a morbid 7m5tal7 preoccupation ) ! details ( vice4 ,i am =c$ to ! conclusion t x has also some?+ to d ) ! q extraord9>y description t c]ta9 ecclesia/ics give ( _! own inability to control _! imag9ations ev5 at ! mo/ solemn mom5ts4 ,a n>r[ & di%one/ moral /&>d has be5 foi/$ ^u wom5 9 ^! matt]s1 & in/ead ( kn[+ !mselves & le>n+ to control _! natures1 !y h be5 giv5 a false idea ( _! own natures1 & taught in/ead m]ely to repress !m4 ,s1 v (t51 a curi\sly artificial code ( mann]s has be5 accept$ by ! cl]gyman--a code :i* has be5 cry/alliz$ 9 a phrase by call+ ! cl]gy ! ?ird sex--& he1 l ! wom51 %\ld be 9 revolt aga9/ x if he is to be sav$4 ,inde$1 we are or %\ld be allies1 n foes4 ,let ! prie/ or m9i/] we> ! same k9d ( coll> z o!r p1 mix ) !m on equal t]ms1 & !n1 if he has a high] moral /&>d ?an !y1 x w be 8 own /&>d1 accept$ by him because x comm&s 8 homage1 & n a /&>d impos$ on him m]ely because he belongs to a c]ta9 ca/e4 ,x is always ! code ( morals impos$ f )\t t does mis*ief1 & results 9 ! repressions & p]v]sions ab\t :i* mod]n psy*ology has taught u s mu*4 ,x w p]haps be urg$ t ! peculi> dang]s ( :i* ecclesia/ics are consci\s are due to ! psy*ological fact t ! erotic & religi\s emotions are closely alli$4 ,t ?is is a fact w h>dly be d\bt$4 ,b aga9 ! problem is ei!r an individual "o1 or x mu/ be solv$ by ab&on+ our pres5t position & rev]t+ to t ( an e>li] & crud] civilization4 ,x is possible to argue t eroticism & religion are s ne>ly alli$ & s easily mi/ak5 = "o ano!r1 t safety & s9c]ity alike dem& sep>ate wor%ip = m5 & wom54,f ,x is also possible to leave x to ! individual to manage himself1 conqu] :]e he c & flee :]e he _c4 ,b x is n possible1 on gr\nds ( religi\s eroticism1 to protect m5 f li/5+ to a woman prea*+1 at ! co/ ( compell+ wom5 to li/5 to no "o b a man2 or insi/ on ! intol]able cruelty ( compell+ a man-prie/ to celebrate mass ) a woman s]v]1 :ile =c+ ! woman to make h] confession to a man4 ,footnote ,f3 ,z1 e4g41 among ! ,mahometans &1 to a less ext5t1 ! ,jews4 ,i am conv9c$ t :5 religi\s p le>n to refra9 f *eap religion bas$ on emotional prea*+ & s5tim5tal or r[dy music1 !y w f9d t1 ?\gh eroticism & religion are ne>ly alli$ & c easily be mi/ak51 x is n impossible to di/+ui% betwe5 !m4 ,! ef=t to d s %\ld be made by our spiritual lead]s1 & :5 made w result 9 a /urdi] & m ?\ghtful religion4 ,:ile = ^?1 :e!r m5 or wom51 :o are hone/ly aw>e t = !m c]ta9 ?+s are impossible !re w be an obvi\s alt]native4 ,! man :o _c =get ! woman 9 ! prie/ or prea*] w n att5d h] *ur*2 ! woman1 ( :om ! same is sometimes true1 w avoid ! m9i/rations ( m54 ,!re w !n be less ( t eroticism 9 religion :i* "s ( ^? :o--by a curi\s p]v]sion ( logic--oppose ! m9i/ry ( wom5 actually quote z a reason = compell+ wom5 to g to m5-prie/s because !re is no "o else = !m to g to4 ,,ix ,,fur!r ,,misund]/&+s3 ,,! ,,ne$ ,,= ,,sex ,,*ivalry ,m5 v5]at$ & ev5 fe>$ wom5--p>ticul>ly 9 _! specifically sexual aspect--ev5 :ile !y bulli$ !m2 & ev5 9 corrupt & sup]/iti\s times1 :5 ! ideal ( womanhood 0 lo/ sight (1 wom5 t5d$ to get back z wit*es ! spiritual em95ce !y _h fail$ to reta9 z sa9ts1 matrons & savi\rs ( society4 ,nor?cote3 ,*ri/ianity & ,sex ,problems1 p4 #cbf4 ,*ivalry is ! c\rtesy ( /r5g? to weakness4 ,yet wom5 :o pride !mselves on _! sup]ior moral /r5g? 9 reg>d to sex r>ely feel b\nd to %[ any *ivalry t[>ds ! weak4 ,i d n myself believe t wom5 are z a :ole /rong] ?an m51 or t m5 are z a :ole /rong] ?an wom52 b ,i am sure t ! sexes are relatively /rong] 9 c]ta9 respects & at c]ta9 po9ts1 & t :]e "o is /rong] ?an ! o!r1 t "o %\ld feel ! *ivalr\s obligation ( /r5g? :e!r man or woman4 ,*ivalry is n & ought n to be a mascul9e virtue solely4 ,= example1 x is q common to be told ( 7or by7 "s girl :o is an arti/ 9 flirtation t %e is q able to take c>e ( h]self4 ,?is appe>s to mean t :oev] suff]s1 %e w n2 & :atev] is giv51 %e w n be ! giv]4 ,x is possible to g fur!r & say t :atev] %e buys %e w c]ta9ly n pay =4 ,:at does %e buy8 ,well1 x dep5ds1 ( c\rse1 on :at %e wants & :at is h] social class4 ,b1 r\ghly speak+1 %e wants bo? pleasure & homage--n only !atres & c9emas1 ice-creams or *ocolates1 b ! inc5se t goes ) su* ?+s--! demon/ration ( h] triumphant sexual *>m1 :i* evokes su* (f]+s4 ,( c\rse1 9 a great deal ( ?is !re is no h>m4 ,p :o l ea* o!r w l to please ea* o!r1 to give pleasure1 & to enjoy x toge!r4 ,b !re is some?+ beyond ?is :i* is n h>mless b dete/able1 & t is ! delib]ate play+ on sexual attraction 9 ord] to extract homage & to demon/rate p[]4 ,a girl w sometimes play on a man z a piani/ on 8 in/rum5t1 put a /ra9 on him t is intol]able1 fray 8 n]ves & de/roy 8 self-control1 :ile %e h]self1 protect$ n by virtue b frigidity1 complac5tly affirms t %e c take c>e ( h]self4 ,! blatant di%one/y ( ! bus9ess nev] /rikes h] = a mom5t4 ,%e takes all %e wants & gives no?+ 9 return1 & hone/ly believes t ?is is because %e is virtu\s4 ,t %e is a ?ief--& "o :o comb9es !ft ) torture--nev] occurs to h]2 yet x is true4 ,obs]ve--,i d n sugge/ t x w\ld be cr$itable if %e did pay4 ,x w\ld be no m s ?an ,h]od's paym5t ( ,john ! ,bapti/'s head4 ,b al?\gh x is wrong to take some?+ y want & give 9 return :at y ought n to give1 x w\ld be a curi\s sort ( morality t w\ld g on to argue t x is "r to take all & give no?+4 ,bo? transactions are immoral & "o is di%one/4 ,on ! o!r h&1 x mu/ be rememb]$ t a p>asite mu/ take all & give no?+ or z little z possible4 ,t is ! law ( its be+4 ,& s long z m5 res5t ! indep5d5ce ( wom51 & enjoy ! position ( p]petual payma/]1 s long w _m wom5 be driv5 to use ! only weapon !y h left4 ,moreov]1 x is fair to say--& ?is is :y ,i plead = light--t _m ( !m are g5u9ely ignorant t !y are play+ ) fire4 ,! m frigid !y are !mselves1 ! less are !y able to gauge ! =ces !y are ar\s+2 ! m ignorant !y are1 ! less possible is x = !m to be *ivalr\s to ^? ^: /r5g? & weakness !y alike misund]/&4 ,! half-k1 ! in/9ctive arts1 :i* girls sometimes display cont9ually mislead m5 into ?9k+ !m a great deal clev]] ?an !y are4 ,ea* is ignorant ( ! o!r's weakness1 & ea* puts ! o!r 9 dang] because ( t ignorance4 ,i once spoke to a big meet+ ( girls 9 ! neighb\rhood ( a big camp1 dur+ ! w>2 & reflect+ on ! difficult position ( ! m5--_! segregation f ord9>y fem99e society1 _! di/ance f _! homes1 _! unoccupi$ h\rs1 & ! inevitable n]v\s & emotional /ra9 ( prep>+ = ! front--,i tri$ to make ! girls realize h[ h>d !y c\ld make x = ! m5 to keep /raight1 if !y 7 ignorant or fooli% !mselves4 ,i knew--& said s--t ! girls 7 9 a difficult position too2 b1 aft] all1 !y prid$ !mselves on be+ ! m moral 7i4e4 ! /rong]7 sex1 & %\ld be *ivalr\s4 ,aft]w>ds ,i got a reproa*ful lett] f a woman-patrol1 :o assur$ me t if any?+ w5t wrong1 x 0 n ! fault ( ! girls4 ,!y are a r\gh lot1 %e wrote1 &1 ( c\rse1 !y l to h a soldi] to walk out )4 ,!y l to romp ) ! m51 & to kiss !m1 & p]haps !y d g r f> 9 lett+ ! m5 pull !m ab\t4 ,b !y h no int5tion :atev] ( go+ any fur!r4 ,if ?+s d g fur!r1 x is ! m5's fault1 n ! girls'4 ,i c\ld h>dly h a bett] in/ance ( ! sort ( ?+ ,i mean4 ,! girls want to h fun up to a c]ta9 po9t1 & !re /op4 ,x does n occur to !m t !re may be a diff]5ce 9 ! po9t at :i* !y propose--or wi%--to /op1 & t at :i* ! man c4 ,t !re is any physiological or psy*ological factor 9 ! case :i* makes /opp+ possible at "o mom5t & next-door to impossible at ano!r1 & t ^! factors may diff] betwe5 ! sexes1 s t "o _c /op j :]e ! o!r c1 is q a new idea n only to factory girls b to wom5-patrols--at lea/ to "s ( !m4 ,a girl w *e]fully />t a man ru%+ d[n an incl9$ plane & !n compla9 because he cont9ues ru%+ till he rea*es ! bottom4 ,well1 9 a s5se1 we ought n to compla9 ( ei!r ( !m3 we ought to *all5ge ! s5seless way 9 :i* !y are kept 9 ! d>k ab\t ea* o!r4 ,9 ^! days1 :5 s mu* great] lib]ty is accord$ to boys & girls ?an 0 giv5 9 ! pa/1 ! fri5ds ( lib]ty %\ld insi/ ) ob/9acy on ! ne$ = k4 ,= if lib]ty is unaccompani$ & unguid$ by k1 its deg5]ation into lic5ce w be triumphantly us$ by ! lov]s ( bondage z an argum5t aga9/ lib]ty itself4 ,let me !n say boldly t ,i am all = lib]ty4 ,i want boys & girls1 m5 & wom51 to see f> m ( ea* o!r & get to "k ea* o!r mu* bett] ?an 9 ! pa/4 ,i believe 9 co-education1 & 9 real co-education--n ! %am t is practis$ 9 "s ( our univ]sities & colleges4 ,i see ! risks & ,i want to take !m4 ,i "k !re w be disa/]s1 & ,i ?9k !m mu* less disa/r\s ?an ^? att5d+ ! me?ods ( obscurantism & re/ra9t4 ,i ?9k ! idea t a boy & girl may n t\* ea* o!r introduces a silly atmosph]e ( unreal romance :]e commonplace fri5d%ip is :at is want$4 ,b ) all ?is1 & because ( all ?is1 ,i want a girl to "k t a boy's body & m9d are n exactly l h]s2 & p]haps a boy to "k t a girl's is n totally unlike 86 ,9 :at way d !y diff]8 ,! male1 ,i ?9k1 is m liable to sudd5 gu/s ( passion1 ( viol5ce s great z to be almo/ uncontrollable--at lea/ s ne>ly s z to make x bo? cruel & /upid to ar\se !m4 ,a woman's nature is n 7g5]ally7 s quickly /irr$4 ,%e takes long] to move 7h5ce ! univ]sal fact ( c\rt%ip74 ,or r x might be m accurate to say t he & %e may bo? />t at ! same "t f ! same po9t1 b %e takes long] to rea* ! end1 & because ?is is s1 is m capable ( /opp+ be=e ! end is rea*$4 ,?is %e does n und]/&1 & expects t if %e c pause1 s c he2 :ile he also misund]/&s1 & does n "k t !re is = h]1 j z mu* z = him1 a mom5t :5 self-control becomes impossible4 ,i h said s mu* ab\t ! lack ( *ivalry %[n by wom5 to m5 t x is only reasonable to po9t out t ! rev]se is true1 & t m5 are (t5 extraord9>ily un*ivalr\s t[>ds wom54 ,! cause is1 ( c\rse1 ! same3 !y d n realize :at a /ra9 !y are putt+ on !m4 ,!re is /ill a v g5]al assumption1 ev5 by ^? :o really "k bett]1 t wom5 h no passions & are untempt$ f )94 ,i h (t5 be5 assur$ by m5 ( ! _w t a woman c always /op a man if %e wants to4 ,no d\bt %e c--"s m54 ,%e c /op !m if %e wants to4 ,! tr\ble is t a "t comes :5 %e _c want to4 ,! bl& assumption t a man has a p]fect "r to play on a woman's sex-in/9cts till !y are beyond control1 & !n call h] ! guilty "o because !y are beyond control1 is bas$ on ! age-old det]m9ation n to recognize ! full humanity ( wom54 ,!y are diff]5t f m54 ,s !y are4 ,i h admitt$ x4 ,b ! lik5ess is mu* great] ?an ! diff]5ce4 ,& nei!r ! lik5ess nor ! diff]5ce makes self-control an easy ?+ = h]4 ,x is easi] up to a c]ta9 po9t1 because %e is m sl[ly mov$2 x is h>d] :5 t po9t is rea*$ because h] :ole nature is involv$4 ,%e has nev] le>nt to say t %e c give h] body to "o :ile rema9+ spiritually fai?ful to ano!r1 & p]haps %e nev] w le>n4 ,i at lea/ suspect s4 ,%e may be z fickle z a man1 b x w be 9 a diff]5t way4 ,( c\rse1 9 all ?is ,i g5]alize v ra%ly f a v n>r[ exp]i5ce4 ,my excuse is t ^! ?+s mu/ be discuss$ if we are ev] to g5]alize m safely1 or to le>n t we mu/ n g5]alize at all4 ,& ,i h come to ! conclusion t x is p]haps z possible to "k some?+ ( :at is or is n true :5 "o is unm>ri$ z :5 "o is m>ri$4 ,at lea/ "o escapes ! sn>e into :i* s _m m>ri$ p surpris+ly fall1 ( g5]aliz+ f an exp]i5ce :i* is n m]ely z n>r[ z ev]yone's mu/ be1 b actually unique2 :i* enables !m to pron\nce ) /upefy+ confid5ce t all m5 are z ?is man is2 all wom5 z 8 wife2 & all m>riages z 8 m>riage4 ,:5 "o has _h ! hon\r ( receiv+ ! confid5ce ( a succession ( su* prophets & he>d !m pron\nce 9 turn1 b 9 an entirely diff]5t s5se1 ^u ! difficulties or eas9esses ( sex-relation%ips1 always ) a full assurance t !y are "r1 n only 9 _! own case b univ]sally1 "o beg9s to make a few t5tative g5]alizations oneself 9 ! hope t !y w at lea/ provoke discussion & eng5d] light4 ,x ,,! ,,s9 ,,( ,,! ,,bridegroom ,a dea?less bubble f ! fre% lips bl[n ,( ,*]ubim at play ab\t ,god's ?rone ,seem$ h] virg9ity4 ,%e dream$ alone ,dreams r\nd & sp>kl+ z "s sea-wa%$ /one4 ,!n an oaf saw & lu/$ at ! sight4 ,!y sma%$ ! ?+ ^u _! w$d+ night4 ,dun*1 ,susan ,miles4 ,some?+ has be5 said by o!rs ( "o ( ! mo/ fruitful s\rces ( misund]/&+ betwe5 m5 & wom51 :]e misund]/&+ is likely to h ! mo/ disa/r\s results--:at has be5 call$ by ,rosegg] ! s9 ( ! bridegroom4 ,p]haps s9 is a mi/ak5 ^w4 ,if irrep>able h>m is (t5 done on ! w$d+ night1 x is q z mu* due to ignorance z to cruelty4 ,no?+ is m a/oni%+ ?an ! widespread ignorance ( m5 & wom5 ( ! fact t c\rt%ip is n a m]e conv5tion1 or a means ( flatt]+ ! vanity ( wom51 b a physiological necessity if !re is to be any diff]5ce at all betwe5 ! union ( lov]s & a rape4 ,x is all1 ,i suppose1 "p ( ! old possessive idea :i*1 mak+ ( a woman some?+ less ?an a human p]sonality ) wi%es1 desires & temp]am5t ( h] own1 =bade ! man to realize or ev5 to "k t h] body has its ne$s z well z 81 & t to reg>d x m]ely z an in/rum5t is to be 9 dang] ( real cruelty4 ,y c b>ga9 = ! possession ( a viol9 & ! mom5t x is y\rs1 may play ^u x4 ,x is y\rs4 ,if y are 9 ! mood to play1 x mu/ be ready = y4 ,if x is n1 !n tune x1 & x w be4,g ,b a human be+ _c be treat$ s 9 any human relation%ip4 ,x ne$s mutual pati5ce & mutual respect to make a relation%ip human4 ,footnote ,g3 ,b ev5 a viol9 w ne$ to be tun$4 ,?is simple fact1 h[ev]1 has be5 s little und]/ood ( lov]s1 t husb&s h1 9 g5u9e ignorance ( ! cruelty !y 7 committ+1 rap$ _! wives on _! w$d+ night4 ,judg+ by :at "o kn[s ( w$d+-days1 x c\ld h>dly be suppos$ t !re c\ld be a m unpropiti\s mom5t = ! consummation ( m>riage4 ,& :5 to ! fatigue & /ra9 ( ! day is add$--z is /ill q (t5 ! case--blank ?\gh uneasy ignorance z to :at m>riage involves1 or ! ?und]bolt ( k 7sic7 laun*$ by ! bride's "m ! night be=e1 or ! morn+ ( ! day itself1 x w\ld be difficult ) ! utmo/ delib]ation & skill bett] to ensure absolute repulsion & horror on ! "p ( ! bride4 ,i ?9k t any man :o w\ld consid] ?is f ! bride's po9t ( view w\ld see t %e ne$ n necess>ily be cold or unresponsive because1 9 su* circum/ances1 %e ne$s re/ & consid]ation m ?an passion4 ,b ,i wi% m5 c\ld "k a little m ?an ?is1 & und]/& t to en=ce physical union :5 a woman's psy*ical & emotional nature does n desire x1 is def9itely & physically cruel4 ,woman is n a passive in/rum5t1 & to treat h] z su* is to injure h]4 ,p]haps ,i may be =giv5 = lab\r+ ?is po9t because1 9 fact1 misund]/&+ "h is s disa/r\s4 ,m>riage1 aft] all1 is a relation into :i* ! "q ( physical union ent]s1 & if !re is no equality ( desire1 m>riage w be mu* less ?an x might be4 ,wom5 are--idiotically--taught to believe t passion is a *>act]i/ic ( ! deprav$ woman & ( ! normal man1 :o is %[n by ?is fact to be on a l[] spiritual level ?an 7normal7 woman4 ,?is s5seless pride 9 :at is m]ely a defect ( temp]am5t :]e x exi/s has poison$ ! m>ital relations ( _m m5 & wom51 & has l$ wom5 into m>ry+ :5 !y 7 temp]am5tally unfitt$ = su* a relation1 & q unable to make anyone happy 9 x4 ,nor ought !y to be too mu* blam$1 s9ce !y are (t5 unaw>e ( :at !y ought to be prep>$ to give 9 m>riage & firmly conv9c$ t _! prepo/]\s ignorance is 9 "s inexplicable way a virtue4 ,:y x %\ld be admirable1 or ev5 commonly hone/1 to und]take duties ( ^: nature y are ignorant1 nei!r m5 nor wom5 seem ev] to h decid$1 & ! illusion is beg9n+ to pass4 ,b x is /ill n und]/ood t ! woman :o is n temp]am5tally asexual may easily be made s by be+ =c$ :5 %e is n ready1 & physically hurt :5 a little pati5ce & t5d]ness w\ld h sav$ h]4 ,=el1 ,havelock1 ,ellis & o!rs h insi/$ on ?is1 b _! books are un=tunately n easily accessible to ! g5]al public2 & some?+ may be add$ to ! m widely read productions ( ,dr4 ,/opes4,h ,n only ! physiological b ! psy*ological side ( ! problem has to be consid]$1 & x w\ld be h>d to decide :i* is ! m important or :i* ! v]a causa ( ! o!r's reaction4 ,sci5ti/s may p]haps tell u "s day3 "h ,i want only to po9t out t !re is a spiritual factor 9 ! case :i* ne$s at lea/ to be recogniz$4 ,footnote ,h3 ,m>ri$ ,love1 ,wise ,p>5?ood1 & ,radiant ,mo!rhood4 ,by ,m>ie ,c>mi*ael ,/opes4 ,is passion a cause or an effect8 ,9 o!r words1 %\ld physical union be ! expression ( spiritual union8 ,is x ! outw>d & visible sign ( an inw>d & spiritual grace8 ,or is x a means by :i* t grace is a*iev$8 ,i ?9k ! fir/ in/9ct ( mo/ wom5 w\ld be to say t spiritual union %\ld be express$ by physical union1 & t unless ?is spiritual union exi/s ! physical union is wrong4 ,& yet ev]yone :o /ops to ?9k w admit t ! expression ( an emotion deep5s x4 ,"o c "w oneself up into a rage by %\t+ & swe>+4 ,"o c deep5 love by express+ love4 ,x is noticeable t ! :ole case = bir? control has repeat$ly be5 argu$ f ! gr\nd t ! act ( physical union n only expresses b int5sifies & increases love4 ,m>riage is ! mo/ difficult ( human relations1 because x is ! mo/ intimate & ! mo/ p]man5t4 ,to live s close to ano!r--:o1 9 spite ( all1 rema9s ano!r--to be br\ght s ne>1 to associate s intimately ) ano!r p]sonality1 )\t j>r+ or w\nd+--t is h>d4 ,no wond] x is n inv>iably a success6 ,b passion makes x possible to _m to :om1 )\t ?is1 x w\ld n be possible4 ,ultimately passion %\ld be transc5d$ s9ce 9 any case x mu/ be left beh9d4 ,yet x has s]v$ its end1 9 deep5+ & int5sify+ ! love ( two p = "o ano!r4 ,:]e !n lies ! difficulty1 s9ce probably m5 & wom5 alike w\ld agree t :at ,i h said is true8 ,! diff]5ce ( view is p]haps m 9 practice ?an 9 !ory2 yet x is all ! h>d] ( adju/m5t = t4 ,9 !ory1 bo? m5 & wom5 w\ld agree t physical union1 ideally1 %\ld express a spiritual union2 & t 9 do+ s1 x deep5s & int5sifies x4 ,b x is /ill possible to disagree z to :i* ( ^! two aspects ( an admitt$ tru? is ! m vital & fundam5tal4 ,x may be1 z ,i h already sugge/$1 t ! woman's po9t ( view is due to h] physiology2 or x may at lea/ be influ5c$ by x4 ,at lea/1 ,i am conv9c$ t to ! woman ! s5se t physical union is only ju/ifi$ by already exi/5t spiritual union1 is ! normal "o4 ,i believe t1 h[ev] incapable %e may be ( expla9+ x1 & h[ev] h] p[] ( reason+ may be vitiat$ by wrong ideas ab\t ! sexual relation1 %e does in/9ctively recoil f its use :5 its reason = exi/5ce is n !re4 ,%e may attribute h] reluctance to ! fact t %e is too womanly 7sic71 too spiritually m9d$ to h any desire = sexual relations at all2 h] husb& may attribute x to coldness ( temp]am5t or mode/y4 ,9 fact1 x is due to ! cause ,i h /at$1 & if %e _h nev] be5 call$ ^u to give h] body except :5 h] own desire = ! outw>d & visible sign ( an inw>d & spiritual grace dem&$ x1 h] husb& w\ld h f\nd t %e 0 n temp]am5tally defective1 b z good a lov] z he4 ,no "o :o lives 9 ! _w at all c fail to und]/& t 9 e human relation%ip1 & supremely 9 ?is "o1 !re mu/ be mu* mutual accommodation1 mu* give & take1 a great g5tl5ess to e claim made 9 ! "n ( love4 ,all ,i am conc]n$ to d "h is to help to cle> up misund]/&+s4 ,x is no claim t ,i put =w>d t ! woman's po9t ( view is sup]ior to ! man's3 m]ely t !y seem to me a little diff]5t4 ,a man :o is consci\s ( j>r+1 :o f9ds himself a little at cross-purposes ) ! woman he loves1 & yet kn[s t ! j>r+ is m]ely sup]ficial & ! love pr(\nd1 may easily feel t to ask & (f] once m ! supreme expression ( t love is ! be/ way to transc5d ! tempor>y lack ( sympa?y & re/ore love to its "r place & true proportion4 ,:o %all say t he is wrong8 ,is x n c]ta9 t ! expression ( love does int5sify & deep5 love8 ,is n a sacram5t ! means ( grace z well z its symbol4 ,yet let him be w>n$4 ,he may easily seem to 8 wife to be cont5t+ himself ) ! symbol )\t ! reality1 ! body )\t ! s\l4 ,if %e und]/&s him1 %e may g ) him4 ,if %e does n1 no yield+ on h] "p--no physical passion t he may ar\se--w q /ifle ! prote/ :i* tells h] t %e suff]s spiritual violation4 ,d y rememb] ! cry ( ,julie 9 ,! ,?ree ,daught]s ( ,m4 ,dupont8 ,x is a nightly w>f>e 9 :i* ,i am always defeat$4 ,t h] physical nature is suborn$ to aid 9 ! conque/ only increases = h] ! s5se ( degradation4 ,?is diff]5ce 9 po9t ( view affects ! relations ( m5 & wom5 f> m widely ?an is realiz$1 s9ce x is apt to arise :]ev] ! physical comes 9 at all--& :]e does x n8 ,n a t\* only1 or a c>ess1 b all delib]ate appeal to sexual feel+ becomes m difficult to wom5 z !y gr[ m civiliz$4 ,x is p]haps difficult = a man to realize1 9 ! atmosph]e ( giggles & :isp]s ) :i* sex is surr\nd$ 9 ! !atre1 ! novel & ! press1 h[ revolt+ x becomes to mod]n wom5 to be expect$ to use su* means = hold+ a lov]1 or extort+ concessions f "o :o is held4 ,x 0 mu* easi]1 ,i suppose1 :5 wom5 did n und]/& :at !y 7 ab\t4 ,"o sees t to su* wom5 x is comp>atively easy to-day4 ,& ! position is complicat$ by inh]itance ( ! age-old conviction t a woman is supremely woman :5 %e c b5d a man by precisely ^! means4 ,b ! revolt is "h4 ,&--= ! sake ( cle>ness--:at ,i am conc]n$ to %[ is t a woman is n necess>ily asexual or cold because %e w n use an appeal to sexuality 9 ord] to get :at %e wants4 ,%e may h all ! temp]am5t 9 ! _w1 b %e has also self-respect1 & %e revolts f ! idea ( exploit+ = advantage :at %\ld be sacram5tal4 ,i believe t a bett] und]/&+ on ?is po9t w\ld save n only great disa/]s b an inf9ity ( small j>s & /ra9s1 & if ,i h put ! woman's po9t ( view at "s l5g? x is p>tly because ,i und]/& x bett]1 b *iefly because x is comp>atively mod]n to admit t %e has a po9t ( view to put4 ,once und]/ood1 x becomes easi] to und]/& also ! />tl+ successes & disa/r\s failures :i* att5d ! rem>kable practice ( tea*+ a woman to love aft] %e is m>ri$4 ,! ext5t to :i* social tabus & prud]y may actually inhibit a woman's natural sexual developm5t makes x possible1 z we h se51 = h] to m>ry 9 ignorance ( :at m>riage implies4 ,:5 ?is happ5s1 h] love1 ?\gh x may be noble1 altrui/ic & spiritual1 does n involve h] :ole nature4 ,h] husb&1 if he respects h] suffici5tly1 w be able to awak5 t :i* sleeps1 & 9 accordance ) ! und\bt$ tru? t expression int5sifies love1 he does tea* h] to love him n only 9 "o s5se b 9 all4 ,on ! o!r h&1 if %e does n already love him1 he w n succe$ 9 tea*+ h] any?+ b disgu/ if he dreams t by compell+ physical union he c create spiritual union4 ,evid5tly x is a s+ul>ly dang]\s attempt6 ,x is to be hop$ t 9 future no woman w run su* risks out ( ignorance1 b t lov]s w1 be=e !y m>ry1 und]/& :at ea* expects1 :at ea* desires to give1 & at lea/ />t fair4 ,?is is no less important ) reg>d to o!r matt]s 9 :i* m>riages are (t5 wreck$4 ,surely p :o propose to sp5d _! lives toge!r ought to "k 7= example7 :e!r *ildr5 are desir$ & :e!r _m or few2 & :at ! attitude ( ei!r is on ! vex$ subject ( bir? control4 ,imag9e ! case ( a husb& :o ?9ks ! use ( contraceptives "r & wi%es to use !m2 & a wife :o ?9ks !m absolutely wrong &1 be+ w>n$ by ! doctor t %e mu/ n h m *ildr51 *e]fully1 & ) p]fect conviction t %e is act+ nobly1 invites h] husb& to run ! risk ( caus+ h] dea?6 ,yet ,i h kn[n su* cases4 ,i d n ent] into ! "q ( bir? control1 because x has be5 & is be+ discuss$ mu* m freely ?an 9 ! pa/1 & by m>ri$ p :o are mu* bett] able to e/imate ! difficulties & advantages on ei!r side ( ! "q ?an any unm>ri$ p]son c possibly be4 ,s9ce1 h[ev]1 ,i am cont9ually ask$ at lea/ to give my p]sonal op9ion1 = :at x is wor?1 & s9ce x is true t ,i h he>d a good deal 7on bo? sides7 f ^? :o are m>ri$1 ,i w say briefly t x seems to me ( supreme importance 7#a7 t e *ild t is born %\ld be desir$1 & 7#b7 t no "m's "t & /r5g? %\ld be s f> ov]tax$ z to prev5t h] giv+ to ea* *ild all ! love & individual c>e t x requires4 ,?is necessitates control ( ! bir?-rate1 = a baby e ye> means a too-hurri$ empty+ ( ! "m's arms4 ,b ,i disagree--v diffid5tly--) ! majority ( my fri5ds & acqua9tances :o hold t ! "r & be/ me?od is ! use ( contraceptives4 ,i d n ?9k x ! be/2 ,i d n ?9k x ideal4 ,unlike "s au?orities :o mu/ be he>d ) respect1 ,i c say ) confid5ce t "s ( ! noble/1 happie/ & mo/ romantic m>riages ,i "k base _! control ( conception n on contraceptives b on ab/95ce4 ,!y are n prigs1 !y are n asexual1 !y d n drift ap>t1 & !y h no h>% criticism to make on ^? :o h decid$ o!rwise4 ,^! are facts1 & x is useless to ignore !m4 ,on ! o!r h&1 x is equally true t sometimes su* an attempt at self-control leads to n]v\s /ra91 irritability & ali5ation4 ,^! also are facts4 ,p]sonally1 ,i w\ld submit m>ital relations to ! two te/s ,i h propos$1 & add t we h succe$$ 9 ov]sex+ ourselves to an ext5t :i* _c be ignor$2 t we h repress$ till we are obsess$2 & t1 be=e we "r ourselves1 we %all h to make _m exp]im5ts1 try _m roads1 & suff] _m ?+s4 ,x is !n above all necess>y t we be v g5tle to "o ano!r & ev5 a little pati5t ) ourselves4 ,i conceive x mu* bett] to use contraceptives ?an to be> unwant$ *ildr52 ,i conceive x also bett] to use !m ?an to be cruel to o!rs or become neurotic oneself2 b t x is ! ideal ,i d n believe4 ,,xi ,,common-,,s5se ,,& ,,divorce ,,law ,,re=m ,^? :om ,god ha? jo9$ toge!r let no man put asund]4 ,9 view ( :at ,i h said,i ab\t our m>riage & divorce laws1 sev]al p h ask$ :at ,i %\ld actually propose 9 ! way ( re=m1 & ,i am glad to take ! opportunity ( a new edition briefly to answ] ?is "q4 ,footnote ,i3 ,see ,*apt] ,v4 ,i d n wi% to see re=m take ! l9e ( a long] li/ ( causes = divorce1 su*1 = example1 z drunk5ness1 insanity1 imprisonm5t = life1 & s on4 ,i %\ld pref] to aboli% ^! li/s altoge!r1 & to br+ all divorce cases "u "s =m ( equitable jurisdiction1 ea* case be+ decid$ on its m]its4 ,x %\ld be ! bus9ess ( ! c\rt to decide :e!r ! m>riage desir$ to be invalidat$ has 9 actual fact any validity or reality at all2 & to decl>e ! c\ple divorc$ if x has n4 ,9 su* c\rts m5 & wom5 7or a man & a woman7 %\ld act toge!r z judges4 ,x w be urg$ t to decide su* a "q is beyond ! p[] ( any human judgm5t2 b ,i submit t 9 fact su* decisions are be+ giv5 e day4 ,a judge :o grants a judicial sep>ation is decid+ t a m>riage has ceas$ to be real or valid1 & he divorces ! c\ple a m5sa et ?oro1 ?\gh leav+ !m )\t ! p[] to m>ry aga94 ,he actually puts !m asund] m rigidly ?an a divorc$ c\ple4 ,s9ce ?is is possible1 x _c be impossible = him to decide t ! m>riage mu/ be :olly dissolv$1 ) fre$om ( re-m>riage to o!r p>tn]s2 ?\gh su* a decision1 be+ ev5 m grave1 %\ld n be rea*$ )\t c]ta9 safegu>ds4 ,^! safegu>ds %\ld include t tea*+ ab\t m>riage on :i* ,i h insi/$ ?r\gh\t ! :ole ( ?is book4 ,"y p %\ld "k :at sex is & involves3 :at m>riage is3 h[ necess>y to ! welf>e ( ! race1 _! *ildr5 & !mselves are fidelity & love4 ,!y %\ld "k t unless !y believe t _! love is inde$ = life !y ought n to m>ry4 ,!y %\ld und]/& t to fail "h is to fail mo/ tragically4 ,if1 nev]!less1 a man & woman believe t _! m>riage is a complete & hopeless failure1 _! claim to be releas$ f x %\ld n be grant$ 9 ha/e4 ,a p]iod ( ye>s %\ld 9 any case elapse be=e divorce c be obta9$1 & e ef=t %\ld be us$ to reconcile ! two1 to remove any removable cause ( difficulty1 to conv9ce !m ( ! possibility ( mak+ good1 by loyalty1 unselfi%ness & a deep s5se ( responsibility1 ev5 an incomplete & desecrat$ bond4 ,if1 h[ev]1 x is cle> t = no wor?y consid]ation c !y be induc$ to take up aga9 ! duties & responsibilities ( m>riage--if !y rema9 immovably & rationally conv9c$ t _! m>riage is n a real m>riage--!y %\ld be releas$4 ,& ?is because x is n moral b immoral1 n ,*ri/ian1 b un,christian1 to pret5d t a m>riage is real & sacr$ :5 x is n4 ,if !re is "o quality m /rik+ ?an ano!r 9 ! tea*+ ( ,*ri/1 x is ,8 emphasis on reality4 ,x is 9 ?is t ! height & dep? ( ,8 morality /& reveal$4 ,we d no s]vice--we d a pr(\nd dis-s]vice--to morals :5 we admit t a m>riage is s utt]ly devoid ( reality t ! be/ ?+ we c d = a m>ri$ c\ple is to sep>ate !m f ea* o!r altoge!r--set !m ap>t--free !m f ea* o!r's rights--break up _! home--& yet ma9ta9 ! legal lie t !y are /ill a m>ri$ c\ple4 ,x w be ask$ h[ ! int]e/s ( ! *ildr5 c be safegu>d$4 ,! int]e/s ( *ildr5 are be/ safegu>d$ by ! education & enlight5m5t ( p>5ts4 ,!y _c be :olly sav$ if1 aft] all1 _! p>5ts h ceas$ to love or respect "o ano!r1 = no?+ ! law c d w make up to !m = t :i* is e *ild's "r--a home rul$ by love & full ( happ9ess4 ,! be/ t c !n be done is to rescue !m f ! mis]y ( a home full ( unhapp9ess & hatr$1 & to assign !m to ! p>5t :o1 9 ! judgm5t ( ! c\rt1 is be/ fitt$ to c>e = !m4 ,let me add t1 :ile ,i hold t ! p]si/5t & unconqu]able conviction ( two p t !y ought to be divorc$ ought ultimately to entitle !m to x1 ?is %\ld n be ! case if "o only ( two m>ri$ p seeks release4 ,9 ?is case1 ! decision %\ld be entirely ) ! c\rt4 ,to ^? :o feel t n only our ,"l's words b also ! int]pretation put ^u ^? words by ! ,*ur* is ( supreme importance1 ! foll[+ /atem5t w be ( int]e/3 ,x is q arguable t relief may be grant$ on ! gr\nds t :at is impossible _c be done4 ,x may be %[n on ! "o h& t to su* & su* a p]son x is morally impossible to live ) su* & su* ano!r p]son1 & on ! o!r h& t x is morally impossible to live )\t m>riage4 ,9 su* in/ances !re is room = ! ex]cise ( our 'disp5sation f ! imp$im5t ( ! legam5' 7bond74 ,?is is ! practice ( ! ,ea/]n ,*ur*1 :i* all[s ! innoc5t p>ty to re-m>ry1 & also grants relief 9 cases ( incurable insanity4 ,) reg>d to ! ,we/]n ,*ur*1 ,divorce & subsequ5t re-m>riage 9 pre-,re=mation days 7 only all[$ on gr\nds exi/+ be=e ! contract 0 ent]$ into4 7,!re seems good reason = ! belief t our ,"l's words z record$ by ,/4 ,mat!w ref] to pr5uptial un*a/ity47 ,b 9 spite ( ?is app>5tly n>r[ re/riction !re 7 f\rte5 gr\nds on :i* a m>riage c\ld be decl>$ null & void be=e ! ,re=mation1 & x 0 con/antly be+ done4 ,canoni/s & ,!ologians taught t ! full & free cons5t ( p>ties 0 ess5tial to m>riage--:i* tea*+ obvi\sly w\ld enable a v wide view ( ! subject to be tak54,j ,footnote ,j3 ,f a ,memor&um on ,divorce1 publi%$ 9 ,! ,*all5ge1 ,july #e1 #aiah4